{"id": "t3_1kaygl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband's [34M] best friend [32M] just died and I [31F] don't know how I can help him grieve. [9 years]", "post": "Edit: We also have a beautiful son who's 4 years old.  The 9 years refers to the duration of our marriage.  My husband's friend passed away 2 weeks ago.\n\nThe title says it all.  My husband and his best friend, Alex (fake name), were extremely close.  Unfortunately, I didn't have the best relationship with him.  I thought Alex was obnoxious and immature and I told this to my husband multiple times.  Now that Alex has passed, I don't know how I can help my husband grieve.  He knows I didn't like Alex very much (I  have a jealously issue).  Despite my disapproval of Alex's personality, I did appreciate the happiness Alex brought my husband.  \n\nOur son is upset too, although he doesn't entirely understand what's going on.  My husband has closed himself off and has missed 2 bedtime comic book readings.  I've tried to explain to our son that his dad is going through a really tough time but he still has a very basic grasp of what death is.  I know my husband loves his family more than anything in the world and he was upset with himself for disappointing our son twice but he just seems so solemn and grim all the time.\n\nHow can I help him?", "summary": "Husband's best friend died. I openly didn't like this friend. How do I help him grieve?"}
{"id": "t3_2eh6n7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV] I guess...?", "post": "So I've been really good for 2 weeks or so, eating clean, tracking calories, c25k and yoga. Yesterday I had a Chipotle burrito bowl heavy on the veggies, light on the rice and cheese. A little treat but not too crazy. This morning I was unbelievably sick and finally evacuated some tension in the tummy far too many times and was sent home from work.\n\nAfter a nap and some tums, I stepped on the scale for shits and giggles and I'm down to 160 after hovering at 165 all week. I'm sure that most of that 5lbs is water and probably bits of my dignity that I expelled while avoiding eye contact with my coworkers, but I'll take it.", "summary": "after a shitty day and no scale movement all week, I'm down 5lbs and need a new butt."}
{"id": "t3_r3rev", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mother is going to kick me out of the house if I do not participate in going to church", "post": "All right reddit got a situation here that I need some advise on. I recently moved back in with my mom and step dad because my lease ran up on my apartment. I am moving to Minnesota in a couple of months and figured this is a good way to not only save money but to spend some much needed time with my family. We discussed rules and whatnot (the basics: clean up after yourself, be respectful of other peoples stuff, ect.) keep in mind that I'm a 26 year old male who has been out on my since 18. So a long time. Well after I get cozy and all settled in she ask me do I want to go to church with her. And I'm like no (haven't been to church in years, don't like organized religion) so she discusses it with my step dad and they say house rule is you gotta go to church once a week. Period. So I figure no big deal, rules are rules, right? Well little do I know it's a great big church with cameras recording and probably over 1,000 members. I'm already uncomfortable in this whole situation because I don't feel it necessary to worship or listen to a pastor talk about something/someone that I don't believe in. During all his sermons I can breakdown everything he is saying into \"this is all BullShit!\" anyways I digress, here is where it gets frustrating she makes me sit with her and if I'm not standing, or lifting my hands, or singing, or listing to the pastor intently she makes me go to another service so \"that God can heal me\" The atmosphere of the house is unbalanced because I feel as if she is trying to force her religion on me when clearly its not wanted. So Reddit is this torment worth it for another 90 days or do I try and go somewhere else (not a whole lot of other options) \nP.S. My mother is one of the greatest people in the world. She just is too enthralled with her damn religion to realize this is torture for me.", "summary": "my mom is forcing me to believe in her religion or she is going to kick me out of the house."}
{"id": "t3_1wbdsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my friend [19 M], not sure if I may have messed things up already.", "post": "Hello hello everybody. I hope this isn't too trivial of a question to ask on here, but I've been feeling a bit out of my depth when it comes to this situation (I've had only one relationship before, and for many reasons, it was out of the ordinary).\n\nOkay! So, a couple of weeks ago, I started talking to this guy on Facebook, through a student group that we were both part of. I thought he was sort of cute, so I sent him a PM just to talk, etc, etc. We're both transfer students at the same school, so I knew that we could eventually meet in person once we both moved on-campus. So, we did, and we hung out maybe twice, just as friends.\n\nOkay. So, everything is going pretty well. We talk over Facebook and Snapchat, whatever. So, Saturday night, I was just hanging out with people and kind of being bored, when I got a Snapchat from him asking what I was doing. I asked if he wanted to hang out, so we did. \n\nWe ended up smoking pot (the first time for me, ever), and sort of just wandering around. Eventually we ended up back at his dorm room, where high me decided to just go for it, and I came on to him pretty strongly. It worked out for me (luckily, otherwise things would have been really super awkward), and we ended up messing around but not having sex.\n\nYesterday, however, I ended up going to hang out with him again, and this time we did sleep together. Afterward, we kind of discussed what we were going to do, and he just said that he wanted to \"play it by ear\" and not slap any labels on anything. I'm wondering if this means that he wants a fwb-type situation, or if he might actually be interested in me. The way I've been acting is extremely out of character for me, and I am not interested in having a fuck buddy. I like him, and I would be very interested in maybe seeing where things go, but I'm worried that I may have ruined my chances of a relationship by sleeping with him already.", "summary": "I really like this guy, but after having sex with him after only knowing him for a very brief period of time, I am worried that I may have ruined my chances of a relationship with him."}
{"id": "t3_4sdnjx", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My 11 year old sons friend died suddenly, his funeral is today and my son suddenly doesn't want to attend.", "post": "**repost from relationships**\n\nA couple of weeks ago my sons friend died in a freak accident, it was completely shocking and horrific. He isn't aware of the details, but we broke the news to him as soon as we found out and have spoke about it many times with him.\n\nHe has cried about it, asked questions and spoken about it with his older siblings (who have also recently lost a friend) and seemed to be okay with it (considering the circumstances).\n\nLeading up to the funeral, we have talked about it and explained what he is to expect, etc. This is his first funeral, so we have made sure that he is aware of everything.\n\nBut today is the day, and he has broken down in the morning and says he doesn't want to go. I have no idea what to do. Do I push him to go? I am worried that he will regret it later, as he is a kid who doesn't like to do new things. But at the same time, I don't want to pressure him to do something he doesn't want to do.\nAdvice, please?", "summary": "Sons good friend died and his funeral is today. Son was always wanting to go until today. Do I push him to go, or let him skip it?"}
{"id": "t3_2g42p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [26 F] I [22 M] have been seeing for a month didn't respond to me at all yesterday while hanging out with a friend [~30? M].", "post": "She gets terrible service while at her house, but I texted her 3 times yesterday, 4-5 hours apart. She didn't call me until early this morning and left a voicemail that she was busy all day with a friend who showed up out of the blue.\n\nI saw that she posted a picture of the two of them out of her dead zone house on facebook before I texted her the last time.\n\nI don't mind that she hangs out with friends, and I know it's pretty early in the relationship, but am I wrong to be a little annoyed that she didn't respond until 24 hours after my first text?", "summary": "Girl I'm seeing didn't respond to my texts while hanging out with a friend, what should I do, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_4oyv23", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently kicking an old woman", "post": "So this didn't happen today but actually about a year or two ago.\n\nI was at my granddads funeral so of course it was all very sad and full of lots of crying old people. After the ceremony everyone walks outside the building and onto the other side of the small road the hearses drive down. Now the road is important because obviously if there's a road, there's a curb onto the sidewalk, so most of us are on the other side of the road, besides a few older people walking a lot slower. \n\nAs one of the old woman goes to walk up the curb she trips (obviously didn't notice there was one due to crying and whatnot) and I'm the only one who not only sees it coming but is in any position to do anything. So of course as someone who is an avid football (soccer if you're American) player my first instinct is to stick my foot out and kind of control her head like you would with a football.\n\nOf course you can imagine this looked horrendously bad on my part (quite literally kicking an old woman while she's down) and as she got up everyone noticed that her nose was completely grey/black as if she'd just been punched in the face. She assures us she's fine and we go to the dinner afterwards where someone finally informs her of her bruising. She goes to the toilet and comes out with a completely normal looking nose so of course everyone's wondering how and it turns out that the \"bruising\" was actually shoe polish from my shoe, confirming to everyone that i kicked this poor old lady square in the face as she fell.", "summary": "Tried to stop an old lady falling, kicked her in the face, made her look like she'd been 3 rounds with Mike Tyson"}
{"id": "t3_ikmk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most embarrassing thing to ever happen to you after taking a shit?", "post": "I lived with 3 other insane (like bitchy naggy crazy insane) women in NYC for a short period of time. Before I lived with these women, I was unaware of such a thing as \"poop etiquette\". I had grown up in a house where it was considered wrong to waste water, and pooping was not embarrassing. Indeed, my family's house is full of poop streaks on the toilets. \n\nSo one day, in NYC, I take a poop and I flush and I spray and I leave. Next thing I know, I here my roommate start screaming and crying. She bursts into tears and turns into the hulk. She starts banging shit around and pounding the walls. \"Who the FUCK left their shit in the toilet?!\" \n\nI always flush and it couldn't have been more than a small poop streak. My roommate starts scrubbing the toilet for hours. Meanwhile, I'm scared shitless in my room. Lesson learned. Never ever leave poop streaks.\n\n(Why are people so fucking grossed out by poop streaks anyway? It's not like you didn't flush.) Also, if you hate people because you hate a little poop streak, you make life a little more miserable for everyone.", "summary": "Never ever leave poop streaks for your abusive raving lunatic roommate to find."}
{"id": "t3_2u6e8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32 M] found out my wife [31 F] had an affair a year and a half ago, now I can't stop thinking about other women.", "post": "Wife and I moved accross the country with our two daughters <our dream.  \n\nWe settle in, happy, rosey veiws, living the dream or so I though.  6mo later she sleeps with a co-worker. I find out about it four months later on my birthday. Shit hits the fan at home and work - she and d-bag are fired. Did I mention she work for a Christian organization?\n\nFast forward 18 months - today. I don't have a marrage - rather - a roomate who's the mother of my children.  She's too fragile to say I want out, but I want out.\n\nDo I pursue an \"affair\" or just flip the world upside down my kids and leave?", "summary": "Wife Cheats on me but I stuck around for kids.  I want out - do I have an affair or break it off and ruin my kids world?"}
{"id": "t3_2alkvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 8 months, I messed up last night.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months.  We both met as students at the same University, but she graduated from grad school this year.  She has been having a rough time because most of her friends have moved away.  I have been trying to be supportive, but it has definitely made things more distant; however, we both recognize this distance and decided we wanted to work on it.  \n\nShe went away for the weekend to visit friends in Maine, but came back late last night.  Last night was also the first night that I decided to go out and party with my own friends.  The whole day yesterday I had been feeling the distance between us, and felt like she was purposefully being closed off.  So I decided I was going to get hammered.\n\nI don't remember much of the night after a certain point, but I do know that i walked someone home and kissed them, before immediately leaving (not like that makes it any better).  My dilemma is, do I tell her or not?  I am extremely committed to her, and feel like last night was a culmination of frustrations and alcohol that I can barely even remember.  But I am afraid even if I don't tell her, she will find out (because people talk).  It's not necessarily likely that she will find out, but it is possible. \n\nMy rationalization for not telling her is that she has been cheated on before (as have I), and I don't want to hurt her again.  It was only a kiss, and I have no intention of pursuing anything any further with that girl.\n\nReddit, how do I fix this?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have been distant recently.  Got really drunk last night and kissed a girl, then left.  Have no intention of cheating and want to maintain my relationship, because I love my girlfriend.  Should I tell her or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2my93z", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "These are some side-by-side bread baking experiments I did some time ago, seeing whether protein/yeast/water quantities make a difference with no-knead bread", "post": "I did these about a year and a half ago and had forgotten them until someone jogged my memory in /r/52weeksofcooking where I posted them as a reference. I thought people on here might find them interesting.\n\n[Side-by-side bread baking experiment 1: hydration]  \n[Side-by-side bread baking experiment 2: yeast]  \n[Side-by-side bread baking experiment 3: protein](\n\nThey are not perfect experiments as one loaf had to wait for the other to finish in the oven each time, so proofed about an hour longer. But still, I thought the results were useful and interesting.  I also did one with salt vs no salt but there was absolutely zero perceivable difference at all stages, so I didn't post the photos.\n\nThe overall takeout/", "summary": "is that no knead bread is pretty forgiving and you can do what you want with it pretty much."}
{"id": "t3_aj2rk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I've got a new problem.", "post": "Background: I'm 15, have a girlfriend who's 16 (we'll call her Amy), and she has a best friend who's also 16 (she can be called Jenna).\n\nThe problem: This kid, my age, Brandon, is completely obsessed with Jenna. He called multiple other people, texted everyone, and even called Jenna's house for to get her cell phone number. Somehow he got Amy's number also as he texts her twice a day on top of his 4-5 times a day for Jenna. Neither of them reply or want him to try to contact them yet he keeps on keeping on.\nWhat do I do? How can I get a message across that neither Amy nor Jenna want anything to do with him? I've tried texting him without him knowing its me as well as just simply telling him neither want him to no avail.", "summary": "15 year old is continually texting my 16 year old girlfriend and her best friend. Help please."}
{"id": "t3_ptn1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need wedding Advice reddit about inviting my dad's ex-wife...", "post": "Here's the story. My dad had two children with his first marriage and then their mother left them when the children were 2 and 3. There was a lot of family strife over this. (she eventually came back later in life)\n\nMy dad remarried and had me with his new wife. Let me say this, I love my half (although i don't see them this way, i feel we're one) brother and sister very much. i grew up with them despite the 12 and 13 year age difference. Now I'm in my late 20's and I'm getting married and it's coming down to who I should invite to the wedding...\n\nhere's where it gets complicated.\n\nThere's a lot of strife with my dad's first wife. My mother (my dad's second wife) never liked her. It's very understandable considering the circumstances she left my brother and sister. \n\nFor a while my brother and sister had trouble getting to know their mom again but things have been reconciled. \n\nMy dad and my mother still held a grudge. (Reddit i want to go into details but have to be vague)\n\nI was very close with my mother and we talked all the time when we could. I knew she never appreciated my dad's first wife. Now this wasn't simply because of superficial reasons but because of the way my dad's first wife left him with 2 young kids. My mom could never understand that and never forgave her.\n\nSo much so that one of her last requests to me (she passed away recently) was \"don't invite your dad's first wife to your wedding, please do that for me\". I agreed..\n\nI'm torn\n\nI personally don't have anything against my dad's first wife but I know her leaving my brother and sister at such a young age has really hurt the family, even my dead grandfather was upset.\n\nSo Reddit, my question is, Do i invite her to the wedding and betray my dead mother's wishes despite my own feelings? Or suck it up and let it pass. If i don't invite her I know my brother and sister might be upset.", "summary": "should i invite my dad's ex-wife to my wedding?"}
{"id": "t3_vk2k4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you witnessed a full on fight in the office?", "post": "I've always thought that few things would amuse me more than seeing two co-workers fighting tooth and nail in the workplace.\n\nI'm thinking monitors being flung, people leaping over desks, phones and stationary being used as weapons, maybe a fire extinguisher being used? Any degree of nudity would simply take it to the next level.\n\nIt would amuse me even more if this started over something and nothing - somebody using the wrong sized post-it note, too many sugars in the coffee, one messy sneeze too many.\n\nClearly I'm not talking death here, just something that amuses me and I've which never witnessed!\n\nReddit - this must go on, you must have witnessed something - no matter how brief! Please describe what you have seen: a video clip, photo or even a drawing in MS Paint would help!!!", "summary": "Tell me about an office fight you witnessed, pics or it didn't happen."}
{"id": "t3_42jr6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother strongly disapproves of my (23M) relationship with this girl (18F) and I don't know what to do", "post": "I've been talking to this girl (Sara) for about a month now, and I'm surprised how quickly we've grown to know and like each other. Sara has met my mom on a few occasions which has given my mom the opportunity to get to know her a little bit. My mother has told me that she doesn't like Sara's family because they are \"uneducated\" and are associated with \"bad\" people. My mother has not taken the chance to know her family yet at all, but she says she can already see what type of people they are.\n\nIt's important to mention that we're both Asian. My mother is very traditional and she believes that I should only date Asian girls with good families. She has forbidden me from talking to Sara because she doesn't want me to be affiliated with those types of people, which I believe is ridiculous. Apparently, if I don't end what I have with Sara, my mom has threatened to call Sara's parents herself to tell them that we can't date, which shows just how serious my mom is about this. My mom has called me screaming at me about this issue and it's making me sad that things aren't working out well. She claims she is only doing this to \"help\" me for my future.\n\nOn the other hand, Sara's family and parents are the exact opposite of my mother. They are more light-hearted and are not as strict as she is, and seem to be a lot more open-minded in every sense of the word. I don't believe this makes their children ill-mannered and uneducated, which my mom believes to be the case. \n\nI don't know what to do. I really like this girl and I haven't had feelings for someone like this in a while. However, I don't want to strain my relationship with my mom.", "summary": "My mother wants to forbid me from talking to this girl because of her family background. I can see where my mom is coming from but I don't completely agree with her traditional views. Should I continue to live my own life while straining my relationship with my mother or let my mother \"help me\""}
{"id": "t3_3diy5w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Caffeine addiction. Anyone taking vitamins or supplements with caffeine?", "post": "I have a horrible caffeine addiction, and I don't like sacrificing any of my daily calories for coffee. I used to drink 5-6 Diet Dr. Peppers a day, but I have switched to almost exclusively drinking only water most days. I do have a Diet Dr. Pepper occasionally, and I know that technically it's okay to probably have one a day, but I honestly just feel better all around when I drink only water. But if I don't have some caffeine in the morning, I will be writhing in the floor in pain with a skull-pounding headache by mid-day. I know. Ridiculous, right? \n\nSo, I went to the vitamin aisle the other day in search of a supplement with a little caffeine and the only thing I found was One A Day Adult Vitacraves Gummies with Energy Support. Here's the website with [nutritional info] One serving is 20 calories and has 90 mg of caffeine. There's also some vitamin B6, B12, and folic acid in there that supposedly helps turn food into energy. I have no idea if that's true. I've been taking them a couple days, and so far I do feel more energized and I haven't had any headaches. The issue is that one bottle is around $9 and there are only 60 in a bottle. You have to take 4 (4!) a day, which is very intriguing considering the brand name and all. So it'll cost me around $20 a month. Which is admittedly cheaper than what I used to spend on Diet Dr. Peppers, but still. I was just curious if anyone else had a better option for caffeine in a supplement or vitamin?", "summary": "The vitamin with caffeine I'm taking is on the expensive side, and I'm a self-proclaimed tightwad. Anyone have better options?"}
{"id": "t3_4o3ox3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a banana.", "post": "So, this actually happened yesterday. I am currently studying abroad in a tropical country. As a result, the selection of locally grown fruit is phenomenal. Now, I'm not usually one for bananas, but I keeping hearing they are much more flavorful here, so I decided I'd give it a go and bought a small bunch from the local market. Yesterday morning, I decided I'd have one for breakfast along with my usual corn flakes. After I wash it down with coffee, I immediately start feeling like crap, but one of my roommates had a stomach bug over the weekend, so I just automatically assume that I must have contracted said bug and rush off to my four hour class. Four hours of hell, that is. As soon as I sit down, my nose becomes a waterfall with off and on sneezing fits. Next, cue the most god awful indigestion and acid reflux I have ever experienced. I keep telling myself that I only have to make it to 1 o' clock, then I can just go to bed. Easier said than done, but I finally get home and find little success in napping. Once I get up, I discover that I have a nice little rash starting in each armpit, which I chalk up to having switched deodorants just that morning. Finish off a bottle of Maalox with some advil and commenced sleep attempt number two. I wake up a little more clear headed this time and begin to assess my situation. The rash is now worse and I start wondering, what if the deodorant didn't cause the rash? Is there a single thing that could possibly explain all of my symptoms? I started to ask myself out loud, \"Did I eat anything today that I don't usually..... oh, shit.\" In an instant my fingers were flying on Google to search \"banana allergy\" only to find a multitude of symptom lists that pretty much specifically described my day of hell. By this time, my face had even started to swell a bit, but now knowing what I  was up against, I bought some benedryl, had a couple of beers and went back to sleep. Woke up this morning feeling much better, and unlike Pam Poovey, I will not continue to stuff my face with foods I know I am allergic to. No more bananas. Ever.", "summary": "I don't usually eat bananas, but decided to have one for breakfast since I'm studying abroad in a tropical country and the bananas are supposedly better here, unaware that I am apparently highly allergic. Paid an accordingly hefty price."}
{"id": "t3_4dt94e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] have been dating my bf [16M] for 2 years and have not done anything sexually yet, is this alright?", "post": "Hi guy's I just need some advice to calm my nerves. \n\nSo I have been dating this guy for 2 years since we were the age of 14. The most we have done is make out and cuddle, that's it nothing more. \n\nWe are only 16 and I was wondering is it a bad thing we have not done anything sexually for the 2 years we have been dating? because you hear of people taking it slow, but are we going to slow?\n\nI have not spoken to him about this, but I just need an outside opinion on this before I do. Because I don't want to mess this up, I really love this guy", "summary": "Have been dating my Bf since the age of 14, we have not done anything except make out and cuddle. Is this alright or does it hurt the relationship long term?"}
{"id": "t3_1kmazk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Tailgate me on the highway? Welcome to the back of the line.", "post": "So there was I was today on I90 in the northern United States. It's somewhat busy this afternoon, so there is some traffic. \n\nI am in the left lane, going about 5 under, leaving a good distance between the car in front of me, and with a tractor trailer to the right of me. I am passing the truck excruciatingly slowly because the left lane isn't going much faster than the right, due to the long line of cars in front of me.\n\nEnter the blue Honda. This person drives right up to my bumper, and proceeds to make irritated \"hurry up\" gestures at me. He proceeds to tailgate me for about 10 minutes when suddenly, there is enough room for him to jump in the right lane and attempt to pass me. \n\nNow, about 100 feet ahead of him in the right lane is another tractor trailer, and there is a pretty solid line of cars in the left lane, with the biggest gap being my lead off that I gave the car in front of me. \n\nI then proceed to eat that up and remain close so that the blue Honda can't cut in front of me. This means that the blue Honda can't get back in the left lane, because now  another large truck/van thing has come up fairly close behind me. \n\nAfter the truck passed the blue car, which is still in the right lane, he pulls up parallel to the tractor trailer. Then begins the hill. So for the next two or so miles, there are two very large, very slow vehicles blocking both lanes. \n\nThat blue Car had to wait at least 10 minutes before they got back in the left lane, and it took another 15 minutes for him to finally pass me on the left when the traffic thinned out. \n\nAs soon as I saw that car again, I couldn't stop laughing at how pissed off he looked when he glared at me as he passed me.", "summary": "Don't tailgate someone or get stuck behind two trucks on a hill for an extended amount of time."}
{"id": "t3_g5m8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I'm a Filmmaker and Musician in New York City, and am trying to raise funds for my debut feature-length film.  Please help spread the word.", "post": "I feel bad in times like these with the awful devastation in Japan and elsewhere to be groveling for extra donations, but I do feel strongly that art and expression of emotion and thought is terribly necessary in tough times.  That being said, I've been working as a touring musician, video editor in Television and various jobs in film production for the past half-decade.  I've written 4 feature screenplays, and am finally taking the plunge to direct and shoot my first feature.  The aim is for the winter festival market 2011/2012.  Film is already cast.  Just need to try to raise the necessary funds to complete our budget!  Please help spread the word if you can!  Any help is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I'm finally shooting my first film, looking for financial help!"}
{"id": "t3_271d4b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting into a Costco bag inside my dad's car.", "post": "My parents were going somewhere and told me they could drop me off at a station near where I was supposed to go. Figuring I'd get to my destination quicker that way, I accepted their offer. The thing is, I had one of those busy mornings where I didn't have enough time to shit before I left and apparently there was a massive traffic jam on the highway we were supposed to pass. At the time of leaving the house I felt fine but about 15 mins in, I got this MASSIVE urge to shit like I've never felt before. I did eat about 4 meals a day before so that might have made it worse.\n\nI told my parents about my urgent need to empty my bowls but the highway was fucking packed so they couldn't really do anything. I even considered getting out and shitting on those small side lanes where cars aren't allowed but couldn't stand the thought of being watched. So I quickly grabbed the Costco bag , told my parents, pulled my pants down, behind the driver's seat and chucked a massive shit into the Costco bag. My parents' reactions were a mixture of what the fuck?, Did he really just shit inside a car?, Roflmao, and -_-. \n\nLuckily Costco bags actually hold liquid inside the bag so the shit didn't leak onto the car. It Turns out it's pretty durable. After I was done, I folded the bag carefully, put the bag inside another paper bag and threw it inside the first trash can I found on the street.", "summary": "I pooped inside my parents' car into a Costco bag. I'm over 20 years old. "}
{"id": "t3_2azcjg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by letting her roll on down", "post": "Not today but like 5 years ago.\nSo my family lived in a rented house so we had lots of neighbors but the one I remember the most was adrien. Now adrien was about 3 years younger than me and I was like 9 so he was young and stupid. One day when we were bored we decided it would be a good idea to use his sisters plastic trike to ride down the big hill next to his house. It was fun but then we both wanted to go down. Eventually we rounded up all the toys he had that had wheels in one big pile. But the day was over so we I went home. The next day one of his moms friends came over and she had like 4 kids. So of course we all decided that we would have a race down the hill. It work like twice but then his sister wanted to go, but we were out of cars. We found a skate board and one of those plastic bin that are used for storage and put the bin on the skate board so you get the point. This is were I fucked up we all started to go down the hill at the same time but 1/16 the way down his sister turns around and starts yelling that she does'nt want to do it. But I was the only one to hear her because I was 2 feet behind her. So I stopped and stopped my friend to. To tell him that she does'nt want to go down. Instead of stopping her. So she continues all the way down the hill and hits a log she just goes flying in the air and im just like fuck man. So I ran home. I thought I killed her so I did'nt want to get arrested for murder. The next day his mom comes over to inform my mom that she had gone in a coma because they could'nt get to her faster. They were pissed and moved out the next week. Theres's another stories about them moving out but that's for another day.", "summary": "let my friends sister roll right into a coma."}
{"id": "t3_h9rgy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! I need a crash course in microfinance and business!", "post": "I am taking some business courses on a field study trip in Africa, and this is my first real foray into business. I made that clear in my application, but was accepted in spite of that.\n\nHowever, one of the profs is doing some work in a village we are visiting and wants to know what I would think about this microfinance project that he is trying to implement. I have done some extra-curricular reading on microfinance and business, but nothing extensive. The whole purpose of taking these courses was for me to gain knowledge on an academic level.  I'm now worried I am lacking certain background knowledge to speak vaguely intelligently on the topic, especially on an applied project. Could someone give me a crash course on basic principles of microfinance or business generally? Or maybe point me to some resources where I could get a more thorough grasp of them?", "summary": "I need to speak intelligently about microfinance to impress my professor."}
{"id": "t3_k3tww", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My fellow redditors! Within reason.. turn your ridiculous ideas into porn!", "post": "Soo there isn't a question in the headline.. How about.. Reddit, what kind of porn would you make if you could?\n\nBe respectful. I may be a whore, but I'm a human being above all else!\n\nI am in the process of developing a website for my alter ego porn star. \n\nI've decided that aside from all the normal boring porn stuff that I want really memorable pornos. Full length movies or short clips.\n\nSo far we are having a scenario where I am dared to suck off a corpse in a morgue.\n\nI'm also going to fuck every super hero to which a costume is available and I am particularly excited about that!\n\nGiant mud pit. Need I say more?\n\nSadly, unicorn porn was already made...\n\nSo, in this vast pool of insane and colorful minds that is reddit.. I ask you to share with me elaborate or not so elaborate ideas for porn. They don't all have to be silly, some things you legitimately might want to see and never do or never see enough of it.\n\nIn all seriousness your idea could get turned into the real thing and if it does I will send you a free copy of the production so you can show your friends!", "summary": "If you can think of a good idea(retarded OR reasonable) for a film on my site and we film it, you will get a free DVD copy."}
{"id": "t3_4bqji4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] questioning if I should ask out my friend [17F]", "post": "Ok so perhaps this isn't the most dramatic thing you have seen on this subreddit but I feel like I'm stuck.\n\nI have been friends with this girl for a while now asking her and things were going great until I asked her to prom. I am hoping this will be a great night however ever since I asked her a couple weeks ago I find I can no longer talk to her. Out conversations are awkward with me trying to start the majority of topics (Badly written but you get the picture)\n\nI really like the girl but i'm wondering if she saw too much into the prom-posal. Should I just give up, or ask her out? Im not sure", "summary": "Asked a girl (Friend) I like to prom and now our interactions are awkward. To ask her out or not to ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_3gya6l", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Holding up the wall", "post": "Today I took apart cubicles at my first \"big-boy\" job. \n\nThere was a point where one of the cubicle walls was completely detached from everything, and I had to keep it from falling. \nThis is the first \"manual labor\" job I've had since I worked as a custodian at Walt Disney World. \n\nThe old custodian geezers at Disney  would always introduce the noobies to the other old geezers that are hanging out by saying \"There's Dale, just holding up the wall again.\" before chuckling a dB too loud. \nI never really understood what they were talking about, we cleaned the puke and tears of little kids whose parents only shelled out $500.00 of merchandise instead of $4 Billion, not participated in construction. \n\nFast-forward to now, having a job that is too good for me after years of being broke in my mother's apartment. I want to help in anyway I can. \n\nAs I'm grabbing this cubicle wall, my coworker asks me to hang tight for a moment while she grabs something. Another coworker walked up and asked what they had me doing. \n\n\"I'm just holding up this wall\"\n\nThey laughed and I immediately understood the joke. \nI've been casually standing there leaned against this wall, literally holding it up, like I was taking a break. \n\nAll those old geezers were jokingly calling their buddies lazy. \n\nI lit up after hearing myself say that and had a great rest of the day.", "summary": "I can't understand old geezer humor."}
{"id": "t3_f4hdo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cock blocked by a friend (Who's a girl).", "post": "So for the past week there's been this girl in one of my classes I've been talking to, she's pretty cute (dyed red hair, fair skin, a few freckles, not ginger), she loves star wars and I suspect she's a redditor.  I was going to ask her for her number today, but a girl i met about a year ago came and sat right where the red head had been sitting, effectively cock-blocking me and driving the girl I was interested in away.  Now it seems like the red head thinks I'm uninterested in her and has since found some other guy to talk to.  Has anybody been in a similar scenario?  Advice?", "summary": "Redhead in one of my classes was driven away by a girl I met a year ago, need advice on rekindling my chances with redhead."}
{"id": "t3_h2i5d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wife's \"friend\" is stealing money.  Any ideas on how to approach this?", "post": "So my wife has a friend that I will call Julie.  My wife and Julie have been friends for about 6 years if I remember correctly.  Julie is a shit friend in my opinion and I have told the wife my feelings.  When they lived together Julie would start physical fights with my wife and spat on my wife's face once.  Now when Julie comes over to our house there is a 98% chance that something will be broken and really really dirty when she leaves.\nJulie does not have any other good close friends in our town and her closest family is 5 hours away.  I am thinking that is why my wife doesn't get rid of Julie.  About 7 months ago we were all outside and Julie said that she needed to go inside to use the restroom.  As we soon outside I noticed that our bedroom light turned on, stayed on for less than a minute, and then went off.  \nLater that night after Julie left when the wife and I went inside and the wife discovered that her purse had been moved and that she was missing $20.  I looked at my stuff and my checkbook had been moved.  The only other person in our house that night was Julie and she was left alone.\nOn Saturday my wife went shopping with Julie.  Again for some reason my wife left her purse with Julie alone.  Today my wife was trying to buy gas and is now missing $30.  \nBefore Julie started to steal from us her car battery died and she called us.  Stupidly I paid for and installed a new one for her.  I still haven't been paid back for that $87.\nI am trying to figure out if it is time for me to say something to Julie or do I let the wife handle it?", "summary": "My wife's \"friend\" is a 2 faced stealing worthless bitch.  Do I say something or let the wife continue to handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_fiui5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do i tell my boss, pay me more or i leave. Without sounding a prick.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI moved to London nearly 18 months ago for this job straight out of Uni, i work as a programmer in the logistics industry. The office is really a boys club, all my age and we all get on really well (hang out, out of office hours and stuff). The boss is no different, although i don't hang with the boss he is married, kids etc... I consider him a friend, and thats my problem.\n\nI'm not getting paid very much to do what i do, I've estimated i could get 30% more for doing the same type of job elsewhere. Now I'm not a money grabbing hound but I'm finding London life expensive on my basic salary.\n\nWhat are your tips on asking for a \"give me a pay rise or i leave\" in an environment where everyone is your friend and i don't wanna seem a prick?. After all i moved here for an upwards career, not to be stuck to one job even if all the people are cool.", "summary": "Best advice for asking for a pay rise or i leave situation in an office of mates."}
{"id": "t3_52nje4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU bY brushing with Baking Soda without learning how to do it correctly.", "post": "Always wanted White Teeth but never visited the dentist since I was 8 due to fear [gotten bad experience as a kid].        \n\nSo I heard that baking soda makes your teeth white if you brush your teeth with it.        \nWhat I didn't get from all the reading, is that though it is supposed to be made into a paste, it shouldn't still be gritty.       \n\nI always kept my baking soda paste gritty by putting very little water.        \n\nAfter brushing straight with it for three months, my gum was extremely sore, but on the up side is, it is true, it is all true, I am amazed myself ! My teeth is very VERY white now compared to the past and even when taking pictures, the teeth becomes the center of attention simply because of how white it is, even my friends jokingly asked if I have painted it white.       \nThese are the images after baking soda brushing for months, understand that I have NEVER visited a dentist ever since I was 8:    \n   \n\nAs my ego grew, I forget about the irritation from the gum and keep on using it.      \nOne fine day, my gum gave up...I was brushing and I saw a nice chunk of my gum get physically brushed OUT of my teeth, I was shocked and at a lost of what I should do...I tried to piece the gum back in hoping that it would stay, suffices to say by the very next day, the gum eventually fall off.       \n\nIt is not that visible if I don't smile too big, but let this be a lesson to all of you out there, baking soda paste works, BUT PLEASE, make sure the paste is not gritty, PLEASE...don't experience this ever.", "summary": "Brush Teeth with Baking Soda without research, physical brushed my gum OUT and away from Teeth, part of Gum is gone."}
{"id": "t3_qbvgb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can't decide if a smartphone is right for me.  How did you decide?  What apps can't you live without anymore?", "post": "So, it's the year 2012, and I still use a phone that utilizes 10 number keys to input 26 characters.  It's cumbersome when people text me, which happens only about 10 times a week, I'm not a power user, that's for sure.\n\nTexting is about the only situation where I think \"man, I wish I had a smartphone right now.\"  What situations have you encountered that made you wish you had a smartphone with you?  I mean, if I didn't already have a nav-system in my car, it might be another reason to get one that can use navigation apps.\n\nSome people check their email and other social networking sites on their phones, but the only time I'm not in front of a computer is pretty much during a short commute every day.\n\nI'm thinking a blackberry with a fairly basic data/text plan will work fine for me, but am I missing out on some great things?", "summary": "Help me out by answering a few questions"}
{"id": "t3_2skmk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with [27F] was she the one that got away?", "post": "Basically this is just something that has been bugging me for a while and want to know what you guys think. I met this girl Cara when I was in college. We were both in long distance relationships throughout college so we never dated, but I flirted my dardnest with her.\n\nFast forward to graduation, I end up breaking up with my LDR and Cara moves about two hours away, gets engaged. I would talk to her semi-regularly during this time. \n\nSome time passes and she gets ready to move far away to grad school, I'm bummed by this, but she keeps saying she wants to see me before she leaves. We plan a night to go to dinner. She drives the two hours down to my house, we have an awesome night out, dinner, drinks. Go back to hang back at my house. I so desperately want to make a move, but the whole thing about her being engaged and not wanting to make things weird get in the way. We hug, say our good byes, and I figure that's the last time I'll see her maybe ever.\n\nShe texts me at 3 AM when she gets home and says she wants to hangout again. Now I'm really thrown through a loop.\n\nShe comes back down two days later, we go out for drinks again and we end up watching fireworks on a freaking boat. I was so god damn close to just kissing her but I didn't do it. And now she's married.\n\nDid I fuck up? Was I just reading too much in to it? She was a pretty conservative girl (never saw her flirting with other guys). None of her friends really liked her BF and would sometimes insinuate that we would be better together. Not that any of this matters at this point.\n\nWhen I get drunk I think about texting her asking if I should have made a move that night, but never actually do it.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Had a good friend that was engaged and about to move away. Hung out two times before she left, I got the vibe, but didn't make a move. Should I have?"}
{"id": "t3_14ggep", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My dad's in the hospital, again. Need to vent a bit.", "post": "My dad just turned 83 last week. The (sort of) short version of the chain of events is this. Last year he fell in the shower then didn't go to the doctor. For about the next 3 days he got weaker and more tired. He started hallucinating (seeing his dead brother in the room, etc.) so my mom got him to the hospital. He had lost a lot of blood through presumably some internal bleeding. They got more blood in him and stabilized so after a week he went home. He recovered pretty well.\n\nFast forward to October and one morning he couldn't get up off the couch, had no energy and was looking really bad, so back to the hospital he goes. He spent two weeks there this time (and had to miss my brother's wedding) because it was an infection in his blood and it took a while to get the right antibiotics in him to knock out the infection.\n\nThree days ago my dad was back in the hospital again for being weak and hallucinating. Low on blood again so they've given him more, but he's still too weak to get out of bed, so we don't know how long he'll be there.\n\nI'm starting to get really worried that he doesn't have much time left. He *just* retired about 3 months ago, and to think that now he could be near the end really sucks. He has lived to an older age than all of his siblings except one half-sister. I'm only 37 and I'm not ready to not have my dad around.\n\nNot really looking for comments or advice, but just needed a place to write it out. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "My 83 year old dad is in the hospital for the 3rd time this year, and I'm worried about how much longer he's going to be around."}
{"id": "t3_kth8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for dealing with a non-binding HOA and restrictive covenants.", "post": "I posted this over in advice, but I only got one response, so I'm trying here...\n\nA neighbor of mine received a letter in the mail today stating that the HOA was taking action against him for keeping chickens on his property.\n\nThe letter arrived normal post, and it described that keeping a chicken coop was against the neighborhood covenant and that he had been previously warned about the infraction.  It also stated that he would be responsible for the attorney fees and any and all legal fees associated with pursuing the case in court.\n\nBeing a non-binding HOA, I assume that they are only able to enforce the covenants outlined in the deed for the property which was created by the now-no-longer builder of the neighborhood 35ish years ago.   We've gone to the zoning department to view the original deed to the property and they said that the covenant was too old to enforce.\n\nHere is the particular covenant that the HOA is referencing:\n*No noxious or offensive activity shall be carried on upon any lot, nor shall anything be done thereon which may be or may become an annoyance or nuisance to the neighborhood.  No hogs, goats, poultry, cows or horses which shall constitute a nuisance or cause unsanitary conditions, or any undesirable situation to any neighboring property, shall be maintained on any lot.*\n\nDoes anyone have any advice with how to proceed?\n\nCan a covenant on a deed really be too old to enforce? \n\nHow would you read \"which shall constitute a nuisance\" in the statement above?\n\nWe're looking in to getting an attorney but just ignoring them seems a might bit cheaper.\n\nSome fun facts:\n\nHe has eight chickens, the coop is approximately 5' by 4' and 5' tall.  The run is about 20 feet square.\n\nWe live in the county so there is no ordinance against keeping small flocks of chickens.\n\nMany other neighbors keep small flocks of chickens. (I keep chickens and bees.)\n\nWe do not pay dues to the HOA.\n\nThe attorney referenced in the latest letter lives in our neighborhood.", "summary": "The non-binding HOA is threatening to bring one of my neighbors to court because he is keeping 8 chickens in his backyard.  The covenant that they are applying is old and vague. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_2tqzrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my (24F) boyfriend (25M) of four months make these kinds of comments to me?", "post": "I know we are all human here, and we all find people attractive. I'm happy to discuss beautiful people with my SO, but over the last few days a few comments just seem unnecessary. Why do you find it necessary to tell me that you like the way some reality show girl moved her mouth, (\"Ooo, I like THAT.\") Or, when discussing acceptable age differences in relationships, tell me that you would gladly fuck a 15 year old but not date her. This stuff feels hurtful but I cannot intellectualize why. It feels very sexually aggressive and almost disrespectful.\n\nIs it unreasonable that this stuff makes me uncomfortable? We have been dating for about 4 months now, and I feel like this is just a sign of sloppiness. I reacted in the moment to his comment about that girls mouth, saying \"okay cool, I'll leave you to look at girls mouths and I'll head home.\" and then he will cling to me saying \"no, don't go,\" kissing me, telling me he loves me..... I've also noticed an increase in the amount of \"play\" kissing (I don't know if other people do this, but it's just a playful kinda mouth thing...) versus actual kissing. I've been staying over his apartment (or he stays with me) most every night since we became monogamous. I'm wondering if this is all a sign that he is just comfortable and expects me to be there all the time. Maybe some distance would be good. I'm afraid though that he will interpret me spending less time with him as a decrease in affection, however...\n\nWhy do some dudes act like this? I am not sexually inhibited. I casually sexed a good deal while single, and I can recognize an attractive man. But I don't feel compelled to inform him in the way he seems compelled to inform me.\n\nSo I guess my main curiosities are: Is this a typical dude thing? Is it a sign of comfort level in the relationship? Is he being rude or am I just projecting my own insecurity?", "summary": "After 4 months of dating I've noticed my boyfriend making frequent-er sexual comments about other women and acting more playful than sexy with me."}
{"id": "t3_27xnmy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (25/m) considering proposing to my girlfriend (29/f), but I feel like I am waiting for the other boot to drop.", "post": "Here's a bit of the back story. There have been people trying to set us up for literally years. So, after finally working up the nerve, I asked her out. I am an extremely good judge of character and I have apologized to all 3 people I have miss judged in my lifetime. It turns out that every reason that I had for not dating her was not actually correct. For the first couple of months, things were kinda rocky due to the people that initially set us up trying to continue to be involved. By the second month of dating (nearly every day) I knew that I felt more for her than \"like\". Over the past few months (a little over half a year), I have noticed that I absolutely hate not being with her; and that even just seeing her makes my day! I didn't think it possible, but after a weekend trip, we have become even more close. When we came back, I literally couldn't sleep without her next to me... without waking to her beautiful smiling face. I got to thinking that she is the person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. I asked her how long she thought it would be before it would be appropriate for a couple to get engaged. Her reply was that a decision like that was up to me alone, and that I should follow my heart, but it was a big decision. In that moment I knew I wanted to be with her. After a long talk with one of my friends, even he agreed that I had likely found the one. The day after those conversations, I woke up, full of an uncertainty that had never been present before. I went through the entire day at work incredibly depressed. That evening, when I saw her smile; heard her cute little giggle, it reminded me of every reason I wanted to be with this girl. Even so, in the entire time that we have dated, we have yet to have an argument or even negative words. I want to be with her, but I feel like I'm waiting on the other boot to drop; like there is some glaring problem that I can't see because I am too close to the situation.", "summary": "I love this girl, am considering marriage, but I feel like something should be wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1kf54g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by emptying the vacuum", "post": "So my wife and I are adopting two kittens today and have been preparing the kitten room, cleaning thoroughly and setting everything up. Vacuuming was my job, and I was doing a damn good job (IMO). I should inform you that we have one of those Dyson Cyclone vacuums that has the cylinder that you detach and then press the button to empty from the bottom. So I detach the cylinder and hold it over the trash bag to empty. I press the button-dust, dirt and hair ALL OVER the floor while only a small amount made it into the bag. I curse silently, turn the vacuum back on and go to work. I had gotten most of it back into the vacuum when the garbage bag was caught by the vacuum and tipped over, spilling the rest of the vacuum's prior contents onto the floor. I cursed again (not silently this time) and cleaned the rest of it up. Such a simple task and yet, TIFU.", "summary": "Tried to empty vacuum into garbage bag, emptied onto floor and garbage bag instead, cleaned up, vacuum tipped the garbage over and emptied the rest of it, had to do it again. I need a shower and a drink."}
{"id": "t3_4tulge", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "$200 phone bill in one night", "post": "So I lost my phone for a few weeks, then yesterday I found it. I looked up my plan and had 5gbs of data left and two days in my plan. I didn't want to waste it so I googled how much data streaming a movie would take and it said 1-3gbs so I decided to use my phone as a hotspot and watch I'm Still Here on Netflix. Woke up in the morning to a $150 fee added to my $40 phone bill. I called them and the guy I spoke to initially estimated 3-4gbs for a movie, but when I pointed out I had apparently used 7 he thought that was normal too. He straight away said he could get half of the bill knocked off, and I just agreed to that because I (clearly) am not very technologically informed. I guess I'm just frustrated that their automatic setting for going over your data is to charge you $70 a gb instead of just adding their $10 1gb data pack to your plan and then they can't even text me to let me know until I've already blown through $150 worth. I received 3 emails (even though they manage to text me about paying my bill) about four hours after I watched the movie saying I was 50%, 75% and 100% over my data limit, and then another few hours later finally got a text saying I'd used all my data. Can/should I do anything about this or should I shuttup and pay my bill?", "summary": "went 2gbs over the data on my phone plan and got charged $150 before I was informed I was even halfway through my data. "}
{"id": "t3_2czzoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/30] need advice on how to maintain identity, independence and respect in a relationship", "post": "I really need some advice here. I'm 30, going through a divorce, have a child and have a relationship with an amazing guy on the rocks. I wouldn't say I'm realizing this, but it's becoming critical that I address it - I look to my man to \"fix\" everything, provide comfort and strength and in the process I completely lose my identity in relationships. When I'm actually single for any period of time (there's been a couple times) I've noticed that's when I take the best care of myself and feel invigorated. Also confident. Once I'm really in a relationship I start to depend on that person too much for my happiness and feel insecure, etc. Understandably, this puts too much strain on things and sabotages relationships - I'm sure they'd function correctly if I were able to maintain that confidence once attached. I was hoping other people who have been here might be able to help. I think I sort of knew this last time I was single but it just happened again with my marriage. I believe it recently became an issue with my current boyfriend (who I'm on the outs with, sort of because of this). \n\nAlso, I know the answer sounds like I need to be single for awhile. But I don't want to lose the boyfriend, I'm in love with him and he's really wonderful. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I lose myself in relationships, which then causes insecurity/unrealistic expectations/problems."}
{"id": "t3_4fr2t7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] Just discovered that my GF [19] has been lying to me about our long distance relationship.", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nI live in Oregon, she's attending school on campus in Utah, but lived in Oregon. I visit her once a month for about a week. Last visit (march 31-apr6) she was super distant and snappy towards me, I brushed it off assuming she was stressed with school and work\n\nFour days ago (4/16) she says that she thinks we should take a break so she can focus on school and work, but when she comes home for the summer (June) we'll be stronger.\n\nI was recently hanging out with one of our mutual friends and she asked me how we were doing. I told her about our break and she decided to Facetime her. I stayed in the room and listened (instant regret)\n\nMy GF of almost one year (April 25th) was talking with passion in her voice about this dark skinned handsome boy genius who owns his own business at 21, and that she's spent the night at his house three different times. Our friend asked her if they did anything she responded with \"Not what you think but two other things.\" My stomach sank and I just don't know how to handle this.\n\nI'm going to call her when she gets off work in about an hour and confront her about it.", "summary": "I live in OR she goes to college in Utah approaching one year and she wants to take a break, later find out she's been seeing another more distinguished man."}
{"id": "t3_ep9j8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know this is going to sound selfish, but I'm going through a pretty rough time myself too, and I need to vent.", "post": "I'm sorry that this is just another one of those tired old sob stories on AskReddit, but I think that I've reached a point that I can no longer keep this all in.  I'm a 26-year-old postgrad with a BA in Political Science from the University of Miami, and it's been incredibly hard to find employment.  I just want to do work locally; I've written to so many consulting firms and political groups over the past couple of weeks that my fingers have been starting to form calluses.  I may be unable to pay rent at the end of the month and I can't afford a plane ticket to Milwaukee to visit my family for Christmas.  I don't want to ask for their help because of the shame.\n\nGetting a college degree was a huge accomplishment for me because of my intermittent problems with depression that never seem to end.  I've gone through the campus in the past to get psychological treatment, but because I am no longer a student /and/ I'm being dropped from my health insurance provider, I'm running out of the medication I need.  I tried so many different drugs in the past - I've been on Zoloft, Sinequan, and Abilify - now I'm taking, every day, .5mg to 1mg clonozepam as needed, 1.5mg bupropion (Wellbutrin) twice daily, .5mg uranium, .25mg viloxazine, and to top it all off, I'm getting back on Abilify.  I don't want to need to take the drugs, and I want to be productive with my life.  I just don't know where to turn to next.", "summary": "I just graduated, suffered immense problems with depression throughout my life, my healthcare provider just dropped me, I'm broke, and I just want to see my baby brother for Christmas."}
{"id": "t3_22arsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] interested in a university coursemate [22F] over the last 10 weeks, how do I ask her out?", "post": "I'm a uni student, and every monday I take this particular 3 hour module. Now there's this girl in the course, which we shall call Mandy, who is very active in class. The particular course is a gender studies-related course, but her responses in class have set her apart from the other girls, because she does not give typical feminine responses, yet she has shown herself to be a very spunky person.\n\nOn the other hand, I'm also one of the more active contributors in class, as I'm one of the few guys in class, and I'm the one most likely to speak my mind, usually about controversial topics. And there have been times when we have been involved in arguments during the classroom.\n\nAnyway, I've found myself interested in her around 3 weeks into the class, because I was very attracted by her personality and her brains. I also found out that she was actually from my year, and I've tried finding opportunities to talk to her before or after class. Usually we will sit in separate rows in class, because she would usually sit with her friend, and I would sit with my group of friends. But last week, I just went to sit beside her, and tried my best to seem natural about it. I don't think she minded, because as far as I could tell, she's not really close to any of the coursemates. In fact, every time I see her out of class, she's not interacting with others, even the people who were sitting beside her.\n\nHowever, until now, I haven't had an opportunity to ask for her number, because I didn't want to scare her off. I wanted to add her on Facebook, but she doesn't have an account. The class is going to end in two weeks time, and I really want to grab this opportunity to at least ask her out before I possibly never see her again. Even if it doesn't work out romantically or anything like that, I would love to have her as a friend, because I think she's awesome that way, but I just don't know how to get closer to her. Please help!", "summary": "How do I ask out a girl that I only see for 3 hours a week in class and that I don't know too well?"}
{"id": "t3_45zifm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] just discovered my girlfriend [26F] keeps a tally of fights we've had in which I was in the wrong", "post": "I have been dating Angela for two and a half years. We live together, and have been for almost a full six months now. \n\nThings with us are great and I love her so much. I'm crazy about her. We've had our fair share of fights, just like any other couple. But I can say without a doubt that this is the most adult relationship I have ever been in. We communicate *really* well. When we fight, we are able to work through and address our issues properly. And once we solve our problems, we have been able to successfully move past them. We never bring up our old fights when we have new problems (this is a big thing for me, because my last girlfriend and I would always do this). Things are going spectacularly well.\n\nThe other day, when I was organizing our shared bookshelf (I had bought a few new books and decided to alphabetize our collection), I found a list, written by Angela.\n\nThe list was titled \"PERMANENT\". In it, she wrote about and dated 3 significant fights that we have had during the course of our relationship. I don't want to detail them specifically, but these fights that she wrote down were *my fault*. They were about issues that she had with me (for example, right before we moved in together we got into a fight about money), in which, once we had worked out the problem, it was clear that I was in the wrong. I accepted responsibility for them, apologized, we worked through them, and we had moved on. \n\nFrankly, I'm hurt and upset that she has been secretly keeping tally of things I do wrong. But this isn't the only thing. \n\nThe list is numbered from 1-10. So far, 3 of the numbers have been filled out. The remaining seven are blank spaces, but she has spaced out room for all seven of them to presumably fill in later as they happen. \n\nI have no idea what is going to happen if/when she gets to the end of the list. Is she going to break up with me? Should I talk to her about this? Or should I just pretend I never saw it?", "summary": "My girlfriend keeps a secret running tally of fights we had in which I fucked up. She has spaced out room for 10 fights, and 3 have been filled out so far. I wonder what is going to happen when she gets to number 10."}
{"id": "t3_10fyat", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] American girl studying abroad just started a sexual relationship with a [25/m] Chinese boy.  Need advice!", "post": "So, I am an American student studying Chinese language at a university in China.  I met a grad student here majoring in English and we really hit it off, right from the day we met.  I am a rather bold, outgoing girl who was raised in the New Jersey/New York area.  He is from a small rural area of China.  However, since he has been studying English language and American culture, we actually have quite a bit in common (like discussing politics, social issues, cultural differences, and Sino-American relations) we instantly connected.  I was actually surprised at how quickly things progressed.  I am only the second girl he's ever kissed, and the first girl to \"go all the way.\"  Overall, we are happy with the no-strings-attached, mutually language-sharing/studying, and close friendship that we've developed.\n\nHere's the problem: he is very self conscious, and tends to over-think during our romantic liaisons.  This can have some flaccid consequences.  I've tried to be as understanding, helpful, and supportive as possible.  I told him to think with his heart rather than his head when we have our trysts, but he has difficulty putting aside his worries and poor self-image.\n\nHas anyone else been in a similar situation when seeing a Chinese boy?    Any advice is appreciated on how to teach him to let loose and enjoy himself without worrying about appearances or his lack of experience. I want him to enjoy himself as much as I do, and I want to make him happy.  Also, he has asked for this help, so my \"teaching\" is not unsolicited.", "summary": "Chinese boy I am in a sexual relationship with has difficulties with self-image and not worrying in sexual situations.  How can I help him?"}
{"id": "t3_2fylkk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making fun of my co-workers dead baby.", "post": "I won't make this too long but basically at my job we all like to fuck with each other a lot. I have two co workers named Chris and Jeff who have pregnant girlfriends.\n\n We were on the conversation of sex and I said to Chris \"Ha you can't fuck your girl cause she's pregnant.\" (yes I know you can still fuck your girlfriend if she's pregnant. It was a joke) \n\nThen I saw the other Jeff the same thing only this time Chris was behind me giving the hand-across-the-neck shut the fuck up signal but it was too late. He just looked at me heartbroken and said, \"She lost the baby.\" And then walked away.\n\nI didn't know what to say at that point so I just walked the opposite direction. Later on I went up to him and just told him how sorry I was and I had no idea. He assumed that everyone else had told me, but he wasn't too upset with me. It could have went a lot worse I guess.", "summary": "Joking around at work told co worker he couldn't fuck his girlfriend cause she was pregnant. Turns out she lost the baby."}
{"id": "t3_4wti9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] Fell for someone [18F] at my work but we want different things.", "post": "I started my first job about 3 or 4 months ago and my first day was also the first day of a girl, seeming as we were both new we started talking and we ended up having a lot in common with each other, We talk & message each other all the time.\n\nSo we always flirt with each other and joked about just having sex when we're both off work in about 2 weeks so I messaged her \"idk if you're joking about having sex or not but I do like you a lot, I don't just want that\" to which she responded \"I'm not kidding but I don't think if I want a relationship\"\n\nI like her a lot so I don't know whether or not I should try change her mind or just do what she wants. My friend said that having sex with her will just make me want her more but I'm not sure.", "summary": "Girl at work wants sex, I want a relationship, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4gb1j6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is she [21] playing hard to get or uninterested in me?[22/M]", "post": "Hey guys first post here. So I'll try to make this quick, I've been out of the dating scene for a few years now and need advice with a girl i currently like. \n\nHer and I met in class and have been talking for not too long a month or so. We have tons in common I have gotten her number and we text every now and then (more on that later.) But I have really I've made the most progress in the past week. So everything explained further takes place in a span of a week. \n\nI've hung out with her a few times. The times we have hung out have been good we seem to hit it off. She's kinda touchy and takes lots of pictures of us (bff on sc if that means anything.) She said things like I'm special for getting to see her act in her goofy way. She even made and brought me a sandwich for when we were studying together. But ever since then she seems less interested in me and we do not text as often. Which is weird cuz that was to me at least the time we hit it off the most.  Before We had been texting all day but now barely at all and remember this is all in a span of less than a week. \n\nMost recently we were supposed to hangout but she said she forgot (which is a big red flag I know) but we did reschedule for another specific day. \nSo is she uninterested? Playing hard to get? Or other?", "summary": "hit it off with a girl. After 'study date' that went well communication/interest dropped off a bit. She uninterested playing hard to get or other?"}
{"id": "t3_3007a1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My boyfriend is not talking to me...?", "post": "Hi Reddit. I'm sort of confused as to what's going on here, but anyways. Two days ago, my boyfriend was over at my apartment and we were taking a nap as we sometimes do. After a little while, he suddenly got up, got his things together and told me he was going to go home now. \n\nThis is weird because of how sudden it was, AND because whenever he doesn't stay the night, he at least stays until 10 or 11 (and it was only 6PM). \n\nI asked him if there was anything wrong and he didn't reply with a yes or no; rather he just said \"I just want to go home. I'll talk to you later. I love you\". \n\nOnce he left I began to worry that perhaps something was wrong, because he was acting out of his usual. A little while later I sent him a message telling him I wish he would tell me if there is something, because I love him and I care about him. No response to that. I sent him a goodnight text, only for it to be responded to the next morning: \" Love you too\". \n\nOkay, so maybe he isn't angry or upset with ME? But its hard to tell when he isn't communicating it. Anyways, it is Monday and since Saturday we have not had a conversation, despite me trying to, and I'm worried. He's never done this before.\n\nDoes anyone have any idea of how I might approach this? I.e. what should I say, should I say anything at all, am I perhaps overreacting, etc.? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "boyfriend suddenly \"wanted to go home\" the other day. Ever since he hasn't spoken to me."}
{"id": "t3_1l0zdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "None of my business? Boyfriend of two years has decided to build a house and hasn't asked me for any input. (F27)(M28)", "post": "I'm feeling really hurt. \n\nMy boyfriend (M28) and I (F27) have been in a serious relationship for two years. Everything's been wonderful and I'm very happy. However, we're still not living together because he's \"not ready yet.\"\n\nThere's really no reason why we can't live together. We both make great money, have little to no debt and our jobs are in the same area. But he says he's not ready.\n\nHe informed me last week that he's going to build a house and is going to look at land with a realtor next week. WTF!? He didn't discuss any of this with me or ask for any of my input. There's nothing wrong with the house he's living in right now. I don't understand.\n\nAfter two serious years together, don't you think a girlfriend should have some kind of input if you're planning on building a future with her?\n\nIs this any of my business?", "summary": "Boyfriend hasn't asked for any input in regards to his new home. I feel hurt because I think it's something we should be doing together."}
{"id": "t3_54ppa3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] tried to remain friends with ex-girlfriend [22F]. Her new boyfriend [21M] has insisted she stop talking to me.", "post": "Broke up with my girlfriend earlier this year around February because we didn't feel like things were working out (1.5 years together). I was in a bad state and wasn't sure if I wanted to take the relationship any further. That said she is a fantastic person and I wanted to remain friends with her, so we have up until recently.\n\nAround 2-3 months ago she stated getting serious with another guy and he hates the idea of her having anything to do with me. He insisted she stop talking to me, she said no at first and we met occasionally for coffee, talked on Facebook etc etc. He got really upset about it though and we agreed to scale things back a bit and only meet occasionally, every 2-3 weeks or so.\n\nRecently I get a message from her saying \"She doesn't want to talk to you!\". After meeting with her again it turns out that he has been checking her phone and making her feel guilty about talking to me. He has also hijacked her phone and blocked me on Facebook/Snapchat several times and has done this for another male friend of hers too.\n\nI realise that as the ex-boyfriend he may see me as a threat but this whole thing is really bumming me out. She is a great person and a great friend, I can't help but feel like this new guy is trying to control her life a bit too much.\n\nI don't know what to do, I want to stay friends with her, but I can't so much as drop her a message without her new boyfriend having a melt down. I offered to talk with him to explain I mean no harm, but he refuses to talk to me.", "summary": "Trying to remain friends with ex-girlfriend. New boyfriend wants her to stop talking to me, keeps taking her phone to make sure she isn't."}
{"id": "t3_1ti8l6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22F met a 37M and it feels like we clicked in person - got weird after", "post": "I'm a young professional just getting into my field and this required me to take a couple of courses before beginning my first job in January. \n\nAt one of them I met a man who sort of initiated conversation and we ended up spending most of the day together. The only time we didn't talk through the day was when lectures were going on and when we were being tested on our skills. He made sure to accompany me for all of the breaks and seemed interested in getting to know me. \n\nWithout going into too much detail, this man is up there in terms of status. He's been a surgeon for quite a while and travels the world to educate other professionals. \n\nWhen I learned that, I was sort of skeptical about his interest in me (just starting out) but the company was nice and getting to know him was enjoyable. \n\nHe took my phone number down and scheduled a date right after we separated on the last day of the course. The interesting part is that he made it for three weeks later. I understand that he's busy but ... Really? Anyway, I thought I'll give it a go and see. \n\nIt's been a week since we last spoke and he doesn't seem to make an effort to maintain anything (by calls or texts at least) so I was just confused as to whether I should expect anything at all. Our date is still to come but truthfully, I'm not sure what I agreed to anymore. \n\nIts worth mentioning that he was extremely sweet and respectful during the time that we spent. \n\nAny comments/advice would be appreciated. There are NO commitments between us but in my mind the way he is acting indicates that he's not interested in anything at all.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Met an older man and his dating etiquette is confusing. Don't want to set myself up for disappointment."}
{"id": "t3_vggsf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I finally did it! What are your minor but meaningful accomplishments?", "post": "After years of cowardice I finally manned up and did what I, for some reason, couldn't do on my last visits. At the pool, which I visit almost every year during the summer, they have a 3 and 5 meter dive tower (9.5 and 16 feet). I was on top, arguing with myself, realizing I had no reason to be afraid. I can spend all day in those heights at risk of falling down from a ladder, possibly breaking my neck. This was somehow scarier. There wasn't a matter of injury, I was sure it was safe. There was nothing but a mental block in my way. But I still wasn't able to trigger it until two 10-year-olds did it with ease. And I jumped. In air the water seemed far away and a slight moment of shock passed through me. But as I hit the water surface I felt a feeling of accomplishment that I finally had done something I really couldn't do before.", "summary": "jump from 16feet after 10-year-olds pass me, feel manly."}
{"id": "t3_1inlq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[19M] feeling I might be missing out on life by staying with my [19F] high school sweetheart.", "post": "I love my girlfriend very much. Or at least I think I do. She is my best friend, and we have been together for around 3 years now. We have stayed strong through a lot, such as family deaths, depression, and a tragic but very necessary abortion.\n\nWe both live with our parents, and see each other a few days a week which is nice. She stays over mine at the weekend, and we have satisfactory sex. We don't argue very often and I guess the relationship is going fine..\n\nThe problem is, I just do not feel excited for life with her. It's sad, but she has different values and life goals to me, and I can just see myself being trapped in a marriage too early, and wishing I had lived a little before committing and settling down.\n\nWe took each other's virginity, and she is the only girl I have ever been with for longer than a month.\n\nI just wish I could live a little, travel, meet new people, be with a few different women, then meet her again and see if I feel the same. \n\nI might as well be honest, it also bothers me that she lies a lot, spends too much money, and takes no initiative in bed, but these things alone I do not feel are reason enough to break it off.\n\nCan high school sweetheart relationships work? Am I wrong for feeling apathetic about our future? Any experiences of relationships which began in high school?", "summary": "Young guy feeling trapped in long term, uninspiring relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1ejbdu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend freaks out about sleep-overs", "post": "So me(22m) and my girl(20f) have been together for over a year and have spent 7 months in a LDR. She's from the US and I'm German. We've had a lot of issues about some of my sleep-overs lately. Since I'm from Berlin it can be dangerous to be out in the middle of the night so I went to two parties both times with 2-3 girls and 4-5 boys and we would all sleep together in one room because going home would take each of us like 1-2 hours and the trains don't go at night and it can be dangerous. She says I'm disrespecting her because \"you don't sleep with other girls\". \nI told her about everything before hand, never cheated in any form and text her right when I get home and even plan on giving up my life here to live with her.\nI assured her it's just because of my safety but she doesn't seem to care and says I either shouldn't go or leave anyways.\n\nWhat should I do to make her feel better and still go out with my friends at night? Am I being a disrespectful jerk?", "summary": "sleep-over with many friends, LDR girlfriend mad about it."}
{"id": "t3_4o0yhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When I [15 M] waited for her [15 F] to talk to me after she got on a ferris wheel with me, why did she just ask the operator to be let out?", "post": "FOREWORD: 1. Her age was approximate. 2. I was 15 THAT year. Not this year; I'm not sharing my current age here.\n\n---\n\nI went on a ferris wheel, but each gondola needed 2 people. I was by myself at that carnival. I asked the operator to let a stranger on.\n\nSome random Hispanic girl around my age came on, and I was looking away, hoping for her to say \"hi, my name is --, what's yours?\" But after 10-15 seconds, she yelled something in Spanish to her friends, then told the operator to let her off the ride.\n\nThe operator then let a black dude on my gondola and I started talking with him right away and we talked well throughout the ride then parted ways after the ride was done.\n\nWhy didn't the Hispanic girl start talking though? Is it mandatory for guys to be conversation starters? Even when we were 15?", "summary": "Waited for girl to start talking to me on Ferris wheel, but she opted to leave instead."}
{"id": "t3_2mii9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents will probably be against my[25f] relationship with my boyfriend[26M]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years and last year it turned into a long distance relationship. Meanwhile we have come to the conclusion, that we want to live in the same country and move in together.\nMy family expects me to get married in order to live with my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I, we are both okay with that. \n\nThe problem is, that my parents don't know about him yet. I have never told them because I was pretty sure, that they won't accept him for one specific reason.\nAnd I am so sure, as I hear how they talk about other couples, that shouldn't be together in their opinion and in general am aware of their point of view on these matters. \n\nActually there is a very small chance, that they might be okay with him because only his mother has a different cultural background and at the same time there is still a big chance, that they might be against him.\n\nThis means telling them about him will probably cause a conflict. The mood in the house will drop because of me, there will be disussions because of me, very dramatic and emotional discussions, everybody will be devestated because of me... All in all everything will feel dark and cold the following days. This scenario took place once in my lifetime because of a similar topic.\n\nFor this reason I am really afraid to tell them. But that is, what I want to do tomorrow or the day after. I really want to speak to them about him. What I am hoping for is to get some advice on how to handle this conversation, some motivational stories with happy endings, speeches about how I will regret not to tell and so on... I really need that right now :(\n\nSome side notes:\nI won't talk about marriage to my parents. That would be too much in the beginning:) I'll just mention, that I have a boyfriend and hope they'll accept it one day. Of course I will remain calm throughout the conversation. That is very important, I think.\n\nMy boyfriend knows about these issues and he understands me. I wanted him to know because otherwise it would not be fair to him. Luckily he has always been very patient.", "summary": "I want to tell my conservative parents about my boyfriend. They will probably be against him because of cultural differences. I hope for advice on how to handle the conversation to keep the atmosphere at home as peaceful as possible."}
{"id": "t3_1pc3md", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Concert Revenge", "post": "On Friday I went to go and see Peter Gabriel perform in Manchester, UK. Having been a long time fan I was majorly excited to be in my seat with a great view of the stage and performers. \n\nI noticed that the people in front of me (row below) pulled a phone out at the start of the concert and decided to start recording. This didn't really bother me as its now pretty much accepted that people will film parts.\n\nHOW EVER as the show went on he carried on recording - then he put his phone away only to bring out another phone and carry on recording. This was starting to bug me as I had to turn my head to look at the stage and the screen was caught in my peripheral vision. \n\nSuddenly two people arrived late and asked to pass the man and his wife mych to their annoyance and they made sure these people knew by making overly loud comments about how rude it was that they were late.\n\nCarry on the night and the mans 2nd phone dies. I secretly smiled only to groan as he pulled out his camera and continued to film. This continued right to the end of the concert with a grand total of 3 phones and 2 cameras (my mum and I counted)\n\n**THE REVENGE:**\n\nThe show was getting going and Peter was blasting out his big hits and I decided to join the people around me in singing - loudly. In hopes that my somewhat out of tune wailing would end up on his recordings.", "summary": "I sang - you don't want me to sing."}
{"id": "t3_it0bb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Black people. Help me understand you.", "post": "Don't read if you think this is a troll or angry statement because it's not, it's a genuine statement.\n\nPlease. I have tried many times to understand why black people feel so entitled because of tragic acts that happened hundreds of years ago. (Since when were black people the only slaves?) Every SINGLE black man/woman I've met, has this particular attitude amongst them: Blacks need to ALWAYS stick together, every other race hates them, every other race is going out of their way to oppress them.  I see white people especially trying to embrace blacks and show them that they are equal, but then it is met by \"Oh you're just doing it to show you're not racist, but you are.\" I turn on TV, blacks are in MANY commercials and ad campaigns that were created by whites. I see blacks in commercials and ad campaigns that were created by blacks, no whites there. When are black people going to be satisfied with our country and it's efforts embrace blacks? If the answer is never, what are you doing to make it a real goal?", "summary": "Black people \"take\" a lot and rarely \"give\" They want it all but when it comes to embracing the other races they don't want to. Why is this?"}
{"id": "t3_22zkj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sometimes I(21F) think my bf(24M) chooses games over me...", "post": "...and it is really starting to upset me. We've been dating for a while, I knew he was a gamer and that was part of the appeal. But I'm finding it more and more annoying when he ignores me to talk to people he's never met. I'm right here, in flesh and blood, trying to talk about my day or my problems or wanting some sexy times and he'll ignore me. For example, I just wanted to share a sexy shower but he's \"too busy teaching this new girl how to play.\" We're apart most of the day, always busy. I get that when he gets home he wants to relax, but I'm always home 3 hours after him. I feel like asking a few minutes to just \"us\" isn't too much to ask, is it?", "summary": "I feel like my bf ignores me all the time to play video games and it's starting to really bother me. Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3i4t7z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doin' it doggy (NSFW)", "post": "Stay a while and listen! \n\nSo last week I injured my knee. Tore a damn muscle by falling in the shower. Come the following day the doc' told me that I tore a muscle in my knee. No biggie right? Stayed off of it for a week, and a couple days ago it was finally getting better. I was starting to walk normal and I can finally start running like I planned to. \n\nSo now to the good part, since my knee was hurting me and the SO haven't been bumping uglies, it's been a week with me and mrs pamela handerson. So today me and her are quite eager to start the festivities. After some foreplay and whatnot, I turn her over and (like the title suggests) started going at it. Now since my bed is on the ground with just a box spring and mattress, she's low down, and me being tall, I gotta bend down and re adjust. And as you probably guessed by now, god was in a bad mood and smited my ass, so as i'm close to the edge, my knee just says fuck you and goes sideways. After the earth shattering pop I hear, I am left hobbling with balls of blue.", "summary": "Knee done got fucked up."}
{"id": "t3_4fyvv1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Owe an old apartment $1787.37 three years after moving out.", "post": "I'm really in a bind. \n\nI've moved around several times in my life and now it's time for me to find a new apartment complex to rent from with a roommate. \n\nIn applying for a place to live two things happened. My application was denied due to a judgement for a non payment of rent. This was from a summons to court from non-payment of rent that was promptly paid in full. After the rent was pain in full the court date was dropped and so was the suit. This is the only time in my life something like that had occurred and it occurred in 2012. \n\nThe current complex I am applying for could not see that I didn't owe the old apartment complex money for this so they denied the application. \n\nI worked back and forth with the old apartment complex to obtain proof that I do not in fact owe them any money but they couldn't without a doubt prove that I didn't. \n\nApparently when I moved out they went through a period of \"transition\"  and lost digital records of me  living there. They had to go through cold storage to obtain proof that I even lived there, then to find my rental ledger. On the ledger it states several write offs at the end of the lease and to them that means I owe them a sum of 1787.37. \n\nI know I paid rent that last month, and I never received a bill or a collections notice. In fact I had them verify it never went to collections. \n\nI moved out in 2013 and was not expecting this now. \n\nI have zero proof that I paid rent I think because I paid rent with money orders, I don't know of a way to obtain those again. I did not have a printed receipt of rent paid given to me. \n\nI don't know what to do and could use any advice at this point.", "summary": "apparently owe money to a place I don't live "}
{"id": "t3_35p1gk", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cats got neutered; really worried about their behaviour", "post": "I got my cats (two males, Thor and Loki) neutered yesterday and I was told that they had been tranquilised and it would last for around 48 hours so not to let them out to wander as their reaction times would be slow.\n\nI was also told they would not want to eat very much for a few days and to just give them a little bit of food, as they may vomit up anything they eat.\n\nEssentially, I was told the best plan of action was to give them water and let them relax.\n\nHow wrong that vet was. They were like that for, at most, three hours and then there was a sudden rampage through the house with each of them trying to bite the other's injured bollocks.\n\nThey've eaten almost half a box of wet food and gone through several bowls of dry without a runny poop or a hint of vomit in sight, despite this being more than they usually eat by a significant margin. They keep coming up to me and shouting to be let out.\n\nPlease help me, I was hoping for two days of no cat wildness. Surely there is something wrong with these little gits?", "summary": "My cats are straight back to being grade A arseholes, any advice you can give would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2uygcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18M] and I like this girl [17F]. Does she like me?", "post": "This girl that I like throws around a lot of mixed signals. She always invites me to things such as going out to eat, going to the movies, yoga, etc. But she always brings her friend along with her. Her friend isn't at all interested in me but it's just sort of awkward sometimes. My friends have made it very clear that I like her but she acts as if she's never heard it before. Every time that someone mentions that I like her she doesn't mention it to me. It's just weird because I don't know where to go from here? I don't know if she wants me to ask her out or what else she might want me to do. A while ago she said that she asked this guy out that was 18 and had some of the same qualities that I have. Then five minutes later she said she was joking. I didn't get that. What should I do? Does she like me?", "summary": "What can I do to figure out if this girl likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_46rn5e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I though the date went well, she didn't.", "post": "I [24M] met a nice girl [22F] on Tinder last week, though I don't hold much stock in Tinder. I got her number and we texted all week, and we seemed to get a long very well. So We decided to meet for drinks on Friday, it just so happened to be my birthday too. I haven't been on a date like this in a while so I was nervous but I do well under pressure. I felt like it went well, but of course, I expect first dates to be a little shaky which is normal I think. I kept things light, I didn't talk about serious personal stuff and kept it short, about 2 hours. We left, walked her to her car, a little \"nice to meet you\" hug, and just your basic talk to you later kind of goodbye.  \n\nThis morning, asked her how she though it went and was told it was bad. Apparently it was some things I said. Of course, she didn't tell me what those things were and stopped texting me and unmatched me on Tinder. There's not much point in trying to remember all the things I said, but shit...I would like to know. I guess I'm just upset because she just slammed the door on me. \n\nAnybody else deal with this? Any ideas? Im not trying to fix anything, I just want to learn from my mistakes.", "summary": "Met a girl, date went well (so I though), she said it didn't go well, she's done with me."}
{"id": "t3_244430", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m] My girlfriend (21/f) has a serious problem with me having close female friends", "post": "This problem isn't as serious as many on here, so I hope it's still ok to post!\nI have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months and in general things are going great. We have established a habit of being open and honest with each other about our feelings and talking about how we feel often, which is working well so far. \n\nAn issue she has raised many times during these chats is that she feels uncomfortable with my closeness to several female friends. \nI've always had good female friends and some of them I've known for over a decade.\n\nI need advice on what to do to make my girlfriend feel more comfortable, I have tried to be as open as possible with her. I always text her and tell her what I'm up to, who I'm with, what we're doing etc and she has met the girls I hang out with. \nI'm not attracted to any of them, none of them are exes and I have never cheated in any relationship. All this being said, she still has considerable feelings of jealousy whenever I hang out with them.\n\nIt all reached a head today when she called me up to say how upset she was about a music festival I am attending with my friend Angela. Despite me organising it months ago and asking her if it was ok at the time. \n\nSo, on top of everything else I don't know how to ease her worries about me going to this festival. \nAny help or advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "My girlfriend is becoming increasingly jealous about the fact that I have many, close female friends."}
{"id": "t3_1byonp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "is it possible to get in trouble for telling someone to die in a fire?", "post": "long story short some dick sold me a fake Pokemon game on play.com. I emailed him calling him a douche for distributing fakes and said die in a fire. I left a review on his seller profile saying I received a fake game. \n\nhe emails me saying I threatened to burn his house down (?????) and that if I did not say sorry and removed my feedback then he would contact the police because I threatened him apparently. \n\na few emails of me telling him to leave me alone he threatens to send the police to my house tomorrow (he got the address from mailing me the fake game) and says the same usual shit and tries to blackmail me to remove the review or, again, threatens to get the police involved.", "summary": "can I get in trouble for telling someone who sold me a fake Pokemon game to die in a fire? since he's saying I want to burn his house down."}
{"id": "t3_1bz3me", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] My 17 year old gf doesn't seem to notice her nipple is out when we are cuddling", "post": "So my newish girlfriend of a little over two months now has been coming over every Thursday because we both have 6h period off, so we can get out really early. We go out and have lunch usually then go to my house. Thursday is a special day because my mom has to go into my dad's office (doctor) to help do some work. This means we are for the most part alone at my house for like four or five hours. My parent's employees work at our house, but they are cordoned off to a few rooms upstairs. I can go downstairs ;) with her and we can do what we like. Generally we just watch a movie, cuddle, make-out a little. The issue that arises is somehow in the process of cuddling her top becomes disheveled or is loose enough her nipple has come out multiple weeks in a row. I'm not certain if she is aware or not. We haven't done anything sexual and I don't think I'm really ready for anything past what we are doing now. Is it possible she is aware and making herself available for me or is it common for girls to just not realize they are exposed? What should I do?", "summary": "gf may or may not know her nipples are out, gets me hot and bothered"}
{"id": "t3_fyo9p", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Today I ran a half marathon without training.", "post": "I hadn't ran since November last year, but have been doing P90X for two months.  I'd started training for a half marathon in May this week, which means I'd ran about 15 mi this week.  I was due to for a 6-7mi run today so I looked for a 10K in the area.  Since there weren't any, I impulsively decided to run a half marathon instead, with a promise to myself that I'd stop and call my husband for a pick-up if I started feeling overwhelmed/injured.  I figured I'd at least get my 7mi run in!\n\nThis was my first half since 2007 and I came in 111 out of 159, with a total time of 2:20:12.  I couldn't be happier, and I'm not as sore as I expected to be.  Now that I know I can do the distance, I just need to work on speed!", "summary": "Everything went better than expected!"}
{"id": "t3_22azsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (M19) drop this girl (F20)...?", "post": "Hello,\n\nThis girl I met has been hitting on me for a while and I'm interested. However, today she said something that really bothered me. I told her I can't really cook and have much to learn and she asked me in a b**chy way how am I supposed to impress a woman if I can't cook.... I told her I was joking ( I can cook but have limited knowledge.) but it was just so...direct and rude. She replied a little cold after that and I just ignored her... She's told me she can't do some things well and I never asked \"How do you expect to impress a man?\" Not everyone knows everything, and plus she told me she's a bad cook...(lol)\n\nJust a little amazed she could be so rude...but what do you guys think? She's really cool, smart and I can talk to her like a bro but I feel like that attitude she displayed today while texting seems to foreshadow some \"drastic\" situations.", "summary": "Girl was rude to me and said I can't impress a woman without being able to cook, meanwhile she stated she can't cook well herself. "}
{"id": "t3_28pp06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my co-worker/friend [20 F] of 2 months is the dream girl.", "post": "So my coworker and I have recently started texting, over the past week. She is basically dream girl to me. Last Wednesday we go shopping, get some ice cream, and eventually watch skyfall, talking over most of.\nWe continue to text over the next few days, I invite her over tonight, we play a drinking game, and then head up to my room. We watch Mr. Nobody, which actually was a very thought provoking and odd film, ending the film at about 3am. During the movie I put my hand on her knee and she eventually puts her hand into mine and we just let it sit for 10 minutes until we both get uncomfortable. That is all that happens. \nWe then decide to flip on fight club, watch 30 minutes of it and then decide we should sleep. I hug her and say goodbye, and here I am.\n\nHow do I secure my dream girl?", "summary": "Perfect girl+Frat president=??????"}
{"id": "t3_3pdpv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF [23 M] broke up with me [22 F] after two years together, it was somewhat mutual", "post": "This happened yesterday, and we're both still in love with each other. We both love each other so deeply, but are at different stages in life. (he's finishing up college, I graduated in May) \n\nWe were in a weird phase where I was commuting to work a shitty job and staying with him for half  the week, and then commuting back home and living home for half the week. He's already decided that long distance would be too hard since he's finishing up his senior year. \n\nIdk it's just so hard.. and I could tell it was so hard for him too. Neither of us want to break up, but it's the best thing for right now. He said he doesn't want to close the door on having me in his life, but it seems unfair to string me along like that. I'm just so confused and in need off some advice.", "summary": "Bf of two years ended our strong relationship because it's for the best, but he still loves me. Not sure how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_jmkuq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I've got very severe lower back/sciatic nerve pain. Any tips/tricks/help from fellow redditors?", "post": "So here's basically what's going on: \n\nI hurt my back about 4 weeks ago by carrying around 50 pounds in a messenger bag slung sideways over my shoulder. I am having very severe and crippling pain which has moved almost 90% from my lower back down into my buttocks/hamstrings. I am going to a chiropractor three times per week and doing physical therapy there and I'm also being hooked up to a muscle stimulus machine (electrode device). \n\nI am in constant pain and can't move/sleep/stand for more than fifteen minutes at a time. I can't bend down, lay down, bend sideways, anything. Nothing I have done has eased the pain in nearly 4 weeks. I'm driving my girlfriend nuts and I feel quite helpless. I haven't been out of the house but only five times (minus the chiropractor visits) in the past four weeks.I also start back to University on Monday and I have absolutely no clue how thats going to go down. \n\nHas anyone else here suffered with this? My mother had sciatica and her episode lasted for nearly three months. There's no way I can endure this for another 8 weeks. \n\nHere's what I've done so far: ice, Advil, physical therapy, rest, pillows under legs and back while resting and laying down. tonight I am trying to sleep in a recliner which perhaps seems to be helping a tiny bit.", "summary": "I have sciatic nerve pain thats awful and is constantly at 8 or 9/10 on the pain scale. Do you have any tips or helpful hints for me to ease the pain and make recover faster?"}
{"id": "t3_3crjc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [30 F] 3 years, Told me she wants to separate left for work and wont respond to my calls. I'm freaking out!", "post": "So my wife and I have been together for three years and married for 1.5. Last night something was bothering her and I pushed her to tell me. She says she can't do this anymore and wants to separate. The reason being is I have been having worsening Libido/Intimacy problems. We keep going longer and longer spells without sex and this last one was over a month. \n\nIt's a vicious cycle. This morning I asked her to wait on her decision and let me seek professional help but I fear that she has already closed herself off to me. She left for work, I said \"I Love You\", she didn't say it back, and the elevator door closed.\n\nThus began my freak out. I messaged her all day like a scared high schooler and got nearly nothing back but a few vague \"It's difficult for me to do this now\" which made sense because she was at work.", "summary": "My wife wants to separate and I acted like a child / can I fix this or am I screwed?"}
{"id": "t3_2xzw7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My twin brother (24M) just came out of the closet and I'm worried about my parents (m&f50s)", "post": "Sorry if the formatting is weird I am submitting through mobile.\n\nAs the title describes my brother is an out bisexual now.\n\n A little background: \n\nwe come from a Hispanic Catholic family\nMy parents are very traditional\nMy twin brother likes men and women\nHe has a boyfriend of 9ish months. \n\nWe have never had problems as a family before. In fact everything has been as smooth as ever before tonight. But we all felt it was time that my parents knew. So my older brother, his wife, my twin and myself sat them down after dinner and told them. It crushed my mom. I haven't seen her this upset since her father passed away. She is scaring me because she has had health problems in the past. And I am not mentally prepared to call an ambulance to come help her if she starts hyperventilating out of control\n\nI don't know how to help. I feel pretty useless and my twin seems to be blaming himself. \n\nOur older sibling was here when the outing happen but he lives on the other side of town. So after the outing happen and my parents returned to their room my older brother and his wife went home. \n\nNow I am sitting on the couch with my mom as she cries her eyes out and I don't know how to help.", "summary": "My twin came out as an open bisexual to my parents and my mom can't stop crying. I feel useless. I don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_1eho1h", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "License suspension - Confusion", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nI am in a bit of a twisted mess here from some bad choices years ago and need some advice.\n\nI currently hold a Florida driver's license, It has been my only license in any state (Renewed one time). I was caught speeding in New Hampshire and failed to pay the ticket (dumb, I know) then a few months later visiting NH again I was in a not-at-fault accident, I was informed I had an unpaid ticket and needed to appear later that month. I did not (dumb). Got a notice at my Aunt's house in NH as it was my last known address for NH that they had suspended my license along with a bench warrant.\n\nI returned to Florida and continued life as if nothing had happened, I was laid off for a long period of time and got behind on child support (New Hampshire court order) and received a suspension letter for my license again from the child support office for non-payment. (Almost current again). At this time my Florida license was slowly getting close to expiring and I tried to renew it in person but was not allowed to due to NH suspension.  I had been pulled over for a taillight in Florida and had no mention of suspension by the officer. Few moths later I was able to renew it online with no issue (I know,I know!)\n\nStill holding my Florida license I moved to Virginia, Lived there for almost 2 years and was pulled over at one point again with no mention of the suspension, I then took a job transfer to Tennessee last month and finally want to get this all straightened out.\n\nI had a long time family friend who is a police officer in New Hampshire run my name and he said nothing comes up except basic info such as address etc and has no mention of a suspension.", "summary": "Florida License."}
{"id": "t3_3a5m37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my [23 F] on/off gf of 1 year. I need to break up but my head and heart are conflicted.", "post": "I'll keep this brief.  There are a lot of issues in the relationship.  Big issues that arent going to resolve anytime soon, and are deal-breakers for me in the long-run.  I realized not long ago that I need to let this relationship go.  \n\nThat said, she moved a long way to be with me, and we have a lease together.  She still believes in the relationship.  Supposedly.  I'm not sure how long we can go with almost no-affection either way before she stops believing in it.  \n\nI'm the only one paying rent and for most things, so I dont want to just leave her homeless.  I still do love her, and wish well for her, but I know I cant give her what she needs, and she cant give me what I need.\n\nAnd I feel like an asshole to be turning my back on our shared experiences together.\n\nSo...please help give me the courage to do what I know I need to.", "summary": "I need to break up with my gf but it hurts and I'm afraid of being miserable and alone again.  What if I dont get another chance after this? I dont want to hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_evg89", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Being forced to be Catholic...what to do?", "post": "About two or three months ago, my mom divorced my dad and he moved out.  The relationship had been bad for many years, so no suprise there (sadness, but no suprise).  A coupla weeks later, her boyfriend, who she had been \"just friends\" with when she was still married to my dad, moved in.\n\nHe is a devout Catholic, has been going to Mass every day for fortysomething years.  Ever since he moved in, she's been going with him.  Now, I have school, so I can't go every day, but she still insists that I go every weekend and go through all the rituals and shit, including getting a blessing from the priest EVERY SINGLE TIME.  In addition to that, she signs me up for all kinds of Catholic clubs and activities without asking me, to the point I'm spending much more time at the parish than desirable.\n\nNormally, I'm a go-along-to-get-along guy, but this is beginning to get on my nerves.  I'm not really sure I'm an atheist, but I've never really bought this whole Christianity thing either, I've just pretended to believe in it to keep my parents from coming down on my like a shit-ton of bricks.\n\nSo reddit, should I tell her I'm sick of this shit?  Or should I keep putting up with it until I can move out?", "summary": "My mother has been a devout Catholic ever since she met her new boyfriend after divorcing my dad.  Now she's forcing me to be a devout Catholic too, against my will.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3fkxuf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of 6 years broke up and he's taking back his agreement of me taking care of our cats.", "post": "We've had many many relationship problems over the years, and a couple years ago I asked that if we did break up I could take our cats (2).  (I was very lonely and missing my dog and at the time our apartment only allowed cats, so I really wanted to adopt one.  He was finally okay with it to make me happy and we wound up with two.)  It was brought up a couple times since then and he was always in agreement that I would take care of them.  \n\nSo recently we broke up for real and we were trying to live as roommates in our 2 bedroom apartment.  It's been very uncomfortable for me and I really just need a fresh start, as living together benefits him in many ways but me in none.  So when we were first talking about options, he was still agreeing that I would take the cats.  So I talked to him this morning that I think it was healthiest that I moved out and he just blew up at me and turned to personal attacks.\n\nFast forward - he left for most of the day after asking if I was going to \"let him home\" etc. etc. and I said I would be nice and act happy.  So when he finally got home I was actually in a good mood but he came in the door immediately demanded every piece of jewelry he ever gave me so he could destroy them, ripped up a painting he made me, and after ranting for awhile claimed the cats were his birthday present to himself so he should obviously take them and he never said I could have them.\n\nNothing has ever been recorded as far as their well-being, but I don't think he is stable to take care of them.  Is there anything I can do to make sure he can't take them?  I don't feel comfortable ever not being at the apartment if he's here because for all I know he'll steal my cats.  Any advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend broke up with me and was okay with me taking our cats, but when he found out I was okay with it and really going to move out he made up a story how they're really his and I can't take them."}
{"id": "t3_2fy4p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [22 M] keeps talking about how he wants a second dog, but he's at work all day and barely helps with the current pets", "post": "Hi, we've been together for 4 years and have moved in about half a year ago. I own an adult dog and we both own a parrot together. My boyfriend is at work all day and I have class only in the morning, so I have no problem being the primary caretaker -- it's actually really my thing. (For the uninitiated, parrot care is comparable to toddler care.)\n\nWe tried to adopt a second dog about a month ago but it didn't work out, the dog had been incorrectly labelled dog-friendly, and we had to return him. During the week that we had him I realized two things: 1) any other animal we adopt would be under my complete and total care and responsibility due to our schedules and 2) I'm very content with the way things are now compared to how it was... basically, I do not want to try again, it was too much for me to handle. \n\nSo now the boyfriend keeps talking about how he wants to try again with a second dog. I've reminded him many times that he comes home every night tired with no time for training, exercising, or socializing a dog. It's all on me. Pair that with a working dog with anxiety issues, a parrot, housework, and classes, and I will be really unhappy. He doesn't realize that it wouldn't be *his* dog, *he* doesn't want a dog, he wants a new furry thing to play with sometimes. He doesn't even help out with the bird anymore as it is, who was supposed to be *ours*. \n\nGah... what are other things to say? What are some things to do? How can I get it through his head without telling him to shut the fuck up and just listen to me? I hate hearing it all the time.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants a second dog but has no time/effort for our current pets due to work, I take care of them all. I don't mind this, but I can't handle another responsibility. He doesn't realize it wouldn't be his dog. What can I say/do to get it through his head?"}
{"id": "t3_e3xwi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stalker emails me, claims to be local, gives a crazy story, and then dies???", "post": "Okay maybe this should be in WTF...  I really just want some input or advice here.  \n\nA while ago I got an email from a guy.  Long story short he claimed to be a part of a secret organization and is a master hacker.  He knew my class schedule and would give details about when I traveled where, and where he would watch me from.  He ripped pics from my facebook (which I keep private) and made creepy wallpapers with them.  He was using a fake name which had a few other webpages linked to them.  One of which was a foot fetish blog which he immediately deleted.  \n\nHe tells me I am so beautiful and that he loves me and dreams of me all the time. He called me his princess and claimed he loves me more than anyone ever could.  He said I was the only one for him and he would be my slave.    \n\nAnyway, I suspect he is a teacher of mine and I straight up tell him so. (I'm pretty naive ok?) He then tells me all this stuff about his identity that is VERY similar to the person I suspect except for a few changed details.  He gives a TON of information about the teacher I suspect that he claims he got from the teachers 'file' by his expert hacking skills.  He gives me a name with the same initials that I cannot connect to anything (another fake name?).  \n\nSuddenly he says he is leaving the country and hitching an illegal ride on a ship out of Seattle.  He claimed he could not live life seeing me be in love with someone else and that he hates everything about his life.  I really just wanted this guy to leave me alone so I am like, whatever.  \n\nRecently I got an email from a 'friend of his' that supposedly helped him get a ride on a ship.  She claimed that he died of a heart attack (this guy was also supposed to be 30 years old) and left me a note that said he hopes to meet me in heaven.  \n\nSo reddit, WTF?", "summary": "Guy claims to know me and love me, gives me story about being a secret agent or something than then mysteriously dies.  "}
{"id": "t3_20nwgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25F) considering asking my ex (25M) if we can give the relationship another shot but I'm not sure if it's my place to ask that.", "post": "I dated this guy for 2 months and things were great. He told me early on that he may have to move to another country at some unspecified point in the future for his career but we decided to give it a shot anyway.\n\nHowever, as time passed, I started to dislike the idea of him moving away and got quite upset whenever the topic came up. No screaming or harsh words; I'll just get a little mopey and sad but I did my best to hide it. I did mention at some point that if we were still together when the time comes for him to move, I'd consider looking for a job there and move there too. Obviously, I thought that this was at some point in the not-so-immediate future and by then moving for a partner wouldn't be something THAT crazy. I'm guessing that freaked him out because quite soon after that, he broke it off saying that he didn't feel the same way if the situation was reversed and that the relationship was causing more harm than good if I'm constantly being upset about him leaving. Despite this, we decided to stay friends.\n\nFast forward a few weeks later and the friend thing seems to be working quite well, however, he has admitted to being attracted to me and has indicated that he still has feelings for me on some level. I still like him a lot and since the feelings are mutual, why not give it another try (but take it slow and casual this time) ? I'm not sure how to bring it up though and even if I did, would it be my place to suggest we try again? I mean, he DID break up with me.", "summary": "Guy I dated broke up with me because the prospect of him moving made me sad. A few weeks later and we're still quite attracted to each other so I'm thinking of suggesting that we try again but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_3u7v36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First time hanging out with the girl [22 f] dont know what i did [25 m]", "post": "Find this girl on FB, think she is super cute lets call her B - ask my mutual friend (lets call her A) to help wingman me - A replies with screenshot from B saying she thinks im really attractive and how she is thinking about going for it - Text B all day, things seem to be going well - No one is in town due to thanksgiving break. - B was supposed to leave that night, but wants to hang out - Tell B there are some parties, or we could kick it. B says its up to me. - Take the initiative and invite her over for some wine and just a low key night - Not even watching the movie, ask if we should go lay down, and finish the movie in my room, tell B i am not trying to pull anything - Try to cuddle, B is not really into it - B keeps talking about previous guys, i kept talking about relationship stories (i know i dun goof'd) - B says she is not really about relationships - B finishes her glass of wine saying she has to go pick up her friend - Walk B out, we hug, not really the moment to kiss arose - 20 mins later text B thanking her for coming over, and to get home safe - B responds that she had fun and apologizes for being tired - reply saying she is fine for going to sleep, and that hope she didnt get the wrong impression bringing her to my room. wut do? OR am i just completely overthinking this?", "summary": "I think i came off to aggressive, what is the best way to show im not aggressive or clingy?"}
{"id": "t3_g2t2t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the dumbest thing you've done as an adult that has caused the most harm?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nI was making feta stuffed jalapenos and for that you need to steam them until they get nice and soft.  I left them steaming on the stove too long so that all the water boiled out of the bottom which then started to vaporize and burn the super reduce jalapeno water creating a noxious gas.  This was right after my daughter was born so we had a bunch of family over in my small apartment.  The gas was burning our eyes and throats and stinging our skin, it was horrific.  We had to keep the baby out on the balcony until we aired out the apartment.  Fortunately effects from the gas wore off after about an hour.", "summary": "I created a noxious jalapeno gas and burned everyone's eyes, throat, and skin."}
{"id": "t3_ksese", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of had a successful, long-term relationship that began with glances across a room?", "post": "Met a potential client for coffee today in a public coffee shop. Passed a [re: gorgeous] guy putting sugar in his coffee, made eye contact, smiled, and continued to the counter to order my coffee. \n\nThen I joined my client-to-be and proceeded to discuss business with him for 45 minutes, all the while, hot guy walked to and from his car loading food he'd had catered from the chain cafe...making eye contact with me each time he walked behind my guest. And all I could think was \"damn, if only I wasn't in a meeting, I could say hi to him.\"\n\nFinally, he pretended to casually \"overhear\" something in our conversation, joined it for about one minute, exchanged cards with both of us, and left. I got a call from him an hour later. (Note: very attractive). We've been texting back and forth all day.\n\nWhat a chance meeting! I just saw him across a room. Have any of you had successful relationships that began this way?", "summary": "Saw a guy in a cafe, exchanged glances with him while otherwise occupied for an hour, he smoothly got my number anyway and now we have a date. Success stories?"}
{"id": "t3_3qi4p5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a new friend for help.", "post": "This did not happen today, it happened about a year ago. My car needed jump, so I asked my brother to ask his friend (who I newly became friends with) if he can come. My brother after giving a little thought called him up and he was sure on his way in no time. \nAs soon as I opened the hood of my car, I realized right away that the battery cables were loose. So I was like so shit, don't tell me this is the problem and I smiled at him and said hold-on let me check something first. I fixed it and try again and my car started.\nOut of nowhere, I looked at him and ended up saying you probably have to go somewhere right. He gave me a look as if I am an asshole. Few days earlier, I bitched about him as because he was drunk and my other friends were telling me, security found out and they were about to shut it down. I was like, why would you let people like him come into the party. (I got anger management issues) \nNow he doesn't want to talk to, I tried apologizing for anything that I have been doing wrong to him. He only tries to get back at me here and there, and called my brother a traitor.", "summary": "made a new friend and bitched about him."}
{"id": "t3_earms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, Have you been the cheater or \"cheated\" in a relationship?", "post": "Just over a year ago I found out that my bf had cheated on me. I decided to stay with him (bad idea?) because I really do love him. However, I can't seem to let it go. I don't bring it up in fights or anything, but I do find myself getting upset over it every now and then. I have asked him why he did it, and the response I always get is, \"I don't know what I was thinking.\" I was just wondering, as the cheater how does it make you feel if your SO won't let it go, and as the \"cheated\" do you still find yourself thinking about it or getting upset?", "summary": "how does it make you feel when your SO can't get over cheating, do you find yourself still thinking of it."}
{"id": "t3_hcs7y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I be happy people cared enough to \"take action\", or pissed off that the guy that interviewed me the other day saw me in the back of a cop car?", "post": "So i picked up my kid from school and went to Walmart, we were walking and holding hands and i'm sure at some point hugged.  Apparantly the cashier was trying to be slow to detain us.  Someone had alerted them that my daughter looked like someone from this missing persons posters they put at the entrance. By the time i was walking out the cops were there and i went into \"bitch\" mode when they were trying to grab her away from me and that landed me handcuffed in the car... of course there was a crowd at this point and one of the people gawking was a guy i was interviewed by last week", "summary": "Got detained for looking like a pedophile with a runaway"}
{"id": "t3_261rej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "16M Having troubles with some insecurities, need some advice", "post": "I'm on mobile at the moment so I can't tag, but I possibly can in the morning. \n\nI've been cheated on 3 times by 3 separate girlfriends in the past 10 months. Now I am over each one of them specifically, but it's developed some trust issues and I worry a lot now that I am in another relationship. Whenever I see my girlfriend talk to another guy (literally doesn't matter who) it bothers me, and I know there is almost no chance at all that attraction is there. I hate this, I wish it didn't bother me because I talk to other girls and it doesn't bother her. She's a competitive dancer and every once in awhile she goes on 5-6 day dance trips. I sit back in our hometown nervous as shit the entire duration wondering who's hitting on her or if anythings happening and I'll never know. I know these insecurities are stupid and I don't vocalize these things with her. \n\nShe has a little experience dating but nothing serious, and I get the good vibes she wants this to be something that lasts and she cares about me, and I feel the same way. But these insecurities are killing me and I'd really like your guys advice on this. I really like her, and really don't want to get cheated on for a fourth time.", "summary": "Been cheated on a few times, nervous it will happen again, and seeing her talk to other guys bothers me significantly, how to get rid of these insecurities?"}
{"id": "t3_4mm2i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) disinterest in sex is really hurting my girlfriend (19F) of 3 years", "post": "My girlfriend and I started as a long distance relationship when we were in high school. We met three times over the years, each time for about a week, before moving in together during the beginning of this year. Initially, our sex life was pretty great. We had sex all the time and everything was fine. Lately, though, I've been wanting to less and less and it's really hurting her self esteem and making her feel like I'm unattracted to her. \n\nThis may get a bit graphic, I just want to let you guys know why I'm not really that into it anymore in the hopes that you'll have some kind of advice as to what I can do. So generally, when we begin having sex, it's awesome. But after about a minute or so, it's like my dick goes numb. It makes it very difficult to stay into it, even though I enjoy pleasuring her. This makes me kind of dread having sex because I know it'll just end up being me trying everything I can do to make her feel good, while I'm just kind of there wishing it'd be over. Lately, we probably only have sex about once or twice a week, which is really messing with her self esteem issues. I feel awful everytime she tries to initiate it, because I just really don't want to and I know it'll end up making her feel awful. \n\nI have no idea what to do. I should probably just suck it up and do it for her. I've tried talking to her about it, but she takes it all so personally. Maybe it's just the way I phrase it. Are there any ways I can make myself more interested in having sex?", "summary": "I don't really enjoy sex anymore, and it's having a serious effect on my girlfriend's self esteem. How can I make myself more interested?"}
{"id": "t3_47zhda", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Child Labor Laws: No break and 8-hour shifts.", "post": "16 year old, working at a fast food joint, around 21 hours a week for around the last 2 weeks. I live in Wyoming.\n\nNot once, whether it be a 5 or 8 hour shift, have gotten a break. Several (3) people have told me this is highly illegal.\n\n1. At my former job, a certain Taco supplier, was strict on getting a 30 minute break in (even if it was 15 minutes in my shift). My boss told me the state would charge 1,000$ to the restaurant if I did not receive a break.  In fact she used to work under the same boss a few years back, while pregnant. She claimed it was the exact same way. I always got a break at my former job.\n\n2. My girlfriend's father, a former owner of 5-12 (certain fried chicken restaurants) also advised that it was illegal. I would assume he knows what he's saying, but he was running business in a separate state (Colorado)\n\n3. Lastly, my government teacher told me it was illegal as well. He runs concession stands for high-school events. The topic came up when I said the 6 hours I spent today working in the stand was nothing compared to my normal conditions. \n\nIf my boss is claiming to officials that I have received breaks when I have not, ever... how do I go about taking action against this. \n\nWhile I do want to quit, I also am curious if there is anything I could do in lieu of letting it continue. This isn't new for this business, they tend to have trouble keeping people. \n\nAlso she printed off 2 copies of my SS card for \"just in case the printer can't read ,\" it was in full color. I have no doubt she is malicious. Hoping she is too old and sweet to sell my identity.", "summary": "My gov. teacher said \"What's the point of these labor laws if we, as citizens, are too afraid to say when they're broken?\""}
{"id": "t3_2wyitk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/21] feel like I really don't care about most people and I want to change that", "post": "I care about people in general, but when it comes down to individuals, I get so bored and annoyed with other people's lives. Most people don't genuinely care about how their cashier's day is going when they ask, but I feel like that about everybody, including my best friends. \n\nWhen my friends tell me stuff about their lives, it's all I can do to concentrate enough that I can respond appropriately. This makes me feel really narcissistic and just like a terrible friend in general, but I just can't bring myself to actually care about why somebody broke up with their SO or where they're going for spring break.\n\nSince sharing stuff like that is a big part of friendship, I feel like I'm not actually friends with any of my friends. I've been sharing less and less with them too, as I wonder if my friends are thinking the same thing when I talk. The only person who I think I genuinely care about is my boyfriend. And now I'm worried that that care will fade and our relationship will end because of my apparent narcissism.\n\nAnybody ever felt like this?", "summary": "I have been losing interest in my friend's lives and it makes me feel really selfish. How can I start to care about them again?"}
{"id": "t3_kwkse", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Want to name a product [And win an Android Tablet]?", "post": "What we are trying to name is a product the owner has developed and has patent pending status. It's a small custom fiber cloth that attaches to the inside cover (so you always have it handy when needed) for your iPad, Zoom, (or other tablet case) and cleans fingerprints and other smudges like none other. The product will be retailed for around $5. \n\nI will take the top 5 comments (as long as they are brand name suggestions) and write a follow up post with a poll. \nWhoever wins on the poll gets to try this product out, with a brand new Android Tablet. \n\nVoting Closes Saturday Morning at 2:00 AM CST.", "summary": "Name a product, maybe win a tablet."}
{"id": "t3_1hput7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you think you're able to confront yourself and admit your insecurities?", "post": "Recently my cousin came to me with a proposition. He told me that I was living a facade because I was afraid of judgement. He told me I was hiding. Then he challenged me to a year of accountability with myself. Step one? Publicly admitting the things about myself that I've been running from. Facing them head on and letting the world know so the people in my life can help me grow. So I told those close to me and then I posted it publicly on Facebook. Surprisingly I received an alarming number of people who then did the same in return, they shared everything with me. So I thought I would ask the amazing people of reddit if they would like to join me on this journey of accountability. Do you want to face yourself and admit those things about yourself that scare you? I'll post mine in the comments as well.", "summary": "I'm doing a challenge where I post my biggest insecurities and face them head on, and I'm asking reddit to join me."}
{"id": "t3_3941i1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'll (24/M) will probably lose touch with my father (45/M) if we ever decide to move to separate places.", "post": "So my relationship with my father is a strained one with a long history of arguments, hurt feelings, neglect and guilt.\n\nGrowing up lets just say he was a less than attentive father and I came to terms with it fairly quickly in life. My mother and father have been separated since I can remember and both were very young when they had me.\n\nWithout going in depth with my entire childhood we'll just say I never felt welcome and always felt like a huge burden in every sense to both of my parents. Living with my father it was especially hard when he chose his new wife and her daughters over me. Parties were attended, family photos were captured and trips to who-knows-where happened without me. Through this I learned independence and self-sufficiency where I kind of just accepted it and figured it wasn't worth my time to yearn for attention. However, Recently we've found a lull in or out bursts and have been really calm. Lately we've been trying to have conversations about whatever nonsense comes up and small talk here and there. For god sakes we teamed up the other day to change all four rotors on my car so that I could be done before nightfall. It's been an interesting last 10 months...\n\nI'm completely able to be on my own and financially stable, but I just haven't decided to up and desert the man yet. Maybe its my ENTJ nature where I cut losses and move on but I can feel that my father and I will not have a strong enough bond after we move on to pretend to be related. \n\nI think I've accepted this already and it's a shame. Knowing that for years I'll probably forget about him and even worse is that maybe when I have grandkids that they'll probably never meet grandpa.", "summary": "Father and I aren't all that close and I feel like when I leave to live my own life that we will never talk to each other again. "}
{"id": "t3_l7k3w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone good with washers/dryers?  I need help!!", "post": "Alright, so i'm a fifteen year old, and today, something terrible happened.  I have a samsung VRT steam front load dryer.  This morning, i went to get clothes out of it.  I turned the drum a little to toss around the clothing to see if i could find something that i wanted to wear in there.  When i turned it about a full way, i heard a pop, i htought nothing of it until i came home to an angry mother telling me the dryers broken.  She said the belt snapped, and now the drum will not spin. a new belt costs 400 dollars. Now she is making me give her all of my paychecks, which i get 750 an hour, and can only work 1 day a week, so you do the math. Plus, not to sound this way, but i would kind of appreciate buying skyrim instead of giving my money away for a stupid accident.  IS there anything anyone can tell me that might help me!!!???", "summary": "Accidentally broke dryer belt, cost 400 buck, dont have 400 bucks.  Anything i can do?"}
{"id": "t3_sm4y5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mother is depressed and I'm pretty sure she's dying and I feel like I hate her for it. Am I a bad person?", "post": "In order to fully convey my situation I have to give a bit of backstory so please bear with me. So my life so far isn't exactly the greatest. I'll admit it wasn't the best but there definately is worse out there that probably pales in comparison to alot of other lives but here I go. I grew up with my sister and my mom was a pretty strong woman who practically raised us alone as my father was an abusive alchoholic.We never really had much money,we were kinda poor but we never were living in poverty. She did her best to protect us from our father and he didn't get kicked out til I was 14. After that things went downhill. All the guys she brought home(who are usually criminals)have screwed us over(being deadbeats,being assholes,stealing money from us and spending it on drugs and alchohol etc.) and she's never learned. Recently she has been diagnosed with the initial stages of muscular dystrophy, her kidneys are failing,she's constantly depressed,always crying,barely gets out of bed and won't do anything to fix her situation and has basically given up and now I feel like I hate her because of how weak and sad she has become. My sister and I have tried to support her all throughout this and I am always constantly trying to comfort her but I just do not care anymore. No one can ever be happy in the house and I just want to get away from my family entirely. I'm 18 now and graduating highschool this year,I'm staying home a year to help out while going to my town's university but I just want to get away as soon as possible and be done with it. I don't feel bad or guilty about having those feelings and thinking those thoughts and I wonder,does that make me a bad person?", "summary": "went through crappy quality life and now wants to abandon disabled mother and cut off contact. Am I an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_3q8r7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] have \"almost arguments\" with my wife [28 F] about cleanliness of things and related topics. Reddit, am I just a slob, or is she being unreasonable or (medically) OCD? Looking for opinions.", "post": "So we've been married for quite a while, and get along famously on nearly everything. Except for one category, and that's the general sanitation level of things.\n\nWe both like to keep an orderly house, but specifically I mean things like sitting on a bed after having worn pants outside and sat down places. One time she acted like I was crazy for putting some jeans I had worn a few times (just out and about) back into a dresser drawer that I use for gym shorts and mostly clean things.\n\nIt's this among other things, with more examples I can give if necessary. The reason this bugs me from a relationships point of view is that while so far I've tried to just be glad that she's clean and tidy instead of falling to the other side of things and picking my battles elsewhere, this wears on me when through shock and surprise she kind of makes me feel like I was raised in a barn.\n\nI am truly not sure whether I am in the wrong or is she on some of these things though. I don't possess the exact biological knowledge to say whether there's is reason or rhyme to this type of thing, but in general I just don't stress over the bottom of a piece of luggage that truly makes me wrong for putting it on the bed. I don't know. Or if it's normal to feel the need to run a bleach only cycle to \"clean out\" the washing machine after a load of soiled laundry went through previously.", "summary": "Based on the above examples, am I the dirty one or is she being a little obsessive? Is it worth confronting her about or just don't sweat the small stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_oep6a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your theories for the mysteries of life?", "post": "Please nothing religious or currently accepted by the scientific society today. Just things that maybe you don't personally believe but just as long as it is *your* original theory.\n\nI'll go first. I think that the universe actually never had a beginning or end, but that our brains have never actually witnessed something that never starts or ends simply because we start and end ourselves. So our human brains cannot comprehend something that has no beginning or end and so we have to try to set deadlines for the beginning and end of our universe, when in reality it has existed forever and has no beginning.", "summary": "my theory is that our brains cannot comprehend something forever lasting such as our universe."}
{"id": "t3_4sw951", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [21F] with [22M]. Can't tell if he's messing with me or just really weird/shy?", "post": "I've had a crush on this guy from my gym for the past 2 years. Long story short, I found out he was interested in me back in May and we started texting.  \n\nWe always planned to meet at the gym at the same time. He actually seemed pretty shy because he would never say hi to me at the gym first. I'd always have to approach him first, but we'd have decent conversation, and he'd always hug me goodbye. We went on our first date after 2 weeks of texting & meeting up at the gym, and the date went really well, but he just stopped talking to me for no reason after this. He just ignored me at the gym and stopped responding to texts.    \n\nTwo weeks ago, we match on Tinder and I message him on there. He tells me to text him and we talk for like two days, then he disappears again.  \n\nTwo days ago, he randomly texted me and said \"I wanted to talk to you at the gym, but you're always talking to other people.\" I asked him to just come up and talk to me, and he goes \"Idk why I do or don't do things. I'm weird and just really shy.\" Then he send me a shirtless pic of himself.   \n\nI saw him at the gym yesterday, we talked, and he gave me a hug before I left. I texted him today and he responded, but when I invited him to go out with me and my friends tonight, he just never replied. I don't get if he's just fucking with me or what.", "summary": "Dude is sending mixed signals. I can't tell if he's uninterested and just messing with me, or incredibly weird/shy/awkward."}
{"id": "t3_1i24wu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] made eye contact with a perfect looking girl [19ish/F] but she was with her father.", "post": "This is my first time using this subreddit and I'm not sure if this is the right place for this question, but:\n\nBasically I was standing in line with a friend at a yogurt shop when I noticed the girl directly in front of me kept on making weird and frequent glances sideways towards my direction, of which we eventually held eye contact for a split second. I got a look at her and I realized she seemed like a girl who I would really be interested in. Normally I would have spoken up, but I noticed she was with her dad. I have nothing in the play book about getting to interact with her without setting of any awkwardness with the dad, especially since we were strangers. I left the two and I was on my way, but since I've had this feeling that was bothering me about what I could have said or done to capture her attention.\n\nI'm asking if anyone could think of the best/right thing to have done in that situation, so that in the freak chance it ever happens to me or anyone else, there is still hope.", "summary": "How do you introduce yourself to a girl if her father is with her"}
{"id": "t3_1207ca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update! 22[M] Having serious issue with violent girlfriend 22[F]. Please help!", "post": "*", "summary": "Got the hell out of dodge!"}
{"id": "t3_4j3f2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 F] with my exes [30-45 Ms] , Tell me your philosophy with exes?", "post": "reddit my peeps, how do you deal with exes? this is something i struggle with a lot. i love my exes, that's why i dated them. even the evilest ex (who was abusive and cheated mercilessly on me etc) i still love. i don't keep in contact with that particular one, but others i do occasionally via the internet. for me though i move around a lot and it's not like i run into them in one town. so i don't have an in-person relationship with any of them because they are scattered around the world\u2026. so i wonder, for people in the same cities as their exes, how involved are you in each other's lives? did you salvage any of the good parts of your relationship when you broke up? do you miss them? do you talk at all? do you sometimes have sex? do you run into each other? do you see them with their new partners and vice versa? or, do you cut them off and block mercilessly? (why?)", "summary": "in general in your life how does it seem to go with exes?"}
{"id": "t3_4tln9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] am uncomfortable with my girlfriend's [25F] Facebook pictures that include her ex. Is it fair ask her to take them down?", "post": "To provide more color, I find it uncomfortable when I randomly click on my girlfriend's Facebook pictures, because her ex is in about half of them. What makes it extra weird is that I knew the guy/was kind of friends with him at one point in time while the two of them were dating. Additionally, the two of them were together for 5 years.\n\nAdmittedly, I am a pretty insecure dude, and when I see the pictures I imagine how they were together, and if she said the same things to him she said to me, if they did the same things together that we do, how their sex was, if their sex was better than ours, etc. So I suppose the pictures just trigger all of that. \n\nWe don't have any recent pictures of each other on Facebook either. I am fine with this, and that doesn't need to change. However, the most recent pictures she has is of this person with whom she was with for 5 years. So with both of those things in conjunction with one another, it makes me feel weird and kind of sad. \n\nFor the record, I always untag myself from pictures with any of my exes. I treat these pictures as my memories, my history, and in the past. Keeping the pictures on Facebook keeps the memories in the present.", "summary": "Gf's FB pics of ex makes me feel uncomfortable, as it draws up images in my head. Can I ask her to take them down or am I blowing it out of proportion?"}
{"id": "t3_3ivedg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Annulment possible after 7 years? Kansas", "post": "I have been trying to get rid of him for years, but every time I brought up separating, he threatened to kill himself.  Now that my kids are all out of the house, that threat will no longer stop me.\nI am making an appointment with an attorney asap, but basically I married a guy who just saw me as a meal ticket.  He lied about everything from his credit(liens, judgements, IRS issues) to what appears to be a long list of mental issues(Narcissist).  I NEVER would have married him if I had known the whole story.  I just recently found out he had been evicted from EVERY apartment he ever had.  EVERYTHING is in my name.  House, vehicles, CC's, bank accounts, loans.  I have proof - letters he has written and signed, voice recordings of him admitting all of the garbage he has done - do I stand a chance of getting this disaster annulled?", "summary": "Married crazy, desperately need annulment."}
{"id": "t3_4e4yav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need good advice please! [21M] need to show I still care about [20F]", "post": "Hey guys, I'm a college student and was best friends with this girl in high school, we talked about everything and we both knew that we really cared about each other. Through out high school we hung out, hooked up a few times but she had an on and off boyfriend so nothing really happened. I always told her how much she meant to me and that I wanted to be more than friends. \n\nLong story short, I let my feelings get in the way of our friendship and pushed her away. I went off to college and we didn't really talk much for the next 2 years until I texted her one night telling her I fucked up and was immature and that I missed our friendship. She told me she didn't handle it the right way either and that she missed me. We talked on and off for a few months then it kind of faded because we were both at school. The whole time we didn't talk I knew I still had feelings for her and still do up to this day even though we go to school in different cities. \n\nShe means a lot to me and all I ever wanted was for her to be happy (her HS boyfriend was a dick and they broke up). Can anyone give me their opinion on the situation and some advice on how to go about showing her that I still care?", "summary": "Need to rekindle with old friend"}
{"id": "t3_36cbjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) for the second time in my life, have been told by another girl (20F) that I am too good for them. What does that even mean?", "post": "It seems like a back handed compliment. The first time it ever happened in my life I found out she felt I was \"boyfriend material\" and more than just a \"quick thing\". Then, this most recent time I had a trusted female friend innocently inquire with this girl I was interested in what she thought of me and she told my friend I was too good for her.\n\nWhat these two girls had in common is that they were/are both sort of wild, sleep around a lot types. Something I obviously have no problem with. I'm adding this detail for the off chance there's a correlation. I MEAN NO OFFENSE.\n\nConfused and slightly hurt.", "summary": "Classic situation of guy is too nice"}
{"id": "t3_3dpxfp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Shy friend confesses his love", "post": "I don't really know what to do or say.\n\nOne year ago I got into a new class where I already had a couple of friends. Over the course of the first three or four weeks I became friends with others as well. One of them was a guy who we'll call Terry. Terry was one of those kids that would always be quiet in class, never show emotions, never make jokes out of fear that somebody would say something and generally not one of \"the cool kids\", but I guess we just all liked to hang around with each other. Year's ending in a week and we, as a group, spend more time with each other now that exams and school are mainly over and also talked a lot about emotions and ambitions. On monday he found out that he did not pass the year and will have to repeat this grade (Germany, don't know how it is in america but here you repeat the whole grade = new class). \n\nYesterday night, we chat about this and that like usual. Then he starts talking about his life. He seriously wrote me texts that took him like 10 minutes to write and were very long. He wrote things about how his life was terrible with people around him dying, his parents getting divorced, the one girl he loved basically ruining his whole middle school girls and others destroying all confidence he ever had. At one point he started crying he wrote. Of course, being the friend I am, I was nice and understanding and tried all I could to make him feel better and calm him down (as well as that works over the internet).\n\nThen he told me he was gay and that he loved me like nobody else before. That I mean so much to him and seem to be the only one who cares about him.\n\nI really don't know how to handle this situation, we wanted to watch a movie tomorrow (as a group), next week we were going to a party and I was to stay at his place for a week next month. I am 100% straight", "summary": "shy, before friendless male friend confesses his gay love to straight me."}
{"id": "t3_3tslgr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching netflix", "post": "Today I decided to make myself some breaded chicken cutlets.  Now, I'm not much of a chef, so all of my information was from youtube.  Unfortunately, youtube does not include the part about turning the stove off.  I lay down in my bed to watch Netflix, and fell asleep halfway through my show.  I woke up choking on plastic fumes, and threw up immediately, before throwing water on the stove and putting out the flames.  Turned out the leftover olive oil had ignited, and had melted a plastic ladle.  I spent the next several hours airing out my apartment.  Just got off the phone with poison control and they said as long as it is sufficiently ventilated it is safe to sleep.", "summary": "Fell asleep watching Netflix, left the stove on, woke up choking on plastic fumes."}
{"id": "t3_1bw1jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(21f) feel like I'm unreasonably upset about something my (m21) did last night.", "post": "Last night I left the bar early with my friends because I was tired and bored. My boyfriend was there and had planned on leaving too and watching a movie with me. But he forgot about this when his friends told him they were coming to the bar we were at. He said he would stay only about 15 minutes then leave. \n\nWell he ended up staying more than an hour and a half. A little after two My bf texts me \"I should just come over and crash at your place\". Guys can't sleep over in my sorority house and he knows this. So I decide I'll just meet up with him and we can get a bus to his place. I call and call and he doesnt answer so I just head over, I sleep at his place 99% of the time anyway. By the time I get outside his place I'm worried because he hasnt responded in over half an hour and we were in the middle of making plans. So I get there and hes in his bedroom alone with a girl friend, that he knows I don't like. I don't like her because the first time he introduced me to her she just brushed me off and barely said hi before turning and walking away. And she just gives off this vibe that she thinks shes hot shit and she is always drunk. \n\nMy bf apologized for not telling me she was coming to his place. He said that she just wanted to hang out longer, she doesn't go here so they rarely see each other. And he also explained his phone was charging when I'd been calling. I now know they didnt do anything and I'm mad over nothing but I still feel upset and don't know how to get over it.", "summary": "I still am kinda upset that my bf kinda ditched me to hang with his friends, then had this girl I don't like up to his room alone when we were making plans to spend the night"}
{"id": "t3_ssx5f", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My sister's dog was picked up by animal control, $150 to get him out and she can't afford it.  He'll be euthanized in 2 days if she doesn't pay up.", "post": "My sister has had this dog for the longest time, he's been shuffled around our family from time to time when she couldn't keep him due to being a renter.  I had him for a year and had to give him back to her because I moved into a smaller place.  I told her to keep him until the end of this year and I would take him back but he managed to get out of his yard today and got locked up by animal control it's going to cost her $150 to get him out or he'll be put to sleep!  He's about 11 years old, the sweetest beagle in the world! He doesn't bark he's great with kids and he's just a bug ol teddy bear! I don't know what to do!! I can't let him be put to sleep but I can't afford to help her! :-( \n\n[Brody] That's him.", "summary": "My sisters dog got loose, put in doggy jail, and it will cost $150 to get him out, family can't afford to get him out, if he doesn't get out, he'll be put to sleep."}
{"id": "t3_37wyt6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] My friend's (18/f) boyfired (21/m) mite be 'covert emotional manipulating her' what do I do?", "post": "Okay so My friend lets call her Stacey. Stacey's boyfriend doesn't like her hanging out with her friends cause he gets jealous, and won't talk her to days if she does this. She missed important events like her sisters 21 birthday cause he didn't want her to go and get dressed up. They talk constantly together, and if she answers late then he will get mad and ignore her. Yet he will ignore her for long periods of time, and not answer right away and get mad if she confronts him about it. She's depressed and she told me, that he has so much power over her that if he is mad at her then Stacey feels like shit. She normally doesn't cry much, but now she crys all the time has anxiety, etc. And now he doesn't want her to go to this 'thing' that is super important to her, and she doesn't know what to do.\n\nI don't know what I should do about this, should I tell her that I think he is emotionally manipulating her? I'm kinda awkward and I never know how to handle these situation...Especially when it involves relationships (never had one). I tried telling her the other day, but it just came out awkward...and I don't think she got what I mean... I normally have the philosophy 'live and let live', so I don't do anything about it cause it's their life.....but....Stacey is important to me, and I don't like her being in so much pain....she even bought tickets to travel to him (long distance relationship)", "summary": "My friend's bf won't let her hangout with others, she feels like poop, but loves him too much to break up w/ him. Idk how to human, how do I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_3uuh6b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a guy 80p", "post": "So not only did this happen today but it is also my first major fuck up. \nWhilst paying at a machine for my train ticket by card a random man approached me and asked if I could spare 80p - being the kind and generous person I am, I took my purse out of my bag and managed to count out 80p in small change which I gave to him. - he blessed me and walked off.   \n  \n\n  Now that I have done my good deed for the day I collect my train ticket and put it in my pocket. Thats when I realise that my bank card isn't there. I check the ticket machine but its not there either.  \n  \n   \nThinking that this guy stole my card I look around for any police officers but don't see any, I tell two men that work at the station and point out the man to them whilst explaining the whole situation, then I see two police officers and explain to them what has happened. The police officers approach the man and ask him to put his hands on a table.  \n  \n\nThat's when I find my bank card.   \n  \nTurns out I had put it in my pocket as the man approached me and had not thought to put it in the pocket it had come from.   \n  \nI apologised to the police men and to the man accused, they were all fine and I got on my train where I am now writing this.", "summary": "Gave a guy 80p and then falsely accused him directly to police of stealing my bank card.   "}
{"id": "t3_3g5tjp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Went on a date with a girl, felt like we hit it off. Now she tells me she's seeing someone.", "post": "I met a girl at my old job and I felt like we connected right away. She went on vacation and I transferred to another office in town. When she came back from her vacation she added me on Facebook and started messaging me. We started talking back and forth for a bit to the point where I felt comfortable asking her out. \n\nShe said yes so we went out for a couple beers and ended up talking for almost 5 hours. I had an amazing time talking with this person, I felt like we really hit it off and picked up right where we left off at work. When we were done I payed the tab and drove her home. \n\nThe next day I texted her saying I had a great time and wanted to know if we could go out again the following weekend. I didn't hear from her for almost a week (which is understandable, life happens) but when I did hear from her she said she, \"...had a great time too but I am already seeing someone.\"\n\nI'm a bit confused, but I suppose it's my fault for assuming she was single in the first place.\n\nBasically, I would like some advice on how to respond. I do like this person, but I don't want to create an awkward situation. *I've never really been in this situation before and would like to respond respectfully and move on.", "summary": "Asked a girl out. Went 'really' well. Asked for a second date. Turns out she's seeing someone. Advice on how to respond?"}
{"id": "t3_1jegxr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[16/M] and my SO [15/F], spending time together (5 months together)", "post": "So pretty much we've been together for close to 5 months and I can say things are going well. It's not exactly about us, but it's more about our parents. I don't want to sound like a whining teenager, but I just wanted to view if it's too much or too little.\n\nSo we spend about 1-2 days together per week. Whether it's shopping, movies, amusement parks, or chilling at her house. Some days it can range to almost the entire day. From morning to night. While other days it can be like 3-4 hours. Mostly it's 3-4 hours. Usually it's only morning to night when we go to amusement parks.\n\nBy the way my parents are putting things and setting things when I hang out with her. I'm getting the idea that they think we hang out too much. We don't go to the amusement park that much we've gone twice in my knowledge at least. \n\n**Here's the problem.** We wanted to go watch Wolverine tomorrow as our summer concludes since we start school next week. Though both of our parents are giving us a bit of a hard time about it. Since I wanted to go back to her house and just eat dinner with her family and talk to her brother a little bit.\n\n It was going to be our \"final plan\" for the summer. When we go back to school we won't talk to each other as often since we have sports to play, homework, church, etc. Planning dates will be nearly impossible to line up our schedule so we can go some where together.", "summary": "We go out on dates 1-2 days per week. Sometimes maybe 1 out of 4 dates we'll spend an entire day together. Our parents think we spend too much time together because both of our parents had long distance relationships. We wanted to go watch Wolverine tomorrow (Wednesday 31st) as our final plan of the summer. **Are we hanging out too much?** plus when school starts it'll be impossible to get our schedules to line up to do something."}
{"id": "t3_1d1xv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am covering for my friend's affair and hate it", "post": "I (28/f) have been friends with...let's call her Heidi (32/f)...for about a year. She is from Germany but has been married to an American man for about 5 years. She's absolutely miserable in her marriage but relies on her husband financially and also to stay here in the US. He's a strange guy but I like him and don't want to see him hurt. Heidi recently met a man who she is smitten with and has started up an affair with him. She has been using me as a \"cover up\" and tells her husband she is out with me when she is really out with the new guy. Her husband doesn't think twice because I'm a nice girl and he really trusts me. I can certainly see both sides of the story here since I've been in miserable relationships, though I prefer being honest with your partner. I know she can't really leave her husband easily because of her circumstances, but I hate being the person to cover for her. She seems incredibly happy, almost like a different person. I feel that she will be found out and I will end up being a bad guy in all this. She doesn't have a lot of other friends to cover for her either if she carries on with this. Does anyone have any advice for me?", "summary": "My foreign friend is using me as a cover up for her affair but needs to keep it a secret from her husband for citizenship and financial reasons. I don't want to end up being the bad guy in all this."}
{"id": "t3_1d46rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Neighbor (12M) asked husband (33M) if he was gay during \"Take Your Son To Work Day\". Help me (30F) delicately approach this...", "post": "My husband and I (33M and 30F) have an awesome relationship with our downstairs neighbors. Two awesome boys in a single-mom household. Mom is great. My husband and I are sort've \"the cool neighbors\" that offer advice, help with homework, celebrate good grades with pizzas, etc. I pay our neighbor (12M) to take care of my dog before and after school. I travel quite a bit for work, and this arrangement helps us out quite a bit. In short - we have helped build a nice community.\n\nToday, my husband took our neighbor (I'll call him J) as his \"son\" to \"Take Your Son to Work Day.\" While he introduced J to his group of work associates, J said something like, \"I'm no homo.\" The group laughed, but husband was a little taken aback. It kind've embarrassed him.\n\nLater in the afternoon, J asked my husband if he was gay. My husband told him no. My husband came home pretty irritated at J because he asked him this question. \n\nI think that J was just trying to be \"cool\" in front of a group of grown-ups, but I don't know where the \"are you gay\"? question comes in. I feel comfortable talking to J about what happened today, but I was wondering how to bring it up. Husband is planning on taking J with him to a rugby tournament, and I don't want this sort've \"cool putdown\" behavior to continue. I know that this would be better \"man talk\" between J and husband, but I think that J may feel less self-conscious if I talked to him.\n\nI am open to any advice - Thanks!", "summary": "Husband (33M) took neighbor (12M) to \"Take Your Son to Work Day\". Neighbor embarrassed him and asked if husband was gay. How can I (30F) help?"}
{"id": "t3_zadke", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got drunk last night and fucked a cougar, about 3 times my age; What are your drunken shenanigans Reddit?", "post": "So I was partying with some step family last night and we all started drinking and what not. My step cousins girlfriends aunt came and was parading around her huge double d's and flirting with anyone. For her age she was pretty attractive, but a little chubby for my taste.(I'm 5'10 about 160lbs she looked about 180lbs 5'9).\n Well she walked out and my smashed self followed her for no apparent reason, one thing lead to another and I lead her over to a shadowed area of this night time suburban area where we were partying. We did the deed, to my surprise she seemed to enjoy quite a lot. I don't mean to sound under confident with my sexual abilities but I was pretty concerned about the proportions she was just a bit bigger than I am! Got a text the next morning from my step cousin, \n\"Dude you fucked (his girlfriends name)'s aunt curbside? Good job!\"\nI kind of regret it.. I feel dirty.", "summary": "Got too drunk, fucked a cougar, thug life."}
{"id": "t3_53o908", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 M] with my classmate [13 F]. I feel like I have a crush on her and I'm not sure what I should do.", "post": "First off, with some background. My country's educational system is a bit different (I think?) so I've got some explaining to do.\n\n*If you don't care about the educational system, then just skip this* We start school at age 7, and mostly, until we finish 8th grade and go to high school we have a class. All of the kids are the same ages and we've known each other for 9 years (including kindergarten because we're all from a small town). At school, the teachers enter our class, and not vice-versa, it's a bit complicated so I'm not going into any detail.\n\nAnyway, there is this girl that I've known for around 9-10 years, I guess? I kinda like her, and I recently realized that she might like me too, but I'm not sure. She's smart, she's loyal and she has the key to my heart (PM me if you got that reference, I want to feel good about myself).\n\nI've got 2 problems. One that I'm going to address today and *maybe* I'll ask the other in about 5 years if we'll be a couple.\n\n**Important problem** - I can speak to girls, just not the ones that I like. I don't know how to ask her out, maybe, or ask her number without coming off as weird because she might not feel the same as I do.\n\nAlso, classmates are assholes and they'll probably going to laugh at me (or her) because you know how 13 year olds behave, so I guess asking her in private would be better?\n\n**Less important problem** - she's not the same ethnicity as me, so even though my parents aren't racist, I don't know how they'll react, but still, relationships from middle school tend to not last much.\n\n**Just an observation** - English is my second language.", "summary": "I like a girl from my class, classmates are assholes and they might make fun of me, I also am not sure if she likes me. Should I ask her in private, should I ask her at all, and if I do ask her, how do I ignore people that would make fun of me?"}
{"id": "t3_3dcyw7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking looking sketchy.", "post": "So today my friends and I were getting things to go spray painting. It was my first time going and I thought that it would be a good idea if I brought a head wrap. I have one laying around for other purposes, but today I was using it to cover my face so paint would not get on me. Fast forward about an hour. We are getting close to the location and one of my buddies starts to hand out latex gloves to prevent us from spray painting our hands. I put on the gloves and I pull the wrap up around my face so that my neck is covered too. To paint the picture, I'm wearing mostly black, my black baseball cap is on backwards, my face is covered, and I'm wearing white latex gloves. We are seriously three minutes away and we see two chicks flying kites, in the dark. My buddy that is driving thinks that he can work some magic and get a number from one of them. I'm riding shotgun. He pulls up to them, rolls down his windows, and starts talking to them. I don't think they can see me, and I didn't really think about how I may have looked to others... My buddy made a lame joke that everyone laughed at, then they noticed me. One of them pokes her head in the fucking window and asks in a nervous voice, \"Why are you wearing a bandana and gloves?\" I didn't anticipate that so I said, \"I've had a cold... And I don't want to get anyone else sick.\" The girl looked back to her friend and started to back away keeping her eyes on the car. \"Well, we have to go...\" She said with a hint of terror in her voice. I realized that I looked freaky, so I uncovered my face and said something to the effect of, \"I swear I'm not sketchy!\" And the bolted away. My buddy just looks at me and says, \"Damnit smokedemon! Why do you have to be a sketchy bro?\" I look down in shame... \"They probably thought we were going to abduct them or some shit!\" He continued. Now I feel bad that I sketched out those girls, and prevented my buddy from getting a number.", "summary": "It turns out that if you look like a potential abductor, chicks will b-line away..."}
{"id": "t3_2rh2f4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] Apparent problem, but I don't know what. How worried should I be?", "post": "My girlfriend [25] of nearly a year usually texts me a lot when we aren't together. Yesterday, I noticed she wasn't texting me at all.  When I asked her if she was OK today, she said \"IDK.\"  I asked her what's wrong and she said \"Suddenly, I feel like I don't know where we're going.\"  I thought she meant money, career, financial stuff (she's about to graduate and I just graduated 18 months ago and there is a lot of uncertainty).  \nShe clarified that she meant she was talking about us.  \n\nWhen I tried to understand what was making her feel this way, she said \"can we talk about this later?  I'm not ready to talk about it.\"\n\nShe still isn't ready to talk about it.  I have no idea what is going on, or what brought this about.  This seems like it came out of nowhere, but obviously it didn't.  Obviously there is something behind it, but she won't communicate with me.  \n\nI love her so very much, and it didn't seem like we had any major problems.  \n\nI've been so worried the last seven hours that I'm physically ill. I'm nauseous, and my heart rate has been uncomfortably high.\n\nHow concerned should I be and what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is worried about where we're headed, but was very vague and won't communicate."}
{"id": "t3_1n7aqp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I explain my innocent situation that doesn't look innocent", "post": "hello I have found myself in a bit of a pickle. A couple months ago I found myself talking to a girl who is a camwhore on a website. she tells me she's never done it and wants to give me a free show. I respectfully decline cause I have a girlfriend but i continue talking to this camwhore cause I'm honestly curious what her life is like in that buisness. I am nothing but proffesional with her. one day I end up letting her text me. But since then all she does is text me asking me to come watch her. I've bitched her out for this a few times. two nights ago she texted me and started a normal convo then said \"so...you wanna have some fun? ;)\" and I said no thanks. then yesterday I find out that My girlfriend went through my texts and saw that last exchange and wants to talk to me when she gets off of work in 3 hours. I have no idea what to tell her cause I highly doubt she will buy this. what should I say???", "summary": "camwhore texted me saying \"so... wanna have some fun\" and my girlfriend saw it. how do I explain??? "}
{"id": "t3_3sln07", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[help] Roommate is terrible dog owner; what are my ethical obligations?", "post": "My roommate has a 17 month old vizsla named Ava. My roommate doesn't exercise her at all, unless letting her outside to pee somehow 'counts'. As a result, she is bored and impressively destructive when left alone in the house. \n\nThe other day she tore up a huge section of carpet, ate all of the bathroom trash, chewed the lid off a prescription pill bottle, which mercifully/luckily contained penicillin, ate a plastic toy, half a big bag of sour patch kids, cough drops, ect....\n\nI told my roommate and his solution was to resort to her kennel. Ava has spent nearly all of yesterday and 10 hours today in her kennel. I finally realized she was in there and let her out, played fetch with her and fed her, but it's frustrating because she's not my dog.\n\nFinally, my question: what are my options/ethical obligations? Clearly my roommate is not able to adequately care for Ava, and I feel awful that she is forced to spend so much time in her crate. Should I call animal control? Confront him?", "summary": "My roommate is neglecting his dog and I want to help the dog but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_2d0qkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22m) need an outside perspective on LDR with girlfriend (23f) of 7 months.", "post": "My issue is this... my girlfriend, Carla, went on a vacation to South America beginning of July and came back 2 weeks later. Ever since shes been back, she has developed this new habit of going to \"sleep\" very early every day.\n\nThis is relevant because prior to this trip, she could function daily with only 5 hours of sleep. Our time is nearly nonexistent, its as if shes lost interest. She has made time to hang out with friends and family, but having a video chat and actual topic of conversation is not occurring. \n\nIn fact she just got out of a movie with her \"cousin\" and is spending the weekend at a lakehouse.\n\nI have made mention of feeling neglected, and I just get a sorry and \"I love you.\"\n\nIm concerned I'm being blinded by my feelings for her. I'm not insecure, but its a LDR and habits have completely altered our relationship. Most notably, falling asleep on call doesn't happen as it used to, so my mind wanders to cheating.", "summary": "Girlfriend in LDR has developed relationship altering habits since return from vacation."}
{"id": "t3_1739wr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst you've ever been fucked over my someone?", "post": "Hey guys,\nI just found out my girlfriend of two years just recently cheated on me and that the majority if things in our relationship has just been one lie after the other. \nI'm currently sitting out on my balcony smoking an old half smoked cigarette I must have dropped out here at some point, because I have no money left this paycheck after spending pretty much all of it on a wedding ring. \nSo tell me so I can keep my mind occupied on this hazy, and downright shitty night, ** what's the worst someone has ever screwed you over?** I mean seriously left a bad taste in your mouth comparable to battery acid infused chewable aspirin.", "summary": "Girlfriend fucked me over, I'm smoking an old half used cigarette."}
{"id": "t3_1mvx12", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I start rebuilding everything?", "post": "I'm going to try and keep this as ambiguous as possible, obvious throwaway.\n\nAround 10 years ago I was a child living with my parents and I overheard them watching a show. I was around 9. I heard on the show something about checking yourself for lumps. Being so young I checked myself and I did in fact find a lump. I chose to ignore it.\n\nFast forward 10 years. I've lived in constant fear, will I wake up tomorrow? If I go to the Doctors they'll tell me I've not got any time left. What's the point in trying in anything? I don't have very many friends because I didn't see the point. Hell, I'm lucky that I got good grades in High School, have had a stable relationship for so long and a few close friends. Its primarily why I decided to actually go and check it out at the Doctors.\n\nI got seriously lucky, its nothing to be worried about. After 10 years this weight is finally lifted off my shoulders, but the worst is that I can't tell a single soul about it because they'll think I'm so stupid for waiting so long. I was frozen with terror because I don't want to die, I found it difficult to sleep, suffered panic attacks almost every night.\n\nMy problem now is that I'm in a degree at University that I hate and  and my parents want me to stay there because I'm almost finished it. The friends at University I had, either left or are busy in their final year, I don't go out much and I'm not especially happy with my fitness levels.\n\nMy question is how do I now rebuild everything that's been neglected over the years?", "summary": "Found a lump 10 years ago, chose to ignore it through all of my teenage years. Lacked any form of motivation for fear that I would be dying soon anyway. Found out its the all clear, feel I need to make something more of my life - How?"}
{"id": "t3_4c51o7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while manscaping", "post": "Ok so this happened today while getting ready for a date tomorrow. It started after I took a dump and thought I'd save some water by shaving my pubes into the toliet so I can flush them both down at once. Big mistake! I got my Wahl electric grooming tool and started going to town on my pubes. My dog hates being shut out of the bathroom while I am in there. I don't know if it's because I go outside when he goes the bathroom, he thinks thats how it works, but he wanted in. I guess the buzzer got to him cause he hit the door pretty hard and startled me. I dropped the buzzer in the poopy water and ruined it. Now I have a useless grooming tool, half shaved pubes and a date tomorrow. For once I hope I don't get lucky.", "summary": "shaving pubes and my dog scared me into dropping my buzzer in poop water."}
{"id": "t3_1y9h4b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I was looking through my phone contacts when I rediscovered a girl's phone number whom I started to hit it off with. What should I do? (More info inside)", "post": "Okay so I was looking through my phone contacts when I came across this girl's phone number (let's call her Abby for the sake of logic) and I haven't talked to her in a few years. We go to the same school and I haven't really talked to her since 7th grade (both of us are now juniors in high school) and she also gave me her number in 7th grade. Fast forward to today when I'm at the dentists office, I finally see Abby and we started to hit it off a bit. I left with a warm feeling inside me because she told me how cool and nice I am (I don't get completed by girls a lot, especially popular ones {forgot to add, Abby is popular and I'm not}) and we tended to like each other. I had to leave and like a doofus I forgot to ask for her number and then while looking through my contacts I found Abby's number. Now I don't know what to do, should I text her and explain my case, should I wait until I see her again when her friends aren't around (I don't want to go up to a popular girl and make an ass of myself in front of her friends), what should I do?", "summary": "Met a popular girl and forgot to ask for her number then found out I had her number but she may not remember she gave it to me in 7th grade. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO????"}
{"id": "t3_tubsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I over thinking everything? I need help! (A kind of long story)", "post": "I am a freshman in high school, 15 year old female, and with my first boyfriend-14 years old- of 6 months. Everything overall has been pretty good, and we have the same friend group and talk a lot. But sometime in late March, our friend Daniel-15 year old male- said some things to me that I was not comfortable with(complimenting my body, and more specifically-my chest area). Daniel likes(or liked-I barely talk to him anymore) me and 6 other girls(none like him).\n\nI told my boyfriend about this, and although he took it seriously for a few days, he pretty much forgot about it and never did anything to confront Daniel even though he said he would. Right after Easter break in early April, Daniel started becoming OBSESSED with my boyfriend- following him to classes, constantly talking to him, bothering him when my boyfriend has work to do for school, etc., and hasn't stopped obsessing since. Since then, I've noticed my boyfriend's behavior has changed a little bit towards me, and he's starting to act in a way he NEVER acted like this year. Now he barely even talks to me despite how hard I try to talk to him. Is all of this connected? What should I do- or am I just over thinking this?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have a friend who I think is trying to ruin our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2jn8ke", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not taking my glasses to my friends wedding.", "post": "So this happened yesterday. A friend of mine got married. I was supposed to be a groomsman in the wedding. \n\nOne of the bridesmaids got sick and couldn't be in the wedding. The photographer didn't show up either.\n\nPerfect, Jon can take pictures.\n\nPerfect! I didn't want to be in the wedding anyway.\n\nI hadn't worn my glasses at all that day. Things get fairly blurry when I'm not wearing my glasses but I'm pretty use to it.\n\nI didn't even think about it. I took all the pictures during the wedding and a bunch during the  reception.\n\nAll of them were blurry as shit.\n\nMy friend and his wife weren't really upset. My friend said \"Jon, you can't tell who the groom is and who the bride is\",laughs.", "summary": "If you don't want to wear glasses to your friends wedding, get contacts, you might need to be the photographer and all the pictures might turn out terribly."}
{"id": "t3_28ptgh", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat aggression after time at the vet.", "post": "About a year ago we got a couple kittens (litter mates) from a shelter, sisters. We brought them home and have had no problems with aggression or anything like that.\n\nOne of the cats had a bad reaction to the one year distemper vaccine and had to spend the night at an emergency vet and the day at our vet for observation. In this time I guess her sister forgot who she was and now gives her sis several good hisses if we leave her out. So far nothing more than the hisses but we haven't really let them stay together to see what happens. The formerly sick cat seems to be chill about all this and shows no aggression back.\n\nSo far all we can see to do is put the \"aggressive\" cat in the bathroom with litter box, food, water, and some toys. But there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of progress being made.", "summary": "How do I reintroduce my cat after being gone for a day and a half?"}
{"id": "t3_2zupqe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by owing money.", "post": "Okay, so this wasn't today, this was yesterday, so I had lost my eftpos card right on the day owed my dad twelve bucks, as you can imagine I was actively avoiding paying my dues, so I gave the car a half hearted look and didn't find it, so I went back inside to play some video games, unfortunately my dad had a better look through the car and found it, so he dragged me along to the cash machine, which wouldn't you know it wasn't working, so we went to the bank proper, which was closed, (at this point you may be asking why I didn't just use the card and the reason was that my dad had blcoked off my savings account when he set it up for me years ago and since I'm 18 in a week, it's just out of my reach) so we went to my mother's house to get some more money and we found just enough for my Dad to get his ciggerttes, headed to the dairy and bought then, and on the way out my dad crashed into someone else's brand new car.", "summary": "My dad has to pay an inssurance company three thousand dollars, becuase I didn't have twelve on hand"}
{"id": "t3_1fjzl1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/f] How to gracefully end a sugar daddy relationship?", "post": "No throwaway, cause, fuck it.\n\nSo, I had this professor in college. I was always wildly attracted to him, but we kept things professional (ok, maybe I went to tutoring a little TOO much). We kept in contact, but nothing serious. Fast forward 2 years, I was visiting the city of my college, and I was determined to fulfill this fantasy. We had dinner, and one thing led to another, and it was, well, really fucking hot. Check that one off the list! \n\nBut wait, we continued to text, and a month later, he suggested that we rendezvous at another city- his treat. To be honest, I was a bit baffled. I had never remotely considered the possibility of a relationship with him, *insert plot point: he is nearly 20 years my senior*  but I wasn't opposed to it. We met a few more times in a few more places, and I did my best never to take advantage of his generosity and provide him with stress-relieving company. \n\nFast forward to now: there is a wonderful man that would like to date me, and I would like to pursue a relationship with him as well. He knows about my professor, and requests that I end it with him, for monogamy's sake. Again, I am not opposed to this. The professor and I had never set specifics for our relationship, but I can't help but feel a little guilty about telling him the truth. Is there a way for me to do it that is gracious?", "summary": "how do I tell a sugar daddy that I want to kick the habit?"}
{"id": "t3_1l3qfl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20s/f] ended a friendship. Now I'm going to have to be around my ex-friend [20s/m] and I don't know how to handle it.", "post": "We were friends for a long time, and the friendship wasn't working for a lot of reasons. We were both at fault. I haven't seen him in quite a while, and now for reasons out of our control we're going to end up spending a fair amount of time together, probably for the foreseeable future. \n\nI'm worried that being polite and friendly might lead to us trying to be friends again, which I don't think would be a good idea for either of us. On the other hand, being obviously not friendly would cause a lot of drama (others would notice and ask questions, in addition to the general drama of being not-friendly to someone), and I don't think either of us wants that. \n\nOur friendship was really rocky and caused me a lot of emotional pain, and I've been very happy without that to worry about. Now I see myself being sucked back into that (for example, I'd like to not be posting this right now) and I don't want that to happen. \n\nI'd like to strike a balance between \"I want to be your friend again\" and \"I hate you\" and I suspect that that is going to be very difficult, especially since my feelings are still very mixed and he has been unwilling to communicate his feelings on the subject. Any suggestions, or am I just screwed?", "summary": "I will have to see my ex-friend, don't want to accidentally restart friendship but can't give him the cold shoulder without causing drama. Help."}
{"id": "t3_it8lb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have a job offer, but not sure if I should take it... Suggestions....?", "post": "So, I've been unemployed for 3 months now.  I realize that this isn't that long, considering how long others have been out of work, but it's still a long time for me.\n\nI quit my job 3 months ago, and because of it, I was denied unemployment.  I left voluntarily because I was told by the president of the wee little start-up that the company was folding.  I had a pending job offer for another company in another state, so I figured I was safe.\n\nThe job offer fell through, and what little savings we had left was used to get me back home to my family.\n\nTime passed, and nothing has happened.  I'm submitting my resume everywhere, and even talking to temp agencies to get me working any job at all, even if it's a 50% paycut from what I was previously making.\n\nAbout 2 weeks ago, I submitted an application for an ad before realizing that it was also out of state.  The ad was pretty much tailor made for my skillset, which was why I got all excited and didn't look at the location until after my resume was sent.\n\nWell, today I got an offer for the job.  It'll be a slight paycut, but good money and possible growth potential.\n\nHere's where I'm waffling.\n\nOne of the things I've also been working on is finding a new place to live.  The house we're renting now is utterly fabulous, but completely out of our budget range with me having absolutely no income whatsoever.  If I take this job, it's going to be out of state - with the pay, we MIGHT be able to make it, but my family will still have to find a cheaper place here in Oregon.  I have no money to get out there, the employer is not paying relocation.\n\nI want this job - I need A job, and I don't want to turn a perfectly good offer down, considering it's the closest I've come and - as we all know - jobs are scarce and hard to find.\n\nBut....  I'm really not sure how I'll pull it off...", "summary": "I'm out of work, got a job offer, but it's in another state, and I have no way to get there or a place to stay once I do."}
{"id": "t3_2f53ut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33 M] fiancee's [31 F] depression and weight gain are straining our relationship", "post": "My fiancee has struggled in the past with episodes of depression accompanied by weight gain but has always managed to pull through, never really losing the weight but never gaining more than 2 to 5kg and always being focused on fitness and healthy living. \n\nI proposed to her a little over a year ago and in the period between our engagement and now, she has had extended periods of depression and gained I would estimate more than 25kg. That is to say that in the 4 years we've been together, she has gone from athletic to heavily built to what would now be clinical obesity. We are supposed to be married in less than 6 months. \n\nHow do I communicate that her weight gain and extended depressive episodes are affecting everything from my attraction to her to my confidence in her ability to be a reliable mother and life partner? If she can't control her weight now with no stresses in life, what will happen when we have children?", "summary": "Over last year of engagement, fiancee's past issues with depression and weight gain have returned with a vengeance. Do I pull out?"}
{"id": "t3_tgslz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Didn't get a job because I was napping inside the lobby while waiting.", "post": "I had a simple interview with a temporal employment agency and would have started on friday but while the lady was trying to enter my data into the system and I was forced to wait some 20 minutes at the lobby I just put my head down on my arm and closed my eyes for a bit since they didnt even have decent reading material for me to waste my time with and the only piece of art I could stare at was that of a green frog which got old pretty fast.\n\nLong story short while all the workers where coming back from procuring their lunch the boss of the agency apperantly spottet me and relayed that I look like an irresponsible lazy fuck that cant be employed.", "summary": "Do not attempt to sleep while at a job interview."}
{"id": "t3_1hxc81", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "gf (28) broke up with me (32) this weekend", "post": "Hi Reddit I really have nobody I can talk to about this so I'm posting here.\n\nMy girlfriend of 5 months broke up with me this past weekend and its hitting me really hard. Probably because it came out of nowhere. We went out one day all was good, the next it was over. She told me that she needs to be single for awhile. \n\nShe was my best friend, the love of my life, my soulmate. I have never been with a girl that made me want to be a better person as much as she did. She encouraged me to try new things. Even if there was a chance of failure she motivated me to continue to completion, no matter the outcome.\n\nI gave her everything I could. Made her happy when she was sad and would surprise her with a cupcake whenever she needed a pick me up. We did more in those couple of months then what some people do in a year. We could even have fun doing nothing. It was the perfect relationship. \n\nI'm just hanging onto the hope that she will contact me after a couple of weeks of NC and want to get back together. A mutual friend of ours keeps on telling me that she will since that was the happiest they have ever seen her. While we were together we couldn't go more than a couple days without seeing each other. \n\nAnyways I feel quite a bit better now.", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me and I feel lost now"}
{"id": "t3_20phub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it better for me [21/F] to have \"loved\" [26/M] than to have not at all?", "post": "I've been sort of seeing this guy, or, in other words, been hanging out with him and getting really drunk and going home with him for the past few weeks and it's been a great time, the problem is i like him and I'm starting to like him more as time goes on. I will be leaving the country where I am in 1 month and a half, and I probably won't see him for a very long time. There's no chance of a relationship.\nHe definitely likes me a lot too, but he is also a player and sleeps with whoever he wants whenever or so I think. I'm being careful, but it is surprising to me how nice he is to me and how he holds my hand and kisses me in public --- which I feel like FWB or casual people don't do at all. Last night I got really upset because I miss just being in a real relationship where I don't need to worry about anything and can just feel secure in the situation. My friends keep telling me to keep him at a distance and that I'm going to get hurt. Even he tells me that I should just tell him to \"fuck himself\" even though he tells me he really likes me too and definitely shows me he does. \n\nWould you just enjoy it for the time being and think about it/worry about feelings later? (I do enjoy it) or should I just back out now? ~I'm not the type of person to be casual about things like this.", "summary": "I'm seeing someone abroad, as FWB but we like each other. Should I continue with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2pa56o", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Overnight Prints [A unfortunately negative review]", "post": "I was unfamiliar with Overnightprints.com when I ordered from them so I wanted to share my experience.\n\nI wanted to get return address labels for our save the dates so I don't have to handwrite them. I looked into getting a stamp or labels and the turnaround time seemed kind of long or required an extra ~$20ish in shipping to get them by when I wanted them. So I came across Overnight Prints, which would let me get the labels by 12/12 (last Friday) for only an extra $11 in shipping. I found a coupon code and put the order in on 12/7, with an estimated shipping date of 12/12.\n\nSo, Friday 12/12 comes and the labels do not arrive. I go onto their website to see that the labels haven't even shipped yet. I called the customer service line, got put on hold for ~10 minutes or so to have the guy tell me that the order got \"delayed\" and will arrive on Tuesday 12/16. I ask for a refund, he says they will refund my shipping costs once the order arrives. \n\nToday I checked up on the order online, it *still* hasn't shipped yet. I used their live chat feature to speak to a very nice and helpful customer service rep, who told me that the order was already printed so I couldn't cancel the order but that once my order arrived, now estimated to be Wednesday 12/17, they will refund the whole shipping charge. Keep in mind that they never sent me an email or anything to let me know that the order was delayed, I only learned of that by reaching out to them.\n\nSo, the", "summary": "If you are looking to print something in a hurry, I do not recommend Overnight Prints."}
{"id": "t3_s7itb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I've got a problem of thinking girls are in to me (17M)when they're not.", "post": "Well to start off a girl I've known for a while just started to work where I do. We originally didn't talk a whole lot just playful teasing. After only a few days I'm starting to give her rides home. (I asked if she had a ride home, she replied that her mom is goin to pick her up, I replied with a simple ok. She almost immediately asked me if I would give her a ride even though she wouldn't be at home until 30 min. later.) The first night we worked together, towards closing time she playfully took my phone and took a few pics of herself. When I drove her home I told her that she could put her number in my phone just in case she needed a ride to work(since I only give her rides on the days that I work) and she told me she already did. She later texted me out of the blue at around midnight with an answer to an unimportant question i had earlier in the day.This is also one of the only girls I don't have trouble with finding things to talk about to, even though we have almost nothing in common. I'm thinking I might have a chance with her and she might like me, but there is a part of me that tells me that its in my head like it always seems to be. \n\nP.S. I've asked her to go to the movies already but she had plans that day, but I did kind of (she said maybe some other time)got a raincheck. I'm also wasn't sure if she thought we were going to as friends since we talked a little bit before she started working. \n\nP.P.S. This all happened within one week.", "summary": "Not sure if a girl likes me or if it's all in my head."}
{"id": "t3_3nv6lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22F) with my boyfriend (22M) of about a year. He's about to leave for the Navy and is pulling away from me", "post": "My boyfriend of a little over one year is leaving for flight school in Pensacola in a couple of months. As long as I've known him his goal was to become a Navy Pilot, so I've been preparing myself for this for a while. Early on in our relationship he asked me how I would feel being a Navy wife. He thought it was important to see if that was something I'd even be willing to do before we got more serious. I told him I understood the sacrifices that I would have to make and that I would be okay making them for him. As long as he continues to be the wonderful man he's been for the last year, I'd follow him anywhere. \n\nI guess the problem is that ever since he found out he officially got into flight school he's seemed distant. I'm usually really good at reading him but I can't figure out what's been on his mind lately. He's been really busy finishing up his last semester of undergrad, and his degree is incredibly demanding, on top of ROTC obligations, but he's always made an effort in the past to show me he cares and wants to be with me. I guess I just haven't been getting that from him lately. I'm not sure if I'm just freaked out because he's leaving soon or if he really is pulling away from me. And if he's pulling away from me, is it because he's about to make a huge change in his life by joining the Navy and he's just a little apprehensive, or is it because he's unsure he wants me to be apart of his new life? \n\nHas anyone else experienced this before their s/o's officially commissioned or before a huge change in their lives? Is he pulling away because he's just made a 10 year commitment to the Navy and it's freaking him out or has he just realized that he doesn't want to make the same commitment to me? I posted this in Military SO's too but I figured y'all could give me some advice too. Thank you!", "summary": "my boyfriend of a year is leaving for Flight school soon and he's been distant ever since he got in."}
{"id": "t3_2ibpp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(30/f) I have a problem feelings feeling and feeling sexual about the same person", "post": "So I (30F) have recently begun a sexual relationship with a coworker (34M) and the sex is great. We are very compatible in that capacity and I was under the impression that this was just a sexual relationship, but he's flirty with me at work (gently making fun, touching me when he walks by) and he's volunteered to give me rides to and from work since I can't drive for the next few weeks due to injury. So I have surmised that he likes me, at least enough to be friendly at work or to possibly want more.\n\nThis is where things get complicated for me. His affection towards me has brought up some issues for me. I get really awkward when he blurs the lines between fb and more than fb. I have traditionally had a really difficult time being both sexually intimate and emotionally intimate with the same person at the same time. It's like if I'm having a sex with someone, I shut down emotionally. \n\nI have plenty or friends and it kind of seems like I just spread those two functions around.\n\nI would really appreciate some advice or perspective on this matter. I could see how this has been a problem in my past relationships and could continue to be an issue in this and future relationships.", "summary": "I have a problem feeling feelings and sleeping with the same person."}
{"id": "t3_q0mxd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get/help my wife to femme it up a little?", "post": "I love her and this is not, **repeat not**, a deal-breaker but I'd like her to be more feminine. She grew up basically feral, has no female relatives any less feral, and is too embarrassed to talk to her friends.\nFeral's kind of a strong word, but I think I'll stick with it. The weird thing is that we have a young daughter who is princess/frilly dress/heels/hair/makeup obsessed - and who has a better sense of style than her mom. Weird.\n\nShe takes little care of her hair - getting her to actually have some has been an issue. I'm thinking about brushing her hair every day both to show her its possible for it to look nice (it is really thick and lustrous) and because it seems a nice, intimate contact thing to do.\n\nI'm also going to buy her some perfume that I like. She couldn't care less but is open to it.", "summary": "I'll brush her hair and keep her in nice scents, but anyone got any other ideas on how to feminize my wife a bit?"}
{"id": "t3_16xd3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24m) dating 21f for 5 months. How to satisfy her in public/social appearances.", "post": "Seeing each other for about 5 months now. So I've realised a flaw that I have had within dating and relationships of the past that tend to disappoint girls. When we are together it is great however in a social setting, I will gravitate towards my friends rather than spend time with her and her friends. This caused our first argument to occur whereby she said I was moody with her. She said her ex was like this all the time so she was scared. Anyway she was right about it and I did not realise at the time.\nA girl I was dating before, coincidently told me yesterday that she didn't want me to fuck up things with this new girl now by telling me the reason why it didn't work out with us, was that in public I would not speak to her much, a contrast to the physicality in the bedroom. And it really annoyed her. Also looking back further, I can see the flaw happening with other girls too.\nMy question is how to avoid this from happening again and how to conduct myself within social spheres with said girl I am dating. How would i complement her in front of people? how would i socialise with her towards other people? I really like her and I want to be with her so I don't want to fuck it up like I have done in the past. I tend to be shy sometimes and also have lacked confidence in the past.", "summary": "How do I conduct myself with said girl in social settings."}
{"id": "t3_18cpjp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By going to Goodwill", "post": "So after school some of my friends and I decided to head by goodwill to buy some cheap clothes.  I set down my back pack, which contained my (300 dollar) glasses and new, somewhat expensive jacket.  Soon a mega shopping spree ensues and completely forget about my backpack.\n\n*Fast Forward 45 Minutes...*\n\nAs we're leaving I decided to throw a hat that I bought into my backpack.  That's when I realize.  My jacket is missing.  Thinking I must've just put it down somewhere, I rush back, telling my friends I'd be back soon.  I get back, and search the store.  I went everywhere, looked through every single rack of clothes.  It's gone. \n\nBy the time my friends arrive, I've accepted the fact that it's gone.  Defeated, we leave.  As we're walking out, I check my backpack for a soda I left to drink later.  And that's when I realize.  My fucking glasses are gone too.  We head back once again, but just like my jacket, they're gone without a trace.\n\nI gave the store my phone number, and details about the missing items, but I believe they were stolen from my backpack.  The missing glasses will be a bitch being I can't drive anymore.  Or see 15 feet in front of me.", "summary": "Traded a flannel and a hat for the ability to drive and warmth."}
{"id": "t3_xdw4o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how did you first discover internet porn?", "post": "When I was about 10/11 years old my parents wouldn't let me watch South Park so I had to be very sneaky about downloading it with Kazaa Lite (brings back memories). Anyway one day I downloaded an episode but it turned out instead to be an episode of 'My Friend's Hot Mom.' And that was how I accidentally stumbled upon the glorious world of porn and kick started puberty. For the life of me I wish I could remember who the porn star was, but I swear I can still picture the whole movie in my head!\n\nAnyway for the next couple of years I used to download porn from Kazaa and hide it on my computer with innocuous file names like SouthPark.S05E12 as I figured it was better to be caught with South Park than porn!", "summary": "Doesnt matter, found porn"}
{"id": "t3_1yfjmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 MtF] am totally crushing on my [26 M] friend; My life is officially a soap opera", "post": "Hello!\n\nI'm a transgender woman and I'm kinda sorta smitten with my bisexual friend. He knows about my \"condition\", but what I don't know is how he feels about the whole \"lady with non-standard genital configuration\" thing, in regards to dating. I can't just ask him, either. Saying \"Hey, how do you feel about dating trans women?\" is so blatently obvious that I'd rather be eaten by a lion than say it.\n\nWe've been friends for a little over five months and I've been crushing on him for about three of those months. He was the first person I came out to, outside my family. He always treats me like a lady, and even corrects people when we're out in public and I get 'sir'ed. Basically, he's gentlemanliness incarnate.\n\nI want to be closer to him, but I'm so afraid that telling him about my feelings will make everything super weird if he's not interested. I've never even dated anyone before this, and now I've gone from basic addition to quantum physics! I just want his arms around me, his lips on mine...\n\n**ahem*\\*\n\nSo yeah, complicated...\n\nAlso, he's kind of sleeping on my couch since he lost his place.", "summary": "Trans girl crushing on bi male friend. Don't know if he's into that, don't want to make things weird. He lives with me. Thinking of selling my life story to daytime TV writers."}
{"id": "t3_3yxslq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New years party at potential partner's (28f) parents' house [advice] (21f)", "post": "Yesterday, Scott (28m) invited me to his dad's house for NYE after work. I haven't met them officially yet because of certain circumstances (he's going through a recent divorce, we also work together). Now Scott likes to put me through \"tests\" to freak me out and see if it's going to work. \n\nPretty much instead of meeting his family a little at a time, I'm meeting the whole family at once. His dad, stepmom, her family, his sister and brother in law, his mom, uncle and a few more relatives and friends. So all important figures in his life.\n\nI need advice on how to make a good first impression, they all know of me and I'm not exactly sure what they know about us as far as the relationship goes. The approval of his family will either make or break a potential relationship with us. I'm pretty shy and quiet at first and his family is pretty outgoing. Any tips on how not to be awkward would be great.", "summary": "meeting his whole family need advice on making a good first impression."}
{"id": "t3_lrixk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you die from complications after a plasma donation?", "post": "I live in a city that has a plasma donation center about a fifteen minute walk from where I live. I was donating twice a week for about three months. (twice a week is the max they allow) How it works is they draw your blood, run it through a centrifuge, take out the plasma, and return your blood cells to you mixed with an anticoagulant solution. On my 24th donation, I had two energy drinks beforehand, which was normal for me. Everything was going fine until when the machine was returning my blood to me, I very suddenly got very light headed, feeling as though I would pass out at any second. This had happened to me before, but it's still nerve racking. I called someone over, they slowed the machine down, i was fine after a minute. But then when the machine started to draw my blood again, I got very light headed again, which had not happened to me before. At this point I began to panic, I told them to take the needle out, and I lost almost a pint of blood. I felt light headed for a couple hours after. Then next day, I was totally fine, but the day after I got light headed just sitting on the bus. This freaked me out, so I went to the er. They took a blood sample, told me I was slightly anemic, and to take some iron. A week later, I think I'm getting light headed again, have a panic attack (a terrifying experience) went back to the er, checked out a couple hours later. \nI now have post traumatic stress disorder, three months after the incident. I constantly have the fear that I could pass out at any moment and never wake up. I think that the plasma donation did something to my circulatory system that could kill me at any moment. So, are my fears completely irrational, or do I have reason to be concerned?", "summary": "Donated plasma, had a bad reaction, now have ptsd. Can I have complications three months down the road, such as blood clots, or arterial damage?"}
{"id": "t3_284wpu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help! I think I really messed up", "post": "I am going to begin with sorry for grammical errors and spelling. I am a 19 year old female and was currently in this 2 year relationship with 20 year old male. We really had the best relationship in the beginning and it was so much fun, then I started having really big issues with family. Right after I turned 18 years old my parents stopped doing everything, so this kid knowing me maybe 3months really started helping me a lot with rides to work, school, ect. But after 2 months got really annoyed with it even if I offered money he still thought of me as a nusense. So finally I just quit my job, well my parents got pissed about that too. So I would say maybe about four months and they kicked me out of the house, so my boyfriend's family took me in. I got a job and worked about 70 hours a week and my boyfriend would get upset that he wouldn't see me. So I would try and make time for him anyway I could and ask him to go on dates. The issue there is he would get embarrised because he had no money, he didn't work and I would accidentally bring it up. He started to really hate me for this. Finally he kicked me out so I lived with my sister in another state, he started to miss me and would drive up to see me. So I finally moved back, then around 3 months same issue came up and I came home to find all my stuff packed up. So I moved back with my parents but still saw him every week. Then we came into some issues with one of his friends (this kid always needs attention and does anything to get it). He was saying a lot of stuff about me, which got back to me and I assumed my boyfriend said it. I lost it and wrote a mean Facebook status (I know ,childish). The status said \" I can't wait to have a boyfriend who doesn't constantly treat me like shit with a job\". This really hurt the kids feelings and now won't even talk to me, even though I'm very sorry about it. I just don't know what to do, I need some advice.", "summary": "Had a boyfriend, I had some family issues. He let me live with him got kicked out twice. Had issues financially , wrote a mean status and now he won't talk to mean"}
{"id": "t3_1ik8hj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some advice from people in LTRs. I[30/m] have been with my wife [31/f] for 10 years, how do you know if it's time to leave?", "post": "Ok, a little background.  My wife and I started dating in college, I was a late bloomer and she's my first real relationship.  Things have been good, we of course have had our ups and downs but overall it's been good.  We married a little over 3 years ago after dating for 7.\n\nNothing in particular has changed in our relationship but for the past year or so I can't seem to stop thinking about starting over, having a new life on my own terms.  I don't feel like I'm unhappy with my wife, I still love her, we still spend most of our time together and have fun, but I can't shake this feeling.  I try and push it away but I have these flashes of burning down my current life and starting from scratch.  The idea of going it alone used to terrify me, but lately it's starting to sound, well still scary, but in a good way.\n\nIt makes me feel really bad about myself.  I have a wife that loves me, who I love, and we have a good life together.  I wish I could figure out what it means.  Sometimes I think the fact that it would hurt a person I love dearly is the only reason I haven't done it.\n\nSo people who have been in long relationships, is this a phase that people go through or is this a symptom of something bigger I just can't see the shape of yet?", "summary": "Been with wife for 10 years, still love her, we have a good life, but in the last year I can't shake the urge to destroy it all and start over."}
{"id": "t3_jactz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do after spending an intimate night with a girl?", "post": "I met a wonderful girl, who for the sake of anonymity I shall call Sarah, at a ball (2 days ago.) We walked back to her place with her friend,let's call her Jane, before we left and on the way there it was made fairly clear that Sarah wanted a relationship, which is fine by me. \n\nOnce we got back to Sarah's place, Jane took Sarah's single bed. And we were left with a fold out couch in a communal area. Sarah was worried that as she had only been there a few weeks that one of her 5 house-mates would wake-up and see us there in the morning. I proposed that I leave before any of them wake-up, and she agreed. And asked me to wake her before I leave.\n\nWe spent that night together, extremely intimate (without actually having sex [use your imagination]), she fell asleep in my arms.  I didn't get any sleep at all, but was thrilled at the intimacy. My alarm on my phone went off, I got dressed, we had a long kiss and I told her that I'd call (her response was \"You better\" with a grin on her face.) And went on my merry way.", "summary": "Met girl at Ball 2 days ago, had super intimate night with her, said I'd call. Spent all yesterday recovering from the lack of sleep (picture walking dead)."}
{"id": "t3_3ybpsp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by baking while drunk.", "post": "On Christmas Eve, I was baking cookies like I do every year. I had mixed up some snickerdoodle dough and rolled it into balls, and my daughter wanted to help. I let her roll the dough balls in cinnamon sugar while I took some of my cookies to my neighbor's house. My neighbor let me in and I dropped the cookies on his kitchen counter. We sat down in the living room and did a few shots together. I'm a lightweight so about three shots in I was already pretty drunk. I did one more shot then went home and popped a batch of cookies in the oven. When I went to take them out, I burned my hand on one of the oven racks. Now, I'm used to burning myself while baking because I'm clumsy AF even sober, but they're usually small, superficial burns. I really got myself this time I had an inch and a half long blister across the back of my hand. I used a straight pin to poke a hole in the blister and drain it, leaving the skin on so the nerves underneath wouldn't be exposed while the burn was healing. I always do this to blisters. Well, this time, the skin over the blister started turning a nasty yellowish color and came off on its own, and then the burn got infected. There's a nice red circle around it now and it hurts worse than any burn I've ever had before, like an 8 on a scale of 1-10. I'm never baking drunk again. I'll post a pic of the burn if anyone wants to see it.", "summary": "I burned myself very badly in the oven because I was drunk, and now it's infected and hurts really fucking bad."}
{"id": "t3_1yy7x0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [25F] make time for travel without jeopardizing my relationship?", "post": "My sweetheart [25M] and I have been together 2.5 years. I love him dearly. We have fun, we respect each other and are intellectually & otherwise compatible. One thing that has been the source of some disagreement is travel. I love to backpack, would be happy spending a year or two traveling the globe. The BF is not a traveller--he thinks it's expensive, stressful and ultimately doesn't think you learn that much about another culture by being a tourist. This has some validity, I'm not going to lie. But to me, I'm sad if I haven't visited at least one new country every year. I have a 'must-see' list as long as my arm, and the thought of dying before I visit those places depresses me. I know an international plane ticket is expensive, but to me it's worth it.\n\nWe have little money. Generally, we live cheaply, no other expensive hobbies. I'm in grad school and have little vacation time, which I feel should be spent with my BF. I end up traveling to other states not infrequently for work/family/friends, and he thinks I am away from home enough as is. How do I negotiate this with him? I'm worried we're going to have kids by the time I'm out of school and we're never going to be not-broke. I also really want to save money for a house, and feel like these goals are incompatible.\n\nI'd love to hear from anybody with similar experiences. Most of my friends are either single, dating people who also want to world-hop or are themselves travel indifferent.", "summary": "I want to travel, he doesn't. How do we parse out limited time and money?"}
{"id": "t3_13q67h", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "25m,24f, terrible breakup.", "post": "I feel like i'm going to stop breathing. I'm so down-right depressed I feel like my lungs are going to collapse. Girl of 5 years dumped me. Over a stupid thing. 4 times this month. We got back together... 3 times. and the last time she left me. we had a highschool reunion... and my cell went out. for about 3 and a half hours. She knew i was going to go there, I told her, I also told her im going to be sober. But she went berserk when my cell woke up and told me I cheated on her and got drunk and cheated on her (i drank water the whole evening and went home first of everybody... i didn't smell of alcohol or anything. But she still said she doesn't believe me...). And a week ago she humiliated me in front of everybody, but she broke down in tears then... So i immediately forgave her... She was apparently sorry. Or not...\n\nShe is now regretting that she ever met me. She told me things that I could never say to her. She told me that i don't care about her. While i sobbed looking at the phone. She told me that I pulled the worst out of her.\n\nThe craziest thing is I can't imagine my life without her. The whole thing is making me crazy. I'm in so much pain that I've never been in my whole life, ever. I have no fucking idea what to do. I keep looking at the damn phone. I just want to stop... and rest. she blames me for everything. That I took 5 years of her life away. That I destroyed her and broke her heart. I have nothing but love for her. I adore her. I'm devastated.\n\nWe've been living together for 5 years.", "summary": "Jealousy, not from me.. Also, I'm just losing it. I lost it. I'm completely out of it. I just went into a state of apathy."}
{"id": "t3_3lac4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22M] of almost four years abroad in London and don't know what I want", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for almost four years since we were 17. I've never slept with anyone else or had a real relationship besides this one. Everything between us was great the first three years. I knew how much I loved him, and we planned our life together. We spent every day together in high school, and we talked everyday throughout college, and basically lived together this summer in LA working internships. \n\nHowever, this summer before I was abroad, I was full of doubts and still am. The thought of spending my entire life with him without experiencing other things scares me to death. However, a life without him in it is equally scary to me. \n\nI communicated these feelings to him last month, and obviously he was very sad, but he hugged me and tried to comfort me--because he knew these feelings were tearing me apart. Now that I'm in London, I've been thinking more of what I want and I'm torn. I'm young and want to do different things, but I love him at the same time.\n\n I tried to talk to him last night about taking a break, but he was completely against the idea. It's all or nothing with him. I don't think I could commit to never seeing or talking to him again, but I want to do my own thing here. \n\nI don't really know what I want, but some perspective/opinions/personal anecdotes would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Having serious doubts in my relationship because I'm really young. Boyfriend won't take a break--it's all or nothing with him--but I don't know if I can commit to either options."}
{"id": "t3_12ekir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (24) has Big Anxiety Issues, and it has [M]e (27) worried?", "post": "So ill try to make this short, we've been dating for around 6 months (although it feels like forever, in a good way though).and things are going wonderful. However she's been super stressed with work and everything and she has somewhat moderate anxiety issues (sometimes), but mainly when she gets stressed.\n\nShe had me worried because she had a few days where she was just like questioning EVERYTHING, and just anxious about everything (including our relationship). It scared me because we were quite serious, and she and I both had an amazing relationship. We literally both wanted the same things out of life, and talked about the future and everything.\n\nAnyways we went through that and I got worried and she reassured me that she still wants the same things and still loves me and everything but that sometimes when she gets stressed she'll just have a day where she gets anxious about everything, but it has nothing to do with me. It made me feel alot better but I was quite worried before regardless.\n\nAnyways everything is fine, she hasn't \"acted\" any different (Still affectionnate, telling me she loves me etc..), and keeps assuring me that \"she knows how my other exes were (they were shitty and basically just bailed because of their own problems) and doesn't want me to think she is like them\". \n\nAnyways.....Should I worry? I don't have anxiety so I don't know how to handle it. I try my best to support her and help her and it's only an occasional thing anyways....but has anyone ever had a anxious g/f / b/f that has any words of wisdom? I guess I was just worried she thought we got too serious but she insists that isn't it......but just sometimes she gets \"like this\". Basically she gets anxious....then that makes her anxious about EVERYTHING.", "summary": "Anxious Girlfriend has me worried (when she assures me I shouldn't)"}
{"id": "t3_d3ccc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any doctors or med students lurking? What is the process to become a doctor like?", "post": "I would like to become an anesthesiologist one day. I have thought about this a lot and would like to hear what it's like from some insiders. I am really not the type who can sit behind a desk all day. I'm prepared to sit at desks for studying, but I can't do it for 30+ years. I don't want to wear a suit and tie. I like to be up running around. Nothing else really interests me aside from extreme sports. I want to put my work in now and come out making a high salary. I don't want to climb the rungs of a corporate ladder. I've had friends with dads in construction, working 80+ hours a week. My dad as an engineer and programmer worked 80+ hours a week for years and his salary still isn't as high as an anesthesiologists (it's great for an engineer). I really just want to become an anesthesiologist.", "summary": "Above is a list of reasons why I want to become a doctor...What is medical school like? Residency? Advice? How much do you make (ballpark)?"}
{"id": "t3_4lg8co", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Need help on telling if a girl likes me.", "post": "I'm 21 and at University at the moment, a couple of weeks ago I met a girl in a club, we walked home and had a good chat. She invited me back to her flat, but I declined. The next couple of days we did some light texting. I then about a week later decided to text her and ask her out for a drink, to this she didn't reply. I did however here from her a few days later, where she apologized for not texting back.\n\nNow in the last couple of weeks I have text her to which she ignored, then I get a text telling me to meet her. To top it off last night I was texted her (while drunk i may add) we then met, had a chat, she got some food and then on the way to our accommodation (we live in the same building on different floors) she said she was going up to eat, to which I said I was going to go back to my room and freshen up, she said she would text me but that text never came. \n\nI should also add my flatmates have said it seemed she wanted me to go back to her room the night I met her, but I'm really bad at reading the signals people give.\n\nPretty much, am I thinking too much about it and should I just put down as a bad experience?", "summary": "Met a girl in a club, we chatted, then the last few weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions, want to know if she's into me."}
{"id": "t3_122s9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (F22) too sensitive to my bf's (M22) female friends?", "post": "My bf and I have been together for around 5 years and have been through a lot together. One of the greatest downfalls of our relationship has been his female friends. I know I've been overly sensitive about them, and he was never too understanding about what bothered me. \n\nAnyways now we've moved to a new area and moved in together. We both don't have any friends yet really. I've told him how I'm scared of a repeat since he always makes female friends-NEVER guys. He has one best friend who is a guy but he lives far away. \n\nHe finally made a couple friends here and they are all girls. I want him to be happy and have friends but am I really so wrong in wishing he'd make some guy friends? The girls he makes as friends always end up liking him and he always plays dumb to it. I want both of us to be happy but in the past these situations have never turned out well.\n\nApparently he and this girl meet after class and hang out and she's invited him in her dorm room apparently. I've never met this girl. He seems very open with me about their friendship but I honestly think its a little different than how he tells it. I think he flirts with girls and brushes it off as being nice.", "summary": "I don't want to be \"that\" girlfriend. Basically I'm just asking for advice on how not to be a fucking psycho crazy jealous girlfriend because obviously I'm having some issues with it. My bf is a great guy, and I love him to death. But I know too much of my jealous behavior will push him away. "}
{"id": "t3_2w5ewn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) can't tell if I really like my boyfriend (24M) or am just in the relationship for the attention/or afraid to be alone.", "post": "So, I've been dating this guy for about 4 months now, the entire relationship has been long distance since the beginning due to different paths having us across the country. He's extremely gungho in the relationship, sends me care packages and texts me daily. I do things for him as well when I'm able to when time permits. We see each other about once a month but are never alone, he's either visiting friends and also visit me. Or work doesn't permit me to see him by myself. \n\nWe've never had sex either, mostly just foreplay in very odd situations. The other day I finally asked for us to open the relationship, it's something I wanted from the beginning but decided to do a monogamous, long distance relationship. He told me that he expects me to be 100% in or I'm not in at all but that he is okay with the idea of an open relationship. I don't know how to respond to that ultimatum. I like him but I don't know if I really like him enough to continue a relationship with him. This is my first relationship and his second.", "summary": "Been dating a guy, I want an open relationship and he's okay with it but I don't know if I just like the idea of him as a safety net or not."}
{"id": "t3_52t7fn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "To travel or not to travel? Extreme anxiety over aging dog :(", "post": "I've always said that once I graduated college I would travel before settling into a career. I graduated 3 years ago but my boyfriend just graduated this past summer. Although we've been on small trips here and there, we've been waiting for him to graduate to finally go backpacking through Europe. Now we are finally ready! \n\n... Problem is, im suddenly aware that my 17 year old chihuahua isn't going to be around for much longer. He's not sick or anything but has been displaying signs of old age for a while. I'm terrified of leaving home for several weeks to travel. I would put off the trip till he passes, but that's an indefinite amount of time and I've been itching to go on this trip for years and get my career started. I've had so much anxiety and anticipatory grief over the idea of his death. He'd be home with my mom but I would just feel guilty if I wasn't here for him if the time came. My boyfriend says that even if I were home chances are he would pass in his sleep and I wouldn't be around/ do anything for him anyways but I just don't know. Any advice?", "summary": "anxiety over senior dog dying while I'm gone is keeping me from traveling."}
{"id": "t3_etrcp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend says she likes another girl but says she  still loves me (I need some advice)", "post": "So my girlfriend just told me yesterday that she likes this other girl whom shes friends with (yes, i know shes bi and i've known this since the beginning). she says she feels bad about it and doesn't want me to be hurt and that she still loves me regardless and only wants to be with me.\n\nI don't know how to react to this because with our relationship we both are completely honest about everything (which has worked out well so far). and since she was honest about this, i can't *really* be mad at her for honest feelings. but at the same time, i don't feel happy about any of this and i'm not sure how to move forward. I don't want to break up with her because she means A LOT to me. can somebody help me out as to what i should do or how i should go about this?", "summary": "My girlfriend likes another girl but was honest about it and i'm not sure how to react."}
{"id": "t3_x8d13", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Craig-list user sold my sister a POS motorcycle claimed all that was wrong was the lights...options?", "post": "Hey r/legaladvice so this is the story.\nSister was looking for her first bike, had me help her search and set up meetups from craigslist. found a bike that was low miles, good year, and decent price and claimed all that was wrong was it need new lights. I was working out of town and couldn't go look at it. she gets the bike for 1000 and takes it home thinking it just needs a new lights and new paint job. \n\nfast-forward two weeks and I get home and take a look at the bike, and this thing is a POS, the \"lights\" that it needs is lamp cord and burnt out christmas lights. The exhust is ready to fall off and held in with a zip tie, nuts and bolts missing everywhere and the kick stand falls down while ridding.  \nI personally found out about the kickstand when I was taking a turn and the came down and caught the pavement and almost through me. I have it in a saved email that he said \"Needs new lights... That's all\"\n\nI want my sisters money back. My plan so far is to start out nice but if necessarily threaten legal action. \n\nany advice?", "summary": "sister bought bike on craigslist calming it only need lights, turns out it needs 200-300 dollers in repairs just to get it street legal and safe. Almost threw me off the bike because the seller dident tell her the kickstand falls down while ridding."}
{"id": "t3_1i9b48", "subreddit": "self", "title": "fell down. ruined what I've been working toward all this year.", "post": "I took a minor fall but because of how I landed I broke a couple of bones.  That normally wouldn't be a major upset, just one of those things that happens and you get past it.  But this happened two weeks to the day before the beginning of what I have been training, working, saving, and sometimes fighting for since the beginning of this year.  \nI had gone through a 5 year period of loss and depression in which I had become numb, overweight, lonely, and hopeless.  Then I had an epiphany moment.  I thought of a thing I wanted to do and I took steps toward doing it.  I stood up for myself and started putting my needs on the priority list too.  I started moving my body.  I gave up wheat, lost my cravings for sugary, baked foods.  I tracked my progress.  And I kicked a**!  I lost 50 pounds since January.  I went from not leaving my house, mostly my bedroom, to doing daily bike rides, as long as 60 miles in a day.  I gathered enough money to get everything I need together to take a bike trip that I haven't gone on in  ten years.  \nThe only way I can think of that I could still ride is on a recumbent bicycle or three-wheeled bike.  I don't know of anyone that has one and buying or even renting one is out of the question.  I spent everything getting my old bike ready and getting equipped.\nI will still go, I paid a lot and it is too late to find someone to fill my place now.  But the physical challenge of the ride was the main event for me.  I'm very introverted and the festival atmosphere and crowds of people are challenging at best.  I see there has been benefit in what I have been doing.  But I really needed the week on my bike cut off from my regular life.  Or I thought I did.  The proverbial carrot being snatched away feels pretty cruel and twisted.", "summary": "Because of a minor fall and injury I am unable to participate in the event that was the motivation and intended as a reward for me to overcome a difficult period in my life."}
{"id": "t3_dp3l7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New laptop battery dead in seconds!", "post": "I really don't know if this is the place to post this but you're my only hope, AskReddit!\n\nMy computer has a lot of issues. For ~6 months my battery was completely dead, surviving solely with the cord. And then last week I bought a new battery - hurrah!\n\nNO HURRAH. It was charging just fine, then suddenly I unplug it and it's dead in seconds. It says it's fully charged but it's lying. Should I buy a new power adapter? Is it something in the computer just not registering something? If I wanted a desktop I would've bought one. Grrr... I'm running Ubuntu 10.04 if that helps any, I've read a bit about sometimes things corrupting on Windows and not being able to process blah blah blah. I don't really know what I'm talking about :\\", "summary": "laptop battery dies instantaneously, to buy new power cord or to not buy new power cord."}
{"id": "t3_4ilw61", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm not ok.", "post": "My mom is dying. Slowly. She's been in the hospital for a year, she hasn't been able to functionally communicate since February, and she's delirious-sometimes fully aware and other times off in her own world complete with hallucinations. She should have died months ago. And yet, the doctors are still trying to keep her alive. I'm furious, and my dad (who has power of attorney) won't do anything about it. \n\nSupporting me through this whole process has been the guy I've been friends with/dating for the past 9 months. Because of various circumstances, he is my sole means of support in the area. My next closest friend lives over 400mi away. My family lives 1200mi away. I'm in school and can't be there. \n\nLast Monday, the guy told me he was getting back with his ex. Again. This is the second time he's done this to me. I knew I couldn't lose his support, so I did everything I could to help him through this. \n\nToday I told him I couldn't be that person anymore, and that I wasn't willing to put myself in that position again. I feel like I'm shooting myself in the foot with it, but at the same time the situation was giving me more anxiety (not something I'm accustomed to) than my mom. I told him I felt I was shouldering a huge burden, but I wasn't sure if he was still helping, or adding to it. \n\n*I do have an appointment to speak with a psychiatrist on Thursday, and I'm swinging by his place before it to pick up my key.*\n\nI've never felt more alone in my entire life. I got off the phone with him about 20min ago, and I've been bawling like a baby since. I'm terrified I made a huge mistake that I can't take back. But at the same time, I just couldn't do it anymore. I'm absolutely lost, and I have no idea how to find my way back.", "summary": "I'm losing my mom and my best friend at the same time and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_slwi8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Rant: My friends who are in my year and my major skip class at least once a week and drink almost every day. I almost never skip and I never party, but they get better grades than me. Grr. (Wall of text)", "post": "I've skipped 3 classes this entire semester", "summary": "I work really hard and get help in my classes, and I don't drink or party. My friends in my major drink almost every day and skip class all the time but they still get better grades than me. I'm really frustrated and I'm scared that I'm not smart enough for a physics degree since it seems so easy for them."}
{"id": "t3_1nvtnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My new neighbor (50's(?)/F) can hear everything I (20's/F) do in my apartment, and it's disrupting her sleep. What do?", "post": "My neighbor moved into the apartment adjacent to me a few days ago. Whilst she's a very nice lady, she seems to be very annoyed by my sound levels, as she can apparently hear every word I say through her walls. I'm not a particularly loud person- the noise I produce consists of chatting on Skype and playing soft music to help me sleep. However, no matter how softly I speak, she still hears me. The thing that makes this particularly problematic is my own sleep patterns; I happen to be most active at night, presumably when she's trying to fall asleep. I'm at an impasse because, while I want to continue living in a way that is comfortable to me, I don't want my neighbor to suffer for it. I'm in an LDR, so the Skype chats are dear to me, otherwise I'd cut them out. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice to give?", "summary": "My neighbor's life is being disrupted by my noise levels, which would be reasonable if it weren't for the thin wall between us. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_lhk02", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had a freak out moment this morning, but it turned out to be a false alarm. Any similar stories?", "post": "I was driving to work this morning on the freeway, and going 80 on 60 mph. When all of a sudden, I look up and I see the flashing blue and red lights way behind. The first thing that goes through me head is \"fuck,\" so I slow down and get in the right lane. (It was a two lane highway, and I was on the left.) The cop in his Charger (even more scary than those Crown Vics) comes up right behind me. I'm freaking out at this point. I have never gotten a ticket, never been pulled over, and since I'm still living under my parent's roof, I knew I'd be done for if I came home with a ticket, especially one for going 20+. So, I slow down and pull onto the shoulder, and the cop passes me and there is an exit ramp right ahead of me and he goes and he pulls up over in front of another car just chilling there. I'm really confused, so I keep driving, not sure if I should pull over on to the exit or not, because I was sure this guy was coming after me since I was the fastest car on the freeway. I just pulled back onto the freeway and drove away. He didn't come after me, but the whole time my heart was beating like crazy. I half expected him to get in his car again and chase me down, but those flashing lights were not seen again. I'm going to slow down from now on though. I don't need that happening again.", "summary": "Charger cops are fucking scary even when they don't pull you over."}
{"id": "t3_2l65dj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M/F] with my 32 M] husband and 2 year son; secretly trying to get his Mom (my MIL) to get a job here and live with us.", "post": "Still kind of in shock over this. \n I just happened to pick up the ipad and see that my husband has been sending emails to his mother telling her that he is going to try his hardest to get her a job at his company, and that they can move into our house. He hasn't told me anything about this.  She and his Dad live 2.5 hours away right now, which is, IMO- a perfect distance.\n\nWe've been going to therapy for other reasons - mainly because he's reneged on our initial after-marriage plans.  When we got married, we were planning on moving halfway between both in-laws, but now he dosen't want to.  My family lives 6 hours away and I rarely see them and only talk to them once a week, but he told the therapist that I'm too close to them.\n\nBut now he's secretly trying to get his mom to move down here? Please. It hurts my brain. Also, the cost of living here is really high, so if she DID get the job-- she'd probably be living with us for quite some time, which I am NOT mentally prepared for. And when she did  move out, I don't think I can deal with anymore 'drop in' visits to see my son (who is 2.) They already do it enough and they live 2 hours away now. \n\n</b>", "summary": "Husband who gives me flack for being close to my family tells me that we will never move closer to them, meanwhile secretly planning his mother getting a job to move to our town. </b>"}
{"id": "t3_45e3ng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my exgirlfriend [25 F], broke up because of finances but still have feelings", "post": "My exgirlfriend and I dated for about four years. Last April, she broke up with me because she felt that I wasn't willing to be serious with her. She then dated other guys and posted pictures of how much fun she was having on Facebook. This really hurt my feelings because I still cared about her. She's asked me twice if I want to date again. The first time was right after she dated someone else. The second time was right before she started dating a second guy. \n\nThe reason I was hesitant to get engaged is that this also meant moving in with her. It's been almost four years since she graduated and she's still not in a position to afford her own basic living expenses. I've made more money than her mom or dad for the last year or two. They know this. They have been supporting her while she lives at home.\n\nWhen she broke up with me, she said we could immediately get back together if I gave her a ring. The problem was that this also meant that I could be responsible for her living expenses. I felt like her family was forcing me to incur a financial liability if I wanted to continue to date their daughter. This honestly felt like extortion.\n\nI feel like she purposely dated other guys to try and force me to make an emotional rather than a rational decision. It's a terrible thing to have to walk away from someone you cared about because you think her mother is teaching her daughter that extortion is okay since \"she's worth it\".\n\nI'm not trying to date her again because she's now a mental/emotional as well as a financial liability. I just want to know if I overreacted or this really does sound like extortion?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me when I wouldn't give her a ring. I thought her family was trying to force me into paying her basic living expenses. So I walked away. Do you think I misunderstood the situation? This was my longest relationship."}
{"id": "t3_iukph", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, let's restore some of our collective faith in people. What's something small you did to help someone else that still makes you feel good?", "post": "I'll start. When I was a sophomore in high school, some friends and I got lunch at Subway. On the way out of the restaurant, food in hand, a homeless guy hit us up for change. Now, I try to give homeless people a little something whenever I have the opportunity, so I pulled out my wallet and looked inside. I had two $10 bills, plus a few coins as change for lunch. I was about to give the guy the coins, when the reality of the food in my other hand hit me. I pulled out one of the $10s and gave it to him. \n\nHe was dumbstruck. A second later, he yelled out, \"Wings! I got wings!\" and went straight into Subway. When I caught up to my friends, they asked me what I gave the guy. \n\n\"Just a couple bucks,\" I answered. They gave me the *whatever* look and we went on with our day. Still love this memory.", "summary": "Wings"}
{"id": "t3_34gj3s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating my own tooth", "post": "So about 7 years ago, I fell while rollerskating and broke my front left tooth on the top of my mouth. It cracked in half horizontally, however, we were able to salvage the piece and get it glued back in. Fast forward to 5mins ago. I'm eating a caramel pop, and the soft texture suddenly turns crunchy while i'm chewing it. Thinking that it's just really hard caramel (since it's old candy) I keep chewing until i stick my tongue forward to try and get some caramel off my teeth. My tongue goes through to the front of my mouth. I'm like, \"holy crap, my broken tooth part fell out, gotta find it.\"\n\nNope, there is no finding it, I spit out what remained of caramel pop into warm water, and discovered only fragments of tooth... and the fragments only made up a very small portion of what should have been there... Meaning I ate the rest.\n\nNow i'm going to have to go to the dentist and sell them my soul just to get a fake replacement...", "summary": "Tooth broke off in caramel pop and I ate it."}
{"id": "t3_3lmtkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] not knowing how to handle my BF [24M] confessing", "post": "I have been with him for 3 years now. A few days ago he told me over the phone, just before bed that he is developing feelings for this other girl [22F], let's call her T. He says he still wants to be with me.\n\nA bit about T. He got to know T through a group assignment at uni last term and although the assignment is over, they've kept in contact with each other over Facebook, texts and weekly study sessions. Initially the messages were strictly about uni/study but they started exchanging pictures of their pets, a few selfies, liking his profile picture...it grew *friendlier* if you like. When I started getting suspicious and voiced it to him, he made me feel like I was being irrational/paranoid.\n\nEventually it started intruding on my time with my BF. We were out on our anniversary date and he would be messaging her. We would have dinner together and he would send her pictures of his food. Somehow he failed to mention that he had a GF in the entire time they've known each other but I am quite sure neither T nor my BF have done anything physical.\n\nAfter he told me, we agreed that he would stop seeing her and cut down on messaging as well. Meeting him in the last few days was hard because as much as I want to forgive him, I am constantly reminded of what he had done...and I don't think he understands how I am struggling because he continues to make jokes about 'her pussy' (she has a cat). He called it his coping mechanism but I couldn't handle feeling the stress of trying to love somebody who has hurt me. So...I told him that we should take a one week break. Don't contact either T or me.\n\nHowever this morning he messaged me saying he was going to meet up with her tomorrow. He says this is his way of getting over her...but it just causes me more pain and I don't know if I can trust him.", "summary": "BF confessed to me about having feelings for [22F]. I told him to cut contact. Initially he agreed to it but now he wants to meet her again."}
{"id": "t3_2yy542", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 4.5 years, have not seen or spoken to each other (besides a few texts here and there) for 2 months.(Story in comments)", "post": "Been dating the same guy for 4.5 years. He lives a little over an hour away. We were really close in the beginning. Over the past two years, there has been a decline. I have addressed this multiple times and he refuses to work on the relationship and sometimes just ignores me. \n\nEventually, it became that every time we saw each other he would mainly play video games. Later, he joined a band. I went to see the band once. No one in the band knew that he had a girlfriend and felt uncomfortable that I was around. I later had to tell them I was the girlfriend to which they replied ,\"Sorry, we didn't know he had a girlfriend.\" We always had each other's facebook passwords as a form trust. He changed his facebook password and had me walk to the otherside of the room as he typed his info in. I tried to ask him about this and just changed the subject.\n\nOver the past two months, he has made no effort to see me. He has never called me. He did not acknowledge Valentine's day or my birthday. There have been a few texts here and there ,but nothing of real substance. About a week ago he sent he a picture of a glass he bought. I said \"cool\" and that was the end of the conversation.\n\nThe question is; should I try to mend things or just break-up? If I do break-up, how should I do it?", "summary": "Boyfriend does not make an effort to work on relationship. Has done some shady shit. Should I call it off."}
{"id": "t3_g4lgu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit! Help me find a way to exercise!", "post": "For a variety of reasons, including a recent break-up, i've been very tempted to \"hit the gym\" as the saying goes.  \nHowever, the gym on my college campus is quite far away and going there, exercising and going back would take up a huge amount of my time.  \n\nI have enough motivation to exercise if I figure out some practical way to do it.\nI know I could run, but I don't want to look like the crazy guy on campus.  \nI have been considering at least semi-exercising by doing push-ups, but I don't know how many to do or when to do them.  \n\nSuggestions?", "summary": "What are easy, sans-gym ways to exercise?"}
{"id": "t3_3rohsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f23] don't want to go on a second date with [m24]. He is angry and thinks I'm shallow", "post": "A month ago I met a 24M on Okcupid. We liked each others pictures and hit it off, and so went on the date.\n\nThe date was... Cringeworthy. First off he was 5'5 at most instead of 5'9 like he said he was. I'm a 5'7 female, not a freakishly tall woman ny any means, but I do look for a man who is at least my hight or taller. I don't think that's unreasonable. I mean, I'm slightly overweight and I don't expect great abs or CQ model looks. But I won't date shorter than me.\n\nThe guy, lets call him Josh, made me uncomfortable throughout the entire date. He made sexual comments, asked me about my sexual past etc. He played a cheesy song, wrote a crappy poem for me at the restaurant and said he loved me...\n\nI was really annoyed with him. When the bill came I planned on splitting it, but he had forgotten his wallet and I ended up paying. He asked me for another date but I told him we weren't compatible and thanked him for the evening. He seemed okay, but then he started texting me, asking if it was because of his height. I told him it wasn't. He sent me an angry message about how I am only a a 6\\10 and that women only want 6'5 guys and that he had to lie on dating sites.\n\nHonestly yes, his height is a turn off but his behavior is more so. He now texts me about once a day and tries to convince me to 'be friends'. I don't want anything to do with him. What can I do?", "summary": "= guy from okcupid is pissed cause I rejected him. He is now borderline stalking me.what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4svkre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (36/F) want to get out of emotionally abusive relationship from my husband (36/M). Need advice", "post": "My (36/M) husband and I (36/F) have been together over 10 years and have 3 children. He's emotionally, financially and monetarily abusive to me and my children and I want to leave. I have no friends or family here, I'm from the midwest and currently live on the west coast. \n\nI have friends who already offered me and my children a place to stay, but I have no clue how I'm going to raise the money without my husband finding out. Nor do I have any idea how I'm going to find a job, childcare, or even a house. My credit is also going to be \naffected by this because everything's in my name. \n\nI want to leave, but I feel like I can't. He's got a tight grip on me and has turned me into his prisoner. \n\nHow can my children and I escape?", "summary": "Want to leave husband, but don't know where to start!"}
{"id": "t3_qchie", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the smartest/funniest thing your pet has done?", "post": "A few days ago my dog was chewing on a half-full water bottle. She walked away from it, leaving it upright on the carpet so the water wouldnt spill out. She then comes back, wanting my attention. She picks up the water bottle and holds it at an angle where the water wouldnt pour out. She comes up to me and I pet her, but stop after a few seconds. She then proceeds to tilt her head a little so that the majority of the water comes out and pours right onto my leg, soaking it. I move, she tilts her head, stopping the water and giving me a look as if to say, \"you deserved it.\"", "summary": "Didnt pay enough attention to dog, she pours water onto me."}
{"id": "t3_rd41n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We've said I love you...but I feel like we should say it more?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been dating for almost 9 months. He said \"I love you\" first after about 7 months and I said it back (I had known I love him for a few months but didn't want my saying it to pressure him since this is his first relationship). Since then I've said it like \"goodnight I love you\" and he says it back but I noticed he doesn't say it first. He's probably only said it like 4 times since the first time. I'm not sure how to talk to him about it because I don't want to seem weird like \"hey I think we should say 'I love you' more\" but I also get really self conscious always saying it first in order to hear it back. I guess the only plus is that its really special when I hear it since its not very often but I also feel really sad when I want to say it but feel like he'll just say it back because I said it. Pleaseee help! Or tell me how often other people in relationships say 'I love you'", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't say I love you very often (like only has said it 4 times in the 2 months since he first said it) and not sure how to go about getting him to say it more."}
{"id": "t3_2gbaxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with a Girl [19 F] I've known for a year, asked her for coffee, now she is ignoring my texts.", "post": "Last Saturday I asked a girl I have known for almost a year out for coffee. She was surprised, and asked me \"Actually?\" before giving me her number with a huge smile on her face. \n\nWe texted back and forth later that night to setup a date, but our conflicting work schedules didn't allow for a date this week. When I asked her about next week (this upcoming week), she never responded.\n\nI see her once, sometimes twice or three times, a week. This week when I saw her at her work on Wednesday, she wore more a lot more makeup then she usually does, and she knew I was going to be there because of our texting from Saturday. This maybe a coincidence, but I have a feeling it's not.\n\nSo I sent her a text Thursday asking if she still wanted to go and get coffee, and immediately got a \"yes :)\" I texted her yesterday asking again what day works best for her this upcoming week (I know her work schedule for the next two weeks is given to her by that day) and still have yet to hear anything back.", "summary": "Asked a girl out, when initially planning she was texting back immediately but when I asked about this upcoming week all I got was radio silence. Asked her if she still wanted to go, got an immediate reply, but again when I asked what day works best for her I got radio silence again. "}
{"id": "t3_3nxsu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and Girlfriend[22F] of about 2 months aren't interacting as we used to.", "post": "Hello Relationships, \n\nSo I met Jane at a party through a mutual friend, we hit it off, we exchanged numbers and began seeing each other more often. This is a long distance type of relationship because she's in school and I'm in my home town. \n\nWe call each other, text each other very often and on the weekends make plans because she usually comes back for the weekends. We like each other, we have the similar likes and dislikes and can get along very well. \n\nUp until this week everything was going good, last weekend we went out with some friends and her friends really like me. Monday I text her in the morning but no reply for hours, she said she's busy with school I get that but it feels weird almost if she's trying to cut me off or something. Tuesday same situation, Wednesday same story. So I asked her if everything is alright she said she's been thinking a lot lately. And I reassured her that Ill be there to talk to if she's not feeling well.\n\nRelationships what should I do next, should I confront her in person?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 months recently started kinda ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_24zevj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I falling out of love?", "post": "18M about to graduate hs and have been dating a junior 17f for two years and a few months now. Some background info, she has psychological issues(bpd,depression,insomnia) clinically diagnosed and treated with medication.  and issues with family, we had broken up and been on and off in the first two months of our relationship. I broke up with her over the previous summer and was not unhappy but definitely lonely. \n\nI helped her through a lot of issues but she's just never happy unless she is with me in person and has told me so. I have always felt like me being her sole source of happiness wasn't healthy or fair to me as I feel VERY obligated to our relationship no matter what. I now have a job and will be graduating I a month or so and I feel like during summer college there's no way it can last if we don't see each other fairly regularly. \n\nWhen we text or talk on the phone there is no real conversation usually and I realize this is expected at a point in long term relationships but I just don't know.. recently (weeks ago) i had started to take an interest in this girl in my class and we had started texting each other pretty regularly the last (five?) Days or so. And frankly I feel bad for doing this but not really guilty. I feel like deep down I know my current relationship won't work but I don't want it being the case where\" the grass is always greener on the other side\" and then it isn't. I broke up with her over the previous summer and was not unhappy but definitely lonely. What should I do...", "summary": "should I break up with my current gf?"}
{"id": "t3_sfqdo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is windows 8 as a primary os sort of ready yet?", "post": "So As of late I've had a large stroke of bad luck and today my windows decided to go nuts. Upon starting up my laptop this morning I got a few errors, looking them  up and trying to fix them I got rid of them. 10 minutes later I got a windows update so I restarted my laptop, windows 7 bootscreen comes up then a blue screen of death decides to show up. Thinking the BSOD was a fluke I restarted again and I got the loginscreen, logged in, desktop was starting up as slow as hell and then again a BSOD...\n\nSo after a hard long search for my Windows 7 disk, I find out that it was thrown away a long while ago with the key... As I am against pirating, I'm probably going to buy windows 7 again but I remembered that the consumer version of Windows 8 is already here...", "summary": "Should I download the consumer version of windows 8 and wait for the release of windows 8 before purchasing a new windows or just purchase windows 7 now?"}
{"id": "t3_3rb31u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my ?? [27/28 M] 5mo, I like him more and it sucks.", "post": "I think I need a kick in the pants.\n\nA few months ago I started having sex with a (not close at all) friend and everything was good. We were both recently out of relationships and it was fun. I caught the feels and things started going downhill from there. At that point we discussed it and concluded there were feelings on both ends but unsure about starting an actual relationship (he didn't want to, I didn't know). \n\nBut now it's obvious I like him more and it sucks. When we're together it's good but when we're not it's not good at all. We used to hang out a lot but lately not much at all, due to him. When he doesn't want to, I get upset. Often I hide it but occasionally it bubbles out and I ask him to just tell it like it is if he doesn't like me anymore. It makes me feel insane but I can't seem to help it. After a while, I calm down, but as soon as I think I'm okay, I get sucked right back in.\n\nIronically I've been casually dating another guy about the same amount of time and we're in opposing positions - he likes me more and I'm on the fence. It makes me feel guilty when I'm upset about the first guy and don't have the energy to give the second any attention. \n\nJust in case of questions, neither knows about the other, but both know we're not exclusive.\n\nI'm not sure what I want out of this or either of them. I wish things were back to earlier in the summer when everything was just for fun, or that I could take a step back emotionally.", "summary": "I'm in two casual relationships that are very different from each other. One I like more and invest way too much of my emotions into while he pulls away and the other is exactly the opposite."}
{"id": "t3_2kagh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "sorry, messed up the title. Me [20m] and my [19 GF] have been doing long distance for 3 months and have hit a rough patch...\n\nshe goes to an ivy league school and has been really busy recently so we've only been talking on skype once a week. i'm fine with that as long as she keeps me updated with little e-mails and texts. that hasn't been happening though and here's what i just wrote to her. am i over-reacting?\n\n----------------\n\ni'm sorry, i have to be brutally honest and i hope you will too. you've felt so different lately and i've been trying to understand, but this week i wrote to you 3 times without hearing anything back. i get that you're busy but it takes a minute to respond and brighten my day by telling me you're okay, and i just don't get how you couldn't find a single minute for that over 3 days if you could find a free evening for a party. if writing back has become a chore for you i should know that, we both have enough to worry about on our own without making it worse for each other, so i really need you to be honest with me. have we stopped making each other happy?", "summary": "i'm doing long-distance and my girlfriend is busy with school and can't/won't find much time to communicate. i wrote her a very honest e-mail, was it a good thing or am i adding to her stress for no reason?"}
{"id": "t3_30wufy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not mowing the lawn", "post": "Obligatory \"the not mowing the lawn didn't happen today, but *years* ago.\" However, the FU is only catching up to me today.\n\nSo, after my parent's divorce, my dad got my mom's name of the deed to the house, and put mine and my sister's instead (alongside his). A few years later, because of reasons, the bank foreclosed on the house, and we had to move out. In the meantime, I had gone to Latin America for ~3 months for work. When I returned, the house was no longer ours, but I did make the mistake of going to it one last time to pick up the mail. There was a registered letter, so I went to the post office, and signed for it. Big mistake.\n\nAs it was from the municipality, I simply gave it to my dad (after all, I still considered it *his* house), and forgot all about it (another mistake). Fast forward to now (I moved to Europe from Latin America last summer), and I received a call from my mom that I had to call the municipality. I did, and they told me that I had an unpaid fine for the \"unkempt lawn\" that has grown ridiculously large and that I had to pay it right away, or they would emit an arrest warrant under my name. I told them I have no way of paying it, as I am out of work and not in the country, and that I would like to contest the fine. The lady said it was too late to do that, so I just said screw it, and am probably gonna get arrested next time I visit my family.", "summary": "didn't mow the lawn; not passing Go!, not collecting $200, going directly to jail."}
{"id": "t3_oya2n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best/most memorable wedding you've ever been to, and why?", "post": "I'm helping my best friend plan her wedding. Never planned anything like a wedding before. I was hoping there would be a /r/weddingporn subreddit like /r/foodporn and /r/roomporn, but I can't find anything like that. So I thought I'd ask the hive mind: what was the most memorable wedding you've ever been to, and why? \n\nI'm looking for inspiration and hoping your stories give me ideas. My friend isn't religious, but she's into the idea of incorporating cool wedding customs from other cultures/religions/etc., if we can make them meaningful to her.\n\nObviously she's on a budget and not hiring a real wedding planner, but I would still love to hear stories about crazy, outrageous, big weddings because we might be able to figure out ways to do smaller versions of bigger ideas.", "summary": "not asking for anyone to help me plan this wedding, but would love to hear fun stories from the most awesome weddings you've been to, hoping they'll inspire me as I plan one."}
{"id": "t3_2jrkfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my bf[23m] been together just over a year, broken up and I cannot help but feel so guilty.", "post": "So me and my now ex met online July 2013. From the start I knew he was a really disciplined individual because of his eating habits ( very strict; non GMO, only free range meats etc..), his education and his martial arts career. \n\nThings were great up until 4 months ago, we would argue all the time about everything. We would have super intense arguments over the stupidest things like me wearing make up (he thought I looked hideous and super fake) or like me talking about something stressful in my life without warning him first that I was going to do that. He restricted my ability to talk about my stress in life to the weekends because he \"couldn't handle my emotions all the time\" and when it came down to discussing my stress or an argument, he would dissect every emotion to action to reaction to emotion. I just couldn't do that anymore, even after letting him know all I wanted him to do is just to listen, not to analyze in explicit detail everything I was feeling and my actions because of those feelings. \n\nI even went to counseling for the last 3 weeks because he said my communication is poor and I don't understand the English Language ( even though it is my first language). I was just going to counseling by myself. He never offered to come along with me. \n\nSo I broke up with him yesterday, and it wasn't until I said \" I realized through the counseling that I am just done trying to make us work\" was he then willing to commit and go to counseling and \"Do whatever it takes to keep you here with me\" I didn't give in to that because I feel like if he really did want to make us work, he would have been that committed since the beginning of our problems. \n\nBut now I feel really guilty. I feel like I should have given him that opportunity. I don't know if it's just a post break up feeling or if I genuinely made a huge mistake.", "summary": "broke up with bf, now feeling really guilty and that I didn't give him the opportunity to help fix the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1er73z", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Me [18m] and my gf [15f] just broke up a few days ago after 2.5 years.. Where do I go now?", "post": "I apologize because I'm sure people on this thread have read a ton of \"How do I get over her/him\" posts, but this was my first serious relationship, and I am not sure where to begin with continuing my life.\n\nBasics: Me and her were dating for 2 and a half years, and we just broke up a few days ago. It wasn't a bad break and we weren't fighting, we had a civil discussion which basicly concluded to the fact that neither of us was truly happy and we needed to move on.\n\nMe and this girl have done everything together for the last two years, she comes on family camping trips and vacations with me, she spends a week or more sometimes living at my house, and now I feel kind of lost.\n\nI'm happy with the break, I know that it's the right thing for me, but I don't want to lose all of the good things that we had in our relationship, and I'm not sure if it's healthy to continue hanging out and enjoying the things we enjoy together as friends instead of as a couple.\n\nSo my question is, where do I go next? What is my next step? I have an entire summer vacation ahead of me before I start my first year of college, and I don't want to spend it all trying to get over this girl. She was such a huge part of my life, that without her I feel like I'm missing part of myself.\n\nI'm trying to view this, and college starting, as an entire new beginning. I'm reconnecting with some old friends, I cut my hair, I've started yoga and doing some activities I haven't done in a long time.", "summary": "We broke up a few days ago, I feel lost with myself and don't know what I should be doing next to continue my life."}
{"id": "t3_1imqae", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Dog-earing great passages, does anyone else do this?", "post": "Whenever I read, I dog-ear the top corner to mark my place as I go along, but when I come to a passage that blows my mind or strikes a perfect chord I dog-ear the bottom and I leave it there. Anybody else do this? \n\nExample\nJust read a collection of Conrad's works including Heart of Darkness and this part stuck with me:\n\n\"We called at some more places with farcical names, where the merry dance of death and trade goes on in a still and earthy atmosphere as of an overheated catacomb; all along the formless coast bordered by dangerous surf, as if Nature herself had tried to ward off intruders; in and out of rivers, streams of death in life, that seemed to writhe at us in the extremity of an impotent despair. Nowhere did we stop long enough to get a particularized impression, but the general sense of vague and oppressive wonder grew upon me. It was like a weary pilgrimage amongst hints for nightmares.\"", "summary": "does anybody else mark great passages as they read?"}
{"id": "t3_13ljjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf troubles I (m18)recently found out something about my (18F) gf that is really bothering me", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for about a year and 4 months. We have had a good relationship with only a few hiccups, she is my first gf and I am her first bf. Lately I have been hitting the gym with my friend and I have grown close to him and is now my best friend. In recent time we have been talking about masturbation, she has been comfortable about talking about it with me. She was very upset that I watched porn but she would let me, that same day I found out through another friend that she masturbated to the thought of my best friend which in result really angered me and hurt in a way. I thought I was over reacting but I can't seem to get over it. When I asked if it was true she said it was true and  I cussed at her through text and told her to leave me alone, because I just was really upset because he is my best friend. After this I texted her and we were back to normal but then we started to sext and the thought of what happened haunts me and now I can't bare the thought of her. So I told her that I needed space to think and to leave alone for a while, I said this politely and she understood. Now she called me and left a voicemail because I was busy and she said that she was bad at giving me space and was hoping to hear my voice, but that she will leave me alone until I text or call her. So my question is that was my behavior bad? Over reaction? Also what should I do from here?", "summary": "In short my gf has masturbated to the thought of my best friend and I had to find out through another friend, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing.I want to know what I should do from this point on."}
{"id": "t3_3d89va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wanna know if he (22M) is interested in me (21F) to ask for another date?", "post": "Been on two dates. I've initiated both which isn't a problem, he seems genuinely sweet and was happy to go on both. We had sex on the second date. He texted me the next day with some small talk. Then the conversation kind of died out after a few texts. It's been two days since that convo.\n\nAnyway, I'm bad at reading these situations. I can't tell if this was just a hook up or not, because I'd be interested in setting up a third date but it's also chill if it was just a one night stand thing. Thoughts?", "summary": "Should I ask for a third date or was this just a hook up?"}
{"id": "t3_4sailm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my GF [27 F] of two years and her inappropriate [35 M] coworker...", "post": "I'll get right to it:\n\nMy girlfriend has quite a few male friends that I'm also good friends with. She has been friends with these guys for many years and as a result, my girlfriend can have a very \"guy\" mentality. She has very crude humor and take a joke like no other.\n\nCue to her co worker. I don't really know him but I guess he has raunchy humor as well. Although this guy is married, he's texted her about seeing through her pants and able to see her underwear, about slapping her ass and other weird shit. I'm a guy. My radars went off. I told my girlfriend he has a thing for her. She just laughs and disagrees completely. I knew this guy was married and thought it ws strange he would all of a sudden become so chatty. I had the idea in my head that his marriage was going sour. I was right. I told my girlfriend he's being ridiculously inappropriate. She agreed. She asked if I wanted to her to quit speaking to him. I'm not the jealous type nor am I worried about her, I'm just annoyed with this idiot. I've seen this guy subtlety ask her what sort of relationship him and her have (as in friends). I can read between the lines. I know he's feeling out the situation with my girlfriend. The thing is, I trust my girlfriend. Everything between her and I is lovely. She thinks of this guy as a friend. I've bluntly asked her if I should be worried and she told me \"absolutely not.\" I told her to tell me if he says any more weird shit and she agreed that she will as he hasn't said anything dumb recently. \n\nWhat the fuck should I think of all this?", "summary": "girlfriend has an inappropriate coworker. I want to punch him in the face."}
{"id": "t3_2y8s9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24M] in a long distance relationship with my gf [22F]. I'm not sure how to advance this", "post": "We have been together for a year but we live on different continents. She's about to graduate and I've already been working for quite some time. I come visit her every chance I get and I feel like we're really compatible. How would I take this to the next level?\nI get thoughts of wanting to propose to her, but that would require her to leave her entire life, friends, career future and family away to move in with me. I feel like that's a lot to ask for, but is it? I'm not sure.. \n\nI've already brushed indirectly about the subject, asking if she'd want to stay where she is. She said she definitely would want to leave her country, but again, I feel like I'd feel better if I got to know that she's willing to do it because she thinks is right rather than do it because I asked her out of love.", "summary": "gf lives in another continent. Not sure how to ask her to give up her life to marry and live with me"}
{"id": "t3_20squ5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] found out bf's [27 M] Reddit account, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So recently, I was looking through some posts on reddit and as what it says on the title, I found out my bf's username. I'm not gonna go into details about how i know for sure it is him but I just know.. I wish i didn't though because everyday I started to check his account. I know it sounds stalkerish and creepy but I can't help it. And I also found out that he has a throwaway account for obviously dirtier stuff. Whenever he makes a comment on gw or any other subreddit related with girls that are attractive, I honestly get upset. I know i shouldn't though but I really just can't help it and don't know what to do. Also, there were things that he wrote on his account that weren't the same as what he would say to me. Should i be telling my bf about this?", "summary": "Found out bf's reddit username and now I know everything he thinks or does."}
{"id": "t3_455lhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] GF [19F] is nice with me, but a douche to others", "post": "We've been together for 2 years and I've noticed when she's with me she's really nice, sweet, and also insecure about herself. She tells me I helped her a lot telling her she's beautiful but she still feels insecure yada yada yada.\n\nBut, when she's around other people, she seems cocky/way too confident. Like if one of her friends tell her \"this dress makes you look great\" she smiles and says \"I know right haha\" while if I say it she's like \"oh my god you really think that ?\". I also heard some guys in high school say they tried to approach her but she wouldn't even respond, and if she did it was a one word reply but for some reason she liked me and always initiated the conversation and actually she's the one who asked me out and kissed me first. Is she just trying to fake confidence with others or why is she this way?", "summary": "My gf is very sweet with me, not so much with others."}
{"id": "t3_e9y45", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think I just helped someone cheat.", "post": "I don't know what to do, was at friends party (pub party) and met a nice group of girls. One thing lead to the other and I ended up making out with one of the girls out side the venue. Half way through she seemed to become hesitant, and if I have learnt ANY thing from reddit it's that girls will cry wolf and rapist. So i stopped and let her go after exchanging numbers (she had two phones which I found odd.)\n\nAfter a while me and my mates decided to call it a day, and saw her talking to a rather distressed looking guy, which could've been her boyfriend. Now i feel really guilty, not for her, but for the guy, what should I do RA? I have her number and name but that's about all.", "summary": "Made out with girl, she might have boyfriend.. I'm still drunk."}
{"id": "t3_j1wfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help before I ruin everything from depression :/", "post": "So the set up isn't to important. I'm a girl, he's a guy. I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder. He has put up with so much. He helped me diagnose the problem, supported me through the start of treatment. We have been together for 3 years(on and off). The depression is basically, I have no confidence. I never think I'm worth the relationship so my paranoid mind makes me think he is cheating on me. I have put him through so much and he is still here so I can't imagine he doesn't really love me. But it is so hard to get my emotional/paranoid mind to shut up so I can listen to the rational mind and calm down. \n\nI've been on medication for over a year. The first one made me really happy and better but I had no desire for sex and when we had it, I didn't enjoy anything. I had ridiculous dreams that ruined my sleep and cause me to ruin aspects of my life. I also just lost my insurance so I switched to a new one. Its only been two months so I don't know if its working. \n\nI try to hold it all back and let it out other ways but I break. I cry and i end up accusing him of cheating and he denies it. I don't know if I don't trust him for good reason or because of my insecurity and paranoia. I don't have evidence so I haven't done anything. But I just want to be happy and confident in myself and my relationship. I don't know if these feelings are just magnified by the new meds taking a while to get going or if my instinct is right. \n\nSorry this is really long. but I communicate better through typing than face to face(such a redditor).\nAll I ask is for some help and words of encouragement(or maybe a kick in the ass).", "summary": "My depression is ruining my relationship and I need some help, please."}
{"id": "t3_4dbapo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my boyfriend [38M] 2.5 years, I think I just gave him an ultimatum? **UPDATE**", "post": "[Original post.\n](\n  \nWe had breakfast a week later and talked about everything, the house and whatnot, and he said he is working on it and he feels awful about it and doesn't want to lose me and he missed me a lot this week. He said his goal is to be in there by the end of the month and I reiterated that I am willing to help in any way I can, and gave some specific examples of how I would be willing to help.\n\nAs of Friday, he is living in his house full-time.\n\nHe made a good point about how my eagerness to \"start our life together\" made him feel like I didn't like or appreciate what we have now, which I understand in a way. I had to explain that it wasn't that, it was that I love what we have now so much that I want MORE. i want to transition to more. I think he got that.\n\nWe continued it into dinner and he kept mentioning THE PLAN (\"the plan\" being a plan for our future/to propose) again and i was like WHAT IS THE PLAN and he said he couldn't tell me, so I asked for a timeframe at least, and he said he plans to propose by the end of the year (!!!!).\n\nI asked him to please tell my PARENTS the plan so they will stop asking me or saying OH MAYBE HE'LL PROPOSE on any holiday or special occasion and making me anxious. \n\nThen we had really, really good sex.", "summary": "He moved into his house and has a plan to propose by the end of the year. He seemed to \"get it\"."}
{"id": "t3_2wqdh8", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I safely lower my libido?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old female and I get that this is only normal considering my age but I can't handle myself anymore. I have never had sex and don't plan on it right now due to body issues etc. I masturbate everyday and sometimes more than once. I stopped watching porn because its unfulfilling and instead sext/phone sex with a guy friend of mine. I've been regularly going to the gym. Eating mostly healthy and sleeping the right amount. But regardless of all this, I feel horny almost all the time, especially with this guy friend. I've come to the point where I feel I need sex and having had a bad experience before and where I am with my self image right now, I can't get myself to participate in sexual intercourse. Please let me know of any ways I can help lower my libido. Thank you", "summary": "Don't want sex due to body issues. High libido has me frustrated, and unfulfilled all the time even after masturbating. Help me"}
{"id": "t3_317ipa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25M professional artist/animator/illustrator dating hobbyist artists. How to deal?", "post": "Not sure how useful it is to post this here but here goes.\n\nI am usually pretty critical about art in general. I'm excited when people are into it but it's really difficult when someone says they do art, you date them then they link you to their deviantart and it's all really really amateur sketches of anime characters. What do I do at this point when I am really critical about this particular stereotype regarding 'hobbyist artists' who turn out to.....not be any good?\n\nI can't just go on lying saying their art is good when my standards are pretty high at this point. Been doing this stuff over 10 years.  Visual art is something 'anyone' can do, so the quality of it varies a lot. \n\nAm I being an asshole or can someone actually give me good advice on how to overcome this? Am I supposed to say 'yeah it's good' then turn around to my other art friends and defend how good it is later? It's not like I'm dating a med student and telling her I'm a doctor in my spare time...", "summary": "When meeting an awesome person who happens to do art as a hobby, but turns out to be really bad at it, how do I, as a professional artist date someone without lying about it? T_T"}
{"id": "t3_4v9vy8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriends[32] ex still hangs out with her daughter.", "post": "Hello,\n\nRecently things have gotten more serious with my gf who is 32 and has a daughter and myself who is 29 and has no kids.  She broke up with her ex somewhat recently, maybe 6 months ago or so.  Her ex constantly calls to talk to her daughter (nearly nightly) and watches her probably one or two nights a week, and hangs out with her for probably every other weekend (for the whole weekend).  When we first started hanging out I didn't really care, but now that she wants to be more serious it's starting to seem very strange to say the least.  I brought it up a tiny bit by saying I understand that you dated him for like 3 years but doesn't he want his own children and family someday?  What if you moved across the country? He's not the dad.  I know it would be hard to let go of a child, but for his sake and the little girls sake I wonder what's right. The conversation didn't really go anywhere and she just said if he wants to see her she isn't going to say no.  I tried to let it go but now this week he is taking her daughter for a week and a half camping trip.  This just seems wrong to me, and it seems like most men she dates in the future would question it and most women her ex dates would wonder why he is always with her ex's daughter.  I feel like there's something nefarious behind this, and maybe one or the other is trying to keep hooks in the other through the child.  It seems so strange to me, am I being crazy?", "summary": "girlfriend has an ex that is extremely close with daughter after break up, thus staying close to her.  I wonder if it's time to ween them apart or the proper way to handle this, or if I'm being crazy."}
{"id": "t3_1ye9tg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my date [20 M/F] 1.5 months, she wants to keep things casual because of her ex.", "post": "So I have been dating this girl for around a month and a half and it's been great. We see each other a couple times a week and I really enjoy my time spent with her. A week ago I decided I wanted to talk to her about if she was interested in getting exclusive since we have been dating casually for a while. It's worth mentioning that her and her ex of 2 years had been on and off for a few months and she called it off with him about a month before we started dating. They are still friends, and I'm still friends with my ex too so I guess that's fair.\n\nAnyways, when I asked her if she wants to go exclusive she told me that \"she thinks she does\" but wants to wait a while so she isn't insensitive to her ex. She goes on and says that she is confused right now about what she wants to do and that her relationship with her ex was rocky towards the end and that I'm someone who really makes her want to break that cycle of getting back together again. So, I never got the answer I wanted and things sound kind of sketchy with the whole ex situation (even if she did break up with him before she met me).\n\nI know she likes me a lot, and I'm obviously interested in her but I don't knnow what to do from here. Can it really be that complicated to go exclusive if we both are interested in it? I feel like I should respect what she is saying but I don't know how long she will feel like this and if we will just be casually dating for another 2 months. What are some points I should bring up in our next conversation about it?", "summary": "Talked about exclusivity with girl ive been dating for 1.5 months, says she is interested but has confused feelings and doesn't want to be insensitive to her ex. I'm interested in a relationship with her, how should I approach this without being insensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_wx1ga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend shoved me. Help me make sense of this! (I'm 22 F, he's 20M)", "post": "(been dating for 2 years) Just to set some groundwork me and my boyfriend argue very rarely. We've had arguments maybe 3 or 4 times before this but nothing where we got really angry. Our last fight was not just one of those arguments it was pretty bad.\n\nI was angry at him because he was being difficult about some paperwork he was supposed to do after supper. Really he was just putting it off and was getting a little defensive. Then I got mad and raised my voice and said some hurtful things and he started shouting back at me. He threw his pen at the wall, I called him an asshole and he said I was \"acting like a bitch\". We kept at it for a few minutes until he said that he was done with the argument and was leaving. \n\nSo he goes to the door and I follow, I called him lazy and said some other mean things that I think set him off. He told me to go away, but I kept at him, and then he pushed me into the door. I'm so pissed at him I think I could explode. He tried to apologize but I just shrugged him off. He left afterward. \n\nI don't know what to do, nothing like this has ever happened before he's usually such a collected and calm person. I don't know how to feel about this. I know the usual advice would be to break up with him but I'm not sure. I'm just looking for input thanks. Can I talk this out with him?", "summary": "Had a fight with my boyfriend, he ended up pushing me. I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_43tag2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [16 F] is hurt by what her boyfriend [15 M]of one/two months said about her", "post": "My friend (Mary) was Face timing with her boyfriend (Joe) and started to ask him about what he dislikes about her. Joe mentions that he doesn't really like Mary's small chest and dislikes her bony hands. (She's really skinny). Of course, Mary is hurt by this and I'm not sure how to judge Joe. He has consistently shown signs of immaturity but he seems to care for her well being.\n\nI understand that people have preferences and all but how should a person react to this kind of confession? Does he genuinely love her if he finds these physical qualities about her a bit unappealing?", "summary": "Joe told Mary he finds Mary's small chest and bony hands unappealing. How should she feel about this?"}
{"id": "t3_32wwlv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - By not realising my own strength.", "post": "So, this happened a couple of years back, it was snowing, and me and my girlfriend were taking the dog for a walk. My girlfriend began throwing snowballs at me, trying to spark some retaliation. Well, i retaliated. I started by throwing some back and running around her, trying to dodge her projectiles whilst consistently barraging her with snowy death. It went on like this for half an hour or so and then i eventually had the best idea in the world \"oh wouldn't it be like a disney movie if i just tackled her to the floor all playful like\" No... no it wouldn't be. It was closer to something that might happen in the gridiron gang movie or the longest yard. i full on destroyed her, just ran into her and knocked her straight onto her side and she let out a tremendous crying sound that i hadn't heard from her before at that point. I can't possibly explain how bad i felt, i carried her home and apologised to her perpetually until she accepted that i didn't mean to be a massive dick. She wasn't hurt or anything but i still feel bad about doing that just because it was so fucking stupid.", "summary": "Tried to be playful and charming but ended up charging my gf like a minotaur."}
{"id": "t3_3kay7e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by winning a game.", "post": "This just happened about 30 minutes ago.  It has been a relaxing evening, my girlfriend and I were snuggled on the couch as I watched her play Limbo (a game she has only played on and off for a long time, slowly inching her way through it). However as the good redditors we are, we were distracted by our two cats when they entered the room for attention. We played with them, my girlfriend decided to place socks over their heads. After watching them freak out, flail about and manage escape, my girlfriend gave the cats treats as a reward for their entertainment. This is where I fucked up, I decided to pick up the controller and continue trying to nail this really tricky timing move that involves gravity. After about ten attempts I nailed it and exclaimed in glee handing the controller too my girlfriend. My glee quickly turned to regret when I realized that the game had slowed down in a dramatic fashion and transitioned into a cut scene... I had won the game for her. My girlfriend is now more pissed than our cats were. She isn't talking to me at the moment, what should I do guys?", "summary": "Nailed the game, now I won't be nailing her for a while."}
{"id": "t3_107vau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some advice regarding a female friend of mine. (she's almost 20 and i'm almost 22)", "post": "Okay, I've been friends with this girl for about 10 months.  I first met her at college about a year ago. She had a boyfriend at first, but eventually she broke up with him, and started to pay more attention to me. Soon, we went out several times, started to text a lot, etc. She made it seem like she wanted me to be her boyfriend by how she acted, but when school was over and we went back home (we live relatively close) she acted like she didn't have time to hang out.\nEventually she told me she was going out with this other guy, whom she actually did make her boyfriend. I was pretty devastated, and I realized I had been friendzoned. We still text constantly.\nAnyway, she's been dating him for a couple months and she mentions how she's having trouble trusting him, because he's going to NYC this weekend and some hot friend of his will be there. Oh yeah, and she mentioned that he told her that he has cheated on his girlfriends before, but he would *never* do it again. I just want to ask her what the fuck she is thinking, but I don't want to come off as a dick, and I don't want to ruin my future chances by giving her a piece of my mind.  I'm obsessing over this; I really like her a lot, and I care about her, but I really don't understand what's going through her head. Any advice?", "summary": "Girl I really like friendzoned me, is currently dating a scumbag. What do I do to tell her my feelings on the subject without hurting my future chances with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2iydao", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "The receptionist", "post": "A long time ago, during a summer break from uni, my stepfather arranged a job for me at the company he worked, to cover reception/admin duties for a woman on maternity leave. \nMy colleagues were two older women, one who was absolutely lovely, kind and welcoming, the other a total bitch, who I'll call M.\nI think M had it in for me because I was young, at university and able to do her job with the minimum of training and effort. I was perfectly humble and respectful and didn't do anything to annoy her, yet she was still horrible, constantly belittling me in front of visitors and other staff (i.e. \"Oh never mind him he's just the tea boy\", \"He'll be back at school soon\" and so on.) One time she took great pleasure at telling everyone who would listen how I messed up franking the mail; \"University-educated and still can't use a simple machine!\"\nI quietly put up with six weeks of her shit until one day out of the blue I was offered another position in the company. To cut a long story short they needed people with customer service experience and admin skills to help clear a backlog of work for a government contract.\nAt that point I was just relieved to be away from M and the thought of revenge never crossed my mind.\nUntil...I was told to register a virtual identity on the system, which the person putting the calls through to me would have to use. I quickly realised that person would be M, so instead of inputting my first name like most people, I wrote Mr Dazzlerdeej.\nThere was nothing she could do about this as I was technically now her senior, plus she had made a big point of repeatedly telling me how professional she was and could not lose face.\nSo for the final two weeks I took great pleasure in hearing her call me and say (through gritted teeth) \"Hello Mr Dazzlerdeej, are you able to take a call?\" and \"Hello Mr Dazzlerdeej I have some mail for your department.\" We were very busy so this happened many, many times a day, and I smiled every single time, knowing it was killing her.", "summary": "Summer job colleague treated me like shit, then when I was promoted I made her treat me like royalty."}
{"id": "t3_2jojzw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by inviting the locals to hang out with the hairy twins", "post": "Ok as is quite common, this didn't happen today, this happened many years ago in the far north Australian town of cooktown \nCooktown, was a great place, heaps of Sun, good fishing etc. \nBut just my luck as a young boy, I ventured into the Bush to get my fishing line (my bad for a terrible cast) and disturbed some local natives, I didn't notice anything at the time. \nThe hours passed and I was enjoying fishing on the jetty, my body began to succumb to urinary urges and I went in search of a place to Pee, which as a guy is easy. \nAnyway, for some reason I couldn't feel myself peeing, again, didn't think much of it. \nLater in the day I needed to take a Shit, and I couldn't feel my Ass when sitting on the toilet seat, at this time I brought it to my parents attention. We went to cooktown hospital, or medical clinic, I don't really remember. The doctor had a look, specifically my rear end, and I remember the doctor quite well, he was a very chatty person and at the moment his eyes laid upon my rear end he went quiet, and after a few seconds of awkward silence he uttered words I'll never forget \"oh Shit\". A paralysis tick had found it's way to the back of my scrotum, that little bloodsucking demon, it's head buried deep within my manlyhood, after 4 hours of the doctor trying to extract the tick with the conventional methylated spirits way, and by the way, metho on your balls feels unusual. In the end I was anesthetised and a portion of my scrotum, including the bulbous little monster was removed. I couldn't Pee without crying like a little Bitch for a month and I cannot Pee straight anymore, on top of that I now have a tight shiny scarred scrotum.", "summary": "I wandered into the forest, picked up a vampiric hitchhiker that ruined my ability to urinate for the rest of my life and had lost part of my scrotum."}
{"id": "t3_4wunhy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [25, F] and I [24, M] live together, but she lost her job and isn't really trying to find a new one. [3 years, 9 months cohabiting]", "post": "My GF lost her job 3 weeks ago today. As of this point, to the best of my knowledge, she has only submitted a single resume to a potential employer, despite being home all the time. She didn't even file for her unemployment benefits until Saturday, 19 days after she was let go.\n\nI can afford the rent if she were to be unemployed, but things would be stretched far too thin for me to have any kind of flexibility or free time, as I would be putting in extra overtime.\n\nThe fact that she is so seemingly unmotivated to find a job really bothers me, and I don't want to have to support both of us as a young adult who is still establishing his career.\n\nThe relationship was somewhat strained before all this happened, but now it is getting to be so much that I am 50/50 on whether or not to continue. If I were to end things, she wouldn't really have a guaranteed place to go - her parents live locally, but her father moved into her room when she moved out, and she would hate to move back in with them anyway, due to major differences in ideals.\n\nSo, I'm not sure what I should do. She's not helping herself, and is showing zero initiative in taking her own future under control. She stays at home watching anime and playing WoW. She hasn't taken on any additional chores at the house despite having 50 hours of extra free time a week. What do you guys think?", "summary": "GF is not looking for a job, not helping to ease my burden, and has nowhere to go if things were to end. 3 weeks, 1 resume. No unemployment filed until this last weekend. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1ee8td", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am sick and tired of having to deal with my severely depressed and sometimes seemingly suicidal friend.", "post": "My friend, lets call him Dude, has been dealing with depression (undiagnosed but I know for sure it is, he just refuses to see a doctor or tell his family) For almost a year now he has been doing nothing but complaining and whining about the same three things, every day.\nNo matter what I say to him he never stops complaining.\n He is in love with a mutual friend,obsessive, unhealthy love, and she doesn't feel the same way at ll. This drives him crazy and makes him question his entire life. Every few months they they a huge fight because she gets tried of saying no and trying to explain how she doesn't have the same feelings towards him and this causes him to break down and question living. Its the same thing, every time, every few months and I am so damn tired of having to repeat the same things over and over.\n\nHe one of my best friends, but Im at my wits end here. I cant keep doing this wash rinse repeat bullshit that he puts himself and everyone around him through. \n\nHe refuses to seek help or tell his family how he feels. I have a bunch of texts from him explaining how he wants to kill himself and how he keeps thinking of new ways. I have them saved, but he thinks I have deleted them. If he continues to refuse help and get deeper into his depression Im going to show his parents the texts. \n\nI just cant keep doing this anymore, I cant keep watching him destroy himself yet refuse to get help when its clear he needs it. I am respecting his wishes and not telling his parents or anyone else, but if this keeps up and he seems to be getting closer to harming himself Im going to tell his parents.\n\nThis has been building up for a year now, I just need to get this off my chest.", "summary": "My friend is depressed yet wont seek help and repeats the same cycle over and over again and I cant deal with watching him anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4c3396", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25F] Husband[42M] has been smoking a lot of weed recently and I'm worried about it.", "post": "I've been with my husband for 3 years total now. We have a great relationship and I'm super happy with him and life in general. We recently moved to Colorado because he got a new job here. Throughout our relationship, I've knwn that my husband smoked weed occasionally, but previously he used to do it at most twice a week. \n\nFor the past 3 weeks, he's been smoking weed every night. I've never had a real problem with it in terms of smell, or him smoking, but I am very concerned about his health and him possibly developing a problem. \n\nI talked to him and he claimed that it helps him eat more after his workouts and helps him fall asleep more easily, but I'm not entirely convinced and it honestly just makes me uncomfortable. \n\nReddit, do I have a right to ask him to cut down on use or is there anything I can/should say to him?\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "moved to colorado, husband has been smoking a lot more, makes me uncomfortable"}
{"id": "t3_2czvj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help, please. M(26)y WiF(25)e and I just looked at our wedding photos and she hates them.", "post": "So my wife and I have been married for two months and we just got our first look at our wedding photos.  She hates them.  My wife feels like there are a ton of photos of my family and hardly any of her's, in truth our photographer did appear to focus on my family.  In addition, she felt like a lot of the pictures didn't look as \"professional\" as she was expecting (i.e., bad lighting, our stances look forced, bad positioning of flowers and whatnot, very few photos of guest and other family, pictures of the photographers daughters at the wedding mixed with the wedding party, etc.).\n\nThe photographer in question is someone we know through our church.  My father is also the pastor of said church so bringing up our displeasure would cause a lot of drama we would prefer to avoid, if possible.  If necessary we will talk to our photographer like adults, but, in my experience, being a pastor's son can make it difficult to keep my issues centered on me and not somehow transferred onto my dad. That was a long way of saying I'm looking for a solution where I can do something special for my wife and keep it between us and family.\n\nMy wife has a, \"I don't want to talk about it because there is nothing to do about it\" mentality right now.  Even now she is in a bit of a quiet rage at the other end of out couch.  I'm looking for a possible solution of something I could do that would help ease her anger and, hopefully, make up for some of the bad photos.  Obviously I can't go back in time and getting all that family together again would be incredibly difficult but I'm willing to hear all advise and ideas.  Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any ideas of what I can do to help make this better?", "summary": "Wife hates our wedding photos and I am looking for some advise on a possible solution.  Anyone been in a similar situation and have any advise or ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_1is1qe", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Ready to get married", "post": "Okay, so I'm only 19 and I'm still young and have my whole life in front of me, but I can't help but wanting to get married as soon as possible! It's come to the point where I consider every  single guy I meet a \"potential future husband\" and I know it's really bad because I'd be better off just chilling and waiting for stuff to happen. I can't do that, because I'm waaaay to worried I'm never going to find mr Right, or that I already met him but blew my chances. I've started looking at wedding gowns, started planning the menu and the entertainment as well as writing down nifty ideas for the reception.\n\nThe worst thing about this is that I keep picturing me marrying my best friend, who I only became friends with because I fell for him. He really is everything I want in a man, he's funny, understanding, respectful, nice and just... perfect even though he's not, if that's not too contradictory. I know it's likely not him I'm going to marry, because I 'fessed up several times telling him I like him, but he's never been interested in me as more than a friend. Of course, it's been three years since the last time I told him, and a lot could have changed since then, but I don't think it has. \n\nI'm just so, so, so anxious about my future, and I want to have kids early on, at least before I turn 30, and this only gives me another ten years or so to meet the right guy, realize he's the one, develop a relationship (all this provided he realizes I'm the one too), get engaged and then married, start trying to have children and hopefully succeed. All of this has to happen while I get educated enough to get a decent job, as well as finding myself.\n\nBottom line, I think I'm just really terrified of the thought of becoming an adult, and I don't like being on my last year as a teenager.", "summary": "I'm 19, wanting to get married whilst also terrified of the unknown future."}
{"id": "t3_2v8fdo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by making a joke about a guy in camo pants", "post": "So this just happened right now, im with my girlfriend dropping her off at work.\n\nWhile having a smoke in the carpark before starting work, a co-worker of hers arrived in his car. I haven't met the guy before but he seems like he was in the army from his stance and general persona. Anyway, he is wearing camouflage pants.\n\nOnce I think he is out of earshot, I lean over to my girlfriend and tell her in a worried voice \"that guy doesn't have any legs!\" Hoping for a laugh from her. \nShe turns to me with a look of horror and tells me to be quiet. Once he has entered the building, she tells me that he actually has a prosthetic leg...", "summary": "made a joke about camo pants, guy was actually missing a leg."}
{"id": "t3_220e9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(21F) Found porn on my bf's (21M) tablet. He says it's not his, but no one else has used his tablet.", "post": "Background: Him and I have been together for about 1 year and a half. He's only given me a reason to doubt him once, and I can't actually blame him for it because we were not technically together. That's  whole other story.\n\nNow, it's not that I don't care if he looks at porn, because I do care. I feel jealous and insecure. Yet, I don't forbid him from doing it. I won't even be upset if he does, just secretly jealous. So, I've never told him that he can't look at porn. To me, it sounds like \"lame girlfriend taking away all my fun\".\n\nHe's told me repeatedly that he doesn't look at porn because he no longer feels the need to. When I even offered to look at porn with him, he refused and said he would much rather just have sex with me.\n\nSo that's why I'm so darn confused about finding porn on his tablet that he claims isn't his.\n\n...Is he lying? I honestly don't know. He's never lied to me before. No one comes over to our apartment, so it's not like he had a horny friend over mess with his tablet. He doesn't take it anywhere so that someone could have put it on his tablet.\n\nI mean I found like 10 pictures downloaded to his gallery. How does that happen accidentally? Do ghosts download porn to tablets or something? (just kidding)\n\nAm I being naive to believe him or is this really just weird? Does porn sometimes show up on your computers/tablets randomly?\n\nPlease don't be mean, I feel really dumb even asking this.", "summary": "Found porn of bf's tablet. He says it's not his and he's never lied to me before (that I'm aware of). Am I being naive to believe him or is he a liar? So confused..."}
{"id": "t3_1cv473", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my gf(18) loosing her mind or is it me(20)?", "post": "My **gf(18)** started taking **birth control almost a month ago(3 month relationship; ongoing)**. A couple days after she started shes been less happy, more tired, and completely pissed, at **me(20)** thou. She claims everything I do is wrong and always my fault. If I bring the thought of maybe its the pills she rages on me. She tells me I'm lucky if she lets me even see her. I ask her what I do that is wrong but its always 'everything'. She hasn't went through a full day without getting at me for something random even if I wasn't there. She seems to **only attack me** with this anger and lately its so emotional it's making me want to leave but I do love her. Even a happy \"I love you text\" once in a while is **now considered 'CLINGY'**. She never started this way. I'm hoping it's the pills because I don't want to leave her. Any ideas?", "summary": "Dating for 3 months. Changed 25ish days ago after starting Birth Control. Blames me for all her issues & emotions. m20 f18"}
{"id": "t3_378hmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of five years, mutually decided to break up for university", "post": "My girlfriend and I have mutually decided to break up when we go to our separate universities. We've broken up before but this break up that's coming is feeling terrible and a lot worse than the other time. \n\nI have always loved her and couldn't think about being without her but I honestly feel like one of the aliens from Lorien in the film \"I am Number 4\" who can only fall in love with one person in their life time. \n\nThe break up was *really* bad for me last time and know that it'll be worse for me this time.", "summary": "Help me feel better about our break up."}
{"id": "t3_4kndo1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ethics/etiquette question - is it okay to ask out a college teacher after your class with them concludes? (25F/30s M)", "post": "Straight to the point: I'm a grad student and I think my teacher is cute/smart/funny. We get along well and I'd like to see him outside of an academic context after semester finishes next week. He's not a permanent teacher at my college so there's virtually no chance of any conflicts with him teaching any other of my future classes. My college's rules don't specify anything about student/teacher relationships once a class has finished. However, I know it's kind of weird and I obviously don't want to put him in a compromising position. I'm not even sure how I'd go about it - just straight up ask him out after our last class? Invite him to some kind of event vaguely related to the class content? For what it's worth, I'm about 90% sure the attraction is reciprocated just based on our conversations, body language etc. I guess I'm just looking for general opinions - is this acceptable or not?", "summary": "My teacher won't be my teacher after next week. Should I ask him out, or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2ff56k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my mother [52 F], uses bathroom with door open", "post": "I'm staying with my family for a few months and I'd say maybe every time my mother uses the bathroom, it's with the door open.\n\nI just wanted to confirm if it's normal? I guess I don't like hearing the sounds and the bathroom is right across from the room I'm staying in. I put on music when I can, but the volume is pretty high before I block out all the sounds. \n\nIs it something I can approach her about? It's my parent's house, so I'm trying to not be a bother while I get back on my feet.  And if it's just something I have to deal with...so be it.", "summary": "Mother uses bathroom with door open most times, not sure if that's normal."}
{"id": "t3_1hbuhf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Shift Worker Seeking Advice", "post": "Quick question...\n\nI've been trying to work at this since about March, and I've had very little success. After completely falling off the wagon and *gaining* weight, I'm back down to 2.5 lbs under my starting weight.\n\n... Woo-hoo?\n\nAnyway, I want to really dig into this, but I've hit a new wall.\n\nNight shifts.\n\nI work in construction now for my internship, and I spend 5 days out of the week sleeping all day and working all night, usually averaging 10-12 hours a shift. Also, with being on a road in the middle of the night, guess what my only meal options are? That's right, fast food. I've tried  packing food but almost never get to eat it, usually we're on the road and the only place my lunch box fits is in the back of the truck, so if I want to eat, I've got to take whatever drive-through window we pull up to.\n\nAlso, I'm finding almost no time to work out. Because of the work schedule, despite my best efforts, I sleep most of the day on the weekends, meaning I can't go see my trainer like I want.\n\nMy question is this, to any fellow night-shift or shift workers... what do I do??? I'm at a loss here and I don't want to go back to school without some kind of progress.", "summary": "Night shifts screwing up attempts to get serious, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3bihmz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by consuming large amounts of baby lax.", "post": "Today I fucked up by snorting the devils snow.\n\nI am not a junkie, and only do recreational drugs every now an again. Well, I had a 3 day weekend, and my buddy had a bag of blow and decided 'Why not?\"\n\nWe go and get the stuff who he \"vouches\" for up down left and right. So, as  good friend I think nothing of it. \n\nWe get back to the house and like in the golden days of when we use to do it, we lay out 2 big fat lines. about the length of a pencil and somewhat the same in girth. We proceed to whiff up all the powder into our nose and if was all fine and dandy. \n\nNow I know things have changed since my lasy experience, but this was no ordinary yayo.\nMy face went super numb, and teeth grinded a lil, but my stomach was doing backflips. ( I think you know where this is going)\n\nAbout a half an eightball in, we realize we'd just snorted a 1/2 and 1/2 mixture of baby lax and decent cocaine.\n\nThough, the high was somewhat memorable, we could  not enjoy our \"tweek\" as we were taking turns fighting over who could  blow up the shitter first.", "summary": "Battle wars over the toilet sparked over baby lax and (somewhat decent) nose candy."}
{"id": "t3_1stjxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] girlfriend [22F] of 5 years. Am I a horrible person for wanting to feel another girls breasts?", "post": "Will try to keep this brief as its not the most important of posts!\n\nI have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. She is the only girl who I have ever been with sexually. We both have each others virginity. I love my girlfriend immensely on many levels. **so please do not post any comments of \"*OMG* you should love her for who she is\"** . I feel bad for feeling this way as I dont want to be with anyone else. I just dont think I can go through life just never having felt large breasts. \n\nHas anyone else ever had these feelings/even understand what I'm getting at?", "summary": "girlfriend for 5 years, cant see myself being with anyone else in my lifetime. she has a great ass however much I love them, small breasts. Am I a horrible person for wanting to feel another girls (large) breasts just to see what they feel like?"}
{"id": "t3_zy2mm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] slept with a guy [25] I've been seeing. I now feel like shit and need advice.", "post": "Sorry in advance for typos, on my phone. \n\nI'm gonna start off by saying that I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year about 6 weeks ago, an just prior to that had been in a 3 year LTR with my first boyfriend. So, recently single.\n\nSo this guy, we'll call him R, works with me. About a month ago we started hanging out outside of work. I was a little interested in him at first, not taking it too seriously. Then the second time we hung out he kissed me. I was caught off guard, but found myself even more interested in him after that. We hung out a couple more times, made out, hand holding etc, so a couple weeks later I felt like I was developing feelings for him. \n\nThen last night we go out and get super drunk... I end up staying over and we had sex, which was good... But then I'm drunkenly talking to him and tell him \"I kinda like you.\" his response was \"i have a lot of fun with you\" but \"we haven't hung out that much.\"\n\nI feel frustrated that he uses us not hanging out much as a reason not to like me because he is the one who started the whole thing right away by kissing me. Now im just super nervous around him and a little depressed now because I feel like I was just friend zoned by a guy after having sex with him. Basically I feel really shitty about myself and really regretting last night.\n\nWhat do you guys think I should do? Is there any chance of him actually liking me or was this pretty much it?", "summary": "a coworker who i like and I slept together last night after a month of hanging out, now I feel like shit and want to know if I can salvage the situation"}
{"id": "t3_3yt7mj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NY]Went for Free Annual Physical, Billed for Two Office Visits.", "post": "I went for an annual physical with a new doctor who is my PCP. She asked me if anything was bothering me and I told her I had a slight plain in my foot. The Doctor said to try stretching it and make another appointment if it keeps hurting. She wrote it down in my file and told me that was only to put down as much information as possible to justify the other blood tests she was running to the insurance company. \n\nWeeks later her office is charging me for two office visits for that one time because I mentioned having foot pain. Insurance paid for most of it but I have to pay the remainder. \n\nThe doctor never told me at the time of the visit that mentioning pain would change the nature of the visit. Does this count as fraud? What should I do?", "summary": "My doctor asked me if anything was bothering me at my physical and now her office is charging it as 2 visits. "}
{"id": "t3_1m4dfp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [26F] not ruin my engagement please! (And not that it's relevant but 3 years & [28M])", "post": "I have good reason to believe my boyfriend will propose relatively soon, and that he will buy a ring online. I also have access to his email. I also have insatiable curiosity. \n\nWe've talked about marriage, know what we want, etc, but he wanted a special surprise proposal. Unfortunately(in this case) I'm pretty good at figuring stuff out, and I already feel bad because the proposal itself isn't going to be much of a surprise. \n\nThe ring on the other hand, has not been discussed much.  I know I'm being so childish but I want to look so badly. Partially just to confirm my suspicions (so I'm not disappointed if I'm wrong) and partially because I WANT TO SEE THE RING!!\n\nBut I know I'm also being utterly ridiculous and we'll both be better off if I just frickin' contain myself and don't look. So reddit, please convince me not to look!", "summary": "tell me to not be an idiot and ruin my engagement by looking at the ring ahead of time."}
{"id": "t3_1r9xo3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] am miserable in all relationships [22 M] duration, short-description", "post": "Me (22 F), him (22 M), duration of 1.5 years\n\nI've been in 3 relationships, all of which were long-term. I've been to one doctor whom prescribed me Citalopram for depression, for context. \n\nNo matter how \"happy\" I tell myself I am in each relationship, I feel miserable and I want to drive them away. I know that I have ambivalent-avoidant personality traits due to past traumas but as I've developed I've only gotten worse with interpersonal relationships, including romantic. \n\nI don't believe I'm happy and thus I can't be happy in a relationship, and I understand that. But I'm also supposed to try and be optimistic right? So I try relationships and stick to them for the long-haul and now I've got a guy I'd say marriage is a possibility.\n\nBut I think my traits, past and \"commitment-phobeness\" is keeping me from enjoying any part of this process. I've opened up to him and how I'm feeling but some things he says is quite controversial and can send me into a spiral of confusion, hate, sadness, etc. \n\nThe point of this post is to ask if there are any alternative ways to feeling happier in relationships when you don't like associating with people inherently but are trying to, and have been trying to for a long time.", "summary": "No matter how much I've grown through past relationsihps to my current, I am miserable being committed and always find reasons to get out."}
{"id": "t3_34p07j", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Mum's revenge on brother for complaining about his portion of chocolate milk", "post": "This happened years ago when my little brother and I were kids. We liked our chocolate milk, loved it in fact and if there was pre-made stuff in the fridge there would be an endless stream of \"can we have it now?\". My brother and I had our own drink bottles (different shapes) which the wonderful chocolatey goodness was distributed in. Because mine was taller, my brother would endlessly complain that I was getting more then him. After a long time my mum, getting fed up with it and said \"FINE, BRING THEM BOTH HERE AND WE'LL SEE WHO GETS MORE\". We're both standing there, eager to see the results as she pour each bottles contents into a separate container. She then poured my bottles content into my brother's an lo and behold, it filled only 3/4 the way up. My mum then says \"see, you're getting more than him every time\" to which he has the most smug look on his face you will ever see. She then fills up my bottle and leaves the other 1/4 amount separate from my brothers. He immediately starts getting mad and saying \"fill up the rest of it!\". She says no and that since he had been getting extra all this time, it was only fair that I got it. We both go off with our own bottles, him with his 3/4 full one, me with my full one and a glass extra.", "summary": "Little brother complains that I get more chocolate milk, mum measures it and turns out he'd been getting more all this time. I get mine plus his 'extra' portion while he gets an unfilled bottle."}
{"id": "t3_2h5j3q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tl;dr: How can I help my girlfriend deal with her stress?", "post": "My girlfriend (22) and I (21) have been dating for 3 years now.  We love each other and spend as much time with on another as possible. But when school is in session things get a little bit more difficult. She has class from 8-5 everyday. And study ever night until probably 11. We see each other on weekends which is totally fine with me. School is important. \n\nBut what is really getting to me is when she talks about how stressed she is. School really wears her out. She is sometimes so stressed she can't even focus when we are together. She is always talking about what see needs to do after. I try to listen and talk to her about it but it's hard. \n\nEven when we are just texting during the day that's all we talk about. I ask her what's wrong and I get these paragraph text messages. Sometimes she is so overwhelmed she just cries.  \n\nI'm kinda a stress free person. I don't really have a lot of worries. I kinda just go with the flow of life. So I don't really know what to do to help.", "summary": "How can I help my girlfriend deal with her stress?"}
{"id": "t3_48cjz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39/F] with my long distance BF [36/M] 3 months, can this relationship work?", "post": "I am a 39 divorced woman, and have tried online dating. Have some OK dates, plenty of bad messages, and of course some from men overseas, specifically India. I am American, but look Indian, maybe one reason i get these messages. And of course just foreign men wanting to correspond with American women. I have Indian friends IRL, so I am familiar with the culture. I don't usually reply to these messages but there was one that caught my attention so I did, and it's been great. \n\nThe man's name is \"Sunny\", he is a doctor in India. We started talking and he is just awesome. We talk about everything. We share the same values. His family doesnt believe in the caste system so that is not an issue. We starting off with messages on WhatsApp and now use IMO video chat, so I know what he looks like in real life. On IMO I have also seen his workplace, talked to his very nice colleagues who are pretty funny, his friends when they are out, talked to his sister, seen his apartment, his city, so I am pretty sure he is who he says he is. We have been talking/video chatting daily for 3 months. We have actually talked about marriage. \n\nThe plan is he comes on a tourist visa, we see if we hit it off IRL, and if we do, he returns to India and we apply for a fiance visa. We both understand this is a long and hard process. I cannot travel to India for personal reasons. I had him talk to my Indian friends and they think he is nice and apparently he comes from a good family name they know. The only thing that gives me pause is the whole online long distance dating thing. Can this really work? Has anyone been through this/ know someone who has? Did it work out? Advice please.", "summary": "Am I crazy for calling in love with a man on the other side of the world? Can this relationship work out?"}
{"id": "t3_2p4uqo", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "\"Work\" Driving permit, <18 is it a thing?", "post": "As far as the DOT website says for my state in IOWA there is only a \"work\" permit if you have lost your license for some reason, and you are allowed to get a restricted one for driving to work, appointments, child care, school ect. But no where do I see a <18 work permit for driving. There is the work permit that allows you to work period before your sixteen but that is all I see. Anyone know?  That being said for this idea the person did not get their \"permit\" until they are 17, so my state if not nationally requires one year of driving with it to drive alone.", "summary": "Is there a driving work permit for being younger than 18, or are you screwed with not getting a permit before your 17 and will have to wait until turning 18?"}
{"id": "t3_3gnhqd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update: [22F] I think I'm going to lose my boyfriend [22M].", "post": "Original [here](\n\nSo, he left me. He didn't try any of the suggestions that other people suggested or that I researched. He didn't want to put any more effort in, but insists he was \"trying.\"\n\nThis happened a week ago and it is so incredibly hard. He had still been over to be with the baby, but I can't handle seeing him. He is all of a sudden acting like he wants all this time with the baby even though he saw her an average of 6 hours a week last month. \n\nI knew I was losing him, but seeing him just act like it doesn't hurt him and him just starting to hang out with friends and such while I'm working now full time and home with the baby every single night is hard. He gets to give up and be happy and have fun, but I'm working my ass off and having to put the baby in daycare. \n\nIf you can't tell, I'm going though a range of emotions. I figured I'd update since a few people asked. Thanks for everyone who commented or messaged me!", "summary": "He left me. I'm sad. Baby is doing fine. :)"}
{"id": "t3_51p37t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] just found out my fianc\u00e9 [26 M] was previously married. He never told me.", "post": "My SO and I have been together for 2 years. 2 months ago he proposed to me and we want to get married in spring of 2017. \n\nOur relationship was pretty great and we rarely fight and I thought I knew him pretty well. He really seemed too good to be true to me. However a few days ago we were at a party and I got into a discussion with one of old \"friends\" that I had never met and hetold me that he had been married before when he was 19. \n\nNow at first I didn't believe him. I was shocked. I know his family and his friends and I have never heard about it. But his friend Insisted and said how he guess it was supposed to be a secret. He even went on his previous wife's Facebook and showed me pics of her.  \n\nI confronted my SO and he initially denied it. But he eventually admitted it saying they were only married for 3 months and it was a terrible mistake on their parts. Apparently it was done in secret but ended up ruining their relationship. He said that didn't matter to him anymore and he told his family and friends to not talk about it because he was afraid I would judge him for it and the person who told me was definitely not a friend and was more of his ex wife's friend Ned was probably trying to sabotage our relationship. \n\nSo I was completely shocked. I knew he had a long term relationship from high school and it ended really badly but I had no clue about the marriage and divorce. He's been lying to me for years and I don't even know if I can trust him anymore. He apologized vehemently but said I was over reacting by reconsidering our relationship and that the previous marriage meant nothing to him which is why he didn't mention it. he said he didn't want me to judge him in a mistake he made as a teenager. \n\nI personally just don't know what to do. I haven't even spoken to him in 3 days. Am I overreacting?", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9 has been previously married and never told me. Am I overreacting by reconsidering the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2xp8ih", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Advice needed: I'm in trouble for my marathon in 11 days.", "post": "I'm running my second marathon in 11 days, but my training has really been awful, and truly inadequate. I'm not sure why it's gone so badly, but that's not the issue right now. For my first marathon I trained up to 20 miles and finished with a quite respectable time (4:07). \n\nThis time, I haven't ran farther than 12 miles, and that was flat, while the course is really hilly. Dropping out isn't really an option, since I'm running for charity. I'm cautious confident that I can finish in under the course limit of 6 hours, but what can I do to make sure that happens, and ideally have to best time possible with such bad training?", "summary": "I haven't run further than 12 miles in training for my upcoming marathon. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ru80u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girlfriend[24 F] 4 years, mutual in theory", "post": "I was a single parent, met a girl and fell in love. We've done a lot together from traveling and real quality life experiences. Everything was great and we had a wedding booked for a few months time.\n\nThings started to go wrong a few months back, and I think we started taking each other for granted. Neither of us have done anything major like cheat etc, we just had a fall out.\n\nFor me part of it was that I thought to myself that I wouldn't be with her forever, and if its not forever then we can't get married, and if we can't get married then we should split \n\nI've been reminding myself of something I'd said to her a few times which was \"Can you not just respect me as a person like you would a random stranger instead of talking to me like that\" which again reinforces the situation but grrrr it's hard.\n\nI guess I expected her to pull us together but she didn't and I resented her for that.\n\nShe rang a few days ago and said she was probably coming home today to sort things out, then yesterday she didn't know and rather than wait for he I'm thinking I just need to get a handle on my emotions and start dealing with it to look after myself.\n\nI have her facebook log in so I've been keeping an eye on her and when we've spoke she's been telling me lies so that is reinforcing the break up for me.\n\nMy last couple of break ups have been really really hard (aren't they all) so I'm really concerned about what I'll do.\n\nLast night I drink drove (I'm very much against that and I can't believe I did it) to check where she was, and again it was another lie. Although she doesn't know that I'm aware of her lies.\n\nHelp me Reddit :(", "summary": "thought this was the right thing, but hey"}
{"id": "t3_4ri3e7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24F] about to enter a long-distance relationship and I need advice.", "post": "So I started chatting with this guy not so long ago, and we are absolutely crazy about each other. We live in different countries, and traveling to see each other would be very expensive, and the trip itself would take around 16-18 hours give or take. That doesn't scare us though, and we are already planning on when and where where should meet et cetera. However it might take half a year before we will actually be able to see each other (as we both started some new \"life projects\" just before meeting each other, which takes up a lot of time). \n\nSo, here is my \"problem\" (if you can even call it that): I've never been in a long-distance relationship before, so I have no idea how to keep it together. I'm crazy about this guy and I really don't want to mess it up. I'm afraid to come off too clingy or too distant, and I'm worried I won't be able to find a good middle ground now that I can't see him. So, are there any other redditors who are in a long-distance relationship, or have been? Do you have any advice for a hopeless romantic?", "summary": "First time long-distance relationship - don't want to mess it up. Need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_v9sov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got a computer science degree. I hate programming. Now what?", "post": "Long story short, I have a computer science degree but my heart isnt in it and I am not sure what do.\n\nI have felt this way for a while but i was so far into my degree I had to finish it. But now having worked a few jobs developing software i get this soul crushing feeling that i will trapped in a cubical, just another cog in the corporate machine.\n\nBut the biggest indicator is that i have no desire to program, read about programming, or learn new things about programming in my free time.  I spend my free time making music.  To get a software job they seem to expect you to live breath software in some part of your free time.\n\nI think i want to seriously try and make a living with music but so does everyone and their grandma.  I dont even know where to start with achieving this and if its realistic but i want to be happy and doing programming isnt gonna help with that.\n\nMy plan now is to get a job using my degree but put all my energy into pursuing music. Its hard to have enthusiasm about software though which seems to be a requirement for many jobs.  Its making finding a job difficult.  I have a 3 hour phone interview today for example that i am not looking forward to because i just want a pay check, i don't care for what.", "summary": "got a degree want to do something else that i am passionate about. what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ibc9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] am struggling to respect [31M] boyfriend, although I love him", "post": "We've been dating for well over a year and recently signed a lease together. He makes me happy, and we have fun together, but I have nagging doubts. I'm very ambitious, working on my Masters while working full time as a software engineer, and always thought I'd be with someone similar. Although he has a stable job, working with intellectually disabled adults (he's great at it and loves it), he doesn't have any savings to speak of, and I recently had to loan him $2400 (his share of first/last/security) when we signed the lease (honestly, I doubt I'll get paid back for a while...)\n\nHe's a nice guy, loves me, and means well, but his lack of motivation and personal responsibility (doesn't take great care of himself, gets delivery food a lot, plays WoW 4 nights a week...) makes it really difficult for me to respect him as a person, and I find myself getting increasingly angry at him about it as we get more \"committed.\"\n\nSometimes he'll \"improve\" for a while: I drag him to the gym, I make travel plans, I'll push us to go out and try new things, he says he's quitting the WoW guild soon... I just hate being the one doing all the pushing, and it's exhausting. He's extremely intelligent -- he does NYTimes crosswords in half an hour every day, knows tons of stuff, and beats me easily at every game we play... I feel like I just have to either get over myself, or get over him.\n\nI can't decide if I should marry him because I'm happy with him and he'd make a great father (we both want children in ~5 years, and have talked about it), or if I should leave him because I can't respect him and I won't have as fulfilling of a life with him as I might with someone else.", "summary": "The grass isn't always always greener and I'll be chasing \"the right guy\" until I'm 50, or don't settle for a guy you don't respect? Isn't that the $64,000 question? ;)"}
{"id": "t3_p0xq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate got fired- how do I handle him, my parents?", "post": "Me 21M, roommate 21M and his SO (21F, also roommate). Rent is/was split between him and I, with his SO helping with groceries (part time job).\n\nOn one hand, it's a good thing. His job sucked (warehouse) and was bringing on depression, a drop in schoolwork and hurting his relationship. He's feeling much better in the three days since he was let go. That is the other positive, officially, he \"resigned\". \n\nOn the downside, even with me working full time, I have personal bills (car loan). There is no way we can make rent with the SO only working 20 odd hr a week at minimum wage. We have roughly 2 months using his extra financial aid to help with rent and utilities. So there is some breathing room.\n\nHe's a hard worker, already started job applications and I put in a word at my job. I'm trying to be supportive but firm that he keeps on applying. Haven't said anything to my parents yet.\n\nMy question- worst case scenario, what do I do? Both roommate and SO have cut off/been cut off from families, mine live too far away to commute to my current job. How do I prepare for worst case?\n\n<b>", "summary": "roommate got fired, if shit goes south, how do I handle my parents and telling them I lost apartment?<b>"}
{"id": "t3_18swyy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (28/m) can't tell whether or not my wife (29/f) is still in love with me", "post": "Things have been difficult lately, but here goes:\n\nSo we're in the same line of work, and in the past year she left her former employer to work with me.  That was about the time I feel she started to resent me, although I couldn't be sure initially because it was a pretty stressful year for both of us.  Lately she just doesn't seem to have any response or interest in me, and I feel like an afterthought in most of her decisions.  I think that she's depressed and resents me, but when I ask her in any manner, she acts as if there's nothing wrong.  \nWe're both very busy and stuck with opposite work schedules, but it's always been important for us to make each other feel loved.  Until now I suppose.", "summary": "I think my wife is depressed and resents me, but can come to no resolution or response to the situation"}
{"id": "t3_16csds", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need some help [18M] [19F]", "post": "This (Co-worker) girl I have liked since day 1 of seeing her I have never been on a date/dance/ETC so I moved really slow because I am shy/nervous, last night while texting her she pretty much asked me what I think about her and I told her, she respond with \" You really think all that\"? :) \" so I think that's a good thing? then she said I was \" Nice,Positive,fun,kind,sweet,honest, and friendly... So now since that barrier is kinda broke over just little conversations I feel I should be more aggressive while texting her?? or what? I need help on what to do please! Do I send her stuff like \" Drive home from work safe tonight roads are crazy! \" Thanks", "summary": "Girl I like asked me what I thought about her, I told her so I need to know what to do next? should I text her more aggressively? Need help on how/what to text/talk to her now?"}
{"id": "t3_wh0ji", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst dentist/doctor experience?", "post": "I'll go first:\n\nToday, i went to the dentist to get a filling. So i go in and it started off with them giving me this gel thing that was disgusting, but i just ignored it. Then after this gel had numbed part of my mouth, it was time for Novocaine. Now i'm not terrified of needles (I've given blood and had Novocaine before), but i certainly don't like them. I got 3 shots of it, and was then left to get numb. After the dentist returned he started drilling and even though my mouth was numb, i could still feel the drill, but i wasn't going to say anything because of the dislike of needles. So i'm laying there in pain with the dentist and dental assistant's hands in my mouth unable to move because I didn't want anything to go wrong and what comes on the radio throughout the office? **GODDAMN NICKLEBACK!!** \nSo i'm laying in pain being tortured by a shitty band, thinking *this can't get much worse* when another dental assistant walks in the biggest, most medieval dentist tool I've ever seen. I still have no idea what this tool was for, but he used it on my mouth for at least 10-15 minutes. \nOk, so now all of that is done; it can't get any worse, right? It can. On the way home, i saw the girl i like and smiled at her, but due to the Novocaine, half of my face looked like I was frowning and the other half looked like it was smiling. At least she laughed...", "summary": "I've learned why I should floss my teeth."}
{"id": "t3_38ux7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] 2 years, She needs to find herself but not break up?", "post": "Hey guys first time posting here. Im currently in a 2 year old relationship with whom i know is the one. She talks to me about the future she wants with me, how much she loves and cares for me, and how I'm the only one that made her this happy, the adventures she wants to do, etc. 3 Days ago she says she's confused about who she is, thought about breaking up to find herself. \n\nMy question is, how do i help her find herself and not push her to the point of break up. We're still together and she still wants to act as a couple but needs to find herself. What do i do? what should she do? Any help would be appreciated. She is my life and i can't loose someone that means the world to me.", "summary": "I love her to death and she does too. She thought about breaking up but said she didn't want to in order to find herself. How do i help her through this and not push her away?."}
{"id": "t3_2m8f3m", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I quit my current job for a part time one?", "post": "I work almost 50 hours a week at my current job. I've been debating for a while now to just take a part time job in the store across the street for minimum wage. It's a lot less demanding, but I'll make less than half of what I do now, but have a lot more time to cook, exercise, and other hobbies. I feel like I'll be a lot happier in a part time position. I can still afford my part of rent and my bills. On the other hand, my current job is one of the best paying ones around for a guy in his 20s. And I feel like people will think a lot less of me for giving it up. I don't know if there's an option to go back after only a year and a half working there either.", "summary": "Should I take a job at half pay for more time doing what I enjoy and a better life style overall?"}
{"id": "t3_3m8zr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] am thinking of leaving my wife [28 f] but I am not sure if I can.", "post": "I love my wife ... I think. I honestly couldn't tell you anymore if I do or not. I know I love my family and my life and sometimes that's enough but sometimes it isn't . \n\nFirst I am not sure if I really want to leave her or not . When we are fighting It is sometimes all I can think about but I am angry and I try not to make decisions when I am angry. Then when everything is going alright I weigh the pros and cons of leaving and I always end up settling on staying but very rarely because I love my wife .\n\nI don't like the idea of not being a dad everyday. We have two children ages [10 f] and [5 m] and I love being with them everyday so I don't Know if I could handle being an every other weekend dad ( not that there is anything wrong with that). Joint custody would be great but I think would be very hard to get my Wife to agree to.\n\nAlso financially it is terrifying I already don't make a huge amount of money so adding child support onto that I would be able to afford an efficiency apartment and that's about it. \n\nI also have absolutely no support I am estranged from my family for reasons to long to get into here but even if i wasn't I am the most well off of any of them so they simply wouldn't be able to afford to help.\n\nlastly I am not even sure if leaving is really what I want. Yes, when things are bad they are VERY bad, not physical but definitely my own personal version of hell. However when things are good the are OK not great but after almost 12 years OK is all I ask. I don't want to leave just to find out that being alone or with someone else isn't what I want either. I am just kind of lost", "summary": "I think I want to leave my wife but for parental, financial, and fear I don't Know if I should/could leave"}
{"id": "t3_39h0za", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m/20) can't trust my gf (f/19) even without her doing anything wrong because of an ex gf cheating on me", "post": "It's so frustrating, I constantly worry for no reason that she's talking to other lads when really I know she isn't. I've known her for years and know she isn't the type to cheat.\n\nShe used to be with a mutual friend but it never worked out and I don't know why. \n\nI was cheated on in my last relationship (of 2 years) I know I'm young but because of another girl and knowing what other people my age are like I can't stop over thinking. \n\nShe doesn't know I feel this way but I don't want it coming between us as I'm very happy in the relationship. Do any of you have advice?", "summary": "I can't trust her because of my past but there's no reason I shouldn't"}
{"id": "t3_39e7b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am only attracted to guys who share my music taste?", "post": "Reddit, this is becoming a problem.\n\nJust got out of my first relationship, after a series of random hookups. None of the guys before my current SO (we still kinda see each other casually) had anything in common except they were all musicians of some kind or shared my music taste. The problem is, I can only find myself being attracted to guys into my extremely obscure likings (shoegazing/psychedelic/lo-fi/space rock music are my favorites...)\n\nNow I'm just at a loss because I've realized this is something I can't help, since it's such a huge part of my life (I work at a radio station and would like to organize musical events in the future) but it's making my life a lot harder to deal with since \"no one compares\" to my taste (or my Ex/SO's). \n\nI really have no idea what to do about this because all experiences I've had with people who have not shared this part of my interest have been emotionally disappointing, and just devoid of any relevance whatsoever. Af the same time, I wish this wasn't such a big deal, but I know no way around it, since physical relationships with people I have nothing in common with just don't satisfy me either.\n\nHeeeeelp!", "summary": "obsessed with loud noisy rock music and need potential partners to share this passion in order to feel emotionally attached to them, but wish it wasn't this way."}
{"id": "t3_1r0hna", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m] need advice on ending relationship with childhood (27/m) friend", "post": "How the eff do you break up with a friend that won't take a hint? I became friends with this guy when we were 11 years old. From then through high school we were best friends and did a lot together and he was practically my brother. We went to different colleges and didn't see much of each other except on the holidays when we were both home with family. Since hitting my 20s and doing my best to become an adult, I've grown to be a completely different person. He hasn't. He's always been kind of arrogant, a bit it a liar, and looking back I'm realizing that he was constantly putting me down. He joined the marine reserves a few years ago and has now become more arrogant, openly racist, and carries himself with a false sense of authority. I've talked to him less and less over the past few years in hopes that would get the hint that I don't really enjoy our time together anymore. \n\nI've started ignoring his calls/texts and probably haven't spoken to him in 6 months. Now he wants to know what he did to make me end the friendship and I don't know how to respond. I don't hate the guy, I just don't like him. The last time we saw each other we went out for his birthday and I was completely embarrassed to be in public with him. He was rude to every waiter/bartender we encountered. He tried to impress people with fake stories of serving in Afghanistan (he's never been deployed), tried to start fights, and at the end of the night he drunkenly berated a taxi driver after they missed a turn, and launched into a tirade about being sick of fighting for stupid immigrants in his country. \n\nGiven the amount of history we have, I'm unsure how to respond. Part of me wants to tell him that I've made a point to surround myself with friends that help me be a better person and he's not one of them. But I'm also nervous about the backlash. He tends to fly off the handle pretty easily and I don't need the drama or potential fight that would result from me telling him he's a shitty person. Has anyone gone through a similar situation?", "summary": "best friend from childhood grew up to be a shitty person and I don't want to see him anymore. He's not getting the hint."}
{"id": "t3_r4cj4", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Couch cushions have gone from things to sleep on to the favorite tug-of-war toy...", "post": "When my husband and I used to leave for the day for work, we used to confine our two dogs to the laundry room in which resided their water dish and their dog door (which lets them out into the dog run on the side of the house). \n\nAs they're both a bit older now (Colt is a little over 2 and River is almost 2), and are much better behaved in the house, we have started just letting them stay inside the house when we leave. For the first several months this was not a problem at all. Nothing eaten or gone to the bathroom upon.\n\nHowever, we took our first long trip a few weeks ago (gone for 5 days, had friends come over 2-3 times a day for food/playing), and when we came back, they had ripped apart one of the couch cushions from our older couch upstairs. We thought maybe we didn't leave all their toys out or something. No big deal, accidents happen. Figured they just got bored and played tug-of-war with a nice giant brown cushion.\n\nNow time #2 has happened - husband wasn't home yet and I dipped out for about 40 minutes to grab some groceries, and when I came home, yet another cushion was in sad little pieces. I know I left all their toys out, they had plenty of water, and have been played with earlier today, though not as much as usual since we seeded our lawn in the backyard two days ago so they can't go on it.\n\nAny ideas why they're suddenly ripping apart couch cushions when they're home alone? Thanks!", "summary": "Older couch upstairs has gone from a place to sleep, to the dogs ripping apart the cushions. Never used to be an issue. Only happens when they're home alone, and all their toys, water, etc are available"}
{"id": "t3_1uuy3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help a F24 robot figure out how to negotiate sex and move forward in her relationship with a M24 human?", "post": "This is the first relationship for either of us, and to be perfectly honest, I'm not great with social cues and codes. A lot of the time, I'll get super absorbed in my work or hobbies and just totally forget to text my boyfriend back for a couple days! As a consequence, we probably only get together twice a week because it just constantly slips my mind and also we're both insanely busy. In order to address this issue, I've been meticulously scheduling all our dates for the last three months. About twice a week an alert will pop up on my calendar and I'll contact him and ask him if he has time to get together (sometimes he'll contact me first, but he knows I'm really busy and that I prefer to reach out first so now it's more often me). I usually text something like this:\n\n\"Hi John. How does your availability look for this week? Do you have time in your schedule Tuesday or Wednesday night after 6 PM?\"\n\nIt's worked out so far, but I recently realized that perhaps I am sending off the wrong signals. Looking around at my friends it seems like maybe this isn't the normal thing to do in a committed, serious relationship where both partners are incredibly excited to spend time together. Now I know that he feels that way about me (he's told me in unambiguous terms), and I definitely feel that way about him, but I'm worried now that perhaps I am coming off as a bit cold or robotic. What would be a more natural/socially acceptable way to negotiate staying over? I also want to let him know that my schedule is starting to free up in the evenings and that I am at a level in our relationship where I am comfortable letting him drop in whenever and hang out more organically--what's a normal way to convey that? Can someone like give me a script or something? I'm kind of embarrassed that I'm asking this, but I think sometimes the way I approach this situation kind of kills the mood, and I'd just like a couple lines that I can use instead that won't make it seem like I'm dispassionate (which I'm really not)!", "summary": "I may be a robot. How do humans ask for sexytimes when they're in relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_tajqa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'd like an outside opinion on possible career paths...", "post": "Here's the thing: I'm a teenager, so I basically know nothing about what it's like in the real world. I'm in grade 12, and will be attending a university in the fall.  For the past three or four years, I've had my head set on being a doctor of some kind;for the past two years, it's been more specifically a surgeon.\n\nBut now I'm having second thoughts.  I'm thinking about engineering. Big jump, I know, but I have a wide range of interests. Physics being a major one. Now I don't know which to choose.\n\n**Helpful information:**\n\n-91% average\n\n-Physics and math are my two highest marks, between 92% and 96%\n\n-Biology and chemistry are my second best subjects, between 85%-90%\n\n-I have a heavy interest in physics\n\n-I have a moderate interest in biology.\n\n-I am not naive enough to think that just because I get in to med school or an engineering program means I'll be able to make it through. I would be content with being a bio/physics teacher if I'm not up to scratch\n\nI'd really like some engineering/med student's opinion, or even better, an engineer and a surgeon's; but everyone's opinion is welcome.", "summary": "Surgeon or engineer?"}
{"id": "t3_43j7of", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Jumping so high just to sniff a face...", "post": "Hello all! My dog Reggie is a large (85 pound) mutt, mostly boxer/pit/etc. He loves human attention - his favorite thing is to sit on top of someone on the couch (whether he's just met them or known them for years). This is rarely a problem because I hang out with dog people, but meeting new people can sometimes be a pain. \n\nWhen someone starts walking up to us and Reggie notices, he starts to pull towards them. I allow this if I know them (perhaps my first problem? Except he is large and usually without harness because he doesn't pull on walks.) Then I await the coming storm - he has about ONE jump in him during the greeting. It is not to put his paws up on a person, the way I've seen other dogs, but really to try to sniff/lick their face. Unfortunately, this means there's a huge dog jumping up at people's faces like a missile. I'm writing this because today, a woman trying to give me a brochure came out of nowhere and handed paper to me, then he jumped up and, since I had him on a short leash, he kind of crashed on his bum in the snow. \n\nCurrent training: When we are at home and a friend is coming over, I DO try to train this behavior away by holding his collar, then giving my friend a treat and asking them to tell him to sit. He's extremely food motivated, so this works well. When the initial excitement is over, he does not jump as much for attention.\n\nFinal note: if someone makes prolonged, friendly eye contact, he sometimes get excited enough that he tries to jump for the face. I know this well enough that I'll break his attention before, but unfortunately my peers don't understand that staring isn't the way to keep a dog calm...", "summary": "my dog jumps ONCE to a person's face out of excitement and it's a problem because he's so large. How should I proceed with training this out?"}
{"id": "t3_2vvhe9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] won't be with my Girlfriend [16 F] of 5 months, for valentines day and I'm feeling depressed", "post": "So about 3 weeks ago I got caught trying to sneak over to my girlfriend's house when her parents weren't home. I'll admit, I wanted to have sex (we've done it twice before) and just have some alone time together with her for a while. We live about 45 minutes away from each other and neither of us have our licence so we usually depend on our friends, or our parents to take us from house to house\n\nAny way long story short we got caught. She got grounded for a month and I got grounded till \"I don't know when\". I'm missing a lot of things because of this and I don't know when It's going to stop. \n\nWe had a Mardi gras balle (Yes, I live in Louisiana) at school two weeks after and my girlfriend got court! She was allowed to attend and I was not. Come to find out she got voted queen but I still felt terrible because she had to go without a date because of my actions. \n\nNow it's valentines day and I made her an awesome present she won't get to see on valentines day because I am forbidden to see her at all. Not to mention I got my phone taken away so now I have no way to talk to her at all! I feel like I disappointed her and it's killing me inside.", "summary": "Can't see or talk to my girlfriend on valentines day and I feel depressed. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3k11or", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I broke an expensive object at work and I'm scared I'll be fired. How do I approach this? (x-post from r/relationships)", "post": "I'm a contract worker in a company notorious for firing contract workers on a whim. Last week, I accidentally broke an expensive item (~$300) that is necessary for my job and that only I use. BUT no one has discovered it yet and no one knows I broke it. However, they will find out in the next few days. My boss is already not super fond of me and this may be the straw that breaks the camel's back. I feel like I have two options:\n\n1) Fess up and explain it was an accident. Pray that they don't fire me and hope they just order a new one. But they might see me as stupid and clumsy and just get rid of me anyway.\n\n2) Toss the item. Pretend it went missing and that I have no idea where it is. Plenty of other people have access to the item, maybe one of them accidentally threw it away or knicked it. But they might think I'm the one that accidentally threw it away (since I'm the only one who uses it) and fire me for my incompetence.\n\nI'm already looking for a new job because these people are terrible and I'm not worried about burning bridges. But I can't get fired just yet. I am going to be HOMELESS if I lose this job right now. I can barely afford food right now and if I am unemployed, I'm not going to be able to pay rent. I absolutely need this job and I am willing to lie if it is going to give me a better chance of keeping a roof over my head and not let me go hungry. Morals aside, I just want an opinion of which option is going to give me the best chance of not being fired.", "summary": "Broke expensive item. If I want to keep my job, should I fess up or get rid of the evidence?"}
{"id": "t3_35o5df", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Ex Girlfriend [26 F] of 9 years friendzoned hard", "post": "Ok I have posted here before regarding my ex but let me give you a quick overview, we dated for 9 years, she cheated, I moved out and we remained friends, this was 8 months ago. \n\nCurrently I am sitting in the friendzone hard with her, neither of us are dating and she calls/texts me every day. I am basically an emotional tampon and want out even though I do enjoy spending time with her and love her.\n\nI just left her house and am considering one of the below plans of action.\n\n1. Text or tell her in person that I cannot continue to just be her friend and unless she wants more not to contact me.\n\n2. Back off hard, ignore her (respond sparringly) and let her chase to not burn the bridge completely (oxymoron at this point I know but sometimes we regret what we say and to say nothing seems better).\n\nI do want this girl back but am willing to let her go at this point, I am just demeaning myself as a man by being there for her and eventialy she will find someone else and leave me in the dust.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend friendzoned me hard, asking what I should do going foward."}
{"id": "t3_4ykp0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] Confused by dating. Why kiss if uninterested?", "post": "I've done a lot of online dating and something always perplexed me.\n\nEvery time I have a good time on a date I walk them to their car and kiss them goodnight.  I essentially never get rejected in my kiss attempts, and many of them extend the kiss when I slightly pull away.  Yet the vast majority completely ghost me after.  And no... I'm not an bad kisser, I'm an EXTREMELY good and passionate kisser.  Every woman I've ever kissed has echoed that.  \n\nSo what gives?\n\nLast night for example.  She was laughing our entire date, hanging on my every word, asking questions at every chance.  Took her to a nice place, took care of the check, was attentive, complimented her and we vibed very well.  Not to mention she kept staring at my arms and made several compliments about my veins (bodybuilder).  Walk her to her car, all smiles and laughs, go for a kiss, went well, got for another went well, say good night.  Today ghostttt", "summary": "Why would someone accept a kiss at the end of a date, even extend it, if they weren't interested?"}
{"id": "t3_50oe4c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25/F) just found out my friend's (25/F) ex-boyfriend (24/M) has a thing for me and that's why they broke up.", "post": "We all met in college. They've been dating since then and we're all part of the same tight knit group of friends. Recently they broke up, and my friend Julia has been very hush hush about what happened. I've been trying to reach out for weeks, see if she needs a shoulder to lean on, girls night out, etc. She has been dodging my texts, and until very recently, I had no idea why. \n\nOne of our mutual friends (closer to Cam, the ex bf) told me Julia broke up with Cam because he apparently has a thing for me? This is news to me. Cam has always been fairly quiet, levelheaded, etc. So for him to all of a sudden come out with news that he has feelings for his girlfriend's close friend, is a little ridiculous and unbelievable. \n\nApparently he said my name during sex ... and then Julia (rightfully) grilled him on it until he broke down and confessed. \n\nNever once has he made it seem like he's into me. In any case I'm worried Julia might think something happened between Cam and I. The thing is, I had a crush on him in college (before they got together) which she knew about. So maybe in her mind, she thinks I'm responsible for this? I don't know. \n\nHer friendship is important to me. I get that she needs space and might even resent me without meaning to, but ignoring me isn't going to fix anything either. It's been almost a month.", "summary": "My friend's ex has a thing for me, said my name during sex, and now my friend isn't speaking to me. It's been a month. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_qgex7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal/okay to sometimes have feelings for other people when you're in a LTR?", "post": "I'm 17[F] and he's 20[M]. We've been together for a year and are generally very happy. However, there are times when I can't help but feel attracted to other people. He claims to never get jealous, even when people hit on me or check me out whether he's there or not. I always tell him when people flirt with me and he \"takes it as a compliment.\"\n\nHowever, I've never told him that I do have feelings for other people. Of course, they're nowhere near as strong as my feelings for him, but sometimes I can't help but to lay in bed and wonder \"what if?\" I have *always* been faithful and would never consider cheating on him. But is a little harmless flirting every now and then normal/okay? (Note: I don't flirt with people in front of him. Also, it's very minor and I guess actually just a little more friendly than I might be with the average person) What about sometimes thinking about a possible future with someone else?\n\nThis is my first real relationship, so I'm not really sure what's typically accepted and what isn't. I don't want to confront him about it for fear of him misinterpreting anything I say. Again, I will NEVER and have never cheated on him. I do love him the best that a 17 year old can.", "summary": "Is it normal/okay to have feelings for other people in a LTR?"}
{"id": "t3_4r3go5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my family [all ages and genders] are having issues with me getting married", "post": "I am getting married to a Christian man (I am a Muslim woman). Faith is a big deal to both of our families, but my family is making a bigger deal out of it than his. In our cultures, (we both are Pakistani), the bride and the groom's family each throw a wedding party in celebration of the union before the wedding. My family threw one and today, my groom's family is throwing one. My family refuses to come (all 25 of them as I have a large family) because of Ramadaan. However, they will attend birthdays and other celebrations without any issues. They say they \"support\" this marriage, but they have made this wedding process hell for me. They cause a fight over any little reason, often berate me for torturing them by marrying outside Islam, and gossip about me constantly amongst each other. We have a month left before the wedding, no other date worked this month since they have events planned for themselves every weekend, and they are refusing to attend this event. I feel so embarrassed not to have even a single member of my family supporting me at today's event. I want to tell them to not attend the wedding, but I don't know how to - am I being too dramatic?", "summary": "Family doesn't support my upcoming marriage as much as they say they do - should I disinvite them to the wedding?"}
{"id": "t3_16t5m3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hit my plateau! HELP Male 20 6'6", "post": "Hey Loseit! Let me just start off by saying that you have all helped me a great deal in the past few months in ways I cannot describe AND I LOVE YOU ALL for that.\n\nOn to my problem, I had set a goal to lose roughly 50 pounds to get below that magic 300 pound mark. I have been dieting, getting my ass kicked at the gym everyday, and really just BEING healthier. Everything was going fantastically, i had dropped 20 pounds in about a month and a half by cutting down my portions, and completely swearing off sugar and snacking. I was feeling so good up until this week...\n\nEvery 3-4 days I weigh myself at my gym, stepped on last week at 242 (down from 267) i almost cried. I was so happy. I hadn't been sub-245 in about 4 years. So tonight after I had just finished killing it at the gym I go to the scale and still at 242! I haven't been eating any worse or working out any less. How can I get back on track to get to that magic 300? \n\nThank you so much for everything loseittors, I am so proud of all of you. YOU CAN DO IT!", "summary": "(Male 20, 6'7) Stuck at 242 despite working just as hard and sticking to my diet. How do I get over the \"plateau\"?"}
{"id": "t3_18onne", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Looking for successful marriage/relationship/love stories", "post": "I am a 19 year old male who's still in college. I've recently realized the harmful effects of porn and my addiction to it and have gone about 34 days without masturbating or looking at porn (don't plan on ever doing it ever again). Because of this, I realized I've been missing real human connections. I've never had a girlfriend even though a couple girls in high school liked me but I was still clueless and never made any advances. \n\nSo while browsing /r/relationships, /r/relationship_advice, and /r/AskReddit I've noticed many problems with relationships but the one big thing is the amount of cheating. I know sex and emotions can be separated but at the same time I think sex is an act not only for pleasure but an act to show the intimacy of a relationship--something done with one other person that you made a commitment to. But looking at how long-term relationships can end either abruptly or slowing suffocating, it makes me wonder if I can open up and allow myself that vulnerability to another person.\n\nI know one person cannot meet every desire of another person and I also know there is no \"perfect\" one out there. We all have our flaws and we can love it or hate it. I also have friends in relationships and some say being in one isn't as great as it seems while another one has been dating for 3 years contemplated a few months ago about breaking up with her if he got into an out-of-state med school. Which made me realize our ability of apathy after love.\n\nSo what I'm asking for are some successful marriages/relationships that may or may not fit my ideas about an intimate relationship and how you and your partner(s) have made it work (hopefully permanently).", "summary": "Recently discovered need for human contact, read a lot of revenge/cheating stories on Reddit, distrustful of relationships, and wondering if there are any success stories out there"}
{"id": "t3_1lb8f4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently married, I [29M/F] found something disturbing that my husband [34M] wrote about me.", "post": "So my husband I got married a month ago. It was fantastic and lovely--or so I thought. Total length of the relationship: 3 years. Our relationship has been pretty great, with some typical ups and downs. He suffers from anxiety and depression, which may or may not be relevent, I don't know. He sees a therapist and takes meds, and is usually okay, but he has some acute lows here and there. We have some communication issues, but we're working on them, are best friends, etc. \n\nAnyhow, here's the situation: I stumbled upon a stream-of-thought piece of writing that he wrote a few days before our wedding. The gist of it is I'm too short, have a funny nose, he's now \"stuck with an 8.\" That he should have worked harder to get someone hotter. Then he goes on to rationalize how he thinks I'm pretty \"a lot of the time\" and that he loves my personality. He also went on to say that it's normal for attraction to wax and wane, and that he's often attracted to me. \n\nNow I don't disagree with what he wrote--it's true, I'm short and my nose is kinda funny, but I'm shocked that this is was such a big problem for him. And terribly disappointed in his awful shallowness--so fucking immature. I keep thinking, *who is this person? Does he regret marrying me? Did I make a terrible mistake?*\n\nI am torn between letting this go as pre-wedding jitters, or confront him and let it turn into a huge issue. I'm not sure if there is an in-between in this case. Is this a normal thing for guys to do? I have no idea. This sucks. What do you think, Reddit?", "summary": "Husband decided right before our wedding that I am funny looking and he got \"stuck with an 8.\""}
{"id": "t3_1wga8e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/M] delivered pizza tonight to this gorgeous girl [18/F], got a call from her phone a few hours later. Please help me.", "post": "Im not sure if this is the right place to post this, so i apologize in advance if it isnt. Alright well ill get to explaining, please dont laugh me out of this subreddit.\n\nSo I work at Pizza Hut as a delivery driver, and on my last delivery i looked at the name of the person of who I was delivering to and for some odd reason i had this gut feeling that she would be highly attractive. Even though it was some asian name i couldnt even pronounce.\n\nAnyways, i get to the house and ring the doorbell a couple times a dont get an answer. So i call the number on their reciept and the girl answers and says she will come open the door. She opens the door and sure enough she is very pretty, and was around my age. (18) She greets me very warmly and smiles the whole time and I give her Her food and leave.\n\nAbout 4 hours later I am working out and decided to check my phone, Ten minutes earlier I had a missed call, from the number of the girl i delievered to. Im assuming it was the girl, and not the very old woman I saw in her house (looked to be her grandma) especially since it said the call was from a mobile phone. Anyway I texted her back saying hello and that i didnt hear the phone when she called.\n\nI havent got any response back. But It was almost errie how this whole thing played out, beginning with me having this gut feeling before i delivered the pizza. I really hope that I hear back from her. But if i dont, what is the best thing for me to do? Should i call her? I feel like that would maybe come off as weird. Maybe she just called me on accident or something and Im just reading way too much into this.\nThank you for bearing with me, any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "A gorgeous girl I delivered pizza to tonight ended up calling me later, i replied but got no response, where do i go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_13xbae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my Girlfriend of almost 6 months still hasn't told her roommate about me, Reddit, should I tell her myself?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and have been a couple for about half that time while we are at college. For this current semester, she has moved in with one of her good friends that unfortunately has not enjoyed being around my presence, making my girlfriend stay quiet about our relationship together and has started to make me feel unwelcome in her social life. I have been waiting for her to know for sometime and there has been little to no effort on her knowing about my status as a boyfriend. Reddit, should I just tell the roommate myself because I've waited so long", "summary": "my girlfriend hasn't told her roommate I'm her boyfriend, making me feel unwelcome"}
{"id": "t3_1ywtv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my potential bf? [22 M]", "post": "Awhile back I made an OKC account after my ex of two years left me. I made it Mainly out of curiosity, not expecting anything. Long story short I reactivated it recently and a guy messaged me. Surprisingly enough he not only goes to my school (I live in a small town, so there aren't many people here on okc lol), but he also knows an acquaintance of mine.  \n   I'm somewhat of a gamer girl, dated mostly nerds in the past and he is an athletic, music loving popular guy- completely opposite of what I'm used to.  We went out for coffee after class one day and then Saturday night went to the movies. He had his hand on his knee and I had mine near the arm rest an he kept looking down, and eventually just holds my hand after what felt like forever. \n Apart from dates, we don't text or talk all that much (from time to time) and sometimes I find it hard to tell if he likes me or if he is just being nice?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_44oakl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] dating [37M] for 5 months, lied about my age (said 23), don't know how to tell him", "post": "When we first started dating, we'd joke about the age gap but he didn't explicitly ask my age. My job requires I be at least 18, and we'd gotten drinks together so I was obviously over 21. 3 months into dating/hanging out, we were with a mutual friend and they asked my age and on a whim I rounded up to 23. \n\nAfter that, the age gap banter got much more specific, often with references to me being exactly 23. I've had a million chances to correct it and haven't. With my birthday coming and things getting more serious, the guilt's really setting in and I'm unsure about how to go about telling him. He's even started making 'almost 24, over the hill!' kind of jokes now. How big of a transgression is this and how do I tell him?", "summary": "Told him I was 23 when I'm 22, now things are getting serious and I feel bad continuing it."}
{"id": "t3_2sfvtb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] has a oneitis attraction to [17F] but I don't have the balls to tell her.", "post": "So I have developed a oneitis attraction to this girl at my school. I can best be described as somewhat of a late bloomer socially and used to find it hard to talk to girls in the past. I have grown out of this mostly.\n\nI have several classes with her and we are friends/acquaintances and have a fairly overlapping social circle. Unlike other girls where I'm mainly attracted on a physical level, I actually find her personality attractive, in other words I find her interesting as a person.\n\nHowever, I have hang ups about actively attempting to pursue a relationship with her. One reason being a fear of rejection. I could normally deal with this if I never had to see her again; however, I have to see her every day coupled with all the shit I would receive from my friends make me unwilling to express how I feel. Any advice?", "summary": "Like this girl but don;t have the balls to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_1f05j8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Well Reddit, I hydroplaned today...what should I do?", "post": "Was going about 90 - 100km/h on the way home today (eastern Canada) and the car just mounted up on some water groves, lost total control of the car and this happened: \n\nFrame is clearly bent, have not had it inspected yet. Police arrived, stated this happens all the time on this given stretch of the highway, said he would include that in his file. No damage to anyone else or government property (luckily), so it is my choice to file a claim or not.\n\nI have had a previous accident before, which was my fault, it's been a year since. My premium increased from about 400$ to 1400$ because of that.\n\nMy main questions are based on the following scenarios what is my best bet? (If you care to comment on what you think the amount of damages are based on the picture I would not mind that either. Autoshops around here are closed until Monday anyways.)\n\n1.Car is affordable to fix myself (not wrote off) (Lets say 6 grand in damages or less) should I file a claim?\n\n2.Car is wrote off, should I file a claim or just cut my losses?\n\nAny insight on what I could expect for a premium increase would be super duper too.", "summary": "A pussy got in a car accident, make him feel better."}
{"id": "t3_j5gdb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can they really do this?", "post": "I was diagnosed as being allergic to bee stings, and have had Epipen's since I was a child. I have been very cautious though, so i wouldn't get stung by a bee, as my case was very severe(If I didn't receive medical attention, via a Epipen shot or adrenaline injection, within the hour of a sting I would go into an anaphylactic shock, constricting my airways, and subsequently resulting in my death). Since Epipens cost anywhere from 60-120 dollars a year, and i hadn't been stung since i was a child, they decided to test and see if i was still allergic to them. We visited the clinic, and submitted a blood test to be tested, and were billed **$400** dollars for the test. when we got the results back, they told us it was inconclusive, and i might still be allergic, and i might not be allergic. \nIt seemed like a scam almost, as they took our money, and provided us with no real information.", "summary": "Sent a blood test to see if i was still allergic to bees, and was charged 400 dollars for inconclusive results."}
{"id": "t3_4mnft3", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Training dogs to come \"back inside!\" quickly. Am I using the right approach?", "post": "We have Scottish terriers and two little purse dogs, and they love to romp around in my backyard, but I don't let them out there without supervision because I'm afraid of them drowning in the pool.\n\nSo what I do is I find a nice shady area to camp out by the pool, let the dogs out, and listen to audiobooks and stuff while I watch them.\n\nThis approach worked really well, except it was incredibly hard to get them to come back in again. They *looove* to be outside, after all. So I trained them to respond to \"back inside!\", and as soon as they got in the door I gave them a treat. One of our more indoorsy dogs actually looks forward to the treat more than to going outside. Which is... good?\n\nAnyway, here's the problem: Two of these dogs will eventually come back inside, but only after repeated badgering. They know that eventually I'll walk over and pick them up, so they move at a snail's pace to discourage me from doing that. Taking plenty of time to sniff every little thing that crosses their path.\n\nMy approach has been to give them smaller and smaller chunks of treat depending on how long it took for them to come back inside.", "summary": "Dogs can't be in the backyard without supervision. Taught them \"back inside!\" in exchange for a treat. Two dogs walk very slow on purpose, so giving them much smaller treats depending on how long it takes."}
{"id": "t3_4kceur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [20 F] of 1 year, Are starting an open relationship", "post": "so this whole thing started with me being forced to tell my gf my # of previous partners, it was larger then she was expecting. Since then she has been off, i could defiantly pick up on this, she says she feels inexperienced and that she missed out on her teenage fun years. so we decided to open things up a bit.\n\nI am hesitant, i don't know how i could be with someone else. but we have laid out some rules to keep our relationship the most important thing. I really don't want to lose her so i want to make sure we do this right(its not going to be perm). \n\nso the question i have is advice on how to make this work, maybe some success stories, if there are any. and please no just break up now and save time, if it does not work out, i'm still willing to see this to the end.", "summary": "me and gf going open want advice/guidelines!"}
{"id": "t3_3q1xy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] fell in love again with my friend [22/M] of two years", "post": "We've been friends for 2 years and I fell for him. We have very intimate relationship (i.e. we talk about very personal things a lot).\n\nLast year I told him I fell in love with him and don't wish to continue our friendship on that account. He was really devastated and confused and said my infatuation is probably cause by the fact I have a small social cirlce and he also said he's supposed to go on a date with some girl, so... Anyway, he asked me to stay friends with him and said, \"I don't want to ever cut contact with you\". So we stayed friends and for some time it was okay.\n\nBut recently things started to change for worse. He shares with me really intimate thoughts and we talk for long hours (I'm abord right now so it's mostly via messages). \n\nNeedless to say, I fell in love with him again. I don't know how to deal with that. He also sends me somehow mixed signals which make me hope he's into me romantically. It's all so hopeless", "summary": "fell in love with a friend, confessed, got rejected, fell in love with him again, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3sf5w1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] Friend [21F] found out I slept with her Brother [20M]", "post": "Her and I are pretty much bestfriends, we've known eachother since we were like 6. A couple weeks ago her brother and I had sex, it only happened once and we don't have feelings for eachother or anything. I guess she overheard him saying something about it to a friend or something, and yesterday she confronted me about it. I denied it at first but she kept saying she knows I did and stuff and after I kind of admitted it she got really pissed at me. She didn't hit me or anything but I could tell she was furious and I was like afraid, and she said stuff like I'm never to be near her brother again, and asked have I always been like preying on him and waiting for him to be old enough and all this stuff, I'm worried this will ruin our friendship. I think she said that stuff in the hear of the moment but I'm nervous around her now. I don't get why she's so overprotective of him, he's only a yeae younger than her. I don't really get it though maybe since I'm an only child. Please help", "summary": "my friend is mad at me because I slept with her brother and I denied it when she confronted me, now she knows and she's pissed"}
{"id": "t3_2kf0mo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it too soon to bring up the heavy stuff?", "post": "I had a rough childhood and have a very strained and complicated family relationship. I've been dating my boyfriend for just over two years, and we have been living together for a year and a half. We have two dogs together, a cat, and a hermit crab. It's safe to say we are serious. \n\nHe knows the bare minimum about my past, about 9% of the truckload of messed up and shocking details. I don't talk about my family or my history and if I get upset I handle it alone, but as I get older and we get more serious, I'm starting to feel like there's this whole other side to me that I've never let him see. \n\nI don't want to just pour everything on him at once, I know that it would have to be a slow process. But even then, whenever I feel like talking about a specific incident or memory that is making feel a certain way, and go into the room where he is, it's impossible for me to come up with a segway or transition. \n\nI always feel really awkward, like I'm bringing up the subject out of no where, and i have a bit of a phobia of seeming like I'm looking for attention or sympathy.", "summary": "We are both 25, dating for 2 years, lived together for 1 and 1/2 years. - is it too early to tell him about the dark parts of my past?"}
{"id": "t3_hsxum", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is anyone NOT going keto to lose the weight?", "post": "I've seen all of these posts advocating and swearing by keto and low-carb diets and I was wondering if anyone on here is getting good results on any other diets?\n\nI've mostly been counting calories and trying to be mindful of what I'm putting in my mouth (e.g. an apple and chicken breast vs. mcdonalds). The reason I'm wary of an extreme low carb diet like keto is just that I can't see myself doing it long-term. I'm a huge pasta and bread lover and I don't want to cut that out of my life completely, and I'm afraid if I start keto, once I start reintroducing carbs into my diet I'll gain back all the weight.", "summary": "I love pasta and can't see keto working out for me long-term, is anyone else doing something other than keto to lose weight? Want to share?"}
{"id": "t3_1lsyu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am in a post-breakup depression after 1 year relationship", "post": "I'm not sure if this is a relationship issue or a mental health one. A few weeks ago I went through a breakup with a guy I had been seeing for over a year. This was a \"first love\" situation that ended in a complicated manner (at least for me). The break was my decision at first, which led to some guilt and regret. Later we talked about it and he officially called it off. It was agreed that not seeing each other was the best for each of us. He needed time to sort out his life and I...to be honest, was just confused but definitely aware we couldn't stay on the path we were on. \n\nInitially after we broke things off and he established little to no contact , I was sad understandably. But I managed to keep myself busy in an attempt to heal. I know it's a slow process and I can't expect results so quickly, but honestly I was doing well. I can't talk to my friends about everything but they've been a support system along the way. I have been working and going to school, and enjoying both. I have been giving myself the attention I deserve and it felt great. For a while.\n\nNow it seems like this is all coming to a descent. I'm still keeping myself busy but I can't be emotionally or mentally present in anything I do. I have been sleeping on and off during these past few days, leaving my nights free for my mind to wander and sulk. I'm suddenly bursting into tears out of nowhere now, and I really don't know what's wrong. I feel like all my emotions are just attacking me all over again. I put on a happy face and continue with my responsibilities and hobbies I usually enjoy, but it's becoming exhausting in all aspects. \n\nAny advice would be helpful. I just don't know anymore.\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Got better after breakup; was short-lived. Now I'm sinking into a bit of a funk."}
{"id": "t3_2oq3eq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17F] and I [17M] are in our senior year of high school, and I have concerns about the future of our relationship.", "post": "We've been dating for 5 months so far, and I'm definitely serious about her and I. Right now, we're extremely happy with each other and I told her that I loved her last week. Everything is great right now. Unfortunately, we won't be together for Christmas break, but we'll FaceTime each other and call regularly. \n\n  I've read posts about high school sweet hearts trying to take a relationship into college before, almost everything that I've read has resulted in a break up. I know that if her and I go down this road, I'll be devastated in the end. Second semester is going to fly by, and before we know it, we'll be going to prom. I know I should live in the moment here, and I've been trying to go along the lines of that, but I do want to start forming some kind of plan. \n\n  I should also mention that we're not going to the same college. She might go out of state, I'm going to community college for financial reasons, and she's getting accepted into four year universities. It would be a LDR. I love this girl, and I'm willing to compromise to stay with her. \n\n  Anyway, my question is: What should we do? Should I try to maintain a LDR with her? I'm hoping for suggestions or stories of your own I guess. I know I'm jumping way ahead of myself with thoughts like this but I just want an opinion different than my own.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are going to different colleges, second semester of this senior year is going to fly by, and I want to start forming a plan. Should we go into college trying to maintain a LDR?"}
{"id": "t3_zacua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have commitment issues but I really don't like casual hookups. What type of relationship should I pursue? (22 M)", "post": "This is kind of a vague question but its one that has been on my mind for a while I'm 22/M and in Law School. I don't have a prolific relationship past but I've had some experience. I've dated a couple girls for a few months and had really negative experiences there. The first girl I dated was incredibly jealous and ended up cheating on me with multiple guys (go figure). The other girl was kind of pushy for things to get more serious (i.e. meeting family, doing \"us\" things, etc) and I bailed. During those relationships I did enjoy things, even with the cheater. It was fun to have a sort of bond with someone and I liked the girls which made the sexy times much more fun for me. \n\nI've had a handful of hookups too. A couple before the two  ex-girlfriends that were just drunken hookups. I can't say I enjoyed either of them and that whole scene is uncomfortable for me. Its been like 9 months since I broke up with Ex-2 and I've had two online hookups. Those were gross and I have no desire to do anything like that again. \n\nThe girls I really like and want to know want much more than I am willing to offer. The girls that I can hookup with and are down for casual relationships I have zero respect for and its almost like a hate-fuck. \n\nI'm not really willing to at any point (in the next few years at least) move in together, get engaged/married have kids, have a girl meet my parents/family, or anything in that vein. Which really limits who I can date. Since most women want that. \n\nI'm not really sure what I should be looking for. I think I'm just looking for some advice on what to do here. I don't really want to be celibate or lonely either.", "summary": "I'm not a great fit for a LTR but I detest hookups. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xd70u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/F] with my cousin [37/F], how to deal with her?", "post": "Hi, y'all.\n\nMy cousin and I were close once but she started demanding way too much from me and gets upset whenever I don't do what she wants. After spending a lot of time here, I realize she's a narcissist and so is her mom. It's always about her and what she wants. Never any consideration for my feelings.\n\nAnyway, I was supposed to do day after Christmas shopping with her; picking her up and we drive around to different shops. She insisted on smoking in my brand new car that I just got in October. I told her I'd prefer not since I want to keep that as a nonsmoking car, whether if it's cigarettes or pot. Plus she has a tendency to drop the blunt, she burned a hole in my other car which is why I didn't want to smoke in the car at all. She wouldn't let it go even though I said she could smoke before we left, so that made me not want to go shopping with her. She texted me this Christmas Eve asking if we were still going and I said probably not since I wasn't feeling well, headache and the runs. Never heard back from her to this day. Last year wasn't fun because she rushed me telling me we had to leave because she's done at this store and kept telling me to stop buying so much because we wouldn't have enough room. Yea, while her cart was full and I was carrying a shopping basket. \n\nSo since then I did a slow fade and I've noticed every time we see each other in person, she always says **\"you never text me anymore\", \"I'm mad at you\", etc.** My first response is to say \"phone works both ways.\" But that sounds smart-assed. I end up shrugging my shoulders and say I'm busy with school, which is true.\n\nWe're having a birthday party tomorrow for my aunt, cousins mom and my cousin will be there and I KNOW she will say the same fucking thing again... So what is a good response without being a bitch about it?", "summary": "Did a slow fade with her since she's too dramatic and clingy but I never know what to say without being snarky. Help me give a good response to \"shut her down.\""}
{"id": "t3_3k9szo", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "4 days out and 2nd degree burns on my scalp! [rant]", "post": "Like any other bride I knew I needed to get my hair looking good. I've slowly been lightening up my hair since spring. Well I decided I needed one more all over highlight to get my hair the shade I liked. \n\nMistake 1: Not setting up an appointment with an established salon. Instead I went to a chain salon. They take walk ins and I haven't heard anything terrible about them. \n\nMistake 2: Letting them place me under the dryer for 15-20 minutes. I wasn't in pain I didn't feel like my scalp was itchy... Until I got out from under the dryer. I was almost in tears sitting at the wash bowl. My scalp randomly started burning and finally the culprit had been found. A foil was literally smoking. Like it was almost on fire- smoking. The hair dresser just stated \"wow, that one is hot.\" I kept mentioning how the foil was smoking and she just brushed it off. I asked if she could look at my scalp to make sure damage wasn't done. She said it was just pink. And I was not given instruction on how to help prevent further damage to my scalp.\n\nMistake 3: I brushed it off. Last night I was feeling through my hair and I thought I felt wet substance. I just thought it was simply product that hadn't dried. It wasn't until almost bed time that I realized that it was a blister that popped. I woke up this morning and had friends take a look and take pictures. Now I'm waiting to hear back from the manager to see if I can't get my money back.", "summary": "had hair professionally done; foil started smoking and burnt my scalp; blisters are painful"}
{"id": "t3_28ica1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[53/f] My fianc\u00e9's kids hate me, and want him to break up with me. Need advice on how to resolve or avoid this conflict.", "post": "Hey, I've finally decided to create a reddit account just to ask the internet some advice on this issue. I'm a 53 year old woman. I've been with my boyfriend (age 58) for 2.5 years, and we've recently decided to get engaged. We've now been living together for around 1.5 years. He has 2 girls, ages 14 and 19, but they only come over to his house a couple times a month, as they actually live in a different (although nearby) city.\n\nAnd this is where my problem is: since we've gotten engaged (a couple months ago), they've both told him that they will no longer visit him if he doesn't break up with me. Their threats have since proven to be empty, though, as they still end up coming as usual. \n\nI've been very nice to them, but they have nothing but very rude to me and they have made it very obvious that they disdain me, although they do not know me (never have they asked me anything about myself, not a word from them when my mother died a few months ago, not one thank you/thank you card). I have put my best foot forward at all times, thinking they may have adjustment issues with their parents divorce (4 years ago).\nMy fianc\u00e9's  response to this seems very avoidant on this issue, and it seems like at all times he passively acknowledges their complaints and does nothing to attempt to resolve or mitigate the drama. He told me that if they seem open, and if they want to, he may ask them about their feelings.\n\nI suggested that upon their next visit we need to all sit down to talk, ground rules, etc, but he said that in no way does he want to make them uncomfortable. What about me? I'm not al that comfortable with these two hating me.\n\nWhat should my course of action be? Should I just try to passively placate them as much as I can, should I leave the house when they visit? I don't know what to do, as it seems like a lose-lose situation.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9's daughters hate me, are openly hostile, and want him to break up with me. He has since done nothing to attempt to resolve or mitigate this drama."}
{"id": "t3_15ozsm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My beautiful just turned to a nightmare. What can I do?", "post": "First,\nI met a girl i fell in love with immediately and she has a great personality/attitude to back it up.  She was perfect for me,\nNext, I worked up the courage to ask her on a first date and she agreed.  Actually said she was waiting for this to happen and I have texts from her friend with time to back it up.\nAt this point, my life is all I wanted it to be.  Great Grades, great friends, great girl, great family, and great health.\n\nSoon she says she wants to stay as friends and that would be the best decision.  Took it like a man and said im fine with it to her.  I felt like i was in pain shock.  No true feelings and happy. Next day, it wears off so to speak and I realise what happened.  Cue depressing mood and music.  Retreat from society and wallow in emotional pain.  My ***friends*** find out and like true friends, harass me.  That's right, turned and stabbed my wound.  Family comes next and accepts it as fact an does nothing to help me.  Spend more, wait, **all** time alone. Almost never eat. Can't stop crying and shaking.  Still crying now. Grades fall to failing.  \n\nLater found out she broke up with me because I am 2 years older than her. **TWO** motherfucking years. My parents have a 5 year age difference, and look at them, happy as can be.\n\nWhat can I do to restore my life? Or better, what can I do to get her back?", "summary": "Perfect life turns to complete and utter disaster when perfect gf breaks up with me."}
{"id": "t3_35a2qu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(m22)Should you be completely honest with your younger sibling/s about your personal history of drug usage?", "post": "I've smoke weed occasionally, and cigarettes i smoke daily, have doing this for 3 years now. I haven't told me younger siblings this, and we see each other maybe 1-2 weekends a month, ever since i moved out of home 4 years ago. I am pretty close with these guys(m14,f12), and we have a great relationship. I think I chose to hide these things because of my fear that they start to think it's ok to do drugs, which I wouldn't advise to, especially at their young age. I'm slightly embarrassed to admit this, but the other reason i'm hiding this from my younger siblings is because I don't want my parents to know. They both work in the health profession, and are vary anti drug/cigg.\n\nSometimes i think they might be (m14)(f12) smart enough to understand the situation at hand, and by me telling them truthly about my experiences, they would realise that they are gaining valuable knowledge, like 'how it isn't ok to do drugs even at 18 for the brain ect', 'why it is important not to start a habit of smoking cigarettes, how it is easy to just fall into the trap of buying a pack a day when you think smoking is ok'.", "summary": "I'm confused not sure how I should react in this situation."}
{"id": "t3_3pfcqc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] Relationship without Perspective with [25/f]", "post": "We met 1,5 years ago in my country (she is a foreigner). Everything went well and we've been together since. But she had troubles learning my language and since I speak hers, I probably wasn't a good teacher either. She also had troubles finding a job due to her not so good qualifications and lack of experience. So she always said that if she does not find anything she will go back (and I don't want to go there for work).\n\nMy dream was always to travel, I saved money for this over the years and also told her upfront. I postponed my journey for half a year supporting her to catch grip in my country so that she'll stay and still be there when I come back from travels (6 months). \n\nIn the end she didn't like her job and went back to her country since she thought she has a job there. Saying that she'll come back when I'm back too (which now she's even less sure). \n\nSo I started my travels, but things did not work out for her. At the moment she has no perspectives what to do in her life, no job and our plans to see each other probably will not work out since she has no job and no money. And I can't/don't want to finance her since I paid the bigger part of our previous vacations and the problem will afterwards still be the same. I don't want a relationship which the only working solution is having kids and me working (because she doesn't have a job/doesn't like her job).\n\nShe is really tired of everything, doesn't want to do much and even when we're talking it is hard because she is quite lost at the moment and I am far away travelling.\n\nI feel sad that she is lost. And I think whether I am partially guilty. I want to support her and make suggestions what to try, I even wrote her CV. But she always responds that she is tired of everything. It drags me down too and I am not sure how long I can hold it anymore. Our future was always questionable which was tough to manage, but being far away is worse. But breaking up at such a tough moment for her makes me even feel worse.", "summary": "Girlfriend moved back to her country. Plans seeing each other won't work out since she has no money and no perspective and what to do in her life. I feel guilty because I am travelling and cannot support her directly (although I tried a fair bit over the last 1.5 years)."}
{"id": "t3_50acci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my ex-boyfriend [18 M], should I give back the promise ring he gave me?", "post": "So we went out for about a year and a half and we just broke up. He gave me a promise ring for my birthday two weeks ago. Its a really nice ring, real diamonds, rose gold, all that jazz, and I would say it costed him $600+. So now that we've broken up should I give it back? It's a huge investment while we're so young, but because it's a gift I'm not sure what to do. We broke up because the relationship wasn't healthy for either of us. Too much jealousy ect. I mean I probably won't want to wear it now were not together, so I think if he can get a refund it's worth giving back. Or he can pawn it off to get some money back. Any advice?", "summary": "Trying to decide whether or not it would be right to give back an expensive promise ring after a breakup"}
{"id": "t3_2pe11k", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I just want my 2nd interview, need advice (xpost from r/offmychest)", "post": "This was copied from my r/offmychest post, but I think I'd get the advice I'd seek posting here as well.\n\nA month ago today, I was interviewed for a film production company for a production coordinator position. This is a dream job at an award-winning company and I moved a few years ago pursue opp. I spent the past four years balancing part-time work with freelancing in music videos, television shows, indie films, even produced a web series, after three years of producing shows for my student television station and graduating from one of the best schools for film production. I came with a sense of purpose and accomplishment and I rocked this interview, the hiring manager liked me and wanted to have my direct supervisor interview me, but unfortunately he was busy the day of my first interview but wanted to set up a second interview the following week.\n\nToday, I still haven't gotten that second interview. I did the customary follow-up email and even sent a thank you card at my girlfriend's insistence shortly after the first interview. Afterwards, I contacted the hiring manager twice to follow up. The first time a week after the interview and the last time I did, two Mondays ago, the second interview was to happen last week, but nothing happened.\n\nWhile I want this position very much and I have heard everything except \"no\", I'm very anxious about pressing harder for that second interview, as to not seem desperate (allegedly). I feel anxious and frustrated, because everything I've worked on and for led me to this opportunity to work full-time in film production, opportunities which has come few and far between for me, and I don't want to mess it up and stay as a customer service rep making $9.50/hr with no benefits (I still do film work on the side, but I'm focusing solely on producing the web series). And I don't want to disappoint my family and especially my girlfriend, who has been the supportive canvas that I paint my frustrations on and I hate myself for burdening her with my stress over this.\n\nI have been applying to other jobs to keep myself distracted, but this is a loose end that needs to be resolved. What should I do next?", "summary": "Interviewed for dream position, did well enough to have the hiring manager promise second interview with my potential supervisor. 2nd interview still hasn't happened, despite following up twice and being assured that it would happen the following week, followed by silence. Frustrated and in need of advice."}
{"id": "t3_23za1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] and my gf [20f] have been struggling while being in college/in the working world... We're supposed to talk in a few hours, and I would love some help. (Dating for 2.5 years)", "post": "Here's the jist of it:\n\nMe: 23 year old male, in a professional work environment. I'm pretty ambitious and want to pursue my career goals. I've delayed moving out of town for my SO.\n\nHer: 20 year old female, opposite in that she is extremely idealistic and wants to save the world. She wants to work for a non-profit, and actually has a negative view on money. She doesn't like any non-essential purchases.", "summary": "We're in two different worlds, and I'm getting tired of waiting for them to come together. How long is too long? Are we too far apart?"}
{"id": "t3_3zk7ui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23/M] GF(?)[20/F] has problems with forgetting her ex", "post": "Well, actually we are not in 'official' relationship yet but I am talking with this girl I met in internet for a month. At first she was skeptical about internet dating because she met her ex via internet too. But I told her live the moment and lets see what happens. \n\nSo after a month, we were like couples. We were talking on cell about hours. She was acting like my GF. She even was checking my Twitter favorites and being jealous about favoriting some tweets that posted from other girls. Also she was telling me sweet words too. So everything was totally OK to do a romantic date for me.\n\nAfter a month, we finally decided to have real date last Saturday.  She has college in another city that's 1-hour long from my city. But her family is living at my city too. Anyways. \n\nBefore Saturday, her ex started to text her suddenly. She told him about me and got a bad response with bad words. But after that, this guy started acting like stupid lover and tried to change her mind with love words. \n\nThey were in relationship for 8 months and they broke up 2 months ago. It was 8 months-old relationship but they were thinking about marriage. The reason for break up was simple. She found his texts to other girls and broke up. \n\nAfter his love texts she changed her mind to have romantic date with me. She didn't came and told me, \"There is a guy that can't forget me. It's not ethical or true for me to date with you.\". She believed his love words. \n\nSo what happened lastly is, she decided to see that guy for last time and listened his words. But in the end of that day she left that table with giving that guy a slap. \n\nI told her several times that he is only doing this to make us bad but she didn't listened me, she deceived to his love words. Last night I talked with her again and told me she is scared about relationships and she doesn't wants to live same things again.", "summary": "I met with a girl from internet month ago. We were so close like romantical relationship. We decided to have a real date but suddenly her ex started texting her with love words. She decided to listen that guy for one last time but that end up very badly. She came up and now tells me she doesn't wants to be in a relationship again because she scared of that things. "}
{"id": "t3_4hoba0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my her [16F] Should I ask her out?", "post": "So I've known this girl for a while, well about 4 years, but we met online and still haven't met each other. The past few months that we have been talking I feel like we have been getting closer than before. \n\nWe text each other a lot most days, from the time we wake up to the time we go to sleep. We say goodnight every day, we've given each other like 5 nicknames.\n\nWe've even made a list as to what we'd do when we meet.\n\nI mean I guess there's more to it, but I don't know if she really likes me or if I should even attempt to ask her out.\n\nLike I said previously we never have met in person, but I'm afraid that if I don't ask her out I'll lose the opportunity to but I also don't want to make things awkward between us.", "summary": "Been talking to a girl for a while, met online, don't know if I should ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_4al5rq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop [25f] dating someone who is pretty awesome [26f] in the least painful way?", "post": "So I'm dating this lovely woman. Stupidly I didn't set up any boundaries regarding my intentions only being casual dating prior to meeting. We have now been on 5 dates give or take and each one has gone well. I have Spoken to her regarding my continued use of dating apps but haven't firmly communicated boundaries, which is stupid I realise. \n\nIt's now getting to the point where I feel the exclusivity question is fast approaching and she appears to be planning our future together but I'm not feeling it!\n\nShe has proven herself to be an amazing lady, and is beginning to confide things in me (eg. About previous heart breaks and about how this is really unusual for her to date). I really don't want to mislead her or cause her any hurt. I'm just finding it really hard to find the right wording that lets her know that she really is the nicest girl I've ever met but I just can't plan a future with her. \nUnfortunately the reasons why I don't wish to continue are fickle, shallow and in fact a bit silly so I feel like I can't tell her them without hurting her. I know I need to talk to her\n\nHow would you word this?", "summary": "person I'm dating is lovely but not for me. I have to do the right thing and communicate it but can't find the words when she is so nice. "}
{"id": "t3_1cu3ii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [32] and I [32] haven't had good sex in over a year... Break up?", "post": "Sorry - I'm 32M, she's 32F, we've been in a relationship for over 4 years.\n\nMy girlfriend and I never have sex any more. She wants to, but I never get turned on by her. I still fantasize about other girls, but I'm really not into having sex with my girlfriend. We're currently looking at buying a house together, but I'm freaking out and thinking maybe we should break up, it's so unnatural to have a relationship without sex. All my other relationships have had good sex and I've been into the other person. But yeah, should we wait it out and hope that things turn around, or as hard as it is, should I pull the plug on this?\n\nAlso, she's pretty messy around the house which drives me nuts.\n\nOn the plus side, she's very intelligent and kind.", "summary": "No sex in the last year or so, should we break up?"}
{"id": "t3_2x4f0f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf (22 m) is playing mind games with me (20 f) and I don't know what to do!", "post": "We've been rocky lately, the day before I told him if he wants to leave ill understand, he said no.\n\nYesterday, he and I got into an argument so I brought it up again that he can leave, he started to say he likes me as a person, do I said \"so you've been lying when you say you loved me\" and he said that's it, I'm leaving.\n\nI was destroyed, blew up his phone, he took us off facebook and finally texted. He said he isn't leaving me and I said well why'd you take us off facebook? I thought you didn't love me? He said he'd talk to me tomorrow because he wants to hear from me and that he was going to bed.\n\nI told him how it was unfair, he was just going to sleep it off and I was gonna lay awake all night miserable. I told him if he doesn't love me then just leave.\n\nHe started to insult me, saying I'm dense, autistic, slow, can't read, can't comprehend. I said well but to make it clear you left me right? He says no but then sends me some song about feeling bad and then shaking it off because the world still turns. WTF like o when I leave you'll be okay.\n\nI tell him well if he didn't leave why did he take us off facebook and that he didn't love me. I didn't text him after that.\n\nHe texts back like an hour later \"I do love you, I'm going to bed\"\n\nWHAT? I feel so stupid, likes he's pulling me around for a ride. Being with him has been the best and worst 2 years of my life. I dont even know if I want him to go or stay.\n\nWhen he said he was leaving me, I cried, when he said he didn't leave me, I still cried.\n\nI just want to fix things so badly but what do you guys think, should I be the bigger person and make it was on him and leave him? I'm hurting, I'm miserable, I'm gonna be a wreck all day at work for sure.", "summary": "Bf of two years left but then said he wasn't leaving but then was mean but then said he loved me but then just said whatever. Should I just let him go? I feel he's unsure about me so maybe I should just make the desicion for him, but I so badly want to fix things."}
{"id": "t3_11a5ba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with a jealous ex-boyfriend? M15, F18", "post": "My girlfriend and I have a really healthy relationship, and have for about two months - we're completely open to each other, honest, very sexually comfortable and active, and intellectually on pretty high levels. \n \nWe've got a great thing going, but the infamous ex-boyfriend is (however cliche) trying to break it down by trash-talking me to her, and making it as incredibly awkward as possible whenever she and I together. He's around quite a bit during school hours, because he she and I are in the same theatre class and are all involved in the play.\n \n Although she trusts me, I hate seeing her be put in a shit mood because of something he says or does. It bothers me because I can't really control what comes out of his mouth (especially when it's mostly lies to take a stab at me).\n \nI want to avoid direct confrontation with him - not only would it be unnecessary, but also nonproductive seeing as he's incredibly immature and can't take anything seriously. \nHow can I get him out of the picture, or should I? \nHow can I handle this maturely?", "summary": "Jealous ex is trying to ruin things. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i6x49", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Dear Reddit, I Need Help Ascending From The General Labor Work Force!", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\n5 years ago I was laid off from the best job I've ever had. I was a labor organizer for a very large and well known union. I had worked my way up to that position with nothing but a GED. After that, I dealt with some severe health complications which lead to severe financial problems. This combination of events also lead to severe obesity and depression on my part.\n\nAt this point in my life, I'd like to get back on the horse but it seems almost impossible. I have no income, no vehicle, and a small & tattered wardrobe. General labor jobs are hard to get (I believe) because I seem over qualified and because my weight probably makes people think I can't do a lot of physical work (which I actually can).\n\nThe only thing that prevents me from having a job in the organizing field again is the lack of nice clothes and a vehicle. So, I was thinking maybe I can use my experience to gain a job in retail management. I know I could do this work with little training, but I don't have any of the requirements (college degree and work experience).\n\nPlease Reddit, help me find a way to get a job. I am borderline homeless at this point. I need anything!", "summary": "No college, GED, no car, no nice clothes, no money... Experience working as a labor organizer. Need help finding work."}
{"id": "t3_1crzi5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[19] be concerned if he[20] doesn't consider sexual acts with other people cheating as long as no feelings are involved?", "post": "We've been together for a little bit longer than a year. I'm really happy with him but the problem I have is that he doesn't think having sex with another girl is cheating. He says that as long as he doesn't have feelings for the girl, its not cheating.\n\n I tried explaining to him that theres physical and emotional cheating. I told him that if he doesn't have feelings for me to let me know so we both can move on and I'd understand.\n\nHe just says that he wouldn't be mad at me if I had sex with another guy if I didn't have feelings for him, but if I blowed him then he'd be upset. \n\nWe have a long distance relationship due to school, and I don't want to accuse him of cheating every time he goes out. \n\nThis whole situation is stressing me out.", "summary": "Long distance relationship boyfriend has a different definition for cheating than I do."}
{"id": "t3_1zdg9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (16 M) and a friend (16 F)", "post": "She joined my school about 3 months ago and we have become fairly good friends since. I still don't know a lot about her but I am trying to learn more. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since she joined and I really want to ask her out but I don't know how. I have never had a girlfriend before and the pressure to get one in late secondary school is the main thing making me nervous about asking her out. I find myself staring at her across the canteen at our school and when she looks back at me, I look away and pretend I wasn't looking and every time I do this I get angry with myself for not doing something. \n\nWe both like similar things and we are currently performing together in our school play which helps me learn more about what she likes and doesn't like. I really like her and I get the feeling that she likes me as well by the way she is around me but, like I said, I have never had a girlfriend before or any experience with a girl that may like me so I can't recognise the signs, if there are any, that she may like me back.\n\nAnother of my main fears of dating someone is that I don't know how to be a boyfriend. Whether I should spend all my time with this person or give them space and thinking about things like that freak me out. I also don't want to ruin our friendship by asking her out and her saying no or it not working out at all. I have also heard from a friend that she had a bad breakup before moving here and it worries me thinking she may not want a boyfriend at the moment. Our end of year prom is also coming up and I was thinking that could be my chance ask her out.\n\nI would really appreciate any advice/tips about what to do.", "summary": "Really like a girl in my year but don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1gvarc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] girlfriend is showing symptoms of hypochondria and it's driving me [25M] bonkers", "post": "We've been in a relationship for almost 5 years now and marriage is definitely in our future, but every few months we have a slight problem. She gets really paranoid about the slightest health quirk. She'll have a headache when she wakes up and within a few hours it progresses into her being convinced she has cancer. And of course she stresses out and that only prolongs the headache and that becomes 'proof' that she has a tumor or something in hear head. Vicious cycle.\n\nShe has a history of displaying OCD-like tendencies when she was in her teens (doctor-confirmed, not the stupid 'I cleaned my room lulzocd') and has anxiety issues in general. She was on anxiety meds for a while and by her own admission it helped her not take the headaches or bug bites or whatever as seriously and to the next level like she was before. But financial issues and her owing the doctor's office money has kept her form being able to return and get a new prescription. \n\nIt just happens every month or two and for a week she's an anxious, stressed out mess convinced that she's dying. And she never does, but she never seems to remember that and she never acknowledges it when I remind her. I love her death and will put up with this til the end of our days, but any way I can make this easier on us both would be much appreciated. I think part of the problem is that I don't know how to deal with it, so i'm not dealing with it very well at all. I want to be supportive, but not too supportive. I want to be stern and remind her it's in her head, but I don't want her to feel like no one has her back. What do I do?", "summary": "girlfriend is a bit of a hypochondriac and I'm struggling to deal with it because I don't really know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_1e3yw9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[29m] to soon to meet? Religion? Do I disclose inexperience?", "post": "I've been on OKC for a while now. This girl has visited profile about 6 times in a month. I finally emailed her as it was apparent she wasn't going to email me.\nShe responded. We exchanged numbers after day 4 of emails. Been texting crazy since. We decided to meet up casually for lunch and/or coffee and just chat.\nAll this in less than a week. Now -- normally I go a couple weeks before exchanging numbers mainly for her comfort, and prevent the over-eager stigma. But she seems pretty interested.\nIs there a hard and set rule for number exchange and meet up or what?\nSecondly... She's rather religious and I'm agnostic. The topic hasn't been brought up yet.. But I fear its entry. How should it be handled..other than with extreme care?\nThirdly...when..or even do I bring up my inexperience in dating? Or just go with the floe and don't think with my dick?", "summary": "when is too soon to meet? When does religion become a factor? And when do I disclose inexperience?"}
{"id": "t3_3vr3ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like a puddle all over again with my ex [20/F].", "post": "I'm not going to get into our history, but we broke up at the end of April this year. A few weeks after our breakup, she tells me she thinks she is gay and starts to date women. None of them work, and time after time, things kept bringing us back together somehow. We never did anything, but it's like every time it doesn't work out with someone else, we naturally just come back. It's weird. \n\nAnyways. There was a long period where we didn't talk. Sometime around October or so, we start talking again. We talk on the phone once and she tells me how much she missed me and my voice. It was a good feeling and this has been a pretty steady thing since then. She had been flirting with me pretty heavily the past couple of weeks, and I was just too nervous to do anything.\n\nTonight, I was Facebook-stalking her (sorry), and noticed she has been in a relationship with a guy since October -- right around the time we started talking again. I feel heartbroken all over again. From the times she told me that she wanted to hear my laugh because she loves it, or the times she pushed me to call her cute (in a playful way) these past few months, I don't know what to feel right now. I feel like I did in April.\n\nI was about to ask her if she wanted to hang out before I headed back home for Christmas but now I'm accepting I shouldn't. I don't feel used I just feel confused. And fucking sad.\n\nHelp.", "summary": "Months after our breakup, my ex and I seemed to be warming up back up to each other. Turns out she has been in a relationship with someone since the time we first started talking again, so everything I've thought since then is false. Great."}
{"id": "t3_3paz9a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by attempting to multitask", "post": "So I've started a new internship in a field I'm not even majoring because fuck you that's why. I get to work from home, which is amazing because I hate putting on pants. \n\nIn the first few days, I accidentally sent an important email without a subject. No biggie, but still, strike one.\n\nA few days later I accidentally sent a PM on slack (which is basically a space to chat with your company/team). Easy fix, nothing sensitive was revealed, and I deleted it right away.\n\nToday I'm at work, which allows me about half an hour at a time when no one comes in, so I can work on my internship. Where I'm at, it's also Sunday, which means FOOTBALL!!! No, not that pussyass 'futbol' crap that takes 90 minutes for something exciting happen. \n\nOn top of that, I'm reeling from an amazing date the night before, and I'm texting away with this girl, who's suddenly playing hard to get. \n\nI attempt to multitask work, wooing a damsel, and sending emails for an internship, and end up sending an email to the wrong person. What's really embarrassing is that it was a cookie-cutter message that we edit a bit and send off to 50 people. In my hubris, I done goofed. My boss caught the mistake and covered for me right away, but I have yet to talk to her privately about strike 3.", "summary": "Idgaf how cool you think you are, multitasking is not possible. Don't try it."}
{"id": "t3_3g8z70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 2 months, I always upset her and need advice", "post": "I see my wrongs and aim to make them right, but where do I begin? How can I change for the better?\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now, and I love her. She means the world to me, but there is one issue. I am an asshole. I don't know why she chose me but for whatever reason, I am happy. \n\nOn to my issue, she goes out of her way to make me happy, and I do as well for the most part. The other part is where my impulsive self kicks in. So an example being my friends call me to hang out and I just ask her if I can just go now and leave her. I am terrible I know. I did not put her into consideration, I did not put myself into her shoes. \n\nThe reason why I jumped on the idea of hanging out with my friends is because I rarely get to meet up with my friends (I have a full-time job and am volunteering, time is rare and I see my GF more than them). But this is by no means an excuse to just move my GF to the side.\n\nI see my wrongs and aim to make them right, but where do I begin? How can I change for the better? I don't know if this is the right place to post but any advice would be much appreciated. \n\nMe and my girlfriend talked about this last night. Tears, guilt but I think things have gotten better. I did not want to make her feel unimportant and she did not want to suck me from my own life.", "summary": "I am doing a terrible job as a boyfriend as prioritize my friends over girlfriend when it was our day. Girlfriend aways goes out of her way to make me happy and I can fail to do the same. How can I make things right? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3qbjen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) just learned my GF (23F) has a chronic illness.", "post": "So recently my GF had been having problems with her hair (thinning and apparently having a bald spot) that I, being a stereotypical Male, did not notice. Anyways she went to see a dermatologist and turns out she has Lichen Planopilaris. That means that most likely, she will bald. She was devastated. I admit I was saddened by this too. It pains me to see her sad and knowing I can't do anything. But also for a vain reason. I like her with hair, I think she looks beautiful with it. But I think I can live with her bald too (she'd wear a wig most of time). \n\nBut now she's afraid she might have Lupus. We're waiting for the results, and we're going to get a second opinion. She said that IF she did have it, she wouldn't blame me if I broke up with her, and in fact she recently told me, she might not give me a choice and that she would break up with me. She doesn't want me to see her body slowly decay as she dies (but from what I can tell, this shouldn't kill her). I honestly don't know how I feel. On one hand I love her dearly. Like I want to marry her.\n\nBut on the other hand, I think vain and selfish thoughts like 'I could be with someone healthy, and we could go out like I want to' or 'I won't have to be a caretaker, I can just be a BF. I am 23 after all' and even 'Maybe it will be fun to date again!' And she told me that our sex life will drop drastically, possibly die completely because she feels disgusting and doesn't want anyone touching her or do anything sexual. Which I understand, but I also have a high sex drive and the thought that crossed my mind was 'well if she broke up with me, I could find someone with a similar sex drive.' I feel terrible thinking these thoughts. Because I do love her. Very very much and want to stay with her. But how can I show that? How can I convince her I want to stay with her? Again we don't know IF she has that, but I'm freaking out over it...", "summary": "GF diagnosed with a illness, could be a worse chronic illness and she might break up with me over it so she can 'save' me from her. Am I horrible for thinking these thoughts? How can I convince her otherwise? That I want to stay with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2xfhk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23f) Husband (32m) is planning on switching shifts and we wouldn't see eachother and I'm trying to talk him out of it", "post": "We are currently both on afternoon at the same job, but he plans on switching to midnight. He wants to switch shifts because its much easier and requires less time being a 'people person'. Not because he has to, for a promotion, or a pay increase...Just because it is easier. Though I do understand and sympathize, I want midnight shift too! But we simply don't know how long it could be between opportunities to switch shifts, it could be a year or more before I can follow.\n\nI want him to wait until we can both switch to midnight so we stay on the same shift but he simply won't consider it. He thinks being on modnight will solve all his problems (we both hate our jobs but can't leave the benefits and pay).\n\nThis would leave me working this job I hate, with an absentee husband and all alone...I just don't know how I could do it. How do I get him to see how damaging this could be?", "summary": "Husband wants midnight, I want him to wait for me."}
{"id": "t3_fudt6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when was the last time you just said fuck it?", "post": "I mean this in a positive light :) I know it's Monday and all, but for some reason I've been in a terribly cheery mood!\n\nI got out of class to find that I was done for the day, so I decided to go to the Taco Bell/coffee place on campus to chill out for a bit. When I got there I decided to check my mail.. Lo and behold my solos had come in the mail! (the J.J. Johnson Collection from Hal Leonard) So I sat down looking through it. Not five minutes after sitting down, I saw literally the most gorgeous girl I have *ever* seen on the East Coast. I figured since today was a great day, I mumbled \"bitch, I'm a bus\" (got some odd looks from the people around me) and got up to walk towards her. \n\nI have a feeling she kind of knew what was going to happen because she was waiting in line at the mail center, but I went in for it anyways. I introduced myself, and asked her if she was free for coffee or any other hot beverage. She didn't immediately say no, which was good, and she got a text from someone in the middle of our \"conversation\" and said she had to leave. She asked for my number and told me that if she feels like coffee, she'll call me first thing. Yeah sure, maybe not the most successful story, but it just added to the better day :)", "summary": "I was having a great day and said fuck it, asked a girl out. When was the last time you just said \"fuck it,\" and how did it go?"}
{"id": "t3_sbk79", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Talented guy with troubled love life looking for advice.", "post": "Hello all, I'm a 20 year old who has had a rough love life, first girlfriend was with for four years and she was incredibly controlling and probably cheated on me with one my friends, and within the span of a year I've dated five different girls with varying degrees of incompatibility, ranging from a pot head who was looking for money, a boderline alcoholic who used me, to a girl who was so driven cast me aside. This has given me a very poor outlook on women and a general distrust and hatred. What can I do to get things moving again in my love life?", "summary": "Screwed over by crazy girlfriends, now hates women, needs advice to change."}
{"id": "t3_1lgr2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23M] give my ex [24F] a second chance 6 years later?", "post": "So we started going out when I was 15-16, and lasted about 2 years. During that time we fought *a lot*, constantly broke-up made-up and she cheated on me several times with her ex. When I learned that she cheated I ended the relationship.\n\n2 years after that (in college) we were both in relationships with different people. Both relationships were very stable, no cheating, no lying, no fighting. \n\nNow we are both single and still attracted to each other, we\u00b4ve talked about going out again, but I'm not sure if it is the correct thing to do. I know that we were both in very bad places 6 years ago, definitely not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. I was a terrible boyfriend, very shy, not a gentleman and I rejected all her sexual advances because I was too nervous. I also wanted to kill myself. \n\nNow I'm a completely different person and from what I've seen she's also changed a lot. I'm sure that a relationship with her now will be very different from what it was before but I'm not sure if I should forgive her for cheating?? \n\nThanks!!", "summary": "Ex-gf cheated on me 6 years ago, wants a second chance now that we are much more mature, should I go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_4yrus1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know where to post this. My [35m] good friends, who are married, are sending out some signals.", "post": "I have been friends with the husband [34m] for a while. A few years ago he met his now wife [34f] and we have always got along pretty well.\n\nRecently when the wife has been drunk at parties she starts to hit on me and tell people that im her other boyfriend. She will cuddle with me and get a little handsy. The first time this happened her husband saw I was a little uncomfortable and told me it was fine and to just go with it. \n\nThe most recent time she made out with me and I over heard her telling other people that she wanted a MMF threesome. \n\nOutside of these parties we never talk about these occurances and I just never bring it up. Im not sure how to handle it though. I wouldnt be adverse to engaging in something more physical but I also dont want to hurt the friendship by overstepping any boundaries.", "summary": "Best friends wife hits on me when drunk and he is ok with it. She may want to get more physical and I dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2x0351", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (21 M) and I (21 F) fight constantly. We love each other and don't want to leave, how do we get the fights to stop?", "post": "My boyfriend (21 M) and I (21 F) seem to be fighting all of the time lately. I love him more than anything, and he does me. We're best friends (have known one another and been close for almost 9 years) and we go to each other for pretty much everything, but we just seem to be fighting all of the time lately. It feels like it's nonstop. We're in a long distance relationship, and so that's not helping things much, and we've both made some crappy decisions on how we've treated the other (not cheating or anything like that, just being mean or not always putting the other first). I feel like we're in a cycle that doesn't end. Either I'm mad because he did something to hurt my feelings, either flirted with someone else, or yelled at me, or he's mad because I freak out about it and get emotional and then yell at him (I'm an extremely emotional person). This is the man I want to marry, and he says he feels the same way about me, so ending things is not an option. My question is, what advice do my fellow Reddit users have to offer on getting past the fights and working on our communication? I should add that when things between us are good, they're absolutely great, and even if we're fighting I would never even think of wanting to be with anyone else.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are fighting a lot. What are some tips for communicating better to stop it?"}
{"id": "t3_499fmq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a 10 pound dump", "post": "This happened 2 years ago:\nI am a very distracted person and I can put things off too well.  I didn't like to poop in the bathrooms at school and in my mind, I would just put off my shits until I was home.  But at home, I would also put it off because there were other things I wanted to do.  I would just keep coming up with reasons to put it off and got very good at holding in my shit.  This paired with a horrible diet at the time made for some intense constipation.  For a while, I didn't realize what was happening, I knew I always had stomach pain and my lower back was always sore (from supporting oddly proportioned weight).  \nI would shit every 2 weeks or so and when that happened it wasn't even particularly eventful.  I went to the doctor and they took x-rays of my stomach and found out that I was literally full of shit.  After 2 months of holding in my shits and getting a little out at I time, I had around 8 feet built up in my intestines.  I took this laxative called magnesium citrate that night and it made the difference.  My stomach began to make noises as I prepared for what was coming.  As soon as I felt it I ran to the bathroom and shit for 3 hours, experiencing so much pain as I got it all out.  Afterward I could feel how clear my body finally was and stepped on the scale.  I had just taken a monstrous 10 pound shit, and now I boast that I have taken the biggest shit of anyone I know.", "summary": "took a 10 pound shit after months of constipation "}
{"id": "t3_2gq2jj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "\"Why do you try to run my life?\" Because you won't get up and do anything with it.", "post": "Boyfriend is carless, can't even drive. His family refuses to help him get to any job more than 5 minutes away. & he just graduated high school in June, to go on to do....absolutely nothing. I'm not saying he should rush into college, I'm not saying he should be a constant workhorse. BUT if he wants a car to get a better job, have a car, get out of that toxic household? HE. NEEDS. A. DAMN. JOB. I want better for him, as I love him with all my heart. But I can't stand lazy people who say they want better, but are so picky about the better they want/ don't really do anything about it. There are tons of businesses within walking/bussing distance he hasn't applied to yet, because they are hard, or a \"stupid job\". Work is work, not easy. ESPECIALLY WITH A HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA. When I ask, one simple online application per day is too much for him, a waste of time.\n\nWith my hatred of laziness, I feel like I'm rewarding his stupidity by seeing him/being nice/not asking every day what he's done to get a job.  He has a weekend job, but for five days of the week? As little productivity as possible. I've planned for a while that if he's still a lazy bum by November, I may ask for a break to spook him. Because I don't know how else to make it clear that I do not want to be with someone so complacent in bad conditions. I don't want to leave him, but I don't want to live in a constant fight zone over \"Why do you try to run my life?\" \"Because you don't get up and do anything with it.\"\n\nSorry for block of text.", "summary": "I want better for my boyfriend. He wants to stay in terrible life conditions. Leaving, at least for good, is not an option for me."}
{"id": "t3_246nkv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23/M looking for advice on coping with the loss of my sister 33/F.", "post": "We lost her yesterday. She had numerous health problems, the primary one being progressive epilepsy. She was in the hospital a month or so ago and we thought we might lose her, but she made a near full recovery and was basically back to normal until I got a call from my grandmother yesterday morning saying she had passed in the night.\n\nI've never really dealt with an unexpected loss like this. I've only lost grandparents when I was a child. I think I'm still in shock and it hasn't fully sunk in. I got the news when I was out with my girlfriend visiting the planetarium. I haven't cried or anything and I can tell she (my gf) thinks it's weird that I haven't shown much emotion regarding the issue. \n\nI mainly can't stop thinking about the three children she left behind. Their father is abusive and now they're left with no mother. I know I need to step up and be a bigger part of their lives. \n\nI personally hate sob stories and I'm not looking for sympathy. That's actually an aspect that I'd like advice on. I'm the type of person to bottle things and not mention them to anyone because I hate feeling like people feel sorry for me. I absolutely hate it. I haven't told anyone other than my girlfriend who was there when I got the news. I went to work as usual because I'm in a new city by myself and my girlfriend went back home an hour away this morning so I'd just be sitting at home by myself. I'm going to let my boss know here in a bit, but I just absolutely hate talking about this sort of thing. I'm really hoping they don't all sign a card for me or something like that.. I don't want everyone asking about it.\n\nMy family is more dysfunctional than average, always fighting and being dramatic over stupid things, and I know when I go back home for the funeral it's going to be complete chaos with family members who haven't spoken due to drama seeing each other for the first time in years. I'm dreading it.\n\nHas anyone dealt with a similar situation? How long does it take for this kind of thing to fully sink in? How did you cope?", "summary": "Sister is dead, her kids now only have their abusive father. I haven't felt very emotional; just looking for advice from people who have experienced similar."}
{"id": "t3_275icr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pranking my friend", "post": "So...I have three main friends, and one of them is a jerk. Let's call him...blob. He is kind of a jerk and the others think he is a jerk  but he is still cool and we value his friendships cause we all are like really close. We usually we go and chill at his grandmothers house where he lives.  We all hung out today and chilled like usual, and we dropped him off and went to the other friends house. \n\nThe other friends, let's call him Skinmeat, killed a snake this morning,so we decided to take this snake and prank blob with it after chilling and thinking about it for a while.   We decided to go to blob's grandmother's house...where he lived, and our plan WAS to pick him up, ride down the street and leave the car, when he wasn't expecting it, we would throw it on him and we would run to the car and drive...turn around and pick him up and let him be mad at us for like fifteen minutes before laughing and joking like usually. \n\nWhat happen was we got to his house and he didn't want to come so we took the snake in a bag and I put it in my pocket before going into his grandmothers house while she had guest...and went into his room threw it on the bed before running out in HER house while she had guest and then driving off.\n\nHe texted us and said that his grandmother almost had a heart attack and we were banned from her house, and that we couldn't be friends anymore.\n\nWe feel terrible because her grandmother trusted us and we barely knew her, and we disrespected her household without even thinking about her.", "summary": "Pranked a friend and got banned from his grandmothers house."}
{"id": "t3_4xhrtc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I (22F) can't seem to get my life together.", "post": "How do I find myself? I know that seems like an impossible question to answer but I need a starting point. For years, I have convinced the world that I am this happy person, but I don't know if that person I've built as a defense mechanism to keep from feeling like a burden to people I care about is me. Or who I'm supposed to be. I am currently in a point where I have an amazing boyfriend who I want to spend my life with but I don't want to drag him down. I want to be a person who can help to build him up not weigh him down with my issues. I can't seem to get myself to change and get my life on track. I'm half ass trying to get into school. I work at a job I hate but can't seem to leave. I don't take care of my responsibilities at home. I try and do well but eventually I fall back into my old habits.\n\nDoes anyone know a way to help break my habit of laziness? Some sort of system or something to help me see my worth and push myself to do what I need to?", "summary": "I can't find the motivation to be the person I want or to figure out who that person is. Just need help pulling my life together."}
{"id": "t3_sk98y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I ask you to weigh in on a most unconventional Coke vs. Pepsi debate", "post": "For some time now my social circle has been debating various issues regarding Coke and Pepsi. Perhaps, the most interesting and controversial being the peak point of tastiness.\n\nThe argument:\n\nFor Coke, we contend that the first sips are average at best. However, the confection gradually becomes tastier and more refreshing as you reach the midpoint and third quartile of the can. \n\nFor Pepsi, we contend that the first sips are very good. Unfortunately, it is all downhill from there. As you progress through the can, it becomes less and less satisfying. \n\nTo go beyond our hunches, we have deemed Coke drinkers as more patient and more apt to appreciate delayed gratification.  This, of course, is in contrast to Pepsi drinks, who are more impatient and carve immediate gratification.\n\nSo Reddit, is this your experience? Or, are we completely bonkers?\n\nIf you have both on hand, or even just one, rate your first sip numerically on a scale of 1-10. Then, repeat approximately at the halfway point and again near the end of the can.  \n\n***To clarify, this debate is for 12 fluid ounces (355 mL), chilled, original, plain Jane Coke and Pepsi. No frills. Our palettes are not fortunate enough to know what Coke and Pepsi taste like on an international scale. So, the above notion is for the good ole United States versions of the colossal carbonated beverages. Also, this is only for the canned form of both beverages. Bottled or soda fountain Coke and Pepsi have a different taste all together.", "summary": "Coke starts average and gets better. Pepsi starts great and gets worse. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4djwyn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking and driving", "post": "Hi reddit. I was driving on my way to campus this morning, left hand on the wheel, right hand feeding my mouth with potato chips. As soon as I finished eating my chips I was thirsty. So I did what any human would do  - try to drink water while driving*. This was a sealed water bottle so I could not open it with one hand, I use my thighs as a grasping mechanism while I open the bottle cap. Unbeknownst to me this bottled water was super full and super flimsy. As soon as I opened the cap, yeap you guessed it.. water spilled all over my crotch. I tried to cover it with my coat in class but I'm not sure if that worked..\n\n*I was on the highway/freeway (whichever one it is..) and there were obviously no stop signs or stop lights where I could wait and drink my water.", "summary": "Tried to drink water while driving, spilled all over my crotch, weird looks during class because my crotch was wet."}
{"id": "t3_cmsdc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Credit Cards? How do those work!", "post": "I am 22 years old and still wield a BofA ATM card. I am terrified and confused about credit cards... Ive used a Debit before but not many places accept them and i got this overdraft thing that just bit me hard, 23 cents over and all of a sudden i owe $30. I dont make a ton of money and I'm looking to just use it to buy online games(steam), pay my car off and phone.\n\nSo can someone PLEASE help inform me proper Credit Card etiquette? Most of all suggest me to some companies that are trust able? \n\nI really appreciate that help, i feel like i cant trust banks to let me know what their cards do with all the small print...", "summary": "Let me know how these cards work and what card is best!"}
{"id": "t3_103kim", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies, will you turn down a guy for a date or relationship based on the vehicle he drives?", "post": "A friend of mine went out on a date with a girl and picked her up in his truck. After the date she told her friend which also happened to be a friend of mine that the date was awesome but she wouldn't go out with him again because of his truck. The truck is an '87 and in fair condition. It's never dirty just old and a little rusty. His family doesn't come from money but they do the best they can. Does the vehicle a guy drive really play that important of a role in whether or not you will date a guy?", "summary": "Friend went on date with girl but she doesn't want to see him because the truck he drives is old."}
{"id": "t3_2gqjs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my girlfriend [22/F]. 1 year together. Haven't been getting along lately but I want to fight for this relationship -- help?", "post": "So my girlfriend \"Kyla\" and I have been together for about a year now. Our relationship has been great from the start, we always got along super well and had the best of times together. I often tell her she is me in a different body -- we complete each others' sentences and are very affectionate and in love. The sex is great, she's my best friend, everything's awesome. Or it had been, for the past 11 months or so.\n\nAround a month ago I felt that we kind of reached a rough patch. We were fighting over silly things (well, not really fighting, more like having talks about it), one little thing she said would make me mad and vice versa. We always apologized and made up before going to sleep, but we still argued quite a bit.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. Lately I've found myself wondering if I'd be happier if I was single. I love Kyla and she's my life, but there are days when I look at her and think that I'm not really that attracted to her anymore. And then that thought leaves just as fast as it came. So we have our great days, days where I'm head over heels for her, and then we have our off days, when I start to question why we're still together and if we should break up.\n\nI'm not sure if this is because the honeymoon phase is finally over or what, but I don't want to give up on our relationship. I love this girl. I could see myself long-term with her, buying a house and getting a dog and everything. What can I do to make our relationship go back to what it was? Is there any hope? If I work at it, can I make these little fights stop or is it hopeless?\n\nAny advice would be really appreciated. I'm kind of at a loss right now, she's the first person I've ever fallen in love with and I want to work through this rough patch really badly. Thank you.", "summary": "Hitting a rough patch with girlfriend of a year. Little fights breaking out, me not being that into her anymore. Don't want to give up on relationship. How to make it better?"}
{"id": "t3_11r4ts", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there any place on the internet I can find workbook answers for my psych textbook?", "post": "I am an art major taking 21 credits in my final semester. I had previously scheduled a human sexuality course, but another class of mine was rescheduled and I was forced into a learning and behavior course. It is way more expensive and a ton of work. This doesn't agree with me because I have to spend a lot of time in the studio. I aced my first text, but the homework is graded like a take-home test. I got a bad grade on the homework because I didn't have the time to do it thoroughly. I really need help. I know the material, but don't have the time to sort through the hundreds of pages of text that each unit covers. \n\nThe book is The Principles of Learning and Behavior, sixth edition by Michael Domjan. I need the answers to the work book. Any help or direction is appreciated.", "summary": "Acing tests, suffering on homework. I don't have the time.  Need workbook answers for book The Principles of Learning and Behavior, sixth edition"}
{"id": "t3_2r5z36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] had a rough New Year. [32F] SO of 4 months is not talking to me.", "post": "So I have dated this girl for 4 months. She has been really great so far, we fight minimally and get a long great. So unfortunately she had to work for NYE, and my friends wanted me to go out with them to a fancy dinner, then to a house party, then to the casino, and then they had a hotel room at the casino we could crash at so no one would drink and drive.\n\nThe SO really wanted to come but she couldn't get off work. I told her I would send her pic updates through out the night. I sent a selfie on the way to the restaurant and then I proceeded to get way too drunk. I only sent the one picture and the rest of the night was a blur, i missed several calls and finally answered her texts at 2 in the morning. Not my finest moment and I admit that I wasn't the worlds best boyfriend. But I have been faithful the entire relationship.\n\nNow she is not talking to me, she got drunk and high last night, which is out of character, then said the texts were sent from someone else on her phone, and I'm really at a loss of words. Maybe she thinks I was cheating? Maybe she was looking for an out in the relationship and took this opportunity? Her past boyfriends have all been pretty scummy and I have a job and am independent. I really don't know.\n\nI suppose I'm just looking for another set of eyes, to help me understand that aren't related to me, as all my family has loved her and I don't want them thinking differently of her. Feel free to ask questions.", "summary": "Got way too drunk and forgot to keep in touch with my SO over NYE, she's not talking to me. Have no idea where the sudden ending of the relationship came from and would like some help in understanding."}
{"id": "t3_2lgmjk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [19/m] concerned about (somewhat long-distance) girlfriend [19/f] cheating...is this normal?", "post": "Hi all. Let's start with a bit of our history here (I'll do my best to keep it short). My girlfriend and I met our sophomore year of high school. A few months after meeting her and her family had moved to a foreign country. We continued to text/skype on a regular basis and hooked up the few times she came back to visit. This continued for over 3 years until she decided to attend college much, much closer to home. Long story short, we've been dating for almost a year now w/ no known issued of cheating. \n\nWe both consider ourselves to be each other's best friends but deep down I am concerned she is/has cheated. We now live less than two hours away from each other and come visit each other at least 3 weekends per month. She's definitely expressed interest in wanting to get married, have kids etc. But there is just something that worries me. Is this a common concern to have in a long-distance relationship? Are there some \"give-away signs\" that might give away whether or not she is cheating? Or am I just being worrying over something that I shouldn't be/ have a low self-esteem?", "summary": "Been dating girlfriend for almost 1 year now and have been friends for nearly 4 years.  Live 2 hours apart and see each other on most weekends. She hasn't shown any signs of cheating or has a history with it but I'm still concerned that it may have happened in the past (for no apparent reason). Is this normal to think about when in a long-distance relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3s0nqk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want my [21F] boyfriend [22M] of one year to lose weight", "post": "We are really close so I don't think it would be hard to bring up, but I don't want to hurt him.\n\nWhen we met three years ago he was very fat. He was single and I was seeing someone else. Time went on, my long-term relationship ended, he moved away for work for a year and came back looking great- he lost a lot of weight, he was more confident and he was very handsome. He had always been very sweet, funny, and quietly intelligent, and we had always been friends. This time I was single and we got closer and closer.\n\nI've never been shallow; I'd always choose personality over looks. I of course love him, but I'm not physically attracted any more. How can I gently tell him that? I also want him to be healthy, he clearly struggled with his weight in the past and I don't want him to be hurt emotionally or physically.\n\nI put on about 20lbs when I broke up with my ex. When bf and I got together I was still pretty chubby. We would say to each other \"we can start cooking x, y, z healthy meals together and stop snacking so much\" or \"let's start exercising together\". I did, he didn't. I lost the weight and he got a bit heavier. \n\nAt the moment he is away studying while I'm still working in our town, and we effectively have a long distance relationship.", "summary": "want fat bf to lose weight, how do I break it to him gently?"}
{"id": "t3_q2crn", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "HELP! Toddler [3yo] not sleeping through the night.", "post": "This has been going on for about the past two weeks. I've tried everything and I'm coming up extremely short. \n\nMy wife and I both work full time and we need to sleep at night. I'm in the military and regularly work anywhere between 10-15 hours a day and I end up getting about 5 hours of sleep a night, so when I sleep I sleep like a rock. My wife ends up waking to assist him, and she isn't used to the lack of sleep so she ends up more sleep deprived.\n\nOk, well here's the issue. My 3yo son has been waking up around the same time for at least a year, 9am. He normally naps at about 1pm for 2 hours and then we put him to bed at 9-10pm after everything is said and done. \n\nLately he's been treating his bedtime as a nap, wakes up several hours in and continues to stay up all night. He'll then proceed to leave his room and trash the entire house. He knows how to open the child proof cabinets, doors etc. He'll go into the kitchen, fashion steps out of randomly placed object in the kitchen [chairs, boxes, garbage can, etc] and get into the higher cabinets. \n\nLast night, for example, he thought it would be a great idea to break several eggs on the floor and mix them with flower. \n\nAnyway, what can I do to set my child's sleep schedule straight.", "summary": "My son is waking up while wife and I sleep, trashing the house, and ending up with about 6 hours of sleep a night."}
{"id": "t3_2k4ojr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating sushi", "post": "Alright so I love spicy foods so whenever I eat sushi I make sure it's spicy. \nI make like a sushi sauce kinda thing when I eat it, it's ghost peppers, wasabi, olive oil and soy sauce mixed (it's really good and spicy) so I'm making my sauce, cutting up the ghost peppers without gloves (idiot), then I started adding it in wth the wasabi, olive oil and soy sauce. I start mixing it and then cleaning up some of the mess I had made.\nSo here is where the fuck up begins. I usually use my fingers to spread the sauce onto the top of my sushi, so I'm spreading it on the tops of all my sushi and i have this massive fucking urge to scratch my eye. So immediately without thinking, I start going to town at scratching my eye, the lovely feeling of relieving a scratch, then it burns. This shit burns like a fucking whore with a yeast infection. My eyeliner began to drip down the one side of my face and the one eye is swelling and red. I look like a raccoon that just took 50 tokes. so now I'm sitting here with a paper towel soaked with milk on my eye, after rinsing it out for at least 1 hour.", "summary": "made hot sauce for sushi, spread it in the tops of each sushi and itched my eye. left with raccoon eye, and burning yeast infection sensation."}
{"id": "t3_2i8wp3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lieing in a TIFU post", "post": "I had the urge to write about a little story I had cooked up in my head, and decided to write it in a first person perspective. I thought, \"This would be perfect for TIFU\" You see, TIFU does not have a rule about if posts need to be true or not, and after seeing many of the top posts I had already been convinced that many were not true stories.\n\nI post the story with much success. Upvotes are going off left and right, I'm literally getting high refreshing the page and seeing the numbers climb. Eventually I got to [10] when a comment said, \"Pics or it didn't happen\". Since I wasn't trying to be scrupulous, I freely admitted that it was only a made up story.\n\nThe votes began dropping. First in the comments, but then the post its self. It wasn't long before it was zero'd out and buried. This normally isn't a problem, but the commenters were angry and I honestly felt bad. \n\nIn a panic to make things right, and since it was a story, I heard that pizza hut was bringing back the reading program. Naturally then I thought the least I could do is get everyone one star closer to a free personal pan pizza. \n\nI check my karma one last time. Another post I had was doing quite well. I got to [10] again, perhaps higher, before leaving.\n\nWhen I pulled up at the pizza hut I was not paying attention and very lightly tapped a woman in a wheelchair who is the space diagnol to me to. She obviously made a very big fuss after I helped her up. When the police arrived they asked why my eyes were so red and why I was driving so fast to get to pizza hut. I told him about the TIFU post, how I got to [10], and how it all fell apart, and that my eyes may be red from weeping when I learned how upset the commenters were. \n\nNow I'm sitting here in booking typing on my phone. I'm sure they will let me go home though since I did not do anything wrong. I'm starving too, never got that pizza hut.", "summary": "Got accused of DUI because my eyes were red from crying and I lightly tapped a wheelchair by mistake, because of a post in TIFU in which I lied."}
{"id": "t3_398e6w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading out loud a Spanish script written by somebody else", "post": "As with all posts, this happened a few months ago.\n\nFirst of all, I'm pretty ass at Spanish. So, when the teacher assigns us this skit, I immediately partner up with this kid who I talk to sometimes that is really good at Spanish. Anyways, all goes as planned. We think of an idea together, I offer to write the script, and he obviously rejects the idea since I'm ass at Spanish. \n\nWe get to Spanish and I read my lines and all is going well. We get to the end and I read m last line when the class goes silent and the teacher stares at me. That's when I realized that the bastard put \"yo soy puta\" in the script and me being an ignorant fucker read it out. I'm sure most of you know what it means, but if not say it to anybody who speaks Spanish. I dare you.\n\nI guess the kid liked practical jokes, but this shit got me a week of detention. I gotta give him props though.", "summary": "read out a curse word somebody put in my script, got detention but i was funny af"}
{"id": "t3_2pkxtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19m] her [21f], we met at a party and now I don't know what to do.", "post": "So I know what the answer to this is. She's obviously not interested and I should just focus on getting over her. But I want to know if I did something wrong to cause it.\n\nI met this girl at a party. From the get-go she was very flirty and touchy; we traded hats and she had me play with her hair, took off her shirt to show me a couple scars, held hands. We talked for an hour or so. During that time she had me put my number into her phone. The conversation ended because I drunkenly brought up that I didn't like my ex and she said she didn't like hers either.\n\nLater, before she left, I pulled her aside and said this:\n\nListen, I think you're cool. I'm very very drunk so I don't feel comfortable doing anything with anybody, but I'd really like to get to know you sober, maybe on a date sometime?\n\nThen she said \"do you want my number then?\" So I got it and told her I'd text her.\n\nThe next day, in the afternoon, I sent her a text. This was Saturday and she still hasn't responded to today. Did I come on too strong? Or was she just not really into me?", "summary": "cool girl is ignoring me after party. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_yzhq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "so in love, but I know I have to end it..please tell me how stupid I am since I don't know how to do it :/", "post": "Try to make this as short as possible. I'm [27f] he is [29m]. been together over 3 years. Have fun together, travel the world together, keep our own apartments and no plans of marriage. Seemingly a great deal. I love him for reasons I try to write down and only found shallow reasons and because he is a good travel companion. Lame. He has a short temper and screams at me, calls me his \"cancer\", laughs at me when I cry, goes away for weeks for work and makes no attempt to even check on me. Whenever I tell him I don't think he cares about me he just gets frustrated and tells me if I keep saying that then he won't care at all. Recently found messages to a friend he has who is a girl about wanting to meet up in another state. When we were out of the country on vacation he tells her he is with his other family. All of these things should be enough to end it even as I write. I just can't get the strength to let it go after so many good memories of being together. Stupid shit like cuddling, wrestling, making dinner together, seeing beautiful places in the world together. I believe in monogamy and am feeling like the only one in the world these days who does. Losing my faith in marriage, and in my ability to detect when things are fishy. Sorry guys, this turned into a rant to the internet because I am too private to tell our friends about it. I don't care if you guys are harsh, obviously I am used to the intense talk. I used to be so fun, I am a successful young woman with strong morals. Just gotta get my shit together and figure out how to end this. Wish I could just disconnect my heart from my head...how can I break up with him without telling him I went through his phone, I don't want to have him explode on me and end this three year relationship in a way that would make me regret everything??", "summary": "in an emotionally abusive relationship, found texts from him to another girl going on for years. Too scared to break up with him after being together for 3 years. Do I even give him a chance after being so unhappy so long?"}
{"id": "t3_3z7c04", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a girl think i like her more than a friend", "post": "The beginning of this story was about a month ago but it goes on to this day. In my school there is this girl, we'll call her Lana. For the story it's important to know that she is quite popular, had many boyfriends before and knows how to replace someone easily. I like people in general and i try to be nice to everyone. In hindsight, i realise that my definition of \"being nice\" could be mistaken for flirting. So Lana was someone that i find really attractive and i wanted to get to know her better. From the title you now ask yourself why I didn't want to start a relationship with her if i thought she is attractive and oh boy, she is. But she wasn't someone that was made for a relationship. She has cheated on her boyfriends frequently and even wanted to cheat on one of her bf's with me once. So a clear no from me. But she was really funny and that's why i wanted to spend some time with her. We had great fun all the time and i think she was a bit into me. So one day she asked me if this thing would eventually become a relationship and THIS is where the FU starts. (sorry for the long story)\nBeing the stupid fuck i am instead of saying something nice and sensible, i said something along the lines of: \" With you? Hell no\" and then i laughed. A lot. She didn't. She told me to go home and i went home. Nice day. So a few days later im writing this fuck-up. She wont talk to me. She has got a new boyfriend already and i think i really hurt her feelings. God i'm bad at being not stupid.", "summary": "= Hurt a girls feeling by being insensible now she wont talk to me"}
{"id": "t3_38e6io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like my 17 year old cousin was the victim of a child predator and I don't know what to do (if anything)", "post": "My cousin, who is 17 now, met his girlfriend and started dating a little over a year ago. Last week while out to dinner with their parents, his girlfriend's mom said to her daughter \"Isn't it funny how our little plan worked?\" My aunt is like \"...uh what plan?\". Well apparently this girl's mother saw a picture of my cousin on facebook playing sports and on the homecoming court. Since her daughter was going to be a new student at the same school as my cousin, she told her to find him on the first day of school and \"make him your boyfriend\". At that point, my cousin had never had a girlfriend or gotten much attention from girls then all of a sudden he had this cute blond cheerleader following him around. So obviously, he was hyped.\n\nWhen I was told this story, I wanted to find this woman and wring her neck. Especially now that my cousin is completely wrapped around his girlfriend's finger, not going to the college he got a FULL RIDE SCHOLARSHIP to so he can stay home with her and talking about moving into her parent's house with her. \n\nI guess I just needed to rant, I doubt there's anything to be done. I just feel like I'm watching a bad movie.", "summary": "17 yo cousin's girlfriend was told to \"find him and make him your boyfriend\" by her mother on the first day of school. A year later, he's throwing his life away for her and I want to kill her mother."}
{"id": "t3_10n2fh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I need some advice about renegotiating my contract...", "post": "Reddit, I need some advice. I have been working for almost a year with a company who was supposed to \"hire me on\" 9 months ago. Everytime I ask about my chances of getting hired on, I get told \"We are going to push the contract back (through a contracting service they signed me up with, I didn't have a say) another 90 days. Well it's coming up to my 1 year anniversary of working here and I want to renegotiate things. I want to contract outright with the company. No middleman. Just me. I want to ask for more money that will cover whatever taxes I'll need to pay and give myself a raise. I have been working on having my own company for a few years working freelance graphic work and some side IT jobs here and there. I think contracting outright would be a great experience for me and would look great as far as credibility for my company. And if I am to expect another year of contract work, I don't someone making money off of me that never did anything to earn my business anyway. *vent* So, do any of you have any suggestions as to how to approach this? What are some confidence boosters that you guys use?\n\nI think I've built up enough of a good reputation with the company and put in enough time and effort to show them how hard I work for them. I work for the IT dept and we have over 400 users with an IT Staff of 2. Me and my boss. Needless to say, we have our work cut out for us. We have a few remote sites that spread from Canada to Texas. \n\nAny advice would be great, sorry if I wasn't clear enough in my question. I am writing this as I run back and forth to offices. It it kind of a question I started typing out at noon and am finishing up now. Thanks for any help. Do any of you have any similar situations? \nThanks r/jobs!", "summary": "I want to renegotiate my contract with my job so that instead of going through a staffing service, I can be an independent contractor through my own company name. How should I approach it?"}
{"id": "t3_1jcl43", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex-roommate stole <$100 worth of stuff from my apartment, and I have proof.", "post": "So I was renting out a room at my apartment to a friend of a friend, let call him John for about the past year. No lease or anything... But on a month-to-month basis. Early last month he told me he was moving out because he got a job out of state, so I told another friend, lets call her Jane, who was looking for an apartment that she could have the room starting the next month.\n\nWell, John eventually (about 3 weeks later) decided he wasn't taking the out of state job after all and so wasn't moving out anymore. I told him that I'm really sorry, but I already promised the room to Jane, so he would have to find somewhere else to live at the end of the month. I gave him two options, since at the time he had only paid me a third of the months rent: you can either pay me the rest of the months rent a d stay until the end of the month, or you can keep what you owe me and use it to find another place and move out in the middle of the month.\n\nWell he ended up staying until the 25th without paying anymore rent, but I let him because I felt bad.\n\nAnyways... This guy apparently had a huge vendetta against me now, and I've come to find random things stolen from my apartment, including damage he did to the apartment before he left. At least a few of these missing items he's admitted to taking to try to piss me off, so I'm fairly certain everything else was stolen by him too.\n\nSo this is my question, is there anything I could do to in this case here? Would cops do anything to help get my stuff back? Or should I just cut it as a loss?", "summary": "disgruntled ex-roomie stole from me and damaged my apartment to try to \"get back\" at me for making him move out."}
{"id": "t3_1adcqs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update #2]:I am [f/30], my boss [m/50ish] is horrible and makes me cry almost every day.", "post": "Hi guys\n\n[Original](\n\n[Mini Update 1](\n\nI posted about a month ago asking how I could cope with my horrible boss. I had a job interview but it wasn't quite right so I decided to stick it out a bit longer while waiting for something awesome to come up elsewhere.\n\nIn the mean time, I have kept my head down and worked hard. I have just completed a project, that was deployed today. No recognition of course but it's been interesting work from my perspective.\n\nI have been going for interviews and finally I got offered an amazing, local freelance contract. The paper work came through today.  In order to start, my first day must be 2nd April due to the nature of the work. I thought this would be cool as I'm on probationary in my current role and was sure I had read IN MY CONTRACTI could leave on a week's notice.\n\nI had a look at my contract today. I WAS WRONG! It clearly states that while in Probationary my company can get rid of me on 4 weeks notice but irrespective of how long I have been there I have to give THREE months notice. \n\nI rang my boss (who is not in today) and told him I was going to hand my resignation in on Monday and that I needed to leave at the end of this month and he said \"Uh huh...let's talk about this on Monday\".\n\nIf he makes me work for three months I will lose the contract. I will also lose my mind. I think it will be very difficult for me to find another role that will wait 3 months for me to start. If I work three months and resign without a job to go to (i.e can't find anything suitable) I will be in big financial trouble.\n\nAccording to my google D.I.Y employment and contract law advise (I live in the UK), this actually seems legit.\nSo my horrible boss may well stop me from escaping his clutches. Can't stop blubbing tonight :(", "summary": "Found awesome new job but horrible boss may cause me to lose opportunity. It kinda feels like he owns my soul."}
{"id": "t3_2uohji", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Oh, you want to borrow my chair? No big deal...", "post": "So I work for a certain sports broadcast company, in a job that has me working out of makeshift workspaces for sporting events.\n\nMany people occupying and share the same spaces, as real estate is always at a premium.\n\nDue to the nature of my job, I usually have my networking equipment on a table in one of the corners to protect it from the elements outside. I usually set up camp right next to the equipment to babysit it, lest the network go down, and the show we're producing goes dead.\n\nWell today, I was called away to fix a couple issues away from my core. And as is pretty normal, when I returned, some of the production guys were having a meeting, one of whom had snagged my chair. \n\nNo big deal right? Not enough places for everyone to sit, so he just took a free chair. Perfectly acceptable. \n\nHe knew this was the chair I have been using the past few days, he knew this was my spot (generally everyone in my role babysits their equipment lest someone starts unplugging things), and he knew that I was patiently standing at the table I normally sat at, patiently waiting for the meeting to end and for me to reclaim my chair. \n\nSo the meeting ends, everyone starts filing out back to the broadcast truck/stadium/set ect..this guy takes my chair...places it about 5 feet away from me...and proceeds to place his briefcase on said chair...then walk away. \n\nThe trailers we rent are usually divided into three sections, with two mini rooms on either end with locking doors...and as one of the rooms is dedicated to my network core, I have the one of the two keys to the room. The other is held on my the an operations assistant.\n\nSo, I snag a fresh chair from the main room (sorry guys, looks like this joker thinks his briefcase deserves a chair more than you do), slap it down where I work. Take his bag, place it on he floor. Lock the door, and decide to work in a more discreet location for a few hours.", "summary": "Some ass borrows my chair, and after he's done with it, instead of returning it, decides to sit his bag on it..right in front of me. So I lock it behind a door in my \"office\"."}
{"id": "t3_332s95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (M17) talk to girls?", "post": "Hi guys.  So I wouldn't call myself socially awkward but I'm shy and generally don't talk to people I don't know well.  I'm a junior at my school so I'm much more comfortable talking to peers now than I was when I was Freshman (I didn't know anyone going into high school).\n\nI do have friends and one of them wants to set me up with a girl.  I am shy and she is very quiet (so I'm told).  I'm open to the idea and am optimistic about having a relationship.  The girl and I are going to prom together and my friend hopes that I'll like her enough to ask her out.  He gave me her number and we've texted a little but nothing serious.  I can't seem to really start any deep conversation because I feel awkward talking with someone I don't know.  We have talked over text about bland things such as dogs, hobbies, etc.  It's not that I don't like her, I'm just having a hard time getting to know her.\n\nMy friend has been really supportive.  He has a gf (coming up to his 1yr anniversary) and he wants me to have a nice relationship like he does.  He has given me advice and plans to take the girl and I on a double date with him and his gf so we can meet in person.  In case you are confused, I go to an all boys school (ik, you all prob think I'm gay) so I have very little interaction with girls and I have never met or seen this girl.  Any advice on how to start a relationship with her is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "my friend set me up with a girl and I'm trying to start a relationship with her over text message (I will be meeting her in person in the future for the first time).  I am optimistic and would like some advice on how to start a relationship.  Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_r12gu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help arguing with dad to get an actual computer. Any Advice?", "post": "I'm 15 and my laptop is getting pretty crappy. My dad and I agreed that I need a new laptop. At first I was happy that we were going to replace my old piece of crap (specs below), but then he dropped tow bombshells.\n1. It had to be a laptop \n2. We were going to get it from best buy.\n\nI was a bit angry because I really wanted a desktop, for multiple reasons, but I argued with him for about why we should get a desktop, and order online. He would'nt budge. At the end, I gave up and accepted his terms. So I went and researched for a decent laptop, priced at 700$. I showed him, and he said that was way to expensive. Holding back the \"Are you fucking kidding me!\", I asked him what the price peak was. He said $350 dollars like my old comp. For a second I felt my insides dying, then I explained to him if we did that, we would get a piece of crap, again! He didn't listen, saying his decision was final. \n\nSo reddit, what I'm asking you is, any way to convince my dad not to buy a piece of crap?\n\nPC Specs:\nToshiba Satellite L455\nIntel Celeron CPU @ 2.20 GHz\n3.00 RAM\nIntel Chipset Family 6 Graphics Card\nScreen Broken(Busted Backlight); using VGA to connect to TV.", "summary": "Dad trying to buy me crap comp and im pissed."}
{"id": "t3_4yz9a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend tells his mom everything about our relationship?", "post": "My (24, f) boyfriend (29,m) and I have been dating for about 10 months. To put it simply, every time we fight or argue, he tells his mom EVERYTHING. He talks shit about me, complains, etc...she tells him he should break up with me, then when we work it out he expects me to spend time with him and his family. \n\nI feel completely uncomfortable with his mom knowing personal details about our relationship. In my opinion, it is not just HIS business but OUR business, and of course his mom will only ever hear the negative side, and HIS negative side at that, and he cant ever unsay the things he's told her once we work it out.", "summary": "Boyfriend has long talks with his mom every time we fight and it makes me uncomfortable. "}
{"id": "t3_2r22p3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] My boyfriend of over 2 years [23/m] who has cheated before still insists on keeping our relationship off of social media? Should I be concerned?", "post": "I have caught my boyfriend of two years cheating or displaying shady behavior on more than one occasion, although he swears each time that it is a misunderstanding.  He has a specific hangout that he spends a lot of his free time at.  And over the past two years, he never takes me there.  I know all of his close friends and family, but for some reason it bothers me that he never goes to this one hangout whenever I am with him, but he is there often when I am not with him.  There are girls at this hang out, and they all know who I am, but probably do not know that I am still dating my boyfriend. We also do not have each other on Facebook or on instagram.  He says he does not want to \"broadcast\" what is nobody else's business. I know that he truly is a private person, in many different aspects of his life.  But it is not okay for me that he has the girl he cheated on me with on Facebook and instagram, and that she probably has no idea that we are still together because on social media we both look completely single. Whenever I have ever brought up the issue about us not being \"official\" on social media he becomes extremely defensive.  I just feel that in order for me to regain trust in our relationship I need everyone to know that we are together.\n\nIs this shady behavior or should I respect his desire for privacy?", "summary": "Boyfriend who has cheated before doesn't have me on social media or bring me around certain people. He insists on being private and is generally a very private person. should I be concerned??"}
{"id": "t3_2es0gj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By smoking DMT while my family was downstairs", "post": "This happened a while back in june, but the story begins with me picking up some DMT. I purchased around 500mg for $30 and was extremely happy. \nI rushed home, my family was home and dinner was being prepared. I ran to my room and busted out the homemade glasslightbulb vaporizer I made previously just for this occasion. I loaded the spice, held the lighter underneath and managed to get a really good dmt rip going, I inhale it and take the whole thing. As I'm lighting the second rip, I hear my beloved grandma talking to my family, and shes coming upstairs right for my room. \nI am already tripping out and I panic. I dash for the pile of dmt sitting out in the open. The fuckup I am, I fumbled with the book it was sitting on and it all fell, I could see the DMT slowmotion fall into my carpet.\nTurns out my grandma just came to say hi and I could've easily hid it without panicking cause she took a while to reach my room.\nI managed to get around estimated 50mg back from that. I later cried.", "summary": "Purchased DMT, attempted to break through with family downstairs and poured over 400mg of dmt into my carpet."}
{"id": "t3_4dseqs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "me(19/m) and my ex (17/f), turning into a bit of a weirdo and i don't know what to do.", "post": "I wIll try to keep this short, We were going out about \n5/6 months and everything was going fine, until she cheated on me, not once or twice,\n but four times, so I broke it off with her and I have gradually moved on, two months has \npassed since we broke up and recently she came up to me when I was on a night out and \ntold me she missed me, I messaged her a couple days later and asked did she wanna meet \nup and just sort anything that happened when we broke up out, she said she was too busy\n and wouldnt know when she could, but recently she has been poking her head around in \nanything I do, she went up to a girl I kIssed recently and asked her is she my girl friend yet,\n saying she isnt annoyed and she just wants to know, (shes done it about five times this week alone to the girl) \nHer and her friend also whenever they see me about school go out of there way to make sure I notice that they are there. \nAll i'm asking is what is wrong with her and whats the best way to deal with this situation?", "summary": "ex girlfriend is slowly getting more and more weird and becoming a bit of a creep."}
{"id": "t3_4i3yoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my 27[F] for 2.5 years, about to move in together.", "post": "Not sure if this has been posted before (new to this sub), but my GF and I are looking to move in together. We've seen a few places, and so far had the same (for the most part, negative) opinions on them. \n\nUntil today.\n\nWe saw two great places, and something happened that I anticipated. She loved place A, and I loved place B. We live in Chicago, and I loved the idea of a place in a high-rise. She liked the modernity of a place that was just built located on the first floor of a different building.\n\nIt blows--they are fairly close to each other, and they are the same price. Parking is a drag, but we can deal. Anyone dealt with getting a new place (for the first time) with a partner who shares a different idea of living than you? \n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "GF of 2.5 years and I cannot agree on the same living situation for when we finally move in together."}
{"id": "t3_2v9f0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Combining Finances?", "post": "I always thought it was an outdated concept for one partner to be in charge of all the finances,  but my [30F] partner [30M] of 11 years has always hated managing his money. I treated it like his business and his problem. We're both adults, after all.\n\nLast year, we had a drop in income and it became a massive stress-point for him. After a year of on-and-off discussion, it looks like we're going to get a joint account and transition to me doing all our household and personal finances. \n\nI am great with a budget. Unlike him, I like balancing my checkbook. I'm actually looking forward to getting us on the same page, but I have doubts just because it seems so weird for me to do all the money. But he does all the cooking, and he's said that if I do finances he'll trade me dishes, my least favorite chore. And we'll still have our private accounts, so we can go back if it doesn't work out. \n\nIt seems like a win/win, but I'd like some advice and reassurance if you have any.", "summary": "Can finances be the responsibility  of one partner just like any other chore?"}
{"id": "t3_xca79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just witnesses a passenger (woman) from a moving car (45mph) throw a handful of change at a cyclist; I called th cops and gave them the license and car info, but...", "post": "The cops said that since I wasn't the one assaulted, there isn't anything they can do?!\nI know where these people live bc of where they were turning and I want some kind of revenge for the poor guy almost lost his life last night (if this cyclist would have fallen, there is no doubt that I would have run him over). This was around midnight last night and I promised myself I would sleep on it before I made and rash decisions (I wanted to throw dog-shit at their car or key it with a little note about assaulting people from a car like cowards)...\nAm I being childish for wanting to do something really vile to these ducks, or should I just let it go and hope jarma will take care of the rest?", "summary": "Witnessed coward in car assault innocent cylclist and wondering if I should seek revenge since I can't seek justice! "}
{"id": "t3_1y9bbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(35f) husband(32m) was recently diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. My ex husband (35m) is acting strange.", "post": "On January 20, my husband of 6 years was diagnosed with brain cancer. We have a son together, and I have two daughters that live with me from my previous marriage. My ex husband sees them maybe twice per year. He lives on the east coast, me on the west (relevant).\n\nAttempting to make this brief. I'm just very confused and want to know if I'm reading to much into this.\n\nYesterday, after finding out about my husband's diagnosis, he texts me and says he is making a trip to see our daughters and while he is here, he would like to take me, and my husband out to dinner. Ummmm..wat.\n\nWhile the gesture appears innocent and friendly, this is outside of his nature. He had ALWAYS been a total jerk to my husband. To the point of thoughts of filling restraining orders against him. \n\nMy questions are two. One, why would he offer this and why the sudden change of heart? And two, how can I politely decline. He's being insistent, even after I've said no several times.\n\nThere is a lot of back story absent here, so if I can answer questions to clarify, I'm happy to. I'm just a flood of emotions that I cannot separate right now.", "summary": "husband has brain cancer. after hearing the news, ex husband is all of a sudden acting like he gives a shit about my life."}
{"id": "t3_1s07kt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Going for coffee with a girl I met on tinder, how do I do this?", "post": "So I sent a flirty message to a girl on tinder and she replied saying how I made her laugh. We sent about 5-6 messages to each other and she ended up giving me her number to meet up for coffee when we are both at university!\n\nSo I'm new to this and have no idea how to go on about it. What do we even talk about? all I know about her is she is taking health sciences.\n\nHow flirty and personal should I be? since it is at school we will be probably surrounded by a bunch of people, should I be sexual and try to escalate things between us or should I keep it strictly platonic for the first meeting?", "summary": "Going for coffee with someone I messaged on tinder and since I'm new to this how do I approach?"}
{"id": "t3_41qw9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] parents [53M & 51F] are not letting me choose where I go to college", "post": "I currently go to a community college and I am very happy here. I have the opportunity to go to nursing school here and get my ASN and even my BSN by taking a few summer and online courses. I do have to option to switch schools and just get my bachelors there. Regardless I do need my bachelors. At the community college it could range from a semester shorter or a semester longer than going to another school and just getting my bachelors. My mom keeps acting like I will be done with school much faster if I go to a different one. I really do not want to leave the school I am at. My parents want me to have a big college experience, but I am an nursing major. I need to focus on my classes and going through the hassle of moving schools and learning a new town would be a something I do not want to deal with. It would also involve me being an hour away from my girlfriend (1 year together) [F 18] and would create more stress. I am not worried about my relationship being an issue if I switched school's and we have discussed this often together and are willing to pull through it. What I am upset about is that I do not have an option of where I go. My parents frequently talk about what they are going to do when I am gone and out of the house. I understand it sucks having me around constantly, but I would feel much better of staying in a place I am happy at. I have tried telling them that I want to stay here but they keep saying that I just want to go to my current school because my girlfriend is there. They cannot get past this in their heads. They do not just understand that I want to stay here because I like it and I do not see the point in changing. How can I get them to understand and get the whole girlfriend thing out of their heads?", "summary": "!- My [20] parents [53M & 51F] are not letting me choose the school I want because they think my girlfriend [F18] is the reason, but I just really like the school I am at."}
{"id": "t3_43evv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] only friend at the time and the guy that has been keeping me together mentally [24/M] said that he is not ok being 'just friends' with me", "post": "So I am basically a mess at this point in my life. My PTSD turned into complex PTSD and although I am working on it I am unable to open up to anyone and have succesfully pushed all of my friends away. The best way to describe my current situation is that I am on this island all by myself and I kind of have to get off of the island but my fear and axniety are keeping me from doing so.\n\nMy friend, Harrison, is the only one that I have/can open up to. He lives a 4 hour drive away and we basically text each other 24/7. I visited him last Thursday and I am planning on visiting him again next week. We got drunk when I was over and ended up sleeping in the same bed. He tried to kiss me but I told him that we shouldn't. Then I asked him if he's ok being just friends and he basically told me that no he isn't but he didn't want to tell me in fear of losing me. \n\nThe next morning I pretended to not remember anything from the previous night so he doesn't know that I know. In my experience friendship doesn't work when one party has feelings for the other. That being said, I can't lose this guy. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Unstable 19/F with her friend 24/M. He has feelings for her, doesn't want to be just friends, told her all this while drunk. She acted like she didn't remember him saying that so he doesn't know she knows. Unsure about how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1ki5xw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24m) want to break up with my girlfriend (23f)", "post": "We first met in school about 5 years ago, and we really hit it off, but I was in a relationship, and got married to a different girl. We got together after a nasty divorce. I was incredibly happy, and now we have moved away from home to begin our new lives, and we are having a miserable time. She is VERY OCD and isn't letting me help with anything and has been pushing me away. she doesn't have any family where we moved and it hurts just to push her out the door. I just can't keep this up. we keep trying and this emotional rollercoaster is like going through the divorce again. I've been drinking a ton more and doing more dip than I have ever done. I need an out. Help please!", "summary": "girlfriend and i moved from home has been there for me, can't deal with it anymore. need to move on. please help"}
{"id": "t3_4jtojr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [36F] Husband's [43M] daughters [16F] & [19F] are coming between us. He believes everything they say and never hears me out. Becoming fed up.", "post": "I recently became married (about mid January) to an amazing man, who just so happens to be a single dad. We've been dating for around 6 years, so I've known his kids from when they were younger. We never really spent much time together (the kids and I), every time I came over they would both go up in their rooms or just flat out ignore me. We had plans to move in about a year ago, before marriage, but I had delayed it so I could take care of my sick mother for awhile longer. \n\nSo I officially moved in on the night of our wedding, and it seems like from then all hell has broken loose in our relationship. His youngest (16) is very highly sensitive and emotional, and she always LOVES to remind me that I'm \"not her mother\" (which I'm aware of), and always gives me attitude for even the most simple request. His oldest (19) is the exact same way, although not as emotional or hesitant about it. She has straight up called me a bitch and many other names to my face before, that I have ignored for the sake of keeping the peace.\n\nThe problem is, last night husband and I got into a big argument. Younger sister told her dad that I am \"mean\" to her, and I'm trying to hard to get close to her (confused on what she means by that) My husband is very attached to his kids, and that's something that I admired about him, but I really wish he would hear me out too instead of always instantly jumping to their defense. Things like this have been happening almost all the time since January, and even though it's only been 4 months since I've been here, I feel myself already starting to become tired. Like I'm walking on eggshells constantly. He completely shuts down whenever I try to have a conversation about them to him. I don't want our relationship to end over something so simple, but I don't have any other way of reaching him.\n\nTheir mother is deceased just for reference.", "summary": "Recently have gotten married and moved into husband's house. His kids are causing problems between us and he seems to have no intention on helping me fix it. Starting to regret my decision."}
{"id": "t3_2wfioo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by firing a gun", "post": "First post, ever.\n\nThis happened many years ago and I've only just remembered it.\n\nI lived in South Africa and my dad owned a revolver. He had taken it out that day and I found where the keys were hidden to access the safe (we didn't have no fancy pin-code safes, although after this we did.) As any curious and self-respecting five-year-old would do, I took the keys and opened the safe that was in my sister's room. Step 1: Complete\n\nI don't remember what type of gun it was I just remember it was a revolver. I was sitting on my sister's bed inspecting this shiny thing and decided it'd be cool to pop out the cylinder and see what it did. This, as it turned out, was a very, very bad decision. No matter how I tried I could not get the damn thing to close, then an idea came to mind.\n\n**\"I KNOW, if I pull the thing (trigger) it'll close it and then I can put it back in the safe!\"**\n\nFor some reason unknown to me, the gun I'd worked so hard to close and so sneakily to get the keys to access, went off. The round slammed into the wall in front of me, ricocheted above my head and created a nice, big hole in both walls.\n\nA few seconds later, still stunned and shocked, my parents came down the hallway (we had a very large house in SA) with no regard for their safety as there is a supposed gunman in the house. Maybe my dad knew the sound of his revolver? Dunno.\n\nAnyways, my dad called his brother who was head of the police force for the area we lived in and gave him the gun and cancelled his license :(", "summary": "my dad had some stiff guns and I ended up making two holes in our house trying to fix them"}
{"id": "t3_k892i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend isn't happy that I watch porn/masturbate", "post": "M/22 F/20 been together almost 2 years. \n\nMy girlfriend and I just had a massive fall out because I recently admitted to watching porn and masturbating while we've been together. \n\nI have lied about it before, telling her I didn't. It was quite early in our relationship and I didn't want her to flip out over it. But it got to the point where I felt I needed to tell her, and well she did flip out. \n\nI recently told her the truth about my \"habbits\" via a quite long email and as we aren't in the same place at the minute due to the summer holiday and can only see each other at the weekend. \n\nI've told her the fact that I have a higher sex drive than her and need to get rid of built up frustration, but she sees using porn as emotionally cheating because I'm thinking about those women instead of her. \n\nIt isn't just the fact that I watch porn that bothers her its also the fact that I masturbate and feels as though she isn't doing her job properly. \n\nWhen we are together I usually do it a maybe a couple of times a week, but now we don't get to see each other very often I've started doing it almost every day. It eats me up inside and I feel increasingly guilty and ashamed every time I do it now to the point where I'm starting to feel like an awful human being. \n\nShe's said she's mainly hung up on the fact that I lied to her and she doesn't know what else I'm hiding. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is how can i reassure her that what I'm doing is normal, how can I make myself not feel like shit for doing it and how I can convince her I'm not hiding anything else.", "summary": "Told my girlfriend I watch porn and masturbate more regularly than she thought I did now she's upset."}
{"id": "t3_4hk5ep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This guy I've been casually dating [18M] doesn't want to have a relationship with me [18F] because he's going to college in the fall", "post": "Here's a bit of context for y'all: We both met freshmen year in our school's theatre program. At the end of freshman year, I transferred to an early college program, however we were still friends. It was obvious we both had feelings for one another, but we eventually fell out of communication.\n\nFlash forward to 2016, and after making several \"why am I single I'm cute\" tweets (real mature I know), this guy DMs me on Twitter confessing he had a crush on me sophomore year and asking if I wanted to catch up with him sometime. Of course, I said yes, and on our fourth date this past weekend, we ended up kissing and confessing feelings for one another blah blah blah sappy shit. After this I was almost certain things were going to get more serious, however the very next day he wants to meet me and tell me that he doesn't want to get involved romantically with me because he's going to university in the fall, which is 40 mins-1 hr away, and I have to stay one more year in high school (graduation requirement, long story).\n\nAs you can imagine, I'm crushed. We have several months before he has to move, I don't see why we can't cherish these few months then decide what to do when the time comes. I really, really want to be with this guy, and part of me wants to convince him to at least try it out for a while, but part of me also knows it's futile. Can any of you help me decide what to do? I guess I can't empathize with his worrying about how college will change him because I've technically been in college since I was 15 and I haven't experienced that whole \"college life\" thing everyone talks about.\n\nsorry if this is incoherent, I have a learning disability and it's hard for me to express my thoughts properly.", "summary": "we've had feelings for each other since freshmen year and after rekindling our relationship he doesn't want to make a commitment because he's leaving for college in the fall. help."}
{"id": "t3_u8g25", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "High-beams on. Why does every semi truck driver flash their headlights at me at night?", "post": "On a divided highway, I keep my high beams on all the time. Why does EVERY truck driver flash their high beams at me at night? HEAR ME OUT, I'm not as retarded as you are thinking right now:\n\nI live in the prairies, Canada. Our highways are long, straight, and double divided. There is usually a large grassy median dividing both directions, usually about 25 meters between. And at nighttime on such a divided hwy, I personally have never had an approaching vehicle's headlights be so bright as to blind my view of the road, or impede safety. NEVER. And usually I'll pass other oncoming cars who keep their brights on and all is peachy. \n\nBut semi truck drivers take issue. About 80% of every lori that passes in the opposite direction flashes, multiple times. Sometimes they get so annoyed they start flick every switch on their dashboard.  Now, I understand courtesy. But I know for a fact that my bright headlights are not blinding them. It's not possible. So is this a habit thing? Is this an unwritten rule of the road? Because if it is, that's not good enough for me. I'm sorry, truck driver, but you're gonna have to live with my brights staying on. \n\nFrom our province's driver training, on SGI.sk.ca :\n\"Many drivers make the mistake of dimming their headlights too soon to ensure that they do not blind the driver of an oncoming vehicle. While the intent behind this is good, these drivers are putting themselves at risk by unnecessarily reducing their visibility.... If you are on a divided highway where the distance between the roadways is 22 m (70 ft) or more, you do not need to dim your headlights.\"\n\nThere. Suck it, semi driver. The law is on my side. For safety. \n\nIf you are a semi driver that I've just offended, and you've experienced oncoming vehicles on divided hwys leaving their high-beams on, can you honestly say it has blinded you? Do you know/experience something we lowly car people do not?", "summary": "When keeping high beams on poses no safety risk to oncoming traffic on a divided highway, I ask semi truck drivers why they still get so ticked off."}
{"id": "t3_3pnl5m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by skipping to my friends computer class in college", "post": "This literally just happened\n\nI haven't seen my friend since we graduated highschool this past july, so when we found out we are attending the same college, we had to meet.\nTHIS is where i fuck up, My friend has a habit of giving false information and fucking shit up so when we met up and he told me his computer teacher is cool AND that he'll let me chill i didn't hesitate, little did i know, only half of what he said was true. \n\nSo i go into the class because the teacher stepped out for a few mins, and ALL eyes turned to me. Im walking to an empty seat in the back and i hear kids laughing cuz they know im skipping there. The teacher comes in and they are STILL LOOKING AT ME! So i start to panic and make a shushing gesture. But nevertheless i was caught and immediately sent out.", "summary": "Skipped and got kicked to the curb."}
{"id": "t3_1qshs1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] mum [58F] won't stop drinking, what can I do?", "post": "My mum is currently stuck in an unhappy marriage with my father, and had been thinking about divorce since I was about 4 years old (so for 15 years). The situation has been drawn out so long, and it's a bit complicated, so unless you need to know the details I won't go too much into the whole marriage thing.\n\nBut my mum, as some form of crutch, drinks heavily almost every night. Both my parents are fond of their drink anyway, so it took me a long time to notice - until my more observant sister brought it to my attention. Now I can't stop thinking about it; pretty much every evening she drinks almost a whole bottle of red wine (my dad will maybe have 2 glasses) and will become almost unintelligible through her slurring, and I'll hear her stumbling up the stairs to her bedroom when I'm in bed. I always want to try and bond with her; watch a film or a tv show with her, but it's like I have a time limit before she becomes so intoxicated that it's pointless and I just find it infuriating.\n\nI've tried talking to her about it, but she only seems apologetic about it *when* she's drunk (she will cry and says she knows she should stop and that she's sorry) but when she is sober, she just seems to find my concern amusing. I've tried hiding bottles, pouring small amounts down the drain (we aren't the most well off so I feel reluctant to do that). I've tried talking to my dad but he just brushes it off as not being his problem.\n\nShe even drank my whole bottle malibu I got for a birthday present without asking. I just don't know what to do any more. My mum makes *me* feel guilty for getting on at her because she already feels shit having to stay with my dad (for now).", "summary": "Mum is stuck in an unhappy marriage and drinks almost a whole bottle of wine every night as a crutch. And will brush me off when I express my concern."}
{"id": "t3_3b6d76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) lied about my brothers to my sort-of boyfriend (23M) to impress him, now I'm feeling bad about it, should I tell him?", "post": "Okay so this isn't as bad as I'm making it out to be probably. But on the first date, he asked me about my siblings. I told him their names and ages, which were correct. But then I felt pressured to impress him, so I lied and told him they were both married and have families and careers in other palces. Except really, they both live with my mom and I because they both have disabilities and whatnot that prevent them from living on their own so my mom takes care of them. I feel really bad about it, and the two are supposed to meet for the first time over breakfast tomorrow. I don't want him to find out I lied to him if my mom says something, but I'm really scared he'll think less of me or want to break it off. I really like him and can see this going potentially long term.. Should I wait on them meeting so I can tell him myself? I'm seeing him tomorrow and staying at his place for the night. I don't know if this is a big deal or not, so any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "I lied to a potential boyfriend about my brothers' lives to impress him and now he's supposed to meet my mom. Feeling nervous and bad about this, should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_1l0ztt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to build trust and confidence when its constantly being challenged?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are off to college 8 hours apart. His school is notorious for partying and easy girls (typical college.. this is just one of the top ranked schools for it). My college is quite the opposite. I want to trust him but its hard knowing that he will be with all these other girls and exposed to a lot. As a result I'm losing a lot of confidence in myself and getting super paranoid. He is not worrying as much about me at all. I want to have trust and confidence so I don't have to feel like im holding him back. Its just making me feel so uncomfortable.", "summary": "Long distance.. need to build trust for boyfriend exposed to college life at top party school. He used to have a huge problem with lying in general."}
{"id": "t3_1suq5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] can't seem to find things to like about my brother's girlfriend [20F] of 3 years, no matter how hard I try.", "post": "My brother [21] and his girlfriend, J [20] have been together for nearly three years now. Since the beginning, I have tried to have a positive relationship with J because the way I see it, if she is dating my brother she is part of my family too. \n\nWe see each other fairly regularly, at family gatherings and also if I go to their house to visit my brother. I rarely see him without J around. We barely talk to each other, but are always polite. I am notoriously good at avoiding conflict by simply not speaking my mind, but there are often times that she will say or do things that just drive me absolutely crazy and make me wonder just what on earth my brother sees in her. \n\nI won't go into too many identifying details but there have been many times that I have felt that she is too controlling and \"motherly\" with my brother, extremely superficial and materialistic, a generally negative person, and very much someone that has to get her way all the time. My SO has noticed these things too and mentioned them to me before I said anything to him about it, so I'm pretty sure I am not just imagining it. She also had a falling out with my sister recently which further cemented my perception of her. She just seems to not be a very nice person.\n\nThis really bothers me, because I want to have a good relationship with her. It appears that she is here to stay, and I'm worried that if our relationship doesn't improve it will have a negative effect on my relationship with my brother. \n\nI know I can't change his mind about her, and I don't want to live my life hoping one day he breaks up with her. He's the one who is dating her, not me. If brother is happy, I want him to stay with her... but how can I build up a positive relationship with someone I just generally dislike as a person?", "summary": "My brother [21] has been dating this girl [20] for a while and I'm worried that the fact that I can't find a reason to like her is going to negatively affect my relationship with him. She is here to stay, so how do I build up a friendly relationship with someone I have seemingly nothing in common with? Any tips for interacting with her? I am tired of awkward family dinners where I have to keep my mouth shut so I don't say anything I will regret. Thank you!!"}
{"id": "t3_2b3cnr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I took a girl on a \"date\" think I fucked up bad.", "post": "So we had been texting a lot! and we finally went on a date.... We were walking or whatever as I was walking her back to her car I said I'm going to fight you. \n\nI said if I won she had to kiss me.. Long story short we play fought and I \"won\". \n\nAnyway she said go for it.... the kiss was pretty bad my worst ever but she didn't seem to mind. Anyway we texted over the next couple of days and I sent her this today. \n\nGoing to the park with you was awesome! And how it ended it was the best anyone could hope for. I don't really know what we are or where we are going to be. But I do know I like spending time with and want to continue. \n\nSix hours still no reply...", "summary": "How bad did I fuck up? How can I fix it? I sent a girl a text that some people thought was to soon and she hasn't answered"}
{"id": "t3_2yh4xh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by liking a bunch of my friend's instagram pictures late at night.", "post": "So the gf and I decided to get a late night meal at a diner. We were talking about how awesome it is not having kids cause we could go out anytime we want. And it reminded me of my friend who just had a baby with his gf recently. She hadn't seen any pics of the newborn so I brought out my phone to show her.  She couldn't really see any resemblance to him so I brought up a selfie he took weeks ago and tried covering up his hair and beard with my fingers. That's when I saw the little heart icon pop up. \n\nFUCK!! I just liked the only selfie he posted of himself after 1 am and he's only really been posting pics of his newborn lately. I didn't want to seem like a weirdo so I panicked and thought the only way out of this would be to start liking all his other pics. So I start double tapping all his pictures. My gf tells me to stop what I'm doing cause it's not helping.  \n\nI realize she's right so I bust out the Facebook messenger app. And start sending him a message about how it's not weird at all that I liked his pics late at night. My gf looks over and tells me to stop making it worse and starts laughing at me. I finally just put my phone away and enjoy my meal.", "summary": "I liked a picture of my friend late at night and tried to fix it by liking more pics."}
{"id": "t3_2w5e0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My room mate/best friend [19] continuously disregards how I feel [19]", "post": "I'm currently a sophomore in college living with my best friend. We've been best friends for almost 6 years now. I love this girl to death; she's practically my sister, but whenever she gets a new guy, all bets are off. I'm trying not too sound too needy here. She isn't my *only* friend, but she is far my closest. \n\nWhenever she had a new boyfriend in high school, she would suddenly stop answering my calls and texts. Now that we live together, she simply vanishes. With this new guy, I only saw her come home to shower once in four days. I understand that they're in the honeymoon phase, however I can't help but feel dropped. She occasionally invites me to have lunch with the two of them, however I end up sitting there quietly while she has a closed conversation with him about things I'm not privy to. We used to walk to class together in the mornings, now she rushes off to walk with him and doesn't even let me catch up. I make plans and she initially agrees, only to brush them off later saying she \"forgot\" and made plans with him. We made plans for a double date, but she backed out the day of. \n\nI've even walked in on them fooling around in our bedroom, despite the fact that I told her what time I would be home. I've told her how hurt I am, but she doesn't seem to care. I'm not asking her to break up with this guy. That's the opposite of what I want. But is it so wrong to feel like you're not someone's second choice? Like she might actually give a shit about occasionally watching a movie with me or something? Am I crazy?", "summary": "Best friend of 6 years always leaves me for guys, then comes crawling back when they break up"}
{"id": "t3_m43sc", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Weather,oh the weather.", "post": "I've had a serious set back in my run lately.\n\nFor the last week the weather has been pretty much horrible.\nThe wind has been around 20 m/second and cold rain with it that does not go straight down but is like a wall in you constantly walk into.\n\nI have been trying to fit in time to go to the gym instead, I have atleast been able to go to taekwondo practices last week, but I fear I might not have time for that this week.\n\nI've been on twelve hour debate team practise on saturday and an 8 hour on on sunday and then I visited a sick aunt, so I got in no time for gym.\n\nToday I went to school, and I couldn't go to gym in my lunch time because it is closed then for teaching.", "summary": "I have been able to do nothing for the last five days except pushups and other bodyweight excersises at home and it is horrible. I've had 12 hours practice or school and then 5-6 hours debate team practises after school. Also, there has been a storm outside the last few days."}
{"id": "t3_3xkwk0", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Recitified cervical and pinched nerves.", "post": "Hello guys, I'ma  30 yo male, in the past month I started to feel very dizzy and with nausea all day.\n\nI had a couple of syncope episodes when I was a kid, and after years of study, the doctors came to the conclusion that those episodes were gone for sure.\n\nUntil a couple of days ago, when I was in the bathroom, and suddenly I started to feel all the pre syncope symptoms. The only thing I remember, is waking up on the floor with a broken nose and blood coming from my head.\n\nAfter a lot of studies, the doctors are telling me that my heart is healthy but I have some pinched nerves on my cervical, including the vagus nerve. And that is causing all these nausea, pre syncope feelings, and heart rate problems.\n\nSo my question is, can I trust this? Are this episodes going to go away after the kinesiology threatment? I've heard ffrom a lot of people with muscular pain derived from a rectified cervical, but never heard of people constantly fainting and feeling like sh** all day thanks to this.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "pinched nerves on my cervical, including the vagus nerves are giving me syncopes and dizziness / nausea. Is this possible?"}
{"id": "t3_2e3jr6", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just failed a drug test", "post": "I got a job at a company. I am officially employed for this company (company A) and I passed their drug test. I just finished my 2 days of training and they sent me to their client's office (company B) for a x-month contract to do IT work. The situation is basically like a contractor-client relationship and I work for the contractor. Today was my first day and my company B manager came up to me and asked if I had taken the drug test. I said \"Yes, I passed the drug test at company A\". He then said I needed to take a test for them, too, right on the spot. We began walking downstairs and I waited until we were alone and I said \"You know, sir, I should tell you now that I'm not going to pass this test.\" We then went to the head of HR and he told her the situation and she said \"He can't work on the property if he can't pass a drug test.\"\n\nI thought I was done with all the drug tests so I smoked some cannabis last night to celebrate and took a low dosage of Adderall (no subscription) this morning to keep me alert for my first day. Marijuana and amphetamines would have shown up on the 10-panel drug test so I bailed out on it early. Sitting at home now waiting on a call from manager at company A (which, remember, I passed the drug test for). I never actually failed any drug tests, only opted out of company B's, who I have absolutely no connections with besides them being a client of company A. Does anybody know company policy regarding this kind of situation?\n\nI have a friend who told me that their (very prestigious) accounting firm will also be sent to clients' offices to do work and they often get drug tested there as well. If they fail their client's drug test, there is no penalty for the employee; they simply send another accountant in their place, no questions asked.", "summary": "passed drug test for my employer, opted out of a drug test at a client's location and was sent home. What kind of punishment could I receive from my employer for simply opting out of a drug test?"}
{"id": "t3_3sqqzw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take a pic of a monitor", "post": "My friends and I planned to watch a movie today. I thought to myself that I should get something to eat so I walk into the Panera bread that's next to the movie theater. I decided that I should eat Panera because food from the movies is very expensive. I go into the store and I order my food. I notice that there's this cool tv monitor that went along the lines of \"Order for (your name here) is being prepared\" I saw my name and I thought \"oh that's cool I'll send it to my friend because why not\" and I'm standing there trying to get a picture of the monitor. I turned off my phone because it did not focus right so I didn't bother and I put it away. I look up and I see this guy I have a crush on working there. I immediately look away and wait for my food. I don't know if he saw me or not but its very likely he did. As soon as I got my food, I left.", "summary": "Went to Panera bread. Thought I should take a pic of a tv monitor that had my name on it. I look up and see my crush was behind the monitor and it looked like I was trying to get pictures of him."}
{"id": "t3_2mp5wg", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is there a way of politley asking my (17M) girlfriend (18M) to be little more reciprocative?", "post": "We've been dating just over a year (sexually active about 10 months) and we are each others firsts. We have sex about once a month (due to family etc ) and fool around once or twice a week whenever we see each other. This has been a bit of an ongoing problem. \n\nI pretty much always initiate sex/fooling around (the last time she initiated was last week and the time before was late august), and when she does it'll be placing my hand on her breast or asking for me to play with them. Foreplay is exclusively focused on her and her hands rarely go below my waist without me asking. If she gets off during foreplay it's rare that she will then reciprocate. Generally it only happens when I carry on with her side of things.\n\n I regularly go down on her. She has gone down on me 4 times. Once very briefly, once as a \"birthday treat\" (August) the other two times whilst drunk. I have asked and she says it's not something she's always comfortable with (it really didn't seem that way when she did it). She doesn't talk dirty but is very insistent on me doing so. When I have said I'd like her to reciprocate and initiate a but more she apologises and says she knows she does it and always feels like she should be better and says shes gonna try harder but doesn't seem to do anything about it. I'm getting a little tired of blue balls and having to lead sex every time. Is there a way I can approach this gently but enough to know its really starting to bother me.", "summary": "my girlfriend is regularly quite selfish in bed and although she admits its a problem she doesn't seem to be trying. How can I approach this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2anklq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Close friend [21 F] mad at me, i dont get it", "post": "Okay first of all English is not my mother tongue, sorry for the errors in the text.\n\nWe have this group at the Gym, 4 people incl. me. Friday it was my friends birthday (close friend). She was going to have dinner with the other 2 and then meet up with me for going out. She called me at 8pm to meet up 9pm at the park. \n\nI was at the park 8:50pm, at 9:30pm she called hey im sorry we are running late, so i asked how much time do you need, she said will be 15 more. at 10:15 i went home because i was tired of waiting while they are having a nice dinner. At 10:40 she called again, asking where i was i said im home, laying bed. She said just come now we are at the meeting point. I said no because i was pissed of by this. But it is my Birthday you should come! I still said no. Then the other one came on the line dude just come its not her fault. And i was like no, i have waited for almost 90 mins im home now and about to sleep.\n\nNext day she ignored me all day, and i was like lets celebrate your birthday another day because i was just pissed at this point but still had the intention to celebrate her birthday. But nothing from her...\n\nSo yesterday i said, i dont want to be the annoying friend but please talk back? which she then replies with, Funny how you call yourself a friend after what you have done... \n\nSo clearly she is pissed but i think i made the right decision...Did i do it right or is she overreacting?", "summary": "Shes pissed at me that i left the meeting point after 90 mins because they didnt showed up. Did i do the right thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3hu4r0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my \"friend\" [20 F], just got sidelined because she is too busy with work and school.", "post": "About 30 days ago, I started talking to a girl and we really hit it off. Mind you for the past long while, most of our interaction has come in the form of skype, snapchat, phone calls, texts, etc. \n\nWhen we finally met this past week, we hit it off even better. We had a blast together, and I honestly didn't think anything was going to stop us from dating. We eventually made out for a little while, and were still texting, etc. throughout the week.\n\nThis is when things began to take a turn for the worst. Every time I would ask when she has time to hang out, she was busy with some kind of work. She then started to dodge my text messages, and when I asked her on a date, she said she was already doing the exact same thing with her friends that day. \n\nLater in the week, we were texting, and I bluntly asked if she was too busy for me, or if she just didn't want to have a relationship at all. Looking back on it, I have no idea why the hell I did this. I would have much rather had the occasional date than be \"friends.\" \n\nHer response to this question was that she was too busy to make time for herself, let alone have a relationship at this point. In reality, she is free most nights, but just doesn't want to hang out. She said that she saw us potentially being something later on, but that until she had time, we needed to just be friends. \n\nI am honestly terrified and have been stressing out that she will become someone else's girlfriend, and I will lose her forever. I know I shouldn't be stressing out about this, but she was one of the first girls that I have ever had the potential of dating, and now it is out the window. I was up all last night thinking about it, and I can't seem to focus on anything else but this, no matter what i'm doing.", "summary": "Talking to a girl for a long time, we hit it off in person. She is always busy with work/school, but has some free time. Says that she is too busy with for a relationship, and wants to be just friends for now. Should I keep pursuing this until the time comes where she has time to date?"}
{"id": "t3_337qk6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Having trouble maintaining the appeal", "post": "Hello Reddit! I need some help! Some quick background: I am a 27 year old male college student that has been single for about a year now. \n\nLife has been great for me lately, yet I can't help but think how nice it would be to share this time with somebody. However, I notice that I have trouble keeping the momentum going with any of my romantic interests. Everything starts out great, only to have it all fizzle out in a relatively short time. It's really disheartening. \n\nTo put it plainly, I feel as if a wet cardboard box would rival my charisma (no offense to any cardboard boxes out there). I lack any type of \"real\" personality. In social settings I am often quiet. I'll have something to respond to occasionally, but for the most part, I'm just \"there,\" not really contributing to the discussion. My friends are hilarious. They're witty, playful, and very amiable. I'll admit I sometimes emulate them in order to just have SOMETHING. Yet I know it's not really me, and I can't keep up the charade for long.  \n\nThere's this incredibly gorgeous girl who, for some reason, texted me out of the blue the other day. I was as surprised as I was happy. But of course, the conversation had died out, and the next day when I tried to reach out to her, I hardly got a response. I try to be as engaging as I can, avoiding single-answer questions and/or constant questioning that rivals an interview interrogation. Yet in the end, the communication always ends the same: a slow deterioration into eventual nothingness. I can only assume it has something to do with me. \n\nAny idea how to improve on this?", "summary": "Am boring. How to be not boring?"}
{"id": "t3_3uow8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [25M] 8ish months, he made an inappropriate (?) comment", "post": "I struggle with depression, severe social anxiety, and being self-conscious thanks to a horrible relationship where I was cheated on. I know it's not fair to bring that into my current relationship but there's only so much I can mentally block out. (Also I am seeing a counselor for this, but it's the weekend and she doesn't answer emails blah blah.) Relationship with boyfriend is LDR. Been talking since March, long distance since June.\n\nWent to a bar with my (21F) boyfriend (25M). A guy (20's?M) he knows bartends there frequently and he knows him only from bar talks (but he went a lot more when he lived here). Anyway this girl (20's?F) is sitting at the bar with a tablet and my boyfriend says \"do you think that's  [bartender's] girlfriend?\" I shrugged so he kind of whispered to him and he nodded. Then my boyfriend said \"dude, nice\". Wtf. So then he explained how [bartender] said that at thanksgiving [bartender's] grandma said \"you found a hottie\". I was livid! Why did he say this to me! He later apologized and said he shouldn't have said that but then said things like \"what do you think the point of models are? To have attractive people to look at. But they could have a dull personality or not mesh with yours\". Which to me sounded like he was defending himself.\n\nAny advice on how to think about this would be nice.\n\nAlso I put a question mark because idk if 'inappropriate' is a good word for this", "summary": "boyfriend asked friend if this girl was his gf, bartender nodded, bf said \"dude, nice\" in front of me as well as other things later at home."}
{"id": "t3_wijox", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how detailed are your daydreams/mental visualizations?", "post": "First of all, I'm not talking about \"creative visualization\" but I suppose it could be related. Specifically I am referring to the process of visualizing an object, face or scene in your mind's eye or daydreaming.\n\nWhen I visualize something it's very vague and impressionistic. For example I close my eyes and visualize my bedroom and just see blackness. However I can still somehow see the room enough to describe it... but I don't see it in front of me like in an afterimage optical illusion (I guess I see it in my mind's eye?). I have had moments \u2014 usually before falling asleep \u2014 where vivid, detailed and realistic mental imagery comes into my mind's eye. But this is not something I can control or do so in waking hours. I have also had lucid dreams (where one realizes one is dreaming while dreaming) so I know my mind is capable of it. \n\nA few years back I asked this question to friends, some said they had extremely vivid mental imagery and some said they suck at visualizing and see nothing. My problem here is that the answers were subjective \u2014 what I think of as vivid might not be the same as their definition. I explained it as follows: is the imagery photographic? When you close your eyes is what you see like looking at a photo? \n\nSo is there a way to cultivate this ability if by nature you do not possess it? I can't really find much information on this topic on the internet. It seems odd to me that it hasn't been explored more fully or perhaps I wasn't searching with the right terms.", "summary": "\u2013 When you close your eyes and daydream, is it as vivid as watching TV? And does anyone know how I can make my mental imagery more vivid?"}
{"id": "t3_2ojmin", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has she [25/F] started to play games and test me [23/M]?", "post": "I've posted a few times in this sub reddit and I have always appreciated the advice you guys give me so here I am asking yet another question. \n\nI [23/M] have been seeing a [25/F] for a few months now. We are not exclusive but we get along really well, the sex is amazing and we spend as much time as possible together. \n\nWe started getting close a few months ago and it was all playful. We would playfully insult each other and tease each other and that lead to lots of sexual tension. \n\nShe would often text me first and say really nice things and want me to say nice things and it was great. We would text all the time. \n\nLast Sunday was pretty amazing, we spent the day together and it was just a great experience for both of us. Then Tuesday comes around and it seems like she can't stand me anymore. She is barely replying to my texts, and when she does it always really short stuff like \"ok.....\" and \"my day was good thanks\". She will take ages to reply to my texts when it used to be instant. We went from about 100 texts a day to about 10 a day in a week. \n\nShe did warn me about a week and a half ago that she would probably try to distance herself because that's what she does when she starts to get close to people. Im not sure if that's what she is doing or if she is just bored of me. \n\nMaybe I am just insecure or needy, but I just don't understand how you can go from \"I get wet thinking about you inside of me\" on Monday to barely speaking to me on Tuesday.", "summary": "A girl I am sort of seeing went from texting and talking to me all day to barely any at all. Is she just playing games?"}
{"id": "t3_11ger4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I get upset when my boyfriend talks to girls he's hooked up with in the past, and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "Little background story, kind of just throwing this all out there. 20f, 21m, dated in high school, broke up, he went away to college. At college he hooked up with a few different girls, which is cool, we were broken up and we both thought it was for good. Turns out it wasn't, started talking again, went to visit him multiple times, realize we want to be together again, he flunked out of college and moved back home. That was about two years ago and I still find myself hating him for hooking up with a bunch of girls. I know I should be able to trust him and get over it but what gets me is that he said he thought the idea of meaningless sex was the most disgusting thing. He also refused to tell me their names when I asked, and lied about it to me multiple times, I had to find out through a friend and confront him about it multiple times to even get him to admit to the actual number. Now, I love this man to death and I don't see myself breaking up with him, we've been through a lot yada yada yada.. Basically, he still contacts girls he's slept with and girls he's flirted with in the past sometimes, little conversations, nothing too intellectual or deep, but it kills me inside. Do I have a right to be upset? I know I can't prevent him from talking to whoever he wants to talk to, especially people he considers to be \"friends,\"and I'm 90 percent sure he wouldn't cheat on me, but it still hurts my feelings that he feels the need to talk to these people. I've talked to him about it before, should I bring it up again? Should I just ignore it and get over it? Should I declare him a hopeless case and split ways? This isn't the only problem in our relationship but I suppose I try to see things as a work in progress.. I'm just a little lost right now.", "summary": "Boyfriend talks to girls he's slept with, makes me upset, spoken about things like this to him before, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1xrtk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex-gf [17 F] dated for 8 months, now we have problems again", "post": "So me and my exgf dated for 8 months, and we broke up on really good terms and we were friends still.  We had no issues until now after break up.  \n\nI'm going to start of with saying that i'm a jealous person by nature.  No i'm not proud of it, no i do not want to be a jealous person.  My \"best friend\" is going to ask out my ex for valentines day, and i said no, do not do that.  He asked me because he is a true friend who has respect for my feelings.\n\nI am incredibly jealous and enraged that he would even think to ask her out, and i'm appalled that she said yes, which tells me something might have been going on during our relationship.  I understand this is a lot of drama for a Junior in High School, but it's tearing me and my friends apart.  \n\nShe keeps asking me if i can be happy for other people, and i can, but it's hard to be happy when it's at your expense.", "summary": "best friend\" asked exgf out for valentines day, i'm extremely jealous and furious."}
{"id": "t3_3i60aj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused about my [19F] possible relationship with my friend [17M]", "post": "So Kevin [17M] and I [19F] have been really good friends for about a year, when he told me that he cared about me deeply and wanted to pursue a relationship with me. I told him that I cared about him too and that I wanted that as well so we agreed to get to know each other better. He was really excited about asking me to be his girlfriend soon, but I have been having a hard time recently, so he said he'd wait a while. \n\nWe've been seeing each other at least once a week, and seem to have something going on, but this past week he just disappeared. He wouldn't respond to my texts (I thought he had run out of texts like the previous month) or my other messages. I saw him this weekend at work, and he barely talked to me. He stayed away from me and didn't act like normal. When I said that I missed talking to him, he said he missed it too, yet gave no explanation for this past week. So we went from talking nonstop to not talking at all in a week. Am I reading to much into this or should I try talking to him about it? If so, what should I say?", "summary": "Potential boyfriend [17M] stopped talking to me [19F] and began to act differently in a week."}
{"id": "t3_1v5m1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] has trust issues with [18F] girlfriend.", "post": "So recently, me and my girlfriend of 9 months have been fighting a lot. I treat her great sometimes and then other times I treat her horrible due to me finding out she was texting or snapchatting a guy. I know this is really bad and some people would call it abusive, but I really want to stop feeling like this and pushing her away. We're seniors in high school and we're graduating soon and I want this to get fixed before we go to college cause I know I might get 100x worse and lose her.  I know she loves me and she puts up with a lot of my crap, I just want to not worry about every little thing she does. She's never given me a reason to worry, yet I always find a way to get mad at her even though I love her. The only time she's done anything was meeting at Starbucks with her boss to get community service hours from him (he's 25) and she didn't tell me till later so I wouldn't get mad at her. I don't want to push her over the edge and lose her. I want to be able to trust her more. She treats me better than anyone has before and love her to death. Any advice for me?", "summary": "I don't trust my girlfriend as much as I should and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_eyk4t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Concerned about the recent mass bird die offs? Good. Now get concerned about the real issues facing birds around the world.", "post": "Lately, a lot of press and concern has been given to the recent mass bird die offs. As a birder, and therefore constantly concerned with the welfare of avian kind, it's nice to see the general public being concerned about the welfare of birds, their habitats, and the effects of environmental change upon their behaviors and life cycles.\n\nBirds face a lot of challenges these days and while these recent events are upsetting, they are only a very small (and sometimes naturally occurring) part of a much larger more complex problem facing birds. Habitat loss through deforestation, urban encroachment, pollution, and climate change is a major, if not *the* major, concern for bird species all over the world. \n\nIf you are interested in helping birds, becoming a birder, finding out about awesome birds, or just finding out what scientists and birders have to say about the recent die offs, please visit some of the following websites of some most excellent organizations working to help birds around the world.\n\n[American Birding Association] (US)   \n[National Audubon Society] (US)   \n[The Cornell Lab of Ornithology] (US)   \n[The Royal Society of the Protection of Birds] (UK)   \n[BirdLife International]", "summary": "[Box owl] compels you."}
{"id": "t3_2u0jc7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Kissed a girl and got rejected, where to go from here?", "post": "I impulsively kissed this girl after only a couple times hanging out, and she pulled the \"I thought we were just hanging out\" kinda thing. I do want to keep hanging with her because we have classes together and originally hung out to study.\n\nI guess I just misread her signals. I'm really not too torn up about it because I'm proud of myself for trying, I usually puss out or convince myself she's not sending signals.\n\nJust, how do I act now? I don't want to be apologetic necessarily, and I want to still try to get her to like me. I'm realizing we'd only hung out for like a week before I tried something and she barely even knows me. If I'm just confident and act cool about it there's still a chance???\n\nI plan on asking her if she wants to study Friday (like we did last week) in class today, and I'm just gonna play it cool and kinda like nothing happened.\n\nShe's so hard to figure out, she was dropping signs like complimenting my eyes and sweater (haha thrift stores ftw) and saying she DOES like to hang out with me, and was pretty cool after she rejected me, we kept our conversations going just fine.\nShe didn't act too awkward at all until I asked if we were still cool as she was leaving, and she kinda fumbled over her words, saying stuff like \"I like hanging out\" while walking out the door. I didn't respond\n\nIt feels like I'm walking that fine line between friendzone douche and just quitting all together. It feels wrong to not hang out with a girl just because she won't sleep with me, but I don't want that emasculating feeling of constantly hanging around a girl trying to be with her (had too much of that shit already).", "summary": "Impulsively kissed a girl probably too soon, don't regret it, need advice on how to act from here"}
{"id": "t3_137hbi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I help my SO to be more open about porn?", "post": "So I have been with my partner for almost 2 years now, and I would like to think that overall we have good communication in regards to our relationship.\n  \nUnfortunately that seems to stop when porn is brought up.\n\nWe are able to discuss the fact that we both do watch porn when we are on our own (my SO watches much more than me as they are home alone more often when I'm at work), but for some reason he is extremely secretive about it, and will avoid the subject at all costs.  When I have tried approaching him about it he will become very defensive, to the point where it will almost start fights.\n\nHe knows that I watch porn so it's not that I'm attacking him for it (which seems to be the way he reacts), I just want him to be more open about it and to make it something that we can share.  I have voiced my opinion already that being secretive about it is quite hurtful to me as I feel like he is trying to hide something. \n\nI have considered the fact that the content of his porn might be what makes him scared to open up - but a quick search on his computer shows a basic assortment of hentai, amateur videos and gifs.  Nothing shocking that I'm sure 99% of reddit wouldn't have trouble fapping too, so it's not a matter of him being afraid of what I'll find out.\n\nIt's a pretty big part of his life - I would guess that he gets off to porn at least once a day so it's not an occasional occurrence. How do I make him comfortable with the idea that I want to know what he likes or what he watches? Could it be that he's afraid of knowing what I'm in to? (He has never brought up the topic of porn with me but knows that I'm into fairly out-there stuff). The fact that he's so secretive about it makes me paranoid as hell as there is no need for it, especially when it is so obvious.  Should I just let it be 'his' thing?\n\nMen of Reddit - How do I make him more open about the porn he watches so that it's something that he shouldn't have to hide?  How have you brought up the topic with your SO?", "summary": "We all watch porn, get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1m5cj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fianc\u00e9's [21M] mum constantly asks me [25F] for money. Not sure if I should let him know. Together 17 months.", "post": "When my fianc\u00e9 and I were just boyfriend and girlfriend, he told me how his mother kept asking him for money on one particular occasion. I felt really bad about it so I spoke to her and offered her some money because she said she would be homeless without the money. I did this behind my then-boyfriend's back, which I know was wrong but I really didn't feel good knowing his mum could end up homeless. This happened a couple of times. Then-boyfriend found out about it and got really mad at me and her but everything's fine now.\n\nSince then she keeps reaching out to me for more money. It's gotten to the point where I feel like she only talks to me when she wants money. I find it really hard to deal with this because when she says she needs the money for food, that really makes me very sympathetic. \n\nI do not want to go behind my fianc\u00e9's back and give her money but I'm worried if I tell him she's been asking that he will get mad at her, and she will get mad at me for telling him. I also am a bit strapped for cash at the moment given that we are saving up for rent, bills, and food because when I move to be with him I won't be able to get a job for a while so I'm just saving every penny I can. It pains me to say no, and I also do not want this to continue for the rest of our lives.\n\nShould I just tell my fianc\u00e9 and risk him being mad at his mother and then have his mother being mad at me too? I really hate confrontation and I'm not sure what the right thing to do in this situation is.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9's mother keeps asking me for money. Not sure whether to tell him or not. Risk him being mad at her, and her being mad at me for telling him."}
{"id": "t3_11t708", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is anyone actually turned off by uncut penises?", "post": "I've read some bizarre stories on reddit about American women in particular being turned off or freaked out by uncut penises. Seeing that over 85% of the worlds men are uncut, I find this bizarre, that an entire body part was unknown by so many people. I'm Canadian and circumcision rates were always lower here, never reaching over 90% like they did in the States, so I'm uncut and never even had to think about it and had quite a few partners who never said or indicated anything of it, plus sex without the foreskin moving may as well be done with my elbow, I would never give it up :P\n                                  \nSorry for getting ranty,", "summary": "is anyone actually freaked out by a normal body part that every male is born with?"}
{"id": "t3_2t7rn0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [20 F] have a very complicated relationship", "post": "So to make a long story short, my friend Jane and I have developed serious feelings for each other. But she has a boyfriend of 3 years, John. At the end of fall semester, me and her got a little physical. Check my post history for more details if you're interested \n\nShe told john about us, and after a long talk he wanted her to choose between me and him. She told him that she chose him, but in reality she wasn't ready to make a choice. Fast forward 5/6 weeks and she's still undecided but as far as John knows they're working on rebuilding their trust with each other.\n\nGo ahead and call me an asshole if you want, but I don't regret any of this. Jane and I really care about each other, and she told me that it would never have gotten this far if she didn't see me and her being as good together as her and John. She's even gone as far as telling me that she's never felt as compatible with someone as she does with me.\n\nAfter all this, it's almost time to go back to school for the spring. From my point of view, I'm single and she's not so while I care about her I'm gonna talk to and pursue whoever I want. But I still feel absolutely terrible for John. He has no idea any of this is even happening.", "summary": "Friend is very in the middle about who she wants to be with, me or her boyfriend of 3 years. He has no idea she's even making this decision. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nnu4r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend (33m) has a daughter/pays child support, but kept it a secret from me (26f)...", "post": "I have tried to probe my boyfriend for more information, and he gives me the following information:\n\n1) He never 'dated' the mother\n\n2) His family 'took care' of the child because the mother was unfit\n\n3) He is not her biological father.\n\nHowever I have had access to his chat logs and have found internet history that completely goes against this.\n\n1) He calls himself her \"daddy\" and she, his \"daughter\"\n\n2) He had taken care of her personally\n\n3) He does pay child support.\n\nHe still has no idea that I know, we have dated for 5 months now. Why would he do this to me? I have so much love invested in him... what do I do...? Confused :(", "summary": "Boyfriend has a secret child, should I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_1m4186", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a time gate on relationship infidelity?", "post": "Let's say that a person cheats exactly *once* at a particular point during a relationship (it needn't be monogamous). They purposefully do not tell their partner about it for *X* amount of time. They reveal all details of the situation X years later; absolutely full disclosure is given. Also, let's assume that the person has been completely faithful since that event. *Depending on how much time has passed, is it expected that the person be forgiven on principle*?\n\nI ask this because of a few threads seen on r/relationships. Ones where a person violates the relationship and it only comes to light years, even *decades* later. Many say that the wronged's feelings are misplaced because \"it happened so long ago - they were a different person. They haven't done anything since!\". But if that is the case, then how long is a sensible range for X?\n\nOn the more philosophical side, would an answer to the above entail that cheating be acceptable *so long as it is kept from the partner for within X period of time*? If not, then is it wrong that the victim may push for a break-up (or divorce) given the newly revealed facts?\n\nI am curious to what Reddit things.", "summary": "Is there a time that can elapse after which a cheater should automatically be forgiven?"}
{"id": "t3_tss2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf (20) is radio silent, I've been gone a week. My first relationship, is my worry justified?", "post": "Throwaway because he's a Redditor.\n\nMy bf and I (I'm F, both 20) finished our sophomore year of college, and I've gone home across the country for the summer. We've been friends 2 yrs, dating 3 months.\n\nI've always moved every 2 years, so have learned people don't keep in contact when someone leaves. Never dated before because it seemed pointless with a time limit. He swore he'd prove me wrong and that we'd make it work over the summer.\n\nIt's been a week and we've texted twice, both initiated by me. Usually we text a few times every (other) day, with him initiating as often as me. He even stopped responding when I text - not like him at all. I requested to add him on Skype like he said I should, and he's not accepted.\n\nHis family is stressing him out, saying he might not return to his uni in the fall. I said I'd give him space and I'm here for him because I don't want to be clingy, but I'm really worried that he's gone so noncom. Usually we tell each other anything that's bothering us. Because of my history, when we said goodbye before I left, I had this feeling like it was for good (again, he said he'd prove me wrong).\n\nIs this feeling of fear I somehow can't shake justified? I realized that if something happened to him I'd have no way of knowing, as we go to different schools and have few mutual friends. Is it normal for someone to go off the radar due to stress, or due to separation? Should I prepare myself for a \"Dear Jane\" call/text/etc.? Or is this normal for a temporarily LDR? I have no clue what I'm doing.", "summary": "My first relationship, both 20, he's pulled away after I left for the summer. His family is stressing him out and it's not like him to not talk for so long. I'm really worried, should I be?"}
{"id": "t3_1w4sb6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(F/17)Telling my crush (M/17) I liked him didn't go the way I thought.", "post": "Previously posted in another subreddit before being directed here:\n\nThere's this guy at my school we are both Juniors in high school, he's new to our school and from Brazil. It's 6 months into the school year and I have liked him since I first saw him. Let's call him \"Alex\". He is shy like me, and so I was afraid that if I confronted him he'd get shy and plus confronting him would be hard for me to do anyways. So last night through Fb, I messaged him saying:\n\n\"Hey Alex, I just wanted to send you a message to let you know that I think your really nice and I'd love to get to know you better. I know we only have one class together and we don't talk much, but maybe we could hang out sometime? I am really shy so sometimes I won't talk but I'd like to try and get to know you better, and see how things go. So what do you think? -K. :)\"\n\nAll to be followed up with him seeing it two minutes later and not responding. He hasn't been on fb since he saw the message, which worried me because he seemed to always be on fb before hand.\n\nI am embarrassed by possibly being rejected, but I don't really know because he didn't answer with a yes or a no. Should I message him again or will that scream \"desperate\"? And if I do what should I say?\n\nMy ex does go to the school also, and I have seen my ex and crush talking but it was usually only a hello-goodbye kinda thing. Oh and me and my crush only I have one class together but are basically locker buddies since his is two lockers away from mine. How should I handle class with him since I was previously thinking of ditching that class for a few days ago so things can calm down (it's not an academic class it's just study hall)?\n\nAny advice helps, thanks everyone.", "summary": "Told crush I like him through a fb message, no answer. Don't know how to handle Monday when I go back to school and have to face him. Also debating messaging him again."}
{"id": "t3_jf3rm", "subreddit": "books", "title": "A query about Ulysses", "post": "I've finally gotten onto Ulysses after reading and loving Dubliners and Portrait, and I am definitely going to finish it, so that's not the issue for me. \n\n*However,* I'm not quite sure how best to do this. I'm up to page 100 now, and I've been reading along with The New Bloomsday Book, alternating between reading a paragraph of the guide, then the corresponding paragraph of the actual novel. \n\nThe pros of this method: the guide is really making me appreciate the book more than I know I would without it; some of the commentary on the 'mn' and the gypsies and what have you makes me realise just how astonishingly written Ulysses really is, and I'm not sure that I'd be enjoying it anywhere near as much without the guide.\n\nThe con of this method: it's taking *forever.* I'm essentially reading a 250 page book and a 700 page book in tandem, which makes both take longer than they would otherwise. I really want to finish this book before the end of summer so I can cram in either the Brothers Karamazov or Infinite Jest before school starts again, but at this rate I don't think I'll be able to.", "summary": "question: if the guide I'm reading Ulysses with really is making it a better experience for me, is it worth it taking about three times as long?"}
{"id": "t3_2xjicr", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I'm picking high school classes for next year, how important is a 3rd year of a foreign language for the college I want to go to?", "post": "Hello reddit. I'm in need of your help. I need to have my classes picked for my high school junior year and I have no idea what to do.\n\nI live in Nevada, and I want to go to the University of Washington, Seattle right out of high school. Next year I will be in my junior year of high school, so I'm picking classes. Here's my problem:\n\nI'm taking the hardest classes available in my school. The problem is, I suck at my foreign language class. I already have 2 years of French. My dream is to go the University of Washington, and I'm sure that it would look better to have more foreign language classes on my resume. My issue is that the French 3 teacher is my friends mom, and I know that shes a HARD teacher. I am most likely going to fail if I take a third year of French.\n\nI need to know how important it is for me to take a third year of French. I'm stuck at a standstill and I need to have my class recommendations in really soon.", "summary": "I want to go to University of Washington. I suck in my French class. How important is it that I get a 3rd year of French?"}
{"id": "t3_38h683", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/M] Her [28F] Tinder/long distance/ex/fairness issues", "post": "I met this girl on tinder a couple months ago. We hit it off amazingly well. I told her I loved her pretty early on and I really do. The thing was that she said she had a bf at the time. She did eventually break up with him a couple weeks later and we've been spending pretty much everyday together for a good while.\n\n-----------------------------\nNow she's in school on the east coat and I'm on the west coast. We said we'd work things out and do long distance. \n\nMain issues:\n\n- her ex (that she broke up with for me) goes to the same school there and she's relying on him for rides because she hurt her ankle pretty bad. She's scared to be alone and doesn't like her bed and this ends up with her sleeping over his place in a separate room. She hasn't begun school yet. I don't think any funny business is going on. She's pretty honest about everything. She says she's scared to be alone at her place and it's better that he gives her rides to school so she doesn't have to walk so much.\n\n- She's IMPOSSIBLE to get a hold of. I can understand that, but the fact that she doesn't try to be available bugs me.\n\n- She never makes any effort to change things I don't like. Not stupid stuff but like...not sleeping at your ex's is pretty reasonable I think.\n\nAm I being played here? Am I being an idiot for thinking this would work? Typing this out makes me thing \"Yeah no shit she's just not as into you anymore\" but she's still here, she's still talking to me, she says she's still trying, she says she still loves me...and I really think we're a pretty awesome match. Distance is hard. Muddles everthing. I fly to see her this weekend.", "summary": "long distance and her ex is back in the picture"}
{"id": "t3_4o9d2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] Should I [16/M] split up with my girl friend [16/F] of 3 months?", "post": "So this relationship is pretty new (3 months), but we've kissed and we used to see each other fairly often while school was going on. However her parents are extremely strict and we have to meet behind their back. So our carefree Summer where I thought we could spend a lot of oltime together has instead become prison for her where she is only let out of the house to go to summer classes and ACT prep. We won't be able to see each other till school starts again and it's killing us. We've talked about it before and we both still have feelings for each other and want to stay together, but at the same time we can't see each other and it's tearing both of us apart emotionally. What should we do?", "summary": "My gf and I can't see each other over summer at all but we still have feelings for each other, what should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_vfcw4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone have any scholarship information out there?", "post": "I am a 16 year old, this is my first post to reddit, and AskReddit. A little back story on me, I am living in California, web designing interests me, and i come from an alright sized family. I have gotten a 2.5~2.7 GPA for my Junior year, and I hope to do way better than I have this past year.\n\nMy parents have told me that they have some money set aside for me to get through some college but not all the way through(which is alright because I wasn't expecting a free ride anyways) so my immediate thought was \"Scholarships\". I have heard that there are many things you can get scholarships for, and for me, I will apply for as many as I can. \n\nThe thing is, I don't have the slightest idea of where to start searching for scholarships. Since this is summer time, I hope to apply for at the very least one a day to hopefully get some of my college paid for by the end of summer. So if anyone has any information on scholarships and where to find them, that would be fantastic. Websites, key points when applying for a scholarship, any advice will be greatly appreciated. I don't care if the scholarship is 50 or 5000 dollars, every little bit helps in the long run. I don't expect to make the front page or anything, I just want a little advice regarding the matter.", "summary": "Have little information on scholarships, if you could give me any advice on it that would help a lot"}
{"id": "t3_tlimo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Initiating a LDR?", "post": "Using a throwaway because I know she's also a Redditor, but anyways... I'm male, early 20s, she's 20, and we've known each other for about three years (we were coworkers for a year and a half). I joined the military and moved away and now live halfway across the country. She apparently developed an attraction for me during our last few months of working together, but 1) I, as I usually am, was oblivious to that, and 2) she was dating someone else until only a few weeks before I left for boot camp. I sort of figured it out based on the letters we exchanged while I was gone, and once I got out of boot camp we would Skype almost every day. I tentatively asked her out and she said she'd give me an answer soon, but eventually ended up telling me she still had feelings for her ex (despite this, they did not end up getting back together). She came to visit along with a few friends and I did something which screwed things up pretty bad and as far as I knew ended my chance with her.\n\nFast forward to a year later and we text each other a *lot* (no Skyping right now since I don't have a camera but she's said I should get one), and we plan on seeing each other when I come home later in the summer on leave. Thing is, I miss her like crazy and I want to find out if she feels the same way, but I don't know *how* to ask what her feelings are (it's a miracle I was able to figure it out a year ago in the first place). I'd be upset with myself if I never asked, even if she rejects me, but I'm no good with this sort of thing and it's been a long time since I've been in a serious relationship.", "summary": "Joined the military, moved halfway across the country, had feelings for each other a year ago but I screwed it up, want to try again, think she does too, don't know how to ask or whether it's even a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_2dpgo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my Boyfriend [23 M] of 2 years, I need some advice on keeping it going", "post": "Been with my BF for almost 2 years now, and generally we are great. Good sex, hardly fight, chill with each other's quirks, we watch tv and play video games together, we have even talked about moving in together in the next year or so.\n\nBut every once in a while I get those moments of doubt. Those \"am I supposed to be here?\" moments. He's the first boy I had sex with. Neither of us have had sex with anyone else. Our sex is almost always great, but I always wonder what's (or more specifically who's) out there.\n\nI do not want to throw away this relationship I've built just because I kind of want to sleep with other people, but can someone just tell me I'm not alone in these thoughts? How do you deal with them? I don't necessarily feel guilty about these thoughts, because I know they're common and it's not like I'm cheating, I just wonder how you guys deal with them?\n\nSide note: no he would not be ok with an open relationship", "summary": "Love my boyfriend and don't want to end relationship. At the same time, having frequent thoughts about sleeping with other people."}
{"id": "t3_22x8mh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm a bit hefty, and I need to change that.", "post": "I'm overweight, thats a fact, I have known for a year that I need to lose weight, but I'm too lazy to start a diet or exercise and I try to skip PE classes as often as possible. The fact is, that I love eating crap, I don't eat much, but what I do eat is bad for me. My dad has told me that  I'm fat (I'm a sensitive person, I don't react well to this) and even my granddad  got pissed last night and called me tubby, and everyone in the room laughed. To most people they would change something, but I've realised that I don't care about myself enough, and *now* is the time to change that. I need your help, please list some diets with minimal exercise (I can change eating habbits easier than doing something that I don't enjoy, I plan on becoming fitter and adding muscle once I have lost weight).\nThank you so much for reading.", "summary": "I'm fat."}
{"id": "t3_ej7q9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone born in the U.S. Recently moved to another country? I'm in college and I'm considering it.. I need info.", "post": "I will be graduating in about a year from now and with all of the increasing bs I am finally at the point of moving. I have always said it, but now I'm almost for sure. \n* My question to anyone to has moved, how hard is it? How hard will it be to become a citizen of, say.., Italy? France? I don't know exactly where I would want to go, I have a friend in Italy; however, I speak no Italian. \n* What should I expect when moving? How is finding a job as an American in another country? \n* What should I have, as far as liquid assets (cash basically), when I go?", "summary": "I want to move to Europe, what are my drawbacks, advantages, Where should I move, etc... "}
{"id": "t3_4ccb62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] have an issue with the eating habits of my [24F] girlfriend.", "post": "I'll start of with an apology, because english isn't my native language. \n\nI have an issue with the eating habits of my current girlfriend. My ex used to be 49kg and is a model and my current girlfriend probably weighs around +-65kg. I think my girlfriend is beautiful, but she could drop a couple of pounds not much. I've told her that numerous times as well and that she should just stay off the sugar a little.\n\nShe starts her day with some fake ass orange juice with at least 20gr of sugar. She finishes her day always with a cola can (around 30gr of sugar) and not mentioning how she probably eats candy and cakes etc around the day as well.\n\nI'm a quite healthy guy. I go to the gym 3/4 times a week. Almost no sugars and carbs are only on the hard work out days. \nI've told her quite often now that it kinda bothers me and she says she's doing her best, but then I see her at 11pm taking a KitKat + Cola + eating the insides of some f cake or whatever. It disgusts me. \n\nToday we weren't together and I spot that she went to the f McDonalds with a friend of her this evening. Like I have no f clue what to do about it. \n\nIn my opinion she's fine, but she shouldn't be \"allowed\" to eat like that, because of her weight and health.", "summary": "My girlfriend loves sugars and is a little overweight and just keeps on tanking sugars and it disgusts me. I'm I the irrational bastard?"}
{"id": "t3_tfs7g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Seeking advice from hopefully someone with same experiences. Lost a mother or know someone who has.", "post": "First of all, I would like to start out by saying I couldn't imagine how painful it would be to lose my Mother so I'm extremely sorry if anyone has or knows someone who has. With that being said I present my question.\n\nI have a pretty good friend that I have known since childhood.(15 years) This Mother's Day will be exactly one year and one day since her Mother pasted away.(For the slow, 12 May 2011) I just got done purchasing my Mother flowers online when I thought about how she wouldn't be able to do this for hers. Is there a way maybe I could do something for her, whether it be send her flowers to her house for her and her mother? (since she is a mom as well) Or should I not even bring it up? I just don't want to make her hurt more and I already know she has expressed that this month will be hard for her.", "summary": "Should I send flowers to a childhood friend who lost her Mother?"}
{"id": "t3_1f1zvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am pretty sick and my 21st birthday is next weekend, but my boyfriend [24m] tells me we don't have enough money to go to the doctor.", "post": "We've been together for 2 years, living together for almost 1 year. \n\nI get allergies really bad each year, which then also comes the strep throat/bronchitis/upper respiratory infection. I had some left over antibiotics that I was going to take when I got sick this year, but I don't know where they are and I've torn apart our apartment looking for them. Since I couldn't find them I told him I was planning on going to a clinic because I'm miserable. He tells me we don't have the money for it especially with my birthday coming up. Then no more than 10 minutes later he suddenly finds the money to buy this cool thing he wants that's 100 dollars. I'm not sure if it's because I'm sick that I've become moody, or what, but I'm actually pretty pissed off about this. \n\nOn top of it all, Thursday night is when it started and I couldn't sleep good because I had a fever and was freezing. He said I was moaning/crying in my sleep all night and kept him up. The next day he had to work all day. I felt horrible and kept apologizing, but there wasn't much I could do. I felt like shit and he knew it. But the whole day all I heard about was how he didn't get any sleep blah blah blah. Nothing about how I was or if he could do anything for me. Then he went on to sleep for 15 hours.\n\nMaybe I just needed to rant, I don't know. But I feel like he isn't caring about my needs. How can I approach this conversation in a mature way? I'm sick and don't have much of a patience and don't want to make this bigger than it is.", "summary": "I'm pretty sick and miserable and my boyfriend told me we didn't have enough money for me to go to a clinic. No more than 10 minutes later he finds a way that he can buy this cool thing he wants that's 100 dollars."}
{"id": "t3_53amm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (33F) fell stupidly in love with a younger person (24M). We were previously Co workers, he recently left the company. However I'm still a very married woman. I know I should stop talking to him but I'm not sure how.", "post": "We started off as friends, purely.\u00a0 I certainly never intended anything further.\u00a0 The difference in age made me feel very secure in that,\u00a0 even though I found him attractive. We would chat throughout the day, and text throughout the night.\u00a0 My husband is not home much, though I wouldn't say we have any marital problems so that has never really bothered me. We also have a young child.\u00a0 I realized that I was developing feelings but I chalked it up to a crush and, as\u00a0 he is younger than me, I was sure he didn't see me like that so I continued on. Fast forward two years and he's leaving the company. I realized I am hopelessly in love. Before his last day,\u00a0 he asks me where I stand,\u00a0 and I admit to being in love.\u00a0 He states he's felt the same for most of our relationship. However,\u00a0 I've told him beyond friendship I don't have anything else I can give.\u00a0 I love him. He's an amazing person that doesn't even see it. He's intelligent, well-spoken, a challenge, and good looking.\u00a0 We've not spent much time together outside of work, but now that he's left it's all I want. He asks to do things and I can't because I'm at the edge of my control. It sucks for him,\u00a0 I know it. I've made his life worse\u00a0 I'm sure that I need to walk away,\u00a0 but I have no idea how to do that. I feel drawn to him and empty without him.\u00a0 Any thoughts are appreciated.", "summary": "I'm in love with someone and it is just hurtful to them. I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_13ja72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update:: to BF (34m) wants me (34f) to be happy all the time.", "post": "Link I hope this works I am not completely sure I understand how to do links in reddit sorry :(\n[link](\n\nI talked to boyfriend and basically he apologized and said he did not have any idea why he would say this and he was really sorry for saying something so rude and dumb and he would never break up with me over something like this and that he basically freaks out when I get upset because he feels like he has to fix it. I told him he does not have to fix it, just acknowledge it and ensure me everything is all right. I told him sometimes female hormones make no sense LOL.", "summary": "talked to bf about issue and was able to work through it. Life is good."}
{"id": "t3_175hd7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fifth Third is holding my car hostage what can I do?", "post": "Sorry...kinda long backstory. I recently bought a new, used, car. Unfortunately, the person I bought the car from had taken out a loan on the vehicle from Fifth Third. I paid him with a cashiers check (Supposedly as good as cash) and he went to the bank to pay off the loan. That is where the trouble started. Fifth Third said that since he was not paying off in cash they could not sign off on the title until Tuesday, which was the next business day. That's fine no big deal. So I go back to the bank today (Wednesday) to have them sign off on the loan and now they are saying it's a two week wait. Apparently since the loan was not paid off in cash they have a 2 week window. What can I do?? Fifth Third has the money and yet no one can drive the car.", "summary": "Fifth Third received and cashed payment on a $12,000 car, however, they will not sign off on the title because they don't want too."}
{"id": "t3_ssq3u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a student with lots of potential that is wasted due to my procrastination. Many of you know this lifestyle. Has anyone out there conquered it? If so, how??", "post": "I have my senior year of high school ahead of me and then college. I would imagine college (at least the later years) would be easier because iId be in more specialized classes that would better hold my interest... but basically, in classes like calculus, I'd rather sit on my couch with my binder open and stare at the wall than do the homework. Its like I can't make myself do it. I just can't. But I'm sure lots of you know how that goes. HOW DO I BEAT IT? I'm coming up with ways to almost trick myself into productivity, but I still procrastinate.\n\nI'm sure the solution to procrastination is quitting cold turkey and getting shit done, no matter how badly it sucks. But I'd like to hear your input, reddit.\n\nI don't know if you can inb4 on reddit, but you don't need to tell me to get off reddit, I'm not addicted and so it doesn't affect my productivity (yet...).", "summary": "I procrastinate. How do I stop?"}
{"id": "t3_hjz2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Moving down to the Sacramento,CA area from Oregon... Does anybody have any tips on a good neighborhood?", "post": "Dear fellow redditors,\n\nMy fianc\u00e9e and I are moving to the Sacramento,CA area from Portland, OR.  We are looking for advice as to where we should live.  Any insight about the area would be greatly appreciated.  \n\nHer and I just graduated from college and I have job lined up in Folsom, CA with Intel as a Software Engineer.  She has an Education and History Degree and will be looking for a high school teaching position within the area.  \n\nWhat areas should we look into?  So far we have been looking at the Folsom area, but we have heard mixed reviews about not having much to do for younger people. Other areas we are looking into are Orangevale, Rancho Cordero and El Dorado Hills.  \n\nand for extra credit: If anybody has lived in both Portland and Sacramento, if you could compare cities with analogies, that would be great! (ie Portland -> Sacramento, Hillsboro-> ?, Gresham-> ?, Beaverton-> ?, etc...)", "summary": "I just got a job at Intel in Folsom, CA... where should my fianc\u00e9e and I live?"}
{"id": "t3_369f2y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend (23/F) says I (24/M) have changed and I'm no longer passionate ..", "post": "Well it's a long distance relationship, not overseas but like 400 km apart, I know her since December 2011, we met only once, knew her on Facebook and she's probably the best thing that ever happened to me, had crush on her and then fell for her (My first love) and I'm still madly in love with her and probably always will. I got the first \"I love you\" after like 10 months or so x) anyway in the past 3 years we had issues like any other couples, one thing that probably screwed us over is that we had lot of breaks, she was the one asking or forcing them (I was always against), she was emotionally unstable due to a past relationship (First love and all the shit that comes with) anyway last summer we had a major issue and we had a break, again, and I was really tired of that shit so I kinda didn't care and went and did the mistake of dating (more like trying to love) with someone else, that relation failed and it couldn't live up to the previous one. So last December I got back to my ex and we fixed things up but the problem is things kind of not the same, she says I'm not passionate anymore, I get irritated easily, don't pay attention to her, I'm not there for her when she needs me ... thing is I don't even know where I'm screwing up! **I do love her, I do cherish her, I'll marry her the soonest I get my shits figured out, I want to make her happy, I want to share with her the bitter and the sweet** .. I think you get it already. \nPlease help me, what I need or should do? \nDo we lack communication? \nAm I being careless without noticing? \nIs it the distance and the lack of physical contact? \nAny advice or help is welcome.", "summary": "3 and a half years relationship, we had a break last year, I dated someone else for like a month, now we are back and she says I've changed. **She changed for the best while I changed for the worse.**"}
{"id": "t3_2xtjow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he (30M) bored of me (25F) already?", "post": "This is a long distance relationship. Only 3 months old.\n  \n\nAt first, as always in relationships, it was new and exciting and we talked all the time. I understand that things die down.\n  \n\nBut he went from talking to me all day to this.\nThis being: he now waits until late afternoon to text me, so we don't have to talk all morning. Where he used to have a pleasant greeting he will say things like \"Good afternoon.\" Or \"hello, how are you?\"   \nThis is such a huge change... He has no obligation to me. He could end it if that is what he wanted. So why does it seem like he is over it, but sticking around?\n\nI know this isn't a lot of information to go on, I apologize. He doesn't stick around for sex. The long distance thing makes that hard. So why continue this if he is bored or over it?\nI guess that's my big question.\n\nThanks for any advice or input.", "summary": "LDSO suddenly stopped talking to me. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3l2v4a", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Reddit, I really need advice on how to play music with my boyfriend", "post": "Hello Reddit,\nI \"play\" guitar. I put \"play\" in quotations because I don't even keep up with it anymore. I wouldn't even consider myself a player. My boyfriend plays guitar. I have a music degree. He has a music degree. I've jammed with people far and wide. I used to be a cocky and confident musician. I wouldn't be afraid to tell people what to do and how I felt. Some how, I lost that and I feel all pent up inside. It is my dream to be able to play and have fun with my boyfriend. He's a little different from everyone else I've played with. He's really particular about rhythm and it makes me nervous. He's very particular about patterns and absolutely no noodling. We've already talked about these issues many times after jamming and me getting upset. He's made it clear he doesn't care about how the jamming goes and that it should just be fun\u2026 I'm also used to guys being like \"Wow you're so awesome!\" and he's not really like that. I hate to not just trust myself and feel confident all the time.  I feel suppressed sometimes. I don't think I'm depressed or anything but this lack of creating is eating me up some times. I used to write songs left and right. I don't know what happened. I don't even know if I like the guitar any more. It's so weird. I hate to even come to Reddit and ask for some advice because I just wish I had my \"shit\" together.\n\nWe moved out to the middle of nowhere because he's pursuing a different degree and I am doing the same\u2026 So I don't know anyone out here to play with. I want to go on CL and find people but I'm worried he'll feel like I'm cheating him by searching for something different. I just want to play again! I always am more ambitious when there's a goal involved\u2026 sadly\u2026 :(\n\n Anyway, if someone has any experiences to share or any ideas, that would be really awesome.", "summary": "I want to play guitar with my boyfriend but it never goes well/ I get nervous or shy, and after many attempts I don't now what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_1xnjl1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out my [27] husband [26] lurks his ex AND my exes online. What?", "post": "Exactly like the title says. \n\nI opened up Instagram on our shared tablet. We both have different accounts but we follow pretty much the same people so I browsed for a bit then went to search for a friend of mine who just got IG. I didn't even realize I was on his account until I opened the search and saw that he looked up only three people: his ex, and two of my exes. One of my exes is from like, Highschool time. We broke up with I was 19. The other ex is the last guy I dated before my husband whom I have had zero contact with since the break up. I didn't even know he was on IG! My husband's ex is a woman he dated for many years who ended up leaving him for another man and nine months later out pops a baby. Gross, right? Her IG is mostly pictures of her art and them some randoms of her baby and her new man. One of my exes IG is solely of his art. The other ex of mine is mostly selfies (I know, right?) and some art. \n\nI want to believe he is just looking to see their paintings, but I don't know... I have no idea if he is lurking their FBs or anything because I chose not to go through browser history (not my style).\n\nIs this something to be concerned about or is it mere human curiosity? I found nothing interesting on any of the accounts. I'm not one for lurking/caring about what people I don't like are doing, so this isn't something I can relate to. I know my lady friends pretty much all lurk their exes and other random people on FB or Instagram, but I just don't get it... I don't know how often he looks or what the deal is. Should I bring it up? Leave it be?", "summary": "husband looked up our exes' Instagram accounts. not sure when/how often. Do I bring it up? Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_kj2jg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Friend asked me to be his best man. Speech ideas?", "post": "So, a bit of back story. This friend and I were best friends throughout junior high and high school, playing hockey (yes, I am Canadian), vid games, and general friend things. He met his now fiancee in grade 11 and they have been dating on and off since. I went to university and he joined the army. We are still good friends and he calls from time to time from Afghanistan where he is currently serving. The only problem is that i cant stand his girlfriend.\n\nShe does not care much for me, either. Any time we get together she throws a fit and ruins the night. But, I digress. I am happy that he loves her and is happy with her.\n\nI would like some suggestions from anyone who has been a best man or has been to a few weddings. What kind of things should a best man say in his speech? what should I avoid? I am a teacher and really do not have any troubles with public speaking, I am just not experienced when it comes to weddings and do not know what i should say. Thanks for any help!\n\n(", "summary": ") what should a best man say at a wedding?"}
{"id": "t3_1l1rxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice from long term couples (or someone with long term experience)", "post": "Ok so I am almost 27 F,  in a serious long term relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years who is also almost 27. We have lived together since almost the beginning of our relationship and our connection was very strong from the start. For a little while now, especially lately I have been feeling less and less passion towards him. I don't really like to have sex anymore or even kiss him. There have been some broken trust issues (no cheating, but some lying and covering up on his end that always get revealed). He feels me kind of pulling away, which I assume causes him to feel less of a draw or connection towards me as well...at least that is how he has been acting and speaking lately.\n\nI guess what I am asking is: is it normal for the passion to fizzle out, as the way I described? Or could this be me actually falling out of love with him, and maybe I should end it...I am scared to break up with him because I am not feeling passionate, only to find 7 years later with a new person the same lack of feelings. I don't want to be chasing around lust for my entire life...I want a life partner. So if anyone out there could offer some advice I would really appreciate it. I have heard that the 7th year is always the worst for some reason, so part of me is hoping that is what we are going through.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been best friends for so long, I can't imagine my life without him, and I'm not that scared of not being able to find someone else, just that I wont have him in my life anymore.", "summary": "Is it normal for passion to fade and not have any sex drive at all (not even kissing) after 7 years?"}
{"id": "t3_45xoqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my new girlfriend [27 F] of 2 weeks. Connect amazingly with her but she is slightly overweight.", "post": "I got out of a 4.5 year relationship back around Halloween and hit up various dating apps and websites to try and meet new girls.  I met this one particular girl in December and we hit it off, texting and snap chatting all the time, and seeing each other pretty much every week.  This went on for two months and when I realized the one other girl on the table wasn't right for me, I asked her out officially.  We have very good connection with each other, as we are both nerdy and play similar video games together, or watching similar favorite shows or movies together.  Anyways, I like her a lot, she is a very sweet and caring girl.\n\nThe only thing that stops her from being absolutely perfect for me is that she is slightly overweight.  Not humungous or anything, but a bit of a beer belly.  I know she had posted about trying to get in shape when we first started talking but I don't know how committed she is to it.  Im obviously not going to say anything to her because that's extremely cruel at this point, but part of me hopes she can be healthy and get in better shape because I like her a lot and I'd like to see it go somewhere maybe.", "summary": "Dating girl who is absolutely amazing except a little pudgy.  Feeling bad that I find its on my mind a lot, even though she is great in every other way...."}
{"id": "t3_snqil", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Male/21: Need help with my insecurities...", "post": "Reddit, I'm afraid I have insecurities that are keeping me from being happy, and finding someone that is good for me. I have the usual things, such as social anxiety and crippling shyness, however I believe I can get through those things. Well, the anxiety has been hard, but I like to think I'm making strides. The real issue I have is how I see myself...\n\nI don't think of myself very highly, and I feel its keeping me from approaching women. I'm not very intelligent; I chose not to attend college, I work at a shitty minimum wage job, I have no vehicle (In working condition), I recently moved back in with my parents and don't even have a room of my own (I sleep in the living room/limited space), I don't have money or things to my name, and I feel like an all around loser. I have aspirations and am passionate about what I want to become, although I lack motivation and what I want takes time. I'm lazy and unmotivated. I do have issues with my physical appearance but I don't think that's my biggest problem...\n\nWhen I begin to consider talking to a girl, I say to myself, \"Why would this beautiful woman want someone as worthless as myself holding her back?\" Or I tell myself how I could never get a girl like that. And so I don't attempt anything.\n\nBesides the affect on my relationships, as you might have guessed it also alters my everyday life. Confidence... I find it very hard to do anything without it.\n\nSo I come to you my friends of reddit... How can I change this? What can I do?", "summary": "I significantly lack the confidence needed to approach women. How do I change that?"}
{"id": "t3_4q8b55", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out my fiance (32M) had a MFF threesome before he met me (25F) so why am I so upset over it?", "post": "I'm from a fairly conservative background where I was taught that sex happens after marriage. My fiance on the other hand, can't remember the number of partners he had. Admittedly, it took me a while to accept that because I can't help but wish I was first, but I know that this all happened before I came into the picture.\n\nI learned about the threesome from an ex who sent him an email. The subject heading and first line showed up on his phone and I saw it. I asked him about it and he said it had happened two years before he met me.\n\nI feel like I got punched in the gut. I can't explain why because I know logically, this happened before me. What he did before me isn't something he can undo.\n\nI think maybe I feel as if he has no firsts with me and he's experienced so much more. I have had no desire for a threesome before and now I feel like I HAVE to do the same. I'm wary about his ex emailing him about their experience from TWO YEARS ago. When I asked if I could see the email, I saw that this wasn't her first attempt at reaching him. He had been going through a tough time at work and they used to work together. She offered to \"help\" and said \"Let me know if I can do anything\" to which he replied \"You can let us do another threesome.\"\n\nI just feel sick to my stomach and I know I Should put my big girl panties on and get over it but I can't stop picturing him doing things he'll never do with me, like he's gotten a taste of something that I'll never match up to\n\nIs there any words of advice for me? I know I'm acting completely foolish but I can't stop or bring this up to friends without them possibly judging him...", "summary": "Found out my fiance had a threesome with an ex gf in the past, now I'm feeling inadequate and as if I have to somehow match his experiences."}
{"id": "t3_2xowuj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with a girl I was seeing [20F] for 2 months went on exchange. Another girl [21F] has come into the picture.", "post": "I met this girl a while back (October), clicked super well on every level and really enjoyed spending time with one another. But she went on exchange and she's gone for a year, but we talk everyday. \n\nMeanwhile, Ive started to see this other girl, and were exclusive (Met her around the same time but recently started putting more effort into it). We enjoy each others company and do a lot of similar activities and my friends really like her. \n\nIm confused as to what to do... Ive been trying to live in the moment and focus on what is right here and now but its hard to not drift back to her and think of what it would be like when [20F] comes back. At the beginning I chose [20F] who went on exchange. But as I get to know this other girl better [21F] I'm not so sure.\n\nHas anyone else been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Girl I liked [20F] went on exchange for a year (if she didnt leave we would be dating), things with other girl [21F] are getting more serious. What advice would you give?"}
{"id": "t3_3f7egz", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Dog's behavior has started to change. Why?!", "post": "My family consists of 2 adults and 2 (2 & 7 ages). We took in my BIL's husky about 4 months ago when they had to move. They couldn't take him with them. \n\nHe is a 5 year old (soon to be 6) Siberian Husky. They spent a lot of money on training him. He has always been around children and has never had a bad experience with people. All in all he has always been a great, family dog. He was neutered (2 years ago) and is up to date on all of his shots. \n\nMy problem is: over the past three weeks he has killed two opossums and \"played\" with them in the yard. From what I could see, he didn't attempt to eat them and there was minimal blood. Today he snapped and lunged at my son. He didn't bite him, and i corrected him immediately. I then separated him by placing him in the kitchen, which is gated off. My son was on the floor near him, but not close, playing with some cars. He has also been emitting low growls whenever the kids go near him. He doesn't do this to me. Our kids have always been able to pet and give him kisses with absolutely no problems. They both know how to behave around him and do not bother him incessantly. \n\nI am worried that his sudden killing of two animals has made him start to become violent...am I wrong? Am I misinterpreting what is happening? I haven't been able to find any information about other diseases, aside from rabies, that would affect behavior suddenly. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Please excuse all errors, I'm typing this whilst holding a crying baby.", "summary": "Husky has started snapping at kids. Killed some wild animals. What's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_31cv1x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [M/19] restart a friendship [F/19] from 5 years ago?", "post": "So I moved from New York to Indiana back in August of 2010. I had a a girlfriend of roughly 2 years, or at leaat the closest thing to a girlfriend you would expect from an 8th grader. She and I were incredibly close by the time I moved. I have sort of, but not really kept in contact with her. I keep in touch with a few of my friends from back in New York just for like birthdays or whatever. I have sent her a birthday text that just said a Happy birthday and that i hoped she was doing well. No response. I had texted her a few months after we started college to see how she was doing then. No response. We have kept up on each other's social media and this makes it seem like I at least know what she is doing. I really would just like the opportunity to catch up with her but I feel it is coming across like I still have feelings for her when I don't. Is there anyway to smoothly just text her to see how she has been doing?", "summary": "i want to catch up with my 8th grade gf from 5 years ago without seeming like I still have feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_14ko2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some objective advice on financial 'transactions' between me (25F) and my big brother (35M)", "post": "So my brother and I are 10 years apart and we've always had a fantastic relationship. He is now married with two young kids of his own to which I am a very proud auntie. \n\nAbout 11 years ago our father passed away and left me the family piano (among other things) in his will. Now, I used to play when I was a child, but have not played it in years and as I have since moved overseas and moved out again, it has been sitting in my mum's house for years, and only gets used when the kids are visiting or a musical member of the family visits. \n\nI actually tried to sell it before I moved overseas about 2.5 years ago but no such luck - however, I was kind of glad about this as I sort of wanted to keep it in the family - however at the time he wasn't interested or really financially able to buy it as they had just bought a new house, kids starting school etc.\n\nHe recently approached me via text message to ask how much I would consider selling it for, as he is considering buying it for his kids to learn on. Now of course, I jumped at the idea as once my mum's house is sold, I don't really want to keep it in storage and it certainly has no place in my cosy apartment. I would love him to have it, however he is wanting me to sell it to him and from what I understand is quite happy to pay for it. I did have it valued a couple of years ago when I was hoping to sell it back then, however I am wondering whether I need to provide some sort of 'family discount'? \n\nHe is doing me a favour and would essentially be taking it off my hands, but I am wondering whether it is fair to treat it the same way as if I am selling to a complete stranger,", "summary": "Brother wants to buy a piano from me, am wondering whether I need to offer some form of family discount or if I should feel guilty about naming a price even though he has offered to pay"}
{"id": "t3_1cch6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Helping GF 27 get over her trust problems.", "post": "I(27) have been with my girlfriend(27) for about 10 months now. Even though the relationship is going great, my girlfriend is afraid that I'm going to leave here. I have no plans of doing that because she's great and I want to marry her one day. I've told her that and she's alright but every once in a while, she starts saying \"what if you leave me, I don't want that. I love you so much it hurts, etc\" and she thinks that her breaking off the relationship would be better. I talk to her and calm her most of the time and it's alright. It only happens when she's not with me, hence over the phone which is hard for me to control as I can't physically comfort her.\nAlright, it's happened again while I was typing this. She says she can't \"do me any more harm by being negative like this and hopes I have a good life. She loves me and misses me always\" (I don't get annoyed or harmed, I just want us to be happy. She's amazing and I love her tonnes and she's just amazing)\nI don't want to leave her. Any suggestions on what can be done?", "summary": "GF thinks I'm going to break off with her and is sad. I have no plans of doing it. Halp ?"}
{"id": "t3_idv2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Quick advice needed on exit strategy", "post": "Me: 30, her 26.  Let me start by saying we arent, and have not been dating per se.  We have been seeing each other off and on for about 3 months, and Its been a little strange due to some other circumstances from when we first met.  \n\nNow, its movie dates (theater and home-on-the-couch), daydates with random activities, etc etc.  I REALLY like this girl, and just recently she friend zoned me.  It sucks, and I'm bummed, but I'm not here to ask about \"how to get over it\" and be all emo.  \n\nMy question is this, seeing as how I am not going to let myself be a 2nd option and/or fulfill the \"boyfriend\" role without moving things forward, how do I gracefully back out of this situation?  I guess what I want to say is something along the lines of \"what you want from me, and what I want from you are two different things, and I'm not going to let you use me for QT because its a waste of my time\".  Again, I dont want to come off as melodramatic, just am trying to back out gracefully.", "summary": "Dont know how to smoothly back out of a situation where I've turned into a backup.  Dont want to give an ultimatum or be melodramatic."}
{"id": "t3_42fbv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am jealous of the guy my friend [19F] is seeing.", "post": "This story is so silly I cant even really talk to my mates about it.\n\nI live in Australia and met a girl around the start of December on Tinder who lives in the UK (I had a Tinder plus subscription LOL). We've been talking everyday since and the whole time I thought \"this is cool, a friend from abroad.\" She's a really nice girl who is a breath of fresh air, she's chill and nice and to be honest I think we are pretty alike. I never saw her as anything other than a friend.\n\nAnyway, today she told me she is seeing someone. Now all of a sudden I kinda feel jealous of the guy she is seeing and I don't want her to be with him. What's even more silly is that I don't even want a relationship right now. I was in a relationship from Feb 2011 - May 2015 and I don't really want to get into another one right now. I mainly want clarity on how to describe how I feel right now and what I can do to help my situation.", "summary": "I'm from Australia and have a female friend in the UK and I'm jealous of the guy she is dating even though I only ever saw her as a friend and dont want a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3m8wjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I'm falling out of love", "post": "I [18 F] have been with my boyfriend [20 M] for over two years. We were long distance for a year and a half, but now we basically live together. We met online, and immediately clicked. He's always loved me more than I love him, but i still loved him quite a lot. \n\nWe've never had much in common hobby wise, but we used to share passions and morals. Now I avoid any talk about any social issue or topic at all costs because it just leads to arguing and bad attitudes. \n\nHe's very touchy-feely, and I've never been a fan of PDA. I used to deal with it and we would laugh about our differences, but now it annoys me when he won't stop kissing me.\n\nI know it sounds like i dislike a lot about him, but that's not true. He is my best friend, and i don't ever want to hurt him. It's hard to do the selfish thing and leave, when i know we'd both be losing our best friend. I was his first girlfriend, and he loves me unconditionally.\n\nI could push these thoughts away for the last few weeks, but i don't know much longer i can do it. I had a long conversation with a flirty, good lucking guy that i just can't get out of my head. I don't think its actually the hot stranger per say, but just the interaction and the tingly feeling i got inside when chatting with him.\n\nMaybe i'm just bored... maybe i'm falling out of love. Either way I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "Im losing interest in my bf of two years who is also my best friend and i don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11sm2z", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "An epiphany I had recently.", "post": "The process to getting better at anything is to fail > make improvements> try again > fail less badly > make improvements> try again > etc. \n\nThis process breaks down all too often when people get shocked or fearful after failing, and think it's easier just to not try again. Failing is part of the process, it should be looked upon as a positive step towards improvement and eventual success.\n\nWhile this is true in all facets of life, it struck a particular chord with me in the realm of dating and talking to the opposite sex. I tried asking a girl out when I was 18, it backfired and I became fearful, and as a result for the next four years I told myself it was easier to just not talk to woman, if it happened naturally it happened but I wouldn't go out of my way to do it. \n\nFast forward 4 years to last year. I'm 22, I haven't had a girlfriend or even been kissed. I knew something had to change or I'd still be like this on my death bed, so I told myself I would regularly push my comfort zones and go out of my way to talk to girls. The first few times it was an utter failure, but each successive time I got better and better. In the last year I've gone on a couple of dates, had my first kiss(es) and noticed I'm far more comfortable and confident when talking to women. I still have a long way to go, and I'll go this long way by continuing to push my comfort zones, fail, and improve.", "summary": "There is no improvement without failure."}
{"id": "t3_48e84y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my wife [25 F] 2 years, my co-worker is coming on to me and I can't control myself. Kick some sense into me.", "post": "Me and my wife (Caroline) have been married for 2 years and I'm already close to cheating. \n\nOur life\n---------------\n\nIt's good very we are very much inlove and I there's nothing I wouldn't do for her. We go on dates still watch movies talk to each other go out with other friends. \n\nWe have a house together car ect ect.\n\nOur sex life\n---------------------\n\nIt's very good she's always trying something kinky and fun. Life in the bedroom is never boring we recently talked about maybe threesome\\open relationship. But she wants to wait for a few years down the line to try that stuff.\n\nMy problem\n----------------------\n\nMy coworker (Alyssa) is very hot(not trying to sound like a pig) and has been making moves on me. She is flirting massively I've noticed her manners change when we are alone.\n\nShe is always touching me and hugging me. I was standing at my desk and she came over to talk and her breast sat on my arm. We sometimes have to be alone at night.\n\nWhen we were alone she went to the bathroom and came back. I swear more cleavage was exposed. I'm going crazy really she knows when she turns me on and even blows kisses at me.\n\nI know it's wrong but everyday I feel myself slipping and losing control. I'm afraid I'm going to give in any day now and I don't want to. I keep telling myself it's wrong and I'm married but it's getting to me.\n\nI find myself thinking about her when me and my wife are having sex. I know and I'm ashamed they I've done so. \n\nPlease help me before I make the biggest mistake of my life.", "summary": "I'm very close to cheating on my wife."}
{"id": "t3_2cpzg5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M25] would like advice on dating two people at once.", "post": "I have recently started going on a few dates with people I met on the internet. Two of these have gone further than just a single date. I have gone out on 3 or 4 dates with both. Bit of background on them and why I am confused:\n\n[F31] was the first one I went on a date with. We have been on 4 dates, but nothing in about a month as she is away for summer. We get on really well, I am really attracted to her. However we have already had one argument, where she was having a go at me because I smoke, and a few other things. She ended up breaking down and crying, saying that she really likes me but hates a lot of stuff about me too.\n\n[F24] is more recent. Been on three dates with her in the last two weeks, two of which we have spent almost an entire 24 hours together. We really click, and I should be really excited. I find her attractive and the sex is great. But I can't stop thinking about the other one.\n\nSo I have two questions:\nIs it right for me to date both of them? For clarity both have said they are fine with me dating other people, but I sense [F24] might not actually mean that.\n\nIf I am this confused after only a few dates should I just stop with both so noone gets hurt?", "summary": "confused about two people I am dating. Should I just stop?"}
{"id": "t3_vrd2l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I negotiate my first job offer?", "post": "Hey Reddit!  I need your help.  I'm a guy, in my early 20s, and just graduated from one of the better universities in central London, UK.  I've now been offered an internship in the tech sector for the next 2-3 months.  It's unpaid, but they've hinted I might be offered a position at the end.\nThat's got me thinking - what should I expect salary wise, and do I negotiate?\nI like to think I'm a pretty valuable commodity.  I've graduated from a good university, in a good, serious topic, with a 2.1 (that's a 3.0 GPA for Americans, ish).  I've got a lot of real work experience in a variety of sectors.  But I'm a recent graduate, and this is in a competitive field I'm really interested in working in.  I've also got parents who live nearby, and live there, so a huge starting salary isn't essential - but what should I be expecting?  What should I settle for?\n\nI've asked my parents, but they both work in banks, so I'm not sure how valuable their advice is.  My dad said take anything, then try and make yourself invaluable, but my mum pointed out quick promotion isn't guaranteed in technology fields, especially in a customer service/operations position, so don't settle for anything under 25k.\n\nSo, reddit, what do you think?", "summary": "early 20s recent graduate, with a good degree, 2.1, in central London.  Want to know what salary I should settle for in an entry level customer service technology position, and whether/how you negotiate/discuss these things."}
{"id": "t3_2oxvlx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my BF [29 M] of 5 years. Received a gift, want to return it.", "post": "There's not much backstory. It's my birthday and he got me a gift. I love it, but it's way too expensive. I'm not a big gift crazy person, but I appreciate these gestures. He really did a great job with it, but I KNOW he can't afford it. We are very financially open with each other, and he was laid off early this year so money has been super tight. He just started working again in a very low paying job just to make ends meet. It's taken a toll on him emotionally, not being able to afford anything and feeling like he's failed. \n\nSo I get this gift, which I love and appreciate the effort he put into getting for me, but I can't help but think we would both be better off just saving the money. I'm not sure about this, but I actually think buying this put him under triple digits in the bank, which is really not okay. He should definitely be saving since he actually still owes me money.\n\nI don't want to make it too much about money and not enough about his thoughtfulness towards me, but ... I just don't know. What can I do/say that won't hurt his feelings and make him feel like he can't even do this for me?", "summary": "BF got me an expensive gift. I don't think he should have spent the money I know he doesn't have. Should I return the gift and tell him to keep the money instead?"}
{"id": "t3_10d9rv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do we defend \"hate\" speech?", "post": "*", "summary": "Why do we protect speech that incites violence?****"}
{"id": "t3_xdaf6", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My son's birthday is tomorrow and he's with his dad... feeling bummed", "post": "Sorry if this is not the best place for this. I have only been on reddit a couple of days! \n\nMy son turns four tomorrow. His dad and I split up when I was pregnant, and he's been involved the whole time. Every birthday until now was on one of \"my days\" - I would take off work and take my son somewhere fun - zoo, park, etc. This year, however, his birthday falls on a Monday - a dreaded dad day. I was hoping I could take off the day anyway, pick him up from the sitter and do something fun and then drop him off at his dad's... but I can't. \n\nI am trying to talk myself down here. I have had him every birthday until now, which I guess was sucky for his dad. We had a lovely birthday party on Saturday with all of us there, and it was a great fun time. I made the cake, I got to see him blow out the candles, open up presents, everything. I know it's just a day and he probably won't even remember it... I just can't stand that I won't get to spend it with him.\n\nWas thinking I could take him a little tiny present at lunch time, just to see him and tell him Happy Birthday... but then I wonder if that would disrupt his day, or if I'm just being crazy.\n\nCan anyone offer some advice or kind words? I'm here putting his gifts from the party up in his room, trying to fight back tears over this and figured I'd reach out here... Thanks", "summary": "I am sad my son's spending his birthday with his dad and just need some encouragement. "}
{"id": "t3_2rhx41", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Can anyone help me with some final wedding site decisions? (already created, just need another set of eyes)", "post": "Hi weddit! Y'all have been so helpful so far! I'm wondering if I can pm someone my wedding site to get another set of eyes on there. \n\nThe wedding is destination and in the far west texas desert. I feel like if I were a guest I'd want as much info as possible, but now I'm getting self conscious about it. I'm afraid the site will be overwhelming to guests or it will look like I'm going nuts about being a bride. The truth is we are just so excited about this place for our wedding and we want our guests to know it's worth the trip out there.", "summary": "Please check out my wedding site as a mock guest and tell me if it's overwhelming or not?"}
{"id": "t3_c7t0p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend and I both have stuff that belongs to our previous SO's. What is the best way to go about giving it back?", "post": "I have some magazines that belong to my ex boyfriend's dad, he asked for them the day after we broke up (in January), and I just haven't gotten around to giving them back. He hasn't contacted me since then. We do have mutual friends I could do it through, including my current boyfriend, but I would like some stuff back my boyfriend has of mine (nothing major, just stuff I would like to have for the sake of having if I was given the option). \n\nMy boyfriend has his ex's guitar that she gave him when they broke up because it reminds her of him. Now she wants it back, and often texts him at weird times asking for it back. (like Thursday around 12 am.) I think he should wait until his test results come back so he won't have to contact her twice if they come back positive. He is really not looking forward to seeing her again. \n\nIs there a protocol for this? They haven't seen the stuff since January or so.", "summary": "My bf and I have things that belong to our exes. What is the protocol for giving that stuff back? "}
{"id": "t3_4s148v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] and boyfriend [18 M] why is it so hard to breakup?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. However, as much as I love him and even though he's my best friend, I think we should break up. I've tried once this week and backed out and couldn't stop crying because I'm so scared to lose him and I don't want to hurt him. I wish I could do this without hurting him but I don't know how. \n\nWe've been long distance for awhile and when we are together, everything is 100% okay. When we are apart we end up fighting every week and two weeks ago he broke up with me, only to ask for me back two hours later. \n\nI feel scared in my relationship because weird things will make him upset or sad, so I have to be careful. I've posted once before, but a long time ago I cheated by sending sexts. He has never forgiven me and a few months ago got abusive and called me names, threatened to leave me, said I ruined his life and some other things. I've always given him full access to all my accounts and stuff but he's slowly weeded out some of my friends. I had to fight with him over being able to talk to a long time friend, who is a guy but gay. \n\nI've never loved anyone this much in my life before and I'm scared I'll be making the biggest mistake of my life. We have a lot in common, we both want the same kind of futures and when we aren't fighting, he's the sweetest person in the world. I'm just lost. He's my best friend and I tell him everything. I worry he will hurt myself if I leave him too. \n\nThank you for reading this and I'm sorry if it's confusing. I'm on mobile and I'm not sure how to phrase everything. \n\nI've never left anyone, I've only been broken up with and I know how awful it is. You feel like you've tried your best and yet nothing was good enough and it hurts like hell. I don't want him to ever feel like that.", "summary": "I feel as though a breakup is inevitable but every time I try I back out or end up taking him back. I'm scared to lose him even though I know this relationship is unhealthy. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_133gh2", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat still cries, it is unbearable, please help!", "post": "We have a 10 month old kitten of Ragdoll (male). He is usually sweet cat, but he started to cry two months ago and since then it is unbearable. Really. He usually do this in the evening, in front of doors but not every time (sometimes he just walking, looking really pissed off and crying). We neutered him at 02/10/12 but there is no f*cking change. I took him to appartment of my parents for a week, because we just cannot stand it anymore. He was silent there and apparently happy. \n\nIt is just heartbreaking. I don't want to give it up, but it is hard. I think that my SO just hate our cat. He didn't want him and this isn't really helping to make a good relationship between them. I am desperate. Really. It effects our lives, our relationship, everyting. I want to keep that cat, because most of the time he is just sweet... But that fucking moewing is just too hard. \n\nWe tried to ignore it, it doesn't help either. I think that he is not interested in us, he is just somehow unhappy and I don't have any idea why.", "summary": "male neutered cat every evening meows "}
{"id": "t3_45unci", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Should I turn down a 38K offer with a fast food restaurant to start my massage therapy career?", "post": "Hey guys. I'm 19, I'll be 20 later this year. For the last two years I've worked at a Taco Bell, been a manager there for a year and a half. I recently completed a massage therapy training course and I'm due to get my license in a couple of weeks. I told my boss I was almost done with school and that my last day would be the end of this month. The owner of the franchise called me and set up a meeting, in which she told me that she really liked my work ethic and thought I was doing a good job as a shift lead. She then offered me a job at a different store as a general manager. I would need some additional training and it would be about a year down the road when I officially start there as GM. Should I place my massage career path on hold to take this opportunity? I love doing massage therapy and was pretty mentally prepared to be done with Taco Bell. However, at my young age this would triple my income and I'm already very familiar with what kind of work I'd be doing as a GM.", "summary": "Should I place a massage therapy career on hold to take a  management position and 3x the pay at a Taco Bell?"}
{"id": "t3_2lqt7i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (22M) am an extrovert, my live in SO (22F) is an introvert. Things are rocky...", "post": "My SO has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, however her actions mirror those of someone with dependent personality disorder as well as bi-polar. We have been together 3 years, living together for about a year now. \n\nOur friends (initially my friends, she's not the greatest at making her own outside of work and such but has been very much accepted by all of my friends) have a very active social life and often invite me to go out with them. However, she does not like to drink as it has a tendency to exacerbate mood instability. If I make any indication that I want to go, she gets mad because she doesn't feel comfortable home alone (she has some mild self harm in her fairly recent history that worries me in this case). If I then renege she's still mad because I'm then only sticking around out of pity. If I don't make any attempt to go then she gets mad when my friends ask to see me more because she doesn't want them to blame her for my growing lack of social appearances. If she goes out with me then when she doesn't have fun it's my fault for \"forcing her to go out.\" Its a lose lose lose lose situation...\n\nIt's not just alcohol related events either, frolf etc yields the same issue. She likes my friends, they like her, but she doesn't really like to leave the apt when it comes down to it.", "summary": "How do I balance this conflict of intro/extrovert? I just want to make everyone happy but sometimes that becomes directly impossible, nobody gets what they want in the end and nobody is happy."}
{"id": "t3_3xy4k7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] would really like to date her [15F]... But she's the sister of my best friend [17M].", "post": "I [18M] know her [15F] now over a Year (since I know my friend [17M]). We haven't really talked to much I saw her from time to time when I was at his place over the weekend.\n\nAbout 2 months ago we came a little closer (I was at his place again and we played on his Xbox One when he went to bed early so we played Dance Central [Dancing Game] until 3am).\nSince then we've talked more often, she hang out with us and 2 Weeks ago we began texting.\n\nNow I would really like to ask her out on a date. But I still haven't talked to my friend about this... I mean she is still his sister, wouldn't it be wierd, plus she is a little young in my opinion(she's her age way ahead in mind).", "summary": "I'd like to date the sister of my best friend. But I don't know if she's to young and don't how to start all of this."}
{"id": "t3_3fen55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17M] girlfriend [17F] doesn't want to go out with me since 2 weeks, after plans for going abroad studying together.", "post": "First of all, let me elaborate on the whole plan of studying together. We're moving from where we live now with full support from both mine and her parents. That isn't the problem. The problem is that we haven't gone out in 2 weeks now, and I'd want to discuss everything a bit more with her, but I don't find a phone call suitable. Last week she's been busier with stuff I haven't asked about, and we usually chat after 1am. 3 nights ago we chatted till 6AM.\n\nEvery time I approach the situation she gets mad and tells me she won't do something she doesn't feel like doing (going out) and usually ignores me for 2 days after that. Yesterday came some good news and after acting a bit cold to her she asked me if everything's alright and I told her I don't feel like talking, after which she said that she understands and will leave me alone. \n\nShe has told me before that she likes to deal with her problems alone, but I can't cope with that, and it's super annoying because every time I start talking about this she gets annoyed and ignores me.", "summary": "GF avoids going out with me for 2 weeks because she doesn't FEEL like it, gets mad when I ask her why, all after we decided to go studying abroad."}
{"id": "t3_ibxed", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, how would you handle this?", "post": "Alright so I am an only child (16 years of age) and live with my mother and her live in boyfriend. We have 5 dogs and 4 cats. My problem is that my mother and her boyfriend refuse to take any responsibility to tidy the house. Things are getting pretty out of hand, they just will not pick up after themselves, at all.    \n  For example, my boyfriend and I just recently cleaned the entire living area (being the kitchen and the living room). Wiped down everything, vacuumed, swept, and steam cleaned (bleh, 2 of our dogs are not potty trained). It looked fantastic. I come home that very night, roughly 7-8 hours later, and it was trashed. Shit spilt all over the counters, wrappers and dishes scattered everywhere, trash on the floor, etc. Our help went greatly unappreciated.   \n  I've spoken with my mother about this and she understands where I'm coming from. She does her best to help around the house but my main problem is her boyfriend and our animals. Her boyfriend believes he is \"too good\" to help with any of the chores. Also the dogs just add to the issue, a matter of fact we just recused a new dog. Like I said things are getting out of hand and I am no longer able to deal with it. So reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "My mother, her live in bf, and our 5 dogs are fucking up the house and no one cares enough to help. I am the only one who even cleans anymore. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1a47ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my best friend is being cheated on, not sure what to do.", "post": "My best friend (17, f) has been dating her boyfriend (18) for about a year, and she is really in love with him. My friends and I never really liked him, we always thought that he wasn't always the best to her, but it seemed like he loved her so we left it alone. Well, his best friend told my other friend that the boyfriend supposably hates my best friend and cheats on her whenever he gets the chance and the only reason he hasn't dumped her yet is because he's afraid she will kill herself.\n\nOf course, I feel horrible and I feel like I should tell her. But honestly, she has some severe depression issues and I feel like if I tell her she honestly might kill herself or go into such an extreme depressive state that could last for a very long time. Also, my friend who told me doesn't want me telling her because she doesn't want to get in trouble and she feels like the messenger is always shot so we should just stay out of it (this friend would be really pissed at me if I told anone else, so much so that if I were to tell people it might loose my friendship with her which I don't want). I really do want to tell my best friend though- I feel like she has the right to know (if it were me, I'd want to know)- but I am honestly concerned as to what would happen if she were to find out the truth. They had broken up for like 3 days 6 months ago and she literally woudn't stop crying the whole 3 days and didn't eat or sleep. I just really don't know what to do here.", "summary": "found out my best friend's boyfriend hates her and is cheating on her, but I am afraid of what telling her might do even though I feel like she deserves to know."}
{"id": "t3_3kci6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] want to sue my deadbeat ex-boyfriend [26M] of four months for money for a medical procedure.", "post": "I met this guy, \"Rick\", at work. We started talking one day and I thought he was really interesting and we exchanged numbers. Within one week we were dating, and things became intimate quickly after that. He told me he had an annoying roommate so we never went to his place. \n\n   The other day a coworker drove him home from work, and stayed to smoke. I heard today from the co-worker that his \"annoying roommate\" is actually his girlfriend and her son. I confronted him about it, and he says that its true and he never should have started anything with me. I told him I never want to see him again.\n\nToday is 2 weeks later and it's been 47 days since my last period. I've never been that late before. Recently I've passed out in the shower, I threw up at the sight of a cheeseburger which I normally love, and my breasts are super sore. I really think I'm pregnant.\n\nSo here's my problem. I'm the oldest of 10 kids and my parents believe abortion is a mortal sin. I have no money or the means to get one myself. Rick refused to pay for an abortion. I don't want to tell my parents because they will make me keep the baby. \n\nCan I quietly sue my ex-boyfriend for the money to pay for an abortion?", "summary": "> "}
{"id": "t3_2qvr2c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my guard down around my roommates", "post": "This didn't happen today, but I just found out about it today.\n\nStory:\n\nRandom Wednesday during my senior year in college, my roommates and I and a group of friends all go to the bars for drink specials. I get uncharacteristically wasted very fast. We go home and I'm acting insane, asking people to hit me in the face and literally throwing my phone at the concrete floors, completely destroying it. I then proceed to run away, shirtless, in winter when it was around 15\u00b0F (~-10\u00b0C) outside. Thankfully my friend pulls up in his truck and takes me to WAHO, which I don't remember at all. After coming back home my roommates forbid me from leaving, so I jump off the balcony to escape. I then climbed a fence in the back of our apartment complex and took a short nap in some bushes until I began to notice how fucking cold it was outside. Since I didn't have my keys, I had to then climb my balcony and I finally went to bed. I wake up the next day feeling terribly embarrassed and out a $300 phone, wondering what the fuck was wrong with me and how I could have acted like such an idiot. I've been super careful about never taking my eyes off my drink since I was in HS, but that night I let my guard down and went to the bathroom while my drink was in the kitchen. My roommates, of course, took the opportunity to slip two 1 mg Xanax into my drink.", "summary": "My roommates drugged me and I destroyed my iPhone and probably almost froze to death."}
{"id": "t3_2ifcm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] found out today that S/O [20 F] slept with someone months ago while we broke up for a few days.", "post": "So this will be difficult to explain but I will do my best. My significant other and I had been dating for over a year and the relationship was not the best. A lot of fighting and drama. So things went bad this summer and things ended around September briefly. However, I realized that the vast amount of the fights were caused by me as she looses her temper quickly and I would push her buttons. I therefore came back to her telling her I would be different which I have been and completely different person to her. We were only really broken up per say for maybe a couple days to a week. During that time she slept with someone else. Having not known this I came back to her a begged for her to give me another chance. These past months have been great. No more fighting and no more drama.\n\nThat was until today when she told me she had slept with some else when we \"broke up\". During this time she would text him while she was over and assured me I had nothing to worry about. She would even get angry with me when I asked her about it and why she was texting him so much, and just to be clear we are still not bf and gf but were trying to make things work. She works with him so she will see him still regularly. However, she was very upset and said she would break off all contact with him so I wouldn't leave her. I feel so dumb about this whole thing because one of friends knew and never told me either. I was lied to on numerous occasions and just feel so hurt and alone. If i would have none this the night I came begging to her then I would have left her. I just and unsure of what to do. I want to be with her but I don't know if I can ever look past this.", "summary": "S/O slept with someone else while we were broken up for a couple days after a bad relationship ended. We got back together to try and make things work with me putting in all the effort and things have been great. Found out today nearly two months later she slept with this guy and she has been in contact with him daily sense. Was very upset when she told me and begged me not to leave her and said she would break off all contact with him. Don't know if I should move on or stay with her."}
{"id": "t3_1tuun6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Mom(48) is going through midlife crisis, wants to divorce dad (55) after 25 years. Came out of nowhere, (18m) I have no idea what to do.", "post": "Hey reddit, so Im clueless on what to do here, my mom and dad have been married for 25 years, always relatively happy I thought, then last year my mom told me that maybe she didnt love my dad, but she was too old to do anything. \n\nFast forward to now, Im with my parents for the holidays, and out of the blue, my mom tells my dad about the idea of divorce, and that they should split up. My mom doesn't know that I know, but my dad just started crying, after I asked him what was wrong, I have NEVER seen my dad cry. \n\nMy mom told my dad that she wants to try new things and that she doesn't love him anymore. Not to mention my mom I also think fears aging, she works with so many young people, and has recently started doing so many surgeries to try and look younger, as well as dressing much younger.\n\nMy mom told my dad not to tell me, but it inevitably happened, I have no idea what to do or say or anything, does anyone have any ideas of what I could do?", "summary": "Mom wants to divorce, dad is in tears, I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3i5qug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21f] boyfriend [22m] friends are excluding him [22m,21m] after he invited them places together", "post": "I just don't understand why this happens. It's happened to me before too. \n\nMy boyfriend Ben* has been friends with Tim* since they were 5 and Jo* since they were 16. Tom and Jo never hung out alone. Ben recently invited Tim and Jo out all the time because Tim broke up with his girlfriend. They saw a movie together and went out together about 5 times with Ben Tim and Jo and other assorted male friends of Ben.\n\nNow Tim and Jo see each other all the time and don't invite Ben. This really upsets Ben. They go and see movies and go out clubbing. Ben just invited Tim somewhere and he told him that he already has plans with Jo. \n\nBen is justifiably upset. I am just wondering why this happens. It may sound really silly but i have had this happen to me before as well. I am confused. It seems really rude. I have always been inclusive instead of exclusive and when I organise anything I always invite everyone I think may want to come even if I know they won't. I have never done this to anyone ever. But it's obviously a common thing.\n\nI'm just wondering why. And how to go about fixing this? Ben is so hurt. Is it the kind of thing you just leave it and don't say anything? Ben has already mentioned that he was kind of hurt about it to Jo but they still aren't inviting him.\n\n*shitty made up fake names", "summary": "my boyfriend invited his two best friends out a lot in a medium size group a handful of times now they hang out alone and don't invite him. His hurt."}
{"id": "t3_52f8vl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[33/F] with my very bf [35/M] of a very short time period, entering possible alcoholic territory.", "post": "This is a hard one. The bf has so many amazing qualities. Smart, driven, hard worker, hilarious. Our personalities mesh very well and we both feel intensely attracted to one another. As an (important) aside, his sole surviving parent is in the hospital  (soon to be hospice) with stage 4 cancer and there is no good prognosis. Obviously, this has been a really difficult time for him. Where I'm struggling is I'm suspecting there may be an alcohol problem but I can't tell if it's circumstantial or long term, or really even the magnitude of the issue.\n\nI asked him if there was an issue and he said there may be and it has been particularly bad lately with the grief. But he also seems to suggest there is really nothing wrong with the drinking. He's highly functioning and it's not impacting him during the day. He asked me what would be wrong with him drinking and having never dated someone with this issue, I stumbled in my response. I basically said any type of addiction is bad, his health would be impacted (his liver etc) and that I just simply  can't be with an alcoholic. I know I can't handle it. I like the sober version of him and I just don't want this to be an issue in my relationship. I don't feel like I responded the way I should have. It's as if I completely missed the logic on why being an alcoholic is bad because don't we all just know that it is?\n\nAnyway, can anyone shed some light on this? Do I try to figure out the magnitude of the issue first to see how had it is? Do I try to revisit the conversation armed with more reasons as to why it's bad? Do I accept this is a particularly painful time for him and see what happens after? How does one know if someone is an alcoholic during the initial dating period?", "summary": "Suspect BF is an alcoholic. Can this work?"}
{"id": "t3_3h3qz5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Jealous of bf's creations?", "post": "I'm 19 (f) and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for almost a month and a half, and have been friends for 5 months. \n\nHe's big into drawing and video games and he's going to the art institute after college. I don't know if this matters, but he's black and I'm hispanic. He's been making characters for a possible series, and all the males are various races, but the girls are always black. And you know black girls, they've got beautiful curly hair and big lips and amazing bodies and this is ridiculous but I'm jealous of them? I'm not like his characters at all and it makes me think he wants someone like them. I know he says he loves me but I can't get them out of my head.", "summary": "jealous of animated girls"}
{"id": "t3_1yctc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/18] have been talking to / dating this girl [F/18] for about 2 months. 6 months ago she had a bad break-up and told me she still had feelings for her ex who cheated on her.", "post": "I have been talking to / dating this girl for about 2 months and we like eachother. Right now its just flirty and talking no physical contact yet. She told me she got out of a relationship of 2 years 6 months ago where she got cheated on. Eventho she doesn't care about him anymore and doesnt want to be with him anymore, she still loves him.  \n  \nI want to get into a relationship with this girl and she is giving me obvious signs she wants to be in one too, the problem is that I don't want to be into a relationship with her when she is still in love with her ex. She doesnt see that as a problem but Im not happy with it.  \n  \nHow can I make this clear to her that before we go any further she needs to forget about her ex, without pushing her away from me and sounding like a dick.", "summary": "Girl I am dating still has feelings for her ex, eventho she doesnt want to be with him. How can I tell her I do not want to go any further with this relationship until she lets go of the feelings she still has for him?"}
{"id": "t3_1g0hiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl (15/F) I (19/M) met a few weeks ago suddenly seems distant after days of constant texting after meeting in real life", "post": "ok, so about 2 weeks ago i had an overly bold moment where I wrote \"you're beautiful\" and my phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to a cute girl (friend of a neighboor) at a neighborhood party.\n\n A few minutes later she texted me from a friend's phone and gave me hell for doing that. Later I found out this was her friend not her. 3 days later she texted me appologizing for friend and just starting a normal converstion. A few thousand texts later we're pretty close and talk through teh day just getting to know eachother.\n\n Today we both happened to be at the mall at the same time so we managed to run into eachother and talk for about 15 minutes before she had to go. Since then she hasn't been nearly as talkative with me and has been giving one word responses all day or not responding at all for hours.\n\nShould I be worried? Should I care?\n\nNote, we agreed to just be friends (for now or whatever) because of ages. I don't necessarily want to date her at present, I just enjoyed having someone to talk to", "summary": "got courage to give number to girl, texted for a few weeks, once we met again she stops talking to me"}
{"id": "t3_21ef7v", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Should I be worried about getting a blood clot?", "post": "Hello,\n\nI'm writing this because of several factors, I'm not usually the paranoid type, but basically:\n\nFirst an intro about me, I'm 21 years old male, 5'7, I'm in decent physical shape (used to be obese, now a little overweight and losing weight at a decent pace). I don't have any major illnesses, except depression, I take 10g of cipralex daily.  \n\n1. My family has a history of blood clot (my father had one in his leg and required an operation etc etc)\n\n2. I have some kind of depression, which gives me physical symptoms, so sometimes I feel pain in one of my my legs, and it always makes me anxious about having a blood clot, I have no idea what to do, since it's obviously not a good idea to go to a doctor to check for blood clot every time depression shows physical symptoms. (I am getting treated for depression, the treatment is going well, but I believe i'm always going to get these \"physical\" symptoms every now and then)\n\n3. How can I stop being worried about this? And how can I make sure to prevent it happening to me?", "summary": "family has history of blood clot, depression expresses physical pain in legs which makes me anxious, how can I stop being worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2ng2fa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M/16] break up with my Gf [G/16] of 6 months?", "post": "Ive been going out with this girl for 6 months. May not seem long, but me being a younger guy, it is fairly long. Anyways this is what seems to happen in all relationships; the beginning is all love and kisses, and now we fight then kiss. She even calls ourselves the \"bipolar couple\" because we can go from fighting to saying I love you in minutes. Most of our fights are from her self harm or pill taking. \n\nI'm a very happy person, and the reason I first talked to her was because she was crying, and I made her smile when she was sad. I got together with her after she confessed her pill taking and self harm, because i wanted to change her. I wanted her happy, but she hides her real feelings just to see me \"happy\". But I can't shake the feeling like this isn't supposed to be.. She just told me tonight that over the weekend she took more pills and had the greatest sleep in a long time, and that she woke up so happy. I'm at a loss of what to do..\n\n Sorry for a long post about my life, thank you very much for reading.", "summary": "gf and i together 6 months, dont feel like its working. what do"}
{"id": "t3_1lcq1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/F) want to effectively communicate with boyfriend (30/M) that his recent behavior leaves me feeling neglected.", "post": "I've been dating current boyfriend for a little over two months and things have been great. He's funny, charming, and usually very thoughtful. However, recently things have changed a bit.\n\nHe's been extremely busy at work -- a lot of people recently moved on to new organizations in his office so he's handling a lot more than his normal work load -- and I'm trying to be as supportive as possible because I know he's so stressed and wants to do a good job. \n\nHowever he's recently been cutting out on our plans without giving me a heads up, so I end up waiting to hear from him for hours at a time because I think our plans are still on. When he does get in touch with me he's really apologetic and citing that work kept him away, but it feels like being stood up every time, and it's hurtful. I feel like I'm no longer a priority for him. \n\nIt also seems to be reopening old wounds. My previous (and first) long term relationship ended over a year and a half ago for similar reasons (the straw on the camel's back being that ex was supposed to pick me up from an international airport when I came to visit him during a semester abroad and showed up almost 6 hours late). \n\nI don't want to be in another relationship where I'm simply an option, but I don't know how to talk to him about it in order to convey this. Do I bring up the past baggage? Do I simply address the surface issue? Help!", "summary": "Current boyfriend keeps cutting out on plans without telling me and I feel like I'm being stood up. Although he seems genuinely apologetic I need to convey to him that this can't continue."}
{"id": "t3_26p18j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to break up with girlfriend (19) of almost 3 years. Any advice someone can give me (18) more info below", "post": "So I've(18m) been dating my gf since I was in 10th grade. We graduated hs last year and it wasn't great. The beginning was solid and then senior year she began to like her friend. We took a break and they dated for 2 months. I hooked up with her alot in those months(i saw other people too nothing serious tho) They broke up and she apologizes and I took her back. That was a year ago. Now we're dating and everything is fine. Shes really into it which makes this suck more. I plan on joining the navy and been debating ending it. I still have to see a recruiter been holding it off till after summer. My plan with us was to date and break up with her before I go. But now I'm thinking I should do it now and concentrate on the navy with no distractions. To be honest never fully came to terms with what she did even when I thought I was over it. I love her and I have a lot of fun hanging out with her but something tells me this would be the best thing for us both. She's going to college next year for her 2nd year and I know guys will be all over her and I'll be away at the navy. Doesn't make me that confident in us. The recruiting process can take a bit that's why I'd thought we'd have time but now I'm not sure that's the smart thing to do.  We've broken up before but it never lasted.  Any advice?", "summary": "I'm considering breaking up with my gf"}
{"id": "t3_3sda44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] And my girlfriend [18F] having boring skype calls. What else can we talk about?", "post": "My gf and I have known each other for a couple years, and we've been dating for a year and 5 months now. We would always talk at night via skype/skype calling. We've done this literally every day since the start of our relationship. There have been very few times where we did not skype either because she was away with her family in a remote location with crappy reception, we spent the majority of the day and night together and are tired, or schoolwork etc etc. For the past couple weeks I noticed a drop in quality in our convos over skype calls. It bothers me because I always want to keep the calls upbeat, funny, interesting and grabbing. I find myself sometimes drifting off into space because of my damn ADHD and/or drowsiness. Can anyone give me any tips on how to make the converstions better and what to talk about besides the same ol' \"How was your day?\" topic?", "summary": "Night calls starting to get boring, how can I kick things up a notch so every night isn't boring."}
{"id": "t3_2xrlio", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not Checking my Ports.", "post": "Hey guys, so I just fucked up a few minutes ago, lemme explain.\n\nIt's 2 in the morning and i'm 16, I have my own room and laptop, it's a simple laptop, a chromebook, but it does what I need it to do. However, I'm also a heavy listener of music and as such have a nice pair of over the ear headphones. So i come into my room, I had just gotten back from using the bathroom after trying to fall asleep for the past four hours, but try as I might I can't sleep.\n\nAs I come back into my room I decide that sleep isn't happening so I instead opt to go to grab my computer and surf the web. I begin surfing and after a while I decide to put on some music, I check to make sure my headset is plugged in. Now, my headset has two plugs a USB and an audio/mic cable. I can feel that it's plugged into the USB port but the audio cable isn't plugged in so I quickly fix that, however my chromebook only has one input that works as either a mic port or an audio out port.\n\nI plug in the audio cable, not really looking, and pull up [this.] The song starts up and I notice it's a bit quiet, so I bump up the volume on my chromebook until it's at full volume, at this point it's listenable and I'm pleasantly rocking out. About 2 minutes later my dad bursts into the room, yelling at the top of his lungs about how he has work tomorrow and I need to turn that down immediately.\n\nI'm confused for a moment before I look down and notice that... My mic cable was plugged in instead of my audio out cable.\nSince I had noise cancelling headphones I hadn't noticed them yelling at me to turn it off, and I hadn't noticed that it was so quiet even at max volume because I had those on...", "summary": "Mix up mic input and audio output cables for my headset and end up blasting Rock music at full volume at 2:00 in the morning."}
{"id": "t3_t0y8f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 18 and I've been feeling crappy lately. I'd like to talk to reddit about my life, and see how different things have affected who I currently am.", "post": "I don't really know what to talk about here, or why I'm even posting this. But I know I could benefit from therapy, and for monetary reasons I can't pursuit a real therapist. I'm 18 and I've had a lot of stuff happen in my life. I thought I could ask reddit for help.  I'm just looking to talk about life and everything, and maybe some people can offer insight. Just to put this to bed, this is a dummy account so I'm not here to be a karma whore.  Well here's some of the shit that's happened in my short life. In 2008 my 5 year old cousin died in a car accident driven by my Aunt who was high on prescription pills at the time.  My other cousin, who was 20 at the time, was also addicted to prescription pills.  The two both went to rehab and are clean for years now.  That same aunt had my uncle cheat on her with a man, (hes out of the closet now) and they're going through a divorce.  Also, my moms cousin who was like an uncle to me shot himself about a month ago.  My Grandfather stayed with us in a bed in our living room while we cared for him for about a year until he died of cancer in 2007.  I feel like this has something to do with my inability to communicate with women my age who I feel attracted to, and it leads to my being socially awkward with my friends and causes me to not be looked at fondly by other peers of mine.  I just feel like I should talk to someone from outside my life about this, so here goes nothing. Help me out reddit.", "summary": "I've been feeling kindof crappy lately, can't see a traditional therapist for monetary reasons.  Just asking reddit to talk about life and help me just explore my inner mind."}
{"id": "t3_zn7va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dear reddit, would my college life be easier if I started college without commitments? As in break up with my girlfriend", "post": "relationship info: Both 18 years of age, I am a male, relationship is 4 years as of two months ago.\n\nI'm going to a school that's 2 hours by train from where she is going and I scheduled my classes so I can come home weekends and see her, but lately we've been arguing a bit (not too much but it's related to me going away for school) and I've been wondering if college would be better if I broke up with her. I really don't want to because I've been dating her for 4 years and I really think she is the one because I love her immensely (sorry to get sappy reddit) and can't think about being without her, but people have always said these relationships don't work out and even she is skeptical but I want to try. I just need other people's perspectives, thank you reddit.", "summary": "going to school two hours away from gf, want to make relationship last and thrive, but people and signs point otherwise, need opinions."}
{"id": "t3_2l2t8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my 21 [F] girlfriend of 4 months, Do I tell her about my past?", "post": "So, Ive been debating about this for a long time..there are 2 things I feel very uncomfortable sharing with anybody.\n\n1. I had a surgery on my nose many years ago. It was done to improve my breathing....but honestly I went through with it because I paid extra to change the shape of my nose as I did not like it and I was bullied over it throughout my life. We are both jewish, and she has a bump on her nose, and I feel like her knowing this would all just be really uncomfortable because shes insecure about it.\n\n2. During 2013 and some scattered instances this year. I got severely depressed following a breakup and one of the ways I acted out was that I had sex with men off of craiglist. I was very lonely, and I have no desire to do that stuff again. I am very sexually attracted to my girlfriend, but this is something I did because there is a part of me that also gets sexually aroused by men. I don't want a relationship with a man whatsoever. I don't have an STD either. Absolutely nobody knows about this.", "summary": "I had a nose job, I had sex with men at one point. Do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_18rjce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) seem to be only falling for women who have been hurt in the past by men cheating on them", "post": "The past three women I've(22M) been with for an extended period of time have all had a lot of problems guys cheating on them in the past and generally treating them poorly and it has made relationships difficult for them. Is this more pervasive than I thought especially among my generation or am I just unlucky/attracted to girls like this?\n\nThe first one I was in a relationship with but had huge trust issues. She(21F) would check my text messages/facebook/reddit accounts/email with no real cause. I didnt ever really notice it but she would tell me sometimes because she felt bad she did it. Like I'd get a text from an ex or something but then id kind of brush the ex of in my response so my gf at the time would read it and feel bad about being suspicious.\n\nThe second one(21F) I was hooking up with for 6 months, and while it started as just a hook up, it turned into something more but she refused to call it a relationship or a boyfriend/girlfriend thing because of how she had been treated by past relationships. She ended it because it was feeling too much like a relationship to her after a while and thats not what she wants.\n\nThe most recent one(22F) I went out on a few dates with but, despite going really well and her telling me she did like me like that, she said  she didn't want to get into a relationship because of how her last relationships had treated her.\n\nFor the girls who told me they didn't want a relationship, it wasn't one of the cases where they were saying it because they just didn't want a relationship with me, neither have been in relationships since they told me they didn't want one.", "summary": "The girls I am attracted to have major issues with trust and commitment because of previous relationships. Is this super common with my generation or am I just unlucky/attracted to these types of girls"}
{"id": "t3_4017eu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning my brother's tongue.", "post": "This FU just happened a number of minutes ago. My parents are out the door, and I am left home alone to avoid any crap they might give me.\n\nI went downstairs while my parents were getting ready, and grabbed my 6 y/o brother some milk. He says he wants it \"wormed up\" so I microwave it. I never really do this, so I'm sitting here thinking *\"Ok, 1 minute should do the trick. Yeah, that seems about right.\"* So I put it in for a minute, then hand it to him. My dad comes downstairs. He takes a drink, spits it out and says \"Holy crap that's hot!\" and in all his little kid rage chucks the bottle across the room. My dad is yelling at me, and my mom says she always puts it in for 30 seconds. Woops. I told them I did (lie) and I made up some bullshit about the microwave's power level being higher or something. I got away with it! As for my brother, he has minor burns on his tongue. Sorry little bro!", "summary": "Over-nuked my brother's milk and scalded his tongue. Bullshitted my way out of it."}
{"id": "t3_4668v2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my Girlfriend [28F] dating for 1+ years plan on getting engaged soon but she doesn't want her to tell her friends about us until after we're married.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for more than a year now. We met though some common friends. She currently works and lives in my hometown although she's not from here originally. She has a lot of friends back home and has managed to make new ones here (mostly her colleagues from work). Her colleagues are good people and I have met and even hung out with them on several occasions to the extent that I'm considered one among their circle of friends. They know my girlfriend and I are dating.\n\nMy girlfriend and I do have plans of settling down together (marriage) in the long term and we have talked about this on several occasions. We were talking about getting engaged later this year (we're not from the US and our custom/culture dictates that we have a formal engagement ceremony with family and friends) when she mentioned that she doesn't want to tell her office colleagues (our friends) nor invite them to the ceremony. In fact, she said she'd like to inform them only after we got married, meaning we'd be engaged to each other and no one would know nor would we invite them for both the engagement or the wedding, barring one person. When I asked her why she wanted to do that she said that they'd ask her too many personal questions about our relationship, especially from her girlfriends (not that we have anything to hide anyway, atleast that's what I feel).\n\nNow, I do understand it can be annoying if people put their nose into personal matters but I don't think that can or should be a reason for not inviting people for your engagement and wedding. I really didn't think much about it when she said it but I've been pondering about it lately and it seems strange the more I think of it. I thought that getting engaged and married would be one of those biggest life events that you'd want to tell everyone you know but this seems to be quite the opposite. Not to mention that it'd create a bitter feeling among the uninvited and add the fact that she has to go back to the same office to work with them post-marriage. I\n\nIs there any legitimacy in what my girlfriend is saying?", "summary": "GF and I dating for more than a year, plan to get engaged and married down the line. GF doesn't want to invite or even mention about us getting engaged and married to common friends (her work colleagues) until we're actually married because of the questions they might ask her about our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1lwetj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[15M] and my crush[16F]. Giving me the cold shoulder and acting like I don't exist. Any help or suggestions appreciated.", "post": "So, I've tried a few strategies in getting to know her better.\nShe's 16, beautiful, thoughtful, playful and kind. I'm not romantically interested in her per say, just want to get to know her better and develop a friendship. I'm a handsome guy, (in my humble opinion) and I've never done anything to upset her.\n\nSo, I've known her for around 2 years now. We've had a few short discussions about whatever, and she seems to have taken an interest in me. We don't live too far away from each other, but just far enough that I don't get to see her on a regular basis. She and I both have Instagram accounts, and that is where I've last interacted with her.\n\nHer family is slightly odd, but nothing crazy. Her parents are probably in their 50's and her brother is 18. I'm acquainted with her sibling, and we talk once in a while. Her father, though, has always been odd and reluctant to talk to me let alone include me in what they do. This may just be a fatherly defense mechanism, so it should be taken with a healthy dose of my favorite seasoning.\n\nRecently, my IG account was set to open. She liked a photo, which was a good sign. That's all, though. About 2 weeks later, I grew a pair and followed her. Since then, she hasn't responded in any way. It should be noted I tried making my profile private, as an attempt to try to draw her in. So far this has been unsuccessful, and instead of paying attention to me, someone she somewhat knows, she follows douchbags. Along with that, I've developed friendships with a few of her female friends, and I didn't experience any reluctance. \n\nSO...observations? Comments? Thoughts? Chuck Testa? Let me know!\n(BTW I can't use link flair on this device. Sorry!)", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl and she's acting like I don't exist. I'm posting here asking for your thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_4ll4qk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] started counting my calories, mum [51/F] just mocked me for it.", "post": "So on Wednesday this week I decided enough is enough. I want to loose weight so I've started using an app that helps me keep track of calories and all that. Today, I've been at work, told my mum to not throw packaging away so I could get the details off them. She threw them away so I had to go through the bin to find them again.\n\nJust before my Sunday meal, she was preparing it when her and my nan just started mocking me, saying how I'm doing it wrong and how I won't loose weight. It hurt. Alot. \n\nTomorrow is my mums birthday, I got her a card and her present should arrive tomorrow. There's a birthday meal tomorrow evening for her too. After what happened today, I don't want to go because it'll make me look fat or desperate. I don't want to eat in front of anyone now.\n\nI've been picked on all through school and gained weight through  that. My mums friend said she knew someone who they called 10 bellies and then started calling me 7 bellies shortly after which took a blow at my self-esteem and confidence which is probably why I've decided to loose weight.", "summary": "Live with mum, wanted to loose weight, she mocked me for it today, it hurt."}
{"id": "t3_43pre4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying school property", "post": "So to start off, This Fuck Up happened last Friday. Last Friday, we won a basketball game that was very close and it went into overtime. I am on the team and this is the only year we have ever won a game against another team in three years. Off this winning the game, I had sort of a natural high feeling and I was super hyped up. After the game, I decided to take my friends and I to Whataburger to have a victory meal. After eating food with the squad, I thought it would be a good idea to take my car and drive on the football field. The school is moving properties next year and I will be leaving the school anyway. In my mind, I thought that if I drove on the football field it would be fine because one, I wouldn't get caught and two we were leaving because we were seniors.\n\nThis is when shit hits the fan. I had to take my friends back to their car now and there apparently had been a call from a local neighborhood about a car driving on the football field. When I come back to the school to drop off my friends, there is a cop car staring at the football field looking for damage on the field. I quickly dropped off my friends and tried to book it out of the parking lot down the street to a friends house to hide. Quickly after I made it down my friends street, the cop car came peeling out behind me and had its lights flashing. It finally had pulled me over, and a cop came over and asked me questions about the situation. Like \"do you know why I pulled you over?\", etc. I gave the information that I went to the school and that I had been attending there for a while. They didn't arrest me so I was fine. Monday comes around and I get called into the principles office to find out that I am either suspended a week or expelled. I get kicked out of my National Honor Society president seat and my Student Government president seat as well.", "summary": "dont drive a car on the football field or pay the consequences"}
{"id": "t3_47t5hv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22 M) and roommate (22 F) fooled around the last two days. She has a boyfriend, he knows.", "post": "I'm completely lost here. \nMy roommate has been one of my best friends for 4 years now, I used to live with her boyfriend and around that time they started dating, perfect couple since then.\n\nNear the one of last year I realized I probably had some dumb feelings for her, I've been battling with depression and anxiety for a while and she's been the rock that helped me get trough most of it. I might have gotten a bit attached after that.\n\nAbout a month ago we were talking trough some stuff and I broke. I told her I loved her, how bad I felt for that and stuff like that. We tried to work it out the best we could.\n\nShe moved out today (unrelated) and we talked a lot during this past week, she told me that she loved me too but she couldn't do anything about it, she had to think about her boyfriend and how everything affected him. We ended up getting a bit to close and heated, there were some neck kisses, some rubbing, it was definitely not ok. But we liked it. She said she was ok with it, but we should stop, there were other people to think of.\n\nThe same thing happened today but apparently our roommate hear something and got suspicious, he heard some of our talks and \"accidentally\" read some stuff on my Facebook inbox (he uses my PC regularly). He had a talk with her, we don't know what to do.\n\nI love her, I really do, she helped me out with so much and has been the only consistent happy part of my life for a while. I don't want to lose her and she tells me the same, she said she was going to talk to her boyfriend today and hasn't responded my texts for a while now. I don't know what to do, my anxiety is kicking in and I'm in a really bad place with some intrusive thoughts right now.", "summary": "Fooled around with my best friend and roommate, told her I loved her. She has boyfriend and is probably telling him right now. I am desperate."}
{"id": "t3_1q2g8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my Fiancee [23F] 9 year relationship, having to choose between relationship and dreams", "post": "Background: Me (23F) and my fiancee (23F) have been together 9 years, engaged for almost 5 months (also poly, so I have a boyfriend (M23) of also almost 5 months). We have done the split/take a break and get back together thing twice before.\n\nSo my fiancee has always wanted to live in Japan, ever since she was a little girl. I knew this going in but it always remained a far off maybe, a sort of distant amorphous thing, that when we first got together sounded fun (because I was a teenager with nothing resembling foresight). But now it has become a potential reality, she's considering doing a program that would have her over there teaching English for 1-2 years. \n\nHere is the issue: I love her, but I can't do the long distance thing, having her be in the next county over is hard enough (due to work schedules we don't see each other as much as we would like) and I can't move to another country, away from everything and everyone I know and love, to a place where the language and culture are alien. Her dad was in the military, so moving around wasn't weird to her, I've lived in the same city since birth, my whole family is here, almost all my friends, my job that I love, I can't just drop all that and move.\n\nI love her, more than I have words for, but I don't want to stand between her and a dream that she has had since before she was in Kindergarten. I know that if she doesn't go, then she'll regret it, but if she does, then I have to either uproot entirely and leave behind my life, or do the long distance thing (a semester while she was doing study abroad was hard enough) , or end the relationship. I feel like no matter what option I choose one of us or both of us lose. And if we split, that's it, we are done (I told her if we split again that was it, we can't get back together after that, I can't handle that kind of emotional pain).", "summary": "Fiancee has a long-term dream of living abroad, but I don't know if I can uproot my life for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4ikou0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [17 F] wants to break up with her boyfriend [18(i think)] but he says he'll kill himself if they break up", "post": "As the title says, my friend wants to breakup with her boyfriend but he says he'd kill himself if they ever broke up. A little back story, they dated for a short time until she found out he was constantly cheating on her. She ended it there, but still kept somewhat in contact with him. He later asked her to prom, which she said yes to, her reasoning being she didn't want to go alone. Later, he asked her to be his girlfriend again, to which she said yes, this time her reasoning being he was going away to boot camp and it would end there anyway. This guy is kind of nuts, he even got her name tattoo'd on himself. \n\nAnyway, at this point she can't really stand to still be in the relationship, but doesn't know how to handle it with the threat of him killing himself holding her in. I'm sure some of you have been in similar situations before, what is the best course of action for her here?", "summary": "How does my friend break up with her boyfriend with the threat of suicide if she leaves?"}
{"id": "t3_rs3ya", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Thinking of my future", "post": "I am a 18 year old man weighing in at a whopping 365 pounds. I am 6 foot 2, and surprisingly I hold my weight quite well. My problem area is my chest, and I would really like to get rid of my \"man boobs\" as soon as possible. My goal by the end of the year is to be under 300 pounds by the end of the year. My ultimate goal is to simply get healthy and possibly gaining muscle. I am going to Florida in early June and would really like to make some sort of progress by then, no matter how small.", "summary": "I weigh 365 pounds and need help starting out a diet and workout, hopefully to target my chest."}
{"id": "t3_2gr0y1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M21] not over anything", "post": "So I'm not over either of my exes. The first ex was a girl I dated towards the end of highschool . I lost my v card to her cause I knew for a fact she was the one . We were together for 3 years but she made my life hell. She accused me of raping her the day we lost it. She treated me like she was better then me in everywhere. Making fun of my ideas and my passions. Lying to me about a lot of things. Getting mad at me for seeing my friends that she hated for no reason. Even through all of that I still loved her. So after the three year marked pass , a few days after thanksgiving we had a serious agreement that ended in sex and after sex she wanted time alone to think about us . Honestly, I kept texting her telling her I'm sorry and that I loved her . During this time she was with her best friend cause he wanted to give her advice . I could go on with more detail but you guys know the end. She left me completely and started to date her best friend . I was heart broken for awhile. Didn't show up for work for a week. I tried dating other girls but I couldn't do it and I would just leave the girls and never talk to them . After 6 months of being miserable and just feeling nothing for relationships , I met the girl that changed it all. I met her at work and she was the perfect girl. She treated me amazingly and she made me forget all about my ex. I was happier then I ever was with my ex. Then shit hit the fan after 3 months . I found out she was cheating on me. She was talking to other guys while with me and tried her best to keep me a secret. It's been 4 months since that happened and I've talked to girls but I wouldn't go anywhere with it cause I'm scared I'll just get hurt again. I'm also not over either of my two exes. Each of them had something I loved that I can't find in anyone else. Everything is just making me depressed and feel alone. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Pretty much not over my exes and because of them I'm scared to get close and have a relationship with someone again."}
{"id": "t3_xq6o6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "PRetending to learn Russian", "post": "I am learning phrases in Russian because this way I both increase my vocabulary and I practice actual grammar a bit.  The current one I am trying to learn is \"How was your weekend?\", but there is a twist which I am getting stuck on.  There are 2 Russian speakers I know, one of whom has a 1-day weekend as she works on Saturdays.  As such the phrase \"\u041a\u0430\u043a \u043f\u0440\u043e\u0448\u043b\u0438 \u0432\u044b\u0445\u043e\u0434\u043d\u044b\u0435?\" does not fit because that literally means 'How passed days off?\"  (yes, I know that the verb can mean either physically passing or time passing [actual phrase stolen from google, I admit]) which is plural it seems and therefore wrong as she only had one day off.  As such, I was wondering if I can use \"\u041a\u0430\u043a \u043f\u0440\u043e\u0448\u0435\u043b \u0443\u0438\u043a\u0435\u043d\u0434?\" (I formed) meaning \"how passed weekend?\" which works for both people, even though one of the people worked over part of the weekend it still is correct.  The other thing which is bothering me is that \"\u043f\u0440\u043e\u0448\u0435\u043b\" is perfect, and I am not positive if I should be using perfect or imperfect here.  I am aware that the weekend happened already, but I thought I had read something about asking about what happened on a date uses imperfect...", "summary": "Can I ask \"\u041a\u0430\u043a \u043f\u0440\u043e\u0448\u0435\u043b \u0443\u0438\u043a\u0435\u043d\u0434?\" and be saying \"How was your weekend?\" or does this literal translation not function correctly?"}
{"id": "t3_114amo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "9 times of 10, a bad day or situation will turn around for me after I find a penny [more explanation inside]. Reddit, what weird coincidences have you experienced?", "post": "This is the best example. For Spring Break this past year, I was flying from Rome to meet my friend in Madrid. At the beginning of the flight, I turned off my crappy pay-as-you-go phone. Right as I did, I remembered I needed a PIN to turn it back on and use it, and that I had NO CLUE what it was. I didn't have my friend's phone number written down, nor did we even talk about where we were meeting or where she would be that day. Our plan had just been for me to call her when I landed (dumb, I realize this now). Then, I FOUND A PENNY ON THE AIRPLANE. It was lodged between the seat and the seat belt. At this point I remembered that the PIN had been sent to me in an email when I bought my phone. After landing, I found an internet computer, got the PIN, could call my friend. Everything was ok!", "summary": "The potentially shittiest day ever turned around after I found a penny on an airplane."}
{"id": "t3_zstfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My g/f [18f] of 3 years told me[20m] that she was affectionate with another guy[21m] (i.e. holding hands, rubbing thighs, and rubbing lower back).", "post": "So one night when my girlfriend went out with her friends, one of them being this guy [21m]. The story goes that she was sitting in the backseat with said guy and the driver took a sharp turn and knocked her into him. She went to get off and he held her and then after a second or two she didn't resist. They get to the restaurant and are holding hands under the table and rubbing each other's thighs (she later told me knees but whatever). Then after dinner they all went to the bowling alley to shoot pool and she said he was rubbing her lower back. Now at the end of the night, they say goodbye and he tries to kiss her but she said she didn't let him. It took her two days to tell me. I was mad but I forgave her but she couldn't see him ever again. Well we moved away to go to college together a week later. Then we went home for a girl's party. Well while we were home she texted this same guy [21] without telling me, and ended up telling me about two days after. I was pissed but forgave her. Now I love this girl and maybe one day want to marry her but I don't know if I know what's best for me so. Does reddit think I should stay with here or break it off?", "summary": "I love her but I want to know what best for me. So what is best for me?"}
{"id": "t3_vd1t3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your best 'running from police' story?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nWhen I was a sophomore in college, I went to a friend's apartment for a Halloween party. Everything was obviously going well until the police arrive; we assumed they would just make everyone leave, but they soon started handing out tickets to the drunken minors. I maneuvered through the crowd of people towards the side door and prepared to jump from the 2nd floor balcony.\n\nAfter landing and somersaulting out some energy from the fall, I stand up to see another police officer exiting his car. We both share a piercing look that acknowledges 'I'm about to run, so you better be ready to run too.'\n\nI turn to run and take off behind the apartment buildings, I get a few buildings down when a spotlight from another police car hits me, so I run up to third story of the building, cross over to a different building, and proceed to start ripping off my Halloween costume. I was dressed as a 70s business man but looked more like an Armenian gunrunner, so obviously I would stand out if I tried to casually walk out of there.\n\nSo after trashing most of my costume, I run a few more buildings over go downstairs and called my buddy from the party, who was 21 and allowed to leave, and got him to drive up to the building I was at. As soon as I see his car i ran down, hopped in, and we drove past a few more cop cars. Apparently there were quite a few underage parties at the apt complex and the cops had been busting up all of them.", "summary": "jumped off a balcony and ran from the cops dressed like an armenian gunrunner"}
{"id": "t3_2d3hkq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [23F] of a couple months has Tinder on her phone", "post": "I don't want to freak out or dump her or anything like that, nothing like it. I quite like her and the relationship, she has a lot of good qualities that my ex's have lacked (both cheated on me, woot woot). She is excited to introduce me to her friends, and just last week I spent 4 days at her house (we both are in our college town for the summer) meeting her parents, and I'm the first guy she has ever brought home to her parents. All in all, I don't think she's taking our relationship lightly or thinking of dumping me anytime soon.\n\nShe had Tinder when we started dating, but deleted it. However last night, when I was picking a song to play on her phone (plugged into the speakers), I saw Tinder was back. No notifications, but still, she brought it back. \n\nOn one hand, Tinder is pretty much a dating/hook-up app where you say \"her, we both find each other attractive, let's chat\". On the other hand , if the conversations are platonic and just along the lines of \"haha look i found my friend on here\", then there's no reason to be upset.\n\nFor what it's worth, I've seen both her text and facebook conversations multiple times, and she is talking to literally zero guys on either. Just her female friends and me.\n\nThe point of this topic is I want to bring it up in a calm way, and see why she has the app. I want to think of some good questions/statements for her, and need help from you guys! \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Girlfriend of ~2 months didn't have Tinder for a while, but recently re-added it. I'm completely unaware of how/how much she's using it."}
{"id": "t3_np4si", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Do you believe in hiring babysitters?", "post": "My spouse and I are getting to know another couple in the new city we moved to over the summer. This couple doesn't believe in babysitters. Their kids are 7 and 10 and they've never had a babysitter so mom and dad can have a night out. This strikes me as kind of strange. We are going to invite the whole family over to our place, so it isn't a big deal. But I wonder if anyone has ever heard of this? We get a babysitter on a Friday night maybe once a month so we can have a little bit of grown up time.", "summary": "Does anyone not believe in hiring a babysitter for older kids, so never going out without the kids?"}
{"id": "t3_yx6it", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most inexplicable thing you've ever done?", "post": "I was about to get into the shower a couple years ago, and apparently wasn't paying attention to what I was doing. I walk into my room, with the shower warming up. Go back to the bathroom and put a set of clothes down. Go back into my room for clean socks because that wasn't in the pile of clothes I guess. Next, I enter the bathroom again and throw the pair of clean socks straight into the toilet... I can't remember why I did it but I do remember how pissed I was that I was going to have to reach in and grab them.", "summary": "Not paying much attention to what i'm doing before jumping into shower and throw socks in toilet."}
{"id": "t3_2r66xk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [28 F] 6 Years, my job creating arguments", "post": "So... I am currently in a 6 year relationship with my gf and lately we just been getting into arguments over little things. But the main thing is my job and the amount of time i put into it. I work 12 hour shifts in a busy EMS system. I work alot because i provide the main source of income while my gf goes to school and work part time. I am also going to school but currently on break till next semester. My gf cant seem to understand that im working alot because im paying for like 90% of the things that need to be paid such as rent, utilities, etc etc. She told me that she would rather be poor and bankrupt or anything if she got the chance to see me more. \n\nWe try to have 1-2 days together and do things together but things happen such as errands or other stuff that comes up. Thats one part of the problem im currently having. Another one is that i work super early, i start at 615 am till 615 pm. I like to try sleeping early but, sometimes my gf wants to go out such as a family thing or with friends in general. I make the effort to come but once it hits around 12ish midnight i tend to get tired, From my gf prospective i look bored and a grump. I tell her that i am tired and i need to sleep. She throws a fit about it and we end up not talking for few days. Its plain awkward and tiring that she goes through this. Our recent fight is new years eve. My shift started at 530 am, we go to her sisters place to watch new years together. \n\nBy 1130 i am tired, i want to go to sleep and i look grumpy, so my gf gets mad because she wants me up to celebrate count down. Getting about 3 hours of sleep is not fun =/ SO here we are now giving each other the silent treatment. I would try to talk but it ends up her getting even more mad so i just let go. I just want to know if im in the wrong or not. thanks everyone!", "summary": "gf getting mad i work too much and getting mad that im not staying up while at an event with her."}
{"id": "t3_2rnu0c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sister's [19/f] boyfriend [20/m] is unhappy with their sex life and asking me for advice - idk what to tell him. Guys/girls - opinions?", "post": "We've been talking about different things that he's done and how he upset my sister (she found his porn on his iPad and was apparently very upset) - he said that ever since then, she has been really insecure and feels bad about herself. But that has only gotten worse.\n\nHe sent me this text today: \n\"i probably did wrong in this but i made her cry over the break bc i told her i was tired of her being lazy in sex.... U probs dont wanna hear about your sisters sex life but im gonna tell you the jists of what im going through... She always whats it, but she cant ever give it if u know what i mean. She hates being on top and half the time i feel like its not even interesting cuz she mainly just takes it and to me if you love someone enough then you will actually try in sex but she doesnt try and i feel like im humping a doll or something. (i didnt tell her that) but she understood what i was saying and then cried for like an hour and it made her feel worse but i cant help it im not gonna sit here and lie about it and make my sex life miserable later on... Idk it was harsh but i feel like sometimes i have to push her thoughts and be serious for a moment to get her to understand what im really trying to say\"\n\nI've never really had boring sex... I've never had any issues with my sex life. I've never been told I'm anything less than the \"best sex they've ever had\" - so I have no idea what to say to him. I don't want my sister to get hurt if he leaves her and I don't want her to always feel so bad about herself. How can he help my sister and make their sex life better?", "summary": "My sister's boyfriend is unhappy with their sex life and it's having a huge impact on her confidence. I don't want her to end up hurt if this keeps going on. How can he make her better at sex and do it without hurting her feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_2nneq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(f27) fianc\u00e9 (m29) has stopped wanting to have sex with me..(3 year relationship)", "post": "Throwaway as he is a redditor though I doubt he comes here.\n\nA little bit about us; I am very structured in what I do and grew up in a sheltered environment and my fianc\u00e9 is the spontaneous/adventurous type, so when it comes to the bedroom side of things he most of the time always initiates it. \n\nHonestly I don't have a sex drive like him (pretty much every couple nights) so I'm a little guilty of denying him and toning it down to once a week sometimes two.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago it was a little different though, when I turned him down cause I wasn't in the mood (told him I was tired) he sulked a little then went to sleep, I felt bad and tried to start the fire but it's like he wanted nothing to do with me saying he was tired.\n\nTill today, it seems like his sex drive has gone from always to none and he's always tired when I try to initiate the bedroom fun.\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "I turned down my fianc\u00e9, now his doing the same."}
{"id": "t3_3yekck", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not translating my airport's name.", "post": "So my friend and I had to leave Japan from Osaka, and the writing on the confirmation email was mostly in Japanese. I figured there was only one airport, so I thought it must be Osaka international airport. So we take the last train (at around 11 pm) to Osaka airport from Kyoto the day before, so we can just spend the night there and not pay for a hostel. But, when we arrive, the airport was closed. We were like \"oooh no, this is all wrong. It shouldn't be closed.\" We translated the name in google and found out it was Kansai International Airport, the other airport in osaka which was 2 hours by metro. Unfortunately, since we took the last train, the metro was was closed. We spent the next hour in the 30-degree temperature figuring out our plan until the metros open. We decided to head by taxi to the main Osaka station and wait until it opens at 5 to take the train to the other airport. We arrive at the station expecting a 24-hour restaurant of some kind, but everything around the station was closed. So we were outside in the cold just wondering what to do until we couldn't stand the cold and ended up huddling under an overpass to escape the strong, cold breeze. We stayed under for 2 hours until I got fed up with the cold and told my friend we were going to walk as long as possible to find someplace warm. We ended up at a sushi bar till they kicked us out then at a karaoke room waiting for the metro to open and start running again. The metro ran up again, but unfortunately, I confused a station's name with the one we were supposed to switch on, so we get off only to realize we were going the right way after all. Then we have to wait 30 minutes for the next metro to pass but it is not following the same path which confuses us even more, so we get off on the next stop to realize again we were going the right way. All in all, it was an experience I would rather not relive.", "summary": "Went to the wrong airport, spent most of the night under an overpass, bar, and karaoke room, then finally got to the metro only to confuse station names."}
{"id": "t3_2fn34w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(14/M) Feeling lonely. Parents won't let me get a gf.", "post": "I started high school about 5 days ago. I made a bunch of new friends. I'm enjoying high school so far.\nThings at home aren't so good. My parents are running out of money, they won't admit it.\nI applied to over 200 jobs this summer, I got a couple of interviews but, once they asked for my age, things went downhill from there.\nHaving no money limits me from my social life, I can't hang out with friends because they go to the movies and eat which I can't afford.\nI laugh, socialize and I appear to be happy. At the end of the day, I'm not happy, I feel lonely... I'm empty.\nI met this girl yesterday who's in the same grade as me. She's sweet, funny, smart and gorgeous.\nWe exchanged numbers, and we've been texting/flirting back and forth ever since.\nI would love to ask her out but...\nI asked my parents about the whole dating shebang and they really don't want me to get involved. They say it's going to bring my grades down and I might get her pregnant...\nAlso, I have little to no money so I don't have anything to offer her.\nThat's about it. I don't know what to do. I can either go behind my parents back or just ignore my feelings and go back to studying...\nAdvice?", "summary": "There's a girl I like but, my parents don't want me to get involved. Also, I have no money."}
{"id": "t3_20i9zw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description;text=Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks. --- **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "Some background history: together for a year, both 21 years old\nSo, I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year. I initiated it. He didn't want it at all, he begged and pleaded for me to stay, putting my foot down and walking away was the hardest thing I have ever done.\n\nOur relationship started off great, but sadly almost a year into it I found out he lied about his sexual past. I understood why he lied so I let it go, but I still had some trust issues that I couldn't let go of. Some of his stories didn't always add up, I don't want to straight up say he lied about a lot of stuff but sometimes his stories just didn't make sense.\n\nHe also failed to show up to some things we had planned together, with the main excuse of 'i fell asleep', happened about 3 times, I don't want to think he cheated but sometimes my mind goes there. He was also late 99% of the time but it got really annoying when he wouldn't always give me notice if he was late and I'd be left waiting. It hurt me a lot, made me feel like I was disrespected. I did confront him about these issues, and he apologized profusely, he was in tears about it all.\n\nOf course, he knows all of this and blames himself, says that the relationship ending is all his fault and all our problems are because of him. I contributed as well, I mean, I have a bit of temper that's mostly under control and I can be really oversensitive. I don't like to point fingers and say it's all his fault, but he did a lot of damage to the relationship.\n\nDespite all this, I want him back. But maybe it's for the best that we break up, perhaps. I feel like maybe all our problems could be fixed if we got back together.\n\nI just need help with how to deal with this. We spent everyday together, it feels like I lost my best friend.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I just broke up. We dated for a year. He didn't always respect me, but blames himself for everything and has tried to make up for it recently. I feel horrible, and I feel like I want him back. I don't know how to deal with this, I feel like I made a mistake. Both 21 years old if that matters."}
{"id": "t3_3vmvuh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25m] boyfriend [26m] is haunted by his profession. How do I get him help?", "post": "Quick backstory: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years and have what we both consider an ideal relationship. \n\nI often wake up in the middle of the night to my boyfriend trying to catch his breath in a heavy sweat; he has incredibly morbid dreams, often of his family or of myself dying in really brutal ways. He is an EMT, which takes a massive tax on his mental health. He shows up to a lot of gore ridden car accidents and has reoccurring, graphic nightmares that tend to stem from these experiences. He says that it's gotten to the point where he's paranoid he'll know the person injured when called. \n\nI'd say the nightmares happen probably only three days a week, so not the majority, but when it happens, it *happens.* It happens once or twice a night when it does, and definitely interrupts both of our sleep cycles. Honestly, my job hours are afternoon to night, so I don't really suffer and I don't mind supporting him, but I don't know what to do. Additionally, as \"punk rock\" (or whatever) as I was in high school, I cannot listen to stories about decapitated babies for much longer. It takes a toll on me, but I'd never tell him that because I love him dearly and would never want to discourage him from venting to me.\n\nI'm in the process of trying to get him to see a therapist habitually, but he's very proud and doesn't like accepting help from others. It's a trip for his parents to convince him to accept their aid, and it took us three years of our lives and the only significant fight we've ever had thus far for him to realize that relationships are about that symbiosis. I also know that EMTs have an infamous burnout period, and he's a year in. We both come from conservative cultures, East Asian if that helps the convincing someone. How do I get him to quit and/or see a therapist?\n\nSOS, Reddit.", "summary": "Boyfriend is an EMT and has constant nightmares. How do I help his mental health?"}
{"id": "t3_3wl187", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] had a one-night stand with a friend of a friend [21?F] couple of months ago. I matched with her on Tinder two days ago, but didn't sent a message immediately and now she unmatched me. Do you think it's ok to send her a FB message?", "post": "So at a party (which was at my neighbours house) we met and we hit it off pretty well. Evening turned in to night and we were both a bit tipsy. One thing let to another and we wake up in my bed. When she leaves I forgot to ask for her number and I don't think about her for a couple of months.\n\nBut then while mindlessly meatjudging on Tinder one night I see her pop up and after swiping to the right we instantly match. I didn't send her a message immediately and I kinda forgot about it until today when I wanted to send her a message.\n\nBut now she unmatched me and I kinda feel that she thinks I didn't recognize her. So I want to send her a short facebook (we have mutual friends and I know her name) message saying something along the lines of: \"hey I know I didn't send you a message instantly, but I did recognize you and I'm sorry if I made you think otherwise.\"\n\nI want to send her a message explaining it (and maybe to try to fuck her again because it was good) but I don't wanna seem like a creep. Do you think it'd be okay to send her a message?", "summary": "Had one-night stand, forgot about it, get matched on Tinder, forgot about it, got unmatched on Tinder, feel guilty. Send message Y/N?"}
{"id": "t3_voj07", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'll be graduating college in about a year, and I want to get out of the USA. What do I need to know, and where should I go?", "post": "In my opinion, the USA's current political system is undermining the entire purpose of the government and sending the entire nation into a downward spin; I don't want to be here when it crashes. All throughout grade school and college, we're subjected by a constant stream of \"America is the greatest\" propaganda (if you saw [the Newsroom clip] from /r/videos yesterday, you'll know what I mean) and I'm sick of it.\n\nThe problem is, I've never been outside of the US and my entire family lives here, so I am woefully unprepared for this. So I come to you, Reddit, for advice. **Where should I go, and what do I need to do/learn before then?**\n\nI want to live somewhere that I can openly live my religion (Independent Christian) and if possible, arm myself. I have no qualms with living in a socialist country. (Bonus: If the employers there recognize the merits of Eagle Scout, that'd be awesome)", "summary": "I'm sick of the US, but I have no idea how to go about getting out. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3g138n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19f. My insecurities about my looks are ruining my relationships. Please help.", "post": "Although the I get a lot of compliments on my looks and I only weigh about 115 pounds, I'm highly insecure about my looks for some reason. I think I'm fat when everybody says I'm too skinny(I used to be 103 until I graduated high school). But what really gets me is that my \"pretty\" is different from most girls. I've always been told my whole life how unique I am but growing up I was seen as weird to stupid people and was bullied. I'm not that basic white girl kind of pretty with long blonde hair. I'm tan with short curly hair that goes to my shoulders. Some days I look in the mirror and I see it, some days I'm just really down about my looks where I want to cry. This guy I've been seeing liked this girls picture she posted before we started talking that I went to school with and for some reasons my feelings are hurt. It's so dumb and ugly and it's probably harmless but he doesn't like girls pictures often, or even his friends pictures really so when I saw it I was shocked. He probably was just scrolling months ago, saw it, and liked it. I just want advice on how I can stop being insecure because I don't want to act on these dumb feelings. I never thought I was his type because the girls he's dated in the past have always been those preppy kind of girls and im sooo different. I like art, video games, nerdy stuff,outdoors, could care less about dressing up all the time. I know I'm not the only pretty girl in the world, and that doesn't mean that he likes her. If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it :(", "summary": "Constantly feel insecure about my looks. Don't want to feel that way anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4oaqwm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] ex [27M] broke up with me 4 years ago tomorrow. I'm am still not over him and still secretly want to be with him even though I'm with a good guy [42m]. I can't go on like this.", "post": "i met \"Darren\" when I was 19 and it was instant love. He is tall, intelligent, very classically handsome and so sweet. We had a great relationship until on a very drunken night out with friends, I cheated on him. He broke up with me the next day and never looked back. I was devastated, I mean not get out of bed for three months devastated. \n\nI eventually moved on as best I could and would date but no one ever compared to Daren. I would text him from time to time just to see how he was doing (and admitedly to see if there was any spark) and the only time he ever responded was when he said \"I loved you too much to ever forgive you.\" Which of course sent me into another bed ridden bout of guilt and depression. \n\nWhen I pulled myself together I met \"Bill\" who is considerably older than me but a really nice man and has a successful but unglamorous business. He also has two small kids whom I like but they resent me quite a bit even though I met Bill long after the divorce.\n\nI just got word thought the grapevine that Daren had graduated veterinary school, which brought up a whole host of emotions about how one bad night and I find myself with the nice but overweight divorcee with a cement pouring business and a ready made family. While some other girl is no doubt with \"my\" sweet and compassionate soul mate who is going to make people and animals lives better.\n\nThis isn't fair to Bill of course because he's been nothing but nice to me but still, it's how I feel.\n\nAfter four years of still being madly in love with Daren, how do I possibly move on?", "summary": "I'm not over my ex boyfriend after four years. Even with another good guy in my life I'm still obsessing over the ex. How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1rwmoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (F22) and I (M22)are graduating college soon but we live in different states (6 months).", "post": "My girlfriend (f22) and I (M22) have had a solid relationship (6 months) so far. She loves me, I love her, we take care of each other, we talk about everything and nothing. It's all great. I've never felt this way about a girl before but  I've never actually never been in a relationship before so every new step in it is actually very foreign ground. She on the other hand has been in some relationships an is more experienced then I.  Soon she'll be graduating a semester before I will, and she'll be hitting the job market. We don't know where she'll be going, if she even gets a job, but I'm pretty sure she'll be getting a job in her field. Regardless if she finds a job or not, I'll graduate and go home and try to find a job but I live in a different state, and these state are not exactly close to each other. I'm in the west and she's on the east coast. We have had small stints of being apart but I hate it. I love her and want to be with her, but I also want a kick ass job and will go where ever the best opportunity would take me.\n\nHow should I approach this probable long distance thing. I've never done it and have almost 0 relationship experience.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are eventually going to be in a long distance relationship and IDK what to do cause I'm a noob at relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2fmbsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16M) pissed off a boyfriend (18M) and am now fearing for my life", "post": "So I have this friend who I have had pretty deep feelings for, but she has a boyfriend and he hates me. Today she and I were hanging out and I kissed her. Out of the blue. He found out, broke up with her, and is completely enraged. He's threatening to hurt me and others, and I have no idea what to do.\n\nHe's always seemed irrational but I'm beginning to fear for my own safety. I don't think he will do anything, but I don't want to take any chances. I just need to know what measures I should take to protect myself. This is urgent, so quick responses would be helpful.", "summary": "Angry boyfriend wants to kick my ass, what do"}
{"id": "t3_2edpfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] last 2 break ups have ruined relationships for me", "post": "When I was 17 I was with this girl same age as me. She was nice and caring and everything. We dated for almost a year and then out of the blue she broke up with me and she wouldn't even tell me why I asked her friends too but they were even more surprised than I was. I never found out why she did it and tbh I didn't do anything that would cause it to the best of my knowledge.\n\n  Sometime after that I met someone else in senior year of high school. We were really good together like I dont even remeber us fighting or even disagreeing on anything. We went out for like a year and a half. I caught her cheating on me with MY BEST FRIEND. Needless to say that I never spoke to any of them after I gave them both a piece of my mind. I have no clue why she would do that.\n\nAnyway its been about 7 months since that but I couldn't help feeling that there must be something wrong with me or somehow it was my fault. I haven't been able to bring myself to ever get close to anyone since I just feel the same thing is going to happen. Before I was all talkative and cheerful now I just keep to myself. I can't bring myself to be in a relationship again. Also, before I met any of my exes I was really shy and scared to talk to girls but after having a gf I gained confidence and I had no problems talking to them and meet new people but after the cheating I lost all of that confidence and I feel im back in square one. I would appreciate any and all advice.", "summary": "one of my exes broke up with me for no reason and the one after cheated on me with my best friend and it made me lose all my confidence and feel like something is wrong with me or it was my fault somehow. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1t2kle", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my gf [22 F] together for 4 months. Current flame found naked photos of ex on computer and won't speak to me.", "post": "I was in a long-term relationship of about 5 years before I broke up with my ex about a year ago. During this time, we've accumulated hundreds if not thousands of photos together. Most are just random everyday moments we've shared, but a few are rather intimate.\n\nEnter new gf. We've been together for around 4 months. I've taken her home previously and have given her free reign of the house and my PC. On one of these visits, she browses through my computer, which is what she normally does anyway. I step out for snacks, and when I return, she had packed up and left.\n\nFast forward to today, I find out that the reason she left so abruptly was because she had discovered my ex's nude photos on my computer and feels like we're still in touch and that she could never \"live up to her memory\". The ex and I are no longer on speaking terms, but we were in a FWB arrangement until shortly before I met this new girl.\n\nI would like to point out btw that I did not intend to keep these photos on my computer. I'm just a very disorganized person overall, I have photos and documents laying all over the place and I sometimes forget what's what and where! I had never gotten around to cataloguing and organizing my photos after the breakup...until today, that is.\n\nI have now deleted the offending photos and archived (encrypted and moved off to an external hard drive) the non-nude,  non-offensive ones, but my girlfriend still won't speak to me. I don't know what to do to apologize. I've shown up with flowers at her apartment; but no dice. She's having none of it.", "summary": "Girlfriend found naked photos of ex on my PC. Long-buried photos I had no idea were there. Photos are deleted, but gf won't speak to me. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_xjx7b", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Honesty...is it always the best policy?", "post": "I believe in being honest with people and that things usually end up good if you are just honest with what you feel or think in most situations. I experienced total honesty (given and reciprocated) from someone and it turned out to be (and still is) one of my most valued friendships. He gave me the courage to be honest with people and I have been more honest and outspoken since then.\n\nLately, I realized that in a lot of things I'm not actually honest with myself about and it makes me frustrated and annoyed. I haven't been honest with this friends with benefits guy I'm seeing and act like I don't care when I kind of care. I haven't been honest with my mom about a lot of things (probably due to issues I have with her reading my diary when I was 18 and me feeling like she will judge or disapprove of anything I do like she did when she read my diaries).\n\nI so desperately want to find the will to be honest in the interactions I have with people again but it's hard when it seems like (in my city and culture) it's easier to not be honest. \"Don't be honest with your feelings and just play the game. Don't be honest and just act like you don't care\" is constantly around me. I am human and have feelings and I don't know how to stay honest in interactions with people before I get hurt too many times over.", "summary": "How do I find the strength to be honest, including showing my vulnerability without getting hurt so often?"}
{"id": "t3_2pkadm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] worried about my apparent disinterest in most relationships / general pickiness", "post": "Hi all! Throwaway account.\n\nI am a 25 year old male who has never been in a relationship. To be honest, I've never even kissed someone.\n\nI'm actually quite attractive and have had a fair amount of girls express interest in me. Mainly the reason why I believe I am still single is that I just never seem to be interested.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I've been super attracted to a few girls, but never ones that were interested in me.\n\nIt's getting to the point now where my friends are really confused and frustrated by it and keep trying to set me up with people, but I can never seem to muster any interest in them.\n\nI'm really starting to get a little worried. On the one hand, I would really like to have a relationship with someone, and I feel rather lonely. But on the other, the amount of girls I'm actually interested in seems unusually small, and I can't quite figure out why.\n\nI'm not really sure what to do. I feel like an idiot for passing up some of the girls I meet but I just feel nothing.", "summary": "Reasonably attractive guy still single at 25 due to a weird kind of pickiness or something, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_zmxjy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] My ex-girlfriend still likes me and is trying to go through my friends to get at me. Help?", "post": "Three weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend of six months, and the break up seemed to go smoothly. She didn't take it that bad, and in fact said that she saw it coming. The reasons that I called it off were because I was tired of being with her, she was damn needy, and I just burned out, wasn't interested, and wanted some time to myself. For the first week after that everything seemed to be going fine, but in these past two weeks things have changed. During the relationship we really didn't ever hang out with my friends because I wanted to keep my dating and social life separate, and because of that, she never really interacted with my friends. Ever since I broke up with her, she has begun forcing her way into some of my various social circles and trying to interact with friends that she had no previous connections to other than through me, making it inevitable for me to see her and interact with her. I expressed my concerns to some of my closer friends and they did confirm my suspicions that she started talking and trying to get closer with them a few days after the breakup, and one forwarded a text from my ex telling my friend how she still has feelings for me and that she believes that at the time I was just confused and didn't really want to break it off (I was sure, I had been thinking about it for some time). I really feel that she just isn't giving me any space, and I'm not even considering getting back together with her.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend still interested, going through my friends to try and get back together. I'm not interested."}
{"id": "t3_4ho6f2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22M) broke up with my SO [20F] of 4 and a half year. I never broke up with someone before, i dont know how to feel or what to do.", "post": "I broke up with my So of 4 and and a half years this morning. We have been living together the last 2 years. I've had a nagging feeling that I dont love her as I used to, even though i still really really care about her, for a couple of months now. I've delayed the breakup and tried to get things to work even though we had fights and discussions about us, about moving from our flat to a city 24 hours away and about a lot of stuff.\n\nI never broken up with someone before, I feel bad, almost like i regret it. I want to go to bed and wake up with her, at the same time I dont. I want to be alone, I need to be alone and grow as a person. Do things by myself and by my own planning and initative, even if its folding laundry, shopping grocieries or whatever. At the same time i feel so guilty for hurting her like this, and I feel like a dont deserve her love or affection because I dont feel it towards her in the same way. I still care about her a lot. \n\nWhat should I do? How do I deal with these issues? Are there anyone else that have been trough something like this?", "summary": "Me (22M) broke up with my SO [20F] of 4 and a half year. I never broke up with someone before, i dont know how to feel or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2o8ge6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a friend to shut up", "post": "So a couple of friends and I were hanging out.  This one friend was the worst joker, I could have sworn he was a dad.  This was compared to me, who was always serious and often criticized as too blunt. \n\nWell, he told one of his standard puns regarding his junk, to which we all groaned, and we all wanted him to stop.  My brain struggled between \"Cut it out\" and \"Knock it off\".  Naturally, what came out was \"Cut it off\".  \n\nEveryone looked at me in shock, half thinking I was serious.  I quickly tried to correct myself, but it was too late.  Everyone but him realized my intentions and laughed it off, but I could only fake laugh with him smiling at me with the most deadpan stare I've ever seen.  \n\nAfter that, no one could let that go, but nothing's been the same. Shit, I just had a brain fart, but every hangout with that guy now seems forced. \n\nAt least it shut him up.", "summary": "aggressively told a friend to chop his dick off after a bad joke."}
{"id": "t3_353wq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am struggling with my boyfriends [23M] depression and anxiety.", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together 7 months, when we first started dating he suffered from a mild form of anxiety which has worsened over the last 5 months in particular. He has been suffering as a result from sleep deprivation and depression as a result.\n\nWhen we first started dating we were both really happy and he very quickly told me he loved me (within 2 months, thankfully I felt the same). Since then we both became unemployed, while he quickly found employment it took me almost 5 months. This of course put a lot of strain on our relationship, to make matters worse he hates his job, it's a mindnumbing job but made stressful by those he works with. We started arguing a lot - not just bickering but full scale screaming \"why are we together\" type arguments (though when that's mentioned we both quickly back down).\n\nHe's recently been less and less happy, with everything. He's talking about moving, he's not talking to his family and he struggles to get out of bed. He still has great days where he would walk 18 miles to see me on my first day at work and then walk me home - bringing me flowers out of the blue etc. As someone who's never dealt with anxiety/depression ive admittedly not been the most supportive SO as frankly, I wasn't entirely sure what to do (though since the early stages I have done my own research). \n\nThe other day we had a huge argument, which ended in us talking it through and I apologised for not being as helpful as I could and have vowed to try harder. However, he mentioned that he may not love me- he doesn't know if he ever did or if it's just the way he's feeling at the moment. I don't want to get my heart broken and I don't know if at this point it's better to walk away?", "summary": "boyfriend has anxiety and depression, recently told me that he doesn't know if he loves me. Is this the end or should I continue trying?"}
{"id": "t3_1fnetu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] How can I help my girlfriend (22/f) feel better about her weight?", "post": "My girlfriend is 22 years old and recently has put on weight despite going to the gym a lot and eating healthily more recently. Honestly, I'm completely fine with it. In fact I've grown to love (maybe even prefer) the way she looks now and still find her very attractive, though if she wanted to lose weight I would be just as happy.\n\nShe's recently became especially self-conscious about it, though says she's never been happy even when she was quite thin, and it's having an effect on our sex life \u2013 she doesn't feel comfortable with herself and so isn't interested in sex. More importantly though I think it's making her unhappy, but a lack of sex can obviously have some effect on a relationship.\n\nSo we talked about it recently, and firstly I told her how I loved the way she looked even if in her opinion weighing more was less attractive. That didn't help.\n\nThen I said well maybe you need to try and be more comfortable with it and kind of fight the feeling of thinking 'I hate the way I look' when looking in the mirror'. She said she's already tried doing this a lot, and it didn't work.\n\nFinally I suggested we just talk through why she felt so bad and she said that this only made her upset and didn't help so she didn't want to.\n\nThe thing she keeps repeating is that she doesn't care what anyone else thinks it's that she isn't happy with herself and that's what's getting her so down.\n\nI feel as if I can't do much more at the moment, so I was looking for some insight into what might be the best thing to do next?\n\nIs there a way I can make her feel better?\n\nOr is there something I'm missing or not understanding about the whole situation?", "summary": "my girlfriend feels uncomfortable with her weight which is preventing us from having sex, I've tried everything I can think of to try and make things better, what do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_uonlu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone please help me. My mom has been giving me a very hard time and i can't make a decision for myself", "post": "I'm a kid, please bear with me. I have spent a countless amount of meticulous hours planning to do productive things over this summer. My Schedule is done, but i am greeted with my mom's plans for me. She thinks i am going to stay home and play video games all summer (which i find very strange because i don't even own any video games, and when im on the computer im only on here), and she has signed me up for a summer program that will possibly make me WORK 8 hours a day. Worst of all, i will be singing songs( its a choir thing), which i am no good at. I calmly explained the situation to her, and all hell breaks loose. She says that I made her look like an idiot because when she went to sign me up for the program(before even telling me), she spent 3 hours waiting for the person in charge of the program. Now i obviously don't want my hard work to be in vain, but she is seriously overreacting to the situation. i have dealt with her for the previous 3 summers in similar \"apprentice\" programs. So reddit, do you think i should go to the program? (It contracts almost all the plans that i made, and the program is basically my entire summer)", "summary": "spent 2394871985719 hours planning plan. mom comes and tells me very last minute to do a program i don't like. she is very inconsiderate of my feelings. should i still go?"}
{"id": "t3_1l8nmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 6 months, talks to her best friend about her issues first.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend share a mutual friend who she is pretty close with. It is a guy and I am not really worried about her cheating on me or anything like that. The problem is that she will go to him sometimes first with any emotional issues she is having rather than me because sometimes I freak out and blame myself. \n\nI know I shouldn't do that and I have been working at it and it has gotten better. Though sometimes entirely I am left out of the loop and she only tells me after talking to him first. It does make me feel kinda uncomfortable that she can openly talk to him about our relationship and her problems without coming to me first because they have kissed once and did something else before we started dating and she won't tell me what.  \n\nAt the sametime I am happy that she has someone to talk to that can also help. I'd just really rather not find out late or not find out entirely. I don't want to be the kind of guy that sets limits and says \"You can't do this or that\", but I have no idea how else I can approach the subject without her getting defensive and me being accusatory.", "summary": "Girlfriend sometimes goes to her best friend to talk about problems instead of me and sometimes I am left out entirely and she talks about our relationship pretty openly. No idea how to approach this."}
{"id": "t3_2t0kfr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a prank on my friend's girlfriend.", "post": "So, let me explain. My friends and I find it absolutely hilarious to think about, \"What if you accidentally spaghetti?\" Like, say, you were minding your own business and all of sudden spaghetti starts coming out of all the orifices in your body, or put of nowhere you turn into spaghetti, not the entire thing, just a singular noodle. I don't know; we find it hilarious. To the story, I decide to pull a prank on my friends girlfriend. They have been talking about what if he was in the hospital and instead of him, it was a spaghetti, not the meal just a singular noodle, so I was talking to her, and I say, \"I'm sorry.... your boyfriend has been in an accident.\" She becomes distraught. That's understandable, after all, it is her boyfriend that I was talking about. She threatens to kill me if this is a joke. I was already too far into this to just back out now. I continue and say, \"I'm so sorry.... he.... he... accidentally spaghettied.\" I wasn't thinking.... her mammaw was recently just put in the hospital with something serious. Now, I'm on her shit list.", "summary": "I pulled a prank on my friends girlfriend and now she hates me."}
{"id": "t3_n1j4g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, does a father retain any custody rights while he is incarcerated?", "post": "The situation is, the father (my friend) was incarcerated two years ago for interstate drug trafficking. Up until a week ago, he was on speaking terms with his ex (they were together when he was busted but parted ways a little over a year ago). She would bring their daughter to visit him at the minimum camp he's at and they would 'email' and talk on the phone.  Last week she up and moved her and their daughter to Alaska (her family lives there) with no little/no warning, changed her phone number, left no forwarding address, and pretty much fell off the face of the earth. There have been no altercations with him or his family (who has been taking care of both the ex and the kid for the last two years) that would warrant such a drastic behavior change. They think she could be on meth and that could have played a factor. Does he have any legal recourse as far as maintaining contact, even if there is no physical contact due to distance? Possible important facts: he's currently located in Colorado but they are both residents of Wyoming; she is a Native American and a tribal member in good standing so the Indian Child Welfare Act will probably come into play; and there has been no formal custody arrangement drawn up. Can he do anything now or does he have to wait until he is released in three years?", "summary": "She bounced with the kid and cut all contact, can he do anything?"}
{"id": "t3_2tkenx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a creepy 50 year old man in the body of a teenage girl", "post": "This happened a few weeks ago. Thought you guys might get a kick out of it.\n\nI am a female, and I like looking at good looking females. I don't think I'm lesbian... lets just face it- girls are beautiful. \n\nAs a senior in high school, I've noticed that some of the other girls have started working out, more specifically: squatting. This, inevitably, gave some of them quite fantastic asses. I occasionally ogle at this hot, big booty blonde (lets call her Jamie), and this one day, RIGHT after squatting, she walked down the hall with her leggings cupped around her ass like tight wrap around a fat sausage. \n\nTherefore, I waited until she passed and then turned to express my amazement to a male friend who also appreciated big booties. The conversation went something like this:\n\nMe: LOOK AT THAT ASS. DAMN. \n\nHim: Yeah I'd tap that.\n\nMe: ITS SO ROUND AND TIGHT. JAMIE IS QUEEN OF FAT ASSES. \n\nHim: LOL she's still here.\n\nLo and behold, she was still there, standing a few lockers away, back turned but still definitely close enough to hear our conversation. She looked over her shoulder and gave us a weird look, but resumed her conversation. Did she hear us? Who knows, but we both thought it was hilarious and laughed awkwardly for the next few seconds. \n\nFast forward to end of school day. I decide to tell my other friend about what happened earlier:\n\nMe: So I was talking to ___ about Jamie's fat ass and then she turned out to be right in front of us. \n\nRight as I said the words \"Jamie's fat ass\", Jamie passed me, casually, out of the blue, making direct eye contact. The look on her face was the look of a girl who just discovered she was being upskirted by a creepy 50 year old man.", "summary": "I am now \"that girl\"."}
{"id": "t3_3vbqpx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Freaking out about everything relating to school; Really need advice", "post": "I am currently a 19-year old pre-med student at a public university. It is currently my 2nd year here, but I'm at a junior standing. While I came in with a pretty good head on my shoulders, I feel like I'm just taking a turn for the worst.\n\nThis semester, I'm currently taking classes such as Organic Chemistry 1 + Lab and Bio 2 + Lab. For my first few exams, I did pretty well. 93s on both my first organic chemistry exam and my first biology exam.. But then my exam grades got worse and worse.\n\nI'm currently sitting here freaking out about my organic chemistry final exam because there is too much information to memorize and regurgitate onto the exam..\n\nI'm currently debating on taking a semester or year off college because it doesn't feel right to me. However, I don't have any other passions than to become a pediatrician. But I know that I don't even compare to any other pre-med student here with a 3.3 GPA and not getting A's in every science class I've taken. I haven't done any volunteer work or shadowing, and I'm not sure where I could even do this.\n\nAll I want to do is sit in my dorm room and play video games. I feel like I'm throwing my life away, but I know that I'm more interested in pro-gaming than I am with my education. What do I do?? I'm freaking out.. And thank you for taking the time to read this for anyone who stood by.", "summary": "Freaking out about college being too much and not being being nearly comparable to my competitors. No passion for anything besides becoming a pediatrician. Asking for advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3j8wbk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stopping the bus too early", "post": "This was my first day of high school and i was already really stressed out. What made things even worse is that i havent lived in the city for more than one week before so i didn't know where to press the stop button to exit. \n\nSo my day goes fine until i try to find the bus, but i couldn't find the bus stop where i was going to board the bus. I walked for like half an hour and i found it, i kept thinking that if i dont find it i'll kill my dad who's job it was to find me a bus to take.\n\nWell, i found the stop and i boarded the bus. Like half an hour later i saw the stop where i were going to stop the bus. Unless it wasn't. It were 3,6 miles before i was ACTUALLY going to stop, but i didn't know that at the time so i hit stop and exited the bus.\n\nI walked for like 2 seconds before i saw that where my house originally were, there wasn't actually anything so i was thinking like \"FUCK, FUCK, FUCK\".\n\nI called my dad and swored him out to hell and if he didn't pick me up i would move again.\n\nAs angry as he was he said just to keep moving on the side of the road. So i walked for like 1,5 hours before i heard my phone ringing. My dad called to tell me that my stepmom was coming to \"rescue\" me and i said ok and that he should call her and tell her that i had been walking for like 2 hours. \n\n2 hours later i were like 4 feet from our house after taking the journey of walking over 3 mountains, 2 tunnels and 2 miles of asphalt. Then my stepmom comes riding in her car looking for me.\n\nI was so pissed i didn't talk to my dad for like 3 weeks.", "summary": "Stopped the bus too soon, had to walk over 3 mountains, 2 tunnels and 2 miles of road to get home."}
{"id": "t3_3fe2zh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a crude gesture at work...twice.", "post": "My coworker just finished his shift and was leaving but came back in because he forgot something. I heard him coming so took the opportunity to make it look like I had begun beating off in the back as soon as he had left. Unfortunately my manager walked past at that very moment and saw me making the jerking off movement. I got in big shit and was given a stern warning.\n\nA few hours later I was telling another coworker about what happened and made the exact same gesture again to demonstrate what I was doing, just as the same manager walked past again.\n\nRip me.", "summary": "My coworker just finished his shift and was leaving but came back in because he forgot something. I heard him coming so took the opportunity to make it look like I had begun beating off in the back as soon as he had left. Unfortunately my manager walked past at that very moment and saw me making the jerking off movement. I got in big shit and was given a stern warning."}
{"id": "t3_3bvq12", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by inviting over my coworkers' dead father.", "post": "Obligatory: this happened just now and I'm still wallowing in shame, but not badly enough to wait until it wears off to write a post\n\nI keep a bunch of dinosaur toys on my desk at work. There's a triceratops and a stegosaurus. I expect every intelligent person to know the difference between the two but, just in case you don't [here's a handy explanation] Right. So my desk-mate pointed to the triceratops this morning and asked if it was a stegosaurus. Rather than smacking him for not being a paleontologist, I gave a super dank explanation: \n\n\"No,\" said I. \"It's a tricerotops. Cuz it's got tri, three, ceras on its tops!\". So witty. So cool. That's why I'm the king of the workplace.\n\nMeanwhile, another coworker walked by. He said, \"hey, that's what my Dad used to say when he was describing tricerotops.\" Now, a social adept person would have heard the phrase \"what my Dad used to say\" and figured there might be more to the story. Not me. \n\n\"Hey!\" said I. \"That's awesome. Your Dad is awesome. Let's invite him to the office! Why has he never been here before? Can't wait to meet your dad!! He rocks.\" \n\nMy coworker just stared at me sadly and walked away. Turns out his Dad is dead, and the triceratops thing was a fond childhood memory, not an invitation to remind him of his loss. Oops.", "summary": "Invited coworker's dead father to the office. Ruined a happy childhood memory involving dinosaurs. Clarified stegosaurus vs triceratops once and for all."}
{"id": "t3_2rxkt0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [22M] for 6 months LDR. Is it over?", "post": "Hi everyone. I've been with my bf for 6 months (and we've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 months because I had to move away from him because of a job). I am, however, moving back to the city where he lives in about 2 months. But lately, I don't know, I love him, but he hasn't texted/messaged/called me in a week (nearly two weeks). Does this mean it's over? I messaged him and he said he had to go to bed, and now it's nearly been two weeks since I last heard from him. I haven't contacted him since btw.\n\nAnd some of you guys might be wondering \"why haven't you called him/texted him if you want to talk to him?\" but I haven't because I've been the one putting in all the effort. I'm the first to text him and I'm the first person to initiate contact. I just want him to put in effort and I don't want to annoy him. I'm just SO afraid that this he's over me but instead of dumping me, he's going to fade away and then that will be it.  I don't want that. I'm going crazy thinking about this. \n\nSo my question is this: is it normal to not contact someone for nearly two weeks and is it over? I miss him and just wish he would contact me. Long distance relationships are unbelievably difficult and I miss him so much. I just don't know where we stand.", "summary": "My bf hasn't contacted me. LDR. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ijobh", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm being accused of cheating during a university exam. What should/can I do?", "post": "Hi. \n\nSo I'm a senior at a German university. I'm currently writing my masters thesis and in my LAST exam I took, I'm accused of cheating. \n\nHere is what happened.\n\nIt was an exam about international taxation. I'n all my classes we were always allowed to use so called \"uncommented laws\" as a help, meaning we were not allowed to write anything in our law books EXCEPT underline the text AND make a note at the side of a paragraph referring to another paragraph. But said note was only allowed to be a number - no written text, i.e. next to the paragraph 3 of the Income Law I draw a number 4 referring to paragraph 4. \nThis was always allowed and its still always referred as \"uncommented\". \n\nHowever, at this exam about international taxation the prof didn't allow said notes at the side of a paragraph referring to a different one. He still allowed underlining. \nYet, he still called it \"uncommented\" as well. \n\nSo therefore I wasn't aware that this prof had a different definition of \"uncommented\" than all the other profs at my university. \nSo, at the beginning of the exam, right after it was handed out, the supervisor checked my law book and of course said it was not allowed b/c these notes were in it. He took it away and I had to take the exam without it. But no problem there. I managed somehow. \n\nAfterwards the prof accused me of trying to cheat, which would result in a F. \nI tried to explain the situation of the different definitions of \"uncommented\" and that I simply made mistake. Yet, the commission did not rule in my favor. \n\nAs of now I have 4 weeks to reply to that decision or I have to take the exam again (also in about 4 weeks).\n\nWhat should I do? Get a lawyer? Let it slide? Is my case even reasonable? Did anyone of you had a similar experience?\n\nThanks ahead for your comments!", "summary": "I had notes in my law book, which were usually allowed but not for this exam and no I'm accused of cheating which would result in a F"}
{"id": "t3_2xkfb8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did it make \"date\" clear enough?", "post": "I'm quite sure I have but I have a few little doubts; I'll try to be brief. \nThe girl is in the same class as me, the course required a group project. I paired up with this guy I'm good friends with and then went out of my way to make sure this girl had a group because I noticed she wasn't in one with anyone else. We met without the other guy in the group to work on the project but ended up procrastinating alot since we got on quite well. I asked her for her number after and sort of made it like \"You're in the same group so it'd be good to have it, but I'd like it anyway\" to which she agreed. I asked her out for coffee and said \"I don't have studying in mind\" and she agreed to go out. I feel pretty sure that she knows it's a \"date\" but I never explicitly said and I haven't done anything like say \"you look nice today\" or flirt in an obvious way (although I plan to do this asap) so do you think she gets the message? It would be cool to get some girls opinions but I'd be glad to hear anything.", "summary": "Girl in same class and group project, got her number and asked her out for a coffee (she agreed) but could she think its classwork related?"}
{"id": "t3_ky00s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm in grade 12 at a new school, and I'm already being bullied. Suggestions?", "post": "I just started a new school for my last year. I was in my class and I was doing a favour for the teacher while she was busy and this girl was trying to tell me what to do. I asked her to stop politely twice. She wouldn't, so I told her to cut it out. After class, her friend body-checked me. :S Some girl I've never met. A couple days after that, the girl's (who body-checked me) friend threw something at me. And they all mock stuff that I say. (This is including 4 more girls whom I've never met nor spoken to. I don't even know most of their names.) I am honestly a nice girl, and I've never done anything wrong to any of these girls. Ever. Like I said, I'm new. I've been ignoring it so far, and acting like it doesn't bother me, but clearly it does. Any suggestions? Also, I really don't want to fight. Not that I can't, just my last resort.", "summary": "Girls I don't know bullying me, never did anything to them. Don't want to fight."}
{"id": "t3_4q2bik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [24 M] 1 month, his ex-girlfriend [20 F] wants to ruin our relationship.", "post": "Okay, so I met this guy over the internet. He lives on a city 2 hours away from mine. We've been meeting for a month (he's been coming to my city), and suddenly his stalker ex-girlfriend looks for my BROTHER on instagram/whatsapp and starts saying stuff that went wrong on their relationship, like saying that he cheated on her once, something my SO told me beforehand on an attempt to be truthful to me, so that wasn't a surprise.\n\nShe also accused him of really bad things based on a small conversation. He told me his version and it seemed pretty accurate, so I didn't listen to her. I asked to talk to her because I was too embarrassed she looked over to my brother to say all this stuff.\n\nSo she told me he \"changed her style\" and her friends got away as they dated. But he told me they had an abusive relationship for 4 years, where she wouldn't let him play games with his friends and talk to girls, and she would pick his phone to check up all his messages. When they ended the relationship she was so upset she put up pictures, his name and his cellphone number on a gay dating app.\n\nNow my brother is suspecting of him, while I trust my SO. He's been very loving and respectful to me. I'm also afraid that this girl comes back again and does something stupid to him or myself.", "summary": "My SO's ex-girlfriend came to my brother and told things that went wrong on their relationship. I'm kinda confused. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1kcsc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [28F] miserable in my marriage [to 27M] but not sure if its bad enough to leave.", "post": "Well, I think the title says it all. I'm miserable and so is my husband. We're fighting constantly (about EVERYTHING), never do anything together and I have a low libido which he takes personally. We've been married for two and a half years, together for four total. We haven't been to marriage counseling yet but that's the next step. \n\nI love him but am so sick and tired of being sad, depressed and moody. I daydream about being alone constantly and wish I could just move out and leave everything behind. I think we moved into things too quickly and didn't get to know each other first. We're (well mostly him) constantly saying things like \"If I knew xxx I wouldn't have married you\" or \"If you did xxx when we were dating I wouldn't have stayed with you\". I want to be happy and I want him to be too, and if that means we separate, I'm okay with that.\n\nWe rent, don't have kids and not much in savings so the split would be pretty easy (well, not easy but you know what I mean). I guess what I'm looking for is advice from people who have been in the same situation. I know we made vows to each other but I can't take this much longer.", "summary": "Miserable with my husband but not sure if I should end this. Just looking for advice and input from people who have been there."}
{"id": "t3_qokol", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm with the love of my life but...", "post": "My Fiance and I (engaged last Christmas) have been together for 7 years.  She is the love of my life and she feels like I am absolutely perfect for her.  I would classify our relationship as very healthy and mutually supportive.  I am straight and she is bisexual.  She had never been with a woman before, so we both agreed it would be a good idea for her to hook-up with a very good, close friend (I'll call her Liz).  They had a blast and we had a threesome together a few days later.  But now Liz has feelings for my fiance and my fiance has similar feelings in return.  My fiance and I are still going to get married but now Liz wants to pursue a relationship with my fiance.  Is it wrong to think that this could play out successfully?  Or will this relationship (Her and Liz) eventually crash and burn?  My fiance is very open about all of her feelings with me and her feelings for me are much stronger than those for Liz. There is no question in either of our minds that we are going to get married. Any advice on what to do from here would be very appreciated, Neither of us have ever really been put in a situation like this before.", "summary": "My amazing fiance has crush on a female friend who likes her back.  She should pursue it or should she break things off? My fiance loves me very much."}
{"id": "t3_vsqig", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "BF (25) treats me (F20) badly. Need advice on talking to him.", "post": "Him: M, 25. Me: F, 20. Relationship of four years. \n\nHe's pretty selfish. Says he loves me, but it seems like he only does when it's convenient for him. If his friends want to go to the bars, he will ditch me in a heartbeat to do so. I don't trust him when he's been drinking. We don't have any of the same friends, and he tells all his friends he's single. Whenever I talk to him about this stuff, he denies it. Says I love you, blah blah blah, bullshit he knows a girl would want to hear. He flirts with other girls, denies it. I really really think he doesn't see it as wrong and that's why he does it. It's a lot of little things like that. It's like this guy doesn't know HOW to be in a relationship. \n\nI don't think he gets it. He didn't date a lot before me. He's kind of an awkward guy. Awkward and stubborn. I need some talking points, some things to say that will get through to him, but won't set him off. He has a temper. \n\nNo, I don't want to dump him. I don't want \"dump that loser, he's a jerk\" If that's what I wanted, I'd do it. If I'm stupid for staying with him, so be it. I want to stay with him but I want to make things better.", "summary": "I'm 20/F, don't like how 25/M BF treats me. It's like he needs a lesson on how to be a boyfriend. Need advice on what to say to a stubborn, oblivious, hot-headed guy."}
{"id": "t3_lh6lp", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Gorgeous gal, danger comment", "post": "I was a senior when she was a sophomore. She is now a senior and posted pic's to facebook. She is serioiusly beautiful. I wanted to comment \"You are crazy beautiful.\" But the thing is, her boyfriend is my age, kind of know the bro. He's short. But \"cool.\" and in a gang of kids composed of guys my age (19-21) from my fairly close to rural town. Bigger city kids show them up big time. But still. I'm skinny, that kid feels like he needs to prove something, i'm the perfect oportunity. That is, unless, i don't voice my opinion on how naturally fucking gorgeous his girlfriend is. I seriously have no interest in stepping in. I just feel weird that i don't say something about her. WTF?! post-recreation", "summary": "Should have maybe posted to trees."}
{"id": "t3_ujvsy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I am adopting an 8 week old kitten and need some advice!", "post": "I have 2 questions. \n\n**1.** I'm adopting a kitten out of some kind of harsh circumstances. My friend's cat got pregnant and the kittens needed a good home so I agreed to adopt one because I had been considering a cat anyway. The kittens DO have fleas, kinda bad too. I have bought a kitten safe (even under 12 weeks) flea shampoo to help and a flea repellent spray for the carrier and the towels in the bottom. Are there any other flea precautions I can take? \n\n**2.** The kitten is back in my home town, which is 4 hours from my current location. Travel for me there and back is easy, but I'm worried about how it will go for the kitten. I am prepared for messes and meowing, is there anything I can do to help de-stress the cat? Is this much travel on a kitten too stressful?", "summary": "I need tips for fleas on kittens under 12 weeks and tips for travel under 5 hours (by car)"}
{"id": "t3_2qpsra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my SO [27 M] of 3.5 years, I went through his texts and can't stop thinking about something I saw.", "post": "I admit that going through his text messages was wrong and I do feel incredibly guilty about it now but the bigger issue for me is that I found something that I can't stop thinking about. He was talking to his good female friend and I saw a text that said \"am I being an idiot for leaving [my name]\"? . I stopped reading after that because I started having a panic attack. The idea of breaking up was not even on my radar and I thought he was more than happy. Again, I know I shouldn't have looked but whats done is done and now I can't stop worrying about when it's going to happen. And now i'm being clingy just because of my worry which i'm sure doesn't help. I love him and don't want to lose him.", "summary": "I saw a text from my SO to his friend about leaving me, can't stop freaking out. Need serious advice."}
{"id": "t3_462om9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [29 M] struggling to support my girlfriend [23 F]", "post": "I'm worried this is going to make me sound awful but I'm really struggling to cope. My girlfriend and I moved in together a few weeks ago and this coincided with her Grandpa getting very sick.\n\nAs a result she's been visiting him at his care home or her grandma virtually every night after work.\n\nThis effectively means I'm doing all the chores and cooking dinner because by the time she gets home it's too late for her to do it. Then when she does get back she's upset and needs cheering up.\n\nI'm trying to be supportive but it's wearing me out. This morning she told me not to clean the kitchen before she gets back and that she'd cook dinner but then her mum rang her and asked her to go and see her grandma after work because she's upset.\n\nI'm not going to leave the messy kitchen and the dinner for her but I'm exhausted and I'm pissed off that the rest of her family are taking so little responsibility.\n\nShe's got a sister who works in our town who could visit her grandparents after work but doesn't and two cousins who also do nothing.\n\nOn top of this I have an elderly Grandpa of my own who I'm struggling to visit because of the added burdens being placed on me.\n\nI'm quite stressed at work at the moment and I can't deal with the thought of going home, cleaning the kitchen, cooking the dinner and putting laundry on then cheering my girlfriend up when she inevitably comes back in tears.\n\nI want her to stop carrying her family on her back because the longer this goes on the more the others are going to just assume it's fine and they don't need to help out.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "My girlfriend is having to support her family practically singlehandedly and I'm struggling to cope with the added burden of doing all the chores because she's never around."}
{"id": "t3_1d4p2n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rinsing with listerine", "post": "In the spirit of good oral hygiene, I decided to use some of my fine Listerine anti-cavity rinse this evening, which was located on the top of the cabinet in my bathroom.  It had no cap, but lots of our stuff has no cap... So I filled up the dispensing top and let it settle at the appropriate level.\n\nInto the mouth to start some vigorous swishing!\n\nHmm... wtf is that granular stuff in my mouth?!  Sugar? I proceeded to spit it out into the virgin white sink.\n\nBlack.  Lots and Lots of black.\n\nThat isn't sugar my dear, it is m'fing ANTS!\n\nI nearly vomited and am having a difficult time not vomiting as I type this now.\n\nI went in search of some proper Listerine to cleanse my mouth.  But it didn't solve the problem..  I still had this clenching sensation in my chest that something was amiss.\n\nSo I proceeded to make myself a Knob creek (bourbon) and ginger ale.  Which thankfully has made this much better... but that clenching sensation is still there.", "summary": "I used some mouthwash, whose dispenser was a perfect trap for ants.  So I gargled with 25-50 dead ants and nearly vomited."}
{"id": "t3_2jtrqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 18 M asked a 18 F out on a date, now what?", "post": "This girl and I met over the internet and have never met, she lives only 8km away so it will be very easy to meet her. We started texting around five days ago and we seemed to get along very well , she would say things like \"I like talking to you alot\" and \"you're really sweet\" So I decided to ask her out on a date and she said yes! ... Well problem is i'm always the one to initiate conversation, She has never started texting me out of the blue. I'm wondering if I should ease off and let her start some conversations or should I keep initiating daily conversations?", "summary": "Been talking to this girl for almost a week and asked her out on a date. Should I keep texting her daily until the date or let her \"chase\" abit?"}
{"id": "t3_t8e0y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hi Reddit. Can't Get Over My Ex-GF. Need help.", "post": "A year ago, I was a 25-yo computer nerd who had never been in a relationship with a girl I wasn't ashamed of. Along comes a hot 26-yo single mom rebounding from her failed marriage who somehow got it in her head that I was cool. We were practically joined at the hip for 6 months, and although we had problems from the beginning (she lied to me several times, and would tearfully admit to cheating on me with random guys we both knew after our not-so-occasional fights), I have to admit, I've never been happier. I know that sounds fucked up, but problems aside, this girl brought out a side of me I didn't know existed, and made me feel like more than a socially awkward loner who happens to know vector calculus.\n\nThen an old acquaintance of mine started pursuing her, and she eventually left me for him entirely, which I took pretty hard. That was 6 months ago, and I finally thought I was starting to get over her, when I ran into her by chance the other day, and have been depressed ever since. I can't sleep at night, and when I do, I have dreams about her and wake up depressed and lonely.\n\nIn truth, I have to admit that the situation matters more than the girl. If she had left me for her ex-husband or someone else who I have zero respect for, I'd be totally fine. Or if I thought she was treating the other guy as badly as she treated me, I guess I wouldn't take it personally, but I know that's not the case. They seem happier together than we ever were. What made it extra difficult for me is that I had a lot of respect for the guy she left me for, I know he's smarter than I am and I used to look up to him.\n\nIf anyone can offer advice or suggestions that I can't find by searching for \"how to get over your ex\" on google, please share.", "summary": "I can't get more concise than the title of this post."}
{"id": "t3_2it8n8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking about my imaginary girlfriend in front of a girl I had planned on asking out", "post": "I haven't gone to sleep yet so if you're not counting by your clock, this sort of happened today.\n\nWhile at work, (I'm a waiter/server/whatever floats your boat) a very attractive customer walked in alone and sat in my section. As she was my only table I decided to stay and talk to her for a bit since I had nothing work related to do. We clicked extremely well for two strangers and talked for a while about everything random. About 10 minutes go by of wonderful conversation and I'm starting to think maybe I can ask this girl out when I get a table of eight people that requested to sit 2 feet away and in ear shot of the beautiful woman I was conversing with.\n\nI managed to talk a few of these people into trying one of our dishes that they had never tried and they really liked it. They told me I was right about the meal and that it was amazing! In my \"schmooziness\" I replied with, \"Of course you did, I'm always right! Unless you ask my girlfriend!\" (Insert laughter here.) In my stupidity I said this without realizing I had said that right in front of the girl I was speaking with earlier. I got a pretty dirty glance from her and she stormed out of the restaurant pretty quickly. :/ I suck.", "summary": "Lied to make a joke funnier and ruined my chance of a date."}
{"id": "t3_3e5iga", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by realizing I was spelling my intern's name wrong his whole intership after reading comments in my previous TIFU posts about my intern", "post": "[This was the last post I made talking about me fucking up in regards to my intern]\n(\n\nI was reading the comments on the post me fucking up constantly with my intern and his situation with his birthday on our super long day, I realized that I had been spelling his name wrong this entire time. I've been spelling it Jeffery instead of Jeffrey. While this might seem small, I had not been able to submit intern weekly status reports into our system for the past 7 weeks. Me and my poor intern has spent the last 7 Fridays in talking with our IT Support Tech team. We assumed his ID number was glitchy, but I just been entering his name wrong this entire time. Every other intern has their reports in a nice facebook-esque profile account while mine has been putting his into a plain Staples folder. Luckily for me, hes not here this week so I'll be able to submit the last 7 at once and make his profile look nice and tidy. I'm definitely adding that he has been working through obstacles due to management into the challenges faced part of his resume.", "summary": "Jeffrey not Jeffery. Also, I'm a shit mentor."}
{"id": "t3_1m8etu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi faceless friends/should I be a police officer?", "post": "So, yes, I have resorted to anonymous posts or inbox replies from strangers...but, I think I need to be a police officer/detective. I was raised on VERY religious/strict backgrounds so I rebelled and tried somethings while I was a young adult. I went to college and have a B.S. in criminal justice administration. I then decided social work is more proactive, but still have a huge desire/draw to be an officer. Am I wasting time as a female if I try? And also, what's the paperwork ratio? For people involved in our system, what's the 'better' work to handle? I do supervised visitations, but am NOT CPS, and I am always looking out for clients. Wouldn't want to lose that respect as a cop, and desire that field...a lot!", "summary": "girl with criminal education background needs to know if cop/detective work might be my ally, or go with social work?"}
{"id": "t3_1jamkz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how would you deal with a boss that threatens to \"bad mouth you\"?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI am 26 year old IT guy with a stay at home wife that takes care of our 8 month old son.\n\nI never knew what I wanted to do with my life. I never went to college because I had no vision of where I wanted to go. Until I hit my 20's. And somehow figured it out. I have been a gamer all my life, to it being my only hobby and something that I took very seriously. But while in my teenage years I never reached the conclusion that one could have a career in the video game industry.\n\nSo that is what I wanted to do with my life. I worked hard and applied myself and job hunted for several years.\n\nAfter finally getting a job offer at a company in the video game industry as a technical customer assistant, I was pretty happy.\n\nBut I guess that life throws everything at once.\n\n2 months after I started working for this company, I had a job offer from the company that I have wanted to work for ever since I figured out this was my path. The company of my dreams. The thing you want but never thought it be possible.\n\nSo the dilemma was set. The job offer was much, much better than the job I have now, both in terms of job security, salary and benefits. And also, the plus of actually nailing my dream job.\n\nThis would solve all my problems. So I decided to talk to my boss today about it.\n\nHe had always been a nice guy, but ever since I started working there I noticed that everyone feared him. Not respect him, actually fear him.\n\nIn this instance, after I explained my situation he told me coldly that if I went through with it that he would \"bad mouth me\".\n\nHe also was very passive aggressive with saying certain things that I really felt he wanted to make my life miserable.\n\nAll this because I only worked for 2 months and now want out.\n\nThis makes me very afraid that he will ruin it for me, as he has been in the industry and certainly has contacts.\n\nWhat do I do reddit?", "summary": "Titty sprinkles."}
{"id": "t3_3h7snu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by running from the police.", "post": "This happened last night/early hours of this morning, so it's pretty fresh in my mind. For added background I'm a 16 year old guy living in Scotland.\n\nLast night myself and a few friends were invited to a house party, which was good fun. Being the 16 year olds that we are we really don't care what we drink, as long as it gets us drunk, so 3 bottles of buckfast later and a coke, rum, vodka, tequila mix between the 4 of us (there was about 100 people at this party, we don't share or hand out drinks lol sorry) we were all a mess.\n\nBy the end of the night we were pretty intoxicated, and we were about to head to another party, but we were all to drunk to move. We waited a outside for a while where the first party was being held and, because when we are drunk we smoke, I decided to start rolling a cigarette. Next thing I know there are headlights are in my face. It was the police. \n\nWe were all drunk and still had bottles of beer on us, so we began to run. I threw my cigarette back in it's rolling pouch and began to run as fast as I could. Imagine what it looks like to a police officer when a teenager is rolling something then begins to run when they show up? \n\nI feel the strongest takedown of my life. This guy was superhuman. All my friends kept on running, every man for themselves, bolting away in every direction. I get dragged to my feet and they ask me what I was rolling. At this point I was thinking the whole \"don't say weed... don't say weed\" to myself, but sure enough the drunk mess I am comes out with \"weed... I... I mean... It was a cigarette\". They searched my bag and took all my alcohol, which is fair enough, but they searched me for about 10-15 minutes looking for this weed that I didn't have. It was humiliating. They found where I kept my tobacco and looked through that before handing it back feeling satisfied that I wasn't carrying any drugs.\n\nThey took all my details and because my Dad was also in the police (sorry Dad) they let me walk home and brushed it all under the rug.", "summary": "got drunk, was rolling a cigarette, police came, I ran and got tackled, they thought it was weed, I said it was weed."}
{"id": "t3_1cu9jt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I slept with someone who has wanted me for the past 9 years.", "post": "Off the bat I just want to make it clear that by \"wanted me,\" I mean as in wanted to sleep with me, not as in wanted a relationship.  I just wanted to get this off my chest to strangers because I think people I know in real life would be weird about it.\n\nI met him when I was 20 at a club in the city where I went to college.  I gave him my number but nothing ever happened between us.  We would text and IM each other occasionally and often it would get to a point where he would say he wanted to have sex with me.  We never did.  Over the course of 9 years, we'd say we would get food, hang out, visit each other, have sex, but we never did.\n\nThen here came last night.  I asked him what he was doing that night. He said staying home and halfway jokingly asked if I were coming over.  I said I would.  I knew what was going to happen and I wanted it.  So I bought a bottle of wine, took it to his place, we watched tv and then had sex.  Didn't even open the wine.  I also didn't sleep over.", "summary": "I finally had sex with a man who wanted me for almost a decade."}
{"id": "t3_3ge134", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roomate [28M] doesn't clean his room, the horrible smell is leaking out- even under the walls. How can we confront him? [31F/26M/35F/38M]", "post": "Our roomie, lets call him Phil, is a quiet, socially awkward, fellow. He's polite, showers daily, and hardly uses the common areas of the house. He commutes to work during the week, comes home, makes a big salad, or orders takeout, then plays League until his bed time. \n\nWe all hang out together from time to time, roasting smores in our fire place, sharing a meal together, or playing board games.\n\nHe smells fine. The trouble is his room. It stinks! I don't think he's cleaned it since we signed the lease- nine months ago.\n\nOne day Phil left his door open after leaving for work, and when I got up (three hours later) the smell was still wafting out, down the hall. I took a quick peak in to survey the state of things, thinking maybe I could just open his windows for a few hours and air the place out. \n\nThere were some take out bags waiting to be dealt with, a few cups and plates, and *a lot* of clutter. Obviously, the takeout is a big problem, but it wasn't the piles of garbage I was expecting from such a smell. There was a huge pile of laundry, and a smattering of receipts, napkins, empty amazon fresh bags waiting to be returned, and a thick layer of dust and grime covering the floor and every surface. But- he's not a hoarder, he just doesn't seem to keep his room clean. I don't think he's ever swept, mopped or wiped down anything. \n\nWe're worried about Phil's room, not just because of the smell, which has become unbearable(!), but because we might not get out deposit back if it continues like this. \n\nHis room not only needs a serious deep clean- but it has to be maintained. We know this is going to be awkward, and we want some suggestions on how best to confront him. How can we approach him?", "summary": "Roommate needs to clean his room, the stink is coming out under the walls and door. How can we tactfully tell him to take care of this problem and maintain a clean room in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_4of7fc", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Finally ready going back to school. Is it too late?", "post": "Sorry for the long drawn out issue and I'm on my phone so there might be errors. \n\nI'm 25 and this past spring I took a long, hard look at my life. I don't like my job situation, even though it's decent, I just don't want to be doing it anymore. Im going back to school in August, and plan on focusing on veterinarian medicine, for the time being. Maybe quitting my current job or getting a second job as a veterinary technician.\n\nThe thing is, I won't be going back full time for another few years given my finacial situation of having to work. So that leaves me with more than 8 years of school, so if I do the math I'll be almost 40 by the time I graduate. Which I'll probably be fine with. Better late than never. Maybe I'll take summer courses. Maybe when I go back full time I'll take on a huge work load of credits to make up for it. Maybe I won't even want to do that by the time I'm knee deep in it and change to something else. Being a vet for exotic animals(specifically for rehabilitation for neglected and abused) is something I've always wanted to do and if I end up sticking with it I'll have a huge hole of debt I'll probably be paying off until I'm way in my 50s or 60s. Which I don't see a problem with because I don't see myself retiring until I'm finally dead, or owning a house, getting married, and definitely don't want kids.\n\nHaving loads of money isn't what's going to make me happy, being able to do things that are dear to my heart while living reasonably by myself is really okay.\n\nSo to sum it all up, my questions are:\n\nDoes anyone think it's too late for me to take this on in my at my age?\n\nIs there anything that I might be able look forward to in this situation? (I'm kind of going through anxiety think about it all and may need motivation to hold onto for later)\n\nIs there anything I SHOULD be worried about in this situation that I might be overlooking?", "summary": "25 and finally ready for school. Long stretch ahead. Money and time not an issue for now. Is it too late though? Am I going to regret it?"}
{"id": "t3_37nkoi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Construction Worker", "post": "I'm a contracted construction worker in Indiana. When I took this job I was told the pay would average out to 10.00/hr. When we start a job the contract is wrote up saying upon completion I'll get this much money. What I want to know is if they require me to be there between specific hours if they have to at least meet minimum wage pay for that time? Like if I work 7:00 A.M. to 4:00 P.M. every day with an hour lunch are they required to meet at least 7.25 for those 40 hours?  Sorry if I'm rambling and not making much sense, it's been a rough day.  If any clarification is needed just ask me.  I looked up what I could find for construction workers and my understanding was they had to at least meet min wage.\n\n(copied from comments for clarity)\nLet me start at the beginning. Two of my friends opened up a construction company (llc). I went to work as a subcontractor and was told the pay would average 10/hr. I started Apr 13th at the end of a project and was given 100 for 4 days work with 75 still owed to me. We started the next project which I signed a contract for 800 on what was supposed to be a 3 week job. I was paid 400 at the halfway point. The job ended up taking 5 weeks or so and should be done Monday where I'll receive 400 more. We did another one for 2 weeks and I was paid 200 with an \"adjustment\" owed. I've worked roughly 32 days averaging 9 hours a day and I've made 700 bucks so far.", "summary": "I've worked 288 hours roughly and made 700 dollars so far. Is this legal?"}
{"id": "t3_1e7vfy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Mother's Day for numerous reasons", "post": "In short occasionally I will fall short on finding a good gift for mother's day or other \"holidays\" but I will always call whomever that day. Bring in last week, where Amazon's local deal seemed tohave a nice deal to order flowers to my parent's home to my mom for Mother's Day. Talked to my Dad about it, and after talking to him it seemed not to be worth it. \n\nOver the week I wasn't able to  find a decent gift that i thought would be liked so planned on sending a card or e-card. Though with a research project I am a part of at my college, my week and weekend was spent doing work on it, and due to horrible cell signals in the research lab, wasn't able to call.\n\nMom gets pissed as my brother completely forgot as well, won't talk to either of us, which don't blame her for.\n\nEven if I wanted to send a gift now, I feel its too late and even then the idea I had was said not to be good when I asked my Dad's opinion yet again. Such chalking today up to be a complete failure.", "summary": "Fucked up by not getting a gift for my Mom on Mother's Day."}
{"id": "t3_2ony9x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[32/m] I am in love with a woman [22/f] and I want to ask her to marry me", "post": "This is a throwaway... Basically I am 32 years old and the woman I am thinking of proposing to is 22. I feel like that is creepy. The values in todays society are very warped. I didn't want to ask her on a date, because I figured she might think I was only after sex. I genuinely care for this person and I am and sincere. I know people used to do things like this in the past, so I feel like its not a new concept, its just different from what is popular today. There is a bit more to the story, and its not quite this simple. Her father and I worked together for a few years. Thats how we met. We never had any relationship other than a few casual conversations. I am terrifed and thrilled to think that the end result is slightly better odds than not asking her at all. But I wrote it all out in a letter last night and it made me feel a lot better able to accept being alone if I ask, knowing fulll well that it may ruin my friendship with her dad, or worse , it could blow up in my face and she may tell everyone she and I know that I am crazy to even be asking...seemingly out of nowhere. I need advice! Has anyone been through anything like this? Women, is this a bad idea? Is there even a chance or am I just going to make a fool of myself?", "summary": "I need somene to give me a reality check before I make a fool of myself."}
{"id": "t3_3aqdb1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Does anyone have advices for getting into a relationship while still recovering from a horrible relationship?", "post": "So about 2 years ago I got out of a horrible alcohol driven abusive relationship. I am still recovering, I've really only had countless one night stands to try to fill the void of feeling awful, like literally 4-5 times a week. I never sleep over, develop feelings or anything like that. I've finally met someone I am interested in starting a relationship with but I still have all these barriers up, I still hook up. I limit myself to seeing this person 1 or 2 times a week, I still don't sleep over. I'd like to change that but I don't know how and I am really scared to.  My ex who I don't speak to was in a new relationship with in a month of our break up and says it was easier to get in a new relationship because he doesn't remember the last month of out relationship. I havent spoken to him in over a year. I am so so angry at him, I remember cleaning up his piss, vomit, shit. I remember dragging him up stairs when he passed out in his car, I remember him disappearing for days on end or strange men showing up to the apartment. This is what is preventing me from any new relationships. Any ideas on how to change?", "summary": "Was in a shitty relationship, two years later still not ready get into a relationship but want to be. How do I change?"}
{"id": "t3_52s9nw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [24F] together 1.5 years, Walked in on me", "post": "Today, my girlfriend who I live with walked in on me taking care of myself while I thought no one was home. She is helping me through school and at the time I thought she was upset because I wasn't studying. She had just argued with her parents that I couldn't help her dad move stuff from their old house because I was busy studying. She walked in at the absolute worst time because the hours leading up to that moment I had been studying.\n\nShes texting me now and I'm finding out that what really upset her was that she feels as though she has to force me to have sex and even thought I might have ED. She is very angry and I felt embarrassed trying to explain that it was not because I was turned on I just needed to relax a moment and keep studying. She thinks I don't find her attractive which is not true.  I don't know if this is only true of me or men in general but most of the time it is not a sexual thing.  It just helps relieve stress.\n\nI recently broke my leg and gained a lot of weight during that time. Sex isn't as appealing for me because of how I feel, not because of her. I tried to explain it to her but she is still very upset. How do other women feel who may have been in a similar situation? What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend walked in on me taking care of myself and is upset because she feels this means I do not find her attractive.  This is not at all the case but how can I show her that?"}
{"id": "t3_1f50jy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (23) and I (22) have hit a rough patch.", "post": "We've been dating since I was 18 and he was 20 and have an amazing connection. I love him more than anything, but lately things are...different.\n\nOn the topic of serious discussions - When we disagree it's usually just before bed, and 9 times out of 10 he will fall asleep and leave me talking to myself. There have been many many nights where I just lay there frustrated until 2 in the morning listening to him snoring. I feel like he brings these issues up at night and then avoids the problem by falling asleep so that it can be forgotten about by morning, and let me tell you, it's the most frustrating feeling in the world. Honestly, it makes me feel like he doesn't care about how I feel. \n\nOn the topic of friends/family - He has a really great group of close friends and an incredibly supportive family. I have neither. As a result we're always hanging out with his friends and going to visit his family.. but never mine. I know they're not as great as his, but they are still important people in my life that I would like to continue a relationship with. \n\nOn the topic of sex - He doesn't come on to me really, ever. Once in a blue moon he will, but I initiate for the most part and I get shut down more often than I think is fair. I understand if his sex drive isn't as high as mine, but it does make me feel insecure. \n\nSo to wrap it all up, I do love my boyfriend. We share a very meaningful connection that I don't want to give up. But I'm not very happy, and I feel like I should be using my early twenties to discover my own identity, and find my independence. When I imagine how I want my life to be, it's not very similar to how it is. What would you do? Have you been in a similar situation? If so, how did it work out?", "summary": "I am in a loving relationship, but feel unsatisfied emotionally, sexually, and for personal reasons, mainly due to my own quest for independence."}
{"id": "t3_3q2004", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my ex gf of 3 years[20F] , financial advice needed!", "post": "I just recently went through a devastating break up. Short story (gf of 3 years, moved from London to NY to be with her, got a place together 3 months in at her new job she met a new guy, I moved out. I gave her everything she ever wanted and now im jobless looking to get back on my feet). She is now in a relationship with the person from work, you can find more here : \n\nMy question is this : she paid for one semester at uni for me (3,000). After I graduated I got a summer job and paid for furniture, moves, to ny from London etc. I've always told her I would pay her back when I got a job. She cheated on me, I had to quit my job to leave our apartment (I was on the lease). Moved to another state, she kept everything and I have nothing I put in. She also is in a new relationship within days of me leaving.\n\nI don't know if I should pay her back or this is the price you pay when you break someone's heart?\n\nThings are picking up for me, I have a couple of job positive interviews, jobs that I would get would pay 60k+\n\nI would love to hear some opinions, and advice.", "summary": "Should I pay my ex back after she fucked me, and left me with nothing"}
{"id": "t3_3mdhv4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Hurt hurting the hurt.", "post": "Not really asking for advice, so much as sharing my own thoughts if they help anyone in a similar situation:\n\nI've been through a lot, a share of it my own fault, a share of it others, nobody's perfect, we're all flawed bags of meat trying to figure out which way is which.\n\nThe people I find myself relating to the most are usually those who've been through a lot. Not necessarily intentionally, just there's a level of maturity there you don't always get with more sheltered folks.\n\nProblem is as great as these friendships could be, I often find myself getting in my own way. Worrying about the strength of the friendship, over-analyzing things for signs that it could turn bad like other unrelated things in the past have. I've been through this process time and time again and slowly it's starting to get a bit more clear as my urge to maintain what I have outweighs my urge to runaway and start over.\n\nThe thing is when you're coming from a place of hurt, you need to trust that people aren't going to hurt you. Yes, people break trust sometimes and it fucking sucks. But if you don't trust those around you, they won't trust you.\n\nSecondly, if those people have been hurt themselves in the past, acknowledge that not everything is always a personal attack. If you're capable of throwing up your defenses involuntarily, chances are they are too. Be patient, be calm, and things will more likely than not improve if you have faith in them.\n\nI've had friends disappear out of my life for years at a time for various reasons. One got swept away by a controlling ex, one had an identity crisis which butted heads with my own, an other times life just got in the way. \n\nI guess the", "summary": "of it all is know where you're coming from and if how you're acting pertains to the situation or is just being defensive. Know that not everyone else's life is a perfect ball of sunshine either. Life is hard, but it doesn't have to be as hard as you make it."}
{"id": "t3_2jwugq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When was the last time you were \"that guy\" or \"that girl\"?", "post": "I was at one of my best friends' wedding this past weekend... everything went well.  After party at this bar down the street... It gets to be like waayy late and only a few of us are left... I am 29 years old... everyone else is like 23-25...     \nThere were limited options on the jukebox...which played actual CDs. I ended up playing \"I'm bossy\" by Kelis, and \"Crossroads\" by bone thugs, and \"time is on my side\" rolling stones like ovvver and over and over because they were the only 3 decent options.  By the 3rd \"time is on my side\"... still singing at the top of my lungs at 2am... in hindsight, I was totally *that guy*... Do I regret it? No.", "summary": "after best friends wedding, drunk singing."}
{"id": "t3_lztlo", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "BofA just charged me $300 in overdraft fees. I'm freaking out.", "post": "I honestly don't know what to do. Just a little background, I use an ACH card to make purchases at work (I work at a Target and I get a bigger discount that way). I normally use it to pay for my lunches, which isn't a problem except that through a series of mistakes I've now been hit with 8 overdraft charges in a row. So, $250 in fees for less than $20 of goods purchased? Really? I don't make much money and this is my entire paycheck gone before I get it. Direct deposit and it goes through tonight so there's no way to get a paper check. I called a month or two ago when I got hit with $70 in fees and they removed them, but said I wouldn't be able to do the same thing again. What the hell can I do?", "summary": "I fucked up bad. Panicking."}
{"id": "t3_4p6sbi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [25F] cheated on her husband [25] of 3 years. Everyone knows except him.", "post": "This happened last summer.\nThey got married young, and everything was going well for a while. However, things went a bit sour, one of the strains being in that he was working a dead-end job to pay their rent because she can't work for medical reasons.\n\nShe found a new guy online, hooked up with him a few times. She realised that she didn't like him and went back to her husband. In the meantime, she told a few girlfriends about it (myself included). He knows nothing.\n\nHe has just been offered a fantastic opportunity in a new city. I feel that it is so unfair on him, who has been nothing but lovely to her. Do I say anything?", "summary": "Friend of many years cheated on husband and told some friends. Husband is oblivious."}
{"id": "t3_1du8dh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm starting to feel like my needs aren't being met in my (F24) relationship with BF (M27)", "post": "My boyfriend (M27) and I (F24) have been together long-distance for a little over a year. He's much more of a \"head\" person while I'm more of a \"heart\" person. Lately I've felt a little neglected emotionally. I know he loves me because he says so, but I don't think he knows how to show or act upon it. I leave him little notes here and there and do small things for him all the time, but I'm just not sure that he's the romantic type. I've been extremely stressed out with graduate school lately, and I've felt like we're growing apart emotionally because he's not capable of really showing a lot of emotion or support.  \n\nWe're long distance (1.5 hrs) and only see each other on the weekends. The nightly phone call lasts maybe only a couple minutes. No other communicating or texting during the day and some nights he falls asleep early and we don't talk at all. I'm in a doctoral program and constantly stressed out. I just started therapy for OCD and anxiety, but he's been dismissive of these things and never asks how it's going. \n\nOur sex life has been lacking lately too since I've started a new birth control pill and I've been spotting / on my period on and off for a couple months (he isn't down with shark week sex). I was fine in the beginning but I'm starting to feel a lack of intimacy and passion now that I feel like he's just grossed out by me. \n\nI really think this is just the way he is. He tells me he loves me a lot and cuddles / touches me when we're together. There's really not a thought in my mind that he's cheating. I think he's just a mathematical, engineer type and hasn't dated much in the past, and this is just the way he is.\n\nHow do I bring this up in conversation with him? I need to communicate that my needs aren't being met, but I don't want to hurt his feelings or insult the way he is. I love him, but I feel like I need more affection, romance, and support.", "summary": "Boyfriend is more of a \"thinker\" while I'm a \"feeler.\" I don't feel like he understands my emotional or romantic needs. How do I address this with him?"}
{"id": "t3_cm58c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I show my jingoistic mom that war is wrong?", "post": "She's a registered democrat but supports the war and torture (confuses the hell out of me). We're Americans living in Germany, so she gets really upset that European countries don't have large defense budgets and that they rely on the US for support. She's rightfully upset about Islamic people who enter foreign countries and then attempt to impose their religious laws on others, but for some reason she can't see that our military efforts don't really prevent this.\n\nWhat inspired me to post this, was her reaction to Reservoir Dogs, especially the torture scene (it scares me that she can't see the hypocrisy). She was freaked out by the excessive violence and casual disregard for human life. Any good documentaries or reports that might do the trick? Thanks for the help.", "summary": "Mom supports war but is shocked by actual violence"}
{"id": "t3_2lk3bg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by inventing Rail-Ramming", "post": "This is a throwaway, because people that know my Reddit handle read TIFU. Also, this happened a few days ago technically.\n\nAs a bit of setting so that you can understand my situation, my highschools' entryway, where this TIFU took place, is basically a very large oval with two floors. At the center of the circle, there is a staircase that leads up in two opposite directions, and there's also a balcony-like section that allows you to walk between both upstairs wings of my school.\n\nI'm in a program called 'Broadcast', where we prepare bi-weekly recordings for everyone to see on every other Friday. As it's November, and Thanksgiving is coming up, we thought it would be really neat to have teachers line up at the bottom of the staircase, while we drop down a banner that says \"Happy Thanksgiving!\" over them. I think we had about 14 teachers standing there, side by side, staring at us while we get the banner ready, and I'm about to toss the banner down to the ground level, so another student can drag it across the 'oval', over to the other staircase, and hand it to another student who will run it up the stairs to the other side (We couldn't run it around the walkway because there was a pillar which would block the banner).\n\nTIFU begins here, because as I throw down the banner, the other student begins to relay it to the third guy, and the banner isn't long enough to stretch to the other side of the staircase. So banner holder dude begins to pull on it for some reason, and I, being the uncoordinated dope I am, lose my footing on the edge of the staircase, and trip and fall; I grab a railing, but my angular movement gets me to hit the rail in my precious. Proceed to teachers running to see if I'm okay, while I cry out \"Man down\", or something equally stupid, and other students laugh out loud.\n\nI guess someone present was telling stories about what happened, because now everyone asks how it was getting de-floured by a rail. One of the assistant Principals asked if \"I need help with any students regarding my 'accident' \". I think that was what really hurt my pride the most.", "summary": "Smacked my jingle-juggular on a rail and now assistant Principal wants to be my knight in shining armor against lower-classmen."}
{"id": "t3_1edrpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(30)F Partner (33)M .How do I handle his passive aggressive behavior ?", "post": "Ok so we have been together for 10 years and have 2 small children and have lived together for 9 years. But I would have to say the last 6months are the worse it's ever been ,he sulks all the time, plays mind games and when I confront him on this he says I'm going crazy. Now at first I suspected he was cheating and I waited for a while then just confronted him, so then he went running off to his dad/stepmums, while in the mean time I was on my own with the kids and hadn't mentioned a word to my family, as I don't see it as anyone else's business. Yet I was getting phonecalls off them telling me to give him a break he works hard for me and the kids and that I need to calm down etc. This just made me breakdown and cry, as I don't have a voice they do not know what he is like behind closed doors , he plants random phones in the house, buys sim cards and constantly name drops other women, and says very hurtful and demeaning things. Now this is embarrassing but the other week he took my dirty underwear and laid it out on the kitchen floor during an argument so when I walked in I saw it, and I felt so small and I said I know that you did this on purpose, yet he denys it with a smug look on his face. I ignore it the best I can but some days I do react and I hate it when he has that smug face saying I'm going crazy, I have sat down with him loads of times and had heart to hearts with him, and he will cry and say I don't know whats the matter and that he just needs help, then it will be lovely for a few days then he withdraws again and then the pattern of behavior starts all over again . Honestly I'm so worn down with it all I have run out of tears to cry.", "summary": "Passive aggressive partner is making me feel like I'm losing my mind in this emotional tug of war."}
{"id": "t3_2caw2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26 M with my ex 22 F 3 yrs just found out shes started dating someone", "post": "We been broken up for almost an year, I just found out shes been dating someone, I don't know for how long. And we have 3 year old. When I found out (through Facebook) it hit me like a freight train. We broke up due constant fighting, to the point where it started getting physical and we both agreed going our separate ways, which was the best, especially for our daughter. Through out the year I tried making it work, but she always brought up the pass and was just not having it anymore. I eventually gave up and just focused on my daughter and myself. But I was had that little glimmer of hope that maybe in the future, once i was done with school and what not, she would see the change and maybe tried again. But my question is how do you guys get over this? I'm pretty sure there's others going through the similar crap or have. Its such a new and weird feeling, which have no clue how to react other than reaching for a bottle. Plus I'm going through finals, its so distracting, to the point where I deactivated my Facebook and other social sites. This is more along a vent as well, I'm just lost at the moment.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_52tobq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] told a coworker [35F] that \"I'm flattered but don't date colleagues\" after she asked me out, and now she's telling everyone in the office that I'm a creep", "post": "My coworker \"Jacqueline\" works in another department on the same floor. We both work for a large insurance company; I'm in middle-management and she is a level above me.\n\nShe's an attractive woman and I'm flattered that she showed interest in me, but I just don't date coworkers. She always flirted with me, always lacing her conversation with somewhat obvious and clumsy innuendo and gestures, even though she says she's married and she wears a ring. She flat out asked me out a week ago and I told her that I like her as a colleague and friend but that I'm not interested in dating coworkers.\n\nJacqueline immediately backpedaled and said she only meant that we should go out as friends. This past few days she's stopped flirting but I've heard rumors from other people that she's saying I'm flirting with her and hitting on her, and that I'm a \"creeper.\"\n\nI thought about confronting Jacqueline but I'm scared to be seen alone with her, or what she might claim. I'm wondering if I should wear a \"wire\" or something.\n\nI need this job.\n\nHow do I go about keeping both it and my reputation?", "summary": "Rejected a coworker's advances. Now she's telling everyone I'm a creep."}
{"id": "t3_33fbdo", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I did a vile thing tonight", "post": "I'm a 24 year old male, I don't know much about dating or dealing with people other than being friends.  I know that what I did tonight was one of the worst I've ever done.  It's been half a year since my last and first REAL relationship with a girl (That ended in kind of a similar way as well).  I had been talking with a girl on OkCupid for a day and she seemed down to hang out.  We met for lunch, things seemed to go well so I invited her back to my place to \"watch a movie\".  Well things got heavy so we went down to my bedroom and had sex.  Immediately after the deed was done I just felt this surge of loss, remorse, and regret.  I felt like I had lost something by having sex with this girl.  I tried talking to her about it and she summed it up to me not wanting to date her, to which I asked if we could be friends.  She left soon after that.  Now I'm here feeling like a real shithead for what I've done.\n\nI am so sorry that we both had to find out like this, what the fuck is wrong with me?", "summary": "met with girl offline had sex, told her I didn't like her that way, feeling shitty."}
{"id": "t3_2au97h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have developed stronger feelings quicker than SO [23M]- Makes 1 1/2 year relationship more difficult", "post": "Throwaway because i'm pretty sure he's a redditor. We've only been dating for a year and a half, but i'm pretty sure i'm in love with him. I honestly cannot see myself with anyone else, and i've been in previous relationships that have lasted 3 years + that have never developed, emotionally, as far as this one. Our relationship moved pretty fast from the word go and we started living together within 6 months which may be why the emotional side of things moved at such a rapid pace, but something just tells me he isn't where i am in the relationship. \n\n2 weeks ago, i tried to explain this to him and he was supportive and understanding, but gave no inclination that he shared what i was feeling. I want to tell him that i'm in love with him and can see myself marrying this man, but of course if he isn't at that stage which is very likely as 1.5 years isn't a long time, then i could potentially ruin what we have.", "summary": "1 1/2 years in and ready to marry this guy, can't really express how i feel to him as could potentially fuck everything up- what do?"}
{"id": "t3_z6274", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the scariest supernatural experience you or someone you know has had?", "post": "Recently my mum described something that her and my dad experienced around 4 years ago in the house we lived in before the last (we move around a lot). What she described left me a little freaked out to say the least. One night when they were both sleeping in the master bedroom, my dad woke up to what he describes as chills. He raised the upper half of his body, as if to move further up the pillow and prop himself up and as he did he spotted, standing at the foot of the bed was a limp, lifeless figure, gazing down on him. The description of this 'figure' resembled that of a sort of coal miner. My dad described what he was wearing as that of a miner or something similar. He said the clothes were dark and filthy, and the figure had bleak expression on his face. Immediately he woke my mum who was still fast asleep next to him. He told me he specifically woke her while keeping his eye directly on the figure, as if to make sure it didn't vanish if he lost eye contact for a split second. When my mum woke she immediately saw exactly what my dad was looking at. They were both frozen solid. My dad then reached over to flip the switch on the bedside lamp and as he did the figure vanished. As you can imagine sleeping didn't come naturally for the remainder of the night. My mum tells me the reason they didn't mention anything to me or my brother and sister was purely to keep us from being absolutely terrified! I'm very grateful she did.", "summary": "mum and dad woke in the middle of the night to see a ghost like figure standing at the foot of the bed, gazing at them."}
{"id": "t3_3qv8hd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[17] GF[16] broke up with me because I called her drunk last night. Help please", "post": "I'm so upset I can barely type. My girlfriend of 5 months broke up with me. She repeatedly assured me that this was the only offense, but said she couldn't have this in her life. I have never been drunk before last night. How can I show her I love her and would do anything for her. I tried promising never to drink, I tried everything I could think of. She said she still cares about me but can't be with me only because of this. I have apologized so many times. I need help Reddit please I can't handle this.", "summary": "gf is afraid I will be an alcoholic and broke up with me because of that."}
{"id": "t3_25h9vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-girlfriend [19 F] is in the hospital and I [22 M] just broke up with her.", "post": "We were dating for about 7 months and it had came to a point that she was controlling who I spent my time with and pressured me into sex when I didn't want to. We had broken up on Sunday and agreed to speak on Monday In person.\n\nMonday came and she was submitted to the hospital with a blood clot in her leg and a blood clot in her lung which was caused by her birth control that I had asked her to get on. So last night we talked about our relationship and I reinsured that I did not want to be in a relationship with her.  So after A long talk with a lot of tears from her I feel like the biggest bag of dog shit ever.\n\nI told her that I would around in the hospital and I don't mind being supportive while she is in the hospital but I am worried about after the operation if I am doing more damage by sticking around than I would if I were to just split? I just need advice because I am worried.", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend and now she is in the hospital with a severe blood clot. Now I am wondering if I should stick around or split?"}
{"id": "t3_3hbui6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend(22F) and I (23M), don't know what kind of responses I'm expecting, just wanted to get it off my chest", "post": "I've seen other stories and read some opinions but I really just wanted to get this out there somehow because I'm not good at talking to actual people about things \n\nSo I'm in a situation that I don't know what to do about, currently my plan of sailing along and ignoring it is doing fine(ish) for fora while, but every so often like today I just can't stop thinking about it\n\nI(23M) have some pretty strong feelings for my best friend(22F)\n\nIt's regularly commented that we have amazing chemistry together and that what we have is a kind of best friendship different from what other people have. Were totally inseparable, do everything together and can barely go a day without talking to each other\n\nanother friend of mine only last night said that she wanted to bash out heads together and make us talk about our feelings.\n\nHer and I have actually admitted to having some feelings for each other, we once came close to sleeping together, and earlier this year we kissed a few times on various occasions.\n\nHowever she has said to me a few months ago that she was confused about the feelings she had for me and because we are so damn close she's affraid of risking what we have in pursuit of something more,\nAnd if I'm honest the thought of it scares the hell out of me as well, as much as I want something more to happen I think we are both too scared to do anything about it.\n\nI could be totally wrong and she might not actually feel the same way about me, despite what our mutual friends have said\n\nI mean like, she has gone on other dates whilst this has been going on between us, and so have I, but for me it always boils down to fact that none of the girls I've talked to are anything like her.\n\nThis has pretty much been going on since January and it's all just so confusing and I guess any input is welcome from you guys, I just wanted to vent\n\nThanks for reading my stereotypical story of a boy pining after his best friend", "summary": "I like her, I've been told she like me, both seem to affraid to act on it, mutual friends want to knock our heads together"}
{"id": "t3_1oqj8v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of Reddit with female friends, do you never consider them to be just friends? (confused girl about friendzone)", "post": "Hi, I'm a girl and I've had quite a lot of male friends since childhood (mainly because I'm really into video games aaand my female friends aren't so much :/). I've always considered them as friends and nothing more, to me the line is really clear. We hang out to see a movie, spend afternoons playing video games etc, but I never thought about starting a loving relationship with any of my friends...\n\nNow, since I've started being on Reddit, I see tons of posts mentioning \"friendzone\". And that's quite shocking to me, because it never occurred to me that my male friends could think that way about me...for me they just considered me just as they consider their male friends... if that wasn't the case and that indeed they felt \"friendzoned\" while they wanted something else, I would feel...betrayed maybe? because that would be like they lied to me about us being just friends...\n\nI'm thinking a lot about that right now because I lived an awkward situation last week : an ex-colleague (who wasn't even a \"friend\", I just talked about video games with him sometimes but he's quite grunchy so I thought he just...tolerated me at best!) started to be quite flirty with me on Skype, saying weird stuff that I tried to brush off as jokes but he seemed really serious about it... that was just horrible, I never thought he saw me like that! I've heard from another colleague that he just dumped his girlfriend, so was he looking for any potential girlfriend in his vicinity? urgh...", "summary": "my question is : Men of Reddit with female friends, do you consider them as just friends or as \"potential\" lovers?"}
{"id": "t3_4t79n2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [20M] is leaving for army basic training and I'm [19F] torn over what to do.", "post": "My boyfriend is leaving for army basic in about a month, and I'm leaving around the same time to study abroad. We've been together for about a year and a half, been friends longer, and have been through a lot together. A lot of people (especially my parents) have been telling me that we should break up when we leave. \n\nBoth of us have never been in a serious relationship before, and we're young, so people say we need more time to grow and expand our horizons. Not to mention that military life is tough. \n\nI really love this guy, and he loves me and I think we can make it. I actually think I'm more suited to military life than some girls because I like traveling and am very adaptable. I'm don't cling to my surroundings or need a ton of friends. But I don't want our relationship to hold each other back from any positive growth or career and education opportunities. I'm getting my undergraduate degree right now, and I want to go to graduate school. \n\nShould we stick it out, and work seriously towards making a life together and getting married young (more common in the military)? Should we just date casually and not think about the future yet? Or take a break or break up permanently to expand our horizons? \n\nI'm really torn, I don't want to throw away what we have and lose my best friend, but I don't know if military life is what I want, or if a girlfriend or wife is what he needs.", "summary": "My boyfriend of a year and a half is leaving for the army and people are telling us to break up. We don't want to but I'm torn over whether it's the right decision."}
{"id": "t3_4gfssm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] has me confused beyond belief and I don't have a clue how to fix it", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for approximately 3 years, since our junior year in high school. We're now in our sophomore year of college, and are at the end of our ropes. We both love each other and don't want to spend our futures with anyone else, but she goes to school states away while I work and go to school at home. The past few months something has been off, and we have been trying to work on it.\n\nThe problem really can't be anything other than the distance, as everything is fine when we're together, but when she goes back away she gets this really odd attitude. She's very transparent and I know for a fact she's not cheating on me and the problem isn't the other guys and seeing room to grow, she has told me this repeatedly. It's strictly the distance when we're apart.\nThe other day she called me and said she was somewhere in between wanting to go on a break till she's home in May and ending it completely because the distance was just too much. She was in tears mostly because neither of us can realistically see a future with anyone else and both our families love the two of us, respectively. I woke up today feeling more empty and lost than I knew was possible, and I don't know where to go without her. I need to know how to fix the problem because I have given this relationship my absolute all and to think that there's anything else I could do is ridiculous. I don't have a clue what to do but I know we both want this to work out, it's like we both know we found the perfect person, just at a shitty time.", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks the distance is too much and we both found the right person at the wrong time. How to not let her become the one who got away."}
{"id": "t3_21fbn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF[M35, 1 year] and his longtime friend [M40s?] are in a spat and I[F25] may have some light to shed.", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nBit of a silly situation here so I will try to explain briefly.  The guy I'm seeing, Dan, has a longtime (20-years) friend from school -- \"Mike\". They get along and work at the same company, but lately his friend has been acting kind of strange to him -- including sending him some out-of-the-blue, bitter-sounding text message rants and just generally seeming resentful and put out about everything.\n\nMy BF showed me these messages but only briefly, to ask my advice on how to handle the situation. I was a bit perplexed. There's nothing specific that prompts them, they just have the tone of someone who is...well...butthurt. It's only happened twice in last few months and then things get 'back to normal' between them.\n\nHowever, I got a call from another friend of theirs at work who asked me if I had been giving Mike friend any romantic interest, because he had been 'making inquiries' about me, such as asking about my age and if there was anything between us!! I was shocked. I briefly worked at the same company but in a different department than both of them, so he does know who I am.  But we have only interacted socially at my BF's birthday party with my BF around, we have never hung out alone, never added on FB, never texted, etc etc.  I would say we do not know each other well.\n\nI hesitate to tell my BF the situation, because it sounds like so much gossip, and if it's not true, it will bust up their 20-year friendship. The person who relayed this information to me is a bit of a gossip lover himself.  Should I say \"hey babe, this info may have to do with why his nose is out of joint?\"  Or should I just say nothing in case it's a misconstrued rumour? I am positive I have never done anything to lead this guy on. I feel like I'm playing broken telephone....sigh. Very silly.\n\nFeedback appreciated!", "summary": "Grapevine says that my BF's longtime friend is interested in me. This may explain their random fights, but may also just be gossip. Should I share the information or not?"}
{"id": "t3_30bt2g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[18M] cannot speak to my love interest/best friend[16F]anymore what should i do?", "post": "So there is this girl that i met,we met on tinder 3 months ago and we've been together for 2 months and a half,we broke up almost a month ago but she wanted to stay best friends\n\nAt first i couldn't take the emotions in fact i even wanted to take my life but i didn't,we used to text eachother all the time like when something happened to her i was the first to know and likewise,even after the breakup it stayed like that.\n\nThis girl used to have a psychiatrist and was the worst experience of her life she said,now on monday she came home from school and her parents forbade her to talk to me because our friendship was going to lead to nowhere and that me and her have too many problems and that if she did not stop she would bring her back to the psychiatrist.\n\nHer mother thinks i'm one of those freaks from online dating that will kidnap her daughter and rape her even if we already met.\nIt's been 2 days since this happened and i miss her terribly,i want to know how she's doing how her day's been i want to talk about stuff to her..i don't really know what to do.", "summary": "Can't speak to my Ex girlfriend/Bestfriend anymore because of her parents but i miss her so much,what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3vcwod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 2.5 years, she's going as a friends date to his christmas party...", "post": "My girlfriend has been asked by a mutual friend of ours (25M) to accompany him to his staff christmas party later this month. Normally I would be alright with it but this is a bit different in my mind. \n\nWe have both been friends with this person for a long while, longer than our relationship. My SO and myself were friends for years before we decided to have a relationship as well. The thing is with this guy is that he's a scumbag, I have cut ties with him an no longer friends for the most part but she continues to talk and hang out with him regularly. He has just done a lot of questionable things in the past, such as going to Europe and while on vacation he told every woman that he came across that his fiance was murdered back home and gave them a big sob story to get himself laid. Little did they know that she was alive and well, just getting cheated on. Their relationship has been over for a year now. \n\nIt makes me quite uncomfortable that she is going to a huge party with him as he does not seem like someone to be trusted anymore. To add icing on the cake, they used to fuck back in the day and he has professed his love to her as well as to me about her back then, but not in recent years. He has also been talking to her over the last two weeks about how lonely he is and how miserable he is.. Maybe if he wasn't such a piece of shit and treated women better they wouldn't continue to leave him.\n\nShe has not come home from work yet so we haven't had time to talk it over but I was just reaching out for some advice... Personally I have quite a problem with it and wish that she wouldn't go but she really wants too and it sounds like she will be. Now she's talking about going out to buy a new dress and looking into getting contacts so she can get all dolled up and go out without her glasses... she didn't want any of these things when I asked her to my Christmas party last week. Maybe I'm just looking in to it too much...", "summary": "Girlfriend of almost three years is going to a male friends Christmas staff party as his date, they used to sleep together and he was madly in love with her. I don't want her to go, she does."}
{"id": "t3_4lrqwm", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Confused on how to proceed, could use some advice", "post": "So a while ago I met a girl and while she was older than me, I did not think we would be having that much in common, but we actually did. Not personality but likes and dislikes and struggles. She opened up to me and we talked and kinda got flirty at some points with each other. She considered me sweet and liked me hugging her for some reason too. \n\nWe did have basic disagreements but we made up for them. I am like every guy that comes here and asks does this girl like me. Id say I have a 50/50 chance or at least an overall good chance she does. Alot of those I asked in person seem to say yes she does, go for it. \n\nWell, im new to dating and being a bit more forward. I never have hooked up with a girl or had any moment whatsoever other than maybe with her where it was flirty or light touching but that was it. Im a bit shy and she is a bit far away and I have connections through her. I dont know how to plan it so that I can really get something going again and really make something happen. I dont really flirt with girls at all and I get they are people but I never have really tried to initiate something more romantic with her than just friends", "summary": "Looking to meet up with a girl again but would like some advice on how to do so"}
{"id": "t3_2kkmka", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "goddamn music snobs", "post": "Music is fucking fantastic; it can elevate your mood, make you think, be a force for political change, make you want to dance or cry or sleep. It's great. You know what isn't? People who are hell bent on making other people feel inadequate because of their taste in music. \n\nSelf-proclaimed 'music snobs' really grind my gears because if they were really interested in music as an art-form they would be able to find *something* worthwhile in another genre/band, even if its not their thing. \n\nMore often then not its the alty, indie, hipster kid that gives you a bemused look if you haven't heard their like, fave artist with 2k followers on SoundCloud. They'll spend their time whinging about how contemporary music is trash/vapid/meaningless, mocking Taylor Swift and Nicki Minaj. \n\nI don't have Taylor on my iTunes, but hey, she's doing what she loves - and that's cool. I'm not going to buy tickets to a Nicki concert, but she's managed to breakthrough in a very heavily male-dominated genre, so good for her! Whether you like them or not they'll still be making $$$ and there's a whole system in place that ensures their music is popular, marketable etc. \n\nThe *worst* is people who use music taste as some sort of definitive personality test that will give you automatic insight into a person. Liking the Smiths doesn't make you any more sensitive than the dude with Drake on his iPhone. For example, if someone asked me this morning who my favourites were I may have mentioned RHCP, The Streets or Nirvana and if they asked me this afternoon I could've said Kanye West, Kreayshawn or Kendrick Lamar and you'd (apparently) have a completely different read on my personality.", "summary": "your music taste doesn't make you special & listening to music is fun so don't shit on other people's preferences"}
{"id": "t3_1gpkf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21F] bf [22M] is lonely and generally not happy because of his internship. How do I support him and make him feel better.", "post": "My bf, of a year and a half, had to  move over 3 hours from his family, and 2.5 hours from me this summer for an internship. He took the internship only because it looks good for graduate school to have some related experience. So far he has been pretty miserable there, except for when I came to visit. He doesn't get a lot of work to do so he just wastes a lot of time during the day( his work comp doesnt even have a headphone jack so he cant watch movies/tv or listen to music to pass the time), he doesnt work with anyone his own age, and really only works with a handful of people in general. The little work he does do is boring and tedious, and is not at all what he wants to do. \n\nThe people in his apartment building seem to keep to themselves and dont really seem like the type of people that he would be friends with anyway. So his work sucks and has no friends around after work. Also he doesnt have a car so he can't even drive anywhere to get away from the small boring town he lives in. \n\nI try to be positive and be available to talk often, last week I even sent to him romanticish email about my feelings for hims, just for something different. But he still seems kinda depressed. It also doesnt help that he was sick yesterday and his internet often goes out. I know its only for a few months but I feel like hes pretty lonely and bored 95% of his days there.", "summary": "bf is bored and lonely in a new small town, and strongly dislikes his job. Is there anything I can say or do to make him feel better?"}
{"id": "t3_3yzomy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20s F) and partner of 2 years (M, 20s) having rough spot, expecting house guest", "post": "My partner and I (who cohabitate) have been having a rougher than usual patch in our relationship due to a lot of work stresses, grad school applications, and financial issues. Months ago we promised a friend from college who's been going through their own personal issues they could stay with us while working on a short-term (month-long) project in our city. No details were ironed out until a few days ago when they contacted us asking for a ride from the airport tomorrow. \n\nOur stresses are about to reach a fever pitch and this friend is coming in tomorrow. Problem is, I've been sleeping in our guest room for two days now. I'm terrified that our relationship that is already dangling by a thread will be totally destroyed with this extra person around who does not have a car nor is able to help contribute financially. Partner is threatening to get an apartment just so that he can focus adequately on what he needs to do, AKA resting (we're both in the middle of super crazy, i.e. 80-90 hour work weeks until february) and applying to grad school.\n\nHe's currently in the other room waiting for me to come up with a solution. I don't know what to do here... Our friend is in the middle of really hectic times with their own life. Our college is less than an hour away and a former professor of ours is working on the project with our friend. I don't know if I should call and beg him to help or what... OR even offer to pay for a room for our friend to stay in our college town, which I can't really afford since we're having our own financial issues. But I don't want our friend to feel abandoned.... But I can't lose my partner over this. I've messed up enough things in our life recently and got him to not take a good job offer somewhere else with the promise that our home life would get less stressful and thus far have not been able to deliver.\n\nHelp!!", "summary": "partner and I are in rough patch, I'm sleeping in guest room, we have a friend coming TOMORROW to stay for a month theoretically."}
{"id": "t3_51ofn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] seeing new guy [33 M] 3 dates and I'm getting weird", "post": "I [30F] have just begun dating after my divorce a few months ago. I met this guy [33M] who I really get along well with. We've been out three times, but all three times we end up walking around and talking for hours. The last time we went out, we ended up kissing. I knew I wanted to kiss him, and I knew he wanted to kiss me, so I was ok with it happening, as long as nothing else happened. The problem is, both of us want things to happen but I'm not ready yet and I have told him that. He told me that even if we hadn't kissed, he would still want to see me again. The day after we kissed, I felt like I was floating all day. It was so nice to reminisce about it, but I hated that I couldn't stop thinking about it because it was hard to not lose focus while I was at work.\n\nHowever, now that we have kissed, I got all weird on him. We have agreed that we're not going to be exclusive (he also recently ended a LTR) and we're both finding out who we are. The problem is, the other guys I've dated pale in comparison to this guy (and he is the only one of them who I have kissed or felt such electricity with). I am starting to feel myself want to be around him all of the time, but I know that I shouldn't and can't, for both of our sakes. I want to respect his space, and I also want to respect myself. I didn't have good boundaries in my previous relationship, so I really want to do a good job of this going forward.\n\nI guess what I'm asking is for encouragement. I need to know how you can be on such an emotional high and not get all weird about it. I am seeing a therapist and will talk about this with her, but I won't see her for another week. Help me, reddit!", "summary": "Been on a few dates with a few guys, I really like one but we aren't going to be exclusive or go past kissing, and I need to think clearly and exercise self-control, especially when I am on an emotional high."}
{"id": "t3_y7zo9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and pissed off my two best friends", "post": "This summer I managed to score an excellent summer job, working with two people who I've grown very close to over the past two months. My responsibility is fundraising, their responsibility is design and development (architecture firm). They ended up being the contacts for a big client, and me, in my stupidity, tried to insert myself into a situation where I was clearly not needed and not wanted. I ignored them telling me I wasn't needed, and I generally acted like a fuck up. Thankfully, I realized how stupid I was before I jeopardized the relationship with the client. I apologized to one, but the other one wants absolutely nothing to do with me now. She won't even talk to me. I know I was wrong, I know I fucked up, and all I want to do take it back.", "summary": "Ruined my relationship with a friend because I was stubborn and territorial."}
{"id": "t3_4orcg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long-term relationship perfect but not", "post": "M/F Age:22/22 \n\nSo my GF and I have been in an awesome relationship for 7 years. It's been great, one of my best friends in school and it continued on from there. Communication is great and sex is fantastic. I love her with all my heart but there's been an l issue with myself. I seem to have lost my drive or sex drive? If we are already in the midst of sex I can feel my drive starting to come back. But sometimes it feels so... Emotionless and blank. If that makes sense. \n\nShe's an attractive girl and I know it but I don't seem to find her physically attractive any longer. We are very open people so after talking to her about the issue we did some three ways and an orgy, had sex with a few more females no problem. She actually really liked that I did that because she saw my drive come back to an extent. And during all of these actions I was mostly staring at the other girls. We have talked a lot and I have told her most of what I have said here and she's determined to help bring my drive back but it keeps coming back to I don't think she's that attractive any longer. What should I do \n\nEdit1: I should add during the sex with the other girls my drive still did not come back, it's very odd feeling\n\nEdit2: We also get plenty of attention from the opposite sex so we believe we are fairly attractive.", "summary": "not attracted to gf as I once was"}
{"id": "t3_31x23z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex girlfriend [18 F] after a year and two months have been broken up since early this March, I broke up with her and regret it", "post": "... and now she has a new boyfriend. They've been dating for around two weeks. She told me she's going to love him more than she she loved me, and that they've been talking about moving in together, family, marriage. I know this sounds crazy because she is crazy, and her craziness is part of why I love her.\n\nI've found after a few weeks of being single that I'm still in love with her and would like to get back together with her. I want to believe that she's doing all this to make me upset and jealous, but if that was the case wouldn't she just take me back?\n\nAs to why I broke up with her, I had just turned 21 and wanted more time to go out with my friends to bars and such and not be tied down by her. After doing the bachelor nights out thing I've realized it's not that great.\n\nShe had texted me several times and I thought I had done her favor by ignoring her, helping her get over me. As recently as two days before the new relationship started she was texting and telling me that thinking about us kept her up at night. Now it seems I've shot myself in the foot by ignoring her.\n\nWe had a fairly stable relationship, and I can't help but feel I left out of my own selfishness.", "summary": "I want to get back together with my ex but she has a new boyfriend who she seems way too committed to way too fast. What's my best course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_ei1je", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "IMA girl that found out her parents are swingers.", "post": "I found out that my parents are swingers ( a couple that has sex with other couples) about a year ago (I am 18 now.) My boyfriend accidentally found their profile on a swinger website. I learned that my mom is bi-sexual, and many other things a child does not need to know about their parents. They go to these parties with this special swinging group at least once a month, and I've met the people that attend these parties. I now cannot help but feel awkward about all this. They do not know that I know, and I don't think if it's appropriate for me to tell them that I know (It is their sex life, not mine.). I just don't know how to really handle it. Any help/advice?", "summary": "I found out my parents are swingers and I'm having a hard time not feeling really weird about it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2o7eik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] In long-distance relationship with [25M]. He wants to get a FWB until I can move closer, not sure what to do...", "post": "I'm in a very odd long-distance relationship. We've known each other for 3 years now and finally got to meet recently. Things didn't get semi serious until a few months ago, due to us living in other states and other things that made things difficult. The most current being I'm stuck in a lease with my ex until April. \n\nIn either case, while we aren't technically together right now, I feel very strongly for him and he knows this. I'm working on getting to the point that I feel okay moving to another state and leaving all I know behind, simply because I want to be with him. However this can't happen until my lease is up even if I feel mentally able to handle the move next month. \n\nRecently he asked me if I would be okay with him getting a friend with benefits until I could relocate. I didn't know what to say, but it made me feel sick. I told him I don't know how I feel about it, and that I don't want to know about it if it happens but now it's all I can think about. My depression I've felt since coming back home from visiting him has increased greatly and I can't stop worrying about him sleeping with someone else. He said it wouldn't be anything more than sex and that he's set on being with me once I can relocate, but I'm so afraid that his just for sex fling until I can be there will turn into more. And I'm worried that even if he doesn't end up sleeping with anyone, I'll subconsciously hold it against him because I told him not to tell me if he did so I'll assume he did when he didn't. \n\nAm I being selfish for not wanting him to sleep with anyone else even though he can't sleep with me and we aren't technically together?", "summary": "long-distance, semi serious \"boyfriend\" wants to sleep with others until I'm there. I don't think I can handle that and am worried it makes me selfish."}
{"id": "t3_3bgokx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my SO [25M] of 2 years. I'm Canadian, he's American. Questions about immigration.", "post": "My SO and I both currently live in South Korea. We met here 2 years ago and are planning on staying together for the long haul. We'll be here until August 2016 and then the current plan is to travel for a bit, visit both families, and then settle down somewhere in North America. \n\nI've done some research on immigration policies for both countries and am feeling out of my depth. Does anyone have any experience with immigrating to either Canada or the States for a relationship. \n\nWe've discussed getting married to make things easier, but we're both cautious when it comes to marriage. We're open to it, but would prefer to marry when we're ready and not just to make the red tape easier. Which leaves, from what I can tell, working visas. These seem kind of difficult to get from what I've read on the government websites. Is this misleading? I feel like Canada and America has such close relationships that it should be relatively easy to work in either country but it doesn't seem to be the case. \n\nNeither of us has a degree in a field with job openings. I'm an anthropology major and he's a political science major. So even if we managed to get working visas for the other's country, it wouldn't leave many opportunities for a good job. \n\nI also have the impression that companies would rather not go through the red tape and paperwork of having a employee on a working visa unless there's no other option. This isn't based on anything substantial, just how I would feel in position. \n\nSo any words of wisdom or advice for us?", "summary": "Can't figure out the best option for immigration to either Canada or America for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_chnre", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some subtle but effective ways to gain positive attention from shy men?", "post": "I have tried the obvious: eye contact, coy smile, dressing nicely. I make jokes and laugh at jokes. I am female and not unattractive. I'm confident sometimes but shy and tastefully flirtatious for the most part. Truthfully, I get plenty of attention from men at parties and social gatherings. But of course the one guy who I have an interest in doesn't respond to anything I do. \n\nThis guy is sort of shy, and I think he enjoys the eye contact and half smiles we send each other, but I want to take it further without seeming too forward. In other words, I want to flirt enough to provoke him to make a move. \n\nSo what should I try, Reddit? I am not a slut, and getting him drunk won't work (we have been drunk together before... didn't help). I prefer to be reserved and playful... but how do you get men to notice that?", "summary": "Not a skank but want to get more attention from a certain guy. I want to flirt enough to get him to make the first move. What are some effective tactics? "}
{"id": "t3_2gk6ud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my GF [26F], her ex wants to send her a potentially inappropriate gift he bought when they were dating", "post": "Okay, so this is a really weird situation. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and things have been really great so far. She tells me the other day that she was talking to her ex. I'm fine with this, they broke up a couple of years ago, they're not super close but have stayed in touch. He's moving across the country in a couple months and has been cleaning out his house/packing up his stuff. He came across a gift he bought her when they were dating but I guess forgot to give her. It's a sex toy. Some fancy vibrator or something. So he tells her about this, basically \"hey, this is pretty random but I found a gift I bought for you when we were dating, I totally forgot about it. It's a really nice vibrator. do you want me to mail it to you before I move?\"   \n  \n  \nMy GF showed me the conversation that night and it doesn't seem flirty or anything. I think he honestly just found this gift he forgot about and didn't want to throw it out because it's expensive. She responded with something like \"yeah that is really random, I don't know how I feel about that, I'm going to think about it and get back to you\". And she asked what I thought. I told her that it seemed super weird, I mean, really? Getting a sex toy from your ex? She said yeah, she agreed, but it's not like there's any feelings between any of them or any romantic intent, and apparently this thing is really expensive and nice. She doesn't really have any sex toys herself. \n  \nI can tell that she wants to accept it, but I feel weird about it. I don't want to tell her not to do it because I don't want to be that controlling person. I'm also not sure if I'm overreacting or not. What do I do?", "summary": "GF's ex wants to send her a sex-toy he bought her when they were dating. No feelings between them. I still feel weird about it and am not sure how to react."}
{"id": "t3_1kz9fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[16F] have a crush on my shy friend [16M] whom I have no idea how to start something with. Please Help!", "post": "So I have a crush on a friend who is beyond shy. I've known him for a year now, and always thought he was cute, but I didn't really start talking to him until this week because he's in two of my classes, unlike last year. I really like him but he's just very shy and not that open and I'm not sure how I can flirt with him and get him to like me. \n\nA mutual friend, who has known him for a long time and knows him better than anyone else, told me that my crush has been more comfortable around me than other girls and I'm taking it as a hint but I'm still really confused. Any idea how to get past his shyness and get something going?", "summary": "Crush on shy cutie, need help on getting past shyness."}
{"id": "t3_ktnb6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Can't get enough calories?", "post": "I've got dilemma I'm trying to figure out. I've got a little bit of a strange issue I've not seen addressed here. \n\nI've got a little bit of gallbladder trouble and my doctor has recommended I stay under 10 grams of fat because of it. In addition, he told me I needed to get off my ass and lose some weight or my gallbladder was going to decide to leave. I'm sort of attached to my gallbladder and I've been meaning to lose weight anyway, so it's time to start tracking my meals for real.\n\nI joined a gym and started working out and tracking my calories, shooting for 1400 / day. My problem is, especially on days when I work out, MyFitnessPal lets me know that I'm *short* on calories by a lot. It's 9:00 pm here... I'm not hungry and I'm at 866 net calories for the day (1327 food - 428 workout).\n\nI'd like to get my calories more toward the protein side of things rather than carbing up. Any suggestions on food? Anyone else have this problem of not being able to eat enough? Stuff I've read suggests anything below 1200 net for the day is kinda bad news, but I don't know how true this is.  \n\nAny advice is appreciated.", "summary": "I'm having trouble getting to 1400 net calories per day while staying under 10 grams fat. Additionally some days I just don't feel hungry enough to get there. Don't want to load up on carbs."}
{"id": "t3_1l5t9m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "32M fed up of pregnant girlfriend (29F) being a lazy bum.", "post": "This is our first kid and she is 3 months pregnant. I can not stand lazy people to begin with. I feel life is very short to waste with TV, couch and generally wasting it away. Prior to her pregnancy we did not live together, however she seemed like she enjoyed working around the house, doing activities outside, playing sports and generally being on the run as much as I did. I can count on one hand the nights we would just stay and watch TV. \n\nSince we found out that she is pregnant we moved in together. She has gradually stopped working around the house all together. I can tolerate the lack of activities, but coming from work and immediately laying on the couch and staying seated that for the rest of the afternoon is unimaginable and plain lazy. Maybe she has always been lazy and now she has an excuse or maybe she truly is tired. Obviously I have tried to keep up and understand her situation, I have tried reading on the subject and  I know that during the first trimester women tend to be very tired, but I remember my mother (only other woman I have been around when pregnant) and she was always on the run when pregnant. What makes this one (or anyone) special? Yes, I know people are different, but what gets you going is not energy, it is motivation. How do I motivate her to get up and start being active? I have no problem doing 95% of the work, I would like to see at least 5% input so I know I am not being taken for granted. \n\nBefore you say talk to her, have you ever tried talking to a pregnant woman? You are faced with one of two characters. 1) That \"leave Brittney alone\" crying teen 2) \"I will shred you to pieces if one more word comes out of your mouth\" Godzilla type. None of them is reasonable. However I have tried talking, multiple times, and I am faced each time with one of the characters (sometimes they are interchangeable)\n\nAny other men out there that have faced similar issues? What is the best solution? Women did you ever go through that phase, what worked, how and when did you \"snap out\"?", "summary": "If you are lazy and don't want to read, this is not for you. "}
{"id": "t3_3v5ihz", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] I need help with a dog that's angry at me, and worried he may hurt me", "post": "So here is the story:  I come every day to my grandma's house, she has two female dogs (they are some mixture between Labrador and other breed) and they always loved me very much. Everyday I get in the house they happily run to welcome me (I think it is important to note that I am the one who feed and bathe them), and I always pet them in the belly, since they like it so much they lay down with the belly up asking for it.\n\nBut a few weeks ago, my grandpa brought another dog for protection, very big and strong, I believe he is a pure Labrador. That's when the problem started, because since I'm a crazy dog person, I started petting him and calling him cute stupid names as soon as I saw him, and he seemed ok about it. I was thinking like \"hell yeah, I'm gaining his trust!\". So I decided to pet him in the belly like I do with the other two... Oh what a mistake! He immediately showed his teeth and in a millionth of a second he barked and attacked me. I think I have never ran so fast in my life.\n\nAnd since then, he is upset with me. Everytime I come merely close to him he growls or barks angrily at me. He is ok with every family member, even the maid who comes here less than me, and I'm worried some day he will hurt me. \n\nWhat can I do about it? Should I try to connect with him, get closer, or should I stay the hell away until I don't bother him anymore?", "summary": "New big dog came, I tried to pet him in his belly, he got upset and attacked me and now won't let me get close. I ~~want~~ wish to know how can I get him to like me again."}
{"id": "t3_rba4n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Apparently I have \"one of those faces\"... do I look like anyone you know?", "post": "So I get \"do I know you from somewhere?\" or \"I have a friend/granddaughter/ex who looks EXACTLY like you\" from strangers on a regular basis.  Happened daily when I was a cashier and, you know, was forced to interact with people (hurray for social anxiety).  I do realize that these could be variations of a common pick-up line, but I'm positive that that's not the case 99.9% of the time.\n\nThe thing is, it drives me CRAZY, because never once has anyone produced a photograph of my supposed doppelg\u00e4nger(s)... and therefore I never know how to take it.  I also have no real concept of what I look like to other people; my face seems to change from mirror to mirror and picture to picture.  \n\nTherefore, I'm asking you Redditors if I look like anyone you know, on the off-chance that someone can finally provide me with a photograph (with its subject's permission, of course).  \n\nDo I really have a long-lost twin out there somewhere?  And would I be flattered or insulted (or neutral) to find out what *she* looked like?", "summary": "apparently I have an unrealistic number of doppelg\u00e4ngers.  Do you know any of them?  "}
{"id": "t3_3mdfah", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "They arrested me for crimes I didn't commit, dropped the charges, but the aftermath is screwing me over. What can I do?", "post": "Created a throwaway because my real username includes my last name in it. So anyway this happened in Appleton, WI back in 2010. I was arrested for assault and battery and two burglaries that had occurred in a nearby town. After hours of interrogation (I had no idea what the hell they were talking about and kept repeating this) they finally took my fingerprints, snapped my mugshot, and shipped me off to the county jail. I was in jail for 2 days before they released me, because WOW, turns out they had the wrong guy!\n\nThe real guy was finally arrested. It's crazy but he and I could pass as brothers. We're the same height, same body weight, same black hair and green eyes. We're even the same age. So yeah I can see how sloppy police work ended up in them wrongfully arresting me.\n\nSince then there has been an article published about my arrest and what I was being charged with. My arrest record and mugshots are all over the internet when you Google my name. The newspaper that originally published the story on my arrest later updated with a new story stating all charges had been dropped against me and the real suspect was in custody. However, all the 3rd party websites that republished the newspaper's original article don't have the updated story, so it still looks like I'm the guilty one. I've been let go from jobs after people Googled my name and found these stories and records online. I don't know what to do to get this fixed. I don't want to pay $500 for some service that may or may not remove my online records.\n\nIf you run a background check on me with my SSN or check the circuit court website, I have a clean record. But if you just Google my name, you see my arrest record from 2010, my mugshot, and the accommodating articles. Is there ANYTHING I can do about this? It's screwing up employment opportunities for me as well as the potential to move into management. No jokes, I had an old employer tell me he couldn't promote me because as a manager I would be dealing with clients all the time and he didn't want people dropping their accounts when they looked up my name.", "summary": "I was arrested for crimes I didn't commit, charges were dropped, but my arrest record, mugshots, and online articles about the arrest are still circulating the internet."}
{"id": "t3_4njo0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex[20 F] of 2 years, seeing her for the first time in a month", "post": "Hello there all i need some advice, my ex and i broke up which will be one month in 2 days and on Monday she will be there since she is in our group of friends and we are going as a group to the", "summary": "i need some advice for the encounter i am going to have with her this coming monday"}
{"id": "t3_lfprg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's something you said in class that caused everyone to shut up?", "post": "Today in sociology we were talking about deviance and social norms. The teacher asked if anyone could name some extreme cases of deviance and I just happened to blurt out the Westboro Baptist Church. Now, either she was trolling me or genuinely didn't know, but she asked who they were. \n\nThe first thing that came out of my mouth was \"The God Hates Fags\" people.\n\nEntire class went silent. Seriously? I'm not afraid to say whatever needs to be said but this was merely a slip of the tongue. About 30 seconds later someone else chimed in talking about their funeral protests etc and then a minute later in the discussion a girl started to get flustered about the whole thing and asked what kind of horrible people would protest funerals and she was actually visibly upset.", "summary": "i caused awkward silence and a girl to get visibly upset by talking about the WBC"}
{"id": "t3_vpokh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been thinking about leaving my life behind.  So Reddit, what do you think?", "post": "I'll give you a little background on my life real quick.  \nI'm 18 years old and living with my parents.  I have a pretty good job pouring concrete in my dad's company and I make good pay especially for my age.  I fucking hate it though.  Not so much the work, but the people I work with.  They're just a bunch of rude, egotistical, and just flat out stupid people.  They seek attention from everyone else, and I'm the exact oppisite.  Also, I feel like I'm going nowhere with this job.  I have few friends, but even the 'friends' I do have don't seem to care about me or even notice me really.  I couldn't even tell you the last time one of them invited me to do anything with them.  It's been years.  I've had a few romantic interests, but they all ended the same way.  We talk for a while, even months in some cases, and when it seems like everything is going good, they seem to completely lose intrest and find another guy, leaving me completely heartbroken.  I love the outdoors and go hiking and backpack camping whenever I can, alost always alone.  I've been feeling extremely depressed and lonely lately and have been getting sick of this mundane life, and I've had this recurring thought.  Why not just pack a bunch of gear and start hiking and never turn back?  It seems like an ideal scenero for me.  I want to hike to the Rocky Mountains and live off the land.  I know the dangers and most of the problems of doing this, but I'm not scared of death, and as for the legal problems, I don't care about them either.  I feel like I could survive by fishing and trapping, and if not, oh well.  At least I died trying to do something I want.  I would obviously keep spare cash in case I needed it, but things can still happen.  Maybe I'm a little over ambitious, but I really think I could do it, and i can handle myself in almost any situation.  I'm not looking for sympathy or anything like that, just some thoughts about it. So Reddit, what do you think?", "summary": "Sick of my life, want to try to live in the wild."}
{"id": "t3_1igzg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(M18) be offended at my friends (m18 and f16) for how they acted around my girlfriend (f18)?", "post": "So, the other day, I took my girlfriend to meet my friends. We are all pretty close, and I felt it was time for her to meet them. We are a group of 4-5 (changes based on people's work schedules). My girlfriend was very nervous about meeting them. She is naturally a very shy person, and very introverted, so putting her in this situation was difficult. I told her to  just relax and that it was no big deal. When we get there, it seems that everyone is having a pretty good time for the most part. This is when things start to change.\n\nAbout an hour in, two of my friends (m18 f16) decide to go upstairs (we are in my (m18) friend's basement. This leaves my third friend (m17) with my girlfriend and I. He is making an effort to make her feel comfortable and like she belongs. We had a pretty good conversation when she gets a call from her mom telling her that she needs to come home. She says okay, says goodbye to my friend and I and leaves out the back door. The passing time was about and hour and a half.\n\nAt this point, the other two are still no place to be seen. When they finally come back, we ask where they were. My male friend says \"we went somewhere else until she left\" When we (m17 and I) asked why, they just avoided the question. I'm personally offended by what they did. \n\nAm I wrong to feel that? Should I have said something? How should I handle the situation?\n\nKeep in mind, that this wasn't a surprise. We had planned that she would meet them, and they were both okay with it.", "summary": "My friends went into another room until my girlfriend left, and I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_4tzchq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [17F] from school recently started contacting me [18M]. Does she like me? How do I deal with this?", "post": "So the story goes like this: \nI've known this girl since 7th grade. At first we were in the same class, later we only had some courses together. We weren't super close, but we talked occasionally and sometimes hung out together, mostly with other people around. \nShe usually is pretty shy and in no way did I ever get the impression that she was romantically interested in me or anyone else for that matter.\n\nLast week we both graduated. Since then I haven't really seen her, but she started texting me almost every day, asking me how I am doing, what I am doing over the Summer, jokingly inviting herself over to my place, yaddi-yadda. All of this came extremely unexpectedly for me.\n\nI believe it's rather obvious she seems to have a crush on me or something, but she hasn't explicitly asked me on a date yet. I think she's nice and all, but never really thought about her that way. How do I deal with this?", "summary": "Girl from school starts texting me, I have reason to assume she likes me. I don't really feel for her, how do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_386pj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21 M with my girlfriend [21 F] of 3 years, and i broke up because i subconciously wanted something new.", "post": "Names: Jessica (Ex); Michelle (Current GF)\n\nI was with Jessica for over 3 years and i broke up with her because i started feeling like the relationship was gradually falling. I became friends with Michelle that was alot of fun and i enjoyed being with and going out with and ended up asking her out after a drunken night as payback because i was angry at Jessica. Slowly she started sleeping over and then gradually moved in by herself without me telling her to move in. Its gotten to the point that i really do not wanna be with her and i want to get back with Jessica. she knows this and wants to get back with me as well but i cant kick this girl out of my house. i try over and over and she ends up coming back in because im too \"soft\" i guess you can say. I miss Jessica so much and i really want HER to be with me. Its been about 6 months that i've been with Michelle and i want it to end for good but i really do not want to hurt her cause she ends up crying and i give in... what can i do? One and for all.", "summary": "Broke up with my girfriend for a new girl, she now lives with me and i cant get rid of her to get back with my ex! What can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jbgs8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23/F] am ruining my relationship with my [27/M] boyfriend.", "post": "I'll start off by saying that I'm a long time sufferer of depression and have bi-polar disorder and occasionally suffer from auditory hallucinations. I've been on medication for a while now and have been seeing a therapist and neurologist and was actually meant to be institutionalized. I was already depressed before I met and started dating my boyfriend, which was 6 years ago.\n\nOver the last 6 months, my condition has consumed my life and it's taken a huge toll on my relationship. Due to my insecurities about myself, somehow I got it in my head that my SO was cheating on me and I would find myself accusing him and berating him and even made up an 'imaginary' him from the past which he was suddenly acting different from. During this time, he also lost his job and that made things doubly stressful. This last weekend, I actually had an epiphany and realised that I'm wrong and he's not different at all, except in the fact that if we fight one more time, he has already said that the relationship will be over. We made up, I cried and apologized profusely and things feel a little shaky since then.\nI don't know if I've outgrown the relationship since we've been together for so long or if this is normal (it's my first real long term relationship) but we feel more like best friends than lovers lately. We goof around all the time together and the loving, romantic side of the relationship feels like a distant memory.\n\nI'm 100% positive that I love this man and I want to be with him for the rest of my life and I'm ashamed of myself for the way I've treated him. Making a long story short, Reddit, I want your advice on how I can revive those feelings (if it's possible?) and make him and myself fall head over heels for each other again.", "summary": "Treated my boyfriend of 6 years like shit for the last 6 months. Looking for [serious] and grown up advice on reigniting the flame and reconciling."}
{"id": "t3_30m929", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is it bad to not eat?", "post": "F, 56, SW 195, CW 173, GW 130.  My old weekend habit was get up, drink coffee, not eat till dinner, because I didn't get hungry if I didn't eat to begin with.  Not a weight loss strategy- just not hungry.  So- I've been faithfully following my meal plan for - I guess six weeks, including breakfast, snack, lunch, snack if particularly hungry before going running, dinner.  Now today, I slept super-late, till 10, have been running around, drank a couple cups of coffee- am about to start a lengthy snake feeding, and- I'm not hungry.  Should I eat anyway?  I recently read about the importance of an overnight fast; is it bad to extend that to late afternoon, occasionally?", "summary": "I woke up and don't feel like eating breakfast or lunch.  I'm not hungry.  Should I eat anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_1xezhe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18f] just found out that my ex [18m] is doing cocaine.", "post": "I'm shocked and not quite sure how to deal with this. His best friend (also a good friend of mine) texted me and told me that my ex is into cocaine now, and that he's been asking our other high school friends to do it with him.\n\nWe broke up last September after a year long relationship because our colleges are very far apart. I'm over the fact that we broke up but he was my first love and I still care about him in some way. I don't want him to throw his life away. He has depression and I know the coke will only make it permanently worse the longer he uses it. Also, we hooked up several times over Thanksgiving and Christmas break. He seemed completely normal over Thanksgiving and a little \"off\" during Christmas. He promised me both breaks that he hadn't slept with anyone else, but he also said that the party scene at his school wasn't that great. Obviously if cocaine is readily available, the party scene isn't as dead as he made it sound! Should I get myself tested for STDs? Should I try to get him to stop or talk to his best friend about convincing him?", "summary": "My ex is doing cocaine and I'm shocked and don't know how to react. I still care about him in some way as he was my first love. I don't want him throwing his life away when we're so young."}
{"id": "t3_4v46dc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 1.5 years, don't know if I want to stay with her.", "post": "Long story short, I have no idea what's wrong with me. I'm such an idiot. I've been with my gf for 1.5 years now and to be honest, for the last 5 months, I've been so on the fence about whether I want to be with her. I just can't figure out what my deal is. It's like, some days I just want to be done and be single but out of nowhere, I'll get hit by some feeling and send her messages saying how happy I am and how much I miss her. It's like I'm some psycho :(. Please feel free to judge b/c I know I'm fucked up. I just don't understand. It's almost like I'm with her because I'm afraid to lose her or like I'm afraid to be alone but then at times, I'll be so ready to be done with it all. Yet at other times, I'll just be so happy to see her. I feel so fucked up in the head and it's been like this for so long that occasionally it really brings me down. I'm sorry guys but I just don't know what's wrong with me. Feel free to judge. I just don't get why I get in moods where I want to be done with her then all of a sudden, send her texts saying how much I miss her. I'm just such a fucking idiot. It's all got to come down to my insecurities, which isn't an excuse and is still fucked up. I'm sorry again, I feel like such an asshole but I guess I just need to vent. I constantly feel like I don't know what to do and it just stresses me out.\n\nHelp please. And don't be afraid to be harsh because I know how fucked up this must seem.", "summary": "I'm driving myself crazy over what I should do with my girlfriend, who doesn't deserve any of this!"}
{"id": "t3_44fvcw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My long distance BF (33m) planned a solo trip to Europe behind my back and didn't tell me (24f) til he was boarding", "post": "My long distance boyfriend just dropped news that he was flying to Europe. It turns out he had been planning this for months and I had no idea (I probably would have noticed if we lived in the same city)\n\nI'm 13 weeks pregnant with complications that end with me in the emergency room about twice a month. He has not come to visit as often as he promised, despite his constant verbal reassurance that he wants to have a baby and a family with me.\n\nI'm hurt he hid this and is using this time off from work to do something for himself. His excuse for not notifying me was that he knew I would dislike it. His reason for not inviting me was my health issues. He said this was his last chance to go before the baby came.\n\nNow his friend accidentally let slip that my boyfriend's ex was studying abroad in Europe and that they had plans to meet up at the hostels he was staying in. \n\nEven if he wasn't meeting with his ex, don't hostels have a reputation for hooking up?\n\nI'm really very upset over this which isn't good for my pregnancy...was hoping to get words of advice from you guys on how to cope for the next two weeks.", "summary": "boyfriend planned a solo trip behind my back to Europe for two weeks while I'm in the 13th week of a complicated pregnancy. Claims his reason was he would not have had a chance to do it after the baby was born. I think he left to meet up with his ex studying abroad. How do I deal with this for the next two weeks??"}
{"id": "t3_4zn3ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my Girlfriend [23F] almost three years, she wants to move in with me while I am in law school", "post": "So I will be going to Law School in the next year, and for most of undergrad I was able to live at home to save money. My girlfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. Lately she has been really pushing for us to move in together when I go to law school.\n\nI am not opposed to the whole thing, but there are certain circumstances that pertain to my situation. She works full time and goes to school full time. In law school I will barely be able to work, and the bar association has strict rules for law students as far as how much they can work, so she will be the one providing the majority of the finances. My parents also told me that they would help me out. She told me that she would support me to accomplish my dream of going to law school.\n\nAs with any school financial situation, student loans do not have to be paid on while in school, so that is not an immediate financial issue. Basically, I find it flattering that someone is willing to support me to accomplish my dream, but I do not want to place that burden on someone else. I do realize my parents have been helping me out, and my girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years, but the whole situation would be an immense amount of trust.", "summary": "Should I pull the trigger and move in or should I stay at home? Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated on this because I keep going back and forth in my head on this issue."}
{"id": "t3_1jaggg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my GF [18F] 1 month relationship, Breakup advice", "post": "Me and this girl just broke up after about a month of dating. near the end of the relationship there was much conflict and we both made mistakes. she admitted to flirting with another man but i feel partially responsible for how clingy i was acting when she told me she was out with him. \n\nanyways right after this incident we argued and then she went on a week long trip. contact was very sparse over the trip and this upset her. The day after she got back we got coffee and broke up very camly. more or less we are taking a step back a although she agreed to continue to see me casually. \n\nI wrote the following text and do not know if it is the right thing to say to her. (i thought about calling or waiting until we are face to face but i don't want us drifting apart further)\n\n\"I am about to go on a date tonight and it got me thinking about how i would really rather selvage things with you. I just want to know if me getting involved with other women would hinder that. don't take this too serious. although i am very capable of casual dating i feel there is incredible potential with us.\"", "summary": "Not sure if handling breakup correctly and would like advice on above text message"}
{"id": "t3_1r3t1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if I should feel guilty...", "post": "I've (F30) been in a relationship with a great person (M31) for a while now (close to a year). \n\n3 weeks after we got drinks for the first time, I was at a bar and made out with an acquaintance. We were not exclusive at this point and had seen each other 4 or 5 times prior to this. \n\nBefore this I was in a really bad relationship for a few years and had spent the last 3 being single and casually dating, so this wasn't brand new \"behavior\" on my part. I normally had 1 or 2 people in my rotation. For context's sake I was always open and honest with people about my expectations and a lot of fun times were had by everyone involved and there were never any hard feelings when things were over. \n\nOn the upside this make out made me realize I didn't want to do the casual thing anymore, that I wanted to see if something serious could happen with this person and it did and now I'm very happy. \n\nBut recently I've been thinking about that incident. I know I didn't cheat, I didn't even know if I wanted to seriously date yet (but after the make out I knew that I wanted to explore that) and we didn't have the exclusivity talk till 3 months later. I also have never asked if my SO had been seeing anyone else in those first few weeks and to be honest I really don't care to know. I also never told them this happened because we were still getting to know each other casually and it hasn't really crossed my mind again until now.\n\nSo all this being said, why do I feel rotten about it? I know that logically I didn't do anything wrong but I still feel scummy.", "summary": "Kissed someone else after a few dates 3 months before exclusivity. Feeling like an asshole, should I? Or does this just mean that I'm not a robot with no feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2hnv53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend[18F] of 2.5 years: How do I get her to be less shy?", "post": "To put it simply, we have been going out for almost three years, and she still can't even say she loves me if anyone can hear.  I have talked to her about it, and she said she is working on it.  she said this two years ago...  This does affect our relationship, I feel like our relationship is some dirty secret, and I don't want that.  I don't expect her to full on snog me when her dad can see, but at least hold my hand...\nFirstly, is this too much to ask, and secondly, if not: How can I get her to just me a little less shy?", "summary": "My girlfriend is so shy, she can't even hold my hand if anyone can see.  How can I get her to be just a little less shy?  (It doesn't help to talk to her)"}
{"id": "t3_3zh8z4", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat is licking her hair off. Please, can someone help?", "post": "[Album] of photos taken 20 minutes before posting.\n\n**Story**\n\nI have two cats. One is the female who is photographed in the album above. She is licking her hair off. Oddly enough, she doesn't have hairballs.\n\nI have asked people online about this before and it was suggested that she perhaps had a food allergy. I tried many different dry foods but then I found out that wet food is much healthier for cats. They have both been completely on grain-free wet food for close to a month now. Since the transition, they both lost weight and have an incredible amount of energy throughout the day.\n\nYou would think that this would change the over grooming but it hasn't. It's about the same. *This has been going on for at least 1.5 years*. Of course, I have taken her to the vet. Multiple times. Our vet said that she has anxiety and the solution would be medicate her for the rest of her life. This just seems so wrong to me. As I type this, she is in my lap purring and we just played together. I cannot grasp how she is anxious when she is more social and loving than almost all the cats that I've known. (no offense to you guys. I'm sure yours are wonderful :) )\n\nIs there anyone out there who has dealt with this before? If so, what was the cause and what worked or didn't work?\n\nIf no one has well, does anyone know what I can do? I don't want to drug my cat.\n\nThanks to those who took the time to read all this. I appreciate any assistance. Cheers!", "summary": "Cat licks hair off. Owner concerned."}
{"id": "t3_2xkq35", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Sleeping In Like A Zombie.", "post": "So, I've been dating this guy for a while. And after ages, I actually do like somebody. We were supposed to meet this week/-end but due to work I wasn't able to meet him and I told him I would see him on Sunday morning. I haven't been sleeping all week and have been working for over 13 hours everyday. \n\nNow, we live in different cities and it's two hours apart. So, I was suppose to take the first train out and meet him in his city early morning. Instead, I ended up sleeping til 2pm. Didn't hear my alarm(s) go off. Couldn't hear my phone ring either. He gets worked up and worried all this while and keeps on calling me to check if I'm fine.\n\nAs soon as I wake up, I call him on FaceTime. He's freaking his balls off and he's extremely distressed. I try to ask him what's wrong? He doesn't answer. A few awkward minutes of silence later he ends up in tears and hangs up. Haven't heard from him since.", "summary": "I made a man shed into tears by sleeping in."}
{"id": "t3_29m0to", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25M] meeting a co-worker [22F] for a movie, I'm not sure if it's a date but if it is what should I do?", "post": "Honestly I haven't been on a date in a year and a half, and in the past four years I've only had one 3 month relationship and a few failed dates. I'm really nervous and I leave in 30 minutes, so please help me out guys and gals.\n\nI caught her checking me out last week (I was checking her out too) at my new job and yesterday I decided to try to talk to her. Things went great, I sat down and the conversation was very smooth and dare I say it... natural? I got her number and we texted a lot yesterday, and today I saw her again and we chatted some more. My friends at work say it seems like she's into me, and thought I should ask her out, so I was going to ask her out after talking on the phone with her tonight, (which she responded with, \"Yes, I would like that. =)\" but then she hit me up a little bit later asking me if I had plans *tonight*, and when I said no she invited me to the movies with her and her friend (and her friend is bringing someone, apparently). Also when I said \"Hey gorgeous\" through a text today she responded with \"Hi handsome :3\"\n\nSo I'm not sure if this is a date or not. And if it is (or isn't) I'm not sure if I should make a move. She's one of those drop dead gorgeous girls that don't really realize how gorgeous she really is, so I'm super nervous, especially since I haven't been on a date in a while. I keep wondering if I should try to hold her hand, or bump our hands together in the movie, or if I should lift that armrest between us, if I should give her a hug when I leave (or arrive), I just feel like a high school teenager all over again and have no idea what to do.\n\nCrap, I'm taking too long, 25 minutes, hurry!", "summary": "First date in a while, girl seems like she's interested but it's the first time we are hanging out in public (outside of work) so not sure how to flirt/act."}
{"id": "t3_3bcdo1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I make $9/hr and I wish to rent an apartment by next year. How can I make this feasible?", "post": "I've turned eighteen a few months back and now desire the freedom of earning my own money as well as living space. Obviously, there's now way now that I could do that as make too little and do not have two important items (license and car). My current job (retail) was a temp job, but my managers told me that I have been working very hard so I have been guaranteed a position with the store still making $9/hr. There will also be a pay raise to $10 next spring. \n\nThe next step was a car and license, so I'm already on that as I'm set to obtain one this fall. Hopefully, I do not have to spend as much on it; something like $1500-$2000. I don't need a looker, just a vehicle that can transport me from point A to B. \n\nI was approved for a credit card from Capital One (Platinum) which is excellent because I didn't think I would! Yet, the only thing I have done so far is tie my bills to it and that is it. I hope to have a high enough credit score by next summer. \n\nFinally, I'm enrolled for college as an economics and finance major but will take premed classes for medical school. Some people will try to argue that its better for me to major in a science field but I was told to major in what I like, not what looks good.", "summary": "I have a credit card, a decent job, on my way to obtain a car and license, and plan to go to med school after college. What is some advice you may have for a person to achieve this goal?"}
{"id": "t3_10qq3v", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I can't cum with a condom on, can you help?", "post": "I'm using an alt account for obvious reasons, but I'm 20 and I've started seeing this girl, who is 18. We were friends for a long time, and physical attraction is not the problem. For now, condoms are a must... We have discussed birth control, but it might take a while before that happens.\n\nI just recently discovered that normal condoms are too small for me, and after moving up to \"large\" sizes it's at least a little more comfortable... Meaning simply that it's not actively cutting off my blood flow. But I have almost no sensation for much of the coitus. It takes me forever to finish, and sometimes I can't! It's VERY frustrating. The options for large condoms are limited too, so I can't even experiment to find one that works!  These ones I'm using now are supposed to be thin already, too... Does anyone know anything to help??", "summary": "I can't cum with a condom."}
{"id": "t3_32dbys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a problem with our age difference Me[26] Him[41] and I need to either get past it or move on.", "post": "I have a problem with our age difference Me[26] Him[41] and I need to either get past it or move on.  We were together for a little over 1 year, our relationship was wonderful.  We are not together anymore, but if I want to have the relationship again I just have to go to him and say it.  We live in sync with each other, we love each other's children and work as a family that's been together always.  I'm the only one who has a problem with our age difference and I've finally figured out why.  But I need to figure out if my issues are valid and whether I can have a relationship with him or if I need to move on with my own life.  Here are my concerns: I want more children, is it realistic for him to have more kids at his age?  Also with him being 15 years older I am scared that I will lose him before we really live our lives.  I love him and am scared to love him more deeply and to lose him while I'm still young or if we have young children.  I feel like it's a dumb concern because anything can happen and just because he's older doesn't mean he will die first or soon or anything.  But I don't know how to get past my issues, I need to so I can fix us or move on without him.", "summary": "Is age a valid concern, and how do I get past my concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_4h39c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [28M] doesn't like birthdays.", "post": "My boyfriend of a year doesn't like birthdays, especially birthday parties. He loves parties but doesn't like them when he is the center of attention. He doesn't like photos where he's the center of attention. When we first started dating, he refused to even tell me when his birthday was until I finally prodded it out of him.\n\nI come from a background where birthdays were the one time in my life where I got what I wanted. I had a party, got to eat the food I liked, and even got presents that I actually wanted. It was such a rarity that I always get excited on my birthday. My boyfriend loves contributing to my birthday, and has contributed to cooking me the food and cake that I like and attending my parties with me. He even showers me with gifts.\n\nHis birthday is a bit away. Last year I made him this ice cream cake that he wanted and got him a small present that he opened in private. I also had his friends over while they were unaware it was his birthday to have a small dinner get-together, and he seemed content with that. Eventually, however, they discovered it was his birthday when his mom posted on facebook so it became a birthday party and he got really uncomfortable.\n\nI don't want to steamroll him into having a birthday, but I'm also worried that by not acknowledging it at all I'm not showing my appreciation for him. He's the best boyfriend I have ever had, so I don't want to fuck it up. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't like his birthday because he hates being the center of attention, but he always shows a huge appreciation for me on my birthday. Should I ignore his birthday entirely or do something else?"}
{"id": "t3_3zw1ue", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling two well dressed guys they look sharp", "post": "OK, so I worked at a British supermarket for a few months stacking shelves and stuff. This one day around Christmas the shop got really busy and I had to go on tills. So I walked down along the long line of tills, looking for a free one, when this guy in front of me let off the loudest trumpet/mini brass brand/one-cheek sneak. I sat down at my till, and that guy was at the back of the queue on the next till. No way I was calling him over, so I pretended do fiddle around with something, waiting for someone to come over who I wouldn't have an awkward transaction with. Finally, these cool looking guys dressed in black \u2014 probably father and son \u2014 came over and started loading the conveyor belt. I mean, they were seriously r/oldschoolcool cool. I thought I'd have some banter with them, so I opened with the first ^^^stupid ^^^stupid ^^^stupid thing that came into my mind: \"you guys are looking sharp, are you going out somewhere?\". The son turned his head away and the father mumbled something. Completely oblivious to what he was about to say I smiled and said \"pardon?\" He repeated: \"we're at a funeral\". ^\"oh ^sorry\". Of course they fucking were, they were fucking wearing all-fucking-black. I looked dead ahead for the rest of the ordeal. Before they left the dad said \"have a good day\". WTF am I supposed to say to that? You too?", "summary": "These cool looking guys came to my till at a supermarket. I told them they looked cool and asked them if they were going somewhere. They were going to a funeral. A little part of my soul died."}
{"id": "t3_2f1soq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making the right choice", "post": "A couple nights ago I went to a party, and since I don't have my driver's license yet, my mom had to drive me there. The whole car ride to my friend's house she lectured me about not drinking and not doing drugs and whatnot. I patiently waited silently through the whole speech, and as soon as we pulled up, I leaped out of the car and ran inside.\n\nFast forward several hours later.\n\nThe party is ending. I have not followed my mom's instructions like a good little boy, and I am really, really drunk. I'm leaving and walking down the driveway, about to call my mom to pick me up, when one of my friends calls out my name. He's unlocking his car and several others are piling into the rear seats. All of them are drunk as balls, and even though my cognitive abilities are not at full strength, I have the brains to decline and continue walking.\n\nI'm walking down the sidewalk, waiting for my mom to pick up her phone, I hear the start of an engine behind me. I ignore it, and keep walking. Several seconds later, I hear tires screech and think, \"Gee, I hope they don't die on the way home.\" A second after that, the car hits me.\n\nI wake up later in a hospital room, and according to the doctor, I've broken my wrist, hip, both legs, and a couple ribs.", "summary": "I choose not to get into a car driven by an intoxicated friend, get run over by the same car moments later."}
{"id": "t3_1zlucb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My roommates neglect their baby (IMO)", "post": "I'm typing this on my iPhone. Please pardon any typos. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have two roommates, they being my girlfriend's brother and his fianc\u00e9. She has a 19 month old girl with another man that typically stays at our home about 3-4 nights a week. I work at home and know their routine. They always stay in their bedroom, but I can hear a lot through their walls. The baby usually sleeps till about noon. This is about when I hear her first cry and she will scream bloody murder. For about 45 minutes. I then, every day, hear my girlfriends's brother give a loud \"SHHHHH!\", more crying, and then after he is fed up with shushing her, repeated yells to stop crying. The baby spends 95% of her time in the crib. I know this because their room is too cluttered and full of trash for her to play or even walk and I can hear her banging on her jail cell bars as she screams and gasps for breath. Throughout the day, there are moments of complete silence, which means the baby has cried herself to sleep. After a few hours of silence, the screaming starts again, the yells for her to quiet start again, and more silence. There is no space for playtime in their room and I can hear everything they watch on TV. I know she isn't playing or watching something. My girlfriend and I are the only ones to play with her, and she is a genuinely smart, vocal, and happy baby. When she is with us, there is no screaming but only laughing. Unfortunately, there are only a handful of words, most of which we taught her, and the most frequent being my name. \n\nI decided to rant about this tonight because I just heard him shake the crib and repeatedly yell for her to \"shut up and go to sleep\". It's obvious why she won't sleep. She's been doing that all day, every day. I won't even go into what they must be feeding her. The only thing they ever have in the kitchen is ramen, frozen pizza, and hotdogs.", "summary": "roommates keep baby in crib all day, yell at her when she cries about it, and never interact with her."}
{"id": "t3_epjs6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Subbing out contract work.  Has anyone done it successfully?", "post": "I've been working for myself for the past year plus, doing contract work (programming/websites/LAMP).  Recently, I've been offered more work than I can handle, and I've been turning down work because I don't have the time (or the inclination to give up my life).  It seems like it would be a good idea to look into hiring or subbing out or somehow finding someone to do some of this.  I would certainly need to sign off on and QA the code coming through (since it would be going out under my name).  I'm wary of going down this road though, I'm concerned that maybe \na) I don't get to code anymore \nb) I get screwed \nc) I end up doing a shit ton of admin work \nd) someone takes a client\ne) i need to be someones boss\n\nHas anyone done this successfully?  If so how did you go about it?\nHas anyone done this un successfully?  If so what would you do differently?", "summary": "Anyone out there successfully outsource a portion of your work? How did you do it?"}
{"id": "t3_12p6jl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When was a time someone deceived you or your community Reddit?  I'll start...", "post": "In my school we just recently had something happen where the school was told that a young boy had leukemia and he was close to dying. One of our football team's players even got to meet him. They talked briefly. Turns out he was a huge fan of our football team, that has been doing really well this year, so we decided to dedicate a football game to him. We even decided to let him do the coin toss. It was his final wish to attend this game. We even planned to release balloons for him during halftime. Unfortunately we got word that he had died the day before the game. People were very upset but the game still went on. About a week later, news comes that someone investigated the kid and found out that he wasn't even real! The whole thing was just a hoax! Our football player had talked with an actor. A paid ten yer old actor. It even ended up on our news (Here's the link:", "summary": "Our school was told about a boy that was close to dying because of leukemia. School took it to heart and became very emotional. Turns out it was a hoax."}
{"id": "t3_w5yq7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My co-worker told me she once had drunken anal sex which lead to diarrhea being shat all over her bedroom. What life stories have you heard from the people you work with that should have never been told in the first place?", "post": "One of the initiations at my old job was to be asked 2 very personal questions when you first got hired, which were usually sexually oriented. You were given the option to not say anything, but then you would be labeled \"vanilla yogurt\" and no one would think you are cool. I had already been working at this company for about 6 months when a new girl got hired on. All the people on the shift got together and told the newbie about the 2 questions thing and she agreed to answer truthfully anything we wanted to know. The first question was boring so I'll skip it, but the second question was, \"What was your most awkward sexual experience?\" After a couple seconds of thinking, she turned bright red and told us one of her last sexual experiences with a man ended in her shitting all over the bedroom. She got drunk at a club and found a guy to fuck for a one nighter and brought him back to her place. During the drunken sloppy sex, he decided to switch holes without saying anything. Lucky for him, she didn't mind but unlucky for him it ended in a very bad mess. She said she remembered waking up to the most awful smell and that upon seeing the shit covered bed, floor and walls, she knew what had happened. It took her a couple hours to clean it up. I had tears in my eyes from laughing...", "summary": "Female co-worker's one night stand ended in a room covered in shit."}
{"id": "t3_136pjp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (30 yr old male) want to leave my gf (28), with minimum pain for her. Any help would be appreciated.", "post": "I have been seeing my gf for about 3 years. I care about her very much, but I cannot deny that I have fallen out of love with her. Her life has been in some kind of turmoil for the majority of our relationship, issues with work, home, and money that have stressed her out (and therefore stressed me out) and made her rely on me for ever-increasing amounts of emotional and financial support, which has only made her cling to me that much more tightly, while making me exhausted. I have had to spend more and more time with her, which means spending less and less time with friends or on other things I want to do. The relationship feels more like a job now, and it's a job I want to quit.\n   As I said, I still care about her, and I do not want to hurt her more than is necessary. She constantly says that she loves me and that my happiness matters to her, so how can I tell her that what would make me happiest would be to end our relationship?", "summary": "want to leave relationship without hurting her more than necessary."}
{"id": "t3_2slkyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23 M) going through a break up with my (24F) girlfriend of 3 years and she wants to remain friends and I'm afraid of being hurt, what do i do?", "post": "We were together for 3 years and both decided to end our relationship last week. She wanted to remain friends and I agreed because we had a clean break with no hard feelings for each other, but now I'm really starting to feel the pain and am realizing I didn't want it to end and I only let her go because I felt she wasn't happy with me.\n\nI'm having a really hard time trying to figure out if i should remain friends with her. I don't know if it would be easier to just cut off all contact and move on or remain friends and hurt myself as I watch the girl I love share the life we had planned together with someone else.", "summary": "I don't know if I should keep in contact and run the risk of only hurting myself or if I should cut my losses and move on."}
{"id": "t3_1iyqxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] is having a hard time whenever my SO [20M] of 1 year is out of town", "post": "A little background. We both live in the same town, not living together though. We've been friends for the last 5 years but only began dating almost a year ago. Neither of us has cheated on the other person.                    \n\nWhenever he is away from town for a few days I get sad and restless. I don't believe its the sometimes nice feeling of missing someone and its not a trust issue either since I don't believe he will cheat on me.\nI just feel like the loneliest person alive and begin to think about things that makes me depressed and I cry and sleep the most of the time. \n\nIt is really getting on my nerves since I am a very happy and outgoing person on all other occasions. I went to a therapist 8 months ago because my friend almost killed himself but it feels in some way useless to try it for this purpose since im super happy whenever he's close to home which he is most of the time. What should I do?", "summary": "I can't do anything else than cry and sleep whenever my SO is away for a couple of days. How can I change this behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_3b5f16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [F18] is late for her period and I [M18] feel like the world is coming to an end.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend made the stupid mistake of having unprotected sex not one, not two, but three times in a matter of 2-3 weeks.  I know it was stupid, and there is no excuse.  She informed me last night that she is 4 days late. My heart sank and I had a  panic attack for the first time in my life. She told me that she is irregular from time to time and it just might be that but I don't know. We both have ultra religious parents who will disown us if they found out so we both agreed that abortion would be the best course of action if she is pregnant. The problem is I don't have any money, I recently graduated high school and just last week payed for my first semester of college. If we can't get an abortion our lives are basically over and, I... I just don't know what to do...at the moment I have about $150 to my name and I can have up to $300 more by next week but I have no clue how to go about all this.", "summary": "pregnancy scare, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3algou", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Not sure if she wanted to get physical...", "post": "So there's this girl I really like who I am tutoring at school. We hooked up at a party the other night and it went pretty well. \n\nShe asked me if I was hard and when I said yes, she told me she was wet. We went out on the dance floor for a bit afterwards and I needed to piss. I told her I was going to the bathroom and would be right back. I don't know if she took it differently because she smiled and said that she would 'accompany me into the toilet to make sure no one would accidentally come in'. \n\nThe toilet line was pretty long and we were waiting together, then she said that she was going to talk to her friend real quick. Keep in mind I was a bit drunk so I wasn't thinking too clearly. She was gone for a couple minutes and I didn't really want to wait in line, so I went out the back and pissed in the bushes.\n\nI ended up talking to some other people and leaving after saying bye to her. Now I feel like a fucking idiot. We're both 18 by the way.", "summary": "I hooked up with my crush and may have blown my chance at getting to 3rd base."}
{"id": "t3_3dm8y5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my gf [27F] of 9 months, having incompatibility issues in the bedroom.", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for 9 intense months. We've been pretty much living together since day 1, making it official at like 5 months or so. I am definitely in love with her, and we have a great relationship outside the bedroom. In the bedroom, however, we are running into issues. \n\nI was very inexperienced before we started dating, and she was the polar opposite. She was very sexually open, worked at a fetish shop, experimented with polyamory, ect. Since I'm so new to the game, I'm pretty vanilla in the bedroom, and it is starting to get to her. She wants me to be more rough, and include choking/spanking/ect to the routine. \n\nI'm kind of at the place where I'm just looking to explore some new positions and just don't particularly get turned on by the rough stuff. Having said that, making her happy is super important to me, so I'm willing to give it a shot. I've been being generally rougher with her, pulling her hair a bit, spanking while in doggy style, definitely basic stuff. \n\nWhenever I try to do the more hardcore stuff, i.e. choking, it just feels super awkward and I'm very worried I'm going to hurt her. It sometimes has the unfortunate side effect of making me go soft because of the concern. \n\nDoes anyone have any advice on how to get this going, and hopefully make me feel less awkward about it? I honestly just have no idea what I'm doing, and unfortunately she's not much help. Whenever we talk about it, she just says things like \"you just gotta feel it!\" and \"just let loose.\" That gives me nothing to work with, since this inherently isn't in my character as a person. \n\nHow can I effectively do this? Position recommendations? Anything can help!", "summary": "I'm a rookie in the sack with an experienced gf, and I need advice on how to make sex more interesting for her. "}
{"id": "t3_21290i", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can someone explain Lemon Law to me (X-Post from /r/Motorcycles)", "post": "Unfortunately I'm a Georgia resident and our lawmakers decided lemon law statues shouldn't apply to motorcycle consumers. In July '13 I purchased a new Triumph Daytona 675 ABS model and have continually been bent over by constant issues.\n\nIt was first in the shop within a month of purchase for an oil leak. Shortly after (hours/days I forget, but theres paperwork proving) it had to be taken back in because dipshit forgot a crush washer and it was still leaking.\n\nCool, my bike is fixed! Just kidding, coolant leak. This happens about 1-2 months after the initial oil problem. It spends roughly several weeks in the shop over the course of two attempts, and the problem doesn't get fixed properly by them. I give it a crack myself, lo and behold the hose clamp just needed tightened. FUCK YOU.\n\nWell here comes another issue. The bitch just decided to turn off mid ride and throw a check engine light & oil light. There's no need to add any oil, doing so would just overfill it from where it's at. The bike actually doesn't use much oil at all (aside from when it fucking leaked months prior).\n\nThis is going to be it's like uh.. 5th visit or so to the dealer for issues in 8 months. It's already spent somewhere near 2 months in the shop, and going off past experiences it's probably going to spend another 2-3 now, if not longer because riding season is up and going in Georgia.\n\nMy issue is, again, that I am not protected by any state lemon laws. How far does the Magnuson-Moss Warranty Act go? Will a lawyer be able to push for a full refund or compensation with a new machine, or is that entirely off the table due to fucktarded state laws? It's complete bullshit that a bike has to spend 3 months in the shop out of what will be 9 months of ownership by the time that I get it back from the shop.", "summary": "no state lemon laws, will federal lemon law (Magnuson-Moss Warranty Act) be of any use to me, or am I stuck with this heaping pile of problematic rage inducing British fucking shit?"}
{"id": "t3_43c04r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a cop my fake ID", "post": "This happened last night. I was on my way home from my friends house at like 10pm. I had my car in cruise control at 80 following the guy in front of me. I was about to get off the exit I take to get home and the car behind me follows and I soon realize its a cop, he then lights me up. Before I pull over I grab my wallet to make sure my real ID is in the front slot of my wallet.\n\nAfter I pull over a stereo-typical stern cop with a mustache comes up and asks for license and registration, so I grab my wallet and pull out my identification and hand it to him with my registration (here is the fuck up). He looks at me and says \"Is this Oregon address correct?\" (I live in California). I must have accidentally grabbed my fake ID behind my real ID. At this point I was kinda shaking and i murmured out \"That's my fake ID\" and the cop looks at me with the most dumbfounded look on his face and says \"Why the hell would you give a police officer your fake ID?\" then asks for my real one. He walks back to run everything, and I thought I was about to take a little ride to the police station so I was freaking out. Those were the longest 10 minutes of my life. His partner comes back to my window laughing his ass off and hands me back everything, including my fake ID, and says \"Word of advice man, never give a cop your fake. Your lucky this is the first time Ive had this happen and I think its funny\" and just wrote me up for going 70 in a 65. Felt like the luckiest idiot in the world that whole night", "summary": "Gave a cop my fake ID, he thought it was so funny that he gave it back. "}
{"id": "t3_50fa6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M/F] with my SO [33 M/F] of 2 years, doesn't want me waking up earlier than him.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMy boyfriend decided to try bootcamp recently which meant he would wake up at 5:30 instead of 7. To support him I said I'd get up early with him and go to the gym as well (a different one to where he goes). I was really excited that he was going to do it because he doesn't apply himself as much as he could and it meant he could be seeing more of his friends. \n\nI regularly go to the gym about 5 times a week. He goes maybe once. I really like the gym but it does take a lot of my night after work.\n\nHe found the the first session of bootcamp really hard and doesn't want to do it anymore whereas I found waking up early and going to the gym really refreshing. It meant I had so much more time in my day and could come home and relax after.\n\nSo when he said he didn't want to do it anymore, I said I was going to continue getting up early and go to the gym in the mornings rather than the night.\n\nHe got really annoyed! He was annoyed that I would get up earlier than him because it would wake him up. He doesn't sleep very well so he was concerned that I he wouldn't be able to get to sleep after I had got up.\n\nHe usually wakes up at 7 and I said I'd be getting up at 6:20. \n\nI felt like there was double standards. I was happy for him to get up early, but he tried to disallow me from getting up earlier when he didn't want to. \n\nI compromised at waking up at 6:30am (which I don't think is very early at all, I'd prefer to wake up at 6am).\n\nWas it wrong for me to put my foot down and say I was going to get up early even though he was upset?", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't want me to wake up before him."}
{"id": "t3_2ggill", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] logged onto exes facebook [31 F] last night, I am feeling deeply troubled and ashamed about this morning.", "post": "It was not a very serious relationship, only a couple months, with a second week long 'fling' a couple months after splitting. But, she is one of the most refreshing people I've come across in a while, I tend to be pretty picky and when this didnt work out I struggled with it a bit.\n\nBasically I realized I had feelings for her and she did not feel the same, I was doing pretty well with accepting the situation, disappointed and the expected ups and downs the weeks following but I was feeling surprisingly stable and ok, and had sorta even started seeing a new girl which was helping the process of moving on.\n\nAnyway, while we were together she gave me her password to various things, I honestly never made an effort to remember them or anything except one which was very easy to remember that is used for her pandora which I still use on my phone.\n\nI know it's not any excuse but it seems worth mentioning I was drunk. I was listening to pandora and it asked me to confirm the login, which I did. Then i wondered if that was the same login for her facebook. I tried it and it was. I've never been one to invade someones privacy like that, I dont know what I wanted to find or not find, new bf i suppose. I read a couple messages and foruntely she doesnt really use it for messaging and I avoided dealing myself any added mental anguish. I knew what I was doing but i guess I was just riding the impulse to see what i could know. After logging out I couldnt believe I did that, my heart was racing and couldnt sleep after.\n\nThis morning I feel extremely ashamed for doing that to her, I am a 30 year old man and am too old to be playing these types of games with myself. I'm just feeling really awful about myself over it. Not to mention its taken me 12 steps backward in my moving on.\n\nPart of me wants to tell her I did that, and tell her to change the password.", "summary": "I logged into ex's facebook account, poked around,read a couple messages, and feel really ashamed of myself for invading her privacy"}
{"id": "t3_4siigu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How do I build credit with a starter credit card?", "post": "I posted to PF last week after being rejected for my banks own credit card, due to lack of credit history. Since then I've found a credit card with capital one, with a low credit limit of \u00a3200, which I've opened.\n\nI want to build my credit as safely but also as quickly as possible. When I move house next month I'll be putting some monthly bills in my name which should also help.\n\nHow much should I spend on my CC, I've seen online that more than 30% or more than 50% of your limit as balance can reduce or slow your score, but the amount varies website to website.\n\nI intend to pay off the CC by direct debit from my current account and never let it gather interest. I currently have enough savings and room in my budget that I am not worried about doing this. Is it best to put a small monthly payment like Netflix on it (~\u00a37). Should I put Netflix on the CC and a few small transactions?\n\nI graduate medical school next summer, and to make room for more studying in my final year, have reduced my hours at my part time job. Whilst I'm fine for money now, I'm concerned that I may run short just before I start on my doctors salary, as I'm also expecting to relocate at that time. I have a vague plan than if I can build decent credit for the next 6-10 months I may be able to find a small card with a period of 0% interest to take me to my first paychecks. Have I missed anything there, does that sound like a reasonable plan?", "summary": "how much should I spend on my starter CC, each month (credit limit \u00a3200) to build credit? Should I put Netflix on the CC, random transactions or both?"}
{"id": "t3_v6909", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's have a venting/advice thread. What do you have to vent about?", "post": "I'll start. I just got my first job at a Wendy's 3 weeks ago, and it started out alright, I could handle it. But we're very understaffed and we don't have anyone who can train, and the managers are being very strict with who they hire. I was never given any proper training, they just threw me out there. I work 5-10PM 5 days a week closing the dining room. Now some nights I have to close the dining room while serving late hour walk in customers, and sometimes making fries all at the same time. And I end up staying at least an hour late some days. I'm getting massively stressed out while working and sometimes I want to just not go, but it's not as though I can afford to quit.", "summary": "My job stresses me the hell out but I can't afford to quit."}
{"id": "t3_278cnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my wife [33 F] Need help recapturing the love and excitement we once had", "post": "My wife and I have been together for 14 years. I know when I chose her to be my girl that there was no one else out there for me. I remind myself of that daily. The problem is we are stuck on some kind of auto-pilot. We are both unhappy professionally, we have a wonderful 15 month old kid but I am afraid we are both too tire or busy or uninterested to recapture that flame. Is it possible to fall back in love and be excited and in love like when we were young? We are in no danger on cheating on each other or anything like that, I think we are just bored...I just want to know if there are steps or techniques that I can take to fall back in love. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Wife and I been together for 14 years. Have one kid. Need to rekindle the flame."}
{"id": "t3_16fgcr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What outrageously evil things do you remember doing as a kid, and do you regret doing those things?", "post": "I remember living in a beautiful cul-de-sac in California when I was about 7 years old, next door we had a family of Koreans who barely spoke any English, and on the other side we had a small family of Indians (Needless to say odors coming from both houses were sometimes rather pungent). Across the street lived these two little devil boys, who punished the only 2 little girls on the outskirts of this cul-de-sac who were this little Korean girl and I. It was an older brother and his little brother, both little toe-headed tan skinned redneck looking boys with a trailer trash overweight mother and father. The parents couldn't care less what the boys did, they bought them BB guns and paintball guns as toys, which they would use on us and the neighborhood cats. I mainly stayed inside because of them, and because of a skin condition I have when I'm in the sun, but nevertheless they ruined me being able to enjoy a simple bike ride outside. One day I was playing in my front yard, they snuck around through all the yards to get to mine, shocked to see them there as I turned around they asked if I wanted to throw water balloons at the Korean girl next door. All I wanted to do was be friends with everyone, especially those who hurt me, in an attempt to be accepted by these bullies of the block, I agreed to engage in throwing water balloons and pegging this helpless foreign girl till' she cried. To this day I wish I had gone back to say sorry, but I was forced to move soon after because my father lost his job.", "summary": "I painfully pegged a little Korean girl next door with water balloons because I gave into peer pressure"}
{"id": "t3_2ud8bj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] abusive dad [47m] died and I don't want to help with the funeral.", "post": "I'm going to be brutally open here. It's how I deal with things, so I'm sorry if I offend or upset anybody. I just don't know what to do.  \n\nMy dad was a terrible father. He was narcissistic, emotionally abusive, and physically abusive. He's beat the shit out of me more times than I can count, just to convince everyone, myself included, I was at fault. Before he died, he told me I owed him money for my hospital bills after HE put me in the hospital, because he had to pay for them. I'm unemployed, because he didn't want me to leave the fucking house. How am I supposed to pay hospital bills with no job? \n\nI'm happy he's dead. I'm relieved. I finally feel safe, and I feel *so fucking guilty* because of it. He was my dad. He bought me clothes and food. He was a piece of shit but he kept me alive. And I'm sitting here happy? I don't know what's wrong with me. \n\nI'm supposed to be helping my family with funeral plans, but I can't look at them. My dads brothers are here and they think I'm inconsolable because I've stayed in my room, but I just don't know how to face them. What am I supposed to say, 'hey sorry your brother died, but he's broken a handful of my bones so I'll let you guys handle this one'? \n\nI feel bad leaving my uncles to plan everything. It isn't their fault my dad was horrible, and they've just lost their brother. But I don't know if I can handle acting like my dad was a good person, and having everybody feel sorry for me when in reality, I'm not torn up about it. \n\nI know I'm in the process of grieving, and my feelings might change but as of right now, I don't think I can handle it. I don't know if I'm right in not wanting to be a part of this, or if I should just suck it up and do it to keep appearances.", "summary": "my abusive dad died, and I don't know if I should help plan his funeral or not."}
{"id": "t3_utfap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you feel obligated to tip in a restaurant even if the service was horrible and the order was wrong?", "post": "Last night my SO and I went to a restaurant. Gave the host our name and she said it would be a 10-20 min wait. After 20 min we asked where we were on the list. She said she called our name and someone else took our spot. We were there the whole time and never heard our name called. \n\nThe server couldn't answer questions about what beverages (flavors of tea) were available. He didn't bring the appetizer. He forgot the sweetener for the tea. Our dinners both had onions and chives when we specifically requested not to have either.  He didn't remove the plates after we had finished our meals. He didn't refill our tea. \n\nNeedless to say we didn't leave a tip. Do you leave a tip even if the service was horrible and the order was wrong?", "summary": "Went to dinner. Host screwed up. Waiter screwed up. We left no tip. What do you do?"}
{"id": "t3_3rqshv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-boyfriend [20] of 3.5 year relationship cries after sex [F21]?", "post": "We ended our 3.5 year relationship two weeks ago but we still see each other every day. Both of us have pretty much just been friends for the last year of our relationship so staying friends now hasn't been a problem.  Before we have sex he always reminds me that developing any feelings is just going to be a problem since he likes another girl now.  But then after the sex he cries.  It's not like it's pathetic when he cries, I just don't understand why this happens.  Out of the two of us he's the one who wants to stay broken up the most.  He's always trying to be the responsible one and hold off from anything sexual until he just gets naturally worked up from being around me.  We've talked about being friends with benefits, since that's essentially what we are already, but it might be too early.  The sex has been better than ever since I never really wanted to do it when we were dating.  Now that we're over the fact that he's harder to get makes him 100x more attractive to me.  Half of our dating issues were about how little sex we had.  He gets off twice a day on average so he's normally a very horny person.  If I had to guess why he cries it's because he either feels guilty, since he doesn't think with his head when he's worked up, or because maybe the sex brings up some feelings he doesn't want to experience.  He doesn't even understand why he feels this way after.  Can anyone explain why this happens?", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend and I have casual sex starting days after the breakup, he cries after every time, neither of us understand why."}
{"id": "t3_c0gjw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So...Am I going insane? Or is this normal?", "post": "Over the past couple days, I've began to notice the things that go on inside my mind. I constantly thinking about what I'm thinking about...My mind sometimes goes blank, like its rebooting or something...Then I begin to think about the blankness (I look at something and think \"I should be thinking about that...why am I not thinking about that?\") I will try to think about things, or think up things to say...but I get nothing. \n\nI know the mind is a crazy thing, but is it possible to think about your own thoughts into an infinite loop where you just go insane? I just constantly analyze everything, every aspect of every thought...\n\nDoes anyone else type things out in their heads? Random phrases, constantly? Ex. In my head I will randomly think \"Hi there.\" then I think \"Shift - H - i - Space - t - h - e - r - e - Period\" and then go into a loop of \"Shift - S - h - i - f - t\" \"Shift - S...\" then it just disappears...\n\nI apologize if this seems kinda crazy (no pun intended) and very unorganized and random...I'm just wondering if this is normal, or I'm going insane. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "I constantly analyze my own thoughts and I just wanna know if its driving me insane or normal"}
{"id": "t3_23xl3i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tricking a girl into thinking she was gonna die", "post": "So I work at a summer camp for a circus, I'm 16, and the kids are being kids. There is this one girl though, maybe like 12, that has been harassing me nonstop and disobeying all my instructions. One day, we're on a playground and everyone goes inside, except her, because she's collecting her stuff. I notice she's drinking from a thermos and that it's old and the paint is chipped a little inside the bottle. Now, most people wouldn't even notice that, but I noticed and decided to get back at her. I told her that the paint would enter her bloodstream and that she was going to die from lead poisoning or some form of paint poisoning. Luckily no one found out, and granted, I never apologized, but hopefully it'll stay on the DL. I realize it was a terrible thing to say, she didn't cry or anything, but she did get mildly upset. Actually pretty mature for a 12 year old...", "summary": "I fucked up by making a bad camper think she was gonna die."}
{"id": "t3_yzt45", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "College Senior with some savings, planning for future.", "post": "Hi there,\n\nI'm starting my senior year in college, and have got a decent chunk of savings from working during breaks/thanks to my (nearly) free tuition.  Right now, I've got almost $30,000 saved up.  I've accepted a job offer for next year for $100,000/yr, so I will be making a good deal of money and have no debt.  \n\nMy parents have said that I could stay at home after I graduate for saving up for house/apartment/whatever if I need to.  So, for that first year, I'll have nearly no expenses.  I will be working/living in Boston, MA, USA.\n\nMy issue is, I have zero knowledge of anything financial.  I don't know what is a good safe place for money, what do do for real estate (buy/rent), how having this money will affect me in terms of tax/what I can do for this?", "summary": "no expenses, has 30k saved, 100k/yr job next year, no financial knowledge, boston, ma. "}
{"id": "t3_1vxazv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] My Girlfriend [15/F] Won't stop talking to her ex and is going to meet up with him!", "post": "I'm [17/M] am worried about my girlfriend [15/F] who is going to meet up with her ex. For the past couple days they've been talking on skype. I actually didn't mind this but the fact she's been talking to him instead of me today hurt a little(yesterday was fine I let it go). She's going to be going to a soccer meet up with her friends on Sunday and apparently her ex is going to be part of the group. After that she says they are all going to go for coffee after. I told her how I feel about this and she says  \"Why don't you trust me!\" I'm not sure if it's normal to not trust her around her ex? Or do I just need to trust her and believe that she won't do anything with him(which I don't, but wish i could) I'm confused and need some help.\n\nWe've been dating for 1 month.", "summary": "She's going to meet up with an ex she's been talking to on skype lately. I'm not comfortable with this. What can I do or say to her."}
{"id": "t3_ym091", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Visiting a Prospective Puppy this Weekend @ 4 mo. old", "post": "Alright so, this Sunday, I have the opportunity to go check out my potential second dog (Border Collie, working lines). I've never encountered puppies younger than 8 weeks, and I am kind of hoping to \"gel\" with one above the others to make my final decision easier. But! I have read that the ideal time to test these things is at 49 days. Any younger and it *could* change my judgement.\n\nHave any of you had an experience with picking out your pup at 4 weeks, when visiting the litter? Was their behavior and likes/dislikes consistent with what you ended up getting at 8 weeks? I'm not paying attention to looks at all - the only thing I want is a pup who enjoys toys, play, and has a lot of potential drive to tap in to. Ace, my current dog, is aloof and independent, and I have had to overcome a lot of obstacles to get to his current state of biddability!", "summary": "Going to meet possible pup who will be 4 weeks old, this weekend. I will NOT be taking one back home with me - I just want to test the waters for temperament/drive. Can this work?"}
{"id": "t3_rprfn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most pathetic, unfunny April Fool's prank you've seen?", "post": "For some reason it just seems like April 1st has just become a day of telling some lie and then saying, \"I GOT YOU! YEAH THAT WAS SO FUNNY! RIGHT?\"  I saw two bad ones.  One was a girl put pics of a concert on facebook and said, \"omg this concert is soooo fun!\"  People responded with things like \"wow, so cool!\" or \"oh i wish i was there\" She then responded, \"lol april fools I'm actually sitting at home!\"  That shit is not funny.  Also a guy pretended to be in a relationship that day.  Then today he said, \"APRIL FOOLS EVERYBODY!\"  Cool man, jokes on you.  Now you can go back to being foreveralone.", "summary": "April Fools day has started to suck.  Tell me the worst attempts at a prank."}
{"id": "t3_2w1kpz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21/F] continue pursuing my romantic interest [26/M] I met online who's sending me mixed signals?", "post": "I have very little dating experience so I decided to join OKCupid a month ago. The men who were messaging me weren't really my type so I decided to initiate contact with men who I found interesting. I eventually landed on an interesting profile a few days afterwards  so I left a message. He seemed interested and we got along fairly well. He complimented on my looks and he asked me out to dinner a week later and I agreed that I would. We never discussed further details even though we found out that we lived 15 minutes away from each other. We continued to message on the site until I decided to ask for his number to text him. \n\nI've never been a big texter so I completely understand if people don't want to text back sometimes. When we first started texting, we texted back in forth throughout the day. Eventually it started to dwindle and he would go a day or two without texting me back. He does have a 8-4 weekday job so I do consider that. I thought it was kind of weird how he would continue the conversation 2 days later instead of just starting a new conversation. Regardless, I never sought \"revenge\" on him by texting him back later; I replied when I could.\n\nThe majority of the conversation is made by me. I'm the one who asks the questions and sends funny pictures. He reciporcates occasionally. I always wait for him to reply to send another message. He still hasn't asked to meet in person so I decided to ask him to have a last minute late night meal at a local diner but he refused and said that he was 'unkempt and that it would be a bad first impression'. \n\nHe has dropped hints about meeting up but not as of recently. I'm not emotionally invested in him but I just want to know if I should even bother anymore? He seems like a nice guy but I don't want to be pushy or anything. What should I do?", "summary": "I met a guy online who I am interested in who initially seemed interested in me. We haven't met yet but his communication style has changed and I'm not sure if I should pursue this."}
{"id": "t3_4jnz2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get my (19M) mother (53F) to stop trivializing my dream job when compared with my brother (22M)?", "post": "I'm a 19 year old student about to start my second college at a state university. My brother graduated last year with a business degree and is going on being an accountant. He's already making a substantial wage, and it's clear that my parents are proud of him. \n\nMeanwhile, I'm attending university to get a degree in teaching history. I went into this knowing that I probably won't make close to what my brother makes, and am totally okay with it. The issue is that my mom won't stop making comments here and there about my future lack of money.\n\nThere have been multiple times where we've been talking, and she's slid in comments about how different my life is going to be if I get a teaching degree. To put in perspective, we're a rather wealthy family with a large house. She is continuing to try to get me to take business classes and switch majors to one that my brother did. I've already told her before that I find it hurtful when she doesn't appreciate what I want to do, and her ver batim answer was that she didn't have to care about what I thought since she and my dad are paying for it.\n\nI've tried asking my dad to talk with her since he is totally fine with what I'm doing, but he doesn't want to start any more issues and basically tells me to do what I want. \n\nIs there any way for me to get her to see that this is what is going to make me happy, money or not, without cutting her entirely out of my personal life?", "summary": "Mother not respecting my dream job, keeps comparing my future earnings to older brother. Want her to stop but she's adamant."}
{"id": "t3_rxshe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are healthy ways in which I can stay awake longer?", "post": "Ive noticed that in the past year I get sleepy a lot earlier than I used to.  Ive told my doctor and he isnt concerned (althought i'm thinking about getting a 2nd op.)  Last night I wanted to take a nap at 8pm and ended up sleeping until 4 am. Its now 5:30 and im doing homework because I have nothing else to do.  I had plans last night and missed them all because I was so sleepy.  I'll also often go to a friends house and get sleepy at around 10pm and fall asleep on thier couch/bed.  Although it may sound like something is medically wrong with me, I DO end up getting about 8 hours of sleep...I dont oversleep, I just get sleepy really really early. As a 21 year old female, this is REALLY ANNOYING! :( I used to think it was because of smoking weed (i usually smoke indica) but last night i didn't smoke at all and the same thing happened.  Has anyone else had a similar sleep pattern? and what did you do to fix it??", "summary": "I get sleepy between 8-10 pm & I wanna stay up and party! hints?"}
{"id": "t3_1wfkr1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can i show my girlfreind that driving is okay and that she shouldnt be scared?", "post": "So my girlfriend is 17 and the other day she was rolling up to a traffic light when it turned yellow and the person in front of her slammed on the brakes. She slammed on them too and her car skidded. Luckily shes okay. But now when she has to speed through a yellow light to make it she gets scared. Also shes scared when people get ready to make turns even though she has the right of way. I asked her and she said that shes scared that if something happens her car wont be able to stop in time. \n\nShes coming over thursday and i offered to take her to a parking lot to drive her car and stop short and stuff to show her that her car is okay and will stop shortly if she needs to. Does anyone have any ideas about what tests to do to show her its safe? Thanks guys.", "summary": "Girlfriends scared her car wont stop in time if she needs to slam on brakes, taking her to parking lot to show her that her car will perform, what do i show her?"}
{"id": "t3_49weag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my gf [25 F] Of 2.5 years wants nothing to do with me", "post": "Hi all,\n\nWas wondering if I could get some advice please on how to win my partner back, so basically last few months especially after Christmas, I've been having some real money issues, past 3 months having absolutely nothing left in bank account few days before pay day each time! \n\nCome about 5 days before end of last month and pay day, I didn't have any money left what so ever and needed some for fuel for work and obviously living and paying bills!\n\nI've been thinking selling car and all sorts to get some money!\n\nMy girlfriend brought me a ps4 for xmas and stupid spur of moment I advertised it on gumtree as I was that desperate, absolutely stupid idea but I was desperate as I say!\n\nAnyway I had loads of offers for it but in the end I couldn't do it so refused everyone.\n\nFast forward to now and my girlfriend found the add which I forgot to take off gumtree as didn't want to sell it and is now ignoring and not wanting to see me.\n\nI have explained it was stupid but I was desperate at time but couldn't sell it and didn't and apologied but she isn't excepting it and wants nothing to do with me!\n\nAny advice? I know it was a completely stupid thing to do.", "summary": "Messed relationship up with girlfriend and don't know how to fix it"}
{"id": "t3_2hk2ex", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Update: 35lbs. down, first plateau reached", "post": "Hello again /r/loseit, it has been awhile but I have made some good progress since  and so I am here to report back and also get some advice on the recent plateau I have reached.  \n  \n  \nSince my last post I am down 20 more lbs. for a total of 35 lbs. since Feb. 2014 (actively dieting and exercising since May 3rd). I have been eating clean and in mid-July, switched out rice, bread, potatoes and corn for fresh greens. Tracking with MFP has definitely helped, though I have not been daily tracking in the last few weeks as my diet remains very consistent. I also changed my exercise routine to incorporate the start bodyweight routine from  www.startbodyweight.com  \n\n  \nI had been making brilliant progress with 2-3 lbs down weekly, until mid-August, which is when I started the new routine. Since then, my weight has stubbornly held on to 255, +/- 2.5 lbs. \n\n  \nI have read enough posts/comments to know that gaining while cutting is contentious, but I feel like I am doing that. Underneath it all, I can tell I am changing physique as I am making good progress through the progressions (Oh, hello bicep, it's been a minute! Where did you fall off to?), and my cardio always comes first and I average 40-50 min every session. I transitioned to exercise every other day in late-July, but am currently trying to hit batches of three days in a row (cardio+strength [pulls], cardio+stretching, cardio+strength [push])\n\n  \nIf I am indeed cutting and gaining, it does fit with my goals as I have always been big, I don't know if I could actually handle being 170? I would like to see myself down to 210ish/10% BF and then focus on lean muscle gains while continuing cardio training and yoga.", "summary": "I used to be hella fat, now I am less so but still kinda. I stopped losing weight a month ago, but maybe I am gaining muscle mass is why?"}
{"id": "t3_2qlpqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] SO [28/M], almost two years. I'm jealous of his dedication to a church activity", "post": "I've known him since I was 18 and we've been friends but almost two years ago a friend made the move to hook us up and here we are. When I met him he was this dude who drank a lot and 'caused a lot of trouble. Some time later he begun a relationship with a girl who lives near his grandma's. She was nice to him and his family adored her because she was a nice girl who could help him get out of that hell hole he was in and so she did. They started going some time later to a church group (cathechumens) and he liked it. Later they broke up, like a year later.\n\nWhen we started going out, he was still hung up on her. He loved her very much and he never told me but I could sense it. We talked about it recently and he says I know how bad he was after the break up when we started but I say he never updated that, he never told me what his actual feelings towards her are. After my birthday they exchanged compromising texts and we had a fight about it which he apologizes for but it STILL makes me unsure of his feelings towards her.\n\nNow he keeps going to that group that she also attends btw but I think I have a bigger problem with it.\n\nOk, he likes it, he likes the friends he's made there, he enjoys going to the celebrations, very good. But what about me?\n\nI find spirituality a very important part to share in a relationship. He says I can join but I can't ever join his group because they are in an advance stage and I'll be just starting. I don't know if that is selfish but I feel left out. If we end up married, I'll never be able to share those experiences with him, he'll be just... out on his own... experiencing things by himself (and with his ex too, btw), very intimate things, very IMPORTANT things.\n\nIt makes me feel like I'll never be as important to him as he is to me\n\n(I might forget some details. I'm sorry if my argument doesn't make sense but I got sad and couldn't think straight)", "summary": "My boyfriend does spiritually important things without me and I feel left out and I'll always be"}
{"id": "t3_2izdsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my _ehem__ [22 F] 3 years going, said we needed to \"change the dynamics\"", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nim so confused i almost dont know what to say.\n\nmary and i started \"kicking it\" about 3 years ago. now i admit that i have had my moments of insecurity, and to boot she has major temper issues. i mean she is constantly angry at me. and me being usually either perplexed or in total disbelief of her anger, retreat in to a sulky and i admit unresponsive place. things werent always like this. it only began after a year of dating when we moved in together.\n\ni have no idea whether im the problem or she is, but when were not in the state of turmoil, i just love her so darn much, until she snaps because i didnt wash the dishes when she wasnt feeling well and it becomes : \"you have no caring for me\" and \"its not that you did it now but its all the other times\" up until it blows up, i usually dont see it as much of a big deal.\n\ntoday, infront of my mate tom, she tells me we need to \"change the dynamics of the relationship\" after some enquiry, she claims to feel too stifled by the relationship. not that she wants us not to live together, or stop having sex, she also doesnt want us to see other people, she just feels like shes \"lost sight of herself\" and \"wants to belong to herself\". if by any chance anyone can shed some light oin this, i'd be gratified", "summary": "is my relationship \"toxic\"? is it possible to love a person entirely but resent them bitterly at times as ive experienced? do small wrongs (not cleaning up, or getting her food etc) add up to a large trangression that ultimately proves that i dont care for her?"}
{"id": "t3_19se56", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl [26/F] I've [30/M] been dating for 3 months just went NC on me without warning.", "post": "Just as we had recently gotten intimate, we got into a minor argument (she wouldn't let me kiss her because I had a minor cold, which was a new reaction to me so I was taken back but understood). She called me selfish and needy and I said that hurt a bit and it just takes a bit for me to understand at times. She gave me the silent treatment.\n\nAnyhow, she went distant on her texts to eventually deleting me off her buddy list after I emailed her asking what's the matter and if she wanted to end things. I courted her for 3 months and saw her on average of once a week (so her calling me needy was a shocker).  I treated her with the utmost respect. Why would a girl do this? She's 26. I was always initiating to go out, but she'd always accept it and it's not like we talked everyday or texted a bunch. \n\nI'm just hurt and in shock right now that she wouldn't even give me a proper goodbye or \"this isn't working out\" spiel. I've been on both sides, but I feel that's the right thing to do. It just feels like everything I put in has been discounted and tossed aside like as if my efforts and my being was trash.", "summary": "i treat this girl with respect and date her for 3 months. she suddenly goes NC without warning and cuts me off completely. why would she go out like this?"}
{"id": "t3_343922", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm getting railed on Fed Withholding.. Help please", "post": "My gf and I were going over our paychecks last night, and I was at a loss as to what is going on with mine. I make $56k gross a year + quarterly bonuses, she makes $45k a year. Her paychecks she was getting ~$1950 gross, ~$1550 net, and I'm getting $2333 gross and $1464 net. I'm putting 10% into my 401(k), she is doing 8%, so there's a small difference there. We found out she was claiming exempt, and hadn't withheld any Fed. taxes for the year, so that explains why her paycheck was so much higher and we fixed that right away (and luckily it's only been 2 pay periods for her so we caught it before it became an issue). I had been only taking 1 allowance, but each paycheck $303 is being withheld for Federal, and it's been $3883 YTD. Way too damn much, so I changed it to 2 allowances, and I'm waiting to see the changes on my next paycheck. Is there anything else I can do or need to look into as to why I'm getting so much withheld each paycheck?     \n\nI only had 1 allowance all of 2014 as well, but only got about $1100 Federal tax return, I thought it would be more. I did move from AZ to CA at the end of the year in 2014, so maybe I'm just feeling the higher CA taxes.", "summary": "Taxes suck. I'm having $303 **each pay period** withheld for Federal taxes, only had 1 allowance but just changed to 2. Will I see a noticeable change in how much is being withheld? (Edited to make a correction)"}
{"id": "t3_397c1r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a paper airplane at work", "post": "This TIFU happened few months back. I was at a meeting at work and we all have a printout of the subjects to be discussed. When the meeting was nearing its end, I folded my printout into a nice paper airplane. Once outside of the meeting room, there is a wide corridor and i saw few people coming from that direction and decided to throw my airplane to see how well it will fly. There was no chance that it will fly into the people since they were far enough. Took my aim and threw the airplane which flew so-so and fell to the side. I walked pass the group to pick it up and saw the CEO. -- I'm glad I still have a job.", "summary": "Threw a paper airplane at work and did not see the CEO coming my way."}
{"id": "t3_ise0p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, thanks for the idea. I introduced this cookie at work (cookie bakery) and it's now on the menu. Help me name it!", "post": "Like the title says, I currently work in a bakery that creates, bakes, sells, delivers, and ships cookies. The shop is located in a small college town in NW Ohio. Everyday a unique cookie is featured as the 'Cookie of the Day' (CoD). The CoD rotation changes every month. I have viewed several posts on Reddit featuring a chocolate chip and Oreo amalgamation. While fucking around at work today, I decided to bake one. The owner came in, tried it and loved it, so it will be in the CoD rotation for August. I introduced the cookie to my boss, so I need to come up with the name.\nBecause this idea came from Reddit, I figured my fellow Redditors could give me some name suggestions for the cookie.\nHere are some pics I took of my creation today:", "summary": "I baked an Oreo inside of a chocolate chip cookie at work. Boss wants it on the menu. Help me name it."}
{"id": "t3_4nw5af", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] feel that my BF [24 M] and I lack intimacy in our relationship (2 months). Don't know what to do.", "post": "Recently I came to the conclusion that my boyfriend doesn't really make eye contact with me when he's speaking to me. It's kind of a weird thing to observe but it's the kind of thing that if it happens to you - you'd sorta notice. This makes me feel like we don't connect, or something. It feels weird. Like he doesn't pay attention to me. \n\nHe also has a tendency to be on his phone when we're talking 1 on 1, and just jumps right into it, even if I feel like we're having a nice little chat after work or spending the whole day with other people. This makes me feel like he doesn't care about what I'm saying. \n\nI brought it up yesterday (wrong timing, I think --> super stressed about something else), but he told me he thinks I'm impatient with my emotions. As in: as soon as I feel something, I say it. This isn't true because it's happened before but I didn't say anything.  He also did mention that perhaps I was just holding back the other times (he's usually pretty reasonable). \n\nBut when I explained to him how I felt, and how 'I've never dealt with this situation before within the context of a relationship', he got kind of angry, and I swear I could see a tear in his eye. He says it makes him feel like he's not good enough. I rephrased and apologized and it was all good.\n\nBut reddit, I feel like the problem wasn't solved. I'm super understanding and willing to compromise and don't want to hurt him by bringing it up again --but at the same time, I want to address these needs of intimacy.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "BF doesn't make eye contact, cuts straight to checking his phone during our 1 on 1 conversations --> makes me feel like he doesn't care/we're not intimate enough. Wrong timing for me to bring it up, but problem still there. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_31r9a2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cheating on toy 1 with toy 2", "post": "TIFU,  just a few weeks ago I was dating 2 people. Everyone called them toy 1 and toy 2. They knew about eachother and agreed to me dating them both. They also know that I love them both and they love me. Well I picked one of them to be in a relationship with (toy 1) but we weren't exclusive until a couple days ago. Well last night I hung out with toy 2 which isn't unusual except we kissed. I stopped it and left shortly after. I went to toy 1's house and confessed that I had cheated. Naturally he is hurt but understands how it could happen. I feel like the worst possible person in the world and I'm worried about the impact this will have on our relationship. I love them both but I love toy 1 far more and will always pick toy 1. I want to work to fix this but I'm not fully sure how.", "summary": "I cheated on my love by kissing another love. I feel despicable."}
{"id": "t3_10vfz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Partner and his ex's. Best way to approach?", "post": "My partner (30 m) of almost 2 years has always kept in touch with his 2 ex girlfriends. He dated each of them for several years, one for more than 6 years, so I (28 f) completely understand wanting to casually stay in touch with someone who shared so much of your life. I'm positive he'd never physically cheat, so it never bothered me. \n\nThis morning I went to plug in his phone and make sure he had an alarm set (as I usually do for him in the morning). When I opened the phone, his conversation with one of them came up as it was obviously one of the last things he'd done before crawling into bed after a night out. I didn't scroll up to see more because that felt like snooping, but what was on the screen was basically along the lines of \"I miss you, and I wish we could still be together\".  Earlier in the summer I saw something similar from the other ex where she said something along those lines to him, and chose to ignore it because things were so great with us that I didn't even consider it a problem. \n\nWhen he's talked about them before, it's always with relative fondness but he always emphasized that they weren't right for each other. I even flat out asked one day after such a talk if he felt I was just the next best thing because he couldn't have them. He reassured me that wasn't the case and has shown me he cares for me. \n\nNow I understand I could be misinterpreting. Things are a bit rough right now for him (job changes, extreme financial stress, etc) and probably the pressure is making him miss happier/simpler times in his life, which they would be part of, so I don't want to approach this from a place of anger. \n\nIs it fair to ask him to cut back on his communication with them so he can stay focused on the present? How can I approach him about being more open about what he's feeling and encourage him to use me as his support base instead of them? I'm going to try and have a really open discussion about them again, and I'll come clean about what I saw, but I think I need some advice before I delve into these murky waters.", "summary": "boyfriend's exgirlfriends are haunting me a bit, and while I'm sure he won't cheat, I would like advice on how to approach him do he stops relying on them for emotional support."}
{"id": "t3_4kyh6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my ex gf [19 F] of one year, met today. We had a good talk but she's with her ex right now just as friends and that makes me feel some typa way.", "post": "Hi everyone. I just made a reddit account for the express purpose of seeking solace from my emotions from all you good internet people. New to this so if there's anything I can do to format better or clarify please tell me!\n\nSome context!\nMy girlfriend and I have been friends for five years now, started dating a year ago during my senior year of highschool. What made us such close friends made a great relationship too. Had a blast for a year but long distance, (we went to different universities about four hours away from each other), made it a little difficult. Eventually she lost those feelings for me and broke up with me. \n\nThat was a little more than a month ago. I had to skip the grieving because of finals and I could not afford to grieve during that. I made it by with overwhelming support from a lot of friends. We talked today for the first time since then, meeting up to talk and catch up. It was great and I felt like a friendship was possible. \n\nWe said our goodbyes and I went for a run. It's past midnight at this point. (Spontaneous late night running!) Messaging her periodically, I found she was out on a drive with her ex before me, just as friends. I don't doubt her sincerity in it just being a casual chatting thing but that knowledge just tears me apart inside. I know its psychologically wired in us to feel jealousy in these kind of situations but this is breathtakingly painful. For the first time in years I can't handle my own emotions. \n\nI feel like I'm being dramatic. I know that this just needs to run its course. I know logically, this breakup made sense and she's done nothing wrong. Her being with her ex is perfectly fine as well. But why does it hurt so much? What can I do to alleviate it?", "summary": "My ex girlfriend is with her other ex, just as friends. She's done nothing wrong but just that kills me inside. How can I alleviate it?"}
{"id": "t3_27wzsc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/F] been hurt deeply in the past, got better, now scared to jump in too fast with a new guy (22/M)", "post": "Hey y'all, \n\nI guess this all starts with being hurt in the past by guys who broke up with me because \n\n* he literally told me he chose his job over me\n* has other priorities and thinks he's wasting his time\n* wants to casually hook up, not be in a relationship, but still wants to keep me close (in case he changes his mind)\n\nThose were just some of the excuses I've been given. Needless to say I've cut all contact with those jerks, but not before letting things cool down and ask them why they actually broke up. I think I'm pretty laid back and a cool person to date. I'm not clingy, needy, jealous, but I like to get to know the people I'm dating before I get too into things. After seeing a bunch of nutcases for roommates have thriving relationships with their boyfriends, it makes me wonder why it's so difficult for me to hold on to someone. \n\nAnyways, now that you know the thoroughly summarized backstory, I need advice. I've been talking to this guy for a little over a month now and we've been on one date (he's on campus, I'm at home until next week when I will also be on campus). He seems like a great person to date. He's well adjusted, well rounded, capable of having a good conversation, and just a good person in general that I'd love to get closer to. \n\nThe problem is, I feel like I'm going to mess something up and have him turn into one of my exes that doesn't talk to me anymore. I admit, I wear my heart on my sleeve in situations like this, but I've learned to keep to myself. We're just starting out, so does anyone have any solid advice for me on how not to mess things up and have a good shot at a long term relationship that doesn't end in broken hearts?", "summary": "How do I not mess things up with this guy in the beginning of a relationship? Advice from people in successful relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_3yiili", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is love?", "post": "Me (21f) and my s/o (20m) actually met through work. When he came along i was in a weird state of finding my place amongst the world. I had been apart from the father of my daughter who had cheated on me and left me a mess. I loved him and he shattered my world. A few months had passed between then and meeting my current bf, we escalated relatively quickly, which was definitely a big change for me i mean 21, and ive had a dozen 'bfs' but actually only ever intimate with a handful. Aaannyywhoo. I find myself attached to this man after just a few months in a way ive never felt. I mean, i share a child with a guy and still never ever felt the sort of bond i feel with this man. Like i honesly have no idea what to do with myself when hes not around. And multiple other little attachment things. Hes just been the only one there when no one else was. Idk, this is just different for me, i walked into this not knowing what to expect after previous shit relationships and months down the line i still get excited when he enters the room and butterflies at the smell of him or goosebumps when he touches me. What exactly is love guys? Ive never felt this way and its freaking me out. Im a get bored a push you away girl and this i feel i would be devastated if lost him.", "summary": "what the hell does love actually feel like for you?"}
{"id": "t3_juda2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dropped my WD 1TB portable hard drive and now my Macbook Pro won't detect it!", "post": "**Before I start, please don't downvote this just because I'm asking a personal question on here. I honestly am so desperate right now, I have no one else to turn to, but the community on here who has always helped me through tough times. If you were planning to downvote, I only ask you just ignore this post and move on to something more interesting.\n\nAnyways, I was walking in the kitchen carrying my laptop with my hard drive plugged into it, laying on top. I'm sure you can see where this is going. The hard drive slipped right off, came unplugged and fell about 4 feet onto the tile floor.\n\nI cringed when I watched helplessly as I expected my life's collection of music and music projects to be dust, but to my surprise I plugged it in again and it opened! I chalked it up to dumb luck that it still worked, but the next morning I turned my laptop on and wouldn't detect it at all. I tried to mount it on my girlfriend's Macbook Pro and no luck there either.\n\nIt still spins up normally; there are no clicking noises or sirens or beeps; the status light on the front still flickers like it normally does and it doesn't feel like anything is rattling or seriously broken inside. I'm willing to accept that it's basically dead, but I'm just looking for any possible way to get over 100GB's of music off of there, so this incident doesn't reduce my music collection back to the 2nd grade.\n\nAny advice is completely appreciated!!! (Unless it's along the lines of \"Face palm yourself and your stupidity and bury it outside.\" or \"No one gives a shit about your hard drive!!! This isn't the place for these questions!!!RAWRKSSALDFHKLSAKLF-REDDIT-SNOB-RAGE!!!!\")", "summary": "Dropped my WD portable HD from 4ft onto tile. Worked fine after fall when I replugged it in, but now Macbook won't detect it. Other than not mounting, still spins and operates normally with no clicking, buzzing or any other concerning noises. Just want to recover my data before it's too late."}
{"id": "t3_o17xu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the worst thing you've done in a public bathroom?", "post": "At an undisclosed location about 20mins ago i went to the loo for a poo. Having got 90% through a satisfying anal evacuation i turn around to notice,to my horror there is no loo roll. Not being satisfied with using a sock i reach for the card centre of the finished roll. I tear it in two pieces and wipe each side of my buttocks with it, i then proceed to throw it in the loo and flush. It doesnt go down it just floats on top. i reach my hand into the loo and grab the card tightly covering my hands in poo i then put the card in the bin washed my hands and left.", "summary": "wiped arse with card"}
{"id": "t3_4o9xkz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and this girl [19 F] I met at work have been talking for about 2 months", "post": "So (lets call her C) C and I have been texting and snap chatting for about 2 months. We met each other at work and she asked me for my number, before that we kinda just flirted with one another and always smiled and waived at each other. \n\nI really like this girl and things seem to be dying off a little and I don't know what to do anymore. We like the similar things and have a lot in common. I have asked her out on dates or to meet up many times (she does live an hour away, so its kinda long distance) and she has always responded with \"I'm really busy all the time.\" I've told her that I'm very patient and can wait, but as time goes on I'm not sure how long I can wait. \n\nI feel she's not interested in me anymore, some days she'll be very enthusiastic and some days she'll just be very uninterested in me. I have asked her if she even wants to date me anymore and she said that she's not sure yet and how she doesn't want to go through another break up again. \n\nThings just have been really boring between us and I believe its the lack of contact and I'm not very good at virtual relationships, so I didn't text her for a couple of days and she seemed concerned about that. Im just very confused, I ask her about the relationship and its always I'm not sure, but when I don't text she's concerned. I need a to know in order to move on or stay and wait till it becomes a relationship, reddit I need your advice.", "summary": "I don't know if it is a relationship or not"}
{"id": "t3_ynkr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Colleague (F26) seems to be developing a crush on me (M27 & Married). Not sure how to deal with this without drama.", "post": "So this may seem like a bit of an unorthodox question here, but I REALLY hope you guys can shed a light on this.\n\nSome background first: Me: M27, working in a high stress, very high paying position, married (very happily). She: F26, low stress position colleague, nice gal, friendly and always there when I need her.\nSome time now I have been helping her with her fitness issues, taking her on bike rides (sports intensity), runs, etcetera. Usually during work time, which we're allowed (thank you boss).\n\nRecently I've started noticing she's trying to become more close. I'm absolutely not interested in her. As I said, I'm very happily married and have 0 intention of doing anything stupid.\n\nMy wife thinks it's not a big issue, but I do think so. I'm afraid if I keep up my normal niceness to people (unlike popular internet believe, I'm a nice guy IRL) and keep helping her she will become more and more infatuated with me. There is already rumor spreading around the office about her crush on me, so I'm convinced this is the real deal.\n\nI'm afraid to straight out tell her \"NO\" because of the intense drama I'm sure this will cause (I've been inquiring with some of my trustees on her behavior, and last time she was rejected it went all the way to fuck at the office). This has been going on for about 2 months now, and she knows I'm married.\n\nI wish to remain friends with her, and colleagues. Also I refuse to change departments or jobs.\n\nPlease advice on how to deal with this. Posting this on my normal account that I share with the missus, so don't worry about me hiding anything from my wife ;).", "summary": "about to friendzone colleague, feel shit about it, don't know how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_1iqm63", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I go about getting my landlord to sell me the house I live in?(details within)", "post": "My husband and I have been renting this house for the last 3 1/2 years from landlords who have made it very clear that they have no interest in either repairing, maintaining or even keeping the house. We have had multiple problems with them including inadequate heat, leaking pipes, mold and a perimeter littered in broken glass. When attempting to bring these issues to their attention we were told to (and I'm paraphrasing) quit complaining and that they don't make any money on the house anyway so they aren't responsible for improving it. The thing is that we really love the house itself, if not the circumstances under which we live in it. We know how much they paid for it and how much they put into it before renting it to us (about $50k US). So my question is, how can I go about getting them to sell it to us for a reasonable price?", "summary": "Want to own our rental...how?"}
{"id": "t3_3uwim6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My Dad is bailing on child support and I need to know what I can do (California)", "post": "I'm not the best writer and I'm a little panicked so please bear with me. I live in central California with my 13 year old brother and my parents. In March of this year my dad moved out after he was caught cheating, and has since refused to pay any child support other than the bare minimum required to keep us off the street. I was living at home to save money while attending community college which I've paid for completely myself, and when he moved I was forced to quit school to work full time to help support my family. I make 1500 a month and my mom makes less than that and we're struggling to stay afloat. \n\nMy father has a history of beating me, threatening us, and we've caught him stalking us in the middle of the night several times. No one will let us take out a restraining order on him. His threats are all very carefully worded and not direct enough to take action on.  \nNow we've filed paperwork to get him to pay what he owes my mother and brother (I don't want any of his money, im 21 and im trapped here essentially) and he told me he's going to disappear and work under the table because he \"won't handle the burden of his children\". What can I do? My mother is not the brightest and easily scared and I only have a small amount of time to act before he disappears. He's done this before to an ex wife and my three half sisters. Please someone help I'm not seasoned in life enough to handle this myself.", "summary": "My dad is disappearing so he doesn't have to pay child support and I need advice on how to get it for my family so I can move out and have my own life."}
{"id": "t3_3gih8z", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "2 Herniated and one bulging disc", "post": "a little over year ago I herniated two discs in my back and one disc is bulging (I forgot the technical name for the discs, but its like around the tail bone area... I think L3 was one of them).. went to physical therapy all first semester, started getting injections around Dec. and had my last injection in January. Everything started getting better, pain started decreasing and all was good. Fast forward to this summer, started doing manual labor. Back has been holding up. Had one day of chronic pain, but it went away. However, last Friday I pulled 2 carts weighing probably 200 lbs each. Felt fine afterward. End of the day on Friday, I drove 3 hrs home to get furniture to move into my new house... Sat. morning I went downstairs and started loading furniture with my dad (easy lifting, lifted with proper form).. however started getting a pins and needles sensation in my upper back that finally went away today, but whenever I stood up or turned a little bit while sitting, this pain shot through my upper back. It felt like 1,000 ants biting me... it sucked... 10/10 pain for sure... I've also had pens and needles sensations in my legs and feet and sometimes arms.\n\n**Main question is why is the pain traveling to my upper back now?", "summary": "Herniated discs last summer in lower back; started summer manual labor job; pulled 2 200lb carts... drove home Friday; started loading furniture in my car on Saturday; pens and needles in my upper back"}
{"id": "t3_2up3xs", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Anyone experience heart/chest spasms while running?", "post": "I'm a 31yr old female runner, been running since I was about 12yrs old. In the last few years I have been experiencing what I can only describe as a sort of spasm on my heart? Or at least it feels like it. It does not hurt, it just feels like my heart is skipping a beat while I'm running, and I do not get dizzy or short of breath or anything, just the uncomfortable spasm. In the past, it would happen once or twice during a run, but today, in the first two miles, it happened several times in a row. I just slowed down a bit, and eventually it stopped. I only finished 4 miles today, as I was concerned with maybe i'm pushing myself too hard? I dropped 7lbs since Christmas (125 to 118) and have been trying to get back down to between 110-115. (I'm 5'2 so this is normal weight for me) I've been on the verge of overweight for the last 2yrs, kind of just keeping it in check because my husband and I were trying to conceive for a while, and so I wasn't running as much, and was taking hormone shots, and blah blah blah.", "summary": "Heart spasms while running that feel like heart is skipping a beat become more prevalent. Anyone experience or know what this is?"}
{"id": "t3_4ndghy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my roommate [22 F] of 1 month and her boyfriend [22], I believe they stole 2 of my belongings", "post": "I am subleasing for the summer, and I'm living with a girl I don't know and her boyfriend. We've been living here for like 3 months. I have the entire upstairs to myself, and they have their bedroom and bathroom downstairs. I'm the only one that ever comes upstairs or has any reason to.\n\nBecause I'm super cautious and anal, every day when I come home I check to make sure all my jewelry is still there. I have it hanging directly inside my door on a cork board. Today, I came in and two of my rings and possibly one of my necklaces are missing. The rings have a lot of personal value as well as being worth some actual money, too.\n\nI know for a fact they were there yesterday, I never wear them, I've looked all over the floor for them. They are not in my room. The most important thing for me is to get the rings back. WHAT DO I DO? I don't want to confront them and then them get defensive and make my life a living hell.\n\nWould casually asking my roommate if she's seen them be helpful? I was also thinking about sneaking into their room when they leave to see if they're lying around. I'm so furious and a little scared. I don't have a real lock on my door, so locking it would be useless, and I don't really have anything else of value. This probably wont be a continuous thing, they got what they want. I doubt a camera would be useful.\n\nFML. Screw people who feel the need to steal stuff!", "summary": "Roomate and/or her boyfriend stole two rings from my room. How do I get the rings back?!"}
{"id": "t3_15k68l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Living with my girlfriend (F/29) for 2 weeks now, doesn't communicate with me when I (M/23) try to talk to her", "post": "I (M/23) just moved in with my girlfriend (F/29) 2 weeks ago, after us dating online for over 9 months. She's never been a person that communicates very well, and she knows that, but I thought it would change once we met in real life and started living together. Now it has gotten worse, and we seem to argue over very mundane things because she refuses to answer me when I try to ask her questions about how she feels about whatever we're talking about, and she goes into hiding in her room, or takes the car out and doesn't tell me when she's coming back or where she's going. What can I do to get her to communicate with me more? Am I just not being understanding? It's incredibly frustrating to have her refuse to answer when I ask her questions about things I feel need to be discussed. I am in desperate need of advice. Please help me Reddit.", "summary": "Moved in with my girlfriend, her communication has gotten worse. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_308ph7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17 M] How do I talk to this girl at school?", "post": "Basically I see this girl at my school from time to time and i think shes quite cute, we sometimes smile to each other but it doesnt happen often. I have no classes with her, but our parents know each other which makes it a little weird. How do i start talking to her, our school is quite small around 400 people, and if you talk to someone out of the blue people start making shit up which is quite annoying. Id message her on facebook but from past experiences I feel that its a little creepy.\nI saw her at parent teacher conferences today and we smiled at each other but said nothing while our parents talked. So what do i do? (Im around a 7.5/10 not some neckbeard and i work out often if that does have any significance)", "summary": "How do i talk to a girl?"}
{"id": "t3_50zgyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend[23F] of 6 months. She has become cold and she wont answer my calls. I'm going crazy. Meeting her tomorrow.", "post": "My girlfriend is away for work. I visited her 10 days ago and everything was great. We were all lovey dovey making plans about what to do when she comes back.\n\nNow it must have been something i said (i dont know what) but for the last 3 days she wont respond to my calls. I can only talk to her through texting but even then she is very cold compared to a week ago.\n\nI asked her if there was something wrong and tried to understand what i said that triggered this whole thing but she just wont say. Her only reply is \"we will talk in person when i get back tomorrow\".\n\nShe is coming back tomorrow but i have no idea how to approach this situation. In my attempt to find out what happened i sent some pretty clingy texts but thats about it.\n\nI do not want to text her or call her again until she comes back. Should i send her a \"get together and talk\" message when she comes or should i wait for her to initiate contact 2morrow.\n\nHow do i approach the situation? Should i get her a gift or something?\n\nIs this the break up talk?", "summary": "I dont know if my girlfriend is breaking up with me tomorrow and its driving me nuts."}
{"id": "t3_3c6tmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [24 M/F] for 10years, its her birthday coming up. Help me give her the best present!", "post": "Me and my girlfriend started dating when we were in our early 17s and we still are going very strong. Unfortunately, I am out of country due to my studies and its her birthday coming up on 14th of July. \n\nI want to give her the best present of her life by making a small birthday video combining pictures of random people wishing her by writing happy birthday [name] on a piece of white paper. This is where I need help from you guys.\n\nIf anyone of you are interested in wishing her by writing a small wish on a white piece of paper, take a picture of it with you and send it over to you. I'll add it in the video. \n\nI am looking to get this done asap since 14th is approaching.\n\nLooking forward for your help.", "summary": "making a birthday video with help of everyone by sending birthday wishes for her."}
{"id": "t3_4nwjsv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (27F) feeling lost and alone and just looking for some words of encouragement.", "post": "Hi all...longtime lurker but I finally created an account because I'm having trouble moving on. My (recently ex) bf (32 m) has broken up with me. This was our second go around; we dated briefly before i went to grad school and then 2 years later he says he realizes im the love of his life. I'm feeling so silly for actually believing everything that he promised me (he would take care of me, build me a house, blah blah blah, generally just be more supportive and stable). He works in the union and is a hard worker and has such a big heart. This break up kind of came out of no where. He seemed more distant the past 2 days but nothing I didn't think we could work on. Now I'm just trying to be okay alone and it's surprisingly way more tough than I expected. I'm constantly trying to figure out where it went wrong and why he didn't want to settle down with me. I can't eat or sleep and can barely make it through work without breaking down. I don't know how to feel better. What's your best advice because I'm hurting so badly now. Already blocked his number, but live in a small town and just worried about running into him.", "summary": "I'm 27 and newly single and my heart hurts. Feeling so alone. How do I start feeling better and have a more optimistic outlook?"}
{"id": "t3_3vc09b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by formatting the wrong hard drive", "post": "This just happened 5 minutes ago. So I got a new hard drive in the mail because I was running out of space on my old one. I had gone through the process of moving all of the files that I wanted to keep onto my new hard drive (probably should've cut and paste but I was worried it'd lose it all). Once it all got moved, I deleted the originals from the old hard drive, then went to reformat it. Being the genius I am, I went in and chose the wrong hard drive and ended up deleting all of the stuff I had just moved, leaving myself with two blank hard drives. Luckily it seems programs exist to recover files from formatted drives. Hoping it works.", "summary": "I formatted the wrong hard drive, leaving myself with two blank drives, and potentially lost everything on my computer."}
{"id": "t3_5505sb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help this restricted child", "post": "Heyo! I wandered over to this lovely subreddit for some help, and advice. \nCurrently, I weigh around 230-238 pounds (can't remember the exact estimate, but this is the around version, about a week since I last got weighed with a proper scale) \n\nRight now, I'm wondering if there's any decent way to lose weight inside. That's right, almost 100% inside. Staying away from a gym too is preferred. \nThe reasons for this:\n-I'm not exactly allowed to go too far from home due to reasons I can't share\n-If I ever do get outside, my options are a trampoline, or chasing two little kids around. Still work, but not all that fun. \n-I'm not an outside person. At all. The only way you'd get me outside is if I absolutely needed/wanted to. (Ex. Sports event, going out to eat with family, playing with siblings, etc.) \n\nWhile many of you may be thinking now \"treadmill, exercise bike, this and that\" \nI'm not exactly wealthy. My family isn't either. I don't own a exercise machine. The closest I have to weights to lift are 2lbs. I can barely do a push-up, let alone a sit-up. \n\nRegarding diets and food I'm eating, I don't want to make the post that long, so I'll just leave that for PM if anyone would like to discuss this with me further. I can't guarantee I'll get to them all if I somehow get spammed though.", "summary": "I'm looking for someone to give me advice on how to lose weight while remaining indoors and away from gyms/outside in general. Also, an insight on how I could improve the things I eat. "}
{"id": "t3_2lau6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend[20 F] may have lost our internship because we had sex at work.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend got a job in a high end company(first tier) in california. the company has very relax an chill envairoment. The last week we started to have sexual relationship at work. No one came up to us and said anything. we normally did it late at night in dark rooms. As far as i know no one ever found out. But there are camaras in the building....\n\nAfter the intership neither of us got a returning offer while most of our intern friends got it. The recruiter did not tell us why we didnt get a returning offer. Do you guys think that is because of the  having sex at work?\n\nBoth of our works were not optimal. We both got a below average performace review in the middle of our intership from both of our managers.", "summary": "Did my girlfriend and me lost our jobs because we had relationship at work."}
{"id": "t3_yczyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Screwed myself: Confusing feelings for ex-boyfriend [m,21] after we've both moved on to (and in with) other people [f,21]", "post": "Kind of a twisty, awkward story, tale as old as time, and I'm trying to figure out exactly why I'm feeling the way I am.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend [m,21] and I [f,21] ended it about 2 years ago after about 2 years of dating (started in high school.) I broke it off with him because...well, the usually shitty reasons that people break up in college. I wanted to be \"free to explore my youth.\" We, unfortunately, continued to hook up for quite a few months after that, still said \"I love you\" casually, and expressed affectionate feelings. This created an awkward tug-o-war between us, he wanted to pull me back to him and I wanted to be free to do as I pleased with other people but I still couldn't let go. After a somewhat messy time of hurt feelings and awkward encounters, we parted ways and I haven't seen him in since last November (though we still occasionally text.)\n\nAbout a year ago, I began dating my current boyfriend [m,22]. We quickly became attached to each other and we moved in together about a month ago. Things have been going peachy, until a couple of days ago when I saw that my boyfriend had a new girlfriend and something inside of me....broke. It was like the dam of mourning that people usually go through after a breakup that I had been ignoring until I repressed any sadness about it completely. I haven't been able to stop crying about it since and worse, I feel guilty when I talk to my boyfriend on the phone. \n\nI've had a nagging feeling I made a mistake breaking up with my ex for a very long time, and sometimes find myself comparing him and my current boyfriend and missing him but then quickly stomping out the feeling. I need to know: am I dealing with delayed-breakup feelings, do I truly want him back, or am I just subconsciously jealous?", "summary": "ex-bf has new girlfriend, feelings of remorse and wanting him back despite now dating someone new that I just moved in with. It's put me into a funk and I need help on what to do next. I feel like I may have missed some details so if something is confusing, I'll gladly fill you in."}
{"id": "t3_3o8oc7", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Upcoming cat surgery, non-profit assistance possibility questions", "post": "So, a little bit of background story. I was recently laid off from work, the business itself shut down unexpectedly with no forewarning from the owners, and in addition to that I don't expect to receive my final two weeks pay and commission check that I'm due. At the same time frame, I had one cat who suffered an infection of her uterus and needed surgery to remove that. I paid for that up front, and it was only a week before I was laid off. Now I've got a second cat, maybe some of you will remember my post from r/aww at \n\nWell, Cheshire recently developed a limp for his left hind leg, and I brought him to the vet for x-rays. Vet was honest, she didn't know exactly what it was from the x-rays, so they were sent to a radiologist/specialist for review as what she did see was a bone mass density difference between his two hips. Radiologist confirmed same thing, and I was told Cheshire has a condition which is leading to the deterioration of the ball/cap on his leg bone, putting him in massive amounts of pain. Even with the pain killers the vet gave us for the time being, he still growls and limps every time he stands up and walks around. Despite this, he's still being affectionate so I'd think he's trying to stay positive. \n\nNow, after the $1,200 pyometra surgery for one cat, a $300 check/x-rays for Cheshire, the surgery estimate is ~$1,800. My vet was kind enough to volunteer that there is an organization that tries to provide assistance for this kind of situation, and I applied. That was Wednesday the 7th, and as of yet we haven't heard a response. Does anyone have experience with this kind of thing? Maybe chime in with what kind of time frame I could expect? I really don't want to keep Cheshire in this condition, I'd rather get the surgery done ASAP but if I can't get help I'll have to resort to putting the whole thing on a CC and I'm honestly not looking forward to having to pay that interest on it, but if it's what it takes I'll do it.", "summary": "Has anyone had any experience with a non-profit assistance case for an animals surgery? What was the turn-around time on an application, and any other info you might feel like volunteering regarding the process. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_34hxi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "FBIL (m/22) and SIL (f/25) say they'll be leaving my (f/25) wedding after a few hours because \"they're going on vacation the next day\" - I admit I'm hurt. How to react?", "post": "Hello Redditors,\nI need a little bit of advice or someone to tell me I'm being silly if I am. I'm getting married next week and I'm absolutely over the moon. However, my future brother in law, my husband's only sibling, has just told us that he will be leaving our wedding reception after the meal as him and his girlfriend need to go home and get rested for their vacation which they are leaving for at lunchtime the next day.\n\nThis means that they'll be leaving our wedding at 7pm, despite the fact that our reception lasts until midnight. I'm aware that staying until the bitter end isn't everyone's cup of tea, but my husband is upset because he always imagined at his wedding one of the last guests to leave would be his brother. \n\nMy BIL is going on vacation with his girlfriend of 10 months, and since he started dating her he's changed. He's always taken away from family events early, doesn't get to see us on holidays until he's spent time with her family etc. I've always let it go because it's none of my business, but I am hurt that they're now going to leave my wedding early and use their vacation the next day as a convenient excuse. Am I being silly?\n\nHow do you think my husband and I should handle this situation? Or should we just leave it? Thanks for your advice.", "summary": "My future brother in law is going to miss almost half our wedding because he says he needs to go home to rest for his vacation the next day - how to handle?"}
{"id": "t3_1rv380", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my bf [23M] of over a year LDR broke up. Please help me understand.", "post": "I posted before about how we broke up.  I caved and I begged for him back and after saying no many times, he said he'll give me one more chance.  It was reluctant and I know he'll probably never love me again.  \n\nPlease help me understand where I went wrong and if I can ever fix this.  He says that he gave up too much of his life for me and has felt this way since 9 months ago despite being LDR.  He never tells me how he felt and has never tried so I could not do anything to change this during the 9 months.  He tells me that  he gave up too much of his life, hobbies, and friends but then he refuses to hang out with them, etc. when I am back home with him.  He does the exact opposite of what he is supposedly feeling.  At the same time, he says that he cannot deal with the LDR because it is too hard. Another thing is that he feels we are too different because I am motivated for my career and he is comfortable with the way he is living.  Even though I never asked him to change, he has tried harder in school and tried to spend less money.  I fell in love with him for all the things he was before he tried to change and had I known he was feeling oppressed, I would've changed.  Why did he never tell me how he was feeling until it was too late? Why would he do the opposite of what he was feeling?  I don't understand.....Can someone please explain the logic to me.  Is there anyway I can win him back during this chance he gave me?", "summary": "I don't understand my ex."}
{"id": "t3_3n9vfr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my teenage son he doesn't have any friends.", "post": "So obviously this is a a throw-away... Yesterday my son was annoyed he doesn't have a phone that isn't activated, he uses an old iphone as an iPod but wants a normal phone with cellular service. \n\nLately he's been not finishing school work and not really just caring about school.  He doesn't have any activities outside of school.  We've tried to get him to try different activities but no dice.  He just wants to read and play Minecraft.\n\nYesterday I had a really crappy day at work, and came home after getting 3 emails about his missing assignments. I was not in a good place.  I get home, put down my bag and withing 30 seconds my son was asking if he was getting a phone. I said before I could stop myself \"Why, it's not like you have friends!\" Everyone stopped and looked at me with shock. Then he burst into tears and ran to his room and didn't come out all night... Wife wasn't thrilled.", "summary": "told my shy son he has no friends, possibly scared him for life."}
{"id": "t3_3mwh5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After 5 years of dating, I [27m] feel like I should be proposing to my girlfriend [27f] but I don't feel the magic super love I think I should. Am I just suffering from fairytale ending syndrome?", "post": "We have been dating for 5 years, living together for 4. She's my best friend, we do everything together and I never resent a moment of the time we spend. We've both got good jobs, her family's weird but nice, and we discuss kids and stuff like where we'll live when we're 80. \n\nBut I can't find the impetus to actually propose... I've been to friends' weddings where they're so happy and giving epic speeches of how they cherish every moment, but I just feel content, and I want to continue being content. Is that enough to have someone sign themselves to you, or am I being greedy by taking more than I can give? \n\nMy girlfriend is definitely wanting to marry me, I know that she's been waiting for quite a while, but I want to be certain. I guess my greatest fear is whether in 5 or 10 years I'll find that 'happy' is not enough, and that the magic super love others talk about is missing. Or am I being stupid and what I'm feeling is what everyone goes through? I definitely don't want to break up and I know I could never find someone better suited for me, but maybe I'm just not marriage material.", "summary": "what are you supposed to feel that makes you want to get married?"}
{"id": "t3_1h11c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my GF [19F] been together for about 3 years, I still love her but it seems like our sexual life is just getting worse.", "post": "The first few months when we first dated, sex was 99% of our relationship. We would go crazy trying and exploring just about anything to do with sex. This was the best period of our relationships. As months gone by, things just gotten worse from there. We started to have less and less sex and by the end of the first year, our sex went from 4-5 per month into about once a month. Now almost hitting the three years mark, we barely do anything. I tried to make my moves on her, she keeps rejecting me as she sees it (or anything sexual) as \"annoying\" or \"something that gets on her way\".\n\nWe tried talking about this but she said that her depression caused this lack of sexual desire. I don't know if it's true but this significantly affects my love for her. \n\nI do love my GF so much but I can't really say that I can see myself with someone who will not be able to sexually satisfy me forever. I know that sooner or later, I would need to find someone who can.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "GF and I used to have a great sex life. It got worse with time and now it is to the point of no sexual activities. I love my GF but I am not sure if I can stay with her under this condition."}
{"id": "t3_17sv6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mother of my child [19] me [22] I have a question because we're not together.", "post": "So the mother of my child are not together because I don't have those feelings for her. We had a drunk night and had sex and she got pregnant. Now my kid of 2 months is all that matters. But her side of the family insists of me being with her and getting together. They tell me it's best for the child. But I really don't want to be with her. I don't have feelings to like her or be with her. My child, I do love. I see her twice a week. Am I doing the right thing? Or should I be forced to be with her. She one time asked if we will ever be together. I didn't answer. I don't want to hurt her feelings either.", "summary": "the side of my daughters mother family wants me to be with the mother of my child, but I refuse to. Who has the right?"}
{"id": "t3_24xg7m", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How can I convince my BF to throw out all his useless stuff without being a naggy GF?", "post": "Hey /r/self! Me and my lovely bf live together currently, but we are moving again in about a month. We are a college student and a recent grad respectively, but unlike most students (including me) he does not have a parent's house where some of his possessions are, so these are all his worldly possessions, and there's no where to store all the inconvenient stuff other than just letting it live in our apartment, untouched.\n\nBut that's sort of the problem. Over the course of our relationship, I have helped him move 3 times. And every single time I help him move, we spend hours moving things that have not even been looked at or touched since the *last* time I helped him move.\n\nHe insists that all of these things are important, when they are obviously not, he keeps them in broken, ugly plastic milk crate bins and they just take up space and waste our time and energy when we inevitably move them yet again.\n\nHow can I convince him to sit down with me so we can go through this stuff and throw out what's completely useless? What are the tactics for this? He gets so defensive when I suggest throwing these things out, because to him, I'm asking him to throw out all these things that are 'sentimental' or 'not useless' like old books that 'might be worth something' or a free frisbees from college, etc.", "summary": "My boyfriend hoards dumb shit, how do I get him to throw it out so I don't have to move it for the 4th time in 100\u00ba June weather."}
{"id": "t3_uczkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "From what I can remember my dad was an arsehole. My brother is asking if I want to meet up with him after 10 years. Any advice?", "post": "I have two older brothers that are 8 and 10 years older than me. I'm 18 now.\n\nWhen I was younger my dad had a car accident and I think he slowly got worse after this. He got quite addicted to drugs and there were a load of arguments and some got quite physical. I think I have issues handling confrontations because of this, in arguments my eyes just water and I stutter like a bitch. Even stupid, tiny arguments.\n\nWe got rid of my dad eventually but from what I've heard he was alright before the accident. My brothers have semi-regular contact with him now that he's sorted his life out (I'm told).\n\nMy brothers are old enough to remember when he was alright so I can kind of understand them not minding him now but my only memories of him are bad ones because I was too young to remember most of before the accident and the only other person who's told me about him is my mother who, obviously, didn't have nice things to say about him.\n\nMy eldest brother became a father figure to me after we got rid of my dad and now he's asking if I want to meet with him and my dad for a chat. Nothing in-depth or too deep (he knows I'll break if it gets too deep) just because my dad's always asking about how I'm doing with school/college/uni etc. Logic tells me to never speak to him again but because my brother is asking me I'm more inclined to go along with it. I just don't know whether I can forgive him for messing up quite a lot.\n\nAnyway, anybody been in a similar situation? Anybody that did the whole messup as a dad then tried to mend it? Or anybody just got any general advice? Cheers.", "summary": "Dad had a car accident, turned into a complete arse, now he's sorted himself out and wants to meet up."}
{"id": "t3_1j94nb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [M/27] and I [F/25] are getting married in 2 months. I have some baggage that needs to be dealt with FIRST. Any advice would be SO much appreciated.", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for a year and a half, and we're getting married September 21st.  I am SO happy with him and I know without a doubt we're supposed to be together.  I have some baggage, though, that I want to deal with before then for the sake of his sanity and mine.\n\nHere's the deal...my mother is a controlling psycho and my father an alcoholic/coke addict.  They have a very codependent relationship.  I have seen myself getting more and more controlling.  Babysitting my SO when it comes to chores, where he's going, what he's doing, etc.  I hate being like that, and i know it's based out of my insecurity.  I don't know how to stop or if I need to just ask him to make special accommodations due to my insecurities?  Is that fair?\n\nIt all came to a head last night my fiance got completely obliterated drunk.  (Keep in mind he doesn't do that EVER.)  He was being a jerk.  Well, it sparked some sort of mental thing and I had nightmares about being with an old ex of mine who was extremely abusive - physical and sexually.  In my dream I was raped nightly and people watched and didn't do anything about it.  It was horrifying.  I know it's not my fiance's fault that this happened....but it was sparked by his drinking and out-of-the-norm jerkish behavior.    \n\nSo how do I work through these issues and stop trying to mother him?  Do I do it on my own?  Should we do it together even though it's not his problem?  I feel a bit lost.", "summary": "I have baggage from sexual abuse and it's been causing me to be very controlling.  I need to stop but I don't know how to let go."}
{"id": "t3_2qsxdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 M] just got dumped by my [24 F] girl. I thought it was a good one finally.", "post": "We had a fight like a week before the breakup where I was coming down after just smoking a little green. I made the stupid mistake of reacting sarcastically to her when I was angry. It caused her to be unable to trust me with her emotions which led to it falling apart in the end because I didn't immediately apologize for my actions even after I initially realized my mistake of offending her and hurting her feelings. We broke it off regardless of my attempts to let her know that the person who said those things wasn't me and that I realized my problems with substances and anger. \n\nI had plans with this woman for my future for the first time in a long time even after only being together for 2 months. I finally found someone to trust with my emotions then I messed it up. I should add that this is the fastest I have ever fallen for someone this hard in any relationship I've ever had. And it was mutual, at least to my best knowledge from what she told me. Please help me understand 1) how I could have prevented this situation 2) what I can do to help fix my auto response to anger and frustration 3) help me gain closure with this person I had intents on spending my life with (aka help me understand it is over because I'm the type of guy to be hopeful of a romantic reunion after the initial emotions are done). \n\nI'm really struggling here with my emotional breakdowns and its a hell of a lot easier to talk to strangers about it than it is people I know.", "summary": "I just got dumped for violating emotional trust. I need help with closure and understanding how/where I went wrong. We were together short time (2 months) but were at the same level emotionally the majority of the relationship until the end. Please message for more details."}
{"id": "t3_2s9538", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help: 5 year old black lab becoming increasingly disobedient to my fiancee.", "post": "My fiancee and I adopted a 3 year old black lab from the local TAPS shelter. He was in good health, besides losing a back hind leg to a supposed hunting accident, well trained, and friendly. We have had him for 2.5 years and noticed a gradual change in his demeanor towards my fiancee in the last 6 months. \n\nI have always taken more of an active role in his care including taking him to the dog park and playing with him more then my fiancee, but she has always been loving and affectionate towards him. While he always wanted to play when I got home it seemed as though they had their own relationship that was filled with more of petting and cuddiling. However, in the last few months he has taken to barking and whinning at my fiancee when i'm not home. She has attempted her old tricks as well as new ones like taking him on walks every four hours and playing with him more. Unfortunatly his attitude is just getting worse. We have attempted to discipline him by instituting whenever he barks he is promptly put into his kennel, and then released after a 30 minute stent. This punsishment seems to disuade him little and in my 12 hr stents at work he ends up in his kennel 3-4 times on average. \n\n I feel horrible that neither of them seeems to enjoy each others company, and i'm afraid it's only going to get worse. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as this is becoming a devisive issue in our household.", "summary": "My dog is pushing around my fiancee when I'm not home."}
{"id": "t3_1p3wyp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do?", "post": "I recently let myself in to a movie theater as someone was going out because the front doors were locked. I walked up to an empty front desk and called for assistance in the deserted theater. I walked through the halls and found the movie I came to see by looking at the scrolling LEDs. I was 30 minutes late because the late night trains I needed weren't running and I had to take two reroutes. I found a seat and watched the giant IMAX screen in awe through the RealD3D glasses I borrowed from the recycle bin after searching the halls for my theater, until I realized that it wasn't by an impairment of my eyes that I was seeing double. I had no usher to hand me the correct glasses. After switching to the appropriate IMAX glasses from the nearest IMAX recycle bin, I was able to enjoy the movie at long last and await an employee of the theater to approach me so that I may purchase my ticket. It never happened and I completed the remaining 66.66% of my movie. Should I risk admitting that I did that by going to pay for the movie later?", "summary": "Movie theater closed their doors and since it was only 30 min in (counting previews) I walked in as a couple was leaving and sat myself awaiting an employee. I missed the first third of the movie but DM;SG. Gravity was fucking awesome"}
{"id": "t3_1s55qm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my bf [19M] 9 months, I'm his first and he wants to try something new?", "post": "So our relationship is fine. We've never had any arguments unless you could count a couple of MarioKart rages but other than that we're solid. I've had a boyfriend in the past but I am his first girlfriend.\n\nLately he's been mentioning our future together and said that even though our relationship is great he's wondered whether or not he's missing out on someone else. He says that he hasn't had the experience of another relationship and has nothing to compare us to and even though he loves me very much he can't help but feel like he could be missing out on something else in life with another person.\n\nWhat should I do? There really is nothing wrong with our relationship but if we actually do end up breaking up just because of this and it doesn't work out for him I don't think I'd have the trust in him to accept him back into my life or get back together.", "summary": "I'm his first girlfriend. He's thinking about breaking up so he can experience a relationship with someone else."}
{"id": "t3_2kdjs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) feel that I cannot get along with my bf's (19M) younger sisters (8-10).", "post": "I'm on mobile, sorry for formatting.\n\nMy bf and I have known each other for a year and I've met both his families because his parents are divorced. I'm more close to his half sister and brother (on his dad's side) because I've babysat them before. His mother's daughters are a different story though.\n\nThe first time I met them, I acted all excited because I had to travel to the city to meet them and I bought gifts for them to make a good impression. I did have fun with them, but since they're younger than my own siblings (both in their tween years), I found that I didn't have much in common with them. They are so hyperactive and loud and I find that I don't have the patience and energy to put up with them. His siblings are also quite spoiled by their mother and act like big babies/whine all the time.\nMy bf is really close to both his younger sisters and I feel like he shows them more affection than he does to me. Physically and emotionally. I know everyone would pick their family first, but he always says how annoying his mom's family is and how she's manipulative.\n\nRecently, his mother and sisters showed up to our place somewhat unexpected and they slept over. I don't have a problem with them sleeping over on the weekend, but what I do have a problem with is that I had to go to work in the morning and I was exhausted when they came over. I stayed quiet for a majority of the time and everyone noticed.\n\nI can't find common ground with them and my bf has told me \"if you can't get along with my family, I don't think our relationship will work.\"\n\nReddit, how do I deal with kids.", "summary": "Can't find common ground with bf's younger siblings and don't quite get along with kids. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gbl69", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Just took in a neglected cat", "post": "I live in an apartment complex and currently have one cat of my own so I know how to take care of cats well. A few buildings down from me there is a family that owns an orange tabby. For about the last year I've seen this cat go inside twice. They don't feed him either. He's the most sweet little animal I've had the pleasure of meeting.\n\nAnytime I've ever pet this cat I can feel each individual vertebrae on his back as well as tail. I hadn't seen this cat for a few weeks so I thought they might have brought him inside now that the weather is cooler, until I seen him yesterday. The poor thing is bone thin and now his hair has fallen out in areas, ears bald, tail half bald, and he's skinnier then ever. I couldn't idly watch this cat die by the hands of his owner so I picked him up and brought him to my place.\n\nI immediatly seperated my current cat (jimmy) and put the new one in the bathroom. I gave him a bath, he didn't particularly like it, but didn't fight it either, and gave him 2 cans of food. I left my apartment for a while to run some errands and when I came back the bathroom door was open, with the new cat laying on my bed and jimmy laying on the floor beside him with them half sleeping, half staring at each other. I went up to jimmy to pet him, make sure he's okay with this new animal and he immediatly hissed at me and went back to locking eyes with the new boy. I sat there for a few minutes watching them and they seem pretty calm and at peace. I guess jimmy is just mad at me right now and I can accept that lol.\n\nAnyways, I'm not sure how to care for a cat in this state. I can't take him to a vet until October when funds aren't so tight. So what do I need to be doing for the time being? Is there anything special I need to be feeding him so he can gain his weight back? And how often should I be feeding? I'm regards to his fur, will it ever grow back? Any and all tips or advice would be tremendously appreciated.", "summary": "took in a neighbors neglected cat that's starving and has fur falling out, not sure how to specifically care for him until I can bring him to a vet next month."}
{"id": "t3_dy0r3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Is there any reason why I should continue to be a \"nice smart girl\" instead of being a \"dumb pretty girl\"?", "post": "I consider myself to be a decently smart girl, recent engineering grad with pretty good grades, gainfully employed, even despite the awful economy I graduated in. However, despite all this, I will never make as much as strippers, call girls, or even the girls who just play with themselves on a webcam! In fact, those girls, even the not so pretty ones, can make more in a week than I can make in an entire year! WTF?!? \n\nWhat is the benefit to being nice and smart? Now I tell myself, morals, self respect, etc, etc, but really? If there are people out there who are stupid enough to pay me a ridiculous amount of money just because they find me attractive, knowing full well that I am just humoring them because I want their money, why should I not take it? \n\nWhen I get old and saggy (which all women will) I can always go back into industry, get re-certified, take extra classes, etc, but I will never again be a young pretty girl in her 20's. Why shouldn't I take advantage of being young, fit and pretty, build up a nice savings account, invest it well, and retire early?", "summary": "Smart girls finish last. What's the benefit of being smart when being pretty (and stupid) will get me further?"}
{"id": "t3_nuotf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with parents who treat you like you're 14 when your 18 years old.", "post": "My girlfriend is home for the holidays and her parents are still trying to control her life. I understand that since they are still paying for things in her life (college, life insurance, ext) that they still get a say. But it's getting to the point that even though it has been only two weeks, she's considering cutting all ties. It's a strong possibility for her to stay with me for the remainder of the break (my dad had a similar situation when he was our age) but by doing so her very strong catholic parents would cease all contact with her. This upcoming summer she is planning on getting her own place anyways, but the situation is getting worse at her place. My question (yes, I know...it took long enough) is what is the best course of action. Should she deal with her parents until the summer, or should she cut off all ties and live on her own. I'm also curious if any others have had similar situations and if so what did you do.", "summary": "Girlfriends parents are crazy, should she deal with it or cut off ALL ties AND has anyone else has a similar situation and what did you do?"}
{"id": "t3_qw9yf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do construction workers delay projects in order to have long term work?", "post": "I know construction jobs have timelines and deadlines like most other large projects but it seems like some of them take much longer than others. There is a bridge rehabilitation in my area that has been on-going for at least 3 years which makes me ask. They've been working on one side of the bridge since at least July of 2010. The bridge is 4 lanes wide and goes over a street that is four lanes wide. Now granted I know nothing about construction or the complexity of the project but they shouldn't have to work on one side of such a small bridge for years should they? There is a large housing development near the bridge that went up in a fraction of the time.", "summary": "Why would construction on a short bridge take so long?"}
{"id": "t3_3ywpq6", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Does life ever work like the movies?", "post": "Recently broken up with after 4 months. (21f, 24m)  She said she wasn't crazy about me like she should be, didn't want to drag it on or lead it on anymore.  It was mature and I handled it respectfully.  There was a time though, when something clearly was felt.  Countless dates/nights/memories prove that.  There is no doubting that we were into each other to a degree, it was not a one way street, at all. \n\nI was respectful and have given her space.  I didn't fight for her at all except telling her I hope things changed with time.  It was evident that she was conflicted and hurting.  She even suggested she wasn't sure if she made the right choice.  \n\nThis woman is incredible and I feel so foolish to let my pride stop me from chasing after her.  I know life typically doesn't work this way, I have plenty of experience with women I know how it works.  But this one is different.  Or so my heart tells me.  Does anyone have any experience here? Does that actually work? I feel like she's too great a girl to just let leave without trying to change it.", "summary": "got dumped said she wasn't crazy about me.  I wanna fight for her, am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_18iebv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M/22] am having trouble dealing with an overbearing [M/24] friend.", "post": "I have a friend who's in my program at school, and we've transitioned into the out-of-school friends zone nicely. He's up for hanging out a lot, and he's a really good kid, and it seems like he cares about me as a friend (as I do him). However, he's recently become a little more overbearing than he usually is. He asks me to hang out very often, and I try to oblige when I can, but he asks me to do things so often with him that it would be hard to balance a social life with other friends. He also messages me constantly on the internet, to the point where I turn off my IM service and don't sign into Facebook often.\n\nI told him last semester that I have a friend that's might be moving out of my house this summer, and that if that happened I'd need a replacement. He asked me about it recently, and I told him that I had told some other people about it as well. To be honest, I can't imagine living with him, because I imagine that I would never get a free moment.\n\nToday, I woke up to an e-mail (!!) he sent me last night, detailing the fact that he feels nervous that I had told someone else about the housing spot. I know he wants to live with me, and I wish he were a little less overbearing, but I can't imagine living with him. He's a really great friend, but I don't really want to extend the relationship to living together.\n\nWhat on earth can I say to him to diffuse the situation? I want to respond to it with tact. I'm going to pretend I haven't seen his e-mail yet (I see him every weekday at school)", "summary": "Friend has become a little too overbearing, wants to live with me, but I don't want to live with him."}
{"id": "t3_1e3tki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to title this, but I just need some basic advice. I'm a 20M, girlfriend is a 20F", "post": "Hey everyone. \n\nI'll start with a little background of myself and my current SO. I am 20 and work as a Department supervisor at Home depot. Growing up, out of my friends, I have always been the one to have a lasting relationship. While most of them we're just \"hooking-up\" or having 2week to month long relationships I was having the months to year long relationships. In my senior year of highschool I was dating a chick about 2 years younger than me. I really thought she was going to be the one for about the first year of our relationship. It eventually hit the brick wall where I felt nothing for her anymore. Things I thought were cute or funny before turned into annoyances. The sex life was dull and pretty boring. I eventually broke it off because my feelings were causing problems and I didn't want to drag her along in a dying relationship.\n\nA couple months later I meant my current SO and we've been dating for about a year and 8 months. I am her first \"serious\" relationship and she lost her virginity to me. Everything has been great, we've had our little problems just like any normal relationship but I feel like I'm starting to hit that brick wall again. I've read about this happening at certain stages in relationships but I don't know if it's just me and I'm not sure if this is a normal feeling or if I'm being selfish in expecting too much or what? I know that she is head over heels for me and would do anything which is a nice thing to have. It just feels like the little things she does that were cute or funny are become annoyances etc etc. Our sex life is okay, it has been better but it is not bad by any means. I hope I did this right and gave the information needed, if not just ask and I won't have any problems answering. \nThanks in advanced.", "summary": "Not sure if I am hitting the \"brick wall\" in my current relationship like I have in past relationships which eventually led to going seperate ways."}
{"id": "t3_1tvq22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M 24) bothered by the things my gf (F 21) says and does when she is drunk. Am I overreacting?", "post": "I have Been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. She is my best friend and honestly the first girl I truly love. Everything between us is terrific but when she drinks she tends to do things that bother me. Now I honestly try to be the best boyfriend I can possibly be, I care so much for this beautiful soul that I am almost afraid to make the wrong decisions or say the wrong things in these situations. \n\nEven though I am a dude truly I tend to be very passionate about things and when an argument arises I can get emotional. I am trying to work on this. \n\nAnyway. Whenever my girlfriend get drunk she can get very flirty and touchy and not so much do I think she will ever cheat on me but like leaning on my friends and such tends to make me jealous. I wish I knew why.  \n\nAlso last night she was drunk and we had some friends over. Her and my buddy's girl he is kind of dating start making out. Now I know most guys would love this. But she's not some high schooler at a college party and I don't find it cool. I want to start a family with with girl someday and I feel like I am getting to old to see my girlfriend making out with females when she is drunk. Am I over reacting? Idk? \n\nI also asked her after that if she would ever have a 3 some with another girl and me. She said no she wanted all the attention on her so I said what about another guy. Praying she would say no. And she said maybe. That bothered me a lot. I dnt think she actually would but I replay these things in my head.  When I think about talking about them to her I feel like it sounds so stupid. But I can't help it bothers me. What do I do? Is it me? Is it her? Am I over reacting? Should I just let it go. What are your thoughts? She only acts this way when she drinks. Otherwise she is all about just me", "summary": "girlfriend who I love deeply does little things when she's drinking that bother me. Don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_19uew8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24F) and my gf (23F) had a pretty bad argument last night. Should I call it quits?", "post": "My gf and I have been dating a year and a half. It's hard because I'm in law school and she definitely doesn't give me the space I need. Last night I was studying and she barged in called me a c *nt, b *tch, mistake (she moved here for me), and idiot. I thought she was going to hit me. I think it's because of the stress from school but we've grown apart the last two semesters. We live together but it feels like we're strangers/roommates who don't particularly like one another.\n\nThe only hesitation I have is I think to before law school (a year ago) when I LOVED being around her, couldn't get enough of her, and just genuinely enjoyed her company.\n\nNow, she makes passive aggressive remarks about how I choose school over her, is jealous of some of my close (straight) female friends, and just seems miserable with her life in general. I want us both to be happy.\n\nIs there any reason I shouldn't call it quits? Should I focus on good times from a year ago, or is it better to leave it in the past?", "summary": "my girlfriend and I aren't on the same page any more and have been having issues but I can't help but remember the good times. To break up or not to break up?"}
{"id": "t3_3kosum", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] no longer want to put in any effort to make guy friends since they cut me out of their life when they find a SO.", "post": "This morning, around 3am, I received an angry email from a very good guy friend [29M]. He told me he no longer wanted to remain friends because our friendship was disrespectful to his current relationship. He stated he didn't want to risk losing his gf [32F] since he loves her (odd, since he had only bitched about her in the past) and I should never contact him again.\n\nThis hurt deeply since he was a VERY good friend. We've been friends for a few years and have done so much together like reddit meetups, random bar/geek events, chatting everyday on gchat, Comic Con, etc. I have never hit on him or expressed any romantic interest. And I've been a friend through his past two relationships so his cutting contact had me blindsided. \n\nAnd I thought, this is going to happen more often. I'm getting to that age where men are settling down and their spouses probably do not want single women in their husbands' lives. And I should respect that, like my friend said.  \n\nI have a few other guy friends now and I feel like drifting away from them. I feel that weaning myself off from them will be for self-preservation as it's going to save me from future misery. What do you guys think?   \n\nSorry. This was more of me thinking out loud. I'm very saddened I lost a very good friend. It's going to be so different from now on.", "summary": "Very good guy friend with SO cuts all contact. I fear all my current guy friends will do the same so it's best I gradually remove myself from their lives and no longer look for friendship with men."}
{"id": "t3_1b5hf7", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Can I introduce a new cat to my cat?", "post": "I currently have a cat, its a tabby female that i adopted from the shelter and has about a year of age (11-12 months), though I adopted her when she was practically born (1 week old).  Shes always mellow and playful, and very lethargic :3. However, shes pretty territorial, she usually hisses at my neighbor's dogs and she gets very aggressive towards stray cats. And now my girlfriend (whom i live with) is obsessed with getting a cat. She wanted a grown one but i convinced her to get a kitten since my current cat wouldn't perceive it as that much of a territorial threat, should she still get it?", "summary": "I have a nice but territorial cat, can i get a new kitten"}
{"id": "t3_18s6tl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure what to do, need some advice", "post": "I have become really good friends with this girl in the last couple of months and am starting to feel something towards her. We hang out almost everyday and I think that we both have some sort of connection. Basically I'm not good when it comes to reading signals so its tough to tell what she wants. I want to make a move but don't know how I should. And I also do not want to wait too long and miss my chance. We are one on one alot and get drunk often so I want to go for it then, but I just have still yet to do it. I over think everything and then never have the balls to make a move..", "summary": "starting to have feelings for a friend, want to make a move and not sure how"}
{"id": "t3_2rnue4", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "3 year old daughter watches live surgeries. Is she to young?", "post": "So my daughter is pretty bright, yes I know all parents think this so without going into details of how awesome she is and being that parent, suffice to say that she is bright. Lol. Anyway,  she really likes to watch Grey's Anatomy which her mom watches all the time. She knows her favorite characters and so on. However while watching it on my tablet i noticed that she skips all the \"talking\" and goes straight to the surgery stuff. I asked why and she said she liked the blood. I said lets watch a real surgery and she was SO excited. We watched a medical procedure and she loved it. My GF was appalled at this and said she was to young. My question is, is she to young? She has been talking about wanting to be a doctor for awhile now. Thanks for your input and sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "3yr old like to watch real surgeries, is she to young?"}
{"id": "t3_kgrx3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with my creepy coworker...", "post": "I'm a grad student in a biomedical lab at a large university, and I've noticed that a new post-doc has been doing some very weird things.  A brief summary:\n\nHe printed out a court case about child sex abuse and requirements for being on the registered sex offenders list.\n\nI once saw him visiting a sex offender registry website.\n\nHe obsessively changes every single computer in our lab he uses to auto-delete all web browsing history.  He checks this regularly.\n\nHe frequently blanks his screen when I walk by.\n\nHe is somewhat touchy and aggressive with undergrads he works with.\n\nSo, what can I do?  I'm thinking about installing some sort of logging software, because if he's doing something illegal with lab computers it could put all of our jobs at risk.  I don't know much about logging software or other possible approaches to this issue.", "summary": "Coworker appears to be a sex offender and hides his computer tracks, but is sloppy enough that I've seen a few warning signs."}
{"id": "t3_1txu9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] lent my bass guitar to my now ex-boyfriend [22M]. I'd like it back, but he's ignoring me.", "post": "A couple weeks before we broke up, I lent my now ex-boyfriend my bass guitar so he could record a song (it's a nice bass and he's always loved playing it). He lives two hours away from me, so after the break-up we planned on meeting before one of his weekly choir practices, which is half way between us, so he could give it back.\n\nThree months later, I don't have it. We've planned on meeting many times, but he's cancelled each one. Now, I haven't even heard from him in weeks\u2014he hasn't answered my calls, he's blocked me on Facebook, he doesn't log into Skype, and didn't answer me when I messaged him via his music page on Facebook. Instead, he posted a status about all the cool bass lines he's been writing.\n\nAs you can imagine, I'm quite frustrated. I know he had a hard time with us breaking up, but it's been months and he's still acting like a kid. I've never been in this position; what's the appropriate way to handle this? Threaten to get police involved? Call his mom? I don't want to be a crazy ex-girlfriend.", "summary": "Lent my bass to my ex, who lives 2 hours away. Whenever we make plans to meet up, he cancels. Lately, he's been ignoring me altogether. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_335hz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my long distance girlfriend [18/F] for about one year, troubles with honesty.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 1 year now, and will be at one year this may. We have made it until this weekend without any major fights, mostly because of our honesty and openness. I have never doubted her, nor has she doubted me, until I gave her any reason to.\nSo we went through an \"open relationship\" period when we first came to college, because we weren't sure if we should continue on with it. During this period, I walked a girl home who attempted to start making out with me, as a \"thank you.\" \n\nI was extremely uncomfortable with the whole ordeal and never talked to the girl again. This was my extent of female interaction that has not been with my girlfriend. Whenever she would ask about the the \"open period\" I would say nothing had happened, because I was so uncomfortable that she would think that I had deliberately cheated on her, or something similar. \n\nRecently, this weekend, I finally got the gaul to ask her what she had done over that period. She told me a remarkably similar story, wherein a guy tried to kiss her, and she went back to her room sobbing. At this point I knew that I should tell her the whole truth.\n\nAfter telling her, she was extremely hurt. She has burst out at me a lot recently saying that I lied to her face. Which, honestly I have. Our relationship is now a roller coaster of us being fine, until she gets upset with me, for as she admits, no reason, and snaps at me. This is taking a toll on my mental health as well as our relationship health, and I'm worried I'm going to snap back at her, which would not be fair. \n\nI have admitted fully that what I did was wrong despite my best intentions, and I remind her every time. I've not gone out all weekend because I do not want to put her through the feeling that I'm going out and having fun while she doesn't trust me. Any feedback for this is appreciated. I'm really worried about us.", "summary": "Lied to my girlfriend about things that happened over our open relationship because I was uncomfortable with myself, told her 7 months later, now we don't trust each other."}
{"id": "t3_2tw077", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my ex [28F]. I broke NC, then two months later she did.", "post": "Long story short, I was dating this woman that I was really into for a while. Three months we were really good, really close. The following four months, there were difficulties. What she explained them as, I strived to be accomodating for because I really liked her. Found out later that I was the side piece all along. Went NC. Three months later, I was drunk and sent her an email wondering if I could get answers to some questions. No response until yesterday, where she said \"ask any question you have\" and nothing else.\n\nAbout a month ago, I felt I was finally over her and through most of my anger about what happened. I have literally just started seeing someone, and she's completely atypical for me, absolutely opposite my type. It's leading to a lot of self-reflection, and I'm seeing a lot of things from a different perspective. I do like her, but I am not smitten. I was absolutely smitten with the ex.\n\nI read this sub frequently, and if I said nothing else, I suspect that the highest voted comment would be to not respond. That's literally what everyone says, but I am not clear on why that's the \"common sense\" reaction. I will never be pulled back into her crap--the lies were extensive--but this is a chance for me to get some kind of clarity on the whole situation. It's a chance for me to get the most from that whole experience, to find out where/how I allowed myself to be decieved, and to find out what from that whole relationship was actually real.\n\nIn short, I'm curious to hear from people who've had similar experiences with a lying ex, or have been the lying ex, and what decisions were made? What was the outcome? Would you make the same decison if you could go back in time?", "summary": "Lying ex contacted me, offering me the chance to get clarity on the past. What are the possible outcomes if I respond or not?"}
{"id": "t3_3uk036", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27/M] banned me [25/F] from talking to friend [25/M]", "post": "I [25/F] had a Friend [25/M] that I met 3 years before I started dating my current BF [27/M]. Friend and I were not that close at first, but we got to know each other, talked regularly. He started dating a girl. I ended up becoming her friend. It was cool. We'd all hang out. \n\nI kind of fell off from him when they broke up because I liked kickin it with her. A couple months after they broke up, I texted him just to see how he was. I enjoyed talking to him and remembered why we did become friends. He was mad cool. \n\nA couple months later we started to get a little romantic, but nothing too serious. I was never his girlfriend. We didn't have sex. It didn't end up working out. We should have stayed friends. \n\nMy current boyfriend of 3 years has banned me from talking to this guy. He gets frickin pissed if I even mention his name. I really want to talk to my Friend, but I don't want another argument. I don't want to lie to my boyfriend and go behind his back.", "summary": "What do you do when the love of your life forbids you from talking to someone that you don't want to end communication with?."}
{"id": "t3_17bu36", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M]How far done the rabbit hole did I fuck up?", "post": "So I've had a sub par(let's say 6.5/10) 5 yrs with my wife to sum it up I just deployed but we didn't have farewell sex and didn't have sex for the past 2 months prior..We have a son. We are complete opposites but hey who cares love right? Well I don't know if I've fallen out or just don't care anymore as I tend not to argue or find conflict because if I get involved I ma very blunt about the things I say. There's more but last night I was venting to her sister how we have more in common and discussing sex life how my wife does not give oral nor receive from me because she thinks \"it feels weird\". I came to the part to venting and being fed up as I was writing to tell the sister (added in disclaimers that i was just saying to say it)\"you know what If you were nearby, I won't lie I'd try to get with you\" and she took it as a compliment telling me how her boyfriend(babys daddy) has been giving her the cold shoulder for the past month. Then we talked more then I went to sleep. I don't know where I went with this rant I just need somebody to tell me anything.", "summary": "Stagnant marriage,/r/DeadBedrooms, Flirted with her sister insinuating sex. FUCK ME."}
{"id": "t3_1yclq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [17 F] of about a year, she's gorgeous, kind, and gay, and I don't want to ruin our friendship!", "post": "My good friend, of about a year now, has been a huge part of my life since we met and I've started to fall in love with her. She's beautiful, kind, and has a heart of gold. I've often dreamt about asking her out and being together, yet there's only one thing that's stopping me, and that's her sexuality.\nDon't get me wrong, I am a huge advocate for gay/lesbian couples, but I don't know if this girl could ever love me simply because I'm a man. I would hate to have her think differently of me, but I can't help but love her.\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is, what should I do? Would it be a good idea to let her know how much I care about her? Should I suck it up and simply remain friends?\nPlease help! I love her so much, and I only want her to be happy.", "summary": "My awesome friend is gay, and I don't know if it would ruin our friendship to ask her out. Should I go for it or should I just suck it up and leave my emotions at home?"}
{"id": "t3_2lec15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriends [F18] mom found a condom in her pocket/that fell out. I'm [M17 not sure what to think.", "post": "Basically, my girlfriend and I haven't had sex in a couple of weeks mainly due to being life being hectic, sorting uni stuff etc.. The condoms ran out last time and we haven't had a chance to buy new ones. No biggy.\n\nToday she called, we were talking and it came up right ag that a condom fell out of her pocket or something today and her mom found it and made an awkward joke. I had to go so that was the end of the conversation,  but it set off alarm bells in my head.\n\nShe never buys the condoms. Its always me. And we have no plans to see each other this week, let alone today. So why was there a condom in her pocket? I've been cheated on before so its a bit of an insecurity of mine, so of course my mind jumped to that.\n\nI texted her an hour ago, immediately after the call asking in a light hearted fashion \"How come you had a condom in your pocket? We haven't had a chance in AGES :p\" and she said \"Dinner now\". That kind of bluntness isn't like her and she still hasn't said anything. *just got a text saying \"works not going great, talk later\"* and its just eating me up.", "summary": "girlfriend has condom in pocket, thought we'd run out, no sex recently and no chance coming up. Am I right to be suspicious, or is my brain just a huge dick?"}
{"id": "t3_1y1qsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "friend of friend [17 F] with a person she doesn't know well [23 M] met at a concert", "post": "The friend (M) is concerned for her friend (V).  She said that they met at a concert and prettymuch immedietly started making out.  She doesn't know the guys last name, where he lives, etc. and wants to sleep with him.  I'd consider myself a pretty sex positive person, and if you wana do the do, then by all means.  However, I can't help find it strange that (despite being legal, 17 in new york) that she'd be getting involved with someone 6 years her senior while shes so young.  She doesn't have the best history with dating, and it seems destined to fail and potentially dangerous.  I know it's a fuckload of 'not my buisness', but, can't help but be a bit concerned as I did work with V and know her a bit. \n\nI guess normally I'd try and say that people need to learn from mistakes, but knowing she has a history of sexual abuse and mental health issues, and the fact that it may just be flatout dangerous to her health/well being I can't help but be a bit concerned\n\nBeing a 23 year old guy, I can say that yes, V is cute, but holyshit would it feel weird as a 23 year old to be with someone so young/immature and feel kind of concerned for the guy's character.", "summary": "Where is the line between learning from mistakes/life experience and trying to help someone avoid potential physical harm?  What do you even say to people to try and help protect them from sketchy decisions?"}
{"id": "t3_3lx6cg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28/M) found a used condom under my bed. GF (25/F) avoid the discussion/confrontation.", "post": "Hey guys. I recently found a used condom (no sperm in there) under our bed while cleaning a bit. \nI kept this discovery for myself during a moment but last week, during a serious discussion as things aren't really good between us, I told her about this unpleasant discovery. \nShe dodged a bit the discussion, surprisingly, we maybe talked about it for a minute or two before she changed the topic. \nShe said herself that she doesn't use condoms if she uses dildos, so I'm sure this wasn't for this use. \nSince this discussion, despite the fact that we are in a really bad phase at the moment, she never mentioned it again even when I talked about the fact that I suspected her of cheating on me (coming back very late from work without saying much than \"I'll come back a bit later\" very often is a classic).\nI don't know what to think about all this., I feel lost as fuck. \nAny advice?", "summary": "Found a used condom under our bed"}
{"id": "t3_3hqnk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] dating a [28M] 1 month, he is very good at expressing his feelings towards me, I'm having problems reciprocating, even though I know I feel the same way. Advice appreciated!", "post": "I will keep this short, I'm just looking for 3rd party advice. I've been dating this person \"Jake\" for about a month. He is truly one of the greatest guys I have ever met. We get along so well, he is a gentleman and things are progressing so easily it's actually shocking me.\n\nI know he adores me and is very vocal about it. He always tells me how lucky he is to have met me, how well things are going, telling me how physically attractive he thinks I am etc etc. And I feel the same way too... however I'm having such a hard time reciprocating these things. I didn't grow up in an affectionate household, and I've never been in a relationship like this before where someone has been so vocal with compliments, what they are thinking etc. He's mentioned to me that he wishes I would be more vocal about how I'm feeling, but I'm just having problems putting my thoughts into action.\n\n I try to show that I'm interested by lots of physical contact (holding his hand, kissing him etc) and saying things like \"I feel the same way, thank you for saying that it means a lot\", but most of the time I think it just comes off as awkward or insincere. I don't want to blow it with him because I think we are both on the same page and I can see the potential. I think I'm also being cautious because it is a new relationship and I don't want to jump in too quickly and end up being disappointed. Just hoping for some advice on how to better communicate without sounding like a robot :)", "summary": "Dating someone who is very vocal with compliments and affection, wanting to reciprocate!"}
{"id": "t3_gp0l2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I slipped up last night, need damage control help!", "post": "I've been doing really well for the past couple weeks and really had a craving to go to my favorite restaurant for dinner last night. They have a wonderful cobb salad, so I figured if I got the dressing on the side, it'd be low-carb, and I could save half of it for lunch today, so it wouldn't be that bad. Unfortunately once I got to the restaurant self-control started to slide...I ordered a beer, and chips & salsa as an appetizer, then proceeded to eat most of the salad (it's huge).\n\nOkay, so that was a bit of a slip up, but it could have been worse...but then as we were driving home from the restaurant we passed by an ice cream shop. The weather was beautiful and a milkshake sounded SO good...so we stopped and I got a milkshake. I knew it was a mistake but I already felt like I had thrown the day out the window, and I was pretty upset about some other stuff that's been going on so I was kind of in that \"fuck it\" mentality.\n\nSo now it's the next morning, the day after, I feel full and gross and ashamed. I had been doing so well and feeling so good, then one lapse in control/judgement and I feel like I've been torn down. I'm really afraid of facing the day thinking \"you already fucked up, what difference does one more [insert delicious carb-based goodness] make?\" loseit, I could really use some words of encouragement to get me back on track today, move on from this, and make sure I don't piggyback on this slip-up with others!", "summary": "I ate like shit last night and could use some words of encouragement to make sure it doesn't cascade to other poor choices!"}
{"id": "t3_3ltoht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my SO[19F] of 7 months admitted she has feelings for a good friend [19M]", "post": "2 Weeks ago, my friend \"John\" admitted to my girlfriend \"Emily\" that he has been secretly in love with her.\n\nNot wanting to keep secrets from me she told me the situation and I had been mostly OK with it, and just asked her to be open and honest with me as the situation develops, and to tell me if he tries to do anything. On the *official*, I'm not supposed to know about these feelings of his.\n\nBut today, I had a nightmare where she left me for John. And I woke up and told her about it and we sat in silence for a while. I asked Emily if she loved John. She swiftly said no she does not, but that she has some feelings for him beyond their friendship. And even though that is true, she loves me unequivocally. \n\nThere was some crying and talking, she let me know that if it gets too painful for me that I could leave and she would understand, but that also both of their feelings would probably not go away.\n\nHonestly I'm at a loss here. 3 weeks ago we were in the most perfectly healthy relationship and now it seems as though we're on the verge of a breakup. When we met we fell in love hard and fast, and I can't bear the thought of leaving her. But I honestly don't know how to feel about this. My own insecurity, or jealousy, i feel, is going to end up tearing me apart.\n\nHas anybody ever been through this kind of situation? How did you help to resolve these feelings if at all?", "summary": "Friend has feelings for my girlfriend, girlfriend kind of shares those feelings, I don't know how to feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_1vruvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (21/f) doesn't like me (21/m) having a life outside of her", "post": "My girlfriend has very few friends. They are all very busy so she doesn't get to see them much. I'm her only friend that she gets to see more than once a week. As a result, she doesn't like me having a life outside of her. \n\nShe gets upset when I just want to hang out with the guys, or if I want to go to a interesting lecture (she hates lectures), or a conference (she hates conferences), or if I'm working on a special project.\n\nI am trying to start a business so I have many special projects going on. She doesn't see the point of me spending any time on it because it doesn't make any money. Well, no business makes money in the beginning. I have a part time job that gives me enough money.\n\nShe gets really upset if I pick up a project to help out the community. She gets upset when I have a screening of a classical movie at my house, she hates classical movies. She also doesn't understand why I go through so much trouble to host events. I like hosting.\n\nI invite her to everything I do expect when I'm hanging out with the guys or working on projects for my future company. She just doesn't come because it doesn't interest her. We see each other 3-5 times a week and spend 15-30 hours a week together.\n\nShe frequently tells me I don't spend enough time with her. I don't want to give up my life for her, especially because we only have been together for six months. She wants to move in but I think it's too soon. She doesn't like where she lives, I love where I live.\n\nI understand her problem but I don't know what to do. I introduce her to new people all the time but they never become friends for some reason. I love her and other than these problems, our relationship is great. We have many things in common. However, this problem is becoming very frustrating. It's frustrating for me to hear her say I don't spend enough time with her when I do my best to spend as much time as possible with her. I just need me time sometimes, I can't be with her 24/7. What should I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months. She is clingy and doesn't like me having a life outside of her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3kit32", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Implications of lying about being sorry? 25M 23F", "post": "Long story short, I love this girl. Recently we had a fight. She is upset at me, without getting into it too deeply, I felt compelled to apologize for my behavior even though I dont actually think I did anything particularly wrong. Its been eating at me a bit that I apologized even though I think I'm \"right\".\n\nIm not sure if I should be honest about not feeling sorry or.. Is it unhealthy to apologize for something you didnt really do? Does this indicate something broken in our relationship, or is it okay to 'bite the bullet' sometimes, and pretend to be sorry for the sake of the relationship?", "summary": "Lying about being sorry: unhealthy? okay? depends?"}
{"id": "t3_1wyg0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) boyfriend (29M) of 1 year has recurring drug problems", "post": "My boyfriend is addicted to opiates.  He's tried several times in the last year to get clean but has never been able to stay clean for more than a few weeks at a time.  He mostly uses painkillers and is quite high functioning, even when he's high (sometimes I can't even tell).  At times I wonder if it's really so bad, but yes, I know, it is.\n\nI know almost everyone who reads this will tell me to break up with him but it's not that easy.  He means a lot to me and I want to be able to help him.  I know he wants to get clean more than anything else (for himself, for me, for his family) but it's the depression that really just gets to him during withdrawals.\n\nI also know that at some point, I can't sacrifice my life to try and fix his.  I just don't know where that point is and how I can be strong enough to really let him go.  I always get so caught up with him when he tells me he's going to do it this time and it will be the last time.  It's so easy to just believe him because he does truly mean it at the time.  I feel like if I could just make everything easier for him, just be there for him, maybe he'll be able to do it.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated, especially from people who have been through something similar.  I don't want to lose him but I don't want to lose myself trying to help him.", "summary": "boyfriend has drug problems and I don't know how to help him."}
{"id": "t3_4wmcma", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best Bank for A Fed-up (Kinda) Student?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nI was wondering what the best bank would be for checking and saving for a young adult (19yo) on a gap year (the timing was weird).\nI currently have a part time job and I have a student checking account with TDBank. But I I have a few complications with it. When I set it up, it was with my mother who made me believe I had to sign up with her because a bank account requires two people (I believed her but have found out that was bullshit). The problem is she keeps taking money out of my account without telling me and hopes I don't notice. Whenever I confront her about it, she just gets defensive and says she'll pay me back (which she doesn't). I'm looking to get a new account In a new bank without telling her to avoid further conflict. I guess I'm looking for a good beginners bank. One that has a lot of branches, has good student checking/savings (that can work with my gap year), good interest rate, and would in general would be a good bank to grow with. Any suggestions?\nThank you so much.", "summary": "I need a good bank that isn't TD to get away from my mother. Preferably one with free student checking/saving that accepts people on gap years."}
{"id": "t3_1dsj1e", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I'm going on a job interview! HELP", "post": "I didn't know where to post this, but please help me!\n\nI had to take a break from my university around January because of my depression and since then I've been unemployed. And today they finally called from a company that sells electronics. I would help customers with their questions regarding guarantees, repairs and stuff like that. All this by phone and mail. It is perfect for me! \n\nI had a starting interview on the phone and the woman asked me to come to an interview in their offices tomorrow. What will she ask? How can I prepare? What should I wear?\n\nThey also asked me to bring at least two references from my earlier employments but I can only get references from one company. Is it OK to get references from two people at the same company? The only other possible company would be a place were I worked on my own and had contact by phone with my boss like once a month, and the company were pretty much a hoax so I don't think I even should list them as a reference. I could also try and get references from my former teachers, they really liked me.. But I don't think that's a good idea.\n\nI CAN NOT SCREW THIS UP! I really need this job.", "summary": "Going on job interview tomorrow, I need some tips!"}
{"id": "t3_2n8y99", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Bisexual women, can you, or have you completely committed yourself to marrying a man, and never being with a women again?", "post": "I guess its hard for me to explain how I think about this (guy logic, sorry!), coming from a straight male perspective. I love women, and I'm in love with my girlfriend. I don't want to be with any other women, or guys. (Nothing wrong with that, my cousin is gay and I love him!)\n\nThe thing that eats at me all the time is that she's said that she's bisexual, and has looked for female companionship during our almost 3yrs of dating twice (that I know of), but never acted on it. She back pedaled and said it was only for a three-way with myself included, but I don't really want that, even though I said I'd try it if it satiated her needs. \n\nThe thing that is constantly in the back of my mind though is that I don't think shes 100% committed to me, I mean how could she be if she likes women as well as men? She'll always want that soft female touch as she's said, and I worry that I can never be everything that she wants. She's admitted to only ever thinking about women when she masturbates as well, which makes me feel uneasy that its not me that she thinks about at least some of the time! (lol) Whereas for me, she's everything I want and I don't want anyone else.", "summary": "I feel like my bisexual girlfriend will never 100% completely be in love with, or be satisfied being with me."}
{"id": "t3_10ssha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How much trouble can I get in knowing a co-worker smokes meth at work?", "post": "He busted his pipe out inside of a client's house and started smoking. It was the first time I have seen him do it but he probably hit it eight different times today. Says he only partakes occasionally but he seemed pretty normal after smoking as much as he did so I don't know if I buy that. I would tell my boss but I have a feeling he already knows. It might be time for a new job I suppose but I don't want to have to quit over this.\n\nCan I be subject to any legal problems knowing he smokes meth? It threw me for a bit of a loop. All I know about meth is what I have seen through season four of BB. How should I handle this situation Reddit? Is this even a big deal? If you smoke meth or don't please help me with this. Thanks in advanced!\n\nAlso Throwaway.\n\n(", "summary": ") Coworker has started smoking crystal meth in front of me. What do I do, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_zapz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When did you realize that the world really isn't a safe and happy place (for those of us who grew up sheltered).", "post": "I live in a smaller city where crime isn't really prominent.  Recently I went to a bar with my girlfriend and her friends in a major city for the first time. I was not new to the city because I work there but rarely go there on my own time. While we were waiting to get in the bar, the bouncers buddies and people who paid him got in right away. About 5 minutes of waiting in line I notice something slightly brushing my ass. I put my hand on my ass to try to get them to knock it off when I feel that my wallet is half way out of my pocket. I immediately look back at this probably 22 year old girl just looking at me like I caught her committing murder. I am about 6'3\" and fit so maybe I intimidated her, I thought. Little did I know she wasn't intimidated by me, but my girlfriend who saw it happen looked like she was about to knock this pickpocket's head off her shoulders for touching me and trying to steal from me.\n\nNeedless to say I felt sheltered and lost a little faith in humanity. I've always heard how the cities can be a dangerous place but I honestly didn't expect anything to happen to me. In fact, I thought it was a 'stereotype' of sorts that cities were dangerous. My eyes were opened and a life lesson was learned. (Also my girlfriend is awesome)", "summary": "Got pickpocketed"}
{"id": "t3_2khlre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28F) dad (50M) wants to date again - how do I help him?", "post": "Apologies if there's any weird formatting, I'm on my phone and this is my first post.\n\nMy parents were married for 28 years when my mom passed away unexpectedly last September. My mom was pretty much my dad's first everything. They met at work when he was 17, married when he was 21. They didn't have the typical go on some dates/courtship thing, it was more like instant relationship. She did everything for him and I wondered how he was going to manage, but he's making do.\n\nMy dad is an introvert through and through, and he has that sort of self-deprecating humor or view of himself; he knows he's not Brad Pitt or a fascinating conversationalist. If he's not at home in front of his computer, he's at his one close friend's house hanging out or riding his motorcycle if it's nice outside. He still has my two sisters (24 and 13) living at home.\n\nSince early in the year he's been talking about dating, which to me seems a bit soon but that's not for me to decide I guess. He was talking to a woman he works with for awhile; they and another male coworker would get lunch often, and he would casually bring up going out sometime but she would always giggle and do the \"oh yeah, maybe\" thing - at least from what he said, that's my impression. After awhile he kind of got the message that she wasn't all that interested - they still go to lunch but without the talk of going out.\n\nI'm not sure how to best support him in this. A few months ago he asked for my (middle) sister's and my help with setting up an online dating profile and I haven't broached the topic with him since. I want to help him be happy but I'm not sure what to do. Honestly it scares me a little to think of him out on a date knowing it's probably one of the most uncomfortable things for him to do - in the way that I imagine a parent is scared for their child to go to school, maybe. Supporting my friends dating feels totally different than this situation - what can I do?", "summary": "My super introverted dad is a widower of just over a year and wants to date again; I'm not sure how to help or support him."}
{"id": "t3_520s9q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New job offer, 25% pay increase, been at current job 6 months, 3rd in two years.", "post": "As the title says i just received an offer from a company I had talked with six months ago prior to taking my current job they are offering me 25% more than I am currently making. Back then all things as they were their compensation package wasn't adequate, but I was very interested in the business.\n\nNow the long part, two years ago I was let go from my first post college job, I'm 30 now. I had worked there for almost four years, working my way up through a couple of positions. Locally they are know for their high turnover and immense work pressure, so it actually wasn't difficult for me to find work with a competitor after that. That job only lasted a year. That company was acquired by a larger company, one which many including myself were not happy about.  I began looking again and found a job that was going to be a career transition for me. Unfortunately between accepting the offer and starting the job my would be manager, the man who hired me, left to go work for a competitor. This resulted in a major shake up which saw massive changes as well as several other people following him. The job changed instantly and never became what I was seeking when I took it. Which leads to the job I am currently in. After six month of that I decided things were not going to change and I wanted out. I began looking again and an acquaintance gave my name to someone who contacted me for an interview which turned into the job I currently am. The company is a good company with good people, and I think I will be fine here. However the company that has come calling would have been my first choice at the time had they been able to offer more at the time, which now they are.\n\nGiven my work history how much of a risk is this to my work history? I don't want to be branded a job hopper should something beyond my control land me back in the job market, which i fear my history already has. But a 25% raise is a 25% raise.", "summary": "graduated college, 1st job for 4 years at high burnout company, 1 year at competitor(company then sold), nightmare job for only 6 months, 6 months into current job and received compelling offer for a company that had previously been taking to me. Is the pay bump worth the congested job history?"}
{"id": "t3_33nxtn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 f] said yes to a prom date by accident.", "post": "I just transferred to this new school 2 weeks ago after being taken out of an abusive situation with my mom. I still have a boyfriend where I lived. I had been having small conversations with this guy he offered me some cupcakes and i was like hell yea i love cupcakes then he said something along the lines of \"the condition is you have to go to prom with me\" i said \"sure out of impulse but then processed the situation and was like wait noooo. But I didn't want to say it cause how awful is it to accept a prom proposal and be whoops i actually meant to say no. What do i do? I want to remain loyal to my boyfriend and have no interest in going to prom with anybody but him.", "summary": "I accepted a prom proposal before fully listening to the question because I was focussing on eating my cupcake, i have a long distance boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2mnrk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Friend [17 F] of a few months, Going out to possible boring show. How to add more fun?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nI just want to correct myself and stress that this IS NOT a date. (I just couldn't think of a better word).\n\nI am taking a bunch of friends to a wrestling show. It's always a fun time and me and my friends really enjoy it, but this time I am taking another friend. She is really cool and nice, (but she is a popular kid and I want her to think good of me), so I want to her enjoy it...  \nBut what if it isn't her cup of tea? What if she hates it and thinks it's boring?\n\nWhat can I do to ensure this is fun, and she enjoys the night?\n\n- I am already paying for tickets, and I will probably buy snacks too.\n- Two of our mutual friends is going too, so she won't be stuck with strangers.\n\nIf you need anymore details, just ask. And thanks for any help!", "summary": "Want to impress girl (platonically) at a wrestling event."}
{"id": "t3_16d1zi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Trick your friends in to believing your pregnant!.. oorr not? Do my prank services put me at risk of being prosecuted?", "post": "Basically the title of my service states that I will \"customize a 3D ultrasound to trick your friends into believing that 'you' are PREGNANT\".\n\nThe description of my services do not state much more than that. Am I required to place a disclaimer in my prank image in order to avoid any abuse of my service or should I put a more detailed disclaimer on the service when being purchased?\n\nAny suggestions would be more than helpful. I have suspended my service until I feel comfortable providing it.", "summary": "? I was offering a prank service and was nervous about the backlash. The service has been taken offline after considering your responses. Thanks Reddit!"}
{"id": "t3_3h1k5o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke to my ex boyfriend", "post": "This happened about two minutes ago. So today I was texting my ex boyfriend and we always make really funny jokes to each other. Even though him and I are broken up he's still my best friend and we talk to each other and tend to hang out almost everyday. We recently spent a couple of weeks apart due to the fact that we both were on vacation in different locations. \n After we both returned from our trips we mostly talked about my trip due to a mistake that landed me in the hospital. I never got around to asking him about his trip. \n Today he asked me when I would be coming back to get ready for uni. I haven't told him the exact date I'm moving in as it's been a running joke among our friends to not let him find out.\nHe asked me if I needed help moving in my furniture and I said that would be great.\n I tell him that I will need help on a Tuesday (Not specifically saying which Tuesday as to keep the joke going). He responds that if it is THIS Tuesday he can't do it. \n\nAs we are close I jokingly said \"Why, you got a hot date?\"\nHe responds with \"No, it's my grandma's funeral.\" followed by \"I gotta go to soccer ttyl\"\nTurns out his grandma passed away on his trip. \n\nWhelp. I fucked up. So hard.", "summary": "I was bent over the rail and fucked without lubrication after trying to make a joke to my ex boyfriend only to find out his grandma died."}
{"id": "t3_290e9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19(m) with some questions about specific social circumstances.", "post": "This may seem like a stupid question but please bare with me. Sometimes when I talk with certain friends of mine and I look at them intently, I eventually have to look away because I am uncomfortable with making eye contact because I don't want them to know that I think they are unattractive looking. \n\nSo I have begun to notice that people also don't hold eye contact with me all the time and it got me wondering. Is that the most likely reason. I have a tendency to assume that others think the way I do and therefore I assume when others don't look me in the eyes it most likely is because I must also be unattractive.", "summary": "sometimes I am uncomfortable making eye contact with friends cause I dont want them to realize I think they are unattractive, is that MOST LIKELY the same reason why people may not make eye contact with me."}
{"id": "t3_1rc83j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My still wife [29/f] and I [30/m] are on the brink of a divorce, but we're still together; I kinda like a coworker [25-ish/f]", "post": "My wife and I (married for four years) haven't been too happy with each other lately, although I still think (and apparently so does she) that we can salvage the relationship. However, there's a coworker that travels a lot so I don't really see her on a daily basis sometimes not even a weekly basis but we communicate constantly, and I think there's something there. The reasons why I think there might be something there are not relevant to the question I have so I'll omit them for now.\n\nI haven't cheated on my wife with her (or anybody else) and I'm not planning to. BUT, if the relationship with my wife reaches a point where we're going to split for sure, how/when do I let this woman know that I'm divorced, without sounding like a creep?\n\nI'm not even sure I want to jump back into a relationship right away, but I want to be prepared in case it feels right. I also don't need to tell her that I DON'T want a relationship right away, but just kind of leaving the door open for her specifically. Does that make sense?\n\nIn general, what do women want to hear from a man they liked but was married and is now divorced and wants to be with them? What makes them feel confident that the guy is not just looking for sex after losing their sure thing at home?", "summary": "Wife [29/f] and I [30/m] are still together but may soon divorce, I like a coworker [25-ish/f] and I think she likes me back but hasn't made a move because I'm married (I can suppose). If I end up divorcing, what should I tell my coworker?"}
{"id": "t3_2dhxxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my Girlfriend [17 F] of 4 months, are about to enter into a long distance relationship as I leave for college", "post": "As I approached my senior year, I knew I didn't want to get into a serious relationship with me leaving for college in a year. I figured I would just have fun with a lot of girls, and end it when I got tired of them.  \n\nI started talking to this one girl who was a grade below me, and it was obvious she was the most beautiful girl I've ever had a relationship with.  Our first date was significantly better than the others, and I felt an immediate connection. Around 3 weeks later we became official. \n\nFor around a month I still figured this wasn't too serious and we would just have fun while we can.  However, I quickly realized I felt something I never felt with anyone else. I told her I was in love with her, and she felt the same way.  \n\nNow, four months into it, we do everything together, we have so much in common, and I can honestly say she is my best friend. We agreed to try a long distance relationship because we both can see us being together for a long time, and also she is most likely attending my college next year.  \n\nThis year, she is coming up to my college most weekends.  We will see each other at least 8 days a month.  \n\nMy question is, is it wrong of me to \"throw away\" my freshmen year of partying and hooking-up to pursue marrying this girl, or follow my heart and stay with her?", "summary": "My girlfriend who I am very much in love with and I are starting a long term relationship as I leave for college and she stays at our hometown.  Should we try it or should I fully enjoy my freshmen experience?"}
{"id": "t3_j0wlj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Attention All Providers Of Wedding Services:", "post": "To all photographers, florists, bakers, DJ's, wedding planners and everyone in between, hi.  I'm getting married in a year or so and I heard of a practice that I wanted to run by all of you.  Somewhere on the interwebs I ran across an article about a couple who was very low budget but managed to have an awesome wedding by trading services with all of their vendors.  My guy and I have some valuable skills (he's a mechanic and I can teach piano) and being budget deprived ourselves wanted to give this a go.  But before we do I would love to hear if you would be insulted or annoyed if someone tried this with you.  Would you consider making a deal?  Or would you just tell the couple to sod off?  Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Would you trade a service for your service?"}
{"id": "t3_t11y8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm having trouble figuring out how much this girl likes me. What are the clearest signs that make you think a girl wants to take the relationship to a level more than just \"friends\"?", "post": "So I've known this girl for about 2 months now, met her in college through a friend of mine. At first, we never really saw each other except for when I was hanging out with our mutual friend. But a few weeks ago we started going to lunch/dinner together on campus, going out to parties, hanging out by the waterfront etc. About a month ago we were at a party and I (I'm quite timid) asked her if she wanted to kiss. She said no, saying that I was too drunk (which I was). Then about 2 weeks ago, we were at another party. We were dancing together as usually but I went to sit down, and she comes over to me and sits on my knee. She gives me this look and so I look up at her and this time she asks me if I want to kiss, which I quite wanted to! We made out for a little bit and then got up and continued dancing and that was about as intimate as it got that night.\n\nNow, this past weekend, we were at another party. Once again, we were dancing but this time she goes ahead w/o asking and makes a move, we make out for a bit. She then proceeds to tell me she's bad in relationships and just wants to be friends. I tell her that it's fine and so we stop but only 2 minutes later she turns back to me and we make out again, for an even longer period. That's about as intimate as it's gotten.\n\nNeedless to say after all this I'm a little confused as to what she wants. Even when we're not partying she tends to be very physical and always wants to hang on to my arm and stuff. Lots of people ask us if we're together but she always says \"no, he's just my best friend\". \n\nSo yeah. I'm a little confused to say the least. I definitely think we're good friends and all, and obviously through her words she seems to be hinting that she just wants to be friends. But her actions also seem to say otherwise.", "summary": "Girl that I'm friends with is giving me mixed messages and I'm not sure how to react"}
{"id": "t3_nwamh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any natural remedies for chronic dry eyes?", "post": "For the past 4-5 years I have had problems with dry eyes, and they've progressively gotten worse as of recently (the last year or so).  I've pretty much given up wearing contacts because it feels like kittens are licking my corneas every time I blink.\n\nI saw the doctor about it and she didn't have much advice other than \"drink more water and less caffeine, blink more, don't stare at a computer screen all day.\"  As a student, I can really only afford to blink more, but I have cut back on caffeine and drink more water (~64oz/day).  She also gave me a prescription for Restasis, but I can't exactly afford $200 eye drops (and drugs aren't always the answer, IMO).\n\nI saw an article a while back on benefits of fish oil and flaxseed for dry eyes, so I've been taking 800mg of each per day, but haven't seen much of a difference (although, if I go without it for a couple days, I can tell a slight difference).  Nothing seems to work, so Reddit, lend me your infinite wisdom!", "summary": "Dry eyes are a bitch, what's a poor college student to do?"}
{"id": "t3_h9vf2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worst attempt at an analogy you've ever encountered?", "post": "I was arguing with a co-worker about Job Discrimination.  Her defense of discrimination being OK was that people similar to each other get along better and work better. \n\nAlthough I agree if you are too be hired you should be able to fit in with a team/group/environment but she was stating race/age/etc... were apart of this \"being able to fit in\" which is, guess what, DISCRIMINATION!\n\nI was appalled by her ignorance and attacked her position vehemently.\n\nHer response: \"So you're going to get all mad if you get a bag of M&M's and there isn't a blue one in there?\"\n\nHer inability to not comprehend the weight of the issue is really quite depressing.  I stopped the conversation right there. \n\nI am curious what other people have encountered.", "summary": "Co-worker compared discrimination to a bag of M&M's"}
{"id": "t3_25st7z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Big break-up tomorrow. I'm [F,21] going to end it with my SO [M,30], and knowing is hard.", "post": "We have only been together for about a year,  and in this time we've always had problems. Last couple of months, all we seem to do is fight, makeup, sometimes have makeup sex, and then he leaves. I've known for a while now, maybe even from the start, that we were never going to end up together. We're to different. Politically, the way we treat our friends, lifestyle, etc. On top of that, he really misses anal, and I hate it, which makes me feel insecure. \n\nThis is only a small part of the problems we have, but reason enough to break it off I think. This will happen tomorrow. He knows it will happen tomorrow. We just didn't want to do any of it online. Now he is nauseous, lying in bed in his own apartment, and I'm sitting here, incredibly nervous. \n\nI know it is the right thing to do, but I have tried it before. That ended up in meeting up later in a bar, getting drunk, having a great conversation about nothing, and finally the best sex we've ever had. I'm afraid I won't be able to go through with it. When he actually pays attention to me, actually looks at me, really talks with me, he is just so amazing. That's the guy I fell in love with. The funny and smart partyanimal, who adored me once he got to know me. The guy who can look at me with s much joy in his eyes. The guy who confidently makes freaking yo mama jokes in hard situations. I love that guy, but I never see him anymore, and I can't take it. But if he'll act like that tomorrow, I will surely fall into his arms, thinking that it will be different this time and who cares about the future. \n\nI honestly don't know what will happen. I only know that the past 6 months were often awful, and that we will break up one day. It's just to obvious that we don't work. But that goddamned honey trap of understanding and blue eyes is going to kill me.", "summary": "I lose all reason and willpower when he smiles at me"}
{"id": "t3_4sxv5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M/27] of 7 years isn't supportive of my [F/25] job choice, even though he knows I'm doing it for my own well being?", "post": "I'll try to make it as short as possible, but I had a job as a computer tech making decent money. It was a good job, but I was in need of a little more in order to pay for college courses and help with my mom's medical bills. My manager was unable to give me higher pay. So I ended up leaving my job for an office job as a receptionist.\n\nEveryone in that office was terrible to me, it didn't matter how nice I was. The coworkers there always tried finding ways of belittling me, and the manager and owner were constantly mad over things that were out of my control since I was just a receptionist. Everyday I woke up nauseated and dreading the work place, I even fell into a depression. \n\nI stayed at this job for several months until one of the managers called me and asked if he can make me an offer to come back. The pay would be pretty much the same as this office job. I was so happy I took it in a heartbeat! My family and friends were supportive since they knew the desk job wasn't right for me. But the one I love, he isn't supportive at all. He got a little upset with me over this and kept asking why can't I find a job elsewhere. I told him because no other place would give me this pay. He's upset that I'm starting again in a couple days with my old job and just doesn't wanna talk about it. I've told him that I need to do what makes me happy too. He just hates the idea of me working at this place, and he knows it's in technology which is the field I love and I'm talented in. What's your advice? What else can I say to him at this point? Or do you guys fee that he has a valid argument? He isn't giving me reasons, he just doesn't want me back at my old job. \n\nThank you all for your time.", "summary": "I got hired back at my old job for higher pay because my new job was making me depressed. Everyone except my boyfriend are supportive of me. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3gqh29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 F] with my husband [40 M] married 15 years, but there's another woman - not sexually at least", "post": "Husband is and always has been mostly friends with females. While this doesn't bother me or hasn't bothered me, it has more so over the past couple of years. Husband had some online, very intimate relationships with some females and marriage almost ended. \n\nWe continue to work on marriage, he says he has stopped, but he does have a female friend we'll call it a bff that he talks to continuously. All day, all night. \n\nThey have been friends since before he and I even dated, friendship was very casual up until about 3 years ago. It didn't bother me as much then, but then when we went through some very rocky times that's when it started to really bother me.\n\nHe feels that there is nothing wrong with him being friends with her or any females for that matter. He talks to her about very personal things that I feel he should only be sharing with me.\n\nI'm trying very, very hard to just let it go and not consume me with such pain and emotion but I don't know how to. I dont' feel that there is anything romantic or physical to their friendship but I also don't know why he feels he can't share those things with me.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3872pe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining over $100 worth of merchandise at work because I'm jumpy", "post": "I made a throwaway because too many coworkers reddit and I don't want my username out there. \n\nAnyway, it's inventory night at my grocery store job, celebrate! Inventory is boring, but not that bad. Pretty much everyone comes to hang out for a few hours and count shit. We wear pajamas and there's free food. It's fun.\n\nMy inventory job is usually weighing herbs. Fun, easy, whatever. But our store manager, on this particular night, decides that inventory is the perfect time for a fire drill, because most of the staff is present. He doesn't actually do any counting, and probably didn't think that some people are working with glass jars (and in the case of the kitchen, big knives).\n\nThe insanely loud alarm goes off right as I'm weighing an enormous glass jar of $100.00ish per pound herb blend. Which is now all over the floor. Because I hate loud noises. \n\nAt least I still have a job. But bye, easy, fun inventory assignment :(", "summary": "dropped insanely expensive product in a glass jar during fire drill. It's now in the garbage. Not technically my fault so I still work there, but annoying for that department."}
{"id": "t3_20i5yu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unrequited love: how do you cope?", "post": "After you open up those floodgates of emotion and finally tell your SO (or whomever it may be) that you love them, what do you do when that love is not returned?  \n\nI [26F] recently told my SO [27M] of eight months I loved him while we were lying in bed together. He didn't say it back, just held me tighter. A day or so later I probed a little, and he admitted that he doesn't think he does, and doesn't want to say it without meaning it. I thought fair enough.  \n\nBut now, the more I think about his lack of reciprocation, the more torn up I feel inside. I'm not sure what to do/think/feel. It's a bit (read: VERY) confusing to me. I would have thought that by eight months in, you either do or you don't, but whichever it is, you *know*.  \nI am too emotionally invested in him to call it quits immediately, even if that might be for the best.", "summary": "In love with my SO but he doesn't reciprocate. How would you deal with this kind of thing?"}
{"id": "t3_1i3dme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28/M] I have been talking to someone recently [25/F] and things seem to be going well, but when is a good time to bring up my past?", "post": "Let me explain what I meany by my past. As a child I was emotionally abused starting at the age of 10 and ending when at the age of 16 but those years still take a toll on me. I'm not afraid of people at all but it's very hard for me to become emotionally attached to people because of this. I'm still very self conscious about myself but I don't let it show and I have a very hard time trusting people right away. In no way am I sad or bitter though because I tend to have an upbeat attitude and am a very outgoing, optimistic individual.\n\nI've had relationships before but more than not I was treated like garbage in those relationships, especially my last one when my ex would sometimes physically strike me as well as well as continue saying things like \"you know you can't leave me since no one else will ever love you.\" I always told as a kid that I was worthless and useless and that no one could love me anyways so I just assumed this was all normal.\n\nIt's been about 3 years since that and I still feel the toll it's taken on me but I've been talking to this woman recently for nearly a month and things seem to be getting pretty serious between us. She's cute, sweet, funny.. she's pretty much everything I'm not used to. And that's what's killing me. It's really, really hard for me to get emotionally attached to her because of my past and that's definitely not fair to her because she's treated me so well. I wish I could say I was joking when I say this is the first time I've actually been treated this way but it really is.\n\nShe knows nothing of my past at all because I didn't want to reveal anything that might scare her off. When would be a good time to sit her down and talk to her about everything I've been through and how it might be hard for me, at least at first, to become emotionally attached and how it might take time?", "summary": "Emotionally abused as a child, I had horrible past relationships, I've found a woman who treats me right and want to know when I should explain to her about my past."}
{"id": "t3_2rdxtg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Boyfriend [20 M] of one year, do not want to be insecure anymore", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. We get along really well and are pretty communicative with each other. However, I tend to get into mood swings where I feel insecure. \n\nFor example, there have been a couple of girls at his work that tend to make me feel insecure. He tells me that one girl wanted to be his groupie (was in a band) and would be flirtatious with him. This has made me feel insecure but I believe I have gotten through it. Another example happened recently. This is the girl who has made me the most worried. He has gotten close to her and even says he is comfortable around her. This is not common for me, because he is rarely comfortable around people and if he is, then they are important people in his life (i.e. myself and his best friend). That has made me overthink their relationship. He also told me she has asked about his porn viewing, which I thought was inappropriate. \n\nHe does not understand why this worries me. It is frustrating him. I want to trust him when he says that he does not want these girls. It is hard for me though. I grew up watching a marriage fall apart due to several indiscretions that include my dad and his co-workers. I do not want my relationship to follow the same route. It was very ugly. \n\nI do not want to blow this out of proportion. I do not want to be insecure about this anymore. Thank you for your help.", "summary": "am insecure about bf's work relationships, how do i stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1nbbns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my [18 F] duration 2 years, i cant stop lieing and she has no trust.", "post": "i've been going out with this girl for two years and we just broke up because i cant stop lying she cant trust me anymore and hates me is there anything i could do to get the trust back?\n\nRight so the girl she hates liars she hates nothing more than liars and this dosnt help the situation i am in now the lies ive told there not big lies ive never cheated on her, never would i think of doing that the first one was that i was out and i said i was in my house so she phoned and there was no one there to pick up and eventually she found out i was at the skate park the second time i lied was on a pinky swear now she treats the pinky swear like a religion so she looked at my history and seen i was on porn and she didn't like it so she made me pinky swear her that i wouldn't go on it again maybe like a week later she looked at my history and then seen i was on porn agian we almost split up because of this she wasn't bothered about the lie she was more bother about the fact that i pinky swore that i wouldn't do it again.\n\nA week later me and my friends decided to go for no fap for a month so we were all going strong but my friends kept saying i was at an advantage because i had a gf. So i told her that i was doing this no fap challenge and then she was very surprised that i would take this challenge and she seemed quite happy that i was doing it i don't think she liked me fapping, so i was going two weeks strong and then i fapped and then the next day she asked me if i had and i said no and pinky promised i never and last night she was up and looked at my history and of course seen porn i had fapped so she got really mad and said she couldn't trust me because i lie to much and i lie Evan when we pinky promise and that's what hurt her the most and yeah she said we are done and left this morning and hasn't talked to me since.", "summary": "Lied to much girl broke up with me"}
{"id": "t3_2hao6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First date went well... What should I [21M] do now?", "post": "As the title says, I [21M] went on a first date with a [20F]... I won't bore you with the deatils of how we met, etc. but the first date went really well. She told me before the date she was really shy which she was at first but she opened up and she just kept talking by the end of the date! \n\nWe wanted something light and quick since we're both pretty busy people. We went for ice cream and ended up closing the place down and talked for more than three hours. \n\nWe texted up to the date and after as well. We have been talking nonstop ever since. So my question is, should I ask for a more formal date like dinner and something to do after?", "summary": "Went on first date that went really well and not sure where to take it now. Ask for date number two??"}
{"id": "t3_3d52xo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [37F] wheelchair-user let people know I'm single and looking? Walking people don't see me as a potential partner.", "post": "I, 37f, identify as pansexual (personality/intellectual compatibility more important than gender). I've been described as intelligent, funny, witty, sarcastic, weird and nerdy. I've only had a handful of dates and no sex. I've suffered from unrequited crushes and wasn't attracted to the people who were attracted to me.\n\nI fooled around in the early 2000s with a guy from Match and recently (last fall) went on on some friend/coffee dates with a guy from Tinder.\n\nI've asked friends to set me up, to no avail. I am active in my church. I have a master's degree and two jobs.\n\nI believe walking people don't see me as a potential partner because I use a wheelchair. How do I let people know that I am a sexual/romantic person?\n\nPlease don't just say \"just be yourself\" or \"love yourself\" or \"the right one will come\" I am being myself and working on confidence.", "summary": "educated, employed active, wheelchair-using F wonders how to get walking people to see her as a potential lover."}
{"id": "t3_4e1k81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (30M) made inappropriate comment about ex after we had sex. What should I (24F) do?", "post": "I'm gonna try to keep this short... Basically, we had sex last night. It was good, I didn't have an orgasm (with him, I have them about 70% of the time), but I enjoyed myself. \n\nWell, after we finished, we laid down to cuddle. I told him smth along the lines of, \"oh, babe, why are you so good?\" as I was snuggling up to him. I said this because, yeah, it is true, and I think it's nice to make sure he knows I appreciate him. He then says, \"idk, that's what the other one said too.\" This throws me off. I ask, \"what other one?\" To which he says, \"you know...\"\n\nWell, I don't know lol, not for sure at least. But, I can only assume he's talking about one of his exes because, after I got upset and unwrapped myself from him, he didn't say anything. I figure that if it was a bad joke, he would've at least said that it was, so I would understand.\n\nHe went to sleep pretty quickly after that and I went home. We didn't really have any resolution, but this morning he texted me \"good morning, sorry about last night.\"\n\nI really don't even know what to say and I wonder if I'm overreacting by still being bothered by it. Or, hell, maybe I'm underreacting. \n\nWhat should I do here, Reddit? We've been together for two years, but I'm over here doubting myself and wondering why the hell an ex gf would be on his mind after we had sex. His comment was just so stupid and inappropriate.", "summary": "Boyfriend made comment that his ex (?) said he was good in bed too during our after-sex cuddling. He apologized this morning, but I really don't know what the hell to say or do. He really threw me for a loop. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3kigp7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not turning my volume down/taking off my headphones.", "post": "So I was taking an online hearing test just a few minutes ago out of curiosity and for the best results, headphones are required preferably at top volume. No biggie; take the test and turns out my hearing is perfectly fine. Afterwards, without thinking about it, I switched back to my other tab where music is blaring and immediately jumped, threw my headphones out of my ears, and turned the volume down. Jokingly, I tell myself i should retake that test again and forget to turn my volume back up.\n\nI thought I had deafened myself for an agonizing few seconds.", "summary": "Scared the shit out of myself twice"}
{"id": "t3_23s1bs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] friend [25M] has an attitude problem and I can't figure out how to break it to him.", "post": "I've known this guy we'll call Dave for probably six years now and he's been one of my closest friends for the past two years. He's had a rough time lately, due to losing his gf of a few years from her cheating on him and several other issues have just made him down in the dumps and extremely depressed over the past year.\n\nWe decided to go into leading a MMO guild together around August of last year and it kind of exploded into a lot of members. Everything was going fine for the first month or two but we started losing members because people couldn't stand Dave's attitude, my own boyfriend included. He gets very worked up over things and can be abrasive a lot of the time when we're in the middle of activities. In general, the attitude when we play together is not happy and there is a lot of tension that builds up. I put up with it for a long time because it didn't bother me as much as it did other people but I'm in the situation now where the group is falling apart due to the way he acts. And he cannot see it at all. \n\nWe have almost an entire group of people refusing to play with him now and if he enters the group, arguments start. But he still can't see the issue. I tried being honest with him a week and a half ago that a lot of the group just cannot stand his attitude and the way he acts. He seemed to take it to heart at the time but its a week and a half later and its still the same. I can't figure out how to be nice but be honest with him about the general opinion of him, and say that I have that opinion too without losing him as a friend.", "summary": "I have a ragey friend that refuses to see his attitude as an issue. I can't figure out how to tell him without it causing an unmendable rift between him and I."}
{"id": "t3_1s36xy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey guys, money problems have revealed the worst in my SO.", "post": "Hey guys, I'll give you some backstory so you get why I am not so sure about this scenario. I've been working the past 4 years at a very financially successful career but I'm ungodly unhappy. I work roughly 65-70 hours a week doing something I hate. I hate my job more than you could possibly understand so I'm switching careers. Problem is this job makes MUCH less money and I am currently in school and damn near broke. My savings were mostly spent on school and I went in to it with the understanding (very clear from him) my husband would carry me through financially (again he made this very clear). \n\nI paid for almost everything for him for 4 years leading up to this point, food, insurance, rent, his college degree and even going out to eat/drink 2-3 times a week. He has a pretty successful career pulling in about $60k and has over 18K in savings. Not as well as what I was doing but we made this choice so we could have kids. With my work schedule I would have never been able to maintain both a family and my career. We both chose family and it may be our downfall. \n\nThe issue is any time I ask him to pay rent or do anything he groans and makes it seem like my fault. He hasn't been paying for much for long and it seems like he hates me for it. He's always been a bit guarded about his money but very open with mine...It really makes me feel like shit honestly. We've always been very open and caring with one another but now I just want to kick myself for being so dumb. \n\nWhat the hell do I do? Did I fuck up my career and my relationship or is this somehow manageable? I know this is a bit short to get full details but I'll be open with everything I can.\n\nSORRY", "summary": "Husband and I agreed to family>career. It's starting to deteriorate due to money issues."}
{"id": "t3_49a8vt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (16m) was about to ask a friend (16f) out during a shared scheduled event, found out at said event that she wasn't coming because she was going on a date, need to talk to faceless people about this petty teen relationship stuff", "post": "So we've been pretty good friends for a year but recently have really been getting along so I decided to get my balls out of my ass and ask her on a date, as in the title she wasn't there but was on a date.  I feel like she was getting more distant as time went on so she may have expected me to ask her out earlier (but at the time I highly doubted she would like me).  Any advice would be welcome, and yeah this is partially a rant but I do want to hear random internet people's advice.", "summary": "made it past the level, princess was in another castle, wat doo?"}
{"id": "t3_si5zi", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat alarm clocks!", "post": "I am curious if anyone else has these type of experiences. First off, I have three cats...two females and one male. All three of them are such mama's girls and boy. On the weekend, my bf and I like to sleep in because we get up early during the week. At around 8:00am, my male cat will jump onto the bed, right into my face and start to sniff my eyes and my face. If I don't respond to this, he will proceed to put his paw on my nose. Once I open my eyes, he looks at me then reaches his paw out again.  He will keep doing this until I get out of bed and feed them. My oldest cat, she is my baby, knows when it turns 5:00pm on the weekends. She will start meowing at us. She will also run towards the food whenever one of us gets off of the couch. Again, I am curious if anyone else has silly cat alarm stories.", "summary": "My cats know what time it is, better than clocks."}
{"id": "t3_1qp5w4", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need some networking advice... overambitious?", "post": "Hi everyone, so I'm a first year at a large company with many different divisions. I'm currently trying to lateral into a different division and have met with a person who did a similar switch. He said he would ask his manager... which he did and then said they were currently working on winning some engagements and that they may have a need in the future. This was 2 weeks ago.\n\nFast forward to yesterday... met another two guys in the group at a random after-work event and they offered to meet with me and talk more about the group and everything. The first guy introduced me to them.\n\nI also reached out to an alumni from my school doing similar work at a different firm (not trying to move, just informational), and he said he was good friends with the head of the group at my firm and would be happy to introduce me via email. I said that would be great, but I'm hesitant.\n\nI'm worried that I'm coming across as trying too hard now. The only people I reached out to are the first guy for coffee and then the alumn, but I feel like meeting with too many people in the group and expressing an interest is being overambitious (even though I never even asked to get coffee/be introduced, except for the first guy).\n\nShould I proceed with the meet-up with the head of the group?\n\nAdvice appreciated.", "summary": "worried that I would come across as trying too hard for networking with too many people within a smallish group. (25 people)"}
{"id": "t3_1zooge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [22F] 1.5 yrs, long-distance for next few months, want to do cute things for her. ideas?", "post": "So I know, I know. Cute things have to be thought up on your own. I've got a lot of them, trust me. But I wanted to know, what does everyone here do when they're in an LDR? It's getting to be spring semester, it's gonna be rough on everyone, and I want to make sure she knows I love her.\nSo far, the list of ideas/things we do consists of (some will be missing, cause I have a horrible memory)\n\nSkype dates, \nhandwritten letters, \nthe florist knows her address by heart, \ntakeout ordered to her room when she's had a horrid day, \ntexting her pictures of the dog, \ncalling her at night before bed, \nsnapchat, \ntalking about her class, homework/analyzing her readings together, \nmy day at work/discussing my school, \ndiscussing theology, \nsexting, \nlooking at sex toys we want to invest in eventually, \ndiscussing our opinions on apartment decorating/location, \ndog training, \njudging peoples' outfits via snapchat and text. \n\nI'm debating getting her a grazebox subscription, recently picked up a Creative Cloud subscription for us to share, and other than that am kinda out of ideas. She's a super high achiever and stressing herself out left and right atm. We're working on healthy stress management/positive reenforcement/self-talk strategies, too, because her standards are exhausting. So hopefully over some time that will help her stress levels.", "summary": "LDR for senior semester. GF of 1.5 years, love her to death. Want to help keep her sane/happy/feeling loved. Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2n3ip0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/15] have a crush on a classmate [F/15] and not sure what to do.", "post": "I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now(We'll call her Anne, because that's her real name) but I am only recently starting to want a make a move. As a teenager I obviously have no experience talking to women much less people as I don't exactly have a way with words.\n\nThe girl in question is in 3 of my classes and we don't usually talk, nor do we sit close enough to start a conversation. In the halls she usually goes the opposite of my way getting to class and never goes to her locker, instead just class to class, followed by her friends, so I can never get her alone. Even when we walk across each other I freeze up and can never say anything, or even look at her, which is mostly my fault and I'm trying to fix that.\n\nHowever, we do have play practice together but, again, she is surrounded by friends and we have no parts together (unless its dancing with the entire cast).\n\nBasically, how can I start a conversation with this girl? I'd like to get to know her better, even if it takes baby steps. I know this is probably teenage problems but I can't ask my parents since they will (and have) belittle me about it. I'm comfortable talking to girl friends but initiating conversation with a girl I'm interested in and can never have time to talk during class is a whole other thing.\n\nI'm willing to share more information if more is needed.", "summary": "I'm into a girl, but can never get her alone except early in the morning for about 3 minutes. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1x2db5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16F) have a past in self harm.. How to break it to my boyfriend? (19M)", "post": "First time poster here. \nSo.. Today I went swimming at a mates with my boyfriend. We've been together for about a month and so far he's got the idea that I've had a bit of a shitty past, but I haven't told him about my previous self harm issues. This is a really nerve racking thing to talk about and the need to tell him is there,  but I don't know how or when to start talking about it. I don't want to scare him off! Anyway, we went swimming and I'm fairly certain it was hard to miss any scars I've been trying to hide. I wouldn't be surprised if he's already seen them, and that does nothing but heighten the anxiety of admitting it. Its taken so long to work up the courage to go out into public without pants or stockings on, which ive only done thrice so far, and the last thing I want is to make him uncomfortable. How do I achieve this Reddit? D:", "summary": "had bad past, need to tell bf about past self harm issues, but nervous. how the fuck do I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_3qj6rg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just rub it in my face I was wrong about my friend.", "post": "No one is really rubbing it in my face they just feel bad for me that he did this.  They wanted things to work out for me, but they know my bad luck streak in never getting treated right even though my friends say I'm a great woman and anyone would be lucky to have me.  My friends are crying for me what did we do to deserve this while we see people who don't deserve to be in happy relationships are in one.\n\nI defended my long time guy friend and everyone else was right he isn't who I thought \"he\" was.\n\nI always hated when people would bad mouth my friend. I would tell them he isn't like that he is a good guy.  I'm not crawling back to my old hometown just to tell everyone that they were right he didn't ask me out, we're not together, in fact he's not talking to me.\n\nI'm still going to stay in my new town because there's much more people to meet. \n\nI shudder to think if he is actually hooking up with other people after he has been with me -- someone who he has longed for all his life.\n\nIf anyone wants to say what a douche bag my friend is go ahead. I'm not going to stop anyone anymore. I'm done defending him.", "summary": "Why can't I ever get what I truly desire and I always work so hard for it! I stayed single never married because I had a feeling I'd meet my far away Internet friend by fate one day."}
{"id": "t3_x18d5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "College studen seeking career advice regarding International Business. Is it a good career to major in?", "post": "Hi. So i was recently thinking of switching majors to Business and specializing in International Business, and before i do i wanted to get some opinions on the matter. I googled the question online on yahoo answers and i got vague answers on IB being a good/bad major. So if anyone could give me some insight on the matter id appreciate it. If you could answer why IB is or isnt a good career choice. Also if there are any IB majors out there id LOVE to hear where you are now in life and what are some good careers a future IB graduate like myself has out in the world.", "summary": "is international business a good major to major in. If so why? Is it easy to find a job as a newly graduated student? Also if there any IB majors out there, explain your experiences as a IB major"}
{"id": "t3_10atr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The most creative ways to make money on the road? AKA How to be a successful bum.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm a senior in college thinking about traveling abroad next year after I graduate. My plan was to spend some time in Europe with the money I already have (maybe around 5 grand?) by buying a used camper van with two of my buddies, and then try to make more money to continue traveling or join a volunteer program somewhere. I've had my parents backing me through college, and I want to find a way to travel without relying on their support (though much appreciated in the past). After some research, I've found volunteer programs like WWOOF (Worldwide Opportunities on Organic Farms) and others. I'll probably do one or two of those on my travels, but I think I'm actually more interested in ways to make actual money. Another problem, I don't really have any special skills. I mean I can play the viola and piano pretty decently, and I've fenced for many years. But let's just say I'm looking for ideas that don't require years of practice. Stories about good experiences in volunteer programs welcome too!", "summary": "Best ways to make money while traveling if you're completely unskilled?"}
{"id": "t3_3x45cf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Going on Vacation", "post": "So I finished grad school this semester and went to Alabama to walk in my graduation ceremony this past weekend. Before I left town on Thursday night, I notified my co-workers, put my out of office, posted the PTO on the schedule board, etc. Basically, everyone in the office knew I was gone, where I was and when I would be back. Simple right?\n\nWell, my boss, who will no longer be my boss in a few weeks due to relocation, who I have had multiple issues with in the past (as have many other people who have worked under him), took it upon himself to notify HR that I had quit, was not coming back and gave him no resignation. HR tried to call my phone while I was out of town, at apparently the perfect time that I would be in a no coverage area so my phone would say \"this phone is temporarily unavailable\". HR then figured that since my phone was not working, that I had changed my number and was not coming back.\n\nLo and behold, I come in the office this morning, all accesses have been locked, the HR person has no idea why I am in the office, my boss will not see me and I am stuck in limbo currently trying to figure out whether or not I have a job.", "summary": "I went on vacation, boss tried to get rid of me, am waiting on HR."}
{"id": "t3_354xr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wondering how I [23 M] can deal with my girlfriends [19 F] issues with depression.", "post": "So my girlfriend suffers from depression and another mental health disorder. We have been dating now for just over three months and I have always been accomodating and understanding when her mood drops or she gets in a funk.\n\nLately it has been really hard, and I feel as if it is affecting me. It hurts a lot more now when she shys away from emotional or physical things from me. I know it isn't directly her fault, it's just growing harder to have to reassure myself of that. I'm just starting to feel a bit inadequate in the relationship.\n\nI pretty much just want to know what everyone here has done to help keep your own chin up when in a relationship with someone dealing with depression.", "summary": "Just looking for how you cope with a depressed partner"}
{"id": "t3_19t5eq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I become a better uncle?", "post": "my niece is 6 years old, turning 7 this year. Her parents are divorced, with her mother (my sister) working a full time job to support my household. ( I live with my mom, who is retired, and my father doesn't live in my household)\n\nI basically spend a lot of time with her. I take her to karate, swimming, play cards or board games with her, and I help her with all her homework. I'm basically the daycare 4 days of the week. She is often very hyper, getting the most fun out of playtime by farting with her mouth, screaming loud noises, and jumping over the sofa. Basically all the things I did when I was a kid.\n\nI just don't find it appealing anymore though. I can hardly stand being around her for too long before getting frustrated with her. I feel bad because she doesn't have many friends to play with, but at the same time I really don't enjoy her company. Don't get me wrong, my niece is a good hearted child, it's just I don't like having her around when she is always hyper.\n\nHow do I become a better uncle? Am I wrong and self fish for not wanting to be her friend? I know i'm not her biological father, but what can I do to prevent her from being pregnant at 14 or mixing with the wrong crowd?", "summary": "how do I become a better uncle for my 6 year old niece."}
{"id": "t3_jhmh2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: what's the most enraging thing a girl has ever done to you?", "post": "I'll start, \n\nSo I met this cute girl and I started to like her and she was flirting with me back. So a few weeks later, she had to move into a new apartment and said she wanted my help. So we went out and rented the U-Haul together and loaded it up and moved into her new apartment. The whole time she was flirting with me. After we are all done, this guy walks in, says \"hey honey\", gives her a kiss, looks at me, and says \"great job, kid\". Then she says to me, \"hey, I think its about time for you to go.\" Never heard from her again. Called her number, but realized it only had 6 digits. FFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU", "summary": "Girl flirts with me to help her move so her lazy ass boyfriend doesnt have to do it."}
{"id": "t3_5394yj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] had a woman ive been sleeping with [24 f] for 3 months call me a fucking loser over text last night. She apologized and claims she was drunk, but I feel like I should drop her. Should I?", "post": "like the tile says, I have been seeing a woman I used to work with for about 3 months. I had told her I had feelings for her  previously, and we have been kind of casually dating while sleeping together, but it has been decidedly slow and casual from her preferences.\n\nI got a text from her last night when I knew she would be drinking with some of her girlfriends she is a bridesmaid for. Her calling me a loser even when she is drunk kind of destroys my romantic feelings for her, at the very least. I don't want someone who I'm potentially interested in thinking I'm a fucking loser, even when she's drunk\n\nI don't know how much slack to give this lady. I haven't responded yet, she apologized this morning like I said, but my instinct is that I should drop her for not respecting me. What do you guys think?", "summary": "woman I've been sleeping with/casually dating called me a loser over text, should I forgive her because she was drunk?"}
{"id": "t3_2jh4ga", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Returning to work...need life advice.", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI'll try to be brief but explanatory about my situation. I had a job for almost exactly 13 years. I started in my mid 20's. It was in a retail oriented business. I have never had a passion about any of my jobs but I have always worked beyond hard and excelled in my duties. I eventually became an  assistant manager around my fifth year. I did it mainly for the money and because I had the skills but I hate having to manage people. I am the type of person who expects people to just be adults and do their jobs without having to be told to. \n\nAnyways, I excelled at my job, most of my team members were friends and we all worked well together, and I was always being considered for center manager. i always declined because i knew i would burn out faster than I was already. The company went downhill for awhile and i mainly stayed for the money, the people I worked with and by that time i was on autopilot as far as getting the job done. \nSo, fast forward to last year some things happened between me, my center manager and a couple terrible coworkers. The end result was center manager fired and me being to forced transfer to another center due to the lies of the two coworkers who quit immediately after the results they got. I was totally soured on the job after that so I put in my two weeks. I had some money saved up so I haven't really looked until know. But with the money dwindling down and the bills still coming in I need to get back into it.", "summary": "Quit my job of 13 years  1.5 years ago and need any and all advice of getting back to it."}
{"id": "t3_1np359", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of a year and a half, we are going through a weird stage and I need an advice", "post": "Hello reddit, it's been two weeks since my relationship \"fell apart\". Here's the thing: We've known each other for three years now and we've been a couple year and a half, we have an amazing relationship, we try to never lie to eachother, we ate together, worked together, it was almost like living in the same house.\n\n Her family loved me and so did mine. She always was searching me, telling me she loved a lot, hugging me; however, a few months (3) ago she started acting odd (gradually)... She was acting distant, some times avoiding my kisses, being a little agressive towards me, and other times she was normal.\n\n I noticed this so I talked to her, she started crying saying that she doesn't know what was happening to her, she said that she needed some space to understand what was happening to her but that she just loved me too much and that she did not wanted to hurt me and raise walls in front of us.\n\n This crushed me, I went to see a therapist to keep me stable, she said (the therapist) that I could probably be giving her too much (Which I did). \n\nI must admit that she was taking me for granted. The next day I talked to my girl... We agreed to be separeted for a while (I gave her until december) for her to decide what she wanted to do.\n\n In this two weeks I have rebuilt my lost friendships and keeping my mind in other things to avoid depression, and yes, I want to get back together, she has changed my life.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are taking a brake, I want to get back with her and need some advice of how to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_30bo71", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20/f)Really needing advice about my boyfriend's (18/m)lack of communication", "post": "To start out- I'm using a throwaway to prevent people I know from noticing a request for relationship advice.\n Secondly, I know how quick many redditors on here are to suggesting a breakup. That is not on the table for me, I am asking for tools to repair and enhance the relationship car, not advice on how to total it and find a new one.\nAlso, please do not make the mistake of using our age as a fit reason why this is not a genuine problem. It would insult my emotional intelligence, and I hope for open minded advice.  I recently graduated from the same High School that he is currently a Juniour in.\n\nWe've been dating for three years now, and are eachother's best friends. We enjoy many of the same things, yet our opposite personalities compliment eachother quite often, and in most ways. I am sensitive and feeling, excitable, and perceptive to when something is bothering him. He is reserved, calm, and I suppose, \"logical.\" My Boyfriend is basically a Vulcan.\nHe *never* shares his feelings about a problem, like ever. I can sense when he's preoccupied by a problem, and whether or not I inquire, or leave him alone to have space about that sense, he never opens up to share it with me. \nUnless it's something trivial, like \"I don't like the smell of that Febreeze.\"\n\nI have told him, when we have argued in the past, that I really need him to open up to me more, if he at all can. Because while I understand that people are different, and don't like to share on every topic, it can definitely be said that cramming every thought and emotion into a bottle is unhealthy. It reduces me to tears to think about how there's problems trapped in his mind that he has not even considered bouncing off of me.\nBefore anybody asks, no, I have not ever acted in such a way to make him not trust my reactions to his innermost thoughts, were he to try and open up to me once.", "summary": "Boyfriend keeps emotions and thoughts locked up, I want to be a comfort to him, and to help him realise that sometimes, talking *can* be a good way to solve a problem or reduce his anxiety."}
{"id": "t3_31wein", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22F] boyfriend [22M] flirts with close friend", "post": "I [22F] have been dating my boyfriend [22M] for 6 months. We both have a mutual close friend, lets call her Sarah. Before dating we were all good friends with harmless flirting here and there. However, once we had stating dating, he seems to continue the flirting. In my opinion it seems to be more flirting than before we had starting seeing each other. He says that he is not aware, but I genuinely do not think that is the case as he blatantly crosses the line with her. Not only does this include texting a fair bit, calling each other and video calling each other but at even out and about. Hugging I have absolute no problem with, it's where the touching, tickling, walking extremely close behind and beside her and excessive teasing is getting to me.\n\nI have tried to ignore all signs of jealousy and go along the thinking that he is a guy, he probably is not aware of what he is doing and it will die down eventually. But, I couldn't be further from the truth. Now it has just gotten to me and it really does upset me. \n\nWe spoke about it but as he spoke to me I got the impression that he seemed annoyed and sad at the fact that I am not impressed and upset by his flirting with this girl.\n\nI don't know what to do or how to feel from now. It would be nice if you guys could help me figure out where I may be going wrong or over complicating things and how I should work around this. Thank you", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2432yd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] really don't like my SO's [22M] best (girl) friend.", "post": "Really long background between my SO and I, but we've been dating for almost 3 years now. In the past few months, we tried an open relationship that really did not work, as we both based it on lies. We are attempting to rebuild, but we are long distance which makes it much harder since we can't talk in person. \n\nHe doesn't have many friends at his school, but recently has become best friends with this girl. She seems nice enough, I've only met her a few times, but I just can't get over the feeling of not liking her. I think it is based on jealousy- they spend a lot of time together, mostly doing homework and drinking, and I never get to see him, being long distance. I also know that they hooked up twice when we were doing the open thing, which at the time truly didn't bother me, but now it does.\n\nHow can I deal with these feelings? I've told him it makes me uncomfortable that they spend so much time together, but all he's done is assure me that there is nothing to be worried about. Every time he tells me they are hanging out I obsess over it, and I'd really like to stop. I am also moving in with his this summer, so I'll have to see her a lot.", "summary": "I can't stand how much time my long distance SO spends with his best friend"}
{"id": "t3_3n66oe", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Some weird feelings", "post": "So basically I wasn't sure where to post this at all but here goes.\n\nSo I am a new student at my 4 year school. I got a 2 year degree at community college and decided I needed to go on in order to get a job that I would enjoy (or a job in general).\n\nRecently, I just have these overwhelming feelings that I'm not as good as anyone else at my school and I don't know how to take this.\n\nIn high school and my 2 year school I was never considered a genius or anything close to that but I made decent grades (3.3 GPA at my 2 year) But now I just feel like everyone and everything is moving so fast and I just can't keep up.\n\nThanks for listening!", "summary": "Transferred to 4 year school after 2 year degree and feel like I amount to nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2skx9l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my husband if he wanted clean underwear", "post": "Yesterday I had to take my husband to the ER. We got there around 4 in the afternoon and around 1 this morning he sent me home to get some sleep.\n\nReluctantly I agreed, mostly to come home to feed the cats to avoid them going cannibal, but also to fetch some things for hubs...toothbrush, clean drawers, tablet charger...you know, necessities. I get home, pack the bag, crash for a couple of hours, then get up, feed the cats, and head back to the hospital.\n\nBy now, hubs has been admitted to the hospital but because of a lack of beds, he's been in the ER for about 14 hours. He's in pain, hasn't slept more than about 5 minutes at a time, and hasn't eaten, either. So he's understandably grumpy.\n\nI hang out with him, closing the curtain and handing him the pee jar when he needs it, trying to make things even a tiny bit better for this man I adore and to whom I've committed my life.\n\nAbout another 6 hours later, a bed finally opens up so he's going to get out of the loud, bright, and tremendously busy ER and maybe get some sleep.\n\nI call his mom, who lives close by, to tell her that he finally has a room and which room it is. She says she'll be visiting soon, which is good for both her and hubs. But apparently not so good for me.\n\nAbout an hour after getting into the room, we get the news he's being discharged. We're thrilled and as I pull out my phone to call his mom, she walks in. We all chat, recap the night's drama, and after a short while, he asks if I brought him clothes to change into.\n\n\"Yep, sure did. Do you want clean manties? (what I call his underpants)\" and I grab a pair out of his bag to hand to him.\n\nHis mom gasps.\n\n\"When did you start wearing those again? Because of you I don't wear them anymore. You know, you really don't miss them after the first couple of days!\"\n\nI'm afraid I visibly shuddered.", "summary": "Husband goes to the hospital, I learn my MIL always goes commando."}
{"id": "t3_4jpd3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my Ex GF [25F], willing to fly out to save us.", "post": "Hi.\n\nMy GF and I were together for over 7 months via a long-distance relationship before meeting. We became official after meeting because it went so well.\n\nThe plan was to move and find a job in her area, but things got messed up and I unfortunately had to hold back on coming until the Fall.\n\nI ended up getting a decent job a couple months down the road to save money for us later. In this time-frame  we hung out through other ways. She became super lonely and depressed about how things were going overall. I told her don't worry, I'll be there soon (Which is still true, I have an amazing opportunity in August).\n\nI really want to make this work, but we just broke up last Thursday. I'm pretty heartbroken, but trying as much as I can to stay busy. We haven't officially talked in awhile, but I know we're an amazing fit in person and want to make this work.\n\nWhat hurts the most is if I came earlier, this breakup wouldn't have happened. Unfortunately finances were extremely tight at the time and I couldn't have came any earlier. Now, I've saved some cash and have some to come see her with. I've given her complete space since Thursday, and from her friend's perspective, I've been an amazing guy for her all the way through. They're willing to let me stay for a weekend so I can visit cost-free and talk/hang over the weekend, so I'm highly considering it. This is a stressful thing for her, but I'm willing to go leaps and bounds for this person. Either way, I was thinking Memorial Day weekend. It'd be a decent amount of time to heal (for me as well), and maybe we can patch things up. I really want this to work, and I'm willing to compromise the things that led this astray, I'm just hoping she'll accept me again.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "We broke up Thursday, mainly on the premise that she feels lonely. I'm doing all I can on my side, and finances became really tough until recently. Now I'm willing to move to her if she takes me back upon another visit."}
{"id": "t3_3tfg7x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be nice and text my Mother.", "post": "This happened about fifteen minutes ago. I live with only my Dad and he didn't wanna cook last night so he decided to get some pizza. Only instead he bought me one of those smaller sized boxes with six slices instead of eight and he got a sub. The pizza was delicious, but my body hates large amounts of cheese, so I have a terrible stomach ache when I wake up. Usually I make some coffee with a lot of sugar every morning, but combined with the shitty stomach ache I had, sounded like a terrible idea.\n\nSo I'm ready to head out for school (Senior), and my friend usually picks me up and we head to school. Well it's about 7:00 and he picks me up around 7:10-7:20. I decided to set an alarm for 7:10 for a nice short nap on the couch. I wake up at 7:25 with two missed calls, and I need to be at school in ten minutes. I text my Dad, says he's disappointed but whatever it's a mistake that you'll learn from (My Dad's pretty cool.).\n\nNow for some backstory on my Mother. My Mother and I don't talk, my parents got divorced last year and she left a month ago to live with her mother in Arizona. I live all the way in New England. While she was here it was nothing but hell for our family, so she decided to up and leave. I supported her by telling her that she should go if that's what she wants to do, though I do not agree with it at all.\n\nFast forward to today, and if you're late to school the school calls your parents. I decided to at least make some of this right and I text my Mom (We haven't talked in a month.) that she'll get a call from school, but don't worry about it. Ever since she has texted me non-stop and pretty much blowing up my phone.", "summary": "Late to School, texted my Mother for the first time in a month, she's now spamming my phone."}
{"id": "t3_3057zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's my [23f] birthday, and my family wants to do all the things - but I don't.", "post": "Okay, so this is sort of a dumb question. But anyways.\n\nIt's my birthday today and I couldn't care less. It's just another day of the week for me.\n\nMy family has always been big on parties. My parents are divorced, so it was always \"who can throw the bigger, better party for rundagger's friends\". Now that I'm out of the house, it's turned to \"who can do more with rundagger than the other parent\".\n\nI moved with my dad across the country two years ago, and all I expect from my mom is a phone call later today to tell me happy birthday. But my dad and his family (remarried) want to do all this stuff for my birthday.\n\nI have tried before telling them that I don't want to do anything. I just want to sit at their house, grill out, hang out, watch a movie and maybe eat cake. I don't want anything special.\n\nMy dad and his family threw a party for me over the weekend with all my relatives that live nearby. Okay, cool, I can dig it. It wasn't anything special, and there was no cake. Even better.\n\nYesterday I got a phone call saying that we're going out to dinner tonight, and to look nice, yada yada. Good thing I didn't have plans to sit at home and binge watch Breaking Bad with my boyfriend.\n\nMy dad then went into guilt trip mode and told me all about how he was looking for the perfect gift for me and went to eight different stores to get it. I'm not the sort of person who likes getting gifts.\n\nI'm assuming that there's going to be another get together this upcoming weekend too, disguised under 'my birthday' party. How do I get them to understand that I'm not into all these party things? I've tried explaining it to them more than once, but each year it just repeats again. Do I just suck it up and chalk it up to my family loving me?\n\n(Also, yes, this is how everyone's birthday is in my family.)", "summary": "I could care less about my birthday, but in my family's eyes it's a big deal and they want to do everything in the world to celebrate it over a week's time. How do I get them to understand this?"}
{"id": "t3_3b8wfr", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord trying to move me into a different place than I leased originally", "post": "Pennsylvania\n\nThis past spring I signed a lease (along with another 40ish guys) to move into \"our\" fraternity house (we own a minority portion of the property and have lived there since the house was built years and years ago). The lease was accepted, I paid my deposit, and I paid my rent. \n\nRecently, the landlord tried to get me to move into a different location (sent an addendum to the lease detailing it) because of his alleged concerns due to a probation-esque sanction from the past and a possible violation that would not allow us to live there. This violation will *not* cause us to be evicted as he originally thought. However, during the time that he thought we would be evicted, due to not understanding the agreement and *not* due to the local government changing their mind later, he gave leases out to new tenants. \n\nWhen we figured this out we were upset and tried to figure out what was going on, while telling the landlord that we would not sign the addendum to move into a different location. Today, I got an email from the landlord saying that the window of time to negotiate had come and gone in the spring (at that time, we didn't even know he was giving new tenants leases, moving us out, or even thought he had any concerns of eviction that would lead him to do so) and the location was rented to a different tenant. He said he \"sincerely believed\" that moving us out (to avoid the eviction, which was never going to happen) was for our own good as a fraternity, and that he has entered into a contract at the new location and considers that he is meeting his obligation to us.\n\nThe other house is owned by a different fraternity who are currently having their own issues. The rental permit for it is currently suspended and only by entering a restrictive agreement with the local government can they even rent it to *anyone*. They themselves cannot move in until 3 years from now but will undoubtedly move in immediately at that time. We also have no guarantee of any other housing, including our own house, after that time, which kinda sucks a lot for a fraternity.\n\nDo I have any way of staying in the original house?", "summary": "Signed my lease and paid my rent. Landlord said screw you I'm renting it to someone else, offers a crappy different place to live, says he fulfilled his end of the contract."}
{"id": "t3_17zezg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What weird/fucked up/ silly dreams have you had that you actually remembered?", "post": "I was recently shaken awake by a nightmare because I was screaming/laughing in my sleep.  The dream I was having went something like this.  I was a guy that had it all, could have been any of Batmans rogue gallery.   I was partying, living it up but every night at some time without fail, I would be teleported to some old mansion when the lights would suddenly go out and I would see Batman's shadow coming towards me, his thick Kevlar military grade boots stomping louder and louder as he got closer.  I would instinctively cringe knowing that Batman was going to brutalize me.  Then as soon as it started it stopped and started over and over again.  So I was screaming/laughing, because it was coming but I didn't know when or from where... But I knew...  I knew that Batman was just fucking around with me, scaring the shit out of me...", "summary": "Batman's a dick."}
{"id": "t3_2el392", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24m] am having trouble with my SO [23f] with kissing", "post": "My SO and I have been together for 5 years, we were great up until last winter where she suffered a TBI from a snowboarding accident. \n\nWell, basically she has various physical and mental issues now (Maybe not the best way to describe her... she's just has a lot of cognitive and speech issues now), but like she doesn't eat or drink anymore, she lost the ability to swallow efficiently.\n\nSo, whenever we are getting in the mood--well at least me--we start kissing and she has so much trouble with the saliva in her mouth that whenever she's on top it feels like she's drowning me, haha. I'm very understanding because it's her speech and swallowing disorders aren't helping the situation any.\n\nShe always apologizes and gets embarrassed so she doesn't like doing that kind of stuff anymore. She doesn't mind like a peck on the lips.\n\nI'm not sure what to do to try and make her feel better or to help her. I mean, she can't help it so I can't \"teach\" her how to kiss... because I'll admit she was a great kisser and taught me how to kiss!\n\nHas anyone had any issues with their SO like this before? Any advice is welcome.", "summary": "SO accidentally drowns me when we kiss."}
{"id": "t3_xtkrx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you know what the terms are for breaking a lease when the building I moved into is infested with bugs?", "post": "So, I've tried googling the answers, but I can't find anything that answers my questions. \n\nHere's the info... So I just signed a year lease (in Massachusetts if that helps), and I have only been in my apartment for a week. I just bought food 4 days ago, and when i came home 2 days ago from work I saw 2 cockroaches scurry in my kitchen. Long story short, 4 total was found that night, one in a bedroom and 3 in the kitchen. I bought traps and set them, and cleaned the whole place like hell. I talked to the landlord and he got an exterminator to come today. Also, within 6 hours of setting traps I caught 2 roaches.\n\nNow here's the clincher. I asked before signing if there was any problems with the building including bugs, leaks, etc and he assured me the only problem with the place is slight flooding in the basement. I have found out from other tenants that the place has been sprayed at the beginning of last month, and that the people that moved out of the place I am now abandoned the apartment due to such a bad roach problem. I have also found out they have caught a few themselves. On top of that, nobody is going to be around today to let the exterminator in, even the property manager who has bugs also, and he is the one letting the exterminator into the other apartments! I'm worried that the place is not going to get thoroughly sprayed and I'm going to have a bug problem.\n\nSo my questions to this story are this:\n\n1. What steps can I take to break the lease?\n\n2. Am I able to get my money back? I gave first and last, and a deposit equal to a month's rent. If I have to move, I need that money back.\n\n3. What can I do for the time being to at least be able to sleep in my own home without worrying about the roaches getting into my food, clothes, etc?\n\nAny other information would help as well.", "summary": "I have been in a year leased apt for a week and the building has roaches. thinking about breaking lease."}
{"id": "t3_18n70u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got rejected HARD last Valentines day. Anyone else have some sad rejections/backfires?", "post": "Around this time last year I was seeing a girl, it wasn't anything serious yet but I was starting to like her. I was a super broke student though (still am), I only had $40 in my bank on Valentine's Day. So I decided to be spontaneous and buy her some roses (not really its valentine's day come on). I spent all my money and I was feeling great. I tried calling her and she wouldn't answer. Eventually I got a hold of her and she rejected the flowers. They sat in my trunk until they died. I felt horrible. At least she could've taken them so I wouldn't have wasted all my money.", "summary": "Bought a girl flowers for valentine's day with the last of my money. She rejected them and my flowers died, along with my affections for her."}
{"id": "t3_2k8h8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my ex [21 M] 4 months, left me for someone who would commit earlier. How do I get him back? Has anyone else successfully done so?", "post": "I recently broke up with a guy I had been seeing for 4 months. It was my first relationship and his first one with a guy. However, he ended up meeting someone else before we had properly committed. He told me things didnt work out between us because the other guy said he wanted committment, and I waited for too long. He said that if I had told him how I felt earlier, by all probability we would still be together.\n\nNow, they have been together for a month now, and are doing all the things we had talked about doing but hadn't done yet - spending weekends away, training together, meeting each others' circles of friends - and it is killing me inside to see him happy with someone else. I am so angry with myself for letting him slip through my fingers.\n\nHe even called me last night for the first time since the breakup from from his house to see how I was doing... But I could hear the new boyfriend in the background ;(\n\nI fear the more time they spend together the more they are falling in love, and he will eventually forget about the feelings he had for me. I know everyone says to move on, delete him etc etc. But I don't want to. I want him back. This guy was my perfect match. I don't want him to be the one that got away.\n\nI want to know if anyone here has been in a similar situation - and how long did it take for the ex to get back together with you? Is there anything I can do to try and get him back without looking like a desperate weirdo?", "summary": "Broke up, want him back. Can it happen? Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_13nuwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19]m unsure about relationship with [19]f", "post": "So myself and my girlfriend have been together around 11 months (almost a year). I'm not going to lie she's my second ever girlfriend and longest relationship. i love her. Recently she has become off and I'm lucky if i get a text or two a day. I always seem to be the one starting the conversations and always the first saying \"I love you\". (It's rare she says it first). Recently she has been texting a guy she had a fling with before we stareted going out and joking about meeting up with him. She's also said in another message to a guy \"I know i have a boyfriend but you are really good lookiing\" This didn't do too good to my confidence :/ Now I know she has plans for my upcoming birthday and treating me to a day out but even then I am going to end up paying. I treat her like a princess but I don't really know anymore :/ Tried talking to her and the only response I got was \"God! We've been going out 11 months, we don't need to talk all the time\" I got this but i didn't understand why she got angry when I only asked nicely. Now I have bought her some quite expensive presents and a trip in March to go see one of her favourite singers. She says she loves me and acts like it but when we're not together she just seems to not care. Anyone been in a similar position? Need some advice please.", "summary": "Girlfriend acts like she loves me around me, seems to not care when we're apart."}
{"id": "t3_ht830", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What type of cue is required for you to realize you are out of the friend zone?", "post": "25M (me), 24F. I'd had trying asking her out 2x up to this point. She made it obvious she didn't want to pursue a relationship and just wanted to remain friends (June 2010). I decided to just walk away on friendly terms.\nNovember (2010): she asks if I wanted to go snowboarding; I was on vacation at the time and told her I would contact her if I get back. I never did.\nJanuary (2011): She ask if we can hangout and have dinner sometime. I say yes, but never follow through with it. She asks again and says she is willing to work around my schedule. March (2011): I have surgery, she says she would really like to visit me. I tell her no. April (2011): she says she'd like to visit again, I say sure, but have no plan to follow through with it. Late May (2011): she wishes me happy birthday and ask when its convenient to come see me. Once again I am out of town (I am actually out of town) and told her I'm busy.\nI've been friendzoned by this girl for 6 years, so i'm not sure if she's giving me signals or is just being friendly. Personally It would take an explicit message from her saying \"this is a date\" before I believe I'm out of the friendzone.\nJust wondering what type of cues would it take for other people to believe they're actually out of the friend zone.", "summary": "I'm either too dense to read signals or she's just being friendly."}
{"id": "t3_3jy33k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16m] ex girlfriend [16f] won't speak to me", "post": "So basically what happened is that we couldn't see each other over the summer (we were \"together\" since about November) due to us both being pretty far away and she decided to end it, but said that she still wanted to talk and be friends and now for some reason refuses to talk to me. I know that this is kind of stupid problem, but she was a pretty close friend before and now she acts like I'm not even there. So I guess I just want advice on how to reconnect with her, even if it just means being friends or acquaintances.", "summary": "ex gf won't talk to me, no idea why"}
{"id": "t3_3nqzrf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by biking to school", "post": "At the start of this semester I told myself I'd hit the gym and bike to school everyday to save on gas and parking in addition to burning some calories. \n\nFast forward and it's been 3 weeks since I actually followed through on this plan so this morning I said \"Fuck it!\" and hopped on the bike.\n\nLiterally at the first intersection of the route some asshole almost runs me over because he didn't feel the need to stop at the stop sign.  There was a verbal exchange but whatever I kept going. \n\nFast forward to halfway through my route where my rear inner tube suddenly pops. I was right on time to get to my exam until this happened so I safely locked my bike at the nearby train station and requested an Uber. This mother fucker makes me wait 10 minutes before cancelling the request and charging me $5. I'm pissed but I keep it cool, request another and make it to class just in time.\n\nI'm thinking \"Okay I'll just catch the bus back home between classes, get my car, and pick up the bike on the way back. Perfect!\" I call my girlfriend and tell her what happened and she starts giving me shit about leaving the bike. We live in LA so nothing like Canada where you can leave your house unlocked but I figure, it's locked,  it's safe, no one will steal it.\n\nFast forward again! I went home, got my car and stopped at the train station and guess what?? The fucking bike is gone. \n\nTo make matters worse, it's not even my bike. I got it for my girlfriend as a a gift for her birthday a while back and now it's fucking gone. I called her to tell her what happened and I reallllly don't want to hear it at this point but she says it anyways \"I TOLD YOU!!!!!!\"", "summary": "Lost a bike I gave as a gift. Almost got hit by a car and nearly missed an exam in the process."}
{"id": "t3_e2s55", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Is it going to get better?", "post": "I've been pretty slack in terms of reading novels for say the past 10 years (except for Harry Potter), but decided over the last few months to get over myself and get back into reading.\n\nI've got a list of good books to read (no idea where from) and decided to just buy book titles based on the title alone.\n\nI read 1984 (pretty awesome) and then read The Wind Up Bird Chronicle (I finished both of them!).\n\nI enjoyed both of them, my only problem being that I am struggling to read them and maintain interest for prolong periods of time. I will read 2 pages and get exhausted. Or read 3-4 pages and realise I haven't taken anything in.\n\nIs this something that is going to improve? At the moment it feels like reading is a chore as opposed to a leisure activity.\n\nThe next book on my list is Do Androids Dream Of Electric Sheep.", "summary": "I am struggling to remain active and hold concentration when I'm reading. Feels like more of a chore as oppose to leisure."}
{"id": "t3_53lci4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Los Angeles) Not your typical automatic gate damage", "post": "So the parking lot of our apartment has an automated, chain-driven sliding gate. Our car was parked in the spot parallel to and just behind the gate, along where the sliding gate backs up while being opened. We were getting in the car as another car was exiting the lot and triggered the automatic sensor to open the gate. Just as the gate was sliding next to our car, the breeze blew open our driver's door far enough open for the back of the opening gate to catch the inside of our door, pull it open further than it is supposed to, and slightly twist it before stopping. After 15 minutes of figuring out how to close the gate stuck against our door we inspected the damage. The door can barely close and lock, but since it's twisted the top half is open to rain and coat hangars while the bottom half is pushed in further than it should. \n\nHere's the question. Are we justified in asking the complex owner to fix the door? And if they so no, are we justified enough to take them to court over it and win?", "summary": "an opening automatic sliding gate backed into our properly parked car's open driver's door, twisting it so it doesn't properly shut. Can we legally hold the gate owner responsible?"}
{"id": "t3_on74g", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, what's your strangest 'it's a small world' experience you've had?", "post": "I live in a tiny village in Devon, UK, waaaaay out in the sticks. In 2005 I visited my Aunt in Australia with my parents for a month, I met up with some local teenagers through my Aunt's friends and we ended up on a dog walk in their small town, we went to a tiny little cafe and sat down for a drink, our dog and a stranger's started to interact and we ended up  talking to the owner, he immediately noticed I was also british and asked me where I was from, I said Devon, thinking he would have no idea where it was, turns out he lives in the neighboring seaside town, which is a 10 minute drive from my house. At the time I was too young/ignorant to think this story had any merit, but thinking back, he was probably one out of about ten strangers I had any interaction with during that month.", "summary": "Live in tiny town from UK, Go to Australia, have chance meeting with stranger who lives 10 minutes away."}
{"id": "t3_13nnp9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I saved my friend from drowning at a birthday party, and immediately after I knew I wanted to be a Paramedic. What life experience gave you immediate career direction?", "post": "I was at this girl's high school pool party a few years ago. We were all drinking, smoking, hanging out, doing teenage things, and just generally having a good time. The weather wasn't too good that day, probably mid 50s and overcast, so nobody had been swimming or even brought their swimsuits. Everyone was just in her back yard, socializing, playing beer bong, the usual. My one friend, who was about 5'5\", 130 lbs (small guy) had been working on a fifth of Jose Cuervo the whole day and just finished it. Me and him were talking (I was talking, he was more of slurring the whole time) with a large group of our other friends when he said he was going to go take a piss inside. This was the last I saw of him before the \"incident\". The next thing I know, I hear girls laughing hysterically near the pool and a bunch of people clapping. I make my way over to the pool, and I see my friend underwater very shortly after he apparently tripped and fell in. I had a good laugh at first, but after about 5 seconds of him not coming back up to the surface, I realized how much he had drank and that he probably either passed out or wasn't functional enough to swim to the surface. Suddenly a little more serious, I ripped off my shirt and shorts and jumped in. After swimming down and grabbing him, a few of my other good friends had jumped in and we helped him to the surface. The girls' mom (who apparently hadn't cared that we were drinking in her backyard) came outside, saw us gathered around a passed out, soaking wet teenager, and called 911. An ambulance showed up shortly after. He hadn't came to consciousness, but was still breathing, so we knew he was still alive. The paramedics took him away to the hospital. It turned out that he had alcohol poisoning and had to have his stomach pumped....He turned out fine the next day, but it was definitely a memorable experience for all of us. It was here and now that I knew that I definitely wanted to be a paramedic after college.", "summary": "My friend drank an entire bottle of jose cuervo and passed out after tripping in to a girl's pool at a party. I jumped in and carried him to the surface, probably saving his life. After this, I knew I wanted to be a paramedic after college."}
{"id": "t3_2nu5ve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wondering if I am missing a subtext.", "post": "Hey folks, throwaway account here as my social circle is very internet-savvy.\n\nI am a vet 23[M] going to a university.  I am being lightly pursued by a fellow student, 20[F].\n\nI do not know why.  She's not really in my social group, we see each other in passing(had one class together ages ago).  The few girls I was interested in shot me down (gently) so I've resigned myself to a mostly celibate college experience.  Therefore, I act in a genial manner to everyone but keep to myself at all times.\n\nI'm worried I'm seeing something here because I want to see it.  I'm worried if I follow through I will be seen as a lecherous creep.\n\nThe only other relationship I've ever been in I broke off because I was ashamed I didn't have a car and the girl lived a couple towns over (and had to pick me up and drive me home).  Due to this, I haven't developed any sense of body language ques if a girl is fully interested or not.\n\nI feel like I'm stumbling blind, and that if this girl who seems interested actually is, she'll be put off by my timidity.\n\nFor context purposes, I am extremely self-assured if I know the nature of my relationship with people.  That is why this is troubling for me, I don't know how she feels and I don't want to collapse the waveform by asking a question in a socially insensitive manner such that she feels uncomfortable and breaks what might be the first genuine human interaction I've had in 3+ years.\n\nHow do I proceed?  Should I ask her to accompany me on activities I normally perform myself (hiking, shooting, running)?  How do I formulate a litmus test sort of date where I know how she feels, whether this is a friendship attempt or a romantic gambit?\n\nWe've had dinner already, and I stumbled over my only compliment to her.", "summary": "Girl seems to like me, don't know why.  How do I tell if it's for friendship or something else?"}
{"id": "t3_2w0146", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my [25 M] SO, how do I tell people I'm off the market?", "post": "So I know its a bit weird. You start a new relationship, you want to tell everyone about it, right? Been with my SO for a few months now and I think we're moving from being casual to actually being in a 'relationship' (he hates labels so I'm not actually calling him my boyfriend atm... It's early days so I'm cool with that). \n\nPrior to him I was very much single for a long time and met some cool people along the way. Since I started seeing my SO I obviously didn't really speak to them and we kinda became exclusive. However now we're a bit more secure I think there are a couple of people that I got to know, that are kinda ex's you could say, who I would want in my life as friends now. The problem is I don't want to lead them on when I say 'lets get back in touch' but I don't want the first thing I say after a while is 'hey, long time, I'm in a relationship now, you good?' These were more along the FWB situations so normally a 'lets hang out' lead to more too... That's obviously not what I'm after, but I'm kinda wanting the friends part of that dynamic back... Don't want to lead anyone on when I ask to hang out though this time...\n\nIs there the right time/way to tell these friends I'm not available anymore? Or do I keep them at bay after telling them straight?", "summary": "want 'exs' in my life as friends after starting a new relationship. How do I keep everyone happy and not lead anyone on?"}
{"id": "t3_37s2q3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reached the 11 month mark in my [25 M] relationship with gf [22 F] but I think of other women constantly", "post": "Hello /r/relationship! I'm back. I find it hard to fully communicate any scenario via a few paragraphs but I really could use some external opinions on this. \n\nI have a previous topic here: \n\nYou don't have to read that over but it might give you a better idea of where my head is at. \n\nNOW to the scenario:\n\nI love my girlfriend, she is really a delight. We have excellent chemistry, great sex, and talk about anything we like. I've never really been in a committed relationship so most of this is really new to me as well... but I enjoy it all the same. I do have some issues with her spiritual beliefs, naivety, etc but those are apart of any relationship I would imagine. My problem is the rampant need to be with other, more attractive women. I really having been having the thought \"I wish I had a hotter girlfriend\" and I find that immature and disturbing. \n\nJust look at post history... \nHot nerdy girls everywhere. I'm obsessed with cuties.\n\nRemember this is my first relationship ever. I don't entirely know what I'm doing or if I'm feeling is normal. I don't want to break up with her but I DO want to fuck anything with decent TNA and a nice smile. Part of me wishes I was single again while part of me wants to see where this relationship could go. I don't know where to put the line though.\n\nMy girlfriend is REALLY in love with me, she's so good to me. I sometimes wish that she was more nerdy though. Or had a different body. Or didn't say things like \"An alien visited me last night\". I just... need the grand wisdom of reddit to help me out. At my age, should I be sticking with what I got? Or still playing the field??", "summary": "I have an urge to be with more sexually attractive women... or just different women in general. I love my gf but don't know if she's right for me. I might be able to do better but god knows I might have it the best I've got."}
{"id": "t3_24zx20", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Need help with an injury: Pain in outer calf", "post": "A few weeks back it felt like there was a ball in my back/outer calf during a workout. I thought it was just a cramp so I rolled it out and stretched a little. It still hurt the next day so I thought maybe I pulled my calf. I took a few days off and a week later it has not hurt again but I still can \"feel\" it when I run. This only worries me because I think I may injure it again. It is on the outside of my calf and goes somewhat into the back of my leg. Any ideas of what this could be? Thanks", "summary": "Feels like a ball is in the outside of my calf"}
{"id": "t3_315sfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my ex [22 M] of 7 years, how soon is to soon to move on?", "post": "For about two years I had really been doubting the relationship and I just couldn't grow a pair to just end the relationship because I was more worried about my boyfriends feelings than my own. I wasn't ever happy as people should be when they are in a relationship. About two months ago I finally did what I needed to do which was end the relationship. We ended on good terms because we both understood that we weren't even able to be ourselves around each other and couldn't talk on a certain level. As I said before, for two years I was trying to make it work but it wasn't. About 3 months ago I met someone and we started off as friends. Then he found out I was single a month ago and I told him about my relationship and why it ended. I was with my ex since I was 13 and have never dated other people and I am going to date other people now that I have the opportunity. This new guy has shown me things my ex never did. He actually cares, opens doors, shows me attention, everything a real boyfriend material guy should. He's extremely good looking and I couldn't contain myself and we slept together. We talk everyday and we hang out maybe 4 times a week. Ive met his friends and even his parents. I thought meeting his parents was a little too quick but it wasn't like a serious meeting his parents type of deal. His friends tell me that he is \"seeing\" me so I'm assuming he really does like me. Im not trying to jump into another relationship right now but did I sleep with him too quickly? He never hits me up as a booty call, he actually wants to hang out and shows pda in front of people so he doesn't hide it.", "summary": "does this new guy really like me and how soon is too soon to sleep with someone?"}
{"id": "t3_4kj3nc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my ___ [20 M] boyfriend makes jokes saying I should get short hair, don't want it.", "post": "Hi everyone!\n\nI have been with my boyfriend for two years now and overall, it's been a good relationship. We have one ongoing issue (probably a non-issue to most but I just wanted some advice) about my hair. In the first few months of dating, my boyfriend and I were talking about kinds of looks we like and I said I had always been into red heads like him etc and he said I wasn't his type ( I have long dark brown hair) and he preferred blondes with short hair (basically exactly what his ex-girlfriend looked like) and I didn't think much of it because most people have a type and that's obviously fine.  \n\nThen, he would often make jokes about me getting a bob hair style (above shoulder length cut so fairly short: the style his ex-girlfriend had) to the point where if I mentioned getting a hair cut, he'd ask if I was considering a bob. He would also point out others who had the hairstyle and say how nice it looked etc. At first, I just brushed it off and laughed and told him I didnt suit it when I had one when I was younger and thus wasn't planning it on getting it again. \n\nEventually, I started getting slightly more annoyed when he made the comments, saying its my hair and I can decide how I want it etc and I don't want one. However, I keep feeling like I should get one to make him happy and to stop his comments but last time I got one,I just didnt like it and so have kept my hair long. I have also told him if he likes the hair style so much, he should date someone with it etc and he just pouts and insists he wants to be with me. Also, might be over reacting her but it's slightly starting making me feel like he wants me to look like his ex and I just want to look like me. He never comments on my clothes except saying positive things etc so it's weird he making comments about my hair so much. \n\nBasically, am I being over dramatic and even if I am how do I get him to stop without seeming like I am being over dramatic.", "summary": "Boyfriend is often making jokes/comments about me cutting my hair shorter but I don't want to; how do I make him stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2o0srv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16M) am having trouble expressing my true feelings to her (15F)", "post": "I (16 M) am a Gr11 Highschool student while she (15 F) is in Gr10. Let's call her Angelina. I really like her and i think she likes me a little bit.\n\nNow we've been friends for the past couple of months and we have the same first period class together, with alot of our  mutual friends. We have quite a bit in common with things like music, food, style and fashion.\n\nShe's one of those people that you'd do anything for, who's smile brightens up your morning.\n\nHere's my problem. Everytime I try to talk to her (in person even though she gave me her phone number) or try to get her alone so I can really tell her how I feel, I choke up, get distracted (I have ADHD) and make thing painfully awkward and pushing her away from me sending me closer to the 'Friendzone'.\n\n____________________________________________", "summary": "Really like this girl but I get extremely nervous everytime I talk to her causing me to somehow avoid expressing my feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_2ncq59", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] went out in my first date ever with a guy[27 M] and I need advice", "post": "I'm from a traditional Indian family and I just happened to come in contact with this guy. We went on a date for half a day which involved a movie and lots of drinking. He's really wealthy, and flaunts it a lot, and it's unsettling. And he has that crazy, super optimistic personality and I'm a direct contrast. \n\nHe's also got very handsy and physical during the date, even after I told him I've never kissed or touched a guy and on several occasions had to ask him to stop. \n\nSo I just want to let him know that I can't see him again without hurting his feelings(He thinks I'm very into him) How do I do that? I know I've not given much context, but I need help.", "summary": "Want to break up with rich, crazy optimistic, intense guy."}
{"id": "t3_4b21xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24m) gf (22f) have been together for 9 months. I am her first boyfriend, is it naive to want to get married someday?", "post": "Title is pretty self explanatory. I've had a few girlfriends in the past, but the person I'm with now is amazing, even though this is her first relationship with a guy. Our relationship is great, and I like the idea of this being long term, but how can I expect that when she hasn't had experience beyond me?\n\nShe's confident in that she wants the same thing with me, something long term and committed. We both have talked about the chances of this turning into \"the big one\", she likes this idea, and I do too. But I believe that because this is new to her, she'll develop different needs and want to play the field in the future. I consider this a hard truth, and I wanted to hear from others, in case I'm being too stubborn.\n\nI respect and love her completely, and I've said at the beginning that I'm in this for as long as it's a good thing. I understand that in some way, some day I will lose her, if that's after two years of dating or if we're together for decades til one of us dies, I don't really care. I want to make things work and I know that marriage is a huge step beyond a long, committed relationship, and that I'd have to reach milestones before its considered. But I want to feel secure in knowing that maybe I'm not just being selfish and naive, that I only have a genuine desire to want to be with a really cool chick for a stupid long time.\n\nI know that this sort of insecurity can sabotage relationships, so I take all of this in stride, and mull it over in my head to get things straight.", "summary": "This is her first relationship, is it foolish to have an expectation to get married to this girl one day?"}
{"id": "t3_3cf66k", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Need help regarding possible child abuse/neglect of my son by my ex! Please and Thank You!", "post": "Thanks for reading,\n\nI have a 4 1/2 year old son. He is my best friend. I love the little guy so much. My ex wife and I divorced a couple years and have joint custody. She has since moved away but I still get good visitation time with him. I have him for three weekends per month and one month per summer. He feels comfortable here with me and he and I have a great relationship and he loves his family and time spent here.\n\nJust got back from family vacation this weekend with my parents and fiance. He was sitting outside with my mom and fiance while I was inside making his lunch a couple days ago. Fiance and I have an 8 week old baby and my 4 year old is very interested in everything he does and is always watching him and trying to look after him. \n\nAnyways, the infant spits up while my mom is holding him and he sees this and points it out to everyone, which I always think is cute because he loves to feel like he is helping with the baby.. anyways, this is where it gets weird. He said this to my mom and fiance: \n\nSON:\"You know what? One time I almost puked at home\" \nMY MOM: \"Oh Really? Why is that sweetie?\"\nSON:\"Because mommy was choking me and it made me have to puke but it wasn't over the toilet it was on the floor so I had to swallow my own puke\"\n\nWhen I heard this I was floored. Would I like to believe he is just telling stories and that my ex-wife doesn't choke out my son? Absolutely. Is she psycho enough to where I could actually see this happening? Yes.\nBut I need to find out more before I confront her about it.\n\nSince I didn't directly hear it from him I have been thinking about the best way possible to bring it back up to him now that it has been a few days and see if his story still matches what he told my mom/fiance.", "summary": "Son who is 4 years old claims mother choked him until he had to swallow his own puke. Need advice on how to bring it back up to see if he is telling the truth and/or whole story"}
{"id": "t3_2ducp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 2 months girlfriend [23 F] is under a lot of stress and it's possible to break up with me [22 M]", "post": "She got out of a 2 years relationship and about 1.5 months later, we started to date. She told her parents and they didn't let her date me because they think that she doesn't know what she's doing. She said she didn't care and still kept dating. Yesterday, she told me she was under a lot of stress because her parents call her everyday because people tell them we are still dating and stuff and wants to have the talk. \nAlso, we started having problems a few days back. It's really weird because her ex (who lives next door), just came back from vacations and even though she said they talked and agreed to be just friends, I saw on Snapchats that he became one of her \"best friends\" and apparently send a lot of pictures. What do you guys think? what should I say? I really feel like shit, and don't want to lose her... It's gonna kill me.", "summary": "GF is under a lot of stress, her ex is back from vacations, and she told me she wanted to talk to me. I don't know what to say to her once I go talk to her. Help. thanks."}
{"id": "t3_3dtvup", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not screwing a hooker.", "post": "So this happened a few weeks ago. Anyway I have broken up with my ex for about a year so I've been pretty lonely/not getting alot. That weekend I found out my roomate was going to be out of town so I decided to get a hooker. So my roomate leaves and I start browsing backpages until I finally find something I like.\n\nI call and some dude answers normally I would be like fuck that but being horny and lonely I figure fucked it. So long story short girl shows up after about an hour and a half. Now I've gotten hookers before and it's usually \"Have $50 lets fuck\" but I start talking to this hooker and she just complains about her life. I start getting annoyed but then her boyfriend calls her and talks mad shit. Apparently he's super abusive and pretty much beats her every night. I honestly didn't know how to react and every hooker I ever bought did her own thing. So I end up just talking and sucking on some tits because I felt so bad about her boyfriend beating her and I spent $300 and didn't get anything. So she leaves and I end up jerking it while she really wanted to just come over some time soon and just hang out.", "summary": "Spent $300 on a hooker and didn't fuck."}
{"id": "t3_2cnbuv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by trying to combine two words at work", "post": "I will preface this by saying I normally have a pretty good filter on the things that I say. If I'm about to say something really stupid or something that may be offensive or inappropriate I usually catch it before it comes out of my mouth. Today was not one of those days.\n\nI work at a small bakery. It's owned by my best friends mother, and most of my co-workers are also people I've grown up with, so I won't be surprised if I take some shit for this.\n\nThere I am, wrapping muffins like any other work day. On the other side of the table is a female co-worker of mine who is heat sealing muffins. I roll one of the wrapped muffins sitting next to me over to her, however it turns and rolls back to me. In a very poor effort to lighten the mood I decided to compare said muffin to a boomerang, which in turn inspired me to try combining \"muffin\" with \"boomerang\". At first I ended up with a \"boomer-muffin\", but then I went, \"nah, that's dumb\" and tried to think up something better. This is where my mental filter completely shut down. What I was originally going to say here was \"muffin-rang\". At this point things started to go in slow motion, as I could figuratively *feel* the mental filter failing. Before I could stop what was about to come out of my mouth, I loudly exclaimed \"Oh, a MUFFERAANNG-OOOOH NOOOO\". Which was taken in a VERY different way than the innocent wordplay I had intended.\n\nThis got some awkward and somewhat disapproving laughter out of both my brother who was next to me and said female co-worker across the table. After a couple of minutes I had gone back to wrapping muffins. But I couldn't look at a muffin with out thinking about the mufferang and laughing, not laughing at the word itself, but at my complete and utter failure to catch it before it came out of my mouth. This got so bad that I actually had to stop wrapping and walk away from the table for a short time to breathe and get some water.", "summary": "co-workers think I'm perverted after accidentally saying mufferang at work... don't accidentally say mufferang at work ^or ^at ^all ^for ^that ^matter"}
{"id": "t3_t2tph", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what can I do for my boyfriend? He's in agony every day and can't afford dental work.", "post": "I live in Canada, where the healthcare is universal - but not dental. Unfortunately my boyfriend has no insurance for this, and his work benefits will only cover a fraction of the work he needs done - two removals, two root canals, six or more fillings, four flouride treatments by a dentist, and weekly at-home treatments requiring a mouth-guard fitting. This all adds up to about $5000-$6500. \n\nThe dentist has diagnosed him with severe acid reflux, to the point where it's essentially eroding his teeth away. If he doesn't get all of this done, he's not likely to have any teeth in five years. He is only 20. He's had little to no sleep in the last week, the pain keeps him up all night and the drugstore painkillers just aren't cutting it. I am desperate to find some answer to this dilemma - neither of us likely has good enough credit for a loan, we're both scrambling to pay for school in September. \n\nDoes anyone know of any programs available in AB that could provide at least some coverage? Any information is greatly appreciated!!", "summary": "Need help finding financial assistance for dental work ASAP!"}
{"id": "t3_vveba", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my little cousin about slenderman", "post": "*well, it was last week, actually. \nSo, my adorable little cousin is only eight years old, and she's generally been a little daredevil all her life. She stays at my house a lot, and we're really close, sort of more like sisters, we just don't see each other every day. \nSo, I decided that out of innocent fun, I'd show her the Slenderman documentary and tell her the whole story about him, thinking she'd laugh it off. \nShe didn't. \nShe cried really hard, freaked out, and got really scared of slenderman. She wouldn't leave my side all day, and refused to go to sleep that night.\nAfter a few hours I talked her down and managed to get her to sleep, provided we shared a bed and I kept the lights on, but I didn't mind, until around 2 am, when I had to pee. \nBad.\nI get up and head to the bathroom (which is right next to my room, mind you) and I just make it out the door, when I feel something grab my leg. Naturally I freak out and reach down to bat whatever it is off, when I realize it's my hysterically sobbing little cousin, begging me not to leave her alone. I told her I was going to the bathroom and would be right back, but she insisted on standing right outside the door. \nNow, she still refuses to go into an empty room alone, or upstairs alone, or even outside alone.", "summary": "I fucked up by telling my little cousin about slenderman and I scarred her for life. "}
{"id": "t3_4uma9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my BF [25 M] of 1 year, was this gesture sweet or creepy?", "post": "My bf is home for the summer and has been going through hell due to his family's financial struggles. \n\nToday was especially bad. He ignored my texts all day and later told me the day was awful and that all of the job interviews for his mom flopped. He said he was just messaging me so I didn't take his silence personally and that he just needs to be alone to forget the day. \n\nI know his favorite thing to do to relax is play video games. He's wanted to play Red Dead Redemption for a while and I own it so, because I felt like I wanted to try to make him smile (when he's down or stressed while away at school I usually send him a care package), I snuck by his house and dropped the game (with a note in the box) off in his mailbox an hour ago. \n\nI messaged him to check his mailbox and I'm fairly certain he's seen the message but hasn't responded. Now I'm worried it was less sweet and more creepy or violating. What do you think?", "summary": "Left present in BF's mailbox. Wondering if creepy or sweet?"}
{"id": "t3_1hcrz4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) am wildly attracted to my girlfriend's (19f) sister (17f)", "post": "And it makes me feel like a sick, unfaithful pedo.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years, are sexually active, and have long term plans for our relationship (living together, marriage, that sort of thing). She is very beautiful and sexy and is amazing, and she makes me very happy.\n\nThe problem is that her sister is so damn hot and every time I look at her I have to try and convince myself she isn't.\n\nLike I said, I really do love my girlfriend, and yet I have frequently find myself looking at her sister and sometimes even fantasizing about her. Sometimes when we make love I can't climax unless I imagine her sister.\n\nI feel really really guilty about this (I have always been faithful and have never wanted to leave her) and I wish that there was some way I could either stop feeling this crazy attraction to her sister or at the very least put it out of my mind. Any advice?", "summary": "I find my girlfriend's younger sister incredibly attractive and I do not want to anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1hryx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The ex shows up and the gf dumps me for him, need advice (32f/35m)", "post": "The woman I was dating (until this week) was unceremoniously dumped by her ex in April after half a year of being treated terribly.  He called her names, put her down, dictated what she should be doing and who she can be friends with, etc. The list goes on and on, basically he sounds like a not great guy.\n\nWe connect and start dating but after only a month the ex gets wind and starts calling, emailing and texting her between 15 and 25 times a day, telling her that he's changed.  He says he's not that way anymore, she's the love of his life and no one could love her like he does.  To me it felt like he was trying to manipulate her.\n\nAfter two weeks of these calls he drives here from CO (we're on the east coast) in a Porsche he says is for her, buys her a necklace and goes engagement ring shopping while she's at work.  Mind you, she and I are still dating at this point.  She told me it was all too much but then went to meet his family for the Fourth.\n\nFor me this got way too crazy and I told her I can't do this, she needs to figure out what she wants (I realize I should have backed out when she started wavering but I didn't.)  She ultimately dumps me and is back with him.\n\nI'm hurt but also realize this whole situation isn't healthy.  I also think she has herself in a really bad situation with him.  He's not in therapy and my guess is it will be only a couple of months before he's back to his old behaviors of control and manipulation.\n\nMaybe I dodged a bullet but I feel really shitty. I would appreciate your advice.", "summary": "Dumped by new gf for manipulative and controlling ex."}
{"id": "t3_suw9e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most random encounter you've ever had?", "post": "The family was on a road-trip up Australia's northwest coast a few years back, and let me tell you that's one long, lonely stretch. There's a few little towns every 250-300 miles or so along the coast, apart from the occasional petrol station though that's it.\n\nAnyway, we were driving along when we spy this little dirt road up ahead, it looked like it curved west towards the beach so we decided to head down. After 20 miles or so we reach the beach, and (not surprisingly) it's completely deserted *except* for one car parked a little ways down on the sand. That in itself is weird enough, I mean this beach is only 300ft long before it cuts off and it's literally in the middle of nowhere. To see anyone at all here is strange.\n\nAs we get closer, the guy turns around and we realise he's the guy who built our house back in Perth (800 miles away). First and only time I heard my dad say \"WHAT THE FUCK!\"\nWe ended up cooking up a BBQ and pitching the tents up there, stayed until late the next day and didn't see a single other person.", "summary": "Met the guy who built our house 4 years later on possibly the most secluded beach in the world."}
{"id": "t3_30g87l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] fianc\u00e9e [22F] admitted to having sexual relations with a friend [20M] before we began dating", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e (Sarah for stories sake) and I have been together for a while now. No major issues whatsoever. Before we began \"officially\" dating, there was another guy, we'll call him James, that she was torn with. I'll admit, I knew they were talking at the time, but I decided to continue on and attempt to make a connection with her. Boom. We clicked.\n\n\u00a0\n\n A few weeks later, I asked her where she stood with James. She made it clear that she wanted nothing to do with him and that I was all that she wanted. Great!\n\n\u00a0\n\n A month later, I went out of town for the weekend, and during that time, we talked on the phone and texted constantly. Things seemed normal. As soon as I got back in town, Sarah jumped into my arms hugging and kissing me. A week later, I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. \n\n\u00a0\n\nTime passed, and it brings us to the other day. Sarah told me that, while I was out of town, she went to the bar and got pretty drunk. She admitted that she gave James a handjob and he fingered her in return. I was devastated. Sarah made it very clear that she was just drunk, that no feelings were involved, yada yada. Is it right for me to be upset at this? Like I said, we were exclusive, and it was clear to everyone around us, but hadn't made anything official just yet. I forgive her for it, but I can't get that picture out of my head. \n\n\u00a0\n\nShe doesn't think it was very wrong, but I do. Did she cheat? Can I trust her?", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9e admitted to getting drunk and giving my friend a hand job before we were officially together. Can I trust her?"}
{"id": "t3_g1dne", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Moving to LA from DC in August/September. When should I start applying for jobs?", "post": "**Background:**\n\nI am a programmer from the DC area.  My wife is going to start grad school next Fall, so we will be packing up and moving to LA at the end of this summer (August/September... about 6 months from now).\n\n**Problem:**\n\nI'm afraid that my inability to start the job until the end of this coming Summer will disqualify me from most jobs currently available.  I know a lot of companies hire college grads way in advance, but I don't know if companies will hire people this far in advance if they are already in the industry.\n\n**Question:**\n\nDo I apply for jobs now or wait (if so, how long)?  On one hand, I want to start applying now so I can have a job secured before I get out there.  On the other hand, I don't want to disqualify myself by applying to positions too soon.\n\nI really need advice on this...", "summary": "Definitely moving to LA in 6 months.  Do I start applying to jobs now or wait?  If I should wait, when should I start applying?"}
{"id": "t3_2rk3f5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am starting to have issues with my boyfriend's [27M] ex-wife.", "post": "So, this is probably going to be kind of long and seem immature, sorry in advance. My boyfriend and I have been together about 8 months. He is in the military and got married pretty young, but got a divorce in 2013 after a long separation. Long story short, she cheated on him and left him while he was in Iraq. They only dated for a few months before he asked her to marry him, and he has admitted it was the typical dumb decision alot of new military recruits make. \n\nSo now, fast forward to a year after their divorce. My boyfriend and I have moved in together. She has been texting him and calling him, telling him she misses him and still loves him, and that she wants to be with him again for the entire duration of our relationship. As far as I know, he does not feel the same way (we are very committed to eachother, and he has expressed to me his feelings about the whole situation), but she will not leave him alone.\n\nI am absolutely not worried about any cheating or anything (she lives thousands of miles away), but it's just weird and uncomfortable and, frankly, just makes me protective and jealous. I know I'm probably being inmature, but what should I do? I've talked to him about it and he says not to worry about it, but I really just want to talk to her and tell her in a mature way that she needs to get on with her own life and leave him alone.", "summary": "My boyfriend's ex-wife being annoying, and I feel like a jealous teenager."}
{"id": "t3_2xguyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24F thinking of ending 8 year relationship with 26M. Help?", "post": "I have been dating my bf since high school. Now we are older. He wants kids. I don't think I do. The talk of marriage is real now and I don't know if I really see is together in the future. \n\nI love him as a person but I am not sure if I am in love with him anymore. We live together and have for a few years and I find myself constantly mad at him for all the little things he does or doesn't do as a roommate. He's an only child and I find myself constantly cleaning up after him. \n\nMy main concern is that I have not had any serious relationships so I really don't know if feeling this way is normal or if I really need to be on my own for a bit and try meeting different people.  \n\nIn addition, we rarely have sex anymore. He tries to initiate but I always push him away. I don't have any desire for sex with him anymore, whereas I did in the beginning of the relationship. We still kiss or cuddle, and that is nice, but I never want more than that. \n\nAny advice from anyone in the same shoes?", "summary": "need to know if I should end relationship "}
{"id": "t3_3teutk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27/M) am in love with someone (28/F) who is in love with me and someone else (32/M)", "post": "Andddd I'm not really sure what to do. She had a thing with this guy over the summer and they really fell for each other. They decided not to pursue it because they live on opposite sides of the country. She and I met a couple months ago and totally hit it off. It didn't take long before we both had all the feels and it became so great. She's even called me her boyfriend a couple times even though we have never full out said \"Yes, we are official.\" However, this guy just came into town and now she has no idea what to do. Apparently, he kissed her, which she was honest about. But I have no idea what's going to happen now.\n\nPart of me feels like she just wants him and I'm the consolation prize. Maybe I'm paranoid. I'm not sure what I should do. I don't want to put pressure on her. I want to respect her feelings and what's going on in her head. But I also don't want to sacrifice my feelings.\n\nIt's causing me a lot of anxiety to the point where I'm not acting like myself around her or anyone for that matter. I'm just nervous. I'm afraid I'm going to lose her. I'm not trying to be weird or anything. I just feel so vulnerable and there's not much I feel like I can do. Can someone please help me or give me advice on what my next move should be?", "summary": "I love a girl who's in love with me and another dude and I'm not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1bd124", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV Weekend", "post": "I am not really focusing on the scale anyway, because my goals are more NS related anyway.\n\nI am 2.5 months into my lifestyle change to focus mostly on fitness, BJJ training, and body recomp.\n\nSince I last weighed and measured on 3/1 I have lost a net 2 pounds, but based on my measurements and the bodyfat measurement method I have been using consistently, I lost 2.5% BF, 2.25\" in my waist and an inch in my hips.\n\nThe pounds lost are a result in a gain of 5.9lb of LBM and a loss of 7.9lb of BF.\n\nI am 36/M and weigh 287.4 this AM, down from 310 on Jan 15th.\n\nI eat 2679 kcal on non-training days and 3179 kcal on training days.\n\nI train 4-5 days a week of Xfit style circuit training combined with BJJ/MMA training.\n\nYesterday I received my first promotion in BJJ after training for 3 months. I got my white belt with blue stripe and hit all the compulsory movements on the first try.\n\nFeeling pretty awesome today, but still have a long way to go to reach my long term goals.", "summary": "Lost 2.5% BF in March, got first promotion in BJJ"}
{"id": "t3_j49lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I do?", "post": "Hello reddit,\n my story goes as of this.\nIt all started out in February, I was texting this seemingly amazing girl from whom I go to the same school as, she was having boyfriend troubles so I was giving her advice and tips on what to do as she seemed quite upset. Fast forward to april and I am now going out with this girl who dumped her boyfriend a few weeks back, things are going perfect we can't stop talking, want to be with eachother as much as possible (We're both 16 and going through exams) fast forward to june and we had our first argument. I was apparantly acting \"weird\" with her and she got angry and ignored me. I straightened it out and we then continued our what I thought good relationship. But ever since that argument she started being weird to me, didn't make much effort to contact me, didn't seem too fussed about meeting up and by the end of june when all the exams were over this girl who once said to me that she could spend the rest of her life with me suddenly wants to break up with me because we are apparantly not talking enough. This was a pretty lame excuse for dumping me and I was quite upset about it. Now we haven't spoken for about a month and I've given her space I've spoken to her friends and they also said I should talk to her, but Reddit, what do I do? Do I ask her for another chance and maybe give our relationship another go, or do I burn the bridge and move on with my life. I do still have feelings for her", "summary": "still have feelings for ex, do I ask her for another chance?"}
{"id": "t3_qv8jy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a way to disguise my phone number when sending a text?", "post": "I'm asking because someone has been fucking with me lately, and it's annoying me. They haven't blocked their number however, so I have it.\n\nSo here's what I want to do, I've got someone's iPhone who has a bunch of free texts left, and it's nearing the end of the month. They have SMS flooder, that can send up to 99 messages in rapid succession. I want to spam this number until they get the point to stop messaging me. However, as this is a friends number, I need to find a way to stop it from being dragged into this game of spamming. Anyone know how I can achieve this?\n\nAlso, let me know if this is in the wrong subreddit. I think it's the right place to ask?", "summary": "Vengeance will be had."}
{"id": "t3_1a6r6g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dunno if this is the right place, but I really need help here.", "post": "Back up about a month ago. I met a girl, let's call her Alice because I like that name. She's gorgeous, into cars almost as much as I am, sweetest girl I've ever met in my life. Did I mention she's a gearhead? Anyway. We've hung out a number of times since then and every time she's seemed increasingly interested in me. She'd hug me tighter, glomp me, get up in my face, cute shit. But when I text her, it's like a different world. Sometimes we'll have a good conversation, and sometimes it's just one word answers. Granted, I understand if she's at work or in class, but other times? And she never really texts me either. I'm always the conversation starter. That kind of thing usually bothers me. To get to the point here, I really like this girl, but I really have no idea how to go about telling her how I feel and seeing if she feels the same way. Any advice for a lonely old soul just looking for someone to care about? If this honestly isn't the right place, please move it for me.", "summary": "Met a cute girl, seems interested, I'm interested, need help with telling her how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_2e3nja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Overheard my[25m] fiance[25f] saying to a friend \"yeah white guys are much more fun in bed\"", "post": "Indian guy engaged to an Indian woman. We have been together for 2 years. She was spending the night at my apartment and it's not uncommon for her to be on her Ipad. I ended up waking up listening to her talking to people on skype.\n\nShe was talking to one of her friends or family members, she had headphones on so I only heard her talking. \"Yeah I been with White guys before\" \"Yes he had blue eyes\" \"They are a lot more fun in bed, but I would never marry one\" \"I don't feel like I can be myself with a White guy.\" and I don't remember after that. I was sleepy so those aren't exact quotes.\n\nI don't really know how to feel about this or bring it up. I know a lot of Indian girls have things for White dudes this is no surprise. However, I kind of hoped that my girlfriend didn't feel that way. I don't want her to be with me because I am the \"safe option\" or that her parents want me to be. I don't want to be the consolation prize.\n\nAlso when she told me about the guys she has been with she never mentioned ever being with a White dude. She told me that she had a boyfriend in highschool she never had sex with. Then in college she dated 2 guys, only had sex with the second guy and then she met me.  \n\nOur sex life isn't bad but it isn't stellar by any means. However, it's not me that is the boring lover, my girlfriend is the one that really puts the limits on spontaneity and fun. There are a lot of things she just won't do. \n\nIs this even worth mentioning that I overheard this, or should I just suck it up?", "summary": "heard my girlfriend talking to her friends about guys she has dated in the past."}
{"id": "t3_jh9os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"friend\" really sick; flowers? buying online?", "post": "So, basically I (guy) have been talking to this really great girl since January. We've never had a DTR because we've been really bad at communication. It's taken alot for both of us to open up to each other at all because of past stuff. We're getting better at it, really! I really adore this girl and I'm pretty sure she likes me too. I'd like it to become more serious, but with both of us in school soon, I don't want to get into some unnecessary semi-ldr stress.\n\nShe just got her wisdom teeth pulled out today and she's having a really rough time. I really want to send her flowers (this would be the first time I've done so. I've sent her small things but nothing big.) We haven't ever talked about flowers before. I just trawled through all her blog posts, twitter and facebook (as well as I could) but I couldn't find anything about her saying what her favorite flower was.\n\n* I know she likes flowers. (so yeah, no need to worry about that)\n* Purple is her favorite color. \n* Something kind of romantic and sweet but obviously nothing like roses.\n* Money isn't really a factor, but I know I want to get them delivered asap so that will probably need to be taken into consideration. \n* Where's the best place to get flowers? FTD.com?\n\nI'd love to pick out some flowers and bring them myself, but it's just too far to go. \n\nSorry if this wasn't the best place to submit this, but r/dating_advice isn't very active and something like r/askreddit is just way too active.", "summary": "Really special girl is sick, I want to send flowers. What do I send and where do I get them from?"}
{"id": "t3_2qii70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [28 M] confused if I should ask this [26 F] out on a date, ladies - would you say yes?", "post": "I'm a very confident man, I'm a CEO in my career. I met this \"woman of my dreams\" recently and she's literally every thing I have been looking for in a partner, I even think she has the perfect qualities to be an amazing mother. I am so serious about her and committed to delivering her the best rest of her life. We have hung out as friends over a month now, and she has gotten time to really know the \"inner me\" and she's sincerely said that she likes being with me and that I'm a really *nice* and amazing guy and she's lucky to know me.\n\nHowever, in this instance, I'm intimidated to ask her out on a date. She's younger than me, I'm shorter than her, and I'm also not the out-of-GQmagazine-type-of-attractive-male...plus, she's caucasian and I'm a white-washed asian. I can't help but worry she will instantly reject me without even looking deeper simply based of this fact that we might outwardly \"look like a bad match\". I can't help but be concerned that she will not even be proud to take me home to her parents even if it worked out between me and her.\n\nWhat would you ladies say if you were asked out by a shorter guy who isn't as attractive (appearance, but hot body)? Would you even go out on 1 date and give it an honest chance to work? \n\nFor me personally, I'm completely confident and secure about being in a relationship with her and building a life with her. I just have this other side of me that's been really bothering me and confusing me so just here to find out more. :)", "summary": "Are there any ladies out there that will go out on a date with a guy shorter than yourself and less attractive than other guys, while giving it an honest sincere chance to work?"}
{"id": "t3_20k762", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (26m) did nothing for our 4 year dating anniversary. Am I (25f) overreacting by being hurt over this?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He is not always the most socially aware person but he's a good person and I know he cares about me. Nonetheless, he tends to be a bit distant from me sometimes and it hurts my feelings. \n\nYesterday was our anniversary. We are in his home state staying with his mom for a short vacation. We went out to a concert with friends two nights ago and then decided to drive back to his mom's city a night early instead of staying to see another band. This meant we would be going to see one of his favorite sports teams on our anniversary rather than going to a concert (which I personally would enjoy more) or out to eat. I'm not a fan of this sport but I've gone with him to games before and I don't mind going, nor did I mind going this time. \n\nNonetheless. He treated it like any other day. Barely talked to me (we went with two of his friends, a guy and his fianc\u00e9e). I paid for a lot of our food and such because I wanted him to have a good time. I even bought him a jersey as a gift. He was thankful but still aloof. \n\nAfter the game we went back to his friends' house to hang out for a while. Around 11:30 I asked to come back home since we had been up til 4am the night before and I am now pretty sick with a cold. He seemed irritated and made me wait another hour. \n\nThis morning he got up again at 8 and left to go watch soccer with his same friend, so I've been laying here trying to not be sick. \n\nI guess I feel disappointed. I'm not asking for much. I didn't want a gift and I didn't have a problem going to the game or hanging out with his friends... It just would have been nice if he told me he loved me or something? \n\nRight now I feel pretty unloved and kind of like crying, but I'm sick so I can't tell if I'm overreacting. Help?", "summary": "Boyfriend basically ignored me all day during our anniversary and seemed indifferent to me. Am I overreacting by being hurt by this?"}
{"id": "t3_3q610z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M24] just had a breakup with my first boyfriend [M22], now I feel bad and guilty", "post": "I broke up with him after 8 months of dating because it didn't feel like a relationship as much as it did a friendship. The sex wasn't great (very routine and boring, as he was closed off and said no to trying new things) and we grew less and less affectionate as time went on, and I just felt like he deserved to find someone who would love him more.\n\nI know I hurt him when I broke up with him, which makes me feel like shit. It hurt me too, because he was my best friend and we got along super well. Knowing that breaking up probably meant losing my best friend made it hard on me, but I also feel like it would have been selfish of me to keep him around just because I liked hanging out with him.\n\nHow do you get over the feelings of guilt knowing you hurt someone who you care deeply for? All I want to do is text him and ask him if he's doing alright, but I think that would be a bad idea. I'm waiting and hoping for him to contact me and hopefully we can continue being friends, but I don't know if that's also me being selfish.", "summary": "Broke up with someone I was best friends with and still cared for a lot, don't know how to deal with the guilt of hurting him."}
{"id": "t3_exlw5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I go to a local college, a diploma mill, or just enjoy my free time?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm in a confusing situation.\nI've got my Associates, but I want to go back to school to finish up my BA. I've already gone to 3 different schools, and I've changed Majors 3 times. \nI don't really like school, but I can see it's importance, and it's something I really want to finish, I just have trouble with motivating myself. \nI have a great job working in IT, and I'm pretty sure my company would help pay for school as long as it's towards a Computer-related degree. \n\nOne of my concerns is that I know I don't want to stay living where I am. I eventually want to move (I don't know where to). I don't know if that will be in a year, or 5 years. I don't want to go to school here for a year, end up moving, and then have to transfer another school to wherever I move to. \n\nI asked around, and was recommended to Devry or ITT, because they have a lot of online classes. While that would make it easy if I moved, I don't want a degree from a diploma-mill. \n\nAre there any other \"online\" colleges that are worth-while? or should I just enjoy myself for now and wait until I move? Should I suck it up and start school, even if it means adding a 4th to my list?", "summary": "I don't know what I want out of my education, but I know I don't want to live here. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4m9tw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [20F] build trust in my relationship and my boyfriend [20M] of almost two years?", "post": "Let me start by saying, my boyfriend is a great guy. It has been a rocky relationship but time and time again he has proven that he is willing to put all the effort that is needed to make things work. He has helped me became a better person, helped me get over a lot of issues I have had with myself, and has always been there for me. He is never cheated, and is very open and honest with me. He's an frequent Reddit user so I can't really go into specifics, but incase he does fuck it, it'll be a nice reminder to him how much he means to me. \n\nSo what's the problem? Well to give a bit of background my parents divorced when I was little, not only that but for some reason I was mostly surrounded by unhealthy relationships. I don't dwell on it much and have never thought it affected me. \n\nSometimes this irrational fear comes over me that he must be fucking me over, more specifically that he is cheating on me. I have no reason to believe it other than I can't tell who he occasionally texts. And so far the times I have figured out, it's just friends or family. It's completely ridiculous. Just certain situations or thoughts trigger this overwhelming feeling that he must be doing something wrong. There's very little I can do to shake it off. \n\nI must emphasise that this is mostly comes from me just over thinking. \n\nI want some advice on how I can get out of the habit of thinking this things, or dealing with this insecurities. I know this could be something that ends our relationship and I really don't want that.", "summary": "Irrational and unjustifiable thoughts often make it hard for me to trust my boyfriend. How can I get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_45vp7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [21F] of one year, have been having problems because of her low to nonexistent sex drive. How to Help?", "post": "My girlfriend is 21 and I m 20. We've been together for a year and things have been wonderful. We started having sex by the 3rd month, and it started out great (in my head) but I noticed she never initiated and was never actually interested, and asked her but she just kind of ignored the question. I tried doing things differently but it didn't help.\n\nWe have been in long distance for the past 4 months and have 2 months to go. Different countries, not cities so no visits. In this time I learned much about her and her issues with sex.\n\nNow my girlfriend had a rough childhood and was raised not to trust anybody including her mother and father because they have been emotionally abusive and neglectful. As a teenager she didn't date because of the way high school is in the United States and how often guys are just taking advantage of girls and vice versa and all her friends had bad experiences. So according to her she just \"shut that part of her brain off\" and now that we are together much has improved on both of our ends. She loves and trusts me much more than anyone else.\n\nThe problem here is that she gets nervous talking about sex, or even approaching it. She feels nervous every time she mentions it and feels bad for having those feelings and its getting in the way of things for us. For instance, I suggested we just have a virtual shower together and she was just nervous beyond anything, and could barely get a grip on herself so I decided to give her space. She never says anything about me in attraction. I sincerely just want to help her and don t care if we don't have sex again for a while as long as I can help her get past this and truly enjoy herself, cause she is a wonderful person. What should I do? And what might be the reasons behind this anxiety and stress about the subject.\n\nP.S. We were both virgins before this relationship and its our first serious one. And she has mentioned quite a bit that she really wants this to happen for her. For her to enjoy it, and for me to have fun with her.", "summary": "I want to help my girlfriend feel comfortable and understand the possible reasons behind her low to nonexistent sex drive. And does this change overtime?"}
{"id": "t3_14l41q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Failed at flirting on epic proportions, again.  Decided reddit was totally the place to get flirting advice.", "post": "I'm 23, horrible at flirting, never had a gf, blah blah blah.  NO idea how to flirt.  I've asked several of my friends and they all pretty much say that I should be suggestive.  So I sent a girl (probably 20-ish), who's number I got a week ago, this:\n\n\"So you don't have work today and I don't have work today.  Are you thinking what I'm thinking? :)\" \n\nBecause women love smiley faces right? ...Right?\n\nShe responds with \"I'm at work pal.  I close, but it's nice to hear your off.  I hope your enjoying your day off.  I'm going back to work from lunch.\"\n\nAsked a female friend and she says that the girl was obviously NOT happy with my text and that I was being TOO suggestive...upon review I got the same feeling.  So after lurking for a couple years I decided to make an account to get a consensus on how to flirt.", "summary": "How do I flirt when in VERY early dating phase?  I'm sure if a lot of us band together we can pull off a decent way of flirting.  "}
{"id": "t3_52kz0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my Ex BF [20M] Going to be a 1yr without being together.... Yet he reappears and i'm hanging on", "post": "I dated this guy for 6months and although it was a short period of time we moved quite fast, by our 6month he had given me a promise ring. Month later he breaks up with me for reasons till this day I don't know. And throughout the break up process he continuously tried getting back together. I still have feelings for him but I feel like its because hes not giving me a chance to move on. We ran into eachother at a party in late august and we caught up and ended up staying up all night talking about our relationships and where we are now in life. After that day those feelings I had come back. \n\nTwo weeks ago he asked if I still had feelings for me. I told him that I did and then I asked how he feels, he then responded \" I feel like being friends is a good start\" I was just friend zoned by an ex and yet at the same time does he mean we could work this out but lets start as friends??\n\nIts now been a few weeks and we haven't talked since that conversation. I dont know what to do I wanna txt or call him to have a conversation but I don't know if its the best thing to do. There is this movie coming out Friday that him and I talked about seeing when it came out. Should I ask if he wants to come with me? or is it too pushy since we haven't spoken? \n\nWhat are your guys opinions on all of this? should I try to contact him or???", "summary": "Reddit Readers, what should I do"}
{"id": "t3_3wrhio", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I claim myself as an independent if my father pays child support to my mother?", "post": "I am an 18 year old male who attends and resides at a University while working part time. My mother has custody of me and my brother and receives child support from my father for us two. I pay for tuition, housing, food, and supplies from my own money and a combination of scholarships and loans taken out in my name and my name only. My question is, since my father is still paying child support to my mother can I claim myself as an independent for this tax year? Normally my mother would claim my brother one year and my father would claim me and then they would switch the next year but this year since I am paying for everything myself I was not sure if I would be eligible to be an independent since he technically pays child support.", "summary": "Basically I want to know who would be able to claim me on their taxes. Would my father be able to claim me because he pays child support or can I claim myself because I pay for my own expenses."}
{"id": "t3_400nph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] having feelings of anger towards mother [51F] past year over her moving?", "post": "About a year ago my mom moved to Hawaii from where we live in the United States which is in California. It wasn't a move out of financial necessity or to be closer to other family members, but a random move. My parents have been divorced since I was young and both my parents lived here in California within driving distance. Now because my mom has moved I basically have to choose between either remaining in California within driving distance of my dad and having to take a plane to ever see my mom again or going to Hawaii and having to take a plane to see my dad. No matter what I likely will only be able to see the other parent once a year because a plane ride is expensive and because nobody can really just keep flying back and forth. \n\nOver the past year since this has happened I have been harboring feelings of anger towards my mom. I haven't expressed that I'm disappointed she moved because I have not wanted to get into a argument about it that likely won't fix the situation. Does it make any sense for me to be angry about this? I feel like this is a terrible situation to be in because I now have to basically choose between my parents thanks to my mom moving so far away. I both love my parents very much, but how does someone even choose between their mom or dad if both of them are great parents? I just am incredibly sad and angry over this terrible situation where I'm now damned if I do and I'm damned if I don't.", "summary": "Mom moved to Hawaii for non financial reasons. My mom and dad are divorced and both used to live in California now have to choose between living near my dad or mom and barely being able to see the other parent and I can't stop being angry at my mother about this."}
{"id": "t3_23ajih", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Interested in a girl at work, how to ask her out", "post": "I need some advice from people who have experience dating or asking out co-workers. There's a new girl at my work who sits a few cubicles away, super-cute and super-nice. We're already friendly with each other but I'd really like to take the next step and see how a date would go.\n\nI just don't know how to approach this, literally. I've never asked out, let alone dated a co-worker. I feel uncomfortable asking her out while actually AT work, especially surrounded by other people in their cubes - it feels incredibly awkward and it certainly doesn't seem professional. And at the same time I feel like asking her out via Facebook or text would also be awkward and show a lack of confidence (which you can probably tell isn't as high in me as it could be). What do you guys think would be the best way to approach this situation? And if she says no how can I make a smooth transition back into being friendly coworkers so it's not awkward at work?", "summary": "Want to ask a co-worker out but have never done it so I'm looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_10eaj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends with benefits, but I'm in love.", "post": "21 (me female) and 20 (him). Live together. Exes. \n\nHe says he doesn't love me anymore and is well aware I still have feelings for him. I asked for friends with benefits with the understanding that I won't push for more because I don't want more from someone who doesn't want more. Easy enough to understand. \n\nHowever, he's my friend. He treats me kindly and we talk, joke, flirt, and he is even very affectionate outside of the bed. \n\nStill insists he doesn't want to be anything more than what we are. \n\nWe dated for 5 months and have been fwb for 1 week. Not much has changed other than impromptu kissing and all \"I love you\"s have stopped. \n\nJust other perspectives would be cool. Some friends say he must still love me and not know what he wants. Some friends say take what I can get and I should be fine because I know he doesn't owe me anything more. And still others say to just leave the situation and nurse my broken heart, but the sex is good and we get along.", "summary": "Live-in boyfriend of 5 months decides he doesn't love me and we switch gears to fwb."}
{"id": "t3_un8mh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what thing have u been scared to death of but turns out to be something else?", "post": "I had put a new sim card and the iphone pin in between my iphone case and iphone (i normally do this with my bus ticket), and lyed down in bed and was messaging my friend. I had turned off the lights at this point and the pin had fallen out of the case and landed on my shoulder, because it was totally unexpected and dark, i assumed it was a giant but and grabbed it and threw it across the room. only when it hit the wall and make a metal sound did i realise that it was the pin i had put in earlier. i not seen the pin since", "summary": "put pin in iphone case, messaging friend when pin falls out, thought was giant bug, threw across room, lost pin"}
{"id": "t3_3d40m1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[PA] How to find free/cheap legal consultation for possible criminal charges", "post": "Throwaway account for privacy reasons, but for Pennsylvania. \n\nI was confronted by another person making a claim that I am guilty of assaulting this person several years back. While there have been no criminal charges filed, I am 100% certain of my innocence and want to protect myself from any possible damages an investigation may bring (I am a University student so the threat of a faux-trail through the school is my greatest fear facing dismissal/loss of financial aid). My question is how to I go about seeking trustworthy legal advice for the time being so I know which steps to take? Neither I nor my family has any money at this time to afford an expensive lawyer, especially since this is a preventative measure on my part.", "summary": "Was told by someone I assaulted them, I am sure I didn't, seeking information on how to find an affordable/reliable consultation in case criminal charges/university investigations may happen"}
{"id": "t3_iy8n4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Going on a mini vacation soon. How do I still stay good on my diet?", "post": "First of all, I don't know if this is the right place to put this question. So if this is not the right place, I have no problem with you telling me another subreddit to post it to =]\n\nA little background: I am 20/F, 5'1\", and I am on Weight Watchers. So far I have lost 26 pounds and hoping to lose 14 more.\nNow on to the dilemma. On Wednesday I'm heading up to San Francisco for my 21st birthday, and I will be there until the 1st of August. I'm hoping you guys would give me some tips on how to stay on your diet while you're on vacation! \nEveryone is telling me to enjoy myself and forget about my diet (since I've been doing good so far), but I've been slowly losing weight these last couple weeks and I was hoping to at least lose one pound by my next weigh-in (which will be the 5th of August).\n\nCan someone give me some insight on how to still be good? Or do you guys think I should forget about it?", "summary": "I'm going on vacation. Wondering if there is good ways to stay on my diet or if I should just enjoy myself and forget about the diet."}
{"id": "t3_1afupv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question regarding strange cat behavior!!", "post": "I'm not sure where to post this exactly, feel free to direct me somewhere else of I'm in the wrong place!\n\nMy parents took in a stray cat who was pregnant. She is pretty social and has always gotten along well with my moms other cats. After she had her kittens, the other female in our house started laying with the new little family and at first just passively hangout. Now we are having issues with her interfering with the momma and the kittens. She is acting like she is the mother. She lays in the way and will bathe them and cuddle the kittens and I'm afraid she's not letting the mother cat nurse them like she should. \n\nMy question is simple, why is this cat (who has never been a mother) acting like a crazy kitten obsessed crazy!?", "summary": "other cat acting like mother cat; interfering with actual mother-kitten relationship. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_ysldz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/f] Am I setting myself up for trouble with my [21/m] boyfriend?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months now and like most relationships, we have some issues. In our case, it's his ex. A couple weeks after my boyfriend and I started dating we'd hang out a lot with his friends. His friends were all nice except for this one girl who refused to even talk to me, despite all the times i had tried to be nice. So I asked my boyfriend about it and he admits that he dated her for a year. I was pretty surprised, but this was in the beginning of our relationship and I didn't want to ask any questions and cause any drama. He later told me that they broke up a little over a month before we started dating. That just made me feel like a total rebound. I may not be so wise about relationships, but after my only other serious relationship which also lasted a year, I was completely torn apart and wasn't willing to do anything with another person for nearly a year. I just feel like if you loved someone that much and you separate, a month would do nothing to help heal the pain of the break up. On top of that every time i hang out with his group of friends she's there. I do love him and i do trust him but i just feel that from my own experience, it's hard to just move from one person to another in a period of a few weeks. I'm just here to ask for some advice from people who've been in similar situations and have more of a clue than i do.", "summary": "every time I hang out with my boyfriends friends his ex girlfriend is there"}
{"id": "t3_daqdt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, how did you afford university?", "post": "Hey ya'l this is my first post here but I thought this community is probably the best to answer this question.. \n\nI'm a 5th year Music student at a small Canadian university. I have finished all but two classes, a recital (a concert where you show off the bad ass skills you've learned) and philosophy. I work part time at a grocery store and I teach guitar lessons through the conservatory. \n\nI make $684.00 a month.\n\nMy tuition is $950\nRent is $400 \nUtilities $150\nStudent loans (no longer full time so I have to pay them back) $350\nFood $200\nEntertainment $100 (part of my degree requires 20 pro concerts a year)\nTransportation $80\n\nI owe my mother $600 for plane tickets she bought for me to do a french exchange. I owe my brother $1000 for buying me a laptop, as mine died but is necessary for my degree. \n\nTotal monthly expenses: $1,280\nTotal monthly earnings: $684\n= -$596 per month\nAs well as the -$2550 I owe to my family and tuition...\n\nWELL, FUCK THAT SHIT! \n\nSo short of selling my body, which is a very niche market and wouldn't survive locally, I'm all out of ideas. I know American schools are waaaaay more expensive so how did you guys do it? HOW DID YOU DO IT?!", "summary": "I'm poor, about to hit a wall of debt, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1zipav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] can't decide between [21F] and [26F], two incredible women whom I am definitely not worthy of.", "post": "So I've gotten into dating for the first time after a 5 year long hard slog getting my University degree. I've run into two incredible women who I've met via online dating sites. I am not great with women full stop, so I am having difficulty accepting that I am worthy of either of them. Unfortunately they contacted me at different times so I have to make a choice. Here are my options:\n\n26/F - second contact.\n- 5 years older than me.\n- Has pretty much exactly the same tastes in music, films, literature and politics as I do.\n- Drinks (unfortunately this is a concern for me as I have very very very very bad experiences with alcohol from an alcoholic father.\n- Has ADHD (I won't play the Aspergers Card but I am very introverted at the best of times and sometimes need time to myself).\n- Has recently sent me some text messages saying \"I want to kiss you\". I kind of freaked out because of...\n\n21/F - got in touch with me again after going quiet.\n- Slightly different tastes in music - can't stand metal (I love Rammstein). Similar tastes in literature though.\n- My age.\n- Doesn't drink (big plus for me).\n- Have only met her once. \n- A bit colder than 26/F but also more introverted. \n\nSo here I am. Stuck in this predicament. It's kind of driving me crazy, I need to make a decision. Any advice would be great.", "summary": "First time dating. Encountered two incredible women. Need to choose between one of the two. Halp?"}
{"id": "t3_4zyigh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my fella [31M], need advice on how to proceed with an LDR", "post": "Q and I have been together for 9 months. We've been very close friends for a year. \n\nAs far as I'm concerned, he's \"THE ONE.\" If I take his word for it (which I do), he feels the same. \n\nSo, it sucks that he got a job offer for his dream job three states away. Even worse when I learned that my mother may face the terminal manifestation of the cancer she'd allegedly \"beaten.\" \n\nWe're in a sticky situation. I told Q to take the job and move, and he's doing so. Even though he's well established and loved here, I could never ask him to give up the career step he's been dreaming on since before we ever started sleeping together. I...can't follow now. Even though I love my job, my home, my place in this world, I would follow if I could. I can't....\n\nSo, this is more a general question than a specific one. What worked for you in an LDR? What didn't? How do we combat the intense insecurity that we both feel? Q is a little jealous because he's leaving me behind -- I think to him he views our small town as a pack of wolves. I feel very insecure -- Q is going to a larger area and I know that if he'd been single he'd be facing a larger dating pool. How did you define your boundaries? How did you keep in touch? How did you fill the void that losing regular physical contact left? \n\nWhen my Ma learned she may be dying, she bought me the wedding dress of my dreams (in case she wasn't there to see me married). I want to wear that dress for Q. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I want us to continue fulfilling the mutual dreams we share. \n\nWe're committed to each other, but I'm afraid we'll loose the tools to prove it once we have a thousand miles between us.", "summary": "Need any advice we can get on making an LDR work"}
{"id": "t3_2sa3yv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Mutual funds advice", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm 24 with $30k sitting in a tax free savings account. No debt, no property or equity, just cash. \n\nI'm looking to invest this money for a short to medium term (2-3 years) and hopefully see some growth before my SO and I decide to purchase our own home. \n\nI've been doing some reading and have found that mutual funds seem to offer the most viable options to go along with my risk tolerance. However I am more than open to hearing about other investment opportunities. \n\nWith mutual funds, i have the option of either going through the bank and having them manage my funds/portfolio or going with an electronic series account that would allow me to buy/sell at my own discretion from a limited number of available funds. \n\nAny input with regards to my situation would be appreciated.", "summary": "what's a good way to safely maximize growth on $30k over 2-3 years?"}
{"id": "t3_nj81o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I've been invited to write a guest column in my local paper about SOPA and could use some advice.", "post": "Cross-posted from /r/SOPA, which you should check out if you haven't already.\n\nI was emailing media organizations on both the local and national level about the importance of educating people on what SOPA is, and how it will affect them. The only response I got was from my small suburban town's newspaper editor, who at first claimed that \"it is not his job as a journalist to educate the American people\" on laws that affect them (yes, that's actually what he said).\n\nAnyway, despite my disbelief I remained as cool and affable as possible and was thus invited to write a guest column about the subject due tomorrow if it's to be published in this week's paper. The problem isn't so much about knowing the facts well enough, it's just that I don't know how to present the information to that paper's audience (mostly middle-aged people who are stuck in a paradigm of thought wherein the government is mostly trustworthy) and I'm afraid I'm not sure how to tailor my prose so the article isn't written off as either too sensationalist or conspiracy theory jargon while still getting the point across. Even though my town is small (~12,000 residents) I'd still like it to be as effective as possible and any tips would be appreciated.", "summary": "writing a guest column about SOPA in the newspaper and want to be taken seriously."}
{"id": "t3_39d2d3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by celebrating my friend's birthday and eating some pizza", "post": "The effects of this TIFU are happening today, and are really bad. I went out with my friend to a pizza place to celebrate his birthday. We decided to share a pizza because it became an expensive place since we last went there. I usually choose the boring 5 meat combo or a simple cheese or pepperoni pizza, but I let him choose whatever he wanted because it was his birthday. He ended up with a pizza with tomatoes, olives, feta, sliced garlic, and minced garlic. I thought everything was within reason for me to try.\n\nNow here is the TIFU part. I ate 4 pieces of that pizza, even though it was loaded with garlic all over the place. (I did not even think about the amount of garlic.) So fast forward to today. I woke up with gross and very stinky garlic breath throughout the whole morning. Brushing my teeth only helped for a few minutes, then I went back to tasting garlic for the rest of the morning. Later, when I needed to go to the bathroom, I was in for a surprise. (I had noticed that my flatulence had smelled kind of bad, too.) After a few seconds of normal business, the most intense smell I have ever had of garlic hit my nose. It is honestly the most disgusting thing I have ever smelled. Now the bathroom smells like something died in there, and all I can do is hope that it clears out before anyone else goes in there. Now I can understand why vampires hate garlic.", "summary": "I ate some pizza loaded with garlic, and had to experience the intense smell while doing business."}
{"id": "t3_p8w9o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What could I do to make my mum happier?", "post": "My mum is in her 50's and Im 17 my sister is 21.\n\nI was helping my dad move her items into his truck so we could just take her things to her new place. Well my mum had a moment of extreme rage because we werent putting the items in the order she wanted and things escalated throughout the night. My sister asked her to go the store to get some food and up sister gave her a list of what she wanted . So she went out to the store and when she got back to the new place my sister left a few cans of tuna because she didnt want them and said sorry. Amywsys once we got home she started to go on a rampage of rants of how she didnt bring this way and I told her to calm down, she then proceeded to target me because I took a nuetral position in the arguement.\n\nHow could I calm her down and make her happier?", "summary": "sister pissed my mum off then proceeded to get mad at me.  Help"}
{"id": "t3_4nkvud", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Abandoning a friend. Should I feel bad?", "post": "Not something I typically do.  I only stop talking to people when I am the only one actually making an effort to communicate and have a nice friend relationship.  Quite a few people have said that they miss me and yet they don't make a single attempt to actually stay friends with me.\n\nAnyways, I was wondering if I should feel bad for logging out of any sites that a certain person could talk to me on.  Here's some info on him:\n-3 or 4 years younger than me.  Yikes.  That made me uncomfortable from the start.  And because our ages are just at certain stages to make it a little weird (I will be 18 in a few months.  He's 14 or so.).  I don't want to be a creep.  Personally, I remember ages not mattering to me when the scenario was reversed - me as a 14 y/o with two 20 y/o friends\n-Generally fun guy to talk to.  Made me laugh a lot.\n-Has a lot of mood swings.  And by \"a lot\", I mean at least 3 times a day or so.\n-Online only friend\n-Met him in January, talked to him regularly for 3 or so months\n-He became very dependent on me and told me fairly often that I was the only person he could talk to without his energy being drained\n\nAehh.  Can't remember anything else that might be of importance.\nSo yeah, I just got fed up and tired of feeling required to talk to him and I needed a break from maintaining relationships.  Back to being completely alone, and he still has tons of friends.\nI do feel somewhat bad because he seemed upset, but I think I am better off not talking with him.  It disturbed my studies.\n\nIf you'd be kind enough to respond to this post, tell me what your opinion of the situation is.", "summary": "got sick of being friends with someone and ditched them"}
{"id": "t3_4bc5xr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] had sex with my boss [33M]", "post": "I work in a small office. Friday was a bad day at work, just one of those days where everything goes wrong so everyone decided to go for drinks after work. We rarely all get together after work so we all drank more than we should have. At the end of the night, everyone was leaving and my boss and I decided to split a cab home since we live in the same area... I'm sure you can see where this is going. \n\nHe ended up coming into my house to see my new puppy, we had some more drinks and ended up having sex a few times. I can't say who initiated it, it was probably mutual, but he did say that he's wanted to fuck me since he hired me. I won't lie, I had thought about it too but obviously never acted on it. He slept over and we had sex again in the morning, but never really talked about it. \n\nSo now it's Monday morning and I'm not sure what to do. Should I just pretend it never happened? Talk to him about it at work today? Quit my job? Tell HR (please no)?", "summary": "had drunk sex with boss Friday/Saturday but never talked about it and I'm not sure what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_4080wj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 1 month, found emails replying to personal ads on Craigslist while he was on vacation, not sure how to confront him about it.", "post": "So to clear things up. I met my boyfriend through work. We started dating after I had left the company. We dated for around a month and then I found out he had been sexting with his ex, so I broke up with him. I decided to give him another chance, and we just recently got back together, as in, we got back together 3 days ago.\n\nHe was on a trip to the west coast during New Year's, and had taken his tablet with him. Today I went to use it because my laptop wasn't working and I admittedly snooped and went into his email. What I found made me sick - maybe a dozen replies to personal ads on the Craigslist of the city he was staying in. He had exchanged pics with numerous girls and even a few couples looking to meet up. He gave out his cell number. From what I can tell, a meet up never actually happened. But it still hurts to know that he told me he loved me and then went and tried to find another girl to have sex with. The last reply was on the 6th, just after midnight, which is the night he got home.\n\nMy problem now is, how do I confront him about this? I really don't know how to bring it up without making myself look bad as well for snooping. I want to give this relationship a real try, but I don't know if I can if he's seeking other women or wishing he could be with other women when he's with me.", "summary": "snooped on boyfriend's tablet, found emails in response to personal ads on Craigslist while he was away."}
{"id": "t3_386ipv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[34/f] Is this child endangerment, or are we just uptight? Husband(33/m)'s little sister and boyfriend (27/f, 32/m) are moving into a tent with their daughter(3/f) to grow medical marijuana.", "post": "My husband's little sister has been \"growing\" for many years now, but their latest scheme is a curveball.  They were propositioned by a stranger to lease land on a reservation on the other side of the state to farm... only there's no house.  They're going to put up tents and live there indefinitely. \"gonna make a million, pure profit, no taxes!\" or something.  These guys would be millionaires many times over if a fraction of their grand ideas went as planned, of course!  Also, if you want to ~~give them~~ invest some seed money they will pay you back and double your money. \n\nBut this little girl... we think she needs more stability. We think she needs some friends, some socializing, running water, pre-school, a bed, to not be surrounded by pot plants all day long in the middle of nowhere.  She already seems very lonely without friends at their current house.  I'm aware that children can thrive in all kinds of conditions, and they should be with their parents... but this seems like a new low for standard of living, and we're having a hard time accepting it.\n\nMy husband is talking with his family (parents 60s/m-f, sister 38/f), none of whom like what's going on, but nobody knows what should be done.  His parents are considering taking the daughter \"temporarily, until you get settled\", they live about 20 hr drive away from the reservation.  Do you think that we should force this?  I keep thinking, *well... what if I wanted to spend a summer driving around in a motor home, that wouldn't be completely unreasonable to do with my family...* And I can appreciate camping and living simply and off the grid... but this just seems completely unsafe and irresponsible to us.  She is very stubborn and the type who will cut off contact if we don't go along with her, but we are also trying to figure out at what point we need to have an intervention.", "summary": "Husband's doper sister and her doper boyfriend want to create a marijuana commune to get rich quick and they are dragging their 3yo daughter down with them.  When/how do we step in and moderate?"}
{"id": "t3_3yb13x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [18 F] of a year, I feel like our relationship isn't all I want it to be and I don't know how to fix it.", "post": "So recently our friends who have been best friends finally started dating. They are absolutely perfect for each other and it has made me look at my relationship.\n\n90% of my relationship now is sex. I'm not the one initiating. Every time we see each other she has a tendency to start things and i have no idea how to say no. I don't mind it but its to the point where that's most of what we are and I hate that. I always wanted to be in a relationship where we would talk and discuss and laugh with sex occasionally. And there is the second problem, whenever we discuss she seems offended by a lot of what I say. It's as if me having a different point of view than her treason.\n\nAnd another main issue is with me. I have terrible self esteem. Not to the point where its crippling but it is pretty bad. I get jelous easily. Her best friend is male and that makes me worry as I see these other 2 best friends finally dating and how perfect they are. I worry I'm not that for her. Honestly with all the issues recently I have been thinking about ending the relationship but one thing is holding me back. I'm not attractive or at least I think I'm not and I worry that if I leave her I may never find someone else. I know it sounds dumb and its super easy to say \"There are plenty of fish in the sea\" but it's hard to believe. Advice?", "summary": "Our relationship is starting to go down a path I don't want and idk how to talk about it. I'm also insecure and have bad self esteem. any thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2d9num", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24M] broke up with [21F] girlfriend a month ago after a year and a half of dating. She's starting to casually date other people and it fucking hurts. Any advice?", "post": "Hi everyone. I don't think this is anything out of the ordinary, but its something I've been struggling with lately and I'm not sure who to turn to.\n\nMy GF and I broke up last month, we dated for a year and half. Overall it was an \"okay\" breakup, obviously there were problems leading up to it but there was no screaming or hating each other. \n\nWe don't live close to each other anymore, but I recently found out that she's starting to casually date and seeking to hook up and whatnot. I know this is completely normal behavior and I'm not saying that she shouldn't be doing it, but it really hurts me. Especially because she's so far away now.\n\nAgain, I feel almost silly for saying it out loud (on the internet) because I know that everyone in the history of the universe has dealt with this feeling before if they've ever been through a breakup, but I guess I'm just seeking some words of wisdom or anecdotes that will offer some perspective on the situation.\n\nThanks for listening.", "summary": "Recent ex-GF is starting to casually date/hook up and it hurts me. Help change my perspective?"}
{"id": "t3_4ldwbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [22F] has been moping and depressed all day - enough to cancel plans with me and not want to leave her apartment. I'm pretty sure it's because she saw on FB that her ex [21M] and his new girl [23F] are celebrating an anniversary today.", "post": "I have been dating Steph for about six months. \n\nToday we both took the day off to have an extra long Memorial day weekend. Our plan for today was to go hiking. I came over in the morning, and she was really really sad. She said she wasn't in the mood to do anything. She also wouldn't tell me what was wrong. \n\nShe said she really wanted to be alone so I went home. I texted our mutual friend and her best friend, Sara, if anything was wrong with Steph that she might know about. Sara said, \"oh shit, I wonder if it has to do with Adams facebook today\"\n\nSo I do some snooping on his page and his girlfriend posted a very sentimental ode to him on Facebook, since today is apparently their six month anniversary. They are also currently long distance: he is studying abroad in Germany while his girlfriend is still here. \n\nHere's context for why my girlfriend is upset: She dated Adam for about four months before she herself went to study abroad in Germany. They fell in love super fast, and she wanted to stay together. He didn't want to, but she convinced him. That lasted about a month before he broke up with her, saying that he didn't want to do long distance with someone who lives on the other side of the world. It had nothing to do with her, he wouldn't do that with anybody. So he dumped her. \n\nSo basically, Adam is now in the exact same situation with this new girl as my girlfriend was with him, except in this case Adam and new girl are still together and very much in love. \n\nI get it, that's shitty, but it's also shitty to blow off your boyfriend because you're upset about your ex, right? Do I have the right to be upset about this? Do I bring it up? Or should I just leave her alone until she feels better?", "summary": "My gf's ex is celebrating a long distance anniversary with his new girlfriend. My gf tried to do the same long distance with ex and he dumped her. My gf was sad about this and blew me off the entire day to mope about him."}
{"id": "t3_13fyiw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What embarrassing story did your parents find out about and now humiliate you by repeating it at every family gathering?", "post": "When I was in 1st grade my mom bought a kit so i could make oven baked clay figures for a Christmas gift for my teacher who had just moved here from Germany. At the end of the day, I walk up to my teacher and proudly present her with my gift, a hardly recognizable clay teddy bear thing.\n\nTeacher: \"What is that between his legs?\" *pointing to a small nub of clay protruding downwards* \n\nMe: \"Thats his wee wee.\"\n\nTeacher: \"What's a wee wee?\"\n\nNot knowing what to say, I immediately drop my pants and underwear, leaving her speechless in awe/horror. Teacher then calls my parents who find the story uncontrollably hilarious and have told it at every family gathering since.", "summary": "Awkward teacher gifts leads to improv flashing due to colloquial reference. Then parents bask in humor"}
{"id": "t3_1o6tx3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my guitar case.", "post": "Yeah... no more carrying my guitar anywhere.\n\nSee, my sister, who moved into the city to go to unjiversity, left me her guitar.\n\nShe was an advanced student. She isolated herself from the world for her studies.\n\nShe never had spare time, and never took up playing guitar, so she gave it to me.\n\nShe expected me to take up guitar, to be great at it. She's the reason I started playing in the first place.\n\nWell I was going to my room to play a bit, try to make some progress on the song I have to write for my guitar class.\n\nMy dog had knocked over the guitar case while I was watching Cloud Atlas (great movie, btw.) And I didn't see it on the ground. I stepped on it.\n\nKeep in mind that this case is solid. It's not a gig-bag.\n\nI don't think I'll be carrying that guitar anywhere.\n\nMy sister's also coming to stay at my place for Thanksgiving. At least it was the case. Needless to say, I'm glad I didn't smash the guitar over that asshole's head at my school that one day, but that's a story for another time.", "summary": "stepped on my guitar case. It's fucked."}
{"id": "t3_41ckz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Internal] I [17,M] have feelings for my best friend [17,F] of 3 years. How can I resolve this?", "post": "I've known my friend for 3 years, and we briefly had a thing once during our second year of friendship. Things didn't really come to much and I got clingy and messed things up. I ended up repairing things between us, and we're pretty close friends now.\n\nI see her on a fairly regular basis but we only get to hang out about once a week. Most of our time together is one on one, nobody else around, but occasionally we're at her house with her family watching movies or whatever. \n\nWe're going to prom together (as friends, with other friends) but I want to still take pictures and dance with her and stuff. Hopefully that can still happen, but it wouldn't be a romantic scenario.\n\nI still have feelings for her, and I want to act on them despite knowing it's a bad idea. I really want to try and make something of it but I don't see a good outcome from it. I'm about 85% sure she doesn't share my feelings for her. How should I go about this?", "summary": "I like my best friend and I think it would ruin things if I tried acting upon it. How to resolve issues?"}
{"id": "t3_3qdfmo", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(GER) Saved up my first 1.000 euros. What now ?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI have been following this sub for about 6 months now and it has really helped me. \nA little backstory: \nI live in germany, am 21 and got to college at nights twice a week and on saturdays, while working 32 hours a week. I go to a private college, but my company pays for it (300 Euros/ month)\n\nI used to work just 3 days and got about 780 Euros after tax, with additional 125 bucks from the government. I dont receive any support from my parent, cause they dont have all to much them selves.\n\nI was getting barely getting by and then turned to this sub. Through a well earned raise (I asked for it), increasing my work load from 3 to 4 days and making some cuts in my spending, I now have my first 1.000 Euros on my bank account at the end of the month and this feels awesome.\n\nWhat should i do next? Do I just keep saving until amount xyz? I have thought about getting into stocks for a long time, but not actively trading, rather buying a few things to start off and only stock from companies i really feel good about and know a lot.", "summary": "What should a young 21 year old do with the first 1.000 and money beyond?"}
{"id": "t3_2a6gnm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Co-worker[F20] seems interested but has no time, she says. Am i being let down easy[M25]?", "post": "Fellow Redditors i need some advice,\nI have been talking to this girl from work for about 2 months. I got her number and seems pretty interested. she said she liked me, \"like a crush, i think your cute and funny\"; however, she said she has no time for a relationship (she works two jobs and says her friends are really important). I invited her to a date with me and she said yes, but flaked on me because she said her nephew was turning one. It bother me a little, i did not tell her anything, i just said next time. I told her today where we stand and she said she cant do a relationship but thinks i'm funny and says she really likes me. I feel she is putting me on the back burner. I saw her today and she said we are just friends. So what is your advice? I think i know to let her go, but i just need someone to see it from outside my perspective. What should i do? Should i keep texting her and make her laugh at work? or back off?", "summary": "Meet coworker and got her number. Said she liked me but said she couldn't be in a relationship, too busy."}
{"id": "t3_2nw6sa", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Thanks Steam, you've made me into a hoarder", "post": "I have just bought *Fallout 3: GotY edition*, *Fallout New Vegas: Ultimate edition*, *Borderlands: GotY edition*, *Borderlands 2: GotY edition*.\n\nI know I'm a hoarder, I'd buy games (that I like) whenever they are on sale and it feels good. I'm a long time gamer, started on consoles and been playing on the PC for 10 years now (shoutout to /r/pcmasterrace). Used to be a pirate as well. \n\nThere was a time that not a single legit game was installed on my computer, that changed 2 years ago when me and a couple of friends decided to buy L4D2 during the Halloween sale. \n\nLooking at my hard drive right now, there's only 2 pirated games installed. *Arcanum: Of Steamworks and Magick Obscura* and *NBA 2k15*, both I am looking to buy boxed versions. That's a stark contrast to what it was before and I have Steam to thank for that.", "summary": "Whoever said money can't buy you happiness can go fuck themselves."}
{"id": "t3_1i0mjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M-20] tried explaining how i felt to my co-worker [F19]. T'was shut down, where do i go now?", "post": "Here is the story: Shes been treated pretty badly by her boyfriend of now, i had been listening to her go on about him for quite a time now. I started getting feeling for her though, I thought we were pretty right for each other. I hated to be that guy though, but given the circumstance i thought it was okay.\n\nI went for it, but reminded her i didn't want to be \"That guy\". I was shut down and told i was just a friend, but a good one. She said i didn't know her, and that i might not like what shes like outside of work. I gave a little reply by saying \"I was willing to give it a shot.\"\n\nShe laughed, but then she returned to how she felt about all of this. I left it at that, and told her things are just gonna have to be normal then. \n\nWhat do i do now? Obviously i can't pursue this any longer. Is it really the end though?", "summary": "Coworker has boyfriend that treats her like shit, went for it, shut down. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_p5mcc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have had a long day at work and i have my first day of the semester tomorrow. Why can I not go back to sleep, no matter how hard I try?", "post": "After my 10 hour work shift i decided to go to bed early (around 22 o'clock) so i would be ready for tomorrow. Problem is I woke up at 3.30 and have so far not been able to go back to sleep. \n\nI have not had a cup of coffee since noon, and I only had 4 hours of sleep yesteday, however i do not feel more tired than usual. I am however afraid it will backfire some time tomorrow if i try to stay awake until tomorrow night. \n\nIt is currently 04.46 here in Denmark and some good advice would be appreciated! If you don't have advice, feel free to share similar stories. What is your experience with fucking up your Circadian rhythm (internal clock), succes, failure?", "summary": "Woke up feeling rested at 03.30. Have lectures all day tomorrow. Will my day be fucked if I don't succeed at going back to sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_1zi916", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [21F] of 5 months, should I try to talk to her again?", "post": "It has been a little over 2 months since my ex GF broke up with me. We almost never fought during our relationship and didn't have a big blowout at the end. Our problem was that we moved way to fast and nearly spent all our free time together. The first 4 and a half months were incredible and we became deeply infatuated with one another. It seemed like everything was going great and then out of the blue she told me she just became a little burnt out. She discussed with me how we could make things better, but then 2 days later she ended it and crushed my heart.\n\nNow 2 months have passed and I've started casually seeing another girl, but still can't get my ex off my mind. Which isn't fair for anybody. This new girl is super sweet and I really do like her a lot, but I can't help but think about my ex sometimes.\n\nI also have reason to believe my ex may have started seeing another guy but I'm unaware of the severity of the relationship.\n\nSo I guess my question is, should I try contacting my ex to see if she has any feelings for me still, or just leave it be?\nShe meant so much to me and became one of my best friends and I hate having her out of my life completely.\n\nI know I said that I started seeing someone, and I do like her, but we both will graduate in June. I don't know if I should put too much of my heart and effort into a new relationship? I think we both realize that this may just be short term anyways.", "summary": "Wondering if I should try to talk to my ex  which I still have some feelings for or just leave it be?"}
{"id": "t3_2i4r13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19 M] used to distancing myself from friends after a while, obviously I just can't do this with my girlfriend[19 F]", "post": "First relationship I am in, soon we've been together 6 months but I am beginning to feel like I need to cut my ties with her for no reason really. I just feel like it. \n\nI do this with most my friends, I don't have many friends, but when I usually just become friends with people one at a time and then after a while I decide to switch person or be alone. I don't like being alone either, but for some reason I feel like I must. \n\nThe only friend who has lasted longer than her is a guy who I rarely meet but when we meet we hang out every day for a week or two and then stop for a few months or a year.\n\nWhat the fuck, reddit? I don't really know what I'm asking of you, to help me cut off people I think I'm actually getting along with or to convince me of something. It both seems very plausible to me.", "summary": "I cut ties with people, I now feel like cutting ties with my gf, no real reason."}
{"id": "t3_y7xkv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which one: Chasing dreams and love, or financial responsibility?", "post": "I'm in an emotional bind, and need some outside input for this one.\n\nI had married the love of my life - but she lied, cheated, and ran from me leaving me with the burden of debt, job instability, and emotional stress.\n\nNow that she's own her own, and stable, she's reached out to me. She wants to be friends still (as we once were) and mentions that possibly, maybe, someday we can get back together again. (Married again or otherwise)\n\nThe problem, is you can't just abandon a marriage. You need to get divorced. She wants to just wash her hands and walk away from this - but I'm torn.\n\nOn one hand, I want to chase the fleeting dream of us coming back together, knowing full and well that she's lied and cheated, and betrayed my trust and arguably ruined my current financial situation.\n\nOn the other, I can take her to civil court and make sure she takes some of the debt she put on us with her - as well as my heart. \n\nThis will, of course, ease my personal growth and financial strain - but it will without a doubt ruin any potential future we could have together as well as destroy what's left of a 10-year friendship.\n\nIt's still a very fresh wound, and the future is very uncertain, but I don't have a lot of time before I need to take action. My head and heart are in a constant battle, and it's making me sick.", "summary": "Wife left me high and dry, but says it might work again in the future. Do I make sure she takes her share of the burden through the courts, or do I chase the fleeting dream of 'someday, again'?"}
{"id": "t3_2ny7u8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36M] married over a decade [35F], having invasive thoughts of leaving despite not having many problems in our marriage.", "post": "I recently found myself having feelings for another person and quickly removed myself from the situation well before anything happened. While this other person does bounce around in my head, I don't really believe in these kinds of attractions. I see it more as a possible reflection of something else that's wrong.\n\nLooking back, I'm seeing how my marriage feels much more like a friendship than a romance. I do believe that this happens with many people, though, and keeping high levels of attraction or passion isn't realistic or probably very healthy. Overall, our relationship has been very steady and we've worked through lots of life issues together. The biggest issue we've had is codependency (more so on her side) and relying on lots of things. Through our marriage, we've taken large strides working on these issues, though, and she's become capable of taking care of herself at least monetarily and physically.\n\nLooking at our relationship now, I'm wondering how much of my own depression and anxiety has been affected by the relationship itself. We've rarely done things independently but things have changed and I'm experiencing a little more freedom. I've never ever thought about leaving before and not sure why I can't shake this feeling that it's going to happen. I can barely make conversation with anyone anymore and feel like a zombie walking around without seeing anything. I'm stuck in my head with these thoughts constantly rotating.\n\nI don't know if my wife would ever emotionally bounce back from a divorce. I'm her first and only real relationship and I don't know if she's really ever grieved despite some large losses in her life. I don't know what I would honestly gain from leaving other than being alone.", "summary": "Married w/o kids for over a decade. Recently felt attraction to another which has lead me to wonder if there's something wrong in my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_pa4qy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with underemployment in MI", "post": "Hey reddit,\nI used to work between 32-40 hours at a hotel with Marriott.  Marriott sold that hotel, and I transferred to another hotel with Marriott as well.  I thought that I would be able to work full time there since I worked mostly midnights, but they don't have the same availability and want me to work afternoons.  \n\nI cannot work afternoons as I have school and I tutor for a practicum in education in the afternoon...  \n\nConsequently I filed for unemployment to supplement my income.  Marriott has blocked my claim saying that if I wasn't in school, I could work full time and I shouldn't get benefits.  I'm looking at the \"fact-finding form\" right now.  I need to respond in 10 days.  What should I say or do to get my underemployment?", "summary": "I can't work full time at my new hotel job, filed for unemployment and was blocked by my new hotel job.  Need advice on how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_21pime", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23M] deal with oneitis with a girl [23F] who does like me back?", "post": "Both of us have just gotten out of long term relationships, so we both agreed on the outset of keeping things slow. We have hung out a few times and have gotten physical. There is cuddling, long talks, etc. \n\nMy problem is that I feel like I am developing oneitis for her - that I am becoming more invested than she is. I hang on to my phone waiting to hear from her, I can't relax until I know we have set plans for next time, I get anxious when she doesn't text back right away. I overanalyze our text messages and I am afraid that one day she will wake up and want to end things.  It's bad.\n\nI am trying to hang out with friends, go to the gym...do anything to keep my mind off her. But she is always present and it is starting to drive me insane! What are some good ways to just relax and \"live in the moment\"?", "summary": "Girl and I both got out of long term relationships, agreed to take things slowly. We have been physical and I know that we like each other - but I am slowly becoming more invested in her than she. Feels like oneitis!"}
{"id": "t3_31mmot", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can Implied Consent uphold in court if it goes that far?", "post": "Hello /r/legaladvice,\n\nThank you in advance for any helpful information you may provide!\n\nThe background:\n\nWe are currently living in an apartment here in **White Plains, NY** here in the U.S. The apartment is just not working out. There are a plethora of issues and the landlord resides in Florida, so any response - while prompt, does not solve the issues at hand. We found a new place in another city, and want to terminate our lease agreement early.\n\nIn the past, our landlord has responded to all inquiries either the day of, or within one day (even on weekends).\n\nSo last Tuesday, I sent her a friendly email requesting her approval to terminate our lease agreement early, and requested her approval to use the security deposit as the last month's rent.\n\nUnfortunately, I haven't heard from her in about a week. In the follow up email I plan to send, I was going to say that if I do not hear back from her, I will interpret that as Implied Consent and will be terminating our lease agreement early, and that she will use the security deposit as last month's rent.\n\nIn the interest of being a good tenant (which we already are, and she's said it and admitted it), I'd like to send the follow up tomorrow (after one full week), as well as a phone call that evening.\n\nIf she  decides to take me to court for terminating the agreement without her ever responding to my communications, can my follow up email where I stated the implied consent hold up?\n\nIf you can provide sources, I'd **love** to check those out!", "summary": "I want to terminate my lease agreement and use implied consent if she does not respond. Does that hold up in court?"}
{"id": "t3_34iykh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] Girlfriend [17 F] just ended a two-month relationship yesterday morning and I am absolutely destroyed.", "post": "I love her more than anything, and she just broke up with me this morning. Until the semester ends I have to see her for three classes a day. I really don't know what my plan of action should be: No-contact is not an option\n\nWhat I had with her was probably the best it could have possibly been considering how short the relationship was. I've known her for two years, and have been harboring a crush on her for an extremely long time. She blew away my concept of love completely. The relationship didn't wither and die. We went from 60 to 0 in one day. 16 hours before it happened I would have never expected this. **At all**.\n\nIn her words, she got some \"good advice\" and realized that she \"doesn't have the mental capacity to handle a relationship right now\" and she has also mentioned that I need to be able to support myself emotionally before I can support others emotionally. She's right, fundamentally I have kind of fucked up priorities in my life.\n\nI'm absolutely destroyed right now and all I want to do is to sob into someone's arms. And for the longest time the person I would have run to was her, and now I can't.", "summary": "Girl ends relationship out of absolutely nowhere and I still have to see her every day until the end of school. I was, and still am, completely head over heels for her and am now lost without her."}
{"id": "t3_3jq364", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I (20m) do about my friend of 8 years (m23) who might be a pathological liar?", "post": "I'll call him Buddy. He isn't a bad person, but he omits and exaggerates information to an unnecessary extent. Between me and multiple of my associates, Buddy tells different versions of stories on many points that make it hard to pinpoint his actual events and motives. He's a wannabe people pleaser. I don't mean that insultingly, he'll reflexibly respond affirmatively to anything without thinking details. (e.g., he asked me to hang out the next day at my place, I said yes. A little later, his brother called about Buddy going to his place at the same designated time, and he immediately said yes in front of me. Buddy didn't bring it up after that, this happens often)\n\nThe thing is, he clearly doesn't mean to do what he does. Still, that doesn't erase that promises become falsified, claims fall through, excuses are default, and reliability is out of the question. I put aside a lot of days to hang or do otherwise, and he extends times and often just cancels, usually without even informing me. It's also what he does to himself, like not getting his license or a job when he makes plans to, and he takes every cop out or excuse he can think of.\n\nThe troubling thing is, Buddy seems very unhappy with himself. He can't pinpoint why it happens or really comprehend/integrate explanations when they're given. He has been given a plethora of sound advice in the past 3-ish years that he's had better influences of associates, and he always acts out \"epiphanies\" that are apparently forgotten and/or repeated later.\n\nI'd normally consider this behavior that of a lost cause, but I'm compelled to believe this is an exceptional case. My manpride holds me back from saying it, but I care for the dude. I don't know what to do, I'm still demoralized and disappointed often, and feel guilty for feeling that way.", "summary": "buddy mixes up stories/reasonings, is behaviorally unmindful, but he's my bro and I don't wanna keep feeling hopeless for him."}
{"id": "t3_4z0j43", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy I'm seeing's ex wants him back.", "post": "So I'm currently seeing a great guy. I'll keep this short and just say that we're not in a committed relationship yet, but neither of us is seeing anyone else and we really enjoy each other.\n\nThe issue is his ex girlfriend. He broke up with her a year ago I believe, on good terms. She's seeing someone new, as well, and they're good friends which I think is great. \n\nThe annoying part however is how she keeps calling him and telling him she misses him a lot and wants him back. I trust him, since he chooses to be with me and not her, but it still kind of bothers me. My last relationship ended because my then boyfriend decided he wanted his ex girlfriend back, so. \n\nIt's silly, but I can't help being insecure about it. He's older than me, 6 years older, and she's closer to his age, so I can't help but to worry that he'll go back to her for being more \"mature\" or whatever. They were together for 4 years or so, after all.\n\nHow do I get over these irrational fears? Being friends with your ex is great and I encourage it, but her calling him and crying makes me uncomfortable..", "summary": "my guy's ex calls him and misses him and it makes me insecure."}
{"id": "t3_1lw66p", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "F/19/5'8\" 200lbs - 170lbs I'm so excited!", "post": "Link to my picture: \n\nI posted on this subreddit about 5 months ago. It's taken me that long to drop another 10 lbs but I am just happy that it happened. I recently started some fitness classes at my university's gym and that's what busted me out of that plateau. I did some speed walking with my mom and her friends this summer and that also helped tremendously. \n\nMy big change from my last 20 lbs lost is that I didn't use My Fitness Pal at all. I wanted to \"do it on my own\" in a realistic way that didn't leave me obsessing. I originally just wanted to be under 170lbs, but now am finding that my body looks better and better and is able to achieve more and more with every pound lost. This morning I went into a back bend from the standing position, with a little help from my bed for balance. I'm just so happy with my progress and wanted to share. \n\nAs a somewhat tall girl, it's sometimes hard to find people with similar body structure to use as inspiration. So to anyone out there who looks like me, just know that even 10 pounds makes a huge difference!", "summary": "i lost 30 lbs since january 2013. i'm hype. just wanted to share and talk with the awesome people of this subreddit!"}
{"id": "t3_1gvoys", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] need help coming out to my family, he is [21/m]", "post": "A bit of history: When I was 14, I began to become attracted to both guys and girls. I had my first \"relationship\" with a young man, we kissed, and I felt a lot of pressure from my parents to break up with him. He wasn't the most attractive guy, but he was very nice. My parents said, \"Even if you are gay, you can do better than him.\"\n\nI proceeded to chase girls. I had a horrendous experience with a young woman about a year later who never \"dated\" me, but played me and other guys together in a sick game. Following that, I had a 9 month relationship my senior year of high school with a young lady and she broke up with me for another guy she had just met. I was heartbroken, but it was high school. \n\nI had many casual relationships my first semester away to college: 2 female, one male. I enjoyed my male experience immensely and it continued for many months, even when I moved home he had a cabin that his family owned nearby and would come to visit me. Then I had a 5 month relationship with a young, mentally unstable girl who I broke up with, got over fairly easily, and it's been about a month since the end of that.\n\nFive days ago, I met a wonderful young man and we started dating. I'm afraid that my parents will not be accepting seeing as how my new found lover is a big guy, probably around 300 lbs. I do not mind this, and I find him very attractive, but I'm afraid that they will see this as rebound desperation and not approve. I share most everything with my parents, but they do not know about my casual relationships away at school, only the guy who they pushed away from me and the two girls that I've dated.", "summary": "My parents may not approve of my new boyfriend. Is there an easy way to go about telling them about him?"}
{"id": "t3_3a0fu6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F26] just found out the guy [M31] I've been seeing has cancer. What do I do?", "post": "I had been seeing this guy for about six weeks and I was falling in love with him. I've never connected with anyone like this. I know it's a short amount of time, but I just can't explain it and I know he feels the same. \n\nThen last night he told me he had cancer. I don't want to say what kind because I don't want him to recognize this, but he's been in remission for three years and the only reason he told me was because he thinks it's back. \n\nHe's got a doctor appointment scheduled to get a biopsy. He's terrified, as you might expect, and he says he doesn't think he wants me to stay with him - not because he doesn't want me, but because he doesn't want to start anything he can't finish. He doesn't want to leave any \"loose ends.\" \n\nWhen we got together it was supposed to be a casual thing but it quickly became much more than that for both of us. He wanted a distraction, I wanted something fun while I figured out what I wanted. I found what I wanted. \n\nHe's afraid of distorting my memory of him. He's afraid to really let me in. He's got complications and baggage other than this that he hasn't shared with me because he says he never expected we would get this close. He had a child and a wife at one point. I don't think they're around now but I don't know what happened. \n\nI am scared of losing him. I'm scared he won't let me in. I'm scared he will suffer alone to protect me. \n\nI want to be there for him, but I told him if my presence is making his life harder I would walk away at this exact moment. All he had to do was say so and he didn't. \n\nWe're supposed to meet this week and talk about everything. How do I explain that I want to be there for him and that he means the world to me? How do I get him to understand that whatever happened before won't matter to me, all that matters is who he is today and what he means to me?", "summary": "FWBs fall hard, his cancer (possibly) comes back, he tries to walk away to protect her, she doesn't want him to"}
{"id": "t3_2shxg0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally telling my best friend i'm in love with him", "post": "Intro: This is not a fuck up today, it happened two days ago so not really a tifu.\n\nI have a best friend who lives in another continent. The time difference is ~6 hours and we talk everyday. The thing is I am fully aware that he is an amazing guy and I would totally date him if he lives in the same country as I (LDR is a definitely no-no for me). BUT, he doesn't know this. He is a totally shy guy who never initiates anything first, so i don't really know what's going on in his mind.\n\nHere's the fuck up: I was really bummed beceause i met this guy who lives in another continent (i know right, story of my life) and we really hit it off. This is like the fifth time this happen and my frustrated self did what is the most natural thing: talk (rant) to my best friend about this.", "summary": "told my best friend in another continent that all this while i've been in love with him, got sent to the deepest hell of friendzone."}
{"id": "t3_55202k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My sister [22] is in love with an older man [58]?", "post": "Hey guys, this is my first post on this subreddit so if I've done anything wrong in my post please kindly tell me.\n\nSo my sister has been working for this designer for a while and in that time she met another designer who works alongside her boss. Eventually they got close and she claims that she's fallen in love with this man. But the problem is that she's only 22 and he's 58. He's older than my dad.\n\nI've tried to be as accepting of this as I could when she first told me she had a thing for him, but then eventually, she started crying over him and being really protective over him saying that she gets mad when he talks to other girls or that she's always in a bad mood when he's out of town.\n\nThey've gotten close over the year to the point where they go out for coffee together, and she sees it as a date when in fact it could just be getting coffee together. Its also worth mentioning that he has a girlfriend in NY. And she is aware of it.\n\nThere have been a few times that she would cry over him because she feels that he doesn't show interest in her. Both her best friend and I tried to give her our own advice but she refuses to listen. I've told her that she should just move on from it but she refuses simply because she can't (??). Its so fucking stupid. She's tried to before but her way of thinking that she wont do it because her will won't let her is preventing her. Now she back in that state where she's all happy because she's been having good days with him.\n\nShe wants to go as far as planning on buying him gifts and I told her not to and that I'm unhappy about what she's been doing. And she replied that she doesn't care because she's happy. The only ending to this is that she gets heartbroken.\n\nAm I being too harsh on her? Like I've tried everything but at this point I have no more patience for her crying about it to me because this is all simply her wrongdoing for trying not to act on it.", "summary": "my 22 y/o sister claims she is in love with a 58 y/o man and keeps getting heart broken over him but she refuses to do anything about it."}
{"id": "t3_4rjwx2", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "advice on 'trusting' verbal Offer while Waiting for Paperwork via email", "post": "Hey all - looking for advice on how long to wait for official paperwork to be emailed? \n\nMy situation: Interviewed with CEO and another executive with company. Received a phone call Friday after hours from the executive who said I got the job and paperwork would be coming this week. I have to put in my two weeks at my current job, and they understand that my start date will be the 19th. \n\nHowever - I don't want to put in my two weeks until the offer is signed, sealed, delivered in writing. Still waiting on the offer via email. \n\nAm just looking for advice on how to handle this situation? Should I call them/email them just highlighting my scenario about putting in two weeks respectfully? \n\nAm just very worried this verbal offer will be rescinded or revoked because I'm overanalyzing this situation over and over. No background checks or anything required for this job.", "summary": "Received job offer over the phone, waiting for official contract via email. How/when to reach out, or to just wait?"}
{"id": "t3_1lok2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19F] with guy friend(?) [20M] just started talking, I think he has a girl friend", "post": "There's a guy that I have a couple of classes with (college) that I've started talking to. It started with him sitting next to me in class and just chatting a bit, then moved onto me adding him on Facebook, then him asking for my number. We haven't really spent a lot of time together, but he has called me a couple of times to chat, and we text. He also expressed regret over the fact that we didn't get lunch together the other day.\n\nI am really starting to like him and I think he's a really sweet guy however... according to his Facebook he is in a relationship. Unless I'm just reading things wrong, I'm fairly certain that he has been flirting with me and this isn't just a friend thing. He hasn't once mentioned the girl that he is dating and hasn't even seemed worried to be seen with me in public (nothing serious, but us together with no one else).\n\nI really don't know what is going on and my friends keep telling me that I just need to ask him about it, but I have no idea if he is even wanting \"us\" to be a thing. The whole situation is really odd to me. On one hand I like him and would like to have a relationship with him, but on the other hand, I don't know if he is for sure still dating someone and I don't want to be someone that he is cheating with.\n\nI keep wanting to eventually ask him if he is intending for \"us\" to be more than friends, but I don't want to rush into things. Also, since we have classes together Monday-Friday, I would definitely see him almost everyday and I don't want to make things awkward so soon. I'm just really confused and could use some advice.", "summary": "the guy I've started talking to apparently has a girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_snh2c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does your job suck?", "post": "I have a weekend job, (high school freshman) its weather dependent.  Every weekend I wake up dreading the sound of silence, the sound of it not raining. I then drag myself out of bed and ride my bike up several ridiculously  steep hills for several miles until I reach a field, where my rich boss lives. I then lug a 50 pound bag of crap out into said  field. Where I arrive drenched in sweat, I  proceed to weed whack though knee to neck high weeds in tropical humidity/ heat. These are no normal weeds, they curl around each other forming a impenetrable weave of hell, not even the noon sun can pierce this nightmare. It can take me ten minuets  to make a meter of head-way. \n\nI am then expected to dodge around tiny trees, deviously hidden in this maelstrom with millimeter accuracy with a heavy duty weed whacker.\n\nI do this from 7:00 to 3:00 for get this: 6 dollars an hour. and if I don't bring a sandwich with me (doesn't matter if I eat it) I make 5.\n\noh yeah I also cant take any breaks more than 5 min \n\nsorry for ranting I am just not very happy right now.", "summary": "My job probably isn't the worst I just don't like it. "}
{"id": "t3_1kc8rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17|M] not sure if I truly love this girl or what the heck is going on with myself.", "post": "I met this girl, we'll call her Susie, in my theater class Freshman year (2011) And she completely captivated me. She was the first girl I've ever looked at and thought not that she had a nice ass or nice tits, but I looked at her and went, \"Wow. Shes beautiful.\" \n\nShe honestly wasn't the prettiest girl in the world, but she was to me. As petty as it seems, if I had to pick one girl to spend the rest of my life with and I can't even look at another women, it'd be her. \n\nShe was in my life for a month, and she moved. Now, fellow redditors, I had cancer and cause chemo I have terrible fucking memory. I mean, I don't remember anything in my life until my freshman year of high school bad.. And even then it's very fuzzy. \n\nBut when it came to her? I remembered everything. I remember her voice, almost 4 years later not having heard it. I remember her beautiful singing. I remember her cute little laugh. I remember everything. \n\nI've tried to have relationships and I've tried to move on, but I can't. We never even dated - we never even kissed, and I can't get over her. \n\nI've tried telling other people, and they always tell me it's hormones and that they had the same kind of deal. I don't believe them because their situation is always different. I haven't spoken to or seen her in almost 4 years, and she's still in my thoughts. \n\nreddit, youre my last hope of getting over this girl. If the consensus says it's just hormones or if she was/is my first love, I'll believe either one. \n\nAm I in love? Is it just hormones? How the hell can I get over her?", "summary": "girl was in my life for a month, haven't spoken to or seen her in almost 4 years. Still think about and remember her constantly even through chemo brain. Love or hormones? Wut do?"}
{"id": "t3_481x9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) want to know how to handle when strangers are flirting with my S/O (18f) when she doesn't realise their intentions.", "post": "Me and my gf have been dating around a month, I'm happy with how it's going but we went to a club with friends this week and she was being hit on by a guy but she was oblivious so I wanted people's advice on how to handle it.\n\nShe's very pretty and friendly so no doubt it will happen again, I trust her and it's good to meet new people but this guy was obviously trying to flirt but she thought he was just being friendly.\n\nWhen it happened I just ignored it, went off and bumped into some other friends so it worked out fine but I was surprised at how much it irked me so any helps appreciated.", "summary": "How to act when your Gfs being hit on but she doesn't realise."}
{"id": "t3_j6hdb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Backwards progress...time to move forward!!!", "post": "3-4 years ago I looked like this: [Woop!! =D](\n\nAfter a broken engagement, a 'moderate' depressive episode, long bouts of unemployment/video game addiction, no longer working a hard physically involved job/training at Muay Thai kickboxing I....\n\n....currently I look like this: [Augh =*(](\n\nTonight I took the second step in turning myself around.  Over the last week I said goodbye to a lot of horrible eating habits and started discovering some new ones.  \n\nExercise and a plan...woooo [C25K plan on my wall!] One Red \"X\" down, many more to go!!!\n\nI'm posting this here in r/loseit to remind myself in those future weak moments and to show a couple of friends I know who lurk here how serious I am about getting myself healthy again.\n\nI'll post things in the appropriate subreddits as I go, thanks so much reddit.  I'm very excited to get this moving.", "summary": "Was fit, got fat, time to fix it!!"}
{"id": "t3_2pnndx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/F] with my [26/M] boyfriend of 2 years. 1% of the time, he's a moody jerk.", "post": "My SO and I both suffer from a variety of mental illnesses, and are generally open and supportive of each other, and hardly ever allow ourselves to take out our frustrations and negative emotions on each other. We're both medicated and stable. We're an incredibly great match, our friends all fawn over us and envy our relationship, and we're very much in love and intend on spending the rest of our lives together. We're a fucking powercouple aside from this one thing:\n\nWhen my boyfriend gets agitated (a symptom of his bipolar disorder), he gets snappy, abrupt, closed-off, and childish -- it is usually triggered by being in large crowds, an perceived pressure to be entertaining, or a general restlessness. These instances are always short, and he *always* apologizes, but for the duration, it fucking sucks and my feelings get hurt, even though I know I'm not to blame. Also, note that they are pretty few and far between, maybe a few a month.\n\nWe've talked about it a lot, and I've somewhat accepted it as the price of admission; I know that some symptoms of our illnesses will prevail at times even when we're stable. I guess I'm not wanting to change his behavior as much as I'm wanting to be able to control my reaction to it. When I'm in a dark place, and I snap at him, he always knows it's not his fault, he doesn't take it personally (and of course I apologize immediately.) I just want to be able to stay calm and not let it ruin my mood.", "summary": "Boyfriend has bipolar disorder, is medicated and stable, except for 1% of the time where he has mini-tantrums. I accept this about him, but want to control my emotional reaction to it. Anyone have experience?"}
{"id": "t3_348byx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me (M/23) be better friends with her (F/26).", "post": "So I have been in a very slow-burn kind of friendship with this person for years. It's currently showing signs of growth, partly because of proximity/time spent together. However, maybe because of my relative lack of social experience growing up, maybe because I really really like her, or some other reason, I am preoccupied with making sure the relationship goes really well to such an extent that it's distracting me from being there, present, and able to have a completely free and good time when I'm around her. I'm also having trouble talking naturally between face-to-face interactions...doubting if I have anything worthwhile to send...wanting to say many things but not sure if they are too weird or personal. She has said she wants to be good friends, that she wants to be able to talk about her current relationship, for example, but...Let me guess I need to stop thinking so much about it.", "summary": "Being worried about growing a friendship/making it real seems to actually be counter-productive?"}
{"id": "t3_j0g6r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you control your dreams?", "post": "Idk if I'm sounding really stupid asking this, but I've heard it is possible to control your dreams. I think it's called lucid dreaming or something like that. I've always been curious but never really enough to do any research into the topic.\n\nI've also had a friend claim her dad taught her how to do this, but I've never asked her how she does it.\n\nSo help me out reddit. Is it possible? If so, how? The more details the better. Anything I have to do prior to sleeping? Any kind of mindset I should be in? That sorta thing...\n___\nAlso I'm heading into work right now, so I won't be able to respond to comments until I get off later tonight. Hopefully by then someone will have settled this for me and/or possibly helped me figure this out.\n___", "summary": "How do you control your dreams?"}
{"id": "t3_1hz5vi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17M] have a crush on someone[19F], but it's a little more complicated than that.", "post": "I've known this girl for about 3^1/2 or 4 years. She is the little sister of my cousin's ex-girlfriend. \n\nNow, I've always been attracted to her physically, but these feelings I'm having now are definitely new, and I've never really dealt with anything like this. I've known and been friends with several very attractive girls in the past and had no further interest in them, unlike now. It's very new to me and I can honestly say I'm somewhat confused. I can't figure out what exactly it is about her that's making me like her so much.\n\nAside from that, there's a slight problem. She's already in a relationship with another girl, and says that she is now a lesbian. Normally, I would just move on and consider it not a possibility to pursue anything further with her. However, she's been with several guys in the past and this is the first girl she's ever been with. Most people who know her seem to be of the opinion that it's just an experimental phase. I really don't have an opinion on the matter, as I can see why people would think that, but I also wouldn't be surprised if it isn't just experimenting.\n\nSo do I try to approach her with my feelings, even though she's in a relationship? I really don't want to cause any problems there, or make it awkward for anyone. We're still friends and if this doesn't work out I'd like for things to stay somewhat the same. There's also the lesbian issue.", "summary": "I have my first crush on my cousin's ex-girlfriend's lesbian little sister."}
{"id": "t3_4rkomr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Risk ruining family over cheating? (22M). Not too sure who's fault either.", "post": "When I turned 21, my friend (23F) I'll call her J, went out to a friend's house with me and my other friends to celebrate with drinks. J and I used to have a lot of sex in a friend's with benefits kind of way while I was in a rough patch with my GF at the time. This lasted a few months. Fast forward to the party, my best friend was suppose to take me home but somehow he obliged to let me stay at J's place. I went to her bed and fell asleep.\n\nStill more drunk than I've ever been in my life i awoke to her naked on top of me taking my clothes off. I didn't fight it, and I didn't want it. So I just laid there still pretty much asleep eyes shut and laying down. She got on and did her what she did. I never \"finished\". Rather I just turned and went to sleep.\n\nHere's where it gets tricky. J came to my work and apologized the next morning since I was supposed to go home to my pregnant fiance that night after the party and J knew that. Im on good terms with her now. I helped her through the worst time of her life. She was (mods won't let me say the R word)ed when she was younger than a teen. I was there when she came to terms with it and she told me everything. I was with her when she told her mother and through the conviction process of the man. Other girls even came out to admit this person did the same to them thanks to J bringing it to light.\n\nI now have children with my fiance. We've been together for almost seven years now and live together with our two children. Shes extremely unforgiving and actually pretty nasty so I'm certain telling her will not sit well and I'm not sure it will end well. Should I risk my family for this event or do I let it die between me and J.", "summary": "should I tell my fiance about cheating with a past friend with benefits and risk ruining my family?"}
{"id": "t3_298ude", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I love him, I just wish things were easier!", "post": "I met probably the coolest dude I've ever met three months ago. We hit it off like two old friends and have been dating ever since. It is probably the most fulfilling connection I've had... jeez, maybe ever. \n\nEven though our relationship is satisfying and healthy, there's just one thing: He lives kind of far (35+ mins) and has no mode of transportation. We're also both living in places where it would be impossible to have sleepovers (long story). He's had a terrible time finding a job (moved here from another state), so I pay for pretty much everything. I work a 9 to 5 all week so the only day we can hang out is Sunday, when I drive up and get a motel room so we can at least be intimate and have privacy. \n\nIt's okay that I'm spending money for right now, I make enough that it isn't a huge strain. Being alone with him, staying up til dawn just talking, watching movies and cuddling and just being with him... I could go on forever about how perfect it all feels when he's there. But he feels guilty and hates that he can't throw down for dinners and the rooms. I hate seeing him look so defeated. And because I don't see him as often as I want, I just miss him so badly.\n\nBeing with him makes me so fucking happy. I can't remember ever feeling this way about anyone. But financially and emotionally, this whole situation is less than ideal. All I want is to finish school so I can have an apartment already and have him stay with me for more than a day, for him to find a job so he can start feeling better about himself and make some money, and to see him more than once a week. I love the hell out of this man. \n\nJust wanted to vent without making him feel worse-- it's really not his fault, he's trying so damn hard, and he treats me so amazingly well. He's the sweetest dude in the world, and we're so into each other it's kinda gross. I know the wait is worth it, but I just wish things would get a little easier. I'm gonna hang in there, but damn, this is frustrating as fuck!", "summary": "Perfect relationship, bad living situation, long distance, and job troubles are making everyone have a sad."}
{"id": "t3_11w2be", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Dating a girl, things are going good, she's in love with someone else. Again...", "post": "A year ago, I was in a relationship with a girl who had been in love with her married exbf the whole time. I was rebound guy. After 5 months, I found email exchanges and called it quits. \n\nSo I've been dating a lot since, not really letting the last relationship failure get to me. It haunts me a bit, but I've pretty much gotten over it.\n\nI've been seeing a girl for about a week and we talked about levelling-up the friendship, seeing if there was something more than just sexual compatibility and friendship. Last night, she left her Facebook logged in on my computer.\n\nBecause of having discovered that my ex was still in love with her exbf by finding her emails, I took a fear-based looky-loo into my friends' FB emails. I didn't want to move forward in a relationship if her heart wasn't available. I found out that she was, indeed, still in love with her ex. I wasn't hurt or anything. I haven't invested much emotion into this friendship and I haven't let my guard down much. Reading the messages between her and her exbf, I realized that they have something really special and rare. Because of him being involved in treatment and rehabilitation, trying to turn his life around, they can't be together. It was beautiful and tragic and seemed really romantic, the way she told him that she'd always be there for him, still interested in marrying and having kids with him, will love him forever, soulmate, etc, etc...\n\nI just don't understand why she'd consider a relationship with me while still corresponding with her ex in this manner. They obviously both mutually miss and love each other. I don't mind just being her friend and not getting my heart and emotions all wrapped up with her.\n\nHow should I approach this situation? Should I tell her I looked and try and be a good friend until her exbf is available? Should I just gently let her go and move on?", "summary": "Girl I'm currently dating is still madly in love with her exbf, but she's also trying to get me into a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2uvz2u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a little to blunt when I was drunk", "post": "SO last friday there was a party at my place, and the girl I liked was gonna be there so I was hella stoked. I was also really nervous so I was drinking maybe a little quicker then I should have.\nShe's at the party and everythings going great, then we start talking and I'm just on TOP of my game, like everything I'm saying about her she's loving, and I'm getting great signals that she might be kinda into me. I was tripping over my words and being all cute and complimenting her and blah blah blah. Now I was already sure she wasn't gonna bang me that night, tbh I like to take things a bit slower and didn't really expect anything. We were still talking and she looked and me and said \"whats on your mind?\" cause I had been quite for a bit (at this point im like a 7/10 drunk scale). I looked at her and said\"... uh Ijustwannatakeyouupstairsrightnow\"... It was not recieved well and I haven't heard from her since last friday.", "summary": "I said ONE thing and fucked up my chances with the girl I liked"}
{"id": "t3_1xc7sq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "M(18) do I still have a chance with my ex?", "post": "Alright sorry for the length but thank you to those who read through this.\n\nI had been involved with a girl for a little over 6 months. We were happy and she would always say how much I helped her branch out. It was a quaint and comfortable time for the most part.  Then around  the fifth month I became colossal  idiot. I started thinking about how much \"more\" I could be doing that she was apparently holding me back and how many girls I could have a life changing experience with. Basically my head was in my ass. \nSo I decided, for my own welfare, I needed to end this. The only hiccup was that we were working on a major production together with me being in an authority position. This forced me to sort of carry on the relationship as I did not want to risk workplace drama (and truthfully I wanted to delay hurting her) after about 2 months of relationship auto pilot, \"missed calls\" and date night excuses, I finally had the \"talk. \nIt didn't go over well. Throughout the 2 months she went through severe denial and constant anxiety over what I felt about her that left her with a loss of trust in me and an all around hurting. \nSo then I became a shithead again. I spent the next few months spending my time around her, essentially pestering her in hope of regaining a friendship. This left her confused and furthered her resentment toward me.\nSo I wallowed with this for awhile and underwent a few changes and renovations. To be brief, I became a bit more at piece with myself. Anyway...\nafter 5 months, I am alone, depressed, and missing her dearly. Might do still believe we have a connection. It comes out from time to time and is only hidden by her out of anxiety and uncertainty. I want to know how I can try. \n\nSo my plan is going to be to ask her on a date. Just a simple a causal date to see if we can still have relationship. \n\nSo advice?", "summary": "I'm a fucker who wants to go back to fucking the girl I fucked up with"}
{"id": "t3_12mncg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO is being extreme and over reacting in my opinion. Thoughts?", "post": "My partner [30f] and I [35m] are getting married next week in a very large Italian type wedding.  We've been together for 2.5 years. I am not a frequent drinker, perhaps once or twice during the month but I am always in control.  She has asked me not to drink at our wedding.  When I asked her why, her first concern was that I would always be at the bar.  The second concern was that I would be drunk off my mind. \n\nI told her that all my guy cousins and immediate uncles would want to share a drink with me.  It's just a cultural thing and out of celebration.  I told her that I would be in control and if anything, I would just be having fun with a light buzz and keeping everything in balance.  Just having a damn good time with my family and hers.  It's a family wedding and my cousins would love to have a drink with me. \n\nShe is pissed off.  She says I don't care about her.  She took off the ring and said she won't put it on until she is convinced that I care about her.  She even went on to say that I don't care about her and didn't do anything extra special for our engagement party which was 3 months prior.  She also said that it being our wedding party should make me happy enough and that I don't need alcohol.\n\nI think she is being waaayyy overboard and extreme about the drinking bit.  I don't appreciate her reaction either.  Overall, I told her:\n\n1. I don't want to get shit faced piss drunk. This is not my intention.\n\nThoughts? Am I being insensitive?", "summary": "Spouse is against me drinking at our wedding party.  I want to enjoy drinks with my family. Not planning on getting shit faced drunk.  She took off wedding ring and says I don't care about her"}
{"id": "t3_2hbfsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17/F] hates me [17/M] because I made her fat", "post": "A little background, my girlfriend's an athletic chick who likes to work out often and maintain her figure. I knew her for two years but we've only started dating 4 months ago, we were your usual happy couple exploring things together and one day we decided try out birth control pills as we wanted to do it without a condom. \n\nThat was the turning point where the side effects of the pills (mainly the increased weight) started to kick in, and I was totally oblivious to it. Not noticing it, I continued to ask her to take her daily pill at the scheduled time. \n\nIt's been a few weeks since she stopped the pills, but she still has the extra weight on and she bloody hates me for it. We've talked several times about this and every time she would that she hates me and that my pills ruined her life.\n\nThe most recent message had her saying that she did not want to ever see me again until she feels like it and that she was in a good mood until I messaged her. \n\nThing is, she's currently in her exam period and I'm causing so much problems for her (she told me she cries because of me and what I've done, when I messaged her). With the immense pressure from the upcoming examinations and her confidence being rock-bottom because of me, I feel extremely useless, selfish and stupid. I think I'm a horrible person.\n\nShe mentioned of giving herself a break and starving to get back her body because it's the only way to get it back during this time frame (due to examinations) \n\nI'll give her a break, stop contacting her for now, but what should I do when the situation's cooled down and her examinations are over?", "summary": "Made my girlfriend fat through BC pills because I wasn't vary of her weight gains from the side effects, she hates me to the core now"}
{"id": "t3_4xpk8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am dating [25f], unsure if she wants something serious or casual; how to find out?", "post": "I have been dating this girl for a few weeks so far, but I'm not entirely sure where it is going. I think we work well together, and I am honestly fine whether she wants something serious or casual. Slight preference to something more serious since we match up so well though.\n\nHowever, I can't really figure out what she wants. We haven't had sex yet, we have only kissed. Which I am fine with, I have not tried anything, since I want to do it 'right' and she also seems to be a bit apprehensive about it since she doesn't want us to move too fast. At least, that's the vibe I am getting. So that makes me think she's looking for something serious.\n\nHowever, some other things make me thing she wants to keep it casual. She every time says that we are just hanging out, she invites me to a bunch of things with her friends (guess you can see this as both a good thing and a bad thing) instead of trying to make one-on-one time. We still hang out just the two of us, though. She also says it takes a long time to actually like someone and hasn't been in a serious relationship for two years.\n\nI thought about asking her flat out \"So where do you think this is going?\" but I'm not sure if I want to do that so early on. I just mostly want to know if I should start opening my heart, or keep it shut. So how would I go about that? How do I find out what she wants/what do you guys think her angle is?", "summary": "Dating a girl, going well, but unsure what she wants.  don't want to fall for her if all she wanted was to keep it casual."}
{"id": "t3_jd31z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where can I go for reliable schematics,research material and hobbyist information on the internet?", "post": "I often find myself in the predicament of having a cool idea or wanting to learn more about a new topic i discovered. Usually after using Google, Wikipedia and the sources listed in Wiki. After scouring the internet I usually find myself little to no better off. It seems too often that I have to buy a thick and expensive book just to get my answers. The internet, as vast as it is, must have this kind of information.  \n\nMostly it has to do with electrical components:   \nThis post was inspired by my desire to design an optical audio to 6 RCA connections (5.1 surround). I have an old receiver with 6 channels. I want to make a converter that samples and outputs into each rca channel as needed.", "summary": "Where does Reddit go for useful research material, schematics,information & hobbyist components on the internet?"}
{"id": "t3_3w04ho", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by holding my newborn son", "post": "Like most other fucks this happened a while ago but [this one] reminded me of this anecdote.\n\nSo on a good morning at work someone called me to tell I became father to a beautiful son. That afternoon I came over to my (back then) GF's house to see my son. Got to hold and admire him.\n\nAfter a while her mother came in and tried to take my son outta my arms like it was hers. Didn't let her and started to frantically swear at her while trying to keep hold of my son at all costs. (Damn difficult to stop someone from doing something without hands)\nPoint was this narcissistic bitch wanted to show my son to their old grandmother. They didn't even bother to ask me to show him.\n\nAfter my rage the GF was so shocked she couldn't breastfeed my son anymore.\n\nLeft my son there in safe arms and left the home to never ever return. Later I learned they called the cops on me as they were scared I would return and take my son with me.", "summary": "Tried to prevent my boy from being taken away from me. Whole family was shocked and acted like I was a psychopath."}
{"id": "t3_4v59yu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/f] am doubting my relationship with my SO [23/m] of 1+ year and I feel unhappy. Could it be worse than just a rough patch?", "post": "My bf and I have been together for over a year. It was amazing before but I've been having huge doubts recently. I've been staying at his apartment for 2 months while I was looking for an apartment of my own. We were long distance for a year and recently moved to the same city. I'm getting my own place next week but I feel like living together has put a huge strain on our relationship.\n\nWe have been fighting more than ever and I don't feel happy a lot of the time. I've been crying a lot, pretty much every time we fight, which is close to every day at this point.\n\nThis morning he spontaneously left to stay at his male friend's house for the night, without telling me before he was already there. Everyone I know is already busy tonight and like I said I just moved here, so I only know a couple people. I feel very lonely and hurt that he would leave me alone at the last minute like that in a new city. I hate to have dinner alone and feel kind of abandoned (if I had friends, I would not care but the situation is particular).\n\nI guess my main question is -- could this be just a phase? I've read about the power struggle phase, could it be that? Or are we experiencing some deeper problems that may be unsolvable? I've been thinking about breaking up because I feel unhappy lately, even though I love him so much.", "summary": "Been fighting a lot with my SO recently after a year of being together long distance and we just moved to the same city. Cohabitation has added stress on the relationship. I have thoughts of breaking up sometimes. Could this be a phase or does it seem to you like deeper problems I may not be able to solve?"}
{"id": "t3_zxd7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Misterious woman tells me misterious phrase. Reddit, can you help me understand what the hell happened?", "post": "Ok, backgroud story. I'm an Italian student that this summer went on a 10 day trip around europe. We visited Amsterdam, Copenaghen and Munchen...but this is not the point. \n\nWhile we were in Copenaghen, something quite unexplainable happened to me. I and two friend of mine were waiting outside a supermarket controlling our backpacks while two other friends were inside buying food for everyone. Mind you, we are Italians in Denmark, we were travelling by ourselves and we didn't knew anyone there. I was talking to my friend about nothing in particoular (how to properly put things inside a big backpack, if I remember), when we saw this woman.\n\n She was probably around 35/40 years old, was wearing worn out clothes and was riding this old bicycle with lots of shopping bags full of empty plastic bottles (later we learned that some homeless people search plastic bottles in the dumpsters to take them to recicle points were they are given money for it). We, obviously, didn't bother...until she went near us. We were quite puzzled, but she didn't seem dangerous so we weren't worried. Then, she approached me, leaned toward me (I was sitting on the sidewalk) and in perfect italian wispered to my ear \"Allow me to congratulate you for the willfulness and strenght of your opinions\" (\"Le faccio i complimenti per la caparbiet\u00e0 e solidit\u00e0 delle sue opinioni\", if some fellow italian has a better translation please tell me!).\n\n What. The. Fuck. I looked at her, mumbled \"thank you\" and then she took her bike and went her merrily way without giving me an explanation. I don't know who she was, why she speaked perfectly italian and most of all I don't know if that phrase has some deeper meaning. This happened the 10th of August; today, I had an illumination: why don't I ask Reddit, that most of the times has an explanation for anithing? This is my last chance to solve this mistery. Thank you for the attention!.", "summary": "misterious woman I've never seen before spoke to me in my language in Copenaghen, telling me a phrase I could not explain y any means."}
{"id": "t3_ddol2", "subreddit": "self", "title": "You reek a moment.", "post": "Does anyone take a long time on the toilet? If so what do you think about when on the can? I'll share one:\n\nI was sitting on the toilet and for a while I'd been wishing I could do big square numbers in my head. I started by trying to learn my times tables up to 20x. I was looking to see if there were any patterns I could find between one square to the next so that I could find a shortcut for bigger ones. I thought I was on to something when I was doing the 15 when I realised that you could break 15 up to 10 and a 5. Then you can square the 10, 100, then you can square the 5, 25, and add 2x(10x5), 100, =225. I got really excited by this only to be deflated when I realised this was the general quadratic expansion I'd learnt in year 10.", "summary": "discovered general quadratic expansion about 1000 years late"}
{"id": "t3_1dteg4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [21/m] proceed with someone [20/f] who is unsure if she wants a relationship or not?", "post": "So I have had a few very enjoyable dates with a specific female friend of mine over the course of 2 weeks. Now, with classes ending soon I thought I would mention to her that I was interested in developing a romantic relationship. Understandably, she responded with a \"I need some time to figure that out\" statement of which I kind of expected. \n\nI'm looking for some tips on how I can try and escalate things without being too pushy. Obviously I am going to be the only one that can gauge what she is comfortable with or not, but I feel like I'm kind of in limbo right now.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "trying to develop something more serious but she says she needs more time. How do I pursue without being pushy?"}
{"id": "t3_2fp66n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking at a baseball game", "post": "So I went to a Baseball game with my dad, I had just turned 21 a few weeks before.  I drove, but they don't serve alcohol after the 7th inning so you have time to sober up.  I had had a few beers and it was about the 5th inning.  I went to the stadium bar to get another and was fairly tipsy at this point.  Saw a cute girl in the bar and started chatting her up.  After about half an inning, I said \"Wanna get out of here?\".  She said yes and we left the stadium and walked to her apartment.  After a bit of gland-to-gland combat, we fell asleep.  Woke up the next morning with about 50 missed calls and angry texts from my dad.  He didn't bring his wallet so couldn't get a cab or take a bus.  Mom was out of town so he couldn't call her for a ride, so he wound up walking 30 miles from Coors Field (the stadium) to Boulder (where we live) at night.", "summary": "I left the game with a girl and left my dad to walk home."}
{"id": "t3_22yqcu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20M] losing contact with my long distance GF [17F] after 2.5 years", "post": "For the last half of a year, every time I try to talk to her it's only when I begin the conversation - it's been like this for almost every day as well.  We talk, then after about a half hour she stops talking to me when we finish discussing about a topic.  It's a long distance relationship - I'm a college sophomore, she is a HS senior.  \n\nI decided to experiment what would happen if I suddenly decided to not FB message or Skype her, and for the last two weeks she's only talked to me twice: both about prom related stuff. First thing was about the dress she got, I comment, no response.  Second thing was the forms I needed to get approved, I comment, she comments, I comment again, no response.  Hasn't said anything about me not talking to her.\n\nThe other night I also \"drunk texted\" her a ton of texts (ok, I didn't really text anything, all my other friends who were plastered got a hold of my phone and started texting her cutesy stuff that somehow sounded like me).  She just responded with a picture of her dress. (This was before her first facebook message to me, a few days after I started this test).\n\nI think there's another guy involved too.  Apparently there are rumors of her hanging around with another guy and people are saying she is getting \"too close\" with him.  Now since it's high school I didn't think much about the rumors (such as her holding hands with him) since high schoolers are high schoolers + some of them don't think it's anything to be worried about, but I addressed my concerns anyway and warned her not to always be with her.  I had even confronted her about this and after a lot of tears... we had agreed for her to stay away.  Yet I ask my sister again and they are still with each other just as often.\n\nMy brain says something is up. My heart is hoping that the brain is wrong. IDK what to do anymore.", "summary": "Experiment to see what happens if I don't try to initiate conversation anymore, GF only responds twice with prom related stuff, suspicions of another guy involved."}
{"id": "t3_2lpqdi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [M20] girlfriend [F17] of 3 months wants to end things. Never brought up issues before.", "post": "So this girl I have liked for a long time and I started dating 3 months ago. We were good friends before that and I suppose you could say that we had chemistry. We only see each other once a week due to school, but things seemed good at the beginning. After a while, it started to become awkward. The last few times we've hung out it has been difficult to keep a conversation going and when we do talk it feels forced (keep in mind that we had no trouble at all with this as friends and during the beginning of our relationship). For me, I believe this is because I have been locking my self in more and more as our relationship progressed, due to some insecurities I've had in the past and being self conscious about them. \n\nNeither of us brought this up until she told me the other day that she thinks we should take a break. She expressed how it feels like the chemistry is gone, and when their is no emotional or physical aspect to our relationship (I'm pretty flexible with the physical side of things, but it's never been a priority for me since I figured when the time is right that will come naturally) that there isn't really anything there. The problem I have is that instead of bringing up the issue and trying to work on those issues together, she just want to immediately take a break. I understand that there are issues, and that since neither of us has brought them up until now that we are really lacking in our communication. I realize that we need to be more open with each other to get that chemistry back, I just feel as though it's something that we should work on rather than immediately moving on with.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have not been communicating well, instead of wanting to work things out, she wants to take a break. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3p3kda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my Ex Boyfriend [20 M] dated 3 years, he broke up a month ago and I want him back.", "post": "My ex and I had dated for almost 3 years, lived together for 2 and a half years, and everything was going great until one day he just said \"I want to be alone.\"\n\nHe eventually moved from 'wanting space' to 'moving out' and to 'break up'. He is now currently living at his friend's house since I am at an awkward situation to move out.\n\nWe have met a couple of times, and text each other occasionally. I tried to do No Contact, but it felt wrong to ignore him when he texted after a week of NC, so now I just reply when he contacts.\n\nWe had a little talk and he said \"I'm not ready to be in a relationship, but when I am, maybe we can give it another go.\" He says he still has feelings for me, but not sure how to describe it. He said that his problem was that he didnt talk enough or bottled things up, and his problem with me was that I was too dependent on him and created pressure and stress on him to be 'perfect' all the time to make me happy. I have realised this and is currently working on myself to be more comfortable with myself and independent.\n\nI am meeting up with him in 2 days since he has asked me to draw something for his tattoo. I dont know if there is any chance or how I should act. Whenever we talk or meet up, we have so much fun and I can notice that he still acts in a way that makes me feel that he still likes me. Should I really be doing No Contact and playing 'hard to get' as most sites suggest to make him miss/chase me, or should I just be a good friend and make it a positive time when he is with me? :(", "summary": "How to get my exboyfriend back"}
{"id": "t3_41gm7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother [24M] found out I'm sexually active[15f] With my boyfriend [16m]", "post": "I've lived with my brother since I was 12 and he's in the military. He been pretty awesome except maybe a little overprotective. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and I recently lost my virginity to him. My brother found out and has been freaking out. He won't let me see my boyfriend I have to go home right after school and now wants me to break up with him.\n\n He can't even look me in the eyes anymore, I've tried talking to my brother but all he says is I'm too young and I gotten taken advantage of by my boyfriend(16m)", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_rrint", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why did an IT guy at work tell me to use Internet Explorer instead of Firefox?", "post": "So I'm at work in a large office building and IT guy comes along and notices I'm using firefox.  He then strongly suggests I start using internet explorer and explained they were going to start deleting firefox from everyones computer within a few days.\n\nHis explanation was that IE is more secure and firefox could be compromised and hacked in \"like 30 seconds\".  I'm no computer genius  but I know a little bit, and everything I've heard until now was about how bad IE is and that I should be using Firefox or Chrome.  Can anyone explain why internet explorer would be better than the other browsers in the workplace?", "summary": "IT guy at work tells me to stop using firefox, start using internet explorer...why?"}
{"id": "t3_2o1w3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my SO [28M]. Together 7 years. He doesn't want to get married but will if I change my surname to his, but I don't want to.", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI just want to know if I'm being unreasonable in my demands, or a suggestion on how to mediate this and come to a conclusion.\n\nMy boyfriend (lets call him Dan) has never wanted to get married, but isn't particularly against it. He just thinks it's pointless, but has revealed that he will get married if it's important to me. However, when I mentioned that I wouldn't want his name, he got really hurt and upset that I wouldn't take his name.\n\nI don't want his name because honestly, I think it sounds stupid. It's a target for getting bullied in class should our kids have his name. I like my name and I don't even want to double barrel his name in. He doesn't know this though, he thinks that it's just my name meaning a lot to me.\n\nHe has said that if I won't do something which means a lot to him (taking his name), then he doesn't want to get married. He thinks he's already done quite a lot for me (he's vegan because of me, although I didn't make him vegan I didn't want non-vegan things in the house and he has respected that). However I suspect that he's only doing this because he wants me to do something for him which I don't want to do, rather than something he particularly wants. Kind of like 'Well I'm doing this thing I don't want to do, why can't you?'.\n\nOur relationship isn't in peril or anything, I'm very happy with him and we're planning to have children soon (he's even agreed to raise the kids vegan!). I'd just like an outside perspective.", "summary": "My boyfriend will only get married if I take his name, but I think his name is stupid. I suspect his name doesn't mean anything to him and he's just being difficult."}
{"id": "t3_1ldspn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New boyfriend is amazing but we talk too much/spend too much time together", "post": "Okay so I (23/f) just met this amazing guy (25/m), and we have been dating for a month. He is my dream guy in so many ways (we are very similar people, he is intelligent, romantic, and treats me AMAZINGLY). For the most part we've been doing the whole \"honeymoon phase\" -really....the whole \"you hang up first\", \"no you!\" thing. I am so very happy with him. \n\nBUT I have noticed that recently we've been talking to each other A LOT. We text a lot during the day, and then he usually calls at night. Well tonight, we talked for like 2 hours on the phone, and I ended up having to stay up super late to finish my work. Plus, this weekend, we are spending a lot of time together BBQ-hopping since it's Labor Day weekend-literally Sat-Mon. I'm excited for that. But then next weekend he has already assumed that we will be spending the whole weekend together. \n\nAlthough I am very happy, I am starting to take off my rose-colored glasses, and realize that it may be too much for me this soon. My birthday is coming up in October and we had been considering going away for the weekend to Disney World for it- kind of an expensive endeavor for only dating a couple of months!\n\nHere's the thing- I kinda want to slow things down, but not really. I like our emotional connection and I can see myself falling hard this guy. He really is everything I'm looking for in a guy. BUT a failing of my last relationship was spending every waking moment together, and I don't want to make that mistake again. Besides, how can I miss him if we talk for hours on the phone and see eachother EVERY day of the weekend? Should I lead by example (i.e. I'm going to do errands Sat afternoon, let's hang Sat night instead of both day and night??)", "summary": "new amazing boyfriend wants to spend too much time with me...how can I slow it down a bit?"}
{"id": "t3_2tz0iy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by yelling at a veteran.", "post": "I live in an apartment where they plow your cars when it snows. Being in MA this happens regurally. This morning though my car would not move it slid on the snow it was on.\n\nSo the person a few cars next to me was shoveling his car our. His was about my fathers age plus a few. I asked for his help yet he would not help me. He would not even look at me. I yelled at him to look at me while he denied my help which he refused to do. At that point he walked away and I was furious.\n\nI went to check my mail and a woman came up to me and told me he what a vet. She was her neighbor.\n\nMy heart dropped at that point.\n\nI had nothing to say then. I wanted to apologize as much as I could. She talked to me for a while but of course their was nothing I could do. I made freinds with her but that was about it.", "summary": "I yelled at a vet for not helping me shovel out my car."}
{"id": "t3_onr87", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Does having the same \"level of intelligence\" make a date more successful?", "post": "18f here, and I've been talking to a guy who is 19. I go to a really good university and I'm studying Physics. We met about 2 months ago and he texts me a lot. We're supposed to hang out when I go back for second semester.\n\nHere's the problem: He's not smart. He's almost at the point where I'd call him stupid. It sounds awful, but it's true. However, he's incredibly nice and charming. We have stuff in common such as skiing/snowboarding and other outdoorsy things but I'm worried that we'll have nothing to talk about besides that. I've always been friends with smart kids (nerds, basically). Does anyone have any insight into whether this sort of match generally works out? I don't want to waste his time or mine and I don't want to lead him on if there's no hope.", "summary": "Guy is stupid. I'm a Physics major. Any insight into whether relationships between two very different people like that tend to work?"}
{"id": "t3_353yx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(update, Jesus what a mess)Me [35F] with my wife [33F] Married 2 years, just found out wife is a convicted felon & other goodies", "post": "Look I'm not proud of this but after talking with her and reading all of the reply's out there I did something that I'm not sure I regret or regret not doing it sooner.  I used her ss# and did a criminal background check on her. (yes I used my work place's service for this, again not proud but I did it)\n\nLet's just say that if I had an old printer I would have used reams of paper on it.\n\nIt didn't show any of her juvenile arrests but there were a shit ton of arrests and several more that she didn't tell me about.\n\nWe've talked btw and I told her then to just tell me everything so I wouldn't be blindsided again.  She doesn't know I ran this btw.  She said she told me everything.\n\nHowever when I view her record she certainly has not told me everything and there is one thing that I am going to confront her about and this now has me doing the pause in where I stand with her.\n\nHonestly I don't know how our car insurance isn't through the roof.  Her license had been suspended multiple times and oh btw she had a conviction for DUI causing bodily harm (how that is not a felony I have no idea).\n\nBut the one that hit me in the gut was for solicitation.  My understanding of that is that this is prostitution.  I've seen online that it can be trying to get others to willfully commit a crime so maybe this had to do with the drugs, I'm not sure.\n\nI know that people are going to scorch me on this but if this was for prostitution I think that is going to be it for me.  \n\nNo matter if it is or isn't I'm not happy with her at all right now as I gave her every chance to be honest with me the other night and she didn't tell me about the suspended licenses, the bodily injury or this solicitation.  I feel like I'm getting trickle truth here and I don't like it one bit.", "summary": "Did background check and found more \"things\" she didn't tell me about. Going to confront her tonight about the solicitation and if it is what I think it is I might be done."}
{"id": "t3_1wz7me", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22/M] of 1 year is a recovering compulsive liar, but I'm [23/F] scared I'll never be able to trust him 100%.", "post": "I have recently discovered that my boyfriend is a compulsive liar. I came to this conclusion after catching him lying to me about very petty things. I'm good at catching when people are dishonest, because my father was a compulsive liar and emotionally/verbally abusive. I know all of the signs of compulsive lying like the back of my hand. Unlike my father though, my boyfriend does not always lie on purpose and sometimes isn't even aware that he's doing it.\n\nI discovered this with my boyfriend and he immediately came clean. We talked about it at length and he told me that lying was a way to protect himself from his parents and that it just developed into a habit over time. He has been actively trying to work on it. He feels bad for lying, knows how much it upsets me (he knows about my father), and has been really open about everything.\n\nWe plan on attending therapy (couples and individual), but at the moment, it's not feasible, so in the mean time, we've just been working on it by ourselves. We've been busy reading a lot of literature on compulsive lying to educate ourselves about it. Even though I trust that he's wanting to/actively trying to fix this, I still have lost a lot of trust in him due to his past lying. It wasn't even anything big like cheating or something that would make me consider leaving him, but lying is lying, and I already have trust issues because of my father.\n\nI want to be able to trust him, because he's the sweetest guy I've ever met, would do anything for me, and we love each other a lot. Can I ever truly get over my trust issues and feel that I'm able to trust him, if he's able to overcome his lying habits?", "summary": "My boyfriend is a compulsive liar who is recovering/willing to change and  seeking therapy, but I am worried that I will always question and wonder and will never be able to trust him completely."}
{"id": "t3_1kstwf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf[22F] dumped me[22M] and soon will (probably) hit it off with my friend[22M]. How should I handle it?", "post": "She and I have been together for 5 years. There was a time (~2 years ago), during which, whenever I got drunk I would occasionally throw fits of jealousy, or scream curses at her (no physical abuse). Most of the time these bursts were unjustified. During some of my escapades(~7 in total) a good friend of mine would sometimes comfort her, if she got too upset.\n\nShe broke up with me about 2.5 weeks ago, stating that she probably didn't love me anymore and that she felt this way for quite some time.  We handled it quite amicably. During the break up I asked her whether she had feelings for my friend, to which she responded \"I don't know\".\n\nA few days ago we were discussing some practical matters when she dropped this : \"If he were to make a move on me, I'd seize the opportunity and get with him\". That sounded devastating. In my opinion, it would be very low of both of them to hook up/start dating, if only because we haven't even been separated for a month, and that would crush me (selfish, I know). Oh, and my friend is in love with her, and has been, so he will definitely make a move.\n\n* Should I try to find out if anything happens/happened between them? \n* Am I completely wrong in thinking that it's low of them to hook up, knowing how that would make me feel and given the small amount of time passed?\n* If something happened, I'd have to stop seeing my friends, since said friend is the center of our group (yes my ex still hangs out with our friends, since she doesn't have any of her own). Can this situation be handled better?", "summary": "Gf left me after 5 years. 2.5 weeks passed and she's talking about getting together with my mate. That would crush me and I'd have to stop seeing them and my other friends."}
{"id": "t3_3uf58v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kneeing my son in the face", "post": "No, I'm not an abusive father. Several months ago, I angrily kicked a backpack full of textbooks for an unfair grade I received in college. The toenail on my big toe died and a new one is growing in, only it's becoming ingrown all along the width of my toe. I was barefoot and my 4 y/o son was playing and crawling around and he put all of his weight on my toe with his hand. I shrieked and unconsciously kneed him in the forehead, hard, causing a substantial bump. I felt really bad and he was of course super pissed and crying. I'm much more careful now.", "summary": "4 y/o son put all of his weight on my hurt toe and I accidentally kneed him square in the forehead."}
{"id": "t3_f9rrx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I was in a car accident, am I at fault?", "post": "So today, I was waiting for my gf to come grab a coffee from me outside of her work. I was idling, not parked, behind a fleet of commercial vehicles waiting for her. My engine was running and I was there for about 5 minutes, in plain view. I hear the passanger of the car say, \"Oh Shit!\" look over and see a ford explorer backing up. I hesitated because I knew what was going to happen anddd she hit me. I talked to her insurance company, as well as mine. My insurance company is saying that I may be at fault since technically I was \"parked\" in a non-parking spot. This does not make complete sense to me. It's basically like the insurance companies are saying, \"If someone parks behind you, just hit their car and they will fix all of the damages.\" Reddit, am I at fault for \"parking\" behind a parked car, even though I was in plain view?", "summary": "Got backed into, insurance company saying it may be my fault."}
{"id": "t3_yy26w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Let's do this.", "post": "As most of you know, school has just started up and the summer days can sometimes take It's toll in your health. For me, this happenned a lot. I been searching for motivation to finally get back into the health game. That's when **BOOM**, this subreddit hits me in the face. Read the FAQ (sorry for post btw) and I think I can do this.\n\n A little about myself:\n\n* I am 15 years old, arguably pretty young\n\n*  **190 LBS **  (yeah I know)\n\n* 5'9 ~ 5'10\"\n\n* Goal is to lose *45 lbs*\n\nI've done the whole weight loss thing before, but quit after a few months because I guess I just got lazy.\n\nI guess what I really want to ask is how you guys keep all your motivation to the very end  and if you have any advice on getting started.\nThanks, and I look forward to becoming a part of the /r/lose\u00eft community!", "summary": "I'm fat, but not for long."}
{"id": "t3_30u4g1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need some advice on Small Claims", "post": "Yay... I guess we all have to do this at some point. I'm using a throwaway for this one.\n\nSo I'm an EA(Enrolled Agent) in California, and I have my own tax accounting practice, and have to take a client to Small Claims. It's my first time, yay! Not. I understand it's a rite of passage and I shouldn't get so worked up about it. And I really wish I didn't have to spend precious tax season time on this, but I just need to get the process going because it's really weighing me down.\n\nI understand the process: I fill out the form, pay the fees, mail it to the court in the client's county, have the sheriff give the client service, the court sets a date, we show up, I state my case and provide very clear and organized evidence, I get the judgement, then I collect(somehow).\n\nWhat I need advice on is the following: I provided a clear estimate of the cost of the work that was to be done. The client provided such poor documentation and records, and refused to let me train them to get things organized so I wouldn't have to spend as much time sorting through their crap, that I ended up spending a significant amount of time in addition to what I had estimated. The project should have taken me about a work day, and instead took about three. As the upstanding person I am, or try to be, I kept the final bill to the original estimate. So then the person basically loses their mind at how expensive it was, blah blah blah, and is accusing me of extortion.  They paid some of the bill, but are refusing to pay the rest(under $1000).", "summary": "Can I go back and bill the client for the actual time I put into the project? I have not added any late charges or interest to the original invoice. Can I do this now? I don't use engagement letters(I should probably change that), so none of that was spelled out. The only thing that is really set is the estimate I gave, and stuck to(fuck me, right?). I have record of that in our emails back and forth."}
{"id": "t3_b4xtw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Females of Reddit: Questions about losing your virginity", "post": "I am a non-virgin 26 year old male who has recently started dating a 21 year old virgin, a somewhat shy girl that comes from a conservative background. She is very open to losing her virginity with me when the time is right but I am (I hope understandably) cautious, having never slept with a virgin before. I want the experience to be as good for her as it can be so I have a few questions that I was hoping the more experienced of you could answer:\n\n1) Is there any way I can avoid causing her pain when breaking the hymen other than go slow and make sure there is adequate lubrication?\n\n2) Roughly how long should it take her to fully recover from the experience? Will the soreness persist after the first couple of times we have sex?\n\n3) Her mother has convinced her that her first time will be very painful. Will her fear make the experience more difficult? Is there any way to stop this?\n\nThanks a bunch.", "summary": "Any tips for taking a girl's virginity?"}
{"id": "t3_3i2v4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband [34/M] and I [32/F] bought an older house with some known issues, he now won't help", "post": "We bought an old farmhouse a few years back that had some known projects to be coming up - gutters, bathroom needed retiled/replaced, insulation, nothing massively major.  The issue now is that he just won't do anything about them.  Our agreement before had been that he would work on these projects, while I handled the day to day household management, I also handle 100% of bill paying and budgeting.\n\nIf I suggest 'hey, let's measure the blah blah so we can blah blah before the water gets into it and ruins it,\" he'll just say \"it's not that big of a deal.\"  Our bathroom needs a new shower surround badly, and last night I asked him to re-caulk an area.  I would have done it, but I\"m pregnant and shouldn't deal with the fumes.  I get up this morning and he used painters caulk, not the waterproof bathroom caulk THAT I LEFT OUT FOR HIM.  It's shit like this every time.  He half asses everything or just flat out won't do it, and won't agree to have contractors in.  \n\nI'd like to just sell it and get out, but his excuse is that he's got all of his stuff in the basement and garage and he doesn't want to deal with packing it all back up.", "summary": "I want to either fix house or move, he ... doesn't."}
{"id": "t3_4zrvqf", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I think my cat was bitten by a mouse.", "post": "So my 2 year old bengal was roaming our backyard with me, and pounced on a small gray mouse in some tall grass. She doesn't eat animals, but she loves to hunt, and was holding it down with her paws. I didn't know what it was, since it was hiding mostly under the tall grass, and stupidly watched as she suddenly pulled one paw away, and it squirmed free and ran off. \n\nHere's the kicker. She has had her rabies shots in the past, but they expired around this time, **last year**. I've been reading up about rabies, and it's apparently extremely rare for mice to carry it, and some people say the rabies vaccination actually lasts a few years, and *also*, the bite didn't cause her to bleed, or maybe the mouse didn't break skin at all. I'm not sure, since her paws are black, and hates to have them played with. She is however licking her left paw more than usual, but not much.\n\nThis all happened about 40 minutes ago. Is it safe to just keep a close eye on her for any suspicious symptoms, or would it be too late by then? I don't want to gamble with her life here. She's my best friend. \n\nIf nothing else, are there more appropriate subreddits for this?\n\nEdits -\n\nA few of you have been requesting updates to this, so I'll post an update every day or so if you want to know how she's doing.\n\nDay 1 (the next day): Aysa (that's her name) was a little more distant today than usual, not sleeping by me until a few minutes before I had to leave the house for about 4 hours to do a few things. It's nothing too unusual though, I'm not concerned. However, she has been just as playful, and as curious, as ever, along with frequently coming up to me for pets and cuddles. \n\nShe also followed me around after I woke up like usual, and cried to go explore our backyard with me here and there for most of the day. I decided to keep her inside today, unsurprisingly.", "summary": "Nothing unusual."}
{"id": "t3_3n5w0x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not understanding anatomy.", "post": "So this wasn't today, but many years ago. Worse, it's a story I was told by my mum, because she was there.. but I think its worth telling.\n\nSo my brother noticed one day that his cat had several bumps on his stomach, and he was a bit concerned about it. He booked an appointment to take the cat over to the vets to check it out. Now, if you've got a cat, you know it's a challenge to get them into a box to go to the vet (the ONE time they don't want to be in a box) without being mauled. He didn't have the usual vet-box thing made of cardboard you can get, so he just had it in a storage box with holes he cut out. He needed somebody to prevent the cat escaping, and to hold it in the drive over to the vet, so my mother went along to help.\n\nThey get to the vets, and the vet gets the cat out of the box and asks what the problem is. So my brother tells him.\n\n\"He's got these little bumps on his stomach. I thought maybe they could be tumours or something.\"\n\nThe vet has a feel and can't find them. My brother has a feel and finds them, and guides the vet.\n\n\"Oh, I see. No, those aren't tumours.\"\n\n\"So.. what are they then?\"\n\n\"Those are his nipples.\"\n\n\"...but he's a boy.\"\n\n\"Yeah.. Don't *you* have nipples?\"\n\nAnd with that, my mum burst out laughing and my brother goes red in the face. \"Oh, yeah\". They put the cat back in the box and took it home. My brother promptly changed vets.", "summary": "Brother took his cat to the vet mistaking its nipples for something wrong, and made a dick of himself when he thought a boy-cat shouldn't have nipples."}
{"id": "t3_129qt8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to know how he feels (M34 and F24)", "post": "We've known each other for three years. We're mostly pen-pals, though when I was living in his city we were more actively friends but he was in a relationship at the time so it never went further. He is Spanish (from Spain), and in his letters he calls me \"querida,\" which is difficult to translate as a single word in English. Could mean anything from \"dear\" to \"mistress.\" Lately he's been asking me to send him photos of myself, which I find an encouraging sign. He often compliments me. I'm visiting him soon and want to know what to expect. What do you guys think?", "summary": "does calling me a petname and asking me for pictures of myself mean my long-distance penpal has romantic feelings for me?"}
{"id": "t3_2ql7vv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] will be attending a New Year's Eve party, and my ex [21 F] of four months will be there. How can I still have a great time?", "post": "I'm going back to my university for a New Year's Eve party, and my ex girlfriend will be there. I have still not gotten to the point where I can take it in stride and still have a great time, it always seems to bum me out and kills the party mood. \n\nI ended things a bit unexpectedly, and she was devastated. There are no other parties to go to, home is too boring, and my buddies will all be there. I want to be at a point where I can be in the same house and at the same party, and be able to still have a blast. As this was my first long term serious relationship, the aftermath is like nothing I've dealt with before. How can I still have a great night, and allow her to have fun as well? Is there etiquette for this; am I supposed to walk up and set things straight, by saying \"we both want to have fun, so lets just be chill?\" I have no idea. \n\nSome might say \"just don't even go, it's not worth it.\" But honestly I believe that is the wrong way to think about things. Why should the presence of one person ruin a great night? I'd like to be able to coexist without animosity, frustration, etc..\n\nAny advice for how I should proceed would be much appreciated, along with any success stories or a do/do not do list.. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "I'm going to a NYE party with my friends, my ex girlfriend will be there as she has mutual friends and her sorority is hosting the event. I know we can both have a great night, but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_33g3my", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk, pissing a big guy off and getting my friends beaten.", "post": "So this TIFU happened last week.\n\nI was out having drinks at my friends place where we went kind of overboard with the Vodka shots. Everything seemed fine till then. We took a cab to the club and beyond that my memory fades. I was informed by my buddies that I was pretty drunk at that time and behaving in a unruly manner. \n\nA big muscular guy bought two trays of shots and was leaving the bar when I walked over and flipped them both out of his hands and laughed at him. He almost went ballistic but my buddy chimed in and explained I was an idiot and would pay for another two trays.\n\nHere is where the TIFU happened.. The big guy was actually really nice and said as long as I apologised it would be alright. My friend begged me to apologise but I was drunk, in a completely rude state, so I kept saying no way. Eventually I was convinced and here is what I did:\n\nI got down on both my knees and put my hands together and said \"I'm sorry, oh so sorry..\" and started laughing thereafter. That's pretty much where the big guy lost it and took a swing at me and missed. My friend tried to intervene but was hit a few times and in this brawl where a few more people got involved and the bouncers ran in. I somehow managed to escape, leave the club and find a cozy spot where I slept for a good few hours before being awoken by the blazing morning sun. \n\nTwo kids were staring at me from the swimming pool. I was literally in someone's condominium, sleeping on the deck chairs, in my party gear at noon. Needless to say, I took a cab home and called my friends to ask what happened and that's when I was told of the events of last night.", "summary": "Got drunk, smashed 2 trays of shots, apologised sarcastically, got my friend beaten."}
{"id": "t3_3ugyp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] scared to enter a new relationship after abusive one", "post": "Hi all,\n\nSo my first relationship ended in May 2014 after about a year of abuse. My ex called me every name under the sun, was very abusive emtionally and ultimately used me for my body. I've recently been getting closer to a guy I have known for many, many years. He's such a gentleman and I know he will never treat me as badly as my ex did. But part of me is still scared that things will go the same way. \n\nI discussed my thoughts with the new guy and he's more than happy to take things as slow as I would like. He knows what happened during my last relationship hence his understanding. Even though his intentions are good I still get scared when, for example, he makes a joke about us cuddling in bed. I still wonder if he's out for my body like my ex was and I just can't shake the thoughts. I know this guy is lovely and I don't want to miss out on happiness because of how some asshole treated me.", "summary": "Scared to get into another relationship after coming out of an abusive one even though the new guy is lovely."}
{"id": "t3_351ztz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying \"YAY, HAIL HITLER\"", "post": "Alright this happened a few years ago.\n\nMy school had a summer olympics thing and we were all put into teams around the school and each team was a country. The teacher was telling us our teams and he pointed people out and would tell them their team. Then he got to me.\n\n> /u/ImgurRepost, you are on Germany\n\nI wanted to be witty and say some sort of joke think and the first thing that blurts from my head was me jumping out of my seat putting my hands above my head having this huge smirk on my face and shouting out.\n\n> YAY, HAIL HITLER!\n\nMy teacher gives me the death stare and everyone in the class is basically just looking at me like *wtf* I sat back down with a frown on my face then I apologized to the class.", "summary": "yay hail hitler"}
{"id": "t3_flr70", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can school prevent my freedom of movement?", "post": "This just happened to me today. Since I was late, a teacher who was waiting at the front gate took my ID card on the basis of being late, telling me I would get it back during lunch where I would have to attend some 30-min detention as well. Now these ID cards are the only way you can move in and out of the school, as they work as swipe cards for the full-height turnstiles to enter and leave. \n\nDoesn't this restrict my *right of movement*, being basically confined to the school area, without being able to leave for a certain time.\n\nP.S Punctuality is not the actual issue.", "summary": "Late for school, teacher takes my ID card preventing me from leaving the premises for a certain period of time."}
{"id": "t3_oftwq", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Any helpful advice for I trouncing new cats?", "post": "So here's the story: I got a new kitty named Mocha (female) last night from a friend of a friend, as she is no longer able to take care of her. I already have a kitty named Leon (male) who has been with me for two years this February. They are both really similar: same size (very small), close in age, super snugly, very social, curious, playful, lazy, etc. I read up on introducing cats and am currently keeping Leon, the main cat, in a smaller part of the house and Mocha, the new cat, in the main part of the house. She has already settled in nicely and has explored everywhere and is no longer skittish/shy at all in the main house, after less than a day! Needless to say, she is very outgoing. I plan on switching them so he can live in her scent for the next day or so and get used to her smell. The problem is, I guess he isn't as outgoing and is really scared of anything that smells like her as he hisses and cries at it.", "summary": "new cat is fine, current cat is scared even of smell of new cat."}
{"id": "t3_2gmk07", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm 16. 6 foot. And 210 pounds.", "post": "This is the first time I'm publicly admitting I have a problem. During the summer I was around high 190 to low 200 due to the active nature of my job. Well I also ate a lot and I'm still eating the same ammount but doing less activity. So in the past month I've gained about 10 pounds. I've always been somewhat big but 210 is my biggest ever and it's unacceptable. I'm coming to you reddit because I have a hard time keeping my self accountable and motivated to reach my goal of 180. So pretty much what I want is a support group which seems to be this sub.", "summary": "I'm 210 need support to reach 180."}
{"id": "t3_1g9thc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fianc\u00e9 (F24) says that in the future she would be willing to move for a job, whereas I (M24) don't think I would be. I don't quite know how to reconcile this.", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have been together for over four years. She is currently on grad school studying to be a forensic scientist. She would love to work for the FBI someday (she knows it quite a stretch that she ever will, but it's her dream job). I'm a high school teacher. In talking about the future we've obviously discussed where we'd live, and she has stated that she would be willing to move for a job, but I don't think I would be. She moved around a bit growing up but I didn't, so I think we have different perspectives. I'm worried that I don't know how to reconcile this certain issue. What do you think?", "summary": "She says she's willing to move for a job, and I'm not"}
{"id": "t3_za45m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on how to deter spiders from the house?", "post": "First off: I am fully aware that spiders aren't harmful and are good in that they repel other insects. However.... its getting to be a bit ridiculous at my house. I'm sitting on my bed and I can already count three from here; on the way up the stairs I counted another four. One time I put on my trousers after a shower and a two-incher scuttled out of my trouser leg; other time I put my shoes on and ten minutes later realized that a large spider had been in there the whole time (it died). Last night I caught two 3 inch spiders scuttling across the carpet. And all over the outside of our house there are spider webs that I keep walking into. And lastly, my girlfriend is terrified of them. Basically, they're becoming to be an annoyance; is there any thing simple to do to limit their numbers, or deter them from certain rooms?", "summary": "Lots of spiders in house, gf has phobia, want to reduce their numbers"}
{"id": "t3_33xgt5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (29 F) with ex (29 M), wondering if I should try and start things again?", "post": "My ex an I broke up in December for the following reasons:\n-Possibly incompatible future plans\n-Different personal habits (he's very meticulous, I'm pretty slap dash and we get annoyed at each other)\n-He messages other women and numerous points in our relationship, even after we agreed to be monogamous (this is the big one, of course)\n-He's from a different culture and making his family accept me would be difficult.\n-Different communication styles (more open vs contained)\n-When together, we both felt hesitation/had difficulty committing to a future together.\n\nThe following is why I want to get back together:\n-I miss him\n-He's said he could stop messaging others/commit if we get back together\n-I don't know if I'll ever find anyone that I'm that connected to\n\nIs this relationship worth retrying on? Help. I have mixed feelings.", "summary": "Feeling the urge to get back with my ex, should I try it? Should I give it more time and see how I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_1phase", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] dumped by ex [22 F] together 18 months, NC for 6 months after breakup. She just emailed me. Breaking NC, doesn't ever pan out well does it?", "post": "Horrible breakup. Haven't contacted each other in six months. \n\nShe emails me recently to tell me,\n\n\"things ended pretty disastrously between us but these six months have given me enough time to reflect and come to peace with it all. I'm so happy to have gotten to know you like I did because you really are an awesome, awesome person and our times together have been some of the happiest moments of my life. You taught me so much about what a committed relationship means (ironic because i failed so miserably on that) and so much about myself. The point of this email is not to retract into the past or even to forcibly reinstate your presence in my life somehow, but to say that I'm in a position where I'm very happy for everything we had and I think you're wonderful. I care about you a lot and hope that someday we will be able to have each other in our lives again. Another reason why I write is because it feels like we're so close to losing each other completely (yea, I know you might think this has already happened). We might never see or talk to each other ever again and all we'll be is a footnote in each other's lives - a stepping stone (a significant one still), or a lesson learnt to get to something more important. Maybe it's true, but it's still a fairly upsetting idea to me. And it feels like by letting you know that I care, I can at least somehow delay the inevitable. Maybe this doesn't matter to you at all, but I felt that it was important to let you know that my silence does not mean I've forgotten, or I'm indifferent - it's far from it.\"\n\nNot sure how to proceed. Loved her very much, but most likely is just a power play by her. I hate this whole love game. Right BS it is.", "summary": "ex emailed me out of the blue after 6 months of NC. Need intrepretations/reactions!"}
{"id": "t3_1oefxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [28 F], are looking at engagement rings. What I had planned on spending and what is to be actually spent are quite different..", "post": "We've been together for nearly two years and we're definitely right for each other. However, she insists, nearly to the point of ultimatum, that the ring be from Tiffany and Co. Being a good sport, I looked up what is the appropriate carat size for engagement, and the style she requested and it falls into the $10k range. \n\nTo me this is borderline ridiculous. I don't feel that she gets the say on what I spend to show I love her. Upon further investigation the ring will actually cost $18-20k. Tiffany and Co must list the most bottom line, poorest color, poorest clarity as a basis of their \"starting at\" price. I explained that this isn't realistic. \n\nI make roughly $60k a year, making the ring worth ~4months of pay, above the DeBeers standard (bullshit). I think it's incredibly materialistic and sets both of us back financially. Like I said, she seems to be unhappy with alternatives, borderline ultimatum (I haven't asked if it is).\n\nThis makes me want to run. It shouldn't, I should just man up right? I don't think so.", "summary": "$20k engagement ring, $60k salary, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_16sw9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (M20) give my ex (F20) more time to get over me?", "post": "Hey guys and gals,\n\nSo recently, within the past week, I broke up with my girlfriend (20)of almost 10 months. We had a pretty good thing for the most part but I (20) could't continue the relationship due to sexual reasons. \n\nSo I broke up with her and she took it pretty badly at first, but after around 2 days she seemed better about it and we smiled and talked and laughed with each other like we used to.\n\nNow, one of my fears is that I haven't given her enough time or space to get over me properly. I know she's a big girl and can handle herself, but we were each other's first true love. So I think it may be harder to get over me than I realized and I'm wondering if I'm making a mistake by continuing to talk with her so soon after our breakup.\n\nI've told her my fears and how it may not be a good idea to talk and what not but she didn't seem like it would be an issue. But now I want your opinion reddit. What would you do?", "summary": "I'm worried I'm not giving enough space for my gf to get over me in our post-breakup state."}
{"id": "t3_2w5ym2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my roomate [26M] never closes the cabinets!", "post": "Okay, I know this might be silly but I just don't know what to do about it and it is really frustrating! One of my highschool friends recently moved in with me and we have this problem where he'll never close the cabinets in the kitchen!\n\nI know it's a silly thing to get upset about but it is really frustrating to voice my opinion about it and then walk into the kitchen and see all of the cabinets open. How do I talk to this guy and impress upon him that this is seriously something that bothers me? I'm not normally confrontational so I don't want to yell at him about this but god damn I just want to stab his face every time I see one of those cabinets open.", "summary": "roommate leaves kitchen cabinets open even though I've asked him not to and I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_272eu1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not crashing at my friend's house; crashed my car instead", "post": "This was actually 2 years ago.\n\nSo at my old job - working at an audio-visual company - I had a particularly busy week. I had to do audio and video for a major health conference and i had to set up most of the stuff by myself. between setting up, running the conference, and striking, i put in about 32 hours in 2.5 days. Very tiring. I went to bed that night at my usual time but didn't think anything of it.\n\nwent to work the next day, and had a regular day, and then went home to get ready for a gig i had with my band at the time. i should also mention that at the time i was seeing a girl who suddenly pulled the 'i don't think we should see each other any more' card on me, not to mention the stress of my job was piling up (I was already looking for something else). I took it upon myself not to have a drop of beer that night; obviously, because I was driving. I had a lot on my mind and i was more tired than i realized.\n\nAfter the gig I dropped my friend off. He offers me his couch, and i politely decline, citing prior plans the following morning (it was Easter long weekend and Good Friday was the next day; I had to be at church). So I start the 45 minute drive home.\n\nEverything was normal until I was about 10 minutes away from home. I fell asleep at the wheel, and for about 5 minutes I cruised. I think because I had done the drive so many times before, my body was used to things subconsciously. I hit a highway median at 120km/h (75mph for the Americans), spun three times, and then came to a stop in the middle of the highway. it was 2am, so there was minimal traffic. I managed to somehow get out of the car (without getting hit!), dial 911 and then my mom at home, and wait for an ambulance.\n\nI'm so very grateful to be alive, but I still kick myself from time to time about not taking up my friend on his offer to sleep over.", "summary": "worked super overtime, played a gig, didn't stay at my friend's place, fell asleep and wrecked my car."}
{"id": "t3_2lk6k8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Arguments over small things a warning of things to come? Me [25/f] and SO [29/m]", "post": "My SO and I have been arguing over small things, that may be a sign of things to come.\n\nI like to make silly jokes and sometimes they're maybe a little insensitive. Our recent one was tonight over him getting a sunburn. He said it was painful and I joked that he better be glad that I'm not there to poke him. Yeah it's making fun of him but obviously not in a malicious way. His way to respond was \"Not funny. If you did that I would probably call you nasty names and kick you out.\"\n\nMaybe I'm overreacting and he's being sarcastic? I for one, cannot tell, I honestly believe sometimes he can be that angry at me. At least when we have these arguments, he gets really angry and defensive. \n\nMaybe we just have different sense of humors or we don't have enough trust between each other to have that sort of conversations. I don't know if this is a red flag or not.  \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "My humor upsets my SO, he reacts angrily, we argue. No trust."}
{"id": "t3_2fnm8r", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Help/Suggestions Needed", "post": "Hello all,\n\nThis is my first post on here, apologies for any formatting errors.  I am struggling, and by struggling I mean wedding block big time.\n\nMy fiance and I have been together for 6 years best friends for 8.  We are in the DC, MD, VA area, and I would greatly appreciate any suggestions you all have for reception venues.  We would like to keep the reception as cheap as possible...$5,000 is the top of the top, and that's for the whole kit and caboodle.  Looking at early November of 2015 as a time period.\n\nI was debating on having a little gathering at our apartment complex and doing a cook out/party type thing but everyone I've talked has snubbed the idea leaving me circling between that or finding a venue and caterer we can afford.  \n\nThis is way harder than I was anticipating.  Any and all suggestions are welcome.", "summary": "Wedding block, need help with"}
{"id": "t3_19f36a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The unemployed cant find work, so that means they should stay unemployed?", "post": "i am unemployed and looking for work - a family member of mine is a business owner, he hires and fires ppl all the time. so today we were talking, i was telling him about my continued job search.\n\nhe told me my problem is that i am not employed...\"well no shit Sherlock that is the problem lol\".  my family member clarified his statement by saying: \"what i mean is, if someone comes to me and they have not been working for a year or more, i don't hire them.\" i replied with \"ok but why, i mean what is wrong with them?\" \n\nhe told me his reasoning....and it sounds like fucking bullshit. his reasoning is that when he asks why they haven't been working, they say its because they cant find a job, he thinks this is bullshit because there are plenty of jobs if someone wants one, and that they are probably lazy.\n\ni replied by telling that - \"obviously they want a job , i mean they are interviewing with you; so why dont you just hire them! i don't have a job, why is that?\" he replied \"well i am starting to wonder why you cant get a job.\" are all employers like this? because it sounds like the most fucked up reason to not hire someone?\n\nthanks.", "summary": "why do employers discriminate against ppl who are unemployed?"}
{"id": "t3_2q6i5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my sorta-kinda-but-not-really dude [36M] of 6mths... Complimented me in an angry way, lol. Genuine or BS? Who can distinguish? And wtf is his issue?!", "post": "Ok so same dude (mentioned in previous post) got into a discussion & he brought up how my ex used to tell me I wasn't good enough & that I was lucky to be w him etc & so I asked if that was his reasoning too for not wanting to be intimate w me anymore.\n\nWell, he proceeded to let his temper rise & started angrily telling me how it's just the opposite...that I'm TOO good for some guys especially too good for him cuz he's selfish & can't/doesn't appreciate me & that any guy who comes across my path is a lucky man etc etc & how I have a huge heart, always thinking of others & so on. \n\nSoooo I don't effing get it! Is he genuine? Or is he full of shit? When I think about what he said, it makes me feel like he had/has feelings for me even though he denies everything. Am I crazy for thinking that way? If not, wtf is his deal? I don't necessarily think he's playing games as he's fairly blunt & his actions/words are good, but then again being FULLY AWARE of how I feel about him, he tells me earlier how some chick he used to hook up years ago randomly msgd him & they reminisced & gonna meet up soon as he gets back outta state which is prob within the month. I'm so sad. I need to let it go.", "summary": "Me:35F. Him: 36M. You're too good for me...is this a sincere  question or is it just bs & if bs....WWHHYY????!!"}
{"id": "t3_qps6t", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Putting down my 18 year old cat down tomorrow.  Any advice?", "post": "First it was her thyroid failing about a year ago, but this week has been downhill, she isnt taking her meds anymore, she wont eat or drink [a week or so now, some crunchies but no wet food she just ate a full plate of shrimp like it was no ones buisness.] She dropped from 18-7 lbs over a 3 year period and now she just wants to sleep and can barely hold her head up to eat.\n\nVet thinks her kidneys are failing and it's just the end of her life. I feel terrible, this cat would follow me around everywhere when I was home. Would always sleep in my bed.\n\nThis just really blows.", "summary": "My cat is dying and I need some advice."}
{"id": "t3_515by8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M] not quite sure what my girlfriend [23 F] is expecting from me when she tells me about problems she's having", "post": "I suppose this is less of a relationship issue and more of a communication issue, but I could use some guidance here.\n\nGenerally how it'll go a lot is she'll tell me a problem she's having (whether it be with uni exams, family members leaving the country, a bug making noise in her room, etc) and I'll start by comforting her a little then proposing solutions (if there is one). One by one she'll tell me my solutions aren't viable or she'll refuse them and it'll ultimately lead to \"there is no solution then\". A lot of times there will be no solution from the beginning anyway.\n\nSo at that point I just try to comfort her. But then she gets annoyed at me and tells me that comforting her isn't going to fix anything. So I'm stuck at a point where there is no solution to her issue, and I can't comfort her because it'll annoy her further. So I'll try to talk it through with her, and eventually that'll lead to her demanding a solution from me.\n\nI'm unsure what to do in this situation. There is no solution to the issue. I can't comfort her. Talking it through with her eventually leads to her demanding a solution from me and getting annoyed when I tell her I don't think there's a solution to the issue. I get the feeling she wants me to give her a solution and for most of her issues she either doesn't accept them or there just plain isn't a solution.\n\nI feel a little guilty but I'm starting to get annoyed by her too. I can't do anything in that situation and it almost ALWAYS ends up with me spending 5+ hours with her in near silence, only broken by \"what's the solution to this\" and \"why is life so awful\". I try to comfort her, she gets annoyed. I give my solutions, she rejects them and gets annoyed. I try to change the subject, she gets annoyed. I try to talk through things with her, she demands a solution and gets annoyed when I don't have one.", "summary": "Girlfriend brings up problems she's having to me, I give solutions and she rejects them all. Since there's no solution I try to comfort her, she gets annoyed. I try to talk things through with her, she demands a solution and gets annoyed when I don't have one for her. I'm clueless as to what I'm supposed to do in this situation."}
{"id": "t3_job9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I cool off after a fight?", "post": "Long story short.\n\nI got in a little fight the other day, though it wasn't a big deal and it didn't bother me none. If I have learned something from my coach, it's that fighting is a defensive mechanism, and it's best to not engage in one in the first place. I defended myself from the guy's punches without throwing any in return, for a few reasons - because it was over something really stupid, because I promised my parents (whom I greatly respect) to use my boxing knowledge only when absolutely forced to, and because I do not want to further jeopardize my chances of going in law school. \n\nI took a few hits, it doesn't matter to me. Here's what really set me off and bothers me -\n\nI wake up the following morning, and every single friend that saw the ordeal calls me a motherfucker, faggot, pussy, tells me I'm making up excuses for not fighting him and that the guy would have \"splattered my brains on the cement\" if they didn't stop him and yadayada. \n\nBut I digress. How do you guys clear your minds after you've been backstabbed by your 'friends'? What do you guys do to calm down? I like to think that I have exceptional self control, but shit, I could really use some tips as to how to cool down right now.", "summary": "got in a fight, no biggie. Friends responded like a bunch of douchebag cunts and are assuming too much about me after not seeing me for a bunch of years. Pissed at them backstabbing me - any recommendations on how to get it off my head and cool off?"}
{"id": "t3_37n4ru", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "PSA: Endomorphs, ectomorphs, and mesomorphs are not real", "post": "In the general weight loss and fitness community, I frequently hear these terms casually thrown around to explain one's ability to lose/gain/maintain weight at a certain rate. From my tattoo artist who is now a competitive bodybuilder to my SO when we started this journey, it has been a consistent cause of frustration for me, as these terms- as well as constitutional psychology in general- has been discredited for years.\n\nConstitutional psychology was developed by a psychologist named William Herbert Sheldon in the 1940's. He asserted that the human body could be split up into three \"somatotypes\"- the endomorph, ectomorph, and mesomorph. He wrote a book on the topic in the 50's called *Atlas of Men*. Each somatotype was characterized as representing a different temperament, level of intelligence, and overall value. It had/has foundations in racism and antisemitism. \n\nThe three types were described as follows (from Wikipedia): \n\nEctomorphic: characterized as linear, thin, fragile, lightly muscled, flat chested and delicate; described as cerebrotonic inclined to desire isolation, solitude and concealment; and being tense, anxious, restrained in posture and movement, introverted and secretive.\n\nMesomorphic: characterized as hard, rugged, rectangular, athletically built with well developed muscles, thick skin and good posture; described as somatotonic inclined towards physical adventure and risk taking; and being vigorous, courageous, direct and dominant.\n\nEndomorphic: characterized as round and soft with under-developed muscles and having difficulty losing weight; described as viscerotonic enjoying food, people and affection; having slow reactions; and being disposed to complacency.\n\nI just wanted everyone to recognize that though it would be very convenient to have this wonderful defiance of the laws of thermodynamics to excuse the inability or lack of desire to lose weight, they have long since been disproven and to use these terms is intellectually dishonest. Barring other physical disabilities, your body type does NOT determine your ability to lose or gain weight at a relatively normal pace.", "summary": "Constitutional psychology has been discredited as a serious scientific theory. With a background in eugenics, mesomorphs, endomorphs and ectomorphs as terms can be damaging in one's ability to achieve their weight loss goals."}
{"id": "t3_qz1im", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What would YOU like to see as part of a Zombie Survival Guide.", "post": "Hi Team, As part of one of my papers we have to create a Informative Interactive Website/Smartphone Application. As part of the design process we require some user input, and I thought what better place to get input than the great Reddit\nSo reddit, In a Zombie Survival Guide what are some things you deem neccessary?\nWhether it be Items that one should not be with out?\nOr a section in the guide that will aide those in need?\nAny Ideas that you feel must be included or ideas other guides usually miss out.\nPlease feel free to contribute as it would be greatly appreciated.\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "What do you want to see in a Zombie Survival Guide."}
{"id": "t3_19spjg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a near death experience that ended up being a false alarm?", "post": "When i was 12 my room was on the second story of my house and it was about 2 am. I woke up randomly and about 5 seconds later the power went out. This scared the living shit out of me so i laid there for a dew minutes to make sure I didn't hear anything (robbers, killers etc.). Unfortunately I had seen a scary ass movie a day or two earlier so it didnt help. Finally, I made my way around my room and found my baseball bat. opened the door and stealthily walked around the house scared as shit. Eventually realized that the circuit breaker tripped my room and that was the first time that happened. So what has happened to you that has had you scared for your life but was a false alarm?", "summary": "Crapped myself because I had to many things plugged in my room."}
{"id": "t3_3z47ov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] mother wants me to break up with my girlfriend [26 F] because of our age difference", "post": "I'm in community college while working. I pay every bill on my own. Me and my girlfriend live in her house so I am in no way financially tied to my mother. My mother says things such as I won't ever be able to have a family with my girlfriend because she will be too old, and other things similar. She tells my brother [15 m] things like he should be like me. When my girlfriend is not the subject my mother is normal but if I bring her to a family function it's like my family is the head charter of the kkk and my guest is named Shaniqua. What do I do?", "summary": "Mom hates my GF's guts because she is 7 years older than me"}
{"id": "t3_36drbx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I saw this pretty girl on facebook that I never met but we go to the same school. How do I talk to her?", "post": "So I was on facebook and this really pretty girl shows up on my feed. We go to the same college and we are both sophomores. Since we didn't have any mutual friends I decide it's pointless to think anymore about her and move on.\n\nA few days later I was hanging out with a friend and we were casually looking through his Facebook when I see her on his feed. He's not friends with her but it turns out that he has a bunch of mutual friends. I tell him that I saw her on my FB and that she's really pretty. He agreed and kept telling me to talk to her. I brush it off saying that it won't work.\n\nBut over the past week I kept going back to her profile for a few minutes and can't seem to get over her. We even share a few interests(especially music). Obviously if she hates me or she turns out to be a completely different I'll move on but just from her Facebook I can tell she's a sweet girl. I keep thinking what if this does work out?\n\nHow should I approach her in real life? I keeping thinking I will come off as a creep saying, \"yeah I know you just met me but I saw you last week on Facebook Lol.\"And the chances of me running into her accidentally on such a big campus is slim so I can't rely on that. Should I just forget about her then if this is pointless?", "summary": "Saw this really pretty girl on facebook but we didn't share any mutual friends so I moved on. A week later I keep thinking what if this works out and cant get over her. Found out that a Friend doesn't know her too well but has mutual friends with her. Is there a way to talk to her in real life without looking like a creep or should I really just move on?"}
{"id": "t3_187b4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17/M] depressed and have a self-destructive personality. Should I end it to be kind to her? [16/F]", "post": "Please just ignore the fact we're young for the moment.\nI love this girl more than anything, she is everything I have ever wanted and more. We've been together for ~6 months and we're in a short LDR situation where we can see each other every Sunday. I've recently become incredibly depressed and self-destructive, and I do my best to not let it show but sometimes (once/twice a week) I won't be able to help myself and I'll end up in tears because my thoughts just escalate for a whole host of other reasons (life isn't going anywhere, no friends, no prospects to name but a few).\n\nEvery Sunday is the only thing I look forward to; every single one is amazing, I love being with her so much, it is pretty much the only thing I live for at the moment. As long as she's happy, that's what matters to me. She tells me she is being with me, but I'm honestly not sure I believe her because last night was the worst I've ever been. I didn't sleep all night because I was just crying and having ridiculous thoughts, I called her up crying at about half 11.\n\nI realise I'm probably not emotionally stable enough to hold a relationship, but she is the only person that makes me happy. Every other aspect of my life is shit. The fact I can only see her once a week is SO difficult for me, especially as she has such a busy schedule so she doesn't really have time to think about missing me because her mind is on other things. Plus she has a lot of other friends, whereas I have precisely none.\nI don't want to break up with her, I realise this might be my depression talking for me, but I just want her to be happy. If I didn't have her I don't know what I'd do with my life. When I'm with her, EVERYTHING is perfect. I'm can't be with her for good for at least another 2 and a half years though. I love her.", "summary": "I have huge personality flaws and it's taking a toll on our LDR relationship. She insists she's happy with me, but I don't think she is and I'm contemplating leaving just to make sure she is happy. She might not be at first, but she'll eventually get over me."}
{"id": "t3_4e04uy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When/How should I [21] tell him [21]?", "post": "So I think I may have gotten myself into a bit of a mess. I've been seeing a guy, let's call him Andy, for a few weeks now and things are going good between us. He treats me so much better than any guy I have dated in the past year. We get a long really well, he is kind, funny, respectful of boundaries, and is interested in getting to know me. It's made me realize how bad the guys I dated before were for me. There is one problem though, and I'll fully accept the consequences if it causes things between us to go south.\n\nHere's a little bit of back story: I met him through his roommate (Patrick,26) which I used to have a pretty big crush on. Over the past few months I have been going over to their place to hang out with all Patrick and all his friends as a way to get closer to him, but during these events I didn't really talk to him at all. I was always playing darts with Andy and talking to him and a few other people at the parties.\n\nAbout a month or two ago, I ended sleeping with Patrick even though I knew he wasn't interested in dating me. We were both pretty intoxicated and haven't brought it up since. I continued going over to his place because we are still friends. During another party I got really intoxicated and ended up making out with Andy, and we've been talking nonstop and hanging out since then and like I said things are going pretty well.\n\nIf things get serious between us, I feel like I should tell him about what happened between Patrick and I because I wouldn't want him to hear it from someone else or think that it was anything than what it turned out to be (NBD).", "summary": "Had sex with the guy I like's roommate before we started getting friendly with each other not sure how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_f48hl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Game Enthusiast, Reviewer/Writer, Down on my luck..Struggling..", "post": "Reddit, after many different attempts at getting a start in one of the hardest industries ( Gaming ), I have almost given up.\n\nI worked at Gamestop as a manager for over 4 years, was friends with a writer of Game Informer as well as a seasoned Guide writer for Nintendo. I have attempted to publish my reviews and news blurbs through many different online outlets and even submitting writing samples to multiple Gaming related magazines, websites ect..\n\nAfter following tips suggested by my friends already in the business, I have yet to find anything that has worked out.\n\nI am coming to you reddit and anyone out there in the Biz for advice, suggestions, anything that may come as helpful.", "summary": "Many attempts at getting start in Gaming Industry, still failing and need help.."}
{"id": "t3_owzeq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there such a thing as being too nice?", "post": "Hello again /r/askreddit.\n\nStory:\n\nI was talking with two friends, one male and one female, about our love lives. They both are in relationships, the male just got with one girl, while the female has been dating this guy for a year and a couple months. Point is, they (sort of) know what they are talking about.\n\nWhen I told them who I like, they said that I make it really obvious that I like them, and that she thinks I am \"too nice\" to have her say something about it. And that I do this with every girl that I like, which had me thinking.\n\nSo I was wondering, is this a good thing or a bad thing? I mean, being mean sure doesn't sound like a good way of changing this.", "summary": "When getting to know a girl who you like, is there such a thing as being too nice, to a point where they can't tell you what they think?"}
{"id": "t3_4nwbvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with the girl im persuing [24 F] for about 7 months now and I'm unsure of what to do.", "post": "So a quick background. Both me and the girl I'm seeing have had relationships in the past where we both just kind of dive right in/love at first sight kind of a deal and this time on our first date 6 months ago we said we want to take it slow cause she just got out of a 4 year relationship. We both are very different people (me: scorpio, her: gemini) and it shows very much from family background to life experience. However when we hang out or see each other at least once a week we have tons of fun and I introduced her to new experiences. FYI we have no slept together. The most is peck on lips and holding hands.\n\nSo my issue is that it seems I put a lot of effort into things like making the plans for the date, making sure her birthday is flawless, lots of surprises, giving her career and life advices, making food and everything for her. In short, I make her very happy but once in a while I do upset her because I tend to be very intense with questioning. Once in a while she would want to make the plan to see me. She's hesitant on me meeting some of her friends (I've met one Best friend) and it just sometime doesnt really seem like she shows interest. So I'm not sure if shes just stringing me along or if this is what it means to take it slow because I honestly don't know what that terms mean. As of now I'm not sure whether I should just stop chasing her or just endure the process of this taking things slow.", "summary": "Pursuing girl for a long time, not sure if shes playing with me or really just want to take it slow. Give up or continue?"}
{"id": "t3_qq9jm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anything ever happened to someone or something that was really bad but you just couldn't help laughing your ass off because of how funny it was? Story inside.", "post": "My kitten was walking about on the table we eat food on, and after we had put away shopping, a few shopping bags were left on the table. One in particular was eyeing the kitten and he definitely did not like it. He sat there for a good 2 minutes, getting ready to pounce after he had had enough. He pounced and none of us were prepared, because we didn't think the cat was actually that stupid. This bag he pounced for was situated at the very edge of the table, with the bit you put shopping in front of him, so he dived into that. He fell off the table, in the bag, and sprinted blindly to try and get it off. I made my way after him when I realised he had a bag over him that could suffocate him. He made it into the living room, where he had left the bag behind. I don't even know how he ran because he was trapped in a bag. He was hidden for only 10 minutes or so, unfazed by this incident, and had another go at the mischievous bag. I was laughing my ass off the whole time, and at the end felt bad for laughing.", "summary": "My cat jumped into a shopping bag and fell off of a 3 foot 2\" (something like this) table whilst in the bag and I laughed. It was funny all right?"}
{"id": "t3_3fjvse", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Noise complaints from downstairs neighbors", "post": "Hey everyone! I recently moved in to a new condo to start school two weeks ago and have already received 3 noise complaints from my downstairs neighbors who are very very elderly. \n\nThe first one happened to be the day I was moving in. I was testing a new sound system and did not realize that my subwoofer was on and was \"shaking\" their entire apartment. Understandable, so I put my subwoofer behind my TV and it is not a problem anymore.\n\nSecond time, my girlfriend was sleeping over and we were getting intimate late in the night. The next day, my downstairs neighbor came and told me we had woken us up from someone's  \"footsteps.\" We had walked around, but I am not sure if he used the word \"footsteps\" instead of sex, or if he really was woken up by one of us walking around around 2 am.\n\nLastly, I received another noise complaint today. He wrote me a letter, stating that I had woken him up at 3 am by slamming doors, running around my condo, stomping my feet on the ground ,dropping heavy objects, \"banging around\" in the kitchen, and just generally being very noisy. I did come home around 3 am. I used the bathroom, walked to my kitchen, made some frozen pizza in the oven, then slept. I did not drop any heavy objects, I certainly did not run around (I walked), and I was not stomping my feet, I was walking normally. I also didn't slam any doors, although I did close my bathroom door when I used it, but I closed it normally, I did not slam it. \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this situation. I am doing my best to be considerate. I hardly play any music despite having a sound system, and I do not invite anyone over to my place or throw any parties. My girlfriend and I whispered when we were talking to each other last night so we do not wake them up. Moreover, I am gone at least 12 hours of the day. I'm not sure how to proceed. Should I go to the front office and inform them? It is my house, I need to walk around. I feel as if I am already being considerate. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "downstairs neighbor sending me multiple noise complaints and I'm not sure how to be less noisy and how to proceed from here"}
{"id": "t3_37qep8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by moving across the country while my girlfriend is on a missions trip.", "post": "Well guys. TIFU. I've been with my girlfriend for about five years now, but I'm looking to move on with my life. Had every intention of leaving her about a week ago and even went over to her house to do it in person. Unfortunately I'm really bad at breaking up with anyone. A little back story here, she works for a church and has been planning on going to Guatemala for about two months where her phone won't work. We started talking about her trip quite awhile ago so it wasn't exactly a surprise. Anyways, she left today and i just bought a house in Texas (currently in Indiana). I leave in a week. No intentions of telling her.", "summary": "I'm a dick and moved away instead of breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_s7fpv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I before E except after C", "post": "I've been playing words with friends a lot lately and I've come to learn that the rule I before E except after C does not hold true quite often. I know English is a difficult language with many rules and many exceptions. It just bothers me that I was told this rule throughout school yet it really is not the case, often. Does anyone else know of any popular rules you are taught throughout school that do not hold true? And maybe there is another rule that elaborately explains the exceptions that I cannot remember and someone could refresh me.", "summary": "A rule I grew up with sucks dick"}
{"id": "t3_4odouk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Do you guys prefer to go out during lunch or have lunch at the office with co workers?", "post": "I work with a small team at a big company in the city. We get an hour or more for lunch and with it being the city there are TONS of food places to try out, especially when it's nice. Plus being outside of the office for an hour or so is a much needed break. \n\nHowever mostly all of my co workers, specifically my team, either bring their own lunch or get something and bring it back. it's also just us at the table most days so we end up talking about random work stuff but nothing important, nothing I really contribute to either. I don't really like to do this I'd rather be out but they don't like to do that. \n\nSo what would you do? Go out alone and have a relaxing break or bring food back so you can be with the team?", "summary": "I like to go out for lunch, co workers do not, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_nopep", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I fix my life? friendless, no socail life, etc.", "post": "Im 20 in Febuary. No friends. Live at uni accommodation, find it hard to be socail. Not been out with friends since may 2011. No friends since around 1006/7.\n\nIm sick of having no friends that I can call up and go for a drin kwith, or whatever. I find it hard to be socail, and next year im going to be living alone unless I manage to find someoen that would want to share a flat with me. Im thinking of checking into a hotel on my birthday so that my housemates think ive gone home, and that my parents think im out celebrating my biirthday,\n\nThe last 3 summers I have spent the 3 months in my room playing video games. I dont want to spend another 3 months this summer doing it.\n\nSeriously dont know how to fix it.", "summary": "No friends. 3 months to make friends that will want me to live with them next year, or im going to end up living ALONE for the next 1 year."}
{"id": "t3_2vfrj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/m] with my amazing gf [23/f] and her weight, not in the typical sense", "post": "Throw-away for obvious reasons. In a very weird situation. My girlfriend of 2 years and I are very much in love. I am no where near ready for marriage and she does not seem ready either (we have talked about this), however, when I am ready I definitely want it to be to her. \n\n'Amy' we'll call her for anonymity, has always been a bit chubby if not over-weight until recently. She has begun hitting the gym and attending yoga classes. We also eat very well, no fast food and almost always home-cooked meals hitting all of the food groups. This hasn't always been the case but medical issues on my end has caused us to eat a lot better. I'm no doctor but in my opinion the only reason she was overweight was because of the sheer volume of food we eat together, not because any of it is unhealthy. If anyone is wondering, I am very skinny. I seemingly can't eat enough.\n\nThis is where my problem comes into play, our great diet combined with her recent initiative to go to the gym and take yoga classes is causing her to have what most would consider an ideal body. BUT, I am what you would call a 'chubby chaser' and have always been attracted to larger women. Our sex life is great right now but I can see my attraction to her diminishing. \n\nAlso, our communication is very good. I know many of you may be saying just to be honest with her, but I'm having a hard time with that as well. You see, Amy and I have the sort of relationship where if the other person asks something of the other, 9 times out of 10, the other will oblige. The problem with this is I cannot get myself to tell her I like her better over-weight because I want whats best for her and I know deep down that the weight I like her at is not healthy. However, if she continues down this path I will have no choice but to break up because I will not be in a relationship with someone I am not attracted to. What would you do in this situation?", "summary": "Overweight gf is loosing weight and I'm becoming un-attracted to her as I prefer larger women. Cannot get myself to talk to her about this because I fear she will put weight back on which is admittedly not a healthy thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_3b5pim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my sister [19 F], she's severely mentally ill and lashes out at me, parents expect me to just take it", "post": "I don't want to write a wall of text here, but basically since my sister was diagnosed with her laundry list of mental illnesses (bipolar disorder, eating disorders, social anxiety, depression, and so on), she's turned to me as her main target of her frustration. \n\nIf I get up for seconds at dinner, she throws her food down and says she's not gonna eat anymore, making me feel guilty for her restricting her food intake. If I want to watch something on TV in the family room and she doesn't like it, she will say something very hurtful to me, throw something, and so on. \n\nI've tried talking to both of my parents (both in their mid-50s) about this, my father takes the \"she's mentally ill she can do whatever she wants\" kind of route with handling her. He does whatever he can to keep the peace with her, which means he just tells me to \"shut up and take it.\" My mom is a little more understanding, but she still blames me for all of the lashing out my sister does at me, even if it's unprovoked (99% of the time it is). \n\nIt's getting to the point that when she sits down next to me I feel that she's going to claw my eyes out, I don't feel safe or welcome at all, and I just sit in my room most nights to avoid her behavior. \n\nI'm still a student and work part-time, and can't afford to move out, and for the rest of the summer I have to live at home before university starts back up again. What can I do to deal with this situation?", "summary": "My mentally ill sister bullies me to the point that I feel unwelcome and scared at home, and my parents don't do anything to support me."}
{"id": "t3_pomj2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the funniest way you've been injured?", "post": "A few years ago I was at a friend's birthday party. We were playing a large assortment of zombie games in his basement and it was a humans versus zombies survival (with Nerf guns) and the entire lower floor was pitch black. I was making my way across the main room fairly quickly when another zombie came running from behind me and bumped into me. I started going about 3 times faster and was headed straight for the door to the stairs. I couldn't stop, and I ran straight into the door frame.\n20 seconds later I was screaming in pain and bleeding everywhere. I went into the bathroom to check the damage and saw a huge gash next to my eye. Ended up getting 9 stitches that night.", "summary": "I ran into a door frame and got 9 stitches."}
{"id": "t3_4jp4te", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40F], how on earth do you start dating after separation/divorce?", "post": "I am separated and will likely be divorced.  My husband and I have been together since I was in college and I literally feel like I have no idea how to date.  Everything is online?  God I feel so old saying that.  I know Tinder is mostly for hookups?  I'd like to go on some actual dates, but am not looking for anything serious, just want to start meeting some people.  But having sex with someone, I don't know at this point.  I was never much into casual sex (serial monogamist here) so that thought terrifies me too.  I really have no idea what the best way is to go about putting myself out there a bit.  I'm generally pretty attractive, decent body type, so I get attention from men but dating...??  Ugh.", "summary": "It looks like I'm getting divorced, have been with only my husband since college.  How on earth do you start putting yourself out there?"}
{"id": "t3_fw7be", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "protip: doing crack and coke is bad, mkay? i'm 34, never tried it, addictive personality (smoke,drink,pot that's it ever) good choice? should i try coke? should i party on crack? (throw away account)", "post": "not to divert energy on an already overpopular nonissue like charlie sheen, but  \n\nand why not practice your typing and let me know if my drug policy is fine as-is?  i've grown up with ready access to all of the drugs and lived within what might be considered the druggie majority. however i've never tried acid, or mushrooms, or coke, or meth, or E, or any of that shit. i've got an addictive personality (i smoke, drink beer and smoke pot, drink coffee and caffeinated sodas, etc) and i just never thought it was a good idea to involve myself in hard drugs. needless to say i have always thought a law against a plant was ridiculous.  i love wild mushrooms and yet have never undertaken to try shrooms, or even peyote.  nevermind the salvia and whatever that shit joe rogan got charlie sheen to try in his isolation booth...", "summary": "should i add 'bang a seven gram rock' to my bucket list, per se?"}
{"id": "t3_1svsmu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] My fianc\u00e9e [27/f] doesn't clean up after herself. How can I get her to be more proactive about cleaning without upsetting her?", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e have lived together for 2.5 years now, but the cleaning issue hasn't been much of a problem until recently.  Previously we lived in a 900 sq/ft apartment, so it was easy to keep tidy.  Now that we have moved into a larger home, there is always some sort of mess somewhere.  In the bathroom, in the kitchen, etc.\n\nI think I do a good job of cleaning up after myself, but I don't clean up after her.  I feel it is her responsibility to clean up after herself.  However, when I ask her to clean up her mess, she says that she has cleaned up after me in the past, and I should return the favor.  That's fine every once and a while, but the mess is always about 80% hers and 20% mine.\n\nIt puts unnecessary strain on our relationship and I am seeking a resolution. **My goal is to find a resolution to the bickering over cleaning and it would be an added bonus if she started cleaning up after herself more**.\n\nI can't seem to come up with a good resolution myself.  I thought about just silently carrying the weight, constantly cleaning up after her, but I feel like it would go unappreciated and that it would be positive reinforcement for her \"bad\" behavior.", "summary": "Fiancee doesn't clean up after herself as much as I would like and we fight about it.  I want to stop the fighting so I am seeking advice."}
{"id": "t3_hnn8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have a work related luxury problem.", "post": "Greetings Reddit. \n\nI have a small problem. Some might call it a problem of luxury, but I'm still in need of advice. \n\nI am currently a student, and I have been searching for a job recently. A week ago, I was lucky and got - not just one - but two job interviews. \n\nAfter nailing both of them, I realized that I had to choose between the two. \n\nThe jobs are quite allike, one involves guiding customers buying whole kitchens, the other involves serving pizzas. Both seem just as interesting(boring). This is less relevant. \n\nOne of the employers called me an hour ago, and offered me her job. At this point I was actually a bit more interested in the other one. But I still accepted, as I did not yet know if I would actually get the one I preferred. \n\nNot more than half an hour later, the last employer called me and offered me the second job. Mind you, this was the job I want the most. \n\nI accepted. \n\nMy question is: How rude is it to call the first employer and ditch that job? Should I cleverly disguise the cancellation in some bald excuse? \n\nHow would you handle it?", "summary": "Accepted two jobs. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_28558o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my wife [37 F], every holiday she is depressed about her dead father. Fathers day even more.", "post": "My father-in-law passed away when my wife was pregnant with our son. He had cancer, and from dx to death was about 8 months. Our son is turning 5 this year. \n\nEvery year, every major holiday, including Fathers day, and birthdays, usually turns into her staying in bed for most of the day and crying that she misses her father.\n\nAt first, I was understanding, and I comforted her and did all I could to help her. Yet, 5 years later, I'm starting to feel that I'm being robbed all the Fathers days, and other holidays with our son, because I feel that they invariably turn to be more about my late father in law than me. But, at the same time, this makes me feel guilty. Selfish even.  \n\nShe has been seeing a psychiatrist weekly for about three years now. I have been seeing my own therapist for about the same. Yet somehow, I feel uncomfortable talking about this to my wife, since I fear that she will feel that I don't care about my father in law... \n\nI'm the only father in the immediate family. All other fathers have passed away. So I'm not sure if that's more of a reason for it to be my day, or less of a reason.", "summary": "Am I out of line feeling that Fathers day should be more about me than my late father in law?"}
{"id": "t3_3gcmdn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What do i[22 M] do now after my break up with my ex[23 F]", "post": "We have been together for 3 years and we just broke up last week. She initiated the break up and it was very shocking to me as recently, we just traveled overseas and weeks ago, we discussed about our future plans such as getting engage and kids and etc.\n\nLong story short, she meet this guy and she claims that they can connect well. We werent spending as much time together as compared to the past due to personal commitment from both side. However, we still spend time together every weekends. As a result, she met this guy during this vulnerable period of our relationship and she claims that she is doubting herself. I even found out that she lied to me despite me asking her to tell me everything and i will still forgive her.\n\nIt has been a week since we broke up and we still keep in contact as i feels that couples doesnt have to become enemies after breaking up. She told me that she agree too. However, the way that she treats and reply to my messages is always very cold and short. She only text me a lot when she needs something from me. \n\nShould i cut off all contacts from her? I do see her as a friend now but the way she is treating me as a \"friend\" after the break up is just unreasonable. This is my first relationship/break up thus i have no idea how to handle it.", "summary": "broke up with my ex but still maintain contact with her. should i cut off all contacts with her?"}
{"id": "t3_395tmp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[29F] close friend[28F] keeps trying to sleep with all of my friends and I'm starting to get frustrated\u2026is she being disrespectful or is this normal behavior?", "post": "I have a very good friend who is in an open relationship, let's call her Sara. She is married to a man, but they have an agreement that allows her to sleep with women as long as she asks for permission from him first. She is not allowed to sleep with men. \n\nI'm totally fine with this \u2013 every relationship has a different set of guidelines and expectations. Whatever works, works.\n\nThe issue is lately she has been very aggressive in her pursuits of bedding women. I'm a lesbian (Sara and I actually briefly dated in high school) so I have a lot of friends in the LGBT community. Once Sara finds out that one of my friends is into girls she then proceeds to ask for \"permission\" if she can sleep with them and usually ends up doing that.\nAdditionally, she often makes sexual comments about our past sexual history in front of others.\n\nMy best friend is straight, and she is even constantly making sexual comments about her and her friends\u2026 whether they are straight or lesbian.\n\nYesterday, she basically asked me if it was ok if she hung out  with my ex-girlfriend for the sole purpose of sleeping with her.\n\nI have no issues with polyamory or open relationships, but I'm starting to find her behavior very disrespectful and I feel as if she is becoming a liability to hang out with.  It's to the point that we have to warn our friends in advance that she might *try* to sleep with them.\n\nAm I over-reacting or is she sort of out of line here? I spoke to my best friend about it and she agreed that Sara is being a bit disrespectful, but we are not sure if this is just because we aren't too familiar/comfortable with the swinger lifestyle. She is the only person we know in an open relationship.\n\nReddit, what do you think?", "summary": "Close friend is in an open relationship and keeps asking me and my friends for \"permission\" to sleep with our friends or past lovers. Not sure if she is being disrespectful or not."}
{"id": "t3_52ou7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help. I [19M] have been with my bf [22M] for 1.5 years, but now I'm getting crushes on other men.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI've been with my current (and first) boyfriend for about 1.5 years, and I love being around him and doing things with him. Pretty much every aspect of our relationship is absolutely fine, except maybe our sex life. He was the first person I came out to, and aside from a 1 week break-up about 6 months into the relationship, everything has been going strong.\n\nBut recently I've started developing crushes on other guys. This has been tearing me up inside, to the point where I asked if he wanted to open the relationship (which I felt like absolute shit for asking afterwards) to which he said no and forgave me.\n\nI honestly don't think I deserve him, and I think he's too quick to forgive me when I do wrong. I feel like I made a mistake having my first relationship be long-term, and that I'm not emotionally ready for it. But at the same time I love him very very much and I don't want to lose him over something I might just regret later.", "summary": "I'm getting crushes on men besides my bf, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_w4nib", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] girlfriend is very insecure about certain things with me [19/m]", "post": "For some context: Sally is fantastic. She is the girl of my dreams, and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else. She's funny, smart, and beautiful, even though she might not know it. I spend my days at work thinking about everything about her, which can be either a good or a bad thing.\n\nWe've been going out for 9 months, but 3 or so months ago we had a break. It was pretty rough on both of us, but we've worked through it to the point where we are today, where we're both completely infatuated with each other.\n\nread below this line for the real chunk:\n__________________________________________\n\nShe's still insecure about a couple things, and I sincerely don't know how to function like a human being without triggering negative feelings concerning her insecurities. She is pretty insecure about her body, and thinks that she isn't sexy or beautiful, which has resulted in several nights of tears and reconciliation from my part, but all I can do is tell her she's beautiful and try and convince her otherwise. \n\nLast night, I was in a bad mood. She went out for dinner with friends and came home expecting to Skype me. I wasn't in such a great mood, and when we skyped, admittedly, i was lacking my usual luster. Unresponsive, pretty emotionless. To be honest, I didn't really want to skype. So we hung up, and she immediately texted me to find otu what was wrong. I tell her, we work over it, and we go to bed.\n\nI wake up in the morning to a text that goes about as follows: \"I don't know, I just keep thinking about last night and to be honest it really bugged me. It really upset me that you seemed so unenthusiastic to see me and that you were going to let me go to bed without explaining why.... I felt like I was talking to a wall the way it was right before we went on a break and it freaked me out.\"\n\nI don't know how to console my girlfriend. I just want her to be happy and comfortable with me. What should I do to ease her mind?", "summary": "Girlfriend is insecure with me due to previous break, feelings continue to resurface. Whatodo."}
{"id": "t3_34270e", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Friend vendors", "post": "How have you handled friends that are also vendors? I have a girl I went to camp with every summer from age 9-21 who does photography part time- has a degree in it but isn't established enough to fully support herself on weddings. She does great work and I really like her style. I like the idea of having someone I am comfortable with, especially for getting ready photos, and want to support her as she establishes her career. I modeled for her a few times in college, pretending to be a hs senior& a fake engagement shoot for projects/beef up her early portfolio. We are meeting for a drink tomorrow to catch up/talk prices/packages ect. I know I would like to use her, but it totally depends on budget, which I am still figuring out.  How do I keep it professional& make her aware she isn't automatically getting the job?", "summary": "how have you handled getting estimates/ contracts with vendors you have a personal relationship with?"}
{"id": "t3_3uc33z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when my boss accidentally intercepted a private message.", "post": "Just happened today. We use an internal messaging application software at work which has been great for communicating with other teammates. A lot of us have started using it to complain about things we are not happy about at work. Doing some research after a few got worried, we looked into the privacy policy. We found out that the one on one chats where not accessible by the company, unless they asked the 3rd party and had good reason to have access. That being said, there was nothing that bad to warrant that, so we continued to use it to complain to each other.\n\nThis leads me to today where just as I am about to go home my manager calls me in to a private meeting looking really upset. Then they mentioned the program name and that they had received an email, and suddenly I realized I had fucked up.\n\nOne of the quirks of this program is that when someone is offline it emails them the message. A recently ex co-worker is still active on the chat for quick questions for the next 2 weeks. They came online so we started having a conversation, then another co-worker walked up to me for a chat who has been having a rough week and complained about our boss. When they finished their rant, I then messaged my ex co-worker that my boss wasn't popular with the staff at the moment as that was the second minor complaint I had heard that week. They had gone offline, so an email was sent to their old work email. Past employees emails get sent to the boss, in case important emails are sent to them. \n\nSo after the meeting I still have my job. I had an awkward conversation with my boss and I feel really bad, because my boss is a really nice person that I enjoy working with. In the end it was actually a constructive conversation and they just wanted to know how they could improve. We discussed issues with how things are operating and what is going on to change those things. Regardless of the good that came out of it, I don't think I will be able to look them in they eyes for a while.", "summary": "Message program at work, emailed a private message between a past co-worker and myself to my boss saying how people where not happy with them."}
{"id": "t3_1zb7vs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I am currently 417 lbs and sick of it.", "post": "2 weeks ago I weighed myself and saw that my weight was at an all time high.  I am ashamed that I have let it get to this point.  I am determined to lose weight but I don't know where to start.  I have seen so many different \"diets\" and \"eating changes\" that people say they prefer that I don't know what direction to go in.  I love healthy food but I have a problem with also wanting potatoes and things like sweets and such from time to time.  Right now my exercise is relatively low.  My job requires me to sit for extended periods of time.  Looking for serious advice here.", "summary": "I'm a super fatty and need help kick-starting weight loss and a healthier life."}
{"id": "t3_exei6", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Can someone please help me find a PA job in Los Angeles?", "post": "This is a complete shot in the dark, but I'm bordering on desperate so here goes:\n\nIf any redditors in the L.A. area need a PA, please please consider me. I'm a college grad with lots of multi-media knowhow (AVID, FinalCut, CS4) and I need steady work badly. I had a temp job with Google that lasted 2 years, and I assumed (wrongly) that it would look good enough on a resume to land me another job. I'm running on empty, I moved back home and it's clearly becoming a financial strain on my parents. I'll work infinite hours, and work hard. I'll start at the bottom and work my way through smiling. I have no ego, I have no attitude. I just want to work, earn enough to move back out, and get my life going. \n\nThanks to anyone who takes the time to read this.", "summary": "I'm running out of options and I need work, I'll work infinite hours, I'll be happy to do just about anything. And once I have the ability, I will plan to pay it forward to another redditor."}
{"id": "t3_ytds3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do I stop dumb teens from doing lousy things to my driveway/house?", "post": "Anyway, there are these teenagers who live down the block.  These teens used to be \"friends\" with my brother until early this summer. \n\nOne night, these kids wrecked all the flowers in my backyard. Thus, my brother (14) confronted and stopped hanging out with these kids. \n\nSince then, they've been annoying the family.  They've been pouring salt to the back of our cars (as-salt-ing? ..no?), playing ding dong ditch, and leaving trash around the yard.  I'm almost positive that the same kids who used to hang with my brother are the offenders.  When they come over and ask for my brother and my brother refuses to see them, the next day I see stupid crap like this in the yard.\nI know the things they do are insignificant, but it really does get annoying after their sad attempts. \n\nWhat can I do to make them stop these shenanigans?\n\nHere's the catch; I don't want to confront their parents, mainly because they're okay with their children's behavior.", "summary": "Annoying kids who leave trash/other stupid things in the yard/do other stupid stuff to annoy brother and the family; how can i stop without confronting their parents."}
{"id": "t3_2u3vfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Wife [29 F] having issues sleeping in same bed, 6 years together.", "post": "I have been with my wife for six years, living together for four and married for one. We are very happy and have a great relationship; she is my best friend. There is one area that we, specifically me, are struggling with: sleeping!\n\nI am a very light sleeper and have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. This is even harder when I am trying to share a bed with my wife. We do enjoy and both want to sleep in the same bed but that is not been possible to do regularly for a while now. \n\nMy wife tends to snore and that is not good for me due to my light sleeping. She also falls asleep almost instantly, so I am trying to sleep next to someone that is snoring. She also cannot come to bed after I fall asleep because she will wake me up and I will be up for hours after that. \n\nWe have removed the TV from the bedroom, as well as cell phones. We have made the room quiet and dark. I wear earplugs to bed. We have also tried a sound machine. She has gone to the doctor to see about her snoring but it is nothing out of the ordinary, I am just very sensitive towards it. \n\nAt this point, we are both out of ideas what to do next. I do not enjoy sleeping on the couch at all and I would love to be able to sleep comfortably and restfully, next to my wife. Does anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "great wife, can't sleep next to her because I am odd, tried everything, need help."}
{"id": "t3_f8pr0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of you (or your kids) managed to pull a dresser (or other piece of furniture) down on top of yourself?", "post": "I was about 4.  We had a HUGE white dresser (probably just a normal one, but in my memory it was HUGE).  And I put all my clothes in the top 2 drawers.  That way, I had empty space at my level in which I could play games, or hide things, or whatever.  Also, I used to climb on top of the dresser a lot and heavy drawers were hard to pull out to make steps to get on top of the dresser.  This created an unstable equilibrium which I was not aware of at that time.  Well, I was playing near my dresser one day, and bumped into it and it came toppling over on top of me.  It ended up falling half onto the bed, so it didnt squish me.  But I was terrified.  And that was my first lesson on \"center of gravity.\"\n\nMy roommate thinks I am strange and she never did that.  Bueller?", "summary": "I put all the clothes in the top of the dresser, bumped it, it came crashing down, only to be caught by my bed."}
{"id": "t3_suscr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Parents' divorce/remarriage predicament, please help", "post": "Throwaway account because my boyfriend doesn't use Reddit, and I'm asking on his behalf.\n\nReddit, please help me out. Here's the story. My boyfriend's parents are getting a divorce because his dad has been cheating on his mom with another woman via the Internet for over a year. They broke the news to my bf the day before his birthday. I know, right? Pitiful. His dad is a scumbag, I've never liked him. My bf doesn't like his dad either. \n\nAnyway, his dad called him today to tell him that he and his new woman are getting married in JUNE, and they asked if we could go. Of course, my bf absolutely does not want to go, and since his father doesn't have any friends, he'd probably end up being his best man, or at least one of his groomsmen. But here's the catch- his father pays his phone bill, car fixes, and car insurance, and my bf is afraid his dad will cut him off financially if he doesn't go (although my bf pays his way through school, pays his own rent, pays for his food, lives in a whole other state than his parents, manages to support himself). Is that irrational for him to think that his dad might cut him off if he doesn't go to his wedding? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Bf's dad is a jerk and he's getting married to woman he cheated on his wife with, wants his son to go to his wedding but he doesn't want to go, afraid of being cut off financially."}
{"id": "t3_2t0csc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my SO [25F] of 18 months, her ex keeps posting on her FB.", "post": "So I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months now. Things are going great, we love each other dearly and are moving in with each other in a few months. I see her as \"the one.\"\n\nIn the last two months her ex from college has literally liked or commented on everything she puts on Facebook unless it involves me. I'm not one to get jealous but I know exactly what this kid is doing. It's like he is just reminding her that he's still around. He lives about 4 hours away so I'm not worried about anything and I trust my girlfriend completely. \n\nHe has gotten to the point where he will share a video and tag her in it saying something like, \"haha this video made me crack up [girlfriends name]. \n\nI brought this up to my gf this past weekend about how it makes me uncomfortable and she agreed it seems weird. They broke up on good terms so I feel it bothers me more than her. She asked if I wanted her to block him on facebook or tell him to stop. I told her no since I don't want to be that guy but today another post. Shit is getting ridiculous. I feel he is definitely trying to get me to say something which I really don't want to. \n\nAny advice on what to do? Do I send him a message? Do I ask her to tell him to stop? It's pretty sad and depressing to be honest to see him still in love with her.", "summary": "SO's ex keeps commenting/liking/tagging her in posts on FB."}
{"id": "t3_1z2q44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you do when...", "post": "My boyfriend (M, 28)of two years has recently turned down moving in with me (F, 27) because he does not like my apartment. We can not move into his place since he lives with 4 other roommates. This subject was brought up some months before as a possibility but now he says he would only move in if we got a newer place together, but I am hesitant to sign a new lease else where since neither of us knows how our job situations will be in a few months. I am freelance and he recently came off unemployment.\n\nWe have an average relationship, where we argue but don't stay mad at each other too long. I'm worried this is a sign he isn't that committed to this relationship and I'm setting myself up for heart break here. Thoughts?", "summary": "Boyfriend will only move in with me if we pick a new apartment. Is this trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_27i31s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23m) girlfriend (23f) taking anti-anxiety meds and leads to a dead bedroom. Am I being selfish in getting frustrated?", "post": "Keeping this brief. My gf started taking anxiety meds not too long ago, and as a side effect, it killed any sort of sex drive she had. I mean, KILLED. We have sex once a month, if I'm lucky.\n\nNow, I plan on marrying this woman. She's simply perfect, no other way to put it. However, she hasn't really talked about getting therapy for her anxiety, and sees the meds as a solution - for now anyway. \n\nBut if I'm marrying her, I don't know how long she's planning on staying on the meds. She's a very busy person and has very little time for individual therapy. She could be taking the meds forever. I simply don't know. She doesn't appear to know either. I have to be honest - if I'm marrying this woman, I am NOT excited about the prospect of having sex once a month for the rest of my life.\n\nWe've talked a bit about it now and she's apologized, but there's nothing she can do if the pills are killing her sex drive. She said if I *really* want to, we can have sex anytime and she'll say okay. But I have to be honest, having sex with someone who isn't in the mood and is very difficult to get in the mood is very, very unsatisfying. \n\nI've tried talking her into taking therapy so she can get off the meds eventually, but she works incredibly long hours and is tired often, and is simply not interested in any long-term help. Yet.\n\nWhat do I do from here? I really don't want to end the relationship over something like this, but this is getting to be really frustrating. I haven't masturbated this much since I was single. I understand she's taking meds for her issues, but I feel like a dick for compromising what we have because we don't bone more often. \n\nAny help / advice? Anyone been in a similar situation?", "summary": "we never bone anymore because of medication side effects. No indication she wants to get therapy. The lack of sex is driving me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_1zarhq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26M) and my (ex)GF(27F) love each other and want to get married but everything is against us", "post": "I'm 26 and lived in Europe for 4 years and met this girl who I fell in love with. We dated for 3 years, but I always knew I was going to move back to the U.S. for my career. We are both professional career-oriented people. \n\nI thought it would be easy to break up since she doesn't particularly like the U.S. and kept asking me to make a plan but I ignored it and broke up with her and moved home. I felt young and not ready for commitment. \n\nExcept that I can't move on. She's pretty much my best friend. We have been separated for 8 months now, and I've dated a few girls and shes dated guys but we still talk every day. I don't care about the other girls, I want to marry this girl but I'm only realizing it now.\n\nBut how can I ask her to give up her life, her friends, her family and move to U.S. for me? It's incredibly selfish and I feel immensely guilty. She actually came and visited me last week and it was like we never broke up, went right to back where it was. \n\nWe discussed it, and for her to continue her career in the U.S. she would have to take a year off for exams/internships and apply for a job, wasting a year. \n\nAlso there's the visa issue, so we basically would have to get married now and wait another year while her visa is approved, and then she would move and then take a year off and start from scratch in America, wasting two years.\n\nI dunno what to do. Is this worth it? She would want me to come to Europe eventually, I was thinking we could have two homes but obviously that would not work with kids. Then there's the cultural differences, my parents are traditional Asian and want a traditional wedding and hers would definitely want a European style wedding.\n\nI dunno what to do, but I feel like I am wasting her time since she feels she can't move on without me completely ending contact with her or marrying her. So many variables at play...help me", "summary": "stupidly decided I could move on and could not and now we are a world apart but want to be together"}
{"id": "t3_2aehof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26m) found my ex's (29f) messages to her ex on our vacation. WTF do I do?", "post": "Gf and i have been dating for about a year. Things have been good.\n\nJuly 3rd we leave for road trip to east coast. It's great, were excited and happy.\n\nJuly 7th, while she sleeps I look at her phone. I had a suspicion she was messaging someone through this game. Open up game and there's a 20+ game record with her ex. Open up games and messages read:\n\"Hello handsome\" July 5th\n\"We should have a make out session\" \n\"I'd love to have you on my boat\"\n\"I dreamed about you last night\"\n\"We should meet up soon\"... \"Yeah we should\"\n\nWith other shit in between. July 5th we were in NYC and having a blast.. Truly romantic in my eyes... A perfect day together. She sends that shit. \n\nJuly 8th were on our way to Philly. I open up the game like I'm bored. Ask about ex in the game and start looking at messages. She snatched phone away and deleted app... Saying it's just her text messages. \n\nAfter arguing she says she still has feelings for him (broke up 2+years ago!)\n\nShe denies anything remotely physical or flirtatious happened, I know she's lying (about flirting). \n\nShe made a legitimate effort to tell me she was so so sorry (for what? Cheating? Thinking about cheating?) and she wants to be with me so much. She seems sincere... \n\nDo I give her a second Chance, or kick her to the curb? Help please!", "summary": "found messages leading me to think gf wants to cheat/cheated with her ex. Do I forgive and forget?"}
{"id": "t3_53aw2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] cannot stop acting shy/awkward around the guy [19M] that I'm interested in.", "post": "Honestly, I've always had this problem with guys. I'm not typically a shy person but for some reason I can BARELY look at a guy when I'm attracted to him. I've overcome about 95% of the situations that normally trigger my social anxiety, but I haven't quite mastered talking to crushes yet. Eye contact is pretty much a no-go and I even find it difficult to speak normally. \n\nThe guy that I'm currently interested in is very attractive to me, and it just makes it difficult for me to look at him/talk to him without feeling self-conscious. I feel like this either makes it extremely obvious that I'm interested in him, or it just makes me seem standoffish. Neither of these things are things that I want.\n\nI'd really like to be able to be my animated, talkative self around this guy, but I can't stop feeling extremely self-conscious whenever he's looking at me. I so badly want him to find me appealing, and I suppose this causes me to be over-aware of every little thing about myself. I want there to at least be a little bit of a chance of him being attracted to me as well, and I highly doubt that's going to happen if I keep acting like an awkward mess around him. Any advice?\n_________________________________________________", "summary": "I [19F] can't stop acting shy around the guy [19M] I like and I want to overcome it."}
{"id": "t3_36cqdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] short term SO [22F] is being physically abused by her mother. What do I do?", "post": "A girl I've been seeing for a few months recently revealed to me that her mother hits her when she is drunk, which also happens a lot.\n\nHer father is very frequently away for work, so I am unsure if he knows about this. She and I are not so close that I feel comfortable calling the police and possibly messing up her family life.\n\nShe seems accepting of it, which worries me. It seems to be so commonplace that she just expects it when she goes home. She had to move back in with her parents for the summer, so now it happens almost every day.\n\nI've only known about this for about a week, and I told her she could always crash at my place if she  needed to get out. She showed up at my place today with a fat lip and she had been crying, but she didn't seem to want to talk about it. If it was anyone else hitting her, I wouldn't think twice about kicking their ass.\n\nWhat the hell do I do? I don't want to mess up her family, but I don't feel comfortable with her going home to that every night.", "summary": "SO of a few months is being abused by her mother. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1h9znq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) lied to my mom and told her I broke up with my boyfriend (22)", "post": "We have dated for over a year now and my mom never really liked him. She would constantly told me to break up with my boyfriend. When she found out that we were sexually active she flipped out and constantly harassed me to end it.( I come from a conservative Asian family. She thinks I am a whore now.) My mom and I have always clashed because she doesn't understand college life (She has never experienced it.) I was harassed by her so frequently-- eventually she told me if I don't break up with him she was going to cut me off and disown me as her daughter. My family is important to me and I didn't want to cause my mother anymore grief and stress. \n\nSo I told her I would break up with him. I love my boyfriend and we are important to each other. He understands and knows my stressful times at home but doesn't know I told my family I'm not with him anymore. I don't know what to do because my mom doesn't trust me and asks me if I'm lying to her. However our relationship is much better and I have a happier home to return to. (I live near campus but home is about 40 minute drive away). No one else knows of this big lie. I haven't told any friends or my boyfriend. I know I should tell him but I fear I will hurt and anger him for not standing up for our relationship-- but I just can not win my mother. She seriously believes I have tainted my reputation and my body. I can be paranoid about my mom finding out but that comes and goes. Convincing my mom is not an option. I just got off the phone with her and she threatened to me that if she finds out she has been made a fool of she will never forgive me. I wish she could see that what I do is normal...", "summary": "Lied to my overly conservative mother that I broke up with my boyfriend when I really didn't. I haven't told any friends nor my boyfriend and I get paranoid. My mother will never forgive me if she finds out."}
{"id": "t3_34d49p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bullying a kid", "post": "(I am posting this on mobile so expecting a lot of errors.)\nThis story did not happen today, it happened in 7th grade. So a bit of a background for me at the time: I was short, not even 5'. I wasn't popular nor a loner. I had friends, but not many. \n\nThere was this kid, let's call him Tom. Tom was the kid that no one really liked. He had maybe 1 friend that I can remember. When ever we had groups in class, no one really payed attention to him. So one of my friends and I, let's call him Bob, had this \"thing\" when ever we saw Tom. We basically stood next to each and and pointed at Tom and saying something along the lines of \"oh hey, look at him. Point and laugh, point and laugh.\" Now Tom didn't really do anything about it. (he says he told teachers but they never said anything to us about it)\n\nOne day, Tom had got a lock for his locker. It was purple. Me being immature thought I was funny. So I started calling him \"Purple Lock Boy.\" So the next day, during break, (which in reality is recess.) we were walking outside and I passed by Tom and laughed at him saying Purple Lock boy. He responded with something lIke f*ck you. So me and my other friend, Steve, wereviews just walking around talking. We ending up walking behind Tom. So I say to Steve, \"hey, let's go by him and be like \"I'm surprised you know how to curse.\" So we proceeded to do so. I then laugh, closing my eyes and looking up into the sky. Next thing I know, I'm on the ground with Tom's foot on my chest.\n\nLong stor short, I end up getting 3 days of detention for it and I don't remember what happened to him. After that, we never talking and I stopped making fun of him.", "summary": "Made fun of kid, got knocked to the floor, got detention, never spoke again."}
{"id": "t3_1v2asi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my FWB [20M] eight months, sees no reason to commit.", "post": "Okay, so basically. Me and this guy have even sort of seeing each other/FWB (note that we're exclusive: think 'together but not together' we basically do everything that couples do except say we're a couple). And when I mentioned just saying we're in a relationship he said no because\n\n1. We're getting the same thing out of a relationship so it doesn't matter (from my view: it's not that different for him but for me it's the stability of what we have and it's knowing that he wants to commit)\n\n2. If I'm not happy with how it is, I wouldn't be happy in a relationship (from my view: it's different in a relationship? - this is the only thing I'm unhappy with)\n\n3. I'd get bored and find something else to moan about instead of this (from my view: this is the only big problem I have with him so I don't see what I would get bored with?!)\n\n4. He would have to check in with me if he wanted to do things with his friends (from my view: he doesn't do that now so why would I expect him to?)\n\nThis has gone on for about 3 months now, when we first had the discussion he said 'let's agree to disagree' meaning that we did what he wanted and I figure that I've been patient and tried it his way (he doesn't seem to acknowledge that the constant rejection actually upsets me) and he keeps saying 'it could change' but that doesn't seem likely at all. And I just don't know what to do anymore - my friends just say to get rid of him (I don't know what his friends say as they don't know about me) but I wanted impartial opinions :)", "summary": "me and FWB are basically in a relationship but he refuses to just say we are. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ud66x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [23 F] of 9 months need some advice about how to approach an issue.", "post": "I'll try to keep this decently short. My girlfriend and I are at a great spot in our relationship; however, at 9 months in I'm starting to notice something that probably isn't a big issue to most but it is something that kind of matters to me. \n\nOne could say I'm the romantic type,  (flowers, surprises, letters, that sort of thing) not every day but about once a month or after maybe an especially bad day I'll do something like to surprise her. She loves it. I also am the kind of guy who will make the extra effort to see her, or go out of my way to do stuff like pick up something at the store she needed on the way over or something. \n\nThe problem is that she does absolutely nothing of the sort. She tells me she loves me and is great when we hang out, and is really an amazing all around girlfriend, except she doesn't really ever make any effort to surprise me, or do anything special for me (she didn't even get me anything for christmas, even though I let her know I was getting her a few things). She even talks about stuff she wants to do with me, for Me, or get me...it just never happens. Or if it's kind out of her way or inconvenient she will just not see me or expect me to go to her most of the time. \n\nI guess it puts me in a mental bind, I love this girl and she does everything expected of a girlfriend, is it fair to be upset that she doesn't go above and beyond? I guess maybe for me personally those things aren't above and beyond, but *are* expected. Should I bring this up and talk to her about it? I don't think it's a deal breaker, but it makes me feel like I may be more into this relationship than she is. I don't really know how to address not getting what most people could consider just extra benefits in a relationship, I feel like I would sound like a whiny child if I told her that.\n\nI also want to end this with saying that this is literally the only flaw with my girlfriend. I really do love her and she is absolutely amazing in every other way.", "summary": "I go the extra mile in the relationship, girlfriend doesn't reciprocate. Is it fair to expect her to do special things for me? How could I even address it?"}
{"id": "t3_453jay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my FWB [29M] of 9mos, falling for him as he's drifting away. Talk to him or walk away?", "post": "When we started out, we made it clear we just wanted to be FWB. It was fun, the sex was good, and it's simpler than dating. We never even explored the concept of dating because we felt like the timing was wrong (both very focused on our careers) but the implication was that we were fundamentally incompatible.\n\nThere were times we tried walking away, wanting to see other people. When I tried to, he'd start becoming really sweet and playful. When our attempts at dating failed, we just go back to before. A part of me thinks maybe those relationships also failed because we wanted to continue... or not. who knows.\n\nRecently, he made a comment about a colleague of ours being pretty... and that annoyed me. I thought it was benign until I noticed we were doing it less. One day, he just blurted to me that he wants to try and ask this other girl out. That broke something in me. I've been unable to sleep since then. I can't stop thinking about him.\n\nIt doesn't make much sense. Sex is good but not passionate. We don't cuddle or hug. It's almost transactional. But, he is a good-looking, nice and intelligent. He has been there for me through some tough times. I don't understand why I feel like this.\n\nAm I just scared of losing something good? Do I really feel anything for him? If I do, should I talk to him or just walk away?", "summary": "We've been comfortable as FWB for 9mos but I'm beginning to feel bouts of jealousy and have lost sleep over his intent to date. Help."}
{"id": "t3_4iwyg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] My girlfriend's little brother and my little sister are fighting and its affecting our relationship", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months. A few months back we suggested that our siblings should hang out, as they are in high school and have similar interests. My sister is 16 and my girlfriend's brother is 15.\n\nAbout a month ago my sister was diagnosed with an immune system disease that she has to take chemotherapy drugs for. Some mornings she is nauseous and doesn't make it to her first class or two. She has missed a ton of school and some days she kind of milks it and will just skip the entire day and go out to eat. My girlfriend's brother pointed this out and started telling their friends that she was milking it.\n\nThis lead to a fight between them and they have been firing back nonstop. My girlfriend's brother has said stuff about my sister and lashed out at her friends. My sister is definitely not innocent in this case either. Her and her friends have said some really mean shit to my girlfriend's brother.\n\nThey're spreading rumors that he's gay, they tell people he sells drugs (high school lol), and they have all around just ruined his social life. He doesn't really have any friends left and is in a pretty shitty place emotionally.\n\nMy girlfriend is livid as she cares a lot about her brother. She understand that hes not 100% innocent but she has texted my sister and said some things that could have been a little over the line, however I don't really disagree with what she said.\n\nMy girlfriend no longer feels comfortable coming over to my house because of my sister and what she has said to her (my sister told my mom).\n\nWhat do I do in this situation? I just finished my first year of college and I really don't want to get involved in this high school drama but it's really affecting our relationship.", "summary": "My girlfriend's brother and my sister are fighting and it has gone too far and is now affecting our relationship. How can I talk to my sister to stop this?"}
{"id": "t3_w4bzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I keep falling asleep, when he expects we're to spend time together. Ack", "post": "Hello, I probably mostly need to gripe. My boyfriend[25M] and I[24F] have been together ~4 months and it's pretty srs but we are having fights about this, though other factors are likely contributing. Basically I get tired and doze off or just straight up fall asleep and this leads to him being horribly disappointed that he's making the time and effort for me and wants to enjoy himself and have fun and such, but I'm asleep or half asleep or wanting to sleep.\n\nOther factors: I'm (was) a single mother, I work a stupid labour job that causes me tiring pain, my psychotic ex boyfriend is constantly harassing him/us, and he works way too damn much so that when we DO spend time together it is often a small chunk out of his schedule that he would prefer to use doing something enjoyable. Not watching me be asleep.\n\nI've already decided I need to change my diet or something and probably start exercising more. We've talked about it but he tends to shut down and shut me out. Tonight he came over expecting to watch a show with me but I had fallen asleep putting my kid to bed, and he kind of just sat out here I guess, and was in quite sour spirits when I came out. Said there wasn't time to do it anymore and despite planning to sleep here, left quickly.\n\nBoth of us have looming school/work responsibilities on the horizon, too. I'm worried that even with exercising and not eating garbage and somehow magically managing my time better, I will be tired in the future also.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are both busy/stressed, but I keep falling asleep when we are meant to spend time together, which causes fights. How am I to placate him (besides obviously staying awake) so he doesn't feel like he's wasting his limited free time?"}
{"id": "t3_ueyvu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can college credit hours be canceled to be absolved associated debt?", "post": "I have more than $10k worth of debt because of some boneheadedness when I attended Portland State University during the summer of 2008. I earned 12 credit hours there, Calculus and their goofy Freshman Inquiry thing.\n\nMy folks have been supremely unhelpful in resolving this and I really don't know who I should talk to. I've tried going to the bursar's office at the university, but that accomplished nothing.\n\nI'm already enrolled at another University and thanks to my current age I no longer need financial information from my uncooperative parents for financial aid, but due to this stupid debt around my neck I can't get a loan to cover the remaining portion of my projected school budget (roughly half of what I'm expected to owe.)\n\nI really hope that this is a real possibility as I have no intention now of utilizing the records from", "summary": "I was an idiot when I went to college the first time and now am in a Catch-22 where I can't get the education I need to pay my debt because my debt prevents paying for the education I need."}
{"id": "t3_gidm8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When will Reddit become what it used to be? A place for news and intelligence, not \"The voice of the internet\"?", "post": "For quite awhile, the content of Reddit's discussion and general links have been on a great decline from what it once was: News. \n\nToday, the front page is filled with Reddit drama such as I_RAPE_CATS and various memes that make it hard for people that actually want to read interesting articles and have intellectual conversations. \n\nWith AMA's needing to go through a hardcore validation process, (For what reason I have no idea. It's the internet, take everything with a grain of salt.) to massive witch-hunts that stem from drama that is similar to the average teenage girl. What happened to the community that prided itself on the debates and conversation that once permeated each article everyday?\n\nSure, the pun threads and the small Reddit memes were funny at first, but now there is a pun thread in almost every front page link and most of them are in the comments of memes! How far will this community go to pursue some non-existent currency known as Karma? Some people take their Karma/Comment Karma way too seriously and thrive on achieving top comment in threads. What's the point?\n\nI'm mostly ranting but I'm curious if anyone else feels the same and can offer a site that will offer better articles/news than Reddit currently does.", "summary": "A magical penguin has just bitten your toe. Read the text."}
{"id": "t3_4j746n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Where do I go from here?", "post": "I've been friends with this girl for 2 years and have fancied her for just as long, she's moving away this summer, so I asked her out three says ago. I know from people (I wasn't snooping, it's just come up in conversation over the years) that she fancied me, but I was fine accepting whatever reply she'd give to me asking her out. \n\nHowever, the last thing I expected her to say was a short joke about where to go out followed by a meek \"yeah, sure.\"\n\nI know she doesn't want to make it a big romantic thing, but I can't tell if it was shyness or disinterest. regardless, now I have no idea where I should take her. I'm not even sure how interested she is. We're in high-school. Dinner sounds too fancy. Bowling? The movies? There's not really much to do in our country.\n\nAny ideas? (P.S.: Sorry if", "summary": "P)"}
{"id": "t3_3j6kei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 F] After having a lot of casual sex, I feel like I've lost the ability to make serious connections with men.", "post": "I began sleeping around a lot after I was sexually assaulted during my first year of college. I developed serious feelings for one of the guys I was with and stopped having one night stands until I realized he was leading me on (opened up to me about his family/told me he truly cared about me but then saw him out with other girls.)\n\nOut of anger, I began sleeping with a lot of different guys. I felt nothing. I would wake up next to a new guy each weekend and all I wanted was for them to leave.\n\nSince this situation, I was sexually assaulted by an acquaintance. I abstained from sex and alcohol for a while and, after bi-weekly therapy sessions, felt ready to start trying to establish connections with men again. Except I can't. I will talk to them and start to feel interested, but as soon as they show serious interest in pursuing a relationship with me, I become repulsed by them.\n\nI don't go out of my way intending to hurt or lead people on, but I feel like that's exactly what I'm doing.\n\nHas anyone experienced anything similar? Does anyone know how I can begin meaningful relationships?", "summary": "After multiple bad experiences with men, I find myself unable to have any relationships with them that aren't platonic."}
{"id": "t3_gopcv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend wants to stay at home and go to community college rather than go to a good State school so he can stay close to a girl. What can I do?", "post": "So here's the story.\nMy best friend, best friends since first grade, and I are seniors in high school on the verge of graduation. At this juncture all of our acceptance letters have come in and most everyone has a set idea of where they are going. \nI plan on leaving home, San Diego, and go continue my education at San Francisco State University. Though that's honestly irrelevant. \nMy best friend is the typical nice-guy. A softie, loves helping people even at his own expense, will always listen to people's drama and issues, and is just a very emotional guy. A big problem for him in his life has always been girls. His natural tendencies makes it so easy for girls to walk all over him. Finally a girl has fallen for him and they have been together for the past three months. It's your typical overdone high school relationship, talking 24/7, he follows her every command, etc. To be honest, he definitely cares more than she does. Hopefully this paints a picture of the dynamics of their relationship.\nMy friend was only accepted to SFSU. He plans on not accepting their acceptance (no pun intended) and stay in SD, go to community college just so he can stay near her. Though I know it's not the same for everyone, older friends of mine who I have seen go to community college always get stuck there. They say they plan on transferring to a better school asap but that never happens. Many have even dropped out completely. Only ONE alumni from my high school has successfully gotten out of community college. I know that for many people community college works out great and they proceed to have great lives, but 95% of the community college kids that I know are unmotivated and, unfortunately, heading straight to a dead end of mediocrity.\nMy question is, how can I sway my friend to make the right decision and receive a high quality education? How can I make him realize that this, his FIRST relationship isn't gonna last forever (he think they'll be getting married...). I've tried, but so far to no avail.\nAll of your help and insight is appreciated.\nThanks guys!", "summary": "My best friend is choosing community college instead of a state university to stay with his girlfriend of four months. How can I sway him to pursue a higher quality education."}
{"id": "t3_2z45ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my long distance girlfriend [20 F] of 2 months. New to long distance and just curious about a few things.", "post": "I've never had a long distance relationship before. And it's only been roughly 2 months(too be fair though, we talk and play online games together every single day/night for at least 8-10 hours, and when we aren't, were messeging each other; and it feels like it's been so much longer). But the connection I feel with her is honestly stronger than I've ever felt before with someone else. It's crazy that I've never met her and yet I feel so close to, and on the same level as her. Is this normal for long distance relationships?\n\n Also, I don't want to be the guy who drops the \"Love you\" bomb too soon or too late, when is the appropriate time to do so?(obviously not unless I feel it, which I'm pretty sure I do, but just curious how these things usually progress). She always says things like she likes me so so so much and I'm wondering if she's just using that many so's as a replacement for I love you, cause shes nervous about it too?", "summary": "Why and how does it feel like the connection we share is so strong but ive never met her? And how soon is too soon to say I love you?"}
{"id": "t3_2tmbgu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (21M) of 2 years ignores me when he's busy.", "post": "We're both busy students, though he generally is the more busy one. We also don't live together, so we don't really see each other frequently when we're apart. However, at school he behaves ordinarily -- he's his usual funny and sweet self.\n\nWhen we're apart, he fails epically at staying in contact. When he's busy, he won't talk to me. We *always* used to talk at least once a day, even at his busiest, but currently I haven't heard from him since Friday night and it's Sunday. Also, when he *does* respond to texts, he sounds unengaged and unfocused. I can understand if he's busy and can't respond, but he could send me something to tell me he's busy, or just say something to let me know he's not purposefully ignoring me.. Anything.\n\nI know he's been active since Friday evening, but he's been avoiding responding to my messages. I also know that he's read them. I don't know what to say or do when he decides to respond again -- carry on like usual? Confront him about this? He's been busy, though, and so he does technically have a reason to not respond.. But this is the longest amount of time that he's ignored me. The way he lacks so much interest and puts forth so little effort to see me, talk to me, text me while we're apart is so inconsistent with his usual behavior, and it really hurts me at times.\n\nAnother thing to note is that he and I both like our space. He especially takes his space very seriously. I agree that we both need time to ourselves and our friends (of course), but sometimes the space seems like too much.\n\nHow do I talk to him about this, while still making sure that he knows that I respect his space? Or -- should I even bring this up, since he's been busy? I don't want him to see me as a clingy girlfriend..\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "My boyfriend goes for long periods of time without texting me or wanting to see me when we're apart. He doesn't respond to my messages, though I know he's read them. However, in person he seems normal and acts like his usual self. He's just really bad at keeping in contact when we're apart. How do I approach this subject while still making sure he understands that I respect his personal time and space?"}
{"id": "t3_2uzv26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible to buy clothes for a classmate without modifying her? [25F] and [20sF] of 2 months", "post": "My classmate is morbidly obese, which isnt anything special. My old flatmate was too, but she dressed beautifually. My classmate though, she wears the same outfit of pj pants and a shirt that causes her stomoch to hang out whenever I see her in weekly lab. \n\nIm not rich nor am I thin. I also give to charity already. When I was  kid growing up poor I got a lot of clothes for free from donations. Is it possible for me to do the same for my classmate? If so, how can I do it with tact? Maybe a gift card?", "summary": "Classmate in ohusics lab dresses really poorly. Is there anyway I can help her out? Her size isnt a limitation to her beauty."}
{"id": "t3_34ap9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M], will be stuck on a farm with my [20 F] girlfriend's ex-girlfriend [19(?) F] all summer.", "post": "I'm a college student, and about a month ago I entered into a long-distance relationship (and my first relationship in general) with a girl I met on Facebook a year ago. (I realize that that in itself is strange, but things are going quite well so far, so I'm not worried about it). \n\nI wound up applying to intern on a sustainable farm this summer, and got accepted. When I got the acceptance email, however, I discovered that my girlfriend's ex (who goes to the same school as I do) will also be interning there.\n\nSo basically, I'm going to be stuck all summer at a tiny farm with my girlfriend's ex. There are a total of four interns there, so I can't really avoid her. The thing is, she doesn't know that my gf and I are together. Should I tell her beforehand, and if so, how? Or am I better off just keeping things a secret?", "summary": "Will be stuck on a farm with gf's ex-gf, who doesn't know we're dating. Do I tell her or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1ypwj3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my GF [26 F] 5 years, I cheated last night and I don't know my next step.", "post": "As far as I know this is the first time either of us has cheated.\n\nThat being said, she said a long time ago that cheating is fine as long as the other person absolutely does not know. I know that sounds strange but I've kind of accepted that as an open agreement to be promiscuous, however, never acted on it because I love my g/f.\n\nLast night, G/F out of town, I got ridiculously drunk (not an excuse I know) and took home a girl. I don't feel guilty because of the agreement, but I would prefer to be open and honest. Is that selfish of me? should I tell her or keep it a secret?", "summary": "Have a \"Cheating\" rule, but I want to be open."}
{"id": "t3_1wm7pt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22M] of 6 months is highly competitive and it scares me [22F].", "post": "My boyfriend is not usually an angry or aggressive person, but when he loses at something his temper goes wild. \n\nHe is an avid pool player, but when he loses he gets so angry. He will swear, yell at himself and stab the pool stick into the ground. Similarly, when he plays online games, or any game for that matter, he will flip out when he loses; yelling, slamming his fist on the desk, etc. Also, whenever he loses he never takes responsibility; it's always \"Oh, these pool pockets suck\" or \"My team mates didn't cover me\". \n\nHe never takes his anger out on me if I am around when this happens, he is just really angry at himself or the game, so I don't fear he will lash out at me or anything. But, this behavior does make me extremely nervous because I was in a verbally abusive relationship prior to this and it involved a lot of yelling (at me). Whenever I see him so angry, it reminds me of my ex-boyfriend yelling at me and makes me legitimately scared. He knows I came from a bad relationship, but assures me when he is angry that he is not yelling at me, just in general and at himself. (Which is true, he does not yell at me). The one time I recently told him it made me uncomfortable he jokingly said, \"I'm sorry...that I take games too seriously\". It's like he missed the point.\n\nI guess my question is, how can I help him not lose his cool when he loses? Or how can I cope with his specific temper? His friends seem to ignore his tantrums, but I have a hard time just letting this slide. Also, is it wrong of me for even wanting him to change this behavior? What if it's just how he is? I mean, it's not like he is physically hurting me, and I don't want to make a big deal out of nothing.", "summary": "My boyfriend gets extremely upset when he loses (swearing, slamming his fist on the desk, etc.)  and it makes me nervous/scared. His anger is not directed at me. Am I wrong for wanting to change his behavior? Am I making mountains out of mole hills?"}
{"id": "t3_1ny5z6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] possibly have a baby with [21F] but she just blocked my number. Is it worth the effort?", "post": "About a year ago a had a baby with a girl I had been seeing off and on since highschool. I had been trying to make things work but both of us have been busy with school and work. I was finishing up my degree in engineering and started my career and she was busy working full time and raising two kids (another from another man). I would see the baby about once a month. I would have liked to see it more but it never seemed to work out from either end. \n\nRecently she had stopped returning my texts completely and it turns out blocked my number. I want to see my son but i don't know where she lives (we always met at neutral locations). Should I get legal help or should I just take the hint that she doesn't want me around.", "summary": "I can't contact the mother of my child and i'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_175jq3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need your help and support loseit!", "post": "Hello loseit. I have been loseiting since the first of the year and have been pretty successful so far, losing around 25 pounds. As good as that is, it has been a rough few weeks for me. I often turn to this site for motivation through your success stories and dieting tips. This really is an awesome community for diet support. Now, I have been presented with a great oppurtunity to participate in a weight loss competition for a local radio station, 103.3 the edge. The compitition provides 4 days of personal training a week along with a personalized diet and exercise goals to follow. I have struggled with my weight for all my life and i feel that this is the best oppurtunity for me to get on the right track and learn how to maintain a healthy lifestyle for the rest of my life. I really don't care about the prize, just the benefits on my health.  The competition is down to 8 semi-finalist and only 4 will go on to the actual competition. This is where i need your help. The 4 are chosen through voting on the website. If you could take a minute to vote for me (**Robert B**) then i would be eternally grateful towards you . The voting page should be this link [Vote] I am also looking for myfitnesspal friends too, so feel free to add me (**cbpbro**) if you want. Thanks again for reading and voting if you did. All the best towards your weight loss journey as well.", "summary": "Please vote for me so i can participate in a weight loss competition and get my weight and life under control"}
{"id": "t3_2ehwbl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18/F] concerned with my boyfriends [19/M] plans for the future.", "post": "Okay, so to begin with my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. We met in highschool and were close friends, and then began a relationship once he graduated. I'm still in my final year. \n\nOkay, so when he finished he was really unsure what to choose, but ended up choosing a film school in the city, which I thought up until now he was enjoying. Last night he couldn't sleep and told me he was really hating it and was unsure what he wanted to do with his life. \n\nAs a back story, my boyfriend has depression. He plays a lot of video games, and when he sees his friends (who don't go to college or have jobs), they play games too. Now, I don't have a problem with this, I too play games, sometimes with him as well. I don't mind this hobby he has, but sometimes it feels like it takes priority over school. \n\nWe talked through it last night and I told him I would support him 100%, no matter what he decides. He sais the idea of maybe doing IT would interest him, and I said that sounds like a great idea. He plans on talking to his family about it, so he can have their opinion. \n\nNow, I know in my heart I will support him no matter what, but I'm worried. He doesn't really have anything he's super passionate about, and I'm a very driven person. I plan on going to university to study business, with aspirations to open my own shop front. He doesn't have this drive - but I believe he has the potential to. \n\nWhat I'm asking now, is what do you guys think about the video game situation? Should I talk to him about it? Also, do you have any advice on how to help him choose something, or guide him in the right direction? I really love him and want to support him through this.", "summary": "Boyfriend is unsure with what he wants to study in college/university. Could be influenced by friends poor choices, but I think he has a lot of potential. Any advice on what I can do to help him?"}
{"id": "t3_3rezmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [26 F] of 3 years, what are some strategies to cope with my male baby rabies.", "post": "So I feel like I'm in kind of a unique situation in that I'm the husband that really wants a baby while my wife still wants to wait a few years. I'm not trying to change anyone's mind but I was just wondering how people who have been there have dealt with it. \n\nI love being around kids and we are making way more money than we need for our lifestyle and we are both doing very well in our careers. In short, we're doing very well especially considering how young we are and I'd love to expand the family. \n\nBut it's seriously getting to the point where I almost feel disappointed when I see the kids in our building. Right now we've agreed to around 2 years before we start trying but waiting 3 more years (including pregnancy and a few months of trying) feels like an eternity to me at this point.", "summary": "Anyone out there that wants to be dad but can't yet? How do you deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_1l23ba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need an outside opinion if my (22/F) bf (26/M) is cheating on me", "post": "Just took one of those online risk assessment tests (silly, I know) but I would like some outside opinions, would these things make you suspicious?\n\n - He is bisexual, before we were in a relationship, he discussed how he doesn't think humans are meant to be monogamous\n- He travels a lot. Bachelor's parties, camping, etc abt every 3 weeks\n- Sometimes when I'm sleeping in his bed, it smells like someone else's BO. Not like his smell nor mine\n- He's always mentioning 3sums, and how he'd like one w/me\n- Our very first fight involved him (extremely drunk) talking abt how he wanted to fuck some chick in the parking lot jokingly\n- Once, drunk, he claimed I forced him into a relationship\n- After getting symptoms, was recently diagnosed w/ chlamydia. I made another post about this, check my history if interested.\n- Constantly accuses me of not spending enough time with him and seeing other guys", "summary": "Suspicious bf might be cheating, but not sure if being paranoid. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_4goxqp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I need some help, I'm a little stuck!", "post": "Hi, \n\nThis may be long, bear with me. \n\nTo start, I have recently moved in January to Raleigh, NC and am looking for a public health job. I have a bachelors degree in Health Sciences and Sociology (double major). I am currently employed in a healthcare setting, but not doing precisely what I want to be doing. I took this job with my employer (a relative of a friend), with the mutual understanding that I would continue to seek other employment. I am applying to about 4-5 jobs a week and I am actively networking by having informational interviews around the area. So here are my questions. \n\nAm I getting denied to these jobs because I am currently employed and my cover letters say so?\n\nWhat else can I be doing to eventually land at least an interview? I am just getting radio silence on 99% of applications. \n\nAny and all help would be great!", "summary": "Getting worn down by the silent process, would love any additional advice."}
{"id": "t3_2zb5d6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Background:\n-\t I grew up in an abusive household where I learned that my needs, wants and opinions have no value. \n-\tWhen I was 18 I entered a relationship that was manipulative, controlling and full of gaslighting. That lasted two years.\n-\tFor the past four years I have been focusing on myself and my own issues and have stayed unattached. \n-\tI was very anti-relationship/vulnerability.\n-\tI have a problem with guys; friendships build but once it gets more serious I nope the fuck out, make up some excuse and run away.\n-\tI am still getting over the whole \"why would my opinions, needs and wants matter?\" thing.\n\nStory: \n\nI met a guy back in October and we hit it off right away; we have been talking nearly every day ever since.  At the time he was dating another girl and because he was clearly unhappy I advised him to break up with her \u2013 it was obviously his decision in the end, but he went through with it.\nA month or so later we decided to meet up and it was great \u2013 a little awkward sure, but not in a bad way. We spent New Years Eve together at his place which was full of tv, video games, cuddling and sex.\n\nI am baffled by how well we get along; we're compatible in mostly every way. \n\nProblem:\n\nI still have trouble putting myself out there because of past relationships. After about four months of building up the courage, I finally told him that I like him a lot. His reply was basically that he likes me a lot but is very anti-vulnerability after his previous relationships \u2013 and while I understand his hesitancy after having a similar issue for the past few years, it still hurts. He says that we can carry on as we were if I am comfortable with it. So pretty much confiding in each other, cuddling, watching movies, hanging out and playing video games. \n\nSo my concern here is, is this healthy? I definitely do not want to lose him; he is one of my biggest supports. Is it possible for this to evolve into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?", "summary": "I met a guy about 6 months ago and we hit it off and are really good friends but I want more. I told him and he doesn't want a relationship within the near future. We're compatible physically, mentally, emotionally, have the same interests, only thing is timing. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_qf9ei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What does it mean to be an American?", "post": "What does Reddit think about being \"American\"? (Or a citizen of any other nations facing illegal immigration problems)\n\nI myself am a legal immigrant. I've been living in the US for a decade now. When I began to really learn about the illegal immigration problem in the US, I really thought of it as an unfair advantage for the illegal immigrants. While my family pays thousands of dollars for immigration lawyers and multiple trips to Washington D.C. for immigration paperwork, there are people who simply cross the border hoping that Congress will legalize them all in one swipe. \n\nBut, whenever I read news articles about illegal immigrations on Yahoo news, there are always questionable comments made by others like \"Illegals are illegals. End of story.\" or \"They're not Americans. Go back to [country]\" Which made me wonder: What really makes someone American? Is it the paperwork? Is it the will to achieve the American Dream? Or is it really just luck?\n\nAs my favorite comedian Chris Rock said, \"If you are a veteran, you are an American because you made a sacrifice. If you swam here from some shitty country, you are American because you made a sacrifice. Everyone else, you're just lucky.\"", "summary": "What makes someone American?"}
{"id": "t3_4hrskz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for help with job interview/search", "post": "In September, I lost a job that I had for almost 9 years. The company decided to drug test all employees and I would have been positive for marijuana. I went straight to my boss and told him this and asked if there would be any way to save my job, after consulting his superior he informed me that there wasn't. I refused to take the test and resigned. In the 9 years I worked there I received multiple raises and promotions and was always a good employee regardless of my marijuana usage at home. I have been working a less then desirable job since December and have been struggling to survive since then, I have put in multiple applications and had quite a few interviews with no luck.\n\nNow I have always felt that honesty was the best policy however foolish and in the past it has done quite well for me. I havent had much drama in my life and I've never really been doubted when I tell somebody something because of my honesty. At interviews when asked why I left my job after 9 years I have told the person interviewing me the truth while also explaining that I know I made a mistake and theres nobody to blame but me but if I were given a chance I wouldnt make the same mistake again. Unfortunately, I havent been called back after any interviews for any of the jobs that were actually desirable. I know I'm probably shooting myself in the foot every time and what I'm wondering is should I start lying? Or alternatively is there something else I should say when asked this question? On application I have just put personal for my reason for leaving. I have a lot of good experience and training but unfortunately a personal choice I've made is ruining my chances at getting hired. I currently work crazy hours for low pay counting store inventory for a less then reputable company in the meantime. Thanks for any help anyone can give me.", "summary": "Refused drug test and dont know what to say to interviewers now."}
{"id": "t3_4eifjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19, M] have been seeing someone [18, F], but am not sure whether to get more serious with the end of the semester approaching.", "post": "So we're both in our first year of college at the same university and have known each other since move in day. We have been friends ever since then. I had been crushing on her for a while but then became focused on other stuff. Recently, however, we have taken more interest in each other as more than just friends. We study together a few times a week and sometimes go out on weekends together. We have even hooked up on a couple occasions. \n\nNow, I feel like it's time to define our relationship and I want to ask the awkward \"what are we\" question. This would be my first real relationship if we chose to become exclusive or even the more daunting \"Facebook official.\" If this were a few months ago, I would not think twice to go for it, but now the end of the semester is only about 5 weeks away. This means I'm going to be extraordinarily busy with exams and projects until the summer. We're both going back to our respective homes for the summer, which are about 4 hours away from each other. I'll be working full time this summer and she plans to as well, so we will both be busy. \n\nOverall, I think we would both like to move forward with our relationship, but my doubts come in with it being so close to the end of the semester and whether or not I'll have enough time to put into the relationship. Also, once the semester ends, distance becomes an issue. I'll appreciate any advice.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "We're college students who could start dating, but I don't know if I'll be able to put time into the relationship right now. When the semester ends in 5 weeks, we will be 4 hours apart and working full time."}
{"id": "t3_2rx94e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] broke up with me [22 F] after a year and never being in love with me", "post": "I've been in a long term relationship before, but I've never had a heartbreak like this. I know there are worse things in life, don't get me wrong. We were long distance. We were planning on me moving in with him. All was fine. A few nights ago, he admits that while he loved and cared about me, he was never in love with me. \n\nI keep playing the relationship over and over in my head, but it just doesn't make sense. I can't wrap my head around it. Why tell me you love me when you're not in love with me?\n\nHad to vent.", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me after a year of a perfectly happy (or so I thought) relationship admitting he was never in love with me"}
{"id": "t3_32tb0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am not attracted to my fianc\u00e9e [24F] anymore", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e is an absolutely amazing woman. She's a hard worker, funny, happy, pretty, takes care of her body (works out, eats healthy) and she absolutely adores me. We have the same sense of humor and we rarely have serious arguments. She's not even materialistic in the slightest; she's as good as a person can get in my opinion. So why am I not attracted to her physically? It's weird, cause I think she has a stunning face and body, but whenever we start to get intimate, I have a hard time focusing and desiring to have sex. We're getting married in a couple of months and I'm having real anxiety and depression over this.\n\nI even started seeing a psychiatrist and taking antidepressants, but even though my mood has increased, my desire to have a sexual relationship with her hasn't. I've had my blood taken to the lab a few times, and everything looked good except my testosterone. I took testosterone shots for months and even started working out heavily, but there was no improvement.\n\nI am emotionally exhausted by this because it has been going on for a while. Reddit, what have you got for me?", "summary": "I am engaged to the girl of my dreams, but I have a hard time focusing in the bedroom. Wedding is coming up. I'm currently being treated for depression and I was being treated for low testosterone, but with no improvement."}
{"id": "t3_12s5mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Any tips for two introverts moving in together?", "post": "My boyfriend [23M] and I [21F] are thinking of moving in together at some point in the near future. We have been together 1 year and friends for about 5 years, so we know each other reasonably well. We are both quite introverted and are wondering if there is anything two introverts should know when going into a shared living arrangement.\n\nFor starters, we've agreed to have two bedrooms so that each of us can have our own space. We've also agreed to give the other person notice if one of us brings friends over. We're still talking about how to make sure each person gets enough downtime. Is anyone who has been in a similar situation able to share some perspective?", "summary": "My introverted self and my introverted boyfriend are planning to move in together.  How do we coexist and still get enough downtime?  Anything we should know or keep in mind?"}
{"id": "t3_14zdd8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I M[20] can keep her F[19] interested over winter break?", "post": "I met a really cool girl at a party right after Thanksgiving, and we've been out on 2 definite dates, plus had dinner and lunch pretty frequently. Since it was the end of the semester, I haven't done anything physical with her at all, except for giving her a friendly hug every time we split paths. I know she is interested, mostly because she never really wears make-up, but every time we make plans to see each other she always does her hair, puts on make-up and does her nails. \n\nIt's break now, and even though I know she's interested, I want to stay in contact and try and keep her interested until next semester, when we can actually spend more time together. We texted a lot at school, so I'm not worried about that. I just want to know what kind of level of communication of appropriate for how long we've known each other. Should I aim to text her daily, or is that too much? Is it appropriate to call her and wish her a Merry Christmas? Any fun ideas for things to say/text her to keep her interested while are away from school for a month?", "summary": "Been on a few dates with a girl. How much communication is necessary to keep her interested in picking things up after the month long break? Also, fun ideas for things to talk about?"}
{"id": "t3_1pa04v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my ex[23 M] broken up a month after a month of dating, friends 3 years, drunk sex regret", "post": "BACKGROUND: We've been friends for years and became close these past six months at which point he asked me to be his girlfriend once for a week and broke up with me then a few months later for a month where he broke up with me due to \"no spark.\"\n\nAfter a month of pretty much no contact, I finally decided I'd moved on and we could be friends again.  We got drinks a week ago to clear the air and we had a really good time.  Laughing, catching up, and having a generally platonic encounter that reminded me of when we were friends before everything got so complicated.\n\nA couple days later he asked if I wanted to have some beers at my place and I said sure, expecting a friendly meet up like the old days.\n\nAnyways, I had been drinking with a friend prior to him coming over and was already pretty buzzed by then and just continued drinking with him when he got there.  It's fuzzy but somehow the conversation transitioned to sex and lead to him asking to go down on me.  I said alright and we went to my room and had sex.\n\nAlthough I remember us discussing how we'd moved on and who cares if we have casual sex, I have gone from feeling really good about everything in terms of the progress I've made to feeling like shit.  I don't know what to do but this feeling is terrible.  I don't know why I keep letting this guy pick me up and throw me down.", "summary": "Had drunk sex with my ex two days after we decided we could be friends again [a month after we broke up] and feel so much regret.  Somehow this guy is my kryptonite and I am always willing to sacrifice my own well-being for him. I guess I'm looking to rant and hear some advice from anyone who's ridden this rollercoaster..."}
{"id": "t3_1aoq1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20m) doesn't want me dancing with anyone when I'm (22f) abroad in Spain. I think this is a dumb rule?", "post": "We've been dating for 3 years, but were broken up for a year in between. During that year, I went to Vegas a couple times, went clubbing around LA, just had an overall crazy time. I loved going to clubs with my girlfriends and dancing with strangers. I wouldn't go home with them or even kiss them, but just dancing was fun. \n\nMy bf and I have been back together now for about 2 months. While we were dating previously, we had a \"no dancing\" rule, which was easy to follow because we were both under 21. In a month I will be going abroad in Spain and I know there is a really fun club scene there, and I want to take advantage of it. I know this might involve dancing with other guys. My bf is very opposed to this and emphasized how he would have no desire to dance with other girls. I think dancing is harmless and that this is a dumb rule, but he's very offended when I talk to him about that.", "summary": "Boyfriend says we can't dance with other people, I think this is silly and we should be allowed to dance as long as we don't hook up with anyone. Is he being a prude or am I being loose? (and yes, dancing means grinding)"}
{"id": "t3_3pflhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my fiance [26M] of three years have decided to end it", "post": "I don't think I want any advice. I just want support. This story started three years ago when I got engaged to a close family friend of our. \n\nI live in Pakistan and our values do not allow too much contact with the opposite gender before marriage. My family falls within the middle class and we have middle class sensibilities. I was allowed to meet the aforementioned person whenever he would come over.\n\nReddit, I must confess I got engaged at that time because I thought that well my parents know best and if they're okay with it I am too. This went on for two years, I was completing my undergrad and was busy with it and hence I focused on my work. We would get in to fights regarding me not texting him. I just graduated with my law degree and I was depressed because I didn't get a job for so long. A few days ago I got an apprenticeship with a very able lawyer and started going to court with him. Now Pakistani courts are infamous for their inherent misogyny and dangerous environment.\n\nMy fiance texted me a few hours after I told him about this apprenticeship, and was congratulated for it by him, that I was under no circumstances going to go to the courts. He said that in 3 years he had never asked me for anything but he wanted me to handle this with maturity and without it affecting our relationship.\nI told my parents and they told me to make my own decision. I decided to end it. My parents have supported me fully.\nI've been told that Islamic-ally women are supposed to value relationships and these things require sacrifices. And I wonder if this is too small an issue to break a relationship over because in Pakistan domestic abuse is considered such an issue. He also wanted me to move with him to a country where women aren't allowed to drive. \n\nI just want someone to tell me that it is a big deal. That I will be fine.", "summary": "fiance asked me to quit job. I called it off."}
{"id": "t3_2q1enz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/18] with a pretty strange question here - What dates are the best to begin a relationship?", "post": "I've been talking to a girl for a few weeks now and we get along so perfectly. It's got the whole 'click' thing, the whole 'connection' thing, it's just amazing. We both want to date each other, but have had personal reasons for postponing asking each other out.\n\nI figured it's time, or could be, anyway. And this makes me think, if i'm going to ask her out, i might as well choose a day in which, on our one-year anniversary, could mean a lot to us.\n\nFor example, i have an ex who i asked out on new year's day. I think that's probably the best of all the dates but i've got memories tied to that and couldn't do it again, eugh.\n\nI was thinking maybe Christmas? But i feel like it symbolises more toward the day being special because it's.. y'know, Christmas, that it'll be special because it's our anniversary. But i don't want it to just be any old day, because even though it'd mean a lot to us because it's our day, i still want it to be really cute, and special, and on a day which is special to a lot of people, too.\n\nSo because i tend to ramble a lot (sorry!),", "summary": "what are the best dates throughout the year to ask someone out/start a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_45k41n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28m) am clueless about coming up with a nice wedding day speech for my sister (26f) due to lack of personal stories.", "post": "Situation: My sister, 26, is getting married the end of this year. I have no clue what to say for my speech during the reception dinner. \n\nBackground: I am very happy for her and everyone is on board with the guy. Families have met each other, and they've been together almost a decade. It's not like I do not know the guy, I know him in a sense that I know what he's like, I've hung out with him. For the last 6 years, we've lived separately. Me in North America, she back in Asia where we were born and raised. It made it difficult for me to be close to her, or get to know her boyfriend to a greater extent. We were close growing up, puberty to teenage years. We were so comfortable with each other taking selfies and other playful stuff. Then at some point, for some reason, we kinda strayed. No bad bloods no ill feelings, but we weren't as close as we were before. Chalk it up to growing up and having different priorities and interests?Again, the last 6 years (we've seen each other a few times during this period) didn't help. \n\nAssessment: It makes it difficult for me to come up with an honest, touching brotherly speech when the day of the wedding comes. We were never the type to hang out with each other's friends when we got a little older. \n\nRecommendation (what I think): Part of the speech will include memories of us as kids, part of it will also admitting that the last 6 years of not being around each other didn't give us the best opportunity (maybe come off as humorous?)\n\nI feel ridiculous because all weddings I've been to it seems like siblings have the beat stories of the bride/groom and their partners. \n\nHelp me out?", "summary": "Older brother (me) has no clue how to come up with a sweet and thoughtful speech for his sister's wedding because he doesn't have a lot of stories to tell."}
{"id": "t3_2nfbjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with the guy I'm dating [30 M] seriously for 4 months, having commitment issues", "post": "At this point I have been seeing the same person for four months, and we recently had an argument about where our relationship was going.\n\nSome background: we knew each other for a year before we started dating, and four months ago we got involved romantically. We were always pretty straight up and consistent with each other, no games whatsoever. We see each other 3-5 days each week, and when we are not together we are texting and messaging each other to keep in contact. The relationship is ideal as far as both of us are concerned - we never fight, there are never disagreements, the only issue is that he does not want a title for what we are.\n\nHe says that he has been in long relationships most of his life and he wants to focus on himself and get his life together right now. I respect that; however, my argument is that he is ALREADY involved with me, whether he calls me his girlfriend or not.\n\nWe are not seeing any other people, we spend most of our time together, we even have towels, toothbrushes and other odds and ends at each others houses. I am not asking him to change any of his behavior - I am happy with how often we see each other, how we relate emotionally and sexually, and everything else. \n\nHowever, I am not willing to continue down a road with someone who just told me that he does not want to be my boyfriend now, or any time in the near future. But since telling me that, he keeps texting me and wanting to continue to see me as often and under the same terms as we have been.\n\nMy question is, am I fighting a losing battle? Does he simply not care about me? Or are there other things I should take into account? Should I draw a line in the sand, or be more understanding?", "summary": "Seriously dating someone for four months, how do I get him to commit (or come to my own decision that I should leave him?)."}
{"id": "t3_zpuum", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Relationship falling apart over the week.. Really need help..", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 months after being the best of friends for 11 months.. This week she says she has wanted a break and I reacted to that poorly because I thought she wanted to break up.. She just wanted to see her best friend again(me) because she has been starting to get feelings for her ex (who is my friend as well). Now right now, I do not know how to react.. I don't know how to act like her best friend with the fear of losing her as my girlfriend.. We use to be able to talk about everything so easily. But an hour ago she said it is not how it use to be when we were just friends, she said it is hard to talk to me like best friends now. And I told her I am trying to work on making it again but I just needed time. I want to be able to talk like best friends but still be going out. But it is hard for me right now when I do not know how to act like her best friend but that's what she wants right now. Please help.", "summary": "I can't act like best friend with girlfriend anymore because I don't know how, she just wants me to be her best friend for a few days while she has space to think things over. She doesn't want to break up. So confused"}
{"id": "t3_337faw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I took ~160\u00b5g and ran in my first Half Marathon. AmA.", "post": "I registered for a half marathon at the begining of winter thinking I would train. But I live in New England and it was too frigid to run all winter so I only had maybe 5 3-mile runs in the last several months. I got a cold the week before the half, but felt better on friday, chugged some water and carbed up, and got up Saturday and decided to dose for a beautiful 13.1 mile race by a thawing Lake Champlain. The trip came-up fast and began to start at a water station at the end of mile 3. I was wearing those five-finger shoes and they broke as I was reaching for water (a double trip if you will). I recovered my balance instead of falling and finished the race with a 8:00 min/mile pace.\n\nI felt comfortable and relaxed the whole time despite essentially running barefoot on years old five-finger shoes. I constantly reminded myself to be aware of what my body is telling me and had 10 dollars in my pocket in case I needed a taxi home. I had my phone to call my friends at the finish and a tripping playlist as well, which really killed it during a race. It was the longest run I'd ever done and the runner's high was off the chain. A week later I have some persisting soreness, but otherwise seem to be nearly ready for some more trail running soon.", "summary": "A Long, Slow, Distance run"}
{"id": "t3_14ky6m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend [20/f] goes to school in a different state than me [21/m]...", "post": "Okay, so I know it's probably posted about before, but I figured I'd get the most up to date advice as possible, because I really need it. Okay, so as the title says, my girlfriend left to go to college in a different state, and I am having serious trouble with the whole long distance thing. We don't really talk as much anymore and when we do its generally boring small talk. I go to school full time and have two part time jobs. I feel like we're falling apart and our love isn't very lovely anymore. I see her maybe once every five weeks or so for only a few hours. That is it. We have sex and eat and she leaves. We do love each other, and I know that, but I still can't help but feel like I love her less through all of this. It just feels awkward now.\nSo anyways, what can we do to keep our relationship fresh or feel like its the honeymoon stage of the beginning again? She's coming back for three weeks for winter break and I'm hoping that time will help us to come back together. But I don't know how to do that. Reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are losing touch because we are so far away from each other and want to be close again."}
{"id": "t3_335zpe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a terrible joke and making an ass out of myself to the new girl in school.", "post": "Obligatory wasn't actually today, but a couple years ago in high school.\n\nIn my junior year of high school, a few friends and I had really gotten into telling those awful sort of jokes that you know are bad, but they still force a solid chuckle out of all your friends. Well, I was joked with, harmlessly, in high school for looking like the stereotypical Jew (I have a monstrously huge nose and a brown poofy fro that rivals that of Screech from Saved By the Bell). So when a new girl came to our literature class, me, being the clever little asshole that I was, thought that I could swoon the new girl by impressing her with my ability to make my unworthy peers laugh with a Jewish joke. I thought this would have been extra chuckle worthy because I look Jewish; makes perfect sense right? No. Needlessly to say, upon delivery, no one laughed. Right from the start of the joke everyone just stared. Apparently everyone but I was well aware that the new girl, as well as the girl that sat in front of me were Jewish. Like hardcore, I forgot my Yamakah today, what the fuck is pork, Jewish. So what was the joke? (I apologize if this offends anyone. If Jewish girl, extra sorry, me love you).\n\nWhat is the best way to pick up a Jewish girl? \nWith a dust pan and a broom...\n\nI never apologized. I figured it'd be better if I just let them continue to believe I'm dead.", "summary": "I told a joke about how to pick up a Jewish girl, not realizing the two girls next to me were Jewish."}
{"id": "t3_3wbhiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my BF [30 M] 9 years, division of household chores, he cooks, I clean the house. He expects me to cook, too.", "post": "From the beginning he has known,  I don't cook. I can't cook,  and have anxiety over cooking thanks to OCD. I made the deal that I don't cook,  I'll clean ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING if I don't have to. Even being told I need to cook brings me anxiety. \n\nI clean the bathroom, toilets, floors, mop, tidy and dust and do all the laundry every week. If I don't empty the garbage,  or wash clothes,  it doesn't get done. He doesn't clean up after himself particularly often. He leaves dirty clothes everywhere and our house is filed with pockets of random crap (filthy rags from polishing the car, etc) that I have to deal with. If I let the house go, it looks like hell. He just doesn't bother. He does turn the dishwasher on sometimes but I can't fully depend on him to do it \n\nIf I take time away from cleaning he starts to nag \"ok! Let's clean!\" If I clean he leaves me to it to do his own thing. His weekends are purely recreational and he keeps to his own hobbies while I scrub the shower and fold his underwear. \n\nIf I don't find time (say I'm busy on the weekend) I'll get clothes for the week washed at bare minimum. Sometimes I don't have them folded and they're in baskets. I'll hear for as long as it takes that it's not done and he can't find socks or this and that. He won't fold them himself and feels he doesn't have to because it's my job. \n\nThat would be fine but he doesn't cook everyday. Some weeks go by without a single meal that isn't take away. He does cook but it's not that frequent. Now he has started to say \"ok!  Your turn to cook!  Go and buy food and do it!\" \n\nI'm not sure how to communicate that I do enough and I don't want to deal with my phobia after sorting his dirty undies and still being criticised for not doing enough.", "summary": "My bf is nagging me to cook,  I do nearly all of the housework as it is and thought we had a deal with regards to who cooks. Feeling very one sided and still not good enough for him. Like I'll never be marriage material."}
{"id": "t3_27lrag", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] I have not heard from my girlfriend [16/f] in weeks...", "post": "So I have been dating this girl for about 3-4 months and we are both in highschool. Things were going pretty well, we were getting along great and going out fairly often but as soon as school ended for the year she almost completely stopped talking to be. It has been almost two weeks and in that time we had a brief text based conversation where she said she has been busy with a job at dunkin donuts, that was 3 or 4 days ago, but I don't really think she can be so busy that the has to straight up drop contact with me almost entirely. I just don't really know what to do... maybe she works all day at dunkin, maybe not...", "summary": "I have not heard from my girlfriend in nearly two weeks apparently because of work, I really miss her and don't know what I should do about it."}
{"id": "t3_4hmx64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My siblings (36F|39M) won't let me (28F) pay them back for things.", "post": "We recently went on a family vacation, and we (me and my siblings) agreed to foot the bill for our parents, but split equally among us three.\n\nHowever, my siblings both seemingly don't want the full amount from me. They say things like, \"Oh, forget about it\", or \"You can just pay for ______ while I pay for ______.\" If we were to do it this way, our individual contributions would be roughly proportional to our household incomes.\n\nYet I feel uneasy about this. On the one hand, I do make the least money and it's kind of great to not have to pay as much (I'm pretty frugal and wouldn't have chosen the more expensive accommodation options).\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like my siblings' spouses don't particularly like me, or even see me as a mooch. I've always been the baby of the family due to being significantly younger. I also feel like I haven't balanced my debts, like I will still owe them something, or that my brother-in-law or sister-in-law will grumble, \"Why are you still paying for OP's portion for ________\"?\n\nThey sometimes pick up other small things, like lunches and dinners, that I have done with less frequency, because we have family things at their houses most of the time.\n\nIf I try to insist to pay them, they get kind of angry. What should I do? What's fair?", "summary": "My siblings kind of baby me and don't expect me to pay for things sometimes, but I feel this breeds resentment with my in-laws and also contributes to the sentiment that I'm a mooch."}
{"id": "t3_18eyn9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My ex did something weird...anyone know whats going through her head?", "post": "My ex (22) occasionally comes into where I (23) work and we will chat for a little while. The day she came in I had just gotten a haircut and a shave, (Cut off about 6 inches of hair) and she made a comment about how good it looked. I thanked her and thought that was that. Then the weird thing happened. We did our normal hug goodbye (we try to stay in contact as we are good friends but her current boyfriend is a jealous and manipulative prick) but she did something different. She pulled me in tight and bit my neck softly. Now, for one, my neck is my total weak spot. I mean knees wobbly, pitch a tent weak. Shortly after i stared at her in amazement she laughed a bit and left. Ive since tried to talk to her about it but she just says she doesnt know why she did it. You guys have any idea?", "summary": "Ex bit my neck after a year of being apart. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xvsmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my[25F] boyfriend[29M] of 3 years message other girls filthy things?", "post": "At first I came across messages between him and another girl, talking about how he wanted to see her tits etc, I wasn't looking for anything I knew there was an address from my aunty in his messages and that's when I found it, I confronted him, he said he was drunk and we weren't really on good terms that night. \n\nA few months later I just had a look and there were multiple messages from him to several other girls saying much worse things. He's done it again since and again. \nI feel like a fool, he says he would never do anything he just likes stirring girls up. \n\nI know everyone will just say \"break up with him, dump his ass, he ain't worth it gurrrrl\".\n\nBut honestly, I'd like something more than that, I want reason, I want to know why guys do this because I know he's not the only one that likes to send messages like that to other girls and not their girlfriend.", "summary": "Why does my boyfriend send explicit messages to other girls?"}
{"id": "t3_1xfvof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19 F need help regarding recent breakup (2 years living together)", "post": "So, I am going to try to not make this into a gigantic long-ass post. I don't even know if this is the right place to post this?\n\nI broke up with my ex a couple of months ago, and I was _so_ sure that it was the right thing to do for the both of us. I started an argument via sms, because I know he hates those, and I wanted him to hate me to make the breakup easier. He then came to my place, picked up all of his things, and left in silence. We haven't spoken after. Seems clean enough right?\n\nThe only problem is I can't seem to deal with this. I went back to living my life the way I did before we were together. I was somewhat promiscuous, and my saying has always been that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. But it did nothing. It just felt dirty, slutty, horrible, and fucked up. As did I.\n\nIt would seem that I can't deal at all. I can't deal with the breakup, and not having my ex around, us not being friends, him being so angry with me.We lived together for the duration of the relationship, and really became each others best friends. Going out doesn't help, staying in doesn't help, having \"me\"-days doesn't help. It might sound over-dramatic seeing as I was and am very young, but it was a fairly serious relationship, and I need help moving on with my life, and I need to stop missing this person who was not a good influence in my life.", "summary": "CAN'T DEAL, HELP. How do you deal with your breakups?"}
{"id": "t3_2ymn7x", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Things that are just weighing me down", "post": "I'm a senior in high school. Work load is pretty light, but homework is annoying. My school has C.T.E and i'm currently about to graduate as an apprentice electrician. Everything seems alright on the surface, but at home things are pretty bleak. Parents are in and out of the hospital, something they both having going on with their stomachs/colons. I'm single and everytime i've asked a girl out i've been slammed into the ground. Few friends, however the few i do have are supportive and we hang out everyday. Financial problems galore due to the aforementioned hospital visits, with no clear end or hope in sight. All in all things have been weighing on me and wanted to get them off my chest. Thank you and good day reddit.", "summary": "Highschool senior QQs about homelife"}
{"id": "t3_4j7lgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) found my bf (24M) of almost 2 years on a hookup app sending pics and dirty texts", "post": "I think I already know what I need to do, but hopefully hearing it from you guys will make me follow through.\u00a0\n\nMe and my bf live together and spend most of our non working time together and pretty much know where each other are when we're not together. Obviously there's always a way to hide where you're going or who you're hanging out with, but so far everything has seemed normal.\u00a0\n\nWell I went out of town a couple hours away and found out my bf used a hookup app while I was gone. He sent sent and received all kinds of pics and exchanged explicit sexual texts. Right now I don't know for a fact that he met anyone, but he I do know for a fact he talked about meeting up.\u00a0\n\nThe thing is, I don't know if he was just doing it for attention or to help him get himself off while I was away since I'm not sure if he actually met.\u00a0\n\nHow should I talk to him about this? To be honest our relationship has felt kind of stale lately so in a way I wasn't even surprised to find all of this out. He still tells me he loves me and even said it while he was using the app. I can understand wanting attention but getting it from a hookup app is very sketchy in my opinion. Can't he just find porn?", "summary": "live-in bf was using hookup app while I was out of town and sent sexual pics and texts. He talked about meeting but I don't know if he did more than talk. What should I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_os76q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, this hacker is blackmailing me and claims he has access to my facebook account. Plausible?", "post": "I received this mail today from a guy claiming he hacked my computer. He claims he has information i wouldn't want to come out, and sent me a screen shot where you could see my web history in a google chrome browser. Nothing bad really - pretty standard stuff, som mailing, redditing and a little bit of that good ol' porn. He said he would post the picture on my facebook account, which he also had access to, on friday unless i transfer about a 1000 US dollars to some bankaccount. No way in hell am i going to pay him a dime because of a little bit of porn, but still, i would prefer the information -not- posted on my wall. Of course i changed all my passwords, and i'm a little skeptical of him being able to access my facebook. But my question is; do i have anything to be afraid of?\n\nOn a side note; this guy seems pretty amateur. I reported him to the police, and i would think they could find the guy through his bank account. Also, i send the mail information to a friend with just a little bit of computer knowledge, and he quickly found the IP from where the mail was sent. He lives in my town.", "summary": "Hacker claims he can access my facebook. Should i believe him?"}
{"id": "t3_437yi8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [28 F] for a year, we scare each other in our dreams, can I do something about it?", "post": "I don't know if this should be in a health related sub or if this sub is fine too, feel free to redirect me.\n\nSo, we've been together for almost a year now and we have \"adult sleep over\" regularly. She sometimes has bad dreams but nothing special and nothing in particular triggers them and there's nothing fancy about them.\n\nLast Wednesday, we were both pretty tired and during the night she started having a bad dream. In her dream she was lying in her bed and the frame she has above her bed was actually a big spider.\n\nThis is where it gets interesting. You know how when you wake up while in deep sleep you're a bit confused, very confused even?\n\nWell, she started calling for help in her sleep, like \"no no no\" in an anxious voice (I don't exactly remember what she was saying but it sounded like a cry for help, and I was in deep sleep so pretty confused). I of course jumped to help her and held her in my arms. I know it's bad to wake people up when they are in deep sleep but I was just reacting instinctively at that point.\n\nI took her in my arms trying to get her to calm down but instead I transformed the spider in her dream to a robber that had now caught her and she started moaning/crying \"who's this? who's this ??!??\". I was trying to tell her \"it's me, it's me\" but she lives not too far from an airport so she sleeps with earplugs, it took a bit more time than needed for her to understand. She then realized what was happening and calmed down.\n\nWe then had a huge laughter for a good 5 minutes as I was explaining to her what happened and she was explaining how it went for her.\n\nThis is the second time something like this happened, the first time she literally moaned \"help, help!\".\n\nNow I know the good thing to do would be to let her calm down on her own, in her dream, but as I said it was pure instinct guiding me.\n\nDo you guys have any advice that could help me in this situation?\n\nedits: typos", "summary": "GF sometimes has bad dreams and she talks in her sleep, waking me up and scaring me, I \"rescue\" her but turn out to scare her even more. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_zxjvl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Online dating embarrassment. 22m, 19f", "post": "Hey everyone... I met my girlfriend of about 1month on match.com and she is fantastic. She gets along with all my friends and is just everything I'm looking for.\n\nThe problem is we met online. My friends and family think that is an embarrassing way to meet (every time a commercial advertising it comes on, they insult it and say how embarrassing it would be to actually use a site like that...)\n\nI have been telling them that we randomly met at a starbucks, and just hit it off which isn't necessarily a lie but feels pretty damn close. I actually met her online and our first date was in the very public starbucks to get to know each other. \n\nI don't know how to break this to my friends and family that I actually met her online and my girlfriend is getting upset because all of her friends and family know the truth and thinks that I am embarrassed about her.\n\nMy question is, how do I go about doing this without risking the validity of my relationship to my peers and family? Ultimately it is whatever makes me happy, I understand that...but in the interim I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I met a great girl online but lied about how I met her and don't know how I break it to my family"}
{"id": "t3_3rqm16", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because my dad now thinks i'm a drug dealer...", "post": "To fill you all in (giggidy)\n\nI've just got back to the U.K and just Skyped my old man (who's based in Egypt) telling him about my 3 weeks i've just spent in Thailand with my S.O. \n\nThe conversation somehow got onto how cheap everything was out there food, drink, hotels and i happened to mention the price of Valium and how it was so cheap compared to the UK. Now here's the fuck up, i jokingly said that i should of *\"brought some home with me and sold it for a lot more!\"*\n\nClearly my old man, **being old**, didn't quite understand i was joking about this and started questioning me about everything i did out there and is now convinced i'm running my very own drug smuggling ring and that i'm doomed to get caught and shot in the face by the Thai police.", "summary": "Made a stupid joke. Dad's convinced I'm a drug smuggler/dealer."}
{"id": "t3_tjytd", "subreddit": "college", "title": "About different types of majors..", "post": "Some background: I've been a decided chemistry major since I started going to school two years ago. Why not? I did well in general chem and it's never listed in the unofficial hopeless majors to declare category. Fast forward to present day, transferred to a university from a CC and did absolutely terribly. My heart just isn't in it anymore and I can't easily see me following through with a chemistry degree. I've since realized my passion is in political science and I couldn't get enough of the material. If people ask me about school though, I'll still tell them I'm going for chemistry because I don't want to hear anyone say my new passion is a waste of time. The few people I have told still tell me it's a pipe dream. But is it really worth it to go to school for something you've grown to detest just for the stable job aspect rather than for something a lot more competitive but more fulfilling?", "summary": "are you better off choosing a major for stability or happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_oz1g1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best online storage solution for media files (video, photo, etc.)?", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI do filmmaking and photography as a hobby. After I complete projects I usually archive (ie. compress) my footage/photos but I'm starting to run out of space.\n\nBuying more/external HDDs aside, I'd like to know if any online storage solutions would be a good fit. I've looked at things like Backblaze and Mozy but I'm not sure if they're right for me because I don't want to 'backup' per se, I want to 'archive', as in store indefinitely and perhaps retrieve for use later on. To my knowledge these backup solutions would delete the files on cloud if I deleted them from my computer.\n\nBasically, I want to move the stuff I have archived on my computer to the cloud. I realise there is the potential risk of losing all my files if the host goes down, but these files are not life and death. If I lose them, tough luck, but if I can keep them without paying for a couple HDDs, awesome.\n\nCurrently I'm looking to get a premium RapidShare or FileServe account as they offer 'unlimited' storage and no file expiration as long as I have premium, but the recent fiasco with MegaUpload and such is giving me a lot of doubt.", "summary": "Looking for online storage service to store old media files I may need again in the future."}
{"id": "t3_fbdcp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Valentine's Day, gift idea?", "post": "Hello Reddit!\nI was wondering if some of you could help me.\n\nBesides getting tickets to a sold out show of her favorite band (both 21 years old, we decided to not do the whole \"go out for dinner, etc\" for Valentine's Day) I want to give her something else as well.\n\nMy girlfriend really likes this poem that's in a book I gave to her (if you're interested, it's the poem that's in \"The Perks Of Being A Wallflower\") I was thinking of printing the poem and to put it in a nice frame or something, though it's not exactly original/exciting, so I was wondering if anyone could come up with a potential better idea?", "summary": "Girlfriend likes a poem, I want to do something with it, but printing/frame seems a bit \"meh\". Any original ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3ymovd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my friends phone into a lake", "post": "About an hour ago I smoked with a friend out on a dock thats on a public lake. It was past midnight so we figured nobody would be coming out there. Unfortunately for us, there was a house adjacent to the dock that my friend (its his neighborhood) failed to tell me often calls the police on people out there at night. I was standing holding my friends phone to use the light so that he could pack another bowl, and I guess we were so high that we didn't even realize the two police officers that walked down the straight ~30ft dock. I looked up and they were literally about 5 feet away, so my first thought was to throw the weed that was on the table in front of us into the lake. I'm not sure why it happened or what screwed up in my brain, but instead I turned and in one motion just launched my friends phone into the lake, flashlight still on. In the end the police were actually really fair and just told us to leave, didn't even care that we were smoking, but I'm a couple hundred dollars in the hole anyway.", "summary": "Cops startled me while I was smoking on a dock with my friend, and my first instinct was to throw his phone into the lake."}
{"id": "t3_ys48a", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I'm kind of (but not really) new to running and am having trouble figuring out my body...", "post": "Okay, so, I'm not really new to running. I used to run quite a bit for training for other things, starting with pyramiding 20 minute runs (increasing speed every minute until I reached my peak then restarting). This helped me lose a lot of weight, but I didn't feel like my cardiovascular health was improving much. Then I started boxing, and had to run 2.5 miles 3 days a week. It was brutal on me though, because my stamina was awful and even a half-mile was rough. But I completed the runs because I had my coach following me, and his presence motivated me. Then I had to transfer colleges, and fell out of training since I was so used to having a coach. So, for about a year I didn't train. I put on a lot of weight and when I finally decided to run again, I had a nerve problem with my left leg. It's taken care of now, and I started running again this summer. So that's what I meant by new to running but not really. I'm not a consistent runner, but I've run before. The difference is, this time I'm doing it alone, and don't really have anyone to answer my questions, so here I am.", "summary": "I've been on and off with my running for about 3 years now but this summer is the first time I'm running alone and just to run. So I'm new to running on it's own. "}
{"id": "t3_3ouf0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Non-Romantic - Me [24F] with new housemate[28 M] 3 days after moving in I found him in my room touching my clothes when he thought I was at work, I am freaked out.", "post": "Essentially my female friend and I moved in to our new houseshare and met the 4 guys we're living with on Saturday. On Tuesday morning I left for work but 5 mins later realised I had left my laptop in my room. Got back to my room, opened the door, and my new male housemate was in there looking in my wardrobe and touching my clothes. He had properly shut the door behind him so it's not like he had just popped his head in to have a quick look at the room.As far as I can see he hasn't taken anything (or left anything).\n\nI flipped out and yelled at him while he scurried back to his room, 'What the FUCK are you doing? What went on in your head to make you think that was ok?' etc. \n\nHe started brokenly stammering 'oh ..er...your door was open..I came out of the shower...I', then fell to his knees shaking and running his fingers through his hair just saying 'I don't know, I don't know what I was thinking, I can't explain it, I'm so sorry'...\n\nI rang the landlord and asked for a lock to be put on my door, and he agreed to that and said, 'Wow...ermm [ awkward chuckle] ...that's a bit embarrassing isn't it... yeah I'll look into the locks for you, I know he smokes a lot of waccy baccy but we've never had a problem with him.' \n\nThen later the housemate came downstairs crying saying that he had told his girlfriend and parents and that he was arranging to see a counsellor. \n\nA handyman came and installed a lock on my door the next day, so I feel much more comfortable in the house now.  I am just really interested to get some opinions from reddit on this. So far everybody I've spoken to agrees it is really weird, and personally I am finding it really difficult to be civil to the housemate, as it really freaked me out and he still doesn't seem to be able to explain his behaviour.", "summary": "I found my new male housemate in my room touching my clothes when he thought I was out, he can't explain it and is distraught."}
{"id": "t3_3yul6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not sure if I'm weird for not enjoying relationships [25/F]", "post": "I've recently (2 months) started seeing this guy [25/M], and things are going well, but I don't know if I'm really that into a relationship - not just with him, but with anyone.\n\nI'm 25, I've dated in the past (usually lasting a few months before I get bored and break it off) but I recently took about a year off because I couldn't be bothered with the effort of meeting and talking to people. I've never been the type that needs to be dating someone, I like being by myself for the most part, but every now and then I think maybe I'm missing out on something, considering everyone else in the world seems to really want to partner up. I've never really seen relationships as adding value to my life.\n\nThis guy is great, we get along well, we have similar interests and I do enjoy spending time with him, but I don't think it's really the same kind of interest that most people have in their partners. \n\nSo my question is, is there anyone else out there that is not interested in being in a relationship, is this weird or just not spoken about? Should I talk to him about it?", "summary": "prefer to be by myself, not sure if relationships are necessary, society seems to disagree - am I weird?"}
{"id": "t3_1caw4d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what should be the first video game my father plays/finishes?", "post": "I've always played video games. My parents got me a Gameboy Color when I was 3, and I've just kept playing. Neither my mom nor my dad have been particularly interested in gaming. However, I've been having many conversations with my dad recently about my hobby, and he has surprisingly said that he's willing to try it out. Now, he's basically stated (paraphrased slightly) \"All the games with constant explosions and all these text boxes stress me out. Bad guys are always after me.\" (I've shown him Bioshock and Torchlight 2.)\nI got him to play Thomas Was Alone and World of Goo. He said that he enjoyed World of Goo to some degree, as well as Thomas Was Alone, but also that the platforming stressed him out. (He has no experience in platformers, and he was moving his body with the controller, shoulders got tensed up). So, my questions is, what game(s) should I have him play to capture his interest, not stress him out, and have a better understanding of video games in general?", "summary": "Dad gets stressed out by games with constant action, but is interested. What games should he play to fuel his interest?"}
{"id": "t3_48ufdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] want to live with my SO [25 M] of 3 years, without roommates.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for heading towards 4 years. We have lived together for about 2.5 years, but have always had other roommates. I'm ready to live just the two of us. Our lease at our current apartment is up in a few months. We discussed getting a place for just the two of us, but he wants to keep living with our current roommate (his best friend). I like the roommate, but I think it's time for us to live just the two of us. His argument is that we're planning on moving across the country in a year, so we might as well live with our current roommate to save money. When we move across the country it'll be just the two of us. I understand his logic, and I'm honestly ok with it, but I don't really want to wait another year to live with just the two of us. I would just really rather live the two of us now.\n\nHaving a roommate is fine for financial reasons makes sense, but we've been dating for so long that I am ready to live just the two of us. I can't wait for a home that is just for us. Our current roommate makes comments about how he feels like the third wheel, and it's because he always is. It's not always a bad thing, we do 'apartment dates' with the three of us quite often. I'm just super ready to make a life with just the two of us.\n\nAm I rushing things? Should I just sit back and wait? Or should I talk more enthusiastically with my SO about getting a place for just the two of us?", "summary": "I want to live with just my boyfriend now, and he wants to wait a year."}
{"id": "t3_1baioq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) can't stay hard during oral from my GF (18F)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3 months now, we're both virgins but we partake in a lot of oral sex (going both ways). It always starts out with an erection, there's no problem there. This doesn't always happen, but it does enough that it worries me. Getting a handjob keeps me hard almost always, but I'm worried about not staying erect during a blowjob. It always ends with me feeling great, and I'm pretty sure she enjoys it as well, but I would prefer to stay erect throughout (I don't ejaculate from them, but that can be normal), instead of going limp towards the end. Maybe it's the way she's doing it? I Again, I love the feeling, but this kind of upsets me. Does anyone know what may be going on?", "summary": "I can't always keep an erection during a blowjob despite enjoying it, and I don't know why"}
{"id": "t3_4fnaz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] was chewed out by coworker [38 M] I barely knew for something simple.", "post": "It happens in the morning on the locker room. Our locker neighbor each other but we never talks because I didn't know him as we are in different section and I rather keep my time in locker room short.\n\nAll of a sudden he yell at me saying to respect my elder and let him go first. From the situation I judge that I may open my locker to wide and it obstruct him from his locker or something. My first instinct is to apologize as I may be in the wrong eventhough I'm not sure what it is.\n\nThinking nothing of it I continue to change but he suddenly talk to me with a strong voice asking where I'm from. He uses a very informal and rather rude form of \"you\" in my language and judging from his voice he probably is angry.\n\nI told him where I'm from and he says people from that area are usually polite. He continue to talk while walking outside how I'm still a fledgling but already impolite and disrespectful. It happens really fast and out of nowhere that all I can do is smile and say sorry in a casual way.\n\nNow thinking about it I'm really angry. What do I do to deserve that? I may have done something wrong but I promptly apologize, why do he need to make a spectacle out of that? \n\nI'll probably just stay silent and try not to make a big deal out of it. But I wonder what should I do if he provoke me again because we meet each other everyday in the locker room. I try not to make enemy as I'm rather new on the company (barely 6 month), while he already work there for 15 years so making a big deal out of this will probably result in nothing other than satisfying my ego. My coworker on my section advice me to just stay calm because maybe the guy has a bad day and just use me to vent.", "summary": "Coworker I barely knew chewed me out and it irks me. I want to ignore him but what to do if he decide to provoke me later?"}
{"id": "t3_1txj3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] love my girlfriend's [20 F] best friend [20 F].", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years. A year and a half ago, I met a girl at work who I befriended, and the two became best friends. \n\nAbout six months ago, I realized that I had feelings for this girl, and shortly afterwards, I began to come to terms with the fact that I love her. \n\nAround the same time, my girlfriend started to point out to me that this best friend was attracted to me. I believe she's right, but don't know what to do, for a few reasons:\n\n* Girlfriend does not trust us to be alone; this is unfounded.\n* I love both girls, maybe equally. I don't want to give either of them up.\n* Neither is at all likely to be open to a mutual relationship, but I feel as if inaction is tantamount to opting out of an important experience in my life.\n\nI'm confused, and months of consideration hasn't helped. The friend I trust with this information has no relevant experience, and is more a source of consolation than advice. I would *love* some help.", "summary": "I love my girlfriend **and** her best friend, and want them both. Oops."}
{"id": "t3_iaaix", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it a requirement that you dont shower or wear deoderant to show at Wholefoods?", "post": "Ok, so I started going into Wholefoods because one opened near me and they have a pretty damn good menu in the Wholefoods cafe.  Over the past few weeks I have noticed that people shopping here do not practice proper hygene.  I have encountered some rank clouds of BO, the kind of smell you get when you pass a homeless person kind of BO.  Until this experience in Wholefoods the only other place I have seen these types is at the Apple Store or at the Comic Con or E3.  Is it that hard to hop in the shower a few times a week and use some fucking antiperspirent?", "summary": "Why do people that shop at Wholefoods not practice proper hygene and leave horrid cloud of BO in their wake?"}
{"id": "t3_4hz9mp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F], my ex [22M] made contact with me today, never expected to hear from him... (5yrs together)", "post": "My ex and I had been together for 5yrs, we were on and off for a bit before we completely ended it at the beginning of the year, about 5 months ago now. It got really messy and he hurt me a lot while we were off and on. I was a mess for awhile, it took me a very long time to accept that it was over and he had moved on (I knew he was seeing or at least sleeping with someone else).\n\nThings stopped working between us because of where we were in our lives, I had just started my full time job after graduating while my ex was still at uni and loved the party lifestyle, he never wanted to grow up.\n\nSo today... completely out of the blue contacted me.\nHe said he didn't stop loving me and is far from moving on. He said things go messy and space and time seemed like the best thing for us to both heal. he also said he was sorry and hoped I was okay...\n\nWhat on earth does this mean? I'm not sure what I want but I know I was a mess after the break up and am only just back to normal.", "summary": "heard from my ex today, very confusing, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_12e005", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "r/relationships, I need a peptalk. I've found someone I really care about, but a painful breakup in my past keeps rearing its head in the back of my mind.", "post": "I [17/F] recently started dating a new girl [20], and she's really great. She's the first girl that I've dated for longer than a month in a long time, and I see no signs of slowing down. I'm actually in a honeymoon phase, as opposed to some of my previous relationships where I only really liked the attention I got and very rapidly lost interest after we were dating. \n\nEverything is great as far as my girlfriend and I are concerned. But about a year ago I had a nasty breakup with my first love [18]. We were together for three years, started dating young (from middle school into junior year of high school, so we had that young person growing up together bond going on), were conjoined at the hip and best friends, the whole nine yards. \n\nEven though everything is going perfectly well with my new girlfriend, I can't help but be afraid that it's going to end in a horrific crash just like my relationship with my first girlfriend did.", "summary": "How do you shake the re-kindled memories of losing your first love, when you find your second? Advice? Anecdotes?"}
{"id": "t3_1asfox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] am sabotaging my relationship with an amazing guy [22M], and I don't know what to do.", "post": "-Sorry if this is a little stream-of-consciousness-\n\nI recently met someone I really like- the aforementioned 22M. We have nearly all of the same interests, the same sense of humor, and a satisfying sexual life. He treats me well, provides all that I felt I was lacking in my previous relationship, and we have a lot of fun. Sometimes I feel like I could be en route to falling in love. We've known each other for a few months, and started dating seriously about a month ago. Most of the time we're together, things are great.\n\nAnd then other times, out of nowhere I just feel unhappy. I dwell on our age difference a lot- I know that 22 is adult-ish, and he's mature, but *I* know that who I am now is a long, long way from who I was at 22, and I feel like we're at such different places in our lives and that we will be for at least the next 5 years. \n\nTo make the divide seem even greater, he lives with his parents (he's a student), and they support him financially. I support this, as I lived with my parents until I went away to college (although my parents didn't support me financially, but then again they aren't as wealthy as my BF's parents).\n\nI've been trying to focus on having fun with him- love doesn't always come when you think it will, or in the package you think it will, right? So I'm trying hard to be open-minded, but I constantly end up dwelling on the negatives. He also has one of those baby faces, and sometimes I feel gross, like I'm making out with a high schooler.", "summary": "I met a great guy who is an awesomely compatible match for me and I like him a ton, and all I do is think about why it won't work."}
{"id": "t3_3jglvt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being selfish.", "post": "Not today, but actually about two and a half weeks ago.\n\nI was dating this girl (you've probably already guessed near to the FU) who was the sweetest, most innocent, and lovely person you'd ever have the pleasure to meet. Everybody she meets just immediately loves her, she's very charming, pretty, and just makes you want to be positive. We'll call her Orange.\n\nI'm not exactly a positive person, in fact i'm quite negative. I use drugs, I am cynical, and I am generally rough around the edges. For the life of me I have no idea what Orange ever saw in me. She claims she loves me more than anybody she's ever met, family included, and I feel exactly the same about her. \n\nWe had a relationship that near the midway became more trying than it was rewarding but we were trying our best to persevere. Most of the issue derived from us being separated and being forced for a time in to a long distance relationship. I got depressed and started smoking a lot more weed than I should have, and she took it really badly. like, really badly. She was raised in a small town in Australia, and her parents are quite conservative.\n\nI eventually made my way back to Australia on a student visa that I wasn't really all that excited about, I mostly did it because I wanted to set things right with her. I feel so strongly about her, I would do anything.\n\nHere comes the FU. She was trying to move past the long distance anxiety and to be okay with my occasional cannabis usage, but the whole thing triggered tons of anxiety and friction between us. I panicked and felt trapped that I couldn't exactly be myself around her (because fuck changing who you are, right?). I felt like I was on eggshells all the time. Impulsively I told her that we should take some time apart to think about what to do about these issues.\n\nShe didn't want to be in love-limbo, so she gave me an ultimatum and I chose poorly. Now I can't even enjoy a joint because it's a bitter reminder that I chose weed over my best friend out of impulse.", "summary": "Broke up with the best girl I've ever met because I didn't want to give up smoking weed. feels bad man."}
{"id": "t3_2h4f2x", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Insult my son's drumming ability, enjoy listening to mine", "post": "So my next door neighbour is a family of four. They have 2 kids and the man of the house is a nice guy who leaves his house at 8am and gets back 6ish for work, meaning he isnt around for most of the day. His wife however, is a complete bitch. She is unemployed but he rakes in enough money for all of them.\n\nAnyway, my son plays the drums which obviously are a pretty loud instrument, but he's currently at college (in the UK this is what i presume Americans call high school), and he practices around 1pm while the majority of people are at work.\n\nThis is where it gets interesting. He was playing the other day and she was mowing her front garden, and she told him that \"He's lucky his parents don't get to listen to the shit he plays\" and this got them pissed off. I had a word with her when I heard about it and she said it's true.\n\nNow legally, he's allowed to do play for up to one hour each session or something like that. I decided that just to spite her, when I'm next at home in the day time I would give it a go. I wait for her to finish her shopping, I move the drum kit to the side of the house closest to theirs, and I proceed to play the drums for an hour straight. I even timed it. When I say play, we're talking drum solos, heavy hitting crash cymbals and constant fills, it was truly a sight to behold.\n\nI'm going to do this every chance I get from now on.", "summary": "Neighbour insulted sons drumming and told him to stop, I went Travis Barker on that bitch."}
{"id": "t3_2kurbf", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Can you help me understand why I'm bothered by my boyfriend commenting on how attractive people are?", "post": "My [30 F] boyfriend [36 M] of several years is always making comments like \"what a lovely looking girl\" \"what a handsome man\" \"she's such a beautiful woman, they don't make them like that anymore\". He is usually talking about celebrities (mainly movie stars) but he does this sometimes with people he knows as well, it seems like he can't talk about anyone without adding \"Sally, she's such a pretty girl\" in there somewhere.\n\nRealistically it isn't every time he talks about someone, but he can't go a single day without commenting on someone's appearance like this. It's primarily women but he says these things about men too.\n\nIt bothers me so much but I can't put my finger on why. I've told him it bothers me but he argues that there is nothing wrong with appreciating a person's beauty, that he never makes negative remarks, and that it can't be sexist (which I never said it was) or objectifying because he says these things about men too.\n\nI sort of feel like there is something wrong with not being able to appreciate someone for their accomplishments and talent without their attractiveness coming into play, but I'm not sure that's really the crux of it. I just don't know what is.\n\nSo, how would this make you feel? Would you even care? Maybe you can articulate why or why not better than I can.", "summary": "my boyfriend rarely talks about people without mentioning how attractive they are, why does this bother me?"}
{"id": "t3_1yevx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of 3 years, not sure whether or not he is a good long term partner.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have lived together for about two years and while I enjoy living with him I wonder whether he would be a good long term partner. \n\nThe main issue is that he spends a lot of his time playing video games and redditing (and other interneting), which I find hard to respect. He is supposed to be doing school work by distance but it is taking him much longer than it should (1.5 years so far) because he doesn't focus on it. I think he might have actually given up on it at this point. When I ask him about it he says I'm nagging so I have stopped saying anything. He has money from his education fund so we can split the bills and that isn't an issue. \n\nMy concern is for his lack of follow-through and excessive video game playing. I wonder whether this will continue to be an issue or if it's just that the distance courses are not very motivating. I feel that it's not my responsibility to push him to do his school work. I've been thinking that he might not be a good long term partner. I've been considering it for six months but flip flop between wanting to break up and wanting to push things with him some more. \n\nOur relationship has mostly been great so far and he has some very good qualities. I really like that he is easygoing and can quickly pick up what I'm feeling. There are a lot of positive things in our relationship.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on how to handle this. I'm unsure if this is a \"deal breaker\" for me or not. How do you decide?", "summary": "My boyfriend spends most of his time playing video games and not doing his school work. I'm not certain whether I should break up with him or not. The rest of the relationship is quite good."}
{"id": "t3_1zd5xz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M]aybe I set this off?", "post": "Hey all of reddit. Male here. 22. \n\nSo lately,my girlfriend and I have been busy and haven't seen a lot do each other. We'd been together over a year. She, with work,and I had just been through some family issues. During this time, I was a dick to her. I was inattentive, insecure, accusing, and lazy. I was. I told her hurtful things I should have never told her. She broke up with me. That hurt, and I said even worse things. She was a saint. She talked to me over the phone even after I was such an ass, telling me we could talk if needed.  \n\nI managed to woo her back. One of the best days of my life. Still, we were both extremely busy and hadn't gotten to really hang out at all. \n\nNow, recently she went on a trip. (A week ago) \nShe's close with all her high school friends and they went to the beach. \nOne guy she is especially close with, and she told me they'd never done anything. \n\nUntil, apparently, this trip. She came back in tears, saying she made a mistake, and he touched her boobs. I've always been extremely jealous. We even talked before hand, and her reassuring me she wouldn't do anything. \n\nIt was just her breasts, but I still was upset and jealous at the time. \nShe said because it had been so long away from me, and he was there emotionally when I wasn't, and I had driven her away partially because I would always accuse her of probably going to cheat on me in the future. \n\nI have done this( only once a week or so) and as she puts it, do tend to use the \"pity card\".", "summary": "was an ass, girlfriend got her tits titillated"}
{"id": "t3_1qcaqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18/F met early 30s/M] on dating site. Found out he is married and has a baby daughter, he never told me about it, what do i do?", "post": "Hey Reddit 18/F here. I met a 31/M on a dating site. We had been talking for a few weeks and then we decided we should meet. I've started to like him on a different level besides friends. and so has he cause he's suggested some typical sexual things.\n\nI decided to google his username from the site we met and i found his full name and decided to do a little facebook stalking, ANYWAYS, it was all fun and games until i came across a picture of a baby, i figured it was a sibling or a cousin or just anything other than his own... I then happened to click on a girl who was tagged in this picture and it came to be HIS WIFE!  \n\nOut of curiosity, I made a fake profile on the site, messaged him and he was interested in meeting up. He lied to me about being married and even worse having a baby! thats the situation, what should i do? tell his wife? Meet up with him one more time and confront him or just drop it?\n\n*disclaimer*  im not in any relationship with him whatsoever, nor did i have sex with him or anything along those lines . it was just a friendship about to turn with benefits.", "summary": "18/F met 31/m  , have been meeting up a couple times now, no relationship has been established nor  have any sexual activities happened, anyways this friendship was about to turn into more of a FWB but i did some investigating and he has a wife and a baby and he never told me about it, what do i do?."}
{"id": "t3_1gye06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28m] Korean girlfriend [29f] is moving back to Korea in January... leave her now, or stick it through?", "post": "We met back in February and started going out in March. As far as our relationship goes... it's been great. I have never felt so comfortable and natural with someone. She is a dream girl, very easy going, no drama. A little quiet, but when she laughs her face lights up and everything is right with the world. And I dare say, foolishly, that I am falling in love.\n\nEverything changed when she went on a 3-week trip to Korea to visit her family. Now I don't blame her or fault her in the slightest for this. While she was there she realized how important family is, and how much she misses her family and how much they miss her. She has taken a look at her education (we're both student nurses) and is doubting that its the career for her. She said that, other than me, she really has nothing here in the US, and she is terribly lonely. So she's making arrangements to move home permanently. She is probably going to be spending 1 more semester here to finish a General Studies AS. That would put her departure in January. January comes, and she is gone.\n\nSo... is it really \"better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all\"? I have already cried a bit over this, and already have a bit of a broken heart, and miss her. So here's my rock and a hard place: If I leave her now, I will feel like I'm abandoning her, and sacrifice all the memories we could build - and spare myself a more broken heart in the end, and trade it in for regrets. If I stay with her, I won't feel like a scumbag, and will make memories with her... but I know that I will fall more in love with her, and trade in regret to suffer a terrible loss when she leaves.\n\nI know that I will stay with her, and spend every moment I can with her. I just want to hear your thoughts on it, no matter how harsh.", "summary": "Falling in love with my Korean girlfriend, but she's moving back to Korea in 6 months. Should I stay with her and build happy memories and accept the inevitable heartache of loss in the end, or let her go now and accept the inevitable heartache of regret in the end?"}
{"id": "t3_k64k8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why Does There Seem To Be A Pointless Misunderstanding Between Males and Females In How We Work, More Specifically In Relationships", "post": "I am a father with a 2 month old daughter and a 7 month old marriage.  I feel like there is huge misunderstanding with males and females and how the opposing sex works.  Why?  Are we not allowed to have classes for males, about females, and vice verse?  Would this be some sort of sexual discrimination?  \n\nMore specifically, why does my wife think that arguments aren't normal?  Why does anybody think that arguments aren't normal.  Why do people act like they never argue in their relationships, as if its perfect.  It just makes other people think they are weird for having arguments like they do.  That's probably half the reason the divorce rate is what it is.\n\nIts almost like picking your nose.  Because I know everyone does it alone in their room, and then make fun of someone who has balls to do it in public...Seriously.  \n\nWhy the discord?", "summary": "It seems like there is a fundamental misunderstanding between the operation of the opposite sex in each respective gender."}
{"id": "t3_2500dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am planning on breaking up with my boyfriend [21M] but I don't know when to do it", "post": "Things aren't working out, our personalities aren't as similar as I thought, and we are on different pages. I've finally realized that I need to break up with him.\n\nHowever, I don't know when to break up with him. He does not know and I don't even think he suspects anything. I am going tor help him move back home from his dorm on Friday, spending Thursday night there as well. He is flying to California on Saturday until Monday to visit his brother [40-something/M] and his family, whom he hasn't seen in a few years.\n\nI don't want to break up with him until he gets back, because I don't want him to be in a depressed mood the entire time he's there. I just don't think that's fair.\n\nMy mom thinks I should end it before he leaves, because a different environment might be good for him right after we break up. She has a point, but I really don't want him to be upset at all while he's visiting his brother. He really looks up to him and I know he is really looking forward to seeing him.\n\nI love him dearly and I care a lot about him. He makes me smile and feel giddy when I'm with him, but there are things that I know are wrong. This is going to wreck me and I even had a panic attack last night that made me sick to my stomach this morning because I finally decided that I need to end it soon. I don't want to do this, but I have to. (If any of you are interested in why we're breaking up, just ask and I will add it.)\n\nSo..when do I do it? Of course I want the most time with him that I can get, I want to wait until he gets back, mostly because I am terrified of saying goodbye, but also because I want him to have the best time in California with his brother without any worries on his mind.", "summary": "I don't know when to break up with my boyfriend; this Friday or a week after that on Tuesday when he comes back from visiting his brother in California."}
{"id": "t3_rroxe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should a small business take a chance by turning down a long-term customer in the name of \"policy\"?", "post": "Hey, all. I'm hoping to get some opinions and see if any others have dealt with similar situations. I've been shopping at this local record store since I was in high school. Nearing the end of college, I've spent at least a couple hundred dollars at this shop. That being said, I bought some shirts and a record the other day. I wore one of the shirts for half a day, washed it, put it on this morning, and noticed that there were holes all along the bottom of the shirt's design. I brought the shirt to the store to talk to the owner and manager to try to resolve the issue. These people know me. They know my special orders, which I could have simply picked up at Best Buy. I even got the, \"I want to help you because you shop here all the time...\" speech, but unfortunately, that was followed by, \"but the shirt was washed and once it's washed, either you're stuck with it, or we are.\" I asked if there was anything I could do to get any sort of replacement and I was turned down. My family spends a lot of money on records at this store, so it upsets me that they don't appreciate my continued business. I don't understand how a small business can just throw away their capital in this economy. Thoughts? Similar experiences?", "summary": "Tried to return a  fault product to a frequently visited, locally-based record shop, was turned down in the name of \"policy\". Considering not returning, which I would hate to do."}
{"id": "t3_47kil8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What is the best way to grow money for the short term (~3yrs).", "post": "Hi guys!\n\nSo my friend and I have always had a dream about starting a small business together, I won't bore you with the details of that because it is not really important. However, for the past many years we have been bogged down being underemployed and in student loan debt. Now that we have tackled most of those issues we finally have some money and can start actually planning out our dream. \n\nWe are looking to launch in about 3 years and we know we need a bit of capital to get started with. So we want to put away money every month somewhere right out of our paychecks during that time. I would love the opportunity to have this money grow (even in a small way) so we can take out a bit more than we put in. I am wondering what our options are and what the best way to go about this is.", "summary": "What is the best way to invest money that will be withdrawn in ~3yrs?"}
{"id": "t3_1lxwph", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MI] - Police and Property Lines", "post": "Just a quick question hopefully someone can shed some light on for me. It's a bit lengthy, but the questions is kind of specific so bear with me.\n\nI'm a college student living off campus in a neighborhood with a private landlord (in no way affilitated with the university) so naturally we will probably have a loud party or two and I'm afraid I may eventually have to deal with police at some time or another and I want to be prepared if it ever happens.I've done my fair share of research already. Never let them in without warrants, shut the door behind you if you go outside to speak with them etc. \n\nMy question is, can I legally stop an officer from coming on the property? Obviously they can't enter the house with my consent or a warrant, but I don't want them even leaving the sidewalk. The greater distance, the better. More often than not, I'm already outside smoking on our porch with a few others while most everyone else is inside, so I will be able to see police arriving before they're a-knockin' on the door. Could I then walk down to the sidewalk to speak with them and then insist that the conversation remains there?\n\nBetter yet, if no one's outside and they knock on the door, could I then go outside and ask to move the conversation to the sidewalk? Or is that right lost since they're already come up to the door?\n\nThanks to anyone who can shed some light on this for me. I want to exercise my rights, but don't want to overstep my boundaries either.", "summary": "If cops come to my house can I ask officers to stay on the sidewalk or are they legally permitted to go up to the door?"}
{"id": "t3_pfavh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Met an amazing girl, taking her out Friday, need some advice.", "post": "Okay Reddit, maybe you guys can be of some assistance, I tried asking /r/dating_advice, before the weekend but I didn't get an response. And I posted here before the weekend with someone who did help me out.\n\nSo, last week I met this amazing girl, and we started talking and really hit it off! We pretty much spent the weekend together, got lunch on Saturday, went to a play at our college together Saturday night, got to meet her dad. Nice guy. Sunday she came over to my house and we watched the Super Bowl with my family, even they liked her. She liked them as well which is a huge shock to me. I find it so easy to talk to her and I've never been able to do that with any girl I've been with.\n\nWhat I'm trying to get to is, I'm really falling hard for this girl, but I don't have much experience when it comes to girls to be honest. We are talking almost nonstop, could be just sitting with her in between classes or just texting all day. Were not exactly dating yet but it's a lot of flirting and just I'm more happy then I have been in a long time whenever I'm around her. When I said I was falling for her, I mean it. So I'm taking her to the movies Friday, and on Sunday were going to her house for a movie day. \n\nAny advice anyone can give me on this? I like her A LOT, and she likes me. I just don't have a lot of experience when it comes to women. Over the past couple days, I've wanted to tell her how I feel for her, but I'm kind of worried about doing that because we haven't known each other all that long. \n\nSo Reddit what should I do? I know some people might laugh at me for my feelings after knowing her for a short time, but I don't care. I have been pretty depressed the last few months and meeting her has given me a new sense of life and I just can't wait getting to see her everyday and just sit and talk with her.", "summary": "I met an awesome girl who I'm really falling for. Spent a lot of time together already and just looking for advice on how to get things really rolling."}
{"id": "t3_4plejf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (16M) have no idea how to ask her (16F) out", "post": "So I already tried to post this and it didn't go through so this is gonna be more bare bones, sorry. (Feel free to ask questions though)\n\nBasically I like my best friend's girlfriend's best friend. I kinda knew her before as we sat near each other in math, and obviously I know of her from my friend, but that's it. (And that was before I caught feels) We're both in summer school and I see her while waiting for my ride, we've talked twice (Very briefly) in this time, and she didn't seem like she disliked me. (One of the times she engaged me) I've been trying to like her tweets and stuff but obviously don't want to come off as a creep, I followed her but she didn't follow me back, possibly because my profile picture wasn't of me and she didn't know who I was. (I changed my picture now though) I added her on snapchat too, but apparently she doesn't use it much so she hasn't added me back yet. I don't think she dislikes me or has reason to hate me or anything, but then again I was kind of annoying in that math class...\n\nPlease help, thanks", "summary": "Caught major feels for my best friend's girlfriend's best friend. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hdmop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] feeling confused with [23 M] of 7 months and dont know what next move should be", "post": "Alright it goes. I've been seeing this guy for 8 months, we met on tinder. We set it off immediately but i waited around 4 months to begin having intercourse with him. When we first met, he would text and call pretty much every day. After around two months, he would start to go M.I.A for a few days but still make plans.\n\nNow, we see each other around once a week but lately i feel as though i have to initiate everything- from texting to actually seeing each other. I was planning on just sitting back and doing my thing until he reaches out, but its really hard since im obviously attached to him and want to talk to him, We have talked about exclusivity but i dont know exactly where we stand. What should I do?", "summary": "Guy doesnt put in as much effort as before but isnt doing anything \"wrong\". Whenever we see each other in person its great, dont know what my next move should be."}
{"id": "t3_29t6f5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 M) am scared to get \"hurt\" again", "post": "Okay, I have never been in a relationship before, but during middle/high school (I graduated in 2012), was one girl who I really liked and twice she acted like she liked me back, then as we would be talking, she would do a complete 180 and cut me off, insult me, etc. The first time she did it, I was hurt but I still really liked her, the second time was the worst. I had just suffered a fairly severe head injury, and this girl was, again, acting like she liked me and wanted a relationship (even in my severely impaired state) but we were still friends, until one day ,she again, cuts me off and quits talking to me.\n\nAll that shit happened at the very minimum of 5 years ago, but it hurt me so deep that, after it happened I was so mad and so hurt, I burned every bridge I had that was a girl. I hadn't even thought about a girlfriend, until a couple months ago. There is a new girl, but I haven't even spoken to her (she's my sisters friend from college, so I hardly see her and although I have caught her looking/smiling at me more than once, I can't go say something, because I'm scared I'll get \"hurt.)\n\n  I don't know what to do, I can talk well with guys, but girls at least to me are a whole different animal. I really worry that my new crush will go like my last one.", "summary": "I got hurt on 2 separate occasions with the same girl a long time ago, I am scared it will happen again with this new girl I have a crush on."}
{"id": "t3_35k8g5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend [20M] of almost two years.", "post": "My SO is my best friend. I wish I could ask him for his advice, because I value his opinion and he's thorough in his thought processes. For obvious reasons, I can't ask him. So I'm hoping maybe you guys might be able to help.\n\nMy boyfriend and I started dating at the end of senior year of high school, and have made it through 1.5 years of college long distance. Along the way, we have had some major fights, but I have never wanted to break up with him for a number of reasons. Most importantly, I really loved him. I think I was also afraid to break up with him, because I knew it would hurt both of us a lot, and because I rely on him and he relies on me. We are very compatible in many ways. In a nutshell, he's kind, intelligent, ambitious, funny, and thoughtful. He loves me deeply, and so do his parents and his sibling. My parents are less enthusiastic about him. They think he's a great person, but they fear he might not be the perfect match for me. He's pretty quiet and introverted (I am too), but they fear I might do better with a partner who makes social situations less anxiety-inducing for me (aka, someone who is a bit more talkative with strangers). They also worry I haven't had the opportunity to discover what true compatibility is, because he's my first real boyfriend.\n\nRecently, I've started to share their concerns. In some ways, it is the-grass-is-greener syndrome. But I think it also is a truly valid concern that he's my first boyfriend and I can't necessarily judge whether someone is a perfect match for me. I know he makes me feel comfortable and we get along really well, but I haven't felt passionate about him in a while. I also can imagine my life without him. I'm not sure if that's just because we haven't seen each other in a while, or if I'm ready to move on. I can't tell if I've fallen out of love or not.", "summary": "So, reddit, my question is: what does falling out of love feel like? What would you do if you were me?"}
{"id": "t3_zbegg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M18] tells me [F18] that he lost passion for me. We've been dating for 1.5 years. What can I do?", "post": "Last year when I was a freshman, we were long distance and had a tough time. Now we're both in the same city, but not the same college which actually makes it more complicated. He wants to live his own life, and I want to live mine, but also have one together. We started fighting this week and have been fighting a lot, and now he says \"he cares deeply for me\" but says he \"lost passion\". We're not broken up, but we're giving it time to get better. Is there anything I can do that's not just being annoying and telling him how much I love him? What can I do to give him space, but help him remember how much fun we have together? HELP! Thanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend told me he lost passion, I need advice on how to approach this week"}
{"id": "t3_4f9do5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does one get over a crush?", "post": "What steps do you take to get yourself over inappropriate feelings for someone?\n\nI'm [24F] currently dating someone [24M], we met in college and have been dating for 2.5 years, he is now in grad school, I am not. Recently there has been a lot of distance between the two of us, and we're trying to work through it. He and I are surprisingly good at communication, have made our desires and concerns clear, and have committed to trying harder to make each other happy. The kicker, of course, is that I have developed feelings for my roommate and longtime best friend. \n\nI've known the object of my crush [25M] for about 9 years, we went to high school together, and he dated my (ex)best friend for 7 of those years. We were always acquaintances, but it wasn't until after I graduated from college and he broke up with my friend that he and I became close. We're very similar people, and have made fantastic roommates and friends. I also know that he has harbored feelings for me for some time now, he's acknowledged it to me himself, and it's something that up until this point we've both been able to work around. \n\nHowever, now that things have been rocky with my SO, I've unfortunately and against my better judgement developed feelings for my friend. I care too much about my current relationships with both of these people to risk acting on this crush, but I need advice on how to help myself get over him. Avoiding him is somewhat out of the question, as he is my only friend and I live with him.", "summary": "In a relationship, have feelings for roommate/best friend. How do I get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_40pctv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by storing my Germ-X in my desk", "post": "TIFU when we had a head honcho from our corporate office come in. The whole office spent the last week cleaning stuff up, throwing out papers, yadda yadda yadda, and part of this process was having everyone clean their desks off. Like just a monitor, laptop and phone kind of clean. We have an open-concept office so it was important to have everyone's desk really clean for this visit. So I took my bottle of Germ-X and stuck it in my top drawer where I had my nifty little desk organizer. Apparently the heavy end fell into one of the wells in the organizer so when I went to open my drawer it jammed. I'm like, \"Whisky Tango Foxtrot, bruh\" and keep pulling over and over again until I notice the nozzle is caught in one of the rivets. I wasn't able to undo it at first but when I finally managed to open the drawer I noticed exactly what I had feared. Every time I pulled the drawer open the pump was hit, ejaculating some sweet sweet germicide all over the contents of my desk. It was on my sunglasses, my pens, loose change. It was on my sticky notes. I spent the next couple of minutes cleaning my desk out explaining to everyone that walked by what I was doing.", "summary": "The rhythmic action of forcing my desk open and closed caused my Germ-X to splooge all over the contents of my desk and then I had to explain myself to everyone."}
{"id": "t3_2wkyxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M) fooled around with my roommate (30F) last night.", "post": "Throw away because this seems like the thing to do on this subreddit.\n\nI separated from my wife a couple of months ago. It was a bad relationship and I'm much happier for having her gone. Enter my new living situation...\n\nI responded to a Craigslist ad for someone looking for a roommate. When I first met Melanie I thought \"she's kind of cute.\" We talked about our potential living situation and it turned out she is in a similar situation to me. She just got out of a LTR with someone and just needed a person to rent an apartment with. We got along great so we signed a lease together. \n\nWhen I first started moving in we talked about having never lived with someone of the opposite sex (outside of romantically/family.) We then proceeded to get fairly drunk that night and admitted to each other that there was an attraction between us. We of course said that we couldn't act on it because that would complicate our living arrangement. Then last night happened...\n\nOnce again, alcohol was involved. We were drinking and we ended up making out. The more we both tried to stop it, the hotter it made it and we kept going. We didn't go all the way, just some over the pants stuff. She at one point came out of her room in just her underwear telling me that she was going to bed. I followed her in but I made sure to leave before anything serious happened. \n\nI'm now nursing a hangover in bed and I guess I'm just looking for some advice. Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation? How do I proceed from here? I know this is a dumb idea, but has anyone ever had casual sex with their roommate and been ok with it?", "summary": "I messed around with my brand new roommate last night and I don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_2m93ld", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by delivering a fucking paper.", "post": "Hey reddit, TIFU by delivering a paper. So, I was walking around in my high school a day when a stranger approached me and asked if I knew some chick, I did, and he asked me to deliver a paper to this person. I did and thought nothing of it. It just looks like an invite to an experiment.  So, I took it to a teacher and asked if he could deliver, he said sure. So, I come to school and visit the teacher that I gave the paper to and he gives me a look of worry. I think he is a busy guy so maybe school is bothering him, so I say hey whats up and he instantly brings up the paper and says, \"um Highschooldumbass, I don't know what was on the paper but random chick did not like it, and reported it to the school police officer\". ohfuck.jpg I start to think ooooooo what the fuck was on that paper. So, I continue my day worried as fuck, hoping that shit gets resolved. Then my teacher say I need to go to the principles office. Shit. So I report to the principles office and see the principle, with a concerned look. She asks me to tell my story so I do and at the end of it.  She says \"This person sounds imaginary\". [Rest in Pasta me]    She then says that she is going to make me talk to the officer in the school tomorrow to maybe investigate.", "summary": "I deliver a malicious paper to some chick unknowingly, she does not react well, principle does not believe me, I may be investigated. GG  [What should I do?]("}
{"id": "t3_2iqc2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 F] just got married to my new husband[32 M] it's been 4 months now and it turns out he has a drinking problem.", "post": "I married a man I've known peripherally (1.5 years) after a month long whirlwind romance. We have a fantastic connection, lots of fun and have a lot to share with each other. I've never wanted to get married but deciding to get married to him didn't even feel like a leap of faith but more like a foregone conclusion.\nWe spent a lot of time together in bars that first month but it felt celebratory and a bit like speed dating. I admit looking back now it should have been obvious, he drinks in excess, only really wants to hang out in bars and can become aggressive. He has never been violent but I know he's stronger and he punched a hole in the wall while yelling at me while I huddled in a corner yelling for him to go away.\nAt this point I am well aware that I cannot calm him down or coerce him in any way once he starts. Several incidences have occurred (breaking my stuff mostly), my friends and parents have expressed concern and they all like him but things are out of hand. We've had a lot of hard talks that felt totally unsuccessful til I finally realized just what I was dealing with.\nWe are at a point where I'm having to make ultimatums, if he doesn't get outside help and hold himself accountable I can't share my life with him.\nSo the thing that I wonder, after reading a lot and talking to close friends...is it possible to have a happy relationship with someone dealing with alcohol abuse at this stage? My hope is that he'll go to therapy and AA and that eventually this won't be a constant issue but after reading all the advice it seems more like a false hope. \nI need advice.", "summary": "Just married/husband's drinking is out of control/is it possible to have a happy relationship with an alcoholic who is just now(hopefully) starting recovery"}
{"id": "t3_3cdaq2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my boss", "post": "TIFU. Just happened. Feel like an idiot.\n\nNew position opened up in our group. Several people vacated our department leaving only me behind for our local office along with our manager. For many months I was saddled into believing that my job was to literally do nothing (and stress over said nothing) until the new boss arrived and things changed. In that time I have learned many new processes and have been almost 100% self driven to getting things done. Only a few months prior I was saying that there was no way I was ready for the position I am now after, mainly because of the sense I had from a particular teammate.\n\nAnother teammate said to go apply for the position, and at first I didn't think I'd have a chance until I actually looked at the job description of the position I hold versus the position I am after. \n\nSeems like I already do the job to some lesser or greater extent, more than the job I was hired into--according to official description.\n\nNot realizing the time (I work a lot of nights, so my internal clock is always off), I called my boss' cellphone. I inquired about something that needs to be done tonight, and then rolled that into asking about the posi---\n\nBad time. Trying to get baby to sleep. Talk later. *click*\n\nOhmygodImsonotgettingthejob. I look at the clock, which I should have noticed when I picked the damn phone up to begin with. Its past 7pm. He hasn't been at the office for over two hours. \n\nI created this graphic to more appropriately describe how I feel. (SFW).", "summary": "super nervous about asking about position, have been shoehorned by another less friendly teammate into thinking I couldn't do it, turned that around, have the opportunity to apply, didn't realize what time it was, called boss while they were putting baby to bed."}
{"id": "t3_zg5kk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M30] and bestie [F23] may be friends plus... something? Help me strangers from the internet, I'm confused!", "post": "We started out as work colleagues over a year ago and became fast friends. She is a bit like my female counterpart. I trust her, and don't keep any secrets from her.  \nAbout six weeks ago she moved workplaces (something I will do soon), and we planned a month-long mediterranean holiday together which kicks off a week from today. We are both single.  \nFor the past eight weeks I've been working out, eating right,  and I finally made the transition from tshirts with prints to classier attire, and in general I've been getting positive feedback. I don't know if she finds me attractive, or even if that matters.  \nFor the past few weeks our physical interactions (kissing hello, hugging, touches, grooming) has been getting ambiguous. She knows I find her attractive, I'm not creepy or inappropriate about it.  \nThe thing is, I am happy with our relationship. I'd be happy if it stayed the same. I'd be more that happy if our relationship became something more. I'd be happy to be friends with benefits. I'd be willing to try out something more, from a one-off, to falling crazy in love, starting slow or going fast. I'm mature enough that if any of these feelings, romantically or physically, didn't work out with us that I can still be the friend that I am now, with no dramas whatsoever. I'm not a complicated man. I just want her to be happy.  \nSo, do I let her know? If so, how? Is there any way without being a massive dork?", "summary": "Friendship may have opportunity to upgrade.  "}
{"id": "t3_13ixnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m22] have started hooking up with a [f23] in a long-distance long-term relationship. How morally culpable am I?", "post": "F23 has been involved with a M23(?) in Italy since studying abroad about a year ago. They see each other a few times a year for a few days at a time.\n\nF23 was a friend, but she has recently started coming onto me, spending the night (in a non-sexual way) and becoming more emotionally attached over the past 3 weeks. She's saving sex until marriage but we've made out and I suspect she wants to go a bit further. We connect in a way I haven't connected with anybody in a long time.\n\nOn the one hand I wouldn't want someone to do this to my girlfriend if I was in a long-distance LTR. I consider myself a moral person and my integrity is important to me. On the other hand, I really like her, this is a rare opportunity for me (I don't date much, even if this isn't going anywhere it's novel and nice), we're both having fun and it's unclear if anyone is getting hurt. Should I break things off for my sake, or for her sake?", "summary": "Started hooking up with a girl in a long-distance LTR, am I evil?"}
{"id": "t3_2p2yej", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Serious] how to respond to, \"why did you leave your last job?\"", "post": "My wife is leaving her job because she just can't take it any longer. It's a large corporation (10,000+ employees) and they've been doing a ton of downsizing. Her department used to have 8 people and it's down to 2, and the 2 people are expected to do the work of 8. Between that and them harassing her after taking 4 days off for FMLA (we are foster parents and had a newborn placed with us) she tried contacting HR to get some help with all of the bullying. HR said there was nothing they could do, but they would reach out to her bosses. After that things got even worse and she put in her notice. The next day after her notice was put in they informed her it would be her last day, but they would pay her through the last day she put on her notice. \n\nShe has a job interview today and you know the question usually comes up: why are you leaving your current job? How on earth does she answer this? She doesn't want to seem like she's going to be a lot of drama, and she doesn't want to say something negative.", "summary": "My wife was in an environment where bosses were making her miserable. She has an interview this afternoon. How does she respond to, \"why are you leaving your current job,\" without setting herself up for failure during the interview?"}
{"id": "t3_2af663", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my EX [23 F] six months, She asked for space.", "post": "I'm a Soldier deployed overseas and being so far away for so long caused me and my girlfriend to split up. She graduated college in the spring and needed to focus on finding a job. We tried being friends but I wasn't ready for it. I kept trying to flirt with her and push her towards being in a relationship with me again. It was hard for us to find time to talk because of the time difference between the US and where I am stationed and often I would get mad when she wasn't able to make time in her busy schedule for me. Eventually things blew up in a big fight last week and she told me not to speak to her anymore. I was devastated because I didn't see all the things I was doing wrong. I had accused her of being cold and no longer caring about me at all anymore but now I see that it was my unwillingness to just be friends that pushed her away. Her best friend was kind enough to break things down and explain them to me from her perspective and I now realize that I was being a total jerk. I just want to know how long I need to wait before I can tell her I have seen where I was wrong and am ready to be friends. I still hope that we will be together again in the future but I recognize that she isn't in a position right now for that to be an option. Even if we're not dating, she was someone very close to me and I miss having her in my life.", "summary": "How long after a major fight where I was the one who was wrong and she asks for space do I need to wait to tell her I have seen the error in my ways?"}
{"id": "t3_3f7cxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [22 M] have an irrational fear of getting my GF [19 F] of 8 months pregnant even though she uses BC and we use a condom. How can I get over this?", "post": "Before my girlfriend and I met last October, i was a virgin in pretty much everyway. She also has a high libido and so whenever we're with each other we tend to have sex like 2 times a day. \n\nShe takes a BC pill and has missed it a couple times since we've been together and is pretty good about taking it within a two hour window each day. we've used a condom every time except like twice months ago(and I was freaking out about pregnancy). I know that using both forms of protection severly reduces the chance but am not sure how much irregularly taking the pill will mess with things. \n\nAfter I go home after a few days visit, I worry and can't wait until she tells me her period started(which i really appreciate her telling me) so I can ease some. How can I pretty much eliminate the fear of her getting pregnant? We have talked before about what we would do in case of pregnancy but what if she realizes she missed her too late? In addition to just worrying about pregnancy, I tend to worry a lot anyways about things.", "summary": "Despite using BC and a condom, I worry about her getting pregnant until she tells me she has started her period. how do I overcome this fear?"}
{"id": "t3_2hteez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [21 M] of 2 years cheated on me 2 months into our relationship.", "post": "My boyfriend left for europe on vacation 2 months into our relationship and told me he kissed someone while out partying on his trip. He told me it was a one-time, drunken thing with a stranger. I ended up forgiving him and we worked through the trust issues. \n\nTwo years later, he left his facebook open on my computer and I (I know, it's bad) looked through his messages and found out that he had actually added the girl he hooked up with, and messaged her after getting back from his trip. However, they haven't had contact in over a year. He also told his buddy that he was really good at picking up girls in Europe, offered advice on how to go about picking up these girls, and that the area he was in had the hottest girls out of anywhere he'd ever been. \n\nIn another message to a friend, I found a photo of him and another guy with their arms around 2 girls at a party (shortly after he got back from his trip) and he had captioned it \"I miss the days you could just pick up girls and not have it plastered all over social media.\" There are no recent messages of this nature. \n\nObviously this has upset me, and I know that I've made a mistake snooping. Our relationship has been fine up until now. How do I approach this? Do I just pretend I never found these things?\n\nI'm worried because he's returning to the same place in Europe this summer, and I'm afraid he will try to contact that girl again.", "summary": "Boyfriend made out with someone 2 months into the relationship. I forgave him. Two years later found some facebook messages that are making me question things again."}
{"id": "t3_2vgkic", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Writing a PF Book for College Students/Recent Grads: Help Me Brainstorm?", "post": "I'm currently writing a personal finance book geared towards those entering college as well as people that recently graduated. I'm well aware there are a lot of books geared towards people in their mid-20s, as well as those geared towards paying off student loan debt, but I don't think there's something in the middle that deals with a blend of the two\u2014young, anxious about loans, but eager to start investing.\n\nThus, I'm using my own personal experiences (27M, lawyer) to write a personal finance book that sorts out everything I've learned thus far. The goals of my book are as follows:\n\n(1) Stress financial behavior and personal finance basics rather than super crazy tricks of the trade.\n\n(2) For college kids: discuss how to keep student loan debt down and keys to finding a job.\n\n(3) For recent grads: reducing fixed costs, picking the right student loan repayment plan, balancing investing with student loans, etc.\n\n(4) Basics of investing (401k, IRAs, etc.)\n\n(5) Ultimately, make everything easy so those in my generation have the confidence and ability to have a healthy financial life.\n\nThat's the extremely basic outline thus far. I've written chapters 1-3 and it seems to be coming along pretty well, but I figured I should reach out to /r/personalfinance and see if anybody had some input.\n\nSo what would you stress? What are some things I might be taking for granted? What are unique challenges a 20 year old faces now versus a 20 year old in 1990? Etc.", "summary": "Writing a PF book geared towards balancing student loan debt with investing, as well as saving and setting up a plan. What are some things I might be overlooking? And do you think a book like this already exists?"}
{"id": "t3_2i09rw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I in the wrong?", "post": "My girlfriend [17f] and I [18m] have been dating 5 months, today she told me she was in love with me. I didn't know what to say, because I'm not at that point yet, I love her, but I'm not in love with her.\n\n I'm someone who really had problems with their emotions and expressing feelings and she knows that, I feel like if I don't say I'm in love with her she's gunna just start even more of a fight that's gunna end up with us breaking up.\n\n Is this my problem, hers or a combination of both of us? How should I approach telling her I'm not in love with her without \nhurting her?", "summary": "Girlfriend told me she's in love with me, I don't feel the same way, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1q7ir5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by posting a snap of myself ejaculating to my snapchat story.", "post": "So I wanted to send something to a girl I'm talking to and I thought it would be funny to send a snap of me ejaculating to her. I wake up the next day and go to work and see a facebook message from one of my friends saying that I have ruined snapchat for them. I get a huge sinking feeling in my stomach and ask them why. \n\nI went and checked and the video I had sent to the girl had been posted to my snapchat story for a good ten hours. If you don't know, snapchat stories allow any of your friends to watch any number of times for twenty four hours. \n \nIt took me a five minutes of adrenaline fueled stabbing at my phone to figure out how to delete the video.\n\n At least ten people saw the clip and I decided to nope out of there and delete snapchat.", "summary": "Ten of my friends saw me ejaculating on snapchat."}
{"id": "t3_ddi8o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! Any Albanians on Reddit?", "post": "I am friends with this Albanian guy called Tani. We don't exactly hang out all the time but I see him at parties and trash like that. Anyway, a couple days ago I met his sister at a party. Sister is hot, so I do the regular thing and ask her if she wants to get dinner or something sometime. She gets quiet and awkward really fast and leaves soon. I'm like meh, watever, continue party. Then yesterday I get this email from Tani. Maybe he forgot that I DONT READ ALBANIAN but here is the message. He isn't answering my texts but obviously the dude is pissed at me for talking to his sister, maybe. Also, Google translate was no help.", "summary": "Albanian Redditors please come to the rescue and translate this email for me."}
{"id": "t3_1aazo3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's something really stupid you did as a kid... out of total innocence?", "post": "In 1988, the Winter Olympics were happening and I was in kindergarten. My school hosted an \"olympics\" event, with footraces, three legged and barrel races, jumprope, that kinda thing. You would go from event to event in our outdoor field and compete and get awarded ribbons.\n\nI was a little big for my age, and relatively athletic, and at every event I kept getting these bright orange ribbons, and everyone kept telling me great job, and I was getting more and more bummed. All these other kids were getting an AWESOME array of colorful ribbons... red, blue, purple, green... and I was stuck with these dumb orange ones. I hated orange. By the end of the day I had probably ten of them, and that's it.\n\nSo when some Big Kid, probably from grade four or five, offered to trade me his awesome collection of colorful ribbons for all my orange ones, jackpot. I offloaded those bastards and took all of his... the whole rainbow of colors. I just kept one orange ribbon. All of my buddies stared in amazement when I got back to the after-school care facility. I took them home and showed them to my mom (careful not to let slip that I got these through unseemly means) and she smiled and told me how proud she was. \n\nI lost track of those ribbons and found them a few years later, all the colorful ones. Now I could read. Blue, third place. Red, 2nd place. Green, fifth place. Purple... seventh.\n\nOrange? FIRST PLACE. Son of a bitch.", "summary": "I wrecked house at track and field and got scammed out of my awards because I was illiterate."}
{"id": "t3_fl41h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am i crazy? xpost from relationships", "post": "I am a 20 M, she is a 21 F. We both attend university, and are both in the same classes. We met about 6 months ago, at the first sight I thought she was beautiful. We started talking more and more in class and it was going great, come to find out she has a boyfriend! I was devesated, I started to have some legit feelings for this girl! Through more conversation I have found out that she is in an abusive relationship. The past few weeks we have been getting even closer then before, you have to realize i see this girl 4 days a week for 6 hours straight. Is she trying to hint that maybe she likes me to? Maybe she wants out of her abusive relationship? Or am I just having some wishful thinking. Lately she has been more touchy towards me, touching my elbow when we talk and laugh playing footsies. So am I crazy? Is there a chance she could like me?", "summary": "I like a girl in my class, found out she has a boyfriend, found out its abusive. We got closer. Could she like me?"}
{"id": "t3_izdi5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any doctors or optometrists on Reddit can give me their opinion?", "post": "I have a damaged optic nerve in my right eye, that has been like that as long as I can remember. Doctors hypothesized it was undeveloped due to being born premature. I recently went to the optometrist to get a new prescription (for my left eye... no change yay!). She checked behind my eye, and said the eye is healthy up to the point where you get to the nerve, and it's all pale (dead).  \n\nI asked if something like stem cells could repair the nerve (or a bionic eye in the future) and she informed me that after the age of 10, the brain does not develop the eye portion anymore. Thus even with repair, my brain could not process the info.\n\nI would like other opinions on this... I have heard stories of experimental cameras and artificial limbs being attached, and giving back sight or movement. Is my eye problem shit out of luck? \n\nI still have about 5% or so of vision, but it is hard to focus since the left eye overpowers it greatly (even with the eyelid closed). If I close it, it's as if I was \"thinking\" the image, being overlayed on the blackness of the left eye (well.. more to the right). The vision doesn't seem bad (just blurry since there is no prescription on the right lens), but I have to concentrate real hard, and barely can keep the eye focused on one spot. So would this be enough development to regain sight or would it stay the same?", "summary": "Nerve is dead in right eye, was told even repairing it would not restore vision. Asking for other opinions."}
{"id": "t3_27czn2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/m] am ready to break up with her [20/f], but her grandmother was just diagnosed with cancer. How long should I wait?", "post": "edit - it's breast cancer, pretty far along, but they're optimistic for treatment. Don't know any more than that. \n\nHer grandmother was just diagnosed today, June 4th. I've been slowly realizing that we just aren't the same people we were when we started going out. I've graduated college and am about to move 250 miles away for a job, and she is a very family oriented person who is flipping between supporting my move and being unhappy that I won't stay in this town that has nothing close to what I've been offered. \n\nI feel like I love her, but I'm no longer in love with her. We dated for 10 months, we broke up for 8, then we have been back together for 6. I just can't imagine spending the rest of my life with her at this point. I guess I'm posting all this because I want a reason to stay together, but I just don't have one. She's been my best friend for about 4 years now, and I don't want to lose that; but I realize that might happen. \n\nAs I said, she's very family oriented so her grandmother having cancer is hitting her kind of hard. I don't want to make that specific pain worse, though I realize dragging it out is just another kind of pain.", "summary": "How long do I wait after her grandmothers cancer diagnosis to break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1c5ugc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "18F wants to get physical with me, 19M. Not sure how to escalate w/o seeming like a booty call", "post": "I went to a party with a group of friends last weekend where I got drunk and ended up spending all my time there with one girl in particular. She admitted that she's always thought I'm cute and said that we should hook up sometime. We've been texting occasionally throughout the week and she's been very flirtatious and insistent about us hanging out again.\n\nI will definitely be seeing her again this weekend at a friend's get together but I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to take her home afterwards.\n\nI like this girl and want to hook up with her but I'm not sure how to get her over without it sounding like an obvious booty call. Any ideas/advice?", "summary": "girl wants me, not sure how to get together w/o seeming like a booty call*"}
{"id": "t3_2q51nu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smashing my head on the door of my truck.", "post": "This happen around an hour ago, I was going Christmas shopping with my girlfriend and we were getting into my truck and I opened her door for her like the gentleman I am. I was walking around to the drivers door and I opened the door and remembered something I needed to tell her and I leaned my head in and I guess I didn't open the door completely and I smashed my forehead on the top of the door. \nI got dizzy and brushed it off, trying to act like a hardass in front of my girlfriend, drove her home and started driving home. About half way home I forgot which way I needed to turn and started freaking the fuck out, but I figured it out when I saw the McDonald's. \nI am now sitting in the ER waiting to see if I have a concussion.", "summary": "smashed my skull on the door when I remembered something to tell my girlfriend and might have a concussion."}
{"id": "t3_3c6asd", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "MOH Gift Ideas", "post": "Hi weddit - Hoping you can help me! I am brainstorming ideas for my MOH's gift and could really use some input on what y'all are doing and any suggestions you might have based on my girl's personality.  \n\nA little background:\n\nMy MOH is FANTASTIC.  She is my FH's sister, and initially I chose her as MOH because  a) the family connection makes her an easy tiebreaker between my other best friends b) I wanted a good reason to hang out with her more and get to know her better and c) she is a pastry/dessert chef, a wine expert, a craft-making event planner and oh yeah, she also studied photography and will be helping to coordinate the photographer on the day of.  \n\nDuring our rather long engagement, she has been nothing but helpful, and has been instrumental in all of the planning and prep work.  Her and her SO (also in the food/wine biz) came to our tasting and provided vital feedback on our wedding menu which led to making some key adjustments to the food flavors/options/etc.  She, with the help of her mom/my MIL single-handedly planned, decorated, catered and hosted my bridal shower, which involved her crafting things, making food and baking the most creative desserts the entire day prior and waking up early to complete everything morning of.  She is also making the top layer of cake for us to cut at the ceremony.  On top of all this, she also hand made bridesmaid gifts for me to to give to her and the 5 other women in the bridal party, painstakingly tracking down special gems, making the settings and personalizing each to each girl's name.", "summary": "She's done a LOT and deserves something very special!"}
{"id": "t3_23ed9f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "General Help/Advice? I'm [26/m] confused about my girlfriend [25/f], our relationship, and how I should be feeling.", "post": "First post ever, feels somewhat strange.  But anyway, I've been seeing this girl (she's 25, i'm 26) since January and we recently kinda decided that we should be \"together\"..like boyfriend/girlfriend official I suppose.  Now, I haven't been in a relationship in at least 6 years...I've had summer flings and friends with benefits type situations, but something steady is extremely foreign to me. \n\n I like this girl and she likes me, that much is plain, but I am constantly scared. I'm scared that this is all some big joke (which it isn't, but I cannot get past that thought), i'm scared that she is just bored and lonely and wants a passing fling/easy fuck, i'm scared that I like this girl too much already and since I don't have relationship experience I'm going to fuck it up and ruin it.\n\nWe talk about my insecurities, and hers, and she understands that this relationship stuff is new to me and that i'm kinda learning as I go along.  I just don't know how to feel, I've been alone for so long that having someone there is so strange to me.\n\nBlah, sorry if none of that makes sense.", "summary": "Haven't been in a relationship in 6+ years, starting dating this girl I really like and who I think really likes me, but i'm scared and really unsure of what I'm doing, or what I should be doing."}
{"id": "t3_4nj5wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I act (f,24) at a party where in-laws (m/f50-60) will be?", "post": "I am no longer on speaking terms with my in laws. They put their bills in my fiance's(28/m) name and let the accounts go delinquent and he had to pay them off and his credit has been ruined. He made a deal with his mother that she'd pay the last phone and cable bills. She put a check in, then put a stop payment on it so that it looked paid off but wasn't. She's done this twice now and as far as I'm concerned they're dead to me.\n\nI've been invited to my fiance's neices (18/f) graduation party and I'm sure his parents will be there. His mother will act all lovey dovey with me like nothing's wrong like she always does. How do I react and keep her away from me and let her know that she's not to speak with me without ruining my darling neices party?", "summary": "how do I act where in-laws I don't speak to will be at the same party as me?"}
{"id": "t3_4ojtnx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my Ex-wife/Husband [34F/38M] who have custody of [17M/15F) and they are growing weed in their yard", "post": "Background:  We've been divorced since 2004.  Kids are healthy, get good grades, my son has a job close to where they live.  Their Mom and I have a co-parent relationship but rocky at times.  I don't agree with their discipline measures, but at this point it doesn't matter.  I see both kids regularly on my days (every Wednesday night and every other weekend). I don't particularly think she's a godo mother but I'm a biased party obviously.  Some of the stuff that goes on there really makes me scratch my head but I've always had the attitude of \"its not my house\".  But this situation is different.\n\nNow to the issue.  For the last few years, I've known that her new husband of 8 years smokes pot.  Kids know it, they know that the kids know, but its never spoken of in the house.  Its silly but it is what it is.  Anyway, my son yesterday takes a picture of a couple of plants on the SIDE of their house.  Its pot.  No ifs no ands or buts about it.  Now, possessing weed in Texas is illegal.   Smoking it is illegal.  Texas isn't progressive enough like some other states.  And now they're being ballsy enough to grow the stuff WHICH .  While I don't think their Mom is smoking (she'd risk her job), I'm 100% certain its him.  And he's been unemployed for *years*, a loser, plays video games all day, make the kids clean the house while he does fuck all, and a convicted felon etc etc etc.", "summary": "Custodial parents of my kids, are growing pot and I know that at least one of them smoke regularly.  Report it and try to get the kids, or leave alone since nothing is negative other than illegal activities going on?  I'm concerned about the negative impact on my kids with the situation.  Which is my main cause for concern.  The backlash \"if\" it is reported and all this goes down.  "}
{"id": "t3_4utlzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [21/F] invited me [23/M] over anytime I wanted, to a degree.", "post": "I feel silly having to ask Reddit about this, but since most of the advice I'd get with my friends wouldn't be anything serious, I thought this would be a good outlet. \n\nWe broke up last summer, and were together as a couple for around six months. Despite a lot of typical post-breakup issues, things went relatively smooth all things considered. I was too heartbroken to try and blame anything on myself, and in turn that made my healing process more difficult. \n\nAnyways, we used to talk and catch up all the time until this spring. It's the only time since I've known her we've been so quiet - but that's a good thing, I suppose. In terms of genuine feelings for her, I know I'm over her in that sense, but my curiousity of *seeing* her again still gets me a lot. \n\nThe other day, she randomly messaged me out of the blue. It had been over a month since we'd said anything to each other. I tried to keep the conversation short, but at one point she told me that if I ever wanted to borrow records to \"rent\" out, to stop by and take whichever albums I wanted as a sort of play before you buy thing. She said that, again, I'm always welcome to do that. I see that as an excuse to see me, and at first I scoffed at it.\n\nBut now, I'm considering it. Like I've said already, the thought of seeing her is something I think about a lot. (Probably too much.) She does have a boyfriend, and I'm more than sure this is most likely nothing than her being friendly, but would I be walking into a trap by seeing her? She's the only person I've ever met who has near-identical taste in music to me, and I wouldn't be lying if I said a lot of her records are those on my to-buy list.", "summary": "Despite not talking for over a month, my ex-girlfriend randomly came back talking to me. This time, however, it was less subtle and more direct; she invited to stop by her place anytime I wanted to check out any albums I'm wanting to buy. Obviously this means I'd have to visit her more than once even for one record - and it's something I've secretly wanted for a while to happen. Is it wrong of me for wanting to see her again? Even if it was just twice?"}
{"id": "t3_4ctcf2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Ethics of testing a child's carrier status?", "post": "Hi all.  I am a mother of two girls, ages 1 and almost 3.  When I was pregnant with our younger daughter, my husband and I discovered that we were both carriers of cystic fibrosis mutations (delta f508 and G551D respectively).  After an agonizing wait for the results of the amnio, we discovered that our baby was only a carrier.  Hooray!  \n\nFor a while, I agonized over whether my then-1-year-old had undiagnosed CF, and the newborn screening (which in my state is based on the presence of an enzyme, not on DNA) had missed it (she was and is small and had a bunch of colds her first year...also, I was pregnant and crazy with worry at the time).  We eventually got a quote of $800 to test her for both mutations (insurance wouldn't touch it) and let it drop.  She's been pretty healthy, and, not being crazy any more, I no longer think she could have CF.\n\nHowever, I've just noticed that 23andMe is including a basic carrier screen again.  It seems that for $200 we could know once and for all if she is a carrier (and learn some cool stuff about our family's genetic history to boot).  I'm tempted, but wonder if it isn't wrong to satisfy our curiosity, possibly at our daughter's expense.  Unless she's one of the rare CF carriers who experiences noticeable symltoms, whether she is or not won't matter until she decides to have kids of her own (if she ever does), and I'm anxious about her future decision to test or not (or to have kids with another person or not) already having been made or affected.", "summary": "My husband and I are cystic fibrosis carriers.  If we had known before conceiving our kids, we would probably not have had biological children together.  Should we find out if our older daughter is a carrier?  Do we tell our younger daughter that she is definitely a carrier, or sit on that information until she wants to know?"}
{"id": "t3_17nkyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I (25F) wrong for yelling/swearing at my mother? (52F)", "post": "My Mum (52F) and I (25F) had a massive argument this morning. I asked if she could tie my dress at the back and you could see my bra. I asked her if she could cover my bra, and I may have said it in an annoyed voice due to many factors, including tiredness. She snapped at me and called me demanding, Hitler, bossy etc. I asked her to stop it and she kept going. I then lost it and screamed at her to stop it. I then burst into tears. \n\nThis made it worse. She went on a tangent, saying I over react, why the hell am I crying. My Dad got angry at her and said to stop it as well. I then bellowed at the top of my lungs to fucking shut up. She kicked it up a notch \"OH MY GOD YOU'RE CRAZY, DON'T SWEAR AT YOUR MOTHER. YOU NEED COUNSELING\" I told her to go to hell and left. \n\nI feel like I'm crazy and the way I acted wasn't normal. Did I over react? I know I shouldn't have sworn but it was like she was deliberately jabbing me for a reaction. She tried to pass it off as she was joking when she called me a hitler and demanding.", "summary": "Had a huge fight with my mum, swore at her and yelled and now feel like I'm crazy"}
{"id": "t3_19j6rf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "To the woman who photographed me riding in a car.", "post": "To the people who photograph me riding my motorcycle.\n\nHave you no shame? No respect? Is it really that fucking fascinating to see a fat girl driving?\n\nI see you. You think it's hilarious and you think that you're being stealth. And when I look at you, when I make eye contact, you're ashamed. You try to drive away, or if we're at a stoplight, you won't pull up next to me.\n\nnot worthy of your respect.\ni'm less than human.\n\neven after all this, I'm not mad.\nI pity you.", "summary": "Asks for respect from fellow humans; gets a fuckload more disrepect."}
{"id": "t3_1ajcc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F23) found out my boyfriend (M27) has an online dating account, we had a fight, please who is wrong here?", "post": "I really need advice, I don't know who is in the wrong here, or at least I have been made confused about this. I'm a 23F and he is a 27M we have been dating for almost 4 months now. He through out our relationship has acted as if he wants this to be a long term relationship, he has already told me that he \"loves me\". I'm in my last year of university and he has asked me to move in with him once I graduate in a year. However, about a month ago I randomly found that he has a Plenty of Fish dating profile, I was upset but I decided to trust him and assumed that it's an old profile that he no longer uses. So I decided to not bring it up. \n\nHowever, through out the month there were obvious changes on his profile, he would occasionally update his pictures or profile content. So that made me think he uses the site. I called him and asked him why he has it. That was all I asked, he became extremely rude to me and told me \"believe what you want to believe I don't use this account any longer. Is there anything else, if not then bye\". That left me in tears. He a few minutes later skypes me that he deleted it (he closed it). He told me \"How dare you accuse me of cheated, I don't answer to you. I refuse to be made feel like a bad guy. I have done nothing wrong. I'm really mad right now and I'll talk to you tomorrow\". He accused me of monitoring his online activities and told me I should have told him a month ago and he would have taken it down right away. He said \"I didn't think it would bother you\". How can he know if it would bother me or not if he never told me about it.\n\nWhat the hell? I'm so confused and hurt right now. I just need some sort of advice. It has been 3 days now.", "summary": "I (F23) found out that my boyfriend of 4 months (M27) has a POF account he never told me about, a month later I asked him about it and he became extremely mad at me, he took it down but I feel that he might have been looking around for anything better out there."}
{"id": "t3_1tqozr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where's a good place to apply for summer jobs?", "post": "Looking ahead to the summer I'm trying to figure out where I can get a job. I'm a 20 year-old university student currently based in the uk, and I love summer, sun, beaches etc. so am trying to find a job that will be near or involve those things. I've looked up a bunch of hotels in bora bora and Greece and will contact them asking if they have any employment opportunities, but are there other locations/hotels/jobs I should be looking at that will likewise allow me to enjoy the best that summer has to offer during my off-time? I am a hard worker, so I'm not simply looking for a lazy summer job, just wanting to maybe travel somewhere where I can enjoy myself a lot in the summer.", "summary": "what's a good summer job idea/location for a university student wanting to enjoy the sun, beach and weather of a good summer?"}
{"id": "t3_1q5etn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24F broken up with via text by 25M after 4 years", "post": "My ex boyfriend of 4 years ago broke up with me via text 2 weeks ago. He just moved to a new city 4 months ago for a job he got out of school. In the text he said he got a job opportunity that will advance his career and that he needs to take this opportunity. He knows I wouldn't move where he was because theres no jobs in my field there (Ive joked about it before but he didnt even entertain the idea.) He said in the text that he did love me and knew he was being selfish. I was blindsighted, I had seen him 4 days before and everything was normal and great, we spent 4 days together. I guess he was just given the opportunity to sign the contract and we didnt speak for 3-4 days before he broke up with me.\n\nI kept texting asking how he could do that to me and a bunch of other sappy but not mean stuff.. he didn't even want to talk after and screamed at me for even wanting to by text. Next day he talked to me and said he thought it was the best for both of us, hes not ready to move in with someone (like we had planned) , and he doesn't know if he loves me. Im not sure if getting this contract made him realize all of these other insecurities. \n\nI felt like I needed more closure and he wouldnt even respond, I also texted him what he wanted me to do with the stuff that was in my trunk (things he left there when he moved in with me for a month ) and still no response. Why is he blocking me from his life? I told him I understand why we broke up but I still want him in my life. Its been 4 days since my last text to him.\n\nSince the breakup Ive been crying everyday but still being able to attend class and such..I do miss him alot. I know the relationship wont work with him having to be in that city for years and me moving in 6 months by myself now but I want him in my life.", "summary": "ex bf wont text me or call me back even to get his own stuff back even though the break up was his choice.."}
{"id": "t3_3qwspq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a prank on my high school", "post": "So some back story:\nI'm a senior in high school who has never once been in any kind of trouble. No detentions, suspensions, or expulsions on my record. An absolute clean slate.\n\nAs it being senior year and all, I decided to step outside that safe zone by pranking the school. \n\nNow the story:\nI'm with my friends when I come up with the idea \"hey, let's put slender notes around the school on Halloween.\" So we plan times for drawing out the notes and when to place them. We talked them all over the school last night after our marching band practice. \n\nThe next morning, I watch everyone react to the notes. Some are getting strange looks, some are laughing, and some are taking pictures with/of the notes. I find this great to see people really enjoying it. \n\n3 periods into the day, I get called to the dean's office. I get there and our dean of students asks me (and I quote) \"are you a part of these fliers around school that are causing an uproar?\" I'm just like wut, and ask him if he meant the slender notes. I had to explain to him what the notes were and why they were a funny Halloween prank. \n\n4th period rolls around and I'm walking to class with a detention slip that says \"reason: pranking\". \n\nI regret nothing.", "summary": "My friends and I prank the school for Halloween. We receive detentions and I regret nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2rk5q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex [18F] 1 year, do you ever fully get over it and not care anymore?", "post": "Okay so we dated for a year, I found out she was using me to get close to my brother and then was cheating on me with him our last few months. We broke up, shes been out of my life for almost a year now.\n\nDo you ever fully get over it? I dont think about it as much but every time i hear about my brother I just get so fucking angry and bitter. When I get close with girls now i just dont really trust them anymore. I know im more mature and healthier and I don't get bedridden or depressed from what happened anymore, but I still have that nagging feeling from it. I still get dreams about her and wake up pissed and sad for the rest of the day. I still dont really like myself and dont feel lovable. I was just wondering if anyone else went through this and if you ever TRULY get fully over it, or if its just kind of a weight adults learn to carry.", "summary": "Do you ever truly not care about past cheating or do you just get strong enough to deal with it. And if you did completely get over it how did you manage to do that."}
{"id": "t3_yhqar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Update] Reddit, I need your help with some family stuff.", "post": "I am the one kid who posted about his parent's looking through my Facebook. Here is the link to the original post: \n\nI couldn't deal with my parent's because of their constant lying and yelling at me, so I decided to lash out. I then did so only to my mother because she is the one who has done the most to me, and when I blew up on her I brought up every single thing I could remember of what she's done to me. The argument went on for quite awhile, but then I decided to leave and go to my friend's empty house while he is in New York. I then called my friend and he came and picked me up from my house. The next day I try and talk to her about what I said and I needed to just finish the fight. However, my mom is not talking to me. She refuses to stay and talk and instead goes out. Reddit, how can I get her to talk to me?", "summary": "Fought with my mom, went to friend's house that night and slept over. Next day she won't talk to me and I want to finish the fight. How do I talk to her?"}
{"id": "t3_15tzix", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Tonight is the night, I'm need some advice to get past this.", "post": "It's the night that my long distance relationship is coming to an end.\n\nI did post about this the other day, yet I ended up deleting it as I tried to collect my thoughts.\n\nThe other man in the our relationship is now fact. This has been going on for over a month now. And I've decided to make my stand this evening. I admit these facts are going to help me get over her, but my feelings for this girl were (are) quite strong.\n\nWhen this is over, does anyone know what steps I should be taking to make sure I handle this best way possible?\n\nI give the best of luck to everyone else here.\nYou all deserve much better, especially than I.", "summary": "Had a moment of clarity, my GF of 1\u00bd years has been cheating, tonight I'm going to end this. Has anyone got advice from here on out? I'm quite a mess at the moment."}
{"id": "t3_3evjq3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching \"True Detective\" at the hospital. (Minor spoiler warning, possibly nsfw)", "post": "This happened today.  I'm hanging out with the wife in a private room of a hospital.  Nurses come into the room routinely for specific tasks.  Start of shift vitals, meds, or when we hit the button for help. To kill time we are watching True Detective season 2 on the laptop.  We have the volume up pretty high because I'm hard of hearing.  (Spoiler alert) We get to a scene where Vince Vaughn gets into a heated argument with his wife and she ends with \"Suck your own dick\".  The  nurse comes into our room, gives me a dirty look and asks my wife if everything is OK.  She had no other nurse task, but to check whether or not I was trying to get my wife to blow me at the hospital.  We have been here about a week and only today did they start randomly coming in to check on us, this includes the next shift of nurses.", "summary": "Watched TV too loudly, nurse thought I was forcing my wife to give me a blow job."}
{"id": "t3_rj5mv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to learn high school physics in 1 month, where to start?", "post": "So, I live in Finland where high school students can (and the majority will) skip almost all physics courses that the schools offer. \n\nThis I did, but that was because i didn't realize that I would actually be needing it to get into the school I am aiming for.\n\nSo now high school is over for me, and the entrance exam for the college/university I want to get into is in 1 month and 10 days. The exam is in two parts: mathematics and physics.\n\nMath won't be a problem, I scored high in all tests, but the fact that I didn't study physics will cause problems.\n\nI won't kid myself and think that I will actually be able to cram 3 years worth of physics into my head in 1 month, but what are the main things I should learn so that I don't just sit down and look at the test without having any idea of what to answer? Also, what are some good websites to do this on? (I don't have the money/time to get textbooks)\n\n[Here is an old entrance exam from 2006 in English \\[PDF\\]](", "summary": "What are the best resources for me to learn 3 years worth of high school physics, in 1 month?"}
{"id": "t3_vayuj", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Puppy Attention and Human Guilt, What to do?", "post": "Hi All! My wife and I need some help sorting out a balance between lifestyle and puppy.\n\nWe have a Beagle (Needle) that is a few months shy of a year old. We got her at 2 months so we've had her a decent chunk of time. So far she's been about as good as we can ask for: she doesn't chew on non-toys (except the remote controls, yes plural now. Dunno why she loves those), she has been 100% house trained since about 4 months, and she never barks or howls. The only semi-issue behavior wise (and I've posted here before about this) is that she gets nippy sometimes still.\n\nAnyway, here is the issue: My wife and I both work 9-5. We come home for an hour around 12:30 to take Needle out and give her a bit of a walk. We both knew that Needle would have to be alone 8ish hours a day, but we let her roam the kitchen and give her different types of toys to keep her busy while we're gone. \n\nWhenever there is something that we could do afterwork (go to the theatre, go to the gym, hang out with friends at the coffee shop, etc...), we typically decide that it's our responsibility to stay home and give Needle attention and exercise since she's already home alone for 8 hours a day. \n\nSo my question for all of you is, is there any reasonable way or amount of time that it would be not cruel to leave Needle alone for 2 hours on some Tuesday and Thursday evenings, or some other solution that some of you might have used? We've considered getting her a dog-buddy, but she doesn't do very well with other dogs (also posted here before). Is there an age when it might be more okay to start leaving her on her own more?", "summary": "My wife and I would like to go out sometimes on weeknights without feeling guilty about leaving Needle alone for even more time during the day. Is there a reasonable way to do that?"}
{"id": "t3_t05hc", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Failed miserably my freshman year. Need advice moving forward.", "post": "I'm about to wrap up my freshman year at a large state university. Long story short, I slacked off, failed multiple classes and will almost certainly finish with a GPA < 2.0. Drugs and alcohol weren't a problem, I simply tried to get by in college doing the same amount of work I did in high school (almost none) and it didn't work out. Next month I will probably receive a notice saying I've been academically dismissed from the university. \n\nI want to know what my options are to get my life back on track. I know my best bet is to apply to a community college, get straight A's on an Associates program, and re-apply to my old university. I would also like another opportunity to get into different universities, namely NYU, which I was rejected from last year. \n\nI know that after getting 40-60 credits, universities typically don't ask to see high school grades. Is there any way to hide my grades from this year as well? I really want a 3.5 or higher GPA, and if the F grades I got this year transfer over to another university, that will be impossible.\n\nIf anyone else has failed out of a college and gotten back on track, any other input would be appreciated.", "summary": "Failed out after freshman year, is there any way to erase the year's grades from my academic record? Any other advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1ufhgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (M33) identified a bad habit of mine (F27) last night. Looking for advice on how to stop it before we resent each other.", "post": "Last night my bf and I were discussing something (I can't remember what) and I brought up an issue that we had discussed a few days ago. Without going into detail, he had made a decision without me which we had agreed to do together and I had felt a bit betrayed. I also was angry that control of the situation had been taken out of my hands involuntarily. Basically I was REALLY pissed off. When I told him how I felt he immediately admitted that he had made a mistake and apologised profusely on the day of the event. \n\nAnyway, last night it somehow got mentioned again and all of a sudden I was seeing red. I told him again how I felt about it and he said he'd already apologised, so now I was the one making a big deal for nothing (we had been having a really great night up until this point). I got even angrier because I believed he was trivialising my feelings.\n\nThe fact is, I ruined a perfectly good night by bringing up something that had already been discussed and resolved. I was completely satisfied with his response on the day of the event, so why did I need him to apologise and grovel for forgiveness again? \n\nAs we were lying there in the dark with me sulking and apologising and him giving me a big bear hug, he said, 'Don't worry, I think all women have a tendency to bring up old problems during arguments. I don't understand it, but it's like it's written into your DNA or something...'. I wanted to argue, but I can think of at least 10 times where I have been in an argument and done this. It's pointless and counterproductive and I know I do it when my emotions get the best of me.", "summary": "I ruined a great night by reopening old wounds. "}
{"id": "t3_3bkofg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by purchasing a tablet.", "post": "To preface my story: I am an 18 y/o male who will be heading off to his freshman year of college this fall.  Now, I am very excited to begin my learning experience, but I am also a little worried about being organized and efficient.  I decided that purchasing a Samsung Galaxy Note Pro would greatly help me in my quest to become a sage for this world.  (Taking notes on a tablet?! F yeah.)\n\nSo, it was just after midnight and I was still recovering from a loss on an ebay auction to get said tablet.  In desperation, I jumped over to amazon in an attempt to find a better deal. I wanted this damn thing and I was going to get it.  And...what was this? The tablet, for less than on ebay?  It was too good to be true.  I triple checked the status of the tablet to be sure it wasn't broken and made my purchase. Hell. Yes.\n\nFour days pass and the tablet is here!  Except...where is the pen?  The tablet comes with a pen.  This tablet doesn't even have a pen slot..?  So, I fly to the computer and start soaring about the internet to figure out where I was wronged.  Surely this is a great mistake.  The only mistake, however, was made by me.  In my late night foolishness, I purchased a Samsung Galaxy **Tab** Pro in place of the Samsung Galaxy **Note** Pro that I wanted.  Fuck.\n\nBut I can return it...right? Wrong.\n\nBecause I purchased it on Amazon marketplace, this tablet wasn't going anywhere.  So here I sit with a tablet I cannot use, over $350 in the hole.\n\nDon't give in to late night temptations, whether they're in the fridge or on a computer screen.", "summary": "One word costs me over $350 and a headache from hell."}
{"id": "t3_31k4mx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By sexting girlfriend through snapchat [NSFW]", "post": "This happened a mere 10 minutes ago. So I am sexting my girlfriend through snapchat. Fun times. And so I decided to take an artsy video capture of me jerking my tool and send it to her. For the art factor to be included, I decided to use water, as I was showering at that point. Well stupid move. Phones are quite good friends with water. What ended up happening was the water made my phone spaz out. Literally went crazy. So I cleaned it and closed the video. I thought things were fine and dandy, so I continued doing what I was doing previously. Only to then check my account, and realize that it had been posted on my snapchat story. If you guys don't know what it is, it pretty much allows anyone you added to see what you posted there. I panicked. My initial thoughts were \"WHAT IF SOME GIRL FROM MY SCHOOL SAW MY DICK AND IS NOW TELLING EVERYONE\". Luckily only a male friend of mine saw it, and I know this because it tells you whoever opened your story. I deleted it right after, so no one had to see me furiously jacking my dick. This friend, we will name him Bob for safety measures. So I see that Bob saw it, as I mentioned earlier, but maybe he will ignore it I thought. Nope, he tweets out \"I rate that snap story lmao\" and so I knew that I had to talk to him. After a long exchange of direct messages, we just laughed it out. Nonetheless I am still very embarrassed that my friend saw me jerking it, at least only he saw it, and he didn't show anyone. If any of my other friends saw it I swear I would move schools and never show my face again. I was embarrassed at first but now its just a hilarious story to laugh about at parties.", "summary": "Accidentally posted video of me jerking my tool on snapchat story, got lucky only one friend saw it. Embarrassment and some good laughter ensues."}
{"id": "t3_22fb4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] boyfriend won't have drunk sex with me [23F]", "post": "We're in love  with each other, and we've been together since August. After we started dating, I texted him, drunk, to come over for sex, but he held back. He only agreed to make out with me after I got him drunk, but even after that he wouldn't go further. \n\nAt a friend's party, we were both blackout drunk, and my friend put us in her room with a condom [knowing that we had not had sex yet]. He again refused to have sex with me. \n\nI got worried and asked him about it, and he said that he just absolutely won't have sex with a girl if she's \"anything past tipsy.\" I think he has issues recognizing consent.\n\nWe had  sex for the first time (sober), and we are enjoying each other.. A lot. But even now, after dating for a long time, sometimes I want us to be able to go to a party, get drunk, and.. Enjoy each other later. But he won't.", "summary": "Sex has been great, but when I'm drunk, he won't do me."}
{"id": "t3_14uy7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [f,26] continue editing my spiteful friend's [f, 51] novel?", "post": "I met this women, let's call her Sue, around July of this year at an author's group. We quickly became friends and would work on our books together. About a couple of months ago, I agreed to help her edit her book since she wants to self-publish on Amazon. I wasn't working, so I was able to sit down with her, read it aloud, and help her with mistakes. I've already edited the book completely once and a few weeks ago we were starting on a \"final run-through.\"\n\nWell I recently got a job that has taken much of my time. I told her that I wouldn't be able to sit down with her and edit the final 7 chapters because my schedule is so hectic, but I could do them on my own. Apparently, this angered her because I got uninvited from her birthday party and she wrote several spiteful public Facebook messages about how my friendship is worthless, my word means nothing, and that she was counting on me and I failed her. I tried to text her and she just ignored me. This all happened a few days ago.\n\nToday, I checked my inbox and see that I have two messages from her: one a confidentiality agreement she wants me to sign and the other asking me if i'm going to finish editing the last 7 chapters of her book.\n\nAt this point, I am looking for advice on what to do. Please keep in my mind that she has a copy of my book. Should I continue to edit her book? Should I agree to her confidentiality agreement (which I never agreed upon before)? Should I respond? Or just ignore her?", "summary": "I had been helping editing my friend's novel and now she is angry with me because I have a job and don't have as much time to help her. She ignored me, uninvited me from her birthday, and wrote mean posts about me. Now, she is asking for my help again. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_z6b6u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend is upset with me, so I need a second opinion from reddit. Am I in the wrong with this?", "post": "My girlfriend Sarah is a part of my \"social circle\" so to speak. She's friends with all of my friends, and we all get along. So last week, my friend Matt asks if we can talk. He says that he thinks Sarah has been flirting with him lately, and he doesn't feel comfortable about it. I tell him it's cool, I'll talk with her about it.\n\nSo I forgot about it, and just today I find out they slept together the next night. I'm pissed, so I call up Matt and confront him, he said he just gave in, and I told him to fuck off. Sarah comes home and I ask her about it, she says yes she did sleep with him. I get pissed and tell her I need to think about our relationship.\n\nNext thing you know, SHE'S pissed with ME! She says I have no reason to be mad, it was just a one night fling, and that she's not married, and she can do whatever she wants. She got pissed and went to stay with a friend. And this morning I wake up to a message from her friend saying the same bullshit she was.", "summary": "girlfriend cheats on me with friend, gets mad at me for being upset"}
{"id": "t3_2l7k9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my boyfriend [34 M] 9.5 month relationship -- no I love you", "post": "I am having a hard time because I said I love you at month 5 and meant it. At the time he said he wasn't there yet but that he cared for me and wanted to be with me. He said he saw a future with us. He is good to me and I pay attention to his actions and not his words. Though, now approaching a year it is worrying me that 1) he hasn't said it because he doesn't love me 2) I feel at this time in life you have enough experience to know 3) I have been told not to bring it up to him and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2uihce", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[NSFW] TIFU by trying to open a bottle of wine.", "post": "This actually happened last night, so hopefully this still qualifies as 'weekend'. Throwaway because mutual friends use reddit.\n\nSo, my roommate was going out on a date, and to paraphrase his words, the odds of him finally getting laid were now entering the domain of possibility. I had trouble falling asleep so I thought I'd have some wine and watch a movie instead. I grabbed a wine from the mini-fridge in my room but discovered that I had left the cork-screw in the kitchen.\n\nAs I went downstairs, I discovered that someone had left the lights on in the living room, adjacent to the kitchen. As I reached around the corner to find the light switch, I heard a yelp of surprise. Startled, I peeked into the room and discovered my roommate on the sofa, pants down and his date suspended in an acrobatic position over the arm-rest. \n\nClearly, things had heated up too quickly and they could not be bothered to actually walk 10 more feet through the living room into his private chambers. Speaking of privates, his dick was just on the point of entry, when I had so rudely interrupted. Time must have speeded up for a moment because I have never seen an erection shrivel up so fast. The girl ran out so fast that she might have broken sound barrier.\n\nUnder the double death-glare of his bulging red eyes and blue balls, I muttered an apology and beat a hasty retreat. My good morning greeting was met with a stony response and I'm not sure when we'll start speaking again. \n\n*PSA: If you don't live alone, please, please, please make your way into your own rooms and leave the communal area in a pristine condition.", "summary": "Went to fetch a corkscrew, cork-blocked my virgin roommate instead."}
{"id": "t3_p7va0", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I have an interview today and have a question concerning etiquette.", "post": "I am currently employed full time, but I was contacted by a company that wants me to come in for an interview today.  I know the guy interviewing me, because he interviewed me once before to be his replacement at a different company.  At his new company he needs to build a team, and when he found out I declined the job offer to replace him he wants to bring me in on his team.\n\nHowever, I am fairly happy with my current job.  I am being paid well *enough* and I get along well with my co-workers and like the office atmosphere here.\n\nSo basically, the only way I would be interested in taking this new job, if an offer is even extended, is if they will pay me substantially more money.  I talked to the guy who will be interviewing me, but he said he was not privy to how much they have budgeted for the position I would take.  I need to instead ask the woman who contacted me, who I'm assuming is his superior.\n\nMy question is: would it be rude or inappropriate for me to e-mail her inquiring about the expected salary for this position?  I don't want to have to come up with an excuse to leave work early today, drive all the way downtown and waste my evening interviewing for a job that I could know I won't even take if they aren't paying enough.  And if that's a bit of a faux pas, would it be bad to at least tell her what I'm expecting salary wise in order for me to move, and she can tell me if that's possible or not?\n\nI value my and everyone else's time, and I just suspect that this company won't be willing to offer me enough to move jobs.", "summary": "Is it rude to ask for the expected salary for a position before I even interview for it?"}
{"id": "t3_364s7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] starting to fall for my [20M] FWB. Any advice?", "post": "I met my fwb at school and we'd been friends for a few months and we began to be fwb the last month of school. I had just gotten out of a crap relationship of 8 months and said I don't want any type of relationship with anyone for a little while, as to be by myself and find who I am. It has only been a little over a month but since we knew each other and were good friends before all of it, I'm really starting to like him but I'm afraid to act on it. We're even going to get a hotel room soon to just freely have sex without any disturbances. We're also very similar people, often saying things the exact second the other person was saying it. Any advice?", "summary": "starting to fall for my fwb who im really compatible with"}
{"id": "t3_2m4per", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Coworker [20ishF] said she had a dream about me [M/35] getting engaged to her friend [20ish/F] and she \"DOES NOT\" approve. WTF?", "post": "Okay, so coworker girl, let's call her \"Debra\", tells me this morning: \"I had a dream about you.  You met my friend [let's call her Sally] and --  two days later -- you guys are engaged.  I could not believe you!\"\n\nLater, she explained that two days is not nearly enough time, and that, because of this, she has some pretty serious concerns.\n\nThe whole time, I'm just like \"Umm...\"\n\nAnyway, so, r/relationships, my questions are as follows:\n\n1) What's up with Debra?  What does this dream mean?  Does she think I'm some sort of weirdo/predator out there convincing naive young girls to marry me?\n\n2)  Should I report this to HR?  Debra is a bit of a wierdo herself.  I'm definitely a little creeped out.\n\n3)  When I asked her to clarify her thoughts on this, she said \"Don't even!\"  I totally don't even know what that means. r/relationships, what does that mean?\n\n4) I searched \"Sally\" out of Facebook.  She looks okay.  And frankly, I'm kind of lonely.  Should I add her?", "summary": "Young girl at work has weird dream about me.  I'm not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1i5zku", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cut me off? Your feet will pay!", "post": "Everyday I spend a minimum of 2 hours using public transport, with a minimum of 2 transfers from train/bus/subway.\n\nBecause of the size of the stations and going from bus to subway or subway to train, there is quite a distance to walk and I want to cover it quickly.\n\nNow, I'm fairly tall compared to most people in this country and hence I walk with a large stride. I also walk quite quickly (much to my wife's annoyance haha).\n\nBut what irks me to the upmost is when these little people with their short legs cut me off and walk slowly in front of me, especially when talking loudly (they are like macaws here) to their friends or on the phone. So my petty revenge for these people is to either step, heavily, on the back/heel of their shoe or kick underneath their shoe so they take an extra large step.\n\nThe look of pain/surprise is amazing.", "summary": "people cut me off when walking in public transport stations, I step on the back of their feet or kick their feet to have my petty revenge."}
{"id": "t3_2u09zt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my friend use my phone", "post": "So I'm on a road trip with one of my best friends.  I'm driving, and I've been hardcore about texting and driving since they had the", "summary": "let my friend use my phone, he called my boss a cum slut.  I'm leaving him in the middle of nowhere."}
{"id": "t3_21ddgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my now ex [32F] need outside perspective", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nShes now back with her ex of 55 years old. \n\nLong story short, she was banging him before me while he was married. \n\nThe marriage is over, and she is with him now. After talking trash about him being a republican conservtive. \n\nShe moved in with him and is not paying rent though she lied to me about it multiple times. First she said she was paying 300 then she said 200 (Inconsistancy) She constantly lied to me multiple times...\n\nWhen we were split up, I actually went over to the guys house and had sex on multiple ocasions. \n\nPretty pissed off at this point. I feel like I dodged a bullet, and shes a gold digger..... I know we are split up. I just want other peoples ideas.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_47xxdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26m) pregnant ex (28f) wants to rebuild our relationship. I don't", "post": "My ex and I were together for alomos a year and half. We were planning on moving in together. Five months ago my ex and I discovered that she was 9 weeks pregnan. We were elated but also very scared that we were about to have a child. I wanted to take couples counseling because I believed that it would make our relationship  stronger and she agreed that it would be best for our future family. \n\nLiterally the same day she yelled at me that if I wanted couples counseling than I must think that our relationship is going downhill and the only reason I feel like trying to repair it is because she is pregnant. She told me that she was breaking up with me and to never try to contact her again.\n\nI left but understood that it was probably the hormones. I came back the next day thinking that things would have calmed down but she told me that if I ever came back she would call the police. I called and texted but she blocked me. I called her parents and friends hoping they would help but told me they felt like they needed to take their daughter's/friend's side. This went on for over a month until I stopped and accepted it. \n\nFor the next couple of months I waited, hoping that she would call me but she never did. I fell out of love and began to resent her.\n\nLast week she called me to invite me over to her place to talk. I went and she acted as if nothing happened and as if we were still in a relationship. She wants us to rekindle our relationship because she loves me and she wants us to be a family and move in together. I  explained that I dont love her anymore. That the only reason I went there was because she is pregnant with our child. I want to be there for her but only because she is the mother. \n\nShe cried and begged me to forgive her. I do forgive her but I will never forget what she did. She wants to start over but I don't. \n\nHow wrong am I here? Be honest with me, am I an asshole? How do I be there for her and our child without starting a relationship with her?", "summary": "Pregnant ex broke up with me after I suggested couples counseling. I assumed it was the hormones but she threatened to call the police if I tried seeing her. She never answered my calls and her family refused to help me. This went on for months and I fell out of love for her. She wants to rekindle our relationship but I don't."}
{"id": "t3_4yz1pv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [19/F] thinks that my girlfriend [29/F] is too old for me [19/M] but she might just be jealous", "post": "So my girlfriend Jenna is a lot older than me, we met when she was my TA and we have been dating for 9 months. We only started dating officially after the class ended because even though we liked each other, she wasn't allowed to. I wasn't really good with girls so I was a virgin but Jenna didn't even make fun of me and now we have lots of amazing sex.\n\nShe's really hot, and smart, and I like being with her a lot. I don't have many friends because I don't get along with people my age very well, but this one girl Lisa and I are kind of friends. She told me last month that I should be dating someone my own age because it's weird and people are gossiping about it. I don't really care what people think. Jenna is really fun to be around and we both love each other, and I might even want to marry her soon. Someone told me a while ago that Lisa has a crush on me but I didn't believe it then. Lisa told me again today that I need to stop dating Jenna because I'm too immature for her. Is it possible that she does and she's just jealous of Jenna? How do I make her stop talking to me about it?", "summary": "My girlfriend is older than me and I think my friend is jealous. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_52uhn5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently pulling the alarm of the fire alarm in my school", "post": "So this didn't necessarily happen today but when I was a freshman in high school. (Sorry it bothers me too when it isn't \"today\" but it's quite the story)\n\nAnyways... It was during class on safety day (for those who don't know we just practice drills like fire, tornado, and lockdown) and after a fire drill my classmates and I were lining up outside our teachers room. She has a fire alarm right next to her door and guess who was dumb enough to mess with that? Well there was a protective cover over the fire alarm and I was try to figure out whether it was glass or plastic so I lifted the cover up. All of a sudden it started beeping really loudly and it scared the hell out of me. All my classmates immediately stared at me and the other classes sharing the same hallway as my class started peeking their heads out all confused. Safe to say it was the most embarrassing moment of my life, so far.... Also I didn't figure out whether the damn cover was plastic or glass!!", "summary": "messed around with an alarm at school and got teased about it for 4 months. The up side was I finally became popular. The down side was I was popular just not in the way I expected..."}
{"id": "t3_ebgym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my Dad has invested shit loads of time and money in Dubli and I think it is a crock of shit. Is it?", "post": "Reddit, I have had people proposition me with all sorts of crap in my life and it was dam easy to see right through it. I have had a small proportion of friends over the last couple of years wanting me to join in on these \"massive business prospects\" where I can make \"huge amounts of money with hard work and a little bit of my own cash\"\n\nFor example, the most recent one was a friend who was on the cuff of getting involved in [ACN New Zealand] I humoured him, went to the presentation night at his house, sat down and was not blinded by the douche who tried to convince me I was not prepared to make big $$$$$$.\n\nSo this guy pulls out a bit of paper that looks like a pyramid sturcture laying down on its side. I call bullshit, wait for them to leave, sit down with my friend and tell him I will support him whatever he wants to do in life but this is one of those things that I will not stand behind. \n\nNow, my Dad, who is cannot accept a word of constuctive feedback, has invested in [Dubli] (He is located in New Zealand - Dubli is relatively new) pouring thousands upon thousands into promoting a company that doesn't seem to give anything back.\n\nI called total bullshit after doing some research and getting past the forums littered with Dubli promoters (incluiding many threads on reddit)\nI have only got so far in my search and I need hard evidence that helps me conclude if this is bullshit or not.\n\nExcuse the formatting, punctuation and grammar. I am typing this out in a super small Google Chrome window while I sit at work.", "summary": "My father has invested thousands of dollars in Dubli and I want him to stop. Is Dubli a crock of shit and if so how do I show him the light and get my father to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_53es2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my step-sister of 2 years [19 F], she is having a child and is choosing a terrible name. She asked my opinion and is now pissed at me.", "post": "My step-sister and I have never been close. She has been in trouble with the law several times, is a known meth addict, and constantly borrows money from my dad. Furthermore, she has become pregnant and the family is 99% sure her husband is not the father, as he was locked up around the time the baby would of been conceived. However, my step mother is the enabling type of parent, and sees nothing wrong with how she lives her life.\n\nRecently, after her husband came home from jail, they have announced the name of the baby. They are naming the soon to be baby girl Jenisus, pronounced like the book of the Bible. \n\nNormally, I would roll my eyes, but my step-sister begged the family for criticism. She wanted us to tell her what we really thought. Most of the family just enabled her, but I was honestly sick of her living in such a fantasy world. \n\nI told her that the name makes no sense, has no known origin, is hard to pronounce, and will cause social issues for the child. She definitely did not like my answer, and is now telling the family what a terrible person I am. Furthermore, my open criticism has sparked a fight between my step-mother and father. She wants him to make me apologize, but he has held his ground in requiring me to do so.\n\nIn the interest of saving face and helping my father, how do I placate my step-sisters ego and still not seem like a wuss?", "summary": "Step-sister asked for open criticism on her childs name. I told her it was a terrible name and now she is pissed at me."}
{"id": "t3_393667", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NJ, USA] Advice for dealing with a magazine scam now filing debt through a collection agency, and is their claim legitimate?", "post": "Four years ago, I was naive and fell for a magazine scam. Once I discovered the nature of the transaction, I immediately called to cancel it. The representative was resistant but eventually he allowed me to cancel my account, and I received a refund on the payment. Still they would repeatedly call and try to trick me into re-enrolling into another payment plan despite me saying I wished to be on their DNC list. Today, I received a letter from a debt collection agency saying that a magazine company has filed a claim to collect $1098.90. The rep at the collection agency said I could either settle for half of that amount or attempt to dispute it while waiving my right to settle. \n\nThe rep stated that refunds from the company could be evidence that the company cancelled my account and no money is owed. My credit card statements show refunds for all payments made to these companies, but the rep is telling me that the company filing this claim is not any of the ones that show up on my statement. Now I'm really skeptical because this company does not show up on my statements at all. In the span of four years, my card has been charged three times with all three charges being refunded. The rep from the collection agency stated that they filed on breach of contract for no payment on a 24-month payment plan. However, my issue is that I was never charged these payments on my card, and any charges that were made were refunded not by my credit card company but by the magazine company itself.\nI'm scared of this hurting my credit score, but is this a legitimate claim on their part? If anyone has dealt with something similar, I'd appreciate any and all advice on handling this type of case.", "summary": "Got tricked into a magazine scam four years ago. Cancelled account immediately but am now receiving notice from debt collection agency for charges from a company that supposedly (according to collection agency rep) never even charged my credit card. "}
{"id": "t3_m9efj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help with my media collection and hard drives. Any advice on what to do?", "post": "Hey /askreddit!", "summary": "15.1 TB of space, but running out quickly. [Pic here.]  Need backup advice and RAID information."}
{"id": "t3_2ef8sr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F], upset with my mother [65F] over Facebook post.", "post": "My grandmother died today.  I found out when I opened Facebook and had messages from a close friend saying \"sorry for your loss\".  My mother posted about it to Facebook about four hours before I saw it.  No missed calls to my home phone or cell and no texts, she made no attempt to tell me in any way.\n\nI'm... Angry.  Plain and simple.  This is not the way any person should be given bad news.  To be fair, we have known my grandmother would be going soon, its been a long battle with a dibilitating disease and short battle with untreatable cancer.  But my mother and I have a close enough relationship that I was expecting a phone call at the least.\n\nI recognize that she lost her mother, and that she's in pain.  Maybe she didn't want to call?  So I texted and told her that I loved her and was thinking of her.  She responds her thanks and tells me that she went out to dinner with friends and is doing well.  So now I'm even more angry that she appears \" just fine\" and couldn't even bother to let me know what happened.\n\nI would like to say something to her, after an appropriate amount of time, to let her know that her actions hurt me and left me feeling unimportant to her.  Is this a terrible idea?  I feel rediculously selfish thinking of my hurt feelings when she just lost her mother.  If I did something like this, how exactly would I go about it?  What would I say?  \n\nMy other thought process is revenge and treating her as she treated me.  My family has some news to share, I'm pregnant, and I'm ready to let her find out on Facebook rather than tell her face to face/in a special way as I'd originally planned.  I'm sure that's just the anger talking but she kinda would deserve it.  Alright reddit what do I do?", "summary": "Mom posted my Grandmothers death to Facebook.  Made no attempt to contact or inform me otherwise.  I'm hurt and wondering if I should say something."}
{"id": "t3_2h1582", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28 F] can't get over [34 M] for a year, what am I doing wrong?", "post": "I fell in love with this man three years ago. He led me on for over a year until I made it clear things couldn't go on like that and he said he was never interested in me. He continued leading me on however. Nothing ever happened between us but when a man looks at your with those seemingly in love eyes every time you meet (and you meet often) and he wants to be friends, etc, it's easy to forget he once told you he wasn't interested.\n\nAnyway, I last saw him nearly one year ago and I'm still not over it. As in, if you'd force me to look deep inside my heart and honestly evaluate my feelings for him, I'd say I still loved him. People around me get over their breakups and broken hearts way faster than I am getting over this crush of mine. What am I doing wrong?\n\nP.S. I look at Nina Dobrev who broke up with Ian Somerhalder and is handling all of this so well! She's still working with him! And she seems to be coping very well! How do these people do it?", "summary": "Can't get over a man who broke my heart, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3kjxp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] It feels most people want to just hook up, but I want too much intimacy for that", "post": "I feel weird I guess. Ive always wanted to hook up with others when I was younger (but never did), but now that I get older, I feel like it's not worth it, in a sense. I mean sure, sex is sex, but I really only enjoy it if I get really close to the person. I learn them, how they react, respond, etc. But get really intimate too, and foreplay, kissing, etc.\n\nOtherwise it just feels, meaningless, is that what everyone else feels? Like they don't want to feel attachment? I feel stupid because I feel that's how many people get into relationships in the first place. But I don't even really want to do that now I guess, I hear too much shit. \n\nI guess jealousy is part of it, doesnt feel great if it's not exclusive, I feel like just another fish in the barrel. \n\nI guess what i'm asking is, what do others do? Am I looking too much into this? I mean, I suppose I'm a bit more happy being single and not fucking around. Sex wouldn't solve my problem of being lonely, and I realize that. But it's just tough sometimes, everyone one talks about relationships/sex, yet I'm really the only one in my group of friends who doesn't deal with that. Should I just take a chance from now on and try having more sex? I feel I'm missing out, and yet at the same time, I guess I just don't care enough to do much about it.", "summary": "I don't like most people, unless I really get to know them."}
{"id": "t3_2un75t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/m] am weirded out by my boyfriends [24/m] strange past.", "post": "My boyfriend has done some particularly... unsavory things in regards to intimate encounters with others/a lot of others. I don't want to judge him for what he has done because it has nothing to do with me, I just feel like I didn't snag someone special because of what he has done and what he would do if he were single. In the relationship he acts nothing like his single self. Like, even if i wanted to do the things he has done he wouldnt want to do them with me.\n\nIs it wrong for me not to like them for the things they did/would do when they are single?", "summary": "Boyfriend has kinky unsavory past, acts like a normal vanilla person in relationship and I feel like he isnt special because what he has done and what he wont do with me."}
{"id": "t3_3062ak", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Have you ever made a crazy career change that worked?", "post": "I've been in the corporate arena for over decade and made a good living every year. This past year I took a new job after getting and Mba and it was awful, 12 hour days, terrible culture, ego-maniacal management. I quit, took the summer off, end of summer gf has a crazy stroke out of nowhwere, rehabbed to baseline and now I am in the process of trying to figure my life back out.\n\nI have an offer to be a mushroom farmer for exotic mushrooms. Pay is probably a quarter of what I used to make. But I'm really interested in mycology and the job let's me work outside and on a beautiful farm.\n\nDo I just suck it up and go back to Dronestown in the office or take a chance do something interesting but not making much money?", "summary": "Have you ever taken a crazy career change and had it work out?"}
{"id": "t3_29to1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [24F] justifiably angry with my boyfriend [24M] of around a year, because he seems to care more about MtG than me?", "post": "Basically, the issue is this : we are planning to go on holiday together in September. It will be our first holiday together, excepting a weekend break with friends early in our relationship. I've asked him to book any week in September off work, so I can book the place where we will stay.\n\nToday he started asking if it could run over into October time, which I didn't really want, because I worry that touristy places we'd like to go to may close because it's out of season, but I don't mind too much. I ask him why it has to be that late, and if it's because of work. He then tells me that there are a lot of Magic events happening in September and he wants to go to basically all of them. One of them is an online event.\n\nI feel like wanting to do every event is selfish and not putting us first, but himself first instead. I get that Magic is an involved hobby, and that Pre releases are a big thing, but it's annoying to have to plan a holiday around them, especially since they fall on weekends. I wouldn't mind if he would compromise and only go to to a few, our holiday will only be a week long. \n\nHe already goes to a lot of Magic stuff, and I don't usually mind, but this will be our first holiday together and I wanted it to just be about us, and not come second to his hobby. He asked me if he could even go to some Magic events WHILST we were on holiday, which I find to be completely ridiculous and upsetting that he would even ask that. \n\nAm I being ridiculous?", "summary": "Boyfriend is putting MTG events over our holiday."}
{"id": "t3_26w57e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] dealing with ex [20F]", "post": "I am beyond confused people..\n\nI dated this girl for about 2 years in high school. We had been friends since elementary school. She was my best friend for the first two years in hs and we got together the last two. \n\nI was a wreck when she ended it at the beginning of 2012 and had taken up a lot of destructive tendecies. It completely destroyed my self esteem and identity and I only seemingly recovered late last year. Even now, i'm  not the same person I was and I really work hard to keep myself in a positive mindset so I never have to experience  the severe depression I went through.\n\nLooking  back I know it was a really dysfunctional relationship and the majority of it.was my fault. I was controlling, manipulative, and kind of an asshole.\n\nRegardless, it's been nearly two years, we've gone to seperate colleges, and have only communicated 2 or 3 times since we've  broken up. Even when we had 3 classes together in HS she completely ignored me after the fact.\n\nThis morning, she texted me and I basically nicely told her to get to the point instead of beating around the bush and asking how i was, etc.\n\nShe wanted to ask me if we could be friends again. I asked her why now? What made you decide this? She said she'll tell.me if we meet up. I told her we could meet for coffee, but now i'm not so sure. I've worked hard to get where i am and even though i've had other relationships after part of me knows that a large part of my  personality was built on the foundation  that remained after we broke up.\n\nWhat does she want? What should I do?", "summary": "HS sweetheart wants to meet up and i'm lost. What do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xbbcd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M17] Feeling infidelitous concerning my GF[18]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now and I've recently been having more than average thoughts of infidelity and the reason is both simple and stupid. \n\nMy girlfriend and I are both very active members of our community and work as well as go to school, we'd been friends for quite some time before dating but after six months I feel like we've hit a wall. We still hang out and see movies and go on dates and all that jazz but we haven't reached any level of intimacy passed kissing and the occasional trip to second base with no indication of progressing further. Due to this, quite idiotically and selfishly, I've been thinking about other gals I interact with and whether or not I could form an intimate only bond with them and exchange sexual related favors with them. Now I'm not personally ready to be having sex but perhaps smaller sexual acts. But that isn't how my mother raised me and it sure as hell wouldn't be fair to the parties involved. I should be only be giving my girlfriend attention like that.\n\nWhat I need help with is how to tell her i'm not feeling satisfied physically and to some degree emotionally without making her feel off put or like it's her fault. And I'm not talking about going from where we currently are to full blow blowing or something but over time working our way there. We have a rather open relationship communication wise and I know I could bring this up to her but I would never know where to start and not hurt her feelings or make her feel forced to do something she would rather not do. I know we're both still fairly young in the grand scheme of things and havent been dating for all that long but I'm bringing this up because I dont feel like anything is going to change for a very, very long time and I don't want to wind up doing something everyone will regret.", "summary": "Bedroom life is fallen stagnate, been thinking of other women, need help talking to my GF about the next step intimacy wise "}
{"id": "t3_3a7ons", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband's [33M] family realized I [32F] used to be a porn actress. All hell broke lose.", "post": "It happened when I was 19-21. I was never famous or very successful. I acted in a few videos by some studios and the videos are online. I can't take them off as I had contracts which gave the studio the legal right to the videos. They're on a couple of premium websites and a few of them are on PornHub and other free websites. They aren't super popular or anything and they are under stage names. I told my husband before we got married and showed him the videos. Nobody else knows on his side of the family. It has never got back to me, nobody has recognized me ever really until now.\n\nSo a few weeks ago my husband's cousin [29M] has found the videos somehow (I imagine he watches porn 23 hours a day). He emailed the link to the videos to my husband, which he shows me and we decided to play dumb and say it's not me (it was over 10 years ago that the video was shot and the video quality wasn't that high on the link). So he calls him and tells him that he doesn't like the joke. The cousin apologises and says that he thought it would be funny. We thought it's over.\n\nThis morning, he emailed everyone in the extended family with links to high quality videos (I imagine he has tracked down the source of the videos and bought high quality copies). This was the video that he sent to my husband and other videos as well. He then says in the email that \"It's who you think it is\". Also says that they would have loved to know the truth before allowing \"this girl\" part of the family and around our children.\n\nSo as soon as this happens, we had phones ringing asking what's going on. Multiple emails saying they don't want their children/teenagers around me any longer. Multiple people deleted me as their Facebook friends and some have taken the liberty of posting some really hurtful status updates like \"the girl we accepted as part of our family was in fact someone who swallowed someone's sperms in front of camera\". If someone sends this to where I work I could even be fired.\n\nHonestly we haven't done or said anything. We don't know what to do.", "summary": "I played in a few porn videos. Someone found it and sent it to my husband's family. They reacted in the worst way imaginable. We don't know how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_4xpavw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "3 Year Relationship, She's changing her Mood.", "post": "We are both 19. We've been together for 3 years now and everything has been swimmingly. We've had our fights but all together we are doing well. But, I have noticed that the past few times I've either gone on vacation with family or stayed at a buddies house, she's became absolutely spoiled. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but in this case it is. She's got it from her mother. When something doesn't go the exact way she wants or pictured it, she's extremely pissed off at me for the entire time I'm gone. I don't know what to do about it. Every attempt I make to clear the air with her, fails. It doesn't resolve until I come back home. I absolutely love her to death and foresee a future with her - but not if she's going to stay like this.", "summary": "a 3 Year Relationship where everything was fine, but recently she's been acting like a spoilt brat."}
{"id": "t3_1fenop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Right person, wrong time?", "post": "I'm in a right person, wrong time situation right now and it's a very hard, sad thing to sort out. We have been dating for a year and a half and at the end of the summer I'm moving away to the UK to attend a prestigious law school for three years and my boyfriend has three years left of his degree in Canada. He's the first person I've ever loved and we get along so well. I consider him my best friend, we talk everyday, and we're just easily compatible. Our relationship isn't perfect and neither is he but nobody is and I could see myself being with him and being happy for a long time. However, studying law and studying abroad has always been a dream of mine and I've worked really hard to get this so it's an opportunity I can't pass up. It doesn't change the fact that I have to end this amazing relationship with a guy I love. I hate the thought of him being with another girl but I know it'll happen and I'm terrified of losing contact with him and becoming strangers. I wonder how long it'll take for me and for him to move on. Do you think if we were to meet again at the right place and right time in our lives we could be together again?", "summary": "in love with my boyfriend of one and a half years but I'm moving across the world for my dream education opportunity and we have to break up. Right person, but wrong time in my life."}
{"id": "t3_y1v3w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I prevent \"The one that got away\" from happening?", "post": "I met this guy a few years back. We were amazing for eachother. We accomplished so much and made eachother so happy. However, it was our lousy communication and our nervous/awkwardness that ruined things. He quietly thought to himself that I was using him as a rebound after the ex I left him for. I thought he still had a crush on his crush of 5 years. So, we were always in \"self protect\" mode from a few weeks into our relationship. However, it didn't start that way. He came out with so many beautiful long term things in the first few days like a happy kid at Christmas. I completely felt the same way. Then our awful minds got the worst of us and we never communicated. So, after a few months, we broke up after me being confused over his old crush after I met her. However, after the break up, we hung out more than ever and he'd look for reasons to see me, come over my place, or go out somewhere. I cuddled him one of those times and he got all nervous like it was the beginning of us again. However, he moved 1000 miles away...oddly at the same time I got a job offer to move nearby. We're the same out here. I'll crash with him and he'll push for me to sleep in his arms if I can't sleep and he'll help me anytime I ask, etc. I started dating somebody else to try to move on and I'm still with him...for a year now. And, I'm always in self protect mode around the first guy saying I've moved on but he knows I'm not truly happy. The first guy is career focused and doesn't know where he'll land after finishing his second degree here. So, he's scared of a relationship holding him back. How do I convince him he's the one for me and I'd never stop his career.", "summary": "We're perfect for eachother. Confusion, miscommunication and fear are keeping us apart. How do I tell him I love him without scaring him and that a relationship with me will never hold back his career."}
{"id": "t3_245xbs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] girl I met [20/f] likes me but I don't like her as much due to opposite personalities.", "post": "I met this girl at a party, I saw her the next day and we exchanged numbers.  Fast forward a month later and I find her personality is completely opposite of mine.  \n\nShe's outgoing, friendly, vocal, and adventurous.  I'm the complete opposite, introverted, quiet, and I prefer chilling at home cuddling / talking, whereas she's active and wants to always do things, never at home.\n\nI feel like her and I are complete opposites, yet I believe she is very attracted to me.  As hard as I've tried, I've been unable to reciprocate the same feelings.  Normally, I would just end things, but I've learned a lot about this girl.  Specifically, how guys have screwed her over / always leaving and it hurts knowing that I'd most likely do the same.  We haven't had sex yet, so I'm thankful for that, **but I want to let her know that I want her to be happy, but she's not the right girl for me, and I feel like I'm not the right guy for her**.  \n\nHow do I tell her I don't think we should be dating because of personality differences?  Also, is there anyway I can alleviate the inevitable pain she will feel?  She really loves icecream so should I get her a tub of it?", "summary": "girl who has been hurt by past guys really likes me.  I do not have the same feelings because we are opposites."}
{"id": "t3_1mu2qw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] like this girl [16F], but I haven't done anything because I'm too afraid that she won't like me", "post": "So theres this girl I've liked for ~6 years, but I've always been\nscared that she doesn't like me, and I'm a shy kinda guy. Now, being\njunior year of HS, I realized that in a little more than a year, I\nmight never really see her again, since everyone is gonna go off to\ncollege. Sure, people can stay in touch, but you have to get to know\nsomeone first.\n\nAnyways, so now that I am running out of time, she comes to this party\nI'm at, but ends up hooking up with a mildly drunk guy. Now they're\nlike best friends and go everywhere like boyfriend and girlfriend. My\ntactic for the past six years has just been to wait it out, since shes\ngone through a few relationships. I know this is just a meaningless\nrant, but do any of you have any suggestions for what I should do?\nThanks!", "summary": "guy likes girl, too scared that she won't like me"}
{"id": "t3_v2mto", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost It! 320 to 190.", "post": "So after a few posts on here, I've actually hit my goal!\n\n[This was my original loseit submission.] I was at 275 at that point and happy with my progress but not the end result. So I kept going with it, with a goal of 200 that I revised to 190.\n\nHere's [an overall timeline, going from 320 to 196] So not quite all of it. \n\nHere's two final pics to finish it, both at the 190 mark (which I hit late last week). One [on the ice after the Norfolk Admirals won the Calder Cup] (I cover the team they beat), and [one random one from today](\n\nAs for how I got to this point - 1200-1500 calories a day, low carb (nothing against carbs, I just found it easier to keep calories low without them). I also have the beauty of having a nearby tennis court with a hockey net, so I tend to shoot around some hockey balls or kick around a soccer ball for half an hour every day. Getting into the habit of hopping on my bike for 15-20km almost daily too.\n\nGoing to start hitting the gym next. Since I did this so rapidly (started in late October), loose skin and such is definitely a problem. \n\nAnyway, I gotta thank all of you for the inspiration. Keeping up to date with loseit was the bulk of the reason I managed to keep going with everything. And probably the biggest reason why I pulled it off without a single cheat day! I'm forever grateful.", "summary": "EDIT: In case it makes a difference, 5'10 and 20 years old"}
{"id": "t3_3oaw8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] Why must I remain single? Yes I know I'm young.", "post": "I just feel so lonely and sad over how I can't find a girl that likes me. Every girl that I try to go out with, there's always something wrong. She either isn't looking for a relationship or she has a boyfriend, or just doesn't want to date me. I've tried like seven different dating apps, but haven't found anyone.\n\n  I mean i'm not ugly, more on the feminine side though, 5'7, thin. Why won't girls like me? I wish I was just gay because I get a lot of guys hitting on me but no girls have an interest in me or respond to my messages. What am I doing wrong? How do I find someone?\n\n  I just want a relationship or even just someone to hold and watch netflix with under some blankets. Why is it so hard to find someone? I'm almost desperate enough to go on craigslist or something. Craigslist makes my skin crawl...", "summary": "How do I get a girlfriend? How do I make friends now that i'm not in school?"}
{"id": "t3_1mwh3a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of reddit: How do you feel about dating a guy that lives at home?", "post": "Backstory: I'm 37/m and I live at home. I recently moved in with my father and step-mother after working for a huge, soul crushing corporation in another city. I am currently involved in a start up with a friend and have another job on the side. I am able to pay my bills but only if I do not pay rent. That said, I have two jobs and pay my own way.\n\nSo, women of reddit, is it completely unattractive when a guy says he lives at home? Do you automatically peg him as a \"loser\" or not long-term material? I'm also trying online dating again and wonder if this is something I need to add to my profile as a \"disclaimer\".", "summary": "I am gainfully employed but live at home because of financial reasons. Just wondering if this is completely unattractive to the fairer sex?"}
{"id": "t3_101e80", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would most women find it funny if their boyfriend (32)  jokingly called them (33) a fat ass?", "post": "Boyfriend (32) of about 6 months and I (33F) were outside doing some yard work this past weekend. We were taking some breaks and at one point he jokingly says \"get off your fat ass\" and get back to work.  \n\nI was shocked.  This really upset me and made me cry.  It really surprised him that it upset me.  He had been joking, which made it even more upsetting to me to think that he thought saying that was something funny or remotely OK.  He said some more things after that which made it even worse, but I don't think those things are relevant at this point.  \n\nLater that night, we were talking about it, and he said that he thought that any other woman would have thought it was funny.  I disagreed.", "summary": "Is it OK to jokingly call your girlfriend a fat ass?"}
{"id": "t3_i7or3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New Teacher Anxiety (TFA Corp Member)", "post": "I'm writing on my partners(in life) behalf. Reason why I'm writing for is because she doesn't have that much time on her hands, has been bombarded with work and hasn't had the time to sleep in a while. So I've come here to seeking help for her. \n\nMy partner is working with TFA, this is her first month with them. TFA Corp members are trained for one month on lesson planning and classroom environment and dealing with other cultures. Its only been about two weeks and she's already fallen behind, lost a lot sleep, and broken down in tears (mainly because of the lack of sleep). Her biggest battle is lesson planning, she takes hours (4-8 hours) to complete one lesson plan. On top of that, she was told that her lesson plans didn't meet key objectives. Now I know she's a very bright young woman and she is capable of being a teacher, would anyone have advice, resources, and/or help that they can offer my partner?", "summary": "New teacher (tfa corp member)"}
{"id": "t3_19gmfr", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Earning my parking spot", "post": "Today at work (a small hotell in my hometown), a \"lady\" came in. For the purpose of this story lets call her Parking Banshee or PB in short. She started of seeming normal enough, wondering when check in hours are. I told PB: Around 15:00 mam, depending on when my boss comes in and she accepted this. \n\nAs she walked to the exit she turned and asked if we have a garage or other parking available other than the pay per hour parking outside so I told her we do, however we usually only accept that people use it after they check in. \n\nI was just about to inform PB I could make an exeption to the rule when she just went off, screaming at me that this is unacceptable (this was about half an hour from when check-ins are available, roughly one dollar in parking) and demanded to talk to my boss. I said, sure thing, just call the number on this card and STOP! YOU call her she says.\n\nI had a brainfart for about a second and, with a smile said, sure thing mam it'll only be a second. I call my boss and she basically repeats my answer, not available until checking in. This is when she angrily left.\n\nNow, this was petty enough but as the gods would have it, it became a double petty. Not five minutes after the parking banshee left a lovely couple arrived, who had payed in advance so I happily gave them their room key and asked if they needed parking for the night. Indeed, that would be most welcome and at the low price of 75 kronor WAY cheaper than the outside parking (6-7 dollars, too lazy to check). \n\nI show them the way to the garage and they say Oh, no spaces available. Not a problem, that there SWEET ASS ford is mine, I'll just get it out of the way. \n\nA damn shame I had to go home for the day as I would have loved to see the look on the PB's face when I told her our garage was full.", "summary": "She-Beast of the north goes ballistic over parking and misses out on a deal I instead extend to decent people."}
{"id": "t3_31dbcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with [20 M] 2 months, can't tell if platonic or romantic", "post": "I'll spare you the details, although there honestly aren't many.\n\nWe met via tinder 6 months ago, and after about 4 months (it was so long due to fact I got new # and we didn't talk til he asked for my number via a different social media) went on our first \"date\". We went rock climbing/bouldering and got sushi after. Since then we have seen each other multiple times, went to a concert together, took our dogs out to the lake, dinner, ect. He always pays for my food, even though I offer every time. He is so nice and we are very compatible as far as interests go, but we have never kissed and he never seems to make any romantic or sexual gestures. I know he's into me, but Im not sure if it is just as a friend or as more. Also, it's a two way streak but he generally asks to hang out or see each other more than I do and is the one to start up most conversations.", "summary": "Not sure if us hanging out is friendly or dating. Have any of you ever been in a relationship that started like this and led to something romantic, or if its been this long do you think it is just platonic?  Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_1ivmsy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "hooking up with a longtime friend i like, who likes someone else. i want to get her out on a date, what should i do?", "post": "I've hooked up twice in the past couple weeks with a girl i have been friends with for almost 10 years. We ended up liking each other a few years ago but we would really only hang out during the summer when we were at summer camp together which is now the place we both work.\n\nWhenever summer came around either i had a gf or she had a bf so we never tried anything, except once when she broke up with her bf in the middle of the summer for me. But then she went back to him because we both agreed it wasn't right for her to stop dating a guy she had been with for 2 years and had no problems with because she wanted to try dating me.\n\nSo this summer we are both single, but a new kid just started working with us that no one knew before(everyone else who works there has been in the camp, so we all grew up together). Hes actually a pretty cool guy and i became quick friends with him.\n\nThe other night before i hooked up with her again she told me she liked him because hes really smart (he just graduated college at 20 years old) and shed been flirting with him but \"hes being a bitch\" and wont ask her out, she also said shes really attracted to me and shes liked me for years.\n\nShe says she wont go on a date with me because we work together. But she had no problem hooking up with me the other night. I like her and have no clue what to do.", "summary": "just hooked up twice this month with a friend of 10 years i really like. she likes the new kid at work, we both knew this before we hooked up. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_463dvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] broke my sorority sister's [18F] nice camera and I don't want to replace it.", "post": "Long story short, my sorority sister \"Jana\" has a really nice Nikon camera. I asked to borrow it so I could take photograph a friend of mine for a competition. As the title says, I tripped while we were taking pictures and I broke it. The whole thing is busted and I don't think it's fixable.\n\nObviously I felt bad, so I looked up online how much these cameras cost. I was expecting to pay like $200 to replace it, but this is a $700 camera!!! I don't have that kind of money. I told Jana today that her camera was broken and she was PISSED. She told me I would have to buy her a new one. I told her I couldn't afford it, and that I shouldn't have to completely replace it since the damage wasn't intentional. It was an accident, and accidents happen. Now she won't talk to me, and apparently she's considering taking me to small claims over this?? \n\nMy question is, am I wrong to not think I should have to pay $700 so she can have a new camera? How should I handle this?", "summary": "I borrowed someone's $700 camera and broke it. I don't think I should have to pay to replace it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_12djf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my boyfriend goes on a porn video chatroom. Is this worse than regular porn?", "post": "Kind of unfortunate that this is my first reddit post but oh well. \n\nFirst of all I need to say that I am totally okay with my boyfriend (20) watching porn. I just don't know how I feel about him watching other girls that aren't porn stars.\n\nTo give a little information on this situation, I've(f,19) been dating this guy almost a year now and I spend a lot of time at his place. During the beginning of September, I had to have my computer repaired which took over a month to get fixed, so we shared his computer till I got mine back. Since there were two of us using the computer, sometimes he ends up closing one of my pages and vice versa. One day he closed one of my pages that I really needed for school work, so I went into his history to look for it. That's when i saw that numerous clicks on a site that seemed to be like a list of potential people to webcam with and beside the picture, little blurbs about what they want (I forget the name of the website but I can give it out once I go to his place again). \n\nI was a little rattled but I just kept telling myself that it was just porn and that it was fine. I don't live with him so sometimes I won't see him for a few days at a time and I get that he's gotta do what he's gotta do.\n\nA few weeks after I found the site, we were going on his computer and his Facebook was open. I see a little chat box at the bottom and it said \"C2C?\" I saw his eyes kinda freak out and rush to change the page. At first I just kinda waved it off didn't actually realize it until I started wondering what C2C stood for. Then started thinking Cam 2 cam? so I remembered the name of the girl and found out she was from the UK (I'm from Canada) so the only way he would ever know a person from the UK would probably be from a chatroom. \n\nSo not only does he have webcam porn but he added one of them on facebook... \n\nShould I be pissed? Or is it just like any other porn? Should I talk to him about it?", "summary": "! Found out my boyfriend goes on a porn webcam chatroom and adds them on facebook.  "}
{"id": "t3_qey08", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can my fiance and I get out of the USA and live in Scandinavia without a bureaucratic nightmare?", "post": "My fiance and I are 26 years old.  We have traveled all over this beautiful world. We have been all over Europe, Asia, Northern Africa, and Scandinavia.  Of all the places we have visited, we feel Scandinavia offers us the best potential life that we are looking for.\n\nHave any of you ex-patted to Scandinavia from the US or has anyone you know done this successfully? \n\nWe want to spend the rest of our lives in either Norway, Denmark, or Sweden.\n\nHOW TO DO!?\n\nAlso, I am a long time lurker, first time poster.", "summary": "GET US OUT OF THE US AND INTO SCANDINAVIA, THIS PLACE IS GETTING SPOOKY. HALP!"}
{"id": "t3_1tik4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M/] dating [15/F] little over the month, need help", "post": "this may seem insignificant for most of you but as of now it pretty much means everything to me (even though we've been dating for a month). \n\nI started talking to her maybe 2 months ago and have been dating for about a month. Today i asked her if she actually liked me and she said that our relationship seemed as if we were more like best friends and the conversation led on into us becoming just friends now. i agreed and although that happened i still have feelings and want us to be more, which she may still be open to.\n\ni have stronger feels for her than she does for me but there still is something there. i dont want us to be just friends because i really like her. is there anything i can do to make our relationship seem less like best friends and more like something else?", "summary": "she thinks we should try out being friends and i dont."}
{"id": "t3_4w1d0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (21M) keeps drinking all of my (21F) whiskey!!", "post": "My best friend bought me a large bottle of Fireball. We always do nice, quirky things for eachother. And I was so thankful that she went out of her way to do something for me, like she's always thankful for what I do for her. After all, she's my best friend. We have everything in common, including our first names.\n\nI took three shots on the first day I had the bottle, and then put it in the cupboard for safekeeping. Now, two days later, I go to open the cupboard to take a quick shot to take edge off. The bottle has less than three shots in it. My fianc\u00e9e (dating for two years) has literally been sneaking my liquor,  and never mentioned it to me. It would be different if he had asked,  but no. This isn't the first time this has happened, but this frustrates me the most because he didn't buy it. It was a gift from my best friend. What do I do? I talked to him about it several times in the past, but to no avail.", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9e demolished my bottle of Fireball without even mentioning it to me."}
{"id": "t3_1u9v55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22m] ex and current teammate [23f] of 9 months just told me that she is going to hook up with someone", "post": "We're at a tournament in which we're forced to be together. She's my teammate and it's just the two of us that flew in to compete. We bought the tickets months back and had I known we were going to break up I would never have come. We broke up a few months back. We thought we could do the friend thing but I realize today that it's just not possible.\n\nWe're rooming together and she told me an hour ago that she is going to hook up with someone she met here as courtesy. She's not my gf anymore so I understand that she can do whatever she wants, but unfortunately I still have some feelings for her. I just wish that she would at least have the decency to not screw someone while we're on this trip. I'm lying in bed next to her at 6am writing this on my phone feeling kinda shitty. I'm not really looking for advice (although it is welcome) seeing as I plan on never seeing her again after this trip, I just needed to vent. I would love to talk to anyone at all really.", "summary": "the title pretty much explains it. I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_2yc58j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my Girlfriend [17F] of 5.5 weeks, she isn't sure about about how she feels about me.", "post": "I've known my gf for about a year and a half now and we do a club sport together so we've spent lots of time with each other. \n\nThen 5 weeks ago I made my move and we kissed on the bus back from a meet. The next day we didn't have school so she went to my house and we ended up having sex. It was my first time, but she had already been in a serious relationship before so she had more experience. Within the next 2 days we had pretty much tried all of the sexual basics (Sex, BJ, Oral). Things were going great until maybe a week ago when we stopped having sex.\n\n I thought it was just because she was tired, but last night we went out for her birthday and when we got back to her place she told me that she has been trying to slow things down.\n\nShe thinks that things have been moving too fast and that she doesn't know how she feels about me. She is worried that I'm gonna tell her that I love her and that she doesn't feel as strongly about me as I do for her. She said she really likes hanging out with me but she doesn't know if she likes me romantically.\n\nI told her this: As long as she's happy, I'm happy, while I dont want to break up, its up to her to decide if she really likes me, I told her she should take some time to think about it and text me if anything comes up. \n\nI thought i was fine last night, but now I'm kind of freaking out, I really want to keep going out with her and being more than friends, but I dont know if she will choose to stay with me. \n\nAny help would be appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Newish gf, things moved quickly, and now she is unsure about she feels about me."}
{"id": "t3_31dmcf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stapling my hand.", "post": "I work in retail, and we have a stamp card reward program. When a person redeems their card with ten stamps, we have to staple it to a copy of their reciept.  \nWell, my stapler stopped working, so I opened it up to put in more staples. No problem there. Staples in place, I closed the top. Here comes the fuckup... It didn't seem quite secure, so I decided to try and pinch it closed with my thumb and forefinger. As I'm applying force, I suddenly hear the stapling sound. I pull my hand away, and stare incredulously at the staple (at least 1 or 2 mm deep) sticking out of my thumb. A fraction of a second later, I cry out, \"good god that's painful!\" and pull the sucker out. And I'm laughing because what kind of an idiot staples themselves? And my coworkers are laughing at me too, of course. And while I'm laughing I'm also wincing in pain, and it's actually bleeding kind of a lot...  \nMy coworker then told me that I'm the stupidest smart person she knows... (I'm an Engineering major). I deserve that.", "summary": "I'm an engineering student that can't tell the front from the back end of a stapler."}
{"id": "t3_3dkmb6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Telling a Joke", "post": "One of my friends invited me to come over to his house tonhang out with a bunch of his friends that I had never met. I accepted his offer, figuring not much could go wrong. Little did I know I was about to be in one of the most embarrassing moments of my life.\n\nIt started off smoothly, his friends were nice, and they seemed to enjoy me. Soon enough, we were all exchanging our favorite jokes. I told a few, they were successful. So I decided to go to one of my favorites:\n\"How do you sell a chicken to a Deaf person?\" And then you yell at the top of your lungs, \"DO YOU WANT TO BUY A CHICKEN?\"\nUsually, it works fairly well. Except this time, immediately after I told the joke, I noticed one of the guys had a Cochlear implant. The whole place went silent.\n\nOf course, I immediately apologised, but it was too late. He seemed to shake it off, but everyone else just gave me awkward glances for the rest of the time that I was there. Needless to say, I won't be invited back.", "summary": "Told a Deaf joke to someone with a Cochlear implant."}
{"id": "t3_3g9bis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/F] in a long-term relationship with a man, not sure if I'm even remotely straight.", "post": "Jumping right into this: he was my first everything, we've been together since I was 20, I've never been attracted to him in the sense that I wanted to tear his clothes off and make passionate love to him and, in fact, I've never been a fan of penetration at all. It hurts.\n\nAs the years have gone by I've begun to realize that when I masturbate, I'm always fantasizing about other women, but I've never really done the whole go out and flirt bit with *anyone*, so I'm not sure if this is just a natural thing and I'm straight or bi or good god I have no idea.", "summary": "how the hell do you decide if you're straight or not, also how do you break the fact that you want to experiment to your long-term partner?"}
{"id": "t3_1s5ff7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25/f] boyfriend's [24/m] friend [24/m] treats me poorly", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and have had pretty much no problems. A few months ago, one of his old friends came back from living abroad or something, and he introduced us. He was initially quite nice, and we got along fine, although we weren't exactly friends.\n\nA month or so ago, said friend starts being mean to me for no reason. I've never said a single mean thing to him, joking or otherwise, and all of a sudden he's being a dick to me. I heard him saying really rude things behind my back once at a get-together, and when I called him out on it (cause wtf dude?), he said \"Oh shit, you weren't supposed to hear that\" and has been avoiding me since. My boyfriend heard what he said and spent the rest of the night comforting me. The problem I have is that, other than comforting me, my boyfriend doesn't seem to give a shit that his friend is being a dick. He still hangs out with him and talks to him frequently like nothing happened. This bothers me. Shouldn't he care? Is it too much for me to expect for him to find it not okay for people to speak about me that way?\n\nI've been in the presence of said friend a few times since the get-together, and I'll make an effort to not be petty and at least say \"hey, [friend]\" and he completely ignores me. I've heard from other people that he still makes shitty comments about me. Wtf? I don't know how to approach my boyfriend with the fact it makes me uncomfortable and sad that he hangs out with somebody who treats me like shit for no reason. I don't think a long time friendship is any excuse to let somebody talk shit about your girlfriend... when somebody talks badly about my boyfriend I don't let it slide. I know my boyfriend's nature, and he is the type of guy that is nice to everyone and doesn't like confrontation. But this is kind of ridiculous.", "summary": "boyfriend has a friend that is mean to me, still hangs out with him like nothing is wrong"}
{"id": "t3_33pve4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shutting my laptop", "post": "This happened about an hour ago and I'm kicking myself.\n\nI've been participating in an online study where at the end of all of the quizzes you take, you get a $100 Amazon gift card. All you have to do is play this matching game every other day for about a month. Each round of the game takes about 15 minutes.\n\nAnyway, today, I signed on to do my very last round of the game, expecting it to take 15 minutes. I was between classes, and I had an exam this morning that was supposed to start about 45 minutes after I got home and started playing the game, so I figured I'd have enough time. Nope. For whatever reason, after the first 15 minutes, it sent me to round 2. Okay, so it will take me another 15 minutes. I figured I would just do it quickly and get it done. So I finished it with 15 minutes to get to my exam. Suddenly, it tells me I have to do the \"final challenge round\" before I'm finished. At this point, I'm frustrated as hell because I really have to leave and no one told me that I would have to do 3 rounds of the game today. I figure if I leave my laptop plugged in and open on my desk, it won't close me out of the program, and I can continue the game after my exam.\n\nSo I start my routine: pack up my backpack and put my coat on, grab my keys, and shut my laptop. Fuck. I shut my laptop. Whatever, I'm sure the program will still be open and I can continue after my exam. So I just got back from my exam and opened my laptop to find that it logged me out and closed out of the final challenge round. Because I did not complete it at that time, I cannot log back in and take the challenge. So I wasted all of that time and I can't get my gift card.", "summary": "Being a creature of habit made me waste a month of my time and a $100 Amazon gift card."}
{"id": "t3_3apg4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18] told my girlfriend [27] that i might not be the one for her. Deeply regret it", "post": "So my girlfriend and i of about a year were talking about the long term us and how the age gap would play into our relationship down the line. I really love this girl with all my heart and i cant imagine being with anyone else right now. \nShe said that my age makes things difficult for her and she wants to eventually settle down. I said that because of my age, i might not be the right one for her. That is where i fucked up.\n\nShe immediately started crying and said it was the most hurtful thing I've ever said. She said that it shows just how eaisly i would give her up and to find someone else because i dont care enough to try harder for her.\n\nI deeply regret saying it and she hasnt talked to me since. Im worried that she thinks i dont care about her nearly as much as i should. Im not sure where to take it from here. Replies are much appreciated.", "summary": "Told gf of 1 year that i might not be the right one. She is extremely upset and doesnt want to talk to me. What do/say?"}
{"id": "t3_34u8cf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [18] with my boyfriend [22] is best friends with his ex.", "post": "My boyfriend who we will call A for now, is best friends with his ex. They dated a long time ago, it only lasted 7mos, and nothing sexual even happened between them. They talk all the time, hangout every Friday (DND) and he occasionally crashes there. She is married and has a boyfriend and a potential girlfriend (his ex lol)\nI was never really bothered by it, but then it just started creeping up on me. I really like her as a person, and I feel we can relate to each other well. I know nothing would ever happen between them, but I am jealous. I feel like he's closer to her than me and I'm his actual girlfriend.\nI've talked to him about it, and he says he doesn't feel like they're closer, and that they've had a lot of history together and that she's always going to be a part of his life as his friend.\nI've spent the last couple of days trying to pinpoint what EXACTLY is making me so upset about this. I still don't know what to do.", "summary": "boyfriend is best friends with his ex girlfriend and I'm jealous and feel uncomfortable. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_36jiqq", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Blunt eye pain when blinking and burning sensation.", "post": "Hey, I'm a 21yo male, about a week ago I accidentally slept with my contacts on at night and ended up waking to very very red eyes. I immediately took them out upon waking up and realizing I slept with them on. But now my eyes will go from white to red randomly, I've decided to not where my contacts for awhile and it's still happening. Yesterday though I started to get a blunt pain in my left top eye when I blink and it occasionally feels like my left eye is burning and will water up. Any advice? Could I see a optometrist about this problem or would it have to be an ophthalmologist?", "summary": "Slept with contact lenses on accidentally, have red eyes now off and on for about a week, burning sensation and blunt pain in left eye."}
{"id": "t3_1ocdc1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Downvoters of Reddit: What are the reasons you usually downvote a comment or a post", "post": "besides the obvious \"it's offensive\" or \"it's wrong\" or \"they're trying to be a troll\" or something along those lines, why do you tend to downvote people.\n\nfor example, in a previous askreddit about things you could buy legally, I made a comment about a student who applied to my college who built a nuclear reactor in his backyard, and then made a fuss when he didn't get in.\n\nI explained that the reactor was functional, and just wasn't given fuel and I gave an explanation as to how they could tell it was functional that came directly from people who work at the nuclear reactor at my university\n\nit was an entirely fact-based comment and yet it got downvoted a good deal. I've also seen other comments get downvoted and I don't understand it.\n\nso why do YOU downvote things?", "summary": "with the exception of obvious reasons, why would you downvote a comment or post? (like those that are factual)"}
{"id": "t3_38iwtb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f/21) slept with a co-worker(m/28) of 3 months need help with it.", "post": "I slept with a co worker. He is a cook at the resturant where I work and it sort of happened. We agreed to not let anyone at the restaurant know, however I have a feeling hes not quite done with me. I do not really like him, in that way. Im getting divorced and well being in a vurnable state i did things I shouldnt have. Hes from Guatemala so there may be some cultural differences Im not aware of. How do I handle this? He also told me he loves me and I again dont have feelings. He was just attractive. His english isnt the best so any helpful spanish phrases is appreciated.", "summary": "slept with a coworker. So much regret. How to act normally around him?"}
{"id": "t3_lq30p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people find other's injury's funny?", "post": "Is their any physiological explanation as to why people find it amusing? Or is it maybe I am missing something?\n\nExample: I was watching Tosh.0 (only thing on) at my friends house and their was a video of a guy falling out of a tree probably around 30 feet. He then proceeds to cry out in pain, while his stupid friend asks him \"Dude, are you OK?\" (albeit that part I did find funny). My friend found this video immensely amusing, while I just cringed and basically got angry as to people laughing at this life threatening accident. We get into a heated argument about why that is funny, and basically his whole argument revolved around the guy was videotaping himself climb a tree, he fell, that's funny cause he is stupid. \n\nPlease help me understand why some people find this humorous?", "summary": "Tosh.0 clip, guy gets hurt, friend finds it funny, I don't know why someone would find it funny."}
{"id": "t3_2pua74", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting my loins ablaze.", "post": "I made an account just so I could tell this lovely story to you all. So, it's my one day off this week with me SO and after running some errands and doing the usual boring chore stuff, I decided to take a quick shower while he started on cooking our dinner. After enjoying the nice, hot water I started to get into the mood and decided that I wanted to be a little sexy. I toweled off real quick and stood in the doorway of the kitchen where SO is finishing up whatever it is he's cooking (I didn't bother to ask in the heat of the moment), and in my sultry voice let him know I want to get things cookin' in the bedroom. Being a delighted man, he of course stopped everything, turned off the stove, and we sprinted for the room. \nNaturally, things get heavy fairly quickly and I grabbed his hand to get me going. After a moment or two, I realized that something didn't feel right and I made him stop. Within seconds, I felt a sudden burning sensation inside my nether regions that rapidly turned into a blazing pain. In horror, I screamed, \"Oh my god, were you just cooking peppers!?\" \nWith fear and realization, my SO gasped, \"Oh shit! Oh my god! The jalape\u00f1os!\"\nWithout hesitation, I sprinted back to the shower and started hosing myself off, cursing his name and every pepper ever known to man. Now, after about 20 minutes of racking up our water bill, I am now glowering at him from across the room, submitting this while he shamefully soaks his hands in milk and the knowledge that there will be no more \"cooking\" for him for quite a while.\nTo be fair, he's very sorry.\nSo is my poor oven.", "summary": "tried to fuck SO when he was cooking and got jalape\u00f1o juice in my tender bits."}
{"id": "t3_18lark", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm scum I know it (MF both 38)", "post": "Ok, I made a bad decision a few years back while going through some crazy shit and cheated on my wife in an anonymous one-night deal. I confessed to her and have spent the last 2-3 years paying for that poor decision. (Haha understatement of the year. I get it I'm scum.)\n\nNow down the road I find her growing distant to me, again. I've not done anything bad of late and our communication and financial issues have been subsiding but she's drawing back. We've had a year or two of marital counseling and have talked on and off again about divorce. We've both in the recent past gone so far as to retain attorneys.\n\nThe last few months things had gotten better, I thought the improved communication was bringing growing intimacy but now with this? Tonight is Valentine's and she wanted to go off and read alone all evening. Now I just started a new job and find myself flirting with some of the women there and am feeling like pursing another one night stand just for the attention.", "summary": "I don't even know what my question is I guess, I just wanted to get this frustration off my chest. I don't really want to cheat on her but the temptation is there again."}
{"id": "t3_43pepm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [25 M/F] with my girlfriend [27F] dating 4 years, my sexuality is beginning to interfere with our relationship.", "post": "[My original post here.](\n\nAfter a proper conversation and accepting that neither of us would be truly happy with a compromise on something as intimate as sexual identity, I broke up with my girlfriend 4 days ago. It was an okay breakup, many tears shed, she accused me of wasting her time, etcetera.\n\nI said I had to be true to myself and wished she would appreciate my honesty sooner than later, but I really wanted something different from life.\n\nUh...so she asked if we could atleast have a threesome  before parting ways last weekend. I was as surprised as you are. So that went down. And it went down again. And after that too. Took half the day off today!\n\nIt turns out she is actually intensely turned on by getting involved my sissification, as long as she also gets to hotwife.\n\nLol.", "summary": "Thank you, reddit. **Follow your dreams!**"}
{"id": "t3_pm7jf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I have a heart problem but my parents refuse to believe me. What should I do?", "post": "I have had a serious anxiety issue since I was 13 and it's been on and off since then. Currently, for the past year, it's been \"on\" and my anxiety has been at it's worst. Due to my anxiety, I can't drive a car, I left my job, I can't really go outside of my town or anywhere I am absolutely comfortable with, and I have picked up a major drinking problem. Since May of 2011, I have been drinking just about every single night and at minimum that means 6 drinks. Most of the time, it's around 10-12 drinks. Over the past week, my alcoholism has gotten really horrible and I am drinking the minute I wake up until right when I go to sleep. It helps ease my anxiety a lot. It also might be worth noting that I smoke cigarettes (maybe like 4-5 a day) and I live a very sedentary lifestyle. I eat very healthy, though. \n\nI also think I have an issue with my heart or something around there. I have these weird moments where it feels like I missed a breath or something and I freak out for a second. It almost feels like I can't breathe but after a few really short breaths, I can breathe normally again. I have told my parents about this and they are saying it's anxiety. I also asked my doctor about the breathing thing a few months ago and she said that breathing in weird patterns is a pretty normal characteristic of people with anxiety. My problem is that my parents won't let me use our medical insurance or pay for me to go to the hospital/doctor to get it checked out. What should I do about this?", "summary": "I have an anxiety disorder and I am an alcoholic. I think something may be wrong with my heart. Parents won't allow me to go to the doctor."}
{"id": "t3_4jkt7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] said incredibly hurtful stuff to me [18/F] his words are etched in my mind and now I'm walking eggshells with him. Help.", "post": "We had an awful fight yesterday and he literally ripped into me and ended off by saying \"And I'm not going feel bad !\" We got out of the car and things were awkward. I felt so weak and sad, he went to talk to his friends like nothing happened ... I was beside myself. I decided to go and apologise for making him that angry, he said it was cool and we made up ... but I am still deeply hurt by what he said ... I want to hurt the way he hurt me ... also I'm big on comuncating my feelings , but I'm petrified telling him his words hurt me, will result in another fight like yesterday's one. What should I do ? Because at this point I really just want to be done with him and move on ...", "summary": "Boyfriend said some would stuff to me and I am so deeply hurt by them, but I'm scared bringing it up will result in another argument in which he ruins me once more."}
{"id": "t3_20cyoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [26 M] 5 months, don't know how to fight...", "post": "I've been with this guy for a 2 months officially (dating for a few months before). We've had a couple of disagreements, and everytime we do, he ends up shutting down...for more than a few days. \n\nThat means I don't get a good morning, good night or a simple Hi! during those days...which for one time ended up taking as long as a week.\n\nNow I really like this guy, but his reaction to fights really bother me. I want to talk about this with him, but I can't figure out when to ask him as the best time seems to be after we make up, but it might just lead to another fight...\n\nIs this also a normal thing? Cause I've always been one who, even when mad at someone, manages to say 'hello, I'm still thinking this through so please give more time' if it is taking me more than two days to think...", "summary": "boyfriend disappears without a word for days after a fight; bothering me but I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_vae8f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one bet that you regretted winning?", "post": "When I was in middle school, my maths teacher bet the class that they couldn't score higher than the previous year's scores on a certain exam. He bet something unusual though: his hair. This was made even more dramatic by the fact that he had little hair, and he promised that he would allow the other teacher to shave it, in class, while the class watched. Needless to say, we did win the bet, and there was what amounted to a public shaming ritual. He cried. It was very awkward. This is one bet that I would have been happy to have lost. It was made even worse by the fact that it never really properly grew back. So, does anyone else have (perhaps a better) example of when they would rather have lost a bet?", "summary": "My maths teacher had to go through a public head shaving after we did well on a test."}
{"id": "t3_fniam", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most awkward and/or interesting way you have ever asked someone out?", "post": "Mine actually ends with a \"Forever Alone\" moment.\n\nA girl I worked with back when I was in college was always on my mind and the best part of having that job. I had always made small talk and casually flirted with her. After about six or so months of this, I decided that I needed to make the move or else.\n\nI was in another co-workers office one day and while meeting with them, I noticed a novelty magnet with an Eleanor Roosevelt quote \"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't. \"\n\nWhen I saw this, in my mind I said \"fuck it\", pulled the magnet off the file cabinet and walked straight to her desk. I slammed the magnet down and said \"Do you want to go out sometime?\" Her response was an immediate \"Yes\"!\n\nI was very excited that my confidence had finally paid off and walked back to my office like a boss. About three hours later, she came by and said \"I hope you asked me out as a friend because that is how I perceived it\" I tried to recover by saying, \"Yeah of course\" but we both knew it was awkward and I had failed.", "summary": "Put my balls on the line by unfairly putting a female co-worker on the spot. Got my balls handed to me."}
{"id": "t3_2t46o6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waving at a blind guy.", "post": "This took place this past Thanksgiving. I was riding with my parents to dinner over at my uncle's house. On the way there my mom informed me that one of my uncles friends will be there, and her husband is blind, so we should get all of our blind jokes out of the way before we arrive. I agree, and we make some off colored jokes, because we're both awful people.\n\nSide note: I don't do well under pressure. At all. Once we get inside, it's time for introductions. My mom introduces everyone to my uncle's friend and her blind husband. Once she gets to me, I panic, and instead of shaking his outstretched hand, I lean down to his level (he was sitting down) and wave at his face. Not in his general direction, In. His. Face.\n\nAs I'm standing back up, I quickly realize not only what I've done, but the fact that I just did it in front of his wife and my oh-so-proud mother. I immediately start apologizing to her (wife), explaining that I'm quite aware I'm going to hell, but she just chuckled and shrugged it off. Still spent the rest of dinner not in their vicinity.", "summary": "I waved at a blind guy in front of his wife and my mom, made her super proud."}
{"id": "t3_ql1n1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best/harshest/funniest prank you've pulled?", "post": "I ask in relation to the video uploaded of the and the bucket of water involved in a 'magic trick'. \n\nWhen I went on a lad's holiday to Ibiza, bearing in mind we hadn't slept in 24 hours when we arrived, one of the guys started drinking early. WAY too early. He ended up falling asleep in the middle of dinner and we had to drag him unconscious back to the hotel. \n\nAs vengeance we sprayed deep heat spray on the inside of all of his swimming trunks. When he woke up the next day we inquired as to where that girl had gone last night and how losing his virginity went. Shocked and stunned he puts on his trunks and obviously about half an hour later notices a hot, irritated sensation coming from his crotch. \n\nWe kept him going for the entire holiday, reapplying deep heat spray every day.", "summary": "We made a guy think he'd lost his virginity and contracted an STD"}
{"id": "t3_efw25", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why do people treat you cold when they breakup with you...even if you've done nothing to warrant the coldness?", "post": "I actually mean they act cold the days or weeks prior to it. I'm 19 and I've been in only two relationships, each of which has only been ~3 months. I've been been broken-up with in both of them. I've never given them reason for any bad-blood leading up to the breakups; never cheated on them nor given them reason to detest me. So it really confuses me when they act weird leading up to breakup. I can understand breaking up; fine. What I don't get is why act cold for no reason? I didn't do anything to you. Damn.\n\nThe pattern is something like I sense them getting distant, and this usually comes a couple weeks or so after a sudden, gut-feeling perception of behavior changes on their part. Then they say they want to \"talk\" soon. I'm not dumb. I put it all together and realize they want to prob breakup for whatever reason. (I usually don't get too emotionally attached anyway so I don't freak out. That doesn't mean I'm not a caring bf, but that's besides the point.) So in the meantime, leading up to \"the talk\", I still act cool. I talk to them like nothing has changed. But they respond with flat, monosyllabic responses. \n\nWhy? Why do people do that? It doesn't compute with me. I can understand if I had cheated on you or punched you in the face without warning. Can someone explain why people act awkward and distant when they're about to breakup with you; when you wouldn't treat anyone else in a similar, unwarranted, illogical way in any other kind of human interaction I can think of? Is it a defense mechanism? I don't know. Can anyone just breakup and not be enigmatic, cold, aloof, distant leading up to it assuming the other person didn't do anything to you? Why the cold treatment?", "summary": "Why do people treat you like shit when they're about to breakup with you even if you've done nothing to deserve the weird treatment? (no cheating, no abuse, etc.) Probably sounds like a stupid question, but I'm serious."}
{"id": "t3_d8urw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Information given over police and other public service radio...", "post": "So I'm at work and using the Scanner Radio app on my Droid (awesome app btw) to keep myself busy.  Listening to the police scanners is particularly interesting, but what I've noticed is they will often give out a lot of personal information over the radio, including first, middle, and last name, ID numbers, DOB,  VIN of cars also including the license plate, telephone numbers, addresses, etc.  My question is, how safe is it to be broadcasting this information over the radio so openly?  I doubt thousands of people are listening to the radio hunting for people's personal info, and I know a lot of this can be found in public access databases and whatnot... but it's still a valid question.\n\n(I'm mainly thinking about those who might listen in for a chaotic situation, wait for a phone number, name, address, and then prank call/cause other mischief. )\n\nAnd on a slightly related note: what's the most interesting thing you've heard while listening to a radio scanner?", "summary": "There's a lot of cool stuff being said over police/emergency services radio, great way to get you through the work day. Get Scanner Radio on Android :D"}
{"id": "t3_1lo938", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [31/m] got some interesting questions about my platonic friend [26/f]", "post": "I've moved to a city, I'll be here temporarily. Through OKCupid, I've made a friend here who's about five years younger than I am. She and I are good friends, and other than a drunken kiss (For context, we were drunk, but I'm not comfortable with pursuing things with drunken women, so I paid for a cab to get her home safe). \nShortly after, she made it quite clear that we're better as friends, and in balance, that was a better thing to do. I am, however, having an issue with some of the ways she crosses lines \u2013 If she's not attracted to me, I'm pretty uncomfortable with the fact that she puts her head in my lap when she comes by to watch movies. I have spoken to her about it, and she sees that it's a space-and-signals thing. She also has no problem telling me about guys that she's slept with, albeit in oblique ways I'm less and less attracted to her because of some maturity issues she has, but she's a nice person to be around.\nAt this point, I would really like to know a few things, and would appreciate opinions: \n1) Why tell me who you're sleeping with?\n\n2) There's a clear maturity gap. I don't make friends very easily, and it's a pattern of behaviour which I've been trying to break, as it's important to have a diverse group of friends around. That being said, would it be a good idea to continue the friendship?", "summary": "1) Is it worth keeping the friendship when the maturity levels don't match? 2) She's not interested, but keeps pushing boundaries. What's up with that?"}
{"id": "t3_2ru36x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After a hookup one night with my friend/coworker[24/F], i [20/M] want to take things further, don't know how to tell her.", "post": "My friend and I were at a party not too long ago and after the gathering we went back to her place. We were both aware of our attractions towards each other for a while but some relationship situations with us both kept us away from each other in \"that way \". But anyways, at her place we made out a lot and got into bed and got all touching and what not but it never got past that. At one point she looked at me and told me she really cares about me. We basically spent the night talking about random things and kissing here and there but nothing further. I was perfectly fine with that and I still am. \nThe only thing is that after that night we talk a little less and when we do it's nothing that'll keep a conversation going and it usually ends pretty quick. We have not talked about that night or what we can make of it now. \nI want to tell her that I want to try things out between us but don't know how to tell her. I want to talk about that night too but I don't want her to get the impression that I'm just trying to do that again but go all the way. \nI don't really have close friends to ask for advice on these things, so why not strangers on reddit?\n\nHelp a guy out?!", "summary": "Spent a night together with my friend, want to tell her I want to actually give things a shot, don't know how to come around to bringing it up to her."}
{"id": "t3_2nrwkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M23] slept in another girl's [F24] bed after a night out, should I tell my gf [F23]?", "post": "My GF of two years and I are going through a bit of a rocky patch. I was out drinking with some old college friends last week and got talking to a friend of a friend who turned out to be going through much the same situation, and ended up going back to her place.\n\nI'm not proud of it, the only positive of the situation is that we didn't kiss/have sex, we just chatted and then crashed out fully clothed in her bed. \n\nI feel really guilty now, as I'd obviously hate if she did the same to me, and have no idea what to believe if she confessed a similar incident to me. Nobody knows that we went back to her place together, as we live in the same area. If she asks, should I tell her the truth?", "summary": "slept in the same bed with a girl who's not my gf in drunken foolishness, luckily nothing happened, should i tell my gf if it comes up?"}
{"id": "t3_4ksnig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] think my dad [60M] sees me as a nerd.", "post": "Just to start off, I am a nerd. I spend my time painting models of dragons, designing/playing board games and I love reading on fantasy myths and stories. \n\nHowever, recently I've been noticing a few comments in which makes me believe that my father doesn't respect me or just sees me as a nerd.\n\nLast night my family was having dinner and people were asking me what I would like for my birthday. (it's coming up in July) and while I was telling people I over heard my dad say to my BIL \"my friends introduced me to drinking and drugs, not dragons.\" Later when talking about my car, he made a comment, again to my BIL, how I'd never actually worked on a car so how would I know what it was like to get actually dirty. He makes comments like this often, have it be my choice in drinks, my hobbies or really anything. \n\nNow, I have always been a mother's boy but I respect my father a lot. He provided well for myself and three siblings. While not the most approachable man, he was there for games, try outs or science fairs. He worked at a job and I grew up in an upper middle class household. I never needed to get a part time job until I graduated, nor did I have to rebuild an engine to get my car running. \n\nI don't know if he's just making a joke but I just feel that I've disappointed my father because of my choice in hobbies. Do I just ignore it or do I talk to him?", "summary": "My dad thinks I'm a nerd and I feel that I disappointed him because I'd rather paint minis instead of working on a car."}
{"id": "t3_2t0gkt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "No more silly problems.", "post": "All this bullcrap from 2014, all the tiny little things that I felt like I couldn't do, I'm done. No more fucking games, 2015 is here and for the last 6 months I haven't been really living. It's time to get a real job, finish that stupid course so I can get that damn hat and be done with everyone's complaining.\n\nI'm going to fix my shitty bed, going to change these fucking lights, repair my bicycle and start grabbing my balls and march to fucking class. Not to mention I will clean my god damn apartment and I will NOT care that my messy roommates will make it harder for it to stay clean, I'm going to keep it clean. I am going to record the best fucking piece of audio ever so I can get into that damn band as lead singer and afterwards I'm going to get the bodyshape I've always wanted but never had.\n\nI'm going to say screw this depression shit, screw not being diamond in LoL, in fact FUCK LoL, who gives a flying fuck.\n\nI wanna see if I can make a few earnings on how to get good with youtube and twitch, cause I love games and I wanna do my best to give it a shot, for better or for worse. Despite me not knowing anything about how.\n\nThis year is mine to be had, I'm taking back my life and if some loving gentle spirit out there is willing to kick me in the ass every time they feel like I've forgotten or strayed away from this path, it would be great if they did so!\n\nI am not dealing with all these dumb problems anymore. The future is now.", "summary": "Fuck not fixing your own problems. I need to change for the better. Please help remind me if I forget."}
{"id": "t3_3vf6uf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] am having trouble with my fiance [28 M] because I'm the only one he knows in the US so far", "post": "I have been in a relationship for 2 years and am now engaged to my lovely fiancee. I love him so much and am extremely happy to be marrying him. I met him in Spain (he's Spanish) while I was working there but, about a year into the relationship, he had to move to a different city and we saw each other only on weekends. \n\nNow, after 4 months of being completely separated (he was still in Spain waiting for his visa and I had come back to the US to start working), he is finally here! Yay! Except...I am having a hard time with him always being around. I feel terrible because I love him and yet I feel like I need space. The time we spend together is great and I have fun with him, but then sometimes I am just tired and want to relax or be on my own. I realize this is probably a common thing with moving in with someone, regardless of the previous situation, but I also think that, because he's brand new to this country, I am (so far) the only person he really knows. Anyone been through something similar? How do you balance a little bit of independence with someone who only has you to depend on? I keep crying when I'm alone because I feel so guilty for being happy to have alone time and then I don't even enjoy my alone time! He also doesn't have his work permission yet so he just kind of waits for me at home all day and then when I get home from work tired and wanting to relax, he is all \"let's go out! let's do things!\" and it's a little difficult for me.\n\nI feel guilty even posting this reddit, honestly. I had it open on my computer forever before deciding to hit submit because I just feel so terrible for feeling this way.", "summary": "Fiance just moved to my country and I am unsure of how to find a balance between \"me time\" and not leaving him with no one to hang out with."}
{"id": "t3_48ikgo", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Employee let go unfairly imo what are his next steps?", "post": "So I work in Langley BC and one of my friends that worked with me was given a review on how his work has been. The review wasn't that great saying he needs to improve on a bunch of stuff. A week later he was let go because those things weren't improved on which is all fine and dandy, but he was never once given any direction on how to improve and any time he would ask questions for a problem he was having he would basically be told to research it himself. Is there something he can do legally to get back at the company or did they cover their butts by giving him a 'review' what can he do now besides the obvious getting a new job. Legally does he have a case?", "summary": "friend let go from company after a 'review' on things he needed improvement on but was fired before he even had a chance to improve on anything"}
{"id": "t3_jg7x9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who is/was your most annoying co-worker ever?", "post": "Had a new guy start at my work the other week. He sits in a space with me and 2 other guys. Before he started it was a nice relaxed atmosphere and I generally liked being at work.\n\nThis guy starts and decides to listen to music without headphones and doesn't ask anyone if its okay (2nd day of work). I find this distracting as the music is rather loud and some of daily tasks require a lot of concentration. I email him boss as I'm on good terms with him and ask his boss to ask him to use headphones as I'm not good at confrontations. A week later he starts up again by putting the music on at midday then slowly turning it up throughout the day till its loud at 3pm. I talked to his boss again as if I asked him I'd end up killing him with a stapler.\n\nHe is about 55 and really fat, he has breathing problems which he tries to cover up by making it sound like he's just whistling. So all day I get this faux-whistling which makes me want to throw my computer at him. He also seems to do that snort thing when you have mucus on the back of your throat like 10mins an hour.\n\nHe's a know-it-all and tries to butt in every conversation I have with anyone. Someone will come and ask me to update something on our intranet and he will turn around getting ready to say something. On top of that he will talk to you for 30mins or more on one of his stories even if you respond in grunts.\n\nHis most charming features are being racist, homophobic and generally a dirty old man. He's a grand-father and likes to talk about his 18 year old sons girlfriend and her friends in a very perverted manner.", "summary": "New guy at work makes me want to kill him. This is a serious first world problem that I needed to vent.*"}
{"id": "t3_irrag", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one work with their teen?", "post": "My teen just simply doesn't do anything but go on the computer.\n\nI have managed to get him to agree to 2 easy chores and one rule (don't eat upstairs because it's dirty). He must be reminded (sometimes multiple times) before he does his chores with hours of delay; I have gotten over this, teens forget & have other things to do, I understand. But he ignores the no-eating-upstairs rule & doesn't understand why it's a rule. I tell him it's dirty & I'd have to vacuum to preserve the carpet & prevent smelling. He still doesn't understand and goes, \"well that's your problem/wish, so that's why you vacuum/clean.\"\n\nOther requests are met with the same resistance and line of thinking: \"You want that, so you do it. I don't want that so I don't have to do that.\"", "summary": "Teen doesn't do anything & doesn't respect the one rule I have, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1oakq9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is this a good idea? [M/19]", "post": "Alright so let me begin by saying I'm 19 and male and this girl is 18. We go to the same college and became friends through the interaction of each of our close friends. We hang out in the same group, go out to parties with some combination of the group, and even eat dinner together as a group. So my biggest problem is that I never talk to her alone. I really like her and I know I would hate myself if I never even tried to build a meaningful relationship with her. Through talking to a friend I have built up the confidence so that I feel like I can approach her but I have no idea what to do. My plan so for, and please feel free to give me your opinion or suggestion on what to do, is after the long weekend to go back and talk to her, ask her how her weekend was and all that. Then I was going to see of she would want to go on a drive and possibly smoke(yes I mean toke the bud), just me and her. We both smoke, I more than her, but it wouldn't be anything out of the ordinary in our current state of affairs. If she says yes, I was going to start by saying something like how I like spending time with her and that we should talk and hang out more often. I just don't know about telling her how I feel because I don't want to scare her away or possibly make things awkward. I just don't know what to do about this situation and that is the best least suspicious way I can think of to say, \"Hey can we talk just you and me\" without actually doing so. I am open to suggestions or modifications to the plan. Right now I'm just really lost and could use some direction on how to handle this.", "summary": "I really like this girl in my group of friends at college and don't know how to talk to her just one on one. I want to come up with a way so that I talk to her and not come off the wrong way."}
{"id": "t3_37kcng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friends [14 M] are stalking me [14 M] on Reddit?", "post": "This has been the 2nd time it has happened now. I use my main account to post stuff and comment on different subs. A few months ago I posted on /r/basketballtips asking if there were any exercises I could do to jump higher. A friend of mine who was looking through my profile (????) saw the post and commented stuff like \"do u even lift faggg\" and stuff like that. I took it as a joke and laughed it off but then he told other people and somehow the link to my post got put in our class's Skype group. The next day people from my class were all laughing at me. I told them that it wasnt cool and asked if there was a problem that I wanted to jump higher. It pissed me off but I forgot it.\n\nI just started getting into fitness and working out and made a post on /r/Fitness about stuff. Another friend, whos nicer, PMed me saying \"dude get fit lmao\". That implied he saw my post and probably told others. It seems like he didnt so I once again laughed it off. Now I made this throwaway to post on different subs now...\n\nShould I be worried or have I jut took a joke too seriously?", "summary": "Friends are stalking me on reddit, have I took a joke too seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_24zx2a", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Why does my parents dog hate my dad?", "post": "Cruise is my parents 1 year old mini aussie shepherd. Shes smart as a whip, just as fast, and will jump up to your shoulder without even thinking about it when excited or happy. Shes also great with everyone she comes in contact with. Human, dog or cat. She'll play with Harley (our 8 yr old cat) for hours. Jumping around as Harley boxes and bites. Tackling each other etc.\n\nThe dilemma with Cruise is that shes petrified of my father. We've tried everything to get Cruise to come over to seeing that my dad is a good guy. She doesn't think so at all. Completely hand shy and will barely let him pet her. Dad feeds her and gives her most treats, as well as always with new toys. Even when we do this its like pulling teeth, Cruise will inch toward him, completely tense and wary. Barely grabbing the treat and scampering off. If 2 people are sitting on a couch, shes on the outside shoulder of the other person besides my dad. As soon as he gets home from work, she sounds the alarm barking and stands 5 feet away from him barking running when he takes a step forward. To hide behind my mom. I think its some sort of protection thing about my mom. She definitely loves my mom and follows her everywhere. When mom isn't home, she stays in the bedroom or in mine not wanting to come out and socialize, unless she has to go out to pee.\n\nWe've tried most of the basic techniques we have heard of, but if you know of any strategies that you think could work, it would be greatly appreciated. My dad seems almost resigned to the fate that this dog will never like him. He's been trying for a year now and nothing has changed. I've never seen a dog act like this before, and it clearly bothers my dad. He now casually insults it like its a friend you're kind of fed up with. It's honestly pretty funny, but its only because hes fed up with trying to befriend a total bitch of a bitch (get it?) and he misses having a dog that actually likes him.", "summary": "Dog fears my dad for unknown reasons."}
{"id": "t3_1to5oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update 1: Probably one of many]Me [30F] and my boyfriend [37M] of 9 years broke up on Sunday after I found \"sexts\" on Friday and I am devastated. (Warning: Long Story but will include tl;dr)", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nI wasn't sure if I should make a new/update post for my pathetic ramblings since it's not really an \"update\" in the sense of any kind of progress. I just get into these moments where I feel so desperate and helpless. Here it is:", "summary": "Woke up on Christmas morning missing ex-bf. Can't help imagining him with someone else doing all of the things he used to do with me like holding me in the early hours, smelling her hair, sighing contentedly because he's happy to spend Christmas with someone new/without me."}
{"id": "t3_km5jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Discovered that my new guy lied to me...have no idea how to continue", "post": "I'll just jump right into this. I began seeing a new (very well off...not why I'm dating him obviously but it's relevant to the story) man about 5 or 6 weeks ago. \n\nOn our second date, we run into a friend of his who is hitting up Vegas the next weekend and invites new guy (who travels to Vegas a fair amount) along. He asks me if I want to go, and I, while thinking it was too soon, wasn't about to turn down a spontaneous trip to Vegas, said yes. We even looked up some shows and things to do later that night, but I was skeptical.\n\nLater that week he claimed he couldn't get cheap enough non stop plane fare, and that he was going to go to Miami instead. I was extremely wary of this statement, but we had only been on two dates and he owed me nothing so I just took his word for it. He even sent me a photo from the \"beach\". \n\nNow we have been dating a few weeks and are spending alot more time together and I am pretty convinced that he lied to me and went to Vegan anyway, and just told me the Miami BS to avoid any potential arguments about it. The thing is, had he just decided it was too soon and told me that it would be better to wait for a trip like that I would have completely agreed. \n\nNow I have no idea what to do. What is my next move? I know I need to confront him about it, but how should I go about this? I was really starting to like him and think that the relationship might have some potential, but I can't be with someone I can't trust!\n\nPlease reddit, anything you can tell me would be appreciated", "summary": "Found out that guy I'm dating lied about something very early on"}
{"id": "t3_52xe1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex (23f), mother of my child, frequently downplays my (27m) role as father in my kids life. What can I do about this?", "post": "In the coordination and Co parenting of our child,  3 years old,  my ex will regularly use language that downplays the importance of my role as a father,  and whether not I actually matter at all in this picture.  This is incredibly hurtful in ways I can not even begin to describe.  Can you imagine your Co parent trying to marginalize your role as a parent in your own kids life? It really hurts that some one that I once loved would say the things that she says, but I don't know what to do about.  Any time I bring up things and try to have discussions about them,  I'm accused of \"always playing the victim\"  and further gaslighting.  (gee, I wonder why we aren't together anymore) \n\nExamples include references to \"her child\" ,  \"my kid\",  and other specific words and phrases that further attempt to exclude me from this picture.  We've been to court,  we have joint physical and joint legal custody,  so it's really not a problem of me being involved,  because I am very involved. \n\nRecently I was told I'm not a \"single father\"  because I don't have primary custody. Even though I'm single (for my entire kids lifespan so far)  and I'm a father. Meanwhile, I'm fairly often manipulated with crap like \"I'm a single working mother trying to do everything myself\"  when in our kids 3 years,  she has jumped from guy to guy and was single for a grand total of about a month and a half in the entirety of that time.  She has always had help snd financial assistance, whereas with me,  it's just me and and the kid. Why am I not considered a single father then? \n\nHow can I get my ex to stop trying to assert herself as some how the superior parent and to stop marginialising me and the role I play in OUR child's life? It hurts,  it's frustrating,  and it serves no purpose to the growth and we'll being of our child, whatsoever. \n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "ex likes to use exclusionary language regarding discussions about our kid.  It's intentional,  malicious,  and I'm tired of it.  Calling her out leads to gaslighting and her claiming I'm trying to play the victim (further attempts to invalidate my opinions)  what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21bpnj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I (24m) do to fix the relationship with my (21f) girlfriend?", "post": "Hoping it will blow over but if not then I would like some advice. \n\nA little back ground: \nMy girlfriend and I recently started dating and about a week into the relationship she told me the reason she doesn't drink anymore (I'm sure some of you can figure it out). \nI went over to her house and stayed for most of the weekend and we decided to have a few drinks. She was tired from work and fell asleep on the couch, however I continued to drink and watch a movie. When she woke up I asked if she was going to drink still and she said yea (but didn't). \nI may have drank a bit much (don't fret, I didn't do anything ridiculous). Yesterday we were texting and she said that I was pressing the issue of her drinking (I might have been, I get hyped when I drink). Now she is upset at me and I don't know how to make it right. \nI have apologized to her for pressing the issue but she said she doesn't wanna talk about it right now. \nWHAT DO I DO!?!", "summary": "I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_y3bz0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I am clingy. Help!", "post": "The relationship with my gf brought up this post. I am having legit issues, which will probably end our relationship.\n\nWhat i ask for though, is insight.\n\nI've realized throughout my life that i cling to stuff. I have difficulty letting some things go.\n\nI see and ask people whether they care or a certain something or not. The majority that i ask say \"no\".\n\nMany times i feel like life is essential without certain things. Like i don't understand the point of a girlfriend if we don't hug each other when we sleep together. We do it sometimes, but to me it's actually about as essential as sex. I don't understand why i want to snuggle sometimes and she doesn't want to. I seem to want it more.\n\nThis is a funny anecdote. One day i asked her why she didn't wanna hold hands together or something of the sort. She said \"i'm just not in the mood\". I didn't bother to challenge that, i just left it at that. Another time later, she came over to hug me, i tried to push her away and keep doing what i was doing. She asked if there was anything wrong, but i just said \"oh no, it's not that babe, i'm just not in the mood right now.\" She looked at me, confused, containing a bemused expression, and i went \"what?\". \"But you're always in the mood!\" She laughed as she said that.\n\nThis is just an example of my \"clinginess\". But it seems to affect me in other areas of life too. The point is, i just wanna get rid of it.\n\nRegarding my gf, i am just gonna pretend she just doesn't exist. Idk how else to simulate a non-clingy version of me. I will just focus on the things i'm really into. Working out, my engineering courses, and having parties and fun with friends.\n\nAs to insight. Do \"you people\" do this automatically? Why? How?", "summary": "i am clingy. I don't understand non-clingy people. I want to know why and how they live life without certain things."}
{"id": "t3_25dzu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] think I'm losing touch with my Bf [18M] of nearly 2 years, I still love him but don't want to be annoying.", "post": "It's been grating at me ever since we went out with some friends together. We've always done the usual couple behavior whilst out with others; closeness and acknowledgement without too much PDA so people dont feel awkward, but that night he got more drunk than usual and acted completely different. I felt like he suddenly refused to believe I existed, he stopped talking to me and from about midnight onwards he made no eye contact with me at all, just tried to communicate with the others and block me out all together. \n\nHe also slipped out some things that upset me more than anything else, I've been thinking for a long time that it was just me over thinking or the 3 cocktails I'd had but i'm pretty sure he said something along the lines of \"I'm sick of it, man\" and \"its been 2 years\".\n\nSince that night communication has become less and less between us, tomorrow is his birthday and I haven't had a proper conversation with him in about 7 days and I haven't seen him face to face in about 11.\n\nI rubbed it off at the start, thinking I was developing OAG syndrome or that it was just extremely drunken ramblings but it nags and nags at the corner of my mind when he doesn't reply for days or has an excuse not to see me.\n\nI Love him and want the best for him always, but at this point I have no clue what to do: if I confront him it could widen the rift and make the problem bigger, if i try to pick up communication I could become annoying and needy and if I leave it I'm afraid we'll drift apart even further.\n\nI'm sure there are people that have been caught in this situation, advice would be very well received.", "summary": "Went out with Bf, since that night relationship has started to drift apart and unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1ljvyx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by closing my bedroom door.", "post": "I am 22 years old but have old-fashioned parents. My boyfriend was visiting for this past weekend but was not allowed to stay in my room despite me living away for the past five years and my parents being completely aware that I stay in his room at his apartment when I visit. We were actually just laying in bed redditing but my dog was barking ferociously downstairs so I made the executive decision to close the door to my room so we could hear the TV in the background and continue relaxing while on the Internet. My mom comes upstairs and sees my bedroom door closed... immediately assumed we're having sex... immediate bitch session.", "summary": "Today, I got bitched at for having sex when I was just innocently redditing in bed with my boyfriend and didn't want to be disturbed by my miniature, annoying dog."}
{"id": "t3_3uw226", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I feel like I'm being unfair.", "post": "First things first, I am a very insecure human being. I don't put myself out there because I'm prone to extreme anxiety, and I fear rejection and all that fun stuff. I recently *did* try and make something work with someone, despite my fear of relationships, and my anxiety just...basically skyrocketed. I let myself fall for someone and I ended up on my face! This was recent, and I'm just like this is exactly why I wanted to avoid any romantic relationship. Because this person was NOT a jerk and they were actually quite sweet, except they were dealing with their own problems and I got the shitty end of the stick. So, the fear that someone could lie to me just kind of clouds me more than before.\n\nThat was long, I'm sorry.\n\nSo to fast forward to the past two weeks, there is this person that has been interested in me for quite some time apparently. I found out in the recent stages of it, and I just kind of laughed it off as nothing serious (my insecurity never lets me believe someone could *actually* like *me.*) But it apparently wasn't just some wandering eye, he is actually very interested in dating me (I've never had a bf, which seems weird having mentioned the other guy, but that's a long, sad story. *and part of the problem.*) I know he is a nice person, and he has told me many times that he will never do anything to hurt me. He's quite sweet. Thing is, and here is my own insecurity speaking, *he's shorter than me.* It's not like I have anything against shorter people, or can't find them attractive, it is just that I am so insecure about my own height and build. :( I don't want to hurt this person because I'M insecure. That's another thing, he is older than me. I feel like I'm too immature and unstable, because he knows what he wants in life and I'm inexperienced. We're trying to be friends and get to know each other more, per my request, but I already feel myself wanting his attention more! And it's scaring me because this is how I felt with that other person. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.", "summary": "Never had a bf due to anxiety about relationships, recently tried to finally let myself get close to someone, ended up flat on face. New person trying to date me, is nice and sweet *but he is shorter and smaller than me and I am already insecure about my own height and build.* Yet I'm wanting his attention now, I feel myself getting attached. Am I being unfair to myself, or to this guy? Or both of us?? Am I too \"superficial\" (my insecurities make me sound that way:/ ) for this person? I'm so lost. help"}
{"id": "t3_3mj15r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making it look like I was making love to my dog.", "post": "As you expect, this did not happen today (errmagerd snskakd) but about 4 years ago\n\nSo I was about 14-15 at the time and watching the movie Memento (fucking awesome movie). Now the couches in the living room have the back facing the windows and the curtains were open.\n\nSo near the end of the movie, my dog comes in and decides to put his front legs on the couch and infront of me to greet me, I react my giving him a hug and a kiss behind his ear, that's when I notice my dog following his eyes on something toward the window. I turn my head around and what a coincidence, there are 2 girls (1 of them were neighbours) looking in the window at the exact same time as I'm hugging my dog and sort of laughing, presumably thinking I'm making love or doing fucked up shit to my dog.", "summary": "watching awesome movie, dog decides to greet me, I hug him, 2 girls look in and probably think I'm doing the nasty with my dog"}
{"id": "t3_38mkis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [19 F] 9mths, more like a friendship?", "post": "We get along very well, so I would really like to fix what's happening right now. Basically, she is a very cautious person. I am her first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything. So far, we have kissed and made out, with a bit of fondling by me (none by her).\n\nBefore making any advances whatsoever, I go very very far out of my way to make sure she is okay with what's happening. She has told me that she appreciates this so much. However, the other day, I brought up going farther, as we haven't moved past the making out in probably 4 months, and I consider myself HL. I am absolutely against pushing her to do something she wouldn't want to do. Her response was basically to say that she liked the pace things were moving at (not much of a pace anymore).\n\nHowever, the fact that we only get slightly intimate every 2 weeks or so makes this relationship feel like a friendship, like I'm dating my mother or something. It doesn't feel at all like she is sexually attracted to me and I am definitely running low on patience.\n\nDoes anyone have advice for me? Anyone been in her position and have insight? We are talking this out, but to me it is an embarrassing issue and I would rather not talk about it with my friends.", "summary": "overly cautious GF of 9 months who I get along with really well isn't putting out sexually at all, and running low on patience myself."}
{"id": "t3_2wqh3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32m] caught my gf[22f] sexting another guy, advice please", "post": "I apologize right from the beginning if I do not go about this correctly.  I am a total noob to reddit and all the information that I currently have about this is from her or the few messages that I saw on the kik app.  So, much of the info is questionable.\n\nI caught my gf of 3 years sexting and texting with a guy on kik.  Apparently, it has been happening for 4 months(Nov. - Feb.) now, not sure about anything now.  We just moved in together in July.  This was something that we were looking forward to for a very long time.  We finally do it, and now she does this.  There have been some pretty intense sexting sessions as well as scandalous pics exchanged.  While all of this is extremely painful, the worst part is that she tells him that she loves him and even goes so much as to call him babe.  They even discussed several preferences which are private between people in a relationship, such as how she likes to snuggle in bed.  I am unsure how kik actually works, but she said that it only keeps the last 200 messages, so I can not see all of what has been said in the past.  \nWhen I caught her, she, of course, said that she was so stupid and sorry and that she only really loves me.  \nShe didn't actually meet up with the guy that I know of, and that may be the truth because he supposedly has a girlfriend and lives in Canada.  \nAlso, to add a bit more pain, this was over the holidays and, I'm sure you already thought of this, Valentine's Day.  So, while I was purchasing and planning, she was scheming in a different way.\n\nI am stuck because I really do love her and the thought of throwing away our future together is sickening, but there may not be a future to save if this is who she is.  \n\nSo, reddit, should I stay with her and try to salvage this or separate?", "summary": "Caught live-in gf sexting another guy, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3n6mx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) Missed My Chance and can't get over it, please help?", "post": "During my spring semester I had to do a group project.  One of my group member brought a friend.  During the group meeting I chit chat with her friend a bit and found we had something in common.  She seems like an amazing girl.  I had class right after so I had to leave ASAP.  I didn't think too much of it.  After school was done and I got to thinking that I missed my chance with a great girl.  It's been 4 months and I can't seem to get over it.  I still have 1 more year of school till I graduated, but I'm sure she graduated.  Her friend is still in school with me but it was just a group project.  Is it weird if I try to find and talk to her over fb (we don't have any friends in common)?  I know it's cliche but I feel like I can't be happy without her (probably being a drama queen..).  I don't feel like socializing with any other girl, and I can only somewhat focus on school work.  I would do some school work and I stop to think about how I missed a chance.", "summary": "Can't get over a missed chance I had and its affecting my socializing and schoolwork.  In need of advice of what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1mv8p1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] have been in a ldr with my gf [20f] we've been in this relationship for about three month and i dont know what to do please help!!", "post": "Like the tittle says i need help. I dont know what else to do. I have never been in a relationship before so i dont know how to act so could you guy/gals help me. We have talked almost about everything. I always send her a goodmorning text and wish her good luck on her job. But lately we have been talking less and less she use to respond with paragraphs text (sometimes) but now all i get is \"oh i see \" and \"okay\". Two weeks ago she was ignoring my texts for almost a week , up until the fifth i told her that if she wanted to end our relationship to let me know so i wont bother her at all but later that day she said \"i've been stress and that i sort of shut myself from people when im stress\" but yet she was on skype, I feel like im losing her. I have tried skyping and snapchating (which i dont know what f im suppose to do ) with her she seems to reply but it also seems like she isnt up for it. Sometimes we dont know what to talk about.", "summary": "i need help on what to do with my ldr gf she seems to be bored of me,she doesnt respond with very long text as she use too. So what can i do? Can you guys/gals give me tips on what to talk about?"}
{"id": "t3_yj2hv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the funniest thing you've heard of kids doing to their babysitter/guardian?", "post": "Not really a babysitter, but when I was 13 at sleepaway camp, this one kid, lets call him Evan, had to leave due to family problems. He had left all his stuff there, and his bed was still made. \n\nIt was CIT night, which means that all the counselors had to go off to a meeting, and we were assigned a camper who is 16 as a counselor-in-training. Anyway, we got this really annoying counselor named Brandon, and we decided to have some fun with him. \n\nWe had this kid named Joe come into our cabin (our cabin and the cabin Joe was in were connected by a bathroom) and he pretended to be Evan until Brandon said \"Lights out\" and he turned out the lights. Joe, who was pretending to be Evan, then snuck out back to his cabin. This is where the fun happens.\n\nWe started off with this kid named Gavin saying \"Where the hell did Evan go?\" Everyone in the cabin started flipping out, yelling at the Brandon that it is all his fault and he needs to find him now. Brandon then starts to have a panic attack, and ran outside yelling for Evan. He ended up calling the head of the camp, and we all got in deep shit.", "summary": "We faked that this kid ran away, our counselor in training flipped out and we got in deep shit. "}
{"id": "t3_49hl6h", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My boyfriend is possibly getting charged with a crime - the police officers are acting really weird.", "post": "Hello, \nMy boyfriend is 24 years old and lives in Ontario. He was recently accused of a crime I believe he did not commit (as he was with me at the time). the police officers are pretty positive its him and are dismissive of my alibi, but that's beside the point.\n\nWhile reading this - keep in mind that my boyfriend's mom has absolutely nothing to do with the crime he's getting accused of. \n\nWhat is really weird about it is how they are going about charging him. 2 weeks ago, they showed up in his house and waited for his mom to come home. They told her that they have enough evidence to charge him. When my boyfriend's mom asked if they wanted to talk to him, the police said no. My boyfriend's mom told the police that she will be going on vacation and asked them not to take action until she returns. \n\nA few days ago the police called my boyfriend and asked if his mom came back home yet. When he said no, they told him that they want her to give them a call when she gets back. they said that they want them to come together to the station so they can charge him.\n\n Now I'm not an expert but I find it really weird that \n\na) the police want to talk to his mom given she has nothing to do with it.\n\nb) the police called my boyfriend and told him they were gonna charge him ahead of time.\n\nc) that they would listen to his mom and wait until they charge him.\n\nHe's 24 for goodness sake, he doesn't need a guardian. The most reasonable thing I can come up with is that they are trying to scare him into a confession. Am I correct? Or is this some kind of standard procedure in Canada?", "summary": "bf accused in crime in canada. Police are overly obsessed with his mom being a part of the process, even tho she has nothing to do with the crime. Police called him ahead of time to tell him he's being charged. I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_34ytky", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by asking why someone didn't want caffeine.", "post": "So this actually actually happened last week. And I apologize for any spelling or grammar errors because I'm writing this on my tablet.\n\nI work at a high end salon/spa. There's this lovely client by the name of Ann who comes in often to get her hair and nails done. Sometimes clients ask us, the stylists, to make coffee for them. I don't mind, especially for Ann, because she's 80something years old.\n\nSo she asked for decaf with cream only. I jokingly said, \"so what's so bad about sugar?\" \n\nShe proceeded to tell me in full detail about her colostomy bag her Chrons disease, and UC in full detail.", "summary": "accidentally asked about an old woman's butt problems."}
{"id": "t3_21aln1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my boyfriend [22/M] 6 years, he doesn't remember things he tells me.", "post": "Quick Background: My boyfriend and I have been together for a satisfying and memorable six years. We've lived together for the past three of those six years. It used to be a rare occurrence that there was an argument we had that we couldn't resolve by calmly talking it out. This has changed lately.\n\nMy boyfriend has odd habit of forgetting important things he says/does. It's been something I've known about him since we met (from forgetting previous actions to forgetting things I witness him telling others), but it really throws a wrench in solving the issues we've been having. Here's an example: He recently invited me to an event related to his job that involves both of our interests. I agreed to go with him. However, a few days before the event I asked him what time we would be leaving that day so I could plan ahead. He completely didn't remember inviting me and told me it was too late since space was limited for transportation to the event. I was kind of hurt, but he kept insisting that for various \"logical\" reasons that didn't even make sense that he would have invited me in the first place. This was the second time in the past few months that he forgot about inviting me to go somewhere with him, but it's hard to talk to him about it if he insists on not remembering these things.\n\nThis happens all the time in various forms and fashions, but again he insists on the fact that if he doesn't remember it, then it didn't happen. He won't remember leaving something out of place when I know I always put that object where it belongs, he will deny that he told his sister he would do something for her even if I was there in the room and could recite the conversation, and sometimes it concerns important things like previous resolutions to previous arguments/disagreements UNLESS another party is there to confirm he did indeed do/say that thing, then and only then will he admit to things he says he doesn't remember doing/saying.", "summary": "My boyfriend forgets he says/does things. This makes communicating issues difficult. How do we deal with a problem if he doesn't remember the problem happened in the first place?"}
{"id": "t3_14dxsh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "After 12 years of doing my job, it's failing me.", "post": "Let me start by saying that I have a great career, and I truly love what I do. But in the past 2 years I've been let go from 2 different locations. Both times it was for someone who has less experience, less qualifications, less clientele, and less work ethic. I do tattoos, so all of those things are necessary for a good shop. Yet here I am, struggling to keep my head above water, while these children in the industry are making a mint doing crap work. I'm not the absolute best, but I can say modestly that I really fuckin' good. My clientele have been great sports, but moving from shop to shop, you lose lots of business. Everyone says I'm funny, and kind, and I love to joke and make friends. But is it me? Am I the reason my job is failing me? I work hard, have a strong portfolio, and always draw everything custom to put in the extra mile for my peeps. For the work I do, my prices are more than fair. I'm in my 30's, and I don't know how to start gaining new skills to get a new career. I've worked extremely hard to get to the skill level where I am, and I'm nervous that I'll lose it all. I just want to be able to buy Xmas presents for my family, instead of worry about why my appointment didn't show up, and how I'll afford lunch. All while people are throwing heaps of money at \"scratchers\". I can't take much more, but I don't know how to start again.", "summary": "The tattoo industry doesn't seem to help veteran artists."}
{"id": "t3_28e28f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mixing up buddhism and hinduism", "post": "So, i had to do a presentation in RE the other day with some other dudes. I wasn't really prepared, lazy as I am. \nBefore our presentation some other dudes held a presentation about something hinduism (I did not really give attention) where at some point they talked about how there were about 330 million gods in hinduism.\nFast forward to our presentation. Now I had to explain how buddhism split up at some point. I said:\n\"So everything split up into many small fractions which all had minor differences in their opinions. Also, this is how all those 330 million gods emerged.\" At this point literally *everybody* looked at me with this WTF-are-you-talking-about-stare, and the teacher said \"You *know* those gods belong to hinduism\u2026?\"\nI got an E afterwards", "summary": "I talked about how 330 millions of gods emerged from buddhism on a presentation"}
{"id": "t3_3dxsu6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex [18 F] 1/2 year, trying to get her back.", "post": "its been 4 months of NC (relationship of 1 1/2 year). I (male) still like her. I've gone on dates with other females and almost considered to go into another relationship but I couldn't because I still thought of my ex. We had a bad fall out mainly with me not giving her the communication or effort in our relationship because my life had a sudden 180 change in it. I even told her I needed a bit of space and she said she was okay with it. but that space I asked for I took it too far.\n\nanyways after 4 months of nc i decided to talk to her again. she said she was really hurt by me and already tossed all her feelings out for me. She doesn't see giving me a second chance atm but as friends is okay. She prefers her life right now surrounded by her friends and rather not pursue a relationship etc and every time she looks back she feels hurt about what I did. yes this is grim, don't tell me to just move on because I've tried. I know just being a friend for her is the first step and give her space.\n\nmy questions are I'm wondering can females really just toss out their feelings like that? was anyone in a similar situation that actually gave their ex a second chance? if so what happened. aside from that I don't really know what I can do but continue on with my own life. I wanna show her that I've learned from my mistakes it was a phase that happened and I'm over it.", "summary": "i wonder what steps should I take to get an ex back."}
{"id": "t3_2ld8tf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [43 M] with my wife [42/F] of 17 yrs, Tinder account on her phone.", "post": "Getting coffee this morning and my wife's phone is lit up on the counter.  Thinking she is getting/missed a call or text, I pick it up to take it to her.  I realize as I glance at it that it isn't the caller ID screen, it's Tinder.  When I hand it to her and ask why she claims \"it's nothing, I just wanted to show a friend at work the stuff people post.\"  \n\nI am usually very trusting of her as she has rarely given me reason not to be.  I don't use apps, just a desktop so I am unfamiliar with Tinder in detail.  Does it require making an account in order to browse?  Do people seriously download it just for entertainment?  It strikes me as odd as downloading Steam with no intentions of playing games.", "summary": "Wife is on Tinder, should I be concerned? "}
{"id": "t3_13ekbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [19] of 4 years limiting my self-expression [19]. We are both introverts. How do I stop her from doing it?", "post": "[This] is the letter I'm contemplating giving her. Please forgive me for being self-centered here. This is the most I've ever ranted in awhile. I really need it. I hope you folks can skim the letter, I'm not the best writer nor communicator after all. Plus it covers some cultural differences that might be vital to this question.\n\nWe've been best friends for 6 years, and together for 4. We've truly grown up together. It's been the ideal relationship save for a few big fights and now this.\n\nIt all started when I brought her with me to shop for expensive shades with my mother. After the whole day, she says I am getting increasingly vain and that she finds it unattractive. She cites various small instances of my behavior in the past few months. I look in the mirror more, I compare myself to my idols more, I dress up more thoughtfully, etc.\n\nShe says it's not right to be more vain than she is, because she's the girl. I don't know how to feel about this. She already took a gender studies elective in her university, so I was quite surprised by this line.\n\nShe's my second girlfriend, and I'm her first boyfriend.", "summary": "My girlfriend says I'm too vain for looking in the mirror too often, fixing myself too often, being too picky about what I wear. Says she's unattracted to me when I do this. I hastily wrote her a letter but I haven't sent it."}
{"id": "t3_359a8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (34m) wondering if I should ignore GF's (25f) friend's birthday party snuff.", "post": "Dating for 4 months, all is well. 2 months ago, we were at dinner on a Friday night. At that time, I was working various shifts at work (Air Force), and I had to work 12am-8am. We were wrapping up dinner around 930pm when she got a text from a male friend and said she was going to grab a drink w/ him. \n\nI had never heard of this guy, since we are still pretty early in the relationship. So, I was initially uncomfortable and expressed myself as such. She reassured me he's a good friend from work, etc. etc. Cool.\n\nTonight, she mentions that there's a birthday thing for this guy this Saturday night and she had asked other people about it, and no one else is bringing +1's (aka no BF/GF/spouse), so I couldn't go...\n\nIn my head, I'm wondering: wtf? So this guy asks you for a drink on a Friday night at 930pm, I say I'm uncomfortable w/ it, but you go. Then I hear a few days ago there's a birthday thing and I ask if I can go (she said yes), but now it's a no-go. I haven't met this friend, but I feel I need to so I can do the whole \"hey I'm the boyfriend\" thing.\n\nWe haven't discussed the birthday issue yet, I just brushed it off. In my experience (with myself), I'm starting to notice the more things I brush off and don't let get to me, the better things are w/ her. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Snub #2 on meeting a good male friend of the GF. Irritated."}
{"id": "t3_1vvnl9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My ex [27f] and I [27m] have been hanging out/sleeping together for about 6 weeks. She doesn't seem interested in getting back together and I have developed feelings again", "post": "She often talks about her other exes and references her sex life in front of me despite the fact I know I'm the only person she's sleeping with. We don't kiss or get close, we have seemed to fall into a friends with benefits-type situation. I know she is using me for support an comfort as she doesn't seem to have any of her own friends besides the friends of the guy she's dating at the time.\n\nI'm starting to get fed up with this arrangement (as the sex isn't even frequent enough to keep me around anyways) and am looking for some words of encouragement about how to proceed. \n\n**How do I bring this up with her without seeming too sensitive?** Talking about getting back together usually annoys her which is a huge red flag to me. Do I tell her \"look, I can't do this anymore because I want more from you\" or simply go NC? We spend 4-5 nights together a week and I often sleep over in her bed. Sex usually only happens when we're fucked up. \n\nI need to move on and not let myself get any more attached than I already am, but hold out hope that we may be able to get back together. Will pulling back show her that she can't have the best of both worlds or should I just cut my losses?", "summary": "ex and i are friends with benefits but I want to either get back together or end things with her. How do I proceed/what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hf0gb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to the wrong hospital floor", "post": "This is not my FU, this is actually my parents FU from more than 20 years ago, I was not even born by that time. They use to make fun out of this alot so I though you guys would like to know it.\n\nUnfortunelyl my brother had a hard time while he was a young boy and he had asthma, he still have it but well it doesnt bother him anymore as it used to, hes fine fortunelly.\n\nSo there were another of those morning's that my parents needed to ride my brother to the hospital for a check-up.\n\nAs soon as they arrive they went for the desk so they would find where/what floor they should go to, this was along time ago and the hospitals were not that advanced as they are nowdays.\n\nAs soon as they had found the floor that they should had went to they hit the elevator.\n\nGuess what? wrong fucking floor, they went to the damn morgue, as my mom says everytime they talk about it: \"there were bodys covered with white sheets we got fucking scared and ran out of there!\"\n\nAlways fun when they tell us this story.", "summary": "Parents went to the hospital for regular check up, ended up going to the morgue"}
{"id": "t3_28oub0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my Ex [22 F] of 2 years, made a mutual decision to break up but now I'm regretting it. Am I just lonely or did we make a mistake?", "post": "Dated this girl for the past two years and it was by far the best relationship I have ever been in. I've never even thought of the idea of marriage until she came along. Now we've been broken up for a couple months.\n\nAt the end of our relationship we hit a slump when we realized our long term goals differed a little. She want's to leave the city we live in as soon as she can, but with her current education and work experience it will most likely take a couple years. I work full time and about to go back to finish school. It's going to take me at least 4+ years until I can get into a situation to were I can leave.\n\nWe came to the conclusion we'll most likely not end up together so we should cut the cord in order to try to preserve some kind of friendship. I feel now that we made a mistake and called it quits too early out of fear of what the future hold even though its years away.\n\nI've brought the idea of getting back together with her but she said it wasn't a good idea. She believes she was too comfortable with our relationship which made it easy for her to be content with her life situation and slack on her life goals. I told her I wanted to help her achieve those goals but she says she doesn't want to depend on me.\nWe've hung a couple time since we broke up, we had a couple weddings planned. The hang outs tend to end with us either hooking up or emotionally holding on to each other. I don't know what to do. She really is/was my best friend, but I know I have to respect her decision to find her own way.", "summary": "We made a mutual decision to break up and now I think I made a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_3a5ycv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/f] have trust issues with my boyfriend [25/m] of 5 years, even though he did nothing wrong, because of my insecurities after being taken advantage of a long time ago", "post": "Before I began dating my boyfriend, I was taken advantage of by a guy who I thought was my friend. He took away something that I had been saving for someone special (as cliche as it sounds), who I think, now looking back, should have been my current boyfriend. \n\nI told my boyfriend a few years ago, and he felt a bit betrayed (it happened when we were seeing each other). Understandably he was upset, but he comforted me and told me he was sorry that happened. \n\nBut for a majority of the time my boyfriend and I have been together, more strongly so after he found out, I've been extremely jealous and suspicious of my boyfriend. He's never given me reason to not trust him, and he's always super affectionate... but I over-analyze every single one of his actions and I feel like I'm always monitoring him. \n\nWe've fought a lot, but only because of my jealousy. He says he understands that I have trust issues, but doesn't understand why I won't trust him, and that it's not fair when he has never done anything to break my trust. He's also said that it really hurts his feelings when I show that I don't trust him.\n\nHe's been a trooper through our entire relationship, and when rationally thinking, I know that he would never ever cheat on me. I know that my suspicion is all irrational. I have sometimes thought that it might be that strong woman intuition, but I definitely know that he would break up with me before doing anything bad. Even though I know this, I get bouts of anxiety, during which I question his motive for everything and freak out. \n\nI really want to stop being suspicious of everything, because it's wearing us both out and sucking the happiness out of our relationship, even though we love each other so much. I have tried cognitive behavioral therapy, but it just wasn't for me. Is there anything I can do to begin to truly just trust him and make him know that I trust him? Any websites, meditations, books, ANYTHING!", "summary": "Have trust issues after being taken advantage of, can't trust my poor boyfriend who's done nothing wrong. Cognitive behavioral therapy wasn't for me. Any tips on how to overcome this paranoia and truly trust him til the point where he trusts that I trust him also?"}
{"id": "t3_2yujuw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by poking out my best friends eye.", "post": "Today I Fucked Up after getting back from a technical school with my best friend who we'll call Larry, we were walking to our lockers to get stuff to go to lunch. His locker is about 50 ft/ 15.24 m away from mine. From nowhere he sprints towards me. Seeing him I point at him and say \"Whada think your doing?\". All the sudden he squats down putting his eye-level to where my finger was and runs into it. He falls over and lies there for a while then gets up. He told me he couldn't see so I take him to the nurse. He tells her that I jabbed him in the eye for no reason. She tells the principal and I receive a suspension for 5 days.", "summary": "Best friend impales himself upon my finger and I receive a suspension."}
{"id": "t3_1qeu3x", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My name is Mallory, I'm turning 19 in a week and just realized I can't have a birthday party because I have no friends", "post": "Hi :)   Just a picture so you can put a face to the text. \n\nThis is my throwaway because all of this is going to be pretty pathetic. I'm 18 years old (19 on the 21st!) and I'm in school to be a massage therapist. Lately I've just been really sad and I don't know why. Everything has just completely overwhelming. On top of that school has been getting really hard, I haven't really connected to the girls there like I thought I would. They look at me like I have 30 ears on my head, and overall I just feel put down. I have absolutely no reason to feel depressed and I still do, I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm not really good with making and keeping friends, which is why I don't even want to tell anyone about my birthday coming up. The past couple of years I've really wanted to have a birthday party with a lot of friends and people that love me, but then I pull out the invite list and realize I really don't have anyone. I know it's ridiculous but Reddit is the closest thing to a friend I have. You guys make me laugh harder every day than the people I encounter ever do, and you've never hurt me like the people in my life tend to. So for my birthday I think I'm just going to sit home alone on Reddit, drink a beer, and cry.\n\nBy the way that smile you saw above, if you couldn't tell it was completely fake. This ...   ... that is what my face usually looks like.  Thanks for listening to my stupid, stupid paragraph.", "summary": "I have no friends so I'm going to spend my birthday looking at cats on reddit"}
{"id": "t3_54xp0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "34/F...so...uhhh, this \"trust\" thing...Apparently Im supposed to \"build\" in order to have a health relationship. Help!", "post": "Im 34/f, relationship 6 mo with 35/m. Realistically, no reason to distrust him. But in MY head (based off of every relationsip I've had), I feel I need to doubt every woman that \"likes\" a pic of his, says hello, says \"hey, hope youre well, miss ya!\"\nEach of these statements make me think doomsday scenarios, even though I have no reason to think such things about him.\nHow (aside from therapy) do I kinda grow up from this type of behavior?? I understand that Im too old to even be having these issues muchless asking on Reddit, but opinions always help me weigh my actions and options...\nTIA", "summary": "I cant trust people because EVERY SINGLE MAN I've dated has lied to me and cheated. Every. One."}
{"id": "t3_34w8nt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friend (24F) moving far away from me (26M), worried about drifting apart.", "post": "A friend of mine is moving away (6hr drive) to go back to school. We've worked together for just over a year, which is where I met her. During this time we've got to know each other pretty well and also spend time together outside of work. I was working away from home for about 5 months during this time, we'd exchange the occasional email and chat when I was in the office, but the past couple months since I got back especially I've felt that we've become closer friends. Sparing the details, we're very similar people and I'm more comfortable around her almost anyone else I know. She's gay, so there's no romantic aspect to this.\n\nIn short, there's nothing really in the city for her and she's going back to school. The only people around here that she actually wants to keep in contact with are myself and her current roommate (her words). Obviously I've told her a few times already that I'm really going to miss having her around but I can completely understand where she is coming from. At this point in time she doesn't have any intention of returning to the area.\n\nShe's moving at the end of the month and it's kind of just starting to set in that she's leaving and I'm not sure why it's hitting me so hard. By pure luck I suppose my closest friends have remained in the area. I guess I've never really had someone I cared about move this far away before and that's why it's getting to me. I don't really know how to handle it and it doesn't help that I'm stuck working 4 hours away from home for the next two weeks either with no one to really talk with at all.\n\nI guess I'm worried that, being individuals that tend to gravitate towards being alone (introverted), we're going to drift apart or have a hard time communicating, and that I'll end up losing contact with this great person that I've just recently found. Almost all of our communication is face to face.", "summary": "\u2013 close coworker/friend is moving fairly far away and I'm not sure how to handle it or what to expect for long distance communication, or whether we're going to drift apart."}
{"id": "t3_1t17b4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M] Need Help, I feel so lost", "post": "I have recently fallen for this girl on my college bowling team. She's cute, insanely smart, and can kick my ass in Super Smash Bros.\n\nThe issue I have, is that another member of the team has also taken a liking to her as well. He even went as far to text his confession to her. (I know this b/c she showed me). From what I can tell, she doesn't like him, but may be too nice to say anything about it. The two of us went and a saw a movie together the other day, but it was just luck that the other people who were supposed to come with us weren't able to get tickets in time. I don't want to confuse her by explaining my feelings when this other guy is essentially breathing down her back...\n\nI have never had a girlfriend before, nor have I ever really asked anyone out. Complete novice and have no clue where or how to approach this situation...", "summary": "Fell for girl that another guy likes. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_4qy773", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "How to access court records from the 80's (SC)", "post": "Hi all, I'm not sure where to get the information I need so I thought I'd start here.\n\nWhen I was a child, I was involved in a court case (criminal, I believe). Because my memory of that time is weak, I would like to get the court records for more information. I have no idea how to do that! The only information I have is the defendant's name, the state the case took place in, and my name (which may not be on the documents since I was a minor child). I'm pretty sure it would be a county or state vs defendant type of thing.\n\nCan any of you give me advice on how to proceed? I appreciate any assistance.", "summary": "I need to find really old criminal court records but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_11g82a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best/worst example of a vicious cycle you've seen or experienced?", "post": "About the middle of last semester, I was having a lot of pain in my upper back. It was pretty much constant, so I was constantly taking a lot Aleve (Naproxen) and ibuprofen. The pills didn't really help the pain, and the back pain was usually enough to completely distract me from the fact that my stomach often hurt and I often felt like I could vomit at any moment. The stomach pain turned out to be an ulcer, which \nI found out about at 2:15 AM April 30th, when it perforated, not an enjoyable experience by any means. In case you didn't know, naproxen and ibuprofen can cause stomach problems like ulcers. A few days after the emergency surgery, I found out that ulcers can sometimes cause pain in the upper back, which explained why my back had felt fine since the surgery. \n\nIn case you were wondering, I'm 19 years old.", "summary": "Take pain killers for back pain caused by ulcer that is made worse by pain killers."}
{"id": "t3_1zn6l4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my Wife [24 F]. Please save me from divorce!", "post": "My wife and I have been estranged for a while, I have felt it for the last half of 2013. She says she has felt it for much longer. January we became separated and I was upset. I continued to act selfish for about a month until I realized I needed to shape up for her, as I was the one mostly at fault. \n\nHowever, since then, she says she has began to move on and has even developed feelings for a close friend of hers, whom I had suspected of wanting her affections for months. She swears that her feelings are brand new and I trust her. \n\nI have been trying to become the best person I can be for her, cleaning and getting job interviews and just trying to be an all around considerate guy. I recently moved back in her due to money problems. \n\nShe says she wants to continue with the divorce although it will take months but that she still loves me, and has feelings for me but just doesn't **want** to make it work.      \n\n     \n\nI really want to show her I can make her happy, but at the same time I am currently in the process of accepting her wishes, without understanding them completely.", "summary": "My wife and I were estranged I want to win her back. How?"}
{"id": "t3_kwvvg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I put in a care-package for my unemployed friend?", "post": "A friend of mine just lost his job because the office of the ad agency he worked for shut down. He had about two weeks notice which was obviously not enough time to find a new job. He's free-lancing now, but the income is unstable and no where near what  he used to make. SO, my idea was to send him a care package of sorts with random things that he might like that he wouldn't buy for himself with his current budget constraints. For example, I'm going to buy him some film because he likes to take pictures with vintage 35mm cameras, but may not be able to splurge on the film now. What else can I put in? My budget is around $50.00.", "summary": "I need suggestions for what to put in a care package for an ~~unemployed~~ free-lance art director."}
{"id": "t3_4n1b96", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [26/M] think this girl girl [21/F] I'm talking to is ghosting me. What should I do?", "post": "So I know this woman who I met about a month ago, but we've been talking daily for about 3 weeks now. The last time we hung out was about 3 weeks ago when she asked me out to meet her for a few drinks. I haven't asked her out since then ,because my car was broken down for a week and a half, and now this week I kinda felt depressed. I did invite her to my bonfire party next week, and she said it sounds fun, and that it's something she'd enjoy. But she didn't really say yes or no.\n\nWell, we continued to talk even after that (this was the other day), and we talked until about 2AM or so. She replied to my message yesterday morning, then I replied  back. I then never got a reply back all afternoon. I then sent her another message last night saying \"Hey. What are you up to?\" she replied back about 2 hrs later saying \"Just chilling at home. wby?\" I told her what I was doing. Then I never got a response back. But she's been \"green\" on Facebook several times since I sent it, including last night and today, and she hasn't even even read the message, much less replied to it.\n\nIt just sucks, usually late at night when she's off at work, we talk back and forth a lot. Now she's being cold and distant. I really like her, what should I do?\n\nI really do like her. What should I do?", "summary": "I haven't heard from her hardly at all today. I really like her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1v0qdh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Worried that the fallout from my (M 21) past relationship is ruining what I could have in the future.", "post": "I had a bad experience with a long term relationship.  I had been feeling suspicious of my girlfriend (22 F) a lot but she gave me no real evidence to feel that way.  Finally, I found out she cheated on me with a number of guys and I broke up with her.\n\nI notice now with new relationships, if the girl is still relatively close with an ex or has a close guy friend, it makes me uncomfortable even to the point of being angry.  I don't feel that those situations necessarily warrant immediate suspicion, but I can't seem to help it.  I'm worried that this will ruin my chances at a normal, trusting relationship in the future.", "summary": "Being cheated on in previous relationship seems to have made me hyper vigilant in new relationships.  Will this go away???"}
{"id": "t3_2ekkeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] got left by my girlfriend [18F] of 2.5 years one month ago and having a very bad time.", "post": "I'm 20 and for 2 and a half years i was together with the most amazing girl ever. She could make me so happy. Last month she decided she couldn't be with me anymore. I gave her everything she wanted but the reasons she gave for breaking up were: \n* I wasn't social enough according to her: Yes i was silent around her friends because they were strange people and i didn't get a good feeling with them. With my friends and random group of strangers that happen to be at house parties i get along just fine and talk to everyone\n\n*I gave up on things: I don't know where she got this from, i usually don't give up on things but it seems she made up for herself that i did.\n\n*future: she thought we wanted different things for the future, even though we had discussed it quite a lot and we seemed to want the same things. and still, she has 5 years of college ahead...way too early to start thinking about things like that, our view would prolly change anyway\n\nright now we still talk everyday...i really need it because i don't have anyone else to talk to. My best friend is busy and every time he has he spends with me, but still i can't stop thinking about her...the way she made me smile, her beautiful eyes...i just... :( i feel broken and alone...my plans thrown off the table...i'm so unsure about everything right now. Everything reminds me off her because she used to be here all the time. \n\nI got 5 exams this week, i'm going to fail most of them. I really don't want to but my mind keeps wandering off into the past and i cry for most of the days , i even cry myself to sleep each night. \n\nwe still text all day and thats the only thing keeping me from crying, i feel alone if we aren't.\n\nI really don't know what to do with my life right now, i don't have a lot of money to spend so can't do a lot :( i want to go to the gym and stuff but i simply don't have the funds to do so\n\nthanks for listening to my story!", "summary": "girl of my life broke up with me, i can't get over it and don't know what to do with my life"}
{"id": "t3_36nq1c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to prank my best friend", "post": "Hello everyone, this is my first TIFU, plus it happened today. Today I was meeting with my crush who's also a friend of my best friend and at some point we decided to prank him by telling him we kissed(She knows I have a crush on her and doesn't like me back) so we called him on Skype and told him we kissed, he didn't believe us and asked for pics so we decided to make a story to make it sound real, now my crush asked me to make the story because she doesn't have any ideas, so I started making some made up story about how I wanted to find out what it feels like to kiss and she eventually stopped me in the middle because I was apparently making her look \"bitchy\", at which point she got mad at me and we started fighting and then she went home.", "summary": "Tried to prank my best friend by telling him me and my crush kissed, had to make it convicing, crush got mad and went home."}
{"id": "t3_1xu4ip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my New Boyfriend [28 M] of 2 months to 2 years?, Are we moving to fast?", "post": "So I have recently (3 months ago) broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years and begun dating my best friend. He is the sweetest man I have ever met and I loved him from day one. When we met we were both in committed relationships and despite the chemistry between us, we settled for being just friends.\n\nWe grew very close but never crossed the line into cheating on our partners. Eventually him and his girlfriend broke up. I remained with my boyfriend for another 6 months trying to work things out with him. It was a very difficult relationship, but thats for another post.\n\nAnyway, after the break up, I found solace in my friend, our relationship took a turn towards intimacy. I didn't expect that our feelings for each other would evolve so quickly. We began officially dating last week. I feel like I have known him for years but in some ways I am learning something new every day. \n\nHe is now moving in with me and my ex is accusing me of never having loved him at all because I am moving on, faster than he is. He says that I am erasing my pain with a new relationship.\n\nI still feel the pain over my break up with my ex, I just know that I need to move forward with my life. Getting stuck on the pain will not help me heal.\n\nI have never felt so comfortable with another human being. I can tell him anything without fear of judgment. I can hold an intellectual conversation with him and I never feel like I'm talking down to him. We have our little communication snags that we are working through, but for the most part, I have never been this happy....or felt this guilty.\n\nI feel like I am somehow wronging my ex with my happiness. I know that isn't logical but I can't make the feeling go away. Also, I am afraid of moving to fast and destroying the bond I have with my new boyfirend. Neither of us feels that we are moving to fast but hindsight is twenty twenty, so where are all the psychics? I need someone to help me sort out my future...", "summary": "I began dating my best friend, are we moving to fast?"}
{"id": "t3_3h36r3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22/F] date!?", "post": "I went on a date with a someone I met on tinder [22/M] and we got on so incredibly well. \nMy experience with Tinder has been using it pretty much for a casual hookup and I've been single since I was 18 and now I'm not really too sure what the protocol is for 'dating'.\n\nI think due to my past experiences with tinder and hookups, I'm very much used to it being a one time thing so after texting the guy I had a date with, I basically gave him the oppurtunity to just sorta get out of it and just said I'd like to see him again but if he didn't feel the same way that's cool. (I was drunk and regretted sending those texts but cest la vie)\n\nHe replied saying he thought I was beautiful and that he had a really good time and would like to see me again so we've made plans for monday. He also said that he'd never had a date like that before and he was trying to process it.\n\nNow, I'm really excited because we just got on so well. but, I guess I don't know how to 'date'.\n\nWhat sort of things do you do? How long do you 'date' for? What are the rules with texting? We text a couple of times through the day with just generally chit chat etc. Ahhh I feel so confused!", "summary": "I don't know how to date. I don't know what sort of things to do on a date. I don't know if there are any kind of rules for texting?"}
{"id": "t3_34852z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] still have deep rooted thoughts of her [22F]", "post": "Been over two long and agonizing years now.  Multiple custody and child support hearings and much unnecessary drama.  \n\nI feel like a completely different person from whom I was.  She seems none the same as well.\n\nI was tindering and happened to come across someone who is an exact lookalike.\n\nSame face and quirky looks... and realising this I noticed minutes fly by as I perused through her photos.\n\nI dont know what I can do, her life is her own and im not a part of it outside of seeing our son, though no matter how much I suppress the longing it torments me. \n\nWhat can I do? I feel I still love the person that she was, not the one she is now.", "summary": "still having strong feelings of my ex, and mother of my son"}
{"id": "t3_3zueaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] need advice on dealing with effects of my childhood abuse", "post": "I grew up in a very stifling environment. A religiously orthodox family that was also very conservative. I'm not sure how much in detail I should get into this but the gist of it is that I (as well as my siblings) was beaten a lot. Any and all activities were policed and any form of entertainment was restricted. We were restricted from getting too involved in sports, music, movies.. almost everything. I never got out of home much nor did I develop any hobbies. Then there was the unrealistic standards of perfection that were entirely unattainable that we were judged by. And then being beaten, jeered and ridiculed at for not being able to fulfill them. I was a frightened and quiet child that didnt really have anyone to go to. No other caregivers, nor friends to turn to. And now i'm a frightened adult that knows little better.     \n\nI want to change. I want to move on. I feel caged and impotent and I hold myself back from trying to do things. I want to change. My childhood doesnt effect me at the surface level. I am now an average adult, holding down an average job with friends and a girl friend but I am not able to invest myself emotionally. I feel like a hollow mannequin. I want to *live* more. And I dont know how. How do I move past my defense mechanisms? How do I deal with my past? How do I move on? Move forward?", "summary": "Dont know how to deal with emotional and intellectual childhood abuse. Need advice on how to."}
{"id": "t3_2t03z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16M) am sick of hearing my father watching porn downstairs.", "post": "Title says it all. I don't know how long he has been doing this but when i'm upstairs playing guitar or PC i sometimes hear something out of the corner of my ear and when i go to investigate i can hear that there is porn being played downstairs. I know it is my dad because he is the only other one home at the moment and he does this when my sister and my mother go away for something like a holiday. This is really starting to annoy me because i'll be upstairs and i might decide i want to grab something to eat or have lunch, use the phone and so on. And then half way down the stairs i hear it and instantly go back up. So, how do i deal with this situation? I guess it really isn't my business if my father watches porn but he puts it up so loud i can hear it from upstairs.", "summary": "My father watches porn downstairs and turns it up really loud and i hear it. Don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_38wlv9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Being injured on the job daily, I have to take time off. Management denied my vacation request. What to do?", "post": "I've worked at a call center job for just under a year, first on one shift, then another.  I took this entry level position for a variety of reasons, I liked the types of customers, the pay check and the hope for a reference for my next job.  \n\nWhile the job was initially okay, unfortunately I developed ear pain and ringing (tinnitus) due to the nature of the work - sound was blasted through an amplifier into my headset and other agents had a tendency to yell at customers to make themselves heard.  Wearing hearing protection helped somewhat but due to the sounds we were exposed to, including a loud dial tone at the end of each call, I tried to reduce sound exposure by using the phone receiver and holding it away from my ear.   This helped a bit but the environment was too noisy and I requested a shift change to one that was supposedly quieter.   Less other agents around me yelling, but same problems with the close loud volumes in my ears.\n\n**Now here's the problem**\nI recently asked for a few vacation days off.  Main reason: medical, I need to give my ears a rest.   However the team manager informed me that they are short staffed, have teammates on vacation and now's a bad time to take time off.  But she said if we're talking about medical leave, then that's something else and I need to bring in a doctor's letter...something that may take a few weeks to a few months to get an appointment with my specialist doctor.     \n\nIf it will take too long to get the doctor's letter and if this wait time means I have to continue showing up for work and feeling pain, I might have to throw in the towel and quit - making me ineligible for unemployment benefits.   My dad wants me to find a new job before quitting , and while that's preferred, I don't have another job yet.   What can I do to compromise and still keep an income while hunting for something else?", "summary": "I'm being hurt on the job, management is very critical of me with frequent coaching, over the top metrics goals that they claim others have met but then when asked for proof, they refuse, harassment with threats of putting me on an action plan, etc.   I want to take time to heal with a vacation request (denied by manager due to their chronic under staffing and the fact they put business needs ahead of employee welfare)  PLUS will likely need a reference soon. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_v7kk1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm 19 she's 17, I'm not sure what to do!?!?!", "post": "Quick background on me I am 19 in college and I am single as of now few months back me and my ex broke up. When we did I had said I would date someone either two years younger or two years older then me. Not thinking that the two years younger would matter to me. I ended up meeting a girl who is just that two years younger then me. I now fin myself questioning whether or not it is a good idea. She has one more year of highschool to go through and my last relationship had to much highschool bs. I would really like to date her but I find myself stopping because: She is still a minor, she has that one more year of highschool. Stupid as that may be it bugs me i mean if I was 20 and she was 18 and out of highschool I would have no problem with it! I find myself questioning morals of if it is right or not or what would happen if something went wrong? What does reddit think?", "summary": "! I find myself questioning the morals of dating a 17 year old while I am 19 even though if I was 20 and she was 18 I would have no issue with it."}
{"id": "t3_38r8q3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [24 F] of 2.5 years, I want to cheat", "post": "I feel like she's becoming more distant, she's hanging out and prioritizing hanging out with other friends (all guys) over me after such a long time in our relationship. Another thing, she doesn't care for my physical needs and has a low sex drive. \n\nThe thing is, we've never had sex, we have only done minimal (oral, touching etc.) and this is killing me, after all this time together, even the few sexual things we do have dwindled, it's been a year since we've been intimate, physically and emotionally, she pretty much treats me as a friend who she kisses from time to time.\n\nThe issue here is that I want to satisfy myself, do I cheat on her? I'm not in the best shape anymore and my attitude has changed so it's not like I can dump her and get another gf, but if I could cheat to satisfy my needs", "summary": "I want to cheat because my needs aren't being met"}
{"id": "t3_z79qu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "31(m) and 28(f) in a relationship that isn't really a relationship. Not sure what's going on here and looking for insight.", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place for this question.. but I'm finding myself in a very confusing situation with a girl that I've known for about 6 years. To provide some background information, when I first met this girl she had a boyfriend in a long distance relationship, we hung out regularly and became very good friends. After awhile though.. our friendship began to turn into something much more intimate. We settled on describing it as \"friends with benefits\".. but even then we weren't sure. Essentially, we were a couple without being a couple. Even a friends with benefits scenario wasn't quite accurate. We went on regular dates.. we went out to dinner, movies, went on trips .. spent every waking moment together practically.. all under the tacit understanding that we weren't a couple and that we weren't in a relationship together. This carried on for about 1 1/2 years .. and yes .. she maintained her long distance relationship while this went on.. I'm a horrible person, I know. Eventually, her boyfriend found out, they split. She moved across the country shortly after and we lost contact.\n\nFast forward to two years ago. She resurfaces and occasionally visits the state I live in.. whenever she does, we always fall back into our old ways. On some occasions we're just friends, on other occasions we're more than just friends... and on other occasions still, we're once again a couple without being a couple.\n\nFast forward to two weeks ago.. we hook up again.. we go out for a romantic dinner, caught a movie, stargazing etc. etc. the next day, she casually mentions that she has a boyfriend and that she feels bad .. not because she has a boyfriend, but because she doesn't feel bad about having a boyfriend. No matter what we do, we always find that we come back to each other without ever knowing what we're actually doing.\n\nI'm oblivious when it comes to normal relationships and even platonic friendships, and yet I continue to find myself in this twisted mess of nonsense... I don't really know what I'm asking here, but has anybody been in a similar situation that can offer insight?", "summary": "Me (31m) and her (28f) finding ourselves in a situation where we're in a relationship together that isn't really a relationship.. and I have no idea what's going on."}
{"id": "t3_22ob37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] 4 months, who is depressed due to unsure future.", "post": "We both are foreign students studying in a different country. I liked her from the moment I saw her and finally after 2 weeks I asked her out and she agreed.\n\nThe relationship is going well and we just click. We have fun together and even give space to each other. The physical aspect got a little faster and we even got intimate a few times.\n \nI'm her 1st boyfriend and she is my 2nd. We both love each other, which brings us to our problem.\n\nOur culture doesn't prefer Love marriages and inter religious are a big No. Though families need to be convinced and a lot more people after that, the chances are very slim that this will happen.\n\nRecently she has become gloomy and even cried that she will have to eventually leave me after our course is done after 5 years.\nShe will probably be married soon after the course and I have a few years more after that.\n\nMy stand is that we should live everyday with each other and let see how things develop, because 5 years is a long time. She doesn't seem to understand this.\n\nI cant break up because it will create years of awkward interaction and is a very stupid reason.\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Great relation, different religion so future is unsure, she is worried that she will lose me after the course. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_o6mvg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your grossest waste of time? [NSFW]", "post": "I just got done spending the last 24 hours editing a very disgusting piece of porn to sync up with a piece of classical music.  No sleep, no social interaction, just me and a movie editing program.\n\nI started around 3 AM Friday.  Got obsessed with .1 and .2 second cuts and got really into it, and decided not to sleep.  Figured I'd catch up at some point.  Then I called in sick to work, scrutinizing over whether I should add cuts of the climax into the mid section.  Then I started getting creative, and last night I came up with an ending that involved splicing the intro/opening of the movie over the end of the song.  Around 2:45 I exported it, jacked off, and thought \"fuck, where'd the last day go?\"  Then I picked up my phone, had missed calls from my girlfriend, texts, emails.  Fuck.", "summary": "I wasted an entire day, no sleep, editing an adult film to sync with classical music."}
{"id": "t3_1qvmg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my Boyfriend [21 M] 3 years, he just dumped me", "post": "I wasn't expecting this. He was my first boyfriend.  I was happy and he seemed happy. We were living together for 4 months. We were both very busy with school. We've shared so much, I thought we were going to get married. then suddenly he dumped me. He was such a nice, good person. I have never felt this shitty in my life. I can't eat or sleep. What can I do? I am so anxious and my self esteem is wrecked. If I cannot make it with him, who can I make it with?  I keep staring at his fb page.", "summary": "He broke up, I didn't want it. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11afjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help getting over my first real love", "post": "I know it sounds all cliche but this is the first time I've dealt with a situation like this. High school was easy because I never really cared. But now when I'm 20, I was dating this girl for 9 months and we broke up because she got real insecure and wouldn't talk to me about it, she would just fight me day after day and I just couldn't handle it. But we never really broke up because we would still talk and hang out. But now she tells me she can't talk to me anymore because she doesn't want to hurt me by playing games and she doesn't want to get hurt (what we were supposed to do in the first place). I'm just so angry and depressed I don't know how to go about this.", "summary": "don't know how to deal with anger from my first heart break"}
{"id": "t3_rjb21", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone every move to Scandinavia for school?", "post": "Ok, here is my current dilemma. I've been in love with Scandinavia, specifically Denmark and Sweden, for a while now. My goal is to move abroad, but I have a few issues and a few discoveries that have either complicated or clarified my process (depending on your outlook). \n\nFacts: I'm 28, male, US citizen, and have no college education. I have worked as a Network Administrator for 5+ years now in the banking industry. \n\nI fear that without the proper education behind me, finding a job overseas would be exceptionally more difficult. So, my next thinking was to go to school there. However, it seems like there are not many ways, other than out of pocket, to receive funding for school abroad. The scholarships I've looked up all require current enrollment, and I do not know of any government aid which would work towards a school outside the US.\n\nApologies for seeming so scatters, simply struggling to find footing on a solution to my problem. Any help would be much appreciated.\n\nThanks", "summary": "Has anyone obtained funding for school abroad without currently being enrolled as a student."}
{"id": "t3_1nkzdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23M] still having dreams about my ex [23 F] of 4 years", "post": "It's been a year since our break-up. I'm in medical school and she moved away to the other side of the country to pursue her career in energy. Everything seemed to be going okay and then she dropped the bomb that she wanted to focus on herself and her career and that she couldn't balance a relationship and my needs on top of her new demands of her job, especially with being 2 time-zones way. I tried desperately for a year to meet with her and talk it out in person,  I felt I deserved that and I would tell myself that over and over again that I DESERVED that much at least from her. But no go, instead my love for her and missing her turned into anger as she pushed me away further and further and I would call her so much and say mean things and she would say mean things yada yada. Now she's blocked my number, but her roommate has been in contact with me to return my belongings because my ex is \"Scared\" of me. It was almost shocking to learn that she was scared of me. I never knew what I had said to make someone scared of me, everyone I know says I'm the least scary person they've ever met. Maybe it's because I threatened to show up one day and talk things out in person, maybe that scared her. It was all so fast, this past year and all the mean things. I can barely even remember anything I said on those phone calls. I told her to not bother and to just dump my stuff in the trash, I didn't want to put someone I had loved through more pain and to the point that she hated me.\n\nNow it's a little of a year later and I've been getting better the past few weeks. However, recently I've had these awfully real dreams. We've been communicating over the phone or on facebook, but never in person in my dreams. Things almost seem as if they're resolving in my dreams and the lines of communication are opening. And then I wake up and she's gone and it was all self-torture. I know she's gone out of my life and I've tried my best to swallow that pill, but how do we deal with these awful dreams. Any advice reddit?", "summary": "Still having dreams about my ex"}
{"id": "t3_1dyrgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really like a girl...but I found out she's engaged to a marine overseas. UPDATE", "post": "previous post\n\nI'm a 20 year old guy who met this 18 year old girl 4 months ago. one day she brought me lunch to work (we used to work at the same place). it really made my day so I decided to return the favor and bring her tea to work the next morning. two weeks later I went to her apartment and she cooked me dinner! \n\nanyways, while I was at her house we really got to know each other. she told me about her relationship with a marine. she told me before he left they were dating for six months. then she said that he's been gone longer than they've been together. he is supposed to return next week.\n\nI know that I like her for the right reasons. she is a very hard worker, she makes me laugh, she likes animals and music as much as I do. she has been through a lot and has accomplished a lot for an 18 year old. I think she is an incredible woman.", "summary": "!     I don't know what to do. I know engaged doesn't mean she's married. should I tell her how I feel? with her marine coming home in a week, I really don't think she would just dump him right when he gets home and give me a shot."}
{"id": "t3_2wemqo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] Just found out that my girlfriend has been flirting with another guy.", "post": "Hi r/relationship_advice... I don't typically ask for advice from anyone so this is quite a big step for me but here goes... I've been dating this girl for a few years now and everything seemed to have been going alright. We don't argue much, we get along, and we talk frequently. As of late however, sex hasn't been a big activity mainly due to my overall lack of an urge to engage in it (weird eh.. never thought I would be in this position... I should also note that this \"sex drought\" has been happening for about half a year). As a result of this, she hasn't exactly been happy with the relationship and we've \"argued\" about it once or twice but we always managed to talk it through. Cut to about a week ago when she told me that she's actually been talking to another guy sexually and she told me she felt really bad and what not for doing so and since then, I've just been trying to come to terms with it to try and salvage this relationship. I know that she means the world to me but this really fucked me up. Any tips/pointers as to what I should do?", "summary": "Haven't had sex with my girlfriend of a few years and found out that she's been talking to another guy. She apologized but I'm not sure what the best course of action is"}
{"id": "t3_1cq4g4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] apartment lease with my bf [23M] is up in a few months. I feel like I am being to dependent and he is taking advantage of it. How can I transition into living alone?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I have never lived alone and when I moved out of my mother's house, my boyfriend and I moved in together (about a year ago.)\n\nWe moved across the country to his hometown so he knows everyone here and I have no friends and family here. Whenever we fight, he just leaves and goes out with his friends like he is doing right now on a Friday night and he knows that I have to stay at home because I don't know anyone here. I feel really hurt and disrespected because he says that I'm the one that doesn't care about the relationship, yet I moved my whole life here.\n\nOur lease is ending in a few months and I want to experience living by myself. I feel like he takes advantage of the fact that I'm so sheltered at the house. I like this town and I'm already going to the university here. How can I transition to living alone and making friends? I have so much anxiety going out alone and whenever my boyfriend isn't here. I feel like I want him to sleep with me every night so I don't know how I could live alone. \n\nI used to be independent but for some reason I'm so uncomfortable alone now. Am I making sense? How do I explain to him that I want to stay in a relationship but I need space to be independent again?", "summary": "I feel like my boyfriend is taking advantage of the fact that I am too dependent on him since we moved to his hometown and I don't know anyone. Should I move to my own place and regain my independence? How can I transition to that if I'm really scared and how do I break it to him?"}
{"id": "t3_4dsqf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M/F] boyfriend [22 M] won't get tested. Am I overreacting?", "post": "I have been seeing someone for 4months. Everything has been going really well and he has made me so happy. We decided to \"take the next step\" and start using birth control pills as our main \nprotection - so, no more condoms. I started the pill but told him that if he wants to have sex with me without a condom, he needs to get tested first. I have all my tests and results already. \n\nHe REFUSES to get tested. He says he got tested \"for everything\" during his annual and the doctor said he was fine. I told him that I want to see the results, but he doesnt have them. I HIGH doubt they tested him for everything unless specifically went in for an STD/HIV test...And what makes me worried is that he doesn't even really know what HIV is (he asked if there were symptoms or a cure). He's from quebec (I'm in nyc where STD testing is hammered into our brains since middle school), and apparently their sex education system sucks, or he's lying. He said he told some of his friends about my request, and that they all though it was strange of me to ask him that. \n\nWe've never gotten into any fights before, but I'm really raging right now. What should I do? He actually even said that he'd rather use condoms from now on than have to go get tested but OBVIOUSLY I would not have sex with him at this point unless he got tested because I'm paranoid.", "summary": "I want to start having unprotected sex with my boyfriend, but he won't get tested. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2azeaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [24 M] told his crush [22 F] he no longer wants to hang out with her because she didn't feel the same way about him. Can they still stay friends?", "post": "Basically he liked her very much but she turned him down after he expressed his feelings towards her. She was just going through a breakup and said she wants them to be friends only. Initially, he was there to support her and calm her down during her breakup but he had a crush on her after a while. Despite turning him down, he kept hanging out with her for two months hoping that she changes her decision but it didn't work.\n\nToday he called her saying that they should not spend time with each other again and move on with their lives. She was understanding. However, he is confused whether they can still be friends or not or whether it is possible that they could get together again in the future. Would love to hear your opinions and experiences so that I calm him down. I am his friend [M 23] and want to help him get over his issue.", "summary": "Friend-zoned with his crush, stopped hanging out with her, doesn't know what the future is holding for them. Is there any hope?"}
{"id": "t3_3x6vwf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scratching myself", "post": "A few minutes ago I left my dorm room to go to the rest room. Just a normal number 2. I was browsing reddit on my phone and stayed in there much longer than I needed to. I was finished with my \"business\" and just wasting time still scrolling through the top posts which I've read about four times today already. I felt an itch that is all too familiar so I, still sitting on the toilet, reached down too far to scratch it and felt a cool sensation on my fingers. Could I have.. Did I really.. I definitely just shoved my hand right into the toilet water which was still full of my own excrement.", "summary": "Put my hand in my own poopy water"}
{"id": "t3_2hy3lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20f] ask my roommate [19f] to leave the room for a few hours?", "post": "Sorry if there are any typos as I am writing this from my iPad. \n\nSo, I've been living with my current roommate for about a month now and things are going pretty well. We share a bedroom in a three bedroom dorm/apartment with four other girls and we keep a pretty similar sleeping schedule and are generally pretty friendly. The only problem is that she is literally.always.there.whenever I come home.\n\n I understand that the room belongs to both of us, but with the way my schedule works she gets it to herself 90% of the time. I don't get a lot of time to just sit at home and relax, and while I'm not saying that she can never be there when I'm home, I don't think its to much to want just a few hours to myself. Especially now when I'm not getting home until 11 most nights and only get an hour or two at home during my break in the day. I've tried dropping hints but she does not see to get them, and quite frankly it's starting to feel more like her room ha our room. I'm really stressed out right now due to an over full schedule and the fact that I feel like a guest in my own room is not helping matters. \n\nHas anyone ever been in a situation, and if so how does one politely ask for their roommate to just get the fuck out for a few hours?", "summary": "I want a few hours to myself during the week, but my roommate is literally always there. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_eb1fl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I beat procrastination?!", "post": "I just can't seem to manage it.\n\nI'll be applying to Uni in a few days and will probably end up in a career where I will be my own boss. This situation is going to be extremely difficult. I've always found it daughting and tiresome doing homework and coursework, and Uni will be torture for me. But I really want to go and study, yet I'm afraid I'll put it all off and sit on my ass until I get thrown out.\n\nI'm procrastinating right now, and have two days free tomorrow, in which I want to read some books but have no idea how to motivate myself. How should I?", "summary": "I am a lazy bastard, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_ifeoc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just found out my brother was molested.", "post": "This is my first post, so here it goes:\nMy brother is 18, and I'm his older sister by 2 years. I thought we were really close. We didn't get into any incredibly deep conversations, but we definitely told each other secrets. Well, long story short, my mother called this morning  and told me that he had been molested by the basketball coach, and has been cutting himself. The reason that this is so discomforting for me is that I didn't notice a thing. He had been molested for 3 years (6th to 8th grade) and has been cutting ever since. He doesn't know that I know, and i was wondering if I should tell him. Or if would just be embarrassing for him and make things really uncomfortable and tense between us.", "summary": "My brother was molested for three years and is cutting himself. Should I tell him that I know?"}
{"id": "t3_36j7uf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - thinking I made some new friends at the beach", "post": "I'm new in town and I have been going to the beach a lot trying to make new friends. Whenever I see someone playing frisbee or tossing a ball I'll try to say hi in the hopes of meeting people.\nWell last week I came up to some guys and they laughed at me and told me to take a hike. \n\nThis morning I saw the same guys and was giving them a wide berth, but one of them came over to me and apologized, saying they realized they'd been jerks. I said it was no problem and we all wound up playing frisbee and having a great time. We all hung out together and they even introduced me to some of the girls in their group, one of them was really cute and smiled at me a lot.\n\nWell after going swimming I must have dozed off or something cause I woke up laying on my towel and they were all gone. In a panic, I found that my shoes were gone, and I had tucked my wallet and house keys and cell phone into them. \n\nThe only thing left was my shirt. I put it on and had a weird feeling on my back. Turns out those guys wrote \"N!GGER\" on my back in sunscreen and it burned into me. Worse is that it ruined my new $40 shirt, the oil completely bled through and now the shirt says it too. I had to wear it home and when I finally got through walking four miles there with no shoes my mom whooped my ass for losing my shoes, wallet and keys AND ruining the shirt. She says I have to get a part time job and pay to get our locks changed so so long rest of the summer.", "summary": "Don't bother trying to make friends just stay home"}
{"id": "t3_4g8uou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance(28F) and I (29M) have questions about baby registry ettiquette", "post": "My fiance and I just had a bit of a disagreement about gift giving etiquette and need some outside perspective. Here is what happened:\n\n* My sister is pregnant with her first child and due in August\n* My fiance and I are getting married in September\n* My fiance's mother and sister just got invites to the baby shower for my sister\n* My fiance has still not gotten her invite, but it is probably just taking time in the mail\n* My sister lives across the country and will be flying out for this baby shower\n* Yesterday my fiance went shopping with her mom and sister and bought a couple of baby books and some swaddling blankets\n* This morning we were discussing the gift and my fiance said she was planning on giving a group gift with her mom and sister\n* I said that I thought since we were getting married we should probably be giving a gift as a couple (as aunt and uncle to the baby)\n* I feel that we should buy something off the baby registry instead of getting gifts not on the registry since that is what my sister and brother-in-law are requesting\n* My fiance was upset and felt that I was saying that she could not give the gifts her family had already bought\n* I clarified that I would like for us to get some stuff off the registry and could also give the assorted other gifts as well", "summary": "What is the *correct* etiquette here?:"}
{"id": "t3_2ybcgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [28 M] with my wife [28 F] of 6 months. She has become obsessed with her weight, and it's driving us apart.", "post": "We've been together 8 years and married nearly 6 months. Recently she's claimed that she's been gaining weight. Not much weight, maybe 10 lbs. She's very attractive, and I haven't really noticed, but it's driving her crazy. In turn, it's driving me crazy. \n\nWe fight weekly, over the same stuff. She gets upset about her weight and then takes it out on me. This morning, I called her beautiful and she called me a liar. I'm currently sleeping on the couch... again. I love her to death, but I don't know where this came from. I hate to sound cliche, but she was normal before we got married. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated. I don't want to throw in the towel so early, but it's really starting to wear on our relationship. We don't have sex, because she's always ripping herself apart, and it's not exactly attractive to hear that all the time. I find myself voluntarily spending more and more time away. I've tried talking with her about it, and it doesn't do any good. We will be good for a few days and then it's back to the same old argument.", "summary": "Wife is crazy over weight. Takes out anger on me. Have you had this experience before (M or F). How is best to handle it? Should I just run now because she's just nuts?"}
{"id": "t3_2cccon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my Best Friend[19 M] had an argument!", "post": "I accidentally let out a secret to a mutual friend of ours.\nMy Bestie is in a relationship with this girl who is quite popular and they wanted to keep the relationship a secret.\nAnd only 2 other people (ME & The Girls's friend) knew about it.\nWhile talking to my girl friend I told her about the relationship my bestie was in. And she told quite a lot of people, eventually the girl's parents found out about it.\nShe is now grounded.\nMy Betie found out that i was the one to give it out, even though he doesn't seem to be angry or pissed at me i feel the need to apologize to him as she is grounded because of me.\nHe doesn't seem to trust me anymore.\nI don't know how to fix this.\nPlease help me out.\nP.S : I'm new to reddit, so i'm sorry if i posted in the wrong subreddit/ if the format of my post is wrong.", "summary": "Couldn't keep a secret, friend got into trouble , he doesnt trust me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2iyxnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27m] with my ex [25f] we were together for 4 years, our problem is surprisingly similar to the television show \"Breaking Bad\".", "post": "We broke up two years ago. \n\nShe started a company when we were in college and I became her partner. When we broke up, I bought out her half for $750. It was worth more than that on paper, but that's all the money I had and she really wanted out. We were still on good terms, but she was taking the breakup a lot harder than I was. I wasn't interested in paying her more later, so I said \"take it or leave it.\" I also offered to let her buy back at a discount later if she wanted.\n\nWell, now I'm pretty successful. My company is valued in the 8 figure range. I am no longer the sole proprietor, but I am the majority shareholder. \n\nWell, she has recently asked me to share some of my success.\n\nWhat should I do? I have no interest in giving her something she's contributed little to. I've thought about giving her $250 and calling it even (her share was worth around $1000 when I bought it for $750).", "summary": "Ex is asking for money - what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2fqnjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of 3 months seems fishy.", "post": "We seriously are in love with each other and are planning to go to the same school and live in an apartment. Anyway, she went to a weekend festival with her family. She misses me as I miss her too, but yesterday she said she was crying, I called her, but she declined it. I told her I called and about 15 mind later said she's okay and she would call later that night. \n\nThe next morning I see she puts up a pic of her with a guy behind her with caption: \"walking with hot strangers with a laughing emoji and the \"perfect\" hand symbol. It immediately  made me mad.\n\nToday is asked her what she was doing, tells me walking bored. Then sends me a pic of a view from a boat. I told her I thought you were waking and I don't get a reply until I say something about the view. Then I ask her if she's with anyone at the fest and now no reply. \n\nAm I overreacting?", "summary": "girlfriend not acting normal with me, scared something is terribly wrong."}
{"id": "t3_2xr5bw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16f] I hate my Stepmom [39f]", "post": "I'm an only child [16f] and I live with my dad [38m], he's been in a relationship with this woman [39f] for a bit over two years now. I never liked her at first just because of the vibes I got from her and I guess I was worried about her kind of taking my dad away from me, like I worried he'd love her more than me. But then I guess my feelings were right, because over time I've gotten to know her more and I've grown to hate her. She's now been living with us for about 6 months, she is kind of an alcoholic and he drinks now because of her, he rarely ever did before. She isn't friendly to me, and she has HIT my dad on several occasions. And I wanted to like kill her (not literally, but yea). I don't know what to do, I don't want him to end up marrying her or something.", "summary": "I hate my stepmom and I want my dad to break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_2rsk3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] and my crush [16F]. Dunno if she is mad with me or just doesn't contact with me.", "post": "So we have known each other for like 2 years, but this NYE we talked to each other. At a party. I wasn't ever interested in her and she had different friends so we actually didn't meet. \n\nSo I was like her buddy for this party. I was talking with her all time,  we have been doing everything together. Drinking,  smoking,  playing games. \n\nThen,  knowing that she likes smoking weed,  I asked her if she wants to go out with me and smoke.  Woah,  she was so excited about it.  We went out,  smoked it out,  and came back. \n\nBut the weed was strong.  And we had much of it.  When we came back we drank 1 shot of vodka,  and boy,  was that a mistake.  She had gone to sleep /like when You overdose alcohol/,  and next morning she was quite fine.  She had talked with her best friend,  and then her best friend told me to fuck off of her. All went to home shortly afterwards,  and so did I went to home. \n\nI don't know what to think about it. I consider that her friend is just lying because she does not want me to try anything with this girl. I also have acne,  not very strong one,  but it is definitely visible. Also I'm not very handsome,  just medium.  So the second scenario I consider is that her friend told her to just stop thinking about me because I'm ugly.  Knowing her best friend earlier,  I think it's definitely possible.  Third one is that girl I've  been partying with just wanted to have a party friend, and she's not interesting in anything at all. \n\nWhat should I think about this?  What should I do with this? I'm  interested in her since I liked her very much.", "summary": "met a girl at a party,  she's acting strange,  don't know what to think."}
{"id": "t3_4emm82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18F] Bf [21M] sexted his ex and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months. He is very sweet and affectionate and I love him a lot. I've had issues with him in the past where I caught him texting his ex girlfriends and calling me just a friend. I have forgiven him for that on the reason that he was just messing with them and that his friends bet him to. Today I stumbled upon his porn folder which contains many nudes and sexts of his previous ex girlfriends. I knew this folder existed because I have seen it before and I think little of it. Today I found a new addition, screen captures of snapchat videos and texts between him and his ex girlfriend. This was taken only a few weeks ago and I don't know how to react. I am upset and I feel betrayed and I don't know whether to just leave or talk to him about it.\n\nFYI: he is my first boyfriend", "summary": "my bf sexted his ex girlfriend and I don't know how to confront him"}
{"id": "t3_19sf3i", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I (18f) am having some jealousy issues as far as my boyfriend's (21m) daughter (3) goes.", "post": "So, I've been dating my boyfriend, Drew, for a while now. I recently met his 3-year-old daughter, Mia. While I thought I would be completely okay with him having a daughter, once I met her, it turned out to be harder to adjust to than I thought it would be. I'm 18-years-old, and am used to being my boyfriends' entire life.\n\nI love Mia so much, she is absolutely perfect, and I would never ever let my jealousy get between my relationship with her or her relationship with him. I'm not just like a selfish bitch who needs all kinds of attention. I lost my dad when I was 16, so I know the importance of Mia's relationship with her father, and I encourage it.\n\nI know that Mia HAS to come first, and I love that Drew is such a good father. I understand that when I became his girlfriend, I gave up ever having him 100% to myself. I am willing to sacrifice so that I can be with him, I just need help learning how to cope with this.", "summary": "Boyfriend has a 3yo daughter, I love them both dearly, but am having some issues with getting less attention from him when she's around. Need help coping with this, and finding my place."}
{"id": "t3_24eqzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] just made my girlfriend [20 F] cry. I'm not sorry and that's why I feel bad. Anyone else ever experienced this? Am I a bad bf for it?", "post": "Basically we had a fight earlier in the day, she didn't find it to be a big deal at all, I found it to be a huge deal. (It was about her single guy friend touching her inappropriately.) Then she just ended it because she thought nothing of it. Then later on the day (I'm still pissed at her at this point) she says her dog has an infected eye. (Our dogs fought pretty bad yesterday.) I just said, \"That sucks.\" and she started crying her eyes out. She says she doesn't like the fact that our 'minor' disagreement effected something so serious. I want to feel sorry, but I'm just not. It would be a fake apology. I hate that I made her cry, but I'm far from sorry. Am I a bad person?", "summary": "We had a fight. She told me dogs eye might be infected. Didn't care she cried for my lack of empathy. Am I a bad bf?"}
{"id": "t3_2fcm79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my estranged brother [33 M], trying to connect", "post": "Looking for advice of how to approach communicating with my brother.\n\nHe has lived at home with our parents since birth, but has not spoken to any of us in ~5 years.\n\nHis behaviour is very strange, he will not enter a room that somebody else is in, and he creeps around the house so that nobody will see/hear what he is doing.\n\nHe has a set routine, he will go to work, come home make some food and eat it in his bedroom. His bedroom is spotless, no computer or anything, just a kindle which he reads books on.\n\nI have always assumed that he has some form of autism, but has never been diagnosed.\n\nHe has a lot of anger for us, he is deaf in one ear, and his eye sight is very poor, and we can usually hear him talking under his breath, saying things like \"fucking idiots\" and cursing us. For example if somebody is in the kitchen and he wants access, he will creep up to the door to see if anybody is there, if there is he will curse and run back up to his bedroom, he will then try again in 5 minutes when the coast is clear.\n\nAbout 6 years ago he moved out, and left a note saying \"don't ever speak to me again or try to get in contact with me\", a few months after he moved out my dad got a phone call from him saying that he'd made a mistake and couldn't live by himself any more, so he moved back home. After this he was more normal, and he would eat food with us and converse. But gradually he has slipped back to hating us and now won't speak to any of us again.\n\nI think he is going to attempt to move out again soon, and leave us another hateful letter. I just don't think that he is capable of living by himself, or looking after himself.\n\nThe last time I tried to speak to him he just turned his back to me and waited until I left.\n\nI tried writing a letter once but he didn't even read it and just threw it away.\n\nI just want some for of communication between us again, or for him to know that he has someone to talk to should he ever wish.", "summary": "Estranger brother hates his family, trying to think of a way to approach communicating with him."}
{"id": "t3_e480k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's have a discussion on online news and revenue", "post": "I guess I'll start by saying that if it weren't for reddit I would get almost no news at all.  Reddit allows me to customize my front page and find things that are most relevant to me and I can filter out what I don't like.  However, this means that I don't regularly visit many other news sites and only see them when an article pops up on here.  Those sites can't very well count me towards their ad revenue and therefore make very little money off me.  However, very few actual news sites (not social news or link aggregators like reddit) can hit the front page of social news sites and link aggregators on a daily basis.  When revenues for a news site aren't very high they can't as easily afford to produce good content, and online ad space is worth much less than print ad space.  How can news websites reach those least likely to read the news (especially young people) in a way that brings them revenue?  Many young people (like myself) got to places like reddit because it brings things all into one place. But, like I said, that means that the actual sources of the news don't get my full readership.  What kind's of ways can online news sites maximize their revenue (and thus, hopefully, provide good content) through maximizing their readership (which they can lose due to sites like Reddit).\n\n**So I guess the", "summary": "would be "}
{"id": "t3_49br6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] fell for a girl [21F] who moved back overseas. I am moving to same country later this year coincidentally. Should I propose LDR?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo a few months back I met this incredible woman from the U.K who was staying with her family in my city for a few months. To cut a long story short, we got along like a house on fire. She is everything that i would look for in a woman. Creative, funny, loving, the whole shabang. We spent a lot of time together over the past few months. Then the unfortunate/ inevitable happened and she left about a month ago back to the UK. It wasn't a sad goodbye as i knew i would see her again. At this point i should mention i have been planning on moving to the UK this year due to upcoming redundancy, time to see some of the world. But i didn't tell her this until the end of our time together. \n\nSince she left we keep in contact daily although conversation is disjointed due to timezones, and we manage to Skype once a week. I can't help but start to feel a little empty inside, as it's obviously just not the same seeing her through a screen. I'm not sure where i stand in this situation,  she is back with her friends etc probably living it up and good on her. But does she miss me? Does she still think the same way about me? I know the answer is to talk to her about this but i have no idea how to approach the situation. I don't want to come across as thirsty, i mean i am moving to the same country as her later this year.  Maybe this would be misconstrued as some insane act of love? Which it isnt.  But i am curious as to how she would feel about trying for something relationship wise,  seen as i will be in the same country. And from this question whether to start an LDR until i get to the UK?  Or should i just keep on keeping on until i get to the UK and if she is available then great and if not ... such is life.", "summary": "fell for a girl who moved back overseas, coincidentally i am moving there later this year. Should i ask her to step into an LDR."}
{"id": "t3_364rdw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cutting the grass in a tank top.", "post": "This actually happened Wednesday but whatever. \n\nSince I'm super pale I figured that it would be a good idea to wear a tank top when was cutting the field at my house and maybe I'd be able to get a tan or at least something close to one. Boy was I wrong. After riding around is the sun for 4+ hours I managed to burn the everloving fuck out of my shoulders, knees, and pretty much anything that wasn't covered with clothing. Since I'm a dumbass I only put sunscreen on my ears and a few hours later I had already started to get blisters on my shoulders along with a pain when I move them that I can only describe as fire needles being hammered into me along with a nice feeling of light headedness and nausea. I've tried pretty much everything to make it stop but nothing's working. I would rather get shot with a bow and arrow again than go through this. I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy.\n\nSo yeah, wear sunscreen or just avoid the sun like the plague if you burn easy.", "summary": "Cut grass in a tank top without sunscreen, got the sunburn from hell, never going outside again."}
{"id": "t3_si5n3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need a little advice...", "post": "My gf (26f) and I (23M) have been together for a year. She is struggling to find work (she freelances), she is in debt, living in a one room apt with her unemployed best friend. Her younger sister is moving in with her in June. Which I find ridiculous, considering that my gf isn't really getting by, and now has to look over another person. \nBasically, she's a mess. I find myself unattracted . She is stressed out all the time. I help her as much as I can, but it's starting to hurt my bank account. Plus, she hates it when I help. She is super hard-headed and wants to \"do it on her own\". But she gets NOTHING DONE. My gut...my gut tells me to break up with her. I love her so much, but find myself not really, I hate putting it this way, IN love with her anymore. What to do?", "summary": "Girlfriend's life is a bit of a mess. She is stressed, in debt and unemployed. Refuses my help, and it's making me unattached and I am starting to loose feelings. Am I not being understanding enough? What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4fc1we", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [20M] duration, 1 year he wants to move to another country, but I want to live in his native country.", "post": "So a little backstory: We are in a LDR and for around 3 years (before I met him) I was learning his native language and I love his country and the culture etc. \n\nWhen I met him I thought it was perfect because he is a native and he had plans to stay in the country, we even talked about living together in his hometown.\n\nHe recently went on an internship to Prague and the place he is interning at has offered him a job there after he graduates. Now he is talking about \"maybe\" living there etc. I've visited him there and I *hate* it. I don't like the language, culture or anything.\n\nI feel like I'm already putting in so much effort just to be with my boyfriend and him then deciding to move to another country, I would have to put in twice as much (learn a 3rd language, live somewhere I hate) I told him I don't think we could be in a relationship if he moved there. He said I always ruin his happiness and make everything \"sad\" because he was happy about the job offer. Was I in the wrong? I felt it was important to bring it up, as it's my future as well. Yes I am happy he got a job offer because that means they appreciate his work and he has made alot of contacts but I don't want him to accept it. Is that reasonable?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to *maybe* move country, I do not."}
{"id": "t3_146sm8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My friend is becoming an asshole", "post": "I'm using an alt account, since my friend is also a Redditor, and knows my primary username. Let me begin by saying I'm 18 years old (19 in another month), and I have a single friend. And I'm content with that. In fact, I don't want any more friends. I'm an agnostic deist, and he's atheist, but the good kind (you know, the kind that just says \"I don't believe in God\" and just leaves it at that), so it's never been a problem. But lately, he's been changing. He's been researching outspoken athiesm. His new \"idol\" is Richard Dawkins, who, in my opinion, is kind of a dick. I wouldn't have a problem with it, except for the fact that the more he gets into the whole outspoken atheism thing, the more he gets pissed off at the religious people (he even refuses to watch \"The Exorcist\" simply because it has Christian themes in it). He gets angry at Christians for believing in something that has no evidence of existing, and that they want Christian material such as creationism taught in schools. On top of the annoying-atheism thing, he's taken up smoking and drinking. Heavily. He tries to get me to come outside with him to smoke a cigarette, and I have to refuse because it's the middle of goddamn winter and I don't want to freeze my ass off watching him smoke. But I feel that refusing makes him think that I don't want to be his friend anymore (or maybe I'm over thinking it). On another note, during the election a few months ago, he was very outspoken about that as well. He voted for Obama (he made that blatantly clear), saying that anyone voting for Romney is a \"fucking lunatic who needs to pull their heads out of their asses.\" When I told him I wasn't voting (I'm not throwing my miseducated vote in there), he made it seem like I was required to as an American citizen. He didn't seem to get that I had the right to not take advantage of the right to vote. I know this is an \"off my chest\" (which it very well is), but does anyone have any advice as to what to do about this?", "summary": "My best (and only) friend has become an outspoken, closed-minded bastard."}
{"id": "t3_3hptms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Missing my [19/F] sort of friend(?)[20/M] while he's at basic. I don't know how to deal", "post": "So my way idk what to call him? Friend? Lover? Like I mean the only reason we aren't dating/together is because of 3000 mile distance problem and he doesn't want to lose what we have through a distance relationship. Idk I he's very precious to me.\n\nI miss him heaps, like a lot.\n\nWhenever I see military on TV I start tearing up. Whenever I think of him I tear up. I cried in the middle of class the other day. I don't know what to do at all. I feel so depressed and just want to be able to speak to him right now. I'm not a proper girlfriend or American so there's not really many resources for me to access. I can't send him letters because he doesn't want to tell his parents about me and therefore I can't get the code address thingy\n\nWhat do I do? How do I deal?\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nAlso it's his birthday today so I'm extra sad. I tried posting at /r/airforce but they were really rude, can you guys please be nice? \n\nThrowaway because he knows my normal account\n\nSorry if I sound stupid", "summary": "Missing fuckbuddy/friend/sort of boyfriend while he's at the military. I'm a mess."}
{"id": "t3_37fovq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20f) with bf (20m) texting a mutual friend's wife early in the morning?", "post": "I woke up at 4am this morning to my boyfriends phone going off. He read it, and said he didn't know who the message was from. So I pushed for him to ask the person - he really seemed like he didn't want to ask, and kept saying he doesn't care. \n\nEventually he messaged them back, and we found out it was a mutual coworkers wife.. saying she saw him online and thought she'd message him. He completely got super defensive, said he didn't have a clue why she was messaging him, and that she probably only had his number because our mutual friend never had credit on his phone, so he would call or text off his missus' phone. \n\nThey have 4 kids together, and my boyfriend is a lot younger than her, but something just doesn't feel right about the situation. He also mentioned yesterday he'd nip and say hi to her and the kids when he was working in the shop near their house.\nAny advice? Am i looking into this too much?", "summary": "boyfriend had text off mutual friend's wife at 4am this morning, out the blue? Advice on whether I need to look into it more, or leave it."}
{"id": "t3_1jamcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/M] only ever slept with my [22/F]. Think shes great but I want to have sex with other people.", "post": "So I have been with my girlfriend just over 3 years now, and lived together for about a year and 3 months of that. She amazing, gentle, funny, nice to live with. \n\nI do have my niggles with her, for example I feel she relies on me to help her out with her life even when she knows Im super busy. And if anything needs doing on a computer, I can either do it now, and be angry about it taking an hour to talk her through it. Or do it later, after shes crying about how much she hates computers. /rant.\n\nThe more pressing issue however is this:\nShe is the only girl I have ever kissed, had sex with, had any form of girl/boy relationship with.\n\nIm 25 now, and I feel like I could be missing out on an important part of life, and more importantly, an important decision making process.\n\nMy best friend [23] has just broken up with his long term girlfriend, he moped about it for about 3 weeks then kissed a girl he fancied and now hes like \"Ex-who\". \n\nWe almost broke up, due to extremely heavy work loads making us both quite selfish, about 6 months ago, and it broke my heart, and hers, that all the plans, all the presents, nice things we use day to day that the other brought into our lives, looked like it was about to end.\n\nI see a future with her, shes beautiful, would make a great mother, has a great family. But I just dont know any different.\n\nI want to have sex with other girls, for my own selfish gratification of wanting to enjoy sex with more than just 1 person my whole life.\n\nTo finish on, I always remember what one of my class mates said \"sometimes, you think you love somebody so much, then that goes away and you meet somebody else, and you realise you didnt love that first person at all\"", "summary": "I love the girl, and it would break my heart breaking up with her, but I dont know any different, and feel like I'm unable to make an informed decision about \"is she the right one\" without being able to engage with other members of the opposite sex."}
{"id": "t3_2t0zkv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Potentially Schizophrenic Parent attacked by \"Bugs\" need help...", "post": "To begin, I'm here because I'm at a complete loss of options.\n\nI live in a single parent house hold, the parent is now around 62 years old. In the last 2 years she had begun seeing \"insects.\" she described them as small, black, sometimes white, and vicious. She describes them as always attacking her, leaving her with wounds all over her body and causing her a lot of pain.\n\nI came home today to find her with her neck bleeding a lot. She was covered in a white powder, I believe, diatomaceous earth, which she believes helps repel the insects. The surrounding of her eyes are yellowed ans she looks in very obvious pain.\n\nThe problem becomes, that no one else in our family is affected by any \"small black insects\" at all. She believes them to be microscopic or as big as termites. At her age, she is unable to small print at all, so how she is able to see \"microscopic\" insects is incredibly unbelievable. The fact that no one else in the family has been attacked by any \"insects\" is troubling.\n\nEverything that has happened has lead me to believe that my parent may have schizophrenia and I was looking for second opinions on the topic or if anyone else has had a parent or knows of someone who was in a similar situation.\n\nMy parent however, refuses to believe she has schizophrenia. She feels in pain over the fact that no one else feels her suffering is is agonized over the fact that she's the only one being attacked by these \"insects\".\n\nThe wounds that she ends up with I believe are self-inflicted. I had heard that schizophrenics will occasionally injure or tickle themselves and be completely unaware that it was themselves. I believe that this might be the case with my mother, however, not having her under a 24 hour supervision, I'm unable to prove that.\n\nI digress though... Has anyone here on reddit had a family member with schizophrenia or like symptoms and what did they do to resolve it?", "summary": "Mother has been attacked by \"insects\" that no one else in the same household has been attacked by. Leads to believe she may have schizophrenia in her later years. Looking for help."}
{"id": "t3_4o10l3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my long-distance ex [26 F] of 12 months, she thinks we should hang out", "post": "I dated a girl for a year. It was a good relationship. I moved to another country for a year. I am moving back. The relationship ended because we didn't want to do the long distance thing, but I've heard through the grapevine she has sort of 'waited' for me by not getting serious with anybody else... I have had a lot of time to think about our relationship and I while we do have fun together, I changed a bit (in terms of my lifestyle regarding fitness, cooking/food and what I want from a relationship) and I don't see her as a long-term partner anymore. She wants to hang out...\n\nWhat should I do? I know friends will be difficult and I don't want to date her again.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend assumes we will hang out again because I moved back to her town."}
{"id": "t3_xw0dr", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I have lost the will to go on...", "post": "Hi guys, it's been about 2 months since the girl(20) I love walked out of my life and I(m19) have lost the any motivation to do anything whatsoever. I know most of you guys are going tell me to move on and forget about her. I've been told this many times... I just can't do it...\n\nI go to university and work part time, surely I thought that these things would get my mind off her but it hasn't. Everywhere I go and everything I do reminds me of her. I started my uni life with her and spent nearly 2 years with her, seeing her everyday for lunch and going home together. She would leave me messages when I worked and she would wait for me to have dinner with her after work. My life revolved around her and now that she's not apart of it anymore... I'm just lost.\n\nI broke no contact the other night by sending her a email about how I was sorry and was asking her for another chance. She bluntly replied that it would never work out and she doesn't want me in her life anymore...\n\nI don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore. These days I just sit at home playing computer games, skipping my lectures and classes... I'm scared of going to university because I might run into her and I don't know how I would react if I did... It's a big place with thousands students... The probability of me running into a law major on my side of campus is quite low... Despite that I don't want to do anything. The semester has just started and I know I'm not going to do too well at this rate.\n\nI know that she's off having fun everyday, smiling and making new friends... and I'm here, alone in my room, crying myself to sleep every night. I don't want to go on... I'm losing my mind.", "summary": "girlfriend dumped me 2 months ago. I'm still sad. I have absolutely zero motivation to move on with my life."}
{"id": "t3_450ldb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19 M] break up with my overly-attached girlfriend [19 F]?", "post": "I'll try and keep this brief.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for about 15 months now. We're currently freshmen at the same college (only twenty minutes from our houses). We met in high school and began dating our senior year.\n\nI told her that I love her just two months into the relationship, and she reciprocated. After that, she started talking a ton about our future. She constantly talks about our future career and lives (50+ years) together, always brings up is having a family, and she gets upset whenever I don't show as much enthusiasm as her on the subject.\n\nToday, she found out that I've been smoking weed and drinking with my roommate (she knows that I've done that in the past). I fucked up by not telling her sooner, as she found out about it from a mutual friend. Long story short, we had a huge fight. She told me that she hated me, took back her gifts to me from my room, returned an expensive necklace I bought her, and then told me that we're done.\nBut, when I began to break up with her (after she yelled at me to break up with her) she immediately started crying and begging me to work it out with her. When I continued the breakup (since I actually do want to break up with her), she went ballistic and told me that she could never go on without me and that, if I broke up with her, she would go back to her dork and kill herself with painkillers. I freaked out and told her we could stay together. She had to go, so I walked her out and on the way she said that she's willing to compromise on the situation.\n\nI feel trapped in the relationship now. I know that I haven't handled things well, but I really could use some help Reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend found out I lied to her about smoking, we tried ending the relationship, but when I started the actual breakup she threatened to kill herself. How do I get out?"}
{"id": "t3_2g1zas", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this girl interested in me?", "post": "A friend got me hooked up with this girl, but the problem is that we haven't met each other yet. We will be meeting in about two days but I'm not sure if she is very interested in me. We have only been texting for about three days now and I have been starting every conversation we have, and we can't talk in person because she doesn't live near me and doesn't go to my school. Because of this I really don't know a lot about her, but when we talk we talk about the simple shit, not to exciting, because we aren't technically dating yet, I'm sure it will change when we do meet though. For now though, she doesn't like to start the conversations, so it just doesn't seem that she is interested. I guess I am just wondering if I should just keep starting the conversations over text for now until we meet, or wait a day or so and see if she texts me.", "summary": "Girl I haven't met in person yet is making me text her first, is she interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_2tp7pu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "21 years old, million dollars, no life and no goals", "post": "I'll spare a lot of details and try to keep this post brief.\n\nIn my last year of high school I began to try all sorts of things to make money online. I had small successes here and there. My most recent project, started in 2013 turned in to a full on business. I have just sold the business as of January 2015.\n\nThe proceeds of the sale + past earnings put a little over $1,000,000 in my savings account.\n\nI'm completely lost now, no idea what to do with my life. I shunned most of my friends while I was spending all of my time trying to make money, lost contact with many of them as they have moved on to college/university. I don't have a secondary education and it would be difficult for me to enter in to such an institution.\n\nThe money is a blessing but I'm lacking in all other aspects of my life. I don't really have any goals, I don't have many wants, I don't know what to do. I've moved to a new city earlier this year where I know no-one.\n\nI've kind of just been sitting around playing video games and watching TV shows waiting for something to happen with my life.\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "1 million dollars poof out of nowhere"}
{"id": "t3_1ku921", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M/15) My girlfriend flirts with a bunch of guys, I dont know what to do.", "post": "Please just someone read this : We have been dating for 14 months. She flirts with a bunch of guys, some of them have seen her naked ( before we were dating she had sent them pictures) She does \" cutesie things with some of them like play tag and get piggy back rides... I love her and I tell her ever night, she told me that too, but for the pat 9 days she hasn't said that back, I tell her good night I love you and she just says good night back. When we first started dating she was talking with this guy and he thought they were dating but she says they were not. She went on vacation with this guy and sleep in the same bed with him, she only wears a shirt and panties to bed. She talked to this other kid who she said was just another kid but I later found out he thought he was dating he never asked her out so she thought it was OK, they would talk on the phone for hours a day and at like 4 in the morning too, sometimes they would Skype and he would sometimes be naked... He would ask if she wanted to see his dick... She said no at first but then eventually she said yes... She saw his dick more than once like that... Another time while skyping with this guy he was upset so he said he would tell her why if she showed him her tits.. So she did it... She says its not cheating... Please someone... Tell me anything... I need help", "summary": "PLEASE READ IT! I NEED HELP :`("}
{"id": "t3_1ih1zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too soon for me [19m] to ask this girl [19f] on a family vacation?", "post": "Both of us have pretty shitty come lives, and I like bringing someone with me on my family vacation to distract me from my family.\n\nWe have gone on 2 'dates' and are about to go on our third. We have only known each other for 2 weeks, but we have seen each other every single night since the first date. \n\nI get the feeling it is way to soon, but the vacation is in a few weeks and need to let her know soon so there is enough time to take off.\n\nWe have not talked about our situation, but I know she has told guys who hit on her that \"she is seeing somebody\"", "summary": "Too soon to go on family vacation with me?"}
{"id": "t3_26sawg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23 M] had a dream about cheating on my SO [23 F] of one year, not sure if I should tell her?", "post": "First of all, this wasn't just a dream about having sex with some celebrity crush or something, if it was I wouldn't hesitate to tell her. This was a dream about cheating. \n\nIn the dream I was having sex with some woman I didn't recognise, very different looks-wise from my SO & my usual type. My GF was in the room with us and I didn't think I was doing something wrong until the other girl left the room and SO slapped me. She was incredibly upset about it (obviously) and ran off crying while I tried to apologise.\n\nI woke up feeling terrible (and relieved, I actually thought I felt like I had just ruined our relationship). Normally this is the kind of thing we talk about, we've been very open about sex - had lots of conversations about our desires, our previous partners e.t.c. and we rarely, if ever, keep it from each other when we're upset about something. We've even discussed cheating in dreams and she's admitted that on one occasion she was upset when she had a dream about an ex cheating on her.\n\nHere's why I don't want to tell her. She has had bad experiences with previous boyfriends cheating on her, and had \"given up on men\". If I tell her it might bring up some bad feelings for her, but if I don't tell her I feel like I'm keeping things from her. I know its \"just a dream\", and I would never cheat on her but I still feel guilty about it.", "summary": "Dreamt about cheating on GF who has past issues about cheating"}
{"id": "t3_3i42jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] am frustrated and hurt by my [23M] BF and feel like he isn't listening to me.", "post": "Background first since I think it may help: We had had a major falling out that was mostly on my part. I was being a huge bitch and even tried dating someone else for a short while and said some mean things.\n\n He and I broke p and I got back together with my boyfriend, but because of that I wasn't ready to be sexual or say I love you for a while. We're long distance as well.\n\nNow currently, we were watching something together last night and doing that joking \"I love you, no I love you more\" thing. I ended up saying I love you most and he said liar, meaning it as a joke. We've done this before, but he's never said liar. It was always \"Nuh uh/No way\" and I could tell. But using that word took me back because of our past.\n\nI tried talking to him about it, but it ended with both of us getting more frustrated and I realized it was silly to get upset about and I wasn't going to hold it against him, but at the same time he couldn't seem to understand that it hurt me and I just wanted him to acknowledge that instead of belittling my feelings in the situation ( almost exactly what I told him).\n\nNow he's mad at me for getting upset, and said he doesn't want to entertain me at all. He asked I not talk to him today, so I'll try to respect those wishes. But I'm over here really hurt by how this has all gone down.", "summary": "My BF jokingly called me a liar and I was hurt, but now he doesn't understand why it matters at all."}
{"id": "t3_1p03sq", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Vent on me after a shitty day? I'll leave the plugs, sponges AND scourer in the sink, AND not wipe the sink down", "post": "So my dad came home yesterday, and he had had a shitty day. No problem, I can deal with that. I ask him how his day was, trying to be nice, and he just goes, \"Same as every other one, working to keep you fed.\" Now, I don't like it when he gets this \"Oh god, I hate you, I hate you so much,\" attitude that he has. So I decide I can't really deal with him, and then just go back to my room. Later on that night, my mum calls me out for dinner. We eat dinner, and as usual, I get up, clear the table and begin cleaning up the kitchen. He typically leaves a few beer bottles lying around in the kitchen, and this night he had also left the carton of beer which he had purchased earlier. I ask him to move them out of the kitchen, and do something with them, and he says \"What are you asking what I'm gonna do with them? I'm gonna put them away! It's not like you ever do anything around here anyway.... yadda yadda yadda yadda for like five minutes, all while I'm cleaning up this kitchen which had been left in a somewhat terrible state. I successfully \"uh-huh\" my way through his lecture, and he goes off and sits down to watch television and fall asleep. I had nearly finished the kitchen at this point, and my usual routine is to finally wipe down the sink, wring out the sponge, and place both plugs in their respective places **outside** the sink. I actually did put them back at first. But then, an evil plan came across my mind. I decided that it would be best if the plugs, sponge and scourer were all just left in the sink. Enjoy your shitty stale smelling sponges, dad.", "summary": "Dad vents at me after shitty day, says I do nothing around the house while I'm cleaning kitchen, leave sponge, plugs and scourer all in sink to annoy the SHIT out of him"}
{"id": "t3_4vugp6", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Older dog has peripheral vestibular disease.", "post": "In October of last year my older dog, about age 15, had an episode where he lost most of his balance control. He kept falling over and couldn't keep food or water down. We took him into the vet and they diagnosed him with peripheral vestibular disease, also called old dog syndrome. They gave him some some meds for nausea, basically Dramamine, and told us that he most likely would never bounce back to his old self.\n\nI have continued giving him Dramamine since then to help with his balance and coordination. He has lost 10 pounds since October due to him not wanting to eat as much. Some days he tries to play but usually ends up falling over some due to his coordination issues. He also has went deaf and has trouble seeing. I've felt up until recently that he has mostly good days, and some bad days.\n\nA couple weeks ago, I took him back to the vet for a checkup and the vet did some blood work. He is pretty healthy as far as blood work is concerned and no spots on his x-rays. The vet prescribed him steroids, which I don't think have helped at all. At this point I'm just starting to feel like he isn't happy. He sleeps most of the time and barely eats, except for his treats.\n\nWith all this, I just keep wondering if I'm doing the right thing keeping him around not knowing if he is in pain. I know he isn't going to get better and it's just down hill from here. I also feel like I'm giving up on him if I put him to sleep at this stage. I know if he gets to the point that he can't get up, stops eating completely, or worse, that it's time. This gray area that he is in now is so frustrating and stressful. Any advice? Thanks.", "summary": "Old dog has peripheral vestibular disease. Bad balance and coordination, deaf, almost blind, losing weight, seems mostly happy, but not himself anymore. When is the right time to put him to sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_4934ht", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(IA) Husband recorded a phone call where his ex states she hasn't eaten for 2 days waiting for food stamps--won't give him custody--do we call someone?", "post": "Location: IA. \n\nWe just emailed our lawyer. \n\nStepson came to our house this weekend. His mom hasn't been keeping the court order meeting us halfway to exchange him, so we've been driving the full distance when we can. (She lives 3 hours away, so that's 12 hours of driving for us over a weekend). \n\nHis mom told us that he had been having a lot of accidents lately. He will be 5 next month. While at our house, he pooped his pants and wiped himself with his underwear and told no one. Later he said he didn't want to go back to his mom's house and his mom sleeps on the floor. \n\nObviously concerned, I called his mom on Friday. I recorded the phone call. In the conversation, we agree that him not seeing his dad as much due to her not following the court order is obviously having a negative effect on him. (We are supposed to get him every other weekend and she is supposed to meet us halfway) She agrees to start following the court order. In the same conversation, she acknowledges that she is struggling. (Husband pays her child support). I talk to her about the possibility of my husband taking him full time. She says she's open to it, but thinks her mom would freak out, so she's hesitant. \n\nIn the same conversation, she tells me (in the recorded call) that she didn't eat for two days because she was waiting on her food stamps. She is a diabetic. She also tells me that she couldn't get her diabetes medication and had to beg her doctor for free samples because she couldn't afford her prescription.", "summary": "My husband and I are concerned. Mother of stepson has full custody, not following court order, is telling us she didn't eat for two days because she was waiting on food stamps, couldn't afford her medication, and my stepson is almost 5 and having potty accidents and regressing bathroom habits like he's 2. Also he's telling us that mommy sleeps on the floor. We emailed our lawyer. Do we have a case to go for full custody? Should we call CPS? Or is this something they wouldn't care about since she's saying it was only her that didn't eat for two days?"}
{"id": "t3_42ieuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31/m) wife (30/f) and I moved for my job five years. Her family has not visited once, and I believe it's a passive aggressive way to get us to move home. Wife now wants to move home, what do I do?", "post": "My wife's family has always been good to me. I get along with her parents and all three of her siblings. However, her family has always lived very close to her parents. Her parents have always been hard on their kids, and also very manipulative.\n\nHer three other siblings all have houses within two miles of her parents. All of her sibling's kids practically live at the parent's house. They go there every day after school...every Sunday...and most Saturdays.\n\nWe have lived out of state for five years. Her parents have been retired for the entire time we have lived here. Her parents have not visited once. None of her siblings have visited either. You would think that there was some kind of family issue, but there isn't. My wife talks to two out the three siblings 3x/week on the phone...and the other one once/week.\n\nHer family has always been passive aggressive though. If you don't do what they want, they give silent treatment.  \n\nEvery time I ask my wife why her family doesn't come out, she just says she doesn't know. They give the \"oh we will come out soon,\" but it has never happened.\n\nIn my opinion, they have never flown out here because they are passive aggressively teaching my girl a lesson that this is what happens when you stray far from the nest.\n\nIt has finally worn on my wife. She wants us to move back home. This would not be good for my job at this point in time. I wouldn't have to start over, but I would definitely take a demotion. I also want to add that she has been receiving pressure from her family to move back home.\n\nI don't want to move back for two reasons: 1) Because it's not the best thing for my career 2) Because our hand is being forced by her family. \n\nI don't know what to do. What are your suggestions?", "summary": "My wife's family won't visit us/my wife after five years because they disagree with her moving out of the \"nest.\" She now wants to move back home. I don't want to move, specifically because of my job. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_2rh7fq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] things are weird with my friend/crush [18/f].", "post": "I've been friends with her for almost a year now and have had a crush on her for most of that time, we're going to uni together and got drunk and hooked up a couple months ago, just making out and light touching, but that was still a big deal because she had hardly kissed anyone before that and I had only made out with one girl before that.  We're both pretty awkward so  we didn't talk for about a week after that happened but then we decided we should talk about it so we did and I told her how I felt and that I wanted to date her and she said she liked me (may just have been sparing my feelings, not sure) but wasn't sure what she wanted to do because she was afraid of ruining our friendship, we made out and cuddle a few times after that but then finals came along and we were both studying like crazy and didn't talk for like three weeks then after they were done she texted me and said she just wanted to go back to how things were and be friends, and I just said okay because I knew if I didn't she'd be really stressed and scared and stuff and it was just before Christmas and I didn't wanna do that to her at Christmas, and then she went out of the country for holidays and we didn't talk, we both just started back at uni today and I still have talked to her since that time before Christmas. I don't know if she wants to be friends just because she's afraid of relationships (which she is) or if she's stopped liking me (assuming she ever did) or if she doesn't want anything to do with me. I can't decide if I should just go my separate way, or try to just be friends (which could be difficult because I still like her) or try to talk to her to figure out whats going on and go from there. Any suggestions?", "summary": "I drunkenly hooked up with a friend a few months ago, haven't talked very much since, and she texted me a couple weeks ago that she just wants to be friends then left the country for vacation and just got back and I don't know what to do because I still like her."}
{"id": "t3_1kndmx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I Don't Know What I Should Do...", "post": "So, I have a problem and I don't know what I should do. I have thought about this for a while, and I decided that I want to get a girlfriend. I don't have the time or money to have a girlfriend though. I am a freshman in high school (U.S. high school for those who aren't American).  I know I will be able to find a girl, I just don't know what to do about my money and time situation. I can't get money from my parents because they are broke and I can't get a job because of the time thing. I don't have any time because I am taking 3 honors classes and I am one of the best basketball player in the state that I live. The whole thing has me a little bit confused. \"I got a pretzel in my head.\" (Bonus points if you get the reference) What should I do besides ask strangers over the Internet?\n\nJust needed to get that off my chest.  Thanks for reading, I would love to hear your opinions.", "summary": "I am broke and have no time for a girlfriend, but I really want one."}
{"id": "t3_2bj18q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18/f) girlfriend of 5 months told me (18/m) we kiss too much", "post": "A little background: at first I took it really slow with this girl because it was my first real relationship in a while and I wanted to do it right. I didn't kiss her for the first month or so while we were just going on dates, but then I started to (slowly) when she became my girlfriend. \n\nIt escalated fairly quickly, and fast forward to now I can't keep my hands off of her (holding her hand, scratching her back/arms/legs, etc.) she enjoys this though and I thought all was well until she told me yesterday that she misses before when we wouldn't kiss as much and used to just talk in my car after work (where we met) for hours at a time instead of making out in between conversation. We would talk in my car almost every day for at least 2 hours at a time, and now I feel like I ran out of things to say, but I still want to be with her and I love kissing her. Should I take a step back from where we are and try to just talk instead of being so physical? Is it wrong of her to tell me how often I should kiss her? Any help is appreciated!", "summary": "started out slow and focused on conversation in our relationship, now I'm too physical (kiss too much) and she misses just talking for hours."}
{"id": "t3_1jr2yc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20/F) do not know where to begin in handling my best friend(20/M) of 5 years and his serious crush on me as well as how I feel towards him.", "post": "My best friend has had a major crush on me for several years now and despite our ups and downs. We're still very close friends, but he sees me as far more than that and we have had fights over it because sometimes he just treats me as more than just a friend and I just don't think it's right, but for the most part, I've gotten over it.\n\nDespite not liking him, I have noticed myself refusing to let him make any moves on other girls, for example when he tries to talk to my other female friends I will shoot him down and tell him to stop or if he tries to ask me about them I jump topics and in all honesty call him a pervert and basically shame him for even trying. \n\nI don't know what is wrong with me, I am hoping I can get a bit of insight.", "summary": "Best friend of 5 years has a crush on me, I don't see him the same way. He tries to approach other girls and I refuse to let him get close. I don't know what's wrong with me and want to know how to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_3c9q9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] taste in women has completely changed after a 2 month fling with [22 F]", "post": "So 2 months ago I started seeing a girl, \"Jenny\", she is a tiny (5' tall) Asian girl, petit body but also a bit musclar, very cute face, overall adorable. I always found girls like this to be cute but never really felt a strong romantic or sexual desire for them, infact Jenny was the first Asian girl I even kissed, let alone slept with. Before her literally all my girlfriends (4 total) were 5'4-5'8 white girls with brown hair and a pale-ish complection. As well, the majority of girls I slept with and found attractive were similar to this description.\n\nI met Jenny online, was pretty much instant chemistry when we met in person, ended up having sex the first night we hung out... and it was real good. As we got to know each other better and learn what each other liked, it ended up being the best sex I have ever had in my life and she said it was the same for her.\n\nUnfortunately our relationship wasn't all sunshine and rainbows and we dealt with a lot of issues that shouldn't have come up so early in a relationship and they eventually led to Jenny breaking up with me last week.\n\nSo a couple days ago, I was feeling okay and decided I would get Tinder and see if I could find some girls to at least hang out with and see where things went, but strangely enough, all the girls that I would usually find attractive are now kinda blah and I am finding myself searching out a girl just like my now ex. \n\nHas anyone else experienced this? Is this just because I still have feelings for my ex and miss her or have I uncovered a new type of girl of interested in? I guess only time will tell.Interested to hear others thoughts/experiences.", "summary": "White guy, dates small asian girl for the first time, now is only interested in dating small asian girls"}
{"id": "t3_nl596", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me understand the male mind. I will be forever grateful.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for two or so years. We are both 22. Everything in the relationship's great, except his avoidance of the ex-girlfriend topic. Now don't get me wrong, I feel as though most people are that way about their exes, which is fine. The problem here is he never told me about his long-term girlfriend (whom he lost his virginity to, said \"I love you to\" first, etc.) before me, until pretty far into our relationship. I was upset about this because of the fact that we had had tons of unprotected sex before he told me. In fact, whenever the topic of his ex-girlfriend comes up, he is very evasive about it. He told me specifically that he never was actually in love with her and that I was his first love. From what I've heard, their relationship did not end well. It sounds like he kind of feels a bit bad about it in a way; like he feels sorry for her. \n\nI think every time he's talked about their relationship it's about how badly he still feels about it. I recently \"stumbled\" across some of his facebook messages (I know, I know. It's bad) which included a conversation with her; nothing major, just them planning to meet up. He has never mentioned them meeting up before, when he told me that he would just briefly let me know if he was going to hang out with another girl (not by my request, but his own). Also, not sure if this is important or not, but from what it sounds like (mostly me inferring, as he is very evasive about it) they had a fantastic sex life that we just don't have together and he feels badly about that as well. This issue has started to make me somewhat insecure about things. Not sure if it's a legit concern or if I'm just being silly.\n\nSo the question here is, guys, what is he thinking here and why the avoidance? Is this just normal guy behavior that I shouldn't be concerned about? Or should I actually confront him about it? Any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "boyfriend avoids talking about seemingly-important info about his ex-girlfriend. Dunno if I'm being paranoid or if I'm justified in feeling this insecure."}
{"id": "t3_4cx5lf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] asked a girl [25 F] out for dinner, the date is in a week from now; what to do in the interim period?", "post": "So I asked out this girl and she said yes. We get to see each other every day and I'm not sure how to treat the period between today and the day of the date. We get to talk a lot and even occasionally get some private time. \n\nWe both have made it pretty evident that we fancy each other and our conversations reflect that. \n\nMy question is that whether should I make any possible move to take it to the next level right now or wait till the date night. And if not, how exactly should I behave in the mean time? How do I keep this interim time period before the date...umm..\"hot\"?!", "summary": "Have a date coming up, with a girl I meet every day, in a week. How do I handle the time period in between and keep things interesting?"}
{"id": "t3_n6nml", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if Justin Beiber is the next Michael Jackson?", "post": "I know a lot of folks hate the little guy, but the other day I was listening to a song he did with Kany West, a remix to Runaway Love. It was pretty interesting, and it got me thinking, what if this kids the next MJ? \n\nIn all do honesty, his current music isn't what we're all fans of, but keep in mind, he's young. He can't sing about dramatic life experiences, breakups, or heart ache, because he hasn't experienced that yet. As he matures, so will his music, and once that's combined with his talents he has the potential to be outstanding. \n\nSo what does Reddit think, could Justin Beiber, potentially be the next Michael Jackson?", "summary": "Heard a song with Justin Beiber and Kanye West, thought maybe this kid could be the next MJ. What do you guys think?"}
{"id": "t3_33f0to", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20s F) want to break up with my ( 20s M) SO", "post": "I hate breaking up with people. It makes me feel like a horrible person, but I know that sometimes it's for the better. \n\nI'm really bad about getting things across the way I want, so I'm posting what I plan to say/do to make sure I'm doing the best I can to do this as painlessly as possible. I know it will hurt either way, but the less damage I cause, the better.\n\nSome background. \nWe live together and I support us both for the most part. He does have a job, but it's not enough to support himself. We've been together for a few years and have lived together for most of our relationship. I want to break up with him because we want different things.\n\nThe break up\nI'm going on a short trip and I feel that it would be best to break up a day or two before I leave so that we can work out his living arrangements. He is a good person and I trust that he won't damage my property. We also have roommates and friends that will help if needed.\n\nI plan on sitting down with him and telling him that, although I still love him, I feel like we've started to out grow the relationship. I've brought up something that I wanted on a few occasions and each time he has stated he cannot agree to that type of situation. This is something that I've been thinking about for a few days and I believe it's for the best.\n\nSince I know his financial situation, I would not require him to move out until he was ready/had the money. If he wants to move out while I'm gone, we would talk about division of property then, if not, it can wait until I get back. \n\nI know he'll have questions, this is where I need help. What kind of questions would you have? Should I word something differently? What can I do to make this as easy as possible for everyone?", "summary": "my so cheated on me with my sister, Jenny."}
{"id": "t3_bimik", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need a good credit card and I don't know how to get one.", "post": "I know that its as easy to get a credit card as it is to wear pants, but I need a good one. I have only ever had one credit card and just paid it off every month. I'm a grad student so my income is only around 20k a year and I haven't had need for a different card until now. I'm planning on buying an engagement ring for my girlfriend but sadly my current card's limit isn't high enough and I would not be able to pay it all off right away anyway (and the interest rate on my card sucks). \n\n  So I'm looking for a card that might have a really low interest rate or something like 0% for a period of time. I graduate in 2 years and will be making plenty of money so letting it accumulate interest at a low rate wouldn't be too terrible (the ring is around $5,000). I just don't know where to look. My credit score is good so I think I would qualify. Please give me any ideas you can about what I should be looking for or any other way I could finance my leap from the precipice of bachelorism.", "summary": "I need to buy an engagement ring and I need a credit card with low interest to put it on."}
{"id": "t3_44ck36", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending to be an Australian exchange student to get a shoe", "post": "Yesterday was the Thursday before Mardi Gras, and in New Orleans there's a parade called \"Muses.\" It's an all female crew, and it's a huge parade. \n\nMany crew members decorate shoes with glitter and fake jewels, and give them to people. Catching a shoe is a big deal, and people will fight for them, steal them, and jump into the middle of the street for them. Naturally, I want one, so I wait for a stall in the movement of the parade, and I walk up to one of the people on the float and do my best Australian accent. This accent has worked with people before, so I decided to try it. \n\n\"Excuse me, I'm an exchange student from Australia, and my host family said I'm supposed to ask for a shoe. Do you have one?\" \n\n\"Oh really? What part of Australia? I used to live in [insert Australian city here]\" \n\nIn this moment, my mind went completely blank. I could not think of a single place in Australia. All I could do was awkwardly walk away.", "summary": "Tried to fake being an Aussie to a person from Australia."}
{"id": "t3_tcwsz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Double Major Advice", "post": "Hey, I'm currently finishing up my freshman year as a Photography and Digital Arts student at a University Minnesota. I'm starting to find that this major isn't satisfying my recent craving for knowledge or creativity. One of the Lib-Eds I chose this semester was Philosophy, which I did surprisingly well in, and really enjoyed. It was a lot of work, of course, but it was work I really genuinely loved doing. I could really feel myself getting into flow while studying for that class.\n\nWhich made me wonder, should I double major in Philo? The question of course, spiraled me into seemingly never ending self doubt on what I've been doing these past few years pursuing my art interests. Sure, I'm plenty good at art, but I'm so scared it won't be a financially fruitful profession. \n\nMy current plan is to finish my digital art degree, then go to some kind of animation or computer animation school so I can become an animator, a story board writer, a character designer, or maybe even a video game designer... something with story telling, drawing, and hopefully animation.\n\nSo what's your two cents reddit? Is an art major worth pursuing? What could come out if I did double major in Philo? What would be a more fruitful combination of a double major?\n\nThanks for the responses, if they come c:", "summary": "Confused as fuck about my art major. Don't wanna grow up to be a homeless bum. Just realized I love Philo. Need advice for a double major."}
{"id": "t3_p2nys", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need legal advice... I jumped out of a vehicle into traffic.", "post": "Ok, basically what happened is this: Two of my friends and I were in my car driving around town. My ex works at the local Sonic and they wanted me to go talk to her. I didn't. We went anyways because we were hungry. A different carhop came out and gave us our food. My friends requested my ex and the carhop told us she would go get her. Being the SAP that I am I pulled out and drove off. They were giving me shit about it and calling me a pussy, whatever. I didn't really care. Later that night we were out in the boonies and my friends wrestled me to the ground and took my keys. They started to drive me back to Sonic telling me I was going to talk to her. I am an extremely stubborn person and if I don't want to do something I won't do it. I asked them multiple times to pull over and let me drive but they ignored me. When we were in town getting near Sonic, I reached over and shut off the ignition and when the car slowed down I jumped out and ran off. There was a cop driving by at the time that I did this. I guess he had another call to make because he didn't get me right there. I hid behind a restaurant and called my roommate to come pick me up. Meanwhile, my scumbag steve friends are getting pulled over by the cops. It's my car and they give the cops my insurance information and tell them that it was me that jumped out of the car. The cop told them that I would have to go to court after they mailed me a subpoena. My question is this: How much trouble am I potentially looking at here? Is this a felony? Misdemeanor? I have no priors on my record and have generally kept my nose clean. Can I have this expunged from my record and should I get a lawyer? I have a full ride scholarship and one of the stipulations of it is if I get arrested, I lose it. I'm really freaking out right now and don't know who to talk to about this. If I lose my scholarship, I'm boned.", "summary": "I jumped out of a stopped vehicle in the middle of traffic and the cops didn't find me, but they have my info and are going to subpoena me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ikwsh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I received a call from Mcdonalds about a job opening, but it went to voice mail and now the person won't answer their phone.", "post": "Thursday afternoon, around 5 PM, I received a call from a lady that works at Mcdonalds. I had applied there two weeks ago and she was calling to set up an interview. However, I was away from the phone at the time and it was on vibrate, so the call went to voice mail. It was 11 PM when I noticed the call and I decided to call her first thing in the morning about the job (she specifically said to call her back, in her message). So I woke up the next morning (Friday) around 8:30 and gave my body some time to wake the fuck up. I ended up returning her call at 9:30, but she didn't answer and I left a message. So I waited a little and called her again at 12, but still no answer. I waited for her call the whole day and she didn't call back. Now it's Saturday morning and I'm going to try calling one last time.", "summary": "A call about a potential job opening went to voice mail and I called back in the morning, but I received no answer."}
{"id": "t3_3vl83i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my friend's flatmate [20 M] have been drunkenly getting together since the start of University [September] and has recently started getting weird - Don't know what it means or what to do?", "post": "Me and my friends flatmate have been drunkenly getting together since September and nothing was particularly strange about it. We both knew what was going on and were cool with it but recently it took a strange turn. \n\nWe have now soberly got together a few times and he has started acting strange towards me. For example, he keeps taking the piss out of me in front of people or just being generally a bit of a d**k. This happens for a whole week then the next he is totally fine with me and we get on so well.\n\nMay sound like a school girl crush type thing but genuinely have no idea what that means. We also (as far as I'm aware) both haven't got with anyone else, so can't see that being a factor. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Getting repeatedly with guy drunkenly "}
{"id": "t3_1zv5fb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I helped my best friend through a full year of terrible depression. I hate that I feel entitled to something.", "post": "I met this sweet little girl late in my senior year of high school. She was a freshman, and she would always look at me in the halls as I passed her. She was always very skinny and, even on the hottest days, wore long sleeves. Being a former victim of self harm, I knew what this meant.\n\nWhen I asked her to talk for a while, she was very hesitant, which I had expected. I told her what had happened to me as a kid, and that I knew the pain she was going through. She eventually let me listen to her story, and since that day, we've been inseparable. I would make her dinner, pick her up from school, see all of the new movies she wanted to see, and pretty much devoted my life to helping her get better. To this day, she's like my little sister, and I love her very much.\n\nNow, about a year later, she's doing much better. She's doing better in school, and is visiting therapy twice a week. It's the greatest feeling in the world to see her happy again, but I still feel like it's not enough. I had never asked anything from her, nor will I, but I can't help but feel like I want something more.\n\nI hate the way I'm feeling, but I just wanted to know what you guys think of this. Am I being selfish? Am I a bad person? Please let me know what Reddit thinks. Thanks a bunch.", "summary": "I helped my good friend through her depression, and she's like my little sister now, but I hate that I feel entitled to something."}
{"id": "t3_3h5zg8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention to the microwave readout...", "post": "In the scheme of fuck ups, not major, but I'm still pissed.\n\nSo, I wander into my kitchen looking for a bite to eat. I haven't been shopping for a while, so I really only have cereal, oatmeal and some grapes. After some digging in my cabinet, I find the holy grail, a little personal mac and cheese cup. I'm like, \"fuck yeah!\" Looking at the directions, it says to add water. Now, the fuck up. I think to myself, \"I enjoy my mac and cheese sweet, so instead of water, I'll add some milk.\" So I dump some milk in, hit *what I think is 3 minutes* and wander back to my room to browse reddit. Completely not keeping track of time, I figured I would just listen for the loud ass beeps of the microwave to alert me to when my food was completed. Lo and behold after waiting for what felt like way more than 3 minutes, I go to see the time remaining on my meal. Unfortunately, I put the cup in for **30** (not 3) minutes - the milk basically hardened and the mac and cheese was split and burnt. The milk also bubbled all over the inside of the microwave which I have to clean too. Also it was in for like 15 minutes, not the full 30. \n\nSo now, here I am, hungry as fuck, out of mac and cheese, and the nearest store to me that carries it is about 12 miles from my house and it's 11:30 PM. I am just heartbroken.", "summary": "went to make mac and cheese, put it in the microwave for 30 minutes instead of 3, it is ruined and I have no food in my house or anywhere close to me..."}
{"id": "t3_2xq4ar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why would my ex (26/m) make an effort to see me (21/f)?", "post": "Today started off as a normal day, me at school on campus. My college campus is only one block. My friend and I were hanging outside between during our break. All of a sudden I hear \"hey what's up?\", I turn around and it's my ex boyfriend. This was a surprise to me since he doesn't go to my school and majority of the people who are on the block are affiliated with the school. It's open for the public to walk through though.\n\nMy ex boyfriend made an effort to walk past my campus with another girl. We happened to see each other. Our break up was amiable which was 2 months ago, he broke up with me because \"he needed space; we were moving too fast; he wanted to see other people.\" We talked several times and have hooked up but nothing more.\n\nWhen I realized that it was my ex, I greeted him and asked hey what's up. It was less than a minute. He said he was coming from pen station which is very close and that he was on his way home. I noticed he was with another girl.", "summary": "My ex boyfriend made an effort to walk past my campus with another girl. We happened to see each other. Our break up was amiable which was 2 months ago, he broke up with me because \"he needed space; we were moving too fast; he wanted to see other people.\" We talked several times and have hooked up but nothing more.  I'm bothered by this and wondering why would he do that?"}
{"id": "t3_v187f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need advice on feeling under appreciated by my SO.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, friends for about 2 and have what I'd call a 'happy relationship'. We have little fights which are resolved almost instantly, and we've never been engaged in any sort of screaming match or break. \n\nThe problem is, sometimes I feel like he doesn't appreciate me. Heres the story. I'd call myself relatively romantic, like I always get him gifts or bake stuff for him. I joined also minecraft and started playing stuff like LA Noire so I could have more to talk about with his brothers and such. However, when we're not together, I feel like he doesn't appreciate me. He rarely texts me, and struggles to make plans with me, like he doesn't really care. It makes me feel rejected and like he losing interest\n\n And I feel terrible when I text him more than once because I don't want to be regulation overly attached girlfriend, but sometimes I worry, because he's cheated in past relationships.\n\nBASICALLY, I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but I'm just wondering, is this normal behaviour for a boy, or is it something to be concerned about?", "summary": "we have a great relationship, but sometimes I feel underappreciated. I don't know if this is something I should just see as normal?"}
{"id": "t3_ga6td", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you live for?", "post": "Hey guys I know it has been a while since I have submitted. I got in a rather heated topic tonight in which I am sure a many of you have been in a similar situation. I was actually a wingwoman tonight for a friend whose ex came over to talk about life because he pleaded to come and talk to her crying over the phone...even tho he doesnt know she is seeing someone else...Just came for a drive-by beer ended up having a crazy convo with him. He was trying to claim most of his life he does not look forward to almost on the verge of wanting to end his life...tho seriously he is manic/depressive/split personality so it is hard to infer what he truly means/feels. I tried to persuade him the positive aspects of life..surrounding yourself with positive people who are motivated and passionate....trying to do new things...and follow your passio...enjoy the little tings...but long story short he still was a non-believer...so it got me thinking reddit what has made you soo happy...what makes life exciting for one to live?", "summary": "what makes you genuinely happy reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_3rfpss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [19 F] 7 months, is addicted to stressing out.", "post": "My relationship has been causing me a bit of pain recently and I'm not sure what do or how to bring it up with my girlfriend. To start off, 7 months isn't a long time. Her and I were previously together and many thing stood in our way and things didn't work out at the time but I moved for her so things could work out because I adore her. As of recently, well, for quite sometime I have noticed that she cannot operate without many things going on. She's very negative with every situation that pops up and even with random folks walking by. I cannot tell if her confidence is  low enough to hate on nearly anything and everything but it saddens me because I know there's so much good in her that, nearly never gets out. The only times I really feel loved by her is after sex and she says the sweetest things and it's my favorite thing but besides those instances she shits on me, my confidence, my music/movie-taste, the things I wear, the things I like at all. I stopped smoking weed for her due to the fact that she thought only losers do so and I picked up a chess habit to occupy my unneeded thoughts and every time I play she laughs and wonders why I would even do such a thing. I feel like I can't do much of anything atm and I'm just wondering why she's doing this? I always ask her kindly to stop being mean and she cries and apologizes and I comfort and tell her everything is ok I just want you to treat me, normally not like I'm below you. She always agrees she'll do better and does the same thing the next day, day in and day out. Any help?", "summary": "My girlfriend hates on everything I like and do, help?"}
{"id": "t3_15l0i7", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "IT GETS BETTER, just maintain NC!", "post": "I'm (24m) 3 weeks of NC and I am feeling a lot better than I thought I would. I've made it a priority to hang out with friends and do stuff that I know I wasn't \"allowed\" to do while in a relationship.\n\nFor everyone in the position as me, KEEP NC. There are some days that you want to talk so bad, but don't. Put your phone away, tell your bud to put a passlock on your phone. Do anything it takes.\n\nIf they contact you to see how you are, don't answer. This will be hard, but like other people here have said, until you can picture her sucking some guy's dick (or if you are a girl, ramming some chick from behind) and not feel anything, you aren't ready for friendly contact. My ex likes to make it subtle, whether it be to favorite a tweet or like an instagram picture, but fuck that. She doesn't deserve someone like me in her life right now.\n\nIt's almost new years! Go out, have fun with friends, forget everything bad about your life. It's a New Year! Make the most of it bitches!", "summary": "ITS THE NEW YEAR, DRINK UP, HAVE FUN, 2012 is behind you, maintain NC and you ***will*** be happier!"}
{"id": "t3_4ngdvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ended my relationship with (M27). It had to happen, but I (F26) feel worse then ever.", "post": "I ended my friendship/relationship with T today. We've known each other for 2 years, kept bouncing between seeing each other and just friends. There are reasons why we never became official, but the main one to me is that I felt like I couldn't rely on him. We would make plans, and 60% of the time he would cancel. The reasons were always genuine and sound, but there's only so much I can take. Every time felt like a rejection.\n\nThat's what happened today. Supposed to meet up, all fine and dandy last night, then this morning he doesn't think it's a good idea. And I've finally lost my patience with this, have said we need to have some space from each other, that it's clear he doesn't feel the same way about me, and I feel shit and rejected everytime.\n\nI know this is the right thing to do. I know I shouldn't be hung up on someone who makes me feel like that. But he is my friend too, I hate not talking to him every day. He's not using me, or seeing anyone else. He has his own issues that I know about, and there's not a huge amount that can be done about it.\n\nI don't want to lose him as a friend, but i don't I can keep things going this way.", "summary": "Cut back friendship/ relationship, had to be done, but don't feel great about it. Dunno what advice I'm actually asking for, more venting"}
{"id": "t3_2f9sj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [28M] Keep bringing my issues at home into our relationship and i want to stop but don't know how?", "post": "I have been in a relationship for a little over 2 years. I have always had some issues with my parents. I love my family but they aren't responsible when it comes to money or trying to get out of this hole of issues. I have been feeling more like a parent then a daughter. I can't afford to move out, but we always have money issues and I am trying to focus on college and looking for work and they make it hard to concentrate. I don't have people in my life to talk to about something so personal and the only person I feel comfortable telling these things to is my boyfriend otherwise I hold it in and I snap later. I haven't been so present on our little date nights and he is so fed up with it. I understand and see his point but how do I stop it? What ways can I prevent this from happening because I am over stressed and just tired and I don't want to lose my relationship because I let my family life get in the way. Help Reddit!", "summary": "We love each other but I know he is fed up with my family drama and doesn't want that to affect our future, how can I just focus on us and stop talking about my troubles at home/"}
{"id": "t3_f73gh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Insurance Problems-What to do?", "post": "Hello Reddit, How are you doing today? Me? Not so good (But still better than starving children in Africa). \n\nMy mother forgot to renew/messed up while doing our insurance forms. So right now my sister, dad, and I do not have insurance. This would not be a huge deal except for the fact my dad takes about 13 different kinds of medicine to keep him healthy(he has had a double bypass and a triple bypass) So he has to have this medicine in order to keep going. On top of that he tore his meniscus from the front of his knee to the back of his knee and it is cupped(which i guess i bad?) \n\nAll this happened in 2010 which is when we had insurance, well it comes around to 2011 and he goes to get his x ray(or MRI cant remember) read to see what the problem is. Well turns out our insurance card doesn't work so they let us go and they say they will get it working. So we get home and my parents start talking about how this happened once before so they call their insurance and they find out they do not have insurance :/ So here my dad is with a cane walking because of the tare and he can't afford to get it operated on because it is a 13k surgery. \n\nSo now we called the insurance company and begged to get insurance since it was a mistake to cancel it and we really need it. They say they will get back to us next week. Next week comes and they still have to talk to a supervisor but will call back on wednesday. Well it is now friday and they never called back, we tried to call twice to no avail. My mom is so upset that she messed up on this that it is visible. \n\nPlease let me know if there is anything we can do. We have started looking up other insurance but it is really expensive. We have pretty much given up hope that Anthem will help with us. Is there anything else we can do?", "summary": "Insurance canceled by my Mothers mistake, halp!"}
{"id": "t3_150q3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] had a drunken semi-hookup with a friend [22F] that I really like, but the catch is she has a bf[19M].", "post": "Am I wrong for thinking that there is something between us? I am calling this a semi-hookup because it only went to 3rd base. We have been friends for a couple months. We have been hanging out for a while and Saturday night we got rather drunk at a friend's house. Neither of us could drive so we slept on an air mattress.  Shortly after laying down the fooling around commenced. It went on for about half an hour then we both kind of had an \"oh shit\" moment when we realized what we were doing.  We sat down outside to sober up and had one of the most personal and meaningful conversations I have had with another person in years.(She also expressed her enjoyment with the conversation) We go back inside and I lay back down on the air mattress and she got back into bed with me. Nothing else happened but we cuddled up and talked for another couple hours.  Next day, she says that we are equally at fault for the incident but she doesn't want to tell her bf because she is afraid to hurt his feelings. I am beyond confused with the entire situation.", "summary": "Got to third base with a girl I like then proceeded to have an intimate after time.  She has a bf and doesn't want to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_3v0pjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26/F] friend[25/F] is stuck in a dead FWB relationship[25/M], and won't move on.", "post": "Kristy has been friends with Mikial since they were both 11. Around 16 they lost their virginities to each other, but never really dated. Both have told me they are 'Best Friends With Benefits'.\n\nSince then, they have been inseperable, they hang out together, they went to University together, and they still have sex. They bounce back and forth on whose place they stay at, even take each other to their parent's for holidays, so their families think they are dating, and usually go on vacation with each other.\n\nThey both maintain they are still just BFWB, but they are exclusively having sex with each other, outside of a few threesomes they had in Uni, and both claim they don't need to have sex with others, they are perfectly happy with just each other.\n\nMy friend doesn't see how this is hurting her experiences. She needs to be with others, as does he. I have told them they both need to experience others, and offered to be with Mikial, but thye both refused telling me they are perfectly happy with each other.\n\nHow can I get them to see they need to experience more than just each other? That this isn't going anywhere.", "summary": "Friend is is deadend relationship, what can I do to help."}
{"id": "t3_2kd1kl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with guy im dating [19M] 1 month, are we too different?", "post": "Hey guys \n\nSo let me explain my situation. Im currently in a somewhat newly established relationship with the guy im dating. We're not officially at the next level but were not seeing other people either (if that makes sense) - so its the middle ground atm. Tbh im not too fussed as to what our relationship status is, all i know is that I am having a good time with time and thats all that matters. \n\nBut up until recently im worried if we're just two different people. I mean we do have similar tastes in tv shows, music, views on certain topics but we're also completely different. He is more extroverted, out every weekend whilst im more introverted and tends to prefer quieter things. \n\nWe try to see each other 1-2 times a week, but due to other commitments, it sometimes doesnt work out. We try to keep communications going during the time we dont see each other, but im afraid its dying down - topics to talk about, things we tell each other etc.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_moyj7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Noisy basement renters! Revenge suggestions?", "post": "Hey everyone so i'm new to this reddit posting thing, although i have been looking at posts for a while now. \n\nAnyways, i am living in the upstairs of a house with two room mates and every so often the two female foreign renters downstairs are noisy. Now I don't really care when they are noisy during the day, but when it's at 3 or 4 in the morning and the euro trance music starts playing then i get pissed off. Last night was the worst, i stomped as hard as i could on the floor as I could but it didn't do anything.\n\nSo now i need your help! What should i do to get some revenge? I am currently playing some loud music because it's only been 3 hours since the incident took place so i'm sure they are asleep.\n\nAnyways i hope you guys have some awesome ideas", "summary": "version: noisy girls downstairs waking everyone up at 3 or 4 in the morning...revenge ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_4evgpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 10 months... is hiding lying?", "post": "My gf knows i ABSOLUTELY abhor smoking. She used to smoke... merely as \"i enjoy cigarettes\". She promised to not be a smoker. Tonight was her birthday. She asked me to smoke a cigarette without me being mad (for context, 2 of my grandparents are dead because of smoking. my mother is in hospice because of her 1+ pack of day of smoking, and she is less than 50). \n\nI FUCKING hate smoking, it literally brings me almost to tears at the thought of someone I love smoking, which she knows). I said I would be very upset. She hid behind a friend of ours while puffing his cigarette, hoping I wouldn't see. I did... it was pretty obvious for reasons unnecessary to the question here (but for those who want to know... she stopped walking by me to walk next to him while he was smoking, then told me to keep going when I turned around). After not telling me she would smoke... she did puff for at least 30 seconds on his cigarette. Before we got to the bar we were walking to, I took an uber home because it upset me greatly. Is her hiding that from me the same as lying? To me, it feels so. She asked me 3 times if I would let it go this one time.... while she never said she wouldn't, the fact that she literally hid behind him when I looked behind me out of curiousity. honestly, I am heartbroken that she would hide anything from me. \nAm I overreacting? I feel as though, trying to be completely unbiased, smoking isn't so terrible. But my (unbiased) opinion knows that even social smoking is very life length limiting (not worth expanding upon here, but social smoking is MUCH MUCH worse than the average person thinks). Is the fact that she said \"I won't be a smoker\" okay in this context? Is insisting, without any warning (basically being blindsided at the last minute after her word to no be a smoker) that she not smoke unreasonable? It hurts my core. Trust me when I say if the subreddit's opninos is I am overreacting, I will change.", "summary": "is hiding lying?"}
{"id": "t3_2j6mc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months, struggle with spending time together", "post": "My girlfriend and I are struggling with spending time together. I work a demanding job, with hours that are typically from 8-5:30, sometimes I work more 8-6 or 9-6. I also occasionally have to work weekends. I wish I had more time to spend with my girlfriend, but sometimes work gets in the way.\n\nMy girlfriend also feels we don't get to spend much time together. When I do get home from work, the conversations always go to how much I've been working. I feel like she focuses on me having to go to work the next day instead of getting to spend the time we are actually together enjoying ourselves.\n\nHow can we focus on enjoying the time we do have together instead of worrying about not being able to spend much time together the next day?", "summary": "How can me and my girlfriend stop working about how much time we get to have together and just enjoy our time with each other?"}
{"id": "t3_pw8eo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can Reddit help me find a laser?", "post": "There exists a nonprofit tattoo removal clinic called Central Texas Tattoo Removal Project ([CTTRP] This is a team of volunteers who, every month for 12 years now, have given up a Saturday morning in order to help people access free (18 and under) or low-cost ($60/treatment; for 19 and up) tattoo removal. \n\nRight now they use an infra-red device, which gives a 2nd degree burn. The laser method is much faster, less painful, and doesn't require nearly as much care to heal well. It also heals much faster. A laser for this process is about $12,000, used, as I understand it. I was hoping maybe, since the organization has been there for so long and has helped so many people with such a degree of consistency, maybe a manufacturer could be persuaded to donate a refurbished model? Or perhaps some Redditor knows of a foundation that makes grants to worth non-profit organizations with no board salaries or wasteful spending? (The building we use is a donation of space, and the board members, doctors, nurses and front desk people are all volunteers. But they never hired a consultant to get 501c3 status, and none of the volunteers ever took the time to get the designation. So the organization is not eligible for a lot of the grant money out there, despite the incredible work they do every month, actually helping people.)", "summary": "If you happen to have a spare, working medical grade laser for tattoo removal laying around, please PM me. (And I promise not to tell anyone your true Reddit identity, Batman.)"}
{"id": "t3_h4hax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Insensitive professor", "post": "I was hospitalized for a few days about two months ago with a life threatening issue (like, if I had waited a few more hours I could have died). This, the many doctors visits, and the lifestyle changes (not to mention the crippling depression and anxiety) have impacted my school work this semester. Most of my teachers have been great about everything, but one of my professors has been a real cunt about everything. She won't allow me to make up homework that I missed from when I was in the hospital and I have to have a CT on the second to last class which is supposed to be mandatory, but I can't reschedule and she'll mark down my final because I can't be there. I'm not quite sure of what to do. I tried talking with her but she's not very good about acknowledging student's needs. I need to pass the course to graduate and keep my phi theta kappa status (so I qualify for more grants when I transfer in the fall). Advice?", "summary": "Hospitalized for life threatening issue and teacher won't cut me any slack with the work that I missed"}
{"id": "t3_1oopuc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "21M, wondering when is too long to wait to date after a series of bad relationships?", "post": "So I've been through a series of bad relationships in the past few years, including getting engaged to my gf of four years before she cheated on me and dumped me. After that, I dated a girl that really cared about me, but I didn't feel the same way, and ended up hurting her by breaking up with her. (I can share more if anyone wants, or finds it relevant)\n\nBasically, I have a girl that I'm interested in, and I'm afraid to ask her out, knowing all the baggage I have. I'm a caring person, I guess, and I want to ask her out, but I don't want to hurt her with all my baggage and hangups.\n\nI know the obvious answer is \"go for it,\" but I guess I care a lot and just don't want to hurt her.", "summary": "Is there any way to know when it is time to move on after bad relationships, or any signs that I'm ready/not ready?"}
{"id": "t3_1owt5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] met with a lady [23 F] on Ok Cupid for the first time this week, but I think I might have sent the wrong signals.", "post": "So, I have been using OK cupid recently and met a lady for the first time just a couple days ago. The evening went well and we hit it off, chatted for close to 10 hours while cuddling in her bed. We have been texting for the last few days, and I am pretty sure she is interested in me. Here's the thing though, I am not really attracted to her. I would love to just be friends with her, but I think I might have already started on the wrong leg. The best part? I will be working in the same office with her every day for the next 4 years. \n\nAny tips?", "summary": "I gave the impression that I am interested in a lady, although I am not. Now I have to go about this without pissing anybody off because I work with her."}
{"id": "t3_2xuc0m", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need help planning a trip to Disney Land.", "post": "Thanks for reading this. I'm 21 years old and myself my girlfriend and my friend are planning a trip to Disney Land later this month and I need help. This is my first time planning a vacation and I am on a limited budget being a college student. I live 8 hours away from the park and plan to spend 3 days in the area. The first day will be spent driving and probably going to a nice dinner/passing out in the hotel. The next day will be all Disney Land, and the third day is up in the air other than the drive home. Any advice you can give would be appreciated and again thank you. :-)", "summary": "I'm 21 and planning my first vacation to Disney Land please help."}
{"id": "t3_1mn9s8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How far have you gone to get a job or promotion?", "post": "I am currently working as a CRM Admin for a large American company, using the Salesforce platform. The pay isn't bad, there are a lot of opportunities for advancement, I get to travel sometimes, and I work from home most days. Sounds great, right? The problem is I don't love what I'm doing, I just like what I'm doing. \n\nI was promoted to this position a year ago after being a Team Lead in the Support department for two years, which was a job I **loved**. What I *really* wanted was for my manager to get promoted to Director, and for me to take her job, but they decided to pull someone else in as Director, dashing my hopes. So instead of being stuck where I was, and not wanting to somehow force out my manager who I respect and admire, I took the CRM Admin job and moved on.\n\nIt's been a year and I'm bored to tears. I've wanted to go back every day since. A few days ago I went to visit my old department, getting a hero's welcome from my old coworkers. I spoke with my old manager, hinting at how I wish I could come back, and that I wasn't very happy with what I was doing. She said that there may be another manager position opening up soon, and that she will keep me posted.\n\nSo now I need to figure out how to marshal the forces of my loyal ex coworkers and pull every favor to somehow get that management position that I've always wanted. I have no idea where to start.", "summary": "Seeking a promotion to the job I've always wanted. How far have you gone to make it happen?"}
{"id": "t3_1s675z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this a good way to talk with a girl for the first time? [M19] [G?] *UPDATES*", "post": "Original Post: \n\nSo, I took the comments into consideration. I decided that I would follow what they said, and try small talking with the girl I like instead of formally approaching her.\n\nSo, I missed school yesterday and missed some work. I decided that I might as well use this. So today, I went up to her during some down time and said, \"Hey ___. I was wondering if I could take a look at your notes?\" Something standard along those lines.\n\nShe said yes, as I sat next to her. I copied the notes and in my stupidity I didn't say anything. I rushed to copy them, and it took about 2 minutes. I hand that papers back and say, \"Thank you ___. I'll see you around.\"\n\nI know I should have said something more. Now that I have atleast spoken to her, what should I have done so I know for next time?", "summary": "I talked to the girl that I liked and started some small talk. I don't know if I made that good of an impression."}
{"id": "t3_1o666o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] girlfriend [21 F] of nearly 5 years is abroad and I feel uncomfortable", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly five years. We have been mostly happy with ups and downs. For the last few weeks now, she has been interning abroad and complaining about it being unhelpful to her, that she would rather be home, that she misses me, etc.\n\nAnd yet, she doesn't come home. She wants to put this on her resume and party. I'm assuming she is enjoying her freedom and I want her to have fun and be happy but lately I am having a lot of trouble dealing with it.\n\nShe'll Skype with me and message me, saying the crazy things they are doing at parties and how many she is going to. She is telling me that she is incredibly horny because I am not there to have sex with her and that she is drinking and getting drunk. And then at times I won't hear from her for 15-20 hours. \n\nI know a lot of this has to do with my own insecurities, I guess I'm just looking for advice or an outside opinion. What should I do? She isn't really the type to cheat, at least while sober, but at the same time she has broken my trust before in our relationship with flirting with other guys severely, trying to break it off with me in the past, etc.\n\nI'm not sure how to do this? Or if I should be worrying. Guys and girls, tell me what is your experience with abroad relationships? She only has 4 weeks to go and I would love to be with her when she gets back but this is driving me insane. I've talked to her as well and she is still very set on not coming home, despite supposedly \"hating it\" there.", "summary": "Girlfriend is abroad, going to a lot of parties and says she's horny, I'm very confused and worried. Help."}
{"id": "t3_him7p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, I just got out of a one and a half + year(s) relationship. WTF happens now?", "post": "Context: I turned 21 in February of this year, she will be turning 20 in August. I started dating this girl in September of 2009. Things went great at first, our puppy-love phase didn't end until April of 2010. Things eventually turned more 'serious' and less lovey-dovey; we even took a trip to Europe together which was a first for both of us, neither of us had taken a trip with an SO before. \n\nLike any couple we had ups and downs but I was noticing that most of the downs happened because of her jealous and possessive attitude, but I decided to roll with it because I still liked her, a lot. Over the course of this winter things carried along rather nicely, a few bumps here and there, again mostly caused by her attitude.\n\nWithin the last month I realized I wasn't happy in the relationship and broke up with her this evening. I don't really know what I should be feeling, but I certainly don't feel relief or anything positive. I just feel like I lost someone who I once loved but who was weighing me down emotionally, which I consider to be unhealthy and unnecessary for me at this point in my life.", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year and 8 months, the longest time I was ever in a relationship. WTF happens now?"}
{"id": "t3_3q2w80", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting a buddy smoke pot from an apple", "post": "Me and a long time buddy were in the parking lot of a movie theater and he wanted to toke up before we went inside.\n\nI had an apple in my car from my ride to work in the morning which I hadn't eaten, and he said it'd make a fantastic pipe.\n\nSo, with a couple minutes of whittling, he cored the apple, made a dish, poked some holes, and had a functional pipe.\n\nHe loaded up a bowl, took a long draw from it (I don't smoke, nothing against it, personal choice), said it was amazing, but then we had to get going to movie. So, he put it down behind my car tire \"so it'd be safe\" and we went inside.\n\nAfter the movie, he comes back outside and wants to finish off the bowl so he picks up the apple, puts it to his mouth and lights it up, inhales deeply, and then throws the apple against my car, and starts coughing in fits and screaming like a little girl while flailing his arms around and trying desperately to spit and grabbing at his tongue and ends up throwing up all over my car fender and tire.\n\nI couldn't figure out wtf was going on and was kinda pissed that the dude was destroying my car vis a vis $10 worth of popcorn and slushie vomit.\n\nIt was then that I looked at the apple pieces and realized they were COVERED IN ANTS. I mean, a lot of them.\nI guess they had taken up residence in the time we were in the movie, and were now traversing various parts of his stomach/throat/lungs/mouth.\n\nIt was then that I started laughing a laugh with such volume and intensity that I previously did not know I possessed.\n\nI think my laughter drew more attention than his screaming and ant-filled projectile vomiting onto my car did.\n\nNeedless to say, after throwing up a bit more and calming down, he was fine.\n\nHe thanked me for my laughter and being so helpful \"while he was dying\".\n\nHey, I was just trying to be useful. I know my limits in a panic situation.", "summary": "friend left pipe he made out of an apple outside for 2 hours, smoked it without looking at it and inhaled a ton of ants. He then vomited all over my car while I nearly passed out from laughing at his misfortune."}
{"id": "t3_2uonvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [m/31] says he doesn't feel like having conversations with me [f/27]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have lived together for a little over a year and have a 10 month old together.  \nRecently he hasn't even been trying to have conversations with me and every time I would try to make small talk he would get irritated with me because he was watching TV or playing video games.  So today I asked him what his problem was. \nHis response was \"you need to realize that I talk for 8 hours non stop a day (he is a debt collector and has been for 2 years).... I just don't feel like talking when I get home.  It's not easy to bring your 'A game' at work, then AJ (our son), then another person.\" \n\nSo what am I supposed to say/do about that? Isn't communication key in a relationship? \nI feel like I'm alone in this relationship.  Any advice would be much appreciated!", "summary": "no communication, need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_pna4z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What has been your worst Valentine's Day experience? I'll start...", "post": "Every year our high school would sell single roses for students to send on Valentine's Day. \n\nThe year was 2000. I had a huge crush on a friend that I had some classes with. Foolish, hormonal, teenage me thought I could win her away from her boyfriend with a romantic gesture. I attached a thoroughly thought out message to a rose. \n\nThe bit that killed me was that her boyfriend got her a rose as well. Being the moron I was/am I totally forgot to consider that. It was the most humiliating of defeats (Although, she and her boyfriend broke up a few weeks after for unrelated reasons). \n\nAfter that Valentine's Day she never really spoke to me again and being around her or her friends was super awkward for the better part of 2 years until graduation.\n\n*However, this story has a happy(?) ending:*\n\n*Towards the end of that year and the start of the final year of high school I became friends with her ex. We're pretty much bros now. We found we shared an interest in sports, video gaming and watching pro wrestling. We're now housemates and I'm going to be a groomsman at his wedding next month.*\n\n*And at the 10 year reunion last year, I ran into the girl I had the crush on. She's married with a kid now. I got drunk and apologised to her about high school. She says that at the time; being teens, she had no idea how to react and that she was flattered. She also said it was very sweet and incredibly ballsy.", "summary": "Sent a girl with a boyfriend a rose on Valentine's Day only to have it end in inevitable, awkward catastrophe."}
{"id": "t3_16d2do", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] I can't seem to understand what's up with the guy I like [20/m].", "post": "We're both juniors in college, and we've known each other since the very beginning of freshman year. We were quite close friends and spent a decent amount of time together. He liked me for a while, but I tended to refute his advances thanks to he advice of a group of spiteful ex-friends, so nothing ever came of it. Since that time, we've drifted apart and together again, and a mutual friend once mentioned that he was in love with me at some point. Though I probably shouldn't have done anything with the knowledge, I let slip that I had had feelings for him, and acted on bad advice. We became extremely close again, and I thought something was finally going to become of it, when he basically cut me out of his life with no warning. We didn't talk at all over the summer, and treat each other as acquaintances now. He seems to ignore me on purpose, leave rooms when I enter, and so forth. It came out of nowhere, and it is absolutely infuriating. I have no idea why he might be angry or upset with me. But if we can't date, which is my first choice, I'd at least like to be friends again. What do you think is the matter? What should I do?", "summary": "the most obnoxious game of cat and mouse ever results in my confusion."}
{"id": "t3_ie8x6", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just a little fwoosh", "post": "I finally got all the pieces for my new computer and assembled it a few days ago.  Throughout the build, I did everything I could think of to make sure I got this right on the first go.  Once assembled, I gave it another check, squinting hard at the mobo and the manual, and was happy.\n\nFlipped the switch on", "summary": "Using the wrong connector on a motherboard can set wires on fire."}
{"id": "t3_1vf3vo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "MY girlfriend [24 F] broke up with me [25 M] today, after we had been together for 7 years. This was my first serious relationship.", "post": "We had been best friends for about 10 years, being together for 7 of them. I had always told her I wanted to eventually marry her, and really did believe I would. We had a few bumps along the way, and there were a couple of times when she said she was ready for an engagement, but I told her I wasn't settled. That really was how I felt. This was pretty much the only issue we had ever had disagreements over. Issues connected to this had gotten a little more frequent over the last year since we had been living apart because of me going to college here in the US. \n\nBut about 2 weeks ago we had a discussion about our future, and she said that she could see that marriage may not work out because of my family (in our culture, getting along with each others families is also very important). We both decided that we needed to work on it, and even if it didn't work out, be friends. \n\nBut then a few days ago by younger brother got engaged. For some strange reason that I now regret more than anything I ever have, I didn't tell my girlfriend - childishly trying to avoid another such conversation. But this morning she found out (as she obviously had to) through someone else, and told me that she did not want to talk to me. I understood her anger and profusely apologized, but she blocked me off.\n\nI called her again later in the day and she said she was breaking up with me and never wanted to see me or hear from me again. She also said that I had become the one person I had tried for 27 years to not become (my abusive father), and that she wished the worst for me. \n\nNow I have lost my best friend and the only person who knew me; and she thinks that I am the person I have hated all my life. I know I screwed up, and I understand her reasons for leaving me. But I don't know what to do or who to talk to since I don't really have close friends in this country, and I have always been very emotionally reserved with everyone other than her.", "summary": "My girlfriend, my best friend, left me today after I stupidly didn't tell her about my brother's engagement, just to avoid a conversations about our future."}
{"id": "t3_4euijq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need help getting motivation", "post": "As the title says I'm having trouble with keeping my motivation goinng, for instance I'll go running one day and the next I'm too sore, then the next I'm not in the mood, etc. etc. I went from 364.6 pounds (That was on my 18th birthday) to 324.8 pounds (still 18) but then I lost my job and now I'm just sitting around re-gaining my lost weight, and it really sucks because I want to hit my goal weight of 275 (I'm not gonna stop there but I figured that was a good goal). I'll try to pick my workouts back up or try to go on a diet but I'm by myself and only doing this for myself, I have no real reason. Just need someone to give me a reason to keep trying, my workout partner has pretty much left me on my own so I'm kinda stuck. Also too poor to go to a gym or drive somewhere to run everyday\nAlso I figure it's important for you all to know I am 6'5\"", "summary": "Was working toward my goal, but got fired, then lost my workout buddy. Looking for new motivation"}
{"id": "t3_4r43j7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M22] wasn't invited to a Fourth of July party.", "post": "I just graduated from college, and in September, I will be moving several state away to begin working. I had originally planned to stay local, and signed a lease with an acquaintance for the year. I then received a job offer I couldn't refuse, and got out of the lease. The landlord was incredibly understanding, but it has left bad blood between my would-be roommate and I, despite the fact that he will have a two bedroom apartment to himself, because my landlord has not forced me to find a replacement for myself before I'm let out of the lease.\n\nIncidentally, he is also hosting a 4th of July party at the apartment where we would have lived together. When we thought we were living together we had spoken briefly about the possibility of doing one (our group of friends always has one in the area), but nothing concrete, and that was a month ago. I had my suspicions that he would host one anyway without inviting me, so it wasn't a surprise when I found out through a mutual friend that that is indeed the case.\n\nI don't know what to do. Due to some pretty serious insecurities I developed during high school, I generally refuse to invite myself anywhere, even if it I know it was a mistake (I have missed parties because I wasn't added to a Facebook event by mistake). I don't want to impose when I wasn't invited and risk some kind of scene (though he's not the type to cause a scene), but this could also be my last opportunity to see some people in this group before I move.\n\nI don't think I can bring myself to just show up without a formal invite, even if that's the right thing to do (legally speaking I still have a room in the apartment until the end of the month, so I could choose to show up and there's nothing anyone could do, but that's not how I roll). I don't want to make a scene or create drama within the group, but the whole thing feels shitty, and it's bringing out some long-held insecurities. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I wasn't invited to a party because the host and I had a falling out, and I feel shitty and bad about myself as a result. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_atysy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "RA-ddit, should I drive across 5 states to return an ex's stuff, which she doesn't really want anyway?", "post": "Ok, so anyone interested can read about my recent breakup on this throw-away account's last submittal. Long story short: I broke up with a girl after a relationship of 4-5 years after I found out she was cheating on me. She moved out before the breakup for a job in a different state. So currently I still have some of her crap, and she still has some of mine.\n\nShe doesn't have anything of mine that I would consider very important, a few books and a bookcase, some CDs. I have most of her furniture: a couch, love seat, couple of dressers, etc (she moved out with the understanding that we wouldn't be breaking up, btw). \n\nShe's already told me that she doesn't want her things back. That's fine, but I still have a few things of hers which I would feel guilty about keeping or throwing away (things like her old school books, photos, some of her legal documents, etc.).\n\nI'm thinking about renting a trailer to take her crap to her. My theory is that since I broke up with her, I don't want to give her any reason to blame me for being the \"crazy ex\" or whatever in the future, so I want to get everything settled-up and resolved, and move on guilt-free. I don't want to keep her things because they're from my past now, a past I want to forget about. At the same time I don't want to throw them out for the reasons already given.\n\nThe trailer is going to be like $300, gas money another $300 or so for the round trip. I'm not expecting her to contribute to the moving costs, but she may surprise me. What should I do?", "summary": "After breaking up with a girl, I still have some of her things, which I don't feel right keeping or throwing out, should I drive across 5 states to return them?"}
{"id": "t3_36zqxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [m/21] of almost two years lied to me [f/19] for a whole year and now I don't know what to do?", "post": "So my boyfriend and I were dating for about a year until we decided to go on a break last year in March. We were fighting a lot because I wasn't allowed to sleep over his place and he said that it wasn't normal. A week before we broke up he told me he was planning on seeing this other girl that he knew had liked him for a while. I got very upset and he said he wouldn't go ahead with it. Eventually we decided to break up and wait for the right time we could properly be together with no restrictions. We did promise each other we wouldn't see other people during this time. During this break we were still constantly seeing and sleeping with each other until one day I saw a photo of him on Facebook holding hands with another girl. At this point, I recognised he had moved on and let it go. After a few weeks, we started talking again and decided to get back together. I asked him if he slept with that girl he was seeing and he said no, however, I didn't believe him and constantly asked him about it but he kept denying it. Last week, I came home and found he had left his Facebook open, I knew it was wrong to snoop but I just had a feeling he was lying so I read his messages. I found out he did sleep with this girl, he also took mdma with her and boasted to his friend about how awesome the sex was. Now I don't trust him and am very unsure about who exactly is this person I am dating. What should I do?", "summary": "my boyfriend lied to me about sleeping with a girl and now I don't trust him and am unsure of what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4wtu1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/F] boyfriend [20/M] never wants to have sex and gets upset when I bring it up", "post": "We've been dating for almost two years now, and for basically the past year there has been issues with our sex life. I'm a pretty sexual person; if it were up to me we'd be having sex every other day (at least) but he's not on the same page. Barely in the same book anymore.\n\nHe has some self-esteem issues, and that's one of the reasons he says he doesn't want sex very often. Or he's too tired, or he's just 'not in the mood.'\n\nReally the only times he does initiate sex is either when he realizes its been a month or longer since the last time we did it, and I'm getting annoyed, or when he knows I'm definitely not in the mood (or on my period, or sick) so I tell him no. Then he basically takes that as his \"well I tried\" moment and then nothing for another month or so. \n\nMaybe once every 3 months we'll have something that feels like 'normal' sex, and then back to little to nothing in between. \n\nI've talked about this with him multiple times in the past, of which every time he has gotten extremely sad, self-deprecating, and apologetic. I assure him he's attractive, he does satisfy me (when he's into it at least) and all the other stuff you'd expect me to say.\n\nBut then a few months later its back to where we started until I bring it up again. I try to send him articles I read about how to spice things up, or new things to try, and he gets super distant and gloomy. \n\nOther than the sex issue, the relationship has everything I could ever really want in a relationship. I don't know what to do about the sex issue anymore because I'm just getting frustrated beyond belief.", "summary": "I want sex and my boyfriend never does. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1itu7d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my summer school mark dropped a ton after one bad test. I need your tips on how to bring it back up.", "post": "So, I'm currently getting my grade 12 chemistry mark in summer school, which takes all of July. I was at a constant 81% all semester, but I recently did very poorly on one test. And just like that, with only one week left, it dropped to a 74%. Now, chemistry isn't my best subject, so I was ok with an 81. But this mark counts for university and I really need to get it done this summer. I have one more test, a huge assignment worth 15% of my mark, and an exam worth 15% of my mark. I need study tips! I don't have much time, so I'm going to have to cram. Do you think I can bring my mark back to where it was?", "summary": "My chemistry mark went down way below where I want it. I need study tips to bring it back up in a week."}
{"id": "t3_xbwxm", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running Meal Plan", "post": "Up until this point, I've been running for weight loss by eating like a model and training until I can't stand straight. Now that I've dropped 35-40lbs. and broken the 20min. 5k mark, I would like to focus less on weight loss and more on gaining strength, stamina, endurance and ultimately, speed. \n\nTo do that I know that I need a strict, nutritious and fulfilling diet. As someone who has had all of my meals provided to me for all of my life though (recent HS graduate), I am not the best at constructing a meal plan that is relatively affordable and that will provide me with all the nutrients that I need. \n\nSo, I implore those of you with relatively consistent/strict meal plans and diets to share with me what you eat day in and day out to grow strong, fast and healthy.", "summary": "What slop do you shovel into your pie hole on the regular?"}
{"id": "t3_2kjb8v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unknowingly calling the company VP", "post": "Yep, it happened about 10:30 this morning. I'm busy searching and applying for internships and had a question about one. So I call up the number listed for the company and am given another phone number and name of a guy (let's call him David), who I am told can answer my question. \n\nI proceeded to dial the phone number, of course I didn't get an answer. There was an actual voicemail set up though (not just a machine), so I figured I should leave a message. Big mistake! The recorded voice quit talking and the beep came and I fumbled through what was easily one of the most awkward messages I've left. Oh yeah, I didn't even leave my number. So I called back and left that.\n\nNo big deal though, right? He's just some lowly hiring manager in the company is what I figured. Wrong! I decided to google the guy's name and phone number and find out (to my horror) that he is the senior vice president of the company I'm wanting to apply for an internship with! I already fucked up and I haven't even applied yet.", "summary": "If given a phone number to call, look up who you're calling beforehand and be prepared for if you have to make a message."}
{"id": "t3_2pbtan", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [17/f] being selfish with my friend [16/m]?", "post": "I'm going to try and make this as short as possible.\n\nWe met on here a couple months ago. We've been talking non-stop and supporting each other through our problems. I want to be there for him but he is having way more episodes(?) than I can handle. At least once every day or two he'll freak out and tell me about how he wants to kill himself and how much better everyone's life would be without him. I try to do all I can, but I'm on the other side of the world and I'm not even very good at advice. \n\nI feel like complete scum for feeling this way, but I just don't have the energy for it. Worry for him is completely consuming my life. I constantly feel guilty for not being available to talk 24/7 but I have work and school obligations. At this point I might not even graduate in time because I've been prioritizing talking to him. I have too much mentally and physically to deal with regarding myself and I just can't deal with this on top of it. \n\nHe needs and deserves support, but as some random 17 year old girl, I'm just not qualified for the job.\n\nI don't know if I provided enough details, so let me know if anything needs clarification.", "summary": "friend is suicidal and i feel bad because i don't have the energy to deal with it"}
{"id": "t3_3he43r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a highly curious and find value and meaning in expanding my knowledge. It's a large part of who I am. My GF is uncurious but caring, happy, and open-minded. Is this gonna work out long term?", "post": "I, 26M: Bill, have been seeing my SO, Sarah: 25F, for 6 months. We're happy when we engage in light conversation, comedy, and social endeavors. We're physically and emotionally attracted to one another and have a great deal of respect for one another. When we act in this manner, we are happy because it fulfills her entirely, but me only partially.\n\nShe works in mental health counseling and has a very high emotional intelligence. She has an open-mind, and has overcome conflict presented by her traditional values, but learning more doesn't interest her. She might engage in deeper thought and discussion, but she does not enjoy it. She is happy everyday, feels fulfilled in her work, and is content with her life not asking more questions. Her system works.\n\nMy system doesn't work. I work in a job I don't like and don't find meaning in what I do, despite being objectively successful. I look to curiosity as a positive feedback mechanism to learn to rekindle meaning and passion in what I do.\n\nMy conflict in this relationship is when my curiosity (which brings me happiness) conflicts with her happiness. She doesn't want to engage in deeper discussion. It drains her. She wants to talk about the positive and goodness in our shared lives. As a feeling person, I understand and admire this. But how much am I sacrificing in our shared time and experiences if our drives are inherently different?", "summary": "How different is too different? Rationalist + Emotionalist = ?"}
{"id": "t3_1h6iui", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Gaming infected in my life", "post": "I'm a 20 year old woman now. I started gaming when I was 12, and settled in a certain game at the age of 14. That's where I spent the next 5 years of my life. I worked myself up to a point where I eventually received main admin of the game I played on - and that's where my gaming life actually turned into my job. Don't get me wrong, I loved doing it. \n\nHowever, at the age of 18 I had to make a choice. College began and I started to notice that I couldn't balance school with being an admin. Too much work, not enough time. Not to mention that my social life was, and had always been non-existent up to this point. \n\nIt took me months to decide. I felt like I would be nothing if I resigned, my outside life was empty. Not to mention the fact that the main gaming network owner needed me, there was no replacement. Eventually I decided that it was time for me to go, and after finding a suitable replacement I left the game behind in capable hands.\n\nI felt empty. What the fuck was I going to do with my life?\n\nFlash forward two years from that point. I'm almost in the last year of college and I've grown socially (not to the point where the rest is at but I'm doing my best), I have a handful of friends and I have a best friend who supports me in everything.\n\nAn important thing for me is that I'm starting to achieve what I've always dreamt of. I've always wanted to see the world, and this is now becoming reality. Just this year I'm going to see several countries. The highlight must be China, which I signed up for just yesterday. \n\nHopes for the future? I can only hope that I will eventually develop into a social and spontaneous person who people enjoy being around. I just wish it wasn't so goddamn hard to find suitable subjects to talk about with people.\n\nThanks for reading!", "summary": "became admin, wasted teenage years on game ==> no social life, quit gaming cold turkey, gained friends, worked on social behaviour, achieving dreams."}
{"id": "t3_42z4e8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a coworker if she would like some of my \"Nut Harvest\"", "post": "This actually happened a few weeks ago. I live and work in the Kansas City area and the day before the Royals won the world series. I stopped at a Quick Trip to pick up the local newspaper. Since the Royals only win the world series every 30 years, I thought I would treat myself to something special. That something special was a nut and fruit mix called \"Nut Harvest\" by FritoLay.\nI had the package opened at my desk and a coworker walked by and saw the open package and remarked that it looked good.\nWithout missing a beat, I asked:\"Robin, would you like some of my Nut Harvest?\"\nNervous laughter followed from the both of us.\nI quickly walked over to her cube and shook a nice quantity of my \"Nut Harvest\" on her desk - careful not to make eye contact. I'm sure my face was beet red.\nI think the marketing department at FritoLay is a bunch of teenage boys.", "summary": "Bought a nut & fruit mix called Nut Harvest. Asked a coworker cutie if she would like some of my Nut Harvest. Embarrassed laughter follow."}
{"id": "t3_26pygu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (25M) overcome jealousy in a relationship and start being \"fun\" again?", "post": "Long story short, I've became increasingly suspicious of my girlfriend who has been stressed out from work and a few other things. She has became very unaffectionate, not wanting sex, etc. We even went on a vacation just last week and never even had sex once. Finally yesterday, after rubbing her back, putting her dishes up, we had sex for the first time in over a month. Well, today I admittedly snooped on her phone, saw where she had asked a friend 2 weeks ago if a guy was hot or not. I lied, went off on her today about all this. About 2 hours later after everything cooled off, we started talking again and she seems to be fine and for once in over a month may come over to my apartment tonight and spend the night with me (I'm usually the one who stays with her). Why am I acting like this? I've never been this paranoid, controlling, etc. in my entire life. Her lack of affection over the last few months has drove me insane / paranoid and now all the sudden she is acting like she loves me again.", "summary": "I'm losing my mind and becoming a jealous freak. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_27fwcm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by meeting Cinderella.", "post": "Not today but last week I went and got some lunch with friends. So naturally we went to a place that has a reputation for destroying peoples insides because their food is cheap and tasty. I knew there would be repercussions but because my parents would be staying at a hotel and I was going to be studying alone all night I didn't care. \n\nSkipping forward to that night I'd done my study and was watching a movie. When a girl I met on tinder texts me saying her plans had been cancelled and she wanted to do something. So it was 11.30, cold and I really didn't want to drive anywhere so I told her to come over (I had never met her in person at this stage) and she said okay. \n\nSo as she's on her way she texted me saying she wished she had warmer clothes in her car so I said she could borrow a hoodie blah blah blah. All of a sudden she says she's got a Cinderella costume in her car (for her job) and so I jokingly told her to wear it. \n\nSo when she gets to my house she's wearing a Cinderella costume and my mind is blown. So we talk for a bit, watch a movie and it turns out she's a really cool girl and I like her. However at this stage my insides are at full nuclear meltdown and for some reason my nose is blocked(I got really sick a few days later). So however much I wanted to have sex with her I knew it was a bad idea and I was afraid it would end tragically. Especially after reading all the ridiculous shit that has happened to people on here.\n\nShe ended up sleeping in my bed and we didn't have sex. I feel like it could have been really awkward if she wasn't such a cool person. She asked me the next day why I didn't make a move and I just made up some bs out being tired and said I'd make a move next time.", "summary": "Ate some really cheap spicy food, Cinderella came over, couldn't have sex with her in fear of becoming a today I shat myself post."}
{"id": "t3_2pyhp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too early for me to start dating again? 23F", "post": "My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me at the beginning of November. He is the only boyfriend I've ever had. We had lived together pretty much the entire relationship. Now we've both moved out (a week ago)and I live in a great new house with cool flatmates. \n\nThey encouraged me to join Tinder, so I did and have been talking to this guy on there. But I'm kind of freaking out, is it too early to think about being in a new relationship/dating etc? Also I've never been on a date before because my ex and I kind of just happened, no dates. I'm really shy so I'm nervous about meeting someone new and not having anything to say.", "summary": "Recently single for the first time in 4 1/2 years is it to early to think about dating again?"}
{"id": "t3_maw3y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, can my Supervisor stop me from applying to another department?", "post": "I work for a major retail store in Maryland, I'm currently working in a sales position that I thought I would enjoy, but after finding out the commission was not the same structure I was told, horrible hours, and coworkers who will barely even talk to me I decided to look at other opportunities. The store has a Loss Prevention position open and I attempted to apply for it. I've been talking to the other guys in LP and they think I would be a good fit. However I was told by the HR rep that my current supervisor won't let me because \"it would be too difficult to hire someone new.\" Are the allowed to do that? I haven't been able to find anything in the employee handbook and the national HR help line is closed till Monday. I also haven't gone to the store manager yet as I don't want to cause ripples in the pond so to speak.", "summary": "My supervisor is stopping me was applying to another department in the same store because it would be too difficult to find a replacement."}
{"id": "t3_3os0j8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my BFF [30M], been apart for months and talk daily, but he said something and I'm confused", "post": "Meet him while at university and was with him almost everyday for a year. So we got pretty close and everything, and I developed a crush on him but shrugged it off because I was leaving the country for good in a few years.  \n\nFast forward to today, I've left for months and we talk daily. Things like me getting to terms with life not working out as planned, family problems, etc, and him with his tales of work, family and friends... and our usual nonsense. \n\nHe suggested meeting up next spring in a country we both want to visit, and he has tried inviting me to go together or with some other mutual friends on holiday several times but failed as I was always abroad when he planned his trips. Told him I was likely to go to a certain country in February because my job required me to, and he suggested me extending my holiday there so we can meet up. And because it would be in February, he suggested we go somewhere to laugh at V-day couples. \n\nNow I'm an absolutely clueless person when it comes to relationships, so idk if this is a hint or a totally platonic thing. Once his friend told me that she couldn't imagine seeing him without me, but he never made a move so I figured he didn't like me in that way. But he did things like help me with moving houses across the country, go to my big events, and even saw me off at the airport even though it wasn't very convenient for him. So here I am, confused again.", "summary": "guy suggested flying thousands of miles to meet each other around February to laugh at Valentine's couples."}
{"id": "t3_2bkghf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Convincing parents (X-post /r/teenagers)", "post": "Hello /r/advice\nI need help convincing my parents to letting me drive a ways. My girlfriend and I have had tickets for a Panic at the Disco concert for over 6 months and we've been planning to go with her older brother and his girlfriend, her brother however was called into work so now he can't drive us. I offered to drive then (it's about 150 miles) and my parents are completely against it. I have had my license for 2 years and I have never been in an accident. My mom has even stated that I'm a very good driver. She still won't let me drive however even though we have planned this for months. She knows the concert won't be crazy and the place it's at isn't very shady either. What do you suppose I say to try to convince her? Anything would be helpful. Thank you!", "summary": "I want to take a trip for a day with my girlfriend, but my mom won't let me drive. Help me convince her please."}
{"id": "t3_2xg7xn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting dressed too quickly after a Grindr hookup.", "post": "Gay dude here. Like many gay dudes I use Grindr (a gay version of Tinder, but with more blatant sex). I was speaking to a guy this week and we agreed to hook up last night. Nothing complicated, just some fun. Great stuff.\n\nI went over to his place last night. He lived in a nice apartment but it was tiny. After I arrived we quickly went into the bedroom which was literally a bed in a room with a tiny bit of space around it (this bit is important).\n\nSo we have our fun and cuddle briefly afterwards. I then decide it's time for me to go (remember: nothing complicated, just fun). So I make my excuses and get out of bed, naked. I am about to gather up my clothes and get dressed in the living area (there's no room in here) and then GTFO. I can shower at home.\n\nI bend over to pick up my clothes and that's when it happened. I felt it happen in slow motion. As I bent over my buttcheeks connected with the wall behind me. I could feel what was going to happen but it was too late. My ass had connected with his wall. As I bent down more my ass dragged along with me.\n\nNow I can only describe this next bit as utterly horrifying. I turn and expect to see maybe a hilarious sweaty butt-print on the wall which I can make a joke about. Nope. There it was, on his white bedroom wall. A sweaty butt-print accompanied by a little parting in the middle containing a lovely lube/poop-smear. I left a sex skidmark on his bedroom wall.\n\nIf you know don't know what \"Santorum\" is be glad. If you do, yup, it was that.\n\nI didn't say anything. He didn't immediately notice (I don't think) so I got dressed and literally ran away. I haven't heard from him since, which I consider a good thing. Alex - I'm sorry.", "summary": "Hooked up with a guy, post-sex I bend over to get dressed and leave a buttsex skidmark on his bedroom wall."}
{"id": "t3_35jwin", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [18F] have been dating for three years and have been sexually active for a while now and got caught having sex by her parents", "post": "I am currently in college and my SO lives in my home town and we have been doing this long distance thing for an entire school year now. I visit as often as I can and we started to have sex a couple months ago. We use protection every time and she is on birth control, her mother put her on it.\n\nI got back from college the other day and we went over to her place and we decided to have sex. We were in her room and I looked out and saw her mom standing there. We cleaned ourselves up and we both sat down on her bed. Her mom asked to speak with her privately and I just sat there. They came back in and her mom asked me to leave and I did.\n\nIt has been a couple days since then and contact with my girlfriend has been very sparse and I am getting a little nervous for her and our relationship. When we do talk she does not sound good and she has asked to talk to me about the future of our relationship and how we need to be on the same page. She also says that she feels she is punishing herself more then her parents are and I can only imagine the amount of guilt and shame she is feeling. \n\nI told my SO that I told my parents about that night, so both sides know, and she just seems like she has disappointed everyone and is taking this situation really hard, but I let my SO know that her relationship with my parents has not changed because of our actions.\n\nMe on the other hand do not know what her parents think of me,if they hate me or just disappointed in me, and am really nervous because my girlfriend is their only child and they have never had to deal with anything like this before. I am afraid that her parents are going to ban me from the house or force her to break up with me or even pull her out of going to school with me in the fall, so I am here seeking advice on how I can help the situation and have everything go as smoothly as possible.", "summary": "Got caught having sex and my SO is taking it really hard. I am just looking for some advice to help everything work out."}
{"id": "t3_2q3ecx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my Boyfriend [24 M] of 7 months, Too comfortable too soon?", "post": "Hey Reddit, \n\nI need a bit of advice with my relationship. I met this amazing guy 7 months ago, I wasn't long out of a 5 year relationship that ended mutually and wasn't messy at all. After a few flings I met my current guy and things went really fast, We did the loveliest things for each other but it seems to have got really boring, we spend A LOT of time together because we live far apart so I stay at his a lot or vice-versa. Sex is always frequent and amazing but everything else seems to have stopped, the romantic gestures, thoughtful things and actually going out and doing things.\n\nShould it be slowing like this, are we getting lazy and what are some fun couple-y things we can do with each other inside and outside the house?", "summary": "After 7 months, thoughtful/romantic gestures have stopped and things seem to have got boring, I care for him a lot and i know he does me. Need help!"}
{"id": "t3_4l7c3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] cousin [17F] playing the victim has made my uncle [48M] mad at me", "post": "First post \n\nI finally put my foot down. \nBasically no sharing closet, dishes to be washed after using them, and wifi gets cut off at 12. \nI guess then she calls her father and tells him I am being mean.\n\nMy uncle calls me later to tell me he is very sad.  He said his daughter isn't a theif. He also told me she will be out of my hair and not to worry because she won't talk to me again. \nAt the end of the one sided conversation he says and let me know what I owe you for food/water. \n\nSo the flat iron showed up today.  She gave the iron to my boyfriend and said it was in her dirty clothes. \nShe is tracking my name through the mud, now everyone is upset with me.\nI think she has no empathy for me.\nShe keeps playing the victim. \n\nMy family has a history of not speaking to each other. \nIt was very important to me that I respected her/ showed her love to keep the family together.\nI grew up my whole life in an isolated abusive home.\nIt hurts she took advantage of me.\n\nReddit what do I do now that she is talking bad about me, influencing my uncle to view me in a negative manner.", "summary": "Cousin hid stuff, because she took iron without asking, randomly finds it today. I put my foot down, she involves her father, my uncle says she won't talk to me anymore, she's moving out. She is taking a shit on me, saying I'm the bad guy. "}
{"id": "t3_3w909j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having cancer", "post": "Throwaway for reasons. \n\nThis TIFU has developed over the last year. \n\nI was at the OBGYN early during my pregnancy when the doctor felt a strange lump that ultimately turned out to be cancer. I had a successful surgery and recovery with a short period off from work, then went on to have a healthy baby and subsequent maternity leave. I've been back to work for some time now. \n\nMy immediate supervisor is a touch theatrical and has recently developed some minor health issues (dental work, headaches, etc). He has complained about these things to anyone who will listen, including other people in our company (a concierge-type company where professional relationships are the basis for 90% of our business), customers, and other companies that collaborate on our projects. Whenever I'm in the meetings, the conversations usually then turn to my recovery as many of these people are genuinely asking about the difficulties of cancer treatment during pregnancy. Since my boss can't get the attention he wants, after our most recent meeting yesterday afternoon, he pulled me in for a private meeting and yelled at me for dominating the conversation (started by a customer that I haven't seen since my surgery) about my cancer...a conversation that lasted all of two minutes, but took away from her complaint of the day. He then told me that since I have taken most of the year off, that I need to buckle down and get focused on work.", "summary": "Boss hates me for having cancer"}
{"id": "t3_25a77h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] just lost my best friend [25F]. I'm in love with her.", "post": "The two of us have felt the same way about each other for basically 5 years but neither of us ever talked about it. We each had short relationships with other people come and go during this time. The signs were so obvious, but we each would be thrown off by the occasional mixed signal. We've been friends with benefits for the last couple years as well. She's my best friend. She's everything to me.\n\nBut a few weeks ago she started dating someone and they hit it off. I couldn't handle the ambiguity any longer, so I told her everything. I told her I want to be with her, and that I've always loved her. She told me that it's too late, and that she wants to see how things go with this new guy. She said everything has been perfect with him and that she doesn't feel like she has to impress him. She's worried about us not working out because of our rocky history.\n\nI haven't had a clear thought in a week since this happened. I can barely sleep. I can barely eat. Did I really just lose her to someone she just met?\n\nIt's not like I waited for her to date for a year before telling her. Just a few weeks. Really?", "summary": "waited a few weeks too long to tell my best friend i love her. now i feel like i've lost her forever to a stranger."}
{"id": "t3_4v273n", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "It has been a month", "post": "It has been a month since me and my ex broke up and im still completely heartbroken. She broke up with me on the fact that she said she \"didnt love me\" anymore and it just confuses me because a week before she said that and broke up with me she was saying all these good things like i was the first one she ever experienced true love with and etc. Truth is - I've had many girlfriends in the past but she was the first one i have ever felt true love with. I know people keep on telling me to distance myself but whenever I have tried distancing myself from her, she makes all these sad posts and then deletes it the moment i respond to her texts, calls, etc. ive just been depressed and confused basically. I deal with depression and generalized anxiety and a lot of this has been making my mental health go down the drain. Sometimes also the meds i have been taking recently contribute to a lot of mood swings - so i have had times where i get really upset and cry for minutes or even hours and sometimes go as far as to beg for her back sometimes. I just don't know what to do and i don't want to be stuck in this hole for any longer.", "summary": "It's been a month since my ex broke up with me and i still feel sad about it and i no longer want to feel that way and have no idea how to get out of this slump. Im also confused with her mixed signals towards me."}
{"id": "t3_10fzvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(21) - Dating situation involving one month distance and man (26) holding off on commitment because of it.  (xpost r/askmen)", "post": "I'd love to know if this makes sense to you if you're (hypothetically) the guy in the situation.\n\n21 female (me) dating 26 male for about 3 months. This whole time he's been upfront about an upcoming vacation to his home town for a month during which time he knows he wants to be single. I of course see this as a bad sign for a while, thinking he doesn't like me enough, he must just want to be able to hook up with girls, etc. He's not the most talkative fellow so it's taken this long for him to explain what he meant by, \"I don't want to have to worry about anything back where we live when I go home to see my friends and family.\" However today he finally expanded upon it and found the words he was looking for.", "summary": "He tells me he's the jealous type, he knows that if we're committed to each other he'll spend his entire trip thinking about me, worrying about all the men that would approach me in bars, and basically just having continual doubts and fears about what I might be doing and that this is why he doesn't want to move to the bf/gf stage yet.*"}
{"id": "t3_2vprm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20 M] being an asshole? [20 F] has a boyfriend", "post": "I met this girl at a party and we started talking and flirting. At the end she gave me her number, we've been texting since Sunday morning. We got pretty close and kept flirting, and she told me she liked me.\n\nWell, she asks me what I'm doing for Valentine's day, I say that I unfortunately have to work. She replies with \"aw that sucks. I'm spending the day with my boyfriend and dinner with my parents\" My reaction in my mind is wait, back the fuck up, your boyfriend? \n\nShe apologizes for not telling me but says that she didn't expect to fall for me. We both already like each other at this point, and she tells me she wished we had kissed at the party. I tell her that I don't want to be thaat guy, I've been cheated on before and it sucks. I also say if we keep talking, on Saturday valentines day I don't want to say okay have a fun day hanging with/fucking your boyfriend I'll be here to flirt when you get home! That's wrong in my eyes. She said she thinks of me when she's with her boyfriend. Just hanging out and doing sexual things\n\nI have two conflicting emotions. I already like her a lot and it really sucks knowing that the person you like is with another guy. on the other hand though I don't want to be that guy I don't want to break up the relationship or have her cheat on him with me. I don't want to be with someone who is willing to cheat. \n\nAm I being an asshole by talking to her? Its not like she told me straight out that she has a boyfriend, we were already close by the time she told me", "summary": "I get close with a girl, she tells me a few days later she has a boyfriend. Am I being an asshole by pursuing her?"}
{"id": "t3_wss2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She isn't sure if she wants to be with me anymore.", "post": "Some info:\nme (26m) her (25f) Relationship ~ 3 years\n\nBackground:\nI moved out of state with her approximately 2 years ago and in with each other.She is going to grad school, while I found a job. It was early in the relationship, but it was wonderful. About 1 year later we move into a house with other friends, because of the price of rent and whatnot. 6 months ago, I'm laid off and get offered a dream job to move out of state and the g/f is super excited for me and encourages me to take it. She says she's excited to join me when she is done with her thesis. \n\nI move out and start my job. I call her everyday, with the exception of the few weekends I went camping. The call usually goes to voicemail, or is a super quick \"I miss you, can I call you back? I am out with friends.\" Our communication sucked. Big bummer. \nSo I go out to see her last weekend and I am so damn excited, I hadn't seen her in a little over a month. Something is off the entire time. She seems distant. Finally, on the last day of my trip she tells me she isn't sure she wants to come out and be with me after she graduates. So now I'm crushed. She said that we don't communicate well and that there was too much uncertainty in her life right now. She said she wants to work things out as do I. What should I do? I don't want to try and give her a salesman pitch to come here. I'm lost. Can you please advise?", "summary": "G/F of 3 years convinces me to take job out of state until she finishes her grad degree, was only going to be apart 6ish months. Now she is not sure she wants to be with me, but wants to work things out. How do I make things better? I really want to be with her. Thanks"}
{"id": "t3_eckpl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need a gage of how morally depraved this is...", "post": "So here's the deal - I was recently hooking up with a friend of mine and it eventually turned to shit. I guess we could go all out and say she was a girlfriend? Possibly. I don't know, we never made anything official. It started with her crashing at my place a few times after happy hour drinking. We went on a few run of the mill dates - like going to the park, a concert together but nothing fancy. This went on from about September to November. Anyway, all of a sudden she starts ignoring me. Find out via Facebook (YES, Facebook drama) that she is now \"In a Relationship with...\" - This happened within 5 days of our last \"date\". I think she didn't like that I was so hesitant to build any official relationship with her, and figured we were just having fun.\n\nAnyway, I met her through friends. She is a mainstay in a crew of friends that I am somewhat apart of. Well, it's mainly my friend's group of friends. I've known them for about two years now (I'm 23). I have dated another girl in the crew, but that was about a year ago. Now, Thanksgiving night, at about midnight I get a text from one of the girls apart of this beautiful women filled crew. She was basically drunkenly flirting with me, and I stupidly told her to come over. She didn't. But she wanted to. I couldn't hang out last night with her, and she didn't text me. \n\nShould I call her tonight? I was just hooking up with her best friend about 2 weeks ago, and have dated another one of her good friends in the past. Seems like they may be using me as a manwhore - which might be fine - but 90% of the reason I would hook up with this girl is to really release out my anger, and emotions since her friend ditched me. But then again, she is the one that initiated the initial contact....\n\nI like you guys here in /r/relationship_advice when you help me gage whether something is morally wrong or not. So - fall in sex with my ex's best friend or not?", "summary": "Girl I was seeing leaves me for a new guy. I get sad. A week later her best friend drunkenly texts me late at night and flirts hardcore. I bump my chest like gorilla, yell \"I is alpha-male\" and think I can get revenge. But then come down to earth and think that may be cruel to all parties involved. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_30orxa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being \"too friendly\"", "post": "So this happened a day ago. im friends with a girl whos been giving me mixed signals (we mainly chat on FB and call each other) she recently got out of a relationship and has been very friendly and flirty recently which is great because i have a thing for her. \n   \n   Come the weekend we're talking all day per usual and we had plans to be with a few friends at a party. As a small joke i kiss her on the cheek and tell her that i had to leave (mistake number 1). Nothing seems wrong but i notice shes getting distant. Later on she comes by and Im sitting on a chair and shes standing next to me genius me thinking \"hey Im really close with her lets see if she wants to sit down\" so i try to get her to sit on my lap which ended up in an awkward \"no\" (mistake number 2). \n\n   After the party we head to a friends house to spend the night and unwind for about half an hour its just me and her in a room and theres this awkward tension that wont leave so i talk to her and ask her if anythings wrong which she replied with a simple \"no\". Soon my friend gets home and the drinks come out i say no because \"shes here (friend i was with) im a fiend when im drunk\" (mistake number 3).\n\n   The rest of the night is calm and relaxed and i wake up the next morning feeling completely awful after a night of contemplation. I go about my day pretty bummed out i didnt get to hang out with her as much as i wanted to and suddenly i get an angry text from her ex whos telling me to keep my hands off of her. Confused i message her asking if i did anything wrong. Turns out i totally creeped her out by touching her and trying to be playful but only because coming from me it was \"too serious\" while my other friends got away scott free.", "summary": "tried being affectionate in person. blew up in my face."}
{"id": "t3_50fmec", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "24 male, depressed and out of options.", "post": "First of the year, I moved 3 hours away from my family and home town to live with some friends and continue schooling. Lately my depression has gotten worse, my anxiety has been crippling and paralyzing, and my stomach issues are just being multiplied because of it. So it's kept me from returning to school. Short version, is that I'm considering moving back to my small hometown.\n\nBut, I'm worried that I won't have options there... I'm a creative, I love making things. My dream would be to help write a show or movie and be a main editor (I love editing media, what I was going to go to school for.) \n\nAre there jobs in the media industry for people like me? Without degrees? I know it's better to have them (here in the states). But I'm just asking, because I know being closer to family, familiarities, and my husky dog, life would be simpler and my anxiety would be easier to control, but it has me worried that I won't be able to pursue what I want to do.", "summary": "I'm a depressed 24 year old creative, who's illnesses are keeping him from finishing school. What kind of options do I have? Online school? Are there remote editors who do work from their computers? I'm just looking for any advice here, alone with continuing treatment for my health issues."}
{"id": "t3_2lzqtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [25 M] of two years, I want to make him feel special", "post": "So to preface we are in a pretty good relationship. We have our ups and downs like every couple but in general life is pretty sweet. We live together, and right now our balance is pretty good, we generally talk about finances and whatnot and get along 99.9% of the time.\n\nLately, though, I've been VERY busy. He's stuck with me and supported me every step of the way, through a couple new big responsibilities and a recent health scare as well as me graduating from college and getting a new job. \n\nLately, he's been doing most, if not all, of the cooking/cleaning and although we've talked about it extensively and he has no problem with it seeing as how he has a lighter workload and can work at home whereas I cannot, I want to make sure he knows how much I appreciate him.\n\nI want some ideas for making my boyfriend feel special--perhaps some stuff I can do for him that will make him feel appreciated because I have been a whiny demanding bitch lately and he deserves it ;)\n\nAnyone have any ideas?", "summary": "My boyfriend has been doing a lot for me lately and I want to make him feel special"}
{"id": "t3_2o7xbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M/F] with my ex/girl I love [20 F] of about 2 years are struggling in college. What should I do?", "post": "Too make the breakup story incredibly short, she dumped me to \"explore\" her feelings in college (later learned she has been crushing on some other guy). Treated her like a princess. We grew so much together, and she told me if we lived 40 years ago she would have married me when we were 18. \n\nFast forward several long months after our breakup. She has a tendency to seem quite bipolar. One day she calls me and tells me she loves me and misses me like crazy and wants all the familiarity of me, and then two days later she will get very fussy with me and demand I give her more space. I'm very confused to say the least. \n\nThe thing is, I know in my head what I SHOULD do, but damn I seriously fell head over heals in love with this girl while we were together. On top of that, her family and even extended family tell me how much they miss me, how great I was for her. Her little cousins even told me they wanted to be just like me when they grow up. \n\nShe constantly tells me that she is confused, and that she still has conflicted feelings for me. I love her with all of my heart, but damn she can really mess with my head. \n\nHonestly, I'm just looking for opinions. My heart is telling me to be patient, that she will figure things out, but my mind and some of my friends are telling me to move on.", "summary": "Still love the girl that broke up with me. She has conflicting emotions about me and I don't know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_4z5qhy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I tell my friend I was raped?", "post": "Hey y'all. I have a slight dilemma. I was raped four years ago, and it's done a number on me being intimate and putting myself out there. I have been hanging out with a woman that I really enjoy spending time with. The only downside is she is into rape horror movies, and then she talks about them how horrible that it can really happen to people etc, whenever she does this I just kinda shut down, and I start to feel myself acting weird or just getting really nervous. I want to tell her what happened but I'm worried it's to heavy for her, and that she is going to not want anything to do with me because I still feel as if my self worth is not back yet. I've been trying to get my self worth back, and rebuild my self-esteem but most days I still feel broken. I just cover all that up by being really funny. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "How to tell a friend I was raped when I'm afraid that she will see me differently."}
{"id": "t3_fuuwo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I work for a large television provider in Canada. Our \"on hold\" music and voice overs kind of really suck. I want to fix this. I could use some help.", "post": "Hi,\n\nLong time redditor. Throwaway account. I do tech support via e-mail, from one of our call centers. It's not the best job in the world, but I love the company I work for. I am also a customer of many other large business, and I HATE IVR's and shitty hold music. Ours is pretty bad, and loops constantly. It pisses people off more than it helps. \n\nI have a chance to change that. I have the opportunity to put together some suggestions to improve it, and have someone with actual say; evaluate it and possibly run with it.\n\nMy question to you Reddit is; what do you think would make decent hold music and voice overs? Alternatively, what upsets you the most with them? (my pet peeve is Christmas music). \n\nPlease, if anyone have any suggestions or input, I'm all eyes. Thank you.", "summary": "My companies hold music/messages suck. Want to make them better. Would love suggestions. Also; what do you hate?"}
{"id": "t3_30rzav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend of 5 months [17 F], always says she's not \"in the mood\", worried she might have body image issues. What do I say? :/", "post": "Whenever I start to kiss her, she stops me before things really get anywhere and says that she just isn't feeling it. She assures me that it doesn't have anything to do with myself, just that lately (past few months) she just hasn't felt up for it and doesn't really know why. She has mentioned before that she doesn't like feeling 'exposed', and about a month ago she opened up to me about a past eating disorder and depression that she had been dealing with, both of which have gotten better in the past year but still probably aren't gone forever. I'm worried that she has low self esteem, or that she isn't comfortable with her own body. \n\nTo me, she's incredibly beautiful, and has a gorgeous body. (I hope that doesn't sound creepy) Bottom line is she means so much to me, and I have very strong feelings for her that I want to be able to share with her. Doesn't necessarily have to be sex if she isn't ready for that yet, but I at least want to be able to express these feelings in some sort of physical fashion. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable being exposed, and I want her to feel beautiful. More importantly, I want to SHOW her that I think she's beautiful. \n\nAre my worries valid? What do I do? Thank you guys so much!", "summary": "I'm worried that the reason my girlfriend doesn't feel like engaging in physical activities (making out, etc.) is related to her having low self esteem or being uncomfortable with her body. I want to show her I think she's beautiful. What's the right thing to say? Thank you so much!"}
{"id": "t3_3j2h1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] huge crush on this girl [15F] 2 years, not sure if she's still interested, advice", "post": "Didn't know this post would be this long, and sound so lovey-dovey\n\nSo I've known (not very personally) this girl for nearly two years and ever since I met her and saw her (through an old friend) I've had the biggest crush on her to a weird extent, though I'm not a creepy guy xD\n\nSince I've met her we've talked probably 4 or 5 times, and some of that was only when other people were with her aswell.\n\n The thing is she's way out of my league (I mean if she's a 10 I'm probably a 7 max but its more about her personality and that we're into the same things). I used to be quite popular but I'm not extremely social (which wouldn't bother me if she wasn't in the picture, I tend to just float between groups though I am mostly confident)  or attractive as I used to be and I think that really weighs down my chances.\n\nNow inbetween the first year she definitely threw some signs that she was interested like looking at me and smiling and stuff like that aswell as me overhearing her describe some things about an ideal guy that suited me quite a bit. And I was too stupid to even consider a chance with her, still am really .\n\nBut now so much shit has changed imo, including me though thats for the better.She seems more reserved and quiet now and I don't talk to her. I don't know whether there is still anything there, the only possible sign is when she looks around my direction when I ever see her, but yeah no idea if that's anything or not. She still takes my breath away whenever I'm around her (yeah weird)  and I know this isn't some fad or anything since its been going on for so long, I've had chances with other people but wasn't interested because this girl seems very.. Special ?\n\nI'm just asking for your opinion/advice on anything really :p", "summary": "This girl I have a crush on is out of my league and I'm not sure I have a chance anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2cf0dn", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I call an ol buddy of mines hundreds of times a day.", "post": "So there's a *friend* of mine, *who owes me money*, that I've been trying to get ahold of for months. He lives in a neighboring state now, but he's been avoiding contact, we'll my attempting contact. \n  \nIt all started out as me just calling him a bunch to get something out of him. Texts can be easily ignored, and his phone going off is a little more  attention grabbing IMO. I text him too, but I keep calling. Well eventually I would just call him whenever he crossed my mind. Dozens of calls at a time. It turned into a game at first for me. I would call and call almost every hour or 2. Sometimes more than a session an hour! It rings 4 times then voicemails on its own. Dead is an immediate voicemail, sometimes a frustrated ignore from him. When he's actively ignoring the calls it rings, *twice*. Idk wtf, but always twice. I've noticed it'll ring once then voicemail at times when his phones dying. ^((he's texted me to tell me)). Now, when I get a one-ring, I go into overdrive for the kill. \n  \nIts gotten serious now. I call all day every day. I call when I think it's inconvienent, as I eat breakfast, when I get bored, during his classes, after work, 3am, while I watch tv, during a deuce, as I fall asleep. **All** ***Damn*** **Day**. Recently I've been devoting my time to reaching 50calls a session. I only let it ring twice, then Hangup and immediately redial ^((quick touchscreen)). I'd say I get a couple 2-rings off every 10seconds. If I reach 50, happens frequently if he won't text something, I go for 100. Sometimes I'll reach 100, sometimes I'll kill his phone. Sometimes he'll text something and I text back as I keep calling. I can't do much too him, so I attempt to kill his phone multiple times a day. It's my petty revenge.", "summary": "Bitch betta have my *money*, Pay me or your phones life is done *eh?*"}
{"id": "t3_1bid0z", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Advice on Cat Security", "post": "I have an upstairs room which has a door opening onto a balcony. There is an cat-flap (without a flap, though: really more of a gaping hole) in the door which my cat uses to get to his litterbox on the balcony. Tonight one of the neighbourhood cats come in through the hole. This cat freaked right out when I busted her in my room and couldn't find the cat-flap/hole again and was clawing her way up the curtains and whatnot because she was so scared of me: I did eventually get her out though. My own cat, who has no street smarts whatsoever (here he is playing Xbox:  was none the wiser. Hopefully the intruder cat will have had enough of a fright to keep her away for a while, but I am still a bit worried about my cat because he is such a baby and if I hadn't been here he might have ended up in a fight or something. With regards to cat security (both securing my house against them and securing my own cat), is there anything you would suggest?", "summary": "seeking tips for discouraging neighbourhood cats coming in through the cat-flap."}
{"id": "t3_381rsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(30sF) single again for the first time in a long time - apparently intimidating? Help.", "post": "I am a woman in her early thirties and somewhat newly single. Now back into the dating scene i am finding a problem that wasn't there in my 20s.\n\n I have a very high sex drive and now that my dating pool is men in their 30s I am running into the roadblock of once sex happens a handful of times, I am told it is too intimidating to sleep with me and that the guy in question feels inadequate. \n\nAt no point do I do anything, that I know of, that is chasing these guys away. I just really enjoy sex, and enjoy making my partner happy. I understand my drive is high and I do not expectt partner to want sex as often as I do.\n\nReddit, please help me figure out how I can communicate a healthy love of sex without scaring mature men off.", "summary": "get to sex and within weeks am told i am sexually intimidating. Want to figure out what I am doing wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1x4521", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) want to know how to approach a cute girl at the gym", "post": "Hi, Sorry this is kind of a noob post, but I just got out of a almost 2 year relationship less then a week ago. I posted on my throwaway account on how to handle the breakup and now i'm feeling a lot better. Even though it's only been a week I feel as if i'm ready to try and move on and meet other girls. \n\nAnyways, this girl is a senior in high school who I thought was cute when I was back in high school (I'm in college now). I see her at the gym, but I have never talked to her. I think she is really attractive. She is not the super popular girl that everyone loves though. \n\nI don't know how to approach her or even if I should approach her since its in the middle of working out. So I know this is a silly question, but how do I approach her while we're at the gym? Is it a good idea?", "summary": "How do I approach a girl I think is cute at the gym?"}
{"id": "t3_2bp5cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] now dating new girl [24F], I have no experience with 'normal' relationships and have no idea I'm doing, advice?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. I've recently(ish) moved to a new city and after a couple months I believe I've started 'dating' someone new, though the relationship hasn't defined. I've never actually \"dated\" per se, and my previous relationship experience was not even remotely normal. It started fast, intense, and became unhealthy after a while.\n\nTimeline of events thus far is as follows.\n\nFirst date was last Wednesday, we met up for drinks, wound up talking a *long* time and hit it off pretty well. The date ended up with us making out on a street corner (classy, I know) for roughly 10-15 minutes.\n\nSecond date, this past Sunday. Met up in a museum and she immediately came up and kissed me. Wandered around museums for a few hours holding hands and intermittently kissing. Ended up going to a bar after for drinks. Total length of the date was roughly 4 1/2 hours.\n\nThird date, Tuesday. We met at a bar for food and drinks, and after being there for a while went down the street to meet her friends for trivia. She didn't tell her friends I was coming, and wasn't shy about showing pda in front of them. I got along with them fine and at the end right before she got into a cab, she planted a big one on me in front of all of them, no shame.\n\nThing is, I have absolutely no experience with dating or what 'normal' is supposed to be like, and the logical and emotional parts of my brain aren't connecting very well on this. I'm also kind of socially awkward and I've been told to just go with the flow, but I don't know what the \"flow\" is or how to go with it. I don't know how often I'm supposed to keep up communication, what I should and shouldn't worry about, and basically I keep wondering \"What do I do to not fuck up this awesome thing that's happening to me?\". Any general advice?", "summary": "Dating a new girl, it's going well, but I have no experience and can't shake the fear of making a misstep and fucking up."}
{"id": "t3_ui97x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did I blow it with this guy because I had sex with him too soon?", "post": "I'm 24F and attractive. I met this guy on OKC. We talked for a couple days before meeting up for drinks. Conversation was excellent and we had a lot in common. No kiss, just a casual goodbye. We kept texted and chatting during the week. A few days later he invited me over to his place. We just watched a movie and had a quick goodbye kiss. The next day I went over there we ended up having sex. After that, I felt like he was texting me less. The next time he invited me over, I told him that I thought we were moving too fast and he said he respected and understood how I felt and he was ok with taking it slow. A few days later he asked me out for drinks but I was busy. A few nights ago I went over to his place and we ended up having sex again! \n\nNow let me say this, the sex is mindblowing so I'm having a hard time controlling myself with him. And we are both busy people so we don't talk everyday. But every time we hang out and talk I start liking him more and more! we've known each other for about 2 weeks now and have hung out 4 times. \n\nNow I feel like because we had Sex so soon, it's not going to lead into a relationship. I feel like even though he is a super busy guy, he would contact me more if he was interested. Maybe I'm wrong though. \n\nSo my question to you, Reddit, is, is it possible to have a relationship now? Is it too soon to ask what his intentions are?", "summary": "Met a guy 2 weeks ago. Hung out 4 times and had sex twice. We don't talk everyday. Is he still going to be interested in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1ssc8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 21[f] met a 21[f] a bit over a month ago at a party, we fooled around and have started hanging out a ton, but she is still sleeping with her ex...", "post": "Okay so I'm going to try and explain the entire situation with enough detail, if anything more is needed please ask.\n\nSo I met this girl about 5-6 weeks ago just after Halloween weekend. We met through mutual friends and we all went to a party together. We IMMEDIATELY hit it off and by the end of the night we were making out and feeling on each other.\n\nSo over the past 5 weeks or so we have been hanging out a ton and have become pretty close. Now the first two weeks we had fooled around a bit, but she had started to kinda back off. So she is completely open to me and she tells me that she is still fucking her ex boyfriend. Keep in mind that we have not had sex yet. And they had been fucking before we met.\n\nNow she claims that the only reason she is still having sex with him is because \"it's easy\" and they are \"best friends\". I won't go into details of their break up, but from what she's told me I really think that they need to stop sleeping together.\n\nShe's told me that she just wants to be friends FOR NOW. I guess I'm kind of just stuck and I don't want to do. I know I should just let her and her ex boyfriend thing play out, but I am really starting to like her and I think the longer I wait on trying anything then she will start to only see me as a friend if I haven't already.\n\nI want to talk to her straight up and we have a couple of times, but I'm just not sure what to say or do. I like her but it seems like she is still attached to her ex so I'm really not sure what to do.\n\nAny advice? Also please ask for anymore details", "summary": "Met a girl through mutual friends, hit it off and fooled around at a party, want to take things further but she is still fucking her ex, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3468hq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [18 M] of five months, we won't be seeing each other for a few months and I want to show him how much I care?", "post": "Basically, I'm a freshman in college and have been dating this guy for about five months. I've known him around seven. We would easily consider each other to be best friends as well as in a relationship. We live about six hours away when away from University, and I will probably only see him once or twice over the summer due to outside reasons.\n\nHe has mentioned a few times on doing some grand act of some sort to show his love, despite that I know how much he loves and cares for me. He hasn't brought it up in a while, but I know him well and it's one of those things that sort of festers in the back of his mind. It wouldn't really matter to me if he did whatever it is that he's planning, but I know he would really like it if I did something grand for him.\n\nHe is always planning things to for me and surprise me, like random dates, little presents, a cup of coffee from my favorite cafe on a bad day, etc. He even wrote me a song. (He's a musician).\n\n I try my best to keep him on his toes and do similar things. For example, in the past I've hunted all over town before having to special order a record he had been dying for. It made his entire week when I found it, and he still hasn't stopped talking about it several months later.\n\nBasically, I want to do something big and fun for him as a final goodbye and act of love before summer begins. A friend suggested a scavenger hunt that leads to all our favorite places, but he really dislikes scavenger hunts.\n\nAnother thought I had was to write him a little letter or draw a picture for each day of summer because I know his home environment is kind of shitty and I'd like to cheer him up when I can't be there.\n\nI would love any suggestions or creative ideas that might help me out. I've got a few ideas tossing around my head but I thought hearing some stuff from you all might help get the creativity flowing. Sorry this was so long.", "summary": "I would love some suggestions to surprise my boyfriend to show how much I care before summer starts. Simple ideas might help me think of even bigger ones! Thanks (:"}
{"id": "t3_13e3u4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I once accidentally made my family believe I was lost in a foreign country. In what ways have you sent your family into a worried panic?", "post": "I was studying abroad in college a few years ago and had gone to Barcelona, Spain for spring break with a group of my friends. I had gotten separated from them for hours trying to climb a mountain path and ended up horribly lost. I was beginning to get dark, and none of my friends had working cell phones on this trip, so I started making my way back to the hostel alone. As this was far from the city and I knew no spanish, I was reasonably worried that I would be stuck overnight. For comforts sake, I ended up placing a call to my mother. I told her I was separated from my friends in Barcelona and was lost, she went into panic mode asking where I was, am I okay, etc... I was able to respond with \"I'm okay, but it's getting dark and I have no clue where I am. We went out away from the city so I don't even know how to get back. \" As soon as I finished that sentence my phone ran out of minutes and it hung up. I made it back eventually but had no way to contact my mother to let her know for at least 4 or 5 days. I found out later she was freaking out, crying, and had to be prevented from actually going to Spain to set out to rescue me. I felt so bad, but now we laugh about it. Well, I laugh about it at least.", "summary": "I got lost in Spain and called my mom just before my phone died, letting her believe I was hopelessly lost for almost a week"}
{"id": "t3_3hlve7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) keep getting asked out by random creepy (50s?M). Don't know how to politely turn him down without making him mad.", "post": "So to get my bus home I have to walk through a shopping area on the edge of the main town. It's a well known area for a lot of homeless/immigrants as there's a few shelters and help centres around there. \n\nFor the past few days I keep running in to the same guy, who, from his accent, has moved over from a different country. He keeps asking me out for coffee or food and I'm finding it hard to find a way to say \"no, I'm not interested\" as I'm afraid it will make him mad. \n\nI ran into him again on the way today, and he asked me for my phone number. I tried to give him a fake one but he rang it straight away so the gig was up. I ended up giving him my real number because I honestly didn't know how to get away from the situation, but obviously now I'm worried he'll ring me. \n\nI have thought of messaging him and just saying \"sorry if I gave you the wrong impression but I am not interested\" (though I had already slipped in I had a boyfriend meeting me on the hope that would put him off). Or I don't know if it's best to just ignore him, but then what do I do if I run into him again?\n\nI have met people like him before, from the same area and it seems like a cultural thing, not that he's intentionally being creepy. I'm sure he's probably just after friendship (but it's still uncomfortable). Sadly, I'm a teeny tiny woman, so it all comes across as creepy to me. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys", "summary": "been asked out for coffee by randomer. Now he has my number. How do I politely tell him I'm not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_2dcraf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "A CEO from some company (this person is a stranger) sent me a nasty email and now I'm crying at my desk.", "post": "I'm a recruiter. Some people think that's a bad profession but it pays the bills and allows me to continue school to become a teacher (and earn much less money but actually contribute something positive).  I wrote an email to a potential candidate at his work email address because that was the only contact I had for him and this is common practice in recruiting.  He forwarded it to his CEO and his CEO responded.  Please keep in mind my original email was very specific (listed company, compensation, etc) and acknowledged the fact that this potential candidate is likely happy where he is but that I just wanted to check in case he was exploring opportunities.  Now I'm sitting at my desk crying, trying to work or at least do my homework for school.  Keep fantasizing about writing back to thank this guy for bullying a 26 year old female that is just trying to do her fucking best.  Here is our convo:\n\nFrom CEO:\n\nI have forwarded your message to [candidate I reached out to].\n\nAnd you also just got your company on our banlist for trying to recruit\npeople from us.\n\nDon't expect any business from us and I will also be contacting both your\nteam members letting them know of this and [company I recruit for] letting them\nknow of your low-end ways to spam people and try to steal away people from\ntheir potential business partners, ultimately hurting their business.\n\nGood luck!\n\nMy generic response:\n\nI appreciate your note and your concern.  Sorry for the disruption.  We always do our best to reach candidates via other avenues than their work contacts.\n\nWe will remove any team members from our system.\n\nFrom CEO:\nWell I think you should apologize not appreciate my note and my concern.\n\nI am not concerned, nobody from my team will join a shitty company just because some lame recruiter is spamming them with false promises but I don't think it's appropriate for you to use their work emails to do this, and it is also not smart.\n\nSo I think the company that hired you should know how unqualified and novice you are.", "summary": "CEO tells me I am a lame, unqualified recruiter at a shitty company.  I cry."}
{"id": "t3_3i69oo", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Threesome with a virgin", "post": "My girlfriend and I are both very close friends with her best friend. We've been joking forever about drinking and having a threesome, but it ended up happening and in the moment, parts were really awesome, but afterwords, I just feel terrible. Even if she was cool with it,  she was still very nervous about losing it and I feel like shit about taking it. She kept saying it hurt, but she kept wanting to try and I just feel wrong. I feel like I took something I don't have the right to take. How do people who have slept with tons of other people seek out virginity to take? I just don't get it. I wanted a threesome, I didn't want to feel like I stole something from someone. We're still friends, and I don't think things are weird between us, I just have this sludgy weight in my gut.", "summary": "Have a threesome with somebody experienced and / or sexually enlightened. No matter how you feel or how comfortable you are with both parties, there's just something that won't let you really enjoy what an amazing experience it can be."}
{"id": "t3_zolvl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A girl in my (middle) school just gave birth. Reddit, what really pisses you off about today's society?", "post": "First off, worry not internet. Though I am a teen, I am mature. And have morals. That said, a girl, 1 year younger than me recently gave birth. I'm thirteen. Most people in my grade were born in '99. So, I'll assume she's a year younger than me. Here's the story: Rumors were going around that \"Sally\" (We'll call her that) was pregnant. I dismissed it, thinking that MAYBE there was some logic in my generation. Nope. I log onto Facebook to see a photo titled \"My babygirl!\". So I investigate her recent photos and see one of her focused on her stomach. And EVERY comment was supportive. I mean, I guess they'd HAVE to be, but my God, does no one see the wrong in this!? So here I am, venting. So Reddit, what's got you stirred up about today's world. Go ahead and bash my generation, I'm there with you. Just don't throw us all under the bus. Some of us are rather logical.", "summary": "Girl at age 13 got pregnant. I'm pretty pissed."}
{"id": "t3_1q4ucr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/24] in a happy relationship but worried about her [F/23] stance on giving/receiving in relationship and sex life.", "post": "Hi r/relationships. I'm in a happy relationship with my girlfriend of 1.5 years, but I'm a bit concerned with her stance on giving/receiving in our relationship and I don't have anywhere else to ask for advice. I first noticed this issue early on but I thought it might just be a small issue. It is becoming very noticeable in sex and other aspects of our life.\n\nMy girlfriend has never given me a blowjob/handjob unless its right before sex. We only ever have sex when she is in the mood (about once every 1.5 weeks) and we have very different libidos. I thought it might relieve some tension if she would give me some quick attention maybe once a month (was thinking hand/blow job), even if she isn't in the mood, but she outright refuses because \"it wont be fun for [her].\" This seems to be a common stance that she doesn't want to do anything if it doesn't benefit her personally in any way.\nI really do love this girl and I don't want this to come between us further down the road. I'm wondering: Is this common in a healthy relationship? and, Is there anyway I might be able to persuade her to have a more give and take in our relationship?\n\nThanks guys for your help!", "summary": "Girlfriend is reluctant to do anything anything that wont directly benefit herself."}
{"id": "t3_2zjvmk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: As a little kid I told a racist joke in front of my Mexican uncle, not realizing how offensive it was, and today at work I saw a little kid do the exact same thing.", "post": "This is kind of a Today He Fucked Up And A Long Time Ago I Fucked Up The Same Way but hey I didn't know where else to put it. \n\nA long time ago at my cousin's wedding (I was probably 8 years old) another cousin of mine told me this joke: a Russian, an American, and a Mexican are on a plane that's losing altitude and they have to drop stuff. The Russian drops a bomb cause there's too many in his country, the Mexican drops a burrito cause there's too many in his country, and the American drops the Mexican cause there's too many in his country. Anyway I thought that was really hilarious at the time and so I went over to another table of family where my Mexican uncle happened to be sitting and retold the joke cause that's what you do with a funny joke. I remember getting to the end of the joke and thinking oh shit uncle pat is Mexican,  and then I remember saying \"at least it wasn't uncle pat\" or something like that but I was pretty embarrassed, one of those embarrassing things you don't forget. \n\nFast forward to today. I work at a private math tutoring facility, work with mainly k-8 students sometimes high schoolers, and all the kids are in one large room so sometimes conversations break out. There's one sixth grader with a particularly loud voice and a habit for telling stories and often stretching the truth. Today he tells the exact same joke I had told at that wedding so that everyone around him can hear it, including this large, fit, starting o-line type Mexican high school senior sitting a couple seats away in another row. I was scared for a second that something was gonna go down cause this large kid definitely heard this shrimp. Fortunately he seemed to just laugh it off, same as my uncle did. Today brought back that memory to me.", "summary": "2/2 Mexicans will not react negatively to offensive jokes about them"}
{"id": "t3_2iqhf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22M] student[19F] asked me on a date. Not sure how to respond.", "post": "Background: So without revealing too much, I'm an undergrad working as a teaching assistant for an intro level course. Most TAs at my college are graduate students, but this department has undergrad TAs. I've been TAing for some time and am on very good terms with the professor. I haven't broken any rules, generally keep with deadlines, etc etc. However, one rule that is always repeated semester after semester is don't sleep with students. \n\nThis semester, I have a student who I find attractive. It's happened before, no big deal. However, it seemed like the student was interested in me. She would specifically come to my office hours of all the TAs and only mine, would wait to walk with me after class, send me emails directly instead of to the shared TA email (which has faster response time), and would ask to schedule additional one on one meetings with me. This week, she emailed me to thank me for answering her questions after class. I replied, then she replied and asked me to dinner. I haven't replied to this. I'm definitely interested in her, but for many reasons (among them being not wanting to get fired), I plan on turning her down but telling her why and that I'd be interested in seeing her next semester. Should I do this via email to keep distance? Or would it be better to meet with her in person and discuss this? Also, would it be awkward for me to essentially reciprocate interest (while still stipulating that anything can't occur as long as the student - TA relationship exists) since I'd still still her TA for a semester? \n\nI do not treat this girl any differently than I do other students by the way. I love teaching and I meet with any student outside of class if they ask to. I let them know the option is available and I often walk with students while explaining something or making small talk and I always come early/stay late to field questions. She has used me as a resource more than any other student in the class, but she is definitely not the only one and I don't encourage her to do so.", "summary": "I find one of my student's attractive but we're both undergrads. I did not give her any special treatment. She showed interest in me and asked me to dinner via email. I'm not sure how to turn her down while still telling her that I'm interested in her and not making anything strange. Or if I should even do that for that matter."}
{"id": "t3_51szhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my [22GF] have been dating for 4months, I get the feeling shes losing intrest in me", "post": "To give a bit of context, iv been dating this girl for 4 months. At the start it was all gravy. Know she never rarely flirts on texts or snaps. We havent had sex in 3 weeks, instead she just goes to sleep when im over. All this seems ovious like shes slowly pushing me out BUT she still seeks attention from me.\n\nWe snapchat every morning, she usually sends the 1st one. During the evening she wants to snapchat and stuff. But she rarely sends flirty snaps anymore (simple things like hearts or kiss emojis). When we hang out in person she wants kisses but its difficult to cuddle with her.\n\nI feel like shes just un emotional girl that doesnt really want to seem vulnerable. Shes had a rough pass with guys.\nShe just started nursing school so shes always busy with studying and stuff so sometimes we dont see each other for a week or so.\n\nSo for me, i feel like im on a roller coaster. Some days shes happy, smiling, wants a kiss and likes to talk ect. Other days she will completly screens my snapchats for a half a day then respond later with completly different responses. I hate feeling like a ragdoll.", "summary": "i think my gf is losing intrest in me but somedays shes totaly fine."}
{"id": "t3_33y1ap", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20M] seem to have a problem falling for people who are unavailable", "post": "Over the past few years I have started developing feelings for people when I know it couldn't possibly work. Firstly, a year ago I started falling for one of my friends at uni who I was moving into a house with. I ended up telling her how I felt and that I didn't want anything and she said that she didn't feel the same way. Another problem was that I am a devout Christian and she has on multiple times said that she is an atheist.\n\nMore recently, I have started to get along really well with someone from the same uni sport as me. However, she is already in a relationship with someone I am good friends with. I believe she also doesn't hold the same religious views as myself. For the meantime I'm not going to say anything this time and hope that it goes away over time.\n\nHow can I stop this pattern of falling for girls who I am close to? I would consider this current girl my closest female friend and don't want to potentially ruin another friendship because of my underlying problem.", "summary": "seem to always fall for girls that I am close friends with, while knowing that it probably won't work out"}
{"id": "t3_1w5kbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] girlfriend's [17 F] parents are emotionally and sometimes physically abusive towards her and we don't know what to do.", "post": "We've been dating for just over 9 months and my girlfriend's parents, mainly her dad are very emotionally abusive towards her. Her dad constantly screams abuse at her, calling her \"a worthless piece of shit\" and says things like \"you're a failure\" or \"you're not going anywhere in life\". This happens usually once or twice a week, and she cries herself to sleep basically every night.\n\nLast night was the worst of it though. She's part of an elite swim team (forced by her father) and had to go to a swim meet, but she was extremely tired from pulling an all nighter for an exam. Because she was yawning, and falling asleep, he calls her useless, and worthless, and even went as far as hitting her on the head several times. She went to her room, and as she was crying, her mom also adds in on the abuse, yelling \"what's wrong with you?!\" at her and other things. \n\nShe's always feeling depressed because of this behaviour, and I don't know how to help her. I love her so much, and it hurts to see her in pain knowing there isn't anything I can really do. I constantly tell her to come stay with me or a friend for a few days, but she doesn't listen. It makes me so mad to hear what her parents do to her, and I've seriously debated going over there and teaching her dad a lesson but that won't really go anywhere.. Do you guys have any ideas of what I can do?", "summary": "my girlfriend's parents are emotionally and physically abusive towards her, and I feel useless because I can't help her."}
{"id": "t3_1zsee5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my best friend [16 F] Need advice/reassurance/whatever you think is needed", "post": "Until recently my best friend had a long but unstable relationship with another guy 16M who is a very jealous, clingy guy. She periodically break-ups with him and gets back together, a process which leaves her always very upset.\n\nWe are very close & we act as each others confidants and we know one another very well. I recently revealed that I have had strong feeling for her for some time, and she said she felt the same thing. \n\nShe broke up with her boyfriend, (not because of me) and we have been progressing past simply being friends though she says she is not ready for another relationship yet.\n\nWhich is fine and reasonable by me, I wouldn't want her to jump into anything she is not ready for.\n\nThe problem is that her ex is actively trying to win her back, they still talk and he is throwing out all of his old tricks to get her back, he basically considers her as \"his\" (like an object).\n\nI am afraid that she might just fall back into the same old pattern and get back together with him, because I know that these kind of things are hard to break.", "summary": "my best friend and I are coming into a relationship, but I am afraid her ex will steal her back"}
{"id": "t3_ibclb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I can move on from the friend zone?", "post": "Throwaway account here & I hope am posting this in the right place.... \n\nOk so the story is I (female 20 something) met a guy (late 20's) through a mutual friend a while ago. We instantly hit it off and found we had lots in common. \n\nWe went for a few drinks together (alone without the mutual friend) and kissed a few times, he then said that he wasn't in a good place to date at the time and we just went back to being friends. \n\nFast forward to now and I still like him and we are still friends. \nHe often flirts with me - to the point where recently we were out with some other friends of mine who hadn't met him before and they asked me how long we had been dating when he was in the bathroom. Also whenever we talk on the phone, a quick 5 minute call to see if he wants to meet up becomes hour long conversation. \n\nI have made moves but he has always declined. I know I am just in the friend zone, and I guess he flirts because he is flattered that he knows I like him. \n\nHe is a really close friend now, and I really don't want to loose that. So I really need some advice about how I can move on but remain friends with him.", "summary": "close friend doesn't want to date me and I need advice how to get over it without loosing the friendship"}
{"id": "t3_2vbcbi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by winning the lottery, and having a threesome.", "post": "It all started when I won a partial lottery (5 / 6 digits, $1,000,000) which wasn't a complete fuckup at this point, until I went out to celebrate my friends. I was probably being too pompous, buying drinks for everyone, gloating even when I wanted to stay someone restrained. There has been some sexual tension between two of my female friends and myself, and they seemed to have responded well to my douchey behavior that night, or my newfound riches, or both. That night the three of us returned to my apartment, and some innocent cuddling on the couch eventually evolved into a full blown threesome. Easily one of the best nights of my life, but since then the three of us no longer hang out together, and when I'm with either alone its extremely awkward. At this point I'd rather never won the money, and kept my friends. At the very least I got to check something off by bucket list.", "summary": "Won the lottery, banged my two closed friends, and now we no longer talk or hang out."}
{"id": "t3_46o0zt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] don't know if I should keep trying or get a divorce . Can reddit help me communicate to my wife [26F]?", "post": "We've been together for 8 years, married for 5 - I'm not sure what to do anymore. I really love my wife and dogs, we have the same interests and she's helped me become the person I am today. \n\nI feel like I'm the only responsible one, I do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and housework. We work similar hours and I've asked her many times over the last few years to help out, she did for a little while but always stops. On the Monday the 8th I came home to a messy house like normal, she works a later shift on Monday and Tuesday, and got fed up, so I told her when she got home that we had to figure out a plan to be partners, because I felt like a maid. She apologized and did a few things Tuesday and Wednesday and we made up on Friday - she said she 100% knows that she's been lacking lately and she'll change. We had a great Valentine's Day.\n\nWell the last few days I've come home from work and had to do all of the dishes, cooking, and laundry again. I just don't know what to do anymore. How can I convince her to ACTUALLY help me. I don't want to have children with her if I'm going to be stuck doing all the work.\n\nI begged her to see therapist 8 months ago and he helped her feel \"a billion percent better\" with an anti anxiety pill and her mood is way better, but she still doesn't do anything I ask or says \"I'll do it tomorrow.\"\n\nWhat can I do? I don't want to leave her, I love her very much and want this to work - I just need some help sometimes.", "summary": "I do all the chores, how can I tell her I'm really serious about wanting to be a partner, not a maid?"}
{"id": "t3_2jx5w7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a girl my number.", "post": "Today I was on my commute back home when a really attractive girl sat across from me. In my eyes she had exactly what I would hope a potential girlfriend would have. \n\nGlances are mutually exchanged and she even gives me a small smile at one point, I start picturing our lives together just sappy shit... this and that... we are going to live happily ever after etc. I soon come to realize my stop is next and my dreams of my soulmate come crashing down. In a moment of desperation of not only never seeing her again, but not having the courage to do anything about it I decide to take action.\n\nHaving less than a minute of time left before the doors open I just say fuck it and (don't know how) manage to pull out a tiny piece of paper out of my bag. Write just my number on it all shaky/scratchy stand up and just throw it at the girl and run out. My quick burst of confidence lasted just enough to take the paper out.", "summary": "beautiful girl exchanges looks with me on the train, seconds before my stop manage to write my number, throw it at the girl, and run out like a little bitch."}
{"id": "t3_3twcgi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19 M] been in a relationship with my girlfriend [19 F] for the past 2 years, and im not sure if i love her anymore", "post": "So I've been with my GF for 2 years as stated, and everything is fine and all but im not sure whether or not i love her. Recently, i spent the last 4 days not talking to her at all, although shes been calling me, and I dont feel like i miss her. Tonight we spoke and she was crying and a bit hysterical on the phone and the only feeling i got was the feeling of ( dang i shouldnt do that because i wouldnt want someone to do this to my daughter) and not a feeling of oh i love her and i shouldnt do that to someone i love. I mean so far i guess its pretty clear that i might not love her but its pretty complicated. When i first met her she was pretty shy and very closed, she opened up alot to me and she confined in me alot. She revealed to me a while after we got together that she was a victim of \"R\" and that she didnt want me to sick around to deal with it, but i did anyway because i really did love her. Anyway i stuck it through and i was the first person shes had sex with since what happened to her. At first it was an issue ofcourse but i helped her and things eventually got better with minor setbacks here and there. Anyway im just wondering whether or not what im feeling now is just a stage or if maybe i was with her for the wrong reasons or maybe the relationship has ran its course. Whenever i see her i still get filled with love and everything but when shes not around there is nothing there at all and sometimes even when she is. idk, im confused.", "summary": "Im not sure if If i love her anymore, is it a phase or has the relationship ran its course?"}
{"id": "t3_250ro9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] found the guy my friend is dating [22M, 19 F] on Tinder", "post": "As the title says, I found the guy my friend is dating on Tinder, and he was active one day ago. They've been dating for more than a month now (maybe 2 months?). Since they're not exclusive, normally I wouldn't tell my friend but I know that she wants to become exclusive with him, and he took her virginity. My friend also really, really likes this guy. I think it would crush her if she knew. \n\nShould I tell her? It's also the week before finals and she's very stressed studying for her final exams and papers. In the meantime I have taken a screen shot of the evidence. I was planning on telling her after finals are all over...\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Guy dating friend (also took her virginity) is active on Tinder and I don't know if I should tell her or not (or when)."}
{"id": "t3_20js3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my[21 M] ex[21F] breaking up with me?", "post": "NOTE** Sorry for my poor english. I seldom write using english\n\nMy ex girlfriend broke up with me last month on the valentine's day. We had been together for 3 year and the next week after valentine's day is our forth year anniversary.\n\nWe both are still schooling but she is doing her internship, so she doesn't have much time being together with me.\n\nOn the day she broke up with me she said that she has been trying very hard to fell in love with me again because she lost the feeling of being in love with me. But these time, she has been texting this guy and meeting him. She also said that this relationship has nothing to do with that guy but I don't feel it that way. \n\nWhile we are together, she told me that this guy has like her before and ask me for advise. So I tell her to stop talking to him for a while. After a few weeks, that guy talk to her again and she has been talking to her since. I know what's going on but I trust her that she would know how to draw the line properly, so I didn't say much to her.\n\nShe tell me that the guy understand her more than I do. I can agree with the part where she say I don't understand her that well. But she only tell me when the relationship is ending and it is too late to make it up for her. I don't want to comment if that guy understand her well.\n\nDuring the time when I am with her, I also have fallen for another girl. What I do is that I force myself to love her again by meeting her more often and doing what a boyfriend should do and eventually I have fallen for her again. I feel that I have done something to prove myself that I am faithful but she didn't do her part as a girlfriend to try and love me again.", "summary": "My ex broke up with me because she doesn't have feeling for me anymore but she has been texting and meeting this guy all along. Is she cheating on me?"}
{"id": "t3_3ahr2z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Texting My Mom", "post": "This literally just happened. It's about 2:30am. I'm in college and living at home for the summer. I know my mom has her phone with her because I just called her to let me into the house. The screen door which I don't have a key for is locked, so I called her to come open it. I go upstairs, start getting ready for bed and text my girlfriend to let her know I got home safely. We had just been making out before I left so the message reads: \"I'm home. Also still pretty turned on...\" Without thinking I hit send. As soon as the message flies out of my grasp and into the airways I realize I'm still on my Mom's message screen from calling her earlier. I immediately type \"Oops, guess I'm also still pretty tired. Goodnight.\" Unfortunately she responded \"Goodnight. :)\" so I can't run down and stealthily erase it now. She and dad probably had a good laugh.", "summary": "Texted my mom who I live with that I was turned on."}
{"id": "t3_3gh4bv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] and my GF [24 F] of 2 years just broke up because she fell for a guy that persuaded her to join his religion. Am I the only one who thinks that's stupid & immature of her?", "post": "We were doing really well as we overcame some difficult obstacles and gone through some rough fights. But everything was going smoothly and we were still in love. \n\nThen, just overnight, she said she wanted to break up because she has been talking to a guy behind my back and she started developing feeling for him. If she wanted to join a religion and be closer to God then that's perfectly fine with me. But the fact that she joined for a guy makes me sick and confused.\n\nI feel like I'm taking crazy pills. Am I wrong for thinking that she is nuts or too immature to be in an adult relationship if she can just jump ship like that? I have a feeling that I'm better off without her.", "summary": "GF of 2 years broke up with me because she wants to be \"closer to God\" with the guy that told her to join his religion."}
{"id": "t3_1lzzgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my[17f] boyfriend[17m] sent an inappropriate snapchat to two other girls", "post": "Background: we've been dating for over a year. we love eachother very much. we just got over some trust issues including him hiding things from me. he's never cheated and i dont think he's ever sent inappropriate pics to other girls.\n\nSo this afternoon titanic was on television and lots of people were watching it including me and my boyfriend. i was at my house and he was at his. I got a snapchat from him about halfway through the movie. the pic was a mirror picture of him freshly out of the shower (you could tell because he was wet and the mirror was fogged). He wasnt wearing anything and was just holding a towel around his body and up to his neck. the caption read \"Draw me like one of your french girls.\" If you dont know how snapchat works basically you can send the picture to as many people as you want and they get to see it for only up to 10 seconds then it disappears forever. So i thought this picture was him sending me a \"pic\" (as in something to masturbate to) but just with a funny caption. Later we were hanging out and he told me that he didnt get a lot of replies to that snap. I asked who he sent it to. He listed off lots of his guy friends but two girl friends. I told him that that was so inappropriate of him. he said it was just a joke. He contacted both the girls and both of them took it as a joke but i still think this was unnecessary and wrong of him!\nSo reddit. Do you think this was inappropriate of him?", "summary": "boyfriend sent what i thought was an inappropriate picture to two other girls"}
{"id": "t3_1ck7gt", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cheaters don't deserve comics.", "post": "A few years ago I was in a relationship with this guy who was obsessed with comics. Being the good little girlfriend I was, I bought him an expensive copy of one of his favorite books, Flight.\n\nAbout three or four months into the relationship I found out he had been cheating on me with this younger girl (him and I were like 17 and she was 14). Against better judgement, oohh young love, I stayed with him after he promised he would change and never talk to her again. It wasn't for a few months did I realize that I was being a ditz and he was actually still lying to me/using me.\n\nWe broke up and when he was out with friends I went to his house to get some of my stuff (his mom let me in). I decided that considering he cheated on me it was only fair I took back all the things I bought him, things that he now saw as prized possessions. I only wish I could see his face when he came home to realize that I took back all the expensive comics and gifts I had given him over the course of our relationship. I saw one of his friends a few years later and he is still living at his moms house, working on his \"rap\" career and knocked up a one night stand.", "summary": "Guy cheated on me so I took back the expensive comics I bought for him."}
{"id": "t3_1tm0e5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] 8 year relationship ended on Christmas day and I don't feel over it yet.", "post": "Around 2-3 years ago on Christmas day me and the ex, got in to an argument that ended our 8 year relationship, the argument consisted of pretty much every flaw we had inside and outside of our relationship. I won't go in to too many details about the argument.  \n  \nSince the argument we had talked once when she got ahold of me on AIM, she had moved on completely and I still had many built up feelings for her and in my star struck (Because I didn't think she would EVER contact me) state I admitted all of the built up emotions and feelings to her. The next day after realizing what I had done, sent her an offline message basically breaking contact once again since she had moved on and I obviously had not and was feeling extremely vulnerable to what she was able to make me admit to her.  \n  \nFast forward 2 years, and 4 failed relationships (Different reasons) later, and I'm feeling like I'm not even close to being over this yet and I have no clue how to proceed and am feeling frustrated and still hurt about the whole situation. She pops in to my mind at least twice a week still (And this has stayed consistence even while I was in relationships which may have led to their failure) and has very often been in my dreams which consist of her coming back in to my life, which I can feel are happy and I wake up happy until I realize the dreams have involved her.  \n  \nContacting her in any way is completely out of the question, she has a kid, a husband, and as far as I know never thinks about me for a second, plus I'd rather just avoid it, I still feel completely vulnerable even given her circumstances. The relationship with her was my most successful and happy relationship to date, I suppose that may also be the cause of how I feel.  \n  \nI suppose I'm trying to get some advice and/or support with my situation as well as venting and getting it out there to people who don't know me or the person in question.", "summary": "Relationship of 8 years ended on Christmas day, still think of ex and dream of her, feeling not over it and looking for suggestions on how to get over it and other suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_42jwza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my GF [29F] 2 years, potential breakup and shared lease", "post": "Things are getting shaky. We argue more and more every day. Weve lived together for about a year. Not looking to break up but I want to be prepared with regard to our lease.\n\nWe entered into lease for a place together. I'm the bread winner. I pay the lease every time. We have 9 months left. She gives me about 25% of the lease (what she can afford to help out with).\n\nIf we break up can I kick her out? Is she financially responsible for a portion of the lease? Contract has no lease break fee, only a condition that new tenants need to be found or we have to pay or were on the hook until the end. I'm not hurting for cash but I don't want to lose the place. Just looking for advice around that and also the best way to proceed.", "summary": "we are both on the lease. I make all payments to landlord. If it comes to it can I kick her off the lease and retain the place without losing it? Any general advice if it gets to that point?"}
{"id": "t3_3ljr73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21M] keeps comparing me [20F] to other girls & pointing out my insecurities", "post": "My guy friend likes to tease about my weight. I'm okay with that in fact I like to make a fool out of myself when we're together & playfully banter each other.  \n\nRecently, he's been touchy feely as well. He pokes the sides of my stomach a lot, touches my neck (not in a sensual way), distracts me when im on my phone by tapping it, pokes my cheeks when I'm not looking, being sarcastic, says I'm weird, tells me I should stop because my jokes are corny, mimics my voice, teases me even when I'm with my friends, touches my sore muscles with pressure from workout. There's even this one time when we were sitting, he was messing around trying to get my phone suddenly touched my armpits and smelled it which kinda creeped me out a little bit lol. As a revenge, I tend to pinch, push, punch or kick him.  \n\nBut yesterday, I almost cried because of humiliation. He said something about me shaving something, didn't specifically say my stache (I have pcos) but it was obvious. I was crying all night, is it my fault that've pcos? He said I was old enough not to be affected but words hurt. He said I look like a guy, that I'm macho, asked me how many chics I have so I can give him one. He insulted me right there where there's people (we were riding a bus going home)   \n\nWhen he realized I was teary eyed, he felt guilty he was trying to make me laugh. He said I wasn't fun like I used to be, now I'm boring. That if he won't be playful, it would be boring. There's this one time he was joking about my weight saying I should workout, then points to a skinny girl then proceeds saying to be more like a \"chic\". He said next time he won't do it anymore, I'm gonna be the one who's gonna insult him. PCOS is depressing & ruining my life.", "summary": "My friend constantly compares me to girls and points out my flaws. Why does he do these? Sorry for my poor grammar."}
{"id": "t3_52paiw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20M] don't know what to do when my girlfriend [20F] asks me to stay every night", "post": "My girlfriend recently has acquired an RA job at a small school. She works closely with her small group of residents, because her entire floor is made up of about 30 \"diversity\" students that needed a new start. They have been having a lot of drama and major issues these first few weeks of school. I live about 20 minutes from my girlfriend. I work about an hour away from our homes, and I get off at midnight. I get home around 1, change, then call my girlfriend to say goodnight. About 5 out of the 7 last nights, she calls me back around 2:30, saying she's sorry because she was with a resident handling a situation. She then asks me to come over to her apartment because \"she's been listening to people all day and she NEEDS me there\". When I say I'm tired and in bed she starts crying. I don't know what to do. Today I got home from work at 1am, and she asked me to come over. I said I was tired and sore (I'll have to bike over to her apartment because I can't park there over night). She then starts crying how she doesn't have anybody and how she needs me there and how if I really cared, I would've been there today. I told her that besides class and work, I had ~10 minutes of free time today. She promptly tells me \"if you cared you would've seen me during that 10 minutes\". I feel like an asshole because I really want to help and I love her more than anything, but I feel like these students are affecting her life more than they should, and are in turn affecting my life and sleeping schedule. Every time I bring up the fact that I need sleep, she will say \"you think I don't need sleep? I've slept less than you for the past month\". I don't know how to respond to that. I didn't make her choose the RA job..\n\nPlease help", "summary": "girlfriend's RA job is taking a toll on her and in turn, taking a toll on me. I feel like an asshole for refusing to let her residents get in the way of my sleep schedule and happiness"}
{"id": "t3_3nafu2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a smooth motherfunker.", "post": "Allow me to precede this by saying I have not had a girlfriend nor have I asked a girl out face to face.\n\nNow, I'm a fairly awkward, yet not bad looking guy (6.5/10) and I got my friend to blackmail me into asking out a girl (we'll call her Mary)\n\nHaving finally summoned a pair of balls from the deepest regions of my mind, I feebly say to her as class is ending: \n\"Can I talk to you after class?\"\n\nSo we wait outside of class and once everyone else has left us alone for me to stumble across the minefield of romance, I say to her:\n\"So, umm, you know how last week people said I like you? Well... It's true.\" \n\nA shocked silence from both of us at that bombshell; it enveloped the atmosphere like a cock blocking greenhouse gas.\n\nMary: \"umm, OK.\"\n\nNow, dear redditors, the line I'm about to convey to you will go down in the annals of history as one of the greatest lines to ever be conjured by the human brain. How could she resist me after I deliver this astoundingly attractive line:\n\n\"So, ah, is it *mutual*?\"\n \nYes, I realise that I'm an utter idiot. So did my friend when I told him of my romantic escapade.", "summary": "Plan ahead"}
{"id": "t3_vw35t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "dog ran into my car, caused damage... Am I an ass for wanting owner to pay for repairs? What is an appropriate response?", "post": "Backstory.....Happened in Ontario, Canada.\n\nI was driving home from work, at 1am, doing the speed limit.  A large black 'unleashed' dog ran out from the side of the road at full speed, and hit the passenger door of my car.   (The dog is fine, just some bruises and a sore head)\n\nI eventually found the dogs owner(5 minutes after incident). He was drunk, and talked to me like I was an idiot, and blamed me for the accident.  Accused me of speeding, hitting his dog on purpose, and leaving the scene(how did I leave the scene if I went his house right after)\n\nI'm a dog owner myself, and I have a lot of sympathy for them, but when I pointed out the damage to my car, he went into denial mode, claimed I was responsible, and was suggesting that I should be the one paying him.\n\nthe damage to my car is extensive, a dent the size of a football in the lower part of my passenger door.  Took it to my friend who is a mechanic, he says it cant be popped out without creases, and that I need to replace the door shell.  $2000 installed and painted.\n\nI just bought this car 2 months ago, I'm pissed that it's messed up already. I don't have the money to pay for the damages.. I'm broke. \n\nHow can I resolve this?  Is it something I should lets the courts handle?\nIs the dog owner liable?  Am I a disgusting person for wanting the dogs owner to pay?\n\nsomething like this ever happen to anybody else here?", "summary": "large unleashed ran into my car, $2000 in damage, whats the appropriate way to handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_p99cz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My fiancee has been devoid of passion for months now, how can I fix it?", "post": "I've been with my now fiancee for about a year. The first few months were amazing, everything I could imagine for the perfect relationship. She switched Birth Control and became angry and heartless, it took me about 2 months to convince her of the issue. Since she switched back she has been much sweeter and cuddlier, but she has absolutely 0 sex drive.\n\nShe used to be very fit, did some modeling shots, she's gained weight and is now curvy but that's the only way I have ever known her. I can't keep begging for attention, it's pathetic. I've tried being nonchalant about it but that doesn't work any better. Please reddit, I'm running out of options!", "summary": "Fiancee lost sex drive, how do I reignite it?"}
{"id": "t3_4279po", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat has soft stinky stool, possible diet change needed? [XPOST r/pets]", "post": "Came home a bit ago, and my cat had some diarrhea, not too concerned because this is the first time it's happened in the 1.5 years I've had her (she's 7). Otherwise, she's been acting fine and like normal.\nI cleaned her litterbox today as well, the time before that was either Tuesday or Wednesday, and she had one soft stool. Today her litterbox was mostly urine and soft stool. Also, one of them smelled TERRIBLE. Like a sulfur bomb.\nI'm thinking it's because of her current diet. She has Meow Mix for dry food and Friskies for wet food. I'm thinking the Friskies is to blame since she has it every night for dinner. I know it's not the best, but she's really really finicky about her food. She only likes one flavor of Meow Mix.\nAre there any wet foods - that won't break the budget - that are much better than Friskies? She used to eat IAMS, but she's allergic to an ingredient in it, so that's definitely out.", "summary": "cat has soft poops, needs a diet change I think. Any wet food recommendations are welcomed!"}
{"id": "t3_14l50p", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "She's pregnant and so was I.", "post": "I've been friends with him for 13 years, since I was 14.  He proclaimed his undying love to me when I was 17, yet I friend-zoned him.  At 22 I gave in and we dated for a year.  The relationship ended when I got pregnant.  I told him I was pregnant and he said he wasn't ready to be a dad and asked me if \"you want to keep it?\"  I asked him if he was ready to man up and be a dad and he said no. I was in no shape to be raising a kid on my own.  I made minimum wage and lived in a shitty part of town and had no hope of a raise at my job.  So I made the appointment at the abortion clinic in Pittsburgh, and he drove me there, waited til it was over, and drove me home.  We never talked again.... Until... I got a new job, and what do you know, his Mom is the hostess.  His aunt is my boss.  AND his girlfriend at the time is a fill in waitress.  WELL, over summer he married his girlfriend and today I just found out she's pregnant.  Also his other aunt and two cousins work there and everyone is bouncing off the walls about their pregnancy and I'm supposed to be so fucking happy for them as well.  Yeah I fake it well, but on the inside I just want to scream.  What the fuck was wrong with me!?!?  Her family has money and mine doesn't, and he's hinted as to that was the reasoning, but really, to be fine with an abortion and then TRY because her family has money. FUCK YOU.  He actually told me he would have married me if it wasn't for her rich parents and their guaranteed vacations every year.", "summary": "I work with my ex's family and he told me to abort our child and I did.  I now have to work with his pregnant wife.  And be nice about it."}
{"id": "t3_evf69", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "G/F is Huge on Organic Foods...I'm Not Convinced. Advice? Please?", "post": "Ok, Reddit. I need a little help here. I've been dating a wonderful girl for several months, and we're to the point where things are getting pretty serious. We have a crap-ton of fun together, but every couple of weeks the nagging issue of food & food safety comes up. \n\nShe's a big proponent of anything organic: all-natural, farmer-owned, range-fed, no hormones, no antibiotics, etc. She is entirely dismissive of anything not organic, and is very skeptical of genetically modified foods. I support her and listen to her arguments and ideas, which I believe are all held in good faith and a longing for health and happiness. But sometimes I can't help but feel like her ideas are based more on pseudoscience than actual science. I've done a good deal of research, and I feel that while a lot of the things she says have credit, the \"fuzzy-feeling factor\" might be the big thing keeping her from trying to see things differently. She's very anti-establishment, and I'm corporate. Monsanto is the devil, but I support genetic modification. Anything the little guy does is infinitely better than what any corporation could muster. She doesn't trust that scientists do things for the betterment of humanity, and rather just for profit. And yet she raves about genitically modifying bees to keep them from being killed by a natural disease. \n\nTo her, antibiotics and hormones in food are satan, and yet she smokes pot and drinks a good bit. Am I mistaken in thinking that this is a bit misguided? She doesn't see it that way, and says instead that pot is her choice. I counter with \"cheaper meat that has hormones is my choice.\" To which she replies angrily, \"you just don't get it. How can you do that to your body?\"\n\nAll in all, I'm having a hard time reconciling with her cognitive dissonance. I love the girl, which is why I'm trying hard to understand what this organic thing is all about. I'm all for sustainability and healthy living, but I think some of this counter-culture is just as corrupt and greed-driven as the industrial/conventional system.", "summary": "My girlfriend is engrossed in the organic/all-natural culture, and I'm trying to decide whether it's based on reality or if it's snake oil..."}
{"id": "t3_4h4fbv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19 M] am going to counseling to get help with my insecurities over my Girlfriend's [18F] past", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We met over the summer before university started, and I fell head over heels. We started texting, but I did't think she was interested, and she didn't think I was either. We started talking again after uni started, and we fell in love. \n\nI lost my virginity to her. Later in the fall semester she told me about her sexual past, which was mainly over the summer when we met. She told me how ashamed of it she was because she let multiple guys use her to get attention because she was going through depression, and she never enjoyed it. She tells me I'm the best she's ever had, and she never knew sex could be as loving as what we have. \n\nFor the record, I was raised conservative(gigantic liberal now), so I still have some conceptions about promiscuous women from how I was raised, but she challenges everything I ever thought about women like that. However, I still get very insecure over her past. I envision the other guys still having sex with her. I know it's not rational, and I have realized that I would be this way with any other girl I date unless she's a virgin, which I don't particularly care for. It makes me worry about the future of the relationship, so I decided I wanted to get counseling.", "summary": "I'm insecure over my girlfriend's past, and I'm going to get help. Is this the right thing to do? Is there any hope for my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_11vq7p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay reddit, I got this cat problem/ moral conundrum.", "post": "I'll start from the beginning, I thought there was a burglar in my house late on night so I got out of bed and entered the kitchen with a hammer in my hand and ready for action. All of a sudden a cat sprang out of the window of my house (exiting the house). Now I am almost certain he is getting through the crawl space into my house, because I have been doing renovations down there and there are gaps where he can get in the house. This was a couple months ago and through the months the cat in question has made several more appearances, but tonight he has made a bold gesture.  He has started meowing and being a general rabble rouser in the kitchen when my butter chicken was being cooked up.  I assumed he was after food so I gave him some as I have grown slightly fond of him throughout his incursions.  But he did not accept the butter chicken, instead he rubbed his body against me in a show of affection, keeps following me around, and now it is clear he is only hungry for love.  So, finally, my question is this, Should I, shut the hatch to the crawl space and shun him from my life, B, take him to all the neighbours' houses and see if any claim ownership and if no one claims him then claim him for myself, C, do the same as B except if no one claims ownership take him to the SPCA, or D steal him for my own and tell no neighbours. <B>", "summary": "Cat sneaks into my house, I kind of like him, what do I do? </B>"}
{"id": "t3_4ptyb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] fetish is ruining my relationship with my girlfriend [20 F]", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for seven months now. In that time we have not had sex; we are both virgins. We have tried, but I have been unable to sustain an erection. I used to masturbate pretty regularly before getting involved in this relationship, and I figured this was the reason I couldn't get it up. I've explained this to my girlfriend (she has been extremely supportive about it) and I have been abstaining for several months now in the hopes of remedying it. \n\nThe problem is, what I thought was a kink (ssbbw/bbw or 'big beautiful women) is actually a full-blown fetish. My girlfriend is nowhere near the size I would normally find attractive, but when we began dating I figured I'd simply adapt and become as attracted to her body as I am to her personality. Although abstaining has helped and I can now sustain an erection, I have not been able to finish. My girlfriend doesn't consider sex to be a very important part of relationships. I thought I agreed, but apparently not. I'm worried to even talk to her about it because she has had a negative body image for most of her adult life - the last thing I want to do is upset her. \n\nEssentially, my question is can this relationship be saved, and is there any way to, I guess, reprogram my brain. It's a long shot I know, but my girlfriend is a wonderful person, and I have to try.", "summary": "I like fat girls and my gf isn't fat, is there any solution other than a breakup."}
{"id": "t3_218g7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] persecuted by family and friends often", "post": "On my Facebook page, I post a lot about a human rights issue I care about. This issue impacts the country I'm from and goes back several hundred years. The situation is a lot better these days but it is still unresolved. There are victims of abuse on a daily basis and my country is still occupied by a foreign power. My family and friends live in an area where they don't see the injustices so it's easy for them to dig their heads in the sand and ignore it. I don't share this view because I care too much about it. I've read tonnes of material about the situation for several years and I am extremely passionate about it. I'm even considering going back to school and getting a doctorate on the subject. I'm currently a 30 year old male working in IT so that would be a big move for me.   \n\nAnyway. The issue is I'm in a constant battle with friends and family. So much so that it is impacting my relationships with them. I am more educated on the issue than any of them are. I have a handful of friends who think the way I do. They won't engage in conversation on the subjects with me in my statues because they don't want to deal with the backlash either.  Without trying to sound too conceited most of my friends and family are not well educated and can be ignorant at times. Some of them never finished high school for example, and the only thing they'll read are tabloid newspapers.   \n\nAnyway - what should I do here? Should I just stop posting about it? I'd rather not because I don't feel I should have to change how I feel to suit others. That goes against my morals. It doesn't sound like a big deal but when we are out together and they get drunk they bring it up and this usually ends up in personal attacks on my character.  \n\nI'm not sure what to do and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks for listening!", "summary": "Family and friends often persecute me. Not sure how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_srxso", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, are there any car salesman/dealers out there?", "post": "I have been told so many different things by people who are NOT car salesman and i was hoping reddit could clear things up for me.\n\nLast month I leased a new 2012 Hyundai Santa Fe.  \n\nMy question is, how much wiggle room is there really in a lease?  The car i just leased is a 4 cyl engine...Now, after having driven it around town, i really wish i had gone for the V6, as everyone says the gas mileage really isn't that much different, and the power IS.  Also, the sound system is crap, and i would prefer the upgraded model with the better system.\n\nSome people have told me i could take it back now and they probably would trade the car for me, do a new lease, (seeing as how i want to Upgrade).  This seems  too far fetched.  I figure i will have to wait at least 2-3 years ( i signed for a 4 year lease) before that is even an option.", "summary": "Leased a new car last month, wished i would have chose the V6, is there a way to rectify this without paying through the nose or having to use a 3rd party site like swaplease?"}
{"id": "t3_3a796s", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I meet this girl?", "post": "So I started talking to this girl after I met her online and this fall I will be about an hour away from here while I am away at college. She really wants to meet me and spend time with me (She implied doing other things but that is not super important to me). She is somewhat attractive to me and she is nice enough.\n\nHere is the problem I am having. She said she is going to breakup with her boyfriend so we can date (I had never even implied I wanted to date her). She said she loved me and cried when I didn't say it back and she has multiple times gotten very upset when I did not respond to her text and she even went as far as adding me on Facebook.\n\nShould I actually meet up with her? It could be a good time but there are a lot of things that concern me about her. If I should not, how should I separate myself from her?", "summary": "Should I meet up with a girl I met online but have some concerns about for a hookup or should I steer clear?"}
{"id": "t3_2lpxci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] has some confidence and self-esteem issues that I need help overcoming. (18F)", "post": "I am funny, social, caring, loving, a talented musician, good looking, have had some minor successes that I am proud of that are progressing my career further, have very close friends and family who think highly of me, hardworking, and am always looking to improve on myself.  \n  \nI have a lot of things going for me, you may agree or disagree that this isn't low self-esteem, but I am very happy with my life and where I am. Just when it comes to relationships I assume the worst. I mainly jumped to the conclusion of having low self-esteem because I have read online that I am just insecure about myself. Which I totally believe, I guess I would just like to know how to utilize my benefits and what I have going for me.  \n  \nWhenever there is a picture of her posted on facebook, I get a tiny bit of anxiety (which goes away within 10 minutes luckily). Depending on her responses I will text her more or less, and try and work that out. I constantly worry about the balance of me talking to her too much or me not talking enough. We are waiting a few months before actually getting together further because of some complications in both of our lives (not important to my issues). We talk 2-3 times a week so I am hoping we can get together. But basically, I get anxious over things that I don't understand why I get anxious over. I think it's just me assuming that it isn't going to work way too early in the game.  \n  \nIt has always been this way for me. Would love some advice on boosting my self-esteem. I've decided to try not focusing too much on the girl and do things that boost my self-esteem like finishing music, working and completing projects. I would really like to get rid of it as best I can. I am willing to do anything from writing out the same thing every day for a year  to better diet and exercise. Sorry for the rambling, and thanks everyone!", "summary": "I get worried that things won't work out in a relationship, and I think it's low self-esteem when I really don't have low self-esteem. I would just like to know how to utilize my confidence better."}
{"id": "t3_kf74t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend just confronted me pretty hard about smoking pot.  Yeah.  Thoughts?  (Ranty)", "post": "I'm a pretty restricted girl.  I hadn't done anything (alcohol, weed or any type of drugs for that matter) until this last May.  I tried pot, and planned on doing it maybe once a month or something like that.  Well, I started smoking more, maybe around 2-3 times a week this past month on average, and when I told him exactly how much I'd been smoking he sat with it for a night and then confronted me about it a couple hours ago.  \n\nI feel like I'm being treated like a full on drug addict.  His friend talked to him and listed off a million different reasons why he wouldn't date a girl who smoked pot.  He thinks I'm going to go down a sad road of harder drugs and dullness and getting stupider and I'll change etc.  (He's going to a school with a lot of rich, white, Catholic kids who don't smoke pot at all by the by)\n\nI was planning on toning it down when school started (maybe on school breaks?), but he's made it pretty clear that he thinks I'm addicted to the mental feeling and I really couldn't stop smoking pot at all.  (I'd mentioned in the beginning that I would only smoke once a month or so, but then this summer I smoked more and he thinks I can't control myself). \n\nI'm feeling so frustrated and controlled right now.  He could have just asked me to stop and I would have.  Instead I feel like he just confronted me with all these wild statistics (smoking pot is like smoking 20 cigarettes a day) and typical case studies of people going down a harder path and me not being able to handle myself with a little fucking pot.  \n\nHow is smoking pot with your friends different than having a beer?  \n\nGRAHA;LSDFKJA;DSLFJK;A", "summary": "My boyfriends a tight ass."}
{"id": "t3_3m3osc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Government programs for dental care? (Canada)", "post": "I am freaking out here. I managed to get insurance from blue cross to cover my wisdom teeth extraction which has been causing me pain for years now but I ended up with a sinus communication. The dentist was sure it would heal on its own but it hasn't, and now I need surgery. I have no more insurance left and no one in my family has any money to lend me. If this isn't fixed soon I could end up with chronic sinusitis, which will keep me from doing my job as a pilot. I just got out of school and if I loose my medical because of this I don't know how I'm going to deal going through life paying off school debt for something I can't do because of my damned sinuses. \n\nAre there ANY dental assistance programs in Canada for low income single middle aged men? Everything I've seen is for kids, elderly, or natives. Already I'm dropping $150 on just the consultation, which is money I was going to spend on winter clothing for working outside. (I'll be on the apron loading aircraft in -30 weather...) I'm in a panic I can't afford this. Financing is out of the question, no one does it in my town.\n\nSorry about the rant I just needed get it all out.", "summary": "No money, need sinus communication surgery in Canada, no more insurance. Any government programs I've overlooked?"}
{"id": "t3_txaib", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I'm suffering from \"one-itis.\" I need advice.", "post": "Background Information: I'm a 24-year-old bisexual male, and my last ex was a guy. To be honest, I'm feeling too tired and depressed to type the breakup story, and the details aren't important, anyway. What I'm ultimately looking for is some advice unrelated to the details of my breakup...\n\nThe Present Situation: It's been a year and a half since I've seen my ex in person, and over 8 months since we've had any form of communication, and yet on some level, I'm still in love with him. Of course, this frustrates me to no end, because I've done everything in my power to try to move on. I've observed the \"no contact\" rule. I've been dating. I've been keeping myself busy, etc. Still, I find myself utterly unable to get thoughts of him out of my head, and that feels hellish. I want to go back to feeling normal again.", "summary": "Does anyone have any general advice for me, and/or any related stories to share? I'm mainly looking to hear from others who have experienced \"one-itis\" for a prolonged period of time, no matter what your breakup was like. Thanks in advance for any comments I receive."}
{"id": "t3_3qc1hg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my wife [34 W] of over 10 years, I don't feel like she has ever desired me sexually", "post": "My wife and I got married at a young age (22 years old) and we're both virgins. Before we got married we would make out, hold hands, kiss passionately, but once married it seemed like it pretty much stayed that way. Sex felt like something she felt she had to do, not something she wanted to do.  \n  \nBackground - It took my quite a few years to learn how to make her orgasm and within the last 5 years I have used some vibrators for her and go down on her almost every time we have sex. That is the only way I can make sure she will have an orgasm. But I care deeply about sex being a shared expression of love, I want to please her every time. So I don't feel like I am a selfish lover or anything.  \n  \nSo here we are, 10+ years into our marriage, we have kids, and I just can't find a way to make her desire me, it is like I am in a friendship more than a passionate relationship. I would not cheat on my wife, and she has never cheated on me, truthfully I don't think she cares enough about sex to even think about cheating. I know I am out of shape, and losing weight is my last hope for finding a way to feel desired, but I don't think it is going to work.  \n  \nSorry if I am rambling, I just am really struggling with this right now and feel lost.", "summary": "I feel my wife doesn't desire me sexually, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_fu2zh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Self conscious about a scar", "post": "Hello reddit, I have a large scar on the lower portion of my abodomen\n\nI have sported this scar since I was a baby and it is due to a colostomy I had as treatment for hirschsprung's disease.  I have always been extremely self conscious about this scar and none of my good friends know about it.  Only the women I sleep with get to find out about it and I always lie about the exact cause of the scar if not the nature of it (due to the embarrassing nature of the disease).  I've hidden this fact my entire life and even posting about it anonymously is difficult for me.  Thankfully I've had further surgery and function normally so I'm pretty lucky in that regard.  What does reddit think, should I be self conscious about this scar? I got so far as to wear my pants and underwear an inch higher than I'd like to, to keep it safely hidden.", "summary": "surgical scar, should I hide it, or let it hang out?"}
{"id": "t3_2l4gaj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] plan to propose to my SO [26 F] on a trip we're taking on New Year's Eve. Any advice?", "post": "I'm 25/M and she's 26/F. We've been together five years but we've been really good friends for about 8 years now. Yes, this is a When Harry Met Sally-type relationship.\n\n*Before anyone says I shouldn't try to copy those over-the-top YouTube proposals: I won't, but I'd still like to do something special. And, yes, I made sure she's going to say yes.*\n\nMy SO and I will be taking a trip from December 30 to January 2. We will be spending the first night in an isolated island about 6 hours from the city then the New Year's Eve and the rest of the trip in the city. \n\nMy original plan was to propose in the island but the place is so bare and has limited facilities (the best resorts in the island would probably be considered 2-star at best) that she might not enjoy the experience so I'm now leaning on not doing it. Besides, it might be more fun to propose on New Year's Eve.\n\nSo my new plan is to propose while we're in the city. I already asked the hotel if they could help me out and I'm waiting for them to get back to me. Ideally, I would like to do it at midnight but she might want to attend a NYE party and I don't want to do it in public. I might be able to convince her to watch the fireworks from our hotel room and do it there but that would depend on the hotel upgrading us or giving us a nice room.\n\nThere are a lot of romantic spots in the city we're going to be in but that would mean I'd have to do it on the Jan 1st or 2nd, which is *okay*, though I would prefer to do it on Dec 31.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on how to go about it? Do my plans sound too cheesy/rom-comish? By the way, the city we're going to is the place where we had our first vacation together 5+ years ago.", "summary": "Is a New Year's Eve proposal a good idea? Or should I do it before or after? Does anyone have any other advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2rs0sc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my fiancee [24F] engaged 2 months, she's objectifying sex.", "post": "I'm a mechanical engineer in the upstream petroleum field. My job sucks. The work is cool, but it's too much travel. I have to travel internationally 12-16 weeks a year. I just want a 40 hour/wk job in our San Francisco office.\n\nAbout a year ago my boss's boss promised me a promotion to a mid level management position - the exact type I wanted. But with low oil prices, he's making excuses about why he can't give it to me and how he's just trying to make sure he doesn't have to lay anyone from our group off. He estimates he can give it to me in a year; I think I won't get it for 2-3 years and a change of companies.\n\nSo I've been pretty depressed about it. This morning after waking up I was spilling my heart out to my fiancee about it. Was she sympathetic? Did she try and console me? No. All she just randomly started to give me a blow job.\n\nUhh, wtf. This is fucked up on so many levels. Do you think men are mindless sex machines? Are you just trying to shut me up? Are you objectifying sex?\n\nWhat should I do about this?", "summary": "Fiancee is objectifying sex, what should my next step be?"}
{"id": "t3_2hkw6r", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Trying to relocate but out-of-state companies never call back.", "post": "I've been searching to start my career as a mechanical engineer for almost a year now. I graduated two years ago with pretty awesome grades and was offered a promotion at the grocery store I worked for. After transferring across town and getting promoted again I lost track of time. When I finally started looking, my girlfriend and I decided that it was time to move out of our home town. We picked a couple of cities that we would like and I started looking. I've gotten a few interviews from in-town positions, but only a few call backs from the out-of-state listings. I have tried to make it clear that I want to move and will start in a reasonable time. What is a good way to get companies to take my plans to relocate seriously? How do I get out-of-state jobs to call me back?", "summary": "What is a good way to get companies to take my plans to relocate seriously? How do I get out-of-state jobs to call me back?"}
{"id": "t3_1kc57j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My in-laws (50ish) invited my (23) bf's (22) EX-girlfriend (21) to go on holiday with them", "post": "Alright, this might sound childish, but it's kind of a big deal to me.\n\nEvery year, my in-laws go on holiday to Spain. They're a family of 4, parents, daughter (18) and my boyfriend. We've been together for over 2 year.\n\nThis year, I couldn't join them, and honestly I didn't really care for it. My in-laws are very shallow people, whereas I'm more of a tomboy/nerd, and we just don't have anything in common. We're still very friendly to each other, I try to understand their fascination with clothes and parties, and they try to not criticize me about spending time on the computer or in the gym. We manage.\n\nAnyway, they left on holiday 2 weeks ago, and my boyfriend joined them a couple of days ago.\n\nBefore he left, we found out that his sister (18) had invited his ex-girlfriend to go along. They never told us anything about this, so even my boyfriend was oblivious to this.\n\nWe were both very hurt to hear this. Of course, if she wants to invite a friend, I can't stop her, but in this case I think it would've been appropriate to at least inform my bf of this. She left the day he arrived, but they lied about this too (they said she left 3 days prior to his arrival).\n\nIn the meantime, I'm left to care for his sister's cat everyday. I told my bf I was not comfortable with this because I was *so angry* at her, but it was very difficult to find someone else who was available on such short notice, so I sucked it up (more for my boyfriend than for his sister).\n\nAnyway, what I'm asking of you is... How do I settle this? How do I react when they get back? I have to admit I'm a very stubborn person, and I often get angry just for the sake of being angry, which is AWFUL of me, I know.\n\nSo... How would you handle this?", "summary": "My parents invited my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend on holiday with them and didn't tell us about it. She left as he arrived, but I'm still angry about it. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_ekgnk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I just broke up with this girl I'm head over heels for, and it's eating me up inside...", "post": "(I'm the m22, she's the f/25)even though I know I can't be the guy she wants or needs. My parents divorced a few months ago, and it hasn't affected me until I went home for thanksgiving. Ever since then, I've projected my shitty attitude onto the relationship I've had with the first girl I've ever felt this strongly about. I've realized that I can't be in a relationship right now, not while I'm having this crazy nervous breakdown. I'm hoping this turns out to be a break instead of a break up, as I can't imagine spending the night with anyone else but her. Unfortunately, I get the feeling that she's ready to move on. The whole thing has been tearing me up inside. I need to learn to not let my guard down, ever, or at least extremely slowly. God, I wish she knew how much I cared about her, but with the way I've been since my parents split, I don't think I could tell her without her taking it in a negative light. I'm afraid I've ended the only opportunity with the girl I love. I guess time heals all scars, but this one will be a hard one to bear. Thanks for reading my stupid, first-world problems. May your lives have more upvotes!", "summary": "whining about my inability to keep a solid relationship with the ex-girlfriend I love. I'm a headcase, and I don't know how to deal with it constructivelyl..."}
{"id": "t3_40jlcn", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Not sure what the point to live is. A lot of problems.", "post": "I have had a very Rollercoaster like life. A lot of fun and good memories. Numerous health issues, broken hearts, and unsure thoughts of myself. I've never had a gf and pretty sure a lot of girls think I'm creepy. I dont know what I want to do with my life for a career or anything. I'm only 21. I also am a year from graduating college and I hate my major and don't want to finish. I'm a smart individual with a great memory, but my ability to literally live inside my head most of the time and not in the present affects my social and working skills. I also get periods of bad forgetfulness, where I can't remember how to do things or know things I should.  I have negative self-esteem. \n\nI'm only 21 and I've dealt with type 1 diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, severe cystic acne whole body that required accutane, and I'm certain I have a couple mental disorders like dyspraxia or ADHD.\nMy fine motor skills are a bit off. I literally fear working because I don't want to get one of my forgetful episodes and screw up at work. \n\nI've dealt with a lot of pain and hurt. Constantly being rejected on the dating scene and looking more likely that won't change anytime soon. I don't see a future for myself because I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I'm trapped in a major I dont want anymore. I'm scared to work or do anything significant because I don't want my problems to affect my work and screw up and make myself look stupid. I am on 3 different medications and might need 4. I constantly imagine myself as someone else in a different world. Don't like life right now. \n \nThe only things that keep me happy are to hang with friends and watch sports.", "summary": "I'm not happy with my life for numerous reasons and wondering if life is worth it right now. I'm scared for the future and often reflect on the fun events of the past."}
{"id": "t3_32vt9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [23F] and I [25M] are 6 months in and we get bored of each other quickly", "post": "We see each other every day as we share classes together.  Most days she'll come over to my place after class.  I'm unable to come over to hers since she lives with her parents.  Weekends we spend the nights together after work.\n\nSo we see each other.  A lot.\n\nEventually we'd get bored of each other.\n\nBut there are days where we can't see each other.  And when we see each other the day after, we're affectionate all over again.\n\nI know absence makes the heart grow fonder.  But it worries me that we lose interest after some time.  Does it mean we're incompatible deep down?  Surely in the future if we move in together, where we'd be around each other more than we are now, we would be able to stand each other for more than a couple consecutive days.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I get bored after seeing each other too often.  Worried it's a sign we're not compatible."}
{"id": "t3_4vo6bg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Insurance claim for $2,000 after minor accident? (My fault)", "post": "I'm a first time poster, long time lurker and I'm in a real pickle here, guys. A couple months ago I was in my first accident in which I rear ended an SUV going around 5 mph. I had no idea what I was supposed to do but apparently I was dealing with a professional because he immediately proceeded to call his insurance and had me on the phone with them. This is probably where I fucked up. I currently do not have any insurance because my father was recently laid off so I gave my fathers details (Insurance phone number, account #, etc) and got a call from my father's insurance afterwards, where they specifically told me not to worry about a thing. Six months later, here I am staring a $2000 insurance claim dtating that I have failed to respond to request that I furnish them with evidence of liability insurance.\n\nMy parents want to just pay but they are the type to back down from these types of things. What can I do?", "summary": "got into an accident a few months ago, I am uninsured, used my fathers insurance. Now I have a $2000 insurance claim from the other party because of"}
{"id": "t3_k8i85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Job/Education Advice", "post": "My girlfriend is/was a student at a university studying something which she \"sorta\" likes. Her average wasn't anything too spectacular, splitting between Bs and Cs. Unforunately, she got 2 to 3 D grades and a E (Marginal fail ... Probably thinking: Really? yea that's what I thought too). Anyway long story short, she's dropped out of her program and unable to get back in so she's left to either switch schools or programs and do enough courses to graduate, neither of which is too appealing since it involves atleast 1 or 2 years of schooling. It really sucks because she's so close to being done her program (1 elective course left) and is really really close to the average cutoff (GPA of 4.8 and she needs 5.0 [out of 9]).\n\nShe's also gotten herself into two jobs at the moment. One is with a dealership (fulltime) and the other (a temporary position) is with a mining company. She hasn't quite started working yet, but she will be soon and personally, I think she should at least disclose that she's not a university graduate with the dealership since it is a full time position. I've also told her that she probably shouldn't work the position at the dealership since it's only an assistant/receptionist position and it's unlikely to bring her any relevant experience related to accounting or any valuable work experience outside of customer service and photocopying. But on the bright side she will have opportunities to network.\n\nNow obviously I know I'm not the smartest person out there and I have many biases, one of which is being that I believe a degree or some sort of post secondary qualification is necessary to achieve a modicum of financial stability. So tell me reddit, how important is it that my gf goes back to school asap and should she bother with taking the position at the dealership? Also any other advice is good. She has no idea with what she wants to do (though she has an excellent skill set imo: trilingual, pretty, smart, fast learner and virtually an accounting degree) or what she even wants (I know that she's just aiming for financial stability, which is weird since it's not like money is a problem for her).", "summary": "my gf dropped outta school, plans to work for 2-3 years at what is likely a deadend job and then \"maybe\" back to school. Not smart right?"}
{"id": "t3_3vi5l5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Actual Final Update] Me [16M] with my Ldr gf [15(almost 16)F] of a few months, blocked me on steam and left a vauge last message", "post": "[So, I posted here a while back] saying I wouldn't update more than I already have but I found out a lot of information after my last post. This will be my actual last post.\n\nI managed to talk to her parents about it, and turns out, she really does have cancer. The actual term for the cancer she has is \"Chronic lymphocytic leukemia .\"\n\nNow, since I know that not everyone on reddit has a degree in med school and knows what it is, and the fact that i apparently cant link to mayo clinic, it is basically a type of cancer of the blood and bone marrow. \n\nThis is from mayo clinic. \"The term \"chronic\" in chronic lymphocytic leukemia comes from the fact that it typically progresses more slowly than other types of leukemia. The term \"lymphocytic\" in chronic lymphocytic leukemia comes from the cells affected by the disease \u2014 a group of white blood cells called lymphocytes, which help your body fight infection.\"\n\nHer parents have decided to do a Stem cell transplant, to try and help treat the cancer. But since I currently live 960+ miles away, there is nothing I know of that I can physically do to help her feel better myself. \n\nDo you guys know any ways, in which I can help her through this tough time? I wish I could visit her, but I don't have the money or am I able to even go out of school for long enough to do so.", "summary": "Girlfriend was not cat fishing, has leukemia. Need ways to help her cheer up and get through this rough time."}
{"id": "t3_1grllc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) don't know if my reaction to my beau's (21M) family is normal.", "post": "I'm a very private person by nature, as are my parents (they're divorced and I live with my dad) so they give me a lot of space. There has been weeks before we ran across each other's path, since we all lead busy lives. However, my boyfriend of 11 months (we were best friends for 3 years before this, so I had some prior experience with the issue) and his family are very connected - his parents are still married, with a brother who is 8 years old. \n\nI've found with the increasing amount of time we've been spending together since the beginning of our relationship to now, the frequency of how many times one of his family members (always his mom or brother) come downstairs to where we are (his room, or the downstairs living room, which he exclusively uses) has been steadily increasing too. At first it was okay, as I wanted to build a good relationship with his family, but now it's really just annoying and intrusive. I try to say things to my SO, who agrees that he hates how his family constantly comes down and intrudes (even when I'm not there) and also spams his phone when he's out and they question where he is, who he's with.. general panicky parent stuff. \n\nI'm not used to this in the slightest, but unlike my boyfriend who is growing more apathetic that our time together is spent with his brother or mom including themselves in every conversation we have (or lack thereof, since I really restrict my topics when they're around.. they're very strict, and don't know my SO's hobbies etc), I'm really growing more and more resentful that we don't have any privacy here.\n\nWhat should I do about this? Just endure it until he and I plan to move out, which is in around 4-5 months? Or should I get my boyfriend to again go and gently talk to them about how we want time to ourselves (not even for a lust reason, I just come to spend time with him.. not his family).", "summary": "Boyfriend's family increasingly intrudes on our alone time, always asking questions, adding to our conversations, and when we go out, they spam his phone with texts and calls asking where he is, who he's with, etc. I'm growing very aggrivated and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2y9p3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I a country boy?", "post": "Hello everyone, I was wondering, am I a country boy? I mean, I ask because this girl I like said I was a fake. I was born and raised in the suburbs (I HATE IT HERE!) and don't care too much for the city either. The reason I'm not living out there is because I'm a teen and still live with my parents. I don't hunt or fish (no one ever took me) and don't drink beer (I have members in my family who drank and I didn't like what it did to them, that turned me off to alcohol). I LOVE country music, I've been listening to it since I came out of my mother (no seriously, it was the music I listened to on the first car ride home). I do like camo and the only music I listen to is country. I also enjoy fixing things with my hands. So am I a country boy? I'm 18 and a guy. She's the 17 and a girl.", "summary": "I'm just asking if I'm a country boy because a girl I like said I wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_3kj9yu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 41M with my mentally ill brother 35M asked to help by his wife 40F", "post": "My sister in law \"Ann\" called me in tears last night and can't cope with my brother \"Tom\" any more. They have two young children and have been married for 16 years. Tom has a masters degree but can't keep a job. He has been diagnosed PTSD but I think there are other serious mental issues going on with him. He has extreme paranoia, has completely white hair, and has zero skills when it comes to money and interpersonal interaction. \n\nI flew Tom out here a few months ago to give Ann a break and to see for myself. He only stayed a few nights with me, borrowed a lot of money, and changed his flight to go back earlier than we had agreed. We didn't interact much. I definitely have to walk on egg shells around him. We didn't fight but we didn't communicate either.\n\nAccording to Ann, he is now getting worse. He refuses to admit a problem, his counselor seems to just validate him, and he is a financial black hole. Ann is having to do all the work as mom, dad, and breadwinner.  I asked if she was concerned for her safety and she said yes. But she feels trapped.\n\nI am willing to fly my brother back out here to give my SIL  a break. She said \"At least a month\" I'm not thrilled about inviting chaos into my life. I am a single dad, and have young kids at home full time myself. My brother is very suspicious of me and has made some pretty insane claims that I got him fired from several jobs and that I installed spyware on his computer and track him.\n\nI'm concerned my brother is not able to function in society and is a step away from homelessness. I love him. I don't know how to help. My mom had serious mental health issues, and I housed and provided for her for several years until it destroyed my own marriage and I had to put her in a nursing home. I also cared for my dad until he died of Alzheimer's. I feel like I am the \"responsible\" one and my other siblings are looking to me to step in yet again.", "summary": "I wants to help my brother and his family without causing any more chaos for my own self. How can I best help?  "}
{"id": "t3_3cmunv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (38M) am jealous of my wife (36F) of 6 months best friend (36M) who is also her ex husband", "post": "Wife (Amy) and I have known each other 2 years, we dated about a year then got married at the beginning of this year, I met her through an acquaintance (James) whose also her ex husband and her best friend when I came to work in their town.\n\nThey were married from 19 till 26 and though they divorced they have remained good friends ever since, they have a kid together, we'll call her J, she's 13 and a nice girl though she doesn't really acknowledge me much which is fine because the last thing I want to do is replace her dad or seem like I'm trying to take a key father figure role in her life. James is a pretty good cool guy. He dotes on his daughter and even though he and Amy are split up they're still close and this works well in regards to J who never feels like her life is torn in two due to parents fighting etc I would know because I saw it happen to a couple I knew from college.\n\nAnyway, I met Amy through James and all through dating they were cool with each other and I was never bothered, but now that we're married and moved in together, it strikes me just how much James is still in Amy's life, not just in regard to J but they're genuinely good friends who message each other a few times a week and have no problems meeting up to hang out etc There's no feelings on their part, James himself is remarried and his wife is good friends with Amy.\n\nI kind of feel like a dick because they have a good relationship in despite being divorced and having a teenage daughter but I also feel somewhat jealous and annoyed that they're close and are such good friends. I was fine with it when we were dating but now that we're married should they really still be so close?", "summary": "my wife's ex husband is her best friend, they have a daughter together, I met her through him, was fine with their closeness while dating but now that we are married I kind of find it inappropriate"}
{"id": "t3_2bvjs7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Snarting during my Road Test", "post": "So, a little bit about this. It wasn't today, but a few weeks ago, I'm just now getting the ability to write about it. So, as my name here implies, I like trucking. I liked it enough that I knew that it was what I wanted to do when I was done with the military. I lined myself up with a school to help get me my CDL (commercial drivers license) and the school would in turn find me a job afterwards. Great deal right?\n\nSo anyways, I'm doing okay in school I think. Not the greatest guy, but hey, I've never driven a standard transmission before so I don't think I'm doing horrible. We are now at the end of our time in the class and the dreaded DMV Road Test is coming up. Naturally, I'm nervous about this. \n\nFast forward to the road test date. I've passed my written tests and completed my pre inspection of the semi truck that I will be driving through town with a DMV test facilitator. The guy doesn't talk. I mean, he doesn't say anything for any reasons. He just sits there and writes down stuff on his notepad. So we go out driving, and everything is going okay for a while. I get about 3/4 of the way through the drive test when I feel a sneeze coming on. I don't like to let sneezes out so I hold them in (makes a weird mouse squeaking noise at most). I felt it coming on, so I held the sneeze back as hard as I could.....but something else slipped out. Well, I shouldn't say slipped out, it rattled the cab. Apparently I had to fart. I focused so hard on the sneeze that I forgot about my apparent gas. Now, remember when I said that the DMV guy didn't talk? Well, he did now. He made a few laughing / gagging noises followed by something like \"Gawdayum\". On top of all of this; the truck's air conditioner was out and the windows were up. So I had that going for me as well. I was extremely surprised when I found out that I had still passed my road test and was able to get my CDL.", "summary": "Snarted (sneezed and farted) while taking my road test with the DMV."}
{"id": "t3_23rl85", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Moved into a new house with my pup, seeing some old issues", "post": "I recently moved from a small apartment in a city to a larger home in the suburbs with my dog Vice. I was so excited for her because the new place has a fenced in yard, nicer places to go on walks, and some beautiful hiking trails nearby, all with larger space and one of my good friends dogs who is about the same size.\n\nThe issues started on move in day. Vice was pretty stressed and nervous, she didn't really know where she was or why all of her things were in boxes. We've had her since she was a puppy, and she's lived in our old apartment her whole life, so I anticipated this would be a big change. Once we got everything unpacked, she seemed to calm down a little. But 4 days later, she still seems a bit nervous and unsure of her new home.\n\nThe larger issue though is her understanding of the yard. We have a sliding door that leads out to the backyard, which we intended to let her go in and out of pretty freely while we moved so that she could go to the bathroom without too much stress. She and her new roommate Leela we're great about it the first two days, going to the bathroom outside whenever we let them out, but yesterday things started to change. We would let them out, and they would want to come right back in without relieving themselves, then they would go on the floor in front of the door. They then started going to the bathroom all over the house, and these were fully house trained dogs. While Leela has had some behavior issues (and not always the best and most confident owner), and we may not have taken as many walks as we usually would, they have had ample access to the outdoors. \n\nI have two main questions. One, how can I make Vice and Leela more secure in their new home, and make it feel like home for them? Then, how do I get both of them to understand that going to the bathroom in the backyard is something they can do, and something that I want them to do? Could these two issues be related? Any help is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Moved to a home with a backyard, having some stress and excretion related issues with my dog"}
{"id": "t3_3kztbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] am looking for advice on how to deal with partners [F 20] relationship anxiety", "post": "About a week ago I posted about a girl I have been seeing and since it helped me blow off stress I figured I would ask for some general advice about relationship anxiety. \n\nBasically, the girl I am dating will go through cycles where we get closer, act like a couple and it is going great. Then this crippling anxiety hits her and she pulls back. She has said she does have feelings and thinks she wants to be in a relationship but is not sure she is ready yet. She has also said her biggest fear is of being hurt or rejected. \n\nHonestly, the stress of it all is making me consider ending it, since we are in a strange gray area, but I wanted to see if anyone had experience with girls like this. I want to have a talk with her and try to get her to face some facts, that we could work well together and that if she continues to push me away it will end badly regardless. Anyone have any opinions?", "summary": "Girl I have been dating has relationship anxiety and dealing with it is driving me crazy with stress. Want to try and make it work but getting fed up."}
{"id": "t3_1aulas", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl (20/f) I've (24/m) been seeing for a while is staying over at mine tonight and she made it clear she wants to have sex", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for a while and we've been in contact every day for the last five months. \nToday we're going out to see Eddie Izzard's Force Majeure and watching Snatch at my place afterwards (this will be the first time she'll be at my place). Earlier this week she explained that she doesn't want to take things slow anymore and wants to start having sex which is fine with me. \nShe is however, very passive, so much so that I don't expect her to initiate anything on her own and since I've never done it myself either (significant ex was the aggressive one, I've never initiated sex in my life) I was hoping to get some tips/pointers as to what would be a good way of doing this (if she doesn't do a move herself).\n\nI was thinking of just looking at her after the movie and kissing her and say something like \"I've been wanting to do that for a long time now\" (which is true) afterwards and take it from there.\nOr would that not be a good idea?", "summary": "possible first time sexual encounter with new girl, need tips on how to initiate it."}
{"id": "t3_1v9ulj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my girlfriend [15/ F] together for 6 months have encountered a problem involving a [14 M] guy who won't leave her alone.", "post": "He will not stop bugging her (non romantically) and started spreading rumors at her school that I was 25. I confronted him (non threateningly) and simply told him to stop and he challenged me to fight him. I don't want to sound like a wuss but I know 100% I would dust him. I don't want to draw unessasary attention from police, etc. Also, I know for a fact he will not fight fairly either, most likely bring a knife, gang of people, etc. After telling him I do not want to fight, just stop talking to her, he agreed. The next day he resumed spreading rumors again and kept bugging her.", "summary": "Guy who keeps bugging girlfriend after she and I both told her to stop talking to her will not stop. After I co fronted him, he's gotten worse and wants to fight me (I would dust him)"}
{"id": "t3_3sbuce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get my boyfriend to brush his teeth? (me/20) (boyfriend/23) dating for 6mos.", "post": "ok! so let me start off by saying that I hate nagging ): but I feel like that is all I do anymore to my boyfriend! For example, I recently found out that I am pregnant, therefor he has to clean the litter box out.. which he never does. so I have to remind him to do it often, which irritates him. \n\nBut my BIGGEST issue right now is that I noticed he hardly brushes his teeth. we have only lived together about a month, but it didn't take long for me to catch on that he doesn't brush his teeth. I had tried hinting to him that oral hygiene is VERY important to me, but that didn't work. \n\nI tried telling him to brush his teeth in the morning before he kissed me, but then discovered that he was only using mouth wash when I asked him to brush. \n\nI even talked to him about it! I said \"look, im not trying to be mean.. but you have to start brushing your teeth every day. it makes me not want to kiss you, and its just gross to not brush every day!\" he didn't really say anything back, he just nodded his head (I think he might have been embarrassed.)\n\n to make things WORSE, he was eating a turkey sandwich a couple weeks ago, I told him that the smell of lunch meat made me feel sick (pregnancy thing) .. after the sandwich I asked him to go brush his teeth bc I could still smell the lunch meat on his breath.. his response was \"well idk how, I just smoked a cigarette, cigarettes eliminate ALL bad breath.. but I will go use mouth wash.\" \n\nso I believe that he doesn't brush his teeth due to the fact that he thinks smoking cures bad breath.. I just don't know how to get him to start brushing without seeming like his mother or the most annoying girlfriend ever! its to the point where I don't even want to kiss him anymore.. there has to be a way to get it through his head that he HAS to brush.. im afraid if he doesn't start brushing soon that I will freak out on him.. that is just really gross to me!", "summary": "my boyfriend still doesn't brush his teeth after me suggesting better hygiene multiple times. I need tips on how to get him to brush his teeth without being rude."}
{"id": "t3_l8cy0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me plan my winter!", "post": "So, i'm 18, male and from the UK. I have around \u00a31000 in the bank, but don't want to spend it *all*. I am pretty flexible, but i *have* to be back by 27th Jan to take some exams. I was planning on going out to france and working a ski season, but i'm not sure i'll have the time to revise for the exams. I can fly out earliest of 4th Feb, but is that too late? And i'll be travelling alone, so is there anywhere i can find people to share a chalet with? I am totally flexible about where i go in france, my first thought was Les 2 Alpes because its fairly snowsure.", "summary": "Travelling alone, got money and fairly flexible. GO!"}
{"id": "t3_gvwyr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to contact someone over a dating site the right way?", "post": "I'm a 26 [M], never been in a relationship, never had a girlfriend (although I do have many female friends, perhaps even more than male friends) so I have no experience at all. I'm also somewhat romantic.\n\nThere's this chinese girl [24] that I find attractive on a dating site (not OKC in this particular case). \nI tried to contact her once through chatting, and she doesn't seem to speak my language very well. \nShe seems to be come online regularly on the site, and sometimes logs in very late in the night (like 3 or 4am) which I find intriguing.\nI'm thinking of asking her why she's online so late but I have a feeling this would give out a weird image and result in no answer again. I tried to chat twice with her with not much success. She did check my profile once or twice though.\n\nSo here's my question: how to approach a girl on a dating site without giving her the stalker / harasser image?\n\nI sent two messages to another girl on the same site over the past few weeks, but she never replied. She describes herself as being shy and cautious. Me being always anxious and having a low self-esteem, I kind of gave up on that one. If I ever send her another message, I'm sure this will look weird (thus killing all my chances, right?).\n\nMy motivation would be to meet someone in person and maybe do activities together in the city. Also language exchange could be fun as I started to learn chinese several months ago.", "summary": "don't know how to get someone to reply without looking like an harassing stalker."}
{"id": "t3_2lir2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) need to find housing. My friend (21M) with and apartment is going to Afghanistan but not until a month after classes start.", "post": "I am on study abroad and am debating going back next semester to my home institution. \n\nMy best friends have a very cheap apartment that I would love to live at but my friend is not leaving for Afghanistan until mid February and our classes start mid January. The other kicker is that he wants to keep the lease because the military pays for it and use it for a little storage. (He doesn't have much stuff and I plan to spend most nights with my girlfriend (23F) of nine months anyway. \n\nMy girlfriend's roomate (21F) decided for one reason or another to find an apartment and live solo but can't terminate her lease which means my girlfriend will have a whole room to herself in a suite style dorm with two other girls who could'nt give less of a fuck about anything so they're not an issue. \n\nSo being that I just came back from study abroad and it's going to be very hard to find housing and my girlfriend has told me that I could definitely stay with her until my friend leaves anyway, is this a good idea or is it to risky? It's super cheap and I'm not gonna find another house that economical while I'm so far away.", "summary": "Friend leaving for Afghanistan, want to take his apartment, there's a month before he leaves while I need to be at school, girlfriend volunteered her house for me at least until he leaves. Is it too risky?"}
{"id": "t3_3brr3b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by holding my cat [NSFW]", "post": "A little background: I have a cat that has what is probably an unhealthy obsession with me. He sleeps at night by climbing up in the crook of my arm, resting his head against my armpit and with feet all straight up in the air. It was around bedtime and the sleeping position had already been assumed. At this point my fiance decided that it was a good time for sexy times, so she stripped naked and moved over towards me. My cat knows that means he has to give up his spot, but he was prepared to defend it this time. He bit her, really hard, right in the face. I couldn't help myself and starting rolling with laughter, she started yelling at the cat and me, so my cat ran away and I was left with an unfulfilled boner and no cat.", "summary": "I got cockblocked by my cat"}
{"id": "t3_1sngce", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [27/m]being overly sensitive or justifiably upset with my wife [28/f]?", "post": "This happened yesterday and I haven't wanted to talk about it with her yet. \n\nTo set it up, I had just come in from changing her oil pan on her car. Crawling around underneath it for about 2 1/2 hours in 40 degree weather. I'm all oily and cold and frustrated by some bolts that would just NOT go in. At this point I just want to relax and clean up.\n\nShe calls me over to look at something on her computer by saying something like \"Hey look at this you'll think it's funny, I applied and already heard back.\" She shows me this page \n\nI didn't really know what to say, and I still don't. She kept saying that she didn't really want to do it (Which I'm not sure I believe.) and that it was just a funny thing to apply for. I don't really see what's funny about it at all. And the day before yesterday, she asked if I wanted to visit Canada (where it's being filmed) so she has obviously been thinking about it.  I'm upset that she's been doing all this without even talking to me about it. You don't just tell your husband, \"Hey, I just applied to be in porn(nude model) and heard back from them, so funny right?\"  I also don't know what picture she sent in to apply so idk if she's sent them nudes or what.  wtf", "summary": "My wife applied for us to appear naked as a couple in a music video without talking to me about it beforehand."}
{"id": "t3_2smguf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "TMobile pay as you go and bad credit (US)?", "post": "Long story short; I'm a 20 year old full time student (working 20-30 hours a week) with bad credit. My parents took out 2 credit cards and a phone contract in my name and let it go to hell and I didn't realize until too late. \nBut things have been going better, and I haven't had a phone or phone contract in about a year. I do not think I will get approved for a contract, and even if I did, I like having the flexibility of no contract.\n\nTMobile has a prepaid chip you can add to any phone as long as it's transferable. I was thinking of buying an iphone 5 without a contract and then doing the prepaid chip. \n\nWill my bad credit get in the way of this?", "summary": "student, US, bad credit will I be able to do a prepaid TMobile or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2gq0hx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by watching Requiem for a Dream", "post": "So I'm in my room, surfing on demand for something to watch. I have no life and I've seen almost everything, so I start watching this movie. For those unfamiliar with Requiem, it's what I would assume tripping heroin would be like. It's also really gross. At one point I realized that in greater interest or ever regaining the ability to unclench, I should turn this shit off. So I do.\n\nFast forward two hours. I'm in the kitchen. I am filling a water bottle out of my fridge (yeah, one of those classy ones, bitches). The ice maker drops some ice into the bin and makes a clatter. Those familiar to the movie might remember the jumping refrigerator. It would leap forward several feet from the wall when the mom was coming down. She was just tripping, and it wasn't real, but it startled her like 50 times, no lie.\n\nSo I start thinking, \"Fuck Fuck Fuck, the fridge is going to fall on me\"\n\nEverything goes dim. Little black dots form in the center of my vision and bloom outwards until I can't see. I'm taking small, seemingly futile steps away, but everything keeps getting darker. I feel the wall and know I'm just a step from being out of the room. I want to fall. I still can't see anything. Another step forward, I bash my head straight into the door. Searing pain, I felt short of breath, I'm sure my pulse was soaring. My vision began to clear while I was on the floor, but I got up again before it cleared all the way. I just wanted away. When I got back to my room I just hyperventilated until I calmed down. I still have no idea what happened. But I have this gash on my forehead and I don't know how to explain this to my date tomorrow.", "summary": "gingerly took a stroll to the watering hole. Had a panic attack and   busted my head on some shit. It's ok, you can laugh."}
{"id": "t3_3emnp8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need self-help advice", "post": "So I've always been the kinda funny/goofy guy that is friends with just about everyone.\nLately my personality seems to be slowly going through a metamorphosis of sorts (teenagers, eh?), and I'm slowly becoming more and more... eccentric.\nMy jokes are weirder, (albeit purposefully because creating situational awkwardness makes me laugh now) darker, overly energetic/exaggerated, and generally abrasive.\nPeople like me at first and think I'm funny/goofy but in the matter of 2 or 3 hours my humor deteriorates into this very specific and grotesque type of humor, then people start getting weirded out.\nMy first instinct is to demean myself, but then i realize when I feel happy and confident that's just the way I am.", "summary": "ending question"}
{"id": "t3_28tu89", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (17F) having my first 'real' relationship with (18M), it's nice but don't know if I really like him?", "post": "I'm an awkward, nerdy 17 year old girl that has never really had a boy give me any attention until this boy came along around November. He's nice and I can get along with him well enough, but we're total opposites. We both love politics, but we're far right and far left. We both have ambition, but he just wants money and power and I want to have leadership and help people. We're both highly intelligent, but he thinks he's the smartest man alive. He's just super cocky and arrogant, and I sit in my little corner of the world. \n\nHe's tried to date me several times, either three or four. This time I finally decided to give it a shot since it was summer and I didn't have to worry over school or extracurricular activities. For about two weeks, it was really fun and I enjoyed hanging out with him. He wasn't overbearing and we also had free time away from each other. Now, though, he keeps saying things like \"But they can't have you\" or \"I can take care of you\" and things like so, and that just unsettles me. I am very independent, and he knows that. When I tell him \"I can take care of myself\", he kind of just rolls his eyes. \n\nHe was my first kiss, and I was expecting fireworks and chills and the whole nine yards. There wasn't anything. We've kissed two more times and still nothing. Maybe I'm stuck in princess land, but isn't there supposed to be excitement?\n\nHe's talking serious commitment and I just wanted a summer fling. I'm worried to break it off because I'm afraid he will have a temper. I do like him, he's sweet when he wants to be, but not enough to form a serious relationship. \n\nHelp, reddit. I'm confused and have no relationship experience.", "summary": "I'm in my first real relationship/dating game, and it started out great. Kissed and there were no sparks or yays to be had. He's kind of possessive. Not sure if I like him. plz send halp."}
{"id": "t3_1v38fu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) may have just accidentally became his (20M) girlfriend", "post": "About an hour ago, my friend, (D), left my apartment. I've been close friends with D for two years. He was a mutual friend of my ex (at the time) and I. We've been hanging out as usual, (as friends) since my ex and I broke up, - over the duration of two months - but it has been strictly friendly up until about two weeks ago.\n\nTwo weeks ago, before I went to my hometown for the holidays, D kissed me goodbye. We kept in touch here and there during the holidays. Now that I'm back in town, he came over to mine to watch some episodes of a series and drink beer - the usual.. It's what we've always done.\n\nAfter we finished up a few episodes, I was getting up to get a glass of water and he stopped me and kissed me. Things got a bit heated and as he went to unbutton my jeans, I stopped him and told him I couldn't because it was \"my time of the month\". I know that this was a stupid lie, but I panicked. \n\nD said everything was fine and not to worry about it and then said \"So I've been thinking, are we a thing now?\". Again, I panicked and said yes.\n\nThings kind of wrapped up there and I walked him out. We said our goodbyes and he told me that he'd call me so that we can pick up where we left off next weekend.\n\nI'm at a loss here. This guy is great.. Too bad I feel awfully about the fact that I don't know what I want. I feel bad saying this, but he also wasn't the best kisser and everything just felt awkward and uncomfortable for me. How on earth do I approach the fact that I do not want to be his girlfriend? It really caught me off guard. I truly appreciate him as a friend and don't want to lose him.\n\nI can't even decide if I want to give this a shot or not, but I don't think it's a good idea because this has clearly moved along quickly given our previous record as close friends.", "summary": "I agreed to being exclusive with a man that I am not too sure I even want to be dating."}
{"id": "t3_qylju", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else feel like they are the Alpha of their friend group?", "post": "I feel like I have become the Alpha of my friend group and have just been realizing it over the past few months. I would like to describe myself first by saying that I am a quiet, collected, level headed person who is very little if at all egotistical (just typing this is awkward to me). I have a tall athletic build and feel I am easy to get along with. \n \nNow, it seems to me that the majority of my friends are connected through me, about 10 people half of which are girls. We often hang out and take trips and it seems like everyone is looking to me for direction about our motives, logistics and even what beer to buy. We have been in a few scary, harrowing experiences and it seems like the girls of the group tend to gravitate toward me in such a setting even if they have boyfriends present at the time. \n \nAside from my girlfriend I have slept with 2 other girls in our group and have kissed and fooled around with 3 others but have somehow managed to do this without going behind my girlfriends back since she has been present and more than willing for all but 1 of the occasions(which was baby town frolics btw). My girlfriend is still friends with the other girls, as am I.\n \nReading back on this it seems a bit egotistical but that is really not my intention, I was wondering who else finds themselves in this situation and how they think of it. Since I have put more thought to it I feel like all the cummulative interactions have changed me as a person, I don't care about most things, the things that used to be fun I don't find fun anymore, it is hard for me to find pleasure in anything, in my head I feel alienated but among my friends I am always welcomed.\n \n Even though I don't seem to have wronged anyone or let anyone down I feel the asumed responsibilty pushing on me and have decided to alter the way I handle things, and try to step back and let things take their course within the friend group without my judgement. \n\nI have heard this natural in groups of mammals, but not too sure how it translates into human nature.\n\nAny input?", "summary": "Realized my place in the friend group, resigning partially."}
{"id": "t3_3dun47", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing my laundry.", "post": "I actually started yesterday, when I decided to do the laundry.\nThis whole month I was very busy with assignments, work from office and well reading reddit. So much so that the pile of cloth at the end of my room almost looked like a mountain now.\n\nSo yesterday I realized I don't have any clean clothes to wear anymore and finally I'll have to do the laundry. Reluctantly I put all the clothes in the washing machine, including the shirt I was wearing at the moment and then suddenly there was a power outage. \n\nI didn't have much battery left in my cellphone so I just went to sleep and woke up today morning. First thing I did was turning on the washing machine. When I was done with the breakfast I went and pulled the dried cloth out only to notice there were some small while particles on all of them. \n\nI had no idea what they are so I just thought they must be part of the fabric of a white shirt I bought last year until I saw one of my photo lying in the tub of the washing machine.\nThis is when I realized I had my driving license (Issued like 10 years ago when they had driving licences made of paper) in the front pocket of my shirt yesterday. The DL was reduced to pieces and only thing left out of it was my photo.", "summary": "I washed my driving license with the laundry which is reduced to pieces now."}
{"id": "t3_3v5zzs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by choking a Vet with PTSD", "post": "Okay, so this actually happened two days ago.\n\nFor the obligatory background information, I am a paramedic for a semi-rural EMS agency. A couple of days ago we got called for a 35 year old male having abdominal pain. As we were pulling into the driveway we saw his truck covered with Wounded Warrior, Veteran and service animal stickers.\n\nFast forward a little while. He was in a fair amount of discomfort, and we opted to put him on a nasal cannula which, for those of you not familiar, is basically a long piece of plastic tubing with two small tips on the end that go into your nose so you can get oxygen. Aside from the part inside of your nose, the rest of the tubing wraps around your ears and then goes down under your chin before continuing back over your shoulder and connecting to the oxygen regulatior (in this case the regulator was attached to the ambulance wall).\n\nAs we arrived at the hospital, we grabbed the stretcher and begin to pull it out without remembering to disconnect to the oxygen tubing from the wall. The result... The tubing tightened around his neck and began choking him, and judging by the look of terror on his face and the way he grabbed the stretcher as if he was going to rip it in half (combined with the anxiety and psych meds he was on) we managed to add a little PTSD to his already shitty day, and no amount of profuse apologizing could fix what a monumental ass clowns we felt like.", "summary": "Tried to help a Vet get to the hospital, choked him and gave him PTSD flash backs."}
{"id": "t3_1rkbhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27m] with [27F] possible start of a relationship", "post": "I [27m] met her [27f] about 2 months ago. We hit it off and spent 3 straight weekends together. After the third weekend she went on a previously planned trip to her hometown for 2.5 months. We never had an exclusive talk before she left however what we were experiencing seemed like the start of a solid relationship (we both recognized this).\n\nWe have been texting a few times a week and talking a bit, time zone is hard. I definitely felt like I was putting myself out there more than she was. \n\nI just received a long message from her saying basically:\n\n* she doesn't like that our situation is ambiguous (inbetween casual and serious)\n\n* she is having a fling with someone, feels guilty\n\n* she wants to talk about where our boundaries are and see where to proceed.\n\nI can't help but feel hurt and a little insecure about this now, but at the same time totally get it that we were not exclusive.\n\nI want to respond with the truth saying that: I'm hurt, but understand our situation wasn't clear, the only way I feel comfortable moving forward is to be exclusive (which is what I want).\n\nThe problems I see are that she still has 1.5 months away. I feel like my \nattraction to her is now an all time low and now I have to put in some trust. Am I doing this right?", "summary": "No exclusive talk, she is hooking up with someone while on vacation, I'm hurt"}
{"id": "t3_2lxdk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19/M) am in a relationship with a (19/F) who is biopolar and am so confused and stressed.", "post": "So about a month ago I met a girl. She asked me to fix her computer. After fixing it we talked for a few hours and really connected. I invited her over that Friday and we proceeded to watch a movie and that turned into sex. I lost my virginity that night so I was a mixture of emotions. We decided on a FWB arrangement but that lasted for 3 weeks. We started a relationship 3 weeks ago. She was over this last weekend and she was on her last day of getting over a UTI on Friday.  We had fun but she was on a low. She seemed happy yet I could tell something was wrong.  Her low got worse since saturday. We had plans for this comminv weekend but she texted me today saying she didn't want to see me this weekend. I guess i'm just confused. She's been venting to me for the duration of our time together and always seemed down over text but she was always smiling and happy when we've been together. She recently got diagnosed with bipolar disorder and shes been stressed about that. It's really stressful wheb shes like this and I don't really know what to do. I really like our time together buf its taking my toll. It's my first sexual relationship so i'm feeling emotions i can't even define. I really dont know what to do I guess. Can you guys help?", "summary": "First sexual relationship happens to be with a mentally broken woman. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3gf0fz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I got in an accident while driving a motorcycle. Everyone tells me how lucky I was and that I should appreciate my life. I wished I had just died there on the road.", "post": "A few months back my girlfriend of five years broke up with me. We ended it on good terms and I was invited to her birthday party. I guess could just go stay one or two hours and leave. It was not so bad and pretty fun but I saw one of her friends who got really touchy with her. So I asked one of her friends if they were dating. \"You should ask her yourself\" but I could see a clear yes on her face. I finished my drink and leave.\nThe next day I met up with her and asked her myself. The result was, yeah, they were dating. Fuck it. I cut her out of my life.\n\nI got recently in an accident with my motorcycle. The accident itself was pretty bad. Someone went 50 mph over speed limit and hit me from behind. The next thing I know is that I woke up at the hospital. Everyone I talked to and who was kind of involved in that accident told me I should be dead. Fortunately, only my shoulder broke. I am not sad about the motorcycle or my broken shoulder. The only thing which really bothers me is that I saw my ex, while I was knock out, who also told me \"Everything will be fine. Don't be afraid.\" This though is burned into my brain.\nFrom the beginning I know it might be a stupid idea but I called her anyway. I wanted to take a walk and catch a little bit up but she was busy, i think.\n\nToday, while browsing reddit I saw a picture in which the girl look very familiar. Honestly, it was one of the gonewild subreddit. You couldn't see her face but she has the exactly same clothes and as well the petite figure. At first I thought it might be a coincidence then I looked up the submitted post from the user. I felt numb. I cannot believed it. She was never like that. In my entire life I never felt so devastating.\n\nI should feel happy about the fact that I survived without a bigger harm and embrace this chance but actually I wished I had just died there on the road. It would be less sorrow than living right now.", "summary": "I was in a serious accident but survived without a big harm. Saw my ex while being unconscious so she was back on my mind then I saw nsfw pictures of her on reddit. Wished I would be dead."}
{"id": "t3_1l3lqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] I have a crush but shes leaving soon.", "post": "Okay first time posting on here I've been trying to find the answer to my problems myself but it just doesn't seem to be working out so i figured id try for an outside opinion.\n\nI have a massive crush on a girl I've known (and been good friends with) for pretty much the last 2 years of high school, we get along very well and such but i just don't know what to do, i want to ask her out but i keep thinking about everything that could possibly go wrong, which i desperately don't want to happen. I've personally never been in a relationship before (she has been in several) and its kind of terrifying i mean i want one but i just find it difficult to actually put it in motion. Also i believe she is interested in me, or... at least was at one point, she actually asked me out about 6 months ago at the time i just wasn't ready for a relationship, now i believe i am and i have no idea how to approach this.\n\nAnyways the big problem to me is that she is going to be leaving for university in a week, the place shes going is about a 2 and half hour drive from where i live. Now I've already made plans to visit her on breaks and holidays n such and hang out but would that be a long distance relationship (provided i do ask her out and she doesn't reject me) because i don't want to be in a relationship that is doomed to fail especially with someone i like so much. But also I've been kinda depressed i cant stop thinking about her, and how much she means to me, i couldn't stand if she went to university and met some guy, started dating him, while i just sit here wondering what could have been.", "summary": "Crush is leaving for Uni in a week. Should i still ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_2v4qwi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not making my bed and washing my sheets", "post": "Saturdays are cleaning days for me and I decided to organize my closet. As many girls know, this is a huge undertaking and can take over your entire day. Somewhere along the way I realized that I hadn't washed my sheets in a couple of weeks, so I decided to throw them in the washer in between some of the clothing loads. Unfortunately I failed to realize that my iPhone was currently residing in my unmade bed. White iPhone on white sheets is a lot like winter camo. After gathering my sheets and loading them into the washer and starting a load, I returned to my room to continue cleaning. I realized the music was no longer playing out of my speaker and figured the playlist was over. I started searching and shortly thereafter realized the only place my phone could be. I ran back downstairs and cancelled the load and started searching through the sopping wet sheets. I found my poor phone wrapped in a corner, like a death shroud. I have taken off the back and am trying to dry it out. Thus far the screen still works but I can see water lines inside of it. The home button is done for but with a jail break I was able to move the home function to another key. If only I had made my bed so I could see where my phone was.", "summary": "My phone was hidden in my sheets and ended up taking a bath in the washing machine"}
{"id": "t3_3nbaac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [26M] 6 months?, coworkers/roommates/lovers/friends?", "post": "It's a long, painful story. Bear with me. \n\nFebruary 2015 I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. He cheated and I was over him long before the breakup, but finally all my good coworkers talked me into finding better. One coworker in particular. \n\nWe started harmlessly flirting around last Christmas, which developed into a close friendship and frankly an emotional affair, given that I was with my 5-year boyfriend. Anywho, knowing I could do better, I moved on and was very excited to start up with my coworker. To my favor, 48 hours after I left my boyfriend, my coworkers girlfriend left him. We were both single and ready to pounce on each other.\n\nFast forward one month and we've moved in together. Things are FANFUCKINGTASTIC. He cooks, I clean, we have fun, life is good. A few weeks later, he dumps me. It was convoluted and terrible. Given that we had JUST moved in together, we opted to stay friends and roommates. Work was tough but we survived. \n\nFast forward another few months of on again off again friends with benefits, and he asks me to leave. I've since moved out. It's been maybe a week that I've been gone and it's been horrible. I cry daily, and I'm struggling with lots of the details. We have so much going on between us, the flirting is still happening but we both know for the sake of our emotional health and job security, the sex cannot happen. Were shooting for friendship but it's extremely difficult.\n\nThe week before I moved out we were drinking and he admitted some hard truths; he had every intention of proposing to his ex, he still loves her but he's confused cause he loves me, too. He pushes me away cause he says I deserve better. \n\nThe love is still there between us. The chemistry exists. So I'm asking; do I wait for him to mourn his last relationship? Do I wait for his impending promotion so our relationship isn't against work rules? Or am I being a complete masochist who needs to let the whole thing go and find my happiness?", "summary": "He's struggling through personal things even though we still love each other. Do I wait him out or cut off the pain and move on? I'd really just like to talk the whole situation out more. :/"}
{"id": "t3_1rhb5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21F) dating (20F) for 5 years now..and its getting complicated", "post": "I'm a girl. I've been with my girlfriend for about five years and I love\n\n her to death. This is the first girl I had been with or have even been\n\n attracted to. Other than that I love boys. We have been through\n\n some crazy shit and been fighting for our relationship since it had\n\n started. But lately I'm not sure how I have been feeling. I care about\n\n her so much but in my future I don't see it being her. I want to have\n\n babies in the future and I feel like I have been missing out on things\n\n like meeting new people. we have always hung out together 24/7\n\n and I feel like I don't have my own identity. how do I bring this up?\n\n how do I go about it?  I don't know if this a phase or what to do.\n\n Just end it? I just don't wanna lose her completely. Because I know \n\nshe is head over heels in love with me.  Has anyone else gone\n\n through this or have any advice? Should I wait it out?", "summary": "we have been dating for so long and im not sure how to figure out if that is what I really want or how to approach her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_29s487", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [f/28] gf has suddenly become distant right before I [m/26] went on a family trip", "post": "We've been dating for one month and up until last week, she was very warm towards me. However, the day before I left to help my whole family move into a new city (two days drive each way), she became cold towards me.\n\nWhile friendly, she isn't flirty, responsive to my flirtations or has been warm towards me at all. My mom thinks it's because I missed an opportunity to meet her family (she mentioned that she wanted me to meet her family on a public holiday that passed while I was away a few weeks ago), is afraid I might leave, or I said something to hurt her. \n\nOf course she could have cold feet as it's a one month old relationship, but that's just me being negative.\n\nThat said, when I returned home, all of her toiletaries were gone from my bathroom. She had been looking after my cat for me while I was away, and it's a bit of a shock for me.", "summary": "What's going on? She wants to meet for coffee tomorrow. Am I being silly for thinking she wants to break up with me, or do I have valid fears?"}
{"id": "t3_1wd1in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Rebuilding trust in myself [27M] after four year relationship with ex [22F]", "post": "I recently learned that my ex slept with her friend, and is pursuing a relationship with him, two months after we split up after four years together. We had been trying to work out our issues, or so I had been led to believe, and even minutes before she told me she had slept with this friend, she told me she still loved me.\n\nAbout a year before the relationship ended, we had experienced issues stemming from honesty (some stemming from actions involving the very friend she is seeing now, which could raise a whole new line of questions). I now see that she was not mature enough to work through those issues, and recent events reinforcing that belief.\n\nOther than simply getting my thoughts out, and seeing them in text, I guess I'm looking for reassurance that I'm not expecting too much from a partner. I've developed a policy that honesty and openness will always cause less plain than attempting to play games or protect feelings. I'm managing to work through the realization that a person I loved and trusted, did not truly reciprocate what I see as respect.\n\nThis all comes as I'm preparing to move to a new city (Austin, Tx), with incredible opportunities to meet young, vibrant people my age, both romantic and platonic. I'm also starting a new career in a field I love. Topping it all off, I'll be living with the cutest ice breaker and 'chick magnet' in the world; my three year-old Pembroke Corgi ;-)\n\nOf course, there are a number of details that I haven't included, though I feel I've gotten the heart of the situation down.\n\nFor the record I've cut ties, wishing her the best with the new relationship. There's nothing quite as effective at helping get over an ex as realizing how much better I deserve from a partner.", "summary": "Even though it hurt like hell, I've come through the ending of a serious relationship with a better understanding of myself, and what I deserve from a partner. While it may be easy to become discouraged, and mope about what ended, I'm choosing to see the good aspects of my situation, and carry forward into a new beginning."}
{"id": "t3_vw4b7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever saved somebody's life?", "post": "My family was looking after my grandparents house while they were away on holiday for an extended period of time.  My parents decided to have some friends over for drinks by the pool and they happened to bring their daughter over, who was around 2-3 years old. I can't recall exactly, but she was very young. I was an avid gamer back in the day and as a result I was happy to stay out of my parents way and play video games while they entertained. After playing for a while and with the night progressing, I was starting to get hungry, so I stepped outside to ask  my parents when they were getting dinner started. They were all chatting away when I came up to speak to them, while their friends daughter was sitting contently by the pool. Her parents had noted earlier that she had a run in with water some time ago and that she was now aware of the dangers of the pool and safe within their earshot. After I had the answer I was chasing, my dad asked me to step inside and grab him a beer. It was probably 15 seconds between my  journey from outside to the fridge and back, but as I stepped outside I watched horrified as our guests daughter fell silently into the pool with absolutely no reaction from the group nearby, since she literally made no sound as she entered the water. I dropped the beer and yelled out in alarm as I ran over to the pool. I tried to swipe her out of the water but missed her the first time; I'm not sure whether in panic or because she slipped from my grasp, but I swiftly grabbed her arm again and ripped her from the water. It all happened incredibly fast and she was fine after the event, but I dread to think what might have happened if I didn't go out when I did.", "summary": "Saved a family friends daughter from drowning when I saw her silently fall in to a pool."}
{"id": "t3_47k7dp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A potential \"love interest\" [F20] calls me [M18] the wrong name. I didn't realize until recently.", "post": "So... I'm not sure if this is necessarily the right place for this kind of issue but I don't know what else to do!\n\nA friend of mine calls me by a name that is very similar to my actual name, and I originally thought she was calling me that to be cute, because people have used it as a nickname for me before. I recently realized that she actually thinks that's my real name. We've known each other a few months now. I... don't know how to correct her, or if I should at all? \n\nIt feels so awkward. I don't mind the nickname, but... Yeah.", "summary": "Someone calls me the wrong name, I don't know how to correct it."}
{"id": "t3_d67m2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: I need advice on how to throw my friend's bachelor party.", "post": "So, I found out last night that one of my best friends is getting married.  We don't see each other that much anymore (he lives in Boston; I live in California), but he's still one of my closest friends.\n\nI'm going to be in charge of the bachelor party.  Now, I've never done this (I'm 27, all of my other close friends are still single), so I don't know exactly how this works.  \n\nFirst issue: We're on opposite ends of the country.  I'm going to have to fly out there for the wedding and presumably the bachelor party (I don't think he's going to want to do it in Vegas).  I don't really know the other friends though, so it's going to be a little hard to make a coordinated effort.  I know his brother; but, the brother is living out of the country and will probably just fly in and out for the wedding (and bachelor party).  How do I set up a party when I'm going to have to just fly in for the weekend (maybe a day or two extra) since I work cross-country and don't really know the other groomsmen?\n\nSecond issue: Who pays?  Am I expected to foot the whole bill?  I assume I'm looking at least $2,000-3000 for the whole party, right?  Do I split it with the other groomsmen?  I'm not sure if he'll have just two or three groomsmen, or if there will be a big party of dudes.\n\nThird issue: What should I do for the party?  I assume strippers and booze, but anything more specific?  Anything instead of strippers and booze?\n\nFourth issue: If I'm in charge of the bachelor party, do I also get him and the Mrs. a wedding gift; or is my organizing the party my wedding gift?\n\nAny advice, Reddit?", "summary": "I have to throw my friend a bachelor party but we live on opposite ends of the country and I don't really know the other groomsmen.  How do I do this and what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_37d5vi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a free book on audible.com", "post": "I didn't get the book today, but am dealing with it.\n\nTo get the free book, I had to actually sign up with credit card information and all that. The free book I got was \"Go the Fuck to Sleep\" read by Samuel L. Jackson. It was awesome. Put me right to sleep like some little shit baby. \n\nWell, this is where the fuck up comes in. I FORGOT TO CANCEL THE ACCOUNT. More than one year later, tallying up the subscription costs of Audible, it seems I've spent about $400", "summary": "cancel your unused subscriptions!"}
{"id": "t3_2eibvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my best friend [18 F] 7 months , thinks she is in love with another guy[17 M] . I really like her", "post": "Me and this girl have been very close friends for the last 7 months or so. A few months ago we told each other how we felt about each other, we kissed, but nothing else happened after that. I tried to be romantic more often, and try to express how I feel about her but nothing more would come out of it.  I would ask her out but she says she doesn't want to risk our friendship. \n\nAbout 3 weeks ago she started talking to another guy. He is still in high school and me and my friend are not. She tells me she has know him for 3 years, and they're reconnecting so I think nothing of it. But when she would talk to him, she would act different. She would laugh a lot more, completely ignore me, tell him she misses him, and just hang out with him lot.\n\nOne night, we were on FaceTime when he called her phone. She muted me, turned the camera around, and put me on pause immediately. I'm completely confused but I try not to worry about it. After about 15 minutes she unmutes me and fixes the camera and takes me off pause. She's off the phone at this point. After about 2 minutes of silence she tells me she thinks she's in love with him.  \n\nI am absolutely devastated,  but I try not to do anything rash. She tells me they liked each other for 3 years.  I ask her why she won't go out with him, and she says she doesn't know.  I ask if he feels the same and she says yes. I want to ask her how she feels about me but I'm not sure if there is even a point. I really like her, and I hoped she still liked me, but I feel like all the time we spent together, the kiss we shared, the things we did for each other, the romantic gestures I tried,  was just a waste. I am absolutely crushed and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I like her,  she likes me,  but she thinks she is in love with another guy but they won't date. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_39f7k7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (20/f) of 2 years and I (22/m) are clashing over things like space, alone time, and amount of time with friends. Any advice on what is \"normal\"?", "post": "My girlfriend likes to spend a lot of time together and has few close friends that she hangs out with. She doesn't seem to understand my need for alone time, especially since we started living together about 6 months ago.\n\nShe says she knows that things like \"distance makes the heart grow fonder\" are usually true in some way and that people need a bit of time away from their partners sometimes. She says that for her, being at work for 8 hours is her alone time. For me, work is work and isn't really the same as having some free time away from her. \n\nShe complains and says that spending more than 2-3 hours with friends without her is not normal. Sometimes I would spend 5-6 hours with friends maybe once a week. Am I weird or is that \"normal\"? She says that once people are in a serious relationship it's normal to spend almost all of their time together. I totally get that it's normal to see your live-in partner every day and be around them a lot, but as much as I love her, I can't see myself continuing to spend 90% of my non-work time with her. Even 60% would be better I think. \n\nShe's very insecure and doesn't seem to have her own interests. She also has some pretty bad anxiety and diagnosed with ptsd so she kind of fears people too. She likes to watch me when I play a video game for example, and I don't mind usually but when it's every time it's kind of weird. She says that 30 minutes of alone time per day should be enough, but I don't want to feel like my time is rationed. I'm not saying that I don't want to spend time with her at all, I really do enjoy most of our time together, she just doesn't seem to understand my needs. It feels like I'm her entire world and while that kinda sounds sweet I guess, it's really driving me crazy...", "summary": "girlfriend is clingy and won't give me enough alone time. she has no interests of her own and it's making me go crazy."}
{"id": "t3_3ba9um", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting a total stranger.", "post": "I work as a pizza delivery guy in NC and while out on a delivery today I drove across the same intersection that I cross 20 times a day. The difference was that this time, my vision was suddenly filled with headlights.  A man in an SUV had decided to make a U-Turn right into the driver side of my car.\n\nI cursed and checked to make sure I was alright before getting out to check on him. He was fine and so am I (so far anyway) but my car was trashed, but drivable. \n\"Please tell me you have insurance,\" I say as we meet near the wreck.\n\n\"Oh yes I have insurance. I am so sorry, my light was green.\"\n\"Yeah it was, but U-Turns have to yield to cars going straight. I had a green light too.\"\n\"Oh I am so sorry. I am visiting here and am going back to my home country in four days.\"\nRed flag, lost in the moment and adrenaline.\n\"Well let's get our cars out of the middle of the street at least.\"\n We go back to our cars and pull over to the right shoulder. I get out of my car and pull out my phone to report the accident and the dude floors it.\nThis was my livelihood and he just trashed it and left. I gave his description to the police but I doubt they will ever find the guy.", "summary": "Got hit while delivering pizza and thought the other driver was stopping and instead he ran."}
{"id": "t3_ujmgg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cat keeps pissing on the furniture. If this keeps up I'm going to have to get rid of her. Anyone have any advice?", "post": "Some background, I took over taking care of my roommate's cat after he moved out. She had had several homes over the years. Our apartment was huge and she had plenty of room to run around. Now I've moved into a smaller place and my new roommate also has a cat. They are getting along fine now but they were at war for a few weeks. They problem is that my cat keeps pissing on the furniture. First it was my roommates bed, then mine and now its one of the living room chairs. I'm pretty sure its a territorial thing because of the new cat. She starts doing this whenever a new person/animal is introduced. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't keep washing my sheets and blanket twice a week and its really starting to be a drag. Any advice on how to control this behavior? Redirect it? I really would hate to have to give her away.", "summary": "My cat pisses on the furniture and I need to fix it before I get rid of her."}
{"id": "t3_qvr50", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My ex-gf stalks my reddit & FB accounts ruthlessly and relentlessly.  What are some ingenious ways to rid myself of her and/or troll her?  Too many details inside.", "post": "Just like the title says.  My sociopathic ex-girlfriend stalks my online presences, however benign, then badgers me about everything.  I'm talking  < 20 minutes after something has been said and she's howling for blood.  Basically, she hounds me relentlessly, even after I've blacklisted her phone and several fake FB and email accounts.  She checks out my main Reddit account constantly, then sends me shitty things about stuff I've posted or responded to.  \n\nAfter taking an emotional nosedive when I discovered for the past year she's been seeing some kid 12 years my junior (I'm 34, she's 31), I've somewhat recovered and want to exact some semi-harmless revenge.  My hope is that she'll eventually leave me alone, but I'm a fucking idiot and would drag my wang through broken glass to sleep with her one more time, and have.  Can the pussy be that good, you ask?  Fuck me, it really is.  I can glorify it now that she'll not know this account, but holy shit, she's a sexual volcano.  I wouldn't consider myself a novice or even intermediate status, so I'd like to think I know what I'm talking about (ha, hubris).  \n\nShe's sabotaged two potential relationships with her fanatical tirades.  Is an unabashed liar, cheater, emotional manipulator, etc. etc.  Again.  I am an idiot, I know.  Aside from getting a restraining order, which I don't really have the time to spend in court, what can I do to rid myself of this succubus?  I don't usually invite this type of drama into my life, and am struggling to understand my emotional dependence on someone so chaotic.", "summary": "Crazy ex loves fucking with me.  Help me fuck with her.  Or, tell me I'm acting crazy.  Either way..."}
{"id": "t3_2aq7la", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] and my [21 M] boyfriend broke up after 3 years, but it's not because either of us wanted to. How does a person get over this?", "post": "I made an account just to be able to ask this question because at this point, I'm not sure where else to turn.\n\nI'm not well versed in relationships, as this was my first \"real\" one, but I always thought that when a relationship ended, it happened because one or more of the people involved wasn't in love anymore, or because the two people made each other angry more than they made each other smile. But in my case, neither of those things happened.\n\nBoth of us were still in love, and we had been for about 3 years. But something bigger than us (more specifically, my country's immigration laws) just became too much of a barrier for us to realistically keep things going on. For a while, we were living in this dream land filled with plane tickets, 4-hour skype calls, and fantasies about a future where seeing each other would be as simple as waking up every morning and turning around, rather than what we'd been facing: scraping together money, going through full-body scanners, and brushing aside relatives that always made a point of asking \"why can't you just find someone here?\".\n\nBut this summer has really forced us to think about the chances of this working out in the end, and how long we should keep what we have going on.\n\nAnd the part that really sucks is that we probably wouldn't even be broken up if it weren't for my complete inability to properly explain my thoughts in a verbal fashion.\n\nBut back to my question. When a relationship ends and neither of you really wanted it to, how do you get over that? With no hate, apathy, spite, or desire for another fueling you to make such a decision, how do you get past what the hell just happened? And what's more, how do you go on being friends? He seems like he's able to talk to me like everything's ok, but every time I talk to him, I have to fight myself to keep from screaming that we should have never given up.\n\nIf you want more detail, I can give it in the comments, but I want to keep this short, so just thank you all in advance.", "summary": "My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up because we are citizens of different countries, and things began to seem pretty much impossible. Now, I can't get over the breakup because it wasn't infidelity, or lies, or just plain dislike that led to it- it was where each of us happened to have been born. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_2ruwf2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Stories] What is your most emberassing poop story ?", "post": "I'll start. I had torn my anklets so I couldn't really stand or move. But anyway I had to poop so I just tried and I screamed and fell. Nobody was at home so I had to drag myself with my hands to the bathroom. With lots of tries I finally got the door open. I tried to get on the toilet which was too hard so I just used my feet but it hurt like a mother fucker but I really had to go so I just took the pain. I then took a painfull shit. I tried to get out but our Toilet room is really small ( 1 by 1.5 meter ) so I couldn't stand up so I had to open the door and then fall on the floor to drag myself back to the coach. When I tried that people just walked in and they saw me with half my body out of the toilet and the other half in it while dragging myself.", "summary": "I had torn my anklets and went for a shit and some funny shit happened."}
{"id": "t3_2y816s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18f] Fighting with my Friend [17f] over my Boyfriend [17m]", "post": "I don't really know where to start, so my apologies if this is a little all over the place. Well my family and I went on vacation for a week, and while I was gone, one of my close friends was texting my boyfriend. They do talk a bit generally, so that's okay. But she was saying stuff like, do you miss her, you must feel alone, do you want to hang out? They have never hung out without me there, I'm not saying I wouldn't let them, but I'm saying it would be odd that now when I'm gone all of a sudden they hang out for their first time. My boyfriend said no, and she said stuff that implied she wanted to hook up with him, and how I wouldn't find out. My boyfriend showed me these texts when I got back home. I was so upset that I felt sick to my stomach.\n\nI asked my friend if she wanted to hang out a couple days after that and she agreed, when we went to hang out I confronted her about it, and she tried denying it completely. She lied right to my face. And I told ber that I've seen the texts, and she tried justifying herself and I just got really angry and I ended up just walking out on her. \n\nNow she keeps texting/calling me, and I don't want to talk to her. I don't known if I still want to even continue our friendship after she tried to persuade my boyfriend to cheat with her, especially even after he said no. She was basically pressuring him into it. Should I talk to her, what can I say?", "summary": "My friend tried getting my boyfriend of over a year, to cheat on me while I was on vacation."}
{"id": "t3_1yd16m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 7 months, revenge", "post": "Before we first starting dating we were still making out/ I had fingered her in her bed the first weekend of her freshmen year. A few weekends later I had started making out with another girl and she ran off and gave her first blow job to my \"best friend\". We didn't talk for maybe 6 months after as that was clearly not cool with me. We eventually saw each other again in May of last year and rekindled what we had before, but I had no idea from \"best friend\" or her other than them making out, we eventually begun our relationship last July and made it exclusive and she told me about it maybe a month into the relationship when we had the who have you had sex with before me talk. Since we weren't dating I'm okay with the whole scenario, but the part that seems to still irk me is that she did it to get back to me and took it a step beyond for which she has \"no explanation for\". She has done nothing ever again like that, but am I overreacting/jealous that it wasn't me as her first or am I right to be dissatisfied with her because she purposely did it to hurt me and as much as I hate the thought of it you can't teach old dogs new tricks.", "summary": "Girl blew my best friend to get back at me, we started dating a few months after what should we do or should I just drop it?"}
{"id": "t3_djvig", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Go for it?", "post": "Just for some background to it, my sister - who is 2 years older than I am - is about set to get married. \n\nI'm a junior in college and haven't had a steady, serious girlfriend for my entire college career. I've been on a couple dates with a girl that is way, way out of my league (I really don't know why she agreed to go out with me to be honest with you) and I've got what I guess would be termed a \"fuck buddy\" but that's about it on my relationship status. \n\nI don't know if it's my sister getting married next month or what, but I'm kind of feeling like I should be finding a girl to settle down with. It's really weird and it's actually starting to freak me out - for the last couple weeks or so, I haven't been checking girls out and rating them on their hotness or physical attractiveness. I've been looking at them and judging whether or not my parents would like them if I brought them home. (Seriously, pinch me)\n\nNow about 3 weeks ago, I met this girl at a party. She's not especially cute but she's really, really smart and a tad nerdy (well, really nerdy). I mean, I'm a closet geek. I'm a Trekkie (but don't advertise it) and I like semi-hard to hard sci-fi but thats about it. I think fantasy shit and anime is really weird and I don't go near it. This girl is all about that geeky stuff. She does cosplays and watches anime religiously. Just to get an idea of the cultural divide, I pointed out a guy at said party wearing a hollister button down shirt and informed her that I had the exact same shirt (I couldn't really tell you why, I just kind of say the first thing that pops into my head sometimes). She then looked at me and asked why I was a \"hollister prep.\" (", "summary": "for this paragraph: I wear hollister button downs while she wears sailor moon costumes)"}
{"id": "t3_1x5hpi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] want to fix a relationship with my gf [20 F] but im not sure whether it's 'too late.'", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend since high school. The first three years were awesome. It has been 6 years total. They were the best in my life and I would go back then for anything. Since then, things have gone downhill. I havent treated her properly, and i wasnt feeling really good about the relationship, so I cut it off. It was the worst mistake I have ever made in my life. \n\nI tried to get her back. After many failed attempts, she came to me and said that she maybe wants to try this. She said that she wants space, but I coudlnt handle the time away from her. And so I said lets be friends. Problem is, I kept wanting to talk to her as if she was in a relationship with me and treat her as such.\n\nSo we did that, and now after i made a big deal about a couple of things, she said this isnt working out. Now, instead of wanting time to think things through and figure out what she wants, she is determined to end this and no longer wants it.\n\nI love her and made the biggest mistake of my life by not treating her right. Do I fight for her back? I want to and will continue to no matter what.", "summary": "i treated girlfriend badly. is it ever to late to fight for someone and can you bring them back?"}
{"id": "t3_25lk9o", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need a little advice regarding our elderly dog.", "post": "Our rescue [Lt. Ellen Ripley] has been showing her age lately. Actually for the last six months or so she has been going a bit downhill. Formerly very active and happy to play she's blind, deaf and now sleeps or spins in circles all day. She hasn't been able to hold her water or poops at all and we've been coming home to a nightly cleanup. Worse she's been biting at us a lot and seems to think our hands are actually delicious fish sticks. \n\nWe've tried medicine and have seen the vet numerous times but she just seems to be getting worse and worse.\n\nSo, advice time. Am I being selfish? I feel like keeping her around may not be the best thing for her anymore. I worry that she spends her time now scared, confused and in the dark. But so far as I know, she's not in any pain and she can still recognize me on occasion.\n\nI'll", "summary": "this for you, Dog is old now, losing control of her bodily functions etc. When is the right time to think about letting her take after that gravy bone in the sky?"}
{"id": "t3_2nlxo0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to hand shake a blind man who I obviously knew was blind.", "post": "So this actually did just happen 10 minutes ago....\nIt's thanksgiving and I'm at my Brazilian grandmother's house. Every year we have a lot of my grandmother's friends and family come over to visit and eat delicious food my grandmother slaves over all day long. no one has showed up yet so I decided to snooze off on the couch. The doorbell rang and woke me up which was good because that means people are showing up which means food. So the first people were a nice foreign couple. A middle aged women and a man who was holding one of those sticks blind people have. Now the man is not %100 percent blind. He was really nice and sweet. I decided to introduce myself to him and out of habbit I held out my hand... oh god.. he's blind and there's no Turning back.. everybody sees me do this, All of the family. The middle age woman (his wife) took huge offense to this and thought I was playing a joke.. on her partially blind husband.. they left just a minute ago.. I fucked up reddit.. I fucked up.", "summary": "grandmother's friends came over for thanksgiving. I tried to shake hands with a blind man and his wife got mad and they left."}
{"id": "t3_2v7l1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] dealing with my girlfriend's [25 F] crazy ex-husband", "post": "Okay, so I'm in an extremely complicated situation. My girlfriend has full legal and physical custody of her children because her ex-husband is a psychotic sociopath. \n\nThe guy has 5 hours with the kids every other Saturday and the visitation has to be done in her home. Every single time he is over there (if he shows up) he will lie to the kids in front of her to try and make her angry. Saying things like \"Tell mommy bye because she won't be seeing you anymore.\" Or \"Mommy is a bad parent isn't she?\" He will then try to take videos of her reaction (usually she doesn't react) or take pictures around her house of messes that happen while he is there to try and use them in court.\n\nThe guy doesn't pay his child support, smokes around them whenever he gets visitation outside of the house, never changes their diapers if he has them and one time didn't take the oldest to the E.R. when he needed to go. \n\nIs there anyone who has been in a similar situation? He's been stalking me lately and I've been taking pictures every time I've seen him to have proof if anything does happen. I'm positive he is planning something and he has threatened to steal the kids and take them out of country. \n\nI'm about at my wits end but I love my girlfriend and her awesome children. I'd do anything for them and that's what scares me.", "summary": "My amazing girlfriend has to deal with an insane, abusive ex-husband and I want him out of our lives or a positive way to deal with the situation. Legal professionals would be appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_epqmz", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Bought and am reading \"THE STAND UNCUT\" -- was that a wise move or should I have gone with the original?", "post": "I just started \"The Stand,\" by Stephen King. Wanting to get the whole deal, I bought the uncut edition.\n\nReading the novel's introduction, it looks like this edition has about 500 extra pages. THAT IS CRAZINESS. The copy I have right now is 1054 pages. Holy crap, that much more got added -- wow.\n\n**So has anyone read both the uncut and the much shorter original? If so, how do they compare?** I'm reading this now and just beginning to think \"this is long -- this is really, really long,\" and though I'm only 100 pages in a lot of these details don't seem that necessary. The whole introduction to \"The Stand Uncut\" basically is him saying \"this might be an indulgence.\" Thoughts?", "summary": "if you have read the two, did I make a mistake of getting this version of \"The Stand\" (plus your thoughts in general on the two editions)?"}
{"id": "t3_2v89l4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [37 M] with my Wife [29 F]. I talked to my wifes brother and uncovered that he broke up with his g/f. I told him i'm not say anything, but...", "post": "So I talk to my wifes brothers fairly frequently as we're pretty close.  He seemed a bit odd so I asked how he was.  I could tell something was wrong and he said he was fine.  We talked and I asked how he and his g/f were.  He said things were good.  I replied with \"Hmmm.  Really?\"  \"yes, everything is excellent\".  Again I replied with \"For some reason, I don't think you're telling me the truth\".\n\nHe confessed they split up and laughed \"You must have some sixth sense\".  My wife was talking to him too (We were on skype with him).  The skype call barely ended when she called her Mom and Dad to sort of weed out if they knew.  She didn't let on but immediately called her sister and told her that he seemed down and started mentioning He changed his FB picture and she wasn't able to find her on his Facebook.  She checked hers and she was gone off her sisters FB too.\n\nHer sister put 2 and 2 together and now knows without my wife DIRECTLY telling her.  \n\nHer take:  She cares for her brother a lot (and she does) and wanted to get them to call him to cheer him up.  She swears she didn't directly tell anyone.  So she's free and clear.\n\nMy take:  She never should have called her parents or sister and left it to him to tell them when he was ready.  Now, they're going to ask about it.  I feel it was overstepping her bounds.  She disagrees.\n\nWe actually discussed this and just neither one of us can agree.  So, help us, who is in the right here?", "summary": "Wife spilled the beans about her brother splitting with his g/f.  I don't think she should have said anything and left it to him."}
{"id": "t3_42je41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 6 months, no intimacy in our relationship/stagnant intimacy", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nI don't mean to bother any of you with this \"wow my girlfriend is so prude\" stuff, but there's a little more to it than that.\n\nSo here's some context. We've been dating for about 5-6 months now, and it has all been going great! However, our sexual life has sort of remained really bland after like month 1. The \"farthest we've gone\" is just making out. \n\nNow here's the dilemma. I personally think that intimacy is key in a relationship to bond both physically and emotionally and to get closer to your s/o in another way. The problem is that my s/o does not really agree to that, at least I don't think.\n\nSo here's the dilemma. When we're together and things are getting hot, I've tried to \"make a move\" with my hands by grabbing/feeling, but she always responds to that very uncomfortably and would move my hands away/stop kissing me, and frankly, make it extremely awkward and would just try to change the subject. So then I tried talking to her about it, and what she is comfortable with (My worst nightmare is to make her uncomfortable in any situation.) To this, she just replies \"I don't want to talk about it. You just need to go with the flow. Planning stuff is too artificial.\" \n\nNow you can kinda see where I'm at. If I try to \"go with the flow\" she'd stop me, but if I try to define boundaries, she changes the subject and doesn't want to talk about it.\n\nI obviously don't want a relationship centered around sexual stuff, but at the same time, it's incredibly frustrating the situation I am in. \n\nAny advice would be great. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to \"go with the flow\" sexually, but doesn't and doesn't like discussing/defining boundaries.\""}
{"id": "t3_3bjp5z", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to fuck with jocks in the workplace", "post": "Recently started a summer job and I'm surrounded by a bunch of meathead jocks that are at best male shovenists, at worst complete misogynists. Normally I would just go to management, but I already hate the job and know I'll be quitting in a few weeks. Therefore, it doesn't seem worth it to put myself in the position of whistleblower and completely screw over the manager who is actually a nice guy.\n\nI don't want to put a target on my back, but I also don't want to take it lying down. So I'm looking for the best underhanded tactics to fuck with their heads. They're all 19-21 year olds who are really into \"getting swoll (I'm I saying that stupid shit right?)\" and trying to fuck hot skinny bitches. I'm a 29 year old smart chick with no discernible value to them (fuckably speaking) so they blow me off or generally treat me like I'm not there.\n\nSo please, give me your best workplace mindfucks (we don't use computers, or I would already know what to do). Thanks a bunch!", "summary": "I need subtle mind games to mindfuck dumb jock coworkers without putting a target on my back."}
{"id": "t3_kmh6a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, need some classic movie help", "post": "Hello All! I've got a girlfriend who recently told me she doesn't like classic movies?! This came about when we were talking about Disney movies and she said \"I never liked Mary Poppins.\" Which in and of itself isn't too bad, but then she went on with \"I didn't like Chitty Chitty Bang Bang either.\" That concerned me. So I asked her what classic movies she did like, and she told me she didn't like any. I think she's just got this automatic dislike of films because they're in black and white or what have you, so my question is: what classic movies would you recommend to introduce to someone how \"hates\" them?", "summary": "i need great classic movie ideas"}
{"id": "t3_dwfpn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Questions about a girl I asked out on a date - please help", "post": "I'm male, 17, and for about 10 months, I've known this girl who I developed feelings for over time. I'm naturally VERY shy, and as such, I haven't made any advances or anything of the sort, and have remained friends with her for the entire time. We used to not talk as much, but for the past month or two, I have been talking to her very much, and after much self-confidence boosting and contemplation, I decided to just go for it and ask her out on a date this friday, to see Paranormal Activity. This is the first time I have ever asked a girl out on a legitimate date, since my other times were \"hanging out,\" and getting to know a person.\n\nTo my surprise, she responded yes, but with a twist, I suppose. The other part of her response was that she's \"definetly not in the mind set to be in a relationship right now.\" I understand where she is coming from, from my perspective ofc, that she has many things to deal with, such as school and some issues with other friends who are, lets say, immature.\n\nHer type of personality, as I've known, is that she truly wants a working, real relationship, not a sexual one, which is what I want too. She doesn't hook up with guys, and she is very kind, honest, and knows how to make a person smile. :)\n\nThe questions I wanna ask are follows:\n\n-Is this a typical response, in that they are not yes/no, but a \"yes but ___\" response? Is there ever the possibility that there could be more, or should I not get too attached?\n\n-How do dates usually go? I'm super-inexperienced with dating. I'm shy, but I can talk to people I know, but sometimes not to people I'm really attracted to. =x I've only dated one girl, and that was one of those young highschool freshman flings, that didn't teach me anything. Do you guys and gals have any tips for me?\n\nAnything is really appreciated. I'm really proud that I finally stood up and asked someone out on a date, and it worked. :)", "summary": "My first time asking a girl out on a date, she said yes with an interesting \"twist,\" nervous about date and looking for pointers or anything."}
{"id": "t3_1przll", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m]Not sure if I want to break up with my girlfriend[23/f]", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for 2.5 years now (were 23) and for a few months now I have been very confused about what I want.\n\nThe main issue is that we work and live 5h away so we only get to see each other about once a month, sometimes less. Normally I could live with that knowing that it is only for a year or two. But whenever I am away I slowly fall out of love with her. I start having these thoughts of breaking up and such. Then when we are together we get along great, have a great time.\n\nAnother thing bothering me is that my physical attraction towards her is decreasing. I do not want to sound too superficial but I do not find her as pretty as I used to. I can't help it. I feel like I have sex with her just to make her happy.\n\nSometime I think I stay with her for the wrong reasons. I am afraid I wont find a girl I get along as well as her, I am VERY anxious about the idea of making her sad. I have actually tried breaking up with her a while ago and chickened out because of how sad she got.", "summary": "don't know what I want. I get along great with my gf, but I might not love her anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2rz7eq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f23) am going on a roadtrip/show with my ex (m26) tonight", "post": "My ex and I had a nasty relationship/breakup, but we still love each other and the same music. We're both seeing other people now, but we went out together for NYE and it was absolutely amazing so we decided to take a 4 hour drive to see a music producer we both like who's not from our country. \n\nWe have seen each other about 5 times since I moved out, but we did go 'no contact' for about a month. \n\nHow can I assure our trip goes smoothly? I know we aren't ready to get back together, but we are having sex again and both say 'i love you'. I want to keep my feelings separate and not lose my best friend of 8 years.", "summary": "have feelings for my ex know we aren't getting back together (i left him for many reasons cheating being one of them) but we are going on a roadtrip/date to a show and I want it to be fun and memorable"}
{"id": "t3_237lf9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to say hi to a friend", "post": "Not actually today, but back in college, about 21 years ago. I feel like I may have posted this before, maybe in a thread somewhere else, possibly while drunk.\n\nI was a Sociology major before I switched to Psychology, which I ultimately got my degree in. My school didn't think too highly of Sociology; it was more of a business/sciences school and relegated the Sociology classes to a small building on the outskirts of campus along with other commie stuff like Art. As it happened, one of my friends had an art class the same time as one of my Sociology classes and, if I got there early, sometimes I'd stop by to say hi before heading to class.\n\nOne day I got there and she was standing at her easel, talking to the professor. I was early, so I figured I'd hang around for a couple minutes and wait until they were done before saying hi.\n\nAs I was standing there looking in the doorway, I noticed a guy at a closer easel giving me a weird look. I didn't pay him any mind; I figured he probably just thought a guy looking in on the class like that was a little odd and I didn't blame him.\n\nSo after I'd been standing there for a bit longer, wondering just how in-depth this question to the professor was, my gaze wandered a couple degrees to the left and, for the first time, I saw the model: a nude woman.\n\nSo there I've been, staring into this classroom in the general direction of the model for a good three minutes solid. My eyes widened, I said to myself, \"Oh, shit,\" and I bolted for my class, all in the space of about a quarter of a second.\n\nI called her later and told her what happened. She thought it was hilarious and gave me some good-natured shit about being a pervert. Evidently she didn't mention it to the professor though, as every subsequent time I went to say hi, the classroom doors were closed.", "summary": "Went to say hi to a friend in her art class; came off as a giant perv."}
{"id": "t3_51qdqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] gf [21F] sometimes never replies to my texts", "post": "Let me elaborate. If I text my gf about something that happened or something I'm feeling, I don't care if she replies to it or not. But there are times when I text her regarding plans for what to do when we see each other and on multiple occasions she never replies. I would wait a day and a half but no reply. Sometimes she will text me a  day after I sent a text and not even reply to my original text. I find it hard to believe that she doesn't see my text cause she's always on her phone. \n\nWhat's funny about this is that there was one time where I didn't text her all day (was busy with work). I texted her the following morning but she was upset that I didn't text her at all yesterday. \n\nShould I talk to her about this or am I just being whiny?", "summary": "I text my gf who would take a day and a half to text me and may not have replied to my original text. It happens more often than it should."}
{"id": "t3_1vop9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my bf [24 M] duration 8 months. At what point in a relationship should I be worried that certain milestones haven't been hit?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I'm looking for some insight into my relationship. Using a throwaway because my boyfriend knows my account name.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend now for about 8 months, so not terribly long. I want to first point out that I think my boyfriend is pretty great. He makes me laugh, we play, he's supportive if I'm having a bad day, we rarely get into arguments. We have a lot of the same interests and overall, I'd say we get along pretty great relationship and currently I don't really have any issues or complaints.\n\nHowever, I'm wondering at what point I should start being concerned about certain \"milestones\" not being reached? Things like meeting his family, and saying \"I love you\" are things that come to mind. While I do realize that everyone is different and reaches those points in their relationship at different times, there has to be some point in your relationship where, if those things haven't happened, you might start to wonder about the seriousness of your relationship right?\n\nCurrently, we are only at 8 months in so I don't think it's too bad that those things haven't happened, but as each week/month goes by, I do start to wonder if they are going to happen and I wonder if I should be worried that they haven't happened yet.\n\nIs there anyone that had a relationship where it took a long time for big things in your relationship to happen? How did it work out? I really want to have faith and trust that those things will eventually happen, but when I think about my last relationship, it took my ex over a year and a half to say \"I love you\" and he dumped me 3 months later, which led me to believe that he never really loved me and he was just saying because he felt like he should at that point. \n\nFor the record, also, I have talked with him a few times about meeting his family (he's met mine), and he says he's waiting for a time when it happens naturally (not sure if that's weird or not).\n\nSo what do you guys think? At what point should I be worried if certain milestones haven't happened?", "summary": "Been with boyfriend for 8 months. Haven't met his family and he hasn't said \"I love you\" yet. Seems ok for now, but at what point should this be cause for concern?"}
{"id": "t3_3d7ofb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by complementing a girl and getting nervous", "post": "There's a girl that I've been friends with for a while and as a boy I've always enjoyed having a female friend that I'm just genuinely friends with.\nShe sent me a snap of her bored at work. My stupid brain was like \"she'd probably love a compliment!\" so I sent her a snap that said \"at least you look nice!\". After sending said snap I freaked the fuck out because I didn't wanna come across as flirty so I sent another snap that said \"I meant that in the most platonic way possible\" which probably just made it even more awkward. She hasn't talked to me since.", "summary": "I complemented a friend, freaked out and created an awkward situation"}
{"id": "t3_3we97h", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I fell in love with my best friend and its tearing me apart", "post": "A little back story, Ive known her for 6 years. Im 26 m, she is 24 f.  We immediatly clicked, pretty much unseperable since then, she dated my best guy friend for 2 years, broke up with him, then started dating a douchebag, Shes been with him for 2.5 years. Lately things arent going well, he is really emotionally abussive. Severaly times shes shown up at my apartment at 2 am crying because of shit he does and says. At first I didnt want to have any feelings for her, I was doing awesome when she was dating my friend, then when she started dating douchebag I noticed changes in the way she makes me feel. We are the definition of star crossed, there is no way in hell anything between us would ever work, basically, I love her, I wish I could be with her, I daydream of us being together and me wanting nothing more than to keep her gorgeous smile on her face, but I know it wouldnt work out. Sometimes what keeps me going is knowing that in some alternate universe theres a version of me making her the happiest gal on earth. Its soul crushing when she asks for advice on what to do about him, I give her the most unbiased advice I can. I just make her happiness my priority and go from there. Im ok with the fact that she will probably never love me like that, at this point all I hope for is that she finds someone who can make her happy, and push her to make a better person of herself, but this guys not it, and its killing me. Its getting to the point where I am thinking about distancing myself from her, the heart ache is becoming unbearable, but at the same time I dont want to go away at a time when she really needs me.", "summary": "Fell in love with friend, I just want her to be happy, shes with a douchebag whos the opposite of whats good for her, feelings for her are making it hard to stick around or give unbiased advice."}
{"id": "t3_1cwctt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She (21/F) left me (23/M) for not being mature or a man. I need help.", "post": "Alright so she left me on Friday and said \"I can't be with you right now, I probably shouldn't be with anyone right now\" There seems to be a chance that we could get back together if I prove myself to her. I've gotten my friends input and they all said to move on, but I believe she is worth fighting for and I have no idea how to show her my worth.\n\nShe felt bought because I sent her three packages over the course of the relationship, One for christmas, one because she wanted to play Monster Hunter, and the third was some monster hunter figures and a LED Portal core and she felt alone in the relationship because I didn't support her when her aunt was put into the hospital and for other times when her family was being evil. \n\nI'm seeing a therapist and talking with a lot of my friends. Any ideas how to win back her affections with out making her feel bought?", "summary": "She left, I want to be back with her, How to do it with out making her feel bought and showing that I'm there for her."}
{"id": "t3_upzzx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most unjust thing that you got accused for at school?", "post": "My experience still angers me when I think about it. This happened during my freshmen year in high school and currently, I'm a senior in college. \n\nSo it was about a month since I had started at the new school in a small town in NH. I was sitting at a lunch table with a few people I had gotten to know. \n\nAll of a sudden, there was a big splat right in front of me. Some idiot had thrown a pudding cup at our table. All the girls ran out screaming. Then another splat within a foot of the other pudding cup exploded. The lunch lady started screaming bloody murder and ran towards me. I guess she thought I had stomped the cups or something. The principle joins her and tells me to clean it up immediately. \nI said that I didn't do anything, I was just sitting there and they landed in front of me. The principle told me to clean it ASAP or I'd have detention. I stood up for myself and said that I wasn't responsible so I wouldn't do it. About 10 mins later, I was in detention.\n\n Nobody was questioned as to what really happened. I was just targeted for no reason. They called my mom, a physicist who knew that I wouldn't even harm a fly. They had left the pudding there so that she could see \"what I had done, and make me clean up the mess\". Luckily, the splatter was in such way that the most of the pudding was splattered in one direction. Both of the pudding splatters were splattered in the same direction. Thus the pudding was thrown and not stomped on. Let's just say that the principle apologized and turned very red.", "summary": "I got wrongfully accused about splattered pudding cups and got a detention before my physicist mom used her degree to prove the wrongful accusation."}
{"id": "t3_2r7xbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "should I(F, 21) make the first move with the guy i've been seeing(M, 31)?", "post": "so i've been talking to this guy for almost a month now and we still haven't even kissed... we've hung out 4 times (2 dates, a netflix date, his family BBQ). Last night he ended up spending the night at my place. He's a quiet guy and pretty shy, he even admitted that himself. \nSo here we are waking up on the couch all entangled in each other and he has to go and its every time we say good bye it gets awkward. its like all of a sudden he's afraid of touching me even though his hands were all over me a bit ago. \n\nit's just a little weird, here i met his family yet he's shy enough to not even give me a kiss. maybe i'm just use to the overly cocky, aggressive type. \n\nhe's really sweet and caring and we've both admitted we like each other. i'm fine with going slow, I really don't want to fuck this up. So i'm curious on people's opinions on whether or not i should go in for the kiss.", "summary": "should i just go in for a kiss? or should i just let him move at his own pace?"}
{"id": "t3_c2v6l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some help Reddit. My sister sold things for me on Ebay and I think its a scam.", "post": "I'll keep it short and sweet.  \n\n1. I had my sister sell some $2000 hand scanners (like Fedex uses) for me on ebay. \n2. She handled the details, using her ebay account. The buyer is in Ukraine and had 200+ good reviews. I was hesitant but I trusted her call on it.\n3. He paid, I shipped them and after two weeks the guy said he didn't receive them.\n4. I called US Postal Service and put a trace on the package to see where it was, they said they'd get back within 60 work days (they haven't yet.)\n5. The guy then said they arrived but were on hold because I had put their value on the shipping slip. Apparently the Ukrainian government held it, so he had them ship it back.\n6. Now he says I'm to ship it back and put the value on them to being $200. I have a problem with this. I don't lie. Especially not on government forms or in general. I am an eagle scout.  \n\nAny suggestions from anyone *with experience* on what to do? I am hoping one of you might work at eBay or paypal and can let me know what this process is, if there is any protection for sellers? Will I have to give the money back no matter what? Is there investigation like the Postal Service did? can I use that as evidence?", "summary": "I love my sister and even if she lost me a chunk of money, Reddit should know. edits: I suck at markdown."}
{"id": "t3_4ub8dc", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[IL] Tourism Visa Denial at O'Hare Airport Question", "post": "I am dating a girl who lives in Mexico.  I am an engineer and the company I work for has a production facility there. I have to travel there for work and I met her there and we started dating.  I wanted to have her up here to visit my family.  I will be back in Mexico in late August, so the plan was to just go back to Mexico with me when I had to go there for work again.\n\nThis was all thrown for a loop today when I was at O'Hare waiting to pick her up.  She brought a lot of stuff and I assume the border officers interpreted this as her intending to stay illegally, despite this not being the case.  She has a legal tourism visa from Mexico.  I don't know what she said to the officers, as I haven't been able to get the chance to really talk to her at all.  She is supposed to be on a flight back to Mexico tomorrow morning at 715 CT.\n\nI have numerous questions, but here are a few.  Is there any way to prevent this from happening so she can still visit?  What can be done to prevent this in the future?  What should I do now?  I was looking forward to seeing her so much and now that has been pulled out from under me like a rug.  I am still in shock and have many more questions, but if there is any way to allow her to stay so I can see her that would be incredible, despite me knowing in the back of my mind this is probably not possible.", "summary": "My Mexican gf was denied entry at O'Hare due to authorities thinking she was going to stay illegally.  She isn't.  What should I do?  Can this be prevented so she isn't sent back tomorrow morning?"}
{"id": "t3_2l3jam", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flooding my work bathroom with poop water", "post": "I should have taken a shit before work, but for some reason I never have to go until I get to work. I didn't even have time to put down my belongings at my desk, I literally just went straight to the shitter and dropped a huge turd with a fellow coworker in the stall next to me. What happened next will haunt my dreams forever. The toilet's water pressure is bad enough as it is, and combine that with a huge turd and mass amounts of toilet paper I try to flush, and it clogged badly and water from the toilet started overflowing onto the floor. All of this is happening while a coworker is in the stall next to me, also ankle deep in my shit water. The coworker yells loudly and quickly exits the bathroom yelling a bunch of profanities. Mortified, I devise a plan to get back to my desk so no one will see who was responsible for this mess. As soon as I exit the bathroom, a custodian and at least 5 coworkers are standing outside wondering what the hell happened. I tried to play it off like it wasn't my fault, but I know deep down that I did wrong. I'm too embarrassed to even show my face at work tomorrow.", "summary": "Took a monster dump, clogged my work toilet and flooded bathroom with a coworker in the stall next to me."}
{"id": "t3_3du1u4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my boyfriend [18/M] for three years, I think I'm addicted to sex.", "post": "Update: There are more details in reply to others comments.\n\nI'm not certain, but I think I'm addicted to sex with my boyfriend.\n\nI have had sexual activity with him for a year now, but I have only had direct sex for the first time a few weeks ago.\nI think I started noticing that I wanted to have sex more often a week and a half afterwards and I never thought it was a problem until now.\n\nI noticed I have been much more sexually active during the last week and want him every day now.\nMy thoughts have been about sex much more often now.\nHe is willing to have sex every time I want, but I don't understand as he is a busy person.\n\nI'm scared it will become a problem in my life with friends.", "summary": "I want to have sex with my boyfriend every day, but I think it will become a problem with my life"}
{"id": "t3_3buhqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] just started dating someone [28 F] and she just told me she has borderline personality disorder. I really need advice.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl now for about two weeks, and we've really hit it off in a way that I've never really experienced before. We are incredibly passionate, which I love. Just the thought of her gives me butterflies (first time thats happened since I was a teenager).\n\nTwo nights ago she told me that she has borderline personality disorder (bpd). It's a serious mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior, and relationships. \n\nAfter a quick Google search about \"dating somebody with bpd\", I learned that being in a relationship with somebody who has bpd is essentially a waking nightmare. I'm scared out of my mind. I really like this girl, but I don't want to be in a relationship with somebody who is going to tear me down and throw my life into a never-ending emotional roller coaster.\n\nThen again, I really seem to like this girl and I really feel like a dick for even thinking about splitting off from her because she has a mental illness that she can't control.\n\nI feel like I'm in a situation where I'm screwed either way. Either I keep seeing this girl, hoping that I can endure a relationship with more downs than ups, or I break off one of the better things to happen to me in the past year.\n\nI would really appreciate some friendly and wise advice - I feel stranded, confused, and alone right now.", "summary": "Scared shitless about continuing to date somebody who is guaranteed to cause me significant amounts of emotional harm."}
{"id": "t3_1yofjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am not sure if I should have sex with my Girlfriend [16 F] of a couple months.", "post": "Ill make this as quick as possible. I got a girlfriend who has a chronic illness that limitss her lifespan and causes life threatening problems as well as hyper mobility disabilities (dislocations, myalgia, difficulty using her body) making it difficult to do everyday tasks (EDS). She has mild autism and is very high functioning, no one besides me would be able to tell. She was also abused as a child and is still in contact with her family. So obviously she has a lot of baggage and she has been slowly releasing this information ever the past couple months while we have been growing closer in many different ways. I don't think this will work out in the long run because of college (We both started college this year and she is VERY intelligent.) and she has told me she would not want to get married to anyone. We are getting close to having sex and I don't know how to feel about this. I especially do not want to hurt her if it becomes to much for me and I want out. On the other hand she is mainly pushing the sexual relationship 60/40 and she has a shortened life span so, you know, why not live it up, that is what she has done her whole life.", "summary": "My GF has a chronic illness (EDS), mild autism, and lots of baggage. I don't know how long the relationship will last. Should I have sex with her? I dont want to hurt her (emotionally, i guess)."}
{"id": "t3_188d63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20]m trying to take it slow with [25]f with kid.", "post": "I asked a girl out from work to a movie last night. She is 25 years old and has a 3 year old son. We had a great time at the movie and kissed afterwards (first date).\n\n Now the the problem I face, I wanted to take it slow with her. Reason being is her kid, I feel that I am in no way mature or responsible enough to support a child and I frankly don't feel ready for it. I don't think I'm being an asshole for thinking these things and I intend to tell her tomarrow. Also I understand that she is 5 years older and I'm sure she is more looking to settle down with someone which I still have the same problems with that.\n\nI need advice on how to handle this situation and how I should tell her without offending her. I of course am willing to work on things with her and maybe I can take on more of the responsibilities she brings to the table.\n(Writtin on phone, sorry for any errors or hard to follow.)", "summary": "in need of advice on how to show my concerns with her and her kid."}
{"id": "t3_2am35n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've (21M) been thinking about my Ex (20f) from years ago, even though I love my current girlfriend (21) and don't understand why.", "post": "So as the title says, I've been thinking about her. I'll call her Girl A. We dated years ago while I was finishing high school and during my first year of college. We were together for about 10 months. It was a good relationship, but it isn't what I'd call sophisticated. This was before I had a car of my own. Other obstacles prevented us from having a deeper relationship, our age being the biggest one. I didn't really look at these factors until recently. \n\nI met my current girlfriend during my first year of college and we hit it off immediately. I'll call her Girl B. During this time, I started to feel distance between me and Girl A. She was into performance arts and spent most of her time with her theater friends, and that was a problem for me. I broke up with her. A few weeks later, I asked Girl B out. That was almost 3 years ago. \n\nThroughout my relationship with Girl B we have had some problems here or there. But we worked through them. About 7 months ago I almost broke up with her because I wasn't feeling as strong. Since then, things have been better than ever.\n\nThe crazy thing is, the past month or so Girl A has been on my mind. Just typing this hurts because I love Girl B so much. \n\nA small part of me wishes I could give Girl A another chance, or at least have the option to, but the bigger part of me loves my current girlfriend. I feel like me and Girl A didn't get to a far enough level in a relationship, like it was cut short. \n\nI haven't seen, let alone talked to Girl A in at least a year, so I don't know why these feelings are hitting me now. \n\nAny input is appreciated. If you guys have questions I'm happy to answer them. Thanks.", "summary": "Currently dating a great girl and love her very much, but thoughts of my ex girlfriend have been haunting me lately. Why am I feeling this way???"}
{"id": "t3_46vh4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [28 F] of 5 years, infidelity...what do you think of having her tell her best friends what she has done rather than get a divorce?", "post": "I have been married to my wife for 5 years. In the past, while we were married she was unfaithful with a complete piece of crap human being. From what I can gather she went after a \"bad boy\" type because I am too normal and responsible. \n\nAfter that she promised never to talk with him or have any contact with him. \n\nWhile on work trip I discovered a facebook chat conversation between then saying some pretty messed up things. I confronted her about it and again she is apologetic and says it will never happen again...\n\nThere was never a consequence the last time for what she did and I don't feel like she will keep her word his time without something to persuade her.\n\n What do you think about printing out the conversation she had with him and making her show a couple of her best friends so they know what she did? \n\nI have also made it very clear that if there is any contact what so ever between them again that I will ask for a divorce. I want her friends to know that as well.\n\nIs this a terrible idea? \n\nI'm sorry about the crappy writing, I'm actually a really well versed and educated person, I'm just not thinking completely straight at the moment.", "summary": "Wife cheated 3 years ago, had a dirty conversation with him again yesterday. Should I make her show her friends what she did?"}
{"id": "t3_uv7u1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the most random and out of the blue thing someone has said to you?", "post": "A few years ago, my grandma was in hospice. I was sitting in the room with my grandfather. He just randomly says, \"If you ever get into a fight with a black person, just kick them in the shin.\" I had no idea what the hell to say so I just kinda looked at him confused. He continued, \"You can hit them in the head all you want and they'll just keep coming at you. But, kick them in the shin and they'll be crying like babies.\" I had no idea what else to say so I just said \"Ok grandpa.\"", "summary": "Kick them in the shin."}
{"id": "t3_dy2zp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A younger friend was diagnosed with situational depression and asked me to be his mentor.  What advice do you have for when we hang out?", "post": "I'm currently a junior in college and am part of an (christian affiliated) organization that hangs out with high school kids.  A new kid started coming recently that I could tell right away was a little shyer than others.  Tonight he told me that he was recently diagnosed with situational depression and was wondering if I could be the older guy he can hangout with, talk with, and rely on.  \n\nDone deal, I'm honored.\n\nWhat advice do you have, Reddit?  I can already tell we have a lot of the same interests (nerd stuff), but what do I really **need** to tell him or let him get off his chest?  I assume to just straight up listen is step one, but there has to be some y'all who might have been in the same situation as him and know what I should say.  Thank you.", "summary": "What advice do you have for me with I hang out with my younger (highschool) friend who has situational depression?"}
{"id": "t3_1dtfco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am looking for a bit of advice regarding my friend who I have feelings for [22F].", "post": "So, long story short, Me, my friend, and his current girlfriend, are all roommates, and have been for about three months (I've known them for a couple years). About a week ago, by means of a conversation we had after going to see a movie at one of the local theaters, my roommates girlfriend told me she has feelings for me, and I admitted I have feelings for her as well. We have talked a lot about it since then, and have agreed that nothing will happen while they are still together. She has said that she is not sure about her relationship with him, and needs time to figure it out, among other things, but did say that it is possible, if they do break up, that something could possibly happen between us. I have no reservations about this happening, and I am not looking for advice on whether or not I should do this if the time comes. I have decided I will try in that situation. I've always been the underdog, and it's that time in my life where I just have to take a chance.  My question is this; am I setting myself up for a major disappointment? I know this is almost impossible to tell without knowing many other things, but I need to be prepared for nothing to happen between us. If nothing happens, how can I get over it? I have strong feelings for her, and am not sure how i could cope when/if this doesn't pan out the way i might want it to.", "summary": "Mutual feelings between me and my roommate, wondering how to cope if it goes nowhere."}
{"id": "t3_qllaf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I always seem to psych myself out....! :-\\", "post": "Hi guys/girls,\n\nI'm not entirely sure if this is the right section for the post but wasn't sure where else to put it. I am a 26 year old male.\n\nI'll start by saying I recently got out of a 7 year relationship about 8-9 months ago, so obviously since I was in a relationship since I was 18-19 I'm not too experienced with the \"dating world\". I'm usually a fairly shy guy and not the best socially but definitely not the worst most social situations.\n\nSince my LTR ended I've met a few new girls, one was a FWB arrangement that went on for a few months and mutually ended. Since then I feel like I'm ready for something a little more and maybe even another relationship if the right person comes along.\n\nSo I've got a few girls numbers over the last few months to arrange to meet up for a date but every single time I get a number I seem to overthink everthing and I psych myself out from contacting them again.... I think things along the lines of I won't really know what to say or how to keep a good conversation going in a 1 on 1 situation with a girl that I hardly know.. So I just don't bother calling/messaging them and by the time I want to it's way too late :-\\\n\nThat has happened 3 times now....\n\nAny tips/advice to help me overcome this?\n\n(Sorry if it doesn't make complete sense, wrote it on my phone from work)", "summary": "I always psych myself out from contacting a girl after getting a number by automatically assuming that I won't have anyhting to say and things will just be awkward."}
{"id": "t3_290wrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (F28) tell him (M29)?", "post": "I picked up my 7 month old son from daycare today since my husband had to ref 4 soccer games and wont be home until late.\nHe was REALLY cranky because he's teething and it's just awful. Anyway, when we got home he was crying and it sounded like he said \"ma ma ma ma\". I thought maybe he was just making random noises until about 20 minutes later I was getting his dinner ready and he started crying again and said \"MA MA MA MA\"\nShould I tell my husband that I think our son said his first word while he wasn't home? Or should I keep quiet until I know for sure that he was saying 'mama'?", "summary": "Son might have said his first word, do I tell hubby?"}
{"id": "t3_2ciihy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF and I [23F] are ending a four year relationship", "post": "I'm unsure what to do with staying in touch. \n\nWe decided to break up at the end of the summer before I go back to uni and he starts work. This has come after a long time of us both thinking about it but not wanting to be without each other. It's been long distance for the past two years and it's been getting harder and harder because (we're both guilty of this but I would say he's worse as he gets more distant) when we haven't seen each other for a while we do tend to get quite irritated with each other and our conversations aren't always pleasant. \nLong distance was going to be harder this year as I'd have more uni work and he'd be working full time so we would get to see each other even less and Skype etc would also not be as easy. \n\nHe also says he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now and I do understand that. He's starting a new phase of his life and he probably wants to have new experiences before he settles down. \n\nWe still get on really well and it's not unthinkable that we might end up together again once I'm graduated and living in the same city. I don't want to have no contact with him because of this and also because I can't imagine not having him in my life. But I also don't want to carry on talking normally and being broken up but in a limbo unable to move on.\n\nHow much should we agree to talk?", "summary": "how much to talk after amicable breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_30a7z2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating my tooth.", "post": "This is probably not the right place to add this funny thing. \n\nThis didn't happened to me or today. \n\nSo basically we are left with FU.\n\nMy cousin was eating corn and this was salty corn with chilly and stuff. Very common in Mexico. After eating his mouth/tooth hurt. He realized that his tooth fell off. Common thing he was 14. \n\nHe took his tooth out and swallowed the remaining food. Well lets just say that what he took out wasn't his tooth, but an actual piece of corn. Needless to say he swallowed his tooth and took a regular piece if corn thinking it was his tooth. \n\nIt was really funny to us who were in the car and simply laughed.", "summary": "My was eating corn and his tooth came out. He accidentally swallowed it."}
{"id": "t3_40lz7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am having difficulty holding friendships and I think it's because I come off as fake?", "post": "Alright, well for most of my life I've pretty much been one to only hang out with like 3-4 people at a time since I've never really been one to have too many friends. Well, I just started my first year of college this year as a Freshman and have been trying to change that. \n\nI basically reached out to a bunch of people that I knew who went to my university through a blogging website. We've met up several times, had dinner, but the relationships/friendships never seemed to go anywhere. We would usually have dinner once or twice and then it would end right there. \n\nBy end, I mean, they would \"unfollow\" me from the blogging site, Snapchat, and ignore me. I don't think I ever did anything wrong to begin with. Even my close friends agreed that I was polite to these people and they're not sure why they decided not to keep in touch.\n\nWhen I step outside and look from a different perspective, though, I can see how I can maybe come off as \"fake\". Me, personally, am  very outspoken about my opinions and I don't usually have too much of a filter. While I'm aware of this, I think whenever I meet new people, I try to repress that side of me and thus, I come off as \"fake\". \n\nI'm usually over polite, I make too much small talk, and I ask too many questions in an attempt to not show my \"true\" side since I feel like most people may not like it.\n\nSo, I can either be my true self (loud, opinionated, funny, no filter) and lose friends that way or I can be my \"nice/fake\" self and continue to lose friends like I'm doing now..\n\nWhat to do?\n\nP.S. Is this normal in college? The making friends part? Does it take a while?", "summary": "I'm having difficulty keeping friendships in college with new people because I feel that I come off as \"fake\" in an attempt to repress my true self."}
{"id": "t3_ioskw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I know if a Redditor is not interested or just completely oblivious to me hitting on him?", "post": "This might seem silly but there was a Redditor who posted something that caught my attention a few months ago. At that time, I added him to my friends list. I flirted with him a little in his thread but left it at that. Occasionally, I'll open the friends tab and I'll see his posts. They are usually funny, well thought-out and interesting. I decided I wanted to be his friend so I send him a message. Days later, he sent me one back and told me to add him on Facebook. I tried chatting with him on the Facebook chat but the conversation fizzled after a few sentences. Now I'm sure there is a good possibility he was just busy at the time, which is totally cool. I'm just not sure how to tell his interest level and I'm afraid of coming off too strong. I'd just like to get to know him.\n\nAs embarrassing as this is, I've never hit on a guy before, much less someone who is a stranger. I'm generally a really shy, private person so I'm at a loss as to my next step. I think this guy and I could really hit it off but I don't know if it's something I should continue to pursue. To add to this, I'm actually moving near him this fall (for a completely unrelated reason). Should I continue to try to talk to him or just forget the whole thing?", "summary": "I want to be his friend, damnit."}
{"id": "t3_138p8r", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I want to go to college and have some questions. Please help!", "post": "Hi! I'm 22 (F) and I live in Canada. I have been working full-time since I graduated high school at a job that I enjoy quite a bit, however, it doesn't pay very well (just a couple dollars over minimum wage). It's starting to seem like I'll have to go to college if I ever want to make a higher wage, so with that being said, I have some questions.\n\nI don't really have a career \"passion\" or anything like that, never have... so it really just feels like I'm choosing a program based on what I think I will hate the least. I work full-time and don't live too close to any colleges, so I'm planning to do the work online. Out of the online courses that are available from colleges in my province, I thought that either a \"Administrative assistant\" or \"Medical Office assistant\" course might be interesting. I'm just not sure what the demand is like for those positions, and I'm not sure how to find out. I support myself 100% and have no financial help from family or anything like that, so if I am going to take a college course (which would require a loan), I definitely want to make sure I can actually get a job once I complete the course. That's basically the biggest thing holding me back from actually signing up for a course - I'm afraid that I'll finish it, won't be able to find a job, I'll have a student loan to pay back... yikes.\n\nI've also looked at [Athabasca University] as a possibility, as they have a pretty big selection of courses, however I'm a little hesitant because I don't know anyone that's gone through Athabasca (so I'm just not sure what to expect/if it's what I'm looking for, etc.) So, if anyone can make any recommendations on Athabasca courses, that would be helpful as well. I'm just looking for something that will make it fairly simple for me to actually find a job once the course is over.", "summary": "Want to go to college, but afraid because I'm not sure what course to take, and if I'll be able to find a job when it's done. Does anyone know/is there any way to find what the job demand would be like for \"Administrative assistant\" or \"Medical Office assistant\" positions? Or, can anyone recommend a course for any job that is in fairly high demand?"}
{"id": "t3_2jvaj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get my [19/f] sister's boyfriend [19/m] to stop being so loud for the sake of my neighbors' mental health?", "post": "So about five minutes ago around midnight my neighbor knocked pretty loudly at my door essentially begging me to have my sister's boyfriend quiet down.  I was obviously mortified, and told my sister to tell her boyfriend to stop being so loud.\n\nI wish this was an isolated incident, but this isn't the first time this had happened.  He stays up really late (3am sometimes) yelling and laughing and we've told him multiple times to stop but he doesn't.  The worst part is that he's defensive about it and doesn't seem to think he's really doing anything wrong.  This really isn't even the only thing he does that has put a burden on my family but that's probably better for another post...\n\nHow do I get him to see that he's being incredibly inconsiderate to our neighbors?", "summary": "Sister's bf won't shut up past 10pm and is defensive about it. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_20sd8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M/24) girlfriend (F/23) is trying to convert me into a Muslim, would like some insight on this.", "post": "Hey /r/Relationships! This is an obvious throwaway account. I'll try to post as much detail as possible.\n\nSome background, when I was little, my parents raised me as a Catholic. But as I grew older, I did not associate myself with any religion. I am **not** against any religions, in fact, I have a very open view on all religions and I appreciate everyone's opinions and faith.\n\nToday, my girlfriend asked me to convert into a Muslim. At first I thought it was a joke, because her and her friends would always joke about me becoming a Muslim. But I found out she was being serious and I wasn't sure how to respond but to say \"I can't.\"\n\nI also want to say that before we started dating, we made an agreement that I will not convert and if that is something that will get in between us, I don't think a relationship would be a good idea.\n\nAnyways, she goes on and on about why I should. So I asked her, why all of a sudden she's asking me to convert. She says that before we get any further into our relationship, her parents wants me to convert.\n\nNow, I really love this girl, but I don't want to convert for the wrong reason. I keep telling her that if I converted, it'd be for the wrong reason. (I've been told that converting for your wife is not a good idea. Something along those lines.)\n\nSo what do I do? Is there anything I can do to compromise?", "summary": "Girlfriend/Girlfriend's Family wants me to convert into a Muslim. I don't want to. Any way I can compromise?"}
{"id": "t3_udzb3", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Is there an easy way to move on if there are no hard feelings and are still great friends?", "post": "I recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend (both 20) of four years. There were never any hard feelings and we still hang out quite often, with that sometimes leading to more than hanging out. We both don't want to enter a relationship again with the fears the same thing will happen for the third time (feeling like there's no future/lack of interest).\n\nShe's also starting to be pretty friendly with another guy who likes her. Although she says she's not as keen as he is, I think they'd be good together. The thought of it still makes me feel sick though. \n\nI know the right thing to do for her and him is to stay completely out of it, but it's extremely hard to think of being replaced and breaking off all ties with someone you've been so close to and are still great friends with. If I do stay friends with her then I will potentially (and inevitably) have to painfully witness said replacement. \n\nIt's difficult to know what to do. If anyone else has similar stories, or experience with dealing with something similar, please share.", "summary": "Having trouble leaving behind physical attraction while trying to maintain a close friendship with ex."}
{"id": "t3_1bysxs", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I'm getting slower even with lots of training, please help", "post": "I began running in 8th grade track, and quickly became the fastest runner on the team, with a 5:18 1500 and a 2:31 800. Then I went to high school, where I did cross country, and started at 20:00, and got down to a 19:18 in the middle of the season, then went back up again, finally finishing at 20:05.\n\nThen I did track that year, and I was pretty happy with my times. They moved at a steady crawl downward, with a 5:18 mile, 11:39 3200, and 2:26 800 at the end of the season.\n\nI came out of that season determined to do likewise for cross country. So that summer, I ran every day, putting in 30-40 miles per week over the whole summer (with a few 2-a-days). First day of practice, I got 15:22 on our 4k time trial course (It's really hilly). I was really happy with that. My first 5k time was 18:31, then steadily got worse until it steadied at about 19:30. After the last meet, I was devastated.\n\nOver the winter, I again ran every day, and switched to minimalist shoes in December on the advice of a friend. I liked that a fair amount, got my calves stronger. Then track started and I was waaaay behind where I should have been. As in, times slower than eighth grade, when i first started running. I switched back to regular running shoes earlier this week, hoping it would make a difference, and I got my 800 back down to 2:33. But the 16 and 32 today were just so awful I need to figure something out. 6:00 and 13:30. Does anybody have any ideas to help me?", "summary": "I've always been a good runner, but even after lots of training, I'm getting slower and slower. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_1wj9hu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! Someone keyed my car last week, managed to get ahold of video footage but it's not completely clear. I know 100% who did it, what to do now? :(", "post": "Last week, a valet guy came up to me and yelled at me/my mom saying we didn't have \"his permission\" to park. I had entered and the valet booth was vacated, so we just parked wherever. He came storming into the restaurant, screaming, demanding that we give up our keys or otherwise he would call the police. Obviously I wasn't about to be threatened by this guy, so I told him that if he didn't want us to \"park without his permission\" he should be doing his job properly. He stormed off in a rage, when I came home my car was keyed. I managed to get some poor quality footage from the restaurant which very unclearly shows him at the back of my car, although I can't see him keying my car with certainty. I know 100% it is him after seeing this footage. The footage isn't good enough for a police report. I don't know what to do; the damage to my car was pretty bad :( someone's suggesting at least $1000+ to fix the scratch.", "summary": "guy keyed my car, have poor footage that isn't going to help with a police report/arrest. what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ie8a1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "17/m(me) and 17/f feel like more than friends, but not involved romantically.", "post": "So me and this girl have known each other quite a while and ive had times where I thought I was in love but then said nah because I think we have such an amazing friendship and I don't want to ruin it. \n\nBut we hold hands, we tell each other we love each other and we hug and its awesome but we don't call each other best friend and we don't call each other bf/gf. Nor do we kiss. We acknowledge that the other is attractive etc and I really enjoy her company but...\n\nI just don't know what we have. Are we romantically involved with each other or are we just friends? Is there any in-between?", "summary": "17/m and 17/f hold hands and hug and tell each other they love each other but dont consider themselves friends nor bf/gf"}
{"id": "t3_yzk4x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need advice on an ex girlfriend and how to approach it.", "post": "My girlfriend had broken up with me. Things didn't work out. It's been a few months and I still see her fairly often. I pick her up from whereever, sleep at her house all the time etc. However she doesn't want to pick up the pieces and continue forth as she isn't ready, which is fair. School started and I'm scared we will drift apart, that my role in her life would become merely a fond memory of the past. I cant seem to move on myself. I tried many times. Ended up sleeping with multiple women but I cant shake the thoughts of her. She was perfect for me. We work so well together. How can I get her to sway back to me in the ways I had before?", "summary": "Had an ex gf, cant get over her still huge part of each others lives. School started. Fear of us drifting apart. Want something back in the form of romance."}
{"id": "t3_35pmur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my SO [24M] of two years, what is the most effective way to talk to my partner about not coming home last night?", "post": "This morning I woke up at 7am and rolled over to find an empty bed. I called my partner and the phone went to VM. I texted his friend who texted back 45 minutes later that my SO slept over last night. He's coming home shortly and now that I am not worried anymore, I feel very angry. \n\nHow should I address him when he comes home? I have no concerns about cheating, but I feel slighted because I had not heard from him since 7pm last night and I wish he would have at least texted. I know better than to meet him at the door yelling and screaming, but I don't know what *to* say.", "summary": "How to have a grown-up conversation with my partner after he failed to come home last night?"}
{"id": "t3_4bb6wu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] going on vacation with my friend [21 F]", "post": "I was recently telling my friend how I wanted to plan a trip somewhere after my graduation, and she intimated that she would be interested in going on the trip with me. I was super happy to hear her suggest that idea. \n\nSo this friend was actually friends with my family first and they met each other through church. Her and I have started getting to know each other better over the last year, and I have come to see how beautiful of a person she is. \n\nI'm really interested in the potential of a relationship with her, but I know I still have to take things slowly. So even though her suggestion was most welcome, it was quite surprising that she would be willing to go on an international trip with me. We haven't even discussed the rooming situation. What should I make of this? How far should I read into this?", "summary": "what am I to make of a family friend willing to go on vacation with me?"}
{"id": "t3_1cpk9k", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm sick of your shit.", "post": "Do you know what the difference between your four year degree and mine is? I submitted a thesis to graduate and you did student teaching and took some certifying exams. I am no less qualified than you. I am no dumber than you, and yet I get paid a third of your salary and you feel like you can shit on me day after day because you're a certified teacher. I don't care that much about the money because I'm doing what I love, but I deserve some goddamn respect. Don't act surprised every time I make an intelligent comment, don't make pot shot jokes about how I'm a para, you fucking dick.\n\nOh, you say, \"You're one of the good ones.\" Because that makes it fucking better that you're essentially calling my job worthless and saying an idiot could do it? Fuck you for making me feel insecure, fuck you for making me feel like the bad grammar in this stupid fucking rant somehow proves my worthlessness. And I AM going to fuck you over. I'm filling two positions because the district won't pay someone what they're worth and you can't find anyone to hire. I'm going to fucking quit, and then where will you be, you giant gaping asshole?", "summary": "If you want to hire someone with a BA don't treat them like shit and pay them with dirt. I'm tired of thinking of the kids."}
{"id": "t3_4lvio4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [33/M] I found out my wife [32/F] is on a dating site! What should I do?", "post": "For a long period I have been suspicious about all the extra overtime my wife has been doing at work, why she doesn't always return my calls until hours have gone past when she goes on different business trips. So I went on Google and tried to find ways to check if she was cheating on me\u2026 you know different signs and such (mucho many alarm bells went off the more and more I read). \n\nSo I found a site that asks for an e-mail and then checks a bunch of dating sites to see if they have an account\u2026 turns out she's on one of them. I am devastated. :( What should I do? Confront her? Try and register on the dating sites to see if she really has an account to get some more proof? Please help!", "summary": "I fond out my wife has an account on a dating site, should I confront her or find more proof?"}
{"id": "t3_4sd89r", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Miss work and finish school early, or push back graduation by about a year?", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nSo to start off, my GF and I's financial situation is relatively good. We make comfortable money and live a relatively comfortable life. I also have enough money saved up to graduate so that's really not a factor. Here's my dilemma though:\n\n**Option A:** I can choose to continue working my full time hours, going to school at nights Monday-Thursday and working during the day, however I'm looking at a graduation date of December 2017/January 2018.\n\n**Option B:** I take half days, possibly miss full days of work, but have a graduation date of January 2017, followed by a significant raise from work.\n\nTaking option A, my life will go on as it is, no changes in finances, but just extending the PITA that is college. Taking option B, money could get tight, probably call for a lifestyle change, but we could make it work. Of course, I'd make my schedule up to miss as little work as possible, but it's hard to plan ahead with my school as far as I'm trying to. Also, option B allows for me to get a good raise from work sooner.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Stay in my current financial situation, graduate in a year and a half **OR** make less money, but graduate with a raise in 6 months"}
{"id": "t3_jbniw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got into some trouble at work today and i feel wronged", "post": "I work in a movie theater that has a seperate company who runs the snack bar. Today i went up to the counter after i had clocked out and had gotten some popcorn to munch on while i waited for my ride to get there. So to pass the time, i chatted with the snack bar girl, seeing as there was no one in the lobby. Keep in mind i just bought somethig. Then the snack bar manager comes and yells at me to go away and let her work. She then tells my manager that ive been keeping her workers from doing there job. I feel really wronged because im a frequent customer who has given at least 300$ to them over the past year", "summary": "i got yelled at after i had clocked out at work and was talking to the snack bar girl as a customer"}
{"id": "t3_4gc9ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating 33M for 5 months now. I'm 26F. How to get closer emotionally or build stronger bond?", "post": "Hi there. Throwaway account.\n\nI feel stupid for asking this but I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We get along great but I don't know how to get him to open up emotionally.\n\nWhenever I try to get closer and get to know more about him as a person, I feel like he has to act all \"manly\" as to not appear emotional to me. He would tell me he's a very simple person and doesn't think about \"emotional\" stuff. Prior to dating me, he had a very long term relationship that ended pretty bad. His ex cheated on him and he was very hurt from that. It's been almost 2 years since they broke up.\n\nI was cheated on by my ex as well in my last relationship and my boyfriend knows this. But we were still just friends when I told him (we were getting closer as friends and he eventually asked me out around Christmas time).\n\nI want to get closer to him emotionally but I also feel bad for bringing up bad memories if he doesn't want to answer questions about his past or the relationship. Every time I try to bring up something emotional to be closer to him, I feel like he's closing himself off to appear strong and that nothing bothers him.\n\nWhat should I do? I feel like this is a hurdle I need to get over in order for this relationship to work.", "summary": "bf closes himself off when I try to open him up or get closer emotionally. Not sure what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_htuqp", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Osgood-Schlatter and running", "post": "Anyone here have Osgood-Schlatter? I was told I had it as a young teen and told it would go away after my growth spurt. I am now 25, done growing (6'1\"), and still suffering through constant pain. \n\nMost of the time it's manageable but sometimes it will get really bad...I ran about 17 miles over a 4 day span the early part last week, was in minor pain after each one so I iced when I got home... The 4th day I was in a lot of pain during my run so I've taken about 5 days off now, but despite the rest and ice it still hurts while I'm just sitting here in my chair.\n\nAs I mentioned I try to ice after every run, I already have a little [ knee strap] that I wear, although sometimes I take if off mid run because it gets uncomfortable (and I can't really tell a difference)...I was wondering is there anything else I can do?\n\nShould I change my run style? Buy some crazy expensive shoes or inserts? Only run on certain surfaces?", "summary": "I have Osgood-Schlatter and hate being in pain, and I hate taking days off...help!"}
{"id": "t3_l8oal", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some advice from Redditors who have game...", "post": "So I am in college, and my long term girlfriend dumped me the other day. Now that I am on the rebound, my friends are taking me out to clubs this weekend. \n\nThe only problem is, I have never picked up a girl at a club. Whenever I have gone, it has always been with my friends and girlfriend. I can talk to women, but I have no idea what to do at a club. \n\nSo I need help from redditors who have game. What do I do? Do I just walk up to a girl and start grinding with her, and wait until she wants to leave? Or do I have to use some lame pickup lines and talk to her first (even though you can't have a conversation because the club is so loud)?\n\nHelp me Reddit, you are my only hope.", "summary": "I am now single and my friends are taking me to a club now that I am on the rebound, except I have never picked up a girl at a club, so even though I am fine talking to women, I have no idea what to do in that situation."}
{"id": "t3_49plc1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need Housing Help. First Time Buyer and need to know what I can afford.", "post": "As the title suggests, I have a job offer to move to a new area in New England.  This is a new opportunity for me and I want to take it, but my wife really wants to settle down and buy a house if I take it.  The other option is move back to the midwest where of COL is much cheaper, though also difficult to save for the future. Here's what I have.\n\nGross Salary: 75K\n\nAfter Taxes (I'm self employed for taxes) and 403(b) match I am at 59,325.\n\nOnly debt is $83/ month student loan which we could knock out this year.  Our credit score is over 700 and we have zero blemishes on our credit reports. \n\nAn adequate house for our family needs will run us between 230-250k, though we'd certainly try to get it in the 220 range.\n\nWe have $0 saved for a down payment, but could easily get a 15k grant from my employer to use as a down payment.  We have 2K saved as an emergency fund.  Do you even have to have 20% down?  This would be a long term home so we're ok with a 30 yr mortgage to start.  Property taxes would be on the steeper side (NH) so about $4k year.  I don't know if I'm missing anything else.  Any help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Can I buy a house or not."}
{"id": "t3_2glpzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] was broken up with by my boyfriend [28 M] of 9 months, though we both love each other.", "post": "We were happy, no problems. We got along great, made each other laugh, and said \"I love you.\" When asked for a reason, he says he's not ready to fall in love again (he was crying) after a hard breakup many years ago. I tried to tell him I wouldn't hurt him--that I'd be patient, but he \"just can't. I'm sorry. I thought I was ready.\" He pursued me. But that I'm \"wonderful, perfect, everything I could ask for.\"\n\nShould I be patient? He's a good person, and I think he's doing this to protect himself. Not even my best friends see any red flags in him except for misgivings about this breakup. \n\nI've been hurt many times by complete jerks, and he's not one of them. Also, we bring out the best in each other.", "summary": "I've never met someone that makes me feel so loved, but should I be patient while he sorts through his issues and continue to be open and understanding? "}
{"id": "t3_unvav", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dentists, is this normal?", "post": "My daughter is 3, and went in for a dental exam a few months ago. My wife, today, asked me if it was okay for her to switch my daughter to our regular dentist, instead of using the pediatric dentist. I asked her why she thought we needed to switch her. \n\nShe explained that when she took our daughter to the pediatric dentist, they told my wife she wouldn't be allowed to come back with our daughter for the exam. She said they insisted on taking my daughter back to the doctor alone. \n\nMy wife and I have both been exposed to child abuse issues. So, the second she told me about that, I said 'No, we're not taking her back there again, go ahead and switch her'. \n\nHonestly, I'm not taking her back regardless of your comments on the subject. However, I'm wondering if we're being over-protective. Is that something pediatric dentists do? \n\nThe whole thing set off red flags for me. I even was a bit angry with my wife for allowing her to go in alone even once.", "summary": "Pediatric dentist insists on seeing his 3yr old patients alone, and will not allow the parents in the examination room. Is that an accepted practice?"}
{"id": "t3_4zxi6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have no idea what to do with her [19F]", "post": "Last September, I met the sister of a boy I trained in a basketball team. I liked her immediately. This June I found her on FB and right after trainings are finished, I added her, so I don't have to seen her and have awkwardness if she didn't accept me. She did accepted me, but she had a bf. I backed off, I respected that. But she started to talk to me, and we ended up talking all day for 10 days and we used to talk on the phone 3h every night. She said she liked me too that September but she thought I was too beautiful for her, just as I thought about me and her. Also she said that they were done b4 we start to talk and when she returns from vacation, she'll break up with him. 3 days before she returned she said that she feels awful for what she is going to do to her bf and she wants to push it through the limits with him. And if they break up, they will. She said that she wants us to continue talking, she really likes me as a person, and she wishes we had a better timing in that. Yesterday I closed temporarily my fb for an unrelated reason, and after 3d of silence and no communication she called me at 2am, probably to ask me why... I didn't answer and I don't know what to say to her tomorrow, bc I must call her... \n\nI really really like her, I feel like dead inside from this roller coaster of emotions I had... I want her with me, and Im in a dead end. I don't know what the right thing to do, stop talking to her or continue talking to her and wait til she breaks up?\n\n\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500", "summary": "Having doubts about pushing a girl break up with her bf or stop talking to her because she probably likes me as much as I like her"}
{"id": "t3_2a6j57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] was reminiscing with my ex [16F], about having rarely kissed. She said she would like to give me a proper kiss one day. She is currently in a relationship [17 M], since February, and asked her boyfriend if she could kiss me. I wasn't aware of this and now he believes she wants to cheat.", "post": "This all happened around 20 minutes ago. She and I were sharing some particularly romantic memories. She and I separated badly but grew closer after distancing ourselves. \n\n    We now share a very good and much more appreciative, albeit platonic relationship. She and I often talk about out past relationship and where we are in our lives now. I still feel for her but I recognize that she has moved onto other things and have no desire to endanger her relationship by making advances. \n\n     What happened was she told me that she'd like to give me a proper kiss and I said I was flattered and I would honestly like to but I don't want her to do anything she will regret. She then went on to ask her boyfriend. I didn't know she would but she told me about 5 minutes later what happened and she told me it was a horrible mistake. I agreed but now her boyfriend is very scared and thought we were engaging romantically behind his back. \n\n    I have and always will be entirely against infidelity and unfaithfulness but she and I have a fairly loose and progressive view on relationships and etiquette (kissing as a greeting, threesomes, etc). \n\n     Now her boyfriend is demanding she sever any communication with me. I am ok with this if it means reassuring him and allowing her to regain stability in her relationship. How can she remedy this situation, while being honest and clearing up the emotions of it all?", "summary": "Ex asked if her boyfriend if she could kiss me, without my knowledge, after talking inappropriately. Now he is immensely suspicious of she and I, and justly so. He demands we cease talking."}
{"id": "t3_y76ib", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Banking question", "post": "My parents started a bank account for me when i was maybe 14, since then i put the usual things like birthday money and Christmas money in it. when i was 16 i got my first job and worked for two years.\n\n I had to deposit my checks into that bank account since i was not old enough to create my own yet. now i have saved up several thousand dollars and was planning on floating on that money until college was over. My parents on the other hand will not give me access into the account.\n\nI have brought it up with them that if they want me to live without them giving me any money to get by on i need access to that account. (they have always been anal as hell about me having any money, my mom has major control problems)\n\nNow here is my problem, before hand i had maybe 400 dollars from two years of birthday and Christmas. After i got a job that number went to over 10,000 dollars. 10,000 dollars that i cannot touch with out her say so and that is now bothering me to end. If i went to the bank and sat down with them is there any way i could get that money out of that account and into my own personal account i set up when i turned 18.\n\ni know that it seems like a long shot since i do need her with me, but if we pulled up my deposit records from work that have all of my information on it is there some way i could get my money back.", "summary": "Worked for two years to save up money for college, mother wont let me access it now that im starting college. (or you know you could read it)"}
{"id": "t3_yvjeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(18f) Need advice to advise. (32f)", "post": "So I (18f) just moved into an apt with my roomate(32f). We were strangers before we moved in together.\nShe is originally from Iraq, and has recently lost her virginity to a man (37) who she dated for about nine months, who said he was going to marry her.\n\nThis past week, after breaking up, he has started playing games with her to get her attention, and she is unsure if he has moved on or not.\n\nOne of the suspected reasons for the break up is the difference in the social classes of their parents back in Iraq, where their parents live (different cities).\n\nShe feels as though his mother doesn't approve of her and so manipulated him into breaking it off.\n\nAnother reason it wasn't working out was because he refused to visit her parents in Iraq and propose there, according to tradition, and will not give an answer.\n\nShe is very confused, and is afraid that he is already seeing someone else.\n\nShe and I talk about her situation often, and I honestly don't know what to tell her. I give her my opinions, but she seems lost.\n\nPlease Reddit, any advice would help.", "summary": "New roomate is hearthbroken after huge breakup, lost her virginity to the guy (huge commitment) after he started planning their life together. I don't know what to tell her to help, and I have no idea what she should do/not do. Advice please?"}
{"id": "t3_4r5o03", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is it normal for sick leave to affect performance appraisal results?", "post": "I work in a call centre in a customer service role. I've been with the company for 18 months and in that time I have consistently achieved above average results. I always meet my KPIs and have been taking on extra duties outside my role in other departments and also to support my team leader and team manager. \n\nAt the start of the year I got diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma. I was determined to work as much as possible and ended up having 4-6 months of treatment/tests and in that time was taking on average 1 day off a week as unpaid sick leave. \n\nI have been feeling frustrated recently because I have been taking on responsibilities for different departments and am now reporting to three different people. Initially I was really happy to take on these tasks as I was learning new skills and getting to do more interesting things each day. I don't get paid any extra to do these tasks, which I was fine with and was looking forward to bringing this up in my performance appraisal and I also assumed I would be receiving a bonus.\n\nI had my performance appraisal today and I rated myself very highly because I genuinely see myself as a high performer and an asset to the business. I got an \"average\" rating. I got marked down in the team work category for taking unplanned absences. My managers had nothing but nice things to say and were very encouraging. But because I've been sick and unable to come to work full time I am considered \"average\" which also means I don't get a bonus. I am so embarrassed to say but I actually cried in the meeting because it feels like such a slap in the face to be marked down because I had to take time off for chemo.\n\nAm I being naive? Is it normal for sick leave to be taken into account?", "summary": "I got marked down on my performance review for taking time off to have chemo. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3fk3ed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [24F] of 5 years (living together for 2) have very different sex drives and have no clue what to do about it.", "post": "Alright guys - hoping that I can get some helpful advice here because I'm really struggling.\n\nI'm 25, my gf is 24. We met in college, have been together nearly 5 years (not married yet, and I'm very on the fence about whether or not that's where we're headed), and have lived together for the last 2. My situation is a bit odd - she absolutely loves sex. Whenever we have a chance to do it, it's on. \n\nOutside of sex (and I mean actual PIV intercourse), she has 0 libido, 0 desire to be intimate in any way. She had to have an operation \"down there\" at one point which meant we couldn't have sex for 2 months, and in that time we basically never did anything sexual - there was one time that I feel guilty about because it took a lot of convincing on my part. She also has had to change birth controls multiple times this year so far, and each time it messes with her hormones and she ends up on her period for 2-3 weeks out of the month. Same store each time - if we can't have sex, nothing is going to happen.\n\nI don't like thinking about it this way, but everything leaves me with the impression that she's extremely selfish in the bedroom. I've always been a bit of a giver - I'm generally not just happy, but eager to go down on her and I legitimately enjoy it when she gets off - to the point that sometimes when she's on her period I'll still do things to get her off, and she almost never returns the favor (at most, once every 3-4 months). On the flip side, if she's out of commission for one reason or another though, there's nothing I can do to get her in the mood to fool around at all. I hate the cliched \"I have needs too\" statement, but it's true. \n\nI don't know what to do - I really, really love her and love being with her, but the lack of intimacy leaves me feeling more often than not that she's more of a great roommate than a romantic partner.", "summary": "My sex drive and willingness to take care of her needs is significantly disproportionate to hers, and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_12n1zi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [M/19] and ex gf [f/19], more experiences?", "post": "Background: so after not seeing my gf for 1 year because she wanted to have more experiences, she comes back and it all blew up in her face. \n\nNow: we hung for a 2 months as friends and It developed into a relationship. She said she was falling in love with me and everything was right in the world. 2months later her sisters bf broke up with out of the blue and her parents became \"antiboy\". She told me that we should tone it down because of her parents. I agreed and we rarely saw each other after that. I confronted her about the lack of actual contacted and asked her if we even were going out. She said not really and she said that she might like her lab partner, who she claimed before that he was just a friend, and wants to have more experiences. What the hell does that mean?!  Is this an excuse to whore around?", "summary": "gf(now ex) wants to have \"experiences\" again, don't know what that means or how to cope with being played with."}
{"id": "t3_2rcl7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was she [18F] sparing my [19M] feelings?", "post": "I've gone out on 3 dates with a girl I really like. Out of the blue, she texts me that it's not gonna work out for her. She said that I'm a nice guy and she doesn't wanna lead me on/hurt me (she says she's done it to others before). That she's realized it's not gonna go anywhere for her and she can't commit to things. I haven't brought up commitment, seeing as we have only gone on 3 dates, so this threw me off. \n\nEverything seemed to be going so well, which is why I'm having a hard time accepting this. When get back to school from winter break I want to meet up with her and just talk. I can't tell if she's legit (in which case I'd like like to try and fix things) or if she's just trying to spare my feelings. I know it's just been 3 dates but I really like this girl.", "summary": "after 3 dates, girl texts me saying it's not gonna work out for her. She doesn't wanna lead me on and says she can't commit  to things. She says she has done it to others before."}
{"id": "t3_15jslq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need Perspective.", "post": "So, we're both fifteen. I've been liking her for a year now. We hit it off so well. We text all the time, and we're best best friends. I told her i liked her about around June. I told her in person. At the time, she liked my best friend. But, he's not a threat. To make a long story short, we both like each other. We both enjoy each others presence and we genuinely like each other. But, we're not dating. Why? Because she says she doesn't want to go again her mothers wishes. What are her mothers wishes? She doesn't want her to be dating anyone so she wouldn't be distracted from school. Thats the main reason why she won't date me. I want to date her, and I'm sure she wants to date me, but she won't. Because of her mother. And, i don't know what to do. I feel like I've tried so hard to get her to like me. So, I'm asking you reddit on what to do. I really like her, but i feel like I'm chasing pavements. I need help/advice. Thank you for reading. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I've been liking a girl who likes me back for awhile but she doesn't want to date me because her mother doesn't want her to date. "}
{"id": "t3_24mjwy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/M] Ex [22/F] has emailed me out of the blue. How does one respond to something like this?", "post": "Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble. I just want to make sure anyone who gives an answer has enough context to help if they can:\n\nA year ago, a girl I was really into dumped me and strung me along for a while after that. Now she's sent me an email simply saying \"How have you been?\" I feel this is inappropriate for two reasons. First of all, the break was really bad. We both said some pretty hurtful things and I was definitely the one worse off for it. I've spent a lot of time trying to be more emotionally open to relationships since then, and it's always failed miserably. She, on the other hand, has been dating another man since two days after we officially broke things off. Secondly, for the last 14 months she, at least, has been content to pretend as though I don't exist. Any time in passing we've seen each other, for instance, would be as though a complete stranger had walked by me. I can't deny that it hurt a little, because of course it does, and this email just reminds me of all the hurt I felt. \n\nI am at a loss of how to handle this. I feel like she's definitely sending this because she's graduating and not because she actually cares about my feelings. She was never shy about having me aroundto comfort her after the breakup/whatever she said she was going through and then tossing me aside once a new guy was in the mix. I was totally used and completely devastated. \n\nShould I email her a brief update tomorrow morning? What has anyone else's experience with this been? Is there any way I'm not looking past my old hurt and being stupid by NOT wanting to respond? Is there actually a healthy solution to this that I'm possibly overlooking because of my feelings? I don't want to regret doing nothing, but then again I'm afraid this could just open up old wounds, and I really don't want that.\n\nThanks for reading if you made it this far! I really appreciate any and all advice :)", "summary": "Ex emailed me out of the blue. The break-up really damaged me and I'm not sure if responding is a good idea. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4073a3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 1 year (living together also), She doesn't like when I play video games. How to balance it to make me and her happy.", "post": "My girlfriend gets really mad if I come home from work and play computer with my roommate or whatever. She gets \"bored\". She is really good at drawing, drew a picture of our fish not too long ago and it's hanging on the wall now. I encourage her to draw more (if she wants) instead of sitting on Facebook on her phone while I play video games for a couple hours. \n\nBoth of our jobs end at the same time normally. Around evening time. So she goes \"all day without seeing me\" then gets mad when I don't want to hang out with her. Even tho we've been living together for almost a year. Playing the games is my version of hanging out with my best friend of 10+ years and he's just as important as her. So idk how to balance this. She wants me to only play computer on my days off while she's at work. I do. But I also love computer. I've been gaming since I was 6 years old. I can't just stop. And only play 2 days for a couple hours out of the week. It's in my blood.\n\nHas anyone experienced this. If so, how was it \"balanced\" as best as possible. Also, it's not like this is everyday. I don't come home everyday and play video games. She even gave me attitude about how my roommates parents bought me and him tickets (for Christmas) to go see Joe Rogan one night and she did the whole \"okayyyyyy\" thing as if she's going to be \"bored\" that night and be miserable.", "summary": "Girl friend is simi-obsessed with me to an unhealthy point. Has no hobbies, good at drawing which is encouraged if she wants, but yeah, needs to be beside me 24/7. Succubus level shit."}
{"id": "t3_503s2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] friend [18M] used my phone to tell a good friend [22F] I like her (I don't). We didn't talk for 3 days, I'm not sure if I should ever bring it up?", "post": "The original post was here: \n  \nBasically, my friend used my phone to mess around and message this girl saying I like her. Girl thought it was really me, told 'me' to stop playing. Friend says he's being serious, she says she still thinks I'm effing with her, friend says he's not (this is when I get my phone back and say 'sorry that was my friend'). She says it's all good, but the short convo for the rest of the day felt like she wasn't in the mood to talk.\n\nWe didn't message for 3 days after. On the 4th day, I message saying hey what's up (she mostly just replied, didn't really start a conversation). I eventually ask her if she's upset at me and she says \"No im not\". I reply saying \"oh okay that's good to hear\". The conversation gets better after this (she actually messages talking about her own stuff) but ends up dying down again after a while. She generally used to message when she's going to bed (if we had a conversation during the day) but it doesn't look like she'll do it tonight either (she also didn't do it the night my friend used my phone).\n\nI don't know if I should not talk to her at all and give her more space (wait till she messages me), or if I should just message as often as I normally do and just not bring up what happened. Any ideas?", "summary": "Me and the girl didn't talk for 3 days after the incident ( I messaged on the 4th day saying hey whats up (she mostly replied, didn't really start a conversation). I eventually ask her if she's upset at me and she says \"No im not\". The conversation gets better after this (she actually messages talking about her own stuff) but ends up dying down again after a while."}
{"id": "t3_3zn5jk", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "We almost dated years ago, now I don't know how to approach her", "post": "When I was in college, in my 5\u00b0 year, this girl got in. \nThat was in 1999. She was 5 years younger, and we flirted for a while, \nbut both ended up dating someone else. Well, now (december 2015) I was \nbrowsing OKCupid and found her profile. It seems that she doesn't use it \na lot. Anyway, I felt the goosebumps, all the good sparks. \nI liked her profile in OKC. \nI checked and found out that we have at least 40 contacts \nin common through Facebook. \nTruth is, now I'm 40 and she's 35, and I would like to just say the truth, something like \"I remember \nthe first time I saw you, and even though we never got close, I'd like to \ngo out with you and get to know you better\". Right now I'm trying to think of a \nnon-creepy way to get in touch with her. I mean, something better \nthan going to Facebook and messaging \"Hey, just saw your profile \non OKCupid and was wondering if you'd be up to dinner or something\". Any ideas?\n<", "summary": "> need to get in touch with acquaintance from 15 years ago"}
{"id": "t3_1axejo", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Any Advice for Entering Marketing Research Industry?", "post": "My background is in political science (BA) and sociology (MS). I just finished my Master's at the end of summer 2012 and have been job searching since last June.\nI have had little luck finding a job in the non-profit or political world, let alone one that pays enough for me to support myself in the cities that actually offer this type of work. (If I could afford to be an unpaid intern forever, then finding a job wouldn't be a problem...). My attempts at casting a wider (but unrelated) net have failed as well - as I tried for management consulting associate positions and business graduate schemes. \n\nAfter starting to think more about my strengths and passions (at the advice of career councilors and the endless assortment of career development books I've gathered), I realize I truly enjoy research. However, aside from experimental design, my quantitative skills are limited.  \n\nWhat level of statistics would I need to realistically enter this field? Is this something I can learn using resources like Khan Academy or workbooks? \n\nAny words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "How do you enter the marketing research industry? How much stats knowledge do you need and where do you get it?"}
{"id": "t3_h93qa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What jobs should I apply for?", "post": "I recently graduated with an M.A. in English Composition and Rhetoric with an emphasis on technical/professional writing. From my numerous jobs, internships and volunteer positions I actually have several years of experience with event planning, managing a team, fundraising, doing research and analysis (in both academic and business settings) and professional writing and editing (I have written several grant proposals, training manuals, press releases and other documents for real-world implementation and I have edited or assisted on several national publications). \n\nI love planning events like academic conferences or charity galas, but I can't imagine a life of primarily planning weddings and sweet 16 parties. I have applied for a few event planner jobs at local universities, but they are few and far between and the competition is fierce. I have also applied for jobs doing technical writing or corporate communications/PR, and some research analyst positions, but again these seem hard to come by. I would love to work for a non-profit, but none in my area are hiring right now (though a few have said I will be their first call if they ever do hire, because I already volunteer for them and they know I rock). I wouldn't mind writing advertising copy or doing market research, but I refuse to do direct sales. I am stuck in my general geographic area (central oklahoma).\n\nSo, what other types of jobs should I be looking at? Are there any kick-ass careers that haven't occurred to me but that would be a good fit for my skills?", "summary": "If you don't read this you won't know my skill set, so your advice will be crap. Oh, and if you are going to make the obligatory Starbucks joke,at least be original and funny."}
{"id": "t3_eecth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to date a girl 2 hours driving distance?", "post": "There's this girl that I met a couple years ago in school.  I asked her out then, but she had a bf at the time.  We ran into each other years later when we shared a class together.  We never really chatted outside of class, but i remember her telling me \"dont be a stranger\".  \nAfter graduating not hearing from her in 2-3 years, she randomly invited me to her birthday a couple months back.  She was drunk as shit and I was pretty drunk.  Nothing happened, we danced and there was a lot of physical contact.  I texted her, she replied, and I texted her back and that was the end of our correspondences.  \nA couple months later she invited me to another party she was hosting.  She didnt get nearly as drunk, and I smoked with my friends before, so I wasnt as social.  \nWe went out when I drove up to visit her and go to a show and met up with some of her friends.  \nI live about 2 hours driving distance away and I'm not sure what to do.  I'm usually pretty guarded and have a hard time opening up to people, but I like this girl.\nI texted her earlier asking if she wanted to go to some event.  She didnt respond.  Should I text her again or just try to find someone local?", "summary": "i like this girl, she lives 2 hours away.  i'm pretty guarded, dont know how to tell her i like her, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_d6sph", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do I fall for bitches? Help me change.", "post": "Dear reddit,\n\nI've recently had my confidence knocked big style by a fucking bitch but I'm channeling my anger into sorting my life out. \n\nThis isn't going to be one of those \"I'm a nice guy, woe is me\" type rants. I am in my 30s and have had 2 long term relationships, so I never did the usual screwing around that most young men do. Where does a guy in his 30s go to meet women? \n\nI'm not exactly a hit with women... I'm an IT geek with a pony tail, and I haven't made much of an effort with clothes. I'm going to have a complete change of image - new clothes, get my hair cut etc which I hope will bring with it more self confidence.", "summary": "Where's the best place for a guy in his 30s to meet women? I'm in the UK."}
{"id": "t3_218vry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "HELP - How come whenever my girlfiend (f18) and I (m18) fight, I always tutle up and never defend myself, she has her way with me and nothing gets solved", "post": "I can't stand it, I go into a shell and never argue back. I know we are young but that is not the issue here -- I'm not going to be self-righteous and claim that \"we're wayyyyy mature for our age\" but simply being young is not the issue -- I try to argue back and speak my point but I never do, I always choke up and I can't help it. She is the love of my life and I can truly say that with confidence.  \nWe've been dating for about 3 years now so this isn't our \"first real fight\".\n\nAlso if I am in the wrong sub it would be appreciated to point me in the right direction -- this is my first post here = reddit noob here", "summary": "when it comes time to man up and fight back and solve the issue, I turn into a baby."}
{"id": "t3_1i45zm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (25/m) in the wrong for not wanting to move in with my girlfriend/coworker (22/f) of 2.5 years?", "post": "Background- girlfriend (22/f) and I (25/m) have been dating for just over two and a half years. We met while working for the same company which we both still work for, so we see each other every day at work. Often times we are assigned to the same jobs and work side by side for the entire day. We both still live at home. I am an only child from a very Italian household, so privacy and freedom have never been something I've been able to fully experience. She, on the other hand, lives in a condo with her brother which their mother pays for even though she actually lives with her boyfriend. She has never really known what it is like to have an overbearing breath down her neck the majority of her life.\n\nWe had always talked of moving in together at some point, but she cannot afford rent on top of her other bills (she has a bit of an overspending habit). I've recently started to make enough money where I can afford to at least rent a room in an apartment and start to make it out on my own.\n\nI found a place online that would be perfect for me. I asked my girlfriend how she would feel if I were to move in there until she were able to afford to find a place to split rent. She knows how my parents can be and how desperate I am to move out of my house and strike out on my own. She asked if I could wait until she can afford something that we can split. We decided to talk about it later tonight.\n\nThe thing is, I don't feel like I am ready to move in with my girlfriend with whom I spend almost every day at work. I feel like it would cause more harm than good for our relationship. On top of everything else, I would like to experience what it is like to not live directly with someone (the people who I would share the apartment with are traveling photographers and are often gone for weeks to months at a time). Am I in the wrong for feeling this way?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I work side by side almost every day. I want to move out of my house into a shared apartment until she can afford to split rent on our own apartment. I feel like living with someone I would with every day would only harm our relationship, and I really don't want to move from one privacy-less household to another. Am I a dick for feeling this way?"}
{"id": "t3_31abea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my husb [28 M] 2 years wasted. Lonely and depressed. I want to love again. Never marries for others.", "post": "I think i am slowly slipping into depression because i have wasted 2 years of my life marrying the man that i have never loved.\nHe was my moms choice and i was forced to agree to the marriage coz all i want is for my mom to be happy.\nBut after 2 years..love never came between us. I feel so sad thinking of my loss of happiness. Im a loving person. Romantic. I always have..before this with my exes. But this marriage has taken away all the colors in my life.\nDo you ever felt this way with your marriage? I just dont want to be alone anymore...", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2fiqdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18, M] want to breakup with my girlfriend [18, F], 3 year relationship, I have no clue how to do it because we are currently long distance and she is head over heels in love with me.", "post": "Hello friends. I've been dating this girl for about 3 years now, and she is head over heels in love with me. She talks about getting married, always talks about cuddling and hugs, she is very attached. I've fallen out of love with her within the last few months. I've come to realize that we aren't very similar and she isn't someone I want to spend my life with. So this would be a fairly easy scenario if it weren't for a few problems.\n\n1. We both recently moved into colleges 2 hours apart, and neither of us has a car to drive, so it would be near impossible to break up with her face to face until early November (the next time I'll see her).\n\n2. I have so much respect for this girl. Breaking up with her will be the hardest thing I'll ever do because I know I'm going to crush her. I saved this girl from depression, and I'm afraid that I'll leave and she will go right back. I want to be single but I'm petrified to be single at the same time.\n\nI may be forgetting some things; this is all I can say right now. Please help me.", "summary": "How do I break up with my girlfriend who lives 2 hours away without crushing her?"}
{"id": "t3_3iw8jk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with my family hates me Update", "post": "Original post \n\nSorry for not replying to any of your comments 10 minutes after I posted my internet kicked off and I won't have it back on till Monday I'm in the er with my bf atm he thought his jaw was broken.\n\n So I did call my sister on her birthday she did answer! She told me she had a shitty birthday and that only me and my other sister had told her happy birthday that mom had forgotten and it REALLY hurt her feelings.\n\nI also want to state my mother was HORRIBLY abused growing up she was emancipated by 10 so if her sisters were sick she could leave school to get them and take care of them gram beat her daily once beat so bad that her braces had to be surgically removed from her lips. \n\nShe was beaten if she was good or bad she was left for 3 months at 8 with my twin aunts when they were 2 she was told not to leave the house and only left when no food was left. \n\nWhen she left to go to her aunts to get food gram came back (aunt found her yelling at her) and she beat my mother.\n\nI feel my mother HAS to be in control its how she feels safe this does NOT excuse her behavior I plan to not bond with my mother but for my 4 younger siblings I will stay in their lives they know if they get thrown out I will take them in.\n\nI fear for my younger brothers they are so young I worry they wont remember me", "summary": "Just explained mom forgot my sisters birthday"}
{"id": "t3_1rqjd0", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog pees on carpet when I'm asleep. Need advice.", "post": "We recent took in a 4 year old Yorkie after a family member was unable to keep him when moving into a new apartment. He has been with us for three weeks and has suddenly started to pee on the carpet in our bedroom whenever we're asleep. \n\nHe adjusted to the new home and family almost instantly and follows me around everywhere I go in the house. I take him out for three walks a day and let him out in the yard early in the morning and late at night before going to bed. Three days ago I woke up to find that he had urinated in the doorway of my bedroom. I was surprised because I had let him out in the yard only a few hours prior. I called him over and he came with his head down, seemly aware that he had done something wrong. I cleaned it up with a paper towel and planned on picking up a rug cleaner within the next few days to clean it thoroughly. It might be worth noting that he was not allowed to sleep in our bed that night and slept in his own bed. Two more nights pass where he sleeps in our bed and does not pee on the carpet. Of course the next night that I don't allow him to sleep on our bed I awake to pee in the same spot again. This time I clean it well with vinegar, baking soda and hydrogen peroxide. He is not allowed to sleep in our bed again the next night and again I awake to pee near the doorway of our bedroom, not in the same spot but close to it. \n\nI know that everyone says that dogs are not spiteful, but it's very hard to look at this behavior as anything but. He has only peed on the carpet when he is not allowed to sleep on our bed. I know that marking behavior may also have to do with him not being fixed. \n\nDoes anyone have a solution to this problem?", "summary": "Dog pees on carpet when I'm asleep and he is not allowed to sleep on my bed."}
{"id": "t3_2yx5kz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17f] Boyfriend [17m] Opened up to Me about Past Abuse", "post": "I asked this before and only got 1 response, please help me :( Yesterday my boyfriend of 1 year and 1 month, opened up to me about his previous relationship, he had never told me anything about it whatsoever until now. A girl that he dated for 8 months was physically abusive towards him, and threatened him with stuff like \"If you try leaving me I'll tell the police you're the one who hit me\" and a bunch of other horrible stuff. I was shocked and I tried to comfort him but I didn't really say much because I was pretty much speechless.\n\nI don't know how exactly I'm supposed to react to this sort of thing, and another crappy thing is this girl, goes to our school. And I was extremley upset hearing about it and I don't want to see her face at school because I will probably feel like punching her in the face. I'm really pissed off about it, even though I wasn't with him at the time so maybe that's weird for me to feel this way.\n\nDoes anyone else have experience with their SO opening up about something bad that happened in past relationships? How exactly am I supposed to react now that I have this knowledge? Sorry if I seem clueless but I feel so bad about it. And how am I supposed to be okay with seeing this girl around school?", "summary": "My boyfriend opened up to me about him experiencing abuse in a previous relationship, I don't know how exactly to react to it."}
{"id": "t3_4erqlo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] broke up with my long-distance girlfriend [19F] of 2 years, 2 weeks later she really wants to get back together", "post": "She's a year younger than me, I went to the local university and dated her through my freshman year. She went away for school, 3.5 hour drive and our relationship started declining after her first semester (1.5 years into the relationship). I loved her and would do anything for her and maybe she felt the same way towards me. She was always bad at contacting me, the exact thing a long-distance couple should be doing. \n\nDuring a visit 3 weeks ago, she said she felt differently towards me and that we should try to not speak for a week to see if she can figure out her feelings. This came as a blow to me because I never imagined she would change her mind about me. I took the week to think if she was really worth it and decided that throughout the relationship, she never strived to make me happy and it was very one-sided. Every time I would complain about her lack of dating me, she would get offended and not listen. \n\nI broke it off after that week and she was very shocked. I explained every reason and after her post-dump anger faded, she started texting me and claiming she would change and saying she finally realized how selfish she was. I told her to take the rest of her semester to decide if I was worth changing for and if she was really willing to be a different kind of girlfriend.    \n\nWhat do people do in these situations? This is the girl that I wanted to marry for the last year and a half of my life. Other than being a terrible long distance girlfriend, I was normally happy with her.", "summary": "Broke up with long-distance girlfriend, now she wants to get back together. Do I give her the second chance now that our summer break is about to begin? How do I go about giving her that second chance, what conditions should I lay down and what lines should I set?"}
{"id": "t3_2d029z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] and my gf [27 F] of 4 months (living together after 1 month) had a tough talk about religion last night -- Successful couples with religious/spiritual differences: How do you make it work? How do you raise your kids and approach topics where each of you disagrees?", "post": "She's Christian and I'm \"spiritual\". I don't believe in the biblical God nor that Jesus is the way. We're both accepting of each other's beliefs but it's a huge deal when I think about children.\n\nWe're both loving and compassionate people in a great relationship, but this is a huge concern for me and I've tried to bring it up a few times with the topic getting swept under the rug when it got difficult. Last night we dove into it and it left both of us floundering without answers.\n\n**I'd love to hear from successful couples who have navigated this issue.**  \n\n* We both want our hypothetical children to make their own decisions when they're able and not be indoctrinated with anything, but until that point they'll need to be raised in a certain way.  \n\nI originally agreed that we could raise them Christian, but as I've attended church with her, I realized I disagreed with a lot of what was taught and how it was taught and I would want to discuss other perspectives as it came up with the kids.\n\n I realized what I meant was \"I was okay raising them around Christianity as long as I got my two cents in as well.\" This realization resulted in our talk last night.\n\nThis was obviously a huge change for her and she spent the night crying in my arms feeling like this could be our deal breaker.", "summary": "We're in a great relationship and broached the topic of spirituality and religion. We have more talking to do and would love to hear from couples who have successfully navigated the issue."}
{"id": "t3_2lj1ou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [30 M/F] of 7yr, I'm thinking of leaving, but she supports me", "post": "Throwaway because she reddits.  My GF is not a bad person and I don't hate her, I just don't think it's going to work out with us.\n\nWhen we first got together, she was overweight, but still active.  She's put on a lot of weight over the years and is kind of lazy.  She occasionally will get on an exercise kick, but never anything that sticks.  I want to be more active, I enjoy outdoor activities, and when we got together, she did too.\n\nShe says she still enjoys outdoor activities, but her endurance is in the toilet.  She can't keep up when we (rarely) go for a hike and it's frustrating.  I'm not hung up on how she looks, though she was more attractive when she was smaller.  I just want someone that can go backpacking with me, and is not content sitting and staring at a computer screen every night and weekend.\n\nI did ask her to marry me a couple years back, and I thought I meant it at the time, but I have been putting off setting a date.\n\nThe really tricky part of this is that she financially supports me.  I am enrolled in school and will graduate next year.  I am in a program that will allow me to make a decent amount of money in an in-demand field.  We had planned for both of us to return to school, but it didn't pan out.  She is working full time and we are scraping by.\n\nIf I were to leave her, there is no way that I could get a job and stay in my very demanding program.  I know it is not fair to let her support me through this program and then split.\n\nI'm just looking for advice in this tricky situation.", "summary": "Longterm girlfriend has gained weight that I doubt she will ever lose.  Our lifestyles are incompatible and I'm not happy.  She is supporting me through a program that will yield a career with great pay for me, a program I would have to leave if I break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_2e02xo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15/F] found out a while ago that my dad [51/M] has had a 8 year affair with another woman", "post": "Last summer, I found out that my dad was cheating on my mom through accidentally logging in to my dad's email. Unfortunately, my curiosity got the better of me and I skimmed the first page of his inbox. Yes, I know this is really wrong of me but previously my brother [20/M] had mentioned that he believes our dad was cheating so I wanted to clear his name, but that backfired...\n\nI saw emails concerning my dad booking flight tickets to Kuala Lumpur and originally thought it was with my mom, but then I looked at the name and realised it was a woman I did not know. Let's call her \"Amanda\". So, naturally, I searched her email up on my dad's account and found countless other exchanges between them, and by then I was convinced. (By exchanges I mean hotel receipts, plane tickets, \"sweetie\"s, \"darling\"s etc.) \n\nBeing the creep I am, I went on Facebook and searched her up and found out that she, in fact, has a child as well. I did a little more digging on my dad's email and found out that Amanda had divorced her husband because she wanted to be with my dad, and my dad had contemplated divorcing his wife of 20 years but ultimately decided not to, so they continued their relationship secretly. \n\nSo, my issue is, what should I do? It kills me a little every time my dad comes home and my mom is ecstatic and tells him about her day, makes him dinner etc. I want to tell her but I also don't want to damage their relationship... I really don't know what to do, please help me....", "summary": "Found out dad was cheating on mom for 8 years, don't want to tell mom thus damaging relationship or hurting her feelings"}
{"id": "t3_oo118", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a student and I'd like to start some kind of protest to raise even more awareness against corruption in the US, but I do not know where to start", "post": "I joined Reddit today after hearing about the Megaupload ordeal, and I'd like to say that vivid doesn't even begin to describe my feelings. I've been a lurker on Reddit for a while and I've been doing as much as I can to raise awareness on PIPA/SOPA. Quite frankly I do not feel like I am doing enough to stop all the nonsense that has been going on in the US, and at this point I'm desperate for someone with more knowledge to help me start something at my University. I'm currently a sophomore, and I don't know much about organizing anything or how to build enough momentum mainly because my University is so large. My current goal is to gain enough attention amongst my generation to be more involved with the process instead of just sitting back.", "summary": "I need help with organizing some kind of anything at my school to protest against all the bullshit that's been happening with our government."}
{"id": "t3_36jmnq", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Asked potential employer when I could expect to hear back from them, got an unexpected response. Advice? (x-post from /r/jobsearch)", "post": "This was originally posted in /r/jobsearch, but I'd like as much input as possible.\n\nHi all! I'm through 3 rounds of interviews with a company I'm really excited about, but one thing left me stumped. The interviews went very well, really long, and they seem interested in me. I asked if I could expect to hear back from them \"next week\" (which is this week), and the interviewer said:\n\n\"Hopefully, but if you want to talk to someone, feel free to call us. If there's anything you want to add, don't feel like you have to wait to hear from us.\"\n\nI know they want to hire ASAP and they interviewed another candidate yesterday. I've already mailed them a handwritten thank you letter that should arrive today (tomorrow at the latest), but now I'm wondering if I should reach out to them. I can't tell if he said that because he wants me to call them and show interest, or if I'm just overanalyzing everything because I really want this job. What do you guys think? I'm happy to provide more details if I left out anything pertinent.", "summary": "Interviewer said I should feel free to reach out to them if I don't hear back, not sure if I should do that or be patient."}
{"id": "t3_266dku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] fiance's [25M] parents think I'm a gold-digger.", "post": "We've been dating for two years. I've always gotten this vaguely disapproving vibe from his parents, but they accepted me because they didn't think that anything would come of it.\n\n And then we announced the fact that we were getting married and they smiled through it but I could tell that they weren't super happy. And my fianc\u00e9e had this talk with his dad the next day, and I don't know exactly what was said but basically his dad strongly implied that my fianc\u00e9 should be marrying someone more on his level. I'm guessing pre-nups got a mention as well. My fianc\u00e9, who was blissfully oblivious to their feelings before, stomped out of the house and is still pissed. \n\nBut he's also an only child whose parents think he's god's gift, and he does love them. We're not cutting them out of our lives anytime soon, so how do I get his parents to like me and realize that I'm not a golddigger? I know it will take time, but I'm hoping for strategies and stuff to speed it up a little. I don't want to just sit around and wait for them to get used to me.", "summary": "How do I can I convince my fiance's parents that I'm not after money and am \"good enough\" for him?"}
{"id": "t3_2pov87", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm single and I'm currently seeing two women: One is [26, F] and she has a boyfriend and the other is single [24,F]. YES GUYS, I AM GOING TO ROT IN HELL, THANK YOU!!!", "post": "And this gets crazier as it goes. The [26, F] CRYSTAL says she loves me and all this good stuff and she got overly jealous when she found out about the other girl I was seeing [24, F] HEATHER. But the thing is this. Crystal is in a five year relationship and before her and I met, things were going south for her and her boyfriend. She met me and she found the spark her love life needed, apparently. We hit it off great. We got along great, as probably all honeymoon phases begin.\n\n_____\nI met the [24, F] during my break with the [26,F]. We were in that \"We shouldn't be doing this, my boyfriend doesn't deserve this\" phase. The [24, F], Heather, is a nice girl. Only problem is that I don't feel very attracted to her because I can't focus my energy on two women at the same time. There's times where i have the slip-ups of \"Oh, I told you this. I remember\" followed by the awkward \"You're such a manwhore, you know that?\"\n\n___\n\nAnd then we're back to [26, F], Crystal. I don't want to commit to her because of fear that she'll do the same to me. I'm too far into this shit. I told her to stop texting me and to go back to her boyfriend and she says that it isn't easy. Then I tell her to date me and she tells me it isn't easy either. Thank fucking God that the winter break (from school, because that's how we met) is here so I won't deal with this drama anymore.\n\n_____________", "summary": "There's two girls in my life. One is in a relationship and the other is not. The one in the relationship is receiving all of my energy and the single one is not. I cannot move my energy to her, even if I wanted to :("}
{"id": "t3_2kfr2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I tell my friend (26 F) that her partner (26 M) is being unfaithful? What about the other woman (28 F) or her partner (31 M)?", "post": "I am burdened by this knowledge, but am not looking to be the morality police. However, I worry about the health and safety of my friends.\n\nFriend A has been in a casual but exclusive relationship with Partner X since January, with the understanding both are being monogamous due to healthy/safety concerns. Because either can end the relationship at any time, Friend A checks in every so often to make certain they both are maintaining that. Partner X always says there is no one else and the relationship is good.\n\nFriend B is married but separated from her husband in April. She began dating Partner Z immediately upon separating. She also met Partner X (Friend A's partner) at work in April and they began spending intimate time together. She continues to spend intimate time with Partner X, despite becoming exclusive with Partner Z since July. \n\nUnfortunately, I have witnessed this with my own eyes. Partner X has told both Friend A and Friend B the same nonsense, pleading to be with them, promising honesty, saying he is willing to do anything, expressing disdain for cheaters and claiming monogamy, etc.\n\nDo I tell Friend A what is going on? What about Partner Z? They both are innocent parties in this ridiculous soap opera, and I fear for their safety/health. What should I do?", "summary": "My friends are mired in a soap opera, do I tell the innocent parties what is going on?"}
{"id": "t3_2z9vft", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [20/M] can't bring myself to tell her [19/F] how I feel ...", "post": "I'll start by giving a bit of background info. We've been friends now for a little over a year and really close friends for the last 3 months or so. She doesn't live in the same town as me - she's about 2 hours away so we can't see each other all the time but it's not too difficult to meet up now and again and hang out for a weekend or something. \n\nA few months ago I began think that I wanted to me 'more than friends'. By now, I have thought a lot more about it and I am sure that I want to develop our friendship into a serious relationship. Now here's my problem - I am nervous talking to a girl I like at the best of times, but when they happen to be one of my best friends I completely panic whenever I try to summon the courage to tell them how I feel and it takes all my self control just to keep my face straight, so actually opening my mouth and saying something is pretty much an impossibility.\n\nNaturally, this infuriates me no end. I have seen her twice recently - both times I have thought \"this time I'll do it\" and both times I've come away fuming with myself for being such a wimp. I think my biggest fear is not being friendzoned - I would actually be fine with that as I would know where I stood and I could move on - it's potentially ruining the friendship altogether - essentially I value what we already have too much to risk losing it, even for the potential of a relationship with her. Even knowing that this is a problem that I have, no matter how much I think I've prepared myself, or got into the right frame of mind the end result is the same. At this point I have no clue what to do and I welcome any advice you might have", "summary": "I have no idea how to work up the courage to tell my friend how I feel"}
{"id": "t3_f636f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Professional Job Question", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nJust a quick question.  Been applying for jobs to work this summer (19 yr-old college student).  I was offered a summer job (Job A) yesterday, and they said to get back to them by February 1st whether I accept the position or not.\n\nThing is, I'm waiting to hear back from another job (Job B) before I make a decision.  Is there a professional, polite way to tell Job B that I need to know if I'm accepted before February 1st?  I don't want to take Job A and then Job B gets back to me telling me they want me to work for them.  \n\nThought I'd come to Reddit.", "summary": "It wasn't that long.  Just scroll up and read it.  "}
{"id": "t3_15rxky", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "25m asked 26f to be exclusive... She's unsure.", "post": "I'm not extremely experienced, but she's never had a bf before - We met OTI and have been dating for a bit under a month, we've probably gone out about 7-8 times.\n\nI asked her this on Sunday and she just said she doesn't know how she feels about me, and isn't sure if I'm putting on a show to seem like a great guy. She told me that I'm great though, she said she's just not sure that she knows the real me, which she does - I don't know how to prove it though. I'm not putting on a show for her. She also said that she thinks that she's made herself seem \"better\" than she is. I really like this girl, probably more than anyone who I've dated before. We haven't gotten physical (and are both Christian so that won't happen). We talked for a long time and she asked a million questions basically about my beliefs on family, career, and all that. At the end she said her fear was that if we dated that I'd want to spend to much time with her, and I told her that we could discuss personal space.\n\nIt ended off a couple days ago with me saying that I'd give her time to think, and she asked how long she has to make up her mind. I told her I'm not sure. There are other girls out that that I could date, but none that I want to now - I just can't wait for her forever.\n\nShe said that she doesn't want to anyone else, and would prefer me not too. I know that she likes me... It just seems like there is something she is stuck up on, and I'm not sure if it's something about her, or about me. She did say that her friends called her the drama queen because she can get stressed out, and I said that I could take that.\n\nWhat should I do? I don't want to lose her, but I don't want to spend time chasing something that doesn't exist.", "summary": "She is unsure of whether to get into a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_20gw78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird to try and maintain a friendship with my S/O ex?", "post": "I (29F)had a very emotional breakup from my boyfriend (29M) over the Christmas holiday through which I had a very difficult emotional time.  During the ensuing months I was contacted by my bf's ex in which she attempted and succeeded in getting us back together.\n\nThis woman was an angel sent from God to help me and it is just the most unusual thing I have ever experienced and never dreamed would be a part of.  I had never met her before and since my first conversation with her, which I went into expecting to hate her with a passion, I have never felt so close to a female friend in my life.\n\nSince my bf & I have been together I have texted with her and talked with her a couple of times on the phone.  \n\nIs this crazy?  Every part of me say's that this is just weird and I've never even known of anyone having any kind of relationship with an S/O ex.\n\nBut she is the sweetest woman I've ever met.  In fact the day she got me and my B/F back together I was going to tell her to be with him.\n\nAnyway has anyone else ever had relationship like this?", "summary": "Is being friends with your S/O ex weird?"}
{"id": "t3_4po4f7", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Is anyone from the US in currently Edinburgh, and planning to return soon?", "post": "I apologize in advance. I know this probably isn't the right place for this post, so if there's a better place, I would be more than willing to move it.\n\nI just got back from my Ireland/UK trip yesterday, and the morning before I left I picked up a small gift for a friend of mine at a Cafe in Edinburgh. In my stupidity, I left it on the Airlink bus when I arrived at the airport. By the time I realized, I ran outside to find the bus closing its doors and pulling away. I chased that damn bus for as long as I could, but didn't stop.\n\nNormally, a small gift wouldn't matter, but not only was I really looking forward to giving this gift (It's a thank you for the person who gave me advice before traveling to Edinburgh) but it has now become personal, with me and that bus. I almost threw up after chasing that bus and I  have never run that hard in my life. If some form of that gift does not make it to the States I will never let it go.\n\nI called the lost property number before my flight and sent a follow up email. The customer service was great and I spoke with a nice woman who seemed pretty sympathetic. I just got an email back, however, saying that nothing was turned in but they would check again on Monday.  \n\nMy question is, if anyone is currently in Edinburgh and who is planning on returning to the States soon would be willing to pick up something for me, and have it shipped once back in the States. I know it's kind of a long shot and way more trouble than it's worth, but it's kind of important to me.", "summary": "I was stupid and forgot a gift on a bus to the airport. If anyone is there currently and planning on traveling back soon, would you be willing to pick something up and send it once in the States?"}
{"id": "t3_2p527d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] always get bored by conversations with people even with topics I'm interested in. What's going on?", "post": "I've had it all my life. Whenever I talk with someone after a couple of minutes I start to get bored by a conversation (not on my own accord). Even if we are talking about somehting I'm intrested in i just get easily bored. Over time I've learned to feign intrest but most people can tell that I'm just not interested at all even though I'm trying my hardest to maintain the conversation going.\n\nMy mind wonders around and I think about other stuff I could be doing instead of wasting time with this line of conversation which has probably already been said and done over hundreds of times before by various people.\n\nIt's effected my relationships as most people think that I'm not interested in making friends or relationships with them when in reality I'm trying my hardest to maintain it by forcing myself. I don't know what the reason behind this is. Maybe its some sort of psychological condition who knows.\n\nIs anyone out there know of anyine in a simmilar problem. Any suggestions as to what I can do?\n\n(Side note: I don't have depression or any attention span problems)", "summary": "I find myself bored in conversations with people about all subjects to the point where it is effecting my relationships. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fvpwg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I regret treating my gf like shit.", "post": "So last night I got super wasted and had an absolute blast with my friends.   Problem is my gf was there and these were *my* friends and she is a shy girl.  Another problem: my group was mixed but composed mostly of girls.\n\nI totally ignored her and had fun with my friends and apparently spent most of my time with the girls, who have been friends for years.  You know how it is when you hang out with a group of long time friends and you are meeting them for the first time?  Well that's how my gf felt and I was not there for her.Luckily, my guy friends kept her company, probly bc they saw how uncomfortable she was.\n\nTo make things exponentially worse, I was a complete ass when she brought it up to me on the way home.  Telling her that I *tried* to get her involved but she was too introverted so I just decided to have fun on my own.   Raised my voice a little too much.  I made her cry.  \n\nI feel bad about it.  Very guilty and regretful.  She has been very standoffish today.  We are gonna talk when I get outta work :/", "summary": "I am a giant douche."}
{"id": "t3_2wawmp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] is seriously contemplating a divorce from my [29F] wife of two years.. Need some advice.", "post": "Just to give you some background...\n\nWe started dating 5 years ago, January 2010. For the first month or two our relationship was good. We would have late night chats and I really did enjoy her company. She is a very good women and does put a lot of effort into my family.However\u2026\n\nI just don't think I love her. Or that I ever did. The more I think about it now the more i come to the realisation that i did all this because it was kind of expected from me.\n\nI won't go into all the details but we've been fighting every day for the last year. I hate myself for being with her even though she is a good person (most of the times). \n\nRecently it's only gotten worse. We had sex for the first time in 8 months on valentine's. last night she threw that back in my face while she was going on again. She would do this 3 times a week where she would go on for at least an hour of how terrible I am. and everything I do wrong. Stuff we've talked about and resolved she brings up again and again. For some reason she just can't let shit go. \n\nI didn't think I'd ever be a person to get divorced but currently the only times I feel normal or happy is when I'm not with my wife.\n\nIt's at this stage of my life where I don't care about the financial or emotional implications. I just want to wake up in the morning and actually want to live my life.", "summary": "Don't think I love my wife, I'm getting depressed about it, don't want to leave her but contemplating it."}
{"id": "t3_1vn1jb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I moved home after college/was a sort of loner in HS, how do I connect with people who live in my hometown?", "post": "I grew up in a small town, less than 200 kids in my graduating class.  I really was NOT into school.  I didn't talk to anyone, and I felt like when I did try to reach out, I was brutally rejected/bullied.  Looking back on it, I can't pin point anyone being outright MEAN to me...but it felt that way at the time.\n\nAnyway.  I moved to the big city for college, met nice people.  Had great friends.  Still see them when I go back to the city.  However, I WANT TO HAVE CONNECTIONS WHERE I LIVE.\n\nAll of the friends I had in high school, I have either \na) had really bad falling outs with\nor \nb) have moved away\n\nI'm not afraid of asking people to hang out on facebook; however, I feel like that would have a negative reaction of some sort?  How weird do you think it is if some \"random\" person messaged you asking to hang out?\n\nGeneral statuses, like \"Anyone wanna go to the movies tonight?\"  doesn't work.\n\nThere are no bars, no clubs, no bowling alleys, lazer tags, malls within an hour drive of my house.  SMALL TOWN.  I don't know how to meet people at events because there are no events.", "summary": "How do I meet new friends in my small town?"}
{"id": "t3_1mtr4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First he friendzones me, then he flips out on me. (confused rant)", "post": "I'm 28/m. Met a guy (25yrs old) through a dating app. We hooked up a couple times, then he said I was too neurotic to have a serious relationship with and that he didn't want to hook up with me anymore. But I still wanted to hang out with him because I'm new in town and he's a genuinely cool and funny person and we actually had a lot in common. And then we started hanging out a couple times a week, just platonic chill stuff like having a beer and watching TV. I had fun and I was totally okay with being just friends.\n\nA couple nights ago while we're hanging out, the dating app on my phone keeps going off - it's some cute guy pinging me. I ping back several times, thinking nothing of it. Suddenly, my friend flips out on me and says I'm being disrespectful and this is the last time he'll hang out with me and that I need to grow up and learn or whatever. He was so angry that I just called him a cab home. When I escorted him to the cab, he seemed genuinely happy to be leaving, then he hugged me goodbye.\n\nThis morning he texts me angrily again saying I had no social tact, I was clearly using him, etc.\n\nWhat the fuck just happened? I certainly don't feel like I was being disrespectful, but I'd like some feedback. I'm kind of pissed off and kind of hurt. I lost someone that I thought I could be friends with.", "summary": "He friendzones me, I'm totally cool about it, then a couple months later he flips out on me when I check my dating app and says we're not hanging out anymore."}
{"id": "t3_262tz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my gf [27 F] in a 8 month relationship, unsure how long to stick it out...", "post": "First off, I'm seeking advice, so if I should post this to another sub reddit, please let me know and I'll do so. Also, sorry for the length.\n\nSo, for the past few months (8 now), I've (31/m) been with this girl (27/f).  We live about 40 minutes/20 miles away from each other, by car.  We have a few things in common (she's more sports, I'm more nerdy), but I end up driving all the time.  Up until December of last year, she said her car has been in & out of the shop and just gave up on it.  Then she told me on Christmas Eve that she didn't have a car (which explained all the times she said she couldn't meet me at my place).\n\nFor the past few weeks, I've been thinking about if I should break up with her, because it's been putting a strain on getting to her and overall social interaction.  It's nice when we're together, but when we aren't, it puts a strain on things (we both talk via phone about how much we miss each other).  Last week, out at dinner, she said in October, we can talk about things and see where we are then.  I could wait until then, but just not sure if I can wait that long.", "summary": "in a 8 month relationship, unsure if to wait until October or idk"}
{"id": "t3_4rikb7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26m] I submitted a request for a vacation, was turned down by my supervisor, and resubmitted it a few days later, where it was approved by the store manager. Worried about repercussions of this.", "post": "I'm in the highest non-manager role in a retail store. Basically I submitted a request for a four day vacation for my anniversary, my immediate supervisor said no way because we were short staffed due to one of my coworkers already being on vacation that week, wife really got on my case so I resubmitted it with an explanation, general manager approved it.\n\nI looked up my schedule and it turns out I am getting those four days off. I also found out that since my supervisor turned me down and I was reapproved without his knowledge, two other people on my team were approved for a vacation for the same weekend. Not sure what's up with that.\n\nI didn't directly go anyone's head, it's a form that goes to anyone who is a manager. The first time I submitted it there was no explanation, just a list of days I wanted off. The second time I explained what the days would be for and how I'd only be gone for three days outside my normal schedule (essentially I'm taking a four day weekend, I never work Saturdays).\n\nCan I get in trouble for this? I'd rather not be fired. My wife says I worry about my job too much but at $15/hr it's the highest paying job I've ever had.", "summary": "Requested vacation days via online form, supervisor said no because we are short staffed. Requested the the same vacation days later on because my wife got on my case about our anniversary dates and the request was approved by the store's general manager. Later on, found out that several people had asked for a vacation on the same weekend after I did, and they were approved. Wondering if there's likely to be a punishment for this. Maybe I shouldn't go."}
{"id": "t3_4u8ckd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) got too drunk and fell asleep during sex with my boyfriend (27M). I feel horrible and don't know what to do.", "post": "**Quick", "summary": "I fell asleep during sex because I got too drunk. Now my boyfriend feels terrible, I feel terrible, and I have no idea how to fix this.  How can I make things right with him?"}
{"id": "t3_n8yl7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm going to do something different for the holidays this year...", "post": "There are a couple of points to this, so bear with me while I create the back story for what I'd like to do.\n\n* Buying gifts is really stressful. Trying to decide what people might like, actually going out into the crowds and buying things, the whole thing. It's really nuts.\n\n* I've never liked the materialism of the holidays. I've seen way too many cases where materialism has caused issues in otherwise happy middle-class suburban families (the environment I grew up in), and it's gotten to the point where I tend to shy away from buying much of anything in general.\n\n* I'm (unfortunately) way too busy with work this year to do much else. I know this is kind of a cop-out, but compounding stress from work with holiday stuff would really not be a good thing for me. I also don't have the option of just working less.\n\n* Until I moved away a few years ago, I used to participate in a volunteer effort sponsored by my parents' church. We'd get small gift requests from less-fortunate families and also go out on the weekends and serve home-cooked food to the homeless. I'm actually not really religious at all, but it was definitely one of my favorite things to do for the holidays. (If you've never participated in this sort of thing, I highly recommend it. They have volunteer kitchens just about everywhere.)\n\nSo what I'd like to do this year is simply donate to some worthwhile charities. I'm using the budget that I would have usually reserved for gifts ($500). I'm not sure if picking charities should be a wholly personal thing or not, but it's not really my style to do things that way, so I'd like to let you choose, reddit.\n\nAnd that brings us to the real question of this post: What charity would you most like to donate to, and why?", "summary": "I'm donating $500 to 5 charities ($100 to each), and I want you to pick them, reddit. If I can manage it, the donations will be on behalf of the reddit community. The top 5 comments by total upvotes by Tuesday at midnight UTC are the ones I'll pick."}
{"id": "t3_kq6m7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst experience with an airline? Share the good ones too, if any.", "post": "Looks like I am going to lose $1400 to an airline. Almost 10 months back, I made this reservation from New Zealand to USA. I cancelled it because I couldn't get my visa. Now there is an emergency and I have to fly out of USA. Now, when I call back to use that credit, I am told that I can only use it for another ticket from NZ to the USA. Since I am changing the country of origin, the airline will not let me use the credit because it is a **rule**. It is not a law or a policy that has some a reason, just a rule that was not even in the fine print when I booked. Tried to find the reason from customer support, all they could tell is it is a rule. So I think the money just vanished in thin air. \n\nOnly reason I could think of is, the airline just wants to make it harder to reuse the credit. I can't understand how they can afford to be like this in a bad economy.", "summary": "If corporations are people, they are arseholes."}
{"id": "t3_194pq0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] Need advice on a fickle heart.", "post": "When I began dating my current boyfriend, I realized that he was a perfect fit for me. Marriage kind of fit. But there's a guy from my past who, no matter who I'm dating at the time, we have this ill-fated passion for each other. Recently we fought and stopped talking, but neither of us can stay away. He's got a girlfriend too and is away at school. It's a hopeless situation for us, and we're both fighting it and have been since we met 8 years ago. We were briefly romantic in the first month of knowing each other. He was going to take me to prom, and he was so nervous and excited when I said yes. But after that month, he began playing hot and cold with me and cancelled our prom plans. Now whenever one of us is single, we immediately try to go back to the other one. But the hot-cold stuff has me turned off I the idea of dating him, and neither of us have ever said how we feel out loud. So why, when I have the perfect guy, can I not get this other one out of my head? What do I do? The feelings are just festering inside me. They have been through all my relationships. I don't want to leave my current boyfriend. He's the most wonderful man in the world. But I hate the idea of having that what-if over my head the rest of my life. I feel like an absolute bitch for feeling this way, but I can't stop it. Help?", "summary": "I have an amazing boyfriend but also a passion for a man in my past. Won't cheat but don't want to regret."}
{"id": "t3_3t69q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We [M27/F25] kept breaking up but we want to try this one last time", "post": "This is a followup to this situation:\n\nWe had been together for nearly 1.5 years, and it has been a very rocky relationship. We're both graduate students with very limited time. We both dealt with depression and supported each other through it. \n\nWe didn't always used to be rocky. But somewhere down the line we started arguing about the same things. We broke up 3 times over the same cycle of arguments. As he's said before -- when we argue it's when he needs space at the exact same time that I need closeness. \n\nI fear that he's not emotionally available, and sometimes I'm afraid that he might not love me. And I suspect that he fears I'll never be content with this relationship, that my expectations are unrealistic, and that I demand too much of him. \n\nNeither of us are clearly in the wrong or right. I take full responsibility for the fact that I didn't give him enough space in those times when he really needed it. I take full responsibility for stressing him out over my upsets. I'm not sure that he wants to hold some accountability for the ways he's abandoned me when I asked for emotional support. \n\nA month since the breakup, we're still talking, and recently we've talked about trying one last time. He says that he's willing to try something different -- he's willing for us to go to couples counseling to figure out whether or not we can become better communicators to each other. He says he can't promise me that he's not going to walk out again, and he can't promise that he's not going to hurt me to the point that I'll be done for good. But he says he's still with me for a reason. In fact, besides our communication issues, we are compatible in every other way. I love this man deeply. \n\nReddit, I'm asking for your help to figure out what I need to do. I want to make this work, I want us to work towards a healthy relationship, and I want to have a stable, happy life with him. What can we do? What can we work on? How can we move forward?", "summary": "1.5 year relationship, rocky and on/off due to arguments. We want to put our all into trying this last time, and we want to stop our argument dynamics. What can we do to have a healthy relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_lfyrg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf does things that irritate me despite me telling him I don't like it.", "post": "bf (24) me (20) Together for almost 1 year.\n\nMy boyfriend and I live together. It has been really good for the most part, we both like to be really silly with each other and muck around. However I think my boyfriend takes it too far sometimes (slapping me, calling me names, farts on me, burps really loudly at me, making fun of me in front of mutual friends) despite me constantly telling him I don't like it. Last night he called me a 'tightass' because I got angry at him for spending 5 minutes trying to slap me. It always starts out in jest, but then escalates beyond funniness. Then this morning he got annoyed at me for not cleaning up something, while I was still sleeping in bed. \n\nI love him to pieces, but how can I get him to tone things down? I don't want to be a 'tightass', I like to have fun. But I just wish he would mature (even though he is 4 years older). I admit I can be riled up easily, but surely this is no excuse?", "summary": "My boyfriend annoys me beyond the point of funniness. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_v957c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which laptop should i use?", "post": "I need some laptop advice.\nMy current laptop: Dell inspiron 15inch, Intel pentium dual core processor T4500 (2.3 GHZ, 1MB cache, 800MHz FSB), 2GB Mem, 250 GB HD, Integrated Intel X4500 MHD Graphics Media Accelerator.\nIt is approximately 2 years old. Signs of wear include the bottom left and right joints being very tight and cracking the case. The right side got bad enough that i had to remove some of the casing. It looks (EDIT) bad but still work well sometimes it shuts on me or falls backwards but thats it (i am sure i will have more problems to come). \n\nFor graduation/my 18th bday my parents surprised me with a new laptop.\nDell inspiron 15inch (newer edition). AMD E-450 Accelerated Processor, 4GB Memory, 500 GB HD, AMD Radeon HD 6320 Graphics. Also it has a webcam and hdmi port which the other doesnt.\n\nBasically i am asking you if it is worth it to switch or not. I could just return the new computer which prob cost my dad like $250 which i would keep. I obviously know the Memory and HD are better but does the other shit make it worth it to use the new one and would i be able to sell my old laptop for anything. \n\nSorry for the wall of txt", "summary": "PARAGRAPH 1: Old laptop specs and problems, PARAGRAPH 2: New laptop specs, PARAGRAPH 3: Try to sell comp one or return come 2?"}
{"id": "t3_1ilvxv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] My boyfriend [24/m] \"cheated\", we want to fix it, how can we rebuild trust?", "post": "i don't want to go into too much detail but a month ago my bf slept with someone without me knowing(semi open relationship where we are just supposed to get permission before sleeping with someone else) and then told me immediately after extremely apologetically.  after a day or two we decided to try and move past it.  the relationship has been long distance for a year and a half so i visited recently to try and work on our relationship and it went pretty well.   \n\nthe problem is i really want to trust him again and forgive him for everything, but i'm having trouble doing it.  i was hoping someone might have similar experiences or advice on how to regain that trust.  \n\nim guessing the answer is just communication and time...\n\ni have put a lot of thought into whether or not to break up and don't want to discuss that, there isn't enough information given for that anyway.  I just want help thinking of how to regain trust after such an incident.", "summary": "my bf slept with someone  then told me/apologized. we want to work it out but i don't know how to rebuild the trust we had."}
{"id": "t3_2j8oo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my finance[32 F] 3.5 years dating 6 of that engaged, I found some explicit videos", "post": "Phone post while at the doctors office, sorry for spelling and grammar errors. Sorry if my sentences seem a bit erratic, its been a bad day.\n\nI normally come home from work to eat lunch and let the dogs outside. I've recently started watching Dr. Who and decided to watch an episode during lunch and my fiance's laptop was in the kitchen. So I grabbed her laptop, which is normal for me to use, so I can use That to talk on gchat while I watch TV. I opened up gmail and it auto logged into her account. I was not intending to snoop but it happened. We've shared our passwords but neither of us have ever used them. I trusted her completely.\n\nThere was a reply to one of her emails.  The subject line was too tempting not to click, ,\"private video for you\". The original email from her was a video of herself in lingerie in our bedroom on our bed. I googled the email and she us friends with him on Facebook.\n\nI'm a blunt person but I'm at a loss how to bring this up with her tonight. I also am sure this relationship is over. Any advice would be appreciated.\n\nSome background:\nWe've lived together for almost 1.5 years, I proposed back in march.\nWe live in my house", "summary": "Found fiances video to another guy"}
{"id": "t3_27qnqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [22 M]: Do girls really 'save guys for later', or refuse to date because a guy is 'too good' for them?", "post": "I'm 22 and I don't have very much experience dating, despite my efforts. I usually connect fairly well with women, but then it falls apart and I can't pursue or date a girl even if I feel like we both like one another.\n\nI don't want to sound like an asshole, but I've been told that I'm 'too much of a catch', or that some girls that I've tried to date have been worried that  they like me 'too much'. \n\nOne of my female friends told me that some girls will refuse to date a guy in the short term if they think he has a lot of potential as a partner. She claimed, essentially, that girls are sometimes worried that they don't have their own lives together well enough to keep a guy interested, and so they'll refuse to date just so they don't mess things up and ruin a potential relationship in the future. Do girls really do this, or was she just being nice to me and concealing a deeper flaw in myself that is preventing me from having successful relationships?", "summary": "Will a girl refuse to date somebody that they really like because they don't want to jeopardize a potential relationship with that same person in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_ykxf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(29M) her (21F) Shes my everything, but how do I bring up starting our future?", "post": "Im 29M she is 21M. I want to propose soon, but need to know how to go about bringing this up.\n\nI met her through my best friend as he was dating her sister and is now married to her.  We met about a year ago, and have been close ever since, always talking, always together, we recently just started officially dating 2 months ago.  I've been in love with her for a while now, and she feels the same.  I've never felt so great with someone, we both had a bad past of being crushed, yes our age difference is in the spot light, but we are great together, everyone agrees when we are around everyone says we look very happy, we have an honest relationship, we hide nothing and we always express any concerns.\n\n  We get along great with eachothers families, we argue about things here and there but always end up hugging and kissing it out.  We have gotten past a few pretty big speed bumps as well, she has always been there for me as I for her...I was pretty sick for a while and still am, with a chance of never fully getting over a sickness I have, she says she'll always be here and I promised I'd always be here.. all in all.. I'd say we have a perfect relationship along the lines of all the needed elements.\n\n  Honesty, being faithful, supportive and understanding.  Shes the woman I want to marry...how do I bring this up to her???  We havnt not ever spoken of this.  Now I spend a lot of time in this section of reddit giving advice and opinions.. but Now Im the one who needs a bit, any ideas anyone?", "summary": "Want to propose to my g/f but need advice on how to bring it up on a convo that shes the one I want to marry."}
{"id": "t3_4caw43", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on negotiating financial aid and scholarship offers for college", "post": "Hi, I'm coming from a college-focused subreddit with hopes that /r/personalfinance will have more advice.\n\nSo myself and a bunch of high-school seniors have all gotten into dream colleges, safeties, reaches, normals, etc... The issue now isn't getting accepted, which is arguably the hardest part. Now we all have to pay for it. With total costs exceeding $60,000 a year, which a grand total of almost a quarter-of-a-million after the typical 4 years of college, it's seeming impossible to graduate without substantial debt. We've received financial aid packages and scholarships, but they're often not enough.\n\nWe've also heard that these packages and offers can be negotiated. We want to know what the best way to go about this process is. Who should we ask to talk to? What should we say to initiate negotiations? How do we negotiate using offers from other colleges? What questions should we ask the people we talk to? These questions boil down to: How do we lower this ridiculous price as much as possible to avoid a financial chokehold upon graduation?\n\nAny advice additional advice is also greatly appreciated.", "summary": "How do I negotiate financial aid and scholarship offers to lower the price of going to college?"}
{"id": "t3_3fsu17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] \"Bestfriend\" [18F] Slept with my Little Brother [16M]", "post": "Yesterday I found out from another friend, that one of my closest friends hooked up with my younger brother. I confronted my friend about it today and she lied to my face about it, this makes me even angrier than I was before and I don't trust her anymore. I know that the friend who told me about it isn't lying as she had texts & everything to prove it. I haven't talked to my brother yet and I don't know what to say, should I ask him if they did it? \n\nThis girl and I have been very close friends since we were like 8, and I can't really believe she'd do that and I feel really weird/awkward thinking about it. I don't know if I want to remain friends with her, what should I do? Do I have the right to be angry?", "summary": "One of my closest friends slept with my younger brother, I confronted her about it and she lied to my face."}
{"id": "t3_3fz7d7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] 1 yr boyfriend's [17M] friend [18M] told me he has feelings for me.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I just recently started hanging out with someone who has been pretty close friends with him for many years. Let's call this friend Derek.\n\nSo my boyfriend has been hanging out with Derek a lot this summer, and I realized that Derek is pretty cool. If the three of us had a plan together, I would hang out with Derek during the day while we waited for my boyfriend to get off work and meet us. \n\nMy boyfriend told me that Derek developed feelings for one of his girlfriends before, and he was concerned that it would happen again with me. \n\nAnd, sure enough, it did happen. Just tonight after we were all hanging out, Derek messages me telling me that he has feelings for me.\n\nI explained to him that I love my boyfriend, and he tells me that he wasn't trying to do anything and he just needed to get it off his chest. He tells me not to tell my boyfriend.\n\nI feel very awkward about this, especially because I am supposed to see Derek tomorrow along with some other friends. \n\nI feel like I should tell my boyfriend, but I also don't want to cause any problems in his friendship with Derek. Is this something that I can just keep to myself or is that inappropriate in a relationship?\n\nI feel weird about hanging out with Derek now, but he is telling me that he is lonely and doesn't have friends. I'm not sure if it is a good idea to continue hanging out with him though.. maybe just in group settings? \n\nAny advice is much appreciated, thank you!", "summary": "My boyfriend's friend has admitted he has feelings for me, and asked me not to tell my boyfriend. My boyfriend thought this would happen because it's happened before. Is this something I should tell my boyfriend anyways even if it might harm their friendship?  Also should I stop hanging out with the friend?"}
{"id": "t3_yvf48", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I let my sister and her boyfriend move in with me to get on their feet. Have you ever put yourself in a bad situation with family involved?", "post": "I let my sister and her boyfriend move in with me a few weeks ago so they could get on their feet and really get started with their lives and careers. Since moving in, they have yet to put any money towards rent and utilities, completely disrespect me and the space by leaving it a complete disaster area, and leave passive aggressive notes directed at me around the apartment about how I am too OCD with organization.\n\nMy sister isn't working and is currently studying. Her boyfriend works full time and has a great paying job. I didn't ask too much in rent from them and they agreed to pay me what I asked for before moving in. I helped them set up with public transportation, trying to help her find a job, and even got them set up with parking permits for their car. \n\nI feel horrible for bringing the rent up in conversation, and saying anything about the messes they leave. I am pretty OCD about being clean, but they tend to leave piles of dishes WITH FOOD STILL ON THEM in the sink. I don't want to put strain on our relationship and have her hate me.", "summary": "Sister moved in, stays home all day while boyfriend works full time, doesn't clean or pay rent since moving in and leaves extremely rude notes laying around for me."}
{"id": "t3_2yjx2y", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to maintain conversation?", "post": "Firstly, I'm not socially awkward or anything of that stuff. Just wanna know how to talk to a girl I've had a crush on for a few months. Either I am so deep in the friendzone or I'm at the top of her list to date etc (honestly can't tell).\n\nShe always initiates conversation with me almost everyday which is cool but mostly it's just her rambling about her day at uni and stuff (we do not have class together but try to see each other once a week). She's sometimes flirty and that. I can't say much because I don't really go out much unless I have uni. When the conversation dies, she would randomly talk about world news or something like that, rinse and repeat. It's not really an open discussion sort of conversation so it's hard to keep it going.\n\nWe have very different interests and I know slim to nothing about hers. Also she will often ramble about her \"past guys\" (though she said she hasn't had a bf before) and all I can say is \"lol cool\" and stupid shit like that. We've talked about a few personal things and that as well.", "summary": "how to keep conversation going when it is not really an open sort of chat?"}
{"id": "t3_27mher", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [27 M] travel with a girl I like [25 F] who has a boyfriend?", "post": "I met a girl about 6 months ago, and we hit it off straight away. Of course, turns out she has a boyfriend. Anyway, we've gone out for drinks twice in this 6 months, and both times, we're absolutely inappropriate together. We haven't gone home together, but if I had a GF who behaved the way this girl behaved with me, I'd break up with her on the spot. She has told me she views her \"friendship\" with me as \"keeping her options open.\"\n\nShe's traveling to South America for three months, and she essentially begged me to come with her. I have two weeks paid vacation to use, and she wants me to spend those weeks traveling with her.\n\nOf course, after she asked, I was elated. And of course, I assumed we'd be hooking up during this trip, and perhaps maybe she was finally leaving her BF.\n\nSo, I met up with her to go over travel details. She was being very weird with her body-language, trying very hard to keep things cold and platonic, which is never how we are when we're alone.\n\nI asked, \"Are you open to the idea of our hooking up while we're together those two weeks?\"\n\nShe said, \"No, absolutely not. If I do hook up with someone on this trip, it will be someone I meet there, not you. You remind me of my life here at home, so I won't hook up with you.\"\n\nAnd the rest of the night, she put on this extreme countenance of how she and I are just platonic and have always been platonic and nothing has ever happened between us and that her BF and I would be best pals if we ever met and that we SHOULD meet, too.\n\nSo, just how crazy and stupid would I be if I actually went with her?", "summary": "Girl with BF asks me to travel with her, but she said she won't hook up with me. We've been inappropriate together in the very recent past."}
{"id": "t3_3js0pa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to lose my virginity to an escort", "post": "I was left alone for a couple of days while my parents were out of town and I had some cash from my part time job. Being the stupid horny teenager I am, I decided it was time to get an escort. I called one up that peeked my interest on a website (no, not craigslist) and she texted me her address. I got into my fourteen year old civic and drove to her location that was about twenty miles away. When I was about one mile away from her, my car decided its time to have a transmission failure. I ended up using the cash I was going to use on the hooker, to tow my car home.", "summary": "My car cockblocked me"}
{"id": "t3_3douyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [27 F] leans on me constantly [32 M]. I try to help but I have the same problems only worse.", "post": "I've been close friends with Allie for ten years, we've always been there for each other and used to spend large amounts of time together. These days are both busy so we see each other less but she calls most days.  The problem is Allie has always been needy, now her complaints are the same issues I'm dealing only mine are more severe.  Her career isn't moving quickly, her bf of one year hasn't proposed yet. My industry basically died overnight, I'm finishing a cert for low-paying work that will hopefully help me get a career. I've been single for two years because I've been financially unsuccessful and found dating difficult, the collapse of my career ending a 3 year relationship.   \n\nI try to care but hearing her work drama and bf issues when I'm struggling to stay afloat is tiring.  I said I'm focused on me right now and that it is harder to be there for people. I also expressed that I wouldn't mind being there for her as much if we hung out like we used to.  I value the friendship but I'm not getting enough out of it anymore.  Most of our talks are when she's driving home from work in traffic or driving to her bf's house I feel like I am a distraction more than anything.   I'm hoping you all can help me find the words to express that I care for this person and want to be there for them but that it's difficult when I have my own troubles.", "summary": "[27 F] friend needs daily emotional support for relatively minor issues when I'm [32 M] struggling to find work in a relationship.  Feeling more like a sounding board and a best friend these days, need help expressing this."}
{"id": "t3_4t68r5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my ___ [35M] 12years, will be divorcing me after kids turn 18", "post": "We have 2 kids, 2 & 9weeks. Kid 2 has had latching issues so when I feed him I can't get up and walk around (I've tried) and I am dealing w/ serious ppd (on a waiting list to get treatment) husband was fired the day after kid was born. Boss expected him to come to work the day I had him...\n\nIf kid 1 is destroying something and I am feeding kid 2 I have to yell for him because he likes to use housework as an excuse to leave me responsible for the kids...I don't mind this except when I'm trying to feed kid 2.\n\nSince I have to yell for him all the time (9wk olds eat alot) he's decided that he is going to leave me once the kids are 18 (like his parents did)... Should I expect him to start seeing other women since he's already given up on us.\n\n.I'm considering leaving him once kid 2 is weened (he's got family that can help provide a good life for the kids...I have no family no skills and I am legally disabled... No judge in their right mind would grant me custody...\n\nI love him...but I'm so sick of hearing him say he's ready for me to die or the kids turn 18...", "summary": "! Husband is going to leave me because I need his help raising our kids"}
{"id": "t3_4fnsj6", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Advice for a soon-to-be sole provider for a new family", "post": "My wife and I are expecting our first child in early August, and we have made the decision for her to be a stay at home mom.  We both are extremely excited about this, but after combing through some threads in this subreddit and seeing others who choose a similar situation, there seems to be a pattern I would very much like to avoid.  \n\nThat pattern seems to start with a couple happily agreeing on one of them staying at home and raising the child, followed by the working partner getting frustrated due to the stay at home partner 'not contributing enough.'  This, in turn, causes the stay at home partner to resent the worker for not standing by the decision they agreed to.\n\nI can see how something like this would unfold, and understand why many couples seem to encounter that exact scenario.  However, I would prefer that my wife and I didn't go through that.\n\nSo my question is, to anyone who has gone through that (or even those who haven't), what advice can you provide on how to avoid a situation like this happening?  Any tactics that you can recommend for how to avoid feeling like, as the sole provider, you have more weight on your shoulders?  I'd like to nip something like this in the bud before it even starts.  Thanks for reading!", "summary": "I don't want to resent my wife in the future for not working when I'm working.  How can I prevent that from happening?"}
{"id": "t3_2smmyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fwb [19f] of 2 months mad that I'm [29m] screwing other girls?", "post": "My fwb, let's call her Madison, is upset that I'm fucking 2 other girls. She won't directly say WHY but she becomes cold/passive aggressive whenever the topic comes up. The other night she asked me why I'm seeing these girls, why am I wasting my time etc and I answered honestly. We still had great sex but that convo was stressful and I can tell she wasn't happy\n\nI'd like to keep her in my life (she has an amazing body, and fucks the way I like) and I want things to be chill between us like it was at the start. \n\nWhat's the best way to keep things smooth? I figure I could lie and say I'm only seeing her but I dont like lying. Any advice is appreciated thanks", "summary": "fwb always jealous/upset I'm seeing other women, her bad attitude towards my situation is stressing me out, what do I do/say to end this bs?"}
{"id": "t3_3dqe0n", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Anyone familiar with old C-1 commercial cassette players for books on tape?", "post": "My Grandma (whose eyesight is about 80% gone..) has grown up absolutely LOVING books.\n\nShe has bookshelves everywhere in her house full of original hard cover books... King, Child, Demille, Jacobs, Patterson... You name it, she probably has it.\n\nWell at the point she started losing her eyesight she was forced to do audio books (which she hated at first, because she loved holding her books), she eventually was a part of some program (I think it's a program) where this library just sends her tons of commercial cassette tapes (she claims to have a minimum of a hundred of these things), but her cassette player is so old that it has stopped working and she can no longer listen to her tapes. Instead she has to wait and see if she can find the same tapes in mp3 format or on sale (which is hard to have to go look because of her eyesight)", "summary": "does anyone know if they still sell cassette players that play 4-sided commercial books on tape?"}
{"id": "t3_zwzx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(20)y room-m(20)ate and best friends of years, is treating me like a child... what do I do?", "post": "We're both 20, best friends for years, been living together for three weeks. To set the tone of how I've been feeling already on top of how he has been treating me these past couple weeks, my gf died in april. Coming back to school has been one of the harder/hardest things I've had to do, and I am already not in a great state of mind. There are 4 of us living in this apartment.\n\nAnyway, to make this short, he's been treating me like a kid/and he is my parent. This is something that happened the other day:\n\n- I start full dishwasher, go to bed. Wake up at 8 for my 845. Have food, dishes are still in dishwasher. I don't have time to empty. Leave for class. Come back, he immediately gets on my case telling me to put my dishes in the dishwasher (they were on the counter) and, I tell him I will. Goes on to say how he \"always puts my dishes away\" I told him that this was bullshit (I actually ALWAYS make sure to put them away when I can, so that no one can call me lazy). Anyway, long story short, he tries to say that I don't and then he basically changes the subject to something else or makes a joke about it.\n\nSecond example; I drank one night the first week by myself. He threatened to call my parents and tell them that I was being an alcoholic...\n\nThird; If I ask how to cook something (because I don't know how, even though the questions are often trivial) he yells at me. \"NO YOU DONT PUT THEM ON THE LOWER RACK, ONLY ON THE UPPER RACK IN THE STOVE\"", "summary": "basically best friend of years is treating me like a child. I'm not his kid, this is college. Just because he wants the apartment to be spotless 24/7 doesn't mean I have the same drive to be so sparkling clean (this is college after all). Only yells at me, not other room mates. Accuses me of stuff I don't do (not putting dishes away when possible). How to deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_3fo7rc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [38/F] girlfriend of 11 years objects to having sex with me [45/M] but still pours on the romance heavily", "post": "I am 45M and have been together with my 38F girlfriend for 11 years.  The last 4 years it's been a dead bedroom situation.  We've talked about it probably 3,853 times, and ultimately it boils down to the fact that she's just not interested in having sex anymore.  She insists that she simply has no libido in general, but I know that in most of these situations it's usually the case that one partner is just no longer attracted to the other, whether the low-libido person realizes it or not.\n\nThe whole time, she's remained super romantic with me.  She loves to kiss, cuddle, go out on dates, walk through the park holding hands, go to plays, take road trips and vacations, watch movies, drink wine in nice restaurants, meet up with other couples, etc.  The kicker is that she talks excitedly about plans for our future together.\n\nThis is all very confusing to me.  If she's no longer attracted to me and doesn't want to do naughty grownup things, I can accept that.  It's unfortunate, but that happens sometimes in relationships and life goes on.  But, when that happens don't people usually pull away romantically as well?  How is it possible that she is planting kisses all over someone and excitedly planning a future with a person she can't bring herself to touch?", "summary": "38F girlfriend is no longer interested in sex with me [45m].  So why is she still very romantic and talking excitedly about our future together?"}
{"id": "t3_k74xl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit: How grossed out would you be of someone with a condition like this (details inside)?", "post": "Ok so I'm a 20 year old guy who suffers from palmar and pedal hyperhidrosis. Its where my hands and feet sweat when I'm nervous, hot, stressed, sometimes for no damn reason. \nMore info here: \n\nI've tried every treatment available with no success. The only thing left is a surgery which *could* cure it but make me sweat in other places a lot worse (compensatory sweating as it's called). \nHaving this makes me extremely uncomfortable when it comes to women because I don't know how they would react. The only person I can hold hands with that never got grossed out were my mom and dad and my close friends don't care about it when it comes to high fiveing and shit like that. So would you ever date someone with a condition like this? Please be honest, I'm not looking for pity or false hope.\n\nOther than this I'm a normal 20 year old guy. About to enter the PA program at my college. I wish I could say I have the looks to compensate for this but I don't, I'd say I'm average to below average looking.", "summary": "My hands sweat alot for no reason, would you be grossed out?"}
{"id": "t3_yqn8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I only ever do things to make my girlfriend happy even if it means myself being unhappy. Advice please?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for 18 months and I feel like I only ever do things that she wants and not what I want. She is scared of me going out with mates incase I cheat on her (maybe because her previous boyfriend did?) or do drugs even though I have countlessly promised we that would never happen. I love her very much and with all my heart. I just don't feel in a happy and secure relationship anymore. She is very controlling although I would never tell her that.  I want her to trust me, what can you do to make a girl trust you more?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 18 months forbids me to do most things, I only ever do things to make her happy, not myself."}
{"id": "t3_leqo0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Semi-recently out of a four year relationship.  Realizing it was somewhat abusive.  Felt like shit for awhile, now I'm happy to be dating again.", "post": "I posted here a few times after it happened, though they're deleted now.  The typical loss, anguish, pain.  \n\nI went on a date on Friday.  First date in four years.  I was nervous as hell and was worried I might just break down crying in the middle of it or something.  \n\nBut something...clicked...I don't know how else to describe it.  I realized the woman who claimed she loved me really did very little to prove that, while demanding proof from me on a neurotically-frequent basis.  Everything she accused me of; lying, cheating, keeping secrets, not sharing my feelings enough, well, she did all of those things plenty, and tried to keep it all hidden from me.  \n\nSo I went on this date.  And I had a fucking great time.  Not only is it the first blonde I've ever been with (I'm 30 and have been with around 20 women), but she's damn smoking hot.  I had (and continue to have) a great time with her.  Whether it turns more serious or not is the last thing on my mind.  Hell, after we parted ways, went to the bars with some friends and I got two more phone numbers.  \n\nWhat's the point of all this?  I'm not trying to be a dick and rub it in everyone's faces or anything.  I guess the most succinct way to put it would be", "summary": "There is no \"the one,\" just right people for the right times, and if the relationship ended there was probably a good reason for it, although that's hard to see at first.  Go enjoy yourself."}
{"id": "t3_2y3o6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my long distance girlfriend [17 F] have a bit of an issue that might seem silly", "post": "I've been with my long distance girlfriend for almost 4 months now, and our relationship has been pretty great and we will finally be together in just a few months.\n\nNow we had a talk today, and we got into not quite an argument, but a discussion about a problem. We talk on Skype daily, and whenever we do she always seems to be covered up more, ie. today she wore a flannel and usually as a girl you'd button it down, and she specifically buttons it all the way up prior to talking to me. We've talked about it before and she says she wants that to be more of a suprise, but I think it's pretty silly that she walks around showing cleavage but completely covers up for me. I told her I don't think it's fair that literally any guy can look down her shirt at anytime, yet she entirely covers up for me. She says it's because I'm important and that everybody else doesn't matter, but I guess I don't see that, I see it more as if others get to see more than I do and that's kind of shitty. It's not as if I haven't seen her chest before, and yes, I've met her in person, and so I'm not sure why this is such a big deal to her, but it makes me feel kind of insignificant in a way, that a random kid at her school can see more than I, her boyfriend can.\n\nI know this is a silly problem, and she's a fantastic girlfriend and we kind of talked this out, but we didn't really get anywhere. There are no hard feelings, bit I guess I feel as if the issue still isn't resolved.", "summary": "My girlfriend wears outfits that show cleavage, yet deliberately wears a sweatshirt or covers it somehow when talking to me. This bothers me, but I can't really convey why, without sounding like a prick, any help?"}
{"id": "t3_2uyl9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong [20F] to expect my overseas BF [25M] of 2 years to get settled in the US without marrying me [20F] first?", "post": "I'm in a very happy relationship, but I'm a US citizen and he lives in the UK, so he blows much of his paychecks coming to visit me. I feel bad about the situation, and have asked him to try to be here on a more permanent basis. He said he would look into temporary jobs, but also hinted that I would have to marry him before he would look into a long-term job, because it's much easier to find one if one has a green card through such a marriage.\n\nI know that getting hired straight from a foreign country is hard, but my dad and most of the adults around me when I was a kid had accomplished exactly that. I can't help but look down on my boyfriend for not having the ambition to try getting a job here without the benefit of a green card, and maybe that's unfair, but it's just such a contrast to what I saw growing up, people who either had employers handle their visas or got into a US university and went from there.\n\nAlso, much of our relationship has been in this pattern of a week of bliss together followed by several months of being apart. Even though we chat every second we can, I really don't think the premise of a marriage can be built on that type of structure, because of course the pleasure of being together will be intensified when it's so spasmodic. We haven't seen enough reality yet.\n\nTo be clear, I am by far the more loved in this relationship, the one being nurtured, mentored, and showered with gifts. We are best friends who make each other better, and also have tons of passion for each other. He didn't demand or even try to imply anything, but was simply hurt that I said the only way I saw us together in the distant future is if he was able to settle down in the States without my help.", "summary": "BF only wants to look for long-term employment after I marry him and he has a green card to make the job hunt easier. I want him to show me he can find a job (or at least get into a good grad school, and go from there) without my help, or else I would be unlikely to keep pursuing the relationship. How do I convince him? Am I wrong to think this way?"}
{"id": "t3_29ln20", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying an Almond Joy", "post": "So today at the store I was doing my usual thing, getting groceries and whatnot. As I was at the checkout line, I grab the last Almond Joy. As I finish paying this lady comes up to me screaming. \n\"How dare you take the last Almond Joy! My son loves those!\"\nI'm of course, kind of shocked. Why is she yelling at me, why can't she just go get one from another checkout line, why is she looking at me so angrily?\nNow, when life gives you opportunities, you better take them. I begin like this\n\"Well since I just bought this, I'll let you buy it off of me. Four dollars.\"\nThe lady snarls at me. Her ferocious offspring begins crying, so she quickly grabs four dollars. We make the deal. With a smirk, I go over to the next aisle and I grab two almond joys, and buy them with her four dollars while maintaining eye contact. Sure I got 2 Almond Joys out of it, but I kind of feel bad about her and how I made her lose money...", "summary": "Supply and Demand, I buy and demand."}
{"id": "t3_2w47lp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [23/M] ask my ex [22/M] to unfollow me on Twitter?", "post": "> Hey, sorry to bother you. Could you unfollow me? I'm guessing you just forgot, but it would help if you did. Thanks. Hope you're good. Bye.\n\nThis is the message I want to send him. Around 2 months ago, we cut all ties, following a talk about the previous ~3-6 months of him apparently not giving a shit about me. This has been tough for me, but I've succeeded in mostly keeping him out of my life. I haven't talked to him. I try not to let him get in the way of things in my head (and fail sometimes).\n\nThe problem is he still follows me on Twitter. And I've only got like 10 followers, so every time I'm on Twitter, I'm just sort of aware of him there. 90% chance he muted me during the aforementioned 3-6 months and doesn't see anything I post. But it still bothers me.", "summary": "Do I send it? Is there a way to handle this without sending him anything? Any random other advice would also be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_38st5r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] My girlfriend [22/F] got excessively drunk last night from a stranger buying her drinks at the bar.", "post": "My girlfriend of 2 months went out last night with a group of friends. I received severally text and voicemails from her. She was more drunk than I've ever seen her. She mentioned she received free drinks all night. I asked from you, and she responded with some guy named Brandon. I don't believe she had done anything with the guy besides accepting his drinks.\nThis morning I brought the issue up to her, and her response was that she could see why I was upset, but she was too hungover to have this conversation, which made me feel like she was pushing the issue aside instead of facing the problem.\n\nIs this a major red flag? Or am I overreacting?", "summary": "GF of a short time let a guy at a bar get her extremely intoxicated. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_352u05", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by swallowing tobacco spit", "post": "I just wanna start off and quell \"dipping is bad for you\" comments. I know it's disgusting and terrible for me. Anyway.\n\n So this happened last fall my favorite college football team was losing to my least favorite football team. We had been drinking since midmorning, so when the game started late that afternoon I was in full T-Rex arms mode. In addition to drinking very very heavily I was also using dip to even out the experience. As the game progressed, we had an incredible play that could've turned the game in our favor. However, my team is notoriously known to fuck up at big moments. So I had my spitter and beer beside each other. In my carelessness I had spat the tobacco into my actual beer. Cue a terrible play. /chugs entire beer in anger. As the delicious beverage was nearing its final destination into my stomach, I felt something solid hit my lips. I knew instantly the mistake I had made. I doubt many people are aware of what happens when you swallow smokeless tobacco. I did. And I would soon find out the consequences of my actions. I calmly stood up , adjusted my invisible tie, and excused myself from the room. Stepping outside a deluge of Sweetwater IPA and Grizzly Wintergreen EJECTED out of my body. My soul and dignity along with it. I walked in calmly as my exit, popped another beer and watched my team be put out of their misery.", "summary": "Watched football. Became angry at the teams actions.  Chugged dip spit beer. Vomited out my soul."}
{"id": "t3_rlgxp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get rid of your bad mood?", "post": "It's a beautiful day outside and I was looking forward to a good day with my mom and my little sister. My mom asked us to helo clean the house, which we did (my sister grumbled but what 9 yr old doesn't?). And later my mom asks if we want to go out to lunch and go see a movie so I say yeah sure, and start to change into some better clothes. \n\nI thought I had time to change because I could hear her shaving her legs with her electric razor. And then all of the sudden she yells, \"Are you coming?!\" and I go yeah i just thought i had time to change, and she goes \"no I was killing time waiting for you.\" I responded with \"well how was I supposed to know?\" and then she pulls the \"You know what, we're not going, I'm tired of all this attitude. No one appreciates anything I do for them.\" \n\nShe doesn't pull this crap very often but when she does it just really pisses me off. So she just goes ahead and ruins everyone else's day. So now I'm just really pissy and I don't know how to get rid of this bad mood other than getting into an argument with her. \n\nHow do you get rid of your bad mood reddit?", "summary": "Mom decides to cancel plans for today cause I didn't realize I didn't have time to change."}
{"id": "t3_ll126", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl friend of a year and a half spent the night at her ex's (a 6 year relationship). I need advice!", "post": "I'll try to keep this fairly succinct. My girl friend (Age 24) and I (Age 22) have been living together for a year and a half, we are pretty serious (have talked about marriage and kids). Recently, we have decided to slow things down and go on a \"break\" so she can get things sorted out and know for sure she wants to be with me.\n\nI of course didn't want this but felt like I needed to be supportive of it so she can be 100% certain of our relationship. The difficult thing is that we LIVE together, and I am still expected to treat her the same way I did before the break, minus giving her grief about going out/ not informing me of her plans.\n\nLong story short, last night she went and got dinner and drinks with her ex who she was with for 6 years prior to me. Later that night she called me (clearly intoxicated) asking if I would be upset if she stayed there because she was too drunk to drive the 30 minutes to our home. Now its almost 10A.M. the next day and still no word from her :/\n\nI need advice on how I should handle this situation/ what I should be thinking about all this. Thanks guys!", "summary": "My girlfriend with whom I am in a serious relationship spent the night at her ex's (a 6 year relationship) house while she was drunk last night."}
{"id": "t3_wkp6o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The nicest Meter Maid just restored my faith in (some) civil servants. What's the nicest thing you ever witnessed a civil servant doing?", "post": "Ran into a friend at a yogurt shop. As we were sitting outside a meter maid asked if the car parked illegally (a bit) in the red with an expired meter was ours. We said no, but thanks so much for asking. As he was ticketing the car, we were remarking about how we never met a meter maid that would do that, the owner ran out of the cake shop asking if he could stop. He smiled and talked to her for a bit and then put his digital pad thing away and started down the row. We told him he was the nicest Meter Maid in the world. he said thanks, I probably won't last. He's only been doing it 2 months. I know he won't last, because the very next car needed a ticket and his first instinct was to call out for the owner again.", "summary": "Met a meter maid before he turned evil."}
{"id": "t3_1stcvk", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "I thought I loved my dress...", "post": "(Throwaway because my fiance is a fellow redditor.)\n\nSo a little over a month ago, I went with a few of my favorite people to try on wedding dresses. David's Bridal was our first and (and as I came to find out) last stop. My consultant was more than amazing and I fell in love with the last dress of the day... or so I thought. I never wanted a dress with a train ( I'm 5'2 - just think it looks funny on my body ) and this particular dress came with a chapel train. It looked alright busseled so I bought it.\n\nI'm worried I made a huge mistake. The more I look at myself in the dress, the more disappointed I get. Don't get me wrong, the dress is beautiful but I don't know that it looks right on my body type. Idk if it's JUST the train or the overall shape - I'm a bit lost. :/  Last week I went back to the store to try it on again and a different consultant told me I could order the dress without the train. After some thought, I exchanged my original for the new one - minus the train. \n\nI'm hoping when I put on the dress without the train, I'll fall in love again and the stars will align. Am I crazy? Has anyone else ever bought a dress they thought was the \"one\" then regretted it??\n\nHere are some pictures of the dress and a picture of the train, followed by the picture from DB's website -Style V3476.", "summary": "Bought a dress I thought I was in love with and now I think I'm going kookoo."}
{"id": "t3_3wl8mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my crush [16 F] 2 months, I like her a lot but I don't know what to do.", "post": "For the past 2 month I'm hanging out with a girl from my class. I never really had the chance to really know her in class. So when we started to hang out and I really got to know who she really is I fell in love with her. I personally think she is perfection and literally can't stop thinking about her , but she is really insecure and isn't feeling well mentally for some time. I already told the people I trust the most about my crush. Including a friend of hers. But this is the first time I have a crush on someone. Normally I'm a person who tries to avoid crushes. But there was just something special about her. Because this is the first time I don't know what to do with it. I tried to forget my feelings, but I just couldn't get over her. I was thinking about confessing so I just could move on, but that would feel like just giving up this bond. So i wanted to ask reddit. There might be some things I probably forgot to tell but I had to write this fast.", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl. It's my first time a have these feelings. so I don't know what to do. I've already tried forgetting these feelings, but that was unsuccessful."}
{"id": "t3_1ciopw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mother is butt hurt over my telling her off, now she will only speak to me in a business like fashion [21/f+62/f]", "post": "21/f 62/f Mother/daughter \n\nMy mother is an entrepreneur and runs two businesses and I've been involved my whole life, working like a dog and even putting school after work.\n\nI go to university abroad, and I was home over Easter holiday, where I spent 9-5 EVERY day without pay fixing both websites, shooting slides, making new promotional materials and setting up her social media.\nThe business is doing poorly, very poorly to the point that she was following me around the house crying about not having money to pay taxes.\n\nI told her that she has GOT to send me pictures So I can do her social media.\n\nThis past weekend, first weekend I'm back at school, senior year, in the midst of the end of all things, she starts sending me these joke pictures, pics of someone picking their feet in the store, underwear hanging from a string and at first I didn't know what was going on so I was mad. This \"send me pictures\" social media issue has been ONGOING and I didn't get a single picture for social media.  I've been asking for the last year to just send pictures, to take 30 seconds and send me a picture because I can't do it while I'm 5,000 miles away.\n\nI finally sent her a message saying,\n\"Also, I know you were sending those toe picture and funny pictures as a joke, but I find it disrespectful when I'm coming to you from a business perspective TRYING to help turn things around. Why should I take thins seriously if you're not?\"\n\nNow she's mad at me, and won't speak to me in any way other than short clipped business way.  \n\nI'm just sick of a grown woman acting like a child. Ugh, some advice?", "summary": "I'm working on business development with family business, mother isn't taking me seriously, I called her out and now she's mad, I feel like I don't have time for this crap but she's my mom..."}
{"id": "t3_3d8ssp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 24, no jobs, no qualifications, no assets and living with my parents. What should i do?", "post": "I am still studying in college, but it is just for a qualification for a job that i might not enjoy.\n\nI want to invest in property, but currently i have no cash flow at all to apply for loans. what's your thoughts on this?\n\nI've applied for a few jobs, paying around $600 per month with my high school qualifications, but college takes the majority of my time so i couldn't hold on to a job for more than a month.\n\nI want to be able to be financially free from my parents as soon as possible. they are financially stable but at my age, i want to be able to support myself instead of depending on my parents.\n\nwhat can i do now which can provide me with a steady cash flow so i can save up for a deposit for a property and apply for a loan, in a (*relatively speaking*) short amount of time?", "summary": "Assume i have nothing, what can i do so i can have a constant income and be financially independent from my parents?"}
{"id": "t3_zeusc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20F] feeling trapped in 2 year relationship with [20M]. Again.", "post": "This may be quite long, so I apologize in advance. My boyfriend [20M] and I [20F] have been dating for nearly two years, with a brief break in April. I broke up with him then because I was unsure if I still loved him and was feeling trapped in the relationship (I had been having those feelings for two months prior). Soon after the breakup, I began to feel like I had made a mistake--mostly because it seemed foolish to leave when I had someone who really loved me. We got back together after two weeks and things were peachy for a little while.\nA month later I began to have the trapped feeling again, and it has only gotten worse. He asks to hang out often, but I usually make up an excuse and tell him that I can't make it because I don't really want to spend time with him. He always initiates sex and I often turn him down. He tells me he loves me and I just repeat it because that's what I'm \"supposed\" to say, but it feels so empty. He's asked me about our future a few times (recently and in the past); I know he wants to marry me eventually but I honestly cannot see him in my future. \nI really don't think I want to be in this relationship anymore, but I'm afraid to break up because I know how much it crushed him last time and I don't want to hurt him that badly again--especially so soon. I feel like shit all of the time because I know I shouldn't be having these feelings and it's so unfair to him.\nShould I try and fix this or just leave once and for all? I don't even know if I want to fix it, but I'd feel like such a bitch if I broke up with him some 5 months after we got back together.", "summary": "Broke up with my bf a few months ago because I was feeling trapped, but we got back together shortly after. The trapped feeling has returned and I think I want out, but I'm afraid to hurt him again."}
{"id": "t3_18zyd6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [22f] bf [22m] gets very frustrated over small things sometimes. Any ideas on how to make him feel better after he becomes like this?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for around two years now and I've noticed recently that he's been getting very frustrated and almost angry at seemingly small occurrences. For example, he was playing a video game with friends the other day, and he'll start getting very angry that he's not winning, or that some insignificant thing didn't go his way during this way. Besides video games, this seems to happen when he tries to finish work up for his classes. When something is a bit more work than expected or when a problem does not work out (he's a math major), he will curse and become very put off. I would understand this on occasion, but these occurrences affect his mood for quite a while.\n\nSo, does anyone have any ideas on how to either comfort him or get his mind off of the thing he's frustrated about? Alternatively, is there anyway I can help him chill out a bit during these competitive moments so he doesn't get so frustrated in the first place?", "summary": "boyfriend gets really frustrated when he is in competitive situations and does not come out on top. What to do, /r/relationship_advice  "}
{"id": "t3_154xt1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "10 things you could tell your 18 year old self on their 18th Birthday", "post": "It's my 18th birthday today and i'm at home without any sort of plans. I wasn't expecting my 18th birthday to be so dull and boring, it's a school day and although I have some awesome friends, they're busy, and I don't have anything to do. I'm sure someone on Reddit understands what I mean when you imagine a birthday to be so amazing, especially your 18th and then see it not live up to the hype. My parents work a lot and come home late, they don't really have enough time to spend time with me because of the massive work load they have. My mum's a university lecturer, and my dad is a business man who goes out of the country a lot. They aren't exactly the most friendly people to talk to and over the years I've sort of had to look after myself\n\nSo Reddit, do you have any life changing words you can tell to an 18 year old on his birthday? I was lead to believe that when I was 18 awesome stuff would happen, but right now it doesn't seem that way.\n\nThis is my first time posting on Reddit and thanks for your suggestions", "summary": "It's my 18th birthday and it sucks"}
{"id": "t3_2tvs4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M23) ended 1 year relationship with SO (F21) due to many reasons, one being the honeymoon period - does it always come to an end?", "post": "So as the title suggests, I'm just wondering if the honeymoon period always comes to an end? Or in successful relationships does the honeymoon period come and go, or is it just a one off thing at the beginning and then a subdued version for the rest of the relationship? I've been in a couple of relationships before and I guess it always ended because one person wasn't feeling the same way about the other as they used to feel. But yeah, I guess this question is more directed towards people who are in successful long term relationships, but of course, I'd like to hear everyone's opinion. Thanks.", "summary": "Does the honeymoon period always come to an end or can it last forever?"}
{"id": "t3_2dunpi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend (m/20) of one year will not stop bragging about his new job", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now. We are both 20. He recently got a new job and I am so happy for him because he was looking for a really long time and is happy where he is. However, he will not stop bragging about how good he is at this new job. Everyday that I see him after work, he spends nearly the whole time talking about how fast he is learning everything, how much everyone likes him, how nobody does the work as good as he does, how managers love him, how he works harder than everybody else, how the management doesn't see all the good things he does and if they did they would be rewarding him, etc. \n\nI'm happy for him. He's confident. I get it. But seriously, have some modesty. I feel like I am seeing a side of him that I've never seen before and I don't like it. I know it's not worth bringing up with him because it will just lead to a stupid fight. How to I deal with this? I am having a hard time ignoring it.", "summary": "Boyfriend got a new job, constantly telling me how good he is at his job, very obnoxious to me, how to deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_fn1p8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay guys and girls, what is your most disgusting bedroom story? omit no details.", "post": "here's mine: i was fresh out of high school and dating a girl from our small town, we'll call her sarah. one particular weekend a mutual friend was coming home from his first tour in iraq and was having some friends over to celebrate his return. party begins as usual with drinking games and social interaction. trash can punch seemed to be the most popular drink, due to the two orange gatorade coolers full of that red magic drank. anyway sarah gets wasted, throws up on host's dining room table, proceeds to pass out immediately. so i literally throw her ass in the passenger side and proceed to take her back to my place so she could sleep it off. so the next morning i wake up (slept on the couch), and go up to my room where she slept. before i walk in the door i could smell something wasn't right. i could hear her in the shower so i entered my room expecting  the worst. i lift up the sheet and comforter to shit smeared sheets (she had literally rolled around in it at some point in the night), a pissed stained mattress, and, i swear it's the truth, corn kernels. she didn't say a word on the way home and she never brought it up in the short time we dated after that.", "summary": "THERE'S SHIT EVERYWHERE!"}
{"id": "t3_1wbtrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21/F] always paying for my boyfriend [24/M] and feeling the stress", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and whenever we go out I always end up the one paying. Before we officially got together I was paying for things but to be honest I didn't mind much until recently.\n\nA little background: He works part time in retail (which he always looks for a better job) while I work full time making about 3x as much. He only pays his car insurance and cell phone bill but it takes majority of his money.\n\nWhenever we go somewhere we always take my car (which he rarely puts gas in) or will suggest going out to eat/to go do something knowing he has no money to spend but magically will forget about it. \nHe takes things really personal if anything about money is brought up but I can't afford to be paying for 2 people every single time. \n\nOther than money issues he's really a great boyfriend. He's very attentive and would do anything for me in his power so I'm not sure what to do or if there's anything that I can do. I'm happy to be with him but feeling the financial stress. What should I do?", "summary": "I pay for everything in a relationship because boyfriend can't help but feeling the stress"}
{"id": "t3_3iiwju", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Hi Reddit. Met a girl, we connected, she still lives with her ex and I'm not sure what that makes us. Any advice would be appreciated.", "post": "Hello Reddit. (Obligatory) first post here. Formatting probably sucks blah blah. I usually just lurk, learn and laugh but thought I might gain some perspective from y'all.\n\nKind of lost here. I met a girl at my god-daughter's birthday party. I don't date people that often but she struck a chord. Everything is going swell but found out she still lives with her ex-bf of 11 years. They broke up about 8 months ago. Her and I had a conversation where she explained to me that the two of them were for sure over. Apparently the reason they still live together is a financial thing? Her and I had been talking for almost 4 months and have had a great time/connection. She took over the lease from him in August but allowed him to stay there for a few months until he found a new place. This guy is a manipulative person from what I can gather. I recently told her I didn't think we could move forward from this point while she still lived with him. I told her to give me a call once he moved out if she was still interested. \n\nHaven't talked to her in almost a month now. She texted me a week ago saying she felt like she lost a friend. I want nothing more than to re-connect with her and keep things going but don't see how it can work while he is the man she goes home to every night. I don't know what to do. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Met a fantastic female who still lives with her ex bf, connected deeply, I put things on hiatus after a few months bc wtf she still lives w/him. Leave the ball in her court or?"}
{"id": "t3_2cttp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M]with my [18 F] is she just using me?", "post": "So at this point I'm pretty sure she is just using me to make herself look better, I met her about a month ago we went out to the movies and dinner 2 weeks ago all went pretty good. In that time I have been doing some stuff for her boss that she is supposed to be doing but I thought I would help her out because I know a little bit more about it then she does. So I finished about 8 projects for her the last few weeks.\n\nI asked her last week if she wanted to do something and she got back to me and said yeah maybe, but the next day she said she was busy but can we do something this weekend coming. So I asked her if she had anything in mind she said that she doesn't know so I through a few things down but she never got back to me. It's now been 5 days and I got an email from her (we have been texting) asking if I could finish of a project for her and in that email said she has been really busy but would like to catch up this week end. \n\nI'm a pretty nice guy and would do anything to help people out and I guess that's my biggest downfall... I really like her we have a lot in common and get along very well. But I have a feeling that I'm going to spend all day finishing this project for her just to never here from here again.\n\nWhat do you think I should do?", "summary": "girl I  like keeps asking me to do stuff but won't answer me back..."}
{"id": "t3_3cjyd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] mother [60f] has a new boyfriend and she is transferring large amounts of money to him", "post": "I'm going to try to keep this as simple as possible. My parents have been separated for 10 years, divorced for three. Two years ago my mother moved abroad, a lifelong dream of hers. Last summer while she was traveling through Europe, I guess she met a man who was working at a restaurant she went to and they hit it off. Fine. I want my mom to be happy.\n\nBut... my sisters and I have always felt something was not right with this relationship. We all found out about it last fall, when without telling any of us she left the country she was living in (in SE Asia) and went to visit him in Europe. While we normally have conversations every day, she just dropped off the face of the earth for four days after explicitly telling me she was doing nothing that weekend. None of us knew where she had gone, what had happened, or if she was okay. This has obviously caused some tension and trust issues between my sisters and her. My eldest sister, who also lives in Europe, is very concerned that this man is scam artist who found a gullible American in need of love and attention to take advantage of. \n\nFast forward to her visiting me this summer. She kept sneaking off for furtive phone calls and generally was being cranky and not herself. You could say my spidey senses were tingling. So, and I know it was wrong, I read her text messages. In addition to many messages of her saying \"I love you\" to no response, there was a message from her that read: \"I wired the money into your account. I could only do 800 Euro for now, because the fees were higher than I expected.\" Now, my mother is not exactly rolling in cash-- she is a high school English teacher who has been traveling the world for the last two years. I don't know what to do now. I'm genuinely afraid that my mother is being taken advantage of and that in the end she is going to end up broke and broken hearted.", "summary": "My mom has started a long-distance, long-term relationship with a man she met while traveling. My sisters and I don't trust him or the relationship. Recently found out via snooping that she is wiring upwards of 800 euro to him. How do I approach this? Do I tell her I was snooping? Do I talk to her about it all, or do I just have to trust that my adult mother can handle her own life?"}
{"id": "t3_1md4df", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my girl [23F] who I've been dating on and off for 2 years can't seem to stop fighting", "post": "I just moved away after college and we broke up because we've done the long distance thing before and it was hard.  I'm also going through a time that I want to work on myself and a relationship feels like a safety net. Regardless, I love her, and she still loves me.  Tonight we were talking, and I was explaining how when I get into a serious relationship, I want to feel secure and stable.  Disagreements will happen, but fighting often and arguing to the point of seriously upsetting one another don't need to happen.\n\nI really love this girl, and there's so much to her that I think would be very satisfying long term, but I'm so tired of fighting and getting in spats.  Is it unreasonable for me to expect stability from my significant other?  She really is quite volatile.\n\nI want to keep things going, but only if things can get better.  The option is definitely there if I decided to make a serious move, but I fear that she is toxic, and the problems we have might only get worse.  It would be really hard for me to cut contact with her, because I love her, although sometimes I don't know if it's just because I'm so attached to her.", "summary": "My ex and I try to work things out, but we often get into spats.  Is this something I need to eject myself from or are there ways to avoid this silly spats?"}
{"id": "t3_1npqej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could use some advice (or clarirty on his view)", "post": "My (f21) so (m27) and i are in a bit of a dilemma. We tend to rarely fight and if we do we work out the issue right away as to not leave any hurt feelings around. However, this time we haven't resolved the issue, nor am I certain we can and we are in the worst fight of our relationship. Here's the story:\n\nMy birthday was on Wednesday and being a weekday, I had a party planned for Saturday to celebrate with friends and my boyfriend, of course. However, my boyfriend being a sweetheart surprised me on my actual birthday taking work off to spend the evening with me (he works nights). \n\nWe had also decided this weekend that we would go bouldering about two hours south of our city on saturday. We had it all planned out so we could celebrate my birthday party withy friends and then go camp a night with his. \n\nTonight (thursday) my so tells me he is leaving early tomorrow to go on the trip and that I could still come with a group on Saturday. \n\nOur issue is, to me this is a big deal. He is ditching me, and my celebration,  to get away and be with his friends one day early. He thinks its not a big deal because he and I already celebrated so i should just celebrate with my friends. So r/relationships am I overreacting? Is it really not a big deal? \n\nSorry if there are errors I'm on my phone! At mod suggestion, I want to add we have been dating a little over 9 months.", "summary": "I think him ditching me is a big deal, he doesn't. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_41jj0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22 M] wanting to ask out my good friend[20 F] of many year, but don't want to mess up our friendship...", "post": "So I have been friends with this girl for maybe 4 years now and I had a crush on her since we met. The funny part is, she has had a crush on me according to many sources throughout the years, including her best friends my friends, and even people that neither of us knew. There has literally been 4 separate occasion where I would be at a party or something social, just to have someone pull me aside and tell me that she was into me by how she is around me......and all that being said, I can't bring myself to go for it.\n\nI am no rookie to relationships, as I have had many relationships, both casual and serous while I have known her, and in all of these I am very confident and straightforward in my approach, and in communicating what I want out of a relationship. I make the first move, plan the dates, and just make it happen.... But with her its different.\n\nI keep chalking it up to \"I just don't want to hurt our friendship, if things don't work out,\" (which is party true) but I know its just the fact that she's the only person I've met that makes me this nervous. And I really don't like the uncertainty of it all.\n\nI just don't know where to begin if I were to go about this, and ask her out. I feel like it could be taken as an \"out of nowhere\" move if I just straight-up ask, and I'm really trying to avoid awkwardness in the event that she does say yes. It just feels like theres just no good place to start towards this goal...", "summary": "Want to ask a long time friend out, but don't know how to begin"}
{"id": "t3_3e5es7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 F] father [47 M] wants contact after 10 years, but it may be just for protection.", "post": "Im sorry if this is a little confusing, I've never put this down into words and its hard to express what Im saying :/  Ill answer any questions down below. \n\nI recently turned 18 and I received a phone call from my Tio from prison. He told me he was in the same unit as my father, and that my father wants to contact me and sister after 10 years. My sister immediately said no, but I'm a bit hesitant. \n\nMy mom and dad split when I was 5 and they had an agreement that every summer he'd pick up my sister and I and take us to my abuelo's house. However, when he got remarried he told my sister and I he didnt need us anymore and then left. We found out a few years later that he was sent to prison, and just learned that he was in the same unit as my family (its a bit difficult to explain, but my family is technically considered a gang. I really dont want to go into specifics about that though.) He has been reaching out to my tios and asking them to convince me to write him because he misses us. The problem is I just had an uncle get released from prison, and he told me and my mom that my dad was trying to say he's from our neighborhood/family because of who my mom,sister and I are. Because all my tios know that he abandoned us and the other people from our neighborhood dont know him, they're calling him out and fighting with him and he had to be put into pc. My dad knows that if my mom and I say that he is my father and apart of my life my uncles would protect him, and I'm worried that is the only reason he's trying to reach out to me. I do not want to start an adult relationship with him if its only so he can be protected while he's in, but I miss my dad and I want to have some kind of relationship with him, even if we can only be friends. Im not sure what to do, please give me some kind of input.", "summary": "dad abandoned me when i was a kid, now is in prison with my family and may be trying to reach out to me for some kind of protection against other inmates."}
{"id": "t3_184nhp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, how would you go about getting rid of someone you see often?", "post": "There is this girl that comes over to my place a lot and hangs out with my roommates and I fairly often. It used to be only Fridays and Saturdays and would hang out at night with us, but now she's over 5 out of 7 days of week and I don't like it. I am slightly attracted to her but I want to stay as friends and seeing her so often is making it hard to act normally in my own home. \n\nSO what I'm trying to do is somehow make it so she doesn't come over so often without looking like a selfish dick. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Trying to get rid of a girl I see too often at my place because she's making it difficult to stay focused on my own thing and makes me act abnormally, how would I do so politely?"}
{"id": "t3_2wmuhd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25f) have a really hard time talking to my boyfriend (37m) am I over reacting?", "post": "My boyfriend and have been together about 2 years and just recently started living together. We live with his parents by choice (long really sad story) and he has some \"habits\" that I'm not to comfortable with. Example Hes a heavy drinker (everynight) and i dont drink. Not because i think its wrong i just dont like the taste of booze. But everytime i try talking about how i feel about the daily drinking it seems like its all in vain. He either says im trying to change him or he blames it on a really terrible thing that happened to him before me. \n\nEven if we try talking about \"little\" stuff he changes the subject or blame it on something i did/do or stays that its not a big deal even though i feel it is. I love him to the moon and back. But i have just stopped talking about my feelings with him. And i fear it is causing resentment toward him. Is this something to worry about? Or is there another approach I can take to explain how hard he is to talk too?", "summary": "My boyfriend is very hard to talk too when it comes to things i feel are important."}
{"id": "t3_fs3hs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So AT&T tried to get my commit insurance fraud, how should I handle this situation?", "post": "As ridiculous as that sounds I'm about 90% sure thats what happened... So a few days ago I called into AT&T about my recently stolen phone. The representative went over what was probably a usual script of trying to remedy the problem, this included the options of either extremely expensive no contract replacement phones or cheaper but fairly outdated phones(I still had my old phone and was using it at this point so buying something like that was pointless). The conversation dragged on and on about how few options there were for me and how little there could be done since I lost my phone 2 months after buying it. \nThen finally she told me she would talk to her supervisor about it. Couple minutes on hold she comes back and tells me that her supervisor told her that she could put insurance on my phone which she KNEW was already stolen so that I may claim it, which would only cost $125. At this point I was willing to try anything, and $125 for a new Galaxy S which was usually 500 outside of contract sounded good to me. So I called the insurance company told them exactly what happened, when it happened, and it didn't go through, OF COURSE it didn't, but why would an AT&T rep tell me to do such a thing, and why did her supervisor tell her to do that. \nSo I called back today got on the line with another supervisor and he didn't have much to tell me other than sorry, he gave me a few more options but those included buying some where else, adding a new line just to buy another phone or doing an early activation for $200(how is that any different since most contract phones are $200 more than non-contract), I will say he allowed me to check if my old phones IMEI was in use yet which it wasn't, unfortunately.", "summary": "I lost my phone, called ATT, they gave me insurance for a phone I had already lost and told me to claim it"}
{"id": "t3_3vwr0l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being drunk and confused", "post": "so this happened last night around 3am, (for reference I work for a tv company in a call centre) and I had just come back from my work's night out, we were out at a Chinese karaoke bar and I was absolutely shitfaced. I arrived home (around 2am) to my apartment where I live with my GF. when I got in she was in bed waiting up for me. she took a few snapchats of me absolutely mangled (I rarely drink) we ended up making out (now just for reference my gf is like 4ft 11 and is a bit bigger but certainly not fat) and getting a little in to it. I make the legendery move of grabbing her boob (G cup), we keep making out for a few minutes at which point she slowed to a stop, drew back and asked \"why are you grabbing my stomach?\" I responded with \"oh I though it was your boob\". now to be honest I really did think it was her boob and I saw nothing wrong with the statement, my Gf however flew in to a fit of rage, \"so you think my stomach feels like my boob, im so fat! im never eating again!\"\nshe was pissed at my the whole night but eventually we laughed about it in the end", "summary": "came in real drunk, grabbed GF's \"boob\" turns out was her stomach. she went nuts"}
{"id": "t3_3dhjsy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my fianc\u00e9 [25/m] has sent me [23/f] over the edge yet again; am i overreacting?", "post": "he and i have been together for 4 years in march and we've had numerous cases of ups and downs; my trust has been belittled exponentially so i'm extremely anxious and cautious of small details\n\nto start, 1+ year ago, he and i took my cousin and her friend to the mall. we came back to his house afterward, and my cousin's friend asked for the wifi password. there was some weird network sharing transfer that came onto her phone and it began downloading from my fianc\u00e9's computer to her phone. there so happened to be an explicit photo of his junk that she saw. it was awk and we laughed about it and boom, it was over with\n\nfast forward to yesterday - my cousin texts me saying that her friend called her and said my fianc\u00e9 was being \"weird\" via facebook messenger. it all came off as small talk in the beginning and he eventually worked his way into saying something along the lines of \"oh yeah, sorry about that pic from forever ago. i was so embarrassed but i bet you were even more. but there's no shame in my game, at least it isn't little\"\n\nnot only is this uncomfortable as hell for her anyway, she is 17 years old... there is no reason he should have said anything so inappropriate in my opinion. ESPECIALLY to a friggin' minor though\n\nhe was monotonous when i scolded him over the situation, like it was a joke and not a big deal. but he also mentioned to her how bored and lonely he was. i've been told this is nothing but to fuel his ego, which i could see because what kind of response would he be expecting out of that anyway? \"yeah, it's big\"? \n\ni don't know if i'm overreacting but this has made me literally sick to my stomach to the point of being nauseous and loss of my appetite. he changed the subject after we spoke and i couldn't bring myself to respond. he hasn't even attempted to contact me in the last day over the matter", "summary": "yesterday my fianc\u00e9 reminded my cousin's friend of how she accidentally saw a photo of his junk 1+ years ago and went on to say \"i have no shame in my game, at least it isn't small\" she's 17, it made her uncomfortable and i'm disgusted that he would put her in that situation"}
{"id": "t3_vcrr0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit do you ever battle these thoughts and how do you get over them?  (a bit depressing, don't read if you don't want to get down!)", "post": "Watching my little brother play today and he was so happy building train tracks.  I started thinking if growing up is any different, we make up out own goals and get happy as we fulfil them.  We trick ourselves into thinking that what we do matters or that we're transcending our human limitations but really it's all just empty.  Playing music, having friends, learning about the world doesn't really matter or mean anything apart from ourselves and that is such a lonely unhappy thing to realise.  Our only meaning is created in our minds and that's so empty when you look at it from an outside perspective.  I know that subjective meaning is there but how can you argue that that really matters.  (please try!)", "summary": "Existential crisis, all we hve is subjective meaning and tell me why that isn't fucking depressing!  I've always felt like human thoughts and emotions are transcendent, they let us go beyond our miserable cold universe and experience something special.  But does it really matter?"}
{"id": "t3_1hgn2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/F] have no idea how to tell my mother about my relationship with my boyfriend [24/M]", "post": "We've been officially dating for around 2 months now, but were close for about a year prior. Now that we're official, my boyfriend feels like my mother should know we're dating, or that he even exists. \n\nShe's said to me before, she'd never make me stop dating someone as she thought it was so cruel but I'm concerned if I don't say the right things, she'll get the wrong idea about my boyfriend and what he's in it for.\n\nI'm not here to be told how horrible the age gap is to some of you, I'm happy, that's all that matters I just need advice on how to tell my mother about this and for her to realise it's a sensible, mature relationship and I don't want to lie to her about where I am anymore.", "summary": "How do I tell my mother about my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3zr9sd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 1 year, won't have sex with me before or on his leg day", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend Jake for almost a year. We go to the same school. He competes for our school's powerlifting team, and is very good. Unfortunately for me, his obsession with the sport is starting to take over his life. He gets hurt a lot, and this past month he told me he found that sex irritates his hip. He decided that this meant we can't get have sex on days when he does squats, or the day before. This means no sex on Saturday, Sunday, Wednesday, or Thursday. Because we both have classes and he has trouble staying awake on Friday evenings, our sex life has gone from several times a week to once or twice per week.\n\nI would prefer to have a lot more sex, and this is frustrating to me, but I'm not sure how to approach him about it. How can I talk to him about this? I know I need to communicate my needs to him, but I have never been in a relationship before him and we have never had any problems so I'm new to this. I'm also not sure how to get to him because lifting weights means the whole world to him. It's so important to him that he keeps a framed picture of some Russian guy next to his bed that he claims has his world record, and he skips family events if they keep him away from the gym.", "summary": "Boyfriend is obsessed with lifting weights, won't have sex with me on leg day, not sure how to communicate that I won't more sex."}
{"id": "t3_2fklup", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking my girlfriend's nose", "post": "This one actually happened this morning... I'm in college, so I decided to sleep over at my girlfriend's house last night after we got done doing some homework. After doing our work I set my alarm for 8 am, put it on the charger, which is behind the bed, and went to sleep... no big deal. I woke up to that 8 am alarm and then fell back asleep for somewhere between 10 seconds and 5 minutes. I woke up again to my alarm still blaring. Like every other morning I went to turn my body to grab my phone and turn it off. Well, at the same time my girlfriend decided to do me a favor by turning it off for me (without saying anything). Her rising head connected with my swinging elbow, and what resulted sounded like a baseball bat being broken. Cue a crying girlfriend, a frantic boyfriend, and a wonderful way to start to the day.", "summary": "Woke up and elbowed my girlfriend in the face. Punishment for domestic violence from my fantasy football league TBD"}
{"id": "t3_457zyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this guy [18m] right to say he can't date me [18f] because I slept with his friends? [x-post r/askwomen]", "post": "Well there's this guy [18m] and me [18f]. When we were 14 I told him i liked him and have ever since (he knows). I dated his best friend when we were about 15. He used to give me shit and sometimes go too far and make me cry; he now says that it's because he couldn't come out of his shell and pretty much did what his friends told him to do, but he's now apologised many times and said it was a really mean thing to do.\n\nWe used at all hang out (his friends and mine) and smoke. One night when he couldn't make it, I selpt with his best friend. I feel like I did it becuase I couldn't have him. Anyway, since then, I've slept with 2 more of his best friends, made out with all the rest, gotten to 2nd base with some, AND I made out with him. I also made out with his brother. I did most of this because we drifted apart, I thought he didn't like me (that's how it came across and he even admits that and is sorry), and I felt like nobody liked me and I wanted some attention. \n\nNow we've more or less put all of that in the past, our group are still friends, maybe not to the same extent as before. He was talking to my friend and admitted the he would be open to get intimate with me or maybe even casually date me or something but said that he feels like he can't/doesn't want to becuase of our past. I don't think that he can get over everything that happened and wants to stay just friends. \n\nIs he right and should we just stay friends or should I try talk to him and see if I can get him to move past this? I want to be more than just friends, even if it's just friends with benefits, but from what I've heard, I think It'd be pretty hard for him to forget what I've done with his friends/get the image out of his head.\n\nWhat would you do in this situation? Thanks for you help :)", "summary": "Guy I liked since I was 14 said he can't date me because I slept with 3 of his friends and got to 1st base with the rest. Everyone is pretty much over it now, but is he right to say we should just be friends even though he's open to be friends with benefits or date?"}
{"id": "t3_2ic5xu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Where do I find human interaction?", "post": "Need some advice on where to socialize. A bit of background\u2026\n\nI'm male and recently turned 20, I have never dated and have very few acquaintances and fewer friends. I am relatively happy and successful, I am not depressed and do not consider myself forever alone. But due to an atypical upbringing I lack any previous social network. I live in the country but I am rather close to a variety of population centers and due to my work I rarely leave my own property. I suppose I should also mention that I'm not pursuing higher education.\n\nIf its relevant I attended a very small private Christian middle and HS and without elaborating excessively, this was very restrictive. I have only one friend  from this experience and no one I want to associate with any longer. I have few typical interests, my work is uncommon and my personal hobbies would be downright strange to most.\n   \nWhat I want to know is how I can meet potential friends and dates? Other than a lack of normal social experiences(thank you religioso HS) I have no crippling personal issues (as far as I'm aware). I'm still underage so no bars and I'm very skeptical regarding online dating given the terrible time my dad had with it (feel free to convince me otherwise). I'm not worried about actually dating I simply don't know where to look. This also leaves the friends aspect out, I would at least like a few acquaintances, as it is I might as well be living in another state for all the people I know. \n\nI hope all this doesn't sound self-pitying I just don't know where the hell to look for other humans to interact with, I'm a loner not a hermit and this lack of human connection is starting to weigh me down. \n\nThanks to everyone in advance for reading and subsequent advice.", "summary": "Otherwise happy non majorly fucked up 20yr m with no experience in dating or finding friends wants to know where to find them."}
{"id": "t3_4ggimk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my fiance[17F] 3 Years relationship, Keep arguing and stalking exs", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nMe and my fiance that have been together for 3 years, Nearly 4, We are having issues between each other, We are arguing at the smallest stuff, It's not even good enough reason to have a argument about. But since i had spoke to her about it, She has started \"stalking\" her ex's over social media sites, ( Facebook, Instagram, Also having snapchat conversations )\n\nI am not being paranoid, I have seen her flirt over text before to him in front of me. \nI may sound paranoid but i also suffer with anxiety and other major mental health problems ( ADHD, and so on.. )\n\nMy question is, What am i suppose to do? I can't ignore it, I feel like i'm trapped and not be able to do anything about it, I had to stop my ADHD, ANTI-Depressions and my Risperidone (bipolar tablets) just for her, as she thins i'd be able to manage without them, So i feel like i'm also getting too over my life as well, I would feel really lost without her and i don't think i'd be able to manage without her.\n\nWhat can i do Reddit?", "summary": "Keep arguing, Have a 2 year old together, Stalking Exs social media"}
{"id": "t3_2ofdxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] think I'm insane!", "post": "So I met this girl when I started high school (also 17 now). For some reason I started liking her. As time passed I realized I kinda have less in common with her than i thought. But i still contined liking her, i don't know why.\n\nShe is (completely honest) a really awesome person in every way. She is talented at everything, super hard working and is also considered to be the best student in school. And she's also super nice, a truly kind person. Anyways I, am sort of a mediocre guy.. meh at everything, not best at social interaction but i guess im alright. So after two years i eventually mustered up the courage to tell her. Of course, she rejected me, but said she would say the same for anyone.. (well she's focusing on her studies).\n\nAnyway another year after that and i somehow did not find anyone better, I just can't stop. I got to know her more over the summer but after i got rejected we talk, but less and less, and even less in person. Not only do i find it difficult to start and keep conversations with her, I now realize it applies for everyone i talk to. Anyways .. I'm not her super close friend or anything and I don't know why I can't stop thinking of her.\n\ni'm basically the opposite of her, not really talented (or maybe i am) but mainly lazy as hell (ok there are lazier people..). I guess because she's the first girl i told? no idea..", "summary": "It's been so long, why can't forget this girl I like? it's been an unusually long time."}
{"id": "t3_2bbtw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf [23 F] 1 year 3 months just broke up and I still think she's the one", "post": "My GF 23F and I 25M have been dating for a little over a year and we took things steady and things were amazing the first year even though I had a lot going on. I've been dealing with my ex taking my daughter to another state without my permission and going to court as well as fixing up my house I just bought and being incredibly stressed at my job. She was nothing but the most supportive and helped push me when I needed it (painting the rooms, making me feel better, etc).\n\nWe are somewhat different people though, she is more social and outgoing whereas I am more introverted and have been more okay with hanging out at home relaxing. I want to be more social though as I used to be when people lived with me and I've just kind of fallen out of it since they moved out.\n\nOver the past couple months I have been pretty down, dealing with the issues of my job and missing my daughter and I have created a divide between us and we stopped communicating well. She broke up with me last week and it was kind of a shock (there were a couple signs but I didn't really notice).\n\nI have been doing something social and running outside every day since and I am trying to be more happy and a better person but I don't know if we will ever get back together or not.\n\nDoes this seem salvageable? I must admit it hurts that she didn't try to make it work more but I can certainly understand not wanting to be down all the time and I didn't communicate as well as I should have.", "summary": "Broke up a week ago and I think we could still fix the relationship, but she's not so sure."}
{"id": "t3_1bfi6o", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm (M/16) who is having trouble finding out if a girl (F/17) is interested, I have no skill at this, any help appreciated!", "post": "So, obviously I'm young, but hey, I'm still a junior going to a high school with this girl, let's call her Jenny. I've been friends with her since the start of this school year so ~6 Months. She got out of a relationship with her boyfriend around two months ago. She texted me and talked to me about it until she finally got over it. \n\nA couple weeks pass by and Jenny starts getting closer to me in class, we have class with each other every day. We start sitting next to each other, yeah no big deal. Another week passes and we're walking in the hallway and she grabs my arm, she interlocks it and I brush it off as nothing, she does the same thing after our next class and I start wondering.\n\nOver the next week, she starts hanging out with me more, I play lacrosse so I have practice all the time. On game day, Jenny takes my practice jersey and wears it around all day and then waits in the locker room for me, and we go hang out for a bit. We're sitting on a bench with a couple other mutual friends and she rests her head on my shoulder. \n\nNow, my doubts mostly come from the fact that Jenny is very outgoing and always makes up some lame excuse to ditch me when I ask to just hang out as friends on the weekends. \n\nI've always been really shy, and have only had one girlfriend before this and she approached me about going out. The few friends I've talked to about this have no idea how to help me. I like to be pretty sure that a girl likes me before I ask her out, any advice and commentary will be appreciated!", "summary": "Strongly believe an outgoing girl who I've been friends with for  a few months has a thing for me, a shy and nervous guy, looking for any advice Reddit is willing to give me, thanks in advance!"}
{"id": "t3_2npo3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] don't know how to tell my girlfriend [21F] of four years that I might be bi.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have known each other since we were kids. Before going off to college, we admitted we had feelings for each other and have been dating ever since. It's great, it's wonderful, we rent an apartment together, we share a car, we kiss and stuff. But around the time I turned 19 I started feeling like I might also be attracted to men sexually, but not romantically. I can't really see myself loving a man the same way I can see myself loving a woman, it's just lust. \n\nThe thing is, I don't know how to tell anyone or even whether I should. I know I can't tell my family and I don't really care to. I don't think it's something I need to share with my friends. But I feel very guilty and dishonest for not sharing this part of me with my girlfriend, and it came to a head recently.\n\nShe was telling me she's \"full fujoshi\" (a Japanese pun for \"rotten woman\" or a woman into homosexual male smut, basically). She (perhaps jokingly) mentioned that she sometimes fantasizes about me having sex with men, and I nervously told her that this makes me uncomfortable. I think she took it to mean that I was really upset because she changed the subject to pegging (we were talking about sex; I told her I can only imagine myself as the penetrating partner regardless of who is catching, which is true). In reality, it made me uncomfortable because I felt like she had almost found me out.\n\nNow I regret saying that, because I feel like I missed an opportunity to just *say it* and get it over with. So now I feel even worse. I feel as sad and confused and disgusted as I did when I was just coming into my teenage years. I thought I was over it by now! To make matters worse, I've started developing a bit of a guy-crush.\n\nHow can I just get rid of these feelings or just tell her? How do I even broach the subject? If I can't even really admit it to myself, how can I tell her? Just thinking about it makes me want to curl up and die.", "summary": "I don't know how to tell my girlfriend I'm possibly bisexual."}
{"id": "t3_1i9x6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31F] want to have \"the conversation\" with my [30M] potential BF", "post": "Throwaway because I try to live my life as though everything I post as myself on the internet will one day be read aloud to me in a room filled with my family, friends, exes, and all my schoolteachers.\n\nI have been dating my (hopefully) boyfriend for more than three months. A couple of my friends have asked me/told me that I need to have a \"conversation\" with him about whether we are in an exclusive, official, monogamous relationship.\n\nHow do I do this? Do I just ask if we're exclusive? Is it clear that means monogamous by choice and not just because we don't happen to have any other opportunities right this second?\n\nIs this a casual, lighthearted conversation or a serious one? Do I ask before sex, after sex, (presumably not during sex)? \n\nWhat if he says no? Does that mean he's not into me and the relationship is over? Is this a conversation that often goes horribly wrong?\n\nIf you're wondering how I got to be the ripe old age of 31 and haven't figured this out yet, I got married in my mid-20s to someone I'd been involved with since high school. That didn't work out (mostly amicably). I took some time to date casually and focus on my career. This is the first time I've ever needed to have this conversation!", "summary": "How do I ask my boyfriend if he's really my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_4z8zs7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My mom died a few months ago and my dad refuses to tell myself or my sister anything about her life insurance despite that my mom told me we were both listed on it. How can I find out what I'm entitled to?", "post": "Ok so the title makes me sound like a bad person who's only concern is getting money out of my moms death. NOT THE CASE AT ALL. My mom passed away from cancer earlier this year and respectively, my sister and I have been very patient with bringing up any type of sore or sensitive/touchy topic with my father since then such as her life insurance policy. Walking on eggshells I suppose you could say. We were a very close family, parents were together 20+ years so no tension or awkwardness there. \n\nEven before my mom was diagnosed, she told me numerous times about her life insurance policy and what my sister and I would be given if she passed. It's been quite a while now and my dad refuses to even SPEAK about the policy with my sister or myself, or anything that has to do with finances for that matter. We have no idea how he is doing financially (if he's saved for retirement, etc.) which makes me feel uncomfortable about asking him about the life insurance. He seems to be doing fine, renewed his lease and bought a new TV, etc. so we assume he's not doing horribly. \n\nHe won't tell us anything about the medical bills either and is being insanely secretive about the entire financial aspect of this. I'm 99.9% sure, based on what my mom told me, that both my sister and I were entitled to X amount on the life insurance but now I'm concerned he's trying to figure out how to keep it from us. What can I do to figure out the truth? Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Mom passed away after telling me my sister and I were on life insurance. Has been 5 months since she passed, dad won't tell us anything. Haven't seen a single document. How can I figure it out?"}
{"id": "t3_37in23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M/F] need help, and to help my parents [50 M] and 45[F]", "post": "There is no way to come right out to say it so forgive me if this will be a meandering post.\n\nMy parents conceived of me when they were both middle aged. My childhood was pleasant, I geuss. But, I always had an heir of superiority because I had both of my parents who could both afford to live in a house, which was more that some of my peers had, so I was contempt. However, I could not have been more misguided. Why? because my mom is a cocaine addict and my dad is at his wits end from years of thuggery, selling drugs, trying to help my mom recover and multiple strokes.\n\nMy parents truly love and care for me, but there is no way we can have a healthy relationship, for every good memory that we share I have memories as a young adolescent being their emotional punching bag.\n\nI would kick them right out of my life( harsh I know), but I am a broke college student, and have no one to fall back on and have no other options but to stay at their house until I can find a job in my field that pays well enough. I would talk to someone about this in my immediate family, but they would not listen to me( I will clarify this in the comments if needed) and my friends are my age and would not have the proper life experience to tell me my best course of actions.\n\nSo in short, I have aspirations and goals in life, and I don't see my crazy parents as a part of it ( i love them), but I know I can't help them and I just want to move on with my life. What should I do? Move out, or just wait until I finish college?", "summary": "My parents need help, I can't help them, no other family to fall back. What do I do"}
{"id": "t3_2hmm8x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is she interested?", "post": "So I met a girl a few months ago through some work friends, when we met she was seeing a guy. A little over a month ago he broke up with her. Since then me and her have been talking and not wanting to rush in to things I have been keeping it slow. The other day we where hanging out and she was making plans for halloween and kept coming up with group costums. We also made plans to maybe go out of town the weekend of halloween with a group of friends. The next day I texted her and she was suggesting couples costums so I thought it was going well. She is really friendly and sweet when we hang out and I get the feeling she is in to me. But today I asked her what she was up to and she said she was going to lunch with her ex, I asked her about after and if she'd like to see a movie and she said she would have to see how she felt after. Now I kind of feel like its not going to happen. Is it just me or is she not in to me?", "summary": "She got dumped, we hung out made plans for halloween, asked her out shes hanging out with her ex said maybe."}
{"id": "t3_4fke95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [25 F] of 1-year, jealous/annoyed of her male friend", "post": "My gf has a male friend, who acknowledges me and claims to respect me. My gf is not only my lover, but my best friend. We talk to eachother all the time about anything and everything. I am perfectly fine with her talking/spending time with her friends however this particular friend seems to put her on a pedestal, and makes sure to message her every day at several different points throughout the day. \n\nI would say that I'm not jealous on a romantic level, it is purely on a friendship level that I am jealous.. She is my best friend and I do want her attention all the time, but I know that this is not healthy and that I have to allow her time to spend with her friends and I need time with my friends as well (which I do allow and am fine with.. I want her to be happy). \n\nThe problem comes with that this guy messages her and prioritizes her it seems. Personally, I feel like if a guy sees a girl is in a relationship that he shouldn't do any of these things, so it makes me uncomfortable. Why would a guy that knows you're in a relationship feel the need to talk to you EVERY single day? Am I wrong for feeling this way?\n\nI have told my girlfriend that I am not comfortable with the actions of this guy.. and it genuinely makes her sad. I do trust her and know that she would never betray me, however the amount of attention he gives her bothers me and I'm unsure how to handle this.", "summary": "Guy prioritizes my gf, I am uncomfortable. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ztee4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [15M] afraid my friend [16M] no longer wants to talk to me and have no idea why.", "post": "Long story short, he's my best friend and we've known each other since the age of 6. We always used to hang out to each other's homes and do random stuff/have fun.\n\nThing it's been a month and a half since we no longer see each other. We always delay our meets towards the weekends when we will be free to relax and not have to worry as much about work, but unfortunately there's always something in-between (holidays, grandparents, shitty weather and even work - he's got a part-time job). I'm worried he doesn't want to go out with me anymore but won't say it. He's generally not the kind of guy who complains openly about stuff.\n\nShould I be worried or not? What can I do in these circumstances?", "summary": "Me and friend plan to meet each other for a month and a half but there's always something that prevents us. I'm afraid he doesn't want to talk with me anymore and is making excuses."}
{"id": "t3_35de8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20m] and my ex[18f] broke up with some unresolved issues that need to be...well resolved...need spme advice", "post": "Hello r/relationships im pretty new to posting in general so sorry for any mistakes.\n\nAnyway my girlfriend and I just recently broke up after nearly two years together (also i should add that we've spent nearly a year of long distance and she is gonna be coming to my area in a few more months) and honestly we needed too, because no matter how hard i tried she kept getting more and more distant, and it was wearing me down.\n\nWhat really bugs me is that i dont know why she started doing this and she doesn't know why she felt that way either.\n\nSo we decided we should break up, because things weren't getting better and she thought she just needed time alone to figure things out.\n\nI need to hear why she started acting so distant from her. I have my theories, but i need to hear it from her. Also we decided that we shouldn't talk for a while.", "summary": "So my question is, how long should we wait before talking things out?"}
{"id": "t3_14kpcf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [20M] of 2 months told me [17M] that he thinks my brother [18M] is more attractive. I haven't taken such a low self esteem blow in a long time.", "post": "My boyfriend told me that he thinks my brother is more attractive than me. You see, my boyfriend is Chinese, and most Chinese think white features are attractive. My brother has a pointed \"western\" nose and blue eyes. I have a rounded \"asian\" nose and brown eyes.\n\nHe told me \"your brother inherited all your family's beauty\" (his english is still improving.) I have been crying all day, because ever since I can remember, people have found my brother to be the \"attractive\" one, and I have been the less-attractive one, not necessarily ugly. I've battled self esteem for a while. \n\nI've always been skeptical to show my boyfriends my brother, for fear of them doing this exact thing. My brother (who's heterosexual) has dated several of my friends, and the moment my friends see him, they automatically get a crush on him.\n\nMy boyfriend tells me \"looks don't matter to me\" and that he thinks \"I am really cute\", but I don't think it's enough. I feel like he's just settling for me, when he really wants a guy like my brother. Do I end it before I get in deeper?", "summary": "My boyfriend told me my brother is more attractive than me. Battled self esteem my whole life. Feel like he's only settling for me. Do I break up before I get in too deep?"}
{"id": "t3_46uk6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F18] have been dating my boyfriend [M25] for a little over three month. Everything is going great, I'm just scared due to a previous abusive relationship.", "post": "I have been dating this guy I met at work for a little over three months. He is a great person and extremely kind. However, I perviously left an emotionally abusive relationship that lasted about a year and I'm worried this man I am currently with may display signs of abuse as well. He doesn't do anything alarming, I'm just scared. I was wondering if there were any red flags I should be aware of at the beginning of an abusive relationship.  I have personally encountered two emotionally manipulative people in my life my ex boyfriend  [M19] included. Both times, the change in behaviour took me by surprise. Both relationships are a bit foggy, so I was wondering what I should be aware of.\n\nMy boyfriend doesn't do anything I would call unorthodox; I have other relationships freely without any issues (my ex boyfriend got extremely angry when I spoke to another male, even a classmate) and he is extremely supportive in all parts of my life. I think the only alarming thing he has done was said 'I love you' 3 days into our relationship. (I know, I was taken aback) \n\nPlease let me know. Also any red flags about generally inappropriate behaviour.", "summary": "what are some red flags I should be aware of in romantic relationship with my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_2xrpd5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my phone connected to a Bluetooth speaker (NSFW)", "post": "This happened about two minutes ago... Earlier tonight my sister, brother-in-law and I were playing Halo while I played music from my phone through their Bluetooth surround sound system. After a good four hours of partying, we decided it was time for bed. Keep in mind I was staying at my sisters one room apartment. \n\nSo about an hour after they go to sleep, I'm feeling pretty horny. So I go into their bathroom, pornhub at the ready. As I start up my first video, I notice I can't really hear it. Slowly I begin to turn up the volume. Still nothing. So I have my volume about half way up for the rest of my 5 minutes of pleasure. \n\nI finally finish up and go into the living room to go to bed. To my surprise both my sister and brother-in-law were wide awake, stunned looks on their faces. So I coolly asked what was up. That's when I noticed the surround sound system was still on and it said BT. I immediately feel as though I'm going to be sick. My sister just heard me watching what I can only imagine as being a loud and obscene DP video.\n\nMy brother-in-law gave me a stern look and said \"I'm going back to bed.\" I hope reddit delights in my biggest fuck up to date.", "summary": "Disconnect your phone from Bluetooth speakers once you're done using it."}
{"id": "t3_uuh15", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I found someone that I sort of know from college on OKCupid in my hometown 4,000 miles away from our school, should I contact him?", "post": "So I was browsing OKCupid tonight, and came upon a thumbnail of a guy who looked strangely familiar. Turns out, he graduated last year from the college that I currently attend, which is a very small school (less than 2,000). I didn't know him personally, but I definitely remember seeing him around school, and we definitely have several mutual friends. The most bizarre part of this for me was that almost nobody from my school lives in my hometown (I'm back for the summer), and he has recently moved here. He seems really nice and I think it would be awesome to connect with someone from my school since my friends from home are so different, but I'm reluctant to contact him because a) the whole thing seems a little creepy and b) I'm worried that word might travel back (and rapidly) to people from my school. This is all amplified by the fact that I am definitely interested in him. Thoughts? Suggestions? Concerns?", "summary": "Found someone that is a friend of many friends and part of a small, but wide network of college friends while surfing OKCupid. He is now living in my hometown but I'm worried about rejection and about half of my friends/everyone at school finding out."}
{"id": "t3_v7tph", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Here again I return to this field of nightmares.", "post": "Owner to a party this weekend. It was pretty fun, but I do have some qualms about something's that happened there.\n\nMy friend asked me if I was trying to hook up with a mutual female friend of ours. The thing is that I am pretty sure everyone knows my love life is dead (or in the very least catatonic). I wonder what prompted him to ask. \n\nI do have to admit that I have a little crush on her, but none of my friends would know(directly) because I haven't divulged that sort of information to any of my friends in a long time.\n\nThe other problem I hae with the party is that I spent like an hour chatting to a female friend of mine about a rap artist we both happen to like. And of course,being me, I developed a little crush on her after reading way to far into her communications with me. I am guessing that what I did read from her was wrong so I throw it all out of my mind and must painfully convince myself that she is just a friend.\n\nFurthermore I have elaborated the fact that I , being monogamous in nature, find that my ability the have a crush on two women can only lead to the conclusion that I am fucking lonely. And the type of relationship I would have wouldn't be the type of long lasting relationship I want.", "summary": "I can't tell them how I feel, but it's for the best because I tend to fuck up in relationships anyways."}
{"id": "t3_1oprda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my boyfriend [39 M] 2.5 years, He won't say \"I love you\" back to me...", "post": "So my BF will NOT say \"I love you\" back to me when I say it. This has been going on for awhile now since we've been together awhile. I have recently become sober (6mo), so I guess it just didn't bother me before? But now it really does. \n\nI have tried to talk to him about it and he just says \"I don't say things on command\". I tried to explain to him that he is just being stubborn and kinda selfish. He thinks it should be more spontaneous and it will be more genuine that way. I know he loves me, but it just hurts that he can't say it back to me. When he does say it, it's maybe 1-2 times per week. \n\nI know this doesn't seem like a huge deal, but we've had other issues and I just feel something as little as this is an example to the future. He will tell my daughter \"I love you\" back to her when she says it to him, but not to me...WTF?!  So how should I bring this up and what should I say to him? Thanks!", "summary": "BF won't say I love you back to me, what should I do?!"}
{"id": "t3_3dqcdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my first date [18 F] is the age gap too big? And I think she is cute, but not really in love..", "post": "I was not actually activley looking for a relationship, but she asked me out. I have often wanted to be in one, but as I said, I haven't been activley looking. I think she is cute, like mabye 6-7/10 and seems really nice.\n\nHowever I have some concerns about me not really having any  'flyttery' feelings for her. (English isn't my first language so that is the best I can describe it.) Because, I have somtimes fallen for girls wich I would say are better looking. \n\nI've been described as quite handsome but I see myself as kind of a nerd. I've never built up the courage myself to ask a girl out, I tried tinder for a while and got a few matches (only one I really liked) but never got anyones number. \n\nI'm also concerned about the age gap, since it falls out of the 'socially-acceptable-scale-thingy'. But only by 1 year. And also that I was kind of subscribed to that rule myself and actually think 19-20 *should* be my lower limit. \n\nThen again, I think we actually are a good match in that we might have similar interests (we met when I visited my old dojo), architecture and anime. I said yes to the date because of this, but I feel like I need to ask if I should pursue this as a relationship when I haven't really fallen for her the way I have for others.", "summary": "Is an age gap of 5 years too big when the girl is 18? I haven't really fallen for her, but I think she is a good match. Should I pursue this?"}
{"id": "t3_3gkhmo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] Me [24 M] with my friend[21 F] have been hanging out 1 on 1 and I really like her and am unsure to try asking her", "post": "original post here: \n\n So thanks everyone from saying to simply go for it instead of thinking too hard, she hasn't arrived yet but I found out when exactly and how I'm going to ask her out. I'll have an actual update with how it went sometime after 9/11...didn't actually notice that date til now lol. Anyhow I set up something where when she gets back that day I'm gonna head over and essentially set-up a small dinner party of sushi and sake for her (her favorite food/drink) with just the two of us then actually ask her officially out then, wish me luck and you will here from me later :)", "summary": "Actually going for it a month from now when she returns, with a set-up and everything"}
{"id": "t3_1cd1pk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you say to your friend who wants to die? (purely hypothetical)", "post": "There's an episode of Louis with Doug Stanhope where Stanhope plays an old friend of Louis'. At the end of the episode Eddie leans up against his car, drunk, and starts this spiel to Louis eventually bluntly stating that he plans to kill himself after his next show. Here's a clip of the scene - \nWatch the whole thing (it's on Netflix) if possible. \nLouis, being Louis, tries to convince Eddie to live - gives a really good speech too - but Eddie cuts him off. At the end of it though Eddie explains he's telling Louis because Louis is the only one he really wants to say goodbye to, so they end with saying good bye.", "summary": "Friend wants to die, only wants to say goodbye to you. Do you continue to try to convince them, foil their attempt, etc. etc. or do you just say goodbye?"}
{"id": "t3_2tobpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I stay with my current boyfriend (25) who I (25F) found out recently tried cocaine?", "post": "My boyfriend recently confessed to me that he has tried cocaine within, Im assuming, a couple of weeks and I dont know how to deal with it. One on hand, I don't condone his behavior although on the other hand, I know hes tried a couple of drugs and is slightly experimental. (Mushrooms and E) I just didnt think it would be with cocaine. When asked if hed probably try it again, he said maybe, maybe not. Which gives me reason to believe he might. Now we are both college graduates and he has a good job and a good head on his shoulders. He treats me with respect and tries really hard to make our relationship work but this is too much. \n\nMy father is an alcoholic and it pisses me off when his health issues are the result of his alcohol.use and I'm afraid of this repeating behavior extending into my future. This last week he was complaining about random dizziness and headaches and having some chest pain which now I understand why. Ita hard to show pity to someone who hid his (first time cocaine use) and then complain to me about it. Kind of like fat people complaining about being fat but still eating. \n\nWeve known each other for 7 years or so and have recently started dating again after a breakup. Im scared and confused. And I dont know if I can look past this.", "summary": "my boyfriend told me tried cocaine recently and I dont know if should break up with him"}
{"id": "t3_3kyi7n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having no hair.", "post": "Backstory: I have Alopecia. I'm 23 and I have no hair on my body. No eyebrows, no head hair, no ass hair. Nothing.\n\nLike to share an experience I just had, something a little different.\nJust had a bad day at work, had to stay late, incompetent bosses, etc. Feeling a bit peeved as it is, I had to grab some food from the local Tesco before going home. Went into the shop, grabbed my stuff, and paid at the self service till.\n\nJust as I'm leaving, I look to say \"Thank you\" to the security guard by the tills, but he stops me, and says \"Do you have cancer? Why do you have no hair?\". I'm completely taken a back. This type of thing hasn't happened in a while. Then my 'incompetent boss' anger kicks in, and I start telling this guy what an absolutely outrageous thing he has just asked, and how this was completely unacceptable. I ask for his name, and tell him I will be phoning up to make an official complaint about him.\n\nI leave the shop, and phone my girlfriend, calling this guy every name under the sun. My girlfriend is just as amazed as I was that someone would ask that question - what good does he think would come out of it? She comes up with the good idea to go back into the store and ask for the manager.\n\nSo I go back into the shop, storming in. I approach the security guard and say \"I'm very annoyed, I want to speak to your manager.\"\n\nHis response:\n\n*\"I'll get my manager, but I only asked because I had leukaemia when I was your age, and lost all my hair as well.\"*\n\nI fell flat. I apologised profusely, and left the Tesco.\n\nI'm sure 99% of the time when people use the cancer card, its out of thoughtlessness, but try not be like me who lost his cool far too quickly.", "summary": "I have Alopecia (no hair). Guy asked if me if I have cancer. I get mad. Turns out he had cancer at my age and just wanted to strike up a conversation"}
{"id": "t3_2ton9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22F Commitment Issues", "post": "Hi everyone, first time posting here so please let me know if I'm breaking any rules or if I'm in the wrong place.\n\nI don't have a boyfriend or anything but it's a general problem I have with relationships. I have this general issue with committing to anyone IRL but online it feels safe to me.\n\nI went on a great date last night with an ex and I felt like he could really be the one to break that issue I have. I felt happy and giddy that he and I could really commit, because he wanted to. Last time it didn't work out because of me, I broke it off. I'd get close, then pull back,then close, etc. So after my great date, the happiness wore off and I decided to flirt with my usual online boys and I felt terrible about it. Usually I don't because I'm not committed so I can justify it.", "summary": "I want to break this habit and just be with my ex. I know he's the one who deserves me even though I don't deserve him, but when I'm with him, I'm so happy. Anyone feel that way too or have any real advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3htr6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] is sick of my GF [19 F] best friend [20 M], dealbreaker? Need advice!", "post": "Hey reddit, I will do my best to keep it short:\n\nI am dating a girl for a couple of months now and we harmonize perfectly in every aspect expect one: her fucking best friend. \n\nThey spend a lot of time together (shit like watching movies in bed etc.) and talk about intimate details of our relationship (like  our sex life and when we have an argument etc.). In fact when they hang out, they are like a couple expect they don\u00b4t have any sex (at least what I know). He also has a girlfriend and from what I heard a few broken relationships because the girls could not deal the fact of him spending so much time with his \"best girl-friend\". He is also protective as shit about her. \n\nMy girlfriend always claim that she has absolutely zero sexual interest in him and thats why it works so well and the same for him (which I call 100% bullshit since they are both very attractive 19 year olds with hot bodies).\n\nSo now we are dating for quite a time and it starts to get serious but I am thinking about ending this because of her best friend. I tried to talk to her many times about this and every time it ends in tears and \"please don\u00b4t let me choose between you both\" and \"you are both so important to me\". But honestly I am not ok with sharing my girlfriend with another dude and to know that every time we hang out all together he knows every little detail about our bedroom stories and problems. I would not have a problem if she talks to a girl best friend about this (since I also talk about everything with my best buddy). \n\nSo either I am full of complexes and lack self esteem because I feel intimidated by her best friend or this is not normal and not worth the drama. Please reddit give me some opinion and advice on this, I feel bad about breaking up with her but I am afraid that the drama will go on the more serious our relationship goes.", "summary": "Girl I date has a very very close bestfriend which she shares everything about our relationship etc.. I don\u00b4t feel ok with another dude being so close to her. Need advice on how to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_3fdh5r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27/F] tactfully scale down contact with my male friend [23]?", "post": "I've been friends with him for a few years, occasionally hanging out one-on-one. Recently our friend group broke up, so now all our hanging out will have to be one-on-one.\n\nI'm fine with that, but he's asking me to hang out every week or every second week, and I'd like to see him more on a once a month type basis. A long time ago he asked me out and though he swears he's over any sort of crush, sometimes I feel the dynamic remains to a slight extent. I don't want to be hanging out in a pseudo boyfriend-girlfriend capacity, which is what it feels like to me when we're getting dinner together all the time. We're at different life stages and I can't talk about girly stuff with him, plus in general I'm an introvert and probably wouldn't want to hang out that much even if he were a female friend. Final thing is there were a lot of toxic friendships in our group (long story involving a break-up), and he's still friends with everyone and therefore is a link back to all that drama (although there's no hard feelings, the rest of us have decided to go no contact with each other).\n\nHow do I tactfully tell him this? I texted him a polite variation of the above a few days ago in an attempt to set boundaries and he responded \"I don't feel the same way, but everyone's different. I totally understand\", but now he's already asked to hang out again. Another problem is that he doesn't have a huge social life (at least, from what I can tell), so part of his motivation is just to hang out with *someone*, I think, so it's hard not to feel bad turning down his requests. At the same time, I'm thinking this dynamic isn't that healthy for either of us.", "summary": "How to tactfully set boundaries with a guy friend I want to hang out with a bit less frequently? Plus a lot of overthinking."}
{"id": "t3_171aj6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] Etiquette advice needed for breaking up with my semi-long-distance boyfriend [22/m]?", "post": "Hey. 20F dating 22M for almost four months, and things just aren't really working out. I want to have feelings for him, but I don't.\n\nAnyway, we're in a not-quite-long-distance relationship--he lives an hour away and drives to see me once a week. I know that generally when breaking up with someone you're supposed to do it face-to-face, but I feel like it would be unfair to make him drive all the way to see me only to be broken up with and have to drive back. Would a phone call be acceptable?\n\nAlso, if he asks why specifically I'm breaking up with him, how in depth should I go? I mean, there aren't any smoking guns or anything, I just... I don't miss him when he's not around, and I don't get excited to see him apart from the sex.", "summary": "if my boyfriend lives pretty far away, is a phone call acceptable for breaking up with him? Also, how much do I tell him about why?"}
{"id": "t3_jr961", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm in need of some advice. Can you help?", "post": "Ok, here's a little bit of background information. I recently started talking to this girl, who happens to be my ex-girlfriend's good friend. I really like her... I've never met someone who I can talk to for five hours and still want to keep talking. Talking to her has been the most fun I've had in a really long time. Last night, we both admitted that we had feelings for each other. \n\nUnfortunately, my ex-girlfriend found out we had been talking. She immediately proceeded to tell her friend that she cannot talk to me anymore. \n\nThis girl is now stuck in the awkward situation of having to decide to see me and let go of her friend, or listen to my ex and let go of me. I've been feeling too shitty about putting her in this situation to come up with a solution. So, Reddit, I turn to you. What should I/she do?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend's friend and I have feelings for each other. Ex-girlfriend flipped out and told her friend that she couldn't talk to me. Neither she nor I know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3pzofn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16 F] emotionally abusive ex [19 M] messaged me for the first time in a year, can't decide how to respond.", "post": "I've been afraid to post here because of my age but I have no one in my IRL world that I can ask about this.\n\nA little backstory first: so when I was 15, I dated an 18 year old who was pretty awful to me for all 5 months we were together. After he broke up with me, he refused to tell me why, and instead spread rumors about me around school (e.g. \"she got ugly once she cut all her hair off\" \"she was a drama queen\" etc.). I also found out that everything he ever told me was a lie and he only dated me to get closer to my best friend.\n\nI woke up to a series of texts from him that read (shortened and edited so you are actually able to read it): \n\n\"Hey Girl, I know I am the last mother f*cker you wanna talk to and I don't blame you. But it's Boy and I need to ask you a hardcore question. And I need your honest opinion. If I just talked to you and told you how I felt instead of not talking to you and holding back everything and blowing up on you, do you think we would've worked it out or were we bound to end? I deserve to know. Sorry for bothering you.\"\n\nThis is the first contact he has had with me since he said \"I'm breaking up with you\" and I'm conflicted as to how to respond. Part of me wants to let loose on him about how terrible he was, but the other, more responsible half wants to be an adult about this and speak level headedly. Do I blow up or show up?", "summary": "Awful Ex reestablishes contact, tries to reestablish hold over me. Don't know how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_3g21ne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27 M] of 3 years keeps making huge decisions without communicating with me [23 F] at all, is this normal?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nPlease help me out here because I'm really failing to understand.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years total. I'm a full-time grad student. My boyfriend works as a consultant. We share expenses and we are definitely talking marriage and kids in the future.\n\nAbout a month ago, I found out that he had started a business entirely without telling me anything about it at all. I was absolutely stunned. He said that I should have asked more questions. He said that when he mentioned \"I'm going to lunch with x today,\" I should have realized that it meant that he was doing business. I told him that was completely unreasonable and it led to a huge argument. We fought a lot but in the end, he promised to keep me explicitly informed and involved in all major decisions in the future.\n\nFast forward a month, he comes home with a brand new car. He told me he was looking to trade in his car, but he didn't inform me of ANYTHING else until he came home with the new car. This led to another huge fight. For the record, he can afford what he is doing; I am concerned about the lack of communication part.\n\nI just want to know... is this kind of thing normal in other couples? He makes many small decisions without my input, which is fine, but I consider a business and a car to be things you talk through with your SO. How do I approach this? He keeps promising to keep me informed and keeps failing to.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 3 years started a business without telling me anything, promised to keep me involved in future decisions, then gets a new car without any communication with me."}
{"id": "t3_fwavu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does everyone hate on the rich?", "post": "Well, everyone is an overstatement. The way I see it, why should people give their wealth to others, when they've worked damn hard for it. \n\nWhen you look at people who lose their jobs in the recession, and then get into debt, shouldn't they lower their standards of living, attempt to fix their situation and live on as little as possible?\n\n>What about people that are products of their environment?\n\nThere's the poor in various ghettos around America, people who live in bad places. These people don't really have an excuse, there are people who break through from this, and go on to be successful, so why aren't all of them able to do so? Its because they didn't work hard. The ones that got out of this situation worked their asses off to try and fix their situation, and they do. The ones that don't haven't worked as hard.\n\n>The big CEOs make many times what their workers make.\n\nIsn't that because they elevated themselves to a position where they make the money? Look at the Top 1% of people, they hold around half of America's wealth, because they have done the work to get there. Isn't the work done by them the reason the workers even have a job? Why don't workers improve their position, both within the company and outside of the company?\n\n>The way the economy is set up prevents it.\n\nIsn't the whole prospect of the American Dream that anyone can make it, with hard work and putting the effort in. I'm not talking about the guy who works 18 hour days to put bread on his family's table, but the guy who spent 15+ years in school to get a degree. Both are examples of effort, but the guy who spent his time in school is the one who becomes successful. Today, no longer is true, the factory worker has been replaced by one that works for less, and the college graduate has to complete with thousands upon thousands who have done better than him. \n\nSo please, answer my question, why is everyone so anti-rich? Sure they have the wealth, but they worked for it, why is it their responsibility to help the people who haven't worked?", "summary": "None of this is actually my opinion, I just discussed this with my mom, and I'm curious to know what other people have to say on this.  Please ask me questions as well, and I'll do my best to answer them by asking either my mom or inferring them myself. "}
{"id": "t3_w57u0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why can't I get a job?", "post": "I have tried using online job finders (Snagajob), I have tried asking friends who are in manager type positions... I have tried cold calls, I have tried showing up with resume in hand... I have tried following up the online applications and physical applications I have turned in via calling the employer I applied too weekly... I have tried applying to mom & pop shops, and large faceless corporations. \n\nI can say, with absolute confidence... That I have tried applying to over 150 businesses in the last 5-6 months, for all kinds of varying work in almost every salary range. I have only yielded 2 interviews from one business (Books-A-Million), even had a background check done... And nothing came of it. \n\nQuite honestly, i'm getting tired and i'm about ready to give up, maybe even just off myself. What the fuck is the point of living if I can't even work? I have zero work history, and no experience. I have plenty of skills, yet no one is willing to even let me prove that to them.", "summary": "I've tried just about every method of employment I have read up on, or have been suggested... Why can't I land ONE job? "}
{"id": "t3_32q5j9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/] with my GF [26 F] 4 months, I lied about my education", "post": "We've been dating for 4 months, and this is eating at me. I lied about having my bachelors in chemical engineering. It was too hard and I dropped out of college. When we started dating, just to play it cool, I told her I had my bachelors since she is working on her Master's thesis. \n\nI thought more of it as a fling and never thought this relationship would develop into anything serious. The more we spend time with each other, I uttered the words of love to her. And I actually want a serious relationship with her. I've made up stories and jokes about why I'm not doing anything with my (fake) degree. \n\nIt's actually bothering me constantly, and honestly I have no idea how she would take it, if I tell her the truth. I am back in school, but taking some general classes slowly trying to find out what I want to get a degree in.\n\nDid I really ruin this entire relationship because of this lie?", "summary": "Lied about college education, I dropped out of college, but now taking classes again. We've been dating for 4 months."}
{"id": "t3_3jjzfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] told my girlfriend [20 F] of 4 years that I looked at porn after lying for 3 years.", "post": "I told myself that I would fix it by myself so that she wouldn't ever have to know. One day I was thinking long and hard about our future and I knew that I couldn't allow myself to lie to her any longer. \n\nShe asked me when we first started dating if I looked and I told her that I used to but I wouldn't anymore. I tried to keep this promise but then I fell back into it and stayed that way for years. When I told her she was mortified and almost broke up with me on the spot, but didn't. We had been going to counseling for about 1-2 years now as a preventative measure and she agreed to go with me once again. After talking it over with our Psychologist, I was given tasks and tools that would help me overcome my problem and try to fix us. \n\nFast forward to present day, I have been doing everything that the Psychologist has asked for me to do, I haven't looked once, and I have been telling my girlfriend the truth on everything. She still isn't happy (understandably) but she is now asking me questions like \"tell me everything that you looked at\". She tells me that it is part of her healing but I told her that as part of my healing I need to leave my past there and look forward to the future. Currently she doesn't want to speak to me unless I tell her.\n\nIts been really rocky and I either have been feeling completely emotionless towards her or depressed by myself. I usually am very optimistic about the future with her but lately I feel like she is just going to cut the cord and I feel like there is nothing left for me to give without hurting myself. Any insight, advice, or criticism would be greatly appreciated...", "summary": "Lied, came clean, she is very hurt and mad, I worked on myself, and I'm now at point where I feel like I can't do anything more and feel confused on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1dw70g", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Reddit I need your help [15f]", "post": "About a month ago I filed a police report against my ex boyfriend [18m] for sexual assault. In this case it is considered rape because in the state of Hawaii, anything entering the body without permission is considered rape. The detective met with me and I had an interview in which I gave the details of what happened in December. (him fondling and looking at my breasts and him fingering me. Both without permission) when we broke up in January I had deleted all texts and fb messages from him. My mom just informed me that the detective called and it does not look good for me. The boy has all messages and the school at which it occurred has hired a private investigator. The detective said that the boy could easily get away with this, and I could get in trouble for false accusations. What should I do?", "summary": "filed a police report against ex (18m) for sexual assault, and things are looking better for him than me."}
{"id": "t3_2ibt8q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a free sample", "post": "I was at the mall with my friends because we wanted to see a movie but all of the movies were sold out. One of my friends suggested we try the free samples in the food court. First one we stop at is this chinese food place. all three of us take a sample and as we're getting ready to leave the woman giving them out stops me, pulls me over to the counter and forces me to buy food because we're not allowed to take the samples without buying anything. I cant understand a thing she is saying either because she is yelling, people are talking all around me, and she is very bad at speaking english. When the guy is giving me the food he didn't ask what i wanted just threw rice and chicken on my plate and charged me 15$. The guy at the register asked if i wanted a drink. After he explained to me that the 15$ i paid didn't cover the cost of a soda i politely declined his offer for a drink. At least he was honest. One of my friends left while i was dealing with this and as i sat down to eat the food i didn't really want i saw that he had the same food as me that he bought from the other chinese food place right next to the one i was at.... for 5$. The only reason i bought anything from there was because i didn't want them to call the cops and tell them i stole from them. Food wasn't that bad though, just insanely overpriced!", "summary": "Got a sample from a chinese food place was forced to spend 15$ on food i could've gotten for 5$"}
{"id": "t3_105zqm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you find yourself Attractive? scale 1-10 (no pic proof) follow up question inside", "post": "do you find yourself physically attractive but feel you will be seen as vain or conceited to even privately acknowledge it. Without showing proof, bc really who wants a beauty contest, were do you honestly without fear of other's opinion, think you rank. \n\nI ask bc my husband has been telling me for years he thinks I'm very attractive and co-workers/friends \"always\" ask how he got someone out of his league. While I think most of this is inflated, I have recently gotten quite a few compliments of new style changes, and I'm left wondering what's so wrong with feeling attractive?! Are we so insecure as a society that we can't just let someone else feel attractive, or is it a perceived fear that other's think less of you when in reality no one gives a damn what you think of yourself.", "summary": "Do you find yourself attract? 1-10 (no proof pic please) Do you feel other's look badly on people who admit they find themselves to be attract or its all in our heads that other's are judging?"}
{"id": "t3_1nzspz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 /F] with my Bf [28 M] I don't want to remarry.", "post": "I'm 26 as the title says. I had my first child at 14, married at 15. Second child at 19, divorced at 24. My ex was emotionally abusive, and we tried on and off again until the divorce. He is now remarried. The relationship left me jaded exhausted, and maybe even bitter. I've met a guy (28m) about a year ago who has no kids, and wants to get married and do the white picket fence thing. \n\nMy kids are now 13 and 8, and I feel that I just don't want to start over. I'd like to focus on my kids, career, and generally just myself. He is a great guy, but I feel he's too naive and new to all this and that I cant give him that \"new family\" experience. My friends think I shouldn't let this \"opportunity\"go by and that I'll regret it in a few years when my clock is ticking. But what if my clock is out of batteries?\n\nHas anyone been where I am? I'm lost.", "summary": "Am I too jaded to start a new family?"}
{"id": "t3_38wvwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[16M] think my crush[16F] likes me back, this is all new for me.", "post": "Hello! \nI'm totally inexperienced when it comes to dating, so I'm hoping to get some advice here :)\n\nWe have been friends for about 3 years, but it seems to have changed after a recent school trip 9 days ago. After that trip she has been more active towards me(mostly through Snapchat)\n\nBut the issue I'm having is figuring out if she likes me, I'm not sure if she has been dropping 'hints' or not.\n*She asked for my Zodiac sign and told me ours were really compatible for friends and *more* \n*She has sent me a list of how Zodiac sign's love lives are and highlighted our signs \nTurns out she likes astrology.\n*Her favorite Zodiac signs are her's and mine and knows a lot about them.\n*She has been asking about my favorite movies, TV shows and music. - She told me she has similar taste and even suggested a new series I could watch.\n\nAre these hints that I should've picked up on?\nIf so and she really likes me, what do I do now?\n\nAlso, is it even going to work?\nGraduation is the upcoming Tuesday, but she applied to the same college as I, so we could meet again there, but I might not see her for three months because I will be going out of town to work... \nAny advice?", "summary": "I like her, I think she likes me, I'm going out of town for 3 months."}
{"id": "t3_skz57", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most inconsiderate thing a family member has done just to spite you?", "post": "Created an account for this.\n\nA little history:  My Dad has been having some health problems, mostly related to smoking/emphysema, and a recent heart attack.  I've taken all the vacation/PTO leave I can from work to come stay with him for a few months to help him out.  My Grandmother (his Mother) is on hospice w/ terminal lung cancer, her husband recently passed away from lung cancer and I've been accompanying him to a plethora of doctors appointments and each time have been audience to the doctors \"you should stop smoking\" speech but more alarmed by the studies on [third-hand smoke] that they've referenced.  Despite all of that, nothing seems to phase him, and he's more than happy to continue chain-smoking.\n\nMy Dad smokes in his house, and in his car and seems offended that I think both smell like ass in an ashtray.  He knows smoking isn't good for him, he knows I'm no fan of smelling like moldy ass, and got upset because I have been leaving my clothes and bags outside on the covered porch so they don't become saturated with smoke.  \"You don't have to draw attention to the fact that you don't like me smoking.\"  Today, I came outside to find him smoking and deliberately blowing smoke onto/over my clothes.  \"His house, his rules.\"  What in the actual fuck!?\n\nI'm seriously considering going to a laundromat, then promptly using the rest of my time off to go camping in some fresh air. \n\nAnyway, now you...", "summary": "My Dad's an asshole who will die from lung cancer."}
{"id": "t3_k0npm", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "If I don't do this now", "post": "I'm looking for advice, help, reassurance, dissuasion or a little bit of each on a major life decision. I'm an American, who has been working since college with a specific career goal in mind, and achieved it long before I though I would, only to find myself bored and dissatisfied with work and frankly life in general. I need a change and I don't have much time left to do it. I want to sell the possessions I can, put the rest in storage, and move to Australia for a while on a 1 year visa. I don't need to make a lot of money or further my career, just figure myself out. To be honest, the less responsibility the better. I may stay the whole year, I may try to stay longer, I may recharge my batteries \"find myself\" and be done with it sooner than expected. Either way I feel like I need something like this to reboot my life. Any tips on life in Australia for a traveling American, making drastically stupid moves or anything of the sort would be much appreciated. Thanks Reddit.", "summary": "I'm an American, bored with my career, wanting to live in Australia for a while, but in need of advice."}
{"id": "t3_zjthg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Asian landlady found me naked.", "post": "I'd been masturbating and was lying on my bed with my pants down in a post-orgasm bliss, browsing reddit while listening to music. My 60-ish landlady walked into the house and I think one of my housemates must've told her I was in my room. She opened my door and peeked her head into my room. She may have caught a flash of my package but I was quickly able to grab a pillow and cover myself. The weird thing is, she kept addressing me like she hadn't witnessed anything or that I wasn't lying there on the bed half-naked. I don't think she knows I was masturbating.Worst part about all this is that I usually go to her church occasionaly and she thinks I'm Christian.", "summary": "Christian landlady caught me post-fap."}
{"id": "t3_2vakmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19 M] am I an asshole for my attitude to dating?", "post": "at 19 I am looking for a long term relationship, I've never really been interested in the idea of casual sex. I'd be honestly happy finding my sole mate tommorow.\n\nMy freinds are saying I need to change my attitude. To put it bluntly I'm not attracted to women who have a lot of casual sex on a regular basis. Don't get me wrong I don't judge these pepole for this it's their right to do what ever they want with their bodies, I have few girls like this as freinds. I'm just no interested in this type of girl.", "summary": "I'm not interested in women who have a history of promiscuity, does this make me an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_3xjsly", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost blinding one of my eyes", "post": "This happened when I was 3, my brother was turning 6 at the time. \nMy grandmother had just given my mom $50 to buy my brother a present from her, as she lived a ways away and didn't trust postal. My mom and I went to the store to buy him a present, and ended up choosing an awesome looking Mega Bloks Dragons theme set, as my brother and i loved lego at the time. During this time my brother went to school and i didn't so he ended up opening his presents before school, and my mom and i stayed home. Well, i couldn't help myself and brought his present that i helped pick out to my room, unbeknownst to my mom. I can't remember how but somehow i managed to get a dinner knife, and started to cut the tape on the box. Now, i was a bright kid, but at 3 years old i decided that putting the knife in the slit of cardboard to sort of pull the tape up with the knife was the best option. The first piece of tape came off easily, but the second one, not quite as easy. I pulled up, and ended up using so much force that broke the tape and the knife nicked my eye. So naturally i let out a blood-curdling scream, ran to my mom, and she took me to a doctor, as the knife hadn't mortally wounded me and i looked ok. Eventually turned out i was fine, and my mom bought me a toy, but had to take eye drops for a while.", "summary": "tried opening my brother's birthday present, cut eye, was ok"}
{"id": "t3_1y3lev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(M24) girlfriend (F23) drunkenly kissed gay male friend", "post": "Hi all. We've been together just under a year - she's never done anything like this before.\n\nYesterday my girlfriend went out and got blackout drunk the other night, kissed her gay male friend. One of her friends had a go at her for doing this as she didn't realise he was gay.\n\nMy girlfriend then calls me drunkenly afterwards. Crying, saying that she's sorry she kissed him.\n\nThe day after I've confronted her about it and she's obviously very very sorry. Has text her friends to find out if anything else happened and relayed that to me.\n\nI feel like this shouldn't be a big deal but at the same time it is... she kissed someone other than me, whilst drunk.\n\nWhilst she's obviously sorry and I love her to bits. I dunno what to do or if I'm being silly for being hurt over this?", "summary": "Girlfriend got drunk, kissed one of her male gay friends and the more I think about it the more annoyed I'm getting."}
{"id": "t3_3w0n63", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV] & [NSV] All it takes is one more day at a time :)", "post": "* [SV] So as of this morning I am officially 45kgs/101.75lbs down. I am now at the point in my weight-loss journey (keto is for life!), where I have lost exactly half the amount I've set out to. It hasn't been easy but it's definitely been worth it, and it's a damn sight better than trying to dig myself an early grave with my teeth. I've had a few cheat days and my loss hasn't been linear but I just focus on TODAY and that's all it takes to get me through. Tomorrow I get to chose whether or not keto is REALLY for me. I've long worked out that grandiose goals of loss (ie, I want to be XXX by date X or lose X a month), set me up for failure and really sabotage my mental recovery from food addiction (I'm in Over Eaters Anonymous), by making me feel like a failure if I do not meet or exceed those goals... And lets face it, you give your body the tools to lose weight and it does what it wants with it after that (see unexpected weight gain)... That's enough SV ramble anyhow. For anyone reading this thinking about keto, give it a go. It could be the thing that saves your life :)\n\n* [NSV] Annnnnnnnnnnd... I bought a bikini. Yeah. I'm officially rocking my first ever bikini (and suit suit attire since I was like 12), at 105.9kg/233.46lbs. Whether or not I'm actually going to subject the general public to me wearing it this summer is another story (maybe with shorts on the bottom at least), but fuck you I bought a bikini. And it's green. Yeah.", "summary": "I've lost exactly half the weight I need to lose and bought a bikini."}
{"id": "t3_1451wc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you think is wrong with the American education system, (before college) and what would you do to fix it?", "post": "I feel like teachers unions are able to do way to much, and prevent quality teachers from being found while at the same time keeping the bad ones around.\n\nQuick back story:\n\nI was in 7th grade and this new teacher was hired at our school. She was in her 60's and Sweedish, but a very good person. As the school year went on it became evident that she was easily the best teacher i had ever had. She was patient with everyone, and taught in a way that everyone could understand. She also had something personal with each student. For me it was the show 24 that we both loved, and talked about it every week. \n\nAnyway, at the end of the year they made budget cuts and had to let a teacher go. Well, only because she was the newest teacher at the school she was chosen to go. Only because she had the least seniority of all teachers. In fact my other teacher was horrible and just ate food and gave us busy work. She was by far the worse teacher but had been there longer, and got to keep her job.", "summary": "Good teacher got sacked. Bad teacher stayed."}
{"id": "t3_j1mtw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Opinions on pet wolfdogs and coydogs [[personal experiences would be awesome]]", "post": "I went to the pound today to look for a dog and came across a recently admitted stray. I noticed him from outside because he has a strong, deep bark, and aside from being a companion, I'd like an all bark, no bite dog intimidating enough to help me feel safe while living alone in a pretty seedy area.\nUpon going inside and meeting him up close, I immediately saw that he's an inquisitive social barker and not an aggressive one. When met with, he completely exhibits submissive behavior [[ears pinned back, tail, head, and gaze down]]. Furthermore, he's perhaps the only dog living together with another dog, and he seems incredibly patient and non-confrontational, given how he shrugged off the much smaller dog's yapping. He reminds me of my late Japanese akita named Duke, who was the greatest dog you could ask for.\n\nThe one drawback is that he's almost certainly a wolf- or coydog. He appears to have a mixture of mexican wolf and another large breed. I believe that, for the very greatest part, treatment determines an animal's ferocity, and not his breed. Still, I know it's risky, especially since he'd sometimes be alone with my black cat [[I mean to do something like gate off the bedroom when I'm away so that she can get in and out, but a dog can't]]\n\nWhat do you guys think of hybrid dogs? I prefer the opinions of people with experience either owning these dogs or study of wild canine species, given the prejudices against wild animals out there.", "summary": "I found a submissive wolfdog and am being wary of adopting him."}
{"id": "t3_1vht1g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24f] Should I keep sleeping with my FWB [25m] even though he refused to add me to facebook?", "post": "I feel stupid even asking this. It's such a teenage girl dilemma. But the sex is SO GOOD that I really want to keep sleeping with him. And it's hard to say no when he texts and says he's been thinking about me and begs to come over. \n\nThis has been a strictly FWB situation, but after a few times sleeping together and hanging out I started to like him and told him to add me to fb. He said \"I thought we were keeping this discreet\", which made me feel like he was embarrassed by me. Anyway. Some advice on this would be much, much appreciated.", "summary": "FWB was a jerk but is a great lay (aren't they always?), keeps begging to come over. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1rbn9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m18] broke the trust of my [18] girlfriend", "post": "This is my disclaimer, I know I'm young, life goes on etc. But i would just like the advice on the best things to do this in situation. Thank you!\n\nMy girlfriend and i have been dating for 2 years, and i know we are young, but i love her very much. Around 7 months ago, we had sexual activity for the first time, and she made me swear not to tell anyone. I agreed, but on her way home, she got into a terrible car wreck, and i was scared, so i told my closest friend on Facebook about the whole thing. I knew that was breaking her promise, but i was upset and scared, and i needed someone to talk to. \n\nToday, she got my Facebook account information because we were just messing around on our phones, and she went through all of my messages when i got home. I know this is bad of her, but she eventually found out i told her secret. She has told me in the past, that \"no secret doesn't go out\", but i was the only one who proved her wrong, but now, even i proved her right. I broke her trust, and she broke up with me. \n\nNow, my question is, what can i do? I know i messed up, and i apologized on the spot. I know its wrong of her to go through my messages, but thats done, so theres nothing to say. It was also a long time ago, even i forgot, but i didnt say any of that. Is there a way to apologize and get her back?", "summary": "My girlfriend asked me to keep a secret, i broke it a very long time ago, but kept it since. She found recently by going through messages, and broke up with me. How do i apologize and hope to win her back?"}
{"id": "t3_3x72g7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [27 M/F] been with my girlfriend [25 F] for one year. Is it emotionally abusive to tell your partner you want to sleep with someone else? Is cheating emotional abuse?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for around a year. During that time, at least once a week she has told me she wants to sleep with someone else. She has cheated on me four times. Two of the times she cheated on me we were taking a break from our relationship (just a few days) but had agreed to not sleep with anyone else, but she slept with someone else anyway. One of the times she cheated on me she had sex with someone else and then lied to me about it but then later admitted it. The final time she made out with someone else which I consider cheating.\n\nI've stayed with her because I love her. \n\nObviously it does cause me a lot of emotional pain when she tells me she wants to sleep with someone else. In fact, it's hard to have sex with her for several days to a week after that happens. I feel a loss of self esteem, feelings of worthlessness, and a sort of burning frustrated pent up anger. Is her telling me she wants to sleep with someone else emotional abuse? Is her cheating on me emotional abuse? Is her making out with someone else cheating?\n\nShe has told me that she has been polyamorous in the past but I have made it very clear that I am not polyamorous. \n\nShe has promised to not sleep with anyone else again and I'm trusting her on that. I need to know if I'm being abused emotionally or not.", "summary": "Is her telling me she wants to sleep with someone else emotional abuse?"}
{"id": "t3_2vcj9i", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "\"I have no idea what I'm doing.\"", "post": "I wanted to share this story because it made my time at the gym tonight so much better.\n\nWanting to try something new, my friend and I decided to try pull ups. Neither of us are at that point to do one properly yet, so I was teaching her about negative pull ups. I knew that I didn't know much about them, so I looked to the woman next to me (she'd been listening to my conversation) and with full confidence, I told her [\"I have no idea what I'm doing.\"](\n\nAnd I'm so glad I did. Without hesitation, she started teaching us all about how to progress to a proper pull up. She was actually a trainer at the gym! Only she wasn't in her uniform because she was off her shift doing her own thing. Within 10 minutes, we knew so much more on what to do and how to do it. She then told us to come to her any time we needed help. \n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is that it's okay to admit you don't know how to do something. I usually hate asking for help at the gym (I'd leave the gym then watch YouTube tutorials instead) but that spur of the moment really changed my mind.", "summary": "Don't hold back because you're embarrassed about making a fool of yourself! You might not accidentally talk to a trainer, but at least you might have someone else at the gym pass on what they know to you."}
{"id": "t3_1ly7c2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A distant family friend [22M] recently casually asked for my [21F] number, and sent me a text a month later - what does it mean?", "post": "This is a family friend I've previously barely ever talked to (not in a mean way, just in a 'we hang out with other people' way). Thus it made me do a double take when he very casually after saying hi at one of these gatherings said, 'Oh, I don't think I have your number, do I?'. I gave him my number, because it would have been rude not to.\n\n1 month later, I get the text, 'Hey Apple_crumble1, this is [insert name] how have you been? Haven't seen you in a while :)'\n\nNow this is a little odd, because we barely ever see each other anyway, not like this is unusual.\n\nI sent a reply along the lines of 'Not bad, studying for exams mainly. You?', and a few minutes later there was a response like '[blah blah, talking about exams] Do your parents let you go out much, like Friday, Saturday nights, or are they very strict?'\n\nIs this a prelude to asking me out, or am I reading too much into idle conversation? I don't have much experience with this kind of thing.\n\nFor the record, I'm not interested in him in that way in the slightest. If it is a prelude to a date, any advice on how to prevent such a request/let him down gently without directly saying 'I'm not interested'?", "summary": "Family friend asked for my number and sent a text. Is he about to ask me out, and if yes, how do I prevent this/say no nicely?"}
{"id": "t3_2olmk9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She [20/f] called it off because we can't be together (yet). Happened in an instant. I [20/m] don't know what she's thinking. But it's over.", "post": "We've known each other for a few months now, and we can't wait to be in a relationship together. However, I can't be in a relationship because I still have to finish college before I could be in one. \n\nReason: To honor my parents with respect. I know this is silly and childish. But I only have a few months, until May before I graduate.\n\nBecause of this, there are unspoken rules between us, things we can't do, invisible boundaries. Which is really vague even for us. We can't be more than friends, but we want to. \n\nLast night she called it off. She said the situation was difficult to deal with, \"I don't want this anymore\", and \"I'm also doing this for you. I'm so sorry. :(\" \n\nI know it's my fault. She probably wanted to be in a relationship but I can't.\n\nNow I'm so lost. This is the first time I've gotten this far in a relationship, and I have no idea what to do now. It seems like everything's fallen apart. I don't know how to get back on my feet. \n\nI'm planning to see her again when I'm ready, but I still have 5 more months. \n\nI can't move on because I still love her. And I have no idea what she's thinking, but I still really want to be with her, but for now, it's over. I don't know what happens next. Would there be another chance for me after I graduate? I have no idea. \n\nWhat do I do? Please help.", "summary": "I can't be in a relationship until I graduate from college. She called it off because we couldn't be in a relationship. Now I'm clueless and can't move on because part of me still wants her and hopes that I could be with her after I graduate."}
{"id": "t3_25pauh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Michigan] Son injured during my parenting time, worried about custody implications", "post": "Hi legaladvice team,\n\nI have an urgent question for you all. \n\n**BACKGROUND** My ex-wife and I have a 14 month boy with split legal custody. Divorce was very contentious and we have ongoing legal involvement when it comes to parenting time. We are currently on a temporary plan outlined in our divorce documents, with the caveat that we will work together with a social worker on that schedule. So far, 6 months after divorce, she has refused to budge on any additional parenting time for me, in fact, insisted on reductions in my time. So these negotiations have gone nowhere.\n\n**YESTERDAY** My son has just recently learned to walk. I had 2 hours of parenting time with him yesterday so that time was spent in the park. I was walking behind him on the grass when he tripped over a tree root and immediately started crying. When I noticed he wouldn't put weight on his foot, I immediately rushed him home to his mom (who is a doctor), so that he could be checked out. From there we went to the ER. At this point, after a dose of Motrin, my son was moving his foot and not crying. At the ER the X-rays confirmed spiral fracture and the need for a cast.\n\n**QUESTION** I'm worried that I will be taken to court over this and my parenting time/custody will be revoked. My ex is very clear that she does not want me in my child's life and I'm worried that she will use this to say I'm neglectful and incapable of taking care of a child. Are my worries justified?", "summary": "Divorced dad, son breaks leg during my parenting time, worried about implications for custody."}
{"id": "t3_287a8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend of over a year told me that she is unsure of her feelings for me. Need advice.", "post": "So this is my first post so I apologise up front about any format or grammar mistakes.\n\nMy so (18f) and I (20m) have been together for a year and almost three months. This is a long time for us seeing as all previously all relationships before hand were much shorter.\n\nShe went out of town to see her dad this weekend and week talked on the phone last night, normal night for us.\n\nShe came out and told me that for the past month or two she had been wanting to break up and that she has only stayed with me so far to make me happy.\n\nI've come to the conclusion that I know she is the person that I am in love with, but she says she is unsure of her feelings for me anymore.\n\nI asked her to wait about the break up until she is back in town because this is a big decision and that not something that should be done over the phone.\n\nSo reddit can you give me some advice?", "summary": "girlfriend of over a year told me she's unsure of her feeling now and I asked her to postpone the breakup talk until she gets home from out of town."}
{"id": "t3_u3u22", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cousin is a drug dealer and a thief. I think he needs to go to jail. What do I do?", "post": "A bit of background...\nHe is a 16yo high school dropout, he has no aspiration or intention of getting his GED. He doesn't have a job. He uses his room as basically a checkpoint to drop off stolen property and his skanky girlfriend. \nHis friends are nothing but a bunch of lowlife, drug dealing, carjacking piles of shit. \nHis mom does nothing to punish him, she may scream and threaten but nothing will stick. \nI feel that it is high time he paid for his transgressions. I believe he belongs in jail, it is the only thing (in my opinion) that will snap him out of his ridiculous behavior. \nHe did leave behind some stolen property, which I went through, and I found a few membership cards with the same name on all of them. I looked up the name and the guy lives less than 1.5 miles away.\nSo here's the question: Do I call the cops on my cousin or just let him slide until he gets caught on his own?", "summary": "Should I report my cousin to the police to quell his thieving and drug dealing?"}
{"id": "t3_4shumd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need advice with job/interview situation.", "post": "Hello Reddit, \n\nThanks for all your help today.\n\nBackground:\n\n* 30 year old male, lots of savings, money not a problem\n* Educated in aviation/aerospace with 5 years of experience, have worked with two major companies\n* Currently looking for work\n\nSituation:\n\n* Had an interview with a major firm (\"Company A\") 3 weeks ago. Still waiting to hear back; feedback was very good.\n* Had another interview with a smaller firm (\"Company B\") last week; was \"chosen as the candidate to be hired\" according to recruiter. No offer yet, but recruiter is waiting for contract to arrive. *This job will start later this month*. *This is also a 10 week contract*\n* Company A recruiter contacted me today asking if I can interview with another big firm (\"Company C\"), about 3 hours away; *this is a long term position with high possibility of permanent hire but they are looking for someone to start in 3-4 weeks ish", "summary": "Company A has interviewed, no offer but positive feedback. Company B interviewed and chose me for short term contract, no offer/nothing signed but verbal intent shown and start date finalized. Company C wants to interview me soon."}
{"id": "t3_fsmor", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Insane collections debt on my credit report that I've never heard about. Some creddit advice?", "post": "About 4 few years ago I dropped out of a terrible private school, so they dropped all financial aid and gave me a lump sum debt of a few thousand dollars. My parents were going through hard times, and I couldn't pay much. So I sat on the debt unpaid for over a year, until I got a great job and was able to pay it off within 2 months.\n\nAt that time I also checked my credit score to see what's up. The school debt was \"in danger of going to collections\" at the date of paying it in full. A month after paying, it was closed and \"paid\" after paying it, so everything looked good. Debt-free for the first time since going to 2 different colleges, working a good job in the career I want and everything looking up.\n\nYesterday, I checked my credit report for the first time since then (~16 months). There's a debt I apparently owe to collections agency that I've never heard from in my life; no email, no phonecall, no letter, and all of my contact information is listed. The amount of the debt is almost twice as large as the original debt given after leaving the school. The kicker is, the collections was apparently reported to the agency a month before I paid the debt in full, but it did not appear on my credit report until months later, and of course I didn't see it until now.\n\nThe [website for the agency] makes me cringe, and there's very little information about them; though a search for the company name or phone number returns a lot of scam/fraud reports. Which makes me think it could be a fraud attempt, but the credit report says that the private school reported it. I suppose a scammer could figure that information out, but how does it appear on all 3 reports, and why didn't it show up when I was paying the debt?", "summary": "Got in debt. Sat on debt for a year. Paid debt in full at once. Credit report clean and happy. Check 2 years later. Debt apparently went to collections and now I owe twice as much."}
{"id": "t3_1thi6g", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Training a Beauceron puppy. No need for corrections/punishment?", "post": "I'm getting my first puppy since I was a kid next month, and I'm looking for some breed-specific advise. \n\n> Thorough training with a firm master is a must, along with the proper amount of exercise and a firm pack leader, in order to produce a tranquil, obedient dog.\n\n> Teach this dog respect for humans by not allowing it to jump up and not allowing it to enter doorways first. The humans must make the dog heel beside or behind them when walking. The objective in training this dog is to achieve pack leader status. It needs to know who is boss and then it will follow, but keep in mind, this very protective dog will only follow a strong-minded being. If it is stronger minded than you are, it will expect YOU to follow IT.\n\n-[Source](\n\n>  if not properly trained, the Beauceron can run the family. \n\n-[Source](\n\nI just read a book about modern dog training, and the author (Norwegian, Anders Hallgren) said that he didn't even want to use the term \"leader\" about the dog owner. According to the author there is no danger of a dog trying to \"take command\" at your home. He says that dogs will not try to improve their status, and that they are content and feel safe with it's role in the family like it is. This author is all about soft training, not being very strict, motivating the dog, and never forcing the dog to do anything. \n\nI'm a bit at a loss here. Whenever I read about the Beauceron breed I get the impression that I have to be this firm, strict leader-type, but other places that seems to be all old fashion dog training. \n\nBefore I read this book, I saw [this] video with Michael Ellis on his type dog training, and his training system is in many ways similar to the book I read. BUT, he says that [dogs must be corrected.] (Just watch this video from about 32:00 through 36:30, until he speaks about the dog wanting to eat him.)\n\nI've seen various videos by this guy, and he allows for some amount of physical corrections.", "summary": "Are there no dog breeds that needs to be punished/corrected in certain situations? Michael Ellis says that [dogs must be corrected.] (Just watch this video from about 32:00 through 36:30, until he speaks about the dog wanting to eat him.)"}
{"id": "t3_2knzyp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] of 3 years, no sex and considering a breakup", "post": "This past weekend my girlfriend of three years went to her college homecoming and I spent the weekend at home. On Saturday I found myself extremely bored and all of my friends were busy, so I went for a drive to kill time until one of them could hang later.\n\nDuring this drive I just listened to music and thought....\n\nI recognized that I hate being home and really want to go live life because I'm 22. I wanna live back in the city (where college was) with my friends and have tons to do again. I'm just becoming very unhappy at home and as I'm applying for tons of jobs, just want to make sure that I don't pass up any decisions or opportunities.\n\nMy GF of three years works for her family's business and plans to continue it with no real flexibility on leaving the area. We have been very close friends for around 8 or 9 years now and started dating 3 years ago. I've been starting to get frustrated because we still haven't had sex yet and now that we are both living at home again there is pretty much 0 alone time. I think that the living situation is making me more frustrated about no sex and the entire relationship, but with my new feelings towards my own life, I feel like our relationship has hit quite the standstill and we've grown apart or differently. I'm now noticing major differences with our interests and what's important to us individually.\n\nI love my girlfriend, and care about her a lot. Our relationship has been great, but considering everything I'm feeling, I'm curious if it's still the best thing for me? I don't necessarily want to break up, but I sure as hell don't want to miss opportunities or throw away my 20's in my hometown. Between this and no-sex, I just don't know if I can go on doing this.\nThe whole thing has me feeling really confused, upset, worried and nervous. I'm not sure what to do or how to handle it. Part of me feels like I should wait and see where I get a job or plan to live before making any decisions because with that might come improvement to our relationship, but I'm just looking for some advice and opinions...", "summary": "Not sure what to do with my life. Currently living at home but want to move back into a city. GF of 3 years isn't open to re-locating and I'm not sure if this is what I want anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2l7mdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19/F] not sure how to let her down lightly [20/F]", "post": "I'm in my second year of uni and live with three other girls on the same course as me. We all are good friends and love our house dynamic and our house feels like home. However we have issues with our landlady after she made a bad first impression with not cleaning the house/supplying all the furniture. Since some of the horror stories are hilarious lots of people know about it and some know that we might be moving next year.\n\nOne of the people who knows we might be moving is a friend/acquaintance of mine who is looking for a place to live next year. She's asked me if she can move in with us next year. I told her I'd discuss it with my housemates and we mostly (one housemate feels sorry for her) agree that we don't want her. Don't get me wrong she hasn't got a bad bone in her body but she can be rather intense and lacks certain social awareness. She is also a bit sensitive and worries people are laughing at her. \n\nThe main thing reason we don't want her with us next year is that we are all rather independent and we all like to de-stress by ourselves in our own rooms and only really hangout once a day. She needs more attention than we can give her, the best way to put it is that she's like a puppy and we're more like cats.\n\nSo how do I let her down gently without hurting her feelings? I know we aren't the first people she's asked. She can be rather sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings. The only excuse I can think of is that two of my housemates don't really know her that well :/", "summary": "Friendly but emotional acquaintance asked to live with us next year, how do I let her down gently?"}
{"id": "t3_22ct6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Ex [19 F] she starts initiating conversation after over a year of silence, then stops when I start initiating...what gives?", "post": "My ex and I had a fairly rocky break up, it didn't end because we stopped loving each other but for other reasons. We were trying to stay friends but communicating quickly died down as she got a new boyfriend fairly quick and we didn't speak for about a year and a half.\n\nThen suddenly out of nowhere right before Christmas she sends me a message on Facebook asking how I'm doing and that it is so nice to talk to me again. We talk for a good hour or so before she says she should go to bed because she's got work, but before she leaves she asks if I still have the same number and I say that I do and she says \"well here's mine in case you lost it: XXXXXXXXXXX. Good night, hope we can talk again soon :)\"\n\nAnd that was that, I didn't try talking to her since she had a boyfriend and I didn't want to be that annoying ex so a few more months went by and in March she suddenly messaged me again saying she saw something on TV that reminded me of her and we spoke for a few hours before she went to bed. I checked her profile and noticed suddenly that it no longer said she was in a relationship and I remembered she changed her profile picture to one of just her a few weeks back. After this I tried initiating conversation a few times, she took about 2 days to respond the first time, but I didn't mind. But I noticed that her messages seemed quite short and uninterested with the exception of a few and she''s not initiating any conversations...so...what gives?", "summary": "My ex starts talking to me after one and a half years of radio silence and when I started initiating conversation with her she seems to have stopped...What's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_zisg3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need help either figuring out how to get out", "post": "Hey guys, I need some help. (This is a throwaway, cuz of course we are both avid redditers.) \n\nSo my guy (27m) and I (29f) have been together for over 6 years now. With no plans by him to marry anytime soon. I have a lot of pressure to stay with him, due to the living situation.\n\nHe has a horrible habit of talking sexually with other girls online. Like full blown cyber sex, video chatting, emailing naked pictures and the whole 10 yards. I have come to him several times with how it makes me uncomfortable that he talks like that with them, and not with me. Well it makes me uncomfortable that he does that period, he doesn't care. I've brought it up several times over the past 6 years, and nothing has changed. I recently found him on gone wild commenting super creepy dirty things. It makes me feel really bad. We hardly ever have sex, in fact this is the worst sexual relationship I have ever been in. I have asked to break up and he says no. We always talk it over and the next day it is as if it had never happened, until the next month. I really can't take it anymore. He always says he will change. So I give him the benefit of the doubt which leaves me here: 6 years latter and no change.\n\nI need help either figuring out how to get out. Obviously I love him. I just need to have respect for myself.", "summary": "Boyfriend loves to cyber with other girls, when I have repeatedly asked him to stop"}
{"id": "t3_4vjydk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with a girl, [16 F] who is the ex of my friend [17 M] are meeting each other.", "post": "Hey guys, I'm 17 years old and have never dated a girl before. The people in my situation include Sally(16f) and Anthony(17m) and me(17m). We are all rising seniors in high school. Sally goes to a different school, and Anthony goes to the same school as me. Recently, Sally and I have realized feelings for each other, and want to go about our relationship without seeming insensitive. (Sally is my friend's ex)\n\nFor some background on our relationships, Sally was dating Anthony for 4 months and then Anthony dumped Sally. They haven't spoke to each other since. 3 months later, Sally and I start meeting more often and we start having feelings for each other (meeting for a week). Meanwhile, Anthony is someone I'll probably be interacting with often during school. Anthony's relationship with me can be described as an outsider friend. We're pretty close, however, I'm on the outside of things, and I would be the first one to be counted out if it came down to it.\n\nSo, Reddit, how should I proceed forward on this situation? If you have any questions for me, I would be happy to answer them. Currently, I'm planning on meeting my friend and talking to him about us. However, I do want your guidelines on what to say when the time comes.", "summary": "I'm dating my friend's ex, and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_jg3hx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Making a mix CD for my girlfriend, any suggestions?", "post": "My girlfriend is awesome.  She sends me letters and drawings through the post fairly often, even though we see each other basically every other day.  I am terrible at returning the favour though, I have terrible handwriting and I just can't put pen to paper.\n\nI told her I would make her a nice CD, and I'm trying my hardest to make it perfect.  Here is my track list so far:\n \n* Can't Take my Eyes off you - Frankie Valli\n* Four Tops - Can't Help Myself\n* Sugar Sugar - Archies\n* Better Together - Jack Johnson\n* Nizlopi - Girls\n* The Foundations - Build me up buttercup\n* Stand by me - Ben E King \n* Beach Boys - Wouldn't it be nice\n* Cardigans - for what it's worth\n* Mariah Carey - We belong together\n* Amy Winehouse - Valerie\n\nIt's only a CD, so length is limited, but I would appreciate any suggestions that might make this CD even more awesome!  \n\nI have one of those gimmicky lightscribe drives, so I will probably put a photo of my happy smiling face on the disk, or maybe a collage.", "summary": "how can I make my mix cd the optimal amount of awesome? "}
{"id": "t3_1sdxml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26M] trying to pick between my Lady Friend[22F] or my un-ex-GF [22f]", "post": "Dear reddit,\n\nOver the summer my Girlfriend and I broke up. I had started getting very close to a special Lady Friend (nothing sexual happened but we did push the boundaries with some flirting). When I was single I started seeing my Lady Friend for something else. \n\nThings were awesome we felt intellectually and emotionally identical. Every one of my friends liked her. Her and I, we're in each other's minds. And we ended up in each other's pants. My Lady Friend gives me incredible sex \u2013 and it's shared, I give her multiple squirting orgasms. It was really a blast. But things got complicated.\n\nMy Ex-Girlfriend approached me about settling our issues and getting back together. She found out that Lady Friend and I had gotten involved sexual but Ex-Girlfriend and I still worked on things.  It was hard to see my Ex-Girlfriend be hurt, it felt right when I was finally able to make her smile again. So we started dating again.\n\nUn-Ex-Girlfriend is great. I think I'm happy. I think there is a future. But what is love? What is happiness? \n\nI love my Un-Ex-Girlfriend. I can't stand to see her hurt. But when I reflect on the time spent with my Lady Friend... Man that was remarkable. I haven't seen my Lady Friend since Un-Ex-Girlfriend and I have gotten back together. I want to continue and do the right thing by being faithful to my girlfriend. I want to stick it out I'm sure that there is love there.\n\n But I can't help myself, my Lady Friend is finding a way into my mind. If I had never found this Lady Friend I think I'd still be happy in my current relationship but as of now I've got some doubts. I need to pick one over the other.  For months Lady Friend wasn't on my mind. We were angry with each other because she felt screwed over (and rightly so). But now... I've hit a wall. I might cave and get involved with my Lady Friend.\n\nHelp! How important is incredible sex? Similar minds?", "summary": "\u2013 Back with Ex but fighting off feelings of infidelity."}
{"id": "t3_3l3ndu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Maryland landlord question", "post": "So I'm a landlord of a small home in Baltimore County.  Tenant is on a one-year extension to a lease signed in 2013 - lease ends at the end of October.\n\nThe last time I received rent, it was for Jan - May paid by his mother.  In July I got a text asking me to let him out of the lease at the end of August.  I agreed via text.  Every time I've asked him if I could show the property he made some excuse, and even though I had a legal right to enter, decided to give him his space.  He agreed to do some yard work in lieu of June's rent, but hasn't yet paid for July or August's rent.  He has been texting me excuses of why he's still not out of the house.\n\nWe drove by today and he apparently has stashed his girlfriend out in the house and moved out two weeks ago, AND has done none of the promised yard work.  Her car is sitting in the driveway with expired tags, and he claims he will be out by this weekend.  I have the paperwork to start the eviction process, but what are my rights?  I have a locksmith changing locks this week, but does that put me in a bad position legally?", "summary": "tenant is three months behind on rent, wanted to break the lease two months early, and still has his girlfriend's stuff at the house.  Can I lock them out this week or do I need to go through the eviction process first?"}
{"id": "t3_1djqhe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19f) go to uni with(20m) and can't tell if he is interested", "post": "Basically we met at uni, have a few classes together and seem to get on well. When we first met I had boyfriend, but i broke up with him a month ago and have been single ever since. We recently had a uni break and he added me on fb and we have chatted a few times. It all seems pretty good but I just can't read him. I can't tell if he just wants to be friends or more. \n\nI just got out of 2yr relationship and just don't know if i can be bothered to deal with the \"game\".\nShould i be upfront with him? Ask him if he is interested or just wait. I know it's pretty early days, but I just don't like the feeling of waiting around for something that may never happen.\nWe kind of spoke about what we would want out of relationships, pretty casual/organic flowing but I couldn't tell if he was initiating anything or just for conversation :/", "summary": "Met a really cute guy, want to have fun with him, start something casual but can't tell if he wants it back. Should i just be super upfront or just keep waiting"}
{"id": "t3_35ur7f", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "To stay or not to stay?", "post": "WARNING: Wall of text. \n\nI've been working at the firm I'm currently at for just over two years. They hired me on full-time after completing my college placement with them. They're incredibly understanding and the perks of working with them are fantastic. I have paid holidays, two weeks paid vacation, medical and dental benefits and they do the matching RRSP contribution. My biggest dilemmas are that I truly cannot stand working for one of the lawyers (I work for two family law lawyers who are completely opposite) and the pay reallllly sucks. \n\nIt's not completely their fault that the pay sucks. I'm working/living in a crappy area economically but I know that getting a raise (a real one, not just $0.25) is off the table because they would have to raise the pay of people who were hired around the same time as I was. While I appreciate the firm and everything that they've done for me, I began looking for new employment last year in an area where I would be starting off with a salary that's double my current one. I've gone to some interviews and was offered a job at one firm but I chickened out and declined. Now I've been sending out my resumes again and am really interested in obtaining new employment however one of the lawyers that I work for is now leaving in two weeks for open heart surgery and will be off for at least four months. I just feel like I can't leave during a time when I'm really needed. The other family law lawyer (that I can't stand working for) is going to be taking over her practice. He'll have his practice and her practice which is around 80 plus files and there's only going to be one clerk handling it all. \n\nI really want to finally break free and start making the money that I went to school for but I don't want to put the firm in a bad position and burn bridges when they've been nothing but great to me. \n\nOpinions?", "summary": "One of my employers is going to be off for four months due to open heart surgery and I am contemplating on leaving because of an impossible boss (different employer) and shitty pay. Worried about leaving the firm in a bad spot and burning bridges."}
{"id": "t3_2jsrar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [30 F] dated 6 years, married 1, wants a lavish lifestyle with no work", "post": "I met my wife in college and we hit it off pretty quickly. I'm a laid back career-minded individual and my wife is more of a fun-loving type A. I was raised in a family that has lived on both ends of the economic spectrum. We've been so poor that we were near homeless, and we've also been a family making a decent 6 figure wage. My wife was raised in a family that has always been well off, as her dad is a VP at a large company. Her mother has always been a stay at home mom, as her dad's income was more than enough for the family. I come from a home where everyone has worked since they were first able.\n\nWe've been together a total of 7 years, and we started together in a tiny one bedroom apartment in college. She didn't complain when we lived there, but she understandably said she wanted to have more space. Since then, I've gotten a career and make pretty good money for my age. I showed her the houses that were available for what we make after budgeting and she wasn't satisfied. I told her that if she was willing to work, we could move into a large home, so she got a job.\n\nSince then she has decided that she hates work and isn't cut out for it. She talks about how much she hates it at least 2-3 times a week. I told her she could quit and we could move some place smaller, but she wants to have her cake and eat it too; she refuses to accept the idea that we'd have to move into a smaller home. I told her as long as she wants to live in a large house, we have to both be working. \n\nI've talked to her about getting a different job. I talked to her about doing her resume, helping her find another career, but she isn't interested. The only acceptable outcome for her is to not have to work but live in a house we cannot afford (which I am unwilling to put us through).\n\nHow do I get through to her?", "summary": "My wife wants to live outside of our means, and complains about having to work to achieve it. How do I get through to her?"}
{"id": "t3_2u38ja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21/f] looks immensely different (in a good way) with makeup and her wig on, and it's starting to bother me [25/m].", "post": "Throwaway since my girlfriend occasionally browses reddit. \n\nWe have been together for a little over two years. We met online when we first began dating. I was baffled that someone as good looking as her was on a dating website. \n\nShe is easily a 10/10, skinny, super long brown hair, thick eyelashes, rosy cheeks and smooth skin. \n\nAt least that's what i thought. I found out within the first month of us dating that her hair is a wig. For the first 6 months, she tried to keep it on as much as possible, but had to take it off to sleep. She has alopecia and her real hair is very short and is in fact bald in some places. \n\nI was okay with this.. Until then she started removing her makeup too. Totally different person. She has very uneven toned skin, literally no eyebrows, and almost no eyelashes. If you saw her without her wig and makeup you would think she was actually a different girl. \n\nAt first these things didn't bother me, until recently. I know she is VERY self conscious of the way she looks, which is why she does herself up real nice, so i could never bring it up. It is annoying to see pictures of her and have memories of her as this beautiful princess, but come home to a girl who looks nothing like what i thought. \n\nI know this sounds shallow but i need some advice. I rarely see her looking nice anymore, as now she feels comfortable enough to be bare-faced and wiggless around me all the time. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend looked like a 10/10 until i found out she wears a wig and 10lbs of makeup. At first this didn't bother me but now it does."}
{"id": "t3_48oku0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my long-time crush [21 F]broke contact but after 6 months she wrote", "post": "Hello Reddit!\nLast october I told this girl my feelings towards her, but her response was what I've known but I had a lot to go through so I went along. Yes, it was a No. We were really close best friends, but for the past 2 years I felt a lot more( this as background). We've known each other for 9 years now, we were dating at the very beginning. I told her that I can't see her in order to help myself forget and move on, so I asked her not to write me or call me. Today is/was my birthday, and she wrote me, and told me the she's sorry to break my wish, but it's my birthday so she had to write. It pains me, I have to admit that she wrote me, I feel very down once again. The question I want to ask is, whether I should her write back anything at all or no? We are mature and quite different from our generation.\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Broke contact with crush for forever, she wrote me happy birthday how are you, made me go sad and let down, should I even write her back anything?"}
{"id": "t3_3w5bs9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 6 months, she's slept with 10x more people than me", "post": "There are a few posts about this, either girls sleeping with 50+ guys or girls sleeping with just 5 more than the guy. My story is based on the fact that my count is so low.\n\nI'm her 18th, and she's been sexually active since 15-16 so almost 8 years. She's only had 1 long term 6+ month boyfriend in there, which lasted around 2 years, and then probably 6-7 couple month boyfriends. When she found out I was uncomfortable with it, she assured me that they weren't random guys at the bar etc, and they all taken her on a date at least once. 3 were Tinder dates. Some of them were clingy and wouldn't let go of her, but I'm sure some didn't want anything else with her either. She's a popular, good looking girl.\n\nInitially, this didn't really bother me. Then I recently made friends with a guy she knew that I met at a party. She said she tried to hook up with him once but he turned her down because she dated a not-so-close friend of his. Most girls would probably have kept that a secret.\n\nNow as for me, she's only my second. She used to say, \"you have so much to experience\" but since then, she's fell in love with me and that phrase has completely disappeared.\n\nThanks in advance for any replies.", "summary": "My GF has slept with 16 more than me. What should I do about my insecurity?"}
{"id": "t3_1dagud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have a crush on a coworker [19F]; dunno what to do about it", "post": "In a nutshell, I [21M] have a coworker at the hookah lounge we work at. We normally don't work together these days (I work Mon-weds, she [19F] works Fri-Sun), but I stop by and visit at least once a week.\n\nI was broken up with by a girl I was in a very serious relationship with over a year ago, and honestly, my coworker is the first person since that has made me feel legitimately okay again. She's gorgeous, and the most caring and sweet person in the world. I'm always extremely comfortable with her, and since the day she started working we've both been constantly poking fun at each other (Water pistols, poking jokes at each other, etc).\n\nSo I guess it basically narrows down to a few major factors, that I'd really like some advice/pointers on:\n\n*I've no idea how to even go about asking her out these days; my last relationship just kinda happened\n\n*I'm still not sure if it would be a good idea, even if we do normally never work with each other\n\nSo, what does Reddit think about this situation?", "summary": "I [21M] have a huge and growing crush on my coworker [19F]; too dense to figure out what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2pe80x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27f] am in a happy, long term relationship but I still check on my ex-bfs new gfs FB because I worry that he abuses her, the way he abused me.", "post": "Exactly what the title says. \n\nHe was violent, and made me feel crazy. He never left marks that people could see. He was your typical manipulative, mean, narcissistic ex-bf. The kind your parents warn you about. I was with him for one year. I saw how he treated his girlfriends prior to me, and still dated him anyway. I had to have my older brothers and cops present in order to break up with him safely. We dated over five years ago. \n\nHe has now been with this girl for a year or so I think. They moved together to a very far away part of my country where neither of them know anyone.  I can see the little changes in her, even through her mostly-private FB page. She wears less makeup now, she doesn't post as many selifes, her friends list has dwindled. \n\nI don't have any lingering feelings for my ex, AT ALL. Any feelings at all would be pity and anger. I worry about her. I worry that she is trapped, the way that I was and that she has no one around to help her.\n\nIs it wrong of me to check on her FB sometimes? Is it unhealthy? I mean, I know it's unhealthy and their relationship isn't my problem, but, I know how she must be feeling, or will be feeling soon. \n\nHow do I stop myself from worrying about her?", "summary": "I was in an abusive relationship 5 years ago. He has a new gf now. I check her fb once in a while to see if she is okay. Is that bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2z5jtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend[20M] changes with potential relationship[19F].. Should I confront them?", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nA good friend of mine[20M] is currently hanging out with a girl[19F]. Now, our group of friends does not particularly like her, but we would of course repsect them both. The problem is that he is constantly asking me and my GF for what seems to be our approval. I do not know what to do. I personally don`t care who he dates, but what annoys me is he is constantly seeking our approval..I believe that it is because he himslef is not sure, so he wants us to tell him what to do...\n\nMostly, what annoys me is that they are displaying very couple-like things ( her lying in his lap, very close snuggling, etc), but when asked, he doesnt accept nor deny it. According to my GF ( I`m away from home from Co-Op), he changes his personality and become a rude annoying prick. Normally, he is a very nice guy, so this i just cause of her. How do I confront him about his behavior when i get back ?( 2 weeks). As said before, I do not care about who he is dating, but what I do care about is his actions, and how he is in public. Also, she cannot bring her drama, as we all know she has much of it.. \n\nI am usually very blunt about such things, so i might just tell him exactly as I feel, but the main question is : SHOULD I? \n\n I dont think I can do anything.. I`m very confused..", "summary": "Friend changing negatively around potential relationship, want to confront him about his actions, not sure if should."}
{"id": "t3_4o5grw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How can I pay for my expensive college as an 18 year old?", "post": "I'm going to enter my sophomore year of college and because of a family falling out, my parents have pulled their financial support for my college, which costs me with scholarships into consideration 40k a year. What's the best way to go about this? I have only about 4k in my own money, and I'll get another 3k with my summer work minus all expenses during the time. I'd love to declare independence and get more aid but it seems I'm too young too and not homeless enough. Is there any loophole I can use or anything, no matter how brute force/ relationship obliterating it is? Is it really feasible for me to reliably get 40k in loans a year for three years or am I going to have to hope for scholarships? Any advice on loan providers is extremely appreciated.", "summary": "All legal options are on the table besides dropping out of college or transferring."}
{"id": "t3_4ikhtb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23f) having trouble understanding my mom's (56f) reaction.", "post": "Background: I live with my mom and fianc\u00e9 (24?m) in her house. I'm a college student, whereas my fianc\u00e9 moved here in October, and has only just started to be contacted for jobs as a substitute teacher. I'm not working, as I have ADHD and narcolepsy, which make it hard for me to work a lot and still study.\n\nMom works 12hr shifts, and I don't know her schedule. She says it's simple, and we all should know it, but we dont. She spends weekends at her boyfriend's  (she doesn't bring him over; dad passed in '08).\n\nThe other day my fianc\u00e9 mentioned my mom telling me something related to a doctor's visit. I was confused, aaaand it turns out he didn't know she hadn't told me. We were both annoyed.\n\nYesterday, she stopped to ask if I was going to do something this week. I said yes, she brought up something else and I sarcastically brought up that I had to learn about the doctor call from fiance, not her.\n\nShe got upset and did said that she didn't tell me, doesn't talk to me because I'm always angry, and did this gruff, exasperated voice that bordered yelling. She was about to go off, but fianc\u00e9 stopped her.\n\nBut...I only remember her talking to me once in the last few weeks. \n\nIt was morning, she had gotten home from work, and I was making my parrot's breakfast. Parrot screaming, me not being a morning person, she brings up the debit card she uses to give me an allowance. I said I know I only had X amount, and she sarcastically goes, \"Do you know?\"\n\nI know it was wrong, but I raised my voice and told her to leave me alone I had just woken up.\n\nIt's finals week. I'm stressed.\n\nI just don't understand why she thinks this is every time if she doesn't talk to me. She doesn't come home most of the time. She doesn't talk to people when she comes home and then leaves within an hour!", "summary": "Mom says I'm always mad and rude when she talks to me lately. She's only talked to me once in the last few weeks. I don't get how it can be every time if she rarely talks to, or sees me."}
{"id": "t3_4btubf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can my boss take money out of my paycheck if I'm not going against my contract?", "post": "So I'm quitting my job and gave my two week notice to my boss. I offered to stay longer than two weeks but he seems to not care about when I go. In my contract, I get 8 paid days off. I have only taken 6 so far. I told my boss today that I have not used all my paid days off and would like to use the remaining two next week. His response was that he doesn't want to pay for my vacation since I'm leaving on short notice. I'm not leaving on short notice-- two weeks is protocol everywhere. There is nothing in my contract that says it has to be approved, whether those days are sick or vacation, etc. It literally just says \"8 paid sick and personal\". So if I do just wing it and take my days off, can he take it out of my paycheck?", "summary": "can my boss take money out of my paycheck for days taken off even though it is outlined in my contract that I am allowed to take those days off? "}
{"id": "t3_3gf3dq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30s M] with my Wife [30s F] 10 years, wants Mother [50s F] to move in", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm after a little advice. I will try and make it as short but informative as possible.\n\nMy wife and I have been together for over a decade. We have no children and have our own house in the 'burbs. I have never really gotten along with my MIL but we haven't really had any real clashes either.\n\nThere is a history of verbal and physical abuse from my MIL/FIL directed at my wife since she was a teenager, I immediately made the conscience decision to distance myself from them both immediately once hearing the details, there are also other issues later on that I have with my MIL. I don't understand why my wife chooses to maintain a relationship with them and I don't try to, it's her decision.\n\nMy MIL (divorced) is very ill and my wife would like her to move into our home. We have a guest room in the house that is rarely used. Logistically everything fits, the only problem is me. I don't like her. Aside from the history of abuse the is also issues with tidyness and hoarding as well her constantly putting people down and talking about others behind their backs. I don't really want to have a lot of old junk that would be better off in the landfill cluttering up the house and I feel as though listening to her speak badly of others constantly will wear me very thin very quick and will either lead to me being depressed, drinking or other negative behaviours.\n\nAm I just being an ass hole? I honestly feel as though I will end up moving out of my own home (and marriage) if this goes ahead. I know I need to communicate this to my wife but I just need to know whether or not I should just let it happen and try stick it out or if there's another option.\n\nAny feedback is appreciated :)", "summary": "Wife wants sick mother to move in, everything fits except me."}
{"id": "t3_pc2wg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is considered verbal abuse and what can I do about it?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nI am panicing and I don't know what to do. I was going out to see my girlfriend and before I left my mom asked me if I brushed my hair. I said, \"no.\" To which she responded, \"go brush your hair.\" I said, \"No, I think it looks nice today\" and she said \"You make me sick, go brush your hair.\" (None of this was said jokingly. It was all in seriousness). I said, \"what the hell?! No. It is fine.\" to which she said \"You are *disgusting*.\" I said \"This is verbal abuse, I could call the fucking police on you.\" Both my parents flipped out. They grounded me for saying \"fuck\" even though they say it themselves and called me more names such as \"asshole\" for threatening to take matters into my own hands and call the police. So what do I do? Do I have grounds to call the police? I am considering running away with my girlfriend, maybe. I am just scared and I don't know what to do. I can't live in this situation anymore. Please help, Reddit. I am bawling, I am scared, and I need help...", "summary": "Parents say I make them sick and that I am disgusting for not brushing my hair. I call them out on verbal abuse and threaten to call police. They call me more names and ground me for saying \"fuck\" even though they can say it."}
{"id": "t3_xcq8z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of Reddit, every time I try to do something new sexually with my BF he loses his...confidence. How do I get him to try something new?? (possibly NSFW)", "post": "Anytime I try to be intimate with my bf in a way other than traditional missionary style, he loses his hard on and can't get it back. I'm always supportive, go down on him, we wait, but it only ever works out if we have sex the same way every time. \n\nI really like sex. Everything about it. I've tried talking to him about foreplay casually, but he just says he's never had to do it before so he doesn't really know how. He also doesn't seem interested in exploring with me, although he seems pretty cool with me doing things to him. However, if I try to get on top or move into another position, no matter what he goes soft.\n\nWhat do I do?? I really, really like him, but I also feel the need to be open sexually in a relationship.\n\nIn case anyone is interested we're both 21 and we've been dating for about three months. We also worked together for a couple years before that, but we don't anymore.", "summary": "how do I get my bf to try new things sexually without hurting his confidence?"}
{"id": "t3_1bpy19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18f] am addicted to porn and lost my sex drive and my girlfriend [19f] is disappointed", "post": "I've been addicted to porn for a year and my girlfriend and I wanted to start having sex. The huge problem is I can't get aroused down there even if I'm actually horny and I actually try to get aroused but I just can't! I've been with her for three years and we've been friends ever since we were little and I think she's amazing and perfect for me and it makes me angry that I just can't \"get it up\". I've tried to stop watching porn but sometimes I can't help it, and it sucks because we've tried oral but I still couldn't orgasm.\nI need help fast!", "summary": "can't get it up due to addiction of porn and girlfriend is disappointed"}
{"id": "t3_2fvjbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] struggling with self esteem issues, affecting my life and friendships", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nI am just feeling really desperate for any answers at this point.\n\nI have tried counselling, talking to friends and family, watching inspirational videos, and reading self help books. I'm at a complete loss. \n\nShort background: I have been struggling with self esteem and confidence for a long time but recently, it has gotten extremely bad. I get a horrible feeling in my stomach when I'm outside and not in bed. \n\nI feel hideous and uninteresting and I'm having a hard time accepting these facts and moving onto more productive endeavours. \n\nI want to find love within myself so that my self worth doesn't hinge on the feedback of other people. But I honestly cannot name one damn thing to make myself feel worthwhile of any sort of love from anybody. There are literally millions of girls who are far more deserving of love, who are more kind and amazing and beautiful. It makes me feel so worthless.\n\nI'm hating how self obsessed I've become. Instead of enjoying my youth, I'm wasting it feeling this stupid way.\n\nSo Reddit, I would really appreciate any piece of advice you'd be kind enough to offer. Thank you.", "summary": "I want to learn how I can love myself."}
{"id": "t3_2u4sgd", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Kentucky Fried Revenge", "post": "Ok, so I just spent 3 hours picking up my dad from the airport, and because neither him or I could be arsed to cook, we decided that I would get a bucket of chicken for the family on the way home.\n\n  All day I had been waiting for the boneless chicken strips, but mum thinks normal chicken tastes better so I got a 6 piece bucket and 4 strips of boneless chicken.  \n\n  As we go through the meal, i watch mum eat not 1 or 2 but 3 of the boneless chicken pieces.  My revenge, I ate her last piece of chicken on the bone without her noticing then watched her rummaging through the empty bucket.  Don't fuck with my chicken!", "summary": "Revenge is finger lickin' good"}
{"id": "t3_1rfm4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am extremely stressed, possibly depressed, but keeping it together somehow.", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit for this, sorry!\n\nRecently I seem to be digging myself a hole and falling deeper into a more stressed state of mind. This coupled with the fact that I may be dealing with a mild case of depression is basically causing me to feel a little \"off\".\n\nI work 50-60 hours a week, and attend college full time. It's a chore, and next week is finals week and the pressure is pulling me apart. I do have a vacation starting this Saturday, so I have work off over finals, but it can't come any sooner.\n\nMy social life is a complete non-existant wreck, and I think this is my problem. I work in a restaurant environment as a manager, and policy dictates that I cannot talk to employees outside of work. It's understandable. The college I go to is a community college and I haven't met anyone there who I would be remotely interested in hanging out with, and theres little social life on campus.\n\nSo basically...", "summary": "I'm an overworked, stressed, friend-less college student who needs advice on what to do because the light in the tunnel has burnt out and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4w121n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend and I [18 M] just broke up because we wanted different things. I am asking for advice and stories to help get through the breakup.", "post": "My girlfriend and I just broke up because she wanted to be free for college, and I am looking for a long term (monogamous) relationship.\n\nA little backstory: My exgirlfriend and I founded our relationship on the thought of being life partners. She broke up with me after a year and 1/2 because she wants to be a \"bad girl\" and have fun in college and not be tied down. All I ever want is to find my life partner and enjoy life in a relationship. I know I am young to want that, but I don't enjoy hooking up and meaningless sex and relationships. The last year and 1/2 I was the happiest I have ever been because I love everything that goes along with a long term relationship. I enjoy parties but only if my SO is there, I enjoy everything that couples do, I love being loved by someone unconditionally, basically everything that comes along with being a couple I enjoy. I am going to be a freshman in college this fall and since the ending of my previous relationship all I want is another one, with someone who wants the same things I want.\n\nMy biggest fear is that in college many people are going to be looking to have fun and not looking to be in a long term relationship. \n\nJust a few questions. Please share your stories and opinions as openly as only redditers are known to do, just do so positively:\n\n1) Are there people in college looking for the same thing that I am?\n\n2) What can I do to prevent myself from hopping into a relationship that isn't right for me because I am desperate to be in a relationship?\n\n3) Has this happened to anyone else? (Success Stories?)\n\nMy hope is for these comments to re-assure me and everyone else reading about what great things are out there. I would like this to be a light in the dark compared to most of the negative posts on this thread. Please limit comments to constructive criticism and positive comments/stories. Thank you.", "summary": "I'm looking for advice/stories on how to get over someone & reassurance that people are looking for the same things I am looking for."}
{"id": "t3_1bdahl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when have you had to hurt someone you loved in order to do the right thing?", "post": "I just wrote a nice long letter to my ex. Informing her I can't continue to be in her life. We had hooked up not long ago and rekindled some bottled up emotions. But she decided she didn't want to pursue that with me. And I'll live. But we are so close that it started to turn me into her close friend that she talked about other relationships with... somehow we jumped into me becoming her gay friend that she talked about other guys being jerks to her. It causes me severe emotional pain to listen to her talk about other guys. So I wrote her a letter detailing my feelings. I had more than one thing I wanted to tell her and I needed it all to be well worded and put out there. I knew going forward I would just be causing myself misery if I let myself become that sort of friend to her. I was torn between being that friend and not having her in my life at all. I decided it was best for us both if I was no longer in her life. I would just end up confessing yo her down the line that I still loved her, and keep causing confused feelings between us. \n\nI wrote out this long letter. She took a day to respond but when she did she told me I had hurt her like never before, that she was an idiot for thinking I wouldn't have done so to her. Mind you when we broke up it was because she texted me saying \"I got the abortion\" when I was never told she was pregnant... She was hurt by me? Please.\n\nI know it was the right move to get away from her. She has issues and I'm unwilling to deal with them. But those issues are easy to forget when you are with her. And I love her an awful lot despite everything.", "summary": "I told my ex we can't be friends and she hates me for it. But it was for the best. "}
{"id": "t3_3j3u6m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling 911 to get us a new battery.", "post": "So this happened a several months back. I was at home with my Mom and then suddenly I heard a beeping. *BEEP BEEP* then it would pause for a bit then *BEEP BEEP* then it would pause and continue in that pattern. My mom and I investigate to find it is the Carbon Monoxide Alarm. I instantly run out of the house because I'd rather not die. So my mom gets my dad on the phone and they are talking and remember my mom is still in the house at this time so I'm yelling at my mom to get out of the house who just thinks the alarm is malfunctioning. I get my mom to call 911. We wait in the frontyard for the fire department they come, investigate the house with their carbon monoxide detectors and detect nothing and check the alarm. \n\nIt was just letting us know it needed a new battery. So the one of the firemen went back to the truck grabbed us a battery put it back and they all went back in the truck.", "summary": "Heard beeping, panicked, called 911 for carbon monoxide, battery needed changing"}
{"id": "t3_2cvljt", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Housebreaking with a deck", "post": "We have a 9 week old puppy who has been with us for 4 days now. We are crate training and he slept in the crate all night for the first time last night. There has only been one accident in the house and that was when he was excited about going outside to pee. \nWe have established a consistent spot in our yard for pooping and most peeing. The problem is that he hasn't been able to differentiate our deck and the back yard. There are a lot of stairs that he can't get down yet. We are trying to stop him when we see signs but we've been too late a few times in the past day.", "summary": "any advice of differentiating between backyard and deck where we don't want him relieving himself?"}
{"id": "t3_31rf5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my cousin [29M] for 29 years, family and friends have serious problems with his fianc\u00e9", "post": "My cousin has been with his gf (now fianc\u00e9) for about 6 years.  Our group of friends and my family think that she acts childish, rude, entitled and sometimes confrontational. Oddly enough, he is incredibly level-headed, calm and abnormally intelligent.  We believe he isn't oblivious to some of her behavior but lets it go on without formally addressing it with her. We have held our tongues for years to avoid an uncomfortable situation, but some of us are hitting a breaking point. What is the best way to handle this? I should also mention that my cousin and I have been very close since we were kids and live in the same area, so this is someone I see frequently. Socially distancing myself is an option but the idea of that makes me sad and I think its worse in the long run. Has anyone dealt with this before?", "summary": "Family has long-term issues with my cousin's girlfriend (now fianc\u00e9). What is the best way to handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_30o0m4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25f] found out my mother [50f] is selling sex and I don't know if dad [60m] knows. I want to help, should I tell them I know?", "post": "Throwaway account for anonymity, even though my parents don't use Reddit, I think this situation may blow up and I have friends and family that reddit.\n\nMy mum has been sleeping with this man for a while, I'm not sure if he's still paying for it, or if they even still see each other. I don't know if any other men are involved. I don't know if dad had any say in this arrangement. It's obvious he at least knows 'something is up', but whether he knows everything is questionable. My mum is going to tell the wife what has been happening, I'd be willing to bet money that dad doesn't know about the confession. My parents marriage has been rocky for a while, but I don't think they'll ever divorce.\n\nI accidentally saw the confession letter, that's how I know this is true. This isn't a shock to me at all, my husband and I have joked about how much it fills in the gaps in my mums behaviour.\n\nMy husband and I both agree that I have some similar life experience that could help my mum and dad. But how do I bring it up without admitting to seeing the confession? Do I just come out and say it but risk pushing her away? Do I leave hints and open conversation towards that direction in a welcoming and non-judgemental way? Do I wait and see if this situation blows up and the whole family learns about it before I offer my help?\n\nMy mum and I are close, we see each other regularly. Although it's obvious we don't see each other as a trustworthy source of wise advice for our inner demons.", "summary": "My mum is telling the wife of her client(?) that he is paying her for sex. I have some life experience that I could help my parents put this behind them. How do I tactfully offer my help?"}
{"id": "t3_celm0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, what gifts can I give my blind grandfather?", "post": "My grandfather developed glaucoma about fifteen years ago, and ended up losing almost all his sight. He's 88 years old, and still lives with my grandmother in the house they've owned for about 40 years. He's still physically fine otherwise, but he can't actually leave the house because he won't use a dog or a cane, and basically doesn't admit that he only has a little bit of vision left. \n\nThe problem is that my grandmother gets intense cabin fever (i.e. 60 years of cabin fever) and they both nag each other silly. Finally, my granddad is an old jock, and completely uninterested in the audio plays, talking books, etc. that all the other blind-centred websites suggest. \n\nSo, I guess what I'm after is any advice on what sorts of gifts or activities I could give my granddad that wouldn't have long term costs?", "summary": "I have a blind grandfather who causes problems for everyone around because he's chronically bored and needs something to do."}
{"id": "t3_4207e1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by clogging the workplace toilet", "post": "Like many FUs, the incident at hand happened before today, but the consequences are currently occurring right outside my cubicle. \nMany weeks ago at work, I left a meeting to take a quick bathroom break. I have a habit of keeping ink pens in my back pants pocket and did not think to remove the pen used during the meeting from my pocket before entering the stall. Used the bathroom, washed my hands, and quickly reviewed my appearance in the mirror. I brushed my hands down the back of my pants and realized that my pen was missing. I looked in the stall and didn't see it on the floor. I shrugged and thought nothing of it, as I hurried back to the meeting. \nLast week, my colleagues complained about having issues with flushing the toilet in the bathroom. This morning, the bathroom had an \"Out of Order\" sign placed on the door. This has caused quite an inconvenience, as the bathroom only has the one toilet. One of the custodians, who I frequently crack jokes with, was outside the door, putting on elbow-length gloves: he did not seem pleased. When I asked him what was going on, he explained that he was assigned the duty of snaking the toilet drain to determine what's been clogging it. He's been working at the toilet for over an hour now, and it's hard to miss, as the bathroom is 15 feet from my cubicle. Ungodly noises have been coming from the bathroom: metal clanging, water spurting, curses uttered. When he emerged from the bathroom, he stopped by my desk to tell me what he scavenged from the toilet: an ink pen.\nI think that I have to buy the custodian lunch today.", "summary": "I unknowingly dropped a pen down the workplace toilet drain, wreaked havoc on the plumbing."}
{"id": "t3_4lcgod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22M] Girlfriend[20] of over 4 years broke up with me an I'm having a hard time adjusting to life.", "post": "So I was in a long term relationship(>4 yrs) with a girl I've known since high school. We've been through so much together, and granted I haven't been the absolute best BF over the years, but our relationship was decent and our breakup wasn't really a toxic one. I had just returned from vacation and when I met with her, we had a \"talk\" and she tells me that she thinks we should break up. She said that she was just \"going through some things\" and needed her space. I'm also planning on moving(no real time frame) and I feel like that has a big part in it. But It caught me completely off guard; and I spent the night there and the next day so we could try to talk things out, but I'm not very good at that. She had mentioned trying to start over after some discussion, and said that she'd wait for me if I could wait for her, but none of it seemed very sincere. My biggest problem with everything is that I just don't know how I go about normal life without her. She was my best friend for all these years, and the one I could really rely on. She says she still wants to be friends but I jut don't know if I can handle that, or if it's even healthy for me to hang On like this. We work together and It tears me apart every time I see her to feel like we threw everything away on a whim, but I also know that she could be way better off with someone else, and all I really want is for her to be happy. Which is why I'm here pleading to the internet to help me. What should I do? I don't want to throw away everything we built but I really don't know how to be \"just friends\" or if that's even a good course of action. Sorry or the wall of text, this has jut been eating me up inside. Any advice is much appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Gf broke up with me after a 4 year relationship. Being just friends is hard. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_29dnix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [32F] and I [M29] have been having problems. It came to a head last night. Wondering if I'm overreacting.", "post": "We are both at a big party in New York City and everything is going great. After we exit the club, I realize I forgot to close out my tab. This is a convlulted process that ends up taking a lot of time. By the time everything is settled, my girlfriend has been chatting up a dude for the duration of the snafu and, after everything has been cleared up on my end, is exchaning numbers with this SOB while I'm just twiddling my thumbs and waiting. I got furious. Not only did I pay for the entire night (>$100) but I also bough hera shirt ($20) 5 minutes before settled the card dispute. Am I overrreacting?", "summary": "Girlfriend got another guy's number while I was standing right there. Should I be mad?"}
{"id": "t3_ko7fe", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bankruptcy options", "post": "Back in 2008, I had just moved out, I was making okay money for the time, but using up 95-100% of my income on expenses. The market went to hell, and as I was in a commissioned job so went my paycheck. Being the stupid kid i was I lived on credit cards for a few months before I got another job that gave me a steady paycheck.\n\nSomehow I was still stupid and still lived on 95-100% of my income barely being able to pay off what I owed. I got behind. Fast forward to april of this year, I lost my job. with no savings whatsoever I'm not sure how I've fed myself and kept a roof over my head.\n\nAll my debts combined come to about $13,000. My new job is a commissioned only job, and tomorrow I find out if the deal goes through. If it does I'll take home a pre-tax $15,000 check in about a month.\n\nI have a small amount of credit available to me in the form of a loan from friend, with this I could file bankruptcy before I get my check, pay the 800 dollars in bankruptcy fee's and start off with some savings. The other option would be to pay my creditors and start with nothing. The nothing scares me, I am very broke. If things don't work out tomorrow, I'll be giving my landlord my notice, and moving into my car. How I'll eat or pay for gas is beyond me.", "summary": "In Personal Finances opinion would it be better to go bankrupt and have some emergency fund or pay my creditors and not have that bankruptcy in my background for the next 10 years."}
{"id": "t3_2culxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I (19f) think I have feelings for a coworker (23m)", "post": "Well, I know I've got feelings for him. He's a funny, sweet (okay maybe not) adorable guy. We just met a few weeks ago... Itransferred to his work. And he immediately showed me interest, we exchanged phone numbers talked all night. Went out on a date, kissed. Same thing a week later. Except oral for both parties happened. Went out on two more dates, and then we fucked. Up until we had sex he was attentive and texting a lot, and I knew it was just going to be a sex thing. I don't want a relationship with him just casual sex. Only problem is that we have barely talked since. When we did talk he just said \"I still like you, I've jusy been busy, and don't text a lot.\" So basically, is he coming back? Should I just get over it? (Easily done.)  Or should I make the effort first?", "summary": "want a friends with benefits, not sure he wants to fuck again?"}
{"id": "t3_3yai4n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 3 weeks, wants to take things slow. give me some advises.", "post": "So we started to seeing each other since early September. 3 weeks in since official. She wants to take things slow and added that she doesn't feel like she really knows me and that we need to get to know each other better. I know that she still likes me and she is doing this cause this isn't a little fling or just for fun she wants this to work. \nSo my question is what and how should I approach this \"doing it slow\"? I know I need to take it day by day and have quality times together and do things memorable. Can you guys give me some tips?\nThanks a lot.", "summary": "My gf wants to take things slow and I know she still likes me and wants us to work. How should I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_2jhky9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my first boyfriend [21 M] 4 months, He has chosen someone else because I didn't commit earlier. Is there a chance this won't last long and we will get back together?", "post": "Ive had my first gay relationship with a guy who is a bit younger than me. Aside from the age difference we have a lot in common and the last 4 months have been the happiest Ive ever been.\n\nThe problem is that I was away out of town for 3 weeks. We had not been official or exclusive, and since I returned he said he's met someone else.\nI told him how I felt about him, and he said the reason was that he didn't think I wanted anything serious. After a lot of discusion, he then said that he would end it with the new guy.\n\nFast forward two weeks, and we've had lots of conversations and crying and making up, but he's chosen the other guy - who unbeknown to any of us until right now is an acquiantance of mine.\n\nWhen we were together he used to say the most loving, kind things, and right up until 2 weeks ago was still calling me babe and sending sweet messages.\n\nI guess, since it's my first realtionship, I wanted to know what you guys thought of the possibility that we'd get back together? Do these things happen? Or is that it? He says he never wants to lose me as a friend, and I don't want to lose him. The other guy is 24.\n\nI've spent all day crying over this. I never thought I'd get so emotional.", "summary": "Guy I was casually seeing ended it with me because I didn't tell him how I felt early enough. Is it possible we'll get back together?"}
{"id": "t3_2gu9bs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Is it wrong to let (19~/f) her know my feelings?", "post": "Some background--\n\nThere is a girl in my math class I noticed on the third day of class. She is by far the most beautiful girl I have seen. (To others she may be above average but to me, I rate her this way probably because how i feel). It scares me because we have not said one word to each other. Little interest/curiosities/crushes come and go but I never felt this strongly about a stranger. She gives off a vibe I havnt felt before from a stranger. I love her style of clothing. I would like to think she finds me attractive from a few little events given.(not sharing to keep short)\n\nI was approaching her today until someone just ahead of me comes behind her and puts his arm over her shoulders. I thought the burden on my chest will never leave because of her bf.", "summary": "My question is, Is it wrong asking her If she would like to get to know each other (showing her interest/expecting rejection) after seeing she has a bf. I want to be respectful and not interfere but Ive been planning on approaching her. I want to get it off my chest but don't want to interfere. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2cuedh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [29,M] and I [24,F] have been together 4 months - too soon to move in together?", "post": "We have already talked about our future and have made plans/trips for the rest of the year and some next year. We both are on the same page that we want to be with each other - and one day get married. We've been talking more about the future and living together, like what pet we will get when that day comes and what area of town we would want to live so that it's in between both of our jobs. We already spend all of our free time together - when my kids are at their dad's I'm staying over at his place or he is at mine and when I do have my kids, he still comes over after work to hang out for a few hours before I go to bed. \n\nDo you think it's the right time to suggest living together? Should we wait? I don't want to rush things, but I know he is the one I want to be with.", "summary": "Is it too soon to suggest moving in together after just 4 months of dating?"}
{"id": "t3_4f14se", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my ex-GF [24F] of 8 months, she has mental health issues, can we still be friends?", "post": "So my GF broke up with me today and was very disrespectful, as she was the last time she dumped me. This makes the 4th time she's dumped me. But she always comes back within a week.\n\nShe has generalized anxiety disorder and possibly PTSD from childhood abuse. I can handle the breakups but i cannot handle the disrespect. I've decided i cannot get back together with her.\n\nI love her and wish we could be together. But i can't let her treat me this way. it damages my respect for her when she disrespects me without cause, and it causes me alot of stress too.\n\nMy question is; can we still be friends?\n\nI'm very tempted to ask to be 'friends with benefits' as well. not because i enjoy our sex (i don't really enjoy any sex very much lol) but more so because i am still in love with her... This seems like a bad idea and a recipe for dysfunction... but it is very tempting. a way of being with her without her being able to break up with me... \n\nshe is very respectful when we're together. and regrets her disrespect afterwards. and she genuinely loves me and misses me. But her GAD kicks in when thinking about the future and she lashes out at me and runs away. Before inevitably recanting...\n\nany thoughts or anecdotes would be appreciated", "summary": "can i be friends with my mentally unstable ex? can we be 'friends with benefits' if i'm still in love with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2a0mmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27m) cut things off with (26f) after three weeks. No issues with the girl, just couldn't commit. I feel awful.", "post": "Ok, so my girlfriend of 3 years and myself broke up two and a half months ago. Two months later I met a new girl (\"Sally\"). We hit it off quickly and hung out a ton for three weeks. But over the last week, I noticed I was unintentionally pushing myself away.\n\nFast forward to last weekend and I pretty much told her I wasn't ready to date. I made her cry and I feel horrible. I'm a good guy and rarely am the one ending things. I feel bad because I feel like it may have worked if the timing was different. At the time we started hanging out I think I was trying to tell myself I was ready. But after hanging out, getting attached, getting comfortable, it was just hitting me as too much to fast. \n\nI feel horrible sleeping with her and leading her on. But I felt I had to be honest as soon as I began feeling uneasy. \n\nDid I make the wrong decision? Should I have waited longer to see what happens?", "summary": "I hurt a really nice person because I don't think I'm ready to date again and feel terrible about it. Not sure if I did the right thing and can't help but feel bad and guilty about what happened."}
{"id": "t3_e1rky", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit Self-Serve Ads Blow...", "post": "**Me**\nI am a game programmer and have released a couple casual games for the iPhone. My company is in the comments (so that you can upvote/downvote it how you wish).\n\n**Story Before the Story (Forgot the word):**\nWell it's not just reddit but I'll get into that. I payed a little bit of money to see if I could reach out to people to show them my site/games for the iPhone. Ok I didn't spend a ton of money but out of like 30K+ impressions I only got like 50 clicks. I am pretty sure none of those spent more than 1 second on the site. Now with reddit you will probably do better if you show a story or something of interest but as an indie dev I am poor and have no idea about advertising. So maybe someone can give me hints and tips on this. I just want to get people to buy my games.\n\nFor other ads services I have thrown a bit of money at them with little to no return. They usually do better than I have on reddit but still. I have a long ways to go if I want to make back what I spent. \n\n**Rant:**\nHow the hell does advertising still work, especially online? It seems a company is required to spend ass loads of money just to obtain enough clicks to get any kind of decent traffic. This seems counter-intuitive. You have to spend more on ads than you are making at this point. I can see how a big company may want to saturate the ad space with their name so that you don't forget it but that requires so much cash that a regular guy like me can't compete. \n\nIt feels like at this point you need to make something and hope it goes viral if you want to get anywhere. I'm not looking to be the next doodle jump and make 6 million in a few months. I am just looking to make enough so that I can do this on my own and not need a steady job. Thats like 1k a month and I can probably get by and have time to make more games.", "summary": "Advertising is hard, I haven't figured out reddit, I need more friends."}
{"id": "t3_4umg1m", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do you feel about men complimenting your appearance when you aren't well acquainted with them?", "post": "Say for example, there's a guy with whom you're only slightly acquaintanced. He's never expressed romantic interest in you, nor have you really gotten to know each other especially well. He has not hitherto done anything particularly inappropriate; at most, you might have caught him glancing in your direction a few times.\n\nLet's say you're dressed up someday, for whatever reason, and you bump into him at lunch time. He sees you and strikes up a conversation. Then after you've been chatting for a few minutes, he turns to you, smiles, and says, \"you look really nice today, by the way.\"\n\nHow would you react in this situation? Would you give him a sincere thank you, or would you quickly walk away without any further eye contact made? How would it make you feel for him to say that? Would you feel violated? Objectified? Would it cross a personal boundary, and would it be unsettling enough for you to cause significant distress? Is there anyone here who would be flattered?", "summary": "Guy you don't know well sees you dressed up and gives you a sincere, respectful compliment. How does it make you feel?"}
{"id": "t3_2a6gtg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my friend [22/F] close friends, what to do now", "post": "Edit: Forgot tag, I'm a male, can't change the title.\n\nWell, I met my friend about 8 months ago, through my girlfriend at the time. We became very close and immediately realized intense similarities between each other. \n\nMy previous relationship, which had been shaky leading up to this, ended about 3 months later,  not related to this, we had just mutually ended things. Afterwards, my friend and I began hanging out a little more, and alone more often. Additionally, she has a non life threatening stomach illness that she has to go get injections for very two weeks; I always went with her and held her hand during the shot, and tried to take her to eat afterwards.\n\n As I was finally escaping the post relationship mental fogginess from the previous relationship, she went back home for the summer (college students) and we've texted/called frequently since. We always say we love each other, and meaning it in a purely friend manner. Not so confusing. We also profess feelings of appreciation and how glad we are to know each other, make plans for the future, vacations together, etc. more confusing. Finally, when she or I go on a date with someone now, we tell each other about it, no ask for each other for advice in a way that is kind of like I-want-you-to-say-no/be jealous. She also often tells me I'm not allowed to date someone she doesn't like, seems uncomfortable around me with another girl.\n\nBeing around each other is, absolutely incredible. I'm always assured that any joke I make or story I tell will have the same effect on her as it does on me, we live on the same page. It's an incredibly comfortable and fulfilling relationship, minus actually being dating. Total long term/don't let this shit go material. \n\nSo my question is where to go next? I'm 90% sure there are reciprocated feelings, but perhaps an unwillingness to admit them since we met through my previous girlfriend and trying to maintain some sort of honor. So where to go forward? How I approach this, or put feelers out and move towards this without upsetting a very healthy dynamic? Or am I being friend zoned and foolish? Thanks", "summary": "awkward meeting circumstances, seemingly obvious mutual feelings, best approach?"}
{"id": "t3_p063r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "saved extra for taxes, now have about $6k.  How can I intelligently dispose of this windfall?", "post": "The title really says it all.  I just got back my tax documentation from the tax company and apparently I owe about six thousand dollars less than I saved for taxes.  Essentially, I have $6k extra.  **I WILL NOT JUST SPEND THIS MONEY ON A \"GOOD TIME\"!!** So don't even suggest it.  I have been living paycheck to paycheck for months and this $6k represents my entire net worth at this point in time.  What I want to know is easy.  How can I handle this money to make it work for me?  I don't know a lot about investments and it seems to me like investments should always be made when you have hundreds of thousands or even more money which i don't have.  But I also don't want to be an idiot with this extra cash.  So how can I use it smartly?  What I'd like, I could do something with it that would either A) help pay for my kids college in 18 years or B) increase the money by a noticable amount in six months or so.  Don't forget that i can't affort to simply lose this money or else I'd head down to the casino with my boys and leave the babys mama at home.", "summary": "What can I do with $6k to make it work for me (and not squander it on a one-time only thing)?"}
{"id": "t3_1m4qyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/22] have/am developing feelings for a close friend [F/18] and just need some advice and to get it off my chest.", "post": "We met about a year ago through some on-campus activities and we have become very close in the interim. We are bordering on \"best friend\" status if you will...we share our problems and a lot of other fairly personal stuff with each other, talk and text often, and spend quite a bit of time together at social gatherings.\n\nI guess the issue is that I'm fairly certain she isn't interested. I'm not her type from what I've gathered and was basically told I've been \"friendzoned\" in a roundabout way. She is out of my league as well if I'm honest.\n\nAnd yet, knowing all of this, I am still developing (or perhaps it would be better to say *have developed*) feelings. I would love to have a deeper relationship. I worry about her, and although I have absolutely no right and I know it, it annoys me when she hangs on other guys at parties and such and they hit on her, or talks to me too much about men she's interested in. I'm not willing to say anything because I don't want to damage our friendship so I've taken a hands-off approach, even as I worry myself to death and try to keep an eye on her (she tends to drink a bit too much and get fairly handsy at parties so a lot of guys take that as an invitation even when it isn't.) Last party a guy she thought was just being friendly tried to have sex with her and she got creeped out and the first thing she did was come find me. Apparently I'm just a \"classy motherfucker\" becuase I don't try anything while she's messed up and take care of her.  I'm not sure how I should take that either.\n\nSo ya I guess I'm just frustrated and confused. I'm not sure how I should be handling the situation and my feelings towards her.  It's kinda maddening.", "summary": "I've developed feeling for a girl I'm nearly best friends with and am not sure what if anything I should do about it."}
{"id": "t3_4b2bpp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] want to move in together. Her parents are problematic", "post": "First, we've been dating about 7 months now. However, we've known each other personally for 7 years.\n\nAnyway, we decided to move in together because,\n\n1) It would be cheaper \n\n2) We work opposite shifts, so living together would give us more time together\n\n3) We've agreed we wouldn't want to get married before we live together for at least a year, and we feel close enough with our relationship dynamic being perfect right now that it's a very real possibility to happen soon.\n\nNow her parents are very strict Christians. I'm atheist and she's pantheist, so we don't hold the same ideals. However they are extremely against living together before marriage and really controlling on this aspect. She doesn't want to tell them before she moves out, but they want to be involved in the apartment search.\n\nThe likely scenario is after we move in together, her whole family stops talking to her for a few years. That's exactly what happened to every other sibling that did the same thing, and she said she would be devastated and wants to wait to say anything for as long as possible. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Long time friend, shorter term girlfriend wants to move in together, but if she does her whole family disowns her for a few years or permanently. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_4d9fq2", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "CA - Wrongful termination, violation of NDA.", "post": "The situation is as follows.\n\nA boss at a widely renowned analytical consulting firm revealed some information to me personally that should not have been shared. I assume the boss, or I, at the time did not know this was strictly confidential. Everything could be an honest mistake... but I believe I was thrown under the bus. I signed an \"at will\" contract, so I believe I may have few options. I would rather have the option to resign, or get laid off, instead of getting terminated or fired.\n\nSeeing as how I received this information without any \"please keep this confidential\" disclaimer, I disseminated this information to my coworkers who are still within the Client circle as the piece of info pertained to our daily operating duties. As long as everything stayed within the Client relationship, I assumed everything would be fine.\n\nNow, someone caught wind of the situation that this info was out. I am about to be terminated, but my boss still gets to keep his job. I assume he threw me under the bus to save his ass.\n\nThe serious inquiry is that my boss, earlier in the week before, revealed said information to a certain number of individuals (aprox 12) who I do not know (but did managed to get wind of - people talk). Some of these individuals are willing to speak on my behalf that this sensitive information was indeed, revealed to them verbally earlier before. To make matters even worse, I was told a reporter (independent, third party, outside of the circle) was also there - just enough to be of eavesdropping distance.\n\nAs such, I should be off the hook correct?\n\nMy question is, why am I being the scapegoat? Is this legal? I mugged someone, but this other guy killed someone! And now I'm the one going to jail?", "summary": "The manager of a bank walked into my house and gave me the code to the vault without my consent. Now I am being implicated for simply possessing this information. Manager keeps his job, I get fired. Just the week before, Manager walked into 12 other peoples houses and gave them the code (which I did not know at the time). (Sarcasm but really, this happened to me in a different way). Will this case pertain to whistle blowing? If I testify against my boss that this information was revealed to me when we both did not know it was confidential? What are my rights? Can I fight this?"}
{"id": "t3_1abbfn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] I do not think i want to be with my [22/f] wife anymore.", "post": "I have been with her for 5+ years now, 2 married, and we do have a son age 4. I always feel bored around her, i love her but i think i am only still here because i don't want to make her fend for herself. I also feel as though our son is the glue in our relationship. I work 6 days a week to give them a home, she does not work. She isn't lazy at all, she cares for our home very well. I am tired of the same thing everyday. We hardly talk and when we do it is repetitive and bland.", "summary": "I am bored with my marriage and life. Is there anything i can do."}
{"id": "t3_1phs57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19F] How to get over him [19M] when I'll see him everyday...", "post": "Next week is our three year anniversary but I think we're about to break up. \nWe both started the same college course in September and he met a girl that he's developed feelings for. When I found out it broke my heart and gave me physical pain and put my depression out of control. \n\nI was the one who begged him to try again. It's just not working, I feel his actions are faked. So I'm texting him right now and told him I know it's not working. I let him know how much he hurt me. He said he's trying but doesn't feel like he used to but will always love me (?) \n\nI'm not at college till Monday. I'll see him there, with the fucking girl he likes ( though he said he won't try anything with her as he knows she's not interested). \n\nIt's taken me a while to decide to not let him treat me like shit anymore. He's thrown away a diamond and gone after a rock.\n\nAnyway. As I'll see him everyday and distance is the best healer, how the hell do I get over him? I'm so terrified I'll still love him in three years time and not be able to function properly. I'm so close to his family (they took me on holiday last year) and stay at his house so often that I may as well be living there.", "summary": "How to get over SO of three years when I see him every day at college"}
{"id": "t3_1rfftc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(F18) doesn't want to be intimate with me(M20) anymore, won't talk to me about it.", "post": "I made an account for this post because it is driving me crazy. First a little background.\n\nBoth of us come from mildly religious families and though we haven't explicitly talked about it, we would both like to wait to have sex until we're married. We've been dating for a little over 8 months and everything else about the relationship is great.\n\nSometimes in the past, we have gotten a little intimate(if we are just laying together in bed etc.) with some sexual activity such as breast play or manual stimulation and she loves it. She really gets into it and we both have our boundaries for what kind of sexual activity we want before we're married, but this is something we both get into. She's even orgasmed a few times just from stimulation through her clothes. Anyway I think its a great time but recently(the past few weeks) she's pulled away from that sort of thing massively. She doesn't want any of that anymore and she won't kiss me much either. Intimacy is important for me and I asked her about it before, to which she responded that she just doesn't want to kiss me all the time and was angry that I brought it up.\n\nShe doesn't want to talk about it and makes me feel bad every time I try to talk about it, saying that I always find something to complain about. This is killing me because I always try to initiate even just kissing and she rejects me every time. I don't know how to tell her this is bothering me without her thinking I'm just complaining about everything, and I don't know if there's anything I could do to help the situation.", "summary": "generic thread about girlfriend not wanting to be intimate anymore, can't talk to her because she gets angry and it's killing my self esteem"}
{"id": "t3_2p61nm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [20 F] have been together one year. I think she is cheating through Tinder.", "post": "So we are both college students at different schools. We haven't seen each other in a few weeks due to exams. Lately she been replying less and less and with more time in between. Sometimes hours before a response and she says she was at dinner with a friend's parents or fell asleep watching tv. \n\nI checked her tinder. Previously it just listed her location and Instagram in the bio. Now she has included location, Instagram, Twitter, snapchat, and \"just looking for a good time\". She knows I have the app as well. She also has been not texting back and I check Tinder and see that she is online. Sometimes as late as 4:30 am while not texting me back. \n\nI cannot confront her in person over this as I am at another school and have finals to attend to. This is so stressful I cannot even focus on studying.  We also have a spring break trip planned with hotel and airfare. My exams will be done in a week but it is tearing me apart and so hard to study. What do I do???", "summary": "Suspect girlfriend of cheating through aggressive tindering but no time to talk to her. Help."}
{"id": "t3_13quk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [M 17] recently asked a girl [F 17] to a dance...", "post": "So I recently asked a girl I liked for awhile (couple of months) to an upcoming dance. We've been friends for around 2 years and we talk from time to time both irl or online, and she was giving off the vibe that she liked me more than just as a friend (or so I thought). Apparently, she was planning on not going to the dance at all because of some other guy who was constantly trying to get her to go to the same dance. This sucked, because I wasn't sure if that would affect her decision to go with me or not when I asked her... But since the deadline for buying the ticket to the dance was getting close, I decided to just take my chance and she said....YES! Without a moments hesitation either! Great! She must definitely be into me, right..? Well, the thing is, she had apparently told a close friend of mine that she wasn't actually into me in a dating way...Which confused me because it's strange to me to think that she would say yes to go to the dance with me just for the sake of it when she clearly didn't want to go to the dance before due to the fact that she wanted to avoid the guy who was creeping her out. So.... what does this even mean? Is it possible that she was lying to my friend to reserve privacy? And if it isn't a lie, then does this mean she just thinks of me as a friend, and I shouldn't expect anything more..? Help me out!", "summary": "Girl who didn't want to go to the dance due to some other dude said yes to me when I asked, but she later told a mutual friend that she doesn't \"like like\" me. Do I still have a chance with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3vbjxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [26M] always talks down to me [22F] calling me names and then saying he's \"just joking\"", "post": "My husband is constantly \"joking around\" insulting me. In the past week he has called me fugly, fatty, gross, lazy, dumb and more. \n\nHe always sees the hurt expression on my face and then goes \"oh lighten up, I'm just joking, quit being a pussy.\"\n\nEvery time I talk to him about him he says he's sorry and he was kidding and I shouldn't take it so seriously. And then he calls me emotional and sensitive and asks if I'm going to start my period soon, because that would explain why I'm so butt hurt about being insulted..\n\nHe hasn't always been like this, he used to call me beautiful and tell me how smart I am and he made me feel my best about myself that I ever have. But now with his insults and my already low self-esteem, I feel like complete garbage about myself 24/7.\n\nI know I'm not bad looking, I'm not fat, I have a 30\" waist; I'm not lazy, I have a full time job and take care of everything in the house and always cook dinner and make him breakfast in the morning, and I workout to look good for him. \n\nPlus he tells me I eat too much at meal times with him, because I should not eat as much him because I'm a woman and he's a man. Even if he barely eats a granola bar, and I eat a bowl of cereal, I'm eating too much. \n\nI just wish I knew how to make him understand how much he has changed and how he makes me feel about myself. I don't think I'm being over sensitive, but who knows at this point. I just want to make him happy.", "summary": "My husband calls me dumb/lazy/fugly/fatty/etc.. and then says I'm too sensitive and he's joking around. How can I make it clear to him that I don't think it's funny."}
{"id": "t3_2bw245", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] would like to get my girlfriend [17 F] of over a year a promise ring. What do you guys think?", "post": "Throwaway because I don't know if my girl will see this.        \n A lot of you guys have told other redditors in the past that promise rings are childish and insignificant, but I would like an honest opinion on this.  My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year and everything has been wonderful. I am positive I want to marry this girl, she is everything I have ever wanted.        \n    Because of that I want to make that promise of forever. We frequently talk about our future. I am currently in a gap year because she is going to be a senior in high school this coming year. I have a steady paying job already so money isn't an issue. Do you guys think this is cheesy? I just want to show this girl how serious I am. I really do want to marry her someday.", "summary": "Want to make the promise of forever to my girlfriend with a promise ring, scared it's too cheesy."}
{"id": "t3_cj5ag", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "\"Friend\" vs \"Lover\" (A.K.A the trials of a potentially friend-zoned soul)", "post": "Hello, Reddit. I'm 20, male. I really like a girl. 'nuff said.\n\nNow, I feel like I'm in the friend-zone with this girl, even though she knows I like her. I have the feeling she likes me as well, because she'll say that she can't wait to see me, and one time she mentioned that friends had grabbed her phone and were asking about me. \n\nWe had a short fling a while back, but ended it upon her request because of some stuff she was going through. We've hung out since then and have pretty much just been friends. But I'm ready to show her once more that I'm interested before it's too late and the window of opportunity will forever be sealed. I need to break out of this friend zone and start showing myself to her in a new light.\n\nWhat I request from you relationship aficionados is anything I can do to increase the chances of her seeing me as more than just a friend again. Give me some examples of what you would do if you were trying to escape the friend-zone to give e a good start. I also need to know what kind of flirty things I should start doing to get her to look at me as a potential lover (playful nudges are something I probably should do, for example. But I can get a little shy and not know what to do in a situation when we're alone).\n\nI won't be able to see her a couple of weeks, but when she returns I'm planning on being a more romantic, playful person. Right now I've been cleaning myself up hygienically (shaved the hair that grows on the back of my neck for one thing), and I'm going to go out and buying some new threads (not just because of her; I'm in need of some new clothes as it is). I also plan on keeping communication as distant as I can without coming off as an ass who doesn't want to talk to her at all while she's away. Keepin' a safe distance, so to speak.", "summary": "Trying to break out of the friend-zone for the second time (If I really am in the friendzone, that is). Feel free to tell me what YOU would/would not do if you were trying to KEEP yourself out of the friendzone, and what you would consider to be friend-zone type signs versus flirty signs. What can I do to increase my chances of her seeing me as more than a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3ttpyz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally committing credit card fraud and ruining a birthday surprise", "post": "It's my wife's birthday in 2 weeks so I decided to buy her something really nice. Yesterday while she was out on an errand I snuck out and bought a very expensive Cartier item, making it back home before she got back.\n\nThis morning she wakes me up and shows me her phone with a worried look on her face. On it there's a message from her bank warning her that a very large purchase was made on her credit card. I jump out of bed, yelling \"what the fuck!\" and grab my wallet, finding inside my wife's, identical to my own, credit card rather than my card.\n\nThe night before we went to dinner and must have switched our cards after paying. Kinda shocked that Cartier didn't bother to check the name on the card as we have completely different names.", "summary": "Accidentally bought wife a $1400 gift with her own credit card. Didn't notice till the day after, effectively stole her identity and ruined the birthday surprise."}
{"id": "t3_3yfr2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice for My Depressingly Adventurous Dating Situation (M,21 and F,22)", "post": "Okay Redditors,\n\nThere she was, the most beautiful (I mean, she was dangerously attractive) girl I'd laid eyes on. I took a class with her but never imagined she'd be interested so I never said much to her. She messages me the last week of class, out of nowhere, to tell me how attracted she is to me and how intelligent she thinks I am. I'm floored because, frankly, this girl is way out of my league. \n\nSo I've seen her a few times in the past 2-3 weeks since this happened. She's really cool, but we have huge differences. I'm pretty devoutly religious and she really has no clue what she believes right now. She's a bit wilder than I am too, in terms of partying and alcohol and such. I'm pretty open-minded, so it's been fun and challenging (enjoyably so) to be with someone so different than me. \n\nThe more I'm getting to know her, though, I'm growing doubtful of what steps to take. She's depressed, and says she feels no purpose (religious or otherwise) in life. I've been there before and I'm trying to show her love and support through this, but she's pushing me away. We had a date planned later this week that she thinks we should call off. She says she's attracted to me but often tries to convince me that she's no good for me, and that she's undeserving of my love. \n\nWhat should I do? Her happiness and wellbeing is most important to me, and I'm not sure how to extricate that from romantic implications. Work your magic, Reddit.", "summary": "Gorgeous girl (22) I've been seeing has depression and other issues, and I (M, 21) am not sure how to help."}
{"id": "t3_2fhe0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [23 F] of 2 years, broke up 1 month ago, got blank txt from her last night", "post": "Our breakup wasn't the most clean of them. I was the one that broke up with her but we both knew it was coming. A few days after the breakup, I changed my mind and tried to get her back but every attempt was met by indifferent hostility. We have now been no contact for 9 days but i got a blank txt from her last night and i'm not sure what to make of it. Is it her reaching out to me? Was she originally going to type a txt but then deleted it and accidently sent nothing? I'm not going to reply but i'm scared that i'll be missing my chance if i don't.", "summary": "No contact for 9 days, ex sent blank txt last night, not sure what to make of it."}
{"id": "t3_18lani", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I blocked his number today. [F22] [M21]", "post": "We dated for 3ish years. i broke his heart, i asked for him back, he took me back and long story short has been stringing me along for the past year. He knows he can't or isn't trying to forgive me. \nI'm hopelessly more into him than he is me. we use to be great together. we were best friends, had amazing communication, we were a team, partners, we could talk for hours, make each other laugh, we always put each other first...and now it's all shit.\nyet, we keep meeting up and it ends the same everytime. he comes for sex and intimacy, we have a great time together, then i ask what he's really doing here with me since he knows i still love him and i know that he can get plenty of other girls. he wants to be a bachelor, he likes his single lifestyle. I know positively that he's not flirting, hooking up with, or trying to date other women. He tells me I'm the love of his life and wants to grow old with me, and i'm the best friend that he's ever had...yet he doesn't want me in his life now. He just wants to be able to meet up with me once every month or so. That's complete shit, right?\n\nI've asked him a million times not to contact me. We'll start no contact, it will last two-three weeks. And then like clockwork, he'll text or call me. He always is the one to break no contact. Although, I know i break it by answering and responding...and then within a day he's in my bed. I'm pathetic. And even though, I've repeatedly asked him not to break NC, he says he can't do that. that he is going to continue to contact me every month or so.\n\nSo i blocked his number today.", "summary": "ex has been stringing me along and refusing to not contact me. i'm pathetic for answering"}
{"id": "t3_nldw3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "There are people that are being verbally abusive and also making threats to my family and I how do I go about this?", "post": "This began when my mom moved in with us this summer I never knew the women to be honest. She is a recovering heroin addict, current alcoholic, and pill abuser who is a notorious liar. I caught her stealing from my grandma and had her removed from the premises not to long ago but she made friends with some pretty bad people who were related to my sisters fiance and spread horrible things about my family. One of them outright threatened my sister and her car and also my car and my dog. They also made a call to the police about my grandma which I took care of already. There are a few more things that they have done towards my sister that have given her a lot of emotional stress. I don't want to see anything happen to anyone or anything but I do want this to end and will take any steps necessary.\n\n<", "summary": "My mom is a piece of shit she made up lies to the wrong people who are threatening my family>"}
{"id": "t3_3qwql5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[GA] Eviction notice listed on ex-girlfriend's record despite this not being the case.", "post": "I live in Nevada, so I apologize in advance that I don't know what Georgia's laws are like in regards to renters' rights.\n\nMy ex-girlfriend (*who currently lives with me*) just applied to rent a condominium, but she got a call back this afternoon from the property management company that she has an eviction notice on her record which now puts the whole moving situation into jeopardy. \n\nWhen my girlfriend was living in Atlanta, she put in her 60-day notice at the apartment she was leasing on August 1st, 2014, as her lease was set to expire on October 12th, 2014. As we've been reaching out to see what's going on, we've discovered:\n\n1. The apartment complex in question never received my ex's notice to not extend the lease agreement. They have it on record that she agreed to renew her lease which is not the case considering she left the country to do fieldwork in Mexico. \n1. The apartment complex wants her to pay $1700 for a mixture of items such as for not paying rent, movings furniture out of the apartment (*which is false*), cleaning fees, etc. \n\nAfter trying to argue her case, the apartment complex is unwilling to help my ex out, we're at a loss to what her next steps would look like. How does she fight this despite being thousands of miles away?", "summary": "Apartment complex in Georgia \"lost\" my ex-girlfriend's notice of not renewing her lease agreement; put an eviction notice on her record. Loss at what next steps are."}
{"id": "t3_1xtbyu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I did the right thing, right?", "post": "Ok, so I went on quite a few dates with this guy who was older than me. I really liked him, and for awhile our age difference seemed non-existent. He was great company, and we got along well. My attraction to him was always waning, so it was more enjoying company than really wanting to be with him. I still fought through that and enjoyed my time.\n\nHe planned to do Valentine's Day with me, and I obliged. As the weeks have passed, our time together has been more infrequent due to me realizing we want different things. Instead of ending things, I kept giving it more chances...until Sunday, when I realized it was inevitably extremely plutonic on my end.\n\nLast night I told him I wanted to cancel our plans for Valentine's day, as I felt it wasn't right. We fizzled out due to an incident where he viewed me as my age, and I viewed him as his about a week and a half ago...but he still liked me, and I just kind of got over it and wanted to move on. I made excuses to not see him, instead of confronting the issue at hand.\n\nAfter feeling a lot of anxiety about Friday, I finally told him. I told him that my feelings for him were not romantic, and that I didn't want to be unfair. That we were too far apart in age, and wanted different things for ourselves. That I wasn't  ready to be exclusive with someone so quickly.\n\nHe took it well enough (although he was sad), but I still feel bad. This is the first time I have stood up for myself and actually gone with what my heart says. So frequently, I allow myself to do things I don't want to do to please another. \n\nAnyway", "summary": "made an adult decision."}
{"id": "t3_1g0kkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] think that my relationship with my girlfriend [19/F] of a month is too physical and not emotional enough.", "post": "Although we've only been officially dating for a month, we've had a thing for each other for awhile.  We've flirted quite a bit, I kissed her after a dance, found out she had a big crush on me (I had thought she was cute for awhile) and asked her out.  She said yes.\n\nIt started off pretty fast, we were making out with each other almost every day and I was feeling her body.  I was satisfied.\n\nBut a lot of times when I try talking to her (about anything) she makes it awkward.  She'll just either be quiet, won't say much, whatever.  Sometimes she's fun to talk to, but other times, she makes it difficult.  I asked her friends about this, they said \"That's ______ for you, we love her but she can be awkward.\"  \n\nIt's to the point where I can't talk to her on the phone or hardly in person, because there's these long silences.  \n\nI love her, but I want her to be more outgoing.  What can I do?", "summary": "We kiss, don't talk much."}
{"id": "t3_4d536u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my crush [20 M], did I fuck things up?", "post": "So this guy who I've liked for some time asked me to hang out last week - we went out to dinner, hung out for awhile later, he seemed like he really wanted to continue talking (as did I) so we went back to my room as well and talked further. He had also asked me to get coffee the week before that, and that was really fun too. However, nothing happened physically - we didn't even hug. I may have given off some standoffish vibes. He kept saying that we should meet up, go see a movie together, hang out over the summer, that I should visit him in his dorm, etc. He also was complimenting me a lot. Overall it seemed like a date, and that he was interested. Looking back, I may not have seemed super interested since I didn't try to hug him, didn't compliment him a ton, etc. The reality is, though, that I really like him, but am unfortunately not very good at showing it. \n\nAnyway, we hung out again yesterday (I asked him to get dinner), and things seemed kind of different. We had a nice conversation as always, lots of laughter, but it just seemed like he was being more platonic. I was going to invite him to do something with me afterwards, but he mentioned he had to go study so I didn't. Every time we've hung out previously he's ended by saying we should hang out again, but he didn't this time. I guess I also walked away kind of quickly from him at the end. Sigh, I keep doing that. Probably the underlying problem here is that I'm just pretty shy. \n\nHas he lost interest? Should I try to pursue him, or is it too late? I'm considering just straight up telling him that I like him, but I don't know if the timing is now wrong.", "summary": "Not sure if I've fucked things up with the guy I like by being really bad at showing signs of interest, and what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_r7xr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So confused..", "post": "I guess I just would like to talk about how I feel and see if this is normal.  \n\nQuick back story, I am 24/m and GF is 22, we have been dating for 2 years 7 months, this is my third long term GF and I am her first.  This is my longest relationship and I always do the breaking up.  Things just start irritating me more, I start thinking about how I could be happier and I notice that I start to project what my PERFECT girl qualities would be on other women, just women I see on the street or at work and imagine how I would be so much happier with that person, and how I am so unhappy with my current GF which lead me to the eventual break up.  I never look back either.\n\nIt is happening now with my current GF.  She is amazing and like no other girl I dated, she is so smart (3.89 GPA and a Bio major from a good school and will be in med school next year), driven, funny, and BEAUTIFUL!   \n\nBut lately I have started to get those feelings and we have been fighting more.  She is a very, idk how to put it, cold hearted? Not very emotional towards me, constantly takes things out on me during school (we barely talk during finals week for her because she is so stressed) and she has been saying things that make me think she really isn't that nice of a person inside.  I am in grad school with a BA in sociology, and many times before she has said rude/condescending remarks about my schooling and career goals (law enforcement after grad school).  She gets this behavior from her parents, mainly her mother, just very fake and mean spirited people, but extremely nice on the outside.  \n\nI feel guilty thinking like this because I do love her and don't want to leave her, but then another part of me does and I am so torn apart.", "summary": "Getting feelings like I want to move on, but i also want to stay together... curious on why i always get like this in relationships."}
{"id": "t3_4bgwnc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29m] married for six years to emotionally abusive wife [25f]. Should I feel guilty for wanting to leave?", "post": "My wife and I have talked before about splitting up, only to have her convince me that we should try to work things out (on our own or with a therapist). She and I have both recently realized that she has been emotionally abusive for years (almost the entirety of our marriage). She says she wants to work on it and change, but part of me feels so beaten down and exhausted dealing with her abuse that I'm not sure I want to put in the effort to stay together. \n\nWhen we got married, I planned on sticking together forever, but now I find myself thinking that I would be happier on my own. I don't want to be selfish, but I'm also not sure that I have the stamina to work through my wife's emotionally abusive behavior. Is it really worth working through all this stuff, or are we better off moving on?", "summary": "Should I feel guilty for wanting to get out of an emotionally abusive situation rather than work through it with my wife?"}
{"id": "t3_300n7l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/M] hooked up with a girl [25/F] on a cruise. We've really connected but I feel it fizzling out over text. Should I end it?", "post": "So, I went on a cruise over spring break and ended up hooking up with this girl I met. Except neither one of us felt that it was just a one night stand sorta deal. We talked and hung out all night and didn't even go all the way (just ended up being hand stuff since we were on the deck of the cruise ship and there were a bunch of people still up there at like 4AM...probably doing the same haha). This all happened about a week and a half ago.\n\nSince then, we've both been texting back and forth. It started off really well but I feel that it's sorta fizzling out. The problem is that making small talk just over text can get pretty boring. And with the long distance thing (she's over 10 hours away), it's not like we can visit each other. For that reason, I'm considering just texting her and saying this:\n\nSo, I want to be straight up with you. I had a really great time with you on the cruise! I love that it wasn't just a hookup and that we've continued to talk. I think we actually clicked and had great chemistry together but I can't help but think that this texting thing is sorta fizzling out. I don't want it to be something where we just stop talking because small talk gets boring and then it's like \"Well, that's over...\". So, I think it may be best if we text when we're going to be in the same area again. What do you think?\n\nDo you think this is a good idea? We both like each other but I don't see the point in texting small talk stuff if it's just going to fizzle out. If you have any questions to understand the situation better, feel free to ask and I'll answer.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl on a cruise a week ago but we both connected and have been texting since. I think the texting is fizzling out and think it would be best to end it before it becomes a chore for both of us. Is this a good idea? Any suggestions are welcome."}
{"id": "t3_zttsq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Roommate assaulted other roommate, then he moved out, stopped paying rent leaving us to cover his share - How do we get paid back in small claims court?", "post": "Ok here's the deal.\nI used to live in a 4BR house with 3 other guys.\nShortly after rent was due in April, we found out the the roommate in question, we'll call him Arnie, didn't pay his share of the rent.\n\nIt's important to know that Arnie and one of my other roommates, Tom, don't get along at all. So one night, Arnie has his dad over. I figured they were just hanging out and drinking together but later they confront Tom about something. After Tom asked them to leave, the altercation gets physical. Tom calls the police and Arnie and his father end up going to jail. Arnie for battery, his father for battery and strangulation.\n\nObviously, Arnie couldn't continue living with us. On the cops recommendation, we ask Arnie to move out with the expectation that'd he'd finish paying out his share of the lease. Two weeks into April, he finally moves out, but neglected to pay April rent. He also informs us that he will no longer be paying rent leaving us to cover his share for April, May, June, and July until the end of the lease.\n\nSo now were going to small claims court to get paid back for the rent, as well as some money for utilities, and I was just hoping somebody could offer some tips. \n\nOur lease dosen't really discuss this type of situation. It does state we are all jointly responsible for ensuring rent gets paid but most of the language there just seems to protect the landlords from getting screwed, not us.\n\nI've never been to court before so I have no idea how this works or what to say. Do we have a chance to get our money back? I definitely think he should have to pay us back at least for April plus utilities, but I'm not sure about the rest. It doesn't seem fair that he could just assault one of us and just move out without paying anything the rest of the lease does it?\nthanks any help! oh and were in Indiana", "summary": "Roommate assaults another roommate, moves out, stops paying rent leaving us to cover his share. Can we get our money back in small claims court?"}
{"id": "t3_oac7e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She has a boyfriend but i think it went pretty good. what do you think?", "post": "worked with this girl for a while and we got along great but i was in a relationship so i never thought anything of it. flash forward i still work there but she got moved to another store 15 min away and I'm in college.  She comes in to the store for irrelevant reasons and sees me for the first time in about half a year she gives me a hug and said she looks for me when she comes in.\n\ni text her a couple times and when i ask if she has a moment to talk she asks if it is urgent or if id like to grab coffee tomorrow so i opt for coffee. after spending about an hour and a half chatting it comes up that she has a boyfriend so i think fuck it im having fun guess well just chill. before she leaves she asks if there was anything i needed to talk about in particular and i say i was planning on asking if she was seeing anyone and why but its cool that she has a boyfriend. she mentions shes only with  him because she was lonely and worked too much.\n\nso i leave with \"your a cool girl but i dont really chase after girls in relationships. so if you change your mind its your move\"\n\nshe gives me a cute smile and says \"ill keep that in mind\"\n\nbeen texting back and forth for the entire night after coffee and most of today, so what do you think is she DTF or trying to just be friends?\n\n(by DTF i mean will she leave her boyfriend and try dating me)", "summary": "asked a girl out, said shes seeing someone, still kind of seems interested."}
{"id": "t3_2i1d5l", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Text] Losing positivity/motivation. Any success-stories out there?!", "post": "I can't find any enjoyment in the detours of life any more. I feel like I always have to grind it out to reach my goals. \n\nThere's a part of me that also wants to work so hard for something that I can be able to shed a tear when I finally reach my goal, but I have no clear goal other than getting my degree, getting a job and moving together with my girlfriend. They all seem extrinsic and not healthy motivators.\n\nI may have no real right to complain, but I'm having a hard time now.I'm employed at 60% workload (e.g. around 27 hours a week), doing full-time computer engineering studies, and managing a small group of students to look for a practical thesis at a company for next spring, and I'm trying to stay in shape because neither my job or studies involve very much moving around. I'm also in a long-distance relationship, where my girlfriend is at the other side of the planet. This is all taking a toll on me, but I don't want to fail in any of these endeavors.\n\nI feel like I have no time for fun, or projects of my own anymore, has anyone experienced the same and in retrospect seen good things come from it?", "summary": "Does anyone have any success-stories from similar situations? Any tips on staying positive?"}
{"id": "t3_48hcbw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost killing a 5 year old", "post": "Happened I think about 6 months ago~\n\nAnyway I baby sit for some people in my area and there's one family who have one girl, around 5 years old, who I've baby sat for before. Normal right? Anyway this girl normally never wakes up and is in bed before I get there 9/10 times. I'm watching TV and she comes down stairs asking for a drink and I'm thinking ok that's fine, she asks for a glass of milk which I thought pretty standard for a 5 year old. I give her the milk and immediately something is wrong she starts chocking and swelling up bright red. I go into panic mode since it seems she's having an allergic reaction. I call 999 and the parents and guess what, it was an allergic reaction. **The parents neglected to tell me she was allergic to some dairy products.** I swear that incident took 10 years of my life. Anyway all's good now and I still babysit the kid occasional.", "summary": "Baby sitting, fed child milk - kid an allergic reaction because the parents didn't bother to me she was allergic."}
{"id": "t3_27uuul", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20/m) Would Facebook Messaging this Girl I had a crush on but never talked to in Highschool be weird?", "post": "Well basically I want to start talking to this girl (lets call her jenny) I liked in Highschool but I never really talked to her at all. \nThe only significant encounter was junior year before I started liking her. During this encounter, jenny and her friend (who had a crush on me) walked up to me while i was at my locker and her friend said \"Hey jenny isn't he cute? he's so tall and muscular\" and jenny said \"yeah\". They stood there trying to start a conversatino, but me being an awkward Highschooler just laughed it off and responded with one word answers. Because of jenny's little comment I have an inkling of hope that she might be interested. To be honest though, I doubt she even remembers this encounter!\n\nWell now it is 3 years later and I find her really attractive, I wonder if it would be weird if i just randomly Facebook messaged her 3 years after Highschool and us never having had a full conversation before. So do you guys think it would be weird to start messaging her?\n\nP.S : I'm also really nervous of facebook messaging her because she has become a model!", "summary": "I want to start talking to a girl i barely knew from highschool that once commented that i was cute."}
{"id": "t3_543skd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend (30) of 2 years just admitted to me he doesn't want kids.", "post": "I'm just... a total mess right now.  I KNOW this is a deal breaker. He's always said he wanted kids with me since the beginning of our relationship. But now, he says he's been thinking for a while about this, and has decided he doesn't. I love this guy to death, but this isn't something we can compromise on. I know that.  It's always been my dream to have them. Just 2 or 3. I'm writing this between sobs. We are... soulmates in every other way.  This is the end. I have to accept that.  We're gonna have to break up right? There's no two ways about this.  I just can't believe this is happening. We planned our lives together.  It's come crashing down, and I am broken hearted. I love him so much. I never thought I'd be in this sub for personal reasons. I wish him so much happiness, and I guess I can't be the one to give him that. I don't even know what I'm asking for here. I just can't believe it. Any advice? I'm dreading the talk. So much.", "summary": "Boyfriend has decided he doesn't want kids. My head is reeling. I know we have to break up. Advice?*"}
{"id": "t3_3634mx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by submitting my final paper", "post": "Technically happened last night at approximately 11:30 PM. Whatever.\n\nI spent the last few weeks typing up a 10 page paper for my General Psychology class. The paper was due at 11:59 PM on Thursday May 14th. I spent all of Thursday at the school's library perfecting said paper (better known as writing the damn thing), and finally completed around 10PM just as the library closed. I saved my plight on my flashdrive and headed back to my apartment to upload said paper. \n\nI figured hey, I have an hour or so to send the paper by email. I'll make dinner first. Here is where the fuck up begins. Made some greasy chicken and ate that shit (hadn't eaten all day -> been at the library). Was probably around 11:25 when I finished and decided to upload the essay. \n\nI generally store my laptop underneath my bed, as to avoid stepping on it. So I grabbed the laptop from underneath the bed, and fumbled the computer with my greasy hands. Dropped it on the edge of the bed and it proceeded to cascade down to the carpeted floor, like a boulder going on vacation in the Himalayas. Crunch. My computer screen was totally shattered and in shambles, causing me to not be able to email my paper by the 11:59 deadline. Fuck.", "summary": "Greasy hands, slick computers, and late essays."}
{"id": "t3_2ytker", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (F/25) talk to my dad (M/66) about bankruptcy?", "post": "About 15 years ago my parents bought a business together. Due to a combination of factors (recession, competition moving in) the business is no longer profitable. They opened a side business about two years ago that is profitable but a competitor just announced they are opening next year.\n\nBoth my parents work 60+ hour a week, are in their 60s and are barely drawing salaries from the company. This is not sustainable. My biggest fear (and it is selfish) is one of them works themselves into a heart attack, etc and I have to return home and figure out what to do with a failing business. I am an only child so when (and its not if, its when) something happens it will be entirely on me to figure out what to do. Also in that scenario there would be no luxury of time - without both of them working 60+ hours a week the place would come to a halt almost immediately. I'm feeling pretty paralyzed and stressed by this scenario. \n\nI would like to pro-actively talk with my dad this weekend about what to do. My mom has asked me to do this as she does not think she can keep going much longer. I think the first step is having them explore their options - talk to their lawyer and accountant about what it would really mean for them if they declared Bankruptcy (could they keep the house, etc). I realize this is going to be very painful and tough but at least having that information is the first step in figuring out a solution. \n\nLets say they lose their retirement accounts in bankruptcy. It would be awful, but there is no end of sight of them retiring with their current jobs. At least if they were free from it they could get true 9-5 jobs with less stress and continue working with an actual income. \n\nI'm wondering if anyone on here has suggestions about how to structure this conversation? I'm worried my dad will view me bringing this up as calling him a failure, etc. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "My parents run a failing business that is slowly killing them. I want to talk to my dad this weekend about options, but I'm not sure how to structure the conversation."}
{"id": "t3_4cq9yk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My college SO and I [20M & 20F] are getting more distant, and it's hurting me. I don't think she knows. Looking for advice, because I'm in pain and angered.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are distant, but *we live on the same campus*, and it's killing me. \n\nI'm going to convey the situation in a series of small rants that have built up (that I haven't told her about yet (but I will)). Here they go:\n\n* Some days I feel loved, and other days I feel like I'm a complete thorn in her side. Like I have to pay her to show affection. \n\n* She says that she's been really stressed about school lately, and I understand that, because I am also stressed and very busy, but we've only hung out 4 times since the beginning of the semester. And I know that if she would even remotely seem interested, that I would make time for her. At this point, I've given up asking her to hang out or do anything. \n\n* We haven't had sex in ages, and when I told her I wanted to try to get more physical again, she told me she probably wasn't going to feel like having sex any time soon. What..? \n\n* At the same time, she'll tweet about how hot she thinks a certain celebrity is, etc. I know that sounds petty, and if the circumstances were different, I would agree. But reading stuff like that from a girl that can't seem to do anything with me is both hurtful and infuriating. \n\n--\n\nI understand that I need to talk to her, and that this seems partly like a communication issue; I am going to talk to her. I'm not looking for someone to tell me to work on communication. I am trying to get an idea of what you guys and gals think is going on, and what you would do, and how you would react in my position.", "summary": "my girlfriend is distant, but we live on the same campus. My feelings are getting more and more hurt, and I know I need to talk to her. Read full post if you're still confused. "}
{"id": "t3_f8v8q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Really Need Help With AutoCAD/3dsMax ;(", "post": "I've gotten so frustrated with this situation I was almost ready to make a rage comic about it.\nSo I just drew the plan of my flat in ACAD, which was like 5 min, done only in lines and wanted to use it in max, where it would be remodelled and rendered shiny etc. \nBut then I stumbled upon the problem of filling my lines with surfaces. If I hit Surface in the conversion menu, I get some quirky shit and I couldn't completely divide the model, as max would view it as a whole.\n\nPlease, for the love of reddit, help me. Almost reduced to tears here.", "summary": "must fill ton of splines from ACAD in 3dsmax. halp"}
{"id": "t3_mv1su", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Help please... I cannot afford my vet bill for my cat [Canada]", "post": "Dear pettit, I am not asking for donations..\n\nMy cat Clyde is not healthy at the moment.. he's having difficulties pooping because he swallowed a rubber band.. it's been 3 days of him being sick.\n\nI've taken him to a vet for an initial checkup. The following day he has not gotten any better and I am going to have to take him in for x-rays.\n\nThe problem is, I don't have the financial means to pay for any of this right now. I recently graduated and am living on my own. I haven't been able to find a job yet and I don't know how I can pay for his x-rays, let alone surgery if he needs it :( \n\nI'm hoping some pettitors can help out by pointing me in the direction of potential resources. I already have a ton of student debt but I don't care, I'll take on more debt to help my cat.", "summary": "I can't pay for kitty x-rays, where do I go for help?"}
{"id": "t3_3o9bdc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to pole dance.", "post": "So this happened about half past midnight so technically today. Myself and a bunch of people were at a club in our city and were getting progressively more drunk. There's a stripper pole on one of the floors of the club (there's 3 floors). One of our group was dancing on the pole, not hoisting himself up but just walking around it. I attempted to one-up him by grabbing the pole, leaning back and sticking my legs in the air. This of course causing my Crown Jewels to smack straight into the pole. Luckily only my friends saw, but fuck did it hurt.", "summary": "tried to be sexy on a stripper pole ended up slamming my balls into the pole."}
{"id": "t3_1gl5nx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] find myself feeling depressed being with my girlfriend [23F] of two years and need some insight.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about two years now, but its been incredibly rocky. We're famous among our friends for being constantly on and off and filled with drama. It's passionate, that's for sure, but it can be exhausting. She's also dumped me flat on my ass, apparently because she's insecure about things, about 6 times. THIS caused us to be an on and off couple; her indecision.\n\nEarlier this year, I decided that I finally had enough with the inconsistency and started pursuing another girl; a super cute, all around great girl who I have a lot in common with. \n\nI eventually had to call things off with this girl though and get back together with my current girlfriend because she took a large amount of aspirin and was sent to the hospital citing depression. It was mainly cause of guilt and because she convinced me how much we belonged together despite all the craziness. So we've been back together for about 6 months now but... \n\nLately I've been so unhappy being with her. Like I'll have flashes of happiness and then long periods of crippling sadness. The girl who I pursued earlier this year and I are still very good friends and I want to be with her more than I do my current girlfriend. I tell my girlfriend now that I love her, but really I don't. I've been with my girlfriend for six months now so if I dump her I feel like I've been leading her on or something. But I just don't want to be with her anymore, I want to be free. Obviously our relationship isn't healthy, at least for me. I feel like I was roped into this by my optimism and cheated by it and sad. I kept thinking that things would be different since usually I'm the one who loves her more... To be fair she isn't a bad person, I still care for her so much, but I'm just not happy anymore. We used to be so similar when we first dated, but two years later we've both changed a lot, as young people do.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have had a famously rocky past, but in her eyes everything's been going on incredibly. However, I don't want to be with her anymore for a multitude of reasons. But I can't really end things because she has suicidal tendencies. What should I do about that? Is it just me? I want to get out but I don't want her to do something drastic. "}
{"id": "t3_22f4w0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] with an ex lover [23 F] on and off casuals. It's over but just a question.", "post": "I was with a girl about 2 years ago. We were casual sex buddies for the best part of about 4 months. Then one day she says she can't do it because she's not over her ex. She gets back together with him and blocks all contact with me at the request of her ex. \n\nHalf way through last year (almost a year later) she adds me again on facebook, we start talking and eventually start hooking up again. As first it was just sex, we were not boyfriend and girlfriend despite pretty much doing most things a girlfriend and boyfriend do. About 6 months in she stops talking to me. At one point she put herself out there and I said I didn't want a relationship, I guess that sparker her not wanting to talk to me anymore. She ignores my messages so I get pissed, delete her number and her facebook.\n\nI decide to add her again because I still want to be friends. We start talking again and I decide to take a shot and see if she wants a relationship. She said she can't see herself being more than just friends. She also says she felt like an idiot for putting herself out there for me and I shot her down and we kept sleeping together. \n\nI tell her I at least want to be friends with her because I enjoy her company and the conversations we have. She says she's more than happy to oblige. Honestly I wanted to be friends in hope of sparking that interest again. But I'm not sure she buys me wanting to just be friends. But she was sincere when she said she wants to continue being friends. I guess my question is what could come of this? Could she potentially change her mind? Should I be friend with her or just drop it?", "summary": "Started having sex with a girl, no relationship. She ends it, starts it back up and ends it because she was getting feels, I wasn't. I take a chance and tell her I want a relationship, she just wants to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_y533m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (M17) agreed to go on a date (F17) but now I am unsure.", "post": "So, I agreed to go on a date with a girl I've known for about a month because she asked me just to at least try things out and that's sort of my ethos in life, just try things to see if they work. Problem is, there really is a massive difference between us, for example she is very into drugs and generally lives life on the edge whereas I am against them and fairly boring. As far as I can see the only similarity between us is our music taste. I don't find her personality very attractive, or her physically very attractive. I'm considering cancelling it. What's the right thing to do? Cancel now so she doesn't get her hopes up, or go ahead with it whilst trying to keep an open mind by essentially knowing the outcome and then having to tell her it's a definite no? The last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings D=", "summary": "I'm going on a date with a girl and I'm 100% sure it's not going to go anywhere, do I cancel or go anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_484f35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "stop me [21F] from texing my ex [21 M]", "post": "He ended things, and now i'm listening to a band we both got into together and i'm thinking \"man, I kinda wanna text him to see how he's doing\" things didn't end bad at all, it was just one of those \"well this isn't working out\" kinda things we both agreed on (because he was transferring to a school 150 miles away) but we both could kinda could feel it ending sooner or later it was just the case of \"who will do it first\" he was a really cool dude and we had great memories so maybe im just missing those.  I wont lie here, I believe I was more invested in it than he was.", "summary": "just wanna text my ex, talk me out of it or something."}
{"id": "t3_1i3261", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] Need to know what you would do about this", "post": "Hello /r/relationship_advice, this is a throwaway cause friends know my account but I am in need of some help.\n\nSo my gf [f/21] and I have been dating for 5 years and are generally ok with not looking through each others phones because we trust each other. She has been known to go through mine, but not to the extent of, \"Who is this, what are you talking about, I must know everything!\" but just a grab it and scroll through.\n\nFast forward to yesterday, I run upstairs to use the bathroom and see her iPad on her bed so I grab it to play some games. She has the iPad set to where she can receive messages on it from her phone. I'm not sure even why, but curiosity got the better of me and I started browsing through them. I knew most of the numbers....except 1. So again, I click to see the conversation, and lo and behold its some conversation that I'm sure she would like for me to have not seen.\n\n There are messages from this guy in Pittburgh (we live in TX) saying he has \"a hard on\" and \"I want to see you naked\" and things like, \"what would you do to me if I was there.\" I thought the guy was just being creepy until I saw her responses where she said, \"I've told you what I would.\" and other things. Needless to say I was hurt beyond belief. I want to confront her about it and get the truth and break up, but I am one of those people who is too nice and can't seem to bring myself to do it.\n\nI don't want to do something brash or over the top because I really do care for her, but I want her to know I know. So my question to y'all is, how would you go about confronting her?", "summary": "Found dirty messages on gf's iPad, she seems to have had a relation behind my back, what do I do."}
{"id": "t3_4e1gnh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 3 months, My best friend/mentor/big brother/basketball mentor [26 M] who I've done everything with for last 6 years doesn't think she can be around and we could still be friends. At a crossroad in life", "post": "So I've dedicated my life to the pursuit of being great at basketball. And my best friend has been there with me the entire time, like literally been there. \n\nAll my games, tournaments, he's the only person I practice with outside of my prep school team. Now I am going to college next year and the goal is to climb my way through the ranks and earn a division 1 scholarship to play basketball somewhere. I know it's possible if my best friend and I keep working at it\n\nWe've dedicated our lives to this, no friends, no girlfriends, nothing. Just this. Now if I introduce this new person, the newly acquainted girlfriend he thoroughly believes we can't accomplish anything and he doesn't want to be around to watch us fail at our dream.\n\nSo he wants me to dump her and get back to what we've been doing. And I'm afraid that I'll regret that later on in life because I know I'm naive but she seems pretty great. \n\nI'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, I feel like I shouldn't have to lose my best friend/trainer over a relationship but that's what he has decided, because the dream and anything else cannot coexist according to him \n\nAnd if I dump Claire (fake name) she would absolutely be devastated and I would have to see her for the next couple of months everyday in school. \n\nI feel like I can't get out of this situation without a heavy dose of regret regardless, and my best friend blames me for getting us into this situation, since I never should have talked to her in the first place. That's the best way to ensure no distractions, don't involve anything else in your life\n\nFor a long time I've adored Andrew Neiman in the movie Whiplash, and I was proud that I was a living embodiment of him. I've rejected every girl that was ever interested in me literally my whole life until now, so he believes I'm losing my values and what has gotten me so far.", "summary": "my best friend/big brother/trainer/mentor doesn't think I can achieve my maximum potential in basketball if I'm in a relationship and wants me to end my current relationship immediately. I don't want him out of my life, but he threatens to leave if I do decide to keep my girlfriend, and he's serious about that, so I feel pretty stuck with no clear answer to the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1v3cod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Problems with phone usage between boyfriend [21/M] of a year and me [21/F].", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and we see each other about once a week with lots of texting in between. \n\nTexting is my least preferred method of conversation, but its the fastest and most consistent method we have of communication. I really like talking on the phone, but he can't stand it and tries to avoid making any phone calls he can. He is a great guy who answers my calls the few times I've made them.\n\nAbout a month ago, I brought all this up with him and asked if it were possible to have a ten minute phone call with him every now and then to replace some texting we do. He wasn't really on board but decided to try it. We had one extremely tense five minute conversation where he admitted it was only to please me, and then hung up. I felt like crap and haven't asked him for another phone call again. He hasn't called since, but continued like it never happened\n\nI want to keep this relationship, but some days texts aren't giving me the connection I need with him. Asking him to call me just makes me feel like the most horrible girlfriend ever and ends with a tense, uncomfortable conversation anyway. Is there any middle ground or should I just cope with the texts?", "summary": "I want to have phone conversations with boyfriend. He hates it. Whenever I bring it up, I feel like crap. Should I shut up and stick to texting?"}
{"id": "t3_1cwvqd", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[17M] Broke up with [16F] of 7 months. It sucks.", "post": "I'm sure this won't get as many attention or overlook because of our ages but hey I have a story too no matter how insignificant.\n\nI met her near the beginning of the school year and everything was pretty good. Starting November of last year though things were pretty rocky and we broke up a few times (and immediately got back together within a day at most). \n\nOn Saturday I broke it off because of something stupid and I thought this would be good.. we broke up before three or four times it was bound to happen anyway right?\n\nI blocked her from Facebook, deleted/deactivated all social networking sites we used (like Instagram, Tumblr, etc) and even blocked her number on my phone for a day.\n\nI thought things would be fine but here I am a few hours ago crawling back for her. Except she wouldn't take me back and told me to move on. She told me there was someone else and that she had feelings for someone else.\n\nIt really sucks because we spent a lot of time together and one of the things I guess that lead to the downfall of this relationship was that we moved too quick and spent way too much time together. She was literally my best friend and now.. I don't know.\n\nWe shared a lot of things and had our own experiences and it's heartbreaking to hear that she doesn't love me anymore and that she has feelings for someone else.\n\nI need to find a hobby.\n\nAnd maybe this might be for the better.. I'm leaving high school in two months and she still has another year. I'm on the track to enlisting in the military and I'm sure no one wants to wait for someone when they're so young. \n\nShe didn't seem like herself at all when she was talking to me and I really thought she was lying when she said she found someone else.. maybe to make me hate her or whatever.", "summary": "It sucks. I screwed up a lot."}
{"id": "t3_22o0jv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I (19/f) still want ex-boyfriend (19 m) in my life?", "post": "I can't decide if I should try to be friends at all with my ex. \n\nWe broke up in October after I left for college and he stayed home. \n\nSince then there hasn't really been a clean break (still have flirted and hooked up when i'm home) but he has told me several times, \"I've changed, I want to be single and do my own thing. I still care about you and there's still a special bond, just not romantic\" \n\nIt hurts every time. But I don't really want a relationship either. I just don't want to let go of the past, so I'm afraid of really breaking things off (no contact style) and not seeing him over the summer (even though he would still live in a different town, just closer)\n\nI just don't know if it's worth the stress or if it's what I really want. It kinda makes me sick to realize how much I think about it.", "summary": "not sure if I should do no contact with my -ex, break up was mutual and long distance so it makes things weird."}
{"id": "t3_pn4qr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help notice the good people of the world", "post": "I always see and hear about how everyone does wrong is the world and how bad people's lives get torn apart by some bad things they have done. People who committee a crime have a record on there name that anyone with a computer can go and look up and see all the wrongs that they have done (which I agree with, people should know if that new guy that moved in next door is a rapist or murderer) but I think people should also have the right to see how good a person has been throughout their life. What I am trying to say or do is ask for some help to somehow let people find out how nice their new neighbor next door is by letting them look them up. I would like to build something like a criminal record database but of the good deeds people have noticed others doing throughout their community. Lets say you were on your way to work and your car dies on you, then this considerate guy(lets call him \"Bob\")happens to stop and sees that you are in trouble and offers to help you fix said problem by helping jump your car. I think others should know not only about all the bad people around them but also the considerate people like Bob can go out of their way to help others. I would like to ask Bob if I could take a picture of him to let others know if his good deeds. I would then go and describe said event on this certain forum thus lets everyone see not just how horrible people of our world can be but how great people can be too. I would like to know if this is something that others think would be a good thing to share or is only seeing the wrongdoings of others on a background check important.", "summary": "build a forum to post about the good people in the world and the great things they do for others."}
{"id": "t3_kld4s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my cheating ex-girlfriend is still using the disneyland annual pass that I got her, how can I cancel or block it?", "post": "So my ex and I broke up a few months ago after I found out that she was cheating on me, she took everything that she ever gave me back as well as some of my money, now I know she's still using the disneyland pass that I got her, and not only that she's using it so that she can go with the \"other guy.\" Not only does this upset me, but I could use the extra money. Is there any way I could cancel or block it? I tried calling Disneyland directly but no one there was of any help.", "summary": "cheating ex is using annual pass i'm still paying for while going with \"other guy,\" I want to cancel it."}
{"id": "t3_48zkal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21 M) finding it increasingly difficult to emotionally open up to girls and let them in.", "post": "So there's a girl in my acting class who has been showing me signs that she likes me (talking to me outside of class, giving me reassurance and advice and being physically playful), but I don't know how to react to her to show her that I like her too.\n\nI've always been particularly guarded and don't like to let people get close to me (probably because I was bullied pretty intensely in primary school but that's neither here nor there).\n\nRecently now that I've matured and grown up I've noticed some girls taking an interest in me, but I still haven't recovered from that incident to allow myself to open up to people for them to get to know me. They interact with me and try to get to know me, but when I give them almost nothing in return it makes them get disinterested in me and I don't know how to break out of that cycle. \n\nThis has happened a few times as well, like we talk for months on end, and get pretty close, then I just inexplicably break relations and stop talking to them and it's like we never even talked at all. \n\nI find thinking about the way they feel about me makes me a little disheartened because of the potential that exists for a relationship. I'm far happier when I don't let those thoughts consume me and I just keep on doing what I'm doing. It gets pretty lonely sometimes.\n\nI used to be pretty self conscious around everyone (but acting and therapy has helped me break out of that and control my thoughts) but it still occurs around people that I am romantically interested in.\n\nI really want to break out of this habit and maintain a connection with them. I know it's physically possible, but overriding my emotional instincts is hard.", "summary": "I have trouble maintaining connections to girls I like, and I really want to break out of that habit."}
{"id": "t3_dkris", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone please clarify what the point of the Rally to Restore Sanity will be?", "post": "Full disclosure: I'm a card carrying (moderate) Republican.\n\nWhen I first heard about the Rally to Restore Sanity I thought it would be perfect for people like me, considering the Republican Party has been pandering to grassroots whack-jobs my entire voting career (was just old enough to vote in 2004).  \n\nBut the more I hear about the Rally to Restore Sanity (and see the people who support it) the more I question if its something that has a place for me.  I'm worried it's going to be used for the purpose of bashing extreme conservatives like Beck, Palin, and O'Donnell (who deserve it) and make sure Democrats lose as few seats as possible this November.  What I hoped for originally was a non-partisan rally to demonstrate the sheer number of moderates from both parties that all hope for political choices where there are choices between greater goods, not lesser evils.", "summary": "Is the Rally to Restore Sanity about restoring sanity to the American Hyper Bi-Partisan Political system, or is it about making sure Conservative idiots don't get elected?"}
{"id": "t3_2n6g2f", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm (m20) feeling lonely half a year after a break up (f20). Looking for suggestions on what to do now.", "post": "So earlier this year my girlfriend and I broke up, a few months after that I ended up hooking up with one of my friends/coworkers but she wanted to keep it as a one time thing. \n\nNow I'm feeling lonely sexually/romantically. I know I'm suppose to focus on myself, things I enjoy, etc. and that one shouldn't enter a relationship unless they are happy being single but I just really miss having someone I love/care about beside me when I go to bed, or just someone to cuddle.\n\nCurrently I am on a couple free dating sites but I'm wondering if i should just stay off until I feel happy being single.", "summary": "I feel lonely after a break up (6 months ago), i miss having someone beside me, should i stay single till happy, or continue looking at dating"}
{"id": "t3_1clua5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have been with a girl [20F] for a year. I have recently developed a crush on a different girl. Is this unusual?", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for nearly one year now, and it's my first long term relationship. We've had our ups and our downs, and there have been times when I have thought I would be happier without the relationship, but I've never mentioned it because breaking up is such a big thing (there's no going back) and I've never been 100% sure about my feelings.  \n\nRecently I've been developing what I can best describe as a crush on one of my friends [F19] (nothing has actually happened between us, and I haven't told anyone).  \n\nThose of you who have experience in long term relationships - is this unheard of? Does it mean I should end my relationship, or will this pass? What should I do here?", "summary": "In a relationship for 1 year, recently developed a crush on a girl. Is it \"normal\"?"}
{"id": "t3_yr8g9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ever been more embarrassed about anything in my entire life - boyfriend's family - next steps?", "post": "So, the other day I [19/F] was cleaning out my room. I decided it was time to throw away all my old folders and workbooks to make space for new ones I'll be getting in October. \n\nAs i was studying Psychology I had some pretty interesting stuff, and my boyfriend [20] of 2 years was always asking me about it. So, being the thoughtful and generous girlfriend I am, I asked him if he wanted some folders to flick through when he got bored. He said yes.\n\nI thought to myself, *'if he is looking through these folders because he's bored... maybe i can help him out..'* so i threw some **naked photos** in the mix as a little surprise, and dropped off the bag with said folders in at his house (failing to mention the little treat inside).\n\nSo last night I recieved a text message off his sister (my age). It went something along the lines of: **\"What the fuck were you thinking?! That is SOOOO embarrassing! I assume -brother/bf- didn't know about this when he gave me some reading material. My mum has seen them too, just letting you know so that you can hide your face next time you come round. Ps, nice tits.\"**\n\nMy boyfriend hasn't mentioned it and is acting completely normal so I guess he isn't aware of what has happened.... MY LIFE IS OVER!!!!!! Genuinely don't think I can go to his house ever again without dying of embarrassment!! *Do I bring this up with him? Do I just act as if nothing has happened? Do I text his sister back? Do I apologise? Do I just go around as if nothing has happened?* **HEEEEELP!!!", "summary": "Sneaked boyfriend naked pics, his sister and mum found them instead."}
{"id": "t3_49n4ow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] best friend's [27F] Fiance [36M] doesn't like the idea of her and I hanging out, its starting to cause him more distress, should I talk to him?", "post": "So my best friend and I have been friends for 11 years and she has been with her fiance for 5 years and he has always not liked the idea of us hanging out alone, but he has put up with it because he doesn't want to force her to choose her friends. They are getting kicked out of the room they rent and have to find a new place to live (the owner of their house is selling and the new owner doesn't want any tenants there) and I am looking for a new place to move into for work reasons so there was talk about us getting a 2 bedroom apartment because it would be cheaper to split the costs. My best friend is all for it, but since her fiance doesn't really like us hanging out alone together he has been begrudgingly accepting of the idea until recently he said he doesn't want to do it and she can tell he's getting more annoyed when we hang out. She is annoyed because she doesn't see why he is being stubborn and getting upset, I kind of understand his position though I am no threat to their relationship. \n\nMy question is should I ask to speak with him, just the two of us to hash things out? Since they have been together I think him and I have spent a accumulative time of less than an hour talking together without her in the conversation so I am thinking that if we can have a serious talk and get his concerns out in the open he may feel better, but I don't want to harm their relationship because I know she loves him.\n\n(A side not is since we have been friends I have lost 120lbs and in a conversation they had she said that I am more attractive than I was when we met, in the context of I don't have a very successful dating life when it comes to asking girls out and she was saying that she was surprised it didn't get a lot better after I lost the weight.)", "summary": "My female best friend's fiance doesn't like that she has a male best friend. I am wondering if trying to talk to him would help ease concerns he has with us hanging out."}
{"id": "t3_2ptbbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my ex [27F] of 5 years, wants to know about my status but won't ask.", "post": "We broke up in June over text then made it official in Sept of this year. We broke up because of long distance after college opportunities separated us.\n\nNow that we are in a transitional phase of our lives we still text (only) about what we are doing and what is next in our lives. Well I have gone out of state to be with family and friends considering it is the holiday season. \n\nWhen I tell her I am hanging out with a friend she always jump the gun and thinks I am seeing someone special. In her round about way she has told me that if I am seeing someone that she won't text me anymore. \n\nAlso, for some odd reason she chooses not to communicate via phone, Skype, or in person. We have met twice in person and both visits ended well with a warm hug and great conversations. I'm not sure what is going on considering we still share two dogs, share a few accounts, and we both have not deleted the thousands of pictures we have.\n\nI want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Please be kind with your words/comments.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Does she want to stop texting or is this finally it?"}
{"id": "t3_3cas2r", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Going to court and I'm freaking out internally.", "post": "I missed 2 Jury duties a few years back and those were me being a total idiot. Lazy and forgetful teenager and I am sorry for it. I told myself that I wouldn't miss another one because its time for me to stop messing around like a child...but then...\n\nAbout a month ago I missed a THIRD jury summons because I got the date wrong. (It was the 5th, not the 6th).\n\nToday I'm obligated to go to the Show Cause Hearing and I don't really know what to expect. There's a possibility of being fined up to $1500 and I'm basically unemployed. If all does not go well, I really don't know what I'm gonna do. \n\nI hope the judge has a heart and lets me off with a warning of some sort. Oh man, i'm really freaking out.", "summary": "I missed 3 Jury Duties, and now I have to face the consequences."}
{"id": "t3_3nxv94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First day at my [18/f] new job, and two collegues make me feel uncomfortable", "post": "So I started work at a Spanish resterant last night as a KP (cleaning dishes and stuff) which is fine. However, my two collegues [18/m] and [26/m] make me feel uncomfortable. When I told them my age, the older of the two started trying to set me up with the one my age, asking if I wanted to go for a drink. I took this lightheartedly and they then asked if I was single, to which I replied \"no, I have a girlfriend\", but they continued, with the younger one saying that he \"still has a chance\". There was also a lot of vulgar talk about their sex life and genitals. This pretty much continued throughout the whole shift, with the two making jokes about the younger one going out with me, and when it was time to leave, he offered repeatedly to drive me home, even though I insisted that my dad was picking me up. The whole thing just seemed a bit much for my first day and I have my next shift tonight. Am I just overly sensitive? Or is this \"banter\" something to worry about?", "summary": "Two men at work are very suggestive and vulgar towards me and it makes me uncomfortable. Is it just friendly banter? Or something to be bothered about?"}
{"id": "t3_1kd870", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your favorite item when you were younger? Pics even better! (Let's say between the ages of 9 and 13, give or take...)", "post": "Was just discussing this with my girlfriend.\n\nI grew up in Florida. It was summertime, around 10 years old. I was about to take a trip to NYC with my nephew for 3 weeks to stay with aunts, uncles, etc. This was a BIG TRIP... we were travelling alone for the first time! A couple days before the flight, I was riding my bike and found $100 bill laying on the ground. (WHAAAAAAAAAAAAT!!!?)\n\nAfter my mom \"reported it to the police and made sure no one claimed it\" (have to remember to ask her if she ACTUALLY did this, or if she just said she did this to teach me morals) she gave it to me and let me officially keep it.\n\nOf all the things to buy as a 10-year-old-tourist in New York City, I.... bought.... [THIS] And can I please tell you? It was the best damn thing I've owned in my entire life. It's 18 years later, and I can say that with extreme confidence. I got my own phone line later that year for good grades, and I was happier than a pig in shit. I actually miss this phone. If the ringer was off, it lit up like crazy when it rang. If the ringer was on, and you owned a dog, they'd probably have gone deaf at the shrill tone.\n\nDO TELL, REDDIT. I want pics of your favorite childhood ~~toy~~ item!", "summary": "I bought [THIS] at 10 years old on vacation, and I wish I still had it."}
{"id": "t3_2xav8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was this a rude thing to say? M/17 to F/17", "post": "So I was talking to this girl that I have a crush on and according to my friends she likes me back. We started texting and I felt like the conversation was going dull since it was taking forever for her to message back and our conversations never really had any depth. So I messaged her \"Hey I wanna get to know you and the way we've been going is kinda dull. So the next time you can actually chat, message me and we can hold an actual conversation :)\". After seeing that she had read it but not responded I decided to re-read it and thought that she may have been offended so I immediately apologized. She then said that she totally gets it and she'll message me the next day. She hasn't messaged me in 3 days. Do you think what I said is rude? and is she ignoring me?", "summary": "spoke to a girl, said something potentially rude, think she's ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_3155by", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with spouse [30 F] of 3 years, How do I provide support when I don't share her perspective?", "post": "This is one of the more extreme examples: My spouse is certain that her optometrist purposefully gave her the wrong prescription because he didn't like her. She says her prescription is off just enough to be uncomfortable. She didn't give me any specific reason why she thinks this. I wasn't with her at the optometrist, so I can't know what it was really like. \n\nThis seems extremely irrational/paranoid to me. She often seems to pick the most negative interpretation for things that happen to her. I try to empathize, but I usually can't agree with her take on things. Sometimes her negativity feels threatening to my worldview.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2ruwyj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Advice?", "post": "I recently got hired on with a local tech company who explained the position as tier 1, training to server admin within about 4 months. Sounded like a great opportunity; boy was I wrong. I went in telling them upfront where i was in my level of experience. I have an associates but that was a while back and have been working at a technical call center for the past couple years after graduating...hadnt exactly gone far with that job.\n\nMy first day i got into work only to find nobody had a clue what i was supposed to be doing and my direct sup was nowhere to be found. Well after about 2 hours of sitting around doing nothing, he finally called me and gave me some stuff to start with. Fine.\n\nI worked on the training material (which was for their ticket system), and then at the end of the day my sup actually came into the office. He held me after for an hour and a half to show me some roubleshooting he was doing with our firewall. \n\nFast forward to my first paycheck - that hour and a half is not there. Whatever; i send him a quick email (this is how we communicate. He is never in the office and has \"trained\" me a total of 2 or 3 times for a couple hours each in the month and a half ive been here.)\nIn the email i let him know the extra time wasnt accounted for.\n\nI was expecting a reasonable response back. Not a chance. He said something along the lines of that extra time being some \"nerd to nerd\" so he can show me the cool toys ill be able to play with one day. And he continues from there. Towards the end of the email he adds in that he expects me to get 1 comptia cert a month (i already have sec+). He is not going to provide any payment assistance with it and they are expensive. This was not discussed when i was hired on. Im certain if i dont get the certs i will be fired, but is this something i can do anything about?", "summary": "Boss wants me to pay for industry certs after i bought up the fact he didnt pay me overtime. Can i do anything besides quit or be fired?"}
{"id": "t3_1tabpt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving death farts in my car and forgetting about it", "post": "Last night I made Chili and it was the bomb! Unfortunately, late last night and this morning the chili was having it's revenge on me in the form of stinky farts. You know, those farts that are basically the smelliest farts you make, not the typical cute lil' toot that is only mildly unpleasant. \n\nOn my drive to school I was shootin' out toots left and right and complimenting myself on how badly they smelled. I parked, and went into the building. \n\nAfter I took care of my business I (surprisingly) ran into an old friend I had always had a crush on. She is super pretty and we always got along in high school, but never hung out. She mentioned that her car was on the other side of campus and that it was cold out. \n\nObviously I offered her a ride, and was excited and thinking maybe I could ask her on a date or something, or maybe to hang out. \n\nWe sat in the car and she immediately let out a \"woah\" without trying to be rude. It was instinct reacting. The farts had hibernated in my car and came back full force. It smelled like the air was 50% Sulfur Dioxide. \n\nI opened the windows and awkwardly drove her to her car. It was pretty obvious we both knew what was up and I think it was definitely a turn off for her. ah well, lesson learned.", "summary": "I ate some homemade chili that made my tummy silly so I proceeded to fart in my car. "}
{"id": "t3_34zo7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if girl[19/f] is interested in me[20/m].", "post": "I've barely started talking to and hanging out with this girl that went to the same high school as I did.  \nAlthough we knew of each other's existence and we were friends in bunch of social media, we never talked until couple weeks ago.  \n  \nThis is pretty irrelevant detail but I started messaging her on Twitter after realizing how hot she was (BOOTY GAME WAS TOO FUCKING STRONG.)  \n  \nSo far, we've hung out twice. Last weekend, I invited her to watch the Avengers with me and then invited her over to my friend's kick back during the Manny vs  Floyd night. She is super willing to hanging out with me even though she's somewhat shy and she doesn't know any of my friends and barely knows me. In fact, she's down to hanging out some more this week!  \n  \nThe part that confuses me is the way she texts!  \nIn the past, I usually looked at texting behavior to see if the girl is interested in me or not. (Slow replies,blunt messages)  \nThis girl however writes long ass paragraph texts and genuinely seems like she's interested in talking by the looks of her texts!  \nBUT it's like she travels into another dimension without her phone after every reply.  \nShe takes at least average of 30 minutes to reply and sometimes just doesn't even reply at all.  \n  \nCan this just be her texting style? Am I over analyzing things?  \n  \n   \nI just don't want all of this to end up going to the friendzone. lmao", "summary": "Girl I started talking to is super willing to hang out with me but her super slow and lack of replies to my texts feels like she's not interested in me."}
{"id": "t3_kf72r", "subreddit": "running", "title": "This girl is a huge running motivation for little lazy me", "post": "[This lady here] is my greatest motivation on some days when I don\u00b4t feel like going out and running. She\u00b4s like a puppy and wants to be close to you at all times, but she\u00b4s not a lap cat and doesn\u00b4t really purr so much. But when I\u00b4ve been outside running and come home and sit down on the floor in the hallway, it\u00b4s very different. She rubs herself against me like crazy, meows at me like she had a million things to explain to me, and her purring is so loud that it\u00b4s just silly. \nWhen I\u00b4ve been out running and I come back stinky like hell I don\u00b4t smell enough cat, and her behaviour is aimed at getting her scent back on me as soon as possible. This intensive greeting I get when I come back home from running is something that really motivates me to go out running in the first place. I know it\u00b4s silly that the affections of a cat would make a runner, but that\u00b4s how it is for me.\nThanks Ripley!", "summary": "cat gets friendly and loving when I\u00b4ve been running, I love it and it motivates me to go running"}
{"id": "t3_innye", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Signed a contract that I thought was a waiver, am I screwed?", "post": "I'd just like to get it out of the way that yes I was stupid not to read everything, but under the circumstances I forgive myself.\n\nStory: I'm a university student who decided to sign up for Jiu Jitsu during the summer. I went to a Dojo to inquire about the training and they threw me right into a free sample jiu jitsu class followed by some kickboxing. After the hour of intense workout and me being horribly out of shape and dehydrated(to the point where i was sick) i decided to sign up.I had already known that i would not be able to attend the dojo for more than 2 months as classes were starting up and they were during the training sessions.\n\nMy girlfriend had met me at the dojo and was with me throughout the whole signing up process. My options were to pay for a year membership and get all of the gear for free, or buy the gear and pay weekly. Now both me and my girlfriend had thought this meant I could quit at any time. Also, i had just assumed that the paper i had signed was a safety waiver as i was  going to be training a martial art.\n\n7 Weeks later i decide it's time to quit because my classes have started and it's impossible for me to attend Jiu Jitsu. I walk in to explain my situation and they pull out this contract pointing to the fine print saying that i must pay weekly for **12 months**.\n\nAt this point I feel really cheated because i had explained my situation to them before signing up and it seemed that everything was agreed upon. So now i owe them $960 but can't even attend a class due to my academic responsibilities. Also, unemployed and not sure how to account for this $960 as i am already in debt to student loans.\n\nAm i completely screwed or does anyone have some advice for me? Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Signed a contract that i thought was a waiver, stuck owing $960."}
{"id": "t3_13wnb4", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How worried should I be about my spontaneously aggressive preschooler?", "post": "He's almost 3 and a half, and he often hits or scratches me when he gets excited. His scratches are so forceful that his nails scrape off my skin. I currently have 9 such cuts on my face. \n\nI don't think this is negative attention seeking, b/c he does it when he is getting my full attention and he seems happy. His aggression is without warning, immediately shifting between playful laughter to intentionally hurting me. \n\nHe mostly only does this to his care givers. When around other kids he is usually shy or just plays normally. \n\nHe has been spontaneously aggressive since he was a baby. I have a photo of myself with over 20 bruises on my torso from where he bit me, and I chose to shave my head to keep him from pulling on hair. I have another babe (8 months), and he shows no sign of this aggression, so it makes me wonder about the first kid. \n\nWhen I ask him why he does it he says he just likes to. When I explain to him that it hurts us he says that makes him happy. I'm hoping he just doesn't yet have a defined enough sense of others to care about how he treats us, but is that naive? \n\nHe always gets a time-out and a talking to for his behavior, but it never seems to help control him when he gets the impulse to hurt us. \n\nThis makes him sound like a monster, but in every other way he is just a sweet, fun kid, and I'm sure anyone who saw us would say we have a great relationship, except for this spontaneous aggression thing. \n\nSo what do you think about this situation? Thanks for any insight you might have.", "summary": "Is my kids aggression on the spectrum of normal, or should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2ux4ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "hung out with a female freind in vegas , took a nap in same bed. Declined a kiss from her. How to tell my SO?", "post": "I 25 (M) in a relationship with a 21 (F) for about 3 month now. every things been going very well. I really care for her. \n\nBut recently like the title suggest, I went on a trip with a handfull of freinds some close and some new to vegas for the weekend. \nmeet another female that likes to gamble and drink as do i myself. \nhung out quite a bit over the trip. I said i was in a committed relastionship didnt see the harm in having a drinking buddie for the weekend.\nnothing   happened between us, at one point we did take a nap in the same bed, her under the sheets and me above the sheets, her and i both had all are cloth on and there was no fooling around or anything. slept for about 2 hours and went back to drinking and gambling. \nat one point over the weekend she did ask for a kiss and i politely  declined  saying i was in a relasoinship. After that we still hung out,  drank and gambled, walked the strip.  But she understood that I had no intention of perusing her.  \n\nI haven't yet mentioned any of this to my SO (I plan to tonight when I see her) and I want to be open and honest with her. Are relationship means the world to me.  I know she's going be upset with me I understand that,  but i feel that being honestly and open in a relationship is key.   \n\nwhere do I go from here reddit ?", "summary": "hung out with a female freind in vegas , took a nap in same bed. Declined a kiss from her.  Where do I go now?"}
{"id": "t3_297yu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my friend's ex [17F] - I'm entitled to my opinion right?", "post": "Okay so my friend, A, dated this girl K for about 2 years. They recently broke up... her version of the break up basically said that he was too clingy so she tried to break up with him but he kept messaging her and wouldn't leave her alone. A would never do something like that, and his version is that she dumped him for another guy (which she did) and sent him horrible texts saying that he should just kill himself and other things like that.\n\nNow, separately, my friend M is dating a guy J. They had been having issues, but never broke up. J cheated on M with K. \n\nAs teenage girls tend to do, a few of my friends and I were gossiping about this. One friend gave me K's version of events regarding her own break up and said that K thought that J and M weren't together. I told her my version (A's version) and she told K what I said. \n\nK just messaged me yelling at me and telling me I have no right to be spreading this and that I should go away because it doesn't involve me. She was also saying i have no right to talk about her or anything that doesn't directly involve me. However it does involve many of my close friends. So my question is, who's right? Do I have a right? I'm not purposely spreading rumors about K, but I just don't think she's a good person.", "summary": "girl dumps friend and helps other friends boyfriend cheat, then gets mad of me for giving my version of events."}
{"id": "t3_2silba", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for advice on starting my career", "post": "Hey reddit, I am a 22 year old male who just moved out for the first time down to North Carolina from Illinios. I have little to no college experience, basically a semester shy of an associates. \n\nThe first job I landed down here was with a major car rental company, (the yellow one) as a \"manager trainee\" making roughly 28k a year (32 with overtime). My background previous to this was working as a shift manager at a health club back in Illinois as well as a number of smaller customer service/sales positions in retail. \n\nSo far I enjoy my job but it seems to have a very high turnover rate due to the \"turn and burn\" nature of the position, however this also does provide decent room for advancement. \n\nMy ultimate goal is to land a more business to business sales positionnwith better job security than my current position, the only drawbacks being my lack of college degree and \"professional\" experience. I feel as if I can stick it out at this company for a year so and land a promotion or two, I can use it to springboard to a more stable position in a more corporate environment, perhaps with a materials distributor (electrical, shipping/recieving, even HR? etc)\n\nMy question for you all is should I follow this plan? or move back home with my parents when my year lease is up and finish my degree? So far I'm doing well with this company but I worry if I have a couple bad months or two and am let go, (a theme I've already witnessed with a couple coworkers) it would look horrible on a resume, and only serve to put me in a worse position. \n\nSorry for the wall of text, I just didn't know if anyone has been in a similar position, and could offer some advice.", "summary": "I have no degree, but the possibility of gaining experience to counter that in a very competitive sales position. Stick it out? Or throw in the towel and move back home for college. "}
{"id": "t3_3dkajb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Bank info theft charges..?", "post": "My husband and I have been struggling for a few months, living with my parents, going from job to job hoping for the best. Recently my husband got a job working for some sketchy hole in the wall \"tech support\" helpline that over charges people for shitty security on their devices and PCs. In his time working for this hole in the wall, he accumulated quite a lot of files with credit card information on them, he told me today that he saved a card number incase things got tough for us.. at the risk of getting caught, he wanted to ensure that we had the car insurance and food in our bellies (I respect his concern, but I don't respect his tactics in order to \"take care of us\"). Today he tells me, \"I fucked up bad.\" He goes on this long drawnout schpeel about how he planned to money gram 500 dollars to himself under another name using this credit card info, howevery the way that moneygram works is you have to have a security question in order to get the money from a moneygram station without ID, but he forgot to put a security question.. now theres 500 dollars out in the ether somewhere, and the way he went about aquiring this, was aaking a stranger outside of a strip mall if he could use their cellphone for the internet.. to which this strip mall has tons of camras, seen him and the car he drove off in..\n\nHes freaking out, I'm freaking out, my question is now, what is the likelihood of a jail sentence, what's the likelihood of even getting caught..?\n\nHe's never been to jail, never done anything illegal in his life. We have know knowledge of what the judicial system's punishment is for this. Any advice at all is appreciated to ease our nerves.", "summary": "huaband had credit card info, stole money, there might be evidence he did this, super scared."}
{"id": "t3_36w6cm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] a little over one year, I don't know if I should confess visiting online strip clubs or not", "post": "Throwaway account, some people know my reddit.\n\nI've (20M) been with my girlfriend (22F) for a little over a year, and it's been amazing - we connect extremely well, better than we've ever connected with anyone before.  Thing is, she hates porn, so I've really been working on trying to stop looking at it.\n\nHere is the issue.  I've had a bad habit of visiting cam websites like omegle, or online strip clubs like chatville.  This happened as recently as today.  I've been trying to hide this from her, saying to myself that it's just porn, so when we talk about that this falls under that.  But I can't help but feel extremely guilty, almost like I'm cheating on her.\n\nWe try to be completely honest with each other, and the thought of continuing to keep this from her is eating me up inside.  But on the other hand, I think telling her would devastate her.  I don't know if she would break up with me, but I'm almost certain it will be painful.  I feel like I have to tell her, but I don't know.  Help!", "summary": "I've gone to cam websites, don't know if I should tell my girlfriend or not."}
{"id": "t3_2choz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] said some stupid stuff while black out drunk. Now this guy's [25M] gf [20F] is really mean to me... Should I ask what I said and apologize?", "post": "Background info:\n3 weeks ago I accidentally drank more than I was suppose to. Had gone through a recent break up. Ran into a buddy of mine that i was attracted to at a bar while wasted. My friends have previously fed me some information that him and his current \"gf\" were not actually together but she really wanted to be official. \n\nStory:\nI am unsure what I said to him. I think we talked about sexual preferences I think? I don't know. I was really wasted. I am so embarrassed of that night because I shouldn't have said those things. I don't remember anything. I know for sure I did not touch him in a sexual manner. \n\nTwo weeks later I run into them. He seems to greet me with the same friendliness but she tried to be rude to me every chance she gets. She will physically leave when I am just trying to make small talk. No one seems to hate me from that night except her. Most people seem to laugh about that night. \n\nShould I ask next time why she's being rude to me? Or should I let it slide? I feel bad if I offended her. Did I just offend everyone but she's the only honest one? She keeps bringing up how drunk I was but no one else does. I am too embarrassed to ask what I said...", "summary": "Got drunk. Saw hot friend who wasn't exclusive with a girl. We talked about weird sexual stuff. I think mostly jokingly. I am embarrassed. Now girl hates me but everyone else seems nice about the night. He still talks to me the same and no awkwardness. I feel bad if I offended someone but I am also embarrassed I was so drunk I don't remember. Will this blow over or do I need to apologize?"}
{"id": "t3_16i340", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Buenos Aires Hotel/Resort Tips Needed", "post": "I am looking to go to Buenos Aires with my family of four, early this April. The kids are 18 and 16 so them being kids is not much of an issue. However, we would like to go to Buenos Aires and experience both the city and be able to just waste away a day at a resort's beach. This is what I came to ask is if anyone has any good recommendation about a resort/hotel that is close to the city but also has a beach we can all relax at for the day. Also, we are pretty flexible with our budget so all recommendations would be much appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Need a resort recommendation around Buenos Aires"}
{"id": "t3_xj265", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My shoulder dislocates about once a week.  I know I need surgery, but can't afford it.  What are my options?", "post": "Hello Reddit, I know this isn't a medical forum, but since this is a community filled with tons of people who can share their experiences, I would like to give it a shot here.\n\nJust like the title says, my shoulder dislocates on an average of about once a week.  I would actually say it gets partially dislocated instead of a full on dislocation.  When the dislocation occurs, I have to bend in an awkward position and relax my arm as much as possible until it eventually slips back into the socket.\n\nI know my best option to fix this problem is to speak to an orthopedic doctor, but my funds are very limited and I basically live paycheck to paycheck.  With this in mind, my main goal is to find the best way to approach this situation in where I can somehow find the funds needed for surgery.\n\nThe only idea so far was to take up a second job in order to pay for a health insurance plan, but would the insurance plan even cover the shoulder surgery?\n\nI really have no idea where to begin and seeing an orthopedic doctor costs $200 for just the visit.  Any experiences/suggestions/ideas is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Shoulder pops out of socket every week. No money, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lq0y5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's [23M] wealthy parents want to meet my [22F] middle class parents.", "post": "So reddit, my boyfriends [23M] parents have been pushing me to introduce them to my [22F] parents. (We have been dating for 2 years now btw.)\n\nHowever, there are some serious cultural and financial differences between the two. His parents are American, very well off, enjoy expensive meals, fine wines, and vacations. \n\nOn the other hand, my parents come from eastern europe, are much more frugal, do not really go out to eat, and definitley have heavy accents. To top it off my father is not the easiest man to get along with, being a little bit of a stubborn know it all.\n\nReddit, has anyone had an experience like this? His parents have been asking me to arrange a meeting for the past year and I've been pushing it off. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to have this meeting, or what kind of setting would be the best?\n\nHis parents are definitley very sweet, however I don't know where it would be best for cultural and financial awkwardness to be at a minimum. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated! :)", "summary": "Boyfriend's [23M] wealthy parents have been pushing me to introduce them to my my [22F] middle-class eastern European parents."}
{"id": "t3_2yn9i9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scratching a luxury car with a sports car.", "post": "I am currently visiting my Aunt for a couple of days while I am traveling. She is very busy at the moment, so I'm hanging around her place playing with her dogs and enjoying the sun. \n\nAs I'm leaving tonight, she suggested I drive her brand new Nissan z35. I was hesitant about it, as I haven't been driving for very long (roughly 8 months) and didn't feel all that confident. But then again, I'm leaving tonight and it'd be a shame to miss out on an opportunity to spend time together. So I agreed. \n\nDriving the car was easy enough; it was a bit 'jumpy' and didn't have great visibility, but other than that, it was okay. I pulled into the CBD and realized that parking was at a premium. I managed to find a spot on the main road. It looked pretty tight - but I really didn't have another alternative and I was already late. I remember my girlfriend telling me reversing in was easier for her, but I really didn't feel confident enough to back it in due to poor visibility. So I lined it up and swung it around and slowly rolled into a space between 2 parked cars - an Audi A4 to the left and some shitbox to the right. I slowly rolled in, until I heard a CHRRRRRERRRRZZZZ sound. I reversed out, but the damage was done. I left multiple scratches, about 30 cm in size, to the back left bumper of the Audi, but no dents. Oh, and my Aunt was watching it all from behind me. She was visibly pissed, but really cool about it - she doesn't want any of my money (which I also don't have, as I'm traveling).  Of course I will offer to pay her back - but I guarantee she won't accept it. The damage to the Nissan is minimal, barely visible - so it could have been worse. All in all, shit fucking day. I feel like an absolute dickhead for causing her more stress and financial damage. We had lunch after but I didn't eat much.", "summary": "Scratched an Audi A4 with a Nissan z35. Anybody have an idea as to what the repairs may cost?"}
{"id": "t3_2klwyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl[20F] I[20M] was seeing faded on me out of the blue. Stopped talking to her. Now she sends... a friggin DRAW SOMETHING drawing? Seriously?", "post": "This is somewhat of an update. Here's the last post I made about this girl. \n\nAnyway. I didn't text her back since Saturday, just kept on doing my thing. Been talking to other girls. Went out all weekend, had a roadtrip yesterday. All this goes on FB. Late last night (as in, 3AM late... or early), I get woken up by a notification on my phone that she sent me a new drawing on our Draw Something game. She then sends a poke for me to try and beat her Weekly Challenge.\n\n***Seriously?***\n\nI mean what the hell is that even supposed to mean? I didn't send her a drawing back, and this morning I did a couple Weekly Challenge guesses because I'd never done it, but got bored quick. I was kind of mad that she'd even send me one in the first place after just hard fading out of the blue, but hadn't sent me a text or message on FB. I don't play like dat, yo. I felt like sending her a text to call her out on it, but I've decided I'm just going to ignore her. \n\nBuuuut... still. What do you guys think? Is she just playing with me, is she regretting her decision, was she just being stupid? Do I keep waiting, do I text her, do I ask her what the hell is up with her and why she's acting like a kid? And I'll be honest, I *am* just about over her, but it's still a little soon and I'd be lying if I said I didn't wish it had worked.\n\nSo yeah, give me your thoughts, reddit.", "summary": "Saw a girl for a couple weeks. Got really close. Slept with her early on. She kept showing a lot of interest. Saw her often and stayed at her place a few times. Then she hard fades after bar plans fall out. Haven't texted her since. She sends me a new drawing on our Draw Something game and a poke at 3AM. What the fuck. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_34v43j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [21F] of 2 years broke up with me [25M] because of stress and uncertainty but hasn't been clear at all about her intentions. I want to know where we stand but I feel like NC is appropriate too. Please help?!", "post": "As I stated in the title, my GF broke up with me because of how stressed she is with nursing school and a stressful family situation. Her exact words were \"I just want to be alone so I can figure out what I want with everything in my life without anybody or anything swaying my decision one way or the other so I think we should break up for a little while.\"  She also said she felt bad because she knew she was being really distant and didn't think I deserved that and didn't want me to think that's how a girlfriend should act.\n\nI understand that for the most part. However, she's called me since then to check on me and see how I was doing. She said she was \"only so happy since she wasn't with me\" and at one point, she referred to me as \"the love of her life.\"  She has NEVER EVER been the type of girl to say really sappy, affectionate things like that so I honestly don't know what to do.\n\nI think not contacting her is probably my best bet since I doubt she'll begin to really miss me if I'm talking to her alot, but I also just want to know what she's thinking, what she wants me to do, or if this was just an easy way to be done with me for good without all the dramatics. I love this girl more than I can explain so...any advice?", "summary": "GF broke up with me for what she says is \"a little while\" but I don't know what's she thinking or what I should do regarding contact or none"}
{"id": "t3_108zk6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you done that made you a mistaken badass?", "post": "The breakrooms at my firm have Keurig machines, as well as an ice machines. I don't like to wait for my coffee so I add a little ice to my cup prior to making my coffee so I can drink it immediately. \n\nYesterday, I was running behind schedule and I was in a rush to drink my morning coffee. In the midst of making my coffee (ice in the cup), a coworker comes in to make a cup as well. The brewing finishes and I immediately shotgun the coffee, crumple the cup, toss it in the trash can, and casually leave the breakroom.\n\nToday, there is a rumor that I used to be a fire-eater.", "summary": "I drink coffee like a badass"}
{"id": "t3_udy46", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriends little brother stealing our condoms? Or..?", "post": "Okay so, this is my first post here, I don't know if i'm exaggerating, but this had been bothering me and I felt comfortable that you guys would put it into prospective for me and help with your opinions.. I appreciate it, by the way.\n\nMe and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 years. We have a great relationship and love each other very much. I'm very happy in this relationship. We have been together since we were very young so, naturally there have been mistakes. The one most hurtful to our relationship: Him cheating on me 2 years ago. (Kissing another girl.) We had broken up for about 5 months and saw other people during that time. It was hard, but in the end we missed each other and I knew that people make mistakes, so I forgave him. The time apart put it into perspective that we wanted to be together, so we started our relationship anew. \n\nTrust was very hard for me at first, but i've gotten more comfortable with trusting him over the past year. Though, as hard as I try, I have the occasional \"doubtful thought\"? I don't know.\n\nWhich brings me to the point. We have a drawer where we keep condoms, lube, etc. in our room. My boyfriend told me that he had given his brother (18) a couple condoms because he would be going with his girlfriend that weekend. I was okay with that, but now more and more condoms are missing from the drawer recently, and i'm having these crazy thoughts that just maybe... His brother isn't taking him, and maybe he is.. \n\nShould I say anything? Are my, not persistent, mind you, trust issues just giving me a little freakout or should I be concerned? Am I overreacting? I personally think I might be, but I have also been known to be more passive in the past which is why I need your help. Sorry if this is kinda dumb, this was just kind of bothering me.\n\nThank you guys so much.", "summary": "Don't know if i'm overreacting about missing condoms."}
{"id": "t3_1pebzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] think I just ruined my friendship/relationship with my best friend [16F]", "post": "Sorry in advance if this doesn't belong here, but this is my first post.\n\nSo today, I told my best friend of a couple years that I loved her. The thing is, these past few weeks/months she's been getting into some drama surrounding her supposedly \"leading guys on\" to liking her despite her having a boyfriend (not me) but this isn't true. Well the thing is the bad rep from the drama has sort of negatively affected her and since I told her today that I loved her she thinks shes lead me on and I think i've severed my relationship with her.\n\nI don't really know what to do to even attempt to amend my relationship with her, but all I know is she is basically the most important person in my life outside of family.", "summary": "I told my best friend who has a boyfriend I love her and now my relationship with her is in the shit because she thinks shes lead me on and she doesn't know how to talk to me or anything anymore."}
{"id": "t3_riwxp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I just want to be friends", "post": "I have a friend and we're \"special\" buddies, but I'm trying to change my life and she kinda holding me back.We started out as friends but then she told me she was in love with me (even though she already has a on and off bf). I only thought as her as a friend but she was attractive to me too, so i told her how i felt and we both came to this conclusion. Now i want to keep it on a strictly friend bases but every time i talk to her she manipulates the conversation into \"sexy time\" (and I'm too tweak to resist) I want to tell I don't want to do this anymore but she has low self-esteem and don't want her to think i was just using her", "summary": "We're both \"special friends\", i just want to be friends, she might take it the wrong way"}
{"id": "t3_ebaif", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A different kind of Christmas -- need ideas to raise funds!", "post": "So, my eldest son has proposed an idea to the family for a \"different kind of Christmas\" this year.  Instead of spending money on each other, we're planning on taking the cash-value of the gifts we would have given each other and pooling it to buy a set of hearing aids for a 20-something friend who can't afford them.  She's from a family that has had more than their share of medical problems over the years -- her mom has a kidney disease that's resulted in her getting a transplant about 15 years ago along with the regular anti-rejection regimen and other issues along the way, her oldest brother got into drugs, and her next oldest brother has been diagnosed with the same kidney disease their mom has.  She's got impaired hearing in both ears and the family can't afford to buy her hearing aids and is struggling to set aside enough money to help her with her college tuition.  She's having a difficult time hearing the lectures well enough to do well in school.  All in all, she's a sweet young woman who has a pretty big mountain ahead of her if she's going to do well in school and be able to hear what's going on around her.  When she's not in school, she's working at a local state mental hospital to save up for tuition.\n\nI read Voltier Creative's article on [Reddit's Astonishing Altruism] and was amazed at your generosity, especially reading the article about focks and her new hearing aids.  It got me to thinking that you all might have some good ideas for raising funds for an endeavor like this.  I don't want this post to come across as a solicitation for you to donate to my cause, but I'm very interested to find out if you have any suggestions on ways our family could pursue raising the $5-6K necessary to buy a set of hearing aids for her.  It's quite a bit more than we can save up on our own.", "summary": "Instead of giving gifts to each other, we want to give a set of hearing aids to a friend, but it's still more money than we can save ourselves. What else can we do to raise money?"}
{"id": "t3_2lr1eb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] don't know what do do anymore with her [18F]", "post": "Over the summer I met a girl and we became more then friends. It was very short and nothing went past making out. \n\nShe told me she wanted to get back with her ex-boyfriend and that she wanted to remain friends. I was fine with that because I didn't really care at the time. \n\n6 Months have gone by and she clearly states among friends she isn't dating him. They do however definitely have a thing or a FWB situation. Anyway when we hangout together she kind of still is all over me, whether it be cuddling with me or holding my hand.\n\nI've told her I liked her in the past but nothing really came from it. \n\nBasically overall I am not sure if I should remain friends with her or go for anything. I would just like some advice because I don't know what to do.", "summary": "had a thing with a girl, months go by she still flirts with me,has a boyfriend kinda, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sxqpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 F) looking for advice in being supportive to my boyfriend (19 M) of 3 months with OCD and aphasia", "post": "I especially want some advice with a few situation that have occurred that have hurt me a lot.\n\n1) Being hyper critical of my cleanliness. I am very clean compared to most, but it makes sense that he, having OCD, is very picky about /how/ clean. For example, he has made me wash my pillow case multiple times, told me he thought it was weird that I slept without one (so I compromised and started using one), and nitpicked about certain things to the point that I've become very upset or cried because I do try to be cleaner than normal for him, but I am also in a very vigorous curriculum in university and have a job because I'm on student loans. I've been having a lot of energy and motivation problems to the point where I think I may have chronic fatigue syndrome. I'm going to see a doctor about it, but I'm worried that I won't be able to be the person I want to be for him.\n\n2) As far as the aphasia goes, he has called me by another girls name 3 times now. Two of those times were consecutive days recently and I cried each time, especially the second time. He proposed that he might have aphasia because sometimes he says things that don't make sense. He is very intelligent, but has a difficult time translating his thoughts into speech. \nHowever, I pressed further about this girl and he said he used to be attracted to her, though once he got to know her, realized they were not compatible on an intellectual level. He says that I should not be worried and that she does not come close to comparing to me in his eyes as far as looks and intelligence. Should this worry me? \nI have noticed his tendency to stumble through sentences and say incoherent things on occasion.", "summary": "How do I deal with not having a lot of energy (actively trying to resolve this issue ) when my boyfriend has OCD, and with him calling me by another, specific girls' name (a girl he has been attracted to in the past)?"}
{"id": "t3_2p0msd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Reddit, help me [23/f] feel better about my [30/m] boyfriend smoking weed!!", "post": "When I first met my boyfriend, he smoked weed everyday, night and morning. And he had been smoking that much for 8+ years. After dating for a couple months he noticed how uncomfortable it made me that he smoked so much. He told me he 'wanted' to give it up, and he did cut down on his smoking substantially. \nWe had a few arguments because he would smoke behind my back and lie about it if I asked if he had smoked. He eventually fessed up to it all and swore of weed forever.\nFlash forward 8 months, he has been weed-free. He just told me a couple nights ago that he is thinking about smoking again occasionally. However, I can't help but feel disgusted about the thought of him smoking weed again! I know I have trust issues with him and weed since he lied to me about it in the past. \nI have nothing against weed, and have even smoked myself--but I have all these negative thoughts that flood my mind when he talks about smoking again like:\n1. He's lazy\n2. He is too old to be smoking\n3. It'll make him unmotivated \n4. He got really fat when he stopped smoking, so maybe he'll get skinny and fit again if he starts smoking (which is a plus)\n\nBottom line, how do I get rid of my negative feelings associated with weed? I know my concerns are so stereotypical, yet I'm having a hard time shaking them off. I feel my boyfriend should have the freedom to smoke occasionally if he wanted to.", "summary": "My boyfriend was a major pothead about 8 months ago, quit (which made me happy), and now he wants to start smoking again. How can I trust him that he'll do it in moderation? How can I get rid of the negative assumptions I have about weed?"}
{"id": "t3_1i36h3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Double NSV today: Last notch on my belt and got an unexpected compliment", "post": "Today (or yesterday) I hit the 60lbs weight loss mark. Still got a ways to go, but I for the first time in god knows how long saw 329.9 on the scale. Been  plateaued at like 331-333 for a while now. \n\nAnyway this morning doing up my belt I just pulled it like usual and noticed the notch didn't have the same feeling to it. Looked down and sure enough, last one.\n\nLater that day I stopped at my convenience store to get some water. I live in China so the store is run by a family and I see them pretty much every day and the mother told me that I look so much thinner than when I moved to China. I've been here for 10 months teaching English and have been losing weight and exercising for most of that time. \n\nSo yeah...good day :D", "summary": "Last notch and got a compliment from a convenience store owner that I have seen everyday for the last 10 months."}
{"id": "t3_339q4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] seems very vanilla (not-kinky) and my previous gf was very kinky - I [22M] miss this aspect of sex, what should I do? Thanks!", "post": "I have been dating my gf for 6 months, she is the love of my life.\n\nHowever, I just haven't been very satisfied with our sex life.  In my previous relationship (lasted 3 years) my gf and I quickly got into a lot of kinkyness in our sex life (tying each other up, punishment spanking and paddlings, watching porn together, slapping each other during sex, rape fantasies, etc.) that I came to enjoy so much.  My ex gf also had a strong interest in rape fantasies - I was reluctant at first but a lot of our sex involved kidnapping/rape scenarios where she pretended to resist.  We also had normal vanilla sex, but it was about 50% of the time with the kinky stuff.  We experimented together, I was the first person she had had sex with, so we developed these kinks as we dated.\n\nMy current gf is not like this at all, she isn't as sexual (though still loves it) and we have not tried anything kinky.  She has said she would be open to it, but I am very afraid to suggest anything as I know she has been raped in the past and also was sexually abused in her childhood and am really afraid of crossing a line or creating flashbacks or anything for her.\n\nBut after my experiences with my ex girlfriend, I am not finding myself very satisfied with only regular vanilla sex.  What can I do? Is there a way I can bring this stuff up without offending my gf?  Obviously I don't want to say \"my ex and I used to do this stuff...\" nor do I want to remind her of anything bad from her past.  I'm at a loss, any advice?  Thank-you.", "summary": "Ex-gf was very kinky and I grew to love it, now I am dating another girl who seems much less into that and I am unsure what to do as I feel like something is missing from our sex life."}
{"id": "t3_1hgc6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My dilemma of disclosure to the other jilted party.", "post": "My wife and I are currently trying to rebuild our marriage.  Her infidelity is not the issue of this post, but these details might be relevant:\n\nI'm early 40's, she's early 30's.  She had a brief (< month) affair very recently that I discovered.  It ended immediately and brought to light how our 6+ year marriage had long been in decline due to both of our own significant communication issues.  It doesn't justify what she did, but we are trying to work it out and I feel she is keeping her end of the bargain.\n\nMy problem is, do I tell the other jilted party?  I wanted to at first out of revenge, but now I'd only rather do it from the perspective of if I hadn't known on my end, I'd really want someone to tell me.  At the very least, I can give her information that she might want that my wife's ex-lover would never volunteer.\n\nPotentially useful extra facts:\n\nOther couple (Mr.Asshole + spouse)(\"wife's ex-lover\" is too polite) are early 30's and married about 5 years.  Mr. Asshole admitted to me to his having cheated on his wife previously.  I consider it highly likely my wife was more likely to be his 2nd affair this year than 2nd of his marriage.\n\nWife and ex-lover will likely run into each other a few times a year due to business, though my wife understands the consequences of not doing everything possible to minimize and sanitize the contact.  Wife's career will not be impacted by this decision.\n\nMr.Asshole's wife's contact information is un-findable through ordinary means, so in order to get in touch I will need to use more extreme measures, such as a private investigator.  Though there's no need to keep this casual, it does make it way more deliberate than just posting a PM to her via Facebook.", "summary": "Should I tell the other jilted spouse of the affair?"}
{"id": "t3_25av9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/M] hooked up with a girl [24/F], she tells me later how she has a boyfriend and how she enjoys cheating on him", "post": "So I met this girl at a bar and we hooked up and went back to my place. She left in the morning but we exchanged phone numbers and facebook contacts.\n\nToday she texts me how she enjoys hooking up with random guys even tho being in a relationship, because she gets a kick out of the attention.\n\nEven tho it's none of my business because I dont give a fuck about her, I get really disgusted by this behavior towards her boyfriend who for sure doesnt know about this.\n\nAgain, its none of my business, but I'm thinking about sending her boyfriend a anonymous message via facebook, because I honestly feel bad for the guy.\n\nI need your advice Reddit, should I keep myself out of this or tell the dude about what she said to me?\n\nThanks a lot.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl, she tells me afterwards she has a boyfriend and really enjoys fucking other guys to get her ego boosted. Thinking about telling him."}
{"id": "t3_2akdgq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a blowjob", "post": "So, I was getting off work when my super hot coworker asked me for a ride home. I agreed, and we got in my car. She askes if I wanna hangout for a little, so I say yes. We go back to my house and watch tv. One thing leads to another and she starts giving me head. I could tell it was one of her first times because she wasn't very good at it. After 30 minutes, she said \"wow this takes forever\"\nwithout thinking I said,\"My girlfriend does it faster\" never say that when your dick is in between their teeth....", "summary": "I told a girl who was blowing me I have a girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2cd4un", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Financing a wedding", "post": "I saw some people put up their financial situation in return for advice and thought that would be a swell idea for me\n\nI'm really trying to plan a wedding and my fianc\u00e9 is very against the idea. I know weddings are expensive and want to budget 8,000$. In order to make the budget, I'm thinking of renting beach house and doing it on the beach and just buying food and having a party in the house afterwards. \n\nI'm 24 years old. I have fully paid off my 2011 crossover and got that maintenance plan (it's paid off) for oil changes and rotations etc etc. I have 28,000$ in student loans that I've been working on. I have a steady job teaching at 32k with benefits and work summers for an extra 2k or so. I did want vision and dental and Aflac after basic insurance. I have home after taxes just over 2k a month. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 is in medical school and 26. He has no undergrad debt, but also no savings. At the end of it all with interest, he should be 150k in debt. He is leasing a car right now (just a sedan). \n\nWe rent out our second bedroom and we pay rent and utilities which amount to about 600$. \n\nNo credit card debt. We utilize the cash blue preferred Amex and use the cash back for Christmas gifts so we don't have to budget for that. \n\nWe always have at least 1k in emergency funding for our two dogs (and us I suppose... But we are both insured in everything). \n\nWe have an extra car. A 2000 Buick that I was thinking we can sell in order to start the wedding fund. \n\nI have never been irresponsible with my credit. Never missed a credit card payment.\n\nI was thinking of slowing down my student loan payments (I've been paying any left over money outside of the emergency fund into it) and putting that  money into a wedding savings account. Neither of us are planning on taking out extra loans, but my fianc\u00e9 thinks it's an absolutely ridiculous idea. It'll take just over a year to save that money.", "summary": "is it absolutely ridiculous to pay only the minimum in student loans for up to a year in order to save for a wedding. "}
{"id": "t3_1v8jjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not only did I [24M] lose my life long best friend yesterday to suicide, but my younger brother about 18 months ago to a rock climbing accident. Help with my SO [20F] of ~14 months.", "post": "As seen in the title, my best friend killed himself yesterday - I've known him since I was six. On top of that, I lost my younger brother to a rock climbing accident 18 months ago. He was 19 and he was my only brother. I don't really want to go in to many details about either death since that is not what this post is about. \n\nI've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year. I met her about four months after my brother died and she provided support and friendship I needed, which since has blossomed into a deep mutual love.\n\nWe were walking around the city last night. It was a beautiful night. I wanted to buy a shitty bottle of red zinfandel at a Rite Aid. I almost did too. Before I went into the store, I checked my email and saw that my best friends step-dad contacted me. He said to call him immediately - I knew exactly what phone call I was about to make. Dave had killed himself. With my brother, she was four months late to the party, but now she had front row tickets to the live show. \n\nIn the last 24 hours, she has been an incredible support. I've used whatever energy I could muster in a feeble attempt to reassure her that this will not destroy the relationship. I know what grief is. I've been through it, although now it is compounded, which is why I reach out to you guys. This will not destroy me for I am stronger than it. I don't really know how to articulate the question I want to ask. What is there to be done about a relationship where one partner continuously battles life's grandest stressors? If I need to provide more information than I have, let me know and I'll gladly offer anything up.", "summary": "Two major players in my life have died within 18 months. What should I do in a relationship where one partner continuously battles life's grandest stressors? That partner is me, this time."}
{"id": "t3_te312", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would it feel like to be a CO2 molecule in a freshly opened/poured soda?", "post": "Here's my answer:\n\nIn the soda you would feel bogged down and trapped within a viscous nexus of sludge. Your life up until now has been dominated by slow, cold motions. The soda that has surrounded you feels like a trap that has no release. Upon reaching the top, the surface tension of the liquid would feel like the last throws of death's icy fingers clawing at your ascending body. Then relief. Pure, blissful elation. Your molecules would gain kinetic energy and heat up. The result would be a burning of desire inside you; desire to float to the highest heavens and survey all that was beneath you. You, my molecule, would be free. Free to surf the Earth's currents and experience bonds like no other.\n\nYet, it dawns on you. Youre still bonded. Youre not a free molecule; the Earth's gravitation field still traps you within another container. The paradise that was once sought has become yet another prison. The strings that control your every movement are not seen by other molecules. You realize that within this knowledge of gravity comes a price to be paid. No longer can you be satisfied with the everyday lull of floating on air currents. Part of you feels jealous of the other molecules that are content to remain ignorant in their lives. But you know that you have the power; the tenacity to overcome.\n\nYour life becomes that of a single purpose. To throw off the bonds of gravity, and experience the true unknown of outer-space. You crash and throw yourself in to the paths of other molecules; hoping that the statistics that govern your energy will turn out in your favor. Finally a lucky break comes your way and you gain enough kinetic energy to overcome the potential well of gravity. As you float through the upper atmosphere you notice the dwindling number of other molecules. The freedom of space is near. As you feel the ebb of the Earth's gravitation field slip away into the past, you know this is what you've always dreamt of. The ability to go wherever you want, and explore the deepest reaches. The life you had back on the Earth feels insignificant as you float away into the darkness.\n\nAnd you cant help but wonder, how long will this last?", "summary": "A whole lot like a human, but with slight twists."}
{"id": "t3_32l0cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M 20's]y G[F 20's]'s dad[M50's] texted her saying I should \"Man up, grow some balls...\". How do I handle this situation?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'll start by saying both me and my gf have been together about a year and are in our early 20's, both still living at home with our parents.\n\nThis past weekend my girlfriend and I were hanging out and she was in the middle of an unrelated argument with her dad via text message. He was also unhappy with how much she had been away from home and driving over to my house to hangout rather than me going to her house. He texted her saying \"OP should man up, grow some balls, and drive\". I wasn't supposed to see the text message but she was reading other messages off to me and they were on the screen. I asked GF if she felt like I didn't drive enough, and I never minded driving to come see her, she said she had no issue with anything. She usually wants to get out of her house, and my house is usually quiet and we have privacy. Whenever I ask her my house or yours she usually wants to come here. I have never had an issue with her dad before this incident but I feel like his words were quite harsh, and told my girlfriend I no longer felt welcome in her parents house, but I would drive and pick her up/drop her off. She told me she understood but hoped with time I would re-evaluate. I told her I know it puts her in a shitty situation and I don't want to strain her relationship with her dad but I felt disrespected and don't want to be around him anymore. I understand that I was never supposed to see that message but saying that behind someone's back is rude. Have I been over sensitive about the whole situation? I'll have to see him again eventually, how do I handle that situation?", "summary": "GF's dad sent GF a text saying \"OP should man up, grow some balls, and drive\". I no longer want to associate with him but don't want to strain relationships. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_14m8vj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [32F] has been lying about being married, not sure what to do.", "post": "We've been dating for 9 months, exclusive for two.  \n\nShe's from Laos, her husband is over there.  She told me about having an ex-boyfriend over there when he called one time.  I asked why she's still keeping in such close contact, she said it's because he's taking care of her car.  \n\nWe've been having some light-hearted talks about moving in together, and I guess this made her realize that I'm taking the relationship pretty seriously.  She talked to her sister and mother and then came back to tell me that she's actually married, and that her parents bought her and her husband a house.  She told her husband about me the night before that, and now they're getting all the paperwork and stuff together to sever all legal connections between them (should I ask for proof?).  \n\nI'm hurt that she lied for so long, and I'm worried that she's stringing him along.  Our relationship is fulfilling but this puts a twist on things.  I'm tempted to just treat this like a fun little chapter in my life, tell her to come over when she wants (not to move in), and then use all this as justification to go meet other women.  Maybe this is because emotions have the best of me right now, but that's what I'm feeling, so that's that.  Looking for any insight or input from any of you.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 9 months has actually been married to her husband overseas, didn't tell me until she realized our relationship is pretty serious.  I forgave her and tried to understand where she's coming from, but feel a twidge of resentment and I'm close to acting on it.  "}
{"id": "t3_38dcw2", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Did you explain to friends you didn't invite into the wedding party your reasoning behind your choice?", "post": "I am getting married next year (yayyy), and am currently choosing my bridal party. I have already asked 5 of my closest friends to be in the wedding party. I have 2 friends who I had been very close with in college but have seen less than 1x a year since then (4 years ago). I have a feeling they will be hurt if I can't include them as bridesmaids.\n\n**Friend A:** Has always been slightly possessive and jealous of my friendship with a mutual friend (MoH). Also, she is the least in touch with me and I get a lot of anxiety thinking of how to not get into a fight with her. \n\n**Friend B:** Old roommate introduced to me by my friend (her now ex). She is chronically 1.5+ hours late to everything and sometimes has blown me off entirely due to severe ADHD that she often did not medicate (not sure how much to be upset about her behavior because of that). \n\nBoth of these people expect to be bridesmaids and if I hadn't already asked 5 people or had closer more reliable friends I would probably ask them. I'm avoiding broaching the subject with them because I am still thinking I MIGHT ask them just to make my life easier (though I think it would not be wise in the long run).", "summary": "What would you do? Would you ask older friends that stressed you out to be in your party? How would you broach the subject or would you just not bring it up ever?"}
{"id": "t3_35c633", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating the USB receiver of my wireless mouse.", "post": "I'd taken my mouse with me to do a presentation so I could click things from the other side of the room and wanted to move it back to my desktop when I got home. I unplugged the receiver and went to find the mouse which was at the bottom of my bag. Having difficulty doing this with one hand, I went to put the receiver between my lips so I could free up the other hand and then some sort of weird, crisp eating instinct clicked in and I put it in my mouth and somehow managed to swallow it whole.\n\nLiterally no idea how I even managed to swallow it (though it was somewhat painful). Slightly worried about what might happen when it comes out the other end. Also don't know if I'm going to now set of the airport alarms when I go through security tomorrow.", "summary": "Ate my USB receiver by accident."}
{"id": "t3_3kicyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] met up with a girl I like [21f] at a party, and her drunk friend let it slip that she's into one of my buddies. What now?", "post": "Hey guys, \n\nI've known this girl for almost a year, and we have hit it off every time we were together in a group setting. We both got out of relationships this summer, and I invited her out for coffee. We clicked, and we had a really good time. \n\nI ended up at a frosh party with a buddy of mine, and the girl was there with her drunk friend. We hang out the whole night, and end up all drinking and dancing together. Her drunk friend said that she talks about me a bunch, and showed her pics of me. That made my night. \n\nNear the end of the night, her friend says 'it's a shame she likes (your friend)'. The girl then tells her friend to shut up, and apologies. The dude she likes and I are close, but don't talk that often anymore. He is also her partner for a competition this year. He was mine last year.\n\nThe party ended 30 minutes later, we exchanged info with her friend and went home. I sent her a couple snaps today, but haven't gotten anything back. \n\nWhat can I do at this point? I just recovered from a really tough breakup, and I really thought I had a shot with this girl.", "summary": "A girl I like and I hung out all night at a party, and I found out she's into one of my friends. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_53cty6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) need help confronting my father (50) about my feelings regarding is past abuse.", "post": "This is an incredibly difficult thing for me to talk about and have really done my best to hide it.\n\nMy father left our family home when I was 7, my younger siblings (2M & 1F) . I remember him being EXTREMELY abusive towards my mother, many time nearly killing her. \n\nHe was in and out of our lives to varying degrees as children until he finally stopped communicating with us entirely.\n\nThat in itself was incredibly traumatic but got much worse when I was 18. My mother had been talking to law enforcement for a few months and wanted to let us know what was going on before we saw it in court newspapers.\nWhen my mother lived with my father they moved to a new city where she had no support system, and he and two other men forced her into prostitution. If she refused, she would be beaten, if she didn't make enough money, she would be beaten. She went to the police and all they saw was a prostitute and had no interest in helping her.\n\nThe trial resulting in convictions for all 3 men. They are currently out of jail while they appeal the finding of the case. \n\nI recently found him by accident on social media and have been confronted with intense feelings I do not fully understand and feel I need to let him know how this has affected me and my family and how seeing them suffer has further affected me. \n\nI would appreciate any feedback or advice, thank you for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "Found out my our of contact abusive father had forced my mother to be a prostitute. Confronted with raw feelings I have not felt for years. Need feedback on how to confront him."}
{"id": "t3_4vkwcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [16 F] 4 months, condom broke", "post": "I didn't know where else to post this, I just needed to vent it and get it out there before I go insane\n\nI'm 17 and this is pretty much the 2nd time I've ever had sex, everything was going fine until I climaxed and pulled out and realized there was nothing in the condom (Upon inspection there was a small tear near the tip of it). Freaking out obviously, she rinsed her area y'know. Then we went to Walgreens and I purchased a Emergency Contraceptive, it was taken within an hour of the incident. But her last period began on July 7th and freaking out because if she's already ovulated is there any chance the Emergency Contraceptive will do anything?", "summary": "Condom broke, 24 days since last period began, morning after pill within the hour"}
{"id": "t3_rqh1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO and I Can't Agree About Work Outs/Body Image", "post": "I'm a 20 year old girl, living in an apartment with my boyfriend. I used to be a lot more physically fit than I am now, and I've gained about 30 pounds since I started college. It's not like I have terrible self esteem over this, but I'd still like to go back to how I used to look. My boyfriend thinks I look fine and don't need to worry about it.\n\nI started a workout routine over the last summer, and am starting to take up running this spring. Today I bought 80 dollar running shoes (Vibrams, to be specific) so that I could run in as healthy a way as possible (I've had knee, ankle and foot injuries all on the same leg in the past and want to play it safe). Also, I wanted motivate myself to dedicate to running by investing something into it. \n\nThe issue is, I came home from buying the shoes and my boyfriend was really upset that I spent so much money on something so pointless (since he doesn't think I need to work out in the first place). Do you think he was justified? How can we reach an agreement about my body image, working out etc?", "summary": "I want to lose weight, SO doesn't think so. I bought expensive running shoes and he's upset. What do? "}
{"id": "t3_545al1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bottle-flipping", "post": "This actually happened an hour ago, so it's still pretty embarrassing and fresh in my mind. So the bottle-flipping craze is in full swing. I'm on my first date with a nice girl. We're at a Starbucks, and I decide to impress her by flipping a water bottle over her head and into the the little table behind her. She bets I can't do it, and now I'm ready. I get in the zone, line up my shot, and fire. The bottle makes a beautiful arc... right into her face. But it gets worse: the bottle splits open, and empties its contents all over her. We both sit there in shock. An impressive blue bruise begins to flower on the right side of her face. She runs out of the Starbucks, and isn't answering my texts.", "summary": "Flipped a bottle and messed up my new girlfriend's face and my reputation."}
{"id": "t3_33oh70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) don't want my boyfriend (21m) to get in shape.", "post": "I know I'm in the wrong here, I just need advice on how to deal with it.\n\nMy boyfriend of 3 years has an anxiety disorder and has been in therapy for the past 6 months.  It's been going well for him so far.  Now that the semester's ending the therapist suggested he either continue therapy or consider medication.  \n\nHe told me that he doesn't want to do either, that he's thinking of following in his cousin's footsteps and exercising like crazy as a form of anxiety relief.  I think this is a bad idea for a couple of reasons.  I mean, therapy exists for a reason.  \n\nAdditionally, we're both really unfit and eat terribly.  Not fat, but not healthy.  I have no interest in exercise and I highly doubt BF will go through with this exercise thing anyway.  But if he does, it's going to make me really insecure.  He's s really good looking guy and him toning up would only broaden his horizons.  I don't want to feel like an elephant next to him.  \n\nWhat can I do about this?  He knows how I feel because I brought it up in a fight we had about something else today, and it hurt his feelings.", "summary": "BF interested in exercise, I'm feeling wary and insecure."}
{"id": "t3_e1a0a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to do about an incredibly loudly snoring neighbour?", "post": "This is my sister's issue, but as she's not (yet) a redditor, I'm asking on her behalf. Plus she's so miserable about it it's breaking my heart.\n\nLast weekend, a man moved into the apartment next to hers. The two apartments share a bedroom wall.\n\nApparently the man's snoring is incredibly loud, so much so that it is seriously disturbing her sleep. The man is in his 50s or 60s and is obese, and it sounds like he has sleep apnea. It's not a high-class apartment building, so chances are he can't afford a CPAP machine.\n\nMy sister is a very nice person who would rather suffer than confront a stranger. But she's only getting a few hours of sleep a night (the guy starts snoring at 7 p.m. and is still going when she leaves for work at 7:30 a.m.).\n\nShe's tried earplugs but she's not comfortable with them and is afraid she won't hear the fire alarm if it goes off.\n\nShe's starting to seriously consider moving, a considerable effort and expense.", "summary": "apartment neighbour snores really loud, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rfvh9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] broke up with my first GF [21] of a year, and am a dating neophyte", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nSo I broke up with my GF recently. She dumped me (not a blowup, but more of I stopped paying attention), but then couldn't leave me alone, and still wanted me in her life some way. I didn't know what I really wanted, and did not feel like doing the same. Bottom line is we are finally going to be no contact, and she does not want me in her life now she says.\n\nShe was my first love and GF, and I was pretty miserable relationship wise before her. I had never really dated, been intimate, or even had sex before her. I learned so much with her about who I am, and what goes into being with another person.\n\nNow with us over (at least for the near term), I am realizing it won't be so simple to get over her. I miss a lot about her, but definitely believe splitting would be good for both us for personal growth.\n\nI have had some girls come onto me since we broke up, and realize that finding someone else can be hard, which is why so many people run back to what they know. I have never really been into dating, but am social enough in casual situations to feel comfortable. I don't use online sites or anything, nor do I want to as I still think digital dating/hookups are kind of weird. How did anyone here deal with meeting someone else/dating after their first breakup? And did you wait a while before trying to get close to someone else?\n\nI believe in the when you stop looking you'll find it philosophy, but know you still have to have your eyes open so to speak.\n\nAny input is helpful, especially from a woman's perspective!", "summary": "Broke up with my GF, and am now back to the old position of being single and not having done much dating aside from her. Not sure how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_1bi5gw", "subreddit": "books", "title": "What version of 1984 (George Orwell) am I thinking of?", "post": "I got a hardcover copy of 1984 from my local library a few years ago for an 8th grade reading assignment. I have just been assigned another assignment on it as a 10th grader, but the books they give us are terrible. No matter my efforts, I can't seem to find my previous version of the book that I enjoyed reading. It was hardcover,and I think it was blue or black, with either a very simple image on the front or something a bit more complex, but not what shows up in a google image search.  So if anyone might know what version of 1984 is a hardcover and not on google images, can you help me? Thanks.", "summary": "I'm not sure what version of 1984 I had previously read, trying to find out what it was."}
{"id": "t3_53j4cy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do people talk about over lunch/dinner?", "post": "I (33/F) don't have any friends, I actually haven't had any friends since I was in elementary school (5th grade).  I hide it well at work and nobody suspects a thing...I mean, why would they?\n\nA month ago I bought a house in a very small town (less then 1k people), one of my new neighbors happens to be a woman that I know through work.  The company that she works for does some shipping for the company I work for every now and then and since I'm in charge of that and she's the account rep, it's always me reaching out to her when we need this done.  So she asked me out for dinner this week because she's been saying how we need to get together for awhile now to grab a bite now that we're neighbors.  I've declined in the past but I don't want to come off as rude so accepted the latest invite out.\n\nWith that said, what do people who are chatting over a meal talk about?  I can talk about weather and local sports but beyond that I know she isn't into the same hobbies that I am (gaming/anime), I do know she also has a chocolate lab so maybe animals?  This may seem rather stupid to some people, I just haven't had a peer to peer conversation that wasn't work/school related since I was like 11.", "summary": "Beyond weather and local sports, what are good/safe topics of conversation that could last an entire meal period?"}
{"id": "t3_jqovn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Potentially dangerous weird girl waiting outside my house for me. What do I do?!", "post": "I've meet up with this girl, lets caller her Emma, a few times before and it was alright, took her back to mine ect, stuff happened. She then proceeded to text me informing me that she liked me. That's fine but unfortunately for her I don't like her back, sorry Emma. \nI met up with her twice after this and I think she got the impression we might be seeing each other. I have now told her twice that I don't want a relationship and that she is freaking me out with the idea of it and that she should relax a bit with me and start seeing her friends for a while...this did not work.\nTherefore I decided to ignore her texts for a day or 2 so she would forget about it, right now we are on day 2 of 'Project Ignore' and I have received over 25 texts and 9 missed calls from her, none of which I have replied to. The main reason I have chosen to ignore her rather than just tell her she's being really weird and for her to leave me alone is that I don't want to hurt her feelings because I've afraid she might do something to herself, she has told me stories of what she has done to herself before when she's been upset/hurt.\nAs the situation stands now she is sitting on my front door step just waiting for me...\nWhat can I do, I need to buy milk today at some point as well.", "summary": "Crazy girl will not leave me alone, HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_rkb3p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "From an Australian, I'd like to ask this about American Politics", "post": "Naturally, I don't heavily follow American Politics but I'm getting concerned. I keep hearing about Santorum and Romney and I have to ask myself the following:\n\nIs America collectively stupid enough to vote out Obama? Surely that can't happen, he's finally introduced a healthcare system that seems to be working, he's getting the economy to a stage where it's rebounding and strengthening, and I am hearing people say that he's ruined the country. \n\nI'm not trying to say that Americans are stupid, but I am sincerely concerned that Obama might not win the next election, and that scares the shit out of me, because the two people that will be challenging him scare the shit out of me.", "summary": "Is it actually possible that Obama could lose the next election? "}
{"id": "t3_39b4jw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [22/M] dating a virgin for the first time.", "post": "So I met this girl who just graduated high school. Don't worry she's 18. She's a really good looking blonde, so I decided to ask her out on a date. I took her out to eat and went back to my place. After kissing and cuddling I asked her if she was a virgin and she said yes. It was pretty obvious since she was kind of shy, and she moved my hand from me touching her boobs. I told her I'm not a virgin and she said that's fine.\n\n  After a few weeks I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. It was a tough to ask her because she leaves for the military in August. Anyways, we've been dating for a month now and we haven't done anything sexual other than kissing. I've slept around a lot so I would typically have sex with a girl within a week or a day of meeting her.\n\n This is just so weird to me, and I don't know if I should bring it up to her or not. I really really like this girl and I can go a while without doing anything sexual. But all I've done is felt her body and it's like she's afraid to touch my dick. Is she insecure about her body? Is she afraid of my dick? Should I bring it up to her, or should I just wait it out and see what happens?", "summary": "I've had sex with a lot of people and my girlfriend is a virgin. We've only kissed and touched after a month of dating. I don't want sex but I want to atleast play with her. Should I talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_46nmd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19f) with best friend (19m) not sure we're really best friends?", "post": "So, I'm kind of confused on how my best friend of 6 years feels about me. Seems as though we do things that are not typical of best friends.\n\nFor one when we're hanging out we are usually cuddling, or something similar. And I don't just mean an arm around the shoulders. I mean full on, spooning cuddling (he even got a hard on.)\n\nFor two we go on little 'dates.' So this would be normal, but if we go to the movies or something he'll put his arm around me or have my cuddle his side. \n\nI asked a male friend about this (not mutual) who claims this is normal behavior, but I don't think so...\n\nAlso. He has a girlfriend, she's somewhat new, about a year now. Just for full disclosure.", "summary": "Pretty sure my best friend wants to have sex, friends claim this is normal, I don't think so."}
{"id": "t3_e1v3b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question for the Redditors that have kids:", "post": "I'm 25, single, no kids.  Being 25 as well as having mostly older friends, many of the folks that I'm in relationship with are beginning to have kids.  I love them, I am called \"Uncle\" by so many of them, and can't wait to have my own.  \n\nMy question is this:  So often I see a Facebook post or by other means (conversation, blogs, etc) hear about these incredible things that my friends' children articulate.  These quote worthy comments are usually of out of this world intelligence.  My issue is that I've met these kids.  Some of them can barely form simple words, let alone complex thoughts, observations, inquires, etcetera (this isn't to say that they don't *have* these thoughts, observations or questions- the issue is the articulation of them).\n\nAm I simply unobservant?  Do these comments just not occur when I'm around?  Do the parents hear these things because they are around their kids obviously far more than I so statistically they have the advantage?  Or are they making it up?  Unfortunately I'm beginning to lean towards the latter, but am open to a new mindset.  \n\nLastly I will say that this isn't just like once or twice that this has happened.  It's a pretty regular experience.", "summary": "Do parents embellish the things their kids say and make them (their kids) sound smarter than they are?"}
{"id": "t3_1s0t0w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't want to break up. I want to fix it.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI'm a 21 years old male. I'm dating a 19 years old girl. Let's call her X.\n\nWe used to date some time ago but she was spending less and less time with me. I wasn't ok with that and she broke up with me. She said she \"didn't feel it anymore\" and we went our ways. I fell for her so it hurt me, really, really badly.\n\nI made a fool of myself trying to get back with her. I even told her I love her. Nothing worked. I cringe whenever I think of that.\n\nAnyway. 3 or 4 months after that break up we meet again. We go out once, twice and we kinda started dating. It's been a month and a half. Maybe more now. We see each other only once or twice a week. Our \"dates\" look so fucking miserable, we see each for 2 or 3 hours only. \n\nShe doesn't have time. She's always busy. I feel like I'm not even on a second place in her life. I feel like I'm somewhere down there on the dark bottom of the list.\n\nWe haven't talked about what changed since the break up. We talked about her lack of time for me, she said that she was always busy and that's a part of her personality. That I should take a note on that.\n\nHow do I fix things? Because for now I feel they're broken. She wants to date me, I want to date her, so why there must a fucking problem...? Am I supposed to talk to her about what changed since \"break up\"? Should I made my expectations clear? Or... yeah, what?", "summary": "My GF doesn't have time for me, I feel like shit. I don't want to break up, I want to try and fix things."}
{"id": "t3_1qt4ex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28m & 24f; just sharing my failed marriage", "post": "Almost two weeks since I asked for a divorce...  I was/am deeply in love with my partner and so her infidelity was surprising and crushing.  We were together 4.5 years full of ups and downs.  We moved in together, got engaged and married in that span.  Everything moved way too quickly for my comfort but I was driven forward by her personality.\n\nAfter marriage things started to unravel.  We were setting a time table for having kids and I lost sight of what was important... I started obsessing over making more money and our future.  I worked all the time.  I recognized that I was becoming very boring and stereotypically adult but was comforted by the expectation that our relationship would always be there.\n\nAfter about a year or so of neglecting my wife she cheated on me.  It was a wake up call.  The whole laundry list of reality just appeared before my eyes...things I already knew but couldn't acknowledge.  I realized I had been a horrible husband & that I was actually miserable and had been for a while.  I wished we could get past it but felt surrounded by the backlog of personal/relationship issues.  After a month of mulling things over I decided to set her free.\n\nThe regret: If I would have said no to kids, I could have at least enjoyed our short marriage.  Instead I put my career first.  I took our relationship for granted and feel horrible...\n\nThe positive: We can start to forget about all the unresolved problems we had and move on.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "My piece of advice is this: If you know you can't be a good husband and manage a busy professional life sit down with your spouse *immediately* and make some decisions.  Talk things through, do counseling... Whatever you have to do.  If you put your relationship second and take it for granted, when the problems show up it might already be too late."}
{"id": "t3_2hi8j3", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Based on my PRs can I probably run this pace?", "post": "Sort of unusual situation--I'm running a marathon with my dad this year and have decided that anything over four hours is too slow for me. However, my dad will probably be running the marathon at around 9:30 pace (we did a training half marathon just recently and he did it at 9:10 pace which is I think equivalent given that he'll be doing enough mileage). So I came up with a plan to reconcile our pace differences--I'd run the first 20 miles with him at a 9:30 pace (which also helps me act as his pacer) and then try for a 50 minute 10K at the end of the race. My only question is--given my current PRs and assuming I put in the mileage, would this be possible?\n\nMy current PRs: 1600m 6:04 (on track) 3 miles 21:30 (on hilly course) HM 1:49 (ran first 6.5 until turnaround with my dad in about an hour, the next 6.5 in a bit under 50 minutes).", "summary": "can I run a slow pace for 20 miles and then a faster pace for the last six?"}
{"id": "t3_ri0x8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the weirdest thing you have done acting on impulse?", "post": "When I was in england, I suddenly got this impulse to give a homeless man some money, and without realizing it at first I picket up my wallet, gave him $15 and a cigarette. The smile that shined up on his depressed face was unforgettable, he thanked me and explained how few generous people there are in this town and I ended up sitting there for 15 minutes talking about philosophy and the harsh life of having no home. He spoke of how money and drugs had destroyed the lives of his friends and how he had problems with alcoholism, but he was not sad. He said that he had found his enlightenment living on the streets, realizing how money had changed people he knew and that no matter how much money he would win on the lottery, he would never go back to a normal life. \n\nHis life story was very interesting and moving in a way, if it wasn't for my friend waiting impatiently 10 feet away, I would've continued to talk to him. I told him I had to go and that he should take care and before I left, he said:\n\n\"what's your name?\"\n\"Alex\" I said,\n\"Alex, my name is Shaun\"\n\"Nice to meet you, Shaun. Take care\"\n\"you too, you are a good man\"\n\nFor the rest of the evening I kept thinking \"why the hell did I do that?\" but I was happy I did.", "summary": "I gave $15 and a cigarette to a homeless man and we ended up talking about philosophy"}
{"id": "t3_mjuvi", "subreddit": "self", "title": "The Epiphany that changed Pinky and the Brain... Also first post :)", "post": "Reddit, I have decided to emerge from the shadows where lurkers lie to impart some very valuable knowledge upon you. Brace yourselves, for this may change your entire sense of being... The other day while sitting in my room staring at the wall and avoiding my textbook's gaze, I realized something about a show that I'm sure some of you have heard of... Pinky and the Brain!\n\nThroughout our lives, most - if not all - of us have always assumed a few things about the two protagonists in the show, Pinky and the Brain. The biggest and most important assumption that the show falsely presents is that \"Brain\" is more intelligent than \"Pinky\"\n\nIn fact, if you think about the show it is not a conflict between two mice of varying degrees of intelligence at all. It is actually a battle between good and evil. Pinky is far more cunning than Brain and successfully halts Brains plans to \"take over the world\" without Brain ever suspecting foul play. \n\nThe benefits that both mice enjoy thanks to Pinky's elaborate plans are threefold. Brain continues to feel good about himself. Pinky enjoys company in his otherwise lonely cage, and Brain's potential victims are kept safe by the hero of the story: Pinky.\n\nSo next time you watch the show... listen carefully to the tall, gangly mouse. You might even learn a thing or two from him.", "summary": "Pinky is actually the smarter of the two mice. He represents all that is good and holy and saves the world from Brain in every episode... Think about it!"}
{"id": "t3_2kd2lp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, the world is full of thankless jobs, People doing something that others overlook the importance of. What kind of gestures can you think of that these silent superstars would appreciate or deserve?", "post": "EDIT- Context:  For the past 7 years the same gal has delivered news papers to my neighborhood around the exact same time every couple of days. The other night after working a wedding reception that went on until the early AM I stopped to grab a coffee to keep me awake for the ride home.  when ordering my coffee I noticed that It was so late that the news paper deliveries were about to start .. BING! it might of been the 11 hours of countinuos smiling but i felt like letting my good samaritan come out so I ordered two extra drinks, the seasonal pumpkin blah blah blah and a cold ice drink just incase the hot coffee wasnt for her.  When I pulled up my drive way the suv packed to the top with papers was three houses down from mine and I couldnt believe it, each of our timing couldnt of been any better if we had tried.  Feeling all gitty and happy inside I walked down to the street and waited for her get to my house. when she pulled up I waved her down with the coffees(it probably freaked her out a little bit seeing some one waving at her in the street at 3:00 in the morning) but she stopped and I saw she had a helper in the back seat(thank goodness I thought of getting a cold and hot drink). I explained to her that I was working late and stopped for coffee and thought of the paper truck that was about to pass by my house and grabbed some extra coffee.   She was absolutely astonished. She couldnt have been more thankful and told me that her and her daughter(the helper) had been delivering papers for 15 years and not one person had ever thanked them in any way, they both started to tear up and the  driver reached out the window to give me hug.  It was really cool to be able greatly impact a couple peoples night in such a positive and friendly way with just cup of coffee.", "summary": "Brought the Paper deliverer a cup of coffee and it was very rewarding to see her so thankful."}
{"id": "t3_1r7t92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] is kind of worried after break up with my unstable ex[29M] for only getting my bike back.", "post": "Sorry of my grammar error and title is unclear, but I need you guys help soon as possible.\n\nAfter break up for 2 years relationship with my ex of having heavy arguments and suddenly attempting sexual abuse to me (atleast he stops that he realize I was not into it). I left his house (later break up with him) and got everything what I can, except my bike.. It sounds ridiculous, but I really do miss my bike since i'm poor to get another one. So for whole long emailing trying to make it appointment. First it was original for meeting up at the station where all people are around (because of my safety reason). But today, he cannot do it suddenly because of his emotional and it would be more meeting up outside at his house for leaving my bike. And finally he said he'll go somewhere else. So I made the time and then later to get the bike. But he mention the location where I usually go there with my bike to travel all the way back to home. Atleast I have my back up plan just in any case of my safety reason (because both my mother and me felt he'll go making a drama in his forcing seeing me), but the question is..\n\nHe's regaining his emotional after break up, but I still felt he's unstable now and certainly hope not that he'll do something stupid.\nThe question is, is there any danger of emotionally unstable people information list that I should know about it?\nHe has a history from his mother side of psychological problems.", "summary": "Very rare feeling if he has plans to make a drama scene with me for only getting my bike back. Just a question if any danger of emotionally unstable will be happen."}
{"id": "t3_1kdvsv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[30M] with my GF [24F] 8 months, breakup advice..(long distance)", "post": "OK I've realised I need to break up with my gf... and I am just so petrified of doing so, can anyone offer advice?\n\nmy reasons for doing so are:  \n1. she lives 400 miles away.. the drive is killer and its very hard and I see her rarely because..  \n2. I have 2 basically teenage kids  (13/12) who I have every second weekend but Im starting to see more of them now.. sometimes every weekend...meaning.  \n3. I see my gf maybe 1 weekend a month.. and It's not enough to be close to her.  \n4. she just moved in with her parents and when I visit her its just super awkward for me.. I'm an adult with kids of my own..  \n staying over at her parents house as a parent sleeping in their daughters bedroom.. its totally freaking me out. its not right.. I'm too old for this shit.  \n5. I can't see her in my future..  \n6. I want to travel in a years time.. she is also planning to do her own travel next year for possibly a year..  \n  \nok these are just reasons..I know and I also know I don't need a reason at all.. but I just need to know that I am making the right choice.. but most of all..\nI have never broken up with someone before, this girl is super super sweet and nice and we have never fought and everything is really good.. and I just can't bear the idea of hurting her.. but this has to happen... with the complications I cant see this working... should I just sit her down and say its not working? the distance is too hard?\nI'm hoping to do it tonight... Im going to leave early from work and drive the 5 hours... I just dont know... do I take her out to dinner? do I just call her up and say please meet me somewhere we need to talk?\nshould I go to her work and wait for her to finish meet her at her work?\nits all just so hard... :(", "summary": "need help on how to break up with a nice girl in a nice way.. she is a 5 hour drive away and I'm hoping to drive there tonight to do it."}
{"id": "t3_31v97h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at my colleagues phone", "post": "Hey, I have made a throw away as my work colleagues know my user and would read this and it would be embarrassing for the person in question. \n\nWhilst walking past a colleague, it is traditional for someone to bend over and have a look at what you are doing and make a joke about it (such as reading your text and making out you are texting someone you shouldn't be etc).\n\nI walked past my colleague, looked down at his phone and saw that he was looking at a gay swinging website. Now I recognise the website, because they have multiple websites to cover everyones preference (My wife and I use the couples one). He is married with a wife and two kids.\n\nI have nothing against people and their preferences and that is his business, he works away for the week from his family, but what I did not need to see was the message he was sending to a guy and a fully naked picture of himself .. standing to attention?.. he was messaging someone.\n\nI saw this in the space of about 3 seconds before he realise I was stood behind him and quickly hit back, revealing the profile of the guy he was talking to, before quickly just locking his phone and closing it.\n\nNow I catch him staring at me and make awkward eye contact before he quickly looks away.. Not entirely sure where to go with this.", "summary": "I think I just discovered my married co worker is gay or at least has bi preferences, I am fine with this but he keeps giving me awkward looks."}
{"id": "t3_wlq39", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I'm trying to raise $100k for the World Wildlife Fund to help save big cats... here's my plan.  Can you give me some constructive feedback?", "post": "Hey Reddit.\n\nI'm trying to raise $100k for the World Wildlife Fund to help big cats.\n\nCharity Navigator gives the WWF fairly solid marks.\n\nIf you have any alternative or additional suggestions I'm all ears.\n\nMy plan is to create a viral video.\n\nBasically, I'm going to dress up as a HUGE cat ... I've already found where I can rent a giant cat costume.\n\nThen... I'm going to get a cardboard box and on the outside it's going to say \"FREE KITTENS\" and I'm going to have a recording of baby cats meowing inside so it's irresistible ...\n\nThen I'm going to setup in Union Square in San Francisco with me hiding inside wearing the cat costume.\n\nThen when people come by to check out the free kittens I'm going to jump out and scare the FUCK out of them :)\n\nIts going to be hilarious.\n\nThen at the end of the video I'm going to have a call to action that Big Cats like Lions may be extinct by 2030 and ask for donations.\n\nThe Youtube will have a link inside the video to the WWF to donate directly.\n\nI'm going to track the WWF so I can try to track funds.  I don't want to be a middleman holding the funds in between.  The $ should go right to the charity.\n\nAny other suggestions?  I might put additional contribution links there including Snow Leopards:", "summary": "I'm gonna dress up like a huge cat and scare the shit out of people to raise $100k to help save big cats."}
{"id": "t3_3500lw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've done the breaking up in all my relationships yet I suffer from post breakup attachment issues. What do I do?", "post": "In all my relationships, I've been the breaker. Despite this, I find myself over involved with my exes. Usually things will be fine until she moves on. After that I'm jealous and angry. What's wrong with me? And do I need to block all communication with my most current ex?\n\nWe've dated on and off for a year and a half. Dating on and off is also a theme in my relationships. I'm M21 and she's F19. We broke up for good (at least I intend it to be that way) recently and I thought we'd be able to be friends. I was with her a bit ago when she mentioned \"talking to people\" and I freaked out. I can't help but feel jealous. I had to leave in order to avoid making an ass out of myself and now I'm considering if I need to block all communications for my sake. I don't want to be the way I used to. I just want to move on completely without embarrassing my self.\n\nGo as deep as you want (attachment theory, psychology, etc.) to explain my behavior.", "summary": "I'm over attached after breakups even when I do the breaking and need to know if I should stop/block communications completely."}
{"id": "t3_32brrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [16F] of 5 months will forever hold this over my [18M] head.", "post": "My girlfriend has a bunch of guy friends.  I thought I would be fine, but one month in to our relationship I finally said something.  She had one guy over to study, and I texted her saying it made me uncomfortable because he liked her. (He had texted her that she is the most perfect girl ever and other things that made it obvious) She got upset with me for not trusting her (and rightfully so, I suppose). Then a few weeks later I told her how I did not like her snapchatting this other guy so much who is older and graduated. Again, she turned it on me, and I told her I was sorry.  It has been a long time since either of those two things, and she still occasionally jokingly calls me the psycho girlfriend of the relationship.  It really hurts, because he is making a joke of my feelings.  She says that she doesn't worry about other girls with me. The thing is, I don't really talk to ANY other girls!  I just have guy friends.  Yes, I still get really jealous sometimes, but I refuse to let it show.  Any tips for this relationship?  I don't want to self destruct it, and I really don't want to stress over other guys.", "summary": "I stress over other guys with my girlfriend.  I feel like she holds it over my head."}
{"id": "t3_17l9sq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where were you 5 years ago in your life and have those 5 years gone as you thought they would?", "post": "5 years ago I was jobless and living with my parent.  I had lost my main employment about a year prior to that and along with it my apartment.  Had a few part times but none of them lasted.\n\nIn January of 2008 I moved to the Seattle area.  A friend who had wanted me to visit was kind enough to buy my plane ticket and let couch surf.  I came with $50 to my name and two rubbermade totes full of clothes and my computer.\n\nI was able to find a minimum wage job within a few weeks and get things back on track for myself.  5 years later I have gainful employment that I've kept for my length of time here.  I've been able to climb a few ranks with that company as well.  I've also found a wife and had two loinspawns.\n\nIf asked back then where I thought I'd end up in 5 nothing I'm doing now would have been what I thought of.  Where were you 5 years ago how does it stack up to where you are?", "summary": "thought my life sucked 5 years ago. Moved to fix it.  Not too bad. You?"}
{"id": "t3_gozlp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have a trial for a wait-service job on Saturday, quite inexperienced in this regard. What should I expect?", "post": "So I have very limited job experience but I managed to get a trial at a cafe for a job as a waiter. The trial is this Saturday.\n\nDue to my lack of experience I'm really not quite sure what to expect from this so I was wondering if any Redditors could give me an idea of the kind of things I'll be asked to do, or the kinds of things I should expect. Right now I value any advice I can get (I just want to do a good job of this) but I would especially appreciate advice from people who own cafes or people who have had trials like this in the past (there must be plenty of you out there!).\n\nThanks guys.", "summary": "got a trial for a job as a waiter, what should I expect?"}
{"id": "t3_prvv5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm 19, completely supported by my parents, single, with a decent amount of money and no pressure to get a job or go to school. What would you do if you were in my position?", "post": "I really hope people don't think I'm a spoiled, privileged brat because I'm not. I have had an incredibly difficult few years (a lot of mental health problems, but I'm in therapy and doing well) and my parents are just happy I'm still alive. I know that sounds dramatic but it's true. I know how lucky I am to have them and to have them supporting me. \n\nSo, coming out of the fog of mental health crap, I find myself in a unique and maybe enviable position. I have a decent amount of money saved up (my money, not my parents'). I know that post-secondary will always be there for me if I decide I want to pursue a degree. I don't see the point of rushing into school if I'm not even sure what I want to major in or have a career in later on. Once therapy winds down, I'll be going back to my old job for awhile to save up more money. I also volunteer at my city's homeless shelter 1-2 times a week. I really want to do something with my life and try to make a difference (yes I know how idealistic I sound...) \n\nIdeally, I would like to travel, volunteer abroad, or something like that in the next few months.\n\nSo guys, what would you do? I really want to do SOMETHING, if that makes sense? Get experience, explore the world and all that jazz. \n\n(I'm not sure if this is relevant, but I'm female and I live in Canada.)", "summary": "The title sums it up pretty well. :)"}
{"id": "t3_2j82d0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: trying to get rad.", "post": "So, for the LOLz I ride a fixie from time to time. Today, after bei in class all day, I saw it had started to rain. \nGoing down the busy street, I immediately discovered the excitement of a wet power slide. A few accidentals that were recovered bolstered my ill advised confidence and I started using it to go in between cars. \nJust then, an awesome song came on the playlist, the road opened up, and I spotted my right turn in a clear intersection.\nI slowed down to a moderately comfortable speed, but went with the \"Fuck it!\" factor and jammed the pedals for a powers life around the turn. \nI MADE IT! ... 3/4 through. Then the bike lost traction, I fell at a 240 degree angle and somehow my glasses ended up behind, then under me. \nThey of course broke, and one of the lens shards found it's way right through my jeans and got on that prime real estate known as my thigh.\nNow I get to figure out how to afford new glasses/contacts or live a debilitatingly blind life.", "summary": "Joseph Gordon Levitt didn't trust wetness and poor vision. Not should you."}
{"id": "t3_1lmhd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[19F] Girlfriend[17F] of one year is bad at making me happy when I'm sad", "post": "My relationship with my girlfriend is pretty awesome, we've been going out for almost a year and I'm satisfied with it overall. The biggest problem in the relationship for me is that she's terrible at consoling me when I get sad. She doesn't know what to say or do and then she'll admit that to me and that just makes me more upset about the situation. Usually I tell her to hold me and I'll just fall asleep because I think that's better than hearing her whine about not being able to help me.\n\nI've tried to tell her what to do when I'm upset. I just want to be held and talked to and told everything will be fine. She doesn't do this for long though. She'll hold me but I guess she expects me to instantly get better. Then she gets upset because she feels like she can't help me. Then I make myself get up and help her calm down and I talk to her and make her happy again, while I'm still upset. Usually after that I'm not as sad but I just get angry that I had to make her happy even though I was the one who was upset to begin with and nothing was done to help me. \n\nThis is really unfair to me and it pisses me off when I think about how I'm able to help her but she can't help me. It feels like she doesn't try enough to help me. What can I do to fix this? Even though our relationship is great, I sometimes want to break up with her because of this. I've told her what to do but she doesn't listen. what can I do to fix this?", "summary": "My girlfriend can't make me happy when I'm sad."}
{"id": "t3_2dakxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my gf [15 F] almost a year, always complaining about work - driving me insane!", "post": "Okay, so my girlfriend recently went back to work. Instead of working at an ice cream place, she's now working at a grocery store doing bagging. I've recently started bagging (first time job) at a local one, although not the same. She works almost 9 hour shifts, but my store works 4 hours. We work pretty much the same days, and get days off the same days. \n\nNow, I'm starting working - this is my first job - and so far, it's pretty sweet. I'm just bagging, along with restocking bags and cleaning occasionally, which all isn't that hard. She works pretty much the same thing, except does maybe a few other things, such as stocking or cleaning. We essentially do the same job but she has longer hours.\n\nEvery day, since she's began though, every single time she has a break (whether it's an actual break or just her in the back room deciding to text me) she has to complain about something. She apparently works with a group of mental patients who apparently can't do anything - I've told her, time and time again, if it's REALLY that bad, talk to a higher-up, manager, supervisor, whatever. Apparently she has and apparently that same one has disciplined them. Yet, she still complains about them! Whether that's her problem or the supervisor's, I'm not sure.\n\nIt's really starting to drag on me, having to respond to whiny texts when I'm trying to relax after working my first ever job. I understand she has more hours, but she has more experience - she should be used to this. I haven't complained once to her, but every day (I mean literally, every day) I get a complaint from her.\n\nI don't necessarily want to tell her \"listen, you need to stfu/htfu\" because she's really sensitive (we both are) but it's really dragging on me at this point. Help, please?", "summary": "Girlfriend complains every day about work. I love her but every day when she has a break she texts me \"ugh work sucks, so and so isn't working\". Put up with it or tell her she needs to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2wbodv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[TIFU] by reading TIFU at school", "post": "So it's about 10:30 in my school and I have an assignment that requires me to use my phone to read about Ancient Greece. So being a normal kid I decided to surf reddit, specifically TIFU. Now when I read reddit I look for the funniest most fucked up posts on the website. As I was reading a NSFW post on TIFU my teacher asked me to show her the work I've done. She is very good at catching kids off guard. \n\nI go up to her desk and I have two definitions written down on my paper, so she asks for my phone. I tried to close it but I was not fast enough. She reads the post and flips out on me. My phone was taken away and my parents grounded me for a month! So in short TIFU", "summary": "? Read a NSFW post and got in lots of trouble!"}
{"id": "t3_4jwtao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [51 F] with my daughter [19 F] - daughter accused of plagiarism", "post": "[Original thread here](\n\n(First of all, I'd like to say that I goofed the title on the original post - she wasn't \"accused\" of plagiarism.  That implies that she didn't do it.  She DID do it.)\n\nShe told me a bit more about what had happened.    While researching her paper, she took a bunch of notes, including some comments she'd found on the Internet.  She didn't cite her sources (BIG mistake), and when it came time to write her paper, she mixed up what she'd found online and what she'd come up with on her own.\n\nShe had a meeting with an advocate, who prepared her for what the hearing would entail.  She was warned that the most common punishment was to receive an F on the paper and an F on the course.  So, she was prepared for that.     There were still some classes remaining before the hearing would occur, plus the final exam.  She attended all of the classes, studied her butt off for the final, and did her very best on it.\n\nShe had her hearing last week.  She did what I'd recommended (and a lot of you recommended) - explained what happened but didn't try to make excuses.  The prof was very understanding and heard what she had to say.  The prof commented that it reflected well on my daughter that she'd continued to attend class and write the final - many people would've said \"The heck with it; I'm going to fail anyway\" and not bothered to show up.  \n\nDaughter found out last night that she'll receive an F on the paper (which was worth 15% of her final grade), but NOT on the course.   The prof had told her that she'd done very well in the course overall, so she'd hoping that means she'll still pass the course.    The prof has drummed it into her head that she made a very dumb mistake, and things won't go nearly as well for her if she does it again, so I think (hope) she's learned her lesson here.\n\nThanks for all of your comments and help!", "summary": "Daughter had her plagiarism hearing.  Will get an F on the paper but not on the course."}
{"id": "t3_rrky0", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "What to make of potential interview, then nothing?", "post": "I had a screening for a job in a city about 200 miles away a couple weeks ago for a job; a few days later, they told me they decided to go elsewhere, they said it was because they wanted people with more experience, which I'd like to believe; \n\nAnyway, I got a call from someone that same day about another position in a separate department of same national group. I returned the call, and after a bit of phone tag, spoke to the person, and we did a preliminary phone screening/interview, the obligatory \"why would you be the best fit..\" blah blah blah, etc. They ask me if I am available (this was on a wednesday) if I am available friday, I tell them, no unfortunately, I am out of town that day (because of a second job I currently have, can't afford to sit around unemployed waiting for a good job), and they also asked me when I could start, and I said as close as two weeks. They asked about my availability the next week, and I said I could be available. I never heard anything back from them, and even called the person back to express my interest in the position (it's a position doing work I'm very passionate about) and my flexibility in regards to potential interview dates. But still nothing.\n\nWhat should I make of this? Obviously the offer has passed, regardless. But is that not at least a bit unprofessional? I know our schedules can be hectic, and so forth, but to not even be willing to be a bit flexible, and then not return a call to let me know what's going on? \n\nOr is that just the way it is? Either be available at our beckon call for a position you may or may not get, or goodbye. You have any other obligation? Too bad.", "summary": "Had interview for job I didn't get. Received call from different department; because I had to work the day after they called, wanting an interview, never heard back. Is that not a bit unprofessional? Or is that asking too much for my part? Should I have just called in sick to the job I all ready had, that I can't afford to call off from, and not tried to give my current employer the 2 weeks notice if I did get the new position?"}
{"id": "t3_109gh3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "There's a shady boot on my car. Anybody have any advice on how to deal with it?", "post": "I'm a resident of my apartment complex. Yesterday I parked in visitor parking because somebody was in my spot. I came back to see a boot on my car, and a sticker on my window.\n\nI called the company, and he was really vague about who called him to boot my car. He said he thinks it was management, but a local office manages the property and they're across town. I've also parked in visitor parking hundreds of times, and even overnight. \n\nThe thing is, I can't get a hold of management. No answer to my emails or phone calls. Any suggestions on what I can do?", "summary": "my car was booted, but I didn't break any laws that I'm aware of. Can't get a hold of management. Wat do"}
{"id": "t3_25ghux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(33f) SO(30m) is still friends with his exes, but when we encounter them in public he avoids them at all costs. What gives?", "post": "I'm 33f, he's 31m, we've been together for over a year.  \n\nMy SO is a very loving, outgoing person.  He still keeps in contact with his exes (as do I, on select levels) and I'm fine with this.  However, a certain situation arose that is screaming red-flag to me and I'm curious to know if maybe I'm just overly sensitive about it.\n\nA couple of months ago, the girl he was seeing before me, lets say Sally, came into his workplace.  I should note that it didn't exactly end well.  From what he's told me, they ended up having a long conversation and perhaps some closure on both their parts.  Great!  I'm all for working things out!\n\nShortly thereafter, they became friends on Facebook.  Cool, nothing out of the ordinary.  One afternoon last week, we stop in at a local place to grab some food and Sally's car is in the parking lot.  We didn't even turn off the car before he's backing out, saying we can't go there because 'Sally' is there.  I tell him I'm a big girl and I can handle myself, if that's what he's worried about.  He tells me that he just doesn't want to deal with her, and we U-turn in the parking lot and leave.\n\nThis left a sour taste in my mouth.  I expressed my confusion and he assured me that it was for the best.  Perhaps he was right.  What would you have done in this situation?", "summary": "SO is recently friends-on with his ex but high-tails it the other direction when I'm with him."}
{"id": "t3_4gu3k1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25M) lied to my girlfriend (25F) at the start of our, now 1.5 yr, relationship. Feel guilty.", "post": "We met when we were both 24. She was my first sexual encounter. Around the start, she asked me about my previous relationships. Even though nobody really teased me about being a virgin, it was something that I was deeply embarrassed about, so I told her about the few girlfriends I had. These were pretty much girls that I had dated but didn't get that far. At the time, it seemed ok to make a little lie since we had only been on a few dates and we had no idea how well the relationship would end up working.\n\nThe relationship ended up working very well and every once in a while, the topic of past relationships comes up and I stick to my stories. Once she told me that she wished she had taken someone's virginity, like mine because she really likes me. \n\nNow, I have been incredibly honest with her about everything except for this thing. Currently, we have been long distance for about the last 10 months, but see each other every few months for a couple of weeks. This subject doesn't come up often at all, but when it does, I feel very guilty about lying. Also, i would like to give her the sexual conquest she wished she had, but i fear it is to late? At the same time, I don't want to break the trust. \n\nI know if I were to talk about it, she would probably just laugh and get over it.", "summary": "lied to my girlfriend about not being a virgin at the start of our relationship. Feel guilty about it now."}
{"id": "t3_51grss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my Wife [25F] of 1 year. She left two months ago and now wants to talk", "post": "Throwaway and names changed for privacy. Roughly two months ago my wife up and left me out of no where. We had a brief discussion than where she explained that she was just very unhappy. Her explanation was that I was just not fulfilling her as a person, she had lost her identity, and she was feeling disrespected and unappreciated. After that she also explained that due to some physical altercations we had in the past she felt unable to continue our marriage and wanted a divorce. For clarity the physical stuff was a brief period in our relationship over 4 years ago, I attended extensive counseling and therapy, and have not act in such a manner since. Obviously this does not forgive the actions, but I've done everything possible to change the man I am. She quickly moved out after this, we split our assets, and have not really spoken since then, only short little conversations that were painful for me. I made every attempt to try to rectify the situation, suggest therapy, suggest temporary separation, whatever she needed to work on our issues and move through this together, but she wasn't hearing it.\n\nNow out of the blue she contacts me and tells me that she doesn't believe her options were as narrow as she once believed. She tells me she still loves and cares about me and is unsure of what she wants now. I'm completely lost though because I've spent the last 2 months trying to move on and pick up the pieces of my life. How do i determine if I'm willing to work on things with her, or if this breach of trust is just too much to get past? I still love her and care deeply for her, but this whole situation completely destroyed me. I'm finally start to regain some stability and happiness in my life, and the risk of inviting all of that potential pain back is terrifying. I truly do not believe divorce is ever a great option and never wanted to get one. Now I just don't know what's going to be the best for me.\n\nHow do I make this decision?", "summary": "Wife left 2 months ago, now she wants to get together and talk. Not sure how I feel about the whole thing. Love her, but am badly hurt from her leaving me."}
{"id": "t3_xlbxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend/Roommate moving away with GF of 3 months I think it is a mistake how do I tell him?", "post": "So basically this guy has been my best friend since we were 10 (are now 25). He has had this GF since april and she hasn't left our apartment since they started dating. She officially moved in two weeks ago when her lease at her place was up. But, she is going to grad school at the end of the month and now he will probably move with her. \n\nI think it is a huge mistake, she has a ton of problems (needs like 3 serious surgeries), they haven't known each other that long, she is just overall everything that is annoying about LA girls all wrapped into one. Anyways, how can I tell him without seeming like a dick?", "summary": "Roomate/Bestfriend has new GF might move away with her...."}
{"id": "t3_3nv1iz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] gf [24 F] of 2 years refuses to attend my brother's wedding due to it not being kid-free", "post": "I have been going out with a girl I'll call Katie for 2 years. We are starting to think about marriage but we agree that we do not want kids. I personally do not want to care for kids myself but I don't begrudge other people for having them. Katie is much more of the stereotypical \"childfree\" person and will ask if events are kid-free before attending, will ask to leave if there are kids in a restaurant, etc.\n\nMy brother [33 M] has a young boy with his girlfriend [32 F] and they are getting married in the spring. Because they want to include their son in the service it's not a child-free wedding. When Katie and I got the invitation she noticed that there was no \"please don't bring kids\" disclaimer so she asked if it was a child-free wedding. I told her it wasn't and she stated pretty matter-of-factly that she would not attend. I told her that wasn't fair and that she should at least go for my sake because there is no way I won't go to my own brother's wedding. She said that she loved me and wanted to support me but that the \"really unfair thing is your brother expecting adults to attend a wedding with kids.\" \n\nWhat should I do here? I could always go without her but I'd really prefer to go with her. I get that the wedding will not meet her preferences but I feel like she should at least consider going for my sake. I also think it would be obviously unfair for me to ask my brother to make the wedding child free because their plans to include their son are totally their own prerogative and other couples with kids may have already RSVP'd.", "summary": "My brother didn't make his wedding child free, my gf refuses to attend but I think she should at least try to go with me. Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_hk6n9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Job offer might make my family move, what do you think reddit?", "post": "Background: I'm 16 and live in NJ, both my parents are doctors.  My dad currently works at a hospital in Long Island, which requires a daily commute of 2 hours each way.  My dad has been long hours for a while at this hospital in Long Island and the hours are killing him, and he's not making enough money to justify working there.  He is a pediatrician who specializes in intensive care.  My mom is a pediatrician who specializes in gastroenterology.  My mom currently can't find a job at a hospital near us.\n\nNow, my dad is looking at finding a job at a new hospital.  My parents received an offer from a hospital in Texas that would give them both jobs, and more than enough money to sustain the family, but we would need to sell our house in the current market, and my sister and I have lived in this area our whole lives and don't want to move away from our friends.  My parents have already interviewed, and the hospital will take them if they decide to move.\n\nMy dad has also interviewed at a hospital in New York.  This hospital would pay him less and my mom would not have a job there, but it would be enough to sustain us and we wouldn't have to move.  \n\nThe problem is that the hospital in NY hasn't yet given my parents a contract offer because they let another person interview before my father and she hasn't yet responded to them about the contract, and they do not want to offer my dad a contract because they want to be courteous to her.  Today, the hospital in Texas called and told us that because it's been so long (months) since my parents interviewed there and they have not yet replied with an answer, the hospital needs to know today if my parents want to move and work there.  The problem is that the NY hospital might not end up offering my dad a contract to work there, even though my entire family would prefer having my dad work there.\n\nMy parents have asked me for my input on the situation, and so I turn to you, reddit.  What should I tell them?", "summary": "Need to decide between moving to TX for a job or waiting for a job in NY"}
{"id": "t3_1rqjsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] don't know if my girlfriend [22 F] is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.", "post": "Hi, Internet Strangers,\n\nI've been with my current girlfriend for nearly two years now. I've very into science and technology while she is very arty. I don't really feel that we have so many common interests. \nIt can be frustrating when I notice something in the world, and she just can't see it; for example she couldn't explain to me what caused the Coriolis effect. I don't think that she's stupid at all, we both go to Cambridge. She just seems to lack common sense about the natural world.\n\nShe often feels that she is 'stupid' or 'unsuccessful'.\n\nOn the other hand, we are excellent at keeping each other company and both love each other very dearly. She is kind, generous and funny.\nI can't help but feel that this is near the minimum of what makes a great partner. Most people can be kind and keep one from feeling lonely.\n\nI've recently been offered a dream job in another country for after my degree and I'm worried that if we end this now I won't be able to find another companion like her before leaving.\n\nI'm becoming very sad about this. We've spoken a little on the topic of shared interests, but I don't think that she knows the full extent of my feelings. We discussed trying new things together, and listed a number of things that we have in common. I don't know if any number of new things can make her more curious about the universe.\n\nSorry if this was a little scatterbrained :/\n\nThanks, Internet Strangers.", "summary": "I'm in love with my girlfriend but I don't think that she's 'the one' (or one of the ones) because she isn't a scientist."}
{"id": "t3_10v6vl", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm a black male, and I just wanted to say something about racism.", "post": "I had a conversation with someone recently who said that they wouldn't refer to someone by the color of their skin, race, ethnicity or whatever. This mother did not know her daughter's friend was black for 2 years, simply because the daughter refused to mention it. I think that's bogus. \n\nBeing black, Asian, Indian, or anything else is a fact. It's more than likely the easiest way to single them out when referring to them in the third person. If in a room full of Chinese men, there was one female who was of German descent, it'd be so easy to either say, \"the woman\" or \"the white person\". It's much more efficient and frankly more honest and forthcoming.  By intentionally avoiding the obvious, it's actually slightly offensive in its own right. I quite like being black. I like the \"black culture\", I like the innate sense of unity I have with other black people. Don't sell me short because you think you're doing the right thing. \n\nRacism is having a dislike or disregard for someone based solely on race. Hate  all niggers and wetbacks? That's racist.  Acknowledge that someone has a different genetic make-up as a distinguishing feature? That's rational. \n\nThis post could probably be taken a million wrong ways, so I'll just say: if I said this to you in person how would you respond?", "summary": "racism isn't what some people think it is. "}
{"id": "t3_1b5d6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Internet relationship in danger of collapsing in a few hours, is there a way to save it? 22M 18F", "post": "I'll keep it as short as I can.\n\nI'm from the UK and she's in California. We met on [1] /r/BDSMpersonals and have been talking and \"playing\" for getting on for three months. She's coming to the UK as the first leg of a tour of Europe in early July and we agreed to take a few days to basically screw each other's brains out. Ultimately what I'm looking for is a long term relationship but I'm moving cities roughly at the same time she's coming here (phrasing, boom...) so I figured it would work out well.\n\nShe's said before that she 's not looking for any kind of commitment and, after an incident where we had to redefine our relationship, we seemed to be OK. I made the cut into the people she actually decided to stick with. I'm starting to come round to the idea of her being polyamourous (I'm really not) but some of her choices of partner definitely freak me out.\n\nFast forward to today and I get an email where she pretty much says that she's found exactly what she's looking for (roughly speaking it equates to a committed relationship) and wants to put things on hold between us sexually for as long as it takes her to get settled. She still wants to talk to me and still wants to see me in the summer but we can't \"play\" for this indeterminate period of time.\n\nIs there a way that this won't end up with me becoming her friendzoned friend who hears about all the people she's with (often in uncomfortable detail) based on a promise of sex in a few months based on a mutual attraction?\n\nI really like her and she really likes me but the more I learn about her life and the way she appears to treat people close to her, the more I wonder whether there's just no hope.\n\nObviously you are only hearing my side and it's coloured by how I feel right now but I'd appreciate any advice you may have.", "summary": "Girl found someone not 5k miles away but still wants to talk to me. Is there a way to save the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ueonh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 20f with a 21m for two years who has been taking steriods and has started being abusive", "post": "We've been together for two and a half years and the first year was okay not great but okay it was comfortable, there was no sweeping me off my feet and making me feel like the luckiest girl in the world but I thought that maybe this is the way it just is. We had a child early on in the relationship about a year in and while things got worse they didn't get really bad.\n\nRecently in the last six months he's been progressively more aggressive and just straight mean to me. He tells me in fat and I need to loose weight that I'm crazy (I do have bipolar but it's pretty much under control) and that I have no friends and without him I'd be nothing. He's made it so I'm totally financially reliant on him and any money I recieve he makes me take from my account the same day and give it to him. Recently on new years eve we were in another arguement because he went to a party instead of staying at home with me and our son when our son woke up crying. I tried to walk out of the room to calm my baby down and he threw me to the floor and punched me 7 or 8 times in the back and arm. Since then whenever I ask him to do anything around the house he shouts and screams at me and leaves the house. \n\nI'm pretty sure he's taking steriods he became friends with a riod-head lately and I saw on his messages that his friend was getting \"some stuff\" for him but when I ask him he flips and turns it onto me. \n\nI know I have to leave him but I'm not sure when, he's not going to go quietly when I ask him to leave. Money isn't too much of an issue as I live in the UK and I'll be starting work soon with enough money to support me and my son. I'm hoping other people will have experience with this type of situation and can give me advice, none of my family or friends know what is going on so it will be hard to lean on them", "summary": "boyfriend has become abusive and I believe might be taking steriods, I want to leave hi but unsure how"}
{"id": "t3_s3tw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I need your help!", "post": "This all started about 8 months ago when it became clear that a guy I work with and I were attracted to each other.  We have a crazy amount in common, and are very compatible in every way.\n\nHe had a long term girlfriend at the time, and well, things happened that shouldn't have between us.  However a few months ago he left her, not just for reasons related to me.\n\nEver since then, we have been hanging out and sleeping together.  We spend the weekends together and talk everyday.  He then told me that he wanted to be single for a year, but wanted to continue our 'casual' relationship.  Which really only meant that we could continue being as close as we were but that he wasn't committed.\n\nI tried to do this for a while, but it became complicated when I fell in love with him.  We seem to forever be in this struggle about wanting to be friends and in each other's lives, and, reconciling the fact that whilst we are incredibly attracted to each other that this makes that difficult.  Ultimately, he doesn't want to *just* be friends, and it is difficult for me to be friends with benefits, or whatever you want to label it, because of how I feel.  \n\nI know that he cares about me, but I have difficulty reconciling what he says, with what he does when he is with me.", "summary": "I really love this guy, and I want to find a way for us to be in each other's lives.  But I'm not sure if I am being naive and deluding myself that he really cares about me, but just can't commit because he has come out of a long term relationship.  "}
{"id": "t3_47h4wp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] GF [24 F] of 5 months acts like a total ditz around my friends/coworkers, but no one else.", "post": "Throwaway, not that it really matters.\n\nWe have been dating for a short time, but I really like her and enjoy spending time with her. Except when we're with my friends and/or coworkers. Whether it is big groups or just double dates, the minute we are around other people she starts asking stupid questions, pretending (at least I think so) like she doesn't understand something somewhat simple, or doing a weird \"oh I'm so useless at *cooking, driving, directions, etc.*!\" schtick.  \n\nShe is smart and funny, but she is very shy and not very talkative. She's the opposite of me, and she has only one close friend (whom she doesn't act like this around), but that doesn't bother me. I think she just gets anxiety or something, because she has mentioned before that she feels boring around other people/couples. Is this a coping thing? I mean, I am pretty sure it is, but should I say anything? It's kind of embarrassing since I know this isn't the real her, but do I wait and see if she gets over it? I want it to stop, but I have no interest in making her feel bad and become even more anxious/self-conscious.", "summary": "GF is smart and shy, and around other people she puts on a helpless baby act. Do I ask her to stop, and risk her becoming even more shy?"}
{"id": "t3_3r3k2q", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Ex has moved on - Why do I feel so depressed?", "post": "Its been a year. We were really good friends for months before we dated, and we dated for nearly two years. Our relationship was a good one until she got a little too clingy, and started suffocating me from my friends. I broke up with her because I had just gotten so miserable it felt like a chore to see her.\n\nWe had a clean break, but still remained good friends since. Now I found out she has a new boyfriend. I know I shouldn't care and should be happy for her, but I can't help but feel sad and upset about it. Is this normal? What should I do to stop feeling this way?", "summary": "Ex and I are still friends but I am upset that she has a new boyfriend. What do I do to stop being sad?"}
{"id": "t3_21xve3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am worried about my girlfriend [22M] and her Mother.", "post": "When away from her Mother my girlfriend is funny, quirky, nice, affectionate, and calm. When we go out to eat with her Mother she is nervous (sweaty palms, stuttering), shy, reserved, and quiet. If you knew my girlfriend you'd know that she is nothing like this and I would really like to continue being with her but I don't know if this is some sort of red flag or something. \n\nWe've been together 8 months and I'd like to ask her to move in during the summer but I don't want to take any big steps if there's a chance she'd one day act like this with me. I've tried to ask her if something was wrong between the two of them but she just laughs and says no. I know I can't be the problem because her Mother is the one who set us up! (She was my college professor, she introduced us one day) \n\nHer Mom raised her all by herself, and did one heck of a good job. From the outside my girlfriend and her Mom appear to have a good relationship, but after spending time with the two of them I can sense some bad blood. I would just like some help as to how I should handle or help in this situation. I don't know if she acts like this because that's how she really is, or she's just nervous!", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3yh2yo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F/28 The most confusing relationship I've ever been in, why is my he doing this? M/30", "post": "I've just started seeing this guy and we've been going out for about a month but I simply can't understand why he acts the way he does and what his motivation is. He lives about an hour away right now so we only see each other once or twice a week. He can be really sweet and kind to me one day and then completely indifferent and cold another day. He has told me many times while we were drinking that he doesn't think we will last and he always breaks girls hearts. Then he will hold me and say nice things. He also tries to make me jealous.  We went to a Christmas party together and he said he wanted me by his side all night and he gave me a really nice Christmas card that said he can't wait to see where our relationship leads. Then after about an hour he went and flirted with girls at the party talking loudly about how hot they were and I didn't see him for the rest of the night because he spent it surrounded by girls. I tried to tell him it makes me uncomfortable but he just says that's what he does. He also says he never gets jealous himself but the few times I have mentioned guys from work I can tell he is uncomfortable even though he tries to hide it and sometimes he will bring up what I said later. I've never encountered anything like this. What's going on?", "summary": "new relationship, guy claims he will break my heart and purposely makes me jealous but acts sweet and romantic"}
{"id": "t3_200r4i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my ex-boyfriend[22/M] have been dating a year, recently broke up but I'm confused and not sure what to do", "post": "I've known my now ex boyfriend for over 10 years (since high school). We used to be best friends, and then I got married, moved out of the country and we stopped talking because my husband at the time didn't like him, so my friend decided it was best to leave it alone since I was happy.\n\nI recently came back home when my dad got sick, and found out I was getting divorced. He was there for me, like the best friend he was, like nothing had ever changed. We started dating unexpectedly and were for about a year. I recently got accepted to another college, about 45 minutes away. \n\nI thought we should break up because I wasn't sure if I could handle a relationship with school and work and I was worried about not seeing each other and one of us cheating and everything else awful. We broke up, but it's still like we never broke up. Only a few people know, but we still spend the night with each other. We talk all day, everyday. Hang out, eat, play video games etc. \n\nI've tried just not talking and cutting all ties, but I love him and I can't. It literally hurts if we don't talk. I could honestly see myself marrying him with kids one day. I'm not one to be open about feelings, but he's the person I know I can count on, day or night no matter what. We technically broke up, but everything is the same, except we're friends, and I ask him to not call me \"honey\" or \"babe\" or be affectionate. \n\nI asked about friends with benefits, but it doesn't seem like it at all. I don't know if I should say yes we're back together, since it already seems it, or if I just need to keep it and slowly separate.", "summary": "We were best friends. Then dated. Best thing that I've ever had, broke up with him, and I'm not sure if it's right or not. My heart says one thing and my head says another."}
{"id": "t3_3ox3i7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my bag at the gym.", "post": "So bit of context, I'm a high school student living on an American military base. Anyways, I was volunteering for a local breast cancer run with some friends and the local youth keystone club. I had just come from school so I was still carrying my bag (it's an all black Timbuktu satchel). I set it down against a concert parking divider in front of the gym because we were all hanging out waiting for the run to start. Well it started and we all headed off together and about a minute into the run I realized I had left my bag back at the gym. Well, the base is pretty small and a nice community plus the bag was in front of the stands and by the gym door so I figured no one would steal it and decided to just leave it till the end of the run. Well, thing is, I forgot that military bases were kind of like airports in that you can't just leave unattended baggage lying around, especially in front of a highly populated and heavily trafficked area. My friends and I basically came back to find out that the gym was evacuated and I effectively shut down the run's reception for a few minutes before our youth coordinator (who stayed back during the run) saw it was my bag. So I got to have a little chat with the local host security and local base security and filled out some papers detailing the incident with my coordinator as my sponsor because my parents weren't present. Now I feel like I'm never going to be able to face her again and just want to curl up like a spider in a corner.", "summary": "I left my bag in front of a base gym while on a breast cancer run and got it called in as a bomb threat, evacuating the gym and shutting down the run for a bit. Our local youth coordinator had to effectively bail me out"}
{"id": "t3_1wkywh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 3 years, so confused on what to do", "post": "Hey everyone\n\nSo me and my girlfriend met in high school and have been together for around 3 years now, the first 2 years were full of ups and downs with 2 breakups in between, both caused by the same issue which i'll get too soon. So fast forward to now, we moved together have been living together for 6 months and our relationship has been perfect lately, the problem is I feel like our relationship makes me too comfortable/complacent/stuck for a 21 year old. We both love the same stuff, eating healthy, staying in shape, spirituality, and most of the time have a good time together but a lot of times ill be in a good mood and she will say or do something that kills my mood when I just want to be happy all the time. I feel like I'm just coasting through life in this relationship because I can't find the motivation to work hard when she comes home from work and I'm busy doing my own thing she doesn't stop me but I get this feeling inside that makes me rather go and hangout with her instead of completing things that will benefit my future. Sorry this is kind of scattered but basically my problem is that I really just want to have mental freedom not tied down by having someone else around all the time but at the same time I love her and we do have a good relationship which I can see a future with, I just don't want to look back and see myself coasting through life when I could be single and free and conquering my goals. I hope that made some sense.", "summary": "3 years dating, good relationship, but feeling like I need freedom"}
{"id": "t3_3y364u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me f (21) with my boyfriend m (23) what is the best way to have a serious conversation", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for three years now he is my everything we have our fights but get along so well. I recently got a job that I love it doesn't pay the absolute best, I've been there since late august and their is already talk about a promotion and I've already received a raise. I am currently in college but if I were to decide to stop this job could open many different doors in the healthcare field I just have to work\nmy way there. With this being said we are planning on moving out within the year of 2016. he is hoping to get a better job before we make that leap and I fully support him with that. I know we are both still really young but I would really feel a lot better about moving out if he were to fully commit to me. I want to be engaged within the next year or two I would like to have a long engagement so we can establish ourselves and have a wedding we both want that doesn't leave us heavily in debt. I just don't know how to bring this up. I don't want to overwhelm him especially if he doesn't feel the same way. Any advice is welcome and appreciated.", "summary": "wanting to have a serious conversation with my boyfriend about a timeline and getting engaged but don't want to overwhelm"}
{"id": "t3_41mkpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M]girlfriend [18F] is asking me to change myself", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for just over 2 months now. Things have been going amazingly until tonight. Tonight, we got on the topic of my choice of clothing, for whatever reason. Now, I have to explain, I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy. Always have been, probably always will be.\n\nShe wasn't rude, or trying to insult me. But she made comments like \"You'll change\" and \"That's what you think now\" when I showed distaste towards expensive clothing brands (American Eagle, Abercrombie etc)which made me feel a little uncomfortable.\n\nI tried to explain that I don't just change that easily and she brushed it off with the \"it's fine\" line multiple times. I could tell it bothered her the rest of the night but I figured I could only make it worse at that point.\n\nSo I've concluded that I'm not changing, because it would be a big lie, but I don't know how to go about telling her that without being a dick. And that's where I really need you Reddit. Any and all help appreciated.", "summary": "Girl I've been seeing wants me to buy expensive clothes , don't know how to tell her no without being a dick."}
{"id": "t3_gwlzi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Falling for my friend/ex", "post": "Hey RA,\n\nI don't want to give too much backstory but I'll provide a few details. I dated one of my best friends for a couple of months but we broke up a while ago. It was a clean split, but she contacted me and wanted to be friends again. I agreed.\n\nSince then, we have hung out a couple of times. After we hung out once, she texted me telling me that she was starting to crush on me again. I was feeling the same way and told her so. She told me she didn't want to do anything yet because she didn't want me to be a rebound and get hurt (she was involved with someone else prior to this).\n\nFast forward two weeks and we hang out again. I was getting mixed signals from her so I didn't bring it up... and I don't know if I should.\n\nI'm not sure if she still has feelings for me, and I don't want to risk ruining the friendship by making a move if she doesn't. So I come to you for advice RA, what should I do? Do I talk to her about it? Do I make a move the next time we hang out?", "summary": "Falling for an ex/friend (yeah, I know you're supposed to cut contact). She told me she had feelings for me but didn't want to act on them. Its now been two weeks and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_42t4u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 4 months, I don't want things to slowly slip so I'm not happy", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he is the first boy I have let my family meet.\n\nWe're getting on well and things are great, but he often does things that I find myself having to let slide, but I know full well I wouldn't be able to put with things like that long time without them becoming annoying.\n\nIt's only silly little things a lot of the time, like when I'm driving he always has to decide what we listen to, if not he gets in a VERY bad mood, which I really don't get, where's the compromise!!\n\nI was just wondering, if these things are normal, or am I already in a relationship that isn't going down the right track?\n\nI feel really happy and can see myself being with this boy forever", "summary": "Is it normal to be annoyed with the little things your boyfriend does 4 months into the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_28ms6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18M) and I (19M) have been drifting apart after 2 years of dating, talking about becoming just friends?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend of 2 years have been drifting apart for a while. At times, we both feel like best friends more than partners. We haven't had sex for a while because she had to go into hospital, but also before that, she never really wanted to. It's odd because we used to be such a sexual couple, but now we just don't do it. \n\nThe problem I have is that I don't know if I can be 'just friends' with this girl. Thinking about it, I could see it working - we were great friends before we started going out, but I'm worried that it'll drive us further apart and I would lose her as not only my girlfriend, but my best friend. It's such a tricky situation.\n\nHas anybody else been through something like this? Were you able to stay as friends?", "summary": "Me and girlfriend feel like friends more than partners, would it work if we just stayed friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1v54qk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to not feel hurt by my[29/f] busy boyfriends [26/m] schedule?", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now and things are good, he is very sweet and loving towards me and we have incredible sex, it's lovely. We have talked about where our relationship is headed and are on the same page about that, but lately I'm feeling really frustrated and unsure about us because of his schedule. He is a musician in 2 bands currently and for both bands he does all the producing, social media, etc associated with it. I know music is his first passion in life and that's a big part of what I love about him, and I don't want him to give it up. But because of this, we see each other twice a week, always on the same days like an appointment, we only spend one night together each week and don't talk at all in between. He expressed to me that this probably won't change. We have never really had any kind of texting relationship from the beginning, and I thought it would change as our relationship got more serious, but I was wrong. He doesn't think not talking between our\"dates\" is a big deal because he is always so busy that the days kind just fly by for him. He has started to try to talk to me more through the week because I have expressed that it would make me feel more connected,  but it's forced small talk and I know he doesn't enjoy it, so I don't enjoy it either. I don't know what else to do, or to ask for, he wants to make me feel happy and secure but I don't know what will help at this point.\n\nHas anyone else had any experience with this type of situation? I love him deeply and want to make it work but I just can't stop feeling like I'm a side project, and I'm not happy with that.", "summary": "boyfriend is busy with his bands and the time he has for me isn't satisfying my needs, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_41wz7c", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Concave lower ribs on left side causing perpetual pain", "post": "Me: 28, M, 6'6\", 185, \n\nlifetime complaint has had more severe acute symptomology.\n\nLocation: concave lower left ribs. \n\nPossible relavent medical issues: rib cage tenderness, chronic R neck and shoulder pain, L tibia break, L radius fracture (both basketball, separate incidents), pain and discomfort breathing, anger and disassociation with the feeling of being in my body.\n\nTo clarify, the 4-5 lowest ribs on my left side are deformed in a concave shape on the lateral side. Instead of a normal C curve of the ribs, there is additional C curve (more of a V) pointing back inside my body, creating a pocket in my ribs.\n\nThis is something I've always been self conscious of, and the area is tender to the touch. However, I believe that this has created an imbalance in structural weakness on the left side. My breathing and posture is affected in a pathological and unending manner, do a degree that I wasn't aware of til recently.\n\nI have been meditating and realized that my left ribs are also causing cascading pain patterns around the spine on the right side, primarily from T 8 to C 0, at a pain level of 2-5 at all times.\n\nI am wondering if I am a candidate for surgery, or if there is anything that I can do to structurally support that area so that the left side of my body can become strong again. I am in a lot of pain and feel fragile and uncomfortable in my body. I also have depression which may partly come from learned disassociation from my body.\n\nI am going to a Osteopath next Wednesday, and any ideas that anyone has would be appreciated. I'd also like to ask them some of the right questions and make sure I'm providing any information I can go help them. Thank you!\n\nIt is difficult to see what is going on in a picture, but if it is difficult to visualize I can provide a visual aid.", "summary": "Ribs stick inward on left side, feel out of balance, weak, in pain. Going to Osteopath next week but need guidance."}
{"id": "t3_4pt8ae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my best friend [18 F] 2 years, My best friend has trouble feeling close to people and feels our relationship is doomed", "post": "I'm a guy that was in love with his best friend. WAS is the key word here. There was a moment where I thought I wanted something more with her and I got all messed up in the head. It took me a few difficult days to realize it but I eventually came to the conclusion that I only wanted her in my life as a best friend that would get me through the hard times.\n\nMy best friend is a girl who has real trouble accessing her feelings. She's had relationships that ended because of her emotional distance, and said distance sometimes makes her do things that aren't the greatest. She has a bit of a negative reputation and is planning on recreating herself when she moves away for college.\n\nThe problem is, I'm the type of guy who is deeply in touch with his feelings. I'd labor for days over the right thing to say and am deeply aware when things are wrong. I care so much about my best friend, who hates herself for the things she's done and resents the fact that she doesn't care about me nearly as much. She feels guilty that I care so much about her, and often reminds me that she can't reciprocate any emotion.\n\nShe keeps trying to push me away because of how much I care. She thinks all she'll do is hurt me and that I should give up on her. For me though, she is just misunderstood and confused, and if I leave like everyone else, I'm only reinforcing the negative attitude she has about herself.\n\nRight now, as hard as it is for me, I'm giving her space in order to figure herself out. We've done this before, but it always ends up with her pretending that everything is okay when I know things are not.\n\nI want things to go back the way they were before I pushed her away by admitting how much I care about her, but she does not want to talk about it any more. I'm afraid I'll have to pretend that everything between us is okay until the end of summer, and then she'll drop me for good and I'll never see her again.", "summary": "My best friend has trouble accessing her feelings and resents me for caring so much about her. She's pushing me away and if she succeeds I'll be devastated."}
{"id": "t3_3mnzg9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting a girl hug me while I was sick", "post": "Yes, yes. This didn't happen today. Moving on.\n\nI had a major cold, but I still decided to go to high school. I spent most of the day at the teachers desk, blowing my brains out onto a tissue. It was so bad that my eyes started watering in band class. While I was sitting down, one of my lady friends came up to me and asked if I was okay. I said that I was, just had a cold. She gave the typical, \"Awwww, I'm sorry,\" as she would usually do. She reached her arms out for a hug. I just went along with it since I didn't want to hurt her feelings. However, since I was sitting and she was standing, her breasts muffled my face. She began squeezing tightly while I was struggling to breathe. Then, I felt a sneeze coming on. A big one. I tried grabbing her shoulders and pushing away, but it came to early. I then proceded to let out a crap-ton of snot right onto her shirt. She pushed away and looked in horror. I was in shock, so all I was able to do was mutter, \"I'm so, so sorry...\" We both made a mad dash to the bathrooms and cleaned up. I have never felt so guilty when she went on through the rest of the day with a soggy, wet, slightly stained bosom.", "summary": "I sneezed directly into a teenager's boobs."}
{"id": "t3_1ev1fs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help me help my dad lose weight?", "post": "Hey loseit! I need a little perspective from some of you amazing people who have found the motivation to get healthy!\n\nMy father is in his fifties, quite overweight and has developed sleep apnea, and a stress/boredom eater. He goes to the gym two or three times a week to lift weights, but most of his trouble is in his diet. I think his weight issues are also conflated with boredom at work and dissatisfaction in his marriage. His wife can really harp on him cruelly about his eating habits, so I want to be rational and kind about an already sensitive subject.\n\nThis summer I'm back home from school, and I really want to try to make him more conscious of what he eats, but I don't know if having a serious conversation will do it, or if I should just subversively try to clean up the quality of food in the pantry and in our meals, dump nutrition information on him, or...? \n\nWhat was the tipping point for you, and what could/did your family do to get you there or support you? What was insulting, upsetting, or discouraging? I'm a little worried that there isn't anything I can do at all, that maybe to lose weight there really has to be some internal drive I can't create. I love my dad very much and I want him to be around for a while, and I think he would be so much happier if he had more energy and more ways to cope with life than snacking.", "summary": "Father is unhealthily heavy, what can I do (tactfully, effectively) to get him on track to losing weight?"}
{"id": "t3_23qvlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Short)Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] 1 month let my insecurities get the best of me tonight, can I make it recover.", "post": "We have been dating 3 weeks and exclusive for 1 week, things have moved extremely fast because of how much I like her and I completely fucked up tonight. Me and My girlfriend were in one of our classes and she asked to see my phone and I refused because I ha stuff on there from when I was single and I told her this. I was just being honest and that was my first fuck up of the night. She was obviously hurt and wouldn't talk to me but eventually things got back to normal onece we got home but she had been texting her friend about it.\n\nWhen she left the room my insecurities got the best of me and I looked at the convo between her and her friend, she caught me and was extremely pissed. She said I betrayed her trust and I know I did. She went home mad and I explained to her how much I like her and that's why I let my curiosity get the best of me. I sent her a text about an hour ago saying \" I was really having a great time tonight and until I fucked it up with my comment and my actions afterwards. I'm really sorry and I hope we can move past this\". She has not responded.\n\nIs there anything else I can or should do? I know I fucked up and I feel like a huge pile of shit now.", "summary": "I fucked up with my GF because I'm a stupid ass who's to insecure."}
{"id": "t3_fhq46", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do so many of us idealize democracy?", "post": "Democracy is suposed to be the solution to any troubled country.  Governments have convinced their nations to go to war under the guise of spreading democracy. The government succeeded because the idea that freedom is incredibly important has been drilled into their heads since birth.\n\nThe whole concept of democracy is flawed in my opinion. It's based around the idea that whatever is most popular is right, which is in fact a logical fallacy ([Argumentum_ad_populum]  We all thought that the government should legalize cannabis but they refused, and there was finally a chance for the citizens of California to show their power.  They voted against it.  Anyone intelligent can see that those who voted against it were wrong.  \n\nThe average person is very stupid. ~90% of people are religious  I find that incredibly scary.  90% of us are unable to realise that there isn't enough evidence to warrant being religious. The most intelligent people should be in charge.  I mean, those who are truly gifted (with IQs of over 175).  America voted in a person who struggled to string a sentence together... *twice*.\n\nIn school, did you protest about your headmaster/principal not being voted in? Nope.  Because the system works.  On reddit, are you upset about moderators not being voted in?  Nope, and I bet it never even crossed your mind because the system works. I believe that government is a system which can work with a leader who has not been voted in - and so should you.  Look at china.  Its economy is growing very rapidly.\n\nThe leaders of any system should always be the most intelligent member of that group.  Very intelligent people often struggle with winning people over (often because people feel intimidated by people more intelligent than them hence voting in george w. bush). Those best at making the decisions (the most intelligent) should have the responsibility of making the most important decisions. Democracy will never result in any genius leadding a country.  I would be happy living in a dictatorship if I believed that those in charged were doing a better job than anyone else could.", "summary": "Those best at making decisions (smartest people) should be in charge and the idea that something is correct because the majority want it is a known logical fallacy (Argumentum ad populum)."}
{"id": "t3_4z40ff", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(AUS) How should I invest $160k", "post": "Here goes:\nI'm about to inherit $140 thousand, and I have another $25 thousand in savings. I also have about $50 thousand in student debt, but this is very low interest because Australia. \n\nShould I buy an investment property? \nI can get a shitty apartment and the income can go straight into savings. \n...or I could get a nicer property with a small mortgage and rental income would *theoretically * let me pay it off pretty quick. \n\nI'm about to start a PhD so I'll have very minimal income for the next ~4 years.\n\nI'm also open to, but unfamiliar with other forms of investment.", "summary": "no idea what to do with $160,000"}
{"id": "t3_1cz7jn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "It's kind of a bad time for me [19/m] to tell a girl [19/f] that I'm interested in her, but I'm afraid this is my only opportunity. What should I do?", "post": "I met this girl two or three weeks ago, and we've been talking and exchanged numbers to collaborate on a paper. We're also together with three other people for a group project due Friday. I'm interested in her and I want to ask her out for coffee or something. I would wait to ask so I could see if things developed a but more, but next Friday is our least day of finals, and we'll be in separate states over the summer. \n\nI was thinking maybe I could invite her to hang out or something. Depending on how that went I could tell her I'm interested, but I know that it's not a great time to start a relationship. If she's interested in me, we could stay in contact over the summer and see where we are at the beginning of next semester. \n\nI really don't want to miss my opportunity because I'm guessing our relationship would deteriorate over the summer otherwise. Should I go for it, and if it doesn't work out I won't have to see her because it will be summer soon, or should I just leave it alone? To be honest I've never had a girlfriend, so I have no idea what to do here. Is there some etiquette for this kind of situation?", "summary": "There's only a week and a half left of school, and we'll be in different states over the summer, but I want to tell a girl (who I've known for 2-3 weeks) that I'm interested. Should I tell her, and depending on what she says we can stay in contact over the summer and see where that takes us, or just leave it alone?"}
{"id": "t3_hse0z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ticket scalping is illegal. Why is it bad though?", "post": "I fail to see why ticket scalping is immoral, when it seems to be precisely the application of capitalistic markets onto the entertainment industry. I just don't see who is losing here.  \n  \n\nFrom the point of view of the ticket seller (NHL, NFL, Elton John, etc..), they get more tickets sold. By scalpers buying a large number of tickets without knowing if they'll sell, the seller is just getting more tickets sold while the scalpers take on the risk of whether or not they will actually sell. If they don't sell, the seller still makes their money.  \n  \n\nFrom the point of view of the scalper, this is just like any other investment, not dissimilar to real estate, stocks, etc. If they see ticket prices, and think they can sell the tickets for more, then they're in luck. If not, they'll have to lower the prices below what they paid for and take a loss, or possibly not sell them at all.    \n  \n\nFrom the point of view of the buyer(Joe Plumber and his wife and kids),  I think that sometimes they will have to pay more, sometimes they'll have to pay less, but whatever happens, they'll be paying a realistic market value for tickets, not just some random number the seller was asking for them. If you really want to get tickets for a big event, where there's huge demand for tickets, you can reach deep into your wallet if you want it that bad, thanks to scalpers. Without scalpers, it just comes down to first come first serve for the tickets.", "summary": "Say what you will about my arguments for scalpers, but when it comes down to it, we live in a capitalist society, but in this one industry, we are forbidden to apply our capitalist principles. Why do we all agree that in other industries, such as electronics, furniture, etc, middlemen/distributers are legal and moral, but when it comes to entertainment tickets, they are wrong and illegal?"}
{"id": "t3_1i6wkb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [23/f] being selfish??? Or is he [25/m] asking too much???", "post": "My bf and I have been together about 5 years. To make a long story short, he and I have a very unbalanced sexual relationship. Since day one, I was uncomfortable with incorporating it as a \"priority\" in our relationship. (That's how he describes his need for it.) I was actually celibate and planned to stay so until I married. He told me sex was important, so I gave in to make him happy. After all this time, we still can't seem to agree on the frequency or boundaries. \nAbout a year ago, we moved out of state for me to go to school. He wasn't exactly thrilled about the idea, but he wanted to move out of town anyway and figured that he could take a couple of years in a place that he didn't care for as long as we didn't stay there after I graduated. So, school fell through because of financial aid issues and I ended up going online. But because we signed a lease, we had to stay in the new city. I want to move back home now that our lease is up but he doesn't. He says that moving back is a big sacrifice for him, an even bigger sacrifice then moving to the new city in the first place and that he expects some sign of commitment from me sexually. He wants me to just say \"yes\" to everything he asks and no more than two days to pass without sex. (We never agree on anything sexually, so this would be a huge challenge for me.)\nHe thinks I'm being selfish. I think I'm trying not to set us up for failure by agreeing to something so open-ended. I feel as though our sex life, since we disagree so much, should be somewhat of a compromise. (I push myself to please him more and he backs off a little.)\nIf it were up to me, we wouldn't be having sex at all. But I do understand it's important to him. But he says my \"want\" to not have sex is not a real want and therefore, doesn't count. Meaning that a compromise cannot be made. So, it's either I agree to this or he doesn't move with me.\n\nAm I being too selfish??? Or is he being a little demanding???", "summary": "My boyfriend reluctantly moved to a new city with me for school. I didn't get in and want to move back home. He feels I owe him an unlimited sex pass (a huge sacrifice for me) because moving back is such a huge sacrifice for him."}
{"id": "t3_jafl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend, mind-altering substances, worry. Advice?", "post": "Okay, ladies and gents, it's time for round two. I posted [here] a while back and got some good advice, so I figured I'd try to milk you of your sagacious nectar once more.\n\nTo recap: Me: 21 Him: 23. Both male. Been together for a little over two months now, give or take. Maybe closer to three, depending on how you look at it. Anyway. \n\nHe's at a party tonight with some friends. His description of said party was, \"Good music, entertaining ppl, and mind altering substances.\" So far I'm aware of pot and pills taking place, and inevitably alcohol as well. \n\nNow, I don't have an issue with mind-altering substances in and of themselves. I smoke pot on occasion, I drink, and I will admit to maybe having taken a bit more than my dose of loritab when I had surgery a few months ago just to see what it was like. But I have had experiences with significant others getting fucked up and doing stupid things that ended up destroying my trust. He is aware of this fact.\n\nIn light of that, I sent him a text saying, \"Just lemme hear from you on occasion, if you don't mind. And please, don't get super-fucked up and do something stupid. Not that I think you would, it's just that mind-altering substances are... well, mind-altering.\" After no reply for 20 minutes (he had been responding immediately beforehand) I send him, \"Okay, well have fun,\" to which he immediately replies, \"kk nomnom chinese.\" \n\nI feel like he's avoiding the subject, for one, and doesn't seem to be taking my request seriously at all, for two. Am I in the wrong to let this bother me? If not, how should I approach him with it? I don't want him to think that I'm telling him, \"No, you can't do these things that you like to do,\" but at the same time I want him to understand that this is something that matters to me. Help?", "summary": "Boyfriend is at a party with people I don't know and lots of mind-altering substances. I ask him to not get too fucked up and do something he'll regret, he avoids the request. Your thoughts, please."}
{"id": "t3_28s10n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I be worried that my boyfriend (24M)'s ex is the opposite of me (20F) in so many ways?", "post": "We are different in every way possible and I can't help but feel confused and a little insecure because of this. I know that he loved her and she broke up with him. I worry that we might not be right together if this is the kind of person/lifestyle he is typically attracted to/used to.\n\nDifferences:\nPhysically, here are some pretty accurate images I found online that show how different our style and body types are.\n\n[her](\n--> She is about 15 pounds heavier than the girl in this photo\n\n[me](\n\nShe also has several tattoos, which I am lacking. \n\nIntellectually, I am in college working towards 2 degrees and hope to enter professional school soon after, \nI am not sure if she graduated high school, but she has no higher education than that and does not plan to pursue it.\n\nIn terms of interests, I love reading, poetry, writing, volunteering and the outdoors. \nShe likes to party/rave, drink, smoke weed, etc. I know she must have more diverse interests than this, but these are the strong contrasting examples that stick out to me.\n\nIf this is not something to be worried about, how can I learn to stop obsessing over these differences all of the time, because I'm driving myself up a wall here! Thanks!", "summary": "boyfriend's girlfriend is the opposite of me, how do I deal?"}
{"id": "t3_1gdciw", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex just commented on a post on my wall, haven't talked in 2 months", "post": "My Ex and I have not been on good terms before the school year ended. We tried to be friends but a few weeks after she abruptly decided to hate my guts (mind you she broke up with me). I tried asking what she was mad about and she just got more mad so I stop contact all together, we didn't delete each other on fb but I made it so I wouldn't see her on chat and wouldn't see her posts in my feed, so basically as close to blocking as I could.\n\nNow she randomly comments on one of my posts (remember, 2 months no contact at all), I am a bit confused and I feel I'm over thinking it but I don't know how to react to this. The fact that she would even post on my wall means something? If I don't post do I look like an asshole? If I do am a just getting myself in for it? I feel that I still do have feelings for her but that's probably because I am still trying to move on a.k.a. find someone else.", "summary": "no contact for 2 months, randomly comments on a post on my fb, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_gpja6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have I been friendzoned?", "post": "I'm 22 and I've known this girl for a couple of years now. Normally I just saw her at parties on the weekends and never really talked to her much during the week. Recently I moved back to my home town and started seeing her during party time during the weekends again, I asked her if she wanted to get coffee/dinner sometime and she responded \"only as friends\". She then got really worried I was mad at her, which of course I wasn't. I invited her to my house that weekend with some other friends and assumed everything would go back to normal. Only now I talk to her all the time. I can't go a day without her texting me about something or facebooking me something. I've been invited out with her and her married friend several times now. I'm not sure if I've been friendzoned here and I'm now the quintessential guy friend or if theres something else going on.", "summary": "Barely talked to a girl, asked her out, got shot down, now she talks to me daily."}
{"id": "t3_339gn6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/M] My Wife (Separated) [24/F] is on vacation with another man popping mollys", "post": "So, My wife and I split about 8 months ago. I decided to move to another state about 1k miles away. We have 2 kids [4/F,2/M] and we agreed that they would stay with her. Well, They have been with me for about 3 months now and I am barley making ends meet due to the whole starting a new life thing. I don't think i will make it another month. I am really struggling financially, emotionally and physically.\n\n I've known she was planning a Vegas trip with a co-worker but I didn't not realize she was planning on doing Molly's with him.. While we have been together we never did or wanted to do any drugs, so this is completely out of her character. I am hurting because i know what mollys are and read that its one of the best drugs to have sex with. I am at a loss, I've tried to date and ive been with multiple people but I cant get over her... I send her good morning texts every morning and still tell her i love her. She no longer says she loves me, just replies with \"lol, bye\".. I'm surrounded by happy people but I feel alone.", "summary": "Wife of 5 years split up with me, but I cant get over her. Now she is doing drugs with a bouncer at her work on vacation. Should I keep pursuing a one sided relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2hiusy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New job but change in expected degree. Do I tell my employer?", "post": "Hey PF\n \n\nThis may not be a true PF issue but I think that the answers\nI get here will be better than elsewhere.  \n\nI'm writing this on behalf of my girlfriend M.\n\nSo M was in a PhD program and lost funding about 1 year ago.\nShe began to look for full time work because she was done with her coursework\nand just needed to work on her dissertation. She applied to hundreds of\ncompanies and had many interviews but nothing seemed to pan out. Over time\nsomething changed at her PhD program. I won't get into the details but she is\nno longer in the program and is not on track to get her PhD. Keep in mind that\nwhile she interviewed she was on track to get a PhD. She has continued to job\nsearch.\n\nNow, many months later, one of the positions she interviewed\nfor has called her and offered her a job. They asked her to start in 1 week and\nshe has. She is finishing her first full week today and the job seems like a\ngood fit. \n\nNow here is the problem: The job position is a state job and\ndid NOT require a PhD in the description. Yet she has noticed that basically everyone\nthere has a PhD or is working on a PhD. In addition they have been pretty vocal\nwith her saying things like, \"It doesn't matter what you get your PhD in, all\nthat matters is that you have those three letters.\" They went out for drinks\nThursday night and it came out that her supervisor said something along the\nlines of: \"We hired you because we knew you are getting a PhD.\"\n\nShould she tell them that she is no longer working on her degree and left with a masters?", "summary": "GF was working on PhD. Interviews for a job never"}
{"id": "t3_40k9wj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I afford to drive right now? GTA,Ontario,CA", "post": "So I'm going to start by saying I haven't been the luckiest/brightest person on the road but I want to figure out if I can dig myself out of my driving history hole. Im reaching out for advise and a realistic understanding of what I would be looking at to stay on the road. Here is a short history of my screw ups. \n\nJune 2008 - Careless Driving- Rear End- conviction w. 6 demerit points (at fault); \nDec 2008 - Improper lane change -Accident- no conviction (at fault); \nJuly 2009 - Got hit by a truck (not at fault); \nFeb 2014 - DUI stayed to Careless Driving - No Accident - Conviction w. 6 demerit points\n\nThe last occurrence is where I am left most confused. I know I get my demerit points back Feb.2016. But how long is this charge now going to stay visible on my record, 3yrs (no accident) or 6yrs? for insurance companies. How badly am I screwed? What dates should I keep a look out for? How much am I looking at for insurance? Any insurance company suggestions?", "summary": "I screwed up. HELP!!"}
{"id": "t3_zpsq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm concerned about my future and I'd like anonymous input!", "post": "I'm a 23/f and my boyfriend is a 27/m. We've been together for 7 years and we've talked about the future, as well as marriage a few times. I've heard people talk about the 7th year is the hardest, which could be a silly superstition, but we've been having brawl out fights for the past couple of months which have resulted in terrible things being said between us such as: \"I'll never marry you\", \"I can't stand you\", \"We aren't meant for each other\", etc. Basically just horrible things in the heat of the argument. He always apologizes, but it still damages my feelings dramatically because then I start to analyze our whole relationship. I'm not sure he'll ever marry me or give me the romance I crave.", "summary": "I (23f) feel like my boyfriend (27m) won't commit (7 year relationship) to a definite future and it worries me that he says horrendous things in the heat of an argument. Should I worry and does it seem like I should move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3mouhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/f] living with a guy [27/m] (non romantic). I had a party while he was away and something valuable of his got stolen. Not sure what to do?", "post": "So I met this guy from work, he doesn't work in the same department as me but we got to talking a bit and kinda became friendly. He is a widow (his wife died 4 years ago after they were married for 3 years).\n\nAnyway we became friendly and after a while I thought he was interested in me but it turns out that he wasn't and just stuck to being friends. I had to move due to personal reasons and he offered me a place to stay with him (I also have a child). I pay him rent but it's a lot lower then what I should be paying, for the area and how nice his place is. He sticks to himself and never dates or anything (he is good looking and earns a lot so he wouldn't have trouble with it).\n\nWell he went out for work for a month and over the weekend I had a small party at our place. He has never said I couldn't have a party or anything but he kinda keeps to himself and that. The party got kinda out of hand and in the morning when I woke up I realised people got into his room and some of his stuff was missing. Now one of the things that is missing is a watch that his wife bought for him when they went on a trip. He has showed me it before and it's pretty much his prized possession.\n\nI don't know what to do here. Do I try and replace it and hope he doesn't notice? It was really personal to him. It was pretty much what he remembers his wife by and I'm pretty sure he's still not over her. I really don't want to tell him because it will absolutely crush him.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "live with a guy who lost his wife, had a party, someone stole his watch which was a gift from his wife. not sure to come clean or replace it"}
{"id": "t3_3y80z3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do about an stalker ex-fiance? (me 36f & him 38m", "post": "Back story, we met online and dated 3 months, relationship for 1 year... he proposed & I reluctantly said yes as I felt we weren't actually there yet. However few months pass and I decide I couldn't go through with it. I broke it off.. due to a lot of factors.. felt he was very deceitful and just not the relationship I wanted for myself. \n\nHe kinda went nuts and stalkerish, hacking into my phone bills & dropping in at my work. I threatened calling the cops and was just very adamant that he leave me alone... he finally does.. well not really as for the next year I'd get a text or email from him every few months. I never responded and still don't plan to as I'm completely over it.. \n\nSo anyways, I've switched jobs since then but few days ago, I get a flower delivery at my work.. and its him.. then few days later.. i get a package.. and it's an expensive gift about $500 (meh, actually something that i want)  What do i do.. i don't want to see him.. do i give it back.. How do i get this monkey off my back! lol", "summary": "Ex-fiance who I only dated for 2 years and broken up for almost 1 1/2 year now, sent me expensive christmas present. What message does it send if i keep it?? I do not like him as a person so actually don't mind sending it back.. but how do i get him to understand that his behavior is ridiculous!"}
{"id": "t3_4bymex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19 F] help not-so-close friend [22 F], who I believe has an eating disorder?", "post": "Hi, so I know you're never supposed to assume that anyone has an eating disorder, but anyway I'm gonna continue with this and hope that you hear me out.\n\nSo at the beginning of last semester (September) I befriended a girl in one of my classes. I've been anorexic since I was 12, so I'm not sure if it's as evident to other people when someone has an eating disorder, but right away I could tell that she did (it is evident in her appearance, as she is very underweight). \n\nWe never spoke about it, but I know she knew I had anorexia as well, as when I met her I was still recovering and very underweight. I believe this similarity between us is one of the reasons she reached out to me as a friend. \n\nAny who, we did projects together for that class and hung out a couple of other times and text once in a while, so we keep up, but we're not close by any means. That being said, I've never wanted to intrude on her personal life, even though I am very concerned with her well-being. \n\nTonight on Facebook she messaged me asking if I know anyone who has 2 specific drugs that are known to suppress hunger. I worry about her very much, as I know how dangerous this disease can be. Do you think I should try to reach out to one of her closer friends or family members, or is this going too far into her personal life? Or should I speak to someone at school? I am completely lost at how to help her, and I appreciate any and all advice.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Friend who I have much reason to believe has anorexia messaged me, fellow anorexic, asking if I know someone with drugs that suppress hunger. How do I help her? (to recover, not get the drugs)"}
{"id": "t3_25hvua", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "[Help] I think I adopted a feral cat", "post": "I answered a craigslist ad for a female cat. I spoke to the owner on the phone about her temperament, history, age, health, etc. The owner claimed she was a \"rescue\" and that she had suffered possible abuse before she got her. Basically she described her as shy and skittish.I agreed to come take a look. \n\n When I arrived, she was holding the cat, (mind you she claimed she has developed an allergy to cats), she seemed relatively calm. I asked more questions about her and she said it might take her awhile to warm up. I took her home, and she immediately bolted for a hiding place. Every time I'm in the same room, she screams, spits, hisses, and lunges at me. She hasn't eaten in 3 days. She hides under my bed all day, so I keep her litter box, food and water in there so she can have a quiet environment.\n There has been no improvement in her temperament and I'm afraid she'll attack my children. After speaking to her again today she claimed to have found her on the street at 4 months of age. Now the pieces are coming together.", "summary": "adopted a cat from a woman who claimed she was just shy, turns out to have feral like qualities and seems dangerous."}
{"id": "t3_v1xeo", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "As a single father, when should I be able to take my infant son?", "post": "As in, being able to take him on my own away from the mother for a few hours.  I have been there since the beginning as our plan is to raise him as friends but not a couple.  I buy diapers and have paid for visits to breast feeding clinics and what not, so I wouldn't call myself a deadbeat dad or anything.  I try to visit him everyday or at least every other day.  He is now 9 weeks old but the mother won't let him out of her sight and the thought of her letting me have him makes her inconsolable.  Basically I just want to be able to take him for a few hours at a time (go to friends or my parents). At this point I can't even take him for a walk around the block.  \n\nI am looking for advice from parents (especially parents that have been in my shoes or the mother's).  I really want to keep the courts out of this but obviously there will come a point where I can't take it anymore and need to lawyer up.  She says things like she doesn't want to miss his first laugh but how is that fair to me?  So he is 9 weeks old now.  What is a reasonable age for me to take him from his mother for a few hours?  He is breast and bottle fed.", "summary": "I am a single father of a 9 week old boy.  I want to have him for a few hours at a time but the mother won't let me take him.  How old should he be?"}
{"id": "t3_22lpxq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (22/m) have a wonderful (23/f) room mate, but I can't be myself around her because of her (23/m) boyfriend. Am I being silly?", "post": "I (22/m) just naturally get along *too* well with my (23/f) room mate whenever I act like myself. We're just two people who have a lot of chemistry and really understand each other. On the very rare occasions I act like myself around her I make her laugh super easily, and get tons of reactions like \"Uhh, I know!!!\" or \"I can't believe you think that too, no one ever thinks that!!!\". I don't try to get these reactions, it's already naturally there. While she and I would never do anything inappropriate in regards to her 1 year long-distance relationship (23/m), I worry that when I'm myself there's just a lot of natural attraction that builds up pretty quick and I try to get rid of it.\n\nWhen this starts happening, I always start talking about how cute some other girl I couldn't care less about is, I'll become a bit less friendly, a bit (fake) shy where I mostly avoid eye contact, and I'll purposely pretend not to be on the same page as her. Anyways, I'm worried that if I don't keep parading this *visage* around her, we're going to end up seriously attracted to each other, even if neither of us would ever act on it by respecting her current relationship. I would love to just be myself around her, but am I doing the right thing by pretending like this Reddit? Thank you in advance for your help.", "summary": "When I (22/m) act like myself there is a lot of noticeable chemistry with my (23/f) room mate, so I act differently to throw her off because she has a boyfriend. Should I keep doing this?"}
{"id": "t3_fhcoq", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Trying to figure out the name of a book/toy sold in the 90s", "post": "Back when I was in elementary school, they had the Scholastic book fairs that I think was mentioned somewhere else on the board today. That got me thinking about what I bought at those fairs, but this is an aside.\n\nI remember getting a googly-eyed plush thingamabob that had a zipper for a mouth. There were several different kinds of these things, and all had individual personalities - one of them was a jokester with a joke book inside, another a lab rat with easy experiments inside and more.\n\nI was just wondering - does anyone remember these, or know what they're called?", "summary": "I need a dose of nostalgia."}
{"id": "t3_3cm8ss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] bf [22M] apparently does not love his family, is that a red flag?", "post": "I have been with my bf for about a year now, and most things are great except sometimes I find him inconsiderate / immature / ungrateful etc. Then he really shocked me one day when I said he should do something for his family because that's what you do for your loved ones, and he replied very decisively with a \"but I don't love them.\"\n\nI guess it's understandable if his family is abusive / manipulative / took advantage of him and such, but that's not the case. I have met his family multiple times and they are fairly normal and nice people. He also calls his mother frequently when he has questions that older people tend to have the answer to, so it's not like they have a bad relationship. His family even supported him throughout college, with tuition, room and board, allowance and all, so he could graduate with no student loans whatsoever. When I pressed him on why he doesn't love his family he just said \"because they are very annoying and always complain about things that aren't my fault.\"\n\nHe claims that he only loves me, which is flattering to hear, but it also makes me very concerned. Now I'm starting to think that this is a huge red flag and maybe his personality flaws come from his seeming inability to love and appreciate people close to him. Am I over-thinking this?", "summary": "My boyfriend claims to not love his family even though they seem to be perfectly normal people and have supported him majorly throughout life. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_54msyk", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Where can I look for financial assistance to do upgrades on the house to make it more accessible to my disabled sister? (FL - Keystone Heights)", "post": "Hello! And THANKS IN ADVANCE for ANY input!\n\nMy sister is wheelchair bound after a botched brain tumor surgery that caused her to have a stroke during surgery (THIS is *not the topic for discussion). She and her husband bought the house around 10 years ago. The house has depreciated in value since their purchase which means they cannot take out a loan against the house. Her and her husband are both teachers, which means they don't make a whole lot. ESPECIALLY in Florida.\n\nWhat I would like to help her with is some info on where to look/who to talk to about assistance to help make the house easier for her to navigate through. Widen the walls in the hallway, make the bathroom more handicap accessible, make the kitchen more accessible to her, etc. \n\nIs there maybe a federal assistance program? State? County? She went to the University of Florida in Gainesville, might your alma mater have something to look into for alumni? Any sort of lead(s) helps. Sadly, her and her husband are at a bit of a loss as to where to/how to look for info, which causes concern and stress to my parents, which means everybody is just a big ol' fun ball of depression and hopelessness! :) YAY!", "summary": "Sister is in wheelchair and house needs renovations to make it more wheelchair accessible. Is there any sort of assistance for home renovations for disabled persons?"}
{"id": "t3_18i5qr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A close friend of my that is a girl is thinking about getting married in order to get more financial aid for school, is this as simple as it sounds? and if the guy she asking doesn't do it, should I help her?", "post": "Throwaway because I feel like this is a sensitive topic.\n\nI have a friend who works multiple jobs to support herself and had to pull out of school because of lack of financial aid and zero support from her parents. \nShe told me that if she gets married, her spouse's income and her own will allow her to get the financial aid necessary to continue to attend school. I began researching this a little bit but it seems like there are gray areas\nI was wondering if anyone out there has any concrete knowledge on this kind of matter....\nI'm wondering how this might work because even if she is married to her friend, their combined income will be ridiculously low...also, if her friend is still getting money from his parents to help HIM go to school, will that effect or cause problems with her getting financial aid?\n\nA lot of you might say to tell her to try and claim independence but due to certain laws, its very unlikely that can happen....", "summary": "what are the pros and cons of getting married in college to get additional financial aid help?"}
{"id": "t3_1rx4tq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my girlfriend [32 F] 3yrs, should I be concerned about an email I found?", "post": "I will start by saying our relationship began on shaky footing. She was curious about her sexuality... you know the drill. Ended up falling for me. Flipped and flopped back and forth on if she'd stay with me or husband. Me, husband, me husband. Finally me. Wasn't good enough for her, so she left me. \n\nI found an email she left open on the computer (I shouldn't have read it, this is true, and I am a bad bad person...) basically outlining how stupid she was for leaving him, how she loved him dearly, etc. etc. and I can only guess that he didn't want her back.\n\nSo after that rejection, she took some time, and then came to me asking to be friends. We were, and eventually started back a relationship (about 6 months later). \n\nHow do I shake the feeling that I'm the second pick? I don't want to rock the boat. But I have that little doubt in the back of my mind that she came to me only after discovering she couldn't be with her husband again.\n\nAm I just being totally paranoid? I really don't want to make a huge deal out of nothing.", "summary": "Am I second pick?"}
{"id": "t3_3exxnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (30F) of a year and I (29M) just broke up. But there's a wtench in this one...", "post": "...we're both married. Please hold the judgement and bashing. I know I was wrong, I'm not proud of it, and that's actually why we broke up.  \n\nWe both realized that while we love each other, what we're doing is completely fucked up. We decided to stop seeing each other and do the right thing, focus on our spouses. We parted ways on good terms but agreed that we should cut off all contact completely.  \n\nHow do I get over this? I'm looking forward to making things right with my wife and getting back to where we have been in the past. But I've got to go through the grieving process without any support. No one knew about the affair, and the only one who I could possibly talk to it about is the one who I absolutely cannot contact or else we'd fall back into the same pattern.", "summary": "I'm a cheating dirtbag, but I still have feelings. How do I get over the breakup all by myself?"}
{"id": "t3_215nhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my Girlfriend [16F] 2 months, Acting really strange with me.", "post": "Please try and disregard the ages on this situation. \n\nSo this girl really likes me, and I really liked her so I asked her out and she said yes. Now it's been about 2 months now and she seems...bored. I always make her feel special by buying her gifts, complimenting her, telling her I love her and that sort of thing. \n\nRecently, I was skyping her and my buddy called me and asked me if I wanted to join him for a game that was about 15 minutes away. I told my girlfriend over skype that I would have to leave and she got a little bad and hung up the call. Of course, I called her back and told her that I'm sorry that it was kinda last second, and that I hope she wouldn't mind. She didnt say anything and just hung up. I just texted her again and apologized. She has a tendency to get mad over small things really easily so I thought it would just blow over before the next day.\n\nNow she never smiles around me as much and she doesnt talk to me like we used to talk to each other. She just seems kinda bored now. I've tried talking to her about it and i've asked her if it was because of that night and she said it wasnt. But she's just been acting different around me. She's completely fine around her other friends. It's just with me.", "summary": "Girlfriend is acting strange around me after one night that I left her to go watch a game. What should I do to make her like me again?"}
{"id": "t3_3d2tdx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My almost in-laws [55F, 63M] want a house key to use our [25F/27M] hot tub whenever they want. How do I say no?", "post": "I bought a house two years ago that has a hot tub.  Shortly afterward I started dating someone and we recently got engaged. We are getting married in September.  He moved in two weeks ago.\n\nI like my privacy. I like walking around naked after my shower and dancing in my undies in the kitchen while I make breakfast, and eating ice cream straight from the tub while I watch sad episodes on Netflix, and all kinds of other things I don't want my in-laws to walk in on.\n\nSo, when my soon-to-be mother-in-law texted saying:\n\n\"Hi X, I tried calling earlier, wanted to use the hot tub. You should make us an extra key please. :) \" \n\nMy response was:\n\n\"Sorry I missed your call, I was out to lunch! And I haven't been up for guests much lately, but you can always call and if it's a good time you're definitely welcome to come on over!\"\n\nShe responded:\n\n\"I understand! But you seem very busy so it would probably be hard to find a good time. If you made us a key that way it wouldn't interfere with your schedule.\"\n\nShe then texted again a while later saying, \"If you don't have an extra copy handy, we can pick up [fiance's] key and make a copy of it so you don't have to go to any extra trouble! Let me know when I could stop by.\"\n\nI thought about giving them a key with the requirement that they knock first, but in addition to liking my privacy when I'm already at home, I happen to like my privacy when I show up at home, as well.  I want to be able to walk into my own space at the end of the day and not worry about unexpected guests. I really don't want to give them a key to show up whenever they want.  \n\nIs there a way to tactfully shoot this down?  My fiance is not available to jump in at the moment, so I'm on my own.", "summary": "My in-laws want a copy of my house key to use my hot tub.  How do I say no tactfully?"}
{"id": "t3_1sdvqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (19m) tell this girl I am dating (22f) that I lied to her about my age?", "post": "*", "summary": "Lied to a girl about my age for work reasons."}
{"id": "t3_4lgipv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weird situation. GF [23F] is upset with me [23M] for playing with a cursed video game controller.", "post": "I really don't know where to begin here. My girlfriend and I both live with her parents in order to save money and pay off our student loans faster, but we both work and I think we do the whole adulting thing pretty well. My girlfriend is NOT a superstitious person. She does not believe in ghosts or anything paranormal and is a highly rational person about everything except this. \n\nA couple of weeks ago we were rooting around in the attic and we found her old Playstation 2 in a big box with all its games and accessories. Score. We set everything up and gamed the night away. It's important to note that there were three controllers, two that we used and a third one that was kept in a separate box that was taped shut. I asked her about it and she said \"We don't play with that one. It's cursed.\" Apparently when she was a kid she noticed a pattern of friends and family members getting into car accidents shortly after she would play a game with the controller. After her uncle was in a fatal accident (he didn't die, but the driver of the other car did) she put away the controller for good.\n\nLike I said, my girlfriend is a very rational person who does not believe in anything supernatural. She even sounded like she was half-joking/embarrassed about it so I didn't think it was that serious. That weekend I invited a friend over to hang out and we decided to play some Playstation. Some buttons on one of the \"\"uncursed\"\" controllers were sticking and making it hard to play, so I swapped it out with the \"\"cursed\"\" controller and let my friend play with it instead. \n\nI honestly thought it was not a big deal and that my gf understood that the whole curse thing was just an irrational thing from her childhood. But she was actually kind of upset when she got home and saw it plugged in. She's boxed up the", "summary": "Non-superstitious gf is superstitious about a game controller, which I used. Now acting weirder about it than is warranted since (I think?) we both know there is not really a curse."}
{"id": "t3_2dynam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've(m24) been told by my last three girlfriends that I'm too nice...", "post": "After my last break up, I'm starting to get seriously bothered by this. \nThe firat girlfriend I assumed it was a convenient excuse (we were both 18, it did not feel alright)\n Second girl friend (I was 22, she 25) I chalked it up to her be \"crazy\" (shitty thing to do on my part)  \nBut after this last relationship (me 24, her 19) I've realized that maybe I am too nice. Now I'm just angry and part of me wants to be a dick, but I know I can't. I don't know what I'm looking for here by posting, but I'm hoping someone has advice.", "summary": "Apparently I'm too nice, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2tdem5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) told my friend (19F) I saw her topless", "post": "I apologize if this is the wrong subreddit. \n\nI was sailing one day (I'm in the Royal Canadian Navy) and I saw a post by my friend who was topless. Needless to say I was surprised and it wasn't going to be something I forget. Fast forward a few month after I returned home, my friends and I went drinking and in my drunk state I told her I saw her topless and thought she looked good. She said she feels uncomfortable around me now and said she won't talk to me for a good while because of it. \n\nShould I tell her I that it was an accident?  I want to be friends with her, but don't want to say anything that will make it worse. Could I pass it off that I said it because I was drunk? I'm not attracted to her because we've been friends for a good amount of time. \n\nAny advice will be appreciated :)", "summary": "I told my friend I saw her topless and now she won't talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_gqb97", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people make prom out to be such a big deal?", "post": "I.P.R.(Incoming Partial Rant)\n\nFor one night, If I pay 70$ for a ticket and 75$ to rent a tuxedo that will probably be too big or too small, I can go to a slightly, only slightly nicer dance than usual, with \"alright\" free food at my school's athletic building.\n\nFuck that shit.\n\nI have awesome friends who have graduated, and have met a ton of awesome people online that are going to my college this fall. Why should I pay 145$+ (The ticket price isn't final yet, it might rise) for something I don't care about?\n\nI'll never see most of these people again, I've gotten to know most of them (small school) and by and large they are terrible people.\n\nYet for some reason, as much as I justify this to myself, and it seems a perfectly logical reason, every one that asks me if I'm going, upon hearing my response, makes negative remarks.\n\nI've heard such things as:\n>\"Well, if that's what you really want to do, then I'm not stopping you\"\n\n>\"It's a once in a life-time chance, you have to go!\"", "summary": "Why is prom such a big deal? Did you go to yours? Was it actually worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_ltgcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20M just got involved with my best friend's girlfriend.", "post": "Backstory: We go to the same school, he doesn't. We were all friends back in high school, my friend is 21 and she's 20, and they've been dating for about 4 years now. She and I hang out a fair amount but it was never really more than that. One night we were out at a bar with some friends, and everyone was dancing, we ended up dancing just so that random creepers wouldn't come up and grind on her. We keep drinking and it gets more involved and a little less platonic. That night we drunkenly go back to my apartment and end up having sex.\n\n The next day, we woke up, kind of freaked out, but then somehow ended up having sex sober, and the sex has continued almost daily for the past week or so. The problem we've run into is that physically, this is the best arrangement ever. She says she's never cheated on my friend before and doesn't intend to tell him because it'd do more harm than good. I don't know if I agree with her but I feel awful but at the same time sex wise, its the best situation I've ever been in", "summary": "Fucking my best friends girlfriend, do I tell him or would it do more harm than good?"}
{"id": "t3_3un8ko", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (31m) family doesn't like my girlfriend (28f).", "post": "Firstly, this is a throw away, if that wasn't already obvious. \n\nMy family is not found of my girlfriend at all.  It started with her working with my Sister (I know, terrible idea) and something happening there to cause some kind of rift. Then, we decided to move in together in August.  We agreed that we would move ourselves separately, as we both lived a good distance away from each other and the new home.  The day of moving, she called me and freaked out and my Sister heard this.  When I say \"freaked out\", she was verbally abusive i.e. calling me a prick, asshole, retarded, stupid, etc...\n\nThings didn't get much better from there on out.  She found out that my Sister, isn't found of her and that she's swaying the minds of the rest of the family and some of my friends.  \n\nThey tell me that the issue with her is that she's not friendly, and generally not the right person for me.  While she isn't an extrovert, she's not a cold person.  I tried to speak with my Sister and ask her to try and get a long with her, and did the same with my GF.  That really hasn't worked out so well either.  \n\nToday, my Sister spoke to me about my babying my GF.  I will concede to this, I do baby her.  It's almost out of fear, because of her fits of temper and overly emotional behaviour.  \n\nI really have no idea what to do anymore.  I don't think my Sister will ever warm up to my GF.  I feel like I'm left to choose between friends and family or my GF.", "summary": "My sister doesn't like my GF and she's swaying the minds of my friends as well.  I have no idea what to do with this.  I have no issues with my GF's friends or family, and to be honest they're wonderful people.  "}
{"id": "t3_4veqdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) want my ex back (23M)", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I  were together for a year and a half. He left me suddenly a month a half ago because of the reoccurring issues we had. Time together being the main reason. I was selfish in this aspect. \n\nWhen we first broke up he told me he still had hope of us getting back together. Then about two weeks after that he said he had no hope right now. Also, i showed him every single emotion you're not supposed to show after you get dumped. I was needy, pushy, and constantly bringing up our relationship. He's still hurting and has negative emotions attached with me and our relationship. The hard thing is I still have hope. This was my first serious relationship and his most serious. But we did have something very special. He was crazy about me.", "summary": "I'm finally doing the whole no contact thing. But is it dumb for me to still have hope? What is the best thing I can do to show him that I am working on myself and still see a future with him, which he knows. The things I messed up with him are things that Ill mess up with anyone, so its not like I'm changing just for him."}
{"id": "t3_3hi66j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am going to ruin my [23F] relationship with my boyfriend [24M] because of my jealousy.", "post": "My boyfriend is starting a new program at school and has been meeting many new people. Some of them are girls. He's always had more girl friends than guy friends, but it's important to note that these have been strictly platonic relationships. He's never been romantically involved with any of these girls he's been friends with for years.\n\nHe's been talking (just casually) about some girls he's met, maybe a thing about them or something they said. The other day, he went over to one's apartment that she and her BF just rented. I guess she wanted to show him around/he's thinking of moving and was interested in the building. (At least that's what it seems like to me. He didn't give me a specific reason that he went over, and I didn't want to come off jealous by asking why.)\n\nAfter he told me this, I became very upset. I didn't tell him that, but I know he could see I was being weird. I couldn't eat dinner, I was being short with him. I am sure he didn't make the connection. But I'm struggling so much with this. He's never done anything to break my trust, ever. But other guys in the past have, and I think that's why I'm so upset by this whole thing. I've never met these ladies. I think I'll feel better if I meet them and they are cool/not hitting on my boyfriend. I'll probably be way worse if I feel like one of them has a crush on him.\n\nMy boyfriend probably isn't going to put up with me being short with him for very long. I know it wears on him and he doesn't know why I'm doing it. But I don't think I can be honest with him. Who wants to hear that their GF is suspicious while you're just trying to make friends and be social?", "summary": "I am mega suspicious of my BF meeting/making friends with new girls. He's never done anything to break my trust. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2r0ey3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to get my (30f) parents (65m, 60f) for 37 years into marital counseling?", "post": "They're not at risk of divorce, though when I was a child my mom would threaten it to get her way. Dad will always appease her just enough that is stays empty threats.\n\nI brought up the idea of counseling to my mom eight years ago, but she rejected it. She asked me if I wanted to be the cause of my parents divorce...which, no, not really. I want them to learn how to f*ing communicate.\n\nDad is more open to the idea. Course he is. He thinks she needs help. She thinks we're all against her. Dad's contribution to the problems is his cowardice, avoidance. He takes everything she dishes out, just waits for the ragestorm to blow over, and then nothing ever changes. Granted, some of her demands are ridiculous. But when Dad vents to me, sometimes I can help him with the logistics to make seemingly ridiculous demands into possibilities. \n\nI find Dad very easy to talk to. From my earliest memories he has always treated me as a person. The only person who can reason with my mom is my husband (she told him he was the best decision I ever made...sorry mom, I didn't want to be a doctor so I could take care of you in your old age). He talked her down from one of her ragestorms this Christmas and broached/encouraged the counseling idea. He says he saw the wheels turning when he asked her some why questions (why do you think my dad does X?) and eventually she just went quiet and said \"I don't know.\"\n\nThey both have EAP's (employee assistance programs) through their respective jobs that offer marital counseling services. I don't know whose EAP is more generous at this point, but the key thing is how to get them to decide to go. My dad is onboard, my mom thinks everyone and the world is against her (I'd say her defensive barriers due to her undiagnosed ADHD have been maladaptive for a while now. I was diagnosed as an adult and have never told her, but it is genetic and I think she displays the symptoms).\n\nHow do I approach this?", "summary": "How do I get my parents into marital counseling? Mom has some mental issues and dad is a wuss."}
{"id": "t3_4biqro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20/M) don't want to let myself fall for this girl (19/F), how do I get over this irrationality?", "post": "I know my thought process is not rational, but I'm supposed to go out with friends and this girl who's supposedly perfect for me according to my friends should be there. \n\nI've never had a girlfriend before. I confessed my love for a girl when I was 18, she said no and a few weeks later was dating my best friend. A year and a half later I met the first girl I ever truly fell in love with. We became very close and I eventually poured my heart out, and got friendzoned. I didn't take it well but I sucked it up and we're still friends now, and I'm over her thankfully.\n\nI'm worried I might meet this girl and fall for her. I've known tons of girls over the years and been friends with most of them, I'm not shy and I'm really confident around girls but I can't get my heart broken for a third time in a row. 3 strikes in a row without ever getting a yes in my lifetime is too much and I don't think I can handle that. I might just tell my friends I can't make it and hang out with another group of friends to avoid it entirely. There have been a few girls who were interested in me before but I never dated them just for the sake of having a gf.", "summary": "I got my heart broken 2/2 times. My friends want me to meet a new girl in our group they think we would hit it off, but I'm afraid of falling for her and making it 3 for 3... I can't stand another heart break right now."}
{"id": "t3_2qijya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20m) Hanging out with friends (19m-20m) brings back feelings of depression and inferiority", "post": "I've struggled with depression for a while but after seeing a therapist in the past few months I'd been doing much better. However whenever I'm around my primary group of friends these feelings of depression and inferiority quickly resurface. \n\nThere is a very specific reason for this and while I know it sounds irrational I can't keep it from bothering me. Almost all of my friends are far better with women than I am and are far more active with them than I am right now. When we hang out they pretty much only talk about the women they're talking to or the girl they were with last weekend. They'll inevitably turn to me and ask if I'm talking to any girls, the answer to which is no, most of the time. One friend in particular loves talking about his 'notches' and seems to love to point out that I've only ever been with one woman. \n\nI recognize that measuring yourself based on 'notches' is absurd and wrong. When I'm alone I don't dwell on these things at all but inevitably when I'm with my friends I end up feeling inferior, insecure and angry. Seeing how much attention they get from women makes me feel unattractive and unwanted. \n\nObviously I have my own issues to work through but I feel like my friends are impeding me from accepting and liking myself. I'm not sure whether I should be looking for new friends who don't prioritize hooking up as much, or whether I should just get over it and stop comparing myself to them.", "summary": "Friends' lives are heavily based around casual hook ups, talk about their 'notches' whenever we hang out, makes me, a guy who has only been with one woman, feel insecure and unwanted. Don't know whether to drop them or get over myself and stay friends."}
{"id": "t3_1umzjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend of 2 years [24 F], fighting often and getting sick of it", "post": "My girlfriend and I met at the tail-end of college and everything was great. We fell in love, we were both happy and fought very little. Over the past 6 months, I've noticed our fights and unhappiness is coming more frequently. We both argue and constantly have to ask \"why are you mad?\" etc.\n\nI know these are normal things in a relationship but when is it too much? She's depressed now about her day-to-day job and our sex life is not as passionate as it used to be. She almost never wants to do it anymore, and everytime we do, it's a chore for her. I find myself being annoyed by her over arbitrary things she'll say. \n\nHow should I handle this situation? I love her so much but I don't know how to move my life forward. Is this something we can come out of and how will I know when if time to end it?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been fighting much more frequently in the past 2 months and I need advice on how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_3nk1d4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can colleagues ever be your friends?", "post": "Okay,long story short. I [23M] work at a law firm and I just joined 3 months ago straight out of law school. We are currently working on a due diligence, something which entails rough work hours. Last Saturday night, just as I was getting drunk with my friends, I got a few emails from my firm followed by calls asking me to revert on something ASAP. I didn't answer the call as I was drunk, but I called my colleague [26M and a pot smoking buddy] in panic and told him the truth. He advised me to avoid telling my bosses the truth, but telling them that I can't do it as I was 'away from my laptop'. That gambit stalled them for three hours and I managed to sober down and work on it later. My roomate [23M], who I have known for the past 6 years and also went to law school with me, tells me that colleagues can never be friends, and that they will always preserve their ass, if mine was on the line. He works in a much larger firm (120+ lawyers), mine has only 12. I kinda understood that statement, but the absolutist tone of it kinda scared me. Is it true that colleagues can NEVER be your friends?. Is the line between personal and professional that thick.", "summary": "New to the suited professional world, now struggling to come to terms with it. Can colleagues ever be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2bap4g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My little brother has autism and his mom pisses me off", "post": "My little brother is physically four now, but developmentally two.  He has been diagnosed with autism, and as an older sister I have been trying my hardest to help him, but his mother does jack shit.  (He is my half brother, his mother is my stepmother). \n\nShe hired therapists to work with him, and never actually tries to help him at all.  She constantly threatens to beat him if he starts crying, and almost never helps comfort him.  If he wakes of screaming all she tells him is 'you're a big fucking boy now, shut up and go back to fucking sleep.\" (No I am not making up the swears this is how she talks to her four year old child)\n\nHe doesn't like to talk to her at all, and I don't blame him.  She gets mad when he prefers to talk to other people.  She also takes any chance she can to tell other people about his disability.  She acts like he's retarded, when really it's just his personality.  I really wish she wasn't his mother, because she isn't doing jack shit about 'his disability that [she] is so concerned about.'  \n\nI don't know, I wish I could help him more tbh.  I'm only there during every other holiday and the summer months, but soon I'll stop going up. Even when I am there I don't know how to begin to help him.  We're trying to teach him how to count and the alphabet, but it seems like everytime we leave then comes back, he forgets it all.  Is there and easier way to teach him?\n\nRight now I use simple games that he understands, and reward him candy if he does it right.  (Like hide and seek and when you find someone you have to count to ten, or alphabet bingo). \n\nIf anyone could provide me with maybe something that is easier for him to understand or learn, I would be so grateful.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "my brother is autistic, his mother won't help, I need ways that he might enjoy to teach him ABC's and to count."}
{"id": "t3_iaycd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a good major to earn?", "post": "I am asking for help of the employed redditors out there. I don't have a clue what I want to do. I thought I wanted to do economics, but upon further research found it was useless. Eventually I would like to go to law school, but I want to earn a major that can be a \"fall back.\"\n\nI know there are a lot of engineers and computer science majors on reddit. I love building shit and I find physics interesting. I am good at math, but I hate it. Every second I am in calc I want to jump out a window. SO what are some suggestions?", "summary": "What is a good fall back major if I want to go into law school?"}
{"id": "t3_218g2n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] My Girlfriend [17/F] has a step-brother that's trying to do inappropriate stuff with her.", "post": "She brought this up to me a couple nights ago when he tried it again. She said that when she was younger, let's call the step-brother Gary(He's in his early twenties I would think), Gary had done this often. The other night Gary came into my girlfriends room, where she usually sleeps with her sister but she was not there. My girlfriend was alone, and Gary got in her bed and started touching her boobs. My girlfriend told him it was weird and that she had a girlfriend, trying to get him to stop. But he didn't care. He tried to go under her shirt, but she didn't let him. After that he tried touching between her legs, but she said she was on her period to make him stop. At that point he left. She sent me a text telling me this happened shortly after.\n\nShe told me, trusted it in me, and told me not to tell ANYONE because she didn't want her already slightly dysfunctional family to fall apart. I woke up my mom and told her however, because I was, and still am, very worried about my girlfriend.\n\nI've tried convincing her to tell her mom but she's very very scared. Gary was in the Air Force, so she's very scared to argue with him or use physical force to stop him if he tries again. The next day after the first incident that she told me of, everyone but her and Gary were going to leave the house. She was going to be alone with Gary. I told my mom this and I picked her up at 9 A.M. To prevent stuff from happening.\n\nToday, school started back up. She's very sick, so she's home. However, the problem is that her dad will be gone and her mom will be asleep most of the day... So there's nothing preventing Gary.\n\nI don't know what to do. I'm frightened and worried for her. What do I do?!", "summary": "My girlfriends [17/F] has a step-brother [21-25/M] has been trying inappropriate stuff with her. What do I do? "}
{"id": "t3_hy9ev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend projects her self as fairly prude and naive, afraid of the future.", "post": "I'm afraid of the future, that is.\n\nWe are both 18, in college, and have been dating for about 2 months. We haven't done anything that involves penetration or oral. (That mean's fingering as well) She's stroked me a bit, but there was no finishing. \n\nNow that that is out of the way, my main concern is that she is fairly prude. Whenever we do anything that involves us taking off our clothes, she want's the lights off. Furthermore, the one time I tried to finger her, she freaked out, stopped, and said she didn't want to risk it. I get the feeling she thinks she can get pregnant from finger. Neither of use have much sexual experience, but from what little experience I do have, I know what I'm doing. She thinks that gripping and squeezing on my junk is pleasurable. I would try and coach her, but I feel it's too early in the relationship to try and say anything; furthermore, she is fairly prude when it comes to talking about sexual things. \n\nShe has stated that she does not like it when people say very raunchy things. At this point in the relationship, I'm not willing to push the limits for the sake of a handjob. Anyway, my main concern is that when we actually make it to sex, it will be plain and boring. I don't have any extreme fetishes or anything, just the basic doggy and blowjob. I'm certain she has never given a blowjob before, but from her sheltered background, I doubt she even knows what one is. \n\nNow I'm not basing the success of our relationship on if I ever get a blowjob or not, but I've quoted her saying, \"I could go my whole life without sex\" That scares me, because I can't. She assured me after saying that by saying, \"don't worry, I'll go all the way with you.\" That's great, but I want us to enjoy a good sex life. I'm hoping her lack of sexual experience is what is creating this suggest lack of a sex drive.", "summary": "Girlfriend seemingly has no sex drive, most likely won't do anything besides missionary when we do have sex, otherwise the relationship is great."}
{"id": "t3_4r23nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) think I'd rather be friends with my boyfriend (19M) but don't know how to go about it", "post": "We've been together for 3.5 years, since we were 15. I love him, but I'm not necessarily *in* love with him any more. I don't think we're as well suited to each other as a couple any more for a few reasons:\n\n> I've changed a lot in the past year or so in terms of confidence / self esteem -- we were both very shy when we got together (like many 15 year olds are). We get on, but I think I've outgrown him a bit in that respect.\n\n> last autumn he went to uni 3 hours away and long distance was really hard. I feel like those 8 months were the ones where the romantic part of our relationship started to fade. This autumn, I'll be going to uni in a different country -- a day's travel / plane ride away. I'm doubting if it would work at all this time.\n\nThe thing is, he's my best friend, and we do get on really well, just not necessarily romantically any more. I feel like a breakup would hit him hard, especially because we've always been very intense (we've assumed we'll be together a long time, get a dog together, stuff like that). I'm worried a breakup would hurt him and he'd cut me off -- but I still want to be friends with him.\n\nWhat do I do?! How / when should or would we break up? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "I think I'd rather be friends with my boyfriend of 3.5 years"}
{"id": "t3_29trnv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [30/F] is always right, and everything is always my [30 M] fault.", "post": "So this is probably nothing new but i don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Love this girl, we want to get married, and things are awesome most of the time but like any relationship there are those not awesome times.\n\nAnyway, I can't seem to offer any kind of advice on anything without being berated for it, her telling me I'm being negative, or just generally being upset when I suggest something she hadn't thought of, especially when it's totally valid.\n\nI am now afraid to counter her on ANYTHING, in order to avoid conflict. \n\nThe problem with this is that if she is doing something like working on the car or painting or fixing something or whatever, and she isn't going about it the best way, and I know a better method, but I just stand by and watch her do it wrong, when she finally sees that she's made a mistake, asks me what I would do, I tell her and she sees that it works, then it's MY fault that she messed it up because I didn't tell her how to do the thing, but if I HAD offered my suggestion from the beginning, she would have gotten mad. Classic Catch-22 or damned if you do, damned if you don't.", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks she knows the best way to do everything. When I try to help I get in trouble, when I don't help I get in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_kztun", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if we were to 'ban' the use of the words upvote/downvote?", "post": "Well, not exactly *ban* them - just stop/disregard/ignore them where they do not apply. I love Reddit; I just feel that its quality in posts is getting worse. I know this will get *downvoted into oblivion* based on the time I'm submitting this but I'm hoping that most of you will see where I'm coming from.   \n\nWhat's that? You like my post? *Have an upvote, good sir*. *Upvotes for you, sir*. \n  \nSurely, you see what I'm doing by now. What's the point in the reddiquette if we only choose to follow certain rules? They aren't that hard to follow and it is all so that we are not flooded with pointless comments that do not contribute anything to the discussion.   \n\nIf you don't have anything meaningful to add, just use the upvote/downvote arrows. \n\nI realise you can't exactly do very much about what people choose to type. Can I ask that you try to contribute instead of just typing out your approval?   \n\nI'm sorry if this is a repost and that I'm coming across like a bit of a dick but I just thought it would  be a small step in a better direction.\n\nThanks for your time.    \n\nAlso, in case it wasn't obvious, this is a throwaway account. *Downvote* all you want \u0ca0\\_\u0ca0", "summary": "Less drivel, more discussion."}
{"id": "t3_1zc29s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] I'm Not Sure How Dating Works", "post": "Dating has always seemed like a strange thing to me.  Holding hands and many of the other social norms associated with dating don't seem to click with me.  \n\n   I like to think that I am a fairly normal guy, but I just have a really hard time when it comes to being lovable I guess.  I guess my question has to be, what should I do to start dating someone when I myself don't know the things I should be doing.  \n\n  I feel like right now I have a lot of friends, but I think it would be really hard to go on individual dates with anyone.  I might be bad at 1-on-1 interactions.  I'm not sure what advice you guys can give me, but I would really appreciate anything right now.", "summary": "I don't know how to date."}
{"id": "t3_2a4xar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Planning a Breakup. Ideas?", "post": "So I've been going out with my girlfriend for the last 6 months and we finally were able to find out the last day we're seeing each other and it's tomorrow.\n\nShe lives in university accommodation and I live at home - neither of our parents know but honestly they don't need to and this has been a perfect relationship so far. We've had arguments but they've been pretty small scale. Sex has been pretty goddamn amazing as well. I always have a good time whenever I'm with her and it's been perfectly balanced between friends, work and our relationship - honestly, I feel like we could have been married or something.\n\nThe only reason why it's ending is because she has to move back home to Dubai because she's finishing her degree. I still have another 2 years left at university. We realised tomorrow is the last day we will physically see each other ever again and I suggested dinner but that just seems way too lame.\n\nI have literally 5 hours with her, from 7pm until 12am. So redditors, with limited budget, anyone have any ideas that I can make happen within the next 36.5 hours?\n\nI have something but no idea where to go with this: \n\nFirst date: I invited myself over to her flat and watched Tangled with her, and we had our first kiss - needless to say, we ended up Tangled, lol. We also listened and waltzed to Frank Sinatra. She also did a 'Ted Mosby' on our first date - she accidentally said \"I love you\" at which point she screamed and swore and apologised. I was laughing on the way home, mainly because I liked her that much. Oh and we have a song, but I won't post it because it's way too embarrassing but I am willing to use if it someone has an idea.", "summary": "I want to give the girl I will never see again a proper send off, with limited funds and 36.5 hours from the time of this post to get something done. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2xam8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and best friend [27 M] thinking about dating, how to transition from friendship to romance?", "post": "We met when we joined a band through mutual friends, flash forward 4 years - not in a band together anymore, but have an amazing friendship.\n\nWe have hooked up one time 2 years ago, but I was moving out of town so we put any sort of relationship on hold. \n\nNow, we are both single (recently for us both), in the same city, and feel as though we finally have our time to try a relationship. We want to go slow, of course...and just spend time together and see where it takes us. Since we are already such good friends, hanging out is easy and fun. My question is - how do I help us transition from friendship into a more romantic relationship? Have any of you successfully dated your close friend? I typically only date guys that I meet recently before dating.\n\nThanks!!", "summary": "Starting a relationship with a close friend, need advice on how to transition from friendship to romance."}
{"id": "t3_3bgxtz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] trying to lend an ear to my friend [17 M] about a failed relationship", "post": "I can't really go into too much detail as he asked me to keep all the details on the down low and I would feel guilty going against it, but he's basically been in an on/off relationship with this girl for the last eight-ish months. She was extremely emotionally abusive and manipulative, and he still wants to believe that she is a nice person. He doesn't want to let go. She ended up dumping him for someone else. He's extremely devastated and has basically let his life go and I hate seeing him like this. It's incredibly upsetting to hear about all this stuff she's done to him. I've been in a similar situation before, but I don't know how to handle it. How can I help him? I am listening, but I also don't really know how to respond to a lot of the stuff he's saying (but I want him to know I am still there after he types the long blocks of text.)", "summary": "My friend was dumped by someone extremely emotionally abusive/manipulative. He is devastated. How can I help him/offer my support?"}
{"id": "t3_3doiq9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm torn", "post": "I want to be a nice, caring person. I want to feel something when I get sad news. I want to be able to look down my list of friends and family and say I care about all of them, but I can't. I don't care about all of them. I care about maybe three of them. When I was a kid, I wanted to be that guy that everyone loves. Not because I was cool, but because I was nice. Hell, I used to be nice, really nice. But then life happened senior year (high school) and I'm not nice at all. I have no feelings for the stranger on the sidewalk, and I wouldn't care if I saw that person die in front of me. If a friend, or even a best friend,  comes to me, crying, I'll still sleep just fine at night. One of my best friends told me a couple months ago that his mom has breast cancer and I didn't care. She's going to die and he's going to be fucked up emotionally for so long and I don't even care about that. \n\nSimilarly, I hardly react, if at all, to things that happen to me. Going off to college? Ok. Got a new car? Alright.  Dog dies? It's whatever. Hardly anything and a year ago these things would hit me so hard, good or bad. \n\nIt's not that I can't feel, though. I feel all emotions plenty and I hang out with my friends a lot, have good laughs and great fun. I just can't feel for others, or sometimes even for myself. I hardly miss anyone anymore too, save for a few select people. But sometimes a friend would say they miss me, and I think, \"oh yeah, it's been like two weeks since I saw you so that seems about right. I don't miss you back though..?\" and I used to miss everyone all the time. \n\nI[m] can't seem to connect with girls anymore on a more than friendly way, too. I used to fall for girls like I breathe oxygen, but now when I go on dates with them, I feel nothing. We'll be laughing and having a good time doing whatever, but I'm not *really* enjoying myself.", "summary": "I wish I was nice and caring but instead I care about almost nothing and it's frustrating."}
{"id": "t3_ijgq1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how far do you go to preserve the life of your pet? (stressed out personal story inside)", "post": "OK reddit, here goes. I'm a young, 20something with a wife, living in an apartment. We have a chinchilla named [Rhino] \n\nAbout a year ago, Rhino developed a tooth problem that was preventing her from eating. Long story short, it required us to have two teeth removed and the others filed down. This procedure cost us about $1200, including all followups and meds. It was a big hit, but we endured by saving money in other areas. \n\nBack in April of this year, she started drooling again (sign of pain for chins). I took her back in and she needed more medical attention, to the tune of $1500 so far and likely more within the next 6 months (at the rate she's going, probably about another $1200). \n\nQuite frankly, I don't have this money. Other things (personal medical bills for ER visit, car trouble, dental surgery for a root canal, etc) have piled up in the last year as well. I'm not that far behind on my credit card yet (I've spent the paycheck I'll get on the 15th of this month). \n\nMy next reprieve is September, the glorious month of three paychecks (26 checks a year means 3 paychecks in a month twice a year). That will help some, but it feels so far away. \n\nSo the question I ask is this: how far do you go? I love Rhino, but I feel like I can't go into debt over this.", "summary": "On the verge of credit card debt with vet bills, not sure what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_1ntqwg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So...how does this whole thing even work?", "post": "Ok, I shouldn't come off as totally clueless, I (m24) have been in relationships before, and have a great social life with many close friends. I just really, really suck at casual dating.  I am in a pretty demanding school program and meeting new people is difficult, but that doesn't stop many of my classmates from doing it, so using that as an excuse would just seem lazy.  I go out to bars and things with friends, but the short conversations I have with women never seem to go anywhere.  I consider myself good looking, and feel like I have a lot to offer (solid career, good sense of humor, generally a positive person), but never seem to be getting anywhere.\n\nI've been told by friends and family to just \"ask out someone you're interested in!\" but it's extremely hard for me to do that unless I get some sense that there may be a possibility that X women would say yes.  The relationships I have been in I've been able to read those signals, go for it, and it worked.  But those times when women seem to actually show interest in me seem to come so few and far between that they sort of feel like flukes.\n\nI'm not sure what I'm really asking, maybe I'm just frustrated since a lot of my friends seem to be entering relationships right now and I'm kind of spinning my wheels.  It's not like I'm looking to get married or anything this instant, but feel like I should be at least doing something at my age.  Any advice for someone who could maybe use a little help?", "summary": "A guy who's a little down on his luck lately looking for some good advice about dating & meeting people."}
{"id": "t3_43kmv1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate my body (NSFW)", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nI have something I need to admit and get off my chest. I am 15 years old and I have a small dick. Like not micropenis level, but small nonetheless. I am about 3 inches when flaccid and a measly 4.75 when fully erect. I know that I'm still on the younger side but when I'm in the locker room changing, and through everyone's underwear has a pretty clear bulge, it makes me very nervous and uncomfortable to have my dick just barely protruding out. Like just the head pokes up against my underwear. I dont know if I will grow anymore, and if I do, I don't know how much it will be. But at this point in time, when everyone around me is starting to hook up and have fun, it is a crippling insecurity that I have been struggling with\n\nThe fact that I also have gynocomastia does not help at all. I am very uncomfortable with my body as a whole. I eat well (in fact I just recently went on a crazy diet and lost 40 pounds) and I exercise a lot. I have worked so hard to get to where I am and the idea that I will always have fucked up nipples from gynocomastia and I will always have a small dick is really depressing. \n\nI'm currently with this girl who I feel very close to. We are constantly cuddling and making out and she makes me feel so confident in myself. The only problem is whenever in casual conversation dicks are brought up (which is not common but it has happened 2-3 times), she always says that for her, 5-5.5 inches isn't good for her and is too small. Me, with my 4.75 mini-dick, feel like our relationship will not work and as soon as she feels she is ready to take it to another level with me, she will be immediately disappointed.  She even made fun of a mutual guy friend for mentioning that he is 6 inches. FML", "summary": "I hate my small dick and massive nipples. And I'm 5\"3.5"}
{"id": "t3_2a3t64", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Basement with no windows Vs Bedroom with intense heat?", "post": "Okay everyone this is going to sound a little stupid but I have pretty bad anxiety when it comes to germs, mold etc.. I live in a duplex (or idk how to explain it but the place has 2 front doors and all our rooms are half the size but we get 3 floors...\n\nPoint being my current bedroom is on the top floor and the window is facing the sun 24/7.. I have a heating system that tells the heat in each room.. my room is currently 29c.. this temperature messes with my ability to sleep etc... \n\nI spend 8-9 hours a day in my room AT LEAST (I work from home) so this intense heat HAS made me sick.\n\nMy basement is WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY colder, buuut it also has no seal from the floor to the walls.. so there are like a couple CM thick cracks around the edge of the floor all the way around.. idk how to make you visualize it.. like the dry wall isn't completely touching the floor.. I could prolly jam my fingers under the wall if I wanted... so anyway during the rain moisture collects a little bit under these cracks..\n\n:::", "summary": "AROUND HERE ISH:::"}
{"id": "t3_1l6veg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [34M] a homebody. Wy wife [33F] of 6 years is extremely extroverted and has something happening almost every minute. I'm exhausted.", "post": "Hello, let me start by saying I very much love my wife, and she loves me. She is a beautiful, loving, trustworthy, giving woman.\n\nMy problem is with our mismatched ideas of free time. She loves meeting new people, experiencing new things, going new places. All. The. Time. We live in a great city, but haven't had one weekend together here in months as she constantly has something planned outside the city.\n\nWhile I do enjoy these things as well, I need time to recharge. I need time alone, or at least unplanned. I'm dying for a weekend where we could wake up together and not have anything planned. Just have some breakfast and do whatever. And maybe that \"whatever\" is 'nothing.'\n\nWe had a talk about this a couple weeks ago, I said that I feel like my life has become a huge \"To Do \" list in which I'm running from one thing to the next. She says she understands, but I don't think she does, as we've had this talk before. \n\nFor example, I pointed out that it's been months since we've spent a weekend in our home city, and that I'd like to. I was expecting to do that this coming weekend, but I just found out she has made plans to go visit family. And then we have plans next weekend and the weekend after.\n\nOn top of this, she is doing something most nights of the week too. I told her I wouldn't be coming with her this weekend, but I don't think she understands that I'd like a weekend together before winter.\n\nI'm looking for suggestions on how to handle this, as I go back and forth between feeling frustrated and feeling like maybe I'm not being a good partner by not wanting to constantly do all of these things.\n\nAre any of you in introvert/extrovert relationships? \n\nThanks.", "summary": "Wife has almost constant plans to do things, I need some downtime and I'm not sure how to balance that."}
{"id": "t3_3nvvvq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I quit?", "post": "I have been working for a chain jewelry store for girls for the past year now. It's been fine, no real issues, decent and flexible hours.\n\nNow, here's the problem:\n\nI'm sick. Extremely sick. Coughing, sneezing, head ache, and my bowels are emptying themselves whenever they please whether or not I'm in the bathroom. I'm miserable, and my job includes loud music, interacting with customers, and piercing ears. Piercing ears involves being in people's faces, breathing on them, for 20+ minutes when I can barely hold the liquid napalm coming from my backside for 10-15 minutes. \n\nI told my managers last night that I had caught something and was probably going to be needing coverage. Well, it's up to the employee to find coverage for their own shifts. So, I tried my coworkers and two have other engagements that I 100% understand. The other, won't respond to my texts or calls, and it's the managers day off so she won't/can't come in. I tried other stores all of which the employees are \"already working.\" \"On vacation.\" \"I can't, sorry.\" And my favorite one was before I even got my sentence fully out \"no, sorry.\" And click. \n\nMy manager told me to try everyone again. My coworker is in the process of doing that but I haven't heard anything.\n\nI do a lot for this store, I cover shifts, I work as much as I can, I do birthday parties for them. I do a lot, but literally no one will cover me when I can't keep the contents of my stomach inside me.\n\nIs this as ridiculous as it seems? My best friend says she can get me a job at her work, and she makes a lot more than I do because she makes tips. She said the manager is great and gets your shifts covered when you're ill. She also said as long as you request off before the next schedule is up, you get your days off, which is something I liked about where I currently work. \n\nShould I put in my two weeks and move on?", "summary": "I'm shitting my brains out and no one will cover my shift at work. Manager wants me to find coverage. This has happened before and usually I end up going in because I've never been this sick. Should I quit?"}
{"id": "t3_245qig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) wanting to discuss birth control with my mother (57F)", "post": "I'm a 19 year old college student that lives at home. I have decided that now i'm in a serious relationship i wanna stop having to worry if my period will come every month. \n\nI come from a very concervative, catholic family that never said much to me about sex in general. All i've heard is my mother fight to not have me put in bc at age 13 for acne (because i was so young and she had trouble getting pregnant) and her always preaching \"make good choices\" if me and my boyfriend are alone for 5 minutes. The whole situation has me contantly on the verge of tears because i want to be honest with her and i just don't know how she'll react. \n\nI'd love nothing more then for her to come to the appointment with me, but i'm so afraid of even talking to her about it. I want to get an IUD or an implant and i'd lot for her to be there for the insertion of either one because i'm scared. \n\nMy best friend would be available to go to planned parenthood with me if you think that is the better option.", "summary": "want to discuss getting birth control with my concervative mother but not sure how she'll react. "}
{"id": "t3_3gxnck", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling a crippled lady lazy.", "post": "So today while I was returning to work from buying lunch I saw a lady stepping into the elevator that goes upstairs to a few shops, one of which I work in. It's only one flight of stairs to walk up them and usually I do, but I thought fuck it, the elevator doors were already open. \n\nEverything was going swimmingly until I decided to open my mouth and blurt out something about me being lazy and taking the elevator. I may or may not have been mumbling some words as I said it. \n\nObviously I mumbled at the wrong time because I got the biggest death stare as she walked off the elevator clutching her back and began awkwardly walking away with what looked like a skeletal/muscular disorder. \n\nAlso she was headed into the gym while I went and sat down to eat my burger and chips.", "summary": "I made a crippled lady's day worse for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_1ltonm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/m] am not sure if I should be asking my girl-friend [18/f] for nude pictures.", "post": "This is my first time posting to a place like this firstly, I'm sorry if I rant a little in the middle of this, or something.\n\nBackground: My girl-friend has sent me pictures of her-self in the past, but she's always felt a little weird doing it, saying she doesn't want to get her breasts out. I tried to make up for it on my side by sending pictures back to her, how-ever she told me that girls take this kind of thing differently, and told me that she doesn't exactly use it as porn. She'd rather just have a topless picture of me. Part of me is a little insulted at this, it makes me feel as though my efforts weren't enough for her.\n\nI recently told her that I miss being like that with her, and seeing pictures of her like that; she replied to me with \"I was waiting for you to bring them up. I haven't taken any I just knew you would\". I'm not really sure how to take this kind of reply, is there anything that I should be saying to things like this, I haven't really had this kind of attenton off of girls in the past, and this is my longest relationship to date at one year, almost.\n\nWhilst I want to send her nude pictures of me, I'm not really sure what it is that I should be doing in front of the camera and just feel like a douche when I'm taking pictures of myself, I don't really know where I should be taking pictures of myself either, advice on this would be great, if anyone can help me at all. Or do you guys feel as though it would be better for me to just stop asking for pictures and sending pictures like that at all, and just wait for her to make the first move?", "summary": "Not sure how I should go about nudes with my girl-friend, and sending them back."}
{"id": "t3_25590u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F]have a very controlling mother, and she hates my boyfriend [21/M]", "post": "I am twenty years old and only live at home in the summer; however, my mom tries to control everything I do, especially my relationships every since my parents split. We have a very bad relationship as she is very rude, does not listen to any other side, and accuses me of lying all the time.\n\nI met a guy at school who is from a similar area as me, and I fell for him over the course of the year, but now my mother is freaking out and says she hates him (this is solely based on his Facebook profile picture). How do I go about this especially being that he wants to meet my family? She refuses to meet him or let me drive an hour to see him.", "summary": "My mother hates my boyfriend for no reason. How do I go about continuing our relationship this summer?"}
{"id": "t3_fiwnv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are you doing for your SO for Valentine's Day? Need ideas. Possibly thinking about trolling the bf.", "post": "I get a lot of grief for wanting to do things for Valentine's Day. My friends say things like \"it's a hallmark holiday,\" \"bullshit consumerism,\" etc. Sure, I agree. But I know he's doing something for me, so I want to do something for him.\n\nI want it to be light-hearted and fun--akin to that post around Christmas of the guy who, for his friend, put a Nickelback CD case inside a Sarah Palin book that actually contained Black Ops (iirc).\n\n**Some background/other info, with possible relevance:**\n\n* he's 20, I'm 18, we've been together a few months.\n\n* we're ents, so something to do with trees is an option.\n\n* he's a redditor.\n\n* he plays WoW (as do I).\n\nAnyone have suggestions/ideas? What are you guys doing for your SO for Valentine's Day, if anything at all? What have you done in the past?", "summary": "What have you done/what are you doing for Valentine's Day? Any ideas to help me troll the boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2ga9gw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my dog eat anything he gets his paws on.", "post": "Today, I fucked up by not caring when my dog was eating random crap around the house.\n\nIt was a nice day, just walking the dog with my friend on the way to buy chips (fries for you non-British people) at the local chip shop. Well, we walk through one field and fail to notice the large group of cows (these cows are *evil*. They will kill you!) to our left. We crossed over to the second field where my dog decided to take a fat dump. \n\nOr so I thought. We waited for him to do his business and when he was done we went to pick it up in a doggy bag. There was nothing there! My friend and I looked at each other in horror, then to the dog. He had a long black, crap encrusted string hanging from the butt. He the started to scoot his butt on the floor, which was worrying. \n\nI called my mother to explain that the dog had eaten something and it's now lodged in his butt. She explained \"oh, it's probably just a pair of stockings\" quite casually. I held my breath and took a closer look. She was right, oh dear God! There was nothing more I could do than pull it. \n\nAt this point, we're all on top of a hill in the field that is quite visible from 15-20 houses. I took a deep breath and pulled the stringy stocking from his ass. I kid you not, it was at least 15 inches long. The dog didn't seem to mind but I could feel the disgusted eyes of people that saw the act from their windows. My friend just laughed the whole time.\nWe never made it to the chip shop because the cows blocked us in and we had to sprint home.", "summary": "Dog ate stocking, I had to yank in out his butt hole while people around in houses probably watched in horror."}
{"id": "t3_xg6f9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it ever OK to try and go out with a girl even if she has a boyfriend.", "post": "To be more specific, she is 19 and I am 20. This girl works at the place that I work where several of my friends work as well. Her boyfriend also works there and has been in the relationship for over a year, and therefor makes this situation allot more context sensitive. I can tell the girl is generally interested in me, (could just be friendly but we get can get chatting a lot, telling jokes, smiling, exc.). She is also friends with my friends and is how we met, basically (via as well work). \n\nIn my gut, I would really wish things could work between us, but in reality I see it as an impossible. She is one of those people you don't meet everyday, a unique and charismatic person. The other glaring issue is even if she did end up going out with me, the drama it may cause could easily not be worth it for me or her. It may just be better to write a poem  or short story about it and leave it at that.", "summary": "Met a girl at my work, she has been in a relationship with her boyfriend who also works there, is in the same group of friends as me."}
{"id": "t3_21zygv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24m) was rejected by my crush (24f) after an intimate moment and feel used and hurt.", "post": "This one isn't too complicated.\n\nI hooked up with a girl I've had a crush on for awhile now. It was an amazing moment for me - I thought things were going the right way and that she was into me too.\n\nThe next day I ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, maybe watch a movie and chill? You know, get to know each other better. She ends up taking half a day to respond to me and then says she doesn't think it's such a good idea making up some lame excuse why it's not going to work.\n\nI get it - I'm being rejected. The worst part is that we hooked up and had an intimate moment. Apparently all she wanted out of that was to get off and I was just the tool. I was emotionally invested in that moment and it hurts knowing she didn't feel that way too.\n\nWhat can I do to reassure myself? And most importantly, how do I avoid this again in the future?", "summary": "title says it all"}
{"id": "t3_txfwq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AT&T just forced me into a new plan.  Can they do this?", "post": "I ~~have~~ had one of the old unlimited data plans, but woke up to a text message on my phone that read: \"AT&T Free Msg:  Did you know a data plan is required for your smartphone?  We have added an appropriate data & messaging plan.\"  \n\nA little bit of back story:\nMy mother signed my brother and I up for the unlimited data plans way back when, though my brother has since moved out and changed carriers.  It seems every time my family had gone into AT&T they wanted to know what kind of phone I had, but my mother, being the cheeky woman she is, always knew never to tell them, as they'd probably utilize that knowledge in some way against us, and simply did not need to know.  I had been using the original iPhone Edge for almost the last two years and before that a Google G1.  It seems neither the iPhone nor the G1 was capable of \"telling\" AT&T what phone I was using.  My brother recently gifted me his old Nexus and I finally got around to throwing my sim card into it yesterday.  It had probably been in the thing for less than 12 hours before I got that text.  \n\nThe thing is, I already *had* a data plan, so how can they forced me into a new one?  I have not sifted through the contract, but I'm willing to bet that there is no clause stating I'd need to change plans if I ever upgraded my phone, as the advent of data intense smartphones was still to come.  I'm thinking of going in there later today to talk to them about this, but figured I should ask you all for advice/tips.  I really feel they have no legal grounds to do this, but am not positive.", "summary": "AT&T forced me out of my old unlimited data plan when they found out I had gotten a smartphone."}
{"id": "t3_1zadaj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (17M) dumped me (17F) of 3 years. How do I get over feeling like a complete mess?", "post": "My ex dumped me around December (over text) because he said that I took too much of his time.  We both go to different schools and he visited me at my school more times than I did his, and he was tired of it.  Before the break up we went weeks at a time without seeing each other because he was always \"busy.\"\n\n We still continued to talk after the break up.  Sometimes (but rarely) he would try to make a pass at me a couple of times but other than that it was mostly conversations of how was my day going and that sort of thing.  He initiated many of the conversations until about two weeks ago when he told me has a new girlfriend and that he won't be able to talk as much in order for her to be comfortable.  The weird thing was that he didn't want to tell me he had a girlfriend, which I don't understand why.  I have a strong feeling that even while he was talking to me he was still talking to her.\n\n It's been really hard to process.  I'm turning to Reddit because tbh I don't have any close friends that I can confide to about this.  I have trouble opening up to other people because I am afraid they'll judge me as dramatic and whiny. I'm heartbroken and it's taken a toll on me physically: the stress has caused me to skip my periods and my hair to fall out.  I feel pathetic and I don't know how to get myself out of this rut.  There are times when I tell myself that he's a douche and I don't need him and I could do so much better, but immediately after that I start sobbing wishing he never dumped me.  People still tell me that I'm so young and it's not the end of the world, but that's not really helping me.", "summary": "Ex dumped me up, how do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_2h3h8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33M] friend [30F] has stopped talking to me over what I think is a juvenile issue, but I also want to salvage our friendship.", "post": "A year ago I (33m) dated a girl (30f) and I really liked her. But it didn't work out for various reasons and we broke up after dating. I never really got over her but I moved on, and started thinking of her as a friend.\n\nFor a year, I kept in touch with her off and on but we were never super close until this past summer, when she broke up with her now ex-boyfriend.\n\nWe hung out a lot and grew closer in a non-romantic fashion, probably closer than when we were dating. We had a great summer.\n\nA few weeks ago, however, she found out that at some point 6 months ago, she sent me a friend request on Facebook and I never accepted it. She flipped out and stopped talking to me cold turkey. I sent her an email, texts, voicemail explaining that it wasn't because I was trying to diss her, it was more about me not being able to move on at the time.\n\nBut she says that I still should have \"friended\" her and hid her if I really did want to do that, and thought it was a slap in the face.\n\nIt's been weeks and she won't have any communication with me and continues to ignore me. I want to salvage our friendship because I really do value it but at the same time, ending a friendship over Facebook seems very juvenile.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Girl I used to date grew closer as friends this summer. She stopped talking to me cold turkey 2 weeks ago after finding out that I never accepted her Facebook friend request months ago. I want to salvage our friendship but she won't talk to me. At all. Even though I apologized and explained that it wasn't about dissing her."}
{"id": "t3_p3lty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling \"stuck\" in a relationship..", "post": "21F/22M/2 years+ (lived together for 4 months, moved out because it wasn't working)\n\nDepression and anxiety issues are something I can't relate to so I've been trying really hard to be as supportive as possible.. I realize that it takes a while for someone to change but it's too slow. Anyone can \"change\" better or worse incrementally, but if it's too little.. you might as well not try at all, right?\n\nI guess I'm upset because my attitude towards my partners problem is better than his. If I can care more about his problems, he could be trying harder...right?\n\nBut on the other hand, I really feel like I need him. We're best friends and I don't mind helping him as long as I see he's trying. It's just so hard when you're putting in so much effort and they can't take your feelings into consideration. I just feel disappointed day after day. I feel like a mom and I'm 21.\n\nBut I really love him and no one gets me better than him. He's emotionally perfect, and all his learned behaviors is what I have a problem with. So I think he can change.. plus I feel bad holding that against him. \n\nCan anyone offer any sort of advice? \n\nI kind of feel like I should break up with him..and I've tried but it sucks when you're their only support.. plus I like him a lot. (It would be really helpful if someone can logically guide my thought process to being okay with breaking up with him.)\n\nDoes anyone else understand this \"stuck\" feeling? If you can share your experiences I'd appreciate it a lot.\n\nThanks in advance reddit :)", "summary": "How do you cope when your partner is going through a huge emotional low? Especially one that has lasted for over half the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_dl3fi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got rear-ended on my way to work this morning and i'd appreciate some input", "post": "I was stopped at a traffic light waiting for it to turn green and my card gets slammed. Change is flying out of the coin tray and I'm totally rattled. I asked the driver to follow me into the parking lot and he complied. We exchanged information, there was no visible damage on either car, and he told me he let go of the brake after being fully stopped and then tapped me, so he wasn't going very fast. I have a car seat for my 6 month daughter in the back(and she wasn't in it), in California I'm obligated to replace it with a new one and I don't want to go through the hassle of reporting it to insurance and getting a new one etc. since the car seat appears undamaged. I have no desire to sue since there were no effects on me besides being rattled; it just felt like a slam when indeed it was a tap. When we were stopped at the light I saw him stopped behind me, so I know he wasn't lying. Should I go through the motions of reporting it and getting a new car seat or just forget about it: no harm no foul?", "summary": "Fender bender, their fault, no apparent damage to me the car or car seat, should I report it? "}
{"id": "t3_uyj9l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I be Worried About my Nephew?", "post": "I was having a conversation with my 15 year old nephew the other day. This is a kid who plays video games every waking moment of his life. He is barely making it through school.\n\nWe were talking about the recent news, and he looked at me straight in the eyes and said**\"I LIKE WAR.\"**\n\nI bolded that quote because that is exactly how he said it to me. I tried to explain to him that you don't respawn in real life. He laughed.\n\nHis mom (my sister) and his dad don't really think there is a problem. His older brother does.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Your comments would be appreciated.", "summary": "I think my nephew is fucked in the head."}
{"id": "t3_n3fgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone ever got into a fight with their teacher?", "post": "Couple of days ago, I was just sitting in my english class in college when my teacher asks everybody if they have gotten everything back him. I raised my hand and told him I didn't get this one paper. Out of no where he start getting all mad saying I handed that paper back. And I say calmly I guess I lost it or you lost it some how. He starts breathing heavy and shaking his head saying don't accuse me of losing your paper. While this is happening the whole room becomes dead silent and everybody is glancing in the corner of their eyes but not making eye contact. I look at him confused and say calmly I guess I must of lost it. My teacher sits down in his chair and a minute later asked me to go outside the classroom. He begins with \"How dare you...\" And I interupt with I was talking about this paper. He quiets down and he knows he overreacted and made a fool of himself and me. It was misunderstanding for the which paper I was talking about. He apologies, we shake hands, and apologizes in front of the class to me. It was pretty awkward. So have any you been in a fight with your teacher.", "summary": "My teacher overreacted because of misunderstanding during class and almost ended in a huge argument."}
{"id": "t3_2pzgza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [31/F] too paranoid. It's getting ridiculous! Am I crazy?", "post": "Hello!\n\nI'll try to get right into this with as much detail and as little issues as I can. \n\nSo, I started a new job a week ago. The girls are fantastic. (There's *one* male who works as a lab tech. He's mainly behind the scenes but, a nice guy nonetheless!) The girl I'm training with is blunt, but sweet and told me \"You would *know* if somebody had issues with you.\".\n\nAwesome. Right?\n\nNo. I still have this fear people are speaking about me. Like they don't want me there. It's annoying and I don't know what to do about it. I've been to therapists in the past for things like this who have said things like \"Why would they?\" \"Have you given them reason?\" \"If they *are* talking about you, good or bad, why would you care?\" All of those questions are valid, and I understand the logical side, but it doesn't help. \n\nNow, I stick mainly to myself. I won't talk much unless I have a valid concern or question about work itself. It doesn't help I was standing behind a wall partition and heard \"something something '*that new girl*'.\" Which has gone and made everything else worse. I sound like such a paranoid freak. The one who said the new girl comment won't really speak to me, and if I ask her for anything, the looks I get could kill a cow. Another, who is younger than me and who hasn't  been in the field as long as others, has a bossy tone towards me. \n\nIs this normal? I'm not just like this with work, but with other things as well. I've always been like this and therapists don't seem to help. I don't want to live my life afraid other people are talking bad about me and I also don't want to live giving a damn if they do! \n\nI hope I made sense here with this post.", "summary": "I'm so paranoid everyone talks about me that I'm starting to not want to go to work. I love my new job and I worked hard to even get my 'foot in the door'. Therapists don't help and I'm starting to not feel 'normal'."}
{"id": "t3_4f3zoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and GF [21F] 1.5yrs. She was texting a guy, came to me about it and we worked through it and I forgave her. She's having issues now.", "post": "This is going to be kinda long to go through but I'll try to make it short.\n\nMy girlfriend was texting another guy she met and wouldn't see again. It got somewhat sexual and she came to me about it. I forgave her, she blocked him, etc. My trust is a little hurt but it can be repaired with time. I've told her that and I've believed her when she told me it was only this guy and only texting.\n\nIt's been about 2 weeks and she's having problems. From what she's said, she's sad and anxious and it's reflecting on her normal life. She told me that she can't trust herself, she doesn't think I can trust her, and that she's a mess. She can't sleep, work, read, or be productive. When I asked her if there's any specific examples she said that she couldn't read romance novels because they want to make her cry and that she cannot watch Grey's Anatomy because of Meredith and Derek's love and how it reminds her of her texting that guy and cheating. She's also stressed out because of finals, classes, and social life.\n\nI'm wondering how do I help her get over this, feel better, or just stop worrying about it. To me I've worked through it and told her that I just need more access to her phone if I feel like anything is up as a compromise, but she is still in shut down mode.\n\nTherapy isn't an option because it's too expensive.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated, I forgave her, she's in shut down mode and wondering how do I help her."}
{"id": "t3_26vucs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the scariest fucking thing you've ever been through?", "post": "Go ahead and be funny, but I'm hoping for some legit stories.", "summary": "Tornadoes, Spinal injuries, panic, leadership, not only fear for my life, but fear for the hundred other lives I had to guard."}
{"id": "t3_ewnwf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the biggest lie you've ever told?", "post": "It occurred to me just now that when I was smaller I used to lie a lot.\nI told some serious whoppers in my time.\n\nThe week before my ex and I split, I spent some time at a hotel room with this guy I knew, anyway we hung out and..you know. Had sex.\nSuffice to say my neck was covered in huge Hickeys that were EXTREMELY visible, and had turned into a dark red discolouration by the morning. \n\nSo when I got home and saw my partner I looked her straight in the eye and said 'oh god, I got bit by a spider last night when I was walking to the shops!'. I felt so incredibly guilty and horrible for it. But she somehow believed me.\n\nWe broke up shortly afterwards because I couldn't stand the fact I was cheating on her, and because we were all kinds of wrong for each other. But that is another story.\n\nSo reddit. What's the biggest lie you've ever told.", "summary": "Cheated on my girlfriend with a man, got covered in Hickeys. Pretended it was a spider bite."}
{"id": "t3_ui1ah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF broke up with me twice, and I don't know how to move past feeling so hurt...", "post": "Two weeks ago, my 21 yr boyfriend and I (20 yrs female) went through a really rough spot. We've been dating for 7 months, and I thought we were both really happy, but one morning I go to his apartment and found a note he had drunkenly written reminding himself to break up with me. Long story short, he said that he had been feeling too tied down and had been 'faking' the relationship for the past several weeks. We decided to take a break so he could think, since he said he still had feelings for me.\n\nThe very next day, he ends up breaking up with me, but 4 hours later, at 2 in the morning, he calls me to say that he's at my back door. He tells me that he felt really terrible and that when he went home after the breakup, he saw reminders of me everywhere, and when he went for an hour long drive, all he could think about was missing me and how he wanted me back.\n\nSo now, we're back together, but instead of spending time with him 4-5 days out of the week, its more like 1 or 2. He also promised to never lie to me about his feelings again. And I can live with the reduced contact, but I'm just so hurt from the two times he broke up with me that I feel like I can't talk to him about how I'm feeling anymore. I still want to be with him, but how can I get past the pain/betrayal? Please note that this is his first relationship.", "summary": "my boyfriend broke up with me twice in 2 days, but now we're together, and I don't know how to get past the pain/betrayal I'm feeling."}
{"id": "t3_ha1kt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Academic Honesty...or lack there of...", "post": "I was wondering what the Reddit Community feels about cheating on tests and such. It's easy to say it's wrong--but there's definitely a majority of people I've encountered who cheat, given the opportunity.\n\nThis semester alone, I've witnessed two instances, in the same class.\n\nOne involved a kid with his notes sprawled across the floor near his feet while the professor sat stationary in the front. I was furious, because I had stayed up all night studying hard and doing all I could to score a good grade--while this schmuck tries to pull a fast one. \n\nSo at the end of my essay I included a disclaimer that said, \"The kid with NY\" hat is clearly cheating with all his notes on the floor. You may want to take a stroll around the classroom to see it for yourself.\n\nI'm not exactly sure what came of that, but he remained in the class thereafter. \n\nNow, I get a text from a girl who I lent a certain textbook to, asking me to meet her. I assume it's to return my book, but I was wrong. She missed our last test and was given the make-up final...to take whereever she wanted in the library...without supervision. So of course, she had all the notes, slides, and materials with her in a stack when she met me. Her reason for the rendez-vous? She wanted me to verify her answers. \n\nI was about ready to RAGE. She was a nice girl otherwise, but this was too much. So I confirmed the wrong answers she had already marked, if they were the same ones I did. I left her right answers alone. And pleaded ignorance to the rest.\n\nWhat about you?", "summary": "I can't be the only who tries to combat cheating, can I?"}
{"id": "t3_3aqrvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27F with my best friend 27M of 10 years, does he think about sex with me?", "post": "We've been friends for over 10 years, always platonic. We're both in serious long-term relationships and for the most part that hasn't been an issue. We've been talking on the phone fairly often while he's at work to help him pass the time. We never really talked about sex in the past but recently we've started talking about it a lot, discussing things like what our partners won't and will do. \n\nWe have a lot in common, things we enjoy doing and things we don't get to do because our partners aren't willing. I think it's great that we both have someone we feel comfortable talking about these things with, but now I find myself wondering what sex with him would be like! I'm not attracted to him physically but knowing that we're into the same stuff sexually really has me wondering. \n\nIs he thinking the same thing about me? If we're both thinking about it, will it ruin our friendship?", "summary": "My best friend and I talk to each other about sex with our partners, now I think about sex with him way too often. Does he think about it? What will happen with us?"}
{"id": "t3_4pe19b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my fiance [25F] 6 years, living in my mom's downstairs apartment?", "post": "Hi Everyone!\n\nMe and Fiance are getting married in October and we are currently looking for places to rent. My mom has an apartment opening up downstairs (no shared entry way) which would be about 350/ month cheaper than other places in the area. My fiance and her friends tend to think this is unhealthy. My mom is pretty cool and not hovering at all, so I dont think it would be much of a problem but i wanted some opinions. Do you think it is worth it to save the money or should we really try to avoid it?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Mom has a cheap place downstairs where we can rent. Fiance is concerned we are not \"spreading our wings enough\"."}
{"id": "t3_1qxorw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [33M] cheatin on his girlfriend w/ me [34F] Do I tell her?", "post": "I been in love w/ my friend Andrew for a few months now (known him for about 4 years now). Didn't think he felt the same way, but after reconnecting w/ him at a party 2 weeks ago, we talked, and he does have feelings for me. We ended up hooking up a few times. Hell yea! - cept that he just told me that he has a girlfriend. \n\nI'll be cuttin him out of my life ASAP, but one last question is: do I tell the girlfriend? I'm torn b/c he'd lose her and all his friends, but at the same time, if I were being cheated on I'd wanna know and get the fck out. Thx for the advice everyone", "summary": "Friend hooked up w/ me, but he has a girlfriend. Do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_4qrcnv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I might be falling for my best friend, but I have a boyfriend?", "post": "First things first, I love my boyfriend to death, and I would never, ever, ever cheat on him. We've been together for over a year now, and I can sincerely say that I deeply care about him. We don't share the same outlook and we may ague sometimes, but it's fine. There seems to be a small problem with us not being fully honest with each other, which kind of bugs me.\n\nThen I have a best friend.\n\nWe've been friends for three years now. We share the same outlook, expect the same things from relationships, and we are completely comfortable with being fully honest with each other. He's witty, kind, and endlessly entertaining.\n\nDue to  timing conflicts, I've been spending more time with my best friend than my boyfriend, and for the past 6 (maybe 7) months, I have started to feel very drawn to my best friend. I dismissed it as a passing crush at first, but the fact I haven't been able to shake it off for 7 months is extremely annoying.\n\nMy boyfriend has expressed jealousy for my friend in the past, even going as far as saying shit like: \"Well, why don't you go date {best friend} then, huh?\" So a part of me knows he's slowly picking up on it.\n\nI don't want to make my boyfriend miserable, he truly does not deserve it, but I don't want to walk out of my relationship for something like this.\n\nKeep in mind, my best friend is 8 years older than me (I'm 20), so that's another thing that holds me back from pursuing anything further, as he said over a year ago that \"I was too young for him\". Despite this, we see eye to eye in many, many things, and we do seem to care deeply about each other.\n\nIdeally, I would be able to shake off my feelings for my best friend. I would never act upon this as:\n\na) I adore my boyfriend despite our conflicts, though we've been growing apart lately.\n\nb) I don't want to fuck up my best, most stable friendship.", "summary": "I'm falling for my best friend, but I love my boyfriend too much to do anything about it. Also, I'm a pussy. Help."}
{"id": "t3_dezgh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help (information) on getting an apartment ... please help?", "post": "My SO & I are trying to get an apartment we went to one complex that we were really interested in, appearance wise. They seem great & all but there is one thing that is keeping us from being able to actually GET the place. My SO was evicted from some apartments that he lived in on campus when he was going to college. Long story short the guys he was living with were no longer going to school so they left and no one ended up canceling the contract or paying what was owed. He was the lease holder so all this is on his name. Is there really any option once an eviction is on your rental history? What can we do? Any help would be appreciated. Also, getting an apartment is crucial considering my parents are moving out of the place we all currently live at so we kind of need to move out by the end of November.", "summary": "BF has an eviction on his rental history. Need some info on how we can get an apartment."}
{"id": "t3_38ttal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 1.5 years, are at a crossroads, and I'm torn.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and half. We have been a long-distance couple for the entire time that we've been dating, but he was a very good friend I saw almost daily before we became a couple.\n\nI love him. He is an amazing person. No one in the world gets me the way he does or make me laugh like he does. He treats me better than I could have ever imagined possible, and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he loves me with all of his heart. \n\nWe are starting to talk about moving in together in about a year, and while the idea excites me, it also makes me pause. Because as happy as he makes me, I'm not sure if he's \"the one.\" \n\nI'm not entirely sure I believe in \"the one\" at all, but I can't help but wonder if committing permanently to him would make me miss out on something--or someone--else in the future. On the other hand, I fear that if I end our relationship because of my uncertainty to commit, it will be the biggest mistake of my life.\n\nTo put it very bluntly I long for adventure and excitement, and my relationship has settled into...something ordinary and routine. In your experiences, does every relationship eventually become that? Or do many of you still experience butterflies and excitement in your relationship?", "summary": "My long-term relationship is at the point where it's time to take things to the next level, and I'm not really sure what I want because the \"fire\" has died."}
{"id": "t3_2tkw1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My MIL (57/F) is terrified of animals and refuses to come over anymore to me and my SO's home and thinks I (27/F) got the animals to keep her away.", "post": "I have never had problems with my MIL, she's always been GREAT, like really! Never been a problem, never fought, ect. This was until a year ago. My MIL is terrified of all animals, I have always knew this. If she sees a stray cat a mile away from her she will panic. She has a few other family members who are the same way too. I say they all need therapy!\n\nI grew up in a household where we always had pets, I love animals. I cannot imagine a home without animals. Soon after me and my long term SO moved in together, we rescued 2 stray black cats. They are as nice as could be and are NOT asshole cats and are not aggressive (They do not hiss or swipe at people).\n\nI didn't even think this was a problem until we told my MIL, she freaked out. She claims that I got these cats to keep her away now. Even if I say I will lock them in a room so they can't get out (which I disagree with, I shouldn't have to do this to my cats, but I will comprise for her), she still won't come over. She even has said things like \"And of course you got BLACK cats!\", I didn't know she was superstitious? Weird.\n\nThis is becoming such a strain. I refuse to get rid of my animals for her. She thinks I am being selfish because I know of her phobia and I still got cats anyways (honestly when we got the cats we didn't even THINK of my SO's Mom......like why does it have anything to do with her?). I suggested she get therapy for her fears and she got offended and says \"I am not the problem, animals are the problem, they are dirty and belong outside, not in peoples homes\".\n\nAm I in the wrong here?", "summary": "MIL is terrified of animals, when we rescued 2 stays she took it as a personal attack and thinks I did it so she can't visit anymore."}
{"id": "t3_12y54b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (18M) found my (18F) porn after I told him I didn't watch it", "post": "Okay, to start things off me and my boyfriend are in a temporary long distance relationship (it's only going to last 8 months) and we've been going at that for about 3 months, we've been dating for a year and a half. I'm his first girlfriend and he has so much trouble trusting me and is incredibly jealous. He gets in a horrible mood if he knows if I talk to a guy (a simple friend) and when I'm out with friends he gets mad if I don't \"update him\".\n\nI love him dearly, he's not an aggressive person but he's incredibly insecure, other than that I feel like we truly are compatible. Well we made a deal a couple months back that we wouldn't watch porn. I didn't stick to that because I mean especially since we are going the distance I have needs and lately he's been so busy with work he has been neglecting my needs (no phone sex gets grumpy when I get sexual) so I resorted to porn.\n\nI'm always logged on to my email and gmail does this thing where it records your history. He's been caught looking through my facebook/email/history many times before and he just texted me this \"Babe I found out you watch porn I found out three days ago and I've been thinking about it for a while and I'm ok with it now:)\" ok well the thing is I KNOW he looked through my email and looked through my google searches or whatever and I know I'm in the wrong I know I lied I feel guilty but I'm upset that he looked through all my stuff. I feel invaded and I feel controlled and I don't know what to say to him because he is a very confrontational person and sometimes I say whatever just so he can stop being upset, any advice to salvage this would be great thanks", "summary": "Boyfriend caught me redhanded watching porn and I'm upset because he looks through my stuff"}
{"id": "t3_1al71r", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Join us for Round 10 at 90daysgoal!", "post": "Three years ago, a group of Redditors decided to change their lives at [r/90daysgoal] \n\nWith nine great rounds under our smaller belts, we're excited to start Round 10 and we're hoping others will join in.\n\n***\n\n**What 90days is and what it isn't**\n\nThis isn't a set diet or exercise routine. This isn't a competition with prizes (check out [/r/btfc] for that). This is a group of people working together to better themselves. Whether you want to change a lot or a little, gain muscle or lose weight, everyone is welcome. More than anything else, this group will provide you with a place to talk to other people about health and fitness in a completely open and friendly environment. No question is too basic here.\n\n**What's the format?**\n\nEvery morning there's a dailygoal thread where you can post your goals, ask questions, or read through other people's updates. There's a weekly check-in every Monday and several themed posts (Runners, Fitocracy challenges, weekly workout challenges, diet/exercise/general discussion topics) throughout the week to keep us all on track.\n\nIf you'd like to join us for the next round, stop by and tell us about yourself and your goals in the [official introduction thread] Round 10 will officially begin on Monday, March 25, 2013. On Day 1 there will be a signup form to fill out so that we can keep track of group statistics. Group and individual progress will be posted at the end of each month using anonymous display names.", "summary": "If you're interested, subscribe to [r/90daysgoal] Day 1 is March 25th. There will be informational posts throughout the first couple weeks to get everyone started toward their goals. We'll have a progress/recovery week at the end of each month. The final day will be July 2. I hope we'll all have something to celebrate in three months!"}
{"id": "t3_1kf6kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it ok to text of ex of 2 years to text to see how she is?", "post": "Hey, so its been two years, she met new guys, I met new women. When we see each other we talk casually about work, how we've been and so on. We didnt remain friends, which is totally fine by me, but still we care. A couple of weeks ago, we met at a business event, she mentioned that she had a lots of stress at work, up to the point where she got sick at the beginning of the year. We also talked about a mutual friend who got seriously ill.\n\nMy question is, is it ok to text her to ask her how shes doing now? If everything turned out fine? \n\nWhats you opinion?\n\nThe problem is, I suspect that she is thinking I never got over her, and I dont want to make that impression. I still care, but not like that.", "summary": "Should I text ex? Sorry for the title. I dont know how i messed it up that bad :) can't change it though"}
{"id": "t3_46rpcd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Second First Date", "post": "Some context before I start:\n\nI (M, 17) am going on a first date with someone (F, 16) from another school (we met on tinder, had a mutual friend vouch for me). My last relationship lasted about 6 months, but is the only relationship I have ever been in, and we were friends for a year before we started dating. \n\nEssentially, this is really my first actual \"first date\" scenario, and while I'm not terribly nervous or self-conscience, I understand that I'm terribly inexperienced at this sort of thing. I don't plan on doing anything more than kissing her good night, (we're just having dinner tonight at a good restaurant that we both love with waiters I know) I would absolutely LOVE to hear some tips that you guys have picked up through your years of going into a first date without ever having met the person you're going out with.", "summary": "I'm not looking to score, I'm looking to have a good time on a first date and would love some tips you've picked up."}
{"id": "t3_1j9xak", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "What was your biggest \"WTF?\" moment on your wedding day?", "post": "Here's mine. I just had to share because it's seriously insane.\n\nI was standing kind of away from the crowd because I had to use the bathroom, and of course you get stopped a million times. So I'm chatting with one of my MILs friends, someone I've never met, mind you. We're having a pleasant conversation when my 16 year old nephew comes up to me and interrupts by saying, \"Aunt V, I need to talk to you about something.\" \n\n\"...Um, ok.\" I look awkwardly at the woman because I feel bad that our conversation was interrupted and then he goes, \"Something personal.\" The lady takes that as her cue to leave to give us privacy.\n\nHe comes up to me and says, \"Do you have any weed I can buy?\"\n\nON MY FUCKING WEDDING DAY!!!\n\nI was like, \"NO.\" and walked away.\n\nFirst of all, you are my nephew. I am NEVER selling you weed. Secondly, I DON'T SELL WEED?! Thirdly, I don't even HAVE weed. And fourth, IT'S MY FUCKING WEDDING DAY. I COULDN'T BE BOTHERED TO SELL YOU WEED ON MY WEDDING DAY EVEN IF I DID HAVE SOME AND I DID SELL WEED AND I FELT ALRIGHT SELLING IT TO YOU, MY 16 YEAR OLD NEPHEW. ON MY WEDDING DAY.\n\nJust had to share. It was absolutely absurd.", "summary": "My nephew interrupted a conversation to ask me if he could buy weed  from me on my wedding day, in the middle of the reception."}
{"id": "t3_3nryce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Quick question for women! Im [ 17M ]", "post": "Hey I recently got dumped [ 16F ] ( Few weeks ago ) and one of the reasons was I was too clingy. I'm not ugly I'm attractive to most women ( Not being cocky I've had tons of Facebook messages saying \"You're really Cute\" and stuff like that ) I'm not clingy but for her I was. One example is I texted her at say 6:00 Pm and then she did'nt answer so i texted her a half a hour later? Is that a good thing to do or not? And do most women in general like Clingyness? I'm talking to a new girl now and I don't know if I should be clingy or not? Thanks for help everyone!", "summary": "do women like clingyness?"}
{"id": "t3_qaffd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, when did you realise you're actually an adult and your life is pretty much this?", "post": "OK shit title I know. Let me explain.. Earlier I was sitting in bed derping around on the Internet, avoiding studying, when I realised \"Fuck this is where my life is heading.\" I got a flash-forward of how shitty my life is going to be sitting behind a desk from 9-5. I realised that all my dreams and ambitions and junk from when I was younger will probably never happen. I'll never be world renowned author or actor, I'll never just drop everything and travel or move to New York or some shit. I'll never be an astronaut. I'm only 21 but fuck it, I know I'm too lazy to ever accomplish anything great. \n\nSo yeah, have people ever had this.. epiphany I guess? Actually it's more like a shit-piphany. I'm not trying to be a depressing bastard, my life could be way worse, I'm just wondering if people ever had this defining moment where they knew their childhood/adolescence is over?", "summary": "When did you realise your life is crap and you're not going to accomplish anything?"}
{"id": "t3_1ilbe6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [23F] gave me an ultimatum....", "post": "I've been with my GF for 2 and a half years, we live together but at her parents house. She has been pushing the subject of marriage and kids for awhile now (we each have a kid from previous relationships) and I've told her that I want to have our own place and a stable and secure job before I go any further, I want to be able to support a family and not have to depend on others. She doesn't grasp this concept I assume. Last night she told me that she not going to wait forever, and that she just wants to marry the person she loves. My thought is that if you love someone than you can wait on marriage until they're ready and its not like I'm telling her to wait because I am with another girl. I don't know what to do honestly, I love her but this pressure and the fighting from this subject is pushing me away.", "summary": "gf gave me an ultimatum, marry her or she's walking. Don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1clgmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(21) overthinking what he (24) said", "post": "My bf (of about 6 months) has had a sudden shift in attention in regards to a woman who was previously just a friend. She used to be engaged to one of his friends and he used to come to me and complain about things she said to him that he deemed rude and what not on a daily basis. After her and her fiance broke up he shifted his attitude and he started giving her more and more attention and more time. It is now at the point where he spends more time with this woman that he does me truthfully. He has started to be more and more indifferent about the things I say to him, his response to a message about my \"wishing he was here\" after being apart for some time was \"lol\" When I questioned him about her all he said was \"I'm attracted to her in the same way any man is attracted to a pretty girl\"\n\nI am just trying to decipher what on earth that line means and whether I should be concerned. She is a very close friend of mine and swears up and down that he has not said or done anything out of line but the random shift in his attention and his sudden lack of interest in any involvement with me just is a little troubling D:\nany opinions would be much appreciated, I can provide any additional information as needed, thank you c:", "summary": "he said something that confuses me, just want others opinions"}
{"id": "t3_4hxxc9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [18/F] ask this guy [19M] if he is willing to wait for me?", "post": "I met this guy online and we been on a few dates. The last date we went on went really well. We are both looking for a relationship but the only problem is I went home for the summer and I can not see him over the summer. He seemed like he was opened to the idea of waiting and finding ways for us to see each other over the summer. He seemed very intent on continuing to pursue me. But I think he is losing interest. I know he is still active on the website we were talking on. But before I left he wasn't on there since we started talking. \n\nThe last time we hung out I made it clear I wanted to take things slow, he repeatedly told me he was okay with that. Now, when we text he always tells me how hard it is for him to take things slow. I asked if he was still okay with that and he said \"he is going to try to be\". I don't want to waste my time pinning over someone for a whole summer who does not have any interest in waiting. I want to know his intentions but I do not want to come off as clingy or obsessive, I just want to know whether or not it is worth it.", "summary": "I want to know how to ask a guy if he is going to wait for me without coming off as clingy."}
{"id": "t3_4hqwec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) am starting to get over my girlfriend (18F) of one year..", "post": "We have been dating for nearly a year now, and I've felt myself getting over her for a while now (perhaps the last few months?). I feel as if that's largely due to me going through a period of a lot of stress and anxiety. The thing is we are extremely close and I know how insecure and attached she is to me. We're like bestfriends and have even been on multiple vacations together. I still love her and I would do anything for her but my romantic feelings aren't there and frankly it's killing me.  I still think she's so amazingly gorgeorus too. \n\nWe are both high school seniors and likely won't go down the same path down the road after gradation. Also, it's kind of ironic because before we started dating she broke my heart and said she has never had a boyfriend because of attachment issues and all, and it was one of the first times I cried over a girl. I kind of want to end things, but I am not sure how to approach that. Furthermore, hurting her would just be so awful. I'm hating myself for getting over her and having thoughts about other women and being on my own, but those thoughts are definitely there. What should my next course of action be?", "summary": "Getting over my girlfriend of nearly one year, and I kind of want to end things but I could never hurt her. Confused of next course of action."}
{"id": "t3_48swjz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "About to do a year abroad--have to put my 401k somewhere, and ditch BoA?", "post": "So I am teaching English in S. Korea for a year, and I am confused on what to do with my current 401k which is managed under ADP(?). I definitely have no need to withdraw it currently and incur a bunch of fees.  Where can I roll this over so that I don't suffer any huge fees, and what are the steps I need to take during these next 2 months to do so?\n\nAlso, when I sell off some of this furniture and crap that's lying around, where would I put that money? I currently have a BoA checkings and savings... but am not over the moon about them. Can anyone sum up what kind of banking I need to look into?\n\nI'm 24 y/o and not super financially literate here--I feel like my money is being sort of gambled with in the current 401k (it's down 7% right now...) but I understand that's kind of just part of the game or something.", "summary": "1) Where do I put the 401k?"}
{"id": "t3_1f8dqp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeking advice on how to handle a breakup.", "post": "I (28 m) met a girl (19 f) recently, while she was visiting the States from Europe. It seems to have been love at first sight, and a week later we are madly in love. The catch is she has a boyfriend back home. She was already having problems with that relationship but previously considered him to be a potential future husband, despite certain incompatibilities, simply because she felt he was a safe choice. At the time we met, she was fighting with him, which seems to have further pushed her into my arms. She is back home now, and has realized she can't stay with him, and is in the process of breaking up with him. She feels terribly guilty that she cheated on him (with me), and that she is abandoning him after 3 faithful years together. She doesn't know what to say to him, and he keeps asking why she cheated and why she is breaking up. I don't particularly like the guy based on what little i know about him, but i still feel for him, and don't want to cause him any extra pain beyond the bare minimum. How should she handle this? What should she say to him? What can or should I do to help?", "summary": "A girl I met is breaking up with her boyfriend after cheating on him with me. She already had other problems with him but now she realizes she doesn't love him at all. What should she say to him, to be as kind and respectful as possible while ending it?"}
{"id": "t3_32zply", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] half a year, feeling guilty because I'm afraid he's making a bad choice in order to see me", "post": "I am currently in a long distance relationship with my bf, who I met about 8 months ago. We only got to spend a few days together, but realized we had strong feelings for one another, ended up talking every day, and 4 months later, I spent an incredible month with him. We realized we were head over heels for each other, and decided to give an exclusive long distance relationship a shot.  \n\nHowever, the whole time we've been together, he's had some trouble finding work due to a crash in his industry, which has now picked back up. Recently, he finally found a job (that he is somewhat overqualified for), and I've booked him tickets to see me next month, which will have been another 4 months from when we were last together. The way his job is structured, they have long stretches of days on, and then long stretches of days off, and he's taking the first stretch of days off to visit me. \n\nYesterday, he told me he got an offer for a much better job fitting his qualifications, but they want him to join immediately after his first shift is over that he has taken with this job. It would be literally 3x the money, but he would only have the time off to see me in late July. He immediately told me that though he got the contract, he won't accept it because I've already bought his airline tickets (and this is a flight around the world), he still has a steady job, and doesn't want to wait another 4 months from now to see me, instead of less than a month. \n\nI wish I could tell him he should take the job and the money, but I am dying to see him and he's so determined to come see me I just can't bring myself to say anything other than yes. Is this really foolhardy? He does have a job that is still paying good money, and there will be other high-paying jobs he can grab as the industry continues to recover.", "summary": "My long distance bf is refusing a much more highly paying job in order to see me 3 months sooner. I'm thrilled to be seeing him soon, and have been counting down every day, but now I'm worried we are being foolhardy."}
{"id": "t3_2gv36p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(16m) just walked into my house and saw my mom(38f) cheating on my dad(40m).", "post": "\"Uncle\" Jeremy has been a good friend of my dad for many years and he comes to our house often. He's good friends with my mom too.\n\nToday I came back from school early (because I forgot my physics practical file which I needed to submit) and saw the door of my parents room ajar. Inside I saw my mother lying down on the bed. She thankfully had the covers on top of her and I saw Uncle Jeremy pulling up his pants. He had no shirt on.\n\nI was shocked but assuming that he was about to leave I ran into my room, got my file and ran the hell out of there. Rest of the day continued as normal but my heart is in pieces because I'm about to lose my family. I'm an only child and have no one to talk to.\n\nI'm 100% sure that my mom cheated on my dad. I have not said anything and my mom is back to her own normal self. My dad doesn't have a whiff of it all, and I want to tell him.\n\nA day passed and I wanted to make sure that she didn't know that I knew. But I have to tell my dad. He's a faithful man.\n\nWhen, where and what do I say to him ? We are about to sit down for breakfast in sometime. \n\nMy mother will flat out deny anything I'm assuming, and my dad will lose his shit. Help me decide the right course of action here.", "summary": "Saw my mom cheating on my dad with a mutual friend. Don't know how to break it to him."}
{"id": "t3_1l1t25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[24M] getting more serious with my gf [19F]think I should break things off with my bff [24F]", "post": "So I have been dating this girl since January of this year.  Its going super well.  I've never had a relationship be this easy and wonderful.  My best friend from back home called me earlier this week, and I felt super weird about it.  I love the girl I'm dating, and so talking to another girl feels wrong.  The fact that we have dated sporadically over the course of our friendship probably adds to that.  She never really gave me a full shot in a relationship, which is part of the reason why I have moved away from home.  I wanted to find myself, to stop being someones shadow hoping that things will change.  And I'm happier than I've ever been.  My girlfriend treats me better than my best friend ever did.\n\nMy girlfriend knows I talk to her on the phone occasionally and seems cool with it, but I feel that if she knew the full extent of our long history she probably would be concerned about it.  I think to give this relationship 100% and to be fair to my girlfriend I should tell my old best friend that I don't feel okay with us just chatting anymore.\n\nMy two questions are, firstly, does this make sense? And secondly, if it does, how do I go about doing this?  Can I say this in a text?  Should I call?  And what do I say?  Any thoughts would be quite helpful!", "summary": "Don't feel comfortable chatting with a friend who is a girl while I am in a serious relationship, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4t1xwm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] wedding is in just over a month. There's drama between my fianc\u00e9e [20M] and my second cousin [26] over a tan.", "post": "Relationship details: I [24M] am getting married to my fianc\u00e9e [20F] in just over a month. We met through our families. Her family attends the same church as my family, and although my family knew her family, my fianc\u00e9e and me had never met before (Greek families and churches are big). Our wedding is on August 20, the two year anniversary of the day we first met each other.\n\nThe situation: My fianc\u00e9e asked several of my relatives to be in her bridal party, including a second cousin of mine [26F]. My fianc\u00e9e wants everyone in her bridal party to have a tan so they don't looked washed out in the pictures and video. The entire bridal party has agreed to this, except for my second cousin. She is the one my fianc\u00e9e is the most worried about because she is by far the most pale person in the bridal party. My fianc\u00e9e doesn't how fake spray tans look, so she and the bridal party are either going to the beach or a tanning salon to tan sometime in the week before the wedding. My second cousin is against getting a tan. She had a cancerous mole removed 3 years ago and she doesn't want to risk more skin cancer (though she only had one mole removed, she didn't have chemo or radiation and it was all removed the first time in one go and she has been cancer free since then). It's just one time for a short interval. My second cousin won't even get a spray tan as a compromise, because she says she doesn't like the chemicals in it. She's now dropped out of the bridal party and probably won't come to our wedding. Planning the wedding and getting everything together is stressful, especially for my fianc\u00e9e. I just want everyone to get along. I don't like that my future wife and a relative are not speaking. I want my fianc\u00e9e to be happy on our wedding day and I'm afraid this drama will get in the way of that.", "summary": "My [24M] wedding is in just over a month. My fianc\u00e9e [20F] is at odds with my second cousin [26F] because my second cousin, who is in the bridal party, won't get a tan for the wedding. My second cousin dropped out of the bridal party and may not come to our wedding. I don't want there to be drama and have my fianc\u00e9e unhappy on our wedding day."}
{"id": "t3_32s2mo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] got pretty upset at my girlfriend [19 F] who jokingly tried to make me jealous. Not sure if i am in the right or wrong..", "post": "So my girlfriend gets lots of facebook friend requests from random guys all over the world. One time she showed me one of the guy that just friend requested her. I told her just to delete him, and asked why would she even bother keeping the request if she isn't going to accept the request?\n\n She told me she doesn't do that because it makes her feel good about herself. Then she goes on to show a random guy and tells me he is handsome and has a good build. I'm like wtf and tell her to delete his request but she refuses.\n\n So we are sitting at a sofa and she's now looking at another guy's profile. I tell her to stop again but then she says \"I like looking at where they come from. it's interesting. and not to mention if a pretty girl adds you, wouldn't you look at her profile too?\" \n\nSo then I just give up but she just keeps scrolling through the guy's photos. Then I get visibly upset and she then says that she is sorry and that she was just joking, but by then I was too upset to talk to her and just wanted to be left alone.\n\nIs it bad that I feel upset over this? Is this a petty thing that I should not be upset about?", "summary": "Girlfriend tries to make me jealous jokingly. I get upset. Not sure if I should be though."}
{"id": "t3_4v8u9y", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I need to find a way to gain money for this month's rent. Only this month!", "post": "hello I'm not sure if this is the appropriate subreddit. I am 19 years old and a full time student in college. Just some background. I was planning on getting a summer job but I got swamped with summer school. Unfortunately my school crammed two summer semester and I could no longer work due to the amount of homework and studying I had to commit to. I took summer A which has already ended and now I am in summer break. I decided since I've worked extremely hard to gain a gpa of 3.2 ( doesn't sound that high but it took me a lot of work) that I deserve a break. My mom how ever does not agree. She got mad at the idea and will now charge me rent. Should I apply for a job?  I'm already getting work study for this coming fall semester which starts  august 29. I need to gain money for just this month. She is asking for approximately $500.", "summary": "finished my summer semester. My mom doesn't like that I'm not doing anything and is now charging rent. I'm getting work study starting aug 29. How can I gain money for just this month?"}
{"id": "t3_2awptb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) just got out of an abusive and toxic relationship (w/30m). Feeling good. But now I'm faced with a dilemma concerning his friend.", "post": "When I was 17 I got into an abusive and toxic relationship with a man 10 years older than me (I'll call him Joe). It went on for 4 years (off and on) and was extremely damaging to my self esteem. He isolated me from all my friends and family, and forced the relationship into a state of secrecy. None of his friends knew that we ever dated. None of them know I exist. It's hard, and I've considered moving away because his friend group is so large and sprawling. It's hard to make friends in my city with anyone who doesn't already know him (and they all think he's this great guy that can do no wrong). I'm finishing my last year of school, and then I'm considering leaving the state for a fresh start. It took me 2 years of therapy and a huge amount of support from my friends in order to get out of the relationship, and I finally cut contact a couple months ago after emotionally detaching myself for over a year.\n\nNow I'm faced with a dilemma... I've recently decided to rejoin the dating scene and joined okcupid a couple days ago. Now one of his friends (let's call him Josh, 29m) has messaged me asking me out. I'm completely scatter-brained and have no idea what to do.\n\nI've actually liked this guy for a couple years. He comes into the coffee shop I work at and I've developed a HUGE crush on him. In fact, the crush I had on him helped me gain the courage to end the relationship with Joe. He doesn't know that I exist. He doesn't know that I dated his abusive asshole of a friend for four years. He doesn't know anything. I actually would really like to go out with him, but I never in a million years thought anything could actually happen there. I would like to go out with him, but I don't know if I should. How could I possibly tell him about his friend? When would I tell him? Should I just stay far away? I don't know what to do.", "summary": "A friend of my abusive ex asked me out. I really would like to go on a date with him (I've had a huge crush on him for ages), but he doesn't know about my past relationship with his friend. Don't know if I should go. Don't know if I should tell him about my past with his friend."}
{"id": "t3_21zk2r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU (Today my friend fucked up) When she parked too close to a nearby car.", "post": "So basically, it wasn't me.\nA friend and I were going to the theater tonight to watch the new movie \"Noah,\" (which by the way is pretty good if you don't really know much about the bible, non-religious here).\n\nWe were driving around in the parking lot and we found a spot right close to the door, so she kind of drove in at an awful angle that people would have been pissed off if they had seen it.\n\nShe tried to straighten out... but every time she would move the van, it would slowly inch closer to the vehicle to the left of us. We kept trying to see if we could straighten the van out, or at least go to a new parking space to do so but we were too close to the vehicle next to us to do anything :/ \n\nWe ended up so close that if we were to continue backing out, both of the mirrors would have been knocked off and the vehicles would have been scratched. \n\nWe had no idea what to do, so we gave up and she hopped out of my door. \n\nNot knowing where the other person actually was made the movie pretty dragged out because we both didn't know if the car was going to be there when we got back or not, so it was continuously at the back of our minds.. LOL.", "summary": "Went to the movies and my friend ended up parking way too close to a car. She hopped out the passenger door and thought about it the entire movie. Ended up okay as the vehicle beside us had left before we got there. All is smiles now ;)"}
{"id": "t3_44xag8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Uncle [52] died suddenly over the weekend. His kids / my cousins [m20] / [m17] don't have a dad anymore. What can I do? What do I say?", "post": "Fucking loved my Uncle. He was the fun Uncle. HUGE personality, funniest person in the room, amazing father, husband, everything. Colossal bummer for the whole family. \n\nHis boys are/were always quiet kids, and there was an age barrier growing up -- I'm 26m. About a year ago I started to realize that they were growing up and was having fun getting to know them. I just feel like I'm starting a relationship with them right now and I really don't want them to feel like I'm being nice because their dad died. I just don't know what to do. I really like them, I just feel like I'm just getting started.\n\nI spent the day with them yesterday, and they're understandably sad and exhausted. And they have to like help plan the funeral and shit. And Jesus, why did this have to happen to the quiet kids? They're so overwhelmed and fuck it just sucks. I just tried to keep them distracted when they didn't have things to do or people to talk to... kept a queue of Rick and Morty episodes rolling through the day, got them out of the house. I didn't know what else to do.\n\nMy question is that since I can't be there every day, what can I do? One of them is a high school senior, the other a college junior, and I want to be there for them but I don't want to take them away from those experiences. How do I help make sure they're ok and that they're being taken care of? I don't want to overwhelm them further by calling them all the time, or do I? Should I just invite them out to do fun things? \n\nIf you've ever suddenly lost a parent suddenly, what helped you? What didn't? \n\nThanks to anyone who reads this or answers. I really appreciate it. And just, tell the people you love that you love them. Just love people. Make them laugh and give them a hug. Cheers to Uncle Dan.", "summary": "My Uncle died. What do I say to his boys? How can I be helpful?"}
{"id": "t3_2zcmvl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking water", "post": "This happened an hour ago and I'm still shitting brix over it.\n\nIt was 6 am and I got up, took a piss and started to go back to bed. I walked back to my room and saw an ever so appealing cup of water.\n\n\"Did I pour that cup last night?\" I thought to myself. \"Oh well, I'm thirsty.\"\nSo I took the cup up to my face and right when my mouth hit the brim i thought I felt some hair but whatver, *I'm thirsty.*\n\nTook a sip and immediately regretted it.\n\nFirst thing that hit my mouth was one spider, then two, then I don't know how many after I just ran to the bathroom and jumped straight in the shower.\n\nThat's right, the \"hair\" was a spider Web and the cup was full of spiders.\n\nThanks Canada.\n\nI'd post pics to confirm but I already burned my house to the ground. (threw the cup out)", "summary": "Always pour a fresh cup."}
{"id": "t3_37xeot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21F] break up with my boyfriend [21M] of 1yr if my overly pious Muslim parents may prevent us from seeing each other? I feel guilty that he has to go through this.", "post": "I was born in and live in the US, raised by immigrant Pakistani-Muslim parents. Although I was raised Muslim, I don't believe in or follow the religion. For the past three years, I've lived away from home during the school year. During this time, I met my current boyfriend (white, non-religious). We have a great relationship, no serious issues, and we're definitely serious about each other.\n\nThis year, my parents decided to move me back home so that I can get closer to my religion and \"learn how to be a good wife for my future husband\". Also, they've started looking for a husband for me and have no idea that my boyfriend exists. Yes, it's ridiculous. I don't know exactly how this will play out, but I generally need to get permission before leaving the house, usually can't sleep outside the house, can't stay out late, etc.  We'll probably be able to see each other occasionally but all of this is obviously going to interfere with my relationship.\n\nMy parents would not approve of my relationship and I'm pretty sure my dad would get violent if I admitted to having a boyfriend. I currently am not financially ready to move out and live on my own. (this will hopefully change after I graduate in spring 2016) \n\nShould I end my relationship so that my boyfriend can find someone who isn't so complicated? I feel so guilty that he has to be with someone who he has to jump through hoops to see. We do love each other a lot and he doesn't want to break up, but I'm afraid that staying with me isn't what will make him happiest. At the same time, I really need him, especially now while I'm dealing all of this stupidity at home. The thought of letting go of someone that gives me so much happiness and piece of mind seems impossible.", "summary": "My religious parents are going to make my relationship difficult. Should I just end it before my boyfriend has through put up with too much? Is there any way I can maintain my relationship while living at home?"}
{"id": "t3_4gofn6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Started running, now I can't lose weight!", "post": "So long story short, I've been steady dropping 2lb/week since the end of December. I've made great progress going from 243lb -> 200lb in 4 months. I've been eating at a 1000 calorie deficit, with a decent amount of cycling (10-20 miles per day). I eat back around 80% of my exercise calories and this has been working out great for me!\n\nSo, on Monday April 11th, I weighed 200.2lb and was so excited that I was close to being under 200lb. That night, I did my first metric century ride (~63 miles at 16-17mph pace) and felt amazing. I replenished my fluids, ate 2 protein bars and got some rest. My legs were pretty sore the next day and I could tel they were a bit swollen. I rode the rest of the week and noticed that weekend, that I hadn't dropped any weight that week (I was upset!). Last week I decided to start running, which is something I had never done. I ran a mile the first day, and decided I might do the couch to 5k program. The next day for the hell of it, I tried to run a 5k and I actually did it without stopping in under 31:00.\n\nFast forward to last night, I was going to run a 5k...but ended up doubling that and running a 10k with an average 10min/mile.\n\nSo my question is, I'm beating all my fitness goals, I feel amazing, but my weight loss has stopped. My diet hadn't changed, I'm eating the same (low sodium too). Is this weight just going to randomly fall off one of these days? I have a feeling my muscles are swollen from beating myself up, but it's very discouraging.", "summary": "started running, why can't I gain weight"}
{"id": "t3_jusjf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does Anyone else feel that Star Trek Voyageur was mostly responsible for the death of the franchise than Enterprise?", "post": "From the Original series to DS9, each show had a certain something which helped make the franchise a hit.\n\nWhen Voyager was announced, many of us fans looked forward to watching it as we thought the \"lost in space\" angel was something that would bring the series back to its routes of space exploration.\n\nWhat we got instead was more akin to \"little house on the Prairie... in Space\".\n\nI could go on a rant about how watching Kate Mulgrew's horrid acting made me cringe or how I wished someone would just shoot Nelix in his chipper face, or how much I hated the smug \"happy family\" vibe which seemed to crop up in every episode.\n\nWhat I will say is how I hated the show with a abject fucking passion and from the first episode,knew that it was the worst show in the franchise.\n\nLooking then at Enterprise, while I do agree the series was a pretty weak, it does not deserve the reputation of killing off the franchise.\n\nMore so, I would say the culprit was Voyageur, which hobbled the Star Trek franchise to such a degree that the only possible way it could of survived was if Enterprise as successful as DS9 or TNG.", "summary": "It was Voyageur that did such an amount of damage to the Star trek franchise Enterprise hadn't a hope of saving it."}
{"id": "t3_2el328", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [23/m] just be honest with my good friend [22/f] and tell her that I really like her?", "post": "There's actually more to this story than the title suggests. About 2 years ago this girl, who has been a good friend of mine for a while at this moment, confessed to me. Even though we were getting along really well and I was quite sure I liked her too, I panicked, making a huge fool out of myself and probably hurting her feelings too. \n\nYou see, relationships and/or commitment scare me. The thought of it alone makes me extremely uncomfortable.\n\nWe've had our time apart since but we eventually started hanging out again (same friends and all). Not sure if she still likes me but we still get along really well and make each other laugh quite often. I'm quite sure I really like this girl.\n\nJust go for it, right? Well there's one more thing. For at least 2 years I'll be going to college in another country. I'm leaving in less than a year.\n\nShould I just be honest with her? Could I even handle a long distance relationship with my fear of commitment? Is it even worth to try regardless of my feelings for this girl?", "summary": "Should I ignore my anxiety and tell my good friend I like her even though I'll be leaving the country for 2 years in less than a year?"}
{"id": "t3_53o4oj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Security deposit return problem. Potential fraud with roommate and bank.", "post": "I live in the state of Pennsylvania. Security deposits are required to be returned within 30 days of termination of a rental agreement as far as I know. My girlfriend's security deposit was returned within 30 days, but to her roommate instead. Her roommate apparently didn't notice the check was not written to her and electronically deposited it through the Bank of America app (there are no Bank of America locations immediately near us). The deposit went through even though it was signed by her roommate with her own name (not the name on the check). She does not want to pursue her airhead roommate as it was likely just an accident, but shouldn't the bank be at fault for letting the deposit go through? The rental company will not reissue a new check to my girlfriend. During the time that she realized her check had not come to her, but her roommate who promptly deposited it, she received her roommates deposit. I thought this could be easily solved by having her roommate deposit the correct check and writing the amount in a check for my girlfriend. She does not have checks however and wants the initial incorrect deposit reversed, which the bank won't do.\n\nIn all, the rental company will not do anything about it. The bank says it's not their problem. The roommate is being an idiot and any attempt to solve the problem without including the other two seems to be going nowhere. To me, that's ground for pursuing the roommate, but I thought I'd ask here first. Sorry for the cluster.", "summary": "Girlfriend's security deposit was returned to roommate who deposited it into her own account (accidentally). Bank and landlord say's it's not their problem. Girlfriend has roommate's check, but roommate wants initial, incorrect deposit reversed, but the bank will not comply."}
{"id": "t3_243emw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice, I fell like I (M20) got screwed over by my friend (M23) about a laptop", "post": "Let me start this by some background. He is not so well off like I could be considered and being in this field of studies he needed a new laptop so I offered him to sell my old one for 1/2 of what it's worth, to help him, etc. Mind that I, agains my better judgment, agreed to a \"flexible\" plan of payments (around $50 a month, until the agreed price is meet).\n\nNot 2 weeks pass and he is planning on buying a new laptop, while giving my old (the one he bought from me, or will in future) to his father to use for his job. I felt really unhappy because of it. I sold my laptop to him, for a low friends price, not to his father whom I have never met. And more so he is buying a new laptop that is worth a double of what we agreed on, and still is paying in pieces.\n\nToday I tried to lie my way out of this and told him that my mom needed that laptop and even offered him $100 for the troubles. I was \"pushed\" into saying \"oh wait I talked her out of this\" because he gave me this crap about \"now I won't have my new laptop that I was planning on buying\"...\n\nAll would be better if he payed me in total, then I could forget about this and move on.", "summary": "agreed to sell my old laptop to a friend and he will pay it off in months but he then gives it to his father and buys an expensive machine for himself"}
{"id": "t3_2pc7bz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by running over my lunch.", "post": "I was coming home from getting my truck inspected, and stopped by Taco Bell to get some lunch. When I get home I'm getting out out the truck and get a call from my dad. I tell him that the emergency brake is not working, so the truck failed the inspection. He's explaining some shit about checking the cables below the drivers side to make sure they're not slacked. I however saw a tube hanging down near the passenger side so I set my food down and crawl under the truck to look at it. Turns out to just be some unimportant tube so I tucked it away. Then I get up and go to the drivers side and take a look at the cables below. (Keep in mind on the phone with my dad this whole time.) Cables seem fine so I decide to try the ebrake myself. Get in. Back up. Then put it in drive and put on the E-brake. Truck rolls forward, ebrake is not working. I tell my dad, \"Fuck it, I'll take care of it later\", hang up. And reach for my food in the passenger seat, when the horrible dread hit me. I get out and walk around to the passanger side to see my crunchwrap and burrito squished all over the parking lot.", "summary": "I was testing my emergency brake and rolled over my lunch."}
{"id": "t3_2k3xtg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it fair for my (29/f) girlfriend not want to move to my (31/m) area?", "post": "My girlfriend and I had been together just a bit over a year. We are currently in a long distance relationship, but see each other pretty often thanks to my job that pay quite decently with lot of off time. \n\nShe was supposed to move here 2015 summer after she finish college. \n\nYesterday we were talking and she say that she may would have to stay another year or two to help her mom out with her two brothers (both high school age) and grandmother! \n\nI was upset about this! Her mom is more than capable of taking care of them but she simply doesn't want to be a mother any more! She have been trying to find someone to just dump them off at! My girlfriend somehow decided that she have to be like boys' second mother!\n\nI pretty much told her that this is not fair to me. She just keep making excuses after excuses about everything then try to say we'll find a way to make it work!\n\nIs this appropriate or fair?", "summary": "Girlfriend was supposed to move to my area next summer. Decided to not because she want to stay and help her mom with her brothers!"}
{"id": "t3_n3ff8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I say to my boss about missing my first day of work?", "post": "So  a little background, I have two jobs already, I was hired at this new job, that is also full time were my other jobs are both part time. I missed my first day of work today because my cell phone died in the night which is my alarm. I would like to still have a chance to keep the job when I go in tomorrow. I've been thinking of saying that I had bad service and misheard what day she said to come in and say I thought it was Wednesday or that I had a family emergency and didn't have my phone all day.", "summary": "I need a good and believable excuse to give to my boss at my new job tomorrow for missing my first day cause my phone died.  Read last sentence for my idea's."}
{"id": "t3_2hw8bn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] progress my relationship with my current interest [19F]?", "post": "It should probably be noted that I havent had a relationship in nearly 4 years. Due to the fact that I'm a college student I haven't had all that much time to dedicate to anyone (maybe that's just an excuse, but regardless)\n\nAnyway, I recently met this girl that I immediately clicked with. My recent trend throughout the college years has been mostly casual hookups and very very light dating, but with her things have been different. We've been out in public together, we've held hands and kissed in public, she's spent the night multiple times where we have just fallen asleep, spooning one another, and even dates have happened - god I haven't taken a girl on an actual date in years so this feels huge. \n\nI find myself constantly wanting to talk to her and hang out with her, and it feels so weird because I'm not usually like this to that extent. \n\nIt's still pretty recent, all of this, so I know I can't really say with full confidence that it means anything, and maybe it's just a lack of confidence in the situation, but I wonder if this is as real as I think it is. \n\nIs she into me the same way I'm into her? \n\nHow do I progress what we are doing into something more serious? \n\nWhen is the right time to? \n\nI'm actually quite interested in committing to something for once, and I want it to work out.", "summary": "I met a girl who makes me want to commit to something more serious, but because of my habits in college I don't know how to progress."}
{"id": "t3_3t93yk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13F] with my dad [50M] I like Taylor swift. Whenever I bring her up, he is very mean to me.", "post": "This is a really strange problem, I know.\n\nI'm a pretty big Taylor Swift fan. She's a nice persons, she makes good music, she's pretty, and I like her sense of style. I have all of her albums, and recently I got to go to one of her concerts! My older brother got me tickets.\n\nI don't bring Taylor Swift up in everyday conversations because I know not everyone likes her. And I'm cool with that! I don't like one direction, and there's nothing wrong with that. \n\nBut whenever I mention her, my dad gets really mean. My mom was showing me her Instagram because I don't have one and was curious. She had really cute pictures of her and Calvin Harris up. I went \"I hope one day I can find a guy that nice! Good for Taylor!\" And my dad just went off. I can't remember exactly what he said, but it was along these lines, \"Why would you want to be like her? She's a slutty girl who can't sing! You better not be like her!\" \n\nHe does this EVERYTIME I mention her. My sister had to drive me to her concert because he wouldn't stop being mean. I just want him to stop!\n\nThank you in advance for any advice.", "summary": "dad is really rude whenever I mention Taylor Swift. How do I get him to stop? How do I talk to him about it? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ps25w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching a movie trailer at work", "post": "This happened yesterday around 4pm.\n\nI work as a software developer at a smallish company.  A coworker was excited about some old rap song in a new movie trailer for Boyscouts Guide to the Zombie Apocalypse or some shit like that and he sent me the link.  I click the link and minimize the window so that none of the annoying people around here report me to HR for using the internet (it's happened to me before).  \n\nAbout 30 seconds later I pull my browser back up to close the tab that the trailer was still playing on so I could get back to the sweet sounds of Daft Punk on spotify when suddenly there's a huge pair of big ol zombie titties flopping around on my screen. I quickly close the tab, but it turns out someone happened to be looking at my screen in the 2 seconds it took me to close the tab.  About 3 minutes after this I get a message from HR asking me to come to their office NOW.\n\nI get up there and explain it as best as I can all the while HR does their bull shit HR thing (I've been hearing so many good things! You should know better than that! Blah Blah) and I get told that 'action will need to be taken' before shuffling back to my desk and promptly getting nothing done for the rest of the day due to the anxiety.\n\nHere we are the next morning and I haven't heard anything from them yet... wish me luck.\n\nWarning, zombie titties towards the end:", "summary": "Watched movie trailer, unexpected floppy zombie titties, HR"}
{"id": "t3_1zx1br", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) need some advice about this girl (22F) I've been talking to, what do you think I should do?", "post": "So I've been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks now, and we've had sex a few times. I really like her a lot and she says she really likes me. She hasn't been in a relationship in like 2 years and neither have I. But anyway the other night she wanted to be honest with me, she said in her past she's slept with a lot of guys. Now that's usually a huge turn off for me. but I don't know r/relationships, I really like her. She said she's looking for something long-term now and doesn't want to act the way she did before. So my question to all of you is should I let her past scare me away like normal or do I give this girl a chance?", "summary": "Girl I'm talking to has slept with alot of guys, do I continue talking to her or should I be nervous?"}
{"id": "t3_4u6im5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] BF [25 F] of 4 months has not talked to me in almost 2 weeks and I dont know what to do.", "post": "I met my Bf online. He is in Ireland and I am in the US. We have plans to meet when I study abroad in the UK I love him so much, and he loves me. There are no red flags in this relationship, except that he hasn't talked to me in a while. Id rather not my family know of our relationship until I see him, so at home we use Kik and Facebook to talk and Skype when I am in Uni. I have had times when he didnt talk to me for a few days, but he is poor so he cant afford a non glitchy phone. \n\nWe haven't had a proper conversation since the 4th of july, and the last time he responded to me was 10 days ago. He has made the excuses that \"he isn't online much\" despite it being the only way we can communicate. Its confusing to me because on kik and Facebook my messages were delivered, but he hasn't read them (despite being online Facebook recently). \n\nI try to understand that he cant be online all the time, but at least some communication would be nice. I am at my wits end with this. I am not sure if I should break up with him.", "summary": "BF isnt responding to my messages on social media for weeks, despite being online, he hasn't read any messages. Feeling frustrated and lost about how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1cnvbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can hear my neighbors of 8 months (38m) (32f) plotting and badmouth their roomate(23F), how do I go about this?", "post": "Throughout the month I have both heard them intentionally and unintentionally talk shit about (23f) and critising her lifestyle and sexual attitude despite the fact they are 100x worse than her in every respect.\n\nAfter partying hard and getting drunk on her birthday she decided to have a 3(turned 4) way with her boyfriend, their mutual friend and (38m) slowly goaded her into giving in after she had rejected any notion of sex with him for months, effectivelly preying on her lowered inhibitions(32f lets 38m do anything).\n\nSince I can hear 90% of what goes on, I honestly believe they are just using her since the couple can't hold a full time job to save their lives. From what I know, this is the first time (23f) has lived on her own and I really don't want her to get screwed over by people she thinks are her friends but I do not know how to tell her this without freaking people out (We don't socialize much).", "summary": "My neighbors are exploiting/talk of kicking their roomie out despite her doing nothing wrong."}
{"id": "t3_38ulkq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17/M] I think things are moving slowly physically with my [17/F] girlfriend.", "post": "Bit of background: I know she's not a virgin (she hasn't told me this), and I've heard rumors about what she's done in the past. I don't judge her for it, but I would be lying if I didn't say that it affected my expectations of my physical relationship with her.\n\nWe've been hanging out for about two months, and seeing each other for about a month. We make out pretty much every time we see each other, and I've gone as far as playing with her boobs. After we've hooked up, we listen to music and cuddle for hours. We talk for hours every day. She's obviously interested in me.\n\nBut whenever I've tried to progress farther than that, she's rejected me. It doesn't kill the mood, and we continue making out, but it's happened a few times now and I'm wondering when it's going to change.\n\nIf this was any other situation, I'd think that she was inexperienced/a prude, and I'd be okay with that, and I'd be fine with taking it at her own pace. However, given what I know about her past sexual history, she's definitely not inexperienced and doesn't seem to be a prude, so I'm not sure what's up.\n\nWhat could be the cause of this?", "summary": "Aware of my GFs past sexual history, not sure why she's taking things so slowly with me."}
{"id": "t3_mv7az", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, is it appropriate to negotiate on your salary for your first job out of college?", "post": "I'm graduating this year, and I received a job offer at a company I love (interned there previously). I'm super excited, but the salary is pretty low compared to industry average, and they aren't offering any sort of 401k matching which is kind of a big deal for me. I should probably add that I don't have any alternative offers.\n\nI'm not trying to look a gift horse in the mouth or anything because I know jobs are hard to come by, but I feel like I'm not being compensated for what I bring to the table. Is it appropriate for me to negotiate here? I'm leaning towards yes, but I don't really know. How do I go about it without seeming like a douchebag?", "summary": "About to graduate, got a job offer, salary low, can I negotiate it higher?"}
{"id": "t3_34hsop", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wearing an underwear to the class NSFW", "post": "First lets settle that I am a boy. When I was 14 years old, I did not use to wear underwear because I did not know their use. This was a big mistake as one day, when I was sitting heads down in class on a desk where everyone could see me. The teacher suddenly called my name and I stood up quickly. Just as I stood up, everyone started laughing. It took me a while to realize that I had a boner and it was clearly showing. The worst part was that the girls were laughing too. Even the teacher was holding back a laugh. From the next day onwards I started wearing an underwear.", "summary": "Didn't wear underwear, showed boner to everyone. FML"}
{"id": "t3_106brr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 32, husband is 35, and he has recently registered for several casual sex/fling websites.", "post": "I'm 32, my husband is 35 (almost 36), and we've been married for 10 years.  I have access to his e-mail because he gave me his password, but he must have forgotten that he gave me his password because he has recently registered for 4 or 5 of these \"casual dating\" websites.  So far, he hasn't cheated (that I know of). I don't know what to do. He constantly says he loves me and we have a pretty good sex life. Do I confront him? Wait until he cheats? Get out now? I do LOVE him.  I want to be with him and I want everything to be okay. Part of me thinks that if he hasn't cheated then I should just let it slide, but I know that I don't deserve this.  I am lost.", "summary": "Husband has registered for several dating/casual sex websites despite being happy married (or so I thought). I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4h1763", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Moving to Salem, OR from Texas after graduation, job offer didn't include travel relocation.", "post": "This week I was offered a position in Salem, Oregon. I graciously accepted the offer, as it is my dream job with great pay. \n\nUnfortunately, the offer didn't include any signing bonuses or relocation packages. The start date has not been agreed upon, but it was made clear that sooner is better than later. Also, I do not want to start my job at a college close to the beginning of the academic year in the fall. \n\nI am set to graduate May 15. I do have a part time job (12-20hrs/week) that pays ok at $13/hr, but I do not have much to my name as I pay most of my bills independently. \n\nWhat is the best plan of attack to moving 2000miles on relatively short notice with little funds? \n\n**Considerations**\n\nCurrent living situation:\n\n* Paying my own bills\n* College (and job) are 2 hours from my hometown of Houston, TX\n* Currently renting month to month (adds $100 to rent after April, will need to varify)\n* I drive a 2006 pick up truck, but it's desperately in need of maintenance (guessing $800-$1500)\n* Mostly travel around town on road bicycle; have done the same in Austin, TX\n* Family not really in a position to financially help MUCH \n* I own a boxer (dog)\n\nCurrent job:\n\n* Wage: $13/hr; 13-20hrs/week\n* Current employer is aware of situation, does not need 2 week notice\n* Current employer will allow close to 30hrs/week after graduation \n\nNew job:\n\n* Salem, Oregon\n* No relocation package\n* Start date to be discussed; I'd prefer July\n* Will ask about 1st pay check and/or paycheck advance\n\nNew living situation:\n\n* ???\n\nI am not really sure where to start, or how to even plan for this. Any help would be appreciated.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Broke (soon-to-be) college graduate. 2-4 months to relocate 2000 miles away for new job"}
{"id": "t3_44tsrz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does my ex hate me? What should I do?", "post": "it's been 6 months since i have broken up with my ex and I think she hates me.\n\nwe dated for 2 years and it ended because the relationship was feeling like a dead end. I was the one initiating the breakup, however I knew we were both unhappy, even if we loved each other. Anyway, a week after the breakup i sent her a message to see if she was doing ok; no response from her. after that, I tried messaging her once a month for a few months, but I still got no response. Finally a sent her a letter saying that i'm thinking about her, she responded by saying that she hates me, that im the worst thing that happened in her life and she never wants to talk to me again or see me. This response really seems to have come from nowhere... and i'm not sure what to think about it since we had broken up on good terms...\n\nI'm a 20 year old male and she is a year 20 old female", "summary": "I think my ex hates me, not sure what to do, trying to understand"}
{"id": "t3_sbkc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just mutual attraction with married man, or should I be more wary?", "post": "I'm 23F, and my training manager (not my boss) is 35M, married with a son. I know he finds me attractive because he's told me I looked \"stunning\" and \"smoking hot\" at a business dinner and the body language isn't all that subtle sometimes. However, it's always been pretty innocent.\n\nLast week was my last day working under him, so he took me out to a rather expensive sushi lunch on what I assumed was company money (not uncommon). Come to find out it was actually on his dime. The lunch sort of felt like a weird date. He was asking me questions about my life and interests, and even blushed a bit while I was talking to him, which I'd never seen him do before. He did however mention his family a little, so as to not come off as weird I guess. However, he asked me if I was \"sheltered\" when I was growing up, to which I said no and asked why he was asking, but he said \"no reason\". That was the second time he asked me that though, so I thought it was odd.\n\nBack at work, when we were both clocking out, he waited for me by his car and told me I should come get drinks with him and everyone the following week.\n\nEven though I've always had a crush on him, I still consider him a mentor at work and would like to maintain the relationship because I go to him for advice since he's so good at what he does. Do you think this sounds like something I need to be concerned about, or am I over-analyzing it?", "summary": "First job and not sure if personal relationship with boss is normal or if there's something there that might impede on our work relationship."}
{"id": "t3_32dxdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [20F] believes in the afterlife I will go to hell.", "post": "So obviously, I can't change the opinion of someone nor am I trying to. My girlfriend is a Christian and I am openly atheist. She is also the most direct person I have ever know, having no filter and always speaking what she believes.\n\n We were at dinner yesterday and I jokingly asked if she thought Id go to hell because of my athiest viewpoint, she said yes and I have talked to her since and it is definitely not a joke.\n\n Now I can't get her to change her mind, but it bothers me so much that someone who supposedly cares about me thinks this will happen to me and I can't get it out of my mind.\n\n Am I overthinking this or do I have reason to feel hurt by her views?", "summary": "girlfriend thinks I will burn in hell forever after death and I am very hurt by it."}
{"id": "t3_1znfwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my fiance [28 M] of 1.5 years, he won't get his teeth fixed and it's starting to make me less attracted to him", "post": "I am at my wits end.  My fiance, who I love dearly, has a crack in a cap on his front tooth.  In the creases of the crack it's brown, so basically it looks like he has a rotting tooth or something!  It's disgusting and to be perfectly honest, I'm embarrassed because I've had multiple friends and family members bring it up to me in private.  I feel guilty about my embarrassment because I love him anyway but we are not destitute, we can afford to have it fixed!  I have been asking him for months now to make a dentist appointment and he gives me attitude about it and just doesn't do it.  I'm thinking I should start doing something really unattractive to myself until it bothers him....half joking, half not...\n\nWhat do you think?  Should I do something to make myself less attractive and if so, do you have any clever ideas?  If I should take a more mature approach, what should I do here?  I've tried asking him, I've alluded the fact that it is an aesthetic issue I want fixed but I haven't outright said it is gross and people think you don't brush your teeth and I can't see how it helps you in your industry (business/consulting)!", "summary": "My fiance refuses to get his cracked, brown tooth fixed, what can I do to convince him to suck it up and go to the dentist?"}
{"id": "t3_2ybti2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 34 M with my 32F wife of 4 years. Just had baby and I want to split work/childcare/misc 50/50 and she thinks this is calculating and unloving (X-post from /r/ Parenting", "post": "Before we had the baby I always felt like my wife was a bit lazy. For instance, the year we got married I worked and she stayed at home and was theoretically looking for a job. She got out two applications a month and never finished unpacking our boxes into our new home in the course of a entire year.\n\nWhen we found out we were pregnant we agreed that once we had the baby we'd both watch him and both work (we're self employed and can work from home). Now that we've had the baby she's completely in love with him and says that I should just work (i'd have to work twice as much for us to stay financially afloat) and she should watch the baby. I'm wary again of continuing to pick up more than my share and I also want to spend take caring for the baby so I ask if we can just do everything 50/50. She thinks this is cold and calculating and that this \"counting\" arrangement is unnatural for a loving marriage. Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "I want to split everything 50/50 for our work/childcare/household life together. Wife thinks that's cold and calculating and wants to stay at home w/ baby and only I work. Am I being callous or unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_bmwaa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do You Have Any Hotel Horror Stories?", "post": "I currently work the front desk in a hotel. I don't think this is my worst story, but it is the most recent and awfully infuriating. Today a lady demanded her money back because, according to her, a piece of bed spring that was hanging out of the bottom of her bed injured not one, not two, but three of her family members. I guess the first injury didn't convince the other two so they had to jam their legs against it as well. The lady was also a member of our corporation's membership program, so they knew exactly how to complain if they didn't get what they wanted. These complaints would damage our score in the corporation and could cause some penalties, so it was just easier to give the lady what she wanted. We credited the money back to her debit card. The family had a 1 PM checkout, but by 2 PM they were still hanging around and in no hurry to leave. I finally lit a fire under their asses. When they did leave, they had three cars fully packed with what couldn't have been less than 12 people. They were in a 4 person room. For three nights. The housekeeper, who was supposed to get off at 3 PM, then spent the next 4 hours cleaning what had to be the most disgusting thing I ever saw. They left: 4 HUGE garbage bags of trash that were spilling across the floor, cigarette butts all over the floor, weird, smelly stains in the bathroom and tub, and, of course, no towels, washcloths, or tip. And the bed spring was fine. The lady then had the nerve to call for the rest of the day complaining that we never credited her account. I tried to explain as calmly as possible that the process takes 48-72 hours to go through, but she would hear none of it. I found out later in the day that she complained through the membership program anyway.\n\nSo, I ask you reddit, what are your hotel horror stories, whether as an employee or a guest?", "summary": "I work at a hotel and accommodated a woman who, it turns out,  trashed her room. She complained anyway. Tell me your hotel horror stories."}
{"id": "t3_4qid6x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Which State Tax(es) do I Pay?", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinace,\n\nI have a question regarding state taxes, and I cant seem to get a definite answer.\n\nAs a college graduate of June 2015, I searched and interviewed for multiple positions before accepting a position in New York state this past February. However, part of the hiring process is a 6-9 month temp period which I'm currently 4 months in to. The temp agency I was referred to is in northern New Jersey, which is where I also live.\n\nMy question is: Do I pay both New Jersey and New York taxes, or just New Jersey? I've asked the other temps in my group as well as the temp agency itself and still do not have a definite answer.\n\nI am currently only paying New York state taxes and this doesn't seem right. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Live in New Jersey, work in New York, technically employed by the temp agency in New Jersey though. Currently only paying New York taxes. Is this correct?"}
{"id": "t3_2hqwvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of 9 months have completely different libidos and have some other activity level diffrences", "post": "At the start of the relationship is was all guns a blazing so to speak, to the point I was worried that was all he was in for. It has cooled off quite a bit since, which has lead to less racing home home from a date to much more meaningful dates/conversations which has been awesome for confirming that we have a lot in common...\n\nProblem is, I could still be up for sex at least twice a day almost every day whereas he is more once every week. I  know he is very busy with his job and stressed with  family stuff so I feel incredibly selfish/ guilty trying to start something when he often wants to pass out for hours after round 1 (not even kidding will get home from a date early afternoon and spend the entire day/evening sleeping when I really want to get up and do something at least). That and if we plan on getting 3 things done, we maybe get one thing done, which bothers me to no end (I love sticking to plans). \n\nI know I will probably have to suck it up as far as sex as he is never going to get younger and at this point the thought of being intimate with other people makes feel kinda sick but would it be rude if I waited until he falls asleep then do some homework?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants sleep, I want sex or to do at least something productive."}
{"id": "t3_rvn6o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "20m advice for loving on?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old male, ho has not been able to hold a relationship for more than three months since my freshman year of high school. I feel like a big part of this was due to my first real girlfriend, also the first person I ever felt comfortable opening up to. \nAfter three months of dating she started to possibly have secod thoughts about our relationship and her sexuality. After watching her cry for 3 weeks without having any way of helping her I had made the choice to end our relationship so she could see if this other girl was what she had wanted. \nThey had lasted only a brief period, and I had gotten another girlfriend, whom I had left in an attempt to rekindle with my first girlfriend, in doing so I had lost 2 relationships with this one mistake, I had hurt the one I was dating at the time, and my first was disgusted that I would do that to anyone else, ad neither had wanted to talk to me ever again. I felt so bad I had spent my four years of high school trying to make it up to them doing everything I could to become part of their lives even as just friends. \nI feel like not focusing on my own dating life and solely focusing on these 2 girls had ruined me. Rather I feel that my choices ruined me. \nNow, 6 years after that moment in time, and 2 years after graduating high school I still have not been able to hold a meaningful relationship with anyone. Saying \"I love you\" whether or not I meant it has been a hassle for me, and is the cause of my last relationship ending. \nCan I get advice/tips on what I can do to move on. I'm tired of being alone, and seeing everyone else be happy.", "summary": "screwed up first relationship, need help moving on 6 years later."}
{"id": "t3_36fcrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M/F] with text frequency question. Crushing on busy student [25 F].", "post": "I talk very often to a girl that I met maybe a half year ago.  Mostly we text, sometimes we speak on the phone.  Our texts probably average ~30 - 40 day.  Which is a lot for me!  I don't ever text people this often, could be more than I messaged my ex-girlfriend.  However, she is extremely busy studying at the moment, so we do not see each other in person that often - maybe once a week.    \n\nWith this schedule, she claims to be too busy for a relationship at the moment.  (She is finishing up school at the end of the summer and foresees being more available *cough* relationship ready *cough*) This leads me to two questions:\n\n1. Is she taking advantage of my availability?  \n2.What is a healthy amount of texting to possibly set myself up for something more serious in the future?", "summary": "Am I being used, and why?"}
{"id": "t3_2mmogt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] I'm wondering if it is a bad idea to message friends on facebook asking them out on dates?", "post": "I think it is, but I'm not sure why.\n\nI'm friends with a lot of my classmates on facebook. Obviously they like to relate to my mind. However, I don't know if they would like to relate to my body.\n\nThat is why I would like to message a few people and ask them out on dates. I mean, we are friends on facebook so they do like relating to my mind. I want to get to know them better and maybe see if they would like to relate to my body.\n\nIf they don't, then that is totally okay. I would just like to ask nicely.\n\nI mean, what is so wrong with asking people out if they are single? I don't know that person, so I would like to go on a date and get to know them better. Why is that so wrong and evil?\n\nIf it isn't wanted and invasive, then why are you friends with me on facebook? I'm a single guy, I'm looking to date. I don't see any harm in politely asking someone out for coffee?", "summary": "I think asking people out through facebook might be a bad idea because it is considered invasive, want clarity."}
{"id": "t3_4n2g2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I[19F] ask my father[53M] to stop chewing with his mouth open?", "post": "Background: My dad comes from a traditional Asian family where slurping meals is a good thing and signifies to the cook that the food is good, however, I grew up in North America where making loud noises when you eat isn't generally acceptable. \n\nWhenever my dad eats he always chews with his mouth open and makes *smack smack smack* noises. It really bothers me and makes me lose my appetite. I have mentioned it to him before when I was around 14 how we should keep our mouths closed when we eat, but that just ended up with him yelling at me to mind my own business and just eat so I haven't said anything since. Eventually I just learned to eat as fast as I can so I can leave the table before the majority of the smacking begins.\n\nRecently I found a job near my dad's office so he drives me to work every morning. During that 30 minute car ride, he always chews a piece of gum with his mouth open which results me in listening to *smack smack smack smack* every time he chews. I'm going crazy! I've tried putting on music with earphones,  but I can still hear it. If I use earplugs he's going to ask why. If I talk to him about it I'm afraid he's just going to yell at me again (me and my father never had a good relationship).\n\nWhat can I do? I can tolerate meal times, but the gum thing is driving me up the wall. Finding another way to get to work is impossible unless I bike, which would take an extra hour every morning and I rather not.", "summary": "father chews EVERYTHING with mouth open. I'm going crazy from the sounds"}
{"id": "t3_2iebdd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my ex boyfriend [23M], marriage, cheating, manipulation, please help me leave him for good.", "post": "Hi Reddit. \n\nMy ex boyfriend is not a good man. We dated for about eight months before I discovered that he was married, to a woman in another state who he didn't really know. Military, they married for the extra money. They do not talk, or associate in any way. But, I didn't want to be involved in the shit storm, so I broke up with him. \n\nSince then, I have tried to remain civil with him, as I would love to give him another chance when he settles his issues. He had agreed to take some time apart from me to handle his issues, namely the marriage.\n\nSince leaving him, it has been a complete and total shit storm. He lies to me, changes his story, and has gotten mildly involved with other girls, which also bothers me, because he is putting them in the same position I was put in; getting involved with someone who is married.\n\nHe does a lot of things that are right on the line of being acceptable. When I call him on them, he will try to justify it, telling me I'm just being paranoid or that I was looking too far into things. He will try to blame things on me, or absolve himself of responsibility for being married, etc.\n\nSometimes, he makes me think that it will be okay. He'll buy me flowers, surprise me with dinners, swear up and down that he loves me and wants to fix it, etc. Usually after he gets caught. Go figure. \n\nOverall, I'm fully aware it isn't a good relationship, and that this isn't healthy. For whatever reason, I'm having a really hard time leaving, and staying away. He is not a person that needs to be in my life, I know, but I keep going back. I'm worried that I will fall into a pattern of manipulation and mental abuse.", "summary": "'Relationship' with an ex has all the makings of a very negative and potentially abusive future. How can I remind myself of this, and stay away?"}
{"id": "t3_1aoou1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I got married young and I'm regretting it.", "post": "My husband (male 20) and I (female 19) got married early so that he could stay in the country. We've only been together for about 2 years, married 1. \n\nI still love him, and I don't want to break up or anything. I'm just worried that I might want to in the future. He was my first boyfriend, sexual partner, kiss, everything. I don't feel like I've experienced enough to say that I'm ready to stay with him forever. And lately I feel like I just want to be with other people.\n\nI never liked the idea of dating or sleeping around for fun. But lately I don't feel this way.\n\nAnd I don't know if I can handle the jealous feelings I'd get if I had another partner that had dated around. I don't know if I'd feel comfortable having multiple partners.", "summary": "I think I'm regretting getting married because I haven't experienced much."}
{"id": "t3_4zny65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] want to save sex with my boyfriend [22M] for marriage, any advice?", "post": "Hi all, I just started dating for the first time and, I'm contemplating waiting for marriage for sex but understand this can be difficult for my partner as he said that he felt sex would satisfy a deeper emotional need. Is there something else I can do for him aside from actual sex? We've been dating for 1 year, and we're both virgins. So, just looking for advice on how people abstained despite dating for years. Did you have other forms of intimacy e.g. blowjobs, touching in general, etc, just not penetration? Did it work out in the end? All advice appreciated, thank you!", "summary": "how do you maintain a relationship without penetrative sex?"}
{"id": "t3_1km2wl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Online dating response: Am I being old-fashioned or logical? (F)", "post": "Okay, I have done a bit of online dating and have had good results (3 more than a year relationships, 2 proposals.)\n\nThe problem is I never meet anyone I am REALLY into, they are all great guys, but they just don't do it for me.  \n\nI finally caved and signed up for EHarmony.  Mostly everyone is \"meh.\"  But this one guy contacted me, and I am like, yep, you are awesome.  I sent him back the next automated step (EH is totally lame set up of forced communication) and he never wrote back (The first step is totally generic so it is not like I gave new info he would not be into).  Of course he is the ONLY guy who stopped communication while I'm getting nudges from everyone else and their dads.\n\nHere is the question: Do I reach out and contact him?  (On EH this would require me sending him an email that is accompanied by: \"This user would like to skip recommended steps in our process, do you agree to waving....\")  \n\nTwo trains of thought:  \n1. Of course!  Why shouldn't girls reach out.  What do you have to lose?  He may have just gotten busy matching socks at home.  \n2. Uh, he's not that into you.  He is obviously on a dating site, contacting people, so it is not that he is being shy.  He logs in regularly.  If was interested, he would reply.  \n\nAnd if I do break my internal rules, what could I possibly say?  \"Hey, I noticed that you haven't replied for 3 weeks.  I think you are making a grave error.\"", "summary": "Guy who sent out initial contact on dating site stopped after step one.  Is there any point in contacting him, really?"}
{"id": "t3_2buo6a", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm afraid of the future", "post": "I'll get to the point.  My family consists of my wife, 4 kids, & myself.  We made an okay living.  We could make our bill payments and afford an occasional luxury for the kids, like subway for everyone occasionally.  I was stressing that our mortgage payment would go up $200 this month because of new city water lines that had been installed in the area.  But we would make it work.\n\nMy wife started complaining of a headache a week ago.  Thinking it was related to her ms, we brought her into the hospital where they did a ct scan.  She had become unresponsive at this point.  Bad news; my partner had blood on the brain.  She was rushed by ambulance to a bigger hospital.  They will do surgery eventually, but are waiting for the blood that's gathered to reduce in size.  My wife of 11 years is lying in a rehab center basically unconscious while I worry.\n\nShe was self employed so we now rely solely on my income.  I don't know how I will get our bills paid, kids raised & fed without her.  I've talked to my dad about this but I don't like showing weekness.  I have to be strong for the kids.  They know money will be tight, they can't conceptualize exactly how right things will be.  I can't crack in front of them.\n\nThe worst part is the person who best understands me & always has an idea; now rests most of the day.  She's basically lost her short term memory.  I go and visit her, but don't want to hamper her recovery by making her worry.  I've got to be strong.  But I'm scared.\n\nI am working, while family helps out with kids.  I've filed for disability for her, am working on medical assistance, and (I'm ashamed to say) food stamps.  I understand programs like these are here to help, I just thought I'd be at this point in my life where I'd need the assistance again.  \n\nI just want to cry.  That's why I'm here.  Thank you for listening.\n\n**(", "summary": ") My wife's medical events make me think I'll lose my house and more"}
{"id": "t3_4tfyn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my mother [38F]. She walked in on me while I was using the toilet and now she refuses to speak to me.", "post": "So basically, it's what the title says. I was using the bathroom, standing up peeing, and I dunno the bolt on the door must not have slid correctly into the lock or something, I don't even know what happened, my mother walked in on me while I was using the toilet. The toilet is dead on facing the door so my back was to her when she walked in so she couldn't have seen anything.\n\nI am so incredibly fucking confused by this. I know it sounds like a troll post but I swear to Christ it's not. Like I seriously need help what the fuck it was just a mistake???\n\nThis was yesterday morning, we were laughing and joking before this happened, but ever since she has refused to speak to me, even when I speak to her. She told my brother it's because when she walked in on me it made her feel disgusted and she felt like I was a different person to her (not verbatim but it was along those lines)\n\nI am so confused. Believe me reddit I would love if this was a joke or troll post but it is most certainly not.\n\nMy father reddits and I dunno if he knows my name so I'm using a throwaway. He hates my mom and I don't want him to have any ammunition against her.", "summary": "How do I even summarise I am so confused. My mother walked in on me while I was using the bathroom and she is refusing to speak ever since."}
{"id": "t3_2uh3np", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] don't know how to end things with my girlfriend [21F] of six years without breaking her heart.", "post": "So here's a little background.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for six years.  We met in high-school while I was a senior and her a freshman.  I love her but I don't want to spend the rest of my life with her, and telling her something like that would break her heart.   \n\nWe don't have nearly as much in common now as we did six years ago, or even two years ago, and I just don't feel the \"magic\" anymore.  I've been feeling this way for about a year now, and I haven't changed anything because I'm afraid and don't want to devastate her.  \n\nWe haven't been intimate for about a month now, and she keeps asking if anything is wrong, but I say no every time because I'm a coward.\n\nOver the last few months I've grown more distant, and I've started to slip into a mild case of depression.  I know that I don't want to be with her any more, but I still respect and love her.  I understand that there will be pain in any scenario like this, but I can't think of a good way to end things without just destroying her.\n\nAny advice would be welcome, and I can supply more information upon request.", "summary": "I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and don't feel the love anymore.  Not sure how to end things without breaking her heart beyond repair."}
{"id": "t3_4xqo4c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am a model. My boyfriend [22M] has been really supportive. I have an offer to do a raunchy photo shoot that will bring a large sum of money in. I don't know if he will be OK with a Raunchy photo shoot", "post": "The title basically says it all. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and we met in college. He has always been really supportive of my modelling career. Really sweet guy, and I really hope to marry him one day and start a family. \n\nA friend of mine recently told me about an opportunity to do a raunchy/sexually explicate photo shoot. She is also going to be doing it and they are going to be paying a lot for it. \n\nI find myself with the problem of I don't know if he will be OK with it. I have never had to speak to him about any of my things before, he is always fine with me doing whatever I want when it comes to my career. But I feel like I need to ask him on this one since it will be sexual. \n\nHow do I bring it up to him in a nice way/ask him if he is OK with it?", "summary": "I have an opportunity to do a raunchy photo shoot. How do I ask my boyfriend if he is OK with it"}
{"id": "t3_2lm5t6", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Last minute advice re:Phone screen and a recent layoff. Should I tell recruiter that my status has changed?", "post": "Hey guys - I have a phone screen coming up in a few hours with a fortune 20 company for what is essentially my dream job. The recruitment process started about a month ago (they reached out to me) , but has moved fairly slowly so far. \n\nThe problem is, in the time between requesting my resume and setting up this initial phone interview, I was laid off from my prior position without warning. Obviously I will be completely honest with the recruiter if asked or if it comes up naturally in the conversation, but my question is: should I bring it up otherwise? \n\nI know I will have to inform them at some point in the process, but I'd rather have the chance to get in front of a hiring manager and build some kind of relationship first. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "When should I tell potential new employer that my resume has changed since they first contacted me?"}
{"id": "t3_1ordkf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking coffee while being prescribed with lithium.", "post": "I'm on a road trip to another state with my husband. We are driving late tonight for many hours, and I decided to switch driving with him at a little restaurant. While there, I decide hey, we could use a little coffee, so why not grab some for us? We buy the coffee and get in the car (husband is driving now), and start slugging our drinks on the highway. At first everything is going well as it's a beautiful full moon and the roads are clear, when about 10 minutes into the drive I feel unusually tired and lethargic. Over the next half hour I go from sleepy,  tired, reclining in the seat, to finally nauseous and begging my husband to pull over at a stopping point. Before we even reach the hotel main drive I tell him to stop the car...I get out and with as much dignity as I can muster, embrace the moment and become a vomit factory. Instantly I feel better, and am now recovering in the hotel for the night. After wracking my brain, I remember that at our previous stopping point to the little restaurant, I had popped my lithium pill for my mood disorder. After a quick Google search, it was immediately apparent that I am a big dum-dum who should pay more attention to the side effects of mixing caffeine and lithium, such as intense nausea and vomiting. Oops.\n\nI doubt I'll be getting laid tonight though, husband was definitely put off when I got back in the car smiling and asked if he wanted to see my dinner again.", "summary": "caffeine + lithium = vomit storm"}
{"id": "t3_2knmjr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dry washing a really, really nice car.", "post": "TIFU when my boss asked me to clean one of our customers cars. Where I work customers sometimes leave their cars while they travel with others, for work or pleasure. This particular customer has a close relationship with my workplace and we often go above and beyond to keep his business.\n\n>The car: high-end German manufactured sports-coupe. Fancy. Must have MSRP'd for at least 80k. The oldest it could be is 2011.\n\nSo I cleaned his car. It had a good amount of dust/dirt on the outside. Problem is, I've never cleaned a shiny car. My car is as old as I am with a crummy matte paint job. So I cleaned it like I would my car, spray with cleaner wipe with rag(Brand new microfiber cloth). I now know this to be known as \"dry washing\". What I succeeded in doing is rubbing the dust and dirt into the paint job and giving it a million little scratches.\n\nI never thought of this because I never had to clean anything that shiny. I feel terrible.", "summary": "Dry washed really fancy car for customer. Millions of little scratches."}
{"id": "t3_3z20s8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] wants me [18M] to experiment", "post": "I'm 18 and I told my girlfriend a couple months ago that I might be bisexual. Now she is telling me that she wants to take a break to let me experiment with other men to know my sexuality better. I'm virgin but I love her and I really don't want to be with other people right now. I keep telling her that it doesn't matter to me if I enjoy having sex with men as I enjoy having sex with her but she says that she needs to know. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to lose her. We have been together for 14 months. I don't know if this is the place where I should ask this. This is my first time here.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants me to be sure about my sexuality and want me to take a break and try with men."}
{"id": "t3_117njm", "subreddit": "books", "title": "The Bumble eBook Bundle!", "post": "Some of you might be acquainted with the fellows at Humble Indie Bundle. What they do is create a bundle of video games and sell it on a name-your-price basis for 2 weeks. Some of your contribution goes to charity (you decide how much!)\n\nThis time, they're doing the same with eBooks:\n\n* Kelly Link - Magic for beginners\n* Kelly Link - Stranger things happen\n* Mercedes Lackey - Invasion\n* Lauren Beukes - Zoo city\n* Paolo Bacigalupi - Pump Six\n* Cory Doctorow - Pirate Cinema\n\nIf you beat the average, you also get: Neil Gaiman & Dave McKean - Signal to noise and John Scalzi - Old man's war\n\nThese guys are awesome and their idea is fantastic, I suggest you check them out.", "summary": "7 legal eBooks and 1 graphic novel. Pay what you want, no DRM, multi-platform, helps charities"}
{"id": "t3_46fosp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my friend [17F] of 1.5 months, I want to take things to the next level, but I don't know what's stopping her.", "post": "Hey guys, I just need a second opinion on what's going on here. So there's a girl that is a friend of a friend and we met at new years which was at my own house. My friend invited her, and throughout the night her and I really hit it off. I got her number, and Snapchat, but my parents were around so that was all that happened. Since then her and I have hung out a few times, I took her to a movie once, and she also came over to my house once. I see her quite often as well because our friend group has been hanging out together a lot lately. When we hang out just her and I, she'll let me put my arm around her or whatever and get close to her, and we kiss. But whenever we're with our friend group she seems really hesitant, and none of the above happens, and it bothers me. I asked her if it was because she doesn't have feelings for me, and she says \"I don't know exactly how I feel and it's difficult for me to tell.\" But after one incident of us being around the friend group and her being hesitant I stopped texting her so often. I used to always text first, but now that I stopped doing that she's texting me first. So why is it that she tells me \"She doesn't know how she feels\" but she still tries to talk to me, without giving me a serious answer? I'm trying to take this to the next level and it seems like she doesn't care. Lately she's been \"busy\" too, which means we haven't been able to find time to do anything. She knows that I'm really interested in her, and I don't know if she's just leading me on or if she's actually interested in me, but when I ask all I get is \"I don't know\". Is she interested, or not? How do I get a clear, concise answer?", "summary": "Girl knows I'm interested, shows interest back when we're alone, but not around friends, and when I ask her over text she says she \"doesn't know\", what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2uk86g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M], how/when to explain lip cold sores to a SO", "post": "I've been getting cold sores for most of my life. I've never really had to deal with them in a relationship since I've not had many relationships. But lately, I've been more outgoing and talking with more girls I'm interested in whenever I do go out.\n\nEven though I don't have outbreaks often, usually one, maybe two a year, I am always super careful. I don't want to knowingly give this virus to someone else. (Yes, I do realize it's in a vast majority of adults, just \"dormant\" if you will).\n\nAnyways, what's a good way to bring this up? Part of me wants to just try to avoid kissing whoever it is for the week or two that the outbreaks last, but that's not really something that can keep going on as a couple gets closer to one another. I just can't think of how I would talk about the situation with a (potential) significant other.\n\nAlso, when would be the best time to bring something like this up? I can't see bringing this up on the first date as something that will be beneficial. When the first outbreak occurs maybe?\n\nIt's not something I intend to hide from whoever my SO might be", "summary": "Cold sores on lip, how to tell SO, when to tell SO?"}
{"id": "t3_4bc674", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I accidentally caused /r/The_Donald's rapid growth over the past month.", "post": "Before the end of this post, I will prove that it is more likely than not that me plugging /r/the_Donald in a front page post directly caused that sub to grow into what it is today.\n\nA month ago, I posted [George R. R. Martin has passed away] on /r/circlejerk.  It was essentially a practical joke, and by the end I was engaging in many of those circlejerk tropes.\n\nAs a joke, and as you can see in the image, I plugged a pretty low-user sub that I had seen on /top/pasthour recently.  I wasn't sure if it was a parody sub or not, but I figured it belonged in /r/circlejerk.\n\nOn the day I posted, the subreddit had 14,000 subscribers it had built up over the course of eight months.  You can see the metrics here:  \n\nI made that post on February 20.  After that post, [its userbase exploded](\n\n[Over the course of the next eight days:](\n\n1. It was a trending subreddit for three days.\n\n2. It was the fastest growing non-default subreddit for 5 of those days.\n\n3. and it grew from 14k subscribers to 40k.\n\nIt's obviously larger now a month later with a user base of over 70k, but the original post and plug caused the rapid increase over that first week.  Last night, I woke up in a cold sweat when I connected the dots and realized what I had done.", "summary": "I plugged a subreddit in my front page post, directly causing all Reddit users to see stuff about cucks more often."}
{"id": "t3_1wkm3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married (25f) having trouble with communication, which is cause more issues.", "post": "My husband and I got married really young and up until the last 8 months we were fine. We moved to a different state for school so we had to find a roommate because we couldn't afford a place by ourselves. I get along really well with our roommate, it's easy to be myself around him and that scares me because my marriage hasn't been the greatest. I spend a good part of my day with our roommate because  I'm a SAHM, we cook together, clean together, go to the gym and just chill together. So now I'm crushing really bad on my roommate, and I'm not sure what to do. (This is the second time ive had issues.) Last year same thing happened, I started crushing on him because we were spending a lot of time together. I stopped spending so much time with him (including quitting the gym). I stayed home and sort of ignored him for a bit. So now here I am again crushing bad. I literally crave him and it's driving me insane.\n\nI have not done anything with said roommate. Yes my husband knows that I had a crush last year. I've tried to invite my husband to the gym and asked h if we could have more date nights but he doesn't seem at all interested. I do t want to leave my husband, he is genuinely a great guy, I just feel we've just grown apart. (Leaving would also be difficult because we have a two year old).", "summary": "married but there is a serious lack of communication (among other things) and falling for another guy. Haven't Done anything with the other guy, but thinking about it a lot."}
{"id": "t3_w8oyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend lied about how many guys she had slept with prior to us dating.  Am I overthinking? (M:21 F:19)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now.  It is a very serious relationships (we're young and foolish, I know) and we've actually mentioned getting married.  We had sex very early, almost too early, and one time she told me to ask her how many guys she had slept with.  Of course, I asked her, and she said 2 prior to me.  I   One was a long term boyfriend and the other was a one night stand in which was completely out of character.  She also told me that she had a \"wild summer\" where she partied and what not.  I used this as an opportunity to share my past just to make sure nothing came up in the future, so she knows everything I've ever done and with who.  That being said, I had built some sort of a visual of what she was like before I met her: she partied, but didn't sleep around which shows a strong will in a person and she seemed like somebody to look up to.  And the twist.. I was talking about how cute it was that she was so innocent, and she breaks it to me; she'd actually been with 5 guys before me.  All of them were in one summer, and just hook ups.  This image I had had in my mind about her and type of person she was completely changed and I haven't felt the same ever since.  The sex doesn't seem the same either probably because I'm thinking about it.  The worst part is, if I had known this prior to meeting her, we probably wouldn't be together right now.  I've even thought of breaking up with her because of it.  Am I overthinking it? If I am, how do I overcome it?", "summary": "My gf comes clean about being a slut prior to us dating, now I'm having second thoughts. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2v5a6w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "(NSFW) TIFU by not listening to a woman", "post": "This actually happened a few weeks ago, go figure. It took me a while to get over this FU and I'm pretty sure the reddit community would love to laugh at my misfortune. \n\nIt was the night before I went back to college so naturally my friends and I got obliterated drunk and went to a few parties. \n\nOne of my old FWB (We'll call her Mary) met up with us at the party and of course we started to get touchy feely. \n\nWe went back to my buddy's house to smoke hookah and drink some more. After a few more drinks I gave my friend the signal to get out so I could do my business with Mary. \n\nMy friend left the room and Mary and we started making out feeling up on each other and clothes started to come off. Mary's pants were off and I went down for some clam chowder. Mary was hesitant pushing my head back saying \"No, no don't, you don't have to\". But her being a 4'11-5'1 small thing and me being a 6'1 drunken, horny beast I was very persistent and had my clam chowder along with doing the dirty on my buddy's couch.\n\nThe next morning I'm headed back to college and I get a text from my buddy that will forever haunt me. It's a picture... Of Mary's panties... Stained with blood EVERYWHERE. \n\nNo I will not show you the picture.", "summary": "I got my red wings"}
{"id": "t3_1jz2vn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26/F] on day 5 of break up. What day are you on and how are you doing today?", "post": "My boyfriend and I broke up 5 days ago, as the title says. We had a rough relationship and as much as I wanted to make things better he wanted to stay who he is which caused a road block. \n\nYesterday I text him 4 times, he text me back by the 4th text. It made me happy so I showed him how happy it made me, he didn't seem to understand. He was still very confused as to why i was being so silly even after telling him I was acting happy because talking to him made me happy. \n\nBefore going to bed last night I emailed him about the dreams ive been having and somehow that broke down part of his wall but he wont talk to me about what hes going through. It may have broken down his emotional wall but it didnt break down his \"I dont want to open up\" wall. You would think that someone who went through 4 years of therapy treatment would be able either talk this out or properly manipulate the situation, he instead shuts down even though im right here, with open arms, wanting to help him through OUR break up. Sadly no one else can help him through it because his friends aren't those type of people. \n\nEither way my day is a little bit crappier than yesterday but a bit happier because he did something hes never done before and that was text me back after breaking up.\n\nI wrote this to sort of break the ice a bit. Im a bit tired of talking about my breakup, I want to hear about someone elses.", "summary": "asking people how they are doing during their breaking, wrote a little essay about my break up to hopefully help some people open up"}
{"id": "t3_s07ly", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worst prank anyone ever pulled on you or someone you know?", "post": "This didn't happen to me, it happened to my parent's friend's son. He rents out his house to three people. He sleeps in the basement and he is a DEEP sleeper. So, apparently his tenant in the top floor of the house has some sort of mental issues or something.... any ways he wakes up to hear this door slamming and goes crazy. He calls the cops and tells them that my parent's friend's son (let's call him Jim) is holding him and his mother hostage and he has a gun. The S.W.A.T. team shows up and are talking on the megaphone yelling \"JIM WE KNOW YOU'RE IN HERE, COME OUT WITH YOUR HANDS UP.\" He is sleeping in his bed the whole time. They break in, get all the other tenants out and handcuff them in cruisers. Jim wakes up and checks his voicemail. He has several messages spaced over and hour or so and he checks them. \"THIS IS SERGEANT DERP MCDERPSON WITH THE S.W.A.T. TEAM GET OUT NOW WE ARE BREAKING IN.\" He stumbled to the door in confusion, still wearing his boxers and opens the door to find a shotgun in his face. They handcuff him and bring him to the cruiser in his underwear and take him to the station where he finally figures out what happened. Needless to say, the guy was kicked out of Jim's house.", "summary": "Tenant calls cops saying he is being held hostage, guy gets arrested in his underwear."}
{"id": "t3_2cxjut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my SO [26 M] of 6 months need some advice and/or ideas when you can't take back hurtful words?", "post": "It's not been a long relationship and I really messed up when I left for a few months for work. During a chat, I said something hurtful to him which at the time I didn't think it would be but I know that my own sense of insecurity tends to push him away.  He wants to break up but I want to ask for another chance.\n\nOn my end, I feel overwhelmed and unfortunately mistook the seriousness of his feelings. I don't know how to communicate those doubts without hurting him for it. The distance has been hard for both of us, and we express it differently. He sometimes doesn't want to chat for a few days but I need to at least need a few minutes with him every day. I guess this is clingy and sentimental. I try not to push this because I want to be understanding and considerate of him, but sometimes I say things that I shouldn't. I don't say, \"Hey where were you these past few days...or I need you\". He doesn't express much but is affectionate when we talk and occasionally sends me lovely notes. But then randomly when I do get some time with him, I blurt out my insecurities about our relationship. We have a lot of things in common as much as we have differences such as language (shares one in common), culture, and religion. Yet, none of those things are an issue for him, and they're not for me but I'm one of those persons who need to know why and how. \n\nI just feel terrible. I want to fly back and practically beg for forgiveness, but I don't want to make things worse. I feel that everything I say will just blow up in my face.", "summary": "I want to express how sorry I am and how much I do care for him. "}
{"id": "t3_12crhe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] started seeing [21/f] when shes contacted by ex and is now confused about what to do", "post": "so i started seeing a girl for about a month i met recently after she broke up with her ex who is a friend of mine. he was cool with the whole situation until he saw it started getting serious between me and the girl, at which point he contacted her asking for a second chance. the reason they broke up was because the guy was a complete toolbag and didnt know what he wanted  in the relationship, but now, magically he does. i tried being a good friend before i made a move on the girl, by asking his permission before going for the girl and yet here we are. shes now confused about what to do, and so am i. What do i do to show her that going back to him will just end up being the same stupid things as before, without being an obsessive douchebag?", "summary": "exbf of girl im seeing is trying to get back together with her which is messing up our relationship and i dont know what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_1njqbu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21m] 4 months ago I cheated on my gf (20f) and today told her. She can't stop thinking about it", "post": "I (john) cheated on my girlfriend (jane) by kissing another girl back in May. This happened before me and my girlfriend became exclusive, but I had continually told her she was the only girl I wanted to be with and other things along the same lines. We've been dating now for 3 months and have known each other for 7. Just last week, I told my girlfriend I love her for the first time and the next few days, I felt so guilty (and still do) about her not knowing. I realized I couldn't continue with her not knowing about my cheating, so I told her the full story. She was understandably upset, saying she can't trust me anymore. Today, she said she's happy unless she thinks about it too much but when she goes to sleep, \"[she] just can't stop thinking about it or picturing it.\" She said she still wanted to be with me because she loves me too, and has never felt like that about a guy. She's been cheated on with all 3 of her other relationships, but I'm the only one deserving of a second chance. I messed up bad and I know there's very little I can do to make her feel differently, but I'm asking for any advice regarding this.", "summary": "it's pretty short or read the title"}
{"id": "t3_54hd2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my partner [23M] of 2yrs 4 mons, truly better when we are physically able to be near each other.", "post": "Is it weird to think that we do better as a couple the more we are around each other but when work/school picks up and we can't see each other as much, I feel that things get rough? Texts are misunderstood, and I can't do the simple things like reach out for a hug or give a kiss.\n\nTo give you an idea I'll breakdown what distance has looked like, chronologically from start to present:\nFirst 3 months - 12 min drive apart (see each other almost daily)\nNext 4 months - 4.5 hour drive apart (I usually went to him every other weekend)\nNext 5 months - 3.5 hour drive apart (I usually went to him every other weekend)\nNext 3 months - 1 hour drive apart (see each other rarely)\nLast 13 months - 25 min drive apart (typically see each other once a week or on weekends, sometimes miss a week and go 2 weeks)\n\nThe first 2 years of our relationship had a lot of communication issues but we've slowly started to learn more about the way the other thinks. Example: reading this great book called \"The Five Love Languages\". A lot gets mixed up over the phone or in text, and I feel that we work better when we can really be together and spend time and hang out with each other. Does anyone else feel like some people you have to BE there with in order to GET?\n\nOf course, the more time you are with someone the better understanding is going to be. I'm wondering if anyone else seems to find this non-presence 'block' when it comes to certain relationships; and how it has affected you?\n\nWe really enjoy being together, so we are as much as we can both be. Might be easier when we are both on 9-5 schedules and/or living together. He says distance makes him feel distant, so we try not to go too long without a visit! I used to enjoy \"distance makes the heart grow fonder\", but I feel that was before I really understood the value of our companionship. I really like spending time together now, as well.", "summary": "Is what Jack Johnson says about being \"Better Together\" really true of physical distance and relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_202n10", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dealing with depression and school. Please help...", "post": "I have been clinically depressed for years, I have taken medicine in the past and felt better temporarily but all that happiness seemed fake and as if I shouldn't have it. I stopped medication and was drifting through life, doing the motions. I have been in community college since high school because I didn't know what I wanted to major in. I just got accepted into a university I want to go to. \n\nThe problem is this, I have been so depressed I haven't gone to school in a while. I started with 4 classes and withdrew from 2 already and am thinking of withdrawing from the other two as well to just work full time and save money for school since I will need many loans. I'm definitely going back on medicine. The problem is I live at home and payed for the classes already, not that expensive but still money, if I go back to school this semester I'll get C's. I'm usually an A student. How bad are W's on a transcript for when I apply to graduate school? I don't want my parents to know that I withdrew from school if I do they'll flip a shit and kill me. I don't know what to do. Withdraw from school, save money, and don't tell parents, or get bad grades?  Btw does withdrawing from school affect transfer decision? I already got accepted but idk if they can reject me because, of this post acceptance? \n\nPlease help", "summary": "struggling with depression, should I withdraw from school for this semester? "}
{"id": "t3_15aw4b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think my relationship is verging upon being overly physical... and I don't want it that way (I'm 19/F)", "post": "Alright reddit, I need your advice\n\nI had an internship in Germany this summer and I met this guy (21/M) and we instantly became the closest of friends. There were a few \"lost in translation\" moments here and there, but his English is generally good. 3 weeks after our friendship we started become interested in each other as more than friends and he went about the most romantic way of stealing my heart. So much that a week later when it was time for me to fly back to the States, I decided to keep in touch with him until I returned to Germany in three months for my semester abroad.\n\nIn those 3 months we grew even closer together. Texted almost everyday and skyped every weekend. He even sent me surprise packages in the post, and he had all my best friends swooning. It was like having a boyfriend/best friend without the burden. We could talk to each other about absolutely anything.\n\nFast forward to December and we were so ecstatic to see each other. The first day of us being reunited went as perfectly as I dreamed it would, but it started to get weirder from there. All the suppressed sexual frustration came out too soon and two weeks after my arrival we had sex. And now I'm scared our relationship is almost 70% physical. Yeah we go out on dates, cook together, etc. But it always leads to physical outcomes, every single time we see each other. And before the sex, it was always 2nd or 3rd base.\nAlthough that doesn't take away from the fact that he treats me fantastically and goes out of his way to do so. Also if I'm not in the mood to fool around, he'll gladly listen.\n\nI know we had a mental connection, but now I feel like it's sort of simmering away. I just want to bring it back... how should I go about doing this? If nothing works then I don't know if I want a relationship. I had an awful one that ended in January (which was also overly physical) and I'm scared of getting hurt again.", "summary": "survived 3 months of long distance and now things are getting more physical than I wanted. How do I maintain a stable mental connection?"}
{"id": "t3_2z1kwh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (29/f) relationship with my boyfriend (m/26) is in limbo. Can we overcome this?", "post": "I'm 29, my boyfriend is 26 and we've been together 1.5 years. He's been going through a very confusing time over the past 2 weeks, in fact I haven't seen him at all over this time period. He's questioning whether he wants to be with me, whether he sees a future, etc. He also said he thinks he's depressed and said it seems as if his love for me has shifted. I agree that romantic love changes to committed/attached love after the honeymoon phase wears off, but he's having a tough time accepting this. \n\nAlso it's worth mentioning that he doesn't speak to anyone else about the way he feels, only me. And that's a big weight on me when the issues he's having are about me. I've suggested therapy and he made an appointment on Friday and accidentally overslept. He's trying to get seen next week and I hope that will give him some clarity. \n\nReddit - have you ever experienced this? Is this something we can overcome? I'm hopeful, but not unrealistically so. I really think we should seek couples therapy so that we can both learn some skills in dealing with this and so that he can learn some coping skills.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 1.5 years is suddenly feeling unsure because the honeymoon phase has worn off. Can we overcome this or are we doomed?"}
{"id": "t3_161gvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [19] supposed to be OK with my girlfriend [16] flirting with random guys?", "post": "We've been together for a year. I'm 19 (male) and she's 16 (female.... oviously.)\n\nShe lives with me after she got kicked out by her family. I know she's a little young, but she's mature for her age. She's going to community college and works part time. I work full time. \n\nShe works at this old-timey soda shop/ice cream parlor. She **admits** she flirts with customers for better tips. Sometimes these guys are twice her age! She only gets paid like $2.50 an hour before tips, so I understand her reasoning, but I don't think it's right. I mean, she doesn't even need to work. I'm doing well for myself and making quite a bit of money (I should hit low 6 digits within a couple years.)\n\nHer college is free. It's not like I'm charging her rent. It's not like I'm asking her to pay for food. I'm taking care of her, she doesn't really *need* money, especially if she flirts to get it.", "summary": "Should I be ok with my girlfriend flirting?"}
{"id": "t3_hmscj", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat simply refuses to eat dry food.", "post": "Like it says on the tin. Younger cat, around 18 months old now, and has never eaten dry food. We've tried mixing it with tinned food, we've tried crushing it up, we've tried crushing it up and mixing it with tinned food. We tried only serving him dry food for two days running, but didn't have the heart to keep it up. He's a purebred Burmese and he's pretty awesome, but he gets hungry and cries for food when there is a perfectly good bowl of dry food sitting in the hallway for him. His brother (same breeder, same father but around 3 years old, we just call them brothers) eats any dry food under the sun. He prefers the Hills one, but will eat whiskas if that's all there is. What can I do to compel/trick/bribe/convince the younger one to eat his crunchies? Here's a picture of them together, Isaac (younger) is the lighter cat and Ari (older) is the darker one.", "summary": "my cat won't eat dry food, help me get him to eat dry food."}
{"id": "t3_2olnx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong that I [25 F] feel uncomfortable that my bf [25/M] is going out to eat dinner with another girl [25/f] ?", "post": "My boyfriend just recently became friends with a girl through a sports team he just joined at the community centre and they have known each other for only 1 month. We are currently in a long distance relationship and I admit that I do have insecurity and trust issues. I don't know how close they are but he doesn't hang out with anyone else from the sports team besides her. The first time he was going to eat dinner with her (just the two of them) he hid it from me and said that it was last minute because there was supposed to be other people but they bailed (I am not entirely sure if I believe this). Sometimes when we skype, I hear that someone texted him and I ask who it is and he lies and he says its just a Facebook notification but I know that was a text ringtone (i have the same phone). He told me that he is going to eat dinner alone with just the two of them again and I feel uncomfortable about this. If this was an old friend that was there before me, I feel it is fine but he is not even close to her, I don't see a reason why he has to eat dinner with just the two of them. He has assured me that I am the only girl for him and she knows that he is dating me. I told him that I am uncomfortable with him eating dinner with just the two of them but he said its not a big deal and he won't budge on it. I want people's opinion, is it just me being too insecure or do you think he is crossing the boundary?", "summary": "Boyfriend eating dinner alone with another girl, crossing the boundary or am I just being insecure?"}
{"id": "t3_1gqjea", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m] This Isnt a Joke Either I Need Help....", "post": "Well, Okay my story begins like any other 16 year olds. I met a girl we started dating. dated for almost a year. I fell in love with her first love, kiss etc. But after awhile I just got tired of getting treated like shit because she was selfish and all the names in the book she would get me in trouble. (She would party and make me steal alcohol from my parents which I am not a drinker) but the problem is... I cant help but miss her. Shes no good for me but I just cant help it I cant even talk to other girls without thinking of her. I feel like such a douche hat when I call the girl I'm on a date with my ex's name nothings more awkward then that.. But please I need your best advice. I'm all ears. :)", "summary": "I need relationship advice on a girl that was my first that's no good for me always getting me in trouble or trying to ruin my life but I miss her like crazy."}
{"id": "t3_vdz53", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend needs your help, Reddit. How should she tamper with her food?", "post": "So my girlfriend lives in a dorm that has a shared kitchen. They share a freezer in that kitchen, but have seperate closed shelves with their names clearly marked on them. My girlfriend even puts her food in closed non-see-through bags with her name also on them in her shelf. \n\nAnyways, lately someone's been stealing her food. Its happened before and it seems to happen when new people move in it. They've tried signs, meetings etc. but it keeps happening, and by the massive amounts of food she's had stolen it might be multiple people. By now, it seems to be turning into some sort of \"well I've had it done to me so now i'll just do it to someone else\" sort of thing.\n\nSo basically, she asked me to help her figure out how she should tamper with some cheap food that's likely to be stolen. She usually loses stuff like french fries, garlic bread or bread in general and the occassional bag of meat. I'm counting on you Reddit on having the most creative ideas of making these scumbags pay.", "summary": "Girlfriend has food stolen from freezer. Help me think of creative ways to tamper with said frozen food."}
{"id": "t3_1asali", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (22M) handing out business cards to girls? I'm (22F) worried.", "post": "Hi, my boyfriend of two years is head of this big society at university and they organise lots of social events. \n\nOne of them is an event where all the first year students get drunk together, now my boyfriend is a fourth year and he got really drunk on this event and was handing out business cards to the girls and they've all been adding him on Facebook and such. What am I to make of this? All the girls steal his hat, grab his arse and are generally \"in love\" with him for being president of this big committee.\n\nI don't know what to do, do I bring it up? I feel like he might have just done it as a joke but it makes me sad :( \n\nI think maybe my self-esteem is lacking too", "summary": "Boyfriend of two years got really drunk and handed his business card out to lots of younger girls, not sure if he's just joking around, or how best to handle this? Am I overanalysing this? Why do I feel so on edge?"}
{"id": "t3_2g24c7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing an appointment", "post": "Today, I was supposed to have my first tutoring session with a student whom I had not even met yet. This session was arranged through his father, and is a very good potential source of income for a college student like me. But with all the college things going on, along with my incredibly horrendous period cramps, it completely slipped my mind. By the time I had realized, I found that it was already half an hour past the end time of the session.\n\nWhat makes this worse is that the poor guy probably waited at the library for a while (I probably would have felt better if I was just a no-show at the guy's house), so now I feel super guilty. I've already called the student to apologize, and emailed the father offering a free tutoring session if they're willing to overlook this mistake. Anyways, right now I'm feeling extremely guilty, and feel like I just lost all my credibility.", "summary": "College and periods lead to forgetting shit."}
{"id": "t3_1o3h1x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18/M) went through my girlfriends phone (18/F) and found her flirting with a \"friend\"", "post": "So here's some backstory on the situation. We have been going out for about 8 months now. My girlfriend loves to text a lot of guys from Facebook frequently. She claims they're her friends but it's obvious that's not the case because they don't live remotely near her and she's never met them. Whenever she posts a new picture of herself these guys are always commenting on the pictures or liking them. \n\nI came to the conclusion that she just likes a lot of attention from other guys. This made me uncomfortable but I talked to her about it and she promised me everything was fine and that she only loved me. (She also texts these guys when we are together). Two weeks ago we were cuddling when she gets a text from \"best ever\" I ask who it was and she says it's a girlfriend from school. \n\nYesterday we were hanging out and she asks me to hold her phone. Soon enough best ever decides to text her. I know I shouldn't have done it but I just had to. It turns out \"best ever\" is actually a guy from one of her classes. I look through the messages and find some flirting. Her saying \"I need a cuddle buddy\" and him asking how many times she's had sex etc. \n\nI told her what I knew and she became very angry and frustrated that I looked through her phone. She said that they're best friends and that they were just joking around like they always do and I shouldn't control who she texts.\n\nI know it was wrong to do but look what I found. Is this a case of just casual flirting or should I be afraid she's trying to cheat on me? Any advice would be appreciated thank you", "summary": "I think my girlfriend is emotionally cheating on me because I found flirtatious messages on her phone"}
{"id": "t3_vi7iy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your worst sexual experience? I'll start.", "post": "Some while ago, I was hooking up with this girl (asian) for the first time. Also happened to be my first time with an asian girl and she was hot so I was naturally excited. Well, we start making out on my bed and next thing you know, we're naked, but the odd thing was she still hadn't touched my dick. So I told her \"touch me\", but she said no, so I was in sort of a \"wtf\" moment. Well things got heated a little more, still with a lack of touching and I pulled out a condom...put it on, myself and somehow managed to have enough of a boner to put it in. Well, it was the worst fuck ever for obvious reasons such as lack of foreplay and then when I was trying to fuck her from behind her body was like a scared cat. Needless to say I didn't get off and I just ended up pulling out and going to sleep to the tune of disappointment.", "summary": "Lack of foreplay and an awkward position led to the worst lay of my life."}
{"id": "t3_4le38j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am confused about what a romantic relationship actually is.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships!\n\nAs the title implies, I have been wondering what a romantic relationship actually is.\n\nI so far haven't had any mutual relationships (or any non-mutual ones that I know of), of this kind. This means my assumptions are mostly based on fiction, second hand information and common sense.\n\nI have experienced attraction and I guess I have experienced what most people would call a \"crush\" to some extent. Romantic love to me is a very fuzzy concept. From what I understand it is not simply attraction and also \"more\" then a \"crush\".\n\nRecently I have been wondering if I might have experienced romantic love without actually noticing it as such or putting that label on it. While what I suspect might have been romantic love doesn't really satisfy the implications of fiction/second hand experience on this topic, the pattern in which I have experienced it leads me to find it reasonably likely to be exactly that.\n\nI would describe it as a desire to be known and to know the other individual completely, combined with over average caring about their wellbeing and experiencing the presence of the other as unusually pleasant. It's not tied to any desire for sexual/romantic behavior, while physical contact, as in hugs and simple touches, is experienced as pleasant.\n\nNow, all these things are to some degree part of any normal friendship to me, and considering how everybody is making such a huge fuss about romance, I would expect a more distinct difference.\n\nUsually I wouldn't care and just ignore the topic until things develop naturally, but there is a reasonable chance I will be moving in with someone I might have romantic feelings towards who is currently in a relationship with someone else and while I would really enjoy this persons company, I would like to avoid the potential drama/feeling-like-shit due to unreciprocated love I am lead to expect due to the knowledge available to me in case I actually do have these feelings.", "summary": "I am confused and in need of confirmation that what I am experiencing is or is not romantic love. Anything from personal stories to psychological descriptions might be helpful."}
{"id": "t3_ejcf7", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My 1 1/2 year old cat has apparently forgotten about the litterbox. Any advice greatly appreciated!", "post": "My roommate moved in in Sept. with two cats, each 1 1/2 years. I have since adopted the slightly-overweight male cat, and roommate moved home 2 days ago and took the other cat with her. Today while doing laundry I found cat turds in my towel pile...and upon checking the litterbox realized that he hasn't been using it at all. It's in the same place, it's the same one he's always used, litter is the same brand. A few hours later I walk by the litterbox and he's pooping three feet away from it on the rug...\n\nMy roommate never really kept the box clean, so could it maybe be that I cleaned it & put new litter in it soon as she left? I thought maybe it could be the absence of the other cat in some way, but they've been separated for up to two months before. He's eating the same brand & amount of food. \n\nHas this happened to anyone? What could be causing this, & how do I stop it before there are secret turds everywhere?!\n(I will add that this is the first cat I've had.)", "summary": "My 1 1/2 year old cat started shitting in random piles of clothes despite his litterbox being in the same location that it's been for months."}
{"id": "t3_1kdkc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to control my [16F] constant bickering with my Mum", "post": "Throughout my life I have been very close to my mum[44], but recently our relationship has become more strained. The majority of the time it's good but bickering with each other is a constant problem. I will become easily frustrated at things she says or does and visa versa, and this will lead to mini arguments, followed shortly by an apology. We rarely have large arguments so this is really the only problem. I guess what I'm mainly looking for here is some advice on how to control my emotions a little better and stop getting stroppy and worked up about nothing because I really don't want to loose that closeness we have. Thanks in advance :)", "summary": "Please help me control our mini arguments so that we can have a better relationship."}
{"id": "t3_5545ju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [25M] of 1 year, not sure about moving in together and parents are not down.", "post": "Hello reddit! So here's the situation: me and my boyfriend have been together for about one year. After graduating from college in May, I ended up in an apartment with a flexible lease (can end it with 60 days notice at any point throughout the year) in an apartment about 5 minutes away from my boyfriend's house. I have one roommate, a guy that graduated a couple years before me from the same school but wasn't someone I knew previously, and his dog, who barks every time I enter the apartment and I'm generally not crazy about. I've ended up spending 99% of my time at my boyfriend's place and sleep there every night, basically using the apartment as a large closet where I go to pick up or drop off my stuff sometimes. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are very compatible and have had minimal issues \"living together\" as we have been the past few months. Only problem that could be more of an issue in the future is that he isn't the type to go out to bars or stay out late and I like to do that occasionally, but there's a bed in his basement and we've discussed that I could sleep there if I happen to be getting home way past his bedtime.\n\nIt seems like it would make sense for me to just move in with my boyfriend officially at this point and stop wasting money on the other apartment, but I know that one year isn't a very long time to have been together before making a big decision like that, especially since I'm so young. To add to that, my parents have told me that they would **not** be comfortable with me living with him and not having a backup situation in case something went wrong. \n\nI don't want to jump into this without thinking it through, but the current situation is stressing me out a lot and I'm ready for some sort of change. My boyfriend also thinks that I should move in with him (and is generally pushing it more than I am), but my parents still help me out financially and are very important to me, so I don't want to ignore their advice. Let me know what you think!", "summary": "Have been essentially living with BF for the past 3 months and not sure if I should take the plunge and move in officially, especially since parents are not down with the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1jzab5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] girl i like just got out of a relationship (17/f)", "post": "Ok so I met this girl about a year ago when I started flirting with her at the mall. I got her number and we started texting each other. We hung out a couple of times but after she told me she liked someone else we started to drift apart. A couple weeks ago we started talking again. I asked her out over text and she told me that she was flattered but she had broken up with her bf about 2 weeks ago. She told me she would keep my offer in mind when she was ready to date again. She finished off by saying \" I'm just not into the whole dating thing yet\" I told her I was sorry to hear that and that she should take all the time she needs. So my question is, does she like me, what can I do to show her I really care, and what should I say to her from now on. I'm sure older redditors have good advice they can give me. Thank you! :)", "summary": "girl i like just got out of a relationship, i told her i like her she said she needs some time, I dont know how to respond or act."}
{"id": "t3_4y8g1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to prank my mom and sister", "post": "My family is notoriously bad with their phones passwords. My mom's was her birthday and my sister's was 0000. Knowing this information, I decided to mess with them by changing both of their email signatures to \"I fart rainbows\". \n\nMy sister noticed a few days afterwards, which may have been a few days too late. I had forgotten she was trying to get a job, and was constantly emailing her employer back and forth. Whoops. \n\nMy mom on the other hand...took 6 months. Well, I thought she figured it out earlier, so I mentioned it to her, and then she noticed. I'm not even sorry", "summary": "I changed my sister's email signature to \"I fart rainbows\" when she was trying to get a job"}
{"id": "t3_1fmv4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (17m) of 8ish months had a big fight with her ex and doesn't trust me (17m) anymore of have big plans for out future anymore, Need help.", "post": "So, me and my girlfriend have been together for about 8ish months. She moved down here from Richmond Virginia, and left behind a boy she had been dating for 3 years. She says she had lost all feeling for him. She got really close to me and immediatly began trying to figure out how to break-up with the boy in Richmond. On Valentines day, she officially asked me out and we've never been happier. Yesterday, she got into a big fight with the boy because she told him she was dating someone else, and he claims he had gotten over her and that the relationship never meant anything. Now she doesn't trust me, doesn't talk about our future together anymore, and to be honest, I feel like maybe I'm not good enough for her anymore. She constantly told me I'm the best boyfriend she's ever had, and that I'm a million times better than the other boy, but now I'm really starting to wonder if I really am.\nSo my question is, how I do I deal with the feeling of not being good enough, how do I fix this, and how do I get her to trust me again?", "summary": "Girlfriend had fight with long term ex and doesn't trust me anymore. I feel worthless and not good enough."}
{"id": "t3_3j9dxk", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "For once I'm saying that I'm done trying.", "post": "I've moved around a lot. When I get asked where I'm from it's not a simple answer. Of all the places I have lived, I only called one of them home. I spent most of my pre-college life in that town and my best friends still live there. My freshman year of college, my parents had to move. So anytime I want to see my friends I had to find the money and time to visit them myself.\n\nMy best friends from home don't really seem to care anymore though. I'm the only one who seems to make an effort. I'm the only one who tries to keep communication open, and I'm the only one who has gone to visit them (always at my own expense financially and on my own time when I could be working). The last time I was there, I decided that I'm done trying. I don't fit in their lives anymore because I don't live there anymore. Well, that's what I used to think. I started to worry that maybe I had changed too much and I was being irrational. But thinking about it more, I realized that I did change, but so did they. We all got older and changed, but in different directions. These are people who I said would never leave my life, and still don't want them to disappear. But I am killing myself trying to hold the friendship together. I know too, that if I talked to them about it, they wouldn't understand. They have both lived in the same place their entire lives and neither of them went to school far from home. They barely left. They have a place they call home and they see their families more than once or twice a year.\n\nI am almost entirely independent from my parents handling tuition and rent on my own. I have a year left in the only place I call home anymore. Couple that with applications and all the other stress constantly on my mind, and I'm a wreck. I just don't have a friend in my life right now who has gone through everything I have, and I am tired of internalizing my insecurities and fears. I'm exhausted and anxious. Had to talk to someone. Even if no one reads this, at least typing it out has done something.", "summary": "My best friends from home barely communicate with me, and I'm tired of being the only one who seems to be trying or care."}
{"id": "t3_2xvhnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with girl I've been casually dating [23 F], is it ever realistic to fight for someone's affection?", "post": "So, I've been seeing such a cool girl this past month. We've had sex twice and have seen each other a few times a week. She's pretty introverted, works for a really popular venue and is sought after by so many guys.\n\nThe thing is, we seem to have so much fun when we're around one another but I continually am getting this vibe that I'm hanging from a thread and that she doesn't like me the way I like her. I texted her two days ago to hang out, she doesn't respond. In frustration I texted her today to ask her how she feels about me because I don't want to keep having feelings for someone who doesn't value me.\n\nI actually told her I liked her about a week ago and she said she \"liked hanging out with me\", she also told me she may be moving in 8 months and she doesn't know if she wants to get attached. I thought that was her way of letting me down nicely but then we had sex the next day.\n\nAnyway, after I texted her tonight, she asked if I'd like to meet up tomorrow evening. I suggested a cocktail place since she'd be free later at night. Idk what to think about it but I feel a lot of good things for her. Is she most likely gonna let me go tomorrow? Is there any point in trying to convince her that moving away in 8 months isn't a big deal and to try to convince her to like me? I'm not one to pine for affection but is it ever worth fighting for with someone who is on the fence?", "summary": "Dating girl for a month, feels like she is ambivalent towards me. Confronted her, we are getting a drink tomorrow night. Is it unrealistic/impossible to try to talk someone into being with you?"}
{"id": "t3_11qagt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my fiance (27) has been texting someone else and hasn't told me (30) about it.", "post": "i just went onto the webpage to look at my upcoming cell phone bill, and saw that my fiance had recently started texting a new number quite a bit. it is a different area code which is why it stood out, otherwise i may not have noticed, but it has been over 200 text messages, back and forth total, in the last three days, most of which after working hours. i did a bit of investigating into the owner of this cell phone, and found it to be a senior coworker of hers. we have plans to go out tomorrow night with most of her work's employees. so, do i ask her whats going on? do i sneak a look at her phone and see what i can find? do i confront the guy (not really her supervisor but still a superior)? or any other suggestions? no history of cheating but we have been a little rocky the past few months. weve been together for 4 years, engaged 4 months.", "summary": "found a recent increase in texts to a coworker, not a bit of the conversation has been brought up to me"}
{"id": "t3_28j2ss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] feel like it was non-consensual, my boyfriend [20m] feels like it's my fault.", "post": "Forgive me if this is a little incoherent, I'm really shaken up right now.\n\nSo last night I went to my friend's 21st birthday party. Naturally, many drinks were had by all. I usually am a really responsible drinker, but I went a bit overboard this time, I'll admit. I know it was really irresponsible to drink so much, but I was in the company of friends and people I trusted.\n\nLong story short, I fell asleep next to someone I'd met that night. Again, irresponsible move, but I just needed to crash and that's how it turned out. At some point, I woke up and remember being cuddled and sort of groped (my breasts and butt/genitals) by the guy i'd fallen asleep with. At this point I was extremely incoherent and I didn't really understand what was happening. I don't think I was really able to tell him to stop, but I definitely tried shaking him off and moving away multiple times. Eventually he stopped, apologized, and I guess I fell back asleep.\n\nIn the morning, I was sort of unsure of what happened. I don't really think it was his fault, because we were both really drunk. But I felt really disgusted and dirty and went home crying. I realize that it is partially my fault for getting drunk but I feel like this was really unsolicited and it's definitely not something I'd ever want to do.\n\nAnyways, after I slept and worked up the courage, I decided to tell my boyfriend. He reacted in ways that I never expected. He's really mad at me and basically said \"what did you expect? You should know the consequences of getting drunk.\" I think he feels like I cheated on him, but I don't feel the same.\n\nI know that getting so drunk is a bad idea, but I don't know who is in the right here. I feel like I made some shitty choices, but ultimately I also feel like he's trying to victim blame me for it, and that is really upsetting and disturbing. At the same time, maybe it is my fault for not being able to say no with my words. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Got way too drunk, someone felt me up, boyfriend seems to hate me and I can't decide if i'm in the wrong or not."}
{"id": "t3_3znji7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] don't want my father's [60M] partner [50sF] at my wedding. How to deal?", "post": "Hi.\n\nMy father is in a very rocky long term relationship with a very volatile woman, who I no longer speak to after many years of turmoil and verbal abuse. She cannot control herself at big events - when her own son got married she used it as an excuse to yell across the room at the ceremony at her ex about how he was a cheat and a liar, etc and as a public forum to air family grievances loudly and be the center of attention. She treats my dad badly, but he puts up with it which is of course his choice. None of my family speak to her or visit my dad at his place because she has been so vile to all of them. Despite all of this, my dad respects and loves her and feels they come as a package. If she is not invited to my wedding, he will not be attending either. I know that if she comes, she will go out of her way to ruin my day, no matter what promises are made before - she has so much previous for this kind of thing and in the past has made many promises to \"behave\" at various occasions then not been able to do it - not even once. I feel like this is an impossible situation Reddit - do I invite a woman who has caused me and my family so much misery who will almost certainly use the occasion to cause fights, or do I stay firm with my dad? I am an only child, very close with my dad and this hurts but I almost don't see the point in having a wedding if it's just a very expensive way for her to yell horrible things at people I love (or even me) and ruin it.", "summary": "my dad's partner is abusive and mean to the point no one in the family talks to her any more. She has caused huge fights at every important occasion she has been invited to, be it wedding, funeral, whatever. My dad won't come to my wedding unless I invite her too. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_15gdne", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So I told a white lie....", "post": "We talked on IRC for two whole days at the start of the summer, then I gave you my number on the third day. I went crazy waiting for you to text or call me, you didn't. The next day we talked on IRC I went off on how you didn't even bother texting me, you said sorry and that you didnt want to seem desperate, no biggie, i was now talking to you again. ! week later, I caught myself before i said i loved you, you said i love you too, and teased me a bit, but it felt so right to tell you that i loved you after a week. Following week, you confessed that you were not 22, but 27 i still didn't care, then you confessed you had a daughter, and i still didn't care. But then you said we should meet... I lied, I am not who you think I am. I am everything you make fun off sometimes, Im not built... matter fact... nowhere near built... my eyes are not bright blue, but light brown, i do have a tattoo, but not on my rib cage, on my forearm. the other day you said you would punch me for making you fall in love with lie after a joke i made. I lie about who i am maybe because i am lying to myself, you are a 28 year old man, im just a 19 year old boy i guess you could say. but god do i fucking love you.", "summary": "I lied about every aspect of myself and now i fell in love and might lose you because of those lies."}
{"id": "t3_2jgfau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my (Medicated Bipolar)girlfriend[21F] of nearly 3 years, doesn't feel she doesn't love me and is non sexual, blames her medication. Help?", "post": "My GF and I have been dating for almost 3 years with a rough patch or two, but we've always smoothed it out. We have been living together for the past 1.25ish years. \n\n3 months after we moved to a new place I wasn't able to find a steady job to replace my old one, she started stressing about it and it made us more distant, I got a new one and everything seemed to be fine. The only problem being is she is still feeling nonsexual(we attributed it to the stress).\n\nI start the job and I get home from the first day of training and we start talking about random stuff, after a bit I give her a few kisses, not necessarily to start anything but mostly to test the waters. She breaks down and says she still feels nonsexual and wants to talk about some other stuff.\n\nWe talk for about 30 minutes and I find out that;\n\n-she doesn't see me in a sexual way at all, can't even try and make herself see me that way", "summary": "Medicated Bipolar GF feels she doesn't love me anymore/doesn't feel sexual, doesn't feel like herself, waiting on medication to potentially fix side effects of medication that could be causes relationship problems"}
{"id": "t3_48vf0k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling the school fire alarm", "post": "This didn't happen today but a few weeks ago.\nSo at my high school freshmen are required to take PE to graduate. I have it first thing in the morning so we meet up in the gym for warm-ups, etc. However, our teacher likes to take his sweet time showing up so we often screw around before he arrives. Me and my buddies were messing around when we started wondering about the fie alarms. We have standard fire alarm handles, but they are covered with flip up cases. One of my friends said to me, \"I dare you to lift up the cover on the fire alarm\". Doubting it would to anything I lifted it up. However I didn't know that the cover triggered the gym specific fire alarm and the actual handle was for the school wide one. For three seconds I stood in horror trying to close the cover. Luckily I got it closed without any teachers finding out.", "summary": "Raised fire alarm cover, activated gym- wide fire alarm"}
{"id": "t3_1bvtm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my girlfriend (age 19) makes me (age 20) feel useless", "post": "I'm 20 male and my girlfriend is 19. We know each other for almost half a year. We only started to date and eventually became a couple about a month ago. Things changed a lot. She used to be upsed when I didn't answear to her texts, when I didn't call her, when I didn't pay her the attetion she wanted. Since we started dating, all of that has change. She stops texting, she doesn't ask about my day, she doesn't want me to know her friends neither wants to meet mine. She's dealing with her parents divorce and she has to take care of her younger sister, plus she has colllege and a lot of other things that keep her busy and she doesn't ask for my help and when she feels down she just tells me that she will talk to me later, that she needs to be left alone. This makes me feel like shit. We don't live close to each other so we see each other 1/2 times a week. It's hard for me to deal with this since I'm a romantic and sensitive kind of boyfriend. What do you think?", "summary": "I'm having a hard time to understand my girlfriend's love and need for me."}
{"id": "t3_ibyju", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm trying to bring together a low-income community. What's a good-priced outdoor projector?", "post": "I and my best friend are two scrawny white-boys moving out of my parents house for college very soon. In about a month or so, we'll be in an apartment in the less-than fortunate city of Waterbury, CT. We intend to become as friendly with the community surrounding us, just to get on good terms.\n\nAfter thinking about how to go about all of this, I decided starting a free outdoor movie/media night might just work. But here's my dilemma. I and my friend are going to be freshmen in college, paying rent, and all other expenses ourselves. We'd need a cost-effective projector to suit our needs.\n\nWe're thinking about dangling massive white tarp from the back-balcony of our apartment, and using that as a screen. What would be a well-priced projector ($1k MAX) that could get a decent sized image that a large group of people could watch outside?", "summary": "Two white college-kids want to start a free outdoor movie night in the ghetto to bring together a community. They need help picking a damn projector."}
{"id": "t3_20tp9w", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I don't know why I'm paranoid over her not texting back? But I am.", "post": "So I'm 22, not very experienced in relationships really, been single since I was 18 and haven't really attempted proper dating until recently.\n\nAnyway, I meet this girl through OKcupid and we've been on 8 dates since the end of January and things have been going good, we've have kissed at the end of most dates and I've really started to like her.\n\nWe've typically texted everyday since we've met, on our last date we hung out at mine house, cuddled and kissed at the end of the evening, and I set up the next time we should hang out (her day off). I texted the next day, just a casual, \"Hey, hows it going?\" text, she never got back that day, or the next day, or today up to this point, it's not unusual for her to take her time to text back, we both take our time but it's never been this long, usually only a few hours or next morning. I've started to over think that I've possibly done something wrong that I'm not aware of or she realised she's not that into me.\n\nI never realised how paranoid I've got about it until today, maybe it's just because we met on a dating site and that she could have easily have found something else. The more I write the more this sounds ridiculous, but I'm stumped, really what I'm looking for is the next course of action, should I wait it out or text her again, if so what should I say?", "summary": "Going out with girl for 1 1/2 months, typically text everyday, she hasn't texted back in almost 2 days, what should I do r/dating_advice?"}
{"id": "t3_h4atw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How screwed over is my mom getting?", "post": "She makes the time clocks for a company that sells time clock hardware and employee tracking software. This company posts over $1m in profits a year. She's been there for about 11 years. Without her there (takes time off for sick or short vacation), their production line slows down. She feels like taking time off only hurts her because she has to make up for it when she gets back. Here's the part that royally pisses me off.. She only makes about $11.50/hr. \n\nShe lives somewhere with a low cost of living, but she's been with this company for so long and they know she does a good job. She feels really dedicated to the job, so much that she doesn't enjoy her vacations because of what she knows she's coming back to. And she's just happy to have a job in this economy, so she doesn't want to risk losing what she has.", "summary": "Anyone else working in production (non-union), that could tell me how much the average wage is that my mom should be expecting after 10 years of service?"}
{"id": "t3_2m1wg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my boyfriend [48 M] of 5 months, I'm having issues about our age difference", "post": "I really need some advice here. I met Spencer during the summer on an internet dating website. I had just recently broken up with my ex and kinda wanted to just have fun. Spencer and I started talking on the dating site until eventually we made plans to hang out and have sex. I always have had a thing for older guys, I'm not sure why.\n\nWhen we met up we ended up going to dinner first to get to know each other a bit. We ended up really enjoying ourselves and spent over two hours at dinner. Afterwards we head to his house and have some fun.\n\nSince then we started hanging out all the time and texting non-stop. We really enjoyed each others company.\n\nI started to meet some of his friends, so naturally I introduced him to two of my best friends. Things went great.\n\nThe problem is now that we are starting to become more long term, I am scared of our age difference. I am scared how I will be judged by society, by my family, and by some of my friends.\n\nIt is really hard for me because I sincerely like him and he likes me too. This weekend, while we were cuddling, I brought up the topic. I eventually told him, as time passes, my fears are not diminishing and I still don't feel comfortable to ever introduce him to my family. Basically stating that this wasn't a real relationship.\n\nHe ended up crying and telling me he thought I was the \"one\" for him. Since then we both have kinda of given each other time to process everything.\n\nI am very confused now. I don't know what to do. I really like him, and see that we have a lot of chemistry together. But the age difference makes it so hard, and taboo. \n\nSo my question is pretty much: if the relationship is working and making me happy, do you think I should throw it away because of fear of judgement from society about age difference?", "summary": "Dating someone way older than me. Relationship is working smoothly. I have a lot of fears about judgement from society and can't go to the next step. Should I face my fears or is this type of relationship unhealthy?"}
{"id": "t3_1splxq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How often do you hang out with your friends? [Serious]", "post": "I had a conversation with my friend/workmate about friendships. I've been in a long-term relationship with my partner for over five years. I've realised that apart from the time I spend with him, the remaining time I have isn't spent much with other people other than maybe my sister or my mum.\n\nIt's not to say I don't have friends, because I do. But to be frank I don't feel like I have really have any *close* friends that I would want to spend time with as much as my SO or my family. I'm only 21. I have friends from high school, who are lovely, but when you're in high school you generally gravitate to people you get along with, and if you're lucky you form life-long bonds, which I don't think I have. I've had friends from one of the places I used to work, but now that I've moved jobs I'm sort of out of the picture.\n\nThat being said, I do have friends at my current job, and I'm at my work 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. I come home to my SO and on the weekends I spend time with him. On occasion, I'll hang out with my younger sister or I have one of my good friends from my old job, however it is getting harder to see her for some reason. I don't think there's anything particularly unhealthy about my social life, but the friend I was talking to seemed to think it was.\n\nJust wondering what sort of friendship dynamics everyone else has. Particularly if you're in a serious relationship - is there anyone else you're close to?\n\nI'd also like to point out that my SO is pretty much my best friend, or close to it. Apart from him, I don't think I've *ever* had a best friend. Close friends, sure. But not a 'best' friend. I'm not quite sure what constitutes a best friend (as in, someone other than your SO).", "summary": "I seem to spend most of my time with my SO and not so much with other people. How often do you spend time with your friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1n2qa2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23f] am attracted to my best friend's [23f] ex boyfriend [25m]- how to talk to her about it", "post": "Hi R_A,\nAs you guessed from the title, I am falling for my best friend's ex from 4 years ago. \n\nThe background info:\nWhen they were dating we all hung out pretty frequently. I liked him in a friendly way, nothing more. They broke up early 2009. He and I hung out a few times after they broke up, it seemed like he needed someone to talk to. I realized I started having feelings for him and decided he and I couldn't talk anymore. I didn't feel right about dating my friend's ex that close to their breakup.\nHe moved away, I finished college. Fast forward to a few weeks ago- he contacted me and we got together for a drink. And again for coffee a week later. At this point he said he had feelings for me and I did, too. We've spent time together since, and I'm realizing that I could be really serious about him. \n\nThe point:\nTherefore, I am realizing I need to tell my friend about this. But I have no idea how. She is like family and I want to do this thing right. \nI would hope that she would be happy for me but I'm really nervous about a bad reaction. I wouldn't be, except she was in a similar but way shittier situation in high school; she cut the perpetrators out of her life. As if that weren't enough, I tend to have trouble communicating with people in general. \nHow do you suggest I talk to her about this? What do I say so that she doesn't take it personally?", "summary": "I am interested in a guy who broke up with my friend 4 years ago. I'm serious enough about him that I need to tell my friend. How do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1wlare", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "42M(married) falling in love with coworker 36F(single), WTF?", "post": "I'm married, she is single. I am 80% sure she feels the same way but, because I am married she is being reserved about it which I totally understand. When not around coworkers she acts differently than when others are in the room or nearby.\n\nI love my wife and I enjoy being with her but, I miss my coworker as well when not at work. We don't work together all day, but we do interact a lot and I like to spend time in the office with her when I can. \nWe text frequently during non work hrs and she has initiated many text conversations later in the evening just to talk which(to me) is a sign that she is thinking of me. She is amazing and I have a lot of respect for her, I'm at a loss though. \n\nI have nobody I can trust to tell this to so I am letting it out here and I definitely can't tell anyone at work. I want to talk to someone about this, express my feelings and not be judged.\n\nI want to tell her, but I think that may be a terrible idea.", "summary": "I'm in love with my coworker and don't know what or how to express it."}
{"id": "t3_517zts", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I was alone in bed.", "post": "I posted this recently in an AskReddit thread but was told by someone to share it here. This happened a while ago while in school. It was my sophomore year of college. I had been partying with friends and returned to my dorm/suite to pass out. I was quite drunk and I called a FWB for a late night booty call. Shortly after I called her I passed out in my bed. I woke up in the morning with a severe hang over and a rumbly in my tumbly. I was sleeping on my side in my shitty little dorm room twin bed and let loose with a massive alcohol powered rotten machine gun fart. I felt some odd reverberations however, and it was at that point I realized I wasn't alone in my bed. My friend had come over and when I didn't answer the door she climbed in through my ground floor window and unbeknownst to me proceeded to get into my bed. Those reverberations I was feeling was my fart vibrating off this poor girl's bare belly while she spooned me. The explosion woke her up and I heard a confused \"Wha-? Whazzit?\" as her half asleep mind tried to process what just happened and why she was so abrubtly woken up. Then the smell hit. It was awful. I heard her gasp and gag but there was no escape. I'm a big guy (6'0) and she was a small asian girl trapped between the wall and my ass. As she continued to retch I closed my eyes in shame and pretended to be fast asleep. We never spoke of this event but it was seared in my mind, and surely hers as well.", "summary": "Farted on a cute girl I didn't know was in bed with me."}
{"id": "t3_qrux8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My grandfather buried family valuables before being expulsed from Czech Republic after WW2, found map today. Any advice?", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nmy grandfather, who is now in a retirement home, always used to tell me how he got expulsed from \"Sudetenland\"  ( and  Being young and pretty clueless about the after-WW2 horror, I never really understood the consequences nor the true nature of losing his home. \n\nAnyway, before fleeing the country, the family buried their family treasures near their friends home. My grandfather did make a map in that time, of which I found a pretty reasonable copy.\n\nSome details: It's located in eastern Czech Republic and I was lucky enough with some google searches to find a old (meaning pre WW2) map showing the city back then. All the major waypoints he drawed into his map are in this old copy AND can be still found in google maps today! (Like churches, schools, streets and train station)\n\nI would like to make my grandfather a incredible gift he deserves. He is a true hero for me, making a life out of nothing (after war) and later appointed as a repected judge.\n\nNow, obviously I don't want to provide the map here. But I would like to know from you guys, if there are chances of finding a company or people to get professional help in this situation. I for one cannot speak any Czech and looking at the satellite pictures, the closest house to the buried valuables does not exist anymore. There is still enough gras ground around, but new buildings have been build around. \n\nAny help here is appreciated! Thank you!", "summary": "Found a \"treasure\" map with family valuables, which I want to get back for my grandfather."}
{"id": "t3_131ww5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a subtle prank I can pull on my college roommate?", "post": "Some background info: I want to do a subtle prank because he does a number of things that bother me (doesn't always flush the toilet, uses my loofa, walks around with no pants on), I've addressed him about these several times, and he has done nothing to fix these problems. I've talked to my R.A., and he's not any help either, so I want to do something to get back at him. \n\nLimitations: I don't want to do anything permanent or physically harming, and we have separate rooms, with a shared bathroom and common area, so that's really the only area I have to work with.", "summary": "Roommate won't stop being gross, want to subtly prank him w/o hurting him, don't have access to his room."}
{"id": "t3_1bb3g6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why don't we require more extensive gun safety education programs in order to obtain a license to carry?", "post": "This occurred to me after reading [this article](\n\nIf you look at the graph you can see that since 2005 we've had a large drop in motor vehicle deaths from 45,000 per year to about a current rate of 34,000 per year. Meanwhile deaths from firearms has slowly risen since 2005.\n\nI live in Massachusetts and I remember when I had to get my driver's license in 2005 I had to complete an extensive driver education course. This included a set number of hours in a classroom and a set number of hours behind the wheel. It took me about 6 months from getting my driver's permit to get my actual driver's license and then it took another 6 months so that I could drive between 12:30AM - 5AM and carry any passengers that were not my family members. There were strict penalties if I was found to be violating these rules. A couple years after I got my license they created even stricter requirements. Any new under-18 drivers must also have a set number of hours of watching another person drive and their parents must attend a two hour class as well.\n\nHow come we don't have similar gun safety education requirements for anyone looking to get a license to carry and/or an FID card?\n\nCurrently, all I need to do to get a class A LTC in Massachusetts is take a short (4-8) firearm safety course that may or may not include a live fire to get yourself acquainted with firing weapons. I also need to apply with my local police department and pay a $100 fee. It takes anywhere from 2-6 weeks for my application to be approved. That's basically all I need to do.", "summary": "Why is nobody talking about creating more extensive firearm education programs that ALL people need to take if they want to get a license to carry or a firearms identification card?"}
{"id": "t3_3ma4o1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have no idea how to be in a relationship, despite wanting just that.", "post": "I was never that popular in high school or even before that.  My first girlfriend was less than a year ago and I have had three since then.  I really want a working relationship, but I can't seem to figure it out.\n\nI was pretty much entirely ostricized in my pre-18 life, and had some traumatic events.  As a result, I don't really know how to approach people to become friends with them, much less do I know how to hold a relationship.  I'm now somewhat attractive, so I have been asked out a bit, but every time that I have dated someone, but after four or so dates, I just genuinly don't know how to talk to them, make a move, or what is right and wrong.\n\nI've done a rediculous amount of reading on human interaction and have tried to mirror my findings, but it would appear that I am unsuccesful in this.  I'd really enjoy having friends and a girlfriend now, but I don't really even know where to begin.", "summary": "Could really use advice on how to make friends and have a succesful relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3d53qn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU but telling my brother he is the Illuminati", "post": "This happened like a week ago, I was playing in the computer and suddenly my brother approaches, I get mad when he is near me when I'm playing or reading things here on Reddit, so I told him to leave, he refused so I told him he is the Illuminati and he started crying and said \"Mom, he said Im the loominady!!!!111!!\" I lost. I culdn't stop laughing and she got mad but then since that day every triangle he sees he says \"loominady cumfirmd\" even in a public place, in school, in the street, in every place, and the worst part is everyone laughs, yeah, everyone laughs because someone says \"illuminati confirmed\"", "summary": "i told my brother he is the illuminati and when he sees a triangle he shouts that the illuminati is confirmed."}
{"id": "t3_oydzp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Broke up, she still wants to be friends.  I'm not so sure.", "post": "Had a four-month relationship with a generally great lady.  She's 25, I'm 26, we were compatible and just between us it went great.  As things started to get a bit more serious it became apparent that my career choices and her lifestyle were probably incompatible in the long run.  At her insistence, things were de-escalated to \"just friends\" status and we effectively broke up right before Christmas.  I was a bit stung, but I understand her perspective.  Such is life.\n\nThis week she contacted me out of the blue, basically asking me out for coffee.  I obliged, and while it was great platonic conversation and she obviously wants to continue this and is \"glad we can be friends like this\"...I'm not so sure.  I don't expect anything more from her at this point, but a part of me is still hung up on her.  Continuing to see her is honestly painful, and every time I talk to her I'm reminded of what could have been and it's not making moving on any easier.\n\n**My question for you:**  What's the nicest way to articulate this and move on?", "summary": "I want to get over an ex that still wants to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_1dmfph", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I was genuinly surprised by the random act of a stranger today...", "post": "I was at work today (a random electronics shop) and this guy stopped by for some help. As he walks up to me with his phone he asks for my help to set up a google account, and I tell him I'll do it for free because I really didn't mind helping him (while it really is a 60$ fee on setting up a google account for customers, do not know why it's so expensive). So I start setting up his google account when 4 of my good friends walk in to the shop and they ask me if I wanted to come party with them. I answer quickly \"No, I can't because I don't have any booze\" because I was busy with this customer, and I'm broke as fuck. Anyway, I'm done with this customer, and he waves goodbye, and I wave goodbye. I thought I was done with this guy and then he comes back with a 0.5 liter bottle of Absolut Vodka, he just leaves it there with a note saying \"Thank you for your kindness, hope this will help your weekend :)\". The fact that this lovely guy gave me 0.5 liters of fun really surprised in a good way, and if you're a redditor kind man, I really appreaciate it.", "summary": "a random guy bought me a bottle of Absolut Vodka as pay for a task I did for free."}
{"id": "t3_216u88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] don't like my girlfriend [17F] going to the gym.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend, Jane, since August of 2012. I like her a lot, we have a great relationship, have fought, but still have a good time together.\n\nLast week, Jane got a gym membership to a gym not far from her house. She's not a big girl. She's about 5'0 and 120 pounds, so her getting the membership seemed kind of pointless. She said she was interested in running and cycling. I told her she could do that in her neighborhood instead of paying $10 a month to run in place. She told me she didn't feel comfortable running in her neighborhood.\n\nShe goes to the gym when I am at work. I work on Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday. She goes for two to three hours and is usually texting me while she is there, but I feel uncomfortable with her going.\n\nI trust Jane 100%. I don't trust other people. I don't want any guys giving her a hard time or harassing her or looking at her in a demeaning way. She says she doesn't talk to anybody at  gym and that she just puts her headphones in and run and she wears the Christmas present I gave her, which is a sterling silver ring. Before she bought a gym membership, she checked out other gyms, but couldn't find an All Women's Gym, so she opted for the gym closest to her house.\n\nI honestly don't think she needs to go to the gym. It just seems pointless. Advice?", "summary": "girlfriend of two years got a gym membership but I don't want her to go because its pointless"}
{"id": "t3_262jte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f24) am seeing a guy (45) and I'm confused as to where its going", "post": "So I met him about six months ago and he started texting me and has been texting me daily since then. He's very caring and is quite the gentleman which I assume comes from his age. He is very young at heart and says he just hasn't found the right woman which is why he isn't married. We have great sex-- honestly the best sex I've ever had... He's pretty amazing in that regard. \n\nAnyway we aren't dating and I'm not even sure if we are exclusive, though he has said that I am the only girl he is seeing... But it's hard because he has said it might be strange if we actually dated, because I would never really be able to tell my parents because of his age.. And I'm not sure if he thinks it's strange to be seen by people he knows in public. But I know he is not just using me for a booty call because we do non sexual things, like dinner, wine tours, he even drove 4 hours to see me in another city. He has given me presents, flowers, necklaces...\n\nShould I just enjoy the time we have and stop worrying about what will come of this? The problem is that I don't want to develop stronger feelings for him and then have to break it off... What should I do??", "summary": "seeing a guy 20 yrs my elder, enjoying it immensely but not sure where it's going."}
{"id": "t3_327ps6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending to sleep", "post": "This happened awhile back but sure what can you do..\nAnyway be me up at my gf's house for the first time. Nobody was home but we were just chilling and watching movies. The movie finished and we decided to catch a bus into town. My gf then ran upstairs to grab her purse or whatever and her mom came home. I panicked. \nHer mom opened the door and my first reaction was to just pretend to be asleep? Her mom came into the room and then left again after noticing I was plonked out.\nThen my gf came downstairs and I could hear her mom say 'uhm your boyfriend is asleep inside on the couch'.\nThen my gf came in to see because you know , I was awake about 1 minute ago. She walked over to me with her mom and started asking what was the best thing to do. She decided to try and wake me up. But now I was scared that I'd look weird meeting her mom for this first time after falling asleep on her couch ! \nAfter about the tenth push and her calling my name I decided to bite the bullet and rolled over opening my eyes. Her mom definitely thought it was weird.\nTo finally top things off, my possum like antics caused us to miss the bus and I had to endure a half hour conversation with her mother in her kitchen after awkwardly introducing myself from my slumber.", "summary": "met new gfs mom and panicked so I pretended to fall asleep but to no avail."}
{"id": "t3_2z0k5r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] broke up with ex [20F]. Need tips for looking after myself while down. ~ 1 year relationship", "post": "So after being on a break, my now ex decided that she didn't think that we could fix any of this. We didnt exactly end on bad terms, she just wasn't feeling it anymore. I've come around to accepting the fact and all that is left to do is to give her back her bag of things on Tuesday (after which it'll be NC). I know it probably isn't a good idea but the sooner that comes the sooner I can begin the path to recovery. Also she told me that she was keeping all pictures of us because we had good times. I told her that when she finds someone else then they will probably have issues with that but she said regardless she wants to keep them. I don't understand that.\n\nMy main issue which I experienced with my first breakup (this is my second) is that I struggled to look after myself in the time afterwards. Obviously its natural to feel down etc. but I completely lose my appetite and will find it VERY difficult to eat. I want to eat because I need to but it loses all appeal. Along with this I have dreams of my ex (again, probably normal) which makes it difficult to sleep properly and get up in the morning.", "summary": "Broke up. Struggle to look after self. Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1zl4sx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (25/F) get over somebody (27/M) I wasn't even dating?", "post": "So I have a casual relationship with M/23 since November. We haven't really had the exclusive talk yet and I know he wants to get more serious.\n\nAnyway, I met this other guy through a game. We started hanging out a lot since January. I'd stay over at his house and we'd have a lot of sex. But we were only friends, maybe a little more than friends but not dating. I was even thinking of breaking it off with M/23 for this guy.\n\nAnyway, last week M/27 broke it off with me. His life is getting hectic and he needs to get it under control. He's gotten more responsibility at his job, his life is going out of control, etc. I'm devastated. The guy used to say we were going to take trips together, hinted that he would eventually ask me to move in with him, the whole shebang. I was starting to envision a life with him.\n\nNow even when I hang out with M/23, I'm still unhappy and all I can think about is M/27. We're still trying to remain friends and everything but it's really hard to talk to him. He won't budge on his decision (I got weak and asked if there was anything I could do to change his mind).\n\nHow do I get over him?", "summary": "Not dating, more than friends breaks it off with me after I thought we were going to get more serious. How do I get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_3k4b62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] need help/advice on breaking up with my[22 M] first serious partner.", "post": "I've been with my partner for 4 years, he is the only person who has not emotionally abused or manipulated me in some way.\n\nAlthough I know he cares about me and loves me, he is quite a lazy person, he doesn't put much effort into the relationship or his life in general. He has failed his classes and is in lots of debt. I've tried to ignore this but I also don't feel like a priority in his life, and just seem to be something that's there when he's bored.\n\nI've tried talking to him before, I've told him I'm very lonely and I feel like I don't have a partner most of the time (I don't see him often, usually for a weekend every two weeks), but he's made no effort to change and it's gotten to the point now where we are so distant that I no longer love him or feel emotionally connected to him at all.\n\nDespite this I feel incredibly guilty, he's the only person who has ever been caring towards me and I know if I needed him he'd help me with anything (If I specifically told him I needed help, but still).\n\nI don't know how to deal with the break-up, I know he's going to cry and try to get me to stay, I'm not a strong person. Also because of the long-distance, it's either going to end up with me stuck at his house, or him stuck at mine, and I know that I should go to his, but he is insisting on coming to mine this weekend, and I don't want to put him in the position where he has to make a long journey back in a state after he's travelled all the way to see me.\n\nI really need some advice; what's the best way to break it to him? And is there anything I shouldn't do in specific? \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Been with boyfriend 4 years, every previous relationship I've been in has been abusive, I feel guilty because I no longer love him and don't have a valid reason to not, need help with breaking the news."}
{"id": "t3_1b0qzc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF of two months for some reason does not want to sleep in the same bed as me, even after we have sexytimes/cuddle (M/18, F/18)", "post": "We've been dating for two months and each live in the dorms on campus. We both have one roommate.\n\nLast week we played some board games in her room, and then we fooled around a bit (I went down on her and gave her an orgasm). We fell asleep and about two hours later she woke me up and told me that I have to leave because her roommate is coming back and \"she'll be angry that you're sleeping here because we might fool around with her in the room\". So I left thinking that was weird.\n\nThe next day same thing, except before I fell asleep on her bed she said that I should leave before she gets back home.\n\nA week later (today), we made out for nearly 2 hours and I gave her an amazing time and we had a few beers. I asked her afterwards why she's in such a hurry to get back to her room (it was 3am) and she gave me some excuse, and that's when I realized she actually was bullshitting me these last few weeks.\n\nSomething is really fishy. I really want to bring it up. Would I be an asshole if I said \"It makes me feel really weird that you don't want to sleep even in the same room with your boyfriend. I've asked you if anything's bothering you and you keep coming up with an excuse. All I want is an answer as to why you don't want to cuddle and sleep with me.\"", "summary": "after sexytimes, my girlfriend will cuddle with me and have her hands all over me but once she gets tired, she finds an excuse to kick me out of bed or if she's in my room she will find an unreasonable excuse to leave. We are both 18yr old adults living in dorms"}
{"id": "t3_2xap2d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] Looking for ways to productively argue with my boyfriend [20/m]", "post": "So this upcoming Wednesday is our one year anniversary & let me just say before anything that my boyfriend is my best friend and 97% of the time, everything is great. We live together, we're happy, we go out and I watch his band play and he likes my art, etc, etc. However, the 3% of the time that we don't get along too well, our fights are absolutely explosive and ridiculous. The last big fight we got in was because he was playing a show & I felt sick so I was laying down, told me he was gonna leave in 20 minutes, so I was gonna go get ready and he told me something along the lines of \"You don't have to go if you don't want to\" which turned into \"If you don't feel good then you should stay home\" which turned into me saying \"I can make my own decisions\" but really the argument's roots was that he didn't want me to feel like I HAD to go because he was leaving and I didn't want to not be with him and I felt a little better by then. So we were running in circles with that until he got so aggravated that he started punching himself in the head (kind of an attention thing) so instead of me approaching him with love and understanding, I shook him and asked what was wrong with him and he stormed off, so I beat the shit out of my mirror and there was blood everywhere. So he comes downstairs and I'm sobbing and washing my hand off in the sink and he starts saying \"I did this to you I'm so sorry omg omg\" but really I know I did this to myself and it was a complete mess. Both of us have generally low self esteem and when shit hits the fan I usually know how to react, I just want both of our emotions to stay out of the way.", "summary": "Me and my boyfriend are painfully in love and when we fight we fucking explode in self-loathy rage."}
{"id": "t3_1thpbi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [22/F] for 2.5 years. I can't tell if I am a terrible mistake by breaking up with her.", "post": "I broke up with her about a week ago and I have been feeling better each day, but I still will break down when I think about her.  She lived far away so I wouldn't get to see her often.  I broke up with her because I felt bored with our relationship.  Whenever she visited acted like it was no big deal and we wouldn't talk that much when we were away from each other.  I also started having trouble telling her that i loved her.  It used to be so different for the first 2 years of our relationship, but then I think the distance started making it tough for me.  She always showed that she loved me so much and I had trouble showing it back.\n\nWell now I can't stop thinking about her and I feel like I love her so much more than before.  I want to ask her to take me back because I know I will be a better boyfriend and tell her I love her and do everything that i should have done.  I think this will make our relationship better and we can stay together.  I just don't know if that is true. It's impossible to really tell what will happen if we get back together.  I want her back, but I don't want to hurt her again if I fall out of love down the road.\n\nIf I ask her to take me back will it be better now that I know what it's like without her?  Or will it eventually go back to me getting bored and breaking up again?  I feel completely different than I did 1 week ago.", "summary": "Broke up with my GF a week ago and I am regretting it.  I miss everything about her now and I want her back.  But I can't tell if I will lose interest again down the road."}
{"id": "t3_2awey3", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travel insurance fraud by feigning illness? Will I get in trouble?", "post": "I purchased travel insurance with trip interruption coverage, including \"illness\" in which a physician would need to deem that I am unable to continue traveling. My intention was to just have insurance in case my stuff was stolen, but something personal has come up at home and I really need to get home ASAP. My reason isn't covered, as it is \"merely\" a family issue, but I have been considering going to a doctor and feigning an illness? Please don't judge me, as I am the last person in the world to want to do this, but I'm stuck in a shitty situation and a flight home is now double the cost of the original RT ticket since I am abroad. Will the insurance just need a doctor's note from a doctor I visit here? Or would they need to see proof with my claim (I.e. a positive test for pneumonia or mono or something)? Are there illnesses that don't require tests that could get me home (maybe severe migraines)? I'm terrified of getting caught, but think this could work? :/ I am truly desperate, and entirely embarrassed to be posting this (on a fake acct).", "summary": "can I feign illness by getting just a doctor note to get home? Will I get caught?"}
{"id": "t3_1gw728", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [36M] am pushing my girlfriend [32F] away and don't know how to bring her back", "post": "We have been dating for roughly 3 months and I can honestly say it is the most satisfying relationship I have had in such a short time. Maybe it's because we both realize that we are at that point in our lives where we know what we want and we share those things with each other. \n\nI have shared things with her I have never told anyone, as I want her to be a part of my life. I suffer from Frontal lobe traumatic brain injury and was up front with her about it. Because of this damage, I can at times become irritable, mean, rude and just plain pissy. I try and control it as well as I can, but it is hard.\n\nI try not to be negative towards people, but sometimes it just flows. This is what she can't stand. She understand that it's hard for me, but I don't think she comprehends how difficult it actually is. So when she points out how I'm being rude or difficult, I get defensive. \n\nThis in turn causes a small argument. I hate that we fight and I don't want to. It just feels that she is attacking me. I know she is not, but I remind myself that after it is too late.\n\nI don't want to lose this woman. She is great. She makes me happy. I want to simply return her kindness and caring and honestly don't know how.", "summary": "Pushing girlfriend away because of anger due to medical condition. Don't know how to show her I'm trying to make it better."}
{"id": "t3_4d2gej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/F] with A Girl [18 M/F] How to get over a girls past?", "post": "I've been getting to know this girl a bit and she's got one ugly past man. Like her and I are completely different people when it comes to that sense. We're both seniors in High School and she's slept with 8 different guys since June 4th, 2014. (she told me when she first lost her virginity). 4 being relationships and other 4 being just for fun/her being heartbroken. She use to party, and she use to blackmail people because she use to get picked on and had to stand up for herself and not get pushed around. I'm still a virgin and I don't party 'much'. Not on the same level as her. I'm on good terms with pretty much everyone. Anyways, she use to do all this so it's the past of course, but it's always in the back of my head. How do I get over her past?\n\nAlso, people have given me shit for being around this girl cause she's not exactly on good terms with everyone and this girl is one of those girls you really have to get to know and crack open to find out who she truly is. you know? So how do I get over that? How does a guy on good terms with everyone talk/see a girl that isn't on good terms with everyone and a lot of people don't like her?", "summary": "She has slept with 8 different guys since June 2014. 4 being relationships and 4 being just for fun/heart broken sex. I'm still a virgin. How do I get over this sort of past?"}
{"id": "t3_3xxea3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with dad's girlfriend [40-50?F] of 6 months. She is critical, racist, and difficult to be around. Help me!", "post": "I'm going to be home over the holidays starting tomorrow and will have to deal with my dad's girlfriend who I find very difficult to be around. She and my father have been dating for 6 months and he seems happy, despite everything. I would never interfere with their relationship, and though I would prefer he dated someone else, I know that's not in my control. But I need help surviving the holidays with her.\n\nShe is critical of me (\"why did you choose this nail polish color? its such an old lady color\"/\"you need to smile more in pictures, this ISNT working for you\"), super racist (legitimately thinks that all muslims need to be \"eliminated,\" loves Donald Trump) and has even done stuff like thrown away my makeup and shower gels without asking. (She said they were \"too old\" which they totally weren't, but even if they WERE she should have asked me). She also smacked my dads butt while making eye contact with me. HOW am I supposed to react to that sh*t?? Thankfully I'll be over at my mom's house for the most part.\n\nHow do I firmly but kindly reject her comments and advice? She says stuff like \"honey, don't you want to change before going to the restaurant?\" when I'm wearing something perfectly nice and presentable. Also any tips on minimizing my time over there/escaping their guilt tactics (\"ohhh we wanted to see you more!\") would be great.", "summary": "My dad's girlfriend is racist, hyper-critical, and weird. How do I respond to the things she does...with grace?"}
{"id": "t3_22kf27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Well, I have been dumped.", "post": "Hello reddit. Like the title says, I have been dumped. I am female (22) and my ex-bf also 22. My boyfriend of 4 years has decided he no longer loves me. This is a shock to me as I thought everything was going fine. He said he had been mulling it over for about a month and decided that we should end it. \n\nI am absolutely devastated. We were planning on getting married eventually and have lived together for almost 2 years. I tried to see if maybe we could work things out but he is adamant that the best thing for both of us is to move on. So, I guess I need to know how to move on. I am still very much in love with him and this is my first real break up. I admit that I was overly dependent on him and that this is probably for the best but it still hurts like a bitch. So what tips do you guys have on helping me move forward with my life?", "summary": "Boyfriend broke up with me. I am devastated. How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4gv2wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my [25F] friend have never had sex, and yet we're extremely close and almost act like boyfriend and girlfriend at times. Is this weird? Should I try and change our dynamic for the sake of it?", "post": "I have a very close female friend who I see almost every day, and we hang out like we're boyfriend and girlfriend, even cuddle, she buys me lunch all the time, tells me how much she hates her boyfriend, tells me she isn't even fucking her boyfriend anymore (and yet she lives with him)...\n\n...and yet, we've never had sex. We've never so much as kissed. She once a long time ago over the phone told me she liked me, but I shot her down pretty quickly, since at the time, I lived two states away.\n\nHowever, ever since I've came back, she's shown zero interest in me--and I'm fine with this, as I'm sleeping with other girls.", "summary": "Is this weird? Should I try to be screwing her?"}
{"id": "t3_40a5xu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to bounce a drunk woman", "post": "This happened today. 15 minutes ago to be exact, so yay for promptness. I've been working as a barback/bouncer at a lovely bar for a little over a month now. Just long enough for the people there to realize I'm an idiot but not long enough to know just how much. This event gave them some perspective. \n\nA usual chilly day of bouncing and a woman and her friend comes in with a large party group I was told would be coming by someone in the group an hour ahead of time (I love those people. Seriously, you guys are the best) and one of the women were very clearly drunk and falling over so much her friend had to prop her up. I politely told her that I was sorry but couldn't let her in because of how drunk she was. Weeeeeell turns out she wasn't drunk and in fact had just broken a hinge on her prosthetic leg and it made it difficult to walk. She was okay about it but clearly hurt and I have never felt more embarrassed in my life. \n\nNow I know what you're thinking \"but TriMageRyan, how could you have possibly known that she had a malfunctioning prosthetic? It's not your fault!\" \n\nShe was wearing a skirt...", "summary": "tried to kick out a drunk, turns out to be a cripple with a broken prosthetic."}
{"id": "t3_3c6smp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my ex [21F] 2.5 years. Broke up with my gf, now regretting it.", "post": "Hello, friends, how is everyone?\nI come here because I'm having some inner turmoil.\nTwo months ago I broke up with my gf, because I thought it was the best for us. I told her I loved her, but I wasn't sure if I was in love with her (if that even makes sense) and that it was probably the best thing for us to be apart. \n\nI'm the bad guy in all this, my ex was a wonderful and caring person. Even in the end, with tears in her eyes she told me that if this is what I thought was best, that she would respect my decision. \nShe even managed to make us laugh after telling me \"if you try to come back in 2 weeks, I'm going to tell you to fuck off\".  I initially thought I had made the right choice, I've even dated other people to help me get over her faster and none of it is working.\nI find myself constantly thinking about her, dreaming about her, and just kinda moping around. We had even talked about marriage and now it all just feels so odd, trying to picture myself with someone else. I can't bring myself to even change her contact name or picture, I have everything she ever wrote me or drew for me saved in a box which I refuse to get rid of.\nI don't know if I made a mistake or I'm just going through the motions. \n\nI just don't know, I don't even know what else to right. I just need someone to talk to.", "summary": "Broke up, realized I probably made a huge mistake, don't know what do."}
{"id": "t3_3skoop", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I am a US citizen but don't live in the US. I got an email saying I should register for (US) health insurance or pay a fee. Does this apply to me? Do I need to respond?", "post": "Hello, sorry if this isn't the right place. If there's another sub that's better for this, I would appreciate the advice.\n\nI got an email from healthcare.gov informing me that a deadline is approaching to enroll in health insurance or pay an ever-increasing fee. This sounds like just an info email and not something directed at me.\n\nThing is, I have not been living in the US since September of 2014 and have health care in my current country (it's nationalized + I have additional insurance). In tax time last year I had an accountant do my taxes and my foreign bank statements, but besides that I never \"told anybody\" (or made any formal statements to the government) about not being in the states. Since I still have a bank in the US and sometimes get notices from them and other things my forwarding address in the US is my parent's address.", "summary": "I am a US citizen but don't live in the US and thus don't need US health insurance. I am insured overseas. Do I need to inform any agency of this to avoid the non-insured fee?"}
{"id": "t3_1lm2x0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22/f] boyfriend[27/m] has left me feeling confused", "post": "My bf and I have been dating for 5 months, I'm in college and about 1.5 years away from getting my degree, he has a stable, decent paying job and bought a house a couple months ago that he is almost finished working on; by the end of the month he should be moved in (out of his mother's house) with 2 of his friends. We live about 25-30 min away from eachother, but while I'm at school it's closer to an hour apart. \n\nOur relationship has been good, there have been some little bumps along the way, but nothing too serious or red flag worthy. Last night, however, we had a conversation that has left me feeling... well, not too happy. \n\nBasically, he told me that he's worried he might \"change\" once he moves out on his own. He has never lived away from home, and he says he doesn't know if he'll want to experience things single once he's out of the house. I equated it to how people break up with their high school bf/gf before going to college, and he said that was a pretty accurate analogy. I could understand it, I guess... but he isn't going to college, it's not like he's suddenly going to be around thousands of new people. \n\nIt wasn't just that, he said he could also see himself marrying me and being with me forever (I feel the same way about him, though neither of us mean in the near future) but he doesn't know which way his mind is going to go once he moves out. \n\nI don't really know if I'm explaining this well... he overthinks things, and also said that this is a lot of overthinking. I told him how I felt about it all last night, but there was nothing that really felt like closure. \n\nI just don't know what to do now, or how to conduct myself. It makes me feel kind of like I'm suspended, waiting for some \"turning point\" with him. I feel like I have to impress him into keeping me around or something.", "summary": "boyfriend thinks he might want to live the single life when he moves out on his own, I don't know what to do with myself"}
{"id": "t3_3w3ff0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Have two job offers. Need advice on which path to take.", "post": "I have been hi-tech sector for 15 years.\n\nI am in the market again. I started out with a criteria for looking for job. A. First hire in a start up at ground floor level working in my technologies. OR B. Join a small -medium size company where most of my skills can get used.\n\nNow I see myself zero-ing in on two positions.\n1. A bank's R&D division. Will lead 2-3 engineers. Will interface with offshore team. Will bring about good development and code patterns. This will have higher salary and small amount of equity.\n\n2. A small healthcare startup. Cutting edge tech. Will join as a first hire in a new tech that I have been playing with. Will help them rewrite most of their products using that tech. Only 6 engineers there. Will join as an Individual contributor. This will lower salary but higher equity\n\nBoth are appealing to me. I am at point in my life where I can use some leadership/mgmt experience. I am also young enough (I do have white hair) to join a startup and have a payday later.", "summary": "Two job offers meeting my criteria. Not sure to go which path. Need objective look at this."}
{"id": "t3_1akjw2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit Card Advice for 18 Year Old", "post": "After unsuccessfully attempting to get a car loan due to my lack of credit, I've recently decided that I need to get a credit card in order to build some sort of credit. I've kept a checking account with BoA for several years now, and I've seen the introductory CCs they offer, but I'd like to get something that actually offers a legitimate rewards program. I spend a fair amount (anywhere from 2-4k monthly), which currently earns me nothing as I only have a debit card. I've got a fairly stable income, but this doesn't help much considering that I have zero credit. \n\nSo, I was wondering exactly how the process of using a cosigner for a credit card works. My father has excellent credit and is willing to cosign for a CC (he did so for my car loan and got me a good APR). Will this allow me to be approved for any CC that he would be approved for if he were applying just for himself?\n\nLastly, I was wondering what cards are recommended for somebody in my situation. I take a few trips a year and do a fair bit of shopping, so a CC that offers travel/shopping rewards would be great. Although a good cash rewards CC would be just as helpful in my opinion. I was originally leaning towards AMEX green or gold, but as I understand it, they do not allow cosigners. Aside from that I was considering Chase Sapphire or freedom. My father has been a Chase customer since the 80s, if that helps at all. Any suggestions???", "summary": "I'm 18 and have no credit. Spend 2-4k monthly.Need a credit card. Father with excellent credit will cosign. What are the best options for me?"}
{"id": "t3_20wsq1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my younger sister cry.", "post": "So, as a bit of a backstory to this so I don't sound like some kind of deviant, my family is full of trolls. We wind each other up, play terrible jokes and make awful and constant puns. My grandparents do it, my cousins and uncles do it, my mom and dad do it, everyone does it. With a younger sister in the house (she's seven, my brother is 17 and I'm 22) she's the target of a lot of the jokes but she gives back just as good as she gets.\n\nI was looking after her when she got back from school, just sat on the scouch watching television and winding her up by putting my foot in her face (long day, feet smell.) so she got up and farted in my face. Not wanting to be outdone by a small child, I held her down on the sofa and dropped one in her face.\n\nThen she screamed, not her usual laugh scream but a holyshiti'mfuckingterrified scream. Then came the tears, I turned around to see my seven year old sister and half the couch covered in liquid yellow shit. To make it better, the rest of my family had just returned and now three of us were torn between horror and hilarity.\n\nShe got shit in her hair, in her mouth, up her nose, all over her. The couch is in a pretty bad state too. Everything is washing and airing and I think she had about three baths. \n\nI'm not going to live that down for a while.", "summary": "explosively sharted in my younger sisters face."}
{"id": "t3_njsxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To those who are against (or have doubts about) the institution of marriage, does the same apply to love in general?", "post": "*Note:  You don't need to read this whole story to answer my question, but it might help give me some general advice.*  For the record, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20.  He doesn't believe in marriage (NO, he is not saying that to avoid commitment, I am absolutely sure of it--just trust that, I know my boyfriend).  I don't either, really--after seeing my mom go through 3 marriages and divorces in my lifetime, I think I've learned a LOT about how healthy relationships work based on seeing some of her screw-ups (my 2 long-term relationships, and this is one of them, have been wonderful in every possible way).  However, I have a bit of an emotional attachment to the idea of marriage because I don't want to be alone at the end of my life (provided I have several, or a few, or one long-term relationship(s) in place of actual marriage, but dating becomes impossible toward the end of my life).\n\nAnyway... I really love this guy.  Truly.  He's perfect for me, and I love everything about him.  I would love for him to know this (we have been together for 11 months), but I'm nervous about his reaction and know that it's best to wait for the guy to say it.  But I would like to know, in general... for those of you who shun the institution of marriage completely, or at least view it as quite flawed, are you equally cynical about love?  I'm 99% sure he is in love with me, too.  He acts like it all of the time and has never once done anything to prove otherwise... not one little thing.  But there's the 1% of uncertainty in my head that says that if I brought up love, he'd say he doesn't believe in love, either.  He has some very unconventional opinions sometimes and can be rather cynical, but is also very \"deep\" (an artist) and not afraid to show that he has emotions (same goes for me).  I think, if anything, he's not great at expressing them, which is true for many men but was not true of my ex, so I'm thrown off.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend.  Neither of us believes in marriage.  I want to tell him I love him (or at least wait patiently until he says it), but in the meantime I'm afraid that he also doesn't believe in love.  I want to get an idea for how many people who are anti-marriage also don't believe in love, so **just share your opinion on both.** Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_339xf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex wife (23F) wants to move in with me (26M).", "post": "She left me for another guy a couple years ago and since then our relationship has been nonsexual. Since she moved out of her boyfriends house she has been in a financial crisis and recently her car broke down and she has been relying on me for rides places. Now I found out that she hasn't paid rent in two months and is being evicted. She is begging me to let her stay at my place. The problem is that I love in a very small one bedroom house and that there just isn't room for her. I'm not sure what to do. I still love her and care about her but her living with me would cause me a lot of stress. I am the only family she has really so I feel bad but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "ex wife wants to live with me."}
{"id": "t3_2caw2j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by high-fiving my coworker in the eye.", "post": "Unsurprisingly, this actually happened a few years ago. I was walking down the hallway at work and one of my coworkers was coming in the opposite direction. He lifted his hand in the universal gesture for a high five as he approached. As an uncoordinated white dude, I had a moment of apprehension, but I figured I had this in the bag. I went for the high five. He went for the low five. I realized my mistake far too late to abort. \n\nI felt my hand collide with his face, fingers brushing across his open eye and scooping his contact lens right out. I apologized profusely and he laughed it off, but for the rest of the time we worked together, he never dared another high five from me.", "summary": "Failed to be cool. Slapped the contact lens out of coworker's eye."}
{"id": "t3_cf2el", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It's been 2 Weeks since my 2nd Interview...Is it bad to email HR and ask if I'm still being considered?", "post": "I applied for a job in which I have a lot of experience in, and didn't get a reply at first. A month later, HR emailed me to set up an interview because the position had opened up again (They'd filled it from within before, then had to move someone around). \n\nThe process has been slow. I got an interview, heard nothing for a week and a few days, then was asked to set up a second interview. The day after the second interview, I was asked to forward a copy of my driving record (which is perfectly clean). My interview went awesome and it pretty much felt like I had the job, but...\n\nIt's now been two weeks and I haven't heard anything. I need to know if I'm still in the running, or else I need to look even harder for something else (aka, a crappy food service job so I don't starve)\n\nIs it really bad form at this point to email HR and see if I'm still being considered? All my communication outside of interviews has been by email with this HR person. And this isn't a super profession or anything...it's working as a job coach for adults with disabilities. Will I be hurting anything to ask?", "summary": "Is it bad form to email HR (as that's how we've always communicated) to see if I'm still being considered for a job after 2 interviews...but 2 weeks without a word?"}
{"id": "t3_1tzih9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] - What are some tips on learning to be comfortable with being alone?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nThanks for reading.\n\nI am a serial monogamist who ended a four year relationship and got dumped from a 4 month relationship this year. I find myself being drawn to a couple of dating websites and ultimately do go on a lot of dates. Of the last 8 dates I've had, there are been no second date. I get the \"you're a really nice guy, but I'm not ready\" line pretty consistently. When a date goes bad, it wrecks me for the rest of the night and well into the next morning. It makes me feel undesirable and worthless. \n\nBecause I am a serial monogamist, I feel like I am getting too antsy and too quick to communicate with these women because I crave that relationship so much. I feel like I need to break the serial monogamy habit and learn to be alone for a while. \n\nThe few close friends that I have are all coupled and rarely come out\u2014perhaps maybe a sign that I need some new friends\u2014so turning to them for companionship is not a stable option.\n\nI'm curious if there are other recovering serial monogamists out there who have a story of recovery? Does anyone have a book that you would suggest?", "summary": "How did you learn to be comfortable with being alone?"}
{"id": "t3_kz4yg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This is ruining my life and I don't know who to talk to. Any thoughts?", "post": "Okay for about 2 months I've been having anxiety attacks because for some reason it feels like I'm disconnected from my body. My arms and legs don't feel like they are there anymore sometimes and it freaks me out really bad. It's really hard to explain but it's like the exact opposite of having a phantom limb. Instead of it showing up, it just feels like it goes away. Sometimes it feels like like I'm not even here anymore because my whole body just disappears. I can still use everything like normal, but it feels like everything is missing. I've talked to a psychologist a few times and they said they have no idea what's wrong with me. I'm losing hope and am very scared. Is there anyone else who feels like this or has any idea who else I could talk to? If you need more information I'll reply as soon as I can, still have school and everything.", "summary": "My body is missing but still here at the same time. Don't know who to talk to or how to explain it. Need help bad. :("}
{"id": "t3_1gplr0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Caloric Restriction giving me headaches and cognitive slowing. I really need some help figuring out why this is happening.", "post": "I have recently started trying to lose weight via calorie counting - I cannot do Paleo or Keto for medical reasons, so calorie counting seems like the best option for me. \n\nI am not having any trouble with willpower or finding things I can eat, but I am having trouble with feeling like absolute crap. I have restricted my calories for two weeks, and every single day I have been tired, have found it hard to think, and I have had the most horrible headaches. The headaches are bad enough that I have to go lay down. These symptoms were bad enough that it was affecting my functioning - in fact, I had to stop counting calories this past week and just eat like I used to, because I had final exams at University and couldn't afford to be dull and headachey while I was studying/taking them. As soon as I went back to my old habits, all the symptoms stopped.\n\nI am 5'8\" and 242lbs. According to [this calculator] my TDEE is 2453/day, and my BMR is  2045/day. I am using MFP (plus a kitchen scale) to track my calories, and it is telling me to eat anywhere between 1250 and 1500 calories per day (depending on if I want to lose 1-2 lbs per week), so that is the limit I have set for myself. \n\nI drink plenty of water (at least 2L per day, often more). I haven't given up coffee, so I'm sure it's not caffeine withdrawal causing my headaches. I don't consume any artificial sweeteners, so it's not that. I do exercise a bit, in that I don't have a car and walk everywhere (slowly), but I haven't started any actual working out yet. \n\nIs it just that I am not eating enough calories? I am scared to eat anything above the 1500 limit - I know I was only on the diet for 2 weeks, but I didn't lose a pound eating between 1200-1500 in that time, not even water weight, so I feel like eating more would make it worse or even make me gain weight. \n\nI could just really, really use some advice if anyone has any. Thank you guys.", "summary": "I think I am doing everything right, but caloric restriction is giving me such bad headaches and lethargy that I can't function."}
{"id": "t3_1tzcin", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/m] am having a hard time with my finacee [23/f] not wanting to go out to social gatherings", "post": "So I needed to make an account to ask this since I do not know where else to go. \nLittle bit of background, been with my so for 2 years, 7 months engaged and living together, 9 months prior to that we were long distance. She does not have very many friends in this area were we are now and for the 9 months she was long distance she had little to no friends there as well.\n\n I have been trying to get her to go out for the random drink at the bar or dinner and she is always reluctant to come or just outright denying it. The same goes for any party or social gathering that may be going on. The latest is a new years eve party which is dinner and drinks with a few friends, which is exactly what she has told me she wants in a social gathering (read not a bunch of bro's getting hammered on a sat. night).\n\nI have talked to her about my concerns with this and she just says that she does not have need for social interaction that I do. She also says that it is fine that I go to these things without her. However, I feel like I have to make excuses for her as to why she is not out with me. This really bums me out. Occasionally when I do go out without her she will give me the guilt trip of saying \"oh you're leaving me alone tonight\" kind of thing. I normally just ignore that and invite her again then leave.\n\nWhen she does come out with me she gets along great with everyone and genuinely seems to have a good time. At this point I am her main interaction other than her work,who are all older than her, and multiple calls to her mother though the day. \n\nSorry if this is a bit scattered, I am just trying to get everything down. \n\nSo should I just let it go that she doesnt want to go out? or Should I try and coax her to come out and try enjoying herself more?", "summary": "Fiancee does not want to go out to any type of social gatherings while also complaining that she has no friends in the area."}
{"id": "t3_fhvvl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have very strong memory and it's making my life difficult. Any advice ?", "post": "I am able to readily recall bad memories associated with certain objects, photos, music, places, names, experiences (I'll call them \"activators\") from my past when these latters are seen/heard/mentioned etc in the present. They come in flashbacks to some negative memory that contained these \"activators\", and I remember them in great detail. It's very hard for me to forget a lot of things from my past and move on despite taking the usual measures (cut off all contact ...etc) \n\nExamples \n\n* When I wear a certain shirt, I immediately remember I wore it to a really bad first date. Also almost all other places I wore it.\n\n* When I hear 2 seconds of a song (on radio or club or whatever), I can remember the place and situation where I first heard it and it's usually associated with a bad event.\n\n* When I hear the name of a city I used to live in, my mind starts playing lots and lots of bad memories from that place. My ex was Spanish so whenever the country or language are mentioned my mind loads bad memories with her. \n\n* When I see a book I know, I recall the period of my life when I read it and all the negative things of that time.\n\n* when I see a hairstyle, I remember a person whom I hate with that style.\n\n* when I see an actor, I remember all the movies he/she acted in and in particular ones that I watched during a shitty period of my life. Then I recall all the bad things in that period.\n\nBetween experiencing the \"activators\" and going through the entire bad memory is a very short time, a couple of seconds max.\n\nI'm not particularly good in memorizing and such. Looked it up a bit, what I have is not exactly autobiographical memory. I wonder if there is a more accurate name for this condition and whether someone experiences this ? I'm not a pessimistic person by nature but if an \"activator\" reminds me of a good memory, I usually almost immediately associate it with a bad memory around that same time.", "summary": "Because I have good memory, a lot of things I see/hear/experience in the present time give me instantaneous flashbacks to (mostly) negative memories that involved these things and it's making me go a little insane"}
{"id": "t3_3l4jvg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by believing something I read on reddit", "post": "So I really like mangos. I also hate how labour - intensive they are. So when I found [this comment] in an AskReddit thread claiming that mango skin is delicious, I was intrigued. \n\nI did my due diligence, and checked Wikipedia to make sure mango skin is in fact edible. I saw a small bit about it causing \"contact dermatitis\" in \"susceptible people\". I figured it was what happened to me once when I ate really fresh pineapple.. my lips got itchy and then it went away within a couple of hours.\n\nAnyway, I decided to take the risk and try it out. You can probably see where this is going. Turns out that mango skin contains urushiol, which is the irritant in poison ivy. Yes I now have poison ivy of the lips, and of course because FML, a bit on my nose too.\n\nThe best part is that I ate my apple - mango on my lunch at work, and a random guy was sitting across from me. It turns out that mango skin is tough, and the fruit near the skin is stringy, which makes it difficult to eat like an apple. So I'm sitting there struggling to eat this mango like a moron, while trying to avoid making eye contact with this random guy across from me.\n\nThen a couple days later life rewards me with poison ivy of the lips.", "summary": "Don't eat mango skins."}
{"id": "t3_1vlnla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19M] trying to explain to my friend [20F] how her recent ex-boyfriend [20M] is manipulating her, but I'm having difficulty explaining it.", "post": "My friend [20F] broke up with her [20M] boyfriend a couple days ago, and I was kind of relieved for a number of reasons:\n\n1. He clearly wasn't interested in the relationship. He would hit on other girls (on one occasion, in front of her), wouldn't spend time with her unless she really worked to make it happen, wouldn't even play a god damned video game with her. (LoL. She plays but he doesn't consider her good enough to bother playing.)\n\n2. He's manipulative. Here's where my shortage of words to form an explanation comes in. To start, he acted like everything was okay, even when she was strongly indicating that his behavior was hurting her; he would play down issues in the relationship by doling out time together and normal relationship activities in in response to, but not in an attempt to resolve the issues. When he broke up with her, he gave her no prior indication of his intention or reasons why; he acted totally nonchalant about it. When a mutual friend asked him his reasons, his response was \"I was too happy in that relationship.\"\n\nShe can hardly make sense of it, and neither can I, but it leaves me with the impression of manipulation, despite the fact that I'm having a hard time quantifying why.", "summary": "I think my friend's ex-boyfriend was and is manipulative. How can I explain it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_47gchn", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Challenge Idea: Rice and Beans for Each Cuisine?", "post": "Rice and beans are a blank, inexpensive, and nutritious canvas for the flavors of almost every cuisine, since a regional cuisine is more about herbs, spices, sauces, etc. than the actual ingredients*. A challenge could be to come up with recipes for a rice-and-bean dish that is based of different cuisines. Here are my rules-\n\n* keep it vegetarian (or, if you have to include meat/fish, provide a veggie substitute idea)\n\n* if it's not just \"add/use X beans and spices Y and Z,\" (or other similarly simple ideas) could you provide a full recipe?\n\n* try to expand on why your comment reflects a certain cuisine?\n\n*sure, the \"food\" ingredients do matter too, and if you want to include specific additional ingredients, great! My point here was that one can still create a dish at least reminiscent of a specific cuisine with herbs, spices, and sauces, even if other regional ingredients are left out.\n\nI hope this is a fun challenge that will highlight the uniqueness of each cuisine.", "summary": "provide recipes for rice and beans for different cuisines"}
{"id": "t3_1xu2c2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me F(20) Suffering feelings of hurt/anger/selfishness/betrayal all at my own hands, maybe a little to do with M(39)", "post": "I am 20, been in too many relationships to count. I'm done, It's exhausting. I just want one. I felt like I couldn't settle until I ran into the first genuine person in my life, kind and giving not wanting things in return. It kind of irked me and now I feel I had every reason to be weary. What once was a fantasy of him wanting to date a dancer he hit it off so well with quickly turned to guilt on his part. He said he felt like he was taking advantage of me, I felt vice versa. He wants someone to grow old with. I want someone to settle down with. Yet instead of seeing comparable similarities he turns me into a charity case, Helps me and gets the warm feeling of a kind donation for a girl down on her luck. Me? I just want him. I don't want bits and pieces of good, I want its whole source. He was drawing away so I finally told him how I felt. Infatuated. Me, infatuated. 39M... Well, he's happy to be there and see me 'grow' Is this healthy? He has done nothing but help but I am enraged, so angry, so sad. I guess he taught me how to settle down but not with a significant other. I'm crushed, he made me want to do so much right. Even if he still can... one day when Ms. Right does come around, I'll have to leave the picture. A twenty year old stripper friend would just be so unsightly to his future companion. Hethinks I'll be on before him, I think he's wrong. Even If I may look it I knew I would have functioned better in his company. Not to mention I get the nagging feeling that all of this relationship changing isn't just because It makes him feel right but because friends and family would never accept a decision from him to be with a girl like me. Just shattered.", "summary": "Poor me chased the older fellow tripped and bled and became enraged by his trying to help and comfort me. And his shoe was what I tripped on following too close behind"}
{"id": "t3_33o5m7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(M26) ex-gf(F23) broke up with me, but she doesn't know why her feelings disappeared. I'm lost.", "post": "My girlfriend of 7 month broke up with me last week. I'm slowly getting over it, and used too the thoughts of her not being in my life anymore, even tho it still hurts. The one thing that is driving me crazy is the fact that she doesn't know why she lost her romantic feelings for me. She said i was the best boyfriend, i was an amazing person, attractive and none had treated her like this. She had a really good time when we were doing things. She really wanted it to be us in the future, but her feelings wasn't there anymore. And she don't know why herself. She was obviously very frustrated and sad about this. She said all this during and after the breakup. \n\nNow, she's over me/us, and only sees me as a friend. And i'm struggling to get closure because i'm just lost. I'm lost because i really don't know what i did wrong or what i could'v done different. I don't know what i can improve on. Is this a common thing? Can a girl just lose her feelings without knowing the reason, even tho she has a really good time with me, and thinks i'm still attractive? Anyone with a similar experience?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend broke up with me because her feelings disappeared, but neither of us have an idea why. She's frustrated and i'm lost."}
{"id": "t3_30inkr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a handicapped kid.", "post": "Alright this happened a couple years ago when I was still in high school, still relevant.\n\nThis happened during lunch hour, just near the end. Basically myself and a couple buddies were walking back to our lockers, conmen place in high school. What only ever happened once in a blue moon was spotting a handy capable child on your way. So at the very sight I'm off set, this wasn't just any mongo either, this was the white whale \"moaning Marvin\" as he was referred to in hushed whispers about the hallways. People called him this due to one of the side affects of his disability, he would stroll about hunched over and moan and hum audibly. They never let him out much due to his panic attacks, so truly it was truly a rare sight. \n\nAnyway, I'm walking with my group and were about to pass Marvin when he stops about four feet away from me, I can't help but notice him starring at me. Our eyes lock, this is the most intimate moment I have ever had at this point(being a kissless virgin in high school) we stare for a good twenty seconds I can feel his eyes burning a hole into mine, when all of a sudden Marvin cocks his head side ways and let's out the song of his people \"HHMMMMMFUMPPT!!!\" I immediately with out warning let out the loudest laugh no control nothing it was pure instinct, as soon as the noise left me I knew I was fucked, sure people made fun of him but that was behind his back so it was ok, I just full out laughed in his face.\n\nI had no idea that his assistant was with him the entire time. She had the biggest scowl I've ever seen on her face. \"Yea pretty funny huh?\" That bomb dropped from her lips and onto my conscience like a nuke on Tokyo. We ended up walking away me embarrassed, and my friends mocking me for months on end.", "summary": "handicapped kid spoke swahealy to me I shamed myself. "}
{"id": "t3_3n30za", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unintentionally making fun of someone's broken ankle", "post": "This fuck up happened last night, but to preface the story, here's a short explanation:\n\nWhen I was younger I played NBA Street on the GameCube a LOT. So much so that I quote the announcer on occasion. Here's a link with some example quotes - \n\nFast forward years to last night:\nMy friend and I went to watch our other friend's (let's call him Jeff) softball league game. During the game, one of Jeff's teammates rolled his ankle after overshooting second base. The guy was in real pain and was practically carried off the field. He ended up leaving soon after the fact, but his wife stuck around to continue rooting on the team. Later, Jeff's team hit a bouncing grounder past the dismayed first baseman, who stumbled over it. Witnessing this, I decided to loudly proclaim a quote from NBA Street saying \"Somebody call a doctor, we got two broken ankles in here!\". The words were out of my mouth before I processed the ramifications. \n\nHave you ever felt like the world was in slow motion? Like after a nuclear bomb hits and it's a bright flash for moments before the cloud is visible? I could almost see the words floating away in to the air as the bomb dropped and dawned on me, though I couldn't reach them; to pull them back in to silent repose. The words were gone, and I had called in the strike. Jeff's teammate had just left for his ankle injury, and I had unintentionally mocked it. I was stunned in to silence for the rest of the game (they got slaughtered until the Mercy Rule was called) and I could feel the crowd's eyes on me the entire time....", "summary": "player twisted ankle, I made a comment unwittingly making fun of said player, offending his wife"}
{"id": "t3_37cw2p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "17 and and absolutely no plan after high school. Want to leave everything behind in America and move to Europe (likely Czech Republic). Is it smart?", "post": "I.. don't know where to start. I guess I should say for a long time I've known I'm completely uninterested in the path most followed (high school, college, office job, house, family, death). My grades during high school have been absolutely horrific and I'm not even sure I'll be able to graduate (if worst comes to worst there's the GED). I really just want to drop everything and start over in a new country because I despise America. Let's get something else out of the way, I couldn't care less about a lifestyle that involves more than I need. If I am able to get my food and shelter (and a side of interweb), I'm good. Don't need a car, don't need fancy clothes or a beautiful d\u00e9cor. The reason I'm willing to drop everything? I have friends but I've switched schools every year so I'm used to leaving people. Family? Love 'em, but don't need 'em.", "summary": "Willing to drop everything and move to a different country after high school. No plan after that."}
{"id": "t3_40r8tj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] with my girlfriend [25F] and her weird Nazi fetish. She wants me to dress up like an SS officer during sex.", "post": "This came up last night and I've had a hard time getting on a grip on its since. I'm just going to say it outright, my girlfriend is Jewish. I was raised Catholic. \n\nI've been going steady with my girlfriend for two years now. I honestly love her. We've been through a lot of trauma (the death of her sister and my mother) and have really grown through it.\n\nWe always have sex a little on the kinky side (handcuffs, that sort of thing) but lately my girlfriend has been wanting to take it to the next level and we agreed roleplaying could be kind of fun. I asked her what her biggest fantasy is and she said that she used to masturbate to a fantasy that she was being tortured by a Nazi. She said she'd really like it if I could dress up like an SS officer and \"force\" her to have sex.\n\nThis really, really, really makes me uncomfortable, and now in a \"I can't do that fetish\" sort of way, but in a \"I'm not sure I can continue this relationship\" sort of way. What do I do? Am I overreacting? Is this harmless or does she need counseling?", "summary": "My girlfriend has a Nazi fetish."}
{"id": "t3_3dwmro", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Forgetting Parental Controls Logs History", "post": "This originally began a few months ago but the fuck up was a few days ago.\n\nSo I am still in high school, and around a few months ago my parents got worried that my gaming habits were interfering with my schoolwork. (Now I realize that they were right, and that my grades were worse than what I was capable of getting). lo and behold the expected happens, dad steps in and created a new account with enabled parental controls, so basically the only thing the computer is good for is typing essays and going online ( with restrictions, no social media or YouTube). But me, being pretty reliant on games at the time, refused to take it and tried to find a way around it. I searched up \"how to create a new admin account on a Mac\", using the managed account... *facepalm*. I ended up finding a tech blog; bing bam boom ten minutes later I restore permissions to my account, and get access to everything back. I thought I was so slick, covered all my tracks except for the fact that search history is logged...the next time dad checks the computer the first thing he sees when he checks my activity in search history \"how to create a new admin account on Mac\". I haven't been confronted about it but needless to say I will not be attempting that again.", "summary": "searched up how to create a new admin account on computer, forgot that parental controls tracks history"}
{"id": "t3_28q8uo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [23 M] with my girl friend [25 F] and been dating for about 2 months. She seems like the sweetest woman ever personality wise, but weighs roughly 400 pounds.", "post": "Amazing personality. Like one of the sweetest most dear women you'd meet, but she weighs roughly 400 pounds(I weigh about 254 for the record) and I need to lose weight too. Her weight is the only issue I had and I had wanted her to lose the weight, but I have been told by people its not right to ask a person you dating to lose weight. She has lost 18 pounds already though. She says she does not care about how I look so I have not been trying as hard to lose weight though I think I should and wanna(even though she does not say it, Ik she'd love if I had a nice and trim body). Its only fair, but should I stop things now and let her find someone else as well as I or just continue hope", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_p7p3u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "hey reddit, should i press charges?  waitress rage inside.", "post": "sunday i went to lunch with a friend and two small children who are relatives.  we ate at johnny rockets.  our bill was 37.95, which i paid for with my credit card, and i left a 10 dollar cash tip - already over 25 percent!  the service was shoddy but it was busy and the waitress was super apologetic and i also wait tables so i know how it feels to be \"in the weeds.\"  \n\nchecked my bank account online last night, saw a withdrawal for 52.95.  i immediately went to the restaurant and talked to a very confused but accommodating manager.  she disappeared for about 10 minutes, came out, asked us to go to the back.  we went to the back and she asks me if i left a 15 dollar credit card tip.  no way!  \n\nshe pulled up the original transaction, and the credit card report for that day, but she didn't have the receipt that i signed.  she's getting it; it's been sent out already.  i looked at the report and saw other transactions for that waitress that day with suspect tips; a 21 dollar bill with a 10 dollar tip and a few others.  it's only been a few days so i am sure other people will come forward if they check their bank accounts or balance their checkbooks.  \n\ni should hear back today or tomorrow from the manager and she said she'd cooperate if i want to take this any further.  part of me knows times are tough, but you don't steal from people.  the other part of me is like don't fuck with the working class, miss lady.  i'm a server and i've never ever done this but i've seen it happen in other places.  i know she's going to lose her job over this, though.  \n\noh, and yes, i put a little dash in the tip amount line on the receipt and wrote 37.95 as the total.  this leads me to believe that she turned the little dash into a 5, made it 15.00, and rewrote the total.  i should have just wrote in \"cash\", lesson learned.  never thought this would happen.", "summary": "left a 25%+ cash tip for a waitress, she wrote in more money on the receipt, thusly getting a 25 dollar tip on a bill for 37.95."}
{"id": "t3_15njl1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20F) don't know if he(21M) is not being understanding or if I am.", "post": "Been together for a year and 2 months, we've known each other for about 3 years before that. Basically I have decided to go away for a month to take up an important (in my eyes) work contract that will benefit me eventually once I finish school than if I work closer to home for a month (I worked there this past summer as well). He will be in school while I'm gone and when I do come back I start school again too. So I tell him before I say yes to the contract and ask how he feels about it. He tells me to do what I please. So I say yes seeing as it's something I'll enjoy. Now that I've said yes he tells me I'm being selfish and not thinking of him. He also tells me we'll no longer be able to talk via Skype since our schedules won't coincide (I work evenings and finish at 10 while he goes to school during the day) or text since my phone has no signal. I know he ends up staying up until 1 in the morning some week nights to talk and play games online with his friends. I have told him I'll buy a prepaid cell phone to be able to use while there. Now my question is as follows: am I being ridiculous for thinking that he could easily make a sacrifice for a couple game nights to talk to me? Am I being selfish or is he? I don't want to get angry about all this but it is a reoccurring problem for me and I know he's trying to be more understanding but sometimes he doesn't quite see how much he gives to his friends while I sit patiently in the background.", "summary": "my SO is not being very understanding about me leaving for a month but I think he's being a bit selfish about it."}
{"id": "t3_2enmb3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19m) thinking about breaking up with my SO (18 f) of 2.5 yrs - Is it supposed to be this hard?", "post": "I'll start this by giving a brief history of our relationship. This was the first major relationship for both of us. We were eachother's first for everything, from kissing to losing our virginities to each other. We have been together since our sophomore year of highschool, and are now both at college, 5 1/2 hours away from eachother. \nOver the summer, we hit a really rough patch. I had been having doubts about our relationship for a few weeks, and when I brought them up to her, it spiraled out of control and we almost ended the relationship. Most of my doubts centered around my worries that we weren't right for eachother. We have little in common, and it seems like a lot of the time she tolerates things I do or like rather than enjoy them.\n\nHowever, things got better and we went into this year feeling fairly confident about our status. But now that I'm away, the old doubts are returning and I can't shake them. I graduated in a class of 56 kids and am now in a major university with over 25,000 students. Being here has kind of opened my eyes in a lot of ways. Honestly, I just don't see a future in our relationship anymore. I sat down the other day and wrote a list of all the qualities I would want in a potential SO, and while my girlfriend is a great person, she doesn't really show almost any of those qualities.\n\nBasically, intellectually, I feel like breaking up is the right move. Even if I was sure about us, the distance would be a huge struggle. But the thing is, whenever I think about what I would have to say, I don't know if I can do it. It hurts to think about breaking up with this girl I have share so much with and been through so much together with. So my question is - is this normal? If anyone has been through a similar situation, or wants to offer any advice at all I would appreciate feedback.", "summary": "With GF for 2.5 years, we were eachother's firsts. In my head, I know breaking up is the right move, but I don't know if I can bring myself to do it. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_2erdap", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My disabled brother was at fault in a rear end collision and is now being sued by the other party for medical expenses", "post": "[location:  USA]\n\nMy brother was in an accident several months ago where he rear ended the car in front of him - hard enough that that car rear ended the next car.  This was his second accident (both his fault, both rear ending), but unfortunately both were in the span of a few months.\n\nToday we found out that the other party in the most recent accident is suing him in civil court for $15,000, because my brother's insurance company wouldn't pay him what he wanted for \"bodily injury\". According to the insurance company he never went to the hospital, so I assume his has no actual proof of bodily injury. They offered him some undisclosed amount, and he rejected it. So now there is a court date.\n\nThe problem:  my brother is mentally handicapped. He has a valid drivers license, so he passed ALL of the requirements set forth by our state. He is legally allowed to drive, and I don't think that he is significantly more dangerous than many many other people on the road.  HOWEVER, that's not what people will think when he goes to court. He can't form a coherent story, he gets lost in his own mind, every question is basically a leading question because it will affect his memory, his story and his understanding of the events.  He *cannot* go to court and testify.\n\nWhat do we do??  My parents are worried that after this he will be un-insurable, or it will at least cost way more than he can afford. Do you guys have any legal advice for us at all?\n\nHis insurance company said that they would represent him, and my Dad is going to talk to another lawyer too to see if he should get additional representation.  I guess my main questions are:  Does my brother have to testify if this goes to court?  Do you think that that will color the opinion of whoever makes these decisions?  Is there anything else that we should know?", "summary": "My mentally handicapped brother is at fault in a collision and is now involved in a lawsuit.  I don't think he's fit to take the stand, what do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_3781g4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M21]go back to her[F22]?", "post": "I was in relationship with a girl that I like a lot for more than a year and we had a good time but we broke up 3 months ago. \n\nThe reason was that she didnt show to me that she loves me and that she is crazy about me. We talk about it and she told me that she wasnt sure about her feelings for me and my response was that if you are not sure i dont want to be with you so it happened.\n\n After this she keeps texting me time to time and post things on fb at which she is trying to tell me that she missed me. I miss her too but I am not sure if I want to get back with her. But I will not do any step if i dont notice that she is putting effort!", "summary": "We broke up. I dont know what she wants. I dont know what I want."}
{"id": "t3_4fjdsb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How long to \"date\" until you become official? I am [25/m], she's 24.", "post": "Hey Reddit, first post. Hope you guys can help.\n\nI've been talking to this girl for roughly two weeks now and we've gone on a handful of dates. If I had to describe the feeling, I'd say it's overwhelming. Overwhelming because I've never clicked/felt this strongly about anyone before and it's scary in a way.\n\nIf we're being honest, I feel like she is the one. But that's a conversation for another day.\n\nAnyways, it's obvious we are both very into each other. She has sent me sweet texts saying how much she can't wait to see me again in between dates and we are both very comfortable with each other.\n\nNow, since I like her so much and everything is going so well right now, my biggest fear is messing things up. Obviously I want to be official and have a real relationship with her, but I don't want to \"move too fast\" or rush things if that makes sense.", "summary": "I guess my question is, after how long is it appropriate to have the R talk? After how long did you and your signficant other become official? "}
{"id": "t3_2kpvc6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking off my socks.", "post": "I fucked up real bad today, Reddit.  \n\nSo a little background; I work at a bagel shop, and on weekdays, I go directly from school to work to start my shift. My managers like it warm, so when I get there, the temperature is usually almost 80 degrees.   \n\nNow, I overheat easily, so I usually end up taking off my socks and putting them in a paper bag underneath the counter with my jacket. Fast forward to 4:55; we are about to close, so I take my jacket and sock up and put them on the counter as I prepare to leave. One last stubborn customer decided to come in, and my coworker takes her order as I wrap up some things so we can close. About ten minutes later, when we're clocking out, she tosses me my bag and says, \"Don't forget your socks!\" I'm sure the look on my face was a hysterical look of confusion and fear as I saw that my socks were not in the bag, but napkins were instead.\n\nIn my coworker's haste to leave, she had put the customer's order into the bag with my socks in it instead of the bag with napkins that she had prepared; so somewhere, right now, there is a lady walking around with dirty socks in her bag with her food.  \n\nI don't know whether I should appreciate the hilarity of the situation, or prepare myself for a lawsuit.", "summary": "Lady will have a bad time wiping her face."}
{"id": "t3_25hmzu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30f) told my husband (30m) he enjoys his interest and he told me I was wrong", "post": "OK so some background: we've been together 10 years, married for 5. 3 kids together. \n\nI'll try to make this quick. Basically my husband watches videos (documentaries, interviews) about a certain topic often. We were discussing it today and I said I don't personally enjoy ___ but I know you enjoy learning about ____.... He cut me off and said \"no you're wrong, I have no emotional connection to it at all\". Now, this would be OK if it were true. But he has expressed over and over his enjoyment with said interest. Also, he occupies his time with information about it, frequently. So to me it was obvious observation. Hell, he has even *said* he enjoys learning about it. \n\nThis is a very simple, stupid thing. I don't understand why he would argue against liking something he so easily expressed interest in before, for years. I guess I am looking for some insight as to why he would behave as if I did something wrong for saying something he himself has said before...?  \n\nThis is not the first time things like this have happened. It seems he says things one day and says the opposite another day. Then swears up and down he never said anything different. I just don't get it. I feel like I'm going crazy. Insight, advice, tell me I'm crazy... Anything you got, I'll listen.", "summary": "Husband expresses one thing, then tells me I'm wrong when I say something, and then acts like he never expressed the original thing. "}
{"id": "t3_24d2vz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22M stuck in a rut over 21F", "post": "First of all thanks for reading! This started a few weeks ago when i met this girl at work. We started facebooking, then i invited her to an event with some friends. It went great and the next day she travelled over an hour to hang with me for four hours. At this point she text me saying she had lots of fun the next day but didnt respond to my general chitchat. Day later i asked her to eat lunch with me, it went great again. Now today however i simply said Hey to her and got no reply, a colleague of mine (who im sure is trying to backstab me) was talking to me and said \"oh im chatting to your \"girlfriend\" shall i invite her to come up for drinks with us later?\". \n\nNow im super confused. Shes talking to him but not me. I dont know whether i should go to drinks or not. Im dumb, i know, but i feel super emotionally invested in this. Any advice is much appreciated.", "summary": "girl at work seemed to like me but is talking to my friend and not me. What do."}
{"id": "t3_2qnprw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is this girl (f/21) into me (m/22) ?", "post": "Heres the deal - I met this girl(F/21), she's good friends with my best friend(F/23). I like to be around her, we get along great and have a lot in common, more than any other girl I've known.\n\nNow about this girl, she hasn't had that much exposure after school as compared to her peers. So, she was not even any of the popular IM apps such as whatsapp, facebook messenger and the likes until quite recently. She has never dated anyone but knows that I have had a couple of relationships.\n\nMost days we end up talking late at night for hours, sometimes over IM, sometimes on the phone but we mostly talk about ourselves rather than flirting .But recently she mentioned this guy from school who was creeping her out and hitting on her in a rather cringey manner over facebook messenger. She was literally texting me his messages and laughing over how cringey they were and she could not figure how could people even talk like that. Then she said that I was the culprit behind this awkward social situation as she had to install whatsapp, messenger etc. in order to talk to me.\n\nMy question is, is it a bad sign since she talked about some random dude hitting on her with me ?", "summary": "Getting along really well with a girl, who basically installed a few IM apps  in order to talk to me ( she acknowledged this herself). Then, she mentions a guy from school hitting on her in a very cringey manner and blamed me for this situation as she had to install these apps to talk to me. How do I dodge this curveball ?"}
{"id": "t3_3y0695", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using Trivago", "post": "In case you wonder what is Trivago, it's a website where you look for a hotel and compares prices from different websites. You already knew it? Ok, ok, no problem \n\nExactly 3 days ago, my family were at a hotel where we spent our last night there. But we needed another night, and they said to me that I reserved at other hotel, because there was not available rooms at the hotel we was in. So, I go to Trivago.com and look for a hotel. I selected dates, occupants, no smoke, etc. I found a good hotel and then I go redirected to Expedia.com for finish. \n\nWe were in a hurry and I did the booking as fast as possible, I paid with my card and we go to the new hotel. When we arrived at the new hotel and they said that the reservation was booked for 10-11 January. Damnit, I didn't checked in Expedia the dates. I pretended it was a mistake and I \"fix it\" and my family didn't know it.", "summary": "Glitch in Trivago, booked a hotel for one month after the day we need it."}
{"id": "t3_2j0ml8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by printing out porn pics at the public library", "post": "This happened when i was 12 (2002) and we didn't have internet access at home, so M-Th I'd walk to the public library and just go on the computers. (side note: I'm gay) Sometimes, I'd get bored and look up pictures of college guys' cocks and this went on for maybe a month.\n \nAnyway, one day as i went to print out a photo, it didn't come out right away so I looked at the printer and it said something like \"out of paper\" and a library volunteer came over and said \"oh, let me get some more paper and you can print it out\" and i was like \"no, it's ok i was just gonna print out some song lyrics.\" and he's like \"are you sure you dont wanna wait? it'll only take a second\" and i said \"no, its ok\" and i left. \n\nThe next day, I went back to the library and the librarian had a smirk on her face and we both knew it was because of the picture that I had tried to print out yesterday. I assumed that after they added more paper, the photo i printed out must've came out.\n\nAfter that, both of the librarians would always check on me to see what I was doing online, they would also gossip about me and ask me weird questions about if I had any \"guy friends\". I still see them around but one of them seems like she hates me now.", "summary": "I printed out nude pics at the public library when i was younger."}
{"id": "t3_1v0v7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(23F) I don't know how to go on with my (25M) boyfriend of 1+ yrs", "post": "We only started dating about 14 months ago and around Christmas time last year I found out I was pregnant. \n\nI also found out that my bf and I had an STD, Chlamydia. He was harsh and upset towards me, you see, he believed that I gave it to him but neither one of us showed symptoms until one day after we had parted ways for the holidays. He felt pain, got himself checked, and lo and behold, he's got Chlamydia.  \n\nWhile he's berating me on the phone, I break down and tell him I'm pregnant. Nine months later, a beautiful baby girl is born with the sunrise. \n\nFour months after her birth, I log onto my computer and see that he's left a message chat open with some chick. \n\nI think nothing of it at first and I go to log him out but something catches my eye- a lot of hearts and smiley faces between the two of them and I scroll up just  a little bit.\n\nMy bf is telling this girl that she means a lot to him and when he poured his heart out to her x amount of years ago he meant it. Then he goes on to say something like, I still hold you close can you imagine what things would be like if we got together? Imagine how different our lives would be....\n\nThat's as far as I got. My stomach dropped to the floor and I felt like I was going to be sick. I cried.. a lot and now I'm in a stupor. \n\nI just needed someone to reach out to... \nI'm at a standstill. I don't trust him anymore and the next time he says I love you to me I won't believe him", "summary": "My boyfriend and I started our relationship on rocky ground, and it's gotten a little rockier since."}
{"id": "t3_k2bda", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my Xbox has been banned. Wat do.", "post": "#Copied from r/gaming post [here](\n\nPrepare for a block of text.\n\nSo basically, I was playing TES IV: Oblivion yesterday and I got bored so I decided to play some Halo. I go to dashboard and notice that I was disconnected from XBL. Didn't think much of it so I continue with switching disks. When I try re-connecting, I'm informed that my console has been banned for a Terms of Use violation. \n\nI'm pretty confused now. I'm pretty sure I haven't tampered with my console, participated in any online fraud or repeated in egregrious violations.\n\n\"To protect the Xbox LIVE service and its members, Microsoft does not provide details about console bans. \" - Microsoft.\nThis means they won't tell me why exactly I've been banned and furthermore there isn't a support forum for console bans (only account bans). I've no idea what to do and they say that there is no recourse for console bans.\n\nThere was one thing that happened the day before the banning (31st Aug) though. I was invited to an XBL party by someone who I've never seen/played with on XBL. I was curious so I joined. Once I was in, another person in the party listed my Location and ISP. They did the same for someone else who has just joined the party. They also knew my IP address. I left the party after that though, as it all seemed pretty suspicious. I'm pretty sure they had a jtagged Xbox because I can't see any other way they'd be able to do that.\n\nI'm not sure if it was because of something that user might've done, or just a mistake by Microsoft, but my console's been banned. Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My console was banned for no raisin."}
{"id": "t3_p0tsd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Current and former workers of McDonald's. How hard is it to get Mac sauce on a burger after midnight?", "post": "Last night, after work, I went to the drive thru at 12:30am. I wanted to order a quarter pounder, no ketchup or mustard, add mac sauce and leaf lettuce. I was told that there is no Mac sauce after midnight.\n\nI know that they don't serve Big Macs on the late night menu because they stop using the small sized patties... I know that it isn't an option to get one.  But seriously, how hard is it to to put Mac sauce on a quarter pounder? It can't be that hard, and I've gotten it before at other chains.\n\nI asked to talk with the manager and was told that I couldn't have it because the tube wasn't hooked up. Is it really an issue to pull a bottle of sauce out of the fridge to put Mac sauce on my burger? They don't have to hook it up to the sauce gun.... or do they?\n\nThat's where you guys come in.  Is it really a big deal for a McDonald's to put Mac sauce on a burger if requested after midnight(late night menu) or were these guys just being lazy?", "summary": "I love Mac sauce (I cry lyk dis evrytImE I cant gEt iT)"}
{"id": "t3_fulrd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I chased down a (probably) drunk driver at high speeds after I saw them swerve wildly and hit several cars on I-95, only to eventually lose them. Tell me your hit and run stories.", "post": "This car is cruising around 85-90mph when I see them bump a taxi off the interstate and proceed forward, swerving in and out of lanes and the shoulder. I keep pace as I phone the police, hastily telling them the situation. He bumps another car before he exits off. Thinking about how close I was to him, and by only mere circumstance I wasn't the car he bumps off the road, I follow him seeking justice, running red lights, driving at least 30mph over the limit, all the while holding none of this back from the dispatch officer (who laughed when I asked her: \"should I run this red light?\"; \"uh...\"; \"I just did\").\n\nBy this time they know I'm in pursuit and take a small road off the highway. Down a dirt path to my bloody decapitation I'm thinking. Only here does he manage to escape, plowing through a large ditch, providing good damage to his car I imagine, as I, sober, decided not to follow suit. By the time I rerouted to the highway... gone. \n\nCops were worthless.", "summary": "High speed chase with a drunk driver. I lost."}
{"id": "t3_2hp1h0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20] Roles have reversed in relationship of 1.5 years on and off with gf [19]", "post": "FUCK MY LIFE ABSOLUTELY RAGING RIGHT NOW, I TREATED THIS GIRL LIKE ABSOLUTE SHIT BECAUSE ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS GET MY DICK WET BUT NOW GETTING COMEUPPETS /rant over\n\nSo backstory to this, my girlfriend lets call her Gabrielle and I had previously had a serious relationship for approximately 1 and a bit years. This is where things started to fall apart with being on and off again. Fast forward to now.\n\nIt all started  where Michelle and I were getting into the groove of things again after a shaky break up. During this period of time we hadnt put a name on our relationship so we decided to call it a \"thing\" that wasn't too serious but had the intent of evolving into a relationship eventually.\n\nSo when we get back into this \"thing\" I was going to parties and gatherings majority of the time where Michelle wasn't really my first priority and only saw her once or twice during this period. I didnt really care if she was there or not so I kind of neglected her during that time. Mean while she's there trying her absolute hardest to get my attention. At these parties I would generally make out with one or two girls. In total it wad around 7 throughout the course of the few weeks. \n\nFast forward to more recent weeks where I began to gain feelings for her and stopped heading out every weekend and making moves on women. I start to want to hang out with her as much as she did during that time where I was neglecting her and this results us to where we are now. In short, due to my borderline personality disorder I did some things that made her lose feelings for me combined with the fact that she has barely any time to hang out because of work so that just makes it even harder to get a hold of her while I'm here back with full feelings. \n\nShe claims she's confused and doesnt know what she wants. It's just so hard for me to let go. Ive tried and tried but it just doesnt work. The love I have for this girl is imense and I just don't know what I would do without her.", "summary": "neglected girlfriend by going to parties constantly, now some issues have arisen where the roles have turned and shes lost feelings because of some stupid shit I did/said."}
{"id": "t3_3h9b71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my mother [57F], she is financially incompetent and I need help", "post": "Alright ya'll, this has been a long time coming for me.\n\nI am currently in college and will be finishing in two years (one year earlier than most people my age, thank god)\n\nMy mom is an erratic person in general and most of us (her family) thinks that she has a Cluster B personality disorder. Her family in general are all nuts in their own way, but none as bad as her.\n\nEssentially my dad calls me up tonight and tells me she just dropped about $3,000 on a hot tub- while I am in college. She constantly spends my dad's money on other stuff, has no idea how bills work and is late on paying them, and my two younger autistic siblings need care and money for their own needs. \n\nHere's the kicker though- my dad [55] is great with money and has complete understanding of finances. I keep telling him to move his money to another account and let her deposit her own wages (only about $20,000 a year for her) into her own account because she honestly can't be trusted with money. I have also been telling him to go to a lawyer about this.\n\nNow I know this is a money issue but I don't know how to have a relationship with my mom, or what to say to her about this dumb bullshit, if she keeps doing things like this. Especially since she didn't even call my dad and just bought the hot tub without a care in the world.\n\nHow do you all deal with the financially illiterate?", "summary": "my mom is reckless with money, how can I help my family and deal with her at the same time?"}
{"id": "t3_2goeoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my spouse [26M]. He cheated, now I don't know what to do.", "post": "We married very young, and had a child together before we married. Our oldest is now 7, we've been married 6.5 years. \n\nAbout a year and a half after we got married, he got drunk and felt up a girl in a hot tub. He lied about this to me until last night, he always said they had only talked all night.\n\n3 years after we got married, we finally went on our delayed honeymoon. It was perfect, except that on the way home I got motion sickness from the choppy waters on the cruise. I took medicine and slept for 12 hours. Somewhere during that time he found a random girl, talked to her and they made out. Turns out, she also went to his alma mater.\n\nAlmost 2 years later, while I'm pregnant with our second child, he got an assignment to go to his alma mater for recruitment purposes (they always send alumni to the college fairs). He went and while there, he contacted the girl from the cruise on FB and they met up and made out again. According to him, nothing further happened. Not because he didn't want to, but because she didn't.\n\nWe have also had other issues with his dishonesty, such as hiding a platonic relationship with a girl he knew in college, telling me she was a guy. I know nothing ever happened between them because she eventually became a good friend of mine. She was madly in love with another guy.\n\nI threw him out this morning. Packed him a suitcase and told him to find somewhere to sleep because I can't have him here. He wants to work it out, but I'm so exhausted from crying and being up all night I can't think. What do I do? We have 2 children, 14mo and 7y. I don't have a job, I stay at home with the baby.", "summary": "He cheated, now what? How do I move on? How do I forgive him?"}
{"id": "t3_wbzz4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something that has happened to you, that you have no explanation for?", "post": "Our power went out last night during a storm, so we decided to pretend to play with my Ouija board. It didn't work, of course, but I remembered a time when I was about 13 years old when it did. \n\nI was at a slumber party, playing with a Ouija board with a couple of friends. We contacted a \"ghost\", who was answering questions only we knew personally correctly, while also answering questions about herself and her death. I was really skeptical, until she said she had gone to a small college in a different state that my other friend in the room's mom's friend taught at. This friend was even more skeptical than I was, and was really surprised when the college was spelled out on the board. Her mom's friend was a literature teacher there, so she asked the \"ghost\" about the literature teachers she had when she went there. Sure enough, the \"ghost\" spelled out her mother's friend's name. We were all dumbfounded. Normally, I still wouldn't have believed, but: \n\n1. My friend didn't have her hands on the board at all, she was sitting on the couch (she thought the whole game was pretty dumb)\n2. My friend is Persian, so there's no way we could have just guessed a random Persian name\n3. Like I said before, she thought the whole thing was dumb and sincerely looked surprised when it spelled out the name, therefore I really don't think anyone else knew the answer beforehand. She still doesn't believe it was a ghost to this day.", "summary": "I had an encounter with a supposed ghost that I can't explain, what is something crazy that's happened to you that you can't explain either?"}
{"id": "t3_280t9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I respond to this email? We never really talked, and we won't get another chance to.", "post": "I was taking a summer class and then some things came up and I had to drop it. \n\nSo there's a guy who sat next to me. We only exchanged words a couple times. No conversations or anything. He called me pretty once, but I didn't realize it until he walked away... -___-.... He sent me the link to a pdf once, so he had my email. \n\nAfter I dropped, he sent me an email asking if that's what I did. I confirmed it, said I had a lot going on and would retake the course later. Then he said: \n\n\"wow! well i hope you do well.\nhave a great summer Plzzrecycle!\nBest regards,\nB\"\n\n**But I don't want that to be the end!!!** \n\nHow do I respond without being lame? We aren't friends at all. Unfortunately, it never got to that point. What should I say?", "summary": "I like a guy in class. I drop the class. He emails to see what's up then says goodbye. I don't want that to be the end. How to respond?"}
{"id": "t3_2fip65", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m]The feeling of losing everything. [16/f]", "post": "Okay so i am asking, and i'm going to try to request advise in the most non-creepy way i can think of. Here goes nothing.\nSo basically i am 17 and i went on a vacation with my family. While in branson i met the most amazing girl in my life. She looked stunning and we had everything in common i.e. we talked the entire day without really doing much else. I could tell we were an instant click so by the end o the day she gave me her phone number and she told me where she lived which, coincidentally, is about half an hour away from me. When we said our goodbye it felt like the da best eva especially considering i didn't know what would happen. The next day my phone crashes and by the time i get it fixed my parents changed the carrier company so my sim card got wiped. I started freaking out because i don't remember her last name or her phone number. The thing i have to go on is her first name her neighborhood what high school and what she looks like. Does anyone know how to i can find her? I already tried social networking but to no avail.", "summary": "I met a chick who clicks with me and i lost her contact info. I need a new way to find her."}
{"id": "t3_4te6so", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by knocking over a beer bottle.", "post": "This happened yesterday. To set the scene, I was a tad buttered up on this fine Saturday afternoon at my cousin's lakehouse, sipping on my (probably) sixth High Life and already giddy from recently whipping one of my compadres at bags. Everyone's just finished eating dinner, so my cousins were in the kitchen helping clean dishes.\n\nMy uncle calls me inside and asks me if I can help him maneuver this newfangled Bluetooth grill thermometer he just got so he could use it the next night. Being the cocky techy fuck I am, I waltz right inside and over to where he has his phone and this little gadget sprawled on the counter. My first knee-jerk reaction was to reach for the center button (aka the only button) on the little device, but for some reason I reach with both hands and knock over my 3/4-full room-temperature beer with the inside of my left elbow. \n\nMy initial reaction is to immediately grab the beer, place it upright and cover it with my hand so that it doesn't overflow. To add to that brilliant plan, apparently my hand decides to instinctively cover it with my thumb instead, because hey, I have sorta thick thumbs, maybe my thumb is thick enough to stem this bottle's explosive...explosion action. Wrong. Cue the lukewarm beer foam spraying all over the kitchen. Guess they don't call it the champagne of beers for nothing.\n\nI drop the now foam-filled bottle onto the counter and look around. It was quiet for a good few seconds. It was actually pretty interesting to see how one half-bottle of warm beer can coat a kitchen in foam. The pantry door, the floor, the chairs, the counter, my uncle's shirt, all completely foamed. Thank God no phones or wall sockets got covered in foam, and the thermometer must've been waterproof because it was fine too. Without a word, I ran to the sink and grabbed a rag. After a half hour of apologizing and ferocious scrubbing, there was no more mess, but you could smell it. Hooooooly shit you could still smell it. The scene was clean, but with a stench entrenched.", "summary": "I'm a little popped up, my uncle asks me how to work some electronic thing he bought, I come in but knock over my beer and proceed to shower the kitchen in foam."}
{"id": "t3_239osh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help, I (f24) found out my little sister (f10) is cutting. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I live at home with my Mom, my stepdad and my 3 younger sisters ages 12,10, and 9. The middle girl is 10 years old. In the last few weeks we have noticed a huge change in her personality that has been scaring us. She has been pathalogically lying about just nonsense things, compulsivly eating and just lots of other destructive behavior. \n\nThis morning as I was walking out of the house, my stepdad pulled me aside and tells me yesterday he found a bunch of papers with scary depressing semi sucidal writing under her mattress, a knife in her drawer, and cuts on her arms and legs. \n\nI am sick with worry, I know all of the schools and her doctor have been notified and my parents are going to do everything they can to help her. But I am freaking out. I don't know what, I don't know how to help her. Any time I have had to deal with situations like this, it has never been with someone so young or someone so close to me. I need advice.", "summary": "Found out this morning my ten year old sister is cutting."}
{"id": "t3_2d4wbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/23] am falling out of love with my SO [F/25] because she is quitting college", "post": "Throwaway for this.\n\nI was raised in a family where a college education is everything. If you don't graduate college, you are nothing to my family. I never really thought I ascribed to this type of thought until my SO told me she had lost all motivation to finish her degree. A couple of months ago she quit and started working full time for the federal government. \n\nSince that time, my attraction to her has lessened. I keep thinking of her as someone I shouldn't be pursuing a long term relationship with. I absolutely hate that this has happened and feel sick at myself. She is still the beautiful, intelligent, caring and socially-conscious person I fell for three years ago. Why am I feeling like this and how can I stop it?", "summary": "what can I do to get over the conditioning my family has raised me into?"}
{"id": "t3_3rfp8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Two months after I (41F) broke up with my boyfriend (53M), I am having trouble moving forward.", "post": "My boyfriend and I were together for a little over a year and a half. About a year in, I started to see warning signs that this wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted. \n\nHe was drinking heavily every night, often lying to me about it, or concealing from me that he was drunk and high. He did several things while drunk that were upsetting - crashing into my neighbor's car, picking me up drunk when I needed a ride and lying about whether he'd been drinking, confessing later that he knew he'd been too drunk to drive. \n\nHe was emotionally disconnected from me, the sex went from very frequent to 1-2 times a month, and every effort I made to gently, kindly address the situation left him feeling attacked and abandoned. I tried to fix it, and he was not a willing participant in fixing it - it was like I was betraying him by pointing out that it was breaking, and then that it was broken. \n\nFinally it was too much, and I broke up with him. I am pretty certain that it was the right thing to do. \n\nBut I still miss him so badly. We thought we were going to be together forever. I feel too guilty to go online to try and date, for fear that he will see my profile and feel betrayed. I have had the opportunity to flirt with other people, and I just can't, I feel like I would be betraying him. I still love him. I still miss him. \n\nHe says he still loves me. I have only seen him once since we broke up. I don't know what to do, or how to start to heal.", "summary": "Broke up with my boyfriend, still feel loyal to him, even though I think continuing to date him isn't a good idea. I don't want to go back, but I'm afraid I will. How to move forward?"}
{"id": "t3_1dmtl6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most ironically satisfying thing you have ever experienced? Throwaways encouraged.", "post": "My buddy didn't believe I was as good as I said I was at Black Ops 2, so I set up a stream on twitch.tv and he was watching me play a few games. Suddenly, boom. My ex girlfriend showed up at my apartment unannounced, and threw an insane spectacle. She cheated on me, realized she made a mistake and wanted to reconcile. At first she was a sweet, seductive little princess. But Mr. Krabs warned me to stay away from those swings and I didn't want to get turned into a tuna can. Relishing the glory of the moment, I went a little too far with my...\"flagrant\" and thorough rejection, using some unsavory terminology.\n\nShe looks me right in the eyes and says \"fuck you. I'm telling everyone that you raped me and no one will believe a single word of yours against mine. Don't worry, I'll give you a head start before I call the cops, but by then I'll be nice and bruised up.\" You see, I have an assault charge on my record. It's a long story, but essentially boils down to the fact that a son feels an unreal amount of rage when he sees his step father raise a hand to his own mother.\n\nI didn't move for a few minutes. You know that mode where you stare blankly trying to process something, and in that moment you have no regard for anything around you other than the thoughts shooting across your mind? Finally I got pulled from that trance by my phone ringing. It was my buddy that was watching my CoD stream. \"Dude. I video'd my computer screen just in case the broadcast didn't record. You're so lucky your mic was on. That bitch is going down.\"\n\nI let her take me to court :)", "summary": "Video games > Girl"}
{"id": "t3_1s40la", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my SO [24 F] 5+ months, is there any point in timing a breakup?", "post": "OK, it's a short story. I've [24M] been with my significant other [24F] for a little more than five months and, to be honest, I think the whole sordid affair has run its course. She's a perfectly nice person but we're just not that compatible, we're both busy so we don't see each other that often (and, when we do, it's me showing up at her place at 10PM and leaving at 7AM), and our sex drives are totally on different levels (mine a lot higher than hers). \n\nI guess one can never be sure but I believe the right thing to do is breakup. To be clear, I have tried talking to her about some of the things that bother me -- we can't do much about our schedules, that's just how life/work goes; she's not a super passionate or energetic person so there's no hope of getting her to be enthusiastic to do much more than sit on the couch and watch TV; and I brought up the amount of sex we have (it's 2 times a week, maximum, and it's almost always at my initiation. We would absolutely have less sex if I didn't push the subject), but no change there either.\n\nIt's making me irritable and we're getting into fights. There's really no point to that for either of us. We both deserve to be happy and that doesn't work when I really don't enjoy the prospect of being around her anymore. Which sucks because she really is a good person. She'll be a fantastic girlfriend for someone, just not for me.\n\nHere's the wrinkle:\n\nShe's a grad student entering three weeks of finals and she's been pretty crushed with work. I am wondering what's the best option: (1) try to generally avoid her and then breakup in early January so that she can get through December without the added stress of a breakup OR (2) break up immediately, thus no prolonging this any further.", "summary": "want to break up with my significant other, unsure whether I should hold off so it doesn't impact an important academic time or just do it ASAP"}
{"id": "t3_2emgwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] broke up with my [18F] girlfriend of 3.5 years. Wondering how to deal with the loneliness.", "post": "Ok, so I have posted about this before. My girlfriend and I split after she told me she was unhappy. Come to find out she had been talking to another guy for about a month before hand and kissed him at her sisters wedding. She had been telling me that we could try again down the road but after finding that out I told her I don't know if I would want to but maybe we could be friends.\n\n I have tried to be nothing but nice to her, I told her that I forgive her and that she doesn't need to feel guilty for feelings she can't control and the only mistake she mad was not telling me sooner. I then went on to say that there is still a place for her in my life as a friend if she would ever feel comfortable with that. I really wanted to keep things on good terms because our families are somewhat close and I still care about her. Unfortunately she never replied and now none of her family members will really talk to me. The last thing I heard from them was her mother telling me that my EX does not hate me. \n\n   I felt better after we initially broke up but now I find myself getting very lonely at times. It feels like half the people that cared about me have just sort of disappeared. I saw her post a picture of herself yesterday and she looked very happy. I just don't understand how someone can go from caring about someone to forgetting about them so quickly. I have tried to surround myself with friends for the most part but I always know at the end of the day its just going to me sitting alone in my room wishing I had someone to talk to :/", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of 3.5 years and have tried to be nice. Keep getting feelings of unshakable loneliness."}
{"id": "t3_3j1mcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A conflicted [28/F] with her [34/M] boyfriend of 1 year. When is it time to call it quits?", "post": "I've been dating a guy for about a year now. Things are good between us for the majority of the time especially since we're both pleasant-natured, people-pleasing, and conflict-avoidant. But I don't know if it's RIGHT. I'm not sure if we're in love or if we're with each other because we're scared of being alone. \n\nI do enjoy the time I spend with him. But there have been problems with communication styles, our friend groups, our ways of dealing with conflict, and some other things (we disagree on things like recreational drug use). \n\nI'm not super young and being in grad school means its hard for me to get out and meet new people. But, I do want to be with someone who is a good fit for me and not just tread water in a relationship that won't go anywhere.", "summary": "Year-long pleasant relationship that seems lukewarm. How do you know when to end things or when to work harder on them?"}
{"id": "t3_3q1i0j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "So I (19/f) went out with a guy I really like (19/m) on Monday and this happened...", "post": "Hey guys. So I'm a college student and I just had my first break of the semester last week where I was finally able to go home and catch up with people. I'm interested in this guy that lives in my hometown, we had been out for coffee once before and although we're both pretty busy people and can't really talk a lot, we still get along great and we arranged to meet again for coffee, this time alone (yep, I had a friend with me the first time because it was pretty obvious that we were both kind of nervous). \n\nThe actual meetup went really well, we talked about just about everything for two solid hours, then at the end of all that I decided to just spill the beans about my feelings. Turns out he likes me too, but he said we should keep on meeting when I come home for breaks and that we should converse a couple more times before we really go any further into relationship territory. I asked him if he essentially was telling me \"maybe\" and he said I was right. But to me this all sounds pretty good and I'm happy with how that went. \n\nIt's important for me to note the fact that we're sort of relying on meeting in person rather than texting a lot since we really are busy, so I may not actually talk to him again until we see each other again. Also, neither one of us has ever been in a relationship. \n\nWhat I'm asking is this: does this sound like a good situation to be in? I just want some people's takes on this as I am totally new to this. Thank you!", "summary": "I meet a guy for coffee, we talk about how we feel about each other and that we're going to take things slow for now. We're both totally new to this kind of thing."}
{"id": "t3_132l8x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Saw the future in my dream. What supernatural things happen to you?", "post": "I had a dream last night about me walking into a huge cage full of chickens. Hundreds of chickens. As I walked back out of the cage, one of them escaped. He said, \"I will finally be free!\", to which I replied, \"Nope, your going to get caught and your life will suck. You should stay in this cage.\" Then she started laying eggs everywhere. They were weird looking, like with no shell, but after a couple of seconds, the egg would grow a shell and mature. The chicken then stomped on her eggs, one by one. She said, \"I can legally break my eggs, you know.\" So I broke some of hers too. Eventually I left and moved on, and the chicken went back into the cage. I left one egg laying there to mature.\n\nNow back to the real world. My dad wakes me up and says, \"Hey, our chickens laid their first egg!\" It was just one egg.\n\nSo now I ask, what strange supernatural things happen to you?", "summary": "Had a dream of chickens laying eggs, then it happened IRL."}
{"id": "t3_50kf3h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Creating Chaos with one potato", "post": "Since potato is the trend, I must share a story of the potato who created the biggest mess of my life.\n\nAll happened 12 years ago, young me embebbed in cartoons from sunday morning's, was fascinated by the image/sound of an object in a car exhaust pipe and when the car tries to accelerate the object gets tossed at high speeds.\n\nFastforward, going on a family lunch event on a farm, and the supposed funny idea of recreating such epic vision as cartoons make it feel like, I decided before we went home to try it with a potato.\n\nIt was the perfect potato, felt good while putting it in the exhaust all set for the grande finale.\n\nReminder behind the car was a little pound with the green slippery thingy in the borders and there were goats, dogs and cats walking all over the place.\n\nThe meal is done, family wants to be gone, and the pesky lil shit me wants the blast to be fun, so now the fuck up starts, brother is at the green thingy dont know why, mom is next to me and dad enters the car, oh boy its now!!! the engine starts to roar and the biggest pesky smerk is on my face, brother is laughting of the stuck potato and of dad saying swear words of wtf is going on with the car.\n\nSuddently by miracle the potato is ejected of the pipe at the speed of light only to hit my brother in the nuts making him fall on the pound, mom is screaming goat is pannicking with the noise and rams into the tire (but why??) and makes it puff.....and kaboom chaos is set.", "summary": "fkin crazy idea cartoons....potato exhaust pipe....brother \"cant have kids\"."}
{"id": "t3_guthd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I want to watch some good action(ish) movies.", "post": "I love watching action movies and would love to rent a few to watch over the rest of spring break. I've googled \"Best Action Movies\" extensively and have seen all of them. I also sort of want to stay within this last decade as I've seen all the classics. Not that \"Escape From New York\" wasn't awesome, it's just that its pacing was a little slower than I'm used to.\n\nA good example would be \"In Bruges.\" I saw it recommended to someone on Reddit a few months ago, had never heard of it, had never seen it on any lists, but I LOVED it. Of course people might say it wasn't really an action movies but it did have chase scenes and a plot based around hitmen and of course dark comedy. So...", "summary": "Good movies that won't show up on a Google Search (\u00e1 la In Bruges)."}
{"id": "t3_3al2so", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Need help with school?", "post": "Graduated in 2012\nApproximate Timeline:\n\nBS Communication Sciences and Disorders major Fall 2012 -maybe winter 2013\n\nThen I decided I wanted to do nursing... \n\nSpring 2013- spring 2014 pre nursing major... Noticed I only needed chemistry and decided to leave the expensive private school I was attending. Taking the chem there would cost me an additional $7000 out of pocket.\n\n Now it's summer 2015, still don't have the chem but trying to get it at community 1st half this summer (if I get it) and second half fall. \n\nDecided to apply to adn programs once I'm done but I won't be able to apply until January for next year and it's not guaranteed I'll get it. I'm not competitive enough for cal state nursing programs. There is a pretty well known private school program but it costs $70,000(2nd option).\n\nI'm 20 years old and I'd really rather not waste my life. Anyone have any tips or suggestions as to what to do. In order to not waste my life while I wait to apply. I know I should get As in the remaining courses but I wonder if I should take additional courses to work towards another major just in case this one doesn't work out. And I am also planning on applying in November to Cal state schools for fall 2016. Just in case I don't get into nursing school I have a back up plan but that means I may not graduate college til 2018 :/ help!!!", "summary": "changed major couple times. Settled on nursing. Have couple more classes. Won't be able to apply for another year due to application period. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1y2fhv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my Fiance [23 M] made a cruel comment about a woman with severe Hirsutism - I also have it, and it's killing me.", "post": "Ok, so the title sort of explains it but I'd like to add more. Living together a year so far, soul mate, extremely happy, the nicest/kindest man I've ever met. This was a throwaway comment that's been a completely one time thing. \n\nHe's raised by his mother, has two wonderful sisters and is -extremely- respectful to women, he saw a photo of a woman who had hair on her breasts, and said he thought it was a fat man. \n\nSo, no big deal? Small comment, he wasn't trying to be hurtful and he'd never say anything like this to me. Problem? I have a hormone imbalance that has caused me to gain 20kg and get loads of extra body hair. I went from being a super confident tiny girl to feeling like a hairy walrus. Most days it takes me hours to feel like I can go outside. \n\nHe constantly tells me I'm, the most beautiful thing he's ever seen and he'd do anything to take it back. I know he means it but every time I'm reminded of it i just want to cover myself in loads of clothes so he never sees me naked again. \n\nI don't have it -anywhere near- as bad as this poor woman did, and I'm still a small/medium in clothes. I know this is more my problem than his and I feel like a bitchy drama queen for holding this over his head. \n\nPlease help me, I really do understand that this is far more -my- problem, and I'm going to a doctor tomorrow morning. It's just eating me alive inside and I can't forget it.", "summary": "Fiance made an off hand comment about someone else, I took it very personally, it's killing me."}
{"id": "t3_t6unb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do long-term relationships work?", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 months. I'm 21, so is she. She's in the army and is going to afghan for a year next April. I'm concerned about our future, I'm not sure I trust her to be loyal. The worst part is that she'll be surrounded by guys all this time and I wouldn't know if something did go on over there.", "summary": "girlfriend going away for a year, i don't if this is going to work."}
{"id": "t3_52msoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17f] parents [ 46m & 43f] bought my mom's sister's [52f] house for her asking price. After seeing the renovations we had done my aunt and niece [23f] are making it out to everyone like they got ripped off. Should I tell my parents what they are saying? What do I say when people ask me about it?", "post": "My parents always tell me not to ignore gossip but my dads business relies on his reputation for being trustworthy. I'm worried what them running their mouths to everyone who will listen might do to him. \n\nMy aunt in particular is acting like she's being the bigger person by not kicking up a fuss. She says stuff like \"It's a shame even family doesn't treat you right these days but Jesus said to turn the other cheek. Guess all we can do is pray on 'em.\" \n\nIt's not their fault she didn't think of or couldn't afford renovating! The house didn't have whatever value she thinks she lost UNTIL they put it in!", "summary": "I'm tired of my niece and aunt making it out like my parents are shady when they paid what she put her house on the market for."}
{"id": "t3_48s6ak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] good friend wants to carpool home for Spring break, but I plan to leave a week before she can.", "post": "Early on in the quarter--before either of us knew when our finals were--we talked about carpooling for Spring break (she doesn't have a car here), but no definite plans were made. To me, it was more of a \"if it works out\" conversation, but she took it as firm plans. The conversation wasn't even about carpool plans, but what we would do over Spring break and she said \"we should totally  carpool\" and I responded with \"maybe, we probably could\" and that was the end of it. We haven't seen much of each other this quarter, so we haven't talked about it in over two months. I had completely forgotten about this.\n\nIt turns out I don't need to be here for finals week--which I literally found out yesterday--so I plan to go home next Friday the 11th whereas she has finals until the last day, Friday the 18th.\n\nShe owes me some money, so last night I asked her if she could please get it to me before break, and she sent me back something along the lines of \"Sure! I'll be done with finals at 3 pm on the 18th so I can leave anytime after that :)\" When I told her I was planning to leave on the 11th, she said I needed to wait for her because we had plans and it was really uncool for me to leave her without a ride like that. We never had official plans to ride together and our school has a ride share site, so it's not hard to find other rides home. She would also be more likely to find someone who is closer to her; using the big city that is 300 miles west of us (which nearly everyone goes to/through) as a mid-point, I live 40 miles south of it whereas she's about 50 miles North. So depending on whether or not she can find someone to meet me near the middle, it adds an extra 40-100 miles to my trip.\n\nIs it shitty of me to not wait a week for her to finish finals given our \"plans?\" \n\nWould this actually be considered ditching her?", "summary": "Friend is mad I'm not waiting a week for her to leave for Spring break because she thought we had hard plans to carpool."}
{"id": "t3_2k0fy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] , don't like that my boyfriend [27 M] of three years, has his ex and a few random girls he hooked up with on his Facebook, even though we are expecting a baby.", "post": "He dumped his ex (Keila - of three years) for me when I was only 17 years old.\n\nWe were together for a year before he realized he was still in love with her. He went out one night and hung out with this girl who had the hots for him and didn't come home til 6AM. (Lydia)  He broke things off with me, and spent the three months we were apart trying to get her back. All the while still talking to me, I eventually won him back.\n\nFast forward two years, he's once again uphappy with our relationship and I catch him sneaking around talking to this this girl he grew up with, this stripper with two kids. (Hannah)\n\nHe breaks things off again and proceeds to make a whole bunch of new \"friends\" (Jamie - 33) (Jessica-25?) (Stephanie-19) (Andra-27?) (Angela-26?) (Ariel-18) sleeping with me on and off until (Ariel) after two weeks he realizes he DOES love me and only wants to be with me. All of this in a span of four months.\n\nNOW, we have been back together since August 12, everything has been wonderful, except.... \n\nALL OF THESE WOMEN ARE STILL ON HIS FACEBOOK.\n\nI've asked him to remove them, any time I see a post from them, or that they \"liked\" a status of his, or invited him to an event, it just reminds me of all the bad stuff that happened in my life, though it wasn't their fault, it was because of him.\n\nI love him very much, he was my first and is my only boyfriend. We are pretty darn happy now, rarely have serious arguments, we just found out we are expecting a baby. I just can't understand why he refuses to delete them. If he's not talking to them, why have them there? I'm TRYING to trust him, after all the bullshit he's done. I DO feel like he's changed, but this reluctance worries me...", "summary": "Boyfriend refuses to delete old gf's or hookups from his Facebook, even though he swears he doesn't talk to them. Am I silly for wanting him to delete them?"}
{"id": "t3_13198h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[18/m] am really worried my trust issues might destroy my relationship.", "post": "I'm currently dating a [17/f] and we've both been through quite a lot together. After 6 months of chasing after her and playing games, I finally have her as my girlfriend. Sometimes its hard for me to grasp the concept that she finally is my girlfriend and it causes my trust issues to really flare up. I constantly feel as if she's going to cheat on me and ruin this relationship I tried so hard to achieve. I feel as if this whole relationship is all just a game to her. She constantly would tell me how much she loved me, how that she was just as scared and nervous as I was, but somewhere in my mind I have this voice whispering to me constantly 'she's gonna cheat on you'. It drives me insane because this happens in every relationship I've had, my paranoia and anxiety are what eat away at the foundations of trust. And to make things worse, I've really fallen in love with this girl and i think she's fallen in love with me to but I just don't trust it. Is there any way out of this paranoia filled hell hole?", "summary": "major major trust issues when I'm in relationships."}
{"id": "t3_1ngnfu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I received a letter in the mail that was meant for someone else, but it was inside an envelope that was intended for me.", "post": "Don't know where to post this, but,\n\nI just received a postcard in the mail, addressed to me, that a friend sent to me, but also with the postcard there was a letter included that I assume was meant for somebody else. I already talked to my friend about this, and they confirmed they only sent me the postcard.\n\nThe weird thing about this is that this letter was meant for someone with the same name as me, but it was written by someone that I do not know. \n\nSo I'm sitting here wondering who wrote this letter, who this letter was meant for, and how this letter got inside the envelope that was sent to me. Anyone have any idea how this letter got into my mail?\n\nAlso I've tried searching for the person that signed the letter to see if I can return it to them, but there name is illegible and/or I simply can't find them online.", "summary": "Someone's else's letter in my mail. Don't know how it got there."}
{"id": "t3_3l5014", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 3 months, potential breakup due to my interest in pegging", "post": "My girlfriend and I have known each other about 3 months, and we live in San Francisco, and are both highly educated professionals.\n\nWe get along -very- well, except for potential sexual compatibility. We have both never dated anyone with whom we experienced such a strong connection.\n\nI am very sexually liberal and have no judgements about anything, she is a virgin and quite conservative about sex, and thinks she will be very vanilla. Soon after we met each other she said she would need to wait for several months before having sex, to which I agreed because we have a very strong connection and I think she is worth it. There is a religious element to her beliefs, but it's an eastern religion, not christianity.\n\nI mentioned during a discussion about what is 'ok' in the bedroom that I wouldn't mind being pegged. This is basically the kinkiest thing I would ever try. In addition to that, I am interested in the typical range of sex acts like blowjobs, doggy, anal, etc, but think I can live without them. I assert that it's relatively common for couples to not sync up on this.\n\nShe reacted extremely poorly and wants to end the relationship because she thinks it's evidence we are not sexually compatible (mostly because of the pegging), despite my interest being very slight and I am perfectly happy to never explore it. We have discussed it at great length over many hours now.\n\nI have a few questions:\n\n* How perverse and uncommon is an interest in pegging for a white heterosexual male in America, on a scale of 1-10\n* Is it reasonable for her to have such a negative reaction and want to end the relationship based on my slight interest in pegging\n* She thinks I will very likely grow resentful because she is preventing me from exploring that part (and other parts) of my sexuality, because I'm still relatively inexperienced. I don't think I will grow resentful. Will I?\n* How common is it for relationships to endure this extent of difference in sexual adventurousness  \n\nI plan to show her this thread, so please be objective.\n\nI invite other comments and requests for more information.", "summary": "I'm sexually liberal, she is sexually conservative and a virgin. I mentioned I wouldn't mind being pegged, but I'm fine never doing it. She wants to end the relationship because of it. Is it reasonable or is she overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_wsnpw", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Bad PR move and all, I still watched Rampart.", "post": "I will start with I'm no writer so stay with me through this.\n\nI watched Rampart today and I have to say, no wonder Woody's PR tried to use Reddit to sling their crap. The trailer made the movie look promising and I figured I would give it a shot. Instead I got a movie that was poorly put together with a story that jumped too quickly with little explanation of what was happening. There were \"filler shots\" too often in the movie for my particular taste, as well. It felt like Oren Moverman was like, \"Let's do a long shot with a slow zoom while Woody smokes sitting on the bed, then we can do a second slow zoom but with him standing next to the window, still smoking.\" in any situation they he could fill time. I feel like there was at least 15% of the movie where there was no dialogue as well as no true importance to the plot (i.e. 15 clipped together shots of Woody driving around L.A.) When the movie ended, with little resolution, I was floored to find it took TWO people to write this. It started well, and could have been a good movie, but the script was too short for the movie, the artistic style of directing was so over the top that it actually took you out of scenes at times and the dialogue that was there never really allows you to completely get a feel for the the plot and characters. Bad PR got my attention, the bad movie made me want 108 minutes of my life back.", "summary": "I watched Rampart. I think it sucks."}
{"id": "t3_27cq0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with HSV1 (genital)", "post": "I've always been a relationship type... Never got into the whole hook up culture during college.  However, the only person I've ever continuously slept with whom wasn't my boyfriend gave me genital HSV1.\n\nWe hadn't even had sex that night because neither of us had a condom and me thinking I was being safe by doing everything but with him, landed me with an std. After I was swabbed and my results came back positive for HSV1 he informed me that he got coldsores from time to time and I guess one was on its way the night he went down on me.\n\nI know the stigma attached around the word herpes is god awful.  I havent been with anyone since only because im terrified to tell someone about my condition.  I am fully aware that the transmission rates are low, that the virus is more common to have than not to have and that in hindsight having HSV1 is really not a big deal.  \n\nI just want to know if anyone has had \"the talk\" with someone before... How did you explain it to them and what was their reaction?  \n\nI'm such a social, outgoing person and whenever I meet someone who I feel has the potential of becoming closer to me, or who I could see myself catching feelings for I push them away because I know that at some point I'm going to have to tell them and I don't want their perception of me to be altered.", "summary": "I have genital HSV1 and I don't think I'll ever date again because I'm too afraid to have the talk with someone"}
{"id": "t3_1h9nbg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on an incest binge", "post": "Title explains it all really, but I'll go into depth.\n\nI have these females cousins who in my opinion are smoking hot, like seriously fit...one night I was staying over my 2nd cousins house for the night because my parents were out and couldn't trust me in the house alone. We were just talking late at night when she just kissed me..just right there and then, all I managed to say was \"what did you just do that for?\", when she kissed me again and again, eventually I gave in and we ended up having sex right there in her room.\n     The next day I woke up stark naked realising what I did, popped on my clothes and went for breakfast..\n\nLater, around afternoon, I went to go and feed my nans cats whilst she was on holiday, and this time my first cousin was there(she goes round to our nans all the time because they have a very high gadget house). We're like really close and we got talking and I mentioned what I did last night.. She was shocked, obviously, I had sex with one of my cousins. Then she kissed me. This time I had the chance to speak and said,\"Delilah we're cousins we can't do this, please\" which she then removed her trousers and top and climbed onto me. And I did it again, we had sex.. Now one knows I've had sex twice, the other doesn't think I've done it with anyone else. And I'm no longer a virgin, maybe one thing comes out of it.\nAlso we're all 15 years old.                                                                                                        Don't worry though I still fed the cats", "summary": "had sex with my cousins seperatley in less that a day"}
{"id": "t3_3r13ur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my bf[22M] found messages in his social media account! Help", "post": "This is a throw for obvious reasons - he is on reddit too! :( \n\nI am in my second year of Univeristy and he is doing a post grad course at the same uni. We live with mutual friends. I have been with him for about 8 months and in that time I have caught him cheating once before through sending messages and pictures. I was distraught but didn't want to lose the relationship. So I stupidly stuck with him.\n\nTime has passed and we've had our arguments here and there and I came to the conclusion with some help of friends he doesn't know that he is an emotional manipulator. With this in mind, I carried on with the relationship like normal and he seemed to be ok.\n\nAbout two weeks ago he started acting a bit distant towards me and I had suspicions he was cheating again. He had left his laptop open on a social media account with a conversation open with the guy he cheated on before with talking about sending more pictures and more crude messages. \n\nWhen he came back in the room I pretended I hadn't seen it. It has now been 3 days and I've not said anything. Obviously I am too scared to say anything since I invaded HIS privacy and went on his facebook. I can't stay with him though since he has now cheated twice. Help!", "summary": "I had suspicions BF was cheating AGAIN, hacked into his facebook and he was talking to the person he cheated on me with before."}
{"id": "t3_1sg2er", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my gf [18F] for 4 months, can't tell if it's worth the pain...", "post": "My GF of 4 months is very busy with school, lets me see her for like 6 hours a week so I'm not \"too much a distraction\" to her studies. She keeps telling me she genuinely wants to be in a relationship with me and does not want to break up.\n\nEver since her school started, she stopped telling me she loves me which really hurts\u2026 she texts very little\u2026 but she keeps assuring me she likes me and that she needs to focus on her studies. She does not want to break up. She says our relationship is just bad timing.\n\nAm I being too clingy or something for this causing me pain? Do I need to get a life/work as hard as her so I too can push her out of my head as much as she has done to me? Am I right to be upset with her?", "summary": "My GF genuinely can't make more time for me and I can't tell if seeing her for those few hours a week is worth all the pain of not seeing her."}
{"id": "t3_2wx0ne", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Bumping Into My Employee", "post": "My morning started off as typical as any other. Wake up, eat breakfast, then head into work early. (a bosses work is never done) I had 2 cups of coffee prior to heading to work, so that had already set in by the time I had arrived. And when I say it set, I mean it SET. There was a volcano in my butt. I got half way to my office when I had to take what felt like a massive shit. I mean it was going to be a stream of brown. My brown eye was feeling quite horny and was going to splooge is brown juicy cream everywhere.  I thought no one had arrived yet seeing as though it was still pretty early, so I hurried to the closest restroom there was. See, I like to have room when I take shits, especially massive wet one. So I headed towards the biggest stall. And to my dismay, I ran into one of my employees. At first, I was just suprised because I thought I was the only one there. But then, it hit me. Or more like stuck to me. I looked down at my new cashmere sweater. I put the pieces together. Said employee had just relieved himself in the stall before I arrived, and apparently on his self too. After we had bumped into each other and he exchanged his man juice, he tried to explain to me that he had got some egg yolk over himself prior to coming to work. I just went with it, saying \"its nothing I can't wash out\" As he was apologizing. After he left I thought to my myself, \"are you shitting me? (more like coming on me) I'm pretty sure it would have dried off by now. You really expect me to believe it was yolk? Now, I have to go and buy myself a new cashmere sweater. Thanks, dick.", "summary": "got the runs and got came on (sort of)"}
{"id": "t3_3bbxej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20f) boyfriend (20m) is addicted to gaming", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together over a year. I've always known that he is massively into games, league of legends, Runescape... I don't know, anything and everything. But when we first got together, he would stop when I'd go round and we'd go out places, watch films together etc. but since living together, for the past 9 months, he plays games all day everyday.\nI have a job, although it doesn't pay well, I still have a job and I'm doing online university too. He doesn't have a job, and says he is looking, but he hasn't had a job since February, so he plays games all day. \nHe gets angry if I disturb him, and will go days without showering.\nIt's got to the point, where we went out for lunch, and he's downloaded an app to my phone, so he can check his computer game from my phone. He couldn't go a few hours without checking it. \nWe were invited to a party tonight, I couldn't go because I am working, but majority of the people going are his friends, that he hasn't seen in months due to gaming/lack of money, so I encouraged him to go. He hasn't gone, so he can stay at home and play his game.\nHe says he's an introvert and I'm an extrovert, so I don't understand. But surely this isn't normal? I want him to understand that he is addicted, and needs to cut it out.", "summary": "boyfriend is addicted to games, chooses games over social life"}
{"id": "t3_2ew26q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my BF [19 M] of 6 years. Should we take a break?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going out for 6 years now (since the last day of 7th grade) and we are both college students and we are a 2 hour drive away from each other. We are both each other's firsts and I don't know if we should take a break or not. He's a great guy and all, but I feel like something is missing. \n\nSince the end of our first year of college, I have been feeling like our relationship is just okay, like it is the same day in and day out. Even when we are back home for break I don't feel a spark anymore, but it's not that I don't love him or whatever. I kind of feel pressured to stay with him because he is my first love and I would feel bad if I were to leave him/take a break. \n\nThanks if you can give me some advice!", "summary": "Should I take a break with my serious/LDR/long-term boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2c5yjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex [20F] - I know I'm young but I just can't get over her", "post": "As the title says, we're 20. We broke up about a year ago. We were best friends before and we were each others first loves, one of the best years of my life. All that soppy shit. We both went to different universities at the start of September and she broke up with me a week after I got to uni (she started two weeks later than me so was still at home at this point) because she didn't love me anymore, or at least didn't want to be together anymore. \n\nIt really hurt but I accepted if one person wants to break up, you break up. Because it was a pretty clean break up we're still really close friends, and maybe that's where the problem lies - that we see each other so often and are so close.\n\nWhen we're together alone or in a group we still get on so well. We have inside jokes, flirt and get on incredibly. When I'm with her my feelings come back more and I guess I blindly think she might feel the same way. I feed myself all of these sit-com romances where the main couple of the show break up and then end up happily together in the last few seasons. Can that happen to me? Will she want me back?\n\nQuestions like that make me want to just stop being friends with her so that I'll eventually get over her but that isn't happening. The worst part is that she met someone in uni which didn't end up working out and it hit her so much more than our break up did, maybe because she was on the receiving end this time. But it was hard thinking I didn't mean much to her.\n\nMaybe this is just a vent post to get everything off my mind, maybe I need some advice, some sympathy or maybe I just needed someone to listen. Sorry for the wall of text and the probably stereotypical young love break up story. It's just hard for me some days.", "summary": "Me and my ex broke up a year ago. We're still close friends which makes it hard for me to get over her fully. I'm clinging on to hope which I shouldn't do but I can't help it. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2pjle8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Boyfriend [22 M] of 2 years, I don't like him cuddling with his friends [Potentially NSFW]", "post": "**Disclaimer: we're both Gay**\n\nMy boyfriend and I just had a fight. Basically, I'm not comfortable with him cuddling with his friends, because of the potential sexual/intimate connotations attached to it. For context: I have a diaper fetish and like to use pacifiers and other baby items at times. \n\nHe allows me to continue to do this despite the fact that it makes him uncomfortable; citing the fact that he loves me and trusts me enough not to take it too far.\n\nHowever, I've posited to him that the difference between my choosing to wear diapers and his choosing to cuddle with this friends is that what I choose to do involves only myself as an individual; whereas his cuddling involves another individual.\n\nHe is now saying that if he can't cuddle with his friends, then I can't wear diapers.", "summary": "I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend cuddling with his friends, he doesn't feel comfortable with my wearing diapers. He says that if he can't cuddle with his friends then I can't wear diapers."}
{"id": "t3_145tq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m19] am having issues with distance with gf [17]. Any advice could help.", "post": "So I am in college and she is in high school and as if that's not bad enough I only see her 2-3 times a week. This is mostly because her parents aren't very fond of me because I am older. Needless to say we've hit a sort of rough patch in this 8 month relationship. She's already broken up with me once because of the distance and hates not being able to see her, but I convinced her to take me back but now im scared she is having second thoughts. I don't want this relationship to be burden on her but I really don't want to let her go. I'm hoping within the next year her parents will come around, and then this relationship will make her happier. I need advice. I have no trouble waiting because I am thoroughly convinced that she is perfect for me and I have all the time in the world. I would really like advice to help keep this distanced relationship rolling. Anything would help right now\n\nMy questions are: \ndo you think she will end it again?\nIf she will how do I prepare myself\nIf not how do I keep this relationship going?\nAnyway to get her parents to like me more?", "summary": "distanced relationship taking its toll or her and by extension me. How do I keep this relationship going?"}
{"id": "t3_2nzkjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ___ [25 F] dating about three years, Might be leaving me for another guy", "post": "Hi guys and gals so I told my girlfriend a few weeks ago that I had a fantasy of her sleeping with other men as long as it didn't grow into something serious. She seemed interested in it. Boy was I wrong, Long story short she slept with a dude from work, and now has feelings for him. I don't know what to do, she says she wants to be with him \"for now\" and doesn't plan on being with him for a long term relationship but she doesn't want to hurt him because he as trust issues. She pretty much wants to be with him until they hate each other/break up after honeymoon stage and come back to me.\n\n----\nSo on the other hand there is me, I really do love her and have no idea what I should do. She also told me the same thing that she would want to be with me the rest of her life but thinks he deserves to be treated better. I told her if you really don't want to hurt him end it as soon as possible and not drag it on into later stages like more sex=more feelings and hanging out. Also I said you should try to minimize contact with him texting/sending images to each other. But the problem is she really wants to get to know him and wants to keep talking to him and all that jazz\"Because ooo the new shiny item\". She even says now that it feels like cheating on him since he doesn't know the situation and technically at the moment we are \"friends\" but we live together and same bed/room because she doesn't like lying and wants to act as if we broke up and maybe explain to him that she doesn't want a relationship or that is how she made it sound to me... Help please.", "summary": "GF wants to leave me for a \"current\" BF and come back to me later, we both really love each other, and be together the rest of our lives she just doesn't want to hurt him.  In the end she doesn't want to be with him in the long term but says she does with me, also she really isn't physically attracted to him(not very attractive). What do I/We do? "}
{"id": "t3_17n84x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Single dad (M/33) ready trying to get more time with son. Sons mother (F/32) not ready.", "post": "Here is the [original] post.\n\nSo I went to the courts and opened a case, then filed a petition for joint custody.  It was a little pricey but money well spent.  I am going to talk to the mother of my child this Saturday to inform her of what I have done and what to expect.  She still needs to be served and I want her to know before hand so she is not blind-sided.  \n\nI feel a bit more confident and am now just getting ready for the mediation hearing. If she agrees to joint physical then we just need to get our times figured out and get it signed by a judge.  If she doesn't agree then we will go into mediation at which point I will get legal representation.\n\nI will update you all on how she takes the news, hope she doesn't freak out on me and that she realizes this is just about me protecting my rights as a father being able to spend quality parenting time with our son.", "summary": "Did the work, opened a case, filed for joint physical and legal custody.  Telling her on Saturday before she gets served, hope she wont flip out."}
{"id": "t3_38oulj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] got dumped a few weeks ago can anyone help me figure this out/move on?", "post": "There was this girl in one of my labs last semester who was really cute and smart and I felt like we had really genuine conversations. Unfortunately she had a boyfriend at that time so I kept some distance. They had been in a long term relationship together and they eventually broke up. A few weeks before the semester ended I asked her out (we had been spending an increasing amount of time together), she said yes. We go on the date and have a good time. Spend more time together over the week, calling eachother and texting and such. We then go on another date a week later, and we talk for hours, make a lot of plans for the future, kiss for a while. But she also talks about her ex for about 30 minutes... Still, I think everything is going really well. But three days later she calls me up and says this was too fast, that a mutual friend of her and her ex had saw her and myself at the grocery store and he was \"really hurt\" that she had moved on so quickly (he cheated on her btw), and that she needed time alone. \n\nI call her two weeks later and we talk on the phone for a while but she mostly just tells me about what's been going on her life. I tell her I want to see her and she says to call her when I'm in town but that she's still \"thinking about things.\" I text her two days later and she doesn't respond and hasn't texted me since. I feel like I should give up and really never contact her again because its not right to just keep going back to her while she's still so ambivalent. But I also really like her and felt like we could have had a great relationship together.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "girl and I date after she breaks up with her long-term BF (who cheated on her). Things are going well. She then 180s and tells me its going fast and that he's hurt that she's seeing someone. Called her up weeks later and she's still \"thinking about things\"."}
{"id": "t3_2exh2z", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm repulsed with my country's tradition. Why does my country punish those who seek higher education?", "post": "Pissed off guy in Indonesia here. The campus \"orientation\" period in here is still ridiculous, and I've heard similar 'tradition' that's still happening in countries like India.\n\nIn western movies/films, campus orientation period is just that, an orientation period. Freshmen are told how uni works, how to manage time, school activites, etc.\n\nIt's just outright organized bullying. I don't know what started this, why seniors would one day just think \"Hey, these guys are born 2 years later than us ! Let's treat them lower than cockroaches\" and professors+uni boards went \"Sure, why the fuck not.\"\n\nI can give you some perspective since I can dig up some stuff in my language:\n\nThere's this campus which creates a mandatory \"field trip\" for all freshmen. In this particular campus, these atrocities have happened :\n\n- Freshmen forced to strip and \"make love\" to each other.\n\n- Freshmen were thrown garlic water as in to burn their eyes. \n\n- Freshmen were forced to drink seawater.\n\n- Freshmen were given up to 2 water bottle to drink to share with their entire class-year. \n\nNote that all the \"disciplinary committees\" who oversee all of the campus orientation period act like prison guards, who pick 1 freshmen who stands out to torture. In this particular case, an overweight freshman got more extra attention by all the seniors. The student, Fikri, died of dehydration during that \"field trip.\"\n\n[Source] there are just a myriad of bizarre things that happens during \"campus orientation\" here. But I think what I state above gives you a general impression of what I'm talking about.  \n\nJust what is the psychology behind this behavior? Seniors can join a student committee which are just usual student committee stuff. But some seniors can join \"disciplinary committee\" and suddenly it's all okay to break bad on a psychotic power trip against freshmen ?", "summary": "Here's an imgur album of [pictures.] Those are university students for fucks sake! Why do my country punish those who seek higher education?"}
{"id": "t3_3c7adw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Love of my life lives 7000 miles away", "post": "I am not so Naive to ask this without thinking a lot about it.\n\nI have known this woman for over 5 years, and we have an amazing relationship, or as much as you can, via FB and Skype and alll that, we are as close as we can be, that being said, I haven't been in her company since the first day I met her. I have always thought highly of her and had a level of love, been there through all her ups and downs relationships etc. I know she likes me, and I am convinced to a similar extent, she has said as much - and no I am not interpreting things, some things have been said which have been very clear, and well we have shared intimate moments.\n\nto get to the point, I am going to see he again very soon as I am travelling out to see her, and if this goes well should I even consider relocating? job wise I know I could get a job easily as my trade is in demand in her country. I am confused as I have a good life here, and is the cliche, it is better to give this up in hope of a better life, or give up on a long term dream of being with this woman?", "summary": "known a woman for a long time, should I relocate 7000 miles to be with her."}
{"id": "t3_33xdpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/F] dont think my boyfriend [17/M] wants an LDR. What should I say?", "post": "I'm going out of state for college to University of Illinois, while my boyfriend finishes up his senior year. We have been friends for a year, and dating for 3 months, but we have more of the \"best friend\" type of relationship. \n\nI've tried talking to him about how we're going to work out while I'm in Illinois and he's in Georgia, but every time I ask he says he's not ready to talk about an LDR. He was in one in the past which really hurt him and turned him off to the idea of LDRs, but we have a very strong, trusting bond which I think will get stronger with time. \n\nI know its selfish, but I really want to know if he wants us to work out, because I'm going on a month long trip to Europe to visit family, and he'll be visiting his hometown in Florida by the time I return to pack up my things. We don't have alot of time, and I just want to know what to say.\n\nI do acknowledge and respect his decision to not make any rash decisions because he's been hurt in the past. But also, we are in a relationship, and have a strong bond that has been forming for a year, and I would prefer not to break up. \n\nWhat could I say to him in terms of reaching a \"happy medium\" or a compromise to our pending relationship?", "summary": "boyfriend may not want LDR, but I do. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ipfql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22 M] get over my ex [19 F] of over a year without friends?", "post": "Broke up with my ex. We had been dating for about 13 and a half months. She was becoming too volatile and all we would do is argue. Couldn't take it anymore. Last thing she said to me was she hoped I rotted in hell and that she was going to throw away everything I gave her. So it was... complicated toward the end, to say the least. But we had a lot of good times and spent nearly all our free time with each other. It's strange going from that to this. I don't have any friends. I had friends in HS but we drifted a part after graduating. I have a job and I'm going to school, but I don't have friends there. Further, I don't have family I can go to. My mother passed away years ago, have never seen my father, don't have a good relationship with my siblings and grandmother, so I'm alone in this breakup. Further, I don't have a ton of money to go places of buy into a hobby to take my mind off her. I know there are cheap hobbies, like reading or drawing, but I can't focus. It sucks going through this alone.", "summary": "Broke up with my gf, feel like shit, but have no friends to distract me."}
{"id": "t3_3u0avm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] Girlfriend [21F] of 8 months health is deteriorating due having anxiety attacks ~3 times a day and feels completely alone in dealing with them.", "post": "I'll attempt to keep this brief and to include all important information\n\nThis is my Girlfriends first real relationship, we moved in together very quickly after getting together and things as of the last few weeks have been spiralling quickly downwards.\n\nWe have always been to talk very openly about our relationship and about each other.\n\nAs of late she has lost trust in me and she catches herself questioning everything I say, she is worried to open up to me as she is concerned I will get annoyed or upset.\n\nShe has a history of depression and panic attacks neither of which have been a problem until recently, now its usual to have ~3 panic attacks a day which is taking a toll on her health physically and mentally. She hasn't been eating and when she does it results in her throwing it all back up.\n\nShe has nobody she feels comfortable opening up to and refuses to seek professional help as she has 'done it all before'.\n\nWe both want this relationship to work and she knows the situation at the minute isn't healthy for either of us. She can see that it is taking its toll on me also now which just upsets her even further.\n\nShe recognises that she doesn't balance the relationship with the rest of her life (work/study/friends/family) as I do leaving an in-balance in the relationship. \n\nShe recognises it would help if she could balance her life better and not be 100% consumed by the relationship.\n\nI want to make sure she has somebody she can talk to outside of the relationship as I think it will help her get her thoughts straight.\n\nWhat can I do or say to help her?", "summary": "Girlfriend feels consumed by relationship, is suffering from ~3 panic attacks daily from anxiety concerning the security of our relationship. I'm feeling incapable of helping her and need advice on how to break the cycle and help her?"}
{"id": "t3_nvjl2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[HELP] 18 year old, weighing 390 looking for eating tips.", "post": "My name is Jake and I weigh 390 pounds (after X-Mas) I'm about 6'1 and finishing up high school. \n\nMy life is pretty good right now, doing well in school, got a kick ass room and a girl. The only problem I do have is my eating habits. I like to eat. A lot. Food makes me happy. But I'm looking to drop my weight to about 200 or so. I wish to be lighter and healthier. \n\nMy mom is worried about my health concerns. I have recently been improving them. I've dropped soda. But that's about it. But, I went from 7-8 cans of Pepsi and Coke a day to 7-8 bottles of water a day. Haven't touched a soda in a month.\n\nI've seen a lot of people on here who go from being big to being beautiful. And I wish to be the same.\n\nHere's some pictures of me: \n\nI want to be able to stand for a long time with out getting uncomfortable. Want to not have back problems. \n\nBut most of all to lose some weight so I can go on a roller coaster with my little sister. I want to be more fit so I can do more stuff with her. I want to ride bikes, go climbing, play in a pool without being self conscious. I really am doing this for my sister more than anything.\n\nSo, if you could give me some eating tips to help me get started that'd be great. Like I said, I've dropped soda.\n\nThank you so much for your time.", "summary": "Weigh 390 want to weigh 200. Quit soda and want to be healthy for little sister. Need tips."}
{"id": "t3_3xvf7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my spouse [37 F] 20 years, Lent money to family without telling me", "post": "My wife slipped up today and told me she lent her brother a substantial amount of money 8 years ago. She never told me until today while discussing her current family drama with me. \n\nI feel kind of betrayed? Granted, he paid her back. I feel like this isnt something you do without discussing with your SO first. Seeming how we share accounts. Its not just HER money and we arent suppose to have secrets like this. \n\nWas a long time ago but still. WTF?\n\nDont want to make a stink about it but kind of makes me wonder what other secrets she has been hiding from me?", "summary": "Wife lent money. Didnt tell me. Long time ago."}
{"id": "t3_2gb2y4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] roommate [23 M/F] of a year regularly gets really mad while playing/watching soccer, I don't really know how to respond to it", "post": "edit: Roommate is 23 M.  Whoops.\n\nHe is always shouting \"Are you serious?! Oh my god!  That's a fucking red, ref!\" and stuff like that.  He bangs his table sometimes.  And he's just watching soccer alone.  It would be less unusual to me if he were sharing it with his friends and they were all getting riled up.  But it is just him on his laptop, yelling at his laptop.  Or when he plays FIFA, he'll say the same stuff.\n\nI normally just don't say anything.  When I first moved in, I would ask if he was okay when he would do this, and he would just say yeah.  It is kind of annoying but I don't know what I can do about it.", "summary": "Roommate has random angry outbursts due to watching sports.  It bothers me.  What can/should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4arsgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I'm [22 M] actually going to meet someone [21 F] irl, and I don't know what I'm doing!", "post": "Hey reddit, I could really use some advice/tips on dating. So I've been talking with a girl on tinder for about a week and long story short we found out we go to the same uni. Today after class she messaged me to meet her for a coffee, but I had just left campus for the day (and admittedly was caught off guard) so we have rescheduled for another time.\n\nNow I haven't been on anything that even resembles a date since my high school girlfriend, and that was over six years ago. To be honest I've never really recovered emotionally from that relationship and in that time have slowly forgotten how to talk to girls one-on-one. Basically how can I avoid this being super fucking awkward?", "summary": "Meeting a girl from tinder, how do I survive?"}
{"id": "t3_l6ipd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Been losing for a while, hitting the plateau, so now I need your help building a solid routine.", "post": "5'7, started about 10 months ago, around Christmas time I weighed in at 265. I've been fat my whole life, while yo-yoing between super fat and husky. I made a commitment to eating well, and exercising and have lost 40ish pounds by eating well (more veggies, less carbs, moderate protein) and moving around more (started with mile long walks). \n\nNow here I am, 225. I go to the gym, but now I do C25K (week 2) and am enjoying it but I dont think it's cutting the mustard. I'm committed to losing more, toning up. My goal is 180, which I havent been since 7th grade. Unrealistic? I dont think so, I have the commitment, and the tools (gym, electronics, etc) but a little lost on direction. I've seen 5x5 and strong lifts and all of that, and to be frank ... it's greek to me. If someone, who thoroughly understand this would please help me find a good routine I can commit to.  If a pic of my body type or whatever would help, let me know.\n\nWhat I enjoy. Running. I'm doing C25k. I'm happy with that being my cardio, unless you think otherwise. \n\nI have a belly. Have for 20+ years. I know it won't *disappear* but I'm willing to work on losing it. Arms, I'd like to work on, but I don't need guns, I want to lose it first, worry about massing up later.", "summary": "looking for someone to help me throw together a routine I can commit to. please help. <3"}
{"id": "t3_13btxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Women of reddit, when is it best timing for me (M21) to break it off with my go (F21), before or after Thanksgiving Break?", "post": "If you we're a college girl (or if you are), which would be easier on you. Would you rather be broken up with before Thanksgiving Break, when you are about to go see your family and all of that, or after break, when you are back in school getting ready for finals?\n\nBrief background: in a two-year relationship, we are both 21 it's dead basically. Too much fighting and waiting for the other to change into they are not. It just isn't going anywhere and it feels as of the only reason we are together is because we already are and that we live together. \n\n<b>", "summary": "before or after Thanksgiving break?"}
{"id": "t3_sd1lg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-bf is trying to alienate me from our friends by telling them things I've said to him in private. What should I do?", "post": "I've known my ex since we were kids. Both of us are 23 now. We've been bed buddies for years and decided to get together in November. The breakup was fine. We both seemed to be taking it well. Then, he just exploded. We have alot of the same friends. He recently told my best friend's wife that i thought she was a terrible mother. To be honest, i have made comments about letting their 3 year old daughter drink 4 sodas a day, and I also said that since they're young parents sometimes I don't think she knows how to discipline her daughter. He blew those comments out of proportion though, and now she's really hurt. I know I was wrong to talk shit, but these were private conversations we had. My best friend isn't too upset but his wife really is. He's also been telling other people lies about me. What can i do to make this stop? Should i try to fix my friendship with my friend's wife or do you guys think the damage is done?", "summary": "Ex-bf is telling my friends all the things I have said about them"}
{"id": "t3_1cxl7j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] Gf(23/f) of 2.5 years suddenly says we're not right for eachother; what am I to do?!? (more details in text)", "post": "Here's a (condensed) conversation I had with my gf last night and I will elaborate further afterwards:\n\n* Her: We're not right for eachother.\n* Me: Why? Is there something I'm doing wrong?\n* Her: Idk, I can't think about this right now, need time to gather my thoughts.\n* Me: Ok...can you tell me what's going to happen with us?\n* Her: Idk, let's talk about this tomorrow.\n* Me: Do you love me still?\n* Her: Yes. It won't go away quickly.\n* Me: Are you on the fence with our relationship?\n* Her: Yes, we'll have to talk tomorrow.\n\nWTF? There's more. She's always been 100% honest and caring to me for the past 2.5 years and we were even planning the rest of our lives together. Her family loves me and mine loves her. Everything was fine and dandy. But this past saturday, she lied to me to go see her (f)riend and I found out about the lie (it was a weekend-long ongoing lie using her mom as a scapegoat ) and she pulled this on me.\n\nIf anyone has been in a similar situation please let me know how it panned out for you and what I should get prepared for. She gave me hope by pointing out that it's not completely over, that she's on the fence about it. But damn, I need to know whether I'm just gonna be delaying the inevitable end of our relationship. I'm supposed to talk to her later today (hopefully) but until then, I haven't slept for 2 days and haven't been able to eat and been smoking cigs like a chimney to keep the heart. beating. Someone with the wisdom please explain what could be happening!", "summary": "Gf of a truly amazing and loyal 2.5-years now feels unsure about our relationship and won't give me a straight answer as to if we're gonna be ok or not. She told me to wait for her to get her thoughts together so we can talk about this. Wtf is going on?"}
{"id": "t3_2y369z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [M/23] gets psychotic when drinking. Can't stand it anymore [F/21].", "post": "**Backstory**\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. I have to say usually he is the sweetest person when sober and everything is alright in the relationship but there had been many situations he was drunk, called me a whore without any reason, got really mad, yelling at me etc.. It happens now and then. Maybe once or twice in two months. Each time he says it won't happen again but it always does. \n\nSo, once he actually managed not to drink for a half of year. It was great but after that he started to drink again.. Because it's hard to stay sober when every one of your friends is drinking. I like to drink too and it makes everything much more difficult. It's like he can't even have one beer or that shit starts again.. It's only cold turkey. And I cannot force him to stop drinking, I mean he is young, of course he wants to have a drink.\n\n**The Event**\n\nSo the last time.. It was 2 days ago. He got really drunk and he was playing some stupid shit on computer and I just turned it off because I wanted to talk to him. He started to yell at me, called me a whore again, told me that it is all my fault, trashed the WHOLE room, smashed computer (now the screen is dead but thank god it was his computer), wanted break the mirror but I started to comfort him because I knew that if I was going to continue to argue it would get worse. After that I went out to have a cigarette because I couldn't stand it anymore and after I got back he was crying, holding the computer, saying sorry to me 100 times and begging me for forgiveness. \n\nSo I'm just thinking what to do here? I cannot just leave him but I don't want this to continue. I cannot even afford to rent my own apartment because we just moved to another town. To search for psychiatrist? Too expensive.\nMaybe someone have similar experience that you can share with me because actually I have no one to talk to at the moment.", "summary": "Boyfriend gets psychotic when drunk, smashes the room and acts like a crazy person but can't stop drinking cold turkey. When sober is the sweetest person ever. Don't know if I can forbid him to have a drink but don't want to have that shit again."}
{"id": "t3_39umqu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] moving forward after being dumped by my GF [20, F] of five years. Looking for help in meeting someone new.", "post": "This post is less about the breakup but as a little background. We met when we were around fifteen years old. She lived in another country and I moved to live with her for a year when we were in high school. Once we were finished, she moved here for a year so we could be together, but one day she went away on vacation to visit her family and, after otherwise normal \"I love you\" stuff online, vanished for three days only to tell me she was never coming back and that we were done. Nobody I knew had a clue, nor did I that she was unhappy with our relationship.\n\nThis all being said, I've completely accepted that I'm not ever going to see her again at this point. The thing is is that I'm fundamentally unhappy being single. I have a great job, I'm in good shape, and I generally love my life, but there is something missing at the heart of it all. I feel like the final step in moving forward after this huge portion of my life is to meet someone new.\n\nSo what I'm looking for is a second opinion! Has anyone felt like they were in this \"rut\" before? And how did you get out? I'm a musician who games and watches Netflix in his spare time. What are some good ways that I could meet someone really special?\n\nAlso, normally I wouldn't even feel strange about trying to meet someone, but it's been a really long time since I've had to put effort into getting to know people.", "summary": "Hard breakup, trying to move on, need advice on how to do so."}
{"id": "t3_27zdm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22F] stay friends with my ex hookup [23M]?", "post": "I started hooking up with this guy a little while ago, a really nice dude that I got along with really well. We had nothing in common at all, but could talk for hours about everything and we have the same goofy-but-mature vibe going on I suppose. We both liked each other but had to keep it light cuz there was a post-graduation expiration date.\n\nHe ended it after a few weeks but we decided to stay friends. We talked about it twice, where he admitted that he thought I liked him more/would expect more from him after we graduated and ended it early because he didn't want to hurt me by not wanting the same thing, and he thought it would be better if we weren't romantically involved \"for now\". But he said that he really wants to keep in touch even though we haven't known each other for that long (about 2 weeks before we started hooking up) because he enjoys talking to me and doesn't feel that way about a lot of people. He said he likes me as a person and cares about what happens to me in the future, and got mad at me when I questioned him, telling me adamantly that I just had to trust that he meant what he said. I know it sounds like he's feeding me lines, but we talked about this for three hours and I really do believe him when he says he cares.\n\nI told him that I wanted to keep in touch too but I didn't know if I could because I still liked him while he obviously had managed to set all of that aside, so he said he would leave it up to me. I really do want to, he's such a great guy, but I know now is not the time for that. But I don't want to cut him out or ignore him and make him feel like the things he said didn't mean anything to me because they do. Is it rude if I wait a few months to contact him? Do I need to tell him that that's what I want to do or can I just drop him a line to say hi later on?", "summary": "Ex-hookup broke off our arrangement out of concern for me, but is keen on staying in touch and remaining friends. I think I need to take some time before this can occur. How do I go about this?"}
{"id": "t3_15ni5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(23)wants to attempt to renew relationship with terrible father, I (24) cant accept it.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together since my junior year in high school( for a total of 8 years).  Her mother passed away due to cancer about 4 years ago.  Her mother was what really held her family together and once she passed, everything kind of fell apart.  Her father has had multiple DUI's has spent time in prison and is overall verbally abusive (has been physically abusive to her brother and was to her mom sometimes).  After his last DUI he moved down to Mexico for a little over a year.  Back in August, they got the news he was headed back home and my girlfriend freaked. She was considering getting an apartment on her own, but my family happily took her in and she has been living with me since.\n\nSince then we have found out the reason he is moving back is because her fathers brother was murdered by the Cartel down in Mexico..( sounds insane I know).  Her whole family has been curious about his drug use based on how he has acted before( extremely paranoid).  I don't know the exact details, but it is believed he was either dealing drugs or helping manufacturer them.\n\nShe originally wanted no contact and nothing to do with him, but every time the year is about to end( when her mother died) she starts to become closed off and changes dramatically.  She wants to try to fix things with her father and form some kind of new relationship with him.  I strongly disagree with her. I have told her as long as he is alive I will have nothing to do with him. Period. \n\nAm I being unreasonable? I understand her longing for another parental figure in her life, but he drags everything and every one down with him.  I unfortunately have given her an ultimatum, him or me. What should I do?", "summary": "Gf wants to try to renew her relationship with her drug dealing, emotionally/physically abusive father, who has since returned from Mexico after his brother was murdered by the cartel."}
{"id": "t3_2yufoi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [18 F] of near 3 months, i feel its currently a lose-lose situation in terms of", "post": "Ive been with my GF for nearly 3 months and while i as very happy at first i have been debating in my head what to do\n\nI don't feel like we have really advanced at all, i know she if very uncomfortable with any sort of physical contact but she isn't even willing to try any of that sort of stuff and i cant even do anything 'romantic' with her.\n\nThe lack of physical contact is making it really difficult for me and sometimes making me sad but i immediately become happy again after ive seen her in the day, i dont know if i even understand my own emotions.\n\nAnother large problem is that just about every one of my friends in college are also good friends with her so even if i did split from her, i don't know how i could continue to be around my friends as she would be there as well and i don't know how that could make me feel.\n\nI just need some sort of feedback from here, this is a really difficult situation, if i stay i may have a relationship which never evolves, if i leave its possible il have just about no one to talk to in college :(\n\nAlso i still like her so much even regardless of lack of progress and i dont know how i could keep going with her.", "summary": "finding difficulty with girlfriend due to lack of physical contact, if i split i dont know how to be around college friends as she would be there as well, if i stay, maybe il be sadder :("}
{"id": "t3_4b0yko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] together 8 years, relationship possibly ending, feeling lost.", "post": "I just feel lost, things moved really fast at first. We moved in together after only 3 months of dating, but that never really caused us trouble, we got along famously for a couple years. Eventually trust issues appeared on both sides, but we worked through them, or so I thought.\n\nIt seems now that she never could bring herself to trust me, even after my having proposed to her, and being completely open to her for years.\n\nA couple weeks ago she told me she had been cheating on me with a coworker of hers, for a shot time. I work nights, so the it was easy to deceive me in that regard.\nShe moved out, and broke it off with her coworker. We've been trying to patch things up, and she seems sincere, but I just don't know if I should keep trying.\n\n I want to get things back in order, but I don't know if its just me being foolish, or if I would be better off starting anew.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9e slept with coworker, is it beyond saving?"}
{"id": "t3_243390", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [23 M] with my 21 [F]..helpme figure out why she is so upset", "post": "My currently long distance girlfriend and I were talking on the phone tonight. She was telling me about the rather large payments owed on her credit card bill (which she does have the money in her account to pay off). \n\nAfter she told me I simply said in a sweet tone of voice \"I'm sorry you have debt sweetie\" to which she very angrily replied \"I don't have any debt\".\n\nQuickly this discussion took on a negative tone, and I escalated the situation by pointing out she had thousands of dollars left to pay on her new Audi as well and asked her why the word debt set her off so much.\n\nLong story short, she ended up telling me that I \"just didn't understand the type of image she was trying to project of herself\" and that \"she takes great pride in managing her finances very well\"\n\nMy whole point throughout the debate (argument whatever we didn't yell or scream or anything) was that I thought she was over reacting, but even if this did upset her I wish she told me that before simply being mean and angry towards me about it.\n\nI should add throughout the argument I did say something to the effect of \"normal people wouldn't get angry at such a small thing\" which really pissed her off (but I believe to be fairly true).\n\nSo reddit, how can I be a better boyfriend to her? On one hand, I feel like I am constantly trying to be sweet, fulfill her requests (she likes to talk every night before bed), and generally be there for her. On the other hand, she pretty much hates me over this sort of thing and threatened to leave me again tonight.\n\nI love her with all my heart. Am I in the wrong?", "summary": "Pissed GF off by using the word debt. Not sure if she is being too prideful, or if I am just ignorant."}
{"id": "t3_12xzda", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to handle a repressed memory?", "post": "I'm 18 now and am living a very happy life. My father lost custody of myself and ny younger sister when I was around 7 or 8 and now that we're older we started to discuss some memories that were actually kind of disturbing. Like randomly the women in our family crying and telling us that they would never let anything happen to us, my dad and his girlfriend going into another room and then hearing her screaming (my sister describes it as rape screaming), and when my grandfather showed my father how to kill my mother in front of me. But what has really bothered the both of us is a memory we have of me running out of the back of the house screaming, searching for her, not letting anyone touch us and demanding someone take us home. When I talk about this I start laughing because I only remember bits and pieces and then I cry at things I remember vividly. \n\nNow, I'm just at a complete lose at how to handle this. Does hypnotism work? Meditation? Does anyone have similar experiences and did you seek help? Thank you.", "summary": "possibly traumatic childhood experience, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_3e862z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my girlfriend [23 F] 1 year and three months - hiding masturbation.", "post": "Hi, reddit.\n\nI'm curious to read some thoughts on this. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a quarter now and we moved in together after around 6 months or so - I'm generally quite happy with our relationship. I love her and our little life together and would do anything that I can for her. However, the one small issue that I have within our relationship is that she lies to me about masturbating. I've told her that this bothers me, and that I have no problem with her masturbating as it's completely natural and normal - but she just responded with \"I'll just stop then!\" - and I said that I don't expect that and that I wasn't even going to entertain the idea and explained it's the fact that she is lying to me that bothers me. Since then, as was expected, she has obviously continued to masturbate (it's easy enough to tell when, our toy drawer has been moved around greatly and her vibrator sits amongst the top after!). Now, I accept that we as a species masturbate - that I have no problem with - what bothers me is the fact that she's so happy to lie about it to me, knowing that it bothers me. I accept I'm probably overreacting, but I don't see why she has to hide it and is quite happy to blatantly lie about it to me, knowing at the same time I have no issue with it and just wanting to be open. \n\nWith regards to me, I don't masturbate a huge amount - we do work conflicting shifts often so at times I might then but I'm always open with her about that.", "summary": "Is it okay to lie to your SO about masturbating?"}
{"id": "t3_28ceyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 4 years, not sure if I still want to be together because of looks", "post": "So my girlfriend and myself have been together for 4 years, we have had our ups and downs but never anything to serious. I should add she is the only real girlfriend I've ever had and we are soon to make a pretty drastic change to our lives. \n\nHere is my problem, there is nothing wrong with our relationship but I don't know if I still want to be together for 1 reason that I feel is shallow. That is I don't find her physically attractive anymore. But apart from that I have no other reason to end this.  \n\nI'm not sure if I feel like this because at first I was just happy to overlook this and have a girlfriend but now I feel like I want to experience something else before it all gets to much and I can't get out.\n\nAm I a bad guy, for ending a relationship purely for looks?", "summary": "No longer psychically attracted, am I scumbag if I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_507kwh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Director wants me to write a report about my crappy boss - Help!", "post": "Throwaway account just in case. \n\nHere's the situation. I got hired by M the Manager to work as an office/admin person in an office which takes appointments and provides services (trying not to be too specific here). \n\nI replaced Jilted J, who moved to another branch after she couldn't stand working for M any longer. J has since gotten more facetime with D the Director and has been explaining what a hostile environment she came from and I now occupy. \n\nM is not a good manager. M gets mad when you take initiative and would rather you sit at a desk doing nothing than take up a task which you were not specifically assigned. When you are assigned a task once you hand M the product it is just re-done anyway, and not well. A recent advertisement went out with 6 different fonts, inconsistent spacing, and the whole thing was off-center. \n\nAnyway, D contacted me today and told me that it is widely known that M is not a good manager but is difficult to get rid of. D asked me to write a report about my experiences working with M, presumably the report will be used in some kind of disciplinary fashion. \n\nMy questions:\n\n* Is this a trap?\n* Should I be doing this through HR, or directly with D?\n* Can I ask D for a promise of anonymity? Protection from reprisal? Are those promises worth anything?\n* How should I even go about writing this thing?\n\nThis forum helped me get this job in the first place. It's in the industry that I want to work in long term and I don't want to make a mistake here that could hang a millstone around my career.", "summary": "Shit boss. Boss's Boss wants report on Shit boss. Is trap?"}
{"id": "t3_3vdgvg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using Siri [Possibly NSFW]", "post": "So about two hours ago I dropped my iphone and the screen fell right on off (this is an iphone 5, so the screen and touch sensor are one discrete unit. There no interface between me and the phone besides physical buttons) Its pretty old and I'm due for an upgrade so its not a big deal. While still in my lab, I discovered that I could still do all the vital iphone-y functions. I could call, text, listen to music, etc. all by using Siri. I go home in a few days for the holidays so I figured I could wait to replace what amounts to a portable landline without caller ID with a new phone. I got home, showed my room mate the damage and we had a laugh. He also helped me investigate further the limitations on phone function. About five minutes ago, he came back to the room with his girlfriend. I went into his room to show her. As I was explaining the accident and all the funny things I have to do now (like announce in public what music i'm listening to), I got a text from someone, which turned out to be *my* girlfriend. The room mate's GF asked me how I would read/listen to this text without using imessage on my laptop. I excitedly told her exactly how: \n\n\"Siri; what did the text I just got say?\"\n\n\"At 10:52\" you got a text from [girlfriend]. It says *(get ready for it)* 'When I thought my IUD came out?'\"\n\nThat's right, folks. My room mate and his girlfriend learned about an event in my GF's life that she would probably share with no one besides her OBGYN and maybe whatever god/giant chicken runs this universe while she stands trial attempting to pass through the pearly gates. \n\nInterestingly, my room mate knew what an IUD was whereas his GF did not. And people want to defund planned parenthood.", "summary": "broke my phone today, used Siri to get around it, and she revealed that one time my GF thought her IUD fell out of her."}
{"id": "t3_2xvxi7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a plunger", "post": "Okay so in gym class last week we had to run 5 km as part of our cross-country unit. After running the full distance my bladder was practically busting so I hurried my ass to the nearest washroom. To be honest, It didn't seem like I was in there that long; but according to my friend who was waiting for me it took a solid 15 minutes to get out of there. Now thats not even the worst part. A #2 of that quality took a lot of toilet paper as you could imagine, so when I flushed it clogged the toilet, bad. Not wanting for anyone to see my hideous creation I grabbed the plunger the janitor keeps under the sink and tried to plunge it myself. This would have worked, except for the fact that all the stuff in the toilet got stuck in the pipes on its way out, which then went on to back up the rest of the toilets in that restroom, all the toilets in the school, and even the god damn water fountains. By the next day there was nasty shit-water backed up in the pipes throughout the school, and all over the floors. Along with the cesspool that existed, there was a horrid stench that stunk up the halls; there was no escape. It got so bad that they had to shut down the school for two days until they could fix the pipes and clean up the floors. When we came back after the weekend they had fans everywhere because it still kind of smelled.", "summary": "I tried to do somebody else's job and ended up shutting down the entire school"}
{"id": "t3_17kbed", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/M] have been texting a girl [17/F] for months.", "post": "I've been texting this girl I'm into for about 4 months, almost daily, and this past month we've really been texting a lot.  But the thing is we don't see each other very often, we both have very busy schedules and go to different schools.  So I've only seen her about once a month when hanging out with friends (we have a ton of mutual friends).  Most recently we went ice skating with some friends, but she didn't really seem that into me (friendzoned I had thought).  But last night at work one of her really good friends told me that she likes me but thinks I don't like her.  So we both like each other but don't know the other person does.  I'm planning on hanging out with her this weekend, just her and I.  My friend thinks its a good idea that we get to know each other better in person before dating, so I'm not sure if we should just hang out or if I should go in for a move.  Oh and I've never had a girlfriend and I don't think she's ever had a boyfriend, and we both are really awkward around each other.  So what do you think, just go out to a movie and grab a bite afterwards, or one step farther?  Also, should I pick her up or meet her there?", "summary": "just get to know each other, or try to make a move (which I have no experience with at all (HELP))"}
{"id": "t3_36agwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] Family [27 - 74] does not care about my College graduation, I am hurt. Don't know what to do", "post": "So I just graduated from college, I was the only one in my entire family to do so. I have been on my own since I graduated high school and never asked anyone to support me. I always had jobs during school so I never had to ask for anything, and I always made trips back home for major holidays.\n\nAnyway- I invited my whole family to come to my graduation, moms side and dads side. My moms side I know better because I lived in the same state as them. My dads family I hardly know, but I invited them as well. I got cards from them which was nice and I greatly appreciate them even doing anything since most of them never met me.\n\nAnyway- I sent everyone on my moms side cards and invitations (These are the people I grew up with and knew as my family my whole life) \n\nWell My aunt has been in a huge fight with my mom for the past two years, which has caused a lot of drama between my mom and her along with other members of the family. \n\nAnyway  - I sent out invitations to everyone and the only people who came to my graduation was my mom and dad. I didn't even get a card or a congratulations from anyone from my moms family. It really hurts and I feel like the main reason is because of this fight between my mom and her sister.\n\nI don't know what to do, I feel like my entire family just blew me off- not caring about something that was so important to me. \n\nI even called my grandmother and expressed I was upset she didn't come to my graduation and she just shrugged it off like it didn't matter and cut the phone call short.\n\nI dunno I just need advice I guess? \n\nAnd yes - everyone had received the invitations, it wasn't a situation that it got lost in the mail or anything.", "summary": "I invited my entire family to my graduation and only my mom and dad showed up, everyone received invitations and cards but I never got a phone call or even a congratulations from anyone. "}
{"id": "t3_2qg9n7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend [33/M] not happy with request made by me [34/F]", "post": "I have been dating a guy for almost 3 months, and we've been exclusive for almost two. He's a great guy, and we are very happy. We've told each  other we love each other. We've had talks about marriage, kids, and relocating (he lives 2 hours away). I've never been happier.\n\nI'm also a foster parent. Because he spends the night a few times a month, the state wants him to do a background check. This really freaks him out. He is a college grad and professionally employed in a white collar, upper-middle class occupation. Middle class upbringing, no drugs...he doesn't seem like he would have any sort of record.\n\nHe doesn't have any problem with my foster kid. He takes us on outings and to nice diners. He bought her a nice gift for Christmas. It's just this paperwork he objects to.\n\nI'm not requiring the background check. It's totally out of my control. And yet he is freaking out, even mad. He says he doesn't want the biological parents to have his address or personal information. Says this is \"drama.\" What's worse is that one of the forms has to be signed by his local sheriff, so he will need to schlep somewhere to get that one done. I acknowledge that is a hardship.\n\nI have never been in love. My fear is that he will say he doesn't want to do the forms and break up with me. It has me so depressed. I just want to cry, because it is totally out of my control. And yes, I have told him my feelings, that I will love him for doing this, that I know it is invasive, and that I wish t weren't required.\n\nMy little girl has been with me six months, and her social workers love me and know she is happy with me. There is a very good chance parental rights will be terminated and that I would be able to adopt her, which is what I want. I also want to be with this guy long-term.\n\nWhy does he have such a problem with the background check? What can I do to help?", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't want to do background check required because girlfriend is a foster parent."}
{"id": "t3_e2t8w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Another Person, with another problem.", "post": "I'm a nineteen year old male, and I hate my mother with a burning passion. My parents split up when I was four years old, and very clearly for nothing more than my convenience, got back together when I was nine. One month before my nineteenth birthday they split again, because I'm for the most part self sustaining now. On my birthday (remember this is only one month after my parents' split), My mother blew off our dinner plans to hang out with her new boy friend. As a direct result of this, I'm extremely enraged, and haven't spoken a word to her in three months. I have hated her for nearly ten years, but tolerated her personality only because I lived under her roof. Everybody in my life is slowly beginning to push me away from them, because they want me to talk to my mother and I refuse. What should I do?", "summary": "I finally severed my relationship with my long hated mother, the closest people to me are distancing themselves from me because of it, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_r4t4x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hopelessly in love with my best friend and unsure of options", "post": "I'm head over heels for my best friend, and don't know what to do about it. I know walls of text can be daunting, and I'm sorry about that. This is half rant, anyhow. Hopefully you'll bear with me.\n  \nI've known her since high school, but we've grown exceptionally close in college, especially over the last year and a half or so. We talk all the time. Even better, she's someone with whom I don't feel those quiet moments need to be filled with noise. I trust her implicitly, and know for a fact that the feeling is mutual. Outside of her parents, almost nobody knows her as well as I do, and vice versa.  \n  \nI made it clear I was interested in her several months ago. She wasn't, however, and I was shot down (very gently). But even though things were a bit shaky for a week or two after, that closeness hasn't diminished.  \n  \nAnd it's killing me. I thought I would get over her with time, but constantly talking with her always reminds me of her qualities I so adore. We're very compatible: we talk about everything, read together, even solve crossword puzzles with each other over the internet. She just doesn't see me that way^1.  \n  \nI'm not sure she knows I still feel this way (although it's possible). In any event, she's not falsely leading me on (at least intentionally). But it's emotionally exhausting. She means the absolute world to me. We were great friends long before I developed feelings for her and my life would be noticeably worse without her in it. Unfortunately, while I don't know if she would understand, I do know that I won't get over her without a significant, extended break^2. I have no idea what I'm doing, or what my options are.  \n  \nAll I know is that it really *hurts* sometimes. Fuck.", "summary": "What a confusing story. And hard to abridge. Sorry.  "}
{"id": "t3_2wpm9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22/f] college graduate, feeling lost, lonely and isolated. Ready to move 12 hour from home. Advice and help needed!", "post": "Graduated college in December 2014 with a degree in a good major. I [22/f] left college with zero friends because of a bad relationship and everyone siding with my ex partner [21/f, cheated on me when drunk]. She was the love of my life and I feel completely broken after everything that happened. We dated for 3 years. \n\nAll my friends from home have moved on and found employment in other places. I don't have much family where I'm from originally either, but I love the area. It just holds bad memories from bullying in high school. I was overweight in high school coupled with being smart, so I was a target for bullies. I lost the weight before college and had a great time up until my ex partner cheated on me and all my friends sided with her.\n\nI was thinking about moving down South, 12 hours away from me right now. I'm very lonely and lost where I am now. I don't have very many friends here, and I feel scared but ready to move on. It feels like I'm going through the motions every day. Does anyone have any advice for me?", "summary": "22/f college graduate, looking to move down South after a bad breakup. Left college with very few friends, no family in area where I am now, feeling very lost and isolated. Advice appreciated. "}
{"id": "t3_4aqji9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a carwash", "post": "So this just happened to me half an hour ago: \n\nI decided today would be a good day to go out and wash my car since it was starting to get nice out and whatnot. I drive up to my local carwash and I pull up to the machine that lets me choose what type of carwash I want. Turns out I couldn't reach the credit/debit card slot and a guy working there sees this. He asks me if I needed help with the machine and I yes. He helps me out and I thank him and pull into the car wash. \n\nAs I'm pulling into the carwash I'm thinking to myself, \"that guy really helped me out\" and I didn't realize that I hadn't left my window wide open. I stop and park my car, and I'm welcomed by a shot of water onto my face and into the rest of my car.", "summary": "went to a carwash, forgot to close my window, end up getting sprayed in the face."}
{"id": "t3_332ahl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [17 M] with has no interest in a relation ship with a girl [17 F], but insists that having sex with her under that pretense is fine because she wants it.", "post": "So my friend was drunk when he received texts from a girl currently out of the country.  She professed a deep love for him out of the blue and says how she wants to be with him forever, etc, etc...  My friend being drunk said some things he didn't mean, and woke up the next morning regretting what he said.  But then the girl started texting him booty-pics, and telling him how badly she wants to fuck, etc, etc...  This was all pretty much unprompted by him.\n\nNow my buddy is fully aware that this girl is acting crazy, but has told me he plans to have sex with her because she wants it so badly, and then just \"see what happens\".  He has absolutely *no* interest in a relationship with her, which is what she clearly wants.\n\nI've told him that what he is planning is definitely a little rapey, and that he shouldn't do it, but he insists that it is fine because she wants to have sex so badly (Which is true-- but under false pretenses).\n\nI told him that he should come out with the truth and admit he was drunk, and tell her that he isn't looking for a relationship but is willing to have some fun.  Currently waiting for a reply from him.\n\nI'm doing my best to stop this whole thing from happening, but in the meantime, what do you think of the situation?", "summary": "Friend lead someone on while drunk and felt bad about it, but plans to have sex with the girl anyway under false pretenses of a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2xcays", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20M] tell her [21F] I like her just yet?", "post": "we've gone out for coffee a couple of times and all together we've spent about 8 hours together. I'm wondering if I should tell her I like her the next time I see her or is it too early?\n\nWe text each other everyday and she initiates just as much or even more than me, I have a feeling that she likes me too.\n\nThe thing is that we went to the same school but never talked. That was a few years ago and we just suddenly started talking and somehow we talk everyday now.\n\nI'm not sure when the appropriate time to tell her is.", "summary": "Should I tell this girl I like her just yet?"}
{"id": "t3_2vtp25", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Reporting a bully", "post": "Story time!\n\nThe setting is the bus today. There's the guy we'll call Steve. Steve thinks it's funny to make fun of people, normally using bad language when insulting people. This has happened pretty much every day of the school year. (Side note: If you use language when standing up for yourself he says to watch your language) Anyways he decided to make fun of my brother, who has a form of autism. He makes fun of him everyday and I had the last straw today. I tell him if he's gonna keep insulting him then keep Doing it in front of my phones camera. He stopped making fun of him. I do what we are supposed to do when this happens and report him for bullying. I told them stuff he has done, and he apparently overheard me asking somebody nearby me what I should add. Here's the funny part. He messages My friend John saying that he didn't do nothing, to quote him \"I've never said anything mean to him this year\", referring to my brother, trying to turn my friend against me. HAHAHA DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT YOURE SAYING WHEN YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH. Anyways he tries to frame me because apparently he's the good guy  and my brother is just mean for no reason. Excuse me Steve, I think you have the roles mixed around. Anyways I did nothing wrong and it makes me mad that he thinks I'm bad for reporting him for \"nothing\" even though I'm standing up for everybody he bullies, so you don't need to try to turn my friend against me, K? Ok that's the end of this ramble.", "summary": "Bully tries to turn my friend against me since I got reported him for bullying my autistic brother."}
{"id": "t3_3jwky8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I still have feelings for my coworker, what should I do?", "post": "We used to go out years ago while working, broke up, we managed to stay friend after a rough patch and everything was swell since. \n\nWe always had some feelings left for each other even after all that time, especially when we were such close friends throughout.\n\nThe fire was kept at low heat and had increased lately on my side, she's not reciprocating at my level and it's making things really hard for me. \n\nLately while I was on a trip she got a number from the other coworker that replaced me for that time so they can communicate if one gets sick or late. \n\nIt threw me on such a jealousy spiral!\nI always saw myself as a very stable guy with minimal mood swings but this sent me on a loop affecting every aspect of my life, feels like it's numbing me, crippling! \n\nShe said she hasn't been talking to him about private stuff and that it's only been done on the work phone but still the thought of it driving me nuts, the guy is someone I helped/help a lot and she's been my friend for so long, I told her that if they do talk she should let me know because I'd like to back away from any connection with them.", "summary": "She's not interested in me, even with some feelings for me, I am interested in her more than her,  it drives me nuts  and I work with her.  What should I do? "}
{"id": "t3_4n1m9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24M]/[22M]. I've been with my boyfriend for ten years, but feel as though we've grown into very different people. Should I feel guilty for financially supporting him? How can I help him become more independent?", "post": "As the title suggests, we've been together for a very long time. We met when we were kids and have been together ever since, and the love is still there: he makes me very happy, and I can't imagine life without him.\n\nUnfortunately, we've taken somewhat different paths in life. I started working when I was 17, and I've now graduated college and gotten a decent paying \"real job\". He left college after his first year and hasn't really been doing much else since then, except for hobbies and a brief stint as a cook. \n\nI pay for essentially everything: rent, bills, food, entertainment, etc, and while I'm totally okay with that, I feel like I'm doing him a disservice. He helps around the house, and I love being able to come home from work to spend time with him, but I worry that by supporting him like this I'm impeding his growth as a person. \n\nI want to encourage him to start hitting milestones, be it by entering the workforce or going back to school, but I don't want to be his parent, and I don't want to endlessly nag him... I'm just not sure he has the drive to do it on his own.", "summary": "I financially support my loving but unambitious boyfriend, and feel guilty about it. I want him to start becoming a more independent person for his own good, but don't know how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_3pzxoq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at dicks", "post": "This fuck up happened about 10 minutes ago. \n\nI am in training for a tech support job, and my trainer for today was a very attractive female. While waiting for another call, we were talking about Seattle, and being from there, I was sharing my insight on what makes Seattle great. I brought up things like the Space Needle, Pike Place  Market, and Alki beach. I came along to a very famous Seattle burger-joint called Dick's Drive-In. As every Seattleite knows, one cannot boast about Seattle without bringing up Dick's. This is where the fuckup happens. My judgement lapses for a brief moment, and I type \"dicks\" into my computer on Google Images. Needless to say, she turned blood red and I immediately closed the tab. I am now sitting here typing this on my phone at my desk, cringing at my stupidity.", "summary": "Searched for dicks, got exactly what i asked for."}
{"id": "t3_gm4mg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend continues to suffer at the hands of her anonymous phone stalker...", "post": "A few months ago, my girlfriend started receiving private calls on her cell phone.  They'd call and wake her up at early hours in the morning, keep her awake at night, call at random times throughout the day etc (she's paranoid about turning her phone off).  It came to the point where she'd receive anywhere from 10 - 40 or so calls per day.\n\nHer cell phone unfortunately doesn't have a feature to not accept incoming calls from blocked numbers, and calling the phone company to help out has yielded zero results (AT&T).  \n\nIt's recently begun to really creep her (us) out, as the person has begun leaving multiple voicemail messages in an apparent attempt to fill her voicemail inbox.  Some of the messages are just dead silence.  Others have ranged from the sound of music playing to heavy breathing.\n\nI convinced her to call the local police station to see what they might be able to do about it.  They said that the best option is for her to change her number, but if she's interested in finding out who the person is, they can trace the call, though that would take a few months at the very least.  \n\nReddit, I turn to you - are there any among us who have worked in law enforcement/phone companies and are familiar with how calls are traced?  I'd really like some more information on why it takes a few months, and whether anything can be done to speed up the process.  Do any of you have any ideas on what we can do in the meanwhile?", "summary": "Girlfriend has been receiving private calls for a few months now that disturb her daily life.  They leave creepy voicemails.  Phone company can't do anything about it, police can, I want to know what can be done in the meanwhile."}
{"id": "t3_3lhstq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the crosswalk", "post": "So I went for a walk to the grocery store today during rush hour. \n\nNormally I just jaywalk across the street because its faster than walking a block to the nearest crosswalk and waiting literally 10 minutes for the light to turn. But today I decided to go to the crosswalk because it was rush hour and I wanted to be \"safe.\"\n\nSo I walk the block to the light, wait forever for the walk light to pop up, look towards the only direction cars can come from and decide to start walking. I see that an ugly ass circa 1980's red hatchback has decided to slowly creep and start making the turn. \"No problem.\" I think. Surely they see me literally in the middle of the street and they are going quite slow. \n\nSuddenly, circa 1980's red hatchback decides to slam her hoof on the gas, ripping into the lane that I had just entered. I can only assume that in her senile state of mind that she thought she had time to complete her turn while I was walking and her depression-era nerves only decided to respond while I was in the middle of the intersection.\n\nThankfully she somehow manages to wedge her foot on the brake before accidentally playing a little pedestrian bowling. I look into the car and all I see is a bug-eyed senior who scarily resembled Goldie Hawn in her fat suit from the movie Death Becomes Her. I shot her a dirty look and fast-walked the rest of the way to the other side of the street.\n\nThe icing on this near-miss cake is that while I was completing my walk across the intersection of death, some douche-bag in his off-white Pontiac Aztec decided to roll down his window and yell at ME to \"Watch where the fuck you're going!\" \n\nLesson learned Mr. IDriveAJizzColouredAztec. From now on I'll just jaywalk instead of using the crosswalk. At least when I jaywalk I never get nearly flattened by Goldie Hawn and yelled at by Cunty McAsshat.", "summary": "Don't use the crosswalk unless you want to get flattened by a senior and yelled at by a moron."}
{"id": "t3_2q6tni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Potentially moving in with my [24 F] boyfriend [24 M] of 3 years soon, and I'm worried my farts may put a damper on everything.", "post": "I fart. A lot. I'm a really feminine, petite, flatulence monster. Sometimes my farts are just loud air, but if I eat something like a Chipotle burrito god help the poor souls in my firing range.\n\nYes, I've gone to the doctors, I've had my blood and stool checked time and time again, I take cultures and watch my diet. Nothing inherently wrong with me but there's not much I can do to mitigate the problem (and by George do I love those Chipotle baby bundles of delicious). My butt just needs to exhale more than the average person I guess.\n\nHere's the thing. My boyfriend and I have been seriously considering moving in together since both are leases are about to be up. He knows I have stomach problems but I've tried to suppress the farting around him for the most part, one because I think it's a bit impolite to break wind around people if I can help it, and two, because my boyfriend is very very private about his bowel movements. I've never heard the smallest of toots from him, and he's adamant about his privacy in the bathroom (I don't think there's anything wrong with him, I think he just finds it embarrassing, and we're very open with our bodies to each other during sex). When I spend time and nights with him I try to hold it in until I can go to the bathroom or be outside (oh goooddd, the sweet release of going home and letting out Hurricane Gluteus Maximus in the car). Otherwise when I'm alone at home I let it out loud and proud, and I can tolerate my own brand if I eat junk.\n\nI know this is all pretty silly but it's still a bit embarrassing for me and I'd rather not make things uncomfortable/annoying for him. Is this something he's just going to have to live with, literally? Will I never be able to eat another barbacoa bean and cheese burrito lest I unleash chemical warfare in his presence (seriously, my farts can be pretty eye watering)? Do I need my own private fart box of a room?", "summary": "How can I protect my boyfriend from my toxic farts when we're living together?"}
{"id": "t3_36nln2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend [22M] of a few years hasn't told his university friends that he's in a relationship.", "post": "I [21F] have been with this guy [22M] for a few years and we've had our fair share of disagreements, but last week something happened I don't know how to handle.\n\nI helped him move to a new place last week just off his university campus. We go to two different universities and only really see each other over weekends and breaks, and when we visit he visits me since I have my own place and there's more to do in my unis city.  We hung out that evening and he started talking about his new friends and some funny stories. I asked if he wanted to invite them over for a Memorial Day barbecue and he said no.\n\nHe told me that about half of them knew about me and they thought he was single. The other half I've met, but appear try don't hang out with the people that don't know about me. I don't know if he told them he was single or just never mentioned me, but I find that hard when he's known them for a few months. Plus I think he may have asked the people who do know about me to not mention me to the others, but I don't know for sure.\n\nHe said he didn't tell them, especially the girls, because he thinks they do more favors for him because they like him. I didn't ask what kind of favors, I was too shocked.\n\nI said I didn't care and went for my run. But when I got back I realized I did care. I told him I didn't approve and he said he didn't want to fight and I was being unfair because I kept changing my mind. Now I don't know how to talk to him about it without a huge argument happening.", "summary": "my boyfriend doesn't want to tell his friends about me because he feels they'll do more favors for him. I already told him I don't approve of him using them like that but he shot me down. I'm not sure how to go forward without a big fight happening."}
{"id": "t3_28woeb", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Put on over 25 pounds in a year... Help!", "post": "As the title says. I still don't look very overweight as I have a tolerable natural shape and it's spread relatively evenly over my body, so when I say I feel bad about it, people just say placatory things about how I'm not fat. I looked down at myself today though, and barely recognised what I saw. I hate the way I look at the moment.\nI worry I have zero willpower as I'm not so good at eating right (obviously!) and I don't have a lot of free time or budget on my hands. I don't want 'cheats' as I know it's not that simple, I'd just like some advice from you good folks. What motivates and helps you? What do you wish you'd known when you decided to start losing weight?", "summary": "becoming a fatty, tips pls."}
{"id": "t3_dwh76", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Luggage Stranded in Tokyo!", "post": "I recently spent 5 months abroad in Japan.  For my last two days my friends and I were going to party in Fukuoka, then to Korea for 3 days. So I tried to have all my luggage shipped directly to BWI via Yamato Transport.  I speak decent Japanese, and could have sworn the guy told me he could do this.  Turns out their company doesn't even do international shipping, so he just sent the luggage straight to Narita (where I had a stopover from Seoul coming back to the US).  The luggage has been sitting there now since August 3rd.  It has a few items of clothing, but I mostly want the things that I bought in Japan returned.  Maybe heard I could have it sent via unaccompanied baggage?  I tried emailing them and got redirected to an unresponsive person.", "summary": "Delivery company is holding my luggage hostage at the Narita airport."}
{"id": "t3_vqyk2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've upset a friend and my \"genius\" apology plan has failed. Now what?", "post": "Not too long ago, I decided to take a risk and tell my friend my true feelings for him and that I also think he's \"attractive\". I meant it as in \"handsome\", but it came across as sexually attractive. Anyway, he's very angry with me and thinks my confession was \"stupid\". I attempted to talk to him today, as it's the day before his birthday and the last day I'll see him in months. This attempted ended in him walking off, me crying and some girl attemoting to cheer me up. Utter failure.\n\nYesterday, it was my plan to make him some Portal themed cupcakes and write him a letter to say sorry and happy birthday. There were no eggs and I had no time to write him the letter. I managed to scrawl \"Sorry, happy birthday\" onto a piece of paper while walking.\n\nI feel terrible and I don't want to lose my friend. I am going through some hard times and I have a few family and financial issues. The only things that make me happy are my two best friends. Losing one of them will be really upsetting. How can I save our friendship?", "summary": "Called my best friend \"attractive\", my apology didn't work and now I won't see him for months. What shall I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3sc7v4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30ish M] seriously turned off by my wife [30ish F] after some rough patches over the last few years", "post": "We've been together about 10 years, married about 5. She's always been overweight (BMI 30+) and while I wasn't enthused about that it was never a huge problem for me (no pun intended) since I really enjoyed my time with her. I was very thin when we met (BMI of around 19.5) and have since filled out to a much better BMI of 22.\n\nOver the past 3-4 years we've had a whole slew of problems that have lead to me resenting her for many things. During all this I started to improve myself and focus on eating healthy and working out. During this time I encouraged her to join me as I was concerned about seeing my wife get sick and immobile like her parents as she ages due to the obesity.\n\nShe lost a lot of weight during these times (got down to 29 BMI, so only rated overweight) mostly due to stress, and she gained half of it back after the stressful situation no longer consumed her. I'm still trying to get her into eating healthy (since that's 80% of weight loss) and she clearly can't handle it, eating entire packages of cookies in one sitting, getting ice cream or some other sweets every few days, eating half a pizza in one sitting. To be fair I do those things sometimes too, but very infrequently and I watch my weight and I never gain more than 5 lbs.\n\nEver since we've experienced the problems that caused resentment I am fully grossed out by her weight. If she wears a skirt I almost cringe when I see her tree trunk legs with all the fat dimples in them. When we have sex I get super grossed out by her gut. This used to not be a problem, but ever since we had all those issues I can't seem to look past her weight issues. I used to think of her and smile and now I think of her and get grossed out.\n\nIs there any way to get back to those old feelings without her losing weight, because I just don't see that happening.", "summary": "Turned off by wife's weight after several years of of issues, when it used to not bother me. How can I overcome this?"}
{"id": "t3_398yp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my son [8M], my son's friend [8M], son's friend's mom [30ish F], and school administrator [50ish F].", "post": "Hello Reddit!  I need help dealing with my son's school system, which seems to have become a little irrational with its \"zero strike\" policy.\n\nMy son, Max [8M], was at school the other day and there's a new student named Sam [8M].  Apparently a bunch of kids were all around talking and getting to know each other and making jokes, and my son told Sam:  \"You're a homo...  a homo *sapien*!\".  Or something like that.  Just a clever little quip that the \"gang\" all says to each other.\n\nApparently Sam went home crying and now the school has suspended my son for two days.  I think this is absolutely ridiculous, as Max is a good kid and he was just trying to help Sam join the group by making a joke the same way Max and his friends make jokes with each other.  I don't want this to go on my son's record, and I'm thinking about getting my lawyer involved.  This whole thing has been hugely detrimental for Max's self esteem, who has been having a hard time anyways because his mother has been working abroad for a few weeks.  I don't want to stress him out, which would negatively impact his schoolwork.\n\nThe administrator says that the school has a \"zero tolerance policy\" towards bigotry, and Sam's mother says that Sam has been throwing up every morning before school because he doesn't want to get picked on.\n\nReddit, what should my next step be?", "summary": "Misunderstanding between a couple of boys at school, now the school system is punishing my son.  My son's schoolwork is important and I don't want him distracted with beaurocratic politics.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2q9vgf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [M/18] stop beating my self up after dates and start being less anxious?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI know I've already asked a similar question, but it wasn't as ... to the point. I thought I'd give revising it a try.\n\nI'm 18, male and slowly getting desperate. Haven't had a girlfriend or sex yet and feel like something must be really wrong with me because of that. I've had a couple of dates a while ago, but it didn't go so well because I felt so much pressure with having to be the \"initiator\" of physical contact, and generally, that I had to perform as ideally as possible so I can fulfill this responsibility of having to \"make it work\". On the date itself, everything's alright, but afterwards, I tend to see sooo many different times where I think \"you could have said thing X instead of Y because that would have been much smoother\", \"you should have done A instead of B\", all of that stuff, and it kind of smothers me. I just feel like a failure, unable to even obtain love. The fact that two very close friends of mine, both of them are not more attractive or less nerdy than me, got coupled up yesterday. I dream of such a life, it must be so great to have a girl. But I feel I'm too much of a stupid idiot who screws dates up wherever he goes.\n\nFunnily, when I'm frustrated and tell someone \"how it went\" and what happened, they say \"well that doesn't sound so bad\", \"it doesn't sound to me like you've screwed up\", \"what are you complaining about?\", but that confuses me because well, HAD I NOT screwed up that girl would be my girlfriend now and I'd be happy. If that's not the case I have clearly failed.", "summary": "After each failed date I get more frustrated and beat myself up afterwards because I think I've done so much wrong which must have led to the date not working out. I don't know why two close friends of mine, both much more socially awkward than I am, managed to get a girl, it doesn't seem to make any sense, what's the requirement? What's wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_27bnb4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I took the hit.", "post": "Few years ago, 3 of my closest friends were involved in some drama. \n\n-A(woman): low self-esteem.\n\n-B(man): possessive philanderer.  \n\n-C(man): friend-zoned white night. \n\nA and B had dated on and off, they was very back-and-forth and C took interest in A. It quickly became a cold war between B and C to get A.\n\nBoth A and B came to me for advice on how to beat out the other and get the girl. They each needed me as a middle man or a pawn. I ignored them, I didn't want to get involved. I stayed out of it, I wanted nothing to do with it. \n\nB wanted C to leave his gf alone. \n\nC wanted to \"rescue\" A from B. (they were both emotionally abusive to A).\n\nThey all played cloak and dagger games with each other and were set to rip each other apart.\nThey had a huge fight, they were all guilty. And me (being the idiot I was) tried to fix things.\n\nI took the hit. I told them that I was responsible for everything, that I was behind it all as the master puppeteer that \"made\" them do it.\nI fed them a half-ass story they were blaming each other for what I did.\n\nAnd they bought it. They believed that I was the one pulling all the strings because if I was guilty of EVERYTHING, they were guilty of NOTHING. I gave them a scapegoat.\n\nAt the expense of my reputation and all my friends, I managed to prologue their image as the good guys. I was their Fall Guy, framed myself to take the heat off of them. I had to be the bad guy.\n\nI did it willingly, but taking the consequences of their actions was kinda hard, I lost all my friends. No one trusts me, they despise me. Everyone believes I am a monster.\n\nI've wanted to tell the truth and stop carrying this alone, but no one would believe me.   \n\nI wish I'd let them burn.", "summary": "I took the blame for something I didn't do, bad idea."}
{"id": "t3_3yt6ub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Boss/Friend [41M], offered a new higher paying position with a new company and can't figure out how to give my notice.", "post": "*Insert mandatory comment about how this is my first time posting on reddit and will keep it short*\n\nAs a small backstory, earlier this year, I was extremely unhappy with my job at the time (verbal abuse, other bad things) and had started making efforts to find new employment. This triggered my friend (as mentioned in title, who is currently my boss) to tell me that his job was hiring, and strongly encouraged me to apply. We had be friends for a little over a year, and I trusted his opinion, applied and got hired! This was great, or so I thought. Fast forward to now, working with friend/boss is completely miserable. He constantly talks down to me, belittles my intelligence (we work for an auto parts distributor, and i'm an avid car enthusiast, so I know my stuff), and also has crossed a couple lines for friendship and work relationship (buying flowers, offering to take me to dinner and such). It also does not help that this company is rather stingy and frugal with their workers, and I work much harder than what I get paid for. \n\nNow we get to the fun part. There was a time when the main company had threatened to close our branch, effectively letting go all of our employees, myself included. During this time, I had placed applications in numerous different job fields, hoping anything would come back. I went on a few interviews, and JUST YESTERDAY heard back from one that I had gotten the job. Since the interview process, my current job has returned to being stable, aside from the uncomfortable-ness from working with my boss. My effective start date is January 25, 2016 and I'm not sure how to bring this up without hurting my friendship.", "summary": "Boss is crossing lines / being verbally abusive at work, causing me to seek another job. He is also my friend, how do I give my notice of resignation without hurting friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_4yawx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32M] accidentally saw a note my girlfriend [27F] wrote to herself.", "post": "Me and my roommate are both moving out of the house we share. We decided that we like each other so for the last couple weeks we've been sharing a bed and now she's my girlfriend. We were good friends before and shared everything with each other. \n\nSo last night we were in bed talking and I could tell something was bothering her. I asked if everything was all right and she said that part of her day was bad. Then she clammed up and wouldn't tell me what it was. She kept telling me it was nothing and not to worry about it. I kept pressing but eventually she just started denying anything was wrong and we both fell asleep. \n\nNow today, she's at work and I'm at home, we're texting and stuff. She says her dog brought one of my slippers into her room. LoL, HAHA, I go in there to get it. I notice the window is open so I shut it because it's a little windy and rainy. I pick up the papers that blew of her desk and set them down and see her note pad. The note on the top is a reminder of how much her ER visit was followed by some other notes, including some things we had talked about that day already. This leads me to believe that she visited the emergency room yesterday and it was quick because it was only like 400 bucks. \n\nMy question is: should I ask her about the ER visit? She'll believe me when I tell her that I wasn't snooping but I still want to respect her privacy. But I'm also worried about why she felt the need to go to the ER without telling me. That's setting of alarms in my head that are hard to ignore.", "summary": "Accidentally snooped and found out girlfriend went to ER without telling me. Should I confront her?"}
{"id": "t3_1vsjga", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20/f) feel like my (20/m) SO isnt caring about my education or future.", "post": "I am feeling like he doesn't care. In order for me to go to school for what i am going to school for(to be a vet tech) i have to go to a town almost two hours away. He is currently going to school for nursing. He wants to start a career at a hospital his mom works at. cool. Whatever. But the problem is that, that is 45 minutes in the opposite direction of where we live.   And if he starts working there then i can not go to school where i need to for my future and i pretty much. I am already on pause so he can go to school for nursing. The town in which i need to go to for schooling is actually a big one. It is home to CSU. So there are hospitals there and places to get a job it is not like i am going somewhere without a hospital or something. Every time we try  to talk about it he gets all pissy with me and he tells me to just drive there every day. Wtf. What the heck should i do..... i have no idea.", "summary": "I want to go to school two hours away, already putting that on pause so fianc\u00e9e can go to school to be a nurse. Now he wants to start his career even further away from where i need to be for school and gets upset when i ask him to put his career with THAT hospital on hold So i can go to school. what   do i do."}
{"id": "t3_13h14n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting expelled from school. Hear me out I need help so that I can stay.", "post": "At lunch one day my friends and I had gotten maced. This in turn caused the school to search all of our phones, and one of the conversations on my phone was between myself and another student asking if she could buy 4grams of marijuana off of me. I am not a dealer nor am I known in the school to be one. I told her I didn't know what she was talking about and that we would talk in class. We talked in class and the rest of the conversation went along the lines of I could meet you on Friday. The thing is that I was not going to sell her anything, but give her another persons number that I know of. Is this a permissible reason to be able to expel me? Please ask more questions about the issue if you need some clarification.", "summary": "Getting expelled because the school is accusing me of being a drug lord even though I'm not."}
{"id": "t3_2cawe3", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Ways to mitigate that third wheel feeling by roommate and her boyfriend?", "post": "Currently I have just the one roommate, although probably someone else is moving in at the end of August. She and I used to be really good friends, but for the past year, she's substituted her boyfriend for me. She's an extremely anti-social person usually, so I honestly just think she (emotionally) can't connect with more than one person at any given time. Or won't try. \n\nNot gonna lie, when I first realized it was happening, it did hurt. Now I've more or less given up on this being a real friendship anymore; she's just not on the same page as me. And I'm actually ok with that, because I don't want a friend who doesn't give a shit about me. But her boyfriend (who pretty much lived in our house all summer, not paying rent) is always here. And they're ALWAYS whispering to each other or outright conversing in front of me, not involving me. I get it, couples have many private, personal things. I don't need to know. But it's very aggravating to be made to feel like I'm in the way and don't belong in my own frigging house!\n\nSo, since talking to her about this is out (done that, many times, from calmly explaining to bluntly stating things, doesn't work - plus she's graduating in December, so I just have to deal one more semester), what can *I* do to make life better for myself, so I don't feel like this or have to see it constantly?", "summary": "Roommate and boyfriend constantly whisper in front of me like they're in some secret organization, it's rude and makes me feel like I don't have a right to be in my own home. Talking's out, what should I do to escape from these situations and my feelings that result?"}
{"id": "t3_49dpjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Engagement ended, who gets the ring? feel sleazy and cheap", "post": "Me 27m and my ex were engaged, she ended it with me after around 3 months of being engaged (via phone, ugh). We've had multiple disagreements recently about various things, anyways, she proposed we meet up and return each others possessions and regarding the ring she said \"i'll give it back to you, i dont want it.\" of course i said no you can keep it blah blah but after lots of rejections i concede to having to accept it back. So, i asked her today after a few weeks of not talking if we are meeting up, she says no i cant this month, so i said \"not a problem just send me my stuff (possessions) ill pay postage and you can give me the ring in person when we do finally see each other\" to which, you guessed it, she said \"I'm keeping it\".. naturally i ask why the sudden change of heart and she doesn't really have an answer just, \"i want it, i'm wearing it as a piece of jewelry\". \n\nis that right, because she called me cheap and i do feel kinda sleazy but at the same time i didn't end it or even think of ending it when times got tough for us.", "summary": "got dumped and she took the ring aswell"}
{"id": "t3_3a1xpw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my ex [19 M] 2 years and a half, I don't know what to do", "post": "We broke up in January but got back together in March. It was mostly because we saw each other all the time at school and it was hard to ignore the comfort we both felt when we were together.\n\nSchool ended about 2 weeks ago and we haven't texted or seen each other since. It's truly real now and I don't know how to handle it.\nIt wasn't even a breakup, we just said bye and we left it at that.\n\nI'm going off to university in the fall so I know I'll make new friends but right now I have nobody. I'm really alone all the time and I don't know what to do.\n\nI've done all the stuff that was recommended. Go to the gym, got a job, started summer classes. I just can't seem to shake the feeling still.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1udagy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17 M] breakup with my girlfriend [15 F] of 13 months, because she simply adds no value to my life anymore?", "post": "Thirteen months ago I met this girl and we became sort of a ~~no~~^few- strings-attached sort of deal, we'd spend a lot of time together and act like we were in a relationship while we technically could still talk to other people.\n\nAfter a few months she got tired of that and refused to continue unless we officially became an item. I accepted, knowing it wasn't what I wanted. I'd just gotten out of a series of three, year-long^(approx.) relationships when we met and I wanted a break to just date lots of girls without committing to anything. \n\nI agreed to make it official with this girl because I do like her and partly because I was afraid I'd never find anything better.\n\nNow it's been a year since we started acting like a couple and 4 months since we've actually been a couple and I am unhappy, but can't decide if it's just 'the grass is greener on the other side' syndrome. \n\nShe hasn't done anything to warrant a breakup, but I am tired of being tied down, and want to use these years while I'm just a kid to have fun and date lots of different girls. On the other hand, I may very well regret leaving her since we are quite compatible with each other.\n\nAlso note I literally have no friends. I'm good with girls I know, but not good at approaching them or meeting new ones.", "summary": "Tired of being tied down in long relationships for last 3 years, girlfriend adds no particular value to life, but I'll be completely alone and might not find anything better if we breakup. Should I breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_380396", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend pregnant after one month of dating, need advice/help", "post": "My girlfriend (19F) and myself [20M] started dating a month ago. We met 6 months back but she ended it 2 months ago for about 3 weeks and we've been great together since. She's my first girlfriend and im her first boyfriend. She left for vacation and is 4500 miles away which makes things hard, but ill be visiting her in a few weeks at least. She sent me a picture from a pregnancy test showing positive saying ive known for 4 days. I didn't take it well at first cause she want to a doctors back home and was apparently fine, we are going to get an abortion and i need as much help as i can to help her and our relationship. Once i fly down and see her ill be fine but gosh dang is long distance tough. We haven't really talked about the abortion just she said im obviously going to get one idk anyone have any experince being young in a relationship and the effects of an abortion on it?", "summary": "gf of 1 month pregnant"}
{"id": "t3_1rkk52", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF [21/F] ended up cuddling and kissing her ex. I [22/M] feel like it may have been too large of a line to cross and go back.", "post": "For some back-story my girlfriend and I met about 3 months ago on the OKCupid dating website. Things progressed extremely quickly from that point on due to just how much we have in common and aligned life goals.\n\nSo last night, she dropped a bombshell on me. Her story is as follows:\n\nShe went to her ex's house between classes to rejuvenate a bit. (I actually don't mind her hanging out with her ex, I feel like they interact appropriately.) After a few minutes of sitting on the couch together she gets a cuddly and he gets a bit more flirtatious than usual. A few minutes pass and she \"May have accidentally kissed him. Just a peck though\"\n\nAt this point, I start asking questions because, I had a hunch that I was only getting the partial truth. After 15 minutes of some very simple questions her story changed quite a bit (and this is actually what has me the most angry). Instead of accidental kiss, it was on purpose and affectionate. She is still unclear on the duration of this. Instead of being a little affectionate and flirty, her ex was clearly crossing boundaries.\n\nAt this point, I decided to leave so I can have some time and think to myself. I thought that maybe some sleep would clear me up and give me more clarity.\n\nBefore I left, my girlfriend was sobbing, begging me not to leave. She was telling me how sorry she was and so on and so forth. The remorse does indeed seem genuine.\n\nAfter my night of sleep, I am still not clear headed on this issue.\n\nDid she go too far?\nIs she still telling partial truths?\nIs this something we could work through (given that it never happens again)?\nI did tell her in the beginning that this sort of thing is a relationship ender, should I go back on my word on this?", "summary": "GF kissed her ex boyfriend, told me half of the truth, and is begging me not to leave her. I feel like we may not be able to recover from this (due to my resident feelings more than anything)."}
{"id": "t3_3xv2lw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to buy Office for two years", "post": "This happened maybe a month ago as I was starting my new job. I was asked if I knew how to use Excel and had it on a laptop I could use. I said I knew how, but I didn't have it on my laptop. Two years ago when I bought my laptop, it came with Office already installed on it, yet not activated. So I asked around to some friends to see if anyone had a copy I could buy for cheap, but had no luck. So anytime I tried to use a Office product I got a message saying \"This windows is not activated, would you like to activate online or over the phone?\" I assumed this meant I would have to have a code. Well eventually I said whatever, I've got to get it for work so I might as well buy it. As I clicked on the activate online, it said, \"Thank you for activating! Enjoy your product!\" or something like that.\n\nIt was at that moment, I realized I actually had office all along. I just never clicked it because I thought it would take me to a page to buy a code...\nSo for the past two years at college, I would type stuff out in notepad, paste it to an email, get on my main pc, and then put it into word.", "summary": "Always remember to push all the buttons"}
{"id": "t3_2dl7c2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] have lied to my girlfriend [19 F] of two years about going to the gentlemens club once", "post": "I went to a Genteens club with a few friends during university. I never told my girlfriend of two years I went. She had to find out from someone else. I know what I did is wrong and horrible. I don't deserve her. She has begun to loose my trust. \n\nI love her and I made a terrible mistake. She loves me we want to spend the rest of our lives together even though we are barely 19. I have done nothing else. I just want to know if there's anyway things can change. If I can do something to make her trust me again. I just want a place to vent or if anyone has similar stories. Love is a hard thing.", "summary": "went to a Gentlemens club, girlfriend found out from someone else. Any advice on trust or anything at all really."}
{"id": "t3_2dhnq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [18/M] and I [17/F] have realised we are both controlling and want to sort it out to save the relationship.", "post": "So to begin with, we have been in a relationship for almost a year. Before this, we were close friends through highschool for about four years and have always had a thing for eachother. We began our relationship last year when he left school, and I'm still finishing. \n\nSo, at the start of our relationship, we knew and established we are both very jealous people. In previous relationships, we felt really jealous of our respective partners, and often came to comfort of eachother to vent. We are both aware, too, of our past's, which arn't really full of clean track records (we've both been unfaithful to some extent in previous relationships, however, not that serious and we were both like 14). \n\nThis isnt to say that this effects us now, we have both moved past that - but, it has left us both quite controlling. And at the start, it worked. If I was uncomfortable with something, he wouldn't do it. If he was uncomfortable with something, I wouldn't do it. But it's gotten to the point now where we feel like we are missing out on things. And we both WANT to change, I cannot stress that enough. This isn't a post asking for reasons to end it, I just really need advice for both of us to sort out our feelings and what steps we can take to learn from this and move on.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have identified we are both controlling; want some strategies we can put in place to control our feelings before they are out of hand."}
{"id": "t3_2tzmwe", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What are the benefits of paying off debt collectors?", "post": "I have a poor credit score rating for a few reasons:\n+I'm 24. Fresh out of college with about $25,000 in federal loans. I am slowly paying those down. \n+I have been late on car payments (but hey it's almost paid off!) \n+I have unpaid debt from a credit card I opened and used only for a gym membership. It racked up $500, I lost my job. I moved. I graduated. I never paid it. \n\nI have received calls and attempted to pay off the debt previously. I did not feel comfortable giving my account # over the phone to someone, so I gave up because I could never afford a lump sum pay off. \n\nI have basically ignored this but I'm ready to face the music if it will benefit me more than my tax money paying off other debt (i.e. Loans, car, small personal debt) with my refund - pretty much the only time I have a large sum of money. \n\nPortfolio Recovery is offering:\n1 payment of $454.00 \nor a 12mo $40/mo plan. Says my account will be considered \"settled in full\" \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "I have a poor credit score because of unpaid debt. Should I pay it or keep ignoring it to pay off more \"immediate\" debts this tax season?"}
{"id": "t3_vgd0t", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Selling house, buyer will most likely renege...need advice", "post": "My parents are trying to sell their house, and found a buyer approximately two months back. The house sold for $1.2 mil to a middle eastern family. The man is a home developer, and he supposedly bought our house because his wife wants to live in it with their family. \n\nThe man agreed to all terms, and told us to please move out of the house in a week. We complied, and got a year lease on a townhouse nearby while we look for another, smaller house. We shut off the water, canceled the pool man, shut off power, and canceled insurance. Two months later, the man still has not paid us any money, and keeps pushing back the payment date for the $30K deposit, and the main cash payment on the house.\n\nMy parents are a nervous wreck. This is a lot of money. We are worried about the house being broken into, because it is abandoned. I have been told that any damage will be on us, because no money has exchanged hands. We are afraid that the buyer might renege completely, and we do not have a backup buyer because we were assured the transaction would go smoothly. We now think he is jacking with us, and we may continue to have to pay the mortgage while waiting for this guy to get his shit together and pay up.\n\nWhat are our options besides lawyering up? How much money are we entitled to? Do we only get the $30K deposit? Please let me know what the rules are with this.", "summary": "Sold our house, buyer keeps pushing date back on payment and we think he will renege completely, we have not been paid anything and are losing a lot of money."}
{"id": "t3_4ypknh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost 76 pounds, almost to goal weight, and always in pain :(", "post": "I admit I feel a lot happier and healthier but my bones always hurt. Not in a way that I have any calcium deficiency or from exercising but I'm so boney when I sleep or sit or hug someone it hurts, especially if the other person is also boney. I can't sleep very well because I have to sleep on my side and my knees hurt. A pillow helps but I don't always have a pillow and I'm just not used to sleeping like that so it doesn't help. \n\nSometimes my elbows bump my hip bones and it hurts\n\nOr I'll put my legs on my boyfriends lap and he will pull them close and my knees hurt each other or his boney elbows bump me. Even lightly it hurts. \n\nThis is only the tip of the ice berg. Sitting hurts, crossing my legs, it's just painful or uncomfortable. I was hoping I would get used to it when it started happening when I weighed around 145 but it's only getting worse. Does it get better? Just something I need to get used to? It doesn't hurt ALL the time, just most noticeably when laying down. My ribs are also visible most the time but especially when arms are up and/or when sucking in a little but that can make hugging other thin/boney people uncomfortable. \n\nSometimes walking or sitting but enough to make existing annoying lol people comment I don't sit a lot because I hate how it feel. My doctor the other day even commented that every time she comes in I am always standing and I only sit when she does because I don't want to be rude. I just tell her I have lots of energy which is half true. \n\nSuggestions? Wait it out? Am I really calcium deficient or just newly boney? Will it get worse and worse as I lose the last 10-15 pounds? I also have really high body fat(I think I have 35-45% but I am a bad judge of myself!)", "summary": "lost my protective padding of fat, being boney hurts :("}
{"id": "t3_j8x7p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should my fiance and myself do in Hawaii for our honeymoon?", "post": "I finally grew a pair and asked my girlfriend of several years to marry me and she accepted.  She's not aware yet, but I've already booked our honeymoon location (Lahaina, Hawaii).  She's always wanted to go to the island (we live in North Dakota, so nice weather is rare for us).  We won't be leaving until February of next year, so I've got some time to plan what all we'll be doing.  What are some fun things to do while we're on Maui (or possibly surrounding islands if we can ferry).\n\nI want this trip to be memorable for both of us (I haven't had a week off of work since I've started working, so the time away from home would be nice), but I don't want it to be 'lets stay at the resort and chill in the pool', either.  Anybody know of any activities in the area?  Things to see while we're there?  Suggestions of any kind for honeymooning?\n\nAlso, I hope this isn't a dumb question, but I haven't flown anywhere before, and am sincerely anxious about it (I have a terrible fear of heights and the thought of flying turns my stomach, but I don't want my phobias to ruin our honeymoon), is there anything I can do to calm myself about flying or just get over it?  I don't want her to worry about me and just enjoy the trip.\n\nFinally, is it worth it to rent a car or will we be able to taxi to different locations?  I've never been anywhere where I couldn't drive myself and have never rented a car before (I'm 21, by the way, I've been told that my age may factor into me getting a vehicle rented).", "summary": "I'm looking for suggestions on what to do for my honeymoon on Maui."}
{"id": "t3_32i96s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my teacher a train wreck", "post": "So this  F up actually Happened two years ago, when I was in 7th grade. Anyway, our school computer teacher, mrs computer, ( of course I'm not gonna use her real name) had just finished grading the only test that we were to have that year in computers, and she was giving a long lecture about being happy with our grades. Now a bit of a side note here, this teacher was the teacher that was made fun of by a lot of students for being a harsh person. ( i was not one of them). While she was lecturing, she said the infamous line that rattled through the school community the moment I said it; \"don't be afraid of your the one D, because I was always the kid who felt like a train wreck when I got the only bad grade. I don't want any of you feeling like a train wreck.\" \"But mrs computer\" I swiftly replied, being the OG clown that I was and still am, \" you're the only train wreck here!\" The room went silent. It took computer a few moments to register what I had just said, having never had a student say such a blatant criticism. \" THAT WAS THE MOST DISREPECTABLE THING I HAVE EVER HEARD POOG\" she said in a scarily exasperated voice\" APOLOGIZE RIGHT NOW.\" I meekly did say sorry, though I'm not sure if she heard it, but from that day forward my remark was never forgotten. Whether it was big john always bringing up that remark among my other questionable actions, or some people even calling me trainwrecking Poog, the incedint was never forgotten. Although the biggest FU in all of this was how wrong I was. Computer was not a train wreck, in fact she even got pregnant after having been married for five years and moved away from our school.", "summary": "computer called train wreck, it was never forgotten that I said it, some even calling me trainwrecking poog"}
{"id": "t3_396iaf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Turning 20, and not sure where to go in life right now", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'm 19 years old, soon to be 20. I am currently home for the summer from a second year of university, but I'm not sure if I want to go back in the fall. I was originally enrolled in Computer Science, but due to the difficulty of the program, switched to humanities this past semester; I am thinking of pursuing an english major. However, I also have a great interest in music, namely in guitar playing. I am currently playing in a band, and would be interested in a music career, possibly through teaching others (which I consider myself competent enough to do if needed). One possibility could be a major in one field plus a minor in music, but I'm just not sure at this point. Because I'm not certain what I want to do, I have also been thinking of just taking a semester off and taking the time to sort out a few things in my life, although my parents are encouraging me to remain in school for this year. One major issue I have is the (undiagnosed) depression that I've had for a while now, which is something I've just been dealing with on a day-to-day basis. I'm thinking of opening up to a couple people about it, although I am scared to do so, because I've lost touch with the few people I have told, and I don't want to inadvertently push others away from me. This has made it difficult for me to make major decisions on my own like this, and I would appreciate some advice from anyone who can help.", "summary": "Going back to school this fall, not sure if I want to; also have depression."}
{"id": "t3_wf69p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found out today that my neighbors were cooking goddamn meth next door. Details inside, need some help.", "post": "First off, **the cops told me**. I got home in the middle of a goddamn RAID.\n\nThe problem is this: the cops warned us that the toxic fumes have probably been in our apartment. They told me that my family should all be checked out immediately by a doctor.\n\nWe are uninsured, so what the fuck do we do? [yes, I'm a poor Midwestern American...if you couldn't already tell].\n\nMy family is in good health, but the police insisted we see the doctor. Should we?\n\nAlso, I'm fucking pissed at these fuckers [the meth cookers] because I've known they were up to something for a while now...though I thought they were just dealing it out of their apartment, not fucking dumb enough to COOK where they sleep. How do I contact the cops to spill relevant information I may have...especially if it gets more of these pricks arrested?\n\nSorry if I'm rambling or something....but I'm fucking pissed and kind of scared.", "summary": "Fuck you, Indiana!"}
{"id": "t3_2k7ito", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Far away from my girlfriend and having innocent feelings for another. Its making me feel guilty and anxious.", "post": "So I (M 23) need some advice. I have an amazing girlfriend (F 22) who has an amazing job. We have been dating for a little over a year now. Shes extremely smart, caring, and generous. Shes the first girlfriend whos ever gonw out of her way to do things for me. And I know thats normal for relationships but after being a rescuer for so long, shes the first one who's done anything for me. Shes extremely supportive and I could go on. The bottom line is if I do something to lose her I would be one of the most stupid men alive. \n\nSo right now were far apart while im taking an intense course and I have no time to see her. I am one of two people taking this course seriously and that other person is a girl (F 24). I dont get along with pretty much anyone else because I dont go out with them every weekend. I love my girlfriend and no matter what nothing will ever happen. BUT. I have such a close connection with this girl. I always want to be around her and I want her to want to be around me. I hate seeing her unhappy so im always worried about her and its even affecting my ability to focus.\n\nThese feelings confuse me because I know I would never cheat on my girlfriend 100% but I still feel guilty and Shitty and unfaithful. Ive always been touchy feely and always want someone to lean against when we watch a movie together but in all seriousness it has no sexual underlying reasons. Without sounding shallow I dont even really find this girl attractive.... She's the only one who's taken the time to get to know me and this constant distraction is absolutely killing me. \n\nAm I a shitty boyfriend for wanting comfort while im so far away assuming there are LITERALLY no underlying sexual elements? If so how do I stop it, or a more appropriate question is what are some methods you suggest to help me move in the right direction for stopping it. Ill never cheat on her I know that I just feel so pathetic right now. Can anyone give me some advice?", "summary": "Away from amazing girlfriend for a while and feel the need for comfort from another girl with NO UNDERLYING SEXUAL DESIRE!"}
{"id": "t3_36pxfi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] with my girlfriend [16F] of three weeks, struggling in closeted relationship", "post": "So, I (16f) started dating one of my best friends (16f) about three weeks ago. I haven't been this happy in ages, and though I suffered through depression earlier this year, I feel absolutely amazing now. She is incredible and makes me feel and act like a better person. I know I love her, even though it's too soon to say I'm \"in love\" with her. \n\nThe only problem... we are both bi, and both closeted at school and at home. We have a couple mutual friends who know about our relationship, and we each have some non-mutual friends who we agreed were OK to tell. \n\nI really adore this girl but it is so painful to walk the halls and not be able to be \"out\" with her. I am so happy with her, yet for now, our relationship is reduced to texts, brief physical contact, and a little bit of meaningful eye contact when we can't say what we want to--and that just sucks. \n\nHow can I continue to love everything about this relationship while we are in the closet? We just aren't ready to have to explain ourselves to our school (a small private school in which news travels very fast). I'm more ready than she is, but I would never force her to come out with me. How can I possibly keep this up?", "summary": "I'm ecstatic about new relationship but unsure how to proceed without being public since we're both in the closet."}
{"id": "t3_34s1tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[21 F] know if its time to break it off with my BF [19 M] of 4 months?", "post": "So I've been with my current boyfriend for a while, but I'm just not sure if I'm feeling it anymore.  He hasn't done anything in particular that was wrong, I just don't feel the same spark anymore.  Sometimes its there, sometimes it isn't.  He's still very much in love with me, which makes it hard to talk about since this is so one-sided.  It also doesn't help that I had a crush on a friend of mine before the relationship that still hasn't faded away.\n\nOne of my main issues is how reserved/quiet he is and unenthusiastic.  I'll share parts of my life with him (especially important or exciting things for me) and he'll just respond with \"that's cool\" or \"neat\". We've talked about it and he says he's trying to be better, but its hard to say if he's improved at all.\n\nThis is one of my first real relationships, so I don't want to throw it all away.  I've been thinking about this for a while, and we've talked about it. But with summer break coming up-I'll be gone, and I fear we won't make it long-distance.  So any advice is welcome, I've been flip-flopping on breaking up with him for well over a week now and I still don't know what to do.", "summary": "How do I know if its time to cut it off or if this is just a rough patch?"}
{"id": "t3_2xuq0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] feel bad for subconsciously checking out women while I go about my day [18-45+ F (this is a guess)]", "post": "I'm in a class that's analyzing the harmful effects of media. This week, we are discussing the effects it has on the female body image. It's absolutely horrid... Women are constantly objectified and encouraged to drastically change themselves in countless ads and media content.\n\nSo, I caught myself supporting this trend while walking by this girl on the street. Subconsciously, I just started checking her out, didn't even think about it. Then, afterwards, I just felt shitty about it because of what I just learned.\n\nI don't know... what are your opinions? Is what I did harmful, should I not be so hard on myself or are there any tips as to how I can train myself to become more respectful?\n\nFuck, I probably sound like some \"m'lady\" man but this is actually bothering me. I don't want to objectify anyone because when it all comes down to it, we all have great qualities that shouldn't be overlooked!", "summary": "I feel bad for checking girls out so often and want to become more respectful."}
{"id": "t3_45ggc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 1.5 years are having trouble communicating, and I think it might end the relationship", "post": "Last night / this morning was our third major fight in two weeks, and the same themes were brought up, dating back almost to the start of our relationship.\n\nI'm an emotionally stunted problem solver, she lives on emotion and loves to talk about feelings.  Naturally, there's going to be some friction, but we've both agreed to try and understand the other.\n\nI would say I've tried, but she would disagree.  And she would say she has tried, but I would disagree.\n\nWhen we fight - sometimes for legitimate reasons, and in general I try to take responsibility when I fucked up, because honestly I do fuck up a lot - she brings up all the past fights that were never fully resolved, and I just shut down.  I can't respond to everything at once, and it's obvious nothing will change her mind about how terrible I am at that moment.  My resigned silence just pisses her off more.\n\nI'm not even tired of being angry, or being in the wrong more often than she is.  I'm tired of her being angry at me, even when I apologize, admit my mistakes, and try to do better.  I'm tired of her not recognizing the efforts I do put in to try and emotionally connect with her.  I'm tired of having the whole history of our relationship held against me any time we argue.\n\nI tried to explain this to her this morning, and she just shot back with something like \"we fight about the same thing because you never change anything!\" I had to go to work, so I left her watching TV.  When I tried to hug her goodbye, she said \"don't touch me.\"  That hurt like hell.\n\nI don't know where to go from here.  All day I've been in a rut, and the prospect of trying to talk through the above with her (again) is beginning to seem a less attractive option than just breaking up.\n\nI don't want to break up.  We're a great match in every way, except apparently in those ways that actually make a relationship work.", "summary": "Communication issues with girlfriend.  Neither one of us recognizes efforts the other puts in to try and make it work.  At this point, breaking up looks more appealing than trying to work things out again, but I don't want to break up.  Advice please?"}
{"id": "t3_ltsjn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[HELP] I've done it before, why can't I get this right again?", "post": "I started my weight loss journey at about 255lbs. Turned my life around when I began lifting weights, cut out the junk food, and started walking everywhere instead of taking the bus/cab/etc. This January I weighed 225lbs. I began eating primal and low-carb style, got on a strength-based program, started weighing myself every morning, and weighing 80% of the food I consumed each day. By doing this, I worked my way down to 176lbs this past August with noticeable muscle addition. \nEarly September, I experimented with a new training program and the idea of eating by \"intuition\" instead of pre-planning and weighing everything, but occasionally tracking my calories in FitDay. Well, my intuition is whacked-out it seems, because I pretty much blew it and swelled up to 185lbs. Not sure how much of this is water weight, as my carb intake went up a lot, but my clothes definitely got tighter and I'm pissed about that.\n\nIn hindsight, the experiment was incredibly foolish because now I feel like I can't even stick to my original plan for more than a week at a time. Before, I could walk into any gathering with all my vices in front of me and just stick to the plan I had in motion. Now, it's like this constant battle with myself to not eat things (especially sweets and such) that I know will trigger me to keep eating more and more crap. And it's mostly crap I don't even enjoy, yet will eat for some stupid reason. Example: party at work yesterday - I had a 3 servings of caramel glazed bread pudding and I don't even like bread pudding! When these binges happen, I barely feel full until I go home and suddenly feel like a pregnant blue whale. I've far exceeded my calorie limit two days in a row this week. It's awful.", "summary": "I had a great weight loss plan going, went off it for a little bit, and now it feels like I'm a slave to bad habits and can't get my act together anymore. *To be clear, this is mostly a food problem. I have no issues hitting the gym 4-5 days a week, walking everywhere, etc. But, as they say, diet is 80% of the battle and right now I feel like I'm losing.*"}
{"id": "t3_kh690", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your opinion!", "post": "So I was with my best friend the other day (I'm a guy) and we were talking about random things. Then for some reason, she literally told me that she thought she was a whore because she had multiple fuck friends. Obviously I was a bit shocked because I didn't think she thought of herself like that, but after maybe 2 seconds of disbelief, I told her that she wasn't. She 18 and.. well she has done some pretty outrageous stuff : to this day she has slept with 16 guys, 2-3 girls, she did two threesome and that's about it. Because of that she thinks she's a whore... I told her she wasn't, that she was just having fun and that it was totally fine but obviously it didn't really work, she still thought of herself badly. I'm a bit confused because I never EVER thought she was a whore, slut, skank or whatever. In my head, I believe that if I had has much success with girls, has she has success with guys, I would probably be dying from HIV because I would've slept with every girl I could and because I would've slept with so many girls I would probably be a hero among my friends. So why are people judging her because she likes to have sex? Why is it bad for her to have fun sexually speaking but not for me? Why is a girl who likes sex has much has the average guy being labelled as a whore? Am I the only one who thinks like that? Am I the only one who thinks society is fuck up to think this way? \n\nSo tell me reddit, what do you think about that? Feel free to speak your mind freely even if you're saying that she's really a \"slut\" I just want to get a general idea on what you guys think.", "summary": "Friend (girl) who's 18 slept with 16 guys up until now, thinks she's a whore. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_3c8kan", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [21M] of a year deleted all pictures off us on Instagram. Should I be suspicious?", "post": "Basically, what the title says. Been together a year a bit more, suddenly deltes all pictures of me and mentions on social media. (he did it a while ago but I just noticed now).  Should I be worried? I asked him why and received a \"idk\" then I said  \" it sorta looks like you're cheating\" and he said \"ok\". What am I supposed to do? We're going on a trip together in some weeks, do I cancel? This type of dismissive behavior is really odd for him. Lately, he's been odd on social media, like deleting a bunch of his fb friends, posting 'raunchy' things on his snapstory. I usually don't care for social media ( Other than reddit ofcourse<3) I've also seen him get snapchats from a girl in a bra and her naked but it's the same girl and she supposedly according to him does that to a lot of guys. \n        \n    \n       \n     \n\nHe deleted her but then later added her back. But this thing has me worked up, i've heard of other girls who had their boyfriends delete pictures of them on Instagram and turns out they were using it to cheat and didn't want the girls they were cheating with to know they had a girlfriend.  I realize now we hindsight that accusing him of cheating wasn't that smart since he's probably deleting the DM's as we speak. I've never payed attention to his social media but now that i'm looking at twitter tumblr etc he seems like a sleaze.!", "summary": "BF deletes pics of me on instagram and other suspicious behaviour"}
{"id": "t3_2tuf3r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting too excited.", "post": "This happened a month ago, but whatever.\n\nI live with my roommate in NYC. He loves to cook and make food, especially desserts, so I generally like him. \n\nSo one day I walk into the kitchen to find my roommate making chocolate. It smells like pure heaven, and looks even better. He said that it would take some time to get ready, so I patiently wait for approx. half an hour.\n\nHe calls me and I practically run over there to get a spoonful\nBy the time he says \"Careful, it's really hot!\", the chocolate is already in my mouth. Fuck. It scalds my mouth. I lost my sense of taste. I, being the idiot that I am, swallow the lava. \n\nBig goddamn mistake. My oesophagus still hurts from that. The skin on the roof of my moth peels off, and burns on the slightest provocation for two weeks. I can't eat anything, and can only drink things that are at room temp.", "summary": "I got too excited and swallowed another man's hot, creamy goodness and regretted it later."}
{"id": "t3_xzydi", "subreddit": "running", "title": "We are changing our lives 90 days at a time. Round 8 of r/90daysgoal starts Monday!", "post": "Two years ago, a group of Redditors decided to change their lives at [r/90daysgoal] We just wrapped up Round 7, with 42 people checking in with their weight loss. Together, we shaved off a combined 281 lbs (127 kg), or 6.53 lbs (2.96 kg) per person over the last three months. For those of you who love graphs, here's [our individual percent change in weight] and [our final weights plotted with weight lost over the course of the round](\n\nWith seven successful rounds under our smaller belts, we're excited to start Round 8 and we're hoping others will join in.\n\n***\n\n**What 90days is and what it isn't**\n\nThis isn't a set diet or exercise routine. This isn't a competition with prizes (check out [/r/btfc] for that). This is a group of people working together to better themselves. Whether you want to change a lot or a little, gain muscle or lose weight, everyone is welcome. More than anything else, this group will provide you with a place to talk to other people about health and fitness in a completely open and friendly environment. No question is too basic here.\n\n**What's the format?**\n\nEvery morning there's a dailygoal thread where you can post your goals, ask questions, or read through other people's updates. There's a weekly check-in every Monday and several themed posts (C25K/B210K, Fitocracy challenges, weekly workout challenges, diet/exercise/general discussion topics) throughout the week to keep us all on track.\n\nIf you'd like to join us for the next round, stop by and tell us about yourself and your goals in the [official introduction thread] Round 8 will officially begin on Monday, August 13th. On Day 1 there will be a signup form to fill out so that we can keep track of group statistics. Group and individual progress will be posted at the end of each month using anonymous display names.", "summary": "If you're interested, subscribe to [r/90daysgoal] Day 1 is August 13th. There will be informational posts throughout the first couple weeks to get everyone started toward their goals. We'll have a progress/recovery week at the end of each month. The final day will be November 20th. I hope we'll all have something to celebrate in three months!"}
{"id": "t3_3n7ttk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Have a crush and want to take it the next level. How should I proceed?", "post": "OK so I like this girl (She is a junior and I'm a sophomore in highschool) and she was dating this guy I was friends with when I first met her. They broke up about 2 weeks ago and my friend keeps saying that he is over her. I'm not gonna lie this girl is a little bit out of my league but I really think she likes me because one day last week we were talking in the hallway and she randomly asked to see my hand, she then proceeded to write her number on my hand. I had never previously asked her for it so I found it a bit weird, once again I'm not gonna lie I'm not exactly a Laddies' man. Fast forward about a week nothing has happened other than talking to each other in the hall and texting daily. Homecoming is coming up on a couple of weeks and of course with my luck it is girls ask guys. I thought to myself, \"Screw it, I'm just gonna ask her.\" This was yesterday, of course some other asshole asked her that morning. (I don't see her until lunch.) This guy is one of her ex's from last year and she said she might give him another chance. This guy has a little bit of an advantage over me because he is also a junior, taller, plays guitar, and has a sweet beard. I was texting her last night and asked her if she was with that dude and she said no, but I'm thinking about it. I replied, \"I'm going to warn you, and I speak from personal experience, the relationship ended the first time for a reason.\" She then texted back, \"You're right.\" The best I could think to say was, \"You do you, but consider this fair warning.\" No response. I'm really stumped here and honestly have no idea what to do next.", "summary": "I like a girl and was gonna ask her to homecoming but her ex did first and doesn't know if she is gonna take him back."}
{"id": "t3_n8e1i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Parents: Why do you pay for pictures of your kids screaming on Santa's lap?", "post": "This is probably my mom talking (my mom is a horrible person, that's why I bring it up), but I just think it's a waste of money. If I had kids of my own, I would not want to hang up pictures of them screaming their head off while the poor mall Santa just has to sit there and endure it until the picture is over. I would also not want to send these to people or plaster them up online for all to see and be forced to look at in their newsfeed. Hell, if my child was crying during the hand off to Santa, there would be no Santa that year, as they are clearly not ready to sit in a stranger's lap. Plus, I don't want to subject other mall goers to my kid screaming their head off if I don't have to.\n\nSo anyway, I see people posting these on Facebook, and they say they paid for them. WHY? It's like, $20, and I just see it as $20 that could be spent better elsewhere, I guess. Here's another question: do you think anyone wants to see a photo of your child in obvious distress? I am not asking that as a rhetorical question laden with snark and attitude, but as an honest question I'd really like to hear the answer to. I know I don't want to see pictures of other people's babies screaming; I want to see nice pictures from when they are smiling or having a good time. \n\nYes, I know babies cry, I'm just saying I don't want to see it, whether in person or by proxy in a photograph. It makes me think of the sound, and the sound of crying babies pisses me off to no end.", "summary": "Why do you allow and pay for photos of your child to be taken with Santa while they are screaming their heads off?"}
{"id": "t3_2g95m5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] Wanna improve my chance on dating, what can I do to improve?", "post": "Hello /r/relationships\n\nLet me start off by letting you guys and girls know that I had less than 5  relationship, my last being the longest (around 1 year and 4 months). \n\nI am the typical shy, friendly, nervous, and genuinely a nice guy, that gets Friend-Zone A LOT. I tried to improve, but have little luck on it, even from friends advice. Most of them said I don't have a good pick up skills, which I probably agree on. It sucks since I lost quite a few chances with women I am interested in, around town or at college. \n\nOne of my friends suggest me to watch movies, and some say to read articles/books, but don't have any suggestions, since most of them are good at it naturally and couldn't give me any pointers in my situations. \n\nWhat does /r/relationships recommend me to do? I wanna improve my chances. From talking to the girl, breaking the ice, improve my chances on getting dates, etc.", "summary": "Need help with my dating skills, talking to women, getting succesful date, pick up skill. Don't wanna keep ending up in the Friend-Zone. How can I improve in this area and not get friend zone?"}
{"id": "t3_29d5g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I got mad at my gf[24f] because I [32m] went thru her phone and saw something", "post": "i went on her facebook without her knowing, went thru her messages\n\nand saw that she wrote to a male buddy that i kinda know of\n\nshe wrote \"is it just me or are you not replying to my comments/messages?\"\n\ni got mad because i told her it shouldnt matter if hes not replying to her ig comments or whatever. i told her who cares. i told her, why does she care if another male gives her attention, i should be her everything. i made a big deal out of, she started crying saying that if i love her, little things like this wouldnt matter. blah blah\n\nam i crazy? i apologized a million times and brought her lunch", "summary": "i got mad because she wrote to a male buddy that isnt replying to her"}
{"id": "t3_smyxa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't know if I even like my own boyfriend?", "post": "Hello fellow redditors, I'm in a pickle and I need your advice. My bf (19M) and I (18F) have been dating for about 2 and a half months now. Before we were dating we had a group of friends we would all hang out with and that's how we started going out. With this group of friends we would literally hang out 4-5 times a week, and we'd have a lot of fun. After my bf and I started dating, some of our other friends from our group started dating as well. Needless to say we started slowing down on our group hang-outs. \n\nAnyway, my bf and I had a lot of fun in the beginning of our relationship, I'd go to his house just about every weekend and we'd watch a movie and then make out on the couch all night. That was all fun and games until his mom walked in on us in his room going at it. We sort of stopped hanging out at his house. \n\nNow, in the beginning of our relationship, we both acquired jobs at the same time. We used to hang out during the week maybe once or twice but now that our jobs are interfering, we just have no time to hang out anymore. Our hangouts occur maybe once a week and consist of he and I going out for dinner at 9:00 PM after I get off work, and then if we get lucky and his mom isn't home, we go to his house and hang out there or have sex. Granted, we've only had sex once and we were both black-out drunk.\n\nHe took my virginity, so I feel like this relationship should last and I should keep trying, but we don't see each other anymore! We haven't had a conversation in person in over a month. I only saw him this weekend with our group of friends for a couple of hours. Reddit, what should I do? I don't even know if I'm into him anymore.", "summary": "My bf and I don't see each other a lot and I haven't had a good convo with him in over a month."}
{"id": "t3_48ti4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [25M] wants a threesome [MFF] with me [23F]", "post": "Update: So I would like to thank everyone for y'alls advice. Y'all have helped me see that I may never be ready for a threesome and there is nothing wrong with that. To address some of the comments:\n\n* My husband could have been a saint before we got married and I would still worry that he would maybe cheat on me afterwards, it is just the kind of person I am.\n* I know that I am not emotional stable for a threesome and may never be emotional stable.\n* I do not think he is currently cheating or has anyone in mind. I have access to all of his accounts and his phone.\n* I have talked to my husband about this and he said that he was not trying to pressure me. He has agreed to never bring it up again unless I bring it up first. \n\nThank you to everyone for your help.   \n\n**Orginal: **My husband and I have been married for a little more than a year now. He has had 2 threesomes in the past and I have never had one. I would like advice on how to go about getting my head straight for one.\n\nI would like to have a threesome, but I am not sure how to handle the emotional impact that will come afterwards. Doing the deed is the easy part. The hard part is afterwards I am going to be wondering if he is thinking about me when we have sex or will he be thinking about her? Is he going to want it to happen more than once? What if he decides to cheat? (He has cheated in every past relationship except for one and he has not cheated on me).", "summary": "My husband wants a threesome. How do I handle the emotional impact afterwards."}
{"id": "t3_34vbgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 1.5 years, hooked up with 2 girls last year while drunk and is going back to the same party this year", "post": "My gf of 1.5 years made out with 2 girls last year at her senior grad party, got completely drunk had this dude that she had sex with before she met me try to hook up with her again. He tried that because she wanted him to be close again with her as friends and I told her that she was sending mixed messages even though I warned her about that dude trying some shit like that again. Cried and was absolutely belligerent throughout the whole thing and barely remembers anything that happened then and made out with 2 girls in a three way kiss and then separately once more. The same event is happening in a few days and she's going back and I don't know how I should feel about it.\n\nShe's very much so her own woman but is a horrible communicator and just completely blows me off with the plans that we make sometimes and tries to backpedal to fix whatever she does. We get into fights because I bring that stuff up constantly while she's still doing it and are currently fighting about her randomly canceling her phone. She did that in a drunk stupor to have her abusive mother take over her phone bill once again where her mother constantly canceled her plan because she was mad at her and my gf constantly came crying back to me. She is completely unable to acknowledge how that shit could affect the dynamics of our relationship again. I apologize for getting off track but I just wanted to summarize where we're at now and now she's going back to the same place again and I fear for the worse once again.", "summary": "First serious Girlfriend of 1.5 years made out with 2 girls last year at her grad party and is going back to the same party, have been fighting almost constantly every other week ever since and I don't know what I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_2j36dz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing how an app worked", "post": "This actually happened today, but not to me, to my girlfriends grandpa.\n\nAnyways, we were all sitting around at my girlfriend's little brothers football game, and as happens at most 12 year old's football games, boredom ensued.\n\nWe began talking about an app everyone had gotten called Life365, it's basically a tracking app that allows you to see where family members are, and send emergency messages/panic alerts.\n\nMy girlfriend's grandpa downloaded the app, and decided to send a message to his wife whom was also on the app. This message simply read \"beat my meat\"\nWith her of course  responding \"you dirty dog\".\nBut the best had yet to happen, my girlfriend's mom replied \"Dad... You know we can all see this right?\"\n\nThat message had been sent to not only his wife, but to his grandkids, his daughter, and his son.", "summary": "girlfriend's grandpa told the whole family to beat his meat"}
{"id": "t3_3ekucz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Friend [F 17] needs time", "post": "Currently we are both approaching are senior year of high school.  I [M 18] have been friends with her for over two years at this point. We both have feelings for each  other and recently tried out dating for approximately two weeks. \n\nShe recently got out of a relationship and some fucked up shit happened. She was guilty in this too and messed up her group friends.  She says she can't be a good girlfriend until she sorts this out in her head I guess.  I respect her for this because we both want to have a serious thing this year. \n\nAt the moment were just friends and I'm just clueless.  So I've taken the patient approach. What else can I do?", "summary": "Friend needs time to think and reflect. What should I do in the mean time?"}
{"id": "t3_y3u8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M26] how to express feelings to a friend?", "post": "Hey Reddit, Ive got a questions about the best way to express feelings to a good friend of mine.  \n\nBasically my friend [F26] is recently single, Ive known her for four years and realized I had feelings for her about 6 months ago.  I haven't expressed much interest as she has been with someone and I wanted to respect that.  Now that shes single I would like to at least let her know that I have some feelings for her (I missed my chance before she began dating her latest BF).  I may loose her as a friend but if I dont tell her I feel that Ill regret it. \n\nI'm not a shy person, and I'm not socially awkward, I just have trouble letting my feelings known (its caused some regret in the past).  So my question is this, for those that have been in this situation before how do you recommend doing it?", "summary": "Any recommendations on me [M26] letting my single friend [F26] of four years know I have some feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_4ac9os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am fighting with my boyfriend[22M] over my friends opinion of him and advice on our relationship and dont know whether they have valid points or are being mean", "post": "Throwaway account because my boyfriend knows my account name and I would rather not have another arguement.\n\nMy girlfriends have recently spoken to me about my boyfriend. They think he hasnt matured beyond High School where we first started dating. They think I should leave him and date this weird builder my girlfriend is good friends with. \n\nThey pointed out that he is 22 and still on any given day hes not at Uni can be found in his room at this shared house with all his mates, either jamming on instruments (Boyfriends a bassist), playing videogames, drinking beer and eating pizza, skating in the empty pool out back, listening to 90s pop punk, going to concerts and getting up to mischief. An example being the ramp bolted onto the guttering and wall so they can drop into the pool from the roof. (Theres a friend whos a tradesman who lives there). \n\nThey also pointed out his sense of dress is embarassing to them and they dread him coming to a bar. One described it as \"Blink 182 chic\". Baggy knee length Dickies, Hurley and Atticus shirts and a backwards snapback with vans to cap it off usually. I dont personally see anything wrong with this to be honest\n\nTo make it all worse my boyfriend found out about all this through one of the girls telling her boyfriend who lives with my guy and honouring his friendship told him, so hes very upset and angry. I just dont know whos side to take?! Is he immature and weird? Does he dress weird?! Is he right to be upset?! I just dont know what to do but having one of his friends tell me that in the 15 years hes known my guy this is the first thing hes seen him cry over is breaking my heart. HELP!", "summary": "Friends say boyfriend is an immature 90's styled kid and want me to leave him. Boyfriend is visibly upset and doesnt know what he did wrong"}
{"id": "t3_4wtye4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [15 M] and i need some advice from older and more experienced people", "post": "Like i said i'm 15 years old, at 15 i have never kissed a girl or dated one but this year i experienced my first crush, a girl my age, smart, good looking, nice and all around great person but i started feeling this way about her late into the school year and i never told her how i felt about her (she caught me looking at her pretty often, in some classes i would also often catch her looking at me) but like i said no conversations about it were made, school ended and i thought i would be able to forget about her pretty quickly but i didn't, 2 months later and everytime i see one of her photos i still feel the same way i felt, now you might be thinking: well, you can grow a pair and try to talk to her but stuff gets really tricky here, while she passed (very easily) i failed, and even worse i failed in the 9th grade, this means she needs to move school and the possibility of never even seeing her again is big, what should i do ? try to get over it ? \n\nAnd you might be wondering  ''why the fuck isn't this kid worrying this much about the fact he failed the year'' , i was never expected to make it tbh, i did almost pass but i crumbled when the pressure of the last term came  !", "summary": "i'm 15, in love with a girl i might never see ever again in my life, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_3eq9q2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[ADVICE] Me [20 M] with my SO [20 M] of 4 months, we are about to enter a long distance relationship and I need tips on how we can make this work.", "post": "DISCLAIMER: Do not tell me to break up, I will not do that.\n\nSo my girlfriend and I attend the same university and started dating in April of this year. She had recently gone through some very traumatic experiences (I won't go into detail), and has had a really hard time with PTSD in the city that we live in. So she applied for a year abroad in Europe which I thought/think is an incredible idea so that she can get away collect herself, focus on her work (animation major), and more importantly heal. We have talked about this and she said she is very nervous but she wants to try and make it work (I am also planning on visiting her during winter break). I am also nervous but I really do want to try. I love this person, she is one of my best friends, and she deserves this considering what has happened to her. \n\nNow I understand that LDRs are difficult and you have to take a different perspective on the relationship than you do with normal relationships. My question is simply: Is there anything I can do or that we can do to make this somewhat easier, and be successful? How should I approach it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you very much.", "summary": "Girlfriend is studying abroad for a year and I need tips for how we can make this work and be healthy."}
{"id": "t3_243y00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] enjoy spending time with her [24 F], but I don't have strong feelings for her. Is this a bad sign?", "post": "I recently started seeing a girl a month ago.  We've gone on 5 dates, and she seems to be really into me.  We've been having a lot of fun and have good chemistry, however there just seems to be something missing that I can't put my finger on.  I don't have a whole lot of dating experience (only two <2 months relationships before her), but I've had crushes on girls, and I've had girls that I couldn't wait to see again.  I don't currently feel that way about her.  Don't get me wrong, I do look forward to our dates and spending time together, but there's not that unquenchable desire like there has been with others in the past. I'm worried about this because this was one of the reasons the last girl I dated broke up with me (she was pretty upfront about it, which I appreciated).\n\nTo those of you who are crazy about their SOs, was it like that way from the beginning or did it take some time to develop?", "summary": "Been seeing a new girl for a month, don't feel \"crazy\" about her."}
{"id": "t3_q3sct", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I file for bankruptcy?", "post": "A little backstory...\n\nI've been suffering from worsening depression since I was about sixteen, thanks to heredity and a pretty shitty childhood. Things weren't so bad life wise for a while (had a great credit score, bought a car at 0% APR, started school) but in the last two years things have really taken a dive.\n\nI've racked up $10,000 in credit card debt from school and medical costs (uninsured going on four years). I totaled my car in May 2011 and bought a used car for ~$10,000 @ 12% interest a few months later. My depression and path to treatment sent me in such a bad spiral that I couldn't so much as leave the house for close to two months, causing me to miss my finals and fail a semester after being an A/B student up to my senior year.\n\nIn November 2011 had planned on not really living past January so I let everything go financially. I've since found a will to live, but now I'm stuck in a situation where I have debt collectors after me from lack of payment.\n\nThe situation as of now is I'm 27, taking a semester off college, working as much as I can as a server at a corporate restaurant while living at home. I have a $10,000 credit card in collections and they're asking for full payment. On top of that I still have my living expenses, my car payment, insurance, phone.\n\nI feel stuck and I don't know what I can do. I've considered debt consolitation but I'm afraid it could just be a scam and cause me to go further under. My other thought is filing bankruptcy but I don't know what would entail, what I'd lose, and how long it'd take me to get on solid footing. Credit, medical and educational debt have kept me stuck living with my parents since I moved back when I was 20. \n\nDoes anyone have experience with bankruptcy or debt consolidation? I don't know where else to turn.", "summary": "I'm 27, in collections for over $10,000 while still trying to finish out a BA in political science. What options can I take to get on the right path?"}
{"id": "t3_3pf3gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/M] am having trouble dealing with my ex-gf [24/F] what can I do?", "post": "The whole story is a bit long so Im going to sum it up. Me and my ex-gf broke up about maybe a month ago. \n\nIt went surprisingly well and as of now we are friends (or on good terms at least) and for the first week or so I was fine and moving on with my life, doing new things, talking to new people. But this week she started messaging me more, came over to my house for a bit one night and we had a deep conversation and she left.\n\nI have been really struggling with it since with the fact of losing her. I know some will say get her back but we have had issues before which led up to me doing this, and based off that I will not take her back at this time. And knowing how she is and what has happened she most definitely does not want to come back, but her words speak differently and it confuses me because when I do talk to her, she makes it sound like she wants to come back, but her actions speak differently. And the night she came over we got close and I could tell she was sad. \n\nDo you have any suggestions to help me get past this? I feel I just need an extra push to get my ass moving but im having trouble finding the motivation", "summary": "What can I do to motivate myself to move forward? And where can I start to meet new people?"}
{"id": "t3_12qso4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else hate their parents, for right or wrong reasons?", "post": "I'm not suggesting that I'm evil exactly, but I'm pretty sure that I'm a shitty person overall for this mentality: \n\nI finished uni last summer and worked small jobs until this summer, and I've been lazy ever since. I still live with my parents at 22, and I treat them like crap, basically. I'm really not a people person and I get annoyed just being in the same room as them, I'm sure it works both ways but I've just had enough of them. I blame them for any failures that they mention, claiming that any of my bad habits/mindsets originated with their parenting, and I'll be rude just so they leave me alone. I'm very introverted.\n\nI'm very lazy and have felt depressed for a long time to be honest, but I know it's no excuse. It's rare for me to have the energy to be pleasant to them, and I know that really I should be grateful for everything they've ever done for me. \n\nHowever, all I can ever think of is that they're selfish for having children; they couldn't guarantee mine or my brothers' happiness, and they just wanted to have humans to mould, and now I haven't turned out the way they wanted. I'm just deeply unhappy, and as stupid as this is: I wouldn't be unhappy if I was never born.", "summary": "I blame my parents for my own bullshit, still hate them anyway."}
{"id": "t3_1jps7k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not properly anchoring a boat", "post": "Well, here's the story.\n\nMy father, aunt, and I decided to go for a boat ride to a local oceanside restaurant. It's one of those restaurants where you tie your boat up to a mooring, and a launch boat picks you up and takes you to the restaurant.\n\nWell today, there were no moorings available, so we had to drop anchor. We(I) dropped anchor behind all of the moored boats for courtesy, and were picked up to the launch. As we get onto the pier, I look at the boats and say to my father \"Hey, didn't we anchor the boat over there?\" The boat didn't seem to be moving, so we assumed everything was fine. In the middle of ordering lunch, my father looks over towards the water, and sees a boat pretty far offshore. Jokingly, he says \"Hey, look, there's our boat.\" He gets up, goes to the railing, looks closer, and shouts \"OH SHIT!\" I stood there, staring at the boat, unsure if it was ours. My aunt said that it wasn't, but I wanted to double check. So I sprinted as fast as possible back to the pier.\n\nIt was\n\nBack on the dock, my father was screaming at the kid on the launch boat picking up some people, to hurry up and that our boat was drifting away. He took us back to the boat, we brought it back and docked it instead. (Mind you, the time between running to the pier and actually getting the boat back was about an hour, so by then, my aunt was having a nervous breakdown, seeing as we just left her there alone while we had to recapture our mighty vessel.) (Also, the area was loaded with other boats and had several stone walls. Surprisingly, the boat was untouched.)\n\nAfter getting back and ordering lunch, we all had a good laugh about it.\n\nI don't think it was purely my fault, I think the anchor just didn't catch right.\n\nNeedless to say, it was a very stressful day, and the food was pretty good.", "summary": "Anchored a boat, floated away, had nervous breakdown while trying to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_12g4b1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some of your experiences on the road that make you so mad that you question driver's thoughts?", "post": "Firstly let me say, I haven't been driving for long, which also implies that I was following the speed limit.\nSecondly, this doesn't necessarily mean ONLY road rage moments. Could be stupidity, too.\nI was driving down a road with a lot of speed bumps and stop signs. It was Halloween night, so I was being a bit more cautious than usual. Some d*** head got impatient and passed me over the double yellow line, in a residential area. He then cut back into the appropriate lane so early that I had to skid in my MOM'S car to avoid being side swiped and permanently grounded. Believe me, I honked. I was mad, but I still drove the speed limit home. Skip a few moments. . . I got to the point where I passed where he was going about 4.5 seconds later, still going the speed limit. Was it worth it, driver?", "summary": "Some guy illegally passed me and cut across so fast I had to skid. Turns out I passed the same place 4.5 seconds after him."}
{"id": "t3_z1a39", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Emergency management and first responders of Reddit. What are your craziest / most interesting stories?", "post": "**Background:** I'm typing this from a state Emergency Operations Center as we deal with Hurricane Isaac. I am an Emergency Telecommunicator, and this is my first hurricane working on the state level. Before this job, I was a SKYWARN storm spotter, and an Amateur Radio Emergency Services volunteer for a county EOC.  I've been involved in EMA work of some kind for about six years, total.\n\n**Storytime:** Mostly, I would sit with shelters and do shelter reports, or I'd be doing radio communications relays - passing communication traffic from one station to another. During Hurricane Gustav, I was babysitting a shelter on the north end of the county I'm from. It was a special needs shelter, so we had all sorts of folks with mental health issues and health issues. \n\nI was sitting around on the worst night of storm activity. It was about 3am. I'm minding my own business, and a homeless individual came stumbling through the hallways, screaming, \"WE'RE GONNA DIE, WE'RE GONNA DIE, WE'RE ALL GONNA DIIIIIEEE! LORD JESUS MARY HOSANNAH IT'S THE SECOND COMIN ' AND WE'RE GONNA GO UP AND SEEEEE JESUS!\" at the top of his lungs. Then he sang, \"Swing Low, Sweet Chariot,\" over and over, but didn't know any of the words. Meanwhile, the roof of the shelter was rippling and bouncing above us, and you could hear the wind howling through the building. \n\nStuff of nightmares.", "summary": "Volunteering as a communicator at a shelter. Homeless guy runs around screaming and singing about the second coming at 3am during Gustav."}
{"id": "t3_32n9sy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my mom drink my pee.", "post": "This wasn't today, it was actually a couple years ago, but it recently came up in a conversation and I thought it was too funny not to share.\n\nBack in 2011 I tore a tendon in my leg through an ATV accident and I couldn't move it without it hurting like hell (I was 14 at the time). So in an effort to save myself the excruciating pain of getting up and going to the bathroom, my mom would provide me with a bucket to pee in when I needed to.\n\nSo that night I woke up at like 3 in the morning and I really had to pee. Like really bad. I was sleeping on the couch in my living room and the bucket was nowhere to be found. The only thing within an arms reach of me was my mom's glass mug filled about halfway with water. So I peed in the cup and went back to sleep.\n\nThe next morning I was on my phone and I had completely forgotten all about the pee-cup. Assuming that it was still filled with water, my mother picked the mug up off of the coffee table and drank some of the \"water\" to take some medicine. She immediately spit it out and I got yelled at for a good two hours by my mother for peeing in her favorite mug.", "summary": "I accidentally martini-chan'd my mom."}
{"id": "t3_21gh0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] am finding it difficult dealing with the lack of affection from my girlfriend [23/F]", "post": "Ok, to set the scene - we've been seeing each other for coming on 4 months. She works extremely long hours during the week which means that I don't get to see her much other than weekends. When she's working she doesn't have time to respond to messages, calls etc. She's said to me that she's relatively inexperienced with regards to sex and is fairly 'reserved' when it happens. My main problem is that I want her to be more affectionate and to instigate things more (as in giving me a kiss, starting things in the bedroom etc). At the moment it feels like I do all this and although she tells me that she loves me, I get anxious that she doesn't because she doesn't do these things.\n\nPrior to this relationship I was with a girl who was probably overly affectionate, had a very high libido, constantly text etc. For this reason I tell myself that I'm being overly needy but wanted to get a second opinion (hence the post). I have spoken to her about the need for more interaction during her working days just to almost check in and see how each others days have been, but I'm a little apprehensive about bringing up the affection thing. \n\nIs there anything I can do to maybe entice more affection from her? I thought it may have been a confidence thing and have tried to be outwardly affectionate around her. However it doesn't seem to get any reciprocation. \n\nAny ideas reddit or is it simply a case of me having to speak to her about this?", "summary": "Gf isn't very affectionate, is there any way I can entice her into being more so?"}
{"id": "t3_kwlo5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How long until it's okay to take a dead co-worker's lunch?", "post": "Okay, completely hypothetical. Let's say your co-worker brings their lunch, puts it in the fridge completely untouched, sits down at their desk, and has a heart attack. Let's say that lunch happens to be your absolute favorite food (for me it'd be an extra spicy chicken finger sub with bleu cheese).\n\nUpon their death you join your office in grieving. The deceased was pretty cool. The boss gives you a go-ahead to take the rest of the day off and deal with a death in the work place.\n\nAre you cool to grab that perfect lunch? I mean the person has been declared dead...they aren't going to enjoy it. Since this is hypothetical we're going to rule out \"but you don't *know* they're dead.\" Yes you do. So, is everyone supposed to ignore it until it goes rancid, spoiling such a wonderful food? Do you gather everyone that wants it and draw lots, or is it first come/first serve/worst person? Is there a minimum waiting time before it's considered okay to make a grab for that deliciousness?", "summary": "They died, the clock starts ticking. When do you cave in and eat their lunch?"}
{"id": "t3_1o6dx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [50] blames me [M19] for being assaulted", "post": "3 years back, when I was out drinking with some friends in a park, a large group of teenagers came over and, without provocation, started being physically aggressive. One of them pushed me over, and I landed on my arm and broke it.\n\nTo this day, I still have limited mobility in my arm. This is a source of upset for me, because nobody wants to feel disabled, especially at such a young age.\n\nAnyway, my mother has never been particularly sympathetic about it all, partly because she does not drink alcohol and is pretty judgemental of those who do.\n\nI fractured a metatarsal (my foot) last week on a night out, and I was talking to her on the phone about it today. I said that I hoped there was nothing long-term in the injury, to which she said in this upbeat, mockingly righteous voice: 'well, you'll have to be more careful in the future'. 'You know that the common denominator is alcohol'. This got me annoyed, and I said 'I was assaulted the first time, it wasn't just an accident'. She replied 'well, if you hadn't been drunk, maybe you'd have caught yourself better'.\n\nI told her that she was really out of line, and that I was sensitive about this, expressing my annoyance. She responded by saying I was 'probably just tired'. I mean, I know this is an extreme comparison, but would you expect the mother of a rape victim to suggest that if they hadn't been drunk, it wouldn't have happened? I mean, it may be true (controversial), but it's not something that should be said by a family member!\n\nWhat annoys me even more is that she will never admit when she's done wrong. She'll just start guilting me, telling me 'she always does her best'. When I pushed her for some kind of apology, she said I was bullying her and hung up.\n\nDo I have a right to be upset with her? Should I just forget this, or should I hold the grudge? I don't know if I'm being unreasonable.", "summary": "mother affords no sympathy for me being a victim of an assault, instead saying it was my fault for being drunk. Should I move on and forget?"}
{"id": "t3_24p4rr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/M] clueless as to how to support a \"good friend of mine\" [21/F] whose significant other just died. Help MEEE.", "post": "I like(?) the girl. I would gladly do anything to support her. She is so secretive about her love life. It just so happens that I know what goes on. She doesn't know I know. How do I support her without giving her a hint that I know what has happened?", "summary": "I just want to be a good friend. That's all."}
{"id": "t3_f2ewv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How big of a deal is marriage anyway", "post": "My boyfriend (25) and I (23) have been together for about 3 years. We don't live together and we see each other mostly on the weekends because we work in different cities, about 1.5 hours apart. \n\nRecently, after looking for about a year, he bought a house in his area. Not sure if relevant but I rent an apartment and am doing fine on my own, with no current plans to buy my own house. I went to see one or two houses with him when I was visiting him, but otherwise it was just him and his parents who decided what house to buy.\n\nI definitely feel no resentment at this at all, I think it's great that he's going to have his own place as well as a long-term investment. But it does make me consider the future and what /r/relationships thinks about having some kind of \"end goal\" in a relationship. Do you think it's important to discuss the future of a relationship, or do you just take things as they come and enjoy how it is right this moment?\n\nI love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. But we've never talked about marriage or kids, ever. Besides I feel like I'm still too young to be married, and plus I like the way my life is exactly right now and I don't want anything to change. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and I know for a fact that I am not ready for it at all. I know this is probably something I should tell him. But how do I even bring it up?", "summary": "boyfriend bought a house, makes me think about relationships as a means to an end."}
{"id": "t3_pk22y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recent Credit Card Fraud, Questions on social engineering.", "post": "So just recently I get a call from my bank blah blah, there has been some charges some instate and some out of state on my card.  I got all the information about all the charges that I could.\n\nOne of them happens to be a hotel.  Yesterday, Front desk girl might remember a sketchy person with a failing card.   \n\nSo any suggestions on the best tactics to try to social engineer some information out of the hotel?  Best approach etc?\n\nIdeally I would like to get a name and location.  Many hotels also requires a Licence plate number if you have a car on their lot.\n\nI'd mostly like to get just enough info to look them up online if they have an online identity and mess with them. :D", "summary": "Someone screwed my debit card just before I'm leaving town.  Want to seek some passive aggressive revenge :)"}
{"id": "t3_4kbeg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my fianc\u00e9 [30 F] 3 Years, I found out she was in a porn movie 7 Years ago, we talked about this and have cleared the air. Ever since I found out I don't find her attractive anymore.", "post": "Hi reddit, as the title says I found out that my fianc\u00e9 did porn 7 years ago, I am pretty chilled out about sex and I know everyone has a past but I simply don't find her sexy at all. Honestly the best thing I liked about her was that she was innocent and cute now I just don't see her in that way anymore, I'm still loving towards her because I thought I just needed time but now I know it's just not happening. Today I told her that I think we should hold off having the wedding and I think she knows what the problem is.\n\nI know it's not her fault because she didn't even know me then but I now know I can't marry her because she just isn't the same person in my eyes anymore, Has anyone been through what I have.", "summary": "found out she was in a porn movie 7 Years ago, we talked about this and have cleared the air, ever since I found out I don't find her attractive anymore"}
{"id": "t3_3658dt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a cute girl to go away and leave me alone and then realizing she liked me", "post": "This, as most TIFUs, did not happen today, but when I was in 6th grade. There was this girl who I had known for 2 years or so and we would play all of the time in elementary school. I don't really remember what we played, but we played. We got as close as 4th/5th graders could be. She even invited me to a couple of her ice-skating competitions (which I was never able to make cause parents). \n\nFast forward a couple years into my first few weeks in middle school. Finally, all of the friends I had from different schools all at the same school! Well this girl kept coming up to me and trying to talk to me every now and then, and of course, being a pre-pubescent who still thought girls were kind of icky, would ignore her or make the conversation short while I fucked around with my other friends. \n\nOne day in particular, I was walking with my friend and we were talking about something (Probably Yugioh) on our way to the lunch line. She runs up to me and tries to say something but, me being an idiot, turns and says \"Can't you see that I'm talking to my friend here about something important?\". Then I turned and continued walking.\n\nA few days later, I noticed I hadn't seen her in a while. So I went up to her friend and asked what was up. She told me that the girl actually had a huge crush on me and was trying to say but instead I hurt her feelings so she moved and switched schools. That was also the day that I realized I was a mean kid and that I liked girls.", "summary": "Thought a girl was icky and broke her heart, causing her to move to a different school and city."}
{"id": "t3_10bh37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [23] her [18] Read something on her messages and found it a bit disturbing. Been going out for 8 months", "post": "Relationship has been on for about 8 months. So I never like snooping through my gfs stuff. weather it be fb, texting whatever. But while we were chillen at her house, she brings up some fb messages I see a message from a guy and jokingly give her a hard time about it. She said you can read it so she opens it and scrolls up real fast. This makes me think shes hiding something so as I scroll down she makes a comment to this guy via message saying \"why did you cut your hot ass hair\". Follow by him responding with a frown face she then replies. \"Whats the face for babe?\" Idk but from what I figured the name babe was a term solely used for your SO. needless to say we had a talk as I was a bit pissed at her talking like this to another guy, she used to have a crush on. Am I out of line for getting mad at this?", "summary": "Saw gf message she said some out of line things I got mad about it. Was this the right course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_4d9ztz", "subreddit": "running", "title": "New to running. Hints/Tips/Info?", "post": "I started running about a month ago after being only a commuting cyclist for the last 6 years.\n\nThe last time I did any running was in high school track and it was all sprints. 100-200m and long jump. So, this is my first experience with anything longer.\n\nThe first few weeks were alright but in the last 3-4 runs that I've been on I've started to get an intense burning pain in my calves within the first mile and have been cutting my runs shorter than goal distance.\n\nThis really sucks and has a very negative effect on my motivation.\n\nI trust the Reddit community more than Joe Schmoe  over at Whatever Blog, so here I am asking for help!", "summary": "New to distance running/running in general. Burning calves are holding me back. Help?!"}
{"id": "t3_4066mb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by shitting in public. NSFW?", "post": "This actually just happened and I'm still dealing with the consequences as I type this. It is 7:30 Saturday morning and I brought my car to the dealership to get it worked on. I had to shit something fierce as I waited for them to open. As soon as they took the keys I headed straight for the John. I'm sitting there for a few minutes when all of a sudden the bathroom lights cut off and I'm now completely in the dark. It was one of those motion lights that cuts off with a timer. My first thought was \"how am I gonna know when I'm done wiping?\" I knew what had to be done. I stood up and pulled up my pants enough to cover my genitals but obviously my ass was still quite barren. I open the stall door expecting that to be enough to trigger the motion light to cut back on. No such luck. I knew venturing out further was a big risk but I had already gone too far. I took 2 more steps when BAM the door swung open and the lights clicked on. I had two options. I could stand there and face my demise head on, or hightail it back into the stall. I tried to be quick about it but there was no way I wasn't getting caught. I can only imagine the instant shock they must have been in to see my very pale, very hairy ass as I scurried back into the stall. I wiped as fast as I could and got out of there. Only seeing a pair of nikes and khaki pants as I washed my hands and darted out the door. Now I'm sitting in the waiting room, face to face with the only other man in the world who knows my dark secret. He hates my guts I can just feel it.", "summary": "shat in public, motion lights cut off. Caught bare assed trying to trigger motion lights back on. Kill me."}
{"id": "t3_a3t5o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dearest Nerds, please guide me on buying a totally sweet phone.  Thanks.", "post": "Hey, guys.  I've had my phone now for over five years and while it has more than stood the test of time, I think it's time to move on.  I'm looking for a phone that is 3G, or whatever G is the most current nowadays and probably a touch-screen of some sort.\n\nI'd like to stay away from buying an iPhone as I feel the second I get one, it will quickly be replaced by the newest version that comes with a slightly larger headphone jack or some bullshit, rendering mine useless.\n\nI use AT&T and will not be switching providers, so please use this information in your advice.  Price is of no concern, so use your imagination.  Not your literal imagination, though, because it is very hard for AT&T to bill me on that.\n\nI've come to reddit because, I can honestly say, this section of the internet has genuinely won me over for being so intelligent and insightful.  I love you.", "summary": "I want a new smart phone of some kind.  3G+, wireless internet, perhaps GPS-capable.  Help."}
{"id": "t3_33s0l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I get my boyfriend (31/M) to stop correcting me (27/F) and others? Flat-out asking didn't work.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. He is a professor with a master's degree,  working on a PhD. I, on the other hand, dropped out of college my sophomore year. I'm back in school now, though, and should graduate with a Bachelor's degree in two more years.  \n\nI love that my boyfriend is so smart, but anytime I make a grammar/spelling/math mistake, no matter how small, he not only corrects me but laughs at me. For instance, I mispronounced a word the other day, and he wouldn't shut up about it for a solid three minutes or so. He laughed, and said I pronounced it the way \"someone who's only seen the word in books but has never heard it spoken\" would say it. Then he mocked me by saying the word the way I pronounced it a few times. \n\nHe also likes to correct others as well. We play in a couple of role-playing games, and he had to point out that someone made a mistake by saying \"consecrated\" instead of \"desecrated\", and laughing about it. I told him that the way he was correcting people was rude, but he still does it all the time. \n\nMy question is, what can I do to get him to stop? It makes him look like a jackass, but he's honestly a great person and I don't want people to get the wrong impression of him. Apparently, outright telling him that it's rude did not work.", "summary": "Super smart boyfriend corrects everyone, myself included. I told him that the habit is rude, but it hasn't stopped him. What can I do to make him quit?"}
{"id": "t3_1gf7yl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24m] Asking someone out on fb", "post": "I met someone [22f] a few years back and I was pretty sure we had a bit of spark but I never followed it up because I was seeing someone else at the time and then I moved away for a few years. Just moved back to my hometown and I was thinking of trying to get a date. We've not spoken in years and I'm ok with women but not usually the sort of person to be that forward. Is it ok to just strike up conversation with someone randomly on facebook? Is there a way of doing it without looking weird?", "summary": "Fancy someone who I've not spoken to in years, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_35rdmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26/F] boyfriend [29/M] will never tell his family about me.", "post": "I've been with this guy for almost four months, and we're very much in love. It's gotten pretty serious pretty quickly, but in a way that we're both comfortable with and that seems like it's going to last. He comes from quite a religious background, and while he isn't practicing his family is very religious, conservative, and judgmental. They live several states away and he is somewhat estranged from most of them. He hasn't told any of them about me yet, and the other day he told me that he probably won't ever tell them, unless we're about to get married (which isn't anytime soon).  \n\n\u00a0\n\nThis bothers me, but I'm not really sure why, or if it should matter. I'm reasonably close with my family and he's met both my parents and sister, which he's been fine with and has gone well. He says that he just doesn't want to deal with his family's judgement, or questions about his personal life, which I get. But if I'm going to be part of his life long term, I feel weird about them not even knowing I exist. It makes me feel sort of insecure about our relationship and whether he feels as serious about it as I do.\n\n\u00a0\n\nIs this something I should be worried about, or do I need to just learn to accept it? I know that I can't understand where he's coming from, since I've never had these kinds of problems with my family. Is it unfair of me to be stressed about this? Or is it a red flag for the relationship?\n\n\u00a0\n\nI'd really like to hear thoughts!", "summary": "My boyfriend will never tell his family I exist, unless we end up getting married. This bothers me but I don't know if it's something I should really be worried about."}
{"id": "t3_2rgzft", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying my aunt's prized china and dropped the remains of her mother on the rug.", "post": "So this happened yesterday and I haven't talked to my aunt since. \n\nMy family and I were visiting our aunt and uncle for their son's birthday. Near the end of the night I had had quite a few drinks and my brain process wasn't doing so well and I wasn't thinking about my decisions. \n\nMy dad got my cousin a brand new lacrosse stick and he was messing around with it in the hall hitting a ball against the door. Stupidly I asked if I could try out his stick because I was actually pretty good at lacrosse.\n\n I back away from the hall and into the living room all the way to the furtherest wall. Everyone there stops and stares at me as a release a war cry and charge my cousin. Before I even make it in the hall, I trip on a rug and my lacrosse stick goes flying towards a shelf containing my aunt's little glass trinkets passed down to her from previous generations and all sorts of expensive vases she bought from auctions.\n\n Every pair of eyes at the party watch as the stick knocks down and smashes every trinket and five of the seven vases. As they hit the ground I noticed one had strange black powder and as slow as my brain was at the moment I realized it was my aunt's urn and her mother's ashes were spread out all over her stupid fucking rug that I tripped over. My aunt was carrying a tray and had just walked into the room when it happen. She emitted a weird squeak and then fainted and shattered the tray and cups. My family left in embarrassment before she woke up. fml...", "summary": "Made my aunt pass out by smashing her expensive vases and urn with my cousin's lacrosse stick."}
{"id": "t3_2itchj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(CA) Getting paid into a credit or debit account for small purchases?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nNot sure how to type this out so I'll use bullet points;\n\n* Just got my first card credit card from Scotiabank\n* Also just got my first Canadian job\n* All my major expenses (e.g. Rent) are handled by another account which is in a relatives name (because they're paying for it)\n* I would like to build up some sort of credit rating if at all possible\n* Which means I should use the credit card for all my small purchases as long as I can pay it back, right?\n* BUT if I already have money IN the credit account, does it still count? As in, will having $50 in the account and then buying something for $20 help with building credit? I'll still have a positive balance at the end of the month\n* I only ask because I also have a debit card. The credit charges for cash withdrawals which is a mild hassle, but the credit card is also a visa unlike the debit.", "summary": "Does having money in the credit account affect whether I get credit for making on time payments? Also should I get paid into a credit or debit account for small daily purchases (e.g. today I spent $8 at the grocery, debit or credit?)"}
{"id": "t3_4scq6y", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Possible ADD/ADHD?", "post": "18 year old, Male. 5'7\" ~140lbs.  White  \n  \nOver the last three or so years, when I started dual enrollment, I started hitting a wall. I've never been able to sit down and focus on anything, unless it stimulated me in several areas at once(that is to say, made me think in multiple ways, and some body movement). It hadn't really mattered before, as I tended to get any academic work done fairly quickly, and my elementary school and high school didn't require much time studying. When I started taking college classes and needed to do more work outside of the classroom, I couldn't, and still cannot, concentrate. It feels as though I have multiple trains of thought, and each takes a brief turn at center stage. Some come back and become recurring, normally whatever my work was, and some just pop in and vanish.  \n  \nI often use high amounts of caffeine in an attempt to stay focused, although I haven't been lately. There is no difference. I started using nicotine for the same reason.  \nLately, I got Adderall from a friend, 10mg instant release. I've used one a day, for four days now, and it helps immensely.  \nEssentially, what I'm asking is, based on this might I actually have a condition to diagnose and treat, or do I just have low attention span which I'm not trying to validate.    \nWhen I was very young my teachers thought I had it, but my doctor refused to diagnose, as if present it wasn't severe, and she didn't want to medicate a small child with psychiatric drugs.  \nI should mention that this worsened with depression, as I couldn't muster the fortitude to do anything, and when I did, I quickly lost focus and gave up.", "summary": "symptoms: Multiple trains of thought occupy the forefront of my mind. Cannot focus on anything for very long, even things I enjoy."}
{"id": "t3_y1o9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fallen out with my ex, 4 months AFTER we broke up. Need help with a text i recieved.", "post": "Hi all.\nBit of backstory.\nGf is 20 i am 23\nWe went out for 2 1/2 years, was a good breakup due to us both feeling the same about the relationship, it had sizzled out.\nMet in work, she worked on the same department as me. I have entertained the thought this was a factor in our break up, but thats another story.\n\nWe fell out a week ago because she was about to say something, something she used to say while we were going out that hurt me as a person. Thats why she would say it. \nBefore she could finish i interjected and said plain and simply 'you know what jenny? I just don't like you anymore.' \njenny is a fake name.\n\nNow she smiles and has an awkward laugh when she is out of her comfort zone, and she did a lot of this.\nShe asked me why a few times and i didnt feel the need to explain everything i have realised since we broke up, so i said she had changed, become more self absorbed. Cared about things that just didnt matter. \nAnyway i recieve a text saying exactly this\n'thought id let you know i got the job at *name of place* in *name of area* so ill be leaving soon.'\n\nWhat do i reply to this? If i reply at all.\n\nThanks for reading all of it guys", "summary": "ex gf sends me a text saying she is leaving the job we work at, need help with reply"}
{"id": "t3_13uufb", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[27M] Recently ended a 5 year relationship with a [25F] due to cheating. I'm Lost", "post": "The short story: Its been a long summer. Took a \"break\" for her to figure things out, some boundaries were broken, I tried to break it off, we got back together because she was supposedly done with it all, a few weeks later I got suspicious, read her email, found out she was cheating, I gave her until the end of the month to move out\n\nIts such a aweful feeling. When she is here, I hate her for being here, when she is gone (at his place) I hate her for being there. She found an apt and is moving out at the end of the week. She wants a friendship, but I have told her that I don't know about a friendship but at the very least I need some time alone to get over her so it wouldn't be for a while.\n\nI know \"it gets better\", but its really hard right now. Its so weird to hate someone so much yet still love them. I was used to sex 4/5 times a week and going down to none is tough. Luckily I have a huge support system of friends/family (including some of her close friends that ended up supporting me over it all).\n\nI just want to stop being angry. Its almost debilitating. I've debated seeing someone, but given the details I don't see it going anywhere besides someone telling me I'm right.\n\nI don't really have anything to ask, I just needed to type... trying to find any outlet at this point.", "summary": "Fuck cheating, this sucks"}
{"id": "t3_1yh8x0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "rawr!", "post": "woke up this am because a skunk sprayed the intake vents or got trapped under the house and sprayed, so had to open all the windows and let the snow and sunlight do its job to vent the house. went to the fridge, no monster energy drink. rawr. drive the 12 miles to rite aid and they too are out of monster. bastards. \ngo to work and mangle my shoulder on a mountain check (yes, it's still there) on my second run. come home, hpuse still stinks, no skunk in sight  and im stuck in my snowboard jacket because my shoulder hurts too damn bad to manipulate my way out of it. \n\nfuck this shit I wanna go back to texas.", "summary": "first world winter problems"}
{"id": "t3_o0tli", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What subreddit do I post this on if I want to find someone who wants to have a relationship?", "post": "So, I am an 18 year old guy in Garwood who is tired of being single. I have literally been single my entire life. lol I am really chill, but I am also extreamly shy. (Like a Socially Awkward Penguin mixed with Good Guy Greg) I am sorry but I am really shallow and can only see cute girls as date able. I know, it is a huge first world problem...But I can only like girls shorter than me, they have to be skinny, shy, and have a cute face with pretty eyes. I promise you that I am not that bad looking, I may not be as good looking as my brother, but all the girls who think I am gay say that they would date me in an instant because I am \"The perfect guy\" but I am so scared to start a relationship that I have friend zoned myself and just went on telling girls that I was Bi. (I am really actually metro sexual.) This is my facebook if you guys think I am bad looking.", "summary": "Shallow Forever Aloner is looking for a short cute girl near Garwood Please do not spam me, It took me a lot of courage to even post this...Please do not make me regret it..."}
{"id": "t3_3ggehl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my cousin a lift and discovering she left her purse in my car.", "post": "This happened on Saturday night. It all started off with my cousin texting me asking me if I could give her a lift into town so she could go on a night out and that she'd cover my petrol. No Problem.\n\nAfter giving her a lift and dropping her off at the long strip of bars and clubs, I realised that she'd forgotten her purse and left it in my car. No problem, I know where she's heading, I'll just jump out and run after her to give it her back.\n\nThis is where the fuck up happens, after finding her and returning her purse I happen to bump into my drunken, recent ex girlfriend and she see's me with an unknown girl. She begins to accuse me of stalking her into town and trying to make her jealous with this girl and this prompts a massive argument.\n\nOut of nowhere her new guy, also drunk, comes charging in out of nowhere and begins getting confrontational with me. Now i'm not one for physical violence but I was angry. Anyway this douche decides to start getting in my face and i'm not having it so out of nowhere I lamp him in the nose and he drops to the floor and is bleeding. Result.\n\nExcept now I have an excruciating pain my hand and it immediately begins to swell. After a long wait in A&E on a Saturday night I discover I have broken two knuckles and chipped a bone in my hand.", "summary": "Cousin forgets purse on a night out, I give it her, bump into psycho ex, fight new boyfriend and fuck my hand up."}
{"id": "t3_sng01", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just broke up with my girlfriend. Feels incredibly fine. Any similar experiences?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now. And we literally just broke up 30 minutes ago. What happened was that we both realized we were different. She thought we wanted different things. I thought that we loved a person differently(ie. I felt she didn't love me the same way I loved her). Now I feel incredibly ok. Not that im ecstatic but I feel a lot better(we had broken up twice before and got back together each time). I think it's because I finally realized that we're different and love each other differently. So reddit, have you had any similar experiences where you felt surprisingly fine after a break up? If so, did you know why?\nP.S. we are still best friends and we are going to maintain a close relationship purely as friends.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up. Feels surprisingly fine. Any similar experiences and what made you feel so fine about the breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_3jaa2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (31 F) think my mother (62 F) is a compulsive hoarder.", "post": "My mum has always hated getting rid of things. She always keeps all take out containers, jam jars, newspapers and yogurt pots that she gets, she has cupboards full of them. She would rather eat obviously mouldy or out of date food than throw it away. When she moved into her current house me and my sister helped her move and we found stacks of twenty year old newspapers and tins in the cupboard dating back to 1984! But her house has always been messy and cluttered but not terrible...two years ago my step father died, it was fairly sudden, a melanoma that spread from his ear to everywhere and he died in less than a year after diagnosis. My mum fairly typically didn't react very publicly to this, she is a very self controlled and private person. We love each other very much, but we're not close...\n\nAnd I recently realised that she has been avoiding me or my sister or any family members at all going to her house for any reason. I haven't seen her house for at least two years now. She's fairly subtle about it, but the pattern is very much there...And its just ringing alarm bells for me. My sister lives a very busy life abroad, I live in another town with my husband and daughter (and no car) so popping round isn't really an option for either of us.\n\nI have no idea how to bring it up. Up until now I've always simply respected her privacy and independent life, we've just never really been close in that way. I don't even think she would admit that it's a problem. My grandmother was exactly the same. But I'm worried that since my step dads death it will have spiralled. I worry about her health and safety. I am worried about her mental well being...\n\nI am open to any ideas on how to address this with her.", "summary": "I think my mum is a hoarder and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_36a719", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by holding in a fart so long that it ruined my sexytime", "post": "This happened on Friday.\n\nI'd been seeing this girl for about a month, taking it slow.  We'd fooled around a bit, the tension was high and we were both ready to unleash.  I don't know what I ate, but I had a rogue fart all night and I just could not get myself into a place where I could slip it out.  It grew, and grew, and eventually was so large that it was not something I could just seep out quietly in the bathroom (right next to her bed).  \n\nWe were getting saucy and I was hoping it would subside long enough to get some action, but she climbed on top of me and I quickly realized that I could not hold this.  It had to come out of me.  I panicked, \"I have to run to my car real fast, I forgot the condoms in my glovebox\".  I haven't worn a condom since high school and I wasn't planning on wearing one this evening, we were being safe though so don't worry about it.  Anyways, I get to my car, unleash what I could describe as the Sistine Chapel Ceiling of flatulence. I was Michelangelo and my spinach risotto from dinner was my brush.   I then run across the street, pick up some Trojans, and go upstairs.  \n\nWe get it back on, I feel good, but the second I opened that Trojan package, the lovely smell and slimy texture just ruined everything about it, [my reaction when](\n\nIt ruined the entire evening for me and I just couldn't get the situation going for a third time, so we both fell asleep sexually frustrated (until morning).", "summary": "Held in a fart, it grew into something so large I couldn't slip it out, panicked and lied about condoms, ruined my entire date night and sexy time."}
{"id": "t3_t6c94", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Co-sleeping safety...rail vs. bumper", "post": "We put our 3.5 month old son to sleep in his co-sleeper but in the early hours of the morning I bring to him bed with us for side nursing that I can sleep through.  The boy is now successfully rolling from his tummy to his back, is trying to roll from back to tummy and is generally on the move.  \n\nIt seems like it is time to add a safety device to prevent the boy from rolling off our bed...The two main options seem to be rails vs. bumpers.  I like the [rails] but my husband worries they might be overly cumbersome.  My husband is a fan of the [bumpers] ) but I worry they are suffocation risks.  Has anyone had success with rails or bumpers?  \n\nWe had considered removing our bed frame and box spring and putting the mattress on the ground but this doesn't really appeal to us.  Dust, inconvenience, need to dissemble/store spare bed parts, etc. - we'd rather enhance the safety of our bed if this is possible.\n\nWe have been following the safe co-sleeping guidelines on the [PhD in parenting blog] - I also like the summary of the research supporting co-sleeping safety and benefits here for any skeptics out there.", "summary": "co-sleeping...[rails] or [bumpers]("}
{"id": "t3_xh7yb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit we just got married and barely have sex.. is this normal, men of reddit?", "post": "I recently read the thread, Does your sex life change after you're married, and was hoping to find some answers. I found that a lot of couples had no decline in their sex life after marriage. \n\nSo here is some back story...we stopped having sex for awhile before we got married for religious reasons, we still would occasionally have sex but not nearly as often. We have been married for almost nine months now, and I'll be lucky if we have sex once every two weeks. When I bring up why we don't have more sex he says he is tired. He does work a lot but its mainly on the weekends (The bulk of the hours). On days when he is off, I feel like I'm begging for sex. Any ideas people of reddit.", "summary": "got married nine months ago and my husband and I barely have sex. Help"}
{"id": "t3_3xnjd5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M[22] Looking for some real advice.......pretty confused at the moment", "post": "Hey everyone,\nIm not sure if this is just an isolated situation, or if I'm missing something about the whole dating game, but here goes. Basically me and a girl were seeing each other for a few months (2-3) and things were awesome. At the two month mark she even came away with me, it was a fun weekend where she was able to meet all my friends and kinda hang with the group. About a week after this weekend, she started ghosting me........more sparatic texts, bailing on hangouts, all that fun stuff. I really liked her and honestly wasn't prepared for this (lasted about 2 weeks before i broached the issue). We never talked about feelings or explicitly outlined our relationship.....but honestly I never even once sat down and thought about it, we saw each other like 2-3 times a week and having a lot of fun, seemed really natural. I was enjoying the moments and falling for her in the process. Basically I confronted her, and she went back to her ex (I found out from a 3rd party). She told me we never \"DTR'ed\" and I wasn't allowed to be mad because she didnt know where my head was at.........we weren't technically exclusive so this is in someway my \"fault\" or a me issue just as much as a her issue. Im the one who made all the dates, all the hangouts, asked her to meet my friends, etc. I thought the whole BF/GF would just happen naturally........from an outside perspective.....is this on me? Did I miss a step here.......we were just dating like 2 adults and then this shit happens. I even told her I could get past the ex and wanted to keep seeing her.....as she even insisted that her and her ex aren't technically back togethor (this obviously didnt work though). May I add this same ex was cheating on her their entire relationship", "summary": "Just need an opinion on dating and my situation above!"}
{"id": "t3_3gjove", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18/F) parents (59/F & 60/M) are moving across the country and expect me to move with them. How to tell them I want to stay here?", "post": "I've lived in New York my entire life, and I love it here. I live in a big city north of NYC and I love everything about it. I have good friends and a boyfriend I adore. My parents have recently decided to put our house up for sale and move over to Arizona, which I feel would be a drastic change for me, and every time they have talked to me about it, they say they \"need\" me in Arizona with them, and that I'm going to love it there.\n\nI really don't want to move there. I have tried to have an open mind about it, but every possible outcome the cons outweigh the pros. It had been very difficult for me to make and keep friends, having a very tough high school experience and I've finally made some lasting bonds and to up and move would be the worst, especially with them all going to college. Plus I have my boyfriend, who I have an amazing connection with, he's even said I can move in with him (which I don't think I'd want to do because he lives in NJ and my parents would disapprove). \n\nI just graduated high school and am currently working this year part time, and planned to go to a local college next fall. My older siblings both live in NY and I have a strong connection with my sister, I couldn't bare being so far away from her. How can I make it work so that I don't have to move with them? Thing is, I don't know if I could afford my own place here (It's pretty expensive) and I'm not sure if I could live with my sister. \n\nAny advice on how to talk to them about it? My dad is very stern and insists he knows best for me, when he really has no clue/doesn't pay attention to my life. I'm scared of saying no to him and how he'll react. And while I'm technically an adult being 18, if I got cut off from them I'd have a very hard time getting by financially.", "summary": "Parents moving from NY to AZ, expect me to drop friends/boyfriend/sister to move with them. I don't want to but don't know if I have any other options."}
{"id": "t3_3mju6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(30) Blocked F(21) on Xbox live", "post": "I F(22) had been playing xbox live and made a friend M(30) who I played with and chatted to often. He knew I had a bf but and was okay with being friends.\n\nWe had a lot in common and he frequently left me msgs. The other night I saw he left me another msg saying Hi. He had recently mentioned he wanted to text me a picture of himself so I could know who I was talking to (I declined since I have a bf). I later noticed that he had not only deleted me but also blocked me since then. This was in the period of one day.\n\nI am quite upset because we really connected and I'm not sure why he suddenly left without any explanation. I don't know if it's because he may have had feelings for me or because he just decided he doesn't like me... I have no idea.", "summary": "Why did M(30) block me F(21) on xbox when I thought we were friends?"}
{"id": "t3_4a9j0g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Co-worker (30F), who has feelings for me, is not happy with her marriage and wants to use me (28M) as a way to get out of it.", "post": "So, a co-worker of mine (30F) and I (28 M) have gotten very close over the last few years at work.  It's obvious we both have developed feelings for each other but the problem is that she is married (for 2 years) and constantly hints to me that she isn't happy with how things have turned out.  It's incredibly annoying since if she wasn't married we would definitely be dating and I don't know what she expects me to say in these situations.  I'm not the kind of person who would ever help someone commit infidelity, but the problem is, it seems like wants me to.  \n\nFor example, both of us went to a work conference in another city together and she asked me if we could stay in the same hotel room.  I found it really strange but didn't want to make things weird between us so I just said, \"Yeah, that's fine\".  Obviously, nothing happened when we stayed together since it would've been a disaster to sleep with someone who I work with and it would've wrecked my conscience, considering she's married.  There have been so many examples of similar things happening and it's getting to the point where I'm trying to avoid her now.\n\nLuckily, she'll be leaving this job in 3 months and I probably won't see her again, but it's tough because I really like her and haven't met someone who I've clicked with so well.  \n\nBasically, how should I handle these next 3 months and how do I stop wasting my time thinking about a person who I can't be with?", "summary": "Co-worker and I have become really close friends over the last few years and both have developed feelings for each other."}
{"id": "t3_3h0sde", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying a $1200 laptop with all my school work on it", "post": "Short and sweet. I just finished my 2nd year of college so i finally have time to myself so i decide to re sub to wow and chat with some old friends. I'm playing it enjoying it when i get the thought....\"i should totally get a coffee\". So naturally i did..... i'm sipping my coffee finishing some quests when i put my coffee onto the coaster. See this is where it gets good my dad has these super shitty coasters that are barley the size of the bottom of the cup. I misplaced this cup by an eighth of an inch and it tips over, all over the right hand side of my laptop. I freak the fuck out i pull the power cable slam down the power button like i was trying to suffocate an M&M and run downstairs. I grab a towel and blanket this thing while tipping it upside down to ensure all the coffee could escape. My mom lysols the fuck out of the keyboard which i feel could have caused some damage to it on its own. We use compressed air and ensure everything is gone. After waiting 30 or so minutes my mom insists we turn it on and it does. I turn it on to ensure the keys are working and everything is, its as good as the day i got it. I originally wanted to turn it on see if everything works then immediately off but some guildies needed help with shit so i got back into the game. Not even 20 minutes in the screen blacks out and stops working. The computer continues to try and boot itself back up again only to fail at the dell logo. I pressed the power down to ensure it was off. I waited another hour i go to turn it on and nothing its dead and so are my dreams.", "summary": "Poured coffee all over my laptop and due to ignorance i fucked it up.....WoW ruining my life againnnnnnn."}
{"id": "t3_2eom5v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By moving my bed NSFW", "post": "This is my first post and I know my grammar sucks, so please feel free to correct me.\nHere is some back story: I'm an 18 year old boy and I just started my first year of college. I still live at home with my parents and today I decided to purchase a desk for my room. \nSo my dad and I carry up the desk to my room and we start to rearrange some stuff so I can put my desk in front of a window. Now it's time to move my bed. Seeing as I'm a teenage boy and I tend to whack off every once in a while I sometimes have to clean myself up with a sock. For some reason instead throwing away the sock or cleaning it, etc. I threw it under my bed and they built up after a while. Today I forgot they were there because I have had a girlfriend for a couple months now and I find I don't have to choke the chicken that often. Now we move my bed about three or four feet and next thing you know my dad is walking through a mountain of socks. He then says, **\"Wow are you saving these for something special?\"** and then bends down and grabs a hand full. In that moment I felt my balls get sucked back into my body all while my dad was felling the crusty remains of his potential grand-kids. He then walked out of the room looking as white as a ghost. This happened maybe 15 minutes ago. By the way I'm sitting at my desk enjoying the view out my window.", "summary": "I bought a desk. Rearranged my room with my dad. He then finds and picks up my crusty cum socks.  "}
{"id": "t3_2oi63b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [21M] want to ask out this girl [18-19] from class. Need some advice.", "post": "Some background. One weekend I went out to a restaurant with friends and low and behold she works there. At this time I hadn't noticed we were in a class together, but the following week I see her in class and make eye contact. Froze up on the spot. Weekend comes back around, go to same restaurant, see her again. We both caught each other looking a couple times. We don't talk. Planned on talking to her in class, but there is honestly zero opportunity to do so before, during or after. At this point I'm terrified to talk to her, but work up the courage to go to her work and order some food, alone this time. See her and we talk for a few minutes, and she seems pretty nice and interesting enough to where I'd like to know more about her, but we got interrupted by a moderately drunk woman banging on a door and she just up and walked away and sat down with her coworker without saying a word.\n\nHaven't spoken to her since and that was three weeks ago. So, finally, here is my question. Should I go back up there and try talking to her again? At this point it's been on my mind for so long I'm too terrified to do anything.", "summary": "See girl from class at her work. Spoke to her once and kinda got blow off (walked away without a word after an interruption). Three weeks later, without having spoken, I want to go back up there and talk to her, but I'm terrified. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3qrvi1", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Breaking grocery store law will cost you", "post": "Happened ~1 hour ago. So I am shopping at Walmart picking up some groceries and a last-minute Star Wars Halloween costume.  As I approach the end of my shopping journey I pull into the \"quick lane\". As the young woman two customers in front of me approaches the counter I realize the the crime she is about to commit, roughly 75 cosmetics products reside in her cart. Despite this, the young lass behind the counter starts to ring her up. Most people in the queue are noticeably frustrated and a helpful Walmart employee opens up another lane close-by to keep my lane from backing up. Since I am in no real hurry, I choose to stay in line behind the woman, pulling up in line behind her; this is when I notice my opportunity for sweet sweet petty revenge. On the bottom of her cart is a pallet of water bottles, as the checkout clerk finishes the last remaining cosmetics items I notice that the woman fails to mention to the clerk that she has forgotten to ring up the water. As the woman reaches for her pocket book I pipe up \"Excuse me Ms. clerk, did you happen to ring up the pallet of water under this woman's cart?\", to which she replies \"I have not, thank you\", a small perk appearing on her face. The woman shot me a quick glare, as I had clearly foiled her plans to obtain a few free drinks, which I managed to awkwardly dodge by pretending to be interested in a future cigarette purchase. I hope, in the future, this justice will make her think twice before breaking the laws of grocery store checkout lines.", "summary": "Woman tries to purchase ~75 items in the quick lane, so I don't allow her to steal."}
{"id": "t3_12gh6b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I [29M] move too far [22F]?", "post": "We have been meeting for a month now. She just ended her 6-year long relationship so I didn't want to hurry things up. At the beginning we were mainly chatting making sure to feel comfortable around each other (especially that I am her former tutor). Our acquaintance evolved slowly and then\u2026 bam! Suddenly on our 2 last meetings we shared a lot of physical contact (comparing to previous ones), we danced intimately, teased each other etc. Finally things were going the right way. At least I thought so. \n\nLater in the evening wanting to surprise her I showed up after her classes to walk her home (as I did few times before). That pissed her off\u2026 She even made a comment that I pestered her. We spent most of the time in awkward silence. Since then (few days ago) she seems depressed whenever we pass each other on the campus and she refused my invitation to get together. Later she answered one of my texts explaining that I scared her a bit and she is too busy to meet. We still text sometimes but I can smell reluctance from a mile.\n\nShe left the town till Sunday and I am here thinking what should I do to clear things up. I decided to give her some time and try to apologize and somehow explain myself next week. Any advice how to do it and not being too pushy about it? Or maybe I already screwed up?", "summary": "did creepy move, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_2e9xb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] with my 'rebound relationship' [29 F] duration one month", "post": "So I've seen her several times, we've had sex multiple times, the sex gets better and better. I like her personally, we seem very compatible. However, I'm only a few months (less than four) out of a very long term relationship. \n\nShe's a rebound relationship, obviously. I am not presuming that all rebound relationships are bad - although I do understand they can be risky (perhaps more for her than for me, IDK).\n\nI went ahead and invited her on a weekend trip recently, which was lots of fun - saw some sights but basically just stayed in the house and was naked for the entire weekend. :-)\n\nNow that I've been home for a few days, I start to feel nervous. I don't have a huge drive to see other people or stop seeing this girl, but I feel like I'm starting to get 'clingy' and 'needy' - like I need to call her or message her at least daily. I don't want to be that person, I think being clingy and needy also was a feature in my previous relationship and frankly it sets me up for bad stuff down the line.\n\nSo I made a point yesterday of not calling or texting her at all. I communicated well about this with her beforehand, to let her know I'd be doing that. Still, it wasn't easy.... I really did want to call her or message her.... I guess just to sort of make sure she was still out there or something (CLINGINESS!). But I didn't. \n\nAnyways, my plan is to wait until the end of today and simply text her and ask when I can see her next. But the larger question is, what is \"too fast\" for a rebound relationship, or a relationship in general, particularly since I think I have a tendency to get clingy, needy, and have poor boundaries when I really like someone? Should I continue to build in \"days off\" from calling her or texting her? Is there some other way I can keep the pace of this comfortable so I don't get overwhelmed? How do other people put themselves first in a healthy way in a new relationship? I confess I'm probably not that good at it....", "summary": "Only been seeing a girl for a little over a month. Jumped into having her with me for a weekend trip. Like her a lot. Starting to feel clingy and needy. Now trying to make a point of getting a little space from her. How do I know if I'm moving too fast?"}
{"id": "t3_4fp68f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [24M] been dating for 2 months,he's way too busy and timid about dating", "post": "Been seeing him for two months we were friends before for a year. \nI was the one to ask him out and for two months it was always me that asked to go anywhere or I would tag along where he's going. I always have to hold his hands or else it wouldn't happen or message him first.\n\nSo I just straight up asked him if he likes me he said yes\nbut just feels like he has no interest or too busy to be interested in me. We didn't even kiss yet cause he won't do anything if I don't.\n\nI kissed on the cheek like last week\n\nI don't have much experience either, only dated one guy before him so I'm so lost. I like him a lot so should I just be patient and wait for him to get time off from work?", "summary": "Introvert boyfriend and super busy with work. Do I keep asking to see him whenever he gets free time or give him some space?"}
{"id": "t3_mvqnx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Funniest RL Troll story?", "post": "I was wondering what kind of stories you guys had in terms of trolling? I'll tell you mine from recently, I was riding in the car with my sister-in-law, not a bitch stereotype, she was driving and i wanted to fuck with her so I asked her how she could prove that she was actually driving, so she slammed on the brakes, and I made her do it a few more times, making the drivers behind us a little frustrated. Then I said \"Damn I guess all the rumors about women being horrible drivers are true\" she got really mad, I then proceeded to ask her if she was mad bro?", "summary": "Trolled my sister-in-law, Not very well, but she still got troll'd"}
{"id": "t3_2qbq2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] don't see a good ending to this long distance relationship with her [31/F]", "post": "Made throwaway for this.\n\nI'm currently in graduate school in NYC, and generally broke (or at least on limited income). I spent the summer working on a project in the UK and met an amazing woman. It was a beautiful 2 months together. We kept in touch and she decided to visit in early November. It was an amazing week and feelings only grew stronger, but we need to be realistic. She wants to try to make it work, but I just don't see any way this ends well.\n\nI'm spending another 2 years in school and have limited resources for visiting. She's a small business owner and has to run her store. Opportunities for us to visit are few and far between. Even worse, I'm likely to end up working in NYC and her business is taking off, meaning she's likely to stay. We connect so well but I don't think I can carry this on. I don't think I can take going months on end not knowing when we could see each other again, or even knowing if we could ever live together. Has anyone jumped into a long distance relationship like this? With so much uncertainty ? It seems to me that this can only end in heartbreak if we go any further. She really means so much to me.", "summary": "I want to be in a relationship with her, but long distance scares me and our independent goals are getting in the way with no end in sight. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_34zcyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help determining if a girl [19/F] I'm interested in likes me [23/M].", "post": "I've been talking to this girl for about a year now (We work together), we have hung out a few times and have a lot of common interests, but lately she has been acting different. \n\nThe past couple weeks when we eat lunch together she will ask one of her girlfriends in front of me about a guy she is texting and what the meaning of the text is. she has done it multiple times so it seems she is doing it on purpose. Just little things like this guy sends and emoji (smiley or some shit) and asks her friend right in front of me what it means to her. Things get really quiet for a bit and she looks at me and talks about a new subject.\n\nWe are almost inseparable at work. we always go to lunch together and she asks me for help on the most menial of things. I don't know if she is trying to get my attention or hinting at me to back off. I tried to ignore it but can't help but get mad jealous. I think she's knows because I saw her glance at me me multiple times at work. I really want to ask her but I also don't want to potentially ruin our friendship.", "summary": "I like this girl from work and I have no idea how she feels about me."}
{"id": "t3_32rsm5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sharing a meme picture in a Facebook group chat", "post": "This happened about a year ago, it came up in my mind because I thought this was a good FU.\n\nAnyway, me and my friends made a group chat on Facebook for the three of us. We decided to talk about ridiculous things, like politics, girls, world news, and how was our day etc. Nothing too bad, just a normal chat.\n\nOne day, my friend invited my best friend's sister to the group chat (at this time, me and the friend were friends with her on Facebook). As starters, I was not thinking straight and said \"What's up X\" (X is referring to my best friend's sister). Without realizing, I posted a picture from my computer that had an internet meme that was a sexist joke to girls. \n\nShe saw the message and picture, deleted me and my friend and my best friend was not allowed to see me for a while (she showed it to her parents).\n\nI immediately felt like shit and apologized to her parents and her herself. They all accepted and forgave me though. To this day, I'm surprised her boyfriend is not angry at me.", "summary": "Friend invited a friend's sibling to a Facebook group chat, I accidentally posted a picture that was inappropriate and mildly sexist."}
{"id": "t3_29f2g9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Friend [19/m] is going on a power trip and is cutting all of his friends out of his life for that girl [24/m] who is cheating on her boyfriend with him. What should I do now?", "post": "[Original here](\n\nYesterday, I called him and he declined the call, then he texted me saying \"If I decline the call, that means I don't want to be bothered.\" and \"I'm spending time with (girl). This is our day so leave us alone.\" which then I replied with \"You're on a power trip right now and your putting everyone else at a rank lower than your toilet and starting to act all \"alpha-male\" and think you're superior to everyone. Quit rubbing it in.\". He then replied with \"I'm not on a power trip, you're just jealous, so fuck off.\". I talked to my other friends I was with and they said something about finding out who her boyfriend is and telling him about what's going on.\n\nWhat's my best course of action? Tell her boyfriend? Cut him out of my life?", "summary": "friend is going on a power trip and treating his friends like shit and cutting them out of his life for this one girl."}
{"id": "t3_3yyq8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] 1 year, I don't like being in the 'friend zone'", "post": "This is pretty much the guy version of [this](\n) post except I respect what she wants.\n\nFirst of all, I think it's necessary to point out that distance is an issue between us as we're in different countries and she has depression. I'm extremely bad with recounting events so I'll just do a timeline.\n____\nFeb: We started off as friends\n\nJuly: Romantic connection established\n\nAugust: She decided to put me in the dreaded friendzone. I remain in this hole until...\n\nOctober: I asserted strongly to her that if I can't be anyone special in her life, we should probably part ways. She agreed and we stopped talking.\n\nDecember: She messages me saying she missed me so I thought we should start off again. \n\nThe problem is, it's exactly how it was in August when I had been friendzoned. Her feelings for me have completely evaporated while mine still remain. I understand that we have to start from the beginning but when she asks about any potential girls I've been looking at that I might wanna marry and have kids with, hasn't she already defined the boundaries of this relationship?", "summary": "Someone I really really like friend-zoned me, we broke up, she wants to start over yet I'm friend-zoned again. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bjulg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with [16/F] Broke up with her, she's not respecting my boundaries", "post": "My now Ex-GF & I had been together since senior year in high school this past year up until last week where I sat her down, and tried my best to explain to her why it's over. \n\nNot because I'm going away to college a state away but I've been battling depression, anxiety, had that tremendous feeling of no self worth for the longest time. It just felt like it was toxic to keep our relationship going.  I need to get help from therapy, re-connect with friends, and what not.  Don't get me wrong, she showed me me glimpses of who I really am.  She was my first love, and am grateful for that. It's really hard to explain to someone what a warped reality feels like under severe depression. I have little to no control over drowning out these negative thoughts.\n\nFor some reason, she is not getting the whole no contact rule. Okay, I fucked up by contacting her the day after we split. Dating is new to me.  Sigh.\n\nI then realized I can't talk to her or be friends with her moving forward. It conjures up negative thoughts, irrational behavior issues, and she get's angry at me when I try to explain what I'm going through.  (IE, telling me to 'suck it up' isn't helping. ) Plus, she's seeing another dude at the moment. She moved on faster than I did and pushing onto me a tremendous amount of guilt for what I did.\n\nHelp? What should I do moving forward? I don't want to be that ex who clings onto her for emotional support.  Obviously, I won't be dating for a while. I've also removed her from social media for obvious reasons.", "summary": "EX-GF and I had a messy break up."}
{"id": "t3_3kmj0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with [23 M] A throwaway Instagram DM said SO is cheating?", "post": "Last week I got a random comment on one of my instagram photos telling me to check my DMs. Today, I finally updated my app and saw the actual message from what appears to be a throwaway account. \n\nThere are 4 messages all together sent within a 9 minute time span. \n\nThe first message, they tell me they have some info on my SO and warning me not to run to him with the news. \n\nThe second message, they say they have proof. That my SO DMs and flirts with their friend in the city he use to live in. How she is telling me because girls have to stick together. \n\nThrird message says that he blows up their friends facebook and asks for me to surprise him in person asking to check his facebook messages. \n\nFourth message, they call my SO a loser and tell me I shouldn't be with him. (along with some more personal info about him) \n\nI'm wondering what should I do? I replied to them (a week later, which is today) asking for them to send me the proof they have, however, it seems like their account is a throwaway and that they will probably not get back to me. Especially after a whole week of no reply. It's a little out of line to ask my SO to see their facebook messages, isn't it? Is there a way to find out who sent me these message? No idea what I can do or should do? Pretend it never happened?", "summary": "Stranger that seems to know my SO personally sends me DM on Instagram saying he's cheating on me. Don't know what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3e69xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [20F] for 3 months, those three big words..", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nI've been officially dating my girlfriend for almost three months. Before this we were hooking up for about a month before we put a title on it. I've dated before, but never have had a relationship as serious as this. This is my first \"serious\" relationship, and i'm not trying to rush anything. This girl just continues to blow my mind. She just bought a plane ticket to come to a wedding I invited her to that several states away. I know most of her extended family, I know her weaknesses and her aspirations, and she knows mine. I'm sure I have feelings for her. I guess what I'm wondering is whether it's normal for the male (given today;s societal roles) to say the three big words first, or if I should hold off and wait until she says them first.", "summary": "4 months of relations, 3 months in a relationship, should I be the first to tell her the three big words."}
{"id": "t3_3rveoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Family] My [26f] cousin [21f] has accused me of hitting on her bf [21m].", "post": "This is a throw away, I'm on mobile and all these names are fake. \n\nI don't even know where to begin because I was caught so off guard by this and have no idea how long it has been going on for. \n\nI have been in the army for 6 years, only going home twice a year and seeing my extended family for Christmas.  There has been some family drama before, (brother is a drug addict and father is mentally ill), but nothing that has ever involved extended family.  \n\nMy cousin Kim [21f] and I had been very close growing up. Close enough that I'd even considered her a sister.  While she was in high school she met Dave [21m]. They have been joined at the hip ever since. \nBecause I only come home twice a year, I've really only met Dave a handful of times, but he comes to all my family's  functions. So I have always treated him like family.  I have been over this 1000 times and I still have no idea where these accusations are coming from but apparently Kim was extremely upset. \n\n\u2022I have only met Dave at family functions\n\n\u2022I have always been polite\n\n\u2022I have never been alone with Dave, ever. \n\n\u2022I have not been single during any of the times I had been home\n\n\u2022I have never talked to Dave outside of family functions, or with out other family members present\n\nThis has become a major issue. Now that I have moved back to my home state, I'd like to start going to more family functions. I have reached out to all of my extended family with out response and now I feel unwelcomed, and uninvited.  I haven't been able to attend Thanksgiving in years and now I don't think I should. I feel rejected from my own family. If I really had done something to hurt someone I wish they would have just been honest and confronted me. I'd never do anything inappropriate or hurtful intentionally.  Especially because I love Kim. She's amazing.", "summary": "My cousin accused me of making a pass at her bf, it has caused my family to isolate me after years of military service.  How can I fix this if I can't get a response from anyone? "}
{"id": "t3_3hwfbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone help me[22m] understand why a girl would want to postpone dating their \"dream guy\"?", "post": "I know asking this type of question gets met with accusations of fedoras/friendzones/bronies/doormat etc. And really it's not like that for me. I have had a girlfriend, have hooked up with a handful of girls, used to play football, however there are some things that just elude me. \n\nThe one thing a lot of girls tell me is that I am the type of dude that they see one day settling down with. That when guys like me have a conversation with a girl even if when we are flirting, they view it as being nice, and the when we do step out of that \"nice box\" it becomes shocking. I have had girls tell me too that when they are talking to the guys they hook up with that \"vibe\" is already there that they both know the drill in a way. \n\nThat's one thing I don't get, first how do I develop this vibe? \n\nThe other thing which really don't understand is that often times girls say that I am the type of guy they want to end up with. Respectful, loyal, responsible, etc.. Yet they aren't looking for that now? I don't understand it really. If someone was your dream person the person that made you the happiest, most fulfilled, wouldn't you want that in your life? Why wait? \n\nMy older brother and his cousins experienced the similar thing. After they graduated college, girls that weren't interested in them before started hitting them up on fb, to hang out. I talked to some guys in my internship and they had similar experiences too. What's going on?\n\nI really just don't get it. I really am just trying to learn.", "summary": "trying to understand dating concepts. thanks."}
{"id": "t3_1u6l3y", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Naive young man having lady problems", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nI've been dating this girl for about 3 weeks now and we usually get along great and enjoy each others company. \n\nBut last night, New Year's Eve, I met up with her and her mood took a rapid downward spiral. For 2 hours we sit and in silence with me having to pry each word out of her. I try to ask her what's the matter. I get a very passive-aggressive, \"nothing\" multiple times. \n\nThen we go to a New Years party. I figure the best thing to do is to leave her be with her friends. In the meantime, I consult her friend as to what might be wrong. They have no clue either. She is obviously upset and it's clearly visible. Over the night she warms up to me a little but I can see it was a show for her friends. As soon as we are a lone again she is right back to being cold.  \n\nI haven't talked to her so far because I'm understandably upset over her abusive behavior.\n\nWhat should I do now?", "summary": "She's was upset about something. Don't know if it was me or something else. What's my next move?"}
{"id": "t3_uxcaz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the best \"Dick Moment\" you ever experienced in School?", "post": "One time in High school just before graduation, there was a random announcement broadcasting that the school was on lockdown, but there was no reason given, and no indication of it being a drill (Literally just *click \"attention, we're on lock down\" *click*). I began to ask the teacher what was going on but in mid sentence the guy next to me says \"Shut up n*gger\" in a very icy tone. Not having it for a second, I promptly get up and leave the classroom in a semi-rage; unconsciously knocking over the chair I got out of (<- Key Element). The teacher comes out and asks if I'm okay. I reply that I am and say that I'm going down to the office to cool down. A little later while sitting down the assistant principal storms over to me and starts screaming bloody murder. I was caught off guard and reduced to a rubble in seconds. My tears turned to confusion when he repeated what he thought happened to me. According to him, I stood up, threw a chair at my class mate, flipped off the teacher, stormed out the class room and punched a locker. He also told me that I should \"...stop using [my] autism as a crutch\".", "summary": "After leaving a classroom in anger at a classmate for calling me the N word, the vice principal flips out at me for stuff I didn't do, while telling me that my legitimate autism is more or less an excuse."}
{"id": "t3_33idoy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28m] Girlfriend of 1 year [25f] goes out of town for a week and ignores my calls/texts. Should I be concerned?", "post": "She left for Boston last Thursday. We finally talked on the phone for about ten minutes 4 days later on Monday (after calling and texting Sunday night and never getting a response), and once before that for a couple of minutes when she was drunk and wanted to bitch about her friend. But other than that she's almost avoided contacting me entirely.\n\nI texted Friday night and she didn't respond at all. I saw she logged onto Facebook through her phone about 4 times after though, so she had to have seen it. She finally texted back the next morning saying she went bar hopping with friends and her phone died, which was a lie since she logged into facebook intermittently all night. I also saw through instagram that she was at a party, which she left out.\n\nWhen she HAS texted me, it's been short sentences, and it's only been in response to me. If I hadn't initiated contact the few times she's texted me, I'm not certain I would've talked to her at all.\n\nShould this be a concerned? Should I just stop contacting her and see what happens, or is that too passive aggressive?", "summary": "girlfriend out of town and doesn't seem to want to talk to me. Says her phone keeps dying but I can see that she's on Facebook mobile"}
{"id": "t3_18dggj", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Weak ankle.", "post": "Afternoon chaps. I wanted to begin by saying that I have already been to a physiotherapist and have got some professional advice already on this. I'm just looking for a few hints on strengthening exercises. \n\nMy ankle has been a pain in the ass recently. It won't let me run more than 5 miles without really complaining and as I said above, I am having treatment. The main thing to come form my assessment was that the ankle was weak. My calf is having to compensate because of a really old injury I have. \n\nMy question is, do you know any simple and preferably low impact ankle strengthening exercises that I could do. I'm training for a marathon in April and want it to be sorted for some proper training and although cardio wise, I'm covered, I'd like to get in a few half marathons before then. \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Need some ankle strengthening exercises."}
{"id": "t3_n3e7x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think if we got enough people to use their electronic devices continuously during airplane takeoff and refuse to put them away, the policy would change?", "post": "I mean a LOT of people. A nationwide thing, where people just whip out their electronics and when a stewardess tells them to put it away they just... don't. And they clearly don't.\n\nAlec Baldwin just got kicked off a plane for not putting away his iPad, and I remember as a kid being told to put away CD players and my GameBoy, despite NEITHER one having external communication capabilities.\n\nIt's a total power trip and they know it. We need to stop it. Maybe I'm the only one who feels strongly about this, but I find it absurd that they perpetrate this myth of it disrupting equipment when it's really quite harmless.", "summary": "Excuse me sir, can you please put away your phone during takeoff?\""}
{"id": "t3_1ziit7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] feel as though my fiance [33/M] never seduces me.", "post": "My fiance and I will be getting married in 8 weeks on our 3 year anniversary.  Overall we get along amazingly, share the same interests, enjoy spending time together, laugh a lot,  and rarely fight.  \n\nWe have sex often and we have both always been open about how much we enjoy the sex we have.  That being said, I am always the one to initiate sex.  I love this man, I love to be intimate with him, and I want him to feel good and know that he is desired.  However, I also want him to show his desire for me and I don't feel as though he is doing it.  We have a cycle in our relationship where I go months being the primary initiator, then I ask him to please try to make an effort to initiate more, he will initiate once, and then he goes back to never initiating.\n\nI think I have a fairly realistic grasp on sex in relationships and I definitely do not expect every sexual encounter to be \"magical\" and that there is nothing wrong with just having a quickie.  I try to keep things interesting, I go out of my way to find alternatives to please him during shark week, and I feel as though I have been honest and open about my desires for him to initiate more and show more passion towards me.  I don't really know what more I can do to convey the message that I need him to show an interest in me in this way because his lack of interest is making me feel hurt and undesirable. \n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "Fiance of almost 3 years never initiates sex, even when I have asked him to do it more.  Feeling hurt and undesired.  How can I get him to initiate?"}
{"id": "t3_284gji", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I either fucked up or won, I'm not sure which.", "post": "Several years ago, I dated this really cool girl who was in an elective class with me. We clicked but I had no clue how relationships worked, so we just kinda decided to call it off. Fast forward to spring break 2013, I invite her up to my buddy's lake house for a party. I got really drunk and awkwardly invited her to bed, which she politely declined. Now tonight, I get a jumbled text message saying (verbatim) \"jhey if ya bored, i'm just watching movis and drinking maybe, feel free to come over.\"\n\nNow my good guy side was telling me to go hang for a while and keep her company as both her parents are definitely gone or she wouldn't be drinking, much less inviting friends over. She's just lonely and wants someone to hang out with who can drink and relax with. My not quite so good guy side was saying \"she's texting because she's alone and knows you would jump at a chance to have some fun all alone.\" Based on her message, I knew she had already been drinking, as she usually proof-reads her messages, especially to me.\n\nBasically get in the door, she offers to do shots, other friend (who lives 100 yards away) asks what's going down and shows up for a while, has a minor allergic reaction, and leaves. So we've both had a few shots and feel pretty good. I can tell she's quite tipsy because she's usually somewhat reserved and she was bouncing all over the place. When she finally calmed down, she just fell on me. Not like laid on the couch with her feet on me, I mean fell on me and planted one on me. I'm not EXACTLY a \"ladies man\" (2 gf's in HS, 0 in college) and she's a pretty girl, so I just let it happen. And it was great. We just kissed on her couch for like 15 mins, and it was the best. She tasted like the honey whiskey we were drinking. I've always felt weird around her because she's super cool and, like I said, is a pretty girl, so kissing her just makes me feel weirder. I'm not sure if its good or bad, but either way it was fun and felt right.", "summary": "I kissed my ex-gf-turned-friend for quite a while tonight after she drunkenly invited me over to watch bad movies with only her, and I hope it doesn't affect anything between us, because I highly value her as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_420eps", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I continue to save or pay off a lump sum of student loans with the \"impending\" market crash?", "post": "So I am currently saving up a pretty good lump sum to cover our wedding in June. After the wedding I will hopefully have about $16000 in my savings, plus if we receive any monetary wedding gifts. \n\nI also am currently sitting on $104,000 remaining in student loans. The original plan was to pay off a lump sum of my highest interest (around $11,000 so I still have $5,000 in savings) then pay all but $200 in savings per month towards the remaining balance. \n\nMy worry is if this recession does hit, I am currently an entry level structural engineer, with about  1 1/4 years in the industry. If the market does crash our business will be severely affected. In 2008 my company did lay off a certain number of people, but they also tried to keep \"as many as possible\" by having everyone take a 10% pay cut. I wouldn't have an issue taking a position outside my field to make bills, but that still takes time.", "summary": "So my questions is with the financial crash that is predicted and me being in a industry with high risk of lay off occurring should I keep my large savings just in case it takes a long time to get a job, or I have to take a huge pay cut, or should I still plan on putting it towards my student loans and just keep a 1.5 month buffer?"}
{"id": "t3_paxh1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I overreacting, or was the way that they fund-raised wrong?", "post": "So this ski place that I went to recently apparently was also fundraising for some medical cause.  At every single cash-register - from the booth selling lift tickets to the restaurants- after you had given them your money, the person operating it would ask, \"Would you consider donating X-dollars/your change for _____ cause?  They would always seem very pushy, and would imply that you should donate \"because it is only one dollar.\" (They actually said this.)  Also, there was immense pressure to donate because you were surrounded by lots of others,  everyone waiting for your response made it even more awkward, you would seem unreasonable if you didn't donate, and the power was in there hands, because they still had your money.\n\nJust to eliminate confusion: I am all for donation, but I just felt that the way that they did it was unfair.\n\nNow to go on: The first time that I was asked was at one of the booths.  I was not sure whether I would have enough money for food, so I declined to donate.  After mentioning this, the clerk handed me my receipt, and asked me to sign some paper to donate.  I asked him what it was, and then explained to him that I would still like to have my change back (he had not given me it).  I am not sure if it was on accident or not, but he seemed to give me a hard time, and seemed to take a while opening the register to give me my change back.  Then (I am not sure if this was on accident or not), he gave me my lift sticker, but did not give me the metal thing on which to attach it, which I noticed after I had left the booth.\n\nAnother time, I was at a cash register, and the person that I was with declined to donate.  The person at the cash register said, \"But it is only one dollar,\" and \"That little boy over there donated.\"  My friend responded with, \"No Thanks,\" and the person responded, \"Yes?\"  I just thought that the whole process was quite annoying.\n\nAm I overreacting?  Is it OK the way that they handled the donation process?", "summary": "Ski place asked for donations at cash register while money was in their hands, pressured people to donate with numerous strategies, seemed overbearing."}
{"id": "t3_3lz0wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help (17M) talking to a weed head (17F) that wants to drink and smoke with me.", "post": "Okay so I've been talking to this girl for about two weeks.let's call her Hannah. She's a weed head and drinks alot. I don't know what but some thing about her is attractive to me. She's chill and down to earth. \n\nAnyways this Friday were suppose to meet up. \" Netlfix and chill\" smoke and drink too. My friend is telling me not to do it and it's too risky. It's only me and and her at her house. We've known each other since freshman year. We started talking talking this year senior year. Should I go with her on Friday or? Help!! And I've never smoked or drinked. But I'm willing to try...", "summary": "been talking to a girl for a few weeks now. She's a weed head and wants to meet up this Friday at her house only us too. Wants to drink and smoke and chill together. My friend is saying no I'm saying I should. Help!!"}
{"id": "t3_4eu5kg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/M] and my girlfriend [20/F] of three years are on a break and I'm not sure how to proceed", "post": "Me and my girlfriend had been dating for three years. There's been some bumps along the way but I felt like everything was going alright. To cut to the chase, we broke up because of trust issues and because I was attending college fifteen hours away. It was a tough break up on both sides but we agreed to talk again in the summer after we both had time to settle down and think about things.\n\nAs the end of the school year is approaching, I don't know how I should approach the situation. She had mentioned before going on a \"first date\" again. Should I try that or should I try to resolve our problems first?\n\nThank you", "summary": "GF broke up with me to have a break. Not sure how to re-enter relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2c6uzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my boyfriend [21 M] 7 months, Strange behavior from my boyfriend.", "post": "Lately my boyfriend has been coming home almost 2 hours after he gets off work and seems distant and more prone to snapping and yelling at me for making very small mistakes. Let me put a few examples i forgot to put sour cream and garbage bags on the grocery list and he treated me like shit in the store throwing paper towels at the buggy instead of handing them to me and just being very mean. \n\nAnother example is when i make dinner sometimes he calls it complete shit even though i know it is good because i taste test while i cook.  \n\nFights happen a lot but there are good days too but that can change as soon as i slip up and spill a drop of something or something small like that. He called me worthless and said i didnt do anything to help him our around the house when i keep it spotless and cook him dinner everyday. \n\nI really don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Boyfriend being late and mean to me. What do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hsxxz", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Old dog having issues", "post": "Hi reddit, I have a 14 year old Wheaten Terrier. He is mostly deaf and has arthritis in his hips. Going upstairs is usually a trouble for him, but yesterday and today after his walk he shot right up the stairs, while usually I have to coax him all the way. I believe this is a confidence issue for him because whenever he slips a little, which happens a lot, he whimpers than comes back down. He usually eats in the basement and sleeps there (dont worry its a nice basement) but we keep the door open so he can come up. Recently we moved his food and bed upstairs to the main level so he doesn't have as much stress on his hips going up and down, but when we walk him or take him to the bathroom we go through the basement. We tried putting food at the top of the stairs and that has helped, do you think this is a confidence issue, or something to do with arthritis.", "summary": "Old dog has trouble going upstairs, when we put food upstairs he shoots right up. Is it a confidence or physical issue"}
{"id": "t3_2ymbfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [23 M] of 2 years, introduced by father and recently found out father set up the entire relationship.", "post": "I'm sort of in an 'everything was a lie' type of mood after this revelation. Background is that he lives overseas while I live in the U.S. and I was introduced to him by my father via an online meeting. We started texting/having sporadic irl meetings, during which I made it clear to him from the start that I was unsure if I'd call us 'dating'. I wasn't prepared for a long distance relationship, but here we were 2 years later.\n\nHe began pushing for marriage almost 2 months ago which raised my red flags, because I'd always mentioned how I didn't favor the idea of marriage. I casually mentioned it in conversations, and found out through various family members that my father set up the entire meeting/dates because bf is a wealthy businessman with income in the millions and he wanted me to get married to him. My father knows my view on marriage, and his past efforts of setting up 'potential boyfriends' always ended with me rejecting them. He set up these dates by many, MANY methods, some of which I can't even fathom (one includes having bf fake many of my interests.)\n\nI'm very peeved at the moment at the two of them because apparently bf knew from the get go that my father was 'arranging' a marriage and was fine with it. I'm having second thoughts over whether or not our relationship, or whatever it is, was real right now.", "summary": "Found out relationship was setup by dad, not sure if bf was just trying to get an overseas wife or what."}
{"id": "t3_3n50a6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f22) mother and I have never been very close, but I want us to be. How can I make this happen?", "post": "Hello, I am a pretty goofy and outgoing person, until I get around my mother. She is my biological mother and has been present throughout my life. I find myself closing up around her and I don't how to stop it. I find myself not wanting to be around her so I do not have to interact with her, even though she is a perfectly nice human being. \n\nIt seems as though we have nothing to connect over so we just dont. We've been like this for as long as I can remember and it upsets me when I think about how distqnt we are compared to other mother-daughter relationships . I am looking for a way to relax and be myself around her. I think I remember being myself around her as a child, but then feeling like she thought I was a bit odd. I can image I picked up on this and henceforth,  retracted back into my shell. Any tips or thoughts would be appreciated.", "summary": "How do I put my guard down and be myself with my mother?"}
{"id": "t3_1q6tl0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by corrupting at least half of my work's servers", "post": "(Disclaimer: This happened yesterday)\n\nSo a few weeks ago, co-worker and I were looking port scanning our network when we noticed that we had a port opened under the name \"LDAP\". So we looked into it and found that is was a protocol for working with distributed directories on a network. Now, we were very curious as to what was using it, so we connected to it with JXplorer, a GUI for LDAP. What we found was shocking: A list of most of the users on the network. I was shocked. I exported it to a text file, and then forgot about it. Two weeks later, I remember that I had the text file, which I needed. When I went to use it, I remembered I had done this on my personal computer, and not the work-issued one. So I did it again, and exported the text file once more.\n     Now, fast forward two weeks, give or take a few days, when I was called in for a meeting with the IT staff. Apparently, they were having issues logging into their **OpenDirectory** stuff. I was confused. How was this related to me? So I asked them what that was. Turns out that it was something developed by Apple that uses a few features from LDAP. However, it is NOT LDAP, and does not like being treated as such, so when I connected, apparently I sent some packets that confused it because it wasn't expecting them, and proceeded to corrupt a few files, including the local admin stuff. Basically they lost their ability to log in. They were mad. They are still deciding what to do with me. I might get fired.", "summary": "OpenDirectory is not fucking LDAP."}
{"id": "t3_17d4d2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what its the worst/scariest dream you have ever had?", "post": "Sorry if this question happens to be a repost.\n\nMy worst dream happened my senior year ('08). I had broken my leg and had a lot of vicodin. I eventually dozed off...\n\nNext thing I know I'm in an old fashioned, red, three-seater propel plane. I remember the captain turning around yelling \"We're going down! We can't miss it!\" As the plane violently tilts left, I look forward. We hit and scrape up against a giant brick tower (resembled a very large, free standing, chimney). \n\nI am able to pull myself up and out of the crashed plane. We have crashed right next to the side of the tower, which stands alone in the middle of a large field. To my amazement the other two passengers are alive. I look at them with excited optimism, \"We made it! We're alive!\". The other passenger, a lady, looks at me and says \"Are you sure we are alive?\". \n\nAs I gaze into the open field all I see are countless dead people standing in the clothes they died in. They are all staring directly at me. At that moment I take a closer look at my fellow paasengers, then myself. We are all dead.\n\nAs soon as I came to that realization, I woke up. What a frightening dream...", "summary": "Crazy dream were I survived crash, but was dead the whole time."}
{"id": "t3_4hbm98", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My ex [f/21] has initiated contact with me [21/m] for the second time!", "post": "So for the 2nd time my ex has initiated contact after a whole year of nothing.\n\nThe first time I pretty much assumed she wanted to see me. She told me she was definitely up for a catchup, so I asked her to get in touch with me when she's back from her gap year trip and she said she would.\n\n5 days later she sends me \"OMG I'm going to watch a football game in Rio, it's going to be amazing\".\n\n Is she trying to get us to talk?\n\nI'm really bad with messages, especially over FB. I want to get us to talk in person rather than electronically. \n\n It seems like she's open to it, but wants us to continue talking.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Ex initiates contact for a second time after a year of No Contact. She has (sort of) agreed to meet (no definite date yet), but seems to want to continue to talk over FB."}
{"id": "t3_54gqpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I never felt such a connection with a woman before", "post": "My apologies for the long text but I had to provide the details:\n\nAlright guys, I would like to ask for your opinion in a matter that is very dear to me and I don't know how to proceed. I am 24 and started a further education (in Switzerland). During the \"introduction class\" (two days where you get explained the basic things) I met this girl and we hit it off immediately. After the second day she invited me over for some drinks to her place (she asked me what I was up to now and I asked her if she would like to go for a drink and she offered her place). We went there and talked for almost 5 hours straight and both felt really comfortable. (little side note: she had a reallllly, realllllly tough life but she felt like she could tell me all of it, which she did (I like to listen by the way)). \n\nWe like the same music, movies have the same core values, she is smart, pretty and has a great sense of humour. (she is a little more \"energetic than I am, but that's good). Like I said we really hit it off great. \n\nShe had to go to her best friends party, but said she would actually prefer to stay with me to watch some series and talk but she promised. When it came to say goodbye, we kissed each other dearly and pretty much made already plans for the following week. However, my issue is that she broke up with her ex 3 months ago, but I am not sure whether she is completely over it. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "met this girl, probably my soulmate, both never had such a connection (kinda scary at some points), same core values and view of life. She broke up 3 months ago, but I am not sure if she is 100% over it."}
{"id": "t3_38nbxa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I GOT A JOB INTERVIEW! ...But I'm depressed, and currently on welfare because of it. How do I land this job while being honest about my condition?", "post": "**Me:** Female, mid 20's. Depressed for most of my life, lots of anxiety, OCD and so on. Still managed to complete two years of art school as well as half of my degree in teaching before I got *really* sick two years ago.  \n**Welfare:** In a Scandinavian country, where you can receive welfare money if your doctor agrees that you're too sick to work. And I was. And I still might be. I don't know.  I decided recently that just sitting at home wasn't doing me any good, and it's possible for me to work up to a year while receiving welfare only -  making me a minimum risk for any employer who might fancy me. I really want to try this, even though I'm not exactly happy and anxiety free quite yet.  \n**The Job:** Substitute teacher, just now and then, whenever they need it.  \n  \n- - -   \n**My resume is full of holes** from me dropping out of school and either quitting jobs or going on sick leave because of depression and anxiety. All those jobs, though, were jobs that I had while going to school, and I'd hold on to them for a while, but then the burden of both school and work became too much and I had to quit one to keep doing the other. Also, I've never had a job I actually *liked* and educated myself for, like being a teacher. Further, this would only be a substitute position, which might be just the right way to shoehorn me back into the workforce again.   \n  \n**But how do I go about this during the interview?** The principal doesn't know any of these things about me, I just gave him my name and listed the schools I went to (*told him about dropping out, though!*) - and for me to be a minimum risk employee on welfare, I have to tell him about my illness, which might make him not hire me... Ugh! Is there a good way to do this?   \n  \n**Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "Got interview. Is depressed/have anxiety, is on welfare because of this. Can be supported by welfare for a year while working to be minimum risk employee, but how to bring this up smoothly during interview? I really want to work!"}
{"id": "t3_yy8i1", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Grant writer/project manager salary: updated. Still in need of tips and hints! Feeling very lowballed.", "post": "[Original post here] with the job description\n\nI had the interview today, and my interviewer said \"we'll probably start you at $15/hr\" and that there are no group rate insurance benefits or the like. Between no benefits, the scope of the job, my experience, plus the potential of travel I feel gypped. (I'm going to ask about travel allowance if she wants to interview further.)\n\nNo I haven't been offered the job yet, but I want to be prepared as my interviewer alleged that she was only considering me and one other person for the position. Interestingly enough, I posted a clever/mildly shameless self-plug on Craigslist and she made first contact through that. I was duly amused and pleased, hehe.\n\nThe position requires at least a bachelor degree, and she stressed multiple times that she's looking for someone with a student mentality, who can do long hours of research and writing and work out complex details. I have all that. I graduated from a top ranked liberal arts college, have done technical and humanities research and writing (started as neuro major, graduated as German and math major) of which I gave her samples, worked during college in the controller's office, and my latest job was accounts payable auditing. Also, she'd taken notice of my web design experience listed on my resume, and mentioned that she's dissatisfied with their website and might like it if I could revamp it for them. I think that would be my main point of leverage. \n\nThis is a small business with six employees. The position is guaranteed for two months with the potential for permanence, so if it came down to it I'd take the position at the offered wage and then request a review if things went permanent. But, here is some \n[salary info for my area in northern Indiana] though it doesn't say what types of grant writing or businesses or any of that. Given how low the rate was that she put out, I couldn't ask for anything even close to that, but I still think I should get well over $15/hr.", "summary": "What's the best way of going about negotiating higher wages, especially when I don't really have concrete evidence of a standard rate of pay? My leverage: strong background backed up by samples of my work, I have additional skills outside the range of the job that the interviewer said would be useful. Counting against me: Small local business, very low first offer of wages...being the search-ee instead of the search-er...haha."}
{"id": "t3_4s9lxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I told my husband(34m) he's only with me because I(33f) earn more than him -- it was a bad joke but he's taking it seriously", "post": "We hosted a dinner party tonight and invited close friends. We got in a spat yesterday about finances where he was trying to get us to save more money and was judging my spending habits. Anyways, at dinner he brought up that I spent over $100 on a pair of shoes. \n\nHe was saying it playfully but I felt judged in light of our spat yesterday. I was being stupid and said he's only with me because I earn more than him. It was stupid and disrespectful and I regret saying it. \n\nI do earn more than him, he's a high school english teacher, I'm a consultant. He's told me before in intimate conversations that he feels ashamed about this even though he knows he shouldn't. I knew it was a sensitive topic and that saying it was mean and humiliating. \n\nWe had a huge fight after our friends left and he's taking what I said seriously. He proposed taking time off from seeing each other to \"figure out why we're in this marriage\". I was just making a dumb joke. I have apologized numerous times but he's still taking what I said when I was joking seriously. \n\nHow do I get him to see that it was seriously just a joke?", "summary": "I told my husband he's only with me because I  earn more than him -- it was a bad joke but he's taking it seriously and wants to take time off"}
{"id": "t3_vvq11", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mixed gas & oil in the lawnmower... HELP!", "post": "Okay Reddit, here's the story.  Dad gets a new lawnmower, I see only one tube to put gas into.  I pour it down that gas tube, but I notice that it's smaller than our last lawnmower.  I poured a LOT into it...\n\nWithout thinking too much, I go out and hold down the lever and pull the cord.  The engine starts for 2 seconds and starts and then dies down and kills itself.  I realize that there's another tank separately for gas and oil (was not aware of this...).  I read Google and people tell me to pour the entire mixture out of the oil tank.\n\nI did so and all of it was poured out.  I leave the valve open and let it dry for 36 hours.  I come back and pour in a new oil.  I slowly pulled the cord to \"let some oil into the engine to hopefully clean out the bad mixture that might have gotten in.\"  Then I pour out that old mixture and pour in new oil again for \"clean\" oil.  I go and try to start the lawnmower and it isn't starting properly.\n\nI know what I did was wrong and I don't need people reminding me that I made a mistake, my only question is... what do I do at this point?  Is the motor for the lawnmower totally shot?  What does Reddit think?", "summary": "Mixed gas & oil.  Tried to start it.  Might've fed it up.  Poured out the mixture and poured in just oil.  Still doesn't work. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2n1jhg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] know this girl [18 F] who's clearly into me and I have no idea what to say.", "post": "Ok here goes.\n\nI've got this girl who got a crush on me but I don't like her. The reason why I don't like her is both because she's the ex of an old friend of mine, and because I don't feel the \"spark\". \n\nShe has been asking me every weekend for like two months if I want to do something, but I have declined with bad conscience every time.\n \nToday a common friend of our asked us and another girl to go see a movie together. I accepted the request because I really wanted to see that movie, and this girl asked me to. I really feel bad for disappointing her as much as I've done. \n\nWe had a great time at the movie and everything and went home for ourselves afterwards. \n\nWhen I got home she started to chat with me on Facebook about what's wrong about \"us\" and everything. She just doesn't get why I don't wanna be with her (At least she pretends), so I started to agree. After a while she asked me to hang out tomorrow again, all by ourselves, but I had to come up with some bullshit story. \n\nI just figured that I can't continue to let her down, but she just don't want to take the hint... She is cute, funny, nice and everything but I just can't date or hang out with her.", "summary": "Girl got crush on me. I don't. She keeps asking me to hang out. Finds bullshit excuses. Doesn't take the hint. Ehr."}
{"id": "t3_fnddt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what have you done with good intentions that turned out horribly wrong for you or someone else?", "post": "Back in high school there would be a blood drive once a year. So I'm feeling good, and decide hey, why not do what I can to save a life or two? So this is the first time I've given blood and I'm furiously rolling this thing they give you in my hand to stimulate blood flow to the arm. After they drain me for all that I'm worth, my arm hurts like a bitch but I figured that was normal. I eat the cookies that they generously provided in exchange for my blood. Then I notice something is off with my arm. I can barely move it, let alone pick up my backpack with that arm. This goes on for a week before I finally decide to go see a doctor. I'm all like herp derp my arm what the fuck man. He writes me a script and I'm pleased this is over with. I fill the script and look at what I was prescribed. When my eyes glance over the words IBUPROFEN 600MG I fucking rage. Giving blood ended up costing me over $200 in a doctor visit and prescription for something I have in abundance in my house, I have the 200mg over the counter stuff but I already have bottles of 600mg ibuprofen from other injuries.", "summary": "gave blood, arm stopped working, ended up paying $200 to see a doctor who prescribed me ibuprofen"}
{"id": "t3_k9se4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help me find this necklace", "post": "[This is it](\n\nThrowaway as I don't want my private life linked to my normal Reddit persona. \n\nMy alcoholic ex husband died last week. I have two young children ( 8 and 5 ) with him. They didn't see him due to his state but saw him maybe every 6 weeks. \n\nUnderstandably they are devastated. \n\nMy ex used to wear this necklace and two days after he died my son has been asking if he could have it. It would mean the world to him. \n\nThe hospital did not have it with his stuff (his sister was next of kin and I trust her) \n\nWe think his previous partner  ( which he also had a children with ) has it. She illegally gained access to his lock up (he was basically homeless) by claiming she was his current partner the day she found out he was dead and took all his stuff. The Police have been informed but we are not hopeful of getting any of it back :(\n\nSo basically I am begging for information or links to a similar necklace. \n\nIt's my sons 9th birthday in 3 weeks and he is dreading it without seeing his dad. \n\nI have spent ages trawling google and eBay with no success. \n\nPlease help :)", "summary": "please help me find my 9 year a similar necklace to his recently deceased dad for his birthday."}
{"id": "t3_vbez3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does reddit deal with stress?", "post": "We all have our ways, some more self-destructive than others. I smoke cigarettes, and like a chimney when I'm stressed out. Backstory, 24 y/o living alone in Chicago with loads of student loans pursuing masters degree and working ~45 hours/ week. That sinking feeling thinking about next months rent being due, that paper that's due in class next week, making ends meet with food, things like cell phone and Internet expense.... It all adds up and leaves me feeling both mentally and physically ill. I know it sounds awkward, but when my world is collapsing in on me, the only way out is to listen to Christmas music and just waltz around my apartment. Well; waltz, samba, mambo, whatever - just move around rhythmically. Christmas music always settles my nerves, don't know why, always has. Doesn't matter what time of year it is, in fact I think it works better in the summer months. What are your relaxation tips and quirks, reddit? Maybe we can all help each other relax a bit in these crazy times of ours.", "summary": "what does reddit do when you guys are feeling stressed and overwhelmed?"}
{"id": "t3_38fdzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with [25 M] 4-5 months, wasn't ready for a relationship...now he is?", "post": "We have been dating for 4/5 months (we are exclusive since 1 month) right off the bat said he was looking for a relationship etc. I was on the same page. Than he started a new job a month later to pay for school (he didn't want to be on a loan for school) I said I understood as I was in the same boat (working hard this summer to pay for school, we are mid twenties.) Anyways we've grown closer and Ive mad no mention of a relationship before. However I find myself really liking this guy and I am ready and open for a relationship. I told him this and He said he's priority was working lots and saving for school we should just take it slow/have fun.\n\nSo I said (calmly) that if he didn't want the same thing I completely respect that but I hope he can respect my decision to move on so we can both find someone who wants the same things that we both want. I wished luck and left the apartment.\n\nHis mouth was hanging open and I just left. He started blowing up my phone saying that he really liked me and didn't want to lose me, work was number one on his mind but he wanted to make it work with me and can't lose me and he just had a bad day at work and was stressed (I didn't know this)\n\nI haven't responded all this just happened last night. Im pissed off that he only wanted me when he thought he was going to lose me. How do I respond? I feel angry for some reason..", "summary": "Said I was ready for a relationship, he said he wasn't. I said good bye and he came running back....wtf"}
{"id": "t3_z7m4w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How long did it take you to make friends in college?", "post": "I've been at school for a week now and I'm pretty miserable. I've made a few acquaintances, but none that I have much in common with. I just feel lonely, sad, and fatigued all the time. My roommate already had friends when we got here so I didn't get the chance to meet friends with him. I went and joined clubs and am rushing fraternities but they don't start for a while. Even though I did all that it still feels hopeless, like it won't work. I try to go out of my dorm as much as possible but it usually ends up with me walking around campus by myself. I kept my door open a couple of times to invite people in and it worked a little bit but not so much anymore. Whenever I'm in my dorm I just sit here and listen to everyone else have fun.", "summary": "I'm lonely in college. Please tell me it gets better."}
{"id": "t3_126ufs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm pretty (95) sure my SO's parents are racist =/, what things do u put up with that bother you alot for the sake of somehing else?", "post": "Yeah so... I was suspicious as to why she wouldn't tell her friends/family in the first place and she mentioned how much I am not like the usually guys she goes for. I thought she meant my personality because I'm a little different, but after about 3 months of talking to her I realized she was not only referring to that but also my skin tone, she admits to certain people in her family having old fashioned ideas, like her dad would be fine with us together but he would  never approve of us getting married because I'm half black... not that that is what I'm looking for but she laughed it off XD and I was all like holy fuck that's racist O_O... never met the guy before in my life but the things she tells me just raises more concerns than subsides them. I have talked indirectly to her mom I think she is less but she has a bad opinion of me cause I've made my mistakes.\n\nI know she wants me to meet her family eventually but her grandparents \"aren't allowed to know about me yet\". I honestly don't mind walking into a racist family situation, been there done that and i know it means a lot to her so I'll bite the bullet and run with the scissors if it'll make her feel better. oh and they aren't white or particularly wealthy.\n\nI'll take advice and hear what reddit has to say, but what I want to know is what are other akward/weird/out of the ordinary things you have to put up with that is obviously uncomfortable for you the sake of someone else?", "summary": "My SO's parents are racist, she done a bad job trying to convince me otherwise but I plan on meeting with them eventually just cause she would like me to."}
{"id": "t3_3f5tup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (43M) told my wife (37F) last night that I'm not happy anymore", "post": "For a while now, more than a year, I've been unhappy in my marriage of almost 13 years.  We've got two boys, a 9 year old and 4 year old.  The 9 year old has recently started to notice the unhappiness which is one of the reasons last night I finally told her we needed to talk.\n\nAs expected she didn't take the news very well.  She got out of bed and went for a drive for about an hour.  Then she came home and slept out in the living room.  I laid in bed upset and having no idea what to do.\n\nThis morning I got up to go to work and she wanted to talk finally.  She asked what she could do to keep this from going any worse and I told her I didn't think there was anything.  My mind is made up and I think I'm just ready to move on.  This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life but I want to stay strong and not change my mind thinking things are going to be any better later on.\n\nNow what the hell do I do? I'm absolutely lost here.", "summary": "told wife of almost 13 years last night that I'm not happy, told her this morning that I don't think anything will change that... help!"}
{"id": "t3_15zfua", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20M] Is she not interested? [20F]", "post": "So I've been talking to this girl I met online for 2 weeks. She would respond to my messages after about 4 days but was genuinely sweet and seemed very interested in me. After about a week I got her # and she said to text her sometime. \n\nI texted her and we communicated very well and had similar interests. It ended up being really late so she never responded to my very last text, so I sent her a follow up text telling her I was going to sleep but I was very happy and was looking forward to texting/talking to her again. \n\nThe next day I sent her a message at about 12pm and she never responded. I sent another message about 5 hours later asking if everything was ok and how she was. She responded after about 20 minutes and said \"Sorry I'm just crazy busy like always\". I texted her back after a few minutes and said its ok and asked her how her day was. She never responded. I sent another message saying to \"text me when you're not so busy :(\"\n\nI texted her yesterday at 4pm asking how her day was going, she never responded. \n\nToday I haven't sent her anything. \n\nAm I just over thinking this and she really is busy, or is she just not interested? Should I try to call her or is that not a good idea? \n\nNOTES:\n\n-We have never met in person, only have texted/talked online. \n\n-We have never skyped.\n\n-I've haven't called her yet, but I want to. \n\n-I haven't asked her to any sort of date yet, I want to call to ask her out. \n\nAny advice / insight would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Texted girl 3 days ago, we texted back and forth and she suddenly stopped texting me(it was late at night), texted her the next day and only got 1 response how she was \"busy\", and the 3rd day I haven't heard anything."}
{"id": "t3_2oug4z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading my girlfriend's facebook messages", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 6 months now, mostly long distance relationship (I did 2 months of volunteerwork in Malaysia and afterwards ERASMUS got in between us). We talk like old fishwives and we talk about everything. Skype has also become a daily habbit for us, often clocking in 2-4 hours a day.\n\nA little more backstory: I'm an extremely curious guy, like ridiculously curious. The type of guy who would touch an electric fence just to see what it would feel like. So naturally I'm also very curious about my girlfriend's life and past. We trust eachother enough with eachother's facebook accounts, which I think will change after this.\n\nSo to where I fucked up. I drank too much coffee last night too late in the evening, resulting in a looooong Reddit session lasting till 2AM. Then suddenly the idea popped into my head to look at her facebook messages again. I did it before and found it very amusing to see guys trying to hit on her and her trying to wave them off. However. This was different. 2 months in, she apparently told a friend of hers she was still thinking about her ex boyfriend. How he was her meant-to-be relationship. How she would go back together with him again if she could. All the while I was in Malaysia being oblivious like a cat to a piece of meat you just threw. I'll talk to her today or tomorrow and see how she reacts I guess,  I think it'll be the end though.", "summary": "curiosity killed the cat, gf loves the ex"}
{"id": "t3_39br6r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is a phone call an acceptable way for me [19/M] to break up with my girlfriend of 6 months [20/F]?", "post": "We go to the same college but live 90 minutes away during the summer, so it's a \"medium distance\" relationship. She's coming to visit Friday night but I know I don't want to be with her, and she's lying to her parents about where she's going and spending the night, so if I break up with her when she comes she'll have no alibi for her parents when she goes home. I don't want to say I'm going over there, because it would make no sense when she's already coming here, and she'd know what's about to happen anyways. \n\nI broke up with her before but we got back together when I felt I made a mistake. But now I realize I'm bored with the relationship, don't really respect her beliefs or her opinions, nor she mine, and don't find her sexually attractive unless she really makes an effort to look good. She's my first real girlfriend, I don't really want to break up with her at all but it's for the best, and I feel like making an effort to do it in person is too much trouble for either of us.", "summary": "we live 90 minutes away, I don't love her, is it bad to do it over the phone?"}
{"id": "t3_4fq58s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/m] My girlfriend [18/f] says things that make me question if she is loyal.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument last night cause she jokingly said she would have sex with my one of my best friends cause she felt bad he was a virgin. She has always been one to joke about things like this but they make me feel extremely insecure. There was also an altercation when we first began dating where she told another good friend of mine she dreamed of them having sex. I immediately cut contact but soon forgave her. Her argument now is to say she does not want censor what she says about me and how we are too different. Immediately when I brought up the prior altercation she became furious demanding to leave and not even giving me a chance to talk. I forgot to mention that the original idea was to introduce the friend mention to her best friend but I was hesitant due to her friend being very promiscuous and my friend being very inexperienced. This is my longest relationship and she is the only girl that has met my parents. I just don't know how to resolve the situation and how to react, we have been dating 3 months and ive finally feel like I can trust her after being very unsure.", "summary": "Girlfriend says questionable things, should I not take them to heart?"}
{"id": "t3_37cksc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending nudes to the wrong person", "post": "Before i get into the story, I should say that I play a fairly unhealthy amount of league of legends.. \n\nSo yesterday, I was playing the game as usual, and decided to change my status on  the game, kind of like writing a Facebook post. I live in a place where the usual phone number starts with 403-......, but also has 587 to start some peoples numbers. I changed my status to; 403-send-nudes, which doesn't affect anything, as it clearly doesn't show any of my full number. I didnt actually want people to send me nudes..\n\nWhile in the middle of a game, my friend saw my status and found it funny, so he sent me his number as I was still in game. His number stars with the 587, like i said before, but because i was so focused on my game i didn't notice, and thought it started with 403.......\n\nI didn't actually send a nude of myself, but just one that i found online. i wouldn't really send a picture of myself over texting, and i believe video chat is the way to go. I sent this fake picture of some random girl to my friend, and waited for a response (i didn't have his number in my contacts). when 15 minutes past, i messaged him again on the game asking him if he had gotten the picture yet, and he said he hadent. I asked him, your number is 403............, right? but he said no, it was 587.......................\n\nI stared blank at my screen for about 5 minutes, in shock of what I have just done. My friend is laughing his ass off right now and I dont even want to look at my phone.", "summary": "make sure you have the right number while sending nudes to poeple."}
{"id": "t3_4cjgww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Those who were late bloomers in dating, how did you cope with feeling left out? (20+)", "post": "Throwaway account here.\n\nI am in my 20s and I am female. I have never had any type of romantic interest or fling. Ever. I go through my ups and downs with this of feeling alone and that I am the problem.\nEveryone you turn, relationships and the hookup culture is thrown in your face. I get jealous of even random strangers. I don't want to become a bitter hag, but I really am bitter.\n\nFor those of you who started dating at a 'late' age, how old were you?\n\nI should not let this affect my self esteem, but it does. Some people just seem to have all the stars aligned in terms of attraction and dating.", "summary": "seeking advice from former late bloomers in dating. Me, 23 F."}
{"id": "t3_2awmgz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Am I making the right choices?", "post": "I consider myself pretty financially aware, especially since joining this community. I've made a financial plan for the next 6+ months and wanted you guys to critique me and tell me what I'm doing wrong.\n\nI made up a spreadsheet of my current job and situation. I haven't moved into my apartment yet and the utilities are estimates based on others which I feel are fairly accurate for where I live, maybe even a little conservative. \nAfter this month I should have ~$9000 to pay back on my loans with a goal of paying it off by the end of the year. I was going to use YNAB, but didn't work with my thought process. I'm using Mint though which I love. I can budget all of my food and such just fine, but didn't want to have to write down everything I bought and I have a lot of little individual charges. I use Mint to track all of that. The totals at the bottom are account totals, I like to think when I add money to my \"car\" fund that it doesn't get touched unless an emergency were to come up so I kind of blank it out from my usable capital. The \"Total HT\" is what I'll keep as my usable capital. \n\nI expect the Optimistic chart is more likely it seems as of currently. I'm putting myself fairly low by December for my total net capital, but I feel I'm okay with having only 3 months E-fund (I feel I could make my expense ~$1000 if I were to lose my job (Just being realistic, it's always possible, but I hope not!), if not less than that.) for a month or 2 considering I'd have my student loans paid off. \n\nI'm also paying 3% with match to an IRA, no 401k :(, I get a slight raise after 90 days of work, already have over 40 days down. I get paid hourly and get a decent amount of OT so that's nice.  \n\nEstimated Perceived worse case:\n[Imgur](\n\nEstimated Optimistic View:\n[Imgur](\n\nPlease critique the crap out of this! I want to be in the best situation possible 6 months from now.", "summary": "I just want my financial plan to be critiqued so I'm doing what is best."}
{"id": "t3_3pdxer", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] Girl I had a crush on told me that I'm ugly, haven't asked anyone out since.", "post": "When I was a teenager, a couple of girls told me that I'm ugly. It wouldn't have mattered to me much, but one of the girls was someone who I had a serious crush on. They proceeded to berate me over my look for a couple of minutes and then laughed at me and told everyone that I tried to ask her out... yeah...\n\nNow I'm 21 - I've never been on a date, I've never had a girlfriend, I'm a virgin. All of my friends (I'm in uni) constantly go out with girls, get numbers, get laid at parties etc. I always either get rejected, or I'm too scared to approach girls because I'm scared that my ugliness is going to just immediately repulse them.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Rejection has led to an anxiety over my looks, it's making me depressed."}
{"id": "t3_11irbr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help solving issues with Android at work", "post": "God I am just about to quit my job over an issue with my android phone. I work with a bunch of old fashioned, backwards thinking ass hats. For the past few weeks they have been having issues with the internet cutting out for periods of time. The last time my boss called the network admin who told him that an android device was using up about 20 of the available IP addresses and this was some how the problem.\n\nMy boss never brought it up with my I just heard his brother bitching loudly about how my phone is fucking up the entire network ( as I am the only android user in the office). \n\nMy Google-fu seems to be too weak to find a solution to the problem if it is my phone. As I write this I can hear the idiots going on about my phone again. Nobody in this office can run a damn computer and everyone is always calling on me to fix their printer connections, solve error messages etc No one in here could even tell you what an IP address stands for let alone does.\n\nIs it possible that my phone is causing this problem, if so how can I stop it?", "summary": "My android device is apparently 'hogging' all of the available IP addresses at work causing internet blackouts. Is this possible and if so how do I fix?"}
{"id": "t3_36s4ra", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I got the job!", "post": "So this is gonna be the most meaningless post to everyone, but I just need to share this somewhere.\n\nI graduated late from high school. I was 21 by the time I finally graduated, and I'm 25, almost 26 now, and haven't done shit with my life... I haven't gone to college, and I haven't had any *real* jobs to speak of. Ever. \n\nBut for the past few years, I've been so down on myself for being such a lazy scum bag, that I've been trying my hardest to put myself out there and get some sort of job. Baby sitting. Dog walking. Dog grooming. House cleaning. Anything. And those small jobs were fine. But I could never get anything real, and I hated myself it. \n\nI would send resume after resume, reinvent them, make them look better, add skills, add values. Nothing seemed to work. Then every now and then, I would get an interview... But flunk them horribly. And get even more depressed. \n\nI'm not a very good people person, and I get very shy and choke up around new people. But in these last few months, I made it a GOAL to get an interview. AND NAIL IT. \n\nAnd guess what? After months of trying, and hundreds of job applications, it finally happened, a company finally liked me enough to look past my no experience, and hired me! I start June 3rd, and I could NOT be more stoked!", "summary": "finally got a job after lots of self loathing!"}
{"id": "t3_tiv25", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Would it help if I said this feels pretty urgent? :(", "post": "Let me start with some background information. I'm 18, and about to graduate high school. I've pretty much been in a relationship pretty much ever since seventh grade. Most of them sucked; I've had ONE legitimately good relationship since then. (He and I are best friends, and I'm fairly certain that I will marry him one day.) However, I'm currently dating a guy I met at school. He was cool and everything to begin with, but when we started going out, everything changed. He's whiney, he's controlling, and overall, he's just pathetic. On top of that, he lied to me about how old he was, and didn't tell me 'til after we started dating. (He's 16, just for the record.) We've broken up once before, and my god, was it nasty. He went around telling people that I was using him for money, which I found hilarious, because he didn't even buy me a Valentine's day present \"because he wanted a bird\". Yeah. Anyways, it ended with A: him bringing all my laundry to school SOAKING WET and in a ripped up plastic grocery bag, and B: him screaming at me, in front of our entire first block JROTC class, to go fuck myself. So basically, I did what I always do- I took him back. I've put up with his clingy, childish bullshit for another barely tolerable two months, and I'm tired of it. I'm graduating on June 9th and shipping off to Basic Training on July 3rd (Army, 68W Combat Medic). I'm barely gonna get a \"summer break\" as it is, much less with him supergluing himself to me as usual. I don't want to drag this shit out, but another fight would emotionally ruin me right now. I'm not exactly one of strong emotional makeup, so this has been incredibly difficult for me. I guess now all I really need is advice. Help...? :(", "summary": "I'm young. I'm joining the Army and leaving in July. I have a shitty boyfriend. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_vfct6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst real life \"hive mind\" moment?", "post": "Here's mine.\n\nWhen I was in third grade, I ended up in the class of one of the coolest teachers I'd had yet. She was funny and witty, she was down to earth, and I didn't hate going to school. Things were great...but it didn't last.\n\nThere were no warning signs leading up to what happened, it just kind of happened. One day in class, an average day like any other, our teacher engaged another student in conversation during a lesson. My memory is foggy about what led up to the incident, but what happened is burned clearly into my memory. As far as I can remember, she said or asked him something in a joking/sarcastic tone. He stood up and said, \"No.\" And that's when she slapped him across the face.\n\nI couldn't believe it. I did what I thought any rational kid would do: I went home and told my mom. And because I was lucky enough to have an involved and caring mom, she took it straight to the principal.\n\nAgain, it's foggy, but I remember being harrassed by all the other kids who were there that day. I was called a liar by almost everybody. Nobody admitted the truth about what happened, not even the kid who got slapped. He said she patted him on the head. It blew my mind that he would cover for her. But even now, even despite the foggy recollection of everything else that happened before and after, I know the truth. That's when I learned that sheep have the tendency to follow one another, even when they're not headed in the right direction. I was the stray from the herd, and I became the outcast. Because I told the truth.\n\nAnybody got a similar story to share about the group mindset gone wrong?", "summary": "I snitched on my third grade teacher for slapping a student and nobody else owned up. I was shunned. Anything like this happen to you?"}
{"id": "t3_ofsmh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst thing a house guest of yours has done?", "post": "I'll start.\n\nI should note that I live in a pretty unique setup.  I live in the basement of a 3 story house owned by a family friend.  The first floor is a communal living space with a kitchen and living room.  My friend, his wife, his wife's sister and her fianc\u00e9 live on the second floor.  The third floor is rented out and closed off from the rest of the house.  \n\nOne thursday night a friend and I decided to go out to the bars and meet up with one of his friends who is in town from grad school.  He seemed pretty normal, smart, and friendly, but for some reason (probably a lost bet,) his friend is sporting a [fu manchu]  We proceed to get *very* drunk and I decide to grab a cab home at about 4am.  His friend is in zombie drunk mode so he hops in my taxi thinking I'm going to a party or something.  I let him come along to make sure he doesn't get lost in the city or ends up sleeping in an alley.  \n\nWhen we get back to my apartment, I set him up to sleep on my couch and go to bed myself.  I wake up to screaming from upstairs about an hour later.  Aparently, this guy who I had met for the first time that night had wandered into the sister and her fianc\u00e9's bedroom and stood creepily at the foot of their bed, watching them sleep.  When they woke up, he mumbled, \"Do you think I'm creepy? I can be way creepier.\"", "summary": "Friend of a friend stands at the foot of a housemate's bed and does his best serial killer impression very early in the morning."}
{"id": "t3_33eywn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my [23 F] have been 7 years together, and we have a long distance relationship.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been living together for a while but since a while we are apart from eachother again. \nAtm we are not together but speak daily on whatsapp. \nShe uses my fb account to see on her friends/families posts. But i have found out that she is checking daily a friends profile [20] (pictures of him). They know eachother like 1 year.\n\nI once jokily asked if she liked him but she said ofcourse not. She sees him every weekend when working together. I know she wouldn\u00b4t cheat on me, but the fact she lies to me hurts me. I dont want to be controlling her and i never did, but the fact i noticed this now makes me do it anyway. \n\nShe is still normal to me and she didnt changed her behavior alot. She started checking on him since im gone.", "summary": "Should i be worried? What should i do? Do you think she really likes him? I know she checks his profile trough her internet history"}
{"id": "t3_13j6fm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19]M saw [18]F texts months ago but are bothering me", "post": "I'm a 19 year old male, in college, together with an 18 year old female. We've been good friends for over a year, hooking up for over eight months, and exclusive for the past four. \n\nHowever, back in September, I saw a text message with one of her friends saying how she had \"gotten with\" her ex bf \"and how he now wants to like date\". I know she saw him. When she went on vacation in his town she told me when she did, and I was upset but she texted me the whole night and we fought the next few days. I kind of ended things as I felt like she lied (before I saw the texts) but then she cried and begged me back, etc. \n\nHowever, it's now closing in on December and that text still bothers me. When we were just hooking up she had gotten with a few other guys and it has caused trust issues since we were hanging out almost 24/7 even then, but that would be more as it would be technically considered cheating. I have a picture of the text on my phone, but I really do not know how to bring it up. Things are going well now, and it was so long ago. It was a mistake to not bring it up then, i know, but now it's haunting me and I don't know what to do. She had gone out drinking that night and whenever she does that and a girl friend texts her I usually look at it in case they think she's dead, or if they're dieing which is how I saw it.", "summary": "read incriminating texts months ago, and wanna now bring it up somehow."}
{"id": "t3_1cetlb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] get really jealous of stupid things in my relationship and I don't know how to get over it. Advice?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend [22M] for about 3 years and I never used to consider myself a jealous person. I wasn't really in the beginning, but now I find myself getting jealous ad insecure over stupid things. I am a pretty girl, and he tell me that all the time, so I should have no reason to be insecure. Yet I will get jealous if he talks about other girls to his friends, or watching movies with really pretty girls. I also don't really like going out to the college bars because there are so many gorgeous girls for him to look at. Also, I know it's stupid, but i'm a little jealous of his bother's girlfriend who he sees a lot, and she is a model. How do I get over these feelings so I can just enjoy my great relationship?", "summary": "i am a pretty and mostly confident girl in a happy long term trusting relationship with jealousy issues"}
{"id": "t3_30oerc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15 F] want to wait to do more sexual things with my boyfriend [15 M] but my body parts want otherwise.", "post": "I have only been dating him for a few weeks now, and I have done things with a guy before that I now regret as he was a shitty guy and didnt treat me right. I know this guy is a lot better than my ex-boyfriend, he has liked me more a long time now and always treats me with respect and care. I don't want to be a slut. But me and him go back to his place a lot hang out and kiss and stuff. Lately its getting a little more... you know. Nothing that he's pressuring me to do, all in my consent. It's probably even more my fault than his that its going that way. Nothing too bad, and you probably dont want the details, but its not even second base. I want to wait until we've been together a year or a year and a half. I want to wait until we've said I love you too each other. I dont want to do it because of any pressure, from him, society or peers, I am just so damn horney!! and I dont know how to keep control the girl downstairs. I dont know what to do! Please be nice with your comments, sometimes the comments start to feel a little patronizing.", "summary": "things are getting a little hot and heavy, my brain says no, but my love taco says yes"}
{"id": "t3_2z8vpw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Interested in creating a savings plan/ tips and advice!", "post": "Background:\nI'm a 22 year old male making 44k. Guaranteed 4k raise each year for the next ~10years. (Note: I started this job when I was 21 and made 40k. I max out at roughly 82k. I can retire after 30 years.)\nI know somewhere between little and absolutely nothing about saving and investment. My current bills total ~1000/mo. Lately, I've been way too frivolous with my money. I've been putting $500 into a savings account every month, however, if I could put myself on a more strict plan, I think I'd be able to save more. Problem is, I have no idea how to set up a decent plan. I've read posts about setting aside for houses and emergency money, but it all just seems a bit overwhelming to somebody who has no idea what he's doing. \nAs far as investments go, I don't know my butt from a hole in the ground. My job offers something comparable to a 401k. I've been investing in that. I asked a bunch of the guys who have been there a long time what they've been investing in and using that as a basic guide.\n\nI apologize in advance for the amount of questions that I have/ am going to have. I appreciate any and all advice!", "summary": "Making 44k this year. 4k raise every year for 10yrs. Need savings plan."}
{"id": "t3_2uyylj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(26/F) and my guy(28/M) broke up, I feel really sad and guilty.", "post": "I have posted a few posts before regardless to my bf who was an alcoholic and hurt me once when he was drunk. On top of that the last few days he has been acting weird on his phone/computer, so i did the wrong thing and things I really shouldn't do(not proud of it, and I was really upset at myself doing it after that), invade his privacy and found out that he was checking out okcupid(his profile says he is single and looking for sex) and talking to random women online. \n\nI went to confront him tonight and he got really pissed at me not because of the part where I invaded his privacy but the part where I was being insecure. Because I have been accusing of him trying to cheat on me every few days in the last 2 weeks. So we argued on the phone and he broke up with me.\n\nYes, I know I act crazy and insecure, I know I maybe deserved it cos of that. But my ex husband cheated on me in the same way 3 years back and I was traumatized ever since.\n\nNow I feel really bad and guilty because I think it's my fault to check on his e mail and decided to be insecure. \n\nI can't stop crying and I just don't know where to go from here on and what to do.", "summary": "Bf lied a lot, traumatized me feeling insecure due to the lies, invade his privacy  and found out he was planing to cheat on me. We broke up and now I feel like shit and guilty because I think it's my fault."}
{"id": "t3_1alxsm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [19M] broke up with my ex [22F] to get away from the fights. But still miss her. (xpost)", "post": "I [19M] broke up with my ex [22F] to get away from the fights. They made me so miserable. But still find myself missing her greatly. We dated for 2 and a half years and she would get angry at me for any little thing, and I would do what she wanted. I was 100% whipped. But now I find myself so upset when I remember the few good times we had and desperately want them back. She always promised to stop the anger but never did. I lived in constant fear of the next argument. But now am reminded of the good times and my heart swells with missing her. My question is, is what I'm doing for the best?\nAlso, not sure if this helps, but when I used to tell her I loved her, part of me felt like I was lying. Which is another reason why I don't understand why I miss her so much.", "summary": "broke with ex because she made me very sad, but find myself missing her, is what I'm doing for the best?"}
{"id": "t3_4jmmwx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) am always consistently attracted to older men (40M). I already know I have daddy issues. Do I just accept this as a part of who I am?", "post": "Since I was young, I have been attracted to men aged age 30-50. I can't remember a time I'd ever had a crush on someone within my age range- anyone I've been attracted to has been at least 30 years or older, no exceptions, even when I was 10 or 11.\n\nNow at age 26, I am running into trouble with this preference. I have been involved with married men before, and most of the men I am attracted to turn out to be married. Which makes sense since they are between the ages of 40-50. I am NOT attracted to that sort of thing- they are not attractive to me because they're married. I'm attracted to them because they are older, paternal, and usually authoritative- and those men tend to already be married. \n\nTo be clear, I am extremely self-aware of all of my behaviors and psychology. I know I am attracted to father figures because my own father was absent, and I always felt that hole in my heart, in my life, and now that's all I chase after.\n\nI always knew I was \"different\" from my peers and I have tried to pretend to be attracted to people my age. Unfortunately, it's never been real. I've tried to lie to myself, lie to my friends, force myself to change my attractions. I told my mother a few times about how I like older men and would like to marry someone 40-50 years old and she was horrified and told me it was a terrible idea, men die earlier, you'll be miserable, you don't want an old father for your children, it's not right, etc, etc. But I'm just exhausted. I like what I like. Is that okay? I want someday to marry a man who is older and paternal, but without any drama involved (married, affairs, etc.) It's all I long for.", "summary": "I am aware of the fact that I'm looking for a father figure in my sexual relationships- is this something I need to \"fix\" or can I just accept it as just a part of me?"}
{"id": "t3_g9fkf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Repost from /r/relationships: Please reddit, help me decode these mixed signals.", "post": "Sorry this is going to be long.\n\nSo I just got out of a 5 year relationship so there is a lot of rust and cobwebs to shake off.\n\nAnyways, while I was in this relationship there was this waitress I had a crush on, she was always very flirty and asked if I'd take her for a ride on my motorcycle. I said yes but never really set up a firm date (because I had a GF).\n\nThe flirting has continued nonetheless, we arranged to meet up one night but she didn't finish work until 2:30 AM and said she was too tired, and asked for a rain check. We've texted back and forth a few times since then, mostly just silly stuff, but a couple times during our conversations I have texted \"so when are you free next?\" but those texts go unanswered. She'll only answer flirty messages.\nI just assumed she was uninterested and started ignoring her when we went to that pub (kinda unavoidable as all my friends fucking LOVE that place). Yet every time we go there she's still all flirty, like punching me in the arm and hitting me over the head with menus as she walks by, starting conversations even when we aren't in her section. WTF!?!?\n\nOh yeah, I'm 25 and she's 26.", "summary": "mixed signals are confusing the hell out of me but the actions seem to indicate no interest."}
{"id": "t3_1idvwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M] desperately need help. My girlfriend's [20F] parents are unbelievably controlling and psycho.", "post": "A week and a half ago, her parents caught her and I cuddling under the covers watching a movie. This was after having known them since May.\n\nSince then, they have:\n\n-Suggested we break up and get to know each other better (I've nearly known her a year. We've been dating 3 months)\n-Told her she can't visit her sister because they don't trust her and think I'll be there.\n-Told her I would control her because I was shy upon first meeting her uncles and cousins.\n-Called the gyno pretending to be my gf and cancelled her appointment because they think she's getting birth control.\n-said that cuddling is for married couples\n-told her that they always see us holding hands and that will get old quick\n-But the worst. They told her she has to either choose me or them.\n\nI don't know what to do guys. I'm really hurt. I bought her mom chocolates for her birthday, and I've done nothing but treat my girlfriend the best I possibly could. I want my girlfriend to move out, but at this point I'm not sure she has enough money. Her parents took $5000 of her money for an account under her name so they could hide it for taxes or something. She agreed to it because she thought that was okay and it was before this whole situation. We go back to school in 4 weeks and she's 4 hours from home at school. What should I do and what should she do?", "summary": "I desperately need help. My girlfriend's parents are unbelievably controlling and psycho. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_2zt7ed", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help with girlfriend and her friend situation back home.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Both college students. We grew up in the same area, but I go to school in NC, she just transfered from USC, attends school back home right now, and is going to school about an hour away from home next semester.\n\nShe feels alienated trying to make new friends and keeping old ones because she is going to be at a new school next semester. She thinks \"what's the point if I'm not going to be here next semester?\" Because none of here friends she made last semester at USC reach out to her anymore. \n\nThat's the first issue I need help with; helping her want to make friends and feeling confident that they will keep in touch.\n\nThe second issue is in regards to a current friend she has known for years. This friend, call her Katie, has gone down a dark path of using HARD drugs and other social issues. Katie was dating a guy for a couple of months, and during those months, she took risks she never would have before. Unprotected sex. Smoking weed led to shrooms led to doing acid. This girl had 2 pregnancy scares during the time she dated him. They have now since stopped dating for various reasons, and my girlfriend thought she was going to gain her friend back. However, katie has started slacking off in class, and started showing up high. She doesnt reach out to my girlfriend, and ignores her when my girlfriend tries to reach out. Katie has no friends now, and spends all of her time on Tumblr and other social media.\n\nThis is the second issue; should I encourage my girlfriend to try to get her friend clean and on the right path again, or should she just let her go since she won't likely be friends with her once she goes to school elsewhere? \n\nThanks for your time", "summary": "see third and final paragraph."}
{"id": "t3_3xwkgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] feeling very insecure with my boyfriend [23M]", "post": "I love my boyfriend more than anything and we've been friends for over 5 years but just recently started dating. I've always told him everything, and felt very close with him. We have mutual friends and he's always talked to me like \"one of the guys.\" The first time we slept together, everything felt so natural and perfect. I've never had such a strong physical connection with someone, or felt so comfortable. After a few comments that he's made, I'm feeling very insecure and Idk what to do. We went out to eat and as we were leaving he stated that knew one of the waitress's and how he thought she had a great ass. He said that he considered asking her out but thought she would never go for him, but she started dating one of his less attractive coworkers shortly after meeting her, and how he should've went for it, at least so he could've slept with her one time. This is just one of the numerous comments he's made since we've started dating. I've NEVER heard him talk like this before so I'm feeling very confused. I'm no longer comfortable having sex with him and it's become very obvious and very awkward. Before we started dating, he always made me feel so special and we've always had such a strong friendship, idk how to be vulnerable with him anymore. :(", "summary": "feeling insecure after boyfriends comments."}
{"id": "t3_2iy55z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my abusive ex-boyfriend [26M] of 1 year, struggling with still living in the same city. The trial is over. Should I just move? (He has not tried to contact me or anything)", "post": "My ex-boyfriend became violent with me one night and I called the police. He was charged with battery by strangulation. The trial was *hell* but is now donewith. I am still struggling with the typical \"I deserved it\" mindset that most victims go through.\n\nIt was the first and last time he attacked me. He would be a dick sometimes but I never expected he would hurt me. He hasn't tried to contact me or anything, but I am having a really hard time still living in the same city. We had all the same friends and I lost *all* of them because of this incident. I see people we know everywhere when I go out and it ruins my self-worth knowing I lost my entire friend's group because of what he did to me. This was the first time anything like this had ever happened to me. I have never been called a name by a guy let alone had one try to basically kill me. To give some background, I had moved to the area for the university and became good friends with the whole group. They knew him much longer therefore when everything happened, they kind of sided with him. All the guys think I deserved what happened because I was in his face yelling. They all saw the injuries he left on me in person and through photos. I feel like I have this huge stigma attached to me. It's fucked with me a lot.\n\nAlso, without going into much detail, he is *very* well-known for his artwork in the city. People love him and respect him and I see it everywhere and hear people talk about it. I feel like the memory is just always looming around. \n\nPart of me wants me to move but the other part feels like that is weak of me to do. I feel like I should be stronger and not let what he did effect my life so much. Some of them still contact me but I just don't want anything to do with anything related to him. Would it be best to completely cut contact with everyone and just move to a different city? Thank you so much if you have read this.", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend abused me and is well-known in the city I live in. Lost all my friends. Should I just move or try to work through it and triumph over what he did to me?"}
{"id": "t3_kk6tj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] I ran 5k! (Also [C25K])", "post": "I'm a graduate of Couch to 5k, but I'd never actually ran 5k before, just thirty minutes straight.  Well, I'd reduced my running because I've really been focusing on strength-training for a couple of months now, and I've been seeing some major body composition changes that way, though my weight loss has dramatically slowed.\n\nWell, I promised myself that I'd run the first 5k that came along, and I found out a few days ago about one this coming Saturday, so I decided \"What the hell?  Why not try it.\"\n\nSo tonight, I decided to start training (granted a week is a very short time to train) for this weekend.  I ran 5k for the first time ever, and my time was 34:26!!!\n\nLet's just establish that frankly, I didn't even think I would make it the full 5k, let alone do it under 40 minutes.  I'm so excited, I could spit!!!", "summary": "former fatty ran 3.1 miles for the first time."}
{"id": "t3_xuaf9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "YIFU with a new lady friend", "post": "So before i begin i should add that i have not had a real girlfriend, nor have i been sexually active with a girl for about 9 months.\n\nI began using an online dating site to help me find the girl of my dreams, so i started talking too this one girl and she has been awesome so far... the complete package. we set up a little hangout yesterday and i drove to see her. when i saw her open the door i couldnt beleive it, she was beautiful. and i was, well... me. \n\ni was nervous, i was shy, and on top of that so was she. i started talking, mostly rambling to try and ease us both into meeting each other which semi worked, semi failed. i made the mistake of calling   her favorite character in a show, a slut... and then proceeded to have my young male thoughts come over me and next thing i knew i was rubbing her.. she didn't want me too but i kept doing it. \n\n2 hours in... she received a text from her mom saying that she would be home around 5 which meant i had too leave. which i think was her saying i don't like you get out of my house. i asked her if she wanted to hang out again and kissed her goodbye. told her i would text her later as well and she said okay and smiled. \n\ni texted her 2 hours after, no reply... i woke up today and said good morning, no reply, i then asked her again after work, if she was there, no reply. \n\nfeelsbadman.jpg", "summary": "i fucked up with the only girl i will ever get. and she was a 10/10"}
{"id": "t3_3wpcit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] Three years, Really messed up, she wasn't happy and now she is without me, what do i do?", "post": "So my girlfriend of three years recently asked to go on a break about 2 weeks ago, so being respectful I told her okay. So here I am now, I didn't understand what she meant at first but now I do.\n\nShe says she's been happier without me than with me, and that \"I'm sorry but I don't think we are gunna get back together anytime soon to be honest i'm sorry\"\n\nSo now what do I do? Should i stop trying to communicate with her and move on? I don't want to lose her, I really do love this girl, I just want to have my best friend back. We did everythign together, her mom also passed away from cancer 2 years ago while we were together.\n\nI was not ready to let this all go, but should i? Do i have to stop talkign to her to make her want to come back? please help, thanks guys.", "summary": "Lost my girlfriend, really want her back, don't know what to do at this point, feel like crawling into a ball and dying."}
{"id": "t3_47s1qx", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I want to refinance my car loan, but I was advised against it by my credit union.", "post": "I bought a used 2007 Pontiac G6 back in October 2013. I'm 21 so at 18, this was the first car I ever have financed. My dad helped me with the down payment and I was approved without a cosigner which I believe was because of the large down payment, since I did have credit however it wasn't very established. So they gave me an interest rate of 10.49%.\n\nFast forward a year(2014) and my credit had grown exponentially better, and I wanted to refinance. I sat down with an employee and she advised against it, almost to the point where she wouldn't do it if I pressed her to. Until this day, I still don't understand fully what she meant even though I had her repeat it to me 3 times. She said the equity of the car is greater than what it would be worth if you were to refinance it. I bought my car for around 8k, 3k was put down, and I'm currently paying $115 a month for it. While this is extremely affordable, the interest rate in my opinion is way high, why pay extra when I know I don't have to?\n\nNow the topic of interest rates has come up in conversation recently with my boyfriend and he said they just told me that to milk the money out of me, and that I should be able to refinance with no problem. He said I could definitely be paying a lot less, and now I'm considering going back and trying to refinance again. However I don't want to sound like an idiot if they try to sell me the same spiel.\n\nIs this a legitimate reason to not refinance, or are they just out for my money? I only have about 1 1/2 years until it's paid off.", "summary": "financed car at 10.49%, want to refinance for a lower interest rate ~2 years later out of a 4 year loan. Bank strongly advised against it, almost denying to do it, saying the equity for the car is higher than what it would be worth to refinance. I have no idea wtf she meant and I want to try again and be able to argue against that case if they use it to advise against financing."}
{"id": "t3_3xncev", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Proposing without a ring. Help!", "post": "I plan on proposing to my girlfriend soon. We have been dating for a year and a half, and we have discussed marriage. Extensively, so this isn't coming out of the blue. How many kids we want, what church will use, the ring, etc. The thing is I just bought a house for us and due to unforeseen expenses I can not afford the ring she wants. I suggested that I get a smaller ring and we upgrade it down the road when we can afford it. She liked that idea but ultimately decided she would rather wait until we can afford the one she wants later in life and that I should just propose without a ring. However I have no idea how I should do it. \n\nI have dinner set up at a restaurant we both love and was planing on doing it there. I've heard the ring pop idea, or a cheap thrift store ring. I know her and she would hate all of those. She actually mentioned she would hate both of those.\n\nI need help!", "summary": "Both agreed to not buy a ring, do not know how to propose without one. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_xjrgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it rude to treat someone differently once you find out that they have a significant other?", "post": "I recently started working at a summer internship and naturally began meeting lots of people. Lots of good looking college women to be specific. So here I am, mid flirtatious conversation with the hottest girl in the department when out slips \"my boyfriend...yada yada yada\". I tried not to look immediately disappointed but the smirk slipped right off my face.\n\nNow every time she comes to my desk to talk about what I'm doing on the weekend I keep thinking about how I've been cheated on and don't want to cause any complications. Although I can tell she can tell that I'm being stand off-ish and I'm afraid she thinks I'm being rude. I've stopped complimenting her on how good she looks, stopped IMing her, stopped eating lunch alone together. Is that just the price you pay for being in a relationship? No flirting with the guys at the office? Or am I just being a dick...", "summary": "= I found out a girl I regularly flirt with is spoken for, now I've stopped flirting back. Is that being appropriate or rude?"}
{"id": "t3_4f4b53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [22F] not feel bad going through a breakup with my [25M] boyfriend?", "post": "We were together for about 10 months - a healthy, happy, loving and caring relationship from start to finish - and he recently moved in with me. Ultimately the breakup wasn't very volatile: We want different things in different cities, and don't want to hurt one another by failing to live our truths and become the best people we can be... even though that means separating by thousands of miles, and not being together any more. \n\nOur conversations have been mature and honest, but while he is devastated -- alternately sleeping on the couch and sobbing in my arms -- I am... relieved? And maybe even a little excited, and actively holding myself back from contacting other people I had crushes on during the relationship, all before he's even figured out where he will go when he leaves my apartment. \n\nObviously I've been checked out of the relationship for some time, and have already gone through lots of the grieving process prior to the actual breakup. But I feel like a sociopath for watching someone I loved, and will absolutely always love, be in so much pain while I have yet to even cry (and don't feel like I'm going to). What gives? Am I emotionally stunted, or is the grief only going to hit when he's actually gone, or something else?", "summary": "In the middle of a breakup, he is crushed and I'm just relieved, even though I love and care about him very much. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_2hzul6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "No Facebook for you!", "post": "This girl in work annoys me. She isn't very intelligent or computer savvy and will just go on Facebook all day if she gets the chance.\n\nSo one day during our morning break, she leaves for her 4th cigarette break that day. (Before10:30am) I quickly got on the PC and redirected the urls for Facebook to go back to Google search, not even accessing Facebook through the Google search will give the site at all.\n\nThe sweet sweet frustration of watching her trying to access Facebook was pure gold, she tried the shorthand facebook.com. then www.facebook.com. confused when the google logo showed up and entering it all for a further 3 minutes. She even asked me what was wrong with it. (I fix all technical/computer issues we have, not my job I just have good knowledge of hardware and software). So I just lied and said \"I don't know\".\n\nNeedless to say she spends no time at all on the PC now and actually does work.\n\nThis petty revenge was brewing for a long time and has lasted 3 months so far. She can't ask our barely existant tech support for help either as we shouldn't be on Facebook in work. \n\nI've been tempted to remove the redirections for the other staff but a part of me enjoys her not being able to do a thing about it.", "summary": "horrible colleague treats me like shit, blocked facebook access in work."}
{"id": "t3_4dx9nm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23f) fiance (32m) wants to help support me during college", "post": "I'm a full time student and I work part time as a freelance writer.  We are engaged and we have a lot of 24/7 BDSM aspects to our relationship (we are kinky fucks, okay?).  He has suggested the idea of me stopping working or cutting way back and focusing on school.  He will support me during that time and in return I'll get good grades and graduate on time as well as doing all/most chores and cooking (don't mind at all).  He also wants me to coupon, and I'm cool with that.  I just feel guilty accepting the help.  He really seems like he wants to, and his income can definitely allow for this.  Together for 11 months.  Wedding next fall.", "summary": "fiance wants to support me during school.  He is sincere an makes more than enough money.  I feel guilty accepting."}
{"id": "t3_1iylby", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running pro tip: On training runs, high five every runner you pass.", "post": "This applies when you run past another runner going the opposite way to you. Raising your hand for a high five does the following:\n\n* As you see them approach, you're thinking about the high five, not how tired you are. \n\n* When they high five you, that split second creates a bond. All of a sudden, you're not alone in your struggle, it's like a race. The pack is with you again.\n \n* When you see the face light up of that gorgeous person from your desired gender, you will be thinking about it for miles feeling on top of the world. \n\n* You run faster after the high five, because they know you're cool, and you want to keep looking cool as speed by. \n\n* If you high five someone who is struggling, you are not being patronising, you are giving them a boost. You are giving them all of these benefits too. \n\n* If you get left hanging (which is very rare unless they don't see you or don't understand what you're trying to do), you will spend the next mile trying to figure out what went wrong, again not thinking about how tired you are. \n\n* It's a safe and rewarding way to interact with strangers, it has a high success rate, and the interaction is over in a split second. This is a good way to overcome social anxiety, and when an interaction with someone you don't know goes well, you feel amazing. When you feel amazing, you run further and faster. \n\nIf you don't pass a lot of runners, just high five walkers, or literally anyone. \n\nThis has been the best discovery for me in terms pushing past those moments when I'm about to give up. The extra few miles is always post high five, as is the timed PB. \n\nYesterday I was on a run, just being an average looking guy bumbling along on my way, and I saw this stunning young blonde up the road. I threw up my hand for a high five, and she came running towards me with her hand in the air giggling. I was replaying her laugh in my mind for the next 15km.", "summary": "High fiving people will make you feel like a boss and you will forget you are tired."}
{"id": "t3_2i2b52", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [17/m] looking for suggestions for *bonding* activities for my **STEP**sister (14/f) and I to do together.", "post": "So there's this girl that i *really* like, and I'm having trouble with coming up with things for both of us to do together. \n\n-----\n\n**A little background**\nWe've lived together for as long as we can remember. We're very close, but i want to start a more serious relationship. (Where I'm from, starting a relationship with a stepsister is **NOT** illegal.) So far, she doesn't know how i feel about her, and I'm not ready to tell her yet either.\n\nOn Monday, we took a 6 hour walk to Starbucks (**HER IDEA**), and we bonded QUITE alot, but since then, we haven't done much together. Although, today i let her do my makeup (*shh, im embarrassed enough*)", "summary": "I'm really just trying to get ideas for what we can do together to form a closer relationship between us."}
{"id": "t3_2z4u4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my date [20F] and she doesnt like kissing.", "post": "Ok not going to use names because she is a redditor. So i have been out on 3 dates with this girl and things are going well. We both click and she told me she is interested and wants to see where things go. She hasnt been in a serious relationship before.\n \nLast night i went in for a kiss and i could tell by lip movement that she was nervous. No tongue just two small kisses on the lips. We then both leave (she had to go to work). We are texting this morning and she said \"for some reason im not a fan of kissing. (this is absolutely nothing personal)\" She mentioned that she asked her mom and aunt about it and they arent fans either.\n\nIs this legit or is this girl yanking my chain. I have never gotten complaints before. Was my breath bad? im thinking something is wrong with me because this is just unheard of in females.\n\nPlease help Reddit.\nThank you", "summary": "Date doesnt like kissing and it isnt me apparently. Not sure if its really me or not"}
{"id": "t3_qumjr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my Dad died almost three years ago. He was 53 - and I was wondering...", "post": "So my Dad died almost three years ago. He was 53. I'm 25. Every now and again he makes an appearance in my dreams. \n\nNow - He always shows up between the ages of 40-53 in them. \n\nWhat I'm wondering, what happens when I'm in my 40's and 50's and still having dreams where he drops in for a cameo - is it going to be weird that I'm going to be the same age, if not older than my Dad when interacting in the dream? Something that crossed my mind. Any theories? experiences from older redditors who crossed this age threshold with a loved one?", "summary": "will my dad age in my dreams, or will I catch up."}
{"id": "t3_11jrlc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need Motivation - Despairing Over My Body Shape", "post": "Hey everyone.\n\nI've recently begun my weight loss journey, and \"body shape\" has become an unfortunate obsession of mine. I have what I would call an \"apple\" body shape, and every where I turn people are talking about how unhealthy, unattractive, and overall *bad* that body shape is. \n\nI'm currently about 250lbs, and my measurements are 53\"-44\"-47\" ish. Last year I was 180lbs, but gained 70lbs in about three months. Yes, three months - I was diagnosed shortly afterward with autoimmune hypothyroidism. At 180lbs, my measurements were 43\"-34\"-40\" (bra size 36H). \n\nAnyway, I clearly have an apple body shape, and I'm terrified that once I lose the weight I'll look like Sherri Shepherd. Am I doomed to be that top-heavy? Do any of you ladies who have lost weight have an apple body shape too? What did your measurements turn out to be? Can you link me to your progress pics, if you have any?\n\nI have scoured this subreddit, r/progresspics, mybodyshape, and the internet in general, but I'm more frustrated than ever. I'd just like to see/hear/read some awesome apple before and after stories. \n\nNo matter what I will continue to lose weight for health reasons, but the idea of looking great used to be my biggest motivator. I want it back!", "summary": "Have an apple weight loss success story? Please share or link me. Please."}
{"id": "t3_h8r9i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are the ways you keep from letting one rip in the office?", "post": "I'm flatulent. No, you don't understand, like *oozing pus from the deepest bowels of Cthulu* flatulent. I once farted on my own hand and couldn't wash the smell off for days. I've let out full orchestra wonders that lasted 30 seconds. \n\nI've had my own office ever since I started working. I'm moving to a new job soon where I will have to share an office with 2 or 3 other people. How do I keep from choking them with my putrid smells?\n\nP.S. I'm a girl, if it matters. My husband has suggested wearing the sluttiest outfits possible to work to deflect the blame.", "summary": "How do I avoid crop dusting my new co workers?"}
{"id": "t3_15nca9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do any of you have experience with hypersomnia?", "post": "I'm a 21 year old female, and my husband (who's 22) is tired.  He's tired *all* the time.  I love him, and I know he's not doing this out of laziness.  He's lucky if there are a handful of hours out of the day that he feels alright.  Today, for instance, he slept 11 hours last night, and is currently in the midst of a 2-and-a-half hour (so far) nap.\n\nHe's been to the doctor, and he's had his thyroid tested to no avail.  He was tested for a testosterone deficiency, and that came up normal as well.  His doctor suggested that it may be a shift-work disorder, but offered no help as to what that may entail.  He and I have been looking into it hoping to know what questions to ask if he goes back to the doctor (which he's almost sure to do) and it seems like hypersomnia fits the bill.  However, that's just what we've been able to investigate, and I know it's always risky to play online-doctor.\n\nI know that hypersomnia has been connected to depression, and he's been treated with chronic depression since he was 18.  His father and sister have been treated for he same thing, as well as his father's mother.\n\nI'm sorry for the wall of text, but we're expecting our first child in May and want to know what we're dealing with.  We'd also like for my husband to feel better in time to really be able to enjoy his child's life.", "summary": "My husband is tired **all** the time, and we're suspecting that it may be hypersomnia.  I'd love it if anybody out there could help me out with some advice or first-hand experience."}
{"id": "t3_t1usz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Foreclosure troubles...", "post": "I've been moved out of my mom n dads place for about two months now. I didn't leave on very good terms with either of them, but I obviously still love them a lot, along with my three younger siblings (14, 12, 11). \n\nAfter not hearing from my Mom for awhile, which is unusual, even if I never reply, she sends me a text message asking me if I have any ideas how to raise $20,000 because the mortgage re-financing didn't go through like she was hoping, and the houses foreclosure sale is May 10th. \n\nMy mom tries so hard, it's breaking my heart she might have to move out of that home she has put so much work into over the last nine years of our lives. She works from home, and takes care of the kids, my father is as good as absent. $300,000 (all, that i know of) of the money Mom inherited from my late grandfather was blown paying penny stocks & paying for things by my Dad that were supposedly being paid for by his job as a mortgage broker. For 7 years he kept up the farce.\n\nAnyways;", "summary": "How do I help my Mother raise $20,000 by May 10th?"}
{"id": "t3_3de29q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23f] nervous to be with a guy [30m] who is astronomically better looking/successful. I need tips for dating out of my league.", "post": "I've been single for a couple months and have been lightly communicating with a guy. I am accepting of myself, but honestly I'm maybe a 6-7 out of 10. Ive known a certain guy for a few years but not well, and I decided to get to know him. This guy is an 11 out of 10. He is like a movie star. \nI've been to his house before and we seemed to have a connection. He has tons of money and I have nothing. He has a great car, travels the world, and has written books/worked in places where he was making $600 a day. He is an engineer and a better artist than I am. I am still in undergrad and have a shitty apartment with 2 roommates. I am struggling in physics and he can zip through it like child's play. \nI'm finding it hard to not be intimidated or feel like I am wasting his time trying to get to know him when he is out of my league. He has given me compliments about my personality and appearance, but I can't tell if he does that to all women or not. I don't want to be a disappointment, although I have tried to be open about what I am and am not. \n\nCan you have a successful relationship with someone that far out of your league? Should I back out and cut off contact?", "summary": "I need tips on dating out of my league, and is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_1rcq31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [22 M] of 2.5 years [22 F] and in a LDR for 6 months, tells me he's not happy anymore but wants to keep trying...do I wait around for him?", "post": "My boyfriend and I met in college and have been dating for 2.5 years. He's a senior at school now and I graduated and moved away for a job. We've been doing long distance for the past 6 months (and have done long distance successfully in the past) but about 2 months ago he told me he wasn't happy in his life or at school without me there. He's dealt with depression before so I thought it was part of that...but he says now that he just doesn't feel the same excitement/passion in our relationship as he did in the beginning, even when we did long distance the first time. \n\nHe says he wants to do everything he can to try to make it work. He's meeting with a therapist to try to sort through everything and see what it is that's making him feel like this because he says he wants to be happy with me. He says he really wants to be with me and can't imagine his life without me. \n\nI don't feel the way he feels, he still makes me happy and I still have so much fun in our relationship. He's been trying to figure stuff out for 2 months and still nothing's changed, do I keep waiting around for him to figure out if he wants to be with me? We both want the relationship to work so badly. Is it it even possible to get the excitement and passion back in your relationship that you had in the very beginning like he wants?  Do you think he'll ever be really happy with me again or has our relationship just run it's course?", "summary": "BF of 2.5 years says he's not happy, but trying to make things work. Do I stick around?"}
{"id": "t3_1tsse2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my crush [24/m] duration, not sure how to keep him interested", "post": "So, I've been interested in this guy for quite some time. Just saw him around and was EXTREMELY attracted to him but figured we weren't very compatible. One night he came up to me while we were both out and we talked briefly. It was a very short, but interesting conversation and ever since we've been \"liking\" everything each other posts and I may or may not have hit on him extremely hard via some social media thing because I thought that he had moved away and I wouldn't see him anymore.\n\nANYWAY, he came back home for the holidays and we talked and exchanged numbers. He's been texting me kind of frequently acting like he's interested but we kind of just stopped abruptly. I'm not sure how to keep him interested or what to do. I typically just say what I would say to any of my friends but I can't tell if that's creeping him out because I'm being sort of weird so I've tried to be more normal but those kinds of conversations bore me. It was going relaly well at first though but I'm not sure what to do. he texted melast and i didnt respond and now im not sure if texting him again would be weird or if i should wait for him or what. HELP PLZ.", "summary": "im 22 and still dont know how to do this whole flriting thing helpl"}
{"id": "t3_31tzhm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Me [19 M] with my \"friend\" [19 F] I don't know how to approach this.", "post": "I have known this girl since I was in 6th grade. We went to a small middle school so every knew everyone at that school. I wouldn't say we were good friends just acquaintances. From 6th to 8th we went to school together. \n\nFor high school we went to separate schools and i didn't even talk to her at all during that time.\n\nI am now in college and we happen to go to the same college and live in the same housing building. I see her every once in a while and she'll come up to me and hug me and say hello. We have never had a long conversation just hello and a hug, today she asked my how my day was, idk if i'm reading into but people don't usually ask how your day was unless they are interested. It seems weird for me because we never really talked and she hugs me like we've known each other before. \n\nI want to try and pursue a relationship but i don't want to text her randomly and seem like i just started to text her for a relationship. How can i pursue this girl?", "summary": "Known girl since middle school. Didn't talk to her then. Now in college together. Comes up to me and hugs me every time i see her. Can i pursue her?"}
{"id": "t3_49xmd5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] don't know how to approach my best friend [16 F] anymore.", "post": "My best friend is diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression, and I've been able to handle it with ease since we'd first met over a year ago, but now all of her problems become my problems and she doesn't let me help when there's something I can do, and we argue almost on a daily basis at this point.\n\nThe problem is that I try really hard to be a man of my word, meaning anytime I say \"I promise\" I *mean* it, and she made me promise her that I wouldn't ever leave her.\n\nWhat makes it even more difficult is that she automatically thinks she's the \"Other Woman\" (stupid highschool politics) because I never hang out with her and my girlfriend [Of a month, 16 F] at the same time, when they hate each other, and both have blatantly told me that.\n\nMy best friend is that one girl that everyone knows has a ton of crap going on and life's really rough on her, and basically my entire department knows that I'm the guy she always goes to because we're close... but I think I need some time for me. She causes me stress, physical stress. I can feel the knots in my back getting tighter as I type.\n\nAnd if I mention this to her, she'll apologize a million times, cry probably, and then say how she's a horrible friend and so on, and I just need time to be me. To not have to worry about her.", "summary": "Best friend hates girlfriend, best friend sees herself as GF #2 and causes me physical and mental stress"}
{"id": "t3_2lnm6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 37M with my 39F wife. (possible cheating - next steps welcomed)", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 14 years and have 2 children.\n\nShe works as a consultant and is often on travel. Today, saw a message string between her and a client. He's hitting on her.Normally, that wouldn't bother me, but she seemed to encourage it - or at least not stopping it. And to clarify, this is a tiny client - his account is meaningless to her quarterly goals. \n\nShe kind of started it by remarking that he was attractive in text. Seemed kinda random. But then, He texts her that she's beautiful, and he knows nothing can happen, they should talk, and he's thought about her all day, imagined what she's wearing etc. She didn't seem to respond to any of the compliments directly except with a smiley face, and an \"if only\" when he said she was so beautiful and he wishes he could hold her.\n\nI don't know what to do. Am I overreacting? \n\nI love her, don't want to loose her, and don't suspect she's ever cheated on me before. \n\nWe had a rough patch and briefly flirted with divorce a few years back. I just feel crappy, insecure, emasculated and don't know what to do.\n\nI want to tell her I saw the text, want an explanation, and want her to cut the client out of her life. But if she's going through something that she's not sharing and wants to work through on her own, I fear my approach could end our relationship.", "summary": "Please send me any advice you may have. "}
{"id": "t3_mjglf", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I'm finally free from my ex (this one is short).", "post": "I just wanted to give everyone out there hope that it's possible to be happy without someone that you used to be happy with. I (24m) was with someone for 6 months (21f) and during that time I went WAY out of my way to make her feel good and not one ounce was appreciated. I let her walk all over me for too long and yesterday I finally nutted up and took control over MY situation. \n\nI might be dying from a tumor that's taking over my spine, but at least I'm no longer letting my emotions get dragged along by someone who didn't even realize how shitty they were treating me even after I continuously told her how I felt.", "summary": "I nutted up and so can you. Don't ever let yourself go unappreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_1w4hl1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27f] got dumped 2 months ago. Have talked to two friends that I trust, but cant get over the feeling that I have betrayed my ex by telling friends stuff that ex might not be happy that other people know... More inside", "post": "After he broke up, I was a mess. I talked alot with my family and with people at work and at home.\n\nMost of the people I talked to, did not get the full details. My family did, but I trust them and know that they will never see or talk to my ex anyway.\n\nBut the two friends that I have talked to are likely to hang out with my ex. I trust them, and have told both that they must never speak about this with anyone. They are both male and not the gossip type. \n\nI still cant shake the feeling that my ex somehow is to know this. I know that I also feel very guilty for telling this things, but like I said, I was a mess(did not eat, sleep, drinking alchohol). \n\nI just needed to vent when he broke up, and I am afraid that I have said to much.... \n\nHave someone been in this situation? How normal is it that people you talk about \"find out\"? Am I beeing paranoid?", "summary": "Afraid ex is to know things I said about him to friends"}
{"id": "t3_3vn9vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] Need help on way to propose after she is done with BMT.", "post": "So right now my GF is in Basic Training down in San Antonio. She graduates the week of Christmas, and I plan on asking her to marry me while I am down there. \n\nComing up with a plan seems impossible, and I want it to be special and unique. The only idea I have right now is to go to the mall on Christmas eve, and have my mother go set something up with the Santa there and be like \"hey lets get our picture taken\" and have the Santa say something to her like \"I know what you want for Christmas\" and then I would go to my knee and present the ring. Please let me know if you think that is a good idea, or have any better.", "summary": "I need a unique way to ask my girlfriend to marry me."}
{"id": "t3_2urwnb", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My [23 M] SO, we have been dating for about 3 months, girlfriend was drunkenly kissed by one of her friends after we were hanging out at a bar.", "post": "SO and I have been dating for about 3 months and it seems like things have been going pretty well.\n\nLast weekend we arranged to meet at a bar in a nearby city(where she lives) for some drinks and we would each bring some friends to make it a social thing. As the night goes on everyone is having a good time but one of her friends is kind of interrogating me, which is fine since she is just looking out for her friend.\n\nMy group, myself and one other, took the bus there since we couldnt find a DD. Once it gets close to 2 my friend starts calling cab companies so we have a plan to get home. Usually I crash at my SOs place but one of her friends was staying over and I didnt want to impose and assume the same with my friend in tow. In retrospect I should have just asked.\n\nI didn't want to be rude and ditch the only person that came with me so we managed to catch the last bus home. SO and I text where she mentions that the interrogating friend liked me until I left and is now super pissed. A few days later SO told me that on their way home interrogating friend, forgot to mention interrogating friend is a female, said \"she deserves someone better\" and kissed her/made out a bit. She said she felt weird and there was no emotion in it, it doesnt mean anything, sometimes that happens when girls get drunk etc....though she told me these things on the phone.\n\nI am seeing her later today and I am still not sure how I feel about the situation. At first I didnt really think too much of it but its started to creep in my head a bit I suppose. My plan is to talk to her about it later in person.\n\nIs this something I should be upset about or chastise myself for being a dumbass and leaving?", "summary": "SO's female friend drunkenly kissed SO after a night at the bar. I went home early so that my friend that joined us got home okay. Not sure how to feel? Could this be a warning sign for other stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_4gb9vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [18 F] Long Distance and Drinking", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for a year and a half. When we started dating, I was at a local community college, and she was in high school. She got accepted into a university 4 hours away, and decided to go. We had talked about parties and drinking, and we both said that we weren't going to be into that, and that we would want to wait to drink together.\n\nFast forward to this year, we were handing long distance pretty well, but then one night she said that she dank a little bit, and I was a bit nervous after she told me, but she just tried it, so I was fine. Then a couple weeks later she has one, I was getting a little bit more worried, but decided that you know, it's her decision, and she can do what she wants. Then awhile later she had more and got tipsy. Again I was a bit nervous, but I just said, if you could just tell me when you drink, I'll feel better, and so she said yes. Then a couple weeks later, she didn't tell me, and I asked the next day, and she told me she drank, but I was like, well why didn't you tell me? And she kind-of played dumb. Now I know she went out a couple days ago, and I know she got really drunk because I heard her friends talking about it, not be eavesdropping or anything, but she hasn't said anything about it, and it's making me uncomfortable. What should I do?", "summary": "GF started drinking, agreed to tell me when she does, but doesn't"}
{"id": "t3_15vb48", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f23) can't talk to my boyfriend (m23) when it really matters.", "post": "We've been dating for a little over a year now and we have a pretty ok relationships. But there are times when we need to talk about our feelings and go into a deep discussion about it. But when this happens I feel my throat closing up and my brain basically shutting down all my vocals. Its like there's a wall over my voice and I cant get around it. I get anxious the second before I do bring myself to try to say something but all I can manage to get out is a small squeak or mumble.\n\nThere are things I do need to tell him but I cant bring myself to say anything. Is there anyway I can work past this that would be easy on me? Cause I really would like to tell him whats on my mind, without my mind blocking me from doing so.", "summary": "I can't talk to my boyfriend about my feelings, how can I get over this so I can tell him how i feel?"}
{"id": "t3_2eves3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where's a good place to go on holiday to around November time?", "post": "I have 15 days of holiday left at work to use up by the new year, and after being sent a reminder e-mail to take our holidays, my mind began to ponder.\n\nI'd love to go abroad for a week in November time, to somewhere that is nice and hot. But I have no idea where to even start.\n\nI'm pretty flexible on dates and to where I go as I'm super curious and love the idea of travelling to new places. \n\nI was thinking of spending a maximum of around the \u00a31,500 mark for flights and the hotel, as I'm only 20 years old so I'm still not earning a huge amount of money... (hurray for savings!)\n\nThanks in advance guys :)", "summary": "Does anybody have any recommendations on holiday locations that are warm but fairly cheap?"}
{"id": "t3_yzkz3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your worst movie-going experience ever?", "post": "Mine was about the time the last Harry Potter movie came out. I was a big fan, so I went to see the midnight premier with some friends. I wanted to see it again, though, so I went again a few days later.\n\nAnyway, I sit down in the theater with my girlfriend and the movie starts. I noticed that we are sitting in front of what appeared to be a Downs syndrome couple, a guy and a girl. About three or four minutes into the film, I notice some strange sounds coming from the seats directly behind us. I don't think much of it since it's not really disrupting my viewing experience - yet.\n\nThe sounds keep growing in volume and frequency. It sounds like the girl behind us is having some serious stomach issues. She's squirming around in her seat, making squealing noises all the while. It's obvious to me that she's desperately trying to hold something in, and whatever it is, it wants out.\n\nThis goes on for a while, probably half an hour to 45 minutes. Eventually, she starts asking here SO to go with her to the bathroom for some reason. All I hear is, \"Honey, will you please come with me? Honey? Honey, will you please come with me?\" over and over again. Every single time, he either ignores her or mutters something about how he doesn't want to miss any of the movie. \n\nAnd she just keeps getting worse. She starts stifling farts, but they keep coming harder and faster until they just won't stop. She's desperately trying to get him to hit the bathroom with her, but he won't budge and she won't leave without him. She's squealing, writhing in her seat, holding in farts or poop or some lethal mixture of the two. \n\nThis lasts for and HOUR AND A HALF. Right around the scene where [Harry dies and goes to King's Cross Station with Dumbledore](/spoiler), he finally agrees to go to the bathroom with her. They come back a couple minutes later totally fine.\n\nIt was horrifying.", "summary": "A Downs woman stifles a shitstorm, her husband won't help, I'm horrified"}
{"id": "t3_2cbsed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [44 F] mother needs a soulmate [40+ M] after years of emotional abuse from my father.", "post": "Hello, I am here to give Reddit a chance to make my mom happy for the first time in nearly 20 years. I know the internet is full of people who will try to scam or the ones who are only here for their libidos, however I am tired of seeing my mother unhappy and I would appreciate it if you left now if you happen to be one of those people. \n\nI will try to explain what has been going on and hopefully someone here can help me. My mother is 44 and she has been married to basically a psychopath for about 20 years. He is antisocial, and after living with him we are quite sure he suffers from the paranoid personality disorder, but I am unable to help him because he is very ignorant and hateful when it comes to him being the troublemaker. My mother and him had one child, here I am trying to find someone who will respect my mother and show her that she can also be happy.\n\nMy father has been emotionally abusing me and my mother ever since I was very little (abusive lang, making us feel worthless) and also used to sometimes physically abuse my mother where I remember her thumb being broken and many bruises. My mother however has always supported him in every way just because she had thought he would make her happy in the end, also because she didn't have support from anyone else and she couldn't afford to leave him with me. My father has now made her work in another country for 4 years simply because he doesn't want her to be with him. And I am just in the middle, hoping for a miracle for my mothers happiness. \n\nIf you know someone or if you are the one who can help me, please feel free to do so. It would be much appreciated. Also leaving comments such as \"Why doesn't she just divorce?\" Really doesn't help. We are not financially strong enough and it takes too long to get what we deserve. We are trying but we are unsure how things will turn out. \n\nThank you for reading.", "summary": "My mother has been emotionally/physically abused for years and now left alone away from me by my dad. I am looking for someone who can pick her up from the mess and help us be happy. Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_mqlnm", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Help with Girlfriends Cat", "post": "Okay so my girlfriends cat has become a giant bitch lately. When my girlfriend isn't home she pisses on literally everything. She will hide under the bed and hiss and attack your hands when you try and get her out ( she ripped the mattress so she gets way under it). She tears everything up and attacks her for no reason. She tears up the carpet. Torn up the door frames and doorknobs. She also attacks the two other kittens who a little over a month ago was just fine with them. \n\nAs the final kicker she will piss or shit on you if you try and pick her up.She then gets really cuddly at night time but when given attention starts attacking again. We are going to take her to the vet soon but if anyone has seen this behavior or maybe knows what we can do to change it that would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Her cat is fucking evil as hell."}
{"id": "t3_3y18m1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "18 on my own, hitting a few rough patches any advice is appreciated!", "post": "Okay so I'm on my own in an attic apartment, working full-time trying to save (emphasis on trying). I just recently got a car and insurance and yadadadada, I owe the insurance agency $600, and I owe my friend $500 because he helped me pay for the car. I have $20 to my name. Recently I've been splurging because I got my car and it felt real good but today I woke up and it was hit, the wheel is now / instead of | it drives but I feel sketchy driving it, I need money to fix the car, have to pay 600 to my insurance agency by January 8th and I have unlimited time to pay my friend back but I want to do it asap, I make about $350 a week and Christmas is friday so I should come into some money and I think everything will be okay. I just feel alone, I have my girlfriend but we're at 2 different places in life, her still being in high school and living with her mom and me living on my own struggling to survive. Any advice on growing and staying happy would be highly appreciated. Thank you have a nice day!", "summary": "Owe ~1200, have no family, $20 to my name"}
{"id": "t3_3axvig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my spouse [40 M] of 18 years. And two kids. Expensive long-distance family vacation/visit planned in August with my dear in-laws. Breakup may be imminent. How to proceed?", "post": "I love him and he loves me. But I think we're headed for divorce, either in the immediate future or within a year. Nothing is set in stone yet. Nobody outside the relationship knows. We can put a good face on it. When school starts in fall the amount of other business to attend to will skyrocket, and therefore it will be a bad time to be seperating. Also I am not 100% sure. Not 100% sure, and he is very very clear that there will be no trial separation. Once the trigger is pulled, there is no turning back. We have time to be civilized about it now. I want to go on the trip as planned, because we have been looking forward to this and plan to be ticking off a few items on my bucket list. If I don't, I will probably never see my in-laws on this side again. I like them a lot.", "summary": "One last family vacation, the four of us? Or make it the very first kids and dad trip, so soon after dropping a bomb on everyone?"}
{"id": "t3_1rt6uf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M28] left for a long weekend ski trip and didn't even tell me [F27]. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "[Update](\n\nI'm a little pissed, so I apologize in advance if this is a little rant-like.\n\nHim and I have been serious for almost a year now. We see each other nearly everyday. Unfortunately, due to work commitments, we didn't get to spend Thanksgiving together. Which means I haven't seen my boyfriend since Wednesday night. I miss him.\n\nSo I called him up on Friday night to see if he wanted to hang out and he said he couldn't because he's in the mountains skiing/snowboarding and wouldn't be back until Tuesday morning. What the fuck? He didn't give me ANY advance notice whatsoever! He literally didn't say a single word about this trip. Plus, it's not like he went alone, he went with several friends (girls too). His friends posted a few pictures on Facebook and they seem to be having a lot of fun. I guess I just feel left out. \n\nDo I have a reason to be really upset or is this not a big deal? How am I supposed to handle this?", "summary": "I didn't get invited along on a ski trip."}
{"id": "t3_ydlw9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one \"buy\" Medicare?", "post": "(Repost since my first submission was not in the form of a question.)\n\nSituation:\n\nMy father is 72 years old and has had a green card for 18 years but lives abroad. He has not worked in the US nor lived here continuously for 5 years and therefore not eligible for free medicare (though he visits for a few months each year). He has been semi-retired for ~5 years without any income (working a few hours a week as a guest lecturer at the local university).\n\nHe recently fell ill and we (my brother and I) would like to bring him to the US to live with us and so that we can take care of him. We do not want to take the chance of bringing him here without any sort of medical insurance.\n\nPrivate insurance is too expensive (and difficult to get at his age with pre-existing conditions). We are ready to purchase and pay for Medicare. The information I see online is not clear on how exactly one goes about doing this.\n\nAs we no longer want to leave him alone, we'd like to bring him here asap.\n\nI would appreciate if you could point me to any resources. I plan to visit the local Social Security office this afternoon so would like to be well prepared.\n\nA few questions:\n\n    What are the eligibility requirements to Medicare buy-in?\n\n    Can one purchase it if they are not in the country?\n\n    If purchased, when is it effective?", "summary": "how does one buy Medicare asap effective immediately?"}
{"id": "t3_2ovd49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/f) hate my crystal addicted brother (35/m), how can I make him stop freeloading off our mom?", "post": "My brother is a despicable scumbag. He just is, there's no way to sugar coat this. It's a fact. He's a habitual liar, he still lives with our mom, he steals money from her and sells her belongings, he doesn't work, and he's an addict. I can't stand this man, being around him for even 5 minutes makes me sick. People can't believe we are related; we are so different. He's an embarrassment to our family, and no one can trust him. Things go missing constantly.\n\nOur mom takes way too much pity on him, tries to keep him happy by giving him everything he wants, and he's simply an ungrateful asshole. My other brother (27/m) detests him as well and wants nothing more to do with him. We hate to see him abusing our mother like this. It's wrong. It's just wrong.\n\nHere's the thing, he doesn't want anyone's help. Our mom is an enabler, and won't make an effort of her own to help him. She just placates him and not much else.\n\nIs there anything I can do? Unlike our brother, me and my (27/m) brother have our own homes and jobs. He (35/m) claims he doesn't need our help and that our mom doesn't see the problem and that WE are the problem instead.", "summary": "Older brother is a meth addict, overstays his welcome, and steals from our mom. What can I do to help?"}
{"id": "t3_2ft4vu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my in-laws [~50M/F] duration, they think I'm a financial mess", "post": "I have a sister in law who has been plagued with health issues, and is getting married. My in-laws have spend ~$10,000 treating her (we're in Canada, health care is free) through alternative, unscientific medicine. In addition to this, they spent about $15,000 on her wedding, etc.\n\nAt a bonfire last night, my wife says that they're not treating us fair and that they've never offered to help us financially. Their response is that we're wasteful with money and they won't help us with that.\n\nWe're fairly well established in life, we make a combined income of ~$95,000/year, no debt outside of mortage ($240,000, on a house appraised at $350,000). We never carry a balance on our credit cards, we have a 2011 car, fully paid off.\n\nWe can't agree on personal expenditures often, so we've decided to put a $100 allowance in our budget per month. This is what my in-laws have an issue with, they feel it is unnecessary to have a line in your budget for person hobbies, expenses, etc.\n\nHistorically I have a good relationship with them, but this really bothered me, as I don't see our financial situation as disasterous, or wasteful. In fact, our original concern wasn't even about them helping us, but that the situation didn't feel fair.\n\nI really don't know what to do about this. I did ask them about the money that they spend on hobbies (and it's a lot, father in law is big into hunting and fishing, and pro sports). They said they're at a different life phase and we can't compare them. I asked them about when they were my age about pro sports and they said times were different.\n\nAt this point, to save the relationship, I want to go for lunch with my father in law and just ask him how their budget looked at my age and sincerely just ask him questions like that.\n\nOther than that, I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "My in-laws said they won't help us financially because we have $100/month allowance in our budget."}
{"id": "t3_2g2bes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21,F] long-distance boyfriend [26,M] of two years is struggling with depression.", "post": "I want to spend the rest of my life with this man. We met a few years ago while doing some volunteer work, now we live in different countries. We've been long distance for the entirety of our relationship, taking time off of work to meet in different places throughout the U.S. to do volunteer work, or in different countries to adventure.\n\nI recently moved from the U.S. to Latin America; I don't have many friends yet, and my Spanish is pretty limited. I feel very disconnected here, though my experience volunteering is quite rewarding. But, after a long day, all I want is to talk to him. I have limited connections to anyone at 'home' because I'm not too sure where 'home' is for me. He is my home, in a sense. \n\nAt year's end, he's leaving his job and meeting me, and we're going to travel for a few months before finding a new home together. He made the decision to go off antidepressants about two months ago, because he felt comfortable, secure and ready. But stressing about 'leaving his life' has caused him to spiral into depression. He wants nothing to do with me, or with anyone for that matter. He doesn't answer my calls. In the past three weeks, we've spoken only a few times, for just a few minutes. \n\nThis has me worried that I've put too much pressure on him. I also went from being comfortable and secure in my relationship to anxious \nand upset nearly all the time. I feel abandoned. Like I had mentioned, I haven't made many friends yet. I feel that my greatest connection (him) is now lost, and I'm not sure where that leaves me. I don't know how to talk to him about this because 1. he won't speak to me for longer than ten minutes, and 2. I don't know how to approach the topic without blaming him for the way I feel. \n\nI'm afraid our relationship is not as strong as I believed it was because of our own mental health issues: my dependency on him in this state of disconnection from my surroundings, and his depression. \nHow do I move on from here?", "summary": "My boyfriend won't talk to me because he is depressed, I am alone in a foreign country and want to talk to him."}
{"id": "t3_1m7ja9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not asking the girl out.", "post": "So, in order to understand my fuck up, a little back story.\n I started my second year at College (English, not American). Sitting in a room with another course, my friend and I were looking at the Malicious Advice Mallard meme, so said girl and I start chatting, before our groups are split back up.\n Fast forward and both courses are on the same trip to the London Museum of Design. After an hour of drawing and such, I find the girl and we start talking again (Still didn't know her name at this point). About 5 minutes later my friend, let's call him John, sits down with us and notices that we are similar, personality wise, so using his phone, tells me to ask her out. Please bear in mind that an 18yo 15st Male with no prior dating experience is writing here, so... yeah. Anyway, back to the Fuck Up. So she walks off, looking for other members of her group to see if they want lunch or something. Another friend joins us and John tells him all about it, so this other friend, lets say Dan, walks off to find her and ask her for her number. For Me.\n Fuck. My. Life.\n That was all that decided to streak through my head for the next half hour. Anyway, me and friends go to get lunch, and before we are due to head back on the Underground, I see her again. Bear in mind she is like an 8/10 and I'm maybe a 4/10 in good lighting. Anyway, me, being a complete idiot, does nothing, no talking. Nothing. So yeah. Just me. Alone again.", "summary": "Single Guy doesn't get the girl."}
{"id": "t3_z205v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is a slightly wonky version of John 3:16 written on the inside of my ultra-cheap fedora?", "post": "Okay, so I'm visiting New York City and I decided to buy a cheap 15$ fedora from a vendor in times square. When I looked inside of the hat and moved the \"Made in China\" Tag, I noticed that for some reason the biblical verse John 3:16 was written on the bag of said tag. The text of the back of the tag is like so with the exact capitalisation: \"For God had such love for the world that he gave his only Son, so that whoever has faith in him may not come to destruction but have eternal life John 3 16\".\nAdditionally, the brand is \"Pamoa\" in all caps and the logo is a turtle. It is a fairly cheap hat, and I was wondering if anybody else knows why this was done, or have bought similar hats with this odd feature.", "summary": "I bought a cheap hat with John 3 16 on the inside."}
{"id": "t3_3qxotx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 16] really like one girl [16], but I have been dating someone [F 16] for over two years!", "post": "I love my girlfriend.\n\nBut there is this other girl. I know nothing about her. She is extremely beautiful, but I can't even talk to her. All I know is that she hangs out with all of the popular dickweeds in our grade that hate me. So, they might be ruining any chances I have with this girl. \n\nI love my girlfriend, but I want to try to at least get to know or be friends with this girl. She is in none of my classes, but I try to talk to her teachers as much as I can, so I can see her during the day. \n\nI don't know what she likes, who she is, or what she's like! I just know that her face is quintessential to me. I feel towards her now the same way that I felt towards my girlfriend three years ago. \n\nWhat do I do? How can I even get to know her? Should I get to know her?", "summary": "Have a longtime girlfriend, but I like a girl!"}
{"id": "t3_jiw5n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I'm curious, what's up with the whole riot/looting mentality?", "post": "I'm referring to things like the hockey riots, and the apocalyptic future always portrayed in movies and the like where the world's ending or power has gone out in a massive area and all of a sudden the entire human populace becomes a collection of total dicks, filling the streets and being violent and whatnot for no reason whatsoever. I just don't understand why such a large number of people behave this way, or are believed to. I personally would not be stealing televisions or beating out the windows of cars if the world was ending, so what's up with that? If anyone could shed some light on it I'd be appreciative.", "summary": "why do people form violent mobs for no reason?"}
{"id": "t3_21krdw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Difficult situation with the girl [F/16] I'm interested in [M/16]", "post": "There's a girl in my high school that i'm interested in, she's in 3 of my classes but we don't talk to eachother much. Let's call her Carly. We aren't directly in any same friend groups so the only time we ever see eachother is during class. We have the occasional class-related chat and a few jokes here and there, but mostly we don't talk. (We're both pretty quiet, but she's shy)\n\nThe part where it gets complicated is here, she has a best friend who i'm closer with, and we talk a bit. Let's call her Jen. All three of us are in the same class, and Jen speaks her mind quite often. Going on for about 2 weeks now, Jen says Carly and I would be a perfect couple. (Mind you all three of us are in audible whisper range) Jen says it quite loudly, and I know Carly acknowledges it but doesn't say anything and neither do I, pushing it aside as a tease. Coincidentally, and neither of them know them know i'm interested in Carly - or at least I think so. \n\nNow given the circumstance, i'm not extremely close with Jen, we talk about general things and have a lot of mutual friends, but i've never talked to her about relationships or any \"internal\" things before. I could directly ask her, but i'm trying to avoid things from getting too awkward, considering Jen and Carly are best or at least really close friends. As I said, Carly is extremely shy so approaching her would make her or both of us uncomfortable.", "summary": "The girl i'm interested in's best friend says we'd be a perfect couple. I'm not sure what do in this situation, and i'm avoiding asking her best friend for advice. (Complications elaborated in post)"}
{"id": "t3_4w9mas", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] worried that my boyfriend [33 M] of one year has a history of getting bored/fed up with relationships", "post": "So this might have to have a little detail so please keep reading -\n\nMy boyfriend and I got together after his last girlfriends and him split up but we were friends (work colleagues) prior to this and I often heard about his love life.\n\nHim and his ex-girlfriend first of all moved very fast, after a couple of months he moved her in (as her lease was up) and then around 7 months later he moved her out as it wasn't working. He must have loved her and enjoyed spending time with her because he moved her in right? \n\nApparently she was a bit of a nightmare and argued with him about the most bizarre things and constantly threatened to break up with him or move out (before she did) and once got angry at him for not cleaning the windows. They were together 18 months and then he broke up with her because he just couldn't deal with the arguing anymore apparently.\n\nWe got together after they broke up and it was very much a whirlwind, he told me many times he'd never felt this way about another girl. Booked three trips in the first six months of being together and spoilt me massively and made me feel like the most loved person ever. \n\n1 year later and I think he's starting to get a little bored of me. He's asking to see me less, paying me less compliments (although he still does tell me he loves me quite a lot) and not booking any trips or surprises anymore. \n\nNow I know everyone gets comfortable in relationships but I am slightly frightened that this is just the route all his relationships go down and he's so in love with everyone (never felt this way before) for the first year and then just gets fed up and starts going off people. \n\nI don't know whether to tell him my worries as we've been having quite a few more arguments recently (due to some anxiety i'm dealing with about the relationship and my constant need for reassurance) or if I should just drop it and try to have a nice weekend and realize it's probably all in my head.", "summary": "Been with my boyfriend a year, worried he's getting fed up with me..."}
{"id": "t3_1wj46f", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Inspectors came by and after looking under the house, they are withholding information. What's Up? (Los Angeles)", "post": "The underside of our house started to smell much like shit, so after we got into contact with our landlord, she called her home insurance and they  called a plumber.  The plumber discovered that it was a broken pipe behind the wall of our kitchen sink.  After he was done discovering the mess he informed us that under the house was a good deal of mold as well as some structural damage and that we should get an inspector out immediately to check it out.  Well our landlord decided to wait until Wednesday (today) when the plumber came back to fix the pipe (the plumber diagnosis was on a Saturday).  So when he was done he reiterated the increase of mold amongst the other issues and we told the landlord that she needed to send someone right away.  At first she denied us and told us that if we feel uncomfortable about it that we should give our notice, and that she has someone that wants to buy the house anyway (total bullshit).  After a few hours she must have changed her mind because she sent inspectors tonight.  After THEY took a look they tried not to tell us anything about it.  After some prying they told us that there was mold and \"other complications\" and that the mold was non-toxic.  They continued to withhold the rest until they contacted the insurance company that they were called by.  What's the deal?  I have a pretty shitty taste in my mouth and I'm getting the feeling that the iron curtain is being thrown over our eyes.", "summary": "Home inspectors came and confirmed \"non-toxic mold and other complications\"  Can they withhold that information?"}
{"id": "t3_4tphic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend[20M] has been neglecting my [21f]needs because of entertainment addiction, for a few weeks", "post": "My boyfriend and I used to have a lot of turbulence in our relationship. We would fight a lot but make up. Even though we would fight he would still talk to me through texts consistently about many topics when things cooled down. We would have sex every day we saw each other. He would console me about my problems and give me advice. My boyfriend and I have worked through all our issues and he no longer feels insecure and neither do I, but I feel like the passion went away with all the fighting. There is no more sex, no more kissing, no more talking about various topics through texts because he leaves me on seen. When he's over at my place he's always occupied on his computer playing video games like I'm not there. He will sit there for hours not talking to me even if I come onto him. We used to play videogames together but now he's solo. Sure we don't fight anymore but I feel invisible and rejected. I talked to him about this but he said he uses videogames and comics to escape his reality because he's been having a lot of anxiety and focusing on these things makes him feel calm. I am afraid that he stopped arguing with me because he no longer cares about me as a whole, not because he feels less insecure. He is using escapism to go into other worlds, but I'm left behind along with all my needs being neglected.", "summary": "boyfriend has become addicted to escapism through videogames and comics and has forgotten about my needs."}
{"id": "t3_3zyqpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my everyone [10-100M/F] by BDSM lifestyle with [29M] (1 year) leaves marks that I don't know how to explain...", "post": "I got into the BDSM lifestyle at age 17. I met my Dom at a club last year when I was 18. \n\nNo one i know, except for 2 friends, knows that I am a sub. I really enjoy it, however I'd like to keep it private.\n\nDue to using ropes and floggers, I pretty much always have marks on my body. I don't mind at all, and there's no ways to avoid them. However, these marks are on visible places despite efforts to make them non viable. (Rope burns on wrists, bruises on arms).\n\nMy family knows my Dom, and think he is just my boyfriend. They really like him and approve.\n\nI keep getting questions about the marks. I used to play off the bruises as being clumsy. However, they are getting harder to explain away.  How do I handle the questions?", "summary": "I am left with marks due to my BDSM lifestyle. No one jn my life knows, but I'm often asked about the bruises. How do I handle the questions? Do I just need to admit I am a sub? How would I even explain it? Would you want to know if you knew me? Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2nz7z5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving all from me and farting on my friends head", "post": "I am an amateur MMA competitor and today I fucked up... So I was in our training gym/hall and as always I was training, I am having an amateur tournament coming soon so I am preparing for it. So let's fasten up things a bit, the MMA coach is making me do an arm lock, so I got him tight with my legs and in this position you have to stretch his arm and place it on your legs to lock him up. My friends which I am training and trying this arm lock with is heavier with 20-30 pounds than me, so it is pretty hard to stretch his arm, so I am giving all from myself and the coach is shouting \"C'mon! You can do it! Lock him up!\" and I give even more from myself and then I ripped the loudest fart imaginable, the worst part is that it even stank and the guy I was training with almost threw up on me. Then it was dead silence and all of the sudden the coach couldn't stop laughing while I was bright red... So yeah, I am using a throwaway account for obvious reasons.", "summary": "Tried an arm lock on a stronger than me guy and farted on his face."}
{"id": "t3_2t1dm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] need serious advice for me and my girlfriend [21 F] 3 years together and I think we are miserable, just scared to say it.", "post": "I'll skip all the process of how we met. But my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now and i'm not sure if weren't meant to be. We've planned on getting married and all of that.\n\nI love this girl to death and would never want to see her hurt, althought one time we had a break up she unlocked my phone and in the end we split, but I just couldn't take seeing her heartbroken and we worked it out.\n\nIn our current situation we're not getting along well, and i feel like shes forcing it to work out when she gets completely angry about once a week. We are just different, for example her family says I love you everytime they end a conversation or leave each others side. But my family if I said I love you to a relative they'd look at me crazy and ask what is it that I want from them.\n\nWe where raised completely different and I can see it in the way we communicate and the way we see things but she's just brushing it off with little arguments. \n\nIn a few months we'll both attend a university and need to move , but I honestly dont want to move in with her because I think it would just be bad for both of us plus we will be away from our families.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is, would it be wrong of me to want to end this relationship because I predict we are ultimately incompatible? \n\nWhat are possible ways to end it without her hating me and wishing I was dead?\n\nAnd is it possible to find another girl after you leave the one you thought was \"the one\"?", "summary": "Should I leave the girl I love after 3 years because I feel like we wont work out much longer?"}
{"id": "t3_xyos3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Legal advice for battery in state of IL", "post": "My addict brother came over to my house, drunk as a skunk and high, in the middle of the night and would not quite down or leave when asked. Things escalated and he threatened me, my car, and my job. I ended up choking him out and throwing him out the front door. He informed me, at the time, he was going to drop the charges. I got a continuance today to bring him to court with me next time. I am not sure if he is going to drop the charges anymore(long story). I don't want to plead guilty and tarnish my record. what do I do? How will a battery charge effect employment?", "summary": "got in scuffle with my brother, need to see what my options are."}
{"id": "t3_17d0vv", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "College sophomore who just switched my major to IT-looking for experience+pay.", "post": "I was previously a Chemistry major with hopes of attending pharmacy school after graduation. After much soul-searching and thinking, I realized I just wasn't as interested as I thought. However, I saw that I was very passionate about computers yet never delved deep enough to learn the intricacies like programming and networking since I was focusing on chemistry.\n\n My current course load is very basic and slow paced now that I have switched to Information Technology, so I'd like some advice on what to do to make myself more marketable in the meantime with little to no experience in the field. More specifically, I'd like to find a way to accrue job experience with the chance for pay, even minimum wage. Currently my focus is on programming, but I could stand to broaden my experience with any suggestions.", "summary": "College kid with little to no IT background looking for ways to increase experience and perhaps make a buck along the way."}
{"id": "t3_2e9yp5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (23) girlfriend's (26) mother is paranoid.", "post": "PS: I realize this is just a messy wall of text, bear with me.\n\nMy gf lives alone with her mother, her brother and sister each just practically abandoned the mother, because she was impossible to live with. And her mother really is impossible to live with. She wants to talk about her fears and the whole situation EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY. She gives money to my gf to hold on to, and then acts as if she forgot she gave it to her. She wakes her up in the middle of the night or very early to talk about stuff. And she just repeats herself all the time.\n\nI live in another country at the moment, and I spoke to her for the first time yesterday via skype, and that's what she did. As soon as we said hi, I asked how she was and she told me she wasn't good, and just started talking about the whole thing, not pausing at all, repeating her words.\n    She told me she loses documents and finds them later, and someone's stealing them and puts them back in their place to make her look crazy, she suspects cameras and microphones in her house. She trusts every single stranger, she'd stop people outside and start telling them about the whole situation.\n\nThis morning, she was supposed to leave the house, go to a friend of hers, and leave my gf to look for those documents (that my gf knows are just somewhere in the house), but again, she wakes her up at 6 in the morning, because she wants to talk about it. She wants to buy more houses, to secure her money.\n\nAnyways, I won't keep listing the crazy things she does. My point was that my gf has had enough of it, but at the same time, it's her mother. She doesn't want to abandon her, she wants to help her, but it seems impossible.\n\nOh I should say that they tried a psychiatrist to no avail, that's the solution I keep suggesting but it seems even that is desperate.\n\nSo,", "summary": "What can one do when his mother is paranoid, and impossible to live with, doesn't even want help ?"}
{"id": "t3_11yvt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-girlfriend (24F) wants to hang out with me (24M), but I'm in a relationship (23F)", "post": "I used to date this girl I met in my freshman year in college. She was of the \"overly attached\" type. She wasn't just jealous of my female friends but complained I hung out too much with my male friends as well. I was already feeling smothered when somehow she got this idea that I was cheating on her with one of my classmates, which I never did. Naturally, she tried to install a hidden camera in my room. And that was the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nA while later, the classmate and I started dating and she is now my current girlfriend. For my ex, this of course confirmed her suspicions. Needless to say, the two of them do not like each other. Eventually the ex got a new boyfriend, and with both of us in relationships, we went back on speaking terms. After she graduated, she moved with the new boyfriend to his hometown. We kept in touch.\n\nToday, my ex called me. I knew it wasn't good because she hadn't called me in a very long time. She's a wreck, and according to her, her BF is cheating on her so they broke up. I don't know the other guy so I can't get the other side of the story. I have my doubts. Being the impulsive type, she took a week off from her job and decided to come here (surprise, surprise!) to \"clear her head.\" Now this isn't exactly a nice place to visit. So I asked her why here and reminded her that I was in a relationship. She shrugs me off and says she does have friends here other than me, which is true. \n\nMy GF of two years is very hands-off (if you want to tell me, I'll listen; if you don't, it's fine). I haven't told her any of this yet. Should I tell her anything at all? When my ex does come here, should I avoid her? I feel that the least I could do is to offer her some support. But given our history, being with someone who just got out of a relationship doesn't strike me as particularly wise. If I do avoid her, would that be an overreaction?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend breaks up with BF, wants to come to town and hang out. Not sure if anything good can come out of this."}
{"id": "t3_3hef7g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to impress a girl", "post": "As most TIFU's this didn't happen today but last year.\n\nI stayed at a hall of residence last year, and our Hall ball was coming up. Recently i'd been seeing this chick who was an ultimate 10/10 completely out of my league, I'm punching so far above my weight I'm almost Muhammad Ali. So I ask her to the ball and she says yes, everyone's happy. A week before the ball she then asks if everything's sorted, if I've paid for the tickets, how much they were and all that kind of stuff, she then asks if there's anything she can do to help. She didn't stay at the hall so she didn't know much about it. Now this is where i fuck up, i jokingly say \"Oh you can just deposit the $150 for the ticket into my bank account\" (in reality the tickets were only $30 because it was subsidized and you pay enough in hall fees to fund a small village anyway.) Now i was obviously joking and think nothing of it. The ball goes off without a hitch, we get drunk, fooled around and we stay the night at hers afterwards, because she wanted me to meet her parents.\n\nFast forward to the next day, I met her parents everything seems to be going well. then just after I left, she texts me saying to check my wallet. As it turns out, she had slipped $150 into my wallet without me knowing, she even mentioned how she had to work an extra couple of shifts at her job. At this point I'm feeling like an absolute dickhead, I have to explain to her that i was just trying impress her. After telling her, she found it hilarious, but meeting her the next day to give her money back I could still feel the shame", "summary": "Try to make chick think I'm rich by telling her ball tickets were $150 when in reality they were only $30. She takes up extra shifts at work, saves up $150 and puts it in my wallet when i'm not looking the day after ball. Proceed to feel like an absolute dickhead while fanning myself with my newly acquired stack of cash. Ended up telling her and awkwardly returning said stack of cash, still cringe when I think about it"}
{"id": "t3_x7p10", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Fried Banana Peppers", "post": "Hi, all. My crop of banana peppers have finally started to come in, and I am going to have a CONSIDERABLE amount the whole summer long (I bought 40 plants for $6 and they all lived; some hot, some sweet).\n\nMy main question I would like to ask pertains to battered n' fried banana peppers. My mother attempted them a few years back and they failed. Miserably. The batter didn't stick and when it did it was so thin it couldn't be tasted or felt. Now, I did not assist her in her endeavor, so I don't know exactly what she did to find where she went wrong. So, dear chefs, how do you all go about making fried banana peppers? It should be noted that I own a deep fryer.\n\nSide question: what should I do with the rest of my peppers? I need ideas because I'm not about to let all these peppers go to waste. Trust me: I'll have enough to do whatever I need to do to them.", "summary": "I need a fried banana pepper method as well as other pepper recipes for a large volume of peppers. Thank you all!"}
{"id": "t3_2o78s7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23f] branch out from my 3-year boyfriend [24m]?", "post": "My problem is that I don't feel I have any friends besides my boyfriend and his friends that he brings around. None of his friends are people that I do/would text with or meet up to hang out. That means all social gatherings that I attend are set up by my boyfriend, or I'm going as his partner.\n\nA year into our relationship, he told me that he wanted me to hang out with more people besides him. I see the wisdom in that, and I tried rekindling some old high school friendships, but those fizzled very quickly and he never raised it as a problem again.\n\nI realize you can't make a home out of a human being. I don't whine when he goes places without me and I encourage him to go to clubs and events by himself. However, we're 3 years into our relationship now, living together, and I work the typical 8-5 corporate schedule (with adults much older and harder to relate with). I feel that this setup has encouraged complacency and has made it so much easier to be okay living without friends. I've also tried messaging some people on local Reddits/Craigslist but I can never go through with meeting them once the topic comes up. It might be worthwhile to mention I am very introverted and generally content to be alone (though that might be the last few years speaking too).\n\nHow can I take pressure off of him and develop a healthy social life? I don't want this to be the clincher for our relationship. All advice is appreciated.", "summary": "3 years into relationship, and I don't have friends or a life outside of it. I feel this puts unfair pressure on my boyfriend. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_14k3kq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what would you do if your best friend's family hated you?", "post": "Quick rundown of the situation:\nMy best friend and I decided to room together last year, and unfortunately things just didn't work out. We got into mini arguments throughout the semester until finally, the argument to end all arguments happened. Afterwards she went to live with her sister for a week. \nFast forward to now. We talked out our issues, got through it and agreed it just wasn't a good idea for us to live together. Though we are good, her family thinks I'm the spawn of satan. They are overly protective of her and every time they come to visit, they give me death glares that peer through my soul. Her sister, who goes to the same college as us, makes no effort to talk to me and constantly judges her sister and I over being friends. We have a recital coming up together and I'm really worried that their negative vibes will affect me and her, but I honestly have no idea what I could do to alleviate the situation between now and the recital. Any advice is welcome.", "summary": "Best Friends roomed together ended horribly, family still not over it and I still have to have interactions with them."}
{"id": "t3_2m6qjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (26f) of 4 years and myself (29m) broke up almost two months ago. I still can't get her off my mind.", "post": "Hello everyone, \nMy girlfriend and I were together for almost four  years, short of about a month. We had been going through some really hard times the last two years of our relationship. I was dealing with alot of stress, I'm an introvert she's and extrovert. I thought all of my stress was coming from problems I had at work but now I look back and see that some of it also came from her. She wouldn't do things I asked her that seemed trivial like texting me at night so I can see it in the morning. I know it might sounds dumb to some of you but she was always the first thing I thought about when I got up and the last thing when I went to sleep. \n\nI tried to do everything I could to make her happy and nothing felt like it was working. For Year and a half I slowly watched her drift away, we wouldn't communicate our problems to each other I was afraid I'd push her further away from me. After we broke up some of our friends told me she spoke to them more about her problems with me than she did to me. \n\nNow for the breakup. We decided we were going  to take a week apart and see how we felt. Well she tried to turn a week into two because she was too busy to talk to me. I think this was just because she was scared to say what she decided. I basically told her I couldn't wait anymore that it was eating me alive so she then broke up with me in a text message but said sorry she thought I deserved better than that, later on in a phone call she said I wasn't  going anywhere in  life which really hurt me. I see her all the time and she ignores me but hangs around the group I'm with I can't get her off my mind. I've hit the gym picked up playing darts not much is working.", "summary": "gf of four years broke up with me via text message I see her all the time at the bar and I can't stop thinking of her. "}
{"id": "t3_2yuuaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my Fiance [29 M] don't know how to leave", "post": "ok, so brief description: \n\nthe more I think about my relationship with my fiance of 6 years, the more I realize that it's not the kind of relationship that I want in my life. (Along with other things)\n\nI have a 9 year old daughter from my previous relationship but he has loved her as his own since she was 2. His family is very supportive and has welcomed us from the beginning. We even moved to another state where he lived before to be with him.\nOn top of that- I'm about to graduate from university [i highly doubt i'm going to graduate in may because i'm so distracted and stressed about my relationship and life- I might fail all my classes] but excited to start working for myself (I don't have any income except for little one's child support).\n\nFrom the beginning, he has never been the \"feelings\" kind or romantic. which I thought would change over time (I was young and stupid- things never change) I always felt that I had to take care of everything. And lately, I've felt depressed from the facts that I never get any support from him and always down-putting me. And he's starting to down-put my daughter.... I'm just done.\n\nHow do I even start to break away? I don't have income- I'm afraid \nwhat to say to my daughter about this. I don't know what to say to him. I don't know how to move things by myself- I'm basically here by myself so I have no family or friends close by. I know there are single-mother programs aka shelters but I can't even think about that without being stressed about everything first.\n\nHelp please :(", "summary": "Mommy meltdown in abusive relationship but don't know how to leave or even know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2kkn92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] just broke up with my [22 F] of around 2 years, what are the next steps to take?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I just decided to end our relationship due to factors that had been affecting us for the last few months. It was a long time coming, and quite honestly although it is tough, it is probably best that it happened now. Altering it later could have meant our feelings were more hateful toward each other. \n\nThe issue I'm facing is that I live and work in a country that is not my own. I moved here a while back, and have worked here for some time. She and I have a place to live together, but clearly things will have to be altered. \n\nRight now I feel I have no intentions to move back to my own country, rather I would like to continue and still live in this country. \n\nThe things I now have to think about are what do I do about our living space? We are renting, so neither of us claims ownership to the place. \n\nAs well as about the issue of being in another country, am I right in attempting to pursue a life here, in spite of something like this happening? Would I be rash if I just dropped my work and the life I had started creating because of a relationship change?\n\nI'm not really looking for definitive answers, rather looking to share my problems, and potentially half them, or see things from another angle.", "summary": "Just broke up, living in another country, what are the options?"}
{"id": "t3_1qvjgm", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Can someone please help me with engagement etiquette?", "post": "I recently bought an engagement ring for my girlfriend. She knows about it because, I asked her to pick it out with me but... I want to plan an intimate proposal to surprise her (plus she doesn't know I already paid for it in full). We both felt strongly about wanting to get through the holidays with our families without announcing an engagement and we both felt the holidays should just be about family time and then we could start wedding planning in the new year. The problem is my cousin is going on a trip to Disney win his girlfriend for a week in January and I am not sure if he is going to propose to her. I want to ask him if he is and try and accommodate him. I don't want to propose first and steal his thunder or propose right afterwards and steal his thunder, but I don't want to push back until February, my girlfriend has several family birthdays and I know she thinks Valentine's day proposals are silly. But she doesn't want to upset my cousin's girlfriend either. His girlfriend is really sensitive and recently our friends and family has all sort of ganged up on him about how awful his girlfriend is, I respect his relationship even if his girlfriend is sort of overbearing especially when it comes to things like this. What do you think the best solution is? I am worried he will try and ask me to postpone longer fort he sake of his girlfriend's vanity. Our family calls her princess because she needs to have her own way 24/7 and is very bossy. I don't want to detract from the holidays or his relationship but I am really keen on proposing ASAP in January. Is this a big deal? What do I do?", "summary": "worried about proposing either right before or right after my cousin proposes, what should I do? His girlfriend is very sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_3upno4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my ex [34M] of 2 years, he cheated. Should I tell his gf?", "post": "Hi, so I got a lot of shit for my previous post (which is now deleted) and I took all the advice I got on board and decided to meet him in a city we both don't live in for the day. I thought this would prevent anything physical happening, but I was wrong. After a meal and few drinks, we started making out and he started groping me all over. I kept telling him to stop but I was drunk myself and eventually gave in. He asked if he could book a hotel room so we could have sex, but by this point I started feeling bad and started crying. I went home and have yet to talk to him. I know I fucked up, I thought we could just be friends but clearly we can't. The thing is, his gf doesn't know we met and he has no plans to tell her what happened. Do you guys think I should tell her?", "summary": "met ex, he cheated. Should I tell his gf?"}
{"id": "t3_4dazzp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fianc\u00e9e [26F] is being a bad puppy mom", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e and I live together, own the house together etc and we're getting married in June. We've been together four years. \n\nWe got a puppy a few weeks ago. We both have experience with dogs, I've had dogs before when I lived on a farm and was solely responsible for their care, and she would help care for her family dog but was never the person responsible for training, feeding etc. \n\nHe's a puppy so he is a lot of work. In the weeks while we were waiting to get a puppy we decided on all of the things we wanted to train him, like on and off leash walking and knowing the property lines and knowing not to go in the front yard. I've put a ton of effort into following through with this, I'm outside with him for an hour in the mornings and pretty much three hours every evening training him these things. I'm also the only one walking him, feeding him, and taking him outside to pee. \n\nI'm exhausted from lots of sleepless nights but I'm okay. People at work tell me the puppy is like a practice baby and he's just preparing me for the kids my fianc\u00e9e and I wanted to start trying for after we get married. When they say that it makes me think that if she's like this with the puppy, she won't help out with the baby either. Ive asked her hundreds of times to help out more and then she might come with me on a walk once but wants to turn around early because \"the puppy is tired.\" \n\nIs this any indication of how she'll be when we have kids?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9e doesn't help out with puppy care at all"}
{"id": "t3_4qok33", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Roofers next door wrecked my yard with shingles and dirt, what should I do?", "post": "I live in a neighborhood where the houses are extremely close together. The house next to mine is under construction and there are roofers on top of a single story section of the house fixing the roof. I came home to find giant pieces of shingles and all kind of dirt and debris in my yard. I'm sure some of it was accidental but the amount and size of the debris makes me feel like they tossed it off the roof without caring about where it was going. I went out and confronted them about it and they said they'd come over and clean it up. I thanked them, but I still can't help but feel like I should be doing something else? This isn't the first time this has happened and I feel like it'll happen again, and it doesn't seem right that they should be doing this in the first place. I have tomato plants in my yard and I really don't like the idea of roofing materials being blown into their soil. What should I do? Should I call my landlord?", "summary": "Roofers next door knocked a large amount of debris in my yard. They agreed to clean it up when I confronted them, but I should I do something else to prevent this from happening in the future (since I feel like they're not going to be done after today)?"}
{"id": "t3_3lpt89", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feelings of guilt/shame? Developed deeper feelings for a friend (28M) I (25F) see frequently and how his friend (29M) factors into it. (Love triangle?)", "post": "Don't know how to explain this easily but I'll try my best to make this concise. Started sleeping with Ron (29M) in Feb of this year --he lives 5 hours away and we have been able to see each other once every month or every other month. Long distance with no dating -- Ron says he is unable to start anything serious, there are romantic feelings but to not hang myself up on him. \n--Last relationship was 3 years of \"nothing serious\" with Walt (21-24 yr old M) ending in 2014 and leaving me heartbroken. So with Ron, I've used the physical distance to keep myself emotionally distant. However, I am not 100% sure how he feels due to our distance and not really knowing him. \nRon is very sweet but there is no promise of future commitment and communication is infrequent between periods of seeing each other. Ended up meeting up with a close friend of his (28 M) in my city and starting a friendship since February. Meet ups became more frequent (28M) and I --especially in the last two months of infrequent dialogue between Ron (29M) and I. \n\nDid not plan on acting on any of my emotions. I talked with (28M) briefly and decided I needed to talk to R (29M). However, I felt very uncomfortable with all of this since my feelings towards 28M were hesitant and uncomfortable to process at first. 28M and I made out on an outing and I have already told 29M about the incident. I am however at a loss: I have been crying over 29M and our lost relationship but also trying to acknowledge its inability to be considered such. I know I have lost my relationship with 29M forever. I have feelings for 28M but am reluctant to act as I can see this as further twisting the knife for 29M and also the feelings I have for 28M are difficult for me to acknowledge and not be ashamed of - it feels wrong/taboo.", "summary": "Uncommitted long distance (7 months?) with a 29M ruined by my actions: making out with his 28M friend in my city who I grew reluctantly close to. "}
{"id": "t3_3zd73j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24F] relationship with my BF [28M] of 3 months feels more like a FWB.", "post": "Sorry but this will be a long post. I am a long time lurker and first time poster so forgive me for my mistakes.\n\nMy boyfriend and I come from very different backgrounds and lead different lives. He is going to graduate school and I am a college drop out working a retail job. When we first began to date I felt a bit intimidated and conscious about what I lacked but decided to ignore it because he was such a nice guy and I really like him. \n\nFast forward a month into our relationship and my fears are brought up again after our first time having sex. He brought up this worry to me and I didn't take it well, he quickly tried to take it back when he was how emotional I got. We talked about how he was worried we might not have much in common besides our sexual kinks and hobbies.(A worry I also had but.) What hurt me the most was that he mentioned I was not what he pictured for himself but he thought I might be the best he could do. He mentioned he wanted to be able to talk about academic topics since academia is such a big part of his life.It was all brought out and we talked and he said it was my choice whether we should continue to see each other since he really wanted to continue seeing whether or not feeling developed between us. I decided to continue dating and seeing where it lead us. \n\nSo now it's been another month and my fears haven't gone away. Everytime we meet we always have sex or talk about sex. (We do talk about our friends and families...our lives.) I know I like him more than he does and that is fine but I am unsure if he likes me just enough to have sex with me or for more.\n\nI have decided to go to school again and I hope it helps with my confidence but how do I stop worrying? I think the biggest issue is that I don't know what he feels towards me. He hasn't introduced me to any of his friends and most of our 'dates' are in his apartment.  Am I over thinking things or should I talk to.him? Better yet how do I talk to him without seeming clingy.", "summary": "How do I know that sex isnt the only thing keeping our relationship together? He hasn't introduced me to his friends after 3 months of dating exclusively. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_17stzu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Special education for special friends", "post": "Me: 23 years old male. Very little experience (A few dates, no touching)\n\nHer: 21 female\n\nBoth of us our university students.\n\nAfter hanging out some/coffee we went rock climbing, and had fun, and she suggested doing more things together. The next time we met we went on a walk to a park, and I tried hand holding but was rebuffed. \n\nI made the novice mistake of assuming that having a  successful datelike interaction meant we were in a relationship. It was my first try at touching someone else, which I am happy about. Her response was that she wasn't ready as she didn't know me well enough.\n\nWe spent some more time together and had an interesting conversation about our status, and how we both like each other some, but not a whole lot. (I am not crushing hard, neither is she)  She suggested \"we do things several times a week, no need to do something everyday, and maybe do something fun on the weekend if you have plans\". However, she was also pretty reticent about some things which implied a further level of trust, like the invitation to come over to my home and play board games w/ my roommates, and did not like the idea of going out an explicit \"date\".\n\nShe calls me often just to talk, so I'm just quite confused as to whether or not I have been \"friend zoned\". I feel like I have been \"special friend zoned.\" I do not know if she is expecting me to escalate this/giving me the opportunity to, or if that is out of the question and would be deemed an awkward breach of trust. In the past I have been rejected with the addendum of \"You're awesome, please continue to be my friend and don't move on to other hobbies/people\" and I do not know if this is a similar case.", "summary": "Frank girl sets boundaries that suggest lots of time spent together, calls me lots, but does not want to go on a date, Just friends or special friends?"}
{"id": "t3_iuwp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF is mad at me because I wouldn't leave my friends last night, I need some advice on how to make this better", "post": "So my girlfriend and I are both 22 and seniors in college, we have only been dating for a few months now. She had a terrible day yesterday and I asked her multiple times if she wanted me to come down to her place, which she essentially shrugged off. I went over to friends place instead, and while over there she decided she did want me to come down. I told her I was with friends now and couldn't. This is something I feel very strongly about, trying to balance time with my friends and time with her. \n\nShe's the first serious relationship I've been in while in college and I do love her, I just don't want to set a precedent of just up and leaving my friends every time she suddenly wants me to come over, I care too much about them to alienate them like that. So we've been fighting all morning about it and I just don't know how to show her that she's important, but so are my friends. \n\n1) Am I completely in the wrong? \n2) Do I stand my ground on this?\n3) What do I say to her?\n\nThanks", "summary": "girlfriend is pissed that I didn't want to leave my friends last night when she changed her mind about wanting me to come over."}
{"id": "t3_17g05h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what piece of writing, or art have you churned out that you're most proud of?", "post": "Leave us with a little bit of context and why you're so proud of what you've produced.\n\nPersonally, I wrote a letter to my girlfriend. She asked me why I love her a few months ago, and I was never quite able to put it into words, until i sat down and forced myself to.\n\nHowever, about 3 days ago, I found out she was fucking some other dude. It hurts to looks at this letter, but the raw emotion i felt while writing this out was so powerful, that I decided at least a few other people should see it. \n\n\"Conniving bitch,\n\nYou're tough to handle, unpredictable, a picky eater, have the capacity to drive me insane, stubborn, and from time to time a real pain in my ass.\n\nBut I wouldn't have it any other way.\n\nThere's times where I feel helpless, confused, and alone. I feel beaten, broken, and defeated.\n\nBut you still make me smile.\n\nYou've been told from the start that I'm not worth the time or effort. That I'm a nobody and that's all I'll ever be. That I'm a loser and that's all I'll ever be. That I'm a quitter, cheater, liar, thief... and that's all I'll ever be.\n\nBut you still believe in me.\nYou still trust me.\nYou still have faith in me.\n\nThat's why I love you.\"\n\nAdded in the \"Conniving Bitch\" because it felt right.", "summary": "Wrote a letter to the girl i loved. She was a Susan. Was proud of my work and wanted someone else to see it. Hope you guys come back with some powerful writings, or works of art of your own."}
{"id": "t3_1b5s2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does this constitute child sexual abuse? [26M, father is 64M]", "post": "My girlfriend uses reddit a lot and suggested I posted this here. Sorry guys, I have no idea what I am doing. Thanks in advance.\n\nOkay,  I am going to describe a situation, and I'm curious as to whether or not it constitutes abuse and also as to whether or not I am justified in being upset about it.\n\nWhen I was around six, my dad thought it was very important for me to wash my glans (I didn't like to touch it because it was hypersensitive due to lack of circumcision). If I forgot or refused, he would insist on doing it himself, and when I invariably tried to resist, he would use light force to restrain me. \n\nI forgot about this for almost twenty years. One day (about 15 months ago) I suddenly remembered, and I immediately began screaming and punching inanimate objects.\n\nSince then, I have pretty much cut off contact with my family, with the exception of my older sister who lives in the same city as I do. But, compared to legitimate cases of sexual abuse, this seems pretty damn mild. Maybe this was nothing. Maybe this was just a concerned parent who wanted to make sure their kid didn't get an infection or something. Maybe I am just looking for a convenient scapegoat for whatever other life troubles I might have. Obviously I am not impartial.\n\nJust for some context, I will also reveal the following: This is not the only sketchy/possibly abusive thing my dad did, but it is the one I feel most confused about. For example, he also had a wooden paddle that he used for spankings, and he once dragged me down the stairs to be spanked when I wouldn't submit peacefully. I feel anger about those things too, but I suspect that they are events of a more typical sort. \nMy expectation is that most people have similar sorts of stories and that they choose not to share them. Maybe most people realize that, in a world where so many people are beaten and raped, such troubles are insignificant. Maybe most people just have the decency not to be overprivileged whiners.\n\nI really don't know though. It is all very hard for me to sort out. Was this abuse? Thoughts?", "summary": "My dad insisted on washing my genitals when I was six(ish). Was I sexually abused?"}
{"id": "t3_u27ck", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In light of the other one, what is the most degrading thing you've paid for?", "post": "When I was a teenager I was the first of my friends to have a job, and thus money. I was also quite prone to jealousy with my then girlfriend and actually paid one of my friends to not flirt with her and start treating her with indifference. I also paid another one of my friends to be nice to her because he tended to be very rude to her. I tried to justify it by pretending that it was a pride free way to give them money around christmas because they didn't have any.\n\nWhen I was even younger, maybe 8 or 9, I offered a girl (around the same age) at school $20 to play \"you show me yours I show you mine\". She agreed and went first. Not only did I not pay her, I also didn't show mine. I actually ran into her years later when I did have money and for a split second considered giving her the money because I felt bad. Thankfully I realize instantly how insulting it would have been.", "summary": "Paid friends to treat my girlfriend like friends should, may have turned another girl onto a very dark path filled with empty promises."}
{"id": "t3_335g3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] don't know whether to help my neighbor [70?F] with her problem", "post": "To start off with, last Fall I moved to a larger city for school and bought a house. This is the first time I will be living without roommates or parents, so I'm not always sure of how the city works (I used to live in the country).  \n\nMy neighbor Joy is an elderly woman who lives with her son Mark. Mark is quiet and has helped me with some things, like letting me borrow his ladder, letting me know when trash go out or when leaves get picked up. Mark works 12-14 hour shifts, so Joy is left alone most of the day.  The times she has come over to my house she doesn't leave for hours and talks about inappropriate conversations for having just met someone, like politics, religion, sex, and how Obama is ruining the country because Fox News told her so.  I have put up with it because I assume she is very lonely and just wants someone to talk to, but she makes me very uncomfortable.  \n\nShe called me the other day and told me she has cancer and needs someone to take her to doctor appointments. She goes on to say Mark usually does but summer time is when he works even more and she doesn't want him to take so much time off.  I told her I have summer classes and work so I am going to be busy. She says the doctors could work around my schedule.  I am feeling like I can't say no because I'm helping Mark out with this as well, but I really don't want to spend that much time with her.  Additionally, I have no idea how many appointments I would need to take her to, or how often they would be. If it matters, I believe she has skin cancer, and it's not life threatening at all.", "summary": "Lonely old lady has cancer and wants me to drive her to doctor appointments this summer. I am busy with school and work, but want to help her son who has helped me in the past."}
{"id": "t3_3ky52u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by underestimating my puppy, who really wanted my Oreos.", "post": "About 5 minutes ago I grabbed 3 oreos and sat on the couch to eat them. My Doberman puppy climbed up onto the couch as well and started sniffing around and trying to get at the oreos in my hand. I pushed him away and started having fun with it. I ate them where he could see and said \"YOU GET NOTHING\".\n\nWell I ate the first two and was still chewing, when my puppy decided to maul my closed hand to try and get at the third oreo. He became a 30 pound ball of malice and bit down on my knuckles. I tried to yell at him to tell him no, and started choking on what was already in my mouth. He then let go of my hand hopped into my lap, and slithered his tongue into my half open, gasping mouth and actually may have saved my life by making me stand up and heave it all out. \n\nI still had Oreo number three in my hand, and he knew it, so he jumped up one last time and engulfed my entire fist in his sharp needle like, puppy toothed jaws. Forcing me to crush said oreo, and allowing him to eat some of it. And making me spit liquified oreo all over the coffee table. He both nearly killedand saved my life. But I will never tease him with food again. I swear he has an IQ of 150, and uses it for evil.", "summary": "my dog made me choke on oreos, then ruined my last good one. He french kissed me in the process as well."}
{"id": "t3_y4bm4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not getting into a bar", "post": "Ok, this happened last night. \n\nIt was my best friends 20th birthday, and as per usual, we all went for a night on the town hitting into a few bars. So everything was great, got through the first few bars in no time, consuming a fair amount of alcohol. This as you might have guessed will ultimately be my downfall. \n\nWe went to queue up to go into this next bar, in the middle of the main street. I was probably 3rd in line, ahead of me was my best friend  and his girlfriend. From earwigging, I can hear him and her joking around with the bouncer that checked everyone's ID's, especially about her female parts. So, a clever idea popped into my head. Then there I was, him checking my ID. \n\nMe: \"Do you want to hear the hardest question in the world?\"\n\nBouncer: \"Go on then\"\n\nMe: \"Would you rather sleep with your mum to save your dad's life, or sleep with your dad to save your mum's life?\"\n\nWithout a doubt, he decided to not let me in, push me to the ground in a forceful manner (with many onlookers), shouting \"Don't talk about my mum like that.\" As a result, there I was, standing outside waiting about an hour outside the bar, like an idiot, on my own for all my friends to come out. They particularly took longer in there because of my presence outside, not to mention it was a cold night. My best friend decided to even say \"Thanks for screwing up on my birthday bro\" at the end.", "summary": "didn't get let into a bar on my best friend's birthday because I told the bouncer a dark humoured joke."}
{"id": "t3_183cun", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How should I [20/M] proceed with 18/F who isn't in the best situation?", "post": "I meet a girl last Saturday at a friends get-together. We hit it off but she departs quickly. Sunday night, she finds me on Facebook and we talk again the following Monday. I message her with the intention of arranging to meet up with her again, and (as anyone would) I ask her how her day was.\n\nThis is where the can of worms opens. She tells me that a close family member had taken ill that day.\n\nI lean the conversation towards our last encounter and I tell her that I'd like to see her again. She says she would also, and we both agree that now isn't the best time, but she says \"soon\". At the end of the conversation, I leave her my number. She texts me the next day, but the conversation drops off.\n\nI'm not an asshole so I want to be compassionate about what she's going through, but at the same time, having met once, I'm wanting her to see me as someone she could be in a relationship with, rather than just a new friend that cares. Also, I'm not wanting to come across as an obsessed stranger, intruding at a personally turbulent time.\n\nHow should I proceed with her?", "summary": "Interested in girl with a family member not doing so well, how do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_1sr0qn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my touchy-feely friend [19F], friends for 1 year, confused on whether her affection is innocent or not.", "post": "Hey reddit. First off I'm not good at reading people. Especially girls. This friend of mine \"Carol\", is a touchy-feely person with friends, I am not. When I think of normal affection between friends I think hugging, sitting close, etc. I understand some people are more comfortably affectionate than others, but when I mentioned what was going on with me and Carol to a mutual friend, some eyebrows were raised. \n\nWhen we hang out, which varies from 1-3 times a week, she usually is on top of me at some point, straddling me, throwing a leg over me, etc. She touches my head/face a lot and plays with my hair. 80% of the time when I initiate contact, for example I'll start to play with her hair and she pushes closer and gets - breathy? Like shes breathing a little heavier. The other 20% of the time she pushes me away and usually ends up initiating substantial physical contact within the hour.  \n\nThis gives me an issue at times as I am attracted to her and don't want to make her feel uncomfortable or unsafe by revealing that I get excited when she does this. We had casual sex over the summer but stopped when school started. Whenever we have talked about what she does or doesn't feel for me she finds a way to avoid answering the question. I've long since given up on anything with her besides friendship and am trying to find other girls. I don't want to lose her as a friend, but this messes with my head more than it should. Its not that I don't know how to read her, its that her touchy-feely actions and her words (lets go back to being friends) don't match up with my idea of what a platonic friendship is. Also she was the initiator 90% of the time (and still is), so I didn't have to interpret hints, she just went for it. Help me out reddit - Any ideas?", "summary": "My friend is overly affectionate, can't make head or tail of what is going on."}
{"id": "t3_16j1ku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I [21M] do for my girlfriend [20F] while shes in another country for school?", "post": "So backtrack to the beginning of the Christmas break and I start to see this girl I had liked in the past a bit more seriously. We were both a litte hesitant to get into a relationship because shes spending the year abroad for her schooling.\n\nBut the week before she leaves we decide to take the leap and become exclusive. For the next week we pretty much spend every waking moment together. This obviously makes us go crazy for one another, everything is perfect, its got me appreciating every moment with her, every breath, everytime she breaks her eyes from mine to look down and smile because of how happy she is.\n\nBut the time came when we had to say see you later (cause theres no goodbyes in this story) and we obviously decide that we're gonna stay together even though we cant see eachother for the next 5 months. But theres BBM, skype, mail, etc... so in reality the best part of her is still here with me.\n\nSo what Im asking is what are some things I can do for her while being in another country? Visiting is a nono cause the cost of flights alone is an entire year of school for me. I just wanna make her happy and feel special for the next 5 months. Im willing to do whatever it takes. I dont know if this will help but Ive been writing for a long time and was thinking of writing some pieces for her.", "summary": "My GF is in another country for 5 months because of school. How do I continue to make her feel special and do nice things for her."}
{"id": "t3_h56tg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have nowhere left to go...", "post": "My parents are in the process of kicking me out of their home because they think I am \"useless\" (even though I am working a job and getting an education). I am only 18 years old and all my possessions (except for my clothes and this laptop) are owned by my parents. Since I will have no mode of transportation, I will have to quit my job and thus losing my income and not being able to afford school. I was wondering reddit if you had any advice on what I should do. I was thinking along the the lines of joining the military. Do you guys agree that this is viable option? Otherwise, I can think of no other way to \"survive\", seeing as I will have no house, no income, and no mode of transportation. Thanks in advance :)", "summary": "parents kicking me out, only 18, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2tedrj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I don't know how to begin a career in Science.", "post": "I'm feeling pretty lost right now.\n\nRecently after working retail I realised this isn't how I want to live, I want to do something I enjoy not work a million hours for nothing but stress.\n\nI've always been interested in the sciences, specifically biology as it was my strongest subject by a ridiculous margin since I loved it.\n\nMy question is simple, where do I start? I don't know where to begin. Of course I'd need to go back to school first since my education is lackluster, I'm 20 so it shouldn't be too much of an issue.\n\nI'm feeling pretty lost so any help would be appreciated.\n\nAlso I'm living in England.", "summary": "How do I science for a living with no experience at 20 in England."}
{"id": "t3_12phml", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommates are awful and I really want to just report them for having weed in their room to get rid of them. What would be a better plan?", "post": "Here's the scoop, I live on campus in a two bedroom, apartment style dorm. I share a room with a friend from high school (not super close but close enough) and these two sophmores share the other room. We all share a kitchen including full fridge, oven, sink, microwave yada yada yada. Living room shared and maintaining the dorm as a whole SHOULD be shared, but isn't.\n\nThey are the two sloppiest kids I have met. They NEVER load their dishes into the washer machine, never hand wash the pots and pans that we all share, leave burnt pizza on the pizza pan, never vacuum the living room, never buy paper towels for the kitchen or dish washer soap, leave sauce stains and plates all over the kitchen counter and don't contribute to buying any supplies that all four of us need. My roommate and I cleaned the whole dorm that was shared/ours in one weekend while they were gone and they messed up everything faster than 14-year old losing his virginity.\n\nThey are extremely rude/inconsiderate by just being loud at night and early in the morning, smoking ALL the time in their room and then airing out of their room by leaving their door open so the smell goes into the dorm and my room. The smell makes me sick to my stomach and I asked before to keep their door closed after they burn and one said \"okay\". He did it once.\n\nSo basically, I have had enough from them and their nasty habits and I can't ask for a new room without a complicated process so I am waiting for them to screw up bad enough and I am going to have a cop come to their room and get their asses in trouble for their weed. Yet, I feel like that is extreme. So I am asking you guys for how I should handle this situation because I am stressing out over this bull crap.", "summary": "I wrote this crap, least you can do is read it!"}
{"id": "t3_1y14vt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my [26 F] short, fast love online", "post": "This is more of a rant, but feedback appreciated. I met a woman online a couple of months ago and we chatted at first only about things of a sexual nature, roleplayed etc. Soon after, we became what I thought is emotionally involved with one another. We'd talk every night usually and were in the process of making plans to meet (we live a 2 hour plane ride apart). \n\nI had made the assumption things were going great, and we had a very open relationship with honesty and the openness to say anything to each other. I heard this woman cry over things, chatted while she cooked, cleaned or whatever. I really feel for this woman and have never felt this way about anyone, even when I dated my ex for 7 years. \nOver the past week, she has gotten extremely busy at work and hasn't had much time to chat (we texted fairly frequently during this time). Now, over the last couple of days, I asked her to be my valentine (she said yes) and then I had to go so the conversation ended. I texted her a bit on V-day and got a few responses and suddenly I haven;t heard anything. I've called and gone to the answering machine, sent a few texts and haven't gotten a response.\n\nNow, I feel like I am maybe just being too needy, but its such a drastic change from what was the norm for us, I feel the right to know whats going on. I know \"the internet is the internet arguments\" but I don't find them valid. Am I just being ignorant to what is going on or is it fair to assume something has happened to prevent our communication?", "summary": "Feel incredibly strong towards girl I met online and things have changed recently. Am i just being a worry-wort?"}
{"id": "t3_3qakdc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am 6'4\", and I can't bring myself to go out with shorter women. Can't find the tall ones as well. Should I drop this illusion of finding what I want?", "post": "I know this is beyond dumb, and I know that height is simply a physical trait.... I can't help but want someone tall. I don't like the need to bend down so much to hug, or even interact with that person as its just too much of a strain/pain in general.\n\nThat being said. I live in Toronto, and I don't see any tall women at all. Before any one asks, I consider tall to be 5'10\"+ as heels do make a difference if they were to wear them which isn't mandatory for me at all.\n\nI've tried online dating, and I had some luck finding taller women but no one I was attracted to.", "summary": "I'm tall, I want my gf to be tall, can't find any women that are tall, and I would rather not go out with shorter women. What to do? Am I being way too picky?"}
{"id": "t3_ocnwx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I find a decent college I can afford if I'm not the resident of any state?", "post": "Last year after getting laid off, I was homeless and lived in three different states last year looking for work (the first half of the year I lived in a van and the second half I lived on the streets.) I'm back in my home state, living with relatives and working a part-time job. I want more than anything to go to school and I have up to $5500 in my Pell Grant this year to work with and I'm still looking for minority scholarships. I am technically considered an independent student and since none of the states I've lived in within the past 18 months I lived in for a year, I don't qualify for resident tuition ANYWHERE. All of my favorite schools are way out of budget because of this. I'm willing to take out student loans if I have to, but I can't afford $25k+ a year.", "summary": "I don't qualify for state residency anywhere, but I want to go to a decent school. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_2pnp67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Crush [22 F] I asked out my crush and it went really bad. I'm not sure what to do now if anything or just let it go.", "post": "(Throwaway for obvious reasons) So the title kind of sums everything up but here is some more information about the situation. I need some advice on the situation. \n\nI have had this crush on a girl for about a couple of months and we met through mutual friends at a bar where we usually do trivia. Every time I have seen here she is with our mutual friends and we don't get to catch up a lot or as often as I would like.\n\nWell tonight as we were all leaving the bar I caught her in the parking lot before leaving and finally got up the courage to ask her out after many nights of not going for it and now I feel worse than ever because it kind of crashed and burned.\n\nI ended up asking her out and when I asked it was a long silence and a pause for a while and I guess something ticked in my brain where I should say something and I said something along the lines of \"If you're not into it I understand\" but she answered that she would want to hang out sometime and I said that sounds good and we should make plans sometime.\n\nI honestly don't know what I was really thinking tonight and I think I just came off as a desperate guy and I feel pretty bad since I think I should have waited more before asking her out.", "summary": "Asked out my crush tonight and didn't go that well."}
{"id": "t3_2n5f3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help", "post": "I (23m) and my SO (20f) have been dating for almost two years now. Ive done logging, military, theater, bartending, etc etc and never met a girl like her in my life. She's smart, gorgeous, interesting, but she continues to ruin my hallmark events. On my mothers huge 45th b day ladt year she got anxious and left the party to sleep In the car. At my birthday we got into a huge fight about living quarters (we were let go as we were moving and had to spend a month with my parents) ((stressful I know)) and she left the house as I begged her to stay. This story repeats itself over and over in our relationship; everything is fine and then she flakes out or freaks out over some social activity I want to participate in.  I've started planning ahead, trying new things, surprising her, even letting her work her way into it. She still ends up either bailing pre event or mid event. \nThat is who she is though, and I cant fault her for who she is. I obviously had expectations along the way and those always fuck shit up....but....is her not being able to share important moments with me a reasonable issue to leave the love of my current life over? Am I being a bitch? Should I just keep trying to work with her for our mutual love or do her actions truly speak louder than her tear ladden words? I don't want to leave her since we share a home, but our lease ends jan 1st and I feel like It might be healthier for us to work within our comfort zones. \nI'm fucking torn and feeling weak and vulnerable and unimportant and I'm hoping someone on here has advice.", "summary": "My incredible partner wont share big moments or celebrations with me and gives in to her own anxiety no matter what the event is or what I do to work with her."}
{"id": "t3_4q4qf1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(17M) am not sure what is going on with a girl (18F)", "post": "So to start off the first time I talked to this girl was 2 months ago in one of our classes, but we've known each other for about 9 months. We were assigned a group together and joked around throughout the class. She gave me her snapchat but nothing else happened from there.\n\nLast Friday I saw she posted she watches Brickleberry on Snapchat so I sent her a message joking about it. We talked a little throughout the day but nothing major. I knew she liked to smoke and I do occasionally so I brought up that I only watch the show when high. She didn't know I smoked and was suprised and said we should hang out sometime.\n\nLater that night I started flirting with her, you know commenting she looked great, I'd buy her flowers anytime, etc. She said it was crazy that I was saying those things because she had a crush on me back in class. We talked a lot the rest of the night, but the next day when we started texting, she only responded twice and didn't message again. She was responding to my Snaps, but not to my text. I didn't want to annoy her so I didn't send anything else.\n\nThen on Sunday I texted her again and the same thing happened, but this time she hasn't been responding to my snaps. I'm not sure if she was just super busy on the weekend and didn't want to talk, or if she changed her mind about talking to me. Any tips?", "summary": "Talked to a girl a lot on Friday and she admitted to having a crush on me. She didn't respond much on Saturday and even less on Sunday. Is something wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_eva8c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Time to quit law school? (x-post from r/law for a wider audience)", "post": "I started going to law school part-time in Fall 2008. I only went part-time so I could keep my full-time job as an intellectual property paralegal. Although this did not give me the greatest amount of time to study, I did pretty well. Generally, it takes 3 semesters to complete one \"year\" of school.\n\nI tried to quit after the second semester because I realized I don't really want to work as hard as many associates are required to in order to make the big $$$. It's just not that important to me. My husband disagreed; I know he's mostly interested in me becoming an atty b/c he thinks it will make us rich.\n\nAlthough I thought my husband (who really wanted kids) and I (who was on the fence) agreed to wait until after I finished school to have children, I somehow became pregnant at the end of my second semester (Spring 2009). My son was born in February of this year. I took one week off from school (and 6 weeks from work).\n\nI tried yet again to quit for the same reasons as above AND because I needed to be with my child.\n\nBut sigh, I just went to part-time work and even less hours at school. I made moot court and journal. This past semester was HELL. And my husband has apparently lost all interest in anything I do, but still says he depends on me to \"make us rich.\"\n\nI will be a 3L at the end of the upcoming semester. With summer school, I should be able to graduate in May 2012. Even though I kept working, I still have significant school loans.\n\nAt this point, I am still leaning towards quitting despite the loans I already have. By staying in, I am promising myself more unhappiness as I continue in school, more despair when I am actually a lawyer, and even greater debt. But, it also seems incredibly silly to stop now when I am relatively close to graduating.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Almost 2/3 through law school, want to quit anyway, despite loans already accrued b/c I can't stand the idea of being a lawyer. Is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_rxbyn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Completely a 'first world problem', but dammit, I need help deciding what to do!", "post": "OK, so I took a few years off school after I graduated high school, went to college for 2 years, then took a year off to travel, and now I'm back. In my major, I'm expected to get a summer job relating to my major this year, and it's a graduation requirement. However, I could push it back and travel again this summer and just do the job later on before I graduate.\n\nI'm really caught up in the whole 'live in the moment' mentality, and I feel like if I don't take every single moment available where I could be traveling before I'm 30 with a real job, I'm gonna have regret later on. I was abused growing up, and I feel like I missed out on a lot of living, so now I feel like I have to live 'extra' to make up for it. At the same time, if I take the summer off, my advisor is probably going to be quite frustrated with me due to how much time I've already taken off, and I'm getting mildly old to still be an undergrad. I think she already sort of hates me for my 'slacking'...even though I do have a 4.0. Oh, and one other important thing-the summer job that's available is sort of horrible. I feel like if I take this job, and have it on my resume later on, I'll be completely typecast as someone who only does this position.", "summary": "Should I take a professional summer job, which is completely expected of me, or spend my summer traveling? What's the mature answer to this dilemma?"}
{"id": "t3_2rha4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (24) Doesn't Feel the same anymore and asked for a break...", "post": "M(24) F (24) Boyfriend of 2 years wants a break because we have been arguing a lot... he said he doesn't want to feel tired anymore and that he just doesn't feel the same anymore.. that hopefully with this break and us working on our issues separately he can feel un-tired and choose if he wants to be with me or not.. I tried breaking up with him because I didn't think I could handle a break he said only do it if that's what my heart wants and what would make me happy.. that what he wants is time to determine our relationship.. how should I feel? is this relationship even salvageable at this point? should I go no contact until he decides?", "summary": "Boyfriend asked for break after lots of arguing.. said he doesn't feel the same anymore and wants to use this time to determine if he wants to continue relationship.  do I go no contact? is this relationship even salvageable?"}
{"id": "t3_1vp9wx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure how I [24/M] should proceed with a friend [24/F]", "post": "Ok, I'm pretty inexperienced with the whole dating thing, so I really don't know how to proceed from my current situation.\n\nSo after a long spell of unemployment after graduation, I started volunteering at the start of last summer, mostly because it was something I was interested in doing, but also as something to put on my resume. Anyway, there was a girl that worked for the organization I was helping, and after working with her for several weeks I started to realize how much I enjoyed spending time around her. However, I was sort of expecting to be leaving the country for a long period of time (which is a whole other story), so I didn't act on my feelings.\n\nAnyway, that obviously didn't happen, which made me really buckle down and start looking for work. At this time I really wanted to focus on getting my own life sorted before worrying about relationships. So again I didn't do anything about my feelings.\n\nNow fast forward to January, I've got a job, and I find out she's temporarily working just down the street from me. We arrange to meet up for lunch and everything seems to go well, at least I enjoyed myself. She seemed pretty keen to meet up, she told me what days she would be working as soon I suggested getting lunch, and she spent pretty much all of the time we where hanging out talking.\n\nAnd this is sort of where I'm stuck. She lives about an hours drive from me, and it's a pretty sparsely populated area of the country so it's kind of hard to figure out some where to meet up casually. Plus she doesn't usually find out her shifts more than a week in advance, while I'm working Monday - Friday, so figuring out times is pretty awkward too.\n\nI texted her last night to see if she'd be at work today but unfortunately for me it was her day off. I know I probably should have just asked her if she wanted to do something today, but I just wasn't really sure what to do or how to ask (Although after the shitty weather today I can't really say I regret not asking).\n\nSorry if that post is a bit rambling, but I thought it would be useful to give the situation as much context as I could.", "summary": "I need some help figuring out where and when to meet up with a girl, when we live in a rural place and have fairly conflicting work schedules. Also some general advice for someone who is a bit of a late bloomer would be nice aswell."}
{"id": "t3_2wi4eg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my husband [33 M] of 10 years. He's Thoughtless and Forgetful about Special Occasions **tl;dr**: How do you get them to care about gift buying?", "post": "Married ladies, I'm having what seems to be a long term issue and I'd like to know if this is common.  My husband of 10 years seems to have real trouble remembering our special life occasions (anniversary, birthdays, etc).  In the event he does remember, he seems to put little thought into the gifts he gives to me.\n  \n\nI'm certain that I'm not alone in this.  However, it feels like if he cared more that he would try harder and want to bring that extra spark to our relationship we had when dating (he was great then).  \n\nI have the following questions for all of you married couples: \n\n1)  Who tends to be the one that remembers these occasions you or your spouse?  (Please provide genders)\n\n2)  Do they typically find you a gift that is something you really wanted or do you find most of the time it misses the mark?  \n\n3)  How do you go about making this better?  Would you consider it 'cheating' if you gave them hints or helped them understand what you are looking for?", "summary": "How do you get your significant other to care enough to put thought into what they get you for your special life celebrations?"}
{"id": "t3_wqmyw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: my male friend got a yeast infection from his idiot girl-friend.  Whats the worst thing you know that has happened due to uneducated idiots being, well, uneducated idiots?", "post": "I had a friend of mine, who dated this girl for two years.  She would admit to never wearing underwear, which when someone is in a skirt and is very attractive can be a turn on; however, she only ever wore pants.  So about six months after these two break up, my buddy and i are in walmart and I notice he keeps scratching his balls.  I asked him what was up and he said that for two and a half years his balls had itched constantly and he figured he was just sweaty.\n\nThen I put two and two together.  He would go down on her, kiss her, she would go down on him, kiss him ... etc.  Then he admits she always had a strong odor and would sometimes have a  chunky residue on her lips.  \n\nWell I started laughing at the poor kid and asked him to stick out his tongue and it was whiter than snow in Alaska ...\n\nI informed him that he had a yeast infection not only on his genitals but also on in his mouth (thrush).  I told him to go to his doctor and get the pill that clears it up.  He cried.  I put my hand on his shoulder and said, \"don't worry, this is one STI that can be cured.\"", "summary": "Friend's girl had a yeast infection and didn't know it and transferred it to him and he didn't know it for two and half years."}
{"id": "t3_2yb77b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my aunt[57F]: How do you reconnect with a family member you haven't spoken to in years?", "post": "Growing up, I was raised with the value that family is an important source of support and love. Although my immediate family didn't live close to any of my other relatives, my mom always made sure that my sister and I had a chance to regularly visit her side of the family, and so I got to grow up with my grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, even though they were far away. My mom made sure that we stayed in touch, and it's something that I'll always value about my childhood, even if some parts of it got rough. My dad, however, didn't really talk too much about his family. By the time I came around, there was only my grandmother, and my dad's sister and her husband. They lived really far away, so I only ever got to see my grandma twice before she passed away. My aunt lived in the same area, so I didn't see her much, either. \n\nFlash back to ten years ago, and my dad is killed in an accident. My aunt and uncle come up for the funeral, and we're all in grief and shock, but other than that we were effectively strangers, connected by being the only ones left of my dad's family. After my dad died, my aunt kept in touch with my sister and I for a little while, but it petered off after a year or so. I know, though, that my sister has stayed in pretty regular contact with her, and I feel a bit guilty about not keeping up myself. I let it slip away being overwhelmed by college, and never really reached out. I'd like to change that, and start to have a relationship with her again. I want to know more about her, about where my family comes from. I just don't know what to say. I do have her address and contact info, at least. How do you reconnect with someone you haven't spoken to in years and know practically nothing about? Any help would be very much appreciated.", "summary": "I want to reconnect with my aunt, but she lives really far away, I know almost nothing about her, and have no idea how to start. How do you family?"}
{"id": "t3_1jvo4d", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice for budgeting and saving in general. 20 Years old.", "post": "As I said I'm currently 20 years old. I just finished my associates degree and went from my $11/hour paid internship to a now full-time salaried Draftsmen (33.5K a year with benefits). So I have a few questions that I need help sorting out. I live at home still and only pay for gas, my cell phone, car insurance, and my personal life. I have around $1,000 in savings and would like to have more.\n\n1. Should I buy a used junker and drive it to the ground, or should I get a loan from a bank and get the new car?\n2. What bank is suggested for a good checking and saving's account?\n3. How soon should I be looking to move out, and should I get a studio or a 1 bedroom with my girlfriend?\n4. My company offers me a 401k after turning 21. Should I do it?\n5. Should I invest at this young, if so how do I go about it? (Links are welcome)\n6. Other than self discipline what are some good ways to spend less?\n\nAlso in case it matters I am continuing school part time for my bachelors, which I'm getting tuition reimbursement for. So in a few years I'll be an applications engineer. Hopefully doubling that salary. Any advice is welcome and appreciated, I know I asked a lot sorry.", "summary": "20 year old needs advice on how to get his shit together."}
{"id": "t3_3etj9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was happier when I was ignorant of sex", "post": "Right now my friend is having sex with a F buddy lady friend.  The other night his friends posted pictures of him on social media of him grinding his other interested lady friend.\n\nNone of my friends growing up ever talked about sex. In my family it was a taboo subject, and never mentioned or insinuated.  So I never grew up knowing about it.\n\nSo here I am, a virgin in my 30's, and there's a friend in my life that has made me realize that I'm missing out on all of this.\n\nBut here's the thing that really ticks me off...  He's a slob and an asshole, but a very good looking guy (could be a model).  Me, I'm skinny, told I'm not very attractive, and clean and polite.\n\nLast summer his lawn mower broke, so I offered to mow for him.  So I'm outside mowing, when he comes rushing back home and a few minutes a lady friend pulls up and goes inside as well.  It takes me over an hour to mow, and they never come out.  Later I realized (stupid me) that they were inside having sex.  Ok, someone who doesn't take any initiative to even mow his damn lawn gets a hookup, and the one who is working hard to keep things clean and presentable has a 30+ year dry spell.  I even have to clean the house for him because he apparently doesn't care about the 2 inches of dog hair all over the place.  And neither do his F buddies, either.\n\nThat doesn't seem fair.\n\nI guess nice guys always finish last.", "summary": "friend's actions reminds me that I'm too nice of a guy and I'm never sought for either a relationship or a hookup."}
{"id": "t3_odlcs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Severely depressed girlfriend, needs help. What can i do?", "post": "My girlfriend is having a lot of emotional issues lately. She calls me nearly every night deeply upset, it usually takes me an hour or two to calm her down. She wants to seek medical help, meaning a therapist, or a counselor of some sort. Her parents have agreed sort of, but have taken no action. I am worried because it has gotten to the point to where she is severely depressed and thinks about hurting herself and throwing up sometimes because she doesnt feel good enough, she just as of a few months ago got over a eating disorder. I want to get her the help she needs but i obviously cant pay for it by myself. I dont know what i can do.", "summary": "serverely depressed gf, needs help from a therapist or doctor but her parents wont help, what can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2weoqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] with my boyfriend [21/ M] 18 month relationship, don't have time for each other and it's ruining my feelings for him!", "post": "I'm a 20 year old female who's currently in a 18 month relationship with my boyfriend. We've had a pretty stable relationships (lots of fights) but we've learned to settle them and make up. Lately, I've been really down because we both have very busy schedules (school, work and gym) and we barely talk/see each other. \n\nMy problem is that we have the same schedule (5 days school, 2 days work and gym whenever we can) and I make time for him almost anytime I can. I usually bring up when I am going to see him next or what dates I plan. I have a bigger homework load than him but I have been making time for him since I've been in school (I'm 2 years ahead of him). \n\nNow that we're in the middle of February, we see each other maybe once or twice a week. The thing is - we barely talk; whether it is a simple phone call or just texting. (for example: I've asked for a 10 minute phone call at the end of the day just to talk if we haven't talked all day. He doesn't seem to reply or understand that I want to talk to him during the weeks we don't really see each other. I've told him several times and we've talked about it, I've even cried and sobbed this out to him but nothing has changed. I don't know what to do anymore and I can't really turn to anyone because I don't want to bother other people with my problems. :/ \n\nI'm beginning to feel distant from him and it hurts me because I really want this to work out. I know he loves me a lot too but I don't know how to handle this anymore.", "summary": "SO and I barely see each other or talk. SO doesn't do anything about it after talking to him several times. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_31tow3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am unsure of going on a holiday with my gf [18F] of 1 year", "post": "Today my gf was asking me about summer and this somehow turned into her asking me to go on holiday with her.\n\nBecause I had mentioned earlier about wanting to go on an extended trip with a friend she asked if I would take her on holiday. When I was unenthusiastic she wasn't happy. She said (as a joke, albeit a fucking awful one) 'why do you hate me'\n\nI'm not sure if a week or so with her would be the best thing in the world. We're both still so young and I'm a guy who likes to be alone. A friend of mine was also in a relationship he held together for longer than necessary because he was going on holiday with his girlfriend.\n\n Our ideas of a holiday would also differ: I would prefer to spend money on doing museums or historical sites, whereas she would prefer to be in the sun.\n\nShe doesn't have a job or any money, so her parents will be paying, but I just think that this will come down to me spending a lot more than I would otherwise, for something I would enjoy less. I know this paragraph makes me out to be a money grubbing bastard, but whatever.\n\nI offered to take her to a nice place about 2 hours drive from where we are for a weekend or something but she said she wanted to go somewhere with sun.", "summary": "am I being a massive dick for not wanting to go on holiday with my GF?"}
{"id": "t3_34et6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40+F] Quasi Mid-life Crisis", "post": "Quasi mid-life crisis?\n\nLet us just start by saying that being middle-aged fucking sucks! I went to see my Dr. this week, of course the first thing they do is have you jump on the scales. What I saw almost brought me to tears. I am now 3 pounds heavier than when I was 9 months pregnant. I knew that I had gained some weight, but I had no idea it was that much, and guess what it's all on my middle.  I have always been on the small side and my current weight is not out of proportion with my height. However, I now have a beer belly and love handles.  I know that diet and exercise most likely will take care of most of this but at 45 and never have had to do either. I only eat about a quarter of what I used to eat; frankly, I am not sure exactly how I could cut a substantial amount of calories without going hungry. Therefore, my guess is it's  going to be all about exercise. Basically, I'm a pretty lazy person and I do have some back problems. Where in the hell do you start and how do you keep up the motivation?", "summary": "Getting old and fat. I need help."}
{"id": "t3_v713i", "subreddit": "books", "title": "So I got a serious case of literature hunger today... (x-post from AskReddit)", "post": "Heya Reddit! First post (woo! tips on post etiquette are appreciated as well)\n\nOk now that that^ is out of the way, here I go!\n\nToday, I was out for some elevenses with my stack of books and my journal (you know for writing and general thoughts) and I was overcome by this drive to run across the parking lot and peruse the local B&N for something new. It was the kind of drive when you haven't eaten something all day and you're really really bloody hungry but you don't know what you want and etc etc etc. (Run on sentences are annoying I know) This was a big enough drive to have me rush by a pretty cute sales girl too-- hindsight 20/20 *smacks forehead*.\n\nAnywho! I eventually settled on some Vonnegut, Heller, and Hemingway. I feel pretty satisfied with my choices and I wanted to ask you Reddit, has this ever happened to you? Which books did you rush around the store senselessly looking for? Also anyone have any other suggestions?", "summary": "Book craving, ran in, bought some, satisfied. How about you?"}
{"id": "t3_3ez7zd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (22M) tell my friend (23F) and her boyfriend (23M) that they're too heavy to both sleep on my pull-out couch?", "post": "I haven't seen my friend Amy for a few months, and she finally got the time off to visit me. When I told her she could sleep on my pull-out couch, I meant her. The next day, she tells me her on-again off-again boyfriend Jim (loser) is also coming, which I wasn't prepared for. The thing is, the weight limit on my pull-out couch is 350 pounds. Both of them combined probably weigh 450 pounds+, more than enough to break the damn thing (the legs at the bottom are super flimsy).\n\nThey can't afford to get a hotel in Las Vegas over the weekend, and are banking on sleeping on my couch. And NO, I am NOT taking the couch and letting them sleep on my bed. I told them they should bring an air mattress because 'the pull-out bed is small', but they said they don't own one, and they'll manage on the pull-out just fine.\n\nAmy and Jim are coming to visit in a few days. How do I tell them they're just too overweight to both sleep on the couch? What alternative solutions should I offer them?", "summary": "Friend and boyfriend are visiting in a few days. How do I tell them they're too fat to both sleep on the pull-out couch?"}
{"id": "t3_1sta6g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing the last day of class", "post": "So I fucked up badly. Last night I went out for my birthday and I ate and drank things. I'm pretty sure something I ate was bad but it didn't affect me right away, it didn't taste like it should have. \nI get back to my apartment and go to sleep. \nI wake up for my 8:30am class and I feel like death. I run to the bathroom and vomit. For good 10+ mins I was there, sitting on the floor with my head hung over the toilet bowl. \nThe class earlier this week my Professor said that class is mandatory, since it is the last one of the semester and we will do an extra credit assignment for the final due next Friday.\nI thought it was in mine and my classmates best interest to not go. I had to drive(I live off campus) and didn't want to get sick on the way there or in class. \n\nSo yeah now I don't know what to do. I probably should email him and explain what happened.", "summary": "Ate some bad food, got sick, missed last day of class."}
{"id": "t3_1b0t17", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (f30) show my boyfriend (m32) that I support him?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and we also live together. Generally we have a good relationship, though at times we struggle with positive conflict resolution. \nHe is out of work at the moment (has been for 8 weeks0, which is causing him anxiety and he feels a lot of pressure to find a job. At the moment he's living off savings. He struggles with talking about how he's feeling about this sensitive issue and typically shuts down discussions relating to finding work.\nI am working full time. I broach the subject about whether he's been applying ofr jobs about once a week and I suppose he can detect my concern about his lack of employment. I understand he's having a difficult time and feel empathetic, but I want to be in the loop.\nThis morning while we were talking about the topic of him being out of work etc, he told me that I've been really unsupportive and that if the tables were turned, he'd be urging me to take the time I need and not to worry, and he wouldn't be bugging me about finding a job. He admitted that he's been feeling pressured by my and that I haven't been considerate of his feelings. This hurts my feelings, as it is inconsistent with how I've been thinking about the problem - I feel like I have been supportive and patient etc.\nIn what ways can I change my behaviours / how I talk to him so that he feels supported and not judged by me? I'd like some practical suggestions about what I should / shouldn't be doing.", "summary": "What can I say / do over time to show my partner that I support him and don't judge him?"}
{"id": "t3_52in16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 22M recently broke up with one ex 24F and started talking to a different better liked ex 21F.", "post": "Honestly I don't know where to go from here. Recently was broken up with by one girl I'll call R. R was a very nice sweet girl, but I knew way before she broke up with me that things were going to end. I even tried breaking up with R first a few months before and we both broke down and I couldn't go through with it. I don't really have any feelings left for her and I think being forced to continue a relationship with someone you don't really have much reason to be with can make a break up easier. \n\nIt's been about a month now and I've been trying to think of ways to get back out there and find someone for me and I think of the last ex that made me really feel good and that was an ex from about two years ago let's call her D. D was an amazing girl and I tried it with her twice but each time it seemed like she had a problem with having a relationship and wanted to be a fuck buddy but I wasn't into that so we broke up, both times for that reason. I still had fun with her as a friend though and decided to see how she was doing and I looked her up and found out she had just gotten out of a serious shitty relationship herself, we've started hanging out a bit though and I feel like I still have feelings for her. Am I an idiot?", "summary": "Recently broke up and started talking to a fun ex and found out I still have feelings for her, is it a really terrible idea to continue?"}
{"id": "t3_4jveh3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning my CPAP mask", "post": "Today I fucked up by attempting to not be a totally gross human on my way to some weird infection you see on dramatic medical shows. \n\nThe nose pillows  for my CPAP machine  (it's what keeps you from stopping breathing at night when your body hates existing) needed a cleaning, as most things that  regularly hang out inside your nostrils probably do. There's some difficult-to-get-to inner bits that I became frustrated with, so I began just sort of violently squeezing the whole thing in an effort to get the vinegar down in there, when one forceful squeeze sent vinegar splashing right over the rim of my glasses and directly into my eye.\n\nThat... stung. And even after flushing my eye thoroughly I am now getting gross dribbles of vinegar flavor down the back of my throat. Thanks for that, sinuses!", "summary": "shot vinegar into my eyeball, it stung, and now I keep tasting it in the back of my throat. It's gross."}
{"id": "t3_2vj41i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] have been in love with my best friend [24M] for the last 5 years.", "post": "We met through mutual friends 5 years ago and become best friends soon after; I have been head over heels for him since.\n\nThe trouble is, that although I have always suspected that he is gay he has always sworn black and blue that he is straight. This fact I have learned to accept, making me suppress my feelings towards him.\n\nThat is, until tonight when a buddy showed me the conversation between both of them on Grindr. It is definitely him, pictures and messages confirm it. \n\nI need to talk to him about it but don't know the next step, or how I want to attack the issue, whether I try to get into him or just offer to talk through his apparently new feelings towards men.\n\nHelp please", "summary": "best friend with whom I am enamoured is apparently gay as I always assumed. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3xg3c4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU doing the R&D target practice side op last in MGSV", "post": "Spent the last two hours doing the completely unnecessary, infuriatingly annoying target practice missions on mother base. I got all the rough diamonds, completed it all, except for the R&D platform one. I start it and tried to climb on to one of the tubes, but accidentally just jumped of the side and died. RIP 2 hours of my life.\n\nNot going to lie I sat there for 5 minutes just fucking crying like I just finished watching Marley & me. ;_; this is my third time trying to do this retarded fucking side ops, the second time it had overheated my computer and caused it to shut itself off...\n\nWHY THE FUCK IS THERE NO CHECKPOINT AFTER COMPLETING THESE BULLSHIT SIDE OPS. WHY DOESN'T\"T IT AUTOMATICALLY SAVE EVERY 20 MINUTES OR SO. WHY DOES THIS SIDE OP EVEN EXIST IT SERVES NO PURPOSE OTHER THAN TO BE ANNOYING AS FUCK.\n\n Please if anyone knows a mod that just tricks the game into thinking you completed these side ops, please tell me. I'm on PC obviously. I love this game but holy shit where in Satan's ass did they summon the jerk who made the target practice missions.", "summary": "fuck the target practice side ops in MGSV"}
{"id": "t3_fm5ve", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When are there no giant aliens on Star Trek/Star Wars/Star Gate ?", "post": "It seems to me that most if not all of the alien species encountered by humanity in those shows are of average human height and size. \n(Star Trek is very guilty of doing that.)\n\nWouldn't it make more sense to see aliens that are much bigger and much smaller depending on the size of their home planet?\n\nTake a look at the size of the stars in the universe:\n\nThere are stars out there that are a thousand times bigger than our sun and with that said, possibly planets a thousand times bigger than our earth as well. Why are every alien we encounter in space under 2meters tall? If their home world is 10000x the size of ours, then why not have aliens 10000x the size of humans?", "summary": "Why are there no space faring aliens the size of our sun crossing the universe and making contact with humanity?"}
{"id": "t3_2aajvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F], im questioning things", "post": "Alright so I dated this girl for two month's and I broke up with her, however it was slightly mutual. We broke up over her freaking out all the time over very little situations, and she thought I didnt care about her because I didnt text her enough. It has been about a month and ive seen her three days in a row. She is going out to a nightclub with a kadet at the air force academy tonight. We agreed to be exclusive but she says its because her parents like him. Should I just end it before more chaos?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3qfs5l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my Girlfriend beautiful", "post": "So this happened last night.\n\nSo I've recently started dating a super cute Japanese girl (we''ll call her Jessica). So last night me and Jessica are over at her parents house for dinner since we've been going out for a couple months and I hadnt met them before and from what Jessica had been telling me they were \"eager\" to meet me. \n\nJessica is for all intents an american but  went to formal Japanese School as well as an american high school. her parents however were born and raised in Japan and very culturally Japanese. This being said I am about as white as they get. Jessica also passingly mentioned to me that she had never dated outside of Japanese men before and her parents were interested to see who I was in terms of a potential partner for their daughter. \n\nSo we pull up into the driveway at about 7:00 Pm last night; I cant lie I was a bit nervous, especially since I'm not really at all familiar with Japanese  customs and culture so i had planned in my head to not really try and say a whole lot in fear that i'd say something stupid.\n\nwell guys... i said something stupid.....really...... really....stupid.\n\nSo we're past the introduction phase of the evening and everything seems to be going well and conversation is very light. so than Jessica's mother asks us how we met. \n\nMe: \"Well, I was walking to class and was kinda in a hurry and as i'm running through campus i notice my shoelace is untied so i bent down to tie it. when I looked up i saw Jessica sitting on a bench and was immediately struck by how beautiful she was, like a very Graceful Geisha\"\n\nThem: Nothing \n\nthe room went silent for what seemed like long enough time for me to be able to grow old and die and hopefully reconcile the fact that i unknowingly called their daughter a prostitute.\n\nthankfully Jessica understands I'm an idiot and is not mad (i hope) \n\nDinner was great though, had a lot of silent time to really taste all the delicious cuisine.", "summary": "called my Girlfriend a Japanese prostitute in front of her parents and had some banging sushi. 3/5 stars"}
{"id": "t3_2d4rl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) treat my BF (22M) horribly. I don't know how to make things right.", "post": "We met about 3 and a half months ago. And so much has happened. I've lied and I've cheated. I've said some horrible things. I'm quite commitment phobic and I've just made a mess of things. I kissed someone while I was drunk behind his back, and then in front of him and I also felt up this person and admitted to it later. To say sorry, I said, \"I was drunk; it just happened.\" Then, a week later, I kissed this person again. I was already in a relationship when we got together. I lied about it at first, then eventually broke it off with this other guy. I threatned to break things off and I basically played with his feelings. I lie about a lot of things and I hide things from him constantly. Recently I flirted with someone in front of him. This guy kissed me and I didn't kiss him back, but I encouraged him and didn't tell him I was with someone. I did this all in front of my bf and he got so mad all I could say was \"at least I didn't cheat. That's better, right?\" He still wants to be with me. I don't know what to do. It's been a week and I haven't done anything upsetting to him and I know he doesn't completely trust me. I just feel awful. Like I don't deserve him at all. The bad thing is what I've written doesn't cover it all. I've done other hurtful things. I can't even remember all of them or keep track of them. I've never been in a relationship which has lasted this long and it's scary.", "summary": "been with a guy for nearly 4 months. I've been terrible. How do I make things right?"}
{"id": "t3_3a3ypd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] feel like I'm being stalked by my ex [29 F]", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'll try to make this as short as I can. 3 months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of nearly 4 years because I found out she was sleeping with a co-worker. I also found out the co-worker she was sleeping with never knew she had a boyfriend. As soon as he found out, he told me. \n\nSo basically the 1st month of the breakup was normal. I didn't communicate with her at all (she texted me a couple of times, which I obviously ignored). But then things start to get weird.\n\nSometimes, I go to bars by myself ( I like drinking alone sometimes outside my home). I'll see her at different bars throughout Toronto a lot alone as well. And when I do make eye contact with her, she looks away and pretends I'm not even there. \n\nSometimes I'll see her in my building, even though she has absolutely no business being there. \n\nTHEN one day as I'm coming back to my apartment after a night out with friends, I see her waiting at my door. I push her out of the way gently so I can get into my apartment. She follows me in. At this point I haven't said anything to her in over 2 months, but I started screaming at her. I repeatedly asked her why she had been following me and to stop stalking me. I know I was really loud because almost everybody on my floor called the police. Mind you this was 4 AM. \n\nWhen they do arrive, I tell her she has no permission to be in my apartment. When they realize I haven't done anything wrong, the cops escorted her out.\n\nI haven't seen her in about 2 days, but I feel like she's stalking me. What should I do?", "summary": "Broke up with cheating ex. Now I feel like she's stalking me."}
{"id": "t3_22j4c3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Florida, USA] Contesting a fine from my apartment complex due to their improper book keeping. He said/she said situation.", "post": "I'll try to keep this quick!\n\nMy apartment complex uses hotel keys as room keys. \n\nWhen you are locked out of your apartment for whatever reason, they will issue you a new key and you have until the end of the day to return the old key or will be penalized $25.  They log this in a handwritten log to track when the key is issued and returned. \n\nHotel keys lose magnetism frequently so I often come into the office to have it remagnetized to access my apartment again. This involves handing them the old key and having them reprogram that same key and it's a free service. \n\nI brought my broken key in last week and the leasing agent wrote my information in the lost key ledger but I didn't really process it because I assumed she knew what she was doing. She returned the key after fixing it and this left a blank in the ledger, making it seem as though I was expected to return a key even though she had followed protocol incorrectly. \n\nAfter receiving a $25 invoice today, I explained the situation to the people in the leasing office and they told me to tell them who had handled it - there was no signature in the ledger so whoever screwed up is not documented and I don't know all of the people in the office so I couldn't pick her from a lineup.  They said they will ask everyone who was working then if they made a mistake but something tells me they're not going to \n\na) admit to this error or\nb) remember a small bookkeeping error from a week ago. \n\nEveryone working in this office is early 20's and seemed to take this issue personally rather than treat it as a business transaction - it's an apt complex near a university. \n\nWhat can I do? I will not pay for their poor bookkeeping.", "summary": "apartment complex made a bookkeeping error (fixed my broken key but listed me as borrowing a key and therefore it seems like I never returned the old one - a $25 fine) and is charging me for it. This happened a week ago and it is my word against their's so I don't exactly know what my rights are here. The policy was implemented before my lease so it wouldn't be written in it. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_3366zu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my no one. Where to find my next girlfriend [>18 F]", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nI got sick of complaining about things a while ago. Life is going great now.\n\nI am working a couple part time jobs, and a full time job as well. Making decent money I have decided to attend a top 5 University this fall, and I have already registered for night classes there.\n\nMy one problem as of late has been boredom, however. Where are good places a single guy like myself can go to meet a potential girlfriend to cuddle with, spend lots of time with, bring out on tons of social occasions, and date whenever we both have the chance?\n\nI live in Boston.", "summary": "Where do I find attractive single women in Boston?"}
{"id": "t3_1kzudz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to help my mom (F60) overcome her loneliness", "post": "My parents are separating and my dad (M53) is moving out soon. My mom (F60) has always been really attached to him, he is the only man she's ever been with and the only person she talks to about her feelings. She is also very overbearing, always wants to know where he is and wants to cater to his every wish and \"mothering\" him. \n\nMy mom is terribly afraid of being alone. She wants to be with my dad till the end of her life and can't imagine anything else. She does have a few friends but she doesn't feel really close to them. So she is guilt-tripping my dad into staying with her and he has developed major depression because of it.\n\nI've talked to my mom about it and she thinks my dad should take medication for his depression and then everything will be like it used to be. She can't understand that he needs to be alone. I don't know how to explain it to her... She is so nice and means well but she can't understand that it's too much for the people around her.\n\nMe and my sister both live away from home and can't be there for her constantly. But I feel terrible about leaving her alone. She doesn't have work right now, it's not easy to find a good workplace for an uneducated woman her age. She doesn't want to do things with her friends because \"they're all married, they do things with their husbands\". \n\nHow can I help her? I don't know what to do. My dad is still gonna take care of her financially but she is really fixated on not wanting to be alone and I'm scared that she won't be able to handle all of this.", "summary": "My parents are separating and my mom is terribly scared of being alone."}
{"id": "t3_gbxcs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this even legal let alone fair?", "post": "So I work for a small hedge fund and I'm pretty much the 2nd to 3rd guy in command.  However, I notice that lately we have been letting people go.  Curious, I hit the financial books and notice that we are doing quite fine.  Better than last year in fact.  The people we fire are pulling their weight.  I confront the boss and he tells me we aren't do so well.  I show him the financial statements, and he still stick to his answers.  As the month ends, I notice we have some strange expenditures.  New company car, traveling expense, etc.  I get a call from the bosses daughter (he has 3) and long story short, guess who got the car, the traveling expenses and money of which we saved from firing people?  Basically the spoiled daughter is getting all the money from the company.  This month, I find out that the boss reduced our health benefits (without telling us) and so now I have to start paying for prescription drugs....wtf.  Is this even legal?", "summary": "The boss is firing people and reducing benefits to give money to his daughter"}
{"id": "t3_1ytd1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "sexually unhappy[23M] with [23F] 1 1/2 yr gf", "post": "Background: \nThe first 8-10 months we had sex multiple times a day and it seemed more passionate and energy filled. Now we have sex less, about once a week, but we spend all day in bed when we see each other (prime time for sex). We see each other 3 times a week on average. She also loves me deeply despite me maybe not feeling loved at times.\n\nProblem/questions: \nShe doesn't want to have sex as often as me and that's fair but I can't help but feel negative emotions and be somewhat upset when it doesn't happen and I don't know how to over come that or turn my sex drive down or hers up.\n\nProblems pt. 2/My feelings: \nI feel like it's more than just a sexual release like I equate love to sex and her wanting to have less sex with me/she seems less into it makes me feel less loved. I also feel like she kisses me less and is just less all over me and that makes me feel less loved.\n\nI feel like she never initiates sex without me being some sort of catalyst which makes me feel like she is not into me, even though I know she is.\n\nPast attempts at communication: \nI've talked to her about it and she doesn't really like talking about it and when I asked her why things seem to be different than how they used to be she says we were in the honey moon phase. She also once said how it's different now that I live at home (just graduated)[despite: my parents not caring, us both having our own rooms on the opposite side of the house, and having had sex at my house countless times before without her mentioning this once].", "summary": "less sex makes for me feeling less loved and to me loving her less. Idk how to lower my sex drive or increase hers or to just not feel shitty about having less sex."}
{"id": "t3_102hs0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I think I might have deep vein thrombosis and I cannot afford to go to the doctor.", "post": "I've been researching signs and symptoms for awhile now, and I'm about 90% sure that I have deep vein thrombosis (a blood clot in my leg). I'm not going to bother going into all the symptoms and everything, 'cause it's kind of irrelevant. \n\nThe problem is that I need medical attention and cannot afford it. I don't have health insurance. I'm a college student, currently unable to find a job. My parents can't afford to help, either. My dad's income barely covers the household's needs and my mom just lost her job a few days ago. \n\nI'm not stupid. If I have no other option, I WILL go to the emergency room and get this taken care of. But only after I've exhausted other options. I'm already going to be in student loan debt for a good chunk of my life, and the last thing I need are hospital bills. I'm living barely above comfortable on my student loans and savings from my summer job.\n\nWhat are my options? Is there anywhere I can go that would be free, or even a little less expensive than the hospital?", "summary": "Need medical attention, don't have money. Want to know and understand my options before I commit to massive hospital bills."}
{"id": "t3_3vev3a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling at a pregnant lady", "post": "This FU happened last weekend. SO and I were driving around town trying to find a place to eat. I was in a grumpy mood because it's the time of the month and I was starving. Anyway, we drove and drove and we were both in such a shitty mood already (hungry+angry = hangry). We were on the right-hand side of the road when we were suddenly stopped. I looked and saw that the car in front of us was trying to turn right, but he couldn't yet because a lady with her kid was trying to cross the road. Here's where the FU happened - I don't have my eyeglasses with me. I can still see but it's a bit blurry, and it was also close to 9pm this time so the dark didn't help either. ANYWAY, this lady and her little kid were taking their sweet-ass time crossing the road, so I went on a little road rage and shouted out my window, \"can you go ANY MORE sloOoOwer?\" Keep in mind the lady had her back on us the whole time - she turned around and revealed a rather huge belly looking like she was due anytime soon. Hell, if I scared her even more she probably would just pop out the baby right there and then. I sat there, wide-eyed. I tried to yell out an apology but as I was going to speak, she tried miiiiiiighty hard to walk faster (for visualization: mama penguins running hurriedly to their baby daddies and babies after food hunting). I feel like such a shitty person. My SO was speechless. Not a word was spoken about it during dinner.", "summary": "went on a road rage that almost caused a pregnant lady to have a childbirth in the middle of the road"}
{"id": "t3_36stnb", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I withdrew my job application.", "post": "For the first time ever, I requested HR to withdraw my job application right after my phone interview.\n\nLet's get right into the story -- \n\nI had a scheduled phone interview today at 9 AM. I got ready with my resume, company research, and questions for the interview. Now all I have to do is wait for the phone call.\n\n10 minute pass, no call. I decided to call the company and have them forward me to the hiring manager through the company directory. No response.\n\nAnother 10 minutes later tried again, no response.\n\nFinally, the hiring manager calls me at 9:25... 25 minutes late to the interview. The first thing he says is, \"Hi xbeerience, my name is \"hiring manager\", what would you say your skill level in \"polymer processing is?\". No apologies for being late, no introduction of the company, no introduction to what the job position would be like. \n\nAfter answering the first question, he quickly jumped to the second one like he was just going through a checklist. Normally, this would be fine, but when he cuts me off due to his time restriction and starts moving on to the next question, I feel as if I would not get along nor see myself working in this position.\n\nFinally, once all of the questions were answered -- he quickly stated \"Thank you, we'll contact you back soon\" and then hung up, not allowing me to ask him any questions to get a better grasp on the position.\n\nAfterwards, I decided to just email HR and request that my application be withdrawn as I do not see myself fitting or working well with a manager who held no respect to the interviewee.\n\nJust a note to my fellow job hunters:\n\n*Even though you guys are looking for jobs, don't just go for one that comes up because it's easy, but really look for one that you'll mesh in with and can see yourself working there for many years to come.", "summary": "The interviewer was rude."}
{"id": "t3_2grp4d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not taking proper care of my car", "post": "Although to be fair I've actually been in a state of fucking-up for the past year. \n\nMy car has been making some weird noises from under the hood for a few months now, and while I've more or less gotten used to it (fairly easy because it goes away after I've been driving for a few minutes) everyone who's heard it has told me I should really get it checked out. \n\nWell this morning I finally went to see a mechanic about it before work, and after speaking with him on the phone about an hour ago I've learned that apparently the \"tension chain\" or something to that effect is hitting the inside of the engine and must be fixed/replaced. This repair is going to cost me about $1400, which I will just barely be able to afford with the combination of payday tomorrow and what money I have saved up (not a whole lot). \n\nThe real kicker though is that when I asked him what I could have done to prevent this, he told me an oil change. And then I realized with a chill that not once since I bought this car in October of last year did I think to have the oil changed.", "summary": "I'm completely broke because I didn't think at any time in the past year to spend $50 and get my oil changed."}
{"id": "t3_1koyds", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[TX] Apartment office staff gave carpet cleaners access to my apartment after I told them I did not want them to.", "post": "I took the day off to wait for the carpet cleaners. They did not show up until 6PM according to the office. \n\nI asked to be rescheduled for next week, but when I came home from dinner, the cleaners had finished and my cats had thrown up on the clean carpet.\n\nThe apartment staff knew that I had cats that had to be put away and they are also aware that I was not going to do it that day. I also made two phone calls to the office about not wanting the service on that day.\n\nThere is no carpet cleaning contract or anything that I signed that said I had to have it on that day. The cleaners used my toilet and left the seat up. Also looked through my magazines and made a mess. I have never seen my cats so scared.", "summary": "Access given to my apartment without permission."}
{"id": "t3_33oaa1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15 M] don't feel good enough for my [16F] amazing girlfriend", "post": "I have been dating the most amazing person for 5 months (I know it's not at all long but it's my first relationship). Her name is Rachel and she is everything I could have asked for; she is absolutely gorgeous, intelligent, creative, and insanely kind-hearted. Her and I were friends for a year before we started dating. I feel like I'm not worth her time. Everything in my mind tells me that I'm not good enough.\n\nShe never gets to spend time with anyone because she is so busy. Every possible state test and final is coming up for her and she has been so stressed (She has had Star Testing, District Write, AP testing, random, 8-day testing for Juniors, AND finals will be coming up soon). I understand she has a lot on her plate and admire how much self-motivation she has, but I keep having to cage up my emotions because she isn't very fond of couples expressing physical relationships in public.\n\nI am totally fine with her not liking public displays of affection, but it is starting to get to me because I never get to see her alone and express my feelings more. It wouldn't feel real if I did it over text; I would much rather do it in person because then I would have to come out of my shell a bit instead of hiding behind a phone.\n\nThinking about it, there are two points of contention. \n\n1.) Her and I never get to spend meaningful time together\n\n2.) I have low self-worth\n\nBeing high school students, this will probably all get better over summer when we have time, but I have been really thinking about it recently and it's been stressing me out a lot. Is there anything I can do to lessen one, if not both of the points of contention? Jesus I hate my teenager hormones.", "summary": "I don't get to express my feelings around my girlfriend because we never get meaningful time together and I also just don't feel good enough for her. Is there anything I can do or do I just have to wait it out?"}
{"id": "t3_2hv8c0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] am in the same group of friends as the guy [18 M] I very briefly dated, he's now all over our friend [18 F]", "post": "Because of some reasons, I had this group of new friends going into college. I've only known them for one or two months but I really enjoy being around these people.\n\nSo there's this one guy in the group, we very obviously liked each other from the start. We went on one for real date and were kind of a \"thing\" for a few weeks. I'd started to have feelings for him, but long story short he decided he just wanted to be friends. This was about two weeks ago. Apparently he'd had his eyes on my roommate (also in our friend group). So now they're all over each other every time we all hang out, which is pretty much every night.\n\nI honestly cannot figure out if I'm mad at one or both of them or not, but seeing them do that shamelessly in front of me is both gross and pretty painful. I know the guy doesn't owe me anything since we weren't official, but I can't help but feel like they could be a bit more considerate (and what about girl code? She knows I had feelings for him). I like both of these people individually, but I feel like I'm too naive to know if they just goofed up or if they're genuinely bad friends.\n\nI would just nope the heck out of here and find new friends but I really really don't want to lose the other people in this group. Has anyone had a situation like this before? How did you handle it?", "summary": "How do you handle being in the same friend group as your (sort of) ex and his new girl?"}
{"id": "t3_27uww9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like a dick because I [28 M] sleep attacked my GF [20 F] of 4 months .", "post": "I should preface this with this statement: I have never been on serious medication until now. I am taking 50mg Vyanse for ADD per day along with 30mg Temazepam for sleep. \n\nWe were having drinks at my GFs place with her neighbors and I told her I was ready to go to bed. Took my sleep meds. Walked into the apartment and roommates offered us burgers. I accepted but reiterated that I was going to sleep and asked her to wake me up when they were ready. \n\nShe tries to wake me up... no response. She tries harder.... no response. Eventually she wakes me up and according to her I freaked out, grabbed her forcefully and pushed her against the wall of her bedroom. I have no recollection of any of this. She told me about it today and I feel awful. This girl is beyond sweet and I want nothing more than to make her happy and keep her in my life. \n\nWe dont have a perfect relationship but this really bothers me. I have no history of physical violence ESPECIALLY towards someone I am deeply in love with. She deserves much better than this. \n\nSo heres where I am now: Break up with her because I feel so bad about this and a few unrelated other things that I feel like I am making the quality of her life diminish, or work it out and continue the relationship knowing that I could unconsciously lash out at her for no good reason. The problem for me is that either option sucks horribly. I love this girl and losing her terrifies me. Even worse though is the thought of hurting her. I would never do anything like that intentionally. What do reddit? Pls help...", "summary": "Pushed GF against wall while she woke me up without realizing it and I feel bad about it."}
{"id": "t3_1lw5ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my girlfriend [22F], 3 months", "post": "I'm putting my heart here. Reddit, 3 months ago I met this girl. She is amazing, and we started dating.\n\nIt was amazing, and everything was really good, until we had to be some time apart.\n\nThe problem: we we're together for one month and a half, and now we've been apart for the same time.\n\nNow, finally, we were together, but things aren't the same anymore. We've discussed, and she told me she doesn't love me anymore. But I still love her. And it's over.\n\nNow I feel sad. Cause I love her so much, and she is amazing. I've learned so much with her.\n\nBut I also feel genuinely happy. I know that now it hurts so bad, but I'll get over it, and it was amazing. Yet I can't waste my time with someone who doesn't love me.\n\nBut it still hurts, and tomorrow I don't have a single person to talk to. And I really need someone. But let me tell you something: I feel really alive.", "summary": "Amazing girl, we broke up, and I needed to tell someone."}
{"id": "t3_17g4l0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16F] boyfriend [17M] of one year forgot about me for an entire day...", "post": "Bit of background, Ive had the flu for about 4 days. The first few days he texted me, everything was fine. Then yesterday, he didn't text me at all, all day. When I texted him, he admitted to just... forgetting about me. \n\nNow, I don't demand much in the area of texting. Once a day before bed, a quick \"I love you.\" We used to talk all the time, he was like my best friend. Now... I'm lucky to even get a text between all his video games and stuff. We see each other at school for maybe 10 minutes tops. He claims \"there's nothing to talk about\". I don't know how to respond. I think about him constantly. He said hes sorry and that he loves me, I don't doubt that. I just don't know where to go from here.", "summary": "I'm sick, boyfriend of a year forgot about me for an entire day. Communication has dwindled as it is. Don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_1yet3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 ] and new interest [23] have been dating for over a month, when should I bring up my marijuana use (medicinal purposes) ?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nLooking for some input on when I should bring up this topic. I smoke weed on a nightly basis to battle my (self-diagnosed/lifelong problem) insomnia. Without it, I get 2-3 hours of sleep maximum after tossing/turning for 5 hours.  With, I knock out after 30 minutes and am able to sleep 6+ hours.I admit that it also serves to wind me down, though this is not the purpose I began smoking. Rarely do I use it recreationally -- maybe once a month, about an hour earlier than I normally smoke before sleep).  My life and success have improved greatly after starting this remedy (GPA skyrocketed, landed a job in my field, etc.).\n\nShe hasn't explicitly spoken out against weed, however on our first or second date I asked if she's ever smoked anything. Her answer was no and the question wasn't returned to me.\n\nLevel of seriousness: We started dating 5 weeks ago and have seen each other every weekend since. We had sex twice last weekend and discussed/confirmed exclusivity, although we don't refer to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend quite yet. I can see us dating for quite a while, so I know this isn't something I want to hide from her forever.\n\nDo I owe it to her to tell her immediately? She's coming over this weekend for our first full day/night over together.\nPlease advise!", "summary": "In new relationship.  Girl is not aware I smoke weed on a nightly basis in order to sleep.  When do I bring it up and how?"}
{"id": "t3_39aqnt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by watering my crotch", "post": "Obligatory, this didn't happen today, but it was yesterday so not too much of a gap.\nI was sitting in a meeting with about four other people. One person was presenting so it was quiet. The meeting room was freezing. Like someone was piping in cold air just to keep you awake. To mitigate against smuggling raisins/hypothermia I had got a cup of boiling water to hold. After ten minutes I had already sat that hot wonderfulness on both legs, forearms, back and front of my hands and it was now nestling snuggly pretty much in my crotch. This was the fuck up. My boss was sat beside me and turned to nod in agreement to me about the presenters point. I had zoned out as I had been focusing on staying alive so I sat up and vigorously nodded to look like I had been paying attention. In this moment, I had forgotten the cup of water. Which I let pour into my crotch. Cue, desperately trying to look interested in the presentation, not draw attention to myself, and not move due to my lady bits being swamped with water that was far too hot to be acceptable in that area.\n\nI sat the rest of the presentation as I felt burnt, then warm, then even colder than before and dreading having to stand up at the end to leave. \nWhen it was over, I faffed about with my notebook until everyone else left and I took my wet frozen self to a bathroom.\nLesson learned - if you're going to use boiling water as a hot water bottle, don't warm the crotch.", "summary": "used a cup of hot water to warm lady bits. Poured it on said bits to avoid disapprovement from my boss."}
{"id": "t3_vnygk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to make this work. Wondering if it's a lost cause.", "post": "Him 25 Me 22 \nBeen together for a little longer than a year and we're moving in together in about a month. \n\nWe are both madly in love with each other and never felt this way about anyone else. We have our issues, but overall our relationship makes us both very happy. \n\nThe problem is that I have insecurity issues stemming back to my childhood that I have continuously tried to work on. It is hard for me to get close to people so I make everyone disposable. I've been lied to by people and taken advantage of in my past so I am paranoid and can be really cynical and skeptic. I have acute anxiety and it acts up at times and makes me paranoid and I have compulsive thoughts about him lying or being unfaithful. \n\nMy current SO does not give me reasons to doubt him and he never has but I am having trouble giving him my complete and total trust. I get paranoid and although I do give him his space and do not text him 24 7 or question him at all times there are moments when it gets the best of me and I start feeling paranoid and extremely insecure. I love him to pieces and I want this to work. We're both in a place where moving in together is right and we both feel so ready for it (I have been living with him as a transition for the past few weeks and everything is going great.) The only problem is those moments of lack of trust and I know it is not fair to him that I sometimes doubt his love for me. I am working on it/have been and it is getting better, but I am losing hope and starting to worry that I will never be able to give him my complete and total trust. \n\nDo you guys have any similar experiences or words of advice for me? We tell each other everything I am just so terrified of the fact that there is a possibility (because this is real life) that he may one day lie to me. I want to get over this for him because he doesn't deserve it.", "summary": "Moving in with boyfriend. Love him so much and want to be better for him but insecurity and lack of trust get the best of me. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35wfxy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In the first relationship in a long time that I actually care about and I'm having jealousy issues.", "post": "Alright so this is the first serious relationship I've had in a long time. I love this woman with all my heart, but have been cheated on in the past in nearly every single serious relationship I've been in. She is an amazing and beautiful woman. I don't want to lose her by smothering her. I've gone through her text messages a couple of times now and told her about it. I found a couple really flirty messages between her and her coworker and her and an old coworker. She tells me that if I have seen these guys I wouldn't worry because I'm much more attractive and that they know she has a boyfriend now. But it still hurts me that she didn't tell these guys off in some way shape or form. But it also hurts her that I can't just trust her to be faithful. I have no real reason to believe that she will hurt me other than today she was being really secretive about her phone. Turning it so I can't see. Going to the other room to text someone and saying she'll be right back. I really just want to know if you guys and gals can help me get over my paranoia and if I should have anything to worry about. She's about to come back downstairs and I'm going to ask her in as nicely and non-accusatory way as possible why she's being so secretive about her phone today. I'll update afterwards", "summary": "I'm having jealousy issues, please help me deal with my paranoia"}
{"id": "t3_1i4gu6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how did going back to your ex work out for you?", "post": "I dated her for about 6 months. We started in college and continued through summer, but summer turned into long distance. I feel like the distance killed the relationship. We are about 1 1/2 hours apart. After breaking up, I gave her the space that I thought she would want. We haven't talked for a whole year, but now we have begun texting again over the last month. She obviously holds a special place in my heart, but I just don't know if it is worth trying again. Since breaking up, we both dated other people, and both of us in my opinion, have matured greatly. Is it worth trying again? Did it turn out well?", "summary": "Dated for 6 months at college. Returned to our homes, LDR started. Broke up, dated other people, now beginning to talk again."}
{"id": "t3_ll00m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend is participating in a voting competition commissioned by an outdoor clothing company. Please Reddit, with just a little help he could easily go to north of the polar circle. Does Reddit ever react to anything like this?", "post": "Ok the background is this: My friend is an absolute maniac when it comes to the outdoors. He is the biggest Bear Grylls fan you'd ever meet and constantly goes sleeping in the woods with only the bare necessities. He is enlisted in a competition that could, if he wins the first place in Denmark, go north of the polar circle on a 33 day journey with dog sleds and shit. It sounds awesome. Only thing is this other guy (we sorta know) is currently at the first place. MY FRIEND HAS TO WIN! anything else would be unfair. So I ask of you now Reddit: would you do me this gigantic favor and vote my friend away to the north? It would mean the world to him. Also currently the guy in Danish first place (who we sorta know) has like 300 votes, so it really wouldn't require much effort: \n\nPEACE!\ninb4: I am not him.", "summary": "vote on my friend to send him on the wildest journey imaginable."}
{"id": "t3_1zk6lm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Questions about my slumlord living situation", "post": "I have a couple of questions regarding my borderline \"slumlord\" living situation.  I rent a very cheap three bedroom apartment in a college town (Boulder, Colorado) where housing is expensive and in high demand.  My place was built in the 90s as a makeshift addition onto the back of a more solid, established house. \n\nMy issue is a lack of responsiveness in regards to fixing things around my house that inhibit my comfort and wellbeing in day to day life. \n\n-Everything damaged or disgusting about the house was well-documented in the initial walkthrough with pictures and checklists filled out.\n\n-Many things that were put in writing to be fixed by a certain date were ignored completely or took far past the agree-upon date to be addressed, including a couple things that may be genuine safety concerns.\n\n-I pay my rent in a very under the table way which my landlord insisted upon.  It involves depositing any combination of cash and checks into his bank account which is at a bank located up the street from me.  I have records of all of these deposits.\n\nThe door to my room is off its hinges with a splintered frame.  My landlord said we would have to discuss the \"cost\" of fixing it, implying that I would have to pay for it.\n\nI guess my question is, what are my rights as a tenant?  What can I demand that he fixes?  I have been complacent about a lot of things which may nullify any upper hand I would have.\n\nIt is also worth mentioning that the house has not been officially inspected to my knowledge and the opinion of a couple of my experienced carpenter friends would be that it would fail many housing codes.\n\nI don't want to cause harm to my landlord or gain retribution, I just want to have things fixed so I can continue living cheaply and comfortably.\n\nThere is an official lease which I read carefully that follows the standard template of all other leases I have signed through more professional channels.  I have copies of it from each respective lease term.", "summary": "I live in a crappy house in a college town and my landlord is very negligent and unresponsive when it comes to routine maintenance.  What are my rights and what can I do to get things fixed?"}
{"id": "t3_l99ms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A friend of mine has a gender issue", "post": "So this girl I know from school is bi (I assume, but she isn't straight) and she looks like a normal girl, but she insists that no one ever calls her female (or male). She doesn't want to be gender specific I suppose, which is fine, but I feel that using some word to describe her is needed ( i.e. When I don't want to keep repeating her name over and over instead of just saying she). How am I suppose to do this, or should I do this at all?", "summary": "Friend doesn't want to be labeled as a specific gender."}
{"id": "t3_hoc8f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most dickish thing you've done to a friend that you really regret?", "post": "The idea for this came from [this thread] but what about the dickish things like this that you've done to your friends?  \n  \nA couple of years ago, I had a friend that I was basically inseparable from. We rode to and from school together, and we basically hung out every day. We always had a really awesome time hanging out, and he always made me laugh about everything. He was a hilarious dude. But one day I found out that he had smoked some pot, which I wasn't a fan of him doing. It was the first time he did it, but at the time, I had a very XxStraightxEdgexX mentality, so I thought I was above everyone who smoke and drank, etc. So, after I found out that he had gone and done that, I waited for the school year to end, and I made the decision that I wasn't going to be friends with him anymore. I completely quit talking to him, deleted him from Myspace(yeah, it was back then.), and even took his number out of my phone.  It was several months before I tried to talk to him again, but I eventually realized how big of an ass I was being, so I sent him a long email apologizing for being so insensitive and closed-minded. I had found out from third parties that he sank into a real deep depression because I quit talking to him, and he refused to go anywhere in public that he might run into me.  We're on good terms now. Things are slightly tense because of the long period of not talking to each other, but they've somewhat returned to normal, but I sincerely regret that decision. I don't think we'll ever be as close as we were, and it was real shitty of me to be that way towards him.", "summary": "FRIEND SMOKED POT, I DIDN'T LIKE IT, SO I QUIT TALKING TO HIM BECAUSE I WAS TOO COOL FOR THAT    "}
{"id": "t3_xsre1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I finished my first month of a new diet and exercise program. I was really proud of myself until my brother told me I should eat better and exercise more because he said I looked like I put on weight. What words just cut you down, reddit?", "post": "Used to be kind of heavy but I started exercising more last year. I thought that I was looking better and getting in shape after a few months so I started kicking up my exercise routine. I started a new diet and new exercise program last month and started to really feel the effects. I saw my brother today whom I hadn't seen for a while and he tells me I need to lose weight, at first I thought he was kidding but then I saw how he was looking at me,I then just felt the sting of his words. Normally criticism doesn't bother me but today it did. What's your story reddit?", "summary": "tried losing weight, according to my brother it doesn't show."}
{"id": "t3_eyzs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The Evolution of a Relationship", "post": "Many of the posts on /relationships seem to be about LTR that don't work out for a magnitude of reasons. Most of these LTR seem to have start in the late teens and have hit a bumpy period in the early 20's which is a huge transitional stage in anyone's life and causes strain on relationships. \n\nI'm 23 and have been dating my SO for 5 years. We've seen each other through the hardest times and been there for each other unquestionably. Nonetheless, we have our issues and problems like anyone else.  A recent issue has got me thinking and I am curious to see and understand different opinions on the issue.\n\nA late teen relationship is not the same as a young adult one, or that of mid 20's; what are some differences that you feel are quite major and do you have any advice to transition from a young, 'everything is new and exciting relationship', to a more mature, stable and passionate relationship.\n\nThe first thing that comes to my mind is communication and the realization that a relationship is a choice.\n\n-HB", "summary": "What are your experiences, insights, opinions, or comments about transitioning a LTR from a late teen relationship to a healthy, functioning mid-20's relationship."}
{"id": "t3_123c9t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "There is a saying that goes like this: \"No good deed goes unpunished.\" Which basically means an act of good produced a bad thing. Reddit, what is your good deed that went bad?", "post": "When I moved into the house I live now my neighbors quickly introduced themselves. They seemed quite busy and paid for a lawn service. I offered to mow their front lawn every month for free seeing as its only a 10X10 yard. They quickly agreed because that knocked off thirty bucks off of bills for them per month for lawn service. Over the first couple of weeks my neighbor and I become pretty good friends. Learning a lot of each others life and what not. \n\nFast forward six month and come to find out that they are renters. The land lord is their friend and lives down south and she is coming up to check on the house. They tell me she will want to meet the \"Young man who helps around my home so much.\" \n\nWell she used the opportunity to use me instead of hiring people to do labor when she was in town. At first I didn't mind to much because it started with little tasks but when she started requesting me to dig up tree trunks in her front yard and cut down trees in her backyard for nothing was the last straw. I told her she needs to hire someone to do this work unless she started paying me. She became in irationally upset with me like I owed her all of this work. That was the last time I spoke to her but she ended up leaving two weeks after that. She still comes up every month for a weekend and we avoid each other like the plague.", "summary": "Was nice to the renters next door when I moved in and mowed their lawn for free. Landlord comes home and expected me to do heaving lifting type of work completely for free and flips when I tell her off when it just became obvious she was taking advantage of my kindness."}
{"id": "t3_jj2b8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors with legal experience, on what grounds can an establishment deny an international/foreign ID as proof of age?", "post": "I was wondering on what exact legal grounds an establishment can deny a foreign national the use of their identification as proof of age. I know it can vary by state, and by circumstance - this doesn't *quite* apply, but I know that the state of New York is required to accept any foreign driver's license as proof of driving competency, provided that there is an English translation.\n\nFor those wondering about my exact story, I went to a bowling range in North Carolina, where I tried to get a beer with my International Driver's License (IDP), as I am 21. They got very confused when they saw it, and asked for any other type of identification - all I had was: A) my student ID card, which doesn't have my birthdate, but does have my legal name that matches the IDP, and B) my actual foreign license, which is written in Korean, but has my government-issued social security number, which by default, has the citizen's birth date as the first six digits, and would also match the IDP.\n\nThey denied to my face that it was sufficient proof of my age, despite my birth date being there in plain sight. I cited that the International Driver's Permit is accepted almost worldwide, particularly by the United States, which is a 1968 signatory of the Vienna Convention on Road Traffic - so if the federal government can accept this document as sufficient proof that I can handle a motor vehicle in the United States and any US territory, then a birth date on the same document should be sufficient proof of my age. \n\nThe lady said, \"The United States may accept this, but this bowling range doesn't.\"\n\nThere were a lot of phone calls, and eventually I gave up and got an orange juice. Redditors with legal experience - are they allowed to do this, or were they just being dicks?", "summary": "Some wankers at a bowling range pretended my International Driver's Permit wasn't sufficient proof that I was 21, and I want to know if they can do that."}
{"id": "t3_nm5kf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Introducing my 17yr old f cousin to different music.", "post": "I have a 17yr old female cousin who I'm trying to introduce new music to, without being pushy or showing her too much at once. Currently she listens to bands like:\n\nAsking Alexandria\nBring me the horizon\nAugust Burns Red\ndance, gavin, dance\nD.R.U.G.S\nDevil Wears Prada\nFall Out Boy\nSimple Plan\n--She also is listening to some older 90's pre emo rock.\n\nI'm trying to give her a little bit of everything. I've suggested things closer to my personal current tastes--  Radiohead, Crystal Castles, Ratatat, Cults, Starfucker, etc. -- but im thinking to ease her into things, I need to take the early 2000's emo/screamo and punk path of stuff I listened to before college. Avenged Sevenfold, Tsunami Bomb, AFI, Thursday, etc. I'm only thinking this because it somehow led to me being introduced to better music in college, which she isn't far off from. \n(and when you get to college, you slowly realize nearly everything you've been jamming out to is crap!) I recognize also that part of becoming an adult is developing your own tastes, etc. but trying to help her along early. \n\nSo", "summary": "want to introduce cousin to different* tunes -- less screamo more alternative/indie. :) thanks for suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_2pg86f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] partner [23M] of 18 months, thinks it's a bad move for us to move in together.", "post": "Me (22F) and my SO of 18 months (23M) have been talking about moving out of home for almost as long as we have been a couple. Neither of us have lived out of parents homes before, although we both now have secure full-time corporate jobs, so financially there is no issue.\n\nWe'd been looking at apartments together for a while, but last week after visiting a potential property he informed me that he's been talking to his friends and family, and has decided that he's just going to move out alone or with one of his friends instead of with me. He argued that this was best as after considering the advice he's been given, he thinks it's \"too early\" in our relationship to move out, especially as neither of us have lived out of our family home before. That moving in together would be bad for our relationship and we should continue to live separately. \n\nI sort of see where he's coming from, but I'd like some other people's perspectives on this. My main issue is I feel as though we have been together for quite a while, we practically live at each other's houses as it is, have a secure relationship, are involved in each others families, and if we are not at the point of being able to live together now, then when? \nIs he right to think that this would likely be damaging to our relationship? How long were you with your partner before deciding to cohabit? Is the fact it would the first time living away from our family us both really a major factor?", "summary": "BF of 18 months says moving in together would be bad for our relationship, because it's \"too soon\" and neither of us have lived away from our family homes before. In your experience/opinion is this correct?"}
{"id": "t3_36rc1k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my girlfriend pump gas", "post": "so this happen two days ago, and i think she is still mad at me for what happen, but whatever, didn't know she was this blonde.\n\nAnyways, i'm a broke college kid, so i try to budget my money and only stop for gas when the tank is past E and then always put 30 bucks in to get me through a week in a half. Today i was feeling generous to her and my buddy cause they had tagged along to go shopping, so after i stopped to get gas, i asked if they wanted drinks. They did, so i asked her to pump for me while i go get the drinks inside the gas station. After getting the drinks i come out to find my girlfriend and the side of my truck covered in gas, along with a puddle of it on the ground. Apparently she had been talking to my friend and not really paying attention to the pump, noticed it at $32 and panicked. She proceed to just pull the nozzle out of the truck thinking that would stop it, spraying gas everywhere and began to panic even more and tried to put the nozzle back into the truck. In the end she had manage to pour out a gallon on herself and the truck. She was really upset, but i couldn't help but make jokes. Now she is mad at me for laughing about it, even though i took her straight home to wash it off and tried my best not to be upset over a waste of a gallon of gas", "summary": "Girlfriend didn't understand directions, Took a shower with Gas"}
{"id": "t3_2uhin0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my mom [~50/F] and dad [~50/M] want to give my room to my younger brother when I go to college?", "post": "I'm new to this posting thing, so please bear with me. \n\nI'm at that age where college is in the equation, which has sparked many fights between me and my parents. One of the most frequent arguments is about how my younger brother [16/M] gets to take over my bedroom when I go to college due to his being the size of nice walk-in closet. \n\nI don't know if I'm overreacting or just being unreasonable, but I told them that I felt as though they were giving away my living space. I plan on returning home during breaks and during the summer to work in my hometown (I have a great summer job) and I don't want to return to the \"guest bedroom\" (as they have put it) instead of the room that I have grown up in. \n\nI have stated countless times that many other families don't give away their child's bedrooms when they go to college, but they just won't have it. I have been called \"dramatic\" and \"drama queen\" countless times. \n\nThe question here is: what should I do? Am I being unreasonable in expecting them to preserve my room for my return home? If I'm not, then what should I do?", "summary": "Parents want to give my room away to my brother when I go away to college and I feel like I'm going to be homeless. What next?"}
{"id": "t3_164ua6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Roommates get passive aggressive - I win in the end.", "post": "I lived in a townhouse with three other friends while i was in college. Near the end we were all pretty sick of each other (Still friends with one roommate, but the others are on my forever donezo list.)\n\nWhen we were moving out, two of the roommates moved their actual stuff out the weekend before.\n\nThe weekend of the move me and the one roommate I am still friends with start cleaning, shampooing carpets and doing stuff to essentially make sure we get our deposit back.\n\nThen we open up their bedrooms and see that its a fucking pigsty. They left trash and broken furniture in their rooms as well as never vaccuming and gross stuff everywhere.\n\nSo we call them and tell them to get over there stat and clean up their stuff.\n\nOne refused to answer their phone (for a month) and the other finally texted back \"You deal with it. You win some you lose some.\"\n\nSo my roommate that was there and I decided that it wasn't worth the deposit to clean up their shit and we bailed. \n\nI handled the rent and people paid me - so when the deposit came back I was really surprised we got anything at all. So I sent an email out that We had received the deposit, and I wasn't going to track them down. if they wanted money, they had to come to my house and pick up the money.\n\nThe person we never heard from suddenly appeared from nowhere to get their check. Whatever.\n\nBut when the roommate who texted the jerk message came to get her money, I tore up the money in front of her face. When she started bitching I looked her in the eye and said: \"YOU DEAL WITH IT. YOU WIN SOME AND YOU LOSE SOME.\"", "summary": "I tore up a 20$ bill to make an ex-roommate eat their words."}
{"id": "t3_12hir2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The girl of my dreams (19) is willing to break up with her bf for me, but there's a problem.", "post": "First time poster (21m) so sorry if I jack up anything here, but I'm at the end of my rope. This girl is everything I could every ask for.  She's smart, funny, sweet, kind, and beautiful.  This girl and I have been friends for a couple years but until a few months ago that's all I thought of her as, a friend.  I knew she had a bf but I decided to chase after her anyway like a jackass.  Long story short is that I gave up and we went back to the \"just friends\" thing.  However today she asked me if I had ever had any fantasies/dreams about her. I told her yes (we're pretty open about stuff like this.)  I described the dream but the most striking thing about it wasn't the physical things that happened, it was the overwhelming feeling of happiness and contentment.  She asked me i there was anything she could do to help make me that happy, and she meant anything. I told her that I could never ask her what it would take.  Herein lies the problem.  She would break up with her bf, who makes her incredibly happy, just to make me happy.  Not because he's a bad bf or that she wants to be with me, but because she would risk losing her happiness to make me happy.  I don't know what to do here.  I need help.", "summary": "Girl of my dreams would end her perfectly fine relationship to make me happy."}
{"id": "t3_3a5gvf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by strange clicking noices.", "post": "So before I start this let me tell you I have a really shitty HP laptop. It died on me about 3 times before in a lifespan of 2 years.\n\nSo today I finally came around to playing a new game Steam (online gamestore) has released.\n\nWhile it was starting up I had to login and look for a special code in mail.\n\nI was busy searching for the code when suddenly I start hearing strange ticking noices.\n\nAfter laying my ear on the laptop, yup it made ticking noices.\n\nIn total panick I went to google and it turned out I had to back up my files immediately because my harddrive was about to die.\n\nNo problemo, took me four hours but finally I was done and ready to go to the computershop.\n\nDropped the laptop of and I told them I needed a new harddrive.\n\nLuckily they had one that would fit in my laptop so I could pick it up in the afternoon.\n\nLaptop picked up that afternoon, started it up and no ticking sounds.\n\nSo the first thing I did was go back to that steamgame and continue my adventure, and there I heard it.\n\nThe ticking came from the damn flashgame.", "summary": "I bought a new harddrive because steam goofed me."}
{"id": "t3_3bpdry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] need to know how to comfort my friend [17 F] who suffers from extreme stress before it gets worse for her", "post": "My friend suffers from extreme amounts of stress and every once in a while she will snap on people or go into a panic attack, both of which embarrass her extremely, every time this happens she turns to me and lets it all out just to feel better, she'll usually go off about how other people see her and how no one understands how she feels during these moments. Another thing that bothers her is that her parents don't care about her panic attacks, which just fuels more into her stress. I am fucking terrible at telling her how to feel or deal with these situations. I need any and all fucking suggestions to help me comfort her better so that the stress doesn't keep piling up for her.", "summary": "I need tips to comfort someone who is worried about her image during extreme moments of stress"}
{"id": "t3_glol9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Cant drop the weight, need advice", "post": "I'm 26 (almost 27) and i put on some major weight in the last 5 years, went from being 215 to being 280 (I'm 6'3). I was chubby in high school (about 250) but than lost a lot of weight my senior year without really trying. \n\nMy situation now isn't so easy, I've cut out soda, I've cut out sweets, I've started drinking lots of water, from what i read doing this alone should start to shed some pounds, but in the last year I've literally lost 0 pounds, i think I've actually gained a few. I've tried exercising (mostly cardio) i did 30mins a day on a elliptical for 3 weeks while only eating one chicken teriyaki foot long subway sub a day as food and i still didn't loose any weight. \n\nI'm starting to get really depressed about this, to the point where I'm just gonna give up and go back to drinking soda, eating sweets and consuming larger more satisfying meals. I figure i might as well as diet and exercise isn't doing squat for me. \n\nI don't want to give up tho, I'm so tired of being overweight, its on my mind all day every day, i cant go up town without being self conscious about it, i cant sit by myself without being self conscious about it, i cant be around my wife without being real self conscious about it (shes skinny and in good shape). it even makes sex a little awkward for me. I HATE MY CURRENT WEIGHT!!!\n\nPlease if anyone can relate to me, or has some good advice which isn't the generic \"eat less exercise more\" i would love to hear it, I'm trying to do this naturally (no weight loss pills) and I'm willing to put in more effort, (without going crazy and spending 3 hours a day in a gym) but i feel like after my one sandwich a day 30mins of running adventure I'm almost a lost cause.\n\nI'd really really appreciate some advice or some success stories of people with my build who want to drop weight.\n\nalso if anyone can suggest decent meals that are easy to prepare that would be great, i can cook but I'm horrible at finding healthy recipes that aren't disgusting.", "summary": "26yr old 6'3 male 280lbs, normal weight loss methods aren't working, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2he3db", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Your narcissism vs. my ability to ignore you", "post": "There's this incredibly egocentric and conceited guy in my graphic design class. He's a whiny little ass with a big attitude, thinks he's way better than anyone else (which is definitely not the case), pretends he's the professor sometimes...you get the idea. I sit right behind him, though I'm sure you could practically feel his drab eye-rolling from the other side of the building.  \n Anyway, one day the professor gave us a quick tutorial on a function of Illustrator, and the narcissist interrupted with a surprisingly helpful shortcut to the process. I'll give him props for actually being helpful for once. A few minutes go by and the guy who normally sits next to our little arrogant antagonist arrives to class late, missing both the initial Illustrator tutorial, as well as the new and improved one. Late Guy turns around to ask me what we're doing and how to do it, much to the narcissist's demise, who is always itching to condescendingly show something he's a self-proclaimed master at. I show Late Guy the original method, but then I add \"oh, but the professor actually showed us an even easier way of doing this,\" and taught him the narcissist's shortcut word-for-word, without even giving so much as a sideways glance at the steaming ego three feet to his left.", "summary": "Narcissist gives insightful knowledge during class, I regurgitate his information verbatim to someone else who had arrived late and give the professor all the credit within earshot of the narcissist."}
{"id": "t3_1ur2i5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [21F] just broke up with my [23M] boyfriend. feel like shit", "post": "been dating this guy a month but it feels like forever because ive never found somebody i can relate to so much. but hes been acting different and has an alcohol problem and is making me feel like shit. i broke up with him and i just feel awful and im tired of getting screwed over. the only plus side is i open my email and i got a several thousand dollar scholarship to the school i go to today...so thats the only positive thing today. i havent dated anyone in forever or opened myself up to a guy in awhile and he just started shutting me out and i didnt know what else to do. my friends and family kept urging me to do this because i was miserable and i feel better but also feel like shit.", "summary": "feeling really depressed about breaking up with my boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2bvngv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22 F] of 1 year broke up with me [22 M] right when she starts school and I'm about to start a new job. Adjustment crisis or real breakup?", "post": "The best relationship of my life just ended. I've been with a few girls, but this was on a whole different level. We seriously talked about moving in together and had a future planned together.\n\nWe both just graduated college and she is beginning grad school, and I took a job near her so we could remain together. It was an easy decision for me, we both wanted it and were super excited to stay together. She's been at school for 2 weeks and I start work next week, but we just broke up out of nowhere. She said she felt different when she got to school and started to not be excited to talk to me. There were close to no issues in our relationship previously and we just enjoyed a few awesome weekends trips together.\n\nI want to believe that this is just her having trouble adjusting to school and being overwhelmed, but I just don't know. I pleaded with her to give us some more time, but her mind was made up and she said she needs to do this. She wants space to be on her own and I want to give it to her but I'm scared I will lose her.\n\nThese past few days have been hell for me. We spoke once and it is killing me not to talk to her. What do I do? Is she going to come back?", "summary": "Took a job to be near GF. She just started grad school and my job is about to start and she broke up with me out of nowhere."}
{"id": "t3_1gjpps", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am Brazilian, and an uprising has started. The international media is not covering it, I guess the situation in Turkey is more tense (we admire you guys), but please Reddit, if you can spread the word of the situation here, it would mean a lot to all of us. Please watch and share the videos.", "post": "It all started with a 20centavos (10 cents) raise in the bus and subway fare.\nBut the protest is not only about the raise at all. It's about the precarious conditions of the public transport.\nIt's about the goverment spending recklessly for the world cup, for the lack of public health and education for everyone.\nThe police is not well trained to deal with this, they are poorly trained and in most states they are under-equipped.\n\nWe also have one of the most corrupt governments in the world. Where known politicians have stolen and caught red-handed and still roam free, of worse, still retain their positions in the government.\n\nThe media call the protesters \"thugs\" and \"vandals\". I just say they are fed up.\n\nA reporter was shot in the eye by a policeman with rubber bullet, she was interviewed after (totally sfw, and well produced):\n\nA girl explains why she won't go to the world cup and explains how dire the situation is here:\n\nThe police joined the protests here, they put up a banner saying \"dear tourist you are not safe in the state of Minas Gerais\" and \"Tourist, in Minas Gerais State we cannot ensure your safety! The police is scrapped!\":\n\nThe only international news website i found covering it was BBC:\n\nThe minimum wage is 750 reais/month in Brazil. It's estimated that with the present price to 3,20 reais would make a minimum wage worker spend up to 200 reais a month with transportation just to work.\nThat means more than 20% of a worker's salary goes into transportation. What about food? What if he has kids? The potest is not about 10 cents. It's  about injustice. About a reckless government and widespread corruption. About the violence in our streets. About the bullshit we have to put up with everyday.\n\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Shit's hit the fan in Brazil, please share."}
{"id": "t3_17h8st", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't talk to my husband (25f) (27m)", "post": "We have been married 2 years together a little over 3.\n\nas I type this he's laying next to me snoring. I am filled with so much resentment and rage I don't even kniw what to do so I apologize if this gets lengthy and stops making sense.\n\nI will just talk about tonight. I am very stress, we were counting on our tax money and we found out we OWED and are getting zilch. I am crying, told him I am in no way mad at him just very disappointed. We are later joking around about the difference between boys and girls and I told him. I'd trade him injured balls for childbirth. He then told me that he knew it'd be at least a ddcade before i wanted kids. I have been hesitant, mostly due to his irresponsibility with money. But as recent as this weekend I said I wanted to in the next few years. I asked him what prompted him to say that. He said I am not mentally ready. I am calm, reminding him of this weekend and letting himm  know that that hurt my feelings. He said I'd too damn sensitive, everything hurts my feelings, and that i needed to stop 'poking the bear.'I didn't respond because when he's like this there's just no point. He went on to ask if I'd be catatonic all night and to tell me how I was a negative person 90% of the time. I just kept quiet.\n\nI am so sick of this. I'm sure he will feel bad tomorrow and tell me he's sorry. I am just sick of constantly feelings so flawed. Maybe I am over sensitive. I don't even know myself anymore. Help.", "summary": "husband's temper making me feel crazy."}
{"id": "t3_ihbeh", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "To anyone thinking of owning a Siberian...", "post": "This isn't going to be a lecture about how they need lots of exercise, or that they will tear your house up, or even about how stubborn they can be. In fact, my Husky will lay in the grass all day and be fine with it, and she never destroys anything in our house. \n\nNo, this is a post to inform anyone thinking of getting this breed to be wary of their problem solving skills, or to be more specific, the escape skills a husky can possess.\n\nThey will get out, trust me. My husky learned how to open windows in the first house I had her in. One afternoon she managed to climb over a six foot fence, and then the same day opened a window and went to visit a local farmer.\n\n When put in a fenced in back yard she constantly checks the perimeter to find a way out(think jurassic park velociraptors always testing). The sneakiest part though is she won't escape if she knows I can see her. She will wait until given time alone to exploit the escape route.\n\nJust yesterday I learned how she got out of our completely gated front yard. I watched as she walked up to the side of the gate that a person would open said gate from, plant her back paws, and slide open the gate with her fronts. This gate isn't easy for me to open and I am a grown ass man.\n\nWhat's my point? Well all in all I just want people to know how much these dogs think about getting free to run. Nothing excites a husky more than the thought of running to see what is on the other side; whether it is a door, fence, or window, they want out. Greet breed, but a little too much Houdini for some people.", "summary": "If you get a Husky, be prepared to for it too escape. No matter how good you think your defense is."}
{"id": "t3_3w34a0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21M] like a girl [21F] that used to like me. Need advice.", "post": "So this girl is with me in the same major, and I like her personality. She seemed to hint that she likes me so I asked our mutual best friend (mine and hers, a guy) and he said she used to like me but her crush faded now. \n\nPersonally, I still feel like she drops a lot of hints that she's into me but this friend says she isn't anymore. She always asks and talks about me to him but he says it's because I'm her friend. \n\nSo Reddit, do you think I should continue building our friendship then proceed or should I not see her as more than a friend anymore?", "summary": "She used to like me without my knowledge. Now I like her but a friend told me she doesn't anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1oklnh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[REPOST/UPDATE] in which my LDR first boyfriend [19M] kisses another girl, and is uncertain of his own feelings. help. [17F]", "post": "16/10/2013: Edited to add more details. Thanks for all the comments you kind people have given me already! Previous post [here] \n\nBasically summarised in my title. \n\nMy boyfriend and I met around 7 months ago irl, been in a relationship for 6 though we are 5000 miles apart, and had been arranging to meet when he cheated. Two days ago, he was on a trip to the mall with his family. This girl B dropped by; B leaned in and kissed him while she drove him back home. He has continued seeing her, even to this day.\n\n---\n\nThe BF wants an open relationship, since he feels \"confused\" as to what he feels for me and B. He's mentioned in passing that B is quite a lot like me, which is what attracted him to her, and why he couldn't refuse B's kiss in the first place. \n\nHe did apologise (not profusely, tbh) and urged me to go on dates with other guys, which I've naturally turned down. He pointed out that he wanted physical contact and something \"real\" and that he loves me still. We've been having some problems the past two months, and I guess one of the reasons why this happened was because we didn't really resolve said issues.\n\n---\n\nWe used to be one of the happiest, sweetest couples in the entire world, and I honestly adore him to bits still. Neither of us want to break up, yet he says he's not sure if he doesn't want to see B. We've tried to talk about it, but every time we do, it ends with him saying it's complicated, and he feels so bad for being unable to choose.\n\nI have three questions:\n\n* How can my BF resolve his own mixed feelings?\n\n* How can we work this out?\n\n* Is it too late?\n\n---\n\nDon't know what to do next, guys. This is my first relationship; I've been through a lot to keep him.", "summary": "In an LDR, first boyfriend technically cheated, then asks for an open relationship - what should I do? "}
{"id": "t3_2wjahd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to play my xbox.", "post": "Some backstory before the actual FU.\n\nMy parents are divorced and i live with my mom, but still have a pretty good relationship with my dad, so while my dad is at work i like to play xbox in his apartment because he has a nice 50\" TV.\nAlso important to the story is that their apartments are 15 minutes away form each other by walking.\n\nNow to the actual FU.\n\nThe day the fuck up happened I was busy fixing my car and had a pretty stressful day where I was dealing with my car mechanic and going around looking for good prices to buy parts for my screwed up car, which took a lot of time. Anyway i was done with the car and was ready to chill out. So what could I do? Play my xbox of course.\nI go to my dad's place just to see him home from work early and of course watching TV. So i'm like damn i'm gonna have to play on my mom's tiny ass TV. So I start packing up the xbox and go to my mom's apartment which is a 15 minute walk as i mentioned earlier. Mind you I can't use my car because it's still in the shop until the next day.\nI get to my mom's place and start hooking up the xbox just to realize I forgot the damn HDMI cable at my dad's place.\n\nSo I walk back to his apartment to get the cable and realize my stupidity. We have an HDMI cable at my mom's that connects the set top box to the TV. At this point I'm going ape bananas because I already had a pretty stressful and tiring day and the walk from and to my dad's apartment was killing me. I accept my stupidity and grab the HDMI cable because I was already there anyway.\n\nSo you must think that's not a big deal u didn't fuck up that bad.\n\nOh, how wrong you are. I take the 15 minute trip back to my mom's apartment AGAIN just to realize my eager to play xbox ass forgot to tell her to stay at her boyfriends place and she was back at home ON THE FREAKING TV. So i just gave up and called some friends to get stoned because i was ready to kill someone at this point.", "summary": "I suffered because I am a filthy peasant and not part of the PC master race."}
{"id": "t3_23nn6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18/M] help my girlfriend [17/F] deal with the death of her terminally ill aunt?", "post": "I found out today that my girlfriend's aunt is terminally ill, and in an almost comatose state.  I don't really know too much about the situation, but I get the impression that this was a long time coming.  I dealt with a similar situation when I was younger, my grandfather had frontotemporal dementia (similar to Alzheimer's), which eventually led to his death.  I can empathize, but I realize that everyone deals with loss and grieves in different ways.  What can I do to help her through this?\n\nWe're currently seniors in high school, and my grandfather died during my late elementary/middle school years.\n\nFinally, an important detail I almost forgot: we've only been together for a couple weeks.  We've known each other moderately well throughout high school, but really haven't been close until recently.  I'm not trying to take advantage of the situation, I'm just one of those people that genuinely wants to help my friends when they need it.", "summary": "my girlfriend's aunt is dying, unsure how I can best help"}
{"id": "t3_pxldo", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Lost a friend in the break-up?", "post": "Me: 40/Male , the boyfriend : 30/Male (BF), and my best gal pal, 36/Female (GP).  Me and BF dated for about a year.  GP was very supportive of  the relationship ( I had been a committed Forever Alone) , and the three of us would party together every month or two (total 6 times or less).    \n\nI ended the relationship because (short version) the intense emotions I felt had a detrimental effect on my mental health (I have multiple undiagnosed mental issues, but I'm a man dammit, and I manage).  I fell madly in love (emphasis on madly) but was very F'd up.  I didn't handle the breakup right (dumped him via long email), but I didn't cheat, I didn't lie, and I was more honest about my feelings then ever in my life. I have nothing to be ashamed of, but I'm not proud either.\n\nI kinda figured that this would be the last chance to have a relationship in my life, and I failed. \n\nThe thing is, my GP was not there for me (I didn't expect she would be \u2013 she's as dysfunctional as me), BUT, whenever I stalk the BF's facebook page (I know I shouldn't), its always about how the BF and my GP had a great night out at the bar, or danced all night at the the club, or drunkenly broke into the wrong car.  \n\nWTF?  I have to get over both of them? And, just accept that two people who barely know each other are suddenly besties?  Am I being stoopid?  Am I the ass-hole?\n\nBe harsh reddit, I have a thick skin...", "summary": "I think my ex BF got custody of my fag-hag!"}
{"id": "t3_3p6ps4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 3.5 years, I think it may be ending", "post": "So, long story short we met in college and were friends before we started dating, well I guess its more hooking up and then deciding to date. Its now 2 years out of college (for me) and I have a job (career) and a degree where he still does not have a degree and has been trying to find a entry level career job for the past 1+ year (supposedly, he hasn't even had a single interview).\n\nWhat I'm trying to ask is when do you know to call it quits. We've always had a very open and trusting relationship, but for the past 6 months (maybe even more) its been so rocky. We keep fighting and we can't seem to go a day without bickering. Along with that I just keep questioning as to whether or not we should really be together. I'm just afraid of breaking it off too early and maybe making the worst decision of my life. I can really be myself with him, but I can't handle all of the fighting. If it's this bad now...what will it be like in 10 years when we have a house and kids? I don't know if this is just my frustration with his seemingly lack of drive career wise, or if we have just run our course. \n\n/r/Relationships, why/how did your first serious relationship come to an end?", "summary": "Struggling over my relationship and I'm scared to break it off."}
{"id": "t3_25eyje", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "[USA] Quit Job and Planning to Start Over at a New State", "post": "Last week I turned in my resignation notice at my comfy accounting job. After my 2 years of stay, I decided I couldn't take it much longer. I was not happy with how my job was trending, and was having a lot of anger issues at the office. I know that i should be grateful for having a job, but my mental health was getting worse and I did not see it improving if I stayed.\n\nI now decided that I will move to a new state with no connections, and start over (nothing lined up). I wonder how many of you guys did this, and how it turned out to be. Also any advice will be welcomed.", "summary": "Quit job and plan to move to a new state. Looking for any advice during transition."}
{"id": "t3_1wyxgm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19F] My boyfriend's [25M] mom is controlling", "post": "Background: My boyfriend and I have known each other for a year and have been seeing each other for about 5 months. We recently made our relationship official. His dad died about 6 years ago, and as a result still lives with his mom to take care of her. We live an hour and a half away from each other so we can only see each other on the weekends. He usually comes to my place and stays for the whole weekend.\n\nThe problem is that his mom always wants him to be home with her. When he's with me she will constantly text him telling him that he needs to clean/do chores, give her rides, and even to come home. She questions him about where he is and why he's gone all weekend. When I asked him why she does this, he said that it's because she's alone in the house, but he is with her all during the week and his sister comes home from another city for the weekends. He isn't a mamma's boy and isn't over-attached to her, but he will sometimes leave my house early because his mom expects him to be home at a certain time. I feel frustrated because he is old enough that he doesn't need his mom to monitor and police him! I want to say something about it, but it isn't my place to get involved with him and his mom's relationship. I also feel somewhat selfish; his poor mom is a widow and I'm sure her wanting him to be home has to do with his dad's passing. I don't want to keep him from his mom at all, but I know this will become more of a problem as our relationship progresses, especially if we want to get serious.\n\nHow should I handle this? As I said I want to confront him about it before it becomes a bigger problem, but I can't help but feel it isn't my place and I'm not sure how to go about it.", "summary": "Boyfriend's widowed mom always wants him to be home. I don't know how to confront him without feeling selfish."}
{"id": "t3_3svwvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [23 M] of 2 years emailed me [22 F] \"Happy Birthday\" despite my cheating on him a year prior", "post": "I dated my ex for around 2 years. We met at college and essentially lived together during the entirety of our relationship. \n\nTowards the end of our relationship, I cheated on him with another man. We broke up and haven't talked since. This happened around my birthday in 2014.\n\nMy birthday came a couple days ago, and that evening I checked my email to find he emailed me saying \"Happy Birthday\" (subject line, no text in the body of the email). I responded and said \"Thanks. Sorry I forgot about yours [his had been a month prior]. Hope your birthday was enjoyable and hope you're doing well.\" He hasn't responded.\n\nI'm confused as to why he wished me a happy birthday despite betraying him a year prior. I don't plan on dating him again, but is this a sign he wants to be friends?", "summary": "My ex wished me a happy birthday via email, despite my forgetting about his birthday - is this significant in any way? Anything I can/should do?"}
{"id": "t3_21ngjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I try again with my really close friend (18M) or not? I'm 18M. Any advice is appreciated!", "post": "Any advice is appreciated! \n\nA bit of a background, her and I have been close friends ever since sophomore year of high school. It's getting near the end of our high school years as we are graduating in a few months. However, the places that we are going to college is only a couple hours apart.\n\n The thing is, we had a summer fling last summer but she ended it after a couple weeks into the school year. We ended on good terms but some days I really find her irresistible. Some times during our classes she even gives off subtle cues to me too. \n\nAfter our little fling, I dedicated myself to improve myself as a better man in hopes of getting over her. I've been scouring over the subreddits of \"getting over her\" and just overall being a better person. And in a way I succeeded and I feel my life has changed completely for the better. I've also shed from my 17 years of being shy and becoming more engaging and doing whatever I want to in life. Yet I still find myself incredibly attracted to her. I feel like that \"impulsive\" approach isn't going to do well if I asked her if she wanted to try one more time. \n\nShe's someone who I really adore but I am afraid to lose her as one of my closest friends if I approach this the wrong way.\n\nThe solutions I came up with personally is \n\n1. Wait it out and just stay good friends while still constantly improving myself as a better person. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be. Although this kinda goes against my new, adopted \"just go for it\" approach towards life\n\n2. Go for it and risk everything.", "summary": "Asking a close friend out again, but risking our really good friendship."}
{"id": "t3_amh2y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you meet women as a computer engineering student?", "post": "FIRST OFF, I know this has probably been posted many times before.  However, reddit search sucks.  Anyways...\n\nI'm an ECE major at a somewhat large school.  Almost all of my classes are computer engineering, and although they are large lectures... there's practically no women.  Also, I live off campus, so there's not really a chance there as there would be in a dorm.  I'll occasionally meet girls weekends at parties... however it seems they're usually looking for more of a one night thing than a relationship or even friendship.  And while you may say that's great and all, I'd much rather have at least one actual relationship in college.  I am in a liberal arts type class this term, so hopefully something may come of that... but I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions / success stories they'd like to share.", "summary": "yet another ECE major that can't meet women, advice wanted."}
{"id": "t3_1b7upc", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "How young is too young?", "post": "I have a 10 wk old boxer/lab mix. At the time, she was 6 weeks and I was keeping her inside in a crate next to my bed. She would cry for about 10 minutes every hour through out the night. Eventually I moved the crate so she was next to me in the bed. This did not stop the crying; it only made it easier for me to stick my arm in to soothe her. I could not get her to stop and my roommates were getting fed up after about a week and a half so I let her outside with my older dog. It's been a month and I would like to try again. Am I expecting too much from her at such a young age? I would also like to know if she is too young to potty train. I keep her inside during the day but I was constantly cleaning up messes. I would take her outside immediately after she ate and drank but she wouldn't go. After about twenty minutes I'll bring her back in and as soon as I turn my head she is going number one or two.", "summary": "Is 6-10 weeks too young for a puppy to be crate trained and potty trained? When should I try again?"}
{"id": "t3_vwp7u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(20/m) Young, traditional guy.. Needing some advice from people who have been where I'm at.", "post": "I'll try to keep this clear, concise, and complete. I'm a college kid who got out of a really serious relationship a few months back, the girl who I was going to get married to cheated on me and then left. That is basically unimportant, but gives you some insight into my background.\n\nI'm not a guy who really likes going to the bar and hooking up, those aren't usually my type of women and it doesn't make me feel good to \"score\" a babe for the night. I'd like to date a girl who is mature and has a little more \"traditional\" values (Christian morals basically, but I am not religious so that isn't a huge deal to me), but I find that really hard to find in my age group. When I try to talk to older women who I feel may be ready for something a little more serious, they would rather talk to guys who are older than me. \n\nI know I'm not the only person who has been in this situation. Has anybody felt this way? Have a success story? Where are all the \"keepers\" of the world? Where is a good place to pick up women, other than the bar? I don't expect an answer to these questions, I'm just struggling to find someone who I think is on the same level as me in most aspects, and that sucks.\n\nI know that the first and foremost piece of advice would be just \"not to worry about it\" since I am so young, or stick and out and wait until I get older. Well, I am very comfortable with myself, but I'm ready to move on and at least look for something new. Any help?", "summary": "I don't really connect to the women of my age group, older (22 & up) women are more interested in older men... Stuck in a limbo of sorts, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qfap2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[18 F] of 3 months, she threatens to hurt herself and doesn't understand why I don't want to be in a relationship", "post": "Okay so I'll start with the problem. I don't want to be in a relationship and my girlfriend doesn't understand. She claims she's only happy when she's with me, would do anything for me, and so on. Whenever I want to break up, she says that it hurts her so much and she wants to relieve the pain by hurting herself.\nI hate to see her like this so I get back with her.\nI care about her, I am close to her but I don't want a relationship because of some personal issues.\n\nI have very sociopathic traits, as told by a few of my friends. Deep down, I don't care about people as in I can move on from them easily. I can replace people in my life easily. I don't think I can fall in love or love anyone the traditional way. I don't manipulate people though, I really want others to be happy, but I just simply don't get attached or miss anyone (same with family) even though I can be sociable and get close to people. \n\nShe doesn't understand this at all. She claims I'm putting up my walls and I'm stopping myself from loving people. Maybe, maybe not, I see a therapist for this. She thinks she can change me, but I don't think so. There was a post on reddit I saw that describes how I feel. \n\nWhat do I do? I know I'll never love her the way she wants me to. I'll eventually get bored and sick of getting back with her and that's the point where I move on and not care about what she thinks....", "summary": "I don't think I can fall in love (with anyone), girlfriend wants to change me. Wants to hurt herself if I leave"}
{"id": "t3_180bgi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Starting exercising.  Weight loss stall. :(", "post": "Long time lurker.  First time post, and it's pretty long, so...sorry.\n\nCan I start by saying that you guys are amazing? For almost a year, I have gotten my encouragement, support and advice from your posts.  You rocks!\n\nOk.  So a year ago, depressed and lethargic at 187, and made the decision to get serious about losing weight.  Bought a kitchen scale, downloaded loseit and MFP, and started tracking.  And it worked!  Took a couple of breaks where I just maintained and enjoyed being smaller than I was, but in general, if I was diligent about tracking, I lost 1 - 1.5 pounds every week to 2 weeks or so.  Faster in the beginning, slower now.  \n\nSo, in January, I decided to start an exercise program.  My gym offered 3 free personal training session, so I started with those, and then hooked up with friends who are avid gym goers.  I've been working out 5 days a week. (3 are strength training days, and 2 are heavy cardio classes.)  I wear a polar HRM for more accurate calorie calculation and tend to eat back 1/3 to 1/2 of my exercise calories.  (When I started, I didn't eat any calories back, and I felt light headed and crummy in general.)\n\nSo, I knew that I was shaking things up a bit, and I expected the scale to be funny in the beginning, but I'm a month and a half in, and I haven't lost any more weight.  Not one stinking pound. I have more energy and I'm sleeping better, but my clothes fit the same as well, so I don't think I'm losing \"the magic inches\" :(\n\nStats?  (32/F/5'4\",146) I eat as directed by MFP. 1200-1500 calories based on the intensity of workout days.  I don't follow any particular diet, but I tend to eat more protein than carbs, because I feel better.\n\nSo...what's the deal?  Give me your wisdom /r/loseit!", "summary": "Lost weight, starting exercising, stopped losing weight."}
{"id": "t3_2u9jjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO [21/M] slept with someone else during a recent miscommunication and I [22/F] am having trust issues. Help.", "post": "My SO and I have have been together for 2 years now and had never had a communication breakdown until recently and it was a brief doozy that was was the culmination of my being diagnosed with cancer and him falling deep into his depressive cycle. \n\nWe are primarily LD and had talked about being with other partners. We had an understanding that if should one of us feel the need to be with someone else we would be honest about it beforehand. 3 months after  I started having odd pelvic pain and found out I had an STI, when I confronted him he was honest and upfront, both of us were treated and talked it out but now I'm starting to feel really anxious and jealous. \n\nI've never been particularly clingy but now I feel constant anxiety that I'm being lied to. Is this normal? Any helpful suggestions on how to not feel like a grade A clinging machine?", "summary": "SO cheated and I'm having a hard time trusting him again."}
{"id": "t3_15tdvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New girlfriend is very close friends with a previous sexual partner. I respect their friendship but ive asked that they tone it down a bit as it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Am I being fair or not?", "post": "Me 22 M, her 25 F\n\nMy new girlfriend (of 2 months), who is absolutely lovely, has a lot of guy mates, who are all really nice and im absolutely fine with all of them. However there is one who she has slept with regularly over a period of a few years, obviously she was single then so thats not the issue. \n\nThe issue is that even though shes got a boyfriend now (me) thet are still incredibly lovey dovey and touchy feely together. I respect the fact theyve been friends for a long time and I dont want her to compromise that, but their touchy feely/lovey doveyness, especially considering their sexual past makes me feel uncomfortable. All ive asked is that she tones it down a bit out of respect for me. ive said many times I want them to stay friends. However it all seems to have kicked up a bit of a stink.\n\nAm I being a psycho? I personally think im being fair and reasonable but she seems incredibly reluctant to make even this small compromise (tapering down some of the touchy feely/lovey dovey stuff). And perhaps more worringly she absolutely cannot seem to see that there are boundaries when you have a partner and her relationship with this guy friend often over steps these boundaries. They are boundaries which are second nature to most people and yet she can scarcely even grasp where im coming from.", "summary": "girlfriend is very close friends with a previous sexual partner. They are overtly tactile and lovey dovey in their comminication. I respect their friendship but ive asked that they tone it down a bit as it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Am I being fair or not?"}
{"id": "t3_25pueg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my SO[20 F] of 6 months gotten myself into weird situation because of marijuana.", "post": "My SO and I started as friends first, as she was getting over a breakup with an ex who cut off contact with her. We started to become more than just friends and eventually decided to date. Everything was going fine until the other night we smoked weed together and felt awkward tension among eachother. She went to bed and I ended up playing on her computer.\n\nShe had left her Facebook on, and I couldn't help my curiosity and checked her messages seeing she messaged her ex an hour before she passed out. He wouldn't respond and she would proceed to say things such as \"it will always be you.You were the one.\" \n\nI broke up with her right away as obviously If she feels this way, it'll never work between us. But when I tried to leave she broke down, was dry heaving, begging me to take her back. She deleted him from Facebook, blocked his number and she claims that she wrote that while she was stoned with me and doesn't remember why she wrote that.\n\nI took her back because everything had been good up until now and she tried really hard to get me back, but I can't even look at her the same without feeling betrayed. I don't know what to do because I love the girl to death and I feel like she deserves a second chance.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for more insight on what I should do. That night we got high was really weird, we both felt disconnected from eachother and that's when she wrote that message. What should I do reddit?", "summary": "Caught girlfriend messaging ex bad things while we were stoned."}
{"id": "t3_1c460v", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is dating someone with the same name as a sibling OK? {17M}", "post": "So I met this girl a while ago on a Ski trip with a group of friends, we got along well enough, chatted a bit but nothing came of it. Recently when chatting over the Book of Faces she suggested we hang out like we had intended to; we traipsed about the area we live through various cities and malls and overall got on super fine, lots of inside jokes were made we laughed and had a fly time. We're gonna go shopping next week and I'm wondering if I should make a move or maybe be a bit more forward this time, I only ask because she has the same name as my older sister. I have a poor relationship with my family so it's not like she'd ever meet her but it seems a bit... Socially un-koscher (Yeah I just made up a word). Note that I'd be totally fine with dating her, to me it's simply a title; this question is more for the women to answer, would it be weird if a guy asked you out and his sister had the same name as you?", "summary": "I get along superfine with a girl that has the same name as my sister and am wondering if it's all good in the hood to ask her to a coffee."}
{"id": "t3_47jiby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my wife [32F] 1 year, I know she deserves affection but I hate anything lovey dovey or romantic.", "post": "So there's me and my wife Susan. Susan and I had a fairytale dating experience. We'd met online on a pay dating website and immediately we clicked. We traded messages, then had phone calls and skype sessions. Then we met up and everything was pretty much perfect. She had all the qualities I wanted - down to earth, honest, generous and had a good head screwed on her shoulders. \n\nWe got married soon after spending lots of time together (I know, we got married quickly, but it felt so natural.)\n\nNow my problem isn't that we're married, or that there's anything wrong with her. There's something wrong with ME. For the past three months, i've been in misanthropic phases of hating humanity. Lately i've been feeling like romance is disgusting and affection is irritating. When Valentine's day rolled around I was resolved not to celebrate the holiday. I'm sure you find this weird, seeing as I found love, that I should not be bitter. But I am. Lately i've felt like a lone wolf who is shunned by the world, even though I have a loving wife.\n\n \nWe used to have a healthy sex life but in this new phase I try and avoid sex whenever possible. Maybe i'm not capable of being physically attracted - to her or anyone. I love her but i'm not attracted.\n\nI'm on antidepressants. I think they may have something to do with my attitude, but i'm not sure. Am I broken, or a sociopath? I don't know how to handle this situation.", "summary": "Recently started hating affection, it might be affecting my wife, unsure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2ymjc1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my mom \"Hello Mother f**ker, what do you want?\"", "post": "Hi Reddit, this is the story of how I Fucked up today at around 3:00 PM\n\nAt school, my music teacher just had a talk with my class about stealing people's smart phones and texting other people in class for a joke, so yesterday, I had my phone confiscated because my partner was using it to text multiple people, but that's another story. Here's the real fuck up, my teacher specifically told us to not use the phone even if someone emailed/called us etc. then I asked her, what if my parents called me during the middle of class? She said, \"what's the chance that you parents will call you in the middle of class?\" and dismissed it as a dumb question, about 5 minutes later, my mom called me in the middle of class using someone else's phone because her's had died, I didn't know that, and being the natural dick I am because I thought it was another telemarketer or a prank caller, I said, \"What the fuck do you want mother fucker?\" and be-fucking-hold it was my mom, so I hung up and threw my phone away. When I got home, I got in trouble for swearing etc. Lesson learned; be nice to anyone over the phone until you know their identity, then you can stay nice or go ham depending on who called.", "summary": "I swore at my mom not knowing it was her and got in a whole lot of trouble after that."}
{"id": "t3_15qp8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] want to be with my best friend [19M] but I'm still in a relationship [21M]", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months, and I still love him to bits. But over the past few months we've sort of grown apart since going to different colleges, and I've fallen for my best friend.\n\nMe and my best friend have spoken about it and we want to be together, he's the best friend I've ever had. The problem is that I still love my boyfriend to pieces, but I want to be with my best friend. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because it'll kill him inside, I don't know what to do?", "summary": "Fallen for my best friend, don't want to break up with boyfriend because it'll kill him."}
{"id": "t3_3517ey", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pressuring my mate into doing something stupid part 1", "post": "I spilt this into two parts because this is from today and most likely tomorrow something will happen. Tell me if you would want a part 2. So anyway let's start. Today is parent-teacher interviews and school ends early. So I have from 1:45 to 2:55 to do nothing. For privacy reasons I'm going to call my friends: B,C,N,T and me (J). Me and my friends were bored so we started saying dares to each other. I thought it would be a great idea to ask T \"I dare you to go up to J (a girl) and say You make my pepe go metal when I see your face\". Being the immature group of friends we are laughing out heads off. We keep saying do it. So we decide if he does that we pay him 3 bucks to buy a drink and always get in at handball. He agrees but is too scared to do it. I drag him up to her and leave him. J is surrounded by her friends, and as he says the words, me and my friends blast into tears laughing at him actually saying the words. He walks back and gets paid. J comes to me and digs her nails into my arm and even now (1 and a half hours later) and walks off. We are in tears still laughing at what he is doing. One of J's friends tells a whole bunch of girls who spread this like the flu. \nA few moments later a group of girls (one of which is a girl I like and I'm not naming her) and a guy finds out from the girl and it spreads to them. Needless to say I ruined a mates reputation by daring him to say something stupid that now is being taken seriously. I might add that all the girls think that HE is a pervert and disgusting. I'm a horrible friend :).", "summary": "I dare a friend to say you give me a boner and everyone is freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_1zabqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My younger cousin (19F) told me (23F) about our cousin (19M) and how he recently came out. His parents are hoping that they can 'change' him and we both laughed at this. Then she asked me if I thought being gay was a choice. I feel like I gave a shitty response.", "post": "I told her that I think people are born gay because a lot of people know at an early age just like straight people know these things. That you can't change someone's sexual orientation, but that sometimes people 'choose' to go one way.\n\nI have no idea why I said the last part--I guess my intention was to say that even if being gay was ever a choice then there would be nothing wrong with that. I wanted to cover both sides of the argument..But, I didn't convey my thoughts clearly and I feel like it was homophobic and I regret saying it.\n\nHow can I rectify this situation? I should add that I'm not straight, but I don't think she knows this.", "summary": "My younger cousin (19F) told me about our cousin (19M) and how he recently came out. His parents are hoping that they can 'change' him and we both laughed at this. Then she asked me if I thought being gay was a choice. I told her that I thought people were born that way just like straight people are, but that sometimes people choose to go one way.  I'm not straight myself, although I don't think she knows.  How can I rectify the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1syh13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think it's time I [20M] part ways with my friend [20M]", "post": "We have been best friends for the last 8 years, however I'm starting to notice that he isn't growing out of his immaturity and it has really began to drag me down. For example;\n\nLast night, we're at a friends house having a few drinks before the bar. As soon as my friend, we'll call N, walks in, he is asked to move his car from the driveway to the side of the street. After refusing a couple of times, my other friend asking raises his voice and states it's his house, and he needs to respect that or leave. N decides to scream obscenities and storm out. We try calling him, and he picks up his phone, says \"fuck you\" and immediately hangs up. We eventually get him to come back, and I, being the best friend, walk over to give him a hug and he threatens to headbutt me as he isn't \"in the mood for anyone's shit.\" I talk him down, and we proceed to have a good night until we get to the bar.\n\nWe're at the bar, about 8 of us, and I see some friends from class. I decide to go and talk to them for a while, and catch up. I introduce N to them, and let him know I'll be over talking to them for the next half hour. I invite him to come along and meet them, and he ends up storming off stating how I'm \"ditching him.\" I feel that the point of going to the bar is socializing and meeting new people, not sticking side-by-side with the group you came with. I even invited him along!\nSo, reddit, I need you opinion. Am I overreacting, or should I discontinue my friendship with this person?", "summary": "Friend is seemingly immature and drags me down. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_1fbmjj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [16] and this girl who lives halfway around the world [16] had sex and now I have no clue what to do or how to handle this situation", "post": "So I'm a boy living in America, and as part of this leadership program I'm involved in, this girl from Israel came to stay at my house for ten days. She's super cute, and the whole time other people from the program were telling me that she wants to hook up, and I wanted to too, and I was going to one night but that same night she told me she didn't want to after all. So I'm like okay whatever, if that's what you want. But then, through the rest of the program she keeps holding my hand and putting her hand on the inside of my thigh really close to my dick. So I was really confused by this, but went with it and didn't make a move because I thought she didn't want to. \n\nAnyways, on the last night of the program, she comes into my room late at night and we hook up and end up having sex. It was super awkward because it was both of our first times, but we manage to get through it.\n\nThe next morning she acted super awkward around me, which was understandable but annoying. She left that day back for Israel, and a couple days later we start to talk, and we've been talking almost every day since (all that was back in december, and I'm seeing her again in July). \n\nWhile were talking, at various points I'd tell her that I'm excited to see her again, and that I miss her. She usually replied the same thing, but that she didn't want to see me because it would be really awkward, and she also seemed not very interested while talking to me. Because of this, I stopped talking to her, but after a couple days she sent me one of those angry face things so I started talking to her again. My question for you is what's going on with her, because I can't make heads or tails of it. At all. And what do you think she'll want when I see her in a month? Will I still have a chance with her? Also will it be awkward to see her again and is there any way to circumvent this awkwardness?", "summary": "girl comes to states from Israel, says she doesnt want to hook up but sends some really mixed signals, end up fucking because she  initiated, she leaves the next day, talk almost every day since, she says she thinks itll be awkward to see me again. what does she want? where do you think this is going? will i still have a chance with her in a month? and will it be awkward and is there a way to make it not awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_4eixpu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my friend I'm a rapist", "post": "So this happened an hour ago\nI was talking to her and it was all fine and dandy but then we start talking about her parents. Now I'm not the greatest child and my parents are by far not the greatest parents. And my mom thinks I'm only in life for sex. the conversation goes like this.\n\nHer> Do you even like your mom?\n\nMe > I mean. kinda, but she thinks i'm a rapist\n\nHer > Why?\n\nMe (not wanting to tell her why) > Im a rebellious child\n\nHer > there has to be something \n\nMe > sigh. She walked on my getting my dick sucked\n\nHer> Wtf im done  talking to you\n\nso by this point I'm confused out of my mind. so i ask her why. and whats going on. and she replies with this\n\nHer > your fuck boy tendencies are coming out\n\nMe > what are you talking about? \n\nHer > you being called a rapist who does that. I don't want to hear about you getting your dick sucked.\n\nme > you wanted to know why and insisted on it\n\nHer > so now you are pinning it on me? Wow. \n\nMe > look, I'm sorry for what i said. I didn't mean it to come out in a negative way \n\nShe read the message but hasn't responded. and is not longer talking. RIP friend.  I don't think I did a whole lot wrong here and she is just over reacting.", "summary": "Girl asks why I don't like my mom I respond, she overreacts."}
{"id": "t3_2hcs9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] recently developed a mini crush on someone else but I've been in a one year relationship with [22/M], is this normal or am I bored in my relationship?", "post": "There's this guy I've met once and I thought he was really cute. We follow each other on Twitter and I favorited one too many of his tweets the other day and he got the hint and we exchanged a few semi-flirty tweets. I honestly got excited when he caught on. I eventually stopped responding because I know there's a line I don't want to cross. I wouldn't ever cheat on my boyfriend (I mean, unless you count semi-flirty tweets as cheating...) but I will admit I have developed a mini crush on this guy and lurked around to find his Facebook, Linkedin, and possibly his Instagram (same username as his Twitter.)\n\nSo, is it normal to have a mini crush on someone else when you've been in a long term relationship of one year? Or am I bored in my relationship? I read somewhere online that developing crushes on other people means you've mentally checked out of your relationship... Not sure what to make of this. I guess I just miss the feeling of butterflies. I still get happy when I see my boyfriend, but I don't really get butterflies anymore.\n\nNote: I was a late bloomer and my current boyfriend is my first relationship (started dating just before I turned 21.)", "summary": "Recently developed a mini crush on someone else but I've been in a relationship of one year. Is this totally normal or am I bored in my relationship? Or possibly even \"mentally checked out of my relationship\" as on one article has said about developing crushes when you're in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1ipf6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] has feelings for a [27F], not sure how to approach it.", "post": "Last year I met a girl in evening courses, we started talking and eventually she asked me out for a drink. \nBy the time we got to meet up I found out she was already in a relationship with another guy for several years. \nAt first this wasn't a problem, because I was happy to just gain a friend. \n \nAlthough, after a few months I was starting to feel more for her. This of course was not easy to deal with, but I respected her being  \nin a relationship and \"moved on\". \n \nA few months passed by and both working fulltime now we see each other less, every now and then we meet up again for a drink and a chat. \nToday she told me she left her boyfriend last month, this was of course bad news. But as I never really changed my feelings about her, this gave me hope again... \nDespite my feelings for her I know I'm just a friend to her, nothing more. \n \nI don't really know what to do. Tell her about my feelings or just try to ignore my feelings for her and try to move on?  \nAny advice is welcome. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Have feelings for a friend, not sure how to approach it."}
{"id": "t3_3f8o4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I cheated on my boyfriend with an ex, does it ever go back to how the relationship was before?", "post": "My boyfriend and I were together for about 1.5 years before this happened. We were in a phase where we kept drinking every night and become alcoholics (though I was not a drinker before him). I was always a great girlfriend, I did all the cleaning, I did his laundry, cooked and he did get physcially abusive with me when he was very drunk. We were a great couple sober. The cops got called when we were getting subs in a public place. I was intoxicated and vented to the cops about he was abusive and denied writing a report but he was arrested anyways for domestic abuse. I then called my ex that night (intoxicated) and confessed how I was feeling and we had sex. We quit talking after that. Two months later, I could not bare it anymore and I confessed to my current boyfriend. We had ironically a strong sexual urge for each-other afterwards but now he randomly bring it up and I feel like shit about myself for doing what I did. He has taken away my facebook and still brings it up....will this ever go back to what it was before?  I am 25 and dont want to spend the rest of my life feeling guild over this.", "summary": "I cheated after 1.5 years, will it go back to normal"}
{"id": "t3_1y4gvn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18m) The girl I really like is trying to set me up with a girl I don't like. What the heck do I do?", "post": "I'm a high school student. I'm 18, in 12th grade, and I would go as far as to say that I'm sub-par on looks.\n\n\"Girl A\" is all I could ever want. She's funny, smart, a beautiful singer, an actress, she's got a great sense of style, she's mature, a lot more of a woman than any girl I know, and she's just knockout gorgeous. She told me that she knows a friend of mine, \"Girl B\",who likes me, and she wants to set me up with her. \n\nGirl B is nice, and she's funny, and also a good singer, but she's just not... my type? She is just a lot less mature than Girl A. She is two years younger than me (in high school, age differences are a bigger deal), and she just reminds me too much of a cute kid instead of an attractive woman, like Girl A.\nAnd Girl B is a sophomore. I don't really care so much about age difference as much as I do that she's still gonna be in school all the time, even when I'm out of school or in college. I don't want a high school relationship in college.\n\nI told Girl A that I didn't like Girl B like that, and gave the same reasons as I described above. Girl A told me that I should give her a chance, and that it's not fair to complain about girls not liking me, and then turn down an opportunity like this.\n\nWhat the hell am I supposed to do?\n\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Girl I like tries to set me up with girl I don't like. I tell Girl A why I don't like Girl B. Girl A tells me to go for it anyways. Wat do"}
{"id": "t3_1viwb6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] ex boyfriend [45/m] two timing old man.", "post": "So I've been dating this guy for about 8 months, he has 3 children which I take care for in the afternoons he hired me as his nanny, his wife passed away 3 years ago. 2 month ago I discovered he was dating someone else and well I got upset and ended things, I was going to quit as his nanny but then he started paying more, so money was good and I stayed. Sometimes occasionally I stay late and we drink wine and just talk. The other day another female coworker (another teacher from school, not coworker in his home) told me he had been hitting on her and she replied back telling her she knew about us and how we had things, he denied it and practically called me a liar. My coworker was just shocked by his assholeness and told me. I was not amused and just mentioned him that it hurt me, I didn't care if he was hitting on other people but the fact that he was calling me a liar and that nothing had happened did get me upset. So this other girl I caught him with, she doesn't know we where dating either, she just thinks I'm his nanny, and he moves the world I swear to make me and her not meet (even though I don't care he is seeing someone else, well i do but I'm working on getting over him) so last night I had a few cups of wine and emailed the girl he is dating know (which she already replied saying she's been dating him for 2 years!!). I emailed because I had enough of his bullshit and as a woman to another woman I wanted to let her know what he had done to me, dated me while still with her, and the way he lies. She said she wanted to meet tonight and talk about everything which I do want to, but I don't know if I should. Now that I'm sober I don't want to get involved in his drama again, but I don't want him to lie to this other poor girl that has no clue (I mean two years!!!) should I meet with her, or just leave it like that?", "summary": "he was dating me and someone else, I noticed she still hasn't, should I tell her or keep it to myself?"}
{"id": "t3_fc77q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i'm having a quarter life crisis and need guidance reddit...", "post": "so here's the issue in a nutshell: i'm 27. i've got a BA in liberal arts (poli sci) and just finished my 5 year of a phd program at a top 10 school. i kind of passively aggressively quit and by that i mean i haven't been in contact with my department for about 6 months. i had moved across the country with my best friend, but that blew up (long story) and so now i'm couch surfing, living out of a bag with all my shit basically trapped there. i don't have any money. i'm using unemployment but not paying rent so i've got a few hundred dollars and i just found out i have an IRA with about 1500 bucks in it (i don't know what an IRA is to be honest). my skills include writing (i've done both academic work and published articles in popular magazines) and being a really good reader. i'm also pretty adept with computers (as are most people my age). \n\ni'm not stuck because i don't have skills, i'm stuck because i literally have no idea what to do. i'm just looking for career paths. does anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "what the hell do i do with a BA in poli sci and 5 years of poli sci grad work? what job is that?"}
{"id": "t3_41s7qj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sitting down", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today. \nIt was 3 years ago, I had just moved into my first shared student house with 3 friends. We each had 1 of the 4 bedrooms of the house and shared a living/dining room. \nNow the furniture the landlords provided were less than stellar, and in particular there was an old wooden chair with a completely flat surface without any cushions, which as you can imagine was horrifically uncomfortable on your backside.\nSo a few weeks after moving in, one of my housemates had his girlfriend from home come to visit, unfortunately his room was the smallest bedroom in the house, so being the caring housemates the rest of us were, we'd give them a bit of privacy if they were in the living room. \nAt the end of the first night after they go to bed, I decided to go into the living room to see if there was anything good on TV and since I didn't have any lectures until the afternoon I could afford to stay up a bit later.\nNow, remember that old crappy wooden chair I mentioned? We remedied the lack of any cushioning by putting a pillow on it, genius right? So, I get into the living room, park myself onto the now nicely cushioned chair turn on the TV and hey, \"there's no one around\", I let rip a fart (as you do). \n\nI know what you're thinking \"Oh I bet his housemates were still in the room and heard him fart on the pillow\". No, my housemate's girlfriend walks in 30 seconds later and drops a \"Sorry Onemortal, would it be alright if I take that pillow? I didn't think to bring one\". My heart sunk, should I own up and tell her I just farted on the pillow? or act blissfully unaware and pretend nothing happened? They'd definitely still notice the smell! Of course in the end I simply stood up did the typical \"Oh no worries! Here you go, have a good night!\" thing and put on a poker face.\n\nNeedless to say I tried to spend as much time out of the house as I could over the next few days.", "summary": "Someone slept on my farts."}
{"id": "t3_4w2x69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend[21F] of 1 year wont let me masturbate.", "post": "My girlfriend can not handle me masturbating and is obsessive about making sure I don't look at porn. If I even ask if I can get off she gets super offended and wont speak to me for a pretty good amount of time. She is only ok with me masturbating if she can watch and I don't use porn but I am not able to get off like that and it has become really stressful to me. \n\nI will try to do something to get her in the mood for sex bj or w.e and she will shoot me down constantly. Id much rather do something with her but her sex drive is nowhere near as high as mine and I dont think it is fair that I have to go a week with out getting off. An example of what im dealing with is just today she was grabbing me telling me how much she wanted me but dint actually want to do anything and now she is furious because I asked if could masturbate. (I had to ask because she said if she finds out I jerked off without asking she will break up with me)", "summary": "Girlfriend wont let me masturbate"}
{"id": "t3_4zpulu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "So my identity may be stolen by a dealership...", "post": "Disclaimer: sorry if my formatting is bad, this is my first time posting to Reddit.\n\nSo I woke up this morning to my mom talking loudly on the phone to a Lifelock agent and setting up an account, apparently a card had been opened in her name by someone other than her. She is convinced that someone within the dealership in which we bought our last car at gained access to and used her private information.\n\nHow does this affect me? I'm 20 years old with no credit, or credit cards for that matter, to my name (to my knowledge) and my parents put me as a co-signer to the car in hopes to easily increase my credit without me doing anything.\n\nSo basically my question is what're the best websites to check your credit score, check credit cards open in my name, or possibly take action against the individual(s)/business responsible. Any suggestions or relevant experiences are welcome, thanks :)", "summary": "My identity may be stolen and I don't know how to check or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1b1fne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice...", "post": "My husband (m27) and I (f25), married for just over three years, are trying to make our way in the world. But recently, I lost my job. This was hard for both of us but I really hated putting the strain on him. Especially because this time last year he lost his job which forced us to move in with his parents. It was also a relief to move out of the same town that his gay ex lived in because for some reason he just kept reappearing to harass us. \n\nWhile we have enjoyed living without the pressure of rent, this living situation (a small spare bedroom, an extremely Christian and strict mother in law, and a mean sister in law with a 6 year old who she just leaves for us to baby sit without a word living above) has taken a toll on our relationship. \n\nMy husband suffers from depression and I would do anything to make him happy. So, recently, we talked about moving out on our own again. Where we currently reside is not great economically and so I thought of us moving closer to my parents. He had mentioned wanting to work from home because he hates leaving the house. Plus, this would give me the opportunity to go back to school for my post BA degree and my parents would love it if we had grandchildren eventually. \n\nHowever, he doesn't care for my mom at all. So he mentioned moving back to our original\ntown to see what we can find. While I'm thrilled to see some old friends again, I'm really nervous that the ex boyfriend will rear his ugly head again. He is nervous too but it doesn't seem to phase him as much. Which makes me just want to stay right where we are.\n\n I finally talked about moving near my parents and letting him stay here to work until we figure something out and this way we both at least have income. But he got upset and said that if we separated then our marriage would end, that he knew it wouldn't work unless we were always together, and that he wasn't letting me go anywhere. I'm not sure what to do at this point. What do you think?", "summary": "husband and I are trying to find the best place for us but complications are getting in the way."}
{"id": "t3_35pq16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my FWB [28 M] of many years took pics of a little girl on vacation. Should I be concerned and what should I do?", "post": "Ok, I feel bad even asking this, but this post made me think of it again where OP found ~40 pics of little girls on her bf's phone: \n\nI met my online FWB in person for the first time last year. We were on vacation at the sea and went on a boat trip. It turns out all the tourists there were families. One family in particular was so nice to us and we made friends with them the whole time. \n\nOne odd thing to me, from an American perspective, is that their little girl (maybe 4-5) only wore bikini bottoms and no bikini top. I mentioned that to my FWB that maybe we're the sick ones in America for sexualising a child of that age and even thinking she needed a bikini top. \n\nHere's the weird part. Some time later I noticed he was taking kind of careful pictures of the distant mountains. When I looked at the pics he was taking on his phone, several of them had that little girl in them. I asked him about it and I said he shouldn't take pics of someone's child without asking them about it first. He said at first that she accidentally got in the shot (I don't think so) and then he said that in his culture it wasn't weird at all. \n\nI've seen pics of him with his nieces before and they're always cozied up on his lap. I never thought it was weird until I saw him trying to take those pics. \n\nI know he was sexually abused as a child, so I'm just not sure what to think of this or how to bring it up to him. It concerns me a lot honestly.", "summary": "My FWB took pics of a little girl on vacation and I'm not sure if that is normal or if I should try to get him help?"}
{"id": "t3_256tts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with [23F] first date need some advice!", "post": "Just looking for some advice on first date jitters.\n\nWe met a couple months ago through a mutual friend and after facebook chatting and texting for a month we agreed to go out this weekend.\n\nShe seems like a great girl and totally the opposite from the girls I usually see. I travel a lot for work and the only relationships I have had In the last couple months have been one night stands. \n\nI guess I am just nervous because I haven't been on a first date in a LONG time. I really don't want to mess this up and actually see if I can form a connection with this amazing girl. Talking to her makes me feel like a teenager again and I can't remember the last time I have been this excited!\n\nAny advice on low pressure date ideas so I can focus on just getting to know her and letting her do the same with me?", "summary": "never go on actual dates, super nervous. Any good advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3f7ex9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Have an interview coming up, a presentation is involved. Would love some advice!", "post": "Hey all,\n\nI have an interview on Monday with a company I'm hoping to work with, and as a part of the interview I'm being asked to give a brief (3 - 5 minute) presentation on a skill or talent. I believe they are looking to see if I can hold the attention of people for a period of time, and am also able to intelligibly speak to a group of people. \n\nI'm trying to think of some things I would really enjoy talking about; but I'm unsure of how they will be received. For now, the two I'm considering are these:\n\n- Languages other than English. Going through some short phrases in French and Japanese that are useful in a basic capacity. (I feel a con to this would be that people could get bored/lose interest since it isn't something they'll internaize) \n- Synthesizers. I'm an educated musician who has programmed a lot of synthesizers, and I would love explaining the basic concept of them. (A con to this may be that the job has absolutely nothing to do with music, but I think this is the stronger option)\n\nI also have a deep interest in programming, music in general, video games, and animals.\n\nLet me know if you have other suggestions, or if you think either of those would go over well.\n\nThanks a ton!!!", "summary": "Need to give a presentation, looking for tips on what you'd recommend talking about based on my interests."}
{"id": "t3_3pvw3b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting about a Parking ticket", "post": "Last month, on the 18th I got a 15 dollar parking ticket at a local college for not having a permit.\n\nFlash forward about a week and a half. Still havent mailed them the check, so i mail it and expect to get the extra 5$ charged on there because it would be late.\n\nFlash forward again to about a week ago. I was at a Magic: The Gathering tournament, and spent roughly 30 dollars on entry fee and a cool playmat, convinced that the ticket had been taken out and that the 10 dollars in my bank was all i needed for the rest of the week. \n\nThen earlier this week, I deposited my poor mans fast food resturant check, all but about 11 dollars would go to my insurance. \n\nThen today at work I bought a Chicken strip basket, a single chicken wrap, and a friend of mine a chicken wrap. Unannounced to me, my parking ticket from a month ago just hit the bank leaving me with about a dollar in the bank, and each of the 3 purchases I made bounced, and gave me a 35$ fee. Checked my balance when I got home, nearly had a heart attack. Now half of my next Paycheck is gone.\n\n4.50 dollars in food cost me 110$.\nShit I have a lot to learn.", "summary": "forgot about a parking ticket from a month ago, assumed it had already gone through as it drained my account, and had me bounce 3 times before i got home from work."}
{"id": "t3_szqco", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. When you go out, it always helps to have a wingman. What are some of your best wingman stories (good and bad)?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nThis happened this weekend and I love my friend for the unnecessary initiative he took.\n\nSo, this last weekend, me and a group of friends went downtown to hit up some of the clubs and bars in the area. I had been talking to one of the girls in our group (Derpette) and she brought one of her friends from class with her. She was a heavyset girl and my friend had agreed to just keep her company so I could talk with Derpette. Fast forward a few hours later and my friend is starting to wobble a little. He had stuck with Derpettes friend throuout the night. We had been dancing for a while in this club and we all stepped outside to get some fresh air. My friend comes up to me in a drunken stupor and says, \"I bit the bullet for you, tonight. You owe me, I just want you to know this.\" I'm confused and just shake it off as drunk-talk.\n\nLater on, he tells me he made out with Derpettes friend at the bar and how he did it for me. I burst out laughing saying, \"WHY? Dude, I already have the girl, you didn't have to do that. All you had to do was keep her focus away from Derpette. How did that happen?\"\n\nHe replies with, \"Well, I brought her outside and I didn't know what to say to her so I said 'You deserve a treat' and began making out with her.\" I die laughing. At this point, it's 3:30am and he is stumbling everywhere. I drove us back home shortly after. I thought it was awesome how he made it his personal mission to be a good wingman, even taking unnecessary steps. That's a great friend.\n\nSo, Reddit, what's some of your favorite wingman stories?", "summary": "Went out clubbing with a group of friends. My friend was playing wingman to help me with this girl who brought her large friend out dancing with us. Made it his personal mission to keep her occupied all night. While drunk, he took her outside and told her \"You deserve a treat,\" and made out with her. Came back teling me, \"You owe me big.\""}
{"id": "t3_2laxje", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Loyal blueheeler to owners but aggressive with other dogs, family, and friends. Pls help on how to train and fix this.", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I have two Heeler dogs. One is a blueheeler who is now three years old and one redheeler who is now 2 years old. \n\nMy main problem is my blue heeler. we lived in my boyfriends parents house up until he was 2 years old and had no problems with him. But we got an apartment together and things started to change. We figured it's because of the move. He knows basic tricks. (Shake, roll over, lay down, stay, and crate) \n\nThe first thing we noticed was that our roomate sam would get in his face and say what and he would growl but he would crawl up to his chest and growl. He would do this for a good two weeks then my blueheeler bit him. I looked up what it could be and I read that he was showing fear aggression... \n\nAfter that my sister who has known him since he was a puppy would come over our apartment and try to love on him, but he would growl at her and we would all say no Beau. Quickly after he would run to his crate and attack the doors.... Why do he do this?? He also does it with other many friends who don't mean any harm. \n\nOne thing I do notice is if it's he is layin next to me when my friends try to love on him and get in his face is when he growls. So is he trying to protect me? But he also does it when I'm standing accross the room.... \n\nHe's growled at me once but I sooth him and let him know it's ok. Haven't really had him in another situation for him to growl at me since.\n\nAlso I'll be in the car Rollin down the windows and he will bite the windows as they roll up or down... \n\nthis may not be a lot of information but I can give more. I'm just confused on what's goin on with my baby:( please help.", "summary": "blue heeler didn't show aggression up until my ex boyfriend and I moved out of his parents house and into our apt. Growls at friends when they try to show love, then runs to attack his crate. Attacks car windows when rolling up and down. Pls help."}
{"id": "t3_22v04f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50M] with my gf [49F] of six months: what type of photograph to give as a gift?", "post": "My girlfriend and I are going through a difficult period - she has been travelling a fair bit and I have been busy so we have had not had much romance lately.\n\nShe likes photographs and I would like to surprise her with a picture either of her, or me or possible both of us (but I don't have a good one of both of us).\n\nShe knows how much I adore her photographic image and really I don't have a great picture of myself (I am the photographer).\n\nMaybe I'm over analyzing this but is seems to me that there might be significance to which of us I choose to surprise her with.", "summary": "Would my girlfriend prefer a picture of herself or me?"}
{"id": "t3_3kp1mo", "subreddit": "self", "title": "On which sub to post to", "post": "I'm relatively new to reddit, been a casual lurker for many years on certain communities, but I have only recently started using this site hardcore. So I want to post a handy trick about saving youtube videos, but I'm not sure what subreddit to post to. I don't think it would fit with TIL, and there are too many technology/advice-centric communities to choose from. Is there a place to go to decide which sub would be most fitting for a certain post, or a generic sub that a lot of people will be exposed to where my content would fit?\nThe trick I want to share is; If you edit a youtube video URL to contain an \"ss\" (eg:  [1] to  ) it brings you to a page to convert the video to any file you want.\nFun fact: I found this subreddit after a bot on /r/askreddit removed my post, with a few suggestions on where to post my post. Kinda ironic, eh?\n\nTechnically this is an x-post as I just copied and pasted this from my previous post... I'm confused about this kind of thing, can anyone help?", "summary": "HOW DO I REDDIT"}
{"id": "t3_366hih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) fell down on the stairs and my boyfriend (20M) just stared at me...", "post": "Yesterday, my boyfriend of 6 months and I were walking down the stairs when I tripped and fell down. I twisted my ankle and was kneeling on the ground in pain, saying stuff like \"oh god it hurts so much.\" Out of the corner of my eye, I could see my BF just...standing there. He didn't ask if I was okay, didn't kneel down and try to comfort me. It was like he was just waiting for me to finish and stand up so we could keep walking. I felt so ashamed and embarrassed, like he thought I was faking or overreacting. I eventually just got up and we moved on.\n\nI was so upset that he didn't do anything...even a \"oh no, are you okay?\" would have been nice. I asked him about it later, and he said he was scared he would do the wrong thing and upset me. I don't understand how someone doesn't know what to do when someone they care about is hurt. Is this unreasonable for me to expect my BF to know?", "summary": "I twisted my ankle and fell down; BF watched me silently until I stood up, later said he was scared of doing the wrong thing in that situation and upsetting me. Am I unreasonable for thinking he should have known to ask if I am okay?"}
{"id": "t3_302onh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24m] I found my girlfriend [25/f] crying in the dark during a party", "post": "Hey reddit. We've been dating for 6 years, i'm 24m, she's 25f, my flatmate is 26f.\n\nLast Saturday, I came home from work to find my flatmate (26f) had invited a few of her friends over before they went out clubbing. I walked in to find my girlfriend baking and generally keeping to herself, while our flatmate was talking animatedly to the first guest to arrive (there was only one person).\n\nOur flatmate, my girlfriend, and I have been all living together for about four months now.\n\nAnyway, as the night went on and as more people came inside, the house got louder, the people more drunk, and it got to the point where she had to run into the bedroom. I thought she just wanted some alone time with the laptop or something, but I followed her in after a few minutes and found her crying on the bed. I consoled her and told her everything was going to be okay (I didn't know what to do :x sorry gf + reddit), and after a while she seemed fine, so we went back outside.\n\nI was invited to go out with the flatmate and her friends (they're all part of some couch surfing community) and she went back into the room. I followed her inside again after giving her some alone time and found her huddled in blankets, lights out, crying quietly.\n\nSo of course, I didn't go out, and shooed them all out to town, and stayed back. But I don't know what to do reddit. I tried talking to her about it, she says she doesn't really know. I think she doesn't deal well with a loss of control or with sudden developments that she hadn't planned for (she gets irritated at plans that fall apart e.g. we had planned to visit a place but couldn't find parking - she'd rather go home angry at the world instead of thinking of other things to do that might be fun).\n\nI'm slightly angry at her (I mean I know I shouldn't be) because I actually did want to go out after work but I stayed at home instead. And now I feel kind of selfish for feeling that way.", "summary": "gf didn't seem to handle sudden party very well (ended up crying in the dark) and now i'm worried but also slightly irritated"}
{"id": "t3_4elqlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (27f) help my boyfriend (27m) through my depression", "post": "Pretty much what the title says. We've been together for a year and 3 months, living together for a year. He's the one, I'm sure. It hit me hard this week and I have my first appointment with a psychologist on Tuesday. My boyfriend has looked up some stuff about how to help me, but I'm concerned about the toll it's taking on him. I know it can't be easy to emotionally support someone who is a complete mess. I can't trust any of my thoughts and sometimes I just say the weirdest stuff to him. Stuff I don't mean. Yesterday I came home wanting to have sex, but then an episode of a show we watched got me thinking into a downward spiral of consuming thoughts and I just cried. That's gotta suck for a dude with a big libido. I just feel terrible for putting him through this and I want to make it easier for him.", "summary": "help me help my boyfriend deal with my depression."}
{"id": "t3_3swovg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) Boyfriend (30M) might be disgusted with my body?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now, on and off. I have been suffering from social anxiety (due to abuse from my childhood and teen years.) It makes it really difficult for me to interact with people naturally. But for the past two years, I've been slowly overcoming it. I'm very proud of myself. But earlier this year, we broke up because of my lack of proper communication. \n\nA few months later, we got back together. I used that time we had apart to work on myself, and do the things I needed to do.  We're doing so much better than before, I'm much more open and lively now. \n\nBut lately, we have been having problems when it comes to physical intimacy. \n Some of that is social anxiety and some of it stems from me being slightly heavier earlier on in our relationship. I was 5'10 and around 170. \n\nHe use to make crude remarks about the stretch marks on my belly and it's something that still really bothers me. I'm unsure of what to do. He seems to get a bit frustrated when it comes to how I view my body, I really hate having sex with the lights on. He says I should loosen up, but I can't help but think that maybe he would prefer someone a lot prettier than me?", "summary": "My boyfriend of 9 months is having trouble with intimacy due to my self esteem and social anxiety. But I feel uncomfortable sometimes because I feel that he might think I'm disgusting. "}
{"id": "t3_1g234o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I go about walking across the US?", "post": "Hello, Reddit.  I am a teenage girl living in Southern California.  I would like to someday walk across the nation to the east coast.  I would drive to the coast and start there so I'm *really* walking across the nation, from sea to shining sea.\n\nI think it would take about six to nine months, so I would have to do it when I have some time.  I might be able to do it right after college if I have enough money.  Realistically, I probably won't.  It might be a while before I'm able to do this.\n\nI have been walking a lot around my city and doing various exercise to get in shape.  I've always been pretty healthy, but I will need to get used to walking 15-20 miles a day.  I will probably take some other semi-big trips before I walk across the nation.  \n\nI will need to find somebody to go with me.  I'm hoping I'll meet somebody in college.  I don't think that will be a huge problem.  A lot of people want to walk across the USA.\n\nMy question is:  Have any redditors done something like this?  Not necessarily walked across the USA, just something like that.  Is there anything I wouldn't expect, or common misconceptions that I might have?", "summary": "I'm a teenage girl who wants to walk across the nation someday.  Any advice from people who have done something like this?"}
{"id": "t3_cp0oz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm going to see a psychiatrist on Monday with the intent to go on brain meds. Anyone with experience on this?", "post": "I'm 27 and on the outside, things seem to be going pretty well but in my head, stuff isn't great.\n\nI saw a psychologist for 2 years straight when I was 22 I think and while my life has improved, I still feel bummed out a lot. There's a lot of apathy, anxiety and depression here with only the odd feeling of being inspired to live life to the fullest - to go out and enjoy what is out there and even when there, overcoming the inertia is much harder than I think it should be.\n\nMy shrink said she thought I was clinically depressed when I was 23 but I never did anything about it - I guess it was a combo of ignoring til it goes away and lack of courage to face a problem.\n\nShe and I have been in contact and I see here every few months. Recently though, I realised that my life is disappearing and anxiety and depression I feel are stoping me from being awesome. I don't want to be 50 and still feeling the same.\nSo I went back to her and we talked and I've made an appointment to go to a doctor to get the some brain meds.\n\nDrugs are pretty much what my hope is riding on - I exercise 5-6 days a week, limit my alchohol consumption to 6 beers a week, have stopped smoking weed completely and try to catch myself when I'm bummed out so I can try and be awesome instead. I think that I need some extra help with this.\n\nWhat are your experiences with medications for depression? Things I should be looking out for? Experiences I should expect? What drugs should I avoid?", "summary": "soon i will be going on anti-anxiety/depression medication, what are your experiences with them"}
{"id": "t3_2zblwm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [24/f] has a negative attitude about my bf [29/m] and she has never even met him", "post": "EDIT: F'ed up the title.  My mom has a negative attitude...\n\nI met my boyfriend in the summer of 2013. Since then we've had our issues, been on and off, had both glorious moments and heartbreaking ones, etc.  Overall though he's incredibly special to me and right now things are great.  I am very happy with him.\n\nThe issue I'm having is that my mom seems to have an incredibly negative attitude about him.  She did right from the beginning because a) he's 5 years older than me and I've never dated anyone with that much of an age gap, and b) he's in the military and apparently that means he's not to be trusted.  I have no issues with our age difference.  And for the second point, I feel like she's just stereotyping for no good reason.\n\nShe has even accused him of being abusive. (Not true at all btw) This happened after a rather serious fallout we had.  Of course I was angry and upset and hurt so I told her about it because she's my mom.\n\nShe has also accused him of taking my money, and of just using me for sex.  Again both accusations are false.  It's like she gets these ideas in her head that he's a terrible untrustworthy person just because we've had some issues.  \n\nI know that part of the problem is that she heard more detail about the not-so-great parts of our relationship than the good parts.  I'm trying to counteract that, but I merely mention his name and she gains this tone that makes me feel defeated before I've started.  \n\nAnd yes, like the title says, she hasn't even met him.  I'm scared to introduce him to her because I don't want her to attack him. But I also want her to meet him so she can see that he's a great guy, despite having been a bit of a dick at times.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Want to share with my mom that I am happy with my boyfriend, but she's convinced he's no good.  How can I help her see that couples have issues and just because we've had our share doesn't mean he isn't a good person?"}
{"id": "t3_ukire", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think a co-worker stole +150 dollars from me. what should i do?", "post": "hey guys, I'm sort of new to Reddit (lurking for a few months). but here's the story. \n\n      My payday was Friday, and i had money in my wallet for my bike repair. I work in a restaurant. I carry a back pack with me where I put my wallet, work shirt, and hat. On Saturday I worked a double shift, and i was there the whole day. yesterday I was about to pay for some food i ordered and noticed that a large majority of my money was gone. Today I looked around my house to see if it fell out. Didn't see it any where.\n    there is someone that i work with that has stolen a bottle of liquor, I know this because an other co-worker i trust told me about drinking that same bottle. I believe that the same person that stole the bottle, has raided my backpack and wallet to take my money. The backpack was in a room where we store our dry food. There is not a camera in the room. the only camera around is showing the hallway leading up to it.\n\nhalf of me wants the money back, and the other wants the person to be fired. what can i do?", "summary": "someone went into my wallet and took money from me, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_10ebsy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brother kept using my toothbrush instead of his. So I told him that I got diagnosed with a mouth disease that he exposed himself to thanks to him using my toothbrush. Reddit, what creative solutions have you come up with to deal with irritating siblings?", "post": "So, my brother and I, like most siblings, share a bathroom. My sink is the closer one to the door, and I tend to keep my stuff out by the side instead of just stowing it in a cabinet. Problem is, my brother had gotten so lazy that he would not walk the few extra steps to use his own sink and toothbrush. Since I get ready and leave much later than he does (late college classes FTW), I find the most wonderful surprise of my wet, used toothbrush while his is bone dry. This may be a pet peeve of mine, buts it's gross and can spread disease. Parents won't do anything, so after I come back from an early doctor's appointment and find my toothbrush used again. I call my brother.\n\nMe: \"Have you been using my toothbrush again?\"\nBrother: \"No.\" (Pathological liar. Fools everyone)\nMe: \"I just got back from the doctor, and I need to know if you did.\"\nBrother: No, you're so gay!\nMe: I may have a mouth disease called (I made up some latin sounding terminology), which can cause bleed sores on the inside of the mouth. Since you use my toothbrush, you may have gotten exposed to it!\"\n\nSuffice to say, my brother flipped out. I then told him it was all a story, and warned him not to use my toothbrush again. He hasn't since.", "summary": "My brother kept using my toothbrush, so I freaked him out by telling him he got exposed to a mouth disease."}
{"id": "t3_1notwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Had a fight with my [m19] girlfriend [F19], disliking her way of fighting.", "post": "My girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years now, and we love each other very much. We occasionally have arguments, but most of the time, they're resolved fairly quickly. Today, however, an argument came up over something stupid (in my opinion). In the past, when we go out to eat, i usually pay, and i never minded. She, being polite, would always say, \"next time it'll be on me!\" and stuff like that. So today, after lunch, i asked, \"so whos paying?\" and immediately, i could tell my girlfriend was angry. In the car, she told me she didn't mind paying, but that she was upset because i felt the need to ask, that that is not only rude, but also, i'm supposed to be paying anyway. \n\nI'm bewildered, i only brought it up because she said herself, we should take turns. Did i do something wrong? Also, her way of fighting makes me very upset, as i am one to try and solve problems ASAP, while she gives off the vibe that she doesn't care. For example, today, after she told me she's upset, i asked her to tell me what i could to do, she just says \"nothing, just drop me off, i don't care, i'm not upset,\" when she obvioiusly is. I ask her to not just leave on a bad note, and she just avoids looking at me and says \"ok\" and other disinterested phrases, giving me the vibe that she doesn't care. Usually, she is very loving/sweet but when she is angry, she becomes a whole other person, and that upsets me.\n\nSo two things i'm looking for advice on. First, what did i wrong regarding lunch today? Is it wrong to assume we can split on paying meals after 2 years? Especially since she was the one who said it previously? and second, what do i do when we argue like that? i feel really upset when she leaves on a bad note, yet i can't force her to talk, so what would be the best course of action for this argument, and for the future?", "summary": "Girlfriend is upset because i asked if we could split paying when we go out to eat, despite that being her idea in the first place, and I also do not like the way she acts when we argue, so what can I do to resolve this argument as well as how to conduct when future one arises?"}
{"id": "t3_szgw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sex is starting to die down with my boyfriend... What do I do?", "post": "I (21F) have been dating this guy (22M) for a little over two months. We jumped into having sex really quickly, and I had no qualms about it because sexual compatibility is really important to me. For the first few weeks, it was really great. We had consistently frequent and mind-blowing sex. It got to the point where his dick was literally sore from too much sex.\n\nAs of late though, things have been less great. I always get the \"I'm not in the mood\" spiel from him, and more often than not, we'll usually opt for a blowjob in place of sex.\n\nI brought it up earlier, and he says he doesn't think that he can satisfy me all the time. I told him that it didn't necessarily have to be full-on sex. He could try to get me off by other means. But, he said that he wouldn't be in the right mood for it. The conversation pretty much just ended there.\n\nI'm not really sure what to do at this point. Our libidos are at very different places now. A similar situation occurred in my last relationship, and I tried to suck it up. After 4 years though, it got to be too much, and it destroyed my self-esteem. I don't want the same thing to happen again.\n\nI don't want to break up with him over this. After what happened in my last relationship, I realized that sexual compatibility was really important. But, I really adore this guy. He makes me so much happier than anyone has ever been able to, and this is only over the course of two months. I don't want to give that up just because of sex. If I keep falling for him at this rate though, and sex does end up getting in the way, we'll just end up getting so much more hurt. Reddit, I don't know what I'm supposed to do in this situation.", "summary": "Not having sex as often with boyfriend anymore. Boyfriend not in the mood for other sex-related things. He makes me too happy to want to breakup with him. Worried there will be inevitable breakup because of sex."}
{"id": "t3_mn16x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My GF and I finally got engaged and we plan to formally announce it tomorrow. Our friends and family are going to need a creative back story on how I asked her.  Can you help us out?", "post": "So... A little history, we went on our first date 20 years ago today.  We dated a few years in high school and then drifted apart in college.  We went off and had our own lives, families, etc. and had not talked in 14 years.  A few years ago, by chance we ran into each other in the middle of divorces, decided on another first date.  One thing led to another and we have been back together 3 years.  We live together, have a kid together, have our kids from our other marriages.  We live like your basic family unit.  We simply decided \"hey... Well, we might as well get married\" a few weeks ago.  I bought a ring... Etc.  Now the family is going to want the mushy story of how i asked and the few people we told are already insisting on a story.  I am out of creativity, she is out of ideas.  Reddit...  Do you have any fake ideas I can use and shock my family in some way tomorrow based on what you read here?", "summary": "We simply got engaged, with no drama, need to create story for Thanksgiving on how.  Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_uqkwb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/f]She was a good friend of mine[21/m], until we started sleeping together and she told me she had a bf.", "post": "Her side of the story is that they used to be together years ago but were separated for whatever reason. He moved out of state and they tried a long distance relationship, which lasted a little while but eventually things didn't go so well with that, and then she met me... \n\nWe were hanging out consistently and sleeping together, and I thought we were both super happy. BUT little did I know they were planning for him to come move back to be with her, and I wasn't made aware of this until after I developed feelings for her. The worst part is, even now that she's back with him, she still tells me that she wants to be with me, and when I ask her if she's happier with him or similar questions she only ever says \"I don't know..\"\nSo in turn, I have no fucking clue what to do. Should I let this guy know or just leave it alone and walk away....? I know general rule of thumb is once a cheater always a cheater but I want to say beforehand this is a little different..", "summary": "The girl I've been sleeping with was on a break with her bf, and we got pretty serious. I didn't know it was a 'break' not a breakup so I got attached, and now he's back. She still hints she wants me. Do I confront the situation or back away and ignore her?"}
{"id": "t3_289h45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me.", "post": "My girlfriend went to a going-away party with all of her coworkers and got drunk and ended up making out with one of them. When she first told me she said it meant nothing, it was a mistake, and that she was just really drunk. \n\nThe next day we talked and she told me she had started to develop feelings for the guy and was thinking of pursuing something with him. She is moving home for the summer, he is doing summer sales in another state, and i'm still taking summer classes here. After a few days of her mulling it over she told me that she is stupid not to want to fix things with me because I was willing to take her back. \n\nBut a month later i'm still feeling resentment towards her for it and I feel that she only wants to work things out with me because he is moving away. I feel deeply for her but I still get really mad thinking about it and have trust issues. Any advice how to overcome trust issues or what to do about the situation?", "summary": "My girlfriend cheated on me, I accepted her back, but now I have trust issues and resent her for it."}
{"id": "t3_25gtzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "MY (F, 23) boyfriend (M,24) of 3.5 years wont stop jerking off to this girl he knows on facebook... Need help.", "post": "So as the title says, I'm a 23 year old (F) and He's 25 (M).  We've been together for 3 and half years, living together for the past 2.  We live in a big city for college, and his hometown is 2 hours away from us. When we first started dating, I would go to his apartment and see this girl's facebook open kind of frequently.  I didnt think much of it since they were friends before he moved down to our current city for college.  Once we moved in together it became more frequent and he would delete it from his internet history. (We share a computer) One day I downloaded a movie, and went into the downloads folder on said computer and found files of this girl he recently downloaded of.  Pictures of her. I was devastated.  He had emailed this file to his phone, and kept pictures of her on there as well.  When I approached him about this he admitted to using those pictures to jerk off.  I was an emotional wreck at this point.  \n\nOver the course of the next 1.5 years I found occasional trips to her facebook page, and he kept adding her on snapchat and various social media after I asked him to delete her.  \n\nI dont know how many countless times we've fought over this girl, and me asking for him to cut contact.  \n\nFast forward to yesterday... I found out from a friend you can view search history on facebook on someones page.  I looked it up, he's been looking at her page ever since.  Every few days he searches for her. He deletes it from our chrome history so he thinks he still getting away with it.  \n\nI dont know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Me (F,23) with boyfriend (M,25) of 3.5 years keeps looking at a \"friend\" on facebook and jerking off to her pictures.  He keeps saying he will stop, and says he has stopped but our computer says otherwise.  Need advice. =("}
{"id": "t3_26dlj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "So, this school year's about to end and I was wondering if I should ask this girl out. The chemistry's there, everything. The problem is, she's going to university in september, so she's goes to have to juggle that, her job, and making new friendships and I feel like I'm barely gonna get to see her. I feel like it would work out if we've been together for 1+ years and we're in love, but because we'd just be starting, that would be a difficult thing to deal with right off the bat. I don't know, maybe I'm just being stupid.\n\nDo you think my thoughts are reasonable? Has anybody else been in a similar situation? It seems like she's expecting me to ask her out, so if I choose to not ask her out, should I still tell her in some way?", "summary": "Not sure if I should ask a girl out because she's going to university in a couple months. She'll have to juggle that, a job, and making new friends. Doubt there'd be enough time for her and I. Right choice to not ask her?"}
{"id": "t3_2t1vz0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to mute my phone", "post": "I work at a satellite office away from the rest of my team. Part of my job is to do case reviews/2nd level reviews for exceptions and approvals. We were in our daily huddle where we review our more challenging cases to get group consensus. The rest of the team gathers in a conference room while I dial in remotely. \n\nI had just finished going over one of my cases with the group when one of my local staff came to my desk. She asked if I had a second even though I was on the phone. I nod yes as it's not unusual for me to multitask during this daily huddle.\n\nStaff person says \"You know that file we were working on Friday?\" I say \"Yep.\" She says \"Do you know why Jeff (one of my peers in the main office who is a part of this daily huddle) declined it yesterday while you were out?\"\n\n\"Because Jeff is a fucking moron who only has his job because he must have compromising pics of XXXXXX (named redacted because it was our CEO and I work for a major Fortune 500 company).\"\n\nAt this point the conversation on the call stops. The next voice was my boss saying \"Um... You aren't on mute.\" Awkward silence....\n\nThe next voice was none other than Jeff. \"If I had compromising pics of XXXXXX do you think I would have settled for this job?\"\n\nWe used that moment to review the case in question. Consensus was that Jeff was in fact a moron and shouldn't have declined the file. After the call, I got a bit of a lecture from my boss but walked away relatively unscathed except for a bruised ego.", "summary": "Didn't mute my phone during conference call. Called a peer a fucking moron. He heard it."}
{"id": "t3_2lj5ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [24f] tell this guy [24m] about how I tried to ruin his relationship over 10 years ago?", "post": "Hey, guys\n\nI'll try to keep it short. J was my 'first love'. We studied together for many years, but I moved to a different city 9 years ago, so we lost contact. However, I moved back to my hometown at the beginning of the year, and there was this meetup. We started talking again, and he recently asked me on a date (which will happen this weekend). But there's something bothering me.\n\nEleven years ago, when I was a very stupid teenager and had this huge crush on him, I did something I'm not proud of. I had this older \"friend\" back then, R, who wasn't the nicest person. She was in love with this guy, D, that never gave her any attention, so she would take different boyfriends on a rather short period of time. One of these boyfriends was J. \n\nI knew her well. I knew she didn't like *him* (since she would keep on talking about how the other guy never saw her as more than a friend). But J liked her. And I did want him to be happy. The thing is, in my head, she didn't deserve him, so... I wrote an anonymous letter telling him about how she didn't really like him, how she was just using him to try to get the other guy jealous (she used to say she hoped D would see them together, that \"that would show him\"), so I wasn't lying in that letter. Still, it was a very low thing to do. R ended up having to explain herself to J, and they broke up. I didn't feel happy at all. I felt horrible, and really, really guilty. But I didn't have the guts to tell the truth, so I just stayed friends with both until I moved. I did become more distant, but that was all I did.\n\nSo although it all happened a long time ago, and I like to believe I have got a lot more mature... it still bugs me, now that he and I seem to be on the same page. I do feel bad about what I did, but is it worth bringing up? What do you guys think?", "summary": "tried to ruin this guy's relationship with a \"friend\" over 10 years ago. We met again, and he recently asked me on a date. Should I tell him about what I did?"}
{"id": "t3_39amwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F], am I overreacting to her wanting to travel with friends right after the wedding?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nMy wife and I just got married a few weeks ago and everything had been going really well. We had been together for about 4.5 years and just purchased a home. I ended up putting down double what she did and picked up the tab on the honeymoon (7 nights) as I had told her I would. This week she tells me her (female) friend has invited her to a trip to the Caribbean for 4 nights. This lifelong friend is married, but her husband refuses to travel anywhere far. \n\n\u00a0\n\nMy wife says \"they are about to have kids\" and \"I want to travel with my girlfriends at some point before we have kids too\". When I tell her I am unhappy she says \"well we never get to go on trips like some of my other friends.\" This is when I try to explain to her that none of those friends own a home, which is something she and I both really wanted. We had also been discussing traveling together soon, but with her limited vacation days this trip may conflict with our trip(s). \n\n\u00a0\n\nAnyway, do I have a right to be upset over this? I just feel a little hurt by the fact that she gets to go somewhere I really want to go as well. Also upset at the fact that we just got married, took a long trip for our honeymoon and now she wants to go travel without me.", "summary": "Just got married. Wife wants to go Caribbean island with a (married) GF."}
{"id": "t3_124a29", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (26F) am so into him (24M) but I fear I may have effed up  somehow.", "post": "background: we were acquaintances through mutual friends since about the spring. I remember seeing him just before being introduced and instantly finding him very attractive. I'm not sure if other women think that about him often; it's quite hard to tell. He's more the bookish, cerebral type. \n\n[Less Important Background: One night almost two months ago he came long for drinks with dome of us, and I felt great chemistry alongside a really good conversation.. did I mention he's really, really smart? I was officially smitten.\nBut a number of small issues, and my own shyness, seemed to get in the way of my contacting him after that except to confirm his fb friend request (cue fb-related cringe). ]\n\nSkip ahead to last weekend, and after asking the roommate about our plans he comes to join our little soiree and stays quite a while after the other guests leave.\n \nThe next day he was quite eager to join me on *my* plans for the evening; I ended up joining him at his friend's house which by then was hosting only four of us. More fairly awesome, intelligent conversation, most of it only between the two of us. We walked most of the way home together until we had to go our separate ways, hugged, and that was it. \n\nI remember being just a little surprised that he hadn't tried to kiss me by the way things had been going, and I really hope I didn't reveal that I half expected that, since he seems like a bit of the opposite of the fast-moving type  and not the kind of person to act on any assumptions of my feelings.  \n\nI left feeling happy, attracted, and more, well, respected by a potentially interested straight guy than I had by lots of others, since he hadn't ever resorted to any typical, well,  attempted-subtle 'dude' moves or patronizing and had just been seemed so earnest.\n\nA few brief messages were exchanged the next day, but a couple days ago when I mustered up the guts to casually invite him along to a movie, he was 'tied up' and I haven't heard a peep since.", "summary": "He really did seem interested, just very respectful. But then he declined my invitation a couple days later and I haven't heard anything since. Sigh. "}
{"id": "t3_1mbwba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (22F) be there for my boyfriend (23M) when he won't let me?", "post": "So I've been with my boyfriend for five months, but we haven't seen each for pretty much 2 out of those five because I live about an hour away when school isn't in session and our work schedules keep us from doing so. However, we would talk all the time via text, Facebook, etc. \n\nHowever, he had become incredibly distant towards me. He was ignoring my texts, phone calls, saying that he's going through a lot and he's sorry but he doesn't know what to say. After being ignored for almost a month, I said I wanted to know what was going on because I don't like being kept out of the loop. A week later he responds. He said he's having some major issues trying to figure out what he wants to be and also he found out that his dad may have cancer. \nI told him that I'm so sorry and that I'm here for him no matter what and then he just went back to ignoring me. That was a couple weeks ago and I've tried reaching out with no luck and being completely shot down. \n\nI can't understand what he's going through at all but I don't know what to do anymore. I don't back to school for another two weeks and when I do I'll be ten minutes away from him. However, not hearing from him over a month is really getting to me and I don't know what to do or how to be there for him properly.", "summary": "my boyfriend is going through a tough time but is literally ignoring my attempts to help him."}
{"id": "t3_29r1yv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my FWB [25 M] of four months, is it possible to transition to friends?", "post": "I found myself in a FWB situation a few months ago that was going pretty well. All of these arrangements tend to have a shelf life IMO, but I would really like to be his friend. Things have died down in the last couple of weeks and I am beginning to think it was just a hook up for him. I would like to be friendly and see if we can hang out but I don't want to come off as clingy or obsessed (not that I have already, its just a fear). How can I approach him and say say lets grab a drink, i enjoy your company, and I promise no funny business?", "summary": "Hooking up has ended, how do I transition to friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_3xe0r1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my friend [30/F] of 2 yrs, what is the etiquette of using a gift card at her birthday dinner?", "post": "My friend and coworker is celebrating her birthday by going out to dinner and then dancing. I happen to have a $25 gift card for the restaurant she chose, and I've had it for a while--I don't think I'd use it other than for her birthday. I'm also pretty poor and usually avoid going out to eat. \n\nAnother friend and coworker is coming too and is driving us to the restaurant.\n\nI feel weird about using a gift card while everyone else pays. Should I use the gift card to pay for the birthday girl's meal first, then use the rest on my own meal? Would it be polite for everyone to split the birthday girl's meal and for me to use the card for my portion and my meal? Would the right thing to do be to just reduce the whole bill by the value of the gift card and then split what's left?", "summary": "What is the etiquette of using a gift card at someone else's birthday dinner?"}
{"id": "t3_x0hy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Exes and facebook?", "post": "I'm 20(f), my boyfriend is 23(m). We've been dating for 8 months. We were best friends prior and left our SO's for one another (his of 5 years, mine of 2 years). \n\nIt really REALLY bothers me that when I log onto his computer when he lets me use it, that when i type in a website, I have to see his history of him looking through her facebook pictures. Maybe it's innocent, and I've thought it over a million times, but it still makes my heart sink everytime. It wouldn't matter to me if it was another ex, but it was the ex he left for me. It makes me feel so inadequate. \n\nThey're also neighbors (this also upsets me, but I won't get into it), and almost every time we leave his house, I see him glance over and look into her driveway. \n\nAm I being immature? I want to bring it up with him but don't know how. I'm not jealous of her in any way, but I want to save myself the hurt. He tells me he loves me, and that he didn't love his other relationship even half as much, but I feel like he can't let go of the past regardless. I understand that he was with her for a great chunk of his life, but it's time to move on. Any explanations?", "summary": "My boyfriend looks his ex up on facebook once a week or more. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21pm6l", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Automated door as a revenge bro", "post": "Hey fellow revenge lovers, here's a quickie. \n\nAbout an hour ago, I was standing in line, waiting to get on a greyhound bus (If you care to know it was about 2.5 hours late, so greyhound sucks big donkey nuts).\n\nAnyway, this orange average sized lady moved between me and another person lined up and our luggage without saying excuse me. The guy and I both noticed it. \n\nA few moments later, and she's about to walk through the automatic hinge-opening door, *and...* the door brushed/bumped her on the nose. \n\nI laughed pretty loudly so she'd know I saw it. She turned and looked a bit embarrassed. I proceeded to tell the other guy, and we had a good laugh at her expense.\n\nWhen she came back our way, she said excuse me.\n\n*Now that's what I call ~~Music~~ Justice!", "summary": "Cut through the line without saying excuse me, prepare for portal contact and loud laughter at your expense!"}
{"id": "t3_1rsz1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [24 M] want something more from my friend [18 F]. She may feel the same way but is very immature. Do I keep pursuing?", "post": "I am a senior in college.  This semester, I've transferred to another school.  During that time, I've hit it off with a freshman as friends, we've hung out two or three times a week every week since I've gotten here.  \n\nI saw potential for something more and asked her for dinner and she said yes but then flaked.  Ever since then, things have been weird.  We went to a party and spent most of it together, but she then left without waiting for me.  We texted back and forth last weekend, but this Thurs when I texted her Happy Thanksgiving, she didn't reply.\n\nI never expected this type of behavior from her since she's extremely polite and spiritual.  With only a few weeks left in my program, I'm not sure whether I should keep pursuing her or just assume she's immature/confused and back off.  Part of me says nothing serious can come from this but another part thinks she is just nervous and if we have an honest conversation about this, we can have a mature relationship after.  This is also affecting whether I try to stay in this town an extra semester.", "summary": "I'm crushing on a girl but don't think she's very mature.  Should I keep pursuing?***"}
{"id": "t3_3np7rh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my wife [36 F] (married a year, been together 6 years): She wants to have a gay guy friend come over and sleep in our bed and cuddle with her while I'm out of town. I got weird about it. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "I know and met the guy. He's a nice guy.  You would never guess him to be gay in any way. He and my wife clicked right away.\n\nAnyway, we don't know him *that* well. We've hung out maybe 4 times. My wife asked me right out if I would care if he came over when I was out of town and slept with her.  Said there was nothing wrong with cuddling with a gay man. Actually went on to say that she could have a full-on emotional relationship with someone without it being sexual (which geez kinda sounds like an emotional affair to me).\n\nSo I got weird about it.  Not sure why exactly, but I'm not comfortable with another guy in my bed with my wife when I'm not there. Gay or straight.  Perhaps it's worth mentioning that he was straight most of his life. Perhaps it isn't.\n\nThe thing that bothers me most is that she didn't say \"Ok, thank you for sharing your boundary with me. I wont push the issue.\"  -- She *did* push the issue. Argued as to why I was wrong about it. Brought up past relationships of mine when I was with \"more alternative people\" and called me \"vanilla.\"  The whole exchange left me seething for  a myriad of reasons beyond the original discussion. I began to feel as if my feelings (even if they WERE old school or unreasonable) were Invalid. Never a good feel.\n\nWhat's your take?  Am I being unreasonable about the whole thing? Would you let a gay man sleep and cuddle in your bed with your wife while you weren't there? Why or why not? What if the tables were turned? For the ladies out there, would you let your husband sleep and cuddle with a gay woman while you were out of town? Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Wife wants to have a gay guy friend come over and sleep in our bed with her while I'm out of town. I got weird about it. Am I being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_unpk3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some help finding an old game, 80's and early 90's kids please help!", "post": "The game I'am trying to find involves a cat and the point of the game was to place traps for the cat (needles is the only trap i remember). I vaguely remember that the cat was purple and the game had neat cartoony graphics (considering how old it would be now graphics were good). I can't for the life of me remember what the point of the game was, but I remember me and my little brother playing this and having a really good time at around the age of 9 to 10. I have spent alot of time on google trying to find this but I can't find what I am looking for, which makes me consider the possibility that this was a \"minigame\" of sorts, or maybe an old game they sent out with Happy Meals. I am not referring to Rodent's Revenge, although that was a fun game for its time to.", "summary": "I am looking for an old game that involves needles and various traps you set for a purple cat to fall on. Sounds better than it is :p"}
{"id": "t3_24k1uu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mid 30's F having issues with late 30's male- Roommates", "post": "Me (35F) work and live with a (38M). Yes we are just roommates but I have a hard time dealing with the fact that he goes out sometimes and sleeps around with this one girl in particular that we both know from work (she works on a construction crew at our business). I have made it known to him that I am in love with him and want to go further but he always says no. We have fooled around but never had sex and when I mention going further and actually being in a relationship he says no. No one at work knows about our living situation. We have managed to keep it a secret for almost 2 years now. His family thinks we are a couple and so does mine. It hurts because I want that so bad but he is so against it. I know he doesn't owe me an explanation as to where he is going but he does. He says he is going out to pick something up and that he will be right back. Well he never comes back until the next morning and of course I am worried because he says he will be right back. I think he doesn't want to have sex with me because of my weight. That could just be me being insecure but that is what my gut is telling me. Sorry for the long post but I wanted to attempt to give some sort of a back story. I need help figuring my feelings out. I am thinking of moving out so I can find someone that truly loves all of me but I would be devastated if I moved out. He says he doesn't want me to leave either but he isn't willing to give me what I want. I need advice please! Any is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "M and F in 30's- I'm in love with him but he doesn't feel the same"}
{"id": "t3_13b67z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's (24) dad (50s?) makes me (23) feel uncomfortable.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend almost a year and I have met his parents a number of times, though they live almost two hours away from us. His dad constantly comments on how I look and I hate it. I think it's why his mom doesn't like me. He'll tell me that he likes tall girls (I'm 5'9\", wife is probably 5'4\") and point out to his wife how I eat less and that's why I'm so much skinnier than her. This makes me feel awful, especially because I like his mom a lot. Last time I saw him, he said I should come with them to the next Star Trek convention and wear the outfit the girls wear in the Mirror, Mirror episode. His mom is never mean to me, just ignores his father and me, most of the time, which I totally understand and I wish he would knock it off. \n\nMy boyfriend acts like it's totally normal, and I feel like if I say anything it will make everything awkward forever. I definitely plan on marrying this guy, and we're having Thanksgiving at his parents next week. I'm inclined to dress frumpy around his father, but I also hate the idea of him influencing my appearance. We see him maybe once a month, but we're also going to Las Vegas with his family for Christmas. I'm just frustrated this is something I have to deal with.", "summary": "Boyfriend's dad makes inappropriate comments about my appearance. I hate it but don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_4fiyw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does my girlfriend [24f] make jokes about breaking up / being interested in other guys to gauge my [24m] interest level?", "post": "We have only been dating for 2 months. She is the first girl I have been with but I am the third guy she has been with (two previous relationships of 8 months each). We both lost our virginities to each other so I would like to think there is some over-attachment to each other on both of our ends. At this point in our lives, we both want our goals to be marriage.\n\nHowever, she always makes jokes about breaking up with me. She is an attractive girl and gets asked for her phone number by guys on campus quite often.\n\nFor example, I just got back home last night to California from a 5 day college event in Kansas and she picked me up at the airport. 15 minutes into the drive she said \"rambosalad, I have a new boyfriend.\" I thought it was just another one of her jokes so I brushed it off. She slept over that night (no sex, just cuddling) and in the morning she again said, \"rambosalad, I don't like you anymore, I have a new boyfriend.\" I got very upset about it and after about 10 minutes of me being silent she said \"I am so happy you are upset, you must really like me.\" and then she said that she was joking about being interested in that other guy, and that he already has a girlfriend.\n\nI told her these break up jokes / boyfriend jokes upset me. We had sex very early in the relationship, and she has asked me before if I am just using her for sex or if I really love her, so I think she thinks I am using her for sex, which is not true. So I can't tell if 1. she is trying to gauge my interest level in her to see how I react or 2. she really wants to break up and see other guys because I made her promiscuous / interested in sex with other guys. She said she really enjoys sex now. (One of the reasons she wanted to have sex with me was because she was curious about sex, since one of the reasons her last boyfriend broke up with her was for not having sex.)", "summary": "girlfriend jokes a lot about being interested in other guys / breaking up, and I can't tell if she is trying to gauge my interest level or she is really interested in them"}
{"id": "t3_2v8qxm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not having blinds.", "post": "So mine and my SO's house is out in the country on a farm. My parents live on the same farm and are the only other house on the road. My house door opens up to my living room, and my door also has a tiny window on it. We have no blinds because a dog we were sitting ate them. Anyway, onto the fuck up. \n\nLast night my SO and I were having sex on our living room floor when my 13 yo sister, mom, and dad decided to stop by. We heard someone run up onto our porch and flew off each other. My sister peeked through the window on the door and quickly ran off. I ran to the back of the house. Shortly afterwards, my sister texted me and said \"scarred for life.\"\n\nToday I was at my parents house, and my dad said \"So you wouldn't believe this, but last night I saw someone naked running through your house.\" I said \"Uhhh did you,\" and he said \"you should really get some blinds.\"", "summary": "Had sex on living room floor, parents and little sister saw through the windows. I need curtains."}
{"id": "t3_39lsia", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by skipping an assembly", "post": "So, Im in grade 11 and yesterday was the second last day of classes. I was informed by a friend that there would be a long assembly so we decided to skip. As a disclaimer I try pretty hard in school and pretty much never skip classes. But this was just gonna be a \"goodbye from the school and have a nice summer\" type deal so I just thought fuck it. Around 30 minutes after we leave I start getting texts from my friends in the assembly. \"You won an award Ya dumb shit\" \"Make that 2. Ur a fucking idiot\". Turns out it wasn't just a goodbye assembly. It was the awards/scholarship assembly, I won 2 awards for getting the highest mark in 2 of my core classes. Fuck. Now every single teacher knows I skipped cause they announced my name and waited 5 minutes for me to not show up on the stage. Now it's halfway through the last day of school and I've received a 10 minute lectures from 2 teachers already. It's not a big deal but all the staff including the secretary that I had to go get the awards from this morning are giving me a hard time. Now I'm known as the smart dude who is also a dumbass.", "summary": "skipped assembly. Won award. -10 rep"}
{"id": "t3_34nhes", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my friend attractive", "post": "So, I have this friend. He's in his early 20s, and he confided in me a few months ago that he's started balding. He's extremely self conscious about it - in fact, it's the only thing he's self conscious about. He decided that instead of battling it, he would just shave his head.\n\nAfter a few weeks of not talking very much, we decided to meet up. Customary compliments were exchanged. He was incredibly sweet. And I said,'Wow! I love what you've done with your hair.'\n\nHe laughed awkwardly and said 'Oh, stop!' (I thought he was doing that 'Oh, stop, but really keep complimenting me.' thing.)\n\nWe happened to bump into a mutual friend, and I got him onto the complimenting-train, both of us complimenting his newly shaven head. \n\nHe seemed a bit quiet, and later, when I was getting the train home, I asked what was wrong. He hadn't shaved his head at all. \nTo make matters worse, he thought I knew this - and mutual friend happened to be a guy he had admitted to being jealous of, and he thought I was using that against him too.", "summary": "He hadn't shaved."}
{"id": "t3_2roa34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] got asked out by a guy [23 M] I met on tinder after exchanging less than 10 messages. Is it too soon to meet up with him?", "post": "So I met this guy on Tinder, and we seem to have some things in common. It also doesn't help that he's attractive. And he comes off as respectful as well. But the thing is, we only exchanged 10 messages with each other, to estimate. And within the 10 messages, he asked me out for coffee and for some reason, I agreed. Am I moving a little too fast? The exchange between us was within the span of 2 days. \n\nAlso, a part of me kind of liked how he asked me out right away because I talk to lots of guys on Tinder and I feel like the conversation drags on, leading nowhere. And by then, it would leave us with nothing to talk about by the time I actually meet up with them. Honestly, I don't know how online dating works, so I can't tell if it's too early or not but I have a good vibe about him? Have you guys ever met someone online right away? Was your gut feeling correct?", "summary": "A guy from tinder asked me out for coffee even though we haven't been talking for too long. Too soon?"}
{"id": "t3_13w4sw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently realized that I can come off as an asshole sometimes when I'm talking to people. Nice people, what tips do you have for me? Asshole haters, what would you like to see more of from the people you talk to?", "post": "Here's the story. My roommate was introducing me to some of his hometown friends and things went as normal. I mildly ridiculed them (as is my tendency with everybody, I'm just used to it, I guess) and after we returned to the dorm, my roommate let me know that he thinks they may have been slightly offended at my bitter attitude. Somewhere in the past couple of years I picked up the tendency to over employ the use of sarcasm. I just realized that this makes me seem like a jerk when I talk to people. I'm a pretty nice person in action. I'm almost always willing to help out, blah blah blah. I just want people to see this in me from the first impression, and not some shitty Jay Leno/Dane Cook knock-off. So, kind people of Reddit, what do you guys do when talking to people? And those who have no tolerance for douches and assholes, what do you want to see more of from the people you talk to?\n\n(Note: I'm looking for real answers. Not \"be kinder to people\" or \"stop being sarcastic.\" I want something at least a little deeper. Like what perspectives you have on new ideas, poor situations, etc. and what you think of the people you talk to, especially irritating, stupid, or difficult people.)", "summary": "I'm a jerk when I talk, but not when I act. What do nice people do to be nice? Deep answers please."}
{"id": "t3_k9pbs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I love my boyfriend, how can I help him lose weight?", "post": "I've never been bothered by the weight; he wears it well, it doesn't affect my attraction to him or our sex life. But I worry about his health and I see how it affects his confidence - he hates to be in photos, dresses in larger clothes to \"hide\" his weight - which doesn't work - and he \"uses\" food in a very unhealthy way. \n\nThis man, he is awesome. We've been together a year, been friends for two, he is funny and cool and handsome - all around, my best friend. I will help and support him in any way I can and I am happy to join him in any plans.\n\nI don't think he would be open to \"support groups,\" and I know that anything that I do \"with\" him - diet, exercise, etc - he will stick to. He was about sixty pounds heavier two years ago, and dropped it with diet, keeping busy with work, but he also used bulimia as a way of coping with his \"food addiction.\" He kicked that habit earlier in the year and has gained a little bit of weight back since - how do I help him drop the next sixty? \n\nHave you ever helped someone lose weight? Have you ever been helped to lose weight? Have you lost weight and have advice to share?  If I were YOUR girlfriend, how would you want to be helped?", "summary": "The title, yo."}
{"id": "t3_30na41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M23] broke up with my gf [F23] of 2 years and now I feel like I don't know if I made the right decision.", "post": "I just need to get this off my chest any input from anyone would be greatly appreciated.\n\nSo I broke up with her about a month ago. We were together for about 2 years. She is an alcoholic and had depression, and it felt like a toxic relationship at least from my end which basically made me breaking it off in the end. \n\nHowever I feel like I still miss her I know she loved me and I loved her, but I couldn't take the drinking and the constant accusations of me doing stuff I never did. I was completely faithful to her the entire time but I was constantly accused of cheating and she became physical more then once towards. And I never once laid a finger on her. \n\nBut for some reason I can't stop thinking about her but I can't tell if it's cuz I was in such a long relationship or if I was really meant to be with her. I do miss her and I know she would take me back if I asked her. I just don't know if it would be the right idea.", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend that had depression and was an alcoholic. Still miss her and is wondering if getting back together the right decision."}
{"id": "t3_1rzfdq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My best friend's younger sister.", "post": "I've known her since she was 11. Now she's 19 and I'm 24. Before this year, I hadn't thought about her as anything but a surrogate sister. When I came home from college, though, I was suddenly attracted to her. \n\nIn general, she's pretty cool. She's a goofball with a good heart. She likes to have fake boxing matches when I'm around and she always has some new baked snack at the ready. Lately, she's been a little flirty with me. It's possible she might just be having fun, but a shameful part of me hopes not. (I think you all know that part. The one that wills the desired person to suddenly, telepathically, understand that you want to fuck them all over the house without you having to articulate it.)\n\nI don't know for sure if she would be up for it. Hell, I don't know for sure if *I* would be up for it. My friend is more like a brother to me now, and his family is pretty much mine as well. I couldn't really tell you if they'd be cool with it or if my head would adorn a pike and I'm not sure I want to risk over a decade of friendship for sex; no matter how winkish that freckled, slender cutie gets.", "summary": "I want to scoop up my best friend's 19-year-old sister in my arms and make love to her until we die of exhaustion."}
{"id": "t3_v6qbm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mixed emotions (cross post from 2x)", "post": "[original post](\n\nThrowaway as my SO is often lurking 2X. \n\nI'll start off with saying that I am madly in love with my SO. We have an incredible relationship, we talk about everything. We are the same age (he is 6 months older) and in our mid twenties. \n\nI was on a business trip a month ago and got to meet people (mostly guys) older than myself. In my line of work the male to female ratio is pretty bad but this is something I'm used to (and **enjoy**) and my SO is ok with that! One of the guys (10 years older) showed great interest in me. I told him to back off (in a polite manner) and he was professional about it. \n\nThe problem is, for that entire 2 weeks there was the most amazing chemistry between us. You could say I developed a crush, I found myself daydreaming about him during the entire trip. It's like I had this **NEED** that I didn't know about. I can't stop thinking about him or what it would be like to be with an older guy. It's a good thing we live far away from each other because I'm not sure what I would do if I ran into him again. I'm not sure if I'm just bored or unsatisfied in my current relationship. I **crave** new things/people all the time. I'm always traveling somewhere new, taking up a new hobby. \n\nI never thought I would be into older guys. I have this intense crave 2X what do you think? \n\nDisclaimer: I would never EVER cheat on my SO. I'm trying to get these thoughts out of my head. The only way I could see myself being with this guy is if my SO and I were no longer together.", "summary": "currently in a relationship with someone same age (mid 20s), discovered this interest/chemistry with older guy (10 years). Never thought I would be into older guys. Not sure what to do/how to feel. Also please read disclaimer! "}
{"id": "t3_2bu15x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by molesting a handicapped strangers face", "post": "Ok so here goes.\nIt was a fairly lazy Saturday, got up at noon had a meeting at the bank. Then I decided to check out a movie at the local Indi theatre, they were playing \"the double\" which I'd wanted to see for a while. \n\nI was a bit later than expected getting to the theatre probably around 10 minutes late for the film. It so happened to be a fairly sunny day outside as well so when I rushed in paid for my ticket and hurried into the theatre to find a seat I was basically blind.\n\nStumbling down the pitch black theatre squinting trying to find a seat I put my hand out to brace myself on a seat. Turns out it was a man in a wheelchairs face, his right eye and part of his mouth to be exact and of course a bright preview comes on just as my hand lands on him.\n\nHe screams out \"WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING\" I (in complete shock) reel back in terror and stammer out \"my god I'm so sorry sir\". The rest of the audience erupts in a symphony of \"shhhhhhhh\". The man in the wheelchair tells me to \"fuck off\" gives me the finger and I quickly find a seat.\n\nThank God the movie was good...\n\nAfter it was over I just faced forward stared at the credits and saw him roll by giving me this I will murder your face glare.", "summary": "showed up late to a movie, couldn't see a free seat, ended up hand raping a strange man in a wheelchairs face. The movie was great."}
{"id": "t3_axsj6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please tell me I did the right thing, Reddit!", "post": "I created an account because this is bothering me so much! I'm new at this, sorry if it's not in the right place.\n\nHere's the story, there's a couple who live in the apartment above my boyfriend and I. They fight almost daily, I've never heard people fight like they do. They throw things, we can hear things breaking, stomping up and down the halls and the most part of their screaming conversations. Tonight they got into a pretty huge fight and I heard the girl eventually yell \"Don't you dare fucking hit me again!\" then she screamed and ran down the hall into what would be their master bedroom. The guy yelled \"FUCK YOU\" and stomped after her. It freaked me out, I figured he was beating her so I called 911. Two cops came and they talked to the people upstairs for about 15 minutes and left. The boyfriend comes downstairs and apologizes to me, almost in tears, for all the noise and said it will never happen again and all that jazz. So tell me Reddit, did I do the right thing? I feel terrible for some reason, since the girl was probably not hurt, I'm guessing, and the boyfriend was so nice to me.", "summary": "I heard a couple fighting and what could have been the boyfriend beating the crap out of the girl, I called the cops. Girl must have been fine and the cops left. Did I do the right thing?"}
{"id": "t3_4z2v7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am supposed to leave soon for university, and I am worried about what effect this will have on my relationship with my girlfriend [17F] of three years.", "post": "I am well aware that teenage relationships like ours do not tend to last, typically for this reason or reasons similar to it. My GF and I are very close, but between my own uncertainty as to whether I'm *in* love with her and the fact that I'll be leaving for an entirely different county soon, I'm left feeling unsure about the future and how best to protect her from heartbreak as much as possible, because she seems *very* invested in the relationship on account of severe issues with her self-esteem. Compared to other questions on this sub, this seems pretty insignificant, but I couldn't think where else to ask for some guidance from those who are more experienced with relationships than I am.", "summary": "I'm leaving for university soon; what does that mean for my relationship with my girlfriend, who I want to protect from being hurt by me?"}
{"id": "t3_2lj4kn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [28/M] thinking about trying to reconnect with an ex [26/F] whom I broke up with 5-6 years ago.", "post": "We dated for about 2.5 years and has been by far my longest relationship as well as the only 'real' one.  When I broke up with her my reasoning at the time was that I had feelings for another woman, I thought it wasn't fair to my ex to continue the relationship if I felt that way.  It also seemed like she \"wasn't the one\".  It's been years since then I still think of her from time to time.  A lot of: was my reasoning right, did I make the right choice, regrets about what happened.   \n  \nAbout 3 or so years after the breakup I decided, after being given the idea, to write a letter.  One of those where you simply write what you feel with no intention of sending it.  And I didn't, for a few months.  After a while though I felt that I needed to say these things to her.  So I sent her an email, basically apologizing and telling her she did nothing wrong, etc, etc.  Now its been a few years since then and my thoughts still drift to her.  \n  \nThis past summer I nearly killed myself but ended up getting help instead.  Since then I've started medication that finally works for my depression and have just started group therapy for anxiety.  I've even quit smoking pot.  For the first time in over a decade I feel like I'm getting better instead of worse.  Anyways, today while cleaning I came across some old photographs and notes/cards, and could see/read how happy we both were.  I've been thinking a great deal about trying to reconnect, not necessarily to get back together, but maybe to become friends?  Or at least chat via email, I dunno.  Maybe I'm just getting nostalgic, or maybe how I was then led me to making the wrong decision.  \n  \nShould I even bother contacting her?  Am I just kidding myself?  Sometimes I think I watch too many shows/movies where everything works out in the end and I'm hoping for that here.", "summary": "Broke up with gf, years later still think about her.  Should I bother trying to reconnect?  Evan as friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1qcv6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] have been with my GF [22/F] for a year and 4 months and I have such an urge to leave her sometimes...", "post": "We have our problems, like any other relationship. She has severe social anxiety and OCD. She doesn't enjoy being in rooms with a lot of other people. She doesn't enjoy parties or going out too much, which I do. So it leads to tension. \n\nShe doesn't want me to leave her alone but I don't want to stay in the house all the time. When I go to visit friends, she'll text me before I even arrive, asking if I can come home. And when I tell her I'm not ready to come back, she'll get angry and things get even more tense.\n\nShe doesn't enjoy sex that much, unless I focus on her. She doesn't want to put forth the effort to do anything for me, which makes me angry and a bit sad. Sad that we can't share in that. She's told me she doesn't get much out of sex so what's the point?\n\nWe have our good days. We have our bad days. The bad days seem to outnumber the good. But, however bad it is, when I look at her, I get happy and think, how could I have considered leaving? But then, a short time passes and we're arguing because I haven't done the dishes when she wanted them done or I've done something that aggravated her.\n\nI love her, but I don't know if I can live my life with so much tension and unhappiness. I can't leave my home without her getting mad at me for doing so. I've said that I won't leave someone because they are ill, and she is. She has a mental illness. It's so hard. I don't know what to do or what to think. I really just want someone who can relate and hear what they've done or are doing because I don't know how much longer I can last. Please help..", "summary": "GF has anxiety and OCD which causes us to have a lot of tension. I'm unhappy but love her. How do I handle this? How can I improve the situation before our relationship explodes?"}
{"id": "t3_2aa7cv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lending my tree house to an alcoholic", "post": "My family owns a little house in the countryside. This place is pretty nice and calm and we spend almost every weekend there.\n\nIn front of our house lives an old couple of farmers. They own a nice house with chickens, some goats and two cows. They earn a living from their animals and the vegetables they plant, however, money gets short sometimes. So, my father offered the old farmer a job at our place. He mows the lawn, takes care of our animals, and watches the house when we aren't there. \n\nThis guy is also the biggest drinker you could imagine. He has been drinking since he was 12 and goes every day to the town's bar. He has gone so many times to the bar (45 min away), that his horse has fully memorised the way from the bar to his house. Sometimes when he passes out in the bar, his friends just throw him over Flash (how his horse is called) and the horse alone finds the way home with his unconscious owner on his back.\n\nAlso, his wife really hates when he drinks. Sometimes when he is really drunk she doesn't let him sleep inside the house and he has to sleep outside. Luckily this is in Colombia and we have summer time every day of the year. One day I walked by his house and saw him sleeping in the chicken stall. After I laughed my ass off (I couldn't help it), I told him that the next time he could sleep in my tree house. My father built it for me when I was little and has been kinda abandoned for years. \n\nI fucked up. The guy came really drunk last night and broke his leg while trying to climb the ladder. I feel so guilty right now. At least he won't be riding to the bar anytime soon...", "summary": "tried to help out an old alcoholic friend by giving him a place to pass out; drunk friend injured himself instead."}
{"id": "t3_3vkv96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21F] Friend [22F] is Abusive to her BF [22M] and it Pisses Me Off", "post": "One of my close friends has been dating this guy for like 6 months, she treats him poorly and it bothers me. She talks to him in a really condescending way and she's really demanding, she expects him to do every single thing for her, and she's slapped him several times. And that's just that I've seen, I'm sure she's done it more when I'm not around, and maybe even worse than slapping. I'm a really caring person, probably almost to a detriment, so I'm quite concerned and I have talked to him once before about their relationship and how she treats him. And she found out about that and got pissed at me, accusing me of trying to get him to cheat on her with me and stuff. I want to talk to my friend about it too, maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing? I feel really intimidated by her though and I don't know how to talk to her about it because she'll get defensive and start saying I'm insulting her or something.", "summary": "My friend is abusive to her boyfriend and it bothers me, I've talked to him about it before and she got mad at me. I want to talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_4xb3nm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23F) made out with a friend of a friend (20M), is it a bad idea to go after him?", "post": "I meet a group of friends of a friend a couple of weeks ago. I kept hanging around this guy and we ended up making out. He started it, but he was also pretty wasted. We ended up following each other on instagram afterwards and we do have each other's number but haven't talked ever since. My friend invited me to hang out with them all again this Saturday.\n\nI feel like he's out of my league and I don't want to come across as the \"desperate chick that thought I was into her ugh gross\" because the word spreads. He's one of these cool skater guys going to a private uni to study art, and I'm the public school, studying law with a scholarship kind of chick. Meaning, probably not his type. I don't even have a tattoo.\n\nI'd like to find out if he's sorta into me or not because for all I know he mistook me for someone else, and gauge my chances with him. But I also fear meeting again is going to be super awkward and all he and all his friends are going to judge me and realize I'm into him and talk crap and humilliate me. I don't want/need to date him but maybe \"get to know each other better\" or whatever it is that people do. Make out more. Maybe get laid. Not die.", "summary": "kissed a friend of a friend, he was wasted, do I have any chance at all with him or nah."}
{"id": "t3_wfu7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would or do you snoop on your SO or roommates computer?", "post": "My GF lives with one other girl and three guy roommates (I am not one of them).  She leaves her room unlocked/open when she leaves the house.  I've asked if she has her computer log in pw protected and she said no.  So I asked her if she thought any of the guys in the house would look at her pc while she is away and she was confident they would not (she very much dislikes one of them and he knows it).   My opinion is it's human nature to be curious about something that is easily accessible.  She is very pretty/sexy and we have exchanged sexy pics/emails/chats so I know she has things I would love to see if I didn't know her.  Not saying they would access her PC for evil reasons but sneak a peak just out of curiosity.  Hate to say it, think I probably would.  Would you?", "summary": "My GF leaves her room unlocked with 3 guy roommates and am concerned human curiosity would get the best of them and they would get on her computer to snoop around.  Would you?  Do you?"}
{"id": "t3_iwgdo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it legal for a landlord hold my deposit for property that isn't mine?", "post": "So here is the situation. In Washington state, my old landlord had 4 of us living in the house until march. One guy moved out and we found another roommate and started a month to month lease. The guy that moved out left his broken down girlfriends car in the driveway. Now in June when we are moving out of the house. The landlord is holding our security deposit until we get rid of the car or charging us to remove it. Is this legal? His claim is that he did not know about the car before he returned the guy that moved outs deposit so it is our responsibility.", "summary": "Car that isn't mine is holding up getting my deposit back. Is it legal?"}
{"id": "t3_f9n3d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got into a physical fight with my boss. What do I do now?", "post": "My boss and I got into a little argument about moving offices. He then moves the cart we are packing up and deliberately does one of those throw my shoulder into your shoulder deals. I pushed him back and we got into a little tussle in the hall and I ended up punching right in the face. I really didn't mean to but it hit him square in the nose and he was bleeding everywhere. I just left because I got scared the whole office was going to attack me. What should I do? Do I show up to work tomorrow? This is an account I made awhile back to mess with the trolls. I know its probably not the best name but it was already made. Please help me out.", "summary": "Punched my boss in the face and I left the building. What should I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_1b08hq", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "We (F/24, M/26) broke up a week ago. I can't stop having dreams about us getting back together & immediately getting married.", "post": "Three year relationship with multiple breaks. I've had my heart broken by him so many times that this is the final straw for me. Sometimes I feel sad about the breakup, other times I feel fine about it. But every single night for the past week I've dreamt about him & it's always him coming to apologize about how we broke up and to ask me to marry him. \n\nThis is driving me up a wall. I'm going a little insane from it. I thought this guy was \"the one\" but us breaking up multiple times throughout our relationship tells me he isn't. I really, really want to try and work through this and get over it on my own terms, but these dreams are making it very difficult. I wake up feeling pretty sad and like I don't want to get out of bed. I know this could probably just be my sub-conscious telling me what I had hoped would happen between us, but this is very hard to deal with. \n\nGoing from making plans & a future together with this man to having everything ripped out from under my feet hasn't been easy. How can I better cope with this? I've had breakups before, but this was my most serious relationship and it's rough. I know this isn't a lot of detail, but I'd be writing an entire book if I included the multiple ups and downs we've been through. I'd appreciate anyone's advice. Thanks.", "summary": "Three year relationship with a lot of ups & downs, been broken up for a week & I keep having dreams about us getting married. How do I let this go & move on from it?"}
{"id": "t3_1sbe5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18M) and my significant other (16F) broke up last night after 3 years after I found out she had been cheating on me.", "post": "Me and my SO have been together for 3 years. Through thick and thin we always managed to get through everything. I understand we are both young but I honestly thought I was going to marry this girl. We told each other we loved one another everyday for as long as I can remember and I honestly did.\n\nI suffer from depression and anxiety and she really was the only ray of light I had. I looked forward to talking or seeing her everyday. I found out last night after always having slight suspicion that she was cheating on me. She was accually dating someone else for the past 3 months.\n\nI am in a very dark place now. I have few friends and no one I can really talk about this to. She honestly got me through the days. My heart is broken and I'm not sure if I can go on.", "summary": "My SO of 3 years has been cheating on me for the past 3 months. My world is flipped upside down."}
{"id": "t3_2n8u1t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my cousins and friends [30's], trying to figure out why they are being rude to me or is this just a part of life.", "post": "So i've invited my cousins to events, either that i've had or events I go to. I either text them or send/write messages on Facebook and they never reply. The girl is always complaining about how she can't meet the right man and I invite her to hang out with my friends. I have no problem if she says no, but she never even acknowledges that I even sent her a message. Her brother is the same way. My male cousin has 3 kids, and I understand that\n\nWe used to all be close when we were young, and I would always invite them to my house to hang out. I noticed that they never invited me to come over to their house, and that bothered me. My brother [33] also noticed this. So now it seems like they are only interested in meeting up on Thanksgiving/Xmas. They only recently(maybe 4 years ago) started being interested in meeting up for the holidays. So for the holidays we \"made\" our own family with friends, and it's been a tradition for a while now. I actually like hanging out with my friends during holidays more than my actual family, and i feel guilty about this but I don't want to.\n\nAlso some people I have been really close with have basically ended contact with me after marriage/kids. I understand that this sometimes happens, but I figured family is supposed to be close.", "summary": "Family and friends stopped being close to me is it something I need to stress over or just keep doing as im doing?"}
{"id": "t3_2rymc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my kinda girlfriend(?) [27 F] few weeks, not meet up since New Year's Eve", "post": "Kind of wondering where it's all gone wrong. I've recently taking things to the next level with a girl I've known for a while, we were friends for ages I kind of knew she always liked me but I was really bad a reading signs, anyway mutual friends pushed us in the right direction and we got together before Christmas finally, we've been on loads of dates and getting close. It was great - we were getting on so well, always texting and flirting and having fun. New Year's Eve came around and I made the move to stay over at hers and we had a great night. The sex wasn't that great if I'm honest - I was nervous and a bit drunk and she was too but we both had a good time and it was all good the next day. I think...\n\nSince then, almost nothing. I've not seen her (despite asking her out several times - she's finding all sorts of excuses) she's hardly texting (I'm initiating all conversations), 2 calls went to voicemail (she was at work to be fair). It's just a complete one way street, I just can't work out if she's gone off me or if I've upset her in some way or what.\n\nI really like her and she was so keen before NYE but since then I just don't know what our relationship is. I'm not really prepared to be the one to put in all the effort all the time and keep asking her out. It makes me seem desperate. I expect she probably wants to go back to being friends but I don't really think I can do that. \n\nIs this over before it's even really started?", "summary": "Long term friend and I got together NYE, hardly any contact since then :("}
{"id": "t3_50898n", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "How do I get cat to get along with kitten?", "post": "Hi, Reddit. I adopted the resident cat from a home that was fostering 11 other kittens so I figured he might love another cat. He has a great big personality, very affectionate, high energy, vocal. He's a big love. My resident cat is 18 weeks and my new kitten (sweet, maybe a little timid[?], goes bananas when it's time to play) is 10 weeks old. \n\nI got the kitten a few days ago and within the past couple of days, she seems to have gotten over what the breeder referred to as \"separation anxiety\" peeing (i.e. peeing on beds, NOT going in litter even when I place her there pre/mid/post-pee). Resident cat still growling and hissing at the kitten. (Currently both are NOT neutered/spayed; awaiting vet appointment to neuter my guy; female kitten too young right now. I DO plan to have both \"fixed\".)\n\nMy main concern at this point is getting the resident cat to stop hissing and growling at the kitten. Kitten will hiss back. Nothing ever escalated into a fight. At this point, the cat will consistently go over to kitten, sniff around and then growl. Cat probably swatted at her once in these whole three days. Right now, they're running around and chasing each other (no violence, just chasing with minimal growling, some hissing, some \"brr?\" trilling - not sure what to call this sound). Does this look like it's taking a step in the right direction, or is there more that I should be doing to facilitate the relationship?", "summary": "Resident cat (18 wks)  hissing and growling at new kitten (10 wks). Currently chasing one another back and forth, making trilling sounds, but still ultimately hissing and running away - rinse and repeat. I want to make sure I'm setting the relationship up for success. Ideally would love for them to be a harmonious kitten pile."}
{"id": "t3_eq9bi", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I think I made Santa's 'Good' list this year", "post": "I live in Massachusetts, which means it was snowing all day, and roads were sloppy.  Normally jerkish drivers became super jerkly.  As I crept along the main street in our town, I saw one poor lady trying to make a left hand turn.  She had clearly been waiting a while, there was a loooong line of cars behind her.  She kept looking in her rear view mirror and shaking her head anxiously.  \nI left her go, getting honked at by the car behind me.  She waved, I waved back.\nThat's when I saw the red sedan behind her. The driver waved at me, and blew me a kiss in thanks as he merrily took off.  \nIt was friggin' Santa.  Like, white beard, jolly, and red fuzzy hat with white trim.\nTotally made my day.", "summary": "Sometimes Santa noticed when you are naughty, and when you're nice."}
{"id": "t3_2oj02f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] don't know how to help my friend[18/F]. She's suffering an eating disorder.", "post": "Ok, this is the plot (sorry if you have a hard time trying to understand what I'm going to write, but I'm not a english native speaker):\n\nI have friend, she always complained about how she looks and stuff (she's really gorgeous), but well, I thought that was normal and nothing serious yet.\n\nThe thing is, that problem is getting stronger, and the last conversations I got with her, she came with some photos of pretty skinny girls, telling me that se want to look like that. Right now, she is telling to me that she started a diet. Literally, she won't eat any shit for the next 15 days, and when se starts to become hungry, she will just drink water. I'm like wtf? She has been my friend since long time ago, I really love her and I know that's pretty fucked up.\n\nI don't know what to do to help her. I'm pretty angry right now and I don't know how to handle this situation. PLEASE, I need to help her", "summary": "My friend is suffering an eating disorder and I don't know what to do to help her"}
{"id": "t3_3m4858", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] My GF [27/f] Wants time alone,I'm austistic, What am i suposed to do?", "post": "So this relationship has been going on for 2 years, We've had some problems so i went for a trip, seeing my family and such for a couple of weeks and things were much better when i got home between us.\nNow, things are still much better than before, but see told me today she didn't want things to go back as before and that she is overworked, needs some time alone to regain energy. I understand that. I'm unemployed and she's asking me to hurry up getting a job. I'm searching everyday, but the thing is, even if i got a job from 9-5, She still works (her own business) to 7-8 everyday. So i would still be home when she got home. So what am i supose to do to give her some alone time? I can't go out everynight to a bar. And going on another trip i can't afford.", "summary": "My GF Wants time alone to regain energy in the evenings, I dont know what to do alone in the evenings."}
{"id": "t3_52ulii", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF's parents are abusive, I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons....\nOkay so a little bit of back story, I have been dating this girl for a little over a month, but I have known her family for around 4 years. \n\nRecently my GF told me she wasn't feeling well, I noticed she had some bruises on her, I asked her what had happened and she told me that her dad had beat her.\n\nShe continued to explain that this had been happening for over 5 years from both parents and the abuse had been both physical and emotional. \n\nThis lead her into depression and self harm, she also was very specific about the beatings and the things they would say, but out of respect I will not share those details on Reddit.\n\nShe has told me that it isn't that bad, but i truly believe it is after everything she has told me, She has asked me not to try and take any action out of fear of her parents finding out that she had told other people about the abuse.\n\nI am unsure of what to do, should I keep it to myself and just keep trying to support her through these tough times? Or should I report it?", "summary": "GF's parents are abusive both physically and emotionally, I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_hsj6d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rented a vacation house and the owner is trying to scam us with the security deposit", "post": "Hey reddit,\nmy gf and I are having an hard time after we rented a vacation home for 4 days in Pocono last week (Memorial day).\nWe paid (by check) the full amount including 150$ of security deposit.\n\nThe house was supposed to have a working hot tub. When we got there we noticed that the tub was making a loud noise and reported an error (FL1) on the screen. \nAlso, there were stains on the carpets pretty much every 3-4 ft. Those stains were clearly old.\n\nSo the first day we contacted the owner by email (and phone, but she ignored the calls) letting her know that the hot tub wasn't working. In the contract is written that they would provide maintenance for the hot tub, and they didn't.\nWe clearly told them that we choose this house (more expensive) just because we wanted an hot tub (fun fun fun) so we requested also at least 100$ back from the total rental price.\n\nWe tried for a week to contact the owners (4 different phone numbers and by email) but they of course ignored us. Today she sent us images (dated 2 DAYS after we checked out of the property) from the cleaning crew showing that the hot tub cover was moved (never touched the thing since it wasn't even working, and there were storms the nights after we left - so it could have been moved by wind/heavy rain) and showing stains that were already there when we got in. Also, those stains pictured are from a bedroom on the second floor which we didn't even use, and opened only the first day to check it out, leaving it closed for the remaining of the trip.\n\nSo, I checked online for her name and I found other people complaining about the SAME house and SAME owner, doing the same thing to them: scamming the security deposit.\n\nI don't care about the 150$ so much, I just want to see those scumbags burn in the fire of the law. What can I and should I do now?\nI was thinking to call the PA District Attorney, but that's as far as I know about law...\nAny help, reddit?", "summary": "Recidive scammer landlord is trying to scam us by not giving us the security deposit back. How can we kick his ass with the law-boot?"}
{"id": "t3_45krkg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my boyfriend [22 M] Broke up after being together for 6 years. Im a complete mess and i dont know what to do or how to move on.", "post": "I cant do anything right now. The only social thing ive done for the past 2 days was post this on reddit. I cant eat, sleep, and its hard to move. I would go out for a smoke but i just cant be aresed. I can only cry right now i need help. My anti depressents arent going to do anything for me now, im sure of that. I still love him and he still loves me but im a dumb ass and fucked my relationship up when i first spiraled into depression a year ago. And now it feels like it started yesterday. What do i do where do i go? I'd really rather just lay in bed until i fucking die of starvation because thats what a peice of shit like me deserves :( What should i do? I dont even remember how to date. Id rather just die.", "summary": "my boyfriend of 6 years just broke up with me and i dont know how to move on, i only feel pain and missery because i know that its all my fault and i could have changed things but i didnt. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xof4i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being the snitch", "post": "This hurts to even say, and it's going down right now.\n\nSo my boss is sometimes super cool and sometimes he can be the biggest asshole ever. It in turn makes staff not want to talk to him about things, in fear of how he's going to react. \n\nI used to be Assistant Manager, but I'm moving so they hired a new AM and I stepped down so she could get trained in for the last month. I'm stuck doing these horrid but easy opening shifts (3:30am-10ish). I love my coworkers and I'm pretty close with a few of them.\n\nI get a text at 11pm asking if I want to come out to the bar with 3 of them. I'm out cold, dead to the world in my bed. I thought it was funny that they asked me that late, knowing I open. I just laughed went back to sleep.\n\nNext day at work, boss comes in and we're just chatting. I casually (and stupidly) mention I got a text from them asking to bar it up. Didn't think it was a big deal, he knows people hang out outside of work. Well he takes this and RUNS. I knew I fucked up immediately with the look on his face. He's freaking out because they're going to let it affect work and blah blah. I'm like, \"dude, don't make this into something it's not.\" then we drop it.\n\nFast forward to now I'm sitting at home and I get a text, \"Guess who just tried to call in! HAH\" Yep. One of the coworkers tried to call in sick, the one that texted me. Great. JUST GREAT. So I immediately go into damage control and let her know what's happening. He told her not a chance to calling in, and that they need to have a serious talk. She then tells me actually IS sick, and it's not from being hung over. So from his point of view everything is unfolding EXACTLY how he thought. I feel like such a douche, but I just wasn't even thinking when I spoke. I'm usually the one that people confide in as well, and I never say stupid shit like this.", "summary": "I snitched on my coworkers saying they went out drinking to my boss. Coworker then tries calling in sick after a night of drinking. I am a terrible person."}
{"id": "t3_zk8pa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit: do you like it when guys show a lot of interest in you or do they come off as lonely and desperate?", "post": "A bit of background. I have a friend who I've had a crush on for a while now. When we first met she had a long distance boyfriend, but wanted to hang out a lot. Which was fine by me. At that point I'm sure she just thought she was making another guyfriend (maybe not? who knows). Either way, fast forward to the end of the summer. She's dumped by this guy. About a week later we get into a conversation via text and she asks me if I like her. In the past I was in a similar situation, replied in some offhanded way and things didn't really go as I would've liked, so this time I replied honestly and told her that I did. I was completely up front and honest. Of course, so was she. She didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment, which makes a ton of sense. I'm sure I would've been in the same mindset had I been in her shoes. Since she's broken up with said guy we've kept in touch pretty regularly. Sometimes though, I feel as if I'm being a knat. The thing that really gets to me I guess is she knows that I like her... on the one hand it can't be bad that she's still willing to talk and whatnot, but on the other I'm afraid that she just thinks of me as her friend who has a crush on her who she's happy to be friends with but wouldn't ever consider as a potential boyfriend. So, back to the topic, is showing interest a good thing? I don't want to drive her away. Advice welcome.", "summary": "I have a crush on a friend who just got out of a relationship a few weeks ago. She knows. We've been keeping in touch, but I'm afraid that being too eager to talk with her on a regular basis somehow makes me seem less like boyfriend material and more like gay best friend material."}
{"id": "t3_3yzzy6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My son (12M w/Aspergers) can be... difficult. My husband of 1 yr (35M) gets angry, loses his temper. I'm (38F) at a loss.", "post": "Husband and I have been together for 2 years, married for 1. He's very sweet to me and we have a pretty good relationship. Arguments are infrequent, but a constant source of tension is his relationship with my kids.\n\nHe's always found it difficult to relate to my kids (10M, 12M), but moreso with my eldest because my eldest is not an easy child to deal with. He's just been diagnosed with Aspergers (something I'd suspected since he was a toddler, but that's another story). He can be whiney and doesn't let things go, which just comes off as spoiled. Except for a speech impediment, he appears totally neurotypical. \n\nSo, on to the reason for my post -- I just need a sanity check. \n\nTonight, we'd planned to take the kids with us to a party and it so happened that no other kids would be present. The kids were going to hang out and play", "summary": "My husband of 1 yr loses his temper (punching things, shouting, slamming doors) with my 12 year old son who has AS. Am I being overprotective or not protective enough?"}
{"id": "t3_31m28a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am casually dating a man who is already currently in a long-term relationship- why is this fun for me?", "post": "So, I met D at a local coffee shop back in early February, and we stayed in touch because we share similar interests and tastes. Flash forward approx. a month and a half, and we're currently in a relationship (if you can call it that). We have sex, blah-blah-blah, D knows what he's doing in that department. He's relatively unexciting and frankly a little pitiable. The kicker is that he's got a girlfriend who he's been seeing for 8+ years. For whatever reason, the idea of being the \"other woman\" is fun in and of itself, and the possibility of getting caught are the two best parts of the \"thing\" D and I have together. I don't know why I find the whole thing so unbelievably sexy and fun. Anyone else might have any ideas as to why this is?", "summary": "Why is being a home-wrecker such a turn on for me?"}
{"id": "t3_52sp9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [23F] said something to me which I might be unforgivable. Am I overreacting?", "post": "This is my second relationship now and its really been amazing. My first on the other hand was a catastrophe. Basically my ex was physically abusive and did something that can't be mentioned on this sub. I took a while but I got out. \n\nI almost gave up considering my parents were abusive, and then my ex but then I met Kareena. She is everything I didn't think possible.. kind, smart, caring, funny and pretty much perfect. A slight temper but everyone has their flaws. When we argue (not often at all) she gets a little loud which makes me anxious but she senses that and always tones it down. Last night though it was our first serious fight. She wanted me to cook for a lot of people whereas I just wanted to enjoy the night and not be on my feet all evening. Well she blew up but didn't stop this time and then she said it.. \"I'm not surprised your dad and your ex both had to sort you out\". I just went a bit numb after that. I trusted her and she threw it in my face.\n\nShe cried afterwards and tried to cuddle in bed but I turned my back. She always kisses my forehead usually but I didn't want anything to do with her at that point. She said sorry a few times before work this morning but I just went for a shower. I can't stop thinking about and questioning everything I say.. am I as bad at they both said I was? did I deserve it? I guess not but its getting to me. \n\nHow can I move on? I love her and don't want this to ruin everything but I recoil when she tries to touch me. She seems really sorry but its not helping.", "summary": "GF said something pretty awful to me and I'm struggling to get past it."}
{"id": "t3_3gjhya", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] Driving on a suspended license", "post": "This is my first post so if I leave any information out please let me know and I will update asap. \n\nEarlier today I was pulled over for driving on a suspended license. I was unaware of this as I had renewed my registration a month ago and only had an issue with an unpaid toll. The officer withheld my license and allowed my sister who was a passenger to drive us home (to which I am very thankful for, I am pretty sure I could have been arrested). I was given a ticket with a court date for driving with knowledge on a suspended license - 322.34(2). \n\nUpon arriving home I went online to determine the cause of this and found that I was given a red light violation ticket in February of this year. I had no idea this happened and contacted the Clerk office for that county immediately and found that I had not updated my address and as far as I can see the notices were being sent to an old address. \n\nDuring the conversation with the Clerk's office I found out that the vehicle that was photographed and ticketed belonged to my best friend who I had co-signed the car with. From what I recall I was the primary on the registration so his ticket violation was sent to me and was counted against my license. \n\nI have contacted an attorney, but I am hoping to avoid becoming a hypochondriac by reading too much into the potential consequences as I am no expert in this and this is my first real encounter with the law. Tomorrow morning I will be going to the DMV to pay the ticket and reinstate my license, but my main question is how badly could it go on my court date later this month? I am under no illusion that I will need to hire an attorney as this is considered a criminal offense.", "summary": "1. Vehicle that was ticketed for red light violation was a co-signed car that I was not in. Happened in February"}
{"id": "t3_uw4ln", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "20(M) to 21(F) getting all this mixed up signals , please help!", "post": "Ok, so there is this girl that i have been talking to for a while and I really like her and clearly she likes me back, we kissed once before and she told me she liked me then the next day I guess she didnt feel like she wanted to be with me anymore so i dropped it and we stayed friends (we have kept talking and flirting constantly) last night we went out with friends and we ended up kissing a whole bunch again and she told me that there was something there but she wants to take it slow to what i agree, but today she says that she is very overwhelmed with everything and honestly I just dont know what to think of it anymore! does she want this, does she not, just friends??? what do you guys think", "summary": "I like her she likes me back but everytime we take a step forward she seems to not want it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4hmqkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32 M] grandparents [early 80s] have been neglectful for their entire lives, now they want to make amends.", "post": "Said grandparents have three children. Their oldest, L, my aunt, their middle, M, my uncle and the youngest, S, my father.\n\nM has always been their favourite. He got in troubles when he was young, the one who always needed more money, the one who was always demanding, and getting all the attention.\n\nS, M, and L got older, got their own families, and M's child became the favourite grandkid, basically them acting as full time free baby sitters.\n\nLate 1980s entire family emigrated to a new country, with nothing but few items that can fit in a small car. Grandparents lived with us, but they continued to take care of my cousin while they lived us. When my parents finally talked to my uncle and said they cannot keep hosting my cousin anymore, as it's time for me to start school now and I'll need space to study etc. As the reaction, the grandparents left us too, to become in-house sitters at M's place.\n\nIn the meantime the pattern continued, with S, L, and their kids being ready to help when the grands needed any help, in turns the grands lending their full time help and even their savings to help M and his family.\n\nNow the grands are approaching the end of their lives, grandpa has lukemia, and some stupid money related matters, M's relationship with the entire family broke down. Only now the grands began to see their mistakes, and try to communicate more with me and my sister, both of us in our early 30s.\n\nThe problem is, I try to be a decent person and and visit them a few times a year (I live abroad), and have some communication, but at this point in time, I simply don't care about these people anymore. A few weeks ago they hugged my sister (yes, their granddaughter) and she froze with confusion because getting hugged by them was a completely alien feeling.\n\nI try to respect people appraching to the ends of their lives and trying to correct their decades of mistakes, but I'm not sure how I should approach them anymore.", "summary": "Neglectful grandparents want to make amends in their 80s, I don't personally care for them anymore but want to give them some chance at happiness."}
{"id": "t3_13rrrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34M] am slowly falling for one of my best friends [22F]", "post": "Heyo, throwaway account here because I know she is a Redditor. About a year ago I [34M] met this girl [22F]. We met through a mutual friend and immediately hit it off. She was dating someone at the time so we just had a really good friendship. We talked a lot and had very similar viewpoints on life in general. I would consider her my best female friend at this point.\n\nAbout a month and a half ago she ended her relationship and we started becoming even closer. We now talk almost every day. We text throughout the day, every day. We make it a point to get together and hang out at least once a week. She has told me what she is looking for in a guy, and to be completely honest, I fit all of her criteria except two, one of which is age. She is looking for someone in their mid 20's. The other criteria is job security, which I am on the cusp of achieving as well, so that's not as big of a worry.\n\nWe talk about everything. She knows things about me that nobody else knows and I, in turn, know things about her that few people know. When we talk and hang out it is intimate and comfortable, and I have found myself really starting to have feelings for her that are more than just friendly. I don't know how she feels about me on that level, if anything at all, and am wondering if I should risk outing myself to her. I would hate to compromise the wonderful friendship we have, but we fit so well I would also hate to have missed a great opportunity here.", "summary": "I am falling for a very close friend. Should I risk telling her and possibly causing weirdness between us, jeopardizing our great relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_508zkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of two years, I think I'm ready to be single now...", "post": "I have been with my current girlfriend for just over two years now. We meet in speech class and connected. We have had a lot of fun memories and good times. Over the course of the last two years she has grown very close with my friends and now considers my best friends her best friends. The last few weeks I have had some very bizarre feelings that I have never experienced. For the last 7 years I have been in a few relationships, but once the previous ones ended, I usually found myself taken again within 6 months. After a break up I usually feel the need to seek someone to fill that void of loneliness. Because of this I feel like I have missed out on some of the best times of my life being in almost constant relationships. The last few weeks has made me realize this as I begin my senior year of college. I keep having these feelings of wanting to just be free. I have a ton of decisions to make over the course of the next year, such as to attend law school or a graduate program and I want to focus on myself and find out what I truly want to do in life. The problem with this is, my current girlfriend has no clue about these feelings. We are in a good, healthy relationship and these feelings will absolutely blindside her. My question for you, is how do I know this feeling of wanting to be single is genuine, and if they are how do I break up with my current girlfriend in the most gentle way. Shes a great girl and I want to make this as easy as possible. This change would shake our entire groups friendships and shatter her world. I just feel like I need space to find myself and the major decisions that lay ahead for me. I don't feel it is fair for our relationship to not have my full attention... \n\nI'm completely tour up about this. It keeps me awake for hours at night deciding what I need to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading.", "summary": "I feel like I need time to find myself and determine what is next for me in my life. My current girlfriend has no idea about these feelings and it's going to completely shake up our lives and friend group if I decide to leave. How do I know these feelings are genuine and how do I go about a breakup in a sincere way."}
{"id": "t3_1xnutl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fuck dementia", "post": "My grandma was moved to the nursing home today after more than 2 weeks in the ICU due to an intestinal blockage and pneumonia. I live 1000+ miles away and flew in because for a few days she was on death's door. \n\nShe's had dementia for about 4 years now, but it's never been bad when I came to visit. Since she's been sick and hasn't been able to take her dementia medication it's really come front and center and it breaks my heart. She reaches for \"lights\" that aren't there, sews things that aren't there, shells nonexistent beans, etc. \n\nWhat really gets me is every time she sees me she worries about fixing dinner. As sick and weak as she is all she's worried about is whether or not I've had supper. She's done nothing but take care of everyone all her life, and ~7 years ago she could run circles around all of us. I hate to see her like this. I would do absolutely anything if I thought it would fix it.", "summary": "fuck dementia."}
{"id": "t3_4cddda", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU trying to taking pizza out of the oven", "post": "This happened about 20 minutes ago and my heart is still pounding. Had a craving for some deep dish pizza, so I decided to make one. Spent 2 hours making the dough and sauce and shredding the fresh mozzarella. It was going to be fantastic. I put it all together, then into the oven. Cut to 30 minutes later, when it is time to come out. Stupid me, thinks that it will be like taking a regular pizza out of the oven. NOPE! The entire contents of said pizza spill out, all over the oven and the door and my kitchen floor. This is when things started to get fun. The spill sent a giant whoosh of steam out into my apartment, resulting in the smoke detector going off, causing my dog to start freaking out. I quickly run over to the smoke detector to turn that off, but thats when then dog stops barking and notices the massive pile is hot cheese and meaty tomato sauce all over the floor. I run back to the oven attempting to get him away from the spill (luckily he is small so I can easily over power him) but that's when he starts barking again. I guess he was pissed that I didn't let him eat the cheese. Ended up sitting on the floor of my kitchen with one leg stretched out keeping the dog away while attempting to clean up as much of the cheesy spill as I can without burning myself in the oven that had just been set at 425 degrees. Worst part of the whole experience is, I don't even get to satisfy my craving for deep dish pizza now. It's just crust with essence of toppings.", "summary": "Wanted to make a deep dish pizza but spilled cheesy, saucy innards while taking it out of the oven, resulting in mayhem....and no pizza for dinner."}
{"id": "t3_2ize8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] am attracted to a colleague [25F], but I don't want to be.", "post": "I am an idiot who doesn't learn from his mistakes. There. I said it.\n\nI tend to fall in love too easily. The problem has been somewhat reduced since I started working out a couple years ago, and my self esteem grew immensely.\n\nBut I still feel myself falling down that path where I fall in love, then get desperate for reciprocation.\n\nI'm not all the way there yet (which I think is a huge improvement), but I'm definitely on my way there. And I need to get out of it.\n\nEven if I go for it, and she reciprocates, it's probably not the best of ideas, because if it goes to shit, there's no distance to be had. We'd see eachother every day. \n\nThis was a huge problem when the same thing happened at uni. I was in a relationship with a girl from, not only my class, but my workgroup. Because that's the kind of top shelf idiot I am. It ended, as it had to, because I had no self esteem and was clingy. Afterwards, I had a hard time getting over her because there she was, every god damn day.\n\nThis seems to me like exactly the same trap. \n\nI don't want to be an asshole to her either. She's nice. And also, we work together.\n\nHow should I go about getting out of it before it happens?\n\nThanks for reading, and bigger thanks for any advice!", "summary": "I fall in love too easily, and now I have an attractive colleague. How do I avoid falling in love with her without being an asshole? Been in this situation before, and it wasn't good."}
{"id": "t3_380gsq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to Comic-Con", "post": "Like most of these, it didn't happen today (1 month ago). \n\nMy girlfriend and I were getting ready to go to the local Comic-Con here in South Texas with a couple of friends and her brother. Days before the convention, changes came up to where costume changes were needed. \n\nOn the day of the convention, I went through 4 makeup changes in an attempt to try to fit in with our group cosplay. After I was settled, my girlfriend still had to finish getting herself ready and help our together a very last second costume for her friend. At this point, we were already 3 hours late.\n\nAfter they were done, I picked up my girlfriend and her brother. Already running 4 hours late, I  realized i forgot to print my ticket. My university is along the way, so I decided to print it out there. For some reason, every printer on campus decided to be malfunctioning.  It took almost 20 minutes to print it out!\n\nFinally on our way, we showed up with only 2 hours left in the convention. I missed Sean Schemmel (voice actor for Goku on Dragon Ball), Sean Astin (Sam from LotR), and most of the awesome cosplayers.\n\nThis is where I FUCKED UP. \nLeaving the convention center after it was all over, I realized I didn't have my keys on me. I asked my girlfriend and her little brother. We looked into my car and saw them, just sitting there on my seat telling me how badly I fucked up. This was the tiny cherry on top of my shit sundae. \n\nWe called the security there to ask for help only to be told that they don't have the tools to help. We called the cops to to ask them for help, and they told us they don't open cars unless a child is in the vehicle. \n\n2 hours later and with the help of my mother with a hanger and a random man with a slimjim, we got the door open.", "summary": "went to Comic-Con 5 hours late, missed the voice for Goku, and locked my keys in my car."}
{"id": "t3_3o1g5y", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Trying to get back on track.", "post": "Alright. Here is my story.\n\nLast January i did the ideal protein diet (diet through local chiropractor, limits carbs like crazy. Was having like maybe 30-40 carbs a day. Rough estimate.) I lost 40 pounds. My problem was that I didn't phase off properly and then I totally screwed myself up - starting binge eating and getting back into my old habits. Feeling pretty crappy. Horrible binges. \n\nI've attempted to actually get back on the diet like three times but im realizing its just throwing me back into the binge cycle again. This issue has been on and off since may. I've gained maybe 10-12pounds back. However lately ive been trying to eat better and exercise. I got myfitnesspal and log my food. This was actually the first day i started to utilize it. It tells me i need to eat 1200 calories a day to reach my goal. So Im aiming for that everyday.\n\nI've been to the gym twice this week and got myself acquainted with the treadmill and some weight machines. I just feel like a need some sort of direction. Like what my diet is supposed to be like/ what my work outs should focus on. \nMore specifically, my diet. I want to count calories mainly instead of strictly limiting my carbs - I feel like that's what led to my excessive binges.", "summary": "if anyone would be open to giving me suggestions for weight loss by calorie counting or something- I'd be glad to chat. "}
{"id": "t3_1j95s9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26/F (ME!) greatly struggling to get over ex (25/M) even after lots of time and a new relationship", "post": "I am not sure if I am looking for advice or just some reassurance here, but here goes. Two years ago, I was in a relationship that I was very happy with--it did have its issues, as all relationships do, don't get me wrong--and saw lasting pretty much forever. Marriage, children, the whole shebang. It was a long distance relationship and on one fateful Tuesday night, completely out of the blue, he broke up with me via Facebook (we rarely ever communicated that way) and then literally never spoke to me again until just recently, again via a Facebook message. I had come to accept that I would likely never hear from him again after many unanswered attempts to contact him, and was proud of myself for responding with just a short \"thank you and hope you are well\" message rather than delving in to all of the emotions I felt upon receiving it.\n\nI have been patient with myself because I know that the circumstances warranted a longer \"recovery\" period before being ready to move on, but there is still rarely a day that goes by that I don't think of him or his family. Sometimes I feel truly overwhelmed with sadness and/or anxiety when I think of him, especially if it crosses my mind that he may be getting married or having children with someone else. It is all I can do to not look him up on Facebook--the only way I'd know now to contact him--and send him some pathetic message about still being in love with him.\n\nI am an independent person, I have started a career, traveled, dated other people, and still I feel this way. Is there anyone else out there who understands this or has suggestions about how to cope? I feel so alone in it.", "summary": "My life is continuing after a breakup two years ago but I still often feel overwhelmed with sadness and anxiety. Looking for support."}
{"id": "t3_dl3cq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend and I at an impasse, looking for some help.", "post": "I'm 22(m) and a junior in college (took a gap year for funds) and I've been dating a girl who just turned 23 for 4 years though we have known each other for longer. I'm studying ComputerScience about 2 hours from where she lives with her parents and she commutes to a school that's about an hour in the other direction. I usually drive home on weekends\n\nAbout a year ago, in the heat of the moment, we talked pretty seriously about getting engaged and moving in together. But once the initial rush had worn off I realized this is a terrible idea, I have basically never had a non-grunt job (and will almost definitely have to move farther away to get the kind of job I would like), I want to concentrate on school since while I live here everything is basically paid for by a scholarship, and I don't want her to stop or pause her schooling just to move to where I live.\n\nShe really is a person I can see spending my life with as we have a great time together and just having he around makes my life much better, but I feel like we've reached an impasse on the above issue. We've talked about it and even though I've tried to make it clear that I _eventually_ want to be together but feel like I can't until I get some of my life sorted out, she told me talking about something so deeply then having me balk make he feel that there must be something wrong with her or our relationship.\n\nCombine this with some issues her parents are having with her still living at home (they are basically about to throw her out) and most of her close friends going to colleges in the rest of the state she is basically through with the whole 'college years' thing and wants to settles and I feel like me basically telling her \"no I won't move in with you next year, I'm going to finish my degree and line up a job first\" will be the end of it.\n\nI was just wondering if RA had any advice on how to approach this situation and get what I want while not losing someone I really love.", "summary": "Girlfriend becoming almost dependent, can I move on with my life first without losing her?"}
{"id": "t3_1pq8vt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Today sucked", "post": "Today has been absolute shit. I've never had an actual GF up until 2 weeks ago.  I've noticed its been really hard to get her to on dates and meet up to do stuff. She's had a lot going on w/ family. I haven't seen her in person since friday when we went to go see a movie. Ive texting all week.  Last night I asked her if she wanted to hang out for Halloween and at first she was able to come then later she said she had to do something.  When I texted her to asking if she could come over she never texted back. Today I asked her if she still wanted a relationship. She says she has a lot going on. So we are no longet dating. Thats only half of what made my day shitty.\n\nLast friday I switched shifts with someone so that I could go out with my gf. I  told the asst manager and she said it wad fine. Well the next day I here from co-workers that I'm off the schedule for the next week. I talked to the managers and it turns out that not only was the guy who was supposed to cover for mr didn't show up but also he was supposed to work that night also. So I was upset about that. Fast forward to today. My brother gets home from work and tells me that the guy who didn't sho up for me friday was at work today and I'm still off the schedule.", "summary": "Broke up with gf and found out how unwanted I am at work."}
{"id": "t3_3q1cga", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "She suddenly stopped talking to me after years of friendship. What does it mean and why is she doing this? [18m] [18f]", "post": "after transferring to Boston, I went to school with this girl for 3 years, and its our last year before I leave to California. I've been always close to her as a friend almost her only close guy friend. Ever since I confessed and got rejected, things became awkward, but settled down really quickly and we were good friends again. \n\nBack to our old relationship, its only been weeks since I noticed her changed behavior to me. She won't initiate conversations anymore, look at me, or anything. Rarely when we come across, she simply says Hi or Bye and walks away. Hate isn't a good word, but more of discomfort and distanced feel.\nWhy did this happen? What does this mean for her? I'm having really hard time figuring out what I did wrong..\n\nI thought it might've been the stress of college applications, but she gets along with few other guys. (I would know, because she showed me that type of behavior)", "summary": "best friend with a girl. after a short rejection that passed super quickly and returned to normal relationship, she suddenly stopped talking to me/texting me."}
{"id": "t3_27jfem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just broke up with my [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 6 months, want to know if I was too hard during the breakup.", "post": "We had only been dating for six months, and I'm honestly doing fine, but I want to get an outside perspective on how I acted during the break-up, I really didn't want to be rude, but I am worried I might have been.  \n\nFirst of all, it was her decision to break up. When she expressed how she felt, she asked if we could take a short break to see how it went, and I (having a lot going on currently) said I couldn't handle worrying about the future at the current time, and so I said if this is how she feels then it would be better just to end things.  \n\nShe asked multiple times throughout the conversation if we could remain friends, and I told her she needed to give me space after the break-up, and that I could make no guarantees, although after I had some time I would at least try.  Am I wrong for not wanting to remain friends, I have no animosity towards her, just think it wouldn't be healthy to immediately try and start a friendship with her.", "summary": "Girlfriend wanted to take a break for a few weeks, I said I would rather just end things than worry about it, and said that I needed some space when she asked if we could remain friends."}
{"id": "t3_2y67vx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27/m) can't deal with my live in girlfriends (27/f) cats", "post": "Hello guys,\n\nSo I recently (3 months ago) moved in with my gf of about 9 months. Our relationship is fantastic, she's a little more sexually needy than I, but we make it work together. There is some frustration there as she's always pressuring me into sex. \n\nBut there's even a more frustrating problem...her cats... we have three of them now in our one bedroom apartment. Everytime I come home from work, one of them has shit on the floor, threw up, or threw food everywhere. I come home every week and clean this up, on top of cleaning the dishes, and the rest of the house.\n\nIn the middle of the night they whine and claw at the door, and I haven't slept good in months. Which would probably compound my frustration more, I feel drained.\n\nTo top it all off, half my clothes are ruined because the cats like to \"knead bread\" on me so I have holes in my jeans and shirts now.\n\nI don't know what to do. She offered to get rid of the cats, but I think she's going to have resentment towards me then. She offered to help clean up more, but I work far less than her, and live closer to my work so I am always home first.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Cats are driving me crazy and I don't know how to fix it!"}
{"id": "t3_2fwrzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26M with 24F dating for 2.5 months, how long do I give it for love?", "post": "I met a really sweet and awesome woman almost three months ago and I could immediately tell she liked me.  At the time I thought she was cool, and hoped that I'd warm up to her and begin to like her more seriously eventually.\n\nNow, it's been a while and I don't seem to quite be falling in love with her or developing giddy feelings for.  We're not exclusive (the topic hasn't been discussed), but the situation was most highlighted when I was talking to someone I had a crush on previously and found out was recently single.  I found myself feeling excited and happy for the next few hours inexplicably.  This made me feel pretty bad, because I *want* to feel that way about the person I'm dating: sex is intense and fun, she's very sweet and caring / intelligent, but for some reason I just don't feel it.\n\nShe's going away for a week or two after this week, and I figure I might take that time to think about how I feel about her and whether I want to stay together during that time.  I'm not sure that I do.  She has lots of properties that I want in a partner, but for some reason when I'm with her at times I feel that I'm forcing myself to feel the way I feel sort of naturally about this other person.\n\nSo it's been a while and is coming upon three months of dating, and I'd like to know what people would do in this situation?\n\nI'm also a little scared because in general I don't like hurting people's feelings, and I might be avoiding what needs to happen because nobody likes being told that someone doesn't want to continue dating them.", "summary": "Dating someone not very seriously, recently interacted with a former crush and got an intense passionate / happy feeling after talking to them and realized I wanted that with the person I am dating, but don't feel that way, wondering if I should keep going and see what happens or end it now."}
{"id": "t3_1u5leo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "PLEASE HELP ME [29F] GETOVER MY JEALOUSY ISSUES WITH [31M]", "post": "I need advice, as the title suggests, on how to stop being jealous of a particular thing. To start, it's hard to describe my relationship with this man, we don't live in the same state and haven't met, but I am deeply emotionally involved with him and I believe he is as well. \n\nThe problem: I came across his username and recognized it instantly as being him. I went through his history. I shouldn't have, clearly. But what was in the past didn't really matter, it was the current comments he was leaving on the various looks-rating subreddits. I was very hurt by him telling some of these girls he thought they were stunningly gorgeous, and amazingly cute, etc... I told him how much it bothered me and he eased my worries saying they weren't a threat to me. I was ok with that. But every time I saw him do it it continue to really bother and hurt me. I stopped looking at his history but subscribed to those subreddits and would read the comments. I did that again tonight and saw the same thing happen again and kind of blew up at him. I don't understand his need to do it and he is justifiably pissed at me for invading his privacy. \n\nPlease help me stop being jealous of such a stupid thing. Logically, I know it doesn't make sense, but I can't get my heart to listen to reason. Any advice?", "summary": "I'm jealous of comments made about girls on reddit and need help to stop feeling this way."}
{"id": "t3_4miy11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [18 M] been together for 1.5 years, he got mad at me for having a celebrity \"crush\" on Calvin Harris?", "post": "So as some of you know, Calvin Harris (a famous DJ/Singer) and Taylor swift have just recently broken up. I posted a snapchat of one of Calvin Harris' music videos with the caption \"I FINALLY HAVE A CHANCE!!!\" My boyfriend on the other hand, got really upset and hurt over it. I removed the video and am sincerely apologizing him until the ends of the earth. I didn't think the video would be harmful or hurtful, knowing Calvin is just a celebrity and I don't really have a crush on him. I'm just a big fan and he's not unattractive. What can I do to appease my significant other?", "summary": "Boyfriend got mad at me for having a celebrity crush. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4g2d0d", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Married women, why would you remove your ring when talking to a coworker?", "post": "I recently started working with a woman that is \"one of the guys\". She has a lot of guy friends and can talk trash with the best of us. We get along extremely well and talk frequently - if not daily, almost. We have a lot in common and tend to think the same way. Some of our banter could be read as slightly flirtatious, but I'm not yet sure if that's her personality or if it is actually flirtatious. Sometimes we talk about work, sometimes not. I've been told she's married, but not by her. The only thing she's even alluded to is her inlaws. We both work remote jobs, so we don't see each other daily - not your typical office setting. We're both in our mid thirties.\n\nWe've met a few times now, and none of these times she was wearing a wedding ring - except for today. We were sitting and talking, and I noticed the (rather large) ring but didn't say anything about it. A couple minutes later, I got the impression she was actively trying to hide it (twisting it around and keeping her hand closed, gesturing with her right hand, keeping her left hand hidden, etc), and another minute later it was off her finger, nowhere to be seen - and remained wherever it was until we went our separate ways an hour later. After she took it off, she seemed quite comfortable displaying her left hand (in fact, she had quite a good cut on one of her fingers and told me the story of how it happened).\n\nI don't know if she wears it around other people. I got the impression today that she forgot to take it off before meeting me.\n\nHere's my actual question: Given this background, under what circumstances would you remove your wedding ring? There's one obvious answer, but I'd like to hear other reasons.", "summary": "married woman removed and hid her ring while talking to me, why?"}
{"id": "t3_3ha9xx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting that I had fish oil pills in my pocket before doing laundry.", "post": "So I'm on this healthy kick.  I'm running a lot more, drinking at least a gallon a day and taking vitamins to supplement what I may miss in meals.  One of supplements I'm taking is fish oil pills.\nOn this day, I was busy at work so I grab a my supplements to include the fish oil, a bottle of water and left the office with the intentions on consuming everything once I was in my car.\n\nWell, I forgot!  I took off my clothes from work and put them in the hamper.  The next morning I put the clothes from work in the wash.  I forgot that I had left the fish oil in the pockets.  \n\nWhen I got home: \nWife:  \"What did you put in the laundry? There's a weird smell coming from that area.\"  \n\nMe:  \"Just a load of clothes\" and I went back to check it out.  I smelled the same weird smell.  But had no idea where it came from. \n\nWife: \"I put the clothes in the dryer\".\n\nWell, after drying clothes I like to smell the fresh laundry smell.  I took the load out and 1 whiff and I instantly knew what happened.  My whole load of clothes smelled like rotted fish!\n\nNow I'm washing them over and over hoping I can get the smell out.", "summary": "TIFU by washing clothes with a fish oil pills in the pocket.  Now I'm on the 3rd cycle of washing to get the smell out."}
{"id": "t3_2x3rtm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally burning my school bag in the middle of a lesson.", "post": "So i came into class and threw my bag over to my chair and then went over to speak to my friend. After about 3-4 minutes of talking someone comes into class and says wtf your bags on fire. So i ran over put it out with my hands and with help of my friends shoe then ran to the toilet emptied it and then threw the matches in the bin. Basically what happened is i bought some matches to burn shit with and left the in the bottom of my bag and the box broke open because it was in there for a couple weeks so things kept hitting it and when i threw it on my chair on of the matches struck the side of the box which caused it to start burning. I am now suspended for bringing in the matches.", "summary": "Fucked up forgot about some matches and by schoolbag lit on fire by accident and i got suspended for it."}
{"id": "t3_k44kz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I went to my first football game alone and I came back to my dorm with the worst case of self loath ever.", "post": "Reddit I am the worst case scenario and internet is my only friend. This is obviously a throwaway and I don't know why even bother no body cares anyway. I'm 22 and male and Asian. I attend university with pretty bad grades because I'm just a procrastinating lazy asshole. I'm on the edge of getting academic probation if I don't step up the game this year. I'm pretty stupid and have no social skill at all. I have maybe two \"friends\" and they are all female but they both have boyfriend so I think the only reason they keep me around because I do chorus and drive them around town so they can go to their parties or do them other favorites. I'm in huge student debt too but I still think that someday I will get a great job. Not going to happen. \n   So I can't make any friend at all let alone female friend. One time I became a good friend with a girl because we were having a good conversation but then she ignore me the next time we saw each other. I don't understand but this happens to me again and again. \n  Reddit I am also insecure and my asian gene did not help as I am only 5\"6. \n   Actually I did really know why even bother. I just realized I don't really care and you probably don't care.", "summary": "Don't bother to read this, just down vote me because I deserve it."}
{"id": "t3_1qekf7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/M] Wants to pop the question to [24/F] but is waiting for better career", "post": "Hi Reddit,   \n\nI've been dating my gf for about 2 yrs now and am looking at popping the question. However, the personal dilemma that I'm having is that I want to find a higher paying career first so that I can show that I would make a good husband who could financially provide for us (and future family).  \n\nMy gf and I both graduated from a 4-yr university and after about 1.5 years of job searching, she's finally found a good starting salary job. Myself on the other hand, am still working my \"temporary\" low-paying retail job to make ends meet while I continue searching.   \n\nWere both 24 years old, debt free and have been talking about marriage/kids lately, which has all got me thinking. Everything is there for us, aside from me holding my financial weight.   \n\nAm I being insecure/irrational for holding off until I fall into a better line of work? Would be appreciative to hear your thoughts, stories, advice, analysis etc.", "summary": "Been dating an amazing woman but holding off on marriage because I feel that I need a higher paying job/career"}
{"id": "t3_2jfp6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my ex [23F] of 3 years, she sent me a big bag of bad etiquette.", "post": "After the breakup, I sent her, via mutual friends, a bag of her stuff that she left at my house. She sent in return, a bag of gifts I gave to her, including a t-shirt which still stunk of her sweat. Couldn't even launder it before sending it back. I know I didn't send her any dirty clothes.\n\nFurthermore, she didn't send ALL the gifts I gave to her, just, I guess, the ones she didn't want.\n\nIs she trying to make me feel even worse? Does she not understand breakup etiquette? Do I not understand it? Am I missing something here? Am I warranted in feeling so insulted or am I just looking for something to be mad about because I'm so hurt by the breakup itself?", "summary": "ex sent me a big bag of gifts I gave to her over the years, including a dirty t-shirt (no, it wasn't dirty when I gave it to her)."}
{"id": "t3_18aobc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting this really cute girl go", "post": "My family had a bbq at my Apartment. My mom says she is going to the gas station and i decide to tag along. Im hungover as shit, i had left work a couple hours ago so i smell like a restuarant and im dieing for a cig. I just feel like total shit.  My mom pays for her stuff and leaves and im waiting for the guy ahead of me. This voice from behind me goes i like your clover tat. I just said thanks without turning around. Silence. \"I have one on my foot.\" She says again trying to start a convo. I look back and down \"wow thats badass!\" I look up and blank out and lose all self esteem. Now im fucking fidgety and my mind is SCREAMING at me to say something, anything to start a convo. Drawing a blank i tell her she can cut in line cause i have to trade in some lottery tickets. With a huge smile she looks me in the eys says \"Thanks!\" And then she pauses for a second giving me another shot to say anything at all. I just look down. She pays for her soda and then turns around at the door looks at me pauses then says thanks again. Then she left. I took a step towards the door than stall. That was it my self essteem was gone. My confidence shot. I walk out to my moms truck and she looks at me and says \"did you get her number?\" Im still hanging my head in shame.", "summary": "Dont be a bitch."}
{"id": "t3_xqm1j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Car just broke down. How do I not get fucked?", "post": "I live in Tacoma, WA and drive a 2004 VW Passat (1.8T). \n\nThe problem with the car:\n\nMy coolant has all burned away and any added to the reservoir also burns away. A nice white smoke that even comes through the vents when the A/C is on. To add on this, I've had a shitty valve cover gasket for a couple months that gives me some misfire grief from time to time, but I had been planning on getting that fixed this week, coincidentally.\n\nThe problem with the world:\n\nHow do I not get fucked by repair shops? I mean, I know they deserve payment for their work, but I don't exactly come loaded with the kind of money I know I'm going to have to spend. The stealership I bought this car from (used) folded in a used-car-warranty (WarrantySolutions, 5-star, whatever that means) in exchange for a lower rate on the loan, which actually ended up being cheaper in the long run. Can I use that to make this less expensive on me? I think I can, but anyway...\n\nWhat makes it worse:\n\nI'm getting married in less than two weeks, so I've put most of my money into there and am at my annual low in terms of cash reserves. Not only that, but we were planning on road tripping for the honeymoon, which makes things even more frustrating.\n\nA personal statement:\n\nThis fucking sucks. Reddit, halp?", "summary": "Car broke. I'm broke. How do I not get fucked by repair shops?"}
{"id": "t3_1yo8im", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 2 years, just found out he's nearly a billionaire.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for a while now.  Around 2 and a half years.  \n  \nAll this time he's been lying to me though.  He's basically been keeping his wealth hidden and pretending to work while I've worked my ass off every day.  \n  \nWe moved in together about half a year ago and I quickly noticed that he spent money often and on a lot of stupid stuff.  I just thought he was bad with money, but he never seemed to run out and always seemed to be happy to pay for stuff when I let him.    \n \nAnyways, I thought he always worked part time at some small computer shop across town.  As it turns out, he does, but he just does it for fun since he doesn't really need money. \nAlso, he actually OWNS this computer shop.  \n  \nHe told me this today while also admitting that he's got something like 870 million in his name.  \n  \nI'll admit I googled his name once or twice, but it was essentially a failure since he's got a really common name shared with a bunch of people.  Once I googled how he earned his money, I basically confirmed that he is actually rich as shit.  \n  \nHe says he did it because he wanted to make sure I didn't like him just for his money, which I get completely.  I just can't get rid of that feeling that I've been lied to for our entire relationship.  \n  \nHow do I move past this?  Is it alright for me to be upset?", "summary": "Boyfriend kept his wealth hidden from me by lying, is it OK in this situation?  How do I move past it?"}
{"id": "t3_2rerpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my _gf__ [25 F] of a year and 5 months, are in serious trouble. I fucked up real bad. Need help!", "post": "Guys, I'm a fucking idiot. My gf and I were so happy together. Then on New Years I flirted with another girl. She was hitting on me and it felt nice for another person to show me that attention. I flirted back. My gf saw it and I denied it. I lied.\n\nThis will fucking kill me. I broke her heart. I have never loved another person like I love this girl and I fucked it up. \n\nI don't know if she will be able to forgive me. You see, on Friday, we ran into this girl again (she is roommates with one of my gf's friends) and the girl hit on me again. This time I wasn't flirting back but didn't tell her to stop. She gave me a handshake at one point and i pulled away but she held on for a second. I then walked away. My gf saw it differently. She says that she saw the girl touch my arm and me smile. \n\nGod. The fucking sadness and hatred I see in her face when she says that kills me. \n\nI'm so scared that she is going to leave me. I lied to her once before and I promised her I wouldn't do it again no matter how painful it would be. \n\nI was weak. I broke that promise.\n\nShit is really rough with us right now. We have pretty much just been crying for 2 days straight. I am at work today for the 1st time since all of this and I can't stop crying. We have stated that we will see each other on Friday but I just need to give her time until then.\n\nAll I want to do is hold her.\n\nIf anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I hurt the best person I ever known and am worried I have lost her for good."}
{"id": "t3_2k2hfe", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Walking a dog.", "post": "I walk my dog and attach the leash to her collar. She still a puppy but she rarely pulls. She only pulls when she over exicted in the start of a walk if I haven't walked her the day before. Or if there is a squirrel. Other then that she walks by my side and if she speeds up, she stops or looks back. She has a long leash and it's always loose. If she goes the wrong way I say other way and she turns around. If she getting to far ahead I tell her slow down if she not already doing it, she does. If she doesnt listen, I just give the leash a little swing back and forth so she can feel it. No force, she comes by me or stops. If she stops to try to eat something I don't want her to I give a small tug. \n\nI was just reading that this is bad. I should be using a harness. I feel bad have I been doing it wrong. Can I already caused damage? She a corgi and only 14 pounds. But should I switch to a harness or is a leash collar hook up ok. \n\nAlso she so use to the collar I am kind of worried she will pull if I get a harness becuase she has more power to mover forward.\n\nHere is some pics of her when she was only 4 months walking by my side", "summary": "should I be using a harness on my walks opposed to attaching the leash the the collar."}
{"id": "t3_142st9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Hello, Runners! We are changing our lives 90 days at a time. Round 9 of r/90daysgoal starts Monday!", "post": "Two years ago, a group of Redditors decided to change their lives at [r/90daysgoal] We just wrapped up Round 8, with 29 people checking in with their weight loss. Together, we shaved off a combined 195 lbs (88.5 kg), or 7.3 lbs (3.1 kg) per person over the last three months. For those of you who love graphs, here's [our individual percent change in weight] and [our final weights plotted with weight lost over the course of the round](\n\nWith eight great rounds under our smaller belts, we're excited to start Round 9 and we're hoping others will join in.\n\n***\n\n**What 90days is and what it isn't**\n\nThis isn't a set diet or exercise routine. This isn't a competition with prizes (check out [/r/btfc] for that). This is a group of people working together to better themselves. Whether you want to change a lot or a little, gain muscle or lose weight, everyone is welcome. More than anything else, this group will provide you with a place to talk to other people about health and fitness in a completely open and friendly environment. No question is too basic here.\n\n**What's the format?**\n\nEvery morning there's a dailygoal thread where you can post your goals, ask questions, or read through other people's updates. There's a weekly check-in every Monday and several themed posts (Runners, Fitocracy challenges, weekly workout challenges, diet/exercise/general discussion topics) throughout the week to keep us all on track.\n\nIf you'd like to join us for the next round, stop by and tell us about yourself and your goals in the [official introduction thread] Round 9 will officially begin on Monday, December 3rd. On Day 1 there will be a signup form to fill out so that we can keep track of group statistics. Group and individual progress will be posted at the end of each month using anonymous display names.", "summary": "If you're interested, subscribe to [r/90daysgoal] Day 1 is December 3rd. There will be informational posts throughout the first couple weeks to get everyone started toward their goals. We'll have a progress/recovery week at the end of each month. The final day will be March 12th. I hope we'll all have something to celebrate in three months!"}
{"id": "t3_1o8puw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Constant knee pain, should I see a doctor or just stop running?", "post": "Near the end of February I decided to start losing weight (was 280lbs, 5'10\", male) and take up running.  I started, religiously followed and complete C25k without a hitch.  I've had neither shin splints nor pulled or strained muscles whatsoever.\n\nI'm down to 195lbs due mostly to diet and have been holding solid there for a month now.  I've also been regularly running three times a week between 12 and 16 miles a week.  It feels great to get out and run, I love it!  But... my knees hurt, like, _all the time_ and they've been feeling this way for a couple months.  I can't squat down without grabbing on to something to keep me from falling, like leaning on the table as I sit down to supper, or holding on to the toilet seat as I lower myself on to it.\n\nI've taken a week off running and the pain stops.  After two weeks off the pain is all but totally gone.  I'll regain the ability to squat down without bracing myself, etc.  But then when I start running again the pain comes back _immediately_ (within 50 yards) to the point of me wanting to just stop running at that moment.  If I power through the first mile the pain lessens a bit until I stop at which point I limp.  I'm thinking my body starts to limber up and then release endorphin which might mask the pain a bit.\n\nThe pain is consistent if I stretch after the run or not.\n\nThe knee pain is above my kneecap, and somewhat behind it so I'm thinking runner's knee... but at 12 miles a week?  I mean, that's three days of 30 minutes easy jogging, can't really \"cut back\" more than that :/", "summary": "1. Is some ache and pain normal for regular runners?  I'm 34, so I'm not sure if age has anything to do with it.  Maybe this is normal and no one talks about the constant aches?"}
{"id": "t3_ylec4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got hired to teach social studies. They asked me to create/teach an elective of MY CHOICE.  What elective does reddit think I should teach ?", "post": "I'm a social studies teacher with a background in acting, making films, obsession with hidden history/conspiracies, photography, current events, etc.\n\nMy school asked me to create a FUN and EXCITING elective class to teach 9-10th graders for one period a day.\nSo far I'm thinking about...\n\nLiving History - a class focused on historical simulations, reenactments, role playing, hands on activities (butter churning, etc best example off top of my head)\n\nHistory Through Film - Analyze historical Hollywood films and other films; determining what is accurate and what is not. Students can also create their own short films which they believe are more accurate in terms of the facts.\n\nHistoriography (study of what, who, why of history) & Hidden History - Examine multiple sources (text books with different views) to determine what really happened, what's been omitted, etc.\n\nHistory of film.\n\nHistory of NYS.\n\nI'd like to weave in some sort of lesson about Tesla! And all that other stuff we should have learned about in HS. I want my students to crave more and more. I want them to QUESTION EVERYTHING. Anyway I appreciate any feedback I can get.\nRight now I'm overwhelmed but excited. Let's hear those ideas! Thanks.", "summary": "New teacher asked to teach/create new elective class. Ideas: hidden history, history through film, movie making, media, etc.  Looking for more ideas."}
{"id": "t3_3dr3dr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my cousin's dog out to use the bathroom.", "post": "This happened a few days ago. Now before I begin, let me give you some background, first: I recently moved in with my cousin (my dad's 32-year-old nephew), his girlfriend, and their 2-year-old daughter down south in the same city I live in, and he has this dog that my brother used to take care of. He keeps him in the back porch, and we would just open the back door to let him outside. [Here's a picture of him.](\n\nSo anyways, my cousin asked me to let the dog outside to use the bathroom, and I did. When he was done, I called him back inside, and he starts running around instead. So I ran back in, grabbed one of his toys, and ran back out, but he had run off to the front. Shit. I sprint over there, and see him coming up the sidewalk. So I wave his toy around to get his attention, and it doesn't work at first, but after a few seconds he starts following me back into the porch, and I shut and lock the door.\n\nAbout two minutes later, I'm taking out the trash, and as I'm walking up the stairs to go back into the house, I hear a gruff male voice call over to me. I froze halfway up the steps, then slowly turn my head to see this man who looks 40 something walking up to me, and his face looked pissed. He asks me if that was my dog, and I tell him it's my cousin's dog and ask why. It turned out when he ran to the front of the house, the man and his wife were walking by, and the dog chased the wife down the sidewalk. (The man also said she was screaming, so she thought he would bite, but he doesn't, and they wouldn't know that.)\n\nMy cousin wasn't too happy with me when he heard the news, and he had to go with the man to his wife and apologize. Let's just say, I felt really bad and embarrassed.", "summary": "Let my cousin's dog out to use the bathroom, he ran to the front of the house and chased a woman down the sidewalk."}
{"id": "t3_3ygxez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] got walked in on while hooking up with girl [F19], and now it's really awkward", "post": "So I was at a party with this girl named Alyssa. I'm 18 and she is 19, and we have been talking for a while, and have always had feelings for eachother, but nothing serious has ever come of it.\nAnyway, we were hooking up in a bathroom, and just as I was taking her panties off her friend Jolie walked in to tell her that Jolie and her boyfriend both just broke up. Alyssa left the room, and her and Jolie went to go talk.\nIt left me sitting there feeling like a complete idiot. Anyway, I left the party a short while later, and when I said bye to Alyssa she didn't really seem interested.\nThe next day we were texting, and she was saying she doesn't know if things will work out, but I'm crazy for this girl so I'm not sure if I can handle that too well.\nWe're a perfect match, everybody thinks so, and we've liked eachother for a while.\nShe just is becoming distant now because of that night, and I have no idea how to react.", "summary": "Things went well until we hooked up"}
{"id": "t3_36pcx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17 M] and I'm going to graduate, I have no fucking idea what I want to do in college or pursue as a career.", "post": "I'm fucking stressed and scared right now, I'm going to graduate in a month, and college classes start in about 3 months from now. I don't know what I want to do in college. I keep telling myself Computer Science, but I'm literally the dumbest person alive. I have no knowledge in math (High School is easy), and idk what to do with my life, it feels like it's over. I'm the most laziest person, I can't focus on studying, it just bothers me so much. \n\nA little bit about me is that I love helping people, and looking out and trying to solve personal problems when I can't handle my own. But aren't those like therapists and psychologists? But it's hard to get a job in that field in NYC? I'm so fucking scared that I won't end up successful within the next ten years. I just want to pursue a career that'll get me far in life with lots of money. But how can I find one if I have NO idea at all?", "summary": "Going to college, have no idea what the fuck I want to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ike8t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by knowing how to fix an iPod", "post": "This started last year, and is now becoming a trend with this little girl.\n\nAbout a year ago, my co-worker came to me asking if I know someone that knows how to fix iPods.  I ask why and she tells me her daughter broke hers.  She made it seems like the iPod was in total shambles, as if the glass separated from the screen and the battery was duct-taped in and you had to use a .7mm led pencil to change over the locked button to unlock (I had a friend that had to do this).  Turned out, she cracked her screen. No Biggie.\n\nI tell her to just leave it with me and give me a week and she'll have it back.  Ordered a new digitizer and screen assembly online, swapped the parts, and made sure it worked.  The kid was ecstatic, jumping up and down, ear to ear grin, she could listen to Justin Bieler, Juan Direction again.  A week went by and it happened again.  Fixed it, kids happy as a clam.  A month goes by, and the kid breaks it again...I buy a screen and otterbox case for her and it lasts about 10 months.  \n\nNow she really fucked this thing up it looks like a semi-truck ran it over, twice.  The LCD screen is actually bleeding and the chassis is a little tweaked.  Plus the grey otterbox case she had is now black.  I buy two digitizer assemblies and another ottorbox case.  Bent the chassis back, replaced the broken parts and it looks like the first time I changed the screen out.  The mom's happy she doesn't need to buy a new ipod, the kid can't stop smiling.  Everyone's happy.\n\nToday, I get four ipods at my desk. The little girl broke her screen again and her moms friend brought me three ipods her son broke.  I'm the ipod repairman now...I'm probably going to charge this other lady. :/", "summary": "Coworkers daughter breaks ipod's screen numerous times to which I repaired it over the year and today I get that ipod back for the same repair, plus three others that have the same issue from her moms friend."}
{"id": "t3_ocvrr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need your help Reddit. I'm getting screwed by American Family Insurance.", "post": "I need your help Reddit.\n\nI was recently in a car accident where the other driver was at fault. They turned through a stopped lane of traffic turning into a parking lot and hit me in the second lane. Their insurance agency accepted fault for the accident. They arranged for me to get a rental car and are paying for the auto body repair at the shop my dealer recommended. \n\nNow here is where I ran into a problem. \n\nI have limited liability insurance on my car because I worked like a boss and saved my money up and paid for it out right so I would not go into debt. I took the risk of not covering the cost of damage to my car for when I am at fault because I have a clean record of driving and am willing to replace my car with a Junker if I wreck it. The amount I have saved not covering my car is enough to buy a replacement car. Anyways, when I picked up the rental car that the at fault insurance company (American Family) paid for, I had to sign for the coverage that the rental company (Enterprise) offers, and is $13 a day, since I do not have full coverage. Makes since. I contacted the at fault insurance company (American Family) and explained this to them and explained that this expense is a result of the accident that their client caused and that they should take responsibility. They flat out said they understand why they should pay for it but they do not have to. My car will not be out of the shop for another 2 weeks and I will end up getting stuck with a $300 and something bill for the insurance. \n\nI am a student and just paid for classes and have to pick up books this week and can not afford this. Please tell me if I have any options. The logic of how they can get away with out paying for this escapes me.  By the way, my insurance company pays for rental insurance when their client is at fault.", "summary": "American Family Insurance is screwing me with a $300 bill for rental insurance that was needed due to their client hitting my car."}
{"id": "t3_j9p97", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I enlist into the military?", "post": "So, for quite sometime I've been toying with the idea of enlisting into the Air Force.  It seems like something I could use, it offers discipline, and gives me guidance so to speak.  In the sense it tells me \"go here, do this.\"  I don't have any plans to pursue any specific career path either, so it gives me more time to think about what I want to do with my life, where I want to go.  What I believe to be important, what makes me happy.  Then, when all is said and done, if I play it smart and don't waste away all my money I get a bit of cash in my pocket and a GI Bill to help me start my life.\n\nBackground: I'm to be 18 soon, and I feel like I can't stay where I am now and achieve happiness, and that is about as specific as my goal in life is right now.  I do have a bit of a history as being depressed, and I was diagnosed as Bi-Polar awhile ago which I choose not to take medication for.\n\nHowever, it's a 4 year commitment.\n\nAny input is welcome, guess I just feel lost and am wondering if you guys think the military offers what I need.", "summary": "Should I enlist?"}
{"id": "t3_14wgp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [19] and I [18f] feel like our relationship has hit a wall and it might be over, help!", "post": "We've been together for 2 years and we both love each other very much and want to be together. But, last night we got in a fight and we both broke down and admitted that we feel like we're growing apart. Whereas before we loved everything about each other, now we find little annoyances in the things each other do and we get bored. Things just aren't the same sometimes. \n\nWe both want to work through this I just really don't know where to go from here, we used to be attached at the hip but now with school and work (plus we don't live together) we barely get to hang out and I feel like that's really put a strain on the relationship.\n\nHe also admitted that he's been fantasizing about other girls. This isn't usually a big deal because we both do it a little and neither of us have a problem with it but the fact that he brought it up in a fight makes me think that he's guilty about doing it too much. I'm starting to think maybe he isn't attracted to me anymore even though he still acts like he is.\n\nWe both really want this to work out but I just don't know what to do to make us work and stay together. Help!!", "summary": "2 year relationship is growing apart, how do I fix it??"}
{"id": "t3_tykb9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents think I'm on cocaine. I need help and advice.", "post": "Hi guys. Just looking for any advice on what to do about this. My parents found an empty bag in my room (it once contained a gram of marijuana and is about that size). They slid their finger through the bag, tasted it, and said that their face was \"tingling\" afterwards. I have never even seen cocaine in real life.\nNow I can't use my car any, I have to start seeing a therapist, and my paycheck (I work in a restaurant) is going straight to my dad to help pay for college, because they think I'll use it to buy more cocaine. How can I help prove that I am totally innocent?", "summary": "My parents think that I'm on cocaine, and I don't know how to prove them wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1tkytf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am uncomfortable with my girlfriend [17F] talking to this guy", "post": "Small background - I left my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years for the girl I'm currently with. The entire time that we were together, she would always do highly inappropriate things with guys. Most of the time, they were right in front of me.   \n  \nEver since my new girl and I got together, she talks to this guy a lot. 90% of the time, she says hey to him before she'll say a word to me. It makes me kind of nervous.  \n  \nThe problem is, I feel nervous when they are together and I'm not there. Am I just paranoid for no reason? I don't want to come across and tell her to stop talking to him, but because of my background, I'm not sure what's going to happen. What do I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend seems too comfortable with this guy. Am I just overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2h6oee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] and Other Guy [21 M]. Don't know how to approach him with my feelings.", "post": "Hi guys! I'm really fumbling with this guy I know. Let's call him Greg. Greg is the chairman for a local convention run by my college. But I didn't really get to know him during my first year. But now we're living in the same dorm hall, so I see him almost every day.\n\nWe've only really made small talk, but he's really cute and from what I've heard and noticed about him, he's really hardworking and ambitious and we both have the same major. But other than that, most of our interests aren't identical. We like anime....but we like different genres. We like games, but I don't play a variety of games anymore. I mostly stick to just 2 or 3. He likes Magic the Gathering, and I used to play it but I stopped because cards are expensive. So in conclusion, at this point I'm interested in a relationship, but before I jump in I would like to get to know him more without other people around.\n\nMy close circle of friends have been making suggestions and helping me stay coherent through this since I'm not very well versed on crushes in general. My inner gut was telling me to approach him and say, \"Hey, I have a crush on you. But I want to get to know you. Is it okay if I can work on homework with you this weekend?\" There's one part of my friends that suggest the straightforward approach is the best, but another faction has suggested I take things slow and let him figure out that I have a crush on him before I actually tell him.\n\nI need your help reddit. I'm a floundering mess, and I feel like I'm going to burst. Any and all help is appreciated! :D", "summary": "Crushing on a guy at college; we don't have much surface interests in common, but I think he's interesting and have developed feelings for him. Need help with how to break the news to him."}
{"id": "t3_4g89bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27/F] am his[27/M] first girlfriend.", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nAround 4 months ago, a friend introduced me to a guy she works with and we started going out. He's kind of shy, quiet, reserved, but since we've been dating he's opened up more and things have started going well.\n\nLast weekend, we ran into one of my ex boyfriends while we were out together. It was a little awkward, but we got through it. Shortly after it happened, he said that won't ever happen with us because I'm the first girl he's ever dated. I thought at first it was a joke, but after he told me more, I realized he was serious.\n\nHe told me that his parents were very strict and controlling, and didn't believe in dating in high school, so he never got to date, go to school dances, prom, etc., as a teen. In college he still lived with them and even though he thought they'd have been OK if he found a girlfriend, he said most girls were into partying, something he wasn't, so he didn't date then either.\n\nAfter moving out on his own, he said he could never figure out how to meet people so he continued to be alone. When I asked my friend if she knew about this, she said she did and fixed us up thinking we'd hit it off and to help him out a little.\n\nHe is a great guy there's no question about that, but knowing this about him is something I'm having a hard time dealing with. He is a mature, responsible person in fact, more so than any other guy I've dated, but knowing this makes me think that might not be the case. These experiences are what matures people ahe the fact he's never had them amkes me wonder if he's ever grown up or ever will.\n   \nI really need some help with how I'm going to deal with and get through this.", "summary": "My 27 year old boyfriend just revealed I'm his first ever girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_3csrny", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I took to Twitter as a last resort to complain about my salary.", "post": "My employer recently admitted that people in my position are paid $10,000 less than local averages. When we asked what we could do about that, they told us to talk to our managers. Now, this answer angered us, because for the past six months, we've been hounding our managers about this subject, and our managers told us to use this recent executive meeting to voice concerns. Essentially, we were told that we would have to run around in circles to get something done.\n\nSix months ago, I sold my two-bedroom, one-bathroom townhouse because I couldn't afford it after having our first son. When it became clear that my employer would do nothing about my cost of living with a new family, I had to start cutting costs wherever I could. I expressed my financial troubles with management and was told \"That's too bad.\"\n\nI was fed up. I was depressed. On top of these past six months of failed salary negotiations, I was constantly getting rejected or ignored by prospective employers. Although my skill set and experience were strong, I'm sure a huge red flag with the 75+ companies I've applied to has been the fact that I did not want them to contact my employer for fear that they would then find a reason to force me to resign or outright fire me.\n\nWhen I realized that all hope was lost, I took to Twitter, hoping that a little bad publicity and passive aggression would work where active protestation did not. I tweeted my story about selling my home, about how our executives treated us during our meeting and about how my work would be impacted by these events.\n\nIt certainly did get the executives' attention, but rather than their promising to act upon the salary adjustment, they wanted to set up a meeting with HR. My manager told me that they are concerned that I am either a union or a flight risk.\n\nNow, I'm stuck in limbo. I'm still doing my job and applying for new opportunities, but I don't know about my future. I won't know if I still have a job until sometime next week at the earliest.", "summary": "I used Twitter to complain about my salary, and now my employer thinks that I'm a union or flight risk."}
{"id": "t3_2sxctt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF[17/F] of almost a year, how to help her with insecurities?", "post": "Hello! My relationship with my girlfriend until recently has truly been splendid, I love her lots and think the world of her. \n\nUnfortunately, issues have come up recently that have caused some problems in our relationship.\n\nIn the past, I've told my girlfriend about my porn habits, and it didn't bother her at the time; Recently, we discussed it a bit more in depth and she realized that i got off to the thought of other girls. \n\nThis hurts her immensely and I realize that I'm partly to blame. For me, porn doesn't mean much and it's just a way to get a quick release, but sex as a whole for my girlfriend means more than that.\n\nHonestly I'm just looking for any helpful advice because when I try to help her by talking to her she tells me that I only make things worse.", "summary": "Girlfriend feels insecure about my porn habits, what can i do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_2tp1i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] called my girlfriend [18/F] a cunt. Apparently this is a huge no-no. I feel like I was provoked. Am I wrong?", "post": "I recently got over a rough patch. Adult life proved a little tough for me but I'm back on track. I get my first check from my new job Friday and am having some issues with my bank. I mentioned that it was inconvenient that valentines day was right around the corner considering everything and she \"we don't have to do it.\"\n\nI thought that was a little much and said it'd be fine. I wasn't meaning for her to take it that way. Apologized for the misunderstanding but she continued to be short with me so I asked what was wrong. She says I don't have to be a douche about it and it made her feel like shit. So I apologized again and she just didn't let it die. We text back and forth for a few minutes about it. She calls me a douche and an asshole and finally gives me a \"k\" reply. I reply \"Cunt\" and it just blows up.\n\nHow can she sit there and call me an asshole but the second I retaliate I've gone too far? This whole thing is childish. Am I in the wrong?", "summary": "Argument over misunderstanding about valentines day. she calls me a douche/asshole. I call her a cunt. Suddenly too far."}
{"id": "t3_1q7o2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] Blocked/Started No Contact with my emotionally abusive ex [26 M] of a year. I'm having trouble with the guilt.", "post": "We were friends first, and then, together for a year. When we first dated, he was near perfect but quickly started displaying red flags. After months and months of him being super controlling, plus the constant put downs, guilt trips, and almost break ups, we split. I don't want to get into too much detail about the things he did/said, but it's made me really insecure and wary of getting romantically attached to anyone else. \n\nI initiated no contact. He agreed, but for the next few weeks, he continued to contact me, trying to maintain the friendship and see what I'm up to. He contacted my friends too. Not enough to be a stalker, but enough to emotionally rattle me, like he always does. About two weeks ago, he pushed me too far, really upset me, so I blocked him on everything. From what I've heard from mutual friends, he's furious, heartbroken, and sad. He says he needs my help to get over the breakup (I know, I know), and when he doesn't talk to me, he's miserable. \n\nHe's not a great BF, but he was a good friend of mine for a long time. This breakup is going to stick... but I'm having trouble dealing with the guilt. I know it's still him getting in my head, but I feel bad that he's hurting. I absolutely cannot talk to him - whenever I do, he convinces me my feelings are wrong. I don't want to backslide - I'm still getting over him (or the guy I thought he was). \n\nAny advice from other Redditors to keep me strong? Talking to him isn't an option.", "summary": "My emotionally abusive ex puts me on guilt trips because he misses me."}
{"id": "t3_1abg3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m, 24] Found out my gf [f, 23] mainly watches porn where the woman is cheating on her husband/boyfriend--should I be worried?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now. Lately she's been acting differently. In the beginning of our relationship, we were having a lot of sex, but in the past month or two it has decreased to about every other day. She's chalked it up to being extra busy with school and work, but it felt pretty abrupt to me. Now, I know I should not have done this\u2014but I became worried that she was cheating on me, so I quickly went through her browser history. We both watch porn, sometimes even together. But what I found was a little shocking: the majority of the porn she watches consists of women cheating on their spouses, oftentimes with ex-boyfriends. Does this mean she is thinking about cheating on me? I didn't find any evidence that she is cheating on me, but what I found makes me feel like she wants to. Should I bring this up to her? Is this a big red flag, or am I overreacting?", "summary": "gf mainly watches porn that involves the woman cheating on her SO, now I'm worried she wants to cheat on me. Am I overreacting? Should I confront her?"}
{"id": "t3_oblra", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[HELP] Snacks", "post": "Ok, I'm new to r/loseit and I was looking for some help. I'm looking to lose around 15 pounds off the 165-ish (no scale around, weighed myself a few weeks ago) I'm weighing in at now. Im a 22yo, 5'8\" guy that is just not feeling particularly healthy, and looking to scrape off some of the gut I've got forming before it gets a bit unmanageable.\n\nHere's my plan so far, and it's going to be a bit difficult because my current living situation (and for the next 2 months) has me living in a hotel room with nothing more than a mini fridge, mini freezer and a microwave for food prep/storage. Anyway... I've done pretty well at cutting out soda already (diet coke is definitely my kryptonite), less hot pockets and chips, and more water, juice and greens with every meal, and cutting back a little on the quantity of everything. Just trying to make smarter choices, like not buying a bag of cookies every time I'm at the grocery store.\n\nMy biggest problem I'm running into though is snacking. I usually end up hungry around 10pm (even before I started eating healthier and not stuffing my face) and end up popping open a bag of potato chips or something similar. I tried just drinking water, but it just wasn't doing it for me. I need something. I just bought some protein shakes I thought I'd try, maybe some v8, but I've never tried these before, so I really don't know what the outcome will be. I've also been munching on frozen peas, but I'm looking for some alternatives, one thing over and over gets a bit monotonous. Is there anything out there you guys can suggest that would fit the bill? Am I on the right track? I would really appreciate all the input I could get, I've been reading around in this subreddit and you guys amaze me, seriously. Incredible progress from so many people, and I'm really hoping this will be a great deal easier if I catch this now, instead of where I'm sure I'd eventually end up.", "summary": "looking for something to munch on thats healthy, but filling that requires little prep (microwave at most)."}
{"id": "t3_30dq5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22/f) depressed s/of (25/m) of 2.5 years doesn't know if he wants relationship", "post": "cross posted this to /r/depression\n\nMy s/o of 2.5 years has been depressed the whole time we've been together. I went through major depression my teen years and have recently just felt better about life I guess in the past year. He's always super negative and pessimistic and it gets taken out on me sometimes.\n\nHe's been acting really weird lately and it all came to a head last night. I decided to talk to him about it, and he said he needs some time off. He said he doesn't feel as satisfied by our relationship anymore, and he's been unhappy for a long time in general. i already knew the second part. He's been suggesting in the past few months we move in together this fall when both our leases are up, and a few weeks ago we had a big talk where he told me I'm all he's ever wanted and he wants to build a life with me.\n\nHe was crying a lot and saying he didn't think he was cut out for a relationship but he cared about me and wanted me around. I told him he couldn't have both of those things, and he said he didn't want to lose me but he didn't know if he wanted a relationship. I've suggested therapy, exercise, changing his diet, doing something multiple times...he said he feels so alone and has always been this way and doesn't know how to be any other way. I'm giving him a few days of space but i don't know what's going to happen. I can't be with somebody who refuses to help themselves. I feel like I keep putting in all this effort and it's all for nothing. I don't want it to be over but I feel like his depression is too great and we've hit a wall. Has anyone else ever dealt with something like this? I feel like I understand what he's saying but I also feel so confused and alone. I feel like he's just giving up on us.", "summary": "s/o is depressed and feels like he is unfit for relationship. doesn't want to lose me but feels unsatisfied."}
{"id": "t3_2q4u4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating advice for a biracial woman at a not so diverse uni?", "post": "I'm a 21 year old biracial woman who attends a largely homogenous university. Of course, that means most guys I come into contact with are the opposite of myself, and at my uni, guys are particularly vocal about their attitudes towards women such as myself (on Yik Yak). Therefore I respect their boundaries by not approaching or hitting on them, which is something they often say is \"offensive\" to them.\n\nAppearance wise, I'm short, petite and fitness is a passion of mine so it shows. Face wise I think I'm average. Nothing sticks out or is asymmetrical, so it all works out. I should probably straighten my hair, but I don't. \n\nI'm reserved, but open up once I get to know you. I'm not into drinking or doing drugs and i'm definitely not a smoker. And I have been given the lovely line of \"I would date you if you weren't (insert ethnicity/race),\" which is fine. I guess my personality isn't all that bad.\n\nI guess what I seek in a male is someone who is funny, who doesn't take himself too serious and who isn't too religious (as I'm not). I don't really have any other preferences, though I find redhead guys to be quite attractive :p", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4za4wt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26M], together 2 years, would you break up with someone because they are infertile?", "post": "We love each other and there haven't been any other major things to make me question our relationship before. I was excited to be moving in with him.\n\nHowever, recently I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I found out I was infertile, and he said he didn't know. I asked if he found out I was infertile right now and he said he would break up with me. \n\nI am extremely upset by this, I feel that if you truly love someone you would not leave them for something they can't control. He feels bad and says he can't help how he feels, and maybe it will change the longer we are together.\n\nHe says he would worry he wouldn't love an adopted child if it was my infertility stopping us having children, but not if it was his infertility. I cannot understand this at all. \n\nWe are due to move in together very soon, and this has made me question whether I can be with him, whereas before I felt so sure. \n\nAfter 2 years is it unreasonable to expect my boyfriend to stay with me if this happened?\n\nI don't even think I am infertile, it's just the principle of leaving someone for something they cant control that I have a problem with! \n\nI could never marry someone who felt unsure they would stay with me if this was the case. \n\nWhat would you do/what would you have done at this point in your relationship? \n\nDo you think his feeling are likely to change the longer we are together?", "summary": "If your boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 years said they would leave you if you were infertile, what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_364z5r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jumping down a wall head first", "post": "So this is my first FU, and this happened yesterday. We had an obstacle course at school, and we tried to finish as fast as we could. One of the obstacles was that we had to climb this \"wall\" and jump down the other side, where there's a landing mat. However, the wall does not have any handles and is hard to climb, so after getting a boost from my friends, I get to the top. Once I get my upper body to the top, I decide, you know what, there's no need to get my legs up, YOLO. I go down, and end up landing face first into the mat. Good thing it was only about 2 meters.", "summary": "Too lazy to bring feet over wall, ended up with face to the mat."}
{"id": "t3_4mq1b2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [19/m] and this girl [18/F] fancy eachother alot, though there is a problem..", "post": ".. She has a boyfriend.\n\nI know for a fact that their relationship is more or less going downhill and that's fast.\n\nWe both went to the same school and we also just graduated. \nHow I know that she actually is interested is because when we crossed eachothers ways we usually had eye contact for far too long and if I would just say hello to her her face would just turn into a tomato instantly. You know, the usual signs.\n\nI wouldn't have been asking you guys for advice if it wasn't for her boyfriend, because I would have already put some effort in meeting her and stuff. The thing is that it feels so wrong to  just ask her what she's up to this weekend because of her boyfriend, but at the same time I really want to go with this, I just want to not care at all about her boyfriend because I know that their relationship is toxic.\n\nWhat would you guys do? Maybe I should just wait and hope that she turns single soon enough?\n\nThanks alot", "summary": "Me and a girl like eachother, she has a boyfriend, I am clueless how to act because I don't want to mess with their relationship even though at the same time I just really want to spend time with her."}
{"id": "t3_2amhmp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my sister [28 M/F] stumbled across her journal.", "post": "I know, stupid stupid stupid, and I shouldn't have read it but I did.  We normally have a very close relationship, and we are so similar that it causes us to clash a lot.  We do stuff together and really share most everything, but we sometimes get into arguments.  Also, we are living at the same house temporarily.  Well, anyway, I read her journal and found some very hurtful things she had written about me, and according to the dates, they were around the same time that we had probably gotten into one of our disputes.  I read it about fifteen minutes ago and feel so hurt I'm not sure how to proceed.  Also, I don't want to use direct quotes, because even though this is a throwaway, she is a frequent reddit user.", "summary": "Was stupid and read my sisters journal, found some hurtful things about me.  Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_54wlp9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First relationship , is it over ?", "post": "So this is my first \"relationship\" we aren't labeling it but we go out on dates and do all that jazz .I met this girl a lil over a month ago, we had a rough moment about 2 weeks ago but after that things were great, for my birthday she got me presents(thoughtful and expensive) and we had a wonderful time , we've already had sex, our last date was this past Friday and it was also our 1 month , we had a good time and all felt great, she couldn't do anything Saturday because she had plans and I told her I had a weird feeling I wouldn't see her again. Like a really strong a gut feeling. She said we'd hang on Sunday after she's off from work. That's Saturday she went to a concert with a coworker (it's a guy) and after that concert her responses to my text seem stale and less emotional , we never hung out on Sunday and she never said anything about it , and this past Monday she hung out with someone (I think it was the same guy) and went to a local area where people usually go to make out , I know all sings are pointing to it but should I just move on? I want to talk to her and see if something I did upset her but she made it clear on our last date that she likes me and is attracted to me. I asked her if she'd wanna go out this weekend but she \"has plans\" so my final question I guess is , what should I do? Thank you \ud83d\ude4f", "summary": "I think my s/o is seeing someone else but has given no sign of unhappiness with me , what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gvxee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Flatmate[33 M]. How much do I charge for his GF moving in?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nso 1 year my gf (student, but her parents are not poor) wanted to move in with us (we had LDR), but in the end plans changed and she stayed where she is. During the debate, my flatmate told me he would want her to contribute to rent with a certain amount x. Even though she would have moved into my room. But it would have been a decrease in his living quality.\n\nNow his vietnamese (from vietnam, just a volunteering job) GF is moving in, same thing, just the other way around. Of course I remember how much he wanted to charge me, so I played it back at him. He argues I should know that his GF has less money available than mine would have had and he appeals to my morals. But I find it hypocritical.\n\nI like his GF, she is nice, she is an enrichment for our shared living, but I have no role in financing her. If he wants her to move in, than he has to take care of it. And since there has number been put on the table by him, thats how it is.\n\nClear case?", "summary": "Flatmate asked my gf for X$, now that roles are reversed he wants it for <X$."}
{"id": "t3_p201f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Legal way to get revenge on my evil neighbors?", "post": "Dear Redditors,\n\nI moved into a new house with my family and three rescue dogs about two months ago. Two days after I moved in, I received an anonymous saying that \"Having three dogs is far too many\" and threatening to take legal action to force me to get rid of them. Over the next few days, I met the majority of my neighbors, and all them were friendly and claimed they had nothing to do with the letter.\n\nHowever, about a week later, a complaint was filed with the city, and we found out that the complainers were a Persian couple we had never met in the house behind us. Unfortunately for them, having three dogs is perfectly legal, and the dogs are very well behaved so they don't violate any noise laws. Therefore, the city was unable to do anything without proof of incessant barking.\n\nThen this happened: I woke up at 8 AM hearing my little one year old pit bull/pug mix barking, which is unusual. I go outside to bring him in and calm him down, and I found the Persian man standing at the gate with a tape recorder in one hand, and throwing rocks at him with the other. Needless to say, I was beyond furious and I'm looking for any legal way to completely ruin the lives of these evil fucks. This is why I'm calling on you, the Reddit Community, to help me find legal ways to get revenge on them.", "summary": "I want to punish my horrible dog-hating neighbors."}
{"id": "t3_4mx7v0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to break up a cat fight", "post": "Today I tried to break up a cat fight. It went terribly wrong. Growing up around dogs I learned to break up animal fights by making myself the alpha. Ie. Being loud and making myself larger. \n\nAnyways cats apparently don't like that much and they ran behind a couch. Me being me of course continues to chase these poor cats and end up ramming my head into a wall making a loud noise and causing both cats to run. One leap far away from me while the other literally flew towards a window, throwing himself at it while pissing himself because he was so scared. The same cat then preceded to attempt his breakout through two different windows. \n\nNeedless to say I learned my lesson and both cats are going to be getting a major petting session when they aren't scared shitless of me.", "summary": "Tried to break up a cat fight by running towards them yelling, ran into a wall and scared a cat so bad that he pissed himself as he ran into windows."}
{"id": "t3_2a23r6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Realistic goal for a four-week period?", "post": "Hello everyone!  I'm getting married in four weeks, and would like to know what is a realistic goal for weight loss in that period.  I'm 28F, 5'7\" CW 130.  I try to net 1200 cal/day (doesn't always happen), weight train 2-3x/week, and cardio 3-4x/week. My goal is to increase the weight training and cardio and to reduce the amount of carbs/increase the lean protein I eat while maintaining the same net caloric intake.  That said...what can I realistically expect to see four weeks from now?  If it helps, I've been on the calorie controlled diet for over a year (with varying degrees of strictness--sometimes I stick to 1200, sometimes I don't), been at my CW for over a year, been doing the cardio and weights for about two whole months.", "summary": "How much can I realistically expect to lose in a four-week period with moderate exercise and 1200 cal/day net intake?"}
{"id": "t3_45c0gf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my gf [16 F] for 1 year and 3 months, not sure what to do..the love is gone?", "post": "Im 17 and im male, I have gf who goes to the same class as me and we've been together for a year and couple months. At first everything was great we had that hooneymoon phase at beggining and all that stuff. She's beautiful,kind, good person overall. And she loves me dearly and would never cheat on me.. and thats what i respect the most about her. But for last month or two I just feel like im losing my passion and affection for her. I dont know. For past couple of months I've started to notice other girls and thats what I havent done a single time in past year, but lately Ive been noticing. And thats weird. To be honest, I still love this girl and would never cheat on her.. but I just dont know. I met her family, she met mine, he have a lot of friends in common.. and also we see each other every day at school amd after school we talk over facebook whole the time whole this time in relationship. Is it possible that I just got fed up of this relationship? I mean I dont want to be a dickhead and just dump her so I would like to get some advices from neutral ppl like you guys and girls at reddit. Whats ur opinon on this? I dont want to hurt this girl but I think she deserves someone better than me who is willing to love her to the fullest. But if I imagine myself without her i just feel weird and sad.. we've been going through a lot of wonderful moments and when I remember them i get so nostalgic that I wont be able ever again to experince them if we break up. So please gimme honest advices. Thank you .. :(", "summary": "I feel like I've been losing my love towards my gf and I just dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2vj6uq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [29F] two years, no anal-sex in bed. Got permission to seek it out there", "post": "We enjoy sex very much, but one thing I love very much(anal) she doesn't. All my partners before marriage had anal sex with me. \n\nWe are an open couple, my female friends join our bed occasionally on the weekend, or after few glasses of wine my wife like to watch me getting a blowjob. But Anal sex is off the table. \n\nShe even offered I will look someplace else for anal sex, she just won't do it. \nI don't bring this issue up anymore for quite sometime, but I am very much into anal. I don't fuck around(unless my wife is watching). I want bought strap on so she I will try my ass and I will try hers. \nOff the table. \n\nWhat shall I do? I won't put pressure on her, but I really miss anal sex. Shall I go fuck around?!\nI have no idea how to act....", "summary": "No anal sex, girls joining us is OK, me fucking others while she watches is OK. What shall I do? I have no clue and I need your opinion. Girls?what do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_3yj76y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (26F) respond to bfs (30) SIL (38). Offended her but not sure how.", "post": "I have been with my bf for almost a year now and the relationship with his brother and SIL has always been good until recently and I'm not sure why.\n\nIt all came to light during Christmas Eve dinner. Bf and family don't usually do a big Christmas but they kind of went to a lot more effort this year. During the night SIL wore a sour look on her face and didn't speak to me. After dinner, SIL spent rest of the night on her phone. Family ignored behaviour (happens more often than it should).\n\nChristmas Day \u2013 bf and I go to SIL house to give a present to her son. Get told that we can drop it and leave because we have a lot on. When we get there she pre-emptively, without even saying hello, yells out from inside \"thanks, bye!\" Bfs brother opens the front door and bf and I go into house to watch nephew open present. SIL shoots dirty looks and ignores us the whole time.\n\nSIL has now unfriended me on Facebook and has told bf that I haven't been treating her nicely. Both bf and I have no idea what she might be referring to. (I'm no angel but I don't usually treat others unkindly). Bfs brother and SIL have now started distancing themselves from the whole family which is causing issues. (Bfs mum isn't seeing her grandson as often now). She won't tell us what it was that I have done.", "summary": "SIL mad at me for being mean, not sure what I've done or how to resolve things."}
{"id": "t3_g3i16", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unrequited love. Should I continue??!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now.  Since the beginning of the relationship, I've asked him to open up about his feelings more and it's still a work in progress.  Although I've mentioned to him that I do love him, he doesn't want to say it back because he doesn't know.  He can't say because how could he \"know what love is.\"  Now while I appreciate this honesty, I'll be more okay with it if he just tells me once in a while that I'm special to him.  I know that makes me sound like a total needy person but I DO need this and I've outright told him many times.  But he doesn't do that either.  During some fights, we figured that he doesn't want to open up and \"move to the next level\" because he doesn't know what our future looks like.  I'm going away to school a few hundred miles away next year.  He doesn't want to let go because of this and other reasons.\n\nI'm so conflicted with my feelings at this point.  I don't think we can continue such a relationship if he can't just let go.  I don't like being the one more emotionally attached at this point.  He's doing all this to prevent himself from getting hurt, which in turn is hurting me a lot.  It makes me concern that a long-distance relationship won't work if it's unstable to begin with.  However, I don't want to let him go because I AM happy with him and he's very good to me.  I just don't like being in a relationship where both sides aren't on the same emotional page.\n\nWhat should I do??!!  I really need some advices here...", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't love back.  Leave or stay?"}
{"id": "t3_46qmzg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32M] bf won't touch me [27/f] and it's messing up my self esteem.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we've slept together maybe a dozen times. He can't stay hard and has finished only once using his hand. He blames that for being the reason he doesn't try anything with me. Getting him to kiss me is even incredibly difficult. It's excuse after excuse and it's fucking with my head. Constantly being rejected by him has made me feel incredibly unattractive. \n\nI know I'm good looking, I get hit on every time I leave the house, even in front of him. His friends have even crossed some lines with their behavior. I've tried sexy outfits, using a toy in front of him and I have blown him for over an hour a ton of times.  But wtf... Not only no sex but he has only gone down on me once and that was after our first date. Now when I get hit on or cat called I replay that it my head all day.\n\nI've talked about it with him numerous times and the only response is that he can't preform and that's why. He won't even fucking hold me.\nEvery guy I dated previously has had commitment issues and bailed on me. My current boyfriend is incredibly reliable and fun so I'd rather work on it. \n\nI need some help :(", "summary": "My boyfriend of 5 months won't be intimate with me and the rejection is getting to me"}
{"id": "t3_27zpra", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Would you rather work from home or have to go in every day but get a pay raise?", "post": "I have a wonderful job where I can work from home any time I want to. I usually go in 1-2x a week just for some face time, but my entire team works remotely. I love the people I work with and have no reason to *want* to leave.\n\nHowever, I have an opportunity for a new job where I potentially could get a pay raise from ~$80k (depending on my EOY bonus, it could be a little less or more) to $100k. It would be cool because it's the same company that my husband works for, and we wouldn't be working directly together so we wouldn't have an issue with our personal life getting in the way of work. I would be doing very similar stuff, but I would actually be working way more in this job. In my $80k job, I do about 15-20 hours of real work a week. In my $100k job, it would be closer to 30-40.", "summary": "I have an $80k job where I work from home but could get a very similar job for $100k but would have to go in every day"}
{"id": "t3_3766pa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hard to shake memories!", "post": "So I [24m] broke up with my ex [23f] nearly 6 weeks ago and I'm pretty much over her but the one things that keeps lingering on are memories of a month long trip we took to japan. It was such a great trip and little snippets of it always pop into my head- while at work, at home and particularly whilst meditating! \n\nThese memories are generally accompanied with a sense of longing ( Half of the time to be back there, and half of the time to be back in a relationship like that) as well as sadness that even though we had such a wonderful and loving trip, it still ended only a few months afterwards.\n\nSo my question is...should I do something to completely forget that trip ( to me that doesn't seem like a mature decision but convince me otherwise if that's what you believe) or otherwise, how do I a) reduce the occurrence of these flash backs and b) make them less painful. Thanks in advance everyone!", "summary": "broke up with ex, keep having memories about an amazing month long trip to Japan- how do I process that?"}
{"id": "t3_1udubx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/M] can't seem to get over my girlfriend's [25/F] past. What should I do?", "post": "We have been dating for about half a year now and I just can't seem to get over her past. One of the biggest things I can't get over is the fact that she used to have a friends-with-benefits sort of deal. She justified it as a rough patch in her life and that she would never do it again and that she's changed because she only did it because she wanted to feel loved by someone. The problem is, it was only about half a year ago when she ended this and I am having a hard time getting over it. We are each other's first and real boyfriend and girlfriend. I feel awful that I can't seem to get over her past and I have brought this up with her multiple times and she is comforting and says that she will do anything to earn my trust. I guess I just want some advice as to what I should do about my situation? I don't know what is wrong with me because we both agreed that we care for each other greatly and we are very emotional attached to each other. What are some ways I can learn to get over this paranoia that one day she will cheat on me?", "summary": "girlfriend has had a past I cannot stand, paranoid that she will cheat on me eventually, we are both very emotionally invested in each other, what do"}
{"id": "t3_51hkg2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Restaurant I worked at closed down and I didn't get the amount I was supposed to.", "post": "I started to work at a restaurant recently and forgot to clock in on one of the days i was working. As I was clocking out I realized this and told the assistant manager. He said that he would take care of it and told me to clock in and clock out just as a way to show i was here and forgot to clock into the computer. I talked to the manager about this later the next day and she said that it would be taken care of. The restaurant then chooses to close the week before everyone is supposed to get their paychecks and says that they will be mailed out. I checked the amount I was payed and I can tell that the day I forgot to clock in was not fixed. I was down 70$, not too much but still a lot to a high schooler. I talked to the assistant manager who worked at a sister restaurant and he said that he would take care of it. I then let the matter settle for a week and called them back to see if they had done anything about it. The assistant manager (the same one who told me he would take care of it) then proceeds to tell me that he cannot do anything and that i would have to talk to the manager, who is no longer with the restaurant or sister restaurant since it closed. I am almost certain that the manager has power on the issue anymore and calling her would definitely not help me in any way. I was told by the assistant manager that the restaurant also does not have the computers with the clock ins anymore.\n      What can I do given the position I am in? Would calling the department of labor help my case in any way?", "summary": "forgot to clock in one day, restaurant closed, didn't get payed that day."}
{"id": "t3_2a3p40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] am ready to propose to my girlfriend [24F]. What do I do now?", "post": "I know I want to propose to my girlfriend, now I just figure out the process do it.\n\nI want to ask her dad for his blessing, so I think that comes first, but let me know if I'm wrong. Then I grab her sister and best friend on a day that she's working and pick out a ring. Then comes the actual proposal. Do I have that right? Am I forgetting anything?\n\nAnother thing I'm not sure is the timetable. How long do I have after I ask her dad? My best proposal plan at the moment is to recreate our first date on our anniversary, but that's in January and I'm not sure I want to wait that long. If I ask her dad for his blessing in the next month or two, would it be weird to then wait another 4-5 months to actually propose?\n\nAny help/hints/tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for your time!", "summary": "What are the important steps in proposing and how long should it take?"}
{"id": "t3_1jblrn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/f] Boyfriend of 4mon. [18/m] won't stop talking about how he needs to take it up the butt [probably NSFW]", "post": "Both of us are bisexual and this is his very first IRL relationship (my 10th...). He previously had an online boyfriend for two years that ended just before we started to date. I was his first everything - including sexual partner and first kiss, etc - and everything was a-okay until the last month or so. Recently he's been continuously talking/joking about how he really wants to get fcked up the ass by some guy. Long story short, I found out he was actually looking online for a guy to fuck him because apparently it wasn't clear that we were in a monogamous relationship? We've discussed it at length and he's decided to get over himself and to deal with his apparent urges in ways that adhere to the monogamy but still bring him the pleasure he seeks. What really concerns me though, is how long this is going to hold up. How long until he's sick of the V and leaves me for the D? I know I sound clingy and jealous and terrible but this is the first relationship I've been in where I actually love the person I'm with, there is no form of abuse, and I would do anything to retain what we have. I just feel so inadequate.", "summary": "my bf wants to be buttfucked and i'm scared he'll leave me for someone who physically can."}
{"id": "t3_2fhqhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my gf [30 F] of 2 months, still resolving ex issues", "post": "My gf of two moths is still in contact with her most recent ex. They text each other once about 2 weeks or so and she has told me that she never initiates contact. He usually reaches out for some assistance with an insurance policy that they were both part of and some visa issues (he is an international) that she was helping him with before they broke up.\n\nMy gf tells me she feels nothing for him and just being nice and not rude as he was there for her during a tough time. I have told her to end it period and at least maintain no contact for a few months. She thinks I am making a big deal out of it and giving the issue more weight than its worth.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Gf still in contact with most recent ex, acceptable? If not, how do I break it off without being demanding."}
{"id": "t3_15t9zf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By blowing girl opportunity", "post": "I'm a 18 y/o high schooler and my little brother had a laser tag bday party. I was just kinda messing around the whole time talking to these cute staff girls my age. This one I barely talked to was incredibly good looking, like intimidating. Later when the cake just got served, she comes up to me in front of my whole family and nervously says \"Um, you're really cute, and I'm really sad you don't go to my school\". I am in complete shock that she had the guts to do that, and I managed to stumble a \"thank you so much\" out before she left right after. 5 mins later I got my shit together and was going to ask for a number or a name at least, but she was gone. Reddit, I blew it.", "summary": "I blew the perfect chance with a beautiful girl that came on to me."}
{"id": "t3_2u63t6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am not sure how to start a conversation with my biological father [40?M], who I've never met", "post": "My mom [Kathy] had me when she was 16 years old with my biological father [Max] who lied about his age I believe he was 26 or something at the time. Anyway, Max didn't really want anything to do with my mom when he found out that she was pregnant. My mom started to date a young man [Josh] who was a year younger than her when I was 3 months old. Eventually Josh and my mom got married when I was 3 years old. I have always thought Josh was my biological dad, because I started going by his last named when they got married. I found out he wasn't my biological dad after a talk with him and my mother when I was around 11. When I turned 18 I legally changed my last name to Josh's and my moms last name.\n\nI've never had hard feelings against Josh and my mom. I still see Josh as my dad, he raised me. He helps pay for my college, he is supportive of all my aspirations in life, he has been a provider and nurturer for me since I was 3 months old. Obviously, he is my dad. \n\nMy biological father has contacted me a few times in the last few years through Facebook.  He does not live very far from my rural hometown. Guys, I feel guilty about wanting to talk to this man. I just have so many questions for Max. (Why did you leave my mom? Health and family history? Do I have siblings? What's your wife like? Why do you choose to be a father to her kids but not to me?) I am scared that Josh will be upset if I come into contact with Max. I am also not sure how to go about asking him questions in an appropriate manner... any advice for me?", "summary": "My mom had me as a teenager, my biological father has never been in the picture. I feel guilty about wanting to get to know him because I love my \"adoptive\" dad. I also do no know how to ask him questions in an appropriate manner."}
{"id": "t3_3i84xz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if this belongs here but I [22F] might be pregnant with my ex [31M]", "post": "Okay , so i was with my ex for a year. We recently broke up due to too much baby mama drama(he has 4 kids an a crazy ex) . i still love him dearly but i just couldn't handle all the drama that lady kept giving us. We still talk everyday and I feel like we are on good terms. Anyways , he got a vasectomy last June. On September of last year he went in for a sperm count and he was \"in the clear\" . we never used protection because he was suppose to be sterile. So I guess my question is what are the chances of me being pregnant? I took a pregnancy test at home and it came out negative. But I keep having symptoms of being pregnant. Cravings, nausea, my sense of smell all of sudden got really strong. I haven't had my period since June . it just seems unbelievable that im pregnant. I've only had intercourse with him for the past year so if I am pregnant there's no doubt that he is the father. \n\nI've been under a lot of stress lately . there was the drama with his ex, then there was drama with my family. So I've been under lots of stress which can explain why I haven't had a period. \n\nIf I am pregnant , then what would that mean for us? For my baby and I. Does that mean we will get back together ? I've talked to him about it and he wants us to get back together , pregnant or not. He already told his ex, and his ex is being difficult(no surprise there) saying how the baby isn't his. \n\nWhat do I do ? Im lost.", "summary": "ex has vasectomy. What are the chances of me being pregnant ?!"}
{"id": "t3_226th7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] feel like I'm not treating my gf right [18 F]", "post": "Hey guys, \n\nI've been with my gf for almost a year now and I feel like I'm not treating her right..\n\nWe get into arguments quite frequently (we are far apart since I attend university) and I've constantly felt like shit because it's pretty much always my fault. She's getting pretty busy herself and our communication has gone down. I don't want to pressure her with my frequent 'attention' whoring as I keep thinking of it, constantly 'bugging' her and trying to talk to her.. but I need to drill into my head that being busy is part of life and she won't always have time to talk to me.\n\nI don't want this to go away, and I want to keep what I have going for as long as I can.\n\nHow can I do this?", "summary": "I'm a bad bf."}
{"id": "t3_280j0r", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I have an overly aggressive dog and need some serious help.", "post": "So. I have a 18 month old female boxer. As said in the title there are aggression issues. She's fine with people that she knows but the main issue is any stranger. For instance today I had a female friend over and I let her in the door and gently introduced her to the dog while holding the dogs collar to make sure I could pull her back if necessary (which sadly was.) She is also the same around 99% of other dogs. Always being dominant and trying to attack. She is however fine with our other dog a dachshund and my grandmothers yorkie, other than that no other dogs. In terms of normal attitude at home she is a little better around us.  She knows I am above her in terms of pack order however I am a college student and only at home during the summer. My mom isn't firm enough to make sure she is always the pack leader. I want to make it clear that she isn't aggressive towards us on any level, just extremely stubborn. So, what can I do as someone who isn't a constant presence in the dogs life, only here on weekends and summer.", "summary": "dog aggressive towards strangers."}
{"id": "t3_14rdut", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was/has been the scariest moment of your life so far?", "post": "I was skiing in Fernie, and was going through the trails. Got a little too hard for my skill level. It was too hard. I was putting in all my effort. I was scared shit-less. I ended up hitting a fallen tree trunk, and fell, skis popping of my feet, and I got launched towards the tree in front of me. I couldn't feel anything. So I started yelling, and contacted my parents. They then went to to medics, who took what felt like forever to find me. I was scared. I thought they wouldn't find me. It was dark by the time they found me. The medic then informed me that I broke my back. I then proceeded down the hill in the neck brace thing. I was then helicoptered to the Fernie hospital. I was there for a few days before they let me go home. I was in a back brace for 2 months, no school, nothing. I sat on my ass, ate and played video games. Doing the odd bit of school work here and there.", "summary": "Broke my back skiing, got stuck on the mountain for a while."}
{"id": "t3_32fll9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] think my boyfriend [17M] of one year is a compulsive liar", "post": "This probably sounds like a really stupid problem, but it bothers me a lot and I honestly don't know what I can do about it. I've recently realised that my boyfriend lies about a lot of random little things, for example making fake posts on reddit or things about his past. He tries to justify this as \"telling stories\", and even when I clearly define a lie as trying to pass off something as the truth while stories are typically known to be made up, he refuses to acknowledge that what he's doing is any different than simply telling a story.\n\nI've tried confronting him about how he makes so many fake stories up on reddit, but he accuses me of being controlling and trying to change him or stop him from doing something that he enjoys (he considers this a hobby). He even goes to the extent of making multiple accounts to reply to his own posts if they don't get enough comments. He sends me his posts when he makes it to the hot page on reddit, and usually not a single occurrence that he writes about is close to anything that's actually happened to him. I know that he is happy about them gaining attention, but I feel like it's for all the wrong reasons. What bothers me even more is that he can't even admit that what he's doing is lying. This of course, is just one example of his lying.\n\nHe's a pretty good boyfriend in other areas, and of course he has other flaws but most of them don't bother me too much. For some reason this is just one thing I can't get over and can't think if any way to work around.\n\nI might be wrong to say he's a compulsive liar (he might not technically be), but what I mean to get across is that he lies a lot. It bothers me whenever I catch him in a lie, even if it is just a small one. It makes me feel like I can't really trust him on even the smallest of things, because if he can lie so easily to others, what's to stop him from doing it to me?", "summary": "My boyfriends lies a lot, in real life and on reddit. It bothers me more than anything else about him, and I've tried talking to him about it to no avail. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3sntsw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [21/M] go about telling a girl [21/f] I've been hanging out with that I have feelings for her and want to have a relationship?", "post": "I've known her for a couple months but we have only started hanging out together recently since I moved back to her city for work (I was away at school, met through mutual friends). We've hung out once every weekend for the past month and have been texting throughout the week. One of the activities she invited me and another I invited her and both involved dinner afterwards. All of these didn't go into anything romantic (we are both more on the shy side), but she did hug me at the end last week since my birthday was that week and she wouldn't see me before then. She seems to always wants to do things that I enjoy even though she's not entirely comfortable with them (like go to a hockey game). I absolutely love spending time with her, I feel like we get each other 100%\n\nUsually when we text our conversations go on for hours, and we've been opening up quite a bit lately about our personal lives. I feel like there has been some hints: One time we were talking about how much fun we had on our last outing and I said \"I've been really enjoying myself, who knows what will happen next?\", and she replied \"I'm interested to find out\". I also told her how nice it was talking to her and she said \"it's really nice talking with you, no need to thank me\". \n\nEven though I would be more comfortable with it , I would rather tell her about my feelings in person rather than text. But i've never done this before, as sad as this is it is my first potential relationship. We are going out for coffee and probably something else this weekend so I think it would be a good time to tell her. We are in the same friend circle so i'm really scared about making this awkward during future regular meetups.\n\nWhat should I say? \"I really like spending time with you and really like you. I was wondering if you felt the same?\" That sounds so awkward. We are both awkward people, so it might work, but I don't know what to say to sound natural and not ruin what we have right now.\n\nAny help?", "summary": "Started hanging out with girl I really like, nothing romantic yet. Think she is into me as well (not sure). Want to tell her how I feel and go to the next level but have no idea how to say it. Don't want to ruin what we have  since we are in the same friend circle"}
{"id": "t3_2t9eg8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What a change", "post": "It's amazing how I go out tonight feeling sad about my ex and how I was done wrong and the sad feeling is immediately wiped away when I saw you come through the door at the bar to come meet me for a drink and some live music. Gosh you're  so good looking and your smile, forget it! It's even nicer that we are on common ground both being musically inclined and of course it's nice to learn about your IT job as a senior systems administrator. There's something about IT that has always appealed to me with guys. Our conversation tonight kept going and then we sat next to each other, snuggled, kissed a bit and flirted. It was nice. Then we left since we both have to work tomorrow and walking the streets of the city with you felt natural just laughing and making jokes. I'm glad I offered to drive you to your car (you parked way up the street!) because when I parked next to your car, you made sure to go in for a little make out session and I love kissing you. Your beard is a nice touch and you kiss so sweetly. We made plans to figure out seeing each other this weekend which I'm happy about. You're a ton of fun and sweet. Thanks for that.", "summary": "Went on a 3rd date with this new guy and it'd nicely working out."}
{"id": "t3_1nw3up", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) have realized I am asexual. I'm in the beginning stages of dating a new guy (M22). When do I tell him?", "post": "I have finally realized I am Gray-A asexual (definition below) after a few years of wondering why I was so fucking weird and awkward. I'm comfortable with this identity and am sure this is what I am. The second and third bullets in the Wiki article apply to me. I experience mild, occasional sexual attraction, but I don't care to act on it. I masturbate regularly and have no problem with sex as a concept. I'm a virgin, and wouldn't really mind if that never changed. But I would enjoy a serious relationship, and wouldn't mind if sex was involved.\n\nGray-A asexuals:experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive\n-experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them\n-people who can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances\n\nI've been taking to a guy at my college for a few weeks now and it's been going well. We've been on a few dates and I like where this is going. We're both pretty nerdy and awkward, so it's been going pretty slowly. We're basically friends who are extra awkward around each other. I expect a kiss or something will happen soon.\n\nI would have no problem having occasional sex with a partner if they enjoyed it. I see it as like when one half of a couple has a fetish and will occasionally have sex that involves the fetish. I don't want it to be like that all the time, but it makes my partner happy, so I'm happy.\n\nI want to be honest with him. If this is a dealbreaker for him (but I don't think it will be), I completely respect that. When do I say something?", "summary": "I'm a recently realized asexual. When do I say something to the guy I'm very slowly beginning to date?"}
{"id": "t3_12up4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22f] has been keeping things from me [21m] and has just been keeping things bewtween herself and her friend, is this ok?", "post": "Some basic info: we have been together 13 months and she has depression and anxiety. The past 6 or so months she has been keeping quite about her feelings and has been hiding things like cutting, and burning herself on purpose. At the beginning of the relationship she mentioned her best friend (a girl) helps her deal with all her problems and that was perfectly fine by me. She tries to keep in contact with her, by texting, from the moment she gets up and until she goes to bed. She even does it on dates, which is annoying, but that's not my problem here. Like I said she has been keeping quite about things for the past 6 months, and what I am assuming is just keeping things between herself and her friend. I am torn whether this is ok or not. On one hand im glad there is someone there to help her (she has no counselor ATM), but feel bad because she never brings anything by me anymore (Im not wanting to take the place of her friend, I just want to know whats going on with my GF). Also when its obvious she cuts, and dosnt tell me, would the right thing to do is to ask her about it? I just feel like id be confronting her in a bad way...", "summary": "GF has been keeping things like her feelings and her self injuries away from me for the past 6 months. She has a friend who helps her and has just been keeping things between the 2 of them. Is this ok, or should I talk to her about opening up more to me like she used to?"}
{"id": "t3_3yqt8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18f) and my brother (16m) just found out our dad (37m) has been cheating on my mom(39f) for their entire relationship, and now he regularly goes to strip clubs and spends thousands. Here's the Best part my mom knows and choose to stay with him. Help!'n", "post": "I was eating by myself at the dinner table and saw a notebook thinking it was mine because I have several around the house. I looked through it and saw my mom had some recipes written and then I see a page with a giant paragraph going into detial about how my mom put with cheating , strippers and abuse. \n\nMy heart sank I ran my Room and couldn't stop crying and told my brother because he's my brother and has the right to know. I've always had a problem with my dad because he's an angry asshole and now he's literally torn my heart out. I always thought he loved me and my brother even though he was so mean and now I feel like it was all an act because he got her pregnant when they were 18 'and 20. I feel like I was lied to all my childhood. I'm angry and I don't know how to cope. I do go to therapy and will be seeing my therapist again on the 5th. Please help Reddit I feel like absolute shit.", "summary": "Dad cheats on mom and she knows and puts up with it I just found out and want to throw up."}
{"id": "t3_had9z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad was fired today for no given reason, and he asked for my help saving some incriminating info from his employers", "post": "As the title says. My father was fired today from his job and was given no real reason. He worked as a manager for one of the larger general contracting companies back home. It was his job to ensure that job sites were completed on time, within budget, and within code. The company he worked for often built low income and government subsidized housing. In many cases the owners and VPs would cut certain corners that would make the project legitimately cheaper, but still projected the same expenses and pocketed the rest. \n\nWhile my dad noticed this going on he kept written documents of everything, in the event something occurred. He was also not getting paid for many hours he was working at the time; treating him as though he was on salary, while still on hourly wages. \n\nHe came to me asking what he should do. In his email there is proof of much of the happenings. It is a company computer that uses outlook, and needs to be returned along with the truck tomorrow. Im worried about backing up these emails, then potentially losing the integrity of the files in court for whatever reason. \n\nIts a been a pretty wonky day in the household. When I got in from being out, this was all unloaded on me to take care of for the night. Im pretty worried about what to do beyond this as well. Sorry for the long winded post, but im tossing my last two cents into the Reddit Well of Infinite Brain. Thank you.", "summary": "Dad got fired without reason. Company he works for is stealing money from local government housing. Dads got proof and doesnt know how to back it up or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4bkzar", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat scratches at furniture but I don't feel comfortable declawing. Looking for advice on claw covers/alternatives to declawing.", "post": "One year ago, I adopted an adult cat (estimated four years old now) from a shelter named Rupert. He is not declawed. In the past year, he has never been aggressive, has never scratched me or anyone who has interacted with him. He does, however, scratch at the arm of the couch at times and has done some damage there. \n\nI tried buying him a scratching post, but he has completely ignored it. I also had a product called \"Stop That!\" I think, that I sprayed when he was naughty (it was a spray can that made a loud \"hissing\" sound). It helped somewhat, but I think he still scratches when nobody is around.  He doesn't scratch hardly anywhere else.\n\nDue to some personal reasons, I have been staying with my parents for the past month, and my roommates have been taking care of my cat. I miss him a lot, though, and want to bring him here to stay with me. The problem is that my mom just ordered new, expensive furniture and wants me to declaw him before he stays here. I don't feel comfortable declawing, even though all my family's cats have been declawed with no problems. \n\nI tried using claw covers that I bought at PetSmart, called Whisker City Kitty Caps. The kit was awful, the glue did not work well, we ended up using some nontoxic craft glue, but it makes me nervous using unapproved glue. He managed to pull off some of the caps quickly while some remained in tact for a few weeks. \n\nHere are my questions: \n\n1) Are there better quality claw covers that I can purchase? Any tips/tricks to increase their effectiveness?\n\n2) I have seen products that you can spray on surfaces to defer cats from scratching. Do those work? Product recommendations?\n\n3) Are claw covers comfortable/humane for cats? I read that they prevent cats from retracting their claws completely.", "summary": "My cat scratches furniture but I don't want to declaw. Looking for ways around it."}
{"id": "t3_y20vm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tall man making some big changes - 5 weeks of progress (more than I thought!)", "post": "Hi /r/loseit! [To start, here are the pics!](\n\nBack in high school and my first couple years of college I was in amazing shape. 6'4\" about 180 and I was running about 6-8 miles every day.  I even ran a marathon during my time in college (Twin Cities '08). Things started to go downhill soon after graduating college\u2026.\n \nThe summer after graduation my family found out that my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was devastated. I turned to food to deal with it. Her cancer progressed and eventually it had spread to her bones. She fought the cancer until the very last day, January 8th 2011. Just like before, I turned to food to deal with the pain and eventually was up to 280lbs. I knew I needed to make a change  but I just didn't care.\nFast forward to this spring, I had slowly made my way down to 260 after bouncing around in weight for an entire year. When I started reading /r/loseit I was around 265 and was inspired by all of the stories that you have posted.\n \nExercise: First of all, I got moving. Every day. No tv, no Netflix. I simply got rid of everything that was keeping me indoors and stationary.  \nMWF I go swimming for at least 45min with a short run after and some lifting in there as well.\nTTHS I go running and maybe lifting.\nDiet: Intermittent fasting 19/5 and I cut out carbs (not because they are necessarily bad) and have kept my caloric intake to around 1500-1800 every day.\n \nAs of right now I am down a total of 45lbs from my peak and 25 from when I started taking progress pics (which is why I only have 25 listed as what I have lost on here). If you have any questions feel free to ask!\n \n6'4\"\n\n*Starting weight 280\n\n*Current weight 235\n\n*Goal weight 195 (this will be evaluated as I go)\n\nI am hoping to hit my goal by thanksgiving (at the latest Christmas)", "summary": "Life got in the way, gained weight, now losing it all. Take pics, they help motivate when you cant see progress"}
{"id": "t3_2nbjab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 M] wife [28] of 8 years left me just over two months ago now. I need some advice about other women..,", "post": "Very long story short: wife and I were married in a church at the age of 20. We both left that church and became atheists around 5 years ago. During that time, we moved OS and started to experience life in all of it's dirty / beautiful glory. Part of our big city experience involved being in a semi-open relationship - this didn't work out and she recently left me. \n\nI'm heartbroken, but because of out openness, the thought of dating / meeting women isn't such a big step. \n\nMy real question is this; what do I say to girls about my past? It seems to be the thing these days that you add each other to FB - as soon as this happens, they're going to know I'm married / have been married from a very young age, which is probably quite off-putting!\n\nI'm meeting a gorgeous 24 year old I met on Tinder this week, but I'm not sure what I should say when she asks me about my last or why I moved overseas etc. as soon as I say, \"well...I came over here with my wife, who I'm still married to by the way!\" I'm not after a serious relationship right now, but I also don't want to be a dick. \n\nAny advice? Would you be really open about the past, or would you leave it for date 2-3?", "summary": "Recently separated from wife who I've been with for 8 years, got married in a church at 20 years old. Wanting to date ppl but not sure how to bring up past without freaking them all out!"}
{"id": "t3_1tp48x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] Cheating ex gf (25/f) wants to talk and apologize after several years of silence. What would you do?", "post": "A number of years ago I had a gf who ended up cheating on me and truly breaking my heart. I've had gf's since said ex but always found myself comparing them to her as I truly thought this girl was \"the one\". It's ruined several relationships since and it's as though I can't get passed \"the one\". I couldn't get over the fact that in the span of a weekend someone could just disappear from your life as if they had passed away. It all happened so quickly and without rhyme or reason.\n\nI had lost contact with said ex, and despite having a normal dating and social life, I constantly find myself thinking about her. I don't tell friends or family about this as to not look pathetic or crazy. I would say I'm over her but not over that feeling I had and that feeling I had is a difficult one to find again.\n\nA week ago said ex reached out to me wanting to meet up over Christmas while I was home to talk. I responded simply with \"Why?\" and got a response \"Because I owe you an apology.\"\n\nSo here I am, asking possibly the best/worst/funniest/wisest/most immature/kindest/heartless/cheater hating audience I could possibly ask for, \"What would you do?\" Give me whatever comes to minds, serious or not. My group of friends have been coming up with some interesting scenarios, which have put a humorous spin on my predicament. A part of me wants to take it seriously and another part makes me want to turn this into a hilarious story.", "summary": "Cheating ex wants to talk, WWYD.  Serious or make it into a joke?"}
{"id": "t3_16rrzl", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I f(22) Just broke up with SO m(25) feeling crushed but I am confident it was the right thing to do...how do i feel better? Complicated to do no contact because all of his stuff is still in my house. details inside.", "post": "Hi. So...just broke up with BF this morning. It has been about a month coming...so it was not out of the blue. Basically we have been together about 8 or 9months (not long) he has a plethora of anger issues...probably stemming from his upbringing/ past relationship but not excusable by any means. Since ive been with him he has broken my bathroom door (put his head through it while in a uncontrollable rage), punch my armoire until he broke the door to pieces, punched my closet door and put a hole in it. Most of the time this kind of thing happens he has been drinking. He has a very hard time controlling his emotions and he feels i don't love him as much as he loves me and that i am in this relationship out of convenience and he is some sort of place holder until something better comes along. Basically i have fallen out of love with him and i told him his behavior is not ok. I do not want to live in fear that he may hurt me, my friends, or my belongings. For the last month we have been emotionally and phsyically detached. We were all drinking at my apartment and he went crazy and was screaming and yelling at me...the property manager came over at 2am with the cops with him and escorted SO out of my apartment and put a 1 year TRO on him from the property. All of his stuff is still at my house. He has been staying at various friends houses but on top of all this his car broke so he needs rides from me. I have been picking him up from work...taking him to visit his kids, letting him borrow my car to go to the gym/ store etc... im waiting until he finds an apartment to tell him to get his stuff. I still care a great deal for him i just cant be in a relationship with him. I want to cut off all contact but its difficult given his situation and the fact that all of his clothes and belongings are in my apartment. Any advice for this type of situation?", "summary": "Broke up with SO of 8months due to his anger/ violence as well as just loss of feelings for him. Hard to do no contact because he got kicked out of my apt but all of his stuff is still there also he relies on me for rides, doing his laundry, etc..Need help figuring out how to cut him off without being heartless."}
{"id": "t3_3l585j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22/F] and I [24/M] have been together 6 months. There are now compromising pics / vids of her circulating in our social group.", "post": "We have been together for 6 months and everything has been going great. In all we're a great match for eachother and i'm really happy with our relationship but recently a close friend took me aside and told him that a number of videos and pics of her have been circulating around my social group, etc showing her naked, having sex with people, etc. I want to talk to her about this but I want to make sure I don't hurt her as it's entirely possible they were from before we were together. I'm also quite upset with my friends and acquaintances seeing these. How should I approach the topic with her?", "summary": "Videos of my girlfriend naked / having sex with people have surfaced, I need to know how to talk to her sensitively about this."}
{"id": "t3_puq6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Great boyfriend and sex life, but I'm having trouble adjusting to not being dominated. What do I do?", "post": "I am a 23f and my boyfriend is 22.  We've only been dating for six months or so, but I'm really enjoying him and his company. He treats me like gold, and I feel extremely lucky to have him by my side.  I see this going somewhere.\n\nNow to add the conflict. Many, most, of my past emotional and sexual relationships have been bdsm based.  I went through some emotional turmoil (unrelated to bdsm) in August 2010, and took a long break from relationships.  Then I met this new guy, and, well, he makes me feel good. Good about myself, my place in life.  \n\nOur sex life is really nice.  However, he's just...not into kinky stuff.  I miss being dominated, dearly.  I don't want to end up bored by our sex life, but I also really don't want to push a Dom position on him if he really doesn't want to.  \n\nI am not complaining about my boyfriend, he is wonderful.  I've brought up my old ways of being a sub.  He just apologizes and says he's not a \"mean enough guy\" to do stuff like that.  I can understand the misconception, but I've been in D/s relationships that were healthy, and I've remained friends with those involved. \n\nIf I tried to convince him more, he would probably do some things for me, but I just don't know if he'd enjoy it.  I don't want to make him do something just because he feels obligated.\n\nBeing dominated for me is both a sexual and emotional thing.  I thought I would be able to readjust, but I'm struggling.  I really do not want to lose this guy, he means a lot to me.  \n\nIs this an inconsolable difference? Should I try to talk about it more? Should I try to let it go and try a strictly traditional sex life with this guy? Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "23F been seeing an awesome 22M for six months.  Good sex life, but as I'm used to being a sub I miss the domination.  How do I readjust/how do I help him be comfortable with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2swd74", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being articulate enough.", "post": "Okay folks, this actually did not happen today, but a few years ago, back in the teen years... Someone reminded me of this story today, though, so I might as well share it with you lot.\n\nBack in the day I used to learn Capoeira. All the moves being flashy and acrobatic, I was getting some attention, people were asking to see some of the more jumpy ones. So one day at my place, we were fooling around with me doing some silky smooth moves. A female friend asked me to kick above her head, so I told her to duck and cover her head just in case. I kicked a few times, showing various more acrobatic moves - the next one I was going to do was meia lua de compasso, a rather low kick, so I stopped for a second while preparing.\n\n\"Now DON'T raise your head!\", I exclaimed loudly and went into mid-spin to gain the velocity. Now here's the thing. She didn't hear me well, so she did the most logical thing imaginable: she raised her head up with a carefree \"what?\" and a smile on her face. Welcoming a FTL kick right onto her face. The fact I didn't break her nose completely was pure luck... After applying some ice and me apologizing a bazillion of times we generally laughed it off, but I can still recall how her face felt on my foot. Ouch.", "summary": "a girl misheard me, headshot her."}
{"id": "t3_34w4nc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (f21) of a year wants to slow it down, I (m21) don't know what to do.", "post": "Long wall of text ahead. Sorry. \n\nSo I've been dating my girlfriend for the past year and over the last few months we've been getting into little fights (almost every week) which get solved immediately after and we make up. But then last week we had a huge fight and I told her we were over. However, once the anger calmed down, she apologized and I accepted and we moved on. \n\nHowever, over the past month I had been feeling a little unwanted physically because every time  I touched her affectionately she wouldn't respond as much or would even maybe move soon after. So, if I put my hand around her in bed she would move or change positions soon after. And sex had gone down to once a day to almost once 3 days. I let her know my concerns last night and today she told me she feels \"weird\" about having sex with me so often. \n\nNow I know she's had a lot going on in her family (hospital admittance of a member, 6 weeks ago) but I thought that effect was temporary. However today she told me that she's just been feeling physically withdrawn (in general, not just me) for the past two and a half months. She asked me to work with her and take it slow and let he initiate and give her space, to which I've obliged. \n\nI wanted to know how I can act or what I can say that would help us return to where we were. Because we used to be amazing, we clicked like anything physically and emotionally and I just want that back. And I am willing to put my 100% for that because this girl means the world to me. She feels the same way and told me that she would want nothing more.", "summary": "Gf of a year has been feeling physically withdrawn for 2 months and wants to slow it down. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ppzw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20 M] add my frequently missed encounter [20 F] on Facebook?", "post": "We took a class together one semester last year and she showed interest but I didn't act on it. I sort of made friends with one of her classmates and I was too dumb at the time to realise that he was asking about my interest in her on her behalf, but during that semester I was battling with depression and anxiety so I wasn't quite ready to act on my feelings for her and approach her. We didn't really talk or meet properly. She then got a boyfriend but I think they broke up recently. Even if she has a boyfriend now I'd still like to be friends with her.\n\nRecently I was waiting around in our faculty and she went and read some pamphlets nearby. We had awkward eye contact and I walked away (I'm fairly introverted and have anxiety issues). The day this happened was my last day at university so there's a good chance I might not see her again.\n\nDuring this recent encounter (I might've misheard) but I'm pretty she vocally told her friend within my earshot that she got \"awkward rejected\" (because of my darty eyes and socially awkward penguin walk out of the way becuase I felt vulnerable and unprepared to talk to her right away) which wasn't my intention at all. She clearly wanted me to approach her.\n\nI don't know if she wants to be friends or if she's showing greater interest in me. She has several hundred friends on Facebook while I have a more minimal amount and I'm not that active on it. Should I add her on Facebook and possibly apologise to her about that encounter to make sure she didn't get the wrong idea?", "summary": "cute girl seems to show interest in me, I awkward penguin my way about it, missed opportunities, want to connect via FB even though we never properly spoke to each other. "}
{"id": "t3_t27tm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop letting my small insecurities push my girlfriend away?", "post": "So me and her are both 21, and we've been dating for 5 months. We started out great (hanging out whenever we had the chance to, nothing at all to complain about), but recently we haven't been seeing eachother as much (3-4 times a week as opposed to every day). Now I know this is still a very reasonable amount to see eachother, but I can't help but see it as her wanting to see me less for whatever reason. She also isn't as \"infatuated\" with me like she was before, with super cute texts and trying to make sure she knows she's completely into me. Again, there's not really any signs that she isn't into me, it just doesn't feel like how it was the first few months. \n\nI feel extremely silly asking for help on how to be less insecure about these things, because I KNOW I shouldn't let them eat at me. But they are, and this leads me to bring it up frequently, which is most likely a huge turn off for her. These little insecurities (where I feel she isn't as interested in me as much anymore) lead me to be insecure about even more silly things.\n\nI attribute these insecurities to a shitty past relationship that continued long after she lost interest in me. She stayed with me because she was dependent on me.", "summary": "How do I stop letting small insecurities eat at me, so I stop pushing my girlfriend away?"}
{"id": "t3_33bewa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong to be unsatisfied sexually in such a new relationship?", "post": "Me (M 21) and a girl (F 21) have been dating for about a month and a half. She told me early on she has low sex drive sometimes but I wasn't concerned because it was no issue for the first few weeks. But recently she's not into it basically at all for the past 2 weeks or so. Is it selfish or wrong to be frustrated this early on or should I wait to see if things sort itself out. I asked her about it and she pretty much just said she \"told me she's had low sex drive\" and she'll let me know if I can do anything to turn her on more. She also told me she's as attracted to me as she was before and likes me more everytime we hangout. So it isn't an issue with her not being into me.", "summary": "what should I do if she has a low sex drive in such a new relationship. She's attracted to me still and likes me more than in the beginning."}
{"id": "t3_2dfnvu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by quoting the movie Home Alone", "post": "Wasn't today, but a month ago. I am a student going into my senior year of high school and my German class went on a trip to the Deutschland. We were staying at a youth hotel and me and my friend were enjoying hanging out in the lobby which provided us free wifi. My friend, lets call him \"bob\" was hanging out with me. All of the sudden a random German kid goes up to Bob and says \"do you want to see my phone. Bob says \"sure why not.\" Then the German kid slaps the shit out of bob with his phone for no apparent reason. Then he turns at me. Shit. He asks me if I want to see his phone, so I walk away because he is kind of big and in good shape. I don't want to be slapped like my friend. Then I said \"keep the change ya filthy animal\" for reasons I don't know. As a German I don't think he understood this reference. This is where I fucked up. So while walking away he picked me up above his head. Shit shit shit shit. Next thing I know I am laid across the floor. I was body slammed by a German kid, in Germany, on a class trip, in front of my friend and a large group of people. Fuck. The emotional pain was awful but I noticed my elbow. It felt like a knife was stabbing it. Long story short, I fractured it and I ended up in the hospital. Don't use American movie references in Germany.", "summary": "Said movie quote, got body slammed by german kid, fractured my elbow"}
{"id": "t3_4bla3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28/f] am heartbroken because my partner [35/f] wants to take a break because she thinks we have different needs after the death of her father. Should I move on or keep holding out for her to come back?", "post": "I don't know where to start except tonight she told me over the phone that she wants to take a break from our seven year relationship. I'm not sure if this is because her father passed away several months ago and she wants to spend all her time with her family now, or something else. I admit I have not been the best partner lately due to being immersed in working _and_ attending graduate school full time. Needless to say I am confused and upset why she never articulated her feelings or what she was going through when I asked, as if she kind of expected me to read her mind.\n\nI love her very much, and I think what we had was good. Our relationship was solid before the death of her father, but now it seems all we do it argue over such minor things.", "summary": "Does a \"break\" mean I should move on or keep holding out for her to come back?"}
{"id": "t3_j7n9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "so i dated this girl i met online... now i guess she doesnt likes me anymore?", "post": "We started talking bout 2 months ago, every day nonstop.\nWe felt really connected, she had the exact same thoughts as me on about everything so this isnt just some random girl, believe me.\n\nSo anyway, we both decided our first date would be at my house, we would get drunk and all just because its fun. So we did that and had sex, kissed, hugs. (and no, i dont believe shes a skank who gets drunk and has sex on first dates.. We just thought it would be fun because i \"knew\" her that way and she me too)\n\nWhen we were in bed and we were hugging eachother and kissing it really felt REAL. I dont know how other to describe it, i told her i loved her and she told me i love you too. So i was happy really..\n\nSo she goes home, i barely talk to her anymore online. She mostly ignores things or starts talking about other things when i start saying positive things.. She used to get drunk with her friends and send me these lovely messages, but that doesnt happen anymore too.\n\nIm so bugged by it, because she told me everything would be fine because we \"knew\" eachother. I dont get how she can lie to me like this, i just dont know what to do. Is there any way i can get her back? Yesterday she told me we would see eachother again, but an hour after that she starts ignoring me.. This while we used to talk all day long. So im getting some really mixed feelings or whatever.\n\nI must say, i wasnt the most talkative on the date.. I just dont speak that whole lot, but still. I believed everything would be allright just like she told me, i told her i was a bit shy and all.", "summary": "Is there anyway to get this girl back? She seemed like a perfect match. Maybe i just got friendzoned, or fuckbuddy zoned. I dont know. Maybe she wants me to stop talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_2a1qop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19M] stopped loving my gf [18F] of almost 2 years, and I don't know how to go about telling her.", "post": "There is no specific reason why I've stopped loving her other than out of boredom. There's no more excitement in our relationship. She's cute, sweet and kind, but I no longer look forward to having a future together if our relationship stays the way it is right now. And after months of thinking of ways to respark the love I originally had in our relationship, I don't even think I want to do so anymore. There's just nothing to look forward to anymore.\n\nBelieve me, she is a good person that I hate nothing about. The problem is absolutely me. I'm pretty sure she still loves me with all her heart, and I do my best to make her smile whenever I can. But I've been feeling this way about us for months, and I've even been hinting a few times that I'm getting bored of our relationship.\n\nThing is, I don't see how I can end this in any way without seeming like an asshole to her and our friends. She's an absolute sweetheart that wouldn't deserve all this, but there just no more motivation for me to carry on this relationship. I'm planning to just tell her in the most polite way I can, but what of our friends that would think of me as an asshole? I don't want to lose my friendship with her and everybody else, but I KNOW for sure how the people close to us would feel about my decision.\n\nLast week, I even met a girl at a volunteer workshop that I was really interested in and I believe she felt the same way about me. But despite all that, I'm still attached to my current gf and there was no way I could cheat on her. When she found out I already had a gf, we just didn't talked as much after the workshop was over.", "summary": "There's absolutely no way in hell to politely break up with my girlfriend without me losing most of all my closest friends, and I absolutely do not want her to feel hurt at all. It's also eliminating my chances of pursuing anybody else because we're still in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1y9urp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [027F] with my _[27 M/BF] 6 months, BF is trying to get too friendly;text=BF wants to be \"friends\"with Best Friend. --- **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "<story>I have been dating this guy for about 6 months. I am an international student at my university and I have been in Canada for less than 2 years.\nMy best friend (from the same country), my boyfriend and I live in the same house(not the same apartment). My best friend( girl) is someone I really count on and I introduced her to him when she joined me for school this year. As a nice person, I wanted my boyfriend to get comfortable with her and invited him to hang out with the two of us together every time we cooked or did something fun. He did the same for us. \nAs a couple we hang out in each other's room almost every day. \nThe problem with me is my boyfriend is trying to get too close with my best friend. He is a touchy person and even when I am sitting next to him he is touching her constantly( e.g. massaging her neck or arms etc)\nMy best friend hasn't said anything about it yet but I am sure she loves a wee bit of attention.\nThis has bothered me  every time and I told him I am not happy when he is trying to be touchy with her and told him it is not appropriate. He has asked her to hang out with him for a movie and drinking while I go to work.But she has always turned him down.He even wanted to hang out with her in the house for wine and movie while I was out for my night shift. I did not like this at all.\nWhen I addressed this problem, he assured me that he just wants to be friends with her and I am the one he likes.\nI am okay with him being friends with her but I think he is going off his boundary.", "summary": "This is my first boyfriend. Yea yea don't role your eyes."}
{"id": "t3_31y5ee", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering the phone improperly", "post": "A recount of something that happened when I was younger.\n\nSo one day in the middle of summer some kid was crank calling my house. We didn't have caller ID or an answering machine so it was hard to screen calls, because the kid would be unpredictable about calling (either that or he had a few numbers in his rotation). So this day he'd called the house about 5 times and I was getting annoyed with it. The phone rings mid-afternoon and I pick it up, answering \"yeah, WHAT THE HELL do you want?\" but it wasn't Crank Call Kid; it was big sis calling to check up on me and my other sister (her and my mom were both at work). Explained the situation to her, she laughed it off.", "summary": "tried to scare kid crank calling my house with my best gruff voice, ended up being my sister calling."}
{"id": "t3_198eak", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] Guys - how can us girls be nice to you without leading you on? I just don't want to get your hopes up and hurt you.", "post": "Firstly I'd just like to apologize if this has been asked before. I'm new to this subreddit and the search function really didn't do much for me. If there is a similar thread I would really appreciate it if you could redirect me there (: But if you have the time to read/respond that would be great!!\n\nCollege sophomore here. To keep the story short, one of my guy friends and I have been texting back and forth for a while, and we've been friends for about 9 months. He always starts the convo, and after a while it seemed a tad obvious that he was into me...but I didn't want to bring that up for fear of being wrong, ya know? Well today we were hanging out, and he kissed me, and it was weird. I pulled away and, to put it briefly, told him I didn't want to ruin our friendship. It was just awk, I told him we should talk about it later and I left.\n\nWithin our text conversations, I always replied to him in the same way that I would reply to any friend. I generally just try to be a nice person and I think he took that as a sign that I was into him. So, my questions are, a) is there ANYTHING I can do to salvage this friendship and b) guys, is there any way we can be nice to you but not lead you on?", "summary": "how do I fix friendship with a guy I rejected, and how can I be nice to you without making you think I want the d???"}
{"id": "t3_1252qi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your childhood nightmare?", "post": "I remember that I was afraid of the barber until about 5 yrs. (And it wasn't a small fear) I remember kicking and screaming to get out and my mother and father had to hold me down as the barber cut my hair and even being strapped into the chair one time. :< I also remember my sister being scared of umbrellas. She was afraid of them because she thought that they would close on her. My mom had the brilliant idea of keeping an umbrella by her door at night to prevent her from running about in the house. It might have been a little mean (not really but some may find it) but it sure worked. ;) And before anyone asks, i'm not scared of barbers and my sister isn't scared of umbrellas anymore... So Redditors, what were you afraid of and why?", "summary": "I used to be scared of barbers and my sister was scared of umbrellas. What about you?"}
{"id": "t3_4niph0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When to break up and give up on a good thing? (21 F, 21F)", "post": "I can see myself marrying her as soon as next year. She has a life plan that has no room in it for me until she's 28. She wants to go overseas for some English teaching program, then join the US military for 4 years. Then she says she wants to settle down.\n\nI can't wait and do 6 years long distance. One of my biggest relationship benefits is having someone to see all the time, to make fun memories with. I can't see myself waiting 6 years for that time to come.\n\nI love her. I love her so much. Sometimes I feel like I love her more than she does me. I just could never see myself choosing to move somewhere she couldn't come with me, and she is.\n\nWe have the summer, and then one more year of college. Then she's busy for the next 7 years of her life.\n\nI can't imagine how much more it will hurt having to breakup with her after another year of being together. But at the same time, I want to meet someone now who will commit to making a future with me.\n\nWhat do I do? When? How do you break up with someone you still love?", "summary": "Relationship is good but we want different things out of life, when/how do you give up on a good thing for future happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_46fpwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and a (work) friend [23 F] hooked up, now she keeps questioning our relationship.", "post": "So a few months ago, I met a girl through work. We became friends straight away but only talked to eachother once in a while. \n\nA month ago we started talking to eachother more often, resulting in sleeping with eachother a couple of times and messaging eachother all the time.\n\nHowever, she is having second thoughts about if she wants this relationship to continue. She is saying that she doesnt know what to do, because she also sees me as a really good friend that she doesnt want to lose. She said this a couple of times before, but everytime it results in us sleeping together. \n\nI really dont know what I should do myself. I want this to continue, or to stop and not be friends anymore. I said this to her before, and she said that she wanted it to stop. Then a few days later she went over to my place and wanted it to continue. I thought that she made up her mind, but she questioned the relationship again just now. Should I just give her an ultimatum or whatever? Or should I stop messaging her etc? No idea what to do...", "summary": "girl keeps questioning our relationship, but then sleeps with me. Unsure what she wants or how i should continue."}
{"id": "t3_vs6e3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Idk if I'm being paranoid or not.", "post": "Alright, so I've[25] started dating with a girl[23] from uni. It's all been fun and whatnot, but we were pretty cautious about calling ourselves a couple, both had some previous stuff mess up our heads. We've had a crush on each other since october, but started really acting on things ~2 months ago. Now, it has steadily evolved and we seem perfectly fine and happy and all that jazz, but recently I've been feeling that something's not right. Everything is seemingly perfectly fine, but for some reason I get the idea stuck in my head she's not as involved as she usually would. I wouldn't want to seem like I'm trying too hard or am too invasive too, which makes me unsure how to act. I have a history of overthinking and worry I might just be paranoid, which will lead me to trying too hard or something.\n\nAny advice Redditors? I REALLY wouldn't want this one to go well.", "summary": "I'm in love, recently paranoid that we might be drifting away, despite everything being seemingly ok. Afraid I'm just paranoid"}
{"id": "t3_1bww6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] double-booked [23F]girlfriends birthday dinner with my fathers retirement dinner.", "post": "I made a throwaway for obvious reasons but I'm kinda in a dilemma now and I appreciate some insights. To make this story easier to understand I'll write everything down chronologically. \n\nLast week my girlfriend and I celebrated her birthday together on her actual birthday. We had cake, dinner, presents and we kinda celebrated it very low-key. It was just the two of us.\n\nThe day after her birthday, her mom invited me for dinner because they didn't had the chance to spend time with her daughter on her birthday.  So this will kinda be like a birthday dinner but with the parents of my gf. I said, sure I'll come because the dinner will be held next week and I didn't had anything planned for that day.\n\nMy sister told me the day after the invitation of my gfs mom that my fathers retirement dinner will be held on that very same date. She forgot to tell me. . . Oh shit. I really don't know what to do when I heard that. And it's not like I can move the dates of these dinners since the guests already have been invited. \n\nTo be honest, I feel that I already celebrated her birthday and that the birthday dinner was just something for her and her parents. Am I an ass if I attend my fathers retirement dinner? I mean, my old man is only retiring once, he has worked his entire life, providing for the family and being a great dad and I don't want to miss that. Or should I attend my gf's 'bday' dinner with her family? I don't want her to be upset for that I didn't show up for her bday dinner. \n\nShe said some harsh words (which shook me up) through the phone prior me writing this so if my wall-o-text is incomplete then please ask and I will clarify.", "summary": "Celebrated birthday with GF on her actual bday. GF's mom invites me to dinner for next week. Sis subsequently tells me we have another dinner at that same date. Can't join both. Dilemma."}
{"id": "t3_htivq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm starting to doubt him all over again...", "post": "He asked me out once, but i found out from his friend (who had a guilty soul and spilled) that it was all a joke. Kind of a mean one when he knew i liked him, and that playing with my feelings wouldn't get him anywhere. \n\nAfter ignoring him, and trying to forget everything he confesses everything to me. He tells me that after that he realizes how much of an asshole he was, and how much he thought about it made him realize how much he really likes me. \n\nSo he asked me out, and me not being over him, i said yes. Everything has been going fine, we're talking a lot, he's acting so...happy. But me, being the over-thinker i am, still thinks he isn't over the girl he's had a crush on for a while now. Also, when he asked me out, he told me he wants to try something, and when i asked him about it, he said he want's to see how we'd do over summer and possibly back into school. He's going to Germany for most of the summer...That makes me think he's just doing this to make me happy because of what he did.", "summary": "He hurt me pretty badly, and now we're going out, but the way he's acting makes me think like he's doing it just to make up for what he did earlier. "}
{"id": "t3_em2yu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My mind heart and soul are split in two", "post": "Recently I started talking to my X and for a small short period there, I fell in love again. But it only lasted a short while, i just found the most amazing girl of my life. She is basically just like me, listens to the same music and does all the same things i like, along with that has a few of the same tattoos i have. I have really fallen for this girl. Only problem is, I still have my X lingering around, and she just got me a killer job in the city for the next 2 months, and we kinda have started a company together which I want to pursue.\nso how do I keep both girls, one as a girlfriend and one as a business partner.", "summary": "I am in love with a new girl, but own a company with my X"}
{"id": "t3_1915s3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is the internet still using the same mode of presentation as with traditional media when it comes to music?", "post": "Inspired by an interview I watch of M.I.A on QTV [here] (you can stop around 26:30) She's completely correct and it seems like the only person who has really harnessed any part of what the web experience is was Bjork, though when I checked out the Biophilia website my head was at the 5 foot mark and whatever it was that was going on there flew over it at about 7 feet. All the same, it was an attempt. \n\nRedditors come from all walks of life. What do you think the possibilities for music can be on the internet if you had enough time, expertise or technology to do it?", "summary": "What innovations in music and artistic presentations could the internet create but hasn't yet?"}
{"id": "t3_143wo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19] about to get into my first real relationship with an introverted girl[20], how do I connect with her on a more intimate level?", "post": "We are both attracted to one another, and there's a lot of the good kind of tension, however, I have a hard time connecting with her and making her feel really comfortable. I make jokes all the time, and I try my best express disagreements positively, however I feel like I'm missing something.\n\nWe've known each other for about four to five months, and have been close for about three of those. We've decided to start dating after the finals (we're both college students). Feel free to ask for more information if you feel like there's something I should've mentioned!", "summary": "Met awesome, incredible girl, with whom I'm going out after the month. She's shy (and/or) introverted though, and I'm having a tough time connecting with her on a deeper level"}
{"id": "t3_34b41d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Chatting to people - what am I doing wrong? [22M]", "post": "So lately I've been pretty fed up about having never been in a proper relationship. So with so little success thus far, I've been trying various apps to meet people.\n\nOne of the apps in particular I've tried is grindr (being bisexual), and I've started probably in the region of about 400 conversations with people on there. Of which about 20 actually responded. Goes okay for a little while... then when I ask if they want to meet, I get blocked or just a wall of silence. Sometimes I don't even need to ask that, and things will go silent/blocked anyway. Same thing has happened on other apps as well.\n\nSo what is that I'm doing wrong? Am I coming off as creepy? Desperate? Simply unattractive to anyone?", "summary": "Why do I have a 100% rejection rate?"}
{"id": "t3_3azfhb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by creeping out my crush.", "post": "...well not today, actually over a year ago. Was going though my old Facebook messages and it reminded me of that incident. First time posting in this sub.\n\nSo about 3 years ago (I was 15) the daughter of my dad's friend started to go to school with me on our office vehicle. We were both really shy and hardly talked. Just exchanged old exam papers and said hi each day. I had a crush on her, but me being an introvert, I couldn't really initiate a conversation.\n\nSo about a year ago my family moved away. I sent her a Facebook friend request. She accepted after 3 days. Yayy, happy me.\n\nI don't know why, but I decided to open her profile and check old pictures of her. This is where I started fucking up. I was pretty deep into her timeline when I accidentally tapped \"Like\" on a photo of hers. Fuck. I immediately unliked and searched on Google whether unliking would help but nope, it doesn't. It will still show up as a notification. Well, fuck.\n\nSo I thought of sending her a message, explaining what happened. Nope, fate decided to fuck my life up again. I pressed \"Poke\". I thought maybe I could undo this but, alas, no. At this point it was like as I was dying inside and I had this weird feeling in my stomach.\n\nSo I proceeded to do what I thought anyone else would ever do; pretend my account was hacked and other people were also spammed by the alleged hacker. I wrote this message ( and sent it to her.\n\nNo reply for almost a week, then I saw that she removed me from her friends ;-;\nNo contact since then.", "summary": "Poked my crush, she unfriended me."}
{"id": "t3_1tax7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my [23 M] 3 years on and off, I'm I too much of damaged goods to be dateable?", "post": "So my boyfriend recently broke up with me, and I kind of feel like I can't do any better than him. He tolerated me being vegan, even though he ate meat. It makes it kinda hard to eat out. \n\nHe also ended things with making fun of the way I look. Ended things with saying he wasn't attracted to me. Said all I was good for was having a \"pretty face\", as I'm pretty flat breasted and flat assed. I'm pretty skinny though, always was, but was starting to get a tiny belly.\n\nI'm also bipolar, so I get super irrational sometimes and overemotional. \n\nRealistically, would anyone really put up with it all?", "summary": "Could someone date a person who is bipolar, low self-esteem, and vegan?"}
{"id": "t3_sr463", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was my chance destroyed?", "post": "I was hanging out with my crush and some friends on Friday, celebrating the holiday. Everything seemed to go well, we had fun right up until I took her home. \n\nLater that night I walked out of the room and a friend, (still don't know who), got a hold of my phone. Whoever it was sent my crush this message. \n\n* Dear hot girl throwitaway133 won't stfu about. I'm probably gonna get punched when he finds out I sent this. But it's become clear to me he will always be too much of a bitch to make a move or tell you how he feels. So I am doing it for him. Sincerely, a friend of throwitaway133's.\n\nI haven't got any response, or talked to her since I dropped her off Friday night. I don't really know if I should do or say anything. Or, if that just destroyed all my chances. Any insight at all would be great.", "summary": "Friend sent my crush a text telling her how I feel, and I haven't heard from her since. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_10ckbj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (23m) in love with my ex (23f). We broke up July 2012, could use some advice.", "post": "So I was with my GF (23) for about 9 months before we moved in together(had not lived together at home) to Calgary, Alberta. (from Vancouver, BC) It was only going to be for 8 months since she went there for coop(work in her field of study). I was missing all my friends and family back home, so I decided to move back home. She decided that since I was leaving she wanted to break up after a year long relationship, since I was moving out so that scared her and she thinks that we have no future. She then came home for a visit in August where I spent the entire weekend with her, taking her out for dinner..spending time with her family. I got her a promise ring, she loved it, but told me it wasn't going to change anything at the time. I'm still in love with her, she says she's in love with me still, but doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship...she then meets a guy in Calgary, and tells me I don't have to worry. She isn't going to do something stupid that could lead to her falling for someone out there since she has to come back at the end of November. Turns out she has been seeing him on the weekends, one night from the sounds of it. She doesn't text back when she is hanging out with him, but promises nothing happens or will happen. Need some advice, or some kind of input..", "summary": "! I move in with her, leave..she breaks up with me. We still both say we love each other. I give her a promise ring, she takes it but we are still not together. Then meets another guy, says nothing will happen but doesn't text me or answer calls when shes with him."}
{"id": "t3_gutjm", "subreddit": "self", "title": "We're not all saints or sinners, quit hating your ex.", "post": "I was furious at my recently ex-girlfriend when I was waiting for her to drop off my things. She comes in and expects me to yell at her or whatever, instead I said it's best if she left and didn't talk to me again. She insisted on staying and talking, even if it involved me venting out my frustrations.\n\nI know it's vogue to hate on bitch ex-gfs and girls in general but what happened next was very positive. At first was tense, awkward and mean - I was mad so I shot some barbs at her but then we got into real conversation and understood that we didn't have a relationship anymore. That it was over... not because she's a bitch but because she didn't want to be in this relationship anymore.\n\nIt takes two to be in a relationship; if the other person doesn't want to be you shouldn't take it personally. People change, their needs change and they want something different. If she starts dating a guy immediately after, then he's offering something that she wants and that I can't provide. \n\nIf we didn't have that conversation I wouldn't have been as in control of my emotions and we both would've been vindictive and resentful. Instead we communicated and it turned out for the better - even if nothing factually changed, I just feel less negative.", "summary": "Communicate with your ex, be open and honest, and you'll feel better about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_478apr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf doesn't want to do anything like literally", "post": "So me [M20]  work about 9 hours a day and she [F18]  doesn't work and when I am working she just sits at home eating and watching TV or sleeping. So when I get home I have to clean and dish and make food and ye everything and when I ask if she can help she gets mad cuz according to her she is doing all of that above just because she did it on time like 1 month ago. I mean shouldnt she be doing all that stuff when she is the one being home all the time and I am the one bringing in the money?  What should I do?", "summary": "Gf doesn't want to do anything and I have to do everything at home even tough I am working 9h a day"}
{"id": "t3_3h8j0a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being too loud.", "post": "So this happened a few years ago when I was in 8th grade. During that period I had to leave to get on the bus at 8:30 but I woke up at 6:30 to have enough time toess around, maybe watch some TV before I go to school. My mom leaves to go to work at around 6:30 so I was usually all alone unless she would work from home on Tuesdays and Thursdays. That day was a Friday so I woke up and decided to do some singing. I was all alone, I figured why not song a bunch of really filthy songs from the top of my lungs. It felt good and was very liberating. Later on (being middle schooler) I decided to touch myself.....on full volume. Now, at this point I had to be really quiet in case someone would hear me. All alone in my own house, I decided to think I was a sex god and decided to say a whole bunch of really dirty things, you can probably put together what kind of stuff I was screaming. So after towas done,I decided to grab a bite to eat, as you could imagine, there was my mom, right there just staring at me. I really didn't know what to do so I just decided to take a banana and run upstairs and shoot out the door when it was time to go to school. I don't think she remembers that day. Still haunts me though.", "summary": "Thought I was alone, I wasnt"}
{"id": "t3_nivkw", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Studying abroad without a program", "post": "Before I explain, I know that there is an /r/studyabroad, but it doesn't have many readers nor are there any new posts in the last week. I figured r/travel might be able to help me out a little better.\n\nNext summer I will be backpacking across Europe, and I want to look into studying abroad for the fall semester (to continue my trip). \n\nI study at a private university (Junior Year, Computer Science) and they offer certain study abroad programs. The problem is that with every program they have, there is a deal made between the schools where you pay your own universities tuition and housing plus a bunch of fees on top of it. This boils down to an outrageously expensive semester and a very small selection of schools.\n\nWe are able to apply to apply to a university on our own and then apply for guest credit transfer. This seems like a much better (and cheaper) option. \n\nMy question is: Do universities in Europe accept guest students for a semester? Ideally I'd like to study in France, but I'm pretty much open to any country where tuition is cheap (right now I pay about $13,000 a semester just in tuition). \n\nAre there any English speaking universities in Europe that do this? I speak a little French, and I am taking French courses, but I'm not sure I'd be ready to study in the French language in 9 months.", "summary": "Do universities in Europe allow guest students for a semester?"}
{"id": "t3_3cg0e1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) would like to further my relationship with a 'friend' (29M) however it's an awkward situation that I'm not sure how to deal with - Advice", "post": "I really want to further my relationship with my close friend, however I'm not sure if it is a good idea or how to go about it. \n\nThe situation is right now I'm visiting him as he lives in a foreign country, this is the first time I've met him and it hasn't been too long but I feel attracted to him in a way that I never have with previous partners. He travels a lot and is very 'popular' so I'm not sure firstly if a relationship in such an unstable environment is a good idea.\n\nHe also isn't the feelings sharing type and I'm not sure how to approach the situation with him. I don't know if I'm being na\u00efve in thinking that I could established a relationship with him or not, but it's quite difficult for me to discuss (also because I'm an awkward person).\n\nCan anyone possibly give advice? Sorry if I'm in the wrong subreddit, I'm new to the whole posting thing.", "summary": "want to be in a relationship with friend but don't know how to approach the situation, or if it's a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_10xbv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25f needs some insight", "post": "So there is something been bothering me in my 2 year relationship with 25M and have been reading posts in this subreddit all night. After reading most stories, my issue feels petty, but I don't really know who else to talk to about this. We've been living together for a little over a year and just signed another year long lease. He seems so distant lately. He no longer cuddles with me. Or really anything sweet or romantic. He only touches me when he wants sex and very recently has resorted to just \"want to fuck?\"  He doesn't even look at me like he used to, as if the love is no longer there. \n\nThis next part makes me feel like I'm in high school again, so please forgive me.  He created a new Instagram profile, didn't follow me, only celebs, and I didn't follow him.  The other day I searched for his new profile out of curiosity and noticed he started following a girl on his fb friends list whom he didn't follow on the account that I follow. He follows no one else on his friends list, including his own GF on his new account. And she doesn't follow him, which means he had to find her. He also comments on almost every post this girl makes on fb. I haven't brought it up to him because I feel childish about it, but it does bother me. I feel like he's hiding it from me. He has bragged to me before about how awesome he is at coming up with a lie right on the spot, so I don't even know if he would tell me the truth about why he followed her. \n\nCould this be an attraction to her? Should I talk to him about it? Should I even be concerned? Should I just let this ago and forget about it? I just don't know and would love some insight and/ or advice. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "boyfriend is distant lately and following a girl on fb on Instagram while not following his own GF or any other friends"}
{"id": "t3_3eaaim", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Roommate moved out, left me high and dry. What now?", "post": "So this is kind of a confusing situation: I had a temporary roommate sublet a room in my apartment. He was on the lease for the next three months, paid one months rent and then never came back. He left all of his belongings, and never even let me know he wouldn't be coming back. \n\nI had already set up a future room mate for 2 months down the line. She paid all of her deposits and we were ready to go. \n\nFortunately I wasn't evicted even though only half of the rent was paid for 2 months. My landlord said she wouldn't evict me if I just repay the old roommates dues over the next lease period. \n\nI'm not sure if this is legal/okay. Am I responsible or his half? Isn't that why they put the other person in the lease?  Can they just bill him or put a ding on his credit? I'm not sure why this comes down to me, and will this actually hurt my credit if it goes unpaid? I'm considering just letting it go unpaid and moving out once my lease is up. That's over $860 that she's expecting me to cough up. I live in Texas.", "summary": "roommate left and didn't pay 2 months of rent. Land Lord want me to pay it. I can't because I'm a brokeass college student."}
{"id": "t3_1cf5r6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO(19F) is really depressed and I'm trying to help (20M)", "post": "We've been dating for over a year and are both sufferers of depression. The difference is that I've been taking medication for it and its been helping me feel quite a lot better, whereas she is having a very difficult time accepting that medication is a good idea. \n\nI've been trying to suggest it to her for a few months now, as she's been getting more and more depressed (or at least it seems that way to me). Recently she's been getting upset/emotional very easily and it really doesn't seem like her to me. Its becoming a real struggle having to devote lots of my energy every day trying to cheer her up or at the very least make her less sad. It leaves me emotionally drained. However, when I suggested an anti-depressant, she refused because she hates the idea of seeing a professional psychiatrist/psychologist/whatever to diagnose her and give her the prescriptions for the medication. She doesn't want to have to talk about her feelings to someone that's just being paid to talk to you about your feelings. I'm at my wit's end here, nothing I've said has changed her mind at all, and I need some advice on what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend is depressed, its damaging both of us, she won't take meds, what do"}
{"id": "t3_3jb3fj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] just had a baby with my fiance [25M] and ever since he has become incredibly mean to me and calls me a bitch or cunt almost daily. Is this normal?", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I got engaged while I was 4 months pregnant after being together for 2 years. At the beginning Of our relationship he was kind of a dick to me and we broke up for a while. I felt like he changed so we got back together. Shortly after I got pregnant and he seemed like a changed man during the pregnancy. \n\nSince we've had the baby he is mean to me almost everyday. I get called names like bitch, cunt, stupid, idiot etc. Our daughter is only 3 months old, but he screams at me and calls me names in front of her and I don't want her to think that is okay. \n\n He isn't very hands on with the baby and I practically have to beg him to hold her so I can bathe or brush my teeth or do anything by myself. I also just want him to hold her because he wants to, but the only times he ever offers to hold her are when other people are around. \n\nI am a stay at home mom so he supports both of us which isn't easy, but I don't feel like it's okay to talk down to me all the time. I think he has a lot of pressure on him as the only money maker. He says that I don't respect him, but I really do and I thank him for (mostly) everything he does for me and our daughter. \n\nOur relationship isn't all bad and we really can have a great time together, but he just snaps on me in an instant and we can go from laughing to screaming so quickly. \n\nI'm starting to think this is kind of like verbal abuse. I really need advice. I don't want to talk to my friends or family about this either so reddit is my only outlet. Is there something I can do to make him see how badly it hurts me to be talked down to?", "summary": "I got pregnant, got engaged and now my fianc\u00e9 is very mean to me and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4i3s8o", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Girl cancels date a day before", "post": "I haven't ever posted anything but I think I need some advice on this. \n\nI asked a girl out on a date from my class and it went really well,we sat on the campus quad for almost 3 hours talking about life and stuff and then it was getting dark so I said lets go back and walked her back to her dorm\n\nLater that night I texted her if she wanted to hang out some other day and she said yeah but she could only meet up at 5PM and I said I have to be somewhere at 6PM. She then asked me if we could meet up some other time and I said of course so we scheduled it for Friday at 2PM because she had to meet up with a friend to eat lunch.\n\nAnd then later tonight she told me she \"just remembered she was going to go study with her friend she was eating lunch with and that she was sorry\" she didnt ask me if she wanted to reschedule so i said not to worry about it and to let me know if she wanted to hang out some other time. \n\ni'm pretty confused about what to do, because she seemed like she  wanted to meet up and now she doesnt seem like it all or was that just a trick? \n\ni've browsed some other questions and a lot of them seem to gear towards cutting my losses and moving on with my life.", "summary": "girl and i go on first date; i ask if she wants to meet up again, we can't because shes and i are busy, she reschedules and then cancels that, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lsuib", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18F] needs help defining relationship with shy [18M]", "post": "I have feelings for a guy I met a few weeks ago, but I don't know where we are. He is always asking me to come to dinner, and we hang out for hours on end. I just feel like a better & more interesting person when I'm with him.\n\nHowever, the most that has ever happened between us is legs/arms/heads resting against the other person's. I feel like there is definitely more to our relationship than friends because of the way he looks at me and treats me.\n\nI don't know if I should take the risk and ask him how he feels about me, or just give him time, or what.", "summary": "Should I tell a shy guy I like him or wait for him to say something?"}
{"id": "t3_1xkjmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29F and 28M Questions about our discussions on children", "post": "We have been dating for two years and basically living together from about 1 month in. He is a wonderful fellow and, besides one or two areas of communication we need to work on, I am immensely happy with our relationship. We have had many conversations on financial views, personal goals, career paths, in-laws and, of course, children.\n\n   Now I work with children and have enjoyed a large role in the lives of my niece and nephew, so I feel I may have some idea of the stresses of having children. However, I am pretty sure that my expecations won't fully prepare me for the reality and it will certainly be an adventure.  I have always assumed I would probably have 1 or 2 kids.\n\n  My boyfriend would love nothing more than having a passle of children - in his mind 5 would be wonderful. For him, more kids means more grandkids and he seems to love the idea of being a grandfather covered in grandkids. Adorable to me but seems rather unrealistic. When we have discussed this, I have made it clear that 3 children is a compromise for me and that number seems to satisfy him - but he doesn't like the idea of having any fewer.\n  \nHowever, I worry (and I have told him this) that the number will change for me after I push out a kid or two. I don't think he truly realizes how exhausting, demanding and expensive having children can be. I am afraid of making that promise. I don't us to settle down only to find that either I am unhappy with a passle or he is disappointed with only a pair. \n\n  For the redditors that have children, how certain were you of the number before you had them? Should I be worried about this uncertainty and discrepancy in our desires?", "summary": "I want kids but I don't know how many. Feel bad promising him 3 if I may not want to deliver."}
{"id": "t3_2u21sr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] initiate all conversation with my very good friend [18 F]. How does she really feel about me?", "post": "Since coming to college I met a girl in my dorm who I have ended up becoming best friends with. We talk about everything together, and we talk a lot (and I mean a LOT). I hang out with her one on one all the time, and she always seems happy to see me, but I can't remember the last time she initiated a conversation, or anything, with me. If i'm going to the gym, I can stop by and ask her if she wants to come and she will often say yes, but she has literally never asked me to go with her.\n   I will just randomly text her something stupid or funny that happened to me, and we will have conversations that last for hours, then I don't send her a text and I literally don't hear from her for days (in person or messaging). \n   I really like this girl, and I was thinking about asking her out at some point soon, but is she just being really nice to me and doesn't actually like me as much as I like her? Maybe i'm just really over analyzing this but it just seems strange.", "summary": "I talk to this girl a ton every day, but 9/10 times I am the one who has to initiate contact. Does she care about me at all?"}
{"id": "t3_fqsbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Making the leap, moving out of my parents house .. not as easy as I thought", "post": "I graduate college in a few months and have a few good job prospects already. I'm a 22 year old female currently working as a server in a restaurant. My monthly income on paper is anywhere between $500 and $1200  depending on shifts, but I easily make anywhere between $200 and $500 dollars in tips each week ($800 to $2000 a month).\nI have no student loans to pay off, have great credit (including line of credit that has room to grow if I choose to) and minimum expenses. I really only have car insurance to pay which is about 200 per month\n\nMy SO of a few years will not be financially or emotionally ready to move out by the time I am ready to .. so I'm looking to move out on my own. Knowing my personality, there is no way I'd be able to live with 5 strangers in a student house or anything of the like. \n\nI don't even know if this is plausible, I need advice. What do you wish you knew before you moved out of your parents house/into your first real place. I'm not worried about housing ettiquette, I'm moreso worried about whether this will be possible? I live in a fairly major SW Ontario city but I dont know if that matters ..", "summary": "22 year old female with constant but unreliable income needing advice on moving out of my parents house alone. "}
{"id": "t3_3cy1td", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] feel like I'm getting mixed signals from her [22 F]", "post": "So I met this woman about a year ago when we were co-workers and we ended up finding out we had quite a bit in common and enjoyed each others company. She recently left while I'm still partly there as I go through the process of getting hired into my career field (the company was a typical grocery store while I'm entering the IT field now). At the time she was being manipulated by some deadbeat buy in Maryland who she thought she was dating who kept taking money from her and I seemed to be the shoulder to cry on about how bad the guy was. During this time I attempted to date her but was more or less turned down and rather than continue that game I instead moved on to focus on continuing to better myself. I for the most part stopped really interacting with her for 5-6 months during which time she seemed to figure out what the guy in Maryland was doing and moved on and now about 2 months ago we started frequently talking again.\n\nThough unlike last time the conversations have went in ways that give me a sense of mixed signals. Now, maybe I'm wrong here, I find it unlikely woman just randomly talk to guys about their vibrators or mention they're talking to them naked etc. and, in most cases, I'd take that as a obvious sign of interest. Though in her case when I go to do anything with her it's instantly 'not a date'. She's a very timid person so maybe that can play a part in that (plus the whole Maryland thing) but another side of me almost thinks she enjoys the attention I give her or that she's just so comfortable around me as a 'friend' that she thinks it's normal to talk to me about that stuff. At this point I'm stuck between whether I should cut contact most or all the way with her or go hang out with her on the 'not dates' and see where things eventually go. I'm honestly quite inexperienced with woman and dating as I've been a fairly introverted/non social person most my life until the past few years so at times I feel somewhat lost as to what to do.", "summary": "Woman I met a year ago that turned me down now starts up conversations with me again that turn sexual but only wants to hang out with me on 'non dates'."}
{"id": "t3_381cfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my BF [30 M] of 5 months, I have severe trust issues", "post": "My bf and I have been dating for 5ish months. every relationship i have had has ended in myself being cheated on. 8 out of 9 times it has been with another male. \n\nBecause of my disastrous history of being cheated on and bf's coming out of the closet, my trust issues with men aren't exactly the greatest... \n\nHow do i get over my fear of being cheated on? in previous relationships i have never worried about being cheated on, and then i end up being cheated on. so why now am i worrying about him cheating on me?  \n\nI was doing great until he lied to me. I asked him about a friend of his [30f] and he said that nothing had ever happened between them. Then a few weeks ago i found out that they had been FWB for a short time. He said the reason he lied was because he didn't know how i'd react. since that point i have been more cautious.", "summary": "I have trust issues. do i continue this relationship, or move on? and how do i get over my trust issues for future relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_3sgrc0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by debating about a made-up country", "post": "This was about 5 years ago, when I joined the local community college debate team. I had never done anything like it before, but I am a \"go-getter\" and thought it sounded fun. The entire team was awesome, and they totally blew me away with how much they knew about current events. They were able to spit out so many facts at lightning speed. In preparation for my first tournament, I tried my best to cram as many news articles in my head as I could. \"I can DO THIS!\" I thought. My coach said, \"Don't stress \u2013 it's your first time, so just go up there and do your best!\"  About 30 minutes before my round started, we were given the topic. I blinked and felt a pit in the bottom of my stomach\u2026it was something about Palestine. Or was it Pakistan? I was so not ready for this, but I was going to bullshit my way through it, I told myself. I approached the podium, and began some long rambling speech about how we all just need to get along, or something equally dumb. I noticed that my opponent was doing a *facepalm*. Ok, I'm not doing so hot. That's ok. Just keep going. Then I notice the judges shaking their heads and writing furiously on the ballot. Hmmm\u2026whatever. I take my seat, all smiles, just proud of myself for getting up in front of strangers. Public speaking isn't so hard, I thought. I return to my team, am informed I lost the round (no surprise) and we'll get the comments from the judges in a few days. Fast forward, and I'm hanging out with the team and we're reviewing our ballots. Apparently I made an entire speech about \"Paki-stine\"\u2026. a country that doesn't exist. And I said it about 15 times in just a few minutes. The team thought it was hilarious, and we all laughed about it. I stuck it out until the end of the semester, and ended up doing very well in the \"interpretive\" events \u2013 such as poetry and prose. :)", "summary": "\u2013 Went to debate tournament, mixed up country names and argued about \"Paki-stine\" for a good 3 minutes, and didn't realize it until afterwards. "}
{"id": "t3_3bncxo", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Anyway to get/help my sister stop smoking?", "post": "She's 19, I'm 17. I know that she's an adult now and can do whatever she wants after 18, but it still hurts to see her damaging her body with this shit. When we were younger, everyone would always say how they'd never start smoking, how they'd never even try and I stuck to that (at least for cigarettes), so it's a bit suprising to see her start. I'm under the impression that most people my age that started smoking don't really care about the concequences and it's just a thing that they do, unlike older people who actually realize that it's a serious issue that they're having trouble with. I've told her before that it isn't good that she smokes, but she just blows it off with a laugh and continues on. She never smokes around me or family, but I sometimes find her cigarettes in her room or on the balcony etc. \nIs there anyway I can help her see that she needs to stop? \n\nIt also doesn't help that her boyfriend is a big smoker. She didn't smoke before she met him. I dislike him just because of that. I don't know how she started, but I can imagine it was him suggesting it to her, but yes, even then it'd be her own decision. Also my immediate family doesn't necessarily \"not care\", but they are just going with the \"It's her life, if she wants to fuck up her body, it's her fault\" after telling her a few times that she needs to stop without it having any effect on her.\n\nSo,", "summary": "Any advice on how to convince my sister that she should stop or at least convince her that it's a problem she has to work on herself?"}
{"id": "t3_120c5k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Big hotel chain is mixing chemicals (cleaning solutions, etc.) making employees sick. Who should I contact?", "post": "A national hotel chain where my aunt works as a housekeeper is mixing their cleaning chemicals together and it's making the employees sick. She has complained to management about the issue, but no one is doing anything about it and she has already gotten sick twice.  We need to inform someone about the problem and I feel we have to do it right. Unfortunately, as her job sits, she is disposable as an employee. If she makes too much fuss, they will find someone else to do her job - easily. Also, I feel if she complains to the wrong department or corporate it may get swept under the rug.  Who should I contact to get this issue resolved and to make sure she doesn't keep getting ill??", "summary": "Aunt is getting sick from cleaning chemicals being mixed at work."}
{"id": "t3_25mrvx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What are good reasons to ask off for work in advance?", "post": "I'm a part-time employee at a chain store. Our particular store is so small that we have three full-time managers and three part-time cashiers. Company policy dictates that instead of giving your employees overtime, you call a store in the county to see if they have an employee who can fill in.\n\nTo the point: I want to ask off for two-three days the weekend after next to go out of town to see my significant other instead of calling in \"sick\". I also have to have several days off soon because I'm having my wisdom teeth removed, so I don't want to look like I'm taking off too much time.\n\nI don't want to look bad to my store manager. I think she's already mad at me for calling in last week because I was in the hospital.", "summary": "I want to ask for a few days off and I'm not sure what reason to give for it. Any decent ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_20scps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel so lost without her 19M she is 18F", "post": "We were together 2 years 3 months 1 week 4 days. All the times we laid together just wrapped in each other the way she told me she loved me and could never imagine leaving me. I guess the leaving part was to console my constant worries and insecurities. She told me we are so young we just need to experience other people and new places and things. I just don't get it, all I want to experience is forever with her and whatever comes along the way. Yeah I get it we are young, but she just came into my life at a time that was my all time low she showed me that I wasn't just some pill abusing loser. It no longer mattered that I didn't have parents there for me or that I hated myself. All that mattered to me is that such a beautiful soul could look past all the brokenness that is me and found something to like and eventually love. Without her I feel like that broken kid again, my mind feels lost and my heart feels pain. That's all I can recognize anymore.  What do I do now?", "summary": "Gf left me for \"experiences\" and now I am devastated and lost."}
{"id": "t3_394bjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my acquaintance [25M] for years, sleeping together for a month -- how do you know what's just sex and what's early dating??", "post": "Question might seem stupid but I'm admittedly a lot naive about this stuff.\n\nHave known the guy for years. We have a lot of the same friends. We started hanging out at group functions, leaving together, and sleeping together. He pays for me when we're out. When we're together --in front of our friends and in private-- he's cuddly, sweet, we spend hours talking and having great sex. He sleeps over, cuddles, holds my hand, kisses me goodbye.\n\nHe doesn't make plans to hang out but when I do he responds affirmatively. I like him (a lot) and am not sleeping with anyone else but would also rather not be tied down in a relationship right now.\n   \nUnsure whether this is relevant: a few years ago he asked me out and I rejected him. Told him the truth, it was just bad timing in my life. Unclear whether he believed me or took the rejection personally.", "summary": "What differentiates fuck buddy from friend with benefits from friend you're starting to date? Am a bit clueless -- and not ready to ask the guy for fear of coming off clingy when in fact I'm just naive."}
{"id": "t3_20jd26", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to deal with her random mood changes?", "post": "Hello, I was wondering if I could get some advice for my current situation. A friend(27f) and I(21m) have been hanging out for about 5 or 6 months now, we see each other at least 3 times a week and in the beginning of February we became FWBs. I would describe our relationship as \"pretty much\" dating, we do almost everything together cooking, lunches, shopping etc. We've even held hands in public and share goodnight kisses.\nMy dilemma is that she has short bursts from being affectionate to being utterly emotionless. It drives me insane, my insecurity always leads to questioning myself to see if I did anything wrong. I don't know how to process these situations, she was very brief on the phone today and hasn't responded to any of my texts (which she always does). Granted she is out with her friends right now.\n\nI think we may spend too much time together and thats why she gets into these mood swings, but I would like her to just tell me instead of acting this way. She has been tired the past couple of days, so I've been relying on that to be another possibility behind all of this. I'm just really worried, her friendship means the world to me and I definitely dont want to lose that. Does this happen with anyone else?\n\nI'm sorry if this seems petty or dumb, I just need multiple opinions, I really dont have any women I can talk to about this. I've been beating myself up, I need to get out of my head.\n\nI had to post this using my phone so I'm sorry for all the grammar mistakes. Thank you very much.", "summary": "She goes from affectionate to emotionless in an instant, how do I deal with it? Is it common with others?"}
{"id": "t3_4emf8r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wanting to quit my (24f) new job for my old job. It's this normal?", "post": "So I'm moving to another state after the summer and the job I had before this was god awful, I was miserable. So many places I applied to said they couldn't take me knowing I'd be leaving soon. My current job took me in and was okay with me leaving soon. But, my current job (vet clinic) is deathly show. Literally like 5 clients a day. And I'm the type of worker that needs to be always moving. \n\nSo, my job from a year ago hears I'm working near by,  this clinic is probably the best I've ever been at but I didn't bother seeing if I could go back since I was leaving soon. But they said they needed a tech and would take me back. \n\nI desperately miss the fast paced environment I'm conformable in,  but I don't want to screw my current employer over. I've only been here for 2 weeks... Would it be so wrong for me to quit already?", "summary": "Is it wrong to quit my new job?"}
{"id": "t3_rrsc2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have three cats. How do I keep one cat out of the basement without also blocking the other two?", "post": "One of our cats is an old, grouchy female who pees on... well, anything and everything. Usually the carpet, clothes on the floor or a bed, occasionally some papers, furniture, or worse. For the past year or so, she's been staying upstairs voluntarily so I've stopped worrying about her coming downstairs (where I live) to pee on my stuff. However, in the past few weeks she's been venturing downstairs again. I don't think she's peed on anything, but I don't want to give her the opportunity. My main concern is my new couch (threw out the last one due to multiple cat piss stains) and my drum kit (I don't know what cat pee would do to the bass drums, but I do know it would be around $500 each to replace them) although there are any number of other things in the basement that I don't want her peeing on.\n\nCurrently, there is a pile of bubble wrap on two of the steps (there are no doors for this stairway) which deters her, but this bubble wrap also keeps the other two cats (who have never peed on anything and generally prefer to hang out with me) upstairs. Sometimes they can jump the bubble wrap, but it still isn't an ideal system since it can present an obstacle/safety hazard for the humans who use the stairway. So, I need a new idea.", "summary": "one cat pees on things and must be blocked from coming downstairs, but the other cats and the humans cannot have the stairs blocked. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_4h8f9n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a dress to IKEA.", "post": "Looking back, I should've known better than to wear a dress to IKEA. \n\nMy dress is basically an oversized shirt and super flowy and what not and every turn I take yields a cool breeze in my lady parts. As I make my way through the maze that is IKEA, I realized I'm royally fucked. I manage to get a bed frame, mattress, mirror and like a fuckton of pillows onto my cart and proceed to checkout. Thinking, \"I'm a girl, someone will ask to help me put this shit in my car\", I don't even bother asking the cashier to call for help and end up forgetting I need help until I get to my car. \n\nOf course it started to get windy and I'm trying my best to keep my dress from Marilyn Monroe-ing and put this shit in my car. I jenga most of it in my car as fast as I could since there were cars waiting to park in my spot. The last thing I had to put in my car was a mirror. It was kinda awkward to hold and my arms felt like spaghetti at this point. It started slipping out of my hands so I go to grab it before it drops. I guess the combination of wind and my own stupidity perfectly placed the bottom of my dress under the mirror and in my holyfuck moment before almost dropping the mirror, I also grabbed the bottom of my dress. I pulled it up, while facing a van with a family in it, and the kids got a quick lesson on the female body. \n\nThe real fuck up: it was laundry day. Granny panties for days.", "summary": "wore a dress to IKEA, flashed a family, granny panties. "}
{"id": "t3_2kevw0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [21 F] of 3 years, how can I deal with my feelings of wanting her to dress differently?", "post": "All women dress how they want. They shouldn't feel societies pressures to conform and any man should appreciate it. They are individuals and should be allowed to wear functional comfortable clothes.\n\nThat's what I know. That's what my mind gets focused on. And then, I get hung up with my girlfriend's choice of no makeup/not nice clothes.\nI really struggle with thoughts of wishing my girlfriend wore different things. I really enjoy things like eyeshadow and mascara, and I really enjoy things like skirts and leggings and high heels. But that's not who my girlfriend is, and never will be. She likes dressing in loose clothing, and I should be fine with that.\n\nIt is just SO HARD to handle that fact that rationally I know I want her to wear what SHE wants, but at the same time, I want her to wear seductive impractical clothes for me.\n\nI've talked to her about it. She doesn't see why I'd want her to wear those clothes at risk of attracting people other than me. For instance, for halloween, why would she want to wear a slutty costume \"to get all the attention in the room\". I asked if she would wear those things for just me, for when we go on dates or at home together, and she said \"maybe someday [like after we are married]\"... If we get married. I always get to our dates and feel a little disappointed that she just wears the most casual clothes appropriate for the occasion.\n\nAm I right to be hung up on this? Is this who I am, and I will always be vaguely and inexplicably unsatisfied? Or should I just try to ignore these thoughts and enjoy my independent, confident, intelligent, and beautiful girlfriend?", "summary": "I'm struggling with my feelings of wanting my girlfriend to dress differently. I don't know if my feelings are justified or ridiculous."}
{"id": "t3_2nx4ne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] can't shake off the feeling that my boyfriend [21M] is sick of me/doesn't love me anymore.", "post": "We've been together for almost half a year. I am constantly worrying that he doesn't love me anymore even though he says he does. The smallest things will make me upset. For example, if I notice that he isn't saying \"I love you\" as often as he normally does, or if he doesn't want to spend as much time with me... I assume that he's sick of me. And I feel like it is becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. I think this may just be a case of my own emotional immaturity, and not a sign of an actual problem in our relationship. I worry that the fact that I need constant reassurance that he still loves me is what will drive him away. How can I get out of this mindset?", "summary": "I am very insecure and worry that my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore and this might ruin our relationship. What do."}
{"id": "t3_3572id", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] am feeling neglected by lack of communication from boyfriend [21 M] of 1 year", "post": "When my boyfriend and I are together everything has been good. We enjoy each others company and I feel like we're in a good place. \n\nHowever we only have been seeing each other once a week for about two months. For the rest of our relationship we were seeing each other three to four times a week from the start. He starting doing school full-time of hard classes, his hobby also turned into a job he does for 7 hours twice a week, he picked up another job that is a fill-in position so those hours are different weekly, and at night he does some freelance writimg. I go to school part time and work part time.\n\nI could deal with this for the first month because we would Skype twice a week late at night but now his family back at his place (he lives at home with grandparents who leave during the winter) there's not that communication anymore.\n\nI don't feel like a priority to him anymore since the only time we have had together is the scheduled Sunday after church. The only communication throughout the week is texting which he doesn't do well.\n\nI'm getting tired of texts be I unanswered or being told, \"can't talk now\". The worst times is when I tell him that I miss him or love him and he won't answer. We had our one year anniversary a month ago and I haven't received a card or a gift even though that is something important to me. I feel like I'm forgotten when I'm not physically there with him.\n\nHe's taking the summer off of school so hopefully it will change. He has asked me out one other time each week the last two weeks but I've been at work. I've talked to him about feeling disconnected during the week before but he only responds with \"Sorry I've been really busy\". \n\nHow can I best approach this with him? I feel like I need something more than once a week because I am very emotionally invested in him but will I come across  as clingy? Should I wait it out?", "summary": "boyfriend has been really busy and hasn't had time to hang out but he won't even text or call much during the week making me feel forgotten and not a high priority for him"}
{"id": "t3_3efo97", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking about the Lafayette, LA movie theatre shooting", "post": "Ok, first off, the issue is not a joking matter and I felt like a compete dipshit as soon as I said it, but:\n\nWent into work this morning and all everyone was talking about was the shooting last night in the theatre in Lafaytette, LA. I'd just gotten to my locker to get my duty belt and having heard the gist of the conversation, I said something along the lines of \"I knew this would happen if they gave Amy Shumer a movie; must have been a shitty movie\" (the film playing in the theatre that was shot up was \"Train Wreck\").\n\nA few of my fellow coworkers smirked, but my \"joke\" ended the conversation and everyone kind of disperse...and now here I am two hours later and was informed that there will be a mandatory \"sensitivity training meeting\" held this Saturday evening to which everyone in my department will have to attend regardless of if they were scheduled off or not...and now my whole department is pissed at me because they all know my comments are what lead to this weekend-ruining meeting we have no choice but to attend.\n\nAgain, I don't feel this tragedy is a joking matter; in my line of work, I just find it easier to deal with bad situations by trying to find comedy in them", "summary": "Made joking comment about recent theatre shooting at work and now my whole department hates me because it caused a mandatory meeting this weekend"}
{"id": "t3_26b0gi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Inner struggles with myself [f/23] regarding my guy [m/26]", "post": "I'm not even sure how to articulate this all to you, or even where to start. We met a year ago and have been inseparable. He's [m/26] absolutely amazing, and treats me [f/23] very well. We have normal relationship problems, but that goes without saying. \n\nMy biggest issue lately, is that he says he loves me, but can't bring himself to say it unless I do. He gets nervous when I say it, I can see it in his body language and demeanor. He says he wants to take things really slow, so I've taken a step back.\n\nHere's how he's confusing me:\n\nHe went and got a dog, but he took me with him to get him. He refers to said dog as \"our dog\". May not seem like a big deal, but these are mixed signals to me. \n\nI've been staying with him for two months since my roommate is in a very rigorous grad school program and is very stressed out at all times and the negativity started taking a toll on me. It's been \"our house\", \"our neighbors\", \"our chores\" etc...\n\nHe even asked if I would move across the country with him if he decided to take another job.\n\nBottom line is, we've talked about how much stronger my feelings are for him than his are for me, and he says he might \"get there one day\", but the fact that I love him enough to marry him tomorrow if he asked, and the love I feel for him is not reciprocated breaks my heart everyday. \n\nAll I want is the feel like someone loves me. I was always told that if you don't feel like someone is giving you the love you need, meet that person with all the love you can muster, and it will all come together. So all I can do is just be there for him, and show him how I feel every day. \n\nI can't pull myself out of this depression though. Do I stick around, hoping that one day I'll be loved by the person I love the most, or do I leave out of self respect and give myself a chance at something that might have more of a balance?", "summary": "There is not a balance of feelings between my boyfriend [26/m] and myself [23/f] and it's causing me terrible depression."}
{"id": "t3_ykpmv", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Decision making: Study (What?) or Work?", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\ni recently finished my job training and now am a biological technical assistant. I now have the opportunity to go to university or look for a job, and it is hard to say what i want to do, because i see the good and the bad things in each of these decisions:\n\n\"go get a job!\": it is not that easy; i have to find something that i like doing; i have to work a lot and do as i am told and also have to deal with a possibly hostile work environment (bad chefs and/or colleagues); but i can earn some money\n\n\"don't be a fool, stay in school!\": there are so many possibilities, how do i choose the right one? the \"pure\" science, by studying biology or something more practical (technical environment protection)?\n\ni am a 24 year old in berlin where i just moved. i am looking forward what you people will say, i have the options and been giving them a lot of thoughts. i am at a point where i could easily get my mind up, but also just need some advise from outside that gives me another perspective idea. If you got an thoughts on that, i am sure it will help me to make a good decision.", "summary": "Keep on learning or start earning money? or else?"}
{"id": "t3_3pokg6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spilling boiling hot water on my lap", "post": "As I deal with the painful aftermath of yesterday's screw-up, I decided to share so that maybe somebody will get a kick out of it or at least be a little more careful with their next cup of tea.\n\nYesterday my mom came home for lunch and I had already eaten so I decided to make a cup of tea before she went back to work, we could sit in the living room and spend a little time together. She gets up and walks to her room and I hear the tea kettle whistle. I had my mug sitting out with the tea bag already in it and I didn't feel like waiting for it to brew, so I pour boiling hot water into a huge mug and take like three steps to the couch. I picked up my phone, sat down, and before I could set the cup down I lost my grip and the entire thing splashes on my lap. For a split second I think \"oh, shit\" and then started screaming. Jumped up, cup flies to the ground, and I'm screaming and trying to pull my pants off. I look down and I'm literally steaming, the button on my pants is too hot to touch so I try to pull them off which seemed impossible. So I'm standing naked from the waist down, screaming for my mom and trying to shield my lady bits with my hands while yelling not to look at me. She's laughing her butt off while she wets a towel for me, meanwhile I'm crying to the point of almost laughing which confused her. Then I realized I was standing in front of an open window.\nThe trip to the pharmacy last night was fun...", "summary": "Scalded my privates with really hot tea"}
{"id": "t3_36qr29", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a responsible student", "post": "Some information on me: I am the daughter of an important teacher in my school so I don't like playing truant in fear of getting in trouble with my Mum, who's rather strict. I love school and I love studying so I'm a bit of a nerd I guess.\n\nAnyway this happened today. It's Thursday, so it's our longest school day, until 3 pm. We were supposed to get out at 2 pm as my English teacher ditched us, but my classmates got the 'wonderful' idea of leaving at 1pm without telling anyone. So they decide that the EVERYONE must skip so we won't get in trouble if anyone remains behind (??? what sort of logic is that).\n\nI bluntly refuse. Last time I skipped my classes my Mum grounded me for a month and I don't want to repeat it as weekend is approaching and I want to hang out. My classmates get angry. One of them has the audacity to call me selfish and telling me to 'take it for the team' and leave with everyone else at 1 pm. I stand my ground. I can hear them insulting me.\n\nIt's 1 pm. Everyone leaves and I'm the only one that didn't leave. Teacher comes in, looks confused, ask me where everyone is and I tell her everyone left (at this point I'm very pissed off that my classmates wanted me to get grounded just for \"the team\") and the teacher storms off to the principal's and calls me as well. I am waiting outside the principal's office and I can hear yelling. A lot of it.\n\nI don't know what's going to happen to my classmates and frankly I don't care. I should expect bullying over the following weeks, I suppose.", "summary": "possibly made my entire class hate me for being a responsible student."}
{"id": "t3_25zkl0", "subreddit": "books", "title": "If we could absorb the information in a book with just a touch or a glance, would we still be reading?", "post": "I have just started reading Matt Haig's [The Humans] a novel about an alien experiencing culture shock upon arriving on Earth. In the opening few pages, the alien describes his thoughts upon seeing a bookstore:\n\n> \"I was reminded that humans have to *read* books. They actually need to sit down and look at each word consecutively. And that takes time. Lots of time. A human can't just swallow every book going, can't chew different tomes simultaneously, or gulp down near-infinite knowledge in a matter of seconds. They can't just pop a word-capsule in their mouth like we can. Imagine! Being not only mortal but also forced to take some of that precious and limited time and read. No wonder they were a species of primitives. By the time they had read enough books to actually reach a state of knowledge where they can do anything with it they are dead.\"\n\nI know that Ray Kurzweil has suggested that we are not far off from being able to essentially download a book to our minds. I've always wondered about what this would really be like, and this passage from Matt Haig's book got me thinking. Is there something to be said for the experience of reading? Is a book nothing more than just bits of information? Can we really just simply download the works of great literature and understand the historical context or recognize and appreciate the poetic use of the language? If a book is just downloaded as information, would the stories still resonate with us emotionally? Is it essential and inevitable for a species to reach the alien's ability of information-absorption? Does anybody know what Isaac Asimov had to say about it? Sorry for all the questions, hopefully someone's interested in some discussion!", "summary": "I am ultimately wondering what constitutes the act of reading a book, and what it might look like in the future."}
{"id": "t3_o14qy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do we have a legal option?", "post": "My wife decided last fall she wanted to go back to school after the new year to finish her education. She contacted the school she wanted to go to and talked to the person over the program about it. The lady told her she needed all her transcripts from her other schools. She had all sent in but one. She sent a transcript request around the first of November and the school never sent one. She called the school on the sixteenth of November and they told her she owed $2000 dollars to the school. She attended this school in 2000. They have sent transcripts before and now refused until the debt was paid. My wife's family paid for her school up front. When she told them that they still said she owed money and they wouldn't send a transcript. I then told my wife to ask for documentation showing what she owed and why she owed it. The school couldn't present a document and then said they would release a transcript for $5 dollars. By now it was the middle of December. They would never return our voice mail or would \"disconnect\" on my wife when she called. She mailed them $5 dollars and finally got in touch with them about three or four days before Christmas. They claimed they were sending the transcript right away but then asked where to even though the had two transcript request forms. My wife called the college she plans to attend today and the lady said she still hadn't received them and that there is a chance she won't be able to start the program this year if she doesn't receive them since getting into the program is based off what classes you have completed in college so far. Do we have any legal option against this other school for dicking us around and making false claims of owing money and now possibly costing my wife a year of school?", "summary": "School lied to wife about owing money. Held her transcripts until it was paid. When we asked for proof of what was owed they changed their mind. After many request and calls and even paying for a transcript release they still haven't sent one. My wife might now have to wait a year to get in this education program due to not being able to show what classes she has taken at that school. Do we have any legal action against this school."}
{"id": "t3_44h7hv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[25/m] my wife [25/f] just stormed out.", "post": "I don't even know what happened. I had an extremely long and stressful week working two jobs, long commutes in bad snowy weather, and involved in a moderate car accident. Needless to say I just wanted to relax with my family on Saturday morning.\nMy wife and I were getting along just fine this morning until something switched in her and she started snapping for, to me, no reason. She's a stay at home mom so I know she has her own stresses and probably had a long week too. However, it really seemed uncalled for.\nShe made it seem that everything I was doing was cause for upset. Saying how I don't help, saying how I just sit there, saying how I've been on my phone since we woke up. Trying to hold back my own frustration, I tried to gently explain I've been trying to help. I woke the baby and changed her, helped tidy up, etc. and only grabbed my phone once to make some plans for the three of us tomorrow.\nShe immediately went into defense mode and would not come down. I tried to remain civil, admittedly unsuccessfully at times during our argument. Though I'd apologize and calm back down. She wouldn't however.\nShe went on and on with a rant about how I don't care about how she feels, she's the only one that ever does anything, how I'm selfish. I sat back and I listened. Figuring she just needed to vent.\nIt was just getting too heated and too insulting. I, probably stupidly, called out her behavior and that set off a storm. She flew off the handle, won't talk to me, and now she's stormed out, took the car, and won't say how long she'll be gone.\nI honestly don't know what I initially did to make her so upset. Everything was great when we first woke up.", "summary": "Wife and I were having a good day. Something I did bothered her. We argued, and now she's left."}
{"id": "t3_34okw0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My friend(17/f) and I(17/m) had a very awkward hang out last night and I don't know what to do next", "post": "My friend and I went to see the new avengers movie last night (this was really the first time we have be out together) and it turned very awkward very quickly. The ride to the movies was fine we both were talking a lot and having fun as usual. When we got to the movies it was also fine but we talk a bit less. During the movie we didn't really talk because neither of us like talking during movies but after the movie was horrible. It was basically silence from then on. For some reason I started to become very nervous near the end of the movie because I didn't know what we were going to talk about and if I would be able to hold a conversation. We spoke a little bit walking to the car but it was really dumb small talk. After that we just blasted the music and drove home. I could tell she wasn't very happy and later on I was able to pick up a hint that she didn't want to hang out with me again. That devastated me because I really wanted to get close with this girl but how can I if I am so nervous that I cannot even talk to her? I  apologize a lot for the bad night as we came close to our houses but she said it wasn't that bad. I know this might not sound bad but this was really one of the worse nights of my life because I've never been so nervous, embarrassed, and defeated at the same time. I don't know where to go from here because I really want to get to know this girl but I can't do that now. What should I say and what should I do?", "summary": "My friend and I saw the new avengers movie. We talked a lot  in the beginning and not at all near the end. I got a hint that she doesn't want to hang out with me anymore but I really want to get to know this girl. I don't know what to say to her or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3chbhx", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Kitty messed up their leg - how long should I wait?", "post": "My youngest kitten (7 months) was on top of my kitchen cabinets today and slipped and fell off and smacked a counter on the way down. He immediately ran under the bed limping and yowling in pain :(\n\nHe started to walk around a bit earlier but has just been sleeping since, and wont let the other cats play with him. I can't really tell if his leg is swollen or not but he definitely seems to be in pain.\n\nMy question is, how long should I give him to see if he's going to start walking on it comfortably again? I'd rather not take a trip to the vet just to have them tell me \"give it some time\", considering that's been the usual answer I've been getting with most of my cat related problems recently.", "summary": "Cat fucked up leg, isn't walking on it and is in pain. How long should I wait to see if he needs to go to the vet or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2pelht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (21f) has a crush on my (m24) friend (m24) and I don't know how to deal with it.", "post": "My girlfriend has been getting on well with my friend and i felt that something was up, just little things like her smiling a lot and laughing too much at his jokes. I talked to her about it and she admitted having a little crush on him. I told her i'm not mad at her and that she can't help how she feels but i need time to think about us now. She is desperate for us to stay together. But the more i think about it the more i think that we need to split up.\n\nI do trust her and don't believe she would do anything with him but i'm crushed that she's has feelings for someone else. I feel like my only options are either breaking up with her or cutting her out when i go out with friends which would be unfair on her as she tells me she has more fun with my friends than she does with her own friends. Call me insecure but i can't deal with having my girlfriend spend time with a guy who she has a crush on. Has anyone got advice on how to deal with this?.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a crush on my friend and I think I need to split up with her now."}
{"id": "t3_2y0ji8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "What happened to my perfect toddler?", "post": "We were spoiled. I know this. My daughter (2yrs) has stuck to a sleep/nap schedule like clockwork for many many blissful months, over a year, really. What I'm saying is it was wonderful and everyone was happy. \n\n Recently, however, we had to convert her crib because she was starting to climb out. *Sigh*. She's just a tired delirious thing now all the time because she doesn't sleep right. Her naps have become whenever she passes out on the floor. Sleep at night is whenever she passes out on floor. She suddenly needs me in the room with her at night, and she's waking up super early. We kept the same crib, same sheets, same everything. She's just got a guardrail on one side instead of crib rail.\n\nWe only made the switch a few days ago so my worrying could be premature, maybe this is just an adjustment period. But I'm at a loss of what to do. Her room is mostly baby proofed. I don't want her picking up bad habits of needing me in there every night until she falls asleep. She was doing so good on her own for so long! \n\nIs it best to put a gate up in front of her door and walk away no matter how much she cries? I don't want her to get scared with the changes or make bedtime a negative experience (if that's even possible to avoid).", "summary": "Tips on transitioning toddler out of crib."}
{"id": "t3_dbwr3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What cookbook?", "post": "A foodie buddy of mine has turned me into a wanna be foodie as well.  At this point I'm not a bad cook, but I need a recipe.  Yet my friend can just go through his kitchen, find random things, and suddenly we have an amazing dinner.  \n\nHe recently mentioned to me that many people out there are blogging about how they are going through cook books starting on page 1, and just cooking everything in it.  That sounds like a pretty damn good way to learn how to cook.  No doubt after going through a full cook book, one would know how to cook a few things, and would know what goes with what.\n\nI'd like to embark on a similar project, but don't know what cook book I should go with.  My goal is to, after cooking everything in the cook book, be able to look at random things in my kitchen, know what goes with what, and make a decent meal.  \n\nSo reddit, please help me.  Whatever cook book is suggested I'll go order and start with.  What cook book should I buy that will teach me how to cook?", "summary": "What's your all time favorite cookbook to learn from?"}
{"id": "t3_2xndnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21M) and my girlfriend (19F) might be pregnant but that's a huge problem.", "post": "My girlfriend is 19 and she may be pregnant.\n\nWe have been together for a year now.\n\nShe has a blood disorder and could die if she gives birth.\n\nShe doesn't want kids and I don't want kids so an abortion is highly likely.\n\nThe issue for me is that I was about to pack up and leave to go back home to live with my family. \n\nMy grandpop who I am really close with has been battling cancer and may not be around much longer.\n\nMy girlfriend and I currently live together on the west coast but my family is on the easy coast.\n\nThere are mid terms in school right now so she is already stressed out.\n\nShe is 3 weeks late on her period.\n\nShe will take a pregnancy test in a week.\n\nShe has been working out a lot recently, and has been really stressed. We think this is why she missed her period. \n\nBut she is showing signs of early pregnancy. \n\nShe has decided she is too young and does not want kids regardless of her age.\n\nSo what do I do?\n\nDo i go home to support my family financially, mentally, spiritually and be there for my grandpop who is dying of cancer?\n\nOr do I stay with her to support her while she takes abortion pills.", "summary": "Family is having issues back home and I want to go back across the country to be with them but my girlfriend may be pregnant but will get an abortion. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_117ee6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m/24] have managed to ruin my relationships and now feel I should simply stay away. is this the best course?", "post": "I felt like i cheated, but i didnt actually do anything. but the feeling of being wanted by someone i lost so painfully was extremely taxing. even if she [f/24] (was with her for 1 year) was just drunk and whispering me sweet nothings while she was feeling vulnerable.\n\nShe asked me would I, if i could? i told her unequivocally no that night, because i was with my gf [f/26] (together for 2 and a 1/2 years). although i wanted so desperately to say something. but the mere fact i thought about it is bad enough.\n\ni realised being in this kind of limbo is not something my girlfriend deserved, me being unsure about committing to her and of my love towards her. so i broke up with her.\n\n Im pretty sure my ex whom i have wanted to be with, and yet thought i had finally forgotten and extricated from my thoughts while with my gf, doesnt actually want to be with me. she was probably just sad and needed comfort. I instead convinced her that she could seek solace with my best friend [m/24]. they kissed that night but i assume she regretted it because it never amounted to anything. (He's an amazing guy, so i thought if not me then why not him, they could make each other happy).\n\nbut isnt it sad that she predicted accurately that i would be the one to respond in any capacity (overt or otherwise), even if i told her no to her face she must have known something.\n\nso now i have all this surplus information about how to make two amazing women happy. both of whom i do sincerely love (should it even possible to love two people at once?), neither of whom i deserve because i should be able to commit to one or let them both find their own lives.\n\nso now i am alone, and unhappy, and i let them both go (because fuck the noise i would cause in either of their lives, they dont need that). I feel as though I am running out of time: \n\ndid i do the right thing?", "summary": "realised i still have feelings for ex whom i have a complicated past with while with my current gf, broke up with gf, decided to become a hermit and let them all be. how long can i stand the overwhelming sadness, before something breaks in me?"}
{"id": "t3_q7usa", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "What this subreddit is, and isn't, for me.", "post": "You can't encapsulate the reality of failure, struggle, loss, and motivation in a simple internet link or text post. You can't do justice to the realities of life and setting goals for said life in a format such as reddit.\n\nThat's not what r/getmotivated is for me, but that's not what it has to be either.\n\nFor me, it's been the first place to go when I'm feeling down, unmotivated, or just stuck on an assignment I can't seem to finish. I don't come here expecting all the answers, but sometimes just a simple quote or a photo has made all the difference in my day.\n\nSometimes the stuff here is corny or oversimplified, sure. I'll admit that. But r/getmotivated has helped me through a lot of tough times in a simple way, and it helps keep me on track almost every day. I'm sure a lot of wolves have similar experiences.\n\nThis post started out as a response to all the critics of this subreddit (people who call it trite, useless), but now that I'm finished writing I realized I just wanted to say this: thank you to the members of this community for having a hand in such a positive place. At least to me, it means a lot.", "summary": "Love this subreddit for what it is. I love you, wolves."}
{"id": "t3_11mmvo", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Potty train FAIL... stubborness wins.", "post": "We've been trying to potty train our almost 3.5 yo son for over a year now & we are making very little progress. He will sit on the toilet occasionally but has only actually peed in it 3x. He won't go for his teacher at pre-school & the reward system doesn't work. He says he would rather go in his pull-up. We tried the big boy underpants thing for a of couple consecutive days but he just peed down his leg. He was upset about it at first but he kept on doing it & eventually he didn't even bother telling us he went. It's a big mess & he just doesn't seem to care. We have pretty much given up & are hoping he will come around. I don't know what else to do.", "summary": "3.5yo refuses to be potty trained - all tried methods have failed. Frustrated to no end."}
{"id": "t3_3qhkxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [18m] is really mean to me [17f]\u2026does he like me?", "post": "We're seniors in high school and there's this guy, let's call him Nick, who I've known for years and everyone always told me he had a crush on me, but I dated this other guy freshman year up until a month ago.  \n\nNick told everyone how much he liked me and how he would go for me when me and my boyfriend broke up, but over the summer he started hooking up with my best friend (according to other people it was because he figured i would stay with my boyfriend forever).  Now they're dating and they seem happy together but whenever we're together he's always joking around and hitting me and teasing me and stuff.  He always calls me stupid and makes fun of me but he's always like \"just kidding you know I love you so much\" and then he'll go back to the jabs.  \n\nHe only started acting this way since he started dating my best friend, but whenever we're having a serious conversation or I'm telling him about another guy, he goes on about how any guy would be so lucky to have me etc etc \n\nI'm just so confused about the whole situation, because I think I have a little crush on  him but I would never do that to my best friend. Where does it seem like his head is at?", "summary": "This guy always liked me but I was taken, now he's in a relationship with someone else and is mean flirty to me all the time, does he still like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3luat1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] housesat for over a week in July for my aunt [39F] and her family. Didn't pay me, but expect me to pay at garage sale?", "post": "In the beginning of July I housesat for my aunt and uncle [42M]. They have 4 kids, [17M][14F] [twins 4F]. They have two cats and a rabbit. I had to feed all of them and I had to let the rabbit out for at least an hour every day for exercise. The rabbit also likes to escape so I had to barricade and close off the living room where the rabbit's cage is. I had to be watching the rabbit at all times or she would jump to get out. \nI housesat for a little over a week. Their house is a lot farther from my work then where I live and all this week I was working. I got no discussion or mention of payment. I think they just expecting me to do it for free. \nLast week or so my aunt and her family posted on Facebook that they were having a garage sale. They also posted some photos. I saw they had a couple of their old bikes in the photo. I asked if they were adult bikes and I'm interested. She then replied and said they're up for $100 and to send her my budget for one. \nSo.... I know it's not that much at all, but I'm a little angered. You're expecting me a poor ass college student who lives on her own to housesit for over a week with not even money for gas, but she has to pay for an old bike that was maybe $150 new? It's just irritating. Any suggestions for how I should bring it up to her?", "summary": "housesat/petsat at family's house for over a week and wasn't paid, but expected to pay for bike at garage sale."}
{"id": "t3_2wkmxo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating Gardettos.", "post": "So this actually happened today. About 15 minutes ago to be exact. This morning I woke up a little late and was in a rush to get out the door for work, which caused me to miss out on my usual breakfast of honey nut cheerios. After about an hour of sitting at my desk, I started to feel a bit naseous, which is typical for me if I go a long time without eating. No problem though, my office building has a vending machine on the floor below mine so I made my way down there in order to alleviate my hunger. After some serious consideration, I deicided to use my $1.25 to purchase a bag of Gardettos (original recipe) narrowly edging out the bag of white cheddar cheez-it's that had also caught my eye. I stand by my choice. Anywho, as I'm placing my money into the machine my boss walks by, and we start up a typical work place conversation. However, as we're conversing, the naseous feeling that I have been experiencing starts to get much worse. I start to get extremely paranoid that I'm about to throw-up in front of my boss if I don't eat something right away. I decide to open up my bag of gardettos and begin to eat mid conversation. As I'm  aggresively eating my snack, I realize that the volume of my chewing inside my own head, is keeping me from hearing a single word of what my boss is attempting to say to me. I stop chewing in time to hear him ask, \"Can I count you in?\" Not knowing what the hell he's talking about I reply, \"Absolutely!\" to which he responds. \"Great! I'll see you tomorrow!\" I'm still not 100% sure what I said \"absolutely\" to, but it appears as if I'm working on my Saturday. I mean even if I had heard what he asked, I would have said yes to working because I'm a huge pussy, but I would've liked to have had the option damnit. On the flip side, hopefully this will get me into his good grace. Although thats unlikely because it's only 10:30 and I've already taken a snack break and have spent my last 15 minutes writing this.", "summary": "Gardettos lead to working weekends."}
{"id": "t3_msu3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Adult step siblings dating ... yep, it's that kinda thing.", "post": "No easy way to say this I suppose.  So I'm going to write it all out, I apologize in advance for the length.  My mom and his father started dating just over a year ago.  He was my mom's first boyfriend back when they were in high school, and after their separate marriages, children, and divorces, they're back together and happier than ever.  I never knew him or his family at all. \n\nNow that we have grown to know each other however, one of his sons and I have grown to like each other as far more than just friends or \"step siblings\". After spending time together, we've grown to a point where we want to move forward in a relationship together.  We match together amazingly well and have chemistry like I haven't felt before.\n\nAt this point, we both feel major conflicts.  In talking about how this is going to progress, we have agreed that our parent's relationship takes priority.  We know them well, and we know that this is the real deal for them, they are going to be together for the rest of their lives.  They aren't married, and they may never be, but they will be together.  At this point, we are taking it slow, VERY slow, and not telling ANYONE about it for a while.  We have agreed that no matter what, we need to be friends first, because we are going to be present in each others lives for a while. \n\nThis is really quite hard for me.  We wouldn't even be considering dating if their wasn't such a strong connection between us.  The factors for us: we didn't grow up together as siblings, we are both in our twenties (21 and 26), and our parents have expressed (albeit somewhat indirectly) support if we decided to move in this direction.  Going against us: our parents are dating, if it goes bad in a baddd way we still have to spend time together as a family, potential social stigma, and other family members may not be as accepting as our parents.", "summary": "My adult kinda-stepbrother and I are dating secretly and feeling some major conflicts. In desperate need of advice, maybe someone who has been through something similar, or anything helpful.  Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_37iy70", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can colleges take away money from your aid package because of money in a checking account you have?", "post": "First, I apologize if there has been a question that's been posted similar to this one; I found no others in the search.\n\nSimply put, I have about $1500.00 in cash that I've been saving for excess college spending money, and am going to continue to save over the summer. I have a fairly generous financial aid package from university because of my parents' low income. If I was to keep that money in a checking account I have, and would have to report that for say, next year, can the college look at that money in the account and take away money from my financial aid package? I've asked others and heard mixed results", "summary": "Can colleges subtract money from financial aid packages because you have money (from part time job) in checking accounts?"}
{"id": "t3_4cnqsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21 F with my friends 21F, 18F, 21F, they thought I was hitting on them :(", "post": "Throwaway because this is incredibly embarrassing to even write about. :(\n\nAfter high school, I took time off school to work and save money. I started uni last August and made a few new buds. It wasn't easy at first because I've always been more introverted than extro, but things are smooth now. \n\nThe problem is, my friends (ages and genders here: 21F, 18F, 21F) recently brought up to me that they thought I was hitting on them when I first met them. They said it in a really casual way but I was astounded, like, fuck. My face flushed red and I had to make up an excuse \"errands\" and leave. It's even worse because it's not just one person who thought that, but all three of them!\n\nI've spent all day thinking about it and honestly it makes a lot of sense. They would often say, \"My **boyfriend** does this or that\" or look at me strangely and then act coldly. I also have a habit of complimenting people because there's always something very beautiful about every person. It could be their general features, the way they talk, their work ethic, or whatevs else, so I compliment people sometimes. I must've sounded like I was trying to pick them up but I swear guys, that was never my intention. \n\nI'm going to see them again tomorrow, as we [me, 18F, and 21F, but my other 21F friend will be there] have a speaking project together (we actually have to rehearse), so I need to know how to handle that. I KNOW they're going to ask more about it. Also, how do I make sure that my future friends don't think I'm hitting on them?", "summary": "Friends thought I hit on them when we first met, how do I change this?"}
{"id": "t3_2aqmu9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I don't know what I should do about this cat.", "post": "There's a semi-feral cat hanging around my house. She's \"owned\" by my neighbors, who got the cat for their five-year-old kid (who just picks the cat up and slings it around), but my neighbors make the cat stay outside. \n\nShe had a litter of three kittens back in the beginning of April, and as of last week, only one of those kittens is still alive. She has some sort of deformity and is severely malnourished, as were the other kittens who passed. They're all riddled with fleas as well.\n\nI fed the cat because I'm stupid and I felt bad for them and I really don't want to confront my neighbors. \n\nThe adult cat is currently in heat, which only makes the situation worse. I know it's only a matter of time before she has another litter.\n\nAnimal control will only come pick the cats up if one of them bit somebody, otherwise, I'd have to capture both and take them myself.\n\nI don't know what to do. I can't adopt the cat, or her kitten. I can't talk to my neighbors, because they obviously have about as much regard for the cat's welfare as I do for the gum stuck to the bottom of my shoe.\n\n<b>", "summary": "</b> Semi-feral cat \"owned\" by neighbors who don't care, has already had one litter of kittens and is well on her way to having a second. I don't know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_30lh34", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Let me introduce you to a cat named Misty.", "post": "Good Morning Reddit; \n\nWith a hole in my heart and my home, I wondered into the nearest SPCA to visit with some of the furry friends listed on their website. My room mate just moved, and he took his Cat with him. He was a great cat, and I definitely will miss him. \n\nThis wasn't the first time I had grown attached to one of my room mates cats, and I decided it would be the last time. I wanted to build a close relationship with a cat that wasn't going to disappear from my life; I adopted Misty :). \n\nMisty is a beautiful Blue Grey, almost like a Russian mixed with a Domestic Short Hair. She's an older cat, approx. Five Years old and is not declawed. The adoption center loved her, and you could tell they wanted to find her a happy home. I walked in, sat down with Misty and then walked out with a cat. In her home at the SPCA, she was open to petting and the staff couldn't stop giving her Catcolades. \n\nLeaving I had an extensive conversation about making sure Misty feels comfortable in her new home. I was told She was very shy at first in the shelter, so I was warned ahead of time that it is going to take her a couple days, even weeks, to adjust to new surroundings. \n\nKnowing this, I brought her home and gave her complete control of one of our bathrooms. She has everything she could need in a somewhat tiny space. Alas, she hasn't moved from behind the toilet and I am thankful that I cleaned there. I left her crate in there with her, to hopefully provide a dark space that wasn't the toilet, but as long as she doesn't make that her goto spot i'll be okay. \n\nNow I wait; I'm leaving her be for the most part, and letting her do her thing in there. Occasionally I'll go in and sit on the floor to see if she'll come see who or what I am. I'll continue to monitor (she ate some treats I left on the floor), and keep Reddit Updated.", "summary": "Got a new Cat, hasn't come out from hiding yet."}
{"id": "t3_2u1x8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24m] and SO[26f] have just ended our 4 year relationship. She said that she still loves me but not in love with me.", "post": "So during our first 2.5 years we were awesome. Went out a lot. spent a lot of time together. Sex was unbelievably amazing. But since we moved in together about a year ago we have grown apart. She has become extremely difficult to read and understand and I turn I have pushed her away but still kept it civil. We haven't had sex in a while and usually she has made multiple excuses not to ( she's sick, tired or simply doesn't want to)\n\nThe other day she asked if we could talk and I said yes. She started by saying that her love for me is still there but not on a romantic level. She also said that since we moved in that we as a copier haven't been trying anymore and just going through the motions. She said that it would be best if we separated due to her unhappiness.\n\nNow I still love her with all my heart. I've tried to change my ways by attempting to talk to her but when I do it's quick one word answers or sarcasm to the point idk if she's joking or serious. So that I turn makes me not want to talk. She said that she needs to be away so she can be happy naturally I hate this idea but I ultimately want her to be happy and if I need to sacrifice my happiness in order for her to be happy then so be it.", "summary": "girlfriend says it's time to part ways due to us growing apart and she is unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_2h8l6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(19M) am seeing a girl(18F) who is way out of my league. Help me with my insecurity.", "post": "I started texting this extremely cute girl who is also very intelligent and sweet a few weeks ago. We went on our first date last Friday and it went really well. I kissed her and she held my hand as we walked under a starry night sky. She said she had a great time and invited me to do something this weekend including spending the night ;)\n\nNow, I was ugly for most of my life. Over the past few years I've put lots of work into losing weight, hygiene, fitness/lifting, social skills, etc. and I made it to the point where most people started to find me attractive this summer.\n\nI only like how I look when I am at a really low bodyfat percentage, and this fall I have been putting on some weight and some of it is water retention from my high sodium school diet. The weight I am putting on is necessary for the weightlifting routine I have been undertaking. \n\nI don't care as much about some fat on my body, but the fat I gain first is deposited in my face/neck and it makes me look really bad. Like, from a 7-8/10 to a 4-5/10(in my opinion). \n\nHow do I help purge this from my mind? I hate insecurity. I know she could get with a way more attractive guy than me and I hate these immature feelings.", "summary": "Girl is way hotter than me. She likes me. I'm scared of her not liking me because of my appearance and body image problems. I am insecure."}
{"id": "t3_uiotx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If the U.S. gets universal healthcare and my taxes go up do i stop paying my private company? Doesn't it even out? More questions", "post": "Ok so i have had some questions about this and i have heard my sides but i am not clear on some things.\n\nI know the U.S is a very large place and it would cost a lot of money to provide universal healthcare to everyone in the US which would be at the expense of tax payers. But if we get universal health care does that mean that i can drop my private health care provider and i would get coverage for everything through the gov? I am taxed 15% of my pay right now, how much would my taxes increase?  Would it even out if thats what happened?\n\nI have heard the argument that doctors will be paid a lot less and will run to another country or ppl will stop wanting to be doctors bc the pay isnt good. Would the gov be paying the doctors then? Would there be terrible lines to wait in to be treated?\n\nI live in the south where most ppl are red through and through and will not listen to anything. I recently changed sides i would say. I have argued w some ppl about this and what i found it boils down to is they think that they will be paying for poor black ppl w and their large families that live on welfare and don't try to improve their lives. And if they felt like helping someone they would give money to a friend or family memeber and don't want to gov to distribute their money to someone who is not pulling their weight. Although i have yet to see any one of them donate money to a friend or family member in true need.", "summary": "How much do my taxes increase for universal healthcare? Can i drop my private company? Does it even out?"}
{"id": "t3_2bt46q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17m] don't know how to react because she [17f] only show affection we we sleep together", "post": "First of all my native language isn't english so sorry if it's a bit weird.\nSo I like this girl (a lot) and I often go see her and when I do most of the time we aren't alone. Most of the time she's close to me and she often rest her head on my shoulder when we are sitting and things like that. I went to her house 3 days ago and the first night went like this: We talked and did stuff sat on the couch and watched tv. All that time she was laying on my shoulder and my head was leaning on hers. When we went to sleep we slept in spoon at that was it. But the day after when I went to put my arm around her she took my arm and hold it against her and was holding hand with me. But when we woke up she never talked about it after. I dont understand", "summary": "She only seems to want to be more than friend only when we sleep"}
{"id": "t3_3xv4iu", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "After A Parent Dies - Help and advice for a non-parent who's parenting", "post": "In July my best friend died, leaving behind her twin 10 year old girls and her grieving husband. We were more than best friends. She was basically my wife for 18 years. \n\nIn the aftermath of her sudden and unexpected death, my husband and I have upped our involvement with the children. We are their guardians, should anything happen with their Dad and are now taking them on some weekends to give him some time to adult. My friend's mother also moved into the house to help, but she is older and hasn't been a teenage (or preteen) in sometime. Neither her nor her husband know how to \"girl\" and as a result, I can see trouble brewing... \n\nHusband and I do not have children (this was actually a year we were ttc but with all the stress?) and while I have plenty of experience babysitting, actually parenting? Completely foreign. We've been seeing ourselves as cool Aunt/Uncle but we realize that as time goes on we're entering into parenting zone.\n\nI do recognize too, that I will be the one who is the role model / confident / guiding force during the adolescent/teen years... To do that without screwing them up I feel like I should study up.\n\nThen there is the fact that they are grieving and I'd probably feel better if I understood how the child brain deals with such a trauma. What things to say and do vs. those that could potentially cause more harm. I can think of a gazillion obvious ones but it's the not-so-obvious ones that I'd like to learn about.\n\nSo, r/parenting... help? Books? Resources? They are/were in grief counselling, but if I'm not over the loss of their Mom... well, I can't imagine they are either. I just don't want to do more harm then good and would like to know what land mines I should be trying to avoid.\n\nThanks for any and all advice.", "summary": "Best friend died and I'm stepping in to help parent 10 year old girls when I have zero parenting experience. Books? resources? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3o9s0d", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fitness trackers and actual calorie consumption", "post": "Like me, I think the majority of people seeking to lose weight have a larger issue with overeating than not moving enough.  It's the same old thing we always state and restate - it's easier to just not eat the 300 cals of cookies than jog for half an hour.\n\nSo why are so many people thinking a fitness tracker is going to help them lose weight?  Eating 2500 a day, and being keenly aware that you're burning 2500 a day is not going to change anything.\n\nI tried it myself, and it didn't help *for me* - not without eating less - which I can do without a fitness tracker.\n\nSo here's the issue, and my question... Is there a fitness tracker that will alert and remind me on my wrist how many calories I have left to eat in the day? \n\nThis information being always readily available with a tap or a swipe would highly drop the barrier to checking MFP (which I know is already low, but considering I'm struggling with this...).\n\nSo far, it seems fitness trackers simply only track an upward marching \"calories burned so far\".  Which is not THAT helpful for weight loss when diet is far more influential to the process.\n\nI'm not an app developer, but it seems trivial to me to just make it an option/screen data point available on the tracker that just pulls from the app or MyFitnessPal.  It's ONE number, and everything else is already synced anyway.", "summary": "fitness trackers only count calories up, they don't tell you how much left you have to eat so you can make better eating decisions on the fly. I want to be able to check my calories left like I check the time."}
{"id": "t3_2gf6wm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying on condoms", "post": "After dealing with the embarrassment of buying condoms, naturally, I tried one on to see if it was the right size. So I was sitting on my bed, door closed, ears open in case my mom were to come in. Lucky for me they were a perfect fit. \n   Just then I hear footsteps coming through the hall, I'm prepared for this. Fast as lightning; got the condom off, into it's wrapper, in the nearby bin, tucked and zipped my manhood back in, put the test condom on the bottom of the trash out of sight, straight up ninja. They were just passing by my room to go downstairs but it doesn't hurt to be careful. I put one in a side pocket of my wallet and carried on with my day.\n  Later that day, my best friend, his girlfriend, and a particularly attractive French foreign exchange student that was staying at her house, had gone go-karting and then to a nearby restaurant to eat. After a little while I needed to use the bathroom, I get up and go. I step into a stall, unzip and begin to answer the call of nature. To my dismay, I had forgotten to wipe the lubricant residue after trying on the condom. So my stream split into four; of which, none of them went forward. It hit my shoe, my hand, my pants, and the floor. Immediate panic pinch. I grab nearby tp and wipe myself and my surroundings, and assess the damage, nothing major thankfully. I figure she won't notice my shoes but I had to do something about the spot on my pants. There is a hand dryer and towel dispenser combo on the wall, so I used both at the same time.\n  So I'm leaning there, crotch out forward with one hand funneling air and making sure the blow dryer stayed on and the other holding a paper towel to help dry. Just my fucking luck, another dude walks in, sees me, pauses and continues into the stalls. I just want this day to end. I figure the spot is relatively gone, I was up and leave. Nobody noticed a thing, well apart from that one guy.\n  Happy birthday to me.", "summary": "I tried on condoms and didn't wipe off afterwards, ended up pissing on myself. Which lead to an awkward meeting in the bathroom."}
{"id": "t3_22po4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend of Roommate [25 M] with his girlfriend [25F] of 8 years and roommate is cheating", "post": "Alright so my roommate and best friend of 7 years who has had a girlfriend for 8 years just started dating another girl....again. He did this in the past with another girl for three years while he was with his actual girlfriend. He would tell me things like \"Oh Girlfriend A and I broke up again so I am hanging out with Girlfriend B\" and dismiss or ignore any talk of possible infidelity he may be having. Finally after doing enough talking with him he stopped hanging out with Girlfriend B and has been really awesome towards his actual girlfriend. Now four years later he starts hanging out with a new girl and has been bringing her over. She has been spending nights and obvious noises have been coming from the room(we share a wall). I tried talking to him about it but now he is waiting until I go to sleep to bring her over so that I don't find out. My question is should I tell his girlfriend about this even though he is my best friend and roommate. I feel destroying his actual relationship may do more harm than good. Any input?", "summary": "Should I tell my best friend's girlfriend about him cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_20gdym", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Calling all off-kilter redditors. I need some help coming up with creepy ideas for my 'secret friend' at my college dorm (details inside).", "post": "-EDIT- if this is the wrong place for this let me know. Cheers.\n\nFirst post to reddit ever (and under a throwaway no less), correct me if I've stuffed up but here's the skinny:\n\nOkay so at my college dorm we have this thing 'Secret Friend week'. \nThe cute idea is that every person who signs up is given a random person to do nice things for, for the week to promote mixing and friendship etc. At the end of the event the friends are revealed.\n\nHowever, this lovely event has a torrid history - it used to be called 'Stalker week' - and so everyone KNOWS the things people do each other verge on creepy. I'm a postgrad in a generally mixed undergrad dorm (Australia is weird) and want to show these kids fresh out of high school who think that they're hardcore a thing or two. I'm hoping to do this by inflicting just enough trauma but not too much trauma.\n\nWhat I need from you all is some creepy ideas that are practical. I have today and tomorrow to do prepare ideas before the 7-day event. I want more 'deeply unsettling' rather than 'outright jump scare' e.g. verging on, ''ScarySecretFriend' you might be a psycho-, if not sociopath...''\n\nSome ideas include:\n\nPhotos of them delivered to their door with the eyes scratched out or some variant (although that seems outright threatening).\nSome sort of creepy scrap book\nProgressively more mutilated teddy bears each day set to some sort of creepy kids poem \nSpooky hand prints on the outside of their window\nA hidden speaker set to whisper every so often throughout the night\nOrigami cranes each with a part of a note that becomes horrifying when put together\n\nGive me specifics and methods that maximize insidiousness - so open to ideas.\n\nCheers mates.\n\n>", "summary": "Give me creepy ideas to inflict on an undergrad for Secret Friend (Stalker) week at my dorm."}
{"id": "t3_2y8ic7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35/F] almost 9 year marriage to my husband [36/M] just ended. Unsure of my next step.", "post": "My husband works very long hours. Sometimes he works up to 15 hours a day and that can go on right through to 2/3am, so I don't always see him. I go to bed pretty early as we have 3 children. (7, 5 and 6 months) I maybe see him for a hour or two in the mornings and whenever he gets days off he spends it with myself and our children. We love each other, and haven't ever had a bad rocky moment in our marriage. We decided to end it however as we never see each other much. I'm extremely heart broken and whenever I see him on his days off I excuse myself as if I'm going to check on something or use the bathroom and I cry. I love and miss him so much and don't want our children growing up with divorced parents. (I did and can't handle them going though that). I'm sad all the time, I try so hard to put on a smile for our kids but I don't think I can do it much longer. It's been around 2 months since we spilt. His side of the family aren't aware yet as they all live in Australia and we are in Chicago. All my family, except my brother are dead and he lives in New York, so I haven't told him either. I'm thinking my next moe should be talking to someone, perhaps a therapist. Or should I tell my husband I want to be with him?", "summary": "Marriage ended 2 months ago and I can't handle not being with my husband."}
{"id": "t3_3m459n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving to Italy from Austria", "post": "I am on vacation with my family. Today we drove from Austria > Lichtenstein > Italy. Most parts were on the autobahn which has a lot of tunnels through the mountains. We're following the gps and it tells us to go through a construction zone. It looks pretty blocked off so we ask one of the construction workers. No English, just pointing. \n\nWe say fuck it and start driving down this tunnel. We realize after 1km or so that we definitely should not be in here. No other civilian cars, barely any lights are on, and there are big construction vehicles everywhere. The sides of the road are cut out for pipes to be put in, so there's no chance to turn around. \n\nWe make it about 10 km through this tunnel and we're thinking holy crap does this thing have an end?  When a construction worker flags us down. He asks us how we got in here and we told him another worker pointed us this way. He shrugged and said it's closed but 2km farther is the exit.", "summary": "drove 12km through shut down tunnel in country with different language. And PROOF!"}
{"id": "t3_3ic6i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] may have fallen in love with another woman other than my wife [27F]", "post": "Thanks for reading this. I'll try to make this concise so as not to have a huge wall of text.\n\nMy wife and I have been married for 4 years, together 11. We are the only people one another has ever dated. No kids. No mortgage. \n\nThe last couple years, things have been very up and down. Nothing extremely drastic. No fighting or anything like that. Just indifference. We've become roommates. Dead bedroom. I can't remember the last time we've had a long, engaging discussion where both of us are excited about the topic and equally contributing. I don't even know what we would talk about at this point to make that happen. I've talked to her a few times about my feelings and while things will get better for a short time, our routines will fall back to the norm. \n\nIn the meantime, I may have fallen for a friend of mine. I know that is a mistake on my part. Everything is emotional; nothing has ever happened physically. This girl has quite literally become my very best friend. I'm in very deep with her. \n\nI think what is mainly keeping me in this marriage is my reluctance to hurt my wife outweighs my desire to be with anyone else. My wife says she's still all completely in and no part of her wants out. I do think my leaving would crush her. \n\nBut I am so unhappy and hurting. I've never had anxiety like this before. I want to be happy but I can't stand the thought of hurting her so bad. A very large part of me wants, has checked out actually, but it still kills me to think of hurting her. At the same time, I know it's also not fair to her to stay in half committed. \n\nWe signed a lease to rent a house that we take possession of next week. So all this pressure and anxiety is building within me as I see the next year of my life decided for me.\n\nI guess I'm just asking if anyone else here has been in this situation? What did you do? What advice can anyone offer?", "summary": "A large part of me wants out of my marriage and to possibly be with a friend of mine but I can't bear the thought of hurting my wife."}
{"id": "t3_4dy0bl", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Does cuddling and openness for touching always mean there is a form of interest?", "post": "I(m) have a best (f)riend who I initially started hanging out from liking her, never really happened since she said she was out of my league and I was incapable of being selfish from her perspective, we ended up becoming friends to close friends and finally to best friends. \n\nFast forward 4 years and we've been hanging out at her place and mine far more frequently gaming, watching stuff together, occasionally drinking, going out to dinner together both cooking and dining out, and during all of that it's been in a very cuddly manner such as her leaning into me, head on lap, all that stuff basically. I was curious on how comfortable she would be in that regard so I started giving her back massages, head rubs, leg massages and well, pretty much hands everywhere except breasts and crotch essentially, only reason being able to do that being she never pulled away and I always asked if she was comfortable with what I was doing and she said yes because she trusts me and that it felt good.\n\nI realize at this point it sounds like an obvious \"yes she is interested in\" or from what I've recently read on this sub \"she is using you for the attention\" but either or, I am just looking for any female input on the situations that her and I find ourselves in when we hang out. Would you cuddle with someone you have no interest in other than best friends, if their hands trace along you wouldn't you pull away and say something if you didn't like them or wanted that kind of attention from them? Hell even more recently her and I crossed a line and well, I got her off and we cuddled after that and stuff isn't awkward between us afterwards. I do plan on asking her directly what we have between us anyways  but I'd still like to hear other perspectives just for my own minds clarity. Also I am completely fine with us staying as friends if there's no interest but if she gets into a good relationship with someone else well, I am going to have to distance myself to prevent this much closeness for obvious reasons.", "summary": "Cuddling/touchy feely okay friendship with my best friend of 4 years, she knows I like her far more than a friend and after knowing her I can tell she isn't the attention seeker type but well I've been shot down in the past. Looking for female input?"}
{"id": "t3_j7hmj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think that I am literally at my wit's end. This may a little unorthodox...", "post": "Here it goes: I moved away from my hometown, then I hit some shit and had to move back. When I moved back, I moved in with my two best friends, that happened to be dating. They had been dating since high school and been rocky (to say the least) for at least a year and a half. She went through a bout of depression, which I think caused animosity on both sides. They broke up recently, and she won't talk to him based on her therapist's advice.I still hang out with both of them, separately. He was doing really well thinking that him and I both had not heard from her in weeks. Her and I are pretty close, platonically, and we hang out and bullshit. I have basically been the Gaza Strip for almost two years, and now that comunnication has broken down between them, I am left playing whoever was the guy who first ran the marathon, and cat custody lawyer. What I would like to know is: Am I better off with no friends? Is it bad that I feel like I am? Is there anyway I can finesse this situation in a way that this can be solved without me?", "summary": "HALP!"}
{"id": "t3_34o1tt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [20F] recently been diagnosed with Aspergers, my dad [43M] keeps calling me stupid.", "post": "On Thursday, I was diagnosed with Aspergers. My family and friends always thought I was just anti-social and slow. \n\nWell, apparently I'm not. I'm just on the spectrum. I'm not having a hard time accepting it, because on some level I've always known. \n\nWhen I told my family, my dad asked what it meant - so I explained it to the best of my abilities. \n\nHe then said to me: Oh, so you're half retarded. \n\nI just laughed it off initially, but it actually hurt my feelings a lot. \n\nI have no idea what to do from here. I live with them so NC isn't really possible.", "summary": "I was diagnosed with Aspergers, dad called me stupid. Is something I'm always going to have to deal with?"}
{"id": "t3_wy6n0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I feel like college is a waste of time. Paying bucketloads of money to take four courses a semester and live in a culture of partying just doesn't seem worth it to me. Am I wrong, and would it be a mistake to not go to college?", "post": "Here's the situation: I went to a private school in New York City where all are encouraged to apply to excellent colleges and universities. I applied to college and got into a top state university (which was my choice over a smaller liberal arts school, especially as I was interested in engineer/computer science). I then decided to take a year off to volunteer in public schools in a different city and deferred the school where I got accepted.\n\nI've spent this summer working in an environment completely unlike I was used to, in a small town in the midwest. (I'm working at a summer camp on a Native American reservation, one of the poorest areas of the U.S.) I realized that college wasn't the absolute necessary next step in my life, that I could instead move to a different place or city and get a job with what I'm interested (service, education, working with children), and jump straight to living in the real world. \n\nTo me, the idea of paying bucketloads of money for an education that is tangential to what I might actually be doing, to live in a place where there's a big party culture with a lot of spoiled kids, just doesn't appeal to me. A lot of people talk about \"life experience,\" but I don't see how getting a job doing something relevant to my interests in the real world isn't life experience. And in terms of income, I understand that a college degree increases your income potential but honestly, making a lot of money never really interested me. I'd much rather make a modest living and get by.\n\nSo my question is: over the next year I have the choice of not going to college, to moving on to something else that interests me. Would I be making a huge mistake? Is college something that is absolutely necessary to survive in this world? I'm really lost, and given that there are a lot of college and post-college age people here, I would much appreciate your input.", "summary": "Taking a year off after high school to volunteer instead of going to college, and I've started to feel like college is a waste of time. Am I making a mistake if I don't go to college?"}
{"id": "t3_mjxjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a pregnant girl?", "post": "I just need some advice with something I've been struggling with.\n\nI recently met someone amazing, and we hit it off really well. Everything has been going wonderful ( we're not technically dating ) and have been taking the process slow, and trying to really get to know each other before making any sort of commitment.\n\nLong story short, prior to us even meeting, she had a one night stand, which I obviously don't hold against her at all, it happens. Turns out though, she's pregnant, and I just don't know exactly how to feel about it. What's everyones opinion on  potentially dating somebody in this situation and things I should ask/make clear before deciding to pursue anything further? I feel really embarrassed about asking this, it's just I really do like her regardless, but I'm also rational. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Pregnant girl is interested in me"}
{"id": "t3_1vi2m0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ready, willing and able, but concerned about starting a relationship? [m??] [f25]", "post": "I am the f. So I stepped out of the dating scene for a while to work out some issues. Destroyed one potentially amazing relationship in the meantime, but had I not done so I would have destroyed it with my issues anyway, so catch22 really. I'd rather take my time and do something right than rush in and do it wrong.\n\nThat said, now I'm ready for a relationship but I know, because of the time I've taken away from dating and the last relationship I had (which was somewhat psychologically traumatic) it's going to be awkward and uncomfortable to broach certain barriers, like touching and kissing and all that comes after that, even just expressing my interest is not going to be fluid or easy or particularly fun for the other person.\n\nIt's not that it will always be this way - I'm huge on cuddles and sex and affection of all kinds, these are a few of my favourite things - it's just that these first times are going to not be awesome, no matter what, and I can't guarantee how long it will take until I do ease into the situation.\n\nI feel that I would be inflicting myself on someone who deserves fun and flirting and romance, not a challenge and awkwardness. But unfortunately that's what I have to offer.\n\nAny advice on finding this miraculously patient person? Please don't say therapy - I am in therapy, and they are helping me deal with my past and anxiety, but I'm not going to learn how to touch and kiss and snuggle with them. At some point that's going to have to happen with some poor hapless guy.", "summary": "First relationship after traumatic events - how to broach/work through these to get to the other side. Yes, I am implying I'm a chicken."}
{"id": "t3_3637dw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Changing careers. My school is unique, and most traditional school loans are unavailable. Seeking creative ways to pay $15k in tuition.", "post": "I'm making a career change, and am enrolling in a coding \"bootcamp.\" These types of schools are a newer concept, and finding loans for tuition and living expenses can be difficult. Most coding bootcamps cost around **$10k US** and most do not offer payment plans., tuition is due upfront. *r/personalfinance, can you help me brainstorm ways to pay my tuition and family's living expenses for 4 months?*\n\n* **What are coding bootcamps?**\nBootcamps train participants how to code in various computer languages in a short amount of time. Many bootcamps basically guaranteed that you will be hired out of school as a Jr. Developer, many bootcamps will refund your money if you're not hired. Schools that don't offer refunds will usually let you take the bootcamp again, for free. The bootcamp I'm considering has 97% of their students hired immediately upon completion, 100% within 6 months. The average starting wage for a Jr. Developer in my midwestern location is around 50-70k. I will not be able to work during my school, as because the school requires 10hrs of class time, and 4hrs of homework each day, 6 days a week.\n \n* **My Background:**\nI'm a married 30-something with three small children. We're a single-income family and have no debt (except one small school loan w/ $75/mo payments), and 12k in retirement funds (not available for tuition). I make approx 25k/yr, so you can see why I'm looking for a career change. We're renting a house, have very controlled spending habits, and low monthly bills, totaling approx $1300/mo including rent.", "summary": "I'm enrolling in a coding bootcamp that will end in a good  job, but will costs about $15k w/ living expenses. I don't know how to pay for school, and am seeking your advice. "}
{"id": "t3_30vmx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] girlfriend [34F] of 3 years continues to send our rent off early, which puts financial strain on me.", "post": "My S/O and I have been together for 3 years as of this month. We have lived together for two. Our relationship has had it's ups and downs, but 99.9% everything works, we communicate, we talk through things, and we come together on most things, but she has this habit.\n\nWe work at the same company, so we both get paid the same days bi-monthly. I group my bills in such a fashion that it's easy for me to maintain. For instance, I generally pay my rent, cell phone, and insurance on the first , and then our water and electricity around the 15th. Our paychecks tend to fall in line with those dates, as do our bills. The rest of our bills are all due between the 20th and the 24th.\n\nAs of right now, my S/O mails the rent check to our landlord, and then I give her my half in cash. It's easier than sending two checks, and we are vehemently against shared accounts for personal reasons. Lately she has been sending the rent check several days before it's due, without first discussing with me, and then asking for my half of the rent. This month she mailed the rent check off on the 21st, and I had to dip into my savings. I have talked to her about this repeatedly, and she has said every time, that she is going to stop sending early, and pay it on the day it's due. I get that paying bills early is great, and causes ease of mind, but it's not how I enjoy doing things, it makes life difficult and stressful, and I feel strained. I have asked to compromise and maybe pay bills early every other month, but that has gone no where. \n\nI am lost and have no idea what to do in this situation. It's driving a wedge between us, because I get frustrated, and then she becomes frustrated at me for being frustrated. Halp!", "summary": "S/O keeps paying bills early, makes life stressful."}
{"id": "t3_zk6ti", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Vets of reddit, our cat is sick and refuses to drink food or water. We live nearly three hours away from the vet and it's difficult for us to make the trip. Any suggestions before we head up there?", "post": "I don't know who else to ask, so I figured this would be the next best place. As far as background goes, Katniss is male and he has been very healthy throughout the duration of his life. He is almost a year old now, and he is an indoor cat along with his brother Mo-Mo. Very recently, he began to throw up and he had severe diarrhea. Now he's lost a great deal of weight and refuses to eat or drink. He has recieved all of his shots and vaccines, so we don't know what it could be. Since we live so far away, the vet generally gives us bulk of whatever medicine we are giving our animals, and we keep whatevers left. So we called the vet and they said that penicillin might help. So far, it hasn't, although we are using a syrange to give him water, and he has kept it down all day today. \n\nNow that you know the background, we just need your input. We are obviously worried, but we don't want to overreact and make a trip if it's unnessecarry. If he doesnt show improvement today, then I am going to make the trip tomorrow, but first I thought I would check here.", "summary": "my cat is sick and I need a vets opinion."}
{"id": "t3_3s2itw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [24M] 2.5 yrs, I get way too competitive.", "post": "I would genuinely like some advice, because I feel like it's messing with my relationship and I love my boyfriend way too much to just let that happen. \n\nMy bf and I like to play games (like card games) together. I get way too competitive, to the point where I feel like I'm incredibly unpleasant to play with. I'm fortunate in that he finds my temper tantrums funny for the most part, but I feel genuine rage when I'm losing and dealing with it is not my strong point- I will quit, I will stop speaking to him, I once kicked him in the shin (never again, I still feel terrible about it). This has been an issue since I was a small child, and I've dealt with it for most of my life by avoiding situations in which I might become competitive.\n\nNow I'm an adult, and frankly I actually like playing games. I just can't seem to not get crazy competitive with my bf! It doesn't seem to be as much of a problem with other people, and I'm much better at gracefully accepting a loss in a group. It's also recently reared it's ugly head because we've both started a new activity together and I've already nearly quit because he's slightly better than me. It's ridiculous, it's emotionally taxing, and I want to not turn into an awful person every time I do something with my bf.\n\nIf anyone has any tips, I would be grateful. I am considering doing therapy at some point, but I'm currently not in a position to do that as I'm travelling.", "summary": "I get unpleasantly competitive but actually like doing competitive things and would like some strategies to deal with this issue."}
{"id": "t3_1srtt8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Could my girlfriend be pregnant?", "post": "Ok so my girlfriend and I were dry-humping with our clothes fully on (jeans, panties, briefs, shirts) and I started to feel like I was going to come soon.  So I pulled away as soon as I could, and I believe it was before I came, I'm 99.9% sure.  I'm actually fairly sure that when I pulled away I held it in as long as I could (a couple of seconds) before I actually came.  However, this may not be the case unfortunately, but it is very likely.  After, I went and cleaned up and there was no more contact down there for the rest of the night.\n\nThree weeks later, she still has not had her period.  She was supposed to have it the week of the occurance stated above.  I had not told her that I came that night, but she was getting worried because of the late period.  I have read that this could be due to the fact that we're in a new relationship, and our hormones are raging a lot of the time.  Anyways, when she asked and I told her that I came that night we both began to get really scared and worried.  The day after, today, she felt nauseated in the morning.  This especially worries me because this is a well-known sign of pregnancy.  But in addition, she suffers from various mental disorders, so could the possible morning sickness just be in her head? I've heard that that can happen.  She has also told me that she has started to have a few of her normal signs of PMS, but also some outliers, like the nausea.  We spent the entire day today scared to death that she's pregnant; we're only 16, almost 17, and had agreed that it would be a long time if ever for us to have sex before marriage, this wasn't supposed to happen.  I'm extremely worried and scared and terrified that she's pregnant.", "summary": "my girlfriend and I dry-humped with clothes on, I pulled away before I came.  Three weeks and still no period, PMS/pregnancy symptoms"}
{"id": "t3_2t1nds", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being desperate.", "post": "So me and my family went out for a nice quiet meal. It's a rare occasion all of us are actually present at meals so it was a nice change, so I thought. My step-dad is a bit of a joker. The kind of joker who sometimes likes to go too far and make you feel awkward. \n  \nSo we were ordering our drinks and a cute waitress comes along. My step-dad tries to hint that I'm single, she's cute and I should put 2+2 together and make a move. I'm socially inept and awkward on most days but chatting to a girl in front of all my family? No chance. So my step-dad then comes into play and asks if she's single and if she thinks I'm attractive. She's blushing and smiles off actually answering the question. I then come out with, \"I'm not *that* desperate\". In my head I meant that I'm not desperate enough for my step-dad to hook me up, but it came out all wrong. Instead my family and the poor waitress thought I meant that I'm not desperate enough to chat her up. The girl looked mortified and depressed and I didn't even realize what I said until she had walked away and my family told me. For the rest of the meal this girl had to serve us and I felt completely ashamed and embarrassed. I wanted to apologize and tell her that's not what I meant but of course I'm still socially inept.", "summary": "Told a cute girl I'm not that desperate when trying to chat her up. Not what I meant at all."}
{"id": "t3_3b7skz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my bf [30 M] of 10 months, I keep obsessively internet-stalking his ex and I think I have a problem/", "post": "I'm sure we've all been curious and googled a person's ex before... but I'm starting to think that I have a more-than-average problem with it.\n\nIt's not that I'm worried that my bf will get back together with his ex.  They don't have contact and it clearly didn't work.  I honestly don't even know how much of a future my relationship with my bf has. Yet I've started checking his ex's instagram, twitter, fb, whatever pretty much daily.  It's gotten to a point where I have a secret album in my phone where I store new pics of her that she posts.  When she posts a new one I get excited.  I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me!?!??!\n\nI think I'm insecure about not being as attractive, though I think I'm fairly close.  But more than that I'm afraid she's cooler, or more stylish or something.  She's kind of more hip than my current bf, and I wonder if knowing he had a hot girlfriend affected my desire to date him.  Also, they had a bad breakup and while I don't fear that they'll get back together, I think that their level of passion was \"love of my life\" status  (Sidebar: Is it normal to be with someone for 7 months and not be sure you're in love with them?)\n\nI've looked at ex-of-bf's photos in the past but have never been obsessed to this level before.  Ugh.  What's going onnnn! Am I a monster?", "summary": "I internet stalk my boyfriend's ex in a way that I'm starting to fear is abnormal.  Does anybody else do this? And why am I doing it? How do I stop!?"}
{"id": "t3_16iogj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] had relatively small bad experiences in the past, and now can't get over feelings of insecurity in a new relationship with [18M].", "post": "I realize this is going to sound whiny, but if nothing else, I would like reassurance that my behavior is normal. \n\nIn September 2012, my boyfriend of 10 months dumped me. I had gotten depressed, gained ten pounds, become bulimic, retreated into isolation, and took him for granted. He stopped being in love with me (or infatuation, whichever) and broke up with me, a decision I understand and for which I accept complete responsibility. \n\nNow, a couple months later, I fought to regain mental health. I crawled out of depression, worked on bettering my relationship with food and my body, lost weight, restored my grades, etc. Just at the end of December I got into another relationship, hoping that I was ready for it. And now I'm realizing I might not be. \n\nAny complaints I have seem stupid. The first date (before we were 'dating') he rejected physical contact with me. He's never complimented me (and oh god how narcissistic this sounds) although in my previous relationship it was a very regular thing for us to show verbal affection for each other. I never initiate holding hands or cuddling and I've found myself shying away from when he tries to kiss me, because I feel like I'm just going to be rejected again.\n\nI would really appreciate advice on how I'm supposed to get over this insecurity and fear of rejection, if anyone can help me. Thank you so much.", "summary": "I'm a legal adult and I'm behaving like a 12-year-old around my new boyfriend due to insecurity issues. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4cwuby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24F) with newish semiserious BF (26M) is it bad to go on a copy cat date?", "post": "BACKGROUND\n\nOkay, so I was in a relationship for 7 years (15-22) with someone. While we dated I put in all the effort, arranged fun dates and tried really hard to be the best gf I could be. He put in no effort and arranged no fun dates. I dated around with a few guys between 22-24, nothing longer than a few dates each. Now I'm with someone who I'm pretty serious about, dating 8 months now.\n\n In my first relationship I made it a pretty annual thing that we would go on an adventure tour. The only years we skipped were years I asked him to book the tour and he forgot until it was too late and they were sold out for the year. (it only runs June-August). This was something I wanted to do since I was 13 but wasn't old enough until 16. \n\nTHE ISSUE/", "summary": "I want to do the adventure date I did with my old bf with my new guy. Is that tacky/bad? Would you be peeved if you found out you went on a copycat date?"}
{"id": "t3_4mz9sn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "What were the little changes you made when starting your journey that got you results in the long run?", "post": "Giving up sugar/carbs? Walking 20 minutes a day? Drinking more water? Finding a more consistent sleep schedule?\n\nI recently moved away from my hometown for the first time in my life (32 years). I was living a lifestyle I never thought I'd fall in to: drinking, smoking, late-night fast food, very sedentary. Now that I've removed myself from that environment, I'm finding I'm craving a healthier lifestyle. I've been trying the keto diet as the friend I'm living with has been doing it for a few months and has had great success. I also don't have a car, so it's either cycling or walking for me if I want to get out of the house. I also quit smoking 5 days ago, cold turkey. That's been the hardest bit, but yesterday I went for a 12+ mile hike and I realized quickly how important it is that I stick with it!\n\nI want to do more to start this journey, but I know myself. I'm a former 4-sport and college athlete, and I get very competitive, especially with myself. I can be very black and white (\"You either go to the gym 7 days a week, or don't go at all.\"), which can lead to me getting burnt out very quickly. I don't want that. I want to show myself that I don't need to be miserable and all-or-nothing in order to achieve this goal. \n\nAnyway, I've seen a few posts where people have shared their successes and they often start with, \"It began by giving up soda\" or \"I started taking the stairs instead of the elevator at work\". I'm just curious to know what got you started and what kept you going without wearing you out. \n\nI'm open to ANY feedback. Thanks!", "summary": "Just moved away from home for the first time to start a new life. Looking for some insight on how to get started and not lose the motivation/discipline."}
{"id": "t3_30758v", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "A question for parents of picky eaters.", "post": "Do you sneak in healthy stuff? I cook rice in meat stock and recently started adding protein powder to every sauce I make since my herbivores will only eat meat if it has been shredded, reformed and breaded in another country.  I puree veggies into red sauces and sometimes kidney chick or black beans if I think I can get away with it.    Veggies? No way. \"That's tistusting\" as my 3 year old says.\n\nWhat do you do?  \n\nYes, I've tried offering options in many ways, with dips, raw, cooked, spiced, with ketchup, Bento style, and I still keep trying with no luck so far.\n\n*edit", "summary": "what do you sneakily add to the food they like to make it more wholesome? What substitutions do you make that go unnoticed."}
{"id": "t3_2ul8o6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex [21 F] 4 years, dated in grade 10 for two years broke up, dated again 2nd year uni for an other two years.", "post": "hey everyone, I am in a situation were my ex and I want to get back together, but want to take things slow and work on our issues before getting back together. we both know that there is a chance of it not working out. \n\nwe broke up twice once by her and once by myself, so you would say we're even lol. I broke up with because we started to only have conversations to please each other. she broke up with me because i was a controlling freak back in highschool. \n\nI want to make things work & so does she. we've grown a lot and are realizing what it takes to be a couple. I'm hoping for some friendly advice on how to work on communication and keeping our relationship lasting. \n\nI don't want to get back with her and then break up again in two years. I want to learn how to make a relationship last. I've grown up with parents that don't get along and have a destruction relationship.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3s3hy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] want to resolve my grudge with my ex [19M] and I'm not sure how to go about it.", "post": "We broke up around this time last year.  It didn't feel real to me (as it was all over text message) and so I went a little crazy trying to convince him we didn't \"have\" to break up just because we were starting college.  Once he got the message across, I was volatile and angry that he had ended a 3.5-year-long relationship via text message, and so I continuously tried to make him feel guilty.  I know that was immature and shitty, I've had some time to reflect on it, and here I am now.  \n\nHe doesn't seem to have any negative thoughts or opinions about me.  I've communicated with him very minimally (only one time, because his friends like to prank call me every once in a while.  He doesn't like it, and he didn't give them my phone number).  He started dating someone a few months after we broke up, and I'm pretty sure they're still together, which makes me concerned that it might be seen as inappropriate.  \n\nI'm kind of hoping to become friends with him.  We had a really great relationship for a pretty big chunk of my life, and it only ended because we go to college on opposite sides of the US.  I feel like resolving this one thing that's been weighing down my conscience would make me generally happier and less stressed.", "summary": "How do I make sure this doesn't seem inappropriate?  Is this a horrible idea?"}
{"id": "t3_25t8di", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm F24 dating M26. I don't want to go on vacation with him...alone", "post": "I'm F24 dating M26 for 6 months. He really wants to travel and talks about it quite often. He makes triple what I make, I'm mostly living paycheck to paycheck. I COULD save up for some trips (like $300 dollar ones) but honestly I've never been a traveling type of person. I rather spend my money elsewhere.\n\nBut the thing is, if more people were going on these trips, I'd be into saving up for them. Like, he can invite a few of his friends along and that sounds like a way better time than just us two.\n\nMy bf's great. We fight sometimes but we've seem to have gotten over those fights. Things have been peachy lately.\n\nI don't want to hold him back on these trips by not willing to go but at the same time I don't want to spend such a large percentage of my income on something I'm not even looking forward to.\n\nAnother thing is his friends are all really busy so the chances of any of them being able to take vacation time are slim.\n\nYes, I'd be grumpy if he only went with his friends because I only get to see him 3 times a month (he lives an hour away and works a lot). Cutting down our time by 33% would definitely irk me.", "summary": "I want to make my boyfriend happy by going on trips with him but I don't actually think traveling is worth its dollar amount."}
{"id": "t3_3cnf0x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at naked men", "post": "So this just happened a little while ago and it got kinda weird really fast. \nIt started out like a normal day. I got back from work and I got onto reddit to browse and catch up on the daily mess that is reddit. So Im browsing and I come across [this] (NSFW Link)\nIt looked intriguing because I didn't know what it was. Plus Im trying to get back into my routine of working out so I thought it might provide some helpful tips.\nSo I opened in a new tab (yes Im one of those people..) to save for later and to read up after I finished looking through the front page.\nNow at this point I should mention that I have 3 other male roommates living with me, but when I got home, none of them were home. 2 had some evening classes they went to, and one worked nights and was out at work.\nBy the time I was almost done perusing the front page, I was really tired. So I naturally took my laptop to my room and layed in bed. \nThis is where I fucked up. I fell asleep. I normally close my laptop before going to bed but I was so tired I just left it open and went about napping. \nI forgot all about the tab full of naked men on my laptop. I closed the reddit tab before I fell asleep. My other 2 roommates got home and looked into my room to see me asleep. They also saw a bunch of naked dudes on my laptop. Probably think Im gay and looking up naked dudes.", "summary": "Inadvertently left a bunch of naked dudes up on my laptop, roommates are probably questioning my sexuality"}
{"id": "t3_15e5ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22f] can't find a job in the area and am really unhappy here, but my boyfriend [25m] won't let me consider moving.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and have been out of college since May. I really want to start my career, and we live in a very densely populated area with few jobs in my field. I know the job market is tough everywhere, but I really want to consider options in other places because there could be amazing opportunities for me somewhere else!\n\nI also HATE the town/area/state that I live in for many reasons. Both my bf and I are living with our parents, and I'm really ready to get out on my own. He seems to have 0 motivation to move out, and even though I've tried to explain this to him a few times, he doesn't understand my ambition and frustration living here. \n\nSo here is the problem: My boyfriend says that it's not \"normal\" for someone in a relationship to consider moving away from a SO. He says I have to break up with him if I APPLY to jobs somewhere else. But I've shared this with him before, and I'm MISERABLE living the way I do and want to have a chance at a good life! But of course this is a problem because I still want to be with him, but also want a career. Can I not have both?", "summary": "I want a job, and the only way to get one MAY be to move. My bf does not want me to consider jobs outside of our state. Is there a way to work this out?"}
{"id": "t3_4ik867", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there anyway to solve this seemingly insurmountable problem with BF [27M] and I [23F]?", "post": "This problem has been plaguing me for months and has caused me to start going to counseling. \n\nBoyfriend of 2.5 years and I moved across the U.S. to his new base (military) 6 months ago. I quit my job to come, and expected to find a new one. Well it's been a few months and I still haven't, and it's become pretty apparent that I won't. And now that it's been so long since I left my previous job, it's close to impossible to get a job anywhere now ( my job requires currency). In the meantime, my savings is rapidly disappearing. \n\nHere's the problem- My boyfriend signed up to date (and has proposed to) a girl that's well-employed, career driven, splits half our living costs, ect. Now that I am none of those I feel it's unfair to him and that I won't be viewed as an equal or respected in our relationship. So by committing fully to the relationship and coming here with him, I feel like I completely damned it. I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "I moved across country with boyfriend, can't find a job, and that jeopardizing the relationship. Is this solveable?"}
{"id": "t3_my7vg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a teenager with crippling anxiety and a spiraling depression that has arisen from a failed relationship (among other things), any tips you can give me to help?", "post": "I guess, to add context, I should probably mention the relationship first. It was around two years ago where I met an amazing girl, it was a tremendous feeling even seeing her in the halls. I was a tremendously introverted person and eventually got her number. Like a fucking idiot, I only texted her, building a friendship purely off of text messages. We eventually ended up going out for exactly a month before she decided to break it off because of all the stuff she was doing (she was going into honor roll, theater, and a million different things), she felt like she couldn't manage a boyfriend among that. \n\nTwo years past with little to no contact with each other besides the random seeing each other in the hallway and such. Throughout those two years, my anxiety built up bigger and bigger as I realized how much I fucked up with my only chance to date and be with the girl of my dreams. This year she is switched into my marketing class and now that anxiety is at critical mass. I managed to work up the courage to talk to her about how I feel and she says its best to probably just build up our friendship more until she figures out her current situation with her boyfriend (he graduating next year). \n\nThroughout these last two years I've developed intense General Anxiety disorder, OCD, and recently a spiraling depression because of (I'm guessing) the way I feel about her and my current surroundings. I feel like the only way to get her to feel something for me, even a little bit, is to get out there and just hang out with her but I have no clue what to do. Sometimes I get so antsy and nervous I jump around like Michael J Fox like I am writing this post. Are there any tips, ANY at all you guys have for me to help deal with this enormous amount of stress and anxiety?", "summary": "A failed relationship with the girl of my dreams as well as my surroundings and personality have contributed to an enormous amount of ocd and anxiety that I feel can only be resolved with making amends with her, something difficult to do since shes seeing someone else. Asking for tips on dealing with anxiety basically."}
{"id": "t3_3te3ud", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling everyone in my classroom a cunt.", "post": "Okay, so just like most TIFU's, this didn't happen today. So it was an ordinary day in my fifth grade class, and my teacher went outside the classroom to deal with some kid who got in trouble in the neighboring classroom. My teacher then sends the little trouble maker in our classroom so she could have a talk with his teacher. Soon after my teacher leaves the classroom, it turns into chaos in there. Everyone was talking, laughing, and screaming while I was desperately trying to complete my work, but it was too loud for me to concentrate. Being fed up with all the kids in the classroom, I yelled out \"EVERYONE IN THE CLASS WHO IS TALKING IS A CUNT!\" (I did not know what \"cunt\" meant at the time, I thought it was a synonym for \"idiot\") Right after I yelled that out, the kid who got in trouble recognized the word and yelled out, \"OOOOOOHHH!! TEACHER! THAT KID SAID A BAD WORD!!.\" I was then sent to the office after my teacher repeatedly asked me questions while I tried to hold back tears. I then got an ODR and had to explain to my mom what happened, and she told my aunt, who then made me look up \"cunt\" on google so I could find out the actual meaning. I swear that I heard Vicky from the The Fairly Odd Parents call Timmy a cunt...", "summary": "Couldn't concentrate in class because everyone was talking, called everyone a cunt after thinking that I heard it on The Fairly Odd Parents."}
{"id": "t3_zl15q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [M18] nearly hooked up with my best friend's ex [F18], now I think I really like her and don't know what to do", "post": "I got drunk the first night of college and, long story short, I nearly hooked up with my best friends ex. He broke things off with after she hooked up with another one of our good friends. He still cares for her a little, and even though I was ridiculously drunk I managed to tell her I wouldn't do anything with her because I value my friendship with her ex too much. Do you have any idea how hard it is to say this as a virgin with a drunk girl lying on your bed with her boobs out telling you to stop being so nice and be selfish for once and do it? Well I managed to contain myself and we just talked through the night. \n\nI met my friend a few days later for lunch and told him about what happened, he understood. Thing is, because I didn't end up doing anything with his ex, we talked the entire time, I was drunk and confessed my depression to her which I've never told anyone about, we found we had a lot of similarities like unhappy families and depression. I'm confused about my feelings now and can't pursue this because I value my friendship with him too much. I didn't tell my friend about the second part either, so I still feel incredibly guilty. \n\nI guess I'm asking for advice on what to do. My friend says he wouldn't be so mad if I hooked up with her later (I'm dorming in the same building as her, things happen), since he knows I've never hooked up with a girl, but he said don't try to actively pursue it. I don't know how he'd react if I ended up dating her.", "summary": "Never hooked up with a girl before, got drunk and almost did with my best friends ex, ended up talking and connecting. Now I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4fwlbb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Target, gender identity and the search for the golden words.", "post": "It is surreal to take a modern, liberal viewpoint and twist how you consider those beliefs to, perhaps futilely, convince a narrow-minded Baby-Boomer that his dichromatic world view is one that isn't going to exist in a few decades. \n\nI made a mistake. I posted an opinion on a Facebook share about Target, rightfully, telling its customers they can use whatever bathroom is the one they are comfortable with. I agreed that not going crazy over this was the right course of action and that states like North Carolina are bound to face an uphill battle in how they mistreat anyone who doesn't fit their narrow ideas of gender identity. \n\nSo on being challenged - both with the idea that my ideas are false for the reason that I said them and that gender is, somehow, god-given - I sought the words to express how I think and make it understandable and non-confrontational to my... let's just call him a fellow commenter. \n\nIt boiled down to \"here's my idea, here's your idea, here's a way that you can stay in your little bubble but still embrace the idea that the people you seem to think so little of are, like yourself, deserving of respect.\"\n\nHopefully, I've saved someone from this fool's verbal wrath.", "summary": "verbally curb-stomped conservative old man with kindness and an extended vocabulary."}
{"id": "t3_m4sqv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "lesson:  \"you're doomed!  DOOOOOMED!  MWAHAHA!\" is not the way to resolve a problem with your wife.", "post": "on my journey between work and finding carhartt beanies and home, I called my wife 2 times detailing my location and actions.\nBUT\n\"well I don't know where you've been!\"\n\nwell fuckin guess.  I've been out makin drug deals and fucking blond girls.  that's why there's 40 minutes unaccounted for, and that's why I've got 4 hats and an early 90s skate deck; it was all an ingenious plot to TRICK you!  MWAHAHAHAHAHA!\nyou're doomed!  DOOOOOOMED!\n\nor maybe I was trying to find the hat I like, and ended up in a conversation with the dude that sold me the hats.\n\nthank you for listening, and actually, this transcript is very accurate; I threw my arms in the air and said,\"i tricked you!  you're doomed!  DOOOOMED!  MWAHAHA!\"\n\nto say the least, it was not received well.", "summary": "you're doomed!  DOOOOOOMED! MWAHAHA!!\"  is not something that will ever be taken well by probably anyone..."}
{"id": "t3_4i0leu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a grateful smart ass.", "post": "This fuck up actually happened about a year ago, but keeps haunting me. I was reminded of my stupidity again because of a staff meeting that happened after work last night.\n\nWhen I first started working at my current job, they didn't have staff meetings ever. Eventually, my boss decided that we needed to get our shit together, so we started having meetings after work once a month or so. Our clients are mostly rich assholes, so my boss is pretty used to kissing everyone's ass, including employees. Since meetings are scheduled after work, my boss figured it would be somewhat necessary to feed us since the meeting was cutting into our after-work time. She would figure out what kind of food everyone wanted, circulate menus, then pickup and purchase dinner for the whole crew (at most, there's only 7 or 8 total employees.) \n\nOn the day I fucked up, she had bought us all delicious Mexican food. I was hungry and stoked for my burrito, so I was very vocal in thanking my boss. The conversation went down like this:\n\nMe: Wow! Thank you so much for feeding us! You're the best!\n\nBoss: Oh you're welcome! It's the least I could do.\n\nMe: (here's where I fuck up) Well actually, the least you could do would be to do nothing. That's literally the least that could be done.\n\nMy boss looked at me with her eyes wide and mouth slightly hanging open like I had completely obliterated her mind. I instantly wanted to punch myself in the face. Foot in mouth to the max.\n\nFast forward to the next staff meeting. Day of, there are no menus circling around. Instead, we received a memo explaining that the meeting would be short. I arrive at meeting and there's no food to be seen. The meeting was not short. 90 mins later, I drove home (almost an hour commute) hangrily, cursing myself and my stupid fucking mouth.\n\nA year later and still no burritos. Once again, I drove home hangrily, wishing that life had an UNDO button that could only undo stupid little fuck-ups like this one.", "summary": "Used to get fed at staff meetings until I told my boss that she didn't really need to be so kind."}
{"id": "t3_4p8cvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] husband [23M] of 2 yrs hurt me emotionally and wants to do couples counselling to fix things but hasn't made steps to make that happen.", "post": "My husband has been repeatedly mean to me when we argue. He borders on being essentially verbally abusive when we argue. Recently he realized what he was doing and how it was making me feel and promised he'd do anything to make things better. A while ago I suggested counselling and recently he said he'd want to do it. The problem is that I think he expects me schedule the session. I know of someone who we could see but I want him to schedule the session and show that he's actually willing to get help.\n\nI don't want to just end this relationship without trying to fix it cause other than this things have been gr eat. I also don't want to take the reins and start fixing it myself cause he was the one that was abusive to me and I need him to show me that he really is willing to get help. Should I tell him I need him to actually call and set up the appointment or just wait and see if he does it? \n\nI don't know if this question sounds stupid. I'd appreciate any help or advice you have.", "summary": "husband was repeatedly verbally abusive to me during arguments, says he will do anything to fix it, but has not yet scheduled couples counselling even though he said he would."}
{"id": "t3_2zpzig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Employee/Co-Worker [26 F] ~6 Months. I can't stand her.", "post": "I help manage a non-profit childcare site for k-5. My position title is \"Assistant Director\" and my relevant responsibilities to this post are organizing staff disposition and jobs.\n\nI have an employee who is very serious and emotionally invested in everything. All. The. Time. While I respect her work ethic and ambition in an abstract sense she has made this job I love feel arduous and frustrating.\n\nAlmost every time she opens her mouth she says shit I completely disagree with in regards to both how things should be done and why they should be done that way.\n\nThis has been a bit of a power struggle. She has contacted the regional coordinator who has responded positively to some of her critiques while also telling her that the site is ours (Site director's and mine) to run as we see fit. In reflection though I wish the regional coordinator had told her to come talk to us in the first place because we never had a real opportunity to hash out our differences in opinion.\n\nI've never been a fan of strict schedules or exacting day plans. I feel like being flexible and going with the flow is an integral part of success in what we do. This person continues to grate on my nerves by complaining about how things are and undermining my/our authority with other staff members. I'm unsure how to deal with it and/or end it.", "summary": "This person makes me furious on a regular basis with her rude comments and unwillingness to have a reasonable discussion about our disagreements. How do I put my foot down on an employee who's opinions and comportment drastically conflict with mine."}
{"id": "t3_3mk24s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents (50sF/60sM) won't allow my fianc\u00e9 (28M) and myself (25F) to share a bed when we visit", "post": "So, to start I want to explain the issue of us not being allowed to share a bed isn't the biggest deal to me as we only visit for a day or two every few months and actually lived near enough for awhile this is the first time we've dealt with it in 2 years. My actual issue is that it feels sort of insulting in a way? As if we'd be so immature that we'd have sex in their home or our 5 year relationship and the fact that we share a home is so meaningless that sharing a bed is obscene? My mother (who lived with her previous bf before she met my dad and also lived with him before marriage as well) explained it once 4 years ago as \"my house, my rules and sharing a bed before marriage is a sin and I won't allow it under my roof\". I don't know if my dad actually cares as he had a kid when he met my mom and isn't religious. \n\nI'm basically just wondering if there is a tactful way to bring it up for discussion with them? Like I said, it's not sharing a bed that is important to me as much as it is not being allowed that bothers me. And yes, I know once we're married we'll be allowed to (I hope!) but... It just feels unnecessarily controlling as it currently stands.", "summary": "Parents won't let me and my fianc\u00e9 of 5 years share a bed when visiting, is their a tactful way to discuss this with them?"}
{"id": "t3_53xh3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] fell in love with a friend [21 F] who is in a long term relationship, and could use some advice on what to do moving forward.", "post": "We were friends for 2+ years with undeniable chemistry, even admitting we had feelings for each other at one point, but she was dating another guy the entire time. I eventually realized I was deeply in love with her, and became increasingly depressed by the whole situation. It became clear that I had to make a change, so I wrote her a letter explaining how much she means to me (short of saying 'I love you'), what I was experiencing because of my feelings for her, and that I needed time apart from her (out of respect for both my own wellbeing and her relationship with her bf). \n\nAs you can imagine, this decision is extremely conflicting for me. The last thing I wanted to do is cut somebody out of my life that I care about so much, but the reality is that the negatives began to outweigh the positives of my relationship with her. \n\nThis all occurred 5ish months ago, and in that time I have tried my best to heal emotionally and move on. Even though lots of progress has been made I am still undeniably in love with her, and that conflicting feeling about how I dealt with the situation still lingers. Part of me thinks that I never really got any closure, and that telling her I love her - although her response will more than likely be what I don't want to hear - and asking if she loves me will help me find that closure. The other part of me wants to remain on my current track.\n\nWhat do you think reddit? What should my next move be? Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThis story is understandably very long and complex, so many details had to be left out as I wanted to keep it concise. Feel free to ask any questions or if want to know more info about the whole thing", "summary": "Experienced unrequitted love and felt the need to cut her out of my life in order to move on and be happy. Since doing that, 5 months have gone by and although I am doing better, I still love and miss her very much. Not sure what to do moving forward."}
{"id": "t3_4lf2in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am a little worried about the way my former friend's brother [30s?M] is acting toward me, but I might just be paranoid", "post": "So this will probably require some background. I used to have this really good friend. We'll call him Malcolm. He and I had a really bad falling out a few years ago and haven't talked at all since. It was my fault, and he doesn't want to see me again. I've run into him once or twice since and he flat out ignored me.\n\nI used to spend a lot of time at his house, and his brother (who we will call Jack) lived there too. He was often there when I was, and I enjoyed hanging out with the two of them, although I never once spent time just with Jack. He was only my friend because i was friends with Malcolm.  I like Jack a lot, but most people I know don't, including his brother. Some people have described him as aggressive or domineering, and others have called him creepy. But he's never been anything nice to me. I guess the fact that he looks, acts, and sounds almost exactly like Cypher from The Matrix doesn't help. \n\nThis falling out with Malcolm happened nearly two years ago. I haven't spoken with Jack much since. We had a brief chat once when we ran into each other on the street, and texted each other at Christmas. That's about it. But about two weeks ago, I got a surprise call from him, saying he wanted to hang out when I return from vacation, maybe go to his house in the country, he can give me some driving lessons, etc. Normally I would be really eager to go, but a few things are bothering me about it: 1. This would probably be a disrespectful and weird thing to do to Malcolm, right? And 2. Something in the way he was talking was a lite odd. He said something along the lines of \"I can be like your big brother.\"\n\nI told him I would call him back when I get home in a month or so, but I am not so sure. Would this be an affront to Malcolm, and should I be worried about him taking me alone to somewhere no one would actually be able to hear me scream?", "summary": "estranged friend's brother wants to bring me to his house in the woods, want to but am a little paranoid about it"}
{"id": "t3_kkaq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What are your views/feelings about YOUR SO hanging out with THEIR EX", "post": "I have been having some trouble coming to terms with it and find I am still very uncomfortable with it.\n\nA Few Facts:\n\nMy SO(24m) and I (22f) together officially 10months BUT where having sexual encounters for a yr before that. \nIn that time he had relationships (sometimes open) with other woman.\n\nThe longest one (7months) he still see regualy because she is in our social circle. \n\nThere is no denying that it was difficult for me seeing him with this girl, as hes relations with her were right in my face.\n\nHe told us he didnt want a gf, so I just stuck around trying to be friends (very close friends with his friends).\n\nNever thought I would be in a relationship with him. But when we did finally get to give it a try, issues with this girl stuck around (no surprises :P).\n\nHe has had at least 3 'catch ups' with her (the last two without telling me), which he knew I wouldn't like. Last night he sent me a quick text saying he was going to hang with her and is telling me because I said I wanted to know.\n\nI main issue for me is that his relationship with her is a massive source of insecurity about the relationship for me. Any thoughts would be appreciated :-)", "summary": "SO has catch ups with an ex. Don't feel comfortable with it. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1ikoqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[29F] am having a difficult time being supportive to my husband of 1 year [35M] during this emotional time", "post": "My husband and I have gone through 2 consecutive miscarriages in the last 4 months. It's been a very emotional time. The grief, despair, frustration, pain, and trauma have been incredibly taxing (on us both). Additionally, he and I both process our emotions in such completely different ways. I've been expressive and needy, while he is quiet and withdrawn. He feels like he has to be strong for us, especially when I'm breaking down. Sometimes I wish he could just stop that act and come be sad with me.\n\nYesterday, he shared with me that he feels so much pressure from the demands of his job, trying to get into school, providing for our family, and trying to be supportive of me during this time. I know he just needed to blow some steam but the way he said it felt like there may be some resentment towards me. I asked if that's what he meant. He said no, but I can't seem to shake this feeling.\n\nI am finishing up my college degree and I am not contributing financially to our family at this time. It's the first time in my adult life that I've been dependent on someone else. As such, these feelings of being needy (both financially and emotionally) are very foreign to me. I guess I have some guilt about it. I'm doing my best to clean and help around the house, but I'm also very overwhelmed with school, infertility testing, processing emotions, etc. Seriously, I don't even get much sleep. I want to be able to help alleviate some of his pressure, but I don't know how when I already feel stretched so thin.\n\nI am seeing a therapist and we are going to marriage counseling, but it'll be at least another week until we can get more appointments.\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "Multiple miscarriage grief is taking a toll on my husband and I. My husband feels overwhelmed trying to keep us afloat. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_2fv2zs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] was told by him [29 M] that he liked me, but it was the \"wrong place and time.\"", "post": "Has anyone found themselves in this situation before?  I had been dating a guy I met on OKCupid for four months.  In all honesty, I hadn't felt as compatible with anyone sexually - or in terms of personal interests - since my ex, with whom I broke up with four years ago.  Unfortunately, he decided to end things yesterday, claiming that, while he liked me, he felt like we hadn't moved far enough in the time we were together.  He said he thought it was possibly the wrong place and time.\n\nThings to consider:  he works in the legal field, and usually had a busy schedule.  It wasn't irregular to see him once a week.  I would have preferred more frequency, but understood that he had a career and never tried to pressure him.  In July, he had mentioned that he wanted to take things slowly.  I, contrastingly, finished up grad school a few months ago and have been unable to find full-time employment.  As a result, I've been going through something of a quarterlife crisis, not to mention financial difficulties.  So there was the whole awkward income gap (can't really beat myself up over this since I'm over four years his junior, and have had way less time to establish myself professionally).  So obviously he paid for me more than I paid for him, though I tried to when I could.\n\nThe gist of what he told me was that he doesn't want to date, but is open to being friends (or more) when the time is right.  Though perhaps ill advised, we ended things with a long, drawn out kiss.  I know that I need to do what I can to deal with the pain and move on, but ending on this note inevitably leaves the question of \"what if?\" (i.e. if we meet again six months, a year from now, etc.).  I know it's not realistic to expect any specific outcome, but has anyone else been in this situation, and have advice to share?", "summary": "The guy I liked a lot said he wanted to stop dating after we had seen each other for 4 months.  He felt as though we hadn't moved far enough in that span of time, even though he had previously asked to take things slowly.  He works in the legal field; I recently finished grad school but am not employed full-time.  Our conversation left friendship, and perhaps more than that, as an eventual possibility, but I know I can't assume anything.  Advice would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2qe4fr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Think I [22M] ruined my fiancee [20F] and her family's Christmas. How the hell do I recover from this?", "post": "So I currently stay with my folks, and my fiancee lives in a close by city. Both our families wanted us to stay at home for our 'last single' Christmas with them. Fair enough right? so the short version, my family is going over to hers tomorrow anyway. (Which is part of the problem)\nSo, I call her at like 10 this morning and all seems well, wish her a merry Christmas etc... Call her again just before our Christmas lunch and she tells me she's in her room, chilling. I think not much of this, as she spends most of her life up there anyway and seemed happy enough. I then thank her for the gift she had got me, she replys thanks too. I eat lunch. Then after texting for a little bit I sense something is up. Finally call her this evening, and it turns out she was upset because one of her friends had cancelled on her, and so spent the entire afternoon avoiding her family and crying upstairs, felt crap and generally was depressed. Now both myself and my fiancee both suffer varying degrees of depression, so this sort of didn't come as a shock to me.\nAnyway, I wasn't buying her story, and in the end managed to get out of her the real reason she was in such a crying and depressed state. Apparently the gift I had given to her was too practical and not at all what she exexpected.\nso what was this awful gift? My fiancee is a musician and studying music at uni, so I because she doesn't already have one I got her a pc audio interface, a focusrite Scarlett 4io4 if anyone wants to know. For everyone else, basically lets you record your own instruments to a pc for editing.\nNow on any other day she would have loved this, and bought it for herself! So why is this a bad gift!!? And how and what am I going to say to get tomorrow? Sounds like she made quite a scene about it in front of her family, so now I'm worried I'll get the blame for ruining their family Christmas? Help!", "summary": "Bought fiancee practical gift, she hates it and it seems I ruined her and her family's Christmas."}
{"id": "t3_248em5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Yes", "post": "That one word. It's three letters, but it makes me so ridiculously, over-the-top happy! I can't believe it! A week ago, I asked this girl who I've had what can only be described as a \"mutual like-ship\" with to be my girlfriend. She said she'd have to think about, see about her parents and whatnot. It hurt for some reason. She didn't say no, but it did.\n\nBut that doesn't matter! She said yes! Now I know what you're thinking reddit, \"this kid is just in high school. He doesn't know anything about anything yet.\" And you know what? That's true. But I don't care! I'm happy! Two years ago when I started high school I didn't even begin to fathom that this could happen. I hated myself. I was an introvert that felt that no one could like me. I thought I wasn't good enough. I didn't even have the ability to talk to girls. I didn't think I was that type of guy with that ability. But now I have my first girlfriend! She makes me happy! All that stress I get with as many APs as I'm taking just goes away when I talk to her. Those 4 minutes I have completely alone with her everyday is the highlight of me day! I got motivated to change myself (part of why I made an account on reddit), and now I get to be in a relationship with someone who makes me want to keep improving even more!\n\nI'm young. For obvious reasons, what I'm experiencing is probably fleeting. But that one word just made all the difference. I know it's stupid, but I don't care! She's awesome and I'm so ridiculously glad this is happening.", "summary": "Former introvert asked girl to be his first girlfriend in high school. She said yes. I'm young, but still it's huge for me and I'm happy."}
{"id": "t3_363hhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] cheated on my girlfriend of one year[22 F] with my Co-Worker [23 F]", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for the past two years and things have been relatively good, but I really messed up. I'm naturally a very flirty person which my girlfriend is fine with, but I know this time I've crossed the line.\n\nThere's a new woman at work and we got along instantly, have all the same interests etc. Well a week ago after work a group of us went out for drinks and a couple of people ended up coming back to my place. Long story short after a few more drinks at my place (I was the only one not drinking) everyone goes to bed and I invite my female co-worker to share my bed, she agrees. Its not long before we're cuddling in bed and then start to kiss. After a few minutes I broke and told her about my girlfriend, but that I really liked her, because I do!\n\nMy Co-Worker seemed a bit upset, we went to sleep but stayed cuddling, and I asked her a couple times if she was ok and she said yes but it seemed forced. We've been texting since and when I've seen her she seems fine, but we havent spoken about what happened and I dont know what to do. I dont want to have a hostile work environment though I fear I've already created one, but I really like my co-worker. \n\nI know I need to break up with my girlfriend but I dont know whether to tell her about the cheating or not, I feel so shit about the pain I've caused both these women need some advice on what to do.", "summary": "cheated on my girlfriend with a woman from work who i've quickly developed feelings for."}
{"id": "t3_4jxd26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [28 F] of 3 months, she lives an hour away and I have conflicting feelings depending on whether I'm with her or not", "post": "I posted on here a while back about making things official with a girl I'd been seeing. We ended up doing so, and it's been going alright. However, she lives about about an hour away from, so we only see each other ~3 days/week. I've noticed that I feel differently about her depending on whether I'm with her or not. When I'm not with her, I tend to focus on her negative attributes and ruminate about the things I don't like about her -- not only the things that bug and annoy me, but how much better it would be to be single again. However, when I'm with her, I tend to forget those things to some degree and I do enjoy her company. Has anyone else felt this way/Is this normal? If so, how do you manage? \n\nAnd might this be indicative of some kind of incompatibility?\n\nI know the easy answer to this dilemma is to just 'hang out with her more,' but that's not really possible given my work and her schedule.", "summary": "Pseudo LDR -- having conflicting feelings about my GF depending on whether I'm physically with her or not -- not really sure what to do about it or if it's indicative of anything/an ominous sign."}
{"id": "t3_50q4j1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with a guy [25 M], can't tell if he has a girlfriend and now it feels weird to ask??", "post": "Will keep it short:\n\n- We met at a mutual friend's party, and almost got together, but I swear he told me he had a girlfriend so I backed away when he tried (he was not in any way acting like he had a girlfriend).\n\n- Added him on Facebook, it said he was single so I figured maybe I'd misheard. We started messaging and have been for a while. He's been away but we've now made plans to meet up.\n\n- I genuinely can't tell if he just wants to be friends or if he has a girlfriend. I tried to ask subtly (e.g. did you see your girlfriend over the weekend?) and he flat out ignored that part of the message. There's a girl who keeps posting photos of them at dinner, on a trip together, so I assumed she was.. but I have no idea. My mutual friend says to her knowledge he doesn't and refuses to ask (she's a difficult person). \n\n- Should I actually just ask him flat out now? I'm about to message him about plans we'd been making, and I'm trying to act casual/etc, but honestly I'm not looking for a friend: so part of me just wants to ask (e.g. casually): 'have you been hanging out with your friends/girlfriend (do you have girlfriend?). Is that fine? It seems a bit weird in one message to say both \"let's get drinks Thursday\" and \"do you have a girlfriend?\" but I don't know how else to find out..", "summary": "Have been messaging/flirting with a guy I really connected with and nearly got with, no idea if he has a girlfriend, we're making plans to meet up and I want to know."}
{"id": "t3_ktfwd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me silence my neighbors", "post": "...in a completely legal, not-too-threatening way.  \n\nLet me preface by stating that I am not here to whine or look for sympathy.  Rather, I would like advice on how to deal with inconsiderate neighbors.\n\nHere's the scoop.  I live in a nice, quiet neighborhood full of families and working folk.  At the end of the summer, a bunch of college bros moved into the rental next door.  Since moving in, they have raged and partied quite a bit -- often beginning around 11:00PM and going to around 7:00AM.  These are some serious get-togethers.  During the parties, they sit in their backyard, drunkenly yell, fight, and bump the super-bass.\n\nThe houses are very close together.  Any noise in their backyard can easily be heard.  My roommates and I are losing some serious sleep over this -- so much so that it is beginning to effect our job performances.\n\nHere is what we have tried so far:\n\n-Contacting the neighbors -- We have talked with them requesting they keep it down during the late hours and have written more formal notes requesting the same.  These polite suggestions were clearly not taken.\n\n-HOA -- The HOA has been contacted but they have no authority to intervene in the matter.\n\n-Landlord -- We have sent a formal note to the landlord, complete with documentation, requesting assistance in the matter but never received a reply.\n\n-Police -- The police have been contacted on occasion and we have filed noise complaints.  Part of the problem here is that the rental unit is in the rear of the property, some distance away from the residential street.  When the police arrive, they are unable to hear the noise levels.\n\nSo, reddit, I come to you looking for advice, assistance, and suggestions.  Tossing water balloons over the fence?  Sending over stealth stink bombs?  Any legal, non-threatening suggestions will be considered.", "summary": "Noisy, inconsiderate neighbors causing us to lose sleep.  Looking for suggestions to combat this issue."}
{"id": "t3_3en46d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24/f) with boyfriend (24/m) 3 years, missing someone else.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 3-4 years (it's been off and on and honestly hard to keep track, but we've been steady for the last 12 months) but I've been missing one of my really great guy friends lately. I love my boyfriend but honestly think there's no room in his mind for me right now. I don't know if he's ready for the relationship I'm wanting. Lately I've been finding missing someone else lately (even though he has a girlfriend). \n\nWe were very close friends (hung out numerous times a week and even made out a couple times drunk) while I lived in my college town and even though things are going well with my boyfriend, I still miss hanging out with and being around the other guy. I moved for the boyfriend and things have been good but I don't think I'm 100% happy. I can't afford to move out on my own right now and have nothing but small things my name since I sold it all (IE furniture and the like) when I moved but I honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "Been with boyfriend for a long time but missing someone else. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_i43xd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Requesting: Trollz", "post": "So here's the background:\nMy girlfriend overlooked her younger brother's chat history that was left open on a computer. On it, she discovered that he is planning on having a pool party with his friends. One of them asked if he and his girlfriend could \"occupy\" the guest room for a little while. \n\nI need some expert troll advice on preventing this from occurring. Anything short of US hooking up in there. [Mind you, this room is usually where her grandmother sleeps when she is over for the winters.] It is 2300hours Mountain Time and I have little under 19 hours to ensnare some incoming Sophomores in high school. I can haz help plox?", "summary": "? stop lil kids from hooking up in sacred gramma room"}
{"id": "t3_342vnx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) girlfriend (20F) of 5 months is \"in love\" with several celebrities. Is it normal for this to bother me or am I being overly jealous?", "post": "Little bit of background, my gf has always been a HUGE live music fan, going to multiple concerts every year. There are a couple of famous singers that she's \"in love\" with, as far as I know some of them she's had a crush on since she was a kid.\n\nObviously she doesn't talk about actually wanting to be in a relationship with them, I've even asked her before if she'd rather be with one of those guys if she had the chance and she's told me no way. I know a lot of girls have these celeb crushes so I try not to let it bother me, and it's highly unlikely there would ever be a chance for stuff to happen with these famous guys (most of them are married anyways and as much as I love her she's not the type of girl they mess around with).\n\nHowever, sometimes on twitter they will retweet her posts and she'll say stuff like \"omg I love you\" with a bunch of heart emojis to them, and she and her friend obsess over these guys when they text.\n\nI don't want to say anything to her about it because I feel like I would be being controlling. I have no problem with her liking these bands it just bothers me how much she obsesses over these other men. Sometimes I even worry she fantasizes about them instead of me when we have sex, because she acts so obsessed. How could I ever live up to these super hot male model type guys?\n\nSo yeah, my question is, should I even bring this up with her or would I sound like a paranoid, jealous jerk? Is this normal behavior or is she taking it too far?", "summary": "girlfriend has huge obsessive crushes on multiple celebrities, is this healthy for our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3pvciu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18F] won't tell me [17M] why she's upset", "post": "So for the past few days my girlfriend has been a little on edge and seems a little distant. Recently, she's fine in person, but while texting she's slow to respond and doesn't say much, but what she does say always seems like she's in a bad mood.\n\nToday, finally she tells me that she's kind of down, but when I asked why, she said she didn't want to talk about it. I suspect it's probably due to her parents, they fight often for reasons I won't get into.\n\nThe reason I'm concerned is because she usually tells me what's bothering her, regardless of what's going on, but for some reason she's being intentionally distant. I'm not really sure what to do, or how to respond, it's kind of bothering me and I want to help her.\n\nWe've been dating for 6 months (first serious relationship for both of us) but we were close friends for over 2 years before that, and we're both seniors in high school if that helps at all.", "summary": "Girlfriend, who usually is very open about her problems, is upset and won't tell me why. What can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_2deaj7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why can't I be happy?", "post": "I'm 25 (m) and I have a kid and in a relationship with the mom (25).we've been together for over a year. My problem is that I don't feel the want to be with her. She's a great person and things are good, I just don't feel a connection with her. The problem is I don't want my daughter to grow up without both parents together. I work a lot of hours and have to travel out of town as well for work. My father wasn't in my life at all and I promised I would be there for my kid no matter what. We are renting a house together but it's nothing but a rental. I want to try and make things work but there is something inside that just makes me not want to be with her. \n\nShe tries very hard to accommodate me and I feel like I'm being selfish. I want to tell her that I just don't want to be in a relationship with her but I don't know how that will affect all three of us. I've had this problem in past relationships. I will have be dating someone for about a year and just not want t be with them anymore or feel like we've lost connection. I want to try and make things work with my girlfriend and then again I don't. I'm just confused. Please help...", "summary": "idk why I dont have feelings for my S.O. anymore."}
{"id": "t3_u9bpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it time to break up?", "post": "Alright, here's a little background. My boyfriend [19M] and I [17F] have been dating for almost 6 months. We've known each other all through high school, despite going to different schools. I just graduated high school, and he is going into his second year of college. We were really good friends before we started dating. Since we went to different schools that were about an hour apart, our entire friendship and most of our relationship has been long-distance. We've gotten by and fallen in love via Skype and Facebook for the most part. \n\nEverything has been good until the last few weeks. I think I'm out of the 'honeymoon phase' now...but he isn't. He still showers me with affection and romantic letters, messages, and gifts, but I don't reciprocate those feelings as strongly. I care about him, yes, but I don't feel 'fireworks' or anything now.\n\nMy thinking about this started when I realized that he isn't the person I thought he would be from our online chats. Sure, I still love him, but I think I over-romanticized and over-fantasized about how he would be. What I'm saying is, my expectations were different from reality, and now I'm left feeling disappointed and wondering if I should stay or if we should break up. I should also mention that I will be going to college this fall, in a different college than he's at, which we will still be about 30 minutes apart. I love him, but he's just not someone I see something long-term with. What can I do to either save my relationship or find a way out without compromising too many feelings?", "summary": "Long-distance BF different in person than I expected, but I still fell in love. Feeling disappointed and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1wje1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] caught my (23F) GF (2 years together) texting with her ex about sex and confronted her about it", "post": "During the last few days, I've noticed my GF texting a lot and saw (not exactly snooping, just glancing at the screen when texts arrived) that the number she's texting with was her ex's, who didn't want a long-time relationship with her and broke it off with her shortly before we met.\n\nSo last night when she brushed her teeth I snooped and opened her phone to discover she was texting with him for the past few days and that they were sexting (\"I want you, you're so sexy, tell me you want me and what you'd do to me\"). They also began making plans to meet.\n\nI confronted her about it immediately when she came from the bathroom. She was first scared that I'd hurt her (didn't happen of course and never will), which is understandable considering she had an ex who hit her once. We sat down and I said that this is unacceptable. She said she was sorry, that she loves me, that she's a screw-up and that she did it because she feels alone and has no one other than me to talk to and wants to be \"loved\". I told her she can't continue to text or see this guy, and she said she understands but that it will be hard for her.\n\nWe're together for 2 years, we live together in a tiny apartment in a new city for a year with a dog. I love her to death and I believe she also loves me very much. Other than the dog, we have no friends whatsoever. I can understand feeling alone with no other social interactions, but this was definitely crossing a line and I told her that.\n\nShe said she wants to make this work but that her feelings about why did what she did remain unchanged. I write this post the morning after the fight, not knowing how to proceed really.\n\nShould we try to make it work? Can I get over what I saw in those texts? Those are the questions I'm dealing with, and I'd love to read other people's opinions on how this sounds, because like I said, I don't really have any other confidants and friends in the real world.", "summary": "Caught GF sexting and planning to meet ex-BF. Confronted her about it, said she's sorry but feels alone. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_37twhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best Friend Want Me?", "post": "My age [18m]and her [17f] I'm a guy and I think  my best friend who's a girl in into me. I know how best friend relationships are and I'm sure ours is very different. We haven't been best friends from childhood or anything like that, but we have been friends for about 4 years. We have been close friends a lil while before she got with her current boyfriend. Before she got with him we were very touchy a little too touchy really. But I never asked her out or anything like I wish I had. \n\nBasically why I'm asking is because she gets always wants to know my relationship status and who I like basically that's normal, but if I say anything about a girl she gets kinda jealous. And even tho she has a boyfriend when we talk we flirt a lot. Always talking about sex and stuff along those lines. She loves to call me boo, honey, names like that. Which I still don't know why. I thought it she just txts people with those names but apparently after snooping around I found its just me and her boyfriend who gets those names lol. She always txt me with winky faces after she she replys with something that can sound sexual.  She even keeps track of how long we have talked like became friends. When we hangout act like a couple (minus kissing ect...) always hugging and being real close. \n\n I'm just very confused she acts way to flirtatious to just want to be friends in my eyes but I have no clue so hopefully you guys can help me with this problem haha. Just give me an idea on what I should be thinking about this. And also I wouldn't mind some help making this a friends with benefits relationship haha.", "summary": "My guess is she wants more but I'm really not sure at all. Should I try to make moves or no? Any help is appreciated. Peace!"}
{"id": "t3_pxjd3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stealthy suprise for a friend", "post": "So my question for you guys is one I hope has an answer. A friend of mine is about to graduate from college and as part of his graduation party I wanted to have a video compelation of some pictures and videos he's taken/made over the years and display it on the wall.\n\nOne of the videos I intended on using, from his highschool years, was deleted for content (don't ask me for what, I'm not sure and I don't want to ask him). Is there any way I can download the video, when I can't access the account, even though youtube removed it?\n\nAny help would be greatky appreciated.\n\nP.S. I have the youtube id, not sure if that helps.", "summary": "need to download a friends video that was deleted for its content, can I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_3vhjof", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M22] need advice breaking up with SO [F20]", "post": "So, I've been with this girl for about 1 week shy of a year. We met in college last year.\n\nAt the beginning of this school year I got my own apartment with a buddy and told my SO as long as she was staying productive with work and school it would be ok if she stayed with us. (never going to live with another SO within the first year of a relation ship again, LEARNED that lesson) \n\nfast fwd to now. she is super lazy, only taking 2 classes, quit her job (which was damn good paying job at our hospital) over some petty shit. most days she wont even get dressed, and if i ever get on her about doing housework she just shuts off and gets super moody.\n\nI've decided this relationship has come to an end i no longer feel the way about this girl that i used to, but now i am faced with a new problem...\n\ni asked her to live with me. dispite her not holding up her end of the \"deal\" i feel responsible for her. her parents aren't very wealthy and wont be able to support her once i kick her out, and to be honest i have no idea what she is going to do about finding a new place to live (she can couch surf with friends so she wont be legit HOMELESS).\n\nmy question is this. do i need to feel responsible for her life after our relationship? ive considered waiting till summer to break up with her just so she wont be homeless, but that seems like it would be miserable. i think i know the answer to this i just need someone else to reinforce it for me.", "summary": "I invited my F20 SO to live with me under agreed upon conditions, she failed to uphold her end of the deal and i now i want to end the relationship. do i need to feel responsible for her being fucked out of a house because of us breaking up?"}
{"id": "t3_g9cyn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I want to apprentice as a luthier and make classical guitars. I've saved up the money to move anywhere in the world. Can someone please help me?", "post": "So, I'm a 20 year old guy who is rather not too content with many things going on in my life (just as many 20 year old guys are). I've been working at a freaking sweet flower shop peddling flowers and doing miscellaneous activities that little old ladies can't do. I like to say I am enrolled in \"[Flower Shop's Name] University\" from the amount of things to be learned by being immersed in a completely estranged social atmosphere. I tried the college gig for a year with theater, and while I absolutely love it and the relationships built with the eccentric and cooky individuals it tends to bring in, it is not something I want to dedicate my life to by making a career out of it. \n\nSo I'm sitting here playing my father's Kohno guitar. It's beautiful. It's sound is amazing. I want to make something of this accord and dream of opening up my own shop in my hometown seeing as there is a complete lack of music stores. I tried getting in contact with the luthier for Kohno in Japan - but as you can guess, there was a bit of a void where a reply would have went. My father, already having networked quite a bit by touring back in the day with Ben Vereen, is asking around - but I figured why not ask Reddit? I don't want to peddle flowers for another year, and I want to be taken under someone's wing who is incredibly passionate and loves what he or she does. If anyone has any guiding words, that would be just lovely.", "summary": "Careened off of a canyon in to a toxic waste pool, gained super powers, want to build classical guitars."}
{"id": "t3_itfqw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I need help. AKA How do I get motivated?", "post": "Dear wonderful redditors,\n\nI'm a fairly normal twenty-three year old male. I would consider myself at least somewhat above the average IQ level. I'm fairly good with computers, a very technically sound photographer, I enjoy reading guitar etc.\n\nDespite all this I have **ZERO** motivation to do **ANYTHING**.\n\nA few years ago I tried my hand at college; I did okay. I know I could have done a whole lot better. I've since dropped out and have been working a dead end job at a city recreation facility for the past four years. There is no room for advancing within the company without some sort of degree.\n\nI know I need to get myself back in school, or some sort of trade school or learn any kind of marketable skill.\n\nI just don't have the motivation to do any of it, I know I'm slowly **ruining my life** and wasting all the potential I have. I just don't seem to care.\n\nI want to be able to support a family and have a decent house one day, and I know in order to do that I need to get out of this rut I'm stuck in but I just have no idea how to do it.\n\nAs far back as I can remember I've never really tried at anything, I've always just done the bare minimum required to get by. I hate that. I want to be able to try, I just don't know how.\n\nI'm asking for help here Reddit, if any one has been in this situation before how did you break out of it? \n\nEven if you havent been in this situation I'm sure someone can offer me some kind of advice. I just have no idea where to even start.", "summary": "I never try at anything, I'm stuck in a rut. How do I fix that?"}
{"id": "t3_151hhl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cops and security guards of reddit, I am in need of guidance, I'm scared to go to work, what can be done? More details inside.", "post": "Hello! I really need some help from some insightful people here. I work in a mall. No big deal really. A girl that I have problems with outside of work keeps coming in to bother me. She also attacks my employees when she does see me there and says she is not getting the best service she can because \"I told them about her.\" I have told my workers nothing about her, in fact they had no idea who she was the first few times until I told them. \n\nToday she comes in with another one of her crazy requests. She was nice to my co-workers at first as she didn't see me. As soon as she saw me she went nuts. She was trying to get a pair of free shoes claiming hers were defected but it was wear and tear. That was explained to her.\n\nAnyways, so after going nuts in the store she leaves. She gets her mom to call us 20 minutes later (her mother was not in the mall nor does she live with her mom. She is a foster child) to scream at us. She didn't even talk about the shoe situation. She just lashed out about me to my co-worker. She threatened me physically, death, and to get me fired. She also tried to slander me saying she has called the cops on me 5 times (she hasn't) and I have punched her daughters face in (I haven't). They are coming back tomorrow. I work tomorrow and I am scared. I was scared the rest of the shift, as this girl has told me the reason she is a foster child is, because her mom is a drunk, a druggie, and abusive. \n\nSecurity came and basically said they will be banned from the mall if they step foot in my store again. I don't feel very safe though. They did try to solve it that night but I don't know how that went. \n\nIs there more I should be doing? Is there more security should be doing? I actually want to quit my job over this...", "summary": "Crazy mom and daughter I know personally threaten to hurt, kill, and get me fired while I was at work. Girl has already been harassing me for a year. Should cops and security be doing more? What happens in cases like these?"}
{"id": "t3_3wvn09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 months, says she won't tell me what she wants so I don't do it out of obligation.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months, but we started dating three years ago and broke up for about 9 months. The other day, she told me she felt like I wasn't prioritizing her. This makes sense, since I have finals going on and we're both in college and busy. So I asked her what I could do to prioritize her more: call her more? Skype more often? Compliment her more? Her response was, essentially, \"I'm not going to tell you what I want, since then you'd do it because I asked you too and not because you want to. You should *want* to call me, not call me since I want you to.\"\n\nI really enjoy this girl. This seems so out of character for her, and kind of caught me off guard. She's usually very reasonable about trying to solve problems. We've definitely held the mindset of \"us vs. the problem, not her vs. me\" in the past, but it's kind of hard to separate the problem from the person at this point.", "summary": "If she tells me what she wants, she thinks I'm doing it out of obligation, not because I like her."}
{"id": "t3_1z701b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 4 months, she was raped, unsure how to even feel a month after", "post": "At the end of last month my girlfriend was raped by an acquaintance, she told me the next day about it, and has sought help for it too. I was there for her, to talk to, to do whatever I could to help. And after a few weeks, she had started feeling a bit better. She was more comfortable with being in public, with being physically close to me, things felt like they were looking up. \n\nThis week she went in to get tested and all that, and now after that, she doesn't want to be anywhere close to me, half the time doesn't even want to hold a hand. After things were looking up, I just feel devastated, I feel like a bad person for caring so much about what I'm getting, or not getting, but it's the feeling deep down. We had panned to spend this weekend together, but will probably only be for a few hours instead of two days. \n\nI feel unwanted and pushed away, I feel more like a friend than her boyfriend. I'm an affectionate person by nature, so being pushed away from that hurts. I hate being associated with what happened, that me touching her can bring those feelings up. \n\nI can feel motivation and drive slipping away from various parts of my life more and more. I love her, I want her to feel better more than anything, but it feels like there's nothing I can do, and that I'm becoming less and less of a boyfriend to her.  \n\nWhat do I even do? How do I help her, can I help her? Should I even still be in it?", "summary": "Girlfriend was raped, was making progress, but still feels like I'm more of a friend than anything. Don't feel close anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2a17hq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a nude to my conservative best friend", "post": "This actually happened a few nights ago, but I only discovered the true horror of what I did today.\n\nWell first off all I love sex. I have a lot of casual sex, and at the moment I've found this really, really great partner. He's kinky, fun and all around a nice guy. \n\nSo I was at his house doing the nasty, when mid-coital we decided it would be funny to snapchat one of our mutual friends and let him in on the fact that we were doing the deed. \n\nI whip out my phone and take a lovely picture of me sitting on his dick, his hands on my waist, with tits on full display. I send this picture and promptly forget about it.\n\nWell.....\n\nToday I check my snapchat and \"conservativebestfriend has added you!\" I scroll down to the conversation and it turns out I sent him a photo that night too. \n\nI'm too scared to talk to him. We have an almost brother sister relationship and I'm terrified of what he will think of me now.", "summary": "sent my naked tits to my ultra innocent/conservative/religious best friend."}
{"id": "t3_4iw31c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My FWB (30M) farted while we were having sex. (21F) Now he's acting weird, and I sense his embarrassment.", "post": "So I've had a GREAT FWB relationship for 8 months now. We laugh, joke around with eachother too hard, and always have an amazing time together. \n\nAnywho, last night I was at his house. He kept walking outside and I finally asked what he was doing. He then told me he had taken probiotics and they had made him gassy. I laughed at him, and then told him, \"sucks to be you.\" I guess he got tired of walking outside so he just started doing it infront of me. ( no big deal, this doesn't bother me at all.) This went on for an hour before making it to the bedroom. \n\nSo we are having sex and it's going great until he let's one out mid session. He started laughing, as did I. Well he couldn't continue after that. (too much embarrassment?) I tried my best to let him know it really wasn't a big deal. He seemed okay when I left.\n\nSo this morning the texts are just really short. I was supossed to come back over tonight, but he told me something came up. (this has never happened, and I find it really odd that it did the first time something like this came up. I feel like it's over what happened.) I really feel like he is still dwelling on what happened. \n\nI tried to assure him it was no big deal, I guess that wasn't enough. Should I try again? Or just drop it and let it die down?", "summary": "FWB farted while having sex. Now he doesn't want me coming back over tonight."}
{"id": "t3_4jtq55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] try to do everything my girlfriend [20f] of a year wants but get nothing in return, should I even expect it?", "post": "Just a simple question. So, we kind of live together. My girlfriend always wants me to scratch her back and so massages for her even if I'm sleepy as hell, tired etc. I have no problem with it, but I haven't gotten a massage from her for like forever now and I do them to her daily. Most I get is that she will maybe hold or scratch my head little bit when I'm napping next to her.\n\nI asked for massages but she just brushes it off, like only I should do it to her. \n\nNot sure if it's a problem, but she kind of likes to hurt me as well. She likes to wrestle, but in a hurtful to me way. She doesn't leave any marks or anything, but sometimes like to hit me. I have minimal acne as well so she likes to pop my pimples on the face and back.\n\nI try to stop her but sometimes she just does it when I'm tired as hell and can't do much/have no power.\n\nSo should I expect something pleasant from her side as well?", "summary": "I give my gf massages on a daily basis but she doesn't do anything pleasant to me, also likes to see me be physically hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_12chbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance 23[F] is stressed out from wedding planning with me 26[M], she would rather get hitched at town hall and I'd rather a big celebration. How can we both get what we want?", "post": "We have been together for 2.5 years and have been engaged for about 4 months. We are looking at venues to hold the 2014 wedding and the process has been very stressful on her (us). I am doing my best to help her by researching, emailing and planning tours at wedding venues. She says we could get married at town hall now and plan a wedding later on. In my opinion, there is no reason to rush a town hall wedding unless she got pregnant. Every time she asks to 'get married tomorrow at town hall' I respond with, \"You deserve more than a town hall wedding and our families should be involved as well.\" \n\nWe both have very close relationships with our families and I feel as if it would be disrespectful to elope without a legitimate reason. So every time she asks, I give her some rendition of that response and it causes a major fight and she wants to cancel the entire thing and give me back the ring. I don't know how to remedy this without caving into her demand for a town hall elopement. Should I give in, or just hope that once we find a venue things will smooth out? We still have 2 years to plan, and I'd rather celebrate with our families and go on a honeymoon - instead of the bland town hall experience with returning to work afterwards.", "summary": "I want a wedding celebration and fiance wants to elope to get it over with. Should I cave in?"}
{"id": "t3_1wuqna", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a girl [17F] for 4 months, I [17M] can't seal the deal with an official relationship", "post": "Hey guys, sorry for the poor title. I've been dating this girl since October. We really click and have been getting on awesomely, and a few weeks ago I brought up that we should make our relationship official. She made up some excuse about how she wasn't sure about relationships since her last one (ended in August) so she didn't commit one way or the other. I was pretty disappointed but just took it in my stride and thought I could turn it around. \n\nWell yesterday we hung out again and she spoke to me about some very personal things including her previous relationship and a family tragedy. I found out that her last bf was emotionally abusive and also a liar, just a immature clingy dick really. I just listened to it. \n\nWe also had a much more thorough talk about where we were heading. It hasn't improved. She said she wants a relationship because she really likes me, but she doesn't want a relationship because she's scared of them, or still scarred after her last one etc. I made it clear that I want a relationship but I'm not going to wait around forever for her to make up her mind. I asked her what it would take to push her one way or the other and she said she wasn't sure. \n\nJust saying, it might read like it but I'm not heading into the friendzone or anything. I'm just so lost with what to do... I said I'm not going to wait around for her but I'm not sure if I'm ready to just go for other girls? I'm sure the overwhelming response will be move on but I don't want to give up just yet. Honestly I think somehow she needs to see that if she doesn't do this, she will regret it? I don't know", "summary": "Girl wants a relationship with me but doesn't because of a bad experience with her last relationship. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4n7785", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend[22F]'s brother and roommate [28M] won't stop hitting on me [22F] even though I'm a lesbian", "post": "My best friend and I have a great relationship and we spend a lot of time together during the week. We are chill people who like to hang out and watch TV, play video games, drink some wine, etc.\n\nThe problem is her brother. My friend took him in as a roommate about a year ago because of mutual economic necessity and he had always kind of made me uncomfortable with his behavior toward me but it has really escalated lately. He touches me without permission, gives me weird and long hugs every time I leave, asks me out on dates repeatedly even after I say no, corners me in conversations when we're in a group--the whole shebang. This frustration is compounded by the fact that I am gay, and he knows that I am gay, and everybody knows that I am gay. There is ZERO chance of me ever going out on a date with him.\n\nI have rejected every request for a date and reminded him that I am gay. My friend has told him to knock it off on several occasions, but he doesn't listen to her on this or a lot of other things because he doesn't really take his baby sister seriously. My friend's boyfriend also told him to knock it off, but the brother just insisted that he's being friendly with the touching, and he doesn't actually think I'm gay anyway because I've never had a girlfriend.\n\nIt's making it so I basically never want to spend time at my friend's place. I live with my very conservative parents in a very small house so my friend doesn't want to come hang out at my house because we'd essentially be hanging out with my family all night (and I don't blame her). She wants to kick out her brother for other reasons on top of this, but can't afford to right now. I'm more or less at my wit's end.", "summary": "Friend's brother won't stop hitting on me even though I am never, ever going to be interested and won't listen to anyone who tells him to stop. How can I make him back off?"}
{"id": "t3_uzhhm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Alright Reddit, I don't feel safe in my apartment. My wife moves in with me in a month. How do I break a lease?", "post": "Let me preface this by saying that I just moved into my apartment one month ago with the intention of living here with my fiancee once we get married. I'm one of maybe three other white guys in my complex. I felt relatively safe until tonight.\n\nI was watching a movie in my new apartment around 2 AM when I hear a woman screaming in distress in the woods behind my apartment. I grab my bat and go outside to listen -- they seem to be moving away from me. I called the cops and let them know what was going on. I'd want someone to do the same for my SO. The cops say they are going to come to check it out. They tell me to call back if the noises get closer. I go inside and hope that it was some kids screwing around.\n\nAbout five minutes later I hear the screaming getting closer again. I grab my bat again and go outside to see if I need to call the police again. Up walks a black guy with a girl heading to the apartment adjacent to mine. It appears that they have been fighting. She looks like she was crying and  has her arm around him. I assume she's drunk or something. Not sure if everything is alright I stupidly ask, \"Is everything okay?\"\n\n\"Shut the fuck up and mind your own business, you nosey cracker.\"\n\nSo not only does this guy not like me, he knows where I live (where my wife will live), and the cops will be around shortly. FUCK. I call the cops to tell them the situation and assure them that my adjacent neighbors are okay now and that I didin't want any trouble. The operator can't promise that an officer won't come out.\n\nMy problem is I have very little money and can't afford a lengthy, expensive lease breaking. I know that it is customary to end up paying anywhere between 2 and the rest of the contracted months plus the security deposit. I can barely afford rent. Now, I can probably get help from my mother-in-law to be, but I'd rather not. How might I get out of this lease and find a safer place to live for my new wife and I?", "summary": "Nosey white guy endangers new apartment. Wants to break lease with minimal monetary damages."}
{"id": "t3_1m7gwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[16M] with my \"crush\"[16F] we used to be best friends and we both liked each other, but then it suddenly stopped.", "post": "I know we are very young, but my main problem was that when we were both 14-15 we had been best friends and we both liked each other. After I had found out that we both had a crush each other, it got really awkward. I didn't really know how to ask her out, because I honestly was a very awkward teenager back then. \n\nI still have feelings for her for a friend of even further than that, but my main problem is I don't know how to talk to her. When we both talk to each other, its about a 30 seconds conversation in class about homework or something small like that. Whenever I always talk to her she tries to avoid eye contact too. She still laughs at my jokes and whatnot, but we simply can't talk to each other. Any help?", "summary": "I had been friends and almost further with a friend of mine, but then we stopped and I need help talking to her since I still have a bit of feelings for her. "}
{"id": "t3_48jlc0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Why tracking is beautiful", "post": "Hello beautiful souls of loseit!\nLong time lurker, finally decided to get serious about losing the last 15. I've been at 150 for three years. Years of gradual lifestyle changes have gotten me down here. I started counting calories a few weeks ago. I realized the importance of a scale and have one  coming in the mail. I've just been wingin' it and have still seen results even with approximations. I overcompensate a little to make up for the lack of more accurate measurements. \nSo today I sat around all day, and munched quite a bit. No real meals...a little of this..a little of that...I felt very much like eff it-I don't have the scale yet so how accurate can I really be until then?  Right now I'm laying in bed cruising Reddit, thinking about making PB (keto friendly)cookies. I'm not hungry but I'm definitely bored and already feel like I failed for the day. I'm mad at myself, sad I'll never get the body I want and overall feeling very discouraged. \n\nYou know what? I said to myself, so many people have emphasized the importance of tracking even when you have a bad day. So I got onto MFP and logged everything. I ate more packaged food/carbs today than usual which is probably why I'm feeling so full. \nAnyways, I logged everything...and I'm still 100 cals under my daily allotment. Even with whatever inaccuracy there may be without a scale, it's not nearly as awful as I thought today was. So instead of sitting in bed feeling like a fattie and making cookies to 'make me feel better' I owned up to what I ate. Now, I'm stoked and I don't want or need those cookies! \n\nIt made me realize how I use food to hurt or punish myself. I was feeling like crap about myself and was just going to eat more. How is that productive?", "summary": "tracked a \"bad day\" to realize it wasn't so bad and resisted self soothing in the form of cookies. :)"}
{"id": "t3_3bugvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and my husband [26M] of 2 years (together 11 years total) are on two different wavelengths when it comes to motivation/future. Worried that love isn't all we need to make it to forever. HELP.", "post": "My first plea for Reddit's help...\n\nBackground: I have been with my husband since we were 15 years old. We've obviously made it through many hurdles together (high school grad, my undergrad degree, him being miserable at his job, two cross country moves, etc.) and I am a week away from beginning a prestigious professional program (my dream). \n\nRecently he has made comments that he doesn't feel worthy of me and that he'll never be able to give me what I need. He's working a retail job at minimum wage and we currently have zero debt, thanks to my parents, but he makes no effort to change his situation?! I helped him apply for FAFSA and school since he mentioned he's interested in business but when the time neared for sending in his transcripts, he said he wasn't ready and that he wasn't sure if he wanted to do that?? \n\nI love him more than anything but his insecurities are hurting our relationship. He's insecure about me becoming a doctor but he doesn't take/make opportunities for himself. If it were up to him to support us and our future family I have no idea how it would happen...\n\nHe says he wants to open his own business one day but he knows nothing about business and he gets defensive when I mention even just researching what it takes. Tonight he got defensive and then said \"Don't worry, it's not like it will ever happen anyway.\" This comment made my blood boil because there's no reason that he can't if he put his heart in to it.  I don't feel like I care what he ends up doing just as long as it's something that he want's to do each day.\n\nI'm sorry for venting, I hope it's somewhat coherent. I don't want to lose him but this self pity is killing me while I'm working so hard.", "summary": "My husband's insecurity about my career and lack of motivation for one of his own is making me worry that love isn't enough to keep us together forever. Am I just being petty??"}
{"id": "t3_e1jak", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What seemingly small question/idea/imagining has really stuck with you years later?", "post": "I remember playing Freelancer (arcadish PC space sim) years ago and you could travel to lots of self contained solar systems. It is pretty much a given that all asteroid belts/planets/space stations will be in a relatively flat orbital, or ecliptic, plane centred on the star. So I wondered, \"mmm, what if I head straight down?\", as in everything was radially out from the sun but what was underneath everything, way way underneath. Maybe I thought there might be a vidja easter egg or something. So I went straight down and after 5ish minutes of flying down into complete darkness I rotated the camera around so I could see my ship flying away from the Solar System above. I felt complete fucking vertigo, or at least something like what I'd imagine vertigo to be, feeling it very fucking bad right now just writing about it. It was so unreal in my mind, flying away from EVERYTHING into NOTHING, it was like feeling insignificance and loneliness and fear all at once seeing the whole solar system shrinking away. So after a 2 second freak out I set the ship to auto-fly back to main space station 5 minutes \"up\", saved the game and didn't play again for 2-3 days. Now I'm not afraid of imagining space travel to other planets or freaked out by seeing in TV/movies. It's just that when they do show it, they're always travelling to somewhere visible or always travelling past something visible, like reflectors on the roadside. I don't honestly know what I know or learned or even feel about those 10ish minutes of Freelancer years ago, I just know it's as important to me as my first kiss or breakup or car trip or driving or gaming or swimming or graduating or anything. Bitta trainwreck of thought there but I hope you feel me dog.", "summary": "had a mini freak out from a space sim years ago, still a little disturbed by it"}
{"id": "t3_eqx8l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit - thanks to you, I've recovered my website, my users, and our 5TB of data. Please take my extended thanks with you this Holiday Season!", "post": "Over 6 weeks ago, I posted on here with this;  , explaining on how SoftLayer were holding FileVo's data hostage, and were refusing to make any contact with us.\n\nAfter a very long drawn out ordeal, and with the massive pressure put on SoftLayer from the Reddit community, we've now managed to recover all of our data, and move to a brand new datacenter to boot. I've thrown up a full recount of everything here, for your reading pleasure; \n\nOn top of this, I've set it so anyone registering for an account over the next 7 days (or already has an account), is entitled to 3 months free premium access - giving you 40GB of RapidShare bandwidth per month, along with a free Torrent seedbox.", "summary": "Data held hostage by hosting company. Ignored by hosting company. Reddit community puts massive pressure on the hosting company. Reseller Brand Manager contacts me following the explosion from Reddit, stemming to various hosting related websites. Over 5TB of user's data is recovered. Free Premium time for all. Donations being made to Make A Wish foundation. You. Guys. Rock. Happy Holidays!"}
{"id": "t3_mhjoh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tactfully handle removing an acquaintance from my annual Christmas party?", "post": "Every year for the past several, I've thrown a holiday dinner for my friends.  Because of seating & space, we have to limit the number of people who we can invite.  This year, two of our close friends have gotten into serious relationships, and I was going to take off two previous pity invites to accommodate their boyfriends. In this age of facebook where people will mention it and post pictures from it, what would be the best way to handle it?\n\nThe one person didn't come last year, and I haven't seen them since they came two years ago, so I think that one would be understood.  \n\nThe other person is the one I'm worried about, because I could actually see her asking about it, and I have no idea how to handle it if she does.  She's someone I used to work with and I haven't talked to her in months and seen maybe twice since last year. From coming before, she is now friends with all the other guests on facebook and she's always commenting on their statuses, etc.  I feel bad excluding people, but I honestly am not a friend level with her anymore to include her, and I just don't have the room this year.", "summary": "How do I remove an acquaintance from my annual party who is facebook friends with the other guests?"}
{"id": "t3_44z8gr", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "My ivory dress came...and it's yellow? Freaking out.", "post": "I ordered my dress online in January.  I've been scoping it out for months, and waited until a few weeks ago to order it because I needed to budget for it.  I am in love with this dress.  It's a cute vintage design, and it looks great (shape wise) on me.  BUT it's yellow.  It's supposed to be ivory, and it looks more... gold?  The kicker here - the label originally on the dress bag said it was gold, and had another sticker with ivory placed over top of it.  I figured it was a mix-up somehow and since I had to return it for a smaller size, I'd let customer service know.  They emailed me back and said no, there initially was a mix up with ivory dresses being labeled as gold, but it was sorted out and I definitely got the ivory dress.  They said \"the ivory is more of a yellow ivory rather than an off white, the gold one is more of a pale mocha colour\"  and the dress they'll be sending back to me as an exchange will be the same color. The website photos show an off-white ivory dress, so it obviously photographs well, but I don't know if I can handle it. Has anyone else had this happen?  Am I freaking out over nothing?", "summary": "My ivory dress is more yellowish than off-white.  I kind of hate it."}
{"id": "t3_t7vhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Read some texts I really shouldn't have. I think she's cheating. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Background: I(male,27) have been dating my girlfriend(28) for 2.5 years and we have lived together for about 1.5 of those years. We have been having a little bit of problems lately but we agreed to work things out.\n\nThis morning while she was asleep I looked through her texts. I have never done this before, and never will again because I feel like a complete asshole for doing it. Basically, she has been texting another man back and forth in incredibly inappropriate ways to the point like it sounds like they may have slept together last night, or at least fooled around. She told me she was out spending time with a female friend of hers(who is a real person), but she had sent a text to that friend to cancel because she was \"doing... something... :)\".\n\nI know we have been having problems, but barely a week ago she convinced me to stick with her and try to work things out. It's probably stupid of me to feel so betrayed when we were on the verge of breaking up a week ago, but I really do love this girl with all my heart and it is tearing me apart to sit here and think about what may have happened. \n\nI feel like a deep-fried bag of fecal matter for going through her messages, and have no idea how I should/can even address this issue with her. She is currently spending time with the same \"female friend\", so I haven't seen her since I this morning. Please help, I don't think this crying thing I'm currently doing is really fixing the situation all that much.", "summary": "Looked through my GF's texts. I feel like an asshole, but found out she may have cheated on me last night. No clue what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3eph6l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a concert", "post": "Today (yes, it actually was today, amazing isn't it?) I went to a free outdoors festival that was organized in my town. After being there for a while though, it started to rain. Being in a temperate country, this wasn't exceptional and the organization had prepared for this by having loads of those [hideous plastic ponchos] which were quickly handed out. Since I didn't want to get wet I pulled one over my head, but I never wear these things so my head was probably through the arm hole or something, I'm still not entirely sure. Anyways, some girl who is also wearing one then jokingly commented on how hot I looked in that poncho. After I said the same of her, she said for her surely it was only because of the poncho (it wasn't). By this point, being the stereotypical socially awkward Redditor I am, my brain has kind of stopped working properly and I blurt out \"Yea I can see that\".\n\nHer shocked face quickly made me realize what I just said and after  trying to play it off as a bad joke (which didn't work) I made sure to escape the situation as soon as possible.", "summary": "Girl says I'm hot, I say she's not. Poncho is now in the trash."}
{"id": "t3_2clda0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my husband[26M] of 7 months, went to a wedding this weekend where we saw my exboyfriend. I feel... torn and guilty.", "post": "This past weekend I went to a wedding with my husband, where we both knew we'd be running into my ex boyfriend from an off and on relationship for a span of 10 years, first love, took each other's virginity, the one who I compare all others to.\n\nEvery time this ex and I see each other, the sparks are there. Every damn time.  There has not been a time in our past that we saw each other and didn't try dating again. (hence the off and on for 10 years).  I actually called off a previous engagement because I was still in love with him.\n\nA few years ago I had told him that I was too in love with him and that if we couldn't be together long term, I just couldn't have any contact with him at all anymore.  So we hadn't seen each other or talked for about 3 years.\n\nI met my husband a year and a half ago, and he was the first person since my ex who made me fall completely in love with him.  I knew he was the one because he made me feel everything I felt my past relationships were missing.  There was no more comparing.  He was the one.  We've been married for 7 months now.\n\nAfter seeing my ex this past weekend, I felt those feelings for my ex again, and I feel so guilty, like I'm betraying my husband because I miss my ex.  I avoided my ex almost the whole time, and only spoke to him once when he congratulated me on my marriage. I said thank you and walked away.\n\nI love my husband very much, but I've never stopped loving my ex and I wonder if I ever will.\n\nI guess my question is, does this happen to everyone? will I ever get over my first love?", "summary": "recently married, but still have feelings for an ex. anyone experience anything similar?"}
{"id": "t3_2e4p8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] Hooked up with [25 F]. Thought we were on the same page, apparently not.", "post": "So, brief back story: There is a girl that works in my building. I have talked to her before but never expressed any real interest in her romantically (not that she is bad looking). Couple of weeks ago, I find a note on my car. It is from her and she told me I should call her to hang out sometime. I figured what the hell and did so. Long story short, she ends up at my house one night and while in bed, I tell her that I do not want a relationship at this point in my life as it is fairly crazy and I am enjoying my freedom. She says that she is not into being FWB so we do not have sex that night. The following day, she texts me something along the line of, \"I have been thinking about it and I think we should just have fun and see where things go.\" So, we meet up again a few days later and do the deed. Since then, she is texting me non-stop, asked to take me out to dinner this weekend, and wants me to help her transport her horse across the state. Apparently, our goals are not in line at this point. I absolutely do not want a relationship and thought that I made this clear but apparently not and now I feel really bad. I am also starting to think she might have a bit of the crazy considering the volume and nature of the texts. The content of the messages seem like we have been dating for a long time when we have only known each other for a few weeks. I know that I need to set her straight and sooner rather than later, but I am not sure how. Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl. Think FWB situation. Apparently not. Now feel bad. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_o58ch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend recently came out, he's gay, which is cool. But he thinks I'm gay too and it's gotten violating.", "post": "Like the title says, my friend recently came out which is cool with me, whatever turns you on, turns you on. But he thinks I'm gay/bi too and that I just need help coming out of the closet. This is not the case at all, I've only ever been attracted to women, and in all truthfulness I've only ever had erections for women (obviously I'm a guy). But no matter what I say or tell him he thinks it's just me being in denial, so even if I tell him I'm straight he thinks I'm just lying to continue being in the closet. He even tried to \"prove\" I was gay by grabbing my crouch and asking to give me head saying, \"you don't know until you try it,\" which I was totally turned off by and I pushed him away and it left me feeling violated. But to him this was just more evidence that I'm gay.\n\nI will be honest, I am a little uncomfortable around gay guys just because I don't understand it so it freaks me out a little. But I wish he could just accept that I'm straight and move on. But like I said, no matter what I say convinces him and it gets annoying and frankly violating. What should I do?", "summary": "Gay friend thinks I'm also gay/bi and it's gotten to the point where it's violating and nothing I do helps him accept that I'm straight. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_rs1d7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would an appropriate gift be for this situation?", "post": "If this is in the wrong place please tell me, I just found this site today.\n\nBackground story:\nI was driving my car and got pulled over for a non-functioning brake light. The officer asked me for my license and insurance info. I couldn't find my insurance card. He said it was no problem, and would just write a citation. Once I found proof of insurance I could go down to the courthouse and show the clerk and the ticket will be avoided. Fast forward to later that evening: I searched all my insurance records and realized I never bought insurance for the car I was driving. \n\nNext day, I call my insurance agent and bought some insurance. He sent me a proof of insurance via email and everything was good. \n\nI was off to the courthouse. Went inside and they looked at my insurance and citation and noticed that the date of the ticket was earlier than the date of insured. They said \"No big deal, we will just call your insurance and verify everything, maybe there was a discrepancy in the paperwork.\" Now my heart is beating fast, thinking, \"Great they will call him, he'll tell them I got the insurance after the citation and I'll have to pay a $370 ticket.\" They have him on speakerphone, so I can hear the conversation. They ask about my date of insurance, he asked when the ticket was written, they said the date. He says, \"Oh, Tossitdown?, he has always had up to date insurance for that car. You guys have nothing to worry about.\" They end the conversation, and the clerk tells me everything is clear and I can be about my way.\n\nI walk out of the courthouse and call my insurance agent. He tells me that I've got nothing to worry about, and that he understands things like this happen and that I just \"owe him one\". So, here comes the question:\n\nWhat would an appropriate thank you gift for my insurance agent be in this situation?", "summary": "I got a citation for driving without insurance and my insurance agent lies to the county clerk to get me out of a fine. What should I get him as a thank you?"}
{"id": "t3_2tjz3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend [25M] admits to watching porn daily. I'm not sure how to deal with this.", "post": "This happened about 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend admitted to watching porn very frequently. Our sex life is great, we're really open with each other and up until recently, I thought we were both on the same page about porn (neither of us care for it). \n\nI'm most upset that he lied to me about watching it, but I'm also upset that he doesn't come to me when he's feeling horny. He said he doesn't want to be disrespectful by asking me for pics, but I love to dress up all sexy for him. \n\nNow I'm usually a pretty confident gal (despite knowing that I'm not the most attractive person), but this has absolutely destroyed me. I don't want to get naked in front of him now, as I'm afraid he'll be thinking of someone else (which was never a problem for me before). I feel like I'm just the girl he has sex with, and not the girl of his wildest, sexy dreams. If he really thought I was that attractive (which he only says when I ask if he thinks so), then why turn to porn?? \n\nI told him how he feels and he got mad at me. I don't want to be the kind of girlfriend to tell him what to do, and I never have \n\nHelp me feel okay with myself", "summary": "Boyfriend watches lots of porn, I feel worthless (as far as looks go),  help me be okay with this! :'("}
{"id": "t3_4nufou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 F] with my crush [15 M], am I oblivious or friendzoned?", "post": "Just to start off, yes I know I'm only 15, this probably sounds ridiculous. But it's taking up SO much of my mind so... I gotta get it out somehow.\n\nOk, so, there's this guy that I happen to have a huge crush on. Like... huge. My heart hurts for him tbh. We met at school in HPE class during a dance unit, so we've been thrown in pretty close to each other from the start. Slow dancing and all that. Boy, if I could do that again.\n\nWe've skype called and played various games on steam a few times and we talk on facebook messenger quite a bit, and we make each other laugh heaps, there's never any awkwardness between us. We enjoy each other's company! Yay.\n\nNow, here's the real bit: last night, him and I were on a video call late at night, just chilling. It lasted for about three hours but somewhere in the first half hour, his shirt came off. Imagine my surprise/trying to cover myself blushing like an idiot.  And he started doing stuff like he got out a sword that he owns (weeeeeeb) and was doing some stereotypical anime poses and stuff, shirtless, and I'm just trying to conceal my face. He played me some stuff on guitar (to which I joked about him serenading me) and just went with it. There was, as per true teenager brain-ness, some good ol' sexual innuendo thrown in there.\n\nNow, I have no idea what the hell any of this means. Am I oblivious, is there a tiny possibly that he likes me? Or am I just one of the lads, eternally friendzoned :^( I have no idea what taking your shirt off in front of a chick even means. There was so no reason for it. He was open and relaxed and warm and... yeah. I could go on for years.\n\nWhat do you think reddit? Should I make a move on this boy?", "summary": "Boy and I video called and he was shirtless and everything was warm and, dare I say, sorta.. romantic. To me :') To make a move or to not make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_3lrlbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [21F] (Dating 1 year, 1 month into a temporary 4 month LDR). We talk every day, and our calls go 99% well but about half of them turn very sour in the last minute.", "post": "I don't really know how to fully explain this, but ever since we started our LDR (I had to go for school for one last semester in another city), she has changed slightly. We always have good conversations throughout the day, greet with good morning/good night texts, and remain as sexual as possible with skype sex. But around half of our calls will end with her giving me the \"yeah, whatever, I'll talk to you another day\". This could be in the last minute of an otherwise great and loving hour-long call. It's really beginning to piss me off. I literally have no idea what I could be doing and am convincing myself it's some manipulation tactic for some weird reason. I've tried talking to her about it and she just give me more \"Yeah whatever\". I've stressed that we have to keep open about any issues we have because our relationship is pretty verbal (as with all LDRs). I'm getting increasingly frustrated at this and she's doing nothing to change it, it just seems to be getting more frequent. \n\nAny suggestions on getting this to stop? I think she gave me the \"yeah, whatever\" once during our entire year together and it was when I actually screwed up and I knew it. This time I have no idea what I'm doing. She doesn't seem open to talking at all.", "summary": "in a temporary LDR, half our calls end with some psuedo silent treatment for unexplained reasons. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11ikd9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M 22] drifting away from my first relationship [F 21] and I don't know if I can fix it...", "post": "I'm in my first relationship with a person that I know for about 3 years and we where really good friends before the relationship. We are about 2 months in the relationship and I got some concerning news from her. She told me that she is starting to lose her enthusiasm for me and that she doesn't know if I can do anything to fix this issue. She also said that she believed that things would turn out a certain way but they didn't. She is quite experienced with relationships so she probably knows what she wants and how she feels. She also mentioned that there is no passion in the relationship and that I don't tell her what I want and what I like(though I think I've told her a couple of times).\n\nAfter she told me all that stuff I fell in a depressive state and I blame myself for everything. I can't think clear anymore. I never realized that she had these kind of problems with me. The sex was good, we went out and had a good time but after she told me I can see it in her eyes that something is missing. \n\nWhen we started the relationship we said that we will see where this will lead us, if it doesn't work out we will just continue to be friends like we used to. Now that I see that we might break up I don't think that I can see her the same way I used to. I was never in such a bad psychological state. How will I see her if we break up?\n\nSo what do you think? Is there anything that I can do or is it over? Can I make her feel excited about me again?", "summary": "I don't know if I can revive my first relationship. Is it over?"}
{"id": "t3_2nt67g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you know when the relationship is over?", "post": "My wife [29F] and I [30M] have been married for 7.5 years and we were together for 4 years before that. We were great while we dated but problems started to develop after we got married. Partially bedroom stuff and partially emotional stuff.\n\nI tend to be emotionally detached. I just had a difficult childhood and learned to cope that way. I tend to keep people at arm's distance and I find it difficult to share and express my thoughts and emotions. I do get a lot of my emotional attachment to through physical affection though.\n\nShe is an emotional person and thrives on that connection. She feels, rightly, that I don't share my emotions with her. Unfortunately, she doesn't feel physically connected without the emotional part.\n\nWhich leaves us in a catch-22.\n\nThere's so much more to it all, but I guess I'm just wondering if anyone can give me insight into how to tell if a relationship is salvageable or not. I want to believe that we can overcome these things, but I don't know if we can.", "summary": "Wife and I struggle to connect. How do you know it's beyond repair?"}
{"id": "t3_2qzewu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27/F] is destroying my life!", "post": "Iam a 27 years old girl ho has never been on a relationship for more than 9 months. I am the kind of girl who gets lots of attention of guys, so to get them is not the problem. Luckily, every time I like a guy, he likes me back, and I am not just thinking about physical attraction, I really like smart guys. This year was the worst. I dumped 3 handsome, tender and intelligent guys out of nothing. If I had a small problem, I would end up the relationship. The last one was just yesterday, and Ive been crying my ass off because now I can see that I am the one who has the problem. What can I do?\nThanks!", "summary": "I cant have long term relationships because I break them due to insecurity"}
{"id": "t3_uo4bf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thinking of making my own bead curtain, suggestions?", "post": "I want to make a Great Gatsby bead curtain, and I calculated it to be about 11K beads. My calculations put it at about 126 tall by 87 wide. I was wondering if there was any place online I could by beads and the thread (I'm not sure what kind of thread would be best, do you?) online for cheap. The beads of course will be mostly blue, and I'll need to buy those in bulk. Also, the beads will need to be a certain size so that it actually fits the doorframe, which I am unsure of the dimensions but assume it will be normal doorframe size. It would be best to make the curtain a bit short rather than too tall of course. Any help in my idea?", "summary": "I want to make a bead curtain for my door and need to know where to buy the materials in bulk for cheap"}
{"id": "t3_ihdwz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Received a reckless driving ticket in VA, could anyone offer some advice?", "post": "So a week ago I was traveling through VA when I received a reckless driving ticket for exceeding 80 mph. I was doing 81/70, moving with the flow of traffic when I was pulled over. I'm a NJ resident, so I asked the officer if it was going to be mandatory court and he said no, but the ticket does not reflect that. \n\nHas anyone else here dealt with this? As I understand reckless is a misdemeanor in VA, and can be very costly and follow you around for awhile. Is it worth it to get a lawyer? or is the court going to tell me I'm beat?", "summary": "VA screwed me over with a reckless speeding ticket and I want to know if i should get a lawyer"}
{"id": "t3_1b8bgw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] So I try to get all my friends hooked up with girls they like. My best friend hooked up with the ONE girl I wanted. Where do I go now?", "post": "I'd say I'm fairly passive but I know when to look for signs and act on them. I feel like sometimes I can read a girls minds, and I've been able to get my extremely awkward friends out of their shell and into the arms of others. I had one rule, a girl that I liked (my pal knew this) and decided he wanted her. Should I still be friends? Bros before hoes? Should I be mad at the girl? She knew how I felt about her, and knew we've been buddies **forever.** So how do I move on? Do I keep pursuing, or find a new girl. I feel really lost, and some what empty. For some reason it's incredibly hard for me to create a spark with a girl. No one seems to be compatible.", "summary": "I'm generally open minded, I've passed up opportunities for my friends but I've never actually kissed a girl... My friend takes the one girl I feel like I can connect with. "}
{"id": "t3_1xmmxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my roommate [31 M] of six months, language and cultural barriers are preventing effective communication and as a result, the situation is escalating", "post": "I am having ordinary roommate issues (e.g., dishes, cleaning). I am the first to admit that I got complacent about pulling my weight around the house and that this issue needed to be addressed.\n\nThe problem is we have a complete inability to communicate effectively. I am an American and he is French, and we are living in California and attending our local university. \n\nWhen we discuss an issue, I feel like I am being talked down upon. I dislike that he interrupts, raises his voice, uses *you* statements to place blame, etc. It feels like an unsafe space for me to speak my mind. Every time I request that he stop speaking to me with condoscending tone, he insists that he is absolutely not. \n\n**I meant to ask this as a question in my title: Is this just an example of a language and cultural barrier?**\n\nFeeling that it was an unsafe space, I avoided interacting with him for a few days in order to give him time to calm down. Unfortunately this escalated the situation because now he is personally insulting me, for example, calling me schizophrenic because I remind him of his schizophrenic ex-girlfriend. \n\nThanks so much for any advice/insight you can provide...", "summary": "American living with French person, why do I feel like I am being shit on every time we talk, and now he is insulting me."}
{"id": "t3_3cenzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my ex girlfriend [20 F] dated throughout highschool and I broke it off before college. One year later I miss her more than anything.", "post": "Like the title said, my high school girlfriend and I broke it off before college. We were going to colleges 2 hours apart. She took it really rough. However, we couldn't bring ourselves to cut off communication, so we still talked over text. \n\nI go to a big state school, and over the course of the year I have trouble making friends, and have even less luck on the dating scene. She meanwhile goes to a small Christian school and makes tons of friends. \n\nShe copes with us breaking up by trying new things and making new friends, effectively distracting her.\n\nI focus on my studies.\n\nAround February I tell her I'd like to get back together, but she says she's\"keeping her options open.\"\n\nFor the rest of the school year I'm on her hook, talking to her every day. \n\nSummer roles around and things between us begin to heat up. We make out, we go on long walks. I realize things were moving too fast, but I was just happy I was with her. She says she would be open to going on a date. \n\nA week later I ask her on a date, but she says she wants to stay friends. I ask her why and she says she doesn't have time for a relationship between her four jobs. \n\nAnother week passes and she's with another guy. According to her, \"her feeling changed.\" And \"she looks for other things in guys.\" She also wants to stay friends, but it's not the same. \n\nWe used to have long conversations, and poke fun at each other, now she's distant and condescending in our chats.\n\nNow I feel heartbroken. I can't eat and can't stop thinking of her. I realize this is all my fault, and that makes me feel even shittier. I guess this is just me getting what I deserve. I just want to move on now. But I still love her.\n\nI should also add that my friends from High school have very different interests now, and are pretty distant too. I feel like I have no one to turn to.", "summary": "Broke up with HS girlfriend. A year later she finds a new guy and I still love her. How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_j6dkb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fellow 20-somethings who are struggling to get by and are scared for the future:  at what point do we stop pretending it's okay to get fucked in the ass by politicians just because we aren't saying \"No\" as loud as the Tea Party is saying \"I bet you can squeal like a pig. Weeeeeeee!\"", "post": "I'm sorry, but I simply cannot take it any more.  I am 23, and in grad school.  I happen to be one of the lucky ones, though.  For now.  I am in the physical sciences, and we are unionized so I have a salary that I can live off of.  For now.  But I eventually have to face the real world, and I have over $30K in debt that is just waiting for the day I have been out of grad school for 6 months (For now).  I have lots of friends in other fields though that are scared shitless.  **What the fuck are we *doing*?**  \n\nWhy are we spending all of our money on a global war against all scary things that have valuable stuff?  Why do I have friends who actively avoid going to the doctor because they don't have insurance and just don't want to deal with all of the red tape?  Why is methamphetamine prescribed by doctors in a controlled way to people who need it, but marijuana is held back in almost every state even though it is the best thing for millions of sick people and it would be the most *ridiculous cash crop of all time*?  Why can't a business just be subject to such simple constraints as fucking being honest about the product they make and cleaning up after themselves?  Why have we deteriorated as a free people to such an extent that we currently allow laws to exist in some areas which call for fucking jail time for filming a cop beating the shit out of someone senselessly?  Can we please start figuring out what to do about all of this shit?  It's our mess to inherit.  It's fucked up, but it's what we've got to work with now.", "summary": "It's just a rant about all of the shit you already know.  Let's just brainstorm already."}
{"id": "t3_3pl1u1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20f) have been dating my bf (25m) exclusively for 18 months and he still hasn't introduced me to his parents?", "post": "My boyfriend met my father and sister in june, upon my request (he didn't ask to meet them, was even a bit hesitant). I have not met any of his immediate family, just his cousin who is near me age. \n\nI don't understand what he's waiting for. He has a good relationship with his mom and sisters, it's not like he comes from an abusive family that he wants to hide. They all live in our city, too, so it's not a matter of having to travel far away.\n\nHe talked about how his sister took her bf of two months to one of their family dinners, so I don't think they're super weird or anything about introducing people like that. He also said he wants me to meet his little sister because he wants to \"show her that cool girls are in STEM too\", not necessarily because I'm his gf... But he hasn't made an effort to set anything up either way.\n\nAm I over thinking this? I've asked him about it, and he said it would make our relationship really serious, but I don't understand that because we have been exclusively dating for so long, say I love you's, take trips together, and I know he's not talking to other girls. He's my first boyfriend and I don't know how these things are supposed to be, if this is normal, etc...", "summary": "My boyfriend hasn't introduced me to his parents or sisters in the 18 months that we've been dating. There's no real excuse for him to have not done it already, and he's met my dad and sister. Is that a bad sign? My first relationship, idk how it works"}
{"id": "t3_1wkor4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I stop being so damn awkward?!!!", "post": "I really like this guy...I hardly know him but we both work at a school. \nI don't even know if he's single, but I always try to ask about his weekend or if he has any fun plans...he never mentions a girlfriend, but even so he could still be taken. \n\nWhen we first met, I instantly liked him just because of the way he carried himself and how kind and caring he seemed. Genuine people like that in my life are really hard to find. I also hear things about him from students, and he's in the school newspaper a bunch so I'm always reading these amazing things about him. However, I could go weeks and not see him, just due to the nature of our jobs. But when I do see him, I feel so awkward. I blow it. I ask questions about things pertaining to the school or whatever, but I can't muster up the courage to ask him to hang out outside of school or anything...today was the worst....I ran into him but he was across the hall and we waved and he asked how it was going and I very shyly muttered...\"uh its okay...\" and then he walked by and I felt like I should have said more and DIDN'T. \n\nThen I ran into him again and I realized he was about to say something but I in my awkwardness basically opened my mouth the same time he did and I stalled, and then he smiled and let me say what I was going to say and I just came up with some BS thing to ask him about something kind of work related...but he was really friendly about it and we talked for a good minute, but ugh I really wondered what HE was going to say had I not basically cut him off. \n\nHow can I stop being so awkward every time I see him?!", "summary": "I'm really awkward around a guy I like-I hardly see him but when I do I feel like I blow it with my awkwardness. How can I stop being so awkward?!"}
{"id": "t3_2vdxkj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friendship Question: Me (21/M) having trouble with new friend (28/M)", "post": "I am currently on exchange in North America from Europe (the details are not important), and living in a dorm near the university. In one of my classes, there is this guy who I believed would be a cool acquaintance (similar interests), and found out he lived in the same dorm as me when I met him by accident in the hallways. We got along quite well and talked a lot, despite some large differences in personality.\n\nHowever, after these first couple of weeks, I am starting to get really unnerved. He is very loud, talks a lot about himself, does not really take the emotional temperature of a room before blurting something out, is terrible at listening in most situations, is pretty male chauvinistic (we basically cannot encounter a single girl without it being followed by a detailed account of how attractive he finds her), makes the same jokes again and again, even ones I have tried to hint at I don't think are funny, just obnoxious.\n\nDon't get me wrong, he is in many ways a cool guy, and I mostly enjoy his company, but already, the bad detracts so much from the good. He tends to drop by my room every day unannounced and loudly proclaim his arrival. I am a pretty low-key individual and need time alone now and then, and even minor things like this can really stress me out and throw me off when it happens so often. He is a pretty boisterous person, and has flung himself pretty much into my daily schedule before I even noticed. Like I said, I enjoy his company, but not in excess - and excess seems to come completely unprovoked.\n\nI am currently just extremely worried whether or not this will escalate and that I will end up having a shitty semester because of the enormous energy this relationship would require, and because it might block off other potential friendships by the time and effort required. I honestly do not particularly like hanging out with him when there are others around, as he tends to dominate the conversation from the start and presume to speak on my behalf in many areas. I can't deal with that. I don't wanna alienate the guy. Bottom line is, I like him, but not to the extent he seems to presume already.", "summary": "Is on exchange, meets guy in dorm, he seems good guy, finds out many aspects of his personality stress me out or make me uncomfortable, still want to hang, but not to the extent he wants."}
{"id": "t3_22evvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/] with my S/O [18M/F] 8 months I'm actually a jealous boyfriend but my girlfriend doesn't know.", "post": "I have a serious jealousy problem. On one hand I want to be the non jealous confident boyfriend which I act out infront of my girlfriend but deep inside I'm actually jealous and I have a serious issue. Firstly I find it uncomfortable for example when my girlfriend likes other guy's instagram pictures I don't know why. It just bugs me and I get quite moody about it and I don't feel like talking to her properly for a bit. But this goes away. I know it sucks having a jealous Significant other which is why I keep it to myself. I don't want to ruin the image of me being a confident boyfriend which is why I dont tell her.  Please help. I want to be a better person. :(", "summary": "jealous boyfriend wont tell girlfriend I am jealous."}
{"id": "t3_3bgzkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] love interest [22F] has found a new crush, should I give up on her right away or what do I do?", "post": "Known her for 5 months, crushed on her for 4 months and revealed mutual feelings for each other after 2, but couldn't commit because of our situations. The last 2 months, in my eyes, we've come quite far and I thought we were finally getting into a decent spot where a relationship could actually start.\n\nObviously she sees it differently because she has a new \"crush\". She started acting weird, using her Whatsapp at a certain point in the middle of the night every night and a few others things that I picked up on - eventually I asked her if she had a thing for a certain guy I knew about and she told me yeah. He's abroad at the moment but they've been talking for 3 weeks and she feels \"swept off her feet\".\n\nHer and I are still in constant contact (texting) and we're still super friendly + quite flirty - things haven't really changed, except I notice she's distant sometimes (obviously when she's talking to this guy).\n\nNaturally I'm hurt because it came as a shock. She hadn't bothered to tell me she no longer saw me as a potential partner (if she no longer does that is) so I've been sat here head over heels for her while she has her eye on someone else.\n\nDo I drop things right now, or should I be playing it cool and hoping she sees a future with me? As I said things haven't changed between us for the most part, and I know for sure nothing has happened between her and this guy (nor can they for quite a while). Haven't really been in this situation before so I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "My love interest has evidently lost a lot of interest in me and has taken a liking to a new guy. Do I cut \"us\" off right away or play it out and see what happens?"}
{"id": "t3_ierfz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, am I right to be rally pissed off right now?", "post": "I've been going through some really tough times lately (death in my immediate family) and have been feeling pretty down, and I've only been feeling worse since my friends have been few and far between. Naturally, I was pretty pumped to hear that one of my college buddies was going to be in town for the week. We made a plan to hang out one night, but on the night he never shows. I try contacting him a few times, but he doesn't respond. Later that night, he sends a text saying he got \"caught up in something.\" I was kind of pissed, but I decided to let it go. I text him a couple times to see if he wants to reschedule, but I never hear back from him. Seeing as how he can be kind of spotty with checking his phone, I decide to let that go too, and write him a message on Facebook. He just ignores it. There's no way he missed it since hes's definitely been on Facebook since I wrote it.\n\nI'm pretty pissed off that this guy would just bail on our plans without so much as a text to inform me, and then ignore every attempt I've made to contact him since, especially considering what I've been going through lately. I'm beginning to question whether he is much of a \"friend\" at all, and could really use some advice.", "summary": "My friend ditches plans to hang out, and has been ignoring all my attempts to contact him."}
{"id": "t3_p4tpc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can credit card companies do anything to me if I don't pay?", "post": "First of all, I'm not looking for a moral lesson here. I just want some information to base some decisions of off.\n\nI have way more credit card debt than I can afford to pay at the moment (33,000). This amounts to about R$ 1.389,98 (800 USD) a month.\n\nI have tried numerous times to call and lower rates, etc etc etc. They just won't have it.\n\nThe more I pay, the more they lower my limits, so my utilization is basically fucked (98%)\n\nIt'll take me about 5 years to pay all this off. and in the meantime, my credit score is shit because of the high utilization (never missed a payment, no delinquent accounts yet, etc etc. Just high revolving rate with low income and high utilization.\n\nIf I stop paying now and let it go to collections, let's say I settle for 30% of the amount at 1/4 of the interest or half the interest. How long will that stay in my credit report?\n\nReason I ask is that this will take 5 years of extreme work for me to pay off, whereas a collection deal will be much faster, and cheaper monthly for me. If it'll take 10 years to clear, that's fine.\n\nWhat can they do to me if I don't pay and let it go to collections? \n\nCan I just let it go to collections and then settle or can they dock my paychecks or anything like that?\n\nI'm not too worried about assets because since I don't currently live in the US I have no assets at all there. I do plan to return the US and I don't want that to be destroyed by some court ruling that they can take 30% of my paycheck or something like that", "summary": "I have a lot of CC Debt, can the CC companies take my money or are they SOL and have to settle with me?"}
{"id": "t3_2yxw6j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently admitting to my entire class that I had a tiny penis", "post": "So there we were in the middle of 5th grade lunch. My friends and I were discussing the mornings gym class activities when one of my friends \"Mike\" says \"I hate when my balls get stuck to the sides of my legs after I sweat\". We laughed, we giggled, we all went on eating our snack packs. About 2 minutes later I opened my big mouth and said \" Yea, and don't you hate when your dick does inside of you\" ? \n\nDead Silence ensued .... Crickets ... A moth farted trying to escape through the window and I swear I could hear it...\n\nEveryone bursts out laughing and immediately I knew that this was not the norm for most people. I tried playing it off as a joke but the damage was already done. By three o'clock the entire elementary school had given me the nickname \"Tiny Tim\". Traumatizing at the time but only lasted a few weeks. \n\nTurns out that besides having a small pecker, I was also never circumcised. I'm assuming this was because the doctor was an older gentleman and left his magnifying glass on his dresser(joke) Well the result (until puberty) was a strange little push button looking thing in my underpants. \n\nAll is well today. I hit puberty and my jimmy john is of normal size. Got myself circumcised right before my senior year in high school and am happily engaged. So don't shed a tear for me...", "summary": "Casual conversation turned into me admitting that my penis goes inside of me to my classmates"}
{"id": "t3_ohgmk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents are threatening to kick me out of the house, is there any advice you can give me reddit?", "post": "Im 22 and I only work part time as a bank teller. I started to go exercising in preparation for the police exam so I go to the gym for about an hour every day after work. Yesterday was my 2nd day I started after coming home from exercising my mom asked me how long I exercised. I told her I did it for 55 minutes, then she gives me a weird look and goes away. She comes to my room a few minutes later and starts saying how disappointed she is in me over this. She says she thought I was only exercising for only 15 minutes when I made it clear to her I did 55 minutes. \n\nEven then shes still annoyed and says why I didnt exercise for an hour and it starts to turn into a pissing match. Then she crosses the line and tells me to just fuckin move out. \n\nToday, I try to talk to me dad and he seems ticked about me yelling at my mom over this. I try to explain the situation to him but then he just shrugs it off and starts pointing out my own issues for being lazy and also for yelling at my mom. I keep trying to tell him how its her own fault she cant tell the different between 50 minutes and 15 minutes and then he starts getting mad. He just now told me to move out of the house too.", "summary": "my parents are kicking me out of the house for not doing 10 minutes more of exercise."}
{"id": "t3_issz0", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Is this pain normal and what should I do?", "post": "I had old running shoes and was still running, so I went and got a good pair (had my foot measured and checked to make sure I got the right ones for me). Since then, I have ran two time, my knee pain went away, however I am still getting a pain in my shin. It is in the front of my shin, and only hurts for the first quarter mile then it is gone and I enjoy the run. Is this normal? Is it dangerous for me to keep running like this?? I hope not b/c I am so happy to be running again. I do not have any pain walking, before or after the run either.", "summary": "shin pain in first .25 mile of run, then nothing.... is this dangerous? what do I do to make it stop?"}
{"id": "t3_3xw80o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] hate my partner's [29 M] family", "post": "My boyfriend & I have been together for 5 years. His family are rude to me & have no respect. I turned the other cheek before we had our child but now I'm fed up.\n\nI don't like the way they speak to our son, they undermine me as a parent and they constantly belittle me. They always put me down and make snide remarks. They have no manners and I don't want our son growing with the same attitude. I have been nothing but nice, polite and chatty... but it hasn't changed anything!\n\nI tried to tell my boyfriend several times that it bothers me but he won't stand up for me. I do attempt to stand up for myself but they all gang up on me (he has three sisters and a mum) and my partner turns a blind eye. He claims \"he doesn't want to get involved\" \n\nNeed advice on how to approach this situation? Thanks for reading, I'd appreciate any help!", "summary": "My bf family are rude to me... spoke to him and nothing has changed, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hqi8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update][Update]Me [22M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 2,5Years - Can't break up, 3X failed [Parents against me]", "post": "Update from: \n\n> My girlfriend I have been trying to break up  with left abroad to study (she was on vacations).\n\n> Tried to leave her while she was still here, even though grandfather got ill and may die\n\n> Fail 3X, she couldn't handle\n\n> Breaking up while she is there not a option, she is alone, no friends (#shitstorm)\n\n> Easier if she decides to leave me (less shame for her and her family) (chinese values maybe)\n\n> Can't stand this situation anymore...I would be a bad person if I break all contact, ignore her emails, messages, etc? (will not cheat on her)", "summary": "3X Failed, ignoring is a strategy worth taking?"}
{"id": "t3_24hjwo", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "First time cat owner; question about shedding", "post": "About six months ago I adopted a cat. He's about 7 years old and came from a good home, so he was always well taken care of. I know cats are furry little creatures, but I'm worried that even though it is springtime, he might be shedding too much. My girlfriend commented that his coat doesn't look very healthy, and I agree it does look a bit \"dry,\" kind of like when a girl grabs a handfull of her hair and you can see the split ends and such at the tip. Yesterday I bought him 9 Lives food for healthy coats and I'm hoping that will help, despite having heard some negative things about dry food. That's all he has ever eaten, and I know nothing about wet food except that it's pricey. Anyhow, the biggest issue is that though his coat looks full, my apartment is coated with enough fur to make a second cat and I'm concerned this isn't normal. He likes to sleep by me at night and the spot beside my pillow is covered in fur, as is everything else. I do brush him every day (most days) and upon cleaning the brush I usually get about maybe a golf ball sized amount of hair off it. Sorry for writing such a long story to ask such a basic question but I figured the more information I provide you pet experts the better!", "summary": "what is the normal amount of shedding for a cat in the springtime, how can I know if my fluffers is shedding too much, and what can I do to make his coat healthier? "}
{"id": "t3_4ald1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31 M] Found out my gf [30 F] has had an emotional affair for at least a year. I am no saint. What do i do?", "post": "I want to keep this brief. My g/f and I have been dating for on/off 5 years. The theme in our relationship is she wants to get married and I feel not ready.  Recently we have come to an agreement of a long engagement that seems fair. I want to say that 90% of the time we are fine. \n\nSex lately has been very infrequent and it's more my fault then hers. I've been depressed about a lot but she's been nagging and it's not attractive. \n\nI found on her FB messages that are flirty between her and this scummy guy i know of through friends. Seems she's sent pics and they've met up twice. Once while I was burying my grandfather. \n\nI myself am no saint. This is important to note. I've been guilty of the same/worse. I honestly believe our generation and beyond has to accept a certain amount of infidelity due to technology making everyone so perfect and available. Throw your stones but this is just so you know I'm not making myself out to be a victim here. \n\n I know I'm a hypocrite but it still hurts. Not sure if I should stay or go. \n\nI'm throwing myself at the mercy of Reddit here. What should I do?\n\nConfront her? Confront her and come clean myself? Accept that we're both shitty? Is there any way this can work? Really looking to just talk this out with anyone who will listen.", "summary": "Caught my g/f cheating on her fb messages. I have also done this but haven't been caught. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_u5gre", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the last reason you called 911?", "post": "I just called 911 a couple days ago as I was driving down the interstate. I saw a car pulled over on the shoulder with the trunk open, a man standing outside the car, and what looked to be another man on his back under the front right wheel. I told the operator that someone may have gotten hit by a car on the interstate, so they undoubtedly sent scores of ambulances to the scene. Only when I made it back to my SO's house and recounted the story did he suggest that the person under the wheel may have been doing work on the car. Needless to say, everything made sense in retrospect. The trunk had tools inside. The man was on the phone with AAA, while the man on the ground must've been fixing something.", "summary": "I called 911 on someone working on their car thinking they had gotten run over. Why did you last call 911?"}
{"id": "t3_497g3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my parents [50'sM+F] want me to go to America (I'm from Australia) with them to visit my sister [24F] and her husband [25M]. I have depression, and it's difficult to do simple tasks, let alone fly across the world. How do I tell them?", "post": "My sister has lived in America for about 5 years and it has been quite a long time since I have seen her. My parents want me to go over with them so we can all become a family once again. I however, do not feel mentally stable enough to want to travel.\n\nI can't look at myself in the mirror without having a panic attack and hating myself more so then what I do now. I also have emetophobia, (fear of vomiting) which will peak my anxiety being on a closed plane with other people, eating different foods, not being in a safe place in my room etc. Among with some other personal problems within myself. \n\nMy family does not understand why I would not want to go, and I don't know how to tell them. Keep in mind, it is not that easy to just come out and say ''I feel too depressed to go, I am sorry''. This is a very difficult subject to bring up to anyone, let alone my family. I don't know where I can get the courage to explain this to them. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "My parents want me to visit my sister in America. I feel I am not mentally stable enough to visit her, due to depression, emetophobia. How do i tell my family this?"}
{"id": "t3_3hh9xz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22f) not sure how to handle bf (28m) of 2~ years. Any advice please.", "post": "So heres the deal, ive been with this guy for about 2 1/2 years. And I'm not sure if its bc of the lies we've told each other, or the fights we've had or what, but now every time we get in an argument or I wanna talk about something he lashes out and says the most hurtful things to me. I didn't give the best start to this, but the title says our ages, and we met online. We've both suffered from depression that's seasonal and ive felt my depression come back (I haven't told him). \n\nWe met on OkCupid, and he was everything I could've ever wanted in a partner. We hit it off immediately and I fell in love hard. This was about more than a year after breaking things off with my ex fianc\u00e9 who cheated on me. I patched some things back and decided I could go back and look for love, that I had made a mistake. Thinking about how perfect things were with him at the time makes me sad to no end, because I see how we are now. \n\nIve battled with insecurities my ex instilled but before dating my current boyfriend I got rid of a LARGE chunk of them, not to say I don't still have quite a few, but I'm better than I used to be. It just seems every fight we have now causes him to block me or tell me to fuck off, something to avoid talking to me, and it isn't just when hes at work. We've both lied to each other but never have we been unfaithful. So idk what to do about this :( we were so close and just when I think everything is ok I get blindsided and boom, another issue. I don't wanna end this I love him, but is love enough for him to even want to see me? Is love ever enough to keep something going? Help me Reddit.", "summary": "boyfriend and I were happy and now it seems we're drifting apart. Not sure what to feel."}
{"id": "t3_17myql", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He's lost motivation and I can't help - I only make it worse", "post": "My partner has lost motivation for his work. He works as a contracting designer and he just has absolutely no motivation to get stuff done. So bad that 2 months in a row his main contractor (and only - almost like en employer) has just flat out refused to pay him on grounds of doing no work.\n\nThis is even to the point where he is delusional about how much work he does. For instance, the other day he was working in my office and he spent about 2 hours doing work and spent the rest of the day on reddit, insisting that he had done enough work and would have enough time to complete the project the next day.\n\nAdditionally, he had a project on and I asked him how many hours he had spent, and he was insistant that it had been a full week of work, but because we work in the same office some days (and had been for the whole week) I knew he had spend a maximum of 1 day and a half on it - in small parts each day.\n\nHe seems to be depressed and over his work, but also a little delusional about how much he actually does. He insists on working from home most days which I worry contributes to this lack of work with nobody monitoring him.\n\nEverytime I mention something I am the bad guy, and \"don't know how hard he works\". He often turns it against me by saying I only bring it up when I'm drunk and never listen to him - although I feel I bring it up a lot more often when I'm sober, but for sure it pisses him off. (I drink maybe twice a fornight - but that's when he seems to bring up how unfair I am...)\n\nI'm worried for 2 reasons - \na) his wellbeing, could he be depressed?\nb) I am having to support us both on my own wages when he doesn't do enough to get his weekly pay from his main contractor.\n\nHow do I deal with this? He won't listen to me!!!", "summary": "Fiance/boyfriend is a freelancer and is recently completely unmotivated. Not sure what to do to help him keep momentum in his work to make sure he gets paid (so we can both get by)"}
{"id": "t3_1k3axw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'(m) 29 and my g(f) is 20 but...", "post": "We've just had our first baby together, I have 3 kids from a pervious marriage, but the relationship feels one sided. I just some hours at work so now I just work weekends and I take care of the baby when I'm not working. I also try to keep up the house and make sure she isn't doing to much on the 4 days a week she baby sits. However, the problem lies in the fact that she expects me to watch and care for our baby roughly 6 days a week and when she says she's going to take care of something because I \"do so much\", it never gets done and I end up having to do it. She never sleeps in the same bed as me, she either passes out on the couch or goes to bed when I get up. She also complains that we never have sex, but I just can't find the time. What do I do ?", "summary": "gf says she'll do things to help out but never does and wants sex when I'm to tired."}
{"id": "t3_1g7sr1", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Think before you drive like a douche", "post": "This was back when I was in my early 20s.\n\nWhile driving to the mall with a carload of friends, I was making a right turn to go into the main entrance of the mall.  Suddenly I have to slam on the brakes because a lady from oncoming traffic makes a sharp left turn cutting me off. I was shaking my head in stunned disbelief as she then proceeds to have the gall to flip me off. \n\nI'm guessing she's used to doing this kind of thing in traffic and then driving off. Pulling this kind of stunt while going into a parking lot though, is full on stupid.  \n\nSo instead of parking by the main entrance, I decide to just follow her car. I can tell she's getting nervous because after about a minute she has passed by several empty parking spots and started looking in her rearview mirror a lot. She eventually turns off to park in the upper parkade where nobody parks unless it's the holidays and it's packed.\n\nWhen she notices l'm still following her, she speeds up to get a little distance between us, slams it into a parking spot. Then she gets out with her arms in the air, while ducking her head repeatedly and starts running towards the mall doors yelling \"I'M SORRY! I'M SORRY! I'M SORRY!\" Lol.", "summary": "Douche cuts me off pulling into a parking lot, I follow them in my car until they panic and run away screaming."}
{"id": "t3_16qnh6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (M21) am thinking about asking out a coworker (F22), but I'm suddenly not so sure.", "post": "So long story short, I've been thinking about asking out a coworker for a while, and I figure that I'll ask her if she wants to do something simple like grab a drink after work some night. The problem is that I've been texting her over the last few days (she gave me her # a while back), and she randomly brought up ex boyfriends a little while ago (I had been talking about one of my friends being a dick to me earlier in the day). She told me pretty plainly that she likes being single, and I said something simple (\"don't get me started on ex's\"). My question is this - should I take this as a sign that she's not interested, or should I still ask her out? Part of me wanted to do something kind of cliche and stupid (i.e say \"I bet I could change your mind if you want to grab a drink with me sometime), but I don't really have the balls to even attempt something like that. It seems like we click really well with each other, and we definitely have similar personalities, and she seems like a very nice, caring, funny person.", "summary": "Coworker softly told me she likes being single, take it as rejection, or still ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_1qy2mg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/F] was left by my boyfriend [ 31/M] after 8.5 intense months, now he's 5,000 miles away and nothing feels real.", "post": "We were together almost 9 months. He was foreign and ultimately could not find himself here, in the USA. He went back to Turkey on Saturday, leaving me here alone. I wanted to marry him and now I don't think I will ever see his face again. We never missed a day of communication, now I haven't spoken with him since just before his plane departed.\n\n I can't believe he is gone. It doesn't feel real. I don't know how to grieve this loss. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I feel like I can't even breathe. I just want someone to talk to who is going through the same thing for support. I don't know what else to do to help myself. PM me if you want to talk this through together.", "summary": "Boyfriend left, is 5,000 miles away, I'm in shock and want someone to talk to. Please help me?"}
{"id": "t3_3h2rt9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend [21/F] lies behind my [21/M] back to another guy", "post": "My best friend is also my ex. We have a little bit of a rocky past, though we separated because we aren't in the same town very much. We are travelling abroad right now and we've talked numerous times about how we have potential to resume where we left off at some point. She also talks about another guy who she says is just her friend, though I know its more serious than that. \n\nIt's very hot where we are, enough that hydration is a very high priority. We were on a tour yesterday and we brought a couple water bottles that were filled with tap water (bad idea). The tap water sat for a while and ended up giving her mild food poisoning. From then on I made sure she had clean water and meds for her stomach to help make a quick recovery. This morning she asked me to go get water when the shops opened and I said of course and did it. \n\nLater I saw her messaging her 'friend' and saw several large paragraphs. She has told me she doesn't care if I read her messages but that I'd just be disappointed cause they flirt. \n\nI read her recent message and she tells the guy that it was my fault that she got poisoned (sort of true, though we both drank and only she got sick) and that I refused to by her drinks, she says i told her to just keep drinking tap water. I actually bought her 6-7 drinks. Then she says when she asked me to get water this morning I acted super annoyed. She told him I have no clue how to treat a woman. \n\nI feel like she just wanted to put me down to get him to tell her all the things he'd do for her if he were in my place.\n\nI just don't know what to do, I dont know if I can trust anything she says to me. When I got her water this morning she told me how nice I was for taking care of her. \n\nDo I tell her I saw? Or do I just keep doing the best I can and stop taking her seriously??", "summary": "girl I like puts me down to another guy behind my back yet treats me as if im doing everything right."}
{"id": "t3_4umplg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my Wife [29 F] of 2 years, moving to her country and how it has made me feel.", "post": "This is more of a rant/vent than advice. I know what I need to do. \nMy wife and I met in a third country where we were both working. We've been together for about 5 years. We moved to her country this year. \n\nI work from home and I'm feeling very isolated. She has a great family who I love and very close friends who are nice people. However, alot of them are not my kind of people. \n\nFor example, her friends' boyfriends (and their friends) are overwhelmingly conservative and most are at least slightly racist. All are incredibly small town. They are generally nice to me but would invariably not be if I actually told them my real thoughts about anything. \n\nHer family is great. We spend way too much time with them, however. Every time I talk to her mom, I see my wife in her a little more. There is resentment slowly building inside me, because I have no one else who I can be myself around and she only wants to engage with certain sides of me. \n\nThis isn't new but before I had people. I had people at work to talk to about TV and theories about shows (my wife doesn't do that ever.. like her mom she essentially only talks about certain things). I had friends to talk about personal things to. The only person I have for that here is my wife and I feel more and more that I can't tell her how I really feel.\n\nOk rant over. \n\nI know what I have to do. I have to make my own friends and find people who I like to be around. Restore some balance in my life. Any advice on how to do that in a new city?", "summary": "Moved to a new city and feel very isolated. Unsure how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_tekxt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I'm tired of being average, what can I do to become amazing?", "post": "I feel pretty average in most everything I do, I'm 21, male, I work an average desk job making lower than average pay to afford my average apartment and my average car. I play guitar, but honestly I'm not very good. I went to college for a bit, but got bored and couldn't settle on a major. I autocross, but I don't make enough money for my car to compete properly. I'm not great looking, but there are certainly uglier men than me out there. I live a pretty average existence, I go to work, come home, make dinner, do chores, work out, maybe hang with a friend, go to bed, rinse repeat. It really is the most average, drama free life I've ever heard of someone living.\n\nI see these amazing people in the world...amazing guitarists, producers, programmers, directors, billionaires and business men. People good with communicating with and connecting with others. people that walk into a club with 5 girls, and leave with 10. People that live in amazing penthouses in places like Manhattan or Sydney. As I grow older I realize a lot of these people aren't much older than me. What did they do right? What do I need to do to get to that level? I don't need to excel at everything, but I want to succeed at something. So, successful people of Reddit, what's your secret?", "summary": "I want to make money, fuck bitches, be recognized and be amazing. I'm tired of living life on auto pilot and I refuse to settle for mediocrity. But I have no idea what I need to do to get there. Help me obiwan!"}
{"id": "t3_1o70kp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] getting over loneliness", "post": "How do you stop the sinking feeling of loneliness? I have friends, I work a ton and enjoy the company of my coworkers. I have a girlfriend, although the relationship isn't the greatest, I don't really even think she likes me (we've been dating 2 years...). Basically just together because it's easier than not being together. But after work, I come home, go to the gym, and go to bed. Some weekends I'll go to happy hour with coworkers, and spend a day with the girlfriend. I have a supportive family, although they're many hours away so I don't seem them much. \n\nSo I guess it's not so much the company, but I just have this feeling of worthlessness and loneliness. I really want to have deep relationships with people, but I just don't. I guess it's just my personality or perspective on life, maybe boredom. I'm not really sure. Does anyone else feel like this? How do you combat it?", "summary": "How do you get past the feeling of loneliness?"}
{"id": "t3_3np2es", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] GF wont make it facebook official", "post": "We've been together for 4 months. I know this is really trivial and everyone knows I'm with my GF. I would just like to make it facebook official because I want to show the world my amazing GF. I want everyone to know. She says she doesn't want to do it because of privacy and I respect that. It also makes me think she wants to like hide me. I tried discussing it with her. It just makes me think because this day and age of social media when people don't do this its because they are ashamed of being with you or they have someone else.", "summary": "GF doesnt want to make it facebook official. Am I just being paranoid or am I being a douche for wanting this?"}
{"id": "t3_33odr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (24M) had sex with 4 ex-girlfriends, and I (22F) as a virgin can't get over it.", "post": "Hi guys, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and I've always known he wasn't a virgin and kind of tolerated this. However, I recently found out that he had sex with four girls total, two of them were long term relationships, and two were short term relationships. I don't know exactly why, but this hurts me a lot. I feel like he shared an extremely intimate thing with four other people, whereas he's the only person I've ever shared this with (we had sex a few months into the relationship). I guess I feel like it's not fair? I don't know. I know this isn't really rational, but I can't stop myself from being so sad about it.\n\nHow do I get over this?", "summary": "I was a virgin until my current boyfriend, but he's had sex with four ex-girlfriends. I'm not sure why I'm so sad about it. Help."}
{"id": "t3_13d28i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've got a very irrational request I'd like to ask you.", "post": "So to give some backstory, I woke up this morning to give my roommate a ride to work, we're both walking out to the car (I live in downtown Berkeley) on the side of the street. All I hear is a, \"Oh shit, dude...\" and I see a finger pointing, leading my eyes to the sight of broken glass all over the inside of my passengers seat. So in my head I'm just like... nice; because at first thought I had relief in knowing there really wasn't shit in my car. I mean, yeah, my stereo was gone; but other than that there was nothing else important in my car. He took like 2 dollars and a stereo, even my paycheck was just sitting in my back seat. So I wasn't too off set about the whole ordeal, so I drove my roommate to work. I get back and thought back to the night before. I had gotten In N Out with one of my friends and realized I put my wallet in the center console (no idea why I did this, it was fate I guess) after we had ordered from the drive thru. So this is the same night coincidentally someone decides to bust my window. At this point I started putting together the fact that my wallet had also been stolen. So I've done all the normal procedures like cancelling my cards and what not, but hilariously, my SS card was in my wallet. I'm still pretty young, so I don't have any credit, which is to my understanding the main reason my SSN would be a big deal. \n\nSo after all these facts, my city is very heavily surveillanced, at least this is what I've read on different apartments around my area. I'm wondering if I find out more specific details, like the specific time when the criminal tried using my card for public transportation, etc... If there is any way I can become somewhat of an amateur investigator and see if I can somehow catch this guy? All in all I realize this is pretty much futile, but I think it'd be a fun way to at least make myself feel like a badass tracking this dude down.", "summary": "Car was broken into, stereo and wallet stolen. All safety procedures taken, just curious on taking this into my own hands (as futile as it is) through a little self investigation. Any advice on how I can track this person down to at least psychologically make me feel like a badass in light of this event?"}
{"id": "t3_12j1hg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By destroying a birds mind", "post": "I was home alone and had some extra time. So my mind found out that Fapping would be a great idea, so I sat down and had some \"Me time\"... I was about to finish, but suddenly I saw something fly in the corner of my eye, it was a bird! I asked myself: how did that demon spawn get inside of my house in the first place? Anyways I had to let that poor animal out, so I had to stop fapping to let it out... My \"good feeling\" was ruined and the bird's mind was totally fucked up.", "summary": "Fapping, Bird saw me Fap, Ejaculation destroyed."}
{"id": "t3_gpr8c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I follow my interest or marketability?", "post": "Hello, I'm currently in first university right now in Canada, and I'm thinking about switching my major to physics. Physics has been my passion for a long time, and I can hardly see myself studying anything else(my parents are egging me to go to the medical field). Should I study what interests me? Or should I go for more realistic approach and study something that is more marketable? I read things like \"Don't become a scientist\" written by a professor, encouraging people to not go into science. Any Canadian scientists here who can provide me with a little perspective? Any feedback or insight will be appreciated :)", "summary": "the title"}
{"id": "t3_4g9wh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I found out my [25F] gamer BF [24M] has a crush on a female guildie", "post": "In my previous post \n\nI talked about how I was becoming jealous of my [25F] bf's relationship with one of his female guildies.\n\nI spoke to him calmly about it this morning and he told me that nothing was going on between the two of them. All was fine, we continued on with our day.\n\nAround 1PM, I ask my boyfriend to spend time together. At this point, I started to feel very irritated. At this point, he's been talking to this girl on-and-off since 5AM this morning! Doubly irritated when I see him talking on Skype with her...I thought they were just talking in the game together! That was until I see him inspecting a picture of a blonde girl on his screen. I got very upset and left the room.\n\nWhen he came to the room, my anger took a hold of me and I told him that I had a feeling he had a crush on this woman. He was silent. I kept asking and he basically admits everything is true. He said he's very sorry and wants to make things right. I feel really crushed right now. Honestly, I feel like some boundaries have been crossed. I don't even know what else has gone on between these two, or if anything. I feel angry as hell. Upset.", "summary": "I discovered my BF has a crush on this Australian blonde girl online, even though he said she's like a \"sister\" to him."}
{"id": "t3_3l3k9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] and girlfriend [18f] 4 months, Sudden upcoming urge to be single and/or find another girl?", "post": "Throw away just to be safe. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now, I actually live with her (have been for the past 4 months), we are very intimate (sex 2+ times a day), she goes to school, I have a job. Everything is for the most part perfect, we get into arguments, but who doesn't? I think I love her, I tell her I do. I've been unfaithful with her once with my ex in the first week of us dating, I have told her and she forgiven me. we have fun, I make her happy, she makes me happy, etc. \nFor the past couple of weeks, I've just had an urge to find some one else. I mean this is an amazing relationship, but it just feels boring now. I mean sex is great, her parents love me, they help me out a lot, and I mean I am in a situation where a lot of guys would LOVE to be, but I'm just not feeling it. Is this normal? I feel like there's nothing else to look forward to with her because we seem to have done so many things together, like multiple vacations, etc. We reached an extremely comfortable intimacy level together, we are comfortable being naked with each other while watching a movie, but I just feel stupid because I always see myself with another girl. Should I find a way to overcome the urge and focus on being happy with this relationship, or risk it and do what the urge says?", "summary": "In a happy relationship, but I have an urge to be with other girls."}
{"id": "t3_1j8eho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F20] in love with my best friend [M19] of 6 years, he sees me as a sister but I can barely hide my feelings around him.", "post": "So to not sound so pathetic, let me explain more. We were best friends in high school, and even then I had some feelings toward him but was too much of a coward to say anything. He would date other girls and I was fine with it, but I would voice my opinion when he was dating the craziest girl I had ever met. I never participated in the usual high school drama so I always tried to be the voice of reason when he would be going through a bad break up or was having relationship problems. \n\nWe've talked about it before, and that's how I know how he feels, but its causing me to compare every guy I talk to, too him. We're so close and have our billion inside jokes and I've yet to meet anyone I have that connection with besides him. He's admitted that he feels most like himself around me, but I don't understand why that means he doesn't want to be with me.\n\n I'm still at home, working full time and making my way while he is off at college. I keep telling myself to just wait for him to come around after he graduates or starts his own career. But should I still make an effort in the dating scene even though I have these feelings, knowing it will be hard to like anyone as much as I do him? I'm so confused Reddit, please help!", "summary": "I'm [F20] in love with my best friend [M19]. He's put me in the friendzone, I can't date others without comparing them to him."}
{"id": "t3_17sq9c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I am in BIG trouble. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.", "post": "Basically, I signed my friend's laundromat lease (for a number of reasons) and apparently there was an accident and the land in the vicinity is contaminated. Now, there is a good chance that I have to pay for the clean up which costs ~400k. \n\nThe thing is, my friend is very poor as of now because her company went bankrupt a while back and this laundromat is her only income. I am better off, but it kills me to pay for something that wasn't my fault.\nIs there any way around this? I have two properties in the US and the majority of my income is from a different country. I also have kids.", "summary": "signed friends laundromat lease, land got contaminated, have to pay 400k to clean up. "}
{"id": "t3_1pz0xj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most awkward bathroom you have ever been in?", "post": "One that just made you uncomfortable.  \nAt the high school that I went to, there was one bathroom that I always tried to avoid, but it was also the busiest. Anyway, you walk in, and there are the urinals dead straight ahead, in plain view of anyone walking past in the hall, no dividers. On the other side of the wall that the urinals were mounted on, were the toilets. Three of them, but with no stalls. Just incredibly short walls, that did not cover a person when they were on the toilet. When using them, you were on view for everyone to see.", "summary": "Toilets were right next to each other, with laughably short walls(Thigh height) for privacy."}
{"id": "t3_3s65b1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Bf (25/m) gets upset that I (~24/f) don't reply to all his little texts. What should I do?", "post": "Hey, so bf and I are long distance and text each other a lot throughout the day. I try my best to respond to all his texts. But whenever I forget or glance over one he gets upset that I'm not paying attention. I have always had a problem with being overwhelmed and don't always reply to his barrage of random little texts. However, this morning he had texted me that his roommate's dirty dishes were in the sink from the night before (he is ALWAYS complaining about the dishes). I didn't reply and instead told him I was very worried because my little bro tried to call me in the middle of the night (we rarely talk) and left a message saying something very creepy happened, that someone was in his apartment, and he needed to talk to me. But when I called my bro back his phone was off. I called my bf worried and bf said it's probably not a big deal and to wait awhile and call later.\n\nI finally got a hold of my bro who told me what had happened (evidently the guy was his roomy's coworker who wouldn't leave and was creeping in my bro's room touching all his music equipment). I told my bf my bro is okay and then bf said \"you never replied to my comment earlier.\" Idk what to say! I'm kind of irritated my bf is upset I didn't reply to the dirty dishes comment (which I don't care about his roommate's damn dishes). When I went to visit my bf earlier this year we were out and he looked very nervous and I asked what is wrong and he said he hoped his roomy had done the dishes....", "summary": "bf texts me more than i text him, sometimes about mundane things like the dishes piling in the sink. altho im making efforts to reply more, i forgot to today b/c i was very worried about my brother's safety, and now bf is mad i ignored his text."}
{"id": "t3_1m6kmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(19F) just started college and feel guilty about wanting/receiving attention from guys because I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (19M)", "post": "I'm a 19 year old girl and I started college a few weeks ago. I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, who is also 19, for almost 2 years. (We went to same high school but he's a grade ahead of me, and goes to a different college)\nHe's my first real boyfriend (aside from little 1 week flings in middle school and stuff) and I really do love him a lot and value our relationship. We have normal relationship squabbles but we generally get along great, I get to see him on school breaks and summers and we skype a lot. The thought of breaking up/losing him is so scary I can't even fully comprehend it.\n\nAnyway, as I said, I just entered college, and I've already made a few good friends, and they're all single and kinda boy crazy. We mostly just hang around talk about guys at our college/flirt. I've never been an especially flirty person but I've gotten more male attention in the past 3 weeks or so than I've had in years, and it makes me feel good. I've mentioned that I'm in a relationship and its on facebook and everything, but I still feel really weird about it. I feel guilty for flirting and wanting attention, and I know its bad, and if my boyfriend was doing the same thing as me, I'd be really upset, so I know I'm being a hypocrite. I don't think I would ever \"cheat\" on him, but even just doing this kind of stuff makes me feel like I'm being a little unfaithful, and its stuff I never would have imagined doing like a month ago.\nI know this is why people say going into college with a relationship is bad but I really love him and even though our LDR is difficult, its worth it to me. I guess I just want to know if other people have these feelings?  I'm afraid I'm getting onto a slippery slope with this.\n\n(xposted to r/longdistance)", "summary": "freshman in college already in a LDR. getting a lot of attention from guys and feel guilty about reciprocating but can't seem to stop."}
{"id": "t3_14mv2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] like my classmate [21F] I know for two months, make it nonverbally clear how I feel about her and get friendzoned. But I still have to see her every day. What do I do?", "post": "A little preface: I am 24 and had only two real relationships so far which didn't last long. I am generally more of an introvert and mostly a little awkward about intimacy stuff. I was recently reading /r/seduction a little and started to work on it.\n\nSo I am in grad school and with me is this girl which I really started to develop feelings for. I knew she liked me very much, too. So on Friday night we met at a friends to have some alcohol and play some games. Me and her slept over and ended up in the same bed. She started to spoon me a little. I didnt really have the balls to ask her how she feels about me, so I thought it would be a good idea to just start touching her a little more intimately. For example, I kept my arm around her waist for most of the night. She didn't really reciprocate but didn't complain either. I could tell when she was awake, though. \n\nThe next day she said it was a little weird and how she sees me more like a brother. So since I would like a more intimate (be it sexual or emotional, I'm not sure) relationship and she does not, I don't think it's worth spending as much time together as we did before. Unfortunately, I have to see her every day and since we're only 8 people in most courses avoidance is pretty much not possible. What to I do in such a situation? And is avoidance the only solution?", "summary": "I have more-than-friends interest in my classmate of 2 months. She said she loves me like a brother. Not cool, so I want to minimize contact but have to see her every day at university. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jnlp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is He [22 M] avoiding me [19 F]? I need advice.", "post": "Here is my last post about [this](\n\nSince the last post, everything has been okay between us. It's still the same, we are still figuring stuff out and spend time together and we still haven't gotten to a fight which is really great because we used to do that a lot before. \n\nBut there is one thing that is kind of bothering me but it might just be me overreacting or just him trying to test me to see if I'll freak out, since the last day we've been together he has been going out with his friends a lot. \n\nHe wakes up, talks to me for 10 minutes and then heads out he then comes home really late and barely speaks with me and goes to bed. Now repeat this for like 3 days straight. \n\nI don't actually mind him going out with his friends, don't get me wrong. And he is still talking to me very sweetly but I just have this feeling that he is avoiding talking to me? I don't know... \n\nOther than that, we are pretty stable at the moment. He was even the one that setted our last date instead of me which made me feel really wanted by him and okay. \n\nAnd I don't want to say anything to him because he'll think that I'm just trying to find every reason to pick fights with him (something I used to do in the past but I am trying to correct myself on that matter).", "summary": "I think he is avoiding me because he is always going out with his friends but he still talks very sweetly with me and isn't acting weird nor anything rather than that. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_29e0ja", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "\"One bite won't kill you\" [Rant]", "post": "I love my husband, but sometimes he really annoys me. He lost 20lbs recently. Good for him. Now it's my turn. I'm 135 (but really short) and trying to lose about 15lbs. I log my calories like crazy and try to stick to strictly 3 small meals a day.\n\nHe will make a huge lunch with lots of spaghetti noodles and seasonings while I make a modest salad. What gets on my nerves is when he shoves food in my face. I will decline and he'll keep shoving the fork towards my mouth and say things like \"one bite won't kill you\" or \"one bite won't ruin your diet\" and he won't quit. If I leave he follows me.\n\nYesterday we were spending time with his sister. She had gained some weight and was trying to lose as well. He starts telling her how I am the worst snacker in the world and constantly graze.\n\nIt's like I'm damned if I refuse his food and then I'm damned if I snack through the day. Either way, it feels like he is always bitching about something with my weight when I am really trying.", "summary": "Husband isn't that supportive of my weight loss journey sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_mfya3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've dealt with hand/elbow/shoulder pain for a year now.. losing faith in my ability to keep up with my dreams.  Going to a chiropractor tomorrow as one of my alternative remedies.  Are chiropractors a waste of time? What other suggestions would you give me?", "post": "I'm desperate at this point.  I've gone to hand surgeons, Occupational Therapist, Physical Therapist, Practitioners of the sort, and I'm scheduled for my first neurologist appointment in December.  Basically after spending a repetitive amount of time at the computer back last July I developed some sort of excruciating pain in my wrists similar to tendonitis.  Soon after, I found myself with elbow pain and neck pain on the right side stemming through my shoulder blade/shoulder as well.  The pain was so bad that I dropped playing guitar (and I was writing for a label at the time) just so I could seek help and stop the pain.  After dropping my dream of making it big in the music business I decided to try and distract myself with gaming and do well in school.  The elbow pain and wrist pain stopped that too.. so I stopped playing video games or even TOUCHING my computer for months except for quick e-mail visits and of course reddit.  Now, here I am a year and a half later, I've spent nearly 10 grand in medical costs without insurance (now I'm insured) and have yet to get a single solid diagnosis.  We've done x-rays, EMGs, myofascial release techniques, splints, oils, all sorts of crap to try and figure out the problem or fix it.\n\nI'm tired of not being able to play my instrument that I played religiously for years and I'm sure as hell not wanting to give up my dream of programming/designing one day once I finish my degree in Computer Engineering.\n\nSo I decided to call a chiropractor to try and seek alternative therapy/diagnosis and all I have heard is a bit of negative feedback from a handful of friends lately.  What do you all think?  Are chiropractors a joke?  Do you think they can help diagnosis anything related to my nerve/joint problem?  \n\nIf not.. what would you suggest?  I'm open to any ideas at this point...", "summary": "I have joint/nerve pain in my shoulder neck and elbows.. down to my palms.  When I do the activities I love I experience pain and I have to stop.  Going to a chiropractor tomorrow.  Bad idea? good idea?  If not a good idea what else should I try at this point?  Been to TONS of docs so far."}
{"id": "t3_fkv3o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I an ass for not asking this girl out on Valentine's Day?", "post": "So I met this girl two weeks ago.  Hit it off, got her number.  Asked her out for drinks on Wednesday of last week.  One or the other of us had to work every day from Wednesday until today.  So first free day for a second day would be Valentines day.  She has texted me a couple times asking \"what my plans are for next week.\"  I think this girl is decent, but I also think a second date on V-Day will be at best disastrous.  Am I an ass if I don't ask her out?  Short-notice would likely not be a problem.", "summary": "Met this girl very recently.  Is it improper to avoid Valentines Day entirely?"}
{"id": "t3_1pvb9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23/F25]Generic Unclear Relationship Advice Needed", "post": "I'm not very experienced with relationships and only had 1 girlfriend before so I'm looking for some advice here...\n\nI met the girl around half a year ago and I was not initially romantically attracted to her and was perfectly happy just being friends with her. \n\nHowever, a few months after that, we started doing more things together, such as watching movies, having supper and talking a lot more... \n\nShortly after that shift, I started getting interested in her as potentially more than a friend and have been somewhat flirty with her but I am unsure if she feels the same way as I do about her. \n\nI'm kinda confused about how to proceed here as revealing my feelings towards her and possibly getting rebuffed could make things very awkward and end our friendship which would make me very sad. My feelings towards her are not extremely strong but I feel like being more than friends with her could be interesting...\n\nAnyone have any advice?", "summary": "Boy befriends Girl, Boy now has a crush on Girl but doesn't want to potentially lose friendship if she don't like Boy, what Boy do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mqg10", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I re-adapt to office life?", "post": "I work from home full time, but two days a month I'm required to be back at HQ for meetings, checking in, etc. It's a pretty sweet gig. \n\nProblem: I now find working in a traditional office environment like pulling teeth. It's so hard for me to focus; partly because it takes a bit to adjust to not being in my home office, but mostly because I'm so distracted by obnoxious coworkers (a couple in particular). I don't really feel like I'm in any position to ask them to quit gabbing because I'm only here for a couple of days...but it's just completely exhausting to get through a single day! \n\nIt's easy to be distracted by the number of people and things going on on a daily basis here anyway, never mind when you're only here to be a part of it two days a month... bah. But... the rest of us are trying to work here, ya know?", "summary": "I have some annoying coworkers I have to deal with when I'm at HQ. Halp."}
{"id": "t3_ulgf7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help my neighbor who just lost her mom this last week.", "post": "My neighbor and friend just lost her mom. While she (the neighbor) was on an airplane to go see her (the mom), she passed away. It was devastating for her. To make matters worse, while she was there dealing with her mom's death, she lost her cell phone. Now usually when someone loses a phone I'm sad for them, but they lost it. However, under the circumstances, I feel like i should try to do something. She just upgraded two months ago to an iPhone, so her upgrade (for Verizon by the way) isn't for a long time. If anyone can help out with a smartphone of some kind that's relatively new, I'm sure it'd mean the world to her. If not, she's looking at dropping $650-800 for a new phone. I would just like to save her the trouble during this really hard time. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Neighbor lost her phone and mom in the same weekend and I'm trying to help in whatever way I can."}
{"id": "t3_r7snt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the WORST thing that's happened to your brother or sister (if you're an only child, neighbor or something)?", "post": "I'll start. It happened many years ago, on a cruise ship. I was around 8 or 9, and I was just testing out my new independent powers - my parents let my brother and I roam the entire ship, as long as we were with my slightly older (12-14) cousins. We whoooped and hollered through the decks, pressing elevator buttons, just being little obnoxious tween kids. On an elevator ride up, there's something missing that tugs at my mind.... Suddenly, I realize my brother disappeared completely. We had never bothered to do a head-count; we were too ignorant and foolish. So for over 4 hours, my cousins and I split up, shouting his name for the entire ship to listen to. The captain even made an announcement over the PA and did personal rounds himself, looking for my lost brother. He couldn't have been older than 6. By now, we're all hyperventilating, I'm so scared I crapped my pants, and we're exhausted from sprinting down endless hallways. Finally, he shows up - ice cream in hand, and in the care of an elderly couple that found him wandering. By now, it's well past 6 hours. He had been wandering, and the elderly couple saw him and took him with him because he \"looked lonely.\" I was happy, but from that day on (and still today) I can't go out without telling my mommy and daddy first.", "summary": "brother lost in cruise ship, whole ship went to find him, he's safe and sound with elderly couple. Agh."}
{"id": "t3_1w5aqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 2 years, she lost her trust in me.", "post": "Yesterday my girlfriend looked at my phone and saw texts between me and an escort service. Its not as bad as it sounds; it was only one time, I didn't actually go, and I never (even if i was single) would have gone. I have never paid for sex and have no desire to, at least I don't think I do.  Unfortunately, one night I somehow ended up on the adult section of craigslist and became turned on by the fantasy of an asian massage parlor/escort, and texted one. I think I was just playing along with the fantasy -  I masturbated then and there and that was it. \n\nI think I might have a porn addiction and this was just another way to keep the fantasies fresh. In reality, the concept of going to some grimy place and sleeping with a girl who doesn't even like me is gross to me. I explained all this to her, and even came clean about my porn habits (she knew I watched occasionally, but I told her how out of control it has become since we did long distance last year). Either way, my girlfriend wants to believe this, and just left town for the weekend (work trip) and is probably deciding whether or not to leave me. Regardless of whether I cheated she feels betrayed, and rightfully so. \n\nDo you think there is any chance she stays with me? Do I even deserve her? I am willing to do anything to make this relationship work, but she worries she will never trust me again. What can I do to try to rebuild this trust? \n\nAny help is appreciated. This girl is my soulmate, and she knows it. Our sex life was even fantastic despite my porn issues, and our relationship was perfect.", "summary": "trying to win back gf after she found texts with a prostitute (i didn't go)"}
{"id": "t3_2aflfl", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "retail revenge", "post": "so I work at a semi-high class department store where i deal with mens fashion so i help customers pick out shirts, pants, suits etc.\n\nmost of our shirts are in packages so as an unwritten rule we inform the customers that we have a trial shirt rack which they can try on the brand of shirt they wish to buy because they all have the same cut.\n\nOnce in a while we have customers come in and want to try on a shirt but we don't have their size on the trial rack so we (the team members) open the shirts up for the customer. The customer that i served a few hours ago had to have a shirt open (size 46cm neck) for him which I did happily for him.\n\nSo he went off and tried on the shirt and everything and it was the right fit. He comes to the counter and lo and behold is carrying another packaged size 46. Where is the other 46 that i had opened for him? I found it lying in the changing room.\n\nThis customer wanted a band new packaged shirt instead of the one he tried on. For one this is not very hygienic so i quickly plotted my revenge. He decided that he still wanted to do more shopping so i left him to his own devices and while he was not looking, i repackaged the shirt he tried on and returned the brand new one back to the racks. The kicker...\n\nI repacked his shirt upside down in the package. He didn't know the difference. Take that", "summary": "Charlie the unicorn stole my game of risk and had to fly my mini to the dark side of the moon to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_19ry87", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend won't tell me what's making him sad, and shuts down and shuts me out. What do I do?", "post": "26m 21f Relationship 9 months.  \n\nWe've recently had a few problems where I'm feeling scared because I need to sort out a visa to stay in the country and work out what I'm going to do for money once I graduate.  \n\nI also spoke to him how I'm feeling unsure.  Our relationship is a lot about doing things on his terms. Sometimes he thinks he's compromising, but his idea of compromise is still getting the best deal for him.  I make sacrifices for him, and he doesn't make sacrifices for me.\n\nThe problem is that if I try to talk to him about anything, it is instantly about *him* and how I'm accusing him and I tread so carefully, and yet I can't really say how I feel.  \n\nToday he just says he's sad, and said it's because of what I said, and refuses to talk about it, or cuddle, or kiss me or touch me. \n\nI think he might be depressed in general, but I just don't know what to do?", "summary": "Boyfriend shuts down all physical and emotional contact and becomes unreasonable and won't communicate when he's \"sad\", and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_12qzzq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need advice. Please help. How can I save my relationship?", "post": "How can I save my relationship? This is my first real relationship, everything had been going perfectly. We have been dating for nearly a year (2 months this sunday) I feel that over the last month we have begun to drift apart. We haven't had sex since the beginning of August and she has stopped replying as much to my texts. She instead just reads them and dosen't reply but when she left her facebook logged on I was able to see she offered a guy her number and was texting him. We're about to hit our 2nd year anniversary very soon and I really don't want this relationship to end. I love her and I would do anything for her. Any help on how I can try stop us drifting apart and try to save my relationship? Am I just having a small trust issue? I mean I'm fine with her having boys as friends but while reading the conversation between the two it just seemed the same as what she used to say to me before we began going out. When she told me she was subtly flirting with me. Please help.", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are drifting apart and I feel I may be losing her."}
{"id": "t3_m3i7f", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "With winter coming, how do you folks feel about coats and boots etc?", "post": "Winter is coming up, and I keep seeing a lot of pet stores advertising doggy winter coats and boots and other such things, and I am wondering if these are a good idea or largely playing to overprotective dog owners.\n\nHow do you guys feel about it? Does your dog have boots or a coat? Why or why not? What situations are they relevant or not relevant in?\n\nPersonally, as this will be the first winter with my dog, I had no intention of buying those things, but I guess I will evaluate as I see how she reacts to the snow and cold weather, but I would love to know what the community thinks of them!", "summary": "Are dog coats/boots useful or kind of dumb?"}
{"id": "t3_1shno8", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't know how to clean up after yourself? Well your toothbrush sure knows how.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short and sweet. As a freshman in college I have a roommate in a small dorm room with one sink. My roommate get alone well any I have no complaints about him as a person, but one thing he does does piss me off. He likes to spit nice huge loogies full of mucus into the sink and just leave it there. That's right, just leave it there. He doesn't run the water to clean the spit down the drain. \n\nAlso, I don't know if he doesn't know how to put toothpaste on a toothbrush, or if he holds the toothpaste 2 feet above the toothbrush and try to drop the toothpaste on the toothbrush like a bomber dropping bombs at ground targets, but I swear about half of the toothpaste ends up unused and stuck to the sink. That's right, just big clumps of toothpaste stuck on the sink that he (you guessed it) doesn't rinse down the sink. Not only that, but when he spits out the toothpaste in the sink, he also doesn't rinse that down, or it ends up on the faucet or around the sink. So yeah, we consistently have a dirty, disgusting sink filled with mucus and toothpaste and his facial hair (which ends up everywhere, all over the sink and our room). \n\nSo, to combat this, when he's not in the room, I use **the end of the toothbrush that he puts in his mouth** to scrub the sink clean. He'll never suspect a thing, and I get a clean sink every now and then without having to use my hands to clean it.", "summary": "Don't know how to/refuse to clean a sink? That's fine, I'll clean it. With that thing you stick in your mouth."}
{"id": "t3_1icdjp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "First time sex with boyfriend is the worst I've ever had... how do I deal with this?", "post": "Strictly speaking, he isn't my boyfriend yet, as I've been sort of keeping him at arm's length with unrelated fear of commitment issues, but we have been seeing each other for a couple of months. He's the sweetest guy I've ever met, ever, and treats me better than anyone else has.\n\nSo last night when we had sex for the first time, I was disappointed beyond belief. The length was fine, but the width was... maybe the diameter of a quarter? Possibly just a tad bigger? If that was the only issue it might have still worked out ok, but he couldn't get hard very well and couldn't keep it up for very long either...\n\nI'm hoping it isn't just me. In my past experiences, the only people who've had this issue with me are people who are or recently stopped being virgins, which I know this guy wasn't...\n\nSex for me (as for most people) is really important, so if I'm not enjoying it, I'm extremely unsatisfied, which reflects on the relationship and makes it entirely not worth it for me.\n\nHow do I even approach this problem?", "summary": "Great guy, small dick, has issues getting it up/keeping it up. halp?"}
{"id": "t3_2ivbch", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost liquidating my balls.", "post": "So this morning I was in a hurry. I took a quick shower, jumped into my clothes and headed to work. While I'm sitting at work, I start feeling this burning sensation on my balls. I figured it was probably friction or something so ignored it. It wasn't getting any better overtime, so I head off to the restroom with the most awkward limping walk. I inspect my jewels and the area seemed to be reddish. I went back and forth for regular inspection but it kept on getting redder every time I checked. The burn had intensified by 100 folds by now and I could barely hold myself from crying. I grabbed some paper towel and wetted it with some water. The plan was to soothe the pain with cold water but as I was dabbing it, it starts foaming up. The smell was meticulously familiar to my body wash and Mr Clever Me deduced the problem. I washed it properly and could finally sit without the feeling of Satan poking them with his horns.", "summary": "Almost dissolved my balls in trace amount of unwashed body wash."}
{"id": "t3_ip1f2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Early reading software recommendations?", "post": "I'm looking for recommendations for pre-school level software to help teach my 3 y/o to read.\n\nMy daughter is 3 and has had a solid grasp on the alphabet and sounds for quite a while now (my wife is a stay-at-home mom, so she's worked with her on toddler/pre-school skills quite a bit). She can sound out short, two to three letter words, but only a couple of easy ones (frankly, she probably just has them memorized from story time). She told my wife and I the other day that she was sad because she didn't know how to read words. We reassured her and told her that she is doing a great job and that it takes a very long time to learn how to read all of the words, but promised to start helping her more than we do.  Daughter usually gets some computer time each day, mostly on pbskids.org or sesamestreet.org.  While those resources are entertaining and can certainly help with things like letter recognition and such, they aren't exactly geared at progression of teaching how to read.\n\nHave any of you tried something you liked or hated? I've done some googling, but options like Reader-Rabbit seem really out of date and get bad reviews for not running well (or at all) on modern computers. I also have my doubts about \"Baby Can Read,\" as I've read some  reviews suggesting that it emphasizes memorization and can actually slow down true reading skills (is this true?). This obviously wouldn't be a replacement for reading time or actual one-on-one teaching and playing, but I'd like to make her 30 min. of computer time each day more helpful, since she seems to really want to learn how to read. What do you say /r/parenting?", "summary": "My 3 year-old asked us to help her learn to read, so I'm looking for some recommendations for software to help us teach her. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_l9nxj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can my apartment complex force me to have my apartment sprayed for \"pests\"?", "post": "My apartment (part of a 4-plex) had a small roach and black window problem. The bugs were coming in from my front windows (I live on the bottom floor of an old Victorian right next to some overgrown bushes). I called the property management company to let them know. They sprayed the outside and the other 3 apartments. I couldn't have the inside of my apartment sprayed at that time because I have house rabbits (one with a respiratory issue) and I could not make arrangements in time to have the rabbits not present while the spraying took place.\n\nThat was 2 and a half weeks ago. I have not seen any bugs. My neighbors have not seem any bugs. But the property management company is calling me incessantly to have my apartment sprayed. After doing some research, I do not want to be surrounded by the chemicals.\n\nSome logistics: If the apartment is sprayed my rabbits have to be moved off site for 3 days (according to my vet and a rabbit rescue I called). I have 4 larger rabbits and I do not have anyone who can watch them for 3 days except my parents who live 100 miles away. I can't take off work to drive my bunnies there and back. Also, there is a slight change I may be pregnant. I really, really do not want chemicals around me at this point.\n\nWhat are my options? No one has seen any bugs. I don't think spraying is necessary. Can they force my to be surround my chemicals if the problem has been fixed? I live in CA, if it makes a difference.", "summary": "Chemicals from spraying will make me grow balls... I am a girl."}
{"id": "t3_4fflmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25m] just found out that my brother[16m] who is under my legal guardianship is searching/watching incest porn. What should I do?", "post": "My brother got expelled from school for drugs. I took him in because my mother couldn't cope, and for the most part my brother has completely turned his mindset around. He actually loves himself, he pursues hobbies, and he doesn't do drugs. He credits me with saving his life.\n\nThings have been going fine.  \n\nHowever, he has a laptop (that I purchased for him to do school) and because he has a microsoft \"family\" account, I can see his web history. I have barely ever looked at this, but I noticed recently that the \"blocked\" log was substantial. It is TONS of \"daddy daughter\" \"naughty mommy\" \"brother sister\" and even more.  \n\nIf it was \"normal\" porn I would probably just remind him that I can see history and simply leave it at that - not make a big deal out of it at all.\n\nBut, considering the content, I wonder if I should approach this differently. Side note, he's also searching for \"underage\" and \"not legal\". Considering his age I'm not so worried about that aspect, but it's still troubling legally.\n\nThoughts? Would confronting him make this more \"real\" than it is?", "summary": "I take care of brother. Brother has family issues. Watches incest porn. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1bpc4k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help with a friend", "post": "there is this girl who is one of my best friends. We are both 17. Lately she had been hanging out only with her other good friend and giving me the cold shoulder. I got to talking with her about how I felt with the situation and she broke down crying. She said she didn't mean to shut me out but it was how she copes with her problems. She also shut out her other good friend she hung out with as well. Her father died when she was younger, and her mother abused her as a child and is not in the picture today. She lives with her grandparents who are in their late eighties and early nineties. She broke down saying that she is having trouble with financial issues planning for college, and since her grandparents do not have much longer, she will basically come out of high school alone in the world and she is scared to death. Her brother smokes pot and is in and out of legal trouble so he isn't much help. Her only other family lives in Hawaii 4,000 miles away and they have their own problems. I felt kind of like a jerk saying it is going to be OK when I live in a sheltered life with two loving parents and a sister who goes to college twenty minutes away. I want to help, but I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "17 year old best friend is leaving high school going into the world alone with no family and is scared to death. Want to help but I dont know how."}
{"id": "t3_2r607g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] broke up with my SO [23 M] after five years, is there a possibility we can get back together?", "post": "We broke up a few days ago. He tried to break up with me, I asked him to think it over for a few days and he agreed. I got home and told him that I don't want to force him to want to be with me and that we should break up and we mutually said goodbye. \n\nNow, days later I realize how small our problems were and could be fixed.\nBut, he initiated it. He was the unhappy one. I don't want to beg because that will make it worse. \n\nSo, I am sitting here hoping for a future with him still. We were very great together with minor issues. Ones that built up due to sweeping them under the rug.\n\nSo, I plan on giving him his space. Time to clear his head, like he asked. Being broken up is incredibly hard. I know I say this three days in, but it is true. I plan on not contacting him for at least 30 days. I think that's enough time to think and see how our feelings are after being apart. This will be hard for me. He's the one with the decision. If he asked me today to get back, I would. And he knows that. So I think this is easier for him.\n\nAnyways, any advice on how I can occupy myself and love myself this next month or so. I know he will contact me eventually because he even said he would. He didn't want me out of his life.\n\nAny personal break up/get back together stories?", "summary": "SO broke up with me. Potential to get back together. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3axm6q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (25f) made a decision that my now ex (33m) isn't on board with about a 3rd unplanned pregnancy", "post": "My now ex boyfriend and I had an abortion in the past. Failed birth control pills. We got pregnant again--this time we were drunken idiots and decided to keep the child. I miscarried at 2 months. The pregnancy was high risk for me and the baby. Despite all my efforts, my health deteriorated and I lost the baby. \n\nVery shortly after the miscarriage, we were scared to have sex again. He expressed that he didn't want me to get pregnant again. I told him we would be careful, I'd get an IUD and he would always wear a condom. He asked what would happen if we got pregnant again? \n\nI assured him that I wouldn't fall pregnant so soon (this was only a week after the miscarriage) and that if we did, I didn't want to risk my health/lose another child. I told him I didn't want to put him through this hell again. That I would abort for certain.\n\nWe had sex not long after with a condom. Then broke up because he wasn't sure about me anymore.\n\nAs unlucky as I am, somehow, we are pregnant again. Somehow against all odds. I just thought it wasn't possible since I just lost a child.\n\nI told him. I told him I wasn't sure about aborting. Because the only reason I said that was because he was my partner and he didn't want a child but things are different now. He freaked out, as expected. I can't blame him but at that moment, in bed next to him, I thought I would totally abort. But now that I'm in this position again?? I don't know that I could.\n\nHe told me he hated me, that I tricked him into getting pregnant. That he wants nothing to do with the kid.\n\nI'm still so devastated and so confused and hurt about losing our first two babies. I understand his anger towards me because I changed the game on him. I don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Told my now ex bf that I would abort in event we ever got pregnant again...then we broke up and now I don't feel the need to abort because I would have only done it for him...he now hates me and wants nothing to do with the kid. I understand his anger but I don't want it to be directed towards the baby. Any advice"}
{"id": "t3_3duqpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf doesn't show affection anymore... Help!", "post": "Im a male. We are both 20 years old. I been dating my gf for almost 4 months now but she stop being affectionate after 2 months.  I don't understand why ? It makes me feel not wanted. She says she loves me and she feels no need to tell me she loves me. She doesn't hug me, kiss me, or say she loves me like before no more. I told her it bothers me but she just says Im being dramatic. I seriously don't think Im being dramatic. If she really loves me why cant she just simply show it. Im always sweet and nice to her no matter what.\n\n I need help. What can I do ? What should I do ? For more info ask me questions.", "summary": "! My gf doesn't show affection anymore. That doesn't help me coupe with the fact that she says she actually loves me. So what are possible things I should keep in mind"}
{"id": "t3_1ca1j5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Do I (24f) stay or do I go (25m)", "post": "Our five month long relationship has been the best I've ever had. He's kind, comes from a good family, works hard, and proves to me through actions and words that he does love me. Problem? I was diagnosed with BPD as a teenager, and have many issues with insecurity and trust. I've finally acknowledged that I need a therapist, after accusing him of infidelity without proof. That fight made me realize that my past and the way I handle my emotions are no longer in my control. So, I need advice. Should I let him go while I seek treatment, as I see it's unfair for him to always have to build me up when I'm down. Or do I hold on to what we have with hope that things will improve?", "summary": "I want to stay with my boyfriend of 5 months, but fear I'm just going to make him unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_kvvc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to work on a relationship and it is turning out poorly. Any advice?", "post": "So, been in this relationship for about six months now. She is 25 and I'm 22. We have had quite the extensive history which isn't really important to what's going on now. But we have been through a lot.\n\nIn our history, she has lied to me and I have left when she needed me. We've hurt one another. If anything, I have hurt her more. But she and I have been working to get back to having a good relationship. Overall, I would say it is going pretty well.\n\nRecently, we have been fighting a lot. About stupid shit. We talked about our underlying feelings and she said she feels I am rejecting her. I feel like I am trying to keep my distance because I know I hurt her. Then after we have been distanced a little bit we get angry and yell, make up, repeat. It's frustrating.\n\nOn a side note, we haven't had sex in a couple weeks. We went from having sex almost daily to practically never. I'm still insanely physically attracted to her (she is gorgeous) but I feel like I can't. She says she only has sex with people she trusts, and I don't feel like I am one she trusts. When we fight she brings up how I wronged her. I immediately feel guilt and shame and withdraw and she says she shouldn't be saying it. But she does.\n\nSo my question to you r/relationships is this: How can two people who had a difficult start to a relationship turn it around? What does it take to get over the hurdle of resentment and mistrust? I love this lady dearly and want to be hers. I want us to be happy again. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Rocky start to a relationship, want to get past that and have one of them loving relationships. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_touhu", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "In the last 6 months I was terminated from my first \"big girl\" job after only 3 months and dumped by the guy that told even my dad he planned on marrying me...time to get motivated.", "post": "So as not to bore anyone with a back story, the title of this post pretty much sums up what has been happening in my life lately.\n\nTo say it has been tough is an understatement.  But I am determined not to let these things get me down and I want to share my motivation with others.\n\nAll of you out there who have had it rough lately, don't give up.  Pick yourself up and dust yourself off, get back in the saddle (upvote for whoever knows what song that is from).  Life takes you through some pretty windy twists and turns and sometimes they can make you feel like you've been drop kicked in the stomach.  You just can't let that stop you from going after what you want.  Whether that is a dream job, your first million by the time you are 30, a new pet, a new house, or whatever your goals might be, go after them.\n\nI may be young (23) and thinking I had my life figured out was probably a little foolish.  But with my new mindset that I have so much to look forward to ahead of me, I'm not going to let a few setbacks stop me from achieving everything I want and being happy.", "summary": "Shit happens, deal with it and make fucking lemonade."}
{"id": "t3_1gvvwr", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Advice on dealing with skittish/aggressive neighbor dog", "post": "My neighbors own a 2-3 year old German Shepherd who is confined to the yard by electric fence. My long drive way runs along their backyard and the dog frequently runs up and down the side of the yard whenever my parents or I walk or drive down our driveway to the point where it has run dirt spots at the corners of the yard. It's clearly an energetic dog but our problem is that the dog is poorly socialized and growls and barks in a threatening manner when ever it sees us.\n\nWhile I walked up the driveway to get my mail today the owners started talking to me and encouraged me to greet the dog whenever I saw it. They also invited me over into their yard to pet the dog although it was clear the dog was very uncomfortable having me there. They had to bear-hug the dog and hold it's mouth shut or I fear it would have bitten me. After talking with the neighbors a while(and me ignoring the dog)the dog calmed down some and even came over to sniff me.\n\nI would like the dog to become less nervous of me and my family and I was wondering what I could do to help these people train their dog. Granted they don't seem like the best or most consistent trainers as the dog jumped on the mom and nipped at her sleeve with no repercussions or even a stern \"no\" uttered. The dad said he was considering buying a muzzle for when the dog is outside but I suggested that a muzzle wouldn't solve anything. Is there anything I could do to at least make the dog less nervous around me? It'd be nice to walk down my driveway without fear.", "summary": "Neighbor dog is very nervous and threatens to bite. Neighbors bad at training. How can I help the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_20yvcr", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Russian visa question - getting documentation to apply for visa from country other than home country.", "post": "I'm having trouble getting a Russian visa, and I wondered if anyone could point me in the right direction.\n\nAs I understand it, to obtain a Russian visa you need to apply from your home country, no earlier than 3 months before you are planning on entering Russia. \n\nMy wife and I are going to be overseas for 4-5 months before we get to Russia (LA, Canada, Iceland, most of Europe), and so are unable to apply from our home country (New Zealand. We could post our passports back to NZ, but we're reluctant to do that.)\n\nWe've considered applying in Berlin, but apparently you need to have documentation that says either that you've been living in the Germany for 6 months (power/phone bills) or have a visa that allows you to stay in Germany for more than 3 months, neither of which we'll have. At least, that's what they've told us in reply to the email that I sent. The same thing seems to apply to the UK, as far as I can tell, but I can't find a link right now stating this.\n\nBeing New Zealand citizens, we're able to apply for a few different working holiday visa for when we're in Europe, which might give us the documentation that we can use to get a Russian tourist visa. The problem with that is that I'm over 30, and the only country that I can get a working holiday visa for is the Czech Republic, which is fine, we were going to visit Prague anyway, but I don't know if this scheme will actually work.\n\nDoes anyone else have any experience regarding this? I've considered perhaps going to Armenia, since NZers can get a visa on arrival that allows us to stay 120 days, and than applying to get into Russia from there, but since I know neither Czech or Armenian, and am only just beginning to learn Russian (they probably speak Russian in Armenia though, right?) I'm having trouble getting answers to my emailed questions about this.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Can't get Russian visa because being overseas longer than 3 months before visiting. Solutions?"}
{"id": "t3_m0row", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Forefoot Striking - Am I Doing it Right?", "post": "After reading [this article] the other day, I realized that I was guilty of heel-striking while I run, and decided to take a run while focusing on making sure my forefoot struck the ground first.  Initially it felt great, and after taking a few heel strike strides for comparison, it was obvious that there was much less impact stress with every step.  \n\nHowever, after only about a half mile my calves were done.  It's been two days and they're still insanely sore.  Is this normal, or am I doing something wrong?  For most of my run, I felt like only the balls of my feet were making contact with the ground, almost like I was tip-toeing.  Making sure my heel hit the ground after my forefoot made my stride feel awkward.", "summary": "Went for my first run using forefoot striking and now my calves don't work.  Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_1vvrg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you had a mr. Meeseeks, from the show Rick and Morty, what would you tell it to do?", "post": "For those who don't know in the show, in an episode of Rick and Morty the family is given a box with a button. when you press the button a blue man with a high voice named mr. Meeseeks appears and will do whatever you tell him to do and then disappears once its done. they can press the button for multiple meeseeks but each can only do one thing. they are not gods and are more or less limited to human abilities. but here is the catch they cannot die until their given task is completed. Existence for a meeseeks is pain, and therefor a meeseeks will stop at nothing in pursuit of its given goal so it can finally die.", "summary": "mr. meeksees is a guy who will do whatever you tell him and then he will disappear. he isn't a god and cant preform magic. but he will never rest until your request is fulfilled."}
{"id": "t3_4u96qi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my Corvette out in the rain", "post": "After 6 months of owning my Corvette C7, I figured I could finally take it out in the rain. I have been scared to do this before, for whatever reason, not really sure. Today though, I figured it'd me perfectly fine to do this.. water can't harm your car anyway, right?\n\nFor me, nope. \n\nAs I pulled out onto the main road from my house, I realized a puddle had formed. It was a deep one, too.  I wanted to turn around and head another way.. but my luck being good and all, my street which is usually very quiet, wasn't at this particular moment of something. I had 2 cars behind me, someone pulling in, so I was forced to go through. I went slowly through it, this may have been what ultimately screwed me over, and hoped it'd all go well. As soon as I got out of the puddle, I stalled. How is this possible? I tried starting it back up, but with no luck.\n\nSo here I was, thinking it'd all be fine to take it out on a rainy day.. first time I do this, I get screwed.", "summary": "I'm an idiot"}
{"id": "t3_11pf5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it odd that I am infinitely more bothered by the though of being cheated on then just being broken up with?", "post": "Me (20) and my SO (23) have been dating for over three years now and things have been pretty great. We've had our struggles over the past few years but, for me at least, the first year or so was the most difficult. During that time I found out my GF had been visiting her ex (an old friend of mine), sometimes hiding it and sometimes flat out lying about it. I am a pretty laid back person but there was something about the situation that just didn't feel right. He was still crazy about her and the break up was pretty fresh so naturally I assumed that she still had to have some feelings for him. There were several instances of various interaction that really bothered me but I believed her when she told me that nothing happened between them. Anyways, the two hardly talk now but every once in a while he'll call her up in the wee hours of the morning and apologize or give her some cryptic sob story BS. Each time something like this happens I'm reminded of how painful the thought of losing her to him would be. I think I'd be able to handle a break up fairly well but the idea of being cheated on just seems crushing. I'm confident in what we have and I know that she is just as crazy for me as I am for her but I just can't shake that crappy feeling sometimes. Are these pretty normal thoughts to have? Any ideas on how to overcome whatever jealousy and negativity I may harbor?", "summary": "The though of being broken up with doesn't bother me even slightly as much as losing her to her ex."}
{"id": "t3_2at45x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(25/f) 4 year relationship, with my fiance (24/m) need some serious help", "post": "so, i have been in this relationship for 4 years, unexpectedly i got pregnant, and we have children 3 years ago. I thought that we had been doing pretty well, we definitely have had our fair share of pretty bad arguments, i would find him talking to girls on facebook or something.\n\n well a few weeks ago, i went through his phone, i knew i shouldnt have but i knew something was up. i found he had been texting this girl that we work with, and was trying to meet up with her by saying he was going somewhere with someone else, and she would be there too, well i confronted him about it, he just got mad at the fact i went through his phone and made it seem he didnt do anything wrong. \n\nWell today he was in such a bad mood and acting different, he wouldnt tell me why he was upset. Well he left email up. i saw email from her. Evidently he was going to break up with me and try to be in a relationship with this girl, who is also in a relationship. (i tried to be friends with her when she started working with us but then i heard a bunch of rumors about her flirting with him. ) Well turns out she quit the job where we work and is staying with her boyfriend. Now he is in such a terrible mood, and i havent confronted him about this. He said im going to the gym, dont know when i will be back.... help me please. \n\nAlso, he tells me he loves me when i do, we still have a sexual relationship, which was an issue before because he wanted it much more than me, but i now have been doing much more to improve it. We just had our 4 year anniversary sunday, got each other new engagement rings, getting him one to show we basically are married. i dont really have anyone that i can talk to about any of this outside of the internet. so im sitting here in my own thoughts and am so upset.", "summary": "4 year relationship fiance (and we have children) he wanted to end because of some girl he was going to leave me for, who is now staying with her bf."}
{"id": "t3_2hzyv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long term LDR [22F] told me [22M]\"I wish you never had your child\".", "post": "Context: this girl [22F] and I met online over 9 years ago. We were mutual love interests as young teens but when boys near her started showing interest she said she \"no longer needed\" me. That was at a time in my life that... Well, it emotionally crippled me for awhile. I tried to move on, dated a number of girls, eventually settled on one and got married. My now ex-wife [23F] and I just didn't work out. Early in our marriage we decided to have a child. We later decided that maybe we should wait and then she got pregnant. About 2.5 years later I was miserable and wanted to split up. \n\n22F and I began talking as friends again periodically for years but then started talking a lot more as I was realizing how miserable I was. I suppose I had a bit of an emotional affair with her. We met awhile ago while I was traveling through where she lives. \n\nMy work is moving me to within an hour of her and we decided to be together when I get there. That is a week from now. \n\nI have been wondering if going from being married to a serious relationship was a good idea or not. Then she apparently can't handle the fact I tried to move on when she dumped me. \n\nI just feel like on the list of things to not say to the single parent you are dating, \"I wish you never had (child's name)\" is #1. I am fucking pissed. I am worried that my fear of breaking promises is keeping me invested rather than my actual interest.", "summary": "LDR that I am moving near in a week told me she wished I never had a child and is angry by the fact I moved on when we stopped dating ~6 years ago."}
{"id": "t3_28muts", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By letting a construction worker borrow my toilet.", "post": "So it all started when i was sitting in my home after school browsing reddit, the doorbell rings and i go to get it. Its one of the construction workers that are working on my families new garage. He asks if he could borrow my toliet and i let him since he seems like a nice guy. He finishes and talks a bit before he goes back to work. i go past the toilet and i pick up this nasty smell. I go into the toilet and there lies a fucking huge turd. It won't go down when i press the button. This 60 yr old man must have ripped up his asshole or something because this was huge. Never ever in my life seen something like this. I press the button 20 times still won't go down.\n\nWelp me reddit, it won't fucking go down the drain. My parents are coming home in 2hours and they are very strict on letting people into the house. Should i tell them its mine?", "summary": "Let a guy borrow my toilet. lays a huge motherfucker into it and its to big to be drained down."}
{"id": "t3_2ii947", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to do my homework", "post": "First some background: I'm lazy as shit. The school i attend to has an annual country exchange where people from France and Canada come here to learn about our culture and shit like that. The french ones stay for 2 weeks while the canadian ones stay a complete semester. A friend of mine has no luck with women but he somehow managed to befriend a canadian girl and she is now his girlfriend. \nThe other night they kissed so passionately in a party that the looked awful.\n\nNow what happened: I couldn't do my homework because i didn't remember of it so I figured i could do it in my reccess. No problem there. When the my reccess begins i go out like i had already done my homework but someone reminds me of it so i go back to the classroom as fast as I can but oh ho... The two of them were making out and i believe that if I hadn't entered the classroom they would have had sex.", "summary": "i forgot to do my homework so i was going to do it on my free hour but my friend and his girlfriend we're almost losing their virginty."}
{"id": "t3_1wj80r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [25F] broke up with me [21M] After we had dated 3 months. She realized she viewed me as a friend, but I don't view her that way.", "post": "This was my first relationship, and she is fantastic, we got along together great. Emotionally this is the best relationship she has had. \n\nShe had a rough week last week and broke up with me on sunday. We didn't have a fallout, was just a very stressful time for her.She said that she felt at this point in her life she was not ready to be in a relationship at all. Heard from a mutual friend (in a caring/motherly type way, wasn't breaking trust for this person to tell me) that it was because she views me as a friend, a great friend. \n\nI WANT to be okay with that, but I don't view her that way. I do not want to lose her friendship, but I don't know if I can handle \"just\" being friends with her. If I try to be friends with her I would probably have the mindset that once she feels she is ready to be in a relationship she will be ready to get back together with me. \n\nNot at all saying I should have that mindset, but I don't know what I should do. Besides this I have had a hard week and want to talk to her, have someone I can confide in.\n\n(I feel like this was too short but I wasn't sure what to put, first post in this subreddit)", "summary": "My relationship recently ended because she sees me as a great friend. I want to be okay with that but I don't know if I can, not sure what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_2hjpn0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having my car window open while driving.", "post": "This was today. An hour ago.\n\nDriving along the expressway, had my windows open since it's a nice day. Phone is sitting in the groove by the window buttons.\n\nCome up to a section of freshly repaved highway, doing about 120km (75mph in 'Murican units), hit a bump that had yet to be filled in, car bounced, phone went out the window. Yep. And being on the busiest highway in North America, I wasn't about to stop.\n\nGot off the highway, went to Best buy, picked up a new phone. Pretty sure my old one was beyond broken, and it did have a lock, so I assume all is well. Couldn't connect to it to remotely wipe it so it's likely toast.", "summary": "Had window open on highway. Hit bump. Phone went out window, had to get new phone."}
{"id": "t3_3uvbb4", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Discouraged 24 y/o feeling very unemployable.", "post": "As, I am sure, many before me have found, life has not gone according to plan and I am not really sure what I'm doing. I am a 24 year old male with some college experience (and debt) and no degree. I have 4.5 years experience as a deli clerk but can't stand food service. I have now 6 months of experience as a Staples Easy Tech (yay tech experience!) but can't afford to continue living off of a part time income.\n\nI am looking for a full time job with consistent hours but have no idea what I'm looking for or who would consider me a hire-able applicant. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "What full-time job can I get with 0 relevant experience and no degree!"}
{"id": "t3_1arlg7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when is it morally wrong to push one down to save your own ass?", "post": "I am stuck. My teacher is being terrible and giving us all detentions (the five of us) for flicking a bottle cap, even though only one person did it. It's complete shit, I know, but complaining won't solve it, someone has to fess up or turn in the person.\n\nI didn't do it, and neither did my two friends, but I started thinking a way out of this. I decided that one kid was an easy blame. Realize he isn't a kid, he's a swag fag, an idiot and I want him to fess up because I think it was him. I have already bribed a kid to turn him in, and tomorrow (March 22) he will say it was him.\n\nBut my dad found out and questioned it. He says that lying is worse than a detention. I see the logic, and the whole scheme must be perfectly executed, but... ...shouldn't I worry about my friends and myself more than this kid? He is a jackass and I just feel that if one has an opportunity to step on the heads of others, than it is ok.\n\nSo... Is it right to frame this kid to save myself and my friends? Or should I call off the bribe and tell my friends to get in order...", "summary": "Is it ok to frame someone to save yourself?"}
{"id": "t3_4jjinl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M21) and GF (20) of 3 1/2 have what i consider to be a terrible sex life and I'm not happy about it.", "post": "When we first started dating, we had a fairly decent sex life, probably having a lot to due with the fact that it was a reconnection after dating for a while and then being apart for a few months. \nAfter about a year things dropped to nothing really quick. We actually went 7 months without any sexual contact (not for my lack of trying)\nI got her to talk about it eventually, without any breakthroughs but some intimacy returned occasionally but rarely so I just went with it hoping it would come back gradually.\nFast forward to about a year ago. intimacy was still rare (1, 2, maybe 3 times in a month if i was lucky), but i took a chance and opened up about some rather kinky interests of mine that i wont go into here. She tried to act supportive but never got into them.\nNow our sex life is still mediocre at best if im being honest, being about as often as previously stated. When we do have sex, there is no passion on either end; her not being open on what i can do for her to make it better for her and me honestly starting to hate having sex with her because I'm tired of trying. When i try to suggest doing something kinky or anything different (always missionary because that's what she'll do and doggy if I'm lucky), she acts like its the biggest inconvenience ever. Occasionally she'll reluctantly take part in a main fetish of mine but makes it clear the whole time that she hates it and acts very passive aggressive when i try to make the experience better or acknowledge her discomfort and offer to stop.\nWith the lack of sex and passion I'm left rather unhappy in my situation. All i do recently is picture myself with someone else because of this. I don't want to leave though, I do love her very much, at least i think i still do, but this situation just messes with my head and heart.", "summary": "Sex life is awful and i want to know how to make things better or if this is it. I love her but im not happy in a relationship with no/terrible intimacy."}
{"id": "t3_2dxzug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23m] want to get over my ex gf [22F] but she was unbelievably gorgeous to me", "post": "We broke up about six months ago.  I loved the stuffing out of her for a long time, but in the end I had to admit that our relationship couldn't be repaired (long story, but she cheated, we tried to make it work, but we couldn't).\n\nSince then dating new people has been tough, I find *very* few women as attractive as she was.  It wasn't just looks, it was just her character in general, interested in sciencey things, fun loving, passionate and romantic, etc... It's funny because I know she treated me like shit and essentially walked out of our relationship, but I was just really crazy attracted to her.\n\nNow, I don't want to get back with my ex, but she was a very specific type that I really go for (physically, and personality) that doesn't seem really common.  I do find other people who I feel that way about, but it's pretty rare that I run across them, and I haven't had any success at garnering a relationship with them.\n\nAs shallow as this is, I think the root of my problem is realizing what it's like to be someone who actually turns you on.  Before my most recent ex, I dated girls that I really wasn't totally connected with physically and emotionally, and intimacy felt lackluster, I always just assumed it was how it was.  But after being with someone who really did turn me on it's like a switch flipped, I no longer feel like it's acceptable to be with someone and say \"eh, they're alright\" and now I crave a \"yes, I really want you\" feeling.\n\nRealizing this has made it a lot harder dating, I now really know what kind of things I want in a woman, and the thought of being with someone who doesn't turn me on in a whole package sense is really lackluster.", "summary": "My ex was the first person that I was super into and I really felt crazy for, and since I've realized how incredibly hard it is for me to feel this way towards people, what kind of advice do you give people in my situation"}
{"id": "t3_34kq62", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being on ifunny", "post": "This was last year. Before I joined the wonderful reddit community. I now see that even getting on ifunny is a fuck up in itself. \n\nAnyways. I was a semi retarded sophomore sitting in the front of the class bored. (I say semi because sophomore year was a phase of change between freshman idiot and junior pretty cool guy) One of those awkward classes where you could swear they planned for you to have no friends in it. Mind you, me and a really pretty girl behind me were finally starting to get acquainted. So I instinctively pull out my phone, clash for a while, then get on I funny. I was not being discreet about it either. I stumbled upon this profile. This guy was awesome. The perfect profile to fit me. He had everything I love! Zelda, Skyrim, Foo Fighters, guitars.... It was all there. Just before I hit subscribe I swipe one more time and right there in front of the class of strangers is a gif two guys on top of eachother dry humping... So I screamed \"NO!\" At the top of my lungs and locked my phone. Didn't close out of the app. Just locked. I turn around to see all they eyes staring at me. I don't know if they saw but they heard and probably think I'm crazy. I kinda just..... Turned back around and acted like it didn't happen.\n\nNow I never closed out. I was so scarred by the experience I didn't unlock my phone until I got home. Thank got it was 6th hour.", "summary": "Might have shown gay porn to the people behind me. If not I still screamed NO at my phone."}
{"id": "t3_zatn7", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I think I know why I'm motivated", "post": "Lurker reporting in, don't hold that against me.\n\nSo, I'm a university student, I should say to make this make sense, I am not a soccer player, not good at it, but love the sport.  Today I played with a bunch of randoms at a school field and it was great, wanted to share this.  \n\nBefore playing, I noticed they were talking about their positions on their own intramural teams and I know that they are far superior than myself.  But when we started playing, I didn't feel a need to be as good as them, but I felt the need to try my best.  I'm not a competitive person, but I am a person who will always try my best.\n\nAs the small skinny Asian in casual wear and runners, we started off pretty nicely, just warming up and playing around.  I got out of breathe, it was nice to exercise.  More people join, we increase the size of the field.  One guy on my team was being a dickhead telling me what to do, so my mind just kicked me in the head and said, show him what little you can do! And I did that.  And he didn't say shit afterwards.\n\nI guess I felt great and motivated at the same time because, despite them being better, bigger, faster and more coordinated, I felt motivated.  Motivated to show them I am not just another body, I will try my best, and I will stop you.  It was...marvelous.\n\nSo I guess the moral of the story is to not be intimidated, and just show them your best, even if it isn't that great. It was just for fun, so no hard feelings which is nice, but always do your best, because you are you and you are awesome.", "summary": "played soccer and felt motivated to do my best rather than to half-ass it."}
{"id": "t3_25k94l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (27 M) cheated on me (29 F) now we are engaged. Any success stories of relationships with rough starts?", "post": "I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and he has had many problematic behaviors in the past. He has cheated on me, lied compulsively and struggled with his drinking. All of this in the first five months of our relationship. He has done a lot to improve himself: going to AA, trying to go without drinking, communicating/being transparent and going to a therapist. He has always had a huge amount of willingness/commitment to staying in our relationship. I have been struggling with pretty serious emotional dysregulation and have tried to leave the relationship so many times. I was previously diagnosed with BPD (have gone through recovery in DBT) but it makes all of this even harder that I am so sensitive emotionally... I am suppose to be happy I am engaged and this is one of my dreams but I feel so sad and doubtful from all the conflict we have been through. I am afraid he is getting tired of my processing all of this stuff and starting to withdrawal a bit too. Feel so uncertain. I would like to move forward and be healthy with him but I am not sure...\n\nDo other people have experiences with rocky starts to a relationship that ended up working out? How did you get through it together? Any tips? Thank you!!", "summary": "Turbulent relationship with my boyfriend... now we are engaged. Looking for stories where it worked out after having rocky beginnings with your partner. "}
{"id": "t3_4ca6jt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [20 F] 5 months, I don't love her. We might not stay in the same city. What do I do?", "post": "She started off as a rebound for me. I wasn't aware at first but I excepted it. I wasn't over my ex like I thought. I got her so easily that it wasn't fun. No chase. Eventually I started to like her for real and that's why we are together. It's close to that 6 month mark and I don't love her (yet?). She likes me way more than I like her. She's a really good girlfriend and a good friend. I'm always laughing when I'm around her. It's always fun. The sex is good. She enjoys enjoys feeling free and being outdoors, just like me. She might have to eventually move away because her family is moving this summer and in her culture (Nepali), family stays together until they're married. She's going to stay in my city just for me and try to transfer into the university here, just for me. I told her don't do it for me and she needs to apply to other universities just in case she doesn't get in this one. I am also moving to another state years later when I'm done with nursing school. It made her think that we won't have a future together because of the distance and she's afraid of being more attached to me.\n\nI've only had 2 other girlfriends and I would have fallen in love by now. When do I need to make that decision to stay with her or break up with her? I don't want to hurt her and waste her time but at the same time I don't want to lose a potentially good long term relationship. What should I do?", "summary": "Been with gf for 5 months, still don't love her. She might have to move in the future, I am definitely moving years later. When do I need to make the decision to stay with her or break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_34pelb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going too hard", "post": "So this happened earlier today. Enter me, enter sexy blonde girl. After a night of heavy flirting, I finally convinced her to come back to my apartment. I put on some rock to get us both in the mood for some aggressive sex (she had let me know she was into it beforehand) and broke out the condoms. It was going great. Approximately 4 min after foreplay and getting it in,  my little soldier decided he wanted to get some fresh air. My brain didn't register the fact that I wasn't still inside her and decided to start going even harder than I was before. My johnson bent in half and popped. It sounded like the most satisfying knuckle pop. I looked down, and my Willie was black, blue, and bigger than my wrist. I cried and ran out if the room because of the pain. Apparently fractured penises exist. She left very soon after.", "summary": "you can beat your meat, you can choke your chicken, but GOD FORBID you ever break your stake."}
{"id": "t3_1inw7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "21F, my boss at my internship is flirting with me - what do I do?", "post": "Background: I'm an intern at a major company, as of right now I think I'm on track to be hired when I graduate (assuming the rest of the summer goes well). The way the process works is after the internship is over they basically ask your manager if you should get the job and their response is pretty much the final decider.\n\nThe summer has been awesome so far, it's a really intense program but I've been getting great feedback from my manager and others so I think I'm doing okay. My direct manager has been super involved, always coming by my cube to make sure I'm okay and asking me to go on coffee runs with him in the middle of the day. All is well and good.\n\nA few weeks ago, he started texting me about work things. Then it kind of devolved into talking about random stuff, and he would always talk about how much he was going to miss me when I go back to school. At this point I'm optimistic and figured he just really valued the work I was doing. But recently it's been getting more and more undeniably flirty, to the point where it's a little weird. Today, he texted me something about how he loved getting to spend 4 uninterrupted hours with me and when I didn't answer (because wtf do you say to that?) he then said \"don't kill me for innocently flirting lol\". I replied with some joke about how he deserves a medal for spending time with me, and we ended the conversation. \n\nSo here's my question: what do I do? I know the textbook right answer is to talk to him about how his texts make me uncomfortable, but he's going to be the deciding factor in whether I get a job at this company or not. I feel like having that conversation would shut down any hope I have for getting a job there. I really have no idea what the right move is. Any advice would be appreciated :(", "summary": "boss at my internship is flirting with me via text, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_iu0m9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My \"friend\" is turning into a cynical and apathetic guy and he maybe in denial about it. I'm concerned, but can't do anything.", "post": "We used to date for a year, so as an ex I'm not *really* his friend. I often think that's more of a peace treaty so neither person feels bad in the breakup. While some I'm sure can, I consider friends those I can open up to about anything and neither of us will take it too personally because we were never intimate nor had a past. Obviously, this wouldn't be the case for us. \n\nThat makes this a bit difficult. I'm concerned for him, but find most of his friends avoid being bluntly honest with him because they don't want to upset him or cause any conflict. Even the girl he is currently seeing, from what I heard, isn't one to openly face things. He prefers for it to not be addressed and pursues anything easier.\n\nHowever, I'm noticing he's picking fights with people or antagonizing others even more. He might laugh at it, but knowing him... there's something else going on. He tends to occasionally withdraw and have down moments so I'm just feeling helpless not being in the position to be able to do anything. I'm soon to move. Also, I don't think it's my place.\n\nIs there anything else I can do? I still care for this guy. What has made him so bitter?", "summary": "Ex bf seems to be growing cynical and apathetic. I worry there's more going on, but he's not one to open up and chooses to avoid people and things that request that, preferring easy. I can't do anything and it's not my place because we're not *really* friends."}
{"id": "t3_3g72at", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not warming up before skateboarding", "post": "I got to the skatepark around 10:30am, and the park was empty. It usually takes about 10 minutes of aimless cruising and stretching to get fully warmed up (skateboarding by the way), and before I can try any tricks. Today was extra cold (winter here) though, so I was going to need at least 20 minutes of warm up time. \n\nEverything started off fine, I was just listening to music and cruising around, but then another skateboarder arrived. At this particular skatepark it is pretty rare to see another skater so naturally we were both trying to show our best tricks. When he got to the park and locked eyes with me he basically went hard in the paint, he wasn't mucking around. Remember at this point he was not warmed up, and neither was I. \n\nThis is where the pain starts: After finishing a solid 5 minutes of sweet tricks, the other skater sat down, letting me know my time was now. My plan was to roll down the huge ramp, and ollie this cute little gap, which was something he didn't do, so it was a must show trick. Because I wasn't warmed up though, there was no way this was going to work.\n\nAs I was approaching the gap, I started my ollie and my front foot slid up the board. My legs were so stiff and my body wasn't ready, that after my front foot slid and I was mid-air, my front foot kept going forward and slipped off the board all together. It ended up planting firmly on the ramp, so as the rest of my body returned to earth, I tripped on my own front foot after getting some decent air, and going pretty fast. It wasn't a nice gentle trip though. My whole body basically shoulder charged the other ramp (an angled wall of concrete), cutting up my elbow, over-stretching my hamstring, smashing my hip on the wall, and pulled what feels like every muscle in my shoulder. My arm is bandaged up because the scrapes on my my elbow won't stop bleeding, it hurts to walk, and I can't lift heavy things. My whole left side aches, and so does my ego.", "summary": "didn't warm up, tried to impress another skater, ended up body slamming a concrete wall at full speed."}
{"id": "t3_3da7fq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] can't tell if girl [21F] I met while travelling has any feelings for me", "post": "I met her two years ago when travelling in the summer to another country. We became very good friends and went out once or twice with just the two of us before I had to leave back to my country. I already had some feelings for her at the time before I had to leave but didnt bother saying anything to her as I thought I wouldn't ever see her again after leaving back to my country.\n\nFast forward two years later, we didn't keep in contact often in the past two years but talked occassionally. Two weeks or so before finding out I had an opportunity to go back to the country she lived in, I told her that I was coming back and she was very excited. We planned out places to visit and things to see when I came to visit.\n\nWhen I arrived she was the first person I saw as she picked me up at the airport. This time when I visited the country we visited many places together but we didn't have much time alone as a family member of mine came along with us. Eventually I actually met her mother and father who were very kind and showed me and my family member around the city and took us to eat a lot of delicious food as well. \n\nBefore I went to her country, I actually joked around and said to her that if she ever wanted to visit where I lived, she could stay at my place with my family. I didn't think that she would actually take me seriously and she told me a few days later that she was actually going to come visit me. She is coming this week to my city and I am planning to tell her how I feel after she arrives, however I don`t feel very confident in myself and am worried of being rejected and making things very awkward for us and for the rest of her visit. \n\nWhat should I do? I am absolutely clueless. Is there any chance that she could like me? Or should I just not say anything to her and just remain good friends", "summary": "Does girl I have feelings for from another country travelling to visit me in my city mean anything special? Or just good friends?"}
{"id": "t3_10orw3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the biggest act of stupidoty you've witnessed?", "post": "I was shopping today in a big busy retail park, walking across the carpark i'd heard a car engine running, lights on etc... As i walked past, I noticed the owner was not in the car, or nowhere to be seen, so I had went to a shop nearby, asked for security and told them the situation (i didn't want to risk going in the car incase I got accused of anything)\nThe car was a brand new 12 plate renault megane. The owner had took the keycard out of the car, failed to lock the car, failed to stop the engine. Stood a chance of losing a \u00a310,000+ car through stupidity. What other acts of stupidity have you guys witnessed?", "summary": "\u00a310,000+ car left in carpark, engine running unattended. Good samaritan doesn't steal it."}
{"id": "t3_22wlq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with this girl [20F] just started dating. I suggested two different times for second date, she did not agree to either time.", "post": "I met this girl on a dating website. After some messaging back and forth we agreed to meet up on a date. Our first date was on Wednesday.\n\nI picked this restaurant not too far from her house. She loved the place, the atmosphere and the food. She commented on this several times. We had great conversations. She was laughing at my jokes and making some jokes of her own. We got along great.\n\nAfter dinner she asked if I wanted to get ice cream. The ice cream place was a place she frequents and it was only across the street. I agreed. She showed me around the place because the owner knows her as a regular. However she noticed that it was late in the evening and she had a ton of work that needs to be finished before the next day.\n\nAfter I dropped her off at her place I asked for her phone number (she expressed reluctance to give out her number over the internet to someone she hasn't met in person). She said \"I'll just message you\" in a happy tone and left.\n\nTwo days later I noticed that she hasn't send me the phone number like she promised. I messaged her telling her that I had a great time and asked her out again for next weekend. She said that she has a professional event to attend next weekend. I offered an alternate time (Friday evening) and she replied by saying \"I don't know yet\".\n\nAm I reading something wrong here or am I just freaking out over nothing? There was no reason for me to believe that our first date went badly. Should I wait and try again later on?", "summary": "Met girl through online dating. First date went perfect. Asked for second date but girl is not accepting my time suggestions. Should I wait to ask again?"}
{"id": "t3_k35c7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need your help, Reddit! My roommate just got out of a relationship- details inside.", "post": "So today is my lovely roommate's birthday. We're sophomores in college and roomed together last year too. This morning she walks outside and then comes back in softly crying, saying that she and her boyfriend broke up. It wasn't totally unexpected, but hey, shit's tough. \n\nShe gets a little better, and I take her to lunch for her b-day and give her her present. There was a football game tonight (we go to a huge school) and so we pre-gamed at a friends house. She is tipsy and all is well. We go to the game and get separated cuz my tickets were at will call. fuck. no service to call her. So I sit alone for the first half, before deciding to go back to the dorm. \n\nAnd there she is lying in bed and crying. Its 10pm and she wants to go to bed cuz she has work in the AM. I even bought booze for us to party tonight, but she's not having it. So here I am on my laptop, not knowing what to do. I assume she won't cheer up immediately and the next few days/weeks are gonna be hard. I'm the type who never wears her heart on her sleeve, and I guess she is, so I don't know how to deal with that. How can I be a good and supportive friend to her, when she's sad/angry all the time?\nI've been through a bad break up before, but I hid my feelings from my friends, so I don't know how to be the supportive friend. What do I say?", "summary": "My roommate and her boyfriend broke up (on her goddamn birthday) and now she's depressed. What can I do to cheer her up and be a supportive friend in the next few days."}
{"id": "t3_2l1w79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] have to move overseas for 3 years, my boyfriend [24 M] doesn't want to.", "post": "I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 24. We've been together for nearly three years, and we're both studying at University - he is currently finishing his degree, and I am halfway through my Masters. He is working full-time, while I am studying (on scholarship) and teaching at my University.\n\nSo the situation is this - because I'm aiming to get a PhD (I can't get a job in my field without it), I am intending on going overseas to study once I have finished my Masters (so in approximately 2 years). This is something my boyfriend has been aware of since before we started dating. Originally, the plan was for him to follow me overseas. \n\nHowever, around 3 months ago the situation changed and he no longer wanted to come with me once I graduated. We've been discussing long distance, which doesn't seem right as I will be over there for at least 3 years. His job is here, and I don't feel right asking him to follow me when he doesn't want to. We both are still in love with each other, and neither of us wants to break up. \n\nWe've had many discussions as to what we should do - break up now, or wait till I leave ... none of which sticks well. I know it's 2 years away, but now that this is out in the open it is difficult not to think about it. We don't know what to do, or what is the right thing. So basically, I am asking for your help or opinions on this.", "summary": "Together 3 years, boyfriend no longer wants to follow me overseas."}
{"id": "t3_2pycqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my S/O [18 F] of 5 years might not be the one.", "post": "I am not sure if the girl I have been with for almost 5 years is the right one. I have never been in a serious relationship before her, and we have been somewhat on and off for the last two years. In one of the off times, she had sex with someone else, apart from that I am her only sexual partner. She is also my only sexual partner. I'm not sure if I'm ready to settle down with her, despite telling her for years that I am. I want to experience others sexually, and find out what exactly I want in a relationship in general. \n\nIt's selfish and cruel to waste someone's time, which is the one thing you can never pay back, but at the same time I don't know if I should abandon this relationship due to mainly sexual reasons. I am rather introverted, so I am not sure if I would be able to find another girl at all. Suggestions for a course of action would be appreciated.", "summary": "In invested relationship, not sure if I'm willing to settle down for mainly sexual reasons."}
{"id": "t3_51hzwm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my coworker [30F], acts like she's hot stuff", "post": "So we recently got a new head of sales from our competitor. Before she came, our CEO would often say how we will NEVER be like our competitor, and few months later, he hires a sales rep there who becomes our head of sales. Our startup is only around 30 people so titles don't mean much but still WTH????\n\nSince she's started, she has been able to take every Friday off due to \"prior arrangements/travels\". She often comes in late (around 11am) or just works from home even though the CEO often tells everyone how important it is to be at work on time and working from home is not allowed. Somehow, she gets away with all of that.\n\nI don't report to her but the CEO often asks her to work on projects with me. Instead of discussing through the details, she would just send me an email (with to do's) cc'ing the CEO, EVEN THOUGH I SIT NEXT TO HER. Why can't she talk to me like a normal person?\n\nShe also takes credit for things I've created, like presentations,  which is fine because it's entertaining to watch her struggling to present since she doesn't completely understand the content. Either way, the CEO seems to LOVE her. Is it white privilege? I'm not white but she is the epitome of a white sorority girl (no offense here). \n\nIf I did half the stuff that she did, I would be gone in a heartbeat. \n\nQuestion: How is she able to get away with so much? Her sales performance is ok, not phenomenal like the CEO described when he tried to hire her. I am not a sales rep but am involved with sales operations day to day so we tend to have to work together. She irritates me so much but I don't want to show it, though she probably knows that I don't like her since we never talk. How would you deal with her?", "summary": "Coworker gets away with so much, like taking extra days off and working from home. She is also cold/rude towards me (even though we have to work on projects together) but the CEO seems to love her. How do you deal with a coworker like that?"}
{"id": "t3_3de2l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40/M] with my [32 F] getting serious, need advice", "post": "I am 40 years old, divorced with two kids.  I started dating the girl of my dreams about a year and a half after my divorce was final.  We started dating around March of this year and we are serious.\n\nI am absolutely head over heals for this girl and I hope she feels the same way.  We click, except for two major hurdles we are trying to get over.  As I mentioned before, I was married and have two kids, I have never hid this from her, she knew before our first date.\n\nWe are at a cross roads where it is hard for her to accept that I was married before and have kids.  It is holding us back from moving forward.  In her eyes, marriage is forever and should only happen once.  I do agree with her, sadly my first marriage didn't work out and I live with that and have slowly come to peace and overcome the heartbreak of that.\n\nMy current girlfriend feels the memories created from marriage and childbirth should be shared with one person, she feels like she is cheated out of this because I have already experienced this.  I can't argue with her, I have.\nI come to you for advice guys, what if anything can I do to help the situation.", "summary": "gf is having a hard time dealing with the fact I was married and have kids."}
{"id": "t3_3epcfb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I (m20) asked a friend (f21) a really selfish question, and don't know how to proceed.", "post": "What I asked should be pretty obvious, so I have a little background:\nWe are both army brats, and have been best friends for almost 5 years now. We talk multiple times a week and before she moved back stateside we hung out quite a bit. I recently moved back stateside (3 months ago) and she invited me to come stay with her and her family for a week. The week went by fine, I really enjoyed my time with her (and her family). The afternoon before my flight back home I don't know why but I asked and it was really awkward. Neither of us is looking for a relationship right now, we're both more concerned with finishing college.\n\nWe had disscussed maybe starting a relationship, but we were younger and she was moving and with an ocean between us it didn't seem like a good idea, and havn't really talked about it since. She is my best friend and was there for me at my lowest point in life (I failed out of my first choice University, lost a lot of stuff (money and so on), and my family started tearing itself apart over a will). I liked how things are/were between us, I don't know if I should apologize to her or just pretend it never happened.", "summary": "I asked to start a relationship in the heat of the wrong moment, made things a little awkward, and don't know if I should apologize or not (and how to apologize for something like this)?"}
{"id": "t3_16sxgr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I love you mom but CMON!", "post": "To get something offmychest before I start doing my job.\n\nI am 20 y/o male. I have always loved playing games. So I have spent maybe 8 year ~ish playing games on my PC, talking with other people in the games etc. Typical nerd. Not leaving my house when friends invite me to go drinking. (this was before 18) My mother likes that I didn't start drinking before I was 18 (18 is required  to buy alcohol). Before this year I had only got drunk like 6 times. Now I have started drinking more and HAVING FUN. I am so fucking tired of being home at the computer playing dem games. I have fun gaming but I AM JUST SO FUCKING TIRED. I wanna have fun with people, drink, talk. Do things I might regret next day.\n\nSo about my mom.. She doesn't like that I drink this much because she used to have a problem with alcohol. And I know she is just worried that I end up like she did. But ffs, I am 20 and wanna have some fun. Last nite, I was shopping with my friend and went to take few beers at the this club. Its 22 (10pm) and my mom texts me that \"I hope you are not drinking you got work tomorrow\" I FUCKING KNOW THIS..\n\nI still love you mom. :)\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I have been a gamer almost my whole life, now wanna have fun and drink dat booze. My mom doesn't like it and is being an asshole. I still love my mom. Always."}
{"id": "t3_2wwl56", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep in my bro's bed", "post": "Alright, so this happened two days ago, on saturday afternoon. To set the scene, I go to a pretty large school in the south and the weekends pretty consist of drinking a lot and socializing. I got to the house where a few of my bros live at around 4 and to kill the time we decided to through a movie on and chill until it was time to start drinking and go out. HBO recently started carrying Bulletproof Monk so we throw that on. Turns out its fucking awful. I end up falling asleep on the end of his bed laying ~~horizontally~~ like a dog.\n\nFalling asleep was the beginning of my fuck up. I briefly remember a nightmare of being chased by some hellacious creature, I turn back to look at it while running, but cannot find it. I look forward. BANG I hit something.\n\nSo I come to stumbling up the stairs of my bud's house with a massive headache, not knowing what the fuck has happened to me. I  rub my head (much to my chagrin it feels like its been beaten worse Denver in the super bowl last year) and find my hand covered in blood. I basically fall into the living room where all my friends are drinking and ask what the hell is going on and what happened. I simply can't talk and am concussed as fuck. I walk into the bathroom to find a major gash at the top of my head and blood all down my face. The next thirty minutes is comprised of me being in complete shock, not knowing where I am, and wondering what happened to me. I finally gather myself and start cutting up with my friends. This is when the guy who's room I fell asleep in walks through the front door holding a golf club... Not pointing fingers, but seriously, i'm suspicious now. \n\n**TIFU** by falling asleep on a bed doggy style, having my best friend hit me in the head with his golf club and being majorly concussed.", "summary": "Fell asleep on the end of a bed, had a nightmare, probably rolled off the bed, split my head open, and got a major concussion."}
{"id": "t3_sa9yp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for an unknown problem", "post": "So me and a group of 7 friends were going to go see Wicked (a Broadway play) tonight. I was all set to go until I got a call from one of the friends in question. He told me that one of the girls in the group had some shit with me and wouldn't go if I was going to be there. Not wanting to cause any trouble I decided that I wouldn't go.\n\nBut what I want to know, is why she had shit with me. Me and her have never been the closest friends and I don't believe I've said anything that could have upset her. In fact, I haven't really hung out with her in a long while. Any ideas of why she might not want to see me, Reddit? Any advice on how to get closer to her?", "summary": "A girl has some unknown \"shit\" with me and doesn't want to see me when I haven't done anything that might have upset her."}
{"id": "t3_1t4u1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] Never Dated, need advice on how to ask a girl out.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying that I'm sorry for using a throw away, but some people know my real account so I want to keep this totally between us.\n\n---\n\nI have had a crush on a girl for about half a year, but I am so shy that I haven't had the balls to ask her out. We get along well when we talk and we text every now and then. We mostly talk about school though because we are both at the top of our class and are pretty competitive within our group of friends. We are both 16\n\n---\n\nI am very hesitant to ask her out because I have never dated before. Also, one of my parents works at the school and has her as a student. My family often jokingly busts my balls, but I don't want them to know about this if I get turned down.\n\n---\n\nWe also have four classes together so I don't know if it would get awkward if I get rejected.\n\n---\n\nI recently lost over 50 lbs just to make myself more attractive to her because she is in great shape and I don't think she would be attracted to a fat slob like I was.", "summary": "I need advice on how to ask out a girl because I am shy and have no experience in the matter."}
{"id": "t3_3b7izh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of a year, she isn't talking to me because I got drunk last night by myself.", "post": "Last night, I was bored and alone in my room, so I decided to grab a bottle of wine from my parents wine cabinet and have some to drink. Now, I've had alcohol before and I've been drunk on one occasion previous to this. I drank the entire bottle, and was quite drunk afterwards. My girlfriend wanted to talk on the phone, so I called her and we were having a normal conversation. Well, it was pretty obvious how drunk I was, and when she found out the extent of my drunkeness she hung up on me. \n\nI texted her apologizing, saying that I shouldn't have been drinking at all(which is true, I should not have even touched the bottle), and when I said something along the lines of \"baby I'm so sorry, I didn't know you felt that strong about alcohol\", she told me to not call her baby, and she said goodbye. This really hurts, I loved her. She was an amazing girlfriend, and what confuses me is that we always talk about sneaking out and having a bottle of wine together. I thought she wouldn't care if I had a bottle to myself. I'm pretty sure she's upset because of how drunk I was, not because I drank with out her.\n\nI tried texting her today but she hasn't replied", "summary": "my girlfriend is mad because I got drunk alone in my room, I think it might be over. Is there anything else I can do besides apologizing profusely to her, and meaning it?"}
{"id": "t3_4st4iz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and my live-in boyfriend [23M] of 13 months, keeps me up at night with tv", "post": "Throwaway cause BF knows I Reddit.", "summary": "BF keeps me up at night with loud tv in living room and gets mad when I ask him to move to farther room which has a smaller set."}
{"id": "t3_1oesuj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] am confronted with options but want an outsiders perspective.", "post": "Hello, The options i feel like i have right now that i put in the title will be called Girl #1 and Girl #2. A little detail about both of them:\n\nGirl #1 has been an ex of mine from when i was 14, when we broke up after a few weeks we became very good friends up untill my 16. Unknowingly she got fed up with my shit and broke contact. Few months ago i asked to sit down and talk to her because i felt like i really missed her. Everything is done and forgiven now and i am really happy for that. She had been in a year relationship the the point i recontacted her again and started to get really jealous and annoyed every time i see her. I have feelings for her and i am a generally jealous guy. I love spending time with her but the it keeps me awake nights after meeting her on how much i wish she'd break up with her boyfriend and give me a chance ( Very selfish i know.)\n\nGirl #2: Recently i have met one of my childhood friends sister and got to hang with her. I asked her out on a date while we were at a party and that date is still coming up. Every sign indicates that she wants to try things with me. At first in my drunken mind i thought it was pretty fucking smart because i wouldn't have to open up to Girl #1 and could just wait out the relationship while i can suppress my feelings for her by having someone that loves me back and could release sexual and mental frustration with. But when sobering up i realized that she was the sister of my friend, the daughter of parents that have had me over at their house a lot since i was 10. I didn't want to hurt the girl or her family by making them realize that i'm an asshole. It's also a little late to say \"nvm about that date.\"\n\nDo you think there will be a way to ask her for not too serious of a relationship or should i just try to stay away from \"Girl #2\" Maybe i should give her a go and just try to forget about \"Girl #1\"", "summary": "Can't stand my crush having a boyfriend it makes me too jealous and sexually frustrated but i'm also too much of a coward to be honest with her about it. Turned me to easy pick up for pure physical attraction but at the time of asking her to a date had not thought of the fact that she was the sister of one of my best friends and the daughter of parents that have had me over quite a lot and to this point still like me."}
{"id": "t3_c8rwr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Weekend fun out of town turns out \"interesting\"", "post": "Went out to a friends place last weekend to get away from the city. Ended up going to a social and met his sister, I was very drunk and she was very forward about liking me. We talked a little bit while walking on the beach and then we went back to there place and her and I ended up watched TV until like 5 in the morning... nothing happened other than some hand holding/cuddling. The next day we both act like it was nothing and I leave back home, only to find she's added me to Facebook and is being very chatty with me, we exchange phone numbers...\n\nTwo days later she tells me she's coming into the city because she needs to pick up a few things, and we decide to get together to hang out a bit. We go to the park and throw around a frisbee for a while and decide to go back to my place and watch some TV. One thing leads to another and we're making out, etc... again I don't go any further because she's my friends sister, currently has a bf, and is 18 and I'm 23. The age thing doesn't bother me too much, but her being my buddies sister is a little weird.\n\nI know I should have told her no I was busy to hang out but she is a pretty cool girl. Should I ask her brother if he's cool with me potentially dating his younger sister? I've talked to her about her having a bf and she's been trying to build up the courage to break up with him for about a week", "summary": "went to social with friend, ended up liking to his sister, did some hand holding, kissing... she's 5 years younger than me, and has a bf."}
{"id": "t3_4ui33z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [mid-20s,F] with guy I'm seeing [mid-20s,M], couple months...I like him but need to work on my social life", "post": "Hey guys, I met a guy and started dating him a couple months ago. I really like him, but as time has gone on, it's been harder to date because I don't have time/energy to date him and expand on my social life. I want to solidify my friendships/make more friends and in order to do that, I want to spend a lot of my weekend hanging out with people. Therefore I don't have time to spend with him and his friends. Sometimes I invite him to hang out with me and my friends, but he declines because he is busy with his friends. I don't have time to hang with him and his crew because I want to invest in my own friendships first. What should I do?", "summary": "Like the guy I'm dating but don't know how to balance him and my own social life"}
{"id": "t3_1tayxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "I previously asked this girl to winter ball and we went out to dinner. She said she wanted to get dinner again sometime but we never made plans.\n\nToday I asked her out on a date. I said \"hey I'm trying to see Catching Fire, but I need a date. Do you want to go?\"\n\nShe covered her mouth with the DVD I had just returned to her and gave me puppy eyes (tilted her head down held the dvd box in her hands and covered her mouth with the top part) and then said \"I have to drive back home (hour and a half away)\" so I suggested we do it next week. She said \"oh probably\" and said something else and punched me in the shoulder playfully. Was she just being nice to not deny me twice or does she actually want to go and doesn't know her plans?\n\nShe usually acts pretty odd around me. Sometimes she'll be friendly, other times she avoids me. Is she shy or just too nice to flat out reject me?", "summary": "asked her out and she said probably"}
{"id": "t3_zaln0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was called a douchebag by someone, am I really in the wrong?", "post": "This was in an online chat that has all of my friends in it and what I said infuriated this one girl enough to make a new chat with all of my friends and exclude me. This chat has about 8 or more other friends in it (but it's sorta immature with the 3 in the pictured) who act alot better.\nHere is a picture of the chat (the name who isn't fully censored is me)\n\nI've let it go, instead of showing her how I can really be a douche, if i wanted to. So, how should I act with this? \n\nFor those redditors who would like to say \"get a life\", please don't do so. I have a job, i go to college full time, and I'm quite social with others. (I participate in political discussions, gaming groups, and hang out with friends irl). I would like to keep this whole thing respectful.", "summary": "you should read this and give an opinion. I don't know how to explain this in one sentence."}
{"id": "t3_4ken8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Random guys keep texting/facebook messaging my girlfriend (17) asking for sex/nudes. What should I (18) do?", "post": "My current girlfriend has a weird problem with tons of guys asking her for naked snapchats/sex over facebook/text. Random guys, random numbers, and they're relentless. Even after she tells them something about having a boyfriend or not being interested they do not stop.\n\nI'm a nonviolent scrawny kid, so people don't feel threatened or that I'm any kind of barrier. What can I do?\n\nI'm not worried that she'll do anything, especially since she is so open about it when it happens, but it's annoying to her and myself for obvious reasons. While I'm not threatened by it, I'd like it to stop because it stresses her out and frankly pisses me off.\n\nI'd just let it slide if it were a rare thing, or if they had the decency to stop before being told off and blocked. It happens probably 2-3 times a week and it's just a nuisance. Any help appreciated, thanks.", "summary": "Kids on facebook hit on my girlfriend, harass her for nudes. What can I do to make it stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2tctcj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by repeating a friend's joke", "post": "Last Friday, while catching up with a close friend over drinks, I tell him that my wife and I are quite nervous that our 9 month old daughter has started waddling because she picks up things and puts them in her mouth. He says that he had the same problem with his daughter at that age and that I just got to deal with it for a while. He then makes a joke about how, even in the future, we will be telling our daughters not to put strange things in their mouths. I thought it was funny and had a good chuckle over it.\n\nFast forward to today, I take the afternoon off from work to take my wife, and daughter to the pediatrician for the baby's 9 month check up. My wife mentions that the baby has started waddling, putting things in her mouth and that it makes her nervous. The doctor gives us a few pointers. At this point, I think it would be funny to repeat my friend's joke and I say, \"We'll be telling her not to put strange things in her mouth even when she is older, but it's not like she is going to listen to us\"\n\nMy wife, and the doctor have a horrified look on their face as they can't believe I would make that kind of a joke. After about 30 seconds of silence and noticing the look of disgust from the doctor, my wife tells me to go wait in the car until they finish. I later learn that I'm no longer allowed to accompany my daughter for any future visits at that doctor's office.", "summary": "Offended the doctor with a penis joke"}
{"id": "t3_4hgpxk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping something at work...", "post": "I posted this yesterday but it was removed so I'm putting it back up with a bit more detail.\n\nI was working as a waiter last night when this family of seven showed up. This family had a cute little baby in a high-chair too. I went over asked if they wanted anything and took their orders etc. They ordered four steaks with sauces on the side. So I get their drinks and make sure they're comfortable and then the sauce for their steaks is ready. I get some plates, put the sauces on the plates and put a spoon on each plate... Keep that in your memory. So I take out the first two sauces and they're for the two that are directly beside the baby. I lean over the baby and bring their sauces over her and....\n\nThe Spoon I had on the plate fell off and hit the cute little baby on the head.\n\nCue the baby crying, me repeatedly apologising and everyone in the restaurant (But my boss didn't see luckily) looking at me like a complete nonce. \n\nThe family said that it was okay and that it was \"just a spoon\" but I felt horrible about it. My confidence and self esteem took a big hit (Turns out when you have no confidence/self-esteem, you can still sink lower and lower and lower) and it was only my second night working there.", "summary": "I dropped a spoon on a baby's head while waiting tables and embarrassed myself in front of everyone there."}
{"id": "t3_4eixsn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Counting Calories and Exercising?", "post": "Hello all.\n\nSo recently I've started to count my calories and am on the road to losing some weight, but I've got a few concerns. My main question is: why is that if you eat below a recommended amount of calories, your benefits drop off? For example, I know most males aren't supposed to eat fewer than 1500 calories a day, and when I do (or did, should I say) the weight loss just isn't as prominent (not to mention that at below this point, the body's chemicals start to unbalance).\n\nI have also synced my Fitbit with MFP to track my steps, and I input my workouts too, but the question still exists: should I eat enough calories so MFP is satisfied and I've \"met my goal\" or should I continue just to eat 100-500 below my TDEE and exercise to burn more calories?", "summary": "Why do loss benefits drop dramatically below a certain number of calories (ex: 1500 for men)? Should I eat back my exercise calories from MFP?"}
{"id": "t3_14ab7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] Biggest misunderstanding of my life (19)", "post": "My 6 month long argument with my girlfriend ended peacefully enough today.\n\nThere is a big difference between \n\na GF's BFF (F19)yelling at her for spending time with me, stealing her away at prom and running off on a holiday no one told me about because she is a greedy bitch who can't understand that my GF has a boyfriend and always wants more even though she gets as much time as me\n\nand a GF's BFF yelling at her for spending time with me, stealing her away at prom and running off on a holiday no one told me about because they have seen each other maybe 10 times in a year. \n\nAlthough I still don't like some of her actions they become so much more understandable with the knowledge that they have seen each other only a few days this year. \n\nBefore people start going off at me, in a previous [thread] supervised and approved by my girlfriend redditors were calling for BFF's head. She said nothing then or any of the other times we had a formal talk.\n\nYes she has said \"I haven't seen her in ages\" but when she says that about me it means she hasn't seen me in a couple days. And when I say that about one of my friends it means in a few weeks or a month.\n\nI don't know how but I have honestly spent a year believing BFF has been getting almost as much time as I do and was just a bitch who was trying to destroy any relationship my GF gets into. I would have sworn on my life that she gets atleast 2/3 or at very least half of what I do. No one understands how this happened. At prom I spoke to some friends and when I said my GF had gone off with BFF. They said stuff like \"Typical. They're always running off together\" So it wasn't just me who was misinformed.", "summary": "Facts and figures: Use them."}
{"id": "t3_2lg6l3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "30f feeling obsessive/rejected after brief encounter with 23m", "post": "My friend put me on the list for a big party he was promoting for Halloween. At the party, I started talking to a guy in the VIP area, and he started kissing me. At some point he gave me his business card. Then\u2014here's where it gets hazy\u2014one of his friends came over and said something to offend me. I don't really remember what was said, but I remember it was offensive enough that I just got up and left without saying goodbye -- and left the party. For the last five days, I haven't been able to stop thinking about the guy I met and was kissing. Yesterday I added him on FB and sent him an accompanying message (his FB info was on his card), and this morning I noticed that he'd \"seen\" the message, but didn't accept my friendship request. Now I've been beating myself up about contacting him, thinking I shouldn't have done it, thinking I'm a total weirdo...on and on. You know when you meet someone and you are just attracted to them in a primal way? That's how I feel about this guy. I walked over seven miles today to try to shake this obsessive/nervous energy, but it didn't work. I feel really, really lame for trying to add him on FB  and just trying to \"chase\" in general. I think I need to get a grip. Advice?", "summary": "met a guy at a party, tried to add him on FB, he's not adding me, way too upset and obsessed"}
{"id": "t3_2x3woz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Stress eating now v. then. What a change!", "post": "I'm not much of a poster here, but this got me excited and I wanted to share (and not bore my poor boyfriend any further with food talk...).\n\nI used to be a binge eater, a bad binge eater. I could eat 2 litres of ice-cream, several litres of milkshake, noodles, huge bars of chocolate etc. along with my regular meals, which would be big and unhealthy. Daily. I was a sugar person when things got tough. Add depression to that and as I'm sure you can imagine I gained a lot. \n\nOver the last year or so I've been working at changing my habits and counting calories on and off. Recently I got more serious and have lowered my calorie intake to 1200 and all is going well, up until yesterday. Yesterday was a bad day, my University course seems to have changed and my home life is a bit up and down. So I was miserable, I'd eaten most of my calories for the day and felt like crap. I decided I didn't care, what did the weight loss matter if I wasn't happy?\n\nSo I let loose, I had a binge. I had 6 biscuits, M&M's, and a desert pot thing none of which I logged last night. This morning I woke up feeling a lot better and decided I was only lying to myself if I didn't log, so I figured I'd find out the damage. For the whole day? 1590! I was amazed! Especially considering that my previous calorie goal for the day was 1500 before I lowered it. I'm really proud of myself, not for overeating, but for a general change of attitude.", "summary": "Used to binge eat in a big way, now my binges aren't even as high as maintenance calories!"}
{"id": "t3_tdppv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my sex drive is higher than his. well damn.", "post": "**25 F engaged to 26 M. Together for 3 years now, living together. Happy... for the most part.**\n\nThis is the best relationship I've ever been in. We're so stupidly compatible, it's hard to believe. I love spending time with him, and I know we're in it for the long haul.\n\nIt's just... Well, in the beginning, our sex drives were pretty evenly matched. It's nothing crazy, but y'know, everything was new and so we did it pretty frequently. And sex with him was always great for both of us. A year passes, everything's still good. We work a lot so sometimes we go a while without seeing each other. And then on days off, we're tired so we just cuddle.\n\nBut after year two, I noticed that the sex started to wane. I still wanted it. I'm usually always game. That's just how I am. But he would be tired or maybe not in the mood. And I'm not pushy when it comes to stuff like that. In fact, it makes me feel a little rejected sometimes, even when I know it's not a big deal. Maybe I just assume guys wanna do it all the time, and forget that they're human.\n\nBut I don't know if it's because he's actually tired and just naturally less sex driven, or if he's just losing interest. I don't want to be in one of those old relationships where the sex is kinda dead. By now, we're down to like... once or twice a week. And honestly, I'm left feeling a little ... unsatisfied and self conscious.\n\nFor the record, nothing else in our relationship has changed. It's really just this sex thing... but that's a pretty big part of a relationship so I just need to know.\n\nTell me, guys. Is this normal? What can I do to let him know I'm not satisfied without offending him? I'm not really big on bringing it up to him because I don't want him to feel like he HAS to have sex with me because I want him to.", "summary": "Boyfriend's desire to screw is lessening with time. Nothing else has changed and relationship is still great... but I need sexytime, damnit! Is this normal? Deal with it or say something?"}
{"id": "t3_15eg54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 27M (her: 21F) don't get enough sex and it's killing my mood and harming our relationship dynamics", "post": "We're supposed to be in our primes and doing it six, seven times a day. Wrong. When we first met, we probably had that much the first week. Nowadays, I'm lucky if we do it four times a month. We have been together for 2 years, lived together for 1.5y.\n\nI'm always moody and she gaslights and guiltrips me saying that it's *always* about sex with me. That everything I do, that I'm nice to her simply to get sex (to some degree, this is true.) I'm always the one who initiates it.\n\nI hate asking for it. It's pathetic and shameful to be always begging for that fruit. But for the last year now, it's always me who begs. Most of the times, I don't get it. She's always putting it off: \"Tomorrow, okay?.... I have a headache... I'm sleepy.... I'm just not in the mood.\"\n\nYes, we sat down and talked about this seriously, one on one. I am getting the feeling that we're just not compatible sexually. For the record, I have never given her an orgasm. She has never given herself one when masturbating. I am her second sexual partner and the guy before me hasn't given her one either. I bought her a $100 Gigi thinking it'd get some \"solo sessions\" only to see it collect dust.\n\nI'm at a loss what to do... what to say. I would hate to admit that we have a sexual incompatibility problem. To me, that's important. If you're sexually incompatible... what then? Can you try to make everything else work?", "summary": "I don't get enough sex. She always complains that I ask for it too much. This has been going on for about a year now... I'm at a loss at what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4nzaof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hubby says 'no more kids'. I'm heartbroken.", "post": "Background: I am 26f, he is 29m. We have an 8 month old son. We will celebrate 4 years of marriage in September. I work, he is currently a stay-at-home dad. He deals with significant anxiety and has a chronic GI disease. \n\nTonight he tells me he doesn't want to have any more children. He knows I do but that I don't want to have another for like 3-4 years. I simply don't want him to make a decision right now. He says 'ok' but that I should know how he is feeling.\n\nHe loves our little boy & our son is typically a very happy baby. During my pregnancy, he gave us some issues with a bit of pre-term labor and then his actual labor and delivery was a bit dramatic (ie. Anxiety producing for dad). And, he still does not sleep through the night and when we put him down to sleep, he is hysterical for about 30 minutes. This gives both daddy and I a lot of anxiety. Daddy doesn't get a lot of solid nights of sleep. I do offer to stay with baby on nights where I don't work the next day, but he usually tells me no.\n\nI could go more into the 'why' for his feelings but really, I want to know how I deal with this? How do I get over this? I didn't say much to him because I was so sad. I don't want our son to be an only child. I would love to have a daughter to play dress up with or give my son a little sidekick brother. Originally I wanted 3 kids but have since scaled that down to 2. I just don't know how to accept this.... :(", "summary": "married 4 years, 8 month old baby. Hubby says no more kids, I want one more. How do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_spmqi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I hope you guys can help me out with me (former) best friend. I'm really counting on Reddit for this one.", "post": "Long story short, her ex was an asshole to her in high school, she broke up with him, and then dated his best friend for a short time. When university started, she saw her ex again at uni, felt guilty because he said he had started doing drugs and drinking alcohol cuz of her. She starts dating him again; he emotionally and verbally abuses her, tells her that I'm an asshole who wants to use her etc. She stops talking to everyone until Christmas break. We (me, her sister, and other friends) convinced her to break up with him. And she did. But after going back to uni, she started having a thing with him again. This time, I lost my cool and got mad, yelled at her. She told me off, but I still apologized to her in March. A few hours ago, she emailed me saying she was happy with that asshole and I said that was good for her, but I was never going to forgive him (he  says he has cancer, no symptoms or proof to support it). I told her that he was not my concern anymore, blah blah blah. She told me I was being egoistic and needed to keep my anger away. Hence, making me sound like the bad guy. Now should I still work my way and try to save the friendship or should I just tell her off?", "summary": "Best friend has been a bitch too me for a while, should I still apologize (again) and try saving friendship or tell her off?"}
{"id": "t3_3346c7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] going through a slow breakup with my ex bf/friend [29M] It hurts.", "post": "So around November i started seeing someone pretty much awesome. Had a few dates and then we started dating in December. Last month things between work and seeing each other became so limited he lived with his ex so it made things hard. But we were kinda broken up but more so still chatting but no time to see each other. We decided to start it up again until our lives could sync up better and we could spend more time together.\n\nI was chatting to him the other night and he told me he misses his ex, so they got back together. He told me they were a toxic relationship so its beyond me why hes gotten back. Bit naturally Im crushed. Im going to have a no talk time to let myself heal but I really dont know what went wrong. \n\nWe were fine, work became chaotic and it was hard to see each other to the point we just wanted to work our lives out Instead of denying each other. He was still living with said ex until he could find a place so he would sometimes come and it was great around but it was hard for me to visit him.\n\nWorst off i just got two weeks off, and no one to share them with.", "summary": "started an awesome Relationship, work got in the way to the point we couldnt really see each other and had to keep denying requests to visit as our days off wouldnt sync up. Decided together to get serious again once he was out of exs place and work settled down. Tells me he misses his ex and is back together with her. Heart is shattered."}
{"id": "t3_17nbir", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Did I make a mistake? How long until this stops hurting?", "post": "I [M/20] broke up with my gf [19] of almost two years in the middle of December. We both go to separate colleges about 3 hours apart, and have been dating since the end of our senior year in high school. We've almost always been a LDR, except over breaks where I come home and stay with my parents, who live near where she lives and goes to college.\n\nI ended it because I felt that our relationship hasn't been growing when we were apart, despite phone and Skype calls. We're very different (she a performance major, me an engineer), and I often felt like we had nothing in common to talk about. When we're together, everything was great, but apart the best our relationship was was stagnant.\n\nIt's been about six weeks now, and I still think about and miss her every day. She was my first, and my first love. I want to be friends with her, but we've hardly talked since the breakup, as I think it's too painful for both of us. When I think about how it hurt her, and hard it was, I still tear up.", "summary": "How long until it stops hurting to think about? Why do I regret this so much, even though I think I did the right thing?"}
{"id": "t3_k7pbx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Significance of the Confederate flag, today?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nSo lately I've noticed a lot of people, whether on their car, their house, wherever..sporting a confederate flag. I mostly see this when I make trips down to Georgia, but I live in New York and it is around here as well..I have nothing against people from the south, but I don't really understand what the people who show these want to say..from my understanding, the confederate flag was a representation of the south that seceded from the union mainly for the reason of Abraham Lincoln abolishing slavery....I assume these people aren't pro-slavery, or even racist, I just don't understand what else they could be representing with these flags?", "summary": "why do people show confederate flags assuming they aren't racist/pro slavery?"}
{"id": "t3_x5c27", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl returns to ex-girlfriend. [20/m] Huh?", "post": "I have been \"friends with benefits\" to this Bisexual-girl for about 1 month. We had sex and she just got out of a 4 year relationship with a guy. She was sorta depressed and began talking to me. She made it clear she did not want a relationship right now. Last weekend we talked about becoming more and she still was not ready. Today she now tells me she's back with her ex-girlfriend. She knows she was bitch about it because she asked me in those exact words. I need help figuring out where my mind should be and how I should properly react. \nA threesome would be nice but I don't know how to pull it off or is that even a good idea to do with her?\n\n;", "summary": "Girl that did not want a relationship now returned to her gf, what should I do/feel?"}
{"id": "t3_4pbbmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my mother [41F] , We always fight at home. Did moving out repair your relationship with your parents?", "post": "My mother and I always fight. I guess it's just her nature to be irrational and extremely dramatic. If things don't go her way she throws a fit like a child. She gets angry really quickly and once she has made an assumption she refuses to hear any explanation. Once I burnt a pancake while making breakfast. She emerges from the room angry+screaming + crying and tells me if the house gets burnt down she will make sure I go to jail.This one time when I was a kid she punched and slapped me in front of everyone because I didn't do homework. That night she \"mocked kick out\" me. She threw call my clothes in the backyard and I slept there until my dad arrived and saved me. I still get nightmares from that. There is a LOT more instances that I cannot enumerate. It would take me forever.\n\nI am moving out for college this Saturday.  School starts September but I am leaving early. Despite this week being my last,the fights never died down. This time dad isn't around to be the referee since he currently works in a different city. As always I am the bad guy again and she is the good. I still love her but we cannot live together in the same house.  Our personalities don't  click. I am hoping that moving out will repair what we have since we will be on equal footing and I won't be subbordinate to her.", "summary": "Mother and I fight a lot and don't click living in thecsame house. Did moving out help you repair your relationship with your parent?"}
{"id": "t3_xywm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to tell my girlfriend [18] I'm[16] uncomfortable with her hanging out with her exes.", "post": "So, my girlfriend have been going out for about 8 months, and it's been by far the best relationship I've ever been involved in. In fact it's been the only relationship I've been involved in, so I have no idea what I'm doing. First of all, should I even tell her how I feel about it? Or am I just going to come off a way to clingy and controlling? I mean, just today she went out and had ice cream with one of her exes that she went out with for around a year and a half. She is heading off to university about a week from now, and she invited a different ex and it might just me being paranoid, but I swear they disappeared together for a little bit. Also, one of her best friends is a guy, and I saw a text that he sent her once, telling her about how he would drop everything for her if she even showed the slightest interest in going out. Any advice I could get would be very useful.", "summary": "My girlfriend hangs out with most of her exes and it makes me really uncomfortable. Also the closeness that one of her friends has with her bothers me. I'm a guy by the way."}
{"id": "t3_4muk27", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Car damaged in shipping", "post": "Hi everyone\n\nI was recommended to post here since it would be more appropriate. I apologize for the length.\n\nI just relocated to California and had my car shipped out here. I used uship.com, found CFR Auto Direct and they got it to me in time however when I received it, they had scratched the fender. I told the delivery guy about it and he took some pictures and said he'd report it and that I should contact CFR. Afterwards he told me to sign the paperwork stating that the car was delivered.\n\nHalf a day later I contacted CFR Claims (via email because they don't have a number) about the issue and they said they don't have to do anything because I signed the paperwork which states that the car was shipped without damage. I explained that even their own employee took pictures and made me sign (stated that CFR just needs a signature for delivery), however they wouldn't reply to me anymore.\n\nContacted uship about it and they said they would contact CFR about it via email and CC me. They sent the email and I replied with some photos however CFR never replied and it's almost been a week. \n\nMy question is Should I make a big deal about this scratch?(photo attached) I buffed out the surface scratch but there is still a nail deep scratch (mind the rock chips) that you only catch on certain angles. \nSince CFR isn't responding I was thinking about a credit card dispute.\n\nThere are rock chips all over however I feel that if I paid $900 to get it shipped, it should be flawless like their website states that's how they deliver.", "summary": "car was scratched during shipping, they won't fix it for me, is it even worth the trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_123xz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel like a teenager for asking this, but what can I do to stop my sister from taking my stuff?", "post": "A little background here, we're not teenagers, I'm 27 she's 33, we \"don't live together\" supposedly, she has her house but spends most of the week here at home (I live with my parents, is common here, and I'm not going to move until I get married) she keeps using my stuff, I wouldn't have a problem with that, but she keeps breaking it, ruining it or spending it to the last drop, and then says that she didn't use it, and my mom actually believes her so she (my mom) starts a huge fight with me because she says I have something against my sister and my sister always tell her that if I keep blaming her she won't come back home, so my mom gets all butt hurt and keeps fighting with me.\n\nSo the main problem here is not her actually taking my stuff, my problems are: \n\nShe never ask for permission\n\nShe denies it\n\nShe keeps damaging the stuff and spending it, I don't grow money on trees and is not like she's poor and she couldn't afford her own stuff, she actually makes more money than me.\n\nAll this shit about her talking to my mom and trying to make me look like a crazy woman and that I hate her (my sister) really had have a huge impact on the relationship with my mother and I'm starting to kinda resenting both of them.\n\nThat last point is what matters the most to me, I tried hiding my stuff but in only results in my sister telling my mom that I hid it, and my mom again bashing me because I'm so \"selfish\", let me clarify I'm not, I buy a lot of stuff for my sister and invite her to things all the time, I'm just a little OCD and I hate when people grab my stuff or move it or anything along those lines, and I really get pissed of that she denies it, sometimes is something so stupid, I may just ask \"hey did you grab my hair brush?\" without any intention of being mad at her about it or anything, and she just says \"No\" when I know she did because my OCD helps me remind how I left my things.", "summary": "My sister keeps using, spending and breaking my things and denies it to my mom who just keeps bashing me about how \"I hate my sister and I'm crazy\" this is damaging my relationship with both of them."}
{"id": "t3_18emle", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I (17M) ask a girl (17F) if she wants to be friends with benefits?", "post": "Hey, I'm in a weird delema and I wanted some advice before I decided if I should or shouldn't ask.\n\nYesterday night, she sent me a text telling me that her friends thinks she should find a FWB, because she just got out of a relationship, she wants to have sex, but she doesn't want another relationship. I'm not sure if this was hinting at anything, but I want to know if it looks like a good idea to ask, and how to ask. We've been friends for about 3-4 months.\n\nSo, what's the easiest way for me to ask without it being all awkward? Should I just be straightforward and ask her if she wants to bang?", "summary": "Girl possibly drops hints about wanting a FWB, but I'm not sure how to ask her."}
{"id": "t3_2e4ddl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(18M) think I just found documentation that my parents(48M/F) are divorcing", "post": "Background: My parents have been married over 25 years, but recently they have been fighting a huge amount and tensions are very high. I know in the past there have been fidelity issues on the part of my mom (I don't know the extent), and that seems to be the cause of their current fighting. I think they want to wait for me to leave the house to divorce but I don't know. \n\nI was looking for a red pen throughout the house, when I decided to check my mom's car (a totally normal thing in our house). When I opened the door I saw a brand new folder with a few pieces of paper, open, on the console. Being the curious person I am, I examined the papers to see what it was.\n\nThe folder contained papers which documented my parents' attempt to transfer the ownership of our house to my grandparents for $100,000 to my dad (an assumption for those of you who know what that is). \n\nDoes anyone know why they would do this? I know it isn't definitive proof, but that seems extremely unusual, right? Maybe there is a financial gain to be had by doing this if anyone knows?", "summary": "I found out that my feuding parents are selling my house to my grandparents."}
{"id": "t3_4rcyjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] asked out my coworker (20sM) who I had been crushing on for a few months and he told me he's gay. Please help me take this in stride and not get all worked up over how embarrassed I am.", "post": "Ok so it basically happened like I said in the title, I asked him out and he told me he's gay. Lol. Before asking him out it occurred to me that it was a possibility of course, along with many others. He's very kind and we have some stuff in common and I guess I'm just bad at reading signals. Oops. \n\t\nAnyway, he was nice and understanding and said it was ok when I got all embarrassed after he told me. I'm just dreading seeing him again. I'm sure he'll be fine since he handled it so well, but I don't know how to act normal and not like I'm dying of anxiety and embarrassment inside. (I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and I'm in therapy for that and a lot of other things) We don't work together super often, thankfully. Rationally, I know shit happens and it's not the end of the world. But my lizard brain does not allow me to take that to heart. Help. The cringe is too strong.", "summary": "Asked out my coworker and it turns out he's gay. He was nice but I'm really embarrassed. Help me not be awkward and weird."}
{"id": "t3_1tcy68", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my Boyfriend[17M] LDR - Going out?", "post": "We've been dating for 2.5 years and it's been over a year long distance. I'm in my final year in school and all my friends 18th's are coming up soon. Since it's christmas, my friends and I are going out to clubs in town and also there's a few house parties on. My boyfriend completely flipped out and started saying he'd go out with some girls from work. (All my friends are girls) and then he said if i went out with guys he would dump me. (Even though I don't even have any guy friends) Throughout this argument we both said mean things to each other but the things he was saying really shocked me. He called me a prissy little brat, said he would find someone else then (passive aggressive shit), called me a bitch, said 'if i wanted to go out and fuck someone would that be okay then? or if i went and smoked weed? He's really just not okay with me going out. He hates my friends. Then, Today he was invited to a party but declined so he could talk to me (before all of this) Then I had fallen asleep and had slept through the time we usually talk in, I apologized. Then, after all this, he got pissed off and me and said it was my fault he missed the party because since i had slept he could have gone. He hadn't even mentioned any word of a party until after i woke up. He said if i go out he'll go out with girls and that he'll go back to smoking weed. He also said I was a sheep for wanting to go out drinking like my friends, however that makes sense, he thinks I've changed from when i was 15..", "summary": "Boyfriend not happy with me going out. making up things to 'equal' it."}
{"id": "t3_53z6g3", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How should I go about this?", "post": "I finished my schooling and have a job but I started out very underpaid. Took this job because it would be a good learning experience and assumed that after my probation period I would be compensated. I asked for my reevaluation and my manager talked me up a lot. Said I'm worth so much more than what I am being paid and possibilities of moving me up in the company later down the road. Now where I work is a very small company and the manager is the son of the owner and the owner is a real cheap person. So they gave me a 1 dollar raise and I still fall into the underpaid aspect of my field. So I applied to some other places and actually have an interview tonight. If an offer is made to me tonight should I go back and see if my current employer will match/ offer more?", "summary": "current job gave me a raise still making me underpaid in my field. Have interview tonight do I bring their offer to my current boss?"}
{"id": "t3_r8dyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I being used as a crutch?", "post": "Me, 30f. Boyfriend, 25m. LDR for 2 yrs. Boyfriend has been struggling with low self esteem for quite awhile and also went through a depression. I was there for him. We spent a ton of virtual time together. He was attentive and really caring.\n\nSo over the past few months he had some really shaky periods at work and I tried to support him emotionally. Recently, his confidence has grown at work. He is better respected and is really getting along with everyone. I'm so happy for him. However, he almost ignores me now. \n\nI'd say his attentiveness and attempts to communicate with me have dropped by 50%. I feel almost...used. If I mention we have spent less time together he gets pissed and defensive. We had plans to move to the same location in about a year. All of the sudden that's been put on hold. Our plan has been completely erased and I don't know what the new one is because if I try to ask him he barks that he feels like he's being pressured. \n\nAm I nothing more than a shoulder to cry on to this guy or what?", "summary": "Boyfriend gets more confident and is spending less time with me. "}
{"id": "t3_2l62hy", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Alternative Jobs in Strip Clubs?", "post": "I graduated with my Bachelor's Degree and I've been out of work for 7 months now. No one in my field is hiring, esp. someone without 5 years experience. I'm starting to get into trouble financially with rent, bills, student loans, etc. piling up and I need something flexible that pays well. I have easily applied to 80+ jobs now in the last 7 months but I swear people only hire via nepotism. More recently I've been considering stripping but after a lot of thought and research I don't think it's for me.\n\nMy question is, is there any jobs similar to stripping? \n\nAre there other jobs opportunities in strip clubs or swingers clubs where little experience is required?\n\nI'm very comfortable dressing in lingerie, I have pole dancing experience (fitness). Honestly, burlesque and cabaret performances would be ideal, but unfortunately its a labor of love and not very profitable (in my area anyway). I've considered go-go dancing, but I can't freestyle dance. I'm just considering more options, any suggestions would be very helpful.", "summary": "Are there jobs similar to stripping? Opportunities in strip clubs or swingers clubs with little experience required? Ex. Hostess, Bottle-Service Girl, etc.?"}
{"id": "t3_ynq5z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of Reddit, what is the creepiest compliment you have ever received?", "post": "A few months ago our history class went on a school trip to an theme park. When we got inside, the park was FULL of adults and other school children and towards the end of the trip my friends and i (there were 4 of us including me) decided to go on one more ride which was supposedly scary. When we got to it it wasn't really a ride, more of a haunted house, we entered the house-church like structure and realised it was full of adults and only a Handfull of children, we got settled when suddenly the lights when out and everybody went quiet. I tried nudging my friends but no one was there and I panicked, i contemplated calling our for my friends but I didn't dare disturb the silence. I backed up and I hit what I first though was a wall but realised it was a person, whoever it was felt like an adult because my head only reached my chest, I stalled for a whole then the person pinched my ass really hard and said in a raspy, heavy voice \"Nice ass\" and then BOOM! Thunder bolts audio came through the speakers and candles were lit and I turned around but whoever it was had gone away. The candle lit provided me enough light to make out my friends and I went and stood with them. Through some thinking i just took it as a compliment. \nI'm male and 14 if anyone's wondering.", "summary": "Someone who i suspect is a built, gay adult pinched my ass and told me it was nice in a haunted house."}
{"id": "t3_51c2q0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Was doing great (lost 20 pounds), now worse than ever and feel like I can't stop eating (30/f)", "post": "Hello! As the title describes, I had been losing weight (or at least maintaining) up until about two months ago. I'm now afraid to look at the scale, but I have NOTICEABLY gained weight. Some of my clothes don't fit me anymore. Formerly: 5'7\", 160 lbs.\n\nI've been a subscriber of this site for a long time and totally get that CICO is really the only way to lose weight, that you shouldn't weigh yourself all that often, etc. That was never a problem before. My diet was not incredibly strict to begin with (1 lb/week goal on MFP). I now feel like I'm straight up addicted to food. I am eating in volumes I've NEVER eaten before. Nothing about my life has changed beyond my eating habits.\n\nI have OCD (worried I'm compulsively eating, if that's even a thing) and bipolar 1 (yes, I am medicated; no, not with the stuff that causes weight gain -- quite the opposite). I should note that I don't really feel depressed. My life is pretty decent right now! Also,  I've never been a \"depression eater\" anyway. Oh, also, 110% sure I'm not pregnant.\n\nHow does one suppress this kind of appetite? Lately it seems that if I'm not eating, I am obsessively thinking about eating and believing I'm hungry. I can't possibly be hungry! What can I do to get back to eating a normal, reasonable amount that would result in gradual weight loss (last I checked, my TDEE was something like 2,000 but I've gained weight since then...)? I have NEVER been an overeater before; any weight gain in the past has been due to eating a moderate amount of complete shit, not eating LOTS of complete shit. I don't even know how to go about losing weight when my issue is the volume I'm eating and not the nutrition (or lack thereof).", "summary": "Developed an issue with overeating and constantly feeling hungry. This has never been the case with me before, so I have no clue as to how to attack weight loss from a volume standpoint and not just a nutrition standpoint."}
{"id": "t3_124jag", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you done that should have never worked?", "post": "So I'm taking a group of my coworkers to a Renaissance Festival this weekend.  We're camping out and it is going to be a little chilly.  So a few people decided not to stay and camp.  I told one of my coworkers he could bring some friends if he likes cause we have the space.  He jokingly responded that \"Nobody loves me enough to come.\"  I told him I'd hook him up with a lady from Craig's List.  So I put an ad up and showed him some of the initial responses, basically a lot of spam from escorts.  I also discussed some of the people I've met from online.  His reaction was \"WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?\", \"YOU'RE GOING TO GET ME STABBED!\", and \"NO HOOKERS!\".  \n\nSo of course when I open my email today what do I see.  A nice email from a young lady.  We traded a few emails and she appears to be the real thing.  She is his age, fairly cute, has a job(I may have accused her of being an escort), and would love to go to the Ren Fair with someone cause she is too scared to go solo.  I forwarded the email to my buddy but no response so far.  I'm betting he does not respond after my rendition of crazy people I've met online.", "summary": "My coworker thinks I'm setting him up to be stabbed."}
{"id": "t3_2l39re", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wiping my shit with a towel", "post": "Didn't happen today, happened around 8 years ago, i'am 15 now. This all happened at my aunties wedding, her first and only wedding. It was located at a lakeside ranch or whatever you call it, surrounded by forest and stuff and stuff. So there's a nice jolly cabin with a toilet in the middle of the woods, and i can feel a storm brewing, a storm that's about to erupt. So my 7 year old ass dashes to the toilet, sits down, and goes full hurricane Katrina on the toilet, and of course, what 7 year old checks if there's toilet paper? That's right, not a single one. \nI let out a sigh of relief, all happy, smiling, just to come to the realization that there's no toilet paper. I look around, and there's a towel, a shining knight in Armour, hanging from a bar. I take it, wipe my ass ( The one time my ass is extremely shitty, is this one, where i use a fucking towel), and i look at the horror, a beautiful white, newly washed towel, smothered with Shit shit and more shit. I walk out, look back at the towel, and whisper 'You da real MVP'. Just to find out that sometimes was staying at the cabin, and that after a shower, they will wipe their face with my shit.", "summary": "Wiped my ass with a towel, to later find out that someone will have to use it."}
{"id": "t3_4b4cih", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Please, if anyone has any advice I have a very sick cat and Vet visits aren't helping.", "post": "So over the last year we struggled with urinary issues with my male cat Scooter (we had him and a younger female named Lyra). We allowed my friend's cat to stay with us for a week because she was moving but after that he got a really bad UYI and we began a battle with urine issues until the beginning of January this year when he began blocking and was at the vet for about 2 solid weeks before we had to make the decision to put him to rest, he was in so much pain. Lyra was miserable so after 2 months we finally caved and got a kitten: Meseeks. The night we brought Meseeks home Lyra was super tense so we gave her some of her wet food (usually a treat once or twice a week) which she gobbled down. That night she puked 3 times, and once more Thursday morning. That is the last time she has eaten. She was dry heaving while we were gone Thursday (spit and bile). She's now been to the vet twice, and they said she has an inflamed stomach lining. She won't take the medicine they prescribed the first time and my instructions after the second visit were to try to help her destress. She's still spitting up in her mouth and making the puking meow. She shows interest in the new kitten, tense but not a lot of hostility. I'm not sure how else to help her, and I'm very worried because I haven't seen her drink anything.", "summary": "I have a very unhappy cat who can't or won't eat/drink, vet visits aren't getting results and I'm worried sick."}
{"id": "t3_h0b1j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My very good friend is graduating from the University of Alabama...", "post": "Because of the storm, she won't get to take her finals or walk in a graduation ceremony.  I feel terrible for her and there isn't much I can do to make her feel better since I'm in Texas.  \n\nI do know that she is very proud of her photography. (www.olevoltaphotography.com) I know it isn't much, but if I thought that maybe if you guys took a look at her pictures and if you liked them, payed her a compliment or just sent her some well-wishes on the contact page. But please, if you don't like it, or think I'm whoring a website, do me a favor and just don't insult her, you can say whatever you want to me in the comments on reddit. \n\nBy the way, the site looks fairly professional but she only does photography as a hobby, she's just very proud of her pictures.", "summary": "My friend is sad about not getting to be in graduation because Alabama blew away, but she takes pretty pictures, can you say hi on her website to make her feel better? www.olevoltaphotography.com"}
{"id": "t3_3kwmkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [24 F] going out for 7 months, long distance problems.", "post": "I want to keep this short, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 7 months, but have known each other for 4 years. Our relationship has always been close.\n\nRight now we are in the middle of long distance, and there is a month left. I have a feeling she may be cheating on me and i dont know how to handle this. We havent talked on the phone for over 2 months, and she tells me she wants to be free and not feel obligated to do anything. Things have gotten serious, and she has closed up and isnt talking to me anymore. Am I wrong for assuming that she may be cheating? She wants space, and I am doing my best to give it to her. Me talking to her keeps driving her further away. \n\nI dont want to break up over the phone, but I dont know how to handle this.", "summary": "Long distance, GF might be cheating, cant talk on the phone. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_43bs0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my Ex-Boyfriend [22 M] of 8 years, Ended relationship, I'm deeply falling into Depression. How do I pull myself out?", "post": "We met when we were around 14 and kind of grew up together into young adults. \nAnyway I don't really want to go into detail because it's pretty difficult for me to talk about. \nHe was my first love and the only person I have ever been in true love with in my life, and always will be.  \nI'm falling into depression (have been for a while now) and I don't really know how to pull myself out. I'm afraid I will end up seeking for guys to replace him with, even though it will never feel the same as you can never really find true love if you look for it. \nI am starting to lack motivation to achieve my goals, or focus on anything other than this failure of a relationship for that matter.. I find myself eating more as comfort cause I don't really know how else to fill the void that's been built up inside? I find that I know have major trust issues/insecurities over guys due to cheating in the past and after seeing how my parent's relationship was a failure. I'm just very terrified of relationships and hurt by them. It has shattered my confidence as a girl. \nIs there anyone who has gone through something as long and meaningful to you, how does one comfort oneself and learn to carry on when there is so much heartache and pain?", "summary": "Falling into Depression due to failure of a very long/first serious relationship. Getting in the way of life in general, how do I build myself up again?"}
{"id": "t3_42asjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I moved halfway across the world and need help with an LDR!", "post": "Hi /r/relationships !\n\nI've recently started dating a close friend of mine and it's become long distance very soon into our relationship.  I'm 21 and she's 19, and we're both in university.  \n\nTo give some context, we had known each other for about a year, and were previous coworkers. In May, we began to hang out a lot, and although I had no intentions before, I ended up developing feelings for her. Come November, I told her of these feelings and we had decided to become an official couple. \n\nHowever, at the beginning of January, I left across the world to Taiwan for an 8 month long internship. This was very crushing for us as we were still in the honeymoon phase of our relationship, but there was nothing to be done about that. \n\nNow it's been about 2 weeks, and I don't know how to deal with our relationship. I don't speak the language here and am in the process of learning, so while I'm not busy with work, my girlfriend is really the only thing that's on my mind, and I'm always ready to talk with her at moments notice. However, she does have her own life back home, and friends to support her, and I often get the feeling that I am being neglected or forgotten while she goes and has fun with her friends.\n\nObviously this is not the case, as she needs to live her life without me as well, but lately I've been pressuring her to put more effort on her part, which has led to quite a few arguments. \n\nWe text and chat every single day, and I'm always craving more. I know that she's putting in effort for me and misses me, but I don't know how to accept and deal with the fact that she needs to live her own life. \n\nPlease give me advice on how to distract myself here and let my girlfriend live her life! Thanks everyone!", "summary": "long distance relationship shortly after we started dating. I always feel that I'm not getting enough attention while that is not the case. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_4b6h0m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [20 M] meet this girl [20 F] over spring break but now with spring break over we need to go separate ways. What do I do?", "post": "Hey guys, over the spring break, I met this girl at a friend's party. We immediately clicked and spent hours talking and laughing. We went ahead and set up a date for the next day. Just a small date where we spent walking around downtown and sight seeing all her favorite places. I enjoyed every second of it and I could tell she did too. At the end of the day, I told her how much I enjoyed spending time with her and she said she did too. Before I left dropped her at her place, I had to tell her I was only here for a week and had to leave for school in a couple days. I could see she was saddened by it. I kissed her and dropped her off. Now I am laying in my bed wondering what I should do. It's funny how even though I only spent a day with her, I have never felt like that with any other girl. Don't want to sound like a dick but usually girls at parties or some attractive girls I know, I am only attracted to them sexually and nothing more but she was different. I don't know what I should do. I am afraid I might lose her if I don't make a move right now but I don't know if I should ask her to be my girlfriend since we have only been on one date and won't see each other until summer break. I don't know what to do. Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "Met this girl over spring break and we immediately clicked. Now I have to go back to school and am not sure what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_14sn77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's [18] ex [17F] hates me. [16F]", "post": "Throwaway with a relevant name, as that's what she wants to do me funnily enough. Also we're from the UK, just in case some worry about ages.\n\nIt started in the summer, two months after she (let's call her Green) broke off their relationship due to 'exams'. Green was insistent that she did not care for my now boyfriend (let's call him Red). So Red and I met up one day and we ended up sleeping together. It was just casual. I decided to be honest with Green, to gain her blessing, I suppose, and it's been a downward spiral since then. She claimed to be happy for us, then took an extremely sour turn. \n\nSince the end of June, she has been increasingly antagonising towards me, tells others how much she hates me (though in October she actually had sex with me, never again... Apparently she didn't hate me then?) and how much she isn't over Red, going so far to admit it to Red himself a few days ago. We've been officially a couple for a couple of weeks, but essentially (acting like one, exclusivity) for a couple of months, and Green is driving me crazy. Her devotion to him is so clear, she brings him up in conversation but screeches to a halt when I do so myself...\n\nShe reacted oddly happily when I told her we were a couple and it has me worried, especially taking her prior behaviour into account. We were both skeptical of her happiness, considering what happened last time she said she was \"happy\" for us.\n\nSorry if this was confusing or lacking in detail. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend's ex said she didn't care after breaking up with him, now she does, and hates me for \"stealing\" him. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_139qgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just found out in pregnant. How and who do I tell?", "post": "Ok so I'm 16, and my boyfriend is 24. (together 6 months) I am on the pill, well was anyway, and I accidentally missed one but didn't tell my boyfriend until after we had sex. He was worried but not angry. \n\nFast forward maybe three weeks, I stop taking the pill so I can have my period and it doesn't happen... I wait another week or so and still no period. \n\nI take a home pregnancy test and it says positive so I went to the doctor and he told me the same thing. \n\nI told my boyfriend and he isn't too worried. We both have previously said that if it ever happened then I would get an abortion immediately. Which I'm planning to do. \n\nI can afford the abortion myself, and don't live at home anymore. My question is who should I tell? My parents? And what would I even say? \n\nI know there's an obvious answer which is 'yes tell them, just say you're pregnant' but I mean more what should I do to tell them.", "summary": "I (16f) am pregnant to my boyfriend (24m). I dont know whether to tell my parents."}
{"id": "t3_4gtsu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my Ex [17F] broke up 6 months ago, she wrote a bunch of poems", "post": "So I broke up with her after two months for a bunch of reasons that I don't really want to go into and we were friends for about two weeks after. That was until I found out that she probably cheated on me with someone who used to be my friend and blew him about 30 minutes after we broke up. Basically I told her I just didnt want to talk to her again. My friend who works for our schools  poetry and art journal showed me two poems that she submitted. They are directly about me and one of them is called \"boys R dumb.\" She references specific things about me like how I like cool ranch doritos and that I should enjoy my new girlfriend (I have been with a different girl for the past three months and it has been awesome). \n\nShe wrote some pretty terrible things about me that just arent true and I am not sure if I should confront her or just leave it. I am also wondering if this could end up being a problem with my new girlfriend because I am 90% sure she will read them. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Ex wrote two poems about me and it is going to be published in our final school poetry book. Im not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3cm53d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This girl [18/F] I [19/M] was dating insists on being friends but that will drive me crazy!!!", "post": "So I haven't known this girl for long, but I've fallen in love with her. She is all I have been doing for a few months. I text her from dark till dawn, and we Skype for hours. I thought we had a good thing going. We live far apart but she came down to visit her sister and we went on a date, and I drove up to take her on a date once. We didn't touch each other or anything, we just talked. She said that I was her boyfriend, and I was extremely happy about that. She went to the hospital for a med change and I was worried about her all week. She gets out and tells me she isn't my girlfriend any more. We've talked about it since then and she want me to stay her friend because she enjoys my company, but she says she is bad with relationships. She has had things happen before so I understand if she is afraid to make commitment, be she thinks she'll get hurt like she has before, but I won't do that. I also told her about some gender issues I have and I know that scares her, but she makes me forget all about that stuff. I told her about that almost as soon as we started talking. I know she is afraid to get hurt, but I'll love her unconditionally. I don't know what to tell her. She thinks it's not love from me, but just infatuation, but I know it's more. Staying just friends will kill me. I don't want to tell her that it's one extreme or the other though. I've been crying about it and I have no clue what to say or do, please help.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1lgwqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27M] find my Physiotherapist (25-28 F) incredibly cute. Is it inappropriate to ask her out?", "post": "She flirted back a bit in the beginning but seemed to suddenly stop midway through our 3rd session. I'm worried that i'll be stepping on her professional obligations and make things awkward if I do. \n\nAny advice from physios here that can advise me? Is there some personal code of conduct that might be the roadblock here? I don't mind switching physios if it comes to that, its so rare to find a girl that I can connect with so well.\n\n(And the physio is for my ACL post a soccer game- i'm not in any mental, physical or emotional pain)", "summary": "I am worried that there is some professional code of conduct that may destroy any chances I have. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_443zvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] unusual connection with my friend [22 M] 10 years", "post": "I'm not sure if it's a question, but I'm wanting to see if this is normal within some friendships. I will try to keep this as simple as possible and try to get straight to the point.\n\nI've been friends with a mate of mine going on 10 years. It's been in the last 6 years or so that we have been pretty close friends. It was in the last 4 years we have found that we have this \"unusual\" or \"weird\" connection between each other. It's not like a connection you get with a normal friendship.\n\nAn example may be, if something happened to me, like I lost someone close to me, the same thing will happen to him within a few months of each other. And vise versa, if something happened to him, something very similar will happen to me.\n\nWe both have been through so much together, both good and bad it's actually a surprise that we are still friends. But if it wasn't for this connection that we have with each other we probably wouldn't be friends right now.\n\nI can go into more detail if this still doesn't make sense, but all I want to know is, is this sort of connection normal with friendships? Maybe it's normal for a soul mate but we are both straight and we are not attracted to each other. Normally I would be like, maybe I'm thinking too much into it, but he has told me he feels the same way about this connection we have.", "summary": "It is normal? Does anyone else have these sort of experiences with close friends of theirs? As far as we are aware, we have not found anyone else with a similar connection."}
{"id": "t3_4qz4a8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] BIL [28M] was going to give me his sports car because he is getting a new car. My sister and Mom [25F&45F] stopped him from giving it to me", "post": "As the title said my brother in law was going to give me his awesome car to drive and it would be all mine. My sister and mother told him that is absolutely not happening and told him it's not safe. Now he is planning to sell it to some guy in Cincinnati and I have no car. \n\nHow do I tell them this is not cool and I want my car, I have no car now. How the hell am i suppose to get around? they are selling my car because \" it's not safe\" it's not like I was going to speed around corners and go drift racing. \n\nSo I have no car now and I have no way to get around. But my sister and mom ruined my chance of having a cool car. What's worse is all the girls in the family support this, my other sisters support this decision. \n\nHow can I get them to give me the car?", "summary": "My sister and mom stopped my BIL from giving me his cool car. My other sisters are supporting the decision not to give it to me."}
{"id": "t3_1ade3a", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "\"you're like a brother to me\"", "post": "Hey /r/da, just a quick question on something. So I like this one girl, and when we first met I had really liked her, and made it a bit obvious, and she would constantly say you're like a brother to me etc... fast forward to this week. \n\nOver time it gradually started to seem like she became more interested in me romantically. In that she used to always hold my arms as a joke and say we're siblings, but now she will only do those flirty things when we're alone, IE briefly interlocking hands, and holding my arm. Recently though we've started playing footsies haha\n\nAnyway today, I was talking about a guy that she knows likes him, and  he thinks she likes her back, but she doesn't. I told her that \"you act really flirty around him\" and she said like, \"oh I don't care for him, hes just desperate and shallow\" (which he is, as he switches girls constantly)\n\n Anyway she told me this as well that's been bothering me \"E, I know you're worried since you're like my brother and best friend, but I really don't have feelings for him\" What she did however was that she usually doesnt say \"best friend\" and just says brother, but she quickly changed what she said when she said brother", "summary": "Girl I like calls me brother after being intensely flirty with me. I have no idea what to think."}
{"id": "t3_34cc7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm torn here and I just want some input on what you guys and girls would suggest I do", "post": "I am a senior guy (17) and I asked a junior girl (16) to prom last week and she said yes very enthusiastically.  At first it was as friends but then it kinda snowballed from there.  She got out of a three year relationship three months ago and she made it very clear that she didn't want a relationship right now.  Her exact words were \"hey I just want to make sure you know that I'm going to prom with you as friends..? Ben broke up with me about three months ago and we dated for three years and I'm not ready for anything\". Prom is in a month and I graduate shortly after.  I mean I really like this girl and I kind of have nothing to lose but on the other hand I want a clean slate for college.  What would you guys and girls suggest?  If you think i should go for it how would you suggest I win her over? Sorry I wrote a novel.  Let me know if you need clarification or any more info", "summary": "I'm a senior and I asked a junior to prom.  She got out of a three year relationship three months ago.  I like her.  Should I pursue it or just go to college with a clean slate?"}
{"id": "t3_43uxmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M36) keeps inviting his newly-single female friend (F38) to stay at his house. Is it ok to be upset about this?", "post": "My (F38) boyfriend (M36) of 9 months has a close female friend (F38) (I've never met) who he used to commute with to work until she moved to another city several months ago with her then-husband. Since then she found out the hubby was cheating on her and they are going through a divorce. Twice in the past 2-3 months she has had to come back to our area to take care of divorce-related business, and each time my boyfriend has invited her to stay at his house (for 1 night each time) - he even took a day off work the first time to drive her around, and this past time he let her use his car for the day. I told him the first time that this makes me extremely uncomfortable, because these are almost literally the EXACT SAME circumstances in which my last serious boyfriend cheated on me (damsel in distress, he didn't mean for it to happen, etc etc). \n\nImagine my chagrin when, after that conversation, this past week he casually mentions that she's going to be staying at his house the next night, and the next couple of nights with other friends. When I asked him why she couldn't stay with those other friends the whole time, he replied with, \"well, we're really close\"  and that he would do the same for any of his guy friends in a similar situation. Oh - and this past time he let her sleep in his bed and he says he slept on the futon. \n\nI'm so so so so so uncomfortable with this; I know he has good intentions but people can be weak, and he's said himself that \"sometimes guys just do stupid stuff.\" When I called him while she was there, they were out drinking with friends - so obviously he could have socialized with her without having her stay over. So he's completely disregarded my feelings on this issue, which has been causing me stress dreams. I told him that yesterday, and reiterated that it makes me unhappy, and haven't heard from him since.", "summary": "So, my question is: am I being unreasonable? And what to do next? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_33x413", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [16/f] in a love triangle with my friend (16/f) & a guy (16/m)", "post": "I really like my friend but she doesn't know that yet. I don't know how it happened; one minute she's my friend and the next thing you know I really want her. I know that the other guy really likes her because he told her and she told me but lately he's been acting douchebag-y and she doesn't know if they should even be in a relationship together because they're so different from each other. \n\nHe doesn't know that I want to be in a relationship with her. She's been gone all weekend on vacation but she's coming back around the afternoon today. I've told her before she left that I want to talk to her in person at a casual dining restaurant or something when she comes back. \n\nI'm not sure what to tell her though. I know I want to tell her how I feel about her and if she feels the same way then I don't want the other guy to end up hating my guts because I'm pretty good friends with him. I don't want to ruin anything between them either. \n\nAnd I guess if she doesn't feel the same way about me then that's life.. But I would still want to be friends with her if that is the case. What do I say when it comes time to talk?", "summary": "in love triangle with another girl and guy. Guy likes girl, I like girl. Girl doesn't know if should be with guy. Girl and guy both don't know that I like girl. What do I tell girl."}
{"id": "t3_2nejnz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I worked too hard in 2014! It will NOT end with me being overweight (again)!", "post": "So in December of 2013 I weighed 270lbs. I needed to be under 190 to be considered healthy for a person my height. I worked my ass off and got down to 175lbs after about 7 months. I came real close to loosing 100lbs and I felt great.  I felt like I was invincible, and I figured I could loosen up a little. I had gone really hard core to get to where I was, I figured I could lighten up now that I was healthy.\n\nGot a little lazy with the exercise routine. Went from every day, to once or twice a week. Let my self splurge a little on the diet. Gained a few pounds, but no biggie I thought. I was still well within my healthy weight range.  \n\nThe weather got cold. I stopped exercising for a week, then two weeks, then three weeks. Stopped tracking my calories. Halloween happened.  Assumed I'd be fine and I kept saying that I'd start back again next week (which was conveniently always a week away). \n\nLast week I got on the scale for the first time in months and I realized I weighed 205lbs. I had gained 30 lbs! Plus I'm now 15lbs overweight! I felt horrible. I almost cried. \n\nI decided that this wasn't going to be the year I lost all that weight and then got fat again. \n\nI know it's the holiday season, but I'm getting back on the saddle. \n\n**New Goal:** Be back to 190lbs or less by Dec 31st AND Stay under 190lbs for all of 2015.", "summary": "Lost a 95lbs this year --> Got Lazy and cocky --> Overweight again --> Ready To Start Again!"}
{"id": "t3_2zpa3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] still miss my [25 F] ex-girlfriend 9 mo. post-breakup, despite dating someone else", "post": "I dated Jane (not real name) for a while and I've never loved anybody so much before, that feeling was mutual. After a couple of years she started cheating on me with another guy and was able to hide it for a month - I found out, we broke up. She tried to reconcile afterwards but I wouldn't take her back, I'm pretty stubborn sometimes.\n\nAnyway, now that it's later I can see how I pushed Jane away and can admit fault for the breakup. It was a mistake, maybe I should have forgiven her. We still text every couple months or so and snapchat regularly enough. Nothing serious just normal friend talking. I find myself thinking about her even as time goes by, sometimes it's a triggered memory when I see something that we used to do together (I don't live in the same city anymore, and when I go back for other business I always want to call her and meet up), sometimes it's just mind wandering.\n\nI've been seeing Sarah (again, not real name) since a few months after the breakup (so about 6 mo.). I don't think I can care about Sarah as much as I cared about Jane, but don't know if I just haven't given it enough time or if I'm just looking at the past with rose-colored glasses.\n\nI don't think it's right to string Sarah along but I don't even know if I can trust my own feelings, sometimes I think I just need to be alone for a while, sometimes I wish I had my ex back, sometimes I think I'm perfectly happy with what I have.", "summary": "Confused about my current and past relationship and might hurt somebody in the process. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_xbdz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I fell for my cousin. What am I supposed to do?", "post": "We AREN'T blood related just to be clear. My aunt married my uncle, and his sister is her mother. So there is no real relation. Also, we only see each other maybe once a year. Now that that's out of the way, let's hop in, shall we?\n\nSo we went to an amusement park with our aunt (My blood related aunt, her marriage related aunt) and our little cousin. Since he couldn't ride any of the bigger rides, we ended up spending a lot time alone together. We hit it off big time, and got a little flirty. (I'd tease her and she would hit me, we would take each others phones etc.) Sometimes we would just stare at each other and it was the most comforting feeling.\n\nMy family (my mom actually, my dad really couldn't care less than he does) and her family are major bible thumpers. So I'm scared of them. I haven't felt this way before, and I don't want to let her slip. So that's why I've come to you reddit. Is this wrong? Should I just forget about it? \n\nSorry for my stupid little teenager rant. I just feel something more here.", "summary": "I like my marriage related cousin. What the hell do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3oov0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my bf [21 M] ~1.5 years, i feel like i make everything into a problem with my issues", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half, and while the relationship on a whole has been comfortable (this is the best form of a relationship in my mind, comfort equates long lasting). He is wonderful and just really really great, but recently, my own issues have started coming into play much more than they used to.\nI have undiagnosed depression and anxiety problems, combined with an overall low self-esteem and low grade clinginess (if you get my drift with my problems) which were all declared before we even dating, so it's not unknown to him, but I've spent most of our relationship keeping it under wraps because nothing logical would come out of it and the relationship would've spiraled into disfunctionality. Over the summer, we stayed together a lot and we started getting into many arguments that honestly looking back, stemmed from my own issues clashing with my boyfriend. \n\nWe came to an agreement that I should get some therapy, if not to perfectly fix everything but to at least work out how to deal with everything, and my therapy appointment is scheduled for next week (insurance and moving prolonged everything) but I do feel myself being stretched thin and causing more fights for no reason, so I ask you all, how can I restrain my issues until I start therapy? I'm talking positive coping mechanisms,  etc.", "summary": "I have so many issues but I will be going to therapy, what can I do to cope and not be destructive until I start therapy and not take it out on my boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_kvu9e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it illegal for an employer to limit what you eat or drink at work?", "post": "So here's the scenario - I work in an office building as an assistant manager for a company that works in conjunction with the other company in our building. The owner of the other company (who we rent office space from) has for as long as we've been here - complained about the fact that we brought 2 vending machines that carry soda, a few candy items, peanuts, etc. \n\nHe has recently demanded that we get rid of them because he does not like \"His\" employees to have access to such unhealthy foods (apparantly he's a health nut). So my solution to this is to bring a bunch of snacks and soda to the office in OUR mini fridge and set up a \"black market\" for these items and to continue to provide our and our fellow company's employees with less than nutritious pleasure.", "summary": "Partner company's boss doesn't like vending machines making us get rid of them."}
{"id": "t3_27uag0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention", "post": "It all began when I was taking the bus home.\n\nThe bus got to my stop so I got up from my seat but since the bus hadn't fully stopped yet, I was knocked a bit out of balance and bumped into the guy in front of me. I apologized when we both got off. No big deal.\n\nHere's where I fucked up.\n\nEvery day I jay walk across the street. Today was no different. However, I was still a bit disoriented when I started walking across the road when I noticed that a car was driving in the lane that was in front of me.\n\nA normal person would've waited for the car to pass. Me? I decided to run to the other side of the road while the car was still coming at me. \n\nI barely made it to the other side without getting hit and gave myself and the driver a heart attack.", "summary": "Almost got hospitalized."}
{"id": "t3_1f9utz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "im (f14) high strung, and a bit high matinance, and my boyfried (m17) is being odd..", "post": "ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 months (which is when we made it official) but we had been good friends for like 7 months and FWB for about 4.\nwhen we were FWB, we were very flirty and we talked and texted all the time... and that went into the first few weeks of dating too.\nme and him share alot of common interensts, and one of them was/is smoking weed lol.\nbut around spring break i got caught up, and had to quit.\nwell unfortunatly one of the reasons he liked me was i was very calm. but when i quit i got very high strung... which i think pushes him away.\nhes very relaxed and \"flowy\" and im hyper and anxious... \nand weve been getting better, getting intimate, even quite recently he got in my pants lol... but because im going through alot of family drama and court... im getting more needy.\nim a freshman and hes a senior going to college.\nso i guess... any tips on how to make this work or what i should do?\n\nand go ahead and say \"oh its wrong\" or \"oh thats creepy, what a pedo\", whatever... ive heard it and theres more than that to relationship than what ive said here... and feel free to ask about it to helpyou.", "summary": "my relationships wierd. help?"}
{"id": "t3_4du4vz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] feel i am too insecure and anxious for a relationship, but i don't want to break up with my [21F] girlfriend. what should i do?", "post": "i've been with my girlfriend for almost two months now, and she's my first ever girlfriend. before i had a girlfriend, i always had this picture in my head of what a relationship is. it was unrealistic, rainbows and sunshine etc. in reality it is a lot of work, and i've realized i rely too much on my girlfriend for happiness. i am too insecure and always worry about her breaking up with me, and the anxiety is torturous. in the rest of my life i am not even remotely anxious so this is all new to me.\n\nour relationship is great and these insecurities have not created any tension or cracks, but its really affecting my mental state. i dont want to end things with my girlfriend, but if we do we will not be friends and will lose contact forever, and i dont think i want that.\n\ni have no idea what to do, but if there is a way i can get past my issues without ending the relationship i would love it. i believe if i talk to her about it, things will not end well because realistically i should not be this weird 2 months into a relationship.", "summary": "i feel i'm not ready for a relationship, unsure if i should roll with it or end things."}
{"id": "t3_1u8bzl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i like this girl, and i think she likes me back, problem is i have a girlfriend, what should i do?", "post": "so if you will browse through my previous question yesterday, i asked if i should just stay with my girl since i already got her pregnant (though i was planning on leaving her but later found out she was pregnant and decided to continue with the pregnancy) and some guys advised that i dont stay with the mom for the childs sake, that i just be a good father to my child. so if that were the case, i really like this girl and i think she likes me back, we were holding hands the other day and after a while she let go of my hand, she knows i have a girlfriend, so thats why she hasnt really \"given-in\" so to speak.", "summary": "i have a pregnant girlfriend who i was about to leave, met a girl i like who sorta likes me back, internet peeps you are more helpful that my real world friends, you speak your mind truthfully."}
{"id": "t3_iedkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommates have terrorized me for 2 years; I'm finally moving in August. Reddit, what flawless victory prank should I attempt as a final goodbye?", "post": "For 2.5 years I've lived with two guys who make your roommates look like nuns. They are both late twenties and early thirties, cousins, 18 years old in maturity, and surprisingly good friends of mine. In fact, one is a Redditor and I hope he knows the terror that awaits him. We are great friends outside of the home but the internal strain is too much to stomach. They stay up until wee hours of the morning (4 am last night), talk loud and get drunk, disregard my personal things, eat my food, get stoned and leave the gas stove on, give house keys to co-workers, use my body wash and shampoo, forget to pay me for bills, forget to buy communal household items, NEVER clean anything EVER, leave bacon grease all over the kitchen, assume the dishes do themselves, bitch about the lawn guy but never pick up the yard, and put beer boxes on my dog as a \"joke\". We've had guests at our house clean the toilets before because the boys refused to and I held out. \n\nThey have made waking up in the morning a nightmare. What food will be gone this time? Will the kitchen stink and have a fine sheen of grease? What new and interesting way can I say, \"You are disrespecting me and my money, please stop\"? Well, I'm moving out in August and our subtle prank war needs to be won. I will be safely out of harms reach in the north, so I plan to exact the ultimate revenge while hearing of their pain on my flight out. \n\nI need the Reddits advice on how to serve these boys something awful without a) damaging the rental property, b) damaging their personal property, and c) making the house a disaster for the new tenant. I'm thinking along the lines of injecting exlax into their food, baby powder in their sugar, or nair in the shaving cream. \n\nSo, what's your best \"get bent\" prank? Any tips on giving the proverbial middle finger? I want to say, \"I love you guys, but no one fucks with me and gets away with it.\"", "summary": "My friends are the worst roommates I've ever had. What can I do to get back at them without damaging any personal or rental property?"}
{"id": "t3_3dgczh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] NEED constant affection from my [21 F] girlfriend. How can I fix this?", "post": "I've been together with my girlfriend for about two months now. Everything has been great except for long distance over summer (which probably contributes). I am a pretty confident person (or at least I show it well, which is what helped me get my gf in the first place). However... for some reason I NEED her constant affection. It's like a drug when she says sweet things to me because it gives me reassurance. This is especially bad if she's been very affectionate and then it drops off.\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe problem here gets worse because she is not an affectionate person at all (though she has her moments). When she goes a few hours without texting me or isnt affectionate or jokes about us breaking up, it hits me hard. \n\n\u00a0\n\nSomeone please help or point me in the right direction. I'm sick of my brain over analyzing everything and NEEDING her reassurance. Since I know it will surely kill the relationship, I havent brought any of this ridiculousness up (though I told her that I like her affection, and she's definitely been showing more since then). I dont know if this is normal and a deal breaker... and i'd like to nip this dependency in the bud before its too late. Also, do people find success with partners who like different levels of affection?", "summary": "I dont just crave, but NEED constant reassurance from my SO to be secure."}
{"id": "t3_474jel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M, 20] and my girlfriend [F, 20] in long distance relationship and will be for a very long time", "post": "So we started dating early December. She's wonderful and I really like her a lot! However, she went abroad for all of January. I got to see her for four days when she returned, then she left again for second semester (February - May).\n\nShe won't be back until the end of May, which is when I start my summer job in a different state. This means that we won't see each other until school starts again in September.\n\nAssuming we make it until then, we would've only actually been together for one month out of the eight month relationship. That is...not very appealing to me. haha but like I mentioned before, she's an amazing girl and I really do like her a lot. \n\nSo, what should I do? End it with her now, date other people, and see where we stand at the start of next school year? Or stick it out and go with it? Help!!", "summary": "Early relationship, long distance, is it worth staying?"}
{"id": "t3_2kkd0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After a passionate but seemingly doomed year, my ex (26f) broke up with me (27m), but now my situation has changed.", "post": "I've been in Korea for 3 years. started dating smart, independent Korean girl Summer '13. She needed support and intimacy, and I was there to provide it. It got very passionate. We grew very close (basically living together), but a few months after she found a job she broke up with me.\n\nHer reasons were 'falling out of love with me' and 'feeling that (I) would always end up back in America.' \n\nHowever, I'm becoming fluent in Korean and plan to take a Master's program out here. I feel if I expressed this to her earlier, she would have had fewer doubts and we would not have broken up.\n\nI maintained contact and we even had a post breakup 'date' with holding hands and a lot of physical contact. But a week later she ended up in what looks like a rebound relationship. I lost it, appologized, and she said she let it go. I emailed her asking of there was any room left for reconciliation. But she said it was time to move on. From then on (about a week) I've done NC\n\nIm trying to move on now, and am dating again, preparing for my future, etc. But, I'm wondering if its a good idea after taking a few months and seeing where I'm at try to open things up again.", "summary": "Pre break-up there were some doubts about the long term. Now that we've broken up I feel that I'm in a place that would have made long-term more viable. Is it worthwhile to reconnect in a few months?"}
{"id": "t3_jtazp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I give advice to my little sister?", "post": "I'm 25, my sister is 12. She's getting to the age where she's coming to me for advice on stuff that she doesn't always want to talk to her parents about, i.e. crushes on boys.  \nShe texted me today about a problem involving a specific boy that called her a bitch and stole her food. So while his actions were completely disrespectful and that should be brought to his attention.....I *do* remember how 12-year-old boys acted around girls they had a crush on. My sister has a crush on this boy and so my suggestion to her was to talk to him candidly and find out what motivated him to say and do those things to her. I told her that opening up dialogue was important. \n  \nShe then told me that our dad has explicitly barred her from talking to this boy at school. Firstly, I think it's absurd that he would do this because it's not solving any problems. Secondly, I'm kind of astounded that she's just going along with it. When I was 12, if someone told me not to do something, I would do the opposite.  \nThis definitely isn't the first time where I've tried to give her advice but it runs in (somewhat) contradiction to what my father has told her to do and then I end up getting in trouble for something.", "summary": "I try to get my little sister to solve her problems by talking to people, my father tells her what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1jnj79", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking Diet Sunkist", "post": "Last night I decided I wanted to get some sodas.  Now, my body doesn't do certain things well, like caffeine.  So I couldn't just grab a coke like I wish I could because my stomach has been especially sensitive lately.  Even the caffeine of just 1 coke would have been dangerous.  So I'm looking at the small selection of a sodas and see a 12 pack of diet Sunkist.  I think \"hmm orange soda sounds good and orange soda never has caffeine so I'm good.\"  Nope.  Sunkist, even fucking diet sunkist, has caffeine in it.  I drank four fuckers last night thinking I was safe.  Sitting on my bed I suddenly got a feeling of discomfort in my stomach and I just think \"this isn't good...  did I eat something I shouldn't have?  Oh no...\"  As I check the tiny print on the can I find caffeine listed.  Luckily the severe intestinal cramping that followed helped exhaust me and counteract the caffeine so I was able to fall asleep a few hours later.", "summary": "The Secret Ingredients of Sunkist: caffeine, pain, and diarrhea :("}
{"id": "t3_2lq3jn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my roommate and former friend[21/M]....how to deal with not including him when hanging out", "post": "Basically, there were like five of us dudes freshman year, all good friends. Sophomore year came around, three of them met girls, and ditched us for them.\n\nSo that left me and one other guy to build a new social life. Let's call him Chris. Now, two of the other dudes just kinda stopped hanging out with us. However, one of them (let's call him Austin) was a total dick. Basically, he fell head over heels for the first girl that ever kissed him and became dependent on her and was an asshole. He did not respect anyone's boundaries and stopped hanging with us for this girl, so we ditched him.\n\nHowever, I have roomed with Austin since junior year. Because I did not room with any of the guys sophomore year, I had no drama around me and him, but I knew everything. We are nice to each other, but are not friends, just roommates. He has been on good terms with Chris, but they don't hang out. Because why should we? He was a total asshole then. We basically have new social lives.\n\nThing is with Austin, he has no more friends. Just his girl, and she has no friends. Much of my social circle is the same, and he knows a lot of them as he used to hang out with them. But we are no longer friends really, he's done enough in the past where it's like, why should we ever invite him?\n\nBut, is it wrong of me to have those people over before going out and then not include him? I feel bad, because some nights, he definitely wants to go out. We're all having beers, like people he used to be friends with. And he'll join us then. But then we leave for the night and he's all alone. I feel bad, but he has made no effort to hang out with us since meeting the girl AND has not apologized at all (some things he did do deserve multiple apologies). \n\nIs it wrong of me to have people over with him here and not include him?", "summary": "Me and a former friend are roommates. He was/is a dick. Should I feel guilty about not including him and having our same old friends over?"}
{"id": "t3_3cvjoy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be sympathetic towards an animal", "post": "Background info: So this morning, my friend (let's call her H)  and I were texting and she told me that her bunny was receiving emergency medical attention due to its digestive tract being blocked by bedding it had eaten out of its cage. She said it would most likely be fine, but she didn't know if they'd keep the bunny overnight or not.\n\nOnto the fuck up: I texted her again tonight. She had changed her name on Kik to something that indicated she didn't want to talk. Our conversation went like this:\n\nMe: Do you really not want to talk?\n\nH: I'm just upset, we can but I'll be distant. It's a warning.\n\nMe: How's the bunny doing?\n\nH: ...\n\nI apologised, but she still hasn't responded. Oops.", "summary": "It's not long enough for a summary. Just read it."}
{"id": "t3_4azuqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my friend [38M], he's dealing with some pretty bad depression, and it's making him to be a really unpleasant person.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short.\n\nI have a friend who's dealing with some really bad depression. The thing is...it's a pretty miserable experience hanging out with him. He complains about everything. He talks about himself constantly, no matter how often you try to change the subject. He yells in public, A LOT (see: complaining about everything). He's not fun to hang out with at all.\n\nI think I would be able to handle him better if I was all right, but I'm actually in a really bad state of depression myself. I'm dealing with a lot of feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing. And when I'm hanging out with a guy who talks about himself constantly and complains about almost everything, including stuff he knows I like? Not exactly good for my mental health.\n\nBut he asks me to hang out with him, a lot. I don't know how to say no. I keep telling him that my depression is making it difficult to socialize (which honestly isn't entirely true. I can easily hang out with my other friends. That actually helps my depression).\n\nDo I keep making excuses? Do I suck it up and hang out with him? Do I tell him the truth?", "summary": "My friend is depressed, and so am I. I don't like hanging out with him, but he keeps asking me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2tzyxc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22F] experience physical attraction very rarely. Should I expect my partner to be physically attractive?", "post": "I'm typing this on my phone, sorry. Also throwaway for paranoid reasons.\n\nI feel sort of at a loss. The number of people I found physically attractive on sight alone I can count on one hand. I can find people very aesthetically pleasing, but often without the attraction component. This isn't anything I see a problem with. I've felt like this for my whole life, and it was an easy juxtaposition against my more boy-crazy sister. It was honestly a surprise the first time I found somebody attractive.\n\nThe main problem is the people I did find attractive were distant from me in some ways (such as celebrities, or one game show contestant). As such, I haven't found somebody I have actually met that I found physically attractive without getting to know them first.\n\nI bank heavily on the emotional side of relationships. People become sexy to me because I love the person. Once my partner proves loyal, devoted, we've shared good times, etc., I find their body attractive because it's theirs. Does that make sense?\n\nSo, I believe I function fine in relationships without finding my partner immediately attractive. However, sometimes I fantasize being in a relationship with someone I can just look at and feel that desire. So should I not date people I don't find physically attractive, or is that unrealistic given my circumstance?", "summary": "I have experienced physical attraction on sight alone only 4 times in my life. However, people become attractive to me after bonding with them. But I do fantasize about wanting a relationship with someone I find physically attractive. Is that unrealistic for me to expect?"}
{"id": "t3_q1lmk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The former President and VP of a student group on my campus have taken advantage of their position. How should I approach this situation?", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nSo my university has a student group that goes on a skiing trip/winter retreat every year in December, right after finals. The cost is $100 for members, and $120 for non-members. Our student group has always had budget issues, and after making a decent amount in a really successful event in 2011 (net profit ~$8000), we thought we were in the clear for a while. \n\nSo last year's President and Vice President (who are not paid members yet this year) decided that they would come to our retreat at the very last minute (2 days before the trip), even though we were already over capacity and we eventually got charged and lost lots of money in the meanwhile. \n\nThe President, her boyfriend, and the VP had not paid before coming to the trip, and after returning, they still had not paid the $120. Our current President spoke with them and what it came down to was them asking if they can get away with not paying because they were on board last year and to just let it slide. The President's boyfriend eventually paid $120. Our current board is angry that the current president hasn't taken action on it, so I decided to step in and contact them.\n\n*I'm friends with both the president and VP, so how can I ask them to give me the money without jeopardizing any friendships and hurting any feelings?", "summary": "My 2 friends, the president and VP of last year's student group that I'm a part of have taken advantage of their previous position and want to get away with not paying $120 each for a winter trip they both attended at the very last minute, even after our student group lost money in the process."}
{"id": "t3_4b4fyb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23F) am hurt that my boyfriend (25M) doesn't keep to his word/doesn't do anything for me.", "post": "I'm frustrated to the point where I don't even want to have sex with him. I'm unhappy with my life in general, and it is snow balling into not liking him as well.\n\nAnyways, for Valentine's Day (I was his first girlfriend on this day....) he didn't do shit for me. Even though he knew I was making him dinner and dessert and getting him a gift. He just started a job. So I assumed and was ok with him not giving me a gift until he got paid. He said he would the next time he got paid.\n\nI was still hurt he didn't do anything for VDay, not even a card. I told him this and he felt bad. \n\nFast forward, and I asked if he could romance me a few weekends ago. He said for sure and I gave him some tips and he Said he didn't need coaching.\n\nYesterday I tried to talk to him about my frustrations, and he pretty much said he doesn't know how much better he can treat me/what he can do he doesn't have a \"red carpet\" and he has bills to pay. \n\nYet he goes out and spends $60 on videos games pretty regularly...\n\nIn not expecting to be showered with gifts, but it's hurting me that he doesn't seem to be very giving and he says he loves me.", "summary": "boyfriend says he will do things, doesn't do them. Doesn't buy gifts or anything yet spends frivolously on himself"}
{"id": "t3_lscms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I break-up with my boyfriend from 3 thousand miles away?  We are a month away from seeing each other and 5 hours time difference with no privacy at home or at work (on my end).", "post": "I want to do this like a decent, mature human being.  We are in our 30s and together 3 years (on and off, and long distance almost the entire time).  \n\nHe will likely be blindsided by this, but he shouldn't be.  I think a \"Dear John\" email is a little callus, but our schedules don't coincide for phone calls (I'm asleep in bed before he even gets home from work, and I am already having my afternoon coffee when he wakes-up), and I am staying right now with a large family in their home in a tiny little room that is not at all sound-proof.\n\nHe hasn't heard a peep from me in two or three days (unusual for us). Since I made this decision, I haven't know what to say or how to interact.\n\nAny advice out of this puzzle that won't make it any worse than it has to be for either one of us?\n\n**EDIT", "summary": "would you rather get broken up with over the phone or wait a month to have it done in person? Also, how can this be done (if a phone call is best) in a house full of people I don't know very well that includes two small children?"}
{"id": "t3_nul6c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your biggest \"Oh shit, I'm F&#^$%\" Story?", "post": "I'll start. \n\nA few weeks ago, me and the fam were putting up lights on the house for the holidays. While on the roof, I was leaning over one of the highest parts of my house and trying to hang a line of lights on some trimming. Because of how the roof was designed and what not, I had to lean out quite a bit, and not being afraid of heights I was being way to careless in the whole process. As I leaned over, I sort of started to slide of head first, and at the last second was able to grab on to the ledge and work my way back up. It would have been a good 30 or so ft fall head first. First thing that went through my mind as it happened was, \"Oh shit, I'm fucked.\"", "summary": "Basically almost fell 30 ft off my roof head first while trying to put up Christmas lights, and barely managed to catch myself."}
{"id": "t3_1kyeoc", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Leave TV on all night? Minimal choices the next day.", "post": "So my youngest sister has a habit of sleeping on the couch in the living room so she can watch T.V. as long as she wants. About a week ago my grandmother had to spend the night with us, and my sister was an absolute brat! She had the T.V. blaring, easily heard all throughout the house and especially in the room my grandmother was sleeping in. So I would tell her to turn it down. She'd turn it down by an interval of 1. That helps nothing. Multiple times I told her, and each time she would complain, saying she already turned it down and I was being unfair. Finally I told her that it had to be on 15 (it was on 30) or I was going to turn it off. Cue bitch fest about how she can't hear it if its that low (pardon? you are literally 2ft away from the T.V. I know you can hear it just fine). But after making more threats, she finally turned it down. Although I'm pretty sure that after I went to bed she turned it back up. Brat.\n\nSo this incident has been festering in my mind for a couple days. Should I get her back? Is it really worth the trouble of her complaining all day? Then the last 3 nights she's left the T.V. on all night at a volume I can hear from my room. Time for some petty revenge. This morning, as she's fast asleep on the couch, I took all the remotes (T.V. DVD and Satellite) from all the rooms and hid them. This means that if she wants to watch a show, she literally cannot change the channel because you have to have a remote to do that (no buttons to push on the box or anything). So whatever channel was on last night is the only channel she can watch today. If I was thinking, I would have changed it to a documentary channel or something educational. It also means that if she wants to watch a movie she has to get up and manually do it, which really only takes 2x as long to do but I know her lazy ass wont.", "summary": "My sister is a brat and leaves the T.V. blaring each night. I take the remotes and hide them so she can't watch T.V. as easily."}
{"id": "t3_3bw4w4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going all ballerina to turn the lights on at work", "post": "This happened yesterday but the embarrassment is still fresh. I was working late and was in the printing room for a while when the lights went out in the hallway. The lights go off if there is no movement so I look around and don't see any one. It was a long day and I was so tired so I thought the best way to turn the light on would be to dance around. I go all ballerina on my floor (few circles, few jumps, no shoes on...BTW i am don't know a thing about ballet dancing) and when all the lights  where turned on I make a grand posture right leg mid air and both hands above my head classic pose and that is when the VP of Finance comes out of his closed office. Looks at me smiles and says \"carry on\" and leaves. I haven't seen him yet but I am pretty sure he thinks I am wired.", "summary": "went all ballerina to turn the lights on and was caught mid pose by my company's VP. "}
{"id": "t3_1h7npd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[32m] too optimistic for the 3 years of relationship with my girlfriend [29F]?", "post": "We have been dating for past three years. Of course we had some minor disagreements over the time but apart from that we never had any other major problem in the relationship. We trust each other completely and share everything. Since past one year we have been discussing a major problem. I want to take the relationship further and she is not ready to commit. According to her she likes being with me but when it comes to planning something long term she feels something is missing and she doesn't know what.\n\nShe is moving to a different state in a couple of months. Sometime back we discussed that I have a decent job here but if she is ready to plan something long term then I am ready to move with her and find a new job there.\n\nLast week she ended up breaking up with me. She thinks that she would feel a lot of pressure and guilty if I moved there and if she is never ready to commit with me.\n\nI feel really sad as we get along so well and we had really great time togeather. It is really hard to give up and I am thinking to give up asking her for commitment and move with her and give another change. What should I do?", "summary": "girlfriend broke up as she is not able to commit. Should I continue anyway and forget about commitments?"}
{"id": "t3_xc0mb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does a 53 year old man start a new life?", "post": "My dad is about to turn 53 next month. I love him with every ounce of my existence, and tonight everything really snapped into reality. \n\nMy father started his construction and home improvement company with his own hands. He taught me everything I know today, I've never met someone who has as much knowledge in everyday life, and in his field of work. We live in a house we use to be able to afford, now that the economy and overall income has diminished there's no work for people like him. He gets a job about once a month to keep the lights on and food on the table. I help him when I can but I'm about to be 22 next month also (we share the same birthday) and I'm moving away from home to try to make enough money to survive on my own. He told me tonight that he hasn't paid our mortgage in almost two years. Now I know everyone else is pretty much going through this but how the hell am I suppose to face that? I honestly feel like it's my fault and he's making me feel like I'm abandoning him more or less. My father cant start a new career now because we're broke and I can't afford the house, what do I do?\n\nReddit I'm not asking for anything more than advice, if you can give me that I'd appreciate it.", "summary": "My home is going to be foreclosed on, my fathers business fell apart, and I feel like it's my fault"}
{"id": "t3_135g15", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My best friend openly admits that she enjoys hurting men and believes she will never be able to stay with anyone. What advice should I give her?", "post": "I wasn't sure whether or not this was for this sub or for /r/relationships but I figured there's no relationship involved so what the hell.\n\nWe are both 20, and ever since I can remember she has always loved leading guys on and then dropping them at the last minute or doing something stupid to hurt them. She privately agreed with me that this was just something that she enjoys doing more than she enjoys being in a relationship. She told me that she doesn't want to be this way but she just can't help how she feels. I should probably also add that she's been with most of the guys in our circle of friends and completely screwed with their heads at one point or another.\n\nI used to get mad at her but no I realise that she knows how lonely she is, and doesn't know how to get over this desire to break hearts. Personally, I reckon it started with her first boyfriend Jack when she was 14. She was besotted with him, and shared her first kiss with him... then a week or so later he told her face to face that he had made out with his friend's little sister at a party. He said that he wasn't sorry/guilty, and he pretty much meant it. He's still a dick.\n\nAll of this being said, I really don't know how to help her any more than she knows how to help herself. It's preventing her from having a normal relationship with anyone to the extent that when she likes someone and he likes her, she does nothing about it because she is so scared she will be the same as always and hurt him.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "my friend is a heart-breaker and plays the part of being a bitch even when I know she's really not like that at all. How can I convince her to change?"}
{"id": "t3_350mwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] and my long distance Ex [21 F] together for 2 1/2 years. She broke up with me days before we were moving in.", "post": "I had been together with my long distance girlfriend until this past Sunday. For the past several months we have been planning on moving in together, traveling, and starting a life with each other. Things were going so well (at least I felt they were) that I was planning to propose to her for our big 3 year anniversary/her college graduation. \n\nThe night before was completely normal. We were even texting about the mayweather/pacquiao fight. The previous weekend we spent together at my parents lake house. Everything seemed more than great. She told me how excited she is to be almost done for the semester and that we have weeks to spend together. She even left me a note in my wallet saying how happy I made her. We had been talking about this upcoming time we would get to spend together, for weeks. The Sunday after the big boxing match (which was a week after the lake house) she asked if we could talk the next morning. I called. She said she couldn't do it anymore and that the past 5-6 months have been her forcing herself to be with me. I don't feel like the behavior of a forced person writes you love letters to find when she leaves. She also stated the spark had died. She felt like she was just dating a best friend. \n\nSure our intimacy could have been better. I've been working 12+ hour days on Fridays and we only see each other on the weekends. That's why the upcoming weeks were going to change things. More quality time together. Not just days where I am tired from working all day. \n\nI've never been happier with someone. I truly felt like she was my best friend/girlfriend. This was a complete 180 to how I perceived the relationship. So much so that I had been planning how I was going to propose. We haven't talked since that phone call. I am desperate. I haven't slept since Sunday.", "summary": "long distance girlfriend of 2 1/2 years suddenly dumps me when she is about to graduate/live with me"}
{"id": "t3_3oyun0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29f], husband [31m] losing weight fast, obsessed with weightloss products, suspended from work over Internet use (regarding this), is there any future in our relationship?", "post": "I'm on a throwaway, since my sister has an account here.\n\nNewlywed, been married 6 months now. For the past 6 weeks, my husband's been losing weight, he's been refusing to eat, or eats very little, spends hours on the 'net reading about weight loss treatments or how to lose weight.\n\nHe was suspended from work on Tuesday for 2 weeks for misuse of Internet, he admitted to buying weightloss drugs online, using the company Internet, he's got to go into a meeting on Monday to discuss this.\n\nHis libido seemsto have gone, doesn't want sex, just spends hours and hours exercising, sits obsessing on the iPad over weight loss treatments, has even worn one of my bikinis whilst taking selfies - he claims its so he can see his weight loss in action. I found 20 selfies of him in a pink bikini of mine.\n\nI asked him last night why he's so into this weight loss and he said \"I'm fat, fat, faaaat, I'M A fat idiot who needs to lose some weight, I stink, I suck at being good, if you know what I mean.\"\n\nI think he means being healthy when he talks about being good.\n\nThen I asked him if he'd go for counselling with me and he said \"God, no, counselling, they're just trying to push their views on you about being fat. Its a con.\"\n\nI found him online at 8 this morning using our credit card to order some Cialis and weightloss pills, we argued over it and he told me \"i'm fat youre gonna fucking lose it that i used our credit card but what the hell.\"\n\nI feel like his weight loss and obsession with losing weight is turning him into someone else and am not likeing it.\n\nSo, any advice on how to deal with this further?\n\nI know i could divorce him, but isnt it too early, and marriage has bad times as well as good to work through?\n\nNeeding help... and its welcomed a lot!", "summary": "Husband obsessed with weight loss, spends hours obsessing over it, I think he has body issues, he wont go to counselling."}
{"id": "t3_2z3rg0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My schoolmates have my underage pictures", "post": "Context: I'm a 15 year old male from Singapore (I don't need specific legal advice, anything general will do). Recently, I took some shots of my body to keep track of my gym progress, some just shirtless and some in my undies. I uploaded them onto an account on Instagram which I thought I privatized and unlinked (my mistake). Apparently, one of my schoolmates screenshotted my pictures and has spread them around my school and it has now reached other schools. Is what he committed an offence? I may be planning to take action against him for bullying and possibly defamation. Any advice? Thank you in advance.", "summary": "my schoolmate has some pictures of me (15M) in my underwear and has spread them. what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_31zfsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] ex girlfriend [21 F] confusing as fuck.", "post": "Bit of background, dating for over a year. Her friends disliked me from the start. Constantly called her boring, had changed, made a mistake since being with me etc. \n\nThey constantly made this known to her along with their massive disapproval, but she was very much happy with me. \nOut of the blue she broke up with me but the reasons she gave were twisted versions of those which her friends had berated her for. \n\nI.e She said I stopped her going out, which was never the case in fact I always encouraged it. Her friends always said she was now boring for not going out all the time with them. Now it's my fault. \n\nHer friends, or as I see, aren't the nicest of people. They go out get drunk but leave people behind if they get to bad; just leave them. They would go out, with my now ex, but just leave her by herself so they could go hook up with people making her feel like crap. Actively tried to encourage her to do drugs with them despite countless times of saying no. \n\nBack to breakup. Break up came out of the blue, we hardly argued and never had any of the problems  been brought up before. \nPost break up, we've argued but ofc she's sticking her foot down but saying she's \"not being stubborn\" but hey ho. \n\nThe confusing part: She tells me how she misses all the little things I did for her, she is scared for when I move on and do those things for someone else instead. She doesn't know how not to love me and that is now a bad thing. \n\nI don't understand any of what's really going on.", "summary": "F(21) broke up with me M(23) on some convoluted reasons and now is confusing me with regret type comments."}
{"id": "t3_4ag0z8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Realize that you've [27/M] been an unappreciative dick the whole time only after the breakup. Is this common for guys or am I in the minority? [20/F]", "post": "gf of 2 years stops calling, texting answering my calls. falls of the face of the earth for 4 weeks. I give up. I feel hurt and confused. Begin reflecting introspectively and although this is the first time this has ever happened I can't help but notice a pattern of under appreciating all my ex-gf's \n\nI think it's because I get into relationships knowing that I can \"do better\" but settle so I feel some resentment through the relationship which is a total dickbat move. \n\nI don't NOT care for whoever I'm dating, but in the back of my mind I want her to be smarter, prettier, skinnier. And I just feel completely unfulfilled dating these girls which makes both of us miserable. \n\nI'd like to break the pattern, but I can't figure out if this is just \"dating\" trials to see if I can find some meaningful compatibility from people I wouldn't consider ideal or if I'm just getting what I deserve and I just need to learn to be happy with what I have/get.", "summary": "Get into relationships with girls knowing that I'm only attracted to half of them (either physically OR mentally, but not both) end up being kind of a bitter asshole. Wondering if this is the normal process of dating or if I need to find help to re-frame my perspective on relationships."}
{"id": "t3_4s7v76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-girlfriend[26F]with who I live broke up with Me [22M] two days ago for her ex. I now saw them both home. I am going insane.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend lived with each other for 2 years. About a 4 weeks ago she told me that she wants to meet with her ex [who left her for HIS [reboud ex] as friends, and that she did not see him for four years.\nI should have said no right then, but I didnt want to seem like a controlling person.\nNow she broke up with me. Basically on last Saturday she told me she doesnt love me, but she wants to keep trying for a few months. Naturally I agreed, as I still very much love her. Now on Friday she said she wants to quit. Now it is Saturday [week since she told me she doesnt love me] and I came home to find her and the deucheshigfuckingcockbag in her room.\n\nNow the worst part is, that I still live here. I have a bedroom where all my stuff [computer] is and I live in this cave. Why dont I leave you ask? Well moving out  is not a easy process, esecially before a payday [monthly here]and she owns me money.\n\nShe ows me a large sum of money, to which we had agreed that will be payed by rent [I will live here, I will not pay rent until the debt is settled].\n\nAs working night shifts only, I do not know how to exist during the night, especially now that I hear them moving over the apartment. It is the worst I have ever felt in my life.\n\nWhat also makes me very sad is that the breakup came incredibly fast. Not a week ago we were in a Zoo and had a great day. And now she dumps we. We had a quaint relashionship, almost no arguments, etc.", "summary": "Gf met with her ex, then dumped me and two days after she dumped me she has him over. I still live with her."}
{"id": "t3_2p4bgx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Appropriating Myself a Writing Utensil", "post": "It was the year 2014, December 12, and more importantly the day when I fucked up. Honestly, this fuck-up was mixture of complete stupidity with a hint of ignorance, in my opinion. So, I strolled into my class punctually and without any real problem. I laid my stuff down at my seat and the teacher told us to meet them at the computer lab which was conveniently next door. The class was instructed to bring a sheet of notebook paper and a pen, and only a pen. This class does not allow you to use pencils which is a total pain in the ass. I digress, so being the \"smart\" guy that I am I decide to look through the well-supplied pencil pouch that occupied the seat next to me. I took a blue \"pen\" and continued on. I knew the owner of that \"pen\" and she's one of those \"thorn in my arse\" kinda girls so I thought that the annoyance wouldn't be that much worse.\n\nClass happened. Page of notes, pen wrote weird, didn't think nothing of it, no problems. It wasn't until after class where things went... sour.\n\nSo after class, being the smug bastard that I am (borderline stupid), I decided to do the gentlemanly thing and hand it back to her personally. You see, the thing is, apparently that \"pen\" was a colored pencil specifically bought from the internet which was stressed to have been very expensive. I knew hell hath no fury but shit, the second I felt like a total dickhead was when I knew I fucked up.", "summary": "Dumbass steals \"pen\". Dumbass returns \"pen\". Dumbass feels like a douche for using the \"pen\". Not too interesting."}
{"id": "t3_1icj6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18f] get my boyfriend [20m] to start working out again?", "post": "We've been together for 6 months, Thursday is the half year mark, and it's been absolutely amazing so far. I find him extremely attractive, sweet, caring, etc. He's wonderful. \n\nHe was a varsity wrestler in high school and he was one of the best. He was, therefore, really in shape. However, he hasn't really worked out in two years and even though he's still really physically attractive, the beautifully sculpted muscles are starting to go away. I'm not a fan of that. \n\nI'm not going to love him any less if he loses it even more, but I'd like him to start working out again, because my goodness lord will my ovaries explode for him, and it's also really healthy.\n\nHe watches a lot of anime and plays a decent amount of league of legends, so he's on the computer a lot. He also works five days a week, 8 hrs a day. \n\nI've brought up multiple times that I want him to start working out again but he doesn't want to because \"it's too much work\" and he's \"lazy\". I've sent him pictures of physical fit men and expressed how I find them attractive, still nothing. \n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "I already find my boyfriend very attractive, but he's been in better shape. I'd like him to start working out again to be in his prime physical state for attractiveness and health reasons, but he doesn't seem to want to."}
{"id": "t3_50my44", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Looking for outside opinions on if I'm [19F] being overly jealous with bf [19m] around others", "post": "There have been multiple occasions where I have been uncomfortable with my partners girl friends. Don't get me wrong some of them are lovely but there are maybe three which I feel are overly friendly or flirty. Been together around two years if that has any relevance. \n\nThe first occasion of this was when we were out with his friends and one of his girl friend was very touchy with him and was leaning on him quite a lot. She also seemed to dislike me. I can't point out very obvious things that she did but when talking to him say the three of us were standing there she would have walked in front of me and sort of blocked me out of the conversation and away from bf. I got over this because I know its not his fault and whatever it doesn't matter.\n\nThere have been a few other things but I'll just skip to the most recent problem with a girl from his uni as I don't want to make this too long and past stories probably aren't relevant. Anyway he has known this girl from his class for maybe half a year. They aren't in the same class anymore since yearly this year. They also haven't talked for months. But recently he met her on the bus and they sat together and talked. She didn't know I existed until then because he never talks about me with his friends which he knew bothered me so he made an effort to tell her I actually exist when he bumped into her around two days ago. Her conversations with him early on were more flirty than they are now which I'm assuming is because she now knows about me? However they still do seem flirty or overly friendly. Its hard to find examples of 'flirty' texts but just things like dropping anything to help him with any problem and a lot of laughing, emoticons things like that. \n\nHis opinion on all of this is as always I'm \"ridiculous\" if i bring any thing like this up lately his only response to me is \"you're being ridiculous\". Which obviously makes me feel crazy and annoying. \n\nAlso I should probably mention that I trust my bf completely. What annoys me is that girls think that they actually have a chance? If that makes sense?", "summary": "I might be being crazy about my boyfriend around other girls. If I am how can I stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2vizfo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have been messaging a guy from Twitter [29M] for about two weeks, I have a boyfriend [26M] of 3.5 years", "post": "Hello Reddit. I'm confused about something and I need your opinion. ]\n\nI've been with my boyfriend since September 2011, we've been through a lot of ups and down, a few breakups, most recent lasted from November 2014 to early January. We have many issues I won't detail here. \n\nThe issue that's been confusing me is that I've been DMing with this guy on twitter who lives in the same city. We don't know each other IRL, but we've been chatting A LOT. We don't actively flirt. We don't even know what we look like (his avi is a blurry partial B&W selfie, mine is a picture of my back and hair). We keep it friendly, and nothing inappropriate has come out of our long chats. We message back and forth multiple times a day for about an hour/more. I think he once hinted at moving our conversations away from twitter, and I politely refused. \n\nWe talk about music, science, society, joke around... No opportunity has come up for me to tell him I have a boyfriend and I think it's odd to just blurt it out. My boyfriend doesn't know. \n\nI should add the Twitter guy's personality is a carbon copy of my boyfriend's (but a bit better in regards to temper, tantrums...). I feel confused about the whole thing; I don't know if it's wrong or not. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Have boyfriend. Been DMing with a guy I've never seen IRL for a while. Confused -- What are your thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_woyxa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/F] Just not wanting to fuck things up.", "post": "So, where do I start with this? Agh. Well, first off, let me tell you a little about myself. I'm TERRIBLY shy when it comes to romance. Shy to a fault, and it has fucked up things for me in the past. I really hate it and it's something I have yet to get over. I've never really had a real relationship. But as of this summer, I've made it a point to try to meet new people and be a generally more social person. If any of you know the site MeetMe...  I have been using that to meet some new people. I didn't really have that many expectations for the site and I've met quite a few douchebags. However, recently I went to see a movie with... let's call him.. Terry. He was the nicest person I've met so far! We seem to actually have some stuff in common and yeah, he's cute. :P But I fear that I may have gave another bad first impression.. I'm really great at doing that. People mistake my awkwardness for snootiness. We hung out two days ago. I haven't really heard from him since except for he called me yesterday but I was napping so I didn't pick up. I called him back and sent him a text message, but no reply. So I honestly have no idea what to do now. I think there's actual potential here and that doesn't happen very often for me. I just would kind of like to know.. what the fuck do I do? Should I text him? Make plans? And if we hang out again, how can I maybe show I'm interested? How do I tell if he's interested? \nSorry if that was painful to read, but I'd really appreciate any help from you redditors. :) Thanks a ton.", "summary": "I just met a guy and we've hung out once. He seems cool, but I'm awkward as fuck. Reddit, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1im275", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] get my \"friend\"[22F] to sleep over again", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nTo make this story short, I have this \"friend\" whom I've been seeing on/off lately. We've hooked up about a few times now, and all of these times she ended up staying and sleeping over. I do not yet know if I am interested in pursuing something more with this girl, but we're both just having fun for now. \nAnyways, a few days ago, I asked her to hang out this Saturday night, but she said she won't be able to come out due to family obligations in the evening. I do still want her to stay over though. How do I best convey this without sounding too direct or too rude?", "summary": "How to I politely ask a girl I've been having fun with to sleep over when she won't be able to hang out that night."}
{"id": "t3_148gpa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I (F19) start the process of moving out of my house?", "post": "So I'll try to keep this simple. My freshman year of college my parents were going to pay for me to live on campus but I decided to stay home the first year in order to save money for the next year so I could live in an apartment. Well my parents went from complete support my freshman year to \"we will help you out but you need to pay some of it\" after the second semester of my freshman year, I was fine with that. Now I'm about to complete the first semester of my sophomore year and my parents told me that I have to completely support myself and that they WILL NOT be helping me at all. \n\nThe problem is I have no boundaries in this house. I can't go out and do what I want without being questioned, I can't come and go as I please (like coming home at 3 A.M.) without being accused of doing immoral things or my dad getting angry. My parents are pretty religious so they think I'm out partying or doing things they don't agree with, which I might be but its still annoying to have to be lectured and I want to experience things in my life. I just want freedom and I understand the financial responsibility that comes with moving into an apartment but I already have someone I would like to move in with. I have a job that doesn't pay a ton but I have a second one I could pick up no problem. I'm just tired of being smothered.\n\nSo I guess my question is how do I start the moving out process like saving money or is there a loan I could take out to provide housing funds. Also I would like to hear about other people's experience moving out in college, how your life was different and if you would suggest me moving or toughing it out for a little bit.", "summary": "I have no boundaries in my house and I don't have much freedom. Have a job but parents aren't supportive of me moving out unless I take care of it myself. How do I start gathering the means to do this?"}
{"id": "t3_4xsgab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "College is a bummer.", "post": "Alright Reddit I need some help here. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and have known each other for about 4. We attended the same high school and for the first two years we talked here and there and during our Senior year we fell for each other and have been pretty happy ever since, until summer hit and the realization that we're going to two different colleges. Now we're still in the same state and she's about an hour away she demands that we focus on school work and that we'll have time to visit during breaks, and she plays it off so easily. I've seen a lot of the college stories here and how 19 year olds like me should accept that it's over, but so many people I've met married their high school love. Any advice for keeping this together and letting me regain some of my sanity?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are going to separate colleges, need advice for staying together."}
{"id": "t3_ikamx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently applied for an apartment in NYC and was charged $100 for a credit check that was seemingly never performed. Can I contest the application fee? Any real estate lawyers out there that can help me?", "post": "I recently applied for an apartment for which the application fee ($100/person) covered a credit check and processing paperwork.\nMe and my roommate both have guarantors and since they are considered applicants as well the total application fee we paid was $400. We were kept waiting to hear back if we were approved for a week. When we contacted the management office they continued to tell us everything was in order and our application looked great. Eventually after a week we were told that the unit had been taken and basically given to a \"stronger applicant\". When asked if our application was denied/rejected the broker said no and that the application fee can be put towards another unit but cannot be refunded as a credit check had been performed and our paperwork had be \"processed\" towards the afore mentioned unit. I am currently enrolled for credit monitoring services with both my bank (which monitors all three major credit bureaus) and Equifax. I noted that an inquiry was NOT made in the entire month of June on their behalf.\n\nMe and my roommate went on to apply for another apartment for which we received approval within an hour after turning in our guarantors and our paperwork and a notice of credit inquiry a day after the application was submitted. However, in the process of turning in paperwork for this subsequent apartment we were asked to submit a CPA letter and letter of employment which the initial broker/management company DID NOT request and supposedly \"processed\" our application without. \n\nLast but not least the second broker we worked with offered us a New York state broker disclosure form - ( That he said was required of brokers to clarify that they were working for the tenants/renters and not the building management/owner. This was never offered by the initial Broker.", "summary": "I paid an apartment application fee for an apartment and 1.my credit was never checked 2. required paperwork was not requested or filed for my application. What are my rights for a refund?"}
{"id": "t3_4jlbw3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] got dumped by ex-bf [25M] a month ago, I'm not coping well, don't know what to do...", "post": "Got broken up with 1 month ago. We were together about 9 months and it was my first serious relationship.\n\nI'm not coping very well... I don't really enjoy anything anymore, I can't sleep well, and it feels like I have nothing to look forward to.\n\nI just finished my first year of medical school which I should be happy about, but I just don't care. I'm doing a summer research project right now in a cool field but I have zero motivation. I'm not even excited for the next few years of med school, or even for eventually being a doctor one day. Which is ridiculous because I know objectively that I should be grateful for this amazing opportunity to study medicine. But I just find myself resenting med school because it contributed to the breakup.\n\nHe was the first person in my life who really understood me, besides my family. I know people always say that there's no such thing as \"the one\" and that your ex isn't as special as you think but I don't know if that's true anymore. And I know this was my first relationship and first breakups are the hardest, but it can't be this hard, can it? Or maybe I'm just too sensitive. Anyway, it sucks, I don't know what to do, I feel like I'll never be that happy again. I'm probably just being dramatic and will feel better over time... right?", "summary": "Not coping well with breakup, feeling depressed and like my ex was the one for me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3c9996", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my potential partner [23 F] is distant, and it's hurting me badly", "post": "Girl I'm seeing for about a month and a half is being distant and it's hurting me. I met her from an online dating profile. We hit it off right away. \n\nHer Backstory: she got out of an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship about 3 months before I met her. Things started off great when we went on our first date, and she was showering me with attention, almost to the point of suffocation, for the first couple of weeks.\n\nNow she is all of a sudden going through a grieving phase and trying to get over her abusive ex, and ended up becoming distant as a result. They text occasionally and she tells me it always ends up badly when they communicate again. She's also currently seeing a therapist as a result and is slowly working through it.\n\nI know logically what I should do. Sometimes I even think that I should stop seeing her, because it's really hurting me. It's gotten me to the point where I am feeling very anxious, can't fully enjoy time with my friends, and I even lost a night of sleep as well. \n\nI like her, I really do. Ever since she started becoming more distant, I started becoming a bit needy. But at the same time, it's very anxiety inducing. I don't feel good, I don't feel happy, and I don't know what to do. I just need some help and advice, and maybe someone to help shed some light.\n\nI've gone through a lot of anxiety and even had bouts of crying as a result. It just really hurts because I don't know where I stand and I wish there was something I can do, but at the same time, I know she has to go on her journey by herself.", "summary": "Potential partner got out of an emotionally abusive relationship 3 months ago before we met. Things started off great, but now she's distant. I'm going through some agonizing anxiety because of her acting distant towards me. What can you tell me to help me feel better, and what would you do in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4sq3os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25m] won't brush his damned teeth. I'm [22f]", "post": "My boyfriend just doesn't care about brushing his teeth. His teeth are rotting, he has several cavities. And his breath is horrid in the morning, more than the average persons. I refuse to kiss him when his breath is like that and it hurts his feelings. But it tastes so gross. I havve told him why i hate it, and i asked him how would he feel if he could taste what seems like vomit in my mouth every time he kissed me. I have to pester him and basically be a mom to him until he brushes his teeth. If I'm lucky i can get him to do it once a day several hours after waking up.\n\nHe didnt used to be like this but depression + not taking care of yourself will sometimes have tis effect on people and their teeth. I get it. But goddamn it, I want to be able to kiss him and not feel sick. \n\nJust last night i told him to brush his teeth before bed, but he had already laid down and said \"But I'm comfortable. I can do it tomorrow.\" When he woke up, his breath was horrid as usual and i asked him to brush his teeth. He said sure but was trying to snuggle and his face was near me and his breath is just dreadful. I covered up his mouth with the blanket, he turned over and started pouting, saying i was being mean, and went back to sleep after ignoring me.\n\nIm tired of this. His has tooth decay and i just want him to at least brush his teeth since his work makes it difficult for him to get to a dentist. Im not sure what im looking for here. I just want some assurance that I'm not being unreasonable here. He doesn't get that I hate the smell and I do not like kissing him when his breath is bad and it tastes like shit. I love him dearly. This is literally the only complaint I have.", "summary": "my boyfriend wont brush his teeth and i think its gross. He thinks im just being mean, and just doeesnt see my side of it"}
{"id": "t3_3ne51u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Muslim girlfriend (18) may be disowned by parents, what would she do?", "post": "My gf and i have been dating for a bit, and her family life is... complicated. Her parents are getting a divorce (dad is abusive). Her parents is incredibly religious, mother especially. Her mom says that if she keeps dating me, a non-Muslim, she'll be disowned. She is still in college, and my concern is that she wouldn't be able to support herself through school. I don't want her to be on the street, I want her safe! And if she gets kicked out, she may not be able to support herself, Rent, school, food etc. The college has financial help for students but I don't know how much it helps. Any thoughts? Ideas? What should we do if this were to happen?", "summary": "Muslim gf may be disowned by parents if she keeps dating me, what do we do if that happens?"}
{"id": "t3_js65s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "On 2 year anniversary GF didn't show appreciation other than verbally", "post": "Now I am not trying to be a materialist, just having her in my presence is enough of a gift to me. But anyways here is what happened. \n\nMy SO of 2 years and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary last night. She lives with me and I know that she is tight for cash (she is having trouble finding work in her field after graduating college and I cover all the bills). I wasn't expecting much from her in way of any gifts, but I still expected something to show she appreciated me, either a Painting (She is a very talented artist) or some other home made gesture. I was gone the weekend leading up to Monday so it isn't like she didn't have the time to make anything.\n \nWell anyways, I get home and take her out to a fancy dinner, and she didn't get me anything at all. She said she felt bad she didn't get me anything however I feel like she just didn't care enough to get me anything or do anything to show how much she appreciates me being here for her. \n\nI am unsure how to handle the situation. If I bring it up to her I feel like I would be looking like a complete asshole, but if I don't say anything I feel like I am being a complete pushover.", "summary": "My SO didn't do anything to show affection for our 2 yr anniversary and I don't know how to confront her about it"}
{"id": "t3_2gzf7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my long distance GF [20F] are having communication issues after one month", "post": "My girlfriend was a very close friend of mine in high school. There was always something there, but we never initiated anything until summer of 2013. We had a little fling, and we stopped talking after I had the wrong idea about where it was going. \n\nWe started talking again this summer, and I went to hang out with her while she was in our hometown. Nothing happened, no kissing or anything of the sort. All we did was bake brownies and watch the world cup. It was magical, and we reconnected. We then started talking for the next month as she went overseas to visit her dad. We would talk all of the time about everything and nothing. \n\nI planned to visit her at her school, and we spent a total of 12 days together, after which we decided that we would try a committed relationship. \n\nThings were great, but recently, she has stopped talking to me as frequently. She cites her phone as being the issue, as the bottom of the phone does not respond to touch. She is getting a new phone soon, and I hope that will help, but neither of us are convinced that communication will go back up, mainly because she could communicate through her laptop if she wanted to. \n\nMy biggest hang up is that I feel that we are losing the initial spark, but maybe we are just transitioning from the \"honeymoon phase.\"\n\nI was wondering if anyone had any advice about what we should do to recreate that spark, or advice for me to deal with having less immediate communication like I am used to. I have visited her once a couple weeks ago, and I will be visiting her again in two weeks. We go to colleges that are a flight away, but my financial situation and airline mileage is such that it is not a problem.", "summary": "long term friend turned girlfriend are having initial long distance issues, and I am trying to discover ways to improve the situation for both of us."}
{"id": "t3_2b4tfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] Will be required to make friends if I want to do research at university but I'm going into a new dorm so I'm not sure what to do", "post": "I got the email from the housing department telling me what dorm I will be in (single because of my disability, new building from last semester) and I won't know any of the people there. \n\nI also got off the phone with my therapist at the school (he's the head of the counseling center and on the student behavioral review committee and probably other things) and he said that the most important thing for me was first grades (but he's not worried about those) and second, making friends, and that he would be talking to my professors to not let me do research until he has confirmation that I have friends because I need to be devoting all my effort to that. \n\nI don't know what kind of research I wanted to do I'm Computer science and engineering and I know a couple programming languages and higher mathematics but.....it doesn't matter but there was probably something for me that I could have done but now I can't because I need to find some fake friends first. I spend almost all my time on the internet asking about how to make friends and when I'm not on the internet I'm trying...to do so. I never made any success last semester (except when I sold some stuff so people pretended to like me) and I don't know anyone at this new place... I really really want to do research but I'm not sure if I'll be allowed to because of this. \n\nI'm going to be realistic and say I probably can't make friends so if I can't figure that out is he even allowed to do this? Can he bar me from working with my professors? \n\nTHings I tried last semester: Clubs, events, leaving my door open, Mario party with my door open, interacting with humans on the way to class, interacting with humans on the way from class, interacting with humans before class, creating a study group that I lead, joining more clubs, changing my wardrobe, getting a haircut, working out (somethign something iron church gainz) and probably a lot of other things I don't remember.", "summary": "I need to make friends as soon as I get to university and I don't know how. Barring my inability to make friends I need to figure out if there is a way to stop my therapist there from doing this."}
{"id": "t3_sm2vm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need help with recovering important family pictures", "post": "Today me and my family went to my Regatta (crew meet) and my mother wanted to make room on our camera to film/take pictures of the event. She took the memory card out of the camera, moved it to the computer and thought that she saved the pictures to her desktop and cleared the camera. Instead, however, she only saved the shortcut TO the pictures and then deleted them off the camera and now they're gone. My mother was distraught, she still is. I'm not sure if it's possible to recover the pictures because it was from a memory card, but if it is possible to get them back, I would much appreciate the help on any information to recover these pictures. Both me and my family would appreciate the help! Thank you!", "summary": "Mother deleted important family pictures off camera memory card by accident, I want to recover the pictures, please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1kxc4d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I have no idea what to do!", "post": "Okay, so I became friends with a girl I go to college with last fall. We get lunch together all the time and talk and blah blah blah. She's not a best friend but definitely a good friend. One day, her brother came up and she showed me a picture. I had such a crush it was insane but obviously I never acted on it. One day he started following me on Instagram ( I followed him back and didn't read too much into it). On Tuesday I got a little tipsy and commented on a picture where he shaved his head into a mohawk/mullet and I said, \"I'm in love.\" as a joke. He added me on facebook the next day and I got a call from a random number. Turns out it was him and he accidently hit my number. So, we started texting. Nothing too flirty. I went and hung out with his sister and he came home and I was just hanging out with his family talking to them and we barely talked. He's really shy but I really think I like him. Should I bite the bullet and ask him out while he's in town or since he's a southern gentleman type wait for him to text me? HELP!!!!", "summary": "big crush on my friend's older brother"}
{"id": "t3_2f95je", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while at a doctors/clinic", "post": "TIFU badly! \n\nBack story, \nI'm on a clinical trial for a medical treatment which involves the taking of blood every month, receiving a couple of injections every month and having a through medical including an ECG every 3 months. Today was my 3mth medical which includes fasting. I've been on the trial for a little over 2yrs.\nToday,\nI turned up for my appointment which was scheduled at almost lunchtime which meant that I was already a little bit light headed (been fasting since 7pm the night before) and started to go through the process of being checked out. \n\nToday the nurse and trial doctor (both females) were in a particular joking mood which made stripping down to my jocks a little less uncomfortable. \nAfter going through all the necessary medical checks (don't forget this is a medical trial) it was time for me to get up on the table for the ECG. \nOnce all the sticky sensor pads are put on my legs/wrists/and chest the nurse drops all the cords on my stomach to start sorting out what went where, and the leads seemed to all be dragged over my crotch.  When everything was attached, the nurse then plugged it all into the main monitor/box and dropped it all onto Mr Wobbly. \nThen she stood there using my leg like a bar leaner and chatted to the doctor. Meanwhile I have to lie there perfectly still for a positive reading still feeling lightheaded.  \nThen something funny was said the nurse laughed and I will swear to the day I die ... her hand brushed my inner thigh. \nCUE MR WOBBLY to pop up and have a look around ... BASTARD!!\n\nThe ECG slid off my crotch and the nurse managed to catch it before it hit the floor. \nIt completed its scan and while they uploaded my results I got my jabs and was allowed to get dressed in silence. Everything was fine and we made a date and time for my next appointment. \nAs I left and walked out I closed the door but through the walls I heard the doctor say to the nurse \"at least we can rule out impotence as a side affect\".\nAnd with the laughter still ringing in my ears I slunk out.", "summary": "Went to see a female doctor and nurse."}
{"id": "t3_2it97l", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Confused about lunch breaks in MD", "post": "Hello /r/legal advice. I was wondering if any of y'all could shed some light on MD labor laws for me. I looked around a bit on the net, but I am somewhat confused. \n\nI work at an auto shop as an auto technician. I make $9 an hour or $23.50 flat rate per labor hour. In the interest of simplification, My \"commission\"  (IE flat rate) is always greater than my hourly on my paycheck (for every 2 weeks but not necessarily every specific day). I am scheduled to work for 10 hours a day, 5 days a week. A half hour is automatically deducted every day (not paid, but it does go towards my paid vacation), but since I don't hit my hourly rate, it's mostly irrelevant. \n\nMostly, I'm confused about MD's definition of \"retail employee's\". They cite auto shop and specifically \"selling wiper blades and floor mats\". We sell wiper blades and a lot of tires, but also my \"labor hours\" through General automotive repair. \n\nI guess I'm asking if/how I'm legally entitled to an unpaid lunch break. I always thought I was protected under the law, but now I'm doubtful.", "summary": "I'm technically on the clock and a 30 minute break is deducted from me, but I live off of my \"commission\". Why should I bust my ass and have my lunch breaks taken from me cause I make my company a lot more money than some $9 an hour slacker?"}
{"id": "t3_308icm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Fiancee [20 F] 10 months, she accidentally sent a short 15 second nude video to one of her guy friends when the video was originally intended for me.", "post": "This happened three days ago. We are both in the military and she got deployed 3 times since our relationship started. Lets call her Sheila. Her deployments don't last for more than a month so she is away again for the third time and she gets back this sunday. \nWhenever she gets deployed we usually exchange nude pics over her deployment period. So this time around i decided to send Sheila a short 15 sec nude video of me and in return she did the same thing. \n\nOnly problem is that Sheila didn't only send it to me but also Mark(fake name). By what Sheila told me, Mark is a nice guy and good friend of hers. Mark also happens to live on the same base we do. She started panicking and thought that our relationship was over cus she thought Mark was gonna publicize her video and that i was gonna think Sheila was cheating on me. Sheila calls me and tells me what happened and i believe her and try to calm her down by telling her that I'm not ending our relationship over that. \n\nSheila then tells me to get in contact with Mark and talk to him about it which i do. i go talk to Mark and I'm polite about it and the guy tells me he disregarded it as a fb scam or just a mistake from Sheila and he said he deleted it and that won't talk to anyone about it. i tell this to Sheila over the phone of course and she says she is relieved but i know she still feels a certain way about it. \n\nThis happened 3 days ago and Sheila gets back in 4 days and i know she will feel embarrassed and maybe awkward so i wanna know what to tell her so she gets over this ordeal that is probably driving her crazy out there in the field. \nIs there something i can tell her over text to put her at ease a little and what else can i do when she gets back to help her get over this issue. \n\nSorry this is my first time doing this, i hope i explained myself.", "summary": "Fiancee accidentally sent a short nude video to her guy friend when it was intended for me. Need advice on how to reassure her and have her not panic over this knowing that the guy won't public her video."}
{"id": "t3_4xljhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] sister [26F] broke up with my best friend [26M] because her let her son [6M] hold a chainsaw (it was turned off)", "post": "My best friend and I were chopping down a tree in my sisters yard. My nephew wanted to help and his mom allowed to carry small branches. We let him hold the handle of the chain saw, he could barely get it off the ground. It was turned off \n\nShe ran out and she was screaming at him to put it down. She hugged him/kissing him asking if he was hurt. She was inspecting him and she said \" lucky for you two idiots there is not a scratch on him\"\n\nShe told us both to get out of the house, she broke up with him. Told him if he came back she would call the police. She has blocked both of us on all forms of social media. \n\nHow do I get my sister to see she is overreacting? the chainsaw was off and we were there nothing bad would happen", "summary": "Sister has cut both me and her ex out of her life because we let her son hold a chainsaw"}
{"id": "t3_3npt62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] accidentally got my girlfriend [19F] pregnant and she doesn't want an abortion. Looking for advice.", "post": "I made a mistake and got my girlfriend of 2.5 years pregnant. For a bit of background, we have a great relationship, despite our distance - seeing each other is more of a monetary issue, costing about \u00a320-30. She is at University and I am attending College. We usually see each other once or twice a month.\n\nWe got the news today. We are both in shock and don't know what our next step should be. \n\nWe have discussed what we would do if she accidentally got pregnant earlier in our relationship. We have our differences in what to do, I believe due to various factors (money, distance, still being in education) we should have an abortion, however my girlfriend believes she will never get over an abortion. I respect her stance completely and will not push this choice. She doesn't like the idea of putting the child up for adoption.\n\nSo what should we do next? \n\nHow can we keep the relationship going while mitigating the damage this may cause? \n\nWhat would life be like juggling a child, a relationship, an education and a job?\n\nThank you for reading.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2.5 years accidentally pregnant, abortion not an option, she doesn't like the sound of adoption. Need to know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3lj8qp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by misunderstanding my foreign coworker.", "post": "Alright so this happened today.  I work at a subway (Jared amirite?) and it's pretty much run by Indian people from India.  My coworker has a very thick accent and it makes it very difficult to understand what he says sometimes.  Anyway, today my car was messing up and I ended up taking my roommates car to work. I went in to work and as I'm walking through the door he greets me.  This is the fucked up exchange we had. \n\n\"Heeeeey, 'soup buru'?\"\n\n\"No man, it's a suzuki.\"\n\n\"What are you talking about, I said soup buru.\"\n\n\"Look man, I'm not good with cars but I'm pretty sure it's a Suzuki.\"\n\nWe exchanged difficult glances and proceeded to preparing sandwiches.  After he greeted the next customer I realized how fucking stupid I was.", "summary": "Coworker was trying to tell me 'sup, bro' and I misinterpreted it as 'Subaru'."}
{"id": "t3_2ebg7w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Questions about over drafted account", "post": "I have two questions regarding an over drafted account. \n\n1. What are some unorthodox ways of getting money into a checking account. Need to know because there is no brick and mortar, ATM, time to mail the money, or a separate checking account to transfer from. \n\n2. Gf  over drafted her checking account with Wells Fargo through two separate netflix charges. So one month she's charged ignores the problem then is over drafted again and is at $98 in checkings. She's been ignoring calls from them for a while finally answers sets up payment plan of $25 a week every Monday until it's paid off. Then today received another call even after we paid $30 Monday and brought it down to $68 saying if she doesn't pay in full today they are closing her account and sending her to collections. Believe her account has already been closed since she has been receiving calls from Wells Fargo collections not a CA. I am completely clueless in what to do in a situation like this. I don't know anything about pfs. So just looking for advice in this kind of situation. And as you can assume I can't actually go to brick and mortar personally to do this and my bank account is USAA and I don't have the funds to help. Any advice is very helpful.", "summary": "gf over drafted being threatened to be sent to collections if she doesn't pay off a simple $68 overdraft by today, and set up a payment plan (verbal agreement is only problem), but she has been avoiding it for 2 months until this past week."}
{"id": "t3_2tr4de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After the limerence period is over. How to inspire the passion", "post": "I have been dating someone seriously for 1 year. We are both in our early/mid thirties. We do love each other and have shared many experiences together. For the past month or so I can feel him taking more time alone, not initiating plans for us to see each other (I am doing more of the planning/asking) and he isn't pursuing sex as often. I know it isn't because he doesn't want to be in the relationship or that he is seeing someone else. In my gut, it feels like he just isn't as inspired as he was when we first started dating. The chase is absent. That being said, I don't want to play games. Games are a waste of time. I live an active life with many friends and my own activities. I don't know how to inspire him again, I don't want to feel taken of advantage of and to recreate that passion again. What have others done that have gone through a period such as this?", "summary": "When things get comfortable in a relationship how do you keep the spark alive?"}
{"id": "t3_2ntfvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my SO [28 M] Is a financially equal relationship worth it?", "post": "im curious to get some closure.\nAs I have been with my Boyfriend who makes more than me for about five years. Everything has been equal and I've been happy with that.\n\nHowever he has offered to put more money into our rent each week as he says he is happy to do it.\n\nIt makes me nervous though and the reason for that is other than my parents the greatest and most caring-for-each-other couple I know are other than my parents are a sixty year old couple who have been equally successful but have never joint bank accounts, all of their assets are equal or owned singularly by just one member of the couple. \n\nI'm nervous that the reason they are so happy is because they haven't had to worry about money that much.\n\nI don't want to lose what I have with my boyfriend and if he starts paying extra in rent, I'm afraid that we may deviate from our current path towards a less equal relationship.\n\nI'm sorry I don't really have an exact question I really just want to have some advice on the matter.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1h8am2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] don't love my girlfriend [16f] back", "post": "I was reading in the \"worst reasons for dating someone\" thread, and the top comment made me realize that I'm in the exact situation he/she described. \n\nI'm dating someone just because they like me. I was very close friends with her for a long time, and i was talking to her about a different girl that I was thinking about asking out when all of a sudden she sends me this adorable video telling me she liked me and I lied to myself saying I liked her back.  We started dating and have been together for almost 4 months.  I don't know what to do. She tells me she loves me and I can't respond because I know I don't feel the same way. I feel like us breaking up would devastate her, she has a history of running away from home and even cutting. I was a really good friend of hers before we started dating and really want to get back to that, but I don't think it will work out like that. Can you help me Reddit?", "summary": "I'm dating her because she loves me, and don't feel the same way."}
{"id": "t3_gqgjj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Putting instincts back into desensitized animals", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nToday when I got home from work, there was a little rabbit to the side of my parking spot. I go to school in a city where what 'wildlife' is there is pretty desensitized. I pulled up to the rabbit, maybe within a foot or two, swing my door open, (maybe within a few inches of the rabbit,) and it doesn't even flinch.\n\nHere's where I got to thinking: The rabbit has clearly lost it's instincts, (or some of them.) I was wondering if it's better to ignore the rabbit, act like it's not there, (being in it's close proximity, further desensitizing it,) or to scare it. I'm wondering if scaring it would help, even the tiniest amount, to fight the loss of instincts, and help it be better prepared to deal with whatever predators it sees in the 'wild'.\n\nGranted, either action will likely make little difference in the life of the rabbit, unless I give it a heart attack or something.\n\nJust curious on everyone's thoughts on that.", "summary": "Is scaring a rabbit that has been desensitized by city life good, because it helps a rabbit regain it's instincts, or is it bad, just because you're being mean to a helpless little rabbit?"}
{"id": "t3_1f9gj8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Explaining former FWB situation to a new person", "post": "When you begin dating a new person, and the conversation eventually leads to your last relationships, how do you explain a long-term FWB situation? \n\nI'm a 27F and have a date with a new guy (32M) and am getting a bit ahead of myself, but haven't been in this situation before because the last guy (27M) I dated kind of morphed into a year-long pseudo-relationship that was more FWB than anything (neither of us wanted a proper relationship with the other). We did, however, go on dates, have frequent sleepovers, regular contact, etc. It worked really well between us but is coming to an amicable end, as he has gotten married.\n\nSo if/when last relationships come in with a new date, how should I approach explaining this? I don't want to give the impression that I was in a serious relationship for the last year, because it definitely wasn't that. But I don't know if saying it was a long-term FWB would give a bad impression (it's not something that I had planned on and not something I want to pursue again with anyone else). I feel like explaining the whole thing would make me look a bit weird.\n\nAny suggestions or input would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I have no idea how to explain an extended FWB to a new guy."}
{"id": "t3_2adcd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] mum's [50F] boyfriend [49M] will be moving in before the year is out, I like him, but need advice on adjusting.", "post": "It's just been me, my mum and my little brother in the same house for 13 years, and my mum has been single most of that time. \n\nThis new boyfriend is a great guy, we've both had mental health problems so we can relate to each other (he doesn't mind if I have to go upstairs and hide, and I don't mind if he has to fiddle with the kitchen to appease his OCD). I've had lots of bad relationships with men so I'm super suspicious but he doesn't set off the dickhead radar at all! \n\nIn fact, me and my brother are the ones who suggested to them that he move in when the sale of his ex-wife's house goes through and mum was thrilled.\n\nWe have a large house, so there's room for us all to be private when needed. Me and the bro have always just done whatever we wanted so there won't be a bunch of new rules to follow. He's been totally open about the reason for his divorce (cheating wife). He doesn't mind our craziness, we do a lot of laughing and swearing and general tomfoolery (he's been alone for ages so he loves that) plus we're all super affectionate (me/mum/brother always kiss and cuddle and climb in mum's bed and tickle her etc) and he doesn't think that's weird or creepily join in or anything.\n\nThe only problem is that I have been raped, molested, been in abusive relationships and so forth. I know that I'm going to get my PTSD triggered by a man living here, whoever it is, whether I want to or not. How do I adjust to such a huge change? \n\nFor the record I'll be moving out in 2015/16 so it's not permanent for me, but for the time he's here it might be a challenge. \n\nAlso I claim disability for mental health problems so for the time being I'm at home 24/7 so It's not like I work evenings like I used to and will never see him.", "summary": "I like my mum's boyfriend. He likes us. We all want him to move in, but I'm going to find it hard to adjust to an adult male in the house..."}
{"id": "t3_2gcva8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining House of Cards for myself", "post": "It's that time of the year where we all have mid-semester exams at\nuni so naturally i begin to start watching a TV show to keep myself occupied during ' study breaks '. \n\nI have all of the seasons of House of Cards downloaded and ready to go.\nAfter watching the first episode before bed, i was like damn this\nis pretty good shit.\n\nThe next day i watched the second episode and was slightly confused\nas to how certain things happened so fast however the show still made sense to me and i continued on until the 5th episode. As i was discussing an event of the show with my girlfriend she was like...wait ..didn't that happen in the second season ? In shock and disbelief i checked my folder to see that i was indeed watching the second season of HoC after watching the pilot.  I apparently spoiled one of the biggest spoilers to go down in TV\nhistory. G f*cking G.", "summary": "After watching the 1st episode of Season 1, i mistakenly continued on with Season 2 for 5 more episodes and ruined the entire show for myself."}
{"id": "t3_3nnftx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Want to upgrade my cheap flip phone to a Smart Phone again after 2 years. What's new in the world of smart phones, and what does Reddit recommend?", "post": "I don't know much about phones. I used to have Android HTC Desire and loved it. I upgraded to a Galaxy (IIRC) and enjoyed that too.\n\nI bought several Google Play apps that I love. Smart Tools, a Guitar Tuner that I use for the drums I make, a few games (Primarily Pew Pew, which is great,) but nothing too serious if I were to lose them to an upgrade.\n\nI really enjoy Android, but I might be willing to switch to Apple. I've never even touched an iPhone though, or even really used Apple computers. I'm PC through and through, so I feel switching to Apple would be a life altering decision.\n\nI'm going to go for a prepay plan from USCellular (I've been with them for years and they have the absolute best coverage where I live.) which will cost me around $45 to $50 per month. I'm not looking to finance a brand new phone, I'm going to pay cash for one and save on my monthly payment, contract free.\n\n**General phone usage:**\n* Fewer than 100 texts per month.\n\n* Less than 50 minutes phone usage per month\n\n* I listen to a lot of podcasts and streaming radio\n\n* My Phone would be my GPS navigation\n\n* It would act as a reference device for work related tasks (Maintenance and handyman type stuff)\n\n* Online shopping and sales (my own small side business)\n\n* I'd like some size to it, but not so large that it can't fit in my pocket.\n\n* Preferably no buttons. I got rid of my old Blackberry and swore I'd never have a phone with buttons again.", "summary": "What is new in the world of phones, and what does Reddit recommend?"}
{"id": "t3_1ckpaq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I once told my teacher that my mom loved hitler without knowing what it meant. Reddit What dumb little kid decisions of your past make you cringe to this day?", "post": "Basically i was in 3rd-4th grade and i have ADHD so i was extremely hyper this particular day. The night before i watched the family guy episode when they have a flashback as Hitler but hes a talk show host. I thought this show was one of the ones my mom constantly watched when i was a kid i didnt know that it was only a joke on family guy and not an actual talk show. So when we were doing an activity about family members i told my teacher that my moms favorite thing to do was to \"watch hitler. She loves Hitler and all the things he says\"... my teacher then of course called my dad concerned that my mom was a neo nazi and then i got grounded for being a dumbass. Anyone want to make me feel better about my childhood of retardation?", "summary": "Told my teacher my mom was in love with hitler and listened to what he says all the time, but she doesnt."}
{"id": "t3_1ci0nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [f/23] trying to be supportive of my family member[f/22]'s weight loss journey, need a little advice!", "post": "So I have a family member who is pretty overweight currently.  Definitely in the quite unhealthy range.  We don't live close to each other, but have become closer in the past few years due to connecting on facebook/other various social media, and get along very well on the internet and when we see one another at family gatherings about once a year.  \n\nShe has started making very open and honest updates on her social media stuff about the big wonderful changes she is making in her life, as far as exercising, healthy diet, no soda, etc etc.  I am so proud of her, and really want to support her, but I don't quite know the best way of going about it.\n\nThe main issue I see is most of the people commenting on her updates are mutual friends that have struggled with their weight or are currently making similar healthy changes, so most of the supportive comments are along the lines of \"I know how hard it is, it seems impossible but you can do it!\"  \n\nI guess I feel a little odd about the whole thing because I am rail thin, and have been my whole life.  I just have always had a great metabolism in a family of generally big people.  Everyone always called me the shrimp or the pixie of the family, because for some reason they are all brushing 6 feet and 250+ lbs and I am just over 5 feet and a little over 100 lbs.  No matter what I want to say as a supportive comment for my relative, I feel like I really don't know the struggle she has dealt with, and I feel like I'd just be the asshole saying \"Way to go, finally you'll have self control and be skinny like me!!\"\n\nSo, I guess I am looking for advice on how to show I am really proud of my relative and show her support, when I really don't know what she is going through :/  I just feel like with something as sensitive as weight loss my empathy can only go so far...", "summary": "My relative is starting to make healthy changes and lose weight, I am super skinny and have never had an unwanted ounce of fat in my life, and want to show her support even though I can't really imagine how tough and emotional her weight loss journey is."}
{"id": "t3_3fu5on", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to help a kitten", "post": "Tonight around 10:30, I went running on the West Side Highway in Manhattan.  Each time I run this late, I'm dodging between a handful of scurrying rats, dog poop and vomit.  Tonight, about 50 yards in front of me on the way home, I saw an albino rat.  The rat had discernible legs, though.  \n\nAs I got closer, I realized it was a little kitten, which came to a stop in the bushes that run between the path and the highway.  There's a little ledge about 2 feet high separating the highway from the bushes.  Anyway, I felt bad for the kitten, and having seen all the Reddit posts of people finding stray kittens and helping them, I stopped and called it over.  Very nice, very friendly.  \n\nThe kitten looked at me, and made a dash over the ledge right into an oncoming car driving 40 to 50 mph.  I screamed.  I froze.  \n\nSomehow, miraculously, the kitten appeared and scurried unharmed into the median which also has a ton of bushes.  I have no idea how i didn't create a kitten explosion on the West Side Highway.  Needless to say, TIFU, but it wasn't as bad as it could have been.", "summary": "Tried to help a kitten, almost turned it to instant roadkill."}
{"id": "t3_24gpke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 18m am referred to as \"The mad bomber\" by my 20f girlfriend's parents and family/friends of parents for my ethnicity.", "post": "Hello.The title should tell you 80% of my situation.However i'll go into a little more detail;\n\nI'm 18 and i've been dating my 20 year old girlfriend for 1.3 years.\n\nMy girlfriends Dad,Dad's friends and cousins/possibly other people refer to me as \"The mad bomber\" These people are all between the ages of 30-50, so these are ADULTS.\n\nNone of those people say it infront of me, however whenever my girlfriend gets a call or hears something from any of them, it's not .. How is \"ABC\" it's \"How is the mad bomber\" Her dad told me not to wear a big jacket to dinner on the first day i met him.(Implying i could have explosives,haha .. so funny)\nOne of my parents is from Iraq,so naturally i look like an \"arab\"\n\nI don't follow islam, i'm polite and just a regularly well rounded person.\n\nI understand people are entitled to their opinions but i did nothing in the first place to these people that warrants being called a crazy terrorist.\n\nI am insecure enough as it is.I don't want to spend time around them/hear from them. Basically i don't want them in my life as racism even as a \"joke\" is not funny for me,i was bullied all throughout school for my family name,my genetics and skin color etc.. \n\nThat said,it's very hard to \"micro manage\" this situation.\n\nI was sitting next to my girlfriend,her dad calls. He sais,bla bla mad bomber bla bla.It hurts man.\n\nHow do i deal with this situation?\n\nI'm sorry that this is probably a small issue and not worth the post,but i have no other people to get advice from", "summary": "Gf's parents and friends of parents refer to me as \"The mad bomber\" It bothers me alot,what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_k5ctw", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "AskLoseIt: This subreddit may not be what I'm looking for.  Does one exist?", "post": "I do not mean this in a way that insults anyone, but when in here, all I see are non-scale victory posts and photographs of people who have already **lost** weight.  I'm happy for those who are celebrating these events -- and hell, I hope to have them on my own -- but there truly seems to be next to no discussion or posting of weight loss tips, advice, debunkings, discussion of plans ... etc. ... basically, this doesn't seem to be a weight loss ***discussion*** subreddit, but a weight loss ***celebration*** subreddit.\n\nAnd as someone who's celebrated what weight I've already lost, God knows, I wouldn't take that from any of you.  But it's also not nearly as useful to me as the former would be ... as a weight loss subreddit with a similarly friendly feel but that's focused on discussion, not completely overwhelmed with progress pics celebrations.\n\nCan anyone point me towards the right subreddit, since this doesn't look to be the right one?  I'm obliged in advanced.", "summary": "Truly no insult intended, but is there a weight loss subreddit that isn't nearly entirely comprised of celebratory posts?"}
{"id": "t3_2n6dr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Ex/Girlfriend [20 F] 3 years, did I mess up?", "post": "We've been dating for 3 years. In that time, we've had plenty of ups and downs, from her making out with a friend (apparently *he* did it), sending him pictures - to me being immature on facebook.\n\nWe have really bad fights, she goes to sleep crying most nights, I go to sleep feeling like shit. I have a part time-job while I full-time study, and dedicate as much time (4 days a week minimum) to see her, she doesn't do anything all day but thinks about me, it's kinda off-putting. I'm an independent person, she's 100% dependent. We could not be more opposite. She hates my family, and my friends, and doesn't trust me. I've done nothing to dishonor her trust, yet I still trust her after everything. When I'm happy, she's sad and when I'm sad, she's happy. She doesn't want to go places, whereas I always do, and it's always hard being happy with each other.\n\nShe recently got a job that starts next week, and if finally working on her driving licence.\n\nI feel I've made a mistake with dumping her today, after a huge fight about an engagement party last night. She didn't go to the engagement party because she hates all of my friends, I went alone, she knew full well and she still started a massive argument which led her to being done and no longer wanting a relationship. I decided to end it today when she wouldn't quit about going on about other little things. I ended it via text.", "summary": "Ex/gf hates family+friends, I am her whole life, she just landed a job and is working on her licence, massive argument over last nights activities, major trust issues - need to know have i messed up in deciding to dump her today?"}
{"id": "t3_26edqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] after [22F]- Commitment Issues", "post": "Hey so I've known this girl about a month now, shes really nice we like alot of the same things we get along well together, the first few weeks we talked alot hung out once just the two of us and twice with her friends at the bar we met at, one of the times her friend approached me and asked if I liked this girl and I said I did and I find her interesting, to which she replied that I should make a move and we didnt have this conversation\nWe got outside and I didnt really make a move but after a long hung we both sort of just went for a kiss and ended up making out, anyway since then a few things happened in her life, she was ill and her close friend ended up losing somebody etc, Ive been very understanding offering my support just as you should, one other time we hung out we sort of had a small heart to heart I told her about my ex and everything ive been dealing with and shes sorry ive been having to deal with that.\nI saw her out last night and we just generally chatted a little bit but she left because her and her friends were tired, I wanted to say to her face but because she left I couldnt so instead of just text her saying I thank her for being there to listen to me talk about my ex because its been hard and she said its fine shes everybodys vent at the moment, I went onto say thats not exactly what I meant I said that she actually cares and shes fantastic and its hard to find in people these days.\nShe went onto say that this is why she avoids ruining things, when I questioned her about that she simply said, she has commitment issues, so many of her friendships have been ruined from getting close, so she panics.\nIm just not sure where to go from her, shes the first person ive actually felt attracted to since my ex girlfriend, I think she does like me shes just afraid to make that next step incase it messes up another good friendship, any advice would be great!", "summary": "Boy meets girl, get along together, makeout, heart to heart, girl too afraid of commitment values friendship of friends alot, not sure if next step on the cards?"}
{"id": "t3_dlgth", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AT&T is FUCKING us, what can I do?", "post": "Ok, I'm really fucking angry right now but I'll try to keep this simple...\n\nThree months ago my girlfriend and I ordered new iphones from AT&T. \nThey sent us four instead of two and all four were charged to her credit card.  Our customer service rep said \"just send the other two back, you'll be refunded immediately\".  She sent them.  Weeks go by and we don't hear back and she still isn't refunded.  She calls them and asks why, they respond \"we still haven't received your phones\".  Weeks turn into months of calling back and forth with idiots from AT&T, re-explaining the whole version of the story over and over again...finally they refund the money from the two phones.  Here's the problem.  We keep receiving a second bill for those phones.  Every time we talk to AT&T they say \"just ignore those bills, we'll take care of it\" but they keep coming and my gf became worried about getting sent to collections.  \"That won't happen, you won't get sent to collections, we're taking care of it\".  Our AT&T rep, the woman who gave us her direct line and promised she see us through this issue to the end, hasn't returned our calls in weeks.  \n  \nToday my gf gets a call from a collection agency.  She is in collections now.  She owes $1100.  I'm fucking shaking with anger.  Switching to AT&T is one of the worst decisions I've ever made.  We have dealt with some of the rudest, most unorganized \"customer service\" reps you can imagine.  Now my girlfriend is in fucking collections for phones that we don't even have.", "summary": "AT&T is sending us bills for phones that we don't have, they keep telling us to ignore the bills.  They keep promising it will be taken care of and we won't be sent to collections.  It's been nearly three months.  They didn't resolve anything, now my girlfriend is in collections."}
{"id": "t3_zgl62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "35(M) currently seeing 24(F)...she has a boyfriend. Started as casual FWB...now getting uncomfortable.", "post": "Several months ago I (35M) began a relationship with a girl (24F).  We instantly had an attraction and things got physical quickly.  I knew at the time that she had a boyfriend.  According to her, the relationship is not fulfilling and she is ending it soon.  She is currently taking steps that lead me to believe she is in fact in the process of ending the relationship with the BF.  \n\nWe've been seeing each other close to 3 months at this point, several times a week.  We've been intimate and its been fun.  I went into the situation knowing that it most likely had a short shelf life, that it wouldn't ultimately be a healthy arrangement for me or her....then we both started getting attached.\n\nWhat started out as a FWB, with me being the guy on the side, is starting to get uncomfortable.  We've talked, and we both are developing feelings for one another.  I know this is a dumb situation to allow myself to fall into.  I should know better.  She is currently in a relationship, and I am single.\n\nSo the question is, do I work on keeping her and my feelings in check and try to continue the FWB dynamic, or cut it off completely until she has ended her current relationship and is legitimately available?  If the goal is a real relationship in the future, what is the call?\n\nDoes the fact that our relationship started with this deception mean that there are always going to be trust issues?\n\nHas anyone ever successfully navigated what started out as an affair/cheating situation into a positive relationship?", "summary": "Being the guy on the side is starting to develop into more...not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2in55b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my new person of interest [23 or 24F], 2 weeks, possible soul mate, but it will surely be LDR and I don't know how I should approach.", "post": "I had a few kiddy relationships in high school and one terrible relationship in college which ended in 4 months when the partner decided to get back with her ex (you bitch...). I've been single for 3 years ever since. I'm a virgin by choice and want to keep it that way until marriage. Yeah... I'm old school, I know.\n\nI met this lady during a trip to a Buddhist temple about 500 miles away in another state. She's a foreign exchange student who studies psychology and lives nearby the temple.  I saw her during the Sunday service and we exchanged only a few words, but as she and I made an eye contact later on that day I immediately felt my heart skip a bit and all my senses... reboot. No, I did not have a stroke, and I did never believe in love-at-first-sight thingies and thought all those movies and novels were full of shit... until that day. Even after returning from the temple, I couldn't stop pondering about her.\n\nFast forward 5 days. I get a friend request on Facebook from a stranger. It's her: Maybe she found me through the temple's fb group. Well, I don't care. I accept the request in a heartbeat. She starts talking to me. I start talking to her. Shy and awkward conversations quickly gain momentum, and we find out we have so much in common -- favorite musicians, movies, even lifestyle and goals. Nowadays we just continuously talk to each other. \n\nHowever, here are the bad news. Not only there currently are 2 states between me and her, she's an exchange student and is likely go back to her country once she graduates. Even if it works out, it'll inevitably be a long-distance, I mean hemispheric-distance relationship. I'm actually willing to do the LDR, but I'm not sure if she feels the same. At least she was curious enough to add me on fb...", "summary": "I found a possible soul mate, but she and I will surely be separated by gigantic distance. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ytaxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23/f i'm not ready to introduce my 35/m boyfriend to my family but I don't want him to take that the wrong way", "post": "We've been dating for just around a month now. Normally I wouldn't be worrying about this so early at all, but it has become sort of an issue and I'm not sure what to do.\n\nI have already met his family - he had a birthday recently and invited me out to dinner with them. They were all super nice and invited me for Christmas and even got me a gift, although I didn't visit them for the holidays because I was with my own family. \n\nNow I'm planning on visiting my folks soon on New Year's Day. They only live about an hour away and I know boyfriend wants to meet them. I don't feel ready for it. Part of it is that he is quite a bit older than me which in itself isn't an issue but I don't know how to broach that subject with my parents as I've never been in that situation before. He doesn't look that much older than me but I know they will ask, and I haven't even told them that I'm dating someone at all yet. I would feel like I'm springing it on them out of nowhere. I was somewhat worried that the age difference would get me weird looks from his family but it turns out his older brother is engaged to someone even younger than me so no one even batted an eye... so it's no wonder he didn't feel uncomfortable about it at all.\n\nMy parents also take me dating people pretty seriously and I wouldn't want to go through the rigmarole of introductions and then have things not work out. I'm not really super worried about that as things are going splendidly, but still. \n\nHow can I explain all this to him without seeming like it's just because I don't think things will work out? It's not really that at all, it just feels super soon to me. Is that unfair since he's been so open with his family about me? Should I just ignore my feelings and do it anyways?", "summary": "I feel like I'm being (unintentionally) pushed to introduce my boyfriend to my family too soon, but I don't know how to avoid it or if I even should avoid it"}
{"id": "t3_1e0srg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Emergency room visit not fully covered.", "post": "So here's the lowdown: Back in October I started to feel some foot pain, thought it was gout, turned out to be gout, but I waited a bit to see if it would go away and one day it got nearly unbearable.\n\nI checked with my college website (Campuscare at UIC) and a nearby hospital was on their list of hospitals that they cover 100% of the cost with a 50 dollar co-pay.  I rarely go to the hospital, but this was to the point that I was in agony even if laying down, so I went.\n\nFast forward a few months and I get a bill from the hospital as apparently my insurance decided only to cover 70% of it.  I have been calling back and forth trying to find out why and it was because the bill was sent by \"Dupage medical group\" and not the hospital I went to.\n\nI spent another few weeks trying to find out what I could(I'm in my last semester at college so there were many other things on my mind) and eventually found out that the hospital I went to uses Dupage Medical Group as their billing arm for all emergency care.  I figured at this point, this information would be enough to sway my provider to pay the remaining balance, but alas they flat out refuse.", "summary": "Insurance refusing to provide 100% coverage for hospital in their listing because bill was sent by a different group.  Different group turns out to be the billing arm of the emergency room and ANY doctor I would have seen would have gone through them."}
{"id": "t3_2b4lcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] Ex [22F] just asked me to be FWBs after we just reconnected after 3 years. I still love her.", "post": "So we broke up when I went to University. I hated breaking up with her but thought it was for the best for her sake as she couldn't deal with me being away at all. I have on year left and am home for the Summer, I posted on here before and was encouraged to reconnect with her.\n\nWe met up and it was amazing tbh. She messaged me after saying how great it was and that it felt just like old times. I realised that my feelings for her are still very much real. We then talked on FaceBook through to the early morning after she left (this was last night). We messaged constantly for a couple of days before meeting up.\n\nWell today she messaged me asking if I wanted to be FWBs with her. My problem is I still love her, shes still the same girl I fell in love with all those years ago and seeing her was just incredible. I don't know what to say.\n\nI kind of feel like shes saying this because she knows I still have to go away and do my final year of University (note, it requires a plane journey to visit). I can't just tell her I still have feeling for her because first of all I want to make sure I do that face to face, and secondly I don't know if shes ready to hear it yet. I really broke her heart, at first when we met up she couldn't even look at me she was so nervous. I don't want to scare her off.\n\nI have no idea what to say to her, or what to do.", "summary": "Reconnected with ex, it was incredible. Now she wants to be FWBs but I still have strong feelings for her and don't think I could handle being with her if she was with other guys at the same time."}
{"id": "t3_3q98sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex-gf [22 F] of 4 1/2 years, \"suddenly\" broke up.", "post": "I 21m was in a realationship with my gf 4 1/2 years long. Our relationship was really enjoyable but the last ~ 4 months were exhausting. Two weeks ago my ex-gf came up to my to talk about our realationship. We cleared some thing out and we wanted to try to safe our relationship. This Friday she \"suddenly\" broke up with me. I was really shocked. I then told her in frustration that I longer played with the thoughts about breaking up, which wasnt true. I called her yesterday too get to know if it would be able to get together again after a pause but she sounded really negative about my idea. I really dont want to lose her but I think it will be really hard to get her back.\n\nAny ideas of you guys what to do? It was bty my first relationship and I dont know if I have to let her go or if I should fight for her.", "summary": "4 1/2y relationship suddenly broke up. I dont want to lose my gf. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1d1eam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (f20) is uncomfortable with a female friend (f19) that I (m20) that I used to be involved with. What should I do?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend, let's call her K (f20), for around 10/11 months now and unfortunately things have been a bit bad recently. A lot of issues have been brought up and she has told me that she is uncomfortable with me speaking to a female friend, that I used to be involved with, let's call this friend J (f19). I was involved with J over 2 years ago for about 2 months, and have been friends with her since that.\n\nMy girlfriend has always known that I have female friends and is fine with it, and she has always known about J. However she didn't know that me and J still speak. I admit I have never mentioned it and that is bad on my part and I regret not being more honest about it.\n\nRecently my girlfriend told me that she is uncomfortable with it and it is inappropriate and she doesnt want me talking to J. I said that I believe its an unreasonable request and that she should know, despite previous involvement, me and J are just friends.\n\nThis led to an argument, and my girlfriend became really upset that I would even feel the need to speak to J and she threatened me by saying that I should forget about the relationship if I spoke to J behind her back.\n\nBasically, I dont think it is inappropriate to speak to J, seeing as we both know we are just friends and nothing else more.\nHowever I know that I should respect the fact that it makes my girlfriend uncomfortable and I want to be good to her.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is uncomfortable with a female friend who I was previously involved with. I don't want to ruin relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2fqimi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] I'm so confused and really need some help", "post": "So I'm 18 turning 19 in a couple of months. Me and my ex girlfriend broke up 6 months ago and I've been trying to move on ever since. I had sex with one girl just after breaking up with my ex and the sex was shit. I didn't feel any passion, love or satisfaction from her what so ever. I left it a month and tried again, this time I had sex with an old girlfriend of mine, the sex with her has always been amazing but yet once again I found myself soft and miserable after only going for 20 seconds or so. I've never had a problem with performance and endurance during sex only since my ex and I broke up. \n\nFast forward to now, I'm still single and haven't tried to have sex in months. I want to have sex, but when I think about it I don't want to have sex with anyone but my ex. I have tried dating and meeting new people but all I want is my ex. I think about what I want in a girl and it's my ex, I just can't get over her.... I've never had this problem with a girl and I have never not wanted to have sex.\n\nWhat's wrong with me, and how can I fix it?", "summary": "Broke up with my ex 6 months ago, I have no sex drive and i want one"}
{"id": "t3_1zfkbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, (23F) adopted at birth and birth mother (??F): anyone else with experience with birth parents who are looking to get in touch with them?", "post": "I was told when I was 11 that I was adopted at birth by my parents, and it's something I don't really think about. It's just very natural to me that the people who raised me are my parents, so I hardly thought about my birth parents.\n\nSo this week my birth mother found and got in contact with my mom. Informed her of some health problems she has that may be genetic, and said my half sister, apparently older, would like to chat with me sometime.\n\nIt hasn't hit me how I feel about it yet. I'm starting by looking objectively at the situation. I don't know anyone else who was adopted, so I don't have much experience with such a thing.\n\nIf you have any questions about my situation, feel free to ask. I just am not sure how much info is necessary, and my situation is relatively simple.", "summary": "Have any of you ever had an experience meeting birth parents later in life? Did you go through with meeting them? What was it like? What factors contributed to you wanting/not wanting to contact them?"}
{"id": "t3_2vc3r9", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "TIFU by washing my hands", "post": "So this happened a couple days ago. My fiance and I were travelling to the mountains for some skiing and viewing potential venues. We decided to fly rather than drive to save time. We had just landed at our destination and I had to use the washroom. Now, to preface this, I always take my ring off to wash my hands to preserve the ring. Except normally I put the ring back on. This is where I fucked up. I walked out of the bathroom, past security, out of the terminal, picked up the rental car and left the airport before I realized I didn't have my ring on. By the time we rushed back to terminal, it was gone. Well needless to say, I spent the next 2 hours as a puddle in the car seat because I had lost the most important item in my life and the symbol of our love. Oh, did I mention that that day was also my birthday. FML", "summary": "Washed hands in airport bathroom, left engagement ring in said bathroom, lost forever. Worst. Birthday. Ever."}
{"id": "t3_3evgs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] I don't like being touched, and I think that's going to make it very difficult to get and maintain a relationship.", "post": "I really don't like being touched. I've technically had a girlfriend before, but since I have a huge problem with being touched, it meant that we never really got to do things that couples typically do. It took me a really long time to finally feel comfortable kissing her, even though I thought she was extremely attractive. She seemed a little disappointed when I told her I wanted to take things very slowly, but she was still really sweet about it, and let me set the pace of the relationship. Things actually want great, but I broke up with her for a really stupid reason. I'm not sure if I'll be able to find another attractive girl that would be willing to put up with my problem with touching.\n\nI don't mind touching others, though. I don't mind cuddling so long as I'm holding someone and they aren't holding me. I can get and maintain an erection without any issues, and I'd like to have sex with a girl one day. I'm certain I'd be able to have sex, but I don't think I would be able to handle a girl holding me or touching me during sex. I don't know if it's normal for girls to be okay with sex where they can't hold or touch their partners.\n\nHow much of a deal breaker would that be? I think I'll be able to overcome it one day, but it's definitely going to take a lot of exposure therapy.", "summary": "I don't like being touched, and I think that's going to make it very difficult to get and maintain a relationship. Has any man here had to deal with similar issues? Has any woman here been in a relationship with someone with similar issues?"}
{"id": "t3_2mf3a0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 22F bf of 1 year 23M is deadset on abortion being his option until he has a full time job. I dont know how yo feel.", "post": "To start off, I've miscarried before and I know the guilt and blame that comes from that, as well as the anger and the hate. So I have always been very anti-abortion. \n\nMy boyfriend and I met four years ago, and started dating last year. We are extremely compatible, except on this front. My stance is \"if you do the crime, you do the time\". And although I am on birth control and we use condoms, I still feel like knowing what would happen if the possibility ever arose is a good thing. The few times I've asked, he's been deadset on abortion. I myself have a full time job, and I make good money, but he's struggling and working at a fast food restaurant. He says that in order for him to be OK with a baby, he has to have the full time job. \n\nFrom one point of view, I can see why. Because I have to take unpaid maternity leave. But from the other hand, it begs the question, why would he risk having children just so they can be aborted? When discussing at length, he's made the choice clear- abort a baby, or lose him. And that seems very callous and ludicrous.", "summary": "not pregnant, but when talking about the future, boyfriend is deadset on abortion. Is this normal? It makes me sick just thinking about it."}
{"id": "t3_1tryrc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "you couldn't get him a present? really?", "post": "i like my boyfriend's mother but she's not easy to talk to sometimes. when he told her he was going to my family's for christmas eve and christmas morning (but we'd still be present at his family's christmas party in the afternoon) she didn't speak for the rest of dinner.\n\nhe's led the christmas prayer every year since he was 8 and this year she did it herself. and she didn't get him ANYTHING. she wrote \"love mom and dad\" at the bottom of a generic card and his dad slipped a $50 gift card to super america in it. now, if it was me, i wouldn't care. i don't need anything and i prefer giving other people gifts than receiving a bunch. and my boyfriend is not a greedy person. but he CRIED on the way home because his mother SNUBBED him for christmas. SERIOUSLY. why would you EVER be deliberately hurtful to your kids?\n\nshe and her husband are such nice people and wonderful parents/grandparents. i just can't believe his dad would let her get away with this.\n\ni'm not going to keep bringing it up to my boyfriend unless he wants to talk about it. if it continues to bother him, he'll tell me. if he gets over it, it'll just reopen the wound and make him sad again. so here you go r/offmychest.", "summary": "my awesome, silly boyfriend cried on christmas because his mom couldn't just tell him she was sad he wasn't there for christmas and then move on, she had to passively-agressively let him know that christmas will never be the same."}
{"id": "t3_34t5fx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being impatient!", "post": "Okay so this happened this morning and I still can't believe what I did. I was eating breakfast when suddenly I had to take this huge dump. I quickly sprinted upstairs to my parent's bedroom to use their toilet (it flushes my turds easier) and went to work on it. After a good few minutes I finished my business I flushed and noticed it that the water came back up before slowly draining away. As I saw the water begin to drain, (it was about half full still) I flushed the toilet again for good measure without waiting for it to fully drain... This time the water began rising and never stopped for a good 3 minutes. It was literally flooding my parent's washroom. Not wanting to share my embarrassing stupidity I tried to solve it myself... I grabbed a bunch of my dad's clothes from his closet and began trying to soak up all the ...fluids. In the middle of it all I heard my mom yelling at me to finish my breakfast as she began coming upstairs to see what the fk I was doing. Refusing to show them what I had done I decided to start making \"crazy\" noises in the bedroom to keep my mom from seeing what I had done to her floor.. After expending a good 8 t-shirts, I finally dried the floor....but I couldn't just leave the shit-soaked clothes in my parents room... So being the genius that I am, I decided to fill them in a basket, sneak out of my house and run to the school to throw them away(it was close..don't judge). When I got home my parents asked where I had gone and I nervously said that I had decided to go for a \"run\".. When I cleaned myself up and was finishing the rest of my breakfast, I heard my dad ask if I had seen where his shirts have gone... FML", "summary": "SHIT."}
{"id": "t3_51s17u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] have a crush on a girl [20F] who has a boyfriend", "post": "Pretty standard problem. I try to pay attention to it, but I still develop crushes very easily. Never had a girlfriend. We see each other nearly every day on school, we're in the same group for a project, and we have great chemistry. I've read enough here to know that I should just let it go. But how? I know I don't have a chance with her right now, and I'm obviously not gonna wait around for something that might never even happen (her breaking up). I'm also not one of those guys who thinks you can't be friends with girls, and she seems like a great person, so I also don't want to distance myself from her. Oh, and I think we know each other for a week or two, now. How can I stop looking at her in a  romantic way, but still remain friends?", "summary": "I have trouble making a crush a non-crush"}
{"id": "t3_3eahzg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a mess in my bag", "post": "It wasn't today, it was a month ago. I am from Melbourne and I have an hour drive to the city. 10 minutes into my trip I filled up at the petrol station and purchased an Iced Coffee, I smashed it down, soon after I was feeling weird pains in my stomach and back but I ignored them. I was going through the tunnel and the pain was so bad I started to shake. I need to poop. I drive around to try and find a toilet but i'm unsuccessful. I pull over, look around, take all my work clothes out the bag, and take a poop in it. It was an amazing and freeing feeling, and I wiped my bottom with my underwear. I told my co-workers what happened jokingly and they laughed and said bullshit.", "summary": "bad pain in stomach, shit in my work bag"}
{"id": "t3_kp6sn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Can we PLEASE have out saved links in easy to find Folders?", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nLong time lurker who finally got an account 479 days ago as of today...\n\nSince I have been on here I have saved exactly 497 links. These are either articles I found extremely useful and I will go back to them at a later date to re-read or use them to refresh my memory on a certain topic. \n\nI was trying to locate a specific article today and I had to scroll thru quite a few pages to get to the link that I was looking for. All the while I was trying soooo hard not to be side tracked from my task at hand by all of the other great information I have saved from this website I love so much. \n\nSo I come to you, humbly, and ask this...\n\nCan we please have an option to save all these cool links in their own respected catagories? \n\nI would love to be able to click on Saved > (subreddit or like category) > \"Said link\"\n\nIdeas? Thoughts?\n\nI have no idea how to code this or else I would have done so and brought that forth to the community.", "summary": "I think it would be an awesome idea to have all of the saved articles in an easy to find file system. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_1p4h83", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help needed with investing in both 401k and IRA", "post": "I need a little help organizing my Roth 401k and Roth IRA. I'm 23 and 1.5 years out of school and just started my 2nd job. I was foolish not to invest in the 401k plan at my previous job but I tried to make up for it by opening a Roth IRA and investing a full 10% of my salary into it. I invested in a Vanguard Target Retirement fund to get myself started.\n\nNow that I'm starting a new job, I want to set up a more \"adult\" portfolio and take charge of my investments. I am investing in a Roth 401k and maxing the company match. I plan to continue investing in my IRA in addition to my 401k to net 10% of my salary. Now that I will have a 401k and an IRA, I'm getting a bit confused how to balance my entire portfolio given my company's fund offerings.\n\nThe picture shows which funds I can invest in with my 401k: \n\nI took a stab at setting up my 401k to the best of my knowledge:\n\n10% Vanguard Total Bond Market Index Fund\n35% Vanguard Total International Stock Index Fund\n55% Vanguard Institutional Index (S&P) Fund\n\nAnd my Roth IRA is:\n\n100% Vanguard Target Retirement 2055 Fund\n\nHow are my elections compared to my other options for my 401k? Should I continue to invest in the target fund? Do you guys have any suggestions on better fund choices to spread between the Roth 401k and Roth IRA?", "summary": "How are my investment choices compared to my company's offerings? How should I split investing between my Roth IRA and 401k?"}
{"id": "t3_3bpw1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M42] met an attractive & smart 45 year old woman who has zero dating experience. Need some advice on how to proceed.", "post": "A friend told me about this woman who I will call Krista and introduced us through Facebook. She and I have a lot in common, and especially a lot of things that you don't find very often in common. \n\nKrista and I have been on 2 dates in the past 2 weeks (and have a third tomorrow) and she has been giving me no signals about what's going on. So last weekend, I struck up a conversation over text which lead to that topic indirectly. \n\nShe never dated as a teenager apparently and married a guy she had known since childhood, who she divorced in 2007. She has dated very little if any since then and not at all for the past 2 or 3 years. She's 45 and really seems to have no dating experience. She said \"Dating is so hard for me. Meeting new people and getting to know them is new to me.\" \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation, especially her side of it, and can give me some advice on how to proceed? I don't think we are going to be able to go with the normal flow of dating and may have to be somewhat deliberate at first. Is that a good idea? We both want to try to see if something can work between us.", "summary": "I met a woman who is 45 years old with virtually no dating experience. We seem to be a great match. Need advice on how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_4o4d2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] friend [19F] is travelling to the other side of the world to meet her internet boyfriend [26M]. We're right to be worried, right?", "post": "Throwaway because she browses reddit occasionally. \n\nMy 19 year old friend met her boyfriend online, and they have been together for a year now. They haven't met yet, as she lives in Australia, and he lives in America. Their main communication is through Skype, so we know he's not a catfish. \n\nHere's the thing: her parents purchased tickets for her to fly over to America alone next month to go meet him. \n\nHer friends and I are worried about her safety, and here are our main concerns:\n\n1. The age gap. She is a virgin and has never done anything more than kiss a boy. He is 26 and is her first boyfriend. We are worried that he will pressure her into acts she may not wish to do. She will be staying at his apartment during her 2 week stay, and has arranged no other accommodation. \n\n2. She suffers major anxiety to the point where she refers to it as part of her identity. She is constantly posting about her panic attacks and anxiety on social media, and even quit studying along with the part time job she had at the time because, according to her, her anxiety was too severe. She often tweets things like \"so proud of myself for going to the doctors alone for the first time, despite my anxiety and huge fear of doctors.\" It doesn't seem realistic that she could travel to another country alone if she already struggles with these things. \n\n3. He is essentially a stranger. Anything could happen, and she has no other contacts in the area to help her if things turn upside down. \n\nAny time we have sat down to express our concerns, she gets very mad and defensive. She claims that we don't understand that it's true love. We suggested that perhaps she should take a friend if possible, or he should fly here instead so that we will all be around incase something goes wrong. She won't budge. Her parents are supportive of her going, so talking to them is pointless. \n\nAny advice on what to do? My friends and I aren't sure if we're over reacting, but we are very worried about her safety.", "summary": "my 19 year old friend is travelling across the world alone to meet a 26 year old she met online. We are worried."}
{"id": "t3_vq9ah", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some things you wished people wouldn't do in public?", "post": "It was Christmas time about three years ago and my sister, my dad and I were putting lights up on our house. We ran out of certain lights for the driveway, and needed to buy more. (Note: I was wearing leggings under gym shorts, a t-shirt, and a pair of sneakers and didn't want to get changed for a two minute Target run.)\n\nSo, we get to Target and my dad starts walking away from me quickly, as though I'm not his daughter. \"Get away from me, ye ill-dressed maiden!\" I didn't understand why he cared so much about how I looked, considering it was only a short trip. I chased after him saying, \"but you're my father! You can't disown me like this!\" He puts his hands together and says, \"Ah yes, the lord has great plans for you, young child in Christ. However, this Father must be onto other duties!\" \n\nYou should all know that my dad is very loud with his words and extravagant with his motions, so the people in the area around us were looking at us confused as to why this teenage girl is trying to talk to a Catholic priest (which my dad is most certainly not). As soon as we walked out of the store, he accepted the fact that I'm his daughter and didn't run away from me.", "summary": "My dad acted like a Catholic priest in order to divert attention from my ill-dressed self while in Target."}
{"id": "t3_h2yph", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Broke up with girl who was my best friend before we were dating, don't know what to do now.", "post": "(BACKGROUND) So I am 23, and I just broke up. I've known this girl since I was like 5 and she has been my best friend for like the last 5 years. I really don't connect with many people on a deep level, and mistook our connection for love. I do have a lot of friends, just not really close ones. We've dated kinda half-assed before and hook up whenever we are both single but just this year tried again. We dated for about 3 months then broke up. I'm not too upset about the breakup, it makes sense. So we had some time apart and it was good. Now she wants to be super close best friends again. (PROBLEM) 1.) Our relationship as friends always sabotages any romantic relationship I get into with other women. 2.) We always end up being friends, then growing romantically close, then fucking, then we try to date again, then we one of us fucks it up. 3.) that cycle is getting old. 4.) Also, we really are terrible as a couple. Hilariously so.\n\nI'm sorry for the long story, but to sum it up, I don't want to be friends with her anymore, because I think it is keeping me trapped in a cycle of fail, but she really wants to and she has been there for me as my best friend for years. I don't know what to do because I really can't imagine going through this again, it is exhausting. \n\nShould I just cut all ties?\n\nIf not, how do I stay friends with her without either of us thinking it's love again?\n \nHow do I date other girls without them being freaked out over me having a female best friend who I have that sort of a \"on again off again\" relationship with?\n\nIt's not super complicated, but I have my head full of so much shit right now, so I want to hear some advice from you guys, and it would be preferable if someone has similar experience and was older. We don't know shit at 23.\n\nAsk anything, I feel like I did a shit job of explaining", "summary": "Dated my best friend. We suck as a couple. But as friends she cock blocks me and we end up evolving into FWB's then date. Rinse, Repeat. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hvvrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am considering leaving with my SO [20 F] of 2 years for her sudden changes", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. \n\nSo I'm 21 and she is 20, we met 3 years ago and we have currently been together for 2 years. \n\nNow, don't get me wrong I love this girl with everything and wish I felt different than I do currently. So up until around 6 months ago we would have sex regularly but something changed and now we just don't do it anymore. I've tried to make the move but she ALWAYS says she's too tired or not in the mood ( for 6 months really?!)  \n\nWe also don't see as much of each other as we used to ( we used to see each other almost everyday for a year) but she always gales extra shifts in work, even on weekends. \n\nAnyway, I really don't know what to do I'm 21 years old and I'm going to University in 5 weeks, I shouldn't have to deal with this right? I'm not being unreasonable about this, am I reddit?\n\nNot sure if I've explained everything properly but feel free to ask if you have any questions.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want sex and doesn't see me much in last 6 months"}
{"id": "t3_3c6z2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (25F) ask out a fellow redditor (25M)?", "post": "Throwaway, obviously. I was reading through someone's profile and I think he sounds really interesting. We live in the same smallish country, he's single and uses Tinder and possibly Okcupid. I have a Tinder account, but not an Okcupid one. \n\nI want to find out if he lives near me and then ask him on a date, or at least just have a conversation of some sort.  He sounds pretty cool from the profile, and it's been a long time since I've genuinely been interested in someone. Is there a non-creepy way to do this? I'm physically attractive, if that's relevant. I'm not sure what he looks like, but he's mentioned that he's confident with his appearance. \n\nDisclaimer: totally aware expectations could fail to meet reality.", "summary": "How can I start a conversation with or ask out a fellow redditor without looking creepy?"}
{"id": "t3_szwcj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting kicked out by roommate.", "post": "I've been living with my \"friend\" since January 1st in Yuba City, CA. I moved in with this friend with him knowing I was going to be unemployed (I quit my job to move with him) and he was fine with that as long as I did chores until finding a job. Well, it's been four months and still no luck finding a job. He told me at the beginning of this month I had to find a place to stay on May 1st or go to school so I signed up for school this summer and he still went back on his word. I've been calling around to several places trying to get advice but seem to be getting the runaround.\n\nMy question is can he just kick me out on a whim or do I have any rights to have a 30/60/90 day notice?", "summary": "Been living with roommate for 4 months and trying to kick me out. Need to know if I'm entitled to any kind of notice."}
{"id": "t3_2r6f6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M18) still (after 6 months) see my ex (F19) in a sexual way", "post": "We dated for 4 months. \n\nIt was my first sexual relationship and I still feel deeply attracted to her. My worry is that I can't see her as a person only the idealisation I've made of her, stopping me moving forward with our friendship. I can't bear the thought of her having sex or a relationship with others but want to support my best friend now he's seeing her. I want a way that I can move on and date.  I worry that I didn't fulfil her needs and I long to stop being soobsessed with her. This is what some people would call the friendzone but I have put myself in this position and I'd really like some help getting out of it.", "summary": "I'm really struggling to move on despite the relationship ending half a year ago"}
{"id": "t3_1ayorp", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Watch out for nails!", "post": "I've been reading this subreddit for a while, and yesterday, I finally had a moment worthy of submission.\n\nI was walking from my apartment to a convenience store down the street, and as I crossed the intersecting road to exit the complex (legally, mind; I had the signal to walk), a pretty boy in a loud, expensive sedan (BMV, CMW, something like that) pulls up at the light, and seeing me to his right, honks immediately, in outrage that I would have the utter nerve to block his right-on-red.\n\nIt startled me, so I looked back, and then I noticed a single nail perfectly poised in the apex of his turn, point up and everything. It was a big, gnarly construction nail too, which isn't a surprise given the work being done around here.\n\nHis windows were down. I could have said something. But then he honked again, so I turned back and kept walking. When I heard his fancy imported tires squeal past, I glanced toward his passing car. Sure enough, the nail was jutting out of the sidewall of the facing rear tire.", "summary": "motorist decides he's too impatient to wait on a pedestrian to turn, pedestrian decides he's too impatient to spare the motorist a tire."}
{"id": "t3_3c0aer", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [21M] makes really hateful comments about black people and fat people and doesn't understand why it disturbs me.", "post": "My boyfriend, Tom, for the most part is a good guy. Treats me well, gets along with my family, is friendly and charismatic. But, there have been occasions where he makes very ignorant comments about black people or fat people and it makes me very angry and depressed. \n\nFor example, last night I was complaining to him about how this couple at the movie theater was annoying me by talking. I mentioned that the guy I was sitting with was kinda chubby and he was a little into my space. I was watching the movie with my friend, so I didn't want to make a big fuss. So, later that night, I just vented to Tom and he got so irritated for me. He said something like, \"Fucking fat people...\" but I ignored that and went on to talk about how I had learned an old high school friend was suffering from anorexia and how I was worried for her. He commented, \"Well at least she's not fat.\" I couldn't ignore that and I got pretty upset. I told him I understand he's irritated with those people I told him about, but I was over it and there was no need to get hateful. He instead got irritated at ME for being upset. He says that there are a lot of things that I do that he overlooks so it was frustrating that I couldn't just overlook his venting. I was shocked and disappointed. I felt like a huge burden at that point because he started mentioning things that he doesn't like about me, like my cheapness or my recent mood swings that make me very depressed.  At this point, I was emotionally exhausted and just wanted the whole conversation to be over so we just moved on to talking about other things.\n\nThis is one example, sometimes he'll also make racist comments. Once, a black classmate of ours owed him money and he ranted to me about how black people are cheap and deceitful. Really made me upset and disappointed and he got irritated at me for feeling that way. \n\nI love my boyfriend, I just really hate that side of him and try to get him to be less hateful and ignorant.", "summary": "Otherwise pretty great boyfriend will make ignorant, hateful comments when he's riled up that disturb and shock me, but doesn't understand why it's upsetting to hear. He also gets irritated when I get upset at him or try to stop him from talking like that."}
{"id": "t3_17mzsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29/m] finance [28/f] and I have been going through a rough patch, how do I fix it?", "post": "I [29m] recently got engaged to my gf [28f] of a year and friend of 3 and since then the nature of my relationship has changed, we have been arguing more often than before and for longer periods of time. Since the engagement my parents have made things difficult because they don't approve of the timing or the relationship (she's a single mom and divorcee). I have been doing everything I can to reassure my parents so that we can be as cohesive a family as possible. My fiance has changed as a result of these problems into someone I neither like or recognize, she is frustrated and doesn't think I'm doing enough or moving quickly enough with them, and is angry, mean and demanding more than I have ever seen her. On more than one occasion she has suggested that we call the engagement off, and I have done my best to comfort and console her, and I thought progress was made with her and she seemed as if she was pleased with the progress I was making with them, but that was not the case. This most recent time she asked me to pack my things and take back the ring, and said she isn't happy and fears that the recent problems are a window into our future, even though nothing in our past has ever been this way. I feel as if I've lost my fight, I love her and I don't doubt that she loves me, it's just scary having to fight so hard to us together while we plan for the rest of our lives, it seems contradictory. How do I bridge the divide and move forward with the woman I love? Thanks R", "summary": "Family disapproval causing stress on relationship, fiance isn't happy or patient, and I just want us to be a team again."}
{"id": "t3_25rw37", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Been texting my crush and don't know how to move it forward.", "post": "So I (M/22) have had a crush on a girl (21) in my crush last semester. We didn't really start talking very much until recently when I asked her to send me chapters for class from her (which was pretty fortunate for me since no one else in my class had the book at the time), to which we talked for about 2 hours on Facebook after she gave me them. That incident pushed me into talking with her more, and after a while, she was the first person I asked to borrow a book from going off of my previous success. This time, she gave me her phone number to better get a hold of her.\n\nNow, my original plan was to leave a note asking her out in the book that she loaned me, but right after I gave it to her, she passed it off to someone else in the class who needed it; thank God I was able to take it out and act like I left a bookmark in there or that would've been awkward. Seeing as I hadn't had very many conversations with her, it was probably a good choice anyway.\n\nSo on a whim, I texted her after our class's final a week later, and we actually had a good conversation that lasted until my final the next day (aside from when we were asleep, of course). I didn't text her again until Sunday this week, and since then, I've been texting her every other day just because I didn't want to seem intrusive (I usually don't use texting to chat with other people as it is, so I thought it was especially weird enough that I was messaging her despite having hardly talked to her in class). At the point I'm at now, she seems to be enjoying the conversations as well and I've been trying to be a bit more flirty with her, but I'm not sure how to continue with this situation. We've talked in person a few times, but I don't know how to approach dating/a relationship with her, since I'm pretty inexperienced with this sort of thing.", "summary": "Started talking to a girl I like in one of my classes, which lead to texting, but I don't know how I can move things along. How should I let her know my intentions/flirt with her?"}
{"id": "t3_459mv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] just found a hair that isn't mine in my boyfriend's [27/M] bed.", "post": "Let me just preface by saying that I am WELL aware this is a crazy-insecure-girlfriend kinda' question, but all I'm looking for is reassurance. I have shoulder length dark brown hair and I just found a long blonde hair on my boyfriend's (well, our shared) bed. He's mentioned finding a hair of his ex's in his car before (who had long blonde hair), so please just remind me there are OTHER ways of that hair getting there, other than a girl crawling into bed with him. I have no other reason to think he was/would cheat, and in his defense he works with a bunch of long-haired girls.", "summary": "Found a blonde hair in the bed that isn't mine...please tell me the likelihood of it getting there in a non-sexual way is high."}
{"id": "t3_32go3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 32/F trying to negotiate with myself & my 36/GQ about losing my 20s to abuse and needing freedom now (queer people, open relationships)", "post": "So for background: I'm a queer, mostly gay leaning femme girl. I date queer people who lean between masc & femme, but not really cis men. If it's complicated, you can just look at it like a butch femme thing.\n\nso I have been in a nonstop series on monogamous relationships since I was 15. 15-19 with A, 19-27 with S, and 27-31 E. \n\nA was fine, teenage dates.\nS was awful. Controlling, mean, manipulative, cruel, I couldn't have friends and was only allowed to wear certain styles of makeup and dress. This went on for nearly 8 years. \nE was wonderful. Sweet and kind but not very passionate. We got gay unioned, moved, and then opened our relationship 2 years in. It went *ok* but we ended up breaking up and getting divorced.\n\nI'm with a new person now, H, for the last 9 months. They knew I was a wild one and accepted it, but has grown more and more controlling in the past few months. I worry that this will grow into my relationship with S, and I'll be stuck for another 8 years.\n\nIn all of this: I lost my early 20s. I should have been going out, having fun, dating around, etc, but I didn't. I watched tv at home with someone who was mean to me. This has come to greatly effect me as an adult. I want to date casually and have fun and do the things I missed.\n\nI love H, a lot, and have asked things to cool down with them so we can go back to square 1 and be casual and fresh, but this seems to scare them. I need to be free to date if it arrises, and need to feel some amount of freedom after basically a 15 year relationship! Is there any way for my romantic deep sweet but very emotional and sometimes angry partner to allow this freedom? What can I do to assure them??", "summary": "I need to be a wild spirit while the person I deeply love struggles with it"}
{"id": "t3_13xdgy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men and women of reddit, what are your takes on hot vs cute vs beautiful?", "post": "I feel like I am the only one who still thinks this way, but as a male, I have very different feelings on what constitutes a girl being hot, cute, or beautiful. I tried explaining this to my last girlfriend but she didn't understand my view; guess I am just really old fashioned?\n\nHot, to me, simply means that she is sexy but not in a way you would find a SO sexy. It is more like a chick who wears skimpy clothing that you would want to have sex with, but never make her your girlfriend. All she has is looks and that is all she can use. Like, if a guy were to say, \"that chick is so hot,\" all it means to me is that he wants to simply \"f*ck\" her.\n\nOnce again, my opinion, but cute implies that she has a cute face/body, but you can tell that her attractiveness isn't surface deep. I would rather date a cute 7/10 over a hot 9/10 any day. I feel that cute is much more of a compliment that saying a gf is hot. In fact, I tried to never call my gf hot (unless sexy time) just because it felt disrespectful. Cute almost has a modesty connected with it.\n\nBeautiful is one of the best compliments imo. It's like the combination of the looks of someone who is hot but with the down-to-earth personality and cuteness of a cute chick. Like they don't rely on their looks, they have a good attitude and brains to back it up.\n\nIn the end, hot chicks are everywhere on the streets, wearing the skimpiest clothing they can, providing the weather allows, while cute girls are usually the ones in committed relationships.", "summary": "Hot = fap, cute = relationship-worthy, beautiful = unicorn"}
{"id": "t3_1rio8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22F] tell my boyfriend [26M] of four months that I'm going to start going to counselling?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are in a very loving relationship, we're very open and honest with each other, we've told each other about intimate and painful details of our past and I trust him completely. He knows I had a rocky family situation growing up and resulting insecurities because of it. Recently, I underwent a study and discovered that I have all the symptoms of general anxiety disorder. However, the researcher interviewing me thinks I only have a sensitivity to anxiety and not the actual disorder.\nRecently I've been having a lot of trouble sleeping because of anxiety that occurs over school and life events, I feel like a zombie and am worried about my academic, mental, and social health. I've decided to start seeing a counsellor to find ways to combat this anxiety and figure out if I do actually have a condition that could merit from medication. \nI'm worried about talking to my boyfriend about this because I know the word \"disorder\" comes with stigma attached, and I don't want it to change his perception of me or confidence in my abilities as a significant other and person. I also could really use his advice on this matter though and really want to talk him even if to gain a little bit of comfort. I also don't feel comfortable about keeping it from him since we've been so honest throughout our whole relationship. I know four months isn't a huge amount of time to be dating someone, but we have a wonderful connection and I could honestly see myself having a future with this person. \nShould I talk to him about this or wait until after I start seeing the counsellor?", "summary": "Seeking counselling for anxiety, afraid boyfriend will see me in a different light because of it but don't want to keep secrets from him."}
{"id": "t3_2kxg6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F/19] going to a Halloween party tonight that my ex [M/19] will be at. Help.", "post": "[Here] is my post where I basically detailed everything about the relationship.\n\nWe broke up about three weeks ago. I saw him two weeks ago when he gave me some of my stuff back. Other than that, I haven't seen him at all, even around campus.\n\nThe party is at his fraternity house, and I was invited by a different brother. I asked a lot of his brothers if I should go and if it would be appropriate for me to go and they've all said yes. They are all my friends as well. I said I didn't want anything to be weird and I was met with \"it's only weird if you make it weird. And he will have to handle it like a reasonable adult because we have mutual friends.\"\n\nI could not go to this party but it's Halloween and I need to get out of my apartment and go. I feel like this is just something I have to do. \n\nI really could use some advice or wise words on how I can handle this situation. What if he tries to talk to me? I could \"what if\" all day, really. What should my mindset be? Help.", "summary": "Recent ex will be at a halloween party that I'm going to, need help on figuring out how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_279xor", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat 1-2 years keeps biting me.", "post": "Recently adopted a cat. She's probably between 1-2 years old. She was left at a shelter and was hours from being out down. My friend picked her up, healed her from double ear infection, respiratory infection, got her spayed and brought her weight up (was at about 5lbs and you could really see bones). About two months later I adopted her because my friend couldn't handle two cats that didn't get along. \n\nI've had her for about a month or two. Had to bring her to the vet for a ruptured abscess near her incision from being spayed. She's been un-coned for about a week or so. \n\nShe can be super lovely. Meets me at the door, purring every day. Almost always sleeps by my feet. Brings me her toys throughout the day and night. But, she tends to bite... A lot. Sometimes it's just after I've been letting her. Other times it's being she's hungry and trying to wake me up to feed her. But sometimes I'll just be laying on my bed and she'll attack out of no where. I'm not moving and she'll just attack. My arms have scratches all up and down. She's not using her claws it's strictly her teeth. I've tried saying no and pointing at her, I've tapped her on her butt and/or head, I've picked up her put her out of my room and closed the door, and I've left the room and ignored her. Not sure what else to do. She doesn't seem to show any real progress with anything. Any advice?", "summary": "Any advice to get my 1-2 year old female cat to stop biting the crap out of my arms?"}
{"id": "t3_28i6zj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making the clerk at walgreens think I was gonna have sex with my dad for his birthday", "post": "So I (25m) was in walgreens earlier today and I picked up the following items: a bar of soap, a bottle of gatorade, a box of condoms and a birthday card for my dad. When the clerk was ringing me up (not paying much attention as he pulled the stuff outta the basket) he asked me how I was doing, just smalltalk. And I said \"oh it's my dad's birthday tomorrow so I was picking up some stuff for that.\" He finished scanning the envelope with the card in it and is scanning the box of condoms when I, unable to control what comes out of my mouth  I said \"yeah my dad's gonna have a cool birthday this year\" and the guy kinda looked at me a little oddly and I realized he'd been looking at the condoms as I said it. A moment of terrifying silence follows and he went \"uh yeah\" and I, out of sheer awkwardness, gave him a great big grin and said \"OH YEAAH\"", "summary": "guy who works at walgreens thinks I'm practicing safe sex with my dad"}
{"id": "t3_51pch8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with [23M/F], did I look into us meeting too much?", "post": "Bit of backstory: me (24M) and this girl (Soon to be 24F) were close during college, we both had partners at the time but always kept in contact. Eventually a year or two after college we reconnected and spoke/texted a lot, we went out for coffee a few times, went out drinking and went to the movies together once.\nI never really made a move due to lack of confidence at the time and eventually a year ago we stopped talking.\nRecently I made contact and asked if she wanted to meet up for coffee which she happily agreed to and instead she suggested we meet after work and go for drinks together.\nIt went really well last night and we spoke for hours and had a great time, afterwards we hugged goodbye and I suggested we meet again soon, she suggested next time we get drunk together when she is free.\nAnyway the day after I messaged her saying I had a great time and had the idea that we could go out for dinner and have a few drinks for her birthday to celebrate.\nWas that message too much? It has only been a couple of hours since the message and no reply but I can never really tell if I'm looking into that and/or the message too much?", "summary": "Met for drinks, agreed to meet and drink more next time, messaged her next day but unsure if I looked too far into it."}
{"id": "t3_3d9mni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/F] just found out I'm pregnant (by SO [18/M]). How do I tell my roommates [19's/F's] about it and that I need to move out?", "post": "I recently moved into a duplex with two good friends of mine, Lisa and Katie. We get along great and I enjoy living here, and they don't mind my boyfriend, Jeremy, living here as well (all three of us have boyfriends who either live here or stay most of the nights here). Our lease isn't up until May of next year.\n\nI found out I'm pregnant, and far enough along to be pretty sure it's gonna stick. I work a minimum wage job, and Jeremy makes $9/hour. It's not exactly the most comfortable situation to have a child in. Jeremy is in the military and will be going to basic training soon, so he won't be able to help financially until after he gets back.\n\nThis has created a bit of a problem, as I can't afford to pay rent and utilities here while also saving up for costs of a baby. Jeremy's parents have offered us their basement until the baby is a bit older, I have a better job, and Jeremy is done with training. It will be free of charge, and I have a better job lined up if I move in with them. That would allow me to buy the things I need for the baby, and put some money away for when we leave Jeremy's parent's house.\n\nHow do I tell Lisa and Katie that I need to move out? I can legally do it if I give at least 30 day's notice, but my share of rent and utilities would be really tough for them to have to pay on their own after I moved out. Like I said before, we're all great friends and I want to find a way to do this without upsetting anybody.", "summary": "I'm pregnant and SO's parents have offered a place to stay. How do I tell my roommates without making them angry?"}
{"id": "t3_1vk792", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "High protein diet is not working? Advice please - food & exercise diary within", "post": "Hey all, I started a new diet given to me from my gym/instructor. After a week I have had zero change on the scales after they have stated that I should loose around 2kg in the first week.\n\nI have gone up and come back down to my start weight. Could I get you guys to look at what I am eating/doing and advise if I have been given the wrong information? or if there is something else I should be doing/trying? Do I need to be doing more?\n\nI have been told to go high protein, as my body won't hold on to the protein and get rid of the excess. This is what I have been doing which has been deemed \"perfect\" by my instructor.\n\nI am eating between 500 - 1100 cal a day. Eating around 30-50g carbs, 20-40g a day and I have almost completely cut out grains (all except for 1 mountain bread wrap).\n\nStart weight: 13/01/14 71.1kg - \nTodays weight: 19/01/14 70.7kg \n\nFood Diary Example:\n\nJanuary 13, 2014 - \nBreakfast - \nHomemade omelet muffin | \nMegapolis Supplements - Acetyl L Carnitine, |  \nPowderPhd - Pharma-greens (Strawberry Kiwi Flavour)\n\nLunch - \nGiant Sports - Delicious Vanilla Whey Protein, 1 scoop\n\nDinner - \nBrng - Proto Whey - Double Chocolate, 1 scoop | \nBroccoli, Steamed, 1 cup | \nPork - Fresh, shoulder, whole, cooked, roasted, 1 slice | \n\nSnacks - \nCarrots - Raw, 0.5 cup | \nRaw - Almonds. 15 | \nQuestbar Protein Bar - Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough 2/3 bar\n\nExercise - Les Mills BODYCOMBAT\u2122", "summary": "Food Diary PDF Report from MFP"}
{"id": "t3_ibxg7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most embarrasing time you thought about something that made you laugh out loud in public?", "post": "I'll start....this must have looked pretty awful out of context. I was at my grandpas funeral, in that section up front where the closest family members sit. We were really close, and I was on the verge of tears. My grandma was sitting right beside me, so I was trying my best to stay strong for her. One of his buddies was in the middle of speaking about what a great guy he was, and I knew I was about to lose it and just start crying hysterically.  To stop myself, I started thinking about happy things, funny things etc. It was working until I thought about vengeance dad....thinking about it always makes me laugh so fucking hard. I busted out laughing for like half a second before I shut myself up. The speaker had just finished saying, \"when he told me he only had about four months to live...\" everyone stared. he stopped talking mid sentence and looked at me. I tried to cover it up with a cough, but THEY ALL FUCKING KNEW. top ten worst moments of my life.", "summary": "I laughed at my grandfathers terminal cancer during his funeral"}
{"id": "t3_2c2yaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20 M) and my gf (18) have an overall good relationship, but my mind is tinkering with the thought of breaking up? Confused", "post": "So background me and my gf have a really good relationship, been together 2.5 yrs (give or take) I know all of her family, she knows mine we all get along great. Problem is I'm not as happy as i think i should be, like i don't get the \"butterflies\" and i personally believe she does love me more. I can go for about a week or so without seeing her and not be bothered by it, while on the other hand she can't. I enjoy spending time with her, but recently its slowly dawned on me that we have no common hobbies or interests, other than watching movies, going out to dinner, or generic couple stuff. \n\nAlthough, everything in our relationship is good, we havent had arguments or fight i'm kind of contemplating at the thought of breaking up. I'm confused due to the fact that i wouldn't know how to even tell her or give her a legitimate reason to. I recently broke up with her about 3 months ago and a month in I caved and asked her to take me back. I don't want to devastate her again (due to the fact that i feel like i wasted 2 yrs of her life) and i'm the only one in her life (she doesnt have many, if any friends, she only hangs out with me, not because i force her but the fact that im her only friend; she acknowledges this). \n\nI'm so confused with the whole situation, i've felt this way for weeks and i have no idea why. I still enjoy her company but at the same time I feel like i can manage without her. In addition, i'd feel terrible if i threw away years of us being together and i feel like if i leave her she'll have no one (friend-wise), i already did once and i was crushed because i knew she had no one.", "summary": "Contemplating thoughts about breaking up with gf, even though everything is good between us. Ultimately confused about my feelings, and where this sudden urge even came from?"}
{"id": "t3_4u9apl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it unreasonable for my mom [40sF] to ask my aunt [40sF] to pay rent?", "post": "Writing this on behalf of my mom because we don't know what we should do. \n\nMy aunt and her daughter have been living with us for over eight months completely rent free. Both of them have jobs, but they only give me mom a totally of $60 a week to pay for energy, water, groceries, etc. for 5 people. Meanwhile, my mom pays all the bills. We're in no financial position to be able to do this, and my mom has asked my aunt several times if she could contribute more. But every time, my aunt claims my mom is \"robbing her\" and that if she gives my mom more money, she won't be able to move out. \n\nHowever, she's been claiming she'll move out for months now. Every month she says she's leaving \"at the end of the month\" and she's still here. I think that if she had to pay her own rent, she'd have incentive to leave. And since they've kicked my sister out of her room for months and they're impossible to live with for other reasons, I think they should contribute more. \n\nBy the way, my cousin gives my mom $40 and my aunt gives my mom $20. My cousin is saving up for college, which is why she doesn't contribute more even though she makes a good amount of money. My aunt has no such excuse.", "summary": "Aunt and cousin have been living here for almost a year and only contribute around $60 to have their food, water, energy, and rent expenses paid. My family can't afford that right now and they show no signs of leaving. Should my mother try to charge them rent?"}
{"id": "t3_3getcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my BF [30M] of 2 months, he has a 5 y/o son. I don't have kids and have never dated a guy with kids. How to proceed?", "post": "So A and I have been seeing each other since May and things have slowly gotten more serious.  We get along really well and are both pretty laidback and seem to communicate with each other pretty well on things so far. He has a 5 year old son (B) who is absolutely adorable and fun to be around.  He has B one night a week and every other weekend right now, but is hoping to get full custody over the course of the next several months.  He seems like a great dad and B seems like a happy little kid.\n\nI've had A and B over to watch kiddie movies and play in the pool, and it's been a blast.  I guess I just don't have much experience with kids - don't have any of my own (hope to eventually) and have never dated a guy with a kid.  I'm sure it will change the dynamic of things, especially if and when A gets full custody, and as A and I get more serious.  Aside from talking over any issues that may arise with A, any tips or unexpected adjustments I might have to make?  Anything I can do to make this arrangement/transition easier on all of us?\n\nAny stories, advice, words of warning/wisdom/encouragement welcome.  Thanks!  Feel free to ask any questions of me as well.", "summary": "Any tips for someone with not much kid experience who has never dated a guy with kids before?  Any adjustments to expect/be prepared for?"}
{"id": "t3_3gqdew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my 19[F] have been together exactly 1 year this month, She just arrived to University and were having communication issues.", "post": "My gf just left to university about an hour and 30 mins away. Ever since we got together she always kind of sucked with being of top of teplying to text due to a shitty  phone,and busy day(very involved in school programs). Before she left i had given her the option to end the relationship too avoid problems but she refused and said she was willing to put the effort to make it work. We agreed to take turns visiting each other,but i had asked if she could be more attentive and set aside an hour a day to talk or failing that atleast let me know shed be busy to avoid me feeling stupid waiting for a reply. Its her second week away and she says she needs some time to ajust to the new routine,she frequently forgets to call when she says she would and im getting increasingly frustrated. Any advice would help me a great deal.", "summary": "gf moved away,but not unreasonable distance,sucks at keeping up communication, says will improve but in practice sfays the same. Says she needs time to settle in. Bullshit? Or am i just  acting stupid."}
{"id": "t3_1kkjzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(19m) fell in love with (22f) who is in an open relationship and I just met her boyfriend", "post": "I used to work with this girl and she friended me on Facebook when I got fired. We started talking on skype right after and we usually kept talking until 3-4 am. Everything is going well, then I learn she is in an open relationship and she would like to fuck me and possibly be friends with benefits. I fell in love with this girl when we started talking on skype, well over a month ago. I end up sleeping with her a couple times a week and there are no troubles except for my sudden feelings of jealousy when she isn't with me. But today is different. At a convention, I met up with her and her boyfriend showed up. Until now he was just a myth and I didn't feel like he was real. I can't help but feel betrayed. I feel like I should end it with her, but then I'd lose the one good thing thats happened to me in a while. There's also the fact that her boyfriend is going out of state for school and I'd have her all to myself. Help me reddit I feel shitty and I'm afraid of doing the one thing that actually makes sense in this situation.", "summary": "fell in love with girl in an open relationship, met her boyfriend and now im lost."}
{"id": "t3_f0qw8", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Brotherly advice required", "post": "A situation has developed between my brother and his wife and the rest of our family.  In short his wife is a manipulative entitled bitch who has driven a wedge between my brother and everyone else.  This came to a head with a recent death in the family - his father (my step-father).  She made the whole grieving/funeral/etc process more difficult, particularly for my mother.  \nIt's been several months now and we've had no contact.  Prior to all this my bro and I had been getting along better than ever (especially while helping my mother deal with the sickness of my step-father)\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I can't stand my bitch sister-in-law but don't want to lose my brother."}
{"id": "t3_1z83m3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by masturbating (NSFW)", "post": "(Throwaway).\n\nToday I was cooking some potato snacks in the oven. \n\nMy girlfriend is away for the weekend so I was browsing the internet. Needless to say, I stumbled upon some NSFW content. I was horny as all hell. Forgetting I put the potato snacks in the oven, I went to the bedroom and started going at it. I came once but that wasn't enough. I went for round two. I was in a really weird position trying to get off again. I was so close, I could feel the build up starting. I got carried away and went harder and rougher. Suddenly, I shifted rolling abnormally on my left shoulder as I was hitting climax and increasing in roughness. \n\nI felt a rush of pleasure AND pain rushing through my body at the same time. I didn't care, I was whacking off. Straight after (I literally mean, as soon as my load was dumped) I felt this incredible pain rushing through my shoulder. \n\nTurns out, I dislocated my shoulder by jacking off. To top it off, I set my potato snacks on fire in the oven. \n\nI'm now thinking of a way to tell my girlfriend how I ruined her favourite baking tray and dislocated my shoulder.\n\nMost awkward hospital visit.", "summary": "I fucked up by fucking myself while cooking. Burnt the food, wrecked my gf's favourite baking tray and dislocated my shoulder while climaxing."}
{"id": "t3_d83yl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mixed signals from a friend", "post": "I have a female friend who keeps sending me mixed signals. On one day she'll be really flirty, like last night she was playing footsie and when I acknowledged it she winked at me and she'll make point to talk about how she is attracted to my specific traits, then tonight when we hung out all she could talk about was how she didn't really want to date anyone or be in a relationship at the moment. It's been back and forth like this for about a week or so. I'd like to ask her out, but I also don't want to screw up an awesome friendship if she really doesn't want to date anyone at the moment.\n\nShe did just get out of a relationship a few weeks ago and is a little jaded about relationships in general mostly because she was with a guy who didn't compliment her.\n\nShould I give it a shot or not?", "summary": "I'm getting mixed signals from a female friend I would like to date, wtf should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_lsgpj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I feel like my break-up window is 24h here.  What do I do?", "post": "I'm 18. I met this guy who's 30 through university.  I knew it was probably a bad idea because I'm a born heart-breaker but I went for it any way because he's incredibly easy to talk to and enjoyable in a way that doesn't require intoxication or ravenous amounts of money.\n\nProblem is, I absolutely love someone else.  I always wondered what my sign would be because I'm such a cold hearted soul when it comes to caring for people.  I'm only sure of it now that I've been with this guy and I can't even be intimate with him without wanting to be with the other man.\n\nI feel guilty.  It seems like this guy really likes me and he doesn't seem to go out much at all.  He's 30, his friends are marrying left and right, and there he is getting rejected again.  I've already made him spend lots of money going out with me (about 200 yesterday) and that's what makes me feel the worst.\n\nToday we were supposed to see this movie I've been dying to see, but I'd feel like a jerk to break up with him after that movie.  I feel like today is the day although I'm not ready.  What do I do?", "summary": "I'm 18 dating a 30 y/o for two months, but I love someone else. Supposed to see movie with guy today, don't want to waste any more of his money after 200 dollar outing yesterday just to get dumped. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hyld5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "19 year old college student need help approaching parents", "post": "Hello all,\n  \nMy problem lies in what I want to do with my future and essentially letting my parents know what I want and need to do. I'm currently a college student going through the Air Force ROTC program. However, I don't believe the military life is the life I want to live anymore.\n  \nFor those who aren't very familiar with ROTC, it's a college program that introduces and trains students to the military to become officers right out of college. The first year is an introduction to the military lifestyle and the second is the training year for Field Training (more or less basic training for officers). The second year is the most intense and miserable time.\n  \nI am entering my second year. While I have no doubt that I can get through the training and become an officer, I can't stop this gut feeling that reminds me over and over again that this just isn't the place for me. Over the past year, I can say I've enjoyed parts, but the only motivation I had were my classmates and encouragement from a long time friend. It almost felt as though I was going through a honeymoon period where I'd be motivated to go, but it soon turned into a chore and I was no longer interested or invested.\n  \nThe problem I encounter isn't leaving, but telling my parents. They continually tell anyone they meet about me joining the military one day. They are very proud of the fact that I joined this program, and I can't help but feel that I will break their hearts if I said this isn't the future I want anymore. I just don't know how to approach them.\n  \nAs of late, I've been getting the idea to tell them I've been medically disqualified. While it would disappoint them, I believe that it will not break them. However, I can't stand lying to them.\n  \nI need advice on this situation.", "summary": "I want to quit ROTC, but parents are too invested. I don't want to break their hearts. Should I lie or try to approach them? How do I approach them?"}
{"id": "t3_eekrz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me find a sentimental coffee mug for my Dad", "post": "Hi Reddit! I'm trying to find an [airplane coffee mug] to give my dad for Christmas. \n\nStamp reads: \nWillardson + White Collection / Trend Pacific / Los Angeles, CA\n\nI don't want to ask my dad details about it now because he'll know I'm up to something. The last time I asked him about it he said it just meant a lot to him (he used to work as an aerospace engineer for NASA, loves airplanes/space/symbolism behind them, loves the color scheme, etc.) You can't tell in the pictures but if you turn the mug around, the entire other side is broken off and it nearly fell apart when I took pictures of it. It's so sweet that he just keeps trying to glue it together and he was really sad when he told me he couldn't find a replacement anywhere.\n\nI've looked online but can't seem to find any leads or information about the company, so I figured this was the perfect kind of post for my fellow reddit detectives. Thanks to anyone that tries to help me find it. <3!", "summary": "Want to find an 80's/90's coffee mug for my dad. Back stamp reads \"Willardson + White Collection / Trend Pacific / Los Angeles, CA\"."}
{"id": "t3_3r2ugn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do people meet these days?", "post": "Hey everyone! Here's my dilemma: I'm having a hard time meeting people.  I am a 22yr old male who works 50 - 55 hr work weeks (10+ Mon - Fri & <5 Sat mornings) at a tool & die shop.  Due to the nature of the trade it is mostly made up of male employees, and the few women  we employ are 10+ years older. Same with our customers \n\n6 months ago I ended a 6.5 year relationship (best decision i have ever  made) and I'm trying to get back into the game.  \n\nI started going downtown for some time, but that didn't really get me anywhere and it gets expensive. \n\nI tried Tinder but am not really a fan...too superficial and filled with bots.\n\nMost of my friends are older than me and/or are in committed relationships, so I don't have any \"wingmen\".  They also do not have any single friends\n\nHobbies for common interests? I play guitar (except for playing at bars doesn't get you out), go to the gym (no luck there thus far), and go to the local jeep club (mostly an older crowd) \n\nIve been thinking about getting a job as a waiter or a bartender for Saturday nights...but besides that I'm at a loss for what to do. \n\nWhere / how do people meet these days?", "summary": "Busy 22yr old male trying to meet people."}
{"id": "t3_2816fk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/m] with my ex girlfriend [19/f] of two weeks. We're getting back together, can I tell her to stop talking to a guy who's been flirting with her?", "post": "My ex and I split up after being together for around nine months and good friends for a year before. It was a rocky relationship with some very good parts and some very bad parts. After being away from each other for two weeks, we're both going to try and get back together.\n\nExcept in this time she met a new guy at work, who has been flirting with her heavily for two weeks, calling her 'Stunning' and 'Gorgeous' and messaging her every day. She got a lift home with him during this time and he tried to hold her hand, where she apparently told him no and that she just got out of a relationship. She didn't tell me about any of this during the two weeks we were apart and said she wasn't flirting back, but there may have been some \"innuendos\" at points. In our early relationship history she had a history of flirting with other men when we were fighting or bad, and rarely being truthful about it. That improved to a certain extent.\n\nMy question is, can I tell her to stop speaking to this guy? To remove him off facebook and say she doesn't want to speak anymore? Am I being overly controlling or I am justified because we shouldn't be starting a relationship together when she has another man on the side lines like that? It makes me feel pretty terrible and I don't feel like she should continue having any contact with him apart from the saturday (on and off) they have to spend together working.", "summary": "split with ex of 9 / 10 months. Guy flirted with her heavily during the two weeks we were apart. We're getting back together. Can I tell her to stop speaking to him?"}
{"id": "t3_yvkgs", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I don't know if I want to lose weight.", "post": "Im a 17 year old guy. i'm around 6 feet and way about 240. i know im overweight. I have a belly, i have huge man boobs, and it takes a second for me to catch my breath after i've walked upstairs. i've tried, and failed to lose weight in the past, but i think my biggest problem is that im not motivated to. i like the fact that people don't want to mess with me because odd are i would seriously mess up their day. i like the taste if the unhealthy food that i eat. \n\nwhat i don't like is being too embarrassed to take off my shirt at the beach, not having the ability to be attractive to the hottest of girls, and not being able to run a mile with ease. i would like to be able to have stamina, *if you know what i mean.*\n\ni've tried in the past to motivate myself. i made a bet with my friend that whoever got a six pack first won 20 bucks. i gave up on that after about a week. i bought clothes that were 1 size too small in order to motivate myself, they are still in my closet on the hanger, never worn. earlier this year i lost 10 pounds and felt a lot better, but gained it all back within a time period of 5 weeks, and i didn't even care that much. \n\ni guess im just waiting for that a-ha moment. that moment when you realize that enough is enough and that you need to lose it if you want a happy life. i just haven't reached that point yet.", "summary": "so reddit, what advice do you have for a fat teenager who doesn't know if he should lose weight or not"}
{"id": "t3_4dr9k1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I (22/M) need to stand up to my girlfriend (19/F) of 3 years and break up with her?", "post": "My girlfriend of over 3 years was found out to be messaging her ex, mostly while dunk, and still ending conversations with \"love you\". She maintains that because they're now good friends that she means it in a \"brotherly love\" type of way. When I discovered this was going on, I also found that she had been messaging, quite flirtacously, a guy from her work. These messages included all the \"\ud83d\ude0d\ud83d\ude0d\" type of emojis as well has her messaging him in the early hours of the morning asking what he was doing. When I confronted her about this she lied and said it was one of her brother's friends whom she hadn't seen in a while. \n\nAfter a long argument I asked her, what would you do if I had done this to you? Her answer was that she would end it with me. However I haven't ended it with her yet this plays on my mind.", "summary": "Does it make less of me if I am still with her when she would've ended things with me? Am I a pushover?"}
{"id": "t3_3n6587", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take better pictures of people with disabilities", "post": "I work teaching skills to adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities. We have a lot of neat events at my job that I like to record by taking pictures with the work digital camera. I post them to our Facebook page for clients and their loved ones to look back on. They also are nice to have when clients retire, so we can commemorate the event with a slideshow. I enjoy taking the pictures but I didn't feel the pictures were as nice as the camera would allow. \n\nI set out to learn how to take better pictures. I'm learning about Aperture, ISO and shutter speed. I also have been looking around the facility for other accessories I know were purchased for the camera when the original operator (an art major who was in charge of PR) was in possession. \n\nWelp, I found them today and that's were the f-up begins. The box contained a wide angle lens, a telephoto lens and a speedlight flash amongst other things. Being a total noob, I opened up the boxes starting with the zoom lens and screwed it in to the existing lens. I'm guessing this is not standard protocol, because even once I took it off my camera thinks it's on a photoshoot for Cloud Weekly--everything's a blurr. Nothing I do is fixing this. To top it all off, tomorrow is 'wear pink for Breast Cancer Awareness' day and I have no way to preserve the memories.", "summary": "Tomorrow I will face about 100 disappointed people with disabilities because I messed up their camera."}
{"id": "t3_1vyyyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M], Need honest thoughts [23F]", "post": "Hello my name is D im 23 and i got Aspergers.\nCurrently live in a so called group home but in my own apartment, i get support in stuff like laundry and stuff cuz i am focusing on getting my life started again.\nI am not retarded, not wierd i just have a hard time ( sometimes ) to understand social codes or un-spoken words that most people would know.\nI can take care of myself in any otherway, not walking around starving or smelling like shit :).\nMy question is that i have met a awesome beautiful girl here that works part time here and i would do more than anything to become friends and hopefully more.\nBUT! since i am living here and she works here its not possible, therefore i have now started taking massive leaps in to the big world.\nGot my job going + exercising in taking care of myself 100% without relying on anyone else to do it for me.\nIts going very good and i am just pwning my fears.\nAlso soon starting to gym 100% aswell.\n So the question is if YOU were this girl and if i moved to my own place would you still wanna hang out and just have fun? \nMe and this girl we are having really fun and we both are on the same ' level ' so to speak.\nIts cuz of her i started taking care of myself more and getting in to shape and she got me realizing that the world wont come to me i have to chase it.\n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "23M crush on F23."}
{"id": "t3_368u8x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[17M] need help with [16F]", "post": "Not a creative title, I know, but I really need help. \nHere's my situation:\nSo this girl, whom I've known since we were 10, has really had a hold on my heart for the longest time. My freshman year in highschool I mustered the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend, she said yes. We dated for about a month until she decided to call it quits because I didn't feel like a boyfriend, more like a friend. I didn't take it too well, as I had been crushing on this girl since we were in middle school, she asked the usual \"can we still be friends?\" To which I said yes. I didn't date any other girl after her and no other girl has made me feel the way I did with her. Fast forward two lonely years later. I went out with a couple of friends tonight to watch a movie, she came along as she was friends with the other people in our group. I didn't mind too much, hoping that she and I would be good friends like we were before, but as soon as I saw her I instanly felt something in my chest (corny, yes I know but believe me it was more than just butterflies) and instantly all the good feelings I felt during my freshman year and the years prior came rushing back. I couldn't muster the courage to even hold a conversation with her. After the movie I said my goodbyes and gave her a kiss on the cheek. I don't know what to do at this point, I really REALLY like this girl. I've never been in love before but I imagine this is what it feels like. I don't know whether to confess my feelings or ask my friends to see if she feels the same way, I'm not the most courageous guy but I'm willing to take the chance if that means that she still has feelings for me. It's 4 in the morning as I type this, I need your help, fellow redditors, please any advice would be appreciated. \n\nI don't care that this isn't a throwaway, because if there's a chance she might be reading this I want her to know I still care for her.", "summary": "liked this girl since sixth grade, asked her to be my girlfriend freshman year, she dumped me, went out with her and friends tonight, the feels came back. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_kgndd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Hitting my head against the wall", "post": "Just a rant.\n\n Moved thousands of miles for my girlfriend & baby so she can finish school. Job market here fucking sucks. I'm up against shit head fresh college grads and people with bachelor degrees and decades of experience for ENTRY LEVEL positions. No car, no job, no friends, can't provide for my family, can't afford to go do anything, music i'm writing is a bunch of go nowhere riffs, when i message someone with questions about music production or trying to get some kind of feedback i don't get any response. i probably come across as saying HERPADERRR I LIKE DA DUBSTEPIN, even though i've been producing for several years and playing in bands for over 10.", "summary": "FML, sorry you took the time to read this."}
{"id": "t3_242xl4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Partner [F51]just let me know [M37] that she lost a first trimester baby when her ex punched her in the stomach.", "post": "Hi :)\n\nThis is an LDR of almost 1 year at the moment.\n\nTonight, in a rather overtired (unable to sleep) and low mood, my partner confessed that many years ago her partner punched her hard in the stomach and killed her ~3 month old baby. (She has two other kids 26 and 28.) She also told her daughter earlier the same night, and her daughter said I would be mad at her.\n\nI'm not mad. I have no reason to be. Perhaps slightly disappointed she told her daughter first, but her daughter kinda forced it out of her whereas I'm happy to wait for when she feels ready to tell me about these things.\n\nShe did say it was a gall bladder operation beforehand; but I can understand that the feeling of grief for this must be very hard to bear at times for a mother. I'm just not sure why she is worried about me knowing?\n\nIs there any special advice you may have for how to help support her? We're about to be reunited in a couple of weeks and are feverishly working on our migration applications; which may have triggered this anxiety in her.", "summary": "Partner confessed of losing a baby when punched. Originally said it was a gall bladder operation. Was scared I'd be angry, but I'm not. Not sure why she'd think that."}
{"id": "t3_45kle4", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story] I'm lost. Need to find a direction.", "post": "(Sorry for the long post) Hello fellow redditors,\n\nIm a 20M currently a junior that goes to a commuter college. I recently had a series of events, perspective shifts, and other things that has put me in a slight panic mode. \n\nTo put it bluntly, I feel like I wasted 2 and a half years, 2 1/2 years where yes, I've studied, gotten internships, have a good gpa, and on track in getting a degree.\n\nBut I've been in a shell, a shell where I didn't go out much, where I have met people, but haven't or didn't want to extend the relationship anything other than inside school. I only joined an organization last semester (and even that one is less than an ideal club in terms of socializing).\n\nTo put into perspective, I was in a group of friends in high school that were really close, we all went to different colleges and I only just realized that I did the basics whereas all of them went to parties, branched out socially, and have had experiences where I just floundered in the \"safe, high school mentality.\" As a result I have few friends, and many acquaintances. \n\nPart of it is because I'm shy as fuck, and quite possibly introverted as well. Even though, technically there is no reason I should be. I'm blonde, 6\"1', and work out 3-4 times a week. I've been so stuck in my comfort zone that mentally it feels exhausting to wake up one day and realize I haven't done to grow socially as a person. I haven't been to a party, club, or whatever - part of it because I'm terrified as fuck, other part because I haven't done enough to put myself out there.\n\nI'm going to sign up for martial arts and a latin dancing school (terrified as fuck for the latter).", "summary": "Feeling absolute shit for not coming out of my comfort zone sooner, wasting 2 and a half years of my college life (supposed to be the \"best years\" of my life.)"}
{"id": "t3_1qcqoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21[M] going through rebound phase but I'm thinking of online dating", "post": "Ok so about a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me. I've come to terms with it and knowing that it's over and now it's time to move on, but I do really crave that deep friendship that a girlfriend provided.\n\nI've been going to clubs and parties but it seems that type of crowd is only good for grinding or trying to get lucky and I just want that constant communication. I mean don't get me wrong I love the physical part but I want both and I want them really bad.\n\nWhich brings me to the point of why I made the post, I started researching match.com and how it goes off of personality and physical appearance rather than just one at like a bar or club.\n\nThe reason why I'm scared is I'm only 21 and then the whole social stigma of online dating scares me. Then I think again after looking up some of women on there. That they are attractive and they like the stuff that I like. I was hoping to get your opions on the topic. If I'm just in the rebound stage and I need to just calm down or if this is actually a good idea.", "summary": "Got dumped a month and a half ago, wondering if I should try online dating"}
{"id": "t3_u5siw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I can't, what, where? Fantasy land. I am out of the hole... do I go back in?", "post": "Background: I have had credit since I was 18 years old, and have been in massive amount of debt twice since then. I was never late on payments and my credit score hasn't been hit that bad either. (I am high 600s, low 700s) Thankfully I am in the Army so it has made my idiotic mistakes easier to deal with.\n\nI'm at the butt-end of a deployment and have successfully paid of all of my credit card debt again with one late reported payment (which is bullshit, but that's another story!) With my last few deployment paychecks I will be building a $6,000 emergency fund account with my fianc\u00e9. It will be $3,000 from the each of us.\n\nI also want a car as soon as I get back. I would ike to finance it through USAA just so I can get some installment debt on credit report (previous was a $1,000 loan I took out) and also because I don't want to spend the little I was able to save during this deployment was paying off my debt and seemingly starting at phase 1. I have a consistently paying job for the next year and a half too so that's a plus.\n\nI have a high interest in investment as well but that's for another time...", "summary": "I just got out of debt, building an emergency fund. Should I get an auto loan that I can pay as I have a consistently paying job?"}
{"id": "t3_2q0z0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (29M) snores and it's worrying me (29F)", "post": "This is a young relationship. We've been together just a few months and it's going great. Except he snores, you guys. Badly. And I'm a super light sleeper. Whenever we share a bed, I find I have to move to the other room to get even a little bit of sleep, immediately after he falls asleep. Sometimes I hear him across the house with the doors closed.\n\nHe warned me early on in the relationship that he snores, but it's much worse than he explained. I don't think he realizes how bad it is. He's embarrassed in the morning when he realizes I've spent the night in the other room. i feel bad for him. I don't want him to be hurt by me leaving, but I literally get no sleep around him. I've tried wearing ear plugs, white noise, sleeping pills. Nothing has helped. I'm stressed about taking vacations together and sharing a hotel room. I know it bothers him that we don't share a bed, but he's at least understanding for now. \n\nI also think he has sleep apnea. He's constantly choking and gasping for breath through the night and it's really scary to hear.  I told him I want him to see a doctor and get to a sleep clinic. He's agreed, but nothing has happened yet. I also think he needs to lose some weight, stop drinking and eating heavy meals in the evenings as a start since they contribute to snoring/sleep apnea but I don't know how to broach the subject with him. Any advice?", "summary": "My bf's snoring is awful and I think he has sleep apnea. I want him to see a doc, lose weight, etc to fix it, but I don't know how to broach the subject with him"}
{"id": "t3_28wzal", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[NSFW] TIFU by forgetting to zip my fly...", "post": "This actually just happened three hours ago, so let me type this out as I recover from the pain...\n\nI was out and about with my girlfriend, and, bless her heart, but she sure can be clumsy sometimes...she always seems to be spilling water and the like when we're at restaurants, and it ALWAYS lands on me, without fail, while she remains completely intact. Now, this is no big deal by any means, so I usually let it slide. But not today...\n\nI have this nasty habit of forgetting to zip up my shorts (I'm used to shorts with no fly, hence this) after taking a leak. So today, I was at a Mexican restaurant with my gf and went to the restroom. I came back, and everything seemed to be going well. That is, until my gf in one sweeping hand motion FLUNG her freshly hot coffee in my direction. That coffee, along with a bowl of hot chili that I was eating, landed straight onto my exposed Johnson. It was then that it hit me that I had forgotten to zip my fly one too many times.\n\nAt first, it didn't hit me that a molten combination of hot chili and coffee just landed square on my family jewels. But once it did, I was SCREAMING in pain...the whole restaurant was looking in our direction, as my hand was clutching my THROBBING beef bazooka...luckily, the World Cup was on, and many people dismissed this as my cheering for a team, but my gf saw what was happening, and she laughed really heartily...she, of course, was unscathed by the avalanche of lava that had just hit my beef bazooka...\n\nWell, when I got home, I noticed that my slippery salami is now home to some nasty callous-like burn marks...it hurts to the touch, and I can't wear anything down there without it burning...shit...", "summary": "Girlfriend spilled coffee and hot chili onto my bare beef bazooka and I made a screaming scene in a restaurant...the salami is now a rash-infested monster."}
{"id": "t3_2aewry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] drunk cuddles [21F] and don't know if overthinking.", "post": "So basically we had some drinks and talked and cuddled for like hours after my friends went to sleep.  She didn't want to sleep in there(I'm pretty sure she didn't want her friend to know) so I slept on couch so she could have bed.  It was pretty close and feely the whole time but no kiss.  I had my hand on her neck just cause it stopped there with no intention of making a move but she said \"I wouldn't\" thinking I was.\n\n  Over last few nights I just cant get any sleep thinking about it.  My question is, am I overthinking it? I've really been crushing hard.  But she works with me and we are all kind of in a close group.  If I missread I could make my relationship with roomates weird or at work.  Do women usually go into these things with an idea in their head or could just all be out of drunk love.  Should I just wait till next time we hang out as a group of friends or should I pursue? Just need to tell someone and talk about to get my mind off. Can't think about anything else.", "summary": "drunk cuddled and overthinking it. Should I pursue?"}
{"id": "t3_4afi45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (41F) don't have the energy to break up with my boyfriend (40m).", "post": "He is currently at RIDOC (please don't judge) but I did not meet him there. There was so much familiarity in all of this and comfort. His mom died not too long ago so he really has nowhere to live when he gets out. Most of all our dating and romance has in fact been done throughout his prison sentence(s) (he got out and then quickly went back in bc his mom died and he was drinking a lot etc).\n\nIn some ways my life has gotten better. I went back to work. I'm so afraid of so many things though. I don't really have the energy for a live in boyfriend especially knowing or always thinking he is there bc he has nowhere else. He has assured me he is not many times but I'm not comfortable with all this pressure. I keep thinking maybe he can do better and I don't want to wait until that happens. I'm tired of feeling lousy about myself. He has some narcissistic tendencies. Even his mom said sometimes he can be so sweet and other times he can be the devil. So it's a lot to deal with. \n\nI couldn't really function that well at work on Saturday. I was so stressed out about going through this break up that I keep prolonging it. I don't know how to get out. I've broken up with him before only to miss him terribly and then chase him again. In fact I can take accountability that I chased him from the beginning. I'm very attracted to him and he is a mechanic too. That's how we met I put an ad on craigslist bc my heater core in my cadillac was broken.\n\nWhat should I do? Is there any way to ease into it so that it's not so overwhelming? Should I give it a chance? I know no one can really tell me what to do but I can't keep posting on PTO either and I could use some advice.", "summary": "Boyfriend has no where to live and I'm so use to living alone and it's hard enough for me to take care of myself, my apartment, my pets, and work."}
{"id": "t3_30cx4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cheated on my [21m] girlfriend [22f] over a year ago. Need advice.", "post": "Jane, we'll call her, and I both had somewhat healthy and also negative relationships. We both were more comfortable single than in another bad relationship. Over the course of half a year we get close, and give the relationship thing a shot. Its the best relationship I had ever had. \n\nI cared more about her than I had in any previous relationship, then, and now, Im sure I'll never obtain this feeling with anyone else. This was not a perfect relationship where there were no problems. I had an ex that was still prevalent in my life but not sexually just as a friend. We would fight over this and over her, in my opinion, friends that often painted me in bad light to her. After about a year into our relationship I cheated on her with a girl three times during a three week span. Obviously she finds out and our relationship dissovles over the course of about three months. \n\nShe can't trust me, with good reason, but she still says she loves me. Its been a year since we've been separated and my feelings for her have not changed, and Im almost sure she has some feelings for me. Im not actively looking for women but after a year i feel as if I should have moved on by now. Im sure that Jane does not want to get back together soon, but Im unsure if I should wait because of the feelings she says she has. Help.", "summary": "Cheated on girlfriend of year, not sure if we've resolved in smart way."}
{"id": "t3_2iiiml", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Help I'm an above average male and I literally have no idea what to do anymore", "post": "What's good Reddit. Long time reader, first time post. Sorry if this is not in the right place. I am a 24 year old guy who is at the very least average looking. I would say I am even above average looking at the least. I work out 6-7 times a week training Brazilian jiu jitsu and the days I don't train I work out with a trainer training yoga/Russian kettle bells/etc w/e this isn't a workout post. I'd also say I am pretty well versed for a 24 year old. I read a lot, keep up with current events. I work a full time job and I've been there for almost three years now. I am also a musician in an up and coming band. We have played at a lot of venues that are world famous. I am well aware that I have a lot going for me. I work really hard for everything I have. I guess it's the inner musician. I was a trombone performance major in college. The thing is I currently do not nor have I ever had a girlfriend. It bothers me. I went to a really big party school so it was always constantly a reminder that I just was kind of a square peg in a round hole. I tried online dating and that is not going well either. I've been at it on and off for the past few years now. I go on dates occasionally but nothing works out. I'm not sure what I am really asking for here. Just guidance, re assurance, advice, anything really. Even kind words are appreciated. Feel free to ask any questions if you think of anything I might have left out to help with your response. Thanks.", "summary": "smart funny guy can't land a girlfriend. Very frustrated. Need guidance."}
{"id": "t3_2y22d2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [28] doesn't like to give me [22] compliments or say positive things about our relationship.", "post": "My boyfriend loves me very much, and I know this because we were completely broken up and got back together with a whole Rom com esque speech. He also shows affection in other ways. \n\nHowever, he does not like to pay me compliments, talk positively about our relationship or use the term \"in love\". We have had conversations about this where I have told him how important it is to me in relationships, and asked him why it is so difficult for him to do. \n\nI tried to talk to him about love languages, but he was not interested. He has said he would try to change his behavior and talks positively about me and our relationship to others. But I haven't seen a change. \n\nHe also just doesn't like to have relationship talk in general and is a bit of a commitment-phobe (these are extra details, not additional problems). How can we work through or around this?", "summary": "I want my bf to say more nice things to me."}
{"id": "t3_3umpxq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/M] started seeing a new girl [26/F]", "post": "I've just started seeing a new girl. So far, we are both having a good time, we both like each other, and there's no problems. In the past, I have had more than enough relationships that have ended poorly either due to infidelity on their part or just me not being able to trust them.\n\nTo keep it simple, my most recent ex cheated on me with several guys, lied to my face and went behind my back, and would fabricate stories to destroy all my friendships and was the ultimate reason why I had to find new work. As a result, I walk into these situations with pessimism and doubt. What I have found myself doing is comparing them to the 'so called ex that ruined all dating and relationships for me' and picking out actions and immediately assuming it's going to go down the same road.\n\nI understand this is not fair to whoever I'm seeing now but it's tough to look past it. But what I realized today was that it hasn't just been this individual I have compared to the actions of my ex. Every girl I have spoken to, been out with, slept with, I have found a way to compare their actions to this ex and it has really made things tough.\n\nThis time around, I've met a girl I actually like and I don't want this comparison to ruin it for me. It's not fair to her and it's not fair to me. I have let go of the thought of my ex completely but the damage she caused has me paranoid about each girl I meet now. I've noticed red flags here and there. The kind that my ex used to have and I always looked past them but this time I do not want to commit myself or my time if it will end up the same.\n\nHow can I get past this comparison and how can I recover from what was done so that I can spend time with this new girl without the trust issue?", "summary": "I was damaged by my ex and it has caused me to compare her actions to that of the new girl I am spending time with."}
{"id": "t3_22a41m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] met this guy [29M] online a couple months ago, distance might ruin it all and I don't want to lose him.", "post": "After a depressive period and a rough break-up I met this guy online and we both felt a special connection really soon. We get on very well, but we live thousands of miles away.\n\nWe started fantasizing about meeting someday and he was so sweet, nice, loving and understanding. We kinda fell in love with each other gradually, but I always wanted to take it easy and wait to see what happens. I just wanted to keep having fun together and feeling this special thing we were starting to feel. Everything was wonderful, we always wanted to talk to each other, we laughed, we had fun, we felt so special and there was always beautiful words for each other.\n\nAfter two months, I feel like he's changing his mind, he seems to be distant, we talk less than before, he's not so loving and he seems to want to push me away (At this point, you might need to know that he was the one who always talked about meeting and how perfect we were for each other). He told me nothing has changed, but he's scared that we might get hurt if we get too attached to something that might never come true. \n\nI tried to talk to him, to give him some space, but nothing seems to really work. I'm really scared about losing someone that makes me happy and I don't know what to do. Is that a signal to the beggining of the end? Anyone in a similar situation? I don't really want to lose him, I just wanted to be happy again.", "summary": "LDR might end before having even really started and I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2fl1mw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by over thinking everything", "post": "Ok, so I met a dude on Tinder. He was really cool and so I asked him to pick me up so we could hang out at his place. He was awesome. We had great sex, twice. He even made me pork chops. We spend about 20 straight hours together before he drops me off at home. And this is where the obsessing started.\n\nI consider our meet up and think that I may have been too quiet. So I decide, hey, I'm gonna text him first, to show I can be assertive. He responds a day later. I send him two messages about an hour apart, one on kik, the other a text, because I'd just gotten a new phone and I didn't know if he had gotten my message about me getting one. So there's strike two. We have a short conversation and I make up a bullshit excuse about mixing up the conversations to save face, even saying \"I swear I'm not a psycho!\", which was probably counterproductive.\n\nThe next day, I'm in a full on panic attack, so I send him what was intended to be a heartfelt, honest message, asking him if he was interested in me, or was I just making an ass out of myself? Of course after about an hour or so I realize that I was making an even bigger ass of myself so I send him a fourth message, after the last three went unanswered, saying to disregard the messages I'd sent because I'm an idiot who clumsily sends messages when I get nervous about certain people's views of me. He responds immediately with \"lol ok\". I don't know if this is patronizing or endearing.", "summary": "Met guy on Tinder, hooked up, got so crazy thinking he didn't like me I inadvertently made him not like me."}
{"id": "t3_1x1e70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F19] broke up with my ex [18M] and he has been constantly trying to get in contact with me for three days and says he booked bus to travel to my college across the state.", "post": "We were together for one year. I posted this  before and he ended up giving me back my passwords and apologizing on his own. The only time I have contacted him since then is in an email saying I'll drop his stuff when I visit home and that if he has any requests of what to bring he can just email me. Since then, he's been calling me, having his friends and my brother text me to ask me to talk to him. The past day and a half he has been systematically calling me literally every 5-10 minutes besides during the night. I left my phone in my dorm during the day because it was distracting and it kept bringing him to mind. It's an inconvenience and he keeps creating new numbers through phone # apps if I block any. He emailed me today saying he booked a long distance bus ride to me this friday. I really hope he is bluffing because even though I plan on not getting back together with him no matter what, I don't know where he'd sleep since my roommate doesn't allow boys staying overnight and I don't really know where he'd stay. I would stay away from my dorm all day but I'm afraid he'd wait for me or my roommates would let me in. I know if I asked him to not go he probably wouldn't change his mind, and I am really trying to stick to no contact. Is it appropriate now to break no contact to somehow get him to stay home? Even if I did I have no idea what I'd say.\n\nI am visiting home next next weekend and he told me he's going to come hang out at my house (Valentine's Day coincidentally) with my brother. I might ask my mom to not allow him there, but I would feel weird about telling her so I might spend the day away. I might ask my brother to not let him over but seeing as my ex managed to get him to text and try to call me once (my brother, who is 17, really liked my ex and plays a lot of video games with him) I'm not sure how effective that'd be. No idea what to do next.", "summary": "my ex boyfriend keeps calling, texting, and emailing me and it is making it very hard to move on. On top of that he says he plans to travel to me."}
{"id": "t3_24aiq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 3 years, just left me because he wanted to be single. I don't know what to do with myself and can't decide what's best to do.", "post": "It has only been 5 days since he left me and I don't know what to do. Our relationship was great, there were no warning signs about what was coming, he just decided he wanted to be single and he was too young to settle down. We had been looking for houses together and now I am back living with my mum. He has packed all of my things and it seems like he wants me out of his life as quick as possible.\n\nFriends and family are all telling me that he will come back to me, that we were a perfect match, and that he is going to realize he misses me, but I am not sure. He already feels so different when we have spoken and I think he is already talking with other girls. I feel very alone, he was my whole world. I still love him a lot, and hope he does change his mind.\n\nThe hard thing is, that I never wanted to settle either. I wanted to go out and do things and travel but he preferred to stay home. Now he is single he has started doing these things and it feels unfair. I don't want to give up on what we had, but I don't know if there is any chance for me.\n\nI don't understand how one morning we can be playing around in the kitchen like normal, then come afternoon he doesn't love me any more and want's to be on his own. I definitely think there is something more to it than what he has said. It is all I can think about, and is affecting my sleep and work. I need to make a decision, whether to hang in there and hope he will change his mind or to cut him out of my life and try and move on.", "summary": "Boyfriend left me very suddenly. Want him back and don't want to give up on what we had but want to let go to stop me from being sad."}
{"id": "t3_2tftoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, 24/F with my partner, 24/M of 8 months broke up because I am monogamous and he is polyamorous.", "post": "My ex and I were together for eight months. We mutually agreed to break up because he identifies as polyamorous and I am fundamentally monogamous. We are both in love with each other, but are unable to reconcile with each other's desired relationship style.\n\nI love him and he loves me. After the honeymoon phase ended, we grew progressively more miserable with each other. We had become bad partners for each other as I was more jealous than I normally would have been if he had been monogamous, and he was less emotionally present and communicative than he normally would be if I had been polyamorous.\n\nWe cried and told each other we love each other when we broke up, that we can't get back what we had. It was brutal. I know it's the right thing to do, he needs to date polyamorous women, I need to date monogamous men, we need a lot of time without contact to get past this.\n\nThe withdrawal symptoms are horrifying. Going to bed and waking up is devastating, although it's easier in the middle of the day. I am trying to adapt, cope, feel happy for the fact that we both now have the option to date people who meet our relationship needs, although I have no interest in pursuing other relationships at the moment. The idea of me moving on and treating this as a \"nostalgic memory\" is equally painful. \n\nHas anyone been in this situation before? It's been hard to find good advice, as my friends haven't been able to relate or fully understand the poly/mono discrepancy. Also, I do not hate my ex - he's an amazing person. I don't have anything negative to say about him, and it's making it that much harder to move on.\nAnything would help. Thank you.", "summary": "Has anyone had a situation where you and your ex loved each other, but love wasn't enough to make things work because of fundamental differences? It would help to hear from someone who didn't have a nasty breakup, but rather dealt with a situation where you and your ex had no choice but to break up."}
{"id": "t3_39ekhv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl I have been flirting with [17f] starts a conversation but takes ages to reply to me [18m]. Thoughts on how to go from here?", "post": "This cute girl from work has been dropping intense signals that she's interested, which I won't go too far into, but suffice to say it's been obvious to the point that a few other people have commented on it. I like her too, so that's nice, and yesterday I gave her my number. She texted me today, and she just takes a really long time to reply sometimes. Her reply time in this 20 message conversation has ranged from 1 minute to 1.5 hours, whereas I usually will reply within 10-25 minutes (my phone is always with me) Does that make you think she is uninterested? she started the conversation, bear in mind. And should I text her first tomorrow?", "summary": "Girl seems to like me, I like her, but she takes ages to reply via text. What do you think? where do I go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_v3vs5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you been wrong about throughout your life that you just now discovered?", "post": "There was a girl in my high school class as a junior who had gone her whole life writing the letter q as g. I told her that her stem curled in the wrong direction and she didn't believe me. I asked the whole class out loud and they all confirmed. She then started crying, \"I've gone my whole life writing my q's wrong! How come no one ever told me?\" She was embarrassed, and I felt bad, but I still thought it was hilarious. I was just like, \"Yeah, you would think a teacher or someone else would have pointed that out by now.\"\n\nI can relate in a way, I went through life pronouncing pretzel as print-zel. In kindergarten someone convinced me that the word \"purpose\" meant \"accident.\" Needless to say I got in a lot of trouble without understanding why for a long time.", "summary": "Girl wrote lower case q's as g's. Cried."}
{"id": "t3_x5nxu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When were you rewarded for your actions and what was the reward? I'll start...", "post": "So a month ago I felt like promoting [Josh Cooley] a hilarious and talented Pixar storyboard artist/voice actor. I submitted two imgur albums of his work, [this one] and [this one] which got really big, really fast.\n\nSince they got so big, and since he hadn't blogged for over a year, I worried that he might not have wanted the attention; maybe he was way too busy making amazing Pixar stuff and had no time to worry about his side business, and just maybe didn't want the attention. \n\nSo, I emailed him and told him I could take it all down. [This was his awesome response.](\n\nThat settled that! I emailed him back with my name and address and I just yesterday got the SIGNED book for free! Here's the thrilling unboxing and, admittedly, awesome pics of the book, for those of you who really have nothing better to do: [Unboxing] and [awesome detail pics of hilarity] (there's a lot more all throughout)\n\nAnyways, because of all the attention he got (about 15 million views), people were throwing money at the screen to buy his artwork and all his sales increased, hooray!\n\nIn the end, he was happy, I was happy, and I'd like to think that Reddit was happy, too :)\n\nI really think Reddit is a force for the good and positive, which can really impact the lives of our local or favorite, unknown artists.", "summary": "Promoted an unknown Pixar artist and his art business exploded with demand - because of it, he sent me a signed copy of his art book!"}
{"id": "t3_2pmsry", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am so proud of how far I have come.", "post": "November of last year I decided to take psychedelic shrooms, which triggered dormant memories of childhood abuse. This caused me to go into complete shock; I abused alcohol, prescription drugs, cocaine, anything I could get my hands on. I nearly failed out of college. I was put on academic probation and told that if I didn't improve my grades significantly fall semester, I would be expelled \n\nNow this is a little strange, but hear me out. I am now a huge advocate for psychedelics in treating mental/emotional trauma. After receiving that email, a few days later I decided to take acid for my first time. I went to go see Outkast while tripping, I had forgotten that \"roses\" was a trigger song for me. When they started to play it I broke down crying, but then realized something amazing. In that moment in my agony and amidst a psychedelic clarity, I realized that I am in complete control of my destiny. At that moment, I realized that I choose whether or not this sick sociopath from my childhood would continue to ruin my future. I realized I had the choice to move on, so I did.\n\nI just got fall grades back today. I am no longer on academic probation, I achieved an A in my most rigorous course, and I successfully raised my GPA by ~1.75 points.\n\nI'm just here to say, if I could pull myself out of that agony, misery, and pain. So can you.", "summary": "Went from cocaine addict sobbing about childhood rape to successful and off drugs b/c psychedelics and determination."}
{"id": "t3_3xbgw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fear of Death - Side effect of Love?", "post": "I (24/M) have been in a beautiful relationship with her(24/F) for Seven years now. Everything is going so well, and we dream of our marriage and a family together in the near future.\n\nBut, with great love comes great fear(at least in my case), the fear of loss, the fear of death. If I am to die, she won't be able to handle it. She is survived by her mother and me, her dad passed away when she was a few months old and to her, I am everything. She has loved me unconditionally over the past years. \n\nMy fear of death has recently become more and more chronic, I am scared of going on a flight, I am scared on travelling, fearing some life threatening accident that might result in my death. This fear is starting to mess around with my daily life and decisions. I also fear something bad might happen to her, and so I ask her not to go around alone, always have someone by her side. I want her to be an independent girl, but this fear of mine is preventing her from being one.\n\nFelt like asking Reddit out before going on to a Psychologist.", "summary": "I fear that if I die, She won't be able to take it all alone. and that fear is messing up with my daily life and decisions."}
{"id": "t3_3ajt7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really need help with my depressed mother (18 F and 47 f)", "post": "So a little backstory on my mother. She is a cancer survivor, she lost her father to cancer in her 20s, and we lost my dad to a car crash when I was young. She is not happy in her current marriage and can't seem to leave it. She has been out of the job market forever due to depression, cancer, and raising me, and she is having trouble finding work now. To make it all worse, she and I have a really hard time getting along. She has seen counselors on and off but they usually fall out. She once had a great counselor but she was forced to move to a different city. Her husband is a good-hearted person, but he loses jobs and moves CONSTANTLY. She is dependent on him and definitely not happy.\n\nI am living with her until my job goes full time in couple of months; then I will move out. Me living there seems to be really hard on her. I'm 18. Whenever I have a bad day she cannot deal, tells me my problems are hard on her, which makes me angry and resentful. She is angry at me all the time, which is understandable, I'm not perfect, but it's frustrating and hurtful to me too.\n\nI'm not sure what to do for my mother. I try to encourage her but she seems convinced that things will never get better and that she is trapped in her current marriage with no job prospects.", "summary": "I want to help my severely depressed cancer-surviver mother and salvage our relationship. She is angry at me constantly. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ypfby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] need advice getting over my [24 M] crush", "post": "Yes, I'm gay. But I really hope to see mature responses here. \n\nThis guy I met last year in my classes was my first crush, and through some miracle I managed to find out from him telling me that he's also gay. Throughout the semester I tried to get closer to him and find out if he likes me back. \n\nWhat I found is he almost for sure doesn't feel anything towards me and that we can't hold a conversation together. Not only that but he's a flaker and he's been a jerk to me a couple of times (unintentionally of course). \n\nThe thing is, no matter how many times I remind myself we're not right for each other, the moment I hear his voice and look into his eyes, I forget about all that. It just seemed too good to be true, a non-flamboyant good looking guy who revealed that he's gay to me. But I need to get him out of my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My first crush is totally incompatible for me but I keep falling for him"}
{"id": "t3_38aave", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (25m) beautiful girlfriend (20f) has MASSIVE self-esteem and confidence issues. What can I do to assure her that she's absolutely gorgeous, and that I'm not just pulling her leg?", "post": "We started dating a few weeks ago, and on the second date, she told me that she had been bullied in her childhood about her looks. I didn't understand the severity until she explained that she doesn't have pictures of her face ANYWHERE. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchats, nothing.\n\nI accepted it, and figured I'd be able to convince her that she's actually incredibly beautiful.\n\nWell, it's been a few weeks now, and last night I tried to take a selfie of us during our date, and she looked down and away from the camera.\n\nIt's not some sort of relationship-ending issue, but it sucks seeing my girlfriend treat herself like she's a grotesque troll. I call her beautiful every day, but she just assumes I'm saying it out of politeness or to be charming.", "summary": "my girlfriend thinks she's the dragon, when she's actually the damsel."}
{"id": "t3_2sfq17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18/m) played along with a joke my father (67/m) made and now he won't speak to me or my mother (62/m)", "post": "This afternoon I came back from a two week trip out of the country, and as I was talking to my parents I gave them their gift which was very thought out and they visibly loved. My dad joked that I gave him the bag it contained and I told him as a joke that actually the paper wrapping it was the gift. \n\nImmediately after I said this my dad's demeanor totally changed and he went from extremely happy to see me and in love with the gift to being personally offended and he said if I am going to act like that then I might as well not have gotten him anything. Now he won't speak to me or my mother at all because she made a comment as he stormed off that if he is going to make jokes like that then he needs to be able to take jokes like that.\n\nI know my father can be difficult to deal with and these situations happen all the time, but I'm not sure if I should feel responsible for him getting upset at my mother and I, or am I right in thinking behavior like that is irrational and it's not my responsibility to walk on eggshells when I talk to him?", "summary": "I played along with a joke my dad made and now he is offended and won't talk to me. Not sure if I should apologize or be unaffected."}
{"id": "t3_3htvxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25M] told me [24F] he's still loves his ex-girlfriend", "post": "My boyfriend of 7 months recently told me while he was drunk one evening that he's worried about a text message that I sent him a couple days before saying that I love him and that I'm serious about him and I'm the type of person who can't help but settle down. I'm like a penguin. He followed his concerns with a comment saying he is still in love with is ex-girlfriend. Of course this made me have concerns of my own feeling like I'm a rebound or his second place prize and what if she decides to come back in his life how do I know he won't leave me for her. I expressed these concerns and he tries to soothe me with saying that he only wants to be with me.", "summary": "My boyfriend told me he loves his ex-girlfriend still. What should I do? I feel insecure about our relationship now. ."}
{"id": "t3_20lohi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my [gf/F] 15 months, she started to develop feelings for ex, but we never broke up.", "post": "My girlfriend and I were head over heels for each other for a year, before this, she had dated another boy for 2 years. \nDuring our relationship, her ex was still crazy in love with her, texting her and telling her he loved her, she had responded several times with  \"stop it, youre not in love with me, and *my name* and I are not going to break up in the future as far as I can see. so stop.\"\n\nThe past few months we have been fighting and growing distant. She told me that she had fallen out of love with me, and has started to miss her ex, she was completely honest with me and said she still loves me, but isn't \"in love\" with anyone. She simply needed time to figure out what shes feeling but she made it very clear she DID NOT want to break up just simply needed extra space.\n\nIt has been a month and we have grown very close, we had a lot of talks and both made our concerns clear and open. She has communicated with him every now and then, and just last night she had a conversation with him that resulted in her crying, she told me she feels dumb for \"giving him a chance\" and how she thinks she was dumb to think he had ever changed.\n\nI talked her through it, and im at a odd point.\n\nOn one hand, she never broke up with me, was honest with me about her feelings and never did anything physical with this ex. I could completely understand developing feelings for someone you shared 2 years with again, even though it hurt a lot on my end.\n\nOn the other hand, I cant help but feel like I'm the second choice now that she realized he isn't everything she expected. I plan to bring this up to her and talk to her about it, but for now I feel betrayed.", "summary": "Is it normal to fall in love with other people while in a relationship? Is it okay to let it go as long as the partner stays committed to work through it? How can i make sure i just wasnt a second choice?"}
{"id": "t3_2lgg2j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [29f] am dating [for3months] someone [29m] with a child for the first time. Help me better understand my role?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI'm dating a guy with a baby for the first time ever. I have done my best not to get involved with someone with a child because I don't know what it's like so it kind of freaked me out. I just got back in this relationship 3 months ago but we were engaged about 8 years ago. Everything was amazing until I had a miscarriage and it broke our hearts which pushed us away and we gave up on us. We were too young to know how to get through it together I suppose.\n\nFast forward 4 years: He knocked up this chick about 3 months after meeting her so they had a shotgun wedding which lasted about 6 months. Now they are divorced and he has full custody of his 1 year old son. He says his son needs a woman figure in his life and that he knows his son loves me to pieces and that he has been having dreams about his kid calling me mom. I have never dated anyone with a child, I don't have any children either. I don't know how this is supposed to go.\n\nI bought the baby a hat with fur and the BF asked me to take it off, he didn't want his son wearing any fur. I thought the hat was adorable but this has me thinking. Is this normal? If we get serious and get married, will I have no say about his life? Will I just be a live in nanny where he makes all the decisions and I have no say in anything? Is that how it's supposed to be? We have been talking for a while and the baby's mom wants nothing to do with the baby. I'm not expecting to replace his mom but I thought maybe if things progressed I would be his step-mom and love him as much as if he were my own but what responsibilities does this entail? I am so in love with them both! I just want to go into this knowing what to expect.", "summary": "Help me better understand my role as the girlfriend of a guy with a baby and how it or if it would change in the future. What will be expected and accepted?"}
{"id": "t3_28b9g9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my GF [16 F] for a month: Am i being too clingy and obsessive?", "post": "So very recently I found out that the girl i liked also liked me back and we began dating immediately. I have no doubt that she really likes me and always tells me so. But i've been noticing that i've been starting on the conversations and asking to hang out.\n\nWe're both in highschool and very often i find that it is always me starting the conversation, me waiting for her after class so we can walk together, me who asks her to come hangout and go on dates. Of course she inititates conversation too but i just feel like i am doing it most of the time. It does not seem at all that she is annoyed by me doing the stuff mentioned above.\n\nHowever, i can't shake the feeling that she wants a more \"distanced\" relationship and i am being overly clingy. Is this what i'm doing? Or do some girls just like it and prefer it when the guy does the stuff i mentioned above?", "summary": "I always start conversations and ask her to go hang out and i don't know if i'm being too clingly and/or obsessive."}
{"id": "t3_15uhfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to prove I'll never leave her? [M22] [F22] [xpost from r/askreddit]", "post": "My fiancee and I have been together for a few years now- I chased her, but once we were together she was the one who proposed. Unfortunately, she grew up with an absent father who was emotionally abusive in the rare times he was around, and an uncaring mother. As she grew, her parents eventually divorced after much yelling and arguing- she chose to stay with her father, because she was aware that he at least had the income to keep her out of poverty (since her mother felt she shouldn't have to work). The father became more attentive, though his way of showing love was mostly through buying things for her, until he remarried a very conservative woman and stopped giving attention to my S.O. completely. This, combined with a stepmother who did her best to force her to be a \"proper lady\" who only wore dresses and spoke politely (if at all) lead to my fiancee hating her family life and with a number of problems regarding not knowing how to give/receive affection in a healthy way.\n\nSo now, she lives in almost constant jealousy of any time and attention I give to anything besides her (work, friends, downtime, etc- most of which she doesn't have her own of because of school and shyness), and in constant fear that I will leave her because of any possible slight. I am, in fact, incredibly devoted to her, but I'm not certain how to prove to her that I'm in it for the long haul.\n\nSo, reddit, any suggestions on how I can prove my devotion and help her to overcome her jealousy? We've talked about it already and agreed that the latter might be helped by getting her to spend her attention on people besides me, (finding her new friends and helping her reconnect with old) so that she can understand that I'm not depriving her of attention by occasionally giving it elsewhere, but more advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "She had a bad family life, is jealous of my friends/interests, and worries that I'll up and leave her someday."}
{"id": "t3_3ahi4c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] concerned about my girfriend [18 F] of almost two years, she can't find meaning in life and it's killing our relationship", "post": "As a backstory my girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years, we're both graduating seniors and we're both going off to our colleges in the fall. My girlfriend is ADD and is on presc. Adderall.\n\nOver the last few months she's started becoming more and more mean and careless, often snapping and yelling for no real reasons. Killed my confidence really quickly, and in specifically the last two weeks it's gotten much worse.\n\nShe's assumed this attitude of not caring about anything, she's become a self proclaimed \"asshole\". But she apologizes for it, she knows hows shes been acting recently and she doesn't seem to like it at all.\n\nAnd then tonight she tells me that she doesn't see a point to living, and she doesn't know what she wants when it comes to our relationship. She's saying hurtful things for the reason that \"she wants to\", and it seems like she's almost trying to convince me that she's just an asshole.\n\nI love her a lot, but not how she is right now. I love how she was before this.", "summary": "Anyone else been in these shoes? any insight on how to handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_1e0rp2", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need help teaching my pit bull puppy to not jump and bite people.", "post": "My 4 month old puppy is great and obedient inside the house with minimal distractions.  Hes even great on walks.  He responds well to treats and can perform tricks even if there is something else he wants to do. Its when we go outside to play fetch that he has challenges.  Everything seems to get him so worked up that he begins jumping on me and either biting or humping me.  \n\nIve tried ignoring the behavior but he keeps biting and jumping.  Ive tried to distract him with either toys or a treat but he keeps biting. The only thing that stops him is bringing him to heel.  Even then he seems content to keep at me.\n\nI plan on getting him into puppy training classes when the next class opens up.  In the mean time I would like to help him be entertained and happy.  Can reddit offer me some suggestions to correct this negative behavior?", "summary": "I want to help him burn off some of his puppy energy just not at the cost of a 115lb dog who bites people."}
{"id": "t3_398dnz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am abnormally afraid of the prospect of intimacy/relationships. How do I go about getting over this?", "post": "I am a 22 year old guy. Never been in a romantic relationship. Furthest I have ever got with a girl was in 8th grade summer, where a girl kissed me a few times.\n\nI have recently come to terms with the thought that all my depression (and whatever other mental illnesses I think I may have) stem directly from lack of a romantic relationship.\n\n(And before anybody comments saying that previous statement IS my problem... trust me... I know. Please refrain from telling me to work on myself, as I have been doing this for several years... I am a drastically improved person compared to how I was 4 years ago.)\n\nAny chance I have ever had with a girl, and even the prospect of dating scares me. I don't get how something I can want so badly can be this scary. My mind is seeming to work against my happiness. I no longer want to be afraid of phsyical intimacy, sex, or communicating my feelings openly. I don't want to live alone, or die alone.\n\nI am a pretty sociable guy for the most part. And somehow, I am AMAZING at getting along with the my friends girlfriends... but whenever I am pursuing an interest for myself, I just can't seem to be myself.\n\nI have this one friend who I have been considering asking out for a while now... but any time I get close to doing it, I can just never get the words out. Even with the belief I have that love cannot happen unless you are willing to have your heart broken, I still can't do it. I think I am more afraid of getting a \"yes\" than a \"no\".\n\nI feel incredibly foolish having to post this to a bunch of Internet strangers... but I don't really know where else to turn. I have been called a pussy by who I consider to be my best friend when I brought this up with him. I hope that doesn't happen here.", "summary": "how do I get over this mental block? I am unable to act on my feelings and the prospect of intimacy and relationships scare me... but yet it is still the #1 thing in life I want the"}
{"id": "t3_34xxo3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(33/m) Married four years with baby on the way. But things with wife (32/F) are falling apart. Please provide insight.", "post": "Long story, so please bear with me:\n\nI've been happily married for the past four years, or so I thought. My wife and I were happy being childless but she had a change of heart last year. We began trying. \n\nWe received the good news six months ago that she was pregnant. \nOur immediate reaction was one of elation. After all, this was something we worked for and it brought a new dimension to our lives.\n\nHowever, things quickly turned sour. Small fights became big ones. We always knew we had very different personalities, but it suddenly seemed too much for her. \n\n(Background: I am a pretty laid back guy working a job I love. I'm messy, sporty and quite a nerd.  She is a driven, career-minded woman who hates her job but does it anyway because it offers high pay. She wants to retire as early as possible. We are both quite educated and relatively senior in our respective fields.)\n\nTo cut the long story short, she is having second thoughts about the baby and our marriage. She feels like having a child would restrict her from many other things she has yet to do. It feels like she is having a life crisis.\n\nWe have spoken about the issue at length, and it has been decided that I will raise the child, with or without her. There is a strong possibility that she will leave us to do what she feels is her heart's desire (whatever that may be) after the child is born.\n\nI do not profess to understand what is going on in her mind. She says she needs time alone so we are staying separately. We are also seeing a marriage counsellor.\n\nIf anyone has had similar experiences, please share.", "summary": "Marriage bliss without child. Planned for one. Things are now falling apart."}
{"id": "t3_2e8qcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [43 M] with my wife [43 F], together 21 years, is my definition of \"cheating\" wrong/weird?", "post": "I think my wife is having sex with her co-worker (the reasons I think so are not germane to this discussion). However, the idea of her having sex with him doesn't bother me at all while I am virtually scared to death she is in love with him. Are my concerns normal/healthy/whatever? No matter how hard I try to get upset the possible sex, I simply don't. At the same time, no matter how hard I try to calm down even a little about whether, after two decades of an (admittedly) non-perfect marriage (we have our fights, our highs, and our lows), she has fallen in love another man, I get more and more worried. I don't know what to do. Obviously, I should confirm my suspicions before confronting my wife; I mean the focus of my worries.", "summary": "I worry my wife might love someone else; I don't worry about her have sex with another man; wtf?!?"}
{"id": "t3_2ucjv3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [22/m] Determining whether or not to move in with my girlfriend [21/f]", "post": "Hey,\n\nI'm a student right now. All of my roommates are graduating this year. I have to stick around for another year. My girlfriend whom I've been with for about a year and a half is in the same situation and she wants get a place with me. She's really into the idea and I think it would be cool as well. I'm just worried about it being the wrong descision right now.   \nMy issues are:\n1. I don't want it to fall apart and then be stuck with her in the same house for a year.\n2. Worried that we might get sick of each other.\n3. We both have vastly different schedules so it might not work out in terms of that. \n4. I don't want to becomes a shut in. My social life kind of revolves around my girlfriend so its a real possibility.\n5. Perhaps my biggest issue is that we might not go in the same direction post graduation and this might be incredibly depressing if we've been living together up until them\n\nShe's really into the idea and I don't want to hurt her. We both are really into each other and spend most of our time with each other. If we didn't move in together we'd probably both get bachelor appartments (again most of my friends are graduating). She doesn't see any reason we shouldnt do it but I'm not as confident.\n\nDo any of y'all have any thoughts on or experience with this type of stuff?", "summary": "Not sure whether to move in with my girlfriend for our last year at university"}
{"id": "t3_3w4tf2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24F) boyfriend (27M) routinely ends up blowing off my social or family events", "post": "I am near the end of my rope with my boyfriend of 3 years. This is something that has consistently cropped up in our relationship, but has seemingly taken a turn for the worse recently.\nWhen we first started dating, my boyfriend was in a touring band. Therefore, I realized he couldn't commit to a family party or concert six months away; his schedule was always in flux. It was annoying but understandable. \nAbout a year into us dating, he kind of aged out of the band scene, and with us getting more serious, he took a 9-5 at home. I do understand that this was a big shift, but it was a decision he made on his own.\nSince then, he's constantly been looking for something to fill up his creative energy: pro wrestling classes (really), obsessively working out, podcasting, and now, a beverage company his frankly unqualified friend is starting.\nThese all-encompassing activities leave him with a really dicey schedule. Never mind that we have a dog and he routinely calls me at work to tell me that he needs to go somewhere right after work until midnight; it also affects our ability to plan seemingly anything.\nIn the past six months alone, he's canceled on a concert at radio city music hall (the tickets were a combined $200, all on me), our anniversary dinner, dinner with my parents all the time, a half dozen of our friends parties, and, most recently, my work Christmas party.\nI triple checked that he would be available, since my company hosts our party at a really nice country club. That means plates are prepaid. He said it wasn't a conflict and that he was excited to go. Now he calls me saying something has come up for the beverage company. I'm due for a substantial raise and am pissed that his flakiness may cause me to look bad in front of my bosses.\nIt's gotten to the point where I would rather go places myself or bring friends and not even bother to ask him. I'm done with looking unreliable and seeming like I have a boyfriend who doesn't care about showing up to places.", "summary": "my boyfriend has a million hobbies and this causes him to miss social and family events, leaving me looking flaky. Sick of it."}
{"id": "t3_mx0k3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell when a girl wants to be more than friends?", "post": "I have had a number of close female friends where I have been unsure of their interests or intentions. I'm not looking for anything more than friends, but sometimes I get hints that they might be interested, or..I am reading too much into things.\nFor example, there is friend I have been hanging out with pretty often recently I haven't been sure of. She has a boyfriend she seems to like pretty well and often tells me about, but she also does things like push her breasts up on my arm while we were looking at a map together yesterday, and she always gives me a hug when saying goodbye. \nI think I've indicated I just want to be friends, but maybe I need to clarify?", "summary": "How can I tell the difference between when a female friend is just being comfortable/friendly, and when she wants to get with me?"}
{"id": "t3_49fsld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27F] He [31M] got a text last night from a female friend who addressed him as \"love\" - is that appropriate/OK??", "post": "We've only recently started dating, so I suppose haven't set out \"ground rules\" of what we are both comfortable with in a variety of areas. I have been 'sensitive' about boyfriends' female friends in the past, but over the last few years have done a lot of work in this area to get better. \n\nCurrent bf is very social and charismatic which I LOVE about him - but when he received this text last night at about 12:30am (he was showing me a photo on his phone when it came in, I don't creep) it brought up some old feelings of insecurity - and I was wondering if I'm just being precious about this, or if it's not appropriate and worth bringing up with him? Trying really hard to see this rationally, and not respond in a purely emotionally-driven way. :) (He also called the same girl \"miss\" on social media, which I got a bit ruffled at but didn't mention to him).", "summary": "What is/isn't appropriate language for a boyfriend to use with his female friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3aw6bw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Climbing out of the bad credit hole", "post": "Been lurking all over the internet about how to rebuild my credit since I destroyed mine as a dumb kid. Had a good discussion with my mom about being added on as a authorized user. I simply said that I won't spend a dime and don't even want access to the cards.\n\nShe added me onto 3 capital one cards she has had since 1994, 2003 and 2004. They have a high utilization at 77% with a total credit limit of $4500 but I took the risk of adding them. They have perfect payment histories. One month later my credit score is up 27pts according to myfico.com. Im sure it will go up even more as she pays them down.\n\nAfter my score jumped up a bit I applied for a cap one quicksilver one card and got approved for $300.. Baby steps.\n\nI have also started using the mint app to keep track of my spending. I love that app, buying a soda here and there and random stuff didn't seem like much. But as I watch the charges add up it really put it into perspective.", "summary": "AU on Cap one still works for credit boost and the mint app is amazing."}
{"id": "t3_3p8z2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] how do I stop myself from catching feelings with every guy I date, no matter how objectively incompatible I am with him?", "post": "Ugh I'm about to disable my OKC profile for the umpteenth time.  8ish months ago was dumped from an LTR, I am always the dumpee, in my whole life I have only broken up with 2 guys (I put up with a lot, I'm a pleaser, the golden child of a narcissistic parent). \n\nI've been  trying the whole online dating thing, but I'm a loyal/monogamous person, it feels weird to TALK to more than one guy at a time, let alone dating several people.   I know I'm an anomaly and what I'm doing is NOT the way it's done.  My profile is 100% honest and upfront, I have an attractive face, but am overweight this is made clear in my description and pictures.  I get a lot of traffic, and try to be selective, I talk to people for weeks before meeting.  I wonder if I'm choosing guys out of my league who just see an attractive face and are then disappointed by my body (but then why do I get 2nd and 3rd dates?)\n\nI'm not sure what I'm even asking for help with.  I guess it's obvious I'm not ready to be dating, but then I wonder if I ever will be because I can't handle rejection even though it happens to me ALL THE TIME.  \n\nI wish I had a thicker skin!", "summary": "I catch feelings for most guys I date, after a pathetically small number of dates, I have actually cried more than once when I got faded on (mostly because I feel like a rejected loser who doesn't even deserve a \"it was nice getting to know you, have a nice life\").  How do I find some big girl panties to deal with BASIC rejection?"}
{"id": "t3_3ixhe9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 m] met a lady on a dating site [30F] and have no clue how to go about this?", "post": "have been in two serious relationships the last 8 years (3, break relationship 2yrs, back with original for 3 more). I've been single for about 3 months and haven't found anyone to be really interesting. Been on dates, been set up by friends etc. \n\nHit it off really well with someone from a dating site but have no clue how to proceed past texting. Sounds silly but if there was a e dating for dummies that would be great. My biggest fear is that things can easily be misconstrued over text. She also lives a few hours away so a date will have to be planned well ahead of time.", "summary": "Need help with online dating"}
{"id": "t3_alg96", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: We're being moved to Oklahoma City, OK. What should I know?", "post": "Reddit, \nMy husband is in the military and he is being stationned in OK. I'm European and only been to the states for a short amount of time (different trips, not even adding up to a year).\n\nI'm pretty bummed moving and not looking forward to it. I know a lot of the american culture as my step dad is american and I been in american high school for a few years.\nThing is I became kind of a introvert compared of when I was in France. \nEven though I'm being friendly with people, it seems I am not interesting enough for them. I have no friends.\n\nPeople keep telling me that I will hate OK, I'm trying to stay positive and think that they just trying to scare me.\n\nBasically, is there anything I should know about the state of OK? What is there to do/see/visit?\nDo I need to start all my conversation asking how's the corn going?\nWhat place should we avoid?\nAnybody in OK would like to be my friend? I'm a good friend and I wish people would see that.", "summary": "European moving to OK, HALP!"}
{"id": "t3_2cqe8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33F] met the most amazing person [30M], but I am not physically attracted to him...", "post": "So he is very advanced intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. We talk for hours on the phone each day that we can (and have for the past month). When we kiss, I am kind of into it although he isn't a very good kisser. \n\nThe problem for me is that he is short and scrawny. He is cute but I am not attracted when I look at him. I have a fantastic time when we are together because he honestly has the best personality of any man I have ever met. I can't seem to get enough of him, spending time together when work allows it, and staying very in touch when it doesn't. \n\nI keep thinking that I KNOW that beauty fades, and that character is more important than looks; however, I find myself not wanting to go further than kissing with him because it seems like it will screw up what we have if he realizes that I'm not attracted to him in that way. I can see myself falling in love with this man. It's frustrating. What do you think?", "summary": "Met someone fantastic about six weeks ago, love who he is but don't feel attracted physically."}
{"id": "t3_10adl0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sudden 20 minute periods of terrible thoughts/loneliness, I can't be the only one??", "post": "Reddit, I'm new here, but the general community seems open minded and fair. I'm at a new school in a new city and don't know a whole lot of people. Sometimes when something shitty happens, I just get these sudden bursts of really terrible, awful thoughts of loneliness, insignificance, and lack of companionship. Mind you these aren't tragedies that set me off. Something as simple as a small miscommunication has put me in this state before. They last for about 20 minutes and then they fade out. I kinda feel like it's a panic attack but I don't get the physical symptoms (shortness of breath, heart racing, etc.). Don't worry I'm not killing myself anytime soon, but these have gotten worse over time, I think I've had them for quite some time. I've never really told anyone about it, not even my closest friends, just because it's so hard to articulate and describe unless I'm in the midst of it. Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "I get 20 minute bursts of awful thoughts that I can't calm myself out of whenever something shitty happens."}
{"id": "t3_1bj7ua", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating Multiple People and Making a Choice [UPDATE]", "post": "This is just an update to [this post] and then [this post;] no real question to speak of.\n\nSo I'd been on about 7 dates with this introverted woman, who I found myself pretty emotionally and intellectually in-tune with. The extrovert, I'd been on 4 dates with and I was starting to worry that I was putting her on the back burner because of the introvert being easier to date. \n\nOn the fourth date with the extrovert, I asked how she felt things were going, and she said good. She told me she wasn't seeing anyone else and that she really doesn't date people unless she's super sure about them, and I told her I was dating other people. Her reaction actually made me feel good; it was along the lines of \"I totally understand, and I'm not going to make you decide, but I hope you pick soon and I hope you pick me.\"\n\nThis last weekend, I had another date with the introvert. I told her I was seeing someone else, and she didn't take it well. I insisted it was my problem, that I liked her, and that I would make a decision soon. We ended the date there, though; she got pretty withdrawn, which I think is how I'd have reacted.\n\nI ended up deciding to pursue the extroverted woman. I've dated introverts before, and we certainly mesh well. It kind of boiled down to me deciding I've already dated a woman like the introvert, why not try something new? I'm 26, and if this relationship doesn't work out, I'm still young. At least I'm going for a different experience.\n\nThat said, it was way hard letting down the introvert. She ended up texting last night, saying she \"took the hint\" that I hadn't contacted her since two days ago. I'd really wanted to meet and tell her face-to-face, as I'd grown attached to her and felt she at least deserved that. We ended up talking on the phone about it, and when she wanted to know why, I stressed what I'd said above; that I'd be very happy with her, but just wanted to see how something different suited me.", "summary": "I sacked up and made a choice. I'm dating the \"fun\" girl."}
{"id": "t3_1ys950", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am really struggling to get over [21 F] who is only a friend.", "post": "I work with this chick and she is awesome, we got on pretty well and I feel really comfortable with her, she has a boyfriend but always comes off as flirty an constantly gives me mixed messages, for example asking me out on nights out where he boyfriend is nowhere to be seen (seem strange)\n\nRecently she asked me if I wanted to go do something, and I said yeah, I had a hunch is was just one of those flaky things and when I asked her if it was still on the day before she didn't even reply.. Anyway I'm taking her hint, I'd have took it lot longer ago if it wasn't for the fact she seemed eager to see me outside of work.\n\nSo, my problem is that for the past 2 months, all I've thought about is her, it's effecting everything from my Uni work, to my social life and even other girls I could be seeing.\n\nI literally have blinders on, no other girl seems to compare anymore, and even when an old crush started talking to me I couldn't get the other girl out of my mind.\n\nMy stomach is constantly filled with these butterflys that over time seem to have turned into wasps. \n\nI've gotten over girls in the past I mean I've had infatuations and they've lasted no more than 2 weeks, but this is insane, it's been months and nothing is shifting.", "summary": "developed feeling for a girl who has a boyfriends, I accept it's never going to happen, need to get over it. (not my usually infatuation)"}
{"id": "t3_1v02je", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sleeping with my best friend", "post": "Last night, my best friend decided to stop by my place since it was getting late and she didn't want to make the drive back over to hers. This wasn't the first time and I had an extra bed in my room so this wasn't a big deal.\n\nThe night starts off normal, she and I go bed, and end up dozing off. I woke up to the sound of her coming out the bathroom and she told me wasn't able to sleep. No big deal. To pass a little time, she and I just started talking. At one point during the conversation, I noticed she wasn't wearing her pants (It was dark) and a few momenta later, she came over my bed to talk. Well, one thing led to another and she and I started to make out and take off our clothes.\n\nAt this point, it seemed like an invisible force was trying to prevent this from happening. I should have listened to it from the start and I didn't. I had trouble trying to get hard, and when I was finally able to, I wasn't able to get off.\n\nI don't know what to think. I'm not sure why I was having issues. She and I are going to pretend like it never happened, but I'm afraid this whole thing will ruin our friendship.", "summary": "Slept with my best friend, hard trouble getting hard, and I wasn't able to get off."}
{"id": "t3_31cyuc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Helping Spiders Hatch.", "post": "I was spring cleaning the house and I saw a Web in the corner of the kitchen floor under the cabinets.  I used my phone to look under (using the camera of course) and see the spider bitch and her egg sack. So after slightly freaking out for a moment, I get a wad of paper towels and try to kill both. They are under the cabinet and I can't see them while doing this. It's a \"fun\" game of Did I kill it? Lol, anyway.. After a few swipes I use my phone to look under and I see I got the mom! YAY! Then I move the phone over and I see it. The FUCKING EGG SACK IS MOVING WEIRDLY AND TINY FUCKERS ARE CRAWLING OUT!!!  I had a minor heart attack and yelled for my husband. We sprayed my \"bug killer\" and stomped over and over. (The \"bug killer\" doesn't work too well. It's water, vinager, and soap. It does great with ants!! Spiders, not so much) I think we got them all. I'm not 100% sure though.  Needless to say I'm done being in the kitchen for the day. My husband is finishing the kitchen as I type and calm down.", "summary": "Instead of killing and removing egg sack, baby demon spiders crawled out."}
{"id": "t3_1f3vfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend no longer interested in sex", "post": "BACKGROUND-\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now.  We are both 25 and out of school.  \n\nFor the first two years, sex was great, in fact she would be the one to initiate sometimes, but after college ended and she came home that's when her interest in sex started to go down hill.\n\nNow besides the sex issue things are amazing, she is a great, caring, loving girl and I can definitely see a future with her.  I know she can see a future with me because she says how she wants kids ect.\n\nHowever the lack of sex is starting to push me away and I've tried to resolve it by talking with her.  \n\nI've talked to her numerous times about it, yet it always ends with the same response; She says she doesn't know why she has lost interest.\n\nMY GUESS IS -\nWe are still living at home, so we don't have much privacy (was not really an issue 2 years ago) and she has been pretty unhappy with her job, so she's stressed.  Also we have tried to have sex a few times, but it ended hurting her because she had not done it in so long.\n\nSOLUTION??\nI'm wondering if anyone has been through this who could offer a bit of advice.  Does it get better?  Is there anything I can say or do to solve this problem?  Is it hopeless?", "summary": "trying to get sex life back !HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_3313bc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20F] with my friends[20F/21M] are planning to go to a rave, but a stop on the way has caused a problem.", "post": "Hey reddit!\n\nIn two weeks, I'm supposed to go to a rave with my two friends, who we'll call Sarah and Luke. The rave is in a city three hours away from where we are, and I have to drive two hours to go pick up Luke.\n\nAnyways, Luke sent me a message yesterday asking if we can stop in our hometown so he can go see his psychiatrist. Fine, no problem, just means we have to leave early in the morning. So I texted Sarah to let her know this, and she got upset. She told me that she felt like she was being ditched, and it wasn't a fun road trip anymore, and Luke is taking advantage of the fact that we're passing through our hometown to go see his psychiatrist. She got so upset she threatened to bail on our plans to go. I told her that I'll try to get him to reschedule his appointment, or tell him that I can't pick him up from where he lives. Given the fact he just messaged me today and told me that his appointment is only a check-up, which would take an hour tops, I don't think that's fair.\n\nI'm at a loss here. What should I do?", "summary": "my friend asked to stop in our hometown for an appointment. Other friend thinks he's taking advantage of me."}
{"id": "t3_2ccjeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Problem with overtexting in all relationships, me 24F", "post": "Hi everyone.\n\nI have this issue. Where in the beginning of any type of relationship that I have with someone, I tend to overtext them. Well I take that back, not every type. If it's with someone that I'm really interested in. I become convinced that the person must absolutely hate me now and that I did something wrong and they no longer want anything to do with me.\n\nOkay, now sometimes this is true. Not that they hate me or that I did anything wrong, but simply that they're not interested anymore. And that's fine. I just wish that they would let me know instead of ignoring me. Other times, it's not true at all. The person was simply busy. But because I have now sent off a barrage of texts, the person now thinks that I am overly needy, clingy, and just straight crazy. So essentially I have now created a problem where one did not exist before.\n\nMy question to all of you is - how do I stop this vicious cycle? I know that what I am doing is not normal and a bit crazy but I can't seem to stop. Any advice and tips would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2mno5x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Has anyone ever gone on a 'break' successfully?", "post": "Hello,\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been going out for quite a few years since we were both pretty young. We are both in college right now, finishing soon. \n\nWe are going to be apart for a few months over the winter (trip overseas) and we are now in a weird place and I need advice. \n\nWe are in love with each other and plan to move in together soon after my return. We started talking, and it got brought up the idea of us going on a break while i'm away so I don't have any regrets in the future in regards to sexual freedom and experience (since i have only really had one girlfriend, as she only one boyfriend).\n\nNow it's heating up and we are both so confused. And just have no idea how to approach this. She seems to want to figure her self out more than me, but also is wildly in love with me.\n\nHas anyone ever gone on a break for a few months and come back to the love of your life and continued your relationship? I feel it's a little more one sided because she wants to figure herself out and try new things but still wants to be with me for the rest of her life.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I haven't had any other sexual experience besides each other. We considering going on a break while I travel so we can get 'it' out of our systems. Is this a bad idea? "}
{"id": "t3_oiyqq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, we need to talk about up/down-voting.", "post": "Of course, there are no strict rules on Reddit, but there are suggested \"reddiquette\" guidelines whose purpose is to improve the quality of discussion on Reddit.  I noticed a big problem, however.  Far too many people, perhaps even most people, abuse the downvote and report buttons for opinions they disagree with.  Downvoting stuff you disagree with, but that is on-topic, makes Reddit into the infamous circlejerking hivemind they we all like to make fun of.  Please also remember that reddit allows multiple threads of conversation and it is normal for a comment to be on topic in a sub thread but might not be on topic to the parent post.  I wouldn't consider those comments to be off topic, so context is important.\n\nHere are some guidelines that I personally use and also follow reddiquette:\n\n* 1.)  Comment is on-topic AND you like/agree:  Upvote\n\n* 2.)  Comment is on-topic BUT you don't agree or like:  Do nothing\n\n* 3.)  Comment is off-topic AND/OR lame troll:  Downvote\n\n* 4.)  Spam:  Report\n\n* 5.)  Exception:  Comment might be on/off topic but is particularly funny or an awesome flame:  Upvote\n\nPersonally, I upvote FAR more than I downvote, and I do nothing more than either. This gives more granularity to the filtering as well as allows on-topic but less popular opinions gain a voice, which is essential to intelligent discussion and debate.  Reporting comments you disagree with is even worse and an egregious abuse of the reporting function.", "summary": "Read the reddiquette before downvoting/reporting comments all willy-nilly."}
{"id": "t3_2jr3xz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my class stupid", "post": "This was actually a couple of days ago. I had to give a presentation for this class that I don't like, and the computer I was using was being projected on the big screen. As I was pulling up my presentation file there was a list of files I had to go through in Google Drive and one of my files was named \n\n\"Stupidbullshit<insertclassname>_assignment\"\n\nI was already nervous going into the presentation and conceivably most of my class had seen this file which made things very awkward. I told myself fuck it and pretended like nothing happened. I am hoping that my teacher does not hold this against me when it comes to grading.", "summary": "my teacher and my class saw a file in my Google drive saying that the class is stupid bullshit. AT least it wasn't porn. I know it's not that funny but it was super awkward."}
{"id": "t3_po1c1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Messed around with my best friends girl, help me out please?", "post": "So I went to a friends party Saturday and things got crazy. Everyone drank way too much and my best friend (who came with a girl who he's been talking to for a while, AND they just came from a movie date) showed up and everyone was having a good time. But as I said everyone drank way too much. Later in the night she started to stray away from my friend and flirt with another guy and me. I was fucked up too so I didn't really know what I was doing. We ended up making out and I tried to get in her pants and he walked in. He seems really mad at me and his girl. I would be too. But I just don't know how we can get over this, the girl and I have made amends but my friend says he's cool with it now but I know he's lying. I don't want the whole \"I was so fucked up\" excuse because that's no excuse in my book. The reality is i betrayed one of my best friends and I need some advice. If anyone needs more info just ask.", "summary": "I messed with my best friends girl at a party and he's pissed."}
{"id": "t3_21opsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married man (29). Love my wife (30) but I keep falling in love with other women I meet.", "post": "I guess I'm just wondering if this is normal. \n\nI've been with my wife since the very first week of university, when we were 18, and although I love her very much I very often crave that feeling of falling in love again. I often think we just got together too young and that I've never really experienced falling in love as an adult. \n\nCase in point: I was at a conference for work this week and this beautiful redhead wouldn't stop giving me the eye. All I could think about was going over and introducing myself, but obviously couldn't go through with it (I'm not one for cheating). \n\nSeparately I met another girl and it transpired we had almost exactly the same taste in music, which is kind of obscure. I don't meet people like that very often, let alone attractive women!\n\nIt's not solely a sexual thing. I start fantasising about dates with these women, actually falling for them - growing old with them even. It actually hurts a little bit that I can't go through with it.\n\nI think there is a small element of being bored in a long-term relationship (my marriage is good overall, but obviously lacking in the passion and attention we had for each other at first). There's also a small element of ego, as I have got into much better shape in recent years and girls have started noticing me, which didn't really happen before. \n\nIs this something that happens to most guys? What about women? I'd love to hear your input.", "summary": "Happily married, but I often 'fall in love' with other women, many of whom I know I'll never see again!"}
{"id": "t3_2ye2fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18yo F] don't know whether to tell my ex [18yo M] that i sent his best friend nudes...", "post": "So here's the deal. Me [18F] and my ex [18M] (lets call him Brayden) were dating for almost 2 years until we broke up around the end of last year. The break-up was because of my own personal issues and I let him know that there was possibility we would get back together when I solved those issues. \n\nSince then we've remained close, until a couple of weeks ago he decided I had lost interest and started to shut me out. At the time I didn't know what the problem was and instead of just talking to him I stupidly began messaging his best friend [18M] for attention. (His best friend had always had a thing for me) I ended up sending him a couple of nudes and regretted it straight after. \n\nA couple days after I ended up speaking to Brayden about why he had been distant, it's all sorted out now and we are in a better place then ever. Still not officially back together but I'm wanting it to happen.\n\nI can't help but feel guilty, on one hand I am technically single so can do what I want but I still feel an obligation, even though I feel it would be all over if I told him. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!!", "summary": "Sent nudes to my ex-boyfriend's best friend and unsure whether to tell him in the fear that we might not get back together."}
{"id": "t3_2zyms4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Ex? [22 F] 3 weeks, Breakup... Maybe? Really need some advice.", "post": "Ok so I started dating a girl three weeks ago that I had been friends with for the last 6 months or so. She just got out of a year and a half relationship with an emotionally manipulative guy about a week before we started dating. \n\nToday she texted me that she really cares about me and is scared that this will make me hate her but that she doesn't want to rush into another relationship so quickly and told me she needs some time to sort out her life. I asked her if this meant we needed to take it slower or if it was over and she said to give her some time before we start talking again. I told her that I would be here when she felt she was ready.\n\nMy question to you guys/gals is this, Is this relationship over for good or is there any hope for us?", "summary": "Got sorta dumped by a girl who just got out of a relationship, Need to know if it's really over."}
{"id": "t3_2epueh", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "[Serious] Reddit I need your help, are A Levels and Degrees going to benefit me more than experience?", "post": "The past;\nBasically my names Chris. I left school at 15 and worked for around 6 months (missing enrolment for college on the same year) and after having IMMENSE difficulty landing a job thereafter, I signed up to go to college the following year. However having no luck with jobs etc, I started up college and got to about November when I was offered a very good job in the British Army. I took it and never looked back; and then my life turned upside down when I found out I had a heart problem (this was after waiting around 9 months to actually get in, and was during training) this resulted in the termination of my job.\n\nThe present;\nI'm 19, have an option to go to college and study generic qualifications such as English, I.C.T & Business Studies etc which for the most part I enjoy FOR THIS YEAR ONLY (I have literally NO IDEA what so ever what I want to do with my life) however I currently work for a very good restaurant chain and my boss has told me straight up if I drop college then I will quite easily work my way up the ranks going full time (to manager etc, currently bottom level).\n\nThe future;\nI don't want to stay in the same area for the rest of my life which is the possibility if I stay with my current work; I also do not want to devote my life to the restaurant industry because although I enjoy it I know it's not what I want to do forever. I have 1 chance at A levels which will be in 2 weeks if I go with it, however after gaining them and potentially a Degree after would I be working in the same place anyway and waste 3 years of experience?", "summary": "Don't be lazy read it it's my life here :<"}
{"id": "t3_3gqvr0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading TIFU", "post": "So Im an 10th grader living with my parents (obviously) and my laptop is gone for repairs so I'm here usong the family PC...doing what I do all day Reddit and Chill (if that's even a thing) enjoying this post:  as well as a variety of them. Now my mom called me to do something. What had happened was that the computer in plugged into a serge protector with a giant off switch so my foot caught it and shut down the computer without warning...I'm like no sweat I'll just turn it on when I get back. So where is the fuck up? When I got back my dad was around the computer so I just left to go wank or something and when he started it back up Google Chrome in its fucking majesty asks to restore ALL the fucking webpages and he witnesses it all then he calls my mom then like a minute later CHHHRIIISSS!!! when I get there with my heart pounding in my throat I am roasted and banned form electronics now I'm hiding under my bed on my phone posting this. Now they think I'm into freaky stuff since most of them were NSFW.", "summary": "= Read r/TIFU ,parents saw now I'm in hiding and I think my dad joined reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2kzlae", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "This close to throwing out my friend. Help!", "post": "So i've been having a roommate since late june this year. We have been friends since high school and she didn't feel welcome at the place she lived so i offered her that she could live with me 'till she found something else for her and her five cats.\n\nMy apartment is a small 28m\u00b2 flat and i knew that it would be cramped from the get go. I did also expect her to actively look for something cheap and if worst comes to worst, get rid of the cats to get someplace but now nearing month five and nothing has happened. I ask her if she has found something and i get a long excuse of her having put posters up at the local shops and calling people selling houses if she could rent them, which always ends up with her complaining that rent is too high.\n\nI have an idea that she suffers from a depression because she always excuses her lack of cleaning up after herself as her brain being wired wrong, not to mention her lack of getting out of bed.\n\nI can't take it anymore, I've told her politely that i'd be very happy with her finding something before years end though i doubt that it will happen. I don't like having to be the bad guy but she has a habit of excusing her actions as \"others are to blame\". I'm thinking about telling her in mid december that i want her out before March or i'll throw her out but how can i phrase it properly. Do you got any alternative ideas?", "summary": "helped a friend and she overstayed her welcome."}
{"id": "t3_371f0i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while trying to seduce my girlfriend", "post": "This actually happened a few days ago but I didn't realize until she brought it up for fourteenth time and made fun of me for it how big of an FU it was.\n\nI was skyping with my girlfriend and we were starting to talk all sexily to each other and tease each other while playing Minecraft.  She runs into the house (it was a new world so we didn't have stockpiles of food at the ready) and says she's making \"din din\".\n\nThis is the point where my brain sabotages me entirely and tells me that for some reason, \"boom boom\" and \"bang bang\" are the same thing, and so I look at her and say in the sexiest and most seductive voice I can muster, \"I'd much rather make boom boom.\"\n\nShe still won't let me live it down.", "summary": "Seductively told my girlfriend I wanted to take a dump."}
{"id": "t3_2cjmci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (18F) considering breaking up with my SO of two years (18M) university is forcing us into an LDR", "post": "For starters I've been feeling insecure ever since he said he was going to a university seven hours away from the one I had chosen. \n\nOne reason is because he did something that hurt my trust in him. However, I did choose to forgive him and that was my choice. But it was incredibly hard.\n\nSecond I have been known to get unreasonably jealous and he is a guy with a very high libido. This is a concern for me because we are still young and will be spending a good chunk of time away from each other...\n\nI can't help but feel like something will either happen and/or that I am stringing him down in his \"prime years\" so to speak.\n\nHe's so great but I can't help but feel bad every time I think about starting an LDR with him.\n\nI want so badly to try for us because he's been so great in general, but I don't know if I can handle it.", "summary": "I'm considering breaking up with my SO of two years because I'm not confident that we are capable."}
{"id": "t3_216qqj", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[DECOR] Need help. Out of ideas for wedding decor on a low budget for ceremony and reception.", "post": "Title says it all. Would appreciate some help coming up with ideas for our wedding centerpieces/general reception decor in addition to our aisle decor.\n\nWe're getting married in a garden, so they're providing the hanging baskets around our gazebo, wedding entrance in addition to the natural beauty of the garden. Haven't really had any ideas for the aisle, aside from hanging something on shepherds hooks perhaps. Pinwheels tied together and garlands of paper flowers have been ideas we've thrown around.\n\nWe basically have nothing planned for the reception. I've liked the idea of succulents in old books, since we both love to read and love natural plants and greens like that. I also liked the idea of various painted glasses. \n\nMy aunt has a hobby greenhouse and has offered to 'do the reception table flowers' but there won't be much that I have control over in this situation, what types of flowers, if she'll actually go through with it, etc. So I'd like to plan something that will at least look good without flowers, and will look extra good if she happens to provide us flowers as well (She knows our colors --light pinks, whites, greens --basically pastel color scheme).\n\nWedding is in June of this year, so while I am willing and able to DIY everything, I need to start doing this stuff soon! The decor has been something that I really wanted, but we had to reduce the budget for it, so I am just not as excited to start doing it I guess and would love some more motivation.\n\nPlease feel free to use this thread to show off your wedding decor and centerpieces, as it may provide some inspiration to me as well as other brides.", "summary": "Everything else is pretty much planned besides the decor. Need motivation and inspiration for DIY or budget friendly decor ideas."}
{"id": "t3_333psa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22/M] tell me girlfriend [22/F] of 5 years that I am bored with the relationship and that I feel like she is cheating?", "post": "To you, it may not make sense but there are intangible reasons why I think she is cheating. A tangible reason, though, is because we used to hang out a lot (maybe 3 times a week) and now it's once every two weeks and to me ... that's not a relationship. She keeps using \"family\" as an excuse and quite frankly I've had it. I've asked for her to hang out more but she says she can't change her being at home with her family but it all sounds like bullshit to me.\n\nEither way, I'm just done. I feel like if I don't break up with her, then I'm just going to find another girl anyway. I don't want to offend her though, and she is easily offended. If I say \n\n\"I am bored with the relationship\"\n\nShe will say something like, \"So I'm boring?! Fuck you, you piece of shit!\" and that is not even hyperbole. How do I put her down easy? It's my first girlfriend.", "summary": "How to break up?"}
{"id": "t3_3f7c7l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my nethers frostbite", "post": "So this happened, as usual, about 7 years ago. I was 12, living in New York City in an apartment with my dad, and temperatures were getting to over 100 degrees thanks to that mid July sun. I had just woken up, probably from being too hot to sleep, and not being able to fall asleep, I went into my dad's office to play on his computer before he woke up. While it was turning on I noticed that there was a can of \"dust-off\" next to it, which looked like a great toy to me. So naturally I started blowing around some dirt, moving pencils with my new air blaster, and eventually I even started to blow some of the air onto my arms. It was actually the most pleasant experience, just imagine being under a hot sun in the desert and all of a sudden a freezer opens in front of you blasting you with cool, fresh air. So i decided to keep on cooling down with the dust-off, and being a dude, my nether region was getting pretty hot and sweaty in this heat, so naturally, I whipped off my underwear and started blasting my downstairs with an icy gust. I opened up my game, pinball, and wasn't really paying attention to the dust-off, but I was slowly moving it closer, and closer, so it got colder, and colder. Then, as soon as I started up my game, I noticed a sharp burning sensation. I looked down and saw that my jewels were covered in a white icy sheet from the dust-off. Turns out dust-off is really just a bunch of compressed chemicals kept at about -30 degrees, which get even colder on release. Started shrieking in pain, crying, told dad what happened, called ambulance, rushed to hospital. And that's the story of how I got frostbite on my main member at age 12 in over 100 degree weather.", "summary": "Super hot summer, tried to use compressed gas to cool off, ended up with frostbite downstairs."}
{"id": "t3_36b3hg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Joint Bank Accounts", "post": "First of all, I just want to say this sub has been incredibly helpful, so I'm hoping to keep the great advice coming.\n\nMy (27/m) wife (27/f) and I are finally getting the ball rolling on joint accounts. I'm looking for some help here.\n\nWe were considering a joint checking account, then each keeping a separate checking account (with very small transfers into them so we can buy things for each other without the other knowing, or for other personal things like golf or spa-type things). We also then wanted to just each connect to one joint savings account as well.\n\nDoes anyone have any good experience on which work best? Should we just do one joint checking and no separate accounts? Should we not do a joint savings? Any advice will be greatly welcomed.", "summary": "Which should the wife and I do: "}
{"id": "t3_1o76wz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "taking a break. 3 yr relationship 24F and 24M. Is this it?", "post": "The spark has faded. I don't know if I did everything I could to get it going again, but I know I wanted it and it didn't happen. It's been two months of us trying to make it work. <- I think this ended up being us just not calling it quits, but not actually changing anything we did together. So now, at my request, we're on a break. \n\nDo breaks work or are they just a part of the break-up process? \n\nIs it all doomed to be chemically attraction free? And should I just accept the fact that we get along fairly well as roommates/romantic partners as more than most people get and therefore as good as it gets. \n\nAm I too old to be wanting flights of fancy or am I too young to be worried about starting over again?\n\nHow do I decide to be back in a relationship when I know this may just come up again?\n\nHow do I start over with someone new when this is the end result for any relationship? What's the point?", "summary": "What's next for our sparkless relationship? How do you make a decision like this?"}
{"id": "t3_1y76d6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (16/F) support recently orphaned boyfriend (18/M)?", "post": "The guy I've been seeing for the past two months just found out that his mother (61) passed away. She had been a recovering addict for much of her life, and he hasn't been living with her for a few years. His father, who he was much closer to, killed himself two years ago and up until recently, he's been living with his aunt and twin sister. He and his aunt don't really get along and he got kicked out. Since then, he's been living with his friend and coworker, who've been very supportive.\n\nOur relationship is fairly new at this point, although we've been friends for a while. He's very independent and mature for his age, probably from being on his own so early in life. This is my first real, serious relationship and I haven't found myself connecting with a person this deeply before. At this point, I'm kind of at a loss of what to do.\n\nWe both suffer from depression and anxiety, although his is more severe, for obvious reasons. He's had pretty bad anxiety attacks in the past, and I'm worried they'll start up again. He's also dealt with substance abuse issues, primarily alcohol (not to mention his smoking problem), and I have a sinking feeling he's going to do something stupid again.\n\nAt this point, I really just want advice on how to support him in this incredibly hard time, while also giving him his space. More selfishly, I'm worried about where our relationship will go from here. I feel terrible thinking about it, but I know something like this is definitely liable to put strain on the both of us and I don't want to cause either of us any more pain, even though that's probably inevitable. Over all, though, I'm just worried about him. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother just died, leaving him orphaned. How do I support him when he's already having a hard time?"}
{"id": "t3_ttnlz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can my boyfriend do to manage his exorbitant amount of student loans?", "post": "Reddit, I need some advice on how to help my boyfriend manage his student debt. Here is his story:\n\nHe went to an expensive private school with the promise that he would be accepted into a certain program. The same guy who promised to help him get into the program and was responsible for judging his audition into the program repeatedly turned him down. My boyfriend spent three years there in the hopes that he would get into the program and in the process racked up an enormous amount of student loans. Unable to afford the school anymore, he transferred to a cheaper university, which we both just graduated from. \nNow he is facing upwards of $80K in debt and has six months to begin payments. The way he explained it to me, his parents house is up for collateral if he falls behind on his payments. I know that the debt is a huge burden for him and he doesn't really see any hope for the future. His family is not in a position to help him out financially. I can see that it is taking a huge toll on his mental health but every time I try and talk to him about it he throws up his defensive walls and says there is nothing anyone can do about it. He is a great guy and I hate to see him trapped and hopeless but I don't know how to help him.  \n\nAre there any options he has for managing his debt or anything he should know as he begins to start paying them off?", "summary": "My boyfriend is way over his head in student loan debt. Is there anything he can do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3dbgcj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17F] get over my first serious relationship? (1.5 years)", "post": "Hello everyone, I'm on my phone and fairly shaken up so I apologize in advance for spelling/formatting issues.\n\nLong story short, me and my boyfriend of a year and a half have broken up today. I don't want to get into the details of the breakup but it's been a wonderful relationship and I just decided it needs to end because of various extremely unfortunate circumstances and I'm not willing to let it get ugly and would rather end it on my terms. I'm very rational and thought (still think) I made the right decision. Love does not conquer all.\n\nThe problem is that I was not ready or equipped to deal with the raw amount of emotion hitting me. I know I'm sounding like a robot in this post but I find it a lot easier to express myself through text. As I mentioned, this was my first serious relationship and obviously I knew it would be sad but I just don't know how to deal with THIS. \"Sad\" is not strong enough to describe what I'm going through right now. I'm feeling literally physically sick (NEVER happened to me before), don't want to do anything, and can't stop crying at 10 minute intervals (at best).\n\nThe problem is that I got a lot of very important stuff coming up soon. I have an exam in roughly 36 hours (that I  need to prepare to) and an interview in the next 12 hours for something very important to me. Basically it's a little ironic because one of the elements at play in the breakup was me prioritizing my career over dating/love life and now it's totally taking over and paralyzing me and I have no clue how I could possibly get my shit together like this.\n\nSo basically if anyone has any advice or support or consolation to offer it would be very welcome.", "summary": "civilized breakup, I have literally no clue how to deal with this level of personal emotional tragedy, I need to get my shit together and quick."}
{"id": "t3_1kgu56", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Roommate CoD Revenge", "post": "So, let me preface this by saying my college roommate and I got along great...other than one thing...\n\nI owned the TV that we used in the living room and he owned the Xbox. We came to a mutual decision upon moving in that each could use the other's possession as if it was their own. \n\nSoon thereafter, he developed a habit of walking in after class and essentially kicking me off the Xbox \"because it's mine and I want to play CoD\". Not being much for confrontation, I obliged, and eventually developed a way to get payback...\n\nHe was not the most tech-savvy of people and therefore I had the admin passwords and such for the wireless router. As he would get into a game and get the lead/long kill streak/etc I would reboot the router on him via my computer. He would rage every single time this happened and more or less pitch a fit because he couldn't finish a game. Sure, it would stop all my torrents and such, but it was worth it to drive him to the point of calling Charter to see if the area was having outages if I did it enough times in a row.", "summary": "kick me off the Xbox, no CoD for you."}
{"id": "t3_qkaz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF suddenly changing her behaviour towards me...", "post": "So I'm male (16) and she's female (16) and we've been in a relationship for about three months. She goes to all my classes so I see her about every day. \n\nAnd things was going great the first two months where we got to know each other better and started really liking each other. Somehow lately though I've beeen worried about me being to clingy and talking too much about myself. I've taken the relationship on some advice  from friends and mostly on my gut feeling.\n\nThen slowly over the past few weeks she's been cutting off more connection with me and barely responds to texts anymore. And at class she's said she thinks of school as a place more of friends and we try to keep our relationship more private and not too public. But this has become more intense at school lately where I feel that she treats me more like a random stranger in her class compared to our other friends there. ATM . I feel like I'm the only one taking any initiative in our relationship, like dates, and conversations and so on. She asked me out first, but after that I seem to be the only one taking initiative to do anything.\n\nWe're both planning on studying abroad for next year in different countries, and she seemed to want a LDR, as long as we are still together then.\n\nSo I'm trying to schedule a date or something so that we can talk about this, every weekend (which is the only time we got any time to spend together because of schoolwork and such) she always seems to have plans with other friends. I feel like I'm starting to become an annoying thing in her life, and don't know how to react towards her or what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend for 3 1/2 months is suddenly acting different and being less conversational with me, never taking initiative to text or go out."}
{"id": "t3_ppqs4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just put-in my 2 weeks notice. Why does this feel like an uncomfortable break-up?", "post": "As the title says, I just put-in my 2 weeks notice at work. My bosses seemed shocked and saddened. \nThe strange thing is that they tend to be rather ruthless and fire people with little to no warning, for reasons that are questionably truthful.\nHowever, instead of jumping for joy, I feel saddened and a little depressed. I even thought about taking back my notice of resignation because of how saddened they seemed.\nThe closest feeling I can think of that's similar is when I break-up with some who is obviously not a good fit for me. Which is usually followed by doubts about whether or not I should get back with my ex.\nIs this a normal thing when ending a 'professional relationship?'", "summary": "Why does ending my working relationship feel like I'm ending a personal relationship, given that my bosses are ass-hats?"}
{"id": "t3_2rswvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) have never had an orgasm and don't feel pleasure during sex", "post": "~~", "summary": "I am unable to orgasm or feel pleasure when I have sex with my boyfriend. It's starting to be a real problem and I'm worried we are sexually incompatible."}
{"id": "t3_u3kdz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some \"aha-moments\" you've had in your life that you remember?", "post": "I remember the time I first understood volume, before even knowing what it was. I was playing with coins, putting them in a shallow plastic tray filled with water (don't ask why, I did random things when I was a little kid) and I observed how the water would gradually rise and eventually flow over. I suddenly understood that the coins \"took up the space of the water, that there couldn't be water inside the coins, so the water had to move, and that's why it would run over!\" So many pieces fell into place, like why the bathtub would appear to have so much more water in in when I was in it than before I went in, why I couldn't put too many ice-cubes in my drink without spilling etc. I also understood that it didn't appear to happen in the ocean because the ocean was too huge, so me jumping into the ocean wouldn't make enough of a difference, just like I couldn't really tell a difference after putting just one coin in the tray, I had to put several to see a change in the water level. It's quite an obvious thing, but for me as a small child it was a huge realisation that I proudly shared with my grandmother when she came to baby sit later that evening. I want to hear your stories of small or big things that you've suddenly discovered, realised and understood!", "summary": "When I was little I realised that stuff takes up space. What did you realise?"}
{"id": "t3_17alwx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking my friend's phone with a harmless, yet idiotic joke", "post": "I apologize in advance for not shitting myself and/or getting caught masturbating, so this post will be less-than-hilarious, but without further ado, here it goes...\n\nSo I was in the cafeteria with a few friends and I thought it would be funny to screw with them a bit with the salt-shakers. So I started off by filling one of my friend's pockets with salt while she was speaking to one half of the group, the other half trying to contain their laughter, as they were focused on my prank. She puts her hand in her pocket at some point, hilarity ensues, blah blah blah. So, continuing the theme, I thought it would be funny to pour a bit of salt on another one of my friend's phones as she had unsuspectingly left it on the table, followed up by moderately funny salt puns and playfully mocking her about how crunchy her keys would be. Again, harmless, stupid fun, easily amused friends amused easily.\n\nLater in the day, she texts me \"So you pouring salt in my phone cause the speaker to break\". Fuck. So, of course I immediately tell her that I will pay for it's repair, but she tells me it would be cheaper to just replace it.\n\nRepair fee-$100\nUpgrade-$200\nLuckily she was nice enough to let me off with $50 (although, to be fair, I know a bit about hardware and I could have easily fixed it--I didn't want to come off as rude or stingy, however, so I just obliged to pay). I ended up paying her 60 because I only had 20s and I didn't ask for change as I figured I owed her a bit more than that.", "summary": "I broke my friend's phone by pouring salt on it and had to dish out $60 to make up for it."}
{"id": "t3_2n50vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's [21M] mom [~45F] really doesn't like me [20F] and I'm not sure why", "post": "So I've been dating my boyfriend for two months now and I'm really into him. Just him and his mom live together, and I've never met his dad because he lives in the US while we live in Canada. I've met her about four or five times, and always had friendly but very short conversations. I just assumed she was shy. \n\nAbout three weeks ago, I overheard my boyfriend and his mother arguing and I heard her call me a skank. I was shocked and convinced myself I heard wrong because after all she's never really had a long conversation with me and she hardly knows me at all. I have never been unfaithful or even accused of being unfaithful to my boyfriend before. I only knew I heard her right when she texted him the day afterwards apologizing, and saying she wasn't right to say that since she didn't know me. \n\nBut last night me, my friend [19F] and boyfriend stayed the night at his place after a night out drinking. In the morning, my boyfriend was receiving text messages from his mother (who was in the other room) and she was calling me and my friend whores and sluts. My friend and I left right away and I drove her home. But when I went back to my boyfriends house later on in the day (he invited me) to watch some netflix and hang out, I noticed he was texting super fast and was very pissed off. Being the curious little shit I am I looked over his shoulder and saw that it was in fact his mother. She was telling him that if he continued dating \"this slut,\" he would be kicked out. Along with making comments like \"she's a childish whore,\" she also blamed him for ruining all of her past relationships and said that because of this, she didn't care about ours. \n\nHe's ready to move out soon anyways but I would still like to understand what her deal is, and how I can handle this properly. It's really hurtful, and I really like him. I don't want this to ruin our relationship.", "summary": "Boyfriend's mom seems to hate me, and even told him that if he continued seeing me that he would be kicked out of the house. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3d1sr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19f) witnessed a physically violent altercation between my coworker friend (26 gay m) and arch rival coworker (21 f)", "post": "I've actually posted about this female coworker before on a different account but I'm on my break and typing fast so I'm not going to bother using a throwaway.\n\nI work at a restaurant that is independently owned and operated by a Christian male (63). he is a wonderful boss and great guy all around. two of his employees, Daniel (26) and Alex (21) have always seemed to be at odds. i get along very well with Daniel and consider him a friend. it's worth pointing out that he is very flamboyantly gay, which may or may not contribute to why Alex dislikes him. Daniel is a very hard worker and my boss loves him.\n\nAlex is an equally hard worker, however, she dislikes both me and Daniel. she seems to believe I'm romantically interested in a manager she has a crush on (I'm not interested in him at all, I've told her this) and is very vocal about her hatred of me to other employees. my attitude toward this has to this point been to ignore it as reporting it will just aggravate the situation in my opinion.\n\nhowever, today, just a few hours ago, I saw Alex physically assault Daniel (hitting and punching) because he asked her to butter a slice of toast. Alex is up for a managerial promotion because another manager is leaving and I find her behavior both with me and Daniel to be unprofessional and childish. Daniel came to me in tears about ten minutes ago asking if I had seen what happened and I said yes and encouraged him to report her. I'm considering reporting her as well and am unsure if I should. I don't want to seem like I'm just complaining for the heck of it since I wasn't involved in the physical altercation.", "summary": "coworker who hates me physically assaulted another coworker, unsure if I should get involved."}
{"id": "t3_3xp2r5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] Problem with casual dating", "post": "I'm a 25 yo guy, and until now, relationships that I used to be in kinda just materialised from my social situation (college, friends, etc). Without me actively seeking new partners. I pretty much didn't date and found girlfriends, for lack of better word, willy-nilly. And now, after I got over my last relationship, I started casual dating for the first time.\n\nThe thing is, I've been to a lot of dates, and met a lot of amazing women, but for some reason this way of getting to know them leaves me completely incapable of any kind of emotional rapport. I can't get a crush, whereas I'd completely fall for them in the past.\n\nAm I getting jaded or is it really a numbers game and one should count dates by dozens before something comes up? Can anyone relate? I get that casual dating isn't for everyone, but was just wondering what you guys think.", "summary": "Recently started casual dating, but for some reason find it uninspiring, why?"}
{"id": "t3_202q91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Personal Issues: There is this girl that I [19M] have a mad crush on, she [19F] is just way more experienced with life, what do?", "post": "Yo I'm just going to blurrt this out right here. For 3 weeks now I have felt ridiculously close to set girl, not just because I think she's hot but also due the stuff we do together and such.\n\nProblem is, eventhough this increasing relationship goes both ways, I feel incredibly intimidated to make any moves on her due to her long history of boyfriends and lovers. I don't know what to make of it, really. I can't just go for it, I'll fuck it up hard.\n\nIt's not like I have no idea what I'd do but I just feel incredibly judged in every action I do eventhough I am sure she doesn't do that at all. \n\nAlso, I've never really, uhhm, considered me still having my virginity as bad (eventhough 19 is a bit old of a dude) in this case it just increases my intimidation, though. \n\nMaking this thing alot worse is her ex bf is a sexy motherfucker, so I can just score lower... uhm... halp maybe? \n\nHow do I climb this mountain?", "summary": "Girl of interest had impressive list of previous lovers (not in a bad way), so I am way too frightened to make a move on her."}
{"id": "t3_118fem", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I Screw This Up? 24m", "post": "So about a month ago I was hanging out with one of my friends at a local bar. An otherwise normal Tuesday night in college. Then, out of nowhere, she (my friend) drops a bombshell on me and tells me that someone she knows likes me but is getting mixed signals from me so she doesn't know if she should pursue. This is news to me so I ask my friend who it is. Naturally, she refuses to tell me who it is so after a few minutes I let it go. \n\nFor the next couple weeks, me being me, I'm constantly thinking about this mystery girl. Yes, I probably thought about it too much but, hey, it's not often I find out a girl likes me. Anyway, through some deductive reasoning I figured out who it was (20f). Lucky me, it was also a girl whom I've liked for the past year now but haven't really talked much until this past summer. My friend, however, pled the 5th on everything. \n\nThen at a party, I run into this girl. I decided to take matters into my own hands and go for it. We drink. She gets close with me. We joke and flirt and cuddle. Eventually I end up taking her back to her apartment. We hug, as we've done before, but this time was different. We end up making out for a while and I try to take it further because why the hell not? She doesn't. Note, she wasn't pissed or anything, she just wasn't down for it. \n\nSo we part ways. \n\nWe stayed friendly but nothing to the extent of that night. Now I'm getting the mixed signals. \n\nThen a couple of days ago, she shows up to a party at my place. We hang out and are cool with each other, but she leaves pretty early. I don't know why, but she did. \n\nHaven't had the chance to talk with her since.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl who I know likes me, but is throwing me mixed signals. "}
{"id": "t3_3g7o2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife won't talk about anything important", "post": "My wife talks to me but not about anything important. She says she's not comfortable talking about her feelings and shuts down. She just says she's fine nothing's wrong. She opened for just a second today and said I wasn't the problem she was. Not sure why she's self blaming at first she was saying stuff like I didn't compliment her anymore etc. I wanted to see a marriage counselor but she doesn't like therapists. She was forced into one as a kid. Kinda shut down when I asked her too but she wanted to know how it went so she's at least somewhat interested. So I went by myself. Ok so we've been working a lot and different shifts to boot. I know that puts a strain on a marriage but I really didn't think things had gotten this bad. We don't have sex which I partially blame myself for I'm getting my t level checked on Monday but she never tries with me like she used to either. I'm not abusive or anything I know I've taken her for granted a bit lately but we've just been so busy. I keep reassuring her I'm here that she can talk to me but she hasn't yet. Idk what else to do except keep letting her know I'm here and how much I love her. When does enough time pass for me to think she's given up altogether and just waiting for me to end it? I really don't want that I want to fix things but if she doesn't let me there's not much else I can do. We have a one year old son and I want him to have a happy family. She's 22 and I'm 26. We've been married for about a year and a half.  This problem really surfaced a week ago even tho I know it's been building.", "summary": "Need help with why wife won't open up at all about our problems."}
{"id": "t3_39m7iy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blowing up on my coworker", "post": "This just happened not even 5 minutes ago. \n\nSo, I'm the new guy at work (I've been here for almost 2 years but everyone else has been here for 10+).  It's a family owned Machining business. Due to my role as manager of my boss's side business, I get my own office with a bathroom right next to it. I use this bathroom fairly often because I have IBS. My coworkers don't seem to understand that and endlessly bitch if I even am in the bathroom at all for any length of time.\n\n They bitch because a few times when I first started, they'd need to check with me on something and I'd be using the bathroom. I see how that's annoying. I get it. But it doesn't happen nearly as much as they freak out about it. \n\nSo just a few minutes ago, an older coworker needed my signature on something. He walked up to my office door, saw that I was using the bathroom, and said \"Goddammit (my name)!\" \n\nNormally, I'd just say sorry. But this is the guy who would see I'm in the bathroom and go yell about how I'm \"always on the shitter\" to the entire shop and make a big fucking deal about it. So I was done. \n\nI replied with \"get the fuck over yourself, you fucking useless old piece of shit!  I'll come the fuck out when I'm good and ready!\" Didn't really make sense to say \"get over yourself\" but it was spur of the moment. I hear a ripping of paper outside the door. I come out and see some form (unimportant) ripped in half and see his truck leaving the shop. \n\nAfter talking with some other coworkers about it, apparently he has connections and is the one responsible for over half the machinery in this shop.. The really expensive CNC's and what-not. I never knew that...", "summary": "screamed at coworker, might get fired... Pretty straightforward."}
{"id": "t3_roene", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your help. I just got fired and need to find some writing/photography gigs immediately.", "post": "Any suggestions would really help. I'm primarily looking for people who actually need editors or contributors.\n\nI currently run an [indie-music gallery] (read:tumblr blog) and provide all of the writing and photography myself. I have also written for several small music zines based in Colorado. I've also published a great deal of poetry and short fiction, so contributing in those fields is also an option.\n\nAll I want to find a place to contribute essays or small journalistic-articles on any topic in exchange for money. I'm comfortable writing op-ed on any facet of pop culture, above or underground.\n\nI'm also a lo-fi photographer, but it seems to be nearly impossible to make money from this shit. [Here's a sample](\n\nAs far as education, I'm pursuing an English Lit degree but haven't completed it yet.\n\nPlease help me, Reddit. I need to make rent. And I'm really hungry. \n\nI love you. Have I told you that yet today? Because its true.\n\nThanks in advance, guys.", "summary": "Know anywhere online where I can write shit for money?"}
{"id": "t3_2hhvki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M15] think about doing sexual things with my SO [F16] quite a lot. Is this weird?", "post": "Alright. We've been together for nearly 3 months. So far, the furthest we've done is manual sex (handjob and fingering). I always think about doing these things with her whem we're away from each other as I don't get to see her as often as I'd like yo because of school.\n\nThe question I'm trying to ask is-- Is it weird that I think about it a lot? I always imagine us touching each other whilst laying in bed. I also don't know if I'm just with her for sexual reasons but I love her personality and she's definitely became one of my best friends in a way because we always talk about our problems over the phone. I'm just unsure.", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks it's weird that he thinks about girlfriend sexually too much.*"}
{"id": "t3_1vx6b1", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Meet Captain Meringue and Sonny! (xpst)", "post": "**ORIGINAL POST:**   \n\nPAWS visit tomorrow for Captain Meringue and Sonny - two of our neighborhood strays. Once they heal from their surgeries, they will be ready for adoption. \n\nCaptain Meringue is a couple years old and has an old soul we call him Captain because he's one of the oldest of the strays in the neighborhood. He's a handsome fluffy orange and white boy who loves milk and purrs loudly when he's loved on.  We think he may have had a home once because he so easily allowed us to pet him.  He could make someone a home again.  He doesn't seem to mind the other strays in the neighborhood, and will eat off the same plate along with another cat (so he would be okay in a multi-cat household).  \n\nSonny is a very shy little boy (only a few months old) and snuggles once you pick him up. He has these amazingly long eyelashes that make him look like a little emo-kitty looking through the hair over his eyes. He had a sister he protected, but she died last week (sooo sad!).  We're treating Sonny for the nasty mites his sister's frail little body couldn't handle.  We've caught them with him soon enough, we hope.  He's been a little lost without his sister, and really enjoys the company of other cats.\n\nThey both will make someone wonderful pets! Will you adopt one today? Please pass this on so we can find these lover-cats forever homes.  (Tampa Bay area - Pasco)\n\n**Captain Meringue:**  \n\n**Sonny:**  \n\n***Thank you for sharing!", "summary": "Please give one of these strays a forever home!"}
{"id": "t3_2f7ang", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Thinking about switching majors... again.", "post": "Hi guys and girls, I'm looking for some advice. When I was a freshman, I started college as a Biology major. I didn't have a plan but it sounded like a good place to start. After having to withdraw from my math class and then barely passing the second time around, plus barely getting C's in my core classes,  I decided to switch to English. It was an obvious choice because of all the extra English classes I was taking an acing. I do know the risks and challenges of switching to such a limiting major. I'm now a junior and have been looking at graduate schools for Library Science for a year now. However, the more I think about it, the more I wish I would have switched to Psychology. I've been thinking about having a Psychology minor but I love it so much that it's starting to bother me that I'll be only minoring in it. I really enjoy it, I'm good at it, and there are many more employment opportunities that actually utilize the major. I'm not looking for criticism for my decisions. I'm looking for useful advice, anecdotal evidence that I should or shouldn't switch again, and maybe a little reassurance that I'm not the only one feeling this way. I'll be talking to my adviser later this week and then doing some academic counseling. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Thinking about switching majors from English to Psychology as a junior. This will be my second switch and I don't want to make a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_2xlsy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] in the middle of divorce and questioning a new long distance relationship", "post": "So after having some issues for about a year my wife told me she wanted a divorce after 9 years of marriage. She felt I was neglecting her and I felt that she was pushing me away. That was in November, she finally moved out at the beginning of February after a painful/awkward 3 months. \n\nMy plan was going forward was basically just to do my own thing for a while, which i have been since November. \n\nLast week i met someone at an event being thrown for a friend. The person I met was visiting from out of town. We hit it off right away but could not spend a lot of time together because she has to fly home. We have so much more in common and I feel a much deeper connection than I ever had with my soon to be ex wife(still waiting on paperwork). \n\nWe have been talking everyday and skyping and I have never felt so connected to anyone. \n\nSo here is what scares me, this is very similar to how my relationship with my wife started. Long distance at first but then we got impatient and she moved and we married within a year, everything was fine for a while but eventually our  common interests started to differ too much I think and we were too engrossed in our own things. We became disconnected and never recovered.\n\nThe few people that I have told all this are telling me to forget about the long distance girl and find someone local or not at all and just do my own thing.\n\nIs this too soon, am I repeating my mistakes? I just want to be happy and this new woman makes me so happy. But is that coming from the fact that i'v been unhappy for almost 2 years. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Recently divorced, found someone new but similar circumstances to old relationship, scared, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1nwt72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my ex [27/M]. He wants to meet up again as friends", "post": "So my ex broke up with me over the last 4 weeks. It was a long process where in the beginning he didnt know if he wanted to be with me any longer to being totally happy that we dont have a relationship anymore. Everything was discussed via fb and he never actually said that he wants to break up. But after a while it was pretty clear and he thought he didnt have to say that. \nWe were together for three years, the last year was long distance. So right now I'm sitting in his country trying to figure out what I should do. \n\nWe met on saturday because I wanted to talk with him in person and wanted to know the reason for the break up. It appeared that he doesnt like my personality anymore and thinks we're too different. He wants someone who matches him more. \nI booked two return flights. One is going back on wednesday and the other one next week. And I dont know which one I should take. He wants to meet up again because he wants to stay friends but only at the beginning of next week. \n\nSo if I'm staying until next week it would be because of the meeting. But I dont know if it's a good idea. He broke my heart and I miss him so much. I'm afraid that I'll regret it if I fly back early and refuse to meet him once again..", "summary": "ex broke up with me after 3 year relationship via fb (last year LD) because hevdoesnt like my personality anymore. I'm in his country right now to talk about it in person. Have two return flights. If I take the last one we going to meet up again because he still wants to be friends. Dont know when to fly home, doesnt want to regret flying back early, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2u0qpm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F], and my boss [43 M], how to deal with his know it all personality", "post": "I have 4 years working in a software development department; I started with this same boss and besides the fact he can be a very cool and relatable person, what really annoys me is his \"I know it all\" personality.\n\nMy biggest pet peeve is when people comes and gives and opinion without really knowing the whole story; in another words I hate when people assumes things too quickly and this is exactly what he does.\n\nTo be more specific I was upgrading some code (he's only my boss, he's not involved in the development process) and he came and say: \"You're complicating too much, you don't need to do all that stuff\"; hell yeah I needed to do all that and really bugged me that he didn't even know what was the previous process about. Sometimes he ask me to do something and when I'm in the middle of the task he says \"You don't even started yet, right?\" the only thing he has to do to see if I'm working on that task is to see the process logs before saying that aloud in front of my other coworkers, or at least ask me in a more polite way.\n\nI don't want to be rude to him, I accept I get easily annoyed but I want to talk to him and say my point of view in a intelligent and calm way, is there a way to do that?", "summary": "My boss gives me opinions about my work without being involved in the process and assumes things before even asking; I want to give him a polite response."}
{"id": "t3_33l69v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am going to be at an event where I'll have to interact with my ex-bf's [25M] family. What do I say to them?", "post": "We dated for about 9 months after a 2 year build-up of being friends with him crushing on me pretty hard.  \nEven though we have a lot in common, we were like jigsaw puzzle pieces that just didn't fit together. We could never get along, and he was always really passionate about everything to the point where when he got angry, he'd be complete out of control and  I was afraid of him.  \nSince our split, he's been absolutely heart-broken and has been telling me and everyone else who will listen how I've ruined his life and how I'm so \"ungrateful\" for everything he's done for me, and many other worse things. I know he's just hurting, but it's definitely made me out to be the heartless villain.  \nI know his family pretty well and I've gone on trips with them before. I'll be at an event where it's inevitable that I'll see them. I'm definitely not going to discuss the relationship or try to defend myself or anything , but I feel like the elephant in the room will demand that I at least acknowledge it. I was thinking about maybe saying something like \"I really hate that all this has happened and I appreciate everything you've done for me.\"  Or something simple like that.   \nAny suggestions?   \nI'd be happy to provide more details if needed.", "summary": "I'll be seeing my ex-bf's family at an event after being thoroughly villainized by my ex-bf. I'm not going to try to talk about the relationship, but I'd at least like to acknowledge the elephant in the room. Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2ap0v8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I couldn't stop staring, and now I feel bad", "post": "Age and gender details \n\nMe - male, 25\nShe - female, 24\n\nI'm male, happily married for 2 years. I was out with my friends the other day. I have a foot fetish and sometimes stared at one of the girls' feet. We were indoors and no one had shoes on. It wasn't very sexual for me, and I have no feelings of infidelity. It's kinda like an ex smoker staring  at a cigarette. I think. \n\nI think she noticed. But I couldn't stop and caught a few glances later on. Knowing my luck and how subtle I am, I bet she noticed that as well. Now my question is, does she think I'm a creep? I have no intentions just a wandering eye. I'm feeling pretty bummed about my lack of self control, but how bad does she feel? She's dating a very good friend of mine. Would she have told him? \n\nI guess me than anything else I feel guilty and awful about myself. I'll accept any and all admonishment.", "summary": "probably got caught staring and friend's gf's feet. Have I screwed up badly?"}
{"id": "t3_mzmlb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know this has been somewhat covered, but what are people doing differently who can hook up with minimal effort?", "post": "Disclaimer: a bit drunk/high.\n\nSo here's what I'm dealing with: I'm a first-year college student one month out from a break-up, and naturally I've heard all about college debauchery, and most of my friends here (who aren't in relationships) have been taking part in that, or have had ample opportunity. I'd like to, but I just can't seem to break into it at all. It's not attractiveness - even physically unattractive people just seem to be able to go out and find someone to bring back. And if it's a confidence thing, I spend a lot of time pursuing my own interests and know I'm a good enough looking guy. I know I'm somewhat awesome, basically, and I exude that in such a way that I tend to attract friends. Alas, no lovers. So socially-graceful redditors, whatever ones of you are out there, what am I doing wrong? I feel like there's something fundamental I'm doing wrong. I'm not looking to be a womanizer or anything, I just don't really know where to start.", "summary": "What non-obvious things separates those who get laid from those who don't?"}
{"id": "t3_4q6a9o", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New landlord is tearing down building in a few months. Wants to extend lease. Possible to negotiate?", "post": "As the title explains, our new landlords intend to tear down our building and redevelop it some time early next year.\n\nThey've offered us a 9 month extension through next March at the same rate of $1600, with a possibility of going month to month if schedules allow.\n\nMy hope was to reduce this, even by $100 or more for a few reasons.\n\nFirst, the apartment is coming apart at the seams:\n\n * The carpet is torn and frayed from previous tenants animals.\n * The kitchen is completely outdated (needs new paint, appliances, etc.)\n * The patio steps leading down to the back gate are incredibly unsafe to navigate.\n * Floorboards are broken in places.\n * We don't have keys to our back gate since our previous landlord lost them\n\nWorst of all, our previous landlord had \"promised\" to fix most of these issues, but once he decided to sell he put a hold on all renovations. It makes sense for him, but it sucks for us.\n\nSecondly, we're great tenants. No complaints from neighbors, we pay in full and on time. We report issues in a timely manner. We keep the place clean and have even done some basic repairs ourselves.\n\nThirdly, I can't help but feel we're doing them a favor. A short term lease in an old, outdated apartment might be hard to fill. It's possible, but it'll definitely be more work for them. I feel like we're in an apartment we're not crazy about, taking a risk on extending a lease that helps our new landlords keep revenue flowing while they get building permits.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!\n\nQuick facts:\n\nThis is on the north side of Chicago. 2 Bedroom. $1600/month. No utilities included.", "summary": "New landlords want us to stay for 9 more months before tearing down the building. The apartment is outdated and desparately needs the renovations our previous landlord \"promised\" us. Feel like we're doing them a favor by staying and keeping money flowing, but I fear they'll just say \"fine, leave\" if we ask for a reduced rate.*"}
{"id": "t3_38am2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am graduating soon and want to let my absentee father [57M?] know", "post": "My father left the state (and us) when I was a baby, and long story short, hadn't been seen until I was 7 and my mom was on the way to pick me up from school. He was in and out of my life every three years or so. I now haven't seen him since I was 13. \n\nHowever, I'm graduating high school in less than two weeks and part of me wants him there. The other part just wants to talk to him again. I don't think I want answers. I just want to see him again, as much as I don't want to admit it. I'd really like to have a dad. I'm incredibly nervous and every time I go to text or call him I punk out. What should I do?", "summary": "Dad-less almost-graduate misses his pops, wants him back in his life to some degree"}
{"id": "t3_4s9h4q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] dumped by my girlfriend [18 F] of 9 months after she returned from a one week retreat.", "post": "My girlfriend and I met early on during our first year of college and immediately hit it off. For the nine months we dated we were very happy together, saw each other 5-6 times a week, and never fought. We didn't hide things from each other and it was genuinely a healthy relationship.\n\nShe had always been a religious person, and I had always been a not-so religious person. This was something we had discussed and came to terms with once we started getting serious. I always respected her beliefs and she always respected mine. About two weeks ago she left for a week retreat with her church where she would be working as a counselor with no phone. Prior to her leaving everything was normal and she was extremely reluctant of going no contact for a week.\n\nThe day she came back she blindsided me and told me that she had reconnected with her spirituality and she couldn't see herself marrying someone that wasn't of the same faith as her. That day the breakup hadn't really hit me, I was just in shock. The following morning I was going through all the stuff I had that had any connection with her, planning on returning or trashing all of it. I came across what was essentially a love letter from her no more than two weeks old. Reading it really hurt me and when I was in this very emotional state I decided to text her a picture of the letter, saying something along the lines of \"I have to deal with this, so do you\". Followed by something like \"we were happy together for nine months and you forgot me in a week\". That conversation was a week ago and the last time we had any contact. \n\nI think I may have been over dramatic and I said somethings that I didn't really mean. I want to apologize to her, I don't want that conversation to have been our last. Am I just trying to rationalize an attempt to talk to her again?\n\nThis is the first time I've ever been in a one-sided breakup and really any advice on coping and moving forward would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening.", "summary": "gf dumped me due to our spiritual differences, still in love, unsure how to move on"}
{"id": "t3_otl9j", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Appetite Suppressants?", "post": "This is my 3rd week of dieting and I am starving. I feel like I am doing all the right things:\ncutting down on refined carbs (at most I have 2 cups of white rice in a day, and that's rare)\ntons of veggies (at least 2 cups per meal)--spinach, any leafy greens, carrots, onion, tomatoes, zucchini, etc.\nsnacks are more veggies, fruit or popcorn.\n\nI'm hitting all my nutritional stats. So far I've lost 5 lbs, so no crazy super fast weight loss. And yet, I feel like I have to hold myself back from eating. I am grumbling achingly hungry before a meal, only to be *just* satisfied at the end of it. Which will last all of 30 min or so. \n\nIs there anything I can take or do that will lower my appetite? I've thought of getting Benefiber or something to take in between meals to trick my stomach into feeling full, but I'm not sure if it will work?\n\nStats: 5'3, F, 30, 212. \nCalories allotted: 1800\nAvg. Carbs/day:240ish gr\nAvg Protein/day:120gr\nAvg fat/day: 60ish gr\n\nActivity wise, I don't do much more than take a long walk a couple times a week, chasing my two sons, and I am still nursing my youngest. I know from past experience (I had lost 40 lbs before having kids) that increasing the exercise increases my hunger.", "summary": "Eating a good amount of calories, hitting nutritional needs, starving all.the.time."}
{"id": "t3_pmcm4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the worst unintentional thing you have done.", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the worst thing.... but it's pretty bad and I think reddit will enjoy it.\n\nI was in the third grade and my grandparents were visiting.  Since we didn't have a guest bedroom, my grandparents slept on the bed/couch in the living room.  ( one of those old couches that fold out into a bed ). My brother and I were playing around the house when we suddenly realized.... pokemon is about to start.  We rushed into the living room, quickly folded the bed back into the couch and sat down.  About 5 to 10 minutes into the show, we heard this weird sound coming from the couch.  It sounded like an evil growl from a hydralisk.  We figured it might have been the couch squeaking... until we heard it again.  We jumped up and unfolded the couch and saw something burst out from it.  It was our family's cat.....  We didn't see the cat under the blankets when we folded the bed.  The cat was somehow okay and seemed to be happy again in an hour.", "summary": "Cat stuck in couch and pokemon."}
{"id": "t3_1qd8lt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just need to lament for a second.", "post": "I really just wanted a place to write this down, so I will probably end up not posting or deleting soon after I post. I feel silly comparing this to the problems of others here, but here goes.\n\nI feel like I'm going utterly insane. Ultimately it is an issue with expectations and impulse control, something which is manifested mostly in my use of this website (along with Tumblr and YouTube). There are so many ideals I have concerning myself, but when it comes to implementing actions in real life to achieve these goals it never works out. I always considered myself one of those intelligent yet lazy people, but in reality the more I look at myself the more I realise this so-called intellect is simply an extended sense of self worth and an ability to articulate myself well. My grades do not reflect intelligence. Nor do my conversational skills or general knowledge. And yet I've always prided myself the most on my intelligence, which has brought me to this point. I spend my spare time on the internet or re-watching television programs. I cannot bring myself to doing anything particularly stimulating or challenging simply because I'm too lazy. I am not an intellect as I would like myself to think. My id and super-ego are both overly dominant. So I am a failure because I cannot control my impulses, and an incredibly disappointed one at that.\n\nI will never be thin, I will never not bite my nails and ruin my hair, I will never be a tutor or get an internship in my field because my grades are simply not strong enough. I will never get my drivers license, I will never fix my teeth, I will never succeed at college, I will never lose my virginity, and I will live a mediocre life. I am struggling to breath and all I can do is sit at my computer wasting time. I don't want to die, but I feel like I'm already dead.", "summary": "White girl cries about problems. Don't bother reading if you can't be bothered."}
{"id": "t3_173lde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F20 am considering leaving my fiance (M22) of two years. He admits to putting nothing meaningful into the relationship and sees nothing wrong with it. I've given him multiple \"last\" chances. I need to make a decision before I lose my sanity.", "post": "We've been together for 2 years. We live together, pay the bills together, the whole shabam. When the relationship started he was so sweet and adventurous and willing to go to hell and back for me. Now he won't even get off the couch. \n\nHe admits that he puts nothing into the relationship but \"taking [me] on dates and paying our rent.\" To be fair, he makes more than twice what I do, and yes, contributes more to bills. But does that give him the right to do nothing for us emotionally?\n\nHis insecurities are the second biggest issue. I can't walk out the door or look at my phone without him thinking I'm sleeping with someone else. And just for clarification, I have never cheated in any relationship, and this one is no different. I can't go to my girlfriend's house or to the coffee shop alone for five minutes before he's texting me to come home. I feel completely smothered. \n\nHe knows that I'm done with hearing his apologies. I just don't think he realizes how much it tears me apart to love him so much and want the relationship to be healthy again and to see him do nothing to help while I'm becoming more and more disheartened.\n\nObviously, I'm not expecting him to bring flowers home every day or do everything around the house while I sit on the couch. But I need him to see the happy medium where he becomes my partner again, and not a child I have to care for.\n\nI'm slowly alienating my friends and have no family. I've decided before I'm completely alone I have to leave if things aren't fixed. Bu ow can I make him see? Or should I just leave the broken pieces where they lie?", "summary": "Fiance of two years admits to putting nothing into our house or relationship except paying bills. I do everything else. His insecurities are causing him to smother me, and I need to either get things fixed or break free while I can. Need advice on how to make him realize he will lose me if things don't change."}
{"id": "t3_kiuo8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I stop tearing up?", "post": "I'm 21, male. I have always been someone who starts crying easily, but it's really getting worse.\n\nAs far as I remember I have always been tearing up at sad movie scenes. But in the past 3-4 years I started doing the same at happy movie endings and even articles about some very happy/sad incidents etc. I once almost cryed when I watched just the ending of Cool Runnings aka 'the best slow clap ever' on youtube. It really doesn't take much to get me crying, even some Friends or How I Met Your Mother episodes will do. When I'm alone, I usually don't fight it back, and I'm fine with it.\n\nHowever, I don't want to cry when I'm watching a movie with other people or even in the cinema. I'm really terrified of watching a sad movie at the cinema. A girlfriend once took me to watch 'The Blind Side' and I couldn't enjoy the movie because I had to fight back the tears all the time. I finally failed and just hoped no one would notice.\n\nI don't mind crying in front of my female friends, but I don't want to cry in front of the guys or total strangers.\n\n**(", "summary": ") I cry like a little girl all the time. How do I stop?"}
{"id": "t3_4ti9lo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 35M engaged to my 25F fianc\u00e9e, I have commitment issues and need to make a decision fast about marriage", "post": "I am in a tough spot. I got engaged 3 months ago to my fianc\u00e9e. We've been together for 9 months total now. Part of the reason I got engaged so soon was because I was under time pressure (I explain later). Shortly thereafter I started feeling panicky and claustrophobic. The feeling was not new, I've had it in previous relationships shortly before ending them. This time though I was sufficiently concerned to research the matter, and it turns out that I am a bona fide commitment phobic, caused I'm pretty certain by my childhood relationship with my older brother, who was very domineering. \n\nDiagnosing my commitment problem has been liberating, but as we speak I continue to feel panicky about my engagement. I'm in a uniquely difficult situation, as I will be leaving the country in a couple of months and basically either need to marry my fiancee and take her with me (she needs a residency visa) or break it off, probably permanently, to work out my issues alone. I'll admit with these panicky feelings, it is tempting to break it off... However I love my fiancee, and after all, escaping from past relationships has not helped me to fix the underlying problem. Is it crazy to get married when you feel panicky, in the hopes that you can work through your commitment issues while in a marriage? Any advice appreciated.", "summary": "I'm engaged but have cold feet/commitment issues, need to make a decision quickly due to international move"}
{"id": "t3_cca3m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ask Reddit: Experience with cross-country Amtrak?", "post": "First off I just want to say I loathe the airline industry.  Check in takes forever, the security guards don't seem to have a clue and just profile who they \"randomly\" check.  Oh, and being crammed into a tiny seat then being over charged for a pitiful meal just isn't doing it for me. \n \n\nInstead, I have decided for my next cross country trip that I would like to travel from California where I live to Ohio where my parents are.  I would take the California Zephyr from Sacramento to Chicago then the 30 Capitol Limited from Chicago into Ohio where the family would pick me up.  The problem I am facing is this would be my first time traveling cross country via train.  I have always adored train travel but have never made such a long trip on one.  My question is: what kind of service can I expect?  I plan on booking the Superliner Roomette (can't really afford anything more expensive), but do any Redditors have any experience they would care to share with Amtrak or cross country train travel?", "summary": "I am in the planning stages of a cross country train trip and would appreciate any advice Reddit can provide."}
{"id": "t3_2m5r9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend told me [21/M] about a friend of his and is sort of teasing the idea of talking to her about me.", "post": "Last night, I was texting a friend of mine and he casually mentions this girl he's friends with who, as we both see her, is very cute. I'm not exactly sure why, but he starts telling me about her and it turns out that, on interests alone, we're incredibly similar. Everything from peculiar music taste, to hobbies, to basically everything. (And her hometown is just a few hours from mine, but that's pretty mundane.) Basically, I think she's really cute and I'm sort of in awe at how similar we are based off what he's told me, because that doesn't happen to me too often.\n\nWhen my friend first told me about her, he agreed he would talk to her when he was less busy, then a few minutes later joked and said I should go to Boston (where she's currently studying). He's done this like three times now, and it's to the point where I'm just thinking, \"Oh well.\"\n\nI'm not saying I deserve to talk to her, nor am I saying there's even a chance, but we both agree it seems like we're incredibly similar, and I'd love to talk with her (if she's interested, of course!). I'm getting the impression he sort of has a crush on her, so he's not willing to do anything. How can I ask him without sounding like an asshole/desperate?", "summary": "Friend e-introduced me to someone who I find very attractive, but since I think he might have a crush on her, it seems like nothing will happen unless I confront him about in a kind manner."}
{"id": "t3_34hxvr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I've been figuratively left alone.", "post": "I'm nearing the end of school(im 19) and every day that passes by i feel more alone. I have no friends outside school, and going to university  I will travel away from the capital, away from all my friends.\n\nNow since january things have been cooking with a girl from school. She was depressed, i helped her out, lifted her mood was always there for her. We even got it going for a while and everything was developing ok, until last week. She told me that she wants to keep me for later, because im just too sweet and caring, and she'll burn me out. Now she is also the most caring person i know of and refuses to leave me all alone, but she is kind of killing me. I had developed more profound feelings towards her and now once she \"rejected\" me, I can't really pull myself together. \n\nI enjoy making others happy but now suddenly there is no one. Since we only have exams left, our class doesnt even meet and i have no-one to talk to. I dont want to strain her with my problems, even if she has asked me to. I just don't want to hurt her anymore.", "summary": "Life falling apart, feeling alone"}
{"id": "t3_ewe45", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out a kid messed with my computer behind my back. I'm livid. What over-the-net pranks can I pull to make him suffer the consequences?", "post": "**NEVERMIND: read below**\n\nBackstory, kind of: I love my computer to death. It was the first desktop I ever built, and it's my baby. I've got dual 23\"/21\" screens, so I can understand how it's tempting to play with. However, on my dorm floor, I've established a rule: No one touches my computer without my permission, or else a lot worse will happen to their computers. Naturally everyone on my floor will try to \"facebook hack\" anyone's statuses at the given opportunity, but everyone knows the world of hurt I can do to them. \n\nToday, I found out about a month ago some high school student visiting someone on my floor, with no regards to personal space (sleeping on other people's beds, constantly looking for alcohol on a Sunday night, being generally retarded) decided to mess with my computer when I was gone. Then he added me on facebook (to which I denied him since I didn't know him) because it would be funny, or something. My roommates/floormates were warning him it would be a bad idea, and tried to tell him to stop, but he brushed it off because \"Pfft, she's not here right now.\"\n\nWell, I'm here now, and it's time for him to suffer the consequences. My question is, do you guys know of anything I can do via the internet to make him feel the hurt? It's gotta be relatively tame, just so he learns his lesson. Also, this is going to pose as a warning to those on my floor who ever get tempted to touch my computer. I have an email address that I plan on signing up for spam/porn- things like that.\n\nCall me juvenile, but god damn I can't stand people with no regards to manners or personal space. I found it incredibly rude and immature what he did to not just me, but my floormates.", "summary": "Some dumbass high school kid who doesn't go to my school visited my dorm and acted like a rude nuisance with no regards to personal space, including messing with my computer. What can I do to make him suffer the consequences from over the internet?"}
{"id": "t3_11xo9q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the subreddits that you are subscribed to, that most represent what kind of person you are?", "post": "Thanks to the wonder of the internet, we have Reddit. Where millions of people meet, and share their views on subjects.\nYou can make a subreddit about pickled-sandwiches, and there probably will be at least 40 other people on Reddit, interested in the same thing.\n\nSo my question is: What are the Subreddits that you are subscribed to, that really show what kind of person you are?\n\nMine:\n\n/r/Cooking : I like food, and this gives me a lot of inspiration. Also is a great source for the days when I dont have a lot of time to prepare food.\n\n/r/AskHistorians : I love history, and askhistory has some of the coolest, weirdest and most mindblowing questions on it.\n\n/r/medicalschool : I'm a med student, and it's a big part of my life.\n\n/r/mildlyinteresting : I love this subreddit. I'm always intrigued when I find a tomato with a core shaped like a heart. And this place fullfills my every need.\n\n/r/MoviePosterPorn : This is where some of the best ideas for movieposters get shared, and most of them are simply brilliant. It's also awesome to see, i.e., a movie poster for a movie like Once Upon a Time in the West.\n\n/r/newreddits : Here new reddits are shared. I like scrolling around here for hours searching for interesting new reddits. Awesome!\n\n/r/whiskey : For me, this place is heaven. You can always wake me up for a glass of Talisker 10 or Aberlour. So this place is great.\n\n/r/nothing : This shows the randomness of Reddit. I love it, you go to this reddit, not knowing what to expect.\n\nand ofcourse: /r/AskReddit : Because otherwise questions like these couldn't be asked.", "summary": "Show off subreddits you've subscribed to, that portray what kind of person you are."}
{"id": "t3_24hyrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "On/Off partner [18 F] broke up with me [18 M] again. Now only wants to be friends.", "post": "Okay so my friend and I developed a physical and romantic friendship at the beginning of the year. We discussed dating, but put it off, given that as long as I've known her she has been unable to date someone for more than a week or so. Her reasoning is that she doesn't feel like herself while in a relationship. However, emotions got the best of us and we started dating a few weeks after it began. \n\nAfter about two months, she broke up with me, saying she didn't feel like herself. I was upset but I came into it knowing it would happen. We continued talking after it, and about a week later I invited her over to my house to see a movie. While we were watching the movie, I kissed her, much to her surprise. It grew more heated and I ended up becoming her first time that night. She later told me that she had expected us to watch the movie as friends and didn't think that was going to happen, but was alright with how it turned out given that she was still attracted to me.\n\nFor about a month after that we began dating again, not as boyfriend/girlfriend, but as \"monogamous romantic partners\" as she called it. It continued like this until the prom, where she asked me out again. For a few weeks it was fine, but I noticed she was starting to get stressed out about it again. We had a talk about it and decided it would be better if we broke up.\n\nNow she doesn't want to hang out with me for awhile, and is more distant than the first time this happened. According to her close friends (theyre also good friends of mine), this is because she still has feelings for me. She knows something will happen between us if we hang out and she doesn't want to go through another break up again.\n\nSo Reddit, I need some help. I don't want to date my friend again, given that it doesn't turn out well, but I want to get back into that position of romantic friends. Any thoughts?", "summary": "On/Off romantic partner wants to distance herself from me because she still has feelings for me and doesnt want to be hurt by the break ups again."}
{"id": "t3_1jtq3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend A[27F] broke up with Friend B [29M] after 6 years, I was their (welcomed) 3rd wheel. I have no idea what to do.", "post": "I should address the welcomed 3rd wheel part.  They asked me to move in when I was looking for a place.  We were always a team and I thought it would always be that way.\n\nFriend A left yesterday.  Friend B messaged me today letting me know what happened.  He was blindsided.  He was planning on proposing.  I'm going to be there for him the whole way, because I know this will be way harder on him, but now I'm worried about how this will effect my relationship with Friend A.  I get the feeling that she knows he'd turn to me for a shoulder to cry on, so I think she's dreading bringing it up.  \n\nEither way, I don't want to become some sort of medium for them to talk to each other, nor do I want to hear them vilifying the other.  I love them both, dearly... They're my best friends.  I just need to know what to do to keep the special relationships I have with both in tact throughout this painful break-up. \n\nPlease let me know.  It's heartbreaking.", "summary": "Best friends were a couple; they broke up; wasn't mutual; how do I stay neutral and keep my relationships with both in tact?"}
{"id": "t3_3e8c1z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL, USA] Do we have any rights to proof of rental history?", "post": "Hi /r/legaladvice!  \n\nMy husband and I lived in an apartment owned by a private management company from August of 2014, and our lease ends in August 2015.  The apartment was located in Osceola County, FL and was in a smaller historic building.  We never had any contact with the company itself, only the building manager.  Rent was always paid on time/early.\n\nBecause it would have been more expensive to break our lease rather than let it run it's course, we moved out about a month ago but paid rent through the end of the lease.  When it came time to sign on our current apartment, we provided the new complex with our previous building manager's contact info.  New complex sent an email to building manager, asking for an email from him verifying we had been tenants and paid on time.  Building manager instead called the new complex, and gave a verbal recommendation.  According to the leasing agent, he declined to offer a written rental history for us, and refused to give a reason.  The leasing agent said this was the first time he'd had that happen to prospective tenants.\n\nI called the building manager and requested a written rental history, or just an email confirming we had been there for a year and weren't behind.  He declined, saying he needed approval from the board of the management company to issue one.  When asked what the timeline was on that, he hung up.  He has not responded to any communication since then, except to tell us he was declining a final walkthrough of the apartment with us.\n\nWe ended up having to pay as much of a deposit as someone with zero rental history ($500 more, only half refundable).  My husband and I are young, and this is the only long term rental history that we had.  While we will have 13 more months on record after the apartment we just signed on, we would still like to get documentation for that year of our lives.\n\nIs there anything we can do?  Do we have any rights to proof of renting?", "summary": "Landlord won't put into writing that we lived in apartment and made on-time payments.  Has now cut off communication."}
{"id": "t3_23r08r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21 M) just broke up with my girlfriend (19 F) of six months, having a hard time adjusting", "post": "We weren't together for that long (six months), but I still got attached to her. The break up was something that I had wanted. I got focused on all the little things she did that annoyed me. I found myself making excuses to not be with her all the time. I found myself just stressed and annoyed when I was near her and I didn't feel attracted to her at all. I didn't find myself happy with her towards the end. All those feelings had been coming to the surface over the last month and a half. I tried my hardest to work through it, to get past it, but I just couldn't.\nThe hard part was that before this past month and a half, she and I had discussed getting engaged and getting married. We are both full-time university students, however, in the fall I will be transferring to a different university to pursue my bachelor's and try to get into medical school. When I started getting so annoyed and unhappy with her, I told her that I wanted to hold off on getting engaged. That strained our relationship a lot because how were we going to make it work being at different universities?\nFinally, she brought it up and we discussed it last night. We both decided it would be easier to just end the relationship now. It was really hard - for both of us. I know that this is what I wanted - and it's probably for the best - but deep down, I still care a lot about her and it was hard to see her cry that much and know that I let her down. I keep getting this feeling that she is just mad at me and hates me because this isn't exactly what she wanted. She dreamed of marrying me and so did her parents.\nIt is just hard to have someone be such an important part of your life and then suddenly, after a short conversation, they aren't there anymore.\nI am just having some difficulty getting over it. I know it's only been one day, but it has been difficult knowing that this is what I wanted. If it was right, why is it so hard?", "summary": "Broke up with my GF...it is what I wanted and felt like it was necessary...why is it so hard to adjust and feel comfortable with it?"}
{"id": "t3_317us4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[24] wants to get outside input on my relationship with F[24].", "post": "Hey guys so this may be kind of a rant sorry I'm just still angry. \n\nSo I have been dating this girl for about 8 months. Everything seemed great at first we were lovey dovey and then probably about two months ago we started fighting. The most recent one being today. We had just made up from a fight that had been going on since last week on Thursday. So she popped a tire and I offered to pay for it because she has been driving on a spare for almost a week. So today we drive down there and pick the tire out. On the way home she tells me that was more than what she thought I had to pay and she offered to pay me back. I said OK that sounds good. Since she told me that she's going to cut down on expenses last night when we made up, I told her any money she would normally spend to save instead in case stuff like this happens. She gets really quiet (she does this anytime she is mad) then I ask her what's wrong. \n\nShe tells me that she feels like I'm punishing her and that I should know she doesn't have money to pay me back. She tells me that she feels like I'm just showing her up by buying expensive gifts aka the tire. She just came off as being unappreciative and all I was trying to do was be a nice boyfriend. So I even told her she doesn't have to pay me back if its that big of a deal. I'm just frustrated because she made me feel like I'm the jerk and I am in the wrong. I just don't know how much more I can take. So was I in the wrong?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 8 months got a flat tire. Knowing she doesn't have money right now to buy it offer to pay for it. She flips her shit because I'm trying to one up her. In reality I'm just a nice guy who wanted to do the right thing. Am I in the wrong or should I leave her ass?"}
{"id": "t3_o5vpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dreams tell me I want my ex. Help!", "post": "Hi, r/relationships!! I'll start off quickly by saying that I'm a 20 year old girl who's been dating a 23 year old man for about 11 months now. This guy is the best, he's the man I can talk to about anything and everything at any time... Except for one thing. He's extremely self-conscious about his appearance and gets super jealous of my male friends whenever I'm even talking to them. My last relationship ended pretty nastily, but my ex and I have been talking more lately, and I've realized that I really missed him as a friend. This makes my boyfriend extremely uncomfortable, even though there's nothing going on between my ex and I other than a friendship. I've explained that there's nothing between us, and my SO agreed to trust me on that.\n\nUnfortunately, I'm beginning to doubt my own word. I've been having dreams almost every night for the past two weeks where I'm either sleeping with or being close to my ex. It's getting to the point where I'm getting concerned and it's making it hard to be close to my SO. I can't explain it to him because the last time I mentioned thinking about my ex, he became depressed and said he didn't like thinking about how much I 'downgraded' to him. I love this man, and I don't know why I keep thinking about another guy. How do I get rid of these thoughts, or explain to my SO what's going on without upsetting him? Please help, Reddit, I'm getting distressed!!", "summary": "I keep having dreams about loving my ex, even when I'm committed to another man."}
{"id": "t3_1ojnz4", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Tuning my running.", "post": "Hi! \n\nI've always been a fairly casual runner, but I know I love going on my jogs. I have a couple of routes I love running, and on average I run 8km a session, 4 X a week. I've been noticing though, that my body seems to finally be not taking the stress well. \n\n2 weeks ago, I had extreme soreness every time I took step on the side and bottom of my right foot - I went to a Runnr store where they analyzed my gait and said I over-pronate (?) and favor my right, dominant foot in my stride. What are some ways to fix my stride? I've rested up and have run since, with only small amounts of pain in the following days which I can massage out. I've had a pair of adidas mana 6's for 8 months now, could it be time for a new pair of shoes?\n\nNow, I'm noticing the right side of my right knee is sore - the outer part of my knee gets sore when I set cross legged and it feels quite ginger. It's affected my soccer playing (I run to stay fit for soccer) by making me less explosive because I'm worried I might strain/hurt my knee. Any tips on how to keep my knee strong and free from soreness?\n\nI'm bothered that my normally resilient body is feeling all these niggles, so I would greatly appreciate any advice to help take care and maintain my body so I can continue jogging. I also want to try and step my running up, and want to run longer and further distances. I plan on getting a way to track my time, distance and pace/heart rate via a watch (I just go out and run until I've completed my route and if I'm still not tired, until I'm solidly worked!) - any recommendations would be great because I feel like being able to track these are vital to me getting off the plateau of progress I am at now. \n\nThanks if you read all this and have any tips to help a severely uninformed wanna be runner! Sorry to bombard you all with these questions!", "summary": "OW! My knee hurts. Ow! My foot gets sore. Help please? :D"}
{"id": "t3_471mlb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (17M) and I (15F) get violent during arguments, and I am scared", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for five months, and it was a smooth ride for the first two months, and trouble started to brew.\nWe have both been in relationships beforehand, and I was abused by my previous boyfriend which has instilled quite a few psychological problems in me. A few days ago during an argument, my boyfriend mocked the abuse that happened, and this has prompted me to analyse the relationship as a whole.\n\nWhen I had a migraine a few weeks ago, an argument erupted because I needed silence and I wanted sleep, which caused my boyfriend to believe I was angry with him, for some reason. I resorted to begging for tablets to relieve the pain, and he laughed and kept switching lights on when I had told him the light was hurting my head even more. During other arguments, he has pinned me down, sat on me and put his hand over my mouth and squeezed my nose, has grabbed me so hard his fingers bruised my arms, bent my arm backwards until all I could do was fall to the floor, and repeatedly call me insane, a slut, and a psychopath. He recorded me crying and begging not to be touched, to which he kept reaching his hand out and telling me everything was going to be okay - which was nice however would have been more appreciated if he wasnt repeatedly attempting to touch me despite my protest.\n\nI am not fully innocent of problematic behaviour, however, and I have had my fair share of violence in defence. The last argument we had, I bent his fingers backwards until he stopped touching me, I repeatedly slapped his hand away from me and in previous arguments, I have also teased him and probed him about his sexual history with his ex girlfriend.\n\nI have admitted to him that my behaviour is relatively abusive however he will not admit that what he does is abusive, he admits he believes it is wrong, but not abusive. I am beginning to become scared but I am wondering whether I am being too dramatic about it and if it is not really abusive, and he is simply having trouble controlling his anger, I'm not sure. I need advice.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I get violent during arguments - I need to know whether my relationship is abusive or if I am just being crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_zrs6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend does not associate sex with love, putting a certain strain on our relationship - how can I change this?", "post": "I (22) have been seeing my boyfriend (26) for nearly 9 months now (known him little under 2 years). We are so happy together, and I've never connected with anybody like this before. \n\nHowever, as our relationship progressed, our sex life seemed to become really irregular. After plucking up the courage, I asked him why he seemed suddenly so disinterested in me, despite being totally relaxed with me in every other respect. His only explanation was that he does not associate sex with love, and sees it almost as an act of violence. \n\nI can only imagine that this is because he had many short-term relationships in the past with women he never really connected with. \n\nThis is the only part of our relationship with which I am unsatisfied. He seems to be content without any sex at all, and I am lucky if I get some once or twice a month! It confuses me though, as he always enjoys it, he just seems unwilling to initiate anything.\n\nWhat can I do to make him want to do it more often!? I love him completely, but it is becoming too frustrating to want something I cannot have!", "summary": "Boyfriend won't get jiggy often because he does not associate sex with love. Beginning to frustrate me!"}
{"id": "t3_nnxwd", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I need your help to keep my cat!", "post": "Hey, reddit. I have a seven-year-old female Siamese mix who is fixed and has never given us any behavioral problems. Lately, however, she has taken to peeing all over my parents' bed, and for no apparent reason. She doesn't have a UTI, so I don't understand why she's doing it. My parents are so frustrating that they are threatening to get rid of my baby unless I do something to correct the situation. I'm so afraid that they will give her away while I'm at college, and it's stressing me out to the point where I've cried a couple of times. Help me figure out what's wrong and what I can do to fix this so that I can keep my little girl.", "summary": "Otherwise healthy cat pees on parents bed, and parents want to get rid of her if I can't fix the problem"}
{"id": "t3_2jxrbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my classmate [19F] 5 weeks, strange night confused our relationship. Not sure how to proceed.", "post": "Weird stuff. This girl I've been crushing on came over to chat and hang out around midnight and we ended up cuddling, nose to nose, holding each other, never sleeping, until 9am. There was tickling, butterfly kisses, also biting... She talked about past relationships, about some guy back home who loves her who she doesn't like back, her friends sex life, her kinks, etc. Things one wouldn't tell anyone other than a good friend. I tried to be flirty but it didn't go anywhere. Pretty sure that means she clearly has no interest in me romantically?\n\nWould it be bad to do this again? Should I be trying to move past this, or is there even a remotely healthy way to do this sort of thing with someone you have feelings for, knowing they don't feel the same. They are in my main friend group so being blunt about my feelings would make things really awkward. I'm not really in a position to decline cuddling with anyone of the opposite sex, especially someone so damn attractive...", "summary": "Night of cuddling confuses relationship."}
{"id": "t3_tglxt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you think of children on leashes?", "post": "I just saw a group of about 5 small children walking with two adults, and they all were holding onto a blue leash thing. I took notice of this, and I wonder if anyone else looks at such a sight with just as much curiosity. I didn't know whether or not to judge the adults, but in the end, I felt it was probably safer for the children, but I'm not really sure why it is safer. I suppose it prevents one of them from running off, leaving the adults in a sticky situation - should I leave these other children behind and race after that child so he/she does not get hurt? Also imagine if 2 or more of the children started running in different directions. How does an adult manage that? \n\nReddit, do you think children should be put on leashes? What do you think society thinks of it? I feel society feels like it is abnormal to see such a sight, maybe even cruel, but in the end, I personally think it is best for the children and the adults. Children are not predictable and can do something scary like run off into the middle of the street, and when you are with other children you cannot abandon them to go chase down that other child.\n\nI think children leashes have a bad reputation, and I'm not sure if I'd ever use one,but if they were more acceptable, it would make me feel a lot more comfortable knowing that if I had more than one child with me and I was responsible for their care, that none of them would be running off leaving me in a terrible, split second decision making situation that could end up badly.", "summary": "Leashes are not a bad idea when there are more kids than adults and the adults fear the kids may run off on them"}
{"id": "t3_p5p1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Attracted to a friend, but I have a boyfriend, not sure what to do.", "post": "Alright, so my boyfriend (20) and I (19, female) have been dating for a little less than two years.  We were friends in high school and ended up going to the same college, and have been dating our entire time here.  He took this year off to work, and is living about an hour away.  He visits about once a week.\n\n.\n\nThe other aspect of this is my friend X (20).  This year, I've been spending most of my free time at X's place, which he shares with one of my other friends.  With BF living out of town, X and I (and my other friend) have become pretty close friends.  The problem is that I've begun to have feelings for X.  I don't really want to date him persay, but I love being close to him, and I'm rather, well, sexually attracted to him.  He seems to have similar feelings for me, though we haven't discussed the situation outright.\n\n.\n\nIt would be easier if I just wanted to be with him instead of my boyfriend, but I still really feel like I love my boyfriend and want to spend my life with him.  I know I'm awfully young, and things could change a ton, but I want to make the point that I don't think I've fallen out of love with BF.  I still really enjoy his visits, we tell each other pretty much everything (except for this), the sex is great, we have a lot in common, etc etc.\n\n.\n\nThe \"ideal\" situation would be keeping things the same with the boyfriend while also fooling around with X, but I won't cheat, and I think polyamory/an open relationship is out of the question.\nThe other obvious solutions are breaking up with BF (which I really don't want), or making myself just get over my feelings for X, but I think about him all the time.\n.\n\nOf course I'm going to discuss the situation with my BF the next time he visits, but I just wanted some outsider opinions on how to proceed/what I should do.  Thanks everyone.\n\n.", "summary": "Still in love with boyfriend, but struggling with strong feelings for a friend."}
{"id": "t3_359tk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23M her 23F. Should I try and continue this, or just let it be?", "post": "So I met this chick about a week ago and we've been texting and snapchating like crazy. We have both expressed interest in each other, and things were going pretty good. We had a date lined up for this weekend, and as I was trying to finalize plans, she mentioned that she randomly moved to a town about 2 hours and some change away.\n\nWhen I asked codename Snot what happened, Snot said that she wasn't going to really go into details, but that it was going to be for a couple days. I've been flaked on before with this, so I asked her flat out if I needed to back off. Snot said no, that I wasn't intruding or anything. I told her I didn't want to overstep any boundaries and she was adamant I was fine, so I let it be.\n\nI've been flaked on before with this excuse, so I asked Snot what happened, because honestly I felt like I was just played for a fool and was pretty pissed off. Well come to find out, Snot was in an abusive relationship with this guy she lived with, and needed to get the fuck out of there. I'm really glad she did, and I had said that I hope I get to see her again. She said she really hoped to see me again as well, and I hinted a couple times that I'd want to schedule a date if she was down, and both times she said she was down, but never gave a for sure yes, which granted that it is early in the AM for us right now.\n\nThis is the first chick that has actually ever shown interest in me in years, and the last thing I want to do is be pushy, ESPECIALLY considering what I just found out. However I also don't want to wait around for something that isn't going to happen.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Met this girl, we showed major interest in each other. She moved really far away for her own well being, wondering if I should continue this or not."}
{"id": "t3_s5omh", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Socially lost college freshman", "post": "I'm a second semester college freshman and I feel lost socially. People seem to like me and accept me, but I'm never invited anywhere nor do they ever text me when they're going to meals. I usually find them on my own (although they never complain that I eat with them), or I'll text them when they're going to meals.\n\nMy guess is that I'm awkward and unintentionally annoying. In fact, one of the people in the groups I normally eat with, \"Bob\", called me annoying and indirectly asked me to leave. No one there in the group defended me, although one person later texted me and said don't take it personally (and Bob's opinion wasn't representative of the entire group). \n\nThese people do live in other parts of the dorms, and they hang out frequently. I'm at a disadvantage for being in a different room.\n\nI've made friends, but at times I feel awkward and/or unliked (or maybe that's just me). \n\nWhen I ask people if they want to do something on the weekend, I'm told they're busy with other stuff. A whole bunch of guys rushed frats. I tried rushing twice and failed. (I'm not a partier or a drinker, so maybe it was for the best. Besides, a lot of the senior frat bros come off as douchebags.) One guy I texted about weekend plans hasn't responded to me, and another person who I facebooked said he was going home for the weekend (even though spring break was last week). My instinct says that people are doing stuff without me on purpose, although that may just be stemming from unresolved issues (and maybe all of these issues are in my head and I just have to deal with being alone on the weekend).\n\nI'm part of one organization on campus, but that's it. Everything else is uninteresting to me (and there seems to be a lot of Greek representation in these organizations, including student government). I'm a film major so I'm looking for sets to crew, but it's not every weekend.\n\nI'm in counseling trying to figure out what to do, but I'm so fucking lost.", "summary": "I'm having trouble socially in college. I think people like me, but when I ask people if they're interested in doing something over the weekend they say they're busy. I can't help but wonder if these people are purposely doing stuff without me. There's nothing really interesting on campus. I think if I died tomorrow nobody would care."}
{"id": "t3_1t3yxv", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running through pain from muscle soreness?", "post": "I have been running on and off for about a year now. Usually 2 miles a day on the treadmill for a month or so and then I stop going to the gym for a while. \n\nI really want to form a habit of going to the gym every day and I started going back last week. On Tuesday of last week I felt some extreme tightness in my calves, hamstrings, and quadriceps (I think) the moment I stepped off the treadmill. The following day I was too sore to run. \n\nOn Thursday I took it extremely easy and I rested the whole weekend. I went back to the gym yesterday excited to get a good run in and almost immediately after I began I felt the exact same soreness but it was also pretty painful. I'm not sure if running with this soreness will cause further damage, or if it's something I should just power through.\n\nAlso I broke my right leg several years ago and experience soreness there and am wondering if it might be causing me to put more weight on my left leg which is in turn causing the soreness.", "summary": "Extremely sore leg muscles, wondering if it's okay to power through the pain and run anyway."}
{"id": "t3_pr7zs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most baffling thing a coworker of yours does all the time?", "post": "At my work, we have one unisex bathroom. The toilet paper dispenser holds two rolls of toilet paper, and has a lock. The key is kept in the main office, and is as far as I know the only key for the paper dispenser. The extra TP is kept in a locked room next to the bathroom, which EVERYONE has a key to open. \n\nThere is one of my coworkers, who when they find one roll of the TP has run out (meaning the core and rod are on the bottom and the top roll has fallen into use), opens the TP dispenser, takes out the empty bottom roll, and puts it in the top, without putting any TP on it.\n\nI can't count the number of times I've found almost zero TP left on the bottom roll, and the top is empty. The top should never be empty. If you had to go get the key, why couldn't you grab another roll of TP?", "summary": "Coworker tricks me with TP."}
{"id": "t3_2h1wjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my BF [23 M] of 10 months, I need to get over sexual insecurities [NSFW?]", "post": "I'm posting this on a throwaway because some of my friends know my regular account and I feel kind of embarrassed about this. \n\nSo, I've been dating my BF for 10 wonderful months now. He is the most loving, amazing guy I have ever dated and I am so happy with this man. \n\nNow before we got serious we had a little talk about our sexual past and former partners. Just touching on the bases and I am a firm believer in not knowing too much since I don't think anything good ever comes from it. Therefore I don't know any sort of number, I only know that it is high. \n\nThis really didn't bother me at first and I thought to myself the past is in the past. However, once in conversation it came up that one of his ex flings was a prostitute before they had a short fling and then went back to it after they stopped seeing each other. The fact that she was a prostitute didn't really bother me, prostitution is legal in his home country and he was young(and just if anyone thinks to ask, yes we have both been tested for STD's). I can't for the life of me remember why this even came up and he didn't go into any detail. \n\nFor a few days afterwards I was fine but then of course some insecure thoughts started creeping into my head. How could anything I do in bed ever compare to woman that was a professional sex worker? How could I possibly be anything special compared to all the women he had been with before me. Surely there must have been many much much better than me. \n\nThis is a nagging thought always on my mind. Even when we are having sex it bothers me and I get insecure about my performance Sometimes I'm worried that maybe he's imagining he's with someone else from his past that was better than me. I seriously cannot enjoy sex anymore because I'm worried I'm not performing well enough. \n\nHow can I shake this feeling? I know the logical thing is just not to think about it but the thought keeps popping up and making me sad. I don't want to ruin our sex life because of my insecurities.", "summary": "BF sexual past is making me insecure and ruining sex for me. How can I get past my insecurities?"}
{"id": "t3_4ikf7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25 F] with my 28 M] 3 months, Found out I'm pregnant?", "post": "I just found out I'm pregnant, I've been on the pill and I've always been so careful about taking it. Something just didn't feel right so I took a test and it came back positive. We've only been together 3months so it's not even a serious relationship.\n\nI know people will condemn me to hell but I can't keep it. I can't afford a child and I'm just not ready for kids and I know the father of the baby doesn't want kids until another few years. I don't think I've ever been so disappointed in myself or scared. If you didn't want kids would you still want to know if your girlfriend was pregnant ?", "summary": "Should I tell him ? Would you want to know?"}
{"id": "t3_xkcuy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know what is in my head and what's not?  Does he like being with me?", "post": "My boyfriend (20) and I (19) have been together for just over four years.  We are long distance during the school year because we are both college students, but live 10 minutes away during the summertime.  When we are not in the LDR situation, we try to see each other every day, even if just for an hour or two to cuddle, watch a movie, go on a date, etc.  This has never posed a problem in the past, and I think it has actually really strengthened our relationship.\n\nThis summer, though, I feel like he doesn't really want to be with me when he has free time.  He says he does, but I feel like almost every chance he gets, he makes up an excuse to stay home or breaks off our plans.  He tells me that he loves me and that he loves spending time with me, but he never wants to stay overnight at my house like he used to, and I don't really think he likes when I stay at his either.  \n\nI guess it's likely that he just wants a tiny bit of space, but it feels like such a dis, and makes me feel like the neediest girlfriend in the world. \n\nI've tried to ask him about it and tell him that I have these feelings, but he just denies that he has any objection to seeing me when he's free.  Do I just believe him even though his actions tell me otherwise?", "summary": "Boyfriend (20) of 4 years says he wants to spend time with me, but his actions are telling me otherwise.  Do I believe him, even though I feel rejected by his excuses not to?"}
{"id": "t3_146r7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "20 (f) pursuing 28 (m). is age just a number?", "post": "So I met this gentleman in one of my upper division courses, and my jaw literally dropped the first day of classes... he is gorgeous. We became friends though chit chat in class.. We hung out a 2 times at his apartment to smoke, and listened to music and talk, and found that we have SO MUCH in common, there is a real chemistry. We sat on opposite sides of the room, so I was under the impression that he was not interested, as he always reminds me how young I am ( not in a bad way,  i.e' \"you are going to experience so much when you are 25, it will change your life..\"). Anyways, we hang out another time, and he kisses me. so we're making out, and he tries to do more, but i reject him, not because i wanted to but because i didnt feel at my prime( i didnt shave my pits), as i was under the assumption we were just friends.\nSo we talked... and I end up leaving. Things were awkward at the goodbye... i kissed him but wasn't sure if i should have.\n\nMy question, Reddit, is .. is he truly interested in me? Did i ruin things by rejecting him? Or did he just want a hookup (he is very attractive and intelligent, his aesthetic proves he could acquire any lady he wants...)?", "summary": "Is age difference so important if the chemistry is right??"}
{"id": "t3_28o4sf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24F] with my BF [24M] of about 2 years, losing the \"spark\"", "post": "So this is my first time posting here, throwaway btw. I never really check this subreddit out but it seems there's some good advice to be had.\n\nSo I've been in a long-distance relationship for some time now, and it was great in the beginning. You know, visiting each other somewhat often and talking every day when we aren't (we still do). But lately, maybe for the last six months, or more, I'm not sure, I've just not been feeling it. I can't help but feel like there's always something wrong, always something to argue about and it's often about the same thing. On his side I guess it's that I don't care enough, or I don't appreciate him enough.\n\nOn my side, I guess the problem I'm having is that he has a problem with me, far too often. I just can't handle the amount of stress it's putting on me, and it feels awful because I am, and have been, trying for quite some time. And when things finally seem to calm down, he has a problem with me again about something similar.\n\nI wish I could be more specific but it's really hard to keep track of arguments without keeping a diary... Sorry about that. \n\n\u00a0\n\nI was wondering if people had similar problems, and how they dealt with it? I know that it can't go on like this, but it's long past just fixing with a handshake and a compromise. What do?", "summary": "LDR losing spark due to incessant arguing, please advise."}
{"id": "t3_2fggr2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Exercise bike calorie counter.", "post": "I recently decided to be more thorough about losing weight. I was losing weight at a nice speed about a year ago, roughly 1lb a week. Then we had a baby and got all the weight back. The exercise I was mostly doing was on an exercise bike in front of my pc. I set up a playstation controller so I could cycle and play games and watch youtube videos and netflix. It works quite well and I usually spend 1- 1 1/2 hours on the bike.\n\nAnd now on to the question. My bike says in my last cycle I burned 350 calories in 90 mins ( I know I cycle slowly. It's kinda in the background as I play or watch videos. It's usually about 10 - 13 mph). I just started on a website called sparkpeople and they list exercises and when I added the exercise as 90 minutes it said it should be 900 calories for exercise bike <12mph. \nDoes anyone know why there is such a big difference?", "summary": "Why does my calorie counter on my bike read as 30- 40% of what websites expect me to burn on my exercise bike? and which is more accurate."}
{"id": "t3_33dzln", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a violent fight with a rebellious umbrella.", "post": "So this happened today actually, just a few moments ago. \n\nI was walking home from school, it was windy as hell. Like windy as in a sand storm without the sand. I was picking up the pace, I just wanted to get my ass inside. All of a sudden I felt a drop, see I bring my laptop to school, and I am protective of it. So I make sure its safe at all times, and to not get it wet I take my umbrella out and cover my backpack. Now the wind is coming right in my face so the umbrella goes inside out. I move it directly in front of me and begin jabbing the air over and over to try to get it back to normal, while I'm doing this people are looking at me with weird looks.\n\nThis umbrella wanted to rebel. The wind pushed it in my head several times causing the umbrella to ram my head. The wind would sometimes come from random directions and literally spin me around. During this time the rain went on and off, on and off. First time, I thought this rain was gone for good I tried to close the umbrella up. The umbrella rebels. The wind keeps pushing it open. So now I am violently trying to close this umbrella while constantly jabbing it in the air. Finally when I am near home, it gets sunny.", "summary": "Nature hates me so it possessed my umbrella"}
{"id": "t3_41ouep", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Investing student funds?", "post": "Hello r/personal finance,\n\nI am a univesirty student in Canada, and i have recently been graced with money from my family to pursue my studies. If i consider my current budget to be  stable, i have an extra 3000$ i would like to invest. Thing is, the other \"lump sum\" i need to cover my school and living expenses in  a regular savings account at next to no return.\n\nThis said, my plan was to put that \"lump sum\" in a CELI account to at least get inflation roughly covered (the rates are around 1.5%). \n \nWith that extra 3k i really am kinda stumped. I have some energy stocks with are (obviously) really tanking these days, bonds are out of the question at the rates they're at (far worse than CELI), and CDN is worth around 68cents which pretty much rules out ETFs out of Canada. I was thinking maybe canadian equity would be better though?\n\nWhat do you think of this plan of action? Thought/comments/criticism very welcome!", "summary": "I have 20k as a student and only need 17 for education, is 17k in a CELI and 3k in canadian equity a good plan with markets being what they are? (in canada)"}
{"id": "t3_qd1bi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm thinking of changing careers and I really need some help...", "post": "I've been wanting to work with animals since I was very little and always had the dream of being a zookeeper. When I got older and was in high school I was under the impression that it would be very difficult to get a job in that field and got a bachelor's degree in Speech-Language Path. While I was getting that degree they passed a law saying that you can only work as a Speech-Language Pathologist if you have your master's. I haven't been able to get into a master's program and working at my part-time job makes me realize how much I don't like this office kind of environment and how much I would like to work with animals. My only problem is that I'm incredibly squeamish and could not work at a vet's office. I've done some searches on Google and all of the information is kind of vague. I read about becoming a dog trainer or a groomer but I can't figure out how difficult it would be to find a job in any of these fields. Are there other jobs? I need your help!!", "summary": "I'm tired of my stupid office job and I want to work with animals but want to avoid blood and needles."}
{"id": "t3_407hu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting Over An Ex Sexually", "post": "Me (20M) and my girlfriend (20F) of over a year broke up several months ago. With the help of some friends, family, and Reddit, I can now say I'm completely over her emotionally. The problem is, I can't get over her sexually or physically. \n\nWhile we dated, I couldn't believe I was dating someone as attractive as her, she was way out of my league. I sometimes catch myself comparing another girls body with hers, which I know I shouldn't do. She was also my first sexual partner, and with her I developed a very large sexual appetite with some kinks. We were extremely connected in bed, and sex was a huge part of our relationship, but in a very healthy way.\n\nSince we've broken up, I've moved on and have started seeing other girls, though nothing serious. I believe I'm ready for another relationship when I find the right girl, but I'm worried I won't find someone I'm as physically attracted to as my ex, or someone that'll be as sexually open as my ex.\n\nI don't want to find myself with a girl and constantly comparing her to my ex, but I'm scared I might. Does this mean I'm not fully over her? Will my sexual urges subside in time?", "summary": "Worried sex won't be as good as it was with ex"}
{"id": "t3_1oam9u", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost 50 pounds. I look better but I'm kinda feeling like a prick.", "post": "I had been in some bad habits: eating crap and sitting on my ass. I got up to 235 pounds and broke up with my girlfriend. That's when I decided to change my lifestyle.\n\nI began biking to work instead of taking the bus. I used to play basketball in high school (im 32 now) so I started playing again regularly. Also I started counting calories with an app on my phone and I am disciplined about sticking to my calorie limit.\n\nNow it's 6 months later and I am down to 185. I feel the changes I've made are permanent changes so I don't see myself going back to my old unhealthy ways. I feel good; I look a lot better; and I am still losing weight at a steady pace. All good stuff but I do have one problem:\n\nI have grown extremely judgemental of overweight people. I know everyone's body is different and some people have glandular issues and there's food addiction and blah blah blah. But I just can't help thinking that if I could lose weight, anyone can do it. It's just a matter of hard work.\n\n So when I see overweight people, in my head I really hardcore judge them. I just assume that they're lazy because I know I got fat because I was lazy. I work with a lot of overweight people and I have some family members who are overweight and sometimes they just disgust me. \n\nI don't know what I want from reddit out of this post. I feel bad for judging people but I just can't get these thoughts out of my head. Any replies are welcome. Feel free to call me an asshole if you want, or feel free to empathize.", "summary": "I was fat not very long ago and now that I'm getting healthy I've become really judgemental about fat people."}
{"id": "t3_23n7hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my ex [16F] of 7 months, high-school relationship ended over another guy", "post": "I know it's young love and you 'eventually find someone better' and all that stuffs, but it hurts right now and I feel like speaking my mind here...\n\nSo, just after 7 months with my ex (hereafter, M) is told by her best friend (a guy, hereafter, L). L had always been a threat to me and I had often question M about him. She'd always tell me that \"he was like a brother\" to her and \"I would never leave you for him\" (f*cking young love, aye :/) \n\nAnyway, she's quite conflicted and confused at this point. One day she chooses to stay with me, the next she's distant from me. Eventually she calls it off. The reasoning? \"I just don't want guys at the moment. I'm not choosing either of you\" Weeks after this she's prancing all over him, they be giving each other hickeys and ugh.\n\nI get that, there's probably no way back from here. I guess all I'm asking is what to do/how to cope with it all? I feel like I kinda have moved on, but the fact she's giving herself up to another guy, when there wasn't much wrong with us. (another quote from her \"you did nothing wrong\", and she's so adamant about that) Please don't be too harsh, Reddit, I'm just very lost atm :) I understand I'm still young and shit but, it hurts atm", "summary": "High-school relationship, girl left me for another guy, hurting/miss her, how to cope?"}
{"id": "t3_2mmgp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A woman [28F] tried to have an affair with my [23F] fiance [26M]. Now my future mother-in-law [51F] wants her to be involved in my wedding.", "post": "The woman moved back to the area with her husband and children a little over a year ago. She effectively tried to have an affair with my fiance, sexting him/inviting him to have sex/etc.\n\nShe was pretty relentless about it, but when he threatened a restraining order she backed off. She hasn't contacted him since then.\n\nHowever, there is a problem: her parents are close friends of my fiance's parents. \n\nWe never told his parents (or hers) about this because we thought the it was dead and buried.  However, now my future mother-in-law is insisting that I invite this woman to things like the wedding shower, ceremony and reception, and even bachelorette party. \n\nWe do not want her involved in our wedding, or our lives at all for that matter.\n\nHow should we handle this with his parents?", "summary": "A woman tried to have an affair with my fiance. Her parents are close friends of my fiance's parents, and my future MIL wants her invited to our wedding. We do not want her there. How do we handle it with future MIL?"}
{"id": "t3_10zc84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf[18] of 6 months still talks to ex and it bothers me i'm 19m", "post": "Well me and my gf have have been dating for 6 months shes 18 and shes in her senior year of high school and i'm 19 and every once in a while she talks to her ex. They have dated for two years and he was her first love. Every now and then i see them talking and i don't know if i'm being insecure or paranoid but it bothers and hurts me. I told her that it bothers me but she can talk to whomever she wants because i'm not going to put rules on the people she talks to. But what bothers me the most is that he puts her down and calls her names and she still talks to him, i asked her why she would continue to talk to him and she responds with \"I like to think people change, so i forgive him\". My instincts tell me she still loves him very deeply and i'm getting very paranoid about it and i have no idea what to do.", "summary": "Gf still talks to ex and i need advice how to handle the situation"}
{"id": "t3_3f421f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [21 F] 6 months, am I being unreasonable with all of this?", "post": "I'll start this by stating that me and my girlfriend spend a lot of time with each other, we do nice things for one another, we get along very well and have frequent sex. She told me she loves me about a month ago and I told her I love her as well. We are very affectionate as well with each other.\n\nSo my girlfriend offhandedly mentioned the other night after sex that she wishes she could blow me while I fuck her. I agreed that sounds pretty hot but now I can't stop thinking that she is wanting to have a threesome (we agreed not long ago that neither of us would want to see the other have sex with someone else). \n\nAnyways, would it be messed up for me to almost bait her into it just to see if she would want to do it? Like just asking \"Hey about what you said the other night, it sounds like you want to have a threesome with another guy?\". It would crush me deeply inside if she said yes as I would never want to see another guy doing anything with her and she knows it... I think this would be a deal breaker for me as I have thought about whether we have a future together, because I think we do at this rate. If she says yes to this it essentially means she isn't satisfied with only having sex with me and is seeking more, and I take that as a possibility for future cheating or that I am just wasting my time in this relationship.\n\nThis is my first serious relationship so I'm probably sounding like an idiot here but could really use some advice, I really love this girl and have no current plans of leaving her. I don't think I'm being entirely unreasonable though, before we started dating she was sexually 'adventurous', she had sex with 6 guys in the span of a year after breaking up with her two year boy friend, she said she regrets most of them and considering that she waited until 18 to have sex makes me think she does have the will power... But whats stopping her from exploring again? This is eating away at me, advice is extremely appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend makes offhand comment and I might be misinterpreting it and just being jealous... Should I try to get an answer out of her even though I don't want it to be true?"}
{"id": "t3_3bkker", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to watch Ted 2", "post": "So this fuck-up happened about 2 hours ago. I'm 14 years old and I went with 3 of my friends to go see Ted 2. We were having a good time until one of my friend's habits of being annoying as fuck began to occur. He wouldn't stop making weird noises with his nose and mouth and he would yell out random shit during the movie. Then he kept asking us for money, and me and the other two of my friends told him to shut the fuck up. Then, things got out of hand and we started throwing shit at each other. I threw an empty red bull can at him, and he retaliated with a monster can with a bit of something in it. Here's where the fuck up happened. My first instinct was to throw a half empty plastic water bottle at him and guess what, it hit him. But, he deflected it with his arm and hits a girl sitting in the row below us. Her and two of her friends look at us like \"what the fuck dude.\" Then they didn't say anything until the movie end. I felt bad and I went to go say sorry and tried to explain what happened, but they just said \"fuck you guys\" and left. These guys were in their twenties and I was scared. I thought I was gonna get jumped.", "summary": "Went to go see Ted 2, Had a fight with a friend, hit someone with a water bottle"}
{"id": "t3_4e1518", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] Money issues and Relationships", "post": "Hey \n\nIm going through a constant cycle at the moment and its really bugging me. The summary of it is:\n\n-Parents sold business when I was young \n- few mil in the bank\n- nice house and shit\n\nNow whenever I make friends (like online) everythings good, they see me as down-to-earth not flaunting and would never know whats in my parents bank account. Problem is whenever there is a face-to-face encounter thats when shit changes. Peoples attitudes change. Usually starts by me going to there house for a while and having fun, laughs. But as soon as they come to visit me, people look at me different. Like im a spoiled asshole who doesnt have to worry about anything. Ive been friends online with some people for years and been really close. Next thing they start talking about their financial difficulties. You guys can guess what else happens but in the short I dont see these people for a while.\n\nAnyone got any ideas how I can meet better people?\n\nMuch Love", "summary": "Rich kid cant make friends or have relationships without spongey people. Asking for help"}
{"id": "t3_3biqfe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my GF I don't care about dogs.", "post": "So let me explain... this was 8 hours ago, I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone and we started talking about how much she cares about animals and how much she loves her dog and she treats him like family. I made the HUGE mistake of saying \"you shouldn't give the same value of life to an animal as you should to a human\" which i think is logical but she does not, don't get me wrong, I care about animals and I love them I just give them a different value because of what they are. For example: if my parents die I'm going to care more about that then if my dog died... and now she thinks I'm \"cold hearted\" because I don't think animals and humans are on the same level.", "summary": "Told my girlfriend I don't think  dog is the same as a human and she disowned me."}
{"id": "t3_4zb09i", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Questions about college and future paths", "post": "Okay so this might become a huge wall of text so I apologize in advance. Anyway, I have a dilemma and would love some guidance. I am currently 17 years old, just starting my senior year of highschool. I am so lost as to what to do and where to go. I live in Sacramento, California. I do quite well in school (around 30th in a class of 315). My problem is that I seem to have no passion for any lucrative career. \n\nAlot of my friends want to be dentists or engineers or something of that sort. Whenever anyone asks me what I want to do or where I want to go, I am always at a loss. I feel like my calling is to act. The thought of acting behind a camera as a profession fills me with excitement. And I don't want to do it because of the mass fame and fortune, I guess it's just the thought of always doing something new and constantly working on different projects while meeting new people and developing your own characters on screen. \n\nMy problem is that I don't know if is should just risk it, move to LA and dive in head first into the acting field, or play it safe and find a lucrative career in college? \n\nAnother problem is cost. I don't think I'll be able to afford living in LA on a simple minimum wage job and my parents won't be able to help out much either, financially. I am thinking of going to college (perhaps SFSU, UCLA, USC, or something similar) and taking acting classes on campus but I don't know what else I would study while in college considering acting doesn't seem like a \"real pursuit\". And by that I mean would I need to choose a major besides acting while in college? \n\nMy parents are very supportive and they want me to be happy, but at the same time, they want to be realistic and they understand (as do I) how difficult it is to really earn a living in that profession. I am very lost and the end of the year seems to be right around the corner. Any advice is really appreciated.", "summary": "freaking out & super stressed. I am lost for college. Want to become an actor but scared of becoming broke/homeless. Also don't think I can afford LA. Should I go for it or play it safe and find a \"real career\" in college?"}
{"id": "t3_2f80m6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anxiety after having a crush?", "post": "This is an xpost of another thread I submitted on r/askpsychology. That subreddit being quite inactive, I decided to post this to this subreddit, which is semirelevant.\n\nHello reddit! I am a guy that barely has problems with anxiety, etc. I am an introvert at some level. I enjoy entertaining myself and thinking my own thoughts. I have a social life, but I never really did have a serious relationship with a girl.\n\nI recently met this girl (lets call her Shirley) that seemed to have a perfect personality for me. We both contributed about the same amount to get to know each other (meaning we both tried to get each others attention). We talked a lot and we both showed that we were interested. She seems perfect to me. I was not the type of person that relies on other people to live life happily before this, I was just fine. I have known Shirley for a week and a half now. Ever since I met her, I've been thinking about her a decent amount. I see her almost every day, and when I do, I really enjoy my time. Nothing serious has happened yet which I do not mind at all. I am trying to take it slow to get to know her more and vice versa. \n\nThe only problem I am having is ever since I really met her Ive been having extreme anxiety, which is pretty much having butterflies in my stomach, when I am not with her. I really do not know why this is happening to me. I function normally without depression. I just constantly have butterflies in my stomach whenever I am not with her. I just want to know what the cause of this could be and how I can stop it. Its been impacting my sleep and recently has been impacting my diet due to my stomach being stressed out all the time. Any ideas, r/relationships?\n\nMe [17 M] with my [16 F] 2 weeks, listed above.", "summary": "A girl I have a crush on is causing me to have anxiety."}
{"id": "t3_1f5j5q", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Raided 1 year ago(very short verison) story in side", "post": "So real short story about a year ago I was raided and accused with various things. When they came in they found nothing at my house, and I mean nothing at all. They question me and know all kinds of stuff but in the end they just leave and dont make any arrests dont even put me in handcuffs. Now at the same time they hit a friends house and they do find somethings but again they just leave dont arrest him or anything (a small amount but where I live with it was way more then enough too make an arrest) anyways like I said this was a year ago and till this day I have not heard one word from them. I did get a letter from them that theu were sseizing my bank account and set a court date if I wanted to fight it. now my friend has had a little more contact with them the  I but he also says its been almost 8-9 months. so ive been basically living my life in \"fear\" that any minute they will show up at my new job or at my house amd arrest me. ive made a 360 turn in my life and im tired of waking up every day thinking its my last free one. \n\nso what im wondering is at what point can I just take a breather?  with the lack of evidence and what not can they really make any move? If this is the wrong place for this my bad could some one point me in the right direction", "summary": "Was raided a year ago, found nothing am I still in any danger of being arrested?"}
{"id": "t3_1w60do", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and my girlfriend [19F] of three years have been on the verge of breakup for a while", "post": "We have been together since the middle of high school and we both acknowledge that we are pretty young for how long we have been together. Our relationship has had its rocky times with a split up for a week over an argument near the beginning and a breakup because of her cheating around the one year mark. About a  year and a half ago we got back together and it had been more successful than in the past especially noting that we did 9 months of long distance as I went off to college since we are a year different in school.\n\nThis last September she came to the same college so we no longer had to do long distance. We thought things would be easier but it has turned out not to be. We constantly get into arguments about her going out with her sorority sisters to fraternities other than mine when she should probably be studying or other things like that. Whenever I try to be caring and suggest that maybe it isn't in her best interest, and not something that I like her doing, she finds a way to turn it into my fault. Her pushing me away and making me feel guilty happens quite often and is really upsetting.\n\nI understand I am not perfect in the relationship. I can be over attached or not fully trusting (this is from the breakup from what I can understand) at times. I also have the fear that I am missing out on the college experience. I don't wish that I was able to be free and try and get in every girls pants, but I cannot talk to girls in an context without feeling guilty or fear of her getting mad.\n\nMy heart always tells me to keep holding on to the relationship and always wants to believe when we said we will fix it, but common sense is starting to take more control and tell me that it should be over.\n\nWe currently are on a break of not talking, yet not ignoring each other. I don't really know what to do other than to clear my head and not make any rash decisions.", "summary": "We have hit some very consistently rocky times and are on the verge of being finished"}
{"id": "t3_26fmvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19/M) with my gf(18F) of two years. How do I confront her about her lies?", "post": "So some background first. We have been in a relationship for two years. Throughout it we have had our hiccups... Particularly with this one guy who supposedly kissed her and she pushed him away. Then she hung out with him again and looted to me about it.... Told me the name of some new guy. I figured it out some time later and called her out and she got super defensive and angry. \n\nShe apologized however and I asked her not to lie again. A few days ago she told me she is going out with a friend.. Lady friend that is. Let's call her Lisa. She says she's going out with Lisa. I saw as she was texting that day that she was constantly texting this new guy  \"brad\" at her work. Weird, I thought but I didn't make fuss however I asked her again when she returned how was Lisa. \"She was good!\" What did you guys do? \"Played pool.\"\n\nI told her that I saw her texting Brad. She says she was just texting him. Now I'm not proud of it...I looked up brad's number and saved it. Today I was installing some stuff she asked me to on her phone. I noticed Brad was no longer in her contacts... Instead there was \"Lisa2\" ... With Brad's number.\n\nI read the texts..\n One particular test stood out. \"Braaaad! *tears in her eyes* you don't let me bite you!\" And yes it was with him she went out... Not Lisa and lied to me. AFTER I asked her not to lie to me. \n\nNow that boring and all she does with her mom and family all the time... But this irks Me. \n\nQuestion reddit. How do I confront her? What do I ask,  exactly? Now I don't want to break it off, I just want to give her a stern final warning. But if that's what it takes... Oh well. Help? Suggestions? Advice?", "summary": "gf lied... After being told not to lie and hid a boy's number as a girl's..."}
{"id": "t3_2xlptq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24F) worth discussing an old Win-Back-My-Ex blog with (26M) or keep my mouth shut?", "post": "Been with my bf for 2 years. I happened to come across my bf's blog from years back that chronicles his efforts of trying to win his previous ex back. This blog was created and ended updates before we met, was done during their relationship.\n\nI'm uncomfortable with this blog still being up because I see how much he loved her, calls her his everything, and it makes me question whether he loves me as much as he did her. I want to think this is still up bc he forgot about it, but hes talked about his previous relationship before and i figure he remmwbers that its still there. If so im wondering why its still there ...I've had some talks with him about his love for me, and so this is bringing up more internal questions about whether he considers me as a priority, if he's reciprocating the same level of love I give him, and so on (as compared to the love he gave to his ex). He says his ex was so horrible but I keep seeing things that seem to show he was more willing to sacrifice things to preserve their love, whereas I feel like he wouldn't do the same for me. \n\nAnother issue that is adding to this stress is that a lot of his major memories are with his ex so he tends to talk about his experiences with an added 'I did it with my ex'. That wasn't an issue at first bc i figured it was just a small detail to the story, but now it's rubbing me the wrong way.\n\nI figure the reddit response will be that if I bring up how I'm uncomfortable with it still being up online, then im just an insecure, controlling bitch. I'd rather not be that person...but I'm still SO bothered and it's making me short with him when I feel like he's not making an effort. I don't want him to take the blog down if he doesn't want to (but obviously that would make me even more agitated).\n\nIs this even worth discussing or bringing it up? Has anybody been in my position?", "summary": "found bfs love-my-ex blog. I hate that it's still up."}
{"id": "t3_52611p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and her [19 F] acquaintances? at university, interested in her and don't know how to procede", "post": "There is a girl on my floor in the dorms at university, from what I know about her she seems like a very cool person and has similar interests to mine, such as same animes, movies, games, cosplaying (Even making one right now), conventions, etc. And even wants to become a vet to help save animals.\n\nSome additional information is that her roommates however say she's kind of anti social, stays in playing games and building cosplays. I haven't really seen her out myself doing stuff like any of the residence events. \n\nSome information about myself is that I've never actually been in a relationship before, haven't even kissed a girl before so I have 0 experience for this. Something about her is she broke up with her first boyfriend (of about half a year) about 1 1/2 months ago.\n\nOne of my friends knows her as well, and he mentioned that relationships came up in a conversation of theirs and she said that she wasn't actively looking for any relationships right now. \n  \nI'm very interested in her, and would really like any advice on how to advance this, she seems like such a good person, and interested in alot of the same things I am.\n\nRight now we aren't incredibly close, but from when we've talked she hasn't seemed too against talking to me. I'm kind of worried about coming off as creepy, which is one of the main reasons I don't try and go out with any girls.", "summary": "Interested in girl on my floor in the university dorms, and want to get closer with her. Looking for any advice on how I can get to know her better without coming off as too forward or creepy"}
{"id": "t3_2s7719", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Washing My Hair", "post": "(This was a while ago, but thought you all might enjoy it regardless)\n\nA couple of years back when I was living with my parents still, the only shower we had in the house was in my parent's bedroom's en-suite, so whenever I needed a shower I'd have to through their room each time. \n\nSo one day I'm taking a shower and shampoo my hair, while I'm doing this I'm quite tired and not really fully awake or with it, and a big yawn works its way up. No biggy, except that right as I'm breathing in, wide-mouthed and eyes shut, I breathe in a giant lump of shampoo suds that have rolled down my face from my hair.\n\nI don't know how many of you have breathed in anything like this before, but it's awful! I started choking violently, as my throat had closed up from the soap attacking it and blocking it at the same time. I fall out of the shower realising I genuinely can't breathe, and I'm starting to panic. I've no idea what sort of noises I'm making at this point, but I still can't get any sort of breathing going.\n\nI was starting to panic so much that I was wondering if this was truly how I was going to die. Lying soapy and naked on my parent's bathroom floor, blue in the face with rabies-like foam coming from my mouth. Killed by head and shoulders in a way that even fans of final destination films would find hard to believe. Eventually I manage to somehow cough up enough of the foam that I can breathe again. Explaining to my family what all the noise was was just a tad embarrassing, which they've done their best not to let me live down.", "summary": "Head and shoulders tried to kill me."}
{"id": "t3_y312v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just startled myself and am trying to sleep with the lights on. Reddit, when have you scared yourself?", "post": "Long title is long, but anyway.\n\nBeing a longtime Minecraft fan, I've seen a lot of those splash texts that show up in the top-right when you start the game. One I'd seen often but never really thought about was \"DRR! DRR! DRR!\" A little weird, but pretty normal for splash text.\n\nIn another post somewhere around here, someone referenced Enigma of Amigara Fault. I read it, shat myself, and registered it in the dark corner of my mind where it will never be forgotten. \n\nJust an hour or so ago I made the mistake of looking for discussion pages for EoAF. Someone mentioned Minecraft, and in a flurry of profound connections I promptly pooped my trousers again and turned on all the lights. No sleep for me!", "summary": "Reddit showed me a scary thing and I managed to cack my pants twice in a terrifying delayed chain reaction."}
{"id": "t3_16e345", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can my family motivate my 14 year old brother to do his school work?", "post": "A little background about schooling in my family. I have an older brother who is 22, and in graduate school, I'm 18 and a freshman in college. Both my older brother and I have always gotten high grades naturally. However our younger brother is about a B student but he does not want to do his school work. \n\nIn our school district there is no failing, they really do pass everyone at their senior year. Knowing this my brother does not feel the need to do his homework or pay attention at school. Our mother is struggling to get him to do his work and has a social worker come help our family. \n\nWhen my brother does not do his work or he is asked, he will start \"raging\" and he will become violent and start to throw things and yell. Which then causes my mother to burst into tears and give up. \n\nSo /r/relationships do you have any ideas on how to help us? I don't want to see my brother fail.", "summary": "My brother doesn't do his home/school work. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2kr51e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my exgirlfriend(now) [17 F] just broke up with my gf don't know if it was the right thing?", "post": "Okay so I really like this girl and we just started dating and we've been dating for a week that week has gone kinda \"ehhh\" like there were days that she wouldn't text me for hours. We've been okay and its been a week since we dated today. When I woke up this morning there was no text and I was running late I woke up at 11am and she woke up at 6 am so she didn't text me all day until I texted her when I woke up. \n\nOnward to school I have walked her to her classes for like a month and we hugged after I walked her. So today I walked her to one and she didn't go to hug me or anything just walked inside. So I knew something was up with her. I didn't think too much about it till the next class I walked with her but she actually hugged me this time but it felt odd.\n\nSo later that day after school she texts like like 3 times and then stopped texting me like 3 hours. So I text her after she doesn't text me back so long and asked her if she still liked me and she was like \"honestly I don't know Its just I have no time for a relationship right now I have volleyball and school and its just so stressful for a relationship too.\"\n\nSo I went off and was like wow thank you for making make waste a lot of time on you and was like we're done and said goodbye She also said that she likes me but its like she doesn't have time.. She hasn't texted me back since then. I like her a lot still fyi. Idk did I overreact with breaking us up completely and not trying to work things outs?", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend because she said she didn't like me anymore and didn't have it was too \"stressful\""}
{"id": "t3_1qipeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] Ive been with my girlfriend [20 F] for over a year now and I think shes not sexually attracted to me and sees/treats our relationship as a friendship.", "post": "I know this is hardly as big a problem that others on this sub are having but i just need some advice on this.\n\nIve been going out with this girl who i absolutely adored for the longest time beforehand. I was so stoked when she said she would go out with me. The first couple of months were great, we spent a lot of time together and we got (and still do) along really well. \n\nBut one thing that has really stood out is the physical side of the relationship. Shes a really attractive woman who has a lot going for her, but in the year we have been going out except maybe the first few months the sexual part of our relationship has pretty much died. We dont flirt, we dont make out, we dont have sex or any intimacy in a physical sense. Its like we're just friends. And i hate it. \n\nAnd its not like we've been without opportunites, there have been times when the stars have aligned and everything is perfect for a night of intimacy. And after a few kisses its \"Not tonight\" or literally just rolling over and sleeping. \n\nI just dont understand it. Ive asked her why we never have a physical side to our relationship anymore. She just says \"Im just a bit timid\" or \"we just dont have time\". But we've been together for so long now that is just doesnt make sense. If she said to me that she doesnt like having sex, or she worried about how she looks or any number of plausible reasons then I could work with them. But she just brushes it off.\n\nA couple of months ago a good mutual friend of ours said to me that me and her weren't really in a relationship and that we were really just good friends with a formal label smacked on it. \n\nAnd thats exactly what it feels like really.\n\nI guess im just confused, i really like her but after all this time with no physical or even emotional reciprocation, I guess you'd say no romance I just don't want to be in this kind of relationship.\n\nAny advice would be awesome guys.", "summary": "Girlfriend of over a year shows no sign of physical affection and makes me think that we're just friends and not even in a romantic relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4eharm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [24 F] gently tell my best friend [21 F] that she's being really rude and mean?", "post": "My best friend just started a new job, and I know it's stressing her out. At first, she would vent to me about it, but it's come to a point where now she's just being mean to for no real reason. I know the stress of the job is getting to her, but I've got my own stuff, so I can't always be on 24/7 to help her. Lately, she's just being straight up rude to me when I try to help. \n\nI know a lot of people would just say to tell her, but I've know her long enough to know how that would go. She would definitely get defensive. It would start a whole argument, I'm 100% positive. \n\nFor instance, a couple of days ago, she randomly just told me that she felt gross because she hadn't gotten dressed or showered yet that day (day off). I suggested she take a nice hot shower, because I know she loves that, and she just clapped back at me and basically yelled at me because she didn't have time to do that, so why would I even suggest it. I was only trying to help. \n\nLast night, she texted me something that kind of made it sound like she might have been physically attacked, so I responded by asking her to clarify and asked if she needed my help. And she just said to me that she shouldn't need to clarify because she was perfectly clear and that, no, she hadn't been attacked, I shouldn't even suggest that. \n\nIt's just getting to a point where I can't take it. I try so hard to cheer her up when I can, but I can't always be there because I'm very busy myself. When I can be there, she's not appreciative. When I can't be there, she gets mad. It just seems like she thinks I need to be on call for her to yell at and it's draining me really badly.", "summary": "My best friend isn't being a great friend right now and I don't know how to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_31nn4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] and my relationship with everything and everybody", "post": "I absolutely LOVE people and life!! \n\nBut lately, the more I interact with people, the more I realize I get bored really easily! :( I tend to keep to myself for this reason and I feel bad for not talking to people on a day to day basis. \n\nMy mind is always thinking about infinite possibilities and I guess it's hard to keep my interest but I really don't mean for this to happen.\n\nI know it has something to do with the dopamine reward systems but I don't know what I could do to change them. Does this happen to anyone else? Any advice on what I could do? Please and thank you! I send much love and hugs!", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2m2eby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my bf [27 M] 3 yrs...thinking about breaking up.", "post": "My 27 year old boyfriend of 3 yrs is going nowhere...no job for the past 7 years, a degree in liberal arts and literally has no idea what he wants to do in life. Basically he wants to skate by at any job he can find and then spend money and time playing videogames. \n\nHe stayed up until 3 am playing videogames like he does almost every night (the computer is in my bedroom so I think it's very inconsiderate). First thing he does when he gets home is race to the computer and sometimes he'll even try to get there before I can get on it if I need to for work or for actual important stuff...he thinks he's just being funny but he is getting very possesive. \n\nI am out of work at the time too and I know how hard it is, especially for someone in his situation...but I have a lot of ambition. I have a clear picture of what I want in terms of work...life etc. I like going out with people and doing stuff...he's very antisocial and rants about everything that he hates all the time.\n\nI do love him, very much and when times are good, they're great. We haven't officially moved in together yet (staying at his parents house until we can get jobs / afford to move out) but I worry that we won't be compatible for many other reasons. Snoring, he eats junk / fast food...so many things worry me but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Boyfriend plays videogames at ungodly hours, has no interest in having a meaningful career and is overall hard to deal with at times...is there a way to motivate him to change or am I better off with a clean slate?"}
{"id": "t3_2rn7up", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] masturbated on webcam with old friend [29 M/F] several years back, scared...", "post": "I used to be very active on an site where I met a ton of cool people. One in particular was a slightly older lady and we became pretty good friends, and after several months she sent me nudes (face and everything). One night, 3 years ago, she suggested we masturbate on webcam. I agreed, and so we did. For the most part, I was careful about showing my face, but did show it for probably 10 seconds. Her face was in it the whole time.\n\nAfter we finished, we talked like usual. I knew she had done this with others in the past (told me it was a fetish of hers). So I asked her whether she was ever worried that she would be recorded and posted online. She then told me that she records all of her encounters as a counter measure. That obviously worried me and I told her I really wasn't comfortable with her having recorded it. I also told her that I had deleted her nudes after I looked at them as I didn't feel right keeping them. She apologized profusely and said she deleted it.\n\nWe kept in touch for a few months after that, but I slowly cut off communication as I kind of resented her for the fact that she recorded me without telling me.\n\nNow, I know she said she deleted it. I guess my fear comes from the fact that I'll never know if she deleted it. The first month after it happened was the worst for me. I was pretty scared. After that I pretty much forgot about it and only recently thought about it again. I could probably get in touch with her if I wanted to, but not sure if that's a good idea. She never threatened me or anything, but I'm still worried. \n\nAny thoughts or advice? I guess I'm scared that it might pop up on the Internet 10+ years from now. Maybe I have anxiety issues? I've been known to dwell over things for a long time. For example, over the last week, I've been thinking about this almost constantly. Oh and yes, I definitely learned my lesson.", "summary": "I had a friend I met online. She sent me nudes. We masurbated on webcam. She recorded it and when I found out she said she deleted it. Still worried, what should I do? Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1fwzqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20M] be worried about her [19F] gay best friend [19M] fondling her?", "post": "I've been with this girl for a couple months.  It was a mutual fwb situation that gradually turned into a relationship.  I've known about her best friend, let's call him Al, from pretty much the beginning.  They are super close, super touchy, but I never felt threatened because the dude is HARD gay.  She basically treats him like her other half and I'm pretty sure if I made her choose she would pick him, but I can kind of understand that given we haven't been together very long.\n\nAnyway, everything has been 100% great until she offhandedly mentioned last week that when he sleeps over he shares the bed with her and plays with her tits all night. (oh and I also found out she is naked in front of him, although she says she wears a shirt in bed) She seems to think this is hilarious.  My reaction was much more \"wtf\".  I really really doubt they're doing anything besides that, but it still bothers me a lot.  I kinda just blew it off for a week and then she texted me about him covering over last night and their plans for the night and I kind of freaked out, not in a mean way but I said it made me really uncomfortable and I didn't think she was cheating but it just really bothered me and I needed him to not sleep in the bed with her when he went over.\n\nShe got pissed and defensive, said I was \"overreacting and being a ridiculous wannabe insecure alpha male which is a huge turn off\" and that he is basically a girl in her mind.  She also said \"don't make me choose, you won't like it\" and that I should think it over and stop being homophobic.  I haven't spoken to her since (about 24hrs) but she has her friends messaging me on facebook telling me how platonic they are and how they would never do anything and how I'm being really close-minded just because he is a guy, etc, and he has called me once on his phone but I missed it and don't want to call him back.\n\nwtf do I do?", "summary": "gfs gay best friend spoons her and plays with her chest, she won't put a stop to it."}
{"id": "t3_2f4vkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] feel my depression is harming relationship with my gf [22F] of 10 months.", "post": "I've had depression on and off since 13 for various reasons, was ok when I came to uni but stresses and illness brought it back and was diagnosed again while we've been together. \n\nOver her internship this summer I've felt estranged from her and like she has come to care less and less about the relationship. She's been difficult to talk to when she is free (not at the office); often responding with short curt replies, showing little interest in my life/goings on and making little effort to get in touch. The only times we've spent time together have been when I have crossed the country (UK) to visit and she's shown no interest in travelling to spend time with me, and often when I have visited she's been quiet and less-than-talkative. \n\nI appreciate that she's been working and it's been lonely for her, so all through the summer I was making more effort to raise her spirits (surprise visits and dinners in the city, trips out on weekends, trying to engage conversation) but it's felt like I've been beating my head against a brick wall and has been dragging me down. \n\nWhen I told her (after saying nothing for about 4 weeks) how difficult it had been for me, how I felt she had been acting and how it had been making me feel, she agreed but claimed it wasn't as bad as I was saying and that I should've been telling her as it occurred to try and fix the issue with minor tweaks instead of bottling up resentment and leading to an argument. \n\nAm I wrong to feel that if I keep telling her as it occurs that I'll end up coming across at the over-reacting, depressed boyfriend? I can't help but take how she's been as a sign that she doesn't want to try anymore- am I wrong?  It's hard to tell when it's just my depression making me think the worst or not.", "summary": "can't tell if difficulty in communication has been real or depression has made me react unfairly."}
{"id": "t3_hfly9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not getting a loving vibe from my girlfriend anymore. Don't know what to think.", "post": "I'm 18, she's 18. We've been together for over a year now. Maybe it's because we've both been busy and haven't been able to spend much time talking (we're long distance) but I just don't feel like she's as interested in me as I am in her. \n\nI feel recently that I'm the one that makes any effort to talk at all. She recently got a full-time job. When she comes home though she plays Guild Wars and surfs the internet a lot. On a work day I can understand she's tired and just wants to escape. However, there have been a few times in the past when I've come home after she's had a day off and I text her saying \"Hey, how are you?\" only to get a response five-six hours later saying \"I've been playing Guild Wars all day, lol\" My thoughts here are usually \"You can't spare five goddamn minutes from this game to check your phone and/or Skype?\" but I say nothing of it since she's fully entitled to spending her time alone and away from me on a day off but it's getting on *my* nerves.\n\nI haven't said anything about this to her or how it bothers me for fear it would make me seem clingy but it bugs the hell out of me that she hasn't been taking any initiative lately to talk to me.\n\nTomorrow she gets her first long weekend off (as in more than a day) so I'll see if it gets better then.", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't seem to like spending as much time with me anymore. Might just be because she's suddenly gotten busier."}
{"id": "t3_1om6lw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What should I do about this girl?", "post": "Im 15 she's 15\n\nWe dated for a few months and it was perfect. She was my best friend and my girlfriend and honestly I couldn't be happier. It was the first time I wasn't putting in all the effort and never doubted that the girl felt the same way about me.\n\nBut one day we got into a fight and after it ended and everything she said she wanted a break. At first I was like red flag, shes trying to dump me, and shortly later I broke up with her because I was scared.\nWell we talked a few hours later after we both had calmed down and what not and decided we were going to actually take a break. A few days for us to both think about things and we were going to talk it all out after.\n\nWell during our little break was her schools homecoming (it was informal and basically a big hook up fest). And she went really drunk and hooked up with multiple guys.\n\nSo when I found out I was just like okay fuck you blah blah you cant treat me like this I'm done for good. But then she answered and we talked about it all and she's legitimately sorry. Basically the conversation ended with me saying I just needed time to figure everything out and I thought I had so I told her that I was done (again) and well same thing happened, we talked and I'm back on the fence about it.\n\nI can tell she's really sorry and she wants nothing more than to get back with me and I feel the same way, but I have to have some respect for myself and not go back to her right?\n\nI don't know I'm so confused and need some outside opinions so please help me out.", "summary": "While on a break ex-girlfriend got drunk at homecoming and had a bunch of meaningless hook ups (just making out) and now seems sincerely sorry and really wants to get back together and I really still have strong feelings but I'm on the fence about what I should do. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_15nvts", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] My gf (22/f)is spending New Year's Eve with an ex instead of me. Should I approach one of them about how I feel?", "post": "Throwaway. We've been going out for a little over two months now and for the holidays she's been away to see family. She doesn't get to see them a whole lot because they live in different states so that bit doesn't bother me at all. However she mentioned that she was going to a place with a friend on New Years Eve who what I've gathered is an ex. The reason why this is irking me so bad is because I was cheated on for a significant amount of time during a previous relationship that lasted two years. The ex lives on the other side of the country who is also visiting family where my gf is now so nothing to worry about them getting back together, but I can't help but think a late night fling could happen. \n\nI'm starting to get emotionally invested with this girl and I haven't genuinely felt like this towards someone since that two year relationship (it's been four years since it ended). I want to talk about this with my gf but I don't want to sound like I'm assuming she's going to cheat. Their is the total possibility that I'm over thinking all of this and nothing will happen except an honest night of fun. What should I say to my gf? Should I contact the guy?", "summary": "Gf is going out with an ex for New Year's eve and it's freaking me out. How can I talk to her about it without sounding like a total jerkwad. "}
{"id": "t3_4locwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My,(19 M) sister,(19 F)seems to be picking up some bad habits, not really sure how to help or deal with this situation.", "post": "My twin sister and I recently both finished up our first semesters at college, and are now back home for the summer. Since she's been back, She's been smoking quite a bit of pot, going to a lot of parties with guys she meets on Tinder, which also makes her cheating with her boyfriend. Though he is a jerk, it still seems wrong. She seems like she has to smoke weed, or drink alcohol, and she hasn't gone any extended period of time (2 or 3 days) without either since we've been back. She admitted to me she thinks she has a problem, though this was only when she was drunk. She's also drove very inebriated by weed a couple times, which really worries me as to her well being. Sober, she shrugs it off and acts like she's fine. I think talking to a therapist would really benefit her, but she is highly reluctant to do so. Does anyone have any ideas how I should go about talking to her? She's very closed off and wont really consider much of what I say. Anything you guys think would help would be greatly appreciated.  \n\n  Also, I've been really conflicted about how I personally feel regarding all this. As my twin sister she's always been the closest person too me, but after she's started sleeping around and smoking so much pot, I feel disgusted being around her. Is this wrong of me? I just feel like she's turning into something she's not and these bad habits are really going to wind up causing her and my family pain, and it infuriates me that she seems so obtuse to that.", "summary": "sister has been sleeping around and doing drugs, and I really need someone to tell me how to help her"}
{"id": "t3_2gt0au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] 3 weeks, Is she actually into me?", "post": "First of all, i havent really been in a serious relationship before whilst she has had a few serious relationships. This is kinda the first real thing i've had in a long time\n\nBasically i've been seeing this girl for roughly 3 weeks, and we do anything a normal couple would but i feel as if i like her way more than she likes me. I feel that when we're not in each others presence she is always so distant and never really wants to talk i want to  message her that i'm actually crazy about her but she wants to take everything so slow and said it's way to early to get emotional and stuff with each other. I don't know if she really is into me, i'm pretty sure i just over analyse everything she does. I want to ask her if she really does like me and if she does want to be serious but i don't really know how to say it without coming across so needy. \n\nSorry the grammar and everything is probably terrible.", "summary": "Seeing a girl for a short amount of time but not sure if she actually wants anything serious and not sure how to ask her."}
{"id": "t3_i3xai", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone explain to me why my brother is a drunken retard? Does anyone else have a brother like mine?", "post": "I have just been involved in the most Jerry Springer bullshit ever!\nMy drunk brother has just made me spend twenty minutes talking to his girlfriend. In which I had to become a translater for him (I speak fluent drunk). First he tells me to say that he loves her. The the alcohol takes comand and he screams at me to tell her fuck off.\n\nMe, being me I'm trying not to break my hole laughing. However karma decides to fuck me over for that. His girlfriend asks me to come over to her house with him and sort this out. I don't FUCKING know her! So she makes me out to be an asshole for that....and so does my brother.\n\nHe gets in a taxi and goes to her house, where she rings me telling me every single thing he's doing!\n\"He's at the door....\"\n\"That's nice...?\"\n\"He's talking to me!\"\n\"......I have to go now.....\"\n\"Okay bye! Talk to you tomorrow\"\n-silence-\nIn my head I'm saying no fucking way!!!!\nSeriously WTF is wrong with these people reddit?", "summary": "I just spent the last twenty minutes translating for my drunken brother."}
{"id": "t3_l8srp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell this girl i like her?", "post": "Hello, fellow redditors. Like many of you, I like a girl. But not like so many of you probably, I have never told a girl before that I like her. I am a 20 year old guy, good looking from what i've been told, funny and with lots of pros on my side, and obviously, cons as well.\nI had some girlfriends already, and they were girls that came after me. I never really went after a girl, nor liked a girl enough to tell her. \nBut here I am, right on the age where i that it would start to be difficult to find a girl that fits my 'requirements'. \nI am really nervous about this, because despite not knowing her for long (we are both freshers from the same university course), i get along with her pretty well, we've hanged out with the same group of people, and we talk freely and have a good time when together. I never had the chance to be alone with her so far.. but the other day I went out for dinner with her and another friend. She complimented me sometimes throughout the night about my clothes, and even that i have a nice voice to sing. This may sound too clich\u00e9, but despite knowing many girls.. she has this way of being herself that is quite genuine (and i love it). and well.. she's quite cute too :)\n\nSorry if this is", "summary": "for you guys.. but I would really appreciate your opinion on this.. I want to tell her i like her.. but I don't know how, and in what circumstances !"}
{"id": "t3_1uvws3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/17] This is making me feel like a terrible person", "post": "I'm a 17 year old male in my senior year of high school. I've been dating a girl for about two years, who is the same age as me, with a difference of about 2 months. (I'll call her J)\n\nJ, quite frankly, emotionally abusive. I've been trying to get out of the relationship for quite a while (about 6 months) and I finally managed to get out a couple months ago. However, after getting through this, she revealed to me that she was pregnant (She was not lying about this). Because of this, I agreed to try and make the relationship work again. \n\nThis, obviously, did not work. Our relationship began to unravel quickly, and I can't stay in this relationship for much longer. However I want to give the child the best life possible! To me, that probably means adoption. I don't trust her to J care of the child (We don't know the gender yet), and I don't have the time, money, or emotional maturity to take care of them either. She doesn't want to 'give up' her child, though. She sees the child as a 'saving grace' or a 'second chance'. She thinks that the child will help her pull herself out of her depression and bipolar. I've seen her get angry. She can become violent and irrational, and I'm scared that she would do something, accidentally or on purpose, to hurt them.\n\nOf course, because life can't ever be simple, there's more to this. I met a girl that I really like. (I'll call her M) We click on so many levels, and I find her really attractive, in almost every way! She's expressed that she feels the same way, and has just gotten out of a bad relationship. \n\nThis complicates things. I still haven't gotten completely out with J, and I don't want to hurt M. But I can't stop thinking about her, and it's driving me insane trying to figure out what I should do. \n\nSo now this brings me here. I need help. Opinions are the most valuable resource to me right now, and I want to hear some from you guys. What do I do?", "summary": "I got my psychotic girlfriend pregnant, realized I didn't want to be with her anymore, and started hitting on another girl. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3oretp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "boyfriend (26) and me (27) of two years are fighting about a voicemail", "post": "So this morning my boyfriend and I got woken up by two phone calls to him on his cell from a number from our home town. He never answered it and we went back to sleep. When we woke up he went to the bathroom and then said it was a friend of his who got a new number. When he came out I asked him why he had to go to the bathroom to listen. He never answers weird numbers and always got calls from weird numbers and told me it was people who had the wrong number, yet he would never just answer and tell them that. So when I asked him he told me that he did that because it is none of my business and just started flipping out on me. Threw things and threatened to leave to go back home. He said he was mad because I started a fight first thing in the morning. I just wanted to know what was going on. He then told me he purposely told me he went to listen in private because it was a strange number. I don't know how I should feel. I know it was his friend but it's the fact that \"it's none of my business\" that really worries me. Now he is telling me he doesn't care about my feelings about it. And that he just doesn't care in general. Should I worry about this?", "summary": "My boyfriend purposely hides listening to a voicemail and tells me it's none of my business."}
{"id": "t3_1su291", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I had lunch with an ex and now my boyfriend is acting distant and going out with another girl tonight. Did I fuck up? [F26][M27]", "post": "A week ago, an ex called me and asked if I'd like to have lunch with him sometime. We broke up awhile back ago and have remained friends since our breakup. We're both in relationships and don't have feelings for each other anymore, so I figured it was no big deal. I mentioned to my boyfriend of six months that I was going to have lunch with an ex, so that we could catch up. I also explained that it was completely platonic and that he had nothing to worry about because we no longer had feelings for each other. He didn't say much but he seemed okay with it.\n\nI went to lunch with my ex on Monday and ever since then, he's started hanging out with a new girl he met through mutual friends. I've never met her but I've seen her FB picture. She's really pretty and she seems super funny, so I can see why my boyfriend might like her.\n\nAnyway, this morning, I asked him if he wanted to hang out tonight and he said he couldn't because he already made plans. Well, come to find out, he and this girl are going to dinner tonight and then hanging out at her place with her group of friends. I then asked if he'd like to go out for breakfast tomorrow morning and he declined saying he didn't want to get up early because he'd probably come home late/hungover. I almost feel like he's trying to get back at me for going out to lunch with my ex, especially since he started acting distant right after it happened. \n\nI guess I'm wondering.. Does this seem a little bit inappropriate? I'm afraid I'm going to come off as a jealous girlfriend. I just need an objective opinion. Thanks!", "summary": "I went to lunch with an ex on Monday and now my boyfriend is hanging out with a pretty female friend. I kind of feel like he's trying to get back at me."}
{"id": "t3_dnqo6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I have had it with my first (and last) pair of Saucony Triumph trainers [WARNING: Rant inside!]", "post": "I bought a pair of Saucony Triumph 6 trainers earlier this spring.  I used them all summer, despite noticing the poor cushioning after a month and a half.  Having spent a pretty penny on them, I decided to keep going with them until it is absolutely necessary to buy a new pair.  I know it's time for a new pair usually when my knees get unnecessarily sore after a run.  I never got that with these shoes, but I am to the point where it feels like I'm smashing my heels and arches on pavement.  Needless to say, I am done with Saucony forever and am going back to Adidas and New Balance.", "summary": "Fuck you, Saucony.  Learn to make a quality pair of trainers!"}
{"id": "t3_qptsm", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Should I be worried for my cat?", "post": "Hi reddit.  I'll just start.\n\nSo I have a short, grey haired cat Waffles.  To my best guess, she is three years old.  She was born on my uncles farm, but she since then has come to live with my family at my dad's farm.\n\nEver since we have had her, there has been something peculiar.\n\nShe randomly will small patches of no fur, usually around her neck, where I find dry blood. I always just passed it off as her falling of things (she's always been pretty clumsy).  Tonight, though, we have had a few people come over and talk with my dad, so Waffles keeps sprinting inside (she does this often).  I was sitting on the couch, browsing reddit, when I hear her playing in a box.  A first I though,\"Oh my God, this is adorable!\", but it looked a little like she was shaking. I called her out of the box, and I noticed her tail was bent at a angle, showing fresh blood.  Extremely concerned, I put her in the garage(she loves is there).\n\nThere are a few factors I have already considered.  First, We have a 8 year old German Shepard/Blue healer, but he was always nice to cats in the past (he wouldn't even growl if they ate his food!).  Secondly, Waffles came with her sister, Pancake(who later ran away), but she never showed any bruises.  Lastly, we had a problems with possums scaring/attacking our cats many years ago.  I can't find an argument against this one.\n\nDoes anyone have any idea what I should do to keep this from occurring?", "summary": "I think something is attacking my cat.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21f8h7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my ___ [23 F] of 9 months, Help with understanding my g/f's lack of sexuality/physical affection", "post": "Females of Reddit,\nI have a serious relationship question.  This is obviously a throwaway account as I'm not too sure if my g/f or other friends may stumble upon this post and know who it is.\n\nI have a girlfriend who has stopped having sex with me citing a couple of excuses one being that she may have \"endometriosis\" and other reasons being stress.  She comes over every night we hang out, have dinner, but she's not really physically affectionate.  We had a big talk about it at one point because at the beginning of the relationship she was super affectionate, flirty, and sexual with me.\n\nA lot of times she seems uncomfortable with the talk of sex and just generally doesn't like to cuddle or any of that, even though it was present in the beginning.\n\nI don't know if I'm approaching the situation incorrectly about how to get that spark back in as she's not really receptive to the idea.  She has stated that she loves sex and still takes care of herself but when it comes to sex with me she seems very closed off, and she didn't used to be.  She almost seems more open to people who will never be closer to her, whereas the closer we get and the more I'm there for her and grow to understand her, it seems like it puts a wall there. \n\nShe's had things happen in her past including being raped 4-5 years ago, her father who was a drug addict dying of an OD 2 years ago.\n\nI guess what I'm looking for is, are there any girls on here who have felt the way my girlfriend is feeling and help me understand her situation and move forward on things like physical intimacy, making her feel safer and closer to me, and basically just understand why she's doing this.  She talks about our future like moving away in 6 months, and going on a cruise together in October so I don't know if this is literally just a physical thing and she loves me or if she just doesn't love me and can't bring herself to break it.", "summary": "Basically girlfriend and I haven't had sex in 3 months, it feels like theres an invisible wall there between us, but she still talks about things like our future.  What can I do to bring that sexual/physical spark back with someone who seems to make every excuse not to."}
{"id": "t3_4e96pe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my husband [30M], he's been sexting other women, and I don't know what else. Is my marriage salvageable?", "post": "So I've only been married to my husband for 4 months; we dated for 4 years. I've always let him do whatever he wants, even visit strip clubs, as long as he doesn't get intimate with anyone else.\n\nHis work usually requires him to travel 50-60% of the time. So he's been gone for the past week, and this weekend, things seemed off with a couple of things he said (like going to bed at 9 pm, but sleeping until 11 am). Today, I ended up logging into our cellphone account and checking his logs. He'd been texting other people until 5 or 6 am.\n\nWhen we spoke over the phone this morning, I didn't immediately confront him about it; I just told him I was upset with him and he knew what he did. He just played dumb the entire day, even when I finally said I knew he was sexting other people (about an hour ago). I had to say I looked at his fucking logs before he admitted to it.\n\nApparently, he's done it throughout our entire relationship. It sounds like he's addicted to it. He also said he's never slept with any of the woman, but I can't even believe that since it was so difficult to get him to admit to just sexting (immense shame was his excuse). He said he'd try anything to make it work, even switching to a job that doesn't require travel. If he would have come clean today, I think we could have worked through it, but I'm not so sure anymore.\n\nI feel like I already know what you're all going to say since I lurk on this subreddit a lot, but can my marriage be salvaged or should I just not even try?", "summary": "Husband couldn't admit to sexting other women when I gave him a chance to. Don't know if I can ever trust him again."}
{"id": "t3_3npfyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [24 F] of 5 yrs - Need advice on possibly breaking up", "post": "Using a throwaway for this.  Also posting from mobile so I apologize for any screwy words.\n\nWe have been together for 5 yrs.  She is not from the area at all.  Her family is 1200 miles away.  We have lived together for 3.5 out of 5 years we have been together.  I am contemplating breaking up with her but the house is mine.. in my name.. I pay for it.. etc.  I don't want to ask her to move out immediately because she has no where to go on short notice.  Hell I'm not sure if she has anywhere to go on longer notice.  Her job is here and she loves it.   She does not want to go back with her family either.  Idk how to handle this.\n\nWe don't dislike each other but over time we have grown apart.  Just feel like friends.  Sex hasn't happened in a really long time (7 months or so).  We have different views on life but we still get along, jus no love or pasion for eithe one of us.  We have had discussions in the past about how we feel but a break up would be shocking to her.  I think that she has always believed I wouldn't break up with her because she has no where to go. \n\nI just don't know how to break up with her and still give her time to get her affairs in order before asking her to move out.  I am a nice person so while I will probably crush her soul with a break up.. I feel I can't just ask her to leave without notice.\n\nPlease help", "summary": "might break up with gf of 5 yrs.  We live together.  How do I do it so she has time to find a place to go, etc?"}
{"id": "t3_wml3g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One time I told a pair of girls they should post to gone wild forgetting I am not on Reddit. What moment in your life did your forget you are not on the Internet?", "post": "So about a month ago I got really sick with the flu and could not go anywhere. So I just stayed in my bed and got on reddit. I ended up being sick for two weeks and Reddit was the only website I went on for those two weeks. I then got better and went to a Football game my school was having. I was hanging out with my friends and these girls we met. They were talking and joking about how they would make a good lesbian couple. Then I said that they should kiss and post it to gone wild. I finally realized what I said and let's just say things got awkward.", "summary": "After being on Reddit for about two weeks straight I told a pair of girls they should kiss and post it to gone wild."}
{"id": "t3_3vece2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [31 F] get my husband [32 M] of 2 years to only pick his nose in private...", "post": "This is super awkward for me. Husband comes from a country where personal standards are different (I suppose). He moved here to NZ when he was 12, has no accent at all (I say this to show hes integrated into current norms). I love him but holy heck this is making me sooo uncomfortable. He picks his nose whenever he feels like it... long introspective sessions while watching Netflix next to me, digging about while driving regardless of people who know us who may see, and one memorable time while sitting across the table from me at a nice restaurant. I kicked him under the table and he was shocked enough to stop but gave me the stink eye like I was over reacting.\n\nSo far I've tried ignoring it in the beginning of our relationship out of horror because surely he can't be picking his nose while driving next to me, his girlfriend. Then I tried telling him straight that it was revolting. Then asking him to please not do that in front of me. And this is the point I'm still at, after 2 years of marriage and 6 years together.\n\nFuckit. \n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how I can get him to keep this private? We have a baby daughter and I'm afraid she will copy her dad. Because damn it nose picking feels good and every kid will do it! Just generally not in front of others by the time they grow up...", "summary": "dude digs for diamonds, woeful wife wants web wisdom"}
{"id": "t3_4ofly7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my best friend [21F] of 6 years did i went too far?", "post": "So we have a 6 year friendship relationship and we tell eachother pretty much everything, she knew that i had some feelings for her and wanted more than a friendship but she didn't.\n\nNow on my birthday she sent me a letter writing about why we can't be more than friends.  Her birthday is up and i sent her a real heart-felt letter answering to her question \"if we should remain friends if i have feelings for her\".\n\nNow this letter at the time I didn't thought it was intense but looking back to my best friend it might come as a shock and too powerful, I wrote about the times she broke my heart when she hooked up with friends of mine, but at the same time told her that it wasn't her fault.\n\nBasically i wrote 8 pages about that and the frustration and how much i loved her and now she barely answers my texts, did i went too far by telling her what i really thought about our relationship?\n\nUrgh i don't know what to do, kinda need help here guys and gals", "summary": "6 years of friendship that i was in love with her told her how i felt in a letter now she doesn't reply to my texts."}
{"id": "t3_y884t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "bf [22] responding to craigslist posts behind my [24] back", "post": "I f[24] have been with my boyfriend [22] for about five months now. We began as a casual hook up and it slowly progressed into a relationship. During that time he talked to many other girls but there was no commitment between us so I wasn't too bothered. It did however, make me question how much I trust him because he rarely told me about these girls, even when we began to get much more serious. This fear was confirmed when I caught a glimpse of his email account. He had numbers emails from craigslist posts, and he had responded to many of them looking to meet up. I don't know what to do about this because I realize I shouldn't have seen his emails and because of this I don't want to admit that I violated his privacy. I'm at a total loss here on how to deal with it.", "summary": "Found out boyfriend of five months is looking for casual encounters on craigslist behind my back. How do I deal with this/confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_24dd5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(20F) of over a year just broke up with me(20M), we're living together next year.", "post": "So, I've been dating this girl for over a year now, we meet on our Freshman dorm hall, and up until a month or two ago everything was going flawlessly.  We were the two happiest people in the world together and all we did was spend our time together.  \n\nAt the beginning of this year she mentioned having us live together with two other friends at an off-campus house together.  I was hesitant at first but she convinced me that it would be amazing and I felt like if I didn't agree to live with her she'd get extremely upset.  So, I decided what the heck, I'll bite and now we're signed to live together with two of our other friends next year.  \n\nAlmost right after that she started wanting more and more space from me and I've known something has been up for about a month now.  Yesterday she came over and broke up with me, telling me she was going to wait till the summer but she knew I could tell what was up.  There was no big fight no yelling it was the most mature I could imagine a break up going.  But, now I have to live with her and I'm afraid she may move on faster than I will.  \n\nJust looking for general advice, I'll post an update if this gets enough attention.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a year just broke up with me after convincing me to live with her next year."}
{"id": "t3_3ynf34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22m) think I'm bi but don't know how to tell my SO (22f)", "post": "The last few years I've come to mostly accept that I'm not totally straight. I've been with this girls for four years now but somewhere in the middle we had a rough patch in which we broke up. \n\nIn that time, I experimented a bit and did some soul-searching I guess. Basically I realised the I'm turned on by both female and male bodies, just never met a guy that I was attracted to romantically. \n\nNow, my gf does know that I experimented kinda, but doesn't know the whole deal. I also kind brushed it off as typical late-teen stuff. \n\nAnyhow, I really don't know how to talk with her about this. I love her and I'm attracted to her physically. But I'm attracted to many different people physically as well, both male as female. It's purely the physical, sexual aspect. \n\nThere's no romantic attraction and I'd never want to jeopardise my current relationship. My SO is truly the one I want to be with. \n\nI guess I'm just not really sure what I'm experiencing and how to talk about it. My girlfriend is pretty insecure as is, I feel like dropping this on her would make it a lot worse. I imagine she'd constantly question whether I'm attracted to her, physically and romantically/mentally. \n\nAnyone been through something similar? Any advice?", "summary": "think im bi, don't know how to talk about it with gf"}
{"id": "t3_aextv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need some advice. I am in a tight spot.....", "post": "So my issue is pretty complicated, and I need some advice. We made some crazy financial decisions when I still had a great job, but due to the economy I am now working at a call center for much less. My GF and I currently live in a small town in WV were we both work for $10 an hour (each). I have an opportunity to take a job in NYC for $60K in my field. We have very little money, we are behind on our bills, and I am not sure if we can even get even or out of the hole at our current pay. When I had my previous job these bills were easily paid, but now...... A breakdown:\n\nWe pay: 500 for rent 433 for Car #1 (11K left on loan) 328 for Car #2 (2.5K left on loan) 323 for insurance (Just turned 25) 200 for AT&T (iPhones) 250 for Electricity, Water, Heat 225 Student Loans 100 Internet Cable 19 Home Phone\n\nTotal Bills: $2378 (avg)\n\nOur credit is screwed, we have moved 4 times in 1 year (not our fault, rentals being sold), and we have maybe $300 to our name.\n\nSo here is the question. Do we move to NYC for the new job? I can crash at a friends place for a month or two up there to save up the first few paychecks. Maybe find a place in Brooklyn for like $1,500, cut the iPhones off, cut the cable, get rid of the $433 a month car, pay off the $328 car and go to liability only. Or, do we stay here and just try to make it work, try and spend a year out of the field, and somehow catch up. I am so lost. Help!!!", "summary": "We have a shit load of debt, stay in small town with no prospects or move to big city for better job?"}
{"id": "t3_2rf9d3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just broke up with my girlfriend[19] and we keep telling each other we want to stay as friends. I'm a [19m].", "post": "This past weekend my girlfriend and I decided to break up. We have been together for one and half years, and we began dating the last semester of high school. We got together the summer right after high school ended. \n\nSo this past weekend my girlfriend and I broke up. She told me that she needs space to grow and to move on with her life. She told me that she thinks we just lost the passion we once had although I really don't think we have, I agreed because I don't want to lose her as a friend and I want her to be as successful as she can be and I don't want to hold her back. \n\nOver the past two years we became best friends. My whole life I have never had anyone like her as a friend and its hard to break up with the person who is your best friend. Since the break up, which was this past Saturday morning, we didn't talk the entire Saturday and all of Sunday until the night. \n\nOn sunday night we were texting and we told each other that we were going to be friends. Again, I know  since we just broke up we probably shouldn't even be talking but she's my best friend and its hard for me to forget that. We've talked about our feelings and we both talked about how great our time together was. So yea we concluded with the fact that we were going to be stay friends. \n\nWhat really is tripping me out is the fact that she keeps telling me she loves me. For example when we broke up, She told me, \" I still love you but I need space to grow and to move on with my life, and I don't want to force anything that isn't there any more.\" Last night after we were done talking and we were saying our goodnights, she said, goodnight (name) and in a separate text she said, I love you. I broke down fucking bawling like a little boy.", "summary": "I would like to hear some suggestions about what the future might hold. This is my first relationship, my first true love, my first break up so I don't know what to really do. Although we broke up, She's my best friend and I would hate to lose her as a friend. We're meeting up on Tuesday to talk more about us and I guess say our goodbyes."}
{"id": "t3_jr9tx", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Might be a victim of identity theft but have never used any services from a bank", "post": "I was looking to open my first credit card a few weeks ago and the clerk informed me that my SSN was used by another person at the same bank to open an account. He was very reserved about what he could and could not disclose to me about the person even after I went to the SS office for a verification of my number. Instead of opening a credit card like I had hoped, the representative suggested a debit card which is what I have currently. However, I am still in the dark when it  comes to the standing of my credit. Although my first personal and legitimate transaction with any sort of bank only recently occurred, it seems as if someone has already opened at least one account under my name. I've attempted to call TransUnion and made an account on their website to try to smooth out my identity theft mishap but they require a credit card number to go any further. I might be a little paranoid because this is my first stab into finance, so I need another take on my situation. What should I do from here? I know somebody other than myself is in possession of my SSN but I'm feeling helpless about what I can do about it since everything I've looked up on comes back to establishing a credit report first.", "summary": "Never opened a bank account before, but someone else has under my SSN and may be using it for many other criminal devices. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hamhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25F] worried my 8 month exclusive relationship with [26M] is a rebound for convenience.", "post": "I met the man of my dreams several years ago and we became social media friends since we were both in relationships. I watched him date about two other girls this way. His last relationship was very serious and meant a lot to him. They broke up in July of 2014. I saw  him at a bar in September of that year and after a few innocent meet ups we became friends with benefits. \n\n-----\n\n We continued to see other people until January when we became exclusive. I worry this was not enough time for him to fully get over her. He has told me that she is the only ex he cares about. I lurk their past relationship and it seems so different than ours. He was constantly boasting about how beautiful she was and he very rarely even tells me in person i am beautiful. They took many trips together and he was always posting about \"his woman\". Other men are constantly  complimenting me and begging for a chance.\n\n----\n\n  \nWe live together and he has told me he loves me many times but it just doesn't seem as passionate as his last. We recently became \"fb official\" and he wasn't thrilled about it. His career does require him to have a public persona, which he didn't have back then. If i get upset or jealous he takes me seriously and reassures me i am the only one. But i just feel deep in my heart he is with me for convenience and is not in love with me. What should i do? \n\n----\n\n  \nI love him madly i wanna have his babies but i don't want to miss out on a man who only dreams of me. Am i a rebound?", "summary": "my boyfriend isn't as proud of me on social media as his last gf. They were only broken up for months before we started sleeping together before eventually getting serious. Am i wasting my time as a rebound?"}
{"id": "t3_aigrk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "PollReddit: How many people did you buy/make gifts for this year?", "post": "My girlfriend was astonished to find I spent almost $1000 on Christmas gifts this year, especially when unemployed. She insists it must be because I come from a large family and so feel obligated to get things for all of them. I think I just consider it important to give things to the people you care about, however many that ends up being. This year I bought gifts for my parents, 3 sisters, their partners, 5 nieces/nephews, grandparents, 3 uncles'/aunt's families (each as a single unit), 8 friends, girlfriend's family, and of course her. This came out to roughly $34 per gift (although the girlfriend gift was significantly higher, ofc). \n\nI'll note most people in my family do not buy gifts for everyone like this; one of my sisters for instance only bought gifts for parents and siblings this year, for instance.\n\nI don't think this is really an unreasonable amount, but it did get me wondering how many people it's normal to give gifts to. So how many people/units did you give something to this year? It'd be nice to get a better idea of what's common.", "summary": "Upvote if you see your number and list it otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_2atjhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20M] girlfriend [21F] of 2.5 years has a friend who is into incest, but she's still friends with him and that makes me uncomfortable", "post": "My girlfriend recently told me about one of her friends who was sexually attracted to his sister, and it's really starting to bug me that she is still affiliated with him. I don't want to come off as some guy who thinks he's too good to hang out with people who are into that, but am I really wrong for feeling the way I do? It makes me so uncomfortable to know that my girlfriend still talks to him and is able to call him a good friend. To be fair, I've never met the guy. She claims that he's genuinely a good guy, and that it's just the incestuous relationship with his sister that is blinding my perception of him.\n\nI know that I shouldn't just judge him based solely on the fact that he has a sexual relationship with his sister. My girlfriend said that she was \"scarred\" when he told her about this secret, but she can't toss him aside just because of it, which makes sense. I can't ask her to just give him the cold shoulder and leave him behind just because I said so. I want to believe wholeheartedly that he is a decent guy and all that jazz, but I still can't get over it. In the end, my girlfriend and I decided that it would be in both of our best interests that she doesn't make an effort to talk to him, but still be friends with him.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a friend who has an incestuous relationship with his sister and it bugs me that she's still good friends with him. Are there any other solutions to make my girlfriend and I feel more comfortable in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_52x18l", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Am I entitled to overtime?", "post": "I apologize if this is not the appropriate thread. Also, throwaway account because people may know my other account. Also, apologies on length.\n\nI started a new job within the past month as environmental specialist (a consultant) at an engineering firm. I was previously working for a utility company as environmental engineer and had to quit when I relocated. At my previous job i was salary. This current position was the first position I was offered after a year of searching, so I accepted. During the verbal offer I was told $xx,xxx per year. I accepted and was sent the offer letter. The offer letter stated pay of $zz.zz per hour. It added up to $xx,xxx. Naive me, I thought that was just the way they documented pay as a consultant. After my first paycheck, I realized I actually was an hourly employee, not salary. Again, I know I should have asked. I accepted my fate and have been working 8 hour days as normal. Now, I'm being sent in the field, alongside hourly employees, both from my firm and other firms. I'm used to irregularly houred fieldwork as a salaried employee, but I'm trying to figure out how to navigate it as an hourly employee. There are days where I start early, take short lunches, etc. I want to make sure I'm compensated fairly. I asked one of my supervisors and he said that I could leave once my 8 hours a day are complete, but if I chose to stay til the 5pm closing time (over 8 hours) I would still get paid and it would look better to the higher ups. However, it would be straight pay, not overtime. I looked it up on the state website and I'm not sure if that's techinally legal, since I'm hourly and over 8 hours is overtime. I intend to either talk to my supervisor or HR to get further clarification. But, I was wondering if anyone had any experience being in this type of situation or would point me in the right direction. I want to make sure I have a valid point if I do bring this up again. Thanks for any advice.\nAlso, I'm in NJ- United States", "summary": "I'm an hourly environmental consultant, do I get overtime?"}
{"id": "t3_29cgdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18/m] Needing advice for possible relationship", "post": "Some backstory here; I've had a crush on this person for the better part of 3 years. We met 7 years ago, but I only got to know her well for the last 3 years and ever since then I have been smitten.\n\nWe've become close friends, in the last 2 years, both sharing personal feelings and stories with one and another. She has had a few boyfriends across the years and is currently single, whereas I have been alone almost all my life when it comes to girls. I really think she is a beautiful, intelligent and hugely nice individual, but I need advice.\n\nI've talked to my other best friend about my feelings for her. Basically, she is essentially the only person I have ever had true feelings for, and I want to go somewhere with this, but I truly fear that if I do say anything, that she'll reject me, not only as a potential boyfriend, but also as the close friend I have become for her, which I absolutely do not want to happen.\n\nI am a novice at best when it comes to reading signs from women, but I think perhaps that there may be a few things leading to an interest on her part? Earlier in the year, she invited me out with her, just us two, to see a movie. I followed it up with some subsequent outings of a similar manner and we laughed and enjoyed it every time. She even invited me to the movies on Valentines's day (albeit after her plans with her female friend fell through) and mentionned that no-one had wished her a happy valentine's day (perhaps as a prompt for me?)\n\nI later invited her to a prom a month or two later, to which she accepted, but after hearing some rumours created by silly friends who thought we were going out as boyfriend and girlfriend, insisted we were going as friends.\n\nSo here we are Reddit, here is my conundrum, I have had feelings only for her for the past 3 years, and I absolutely want to be a boyfriend to her, but I am worried to take the risk and ruin our close (and deeply valued) friendship. Any tips, based on the stories I have provided above?\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I want to go somewhere with my friend, but don't want to ruin the friendship"}
{"id": "t3_206ccb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] just found out my LDR boyfriend of 3 years [23/M] has slept with multiple women in the past 6 months. Stuck with him in his country until my flight, help", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm a long time lurker of this subreddit, never thought I'd be posting something like this here but I know you are all so helpful and I feel I've no one else to turn to right now.\n\nI've been in a long distance relationship with my bf for almost 4 years. Ups and downs, as in all relationships, and 8 months ago I found out he cheated on me (kissed an old friend of his).\n\nThis devastated me, but I took him back as I believe mistakes happen, and people deserve second chances - he swore it was only a drunken kiss. The past month has been incredible, but today (I am in his country the past 2 weeks) I read an old message on his phone from last November saying, 'fucked another girl last night mate, shit that's 3 now'. Obviously confronted him, massive screaming on my part, and he admits he slept with 4 people between September and December last year. Finally get out of him, that the first was the friend he kissed. \n\nObviously, I'm not stupid enough to ever forgive/take back his disgusting cheating ass.\n\nBut because we're long distance, I'm stuck in his country until next Saturday, I can't get a flight home earlier as these were booked months in advance for price. I've booked a hotel in his town for tomorrow night so I can leave immediately but stuck in his for tonight (it's midnight here), and can't afford hotels for another week.\n\nPlease Reddit, what the hell do I do from here.. Stuck in a foreign country by myself and distraught. No idea how to continue on from here? Any advice?", "summary": "Found out LDR bf cheated multiple times last year, ended things but stuck in his country where I know no one for another 11 nights"}
{"id": "t3_fkwkf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Pot Cookie: Is it normal to hallucinate and have memory loss when you were high?", "post": "Let me preface this by saying I get high rarely (I don't have the time) and I'm not a spiritual person. But last Friday night I had arguably the most intense/beautiful experiences of my life.\n\nI ate 1/2 a pot cookie on Friday night. I don't remember much of what happened after the effect started kicking in except I was very laid back and happy which is normal because I've been high before.\n\n//The rest of this sounds like stoner talk I know\nAfter getting a whole bunch of junk food from Subway and Papa Johns, I found myself sitting on chair in my room at home. All of a sudden I had a *very* *very* strange hallucination... I felt like I was in the presence of some being, I can hardly describe it. She was female (had blue skin). She spoke to me for a few moments, it was all very lovely things, nothing bad, but it felt like my mind was overwhelmed by what was happening, so I fell out of my chair onto the floor (My arms were flailing around and I started convulsing for a couple of minutes). I then had this orgasmic feeling throughout my body and sense of peace and then passed out. I woke up after the experience and calmly went to bed.\n\nI woke up the next morning. I was trying to meditate (just to process/remember what happend) when all of a sudden I remember seeing the blue lady and I start convulsing and pass out again. Now, no one else saw this but me (I was in my room, alone) and I felt the same orgasmic feeling and sense of peace. I don't believe in any kind of god or deity or supernatural nonsense, but that was the most intense experience I've ever had. Is that fucking normal for a pot cookie?", "summary": "I ate a pot cookie, saw a blue lady in a hallucination and passed out because the experience/emotions were just too much"}
{"id": "t3_1ap7hf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "22/M went on a fantastic date with a woman (23), but now she just wants to be friends", "post": "A coworker and I have been flirting with each other for a little over a month, and I took her out for a lunch date on Monday. I took her to a Thai restaurant that she had never been to, we had a great time and spent about 6 hours hanging out after we ate lunch. Great chemistry and I really feel like we had a strong connection, but she texted me today that while she enjoyed it, she just wants to remain friends, saying her life is too crazy for a boyfriend right now. I really want to keep dating her romantically though, how should I proceed?", "summary": "Took a coworker out for a lunch date, we both had a great time, now she just wants to remain friends. What do"}
{"id": "t3_2keipm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] met an amazing girl [27F] but its complicated", "post": "I recently met a wonderful lady and the two of us just clicked on our first date. After three dates and only knowing each other a week, we decided we wanted to be in a relationship. After less than a week of being together, she tells me she thought she was ready for a relationship/dating but isn't...here's where it gets complicated. She just got out of a relationship a few months ago and isn't fully healed from the scars of that relationship (her words). She was also pregnant last year but had a miscarriage and still thinks about that all the time (the baby would have been 1 this year). She didnt think it would be fair to be in a relationship while she was still thinking about all that stuff and while I was a little sad we had to end things I wanted what was best for her. \n\nWe've decided to stay friends but here is where I'm struggling. I feel like I've forgotten how to talk to her. Everytime we talk, everything I want to say to her is too close to relationship-type talk and I do not want her to feel uncomfortable or awkward. I also want to do little things for her to show her I still care and that I'm not going anywhere. I really care about this girl a lot but I don't know the best way to show it without being overbearing or sending the wrong type of message. Any advice you ladies have is greatly appriciated. Thank you for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "Met an amazing girl but she isn't ready for a relationship, wants to stay friends for now...but i dont know how to show her I still care/not going anywhere"}
{"id": "t3_2j4nwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28/m) like this girl (18/f) that I work with but my life isn't really in order....", "post": "I've been working with this girl for 6 months now and we get along great. We don't talk or hang out outside of work, but I really enjoy spending time with her.\n\nIt is only recently that I have started thinking about her as more than a friend and I would like to get to know her more outside of work and such, but there are some issues I am worried about.\n\nAs I said, my life is not exactly in order. I got out of a relationship a year ago and at the end I had no car, lost my savings, and am now living with her step-dad(paying rent though) so that may not be such a great thing. But I have a vehicle now too at least but its not that great. \n\nThe age thing is weird. I mean, my parents met at 18 and 28, so it happens, but it is something to consider. Her level of maturity, life experience, etc. \n\nThat being said though, as of now I wouldn't be expecting a huge thing from it such as us building a life together, getting, married, etc.\nNo, I was just thinking of it as someone to get to know, go out with, and see what happens. Especially since I've only had one seriously girlfriend in my life. \n\nI have no idea if I would be her type or how she feels at all. I'm not in the best shape but I wouldn't say I am ugly. Who knows what her opinion is.\n\nSo am I worried about rejection? No I cant say that is what I'm worried about. I could handle that, but I wouldn't want to ruin what we do have as co-workers/friends. I wouldn't change how I treat her if she said no, but I don't know about her. \n\nBasically I don't know how to go about it or if it's worth it at all. Ive never had to deal with this before lol. My last and only relationship was one that lasted 7 years and just kinda happened.", "summary": "Crushing on a co-worker but my life isn't exactly going that great so not sure if it is worth asking her out."}
{"id": "t3_34dhdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (31M) having a never ending internal battle trying to decide which woman to be with. Please don't judge me,your help is greatly appreciated.", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nLong story short, Im an 31 year old male and I broke up with my ex girlfriend of 9 years about 2 years ago. Reasons for the breakup were that I wasn't convinced she loved me because of certain things I experienced with her and that in turn caused me to pull back which made things worse. Our relationship was a tonne of fun, I felt like we connected on a different level. Which is why the breakup was hard for me, I was convinced it was the right thing to do at the time given all I had seen. For the record she was always faithful, she was just a selfish person at times and could be mean with a bit of alcohol. \n\nFast forward to a couple of months after the breakup and I meet the girl who I felt was perfect for me.  She immediately fit in with my friends and family, loved me the way I needed, gave me everything I could ask for. A real perfect and wholesome girl. It was literally everything i wanted in a partner. But the connection I had with the first person was stronger even though I wasn't any happier.\n\nI see my ex as my soulmate and my current girlfriend as a great life partner. I miss my ex and i sometimes wonder if I was fair with her with the way things ended. I can't say I gave her much of a chance. And that part is eating away at me. I mean I was ready to propose at some point and we were very close to buying a house together. I'm sure that if I contacted her again she would want to work things out together. \n\nI know I should be happy but I'm not and I can't figure out how to handle all this. I need help!", "summary": "I feel guilty for breaking up with my ex and I would feel guilty breaking up with my current girlfriend to be with my ex. Im stuck. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_149y8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (26m) decided to leave a party early because my friends constantly teased him. I decided to stay (24f) and now he is cold towards me.", "post": "We have been together for 6 months.\n\nMy boyfriend and I went to a party to celebrate my friends' new job. When we arrived I introduced my boyfriend to my friends and they seemed to hit it off really well. About an hour into the party, a few of my guy friends started teasing my boyfriend about him never have and never willing to consume alcohol. They proceeded to call him a \"pussy\" in a jokingly manner and it made my boyfriend wanting to leave the party early. He told me \"let's leave. I don't want to hang out with these guys anymore\", but I refused to leave the party and told him that my friends were just joking with him, but he wouldn't have it and left by himself. I got really pissed at him for leaving me at the party and decided to stay a few extra hours longer than we had planned just to spite him, but I realize now that what I did was childish. I called him to pick me up and the entire ride to my apartment he was just completely silent with me.\n\nShould I have left the party early with him? My boyfriend is a pretty sensitive guy and sometimes small things that are joked about do sometimes get to him. I just feel that the way my friends called him a \"pussy\" was done in such a way that was not meant to be hurtful. He hasn't spoken to me since that night which was this past Saturday and I do not know if I should be calling him to apologize or if I should just let him get over it eventually. I did apologize for staying at the party later than originally planned, but I did not apologize for staying at the party after he left. Does he feel that I chose my friends over him? I am so confused.", "summary": "My boyfriend left a party early because my friends teased him calling him a pussy. Wanted to leave the party with me, but I decided to stay which pissed him off."}
{"id": "t3_54gflc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and the girl [19F] I've been dating for 5 months have decided to stop seeing eachother. I don't know how to cope.", "post": "Ever since a house party in May we've been texting every single day. The thing is, I'm the first guy she's been with since her previous relationship, which lasted 2,5 years. We visited each other twice a week, it started with regular dates but later it was just hanging out and being with each other. We loved spending time together and I thought this was meant to be.\n\nSo 4 weeks ago, I asked her what she thought of being in a relationship with me. In all fairness, it already felt like we were in a relationship. We shared everything with each other and the time we had together was just so loving and all that. She explained to me that she didn't want a relationship because she wanted to be free after such a long relationship. At that moment I felt heartbroken and didn't really know what was to happen next. After that conversation we still hung out and just had a good time together, like before.\n\nI just couldn't do it anymore though... knowing that she didn't want to be in a relationship. So yesterday I asked her what was to happen next, cause it's been causing me so much stress not knowing what our future would be. It came to the conclusion that she still didn't want a relationship.\nI couldn't do it anymore. It affected me in such a way that I was constantly hurt because I knew there was no future.\n\nRight now I don't know what to do anymore. I can't imagine not seeing her anymore, but we agreed that it's best for both of us if we stop seeing eachother. Today we laid in bed and cried all day because we knew it would be the last time we would see eachother.\nI just don't know what to do or feel. I've never felt this sad and knowing I won't see her anymore hurts so much. I love her and I just don't understand why she doesn't want to be with me anymore.\nIm sorry for the incoherent story but I just wanted to get this off my chest.", "summary": "the girl I love doesn't want to be in a relationship right now because of her previous relationship. I don't know how to cope with not seeing her anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1aeshj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "2.5 years, 53 lbs, my face then and now", "post": "- album (3 pics). Sorry about the so-so quality, all three are phone pics. The second two are really pale because I was facing my window when I took them.\n\nI'm not exactly keen on posting pictures of myself on the internet, but I'll make an exception just this once :) The first picture is from summer 2010 and it is probably the worst picture I have ever seen of myself. I was 17 and weighed around 104 kg (230 lbs). The other two are from today (16 March, 2013). I now weigh 80 kg (175 lbs). I'm 6 ft tall.\n\nI went from 104 to  my normal ~95 kg after summer ended, probably because school began and I fell into my regular routine with bicycling to school, playing football, walking places etc. I basically sat indoors every day for that entire summer. \nLast summer I graduated Swedish high school weighing in on 94 kg. In late July I picked up on running and started using Runkeeper to time my runs. I ran 2-3 times a week, but if I didn't run I was playing soccer, bicycling somewhere or simply relaxing outdoors.. At the beginning of september I had dropped 7 kgs, down to 87 kg. I also started a pretty active job in September which I'm still at, and that has really helped a lot. I basically stand, walk and lift kids around for 8 hrs a day. I work as a substitute teacher, btw, at a local school. I work with 6-7 year olds so it involves more physical activity than your usual teaching job, especially since I have more of a classroom assistant role than a teacher one. Lastly, I followed this for some brief periods of time:  It's not exactly a diet, but combined with my running/my job it helped a lot.\n\nThese past couple of weeks have been sloppy on my part, but the scale hasn't shifted anything as of yet (luckily). I blame myself and the Swedish weather... but that old picture got my spirits up and damn it if I'm going to give up now. Thanks for letting me rant r/loseit!", "summary": "I got fat during summer 2010. I got less fat after that summer when I fell into my regular routine of going to school, playing soccer etc... but I was still pretty fat. After graduation in 2012 I started running, watching what I ate etc. I wasn't exactly dieting, I was just choosing more healthy alternatives and eating less crap overall. I also played a lot of soccer and bicycled a lot. I tried \"the plate model\", linked above, for two short periods of time. Total loss from 104 kg to 80 kg."}
{"id": "t3_df6nr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Does this girl like me?", "post": "Ok, so an actual reply would be great as all of my other posts have gone without replies.\nBasically, i took a girl i just met out for the day, (we are both 19) as she wasn't from around here, and we had been introduced a few days earlier. The day went pretty good, i stayed at her house for 30 mins or so and chatted with her and her roommates and got along well, then we went for a ride on the foreshore, where we met some common friends who we went to lunch with. Later we went to the park and she attempted to teach me how to do gymnastics (i failed) until we went and got an icecreams and sat on the water and watched the huge swells.\nI later proceeded to take her home where we sat in front of her house for 30 mins or so just chatting about home and each other.\nThroughout the 'date' she was very physical with me, and would proceed to hit me in the arm or give me a shove when we were joking around or i was making fun of her accent etc. Often she would grab my arm and pull me over and get me to do stuff, like attempting to do a cartwheel or just walking down the hill, and even started jumping on my back for a piggy back.\nShe never mentioned anything about liking me, but often smiled (but she usually does) and would rip me off with off hand comments like 'your the worst' or 'your nearly as bad as X person.' She wasn't like this with anyone else i have seen so far.\nWhat your view on this reddit? Am i reading into it to much, i like the girl she is rather attractive and funny and smart and i would love to take things further, but we have only known each other less then a week.", "summary": "Went on date, girl was really physical and touchy and kept \"picking on me\" does she like me?"}
{"id": "t3_1dtbhj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23f found boyfriend's (24m) reddit username", "post": "We have been dating for 5 years and he has always been wonderful. I went onto reddit on his computer like I always do and noticed a different username. I recognized the username as something he used to send me dirty messages once about 9 months ago. I wanted to read them again so I clicked on it and instead of finding messages to me I found explicit comments to girls on gonewild about what he wanted to do to them. I have never had a problem with porn or anything like that but to see what he was saying hurt so badly. Later when I looked it up at home because I just couldn't believe I saw that he commented on my bestfriend's one time post. I had mentioned to him about her posting but he made it seem like he thought it was funny. I don't even know what to think. I have talked to my other great friend but she is very hot headed and gets mad quickly. I need a level headed person's opinion. What do you think about this? Am I over reacting because it just happened?", "summary": "Boyfriend writes dirty comments to girls on GW. Am I over reacting or under reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_472xg6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Netflix and chill as 1st date", "post": "So I started talking to this girl at a party saturday night. I was pretty drunk, but she was sober and had to leave early (around 23/11pm.) Somehow we hit it off pretty well and the following afternoon I awoke with some text messages where she asked me to add her on snapchat. After snapping for a couple of hours I asked her what she was doing this week (it's winter break here) and she replied that she didn't really have any plans monday through wednesday. I replied that I was working nights monday and wednesday. Now this is where I was caught off hand.. She asks me if she could come to my house tuesday night to watch a movie. I'm relatively inexperienced and agreed happily, but I'm not a kid and I know what this entails. We talked a bit back and forth about what movie to watch, but then she mentions that she doesn't really care what movie we watch. (This was all through snapchat)\n\nNow I'm getting super nervous thinking of all the things that could go wrong. Any advice for my tuesday night netflix and chill?", "summary": "girl talked me into netflix and chill the day after I met her. I'm an 18 year old inexperienced student. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2vguyr", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I (20F) lent my mother's friend (50sM) $1200, he still owes me $600 and he's ducking my calls.", "post": "Hi, I desperately need advice and I'm a college student so I don't have a lot of options. I'm on my phone so this may be weirdly formatted, forgive me. \n\nThe background:\n\nIn January 2013, my mother's friend's father passed away in another country. He had to go home because there are rites involved that he had to complete and he had no money. He asked my mother if he could borrow some money from me (side note, he told her he'd ask for 1200, he told me he needed 1500) and since I considered him something like an uncle I have him all the money I had available through Moneygram. Funerals are a BFD where I'm from and he couldn't miss it. He went home, came back and gave me $600 that summer. \n\nThe problem:\nI had to take the GREs in November 2014 and so I called him in October, letting him know that I needed that money back. He told me to call him back in the first week of November. I did, he has been ducking my calls ever since. I went and spoke to his pastor (culturally there's a process you go through in these matters) in order to resolve the issue. His pastor told me he would repay me in January. His pastor is now ducking my calls. Not having this money has led to me not being able to send my GRE scores in time, I got rejected from 2 schools because of it. At this point I'm livid, do I have any options legally?", "summary": "I lent a grown ass man with a full time job money, he refuses to pay me back."}
{"id": "t3_2fu8jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my housemate [31 M] of 2 years, I buy a new TV, he freaks out about em changing things", "post": "I live with a guy, lets call him Paul. He doesn't cope very well with change, but sadly the world has a habit of changing pretty frequently. \n\nA year ago, I decided to ask the landlord if I could repaint parts of the house as they hadn't been done in years and it was looking pretty terrible. He agreed completely, and even offered to give me the money for the paint back. All great, so I gathered my 3 housemates and asked if that was ok, everyone said 'no probs, knock yourself out'. Starting a new job meant that I got parts done like the hallway and kitchen, but it was about 3 months before I was able to do the bathroom and I spent an entire day off scrubbing, masking and painting. Paul comes home that night and comes into my bedroom where I'm shattered and having a lie down with a book, and long story short he'd forgotten about that group chat where I'd told everyone about it. He gave me a bollocking over changing things without asking and how I can't do things like that. I apologised sheepishly, and after he left me I got pretty mad realising that I had of course told him and he was fine with it before. Even when this was pointed out to him by the other housemates he didnt feel the need to apologise to me for the needless telling off.\n\nSo now our TV isnt working, and I decide that as I'm the only one who has the money at the time I'll buy us a new one. Old TV hasn't been dumped, it's still sitting in the living room in case anyone wants it for whatever reason. So Paul comes back from his holiday and has just stressed out at our other housemate that he isnt happy about me doing this. She sent me a message warning me that I'll probably have another telling off when I get in.\n\nI genuinely think Paul is on some sort of spectrum, I'm now full of dred at coming home to his anger at me buying us a TV that actually works. I need some tips on how to handle this and how to explain things so he stops freaking out over it? Please help reddit!", "summary": "housemate cant handle change, angry at me for buying a new TV. How do I diffuse this?"}
{"id": "t3_2ck2q3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my [20 F] 7months How do I convince her to pay?", "post": "We have been going out for 7 months and we both love each other. She is my first and I am her second. We are virgins and dont plan on having sex until after marriage.\n\nThe questions is how do I get her to either offer to pay or pay for dinner/activities when we go on dates? I dont mind at all paying for her, but I feel as if she expects me to pay for her just because Im the guy and she is the girl. Its the thought that counts to be honest, and it would be nice if she put up a fight to pay for things.\n---\nThe first guy she was with, he would NEVER let her pay for anything. She told me that the first guy thought that he could buy her love with money, and that's the reason they broke up. \n\nI have a quick summary of our spending give or take (PLUS is me, MINUS is her):\n+20 Sushi\n\n+6 Dunkin\n\n+6 Dunkin\n\n+6 Dunkin\n\n-5 Pizza\n\n+5 Dunkin\n\n-6 Dunkin\n\n+15 Sushi\n\n+10 Subway\n\n-12 Sushi\n\n+9 Subway\n\n-9 Frozen yogurt\n\n+35 Chinese food all you can eat\n\nTotal: 112 me and 32 her\nNow lets get this straight, THIS IS NOT A COMPETITION. I feel as if she expects me to pay for things because she either got so used to the previous guy, or she thinks that Im the guy, its the gentlemen thing do to. I dont at all mind, but i just wish she was more thoughtful about it. \n\nI have brought up this to her, and told her that it would be nice if she would pay for somethings (Dont remember the exact way I told her) And she understood, and the next time we went out, she payed for everything, but its been such a while since then. I feel like she only did that just to shut me up or something.\n\nAsk me any questions you might have as I am sure I did leave some things out.", "summary": "How do I get her to either offer to pay or pay for dinner/activities when we go on dates?"}
{"id": "t3_4ma5v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (47F) friends (45F-friend for 7 yrs) son (10M) called my other friends(47F- friend for 35 yrs) husband (47M) a racial slur", "post": "I have two friends from different social circles that are not friends with each other. I am close with the one with the son because we have a lot in common and we have a lot of fun together. We'll call her D. The one married to the black man is a friend from when we were 10 years old and is a great, loyal friend. We'll call her V. Both women have sons in the same school together. The husband who is black works in the school as the security guard. We'll call him B. B walked through the cafeteria at school and D's son turned to his friends at his lunch table and called the husband a \"fat *racial slur for black people*\". The friends were very upset by what D's son said and told the teacher. The son got multiple detentions for what he said. D's husband called B to discuss what happened.He never got to apologizing and actually made an excuse that \"the school says this happened but....\"\n\nV called me crying. She said that she can't believe how much her husband and sons get called racial slurs and they really thought this community was better than that. She wants me to call up and confront my other friend. Normally, I would stay out of someone else's dispute but I feel like, this time, I need to get involved and take a stand.\n\nI would appreciate any advice. Do you think I should get involved? If so, what should I say to D? If you think I should not get involved, how do I support V and her family and be a good friend. I feel so bad for them!", "summary": "friends son called other friends husband a racial slur. Do I get involved?"}
{"id": "t3_2qwy5v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Letting My Roommate Answer the Phone", "post": "My sister 'Susie' works in a large chain specialist store in a very famous English city that is well known for it's University and it's high Asian population (attracted by the university and the historical city). She often finds that these Asian tourists are her worst customers as they want things that she cannot legally supply - and then they shout at her for not understanding English prescription law. They make unreasonable demands, and so to blow off steam, she sometimes imitates them. \n\nIn a slightly racist way. We still love her though.\n\nMy roommate also used to work in a similar store so has had this discussion with her several times. Last week he answered our home phone. \n\nThe conversation went a little like this..\n.\n\"Hello... oh hey Susie. Haha, another tough day at work again? Ahh, yes, those tourists... *imitates Asian person*\" \n\n(To me) \"Takhana, your sister is being racist again\"\n\n(Back to the phone) \"Let me hand you over Susie, *imitates Asian person*\"\n\n\"Hello? Susie? Why are you imitating Asians? Bad day?\"\n\nThe woman on the phone is speaking some kind of language I don't recognise.\n\n\"Errr... that's not English... wait, who is this?\"\n\n\"It's 'Shanti'\"\n\n\"Oh... err... can I help you?\"\n\nAt this point I just stared at my roommate. WTF. This was not my sister.\n\nMy sister does not have my home phone number.\n\n\"Is Melanie there please?\"\n\n\"Err, no sorry.\"\n\n\"She said this was her number. This isn't an Asian household is it?\" She sounded more than a little peeved\n\nAt this point I was nearly crying. \"Nope.\"\n\n\"Ok, bye then\"\n\n\"Bye\"\n\nSat and cried on my bed for twenty minutes from shame.", "summary": "Roommate answers phone, hears a foreign language, for some reason assumes it's my mildly racist sister taking the piss out of her Asian customers and goes along with the 'joke'. It's not my sister. It's a real life Asian person."}
{"id": "t3_b4iow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Burgeoning alcoholic here, wondering about the wind-down/detox process.", "post": "So, at this point, I drink an average of 5-7 drinks a day at my local bar, each of which are what I, in bartending, would consider a '16' count (some people do a slower count, what I learned was approx 4 counts per oz). So each drink is about 4oz, so I drink a bit under a fifth a day, I guess. \n\nHaving friends with alcohawks, I know that after a full fifth, I average about a .08 when I wake up in the morning. \n\nMy brother trod this same path before me (as did both my parents, and all four of my grandparents - tendencies FTL). Right now, I'm clinging to the definition of 'functional', but I doubt I'm fooling anyone - I'm certainly not fooling myself (I think the only people fooled are my employers). But my brother, when he quit, got the whole nine yards, DTs and all. Now, he claimed that he woke up in the mornings blowing a .4, which I find hard to believe (not like he was 'boasting') but if true... means maybe I can expect problems up to but not including DTs.", "summary": "when quitting excessive drinking, how 'excessive' does it have to be to cause Delirium Tremens?"}
{"id": "t3_1ofsnb", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Infant separation anxiety", "post": "I have a 8 month old and a 3 year old son. My issue is with the 8 month old...he has severe separation anxiety. My eldest never went through that phase, so I'm feeling quite overwhelmed. \nThe baby was born small (SGA as a result of IUGR) but despite his tiny size (he's still small) he hit his milestones incredibly early, which I suspect was due to trying to keep up with big brother. The anxiety started around 5 months when he started to learn how to crawl. Over the  months it has simply gotten worse. He will not go to anyone other than me, he screams at anyone who holds him, including my husband. \nThe baby is EBF and would never take a bottle, so I've been very limited in having opportunities to have him spend time with people other than me. He has started to take sippy cups, but will only drink water.\nI feel so stressed all the time. I'm a SAHM and I feel like the baby's neediness is controlling our lives and really hurting my relationship with my oldest. \nWe co-sleep, but I have been transitioning him to crib sleeping since 6 months (in the end the only sleep training that worked was CIO). So far he spends only the first part of the night in his own crib. When in bed with us, he loses his mind if my husband so much as touches him.\nSo what do I do? Any advice? I'm trying to reach a balance where I can meet the needs of both my children where right now I feel like I'm failing at that. \nDo I ignore the constant freak outs? Is there anyway to work on improving this? I've tried the peek-a-boo stuff, leaving the room confidently and talking to him as I try to get things done but like I said, it seems like it's getting worse!\nHelp!", "summary": "my 8 month olds separation anxiety is taking over our lives. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_cextj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you believe the MAJORITY of people smoke pot?", "post": "Ok, so I live in NYC and I'm trying to sublet a room in my apartment.  Dude emails me, everything lowercased, comes off completely inarticulate and on top of that he asking if I'm 420 friendly.  I've had a few people email me about this room and only 1 or 2 people have asked this question up front, which to me is kind of inappropriate.  May sound prudish, but when looking for a person to cohabitate with, if one of their main priorities is getting high and they ask it upfront, before even meeting me, well then I would rather not live with that person.  Granted I do respect his cajones, still...he's my age but has the priorities and writing skills of a 16 year old.  \n\nI respond saying, sorry room is already taken (it is, Craigslist post went up a week ago and we filled it quickly) and added that I felt next time he writes a letter to a stranger he wants to live with, he should write it like an adult and not ask about pot up front.  Kinda douchey, unsolicited advice yeah, but I honestly take offense when people think just because I'm a young-ish recent grad I expect people to talk like morons.  (I also work in journalism so I'm prone to be overly sensitive to grammer, not on reddit though.)  \n\nSo he writes back and says that I'm dick (whatever) and that actually the majority of New York smokes pot.  This I do not believe.  I believe that a large contingent of America smokes pot, maybe a majority of 18-25 year olds but the majority of EVERYONE?  That means 4 million pot smokers.  He cites some BS statistic and then (out of nowhere) asks how much I can bench.  Figured that was a good place to end the conversation.\n\nSo, am I wrong?  Is NYC statistically 50% high?  What are some good resources?", "summary": "Guy claims half of New York City smokes pot.  Seems to be slightly exaggerated."}
{"id": "t3_v7ihj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do auto insurance companies check if your license is valid when a claim is filed?", "post": "Few days ago I was involved in a very minimal damage fender bender while leaving a parking garage. The other driver initially wanted to skip the insurance company and just pay for the repair. After seeing the bill he decided he'd rather go with the insurance company. \nProblem is that my license is currently suspended because I got a ticket while I was in my \"probation period.\" I never got a restricted license and well here I am now... I'm afraid that if we go through insurance I might get in trouble with the DMV/state etc... can someone in insurance shed some light on what happens when a claim is filed with an auto insurance company?", "summary": "I was involved in an accident while my license was suspended and i'm afraid the insurance company will try to screw me if we file with them."}
{"id": "t3_40wiwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my now ex [22 M] duration just broke up and I dont really know why.", "post": "To make a long story short, after 3 months of officially, he broke it off because he felt that he didn't feel as attached as he should after 3 months. I thought this odd. \n\nThis was my first relationship so I don't understand what he meant. We ended it friends, but I still don't understand wgat he meant. Although I will admit I just started feeling for him right before.\n\nAlso he broke up with me the day I got back from vacation which really hurt. And, I didn't say anything to him except \"okay\" which is what I feel worse about. I just want to understand why and really want to be friends with him later once I feel back to normal.", "summary": "bf broke up with me for not feeling like he thought he should. Wtf does that mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2cjn97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] and him [23 m] 2 years friendship about to go down the drain", "post": "We met 2 years ago on the first day of work. \n\nI unfortunately fell for him and he decided to lead me on. Now my normal core reaction to never talk to that person again. Well this time it was different. I did everything possible to forgive. We managed to form some semblance of a friendship. Granted I have to do all the calling, asking, waiting and planning for us to hangout. \n\nNow you would think that if he was going to go off and get a girlfriend he would tell me. We hangout  every other week so you would think he would mention this. Nope! Didn't mention it once. \n\nNow when we go out everyone thinks we are together. Walking close, whispering in my ear, the accidental bumps into me. Constantly looking at me big pouting eyes. \n\nAm I being ridiculous for being upset he didn't mention this?", "summary": "friends for two years and we hangout every other week. Am I wrong for being upset he didn't tell me about his new girl friend?"}
{"id": "t3_1dgq5b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking tequila", "post": "well actually this was a few years ago \nSo I was a sophomore in high school and I went to a school that had a real deal soccer team, who happened to be playing our rival school in the state finals one fine friday evening. \nSo because I think I'm cool hanging out with some of my upperclassmen friends I decide to join them in drinking copious amounts of Cuervo. \nWell fast forward to after I've been screaming obscenities at the players on the field for about 20 minutes (So so subtle), I decide its high time to make a run to the bathroom, so without thinking to have a friend join me in navigating the sea of people between the concession stand and myself, I just stumble carelessly through hordes of bodies, incoherent to the frustration of these people. \nSo I suppose I looked a bit suspicious during this trip and immediately after I resumed my place in the stands to scream like a jackass i feel a tap on my shoulder. I turn around to find myself about 18 inches from my principle's face along with a police officer. They proceed to ask me to recite the alphabet, where I slur the tune, \"A B C D E F G... W X Y Z\"\nSo next thing I know I'm sitting across from my principal, who is on the phone with my crying mother, and in one final apex of self-loathing I projectile vomit onto the floor and desk of my principal, who screams into the phone in surprise to my mother. \nI passed out in the car on the way home and just stayed there until I woke up about 5 hours later.", "summary": "I got fucked up for a soccer game and projectile vomited all over my principle's office"}
{"id": "t3_3re42n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(25F) feel a little weird about my husband(27M) right now. Can some some one let me know if I am overreacting?", "post": "I have been with my husband for 5 years. He is a wonderful man and I love him. Recently I have been feeling a little stressed about a situation. He has been hanging out with a female co-worker (late 20s). I trust him but its weird, I'm not so cool about this. The hanging out is kinda work related but its more of a hobbie. He rarely text me more than 2 words at a time but I know he text her sentences and phrases. Few days ago I was hanging out with them both and others at a dinner party. He looked at her With such excited eyes I felt very very hurt.(she was not looking at him as he did her, i did not get that vibe idk) I strongly think he has hung out with her without letting me know because he can feel how tense I get when they do. I have mentioned to him that he should not hang out with her alone, I tell him that it might give others a bad impression. But I'm too ashamed to say that I specifically don't like it(even though I trust him)because she is a woman and he is a man. I think since she's pretty and she's a cool girl he can develope feelings for her. What should I do?", "summary": "so my husband has developed a frenship with a coworker and I am not to cool with the situation."}
{"id": "t3_3c9rf6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speaking randomly and nonsensically", "post": "So this FU was way back in 5th grade, at my super conservative catholic elementary school. At this school, there was a priest, Bob. All you need to know is that his name was Bob. Anyway, I was that kid that would randomly say random meaningless shit for no reason.\n\n Anyway, we're in our homeroom doing independent work, so the classroom is dead silent, when out of nowhere, I, rather loudly, say \"Father Bob has a job to kiss a lob...sterrrrrrrr.\" and then I resume my studies. \n\nSeconds later, I see my teacher standing in front of my desk, and she is PISSED. I have no clue why. She escorts me to the principals office, and before you know it, I'm being accused of accusing our lovely pastor of bestiality. I'm threatened with a note in the ol' \"permanent record\" and my parents receive a call that their son is slandering Father Bob's name, accusing him of having a sexual relationship with a sea creature, and they want me picked up immediately and to not return to school for the rest of the week.\n\n My mother comes to pick me up, feigning an apology, and as soon as we get to her car, she laughs it up, and takes me for ice cream.", "summary": "Unwittingly accused my school's priest of fucking shellfish"}
{"id": "t3_3nf0kd", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Should I spend more money going to a more well known school?", "post": "I'm finishing up my last year at a CC in California and applying to schools to transfer to. I'm kind of lost as to where I should attend because I'm not sure if employers care where you get your degree from. \n\nFor example, I'm majoring in chemistry and I'm applying to Csun, Cal Poly SLO, and Ucsb. Csun is a cheap school that I can commute 20 minutes to, but isnt widely known for their science department. SLO is cheaper than a UC, has a great science department, and it fairly well known. Ucsb has a good science department, but the most expensive out of my choices. \n\nI'm assuming this question will differ amongst majors, but I would still appreciate some guidance. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "should I spend 31k a year at a UC or spend less than that to go to a less \"prestigious\" school."}
{"id": "t3_3ruj5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] best friend [19 M] is now in a relationship with a woman [19 F] who I've had strong feelings for. How do I deal with this?", "post": "(None of the names are real in this story)\n\nOne year ago I met an amazing woman named Diana. I asked her out, she said no, and that was the end of it for a while. About 5 months ago, we started to become really close friends and hung out a lot. I started to fall for her pretty hard at that point and I think for a brief moment she was into me too. I'll admit that it was my mistake to keep trying for months after that spark died out. We continued to be really close friends. \n\nSo Dan is my best friend from middle school. He hasn't ever really been there for me emotionally, and I him, but we have had years of experiences together. I care for him a lot and I know he cares about me. \n\nDiana and Dan both met through me and became pretty quick friends. Dan knew I had feelings for her early on into their relationship. Nothing really ever happened between the two of them until early October when they started dating. \n\nI still have extremely strong feelings for Diana that I don't know how to deal with. I'm struggling to handle having both of them in the same room at the same time. It feels as if their happiness is built upon my misery. The worst part is that I get to see all of the intimacy between them knowing it could never be me.\n\nHow can I move on from this and be supportive of my friends? \nCan I move on from this and still retain the friendships I've built?", "summary": "Pretty much title."}
{"id": "t3_15jawe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update... (30/m) So that just happened...", "post": "So this is all in reference to this post \n\nShe came back from her trip home. There was about a 95% chance, in my mind, based on what she was telling me, she was going to come back and end it. So I prepared for that. Well we went out to dinner last night and talked. She had made a decision. She tells me that she talked to her mother about being depressed and not being sure if what she is feeling is real or just the depression causing all of these negative things. Her mother tells her to go get professional help and to not make any major decisions until she feels happy and/or not depressed. Fair enough. She then goes on to tell me, basically, she is so emotionally detached that she doesnt feel like making love and also doesnt want to kiss, make out, etc. But she still wants physical contact through hugging, snuggling, grabbing her butt, things like that. She still tells me she loves me, and I say it to her. She seemed kind of mad that her mother advised her to stay with me until she feels better. She also seemed like she was expecting me to say the hell with it and throw in the towel. Though deep down, I think there is a part of her that is happy that I told her I would stick by her while she figures it out. Its all very strange to me and I am sure it is to her. We are a loving couple that doesnt make love or even make out. Im thinking this will change eventually since we are still sleeping in the same bed, and you have to factor in the drunk factor.... but it may not. She feels no desire to cheat or be intimate with anyone. I told her if I could not go on any longer that I would tell her before I did anything stupid. This is going to be a very strange time for us.", "summary": "depressed girlfriend of 5 + years, whom I thought was going to break it off, decided it is now best to seek professional help for her depression and hold off on making any major decision. However, for the time being she doesnt want to make love or make out or anything sexually intimate. All she wants is basically a hug and a shoulder to rest her head on while she is going through this. "}
{"id": "t3_4vw3oz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Different Colleges", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 & half years. We first got together in Sophomore year of High School and we're now starting college, however we're going to different colleges. I'm afraid of this whole new change. Many people tell me college changes you and creates a while different person, I'm afraid of her losing feelings or just changing on me completely. At the same time I want her to have the best college experience she can have and to not limit herself because of me and to live it up. And breaking up with her is not an option. \n\nWe have both talked about this topic many many times, it gets emotional and she understands exactly how I feel because she feels the same way. She's also afraid of me falling for another girl in college that may have the same interests as me or a girl that may be better than her. I do my best at assuring her of that not happening and telling her to think positively not thinking of the worse case scenarios. However we both try to have the confidence in ourselves of getting through college as a couple but still are afraid of what could happen. People say if it's meant to be it's meant to be. I've been trying to not think about this and push it off til it comes to my mind again. I needed to let this out and I need advice. Does anyone have advice on this situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are afraid of going to different colleges and are afraid either of us will change and put our relationship at risk. Breaking up isn't an option. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1t42ue", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I Need Tips On How To Get To Know A Girl... PLEASE HELP!", "post": "I am a sophomore, she is also a sophomore. We'll call her \"Katie\". I just move to a new town, away from my family to live with my grandparents because I was fighting with my stepfather. Anyways, I am here to stay. There is this REALLY cute girl who is into video games, dance, etc., and she is SUPER cute. I think she is in my league, but, everytime I speak to her, I don't know how to transition into getting her number. I talk to her on the bus, but besides that, I don't have ANY classes with her. I have no opportunity to get closer to her, so I guess my only option is to get her number. Another factor is that I am new to the school, so It's not like I can ask a friend or something. I am rather smooth, I am a reasonably good looking on a good day, dress nicely, good hygiene, and rather outgoing. It is just a situation I do not know how to tackle. So, please, help me. My name is Christian.", "summary": "I NEED TO GET A PHONE NUMBER FROM A GIRL I BARELY KNOW, I HAVE INTENTIONS TO DATE"}
{"id": "t3_476msm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my sister [18F] 18 yrs, my sister had a mental breakdown and is in a bad state, I don't know how to handle this.", "post": "Anne was recently taken to a mental health unit a few days ago after having a psychotic episode involving the police. She wasn't too bad in the general hospital but after being transferred to a psych ward (had to be done by law) she became very aggressive to the nurses to the point that they had to stand around her to make sure she didn't hurt anyone or herself.\n\nTonight I phoned her and she sounded nothing like her usual level headed stuff. Her speech was slurred and she was indifferent to me, saying that she didn't care to see me if I visited. There were random statements from her that didn't make sense. She swore at me in a mumbling way and then the phone conversation ended.\n\nI know she's not herself right now but I feel like if she doesn't want me to pay a visit to the hospital then I won't. Of course, i'm somewhat upset about this as we'd once been close. I am thinking of giving up on her. She has our mother and grandmother's support, and a lot of relatives too, so at least there's that. I would like some advice as to how to move forward from this. \n\nI've always wanted to help out family and friends whenever I can but I feel like this is futile.", "summary": "My sister is in a psych ward and is pushing me away. I'm hurt and I don't know what I should do - to keep trying or give up."}
{"id": "t3_xh66p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Desperate for cash, need help. Is a title loan a decent option? Other Ideas?", "post": "I have always been able to make ends meet as a destitute college student. But now, just before my last semester in college, I have hit a brick wall. I have to get my car inspected and registered (Texas Laws) by the 9th and my rent is due tomorrow. I have a job as a waiter, but during the summer months in my college town, things are dead. I have a car that is paid in full, and I desperately need money. My parents aren't an option, and that's a whole different conversation. Does anyone have any ideas, or what is your input on Title Loans, as it appears it is my last resort. Thanks for your insight.", "summary": "Broke college student seeking possible title loan, insight, other ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_1wc8ej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F23] having a hard time differentiating between empathizing with someone and loving them, it's making it hard for me to stay broken up with my ex [M24].", "post": "My ex messaged one of my friends on a dating website, so I broke up with him. \n\nHowever, I feel so guilty. I know things about him, I know what makes him sad and I know he's going through a rough time. I still want to be there to comfort him and I don't want him to be sad, which I know he is because of the break up and other issues. \n\nI've always been able to empathize with everyone really well. I feel like I care about everyone and everyone's personal stories really affects me. We've only been dating a month, so I don't think I love him. But I can't stop caring. It's making it hard for me to not pick up the phone and be like let's get back together because I want to be there for you. How do I get past this? How do I stop feeling guilty?", "summary": "I can't seem to stop wanting to be there for my ex, even though he doesn't deserve it."}
{"id": "t3_2nkccx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being depressed and accepting a \"cigarette\" from a stranger in a bad neighborhood", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nSo a little background on me, I'm a 13 year old guy, I'm from Sweden, I go to an American school, and have a pretty boring life in general. I'm usually very reluctant to accept anything from a stranger, but yesterday was something unusual.\n\nSo after school I went home with a friend, we played some games and had some fun. After a few hours he went home, and left me in a lone house (my parents were away). I was feeling depressed so I went outside to get some fresh air to clear my mind of anything unpleasant. I went to a bus stop, I was gonna go into town and get some food. Whilst waiting for the bus for about 20 minutes, a guy comes and sits down next to me, we say hi and leave it at that. Now keep in mind that this is a pretty bad neighborhood, and I'm not really forward with being here after dark. This guy, he gets out a cigarette, lights it up and asks if I want one. Being the idiot that I am, while being depressed and unsatisfied with my life at this moment, I accept while having no idea whatsoever what it is that I'm accepting. I feel fine for a long time, something like an hour and I still feel completely normal. I don't know anything after that.\n\nSo I wake up at the hospital, and a doctor is standing beside me. He tells me that I am fine and don't need to worry. But my mind is telling me that I totally need to worry, because I feel kinda feverish and have a horrible headache. I go the bathroom, and I puke. \n\nI still don't know what it is I smoked, and I still don't feel very good. Thank you depression, for making me feel like shit and make me worry endlessly.", "summary": "Felt depressed, accepted \"cigarette\" from a stranger, wakes up in hospital."}
{"id": "t3_2cdnxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my BF [24 M] of 3 months-- Just found out he cheated in his last relationship. Once a cheater, always a cheater?", "post": "I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we were talking a few days ago about former relationships. He had always been vague about his last long term relationship (in college) but said that it had been very complicated. When I asked him what that meant, he finally expanded by explaining that he cheated on her a few times.\n\nThe way he described their relationship sounded like it was very toxic, and ours has been nothing like that. He has never given me cause for concern before this conversation so I feel a little silly worrying about it. I also want to give him the benefit of the doubt because everyone does stupid, selfish shit in college, but even in my most toxic relationship, loyalty has always been very, very important to me and I have never been tempted to cheat. \n\nI've been cheated on before so I'm a little scarred from that experience, and when I asked my friends what they thought, they seemed to believe the old adage \"once a cheater, always a cheater.\" Do you guys think that cheating depends on an environment/ situation or someone who has the capacity to cheat will cheat again if the going ever gets rough?", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated in his last relationship; I am worried he will cheat on me if things ever get hard"}
{"id": "t3_13kype", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I be dressing now that I have long hair?", "post": "Last fall/winter I decided that after having short hair my whole life (I'm about to turn 26) that I would give growing my hair out a shot. I had always tried to do it before, but after a few inches, it would get annoying and I'd cut it off. I managed to stick out the annoying length period and a year later, I have thick, curly hair that's down to (and a little past) my shoulders. Never knew I had curly hair. Anyway, now that I've hit an ideal length, I've realized I have no idea how to dress to fit it. All the styles that I like, and used to use, seem to be mostly gear towards a shorter hair style. Now before you say \"cut your hair, hippie!\", the hair is staying. It's brownish red, with natural blond highlights, thick and curly and I have never gotten so many comments in my entire life than I have gotten in the past few months. It's a huge confidence boost, I feel better about myself than I ever have. So I'm just wondering, how should I be dressing to suit it?", "summary": "I have long hair, help me not look like a hippie."}
{"id": "t3_293012", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Tips for moving a long distance with my pets?", "post": "In August I will be moving from Wisconsin to South Carolina to be with my military husband, taking my cat and dog down there. Then, come November he is being transferred to a base in Alaska, so we will be moving not only ourselves and my cat and dog, but his two cats as well. The drive to SC I'm not as concerned about because I've done it a couple times before, and there are plenty of rest stops where we can take the pooch out to potty, and my cat is good on a harness as well so she can stretch her legs.\n\nBut the drive to South Carolina from Alaska is going to be SO long. :( We have a small dog crate that we've used for traveling with the cats before, but will probably have to get a bigger one for putting two cats in together. Two of them are good in the car so we'll be switching them out. One unfortunately will have to stay in. Plus my 70 pound dog. Has anyone else ever had to do something similar?", "summary": "2 people 3 cats and 1 dog moving from South US to northernmost state. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2jfyi8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24M] gf[19F] works two jobs but still doesn't make any money", "post": "She is available for full time work, but all she can find are part-time positions (at Target and Build-A-Bear). I currently make less than minimum wage because I'm attending college using the Montgomery G.I. Bill.  \n\nIf I wasn't so poor myself, then I would be totally okay with dating someone else who is also poor. But two poor people dating one another just doesn't make financial sense. Even though we're both experts at frugality, there's nothing *there* to be frugal *with*. In order for a relationship to work, at least one person in that relationship needs to be at the middle-class level or higher. I feel like we're both drowning.", "summary": "Should we break up with each other and go date rich people?  "}
{"id": "t3_3lzb2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey I (27m) want to take a trip without my gf (27f), is this wrong?", "post": "Hey so here's the rundown. I'm 27 and I'm an irishman living in Canada for now. I've been dating a Canadian (27f) for a couple of years now and its going ok. She can be a bit clingy at times which can be annoying thats the only thing. Anyway, I've been away from home for nearly a year now and I would like to make the trip back to visit family and friends for a few weeks, and I would like to do it alone... just to kind of get a break. Also I just want to relax and chill with family and friends when I'm home without worrying about her or having her by my side constantly.... Is this a bad request? And would you see it as a bad sign that I want to take a trip by myself? (even if it is back home).\n\nCheers!", "summary": "thinking of taking a trip without my SO"}
{"id": "t3_p18j4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf suddenly ended our relationship. Not coping well.", "post": "My girlfriend (21) of two years ended our relationship suddenly three months ago. I was absolutely devastated when it ended and was in a daze for several weeks following.\n\nWe have had no contact for two and a half months and I have deleted all contact information as well as her from my Facebook (I actually stopped using it all together). However we live in the same apartment complex (something she thought would be a good idea when I was looking for a place last summer and something I regret) so I do happen to see her from time to time. When I do I just leave the area. I have followed general post break up advice by doing things like deleting her info, hitting the gym, reconnecting with old friends, reading, had a wonderful new years eve with a beautiful girl, etc. \n\nMy problem is that I can't seem to shake her from my mind no matter what I do. We had a great relationship with no warning signs of it ending and I intended to marry her after she graduated college (She too talked about marriage). I have accepted the fact that the relationship is over but I still have the same intense sadness and anxiety since the day it happened. I am anxious for 10 to 15 hours a day with a racing heart and general unrest. I find I can't do anything without it reminding me of her and these thoughts cause the depression and anxiety. I have lost my appetite and but track my calorie intake and eat healthy because I know it's what I'm supposed to do. She didn't even try to talk about the problems she had with the relationship before ending it and that's what hurts the most.\n\nI started seeing a therapist soon after the break up because it exacerbated my seasonal affective disorder to the point that I couldn't live with it any longer. I haven't been for about a month but intend to set up an appointment this coming week. I'm rambling...\n\nShe was my support and most of my friends have moved away or don't have any advice for the situation. Is time the only thing I can count on to heal this? I suppose I'm just asking for some sage advice from people who have been in this situation before.", "summary": "Devastated by break up, need advice on keeping her out of my thoughts. PM's welcome."}
{"id": "t3_48xvda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weird parents; invasion of privacy", "post": "I'm [M21], in college, and currently live at home until I graduate college because it's cheaper to live this way for now. Okay so I recently turned 21 a few months ago and legally bought a few bottles of alcohol, including vodka and whiskey and stored them in my desk. I looked for them earlier today and they are gone. Apparently, my parents raided my desk and took them away. I am confused why they did this, should I be upset, or should I let it go? It feels like my privacy has been invaded more than anything else. I guess I am trying to ask, how to deal with controlling parents without getting in a fight?", "summary": "my parents took my alcohol away from me without me knowing. How do I deal with this so that they don't go through my stuff again?"}
{"id": "t3_2dgzik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] feeling upset/frustrated with my bf[ 24/M] over buying him a bike...not sure if I'm overreacting. Together for 3 years.", "post": "My boyfriend likes to ride bicycles. When he graduated highschool his parents bought him a bike and he basically bought all the pieces and put it together him self. This was over 5 years ago. \n\nWe recently ( 8 months ago) moved states and were not able to bring our bicycles along. I thought it would be really nice if I bought him one for our anniversary, so i researched and tried to find one he would like. \n\nI bought him a bike and he was very happy about it and rode it daily for a month. Then some friends came from our old state and brought our bicycles. \n\nNow he only rides his old bicycle and wants to sell the one I bought him a couple of months ago. He says that if I had got him a different kind( only one gear) then he would of kept that one instead.  My feelings are a little hurt. Am I being stupid?", "summary": "Bought bf a bike, he doesn't want it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1ee3co", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "35. Unemployed. Little/no work history. No documented skills. Irrelevant AA degree. Please help.", "post": "Status:  \nI'm not sure what to do. I've been self employed since I was a teen in a technical field that has all but disappeared. I haven't worked in years. My old employers don't exist anymore. I've burned through all of my savings. I have quite a few skills, but none are documented. I don't even know how to get a minimum wage job because they all want work history and references, which I do not have.  \n  \nHow I got to this point:  \nWhen I was a teen I worked hard to break into an technical field that I enjoyed. The work was short contract work with numerous businesses. A few years ago, I recognized that my industry was changing. Work was getting extremely scarce and the work that did come up was paying less than what it was paying years ago. I stopped taking work/bidding jobs to live off savings and go to school in hopes of acquiring a few documented, marketable skills. When I started school I lost all industry contacts. Also, the companies I used to work for have all disappeared, changed management, etc. leaving me with no references. Halfway through the education program I realized it wasn't a good program. I took a few more credits, as not to end up empty handed, and ended up with a general AA degree. Since then I have been exploring other programs and avenues, none of which are working out at the speed I need them to.  \n  \nAt this point I have no idea where to even begin. Ideally, I'll be able to learn some new skills on my own and become self employed again, but for the immediate future I need to find some employment. Any help/advice will be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I've never had a regular job and don't know how to get one."}
{"id": "t3_5320ir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [13M] popped my shoulder back into socket with the help of my sisters [20F] boyfriend [20M]. The pain keeps getting worse but he told me not to say anything", "post": "my sister is 22 not 20\n\nHi, so I popped my shoulder out of socket. I was doing that thing where to slide down the stairs on the rail and I fell off and popped my shoulder out of socket. My sisters boyfriend who is a med student or something popped it back into place. \n\nI live with my sisters [15F,16F,22F] and my other sister [19F] lives on her own not far from us. I really don't want to go back to school with this today, he told me my shoulder was fine and it may be a little sore. But the pain keeps getting worse over the past 2 days. \n\nHe told me not to say anything because for some reason my sister will break up with him, but the pain keeps getting worse", "summary": "Pain keeps getting worse"}
{"id": "t3_1nlgc1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm confused about my checking account.", "post": "There's a charge on there that my bank can't tell me what or who it is (or won't) And I have No credit cards, nothing that I have set up for auto draft.. and idk what the hell it is. It's showing up as \"Progressive Rent PMT\" It started in April and I mistook it for the purchase of my bed, which I outright paid for 5 weeks after I bought it. I called around to everyone that I know and they deny charging me for anything. I can't get a hold of anyone that holds my student loans, I don't think it's that, I'm in school so my loans are at a hold. And the RENT part sounds like it's my place of residence. I moved into my new place in MAY and the charges started in APRIL, so I doubt it's them.. and the previous place returned most of my sec deposit so it's not them... My bank is willing to dispute the charge all the way back to April, but idk what it is.", "summary": "Charge that I have no idea wtf is, bank doesn't know either. How can I figure out who and or what this is?"}
{"id": "t3_q8a7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I wrong to feel bad about this?", "post": "So, I've been seeing/dating this girl now for a month (Feb 3rd). Things are going really good. I am 30 she is 27. We got really close last sunday (19th). This past saturday, we were in bed talking. I had asked her if she went on any dates with other people besides me. She said yes. She went on a date with some guy the second week into meeting each other and kissed him, but that there wasn't a real connection. \n\nThis upset me...a lot. I know we're not exclusive and we're just dating right now. Am I wrong to feel bad? Is she wrong for going on another date with someone? She knows how I feel. She feels the same. She doesn't want to jump into anything serious so soon. She says she wants things to happen on their own and not force them so early. \n\nI've been out of the dating game for a long time and I really like this girl. I don't know what to think anymore.", "summary": "I'm a bit upset because a girl I'm only dating/seeing went out on a date with another guy 2 weeks into meeting each other."}
{"id": "t3_1gdzyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't want him to hurt anymore..", "post": "Me (19yo) and my best friend(23yo) tried to date... (seeing  each other a year.. officially together 1 month) but he is still in love with his ex so it failed.  She really hurt him.. and due to his confused feelings he really hurt me.. I am absolutely in love with him.  While we will always be friends and care about eachother... I just want him to one day love me the way I love him.  One for my selfish reason of wanting to be with him...  but mainly, I just don't ever want to see him hurting ever again. We both know nothing can happen right now, we both have personal issues to fix.  But I don't want to give up on us.. I don't want him to give up on the possibility of us.", "summary": "<B>I just want him to be happy.  I know I can provide that for him.. I just want him to realize that.  what do I do? :/"}
{"id": "t3_29dq6n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] don't feel like I can tell my boyfriend[23M] of 2 years I'm bisexual.", "post": "I guess my situation is fairly straightforward, even though it's not simple. Just in the past 2 years I've finally figured out where I stand as far as my sexuality goes. I've only really 'come out' to one other person who I've know for 5 years and have really always been there for me. I could see myself opening up to other people in the right circumstance came up bit I don't know if I could tell my boyfriend this.   \n\nWe've been rocky for a while, and only recently have things really gotten better. We've talked about our problems and some big ones have been resolved. I just don't know or feel like I could tell him this. I don't know how he'd react. I don't know how i would even bring this up.   \n\nI guess I'm looking for some outside perspective on this. I'm\nNot sure if I've given a clear picture on this either so feel free to ask away.", "summary": "I'm bisexual and not sure if I can/how to tell my boyfriend of 2 years this."}
{"id": "t3_320vfl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I start repaying these loans?", "post": "This will be kind of hard to describe without going into a lot of detail. I will do my best to keep it short and sweet.\n\nI graduated from my undergrad university in 2013. I struggled to find work while applying for med school so I didn't have any income to start paying off my loans. Deferred due to hardship. Finally, essentially a year later, I land a really nice starting job (approx $20/h, now $25/h). I had to reapply for med school (didn't get in the first time) so I was reapplying while working.\n\nSuccess, I was accepted into med school. I wanted to start repaying my loans before it started, but my parents suggested I put it off again since med school was starting soon. I found out later that the underlying reason though is because when I had loans from undergrad, part of those loans were Parent PLUS loans. I already knew that, but the point is, if I started paying mine, they would have to start paying theirs as well, which they can't do right now (laid off, minimum wage, extraneous issues that I can't go into detail). This essentially means I would have to pay my loans... AND theirs. I come from a very close, traditional family so it's not as easy to just separate my finances from theirs.\n\nThis is kind of a hard situation for me at this point. Medical school starts in August (4 months from now, almost exactly). I want to start paying off some of these loans with the income I've accumulated, but is it worth doing it at this point with medical school starting soon? Med school loans are going to be insane as it is, it will just be another pile to add to the debt I have from undergrad. How should I approach this? Should I start at least paying off some of these undergrad loans (and... possibly have to start helping my parents with their loans for my education) or should I hold off since med school starts soon.\n\nExtra info: I am not paying loans right now. Not-stellar income + economic family hardship = loan company allowed me to hold off my loans still. I'm still accumulating debt from that crippling undergrad interest rate.", "summary": "American education is broken financially. Not sure whether to pay loans with med school starting so soon."}
{"id": "t3_t4w4e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just killed a cockroach that was laying eggs. What's the most brutal yet unimpressive thing you've done?", "post": "I just woke up early to get ready for work. Before I went through my daily shit, shower, shave, I see a cockroach in my bathtub. The roach is on it's back thrashing and writhing while squeezing out one of those roach eggs things that looks like a black tic-tac. I stare at for a while mindlessly, I just woke up and am a bit groggy, and it reminds me of a human woman giving birth. I picture a woman in pain and agony while trying to give birth to a baby that she will soon cry over and love with all her heart. I now associate that image with this writhing roach. Then I wake up a bit more and think, \"Fuck that's a roach with eggs halfway out her ass.\" I wad up a bit of toilet paper, scoop up the expecting mother, and flush her and her egg sticking halfway out her ass down the toilet. Then I thought, that wasn't much for me but for her, I just killed her and her unborn children. Brutal yet unimpressive.", "summary": "I just killed a mother and her children in labor."}
{"id": "t3_4j0q10", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by messing up my friend's bathroom", "post": "This did not happened today, but last weekend. I am invited to a bbq at a friend's place. I know the guy, but not so well to consider him a close friend. There were about 15-20 people present, of which I only knew 4 of them, while they all knew each other already. Since I am quite an introverted guy, I was a bit uncomfortable after a couple of awkward conversation, when I noticed the booze started to affect me. As always when drinking beer, I had to pee, quite relieved to have a moment on my own. So I headed to the bathroom and started to empty my bladder, while leaving my 66cl full beer near the toilet seat. After the beautiful relief, I wash my hands and I hear a loud sound that I cannot identificate, so I do not think too much of it. However, when finished, I go to grab by beer and to my horror I cannot see it in sight anymore. When checking around for it, I notice it fell near the toilet, and now is empty while having left a giant yellow lake on the floor near the toilet. It is basically indistinguishible from a lake of piss. At this point I am starting to get worried and I also notice the toilet paper is also finished. So I think noone will ever believe me if I will try to explain this yellow lake, also because of my uncomfortable mindset since I did not know the people there, and I decide that the only possible strategy is pretending this never happened. I rush out of the bathroom and went back to my place and apparently noone noticed me. But I felt so bad for my friend having to clean the left-overs of my errors, believing he had to fix the work of a sadistic mad piss pump man.", "summary": "I spilled beer everywhere, it looked like piss, I cowardly run away"}
{"id": "t3_1hkhrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] I(23F) like my friend/coworker(26F) but am pretty hopeless with dating", "post": "So bear with me here, please.\n\nI (23F) have been talking to a coworker(26F) that I have liked since December/the beginning of this year. In march, I wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about her (because I am 12).\n\n She responded that she had a feeling it was coming but said that she wasn't currently emotionally available. She also told me why. \n\nShe did say she wanted to keep talking  and getting to know me because I had become important in her life. Even though I was pretty discouraged we still talked about hung out and texted everyday. \n\nShe does things like playing with my hair at work and touching or rubbing my back. But because I'm so nervous/worried about being turned down I just try and chalk it up to friendliness.\n\nNow that it has been almost 5 months a lot of my friends are telling me I should ask her on a date, but I am really nervous and keep chickening out when trying to do it in person.\n\n I know there isn't a way to tell if she likes me without asking but I was hoping you all would have some advice.", "summary": "really like a coworker/friend, told her once but she said she's not emotionally available, but it's been awhile. Should I try again?"}
{"id": "t3_283mg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of 6 months, he thinks I'm too silly", "post": "My boyfriend mentioned to me earlier that he had to improve his running time to be able to run a marathon; I responded that he was close and that he should go for it. He said, \"maybe in a few years\", and I replied, \"what if your legs fall off?\" as a joke.\n\nHe took offense to this and asked why I always make silly comments or ask silly questions. I told him that I didn't mean anything by it, it didn't mean that I was dismissing him or that I didn't care, it was just me being me. He said he'd like to, \"feel like [he's] talking to an adult sometimes\". \n\nWhen something is serious, I don't make jokes or say silly things; in fact, I'm usually the one who initiates discussion when we have an issue to talk about. We also talk about politics and current events constantly, and I don't speak in a silly way during those conversations.\n\nI truly don't mean to be immature, it's just me being \"light\" in conversation. In this instance, I was really out of things to say; I encouraged him to keep running, he said maybe in a few years, so I made a joke. But that's only my perspective, hence why I am here. \n\nTo me, this hurts because I feel like he doesn't accept me for who I am. I am silly. I am a goof ball. But I pay my bills, I'm on my way to grad school, I take care of my dog... I do everything that is expected of a 22-year-old. Am I worried over nothing? Does this sound like a personality flaw that I should work on or should I work on finding someone who likes me the way I am? How would you feel if your SO was \"silly\"?", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks I'm too silly- should I be more serious or should I find someone who likes my silliness?"}
{"id": "t3_42jp5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I overcome lonely and love for my ex ?", "post": "I [F17] went through a break up almost two months ago with my boyfriend [M17] of one year. I can't feeling very lonely and sometimes empty because of it. My mom is pregnant so I have more responsibilities at home which is stressful. I get no respect from my siblings and it's hard to what my mom in so much pain. I'm usually alone in my room. My friends are too occupied with other things and I don't really have someone who cares for me on emotional level. I don't want to get back together with him but I still miss and love him. My feelings are so strong that I often feel like I'm in pain when I'm alone missing him.\nBeing alone is taking its toll emotionally. Sometimes I feel like I don't belong.", "summary": "How do I move passed the feeling of loneliness when there is no one around who cares? And how do you make having a lost love less painful?"}
{"id": "t3_1jilfl", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Decide not to stick to our agreement? You get to pay for my dinner and walk home!", "post": "Back Story:\nSo in high school a buddy of mine got his drivers license way before I did, and had a pickup truck of his own. We were pretty good friends and lived close to each other, so he picked me up for school every morning and we hung out pretty frequently. There were a couple girls we hung out with from time to time. Since he had a pickup truck, 3 people could ride in the cab (including him). When the 4 of us would go out, one person always got stuck in the truck bed. Being the only non-driving male in the group, guess who always got stuck in the back?\n\nSetup:\nAnyways, one night we all went out to dinner, but I was tired of being the stuck in the truck bed. We all agreed that we would go if I only had to ride in the back on the way there, and they had to ride in the back on the way home. Well, we're nearing the end of our story and they start whining about having to ride in the back. They claim they know someone who got seriously injured doing that once, and they didn't want to risk their lives. (apparently my life was worth risking though?) They say they're not going to, because they actually have a reason. I tell them that I have a reason to, \"because I don't fucking want to!\". We ask for the check, and off goes the waiter to retrieve it.\n\nRevenge:\nI decide at that point that I've got to hit the restroom, and my buddy says he's gotta go too. We go to the bathroom and he says to me.. \"Want to just fucking go dude?\".. So of course, I say \"fuck these bitches, let's go.\" We leave the bathroom, head take a different route to the exit that doesn't pass right by our table, and peace out. They got to pay for our dinner, and from what they told us when they inevitably bitched us out, was that they weren't able to find a ride and had to walk 5+ miles home.", "summary": "Chicks agree to ride in back of truck on way home if I ride in back of truck on way to restaurant. They don't honor their committment, so we left them there to pay the bill and walk their sorry asses home!"}
{"id": "t3_10s0wx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guys, how do you approach girls you've never met before?", "post": "I've only ever had one girlfriend and that was entirely an accident. I'm still not sure how it even happened. I just wanna know what everyone else does, like, when they see a girl at the mall, at the bus stop, getting gas, etc. What do you say first? How do you keep the conversation going? Do you ask for their number every time? As you can tell, I'm very inexperienced with girls and relationships. I'm a fairly shy [18] year old, but I'm actually a pretty cool down to earth guy once I can get past the initial interaction. Any help or personal experiences would be great. Also, I'm not too sure if this is the right subreddit, so let me know if it isn't. Thanks in advance everyone.", "summary": "How do you meet girls?"}
{"id": "t3_43o9th", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sneezing.", "post": "This actually happened approximately 5-6 months ago. I'm in high school right now. So I met this girl in my class, let's just call her Rachel. Rachel was a really interesting person to talk to, and I realized that I had almost all my classes with her. So we talked almost all day, she gave me her number, then school was over, and everyone went home. At home I was texting her, we were conversing, and I started to think about how attractive Rachel was. Then while I was on the bus to school I decided in my head that I was going to ask Rachel out. I planned it out in a way, and was pretty nervous. So when we arrive at school I go to class and I see her in class and we talked and hung out etc. Then as we left the class, I was going to just grow some balls, man up, and ask her out. So I said \"Rachel,\" as she was talking to one of her friends. She turned around, and I felt a sneeze coming on. I instantly knew that this was going to be *bad.* When she turned around with her mouth still open from laughing, I unleashed. I sneezed one of the biggest and most snot filled sneezes you've ever seen. And I sneezed *directly* on her face and in her mouth.", "summary": "was interesting in a girl, sneezed in her mouth and on her face, probably never talking to her again."}
{"id": "t3_2wb6gv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [42 F] just realized my [47 M] husband is a passive aggressive who only has empathy for his cats - can I still ask him to make a baby?", "post": "We are newlyweds after dating 4 years.  I was orphaned at 14 and tend to be slow to trust people; he's a semiconductor engineer who can be socially engaging, but whether by nature or nurture, we are both introverts.\n\nAt first his close relationship with his 3 cats made me think he could be a loving caring father and husband, but he routinely ignores my emotional, sexual, financial and partnership needs in the relationship. \n\nDespite being trained as a semiconductor engineer and having a high IQ, he plays dumb/forgetful absentminded.  At first I thought he might have ADHD, but I now realize that his \"forgetfulness\" is really how he says \"no\" to things he doesn't want to do, so that I will handle them. \n\nI have accepted a job across the country, knowing he won't change OR do the work to find a job close to me, but I desperately want to have a child that is biologically mine, and at 42 I may already be too late.  \n\n**Another", "summary": "Old azz couple in declining relationship want advice on proceeding with fertility treatments and coparenting?"}
{"id": "t3_2bpxid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my SO [32M] of maybe two-months, how do I tell him I have HPV with a small case of GW?", "post": "So I went to the lady doc today and got confirmed that I do have HPV with GW. It's a small case of it and I'm getting them removed at my next appointment. Lady doc was very optimistic that I shouldn't have problems after that.\n\nBF is aware that I've been exposed to HPV but not the GW part. We have not had sex yet (and it's super frustrating) but I told him I don't want to put him at risk and he understood. He's been very patient (as patient as someone can be in a new relationship anyways).\n\nHere's the issue. I know I'm going to tell him that I have HPV. My question is, how do I tell him that I have a small case of GW caused by that strain of HPV and may not be able to get it removed until August (or even POSSIBLY September)? \n\nI'm GOING to tell him. I'm just looking for the best possible way so that I don't mess this up.", "summary": "How do I [21F] tell my SO [32M] that I have HPV with a small case of GW without scaring him off?"}
{"id": "t3_2gi0qr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Fight over board game", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nBackground info, I have been dating a woman for about a year and a half, we are both in our early 30s.\nMy girlfriend and I went to my younger brothers place to hang out and play some board/card games. My girlfriend brought over a new game she got, and hadn't even opened yet. We played the game, and toward the end of the game everyone, but her, had at least two points (game ends when someone hits 4). I made a move that would prevent her from winning a round and get one point, but would get me my third point. Once i did that she was pissed, and was visibly upset for the rest of the evening. She would not look at me, and didn't want me to touch her.\nWhen we got home, we got into a fight, because she felt like she was being picked on. She felt stupid and embarrassed that she brought a game and didn't get a single point. She felt like she was being ganged up on, and ended up not having fun because she was beaten so badly.\n\nMy argument was, that I was just playing the game. I didn't target her, I was targeting someone who could have beaten me that round. She said I should have thrown the round just so she could have gotten one point and thus would have had fun.\n\nI feel like she is being a sore looser, and poor sport. She feels like i was being inconsiderate and mean.\n\nI have played many games where i loose, and i think nothing of it. I play a card game with friends where they beat me 90% of the time, and i keep playing with them. \n\nWhat is your opinion? Was i being to competitive? or is she being a sore looser?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Fight over board game, She got dead last. She says I should have thrown a round to give her at least one point. I think we played a game, and she is being a sore looser."}
{"id": "t3_3d2ffb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my GF [19 F] dated for 8 months and she broke up with me because she's not ready and wants to be single", "post": "My ex and I met almost 2 years ago\n\nWe go to the same school and live in the same dorms\n\nWe started out as best friends but part of me always liked her as more than that\n\nI never thought she liked me that way until we both got drunk and hooked up at a party\n\nAfter that we just stared developing a relationship and finally she agreed to be my girlfriend\n\nWe had a great relationship for the first few months and were very happy together\n\nThen she started to get distant and would blow me off to go out with her friends or leave me waiting for hours after she told me we would hang out\n\nWe started fighting a lot and she broke up with me saying she's not ready for a relationship\n\nIt was very upsetting because I was putting so much effort into our relationship and she was putting barely any in but that still hasn't made me stop loving her. \n\nI know she's still very immature and I need to let her do some growing up before I think about trying to get back together with her although thats what I really want\n\nThe problem is she wants us to be best friends again and as much as I want her to be part of my life I don't know that I can go back to being just her friend\n\nIt's been really hard because I feel like I've lost my girlfriend and my best friend because she was the first person I'd ask whenever I wanted to do something", "summary": "I stared dating my best friend, 8 months later she breaks up with me and says she's not ready for a relationship and needs to be single but now she wants to be best friends again"}
{"id": "t3_4mrw36", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/f] think my ex [28/m] cheated on me, is it going to help at all trying to find out the truth?", "post": "My ex and I broke up a couple months ago after being together for 1.5 years. We tried living together for the last couple months of our relationship and it completely tanked after that. Towards the end, we weren't very intimate at all, practically zero sex. I was working all the time and he was unemployed, whenever I asked about his day he never gave specifics and just said it was \"fine\" every single time. Two weeks after the break up, his fb is plastered with photos of a new girl and it seems like they're spending night and day together. I blocked him so I wouldn't obsess over it, it was a fairly mutual break up. Doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt. He contacted me a few weeks ago, apologizing for how awful he was towards the end, telling me how great I was and that he took everything we had for granted, said he wasn't doing it for forgiveness and that he just wanted to let me know. Was that out of guilt? I don't even know what to think.\n\nI guess it doesn't matter either way at this point but once the idea of it got into my head, I just can't let it go. Would I be deluding myself in thinking that finding out the answer would make me feel better or give me some closure? He could lie about it, I'm not sure if I'll believe him either way. But if I don't even bother asking, I'll never even give myself the chance to find out whether I like the answer or not. Should I just drop it?", "summary": "My ex might've cheated and I want to ask and find out the truth. Is it worth it or no?"}
{"id": "t3_1aptyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M19] has feelings for [F19] but not sure if she feels the same way.", "post": "I have known this girl for quite some time now, around 5 months and we have become really good friends. A few weekends ago, she anonymously put on a Facebook Missed Connections page that she had feelings for me. (she later told me it was her). We were at a party a few weekends ago and we ended up making out for a while. Since then, we have still been talking and see each other almost every day. We have hung out, I bought her coffee, and went on a late night walk and we held hands the whole time. But when I told her that I had very strong feelings for her, she said, \"I don't know what to say.\" then later today she said, \"I hope this doesn't make things awkward between us.\" Reddit, What does this mean? Any advice? Did I do something wrong?", "summary": "A girl told me she had feelings, we hung out, I told her I had feelings, now she is sending mixed signals."}
{"id": "t3_2krshr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20f] and fiance [24m] dating 3 years, engaged 6 months. I feel like it might be time to close this chapter of my life.", "post": "I really love this man.  But I'm not sure I'm in love with him anymore.\n\nRecently I've realized that I might be poly amorous.  My fiance does not agree with this at all, and I don't blame him.  He can't possibly think of sharing me emotionally or physically with someone else.\n\nAfter a few days of both parties being miserable (I'm lonely and afraid to hurt him)(he doesn't understand how I'm not enough for him)  we had a cry/talk and he said that if I need to end it I should do it soon so that I don't pull him along, or worse we get married and I get these feelings again.\n\nI was fine, until he fell asleep and I couldn't.  I ended up sexting with another guy I had been talking to lately.\n\nWhen I'm with him I'm fine and happy, but he works full time and when I'm alone I get...lonely, and I get urges to talk to other guys.\n\nI know I can't have my fiance and this lifestyle.  I just need advice other than \"you should break up with him\".\n\nI don't even know if you guys can give me any advice.", "summary": "Been with boyfriend for a long time, starting to feel like I might be poly amorous, I can't have both and have to choose."}
{"id": "t3_309tlj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Long Distance GF of [23 F] of 6 Months, Feeling Overly Invested", "post": "I've known my current girlfriend since senior year of high school. We went to different colleges, remained close friends throughout, and eventually started dating the summer after graduating. We have since started jobs in different cities (Dallas and Austin \u2013 about a 3 hour drive) and have been long distance for most of our relationship. I've kind of always had a thing for this girl but the timing was never right for me to make my move. It was initially hard for her to see me as more than a friend and things moved very slowly in the first few months of our relationship. We went from dating to exclusive to boyfriend/girlfriend and have gradually gotten more serious as time has passed.\n\n I wasn't used to moving so slowly with a girl and have always been one to fall fast and hard. It took us about 4 months of dating to have sex, which was much longer than I'd waited in the past. As our relationship has been building I've been unsure of if she feels as strongly about me as I feel about her. I feel like I'm always the one making the plans for us to see each other, want to hang out more often with her than she does me, and  want to have sex more often and always have to initiate. We get along great when we're together but making plans to see each other always feels more forced than it should. I feel like I'm going through an endless cycle of wondering if she even cares when we're apart and feeling great about things directly after visiting her or when she visits. \n\nI'm getting to the point where I think I love her but am afraid to express how I feel out of fear she doesn't feel the same way. I want to bring up the idea of one of us moving so we can stop doing long distance but I don't think she would be willing to move to my city like I would be willing to move to hers. I'm wondering if it would even be worth my effort to move to her city and if it would make our relationship progress to the next level like I want it to. How do I bring this up without coming on too strong and pushing her away?", "summary": "My girlfriend of 6 months and I live in separate cities and I'm thinking about moving closer to her but feel like I'm more invested in our relationship than she is and don't want to come on too strong."}
{"id": "t3_1x9yaw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Girlfriend (20/f) comes clean about affair with my friend. Stay or go?", "post": "My current girlfriend and I were together back in high school. I then left for college and we stayed talking but were not exclusive. I used this time to find out what I wanted and hook up with different people. She was okay with still talking and knew about me with other girls. Pretty much treated it like a long distance open relationship. She is a girl that I can truthfully say I love and I can commit to long term. Here's where the story gets interesting. She transfers to my college, decides she's doesn't want to be in a relationship yet, and starts hooking up with other guys. She has always told me that she would never and has never hooked up with one of my friends. We've now been in a fully committed relationship for a little over a month and the truth finally comes out. She gave head to a good friend of mine twice in the period of time when she had first transferred and we were giving each other space. She cried, told me her love for me was real and wants to move past it. I have a problem with her lying about it multiple times, but I'm also aware of how hard it can be to come clean about situations you know will hurt someone (experience). Do I stick it out or has true love left and I'm waiting to be hurt more.", "summary": "Girlfriend who I love lies about past history with a good friend of mine. Stay or go?"}
{"id": "t3_42lzoz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [26 F] of 2 years - Thinking of breaking up, but terrified of leaving her child [4 f] without a father figure.", "post": "My live-in girlfriend of two years has given me an ultimatum. If I don't want to marry her, we should break up so she can move on. After a lot of hard thought, I've come to the conclusion that I don't want to marry her, even though I'm happy and comfortable in the relationship.\n\nMy trouble is that she has a 4 year old daughter. I love the kid. I potty trained her, helped her learn her ABCs, kissed booboos and all the normal parent stuff. She calls me daddy and her biological dad is useless and absent.\n\nShe used to ask me where her real daddy was. Now she sings songs about how I'm the best daddy in the world. It breaks my heart to think that I might break hers. I don't know what to do or how to make it easier on her.", "summary": "How can I break up with my girlfriend without destroying her daughter's trust in father figures?"}
{"id": "t3_464duk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and a girl I met in my college class weeks ago [18 F] - what to do in this situation?", "post": "I meet her on the first day of class, we're in the same group, she gives lots of stares, laughs at my silly jokes all the time even when it's not funny, I get her number a week or two later (class is once a week) we're both clearly attracted to each other.\n\nNow whenever class ends she tries to walk with me but is on her phone 80 percent of the time. She never has a lot to say and she is kinda shy, just like me. So sometimes it's just an awkward walk to our cars with little talk.\n\nI haven't hugged, or even touched her as in side hug, playful touching, hand held, etc. I want to hangout casually with her before considering dating, but don't know what to do. I may go to a museum with my friend and his gf, maybe I could invite this girl? I just dont know exactly what kind of girl she is since she doesnt show much of herself. What can I do to avoid making all this awkward?\n\nAlso  escalate very far in text (she uses snapchat and knows I dont have one).", "summary": "me and girl have been having class for a few weeks, got her # but didnt go very farm What can I do to escalate our relationship outside of school without making it awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_1u1e33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] need advice on how to get out of this relationship with my boyfriend [25M]", "post": "Okay, I'll try be short, thanks for reading this :)\n\nMe and my boyfriend both has a psychological diagnosis, not the same one, so that is one of the issues. We've been together for 4 years.\n\nI am the person in the world most afraid of abandonment and he is distant, I can't talk to him about anything and in his eyes I seem to be the least interesting human to be around, there are loooooots of other problems, but this is what I wanna focus on. We literally can't have a conversation because he 10 out of 10 times, knows better and needs to explain his version of things. When I have tried to talk he talks over me and I have to listened to this for a long time, so my patience runs out and I act crazy.\n\nI need to get away from him, he is moving 1st march in 2014, but we still own an apartment together. I feel like I love him with my whole body/soul etc, but I see now that he is mistreating me and he have been for a very long time, I feel worthless and tiny around him now, I am quiet, not myself. I don't think he loves me. He wouldn't be able to make me feel this bad and do this to me if he really loved me. He talks a lot about my diagnosis, I am my diagnosis for him (I think), I can't live with being told how sick and crazy I am multiple times a day.\n\nAny advice/help will be highly appreciated.", "summary": "My bf can't listen only explain his side of the story, he makes me feel bad, and is mistreating me, I need to get out! We've been together 4 years."}
{"id": "t3_375mb0", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Homeschooler trying to make it in. What should I do?", "post": "I'm at a slight loss and my parents are no help. They made the poor decision to homeschool me my whole life and I never got to challenge myself like I know I can. I desperately want to do so in college.\n\nMy angst aside, here is the context: I am 16 years old and I'll be 17 in June. I live in California. I graduated early a few days ago with a 4.0, 1770 SAT but no clubs, organizations or AP scores. Completed AP Calculus but my parents wouldn't let me take the test. (They let me take the SAT...? I'm not sure, they don't make sense) \n\nWhat I do have on my side is time, work opportunities and a sincere dedication to make this work. Do I have a chance? The umbrella school my grades went through is accredited so I have a \"diploma\", thankfully. I'm completely lost on the system though.\n\nDue to my age, I can't go to college until next fall. How can I best use my time?", "summary": "my parents are stupid and I have a year before college. What's a timeline of important things to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1aaacx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [m26] wife [f28] and I have a great marriage, but no other friends. Could this be bad?", "post": "My wife and I are best friends, we've been through a lot together (5 years) and we've made it work. I have no doubts that we both think our marriage is amazing. Occasionally, she'll complain to me that we don't have any close friends. No one to invite over to dinner or parties, or even have conversations with. No one ever calls us to go out. Now, I'm kind of OK with that, but she's more sociable than I am. The thing is, we're both very busy on weekdays, and weekends we just hang out with each other and relax. So, is she just letting off some steam, or could this be the start of a bigger problem?", "summary": "Great marriage, no other friends, wife sometimes complains about lack of social life. Potential problem?"}
{"id": "t3_4bu228", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is giving receiving a business card bad relationship etiquette? Me (28F) BF (28M)", "post": "Relationship  4.5 years.\n\nThank you for reading!  So I am in sales and have gotten in the habit of exchanging business cards as frequently as possible.  I have accumulated a stack which are scattered throughout my purse.  I guess you could say it has become a reflex when meeting somebody.\n\nI went to a bar with my friend Tabitha several weeks back and we started talking to two guys about the caucus.  The conversation then turned to whether we had boyfriends and I said I was in a relationship and that we were getting engaged soon.  I talked about this a LOT.\n\nI then went to leave and did the whole business card exchange.  I did not intend to ever speak to either of them again and have not. I cannot think of a nice way to say this, but neither of these men were attractive.\n\nThe next day, I had already forgotten their names.  My boyfriend found the business card on the floor and got excited because he needed a new mechanic.  I didn't remember the guys' names so I said that the card was probably my friend Tabitha's.  Later, when I picked it up cleaning, I realized it was probably one of the people we had been talking to and threw it in my purse to join the stack.\n\nA few nights ago when we were in bed, my boyfriend asked if I still had the card.  I told him that I could get it for him in the morning.\n\nThat night, however, I couldn't sleep because I started feeling really bad.  For the first time, I wondered if taking business cards might be similar to going out and getting numbers.  I woke my boyfriend up after several hours of not sleeping and explained to him the story and said that I was sorry.  He was fine with it, but was angry that I woke him up.  I felt bad that I had said it was probably Tabitha's.", "summary": "Is it wrong to give out your business card or take one from a single man?  I have been doing it because it is a good networking tool, but maybe it leads to too many complications?"}
{"id": "t3_3zhr0p", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey loseiters! I'm about 5 weeks in and just recently realized something pretty crazy about dieting (for me)", "post": "So I've been eating really healthy for 5 weeks or so now. I eat a lot of soup, saut\u00e9ed veggies, smoothies, with some chicken or lean meat peppered in a few times a week. I've recently discovered the amazing-ness known as collard greens too. A real life changer for me, they are. \n  \nAnyways, about 2 weeks ago I had a sandwich and something weird happened. I lost my damn mind with hunger. I went in to a hungry rage, just like in my past diet attempts. This fit of hunger has doomed me many times before, so I started feeling pretty worried. I felt like \"ah damn, I made it 3 weeks, here we go again with this constant hunger bullshit.\" Then I had this realization; That was the first bit of bread I had had in 3 weeks. CARBS! SIMPLE CARBS!  \n  \nI've been making sure to not eat any more simple carbs, and I seriously do not even get hungry anymore. It's a damn blessing and a miracle. It's never in my life been so easy to diet. I really fueled cured of what I can only think of as a mental disorder of overconsumption. I'm so relieved, and mentally already feel skinny!\n  \nFeel free to message me, or comment and ask about different veggies I replace the simple carb sides with.", "summary": "I realized, for me, carbs are the devil."}
{"id": "t3_szsae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my experience with American women... normal?", "post": "*First up, I'm an English exchange student just about to finish up a year studying at a good public school on the East Coast. Using my dazzling wit and English charm (read:endearing awkwardness) I found myself in a number of \"romances\".*\n\n**One example**\n\n- Friends and I go to a club, start talking to a girl who I hadn't met before but knew my circle of friends. We get drunk, kiss once and all of a sudden she's really frankly discussing the logistics of us fucking that night, as if it were a business meeting being arranged. I was taken aback by the forwardness, but I appreciated it. At least she was to the point. \n\n- We get back to the room, she takes some Benadryl for her allergies and we start hooking up. It's kind of awkward, because we're still a bit pretty drunk and pretty tired, but once that Benadryl kicked in she began getting a bit crazy.\n\n- She kept stopping to impart some gem of wisdom, often subjects absolutely unrelated to the current circumstance. I kind of ignore it at first but it gets to the point where she's talking so much shit that I give up and just lay next to her.\n\n- She then begins to scratch my back in a way that might have just been sexy were we not completely inanimate, she tore the shit out of my back. No apparent reason (she was drifting off by this point I think).\n\n- I give up on her crazy, and go to sleep. Next morning she spends 30 mins bitching about how it's best we didn't have sex because \"no men can satisfy her\", as if that's a failure of humankind and not some biological problem that she might have. It also transpires that **she refers to herself** as a militant feminist, the sort that hate men out of principle...", "summary": "I might have been the victim of a bizzarre, convoluted and Benadryl fuelled feminist hate attack^1"}
{"id": "t3_3om77k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my [27 F] wife of 7 years, moved to my in laws terrain to build our new house. Now we're having problems because of her father.", "post": "We been living two months now with them. It was not my idea, they invited us because we were paying rent and they thaugth we were not doing ok. I never liked the idea but because i knew my wife and daugther were going to be happier i finally agreed. Now im having problems because her dad thinks that all day everyday i should be working around the house or making money. I dont lived in the same house but really close to them. I only work weekends and i make like 800$ a month my wife makes almost 1000$ a month. My question is should i leave alone? With my family? Or should i take her dads shit? The house is half finish. Im really thinking of getting all my things and leaving. Im from Puerto Rico we only pay the energy bill, groceries, 2 credit cards and a car. Everything is like 500 a month.", "summary": "Moved to my wifes parents terrain and now they are being a pain."}
{"id": "t3_11k6y5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Everything was going so great.......  (24m) (20f) 8 month relationship TKO'd (total knock out)", "post": "Hope this doesn't get too long, whatever. \n\nWe met in my last quarter of classes and she was on exchange from Scotland to WA. The month before we met, her grandmother passed away. A week after we met, my grandmother passed away. The next month we both lost our remaining grandfathers. Needless to say, we bonded pretty fast while helping each other cope with the losses. \n\nShe was perfect. Blonde like me, skinny like me, cute accent, talented musician, hard worker, arts enthusiast, full package.\n\nI went off to student teach the next quarter and visited every weekend. She became a faculty favorite and a bright spot in the piano program (both music students). She decided to transfer to this school because its way better than her current school in Scotland. Weeks were tough to get through, but the weekends were some of the best of my life.\n\nFast forward to summer: Her parents came to visit WA and loved it. I come back to Scotland with her for 3 weeks and we take a couples trip to Italy for the last week. Amazing.\n\nFast forward to end of summer/beginning of fall: I come back early and she spends another 3 weeks in Europe before flying back. Things get weird and we don't skype as much or message as much. She flies back and things never get back to normal.\n\nWe take a 2 week long break and I finally cave in and ask to catch up and we break up because her heart isn't in it anymore and she feels it's not fair to me to have it going only one way. She's crying and I'm consoling her. Feels like a Woody Allen movie. I love her and I know she feels the same way, but she can't help those other feelings saying she needs to be not be in a relationship right now. \n\nThese last 8 months were easily the best of my life and I have no regrets with it. She was the best girl I ever dated, I just hate how life can be like this sometimes.\n\nLesson of the story: Don't build relationships on death because they'll move too fast and die themselves.", "summary": "Just lost the best girl I've ever met. Fuck."}
{"id": "t3_z8qws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Male [20] not sure about relationship with girlfriend [18] of 3 years", "post": "Talk to her, stick it out or end it?\nHi guys,\n\nI've been with my girlfriend now for 3 years and I love her so much, like she my first everything. But recently it feels as if she's not in to the relationship as much I am. I do everything I can to make her happy, always go and see her when she's alone to make sure she's ok etc but when we're together u just feel like she doesn't want to be with me anymore, like her heart isn't in it at all. It's gradually bringing me down because I love her but want to feel like she loves me too? We've spoke about it before and I'm actually speaking to her via text about it at the moment, but she says I'm just paranoid. Please help? Any advise welcome here!", "summary": "unsure whether girlfriend still loves me or wants to be in a relationship, don't know whether to end it or not"}
{"id": "t3_1bkywq", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Best anxiety medication for flying? (Not fear of flying related)", "post": "Hi,\n\nI fly relatively frequently and have no fear of flying itself. However about 2 and a half years ago I had to have a Pleurodesis on my left lung, this is basically where they stick your lung to your rib cage to prevent it from collapsing.\n\nAnyway, this relates to flying because if my lung collapses during a flight chances are I will die.\n\nAs such it's an enormous source of anxiety every time I fly. I know that the operation is supposed to reduce the chances of this happening but that doesn't really help mentally. Also my chest can get a little sore flying which only fuels my anxiety.\n\nI preferably want a drug that's not going to have a long term hangover effect. In a perfect world it'd only last for around 6 hours.\n\nI appreciate people might have some 'homeopathic' medication they can recommend but I'm really not interested. I've had panic attacks at 30,000 feet and aside from being one of the most awful experiences imaginable it's also damn embarrassing. As such I don't want to take the risk.", "summary": "What's the best anti anxiety medication for flying that has the minimum hangover"}
{"id": "t3_40k3ls", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a photographer she makes the same as a hooker", "post": "This weekend I was visiting my friend at his university and us and a few other guys decided to go to a bar with a packed dance floor. We waited in line for over an hour to get in because it was frost week, which is the first week back in school after winter break. Once we got in I got settled and danced to the music and ordered a couple drinks. I had already pre-drank with my friends prior so suffice to say I was pretty intoxicated. I saw the bar photographer taking pictures of people so I asked if she could get a pic with me and my friends. Later on in the evening I saw the same girl without her camera and asked her if she was the photographer I saw earlier. She nodded and we started having a pretty good conversation. I could tell she was into me and I started harbouring thoughts that maybe I'd get lucky on this fine Saturday night. After talking for a bit she told me that she had made $150 for about an hour of work. Without thinking I say, \"Wow that's like the same as a prostitute.\" The funny thing is I didn't realize what I said was bad at the time. She gave me a dirty look and said, \"how do you know how much prostitutes make?\" and \"Photography isn't easy it's hard work.\" I tried defending myself still oblivious to my mistake until she basically asked me to leave. I went to my friend and told him the story and realized after his face palm that I fucked up. The next morning I laughed about it.", "summary": "I told a pretty girl who was the bar's photographer that her salary was comparable to that of a prostitute. I went home alone that night."}
{"id": "t3_qw4if", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Doggit, how does one become a Dog Trainer?", "post": "Here's the deal. I want to become a dog trainer but I don't know where to start. I am from the Philippines and majority of the dogs here are chained or caged most if not all of their life. There are a few professional dog trainers here but they are mostly located a long way from where I live. They usually cater to the middle / upper class as it can get expensive to get professional training.\n\nI have only been a dog owner for about 2 months. I have taught our Toy poodle some basic tricks (sit, down, play dead, fetch, roll etc). We get quite a few audience when we practice in the park. I understand that teaching a puppy these tricks don't qualify me as a dog trainer, but if you compare our puppy to the dogs here, he is a genius, a star, a celebrity because most dogs who live nearby don't even sit on command. This prompted me to consider taking up dog training as a sideline. Dog training, for me, is very rewarding so the opportunity to earn a bit more while doing what I am currently having a lot of fun with is like a bacon dangling in front of me. I just can't let it go, I have to at least do some research.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to do is looking for a way to get me started.\n\n- Any books you recommend for me to read?\n\n- If you are a dog trainer or an owner who had their dog trained professionally, how is the usual setup? \n\n1. Do you just condition the dog then train the owner how to train his dog?\n2. Or do you train the dog and then just transfer commands?\n\nI don't expect to train dogs professionaly any time soon, I'm expecting this to be a long journey, that it may take years before I can even take my first client but we all have to start somewhere and I intend to start now.\n\nThis is also the perfect time to discourage me if you have a legitimate reason to do so.", "summary": "Want to become a dog trainer, need advise."}
{"id": "t3_3x4gek", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I just being petty? (x-post r/dating)", "post": "So I've (21F) been seeing this guy (22M) for a couple months now and whenever we're together I person, it's great. But the thing that has really been bothering me is the texting. I've basically initiated all our texting conversations except for around 2 (and 1 of those is the first one ever). And this isn't like I'm constantly spamming him everyday, it's more like I want to talk to him in between dates because that's what I'm used to with other guys. He usually responds with a good length of a message and it's fine but another thing is that before, he used to take hours to respond. This was after this one time I took a while to respond but now I've \"regulated\" the texting speed again so he responds within 20min. But what this tells me is that he notices this and plays these type of games.\n\nI know some are gonna say that maybe he's just not a texting person or he's just super busy but I know for a fact this isn't the case since whenever I've hung out with him in large groups, he's always periodically on his phone replying to people, snap chatting, etc...\n\nNow it's winter break and again he doesn't bother to talk to me first. In my mind,if someone is actually interested in you, they would want to talk to you, especially if you're not going to see each other for at least 3 weeks. I've thought about bringing this up to him but texting just seems like such a petty problem but at the same time it feels like he doesn't care about me at all if he doesn't even bother trying to talk to me.\n\nI just feel like it's not the texting specifically that bothers me but just the fact that I don't even seem to exist to him anymore when we're not with each other.\n\nSo am I just being petty and going to come off as hostile and immature if I bring this up to him or am I right to be annoyed? Is it right to use his texting frequency as an indication of his interest level in me?", "summary": "I initiate all the texting conversation. He responds enthusiastically but never initiates himself. I feel like he doesn't care about me if he doesn't even bother to talk to me when we're not going to see each other for a while."}
{"id": "t3_16dvoe", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Mutually broke no contact after 2 weeks since breakup. Trying friendship?", "post": "My girlfriend (20f) broke up with me (30m) two weeks ago after 4 months together, saw her two days after for a brief talk an no contact since. We have a social group we are both part of, last night we both attended and talked. No contact isn't possible as we have the same circle of friends and would regularly run into each other. She also wants to continue to talk (text) and be friends. She was not really clear on what she wants from the friendship though, just that she doesn't want me out of her life but that we can't continue as we were and she doesn't want to lead me on.\n\nDespite being heartbroken and very down about the breakup I agreed with her that we were in a relationship that didn't have room to grow. We unfortunately had a relationship restricted by other factors that would never allow either of us to be what the other really wanted, needed or could handle. We both knew the issues were coming, she just said them first and said it was too hard and not fair to keep trying.\n\nQuestion now is how and can we do the friendship thing? It is probably soon to start, but we are still going to be fighting our emotions at this point and always have the memories of the relationship hanging over us. I'm just not sure how to handle it.", "summary": "Broke up 2 weeks ago, talked last night, want to try friendship, can it be done?"}
{"id": "t3_g0c41", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone give me their opinion regarding blood in sputum and Bone Pain.", "post": "Hey guys i am a 19 year old male and I've gone to so many doctors lately, the cost of the co-pay is getting out of hand so i wanted to ask you guys for advice, so lately i have been noticing some blood in my sputum when i wake up occasionally and after i smoke large hits of marijuana. I have a problem with automatically assuming i have cancer for ever little medical issue i have so i'm mostly doing this because of my anxiety. For a little medical background, i used to smoke a lot of cigarettes, mostly when drunk. I smoke marijuana daily and have recently developed a bump in my throat as well. I went to my normal 2 doctors and told them about the blood and bump. 1st doctor said the blood was from my nose when i wake up in the morning. 2nd doctor sent me to an ent and diagnosed me with GERD, currently taking prilosec. I noticed streaks of blood in my sputum and not large amounts, not even there most of the time to add to that. I also have been getting bone/joint pains, today i had one in my thigh, a pretty sharp deep pain in my bone (this could be growing pains too?, i just started growing as well), also i noticed i get more bone pains when i am high, heard people get body aches after smoking as well. Just want to hear what you guys think. Not really even sure if this is the right place for this entry, but it was the only health subreddit i saw that was active and had people asking for advice. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "streaks of blood in sputum, bone pains, smoke marijuana not cigarettes, started growing recently as well."}
{"id": "t3_3czayq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22/f) divorce is on pause after a year of seperation with my husband (22/m) to try and work things out.", "post": "Throwaway because dont want personal stuff on my main.\n\nWe seperated because lack of intamacy, caused by my depression from being 10 hours away from home where I knew no one, which lead to his flirty-ness and emotional cheating with chicks online. Which was all immediately followed by a deployment. We really didn't stand a chance under the circumstances. I was highly depressed and my anxiety was out of control at the time. I just wanted to be home and be with my friends and enjoy life. Its out of my system now and I want my family back, regardless of the work I have to put in to get it.\n\nHe's a great guy, aside from his mistakes. He's spent the past year apologizing to me and offering to go to councilling and do anything to stay married but I was set on divorce. So divorce was supposed to be final next month. And after 6 months out of the past year of thinking hard about it I told him that I wanted to try and work things out, so divorce is on pause.\n\nAll of our issues can be worked out. I'm confident in that.\n\nWhat advice do you have? The biggest thing for me is that I DONT want to talk about the past year with him (I didn't fuck around with a ton of guys but I had a relationship he knows about it vaguely) I don't want to know what he did at all. I want to work on *our* past and work twords the future. Do you guys think this is a good idea? I can't imagine how knowing what he did would help, it would just really hurt me to know if/who he dated/fucked.", "summary": "husband and I separated for a year due to a lot of issues that could have been solved followed by a deployment and I want advice on how to make things work this time."}
{"id": "t3_czylk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I screwed up my preliminary test? Help me reddit.", "post": "I'm 14, doing form 5 and I went to this agency to do a preliminary test for choosing a college overseas and i screwed up the maths part-twice. I'm not bright at maths but the results inaccurately portrayed my math skills. The main problem was that i didn't do a lot of revision and for the past 5 years my school had been training me to use my calculator to solve basic problems but i won't dwell on that. \nI thought the results are only for the agent to fine me a school within my academic range but unbeknownst to me the results were sent to the colleges i had applied admissions to. \nsome of the colleges are looking down at this.", "summary": "i screwed up a preliminary test for overseas college "}
{"id": "t3_411p08", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my exes[24-25 M], how do I manage to date the crazy, cheating ones?", "post": "Title explains it all. Currently single, but the guys I date slowly reveal themselves to be crazy, are awful to me, etc.\n\nFirst relationship, he was insecure, didn't want me to spend time with other people, cheated on me (sex with another girl). \n\nSecond relationship, he told me he loved me after about a week. \n\nThird relationship, he lied to me about major dealbreakers, then betrayed me to his friends.\n\nFourth relationship, he cheated on me (sex with another girl) and was abusive (phyiscal and emotional). \n\nFifth relationship, he was relatively normal, but emotionally (and possibly physically) cheated on me, and was recently sent to jail for theft and videotaping himself having sex with a girl without her consent. \n\nHonestly, I'm just depressed at this point.  I feel like I don't have the ability to pick out a normal, non-cheating guy. I meet all of these guys through school or mutual friends, so that doesn't seem sketchy. I kind of want to swear off dating forever, but I don't want to spend my life alone. Advice? Help? This is so frustrating.", "summary": "Advice on not being a crazy magnet?"}
{"id": "t3_ei0x8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice about something I did but can't remember", "post": "Maybe a dumb question, but here it goes: I was blackout drunk last Thursday and can't remember anything. However, my roommate told me today that I had come in to her room that night and explained everything that happened and that I was really upset about it. All in all, it sounds like I was just really drunk and making an ass of myself in front of strangers at a bar, but I was alarmed by one thing she said. Apparently I ran from the cops. I had been stumbling outside of a bar (I have no recollection of this) and two officers came over to talk to me. We may or may not have not exchanged words because I may or may not have been kicked out of said bar (again, I have no recollection of this). But at some point I took off running. That I ended up at my house means I got away, but could I still be detained now for something like public drunkenness or resisting arrest if the cops recognize me?   I really have no idea how serious the situation was and I'm tempted to call them up, tell them what happened, and if they need me to come down to the station. Should I do this? I live in a small town where I recognize people pretty readily, so I would not at all be surprised if the same cop would be walking the same beat next time I'm downtown.\n\nSo yes, totally stupid. I feel really awful about it and just want to come clean with whoever I need to and apologize. It's just that I don't have all the facts and it could be nothing...or it could be more serious. I'm leaning towards not calling because the bar certainly knew who I was (they had my ID and card) and nothing has happened. Then again, I wouldn't want to be stopped later.", "summary": "I just realized that last week I drunkenly ran from the cops, who I suspect wanted to talk to me regarding my drunkenness, but I'm not sure. Should I call them and find out if they are looking for me?"}
{"id": "t3_1kuc8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my potential GF [20F] have differing religious views; anyone have any advice? More in description", "post": "I've been seeing a girl that I went to college with (recent grad, she's still there), for a little more than a month, and we both really like each other.  However, I'm not really a religious person at all, and she's pretty devout, to the point that she has no interest in premarital sex.  \n\nI really want to be with this girl, and I certainly don't want a relationship based entirely on sex.  I would never pressure her into something that she isn't 100% comfortable with, but I still want it to be something that we can talk about and some day work toward.  To be honest, it's not even so much the physical aspect that I want; it's more that I want the two of us to be comfortable enough with each other that it can be a possibility.\n\nSo, does anyone have an experience with something like this?  I'd really appreciate it!", "summary": "Non-religious dude with religious love interest that doesn't believe in premarital sex, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2942ol", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf [30 M] is lying to me [24 F]", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and he finally took me out to visit his family for the first time. It was a nice experience, however I wasn't really introduced as a gf, but as \"this is flyingporkchop.\" We went out with his cousin for lunch and I held his hand - for the first time in front of any of his family members. Later that night I went through his phone because I was really curious as to what he told his family about me and I saw his cousin asking if he was trying to hook up with me. To which he responded saying I was just there to fill a void.\nI don't know how to deal with this situation or how to even bring it up to my boyfriend or what he even meant by that comment because what he told me about his previous girlfriends weren't necessarily pleasant memories. Any ideas?", "summary": "bf of one year told his cousin I was there to fill a void."}
{"id": "t3_3i0xt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf(15) asks me (M16) questions that are really hard to answer. Advice?", "post": "For example we will be sitting on the couch after we do sexy stuff(not sex, we're still virgins, but we plan on having sex with each other) and she'll ask me if I'll get bored of her after we have sex and asks if I'll love her forever. I have no idea if I will or not, I don't know what the future holds. I just tell her that I won't get bored of her, but in truth I really don't know. Is there any advice anyone could give on the situation?\n\nSome side info: Relationship for 2 months, she's my first girlfriend, and she is completely head over heels for me.", "summary": "My GF asks me if I'll ever break up with her or get bored of her after we have sex, and if I'll be with her forever. I don't know if I will or not. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1gft8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have trouble trusting my girlfriend and around her two best guy friends. 18F 21M", "post": "My current gf and I have been seeig each other for 3 years and have been official for 10 months. I have trust issues, and I'm not sure how to get over them. I don't trust her 100% completely and I don't know if I will ever trust anybody. I always think she is out cheating on me. It's not fair to her and I try to suppress it. \n\nIt's worse when two of her guy best friends would more then likely get with her if given the opportunity. That makes me uncomfortable when she's with them. I don't want to come off as controlling or insane. A part of me doesn't care what she does. But there's always that little voice in my head. I always assume and expect the worse. Her one guy best friend is always texting her from his email, I don't know why he doesn't ever just text her from her phone and that makes me think something is up. From what she tells me too it's like everyone knows that he likes her more then a friend. He also has a girlfriend. And they have a little bit of a history but nothing to major. \n\nI know she's going to say that I'm overreacting if I bring this up to her. She doesn't want to lose any friends and I understand that but I'm just not ok with her being so close to them. And hanging out with them all the time I get incredibly stressed out. \n\nI don't know how to bring this up without driving her away. She always says I'm to controlling and too sensitive and over bearing and needy. I really don't care what she's doing I just want to know and sometimes she goes out of her away to avoid telling me what she's doing. She says I'm too nosey. We've been fighting a lot lately but that's a different story and this week we didn't fight at all so I want to keep that going.", "summary": "I have trust issues and a my gf has two best guy friends I don't trust. She has a little history with one of them."}
{"id": "t3_1bdzzb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My Dad told me that his marriage isn't going to last my freshman year.", "post": "Hello Reddit. I'm thirteen. As you can see by the title, my Dad doesn't preferably like my mother. I call her my mother because I don't particularly like her either. In fact, I hate her. Plain and simple. It's not that teen angst or anything. She's just rude and abusive. I mean, she absolutely hates our new puppy. She doesn't understand violence isn't the answer. My Dad has taught me that since I was little. I never provoked fights with my sibling. She hits my puppy when the puppy just wants to play. Of course this just makes the puppy mad. Don't get me wrong, the puppy is really good. She only does her business in the house when nobody's paying attention to her. My Dad and I watch the puppy when we're home. When my mother and sibling are home. They pay no attention to her. She pees and craps on the floor like it's nobody's business. Also, my mother has no job. My Dad keeps our family afloat. If they get into a custody battle (which is likely) I want the ability to testify to my own choice. I should be old enough by then to do so. My Dad said to me he's keeping the dog though. Which is good, I love that little puppy.", "summary": "My parents fight a lot. My Dad told me that their marriage isn't going to last 2 more years. I want to live with my Dad not my mother."}
{"id": "t3_51m1ip", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Planning for retirement with pension", "post": "I'm currently engaged to a woman who is very much of a saver.  With her current level of savings, she projects she'll retire with about a million+ saved.  Great!\n\nI divorced a few years ago, and my ex got most of our retirement assets. Long story, it's in my post history, don't really want to rehash that here. That's over.\n\nI work for a public agency, and participate in the pension plan there. I was hired the last month that any non-union employee could participate in that plan.  I do make my own contributions to the plan: 10.5% of my gross salary (ouch, I know).  When I retire, my pension will pay me 2.25% per year of service of the average of my 5 highest earning years here.  I should retire with 24 years of service.\n\nMy current plan is to work until I'm 70 to maximize my pension and social security.  There is longevity in my family on both my mom and dad's side. I had grandparents who lived well into their 90s. My main concern is to have income for the length of what could be a 20+ year life after I stop working.\n\nI also have a supplementary pre-tax savings account with about 25k. I continue to add funds to that account, but at a pretty modest rate, 2%.  \n\nWhen I've put the various numbers from the story above into retirement calculators, the results generally tell me that I'm preparing adequately, given my pension. Between pension+supp account+social security, I should be reasonably set for retirement income. \n\nI've thought about leaving my current company, and could probably realize a significant bump in salary if I did so. However, to save enough principle to equal to what I'd get from my pension, I'd have to \"bank\" nearly all of any potential salary difference. I'm not sure I'd be disciplined enough to do that.\n\nAm I missing anything? How do I explain this to my fiancee? She thinks I am underpaid, and doesn't quite get the pension thing. As she is self-funding her retirement savings, she has always chased higher base salaries as they allow her to save more. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated", "summary": "Pension+supplemental account+Social security seems to me to be enough of a retirement plan for me. How to explain?"}
{"id": "t3_ywm2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [20f] confront my boyfriend [20m] about stuff I found while snooping?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. For the last month or so, he had been constantly accusing me of cheating on him. I had to fend off accusations every day basically, despite not cheating on him, and not doing anything out of line that might make him suspicious. He just said he had a \"hunch\". Cheating and trust had been a non-issue until then, so I thought it was weird he brought it up so much but did my best to reassure him.\n\nThat seemed to die off a few weeks ago, and we've been great ever since, but a few days ago something irked me. I asked him to list me as his girlfriend on Facebook, and he didn't want to. I don't like to really conduct my personal life online so I didn't push it. Later on, he left for work and wanted to log onto my Facebook to kill some time, and his profile came up. I know I shouldn't have looked, but curiosity got the better of me.\n\nI found messages through the last two months of our relationship of him making plans to smoke joints with a few girls, take another out for a beer, and he messaged another calling her \"absolutely gorgeous\". He also had his ex-girlfriends page bookmarked. There is no hard evidence of him cheating, but this sure looks suspicious and makes me uncomfortable. Can I confront him?", "summary": "saw my boyfriends personal messages to other girls online and now I'm worried he's messing around. Can I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_2j5izy", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The struggle of going on.", "post": "Hello LoseIt! \n\nI've been hanging around here for awhile, just lurking of course, and to read all the great stories as motivation here! Finally I decided to make a throw-away account and post something. \n\nI'm a 5.4 ft/165cm female and around August 2013 I finally made the decision to lose some weight. I weighed around 190lbs/85kg around that time, so it's nothing big, but I was really unhappy with my body and very self conscious. Over the course of the next 6 months I lost 33lbs/15kg. (which made me 157lbs/70kg)\n\nMy diet consisted of no snacks, mostly water and just the regular food. I have no money/time to afford fitness or any sort of sport sadly so it's all about the food in my case.\n\nso I took about a year long break because I was sort of happy, I could wear dresses and not feel like a fatass. So I started again last month with hopes to reach 132lbs/60kg sadly its not going so well as the first time.. My weight when I started was 160lbs/73kg and I can barely reach the 154lbs/70kg right now.. It's so hard.. How do you keep moving on?\n\nAlso, I weight myself around 3 times a week, what do you guys think is best? As I am a female I noticed I weigh more around my period. Any tips/advice?", "summary": "Cant keep going on used to weigh 190lb/85kg now I weigh 154lbs/70kg trying to reach  132lbs/60kg but i dunno how."}
{"id": "t3_4zu5s5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(15M) need advice on asking a girl(15F) out", "post": "Okay. So our friendship circles overlap, and we happen to be together in a small advanced class as well. I don't know her all that well, but for various reasons I know her family. In the past, the last girl I dated, I became good friends with. She turned down my date so, okay, but it ended up turning into a year of abuse, lies and leading me on. I've been weary about getting to know this new girl better. She's definitely cool, intellectual and interesting, possibly a good match. So reddit, do I ask her out. Wait or what? Our school term ends in a month, I might ask her out then. I was going to ask her out last week, but social anxiety kicked in and I just didn't.", "summary": "fuckwit needs advice on asking nuclear girl out"}
{"id": "t3_272hjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21M] being petty about my girlfriend [21] seeing male friends who have expressed interest in her?", "post": "I am a 21 year old male, and I am in a relationship with a 21 year old female who goes to the same university as I go to. We have been exclusive for about 6 months. I have no reason to doubt my girlfriend's loyalty. In fact, our relationship is progressively improving and we are getting more serious.\n\nI am, however, bothered by her hanging out with other guys. She tells me beforehand who these guys are and that she is meeting with them. However, these guys have expressed interest in her before and asked her out, but she rejected them. They tell her that they understand and want to hang out as just friends. They also know she has a boyfriend. In my opinion, them telling her that they see her as just friends now is bs though. \n\nOne guy asked if she wanted to get a meal at a restaurant. She sees him as just a friend, and I believe her 100%. However, I am 100% sure he sees her as more than just a friend. He asks her to go dancing, calls her names like \"cutie\", etc. I told her it's obvious that he thinks differently and she decided not to go. We didn't fight or argue or anything. She simply said she won't go because she understands my viewpoint and she would feel the same way if it were the other way around.\n\nHowever, there is this one guy who has expressed interest in her over a few years. He constantly sends flirty messages. She, however, always agrees to not see him in person, but she still talks to him because they do have a history (not a mutually romantic one) that involves a tragedy. He suddenly told her that he's over it, and they hung out at a place nearby. She asked if I was okay and I told her I don't mind. They didn't do anything special. Again, I trust her without a reason of a doubt, but I have a hard time believing that the guy suddenly sees her as nothing more than a friend.\n\nIs it wrong, insecure, and petty for me to be bothered by this and tell her this?", "summary": "Is it wrong for me to express my dislike about my girlfriend spending time with another guy who at one point liked her?"}
{"id": "t3_es7ti", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE completely man-up and go for a walk last night during the storm?", "post": "As soon as I saw it was going to be a bad storm I got the idea to set out on a journey through my town collecting my friends as I went, with another friends house being the eventual destination. \n\nI suited up like [Kurt Russell in *The Thing*] and went out around 5PM, when we had only around 8 to 10 inches. First stop I got some scotch, chicken, wine, and weed, picked up two more people and kept going. \n\nIt was so peaceful and awesome out. I saw not a single car or other human the entire night (I stayed out till around midnight; by then the snow was getting above my knees and it was too hard to walk in) Goggles made the entire experience comfortable. Visibility was shit, which looked really cool. It was like a thick fog of snow. One kid had a flask of whiskey he'd pass around, dolling out \"nips\" for us all.\n\nDuring a few windgusts the power fluctuated and almost went out, which was cool to watch from the street. I actually heard people inside all going, \"Whoaoa! What was that!\"\n\nTwo of the people I picked up my posse had their winter hardened dogs with them and they were the most badass of the night. The dogs didn't act like it was cold for a second and seemed to lead the way through every street. One dog was wearing one of those little dog jackets and kept ripping it off because she didn't need that crap.\n\nWe also smoked weed in an enclosure formed by a group of bushes. It was all dry and snowless in there. I probably could've fallen asleep I was so comfortable.", "summary": "Fuck the internet, went blasting through the snow at the height of the storm, sipping from a flask and smokin' doobers."}
{"id": "t3_3mi68g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making one wrong choice", "post": "Going to do this in point form. Hope everyone is okay with that.\n\n-Be in grade 9\n\n-meet great girl\n\n-fall in love\n\n-after a couple weeks of talking we go out on a couple dates\n\n-have relationship title for only 1 week\n\n-get broken up with because she couldnt handle pressure of whole school knowing, spreading rumours and bullying her for being with me\n\nheartbreak.png\n\n-she still wants to be friends\n\n-i felt like there was something more to it and we would date later \n\n-couldnt get over girl\n\n-turned down majority of other girls who wanted to be with me \nbecause I still liked other girl\n\n-flash forward 3 years\n\n-she says she loves me for the first time\n\nomgItsHappening.jpg\n\n-tells me to wait for her because she is going through shit\n\n-doesnt talk to me much but tells me she wants to be friends\n\n-starting to regret choice of waiting for her for 3 years\n\n-tell her rumors I wasn't sure about \n\n-she thinks im lying \n\n-she loses trust in me\n\n-blocks me on everything\n\nI'm 18, I finished school and now I dont see a single girl in sight. I turned down many great girls all for this one girl. Wasted 3+ years of my sexual, romantic, and love life.\n\n#", "summary": "Fell in love with a girl, she tells me to wait for her, I do, she blocks me on everything because I told her a couple rumors about her. Wasted 3+ years of my life"}
{"id": "t3_lw1ux", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Happy Halloween.What is the scarriest movie you've ever seen?", "post": "I just saw Paranormal Activity 3 and was upset to find that I wasn't freaked out by it.  Blair Witch scared me the first time I saw, so did The Ring, but if I were to watch them now I wouldn't freak out.  A movie that's freaked me out most recently was The Road, but more than anything it was a cool movie.  The original Omen is probably my favorite horror movie, but again, it was more cool than anything else.  I want something that will give me nightmares.  I want to be afraid of the dark.  I love fear, but I find the older I get, the harder it is for me to be freaked out.  Of course I jump with sudden unexpected movement and sudden loud noises, but these are evolutionary traits and in me the fear doesn't last past the initial shock.  Give me the best, please.  Thanks.  And I hope you all had a Happy Halloween. (Other creepy ones, but ones that didn't make me lose sleep: Skeleton Key and Shutter (2004, Thailand))", "summary": "I WANT NIGHTMARES!"}
{"id": "t3_4xhdqz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "High School Senior Project incoming!", "post": "Hi! I am a senior high school student in the Glendale/LA area. Today, I've been greeted by the year-long (10-month-ish) senior project in English class. The goal is to reach out to a professional that is willing to be a mentor in your project that either: \n\n1. expands on your personal identity or \n2. contributes to the community\n\nWith the mentor, the student (me) will spend their time researching their area of interest and completing fieldwork. \n\n\"The student is required to spend at least 15 hours volunteering, participating in fieldwork, and/or constructing a project. It is required that the students have a tangible final product even if they are doing an internship. Final products can be a model, a website, a demonstration, a video, a book, etc. The best projects are useful and beneficial to others as well as the student.\" \n\nThis project will later be presented in front of teachers and/or counselors on March of next year. \n\nMy concerns/Questions:\n\n1. Where would I be able to find a willing professional (in any field) that can serve as a mentor here in Glendale/LA area? \n\n2. How would I approach them? E-mail or in person? or both? \n\n3. I am interested in the field of Psychology, Are there professionals in the field of psychology (in Glendale/LA area) that are willing to accept and \"intern\"/ a student with a senior project? \n\n4. I am also interested in volunteer work such as taking care of the elderly or people with disabilities, are there facilities willing to accept an \"intern\" and be my mentor here in the Glendale/LA area? \n\n5. I am worried that I won't be able to do this. Help! \n\nDo you have any suggestions?", "summary": "I'll be an \"intern\". Need willing mentor for senior project in Glendale/LA area. Interested in psychology and volunteer work. Suggestions? "}
{"id": "t3_32739u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[20] Trying to Start Relationship with [20]F", "post": "Just started talking in our math class which led to social media where we talk use to talk occasionally(maybe 1-2 times out of 5 days) where i would start conversation 95%. Recently its picked up to every other or every 2 days where I'm starting conversation 70% of the time. I spoke to her today before work and just said bye and left it at that. As the conversations are getting more intimate (talking about life goals[not just goals just 2nd layer things here] instead of boring ass math) i have a few questions: \n\n1. What is the proper time(so i don't look desperate or needy) to start another conversation  (waiting period) usually its once a day \n\n2. Are there any obvious signs i can look for to tell if she's interested to take this to the next level? \n\n3. ill edit as i think of more", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1kbvfm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Sallie Mae is destroying my husbands credit, for a loan he never took out", "post": "Hey PF.  I searched this subreddit for a thread that would answer my questions, but didn't come up with anything quite like my issue so I hope I'm not posting something that's been posted 1000x.  I've got a Sallie Mae issue that I have no idea what to do with.  \n\nWe recently started receiving phone calls, letters, and collection notices from Sallie Mae for over $10,000 in loans from Sallie Mae.  I realize this is not a large sum of money in the grand scheme of things, but the problem is my husband never took a loan from them.\n\nWhen he was in high school, the school had everyone fill out a FAFSA during their senior year.  He did not qualify for aid since his parents combined income was \"too much\"   His parents paid for his college in full, in cash.  He graduated 7yrs ago.  \n\nI called Sallie Mae to try to figure out what was going on.  They said the loan was sent directly to the school.  The school has no record of ever receiving money from Sallie Mae for my husbands tuition.  Sallie Mae says the school is wrong, and the school received money that we now owe.   When we asked Sallie Mae about the loan application, their response was when he filled out the FAFSA that was him asking for a loan, accepting any loan, and agreeing to the terms of the loan.  We've asked for some kind of paper work, and they cant provide any.  \n\nThey have offered us no resolution other than paying the loan off.  They refuse to work with us at all.  And in the mean time report him as delinquent every month, destroying my husbands once wonderful credit score.  \n\nI'm at my wits end.  Any suggestions for how to better get to the bottom of this?  Thanks for reading!", "summary": "sallie may is harassing my family for $10,000 in loans we never took out, and refuse to provide proof of the loan."}
{"id": "t3_2i2pcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [41/F] with my husband [46F], married for 11 years don't know how to help him with his depression", "post": "He has always suffered bouts of depression, varying from mild to serious. These bouts of depression never last for longer than a few days (they tend to be the serious ones) to a few months (milder depression). He lost his contract as a computer programmer more than a year ago and he has been trying to start up a project with the accompanying frustrations and stresses.\n\nHe has also been using sleeping pills since before we were married and sometimes over uses them. He gets very grumpy and annoyed if I bring it up. He tends to get a bit aggressive when confronted with things that he does not agree with or that if he feels cornered and in the wrong, but it's honestly more of a grumpy old man thing than scary aggression.\n\nThe past few months things have been getting more difficult, he uses more sleeping pills and also mild tranquillisers just to get him to be able to sleep and plays computer games all day. And he has a heart condition, but still smokes way too much. I'm the only one bringing money in and I honestly don't mind if I know it's just temporary, but I'm beginning to feel like he's given up. He's also not doing anything else to take on any other burdens, not even changing light bulbs or keeping up with the car's maintenance.\n\nThe main thing is that he's in total denial that there's a problem that needs to be looked at. He recently had a major fight with his siblings who also tried to talk to him, but were shot down very quickly.  I'm a very understanding and patient person, and a total people pleaser and I honestly don't resent him at all. Most of the time our emotional relationship is very loving and sweet and soppy. I'm also very pragmatic and just feel lucky that I am emotionally capable of carrying the load - so I do. Not just in my marriage, but with both of our extended families, work, friends etc. I'm the responsible one. I'm just so scared this is not just going to blow over and that I will finally start to resent him. Any advice or just words of encouragement will be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Depressed husband is getting worse and is in total denial about it. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_1iy1ek", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [19/M] her [28/F] - Is 9 years too much?", "post": "We've known each other for a little over month and a half, and have realised that we've a lot in common. We've also fallen madly in love with one another (yea, maybe it's a little quick). The relationship has it's challenges, but we're overcoming them. \n\nWe've talked about it, but I've never seen the age gap as a real issue.Today when I told my Parents about her my mum was shocked by the age gap. She was saying things like how she will want to get married and have kids before I'm ready for it, but what she doesn't know is that I think I'm mature enough now... (I don't have the lifestyle or desires of most 19 year olds).\n\nReddit, can this relationship work or is 9 years just too much? How should I try and convince my Mother?", "summary": "Madly inlove with someone 9 years my senior. Can it work?"}
{"id": "t3_qqmro", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents think that I should give up on school and become interested in trades. What should I do?", "post": "Been getting their expectation too high, marks have always been around 80-90 around junior high. Now I'm in high school & my marks have been steadily going down. They're now around 70 which I realize isn't bad, but they've told me that I should give up on trying to go to university. My whole life I've been taught the stereotypical \"University degree = good job and income.\" I know that this isn't necessarily true, but I feel like I should be going onto university; even if it's a local one (University of Alberta).  I genuinely want to start picking up my marks again, but I dont feel the want or need to study as I have never had to before. I don't know what to do with my life. What do I do?", "summary": "Parents told me to give up on school and should start to pursue other things after school that aren't really education oriented. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3t057k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm lost between my feelings and reality", "post": "About three months ago I (19 y/o, male) met this beautiful girl (23 y/o, female) at the university I'm studying at. Since then we often talk or write (almost every day). In the beginning of october I asked her out to the cinema but she said that she wantee to wait until we wrote our (quite important) exam. \n\nSince that reason was quite good I thought that after that we would go out on a date. Some days later i asked her out again but she didn't like my idea about the place and somehow we didn't go out. A week later she asked me what i was about to do at the weekend since it was halloween and she was invited to a party. I already promised to my parents to be home so i said no. Last week i asked her out again but she said she was still really buys because of university. \n\nSo my question - should i continue trying to ask her out or should i stop?", "summary": "Met a girl and am not sure whether to try and get her out on a date again or not."}
{"id": "t3_40ibph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] starting to think I'm my BF's [23M] rebound.", "post": "Throwaway account. \n\nOkay, my bf and I been dating for a few months now. We both just got out of long term relationship (1.5 and 3 years) and starting seeing each soon after. We first started out as FWB. Now here's the tricky part, everything was fine until I stumbled into something that made me unsure of our relationship (I was using his phone and the last thing the did was messaged her). He messaged her a while back about how he fucked him and was sorry for everything when he found she gotten a new boyfriend.  In it he states that he doesn't want the relationship back because too much has happened, however I'm not sure how I feel about that and about our relationship.  Pleas help and give suggestions on what I could do. I know I'm insecure, but I'm not sure what to do about it.", "summary": "FWB 5months, seeing for 3 months, and finally dating for 2. He messaged his ex causing me to be unsure of our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3fv7zz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Help with my part-time job options", "post": "I'm currently doing an internship in the field I want to go into, it's unpaid so I have a part-time retail job to help support myself.\n\nThe problem is my current job pays just below minimum wage and I don't have many hours (they've been cut recently) and most nights I'm left to close up the shop on my own, which I'm not comfortable doing all the time. The other hangup is the shop is poorly stocked, it is supposed to get better but at the moment it's frustrating.\n\nBut there are some pros, there's no uniform which is nice and my boss is extremely flexible because of my internship situation and my permanent job hunt. It's also very close to where I live.\n\nNow, I've been offered a job at a different shop a little bit further from where I live. However this isn't available until October. But I would expect I'd at least be paid minimum wage, however I don't know how flexible the manager will be (although I've got a good rapport with them), and the opening hours are earlier and later than my current job and I'd prefer not to do those sorts of hours.\n\nBy the time this problem will arise, hopefully I will have found a permanent job and won't need a part-time job. However I'd like to get a bit of perspective on it now.", "summary": "will be offered a better part-time job which won't have any of the negatives of my current job but might not have the benefits."}
{"id": "t3_1i05k7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Situation with weekend fling [26/F] driving me[26/m] up a wall.", "post": "So this might be a little long, but I appreciate the help.\n\nTo set things up: I was at a friends wedding a month ago and had a weekend fling with a friend of his. She stayed two nights with me at my parents place. We said our goodbyes and kept texting over the next week. She sends me a letter and a mixtape online (I know slightly cheesy). She says she feels like we made a connection and I say that I feel the same way. Things seem good so I say I'd like to come visit her and book flight for a stay of 5 days two weeks from now. Then she tells me that in September she'll be moving to the same city as me.\n\nSo it all seems good, but my anxiety/insecurity is getting the better of me. She hangs out with a lot of guys and has been hosting couchsurfers for the past week. I'll see a picture of them on Facebook and I can't help, but think she's hooking up with them on the side.\n\nTo be honest though it wouldn't really bother me if she would be honest with me. We aren't dating, we aren't exclusive so anything that she does is her perogative. I just don't want to get burned. I can't tell if what she says is honest or if she just wants attention.\n\nI also feel like I have no one to talk to because everyone just tells me to play it cool and not to think about it too much. I feel like I am crazy and overthinking things.", "summary": "Going to visit a girl I had a weekend fling with a month ago in two weeks and I can't tell if the things she says are honest or if she just wants attention."}
{"id": "t3_3b8qoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to balance my [25f] dogsitting biz with roommates [24f, 29m]? Cool so far, want to keep it that way.", "post": "I'm bad with people. So I'm bad at reading them. I just started dog sitting- picked up my first few clients today. 3 way too energetic dogs. I'm hoping it doesn't drive my roommates crazy. We've been roommates for about 2 ish+ months. They were okay with my being a dog foster mom (although there was a clerical error and I never could get on the list).\n\nThey're good with dog sitting, but I'm not sure for how much. I've already gotten 4 other requests, although for smaller dogs and smaller amounts of dogs. I'm 25, super need the money, am absolutely flat broke and trying to figure out a steady career. I've been going a bit hungry, so I do need this money. I plan to do this until Christmas perhaps, unless I can't handle it.\n\nAs for my house, it's a split house with neighbors above us. There are 3 bedrooms, a good sized living room, and a kitchen and bathroom. Mostly carpet, but I'm learning real quick how to clean up pee. No yard, but a dog park down the block, but it's pouring rain. So I need to decide how to do this without going crazy.\n\nOptions:\n1. Only get tiny dogs, since they're so much easier to handle. (could limit money)\n2. Limit the amount of dogs- I currently have up to 3. (could limit money)\n3. Give them a small cut of it\n4. Do something extra for them- I will be cleaning the house a lot more, simply because dogs make messes and require vacuuming and mopping. \n5. More ideas?\n\nThanks guys! I'm trying to get along with my roommates and I don't have the best social skills. Even though I'm a woman.", "summary": "I am starting to dog sit cause I need the money so much. Want to make sure my roommates don't get tired of it- any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_373yn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F20] boyfriends [M20] mother died last week. At her funeral he read a book the whole time and refused to give a speech. Aspergers.", "post": "We've been together for 2 years now. We're both in the same program at university. I just moved into his apartment a couple of months ago. He has aspergers. He is very normal most of the time but he struggles when it comes to anything emotional. He just sort of shuts down. When he was younger 12-17, he saw a few different therapists, but he said they didn't help and eventually he just learned to fit in so it wasn't a big deal. He doesn't want to go back.\n\nHe wasn't very close with his mother (he's not really close with anyone, except me) but I know he loved her. One of the things he does to avoid his emotions is read - mainly math. Ever since she died, he just reads all day and late into the night. Barely speaking, barely eating. His mother died a last week, and we had her funeral a few days ago. At the funeral, he sat there reading the whole time and then when the time came he refused to give a speech. His siblings (pretty much his whole family) shunned him for it, because they don't understand him. It affected him.\n\nI'm not really sure what to do. I want to be there for him, but he just wont say anything. He doesn't generally tell me when he needs me, I can always tell. Like if he's stressed or something I generally know whether to kiss and cuddle him or take him somewhere nice.  After I do something like that for him, he will start to return to himself. But right now I have no idea what to do. Nothing seems to work, so he's just this lifeless shell. What should I do for him? No, I can't just sit back and do nothing.", "summary": "My [F20] boyfriends [M20] mother died last week. At her funeral he read a book the whole time and refused to give a speech. He has aspergers. I'm not sure what to do for him right now."}
{"id": "t3_2zshgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [22M] 10.5 months, he just joined a dating website", "post": "Okay, so I'm turning 20 in about two weeks, and my bf is 22. We've been together for 10 and a half months now. I was using his phone for a video since mine is slow and doesn't work right, and I accidentally closed the tab. I opened the history so I could reopen it, when I saw that he'd been watching a lot of porn. I started scrolling through, wanting to see if I could find out some things he likes. Lately his sex drive has dropped a lot, and he's the only man I've ever...been with, sexually, so I've been trying to spice up our sex life. \n\nBut I scrolled a bit too far and found a bunch of links titled \"online dating\". Curious, I clicked on one. It took me to a website called bbwcheaters.com and a profile that he'd made earlier today--or yesterday I guess, since its 3am right now. He is actively seeking sexual partners right now. \n\nHe also had many links to Craigslist posts, most of which had been flagged for removal. Due to all this, I decided to do something I've never done before. I checked his email. He has two from Wednesday saying \"Hello darling\" with pictures of himself attached. \n\nI don't know what to do. I'm completely dependent on him right now. He says I'm the only girl he's ever really loved, and he has had multiple family members back him up on this. I'm deeply in love with him and have always trusted him completely. Until now. He's lying in bed right now sleeping. I don't know whether to confront him now, or wait for morning, or leave it alone for now, or ignore it completely. Please Reddit, tell me what to do.", "summary": "Bf joined a fuck website and has been on Craigslist, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2haamh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] feel stuck living in a toxic situation.", "post": "Hey reddit, I am a 26m stuck living with my sister and her husband. I work two jobs, and am in school. However it doesn't seem to be enough for my brother-in-law. I understand it can be stressful dealing with someone living in your house, but I try really hard to keep to myself, out of the way, and keep my stuff clean as well as the floors. I have a 9 year old St Bernard who is constantly the center of the problems. My brother in law doesn't like him anymore because he has certain problems. He regurgitate a lot like more big breeds do. I'm considering giving up my best friend because I can take being under the gun constantly. I'm in a situation where I cannot speak or even give my side of things because I am instantly wrong. As far as moving out being a solution... I don't really make enough money to support myself. Two retail jobs with only 30+ hours a week isn't much. I am slowly saving up money... But most of it is about to go to a car repair. Not to mention having a big dog like I do, limits my options by a lot. I don't like this stress, but I'm not sure what I can do about it.", "summary": "Living in a stressful situation where there is constantly bickering. Feeling stuck. Needing advice."}
{"id": "t3_xfud6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To all Atheists, Agnostics, and Freethinkers: How old were you when you realized religion wasn't for you? Include any interesting/ entertaining story you have with it!", "post": "I was 20 and super lost, after joining the military and deploying, a lot of the people on my deployment I connected with were very intelligent. One day the subject of religion comes up and I get asked what I believe in. (I was kind of the generic christian that didn't really study the Bible or go to church all the time) So I said I was a christian, the guys all kind of shifted and were a bit puzzled but didn't say anything rude or anything. This is also when I found out they were for the most part Atheist or Agnostic. I was a bit confused since agreed with a lot of their opinions on stuff. I didn't think much of it at the time, but over the course of the next few months I realized how destructive religion has been in some cases, and how a lot of the christians I knew weren't very knowledgeable on things that they should be. You know, those people that talk about shit like they know everything about it but you can tell they're just dumbasses trying to look smart. Basically having the great friends that I did really helped me along, no pressure, just great conversation. A bit long, a lot boring I know, but thats my story.", "summary": "Friends on deployment helped me see the light."}
{"id": "t3_dd0u6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you decide what to do with your life?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm currently in my third year at an average university in the States, majoring in Biology. My overall plan was to go to med school to become a physician, but as time goes on...well I want that less and less. There are days where it's the only thing I can see myself doing, and others where I absolutely have no desire to keep going for it. My heart just isn't always in it, and for a career that needs 100% dedication, I think I'm the wrong fit. I have no real hobbies or interests and I tend to get bored of things really quickly.", "summary": "I'm indecisive, I think."}
{"id": "t3_12ac0g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Start up smartphone application company name ideas", "post": "My friend and I are trying to start up a small application development company where we create \"give away\" applications that companies can use for trade show handouts and the like. Anyways, we have had trouble with naming the company. The original idea was Red Post but that was taken by a fairly established site, so we thought that a different name would be better so people could search for our company easier. Just any ideas would be helpful and by posting the name here you are giving us the right to use the name if we want to. Thanks a ton reddit.", "summary": "Ideas of names for app companies"}
{"id": "t3_140bsp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just listed my engagement ring on ebay... what is your sad but necessary moment?", "post": "Edit: I was told this was a bit hard to read/follow so I've edited it to make it more understandable. Sorry for any confusion. \n\nIn May 2011 my boyfriend and I got engaged. It had be discussed between us beforehand so it was a mutual engagement. We were both really happy with our engagement and I couldn't wait to tell my friends. Turns out I had a few shitty friends who decided to get drunk and tell me how worthless I was, how my boyfriend could do better, and how I didn't deserve to be engaged. Needless to say, I am no longer friends with those girls. Not long after getting engaged I ended up going to study abroad in Japan and left my ring behind because I was afraid of it being stolen. I posted pictures to facebook of myself (like anyone would if they were abroad) and those girls saw that I didn't have my engagement ring on in any of them. They would follow my boyfriend around his workplace and say things like how I obviously didn't love him and was cheating on him in Japan if I wasn't even wearing my engagement ring. That happened for the entire two months I was gone. When I got back we decided it was a bad engagement and nothing at all like we expected it to be. We mutually decided to call off the engagement, mostly because planning a wedding while going to college was a bad idea. We put the ring aside for a future engagement and are still happily together. \n\nSo here I am, a year later, selling the ring. I have Crohn's disease and as a result I have a fistula in my abdomen. It has to be removed so I can't get a job until after the surgery is completed and I've healed. But I have school loans and bills to pay. My boyfriend and I talked about it and decided the best thing to do would be to sell the ring. It was attached to a few negative memories and we need the money more than a meaningless ring for the two of us. It's a sad but necessary fact. But that is just part of life. \n\nSo tell me, what is your sad but necessary moment?", "summary": "! Got engaged and my friends told me I was worthless and didn't deserve it. After calling off the engagement I got sick and require surgery so I cannot work but have bills to pay. Gotta sell the ring. "}
{"id": "t3_30purq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] siblings [21F, 18F, 14M, 6F] will not do any housework. I'm feeling a lot of resentment.", "post": "I just sat down after cleaning the first floor of the house. But my blood is boiling and I need help. I recently moved into my mom's house (last October) and have been contributing through rent money, housework, and babysitting. I have a full-time job. My siblings don't do shit and my mom doesn't put her foot down and say anything. I feel helpless. It isn't my place to be the parent, but holy shit, how hard is it to vaccuum? To do a load of laundry? To empty the dishwasher?\n\nMy mom went out of state for the week for work, so I've been head of household since last Monday. I have gotten help on three occasions: On Tuesday, 18F washed the dishes, on Thursday, 18F cleaned off the table, and yesterday 21F put the clothes from the washer to the dryer. 14M said his name wasn't on a chore list or anything and that he flat-out wouldn't help. 6F is forgiven because she's 6. \n\nI can't be the only one to think that this is complete bullshit. I've asked for help and nothing gets done. 18F was supposed to do the dishes last night and they're still sitting in the sink. 21F was supposed to do the laundry and empty the dishwasher and that hasn't been done either. I'm losing my mind. Yeah, my mom is coming back tomorrow, but this isn't a one-time thing. It is every single day and nobody says anything but me. I'm sick of it.", "summary": "My siblings are lazy fucks and I'm going insane."}
{"id": "t3_1bcmz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf 24 is thinking about breaking up with me M23 cuz she's moving 10 hours away", "post": "So my gf 24 of 7 months went all crazy tonight. I'm a M 23 and one of my friends carved fuck into the bar she works at. I took charge and painted it with nail polish and then took his drunk ass home. Well I stopped by after and she went ape shit cuz I was upset her ex bf drove her home (which I feel is reasonable). She said she didn't want to do the long distance relationship because she did one before but it was a 26 hour drive and I'm not the same guy she was with so I don't see how that should compare. She said we would talk tomorrow but I'm skeptical about it and not sure what I should expect and I broke my phone out of frustration which was probably a bad idea too.", "summary": "gf is moving away and is thinking about breaking up with me and I don't want that too happen"}
{"id": "t3_2yeuru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [32 M] is leaving me [31 F]. I will be alone in a foreign country. Where do I go from here?", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We moved to another country 8 months ago for his job. I have been trying to get my visa sorted out and it is still not approved. Because I have been on a tourist visa I am unable to work. I have no job, no savings, no money in my bank account. I also have no friends in this country because I do not speak the native language. \n\nMy husband has decided to leave me because I am infertile. We found out I was infertile 4 years ago when I was trying to get pregnant and could not. He said he was ok with not having kids. Now he has changed his mind.\n\nHe is at work right now and said he would like me to move out as soon as possible. I don't know what to do. I am estranged from my family and don't think I can go back to my home town and stay with them. I have reached out to the family member I was closest to but still have not gotten a response. I also reached out to the friend I knew best before we moved overseas but she did not consider me a good friend and is not willing to help me.\n\nI am looking at flights right now because I can put that on a credit card. But other than my home country I have no particular destination. I have no way to support myself until I find a job. I am alone and scared. How do I build a new life for myself?", "summary": "I moved to a foreign country for my husband's job and now he is leaving me. I have no money or support system. I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_fv6ae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recently the victim of credit card theft; advice(s)?", "post": "This morning we received a call first verifying numbers of our card, and then asked directly for me. Unsure of how the caller got my number, name, and credit card, I was then told that my card was suspected of fraudulent charges. I'm pretty sure it was keylogged, but unsure of how to locate or verify this. (Poor browsing skills by the wife.)\n\nI checked online to find out that my card had been used twice in the last 12 hours to purchase somewhat expensive things. The card has been canceled or suspended at least, and we're wondering what the next step is.", "summary": "Credit card number stolen somehow and we're unsure of what to do after blocking further use of the card."}
{"id": "t3_1q8k2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] - tired of serial short-term, casual dating, but I'M the only common denominator! What am I doing wrong?", "post": "Hi everyone. I'm going on a first date this weekend with a guy (25m), and as I'm finding myself getting more excited, I am feeling equal terror, because my relationships never seem to work out the way that I want.  \n\nRegarding my history: \n\n- I have never had a relationship last beyond three months. \n\n- I have regular relationships and go on a lot of dates, but I seem to hit this wall with people around this time. \n\n- Sometimes I do the breaking up, and sometimes I get broken up with. \n\n- When I break it off, I usually have a few lame reasons that have a lot to do with being bored. The people who have broken up with me usually tell me something similar like \"you're great and I really want to stay close friends with you, but I'm not interested in a relationship anymore.\" \n\n- Things seem to go well for a while, and then they fizzle. \n\nHas anyone had experiences like this and then make a change, allowing them to finally have a longer lasting relationship?\n\nOne thing to mention is that this guy, unlike most of my previous dates, has a real career and seems to be pretty intelligent. I tend to get with people who have some major issues in their life and haven't gone very far (or at all) towards any major goals. I've had a lot of difficulties in life but am fairly secure now (still in school but moving steadily towards a career), and maybe I can't start something lasting with these other people because I'm selling myself short from fear of being seen as a failure by people who have accomplished more than I have. I have always felt like I'm the wise, mature one in relationships, and I admit that it's a comfortable, but ultimately unfulfilling, position to be in. \n\nI'm not getting too anxious about this particular guy at this point, but are there things that I could do to immediately frame my intentions as more serious in the future?", "summary": "I have a long history of casual dating that I am not happy with anymore. I want to start sending the message that I want to be more serious in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3os9a3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] feel torn between breaking up with my girlfriend [17 F] of two years or trying to make it work.", "post": "Hi!\n\nSo I'll get straight to the point. Me and my girlfriend have been going through a really rough time lately (last 6 months roughly). We fight alot and there is just alot of tension.\n\nI love her more than anything in my life, more than my own life i would literally die for her as long as i knew that she would be happy. She is the reason i get up in the morning and go to sleep in the evening, she is the reason i do anything at all. At the same time i don't know how long i will manage to deal with this relationship anymore, there is just so much tension, so much fighting, so much up and down and it's all just so complicated all the time.\n\nSo what i need advice on is this: What should i do? Should i break up with her? Should i keep trying to make it all work out? I want both. I'm feel so torn.. \n\nAlso, we go to school together and spend most of the days in the same classroom.", "summary": "Please give me some advice on what to do. I'm torn between breaking up and trying to make it work, she means the world to me but i don't think i can manage this relationship anymore."}
{"id": "t3_cviw8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Has my childhood screwed me over for relationships?", "post": "I have a horrible problem with expressing my emotions when I am in relationships. And not just emotion, but giving affection as well. \n\nI'm a female, in case anyone was wondering, and I had a single mother. My father was never in my life, so having that support in my life never existed. However, I did have uncles and a grandfather who looked after me as a child, but in a way, it wasn't enough to prepare myself for being in relationships. \n\nEvery relationship I have been in has had the same issue: Guy I am with is affectionate and open with emotion, but I am as cold and non-responsive to them as a brick. If they kiss me, I will kiss back. I will not initiate a kiss, nor will I initiate a hug. And yes, I will not even initiate sex (unless I have a rare moment of arousal and dominance, and I mean that's rare). \n\nIn a way, I have a submissive attitude towards men that I never knew I had until I started dating. I have a ton of male friends and I'm always comfortable around them since I see them as brothers. But when it comes to dating a male, I'm very submissive and bashful, or to some, \"A cold doll.\"\n\nI'm starting to think that because I didn't have a father figure in my life that I have no idea how to take a caring nature or attitude from a male in a relationship. It has caused huge complications for me, as I really want to be affectionate, but its as if my mind cannot compute how to do so. \n\nHas anyone else had this problem, or maybe someone could tell me why I'm so unemotional when I am in a relationship? How can I fix it?", "summary": "(Edited) I have no idea how to deal with males giving me affection in relationships but I want to learn how to fix that issue."}
{"id": "t3_3770u0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Cardio/strength training/sauna/weights.. I'm so lost and I think I'm doing this all wrong. Help, please.", "post": "Hi guys. I'm very new here, and here's my story as quickly as I can put it. I'm 5\"8', 273. That's down about 2 months ago from 298. However, the past 3 months have been one big plateau. I think I've made progress of about 2 pounds. In the last week I've joined a gym and started adding exercise to my loss, which I love, but I think I'm doing it wrong. Here's what's up.\n\nI keep hearing stuff about how muscle \"burns more at rest\", so I assumed I needed to build muscle. So the first day in I did 30 min elliptical and 4 sets of 12 reps on chest, shoulders and triceps. Next day 30 min of cardio, 4 sets of reps on back and biceps. Next day 30 min of cardio, 8 sets of 12 reps on abs and legs. Yesterday 30 min of cardio, 8 sets on chest, 8 sets on triceps, 4 sets on shoulders. In those 4 days I've done the sauna 3 times at 15 min each.\n\nI feel like I'm doing this all wrong. Rather, my body is telling me I am. I keep trying to figure it all out on my own, but everywhere I go for every one person that says one thing, there's another saying the opposite. I'm so confused! My single, only goal is to lose the weight. I don't care about getting \"cut\", that can happen later if I choose to. But right now I strongly feel like I'm doing too much, but I just don't know what I really need to be doing, how much I should do, etc, in terms of exercise. This is my first time reaching out for advise, so I'm sorry if this is too long. I just wasn't sure where else to go to ask.", "summary": "? I'm 275 lbs and my single goal is weight loss (not muscle, etc). What should I be doing in the gym and how often?"}
{"id": "t3_13s8ps", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I being Unreasonable?", "post": "So there is a girl (28) that I'm seeing. I am 28. We aren't technically together but without going into too much detail we have a history. Our relationship is more serious than just \"dating\" and we're working on being exclusive. Anyhow, she is looking at getting her first tattoo. The tattoo placement is near the side of her boob, I have no problem with her getting this tattoo there besides the fact her ex boyfriend (from 5 years ago) is giving it to her. Now I trust this girl and know nothing would ever happen between the two even as they have remained friends, but I particularly don't find this to be appropriate.", "summary": "Am I wrong in thinking this is inappropriate? Am I being a jealous \"bf\" type? Is it possible for the tattoo procedure to be completely professional? I'm really just trying to see if my perspective is off and if maybe I need to relax a little."}
{"id": "t3_1wjm1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my friend [19 M] 3 years, HELP PLEASE", "post": "So there's this guy that I've liked for a really long time. We're really good friends and have known each other for a long time. While I was drunk, I told him that I liked him and he was amazing about it. He said that he loves me as a friend and doesn't want anything to be awkward and he won't make it that way. The thing is, he has a girlfriend that no one think is good for him. He's been dating her for a year, and today, he told one of my friends that he was planning on breaking up with her, and that he was thinking about this for a while because she just feels like a friend and it's awkward and weird. My friend asked if he liked me, and he said that he doesn't know anymore and that he's known me for so long. What exactly does this mean?! Is it just a nice way of saying no? Should I move on?", "summary": "What does this mean? What do you think he is thinking?"}
{"id": "t3_1vanfw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "So I got that STEM degree, and now I can't find a career. I sure could use some advice on paths I could take.", "post": "I graduated last spring with a BS in physics and a minor in mechanical engineering at 30 years old, and I wrapped up a two year internship that involved data analysis and some programming.  The entire time I was in the program I was told that physicists are in high demand after graduation because we learn so many skills and our problem solving abilities are well known.  I personally think this is true, and don't believe that I was lied to in any way.  However I am having a really tough time getting started anywhere.  I have no interest in going to grad school, yet; and I would really like to start a career that lets me use my critical thinking and analytical skills.  \n  \nI've managed a few interviews at businesses and with recruiters, but every time I get the same question; \"So why physics?\".  I explain in a very professional manner why I did a physics undergrad, and they always seem very pleased with my answer.  However, at the end of the day I always seem to get the same response; we're looking for someone who really has \"X\" specific skill.  Most of which I have, but am not an expert in.  \n  \nI've been focusing mainly on junior programming positions, or other IT related fields, but I'm finding that my knowledge of programming isn't strong enough on paper.  I can only seem to get hardware support offers, which I don't want to continue doing.  I've been thinking about looking at analyst positions, as that's a lot of what I did in undergrad, but I'm concerned that they'll continue to look at minor shortcomings or my lack of a field specific degree.  I am also suffering from the way physics careers seem to be thought about in universities; you find out what you want to do after graduation.  I'm not really sure where to start, or who would be looking to hire people like me.  I really could use some good advice and suggestions.  Thank you.", "summary": "Recently graduated with physics degree, keep getting told I don't have a specific enough skill set, and can't find a career.  Not really sure where to start either, as I'm not 100% sure what I want; but I know I want it to be something challenging that uses my strong problem solving and analytical skills."}
{"id": "t3_2h79vk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my bf [27 M] of 1 year, we live together and I accidentally found out that he's on. Dating website. What do I do?!", "post": "I don't know what to do. I went on my boyfriends computer (I know, I know, that was dumb) and saw something I really didn't want to see. \n\nLet me start by saying he was looking at snowboard clothing yesterday and I got the bright idea that I was going to buy him the jacket he wanted. I wanted to surprise him. So, I looked to his browser history for the jacket. I found the jacket, but I also found out he was on a dating website. I'm really freaked out right now. I don't know if he's just curious,  serious, or what. I'm scared and I don't know how to bring it up to him. \n\nI didn't mean to snoop and this looks bad. I need to know, but I'm scared to ask about the site. I don't believe in snooping. I want to trust my partner. All I wanted to do was buy him a gift :-( Now I'm terribly sad. \n\nHow do I deal with this? If he's not actually looking, I'm afraid he'll feel like I betrayed his trust. If he is looking, how do I deal with this? My heart would break.", "summary": "found my boyfriends dating profile and I don't know what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_2lj1ji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Girlfriend's Sister [19 F] of 3 years, need to know if interested", "post": "Hello,\n\nMy girlfriend and I are going through a bit of a rocky patch right now. We live together but we both agree that the relationship is not going to last and that we should be fine as friends. During this time I have started to find her sister more attractive (I would not try anything whilst in a relationship, don't worry)\n\nI am here to find out whether the sister could be interested in me too. She has done the following over the past weeks and it is difficult to tell whether she is being nice or whether she is genuinely interested:\n\n- Offers to cook for me/wash up my plate etc. Nothing big, but she does this to nobody else.\n\n- Rushes to show me stuff that arrives through the mail for her. Just to 'show it off'.\n\n- Walks around in a towel shortly after showering. She also walks around without pants on quite a bit too. This is something which really freaked her out when I first moved in...it is now the norm (she wears underwear when walking around without pants on!)\n\n- Compliments my clothing say it looks good on me.\n\n- Asks me to eat with her family all the time now. I never used to as I work quite hard in my home office.\n\n- Whenever she and her family go out ask whether I am going with them.\n\n- Smiles at me a lot...particularly when we make eye contact.\n\nI think that is it! She has certainly changed a lot over the past few weeks. It is probably worth noting that this girl does not share the same first language with me. She is putting a lot of effort into speaking English nowadays (she has no need to use it on anybody but me)\n\nThis girl has, as far as I know, never had a boyfriend or even been kissed. She does not go out much. She is probably just being nice but it is difficult to test the waters with my girlfriend here.\n\nNote: I am not planning on doing anything with this girl, would just be good to know as girls are never normally interested in me.", "summary": "My girlfriend's sister seems to be acting quite nice to me...is she interested?"}
{"id": "t3_iqtgm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Gym sold my girlfriend's phone number to spammers. What can she do?", "post": "My girlfriend and I both belong to the same Gym. A couple of days ago we both got a spam text message saying \"Text ForeverFit (name of gym) to for free 7 day trial membership. Reply with \"STOP\" to cancel.\"\n\nI did not respond to the text, and haven't heard a peep since. My girlfriend, annoyed by the spam, responded, and since has received dozens of spam texts and phone calls from other services. I assume her response let the spammers know that it was a real number and thus, ironically, her request to stop the spam actually initiated it.\n\nSo it's pretty clear that our Gym sold our phone numbers to a spam agency.\n\nWhat I'm wondering is,\n\nA) what's the best way for my girlfriend to get off of this list without having to change her number? All of the calls and texts come from different numbers so it is impossible to block. Even though this is clearly a scam, AT&T has been HUGELY unhelpful, since they stand to actually make money off of this once my girlfriend is forced to go over her text limit from unsolicited spam.\n\nB) What can/should we do about our gym that is apparently selling its customer's personal info?", "summary": "Girlfriend's phone number got sold to spammers by our gym and we're not sure what the best course of action is."}
{"id": "t3_3o7w3p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Are bonds a good idea when it comes to my 401(k)?", "post": "Hello /r/personalfinance! \n\nI love this thread and everyone's brutally honest answers when people ask questions, so I figured this would be a good place to go with my question. \n\nI'm a 20 year old female who is still trying to figure out a lot of stuff when it comes to being a fully functioning adult, but I am on my own and have my little sister in my care so I will take all of the advice that people have to offer. \n\nI recently got a new job that I had been going after for a while, with this job it will be really easy to get my \"dream job\" (working in a research lab) after I finish my doctorate degree (currently have associate's as a double major in chemistry and biology and am still going to school to finish my bachelor's) and with this awesome new job came the opportunity to start contributing to a 401(k). \n\nBecause of school, food, housing, insurance, and expenses regarding my sister like after school activities and things like that (we don't get any form of government assistance), I am only able to put 1% of my income per month into my 401(k), which works out to approximately $30, depending on if I work any overtime or not. The company matches my contribution. \n\nNow, my question is, is it a good idea to diversify my 401(k) into stocks and bonds as well? What are the risks? What are the benefits? My sister is the sole beneficiary.", "summary": "is it a good idea to diversify my 401(k) into stocks and bonds?"}
{"id": "t3_2q6i61", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27[M] in 4.5 year relationship with 26[F] and she cheated on me", "post": "We've been together for 4.5 years, the last 1.5 have been long distance. She's finishing up school and I moved to start working. Apparently she started developing feelings for a friend, they slept together once. Now she realized she made a mistake and her feelings for him weren't what she thought they were. This was two months ago.\n\nShe asked for space and I gave it to her (it's already long distance, so space in just, letting her do her own thing I guess.) So we tried the \"space\" thing and it didn't work. We can't not talk to each other, miss each other etc. \n\nI have a healthy relationship with my parents, and have talked to them about it. They have been married for 33 years. My mom said that before her and my dad got married, she did a similar thing, and took a summer away from their relationship. She said It made her realize what she had with my dad, and that he was for sure the one she wanted to spend her life with. Basically she needed to find out for herself that he was the one she wanted. She loves my girlfriend like a daughter, and cares about me, so it's hard to tell if she is just saying this as a comfort.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have talked about marriage, and that we know we will get married, so may as well wait until she is done with school, finances are in order etc. So I can't help but think that maybe she needed that validation that this is something special, that I am the one, and from what we have talked about, it seems to be the case. I can understand wanting to be sure that the person you are with is the one that you are prepared to spend the next 40 years with, and five or ten years from now be overcome with the regret of \"what if\"?\n\nSo I guess the question is, has anyone else done this? Have you or someone you know gone out like this to essentially \"verify\" and be sure that you/they had found the one?", "summary": "It seems that my girlfriend had a fling that lasted less than a month, and it was her way to be sure that I'm the one that she wants to be with/marry. I still want to be with her, but my guard is up 100%, and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_34ynf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [21F] called me a \"dumb bitch\" because I almost closed his computer two days ago and I'm still hurt by it.", "post": "We were doing laundry together (we live in the same residence hall) and we were individually on our own laptops doing whatever. I had my headphones in with my music all the way up to block out his singing (I trying to do a little homework and needed to focus.) He would not stop singing and it was clear he was doing it for attention. I asked him to stop several times and he didn't. I began getting frustrated. At one point I closed his computer (not enough to put it to sleep, but to grab his attention) and he laughed and told me to stop and then he stopped singing. \n\nHe then started again doing it for attention, I asked him to stop probably about five times before I got annoyed. At this point it was clear I was angry and I tried to close his computer again (again, it didn't go to sleep so he didn't lose whatever he was doing). At that point he shouted at me \"STOP. Dumb bitch.\"\n\nI was taken back because he's never called me that before. I was upset so I gathered my things and left to go to my room to think. I don't know if it's wrong to be this upset by it but I'm really offended by that. I'm not sure what to do. He doesn't think it was a big deal and maybe it isn't, but it was extremely disrespectful.", "summary": "Am I overreacting or is he just a dick?"}
{"id": "t3_1gwxt2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Im [23/m] and on and off again relationship [23/f]", "post": "In the past few weeks, my friends go to music festivals and tend to do a lot of hard drugs there. I use to do the same, but stopped and wanted to live and grasp life in a different way of thinking. So here's the problem, i pushed almost everyone out of my life except for my roommates. My EX on and off again is the only one that is constantly wanting to be in my life. She believes, im her one, that one person she will marry, and live life. I make her complete. I am a pretty different kind of guy, i've never had a girlfriend in my life, and just fucked. I tried a relationship with her, and it went it. Though i started to take my friends opinions of her into account way too much. (Note: Same friends that go to festivals) I am a pretty much close mouthed person, she peeled my layers of my mind and life and let my walls down. The first person i started to trust, but she had her problems as well. I would admittedly be a little cold and not warm being in new field of relationships. The reason for the first break up was i felt i wasnt full into it as she does (shes a really caring person). (during this time my brother was getting a divorce after almost 2 years). \n\nBasically Reddit, my problem is this. I have little contact with my closest friends, but she is the closest person ever in my life. We have jealousy when we are broken up, and she had some even in the relationship. In a way she can say the things that would keep us together, touching those feels. I can do the same to her.", "summary": "im in a crazy on and off again relationship and ending of quarter life crisis kind of deal. "}
{"id": "t3_vmdy7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some misconceptions that piss you off? I'll start..", "post": "There is a man in my town that walks around shirtless and with a stick. He waves at cars with his stick. He has been aptly dubbed stick man. His seemingly friendly and strange nature has made him somewhat of a local celeb. Everyone seems to think he is just a jolly man who enjoys his bi-daily walks. False. He is an ass hole. I know because he is my neighbor and has harassed my friends and I for years. He is the guy who would sit in his window while children play kickball across the street and as soon as a ball went in his yard he would run outside and steal it. He is the man who (unfoundedly) called the cops on my neighbor and my self at least 10 times for going after said ball. He is the man who chased kids with a hammer. He is the man who watched kids play on a slip'n slide with binoculars. He is the man who stole my brand new 500 dollar golf clubs, egged my car, and set poop (his own he doesn't have a dog) on my neighbors porch. I hate stick man.", "summary": "I hate stick man"}
{"id": "t3_4ci6mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] think I'm in love with my best friend [17 F] and really need your help, Reddit", "post": "Basically, I'm so deep in the closet that I found Harry Potter in Narnia (only a handful of people know). In all seriousness though, this girl - my best friend - doesn't know. She always goes out with boys and talks about them. However, she's been confusing me lately.\n\nShe's really gorgeous and I noticed her right away when we met, and she came up to me first and befriended me.\n\nShe's always been a touchy one, but recently she started making gay jokes about us. Even told her mother jokingly she's going to move with me to another country as a lesbian couple. I did laugh, but on the inside I was like, \"what are you doing\". The other day she was pinching my cheeks in front of our friends, saying \"Look at her\" and then kissed my cheek. This is just two examples of what confuses me. She hugs real tight out of nowhere. Not that I complain, but it's really not helping me with this... crush, I guess? \n\nI can't stop thinking about her, and there's no way to know if she's closeted as well. There's this pattern of what she does and says that I don't know what to think anymore. It's making it harder to see her on a daily basis. \n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "I'm hella gay and really like my best friend, I guess she's straight but her behaviour sometimes makes me question it. Also, she's super great and I just wanna kiss her but the universe apparently says no"}
{"id": "t3_3go3zh", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Sudden behavior change in cat?", "post": "Hi, I'd like some advice about unusual behavior one of my cats, Bree, has been showing. For background I have 3 cats, named Bree, Jerry, and Cheesy. Jerry and Bree are brother and sister and are around 9 years old, Cheesy is their mother and is about 10. They're all indoor/outdoor cats and like to spend a good amount of time in the backyard, and Bree also usually likes to wander the front yard and explore a little. They're all neutered.\n\nSo Bree has always been a very vocal cat, and whenever she sees me around the house will meow repeatedly wanting to be pet or receive attention. She's also very independent though, as she likes to spend a lot of her time exploring or in her favorite spots in the kitchen and garage. In the past, she would occasionally come into my room and meow at me wanting to be pet, but would never come onto my bed and would usually get bored in my room and leave within 2-3 minutes. However, today and yesterday she came into my room and laid on my bed wanting to be pet, and stayed with me for about 1-2 hours. She would also periodically start kneading the bed for a short period of time, and I have very rarely seen her knead in the past. Usually when I'm petting her she seems very excited and will push her head into my hands, roll around, meow loudly, etc. However in these times she's come into my room she's pretty much laid still and seems almost solemn. Since this started she's been going outside as much as usually and eating normally, so there aren't any apparent health problems. Could anyone give me an idea of what would elicit a fairly independent cat to suddenly show these relatively clingy behaviors, and whether I should be concerned? Thank you.", "summary": "A cat that is fairly independent but still very affectionate towards me has suddenly shown some unusual and somewhat clingy behaviors, and I was wondering what the causes could be and if I should be concerned."}
{"id": "t3_1plzn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am sick of peoples' insistence that you need to get married at X amount of time, and become armchair marriage counselors when they know nothing about the relationship.", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my partner for 6 years, and love her very much. I'm not waiting for something better to come around, I'm not having doubts about our relationship, I just don't want the label or the married lifestyle yet. I'm still young, I have so much I want to experience before I become legally responsible for her, and she feels entirely the same way. We entered this relationship when we were 15, so of course there'll be a significant amount of time under our belts, right?\n\nWe've discussed this, we are fully committed to one another, and I just get extremely defensive and frustrated when I see people obnoxiously pitching in their two cents on a relationship they know nothing about.\n\nI am not mature enough to be a husband. She is not mature enough to be a wife. I love her unconditionally, and want to spend my life with her, but there is so much more to marriage than that.\n\nOccasionally, I feel like this view is being challenged. I feel like my commitment to her is being challenged. Am I wrong? How can I politely make them stop?", "summary": "I feel that just because someone's been in a 6 year (or so) relationship, doesn't mean they should be getting married. There are so many other more important deciding factors. Am I right? If I am, how can I politely make others who question this stop?"}
{"id": "t3_555icb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] got scared away too quicker after a guy I as interested in [25m] moved too quickly in the relationship. How do I approach him again?", "post": "It's been a solid year since I last talked to him. I got a little frightened when he wanted to come down to my city for a visit only just two weeks into knowing each other. I had just turned 18 at the time, he was 24. I had never been in a proper relationship before and I honestly didn't really feel like I was ready. But, instead of expressing this to him, I became distant and began to slowly push him out of my life.\n\nIt was only when I left that atmosphere that I had created for myself that I realised what a loving and genuine man he was. It sucks to know I've wasted such an opportunity with someone so great. \n\nI've gone through a lot of personal growth the last year and I feel as though I would be ready for something real. How do I go about asking him to start over?", "summary": "crippling social anxiety led to missed opportunities. Help me start over?"}
{"id": "t3_3vjkdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23m]told my crush/ ex-bestfriend [21f] I needed space. She's now dating someone in our group of ~2.5 years", "post": "I've had a group of close friends for about 2.5 years. we hung out almost everyday. My female best friend was in the group but she was closest to me and rarely spoke anyone else (all early 20's) Around 6 months ago, I told my best friend I had a crush on her and needed space because she didn't feel the same but we tried to remain friends. \n\nI became super depressed and ended up becoming withdrawn from my friend group. We hung out but it only a few times a month. She began to hang out with them causing even more distance from them and now one of them is dating her. \n\nI decided I want to end the friendship with her because I can't take the mental strain this is causing. I don't want to lose my friends but I'll be forced to see them together. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4dp6i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 1year is moving away.", "post": "My boyfriend is moving 3.5 hours away. To me and a lot of people I know this doesn't sound like a lot but I'm not so sure he is convinced. \n\nHe is moving this summer and although we have made some plans to go to events during the summer once he has moved, I'm still not certain he wants to do long distance. \n\nEvery time I want to talk about the future of our relationship I feel either brushed off or like I'm talking to the wall. \n\nI'm not sure how to have a constructive conversation with how we will or will not deal with the distance. I know that until we are in it I can't know for sure if we will make it work, maybe it's too much for me to ask for reassurance about our relationship's future after the move. \n\nThe plan is for me to eventually end up 15 mins away from him to attend school in the next year. Not making this choice purely because of him but because of the programs available in this area. \n\nAnyways I'm not sure really what I'm asking but I just want to see if I'm being ridiculous for feeling insecure. I've heard that in order for a long distance relationship to work that it needs to be discussed prior to, but I have no idea how I get him to open up about this.", "summary": "How do I get my boyfriend to open up about discussing the future of our relationship before he moves 3.5 hours away?"}
{"id": "t3_2j73rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] think I'm accidentally leading on a friend [20?M]", "post": "Hi reddit, \n\nI'm known to be an overly friendly person and sometimes might cause people to think I am flirting with them. Flirting in the sense that I laugh and smile a lot. My mom is a giggler, and I'm a giggler. However, I guess this causes people to think I'm flirting.\n\nAnyways, in one of my classes, I am seated in front of a group of male friends. They helped me catch up on the lectures/homework the first couple weeks of school when I was sick and couldn't make up work. Recently, I've realized that one of the men have been acting some what flirty to me. It's not direct or obvious, though, so I'm not sure if maybe he is just a very friendly person or if he's trying to make a move?\n\nI've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years now. We're long distance and see each other about one day out of the month. I love him dearly and would never cheat on him. But because of this distance, people don't just know that I have a boyfriend. \n\nThis guy in my class has made remarks such as \"You should come to one of my parties\" or \"You should give me your number\". I wouldn't feel comfortable with either of these not knowing what his intentions are, so I brush these all off as if they're jokes and just laugh, shaking my head. \n\nI'm not a very confrontational person and if he makes a comment like this again I'm not sure what to say. Saying, \"I have a boyfriend\", to him asking for my number is assuming that he is flirting with me and his intentions are just to hook up. However if this isn't the case, the situation would be very awkward and I still have eight weeks left of this class.. I don't know for sure that he likes me but I also don't want to wait until it's too late to say something.\n\nHow can I tell this guy I'm not interested without making the rest of the semester awkward?", "summary": "Can't tell if I'm leading on a friend, how do I tell him I'm not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_snr1x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit I hear a lot of stories of people that have a hard life or are having a hard time how about some FEEL GOOD stories,me first", "post": "I am living in one of the greatest cities in the US good old San Diego. I own my own electrical business and even though I have to work really hard I enjoy every moment of it. I also work as a bartender simply because I genuinely enjoy bartending. \n\nI have an awesome GF who loves being a home maker and cooks me delicious food (I have gained weight since I moved in with her because of her cooking). I do not have kids which only means we have the open freedom to do whatever we want whenever we want. I do not have any problems with my family because I was smart enough to cut off the infected limb before it spread to the rest of my life (that is a metaphor). \n\nI come home to a clean house a warm meal and beautiful GF who loves me and makes my life awesome. I have great friends that I can count on. I have a strong Education and job security and I make good money which I invest carefully so that I can plan for the future.\n\nI pass out on my LazyBoy in front of the tv and my gf draws on my face with her mascara pencils and then I exact my revenge by picking her up and giving her a bone crushing bear hug (or play with her boobs while she sleeps).", "summary": "My life kicks ass!"}
{"id": "t3_2hvfbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 m] with this girl I was kind of seeing [27 F] 4 years, broke up and she keeps texting me to \"check in\"", "post": "Me and and a girl broke up this summer after years. I guess we were never really dating...its complicated. Anyways she has moved on. Dating, new town, new job, new friends. And I respect that but she says she wants to still be friends because I am important to her. Anyways I had heard from her in a month or so. She randomly text me, \"Hey, how are things going?\" I respond \"fine, how are you?\" and she says nothing for 30 minutes or so. So I ask \"is everything ok?\" she says \"Yes, just checking in.\" and that was it. 2 weeks later....she text me again...ask how i am and i say fine,m you just checking in...she says \"yup\". To me that sounds like she thinks she has to be nice and check in every so often until she doesn't have to. Am I correct or crazy? and how should I approach her without sounding like a dick?", "summary": "girl i used to date said she wants to be friends but only text me once in awhile. How not to be an asshole about the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4zrsr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Every time I [20F] start getting romantically involved with someone the attraction disappears - only to come back quickly once I've ended things", "post": "It's becoming a bit of a problem for me that no matter how much I am attracted to a guy, the moment he begins returning my affections in an explicit way I suddenly find almost everything he does annoying - this includes everything from the music he listens to, to him asking how my day was.\n\nIt's been a reoccurring pattern, although one I originally pinned on moving too fast with guys I didn't really now etc. However, in the last year or so I've been involved with two guys who I felt very very strongly about initially but for whom feelings quickly dissipated, which made me wonder whether there was something slightly deeper.\n\nA few months ago I went on a some dates with one of my best friends (20M) who I'd been hung up on for about half a year. He was super super keen, but within a couple of weeks I felt so frustrated by everything he did I blew him off. Within a month, I was infatuated again. This happened in almost exactly the same way with my previous (sort-of) boyfriend (21M), with almost exactly the same gripes of trying to take up too much of my attention/time, sending me too many messages, asking to meet up over holidays etc. - things which I have no problem with in principle and really appreciate when coming from my friends. Likewise, very soon after breaking up I started to feel really attracted to him again.\n\nThis is maybe perfectly normal?? A sign of immaturity?? I've never been in an even remotely serious relationship and feel jealous of my friends who manage to maintain them, but can't seem to sustain attraction for long enough. If this is something I'll grow out of, fine, but it doesn't seem to be a major issue for anyone I know and its affected my relationship with anyone I've ever started to get serious with. Why do I feel like this and is there anything I can do?\n\n(Sorry if this seems like a bit of a petty issue, but my friends are crap at relationship advice and I'm not sure where else to ask!)", "summary": "Keep getting involved with guys only for any attraction to quickly dissipate once things start to look more slightly more serious. Two recently in particular I felt very strongly towards, and those feelings quickly returned a short while after ending things."}
{"id": "t3_2g5zos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21/f] How to deal with an over-bearing mother [52/f] who is trying to control who I date, what I post on fb, how much I study... pretty much everything?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. He's of a different race and recently I have been pretty frustrated with him but overall, he's a great guy.\n\nI came home from school today and my mom went off on a tangent that I should take my relationship status off of FB. She claims that I'm 'chasing away all the good guys', all for 'that good for nothing **racial slur**'. In her opinion, I only changed my status to 'show everyone I'm capable of having a relationship'.\n\nShe continued, saying that I'm going to be 32 and single because nobody decent would want me. Since last night she has also called me stupid several times, with absolutely no reason as I'm actually doing quite well at school.\n\nI don't want to do that because I don't think having your status as 'in a relationship' is all that bad.\n\nAnyways, how should I deal with coming home to this sort of treatment? Pretty emotionally exhausting to be around after a long, tiring day out of the house. :(", "summary": "Best way to deal with a controlling, over-bearing mother?"}
{"id": "t3_51r2uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[35M] coworkers[30-60F] are being irritating and mocking me because of a patient[23F], administration is being half-assed as usual, what's the best way to not get irritated?", "post": "Im a psychiatric nurse, I've worked at the same facility for 6 years. Administration in general is decent but a bit overwhelmed, if it's not something major they let it go. I love working here and I'm not going to leave.\n\nOne of my patients is here permanently, she's 23 and over all a very sweet girl but she's also mentally ill. Even the doctors aren't quite sure what exactly is wrong it seems to be a mixture of things(heavily delusional,mild situational depressed, some histrionic traits). Medications just seem to make her physically sick. Her parents are older and can't handle her, she can't live on her own or in a group home. She's been here 5 years.\n\nShe's also in love with me. She runs up and hugs me, tells me all about her day(most of which didn't happen but whatever), asks me about mine. She's quite bright and tries to be helpful. I'm fond of her, she looks very similar to my daughter(12) so I just treat her like I would want someone to treat my little girl if she was in this situation.\n\nA few of coworkers won't stop mocking me because of her. They call her my girlfriend and ask when we're getting married. Make kissing noises when I walk past her room(I work 2p-2am). It's just damn annoying, I'm moving to a 8am-8pm shift in a few months so I won't being as much of them.\n\nWhat are some good ways to ignore them or politely tell them to shove it?", "summary": "I'm a psychiatric nurse.One of my patients is in here permanently, she's got a crush on me and my coworkers won't shut up about it."}
{"id": "t3_lolt3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest/dumbest thing your neighbor has said or done?", "post": "I'll start. Last night I made a run to Carls Jr. at about 10pm. As I'm pulling into my driveway at about a [7], I see my neighbor on the side of my house with a flashlight. Eh, just a crazy black lady, I'll just grab my Steakhouse burger and act like I don't see her. Nope...she stops me. \"HELLO!\", she yelled. I replied with a short \"uh\" and kept making my way towards the door. Now keep in mind, this lady is out in her night gown, no shoes, and a big ass flashlight. Anyway, she had come over to ask if I have a 'problem' cutting my grass. Of course I told her no, but me and my roommate are both college students and do it when we have time. This was NOT ok with her. She turned from a whining neighbor, to a bickering bitch in milliseconds. \"WELL THIS COMMUNITY LIKES TO KEEP THE GRASS CUT AND YARDS LOOKING NICE, YOU NEED TO GET YOUR YARD LOOKING BETTER.\" Now after she said this...a few things went through my mind. First off. We live in an area of Sacramento that isn't the greatest. Not run down, but definitely not a place where cutting your grass is one of the main criteria of living in the area. The fact the the two houses across the street from both of us had yards the size of the Amazon. AND THAT THIS LADY DOESN'T EVEN CUT HER OWN GRASS, she hires someone else to do it.  I mean seriously...I would've taken her a little more serious if she wasn't actually capable of cutting her own grass or had her husband do it. But no, it's 10pm and she's is in my yard yelling at me about MY grass. I told her she can either pay me an allowance to do it OR she can get her own lawn mower out and cut her own and not worry about mine. Needless to say she was pretty upset after that and ended up going back inside.", "summary": "Find neighbor inspecting my grass in the middle of the night. Tells me to cut it, then gets upset when I tell her to cut her own."}
{"id": "t3_4j4qsw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/f) My Ex (20/m) wants to get back together", "post": "I met a guy online and i thought that it was a perfect match. we have a lot in common, such as we both play video games and watch anime. we dated for 3 weeks. then after we slept together twice, he completely cut communication for about a week. Then one day after class his texted me and said he could not handle a relationship. he again stopped talking to me but this time it was about 2 weeks.\n\nthen a couple days ago he called me out of the blue and told me how sorry he was for what he did. he admitted that he was a jerk and he said that he wanted to talk to me but he didnt have the confidence to. and now he wants to get back together with me. but honestly i don't know if i can trust him again.", "summary": "I need advice on if i should take him back and give him one more chance."}
{"id": "t3_2tqw9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Possibly petty issue between Me [19M] and friend 20[F].", "post": "Before i begin, remember this will probably come off as a very petty issue, but it's actually eating away at me so I need some closure.\nSomeone who I considered a good friend ( more or less, confidante level ) of less than a year ( 8-9 months ) basically didn't invite me to a party ( The possibly petty part? ). This usually wouldn't bother me, but i can't but help feel blindsided specially considering the people ( All of whom i know ) who were invited. What is the most suitable way to approach this, given all the likely scenarios. Ah yes, if you haven't guessed it already, I may like this person.", "summary": "Felt blindsided because wasn't invited to a party hosted by a seemingly good friend."}
{"id": "t3_3et8fv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with a girl [17F]I met this weekend. moral conundrum, need advice.", "post": "So here's the deal, This weekend I went to a party with some friends, and on my way there, I had to pick up a friend and her friend, whom I had never met. long sotry short the new girl and I spent the next 24 hours talking (neither of us slept that night)\nwe were both sober, and literally just spent the night talking. She's very smart and very pretty. we have a bunch in common.\n\nNow here's the issue. she's 17. I'm 21 I'm 3.75 years older than her. It'd be illegal to do anything with her. the thing is though in much of the world, and even here in pittsburgh, a 21 year old dating a 17 year old is not uncommon. Especially among the Raver scene, her best friend (also 17) is dating a good friend of mine (22) I'm uneasy about this, but I still want to date her with the understanding that there is no sex till she is 18, and that I meet her parents and get their approval. I need advice. am I over thinking it? what should I do?", "summary": "met a girl, she is younger than I, don't want to take advantage or feel like a creep. need advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_iffkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I usually avoid making statements if I am unsure of the certainty of the statement I am making (is it true or not) why can't others do the same?", "post": "If someone asks me for my opinion on something and I am unsure of the facts, I will politely explain that I am not very familiar with the subject hence I cannot make an opinion.\n\nBut a lot of people are not shy of opinions...whether it is politics/economics/history/geography/etc...they will state facts that they read on an email or that someone told them to be.\n\nI usually state facts from books/school/wikipedia (reliable sources).\n\nI have had simple soldiers (marine..no offense) talk to me about astro physics...now I don't know much about how the universe works..but I am pretty sure that there is no proof that a black hole is  the portal to a parallel universe..however this marine claimed that it was..and I had to politely listen and nod. (no offense to marines..but this is the first example that came to my head for some reason)", "summary": "why must some people open their mouths for the sake of opening it?"}
{"id": "t3_da3sz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to improve myself.", "post": "Male, 21, 4th year in college, junior.\n\nI'm already decently outgoing.  I normally don't have a problem talking to people.  But for some reason I don't seem to be someone that makes an impression on people.  I want to be one of those people that when he walks up to a crowd of familiar people, they're all excited to see.\n\nLast semester and now this year, I've been trying to befriend a good amount of people that I see regularly at this hangout spot at school.  I already have some people I can hang out with, but I don't really connect with them like I do with friends from back home.  Anyway, these kids at this hangout spot all know my name and we talk when we see each other, but I can't seem to break into their social circle and achieve a status where I'm someone they call to make plans with.  I know the semester is just beginning, but it doesn't seem like anythings changing, or will change.\n\nAdditionally, I get the feeling that I'm doing something wrong with girls.  I'm not half bad looking, and am a nice person (not nice guy) yet i'm not sure if they have any interest in me.\n\nOver the summer my friend would have anywhere from 5-15 people over almost every weekend, and the girls always paid more attention to my other friends.  I guess there could be many factors as to why it was like that, but I can't help but think it's me.\n\nI won't be in college too much longer, and I want to live up my time there to the fullest.  The past 3 years weren't well spent, especially the first.  So I need to make up for lost time.\n\nMy school doesn't have a great party scene either.  The big parties are at houses that are occupied by sport teams, and in order to get in you need to be a girl, or you usually need to know someone on the team.  Which I don't.  Oh, and no interesting clubs either.", "summary": "I'm a college student that wants more, closer friends and wants to get laid, but also wants to become a newer, better version of myself."}
{"id": "t3_1j64pa", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Take forever at the checkout? Not on my watch", "post": "**apparently obligatory intro**\n\nHey there. Long time lurker, first time poster\n\n**background**\n\nThis takes place at my city library. Even though everything could easily be found online, it's still pretty popular; lots of the older folks like it because they can be perplexed with torrents, and I prefer a dvd to a low quality, slow loading stream any day. Because of this, it can get pretty busy there, especially on weekends. \n\nIt doesn't help that the library is funded entirely by the municipality, and the only revenue is a few cents from late fees. This forces them to cut costs, and that usually means reducing the number of employees. Today, despite a lot of visitors, there was only one person at the check counter\n\n**the offense**\n\nThe line ws getting long. Really long. People were obviously getting annoyed, but we all dealt with it and waited. Beggars can't be choosers, after all. Then one guy walks up and plops down something like 20 disks and a few books and wants to check out. Groans can be heard throughout the line. Then, when the stack is almost depleted, he stats making idle chit chat. This is the last straw\n\n**The petty revenge**\n\nHe's done checking out, but he's not done talking. He wasn't even paying attention to his hual, he was just chatting. So I grabbed a few items. I think it was 5dvds and a book. He leaves, line starts moving faster, and I quickly check out what I took. On my way out, I drop off everything I had of his into the return bin. \n\nEnjoy your limited supply of entertainment, douche bag", "summary": "if you take forever checking out, you're not leaving with everything you wanted"}
{"id": "t3_2uxxq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31 M] with GF [31 F] of 2 years, feeling bored/ambivalent about our relationship. Suggestions for fixing or better to break it off?", "post": "I have been in a relationship with a great girl for two years.  The problem is, while I love and care about her, I find that these days she mostly bores/annoys me.  I feel like that cliche of all of the things you used to find endearing about a person when you first meet you start to hate after a while.  I have found myself snapping at her, ignoring her, and not really engaging in many meaningful conversations.  \n\nWe don't live together, but she stays at my place frequently, and I am always relieved on the rare nights she does not stay over.  We (mainly she) have talked about moving in together, and I am worried that she thinks of this as a double down strategy that will fix our relationship.  I am not so sure that moving in together is a way to fix things.  I know all couples go through good times and bad times.  \n\nThis has been my longest relationship, so I am not sure if this is just a funk we are both in and can both pull out of, or a sign that the relationship is not going to last.", "summary": "Feeling \"not that into\" her, unsure if it is temporary or a sign to move on."}
{"id": "t3_307kox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I tell my friend [25 M] that I [27 M] have been dating his ex [24 F] for two months?", "post": "My friend and this girl dated for a year but then he broke up with her. I became friends with him a little while after. I just happened to meet up with this girl recently and we really hit it off. We're not dating officially, but we might be heading in that direction.\n\nI think it's been 6 months since their break up. I've spent the past couple months avoiding telling him because it's weird and I've downplayed to her how close we are. Now we're starting to hang out in more group situations and he's going to find out eventually if he doesn't already know.\n\nSo my question to you Reddit is how do I tell him? Should I?", "summary": "I'm dating friend's ex. How do I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_2pciw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my apartment mates [25 F] and [25M] want to start a business together but they always change their mind", "post": "I am a [M25] year old programmer with a lot of ideas and potential to do some serious programming. My apartment mates saw this in me and they have been bugging me for the past year to start something serious.\n\nThe problem is that they are kind of bossing me around and I do not know if this is good for me. We are supposed to be into this together but they seem to be pulling the strings.\n\nI am saying this because each time that we promised each to do something I was the only one doing anything and somehow I had to convince them to do anything. I had to use all sort of crappy stuff, like threatening to drop them from the business or stop working on it. I was joking of course but as soon as I did that they started doing something.\n\nNow again, they promised something and they did not deliver. How am I supposed to trust them in a serious business? I am supposed to be the leader here because I have most of the serious ideas but they seem to boss me around. How can I deal with them?\n\nI know that it's hard to motivate people and get them to do something but how can I tell the difference between someone that is a bit lazy and someone that is downright manipulative and tries to get me to work for nothing.", "summary": "Apartment mates want to start a business together with me, I do not know how to be sure that they are really serious about this since I will probably be doing most of the work"}
{"id": "t3_1jc4in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/23] am happily in a relationship with my boyfriend [M/22] for nearly a year, yet my mother incessantly chats with my ex regularly.", "post": "My mom and I are really close but she hides the fact that she texts, calls and emails my ex all the time.\nI recently read messages from her phone talking about how the two of them miss the \"good old days.\" \n\nShe gives me updates on what's going on in my ex's life, even though I've deleted him from every social media outlet and avoid situations where we could run into each other. \n\nI'm really in love with my current boyfriend, but I feel like she's so caught up in rekindling something between my ex and me that she doesn't respect my relationship. \n\nYet at the same time, I know she cares about him a lot and I still want to be respectful of her choice to be buddies with whomever she chooses.\n\nAdvice?", "summary": "My mom still talks to my ex on the reg even though I'm in a committed relationship with my current partner."}
{"id": "t3_xt46y", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What software do you use to sift through music when deciding what to keep?", "post": "Hey Reddit, so I've got tons of music that my friends erm, \"bought\" me... \n   \nI want to listen to it all and decide what to keep (I'm running out of space and also hate having to continually hit \"next\" when I'm not feeling something)  \n  \nHere's the issue: I'm having a hard time devoting the time to paying close enough attention to what's playing to make a \"yea or nay\" decision on a per song or per album basis.  \n  \nDoes anyone know of any media player that will prompt me to decide whether a song makes the cut or not after the song finishes?", "summary": "Is there any media player that I can set to pause and prompt after each song so I can decide to keep a tune or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2yknxi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Creative advice needed to climb out of this pickle.", "post": "I am an (24y.o.) American living and attending college in Ireland. I have 2 years left, and my family is no longer willing to pay for my education because of my lifestyle (I recently came out as gay). I am not an Irish citizen, therefore I have to pay international fees. I am not eligible for financial aid from either country.\n\nThe pickle I am in is especially sticky because at this point I am not allowed to work more than part-time as a student (and not allowed to work at all once I lose my student status). I would not even be able to afford a ticket back to the United States. What does one do in this situation? (I'm a bit worried about ending up stuck here as a broke bum/having to mooch of off friends).\n\nAny ideas would be greatly appreciated. Maybe there are grants I can apply for specific to studying abroad? Sorry, all of this is very much out of my realm of knowledge! Let me know if this belongs in some other subreddit, and thank you for reading!", "summary": "I need advice on how to get aid for college so I don't end up an illegal immigrant on the lam from the law."}
{"id": "t3_snt0j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wikipedia is loading blue and i dont know what to do", "post": "Aight I'll admit I'm pretty tech retarded but I can't figure out what's going on and several of my friends have been unable to help as well. I use Chrome and every time I go to Wikipedia, the page will load normally and then appear as if I had selected All the entire page. This does not occur on the home page (choose language) nor when I load Wikipedia on Firefox. Albeit a minor issue, it's baffling and makes it more annoying than necessary to ~~learn new things about my world~~ look up the right answers for chemistry homework. If anybody has encountered this issue previously or knows how to fix it, I would greatly appreciate it. I've also included a screen shot [here]  Thanks!", "summary": "Wikipedia is loading blue on Chrome and I can't fix it"}
{"id": "t3_nlkfq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I making a mistake inviting her over??", "post": "Backstory: Ex and I broke up about a month ago right before the holidays, she started dating her TA and I fell into a cycle of absolute misery and despair. We went through hell in the breakup, but of course it's easier for her because she has a new persona and a large family. Me I just got stuck in my nightmare world. Now, we decided we'd meet to exchange Christmas gifts that we'd already gotten each other, and I offered to make her dinner and spend the day. I'm still caught in despair over her, and she's pretty sad too but trying to move on. My friends don't think she and I should be friends anymore. But I've known her for 2 years and shes been my best friend, I just sucked at being in a relationship. Is it a bad idea? Exchanging gifts and making dinner, trying to be friendly, while the wounds are still somewhat fresh?", "summary": "inviting ex that I'm heartbroken over for dinner and christmas gift exchange, trying to be \"friends\" - bad idea or ok?"}
{"id": "t3_20z1qk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] Haven't been able to get over my ex for 3 years now...?", "post": "She broke up with me 3 years ago today after a 7 month relationship, and no matter what, I still can't get over her. Things ended pretty poorly due to me, so she blocked my number and blocked me from all social media. \n\nI always hear advice from people saying to try new things and step outside of your comfort zone.\n\nSo I did.\n\nI went to a university 12 hours away, taught myself to cook, learned some guitar, started hiking, took up coin collecting as a hobby, met a ton of people that I regularly wouldnt be friends with, had counseling, started to read more, started to exercise regularly and eat healthy.\n\nI started smoking a ton of weed for months, I abstained from weed for even longer after that.\nI started to drink a ton for months, I abstained from alcohol even longer after that as well.\n\nI've dated 5 girls before her, and 4 after. She hasn't left my mind during any of the relationships after her.\n\nI still think about her everyday, and I have dreams about her at least once a week.\n\nShe is the one that got away... what do I do?", "summary": "ex gf of 7 months broke up with me 3 years ago today. Still think about her everyday and can't get over her. Have tried all that I could, but alas to no avail"}
{"id": "t3_3ho8ik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend's New roommates have a rule that no guys can spend the night [23M] [22F]", "post": "So my girlfriend is moving into a new house with 3 other girls, 2 very Christian girls and 1 other girl. She signed the lease about a month ago. Today, all the roommates had a roommate meeting to discuss rules. The major rule was \"no guys are allowed to stay the night\".\n\nSome background, we started dating in college, and now I'm living 3 hours away. We've been dating just over a year.\n\nSo, my girlfriend immediately agreed to this rule. She text me that She had bad news and that I wouldn't be able to spend the night at her new place. She then proceeded to say \"you can just stay with your sister at night\" since her place is 5 minutes away. I'm absolutely blown away. She expects me to drive up to see her, then sleep at my sisters place? What?\n\nAnyways, she said that her roommates are extremely naive and Christian. I do not want them to feel uncomfortable, but I still think this rule is extreme. I'm more mad at my girlfriend for not even trying to compromise. I'm just not sure if I'm overreacting by being mad at my girlfriend for agreeing to that, or if this is just something that is courteous to her roommates.\n\nBy the way, one of the roommates has a boyfriend who doesn't stay the night, so doubt this is a jealousy thing.\n\nAny help?", "summary": "girlfriends roommates made a rule that guys can't stay the night. Girlfriend agreed to it."}
{"id": "t3_4fpdeb", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Crate training with a 9-5 job", "post": "Hello r/dogtraining!  Could use some of your wisdom.  \n\nWe got our puppy (about 5-6 mos old) on Sunday.  Worked on crate training her that day and Monday, but on Tuesday we had to leave for work (both working normal hours and we have a walker during the day).  We worked with her again Tuesday both morning and night and this morning, but she's getting worse about crying/yelping/barking for attention at night. Our suspicion is that she's getting more comfortable/less scared of the general environment change, so she's okay making more noise, etc.  She seems fine during the day from what we can tell.\n\nLast night, she started to get REALLY amped up with the nighttime complaining, and because we live in an apartment building with neighbors who would have heard, we committed the cardinal sin: we gave in and after trying everything to calm her down for another hour, we let her sleep with us.  I know, I know... :(\n\nIs there any solution?  We can't take multiple days off work to train her, but can work with her mornings and evenings and all weekend.  AND we can't have her waking up our neighbors by us just ignoring her.  Help?", "summary": "We both have regular jobs and live in an apartment building where, in spite of best crate training efforts, our dog could wake up neighbors with her nighttime yelping/crying.  This can't be a unique problem - help!"}
{"id": "t3_3ozngf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] am having a hard time dealing with rejection.", "post": "I've been single for about a year and a half now. My last serious relationship ended in May 2014. It had lasted close to four years and I was the one to end it.\n  \nI took a few months off from dating to heal and learn to be myself again. After a few months, I started dating again. I got the fade-out or ghosting rejection an awful lot. It drove me absolutely crazy. I wasn't even looking for anything serious and it still drove me up the wall. I tried online dating and had a miserably bad response rate; this really started to bother me. After a while, I decided to take a break again to try to collect myself.\n  \nFast forward to today: I'm finally feeling ready to enter into a more serious relationship again. However, once I made an OkCupid profile again (not even filled it out, just a blank profile), I started to feel triggered again and just overall felt really awful. My past experience was overall pretty bad. It all feels extremely judgmental and shallow. It exacerbates a lot of self-image issues that I have. I have been seeing a therapist for the past two and a half years and we have spoken about this.\n  \nIt's possible that I'm just not ready to jump back in again, but I really don't know how to prepare myself.", "summary": "Feeling the sting of rejection and really not sure how to deal with it emotionally. It exacerbates a lot of self-image issues that I have."}
{"id": "t3_1i4t9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17M] with my girlfriend[16F] year and a half, other guys date", "post": "My girlfriend and I are normal highschoolers, we have normal problems and such, but one certain one came up three weeks ago and its still bothers me. She asks me if she can go to her best guy friend's sister wedding with him. She says, \"Not as his date.\" I tell her I'm not comfortable with it, but I'll get over it. She tells me that she already said yes, and doesn't matter if I say no or not, because she'll go anyway. This seriously pissed me off. Two days later, we're messing with each others phones. She gets a text, I tell her, she tells me to read it to her. It's nothing important, but its from her guy friend. I have the thread up and he asks her to be his date to the wedding. I bring this up to her, and she says she sorry, and doesn't know what else to say about it. Any advice?", "summary": "She's going to her best guy friend's wedding as his date, and skimped out on some details."}
{"id": "t3_wipio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me figure out how to get past this?", "post": "My last big relationship lasted years, and ended terribly, including over a year of cheating and lying. This has left me with more than a few issues, to say the least. But usually they are under control. Except...\n\nI am about a year and a half into my current relationship. A few months in, I found out that he had been seeing multiple people when we started dating. After our first formal date, he broke it off with one, then went away for three weeks, and broke it off when he got back with the second (who he had allegedly built more with so it was harder than the other).\n\nTechnically, there is NOTHING wrong with this, I mean he behaved in he best way possible given the situation he was in before he met me, which I have nothing to do with.\n\nBut two things bother me.\n1. His quick and sure decision to only date me, when prior to me he had really wanted to date lots of people. If he changed his mind so easily after meeting me, he can change his mind just as easily to stop dating me. \n2. He has mentioned in the past how cool/smart the one he had built something with was, how artistic, etc. all things that I don't close to measuring up to.\n\nThe anxiety I feel about this is unreal. I know that I am being completely unreasonable, but how do I get over this? I don't bring it up to him, because I know it's my own personal psychosis.", "summary": "my boyfriend went from open relationships to monogamy when he met me, but I can't get over my insecurities. How can I get over that?"}
{"id": "t3_2genh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] don't know if this is healthy [20M]", "post": "I'm in college and I have a FWB. We have sex maybe 3 times a week. I've always kind of had feelings for him, but I know that he's not interested in a relationship, so I never told him. Plus, I didn't want things to end because I really, really enjoy the sex. \n\nWe've known each other for a year now. \nHe's really respectful and nice to me, and I feel safe around him.  We rarely talk/hang out besides having sex. Plus, I think that he doesn't want a relationship to form so that might be another reason. We did talk about our relationship a while back and he basically said that he just doesn't want a relationship right now but that he did care about me and that I'm his only long-term hook up. I told him that I understood that and that I enjoyed his company and that I was fine with the arrangement.\n\nHowever, I think my feelings for him are just too strong now. I am constantly thinking about him. Sometimes he won't reply to my texts, and I just get really, really sad (it basically ruins my mood). I'm in college as I mentioned, and I used to be a huge party animal...I would go out every weekend with my friends and meet new guys every weekend and I loved it. But now, I don't even feel like going out. All of my friends are starting to notice my antisocial behavior. My roommates always invite me to go out with them at nights, but I simply just don't feel like it. But I know that if the guy texted me, I would pretty much drop everything and go. \n\nI'm just confused and don't know what to do.", "summary": "I like my FWB way more than he likes me. I don't feel like doing anything anymore, unless it's seeing him. It's ruining my life and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_122f27", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got fired from my job yesterday for standing up to my asshole of a boss. I wrote a classy farewell letter to my coworkers. How would you want to be remembered if you lost your job?", "post": "My boss was a volatile narcissist who kept every employee in the department in constant fear. After verbally abusing me on two occasions (one time in front of my HR rep, who did nothing) I sent an e-mail to my boss's boss, my HR rep's boss, and the CEO of the company. I really, really enjoyed everyone else in my department, so I sent each of them an e-mail this morning. I had a reputation around the office that I wanted to preserve after my departure. I suspect my boss will try and convince everyone I was an asshole.\n\n[Letter - Imgur](", "summary": "Boss was an asshole to everyone so I complained to HR and the CEO, then lost my job"}
{"id": "t3_s1g18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm(M/21) having problems with a friend(F/21), I could use some advice :)", "post": "Hey guys and girls! So, here's the story:\n\nMe, G, and M, have been friends for almost 3 years now. She see's our friendship as being a very close and intimate one, but I think otherwise.\n\nWe barely go out together or hang out except during class, and very few times after that(we both go to the same university, same major). I actually tried to count the times I have seen her outside the university and they're less than 15; *in a three year period!* \n\nI have specifically expressed that discontentment, but she insisted that I sound like a jealous boyfriend(also compared me to an obsessed ex of hers). I kept making efforts to spend time together but she was always \"busy\". We did, however, exchange daily calls, many times lasting more than a hour. \n\nI also found myself on the receiving end of late-night phonecalls with her crying because X thing happened with her ex that dumped her. So I was mostly functioning as an emotional crutch. \nMeanwhile, she's sending me all kinds of mixed signals, leaving me(a shy and inexperienced guy) very, very confused.*(so it's kinda of friendzone case too)*\n\nRecent events required me to evaluate this relationship. The other two close friends (f/21&m/21) I have, tell me that she does all that to boost her self-esteem, and she is, essentially, using me. I think that too, just not that she's doing it intentionally.\n\nSo, any thoughts or advice/similar experiences?Anything will help! I will gladly answer any questions!", "summary": "I think a friend is using me; I'd like some advice"}
{"id": "t3_39u5x1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (f/29) just thinking my boyfriend (28/m) is being shady while away?", "post": "My boyfriend went away to mourn the death of an ex girlfriend. I thought space would be good on this trip, so I've left him alone, and he hasn't been in much contact with me. This being said I know he's communicating with others and on facebook.\n\nWe have been in a rough patch of our relationship and this death made it worse. He's been checked out mentally, and I haven't been adjusting well. He's been going over the top about how he had loved her, and making this about himself more than her. We barely talked before this trip, and I chalked it up to where his head is at. I may be reading way to far into this, but wouldn't you want to communicate with your significant other while you're away. I mean, if you're chatting with other friends online? \n\nToday was the worst. Facebook (evil thing it is) notified me that he removed our anniversary date. I didn't even think we had an anniversary date in, but why was facebook telling me this? Again, he hasn't said anything to me but has been on facebook adding friends. Of course I had to ask him what was going on. He said he updated his security settings and didn't know what was going on. I'm not a big facebook person, so does that even make sense? Wouldn't you have to be blocking people from seeing your relationship to affect this? And if so, why are you probably blocking your new friends of your ex from seeing you have a girlfriend? Why should a relationship be a secret at all?\n\nI'm a little worked up right now so I'm sorry if this sounds crazy. It just all feels so shady and I don't know if it's  just me that thinks so.", "summary": "boyfriend away mourning ex gf's passing, adds her friends to facebook, our relationship gets altered, he's barely talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_2egk31", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Problem resisting my ex", "post": "My ex randomly texted me yesterday & though I was surprised (we ended on barely okay terms) I responded and we talked pretty much all day. It ended up with him driving about 1.5-2 hours to visit me. \n\nWe hooked up (which I wanted) and I'm not sure what to do now. I don't wanna be together again but I do want to see him again. The problem is he's kind of an ass so I don't want to be a fool in the end. I'm also an ass in return so I just end up seeming a little bitter. How do I play it cool?", "summary": "I want the dick without the emotions & game playing"}
{"id": "t3_39so0q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What is considered to be \"middle class\" in the United States?", "post": "After searching Google, I've found out that individuals are considered to be \"middle class\" if they make anywhere between $25,000 - $100,000 a year. It is quite obvious that there are many factors that may shift this number higher or lower. For example, someone who lives in Manhattan may not be considered \"middle class\" if they make $35,000 annually, however, if they lived in a rural part of Mississippi or Georgia they might fit that description. \n\nMy question is a little bit different though. I can't imagine that \"middle class\" can be defined, at least not entirely, by salary alone.  What about their net worth? Let's say someone inherited $1,000,000. If that $1,000,000 is invested in a mutual fund that accrues ~$50,000 a year in interest, and assuming they had no debt, would they still be considered \"middle class\"? This level of income would still cause an individual to fall within the category of \"middle class\" (as far as the definition that I've found is concerned), but they're certainly in a much better position than someone who makes the same amount from their job alone and has inherited nothing.", "summary": "What level of net worth would be considered \"middle class\" and what amount would be considered \"upper class\"?"}
{"id": "t3_1yos2z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by masturbating (NSFW)", "post": "So the other day I learnt how to surf (and it was so freaking fun!) (And I can now finally call myself an aussie)...\n\nAnyways so later that night I realised I had a slightly sprained wrist, kinda sore but it wasn't too bad.\n\nI worked yesterday and my wrist was a little worse, but I made sure I did everything I could to make it better asap.\n\nThen last night, being severely horny, despite living in a dorm room right now (at a hostel) I went downtown on my lady bits.\n\nI must have been masturbating for a good 15 minutes until I had an intense orgasm, and feeling excellent I promptly rolled over and went to sleep.\n\nWell, this morning I wake up and my wrist is in severe pain and ten times worse... because obviously I should have not used it for rubbing one out and should have used my left hand.", "summary": "sprained wrist, masturbated and made it worse."}
{"id": "t3_1psy8x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting a random girl stay the night", "post": "In college, went to a huge frat party with my roommate and some friends. Got a gf, so spent most of the time trying to wing buddies. Ended up convincing a girl to come over and hang out with 3 of us. She goes from barely tipsy to messed up drunk in a matter of 45 mins and buddies go to sleep before her. Since they passed out already somehow, I put her to sleep on the couch downstairs. I'm not tired, so lay down and browse the webs for 30 mins till I hear a noise upstairs in the kitchen. Go up and (lights out) think I see an object on the floor. I take one step forward toward the light switch, only to slip and fall flat on my ass, landing right next to this passed out girl who couldn't figure out how to zip up her shorts.", "summary": "Let random girl stay the night; end up slipping on her piss on the kitchen floor."}
{"id": "t3_u9d4e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After a terrible hangover I emptied out all of my alcohol into the sink. Reddit, what is something you have changed in your life because you suddenly realized doing it resulted in misery?", "post": "I held a huge BBQ at my house yesterday with my friends and family. After drinking a good deal of Makers Mark Whiskey, I woke up this morning with about the worst hangover that I have ever had. I had never thrown up in the morning after drinking until today and it was an eye opening experience. While huddled in the corner of the bathtub under a cold shower I came to a sudden realization that this was in fact the stupidest way to spend a holiday off of work. I also realized that I find myself in a similar state after any event, party, wedding, funeral, and every other Friday. Once I start drinking, I wont stop until the alcohol is gone, the bar is closed, or the party is over. So, I got out of the shower and walked into the kitchen and started pouring out bottles of liquor and beer. \n\nI realize now that Cola does not taste better with rum or whiskey in it. Hard liquor doesn't taste good no matter what and beer is not nearly as tasty as I have led myself to believe. In fact, the only reason I ever drank was to get drunk or buzzed and calling myself a beer snob is really just me trying to feel superior about getting drunk. Like it's less shitty if I'm drinking good beer. \n\nSo Reddit, I am done. I have sworn to my wife, myself, and to you guys. No more drinking for me. \n\nThat's my story", "summary": "I got drunk, became hungover and then swore off drinking"}
{"id": "t3_2cyku8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "advice for a teacher with a new colleague.", "post": "Hi all, new user here. I am a chemistry teacher at private international school. This is my 3 year at the school, which is quite small and isolated. We recently had a lot of teachers replaced due to the horrible management (another story all together). One of the new science teacher is a from the south, conservative, and  believes that global warming is \"total bullshit\". Unfortunately she is the teacher for AP chemistry and environmental science. I am at a loss as to how this will affect her student and how this school is deal with a very biased view from her. Maybe I am going a bit overboard and it isn't as big of a problem but I am concerned to say the least.", "summary": "The new environmental science teacher at the school I work at is a global warming denier. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_2atok5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [20F] ex boyfriend [20M] is dating again. Is it a rebound?", "post": "My ex and I dated for three years. We broke up about a month and two weeks ago. They have been dating for about two weeks now.\n\nHe said he wanted to see if being single was what he really wanted. He acted like he wanted to make things workout between us. He wanted to remain in contact, and said we could be friends and hangout. He ended up hanging out with mutual friends and a girl who I thought liked him when we were in the \"broken up but not officially broken up\" stage. I confronted him about it, and asked if he had a thing for the girl that liked him and he said he didnt have any feelings for her. A week later we officially broke up.\n\nSince we first \"broke up\" he has been partying every night and drinking. He also began hanging out with the girl who likes him and with our mutual friends. They began dating two weeks ago.\n\nNow, he's been posting a lot of pictures of them together, where I can see it. I feel like he's doing it to make me jealous but I also feel like thats not the case.\n\nI will admit that I do want him back. As shitty as he has been, I thought we had a great relationship and I saw a future with him. I'm wondering if this is a rebound relationship or not. To me, it seems like it is due to how long we dated and the time between me and his new girlfriend.", "summary": "My ex is dating someone else after a short period of time being separated from me. Is it a rebound?"}
{"id": "t3_4nimzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [22/F] with various guys [22-30M] called heartless because I don't get attached to anyone?", "post": "Hi r/relationships\n\nI've been on here a few times to see the scandalous stuff but not that often. I basically date multiple guys, i sleep with them after no less than 2 dates and I love it, I love what I'm doing and I don't want a relationship in any way shape or form. My friends are all like \"you go girl!\" But now I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me, I've never actually been in love or felt anything near what I've seen in romance movies, all I care about is how attractive a guy is and what he can do for me in the bedroom when it comes to that sort of thing. I love having guy friends and spending time with them but I can't imagine myself staying monogamous to anyone? I had a guy the other week buy me a beautiful pair of earrings and tell me how much he wants to be with me, and I had absolutely no idea he felt this way, I said I was thankful but didn't want to be in a relationship at all, I've always said this to every guy I meet. My friends say I'm heartless and I'm starting to think I am, I have absolutely no interest in ever getting married or having children since I have a very good career.", "summary": "never been in love, never want to, is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_1vvc7g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this an unromantic thing for me [42/f] to say to my bf [48/m]?", "post": "I've been dating my bf for 9 months, and things are pretty serious (he has talked about marriage). He likes to show his affection by showering people (including me) with gifts, but financially speaking he really can't afford to do that since he doesn't have much saved for retirement. I am much better off financially, and part of that is due to my frugal habits. He feels hurt when I don't appreciate his material gifts as much as he thinks I should. Would this be a bad thing to say to him?\n\n> Dear BF:\n\n> You are an extremely generous and caring person, and like to show it to others by giving your money directly (paying for meals/movies, buying gifts) or indirectly (buying gas to drive across town to help a friend). You are used to showering people with gifts to show you care for them, but *I do not need that*.\n\n> What I want is **YOU**, and quality time with YOU. I can afford to buy all the material things I want. What I cannot buy is additional time with YOU. I realize that the clock is ticking for both of us, which is why I want so badly to retire early so that we can spend more quality time together while we're both still healthy and active.\n\n> I appreciate your sweet gestures, but every time I see you spend money unnecessarily, it makes me acutely aware that it means you will have to spend more hours working to make up for it, since you currently do not have sufficient savings to retire early (or to retire as early as I want to). I want you to preserve your money so that you can quit working as soon as possible, and spend your time with me. *That is the best possible gift you could ever give me.*\n\n> -Me\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Is it ok to tell my bf that I'd rather he save his money than buy me material gifts?"}
{"id": "t3_2iakab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20F] rushing into things with my boyfriend [20M] of 3 1/2 years?", "post": "Okay, I think this is a bit of a weird one. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 1/2 years. We've been living together in a house his father rents (but never comes over) for a year now. Things are great, really wonderful. He makes me happy and looks after me, I do the same for him. I think we work great together. \n\nWe're on the same wavelength with politics, religion, kids and money. I honestly find him perfect for me. Equality between sexes is an important thing with us. I think that I want to really surprise him and propose myself.\n\n*But*, I have my doubts! mainly about myself. I have a lot of emotional damage from an abusive upbringing, which I am constantly having to second-guess myself because I find a lot of the signs of my abuser in me, and the last thing I want is for me to become him. My boyfriend is also my first and only partner. We were teenage sweethearts. I am concerned I might be getting into things way too quickly.\n\nHe currently works part time as a bartender and has no savings (job market sucks at the moment) I work in retail and have a lot in savings from my mother's inheritance. I worry if we should wait until we move out of his father's place, have some experience with living totally on our own etc etc. what do you all think?", "summary": "Wanting to propose to my bf, am I going too quickly? Should I wait?"}
{"id": "t3_4zgm2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] just found out the guy [30M] I've been dating for 2 months has a boyfriend.", "post": "We started hanging out after matching on Tinder (he had just moved to a new city.) We got drinks a couple of times and got along really well and had a ton of common interests. During this time he's been persistent in asking me if I'll be exclusive with him. I told him I wasn't ready but hadn't seen other people since that conversation.\n\nWe keep hanging out once every week or two, I stayed over his apartment, we'd go to dinner, he'd talk about wanting to introduce me to his friends. I thought things are going really well and am in a place where I could consider going exclusive with him.\n\nTonight we were in the middle of a text conversation and he tells me he has a boyfriend and says he's the worst person in the world. I ask if it's been for the whole time we've been dating and he says yes. I was floored. I have no idea why he would be so insistent on going into a relationship or keep wanting to hang out when he was seeing someone else. He seemed like an extremely nice, genuine guy.\n\nNothing like this has ever happened to me before and I'm looking for advice on how to proceed. I'm still waiting on more information from the guy but completely freaking out about how I could be so oblivious.", "summary": "Man I was dating exclusively for 2 months revealed he's been in  a long-term relationship the whole time. "}
{"id": "t3_glier", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice for dealing with my roommate.", "post": "My roommate and I are both college students. We have been living together since August, and until he got a pet, things were going pretty swimmingly. Sure, he'd usually leave dishes unwashed when he left various times throughout the week, but I dealt with it. A problem like that is minor, when I consider the problems I've had with a past roommate. \n\nHowever, around the beginning of the year, he decided he was going to get an animal. Great! My cats have another cat to socialize with. Except that his pet has not been neutered, and has not had her shots. He's been promising this since he brought her, but something always comes up, as did at the end of this week. \n\nHe also doesn't do much to help take care of her. He feeds the cats on average once every two days, and literally never scoops the litter box. Ever. Nor does he take the litter out. Now, since I have more cats than he does, I don't expect him to do the majority of the work, but I'm doing *more* work now than I was before he brought his cat. \n\nI have talked to him on several occasions about being responsible for this animal that depends on him for basic needs, and he always promises to do better, then doesn't. If I try to remind him, he'll say okay, in a bit, and then he won't ever get around to doing it, because, go figure, something comes up and he doesn't have time or forgets or whatever. \n\nI will add that he takes the dog out and feeds him lunch (I'm not sure of the frequency, but it isn't more than 3-4 days of the week), but I only asked him to do it once. Never did I say that he was required to do this; I asked it as a favor of him once, and it has since become \"the norm.\" At least, more normal than him taking care of his own cat. \n\nHow can I get him to be responsible for this cat? I really only ask for him to scoop the litter once a week, and if he'd actually scoop the litter, the rule would be take what you scoop, so I'd still be doing the majority of the work.", "summary": "Roommate doesn't take care of his cat, and nothing has changed after talking to him several times. How the fuck do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_341lc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [23 F] of 5 months, nervous about going to college full time and being a father", "post": "So a little background story I recently got my girlfriend pregnant and she is due January 2016. I am in the process of separating from the military and will began school this August. I will not be working because I will be receiving a housing stipend from the GI Bill as long as I am in school. I am planning on going to a community college. My finances are figured out for the most part and my girlfriend should be starting a very good job next year after she recovers from birth. A family member has graciously offered to babysit while I go to class for a very small fee. However I'm nervous that I will not be able to do well in school because of the child whether it be that it is crying or just needs attention. Has anyone been in this similar situation? Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "How did you balance going to school full time and being a parent?"}
{"id": "t3_4pchwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24/F] is in a sort of FWB situation with someone [27/M]. I want it to remain a secret because of my abusive ex. Ever since I've refused to tell anyone about us he's been acting weird. Why is he doing this?", "post": "I've recently started to \"hang out\" with a certain friend of mine. At first it was great. The sex was amazing and he was really sweet. He would do stuff like- asking me to stay over, cuddle with me the whole day, call in sick at work to spend more time with me.\nHe even did really intimate things like kissing my forehead and holding my hand which I was initially uncomfortable with. \n\nThe second time I spent the night at his place he started asking incessant questions about how my friends would react if they knew about us. He knows about the complicated on and off relationship that I have with my abusive ex. And started asking me stuff like - what would your ex do if he knew you were here.\nSo I told him that he would probably be at the door trying to beat the shit out of both of us. \nHe then retorted that he would totally take him down if needed. And that I should probably tell him about us. \n \n\nBut ever since, he started texting me less. It's down to once a day maybe. He is still sweet- he'll say things like how his t shirt still smells of me. But then that's it, he'll disappear. I know he's super busy because we work at the same place but he definitely makes less of an effort to get together even if he does text me regularly. \n\nI'm just super confused. What does he expect from me? I don't think that I'm asking a lot from him (especially a relationship) to start pushing me away. Or does he want more and can't ask for it?  Why is he doing this? Because he acts like one thing and does something else. It's really frustrating me. I would ask him but I don't want to assume anything and spook him out.", "summary": "FWB is acting super weird after I told him I want to keep him a secret. Does he have feelings for me?"}
{"id": "t3_3d6dp9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not waiting for a reply like a normal person", "post": "First, a note: I'm bad with women, really bad. All around bad. Not just at one particular thing.\n\nBackstory: Was texting this girl for like a week almost non-stop. Rapid fire text messages. Go on a date last week, things go pretty well, date ends with a kiss and we set up another date for the following week because she's busy most of the weekend. Starting the next day I try texting and the replies are few and far between. Come the weekend I get maybe 4-6 replies over 48 hours. I know she's busy but that's still wicked low so I wonder if she's still interested.\n\nCut to this morning. I send a text asking if she still wants to hang out later this week. She asks why I would ask that and whether it has to do with her slow responses. I say \"yes, partly\". She gets upset because apparently her ex used to do similar stuff. I try to explain my \"why\" and she comes back saying it's too much, too soon (which I sorta understand how it could be perceived that way). Now I'm stuck between do I send one last ditch reply trying to convince her that's not who I am and trying to convince her to get a drink to let me prove it or do I leave well enough alone and walk away with a minuscule amount of my dignity still in tact. The reply is ready but I can't decide whether to send it and if I do, when to do so.", "summary": "I'm bad with women and don't know when to sit tight and wait for a reply and it cost me a shot with a pretty awesome chick."}
{"id": "t3_3q59m2", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just realised that I don't find her very attractive, but I don't want to destroy her emotionally.", "post": "Probably a shitty title\n\nI met a girl online a little while ago, and we completely hit it off. We had exactly the same interests and were basically the same person. Im talking to her for a few days and she falls for me hard. Like, always affectionately talking to me and calling me cute an stuff. And I love when girls do that, so she gets my interest and we're talking all flirty to eachother, talking about meeting up and doing romantic (or sexual) things with eachother.\n\nNow at this point, Ive only seen some profile pictures and snapchats of her face which I really liked. But a tiny voice at the back of my mind was really worried that she would be not what I expected when I saw her in person. And sure enough, a few days later she tells me that she is on the heavier side and sends a pic that I was okay with....At the time.\n\nA few more days pass and I really didnt think too much about the weight issue until last night. She told me she loved me. This completely hit me off guard, because I didn't even think we were past just flirting at that point, but I told her the truth that I felt it was really early (only like a week and a half) and normally I wait until Im absolutely sure that I love someone.\n\nBut now Im thinking about this and Im not even sure if I really am attracted to, or like her as much as I thought I did. Should I really invest myself in somebody Ive only been talking to for a week? I was thinking about backing out of it, but I cant bring myself to do it because she trusts me so much and has had a really rough family/relationship background. I feel like if I tell her Im not interested, It will break her heart beyond repair. She's had a history of boyfriends who have backed out on her, and I don't want to add to that list. I dont know what to do.", "summary": "Really juvenile \"spur of the moment\" flirting, she loves me but I find out Im not too attracted to her. I dont want to get in too deep with this girl, but I fear that \"breaking up\" with her will destroy her emotionally."}
{"id": "t3_2za1xq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by changing my high score in a game", "post": "Not the worst fuck up on here, but I feel pretty stupid. \n\nSome background: I'm a highschool student and one of my courses is keyboarding (learning how to type). The course revolves around using a computer program called TypingMaster to practice typing and conduct typing tests, so it's fairly important that nothing bad happens to this program. \n\nNow on to the fuck up. I was playing one of TypingMaster's built in games, when I thought that it would be fun to see if I could change the game's high scores and put me on the top. I went into TypingMaster's files to find that everything from typing tests to user information to game high scores was stored in almost plain text. \n\nPerfect!\n\nNot really thinking about what I was doing, I started changing numbers around, putting my name in places, and making some other funny modifications. When I was done, I saved the file, re-launched TypingMaster and checked the high scores. \n\nThat's when the program threw me an error message and crashed. \n\nI was a bit panicked, but figured I was fine as long as I didn't use the game. Besides, the changes were only on my account... Right? \n\nUnfortunately, as I would soon find out, TypingMaster's files are the same across all accounts. I realized this when someone told me that TypingMaster was crashing every time they played the game and checked the high scores. \n\nI should also mention that I've done a similar thing in the past while demonstrating the security flaws in TypingMaster to my teacher. I'm pretty sure when students start complaining, he'll know who to turn to.", "summary": "Found out I can't even hack plaintext."}
{"id": "t3_33q1cy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (15F) mum (40sF) smashed my tablet following a police investigation", "post": "Format is messed up because I'm on my friends ipad, sorry!\n\nBack in January, my mum went through my phone and found inappropriate messages between me and a 20 year old male. She reported it to the police and they have been going through all the messages after taking my phone, iPad and laptop, and have found more inappropriate images and pictures. They called my mum last night and she smashed my school tablet in a rage, then apologised after I told her about my ex boyfriend who abused me sexually and physically.\n\nBasically I'm not sure what to do. They say there is a chance that the 20 year old male will be let off with a caution which is ideal for me but the situation at home now is abominable to say the least. She won't let me go anywhere, threatens to strip my room and take off my door and also accuses me of lying about my ex and calls me a prostitute. Also, I have a history of self harm and a couple weeks ago she made me strip and yelled at me for the scars. Any advice??", "summary": "police investigation, abusive ex who my mum accuses me of lying about. My mum smashed my tablet, threatens to take away my privacy"}
{"id": "t3_3bnkb3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my FWB [20 F], her mom called me to stop and said I was ruining her life...", "post": "I've been sleeping with a somewhat close friend of mine (Claire) for several months now. We have the greatest times and she seems a happy person in general. I don't really know the details of her work or relationship with her parents or anything but she seems to be doing fine.\n\nOr so I thought, until her mom suddenly called me. I had no idea what was going on, or how she got my number. But she seemed to have prepared for this because she blurted everything out sort of at once in a rehearsed way and clearly in distress. How she knew what we were doing and how it was going terrible with Claire and it was all my fault. I was to seize whatever we were doing immediately but she wanted me to not tell Claire we had this ~~monologue~~ phonecall. Still very confused I make some sound like \"uuuhhhee ok\" and she hangs up.\n\nI haven't seen Claire in 3 days, and I'm really not sure how to respond. I never got the impression she was doing bad, and I don't know why her mom thinks this because she lives and hour away (or how she got my number). There was a thing some time ago when Claire asked me to be in an exclusive relationship, but I explained why we couldn't and she seemed fine with it. I told her we could just stop if she wanted to but she wanted to continue.\n\nAnyways my main problems now are: (1) should I stop sleeping with Claire? and (2) should I tell her about the phonecall? (3) should I tell said mom to suck it up and that Claire can make her own decisions?", "summary": "FWBs mom gives me angry phonecall and not sure what to do/say"}
{"id": "t3_32s5mf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] think my sister [19F] is a kleptomaniac. I don't know what to do anymore.", "post": "She (let's call her Lydia) started off stealing only my belongings and money then my parents' things. We both live at home with our parents but aside from occasionally scolding her and scolding me for not locking up my things. They don't do much else unless she stole anything valuable from them.\n\nLydia has stolen clothes that are too small for her to even fit and even my dad's underwear once. I have to lock my room every time I leave and even then, she has managed to steal the spare key from my mom or break down my door. If she's too lazy to go through all of that, she ends up stealing dirty items from the laundry room. \n\nThings escalated when she tried to deposit one of my paychecks - I admit that I shouldn't have left it out but that still doesn't mean she should've tried cashing it... Luckily, a friend of mine works at the bank and called me about this. You would think getting caught the first time would stop her but nope, Lydia somehow gotten a hold of my debit card number and made a bunch of purchases. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and when it backfired on me, I had to make the embarrassing calls to my bank to cancel the disputes.   \n\nShe was bold/stupid enough to try it again with my dad's credit card and when she got caught, he told her to pay off the bill which she supposedly did. We found out last night that Lydia didn't submit the payment, had been hiding the statements, and that it was sent to collections.\n\nI have confronted her plenty of times and it's always the same answers: \"why do you always think everything is yours\" or \"I don't ask because I already know you're going to say no\". I don't talk to her anymore and refuse to have anything to do with her which is really upsetting my mom but I don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "I'm trying to cut my possibly klepto sister out of my life which is upsetting my parents but idk what else to do."}
{"id": "t3_2h71fv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I slept with him too soon and ruined any chance of developing a relationship between us", "post": "I [22 F] started hanging out with this guy [24 M] about four weeks ago. There was a lot of social media flirting prior to that in addition to stereotypical eye-sex exchanged during countless random encounters.\nWe grabbed lunch one day, which went excellently. We can talk endlessly and laugh effortlessly together. Then ended up seeing each other randomly at the bar three nights in a row. The third night, I ended up inviting him over.\nSince then we have hung out dozens of times; we have taken day trips to the city, called into work to hang out with each other, and spent entire weekends together.\n\nMaybe I am just thinking into this too much, but I am scared that I have ruined him seeing me as anything more than a fun-to-hang-out-with sex partner. We do have A LOT of sex (three times per day on average), but we do fun, date-type things just as much.\n\nI am specifically seeking advice from males, have you developed relationships with girls even though you may have slept together too early?\n\nOr, do tell-tale signs exist that may allow me to see if he's just playing me?", "summary": "Can you sleep with someone TOO soon?"}
{"id": "t3_13xyh8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night, I was positive that I shit in my pants while driving home from work.  When I finally got to a bathroom, everything was miraculously clean.  Reddit, how did you narrowly avoid the most embarrassing moment of your life?", "post": "While working with a client in her home last night, I was pinching off a number two for the last 35 minutes of a 90 minute meeting.  It was excruciating and horrible.  When I left and got into my car, a little fart snuck out that I was certain was more than that.\n\nI live over an hour from this person's house, but luckily my parents live nearby.  I set out to my parents house and on the 10 minute ride, I was practically standing in the car to hold everything in.  To my chagrin, I couldn't hold it every time so a few fart-ish type things came out, but I knew, I just KNEW, that they were more.  I finally reached my parents house and ran in the door and ripped off my coat and bolted up the stairs to the toilet.  Just before I got to the door, my ass exploded.  I pulled my pants and sat on the can and when I looked down, I was shocked to see that my underwear was bone dry and that somehow I was not covered in feces.  \n\nI had no change of clothes, so if I was covered in poo, I would have had to drive over an hour with shit on my pants.  I am 35 years old.\n\nSo Reddit, how have you narrowly escaped embarrassment, either by design or by the sheer will of a high power?", "summary": "Thought I shit myself, but didn't."}
{"id": "t3_3i4ogv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I didn't tell her I like her", "post": "Throw away account, we're both college students in the same university. I met this girl in a class and talked a bit after classes.\n\nI asked her out and she said she's busy and she'll come back at me later, she called a week later and asked if I had any planes that day!\n\nWe went out and had a good time and talked for a while, she said she has a \"complicated thing with a guy -overseas-\" she will visit that country and meet that guy. When she said that, the Dumbas$ in me decided to NOT tell her I like her.\n\nI regret not saying I like her so much and I've been feeling down the past couple of days.\n\nShould I txt her and ask this time for a date? I really feel that she was a little upset that I didn't tell her I like her! I complimented her looks and we joked but I didn't say I LIKE YOU and its bothering me a lot.", "summary": "We went out once, I didn't tell her I like her!"}
{"id": "t3_4bp61p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21F] friend[21M] promised rooms to rent in his house to too many people? Where do we go from here?", "post": "We're all students at the same university. We're renting rooms for the upcoming 2016-2017 school year in an off-campus house. Names were all changed. \n\nMy friend Adam's name is on the lease for the house he currently lives in. It's a 4 bedroom house- the current residents are Adam, Kelly, and two other dudes that are 100% moving out. Adam told me and our friend Meg that we could both have a spot in this house next year. Kelly, however, also told a friend of hers that she could have a spot in the house. \n\nI have been super dead set on living in this house for a couple of months at this point. This is all due to a lack of communication between Adam and Kelly, and it's unfair that someone is going to get so screwed over in the end. \n\nI want to clarify that no one in this story actually owns the house, Adam and Kelly's names are both on the lease, and they plan on resigning.", "summary": "5 people were expecting to rent rooms in a 4-bedroom house. How do we settle this?"}
{"id": "t3_19l8il", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Help with getting 10 month old to crawl.", "post": "My wife and I are in the process of adopting a special needs baby from our local county and we're working to trying to get him to crawl.  For all intensive purposes he is a very healthy baby, just has some slight developmental delays because of being born 2 months early among some other things.  We are also working with an early intervention specialist to help him catch up.  They have given us some exercises to do with him to promote crawling but it seems like he just gets frustrated easily.  Do any of you parents have some tips and tricks to encourage your babies to start crawling?", "summary": "Developmentally delayed baby, looking for tips on how to encourage crawling."}
{"id": "t3_337z46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have been with my girlfriend of 2 years [24F], but I've been unable to get another girl off my mind.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now but ever since another girl has entered into my life, it takes all of me to stop thinking of her (we'll call her Nicole) - and for the most part, it's been quite unsuccessful. I found Nicole to be attractive but I always just thought it was going to be just a minor attraction. However, since at least the turn of the year, it's been much harder to claim that it's been just that. Instead, it seems like the thought of her has invaded every free moment in my mind.\n\nNo part of me wants to dabble into any sort of infidelity. I love my girlfriend very much and I see a future with her. However, I've been unable to shake the thoughts of Nicole in any way. I've told my girlfriend about Nicole and we almost broke up over it but the relationship survived. I provided the explanation that these thoughts/feelings for Nicole were probably caused by proximity issues.\n\nOne of the more major problems with finding an immediate solution to \"proximity issues\" is that I work with Nicole which means I see her 5 times a week for the majority of my day. Every time she passes by, I instinctively look in her direction, no matter how hard I try not to. I hear her voice all the time and we talk a lot. It's quite difficult to just eliminate her from my work life at the moment.\n\nSo I guess I'm writing this to figure out what I can do to stop thinking about her. As mentioned above, I would like to stay with my girlfriend. And as far as I could ascertain, Nicole and I are probably incompatible so it's not something I want to pursue. What should I do to erase her presence in my mind?", "summary": "What should I do to get a girl I who I work with off of my mind so that I can focus on my current relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_dw4y4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Long Time World of Warcraft player looking to get out of Wow buy selling my toons, I'm looking for any advice.", "post": "I have recently decided that I do not wish to play Wow anymore but in order to make sure that I will not be sucked in by my account I want to sell away my characters. I am doing this for 2 reasons; 1. I spend to much time on this game and not with my family. 2. I would hate to have the /played of over 200 days to be wasted with just deleting my account so I have decided that selling my account would be the only sufficient way be happy with getting rid of my account. I just don't want to see all this time wasted for nothing. So now my question: I was wondering if anyone has recently sold their toons because i know it is very difficult to do so with blizzard cracking down on it. So if anyone has experience with this my ears are open. Thanks guys", "summary": "I want to quit WoW and selling my account is the only way I can let go feeling satisfied, I need advice on how to go about this"}
{"id": "t3_32njms", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by discovering an ex's reddit account.", "post": "A few hours ago I was browsing one of my usual subreddits when I noticed a post made by a random person using a nickname familiar to me. At first I had a hint of both curiosity and disbelief, I mean no way this redditor could be them out of the millions of accounts on here but there is that what-if feeling in the back of my mind.\n\nDumbshit me decides to click on the user's post history...Ya, it is them. I figured I might as well see what they were posting while we were together.The account turned into posts of nude pics and comments of how they were with multiple partners. Awesome.", "summary": "Reddit helped confirm why my ex is my ex."}
{"id": "t3_35k151", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (49,M?) Thinking of looking for a Filipina Bride", "post": "Ok first let me say that I am not looking to find \"mail order bride\" or one off of a dating website, at least not from the states.  I used to do business in the Philippines (importing golf equipment).  When I was there I fell in love with many aspects of the country, including the beautiful women.  I have always loved asian women in general and I just found Filipina's wonderful  The fact that they tend to like white men doesn't hurt either.  I plan to move to the Philippines for at least 6 months so that I can meet a  variety of woman. The question I have is how.  I don't see myself walking up to a variety of women and asking for a date.  I need something to help me narrow the field, find ones with education, good grasp of the English language.  I plan to return with her, but I may decide to stay there.  I am aware of the issues of huge family and them wanting me to support them, lesbians pretending to be brides to get to the U.S., women already married and the variety of other cons that go on, which is why I want someone as a guide.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3oobgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [21 F], about a year and three months in a long distance relationship, need help on how to flirt.", "post": "Okay so, we started dating two summers ago, were friends for a couple of years before that, apparently were flirting hard core but I am too stupid to realize that apparently. \nWe only see each other during the summer and winter break (college kids). And its getting tough right now. \nWe still love each other but its getting hard and shes had thoughts about kissing other guys, not dating or have sex, just a kiss and thats it. She works full time at a Grocery Outlet and and does online classes as well; and has no time for friends or fun really. Shes living at home with parents and life is very stressful for her at the moment. So I don't blame her with the thoughts and thats not the problem.\nThe problem is that we need to start flirting again, thats the solution that we came up together. Except I have no idea how to do that on purpose. I NEED HELP!", "summary": "I need to learn how to flirt long distance."}
{"id": "t3_phw4u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Trying to date after ending long relationship.... 1. How?  2. Too soon?", "post": "Age & Details: early 20s, newly single female.\n\nAbout two weeks ago my 2.5 year relationship, of which nearly 2 years was spent living together, came to a mutual end.  The intensity and length of time almost feels more like a divorce.  Things had been emotionally distant for a few months now, but the ties have finally been severed.  Things are on good terms, as we make better friends than lovers--still talk a few times a week, and have hooked up once, but agree our future plans are too different.\n\nAnyway, now that I'm a single lady, male attention comes a little too easy.  Guy from lab is flirting with me.  Guy from work wants me to come over for drinks with his friends.  Guy from Ok Cupid wants to meet up for coffee.  All apparently nice people, it's not like I'm throwing myself into the land of creepers for the sake of a rebound.\n\nThe thing is, I'm not sure how soon is too soon.  I don't want another relationship right away, but I think I think lighthearted dating would be a good way to expand my social circle now that's it's all messed up.  But, if feels so strange, going from a pee-with-the-door-open relationship to just grabbing a beer with someone.\n\nReddit, how is this transition to be made?  Is it too soon to even bother?  Or once you have a long, intense relationship, will those standards always follow you around?  I feel like I'm evaluating every guy already in terms of what I had, like, \"well, is he going to do the dishes?  What does he want for his future?  Would I want to sleep next to him every night?\"", "summary": "How soon to date after breaking off a LTR?  How do you mentally transition from that to lighthearted dating?"}
{"id": "t3_17y3c2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl [F/22] leaving for another country in 2 weeks to possibly see an old fling and is making me go crazy [M/22]", "post": "So as the title suggests, a girl that I was seeing a while back is going on a trip to another country in approximately 2 weeks to see \"old friends\" as she describes which (possibly) translates to seeing that guy she hooked up with the last time she was in that country.\n\nNormally, if the girl I was seeing turned me down, I wouldn't give a rats ass, but there is something different about this girl. She is extremely interesting and fun to be around, not to mention intelligent. She turned me down because I revealed some information too soon about my past (i.e. being bullied and a social outcast in elementary school) and because I felt that it had no relevancy to who I am today I thought it would be a laughable story to tell (I thought wrong). The fact that she is letting my past affect her decision of the present me is bothering me a lot. It has bothered me to the point that I am starting to hate who I am and I am doing whatever possible to change myself.\n\nWhat's worse is that after telling me that she is going away to visit \"old friends\" I started thinking of her more, and I know it's childish to say, but I started having dreams about her.\n\nSo I am at a crossroads that I could use some help with:\n\nPath A: What is the best way to avoid thinking of her and to simply not care about her trip and everything about her.\n\nPath B: How do I go about winning her back, hopefully within 2 weeks before she leaves.\n\nThanks for reading, and thanks for the advice.", "summary": "Girl who turned me down because I revealed to much about my disappointing and insignificant past is leaving for another country to possibly hook up with a former fling. This is making me worry/think about her more. How do I either forget about her or win her back."}
{"id": "t3_51s5cd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need advice on approaching an \"old friend\"", "post": "Backstory: So me (M21) and this girl went to school together, graduated two years ago. I'd say we were casual friends, we usually sat next to each other in the few classes we had together and took the same bus home (or I gave her a ride after I got a car). Always had a good time with her (we mostly joked around, nothing very personal, but I think there was chemistry), but never took it any further because a) I wasn't really interested that way back then and b) I am shy and insecure af. Never really dated before either.  \nI recall us meeting two times in the two years, once at a party a year ago where we talked very long, but I couldn't (and didn't want to back then) make anything of it.  \nThe important part: She moved since (not very far away), but I met her in town last week. Grabbed a beer and talked, but we were both in pairs so it wasn't really going anywhere. I also think that I missed some chances by not particularly asking about how she's doing - it went how we always talked, mostly banter.  \nMy point being: I think we like each other and have for a long time, but I want to find out how far that goes and take it to the next level because I think that she's the only chance I'll have in quite some time - as I said, being shy and not the outgoing type myself.  \nIs it even worth a shot? I don't even know how to start the conversation (will have to start via FB message) and more importantly arrange a way to meet. In the opener? Casual \"how you doing\" followed by small talk first?  \nI have literally nothing to lose from this (which is probably why I wanna do it in the first place), but am still anxious af about it.", "summary": "Met an old casual friend after a year and thinking about asking her out. Do it? How?  "}
{"id": "t3_f5nfz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do girls avoid me all of a sudden? I used to be a \"ladies man\"", "post": "first: i see myself as a hidden nerd. i am very socially active and used be good at talking to girls. I do love gaming, programming and things like LOTR. \nSecond: on the other hand I have hooked up with a lot of attractive woman. I was known as the man whore at my highschool. P.S. grammer nazis, please take easy.\n\nI was a popular kid in grade school, all the \"hot\" girls wanted to be my \"girlfriend\" and this carried on to highschool. I dumped an amazing, beautiful girl after 8th grade because I thought I could do better in highschool. Turns out she was the most amazing (smart and beautiful girls in my highschool). I also used to model in gradeschool/highschool. I was in national magazines and commercials. I know was an asshole in gradeschool and highschool... and I have apologized to the people I have hurt. I did have some acne problems in Senior and freshman years of college. I went to a derm and it was better after 6 months; but my acne got worse before getting better. I lost a lot of confidence and self respect in those 6 months.  I am now a senior in college, and I have had a girlfriend for 4 years. Yes, we went through the acne shit \"together\", but she cheated on me with her white trash boyfriend during the worst part of my acne phase. We we separated for about 2 months before I gave her a second change. We recently took a break.\n\nI havent been able to talk to girls since highschool and I dont know what is wrong. I have no self condense, and I always thing I am being a creep when I talk to girls... I never had this problem earlier in life. I have always just talked to girls, and to be honest, I have usually been a cynical ass. Why can't I get/talk to woman anymore? I love partying, but I dont even have the confidence to try and dance/talk with a girl anymore. I have a lot more to say, but this is getting too long; i will leave it for later. I know this wont get any upvotes, Im just looking for a little help from reddit.", "summary": "I used to be the \"ladies man\" in highschool and grade school, I had acne problems senior year, and freshman year of college and now I can't even dance/talk to girls. I get turned down and I hate that I used to be good at this but now fail."}
{"id": "t3_2ns9ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [15F] get my parents [43F and 46M] to stop drinking and smoking?", "post": "I've wanted to get them to stop ever since I was little. They've been drinking and smoking my entire life, with the exception of my mom for 18 months when she had my brother and me. \n\nMy mom is depressed because we don't have money, because we spend it all on beer and cigarettes. My dad is very unhealthy and although he's happy, it's only because of the beer.\n\nMy parents are only in their 40's and I honestly wouldn't be surprised if they both died tomorrow. I don't want that to happen. I love them, very much, and I want them to have the money to buy good food to become healthier and nice clothes and finally make our house less stark and actually something I could invite people over to.\n\nI'm only 15. I'm a sophomore in high school and I've been thinking about this ever since the 2nd grade. My parents and I don't communicate a lot, and I was diagnosed with atypical depression and severe anxiety last year... so sending them a link to a website or sitting and talking to them or even writing them a letter is completely out of the question.\n\nI don't know what to do. I don't want my parents to die.", "summary": "My parents smoke and drink and I want to get them to quit, except I don't know how to confront them without crying or not getting the right point across."}
{"id": "t3_3dwtfr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(25/M) am no longer in love with my girlfriend(25/F) and today is our anniversary. Any advice would be appreciated.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years today. We've known each other for about 4 years now, and have been living together since we entered into our relationship. Long story short, I thought that I knew her better than I actually did. Over the past two years several issues have come up between us. I have tried my best to talk through these issues with her many times, but nothing ever is resolved. The issues mainly stem from personal responsibility(i.e. the handling of money, cleanliness, and personal hygiene.) Every attempt that I have made  to  discuss or resolve any problems that I may have with our relationship  she has swept aside and acted as if there was no problem. While I still care about her very much I no longer wish to be in a relationship with her. Currently we have 4 months left on our lease for our 2 bedroom 2 bathroom apartment. I feel like this is an adequate amount of time for her to be able to prepare to find her own residence. I do believe that this is the only course of action. While I don't like the idea of breaking up on our anniversary, I can't lie to her and act like there's nothing wrong. If there is any advice that you have that would help me out today, I would very much appreciate it.", "summary": "I'm breaking up with my girlfriend on our anniversary because she refuses to address problems in our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_k3njt", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Negotiation salary and trying to figure out how much I am worth.", "post": "I am separating from the military and will be taking a job for a defense contractor.  I am an air traffic controller, and will be working on air traffic systems.   It's sort of an odd situation.  The job is for a configuration analyst.  They wanted an air traffic controller, because the office doesn't have one to tell them if the system acts like it should or shouldn't.  They realized it's easier to hire a controller to program than it is to teach a programmer to know what air traffic should look like.\n\nSince they never had a position like this, the HR person and I tried coming up with a number for a salary.  She said it should probably be around 28-32 per hour based on what I made in the military and I said I would like 33-36.  When it comes down to it, I make 26 per hour in the military, that's not including benefits, and this position doesn't have any benefits for the first 6 months.  So she said she will talk to the hiring manager and see what kind of salary.\n\nSo I got a call yesterday saying it wouldn't be what I asked but \"would be in the high 20's\".  I don't really like the way it feels because it's going to be less than what we initially quoted.  I asked if we could do 30 and she said it will be in the high 20's.  \n\nI have been talking to the HR person the entire time.  She is going on vacation next week, so I will be talking to her replacement who I never spoke with before on Tuesday.  \n\nI meet or exceed all the qualifications in the job listing and they even called all my references who gave them some great info, as well as tracked down 5-6 people I use to work with who I completely forgot about and they all said great things about me.  \n\nSo I need a little help with this.  I don't know how much I would really be worth.", "summary": "HR manager said I should be worth around 28-32 per hour and I think I am worth more, but the hiring manager wants it in the \"high 20's\"."}
{"id": "t3_11b3nh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] Boyfriend (22/m) and I have been together for a year; I miss my sex drive.", "post": "First, I'm sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit.  I know, /r/deadbedrooms exists.  I'll make this as brief as I possibly can.  My boyfriend and I have known each other for eight years.  We were dance partners for the majority of those years, and still dance together on occasion in more social settings.  The chemistry between us when we dance is great.  It's spectacular.  However, in the bedroom, it's a different story.  I know that this is still more frequent than a lot of couples out there, but sex has become as infrequent as 3-4 times a month.  A few years ago I went through a really bad break-up with my high school sweetheart, slept around a little bit, during which time my libido was pretty high.  It's only just gone down in the past 6 months. Am I being paranoid about a temporary dry spell?  I am worried that there might be something deeper that I need to get in touch with.", "summary": "Is there an underlying cause for my lack of libido?"}
{"id": "t3_1irv40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my <title unknown> [19F]: Getting many mixed signals and not sure how to understand it", "post": "So I met this girl on Reddit, we both live in the same area and decided to grab sushi since I was in the area. We sat there for three or four hours just talking and eating, after she invited me to see the fireworks the next night. I was more than happy to oblige. \n\nSo I waited until the next day and I sent her a text about wanting to go grab pizza and she said to go down and we should meet up. Right then I was just so thrilled I jumped in my truck and drove down. We grabbed our pizza and walked around for about 6 hours! Just walking and talking then we went back to her place and watched some TV shows on her bed. Then it was supper time and I had to go back to my place to feed my dogs, so we made the decision to split up for a little bit get our own food. \n\nFast forward a couple hours until the fireworks are about to start, I drove down to her house and we walked to a building where we could get on the roof and we sat there watched the fireworks and talked, then went back to her place again and watched horror movies for a bit then read scary stories and talked more, at the end of the night I decided (likely foolishly) that is kiss her on the cheek. The next day she texts me that she's not looking for a relationship but still texts me regularly through out the next few days she also never said she didn't like Me in that way.\n\nSo then comes this weekend, we've been texting all week and on Wednesday I suggested going to see the conjuring, she agreed and we kept talking still, then last night we were both watching it intently and I ended up holding her close and she didn't have any complaints with it. Its this past weekend that really has me confused.", "summary": "Spend lots of time with girl, and keep getting mixed signals about her desire for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3pq9pi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [24M] hid girl from me and I [24F] found their messages", "post": "I found out my bf of 3.5 years was hanging out with another girl [26F] and hid her from me. He didn't like her according to him and she was going through a divorce so he wanted to help her, while my bf was going through a lot of insecurities himself because I was meeting a lot of new friends, including guys and I was about to move back home (5 hours away) if I found a job there. In some ways, he told me he had been doing all this to spite me and to cope because I was meeting all these new guys and moving away from him, but recognizes now it was wrong to spite me in this way.\n\nHe was extremely friendly and initiated conversation frequently. He accompanied her to see apartments, took her furniture shopping, helped her move, and asked her out to lunch frequently (they used to be coworkers but now work in the same area). He invited her over to his place once after furniture shopping since he lives nearby, but said she was only in there briefly and nothing physical happened. After she found an apartment, she started seeing another guy (which he found out from on facebook and asked her about). After that, he would still ask her to get lunch, but they eventually stopped talking when he felt guilty.\n\nHe really regrets hiding all this from me now and promises he never felt anything for her. He said he eventually was going to tell me and that's why he never deleted their chats. I need an unbiased opinion. He lied to me and hid her from me. Did he like her? Is a relationship with him possible now?", "summary": "Boyfriend hid girl from me and helped her apartment hunt/asked her out for lunch a lot, while I was planning to move away for a new job. He says he never liked her and it was his way of coping, but I don't know if he's lying."}
{"id": "t3_34p9z6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] roomate [23 M] drugged me and I'm unsure as to if I should confront him at all?", "post": "I need help gaining some perspective on this issue. I'll start by laying out the basic framework and then get into the more personal side.\n\nMy roommate ( who I have known for about 4 years) is extremely dependent on marijuana, to the point that he is literally always high. It is a noted occurrence when he is not able to be high ( he'll mention it). I used to smoke with him as a social activity, such if we were to go to the movies or something. \n\nHowever for the past couple of months he has notice that I haven't been smoking or drinking very much. Every time he offers me weed or alcohol and I deny his offer, he acts offended and as if I'm ruining the \"night\". He'll call me names or say little quips about how I think I'm better than them or something. It's usually just annoying and I'll ignore him even more for the night by either going somewhere or spending time in my room. To which he just gets pissy and will act passive aggressively later on the that night or the next day. \n\nTonight was different tho, I denied wanting anything but just one beer. And so I had one beer, and finished the night doing stuff in my room. However before I headed to my room he came and offered me food, which I ate a small portion of. About 30 mins later I recognized myself thinking that the beer had been exceptionally stronger than I anticipated. I shrugged it off as I thought maybe I was dehydrated and didn't notice. But just a few minuets later it hit me, I'm stoned! and slowly getting higher! Now about an hour later I am Very high. \n\nI'm a mixture of absolute rage and a bit of fear due to the fact that he can be extremely irrational and go on absolute rage tantrums when provoked. He also has access to firearms and is bigger than me. \n\nMy thoughts were to simply say nothing and put into full motion moving out. Do I confront him about it? Do anything that I haven't mentioned?  I figured it would be best to confront you guys and see if maybe I was missing something. \n\nI cant thank you enough.", "summary": "Co-dependent roommate drugged me due to his insane level of insecurity or some sort of sadistic desire to \"get me\". Need to know whether to confront or to simply get out without much more than a \"I'll see you around.\""}
{"id": "t3_pkb5i", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Do I need to call the cops right now?", "post": "This is going to be a strange post but I really need advice. I got home from work a moment ago and my front door was closed but not pulled completely shut. I was able to easily push it open without using my key. My friend and I have only been living in this apartment for about a week. I came in and the lights were off and my roomie is still at work. I went into my bedroom and the door was shut (as usual) so I opened it and turned the light on. On my bed was a white towel that was slightly damp and it was sitting on top of my laptop. The towels I use are green and I have no idea how it got on my bed. I asked my boyfriend (who stayed over last night) and my roommate if either of them left it there and both said no. In our building, there is access to our attic and our basement from other parts of the building and the attic door wasn't locked either. Should I call the cops to ask them to take a look around? I know this sounds silly and irrational but the front door was open and there's no explanation for this. I've been hearing strange noises from the attic for the past couple of days. I'm hesitant to call the cops because I don't want to look like an idiot so instead I'm sitting here with mace getting myself more and more freaked out.", "summary": "Came home from work to find that front door was open and a mysterious towel of unknown origin was in my room. Do I call the cops?"}
{"id": "t3_3nflbt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm not good enough. And I think I'm starting to accept that fact.", "post": "My entire life has revolved around making my parents proud. I got good grades from K-12 so my parents would be happy. I got good at violin and played in the best orchestras in my school and local area so that my parents would be happy. I participated in competitive swimming and got a ton of red and blue ribbons so my parents would be happy. But I was never good enough for them. Every 98% or 99% was more about the missing 1-2% than the actual grade. I got a great score on my SATs and ACTs both but my father called them pathetic because they weren't perfect scores (and he meant it). This caused my entire life to be filled with sadness and depression. It drained my motivation. Since I was so unmotivated I stopped doing anything in college and failed out. I got back in after a year and (surprise!) I failed again. Now I attend a local community college and will probably get an associates degree at the end of this semester. A few months ago I got a job at a fast food place. I like it. Im good at it. I'm not going to do much better. I'm not going to have the kind of money that my parents have. I'm not going to be worth bragging about to anybody. I'm not going to be wildly successful. But I think I'm okay.", "summary": "Read the title. Or the post itself."}
{"id": "t3_3fjp6d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU In a Roman Art Gallery", "post": "First post, so sorry for formatting. NSFW kinda? \n\nAnyways I'm in Rome on a vacation and went to go check out this art gallery. For those of you that haven't been,  most art galleries here I've been to require a metal detector and x-ray screening. Before I got into the line to get checked,  I was waiting for my friends to go to the bathroom. I somehow managed to fall asleep in the meantime. As soon as I noticed they were done we got in line to get screened, with me still preety groggy. As I step through the metal detector,  the security guard tells me to empty my pockets, which I already did. As I look down,  I realize I somehow have a massive boner... He kept insisting in broken English to empty my pockets but I couldn't convey it was empty. While this was going on I was frantically trying to tuck it in or regain composure. Ending up making such a scene that not only did my friends (one of which is a girl I really like) see my boner, but so did about 200 other people in the hall.", "summary": "got a boner while entering an art gallery and showed about 200 people and friends what's under my pants"}
{"id": "t3_uydi9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "26/m and wonder what to do next after first major relationship ended (i dont need help getting over her though)", "post": "Hello,\nSo about a month ago i was cast out (dumped) from my first true relationship after a life of near misses and what not. It lasted six months and i felt that my sheepishness had a lot to do with it. So i made a point to not be mopey and use that loss as incentive to change myself for the better. I am working out more and actively making new friends and things like that but this is not about moving on. \nMy real question is how do i meet more people, and of course meet more gals. I do not drink (ever) so bars are not much help (nor are they really my scene) and all i really have is my work at a barnes and noble and home. Trying ok cupid which but not much going on there, i am average looking i guess (if you want to know what i look like, look at my post history)", "summary": "Slightly nerdy Guy who doesn't drink trying to better himself after 6 month relationship ended, wondering how to meet new people and of course new women."}
{"id": "t3_2ipvl3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by going to work today", "post": "Okay, so this is my first post and I'm doing it from my phone. \n\nI work at an animal clinic and I had to work Saturday which is where this tifu starts, I guess. These two dogs came in Friday afternoon to board and their parents brought them a bed each. They were super nice and expensive beds. Saturday around noon, one of the receptionists called me into the kennel to show me that one of the dogs had destroyed one of the beds. We had a few laughs, I took some pictures, and then I cleaned it up and didn't think about it again. Today their parents came to get them and the same receptionist that worked the weekend with me pulled me to the front to show the parents the picture of the massacred bed. \nThis is where I fucked up. \nI have a boyfriend that lives in Australia. Sometimes, I like taking naughty pics and sending them to him. I also have an android phone that let's you see some of the pictures that were taken at the same time of a specific picture. \nI clicked on the picture of the torn up bed and showed it to the mom. Immediately, she tapped the screen so the other pictures showed up at the bottom. One of those pictures was of my butt. I quickly turned my phone away and covered it by showing them a different picture of the dogs/beds. In my haste to pull my phone away, I showed the butt pic to the receptionist. Nobody mentioned it.", "summary": "took a picture of some dogs, took some pics of my butt. Accidentally showed some people the butt pics while showing them the dog pics"}
{"id": "t3_2y9sd0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20] don't know if i'm overracting. My Boyfriend [20] of 3 years may be cheating?", "post": "I'll keep this as short and to the point as possible. Throw away account because my boyfriend knows my real account and i'd like to get advice on this matter about what i should do.\n\nI notice him being on his phone alot more lately. He would kinda have it out of my line of sight so i don't really get to see the screen. I noticed he had changed his email password (For some reason i am not sure of.) and that his kik account which he has not used in a very long time had gotten its password changed as well. When i looked up his account on kik the picture had changed so i know he has been on there recently. This is a flag for me because he really has no reason to be on there again and to especially just change the profile. When i checked before the password change and it had been wiped clean (Due to him resetting it from taking it off his phone). I looked under recent chats and some girl who i didn't recognize was on there. I blew it off saying to myself that it was probably from a very long time ago and i didn't worry about it until the sudden password changes.\n\nI don't want to up front ask him if he is cheating because if i am just being paranoid i don't want him to think i don't trust him. I can't check his phone when he sleeps (Hes has recently been sleeping over at my house everyday for the past month and the only times we aren't together is when i am at school or he is at work) because he always keeps it under his pillow/out of reach. (This isn't new as he has always done this) I need help in figuring out what i should do or if i am just overacting about this.", "summary": "Needing advice on if i am overacting about my boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_27xmjc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the point of broadcast standards and practices?", "post": "So the way I understand it (which admittedly may be mistaken) is that cable networks are not subject to FCC regulations so they can broadcast pretty much whatever they want.  However, every non-subscription based network has a standards and practices division to police the content to ensure advertisers and sponsors aren't guilty by affiliation to offensive material.\n\nHere's what I don't understand though.  Advertisers want to get their ads out to as many viewers as possible and pay a premium to do so.  We as a society have demonstrated that we're less offended by rather normal things like sex and language.  The last episode of Game of Thrones had 7 million viewers, so I imagine if that show wasn't behind a pay wall that number would be much larger, and I think advertisers would be jumping at the chance to buy ad-space.  For a children's network it makes sense, but for any other it seems like S&P is a waste of money.", "summary": "advertisers want to sell ads and even shows with sex, violence and language get viewers so policing it seems like a waste of resources."}
{"id": "t3_3o0wya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17F) hooked up with my best guy friend(19M) and I don't know how I feel about it", "post": "So just a little background...I (17F) have been really good friends with this guy (19M) for 3 and a half years, we met when I was a freshman in high school and he was a junior, I am now a senior in high school and he is a sophomore in college. \n\nAt first I was not very into him as more than a friend...I had multiple boyfriends within that time and I was always more into thinner, fitter, taller guys. He was always on the heavier side and is only about 5'7...over the years he has gotten way fitter and dropped more weight. I could slowly feel myself get more and more attracted to him so much so that I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 weeks ago because I was concerned I was going to cheat on him which I did not want to do.\n\nLast night we finally hooked up and he told me that he had always had feelings for me but wasn't sure how to deal with them as he wasn't quite sure if I liked him or not. He has been in some bad relationships where the girls didn't actually like him, didn't wanna spend time with him, or didn't want more with him then just sex. I am afraid I have made a huge mistake as I feel he is super attached to me and wants to be in a relationship with me. I do not know if I am ready yet for a new relationship and I don't know if I truly like him in the same way. I really really don't want to hurt him or be like those other girls. I am very confused so help please! What should I do?", "summary": "I (17F) hooked up with my guy friend (19M) of 3 1/2 years last night and am sort of regretting it. He really likes me and I don't want to hurt him but I don't know if I'm ready for a new committed relationship just yet."}
{"id": "t3_36mebq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting off the alarm in my house repeatedly.", "post": "So this happened last night at my parents house at 11:30 at night. I decided that I want to have a toke. It was raining like crazy so i decided that since nobody is going to come into my room I would smoke in my bathroom. I had a window similar to [this] but mine is broken and doesn't stay open, and it's too hard to hold it open the whole time. So everytime I took a hit, I would open the window, exhale and close it. When I was finishing up, that's when I noticed the red dot on the alarm sensor that look kind of like [this] blinking.  I made the alarm downstairs go off about 7 times and woke my parents up. I gave them a reason to come upstairs, and they didn't appreciate me smoking in their house.", "summary": "I opened and closed the bathroom window multiple times while smoking and made the alarm go off downstairs and woke my parents up. They found me smoking and were pissed for everything."}
{"id": "t3_jf2rq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is wrong with kids these days?", "post": "So, I'm a 17 year old guy living in America.  Why does it seem like 90% of the kids of my generation sucks so hard?  You look at a great number of a teen's interests in cinema, music, pretty much anything, and it's full of absolute crap.  The music is just some recycled garbage that sounds almost the exact same as everything else that is popular (The amount of people I know that like Nickelback makes me want to weep).  I, by no means, am saying that every teenager or young adult has crap interests, but it sure as hell seems that a lot do.  When holding a conversation, the typical response when I mention people such Marlon Brando, Frank Sinatra, Hitchcock, and Bing Crosby is \"LOL WUT WHOSE TAHT!!11?\".  Stuff like that baffles me.  You by know means have to be in love with the guys or even like their work, but at least know who they are.  \n\nAlso, the education of teenagers makes me embarrassed to be the age that I am.  Luckily for me, I was fortunate enough to attend a private Jesuit high school that is pretty well regarded, and almost every guy in my school is actually capable of some intellectual thought.  However, a vast majority of people I converse with that attend public high schools are dumber than rocks.  Apparently they were never taught that 'their' and 'they're' ever existed, their grammar skills are barely in existence, and their standardized test scores are ridiculously low.\n\nSo is it just me, or are a majority of teenagers complete morons? To look at the kids around me and to think some of them could hold places of power makes me shudder.  Maybe I'm just an ass for having no faith in my generation, I'm not completely sure, so let me know!\n\nOne last thing... You, yeah you, Twilight AND Nickelback fan-girl, no.  Just, no.", "summary": "BLAH BLAH BLAH teenagers are stupidz"}
{"id": "t3_2upwlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] has a crush on an [18 F] and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I met this girl through college pep band (same section).  She is really quiet, shy and cute.  I've kinda had a thing for her since I first saw her and I recently had a get-to-know-you conversation with her. Ever since then I've been feeling things I have never felt before about someone.  Every time I think of her it makes me nervous I think.  I can't really tell, I'm still trying to process these feelings. \n\nAnyway to get to the point a couple weeks ago I found out she has a boyfriend and I was bummed out and kinda just lost hope as I have done in the past with other girls I have liked.  But after the previously mentioned conversation all those feelings came back and I don't know what to do.\n\nI have never had a girlfriend before.  Also as I said before I've never really had feelings this strong before.  I'm really confused and just want to know what to do at this point.", "summary": "I have strong feelings for a girl that has a boyfriend.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_rhlda", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you keep the interest going in a relationship? How do you get over being only interested in the \"chasing\" part?", "post": "I've had a problem since I started dating, I lose the interest in the other person as soon as I know how they feel about me. I can obsess over someone for months but when the other person gets close BOOM all the feelings disappear. \n\nI can't really believe they weren't true feelings in the first place because it' not just a matter of weeks, sometimes it can be years. And I don't get over it only by sleeping with the person, sometimes it's just a kiss or a declaration that makes it go away. \n\nSo I'm tired of acting like a bitch, because yeah that's kind of the word that describes acting like you're madly in love and the next day forgetting the person. But really it's not deliberate. I'm really into the person and then intimacy shows up and I can't deal with it. I try not to show it but of course at some point it's obvious.", "summary": "20years old girl having problems getting into the serious part of the relationship, whenever intimacy shows up, feelings go away."}
{"id": "t3_390izz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/m) want to ask for a relationship break from my girlfriend (24f)- how to?", "post": "Hi guys, so I've come to the conclusion I need some headspace and want a break from my relationship. Unfortunately, my girlfriend and I live together, but I wanted to ask if this is at all possible to do when living together?\n\nI just know that if I ask for a break my girlfriend will wonder if there is someone else I have my eyes set on. But it's exactly the opposite, both of us are 24 and we've been dating for 2 and a half years. \n\nI feel like it's come to that point where I decide on whether this is what I want for the rest of my life or not. This is spurred on by the fact that she has been hinting that she wants to get married. \n\nThis is obviously not a horrible thing, someone deciding they want to spend the rest of their life with you  but we've been bickering so much, saying hurtful things, and I just need to some time to myself to think if this is really for me. \n\nI feel a bit like there is something bothering, but I'm not sure what. This is obviously impossible to discuss, because if you say you're unhappy and get asked why, and say \"i dont know\" you just come accross as a bit of an ass hole. \n\nHence why I want some time to not be in a relationship.", "summary": "I'd like some advice on taking a break from a relationship when living together."}
{"id": "t3_24pxpv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have \"baby rabies\" and it's making me goddamn miserable.", "post": "I'm a rational person. I know that now is not the right time in my life to have a child. I'm starting a cool new job in the fall and creating spawn would mess up those plans. I'm single, and I don't want to raise a kid alone if I can help it. I'm 27 and still have plenty of good years ahead of me to pop out babies. Logically, I have no reason to feel sad.\n\nIt was only 2-3 years ago that I realized I definitely wanted kids *someday*. But in the last year or so, baby hormones have been kicking at me almost non-stop. There's this irrational little voice in my brain screaming YOU NEED TO HAVE A BABY RIGHT NOW YOU DEFINITELY NEED AT LEAST EIGHT BABIES. I've tried to laugh it off and shut it out but it's getting hard. I've planned all their names. I keep having fucking dreams about babies and then wake up desperately sad. I had another one last night where I was pregnant and had a little girl, and was in tears this morning because it wasn't real (PMS is fun times).\n\nI feel like such a dumb rom-com cliche too. I've always been a rational and practical person, I'm not often overwhelmed by emotions. But when I see another facebook friend having another baby, I get miserable with jealousy and I want to kick myself for being such a shmoopy mess. I'm not used to feeling so emotional and it's deeply uncomfortable.", "summary": "hormones are stupid. Thanks for listening."}
{"id": "t3_3hfhz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [41M] of a year, I found out I'm the other woman.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend Sam for a year now.  We started as FWB, then suddenly ended up exclusive and \"I love you\".  \n\nThe age gap was big enough that we both understood (and spoke at length about) how the relationship wasn't sustainable, and we were just having fun and lots of stupendous sex in the meantime.  We were never going to be \"public\" with our relationship, never going to marry or meet family, his friends were too old for me and my friends too young for him, so the relationship was soley within the confines of us.  \n\nG-d, I feel so stupid.\n\nThe past doesn't matter so much now. \n\nI spotted an innocuous text on his phone from a female name that shared his last name. I asked who she was, and he gave me a story about a step sister estranged from the family.  He had never liked to talk about his family anyway.\n\nA few days later I sat down and did some researching.  Sam has a common name, so searching it up had come up with almost nothing, but combined with the woman's name on the phone.  Well, you can guess who she was.  He has a wife. And two kids.  I assume the wife has no idea I exist.  To be sure when I next saw him I acted normal and snooped on his phone, where they were texting like he was just at work, not at his lovers house.\n\nWhat do I do? I was very emotionally dependent on him, every day we would talk for hours.  We went on vacations together.  He bought me airplane tickets! \n\nI am angry and upset of course. I have never been betrayed like this. I need to think of the best course of action.  He has some \"risque\" photographs of me and while I don't think he would release them out of anger, I don't know if I can trust anything anymore. I want to tell the wife but then again the photos. \n\nHelp, /r/relationships.  I have been awake all night crying.", "summary": "Boyfriend has a wife and kids. I'm an accidental other woman."}
{"id": "t3_k1joi", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Easiest way to move on?", "post": "Hey redditors. I'm usuall lurking around reddit without ever posting or contributing to posts, and I've always wanted to post ever since my ex left me a week ago.\n\nI (24/M) dated this girl (21/F) for 4 months (short, I know) and it's been happy and everything, until the weekend before the breakup. Sparing the details, she went to see a friend in another city because he was apparently leaving for a business trip for an undetermined time. I voiced my disproval but she managed to convince me that it was going to be okay (and he had a gf too). She came back from the trip, still seemed normal, but it was 2 days later that she told me she didn't want to date anymore.\n\nShe just started school again so she used that excuse, but it was way too suspicious so I demanded the truth and asked her if it's because of another guy. Turns out she developped feelings for the guy that she visited. She felt like it was cheating and she felt she wasn't mature enough for a committed relationship because she didn't know why she was looking elsewhere while being in a healthy relationship.\nFeeling butthurt and destroyed, we parted ways and I fell in a depression for a few days, cutting off all contact I had with her. What made me finally rage and post on reddit is the fact that the next weekend after she broke up with me, the guy she visited came to visit her here. What the shit. I just found out now. While I was depressed and down, she tossed me aside and went to screw around with another guy, that fast.\n\nHow can someone be that selfish? I gave her all the time and care in the world, and this is how I get repaid?\n\nI'm fucking pissed and disappointed, more than post breakup. What should I do reddit? I have come here for your advice.", "summary": "dated girl for 4 months, loved her with everything, got left for another man"}
{"id": "t3_2qyqrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22F with my 48F mom, we are basically polar opposites and she says I embarrass her.", "post": "She is a very feminine, girly woman. Does not work. Enjoys shopping and beauty, girl nights, and more.\n\nI am a tom-boy with more male than female friends, a career in tech, very little fashion sense, and a boyfriend who likes me for my quirks. I am very happy with my life, self-identity, and self-expression.\n\nI am tired of her stating that I \"embarrass her\" in front of her friends, or that I have to dress a certain way, or that I should be wearing more makeup, or fancier clothes. I don't know what to do, because I am happy with myself and it always brings me anxiety to come home for breaks and suddenly find myself having to adhere to all of these new standards.", "summary": "Me and my mom are different and I embarrass her, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1j4r5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He's (18/M) mad at me (19/F) for something we already discussed and he said he was fine with.... been dating for 2 years. This is our biggest argument ever.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, and we've always agreed on visiting over at his house every weekend. This is the only time I usually get to see him. I spend the night there and my grandmother (who I'm very grateful for) watches my dog so I can stay there. Previously I've visited him and left the dog home alone by herself the whole weekend, which I now realize is awful. Not only is it abusive to the dog, but she does her business everywhere and the smell makes me very ill. \n\nAnyways, last week my grandmother said that she might not be able to watch the dog so I should stay home. I was disappointed, but agreed. I let my boyfriend know and asked if he would be upset with me and he said no, and that he understood. We both acknowledged that it sucked but it was what I have to do.\n\nFast forward to today and my boyfriend is very angry at me. It's as if we never had the conversation about how I had to so this and that yes I'd miss him but it's something I need to do. I've constantly reminded him that he said he wouldn't be upset and he's replied \"Well I guess I lied.\"\n\nHe's also replied \"I guess you just mean more to me than i do to you\" which really upsets me...\n\nMy best guess at why he's so angry is that I used \"might have to stay home\" instead of \"I have to stay home\"...", "summary": "I told my boyfriend that I might not be able to see him this weekend and he said it was okay, now that it's the weekend he's extremely angry at me."}
{"id": "t3_2jga9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my [30M] are surprise pregnant with first kid, don't know how and when to tell him!", "post": "My husband and I recently got married a few months ago and we have always talked about starting a family but were planning to start in 1-3 years. \n\nWell surprise... we've been going at it like rabbits since we moved in lol. \n\nAnyway, I do consulting work and visit the sites for about 3-5 weeks at a time. I am away right now and I have a bit more than 3 weeks left until I go home. \n\nShould I tell him now - over the phone? Or should I wait until I get back? I would love to do this in person, as it's both of our first child. \n\nI would love to see his face when I tell him, but I don't know if I can hold it in! Gentlemen, what would you prefer? Ladies, could you keep this in for a month? Help!", "summary": "I'm pregnant with our first child but I won't see husband til a month, how and when should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_ioss2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, A guest lied on a complaint form about me, which got me fired, is there anything I can do?", "post": "I bus/host at a fortune 500 restaurant (I have no idea if I can say the name.) It was July 5th and I was closing host, it was the first real time I was hosting. The restaurant was dead, so the manager cut all the servers except for the three closing ones, thinking it would stay that way. Then we got a pop, at like 8:30, and I filled up the three server's sections. The few times where I helped host for a bit I was always told never sit a server more then 5 tables, so I didn't. One couple came in, the wife was obviously on some kind of drug, and she asked to sit at a table, I told her she'd have to wait a second since the few servers that were on had their sections filled, and she'd have to wait for a table to open. She was very mad at me, because most of the restaurant was open, but I tried to explain to her that there were no servers for the sections. There where two other couples there that were waiting, and they completely understood. After like, 30 seconds, a table opened up and the busboy went to go clean it. I told her that I could go wipe that down so she could sit, (the other two couples were waiting for a booth,) she gave me a dirty look and said whatever. I went to go wipe it down, came back and she was gone. In her complaint she said I was being very rude to her and wouldn't sit her, even though the restaurant was empty, she then said the other two couples were offended so they left with her, even though, in reality they stayed and were extremely nice and understanding about it. She lied on her complaint, called and screamed at my manager about how rude I was. At first my manager was mad at me, but then once I explained it to him he completely understood, he wished he didn't have too, but he fired me, due to company policy. Is there anything I can do? the GM said he would try to do his best to transfer me... But next closest is pretty far away.", "summary": "crazy lied on a complaint form, restaurant had to fire me due to it."}
{"id": "t3_2ch3kp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to lock the bathroom door", "post": "I live in a dorm on campus and I decided to go take a shower at one of the single bathrooms in my dorm. I walked in to the bathroom and subconsciously thought I locked the bathroom door, but I did not because I always lock the door. After I was done taking my shower, I grabbed my towel. As soon as I stepped outside the shower, the bathroom door opened and some random guy most likely saw my dick. I was in shock because I thought the bathroom door was locked, so I panicked and grabbed my towel as fast as I could to cover my balls. We were both really confused what happened, and he said wtf and I said wtf. This was just a weird encounter, maybe a weird way to make a friend. After this moment I really learned to make sure that the door was locked.", "summary": "I forgot to lock the bathroom door at my college dorm and some random guy saw the family jewels."}
{"id": "t3_35gkha", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being lazy in the morning", "post": "This happened Wednesday. Just for a little bit of context, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years, and we have a pretty healthy sex life. Which is why, when he woke up with his morning glory and wanted to go at it, I agreed even though I was still pretty sleepy. So we start fooling around, and start really getting into it. Despite things heating up, I'm still tired, so I decide we'll go for my favorite lazy position; missionary. I roll over and lay on my back, happy that I can both be lazy and still have sexytimes. Soon enough my boyfriend lets me know that he's getting close, and starts going a little harder. Now, I tend to get pretty wet when it comes to these things, so it's not uncommon for him to slip out. Which is exactly what happened, right as he's going ham. As he pulls back, he slips out, and unbeknownst to him, his johnson tips down so that it's no longer aligned with my dick holster and is instead pointing at my poop holster. Before I could stop him, he thrust forward again. Now, I have never really had a desire to try anal, so we've never tried it. So when he plows forward again into my virgin poop holster, it is INCREDIBLY PAINFUL. I recoiled instantly and let out a shriek of pain and pulling away from him. I start wiggling around incoherently on the bed, trying to figure out how to make the horrible horrible pain go away. My boyfriend on the other hand, has no idea what just happened, and is dead convinced that he has mortally injured me in some way, based on the sad little whimpers I'm making. He starts apologizing profusely and huddles on the edge of the bed, afraid to touch me since I'm squirming around like I'm possessed whilst trying to assess the damage. I finally recover enough to squeak out an explanation, and this horrified look crosses his face as he realizes that he actually is the cause of my woeful agony. He feels really bad about it, and I'm still sitting gingerly 3 days later.\n\nTifu reddit.", "summary": "Had lazy sex, red rockets be slippery, accidentally tried anal for the first time."}
{"id": "t3_1cc72x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF (25) of 3.5 years wants me (22 F) to quit my job and enter a higher paying field. If this fair?", "post": "Hey there. Here is the situation: I work in a very low paying field (animal care), while my bf works in a high paying field (medical equipment). I have always wanted to work with animals, and have always known that I would never make very much money doing so. My bf knew all of this when we began dating, and supported me in my educational path.\n\nHowever, now that we are living together and thinking of marriage/kids for the future, we are hitting some barriers. We have a large difference in salaries, and he currently pays a higher percentage of the bills. He wants to have enough money to get married and get a house within the next year or two, but we do not make enough combined at the moment to do either of those things. We live pretty well by my standards, but he wants to be very wealthy. He says my job cannot support the life we want, so I should leave my field and change my career path to something more prosperous. He feels that I will be unhappy in the long run when I max out at such a low salary (likely around 60K with benefits). To give some perspective, house prices here start out around 400K, and the kind of house he wants would be 700K+.\n\nI feel very selfish because of this, as I know he wants to have kids while he is still young, and my pay may hold us back in that regard. But at the same time, I am only 22, and this is my first \"career\" job. I think it's unfair to ask me to quit my career path right at the start. I have no idea if I would even be happy in another field. Am I really holding us back? Is this a reasonable thing for him to ask of me?", "summary": "BF makes more money than I do, and he feels my salary will prevent us from getting married/buying a home/having kids while he is still young."}
{"id": "t3_3tjg7f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a gay prom", "post": "So this happened over the summer- a friend of mine was involved in organizing an lgbtq prom in our town, and invited lots of people to come. It sounded fun, so I went with a big group of friends to support her and her girlfriend. (I'm not gay, but I am a supporter of gay rights) When I told my mother I was going, I didn't mention it being an LGBTQ event because I didn't feel answering all of her questions. Besides, why did it matter anyways? I had a ton of fun, stuffed my face with food,  danced, and met lots of great people. Towards the end of the night, I'm hanging out with this girl in our group that was a friend of a friend (I'm a girl too- relevant later). We're just making small talk when a photographer comes up and asks take our picture. Me being an idiot, I figure, \"oh, it's a small event, must be for a fb page or something\" so I stupidly say that we should be funny and pose like its an awkward prom picture (since we're at a prom) so I put my hands around her and make the ugliest damn face I could think of. Second fuck up of the night- I gave the photographer my fucking name! I know, stupid. The night ends, my friends and I go home, and that's that, right? No. A day or two later, I wake up, go downstairs, and my mother is looking at me with the weirdest look on her face. She's holding the day's paper in her hand and she goes, \"is there anything you want to tell me?!\" \n I look at the page in her hand, and there I am, front and center with my \"girlfriend\" under a headline with the title LGBT PROM. I ran into people for a solid week wanting to know if I was \"coming out\".", "summary": "went to a gay prom and ended up in the newspaper"}
{"id": "t3_1jlgye", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Get the fuck off my grill, ants", "post": "So I go out to make some hot dogs for munch, and what do I find? Bunch a  ants crawling over it. I guess my dad left a tray in there last night, because they were all up around the sides of it.  I think, \"fuck it, lets microwave these fuckers and deal with the ants afterwords.\"\n\nBut, oh, do I loved grilled dogs. So I decide to turn on the grill, full power to all three burners. In ten minutes, all the ants are gone, and after i let it cool off and wiped it down, I got my delicious grilled dogs.\n\nfuck you, ants, burn in hell.", "summary": "bunch of ants all up in my grill so I burned 'em."}
{"id": "t3_3pjvw3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have no clue how to date girls.", "post": "I broke up with my only girlfriend ever a few months ago because we both had some growing up to do. It was on really good terms, we're still friends, and I'm ready to move on to other relationships... but I have absolutely no clue how to form those. It's way easier for straight people. You can safely assume they won't get offended if you ask them out, they're interested in your gender, and that they're cissexual (identify as the gender they were born as). When you're gay, you have no idea if it's even safe to ask out someone you like.\n\nHow do I ask girls out? Do I preface it with 'do you like vaginas'? How do I even MEET girls who like girls? What do I do on a date? I live in a liberal big city with a decent gay community and attend college, but I have no functioning gaydar, and I don't want to date someone whose only personality trait is \"lesbian\".\n\nI've tried online dating, but I don't feel entirely safe on there. It's too easy to get taken advantage of and most women into women on there are hyper tumblr feminists or just not interesting to me.", "summary": "Confused lesbian seeks advice on picking up chicks in a straight world."}
{"id": "t3_2w5esi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thanks you /r/relationships from helping me [M/30]", "post": "I started going through a breakup back in September of last year.  It broadsided me as I did not realize she was so unhappy and detached that she would simple drop everything and just be gone with a new boyfriend before the ink was dry on her new lease.  The last time I went through this I was devastated for years.  I really did not think that anyone would necessarily understand my heartache but I ended up in /r/relationships not long after.\n\nThrough reading all your own stories and finding the similarities to my own I have been able to understand how much or little this was in my control and be more capable of accepting things as they are and not as I wished them.  I have come to realize that I have to put some things, even good memories, behind me so I can be open to the happy things I have each new day.\n\nIt is a few months later and while I still have a stray painful/happy memory now and then I do not dwell on them.  I have reinvested in myself and the difference is already apparent to others in my life.  I am stronger and healthier than I have been in a decade.  I have regained lost hobbies.  I see my good friends more.  Most importantly, to me, I do not feel hate in my heart for what has happened.\n\nI would not be here yet without you strangers.  So, thank you for speeding along my recovery. :)", "summary": "There is a reason support groups work."}
{"id": "t3_37pr0g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by an ill-placed comment in the class maths group", "post": "This actually happened today, a few minutes ago, so it's 100% TIFU... and my first f**kup.\n\nSo here we are, finishing IB, the last of the exams are done and not a single f**k is given about learning anymore, not until uni anyways. Summer sets in, spirits are high and plenty of fun is had. Amidst all this rejoice, up pops a tiny notification on FB that an admin of the class' maths SL group asks for our consent to delete the group. With a sigh of relief (after all, when I saw that Admin, let's call her that, posted in the group, I was somewhat alarmed) I like the post and make a comment along the lines of \"Kill it with fire!\"\n\nI hit Enter and instant regret hits back... the genius I am, I forgot that our maths teacher, who already hates me a tiny bit, is in the group...\nOf course, franctic editing takes place in hopes that she wouldn't notice, but sh*t might happen.", "summary": "Made a not really kind comment in my FB math group of which our >beloved< teacher is a member."}
{"id": "t3_1a6fuv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Tips on leaving a life behind (25f)", "post": "I moved to the west coast chasing the American dream and fell madly in love with a boy shortly thereafter. I was pretty sure he was \"the one\" and I ended up moving where he lived, a few hours away where I knew nobody but him. Several years later we're still together, still happy. We share a house with some great friends and have several pets. I guess I'm doing pretty well at the American dream bit. \n\nIn the last year, though, I've realized that it just feels like I'm living another person's life, like I'm on a neverending vacation. I'm thousands of miles away from everyone I know and love and it just feels wrong, like I'm living a lie. I'm still happy with my boyfriend but have known for the last year or so that it's not going to last forever -- we have incompatible life goals and more than anything, I miss being alone. \n\nI know I need to get out of here but I don't know how. I wish there was some way to explain to my boyfriend that it's just my time to go but I know no matter how I word it he is going to be devastated and angry. I've broken enough hearts and ruined enough lives ... I don't want to do that to another person but I can't keep dragging this out forever. Is there any way I can avoid destroying him? \n\n**The final question and", "summary": "I think as soon as I give the news I'm leaving, all hell is going to break loose for a few months. I'm looking for tips on limiting the damage."}
{"id": "t3_1z9wcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my casual bf [24 M] of 3 months, am I a total jerk?", "post": "I have been seeing the same guy, I'll call him Matt, since November. We've been out multiple times during this period, him often spending quite a bit of money on our dates. He recently gave me an Iphone 4s, because I broke my phone, and also came to town to use his jeep to transport a new bed for me, then helped me carry it in and set it up.\n\nHe does a lot of really nice things for me, and I really like being around him, but I'm also seeing other people, casually.\n\nI'm not at a place in my life where I am particularly ready for a relationship, but I know when I'm ready to be exclusive, Matt and I would be very happy together. He always says that he wants to be with just one person, and focus his attention with one person. I tell him I'm not ready for a relationship every time.\n\nAfter all this time, we haven't had sex together. Every time we get close to, I pull away, and he's respectful and stops. Because of recent personal things, this is really important to me.\n\nI've had sex with other people, but no one that I ended up seeing for long after.  Matt doesn't know this, but he knows I've been out with other people since we've started seeing each other.\n\nI think he's also seeing other people, but neither of us have flat out had a conversation about it. He often gets me confused with other girls he takes on dates, like saying remember the time we... and it's usually with things him and I never did together.\n\nAm I an ass? I don't want him to think that I don't really like him, but I just feel like the longer we wait the better it will be, because I know he's special. He's a great guy, and I actually think I could be happy with him, when I'm ready to be with just him.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3uqu35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24f] with my boyfriend [28m] texting a girl he used to like, need tips on how to not be jealous I guess?", "post": "J and I have been dating for around 7 months now, and have a great relationship normally. On Thursday he mentioned that he was getting texts from a girls name I didn't recognize, he told me when I asked that he met this girl L last year overseas and they had stayed in touch for about 6 months (and kind of had a thing via texting, never sending lewd pictures or anything though) but hadn't been speaking since then. He said she had texted him since they met almost exactly a year ago wanting to catch up. She lives a few states away from us now. \n\nI told him that this kind of made me feel uncomfortable because I have been cheated on in the past by guys, and had my exes texting past flings while we were together. He said I had nothing to worry about and tried to reassure me, agreeing that he would be uncomfortable if the situation were reversed. I was feeling pretty fine with it, but then noticed today she had texted him again and feelings of jealousy and insecurity came back. \n\nI'm sorry if this is a jumbled mess, I've never posted here before but lurk a lot. I guess I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable being uncomfortable with this, I just don't get why it's necessary that they talk again, and feel like it's kind of inappropriate for them to be texting. Obviously he can communicate with whoever he wants to, I just don't feel comfortable with this. \n\nWould you all feel jealous or do I need to get over it? Do you guys have any tips on how to work through feelings of jealousy/insecurity?", "summary": "how to not be insecure about boyfriend texting a girl."}
{"id": "t3_3ifwuw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a guard reading a comment by a guard on a post by a guard", "post": "I am a security guard at a factory. I was reading a comment by a security guard on a post by a security guard on /r/pettyrevenge and I walked into a fucking metal box and destroyed my knee. It ripped a hole in the only pair of pants they issued me, and now my knee is bleeding. I can't even be mad, because I shouldn't have had my phone out while walking around. I don't know if they'll charge me for the pants if I'm honest about how I injured myself and they'll probably not want me to wear ripped pants to work tomorrow but it's the only ones they issued me. For some reason and I have never brought it up. Can't just wear other pants either because they had these dumb ones specially made and they immediately spot imposters (I tried to wear different pants when these were dirty one day and it was the first thing my supervisor noticed when I walked in. Same color but she still knew)", "summary": "I fucked my knee because I'm an idiot security guard who reads reddit while walking in the dark on 3rd shift"}
{"id": "t3_y0g70", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Some input would be nice! 27/m asked out a 23/f from work after quitting said job and well read on!", "post": "So i had a crush on a girl from work and we seemed to get along well but I worked with her, so I held off. Thankfully I found a better job and planned to ask her out before I left, but she was on vacation my last week so I did not get to see her, thus I had to do a lame facebook thing. I said it was my last week and I did not get to see her but if she wanted to grab a coffee or see a movie or both.\n\nShe responded within the hour for being someone who barely uses Facebook saying that we should do it, gave me her number and added that she is horrible at checking/charging her phone so if she doesn't respond quickly no worries. \n\nI texted her the next day and she texted me back that she was sick, we joked around a bit and when i mentioned the movie and coffee she responded with \"sounds perfect! Talk to you soon!\". Almost a week passed and no texts so I was shrugging it off that she did not have much interest.\n\nThen I went to my old job to pick up my last paycheck and not expecting to see anyone looking like i just rolled out of bed and she ran up out of nowhere and pretended to work near me while we talked for a good 15 minutes about stuff, she seemed genuinely happy to see me which was nice. I reminded her about the movie and coffee and she proposed a movie (the movie i had planned to take her to anyway) and that she had next week off and would call or text me soon.\n\nNow she is not much of a texting person (she prefers in person communication or a phone call), so i am not surprised that we are not texting much, but I am just curious if she seems interested from and outside..somewhat informed perceptive. \n\nYes, I know a movie is not a good first date (which is why i added coffee i guess) and i may try to sneak in dinner or something. If it goes well ill take her on better more communication filled dates.", "summary": "Just read the thing, its not long and I don't feel like summarizing."}
{"id": "t3_3ubvvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have had a few nightmares about my girlfriend [24 F] cheating on me", "post": "To start off, I should state that we have almost been dating for 6 months.\n\nA little bit of history into my past, I've had a few girlfriends, all of which ended up cheating on me and all lasted a few months.\nNow, my girlfriend (Kay) and I try to have a really communicative relationship. I tell her when I have these dreams cause she doesn't like it when i keep things from her that are bringing me down. These have happened around 3-4 times now over the course of the relationship and she's starting to get a little bit upset by them.\n\nShe told me that she is starting to think that on some level in my subconscious, i must think that it's possible for her to cheat on me. This isn't true though. This girl is down right amazing and has always has such a gentle heart. I trust her so much, even after everything i've been through.\n\nIs there any way i can assure her that i do in fact trust her and these dreams mean nothing? also is there a way i can stop having these dreams?", "summary": "I keep having nightmares of my girlfriend cheating and it's starting to upset her."}
{"id": "t3_3effuo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be polite.", "post": "Ok so this happened when I was in school a 5 years ago when I was 15  but I only thought of it today. I had just finished swimming after school and was standing at my bus stop. Waiting for the bus with my earphones in listening to music. \n\nThis disabled lady then comes to the bus stop and is standing there next to me, she can't see very well and is mentally disabled too. I had noticed her a few times before at the bus stop and she usually talked to one or two people there and the the bus driver too.\n\n So she turns to me and says something, I don't really hear all of what she says because I have my earphones in. So I take them out and I think I hear her say \"Is the bus coming?\"\n\nTo which I reply \"No, I don't think so\" and I smile. Then she gives me a sort of hurt look and the other people at the bus stop sort of look at me oddly. She then turns to someone else and asks \"will you tell me when my bus is coming?\"\n\nI'm standing there while the guy says yes and I feel and look like the world's biggest knob.", "summary": "I misheard a disabled lady asking me to tell her when her bus is coming because she can't see very well and proceeded to reject her like a douche."}
{"id": "t3_4wtfcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] ghosted on my boyfriend [22M] while sexting", "post": "Bear with me please, its long. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now and its been wonderful. Everything a girl can ask for in a guy. The sex is mind-blowing too (we both lost our virginities to each other)\n\nThere is one thing that's really beginning to bother me and that's how insecure and shy I feel when it comes to being more assertive during sex or even if its sexting. Usually he's the one taking the lead but he's expressed a few times about how he would like to be on top or give him a blowjob. Its not that I don't want to; I would love to especially given how much he cares about pleasing me and I want to put in the same effort for him. Its just that I feel completely clueless about how to proceed with things (like how to even thrust) and don't want him to be disappointed. I am wondering if it could be stemming from not ever having watched porn? Even if that sounds silly. It was never really my idea of fun and well. We tried having this convo before and his advice was do something if you truly want to and not for me. Don't think I got my point across well to him. But how do I fix this?\n\nThe same issue happens while sexting, we are in a long distance relationship. We would start off subtly (which I am fine with) but then when it comes to describing what I would do to him, I feel clueless even if I can imagine it vividly in my head because I worry about when the time comes I would not know how to do anything. This happened last night and this time around I just disappeared from the convo which he knows is very unlike me while we are texting. Later I checked my phone and his texts were basically how I left him hanging while he was turned on. I felt terrible when I did it and his texts made me feel worse. Its not how I want to treat him and I don't want it to affect our relationship. How can I make it up to him?", "summary": "Ghosted and feel terrible about it. In general am very shy when it comes to sexual activities and need to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_25wcq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am tired of waiting to finally kiss a girl!", "post": "Hi all,\n\nQuick backstory: I was a shy, quiet, insecure kid growing up. It wasn't really until college that I broke out of my shell, developed some amazing, lifelong friendships, and started asking girls out. \n\nI am currently a rising senior, and am heavily involved on campus, have a large number of good friends I care about, and excellent grades. The problem is, one slice of the pie is missing: I've never kissed a girl. \n\nIn my lifetime, I've truly pursued/asked out three - and all have turned me down politely. So I know it's not a particularly long record, but it certainly doesn't help. \n\nI am now at an apartment in a nearby city working as an intern, and I find myself getting lonely and a little melancholy. I can't tell if it's a self-esteem issue or an issue with me having never kissed a girl and wanting to, but I am absolutely terrified I will graduate college to a boring job in a strange city never having done something most people started doing in the seventh grade.\n\nI desperately want companionship, but I can't tell if it's because I want to fill a hole in my self-esteem or because I am simply frustrated it is taking so long. \n\nAs I sit here in my empty apartment this empty feeling is overwhelming me, and I'm wondering if it's a rational one to have.", "summary": "I'm 21, have never kissed a girl, and at times worry I will never do so."}
{"id": "t3_kthpe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbor mother might be abusing her child? What should I do?", "post": "My neighbor probably doesn't know just how thin the walls are in this apartment. I keep hearing her child scream like crazy (usually the kind of scream associated with uncontrollable crying) and then I hear what I think is the mother spanking/hitting her kid. The kid also stays awake much later than it probably should (12 am). I don't know if she speaks fluent english, because I haven't really ever heard her speak it. I did hear the voice of a man once, but he was telling the kid \"STOP IT!\" Should I talk to them and politely ask them to refrain from whatever it is that they're doing? Should I talk to my landlord? Leave a note?\n\nAny feedback is highly appreciated, even if you can link me to a similar situation that's already been submitted to askreddit.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Neighbor's kid cries all the time and I suspect it's because the mom is being awful to it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_48hirz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] bf [22m] wants to stay friends because he says we argue alot.", "post": "He was my first relationship.  We have only been official since November since before we were just friends. Although were were 'just friends'  we still had basically a relationship without the title. \n\nThe reason for our last argument was the fact that I freaked out that he was  out with his roommate getting Boba. It was my fault that I freaked out,  I get annoyed that he always hangs out with her.  I know i shouldn't get angry with him having female friends.  It's just that I had trouble trusting him because recently I found messages of him talking inappropriately to a girl.  He apologized for that.\n\nI know it definitely doesn't seem  like it but I know he's not doing anything with his roommate. I basically overreacted,  and called him multiple times when he was with her.  He then said he was done and that we should stay friends. \n\nI feel really depressed. I keep messaging him apologizing saying I will trust him. But he says it's a bad idea.  I don't want to leave him. I need someone to talk to, I feel sick. BTW this was a ldr.", "summary": "Does anyone have advice for me. I feel sick and I want to feel better after ex won't take me back. I want to get over this."}
{"id": "t3_3hk6yi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] asked her [21F] to be exclusive, it didn't go as I hoped and now don't know if I'm doing the right thing", "post": "After dating this girl for 3 weeks I asked her to be exclusive. While 3 weeks doesn't sound like much, over this time we had talked almost everyday, spent a fair bit of time together (6 dates, would have been more but I got pretty sick), both told each other on several different occasions that we like one another and like spending time with each other. While we have only had sex once, whenever we are together we are always doing some sort of intimate act (holding hands, cuddling, kissing etc.).\n\nWhen I asked her to be exclusive she said that she is not ready to to jump into another relationship (she has previously told me her ex was an asshole) and that she would like things to continue as they were. I'm fine with this and to keep things going as they were, I set up a date. This date was eventually postponed because of her getting injured. I'm the one who asked if she wanted to postpone it till she felt a bit better (trying to be nice).\n\nNeither of us has made an attempt to initiate contact since then with my reason being that I'm trying to take a step back so I do not come across as clingy and needy because that will just push her away. I do not know her reason.\n\n I am also trying to see other girls again while still trying to see her because I am still single (regardless of how I feel or what I want) and I don't think shutting down and waiting around forever will do me any good emotionally. Even though I'm trying to step back, it is making me anxious and I can't stop thinking about the recent lack of contact.\n\nThanks for reading that essay, I just thought you should know all the info before I got your advice haha. Now for my questions.\n1. Do you think I read the signals wrong before asking her to be exclusive?\n2. I'm worried we are drifting apart. Am I overthinking things because the date was cancelled and we have been communicating less?\n3. As hard as it has been, should I keep doing what I have been doing in regards to stepping back and seeing other girls?", "summary": "she isn't ready for a relationship, I'm pretty sure she still wants to see me but anxiety about it is getting the better of me. Am i overthinking things and should I keep doing what I have been?"}
{"id": "t3_k7l1o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How detrimental is it to my resume to change jobs frequently?", "post": "I have been at a new job for about 2 months now but I can tell it's just not the kind of place I want to make a career at. I have been given interview prospects at another company and would like to move there pending hire. They have a better work environment and are in a less ethically questionable profession (insurance vs payday loans). The only issue I have is I don't want my resume turning sour because it looks like I don't have loyalty. My only previous non internship job history is 1 year at a company when I first moved to Texas.", "summary": "Is it detrimental to one's resume to switch jobs often?"}
{"id": "t3_2awhb7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [27 F] and I [28 M] are breaking up as I am moving country - is it okay to see other girls before I go?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 2 years. She is doing a teaching course and needs to work in a school next year or redo her entire course. I want to travel as I have finished a 2 year course and have an opportunity in Australia this year (we live in the UK). We have both known about it for many months but we have simply pretended it is not happening to make it easier.\n\nNow I am three months from leaving and I know we are going to split up. We live in different cities so we only see each other every two weeks, sometimes three. I don't want us to split up now but essentially our relationship is over. As I am soon to become single again I'm noticing girls around me much more, one of whom I am informed is pretty into me.\n\nShould I just leave all of that alone; essentially cheat on my girlfriend and not say anything or just break up with her now and then I can do what I want? \n\nI feel the last option might upset her more but I don't want to cheat on her but the relationship is all but dead so it won't change anything :( any thoughts?\n\nI am aware I am asking if cheating is okay but I think these are pretty unusual circumstances.", "summary": "My Gf and I are splitting up as I am moving country soon but still together now. I am getting interest from another girl: should I ignore her, cheat on my gf or just break up with her and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_wvyjd", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Is there any harm to getting only 6 hours of sleep per night? Can anyone provide encouragement or tips to switch to 6 from 8 hours?", "post": "I've decided to try limiting myself to 6 hours of sleep per night. I have a decently long commute and if I try to get 8 hours each night, I limit myself to around 2 hours of leisure time per night, without exercise.\n\nWe always hear about famous and successful people who get by on 4 hours (Petraeues), 5 hours (Clinton), or whatever, so I figure there's no biological reason I can't get by on 6.\n\nBut when I only get six hours on my current regime, I'm exhausted all day. I'm worried that my work will suffer and I'll be a zombie.\n\nWill the exhaustion last? Will I eventually get used to it?", "summary": "Can anyone help me get over my \"Mental Block\" that tells me I NEED 8 hours of sleep? I need to convince myself I'll be able to function properly on 6 hours or less, day in and day out."}
{"id": "t3_1o0z6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24f) start to get over him (24m)? He's not the same person and I'm forgetting this.", "post": "I was in a LDR for 2 years with this person. He was sweet at first but started being depressed. He became emotionally abusive, manipulative, selfish, put me down, lied habitually, and almost cheated on me on a few occasions.\n\nHe started taking an antidepressant to help that ended up making him more depressed. In result of this, he ended things with me because he was self-absorbed and just lost all feelings for me. He didn't want a relationship and started talking to other girls, even ones not around him. He stopped talking to me. He became uncaring, inconsiderate, mean and distant.\n\nHow do I keep in mind that he isn't the person I once cared for? He completely changed yet I find myself wanting his attention. I'm jealous of these girls. Not remembering that he isn't the same person. He might treat them great now but I know he's mentally unstable. I just keep reverting back to the one I cared for.\n\nWhere do I start?", "summary": "He changed. I keep forgetting he isn't the same person. How to start getting past this."}
{"id": "t3_3pessj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (F24) start dating wealthy (M50)?", "post": "I (F24) recently met an older man (M50) in a pub. I was quite drunk and he started to chat me up, buy me and my friends drinks, offered to buy champagne etc. Turns out he's quite wealthy and he offered to take me \"anywhere I wanted to go, 5 star!\". \n\nI'm not normally a 'gold digger' and I'm not materialistic in the slightest, but I have just got out of a terrible seven year long relationship and feel free and know that right now I am looking for a 'companion' with no emotional 'ties'. I have also never been treated financially by a man before so the thought of it is very exciting. \n\nI am not naive, I know what he is after and I feel like this 'arrangement' could be beneficial to us both.  He wants to take me out for dinner this week, and to Amsterdam (my choice) next month. Should I go? Has anyone else done anything similar?", "summary": "I (F24) met an older wealthy man (M50) who wants to take me abroad. Should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_isu6x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We've overcome many obstacles to reach our dream, but how do we raise $60,000.00 to buy our boat?", "post": "Our family is new. My wife has one child from a former marriage, I have one child from a former marriage. We have a third child together, she's two.\nMy wife is an engineer and is getting her PhD. I'm just a geek.\nWhen we wed, we decided that we would work to make our now mutual dream of buying a boat and living aboard her a reality.\nTo achieve our dream we made significant sacrifices. We paid off masses of debt. We live in a tiny apartment and have one small car. We have just under $15,000.00 in the bank and are saving about $2000.00/month.\nWe found our boat.\nIt is very inexpensive, only $75,000.00, she needs some work, but the structure is sound, she fits all of our safety requirements and... she's in Guatemala.\nNo bank in the US will loan us the money we need to buy her because she's not in US waters. We can't get her in US waters until we purchase her, so we're in a catch-22.\nI've talked to several loan providers, and they won't do a 'Letter of Credit' for a steel boat that is fifteen years old, no matter her shape.\nWe can't apply to too many loans because our credit rating gets dinged with each credit inquiry.\nSo, Reddit, considering NSF loans are slim to nil (one route we were going to take, and one of the reasons my wife is getting her doctorate), unsecured personal loans are practically impossible to get for $60,000.00 (I've not given up trying, but hope is fading fast), what suggestions do you have for a family to borrow 60K in less than 8 weeks?", "summary": "Need to figure out how to get a loan for our dream."}
{"id": "t3_1smasy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 18 [m] saw my ex 18 [f] on a dating site.", "post": "This is all so new and weird to me. I dated this girl back when I was in highschool for about two months, and it was the most meaningless relationship I've ever been in. We dated about four years ago after becoming pretty good friends then I got busy with school activities and stopped talking for I think like two weeks.\n\n Of course we broke up after that, but it ended with me calling her and asking her something like \"do you still like me?\" which she responded with \"no\" and then things ended. We haven't talked since and were still friends on Facebook whatever. After I dated her I dated someone else almost a year later for two years then her and I broke up a year ago, and I admittedly still love her even though she's a terrible person who cheated on me lied to me etc. I haven't spoken to her since our break up and would rather not. I've been told a great way to get over her would be to start off with someone new, and I'm trying with this site okcupid. \n\nSo I went on it I've answered about 300 questions, and I notice something I have a 99% match with someone that looks like my ex. Worried that she might see I visited her profile I log out and view it from just looking at the link without being logged in. I'll be damned it's my ex (the first one that we only dated for about a couple months.)  I keep answering more and more questions and it sits at 95%-99% I'm freaking out a bit. Every other person is at 80% or below its weird that it would match me up with her out of the hundreds of other people on that site within a 500 mile radius. Should I say something to her do you guys think she's seen me? This is just too weird. Our relationship was technically terrible but retrospectively we gave it no chance. Before dating we had become really good friends. I'm just so confused I don't usually believe in this match up percentage shit but of all the people she's by far the highest match within 500 miles. I'd appreciate advice.", "summary": "I saw my ex on a dating site and we have a very high match rate out of the hundreds of people in a 500 mile radius. Should I act on it?"}
{"id": "t3_3fmwih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f39] cannot seem to stop thinking about my ex [m39].", "post": "We dated for about 6 years and he was like family.  We had a minor argument, and he stopped talking to me, other than a text that said he didn't think we made a good couple.  I didn't get any kind of closure.  I didn't get to say goodbye.  The relationship was not a good one... It left me unsatisfied in every way.  He was moody and grumpy and had a horrible self esteem.  \n\nI can't get over why he didn't end things on more friendly, respectful terms.\n\nI had been in a new, perfect relationship for a few months now.  New bf is gorgeous, sweet, patient.... Really the perfect match for me. I would never go back to the ex, for sure!  Just wish I could erase all memory of him.", "summary": "cannot stop thinking about my ex.  Wish I could do a memory wipe!"}
{"id": "t3_35t96m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my gf [23F] 8 months together, I am most likely leaving for graduate school. My gf thinks this will break us, what do i do?", "post": "So this is my story:\nI have been seeing my current gf for around 1.5 years now. When we met i had already planned to go to Australia, however we kept in touch and when i came back  when got a relationship.\n\nWe had this relationship for 6 months, when she decided to go to Australia (for 5 months).  It has been going well for quite some time now, but we've started discussing what we plan on doing after she comes back.\n\nShe has one more year in her current college and i will be finished this year. I am planning on working for a year or moving to a different city for graduate school. I told her about this and she reacted very strangely. Distance has never been a real issue, but now she is saying that she feel unsure and that the distance would be difficult because she will be busy (the distance will be approx. 2h by train).\n\nShe said that she would support me if i would go, but that she felt that we would grow apart if we would do this. Now I'm really stressing about this.\nFurthermore she just added that she will most likely go to a different city for her graduate school. Which means that one way or another this distance will happen.\n\nI am stressing. Should i just break up to avoid all this stress?", "summary": "Gf thinks ldr would not work, suggest i go away but she thinks we will break up. I feel different. what now?"}
{"id": "t3_3tluzm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] partner [25 M] of 3 years is not romantic or affectionate and it bothers me.", "post": "Here's a little background: we've been dating for a total of about 3 years now, our first date was back in 2012 after meeting online. (It was wonderful, and I knew he was the one for me!) We dated for 2 years, and then broke up to see other people for another 2 years before getting back together 8 months ago. \n\nThere are trust issues after everything we've gone through, but we are stable and have a lot of fun together. We moved across the country together, have an apartment, etc. My issue is that he never really (or ever, except a few times) has gone out of his way to make me feel special, or done a romantic gesture (small or large.) \n\nIt's been A) Difficult not to compare to my ex who was extremely touchy-feely/romantic and B) Difficult thinking of ways to encourage him that I love even the little things (lately I've left some notes around the house with cute messages for him.)\n\nDoes anyone else have a SO that just isn't the type of person to express love/passion very often? Did it work out? Should this not be a big deal? \n\nI realize that this could be a type of personality and there is nothing wrong with that! I just want us both to be happy and feel fulfilled in this relationship that we both love being in. I hope I explained this well enough, I'll be happy to answer any questions if it is confusing.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 3 years isn't usually romantic and it can leave me feeling a bit empty. Want to know if it's a personality thing and if other's deal with this too."}
{"id": "t3_cae5r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this fraud?", "post": "So I get a cashiers check in the mail, in a blue and white express mail cardboard envelope thingy for three thousand and something dollars. Nothing else with it, just the check. Now of course I think it is fraud, but I am wondering where the fraud comes in.\n\nWhen I google the bank, Security National Bank, I found a legit bank matching the name and logo. When I google the two names on the check, Peter Gandlova, and Michelle Allaus or Alfaus(it's a signature so it's hard to read) I get nothing. Nor when I google the name on the envelope Bobby Fernandez. Plus there is nothing else with it asking me to buy anything or pay to get my money. So where is the scam.", "summary": "Got cashiers check in mail, think it's fraud, but they don't ask me to buy anything or pay to get my money, where is the fraud?"}
{"id": "t3_kmzxo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best story an elderly person has told you?", "post": "I'll start: This is one of my favorite stories from the millions my grandfather has told me. He recently told me that when he was six years old living in Pensacola, Florida, USA, he would skip school and walk down to the Navy piers and talk to the sailors. They would let him hang out on the decks of old destroyers and in the cockpits of planes. His mother had died when he was four and his older sister was already in high school. His father worked their land to support his two living children (two had already died of malaria). This was in the late 1920's early 1930's. His sister, who was 16, would drop him off at school and he would just leave and walk 5 miles away to the pier. His teacher found out what he was doing and he got into trouble with his father. Nothing bad happened to him, no molestation, no pedophiles, no drowning. He was SIX! I have a 6 year old and a 9 year old and if they stray too far from the sidewalk I freak out. It was a different time. He grew up to become a Navy pilot in WWII and was in the Pacific. He is an amazing man!", "summary": "my g-father was six and would skip school and go to Navy piers 5 miles from his house, didn't die or get pedobear raped."}
{"id": "t3_164ayl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [27f] of 9 months wants me [27m] to become strict vegan if I want to spend my life with her.", "post": "Right now I'm on a paleo-ketogenic diet that has done wonders for me. My health is significantly better and I lost 80 pounds since last march. The thing is, my girlfriend is a hardcore vegan. Not for moral reasons though. She does it for health reasons. She read \"The China Study\" by Campbell and watched documentaries on the vegan diet and she's convinced it's the only healthy way to eat. She also wants her kids (in this case ours if I ever go vegan) to grow up as vegan, never touching meat, dairy or eggs.\n\nI personally am not convinced that being vegan is the only way to go. My current lifestyle is proof enough for me. But even then it's not my biggest issue with that diet. My problem is that I'm always sick when I eat vegan. Sick as in my stomach hurts all day and I have explosive diarrhea. And if I make the mistake of eating grains or beans, it's even worse. Every joint in my body will hurt and I'll feel like I've been hit with a hammer on my head. I also will feel sluggish all day and won't be able to concentrate on anything.\n\nI'm the kind of guy who's very rational and wouldn't make a choice about his diet without dissecting the science behind it and right now it doesn't look too good for the vegan diet. Sure it's healthier than the american standard diet, but it has it's problems too.\n\nI don't know what I should do about this. I don't like being forced into a lifestyle that I did not choose out of my own free will and that I don't believe in, let alone one that will make me sick. On the other hand though, I love my girlfriend like I never loved anyone before and I would go through hell and back again for her. I don't know why we can't both have our diets. Her sister is a vegetarian (only because she eats cheese) and her boyfriend is lactose intolerant. Yet, they have no problems.\n\nHas anyone else ever went through a similar situation? I could really use some advice on that matter...", "summary": "GF is forcing me to become vegan if I want to have a future with her."}
{"id": "t3_3a8hi5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally texting my elderly mother r34 [NSFW, maybe?]", "post": "Hope this doesn't constitute some-sort of sexual content.\n\nBegun as a simple enough situation, one probably many have done time and time again since the advent of smartphone technology. I was merely cruising various forums/chans on my phone as I am wont to do while waiting for a something to upload for work, when I happen upon a quite saucy, and exceptionally gay picture relating to a popular show involving colorful, pastel equines. \n\nI absently thought that I knew the perfect person to share this particular piece of artsy smut with when, out of the blue my phone beeps indicating a new text and a prompt indicating it was my mother asking a simple question (one of the few who actually text me, aside from said intended recipient of newfound smut). I respond in kind and give it no second thought. I return to the browser with full intention to send this Equis debauchery onto one who would appreciate. Well, in the fog of having woken up early and the dullish nature of my work, I copy the url, go to text messages, type \"nsfw\", paste and click send without a second thought. Low, in my autonomous actions, foiled by muscle memory and complacent in having delivered such colorful bytes of data before without even a hiccup... I receive another text from my mother, \"Ahh, I don't think u meant to send that to your mother\"\n\nIt's been 6 hours now and no response back after my order to please ignore that. Only can sit here and stew, wondering if she clicked the link and her thoughts after being subject to cartoon horse dong.", "summary": "Inadvertantly texted my mother gay mlp porn."}
{"id": "t3_3f10gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] with my BF[22M]. Live together and have been together over 1.5 years. He wants to be \"settled\" before engagement and I disagree. Help.", "post": "We have been living together for about a year and have been together for about a year and 7 months.  We knew after about three weeks that this was probably going to be forever, hence the quick moving. \n\nBack in February I asked him when he ideally saw us getting engaged and he said 2-3 years.  However, when people ask him if we are getting married anytime soon he says \"we practically already are\". So what is the harm right?\n\nMy brother and his GF have been together well over 5 or 6 years with a child and are still not married and I DO NOT want that at all and I have said that since the day we first discussed moving in together.\n\nHe is wanting to be settled in a career and his mom doesn't want him to be broke, but isn't coming from nothing into being settled part of marriage?  He is looking into either an MS or PhD program which will have him in school for another 3-5 years but he cannot even start until NEXT August. I DO NOT want to wait 3-5 years to even get engaged.\n\nJust curious on insight from others and how they think I should approach this. Please don't give me the \"moving in was a mistake\" talk because I already got it from my mom bc she thinks it could turn out like it has with my brother.", "summary": "I want to get engaged within the next year and my boyfriend wants to wait about 2-3 more."}
{"id": "t3_qyfjc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I believe I have been approached by a cult - The World Mission Society of God - does Reddit have any information confirming this?", "post": "A guy came up to me at my campus today talking about Jesus and blah blah blah. I told the guy I was an atheist, but that I was willing to hear him out because he said he knew the \"real\" truth and that all other Christian churches are false. I wasn't being antagonistic, but I had some time and I was bored so I did a bible study with him for about an hour. \n\nHe invited me to his church and after googling it, there was a bunch of criticism about the religion deeming it a cult by most conventional standards. Does reddit know of this? Supposedly it's a pseudo-exclusivist church. Is it a cult?", "summary": "Approached by a member of the World Mission Society of God. Is it a cult?"}
{"id": "t3_vpwea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long is too long to hate your ex after a break up? [21/f, um, broke up with 20/m like a year and a half ago?]", "post": "I broke up with my ex over a year and a half ago. It was not really a good relationship--I felt smothered physically and emotionally, and I just don't think we were compatible. (I could go into all the ways I think he's a douchebag here, but I won't. Or I'll save it for later.) Despite the fact that he painted me as the bad guy, I have great, fulfilling relationships with other people, great sex, and I'm way happier than I've ever been. However, there are moments where I'm just sitting and thinking and I'll suddenly think to myself, \"God, I'd like to kick that motherfucker in the testicles over and over with a pair of steel-toed boots.\" \n\nBesides the fact that I think he's a jerk, I guess the reason I still hate his guts is because 1) I feel like my public image is still something along the lines of \"home wrecker Jezebel\" despite the fact that this relationship was not serious, and 2) I really don't feel like I ever got a chance to \"close that chapter\" because I was in a position where I couldn't defend myself and we never really talked about it, and 3) he never listened and didn't really let me talk about my feelings without making it about him.\n\n I recognize that there were points where I should have been more assertive with what I wanted, but I've processed this and I really don't feel like blaming myself any more. I've talked with my therapist and my friends about it, but **I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible to have any catharsis for a break up like this so long after the fact, especially if the other person is a total uncooperative asshole?", "summary": "I'm still pissed off at my ex long after I dumped him, how do I get over it if I've already done all the stereotypical \"moving on\" stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_1bpa49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23M] really want to tell my girlfriend[26M] that I love her. But is it too soon?", "post": "After the longest time waiting for her(2 years of being friends, hanging out... even met her ex), we're finally in a place with our lives that being together in a relationship makes so much sense.\n\n**There was 2 months of dating, followed by the past 3 months of actually being together.**\n\nWe've told each other how much we mean to each other, but sans 'Love'.\n\nI treat saying 'I love you' as a really big thing.\nI want to say it to her. I was holding her the other night and it just felt so good. Just a great big rush of nice and warmth.\n\nI've met her parents and family, nieces and nephew. They really liked me(the kids for my paper airplane skills, and the aunts/uncles/parents for my home made biscuits)\n\nI don't even have to mention what kind of person she is.\n\nIf I'm missing crucial info(if there is any) that might be needed, lemme know!", "summary": "When should I tell my girlfriend that I love her?"}
{"id": "t3_48hblp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on how to express my love to my best friend [19 F]", "post": "There's this girl, whom I've known for the last 6 years. We were quite close friends in school, for the last two years we didn't communicate much because we went into different paths and couldn't really catch up with each other, but for the last couple of weeks we have been regularly contacting each other; tons of messaging, hours of Skype and phone calls. (I'm currently 1000 km away from her) The problem is that I liked her a lot but couldn't really gather the courage to say so long ago; because well, I was an immature kid back then and didn't want to lose such a close friend with whom I could talk about anything. And last night while chatting she told me that she's in a long distance relationship with some guy for the past two years. It was quite shocking because all this recent conversations kind of gave me a feeling that she also had feelings for me and was kinda waiting for me to propose to her. Now I want to ask for your advice : \n\n1.Should I tell her how I feel about her.\n\nor \n\n2.Should I just suppress my feelings for her and spend the rest of time being \"just friends\" with her.. \n\nplease help me out.", "summary": "I love this girl we talk regularly she has a bf. Should i tell her i love her ??"}
{"id": "t3_2s79dj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm in love with the guy I've been seeing and I don't think he feels the same.", "post": "19(almost 20) year old girl. I've been seeing this guy(21) for almost two months. He's funny, sarcastic, arty, and just pretty much everything I look for in a guy. The day after Christmas I realized I was in love with him. He's still bitter over his ex that cheated on him. Plus I found out he's been on Tinder still. I want to give him more time and not rush this. Its just really difficult when I'm ready to make it official and I'm having to stay alert to make sure \"I love you\" doesn't slip out. I always go to his place to hangout, but the other day he came to my house. So maybe he's more into me than I think? I just don't know. I dont want to rush it and scare him off, but I also want to share how I feel.", "summary": "I'm in love with the guy I've been seeing but he's bitter over his ex. I wasn't too tell him how I feel but I'm scared."}
{"id": "t3_16gzit", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm not a lazy idiot anymore, and I love it", "post": "I used to be super lazy, out of shape, overly sarcastic, socially awkward, you name it. But around a month ago, I realized what was stopping me from becoming a better person was myself; I was just judging myself for wanting to become one of those \"stupid\" positive motivational kids. But I decided to exercise daily, limit myself to an hour of gaming each day (I was SUPER addicted to Minecraft) and do some arts and music.\n\nBoy it feels wonderful. I now love piano and no longer have to piss off my piano instructor. I found foraging, which I love. I've got plenty of plans for this year already. I'm sleeping better and at more healthy times. I'm even seeing positive things in school, which I used to hate a lot.\nToday I went on a game emulator. Oh, what fun! But when I got off I was fucking scared. My body ached again, it was later than I thought, and I was feeling like the old idiot me. No. I changed and \nI'm not going back.\n\nI don't know why I wrote this. Maybe I'm hoping someone else really young will read this and change themselves. Sorry for the wall of text. I'm also sorry that I probably came off as thinking I'm perfect. I don't. No one is, and that's okay. But why not be as good as you can?", "summary": "Analyzed myself, and I'm slowly changing for the better. I'm sure if you do the same to yourself, you'd find something as well to change. Have a nice day!"}
{"id": "t3_3s2rwr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Trying to work things out with my former SO and its rocky right now. Need advice on whether or not I'm being a fool.", "post": "I know giving relationship advice is difficult. You only hear one side and the full circumstances and trials can't be told all at once. I just feel so lost and don't know what to do. I know Reddit hivemind is notorious for \"just break up.\" But I want to hear if there is a different perspective to look at this through, or I guess the affirmation that my fears are justified. Sorry for wall of text. \n\nMy former SO and I decided to no longer be \"official\" but we are still hanging out and hooking up. We mutually agreed we still have feelings for each other and that we are exclusive. The thing is, I need to grow up. I need to learn how to worry about myself and not place the relationship on such a pedestal. During the relationship I was extremely possessive and dealt with a lot of anxiety due to jealousy and not feeling loved enough. \n\nSo the exclusive fwb began in September. I got off birth control and I literally feel like a different person. I've stopped over analyzing and have been able to mediate my worries and thoughts. Overall it has been a pleasant mood change.. \n\nThe whole issue is.. He is constantly reminding me that we \"aren't together\" all while he is not seeking to be with anyone else. He says he still loves me, and that's why he's still here. It's tormenting me a little bit that I feel that all of this is so conditional. A part of me thinks that as long as I keep toughing this out, things can really be like how they were before. Then there's the fear that he's keeping a foot out of door just to be ready to leave once he falls out of love or someone else comes along. \n\nI know love and partnership promises no permeance. Anyone can leave at any time with no signs. I guess I just feel so blue right now. Last night when we were discussing this, he said he will act different once he feels it is \"worth it.\" I asked him how he felt about this relationship right now and he named off: \"companionship, attraction, and love but it's hard.\"", "summary": "Am I being a fool for my ex who is down to keep having sex but does not want the \"title\"?"}
{"id": "t3_3ovrh1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my trash on an old lady", "post": "Today I was going to meet my friends after some time but I recently had the flu so tissues, coughing and stuff like that were still around. On the road, I used a tissue and went across to throw it in the bin. Meanwhile, an old lady was walking slowly behind the bin. I threw it and instead of hiting the target (the bin honestly), it hit lady's back. Even before I realized the fuck-up she started yelling at me, doing jestures and cussing. I tried to apologise but she didn't seem to care much, as she kept moving on a faster pace.", "summary": "used tissue, tried to throw in a bin, throw it on an old lady, she gets mad and storms out"}
{"id": "t3_3upqzl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend [33F] keeps implying I [22F] don't care enough about her", "post": "My best friend and I have very different kinds of personalities. She's direct and extroverted, she doesn't mind conflict, she cares a lot about everyone around her and makes a point to show it.\n\nOn the other hand I am a chronic conflict avoider, introverted, sort of aloof and not really connected to my feelings. I'm also not very verbal.\n\nWe've been friends for 3 years and I appreciate her a lot. She's a good friend. But she gets mad at me for things that are directly connected to my personality.\n\nFor example if I disappear for a couple of hours from the internet, she gets worried and calls me. If she disappears for a day or so I don't even notice. And she gets mad at me for not noticing a 24 hour absence.\n\nIt actually annoys the hell out of me because I like my space.\n\nShe always tell people to take care of me etc. Yesterday she got mad because \"I don't look out for her\" (i. e. I never told anyone specifically \"take care of her\").\n\nI don't like her asking people to take care of me. I can take care of myself. It annoys me also when she had jokingly threatens people to harm them if something happens to me.\n\nShe has a lot of these kind of behaviours which I find de-empowering. I mean if I told her to take care of my 21/M housemate while I'm gone it'd be really weird. It makes me feel like I can't be trusted on my own.\n\nRegardless I tolerate her being like that because that's how she is, and she's my friend. But she can't seem to tolerate well that I'm not big on that kind of stuff and gets mad at me for not being like that.\n\nHow can I make her understand that it's not because I don't love her, it's that I'm a different person and show affection in a different way?", "summary": "My friend thinks I don't love her because I don't show affection like she does. What can I do to make her understand it's just who I am?"}
{"id": "t3_3ierpq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being oblivious to the time.", "post": "Dear reddit,  \nThis literary happen just now and am on my way to work atm.\nToday I fucked up. I was having breakfast like usual every morning and I saw I had a little time so I decided to take a nap before leaving for work. Time is 7:45, so it ought to myself why not a 15 minute nap before I left to work. Work starts at 9:00. I woke up a few times but being myself, completely oblivious to everything forgot to wake up and leave for work. By 8:55 I was woken up by the calls of my grandmother. I competent freaked out.", "summary": "Never going to take morning naps ever again."}
{"id": "t3_cqvyc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How did you voluntold/volunteered someone for weekend on-call?", "post": "There are 3 of us on a team, Bob, Tom, and me (Bob and Tom are not their real names). Tom has been recently hired. \n\nIt has been just Bob and I rotating on the on-call pager for several months, him 1 week and I, the other week. Our on-call week starts from Wednesday afternoon and ends next Wednesday morning. \n\nWell Bob sends me an instant message with \"this pager is burning a hole in my pocket, you need to take it\". I responded back with \"well I don't want it, these pants are new\". The conversation goes on for about a minute, when Bob says \"Well give it to the new guy\".  Usually a new hire must be part of the team for at least 2 months before a on-call is handed off to him/her. Instead, I call for Tom and tell him: \"Hey, this is yours\" as I handed the pager off to him. \n\nTo make this really seal the deal, I went to talk to my manager with Tom and my manager says \"he should be able to handle it. Remember it is your responsibility for anything that goes down.\"", "summary": "I didn't want pager, I gave it to the new guy, boss is cool with it."}
{"id": "t3_qhyxw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit We just got a new Flatmate who is possibly only here for a week but causing problems, what to do?", "post": "Long time lurker first time poster. Here is the low-down, me and my other two flatmates have been living happily for the last 4 months. two days ago a welfare program in the town has given this homeless guy a weeks accommodation, in the hopes he can secure a job. He's nice enough but has filled the entire flat with filth, doing drugs all day and consistently asking us for money. If he gets a job he will be with us until the end of the skiing season. We have asked him multiple times already to clean up and get a job, but what else could we do to make our lives easier?", "summary": "homess drug addict moves into flat, could possibly stay a long time, need to know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_39xeou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [21 F] of 5 months, and she moved home for the summer.", "post": "I've been dating this girl at my college for about 5 months now and it's been going great. We love spending time with each other, and during the school year, we would see each other every day and she'd stay over on the weekends. \n\nIt's the end of the school year and she moved back to her home town for the summer to work. I'm staying at the college and working there. Fortunately she only lives a 2.5 hour drive away, but this will certainly be a change for us. \n\nI know it probably doesn't count at a long distance relationship, but has anyone else been in similar situation and have any advice?", "summary": "GF moved away for Summer and it now take 2.5 hours to see her. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_33vyoz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke mid-sex about a scene of the film Gone Girl.", "post": "As it is a tradition here, this didn't happen today, it happened last weekend. \nLast sunday, SO and i watched the film Gone Girl, about a crazy-ass woman who at a certain point in the movie ***Spoiler alert*** kills a dude (NPH) mid-sex with a box cutter she was hiding under her pillow and it freaked me the fuck out. \nFast-fwd a few hours after the movie. She initiates sex as soon as she climbs into bed, after a few minutes i stop completely and start checking under her pillow and she's asking me \"what are you doing?\" to which i simply reply \"i'm just making sure there's nothing under your pillow\". [This] was pretty much her immediate reaction.\n\nShe kicked me out of my bed and now i have blueballs.", "summary": "i made a bad joke during sex, now i'm left with blueballs"}
{"id": "t3_4gv8zr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting my Lemonheads & some marbles in my desk's drawer.", "post": "20 minutes ago, I fucked up. Like.. really bad.\nSo I was browsing a few webpages and I'd just bought some lemonheads (The originals) and i felt the need to spread them in my desk's drawer, which also contained some marbles (Why? Because why the fuck not?). Well, me being too concentrated on my computer's screen and not even looking, I picked up something, *what I thought was a lemonhead*, in my hand and went in straight for a bite. Well I guess you could tell what happened. I picked up a marble and bit straight through it. Having braces didn't help the situation... **at all** .", "summary": "Picked up what I thought was a lemonhead and well, fucked up my teeth by biting a marble."}
{"id": "t3_4bb8i6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I take advantage of employer's homeownership program?", "post": "My employer has a home ownership program to incentivize staff to purchase single-family homes as long as they are within a nearby geographical boundary. The incentive is this: $50k or 20% of purchase price (whichever is less). The subsidy will be paid monthly, split over 7 years, so long as staff remains employed and the home is their primary residence. \n\nI've kinda ignored this benefit for some time, as the geographical area is not very appealing. But to give you an idea, even though it's not a very appealing area, homes go for $350k to $450k+. Homes in nicer neighborhoods are double that easily. \n\nAs things stand right now, even though I make decent money for most other places, it's really not a drop in bucket toward homeownership in the better areas around here. Rent being as high as it is, it's difficult to save the kinda of money needed for a 20% downpayment on homes in better neighborhoods. At this rate, I will never be able to afford property in the better parts of town. But with this program, I might be able to at least get a property partially funded by work. Though, I should add, the money will be considered taxable income. \n\nI'm really just starting my research, so wanted to hear thoughts from folks here. In Personal Finance we're always encouraging maxing out 401k matches because it's free money from our employers. Technically this program is free money as well. Any folks here have experience with programs like this? I was recently promoted and I see a long-term path here\u2014very secure work environment. I worry about being stuck in a neighborhood I will hate, but maybe it wouldn't be so bad. Maybe in 5-7 years, the home will be worth enough to make a little profit, and open the door to something better. I know it's a risk, but is it better than doing nothing at all, and continue down the path of never-ownership?", "summary": "Employer provides monthly subsidy toward homeownership in not very appealing neighborhood, but very high-cost of living area. Should I buy to get on the property ladder or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2ffc2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/m] going on my first date in 4 years with her [20/f].", "post": "So I started talking to this girl on Tinder who really seems into me and after a couple days I got her number and I called her tonight to setup a date for Saturday. We had a good conversation on the phone, talked for 15 mins. Well, we are going for dinner and a movie at a mall... and I haven't been in this dating game in 4 years and I have NO IDEA when its appropriate to do things like hand hold or kissing. Is it ok to do that stuff on the first date? And if so, should I do it in the theater or what?", "summary": "Is it appropriate to do things like kissing or hand holding on the first date?"}
{"id": "t3_331sc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] girlfriend [22F] of 10 months believes I'm hiding the fact that girls flirt with me.", "post": "Sorry in advance for my ranting.\n\nI work with and manage a lot of female associates at my workplace. One of my associates that I just hired baked some brownies for the office as a thank-you for the job opportunity, and my girlfriend believes that this girl is flirting with me. And here's a text message my girlfriend sent me during an argument:\n\n\"I don't appreciate that she flirts with you and you fucking accept it as if she fucking doesn't.\"\n\nThis is where I tell my girlfriend that no one is flirting with me, and even if anyone was, I wouldn't let that get between me and her. Then she says:\n\n\"You try to blind yourself that girls don't flirt with you and that's like accepting it. I try to trust you but when girls try to bake you shit, it's irritating. I don't trust bitches but look at it from my view that if guys did that shit to me, you'd be just as mad.\"\n\nWhat? Obviously, I feel like I'm being attacked unfairly. I'm nothing but professional at my workplace, and I wish I had a camera crew with me 24/7 so my girlfriend could see how my interactions are with this girl or any other girl.\n\nI can easily sense that my girlfriend has insecurity issues, stemming from her previous relationships, but I don't want to address it in fear that she'll just lash out at me again.\n\nShe thinks I'm up to no good because I keep my email inbox and my text message threads pretty clear of clutter and unneeded stuff. She would accuse me of hiding conversations I'm having with other girls. Hell, I don't even keep text messages from my family if there's nothing relevant to look back to. In retrospect, maybe I shouldn't delete text messages so she can see what's up, but there's honestly nothing to hide.", "summary": "Girlfriend gets mad at me because she thinks other girls flirt with me."}
{"id": "t3_45y8ps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] 2 weeks, she opened up about past sexual expieriences, I cannot seem to handle it.", "post": "Ok, so, everything is going good, we really seem to bond and we like each other very much. I know her for a long time and it's been two weeks going out and doing stuff, we are sexually active and both enjoy it. Lately we talked about past stuff and she told me that with another guy they were into swinging and 2guys-1girl stuff, she told me that the other guy proposed it and she accepted, but from what I understood it happened on multiple occasions. I told her that I'm ok with her having done stuff but that is where I draw the line and that I will never be able to do that, she told me that although it was an ok expierience, she doesnt want to do anything like that again, that it was not her idea and that Im everything she's ever wanted, she wants me e.t.c. I was shocked and told her so and also told her that although I also have done such weird stuff, I could never do it with her because, well I can't. I am really in love right now, I think she could be the one for me, but when we are not together images come to my head and haunt me. I really need your help", "summary": "Gf has had some extreme (for me) sexual expieriences, I cannot get over it, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_fb1dd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "need help in a crappy situation", "post": "Me (23) and my GF (29) broke up last October after a six year relationship. I fell in love with an other girl i met at my university after the relationship with my GF went for the bad. i really hurt my GF and because of my sense of guilt and because i do still like her as a friend i decided to give the relation one more shot because i also had the feeling i didn't try hard enough to fix the relation. Now we are back together she asked me face to face if i ever slept with that other girl and i told her no, but i did. I lied to her and i feel really bad about it, I think this isn't a good start of our renewed relationship but i can't tell it to her, i will only hurt her more than i already did and i'm done with that. I don't know if the relationship will ever be the same or even will get better, not sure what to do. I know i fucked up and feel like an idiot. I still have a friendship with the other girl as well, because of my choice of study i can't avoid her, there are only 30 people doing the same study in the whole country and because of fusions we will see each other everyday at least until the end of the study. i don't want to give up my study even if my GF should ask for it i had to work really hard for it and i am not throwing that away. the problem is now i'm back with my girlfriend and i'm worried that it will never be the same, I almost everyday see the girl with wich i fell in love with.Both say they love me really much. I don't want to hurt anyone anymore. Dear fellow redditors can you help me see a solution?", "summary": "broke up with girl got back toether, worried that things will never be the same again. Other girl still in picture, still like her and don't want to hurt her feelings too again.."}
{"id": "t3_joeuf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the stupidest thing you've ever been irrationally scared by? I'll go first.", "post": "I woke up in the middle of the night with an incredible headache. My right arm was tingling (probably from just waking up). I didn't notice anything about my left arm. So anyway, I can only sleep in complete darkness and just as my eyes began adjusting to the dark, I noticed a hand right next to my face. Seeing as I could only feel my right arm at the moment, I reached up and touched the hand, expecting it to be my own. When I didn't feel myself being touched, I screamed, thinking that it wasn't my hand... And then the feeling in my arm started to come back and I realized my arm was just really *really* numb.", "summary": "woke up and was scared by my own arm."}
{"id": "t3_15zhtb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm not even sure what to think of these sequence of events. 24f/24m", "post": "Before NYE, a guy I was dating told me that he wasn't interested in getting into a relationship due to some issues getting over a previous relationship, but he was still interested in hanging out. I assumed this was a polite thing he was saying to me in order to make me feel better, and I didn't contact him.\n\nFast forward to after New Year's: I receive an email stating that he has broken his phone, thus, he lost my number. He wanted me to send it to him and signed it with \"I hope you get this soon\". I'm completely confused as to why he would want my number again (especially since I had given it to him via email before so he could just look it up), let alone why he seemed so anxious about getting it.\n\nLess than 24 hours after this email, I find a note on my car saying the same thing and that he wanted me to call him. For some reason, this act seemed incredibly creepy to me and definitely too forward for someone who isn't interested in dating me.\n\nI called him in order to confront the situation, and he said he just wanted to hang out that night. So apparently getting that mid-week hangout was super important. Regardless, we set up tentative plans to meet up on Saturday.\n\nIs it just me or are these some pretty strong, mixed signals to be sending to a person you're not interested in?", "summary": "Guy who says he isn't interested in me jumps through hoops in order to get my number which he lost, to the point that he sticks a note on my car. What is going on?"}
{"id": "t3_2j1l5w", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Rock and hard place", "post": "Basically i have 1000 dollars in parking tickets while i was in the hospital and missed the court date to contest them and now they say i cant do anything about it now they are in collections. I dont have the money to pay them off.\n\nMy car died and i need a new one, but the dmv wont let me register a new car until i pay off the tickets.\n\nI have another car. Just not registered. \n\nI was wondering if my dad could put the car in his name and then i get some kind of non owners insurance to drive it.\n\nHowever, i thought when you register a car in your name at the dmv you had to also provide proof of insurance in your name as well.\n\nMy dads insurance wont allow other people to drive his cars under his plan for some reason. \n\nSo i was wondering how i could drive the car with my non owners insurance with the car registered with his insurance, or is there someway for him to register the car without hia insurance since he will not be driving it.", "summary": "Cant register car in my name due to outstanding tickets."}
{"id": "t3_4erm8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my friend [20F], am I reading too much into it.", "post": "i got to know this girl at work after a few months she started working there roughly a year ago. At first, I found out few guys at work had already asked her out and she said no. So i treated her like a friend, but i started falling for her once she started doing a lot of small things like give rides to the bus stop, bringing my work papers and returns to me. \n\nSo i asked her out, and she said no too busy. Which hurt..., a lot more than i thought it would. So i kept my distance, didn't put out any effort to go out of my way to see her and when we ran into each other I acted like \"no hard feelings\".  \n\nshe was still really nice and i still fell for her from time to time, only to tell my self she isn't interested, she said NO. I was starting to get better at not giving a shit at all,  \n\nbut lately she doesn't stop mentioning things like \"you look sooo good today\" or \"sorry I just got lost in your eyes there for a second\" or \"I need you in my life\". \n\nat first i told my self she already said no, ignore, But now when she says stuff like this and co workers are around us they make it seem like she is interested and im dumb.\n\nI should mention i lost a decent amount of weight roughly 50lbs (mostly when i first met her), and put on a bit as well.", "summary": "What should I do, I fell for a girl who loves getting attention from anyone. I can't tell if she will do or say anything to get this attention or i'm being a dumb and keep falling for stupid shit."}
{"id": "t3_1c4cgt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of your friends done anything that made you irrationally angry? How do you deal with that?", "post": "Last night at 0215 I got a phonecall from a long standing friend of mine who told me he had had a car accident which should have have never bloody happened in the first place. He called me sitting at the roadside with a bleeding head and an upside down smashed up car.\n\n Rather than sympathy, I think I felt anger; i told him to call an ambulance. I think he answered another call as I got cut off and he didn't pick up my follow on call so I can only presume someone was taking care of it, indeed I woke up this morning to text messages saying he did have a head injury but was physically ok. I will speak to him later today to find out what happened fully etc. \n\nHowever, last night, this phone call made me feel so stressed I got stomach ache and couldn't sleep for ages. But I was so angry too - mostly because of his stupidity. I don't think the anger has worn off and I want to berate him; even though its not my place and will be ineffective. I want to tell him to sort his life out and stop being so fucking stupid. \n\nAnyway, Reddit: have your friends ever done something that you feel more angry about than you need to? What happened? How did the friendship continue after that?", "summary": "my friend crashed his car and rang me and instead of sympathy I was actually pretty pissed at him. Tell me your angry at friends stories."}
{"id": "t3_2rafb1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drifting in a parking lot in the midst of a cop.", "post": "So this all went down bout an hour ago, the day was coming to an end and I decided, what the fuck, might as well end this Christmas break with a bang right? WRONG! \n\nIt was about 11:30 when i left a party to take some friends home, we got some taco bell, then headed toward their house, near their house was an old church that's nearly always empty and i figured, the fuck, Christmas break ends in a few days, might as well end it in a bang, keep in mind i'm 17, so im a dumbass with a 250hp wrx, something is bound to go wrong, well SURE A FUCKEN NUFF! I pull into the church parking lot with great hopes of looking like a total badass, i shift into first and slam on the gas, pull the E-brake,and do a full 360, then spin out and drive right past a parked cop who just sat there in his stupid little car with a little smile on his face. My entire fucken body stopped working, i stalled the fucken car cuz i didn't realize i had stopped while in gear. This tall glass of water walks up to my fucking window and just asks for my license, and im all \"I got rights damnit, fucken constitution\"................I didn't actually say anything remotely similar to that, i think i said something like \"Ummm..er..i.sorry\". He then threatenss the fuck out of me with jail sentences and shit about wreckless driving. He then writes me a 700$ ticket, so yeah thats how i ended my Christmas break, can't wait to tell the Parental Units. Other 17yr olds of reddit, drifting is fun and worth every ticket :", "summary": "Went drifting in a Church parking lot with a cop watching me the entire time."}
{"id": "t3_kc9pg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "WHY is it that we constantly say 9/11 \"We will never Forget\"?", "post": "Other than the obvious reason to remember those that lost their lives, I believe it serves a bigger purpose. \nI find it to be an excuse to justify the actions the U.S. has taken since 9/11... \n\nNot only does the date allude to the contact number for emergency services, here in the States, but it reminds us of that fateful day 10 years ago when \"*terrorists* attacked\" American soil. \n\nDespite evidence that shows 9/11 to be a carefully orchestrated effort, 9/11 - the date - serves as an annual tool to jog people's memory of an Emergency that prompted us to launch a \"Global war on Terror\" and more importantly serves as an excuse to justify the countless lives that have been lost as a direct result of the *\"war on terror\"* -- alongside countless legislation that has passed and amounts of money spent (& lost) on war efforts.", "summary": "?"}
{"id": "t3_298u38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Both of my(24f) parents (late 50s) are broke and declining fast. I do not want to help them. Looking for insight from anyone who has experienced something similar.. What will happen? (x-post relationship_advice)", "post": "Long story short, my parents screwed up big time in life and now that I am in control of myself financially and otherwise, I do not want them to drag me down (they succeeded in doing this for the first 20 years of my life). \n\nBoth of them have serious medical issues (COPD, Hep C, etc.) and DO NOT take care of themselves at all. They are separated and do not live together. My mom barely makes it paycheck to paycheck and is being hounded by debt collectors. She asks me for money on a monthly basis and I am learning to stand my ground and not help her. My dad is on disability and works randomly but as far as I know does not have any savings to speak of. \n\nWhen they get to a point where they can no longer take care of themselves, I do not want to help them. Specifically not financially. I am looking for people with any similar experience, What will happen? What can I expect? I do not want them to end up homeless, but I really need to stand my ground.", "summary": "What will happen to my broke parents when they can no longer take care of themselves and I refuse to help them? "}
{"id": "t3_wbcw4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the meanest thing you've ever done to a complete stranger?", "post": "Here's mine- a few years ago I was in living in college accommodation. My room mates and I were somehow so lacking in knives and forks to the point where there was one fork which we all shared. So one night me and female room mate were watching a movie. She fell asleep like 20 minutes in and shortly afterwards there came a knock on the door. I opened up and there before me stood a complete stranger. She explained that she lived upstairs and was having a party and was saying we could go if we liked. I was about to decline but I suddenly thought of the k.u.s.c. (kitchen utensil shortage crisis) and then agreed to go. Whilst putting on my shoes I considered the morality of what I was doing and then thought about the possibility of making new friends with people at the party. This led me to question my plan. Then I found myself in the elevator with the girl and her friends heading up to her apartment. Once I'd heard and seen how obnoxious, rude and unattractive they were, I was already fantasising about the adulation that I was sure to receive from my room mates upon returning with my stainless steel treasure. As soon as we got up there they went to the balcony for a smoke, I went to the kitchen to get \"a drink of water\", and when I say \"drink of water\" I mean 3 knives 4 forks and 2 tea spoons. I promptly left and received many a high five from my room mates.\n\nI know I write this as a funny story but lets face it, a girl tries to be a friendly neighbour by inviting me to a party and I respond by going to her apartment and robbing her? That's pretty god damn mean. I do not, however, regret it. Anyways this seems like something we never discuss; we've often talked about mean stuff we've bore witness to but I think more than a few redditors are guilty of being bastards to complete strangers for no good reason. So let's hear your stories!", "summary": "friendly neighbour whom I didn't know invited me to her party so I robbed her cutlery."}
{"id": "t3_28iq4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Curious how to handle my bulimic 15 year old sister in-law (SIL) around my 10 year old step-daughter?", "post": "My husbands side of the family just recently found out that his 15 year old sister is bulimic.  Her mother found a bag of vomit in her room and confronted her about it and she said she got sick in the middle of the night.  She believed her and then about a month and a half ago she found yet another bag of vomit in her room and that's when my SIL admitted that she has been binging and purging since November. She'll binge and eat so much food its insane and then the next day she'll only eat an apple, run 10 miles, and do obsessive amount of sit-ups.  She cries all the time and she doesn't know that everyone in the family other than her parents and older sister know about all this.  \n\nMy step-daughter, who is 10, has a very close relationship with my SIL.  They have sleep overs and hang out and talk often.  But after I found out that she has an eating disorder and is in severe depression, I don't feel comfortable with her being around my SIL alone.  \n\nIs this being irrational?  My step-daughter is in competitive gymnastics, her mom is a fitness nut, her step-dad is a moronic iron man.  I have had problems with her when she was about 6 calling herself fat and hiding the food she was suppose to eat and then throw it away when I wouldn't see her.  She hasn't done this in awhile, but it makes me very nervous.", "summary": "How would you handle this situation with your child if you found out someone close to them was suffering from bulimia and depression?"}
{"id": "t3_2lu2el", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my backpack at my mom's freind", "post": "So my parents are divorced and my dad has to go to work early in the morning, so he brings me over to my mom's house in the morning at around 6:30, because she goes to work later in the day. It's complicated, but that's all you need to know.\n\nLast night, I didn't go to sleep until around 2:00. So when my dad woke me up in the morning at 6:30 I was pissed and extremely tired. I wasn't really thinking straight.\n\nWhen we finally arrived at my mom's house, I unlocked the door and went up into my room because I wanted to go back to sleep, since school doesn't start until 8:00. I walked into my room, and I instantly knew something was wrong. There was clothes all over the floor and a suitcase in the corner, but I didn't really think much of it because I was so tired.\n\nI walked up to the bed and saw a human-shaped figure underneath the covers. At first, I thought It was my mom sleeping in my bed, but I dismissed that idea because I couldn't see her head. So I thought it must just be an odd arranging of the covers. I threw my backpack at the figure, just in case. I wasn't thinking straight. It was a stupid idea. When it hit the figure, I knew I had fucked up. A woman sprang upwards from the bed, and she stared me straight in the eyes, a true face of fear. She said, in a super scared voice, \"Hey John (me), It's me, Wendy, you're moms friend. I'm sorry for sleeping in here, I didn't know you were coming over!\" In my mind I was saying \"FUCK, FUCK, FUCK!\" I said, thinking quickly, \"SORRY!\" and slammed the door. The rest of the week staying with her was extremely awkward.", "summary": "I threw my backpack onto a stranger who was in my bed who turned out to be my mom's friend who was sleeping over."}
{"id": "t3_ok6ul", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating and disclosure", "post": "Hi dating_advice long time lurker, first time poster.  I come to you seeking advice.  \n\nI am new to dating (post long term relationship) and want to be honest with the people that I date that I am also dating other people.  I would like to know what a reasonable time frame for this disclosure is.  \n\nI am in a small community (m25) and have been casually dating a f(25 for 2 months.  We've both agreed it's not going to evolve, but we still go out dancing and we have a lot of fun together.  Sometimes she stays over, sometimes she doesn't.  We are both free to see each other people.  She regularly goes out to meet with guys.  \n\nI've also been heavily flirting with this other f(25), I really like her.  I didn't really think she'd be interested, but she seems into it. Recently, we flirted a bunch and decided to grab a few beers.  We went out and had a lot of fun.  To be honest, until the night of, I wasn't sure if she was just into it as friends, but we had such a great time that I know it's not.  I didn't make a move, so we didn't kiss or anything, just had fun.  \n\nF1 knows I went on this date and endorses it.  Because I was not sure about that evening, I didn't say anything to F2.  We've agreed to go on a second outing, with considerably more innuendo to the flirting.  I'd like to kiss her next time, I just don't want to make her feel deceived.\n\nFor all I know she may be seeing other people as well, or know about F1.  I don't want to be weird about it and freak her out, I just want to be honest and not deceive her.  I like her a lot.", "summary": "casually seeing someone, small community, taking another girl out, when to tell her.  sorry for the wall of text"}
{"id": "t3_xpomq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the nicest compliment you've gotten from a non-friend (acquaintance, stranger, coworker, ...)?", "post": "I stayed two years at a dorm and during that time helped out the landlords (a couple) with all sorts of (mostly technical) stuff. I upgraded the internet infrastructure to get students to stop complaining (16 people on one ADSL connection, torrents would kill the speed for everyone). When internet outages threatened to close down their printing shop for the day, I made sure they were up and running again in no time. The husband bought a new iPhone but had problems with it, so I drove to their house and helped him out. I never asked nor expected anything in return, but was just happy to be able to help them out.  \n\nA week before I moved out, I was talking to them in their shop (which was adjacent to the dorms), which happened more often if I had the time to say hi. They had two younger kids (boys, aged 13 and 15) and right as I'm about to leave she says to me: \"I hope my sons grow up to be just like you\". That was the nicest thing anyone has ever told me.", "summary": "Landlord told me she hoped her sons would grow up to be like me."}
{"id": "t3_35i75p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] Him[M 21] After 3 years I had to tell him the truth I lied to him.", "post": "Hi Reddit\n\nThis is an awkward situation. I'll explain the best I can. We met 3 years ago online on some random game. I hate to admit I was a coward and had low self esteem so I hid who i was and used someone else's photos which I found on the web. Its not right and its pathetic. I lied to him about who I was but I was still the same age and had the same career path but lied about the way in which I looked. We developed strong feelings for each other and have been talking for over 3 years now. We planned on meeting and doing things together.\n\n\u00a0 \n\nHe had doubts and questioned me throughout. For the past few days things got pretty intense and after several attempts of me wanting to tell him the truth yesterday all was revealed. Its not been easy hiding a lie for this long its embarrassing and horrible. Mentally daunting and emotionally scaring. But its most definitely worse for him. \n\n\u00a0 \n\nSo the truth is out and hes been very understanding. Hes shown me immense support and is willing to help me grow stronger as a person. He wants me to learn from the situation. I couldn't respect  and thank him enough, hes genuinely a kind hearted individual. The only problem now is everything feels weird and slightly awkward and we are both kinda stuck coz we don't know would be best to do. We've been talking for over 3 years and have become so adapt to each other. We don't know what to do. We both have strong feelings for each other and despite telling him the truth he suggested he loves me emotionally but hes torn and confused which he has every right to be. What would be the best thing to do in this situation? Has anyone else been in a similar situation. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "We met online 3 years ago I lied to him. Finally told him the truth. What do we do next?"}
{"id": "t3_2pk7cg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by racing my grandparents.", "post": "So, I'm finally home from university, at my grandparents house for a few days, and man oh man am I fucking excited for some home cooked food, living off God damn Ramen Noodles and pancakes just doesn't cut it anymore. So my grandmother, the beautiful woman she is makes me this pasta with tomatoes, onions, bacon, sausage, beef, peppers, and cheese, \n\n-Now is the time to mention my grandparents are elderly, and can't control their bladders or sphincter's, right?-\n\nBut anyway the fucking cheese. This was the best God damn thing I've eaten in *months*.\n\nOh and did I forget to mention I'm seriously lactose intolerant? Normally, had this been any other time... I would have passed on the dairy, but no. Tonight... was a night for cheese. \n\nWithin an hour, it was a race. Grandmas got her cane, and I swear I saw the smoke coming out from her asscheeks as she ran for that bathroom. Grandma has the toilet. \n\nHere I am, sitting on the couch, my asshole clenched tighter than King Kong's fucking death grip... \n\nWhile grandpa, you may be wondering? Yeah grandpa is on a bucket in the closest, yelling at the cat to move the fuck over or get the fuck out. \n\nBut, at least none of us shit ourselves... right?", "summary": "Played Game of Thrones with my grandparents, grandma won. "}
{"id": "t3_2lx1mu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] told my boyfriend [26/M] that I love him and he hasn't said it back.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together since late February or early March 2014. I said \"I love you\" to him a while ago (probably in August?) and he hasn't said it back. He has said it a couple times when he's been drunk but I don't know of that counts. He is always doing and saying other things that make me feel special and loved, but I feel like something is missing because he doesn't say he loves me.\n\nI have told him that it's hard for me to feel like things are one sided and that I don't make him feel the way that he makes me feel. He was very understanding but he still hasn't said it to me. I have not told him that I feel like if he doesn't love me by now, he isn't going to.\n\nIt's frustrating because I want to say it to him so often because he does all these little things that just make me so happy but I'm afraid of the awkwardness and hurt feelings that will follow when he doesn't reciprocate. \n\nI do not feel like I should break up with him at all, as every other aspect of the relationship is awesome and I'm very happy. Am I making too big of a deal about this?", "summary": "I dropped the L bomb and my boyfriend has not said it back for a few months. I don't know if I am more upset than the situation warrants."}
{"id": "t3_riwcu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Slipped a disk in my jaw today, specialist can't see me for three weeks.. advice from people with TMJ?", "post": "I'll try to make this short... this morning I woke up and couldn't open my mouth. When I was finally able to force it open I felt and heard a crack and pop in my left jaw joint (TMJ). I managed to get my jaw to relax and fell back asleep, but when I woke up about 30 minutes later my jaw was again stuck. I managed to work it out again and realized it wasn't an isolated incident. \n\nI made an appointment with my dentist and she checked the joints on both sides and I had obvious signs of TMJ plus she believes the disc has slipped between the joints on the left side. She told me all of this without me even mentioning that it was the same side I'd felt the pop and crack on that morning. She referred me to a specialist, but as written in the title the specialist can't see me for three weeks. My jaw is sore and I'm barely able to open it up without discomfort and pain.\n\nMy biggest problem right now is that I'm taking 18 hours in school this semester (so I can graduate in May), I'm working on weekends, raising my daughter and packing up to move houses in less than a month. This blindsided me today and I need some simple, easy solutions to help me deal with the pain and discomfort in the mean time. I can't spend an exorbitant amount of time dealing with this, but it's also something I can't ignore. Neither my dentist nor the specialist gave me any recommendations on cutting down on pain or discomfort, or keeping my jaw from locking while I'm sleeping. I just wondered if anyone here had any experience with this and could give me advice that would help me minimize how much this affects my life right now.", "summary": "Slipped a disc in my jaw. Specialist can't see me yet. Make the pain stop so I can go about my life (somewhat) normally."}
{"id": "t3_279zte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24/M) getting tired of this sporadic infatuation with her (22/F). What can I do to stop it?", "post": "I met this girl a couple of years ago. We clicked but had seperate lives, so instead of going through the standard dating/romantic relationship pattern we kind of texted and talked on facebook, always semi-flirting.\n\nThis dynamic is going on way too long. There are short periods of infatuation (from both sides) where she'll be sending me texts late at night when she's going out (probably drunk), periods of shallow, dry conversation and sometimes a couple weeks of radio silence. This keeps on repeating itself and I still find myself carried away like a teenager when she's sending me those sweet little texts.\n\nAfter all these years the flame got smaller but it's still frustrating when she's acting like she wants to commit but nothing ever comes from it. I have the feeling like I'm doing the same with her by acting cold most of the time, so we're both getting on each others nerves. \n\nHow can I put this to an end? I have the feeling that I'm having this idealized image of her after all this time of not seeing each other, which makes it worse. I also realize it's quite irrational, and sometimes when I'm having a weak moment and I'm not working on something I get carried away.", "summary": "Girl and I clicked, but nothing ever comes from it, only some sporadic infatuation on both sides which leads to nothing, which makes me slightly depressed. How do I end this?"}
{"id": "t3_4i2ul4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making fun of a teacher's salary", "post": "I am an exchange student in the United States and my academic year here is approaching its end. I am enrolled in an IB Calculus class although I am not testing in IB (it's the only Calculus class). We took our class final and everyone is spending their time in that class just solving IB practice tests. I, however, decided to catch up on the maths lessons I have missed during the year so I can go back ready to my country.\n\nThe statistics teacher next door has a free period during our class so she usually walks in and sits down with the calculus teacher. The syllabus I am working with does include a few statistics lesson but I needed a general idea of what actually I should be focusing on. I decided to ask the statistics teacher just for a bit of guidance since it's her free period.\n\nI walk up to the teacher's desk and I explain my situation to them. The calculus teacher tells me to \"just google it\" but I told her I'd rather get guidance from a real teacher. She said she knows that but the statistics teacher is on her free period now and doesn't work during that time.\n\nI was about to leave the desk, I was not happy with their reaction but I completely understood where they were coming from. The statistics teacher noticed that I'm displeased and jokingly said \"Unless you pay me how much a teacher earns per hour!\" I was furious at that remark and I was well aware that teachers do not earn a lot of money as they always complained about it. I replied \"I'm sure that's not very much.\" She just stares at me in the eye and she starts shouting about how disrespectful that was.\n\nI was extremely embarrassed, I have rarely ever disrespected a teacher my whole life. I quickly apologized and went back to my seat but she kept complaining about how disrespectful that is. I may screwed up my good reputation among teachers a week before school ends.", "summary": "Asked teacher for help during her free period. Jokingly asked me to pay her her salary. Made fun of how much she makes. Regret."}
{"id": "t3_2cb2bb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (30 m) kicked my girlfriend (23) out for doing drugs", "post": "i appreciate any help anyone can offer.\nmy girlfriend and i have been together 2 years. things haven't been going well for her for a while with her school and then when she graduated with her jobs.\nto cope she started smoking this \"synthetic weed\" stuff-- its sold in cigar shops and its horrible. she didn't tell me about her smoking for a while but when she did i freaked out and told her to stop. this was about last november.  it lead to many fights but she finally agreed to stop in february.\nafter a few months of quitting she started smoking again about a month ago.  i told her so many times how harmful it is to her. she's never been in the best health physically or emotionally (she's refused to seek professional help) and this weed just turns her into a zombie -__- its extremely harmful from what I've read... she's even told me herself that the salespeople at the cigar shops beg her not to buy this stuff.\nwhen she started smoking again recently she started sneaking around to do it -- she would tell me she was going to work or to see a friend or to the store and instead spend all day getting high in her car..\nevery day for the last two weeks she's smoked and every day we've argued horribly about it. every day she's promised to quit but she just continued to get high. just a few hours ago i finally told her it was over. i really love her which is why it hurts so much to see her hurt herself like this but i just can't take all this fighting and lying any more. \ni guess i just realized that the more i get angry about her smoking the more she needs to smoke(?)   i guess i feel partly responsible. should i just let her smoke while i'm around at least i could keep an eye on her?\ni'm not even sure we can get back together at this point though after the last two weeks that we've had :(", "summary": "girlfriend lies to me and sneaks around to go do drugs."}
{"id": "t3_2w1fse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] was just told by my girlfriend [16F] that she is bi", "post": "So my girlfriend of almost a year told me she ids as bisexual today. I am mad that she texted me this while im on a vacation, not in person, but that aside how do I act about the actual news?\n\nAwhile ago she told me in like 8th grade she had a crush on a girl and kissed some of her (girl)friends, but a near direct quote from her was that that is typical high school girl stuff and it was nothing serious. I believe her, am I a moron? Should I be jealous when she hangs one on one with a girl I dont know well like I would if it was a guy I didnt know well? \n\nI see her soon in person and just am looking for any sort of advice on how to act. I love this girl so much and I know this doesn't change who she is or what we have had together, but am I wrong for thinking it changes the dynamic of our relationship? Like shes sleeping over with a (lady)friend and I feel weird about it and I never would've before. Thanks for any help reddit.", "summary": "My girlfriend told me she is bi not straight and I dont know how to react and am looking for guidance."}
{"id": "t3_4hvc1q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Received a windfall. Not sure what to do with it.", "post": "I will try to keep this short and to the point.\n\nMy wife and I recently received a windfall of 66K ( a large sum to us).  We are child free and looking to buy a nice starter home.\n\nWe have no CC debt and currently rent a home. we are saving to buy a home currently.\n\nWe have 2K in savings ( just paid off the CC )  we are saving 400-1000$ a month currently.  The fluctuation is due to non monthly expenses ( car repair, vet, doctors, insurance etc)\n\nWe have a couple of options we are discussing.\n\nOption 1: \n\nWe pay off the car (15K) and my student loans (18K). Then we pay off as much of her student loans as possible. This would leave her student loans at apx 22K.  By doing this we would be able to save an additional 600$ a month as our expenses decreased.  \n\noption 2.\n\nWe invest the money.  We feel that we have a better than basic understanding of investing ( although I would say still novices, just much better than the clueless average joe). We feel certain we could get a better return on the investments as compared to the interest on our student loans and car.  Pro: we are growing the money.  Con: the money is tied up for considerable time in order for this to be beneficial to us.\n\nOption 3.  We do some sort of mix.  Maybe pay the car off and invest a little and save the rest for a large down payment.\n\nOption 4:  whatever you fine people come up with. \n\naddendum:  wife really wants a vacation. Something in the 2-4K price range.  This sounds frivolous but vacations and travel is a passion of hers and she loves it.", "summary": "got a large windfall of cash. What should we do with it?"}
{"id": "t3_3l6nao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my professor [50'sF] graduate school, she's a complete bitch", "post": "I'm an American doing a masters degree in Wales. When I say she's my professor, I mean she's the co-ordinator for my masters degree in my specific field. \n\nShe is very unprofessional. She has singled me out several times in class for things that everyone else does. She failed me on an assignment that was worth 100% of a class. When I appealed the score she gave me, I went from a D to a B, after two other professors agreed that the D she gave me was not worthy.\n\nFast forward to now, I'm doing my dissertation. It's due in two weeks and I asked her a question about formatting due to the answer not being in our program's handbook. She flat out told me that the answer was not in the handbook, but it was common sense. Before asking her I asked other peers and supervisors, but my personal supervisor is on vacation until 3 days before my paper is due. \n\nThis is not the first time she has been unprofessional and rude. I have tried to meet with the head of the department on several occasions, but it's a joke. Overall this university has been complete shit when it comes to dealing with students. I'm at a loss as to what I can do about this unruly professor treating people like shit. Although she targets me, there is one other student from a previous semester that she treated similarly, but he never did anything about it.", "summary": "my professor and co-ordinator is unprofessional and crass every chance she gets, singles me out and makes me feel like shit. University department head doesn't care. What do I do ?"}
{"id": "t3_2tpag7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am worried that my friends look down at me for taking back my cheating boyfriend [20sF, 29M]", "post": "Caught my boyfriend of 2 years cheating on me a few months ago. He was sending very sexual messages to a girl over Facebook. I know there was no physical cheating. It broke my heart but I decided to give him another shot if he was dedicated to making this right. So far, he has been. Things are okay.\n\nAll our friends know what happened. I skipped a holiday party because I was upset, everybody asked where I was and my boyfriend told them the truth. I'm glad he did, it shows some accountability.\n\nHowever, when I talked to my girl friends for some support, they all told me to break up with him and talked about how awful he is. I feel embarrassed and I am worried about people looking down on me for taking him back. When we go out with friends together, I feel sometimes humiliated even if nobody says anything.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Took boyfriend back after cheating, worried that our friends look down on me for it."}
{"id": "t3_c1myw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most ridiculously false accusation your parents have made against you?", "post": "This isn't my story, but I heard it firsthand from a friend today.\nFriend (Let's call him Tom) basically has 1st generation insane Chinese parents.\n\nAnyways, Tom comes home one day to find his parents in the living room royally pissed at him and is confused.\n\nTom: \"Umm...is something wrong?\"\n\nParents: \"TOM! WE KNOW YOU ARE ON DRUGS! AND YOU ARE IN DEEP SHIT\"\n\n\"Sorry..wtf are you talking about??? I'm not on drugs!\"\n\n\"We found evidence in your room that you are on drugs.\"\n\n\"Umm...I'm not on drugs...what evidence are you talking about?\"\n\n\"It's not important. You know what evidence we found. We know you are doing drugs.\"\n\n\"No seriously, WHAT EVIDENCE? Because I am definitely not doing drugs.\"\n\n\"Fine. What do you have to say to this??\"\n\n*Thrusts something into Tom's hand*\n*Tom examines object for a second*\n\n\"....Mom...this is a fucking acorn.\"\n\n\"So you ARE on Drugs!\"\n\n\"No....this is an ACORN. It grows on oak trees. It's just a fucking nut!\"\n\n\"Oh...umm...okay I guess\"", "summary": "Immigrant parents failed to recognize an acorn. Thought it was some kind of drug and accused my friend with it..."}
{"id": "t3_4vnv7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why would my (19F) boyfriend (21M) like a girl's revealing selfie and try to hide it from me?", "post": "My boyfriend has recently started using Instagram again and there was a girl who very regularly used to like a lot of his selfies until we were in a relationship (We've been together for almost two years) and didn't like any of his pictures again until the other day when he posted a picture of himself doing a sport he likes. \n\nHe was scrolling through his Instagram feed and I happened to look over as he went past a picture he had liked, it was the one of this girl wearing a very revealing top. He carried on scrolling past very quickly and I asked who it was, not in an accusatory way, just in a normal tone of voice and he very quickly said it was a girl he knew from school and immediately changed the subject. I'm sure it's nothing but if it was, why would he try so hard to hide it from me?", "summary": "He liked a girl's revealing photo, he hadn't liked her posts for a while and she used to like his all the time, he changed the subject as fast as he could."}
{"id": "t3_28yhy4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my GF [25F] for 4 years, Long Distance relationship-seems to long distant", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nI'm sorry for making it long\nNow, I've been talking to a girl who lives completely in a different parts of the world, we both belong to two different cultures and have completely different life styles, we first met in a chat room and then became friends on facebook, at first we were just talking \u2013 like normally no commitments, no strings attached \u2013 just friends kinda thing, but as time went on we started talking more but then shit happened and we stopped talking. But on a random day I got a txt msg from her saying she sorry and so wrong to let you go and all that \u2013 she sent me a mail or like indicating she got feelings for me and we talked more and more  till the moment we made commitments to meet and be together, its been like 4 years or so but as more we talked I get to realize how far fetched the idea of meeting was I tried to tell abt my concern and  that its just seems impossible given tht she'll be go  abroad to Kuwait and work somewhere for two years and then return to her native country but it always ended up emotionally and more promises\u2026 I feel tht its just wrong to let go after all tht and its not the right thing to do but when thinking abt it practically its just too long to wait..?? What should I do?", "summary": "Long distance relationship, GF going out to Kuwait work for two years and after tht says we'll meet - cant afford to go Kuwait, emotional attachment - Should I let go? What should I do"}
{"id": "t3_m4ywz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Meeting my girlfriend's Dad for the first time tonight for dinner, terrified", "post": "Alright so I am 23 years old, my girlfriend is 22. We have been dating for about 2 months, and I have already met her Mom (her parents are divorced). Her Dad, whom I will be meeting later tonight, along with his new wife, seems intimidating to me. According to her, he played Minor league baseball or something, and is now very involved in the local college's football team. He makes good money from what it seems, so I guess I feel like I have to prove it to him I'm good enough to be stuffing his daughter nightly? Now don't get me wrong, I am no slouch athletically (played soccer in college) and I don't feel like I will be physically intimidated (I'm 6'4 , 200lbs) , but I can't help but be nervous. Like fuck, I've never had a problem with meeting parents and usually I get along well with them, why is this happening now?", "summary": "GF's dad seems intimidating, how do I act comfortable "}
{"id": "t3_1pz81s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Getting into a new relationship while FWB is still in my life (without benefits). What's protocol?", "post": "So I had sex with my best friend's girlfriend a few times. (Put your pitchforks away--it was his idea and he watched.) Obviously I'm still friends with my best friend. I'm also still friends with his s/o by association, of course, but we don't have sex anymore.\n\nI'm currently single, so it's not a pressing issue, but I was wondering what protocol was when I got into an actual relationship. I've always heard it's best not to ask your partner about past partners, but if I have a new partner and she does ask, what do I do?\n\nDo I leave my friend's girlfriend off the list and lie, risking the truth eventually coming out and causing problems because I was dishonest? Do I tell her and risk her being uncool with me being friends with a girl I slept with a few times?\n\nI'm assuming I've cornered myself into hoping it never comes up, but if it does, is honesty the best policy? Or do I lie, hope I'm never found out, but if I am, explain why I lied and ask forgiveness?", "summary": "Getting into a new relationship while FWB is still in my life (without benefits). What's protocol?"}
{"id": "t3_3dnlrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[15M] being immature or is my dad [54M] Holding on too tight?", "post": "So first off let me explain that I am an introvert. Throughout my life I have always had a small group of friends but are good friends. I also spend **a lot** of time on the computer. More than I should but it is how I get enjoyment. I am also my dads only son (take that as you will). I am also the youngest child in my family.\n\nRecently he has been getting frustrated with me being on the computer too much and not doing anything with him (parents got divorced a year ago) when i'm with him. So I have realized this and have been trying to do more things with him whenever he wants to. \n\nDuring the summer I been staying up very late playing and talking with friends on the computer (2am-4am) which I didnt think he had a problem with since it was the summer and he never said anything about it. But then when night a couple days ago I ended up staying up until he woke up for work and he wasn't happy..at all. So now he is making me go to sleep around midnight and is thinking about making restrictions for my computer time completely.", "summary": "Dad not letting me stay up very late in the summer. Not sure if he is holding on too much or if i'm just being immature."}
{"id": "t3_2diwzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) have never had a relationship and I am terrified and I have no idea what to do should that day come", "post": "So.. this may not be the usual post here and I am not even sure if this is the right place since I am not even in a relationship and never have been, but that is kind of the point.\n\nSee, I am 23 years old now, I am a guy. I have been severely bullied throughout my childhood and teens, to the point where I never even ever had the chance to come close to something like a relationship with anyone at all. Well there was that one time that a girl kissed me, once and I am relatively sure that was out of pity after hearing that I had never even kissed anyone before.\n\nLately I have found myself feeling more lonely than usual and I have been thinking about the what-if's.\n\nI don't have any sort of experience on how to even have a relationship. None. Zip. Nada. Even if by some act of god I would find someone that I like that likes me back and stuff happens. Then... what? Maybe the problem is that I don't even know what to expect out of a relationship anymore, all that I do know is that I feel the primal urge for... that someone special, but I don't even know anymore.\n\nI have a hard time even putting my problem into words or even what I expect any of you to answer me. It's not like this is something you can read a handbook or manual or \"Relationships 101 for Dummies\" on. This is something that I should have learned naturally in my formative years but through circumstances out of my control that never happened.\n\nHow would I even go about explaining this to a hypothetical, prospective someone... that I know about as much about relationships as a newborn. That I have less experience in those kinds of things than most 12-year-olds.\n\nAt this point I just feel so terrified of it, that I am honestly considering that I should just come to terms with the fact that I will probably be single all my life and forget about it, find something else to fill the figurative void in my figurative heart.\n\nI guess the", "summary": "is: What IS a relationship? What do people do in a relationship? What should I expect out of such a thing? Do I even need to worry about it?"}
{"id": "t3_2y4olu", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "If you didn't \"let yourself go\" after kids, what did you do to not let yourself go after kids?", "post": "Curious 21F in good shape and health, as prepared and accepting as I can be that when I do have children, my body and my lifestyle will change. However, I'm mystified by and admiring of parents who look as good/better than they did before children. I follow this one woman on Instagram (@loseitconkatie if you're curious) who was 200 pounds, got fed up with being 200 pounds, and did things like put her son in a laundry basket and lift him, take her kids out for a run in the stroller, and dance with them for cardio--if she has more than 10% body fat covering her gorgeous muscled body 2 years later, I would be astounded.", "summary": "I'm not persuaded that I have to be out of shape or frumpy or frazzled after kids, but I also know that keeping myself together when I'm entirely responsible for another small person isn't going to happen by magic. "}
{"id": "t3_1xd7wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M/F] with my girlfriend [26 F] of over a year, Unsure if this is my problem, hers, or a mix of both", "post": "Now living together, \"committed\" is the term for our relationship, and I'm happy with that.  She's wonderful, talented, smart, and put together in all the ways I'm not, makes us a good team for most things.  I just have one problem.\n\nEven living together, she needs to say \"I love you\" for no reason at all other than she felt like it, either every two hours we hang out (it seems) or every single time we part ways for anything.\n\nI wouldn't care, sincerely, except that she will be angry if I don't say it back.  Every.  Time.  Seriously, every time.  I've taken to kind of mumbling it under my breath and muddling the words together to avoid it because of how uncomfortable it makes me.\n\nNot that I'm uncomfortable saying it at all.  I save it for moments when I really feel it, when she's done something particularly amazing or having a cuddle at the end of the day.  But I don't expect her to say it back each time.\n\nWhat it feels like is a transaction.  Give an expression of love for an expression of love.  But it feels like it cheapens the act.  It's replaced \"bye honey\" as the standard salutation, and like profanity, it loses its effect when it's every other word.  It seems like such a small thing, but she snaps back at me if I don't fire back.  I don't want it to be such a problem, but I'm not going to do it just for her comfort.  It makes her look like a domineering bitch every time she does it.  I don't understand.\n\nHow can I address this problem without it being a fight?  It seems like such a stupid thing to battle over, and it would be so easy for her to make me look like the bad guy.", "summary": "Girlfriend views expressions of affection as transactions.  How do I make her stop?"}
{"id": "t3_3essv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M/] with my 'girlfriend' [20 F] 6 month , texting", "post": "This is m story:\n\nI love a girl and she loves me. We are both shy, her friend told my friend that she liked me for over a year and 6 month ago I man-up and went to her to talk about our feelings. \n\nIt went well so we decided to see each other to learn about each other. \n\nShe is a muslim ( me too) so in these 6 months I only had the chance to see her 2 times alone,\n \nif her dad finds out she would be in trouble, so she decided that we see each other one more time this vacation and then during the university she would have an excuse to go out with me.\n\nSo my real question is: This is all new for me (for her too), and I want to talk to her but I can only do this by texting now. \n\nI have never done this before in this context so I don't now how to begin, what to talk about, ...\n\nThis girl is realy someone special for me so I don't want to screw this up.\n\nThanks for everyone who can help me, I am really in an unexplored continent, this stuff is new for me.", "summary": "Texting done right?."}
{"id": "t3_1omiow", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Roommate's new cat doesn't get along with mine", "post": "I've been living with my roommate for about a year and a half now.  When we moved in together, she had a cat, about 3 years old.  I got a kitten a couple months in.  Her cat and my cat were friends, though my roommate's cat was a little grumpy sometimes.  Recently though, my roommate's cat died pretty suddenly.\n\nMy roommate went to visit her parents and let me know the day before she was bringing back one of their mostly outdoor cats with her.  Okay, I'm fine with cats and she misses the one that died (who was really sweet and I'm sad about).  New cat is about 8 years old, male, and I think is neutered.  New cat is really sweet to humans.  New cat can't stand my cat, hissing, growling and attempting to slap when my cat gets too close.\n\nMy cat is 1.5 years old, male, and neutered.  He is very friendly and playful.  Also big: 12 lean pounds.  He hissed at new cat for like 2 days and now couldn't care less except that he wants to play with new cat!  New cat does not want to play with him.\n\nWe live in a small apartment though so my cat is too close to new cat more often than he might be otherwise.  New cat is also really protective of any food bowls so I've moved my cat's food from the living area into my room.  It's unhelpful though that my roommate's old cat and my cat used to munch from each other's bowls without any drama and she's using the same bowl for new cat.\n\nHow do I ease this transition until hopefully new cat can tolerate my cat being around?  Roomie has just been letting new cat roam the apartment.  I feel bad about shutting my cat in my room because he used to get the run of the place, but I'm doing it at least for nights now because I don't want to wake up to fighting noises.", "summary": "Roommate brought home new cat.  New cat hates my cat.  My cat just wants to play.  Tips on easing the transition that I can implement?  Also is there a way I can train my cat to eat only out of his own bowl, not the other cat's bowl too?"}
{"id": "t3_13ukm7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm smart, creative, technologically-inclined, hardworking, and I'm terrified about finding a job when I graduate college in May. Reddit, what is your advice for someone in my position?", "post": "Some back story... \n\nI will be a 21 year old girl graduating from a top 50 private university with a 3.5, sociology major, business/art history minor. I am up to my neck in student loans and my parent's current financial situation means I am now and will need to be supporting myself entirely come May 19th. I'm outside the NYC area and plan on getting a job in the city and living at home until I can save up enough money to get my own place. \n\nI've worked as a lifeguard, in several finance offices, a personal assistant for a highly demanding woman launching her own dating website, PR intern, administrative assistant, and caterer. I can solve almost any problem I come across, I genuinely relate to people, I'll talk to anyone, I can create interesting content people enjoy, and I make people laugh. It's hard to write this without sounding like an idealized online dating ad, but these are my real skills. Unfortunately, it seems like everyone else *thinks* they have these same skills as well.  \n\nFrom what I've seen and experienced so far, I'm screwed if I want to be successful in getting a job straight out of college without any connections. My dream is to land a job with the NBC Page program (always been a sucker for the Today show team) but I don't know where to begin - how do I stand out from the 100,000s of thousands of applicants that claim this same set of generic skills? I enjoy running errands, for god sake. I even know the whole adobe design suite and can blow you the heck outta the water with some of my powerpoint layouts. \n\nWhat can I do to prove myself when all I have is some exec cruising over my cover letter in six seconds? Employers, current or former, of reddit, what can I do to show these people I've got what it takes to get hired?", "summary": "Creative smart super-cool college student needs a way to surpass the competition getting a job straight out of college."}
{"id": "t3_2zuv33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/m] am having texting troubles with girlfriend of three months [20/f]", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for three months now. By nature she is very shy, but very sweet in person. However, I've noticed lately that as far as texting goes I'm kind of getting my feelings hurt and I just kind of wanted to run a few things by Reddit to see what they thought. We haven't had any sort of disagreements at this state in the relationship so this would definitely be a hard bubble to break into as I am also pretty shy, and am sometimes a bit of a pushover. \n\nBasically, here are a few examples:\n\nI texted her a few hours before she left for a car trip home. Her drive isn't long, (about an hour) but I just told her to be safe and that I hope she had a good trip. She didn't respond until late that night, which I can generally understand. I don't expect people to live by their phones, but it does start hurting a little when your girlfriend hasn't really thought of you to text except once throughout the whole day.\n\nThis is a fairly frequent occurence, so I try to reason that it's just her way. However, she'll usually then send a text the next day apologizing how she never responded but that she hopes I had a great day and usually a couple really sweet things too. Then she doesn't respond to my reply... until the next day with a similar response. The one thing that is giving me a hang up, however, is that she likes to tweet. She'll tweet, but not respond to my text. So she's on her phone, but then doesn't feel the need to respond to me.\n\nAm I being unreasonable for having my feelings hurt? I really like her and don't want to get upset over something so small, but it really is hurting my feelings that I go out of my way to just send a cute message every once in awhile and she doesn't feel the need to respond until the next day.", "summary": "Girlfriend takes a day usually to respond to my texts, but tweets frequently. Am I wrong for having my feelings hurt by this?"}
{"id": "t3_1rw57e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Ex [18 F] of three years, cheated on me, my life is going great hers is going horrible but I'm still so sad, how do I get over her without being in a new relationship? (update)", "post": "That's the link to my last post.\n\n So after all the bullshit and drama and no contact for nearly a month I told her I didn't need her and my life is going good without her and we made up and both left it at a civil level. She told me she has no money, she brought her car back with her to Alberta (after I told her not to because it wouldn't pass inspection) and now she has to pay tons for a car only worth 1000$, she's working her same old shitty minimum wage job, has only a few good friends and the fucker that she started dating that fucked and chucked her works out of town for 24/30 days in a month so they can't see each other.\n\nNow I enjoyed hearing all of that because she totally screwed me over and made me want to off myself (reddit convinced me that was a dumb idea.) and I am doing great, get my license in 3 months, got a kickass job that I enjoy going to, making lots of money, seeing my sister in a few weeks and making a ton of friends. But I still don't feel better and I still miss her so much even although she put me through all of that, she was my first real girlfriend and I didn't really realize what I had until it was gone.\n\nI took up more hobbies, talk to lots of people, drink on the weekends with my friends, play video games, hang out with family, but I never feel any better and I always find myself looking at her twitter or instagram and seeing what's going on in her life. \n\nHow could I speed up this process or make these feelings go away, I'm crying at work and I'm always thinking about her even though I shouldn't be at all. I have my closure but it doesn't feel right. Suggestions, comments welcome.", "summary": "Cheating ex doing shitty, I am doing good. But still don't feel like I should."}
{"id": "t3_4u3kx6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spilling 20 L of base on myself", "post": "I work for a drug company and part of the job requires us to use large volumes of chemicals. Me, being my usual try-hard self, decided I'd lift 20 L of NaOH to dump into waste. My coworker sees me and goes \"...whoa, whoa... Don't be a hero\"... And I go to set the tank down. I managed to slip on a dolly, spilt the whole lot of it and fell on concrete. \n\nSince I'm an intern I'm hoping this won't impact my job. I know accidents happen but I really feel like a doofus. Now I'm left having to write up an accident report (luckily nothing was damaged, product included) and kind of wanting to hide under a rock.", "summary": "I fucked up by spilling a caustic chemical all over myself at work."}
{"id": "t3_2oafe0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] want to ask out [17 F]", "post": "I'm a 6'3\" english teen with burly blonde hair. I have fancied my friend who is a 5'0\" really hot girl with long black hair. I need to make opportunities for us to talk but I don't know what to say without it being awkward. I don't get to see her as much as I used to.\n\nWe get on at parties and I don't seem to have any 'rivals' and the last boy she was interested in turned out to be gay and called her boring if that means anything. I've also been going to the gym and we both like Game of Thrones so maybe she'll notice my improved physique.\n\nWhat do I say, how do I say it etc. as I am hopeless at this.", "summary": "Like a girl, need chatting advice etc."}
{"id": "t3_343w98", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Looking for different points of view on an opportunity", "post": "Alright, so I'm almost 23 and have kind of an interesting opportunity that could set me up for the rest of my life. My brother owns this company that is starting to make making millions of dollars and looking like it's going to be making billions. He told me I could get in on it if I go out doing the same work for someone else to try it out for couple years, then I could end up working for him and making millions and retiring by the time I'm 35.\n\n  Right now I am going to school for something I just recently realized I don't want to do. I have always been drawn to art and music and wanted to pursue those but was never supported growing up, so I'm pretty good at making music but not as good as I want to be at art. I won't be able to make a living off music and art for a few years maybe, give or take, if I can focus on it everyday even then who knows, \n\n So it seems like a no brainer, right? The thing is I won't have lots of time to work on art or to focus on jamming with friends cause the work I'll be doing is hard work 10-12 hours a day 6 days a week for like 10 years with not much time off, it also involves lots of traveling.\n\n So what would you guys do? I'm gonna go try the job regardless to see if I like it cause if I do then that's great, but if I don't... it will be a hard choice. Just stick it out for 10-ish years, postpone my dreams, end up being a millionaire and able to retire around 30-35, then focus on my dreams. Or just get a decent 9-5 job and be able to focus on the things I love and hopefully succeed at them. \n\n  It'd be nice to hear from people who are older, cause right now time seems like it is starting to fly by really fast and that the next 10 years will probably fly by even faster..... Idk. My mind is all scattered right now, sorry if this is hard to read.", "summary": "Condense work that might not appeal to you into the next 10 years of your life while being away from all the people you care about and retire being a millionaire never having to worry about money again. Or get a decent 9-5  job, focus on your dreams and hopefully succeed at them?"}
{"id": "t3_1vyzoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my GF [18 F] of 2 1/2 years: Would it be seen as weird if I had a polyamory relationship?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend decided to establish basic rules in our relationship, so neither could whine when a breakup occurred if a rule was broken. We signed a symbolic contract. It sounds childish, but it's actually working.\n\nMy girlfriend understands that I have sexual attraction to other people. It's my fantasy to participate in threesomes and orgies. I haven't done it yet though because she doesn't agree with it at the moment. She would become jealous. But she acknowledges that she could change her mind in the future and we could bring other people in.\n\nA polyamory relationship is one where there is an emotional relationship between more than two people of any gender.\n\nHow are these kind of relationships viewed today? If I was in one and allowed it to be public, would people look at me in disgust? Would it ruin my chances with anyone else?", "summary": "GF acknowledges possibility our relationship containing more people in the future, sexually and intimately. If this relationship were public, would people think I'm weird or disgusting? Would people hate me? Envy me?"}
{"id": "t3_3ga1t0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Dating advice for a wounded airman that has never dated", "post": "Howdy everybody!  \n\nI'm not too good at prefacing stuff like this so I'll just jump right into it. \n\nSo, I'm a 22 year old guy in the Air Force and I have never asked a girl out before... Kind of strange, I know. But even in high school, I was busy training and working out, so I never really got into the dating game. \n\nUnfortunately, I was injured during my last time abroad. As a result, I've gained quite a few new scars on my body. Only one on my head, on my forehead. Other than that, they're all on my upper body. \nSo, I've decided to start going out and hopefully dating since I have at least a year to recover. \n\nHowever, while I was in the hospital, I gained about 50 pounds. Now that I'm out, I'm not allowed to work out since it may exacerbate my injuries. I do take a light walk everyday. I do have to eat a high calorie diet, so it's doubtful I will be able to lose much weight for at least 6 months. \nI've always been a really big guy, but right now I'm 6'4\" with 24 inch shoulders and weighing in at a massive 300 pounds. \n\nNow that I've gone through background stuff, I can hop into my questions. I'm not sure how to approach women or even how to start a conversation with them. Also, where is it acceptable and unacceptable to approach someone? And, how do I make sure a woman is is comfortable when I approach, and to keep from appearing dangerous or creepy?\n\nI've tried online dating without much luck, as well. I think I may have the same issue with conversations and first messages/approaching. \n\nI'm sure this has been posted before, so I apologize for making a new post. I felt like my background may be slightly unique.  Sorry for the wall of text, as well. \n\nI really appreciate any insights and advice y'all can give me! Thanks for reading!", "summary": "wounded warrior. Never asked a girl out. How do I approach? How do I start a conversation? Where is it acceptable and unacceptable to approach? How do keep myself from appearing as a threat?"}
{"id": "t3_4y49vv", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Just curious about MRI machines.", "post": "So this isn't necessarily medicine related and I'm not even sure if this is the right place for this, but here goes. I understand why MRIs make loud noises in a very basic sense. But my question, that I can't seem to find an answer to is why they make such a wide VARIETY of different noises. I could see it making a buzzing noise or something because of electrically charged coils and all that jazz, but they make so many varied noises. I've heard them buzz and beep and bang, they go from a jackhammer to an 80's arcade cabinet. What is the explanation behind this plethora of different sounds?", "summary": "why do MRIs make so many different sounds, beeps, bangs, buzzes etc."}
{"id": "t3_24l0uo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [19/F] and my [24/F] obsessive-compulsive gf.", "post": "Hi!\n\nWell, I am a woman who is dating another woman.\n\nShe previously had a relationship with a man with whom she only had oral sex. That was 3 years ago.\n\nHowever, after that relationship she got diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder and specifically she had that breakdown because she thought that she might have been infected with HIV.\n\nAnyway, her psychiatrist told her it was an unreasonable fear etc but I  now want to make sure but she is afraid to take a test.\n\nTo my understanding she might have a panic attack if she tries to do it so I don't know what to do either. In my mind I know that it is highly improbable that she has anything but I would've liked to know for sure.\n\nAny advice will be helpful.", "summary": "I [19/F] want to take a hiv test but [20/F] is too afraid to take it."}
{"id": "t3_4t9rnz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[Debt]11K in Credit Card Debt, Need Some Advice", "post": "Hello Personal Finance!  \n\nSo here's my situation.  I'm 24 years old and newly married.  My wife and I combined income is about 3K with no OT (I'm a police officer so OT is given out pretty frequently).  We pay $1150 in rent each month.  I have a car that I pay $380 a month on  and have 10.5K left on it.  Now here's the problem.  We can manage rent,  the car,  utilities,  and other bills.  Unfortunately we have a nice amount of credit card debt.  It's just above 11K across 6 different cards.  The highest apr  we are paying is 21%.  That card has $1.2k on it.  We are trying our best to make all the payments each month and on time and so far we have but barley.  My credit score is 723 and I would love to keep it there.  I'm just looking on advice as to what to do with this.  I was considering taking a personal loan of about 12K and paying it off over 36 months.  It seems if I can get a decent interest rate I would probably be paying somewhere around $380 a month?  Would this be the best option?  \n\nThank you so much!!", "summary": "11K in Credit card debt across 6 cards.  Considering taking a personal loan to consolidate all the debt.  Is this the best move or should I do something else?"}
{"id": "t3_3ngmlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17m] girlfriend [18f] of two years is gender-queer (agender) and I feel like I am incapable of understanding it.", "post": "She came out as agender about three months ago, and I honestly wasn't that surprised. She wasn't the most feminine of ladies in the first place, and I am not in any disgusted or freaked out at the thought. I loved her, I still do, and it does not affect my feelings toward her at all.\n\nHowever, I feel somewhat guilty for dating her now. I am a horribly, horribly straight and gender fixed person and it seems like my brain cannot really grasp the concept of \"in between\"- I understand what it means, but whenever I think about it I just end up in an endless loop of \"Dude, she's a girl\".\n\nIt seems to me that anyone deserves to have as an SO someone who understands them and treats them as who they are, and I am scared that I am not going to be able to stop thinking about her as a girl. She says its ok, and that she understands and she doesn't mind me thinking of her that way, but feel guilty nontheless. \n\nI feel like as her boyfriend, I should think of her as who she wants to be and who she feels she is, but I really don't know how to make myself accept the concept because it is so alien. And because of that I keep feeling bad about it. It is simply unfair towards her.\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "girlfriend is agender, I feel bad for being unable to think of her as not a girl. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ygs7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) ex (23M) messaged me after 6 months of no contact. Is it dumb if I were to message back? Advice/opinions would be appreciated!", "post": "After my ex and I started NC, I really took the time and dedicated it to improving myself. In that regard, I did pretty well. I've confronted (and conquered!) some personal fears and baggage, picked up new hobbies that I love, met new people and created amazing friendships. I'm happy, and I know that I have a bright future ahead of me.\n\nWhen my ex messaged me yesterday telling me he wants to talk to me and misses me, I realized I didn't really feel anything towards it. I didn't feel like I 'won' or had power over him. I'm honestly just exasperated. I think he only misses me because he's lonely. He spent the past 6 months drinking, partying, and hooking up with a ton of girls. And he probably feels guilty about how we last ended things. Basically I don't think he's trying to initiate a conversation with me for the right reasons. \n\nI want to talk to him because I kind of pity him. I feel sorry that he's not in a great place right now, and I want to help him. On some level, I do miss him, just not romantically. I miss talking to him as a friend. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting hurt again. I have ZERO desire to get back together with him. I know I can do better than how he was treating me. And he has a lot of personal shit to work out before he's ready for a relationship anyway. I guess I'm just afraid the old feelings I had for him might somehow creep up again. \n\nShould I stick with NC? Or should I respond to him?", "summary": "Ex contacted me, I'm not interested in getting back together with him but I do want to talk to him because I miss him as a friend. Is it worth the risk?"}
{"id": "t3_3g13m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18F) and I (20M) think that she is pregnant. We are woefully unprepared for parenthood.", "post": "First, she's been taking Lutera, and that has been our only form of birth control. I've come to find out that she takes it at different times each day, which, according to Google, can reduce Lutera's effectiveness.\n\nSecond, she is still a week from her next period, so we can't effectively use a pregnancy test. If she is pregnant, it would have almost certainly happened the night that her last period ended (three weeks ago), as we've only had PIV sex once since then (two days later) and I did not finish inside of her. We suspect that she is pregnant because she has constant nausea and headaches, she is spotting, her breasts are tender, and her nipples have darkened. She is visiting the doctor today for unrelated reasons, but I trust that she will address these concerns, as well. While we know that it's not a sure thing, I'm accepting it as fact until we can take the test.\n\nNow, where I need advice: she wants to keep the child and be a parent, though she would consider letting the child be adopted. I've made it clear to her that I'd strongly prefer that she end the pregnancy, and that my second preference would be to give the baby to a couple looking to adopt, but that, if she does keep it, I'll give it everything that I can. I've also told her that it will be some time before I'm able to forgive that decision, if that's the one that she makes.\n\nI am a college student with about 50 credits under my belt, so my degree (Computer Science) is still a couple of years away. She is in hair school, with approximately 17 months to go. Assuming we are pregnant, what steps should we be taking, starting today, to ensure the best life possible for the child?", "summary": "I might be a dad and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3h2ccf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [31F] bought me [29M] an expensive gift she knew I didn't want", "post": "For context, I'm currently living in Japan. There are two styles of bed here; Japanese (which is a soft futon laid directly on the floor and folded away during the day) and Western (big wooden frame+mattress+boxspring). My apartment is pretty small, so I opted for the Japanese style bed which gave me space to walk around during the day. My girlfriend kept pushing for me to get a Western style bed, but I told her several times that it was too big and would be more of a burden than anything.\n\nToday I get a surprise delivery of a massive bed frame, boxspring, and side table. I'm in a tiny Tokyo studio and combined this furniture is going to take up about half of my living area. I'm pretty upset since I told her repeatedly that I didn't want it. She said she thinks it'll make me happy.\n\nI looked up the company's website and the cost of shipping it back plus restocking is about $150. I don't know why I feel so angry. She's really excited about it so I'm doubly in trouble if I reject the gift. But bumping into it every day, not being able to walk in my apartment anymore...I don't know. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend bought me something she knew I didn't want, can't return it without steep expense."}
{"id": "t3_344r5h", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Interview follow up advice", "post": "Hi guys, this is my first post so be nice please.\n\nApplied for a job (my dream job) in a competitors car dealership as the Service Manager (same as my current role but for a better manufacturer). I got called in for an interview with the dealership principal a few days later. The interview went well and he said that he'd get back to me in a few days. A week later he called me in for another interview with the other manager I'll be working alongside to see if we'd get along (we did). He thanked me and said I'll get back to you before Thursday night. It's now Tuesday afrternoon and I haven't heard. There has been a lot going on at the dealership including a funeral. How long do I wait to call?", "summary": "waiting to hear back about if I was succesful in a job interview, how long do I wait before I call?"}
{"id": "t3_ddwev", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Living a cat alone in the house for 2 -3 days", "post": "During the summer me and my wife leave the house on the weekends  and go the country side. We do this at least once a month and we usually leave Friday afternoon or Saturday morning  and return on Sunday afternoon. This time last year our cat was only 4 months old so we took him with us but we had to leave him inside the house most of the time because he would simply wander off too far and that area is filled with dogs and is quite dangerous for a house cat. As he is now older it will be much harder to keep him inside and house nevermind catching him if he escapes.\n\nNow that he is one year old I am thinking of just leaving him at home (in the city) and was wondering if anyone has any idea how that kind of thing would affect him. He is usually at home most of the time but I do leave a window open in the daytime so that he can go out to the terrace or to the roof. I can't do this if I am not at home so the window will be left closed.", "summary": "Anything I should know about leaving the cat home alone for 48 - 72 hours for the first time?"}
{"id": "t3_eemtu", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "PA redditors:  I need advice for driving across your state.", "post": "Hi everyone, this xmas i'm driving from CT to columbus, OH.  I usually take 84 up toward scranton ( to avoid nyc traffic) then down 380 to I 80 and drive on that for 3 million years. I generally have been able to set the cruise at 80-85mph on I80 with no tickets so far. I haven't driven this in the winter though.  I'm thinking that road conditions might be marginally better on I 76 & I 70 since those roads are further south. Can anyone comment on traffic, probable road conditions, and rate of travel on I70/76 vs I80?  'preciate it.", "summary": "drive on I80 or I70/76 to cross PA in winter?"}
{"id": "t3_31is9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me a [18m] first year university sudent fell for another [18f] 2 months everything has been going well except she moved away, to study a different degree.", "post": "Like the title says we went to uni together, we stayed at the same college. We got to know each other quite well. We became very good friends and the relationship started escalliting quite quickly.  We had a few fights while we were together at college, nothing to big. \n\nWe were both looking to study dentistry in the future, little did we know we both received different late offers from different universities. \n\nI decided I wanted to stay in my current course to experience it and confirm what I want to do in the future and expeience college life as I would be moving back with my parents. \n\nShe decided to take it, and moved of out. She is enjoying her course, we talk daily via Skype to try keep the relationship going. We've made plans to travel to one another when it's convenient for both of us so we can meet. I want to try make it into the same uni she is in just so we can be together. \n\nI would say I am fairly good looking as I have been chased after quite often by the other gender. I have had quite a few flings through out my life and early days of uni. \n\nI have been out to the club's and tried picking up girls to get my mind off her. I have been successful but I don't feel satisfied so before we got anywhere serious I kicked her out. I'm not sure if this is because of how much I liked this pervious girl and I miss her, or its my regret of not doing what I truly want. \n\nI like to think it is the first, I told her about it. She has been the first and last thing on my mind since the first day I met her. Talking over Skype she keeps dropping hints that she wants a long distance relationship. I want this to work out for us, even if it means me moving half way across the country to be with her.", "summary": "we met at college, she moved away to study dentistry. She wants a long distance relationship, I want to move to be with her next year."}
{"id": "t3_2hoxky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] of 1 month, decided to try build a relationship on honesty. But I can't tell if she's not or I'm just being paranoid.", "post": "Some back story.\n\nAbout a year ago I went on a couple of dates with my now girlfriend. I didn't want anything serious, at the time, so I kind of allowed it to fizzle out.\n\nSo she was a little pissed with me for leading her on, which is perfectly understandable. This summer we bumped into each other after some fairly major events had happened in my life, and I sincerely apologized to her, to which she told me that was all she needed to hear. So went on a couple dates again and I asked her to go out with me. To which she agreed! Hurrah!\n\nIn doing this we agreed that there was to be no more half-measures and beating around the bush type things and that we needed to be honest with each other completely. \n\nSo I told her about the major life events that had happened me and some things from my past etc. etc. and it was all a big emotional conversation. \n\nSo we've been going out for just over a month now and we had a big talk about sex. What we like, don't like, what we want all the basics. \n\nAnd it eventually came around to the topic of what our \"Number\" was. She asked me mine and I told her and then I asked her what hers was, to which she replied; \"I can't remember\". Which shocked me a little.\n\nNow, in my mind, she either has genuinely had had so much drunken sex she can't remember. Or she just doesn't want to tell me because it's potentially very high and she's embarrassed perhaps. \n\nAnd the thing is I don't care either way, because we have been honest with each other up to this point. I am very happy. But it's more that she doesn't have a reason. She just can't remember. \n\nSo what are people's opinions? Am I being paranoid or is there a potential cause for a lie? Thanks!", "summary": "Relationship based on honesty. GF is, potentially, not being honest about number of sexual partners. Not that I care about the number. I just care that she's not being honest. It hurts a little :("}
{"id": "t3_o97rq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Too early to ask girlfriend to move in?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 years now (we are both in our early 20s), and I just asked her to move in with me.  I own my house and currently have a roommate.  If she moves in, I will ask my roommate to move out, costing me that monthly income.  If necessary, I can support the household by myself (I work in IT and am still in school), but that would put a serious strain on me.  She would pitch in, but it wont be too much, so it will probably still be just me paying for the house.  So my question is this, am I right in feeling this anxiety about asking her to move in (fiscally and emotionally), should I not pursue it anymore, or am I just being a dumbass?", "summary": "Should I ask my long time GF to move in"}
{"id": "t3_4u6h4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "16M needing advice for talking to someone", "post": "Hey guys, hope everyone is doing well. So I need a little bit of advice. There is a girl who I used to go to school with when I was in Elementary School, while this was indeed a while ago, we were pretty good friends. Anyways, I've started taking a notice to her.\n\nI haven't spoken to her in a long time, but despite this, she likes my Instagram posts and IMHO, that could mean something. I live in a small town, but it isn't small enough that you know absolutely everyone.\n\nSo basically the only way I still know of her is because she likes my Instagram photos, it isn't much but for the state of our relationship rn, it certainly raises my eyebrow. So, what would be the best way and least awkward way to start talking to her, only way I could talk to her is 1. I see her in real life and have one of those \"Oh hey long time no see\" talks or 2. DM her on IG or finally 3. Message her on  Facebook (She rarely uses it) She is really pretty and I think I am sorta wanting to talk to her again. Thanks everyone.", "summary": "I need help talking to a girl who I knew in elementary school. She has liked basically every picture I have posted on Instagram it has raised suspicion, how do I start talking to her?"}
{"id": "t3_29yvjh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is 10 lbs a lost cause?", "post": "I will start by saying that I am not overweight. I push it, but I don't officially fall into that category. I'm 5'5\" F and I stabilize in the low to mid 140s. I have been this weight for as long as have been this height. I would love to get down to 130 for various reasons besides just my clothes fitting better. \n\nHere's where things get tricky: I have some intestinal issues. Can't go high protein/high fat, can't eat large meals, can't juice. I also have vitamin and mineral deficiencies as a result, which means I'm ALWAYS HUNGRY. I've also gone from my intense workouts in high school and college to just basic 30 min stuff because of exhaustion. \n\nSadly, my disease isn't bad enough to qualify for a dietitian (wtf, right?) and I can't afford much of anything out of pocket. \n\nDoes anyone have any similar experiences or advice? Also, no body acceptance please. I wouldn't be here if I wanted to be told to accept myself.", "summary": "Want to lose 10lbs, have medical issues, can't afford doctors or coaches or whatever. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_hx683", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ever played \"I found your phone?\"", "post": "The lady in question couldn't attend an amazing party last night, and was hell-bent on preventing me from attending said event.  Fun with morning-after texts:\n\nHer: Did you go to the party last night?\n\nMe:  Not really.\n\nHer: WHAT?  What means \"not really\"?\n \nMe:  Not really.  I just walked in to steal a phone. \n\nHer:  This isn't Richard?\n\nMe:  Who is Richard?  Was Richard the liquid dude dancing on the tables--buying everyone Beam Sours?  The drunk half-naked dude?\n\nHer: WHAT!  What the hell are you talking about?\n\nMe:  I just borrowed a phone.  I'm a little broke so I'm trying to access the accounts now.  Are you the naked hottie in the pictures?  You've got a nice butt.  \n\nHer:  Please tell me that this is Richard?  \n\nMe:  Don't know no Richard.  Tell ya, I shudd'a stolen a better phone.  The songs suck and there's almost no cash in the accounts.  Might mail it back.  Will keep the pictures though.  Would like to tap that *butt.*\n\nHer:  I don't think that that is *my* butt.  Must be *another* girl.\n\nMe:  It's says *Alicia* in the watermark.  Do you know her then?  I'd like to get in touch.  Wait... I found the number here.   *dialing...", "summary": "Pretending to have her bf's phone, stolen from a party that he wasn't supposed to attend."}
{"id": "t3_1pflpv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "21 years old, college student, and extremely happy with my life", "post": "I am in my third year of university studying computer science. I am absolutely in love with my life at university. I am involved in a few different organizations I never thought i would join. I am doing extremely well financially. This year I will make about 25K between scholarships, work, and rebate checks, after taxes. I have about 36000 saved currently, spread across multiple investments. Stocks, Bonds, Roth IRA, and pure cash in bank accounts. I have a wonderful girlfriend I have been dating for a year and a half. I guess I just wanted to write how I am pretty happy with where my life is at the moment. I have great friends, great family, and an exciting lifestyle. A few years ago I never would have expected myself to be in this position, but I like where I am. I have my fair share of stresses and downs.", "summary": "life is pretty good right now."}
{"id": "t3_2r1vcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23/F] be more supportive to him [23/M] or are my drunk instincts right? 1yr+ together", "post": "Okay so I've [23/F] been going out with this guy [23/M] for just over a year, things have generally been good but its always been apparent that he likes me a bit more than I like him. \n\nWe get on really well and he always makes me smile but lately he's been going through a hard time and although I have tried (and i believe generally succeeded in) being supportive I find it really hard to do, hes changed, become a lot more vulnerable and dependent and a bit more cynical (or maybe i just didn't notice the cynicism before?). \n\nI find myself missing the single life and our relationship (at least on my side) become more and more just about being sexual than the connection we used to have. \n\nI tried ending things recently (a bit spur of the moment after too many drinks) but once sober we talked a lot and decided to stay together as I do have a lot of feelings for him still and would miss him a lot.\n\nA lot of little things have also started bugging me when I know they shouldn't.\nI have generally quit in relationships in the past when things got hard and have been trying not to do this as again. \n\nHe is quite insecure at the moment and feels like he doesn't deserve me so i find it hard to discuss things at times, though I think hes noticed I'm pulling away from him. My question is should I just stop being selfish and try to be more supportive? Or was I right to try and end things?", "summary": "Boyfriend is going through tough times and as a result has changed. I don't know if I feel the same way about him now, should I stick with him or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3b835s", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "ELI5: Domestic Partnerships, Health Insurance and \"Gross Up\" by Employer", "post": "I recently started a new job that provides pretty good health insurance. After looking over the plan, my partner and I realized my insurance was better than his. So we went through all the steps to have him added to my plan as my opposite sex domestic partner. \n\nThis week I got my first (bi-weekly, if that matters) paycheck. In the pay stub, I can see that they added roughly $300 under my earnings (so I see my actual pay as one line item, and then below that is \"DP Inc No St\" as a second line item). Further down on the statement, I see that they then backed out the $300 with the same \"DP Inc No St\". \n\nIt seems like I was given the value of his insurance, taxed on it, then they took it back. I have been trying to read up on this and discuss with HR, but it is still not 100% clear to me-is adding him to my plan going to hurt me in the long run when I file taxes, or is it going to even out because they \"grossed up\" my pay at the top of my statement?\n\nI want to help him out so he can have good insurance, but I am not sure if this is a good idea or not and all the giving me money then taking it away is confusing me. My HR department didn't really know how to explain it that well, but implied that it was a benefit to me that they were doing it this way. \n\nTo make it slightly more complicated, this paycheck was playing catch up from not having his paperwork in on time for my first paycheck, so I believe the $300 is for the whole month and not just one pay period, though I won't know for sure til I get a check in 2 weeks.", "summary": "Added DP to health insurance at work and would like more information on \"gross up\" of my pay by my employer"}
{"id": "t3_4savdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my wife [23 F] of 5 years, she sent pics", "post": "So she sent nude pics to a friend of hers that she has a history with that always tries to sexualize things. To my knowledge she never as done anything like this before though and has been honest about his advances. \n\nShe told me what happened and is claiming she doesn't even really remember it. She does have black outs and deals with a lot of mental problems. But she was honest, told me that he claimed she did it, and when she got evidence she was honest with me.\n\nWe have been through A LOT and I have always been very forgiving. I've had stuff thrown at me, I've been belittled, and in some sense now betrayed. Usually I let things go pretty fast because I knew she had issues going into this marriage...but this one has me so f-ing mad. I've blown up on her a few times since she told me and I'm being snappy at work. \n\nI want things to work because we have kids. I don't have the means to put them into daycare either. And oh yeah...regardless of everything I love her unconditionally....but when is enough enough? \n\nI don't know what to do. I love her and don't want her to leave. If I do ask her to leave she has no where to go but her Dad's which is the definition of a shit hole. I'm worried too if I do end things she is at a risk to kill herself or at least sink to a point where it isn't good to have her around the kids. She has worked so hard to be a good person despite having such a rough childhood. She is willing to work on things, and said she'll live with any consequences. \n\nUgh wtf Reddit. What should I do?", "summary": "Seriously? Ok my wife sent nudes to another dude and now I don't know how to not have my world implode."}
{"id": "t3_1affr2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If being gay is not a \"choice\" how can this be proved?", "post": "I have been on reddit for a while but just thought of this now (probably helps that I am high), but from my findings most gay people are atheist. Atheist hold science up on a pedestal and believe the findings to be true and use it to answer most of the questions they may have regarding our Earth. But answer me this: Most gay people will state that being gay is not a \"choice\", but rather they are born that way. Why not have science prove this. If science can explain how the universe came into existence and that it was not just magical spawning of floating rocks by a big dude in the sky who looks like santa clause in a toga why can't it explain why men are attracted to men and women are attracted to women? \n\nUnlike diseases and virus' with very small occurances that may be hard to explain or there is no explaination, with being a homosexual there is more than just a handful of cases out there.", "summary": "Can science finally prove that being gay is not a \"choice\", but rather an actually deformity within the brain of said homosexual person."}
{"id": "t3_tre4s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I being shallow Reddit? How should I proceed?", "post": "A few months ago I met this amazing girl who is probably the coolest person I know, we have a painful amount of things in common and she has one of the greatest personalities I've ever come across!\n\nSo this girl has a great personality, an amazing sense of humor, an extremely cute face, and a huge passion for what she does. \n\nAs much as I want to be in a relationship with her I can't shake this feeling... She is really underweight (not anorexic, I've seen her eat, she just has a stupidly fast metabolism) and as a result she is really lacking in the breasts department. I just have the worst feeling that her body might not do it for me sexually, which would end badly.\n\nWe've gone on dates and done the kissing and such and I really feel like loo bought be leading her on. \n\nSo what's the verdict Reddit? Am I to shallow? Should loo go for it? forget about it? Give me your\nopinions!", "summary": "merry a great girl whom is really like to go out with however she is slightly lacking in the tits department and I'm worried she won't do it for me sexually, what say the?"}
{"id": "t3_14m9wf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Please me please!", "post": "I know Damien since 2005 ( we are both 22) and we have been friends since then. We are like best friends, or even more. I met Bryan (21) in 2010. We were very close friends but then we stopped talking because his then girl friend was jealous of our friendship.\n\nDamien is away from the country for 3 years now. He is coming home by next week. Since he left, we have always been talking on skype, sms every single day and we are almost like a couple but this has never been not official. People would see his wall posts on my wall and always asked whether we were together.\n\nIn April this year, i met Bryan in a concert. I added him on facebook and he confessed that since we stopped talking ( i deleted him afterwards), he always thought about me, and he even subscribed to my profile.\n\nEach time i tried to ask Damien where we were in our relationship, i felt like he was pushing me away. Meanwhile, Bryan told me that he doesn't want to lose me again and suggested that we could begin a LDR, since he is studying abroad, and coming home next year. We are like together since the past two weeks now.\n\nToday i was lying on the couch, Damien sent me a sms, telling me that he is drunk and he wants to tell me that I mean the world to him, he really loves me and can't wait to have sexy times with me.\n\nWhen I thought about it, I realized that i have feelings for both of them. I have no idea what to do. I know Damien for so long, and we are like an open book for each other. Bryan is like my similar, we have like SO much in common :) \n\nI never had sex before, and I don't want to have sex with Damien, just because i am getting intense just because i am seeing him after so long. Bryan knows that i am a virgin and told me that he can't wait to be my first. I feel like i love both of them. Is that even possible? How should i deal with this?", "summary": "have feelings for two guys. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_9qj2s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit -- I'm a recent college grad bored out of my skull. How do I fulfill my intellectual appetite in the real world?", "post": "I recently graduated from college (a small liberal arts school in PA), and I think I'm going to go get a Ph.D. in Political Science in a couple of years. I'm comfortable that I'm an intellectual geek at heart. For now, though, I'm making a pit stop in the real world. I'm in New York City, and just finished running the field operation of a (losing) City Council campaign, which held my attention for a while.\n\nBy now, though, my intellectual appetite and my desire to learn new things is getting to be unbearable. What should I do to sate it? You're all fellow geeks. How do you all keep your brains occupied?\n\nShould I take classes somewhere? Any organizations that would appeal to me? A few ground rules:\n\n* For now, going to school full time is not an option for a few reasons (financial and personal).\n\n* I think I need something structured. I don't think I have the focus to self-teach anything. Classes, groups, organizations, clubs, etc.\n\n* My degree's in political science, but I love learning new things. I was once called \"the most enthusiastic Astro 001 student ever.\" But these pursuits don't have to be strictly academic.", "summary": "I'm a geek and I'm bored now that I've graduated. How do I make myself feel smart again?"}
{"id": "t3_sir50", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is my GF of three years playing me untrue?", "post": "I love my GF soooo much, but lately I have been getting the feeling that she is cheating on me. We use to have sex 6 to 10 times a week, less if she was mad at me, but now it has tapered down to practically nothing. I am talking four times a week max. Lately I have been browsing [/r/nofap](/r/nofap), so I should be really attractive to her right now, but I am feeling the opposite. Anyway, the reason I am suspicious is because she has been texting a ton, but not to me. I also caught her taking nude pics in the shower. When I asked her what she was doing, she said she deletes them afterwards and just does it to boost her confidence and make her feel sexy. The last thing that makes me nervous is that she has been hanging out a ton with this guy from work. She says she isn't into him, and whenever I ask about it, she gets super defensive and we don't have sex for at least two days. What should I do? I am worried about bringing it up because she can get so crazy. Thanks.", "summary": "GF is being sketch, but I still love her. Sex life has gone down the drain."}
{"id": "t3_3d5853", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not interpreting hints from a girl", "post": "So this happened a few years back but I just remembered it and just recently started using Reddit.\n\nBack during uni, I was in class with a pretty cute girl and we decided to team up for a school project. She was always trying to make physical contact with me and close to the end of the project she invited me to her house to complete the project. \n\nWe started working on the project and just chatting when she randomly pulls out a picture of a girl giving a blowjob on her laptop. She asks me if that looks like her. I said not really and continued to work on the project. Few weeks later after the class had ended, I realized my fk up. She was trying to get with me and that's why she would invite me to her house, try to touch me, etc. Only problem is I am quite possibly the biggest idiot in the world when it comes to reading/understanding women.", "summary": "girl wanted to be with me and couldn't say it bluntly and I never picked up her cues because I am thickheaded."}
{"id": "t3_2pby9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Often not attracted to [20M] girlfriend of 3 months [20F]", "post": "We were good friends for a couple years, so finally being able to date her was like a dream come true. I realize now that most of my attraction to her came from our chemistry, and me wanting something that I couldn't have. \n\nSince starting dating we've had a tough time. Lots of petty arguments, but we're working on things together. What's been bothering me lately is that I've started to find myself unattracted to her physically and mentally. It's worth noting that our sex life is pretty great, have sex a couple times a day and we're both happy with it. She doesn't wear much makeup/dress nicely a lot of the time, and I tend to dress a little sharper and make sure I'm looking good.\n\nI realize that in a relationship you can't always be expected to be look perfectly, and that's fine, but I think this goes beyond the way she dresses. She's gained a bit of weight too.\n\nIt's not purely physical, either. She often is overly emotional/clingy. She doesn't handle stress well and when we work together she often is rude to me and cries. Last night we were at a party together and as soon as a few girls (who were fairly attractive) walked in she was all over me (arm around me, trying to kiss me, etc). When we got home she was crying because she felt so insecure around other \"pretty\" girls and felt very inadequate. I assured her I was attracted to her, and tried to tell her it's silly to worry about things like that. I'd be fine with this, but she doesn't do it normally. Just when she feels threatened, I guess.\n\nAll this has kinda added up, and I'm not sure how to feel. I find myself looking at other women, though I know I'd never ever cheat on her. I don't know what I would say to her, if anything, or what I should do.", "summary": "Not attracted to my girlfriend physically/mentally as much as I was, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_23s375", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering sex toys adressed to my mother", "post": "My neighbours who usually accept my packages are on vacation so I knew I had get my orders shipped to my parents for the next few weeks. No problem, it's not like they would open any packages that are adressed to me.\n\nMy girlfriend and I recently started exploring our kinkier sides which led to me ordering a riding crop from amazon. I've had stuff shipped to my parents before so I just had to select the stored adress and hit send. The package was in my hallway yesterday when I got off work and I noticed that it was actually adressed directly to my mother but the package seemed intact. \"That was a close one\" I thought.\n\nCut to today, I'm on the phone with my mom thanking her for dropping off my package so quickly when she tells me \"My name was on it so I opened it but I saw it wasn't for me so I thought it must be yours\". I managed to get out the words \"you opened it?\" to avoid the uncomfortable silence and buy me time to process what happened and find a way to change topics.\n\nUnder other circumstances I probably would have found a smoother segue than \"... soo, you still doing zumba?\".", "summary": "Sent mom a riding crop even though she has no interest in equestrian sports."}
{"id": "t3_11t57o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Depressed girlfriend is unstable, I don't want to continue with the relationship but I think i'm hurting her, help?", "post": "I am 26/m she is 26 we've been together for 3 weeks and we dated for like 4 months, met each other a couple of years ago. \n\nBefore we started dating seriously she told me she was taking an antipsychotic medication and an antidepressant for the treatment of guess what?... Depression! We've having a good time but I've been losing interest because her mood is increasingly bad and negative, I know it's due to depression but I don't want to be with her anymore, I'd like to keep being there for her, to support her but I don't want to keep going with this relationship.\n\nYesterday she got mad at me because she wanted me to pick her up from work and I refused because I was tired. Today she broke up with the through whatsapp (she completely overreacted), but I was kinda happy about it and tried to have a good day smoking weed and playing videogames but after a couple of hourse she texted me saying she regretted breaking up.\n\nShe tried to talk to me but I didn't answered any phone calls or text messages until she mentioned through one of them that she wasn't \"feeling ok\" so I called her immediately and she became very obsessive. For the last 2 hours I've been trying to persuade her from coming to my house but it's turning into a bad argument, she is saying \"I'm not gonna hurt you\", I don't know what to do, I think I've handled this quite bad and I want to do something about because it's my responsibility but I don't know exactly what I should do. Help!", "summary": "Gf diagnosed with depression broke up with me, regrets it and wants to see me, I don't want to, she is being QUITE obsessive, I want to help her but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_261apo", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I talk to my friend about her problems conceiving? [M27]", "post": "My best friend of fifteen years is trying for a baby. I'm really happy that she's doing this, as my girlfriend isn't at that stage yet, but I love kids.\n\nShe has been actively trying for almost a year, but in that time she's thoroughly researched the entire process. Cycle monitoring, ovulation testing, positive fertility testing.\n\nBut the fact that she hasn't been successful is really hard on her, and the monthly disappointment leaves her devastated for a few days every time.\n\nThis probably wouldn't be a huge issue for me if it weren't for the fact that in the whole time I've known her, I've never seen her seriously struggle with anything. No problem she's ever faced has been beyond her control, and she has always overcome it. And to watch her be defeated by something, something she cannot control, it's really hard. I don't know how to comfort her because she's never really needed comforting.\n\nI know that a year isn't that long on the trying time-scale, but the effort she's put in and the difficult reality that may be looming on the horizon is so demoralising that she's pretty sure she's going to stop trying soon.\n\nAnd I don't want her to stop trying, I want to encourage her to keep going, but that's also encouraging her to go through this heartbreak over and over.\n\nI'm kind of the only person she really talks to about it, and I just don't know how to deal with this.", "summary": "I don't know how to deal with my friend and hero being emotionally destroyed by trying to have a baby."}
{"id": "t3_15r8uy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever overheard someone talking trash in another language they assumed none would understand?", "post": "I was at Applebee's with my mom waiting to be seated. There was 4 older German woman (65-75+) laughing & shit talking in German about people in the restaurant. This heavy set woman & skinny guy walked in to be seated & they all started laughing muttering things like \"imagine those two fucking, is it even possible!\" & all sorts of harsh comments as if they were having a normal laughing chatty conversation.\n\nMy mom would say nothing but just kept a straight face. I don't know much German so I said to the woman \"willst du nich mit mir spass machen? ick bin fhergul\" thus means \"don't you want to make fun with me? I'm a piglet\" ... I'm skinny, I have no idea why I said piglet.\n\nThey just laughed & requested we join in on the fun & rambled off and started to count how many fat people were around. Another fat woman walks in & they all burst out laughing saying they found another one. If I didn't understand German, I would have assumed they were friendly old woman, chatting harmless stuff, nope.", "summary": "Old German ladies talking trash & laughing at fat people at Applebee's"}
{"id": "t3_voc1v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, my state is ablaze. Please help raise some awareness about the terrible wildfires happening in Colorado.", "post": "This has been on our local news for quite a while sometime, and there was even a story on The Nightly News with Brian Williams that is nationally aired. [Seen here](\n\nThat was two days ago. Since then a record breaking heatwave here, (putting us 100\u00b0F and over five days straight) and fast winds contributing to our already dry summer have caused it to get drastically worse. [This is a video from today](\n\nThere are more fires everyday, and [here] on our local news webpage is a list of all of them. Some of the main ones that have effected thousands of families and homes already and are continuing to burn are the High Park Fire (Ft. Collins) The Waldo Canyon Fire (Colorado Springs) and just today the Flagstaff Fire (Boulder)\n\nIt has caused individual communities to band together and help out those evacuating and those that have already lost their homes. Now it is becoming a statewide effort to aid those effected by the fires. Another link from the Denver Post has information on how to assist victims by donating or even volunteering your time [here] at the bottom of the page.\n\nFamilies are being evacuated from their homes, and some wont have ones to go back to. Firefighters are working endless hours in the grueling heat trying to save structures and extinguish the flames. All I am asking is for this to get some more publicity, so that these people can get help. This is a throwaway and a self post, I don't want the karma. I just want my state to stop burning.\n\nFeel free to use the donation links if you can, send some positive thought out to victims and families of the vicitms. Hell if you know how to do a good rain dance that could even help.", "summary": "Colorado is on fire, please try and help if you can Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2f6x5v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not ready for a relationship yet or just not interested? [17/M] and [17/F]", "post": "I am 17 years old and have recently been hitting it off with a girl I really like. We text and Snapchat daily, with conversations often extending late into the night and touching on some fairly risqu\u00e9 subjects. We are usually pretty flirty during class and passing periods and have hung out several times alone outside of school as well. Last night, however, I found myself in a pretty odd situation. While watching a movie together, I went to grab her hand as I already had my arm around her shoulder, but was surprised to see her pull it out of my reach. I kept my arm in place for the remainder of the film, but did not make another move for fear of being rejected once again. Later that night, I received a text from her apologizing for \"being weird\" saying she had just broken up with her boyfriend two weeks prior. She then went on to tell me she really enjoys hanging out with me, but did not \"want to get into anything too soon.\" Is this just a polite way of her telling me she is not interested in me or is she saying that she is not ready for a relationship yet, but there is a possibility of us dating in the future? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Is she not ready for a relationship yet or just not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_2pu47n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at my sister's Ipad without asking", "post": "So today I decided to look at my sister's ipad while she is at work and accidentally hit the mail app.  I noticed that when I hit it, it caused new mail notifications.  Checking the settings I realized it only checks for new notifications when you open the app.  Oh fuck! I don't want her to think I'm snooping around her mail!  So I started trying to come up with ways to clear that notification badge on the mail app.  I think, what if I view the new emails, exit the app, then mark them as unread on her computer!  That'll work right?  Wow, am I stupid.  I go into her room and check her laptop to see if she is logged in.  Then I notice just how dirty her room is.  Absolutely filthy.  She lives alone and I am just visiting her.  I notice not only how filthy but I see her... toys... and several bottles of lube.  Instantly I realize how fucking stupid I am for coming in here.  She always get's mad if anyone even comes near her room.  Normal people do not snoop around like this.  I can't leave any evidence!\n\nSo I'm panicking because I have no idea when she is coming home.  I remove the webpage from her browser history and check her settings to see how long it takes to go back into sleep mode.  Four hours... fuck...  What the fuck am I going to do?  Then I notice that it takes 5 minutes to go into sleep mode from battery power.  So I unplug it from the charger and leave the room.  Now to deal with the ipad.  I figure out through amazing luck that you can cancel out the badge notification by turning it off and then back on through the notification settings.  I plug her laptop back in after 5 minutes and relief washes over me.  Still I won't know if she figures anything out until after she gets home so I am still super anxious.  What the fuck all I wanted to do was play peggle.", "summary": "Tried to play peggle, accidentally found sister's sex toys, hopefully I covered my tracks"}
{"id": "t3_2qyj6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my FWB [ 25F] of 3 years, concerned about hanging out on NYE", "post": "I have had a FWB relationship for about 3 years.  We do not talk that much but see each other once or twice a month.  We will often go a month or so without communicating.  Then she'll come over have a few drinks, spend the night and go home.\n\nWe initially dated but I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship.  She was upset and then apparently got over it.  When she comes by we have a good time.  We do get along and enjoy talking to one another.  \n\nWell her New Years plans fell through and she wants to hang out.  I have plans but I am not really into them.  My concern is that if I spend a holiday with her, will she get the wrong idea?  I know some women put special emphasis on having someone around on a big holiday.  I do not mind entertaining her so she isn't alone, I just do not want her thinking I want a relationship.  She has been coming over a bit more frequently over the last couple of months after a longish absence.", "summary": "Will my FWB get the wrong idea if I spend NYE with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2it0v2", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Weird treadmill performance issues, help !!", "post": "Here's some context: I'd consider myself an advanced runner, typically about 2000 miles a year when healthy, which is most of the time.\n\nI've never really worried about real speed as I'm coming from the ultra world. Lately I've done a few marathons and want to work on speed (qualifying for Boston). Since my transition, the fastest I've ever dropped 10 miles is right under 7min pace (outdoors) until recently....\n\nI'm 3 months back post injury (why I'm taking time off the ultra circuit) and have been doing about %20 of my training inside.  Most of my outdoor tempo runs are around paced around 715 a mile and that's pretty taxing...but these treadmill runs...Wtf..\n\nOf course you've got the elements outside...wind, heat, elevation...but something else is going on.  When running inside I always run on a 1.0 incline to simulate outdoors, but even with that, I'm dropping 9 mile runs in less than an hour (635ish pace), and that's with a 745 warm up mile worked in there. Outdoors my fastest miles are right under 7, indoor I'm dropping multiple miles well under 630\n\nI know there is going to be a difference, but we're talking minutes, not seconds.  Do you think it's mental, or do others out there experience the same.  Even though it's still not crazy fast, It really makes it difficult to pace myself during races with such a vast performance difference.", "summary": "My treadmill runs are unusually fast, even on an incline and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_fgrd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I love you?", "post": "I have never said I love you to any of my girlfriends. My definition of love is accepting all that one person's flaws as positive aspects as that person would not be who they are without them, butterflies, complete comfort, and some other things. This takes quite some time in my opinion. But one girl I was/am interested in believes otherwise. Things were going well between us, then the ball suddenly dropped. We stopped seeing each other suddenly before I could ask her to be my girlfriend. Later I found out she fell in love with another guy as I heard from her friend. I asked her a month later what she thought love was, and she believed in the whole 'love at first sight.' I feel this is an incredibly childish way to think about love, so I feel/felt torn. I like the girl still, but at the same time, I convince myself I could not be with someone so emotionally immature.", "summary": "girl I was dating believe in love at first sight. I think of it as childish."}
{"id": "t3_2y5wmk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/f] am thinking about getting back with my ex [25/m] who was sometimes abusive", "post": "Throwaway account because I'm expecting a few rude or negative comments.\n\nBasically my ex and I dated when I was 18, he was 22. He had a very bad drinking problem. Sometimes he would get physical with me after he had been drinking a lot but it was only when he was drunk. When he was sober I don't think he would ever hurt me. He never hit me, only things like throwing things at me and once he grabbed me around my throat. We ended up breaking up when I left for college.\n\nNow, I'm in college, and he's back in my life. We've had lunch and dinner a few times after not speaking to each other for like a year and a half and it was really great. He's stopped drinking, he and I picked up right where we left off and I am very happy. At this point, I would love to get back together with him. He truly understands me like no one else, and he and I just connect very well. I really do see him as \"my person\".\n\nI'm worried though because he had a physical past with me. Can people really change?", "summary": "Ex was abusive with me when he was drunk. Now he's quit drinking and we want to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_3so49y", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My partners daughter doesn't live with us, we want to change that", "post": "Hi all. \n\nMy partners daughter, Emma, currently lives with her father, and his wife, they recently got married. \n\nMy partner Janet has a daughter who is 6 years old. When she and the father, Andy, split up a few years ago, her daughter went to live with Andy, as Janet had moved across the country to live with Andy when they were in the relationship, Janet wanted time to look for a job to be able to provide for her to give her a good life. \n\nFast forward to now, 3 years later, me and Janet are living together, and we get Emma every other weekend to spend time with us, since we're a few hours away, every weekend is tough. We have a great time, we go places and she has a lot of fun with us and is always sad when she has to go back home. Right now, things are OK, Janet and Andy rarely fight and are cordial when it comes to Emma. \n\nJanet is getting increasingly upset, she feels like she is getting pushed out if her daughters life, Emma calls Andys new wife \"mummy\", and they don't seem to understand that this is hurting Janet. Me and Janet have agreed that we would both like Emma to live here, but we don't know how to broach the subject with Andy and his wife,we both know that they will dig in their heels and fight us all the way, we don't want to stop her seeing her father, but Janet wants her baby back. \n\nDo any of you good people have any advice on what to do next? Has anyone been in the same situation before? I've told Janet to book an appointment with citizens advice, after that, I'm not sure what to do! We're in the UK", "summary": "partner is feeling pushed out, we want Emma to move in with us. How do we go about it? "}
{"id": "t3_2eprhc", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Tired, old question. Looking for similar stories with success. Cat scratching the heck out of carpets. Seems behavioral. Also, he's a cyborg", "post": "Hi all!\n\nSo My SO and I have a 9 (ish) yo neutered male cat. We got him from the pound and he is very mellow and friendly and quite nice.\n\nQueue the music! He has been scratching our carpet since we adopted him. Originally, we bought several types of scratching posts which he wouldn't use. Nothing. NOTHING!! Out of the blue, we bring my families cat's post (cat deceased for many years, post is all carpet, I know, not good to stop carpet scratching) over and he loves it. Won't quit, sleeps on it, loves it.\n\nSo, overnight, he goes from hating scratching posts to liking one. Don't get me wrong, he hates other scratching posts still. BUT, He will still scratch on our carpets if : A)if it's within a few hours of his feeding times.    B)He's very \"needy\" and we aren't able to devote all of our time to him   C)Fucking Randomly!?!?!\n\nIt's weird. Seems like he is trying to tell us something or demand something? I know this is a common issue which is why I'm asking if anyone has had something similar and had success with modifying the behavior", "summary": "9yoM feline, scratches carpet, finally found a (carpet) scratching post he likes, continues to scratch carpet for what seems like behavioral issues."}
{"id": "t3_3a1e5c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a healthy delicious snack.", "post": "So this literally happened no less than 5 minutes ago, but backstory first.\n\n I have a really nice garden at home and this year I decided to grow something I love to eat, Broccoli. So I work on my garden and I plant 5 stalks of broccoli in the garden (along with other delicious veggies) and one next to my garage because I had a plant left over and room to have one. \n\nA few weeks later we have a really bad frost and I lost 1/2 the plants in my garden. The broccoli survived quite well despite the frost and light snow. Not having grown it before I was impressed that it did so well. \n\nAbout a month ago disaster stuck in the form of a groundhog. All 5 plants in the garden were decimated but the one by the garage (which is closer to the bastards hole) is untouched. I rejoice and try to salvage what I can by putting a fence around the garden ones and the one by the garage. \n\n3 days ago I go out and it is time to pick the broccoli. I am excited I go and pick the broccoli take it inside wash and separate it out into the little bite size pieces I enjoy for snacking purposes put them in a little baggie for work. \n\nHere I am sitting at work today enjoying the wonderful broccoli I grew as I have 5-6 little chunks left. I look down at the bag and see something moving. A little green worm oh well cool whatever good thing I didn't eat you. Oh but look more movement on top of the bag. Curious look 1/2 of 3 of your siblings crawling out of the piece I just took a big bite from.", "summary": "What's worse than finding a worm in your apple? Finding three different halves of worm in your broccoli."}
{"id": "t3_ckmp4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, should I end a 7 year relationship?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short ... but I usually fail. (throwaway account fyi)\n\nI've seen 7 years come and go with this girl. We started dating when I was 19 and she was 18.\n\nWe are now 26 and 24. We've split (years ago), seen other people, got back together and honestly, our relationship is pretty good.\n\nWe have lived together for 3 years now and its brought us together even more than we were.\n\nThe big problem? She wants kids, I don't.\n\nIt's a big deal to her. She mastered in education and is now working for a daycare center till she finds a teaching job. Needless to say, she loves children and wants one of her own, badly. Since I usually only count with my fingers and toes, I have lost track of the times she has said, \"every year, kids leave my class and it breaks my heart. I want one of my own, so they won't leave me.\"\n\nI do not want children. I do not know if I will ever want children. Not only do I not want children for myself, I have a hard time with other peoples' kids. Even my own nephew, I can't stand. (ironically, I really like my step nephew. my blood nephew is a shit)\n\nThere are many, many reasons why I don't want kids and I could list them, but it seems pointless.\n\nBoth her and myself have had many a conversation about children, the option for children and what will happen if either her or me says \"enough is enough\" and gets the fuck out of dodge. We've talked about ending it now, but we really do love each other and don't want to break up.\n\nI'm not sure what more details to include, so I'll end here.", "summary": "I've been with a girl for 7 years and she wants kids, I very much don't want kids."}
{"id": "t3_322571", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and my roommate's [21F] boyfriend [21M] of 7 months are falling for each other.", "post": "So I live with one of my good friends in an apartment, and a couple months ago her boyfriend moved in with us temporarily as he just finished school and is looking for a permanent place. I had been friends with him before the two of them started dating, but hadn't really thought of him in a romantic way before. \n\nAnyway, the two of them fight constantly, and since I'm the only other person around, for the most part, both of them come talk to me when they're upset with the other. However, over the past month or so, her boyfriend and I have been spending a lot more time together and we've been getting along really well and he keeps hinting at things (like talking about how much he wants to cuddle with someone, or telling me how nice I look) or things like that when we're together. And both of us seem to \"accidentally\" brush up against one another or sit extra close, and the other day we were lying in his bed together and I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. \n\nI really like him, and he's acting like he really likes me, but he's also making sure to not explicitly cross any lines and doesn't seem to want to give up on his relationship, either. But the two of them seem terrible for each other and the two of us get along incredibly well. But on top of everything, we still all live together for the time being, and even though he'll be gone in a couple months, I'll still be living with her for a while. Not sure how to proceed.", "summary": "Roommate's boyfriend and I get along better than roommate and boyfriend do, but we all live together. Sitcoms haven't prepared me well enough for this."}
{"id": "t3_2mqv1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F] 2 years, she just let me know how she thinks i don't take care of her. I got blindsided. I had no idea and no idea what to think. Help.", "post": "I think the title tells you pretty well what happened. I feel absolutely heart broken. One thing I always prided myself on was how well I took care of my girlfriend and then today she drops a bomb on me. I don't understand it. I though we were perfect. I really coudln't have been happier with out relationship. Granted, this last week wasn't too great cause I was in San Francisco, but I honestly feel like it''s kind of justafiable that I wasn't able to talk or text too much, I was on vacation with my parents. She even told me just a few weeks ago that I take care of her well and that I should never worry! When I'm with her and even when not, I'm always trying to show her how much I love her. I never get mad when she fucks up, I'm understanding. I drove 3.5 hours each way several weekends already using all of my money to see her this semester. I offered to drive 7 hours in one day to pick her up so that she can have extra time at home with me and her family without her asking me. I do things like compliment and support her. When we've been together the last few months, we can't stop smiling and having a good time, at least it felt like it. I was having the best nights of my life hanging out with her. Am I just a typical dumb guy we didn't realize how shit he was at being a boyfriend because I feel like I'm pretty good. I mean, I always take her feeling into account, I'm there for her and I really do try. I just feel so heartbroken because I love her so much and I hate having messed up so bad and not really realizing it. She says I'm not luvvy-duvvy enough but I feel like I'm always saying romantic things. I give her kisses and I try to be romantic and I'm actually know for being romantic. I just don't see it and I don't know how to approach this with her. What do you guys thing?", "summary": "Like the title says. GF says she feels like I don't take care of her."}
{"id": "t3_2y6mf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[26/F] Weird that I can't accept my BF[28/M] Getting a HJ From a Masseuse", "post": "My bf went to Thailand with 6 other guys during Christmas break. I know that they party a lot and stuff, and some of them told me the massage is cheap. In my mind I didn't really think of it as anything except today I found out from one of them that those massages include \"happy ending.\" \n\nI asked my bf and he said yes he got one, just for experience. I was upset, and he said it wans't a big deal. It's part of experience and culture, and that he's merely trying to get a taste of the culture and he wouldn't do it anymore. \n\nI asked a few of my guy friends and all of them seem to be ok with it and it's not considered cheating. I feel so petty and that I got upset and angry over soemthing trivial. Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "BF got a handjob during massage sessions, he doesn't consider it cheating."}
{"id": "t3_3udyky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am having a difficult time communicating and making commitments with my [17F] friend/Girlfriend \"K\"", "post": "So I began this relationship about eight months back when we both went to a high school dance, we both went as friends for the fun of it. I hung out with her maybe once or twice in the next 4-5 moths following that. after that though, we went to another dance as friends again, but began to hang out about once a week afterwords. \nDuring that time we got closer and I could tell she defiantly had a thing for me but I wasn't looking for anything at the time. Fast forward to October and my life really went downhill and I basically began to cut everyone out of my life, including her. Between applying to colleges, doing school work, and sports I was already stretched for time, then I learned that my best friend was moving and later, has a life threatening heart condition and will be needing open heart surgery. For the past two months I haven hung out with \"K\"  or anyone( besides my friend with the heart condition) once or twice for more than two  hours at a time. I can tell this is really taking a toll on \"K\" because she thinks that I'm not into her and she is just wasting her time.\nI feel really bad about this because \"K\" has been doing all the work in this relationship (planing dates, texting me first etc.) and I just cant physical do the same for her. Every day I come home from school completely exhausted because I cant sleep at night thinking about these things and because of the size of my homework load. I don't want to be around or talk to anyone anymore. Things are getting better but I still feel the same, I really want to show her how much I love her but I need some space right now.  As well, I'm not very good at romancing in general. I asked her to hang out this Saturday and she said yes, I was wondering if that would be a good time to tell her how I feel and why I've been acting so odd lately and to apologize for being so selfish before. If anyone could give me some advice on how to proceed and save my relationship I would be incredibly thankful.", "summary": "I was hanging out with a girl who was really into me for some time, at first I wasn't really into her but now I am. About two months ago I found out that my best friend of 16 years was moving to Kentucky, and two weeks after that that he has a life threatening heart condition and needs to have open heart surgery. I cut her off for like a month or two (rarely replied to texts or hung out) But I realized that I really liked her. Now I need help explaining my situation to her and upholding my part in the relationship. We are hanging out Saturday and I was wondering if I should tell her all of this then and ask her out then."}
{"id": "t3_391g8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my ex [22 F], confused over long distance", "post": "OK, so basically to summarise. I was dating this girl for a month or so back in October, but then she had to suddenly leave the country because her mum was sick so we amicably split. However we were still talking even though we weren't really \"together\" (both of us saw other people casually since she left).\n\nI am really not a fan of long distance relationships especially when the relationship has been short and when there's no end to the \"long distance\" part in sight; however, she's planning on coming back as she has a year of uni left (which was put on hold when she left) which makes me a little more amenable, but still not super keen especially as she's kind of unreliable with being in whatever country when she says (not entirely her fault but still).\n\nI also get the impression she likes me more than I like her - my issue is that we weren't really together that long (a month or so, plus I visited for a week back in January), though we talk regularly. So I don't know how much I like her really. If she were here, there wouldn't be an issue and I would've decided one way or the other by now. I definitely do like her enough to date though, or at least while she's here.\n\nAnyway, she's pushing the issue of long distance more and more and I don't know whether I should just do it assuming she'll be back by September/October, or try to date other people in the meantime (eg my flatmates are presently trying to set me up with someone, and I've been casually talking to a couple of others). I've broken it off with everyone I saw since my ex left, and I'm pretty sure she's not seeing anyone any more either. I don't want to hurt anyone, and I don't know what to do as a result. I don't think \"see other people until she gets back and then decide\" is an option as far as she is concerned. I also don't want to lie to anyone.", "summary": "Unsure whether I should try long distance with my ex or see other people."}
{"id": "t3_1fduc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M17] loves [F15] who loves [M15]", "post": "So, back in about Nov 2010 I started talking to this girl over Facebook/text. Her and I talked a lot, I started to gain feelings for her. The problem is that I was a Freshman in High School and she was in 7th grade. I wanted to wait until she made it to the High School so we could be together. So I decided to wait for her. We didn't really know we liked each other. But we texted everyday. Everyday I felt like I gained stronger feelings for her. Sometimes we would randomly just not talk for weeks.\n\nSo in 2011 I decided to talk to another girl while I waited for her. I only spent the weekends with this girl because she was from out of town. One night, October 29th, 2011, I was with the out of town girl and I saw the girl I was waiting for. It was the first time I ever saw her. I looked over and we locked eyes, my jaw dropped. It was like the whole world disappeared and It was just her and me. I should have ran up to her and held her so tightly. But I was with the out of town girl so I didn't really think of it. After I stopped seeing the out of town girl, the girl I was waiting for got a boyfriend. She finally made it to the High School but she's still with him. She's been with him for about 1 year and 5 months now.\n\nHer and I still have really strong feelings for each other. She even went behind his back a few times so she could see me. The first time we ever hungout was March 26th, 2013, about 2 years after we started talking. I'm really serious about this girl and I will never get over her. I've been waiting to be with her for almost 3 years now. Everyday that I'm not with her is pure torture. I know it sounds stupid, but I love this girl. She's the only girl that has ever really cared about me. She's the only girl I can picture myself with. But she wont leaver her boyfriend. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm hoping someone could help me think straight.", "summary": "Been talking to a girl for 3 years. Love this girl. She's been with someone else for over a year. We still have strong feelings for one another. Very painful seeing the girl I like with someone else. Don't know what to do anymore."}
{"id": "t3_29vjee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my [17 F] 13 months together broken up for 2 months now, finding it hard to cope No contact...", "post": "Well Basically I broke up with my ex in early march, 2014 for reasons I can't even describe I felt very confused as to what I wanted. And then got back together with her because it didn't feel right being apart. It lasted about a month until she told me she was going vegan and then I basically turned into an ass and criticized her idea of wanting to go vegan. She broke up with me 2 days after the fight and said \"It has nothing to do with you, i'm just not happy in a relationship anymore and I want to focus on other things\". This broke my heart because I felt like I ruined everything, we rarely ever fought and I feel like this one fight combined with me breaking up with her first is the real reason for her leaving.. I begged and begged for her to come back and that we can work things out but she insisted there is nothing to fix because she doesn't want a boyfriend right now, I begged to the point that she finally broke and said \"we'll never be friends and definitely won't date ever again\"... Since then I've been no contact for a little over a month now and avoid all her social media like the plague. I'm wondering if I should keep being strong and learn to forgive myself for what I said or break no contact and see how it goes.. This is really hard and I dream about her every night and I feel like my heart is torn apart, I don't know what to do or how to move on from other than staying no contact, I feel really lonely without her.. So the question is should I remain no contact and keep healing or should I break no contact and try and get her back again... please help", "summary": "I think I made my girlfriend break up with me so I went no contact and i'm wondering if I should stay no contact or try again at getting her back!?"}
{"id": "t3_1wkrfk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 M] get over someone I can't avoid seeing.", "post": "I'm in the middle of fighting cancer and I'm relying on the support of a specific group of friends. Before all this I revealed feelings for one friend but she didn't feel the same and she still a core part of this group. I'm going through this mostly alone and being in this state is making moving on from my feelings for her really difficult. I want to try dating, but I'm bald right now and not very confident, plus women don't really want to date cancer patients.\n\nIt's difficult to see a lot of them outside of a specific environment, so I can't just request to not see her. I visited that mutual environment and saw some of them, they really want me to visit more, and I want to do the same. But the one broken friendship isn't repairable and I'm stuck choosing between being at home lonely, or being around my friends and running into her. I intend on spending more time with my friends, but how do I keep myself from going crazy while feeling lonely and desperate?", "summary": "How do I move on from someone that is a large part of my social/support group during this tough time?"}
{"id": "t3_19pc8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you get criticised by others for playing computer games?", "post": "I love playing games. During my time in the UK I discovered the wonders of the Internet and online gaming. Couldn't get enough of it. Sad to say, I got a little bit addicted. I would play endlessly day and night. I was currently at University (failed first year) and had a part time job as a waiter. I had a reasonable social life and a gorgeous girlfriend. My friends were also gaming enthusiast and understood the excitement and addiction of playing games online. My girlfriend on the other hand thought I was spending too much time playing games and, as a result, wasting my life away, which was true. I also wasn't giving her the attention she deserved. That was one of the main reasons why she left me. You can't blame her.\n\nThat was then. Now I'm single and have a great job working in the Oil & Gas industry. I'm no longer in the UK and am living in a country where internet is expensive and slow, particularly for internet gaming. \u00a390 for 3GB limit. That's our residential gold package. You can see our shocking internet prices and speeds from our provider [here](\n\nWith that in mind, my gaming experience has lessened due to the lack of available bandwidth and I have a thriving social life. I still play games for a few hours after work which, in my view, isn't a big deal in this day and age. Gaming is becoming more socially acceptable. However, I still get criticised for playing games even though a play them less often due to having full time job and busy social life. I enjoy winding down in the evening by killing a few zombies or leveling up Dragonborn. It's just the way I am. I feeling that every time I start playing a game people are judging me for it. Should I just put down the controller and watch boring TV from now on!?", "summary": "Playing games all the time has made you the renown geek in your group of friends. Should you stop gaming all together or stand your ground and be proud you're a casual/hardcore gamer? What have others said to you to make you think differently about gaming?"}
{"id": "t3_qu5py", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was going to propose but now we are in a slump. Do I go ahead with it anyway?", "post": "We're 27&26. Together for 3 years. Friends forever. \n\nTomorrow we are embarking on a road trip around the country. We will be on the road for nearly 2 months. I wanted to propose at the start of it. I know when I do ask the answer will probably be yes, but I'm worried about the timing. \n\nWhile we are excited about the trip, our romantic life has been in a slump the past 2 weeks. We've been working nonstop to afford this trip and we have definitely put our relationship to the test lately. Tying up the loose ends has been a pain, but I feel like things are working out fine, we're just getting antsy! The friends who are taking care of our house and pets have been a serious pain in the ass about it, so we've had a few disagreements about how to handle them, but ultimately resolved any issues. \n\nThe long hours and outside stressors have killed our sex life and we both hate it. It's been a few weeks since we've been intimate, due to a lack of energy and time. It's not that we don't WANT to, but things were getting pretty hectic. Outside of work, we both have very active personal lives and hobbies that have also been put on hold to a point so things are very disrupted. We've had a few arguments about stupid things, but it's obviously just us being frustrated about plans not going as smoothly as possible. \n\nSo, nothing too huge going on. It's just been a few weeks since we had any stress free personal time together! Even during the rough times, I know I want to be together forever. I haven't had second thoughts about getting married, just second thoughts about when I should ask. \n\nIs popping the question when things aren't 100% a bad idea? I don't want it to come off as something I am doing to \"fix\" things. I know it is just a slump and we are under a heavy load right now. I want to start our journey on the right foot. I do want our attitudes to turn around, and I think once we are out the door and the planning/prepping/waiting is over we will be able to breathe.", "summary": "Want to propose at beginning of a trip but home life is stressful at the moment. Do it anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_20hcpa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M/F] problem with my roommates... need outsider perspective", "post": "I live in a house with 4 other girls on the east coast. I'm from California, so this is my first real winter. The girls were shocked when our first heat bill came out to $260, which is quite average, and have since then been trying to conserve our heat use. We turn it down when we leave the house, which is fine. \n\nThe problem is, sometimes at night it's 20 degrees out, and it's colder than usual. My room is twice as big as the other girls' (and yes I pay much more for it). I want to turn the heat up a few degrees higher so I can study in my room, be comfortable, and get a good nights sleep, and then turn it back down once I wake up. I even have a space heater in my room, but it doesn't work very well. My perspective is, I know it costs money, but I have a right to be comfortable in my own home, which I pay quite a bit of money to live in. I know one of the other girls feels the same way.  \n\nIf they want me to pay extra for the heat bill, that's fine, but if we're going to be assholes to each other and pinch pennies, then I frankly don't feel like paying an extra $17 or so dollars per month so that others can watch TV (I do not ever watch it and would never pay for this service on my own). TV in my opinion is a luxury, not a necessity, whereas heat is not. \n\nWhat should I do reddit? Am I being unreasonable? I'm sorry my room is bigger, but I want to be comfortable in my house and it's fucking freezing.", "summary": "Roommates don't want to turn up the heat, I occasionally do, they make a big deal out of it, so I don't want to pay the TV bill."}
{"id": "t3_4t7c6b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Relationship with no sex.", "post": "So, my girlfriend of 7 years decided that she wanted be more religious and try to live \"right\" by God. She made the decision that we won't have sex until we are married (we've been engaged for 4 years). However due to a previous marriage I'm still married and we are moving to another state in 2 weeks it's gonna be 6 months before I can get divorced plus the couple months wait during the process and then a 3 month wait before I can remarry. So looking like a year with no sex with the woman I've been with for 7 years and have 2 kids with. WTF?! I can't handle this and she says that if I truly love her then I can wait. I've been one of the lucky ones who get it pretty often, it's been slowly getting less and less the last few months and then today I'm given this.... ugh idk how to deal other than masturbating constantly lol. I hate this.", "summary": "No sex for at least a year.  :("}
{"id": "t3_53ctsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 F) am trying to avoid being the rebound for a guy I like (20 M).", "post": "So let me give me some backstory on the past year of my love life before I can explain the rebound part. Anyways, in the spring of 2015 I met Andy (21 M at the time) at a college party when I was a freshman and he was a junior. He was from a neighboring and rival university about an hour and a half away. It was love at first sight for me. That night sparked an 8 month long relationship. In short, that relationship was toxic because it was semi-long distance and it affected my emotional stability and my confidence. I had to break up with him in December of 2015. Ever since then I've been having a lot of fun being on my own and dating different people. \n\nFast forward to today: I am now at the point where I'm wanting a committed and serious relationship again. I feel ready to take on the responsibility and I'm stable enough in academics, finances, and emotional health to provide love and support to a special guy. One of my guy friends, let's call him Jake (20 M) who I've always had a crush towards became single about 3 weeks ago. It was a terrible breakup and the relationship lasted for 3 years, they were high school sweethearts and she was insanely immature and 2 years younger than him. Jake suffers from mental heath issues such as depression and anxiety and has been actively treating the issues. But the breakup has been tough on him because the mental health issues enhanced the emotions and he's taking it hard. We've been hanging out more and have gotten a bit flirty. I made it clear that I do not want to be his rebound and he understood but it doesn't stop me from being attracted to him. It's starting to feel like torture. He's been very open about his emotions with the breakup, his mental health, and he is handling his emotions well and getting himself ready to move on. \n\nMy friends say \"Go for it. We're juniors in college. Nobody cares.\" But, my mind is saying \"Be patient and don't interrupt his emotional process. You'll end up being the rebound and his emotional crutch.\" \n\nHow do I avoid being the rebound? \n\nI'm quite torn.", "summary": "I'm ready for a serious relationship after being in a toxic relationship and dating different people. My crush is going through a breakup but is showing interest towards me. I'm torn between pursuing him or just wait it out."}
{"id": "t3_29ts6y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This may seem small compared to a lot of stuff posted here, but it's my exs (F19) birthday tomorrow and she has a new boyfriend already. This was also the day that we first said \"I love you\" can anyone help me (M20) with some tips to get thought the day.", "post": "This weekend is her birthday and I know from mutual friends she's having a party or whatever. I also know she has a new boyfriend. This is the day when we first said I love Yous so it's hard enough as it is. But she also has a new boyfriend, so I can't help feeling horrible. So I'm going to be depressed all day while she's going to have fun with a new lad.\n\nI'm obviously not going to contact her, and make sure there is no way wel run into each other. But it's still going to be horrible knowing that what could have been a day of love between us, is instead her with her new boyfriend. It hasn't been long since we broke up, and an even shorter time between me actually realising the relationship is finished. \n\nCan anyone give me some tips or something to help me get through the day without completely being miserable.", "summary": "Exs bday is tomorrow, holds a lot of meaning to me, and I just want someone to help me not be miserable for the day knowing she's with someone else. Thanks"}
{"id": "t3_3p15x6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to the washroom.", "post": "So one day I was really sick. Like delirious sick, didn't know what the heck I was doing, have to go home from work kind of sick. But I was pathetic and needed someone to take care of me so I went over to my then boyfriends house, who wasn't home yet but was getting home from work in a few hours and his roommate was at work too. So no biggie, I would sleep until he got home. But before my nap, I really had to take a dump... So no problem, I went to the washroom, then had a nap and he took care of me for the rest of the day cause I couldn't function as a normal human being. \nToo bad later on that week him and his roommate are talking and arguing (I can't remember the conversation) but I remember her saying \"at least I remember to flush the toilet after I take a shit!\" And he just goes back, \"that wasn't me, it was you!\" And the whole time I'm sitting there like, fuck. That might have been me. After all, I was so out if it I wouldn't have been able to tell you my name, I probably didn't remember to flush the toilet....\nAnd now every time I go to the washroom, I get mad anxiety that I forgot to flush and I have to go back to check half the time, even though there was no proof it actually was me.", "summary": "deliriously sick, took a dump at boyfriend's, roommate called him out on not flushing when it was actually me and have had anxiety about it ever since."}
{"id": "t3_3nztbd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to rickroll someone", "post": "Note: For those who do not know what I'm talking about, [this video] should suffice.\n\nAnyway, I'm cramming for my finals later and a girl from my past suddenly messaged me on fb. A little background: we almost became a couple but we were geographically separated so our relationship did not develop and we drifted apart.\n\nSo, we were talking a bunch of stuff until I thought of rickrolling her. This is the FU. You see, there are people on the Internet who are unaware of such viral things such as rickrolling. And she does not have a damn clue about me pranking her. She thought that I sent her the link of the vid on the purpose of booty-calling her sweet ass.\n\nNow, I need to break it down to her that I really don't plan on never giving her up.", "summary": "Rickrolling can either be a prank or a love letter"}
{"id": "t3_h44hc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm not sure if I want to study engineering, any guidance? (Since my guidance counselor is next to useless)", "post": "I am going to college next year:\n\nEver since I was a little kid I have been playing with legos, building stupid things, and most recently built a computer. (I know none of these things qualify me as an engineer.) My physics teacher says I would make a great engineer, and my parents have been encouraging me for the past 4 years to become one. For some reason I resist them at every turn, probably because I am a teenager and I don't want to listen to my parents. \n\nI have two reservations though: 1) I don't enjoy math even though I am good with it. But I am also scared of the rigor of engineering (I am not lazy though) 2) My first thought was to study econ because I want  to go to law school. But quite frankly I have no clue what I want to do. I do have a long term goal of becoming a politician, but that is far down the line.", "summary": "I want to build shit, but I am nervous about rigor of engineering. And I have no clue really what I want to do."}
{"id": "t3_3gsx15", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I save 50% of my income and I don't know what to do with it", "post": "if i had to guess i would say that i'm saving about ~50% of my income. what i save is just sitting in a variety of savings accounts getting squat for income.\n\n(if posting what i have isn't allowed sorry! didn't see anything about it in the rules) the $15,000 USD i have in these accounts nets me maybe $12 or so dollars a month. i'm not complaining about free money but it seems like i could be 'making' more than that. \n\ni'm not that big on risk taking so investing seems a little sketchy to me (but in all honesty i don't really know anything about investing)", "summary": "just spitball ways to invest/save other than letting my money sit in my bank account"}
{"id": "t3_435jdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32/F] with my husband [30/M] married six years, I am always irrational", "post": "Hi all. I frequently read r/relationships and trust the advice that is out here. I hope you can help me with a recent problem that's come up.\n\nI have never been a great communicator. I am highly introverted and tend to keep things to myself. This is especially pertinent to my feelings. My husband often critiques me on my lack of communication skills when we have arguments (not frequently, but it is a common theme from his viewpoint).\n\nMy issue is with how I perceive changes in his behaviors towards me in different situations. He has a friend (Jim) whom he has known for a few years. Jim seems nice enough but there is something I do not trust about him. My husband's behavior began to change once he started hanging out with Jim more - my husband is more distracted, spends more time texting, and generally treats me like \"second fiddle\" compared to Jim when we are all together.\n\nThis past weekend we went to Jim's house to hang out. Again, my husband was basically ignoring me all night and focused primarily on Jim. As a note, Jim is engaged to Liz and is very attentive to her even in group situations.\n\nDuring one of our card games my husband accused me of cheating. I knew he was joking but I was not in a mood to be joked with, so I asked if he wanted me to just quit the game. A silly thing but relevant to the discussion.\n\nThat night we came home and I told my husband how upset I was at being second best to Jim. My husband then told me that I am always irrational, that I need to think before I act, that I made myself look like a jerk in front of everyone for not taking his jokes, and that he doesn't know how much more he can take.\n\nSince then I have been somewhat distraught. My close friend who knows us both told me that having feelings doesn't necessarily make me irrational; but my introverted nature tells me that, perhaps, there is something wrong with me or I need to shape up.", "summary": "In my husband's eyes, I act inappropriately and am irrational; am I really just the irrational gal stereotype?"}
{"id": "t3_2cus84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] having trouble moving on from a [22 F] need advice", "post": "So..\n\nAbout a year ago to this day, I came out of a very short but emotionally abusive relationship with my ex. After I chose to leave her, I found out I was left with some very deep psychological scars from her (example: trust issues, horrible view on relationships)\n\nAbout 3 months after I met this amazing girl, we instantly became attracted to each other and we saw each other for about 3-4 months. During this time we hungout all the time, had sex, saw movies, concerts, she was cool as shit. But i knew i wasn't ready for a relationship and i told her that, to which she said she understood.\n\nBut..i still wasn't ready the longer we hungout and i started to get distant because of my trust issues. We still talked throughout the year, she wanted to be there for me but I felt sick at the thought of a relationship. I didn't know what I wanted at the time.\n\nThroughout the year till now, I have come to terms with my ex and most of my emotional scars she left behind. The girl I was seeing after my ex is now with a guy for at least 6 months, but he doesn't like us talking to each other cause of our past. I don't want to muddy the waters, so though a short text I tell her not to do anything she isn't okay with. So we don't really talk.\n\nBut I'm not okay with this, I'm feeling a rush of emotions. Regret that I wasn't ready, but now I am. sadness cause I cant be with her, anger cause I cant ever talk to her. I want her back, but shes happy with him. Shes been on my mind for an entire week so far, somedays are easier than others. but shes still on my mind.\n\nIn all honesty, I just dont know how to move on.", "summary": "Last relationship ended bad. Started seeing a new girl, wasn't ready at the time. Now iam, too much regret and anger that it took so long to heal. Now its too late, she has a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_dg5pe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help buying my first car.", "post": "I know some of you may not give two shits, but this is my first car and it is a pretty big deal to me. At first I ruled out 5 different cars:\n\n1. 2011 Mitsubishi Lancer for 26,000\n\n2. 2011 Chevrolet Camaro for 32,000\n\n3. 2011 Ford Mustang for 26,000 (Originally 34,000 but I get a family discount due to a family member working there)\n\n4. 2010 Toyota Corolla S for 22,000\n\n5. 2011 Chevrolet Cobalt SS for 23,000 (Originally 30,000 but I haggled down to 23,000)\n\nI've asked around, I've already done my test driving (except for the Corolla S) and I am weighing in more towards either the Corolla S, or the 2011 Ford Mustang. \n\nThe reason why I will be choosing the Mustang: It's got a V6 at 305 HP + a 6.4 L/100 KM (which is really great on gas, the Chevrolet Camaro was only a 2.5 L/100 KM, the higher up the better). It has [Microsoft Sync] ambient lighting within the vehicle so it's easier to see the gas pedals and cup holders. Aside from the fancy features, it has a 5 star safety rating, the traction control is great.\n\nThe reason why I want the Corolla S: It's cheaper. \n\nSadly, the salesman didn't even explain anything about the Corolla S.", "summary": "I want your opinions on what car I should buy. 2011 Ford Mustang or a 2010 Toyota Corolla S."}
{"id": "t3_3d17bx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Sleeping Through a Threesome (NSFW?)", "post": "Obligatory, happened a few weeks ago statement.\n\nSo a few weeks ago, an ex girlfriend of mine was in town for the weekend. We are pretty close friends still so we try to see each other whenever either one of us nearby. \n\nThis particular weekend we decided to hang out on a Saturday night. I had to work till about 10pm that night so I told her I would be able to hang out afterwards. I get home, get changed, text her, and no reply. \"No worries\" I thought, she's probably getting ready as well. Couple hours go by and I had given up on the thought that we would be seeing each other, so I proceed to put on some more comfortable clothes and play some vidya games. \n\nFlash forward to 1am, I'm laying in bed watching a movie and I get a text from her saying \"Where are you?\" to which I reply \"At home laying in bed. Where are you?\". \"I'm downtown but I'm going to leave soon.\" \n\nNow for the fuck up. Old Man Alatar falls asleep right after I read the last text. I sleep like a damn rock, nothing can wake me up, not even 4 text message tones of Captain Falcon yelling \"SHOW ME YOUR MOVES!\" or receiving 2 phone calls to the theme from \"Django\". \n\nI wake up the next morning to texts saying that her and her friend and going back to her house and I should come over. Also stating that she is \"really drunk and I guarantee that you will have a great time ;) \". I then rip my dick off and throw it into low orbit around the Earth and watch it burn up in reentry. \n\nTo add salt to the wound, I told my mother about the whole situation, and just like any good mother would, she laughed and said \"It's probably for the best Alatar. You probably would have just embarrassed yourself anyways\".", "summary": "Too old to stay awake past 1am, miss chance to have threesome with ex gf, get made fun of by my mother for it."}
{"id": "t3_3058kn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [26] doesn't want LDR but I [20] don't want to end our relationship", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and we have a 6 year age difference. I moved acriss the country for school last fall and we talked about just remaining best friends but there wasn't a fine line between friend and bf/gf because we talked like we were still together. We saw each other during winter break and had a great time but that was when our cycle started. We acted like a couple and tried to stop talking and I tried to move on, but at the end it became too difficult because we both meant alot for each other. \n\nBy February, we tried to talk everything through and he said he really doesn't want LDR because his last gf screwed him over. i told him im not her and the least i deserved was a chance. he seemed to be going with that idea until a few days I went home for spring break, he dropped the bomb saying he couldnt do it. He cant handle being in a LDR because he doesnt feel in and thst hes always going through his quarter life crisis. \n\nHe doesnt want to settle down and potentially meet new people and that maybe we can meet again in four years. He also basically said \"youre perfect for me but it's not you, it's me. I cant do four yr LDR and i feel like my youth is escaping and maybe if u were closer, we would be together.\" We really are awesome together.  We get along and we both have big aspirations. We lived together also the summer before I left so we know each other really well. I guess it is timing and situation but what can i do? I feel like i still deserve a chance and it could be great But he is unwilling. \n\nSo Reddit, what can I do? Should i wait for him? I honestly don't want to move on, because we are so good together and I think we might be able to work out in the future..\n\n**bold", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't want to do long distance butI dont want to lose him and we are best friends and Imtrying to find a happy medium for both of us."}
{"id": "t3_2ffqg4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend (26/f) is very conservative and I'm (28/m) fairly liberal", "post": "So I started dating a girl LD, we're both christian, she's much more conservative than I am, though it didn't stop her deciding to lose her virginity to me. We both really enjoy each others company and have a profound amount of respect as well as similar upbringings.\n\nBut...we have very different perspectives on politics and religion. I, for one, have the outlook of an agnostic, that there's no absolute right way to go about seeking the divine, while she's of a more \"one true God\" stance, and most everything that goes along with your typical anti-abortion churchgoer, crossed with a Libertarian. Than I'm more liberal, don't like politics but recognize a half-decent leader when I see one, and try to see a means to an end. I'm pretty sure that she thinks the current president is the anti-Christ as well as a symbol for immorality.\n\nSo tell me, is this something I should try to jump ship on? I love who she is, the personality and the morals fiber of her being, but are these ideas in our heads going to be oil and water?", "summary": "Love a girl who is only half like me."}
{"id": "t3_1dazk3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does Copyright Infringement / Patents / Trademarks work? (x-post from /r/ELI5)", "post": "Hey AskReddit, I want to start a side small graphics company selling decals and logos of every ones favorite popular games without actually infringing / illegally taking proprietary / intellectual property from the companies that created / designed it.\n\nI see a lot of media / merchandise (Family Guy, South Park, Robot Chicken, YouTube Channels) that mock / cheap copy celebrities, name brands, movies, games, music and still make profit from their mock ups.\n\nI also see a lot of sites such as redbubble.com / jinx.com / splitreason.com that sell tons of merchandise for their own personal gain / profit...how do they get by any legalities without getting sued?\n\nI would like to do the following for example:\n\nA mock \"Insert Popular Game Title\" scene where a character (Looks nothing like the characters from the game, but somehow slightly resembles it) runs up to another character and knocks him out and yells \"Insert Witty Comment\" here.\n\n* Would I be able to take this design and sell it?\n* Or do I have to gain permission first from the company who has the rights?\n\nAny help from Lawyers, Business Professionals, or who has knowledge of this would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Small company needing info on Copyright Infringement / Patents / Trademarks so that we don't get destroyed and sued by the **Copyright Infringement Ban Hammer**"}
{"id": "t3_vcpdp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Newly seeing someone; my old anxiety habits kicking in.", "post": "Me - male, 20 Her - Female, 20. \n\nThis story starts way back in an old relationship - about 9 months in, I developed a painful anxiety that cropped up at a point where I wasn't totally positive about how I felt - I was transitioning from bliss period to deeper respectful and more complete love, and it messed with me. I struggled to deal with this, and an anxiety that existed because I was unable to allow myself to feel anything but what I felt that I SHOULD be feeling developed. \n\nFast forward to today. I have been seeing a girl for about 1 week now. And in many ways, this is sort of different - it's a lot slower, much more casual (as I'm not looking for a serious relationship), and very laid back. However, after getting over the first pangs of major infatuation after we first kissed, I have fallen into a slow, progressive development of feelings for her. And this is kicking up that same anxiety that is telling me I should be feeling like a crazy lovesick madman after a week - I know very well that I have moved past that stage, but something is just making me suuuuper stressed about the fact that this is different. \n\nAdvice?", "summary": "newly seeing a girl, feeling less \"obsessed\" with her, anxious."}
{"id": "t3_2m1tjf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How much debt should I put myself in?", "post": "Currently I'm finishing up the 1st 2 years of my degree at a local community college (a bachelor's in either marketing or international business if it matters). I know I'm not going to be able to afford my last 2 years at a real University out of pocket so I'm going to just eat the loan. \n\n   I plan on moving up to the city my school is in. Partly because I can't see myself commuting almost 2 hours regularly, and because I'm 19 and looking for an excuse to move out of my parents house. \n\n   I've been told that it wouldn't be such a bad idea to include living expenses into my loan along with tuition so that I won't have to deal with the stress of supporting myself and can concentrate on school. I would most likely get a part time job to pay for personal stuff. \n\n   My question is, should I bundle **all** of my living expenses in with my tuition loan? Or would just covering rent be enough? I know it's largely up to me to make the decision but if anyone has any useful advice I would love to hear it.", "summary": "Want to cover living expenses in addition to tuition. Good idea? How much of it should I cover?"}
{"id": "t3_2g969s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20/F] in an unhealthy relationship with him [20/M]?", "post": "I have been dating my current boyfriend since our Junior year of high school, but I can't seem to decide whether our relationship causes more happiness or harm in my life.\n\nAfter deciding to try to go to college together, my boyfriend was accepted to his top choice school early decision. Unfortunately, I was rejected from that school and entered into an emotional tailspin. I was completely devastated at the thought of not being with him-- thinking about my senior year still makes me cry. I felt abandoned, inadequate, and terrible about myself. I saw a psychologist twice a week my senior year, and entered into a college very far away from him feeling extremely depressed and anxious. \n\nOur first year away from each other was extremely rocky. We broke up and got together countless times, and both slept with other people. Whenever one of us would pull away, the other would come chasing after them. After much turmoil, we are now dating exclusively. \n\nI hated my college and he loved his, so I wanted to transfer to the woman's college associated with his school. He said he would love to have me there, but he was unwilling to promise that he wouldn't break up with me after I transferred. I am uncomfortable uprooting my life without some kind of verbal commitment.\n\nNow, I have dropped out of college and am starting on antidepressants and anxiety medicine. I wake up every morning unhappy that he is so far away. I love him like crazy.\n\nHe believes that he should finish college without me because he wants to be free to really dive into \"the college experience.\" He says that he wants to date exclusively and long-distance, and then he will come be with me as soon as he is finished with college. \n\nI am so unhappy, but only because I want to be with him so badly. What do I do? Shouldn't someone who loves me want to be with me? Why is a certain college more important? This is really impacting my self esteem.", "summary": "I am depressed partly because of my long-distance situation with my boyfriend. He says that we will be together in three years, but I don't know if it is healthy to wait."}
{"id": "t3_2t43c9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] My 24 year old gf doesn't seem to care", "post": "Hi reddit. I hope you can be my agony aunt today.\n\u00a0\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years now. We started going out when we were 17 and at school, and whilst she cheated on me when I first went to uni (she didn't go to uni), we've struggled through.\n\u00a0\n\nI've been back from uni for 3 years, we have a (rented) house together and an 18 month old who is amazing and we love the pants off.\n\n\u00a0\nRecently, or not recently, though, she started just not caring about me. She snaps at me constantly and claims she doesn't. She's no longer warm and inviting when i come home but prickly and unforgiving.\n\u00a0\n\nWorst of all for me is how she is during sex. If I'm doing things to her she is relatively happy, but if she has to do anything to me or \"take charge\" shell hesitate, make excuses, start talking about things she has to do and rventusly give up.\n\u00a0\n\nIts the same with intimate things like hugs and cuddles. If I give them to her she melts and purrs like a kitten. But she doesn't want to do them to me, doesn't want to take charge, doesn't want to have to be the one on the outside.\n\u00a0\n\nIn the last two days I've twice stopped sexy times halfway through, because she's just given up. Its not because she doesn't enjoy them, she orgasms (although less since our child was born!), she just can't force herself to... Be with me? \n\u00a0\n\nI dunno. When I took her back after she cheated I told her I wouldnt put up with her fucking me around like she did before. I've told her I am breaking up with her, so i am sleeping downstairs tonight, but what should I do?\n\u00a0\n\nOh, and I'm 99% sure it's not because of our child", "summary": "ice queen or just hurt woman, doesn't seem to care. What should I do"}
{"id": "t3_524itv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I tell my dad I never want to move back in with him.", "post": "before I get started I want it to be known that I love my dad and don't have too many problems with him.\n\nHowever over the course of the last 4 years he's constantly been asking me to move back in with him. He keeps telling me about plans to get a place so that we can all live together again.\n\nI keep telling him that I do not want to move back in with my parents. That I have no desire to do so. That I'm comfortable living by myself and that I would be more comfortable visiting him on a regular basis. \n\nNo matter how many times I tell him this he still brings up the topic as though we never had the discussion before and ignores my past statements. \n\nThis most recent event with the death of his mother has sent him into further assumption that I want to move back in. I still have no desire. \n\nI personally believe that all of this talk is tied to his depression. I've tried to get him to go talk to a therapist but he says he is getting help and that not to worry. Every time I see him it's different drama going on around him and I don't think that the help he is getting is professional as its from a friend of his at church.\n\nAnyway", "summary": "My dad is depressed and constantly asks me to move in with him or assumes I want to move in with him despite me telling him no and expressing no desire to do so. what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_32etr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could I [M23] be friends with benefits with my ex [F23]?", "post": "I got dumped a few weeks ago by my ex who said that she still cared about me but had been in a relationship too long and needed to experience other things. I won't go into detail but it was done in a way that was extremely rough on me. I'll miss her and was really struggling with it, but after the way she did it I would never ever get back with her because it's just asking for it to happen again in the future. \n\nThe more I thought about it the more appealing it was to me to be friends with benefits. I'd love to keep smashing her because fuck were we sexually compatible! We had hotter sex than I ever though was imaginable with just the right amount of kinkyness and dirty talk, and although I haven't been with any other girls since breaking up, I cannot possibly see how sex could be that good with most people.", "summary": "want hot steamy sex with my ex. Could never take her back after she screwed me over anyway."}
{"id": "t3_33styw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So I have this friend...", "post": "20M and I have a friend, lets call her Kay. I met Kay  junior year but out friendship really started to bloom senior year when we sat together for class. Since then we've maintained contact and meet up every so often whenever we both have time. Sometime spontaneous meet ups like two days ago, for example: \"Hey my 9:30 class is cancelled let's go get breakfast and go to comic book shop\". And we have fun. We have fun on the drive to, while we discuss topics varying in ridiculousness. We have fun at our destination goofing around, and we have fun when I take her back to her house. So far it's been \"as friends\" but damn, I think I've caught feelings, no I definitely have.\n\nShe's wonderful. She has ambition, intelligence, wit, overall she has a fantastic personality. I feel very comfortable with her and I know she feels comfortable around me. And I like her a lot, I really do. I just don't know if it's a good idea to talk to her and ask her if she's ever thought of going beyond just friends and actually went on dates. Not like full blown serious relationship from the start but like kind of testing the waters to see if it would work out.\n\nLately when we go somewhere she'll lean into my arm/shoulder while we wait in line she also uses her hands to touch a lot when we're out and about like she might do a soft push or nudge or when she laughs she'll put a hand on my shoulder. Maybe I'm ready signs that aren't there. Some advice would be useful.", "summary": "Caught feelings for a pretty good friend, not sure if it's good idea to introduce the idea of us dating."}
{"id": "t3_22vtpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18/f) flirted with my professor (50ish/m) and he got mad", "post": "Well we had an exam in my mass communication class yesterday morning but I overslept and missed it cause I went out the night before and didn't set a alarm cause I passed out lol. I asked him if I could please go to the makeup exam but he was like no sorry you need a doctors note and notify me before. I was freaking out cause this exam is worth like 20% of our grade so I tried flirting with him cause I didn't know what else to do but he got mad and was like, trying to seduce me isn't going to help your cause and count yourself lucky that I'm not going to make things worse for you. Sooooo yeah...I'm totally screwed in this class now, I'm getting a zero on the exam and I think he hates me now and is probably going to fail me on the final too. What the fuck am I suppose to do???", "summary": "I flirted with my professor and he got mad."}
{"id": "t3_42z4o4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/f] with my bf [23/m] 2 years, he won't stop mentioning other girls?", "post": "I was hanging/studying on campus with my boyfriend yesterday between classes. All was well and everything's been really good between us for as long as I can remember. We were chatting a bit over lunch and he told me he had a 'problem'. That he can't help but check girls out and asked if I have any advice on how to stop that and not let his mind wander into sexual territory with them. I took it fine, I told him some things I did to help my own similar issues when I first started going to the gym regularly then left it at that. He always teases me about him being into other girls so I didn't take it to heart too much.\n\nI just got a text from him this morning saying just '2'. I asked him '2... what?' and he replied saying that's 'the count'. So I'll assume he means girls he checked out and wondered what they'd be like sexually.\n\nWhat the fuck is his problem? Like why is he even doing this? A bit of teasing is fine, I do it to him too. But I think him texting me just for that purpose is crossing the line.", "summary": "Boyfriend frequently brings up other girls or will comment on specific ones around us who are hot- what's his aim with that and how do I get him to realize that jokes get old fast?"}
{"id": "t3_2t79xd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Women I meet frequently get a specific vibe from me [24m] and I'm not sure why.", "post": "Pretty much every women I've ever been with, including my current girlfriend of six months (also including women in my family but that's another story), gets this vibe that I'm a poor soul forced into a corporate world of unrealistic standards against my will, and that the \"real me\" is some starving artist growing his own food in the woods while meditating and studying Asian religions, occasionally making pilgrimages across the country and playing banjo with the homeless down by the train tracks. That's an exaggeration but you get the idea.                     \n\nIn real life, I mostly program, some games, some applications, but mostly small robotics. I tend to gravitate toward jobs that can give me a set amount of hours and a steady paycheck. I'm very socially and economically liberal to the point where my dad jokingly calls me a bleeding heart or a socialist, but I like to know what the plan is before I do something. I'd hate to live a life where my survival was dependent on luck or chance (i.e. farming or selling art or playing music). I'm an artist for my own enjoyment (fashion design mostly) but I'd hate for that to be my only source of income, it would take all the fun out of it.    \n      \n\nDon't get me wrong, I've gone through existential crises before, and have definitely explored a lot of these options, but they're not for me. When I went on my 'religion hopping spree' in college I greatly preferred Modern Orthodox Judaism (my family was atheist so it was entirely new for me) to some of the more freethinking choices. I've questioned whether Computer Science was really my field, but always under the lens of \"maybe I'd rather maintain COBOL in the banks\" or \"maybe I'd rather do engineering than theory\". Ever since I was 4-5 years old I wanted a dream job where I'd work with cutting edge technology in some kind of science lab.", "summary": "People I meet (usually women but some men) get a specific, very interesting vibe about what kind of person my \"true self\" is, and while it's not entirely off, a lot of it doesn't match up. What is this vibe coming from?"}
{"id": "t3_ldk8b", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I would really like to get a girl's perspective on what i should do about my ex", "post": "I'm going to post my links from my other posts because theres a lot of information and i dont want to type it all again. if you would like to know more about my situation click on these links:\n\nI'm 25 and I called my ex for the first time since she broke up with me 12 days ago. I really miss her and am very much in love with her. I know shes going through some stuff right now and doesnt need a serious relationship right now. We talked for an hour tonight and it was great. I asked her a couple of times if she needed to go because of her son and she always said no. She even put her phone down one time to help her son and then came back to talk to me. At the end i told her it was good talking to her and she said it was really good talking to me too. She said i guess ill talk to you later, and i told her i'd call her in a few days or something. She seemed happy and said ok.\n\nHow do i need to approach this? I dont want to push her away or try to move too quickly. I do want her back in my life. I'd love to start over and go slower this time. Should I try? What would be the best course of action? How long should i wait before calling her again?", "summary": "My ex broke up with me last week because she couldnt handle a serious relationship right now. We talked to night and it went great. I want to get back with her."}
{"id": "t3_4em88o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Overheard my (22f) bf (22m) say disgusting things about me to his friends", "post": "I've been dating my bf for 2 years now. Our relationship can be quite rocky sometimes but at the end of the day we really care about each other. He has an ego problem though and it causes problems every now and then. I'm not perfect myself, I can be quite hot-tempered but I always try to be a better person.\n\nThis evening I was at his house when a bunch of his friends came over. I stayed mostly out of their way to let them have their male bonding time or whatever. So I was in one of the bedrooms upstairs while they were all downstairs.\n\nAn hour later I was walking past the kitchen when I heard one of them mention my name. I heard my bf's voice and 2 of his other friends. Naturally I stopped in my tracks and decided to eavesdrop. I was truly disgusted at what my bf was saying. He was telling them about our sex life and my behavior in the bedroom in graphic detail. He said that Latinas are \"fucking crazy\" and that's why they're so \"wild in bed\" (I'm Afro Brazilian). He put A LOT of emphasis on my race which disgusted me. I thought he was gonna stop there but he didn't. He spoke of me like I'm some object he plays around with. He even told them that he intentionally pisses me off sometimes because the \"sex is better\" when I'm angry at him. \n\nI'm a very, very private person. I never talk about my sex life or even relationships. I hate the fact he told them this because I feel embarrassed and objectified. More importantly, I'm really shocked at how much emphasis he put on my ethnic background.(Btw he's Italian American)\n\nI avoided him for most of the day and he asked me whats wrong. I told him that we'll talk about it later since I need to gather my thoughts. What should I say to him?", "summary": "Bf told his friends very intimate details about our sex life. He sounded extremely douchey and spoke of me like an object. Is there anything reasonable I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_s164n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Jealousy issues. And Facebook.", "post": "*[Backstory:\nI am a 22 year old female, been with a guy (20) for a while now. It'll be a year this summer. He's absolutely great and amazes me every day. But he is a flirty person. I am very insecure. These two things don't mesh very well. Most of his friends are female and I'm fine with that; most of my friends are male. He would never cheat on me (at least, I believe so) so I usually don't worry about it.]*\n\nHe hardly ever uses Facebook. He really only uses it for chatting, and mostly with me. He never posts anything. He's never commented or liked any of my posts/pics (I honestly don't care, that's not what this is about).\n\nThis morning I wake up to him commenting on his friend's girlfriends picture saying that she was sexy. Apparently his friend doesn't mind this... but I do. I have very low self-esteem to begin with, and the fact that he hardly ever uses Fb and when he does, he decides to write that on her picture. And not on mine, his girlfriend's, but another girl. I just find something wrong with that.\n\nBut I also feel I may be overreacting. After all, it's JUST Facebook. But he's flirted with this girl before. There have been other issues that I have let go until now. But this was the last straw. We have never had a fight, or even a disagreement. Today I sent him a message (we are long distance until next month) telling him how I felt. So this has been the first time we've had any sort of issue in our relationship... I'm really scared. I'm scared of how he will react. I don't want him to think I'm some crazy jealous girlfriend...\n\nWhat do you think, Reddit? If your SO did this, would you be upset? Am I being fair? Also, I have a feeling he will respond just saying \"well I'm just a flirty person, you know that, i don't mean anything by it\"... or \"it's only Facebook.\"\n\nHe hasn't replied yet, btw. But I can't stop thinking about it.", "summary": "My bf is flirty, commented on this girl's photo saying she was sexy."}
{"id": "t3_1v93m4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F/20] tell my SO [M/21] of 1 year I'm becoming less attracted to him as he gains weight?", "post": "My SO and I have been in a relationship for the past 13 months. I knew him 2-3 years ago through mutual friends, when he was extremely skinny. At the time I knew him back then, I was significantly heavier than he was, and even though I was into him, I knew he wouldn't reciprocate the feelings towards me because he probably didn't know I existed. \n\nFast forward to the night we met again after a long period of time apart. I slimmed down a lot, while he went from borderline anorexic (he was grieving his father's death and didn't eat) to somewhat filled out and physically proportionate to me. I was more physically attracted to him than ever. He wasn't skinny, he was normal. \n\nDuring the course of our relationship, however, he's gained approximately 30-50 pounds. This is just an estimation, I've never actually seen him step on a scale or known his exact weight. I love him more than anything, and I still enjoy having sex with him. I just don't know how to tell him that I'm not as attracted to him as I was in the beginning of our relationship. In fact, I really wish he'd cut back on the unhealthy food he eats for his own health (which is unstable in the first place) and to restore sexual attraction back in our relationship.", "summary": "Boyfriend gained a significant amount of weight during our relationship, wondering if/how I should confront him about not being as attracted to him? Or am I just being a harsh bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_mr4zj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "No idea if this guy is an immature teenage kid or a sweet guy?", "post": "i'm in highschool, and I got set up on a blind, double date so that my best friend wasn't alone with her date. (she was too nice to say no to the guy, but felt it would be awkward alone)\n\nI found him on facebook, and he was cute so i agreed, but my friend kept saying that he was immature, awkward, and not dating material. She goes to a different school and is friends with him, so i guess she would know. Anyway, I went on the date, and he was a total gentleman, and really sweet and nice. My friend kept on telling me that he was acting differently around me, and it wasn't the way he normally is. \n\nNothing happened on the date, but we've been talking ever since. He still seems the same to me as he did that night, and i dont know if he's acting differently than normal, or if my friend was mistaken. \n\ni'd totally date him, but also nothing like that has come up in our conversations and i dont know what he thinks about me. I also wouldn't want him to not show me who he really is if we started dating...so what should i do? I want to get to know the real him, but what if i did, and realized he was too immature and then he asked me out? am i overthinking this?", "summary": "went on a blind date with a guy my friend said is too immature, he acts normal around me, but i dont know if he's faking being normal for me. what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3g0kov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [26F] of 8 months just discovered she has a mild eating disorder.", "post": "Been dating my amazing girlfriend for 8 months. She is a wonderful, extremely beautiful and caring person. She is very healthy now but yesterday she opened up to me that she sometimes makes herself purge when she eats something unhealthy. \n\nI starting digging in and asking her why she does this and the reason is because she hates what she sees and shes not happy with herself. I knew before we dated about 6 years ago she went down to 100lbs, could not get her period anymore. Her mom forced her to the doctor and she took away her treadmill and she wasn't allowed to see her friends until she got healthy. I thought she was over that horrible part of her life but it seems like she somewhat isn't. She eats very healthy and eats well, and shes in the gym at least 6 times a week for 1.5 hours. Its when she eats chocolate or something sugary that she wants to vomit sometimes. I'm afraid she might be relapsing. I asked her if shes seen a therapist and she said she has few times and she says they just make her angrier because it won't help. I don't want her to have low self-esteem. It hurts to know that someone you care about so much is thinking so negatively of themselves, because she doesn't realize I love her more than her looks, it truly kills me inside because she will never understand how much I love her.\n\nI would do anything for this amazing women. She is the love of my life and I would die for her, and i can't understand how a person with that much beauty can feel that way. What can I do to help her or convince her that seeing a therapist is ok.", "summary": "Just found out gf has eating disorder. She says therapists don't help and that it isn't a big deal. What can I do."}
{"id": "t3_pf6mr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it out of line to talk to SO about drinking habits?", "post": "24/m & 21/f together 7.5 months. Not living together.\n\nSo my boyfriend likes to drink. A lot. When I met him it initially didn't bother me. He had this magnetic personality that drew me to him and he was a lot of fun. We could talk all night, drink beer and watch a movie. It was almost perfect. There have been moments through the past year that have made me question our lifestyle though - moments where we've gotten in fights because he's so drunk he took my concern for his well being to mean something condescending and passive aggressive. I very rarely have a \"fun night out\" anymore, it always devolves into me driving us home or taking care of him in some way.\n\nI've given him some bit of leeway - that this behavior might be because he's simply bored/coping. He's working a service job and sort of biding his time until I graduate (he's been out of school for a year or so) and he's also legitimately lost two people he knew for his whole life in the past year.\n\nHe's never been outwardly abusive - no hitting, no real emotional abuse other than what (I see) has been accidently misconstrued while being drunk. But lately I've found myself missing the person I fell in love with. I like the man that makes me dinner, takes me on hikes, watches and makes fun of bad movies with me. The drinking is getting worse - we are having less sex and I don't feel loved. It's sad I'm starting to live for the brief 20 mintues in the morning where we cuddle and I feel loved and safe again.\n\nWe are fairly open with communication but I just needed a little validation before I bring this up. This is a big issue and I don't want to cross the line. I don't want to break up with him. Is this alcoholism? My point of view is that if we are going to be in a serious relationship, a lifestyle choice has to be made or else he's probably going to lose me when I can't handle it anymore.\n\nSorry, relationships, at this point now I'm just talking to myself.", "summary": "Pretty sure BF has drinking problem, trying to figure out if it's out of line to bring it up and try and work with him to better his life or to just give up and leave."}
{"id": "t3_2aud6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 8months, I'm feeling jealous of my girlfriends new friends. I would like to get over it.", "post": "So ive been dating my SO for 8 months, I'll be a senior in high school this year, and she is going off to college ( commuting). so she recently signed up for summer school and shes been going there for over 2 weeks. She tells me that there's this guy that hits on her, and when I heard about it i couldn't help my self from asking questions about him and stuff.\n\nthen she had another guy from school text her, and when i would talk to her she would interrupt our conversation and text back, and she would say really broad statements to keep me talking while she texted him, i confronted her about it and she went on the offensive saying i do that all the time too. But we talked it out and that was okay. \n\nI also told her that i'm insecure, and that i'm jealous that she is talking to other people, i know it's stupid of me. I told her that i felt that i wasn't all that special and i'm scared that she will meet someone better than me. She and i talked it through and i felt much better, but i really want to get rid of my irrational Jealousy.", "summary": "I feel jealous, hate it and i want to stop being jealous about stupid things"}
{"id": "t3_qirp3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can I be held responsible for family parking tickets?", "post": "I don't know if this is the place to ask, but you guys normally know what to do with debt collectors so here goes.\n\nAs of today my school's parking agency has posted $115 worth of fines to my student account. This means that unless they are paid I can not graduate. The fines equate to 3 parking tickets, 2 from before I went to this school, and 1 after I was attending. The kicker is that I didn't receive any of these tickets they were all given to my family members. The first two, when I wasn't attend the school, were on my dad's car. He has appealed these tickets though because he wasn't on my school's campus at the time, in fact he was in columbia and skiing, and I was attending different school. The last ticket was on my brother's car, though he never paid it because he didn't think they would follow up on him.\n\nI am on the insurance for both cars but does that make me responsible for parking tickets that I didn't get? I haven't spoken to the parking department yet. I thought I would ask here first so that I seemed informed when I confront the situation. Any advice would be great.", "summary": "My family members got parking tickets can I be held financially responsible for these tickets because my name is on the car's insurance?"}
{"id": "t3_3g50bj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my friend [27F] of two years, am I breaking girl code by getting to know her brother [21]", "post": "I've known Mia for about two years; we have a ton on mutual friends but have only really gotten to know each other over the last year. I met Caleb (her brother) in November at a holiday party at Mia's house. He was home visiting from college; we chat for a bit and get along great especially since we're closer in age than anyone else at the party (most of my friends are in their late twenties). Caleb is a great looking guy who's smart and funny to boot; my other girlfriends and I tease Mia about how awesome he is and how we'd snatch him up if we could. \n\nFast-forward to this summer Caleb is back home on internship and hangs out with my friends and I a bit; mostly to spend time with his sister since she is moving away soon. Mia throws a going away party and from the moment I walk in the door Caleb and I are flirting. As the night goes on drinks are flowing and the flirting gets more intense; we go from making eyes at each across the room to his hand around my waist and eventuality end up making out heavily (none of my friends sees this last part).\n\nI confess and tell him how attractive I find him; we exchange numbers with a vague intent of hanging out sometime before he goes back up to school. This was about a month ago and now we've made plans to hang out this weekend (during this conversation there was a lot of sexual undertones mostly on his part I tried my best keep it subtle). We have a lot of chemistry and I do see some potential there but I don't want to take it too far and ruin my friendship with Mia.", "summary": "I'm crushing on my friends younger brother; is it wrong to pursue him or should I keep it platonic."}
{"id": "t3_4863p3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my GF [27F] of 11 months just broke up, looking for advice on how to get myself together", "post": "She broke up with my Friday night over dinner. It was both unexpected but also not entirely out of the blue. We had a fight over valentines day because she didn't think I reciprocated affection well enough. (My V-Day plan was to take her to all the different places we went early in our relationship, she got me tickets to see Les Mis on broadway among other things so yeah...) She went to Florida a week ago to spend time with family and we didn't talk in that time. \n\nI guess, I'm just trying to figure out what I should do now. I used to spend 4-5 nights a week at her place. We met and started dating about two months after I moved to this city. She lives less than a mile and a half from me. She was even a big factor in taking the job I have now (I mainly wanted to stay in the city I am now, but being with her was a big part as well). I became ingrained in her social and faith life and neglected my own social life.\n\nA good friend of mine whom I grew up with told me that it's ok for the next couple weeks to be a bit reclusive. Keep a light and easy schedule, go to work, go to the gym, come home, play video games. Maybe grab drinks with an old friend or something at most. He also said she'll probably reach out to me at some point and I should just ignore that. \n\nOne of the things that bothers me is that, I do want to keep going to church. Call me traditional, but I grew up in the South and going to church does give me a sense of structure to the week. I was thinking of going at a different time. I know she goes at 6 pm on Sundays, so I was thinking of going at 12pm sometime during the week this week and maybe next and then trying to go during one of the earlier times on Sunday two weeks from now. Is this crossing the line? Am I crossing boundaries with this? \n\nThank you all for taking the time to read and response to this. I greatly appreciate it.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, first time out of a relationship longer than 6 months, invested a lot of time in her. Is there a regular process for going back to being single? A list of things I should not do? Is it ok if I continue going to the church she introduced me too, so long as it's a different mass time? (maybe even different day)"}
{"id": "t3_3fualv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Threatening to blow up school (accident)", "post": "You may ask yourself how do you accidentally threaten to blow up a school? I'll tell you how. My friend and I were prank calling people. For some reason he called my school. No one picked up so we left a message. Basically leaving our names and joking around saying \"we will blow up the school like the 4th of july\" and some other random comments. Thinking that most or some voice answering machines will ask if you want to send or delete the message it didn't do either. Instead when it was full of about 10minutes of us randomly talking about random stuff it says \"message sent.\" I just sit there for a second.. scared.. thinking about what i have just done and start to burst out laughing. I don't know why i would be laughing in this situation but i did. I guess i was so scared it became funny. And that is how i accidentally threatened to blow up my school hopefully i don't get swatted tomorrow.", "summary": "Friend prank called my school with me on the phone we left a message thinking it would ask us if we wanted to delete or send it and instead it sent us threatening to blow up the school."}
{"id": "t3_uq6j7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tell me your \"crazy overprotective parent\" story. I'll start.", "post": "Starting with my own insane father. On Tuesday, I decided to hang out with  my friends and just have a good time before I go home to study for finals. Fast forward to 7:00 (pm) and my dad is irate. He is screaming at me, asking me where I am. Considering if I stay with my friends, I won't be back until about 8:00. So I ask my dad to pick me up. Fast forward to my dad picking me up. At this point, he's screaming curse words at me and telling me, \"FUCK YOU, YOU PIECE OF SHIT. THEY'RE NOT YOUR REAL FRIENDS\". Once we come to an intersection, my dad's eyes get big and he says, \"Fuck you\".\n\nIt's my friends in their car.\n\nMy dad then steps up the craziness level to one billion. He runs a red light, then comes right up to the side of them (as close he can get, without touching them. My dad is a good driver), and then rolls down his window and begins to scream his head off while giving the finger. My dad follows them for a good 5 minutes. Finally, he gives up and we go home.\n\nAs of now, I've never been so embarrassed or enraged in my life. I missed out on visiting one of my really good friends who is currently in the hospital and I've generally been sad.", "summary": "Dad gets upset that I came home past the time I said. Chases my friends in his car. "}
{"id": "t3_14ke72", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I need some help with a girl I think I love.", "post": "Ok so we're both sophomores in high school and we're pretty good friends. We talk a lot and we are completely open to eachother. We say what's on our minds,etc. But here's the deal. I told her how I felt about her and that I liked her and basically asked her out. She said that she likes this senior that she went out with last year; but they broke up (he broke up with her). She said she doesn't know why she still likes him and she hates it but she likes him. I kinda guessed that was going to happen when I asked her but I just had to. Nut the thing is I love her with all my heart and I can't stop thinking about her. I was going to tell her in like a week but then I thought that would just make things more awkward...so I just don't know what to do? Should I wait and see what happens with her and the senior? Oh yeah, I'm also pretty good friends with the senior, so that's even worse. Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "I like this girl but he likes someone elso Jo doesn't like her.  I told her I like her... She kinda turned me down but wasn't sure....what should info now?"}
{"id": "t3_uvl2b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Married couples of different religious beliefs, were both of your beliefs respected during the wedding ceremony? My fianc\u00e9e and I are in a similar situation and would like to know your experience.", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e and I are planning to get married in the fall after several years of dating. She grew up Catholic and attended one specific church until college. Her dad is also still very active with the church. As a result, she would like to have the wedding at this church. I am an atheist and would prefer if we did not have the wedding in a church. However, she has expressed how important it is to her so we are having the wedding in the church. The middle ground is that I want my views respected and do not need to compromise them in order to have the wedding in the church.\n\nWe just finished our second [PreCana] session where I was informed by the priest (who knows I am an atheist) that I will need to acknowledge God's presence and express it while exchanging vows. Consequently, I am having serious doubts that the middle ground can be achieved.\n\nThus, we are seeking out other couples who went through or are going through similar situations and would like to know if the middle ground is feasible based on your experience? For example, is it possible to exchange vows where I do not need to acknowledge a higher being? We have taken one step toward the middle ground by removing the Mass from the wedding but it still feels like I will need to compromise my atheist views in order to have the wedding in the church.", "summary": "It is possible for an atheist (me) to get married in a Catholic church without having to compromise my atheist views?"}
{"id": "t3_1prrgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out I could be pregnant... Both 20.", "post": "Well hi. I'm not really sure what to do about this. I don't even know what I'm asking for, for sure. I just need to get this all out.\n\nTo start off, here's some background info. My boyfriend was a virgin before, and had wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. Well, I guess we had some awesome chemistry or something, and six months into the relationship, he cracks, and we have sex. My family never found out, my parents approve of him because he is still a virgin (as far as they, and every one else, knows). We've been together a year and a half, so a year of a healthy, secret, sex life. I got on birth control about two months ago, and the sex picked up more from there on out. \n\nThe past week or so, I've felt horrible. I thought I had a cold because of the constant tiredness, head aches, and nausea. But now that I've felt this way for around ten days, I started to get worried. I took a pregnancy test about an hour ago, and it came out positive... \n\nI'm currently going to college and out of a job, while he has a few jobs and is making more than enough money for him to live on his own and have money for fun. \n\nI'm going over to his place tonight, and am planning on talking to him when he gets home from work. Now, I know he is against abortions 99% of the time. But I also don't think that he wants a kid yet. One thing I'm scared of is how it would look to everyone (my family, his family, all of our friends) if we've been pretending to be abstinent for the whole relationship, and suddenly I'm preggers. I know he would hate to have people look down on him for that. I'm not sure if I would want an abortion or what either, yet.\n\nI'm not sure what I want to hear. I guess I could just use some advice, and some ideas how to talk to him about it... Thank you guys a ton in advance.", "summary": "I found out I'm possibly pregnant, but everyone thinks my boyfriend and I are virgins. How do I talk to him about it, and possibly deal with the judgement from others who find out the truth?"}
{"id": "t3_4pgwx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F23] feeling guilty about crushing on someone new [M25], 3 months after a break up. Is this justified?", "post": "My ex and I had issues long before we broke up. He still had an ex in the picture, lied about doing drugs and various other things. Anyway, we broke up and he was my first serious bf (first sexual partner too). We weren't together for that long, 8 months two of which were long distance.\n\nSo I've met someone and despite the circumstances (he's one of my roommates. I know, I'm not going to act on it) and we get along really well. I'm kinda salty still and we joke about it. Usually we just chat and hang out, nothing serious. We consistently chat till late at night about all kinds of things. He often tells me to not feel like I need to rush getting out there. Until quiet recently something changed I started feeling mushy around him. Usually we joke and tease each other but suddenly it's stopped. He doesn't contact me during the day as often and when we do talk there are long pauses. \n\nI feel guilty for liking someone so soon, is it too soon? I don't want to get hurt or be used. I don't think I can be in a relationship right now but I think it makes me weird with the new guy. I know he likes me in some way but I feel like I've ruin something or turned him off with my mixed signals/push and pull behaviour.", "summary": "I think I'm overthinking and creating weird vibes because I feel guilty /slutty for liking someone new 3 months after a break up."}
{"id": "t3_2c4ipb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] dealing with messy housemates [22/21/20M]", "post": "I've only got a month left on my one year tenancy with with 3 good friends and housemates but I have reached breaking point.\n\nThroughout the past year I have been frustrated with the cleanliness of the house. I simply live to a higher standard of cleaness than my housemates. They're not pigs, they don't let things get mouldy or disgusting - it is just simple tasks in communal area like dusting windowsills, hoovering the stairs and corridors, washing the rugs, and cleaning up spills and stains from dinner basically never get completed without me asking. I usually just do these tasks myself because it is quicker to just clean them up myself rather than wait 3-4 days for people to get it done, which is the amount of time taken when you ask them (plus a huge amount of passive aggression). In addition I organise the bills, getting handymen in to fix stuff etc. so it's not like I'm lording it over them.\n\nIt is especially annoying given my high workload at uni in the final year of my degree - I was doing 9-5 days and still having to keep the house clean whilst they were in the house all day, out for 2 or 3 hours for lectures and just lazing about.\n\nAs I said I've only got a month left but yesterday I came back to the house from a week away and it was in turmoil - dust was everywhere, bits of rice and pasta were stuck onto work surfaces, washing up was not done, electrical items were lying in puddles of water, grass and moss was all over the kitchen floor and no one had bothered to mow the law.\n\nI've only got a month left living with them so I don't wanna have a huge argument about cleaning because it is such a short time left, but how do I get my housemates to clean up after themselves and be less lazy?", "summary": "Housemates don't pull their weight, house is messy, simple tasks don't get done for days after asking, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_114mc4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Reddit Advice on how to begin starting up a company? NDA's, Patents, other factors??", "post": "I'm a big fan of Ask Reddit.  I'm on here most everyday during my commute to work reading entries. I thought I would leave lurkerdom to post my own question.\n\nI'm attempting to develop an idea which I would ultimately like to form a company with doing.  However, I've come to realize that I only have the idea itself; and no real way to protect what i'm doing.  I know i'll require assistance from individuals with specific skills; and I know that I'll need to go through a patent process.  \n\nFor some clarity, it's a type of new technology that I would like to develop.\n\nHow does one even go about properly raising the funds to start such a process?  I understand how VC's work (to some degree), but I've heard personal stories of individuals getting pushed out of their own company/work in the process.\n\nIt's my first attempt at this type of thing and all my research on how to properly do this are causing confusion.  Any experienced entrepreneurs have any advice, tips, experience, success stories, failure stories, etc?\n\nI should also mention that I do not currently live in the U.S., although I am a U.S. citizen.  I'm just fearful that somewhere along the road it's going to get stolen.", "summary": "I have an idea, no clue how to get things moving; seeking advice from redditors with experience in entrepreneurial type of things."}
{"id": "t3_1nb7r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] and my Ex[18F] broke up on weird terms two years ago, we've both matured and recently found out we both still like each other. Problem is she's dating a douche, how wrong is it for me to try and rekindle our relationship?", "post": "We dated freshman to sophomore year, we were both incredibly shy towards each other, and things were just awkward. I thought things we're over, I didn't think she had a care in the world for me, and I couldn't get over her, I mean I had to see her every day.\n\nSenior year just started, and during the first week of school, I found out she still likes me, I decided to go for it before anything else, that Monday I find out she's dating the guy who has been asking her out since freshman year. A couple weeks later, it's there 1 month, and another week later I confess my feelings.\n\nShe kept saying over and over, I wish you told me sooner.\n\nI'm not the type of guy to wreck a relationship to get a girl. But she's not just any girl, and he's a total waste of her time. \n\nI think the main problem is she doesn't want the image that she broke up with a guy to get with another guy.", "summary": "Is it worth it to rekindle a relationship while she dates this douche? How will people view her?"}
{"id": "t3_13mv0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M/19F] Not sure whether the relationship is dying, or am I doing it wrong?", "post": "So! Myself (19M) and my SO (19F) are both in Uni. I've a bit of experience (previous gf, a few one night stands) but this is her first relationship. We've been dating for approx. 8 months now, and over the last few weeks things have changed a bit:\n\nWe no longer talk about things we have in common, or spend ages chatting. We're still comfortable in each others company, but we don't talk about much nowadays.\n\nThings are becoming slightly tense and a little less pleasant. We haven't had an argument yet, but she often leaves angry at me without talking to me if I go too far.\n\nAlthough we're becoming more adventurous in bed, there're still frequent problems involved. She finishes fine, but I'm having problems and it's getting very frustrating.\n\nWe're both fairly busy (me much more so), and I have no idea what's happening. We have fairly frequent 'We need to talk' talks but she doesn't open up as easily as I do, so it becomes one sided and prickly, like I'm getting at her. She's used the phrase \"I don't know what I bring to the relationship.\" more than once, and it's got me questioning too...", "summary": "My relationship has changed, and I don't know what to do. Help please!"}
{"id": "t3_16inn6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Current psychiatrists and psychiatry-related (or medical school) students, how do I even start the process?", "post": "Background: I am a college student, in a Biomedical Engineering program at a school known for said program.  I am in my 3rd year of study, out of 5 (as the school has a 3 co-op cycle, meaning I am in school for Fall/Winter quarters, and then have a 6 month job internship, paid).  I'm also a white female, born in the US, so I don't have a huge advantage in terms of acceptance to medical school.\n\nOver the past year I've been trying to figure out what I want to do after college. With what I have read, and the professors and students I have talked to, I realize the job possibilities post-undergraduate with no additional degree in Biomed are very few.  Most go on to graduate school, law school or in the vast majority of cases, medical school. Most of my classmates are in BME to up their chances of medical school acceptance, with the intentions of being a doctor of varying sorts.  Besides the fact that I need to take the MCAT, I know nothing about the process of applying.\n\nI am extremely fortunate in that my parents will (to an extent) help me with some fees, but I expect to be taking out some loans in the case that I am accepted to medical school.  Right now I am more concerned with the \"getting in\" aspect.  \n\nI am concentrating in neuroengineering, and I am intending a minor in psychology. Psych has always been of the utmost interest to me, since my family has a prevalence of mild-medium degrees of mental illness.  At the urging of my parents (both businesspeople), I went into engineering to achieve a \"technical base.\"  It is not my intention to get a masters in any engineering field, because I feel my talents are exceedingly in the favor of another venue: psychiatry.", "summary": "I want to become a psychiatrist, which I understand entails medical school, and I have absolutely no idea where to start with any of it."}
{"id": "t3_1xnau2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my girlfriend[25F] of 6 months, freaking out that she maybe cheating.", "post": "She left her Ipad up and I was going to log into my account but there was a chat message still up. It was from one of her college friends no big deal. As I'm about to close out I read the last sentence and it felt like my world just crumbled apart. In this conversation she says that she is not tied down, that she is going on dates with different guys. But that is not the case I've been with her for 6 months and we spend a lot of time together so she wouldn't have to do so. And the worst part she starts talking about this guy that she is sleeping with and what they did and it wasn't me.\n\nI was crushed. I didn't know what to do I confronted her about it and she gets mad at me. Saying that those stories about hooking up were a long time ago and that she never said that she was going on dates to her friend.\n\nI am just so confused this girl that I care a lot about did all of this and I couldn't believe it. The funny thing is that she has said she could never cheat on anyone, that she wouldn't do that to me, cares so much about me. I just can't face the facts right now and it makes me feel like I didn't know here at all.", "summary": "Found out girlfriend might be cheating on me. I just can't deal with the facts and can't believe any of it."}
{"id": "t3_3ftj8b", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Charged for rent after eviction (Michigan)", "post": "I was living in an apartment when I lost my job. My first unemployment check would come in two weeks (the 16th) after my rent was due (the 3rd). I called the office and told them my rent would be late and I would pay the late fees. They said thanks for telling us, it's not a problem.\n\nOn the fifth they posted a notice on my door saying that they were filing for eviction for non-payment of rent. I called the office and reminded them of the above conversation. They said that the notice was done automatically by the owners but all was ok. \n\nOn the 12th I get a notice that I'm being sued for eviction.  On the 16th I went and paid my rent. They said they'd stop the eviction process.  Like an idiot I believed them.\n\nOn the 1st of the month I paid my rent again.  Around the 16th I get a Sheriff's notice on my front door stating that I have 10 days to move out or they will come and forcibly evict me.  I realized I never checked with the courts to make sure the eviction hearing was cancelled so the apartment people must have won by default. I am an idiot.  I got out before the deadline.\n\nTwo months later I get a letter from them stating that they have filed with a collections agency to get money I owe them. They state that because I didn't give proper notice of breaking the lease that I owe them two months rent.\n\nIs this legal?  Can they claim I didn't give proper notice when they're the one who made me leave?  Do I owe this money or is this a post for /r/personalfinance to learn how to tell them how to piss up a rope?\n\n(", "summary": "Was evicted, then landlord tried to claim I owe rent after moving out.)"}
{"id": "t3_33bze0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M] first time going on a date with another man. I cant shake the anxiety and don't know what to expect", "post": "I'm sure I am over analyzing everything about this interaction but I know that talking to some strangers with experience could at the very least calm my anxiety. I'm sorry if the way I say anything offends anyone, I have almost no experience with the gay community and I feel like I have been repressing these feelings for a long, long time because of my upbringing. I am in college now and have been living away from my very religious parents for two years, though I've known I am bi for a lot longer.\n\nI met him [21] on tinder and we flirted a bit (he seems to be a super nice guy, we have a lot in common, and he has been very flattering). We have a coffee date ~~tomorrow~~ Wednesday and I don't expect things to go anywhere really but is there anything I should know? I feel like a fish out of water since I don't have any gay friends I can ask for advice. \n\n * Any men who have gone from dating women to men; is there anything overarchingly different about it? \n * Is there anything I should know beforehand about the sex?\n * I'm not even that experienced with dating in general (I was in a 6 year LTR that ended a few months ago) so just general tips would be appreciated.\n * I am planning on telling him of my inexperience pretty early on, is that the best idea and whats the best way to bring that up? I don't want to make him feel like this is just an experiment to me", "summary": "About to go on a date with another man for the first time, I feel even more lost and anxious than I did before my first date. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_xhvwn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you still believe in altruism?", "post": "I was right infront of a bank parking lot today sitting in the car when I saw what appears to be a cellphone. So I picked it up and went back in the car and behold it IS a cellphone: nothing special, talk and text phone. So I went to its inbox to contact one of the owner's friend(\"Mom's cell\" was first in the inbox) informing her of the lost cellphone and encouraging her to contact the owner. I happen to leave the lost phone in the car for about an hour. When I got back to check it I saw 12 missed calls a minute apart and 2 messages from one person. First was saying I was seen picking up the phone and driving away; second was saying to bring back the phone and I will be rewarded cash. When I went to text back it won't let me send so I assumed the phone service was cut off. I was thought of a thief when really I only mean good.", "summary": "found phone. Was gonna contact someone from phone book to inform owner. Owner thought I have no intention of giving it back despite my effort of reaching her(assuming pink hard case=female owner)."}
{"id": "t3_4k99ba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my father-in-law [55M] of <1 yr, wants to put my name on his business-related documents", "post": "I have a PhD in chemistry and my father-in-law is starting a business that helps companies write grant proposals to get R&D money from the government. He wants to put my name (and PhD title) alongside his on business cards and other marketing stuff related to the company, since a science PhD lends credibility. The thing is, I don't actually have anything to do with this company and I'm worried that if any of his business deals go sour or if he leaves people with a bad impression, it could affect my reputation and future career prospects.\n\nI let myself be pressured into allowing him to list my name on his website as someone who does consulting for his company, but not as an employee or partner. He just sent me a business card that has my name listed alongside his and some other random PhD that has nothing to do with his business. I want my name removed from this, and excluded from anything else going forward.\n\nHere's the problem: my wife [24F] things that my refusal will cause a large blow-up where her family will accuse me of \"not caring about family\" and other such nonsense to guilt me into consenting. This is exactly what happened when I stopped my wife from unknowingly signing as a guarantor on a business loan for her brother that we wouldn't have been able to afford to repay if things went wrong.\n\nMy wife thinks we need to make up polite excuses to get out of this. I just want to tell him that I'm not comfortable having my reputation attached to a business that I have no part in. Technically, being employed by another company is a violation of my current contract, so these cards in the wrong hands could get me fired.\n\nAny advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated!", "summary": "FIL wants to put my name and PhD on his business cards. I am afraid this could negatively impact my reputation and career."}
{"id": "t3_1e59vn", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Has your dog ever had nicotine poisoning?", "post": "My 10 month old 55 lb. ABD/BC mix might have eaten approximately 1 gram of tobacco. I didn't see it happen, just noticed that a portion of snus I thought was on the table was no longer there after he walked by. \n\nOf course, I immediately called the vet, who told me to attempt to induce vomiting by administering hydrogen peroxide within one hour of the possible exposure, however I did not have any on hand. Since my dog tends to vomit if he takes a ride in the car immediately after eating, I fed him a cup of his food and brought him with me to the grocery to purchase said H2O2. He didn't throw up, and by the time I had the H2O2 in hand it had been almost an hour and a half since the possible exposure. \n\nI took him to the dog park for about an hour after that, and we are now home, a total of about 3 hours since he might have eaten the tobacco. He seems fine, but I'm staying in today to keep an eye on him (missing a friend's birthday party, but I'm sure she understands). \n\nWhat I'm not sure of is what I'm looking for, i.e. what he might do to indicate that I should take him to the emergency vet. Has anyone encountered a similar situation? What sort of behavior would he exhibit if he were sick?", "summary": "My 55 lb dog may or may not have eaten 1 gram of tobacco. What are the signs of nicotine poisoning I should be looking for over the next 24 hours?"}
{"id": "t3_4imuho", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by clothes-lining a child at Disney World and causing her to drop her ice cream.", "post": "This happened just a few days ago, was with a few of my buddies of spring break. One of them had a house in Orlando, and we spent the day walking around Disney world, reasonably drunk of course.\n\nWe were planning to split up and meet at another coaster, and I make a big show of pointing at it so we're all clear. For some reason, we all bust our stitches laughing and I'm asked to demonstrate what was \"so goddamn funny\" by a friend who missed it the first time. Here's the fuck up.\n\nI reel my arm back, and in almost a whip-like fashion dart my arm towards the general area and shouting, \"that-a-way!\". \n\nAt that exact moment, a maybe five year old Cinderella was sprinting by. My arm came down right right at neck level and she literally fell flat on her back, dropping her cone. We were all dying laughing from the reenactment (and the booze) but shut up pretty quick when she hit the ground. Parents fly over, accusations are made, long story short we buy the girl the biggest damn ice cream in the park.", "summary": "Introduced a princess and her ice-cream cone to my forearm and the cold, hard ground."}
{"id": "t3_2sz651", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M18] and SO [F18] having trouble", "post": "Hey everyone, \n\nI'm in desperate need to vent and get advice and it just so happens I found this great sub reddit.\n\nAnyways, I'm a senior in hs and I'm together with a girl. I've liked her for over a year now, and we were on and off all last year before we finally stated hooking up steadily in November this year. I'm head over heels for her, even when we weren't on talking terms last year i still liked her. I'm the only guy she's even been with so she's the same way with me. \n\nIn the beginning it was great, we'd see each other every weekend and watch a movie and spend time together. But it's getting bad now. She's going through a huge fight with one of her best friends and it's leaving me hanging. For instance, we go to different schools (I'm at an all guys catholic school, she's in a Co ed one) and she went to my schools basketball game Friday. She didn't even stop to say hi to me, so i went over to her at the end of the game and said, \"you're not even going to say hi?\" Well she felt pretty bad about it and texted me all about it. Then last night, we went to a mutual friends cottage for a party. Again, she didn't even acknowledge me. She talked to everyone but me, and when her friends told her to go talk to me at 4 am and she wouldn't i just called it a night. \n\nGranted, I've been trying to make things between us official for 3 weeks now but she won't talk to me. Her friends said she wants to make it official, so i don't get why she won't. I mean I  worked for her for so long so I don't wanna give up but she doesn't seem to be trying anymore, it's such a one way street.", "summary": "Girl and I have been together for months but she won't acknowledge me in public"}
{"id": "t3_4xcbml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do so many people look down on girls for having a sugar daddy? Is it wrong for me [21F] to feel no shame or guilt about it?", "post": "Been browsing various threads and it seems that being a sex worker in the past is a huge red flag for most people, why is that? People say that they can overlook a girl having been a stripper but disgusted by a girl who has had a sugar daddy.\nI currently have a SD that's a successful lawyer and he pays me a monthly allowance and buys me nice gifts, pays for dinner dates, etc. I think the whole arrangement is exciting and we have the most interesting conversations. I think he's fascinating and he adores me, we haven't even been intimate yet although I know we probably will be in the future. In my opinion I'm just profiting off my looks and reducing my student loan debt by doing this type of arrangement. He honestly treats me better than any other guy I've dated in high school or college. I also realize it's not a serious, emotional relationship either. \nHowever now I'm very nervous about meeting a guy in the future and having him look down on me for what I did in the past. I used to think it wouldn't be such a big deal to a guy but now I'm not so sure. I also don't know if I could ever tell my female best friends for fear of judgement. Thoughts?", "summary": "Have a sugar daddy and am worried potential partners will look down on me for it even though I don't think it's a big deal at all."}
{"id": "t3_f70b9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My ex-flatmates aren't paying my bills. I've paid loads of overdraft fees and charges. My credit rating will be screwed. How do I get back at them?", "post": "I moved in with both my ex-flatmates in the Summer. Things were fine until they came back from summer break. The flat was constantly a disgusting tip, they were rude to my friends and guests. The kitchen and bathroom were so disgusting I just stopped inviting people over.\nAnd they never paid their bills on time (if they ever did). I finally managed to get out of the lease and move out, but not without large cancellation fees from the internet and utilities companies. Now they are refusing to pay these bills as well. I'm hundreds of pounds out of pocket and my credit rating is probably screwed.", "summary": "my ex-flatmates screwed me over, how do I get back at them?"}
{"id": "t3_2dyimf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M][19/F] 1.5 Months, Advice/ideas for long distance relationship while I study abroad?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old dude who recently entered a relationship with a 19 year old lady. Unfortunately due to the timing, I am going to be leaving to study abroad for 10 months in Sweden after just a month and a half of being together.\n\nAlthough the relationship is very new, things got serious pretty quickly. We're both really attached. We've each been in long-term relationships before (1 year her, 3 years me) She has been in a long distance relationship before and I've dealt with having a s/o away for a few months before so we somewhat know what to expect.\n\nMy main question is if anyone has any ideas of things we can do as a couple during the period of distance. For example two things we plan on doing are picking a TV series/anime and watching it together over Skype, or playing Magic: The Gathering over Skype. Does anyone else who's dealt with a permanent or temporary long distance relationship have any ideas of stuff they did or any other general advice?\n\nAs a side note one area I want to pay special attention to is reassurance of the relationship to prevent any insecurities from getting out of hand.", "summary": "New relationship, going to be across the globe for 10 months. Ideas for ways to keep relationship going strong/fun things to do for long distance relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_32iyeh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This is cheating, right?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nI'm having an issue with my boyfriend of three years and I want your opinion on it, plz. We got in an argument today over nothing and he left on a day that I was supposed to accompany him on, solo. I opened up my laptop( that he uses frequently) to see his fb open and messages back and forth from another woman(used lightly) open on the screen. They are talking about me and he is flirting with her. He is saying things to her that he said to me when we first started dating. She is young and shares his hobbies and they were friends last year before I said that she made me uncomfortable. Now my fears have come to fruition as he is messaging her back and forth(which I can see) talking about how he decided to be single and we are done and she's so pretty. He hasn't said one word to me after this fight btw. Oh and these messages have been going on for the past week. Super flirtatious and he always initiates conversations with her. I should mention that he is always on my case about me cheating on him...which has never happened. Never even talked to another man the way he is talking to her.\nSo, is this considered cheating. We are done regardless.", "summary": "BF sending messages to other girl about not loving his GF of three years and how this new girl is amazing. Cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_1l5733", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] Best friends unstable GF is trying to get with me.", "post": "My best friend of a decade started dating this girl about two years back. She had a bad reputation in our group of friends beforehand, but we didn't want to base our views on rumors. Over the course of these two years she has cheated on him multiple times (each time, he takes her back.) and has been pretty much ostracized by the majority of our close friends. Seeing as how my best friend forgave her, I decided to let bygones be bygones and try to be civil. She was really happy that one of his friends starting talking with her again. Recently I got into a situation (I won't go into details.) where she told me of her past as a cutter and multiple attempted suicides. She listed her emotional instability as reasoning behind her cheating, and a way of \"keeping her body busy so she doesn't think of hurting herself.\" She says her relationship with my friend is keeping her sane, but she has started texting me (a lot.) In social situations where for some reason it's just us two she gets very touchy and flirtatious, not very subtle in her approach.\n\nI don't know how to make it known that I'm NOT interested without her going off the deep-end and hurting herself. I also don't know if my friend could get out of this relationship even if he wanted to because of the risk of self-harm. \n\nPlease /r relationship_advice, I need your help", "summary": "Friend has unstable girlfriend who sleeps around, and she picked me as her next target. How do I let her know I'm not interested, and how could my friend get out without her reacting badly."}
{"id": "t3_jwzy9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In love with my sort-of-step-sister...", "post": "Ok... \n\nBackground:\n\nMy dad met a woman and has been dating her for three years. They don't want to get married until all of her kids and me are out of the house. \n\nAnyway, my understood-step mom has a daughter who over three years who I have become in love with. She is best friend and I have no idea how she would respond if she found out. Another problem is she lives in another city a few hours away but I visit every other weekend. She and I are only 16 and we are also kind of physical. We will stay up until 4:00 in the morning talking with our arms around each other lying 3 inches from each other's faces. We tell each other absolutely everything. (except this of course). I'm not sure if she actually cares about me or she is being a huge cocktease because she does not want to lose her problem solving talking friend. This is the most awkward situation ever.", "summary": "I am in love with my sort-of-stepsister who lives in another city a couple hours away who is also my best friend and I don't know how she would react if she found out."}
{"id": "t3_fpghp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE grow up in a house where both parents were alcoholics? How did you cope? How are you doing now?", "post": "When I was a kid (about 6), my parents would leave me and my older sister (9-10) home alone and go to the bar, only to return around 12-2am (sometimes 4am) drunk. I was afraid I wouldn't see them again some of the nights. I have no idea how I coped, but I guess I just eventually accepted the circumstances. My self-esteem was relatively low while growing up, and I can't say I'm very emotionally stable. I don't do drugs or drink regularly, but I used to go through jobs like candy until I learned to get my self stabilized. I feel I've come pretty far (got a steady job, at least), but I still occasionally have very self-destructive habits. I'm not sure how much of this (if any) is caused by my parents drinking habits. But I thought I'd see how other people that grew up in this situation are doing.", "summary": "both parents drank throughout my childhood. now i'm sometimes unstable but have learned to manage pretty well. how 'bout you?"}
{"id": "t3_3bqvge", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Have a crush on a girl at work, don't want her to think I'm a creep for looking at her?", "post": "I've read that staring at a girl makes her think your a creep and now I'm worried I might look like a creep.\n\nI'm a shy guy [20] and she's really pretty [18], sometimes if were both working the same shift I'll have a quick look over at her and a couple of times she's noticed so I've looked away, is that creepy? I wouldn't say I was staring but she might think I was.\n\nAnother time she was walking past and I was looking at her, but she was watching me out the corner of her eye so I kept looking.\nIs what I'm doing classed as staring or glancing? I'm going to avoid looking at her cause I feel weird now.", "summary": "girl at work noticed me looking at her, might think I'm weird."}
{"id": "t3_2ha9tm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Ex [22 F] of 5 months. How do I build back her trust to be in a relationship with me again?", "post": "This is a throwaway.\n\nBackground: My ex and I had been dating for 5 months. About a couple of weeks ago, she moved to a college town about 5 hours away. I offered to go with her while transferring my job. Within those 5 months, she broke up with me twice( I had went to a dinner with my ex without informing her very early in the relationship and she saw the photo on FaceBook and she broke up again later due to her not wanting me to uproot my life for her.)\n\nOn the 5th, I went up to go see her for the weekend and to do a job interview in her area. At her request, she asked if I can stay the week and I said yes.On the 12th, we get into an argument about a text I had sent to a girl and why I deleted it. At the time I told her it was a friend who had an abortion. The Sunday before I left, we argue about it again. She doesn't believe me when I said it was my friends fling and says that I had cheated on her and got some girl pregnant or had intentions to cheat with the girl that I was texting. We then break up over this. I've tried to tell her that I haven't cheated or done anything in the wrong.", "summary": "Broke up because my ex thinks I'm hiding something and that she can't trust me. I'm not hiding anything. Is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_42ye9o", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Need advice: My cat is a bit of a loner, but I would like to adopt another cat. Is there a chance of finding him a friend?", "post": "I've had my cat, Mowgli, since he was born. Four years ago this March, I took in a very pregnant, very friendly, stray. The next morning she gave birth to three beautiful kittens. When the kittens were old enough, the two female kittens were adopted (together) and my family chose to keep mom cat and her son, Mowgli. Mowgli and his mother got along well. Not to the point of cuddling, but they would spend time together often. Unfortunately, mom cat went missing a couple of summers ago.\n\nLast winter, another stray found his way into our lives and we took him in. Mowgli was not for it. I followed the advice I had found online for introducing cats to each other for the first time: They stayed in separate rooms, then when the stray, Bumble, was out of the room, Mowgli was allowed to sniff around. The room Bumble stayed in had a glass door so they could see each other through the door. But, when they finally met face to face, all hell broke loose! Mowgli cowered in fear and hissed, Bumble responded by hissing back, Bumble chased Mowgli and Mowgli swatted back. It was a mess. From then on, we kept Mowgli and Bumble separate, occasionally letting them meet to see if anything would change. It didn't. My sister eventually adopted Bumble and took him to her home. \n\nSorry for the long post. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong? I was hoping that if we adopted a kitten, under 6 months, Mowgli would warm up to the kitten. But I can't be sure. I guess my question is: once a loner cat, always a loner? Mowgli doesn't seem to get along with any of the neighborhood cats either. I would love to find him a friend.", "summary": "The only other cat my cat, Mowgli, has gotten along with was his mom, and even then they weren't close/cuddly. If I adopt a kitten, what are the chances Mowgli will get along with him/her? "}
{"id": "t3_3l3ot5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] and a guy I had just met [21/M] hooked up for one night--having trouble determining what he wants.", "post": "I'm a 25-year-old woman who had a fling with a man who is 21-years-old. I had just met him and he was only in town for the weekend. He told me via text beforehand that he was just interested in hooking up and I agreed. No strings attached. And it was AMAZING. I had a great time with him.\nI worry he maybe didn't have as good of a time as I did because I'm not very experienced (and therefore maybe I wasn't as good as he would have liked) and I also bled a little bit because I hadn't had sex in awhile. \n\nAfter we were done hooking up and we were putting our clothes back on, he told me he might be in town next weekend as well. I feel like he wouldn't have mentioned this if he didn't want to hook up again. Am I right to think this?\n\nAfter he told me that, I told him to hit me up if he came back into town next weekend and he said \"For sure.\" But I suppose he could have been just saying that to not hurt my feelings or something.\n\nSo what do you all think? Does he want to hook up again?", "summary": "if you have a fling with a guy who's only in town for the weekend and afterward he tells you he'll be in town the following weekend as well, does that mean he's interested in hooking up again?"}
{"id": "t3_rakem", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst rumor ever made up about you?", "post": "All of us have been through High School or College and have that pressure of friends and know how rumors can come about. I was just wondering what rumor has ever been started about you that was the absolute worst.\n\nI'll start -\nI have a girlfriend i met in freshman year of highschool. we started dating at our sophmore year, broke up, but got back together during our Junior year and have been together ever since.\n\nWell one day, a week before our 1 year anniversary, I went to my first concert. All around concert was fine I guess, wasn't worth the amount of money that went towards it, especially since it was just a dubstep concert -- would've gotten the same experience going into a room and clicking play on ITunes.\n\nAnyways, seemed like a good night, hung around 2 of my friends the entire night. When one would start hooking up with a girl, I would find the other and just bounce back between the two so I wasn't alone.\n\nFast Forward 2 months..\n\nI get a call one day while at the gym with the friend I was with the entire night during the night of the concert, and it was one of my friends that I used to be insanely close with. She starts off the conversation like \"I don't want you to lie, I won't be mad at you or anything, I just want to know the truth. Did you hookup and cheat on ___ the night of the concert\"\n\nAfter a couple minutes discussing how this became a topic of conversation, she says that apparently a lot of people have been talking about it and that they all think I cheated on my girlfriend.\n\nMy girlfriend, after talking about it with me and crying over it and then getting mad, finally believed me and not everyone else. But this dumbass rumor almost completely ruined my first real relationship.", "summary": "Went to a concert one night. 2 months later, i find out everyone has been saying i cheated on my girlfriend of one year and that they all apparently \"saw it\" even though nothing ever happened."}
{"id": "t3_253q9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and my girlfriend [20F] are stable, but her father has the potential to be a divisive factor.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 2 1/2 years now, we've had ups and downs, but we've managed to work through everything so far, and deepen our relationship.\n\nThe issue is her father. He withheld affection from her and her brother growing up, verbally and physically abused her and her mother, and has now cheated on her mother twice and been forgiven twice.\n\nMy girlfriend is not a fan of her father, for good reason, and neither am I after seeing how he treats her in front of me. Worse still is I can't blatantly show my dislike for him, or he gets upset and whines about it, and then my girlfriend tells me not to upset him.\n\nHow have you in similar situations dealt with this? Part of me could care less about him, but I realize he will always be her father, and I feel wrong to try and control her relationship with him, but he's been nothing but pain for her whole life. What should I do, confront him, or just keep my head down?", "summary": "My gf's dad is the worst person I've ever known, but I have to act like I like him when I'm around him. How have you dealt with terrible in-laws, and what would your advice for me be?"}
{"id": "t3_4zbjv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[14] I always see all these people saying family is on the first place and such but I don't feel it.", "post": "Even when I was in the bus going to school a drunk guy came to me and told me to always help and protect my family but I find much more of a family in my friends.\n\n I just don't feel that way, I always have and still hate my father, when I was younger I just thought his personality was fucked up but now I'm begining to realize that he has mental issues and choses to do absolutely nothing about it, he just eats everyones mental health, even his closest friends choose to avoid him.\n\n My big brother [18] has a great education and is currently going to college but he really isn't \"smart\" at all. He just spends most of his time playing LoL which just seems really sad to me.\n\nMy mother would be the only one I would miss if I moved for high school, she really cares about me because in her childhood she's been through what I have in the last 5 years, exept her dad hit her mom, not her, I have to do wrestling with my father.\n\nIf I hadn't met a good friend of mine in 5th grade to get me out of my shell I probably would have felt too awkward to even write this. Even if he turned out to be an asshole and what I though was a lie, that lie kickstarted me to a better life.\n\nI really don't know if I just inherited my fathers stupid genes and now I'm crazy but I really feel like leaving this place to go to Millitary high school on programming.", "summary": "My family is a mess and I feel bad for not caring about them, except my mother. I feel like moving for highschool and getting a girlfriend would be a better trade off."}
{"id": "t3_2c4b5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] need advice and I don't know where else to turn. I got a woman [33 F] pregnant and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Holy fuck. I am so fucked reddit. So fucked.\n\nSo until about a month ago I had a really big pot problem. I was smoking everyday for about 20 months and I was spaced out all the time \u2013 no excuses though, I am just trying to provide a window into my head.\n\n----\n\nSo, I met with this woman who I have known for some time for a bootycall. Hot sex, yadda yadda. And a few weeks later I get a message telling me that she's pregnant and that she's planning on keeping it.\n\n----\n\nNow these are my problems:\n\n1. I don't want to be a father now. I don't have proper job, I haven't finished my degree, it's poison when trying to find a partner. Not that I am looking hard but I am concious of these things.\n\n2. I am not sure I want to be a father ever. And now I am really worried that I don't think I could ever have other children. I think the guilt and shame of abandonment would mean I couldn't do it.\n\n3. The guilt and shame of abandonment. I feel awful about not wanting this kid, but I really don't want this kid.\n\n4. I feel that everything I want is the \"wrong\" thing to do. I know that kids with two parents generally do better. I know that children of single mothers often struggle. The mother though is a good mum to her other child from years ago.\n\n5. This child would end my life. It would end my travel plans, my career plans, romance.\n\n6. I feel really responsible for this unborn child's life.", "summary": "Got a woman pregnant during a casual encounter. Should I be a parent? I don't want to be a deadbeat dad. Anyone who grew up with an absentee father or was in my position your advice would be most appriciated."}
{"id": "t3_3dsx16", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking my door [NSFW]", "post": "This happened a while ago, but after reading some of these I just had to share. So my mom went out for the night (as she usually does on Fridays) and I knew she wouldn't be back until at least midnight so I started to get comfortable and decided to play a little DMMD. Eventually I get to a really good scene in the game and things are gettin' pretty hot (Literally. It was the middle of summer and I was naked save for my underwear which I had removed prior to get down to \"business\".) so I start getting pretty into my personal time. I'm getting pretty close to finishing and I'm totally engulfed in the game when suddenly the door to my room opens and I see my mom standing in the doorway. (She usually tells me when she's home and checks on me to see if I'm okay.) I immediately pause the game. I have no lights on except for my laptop which I had placed carefully on my chest and I'm just frozen in place. My mom starts CARRYING A CONVERSATION WITH ME ABOUT HER EVENING, I'M SWEATING BULLETS and slowly reaching for the blanket to try and cover up my bits. She finally leaves after a few minutes. I promptly place a blanket over myself and lie there in agony for a while. Still got to finish after she KO'd for the night, but I'll never forget that experience. I still don't know if she ever knew tbh.", "summary": "My mom (kinda) caught me masturbating while I was butt naked and it was a horrid experience."}
{"id": "t3_1ku515", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My boyfriend and I have never had a real fight and I'm afraid when we do it's going to ruin our relationship. (27F & 29M for 8 years)", "post": "First post: \n\nMy boyfriend and I had a very long talk discussing my concerns.  He promised me that there's no resentment building up and emphasized the fact that no one is forcing him to do these things.  I've been trying to compromise more often but he usually insists that we do what I want to do (i.e. picking a movie to watch that he doesn't like but knows I'd be interested in).  In all honesty, his behavior hasn't changed dramatically but he has begun to ask me for more favors, which I'm completely fine with doing.\n\nI'm still not a little anxious about the prospect of us having a big fight but after reading everyone's comments I'm sure that any fight between us won't be as terrible as I've made it out to be.  He's a good guy and he's handled everything perfectly so far.", "summary": "I realized I was being crazy.  Talked things out with SO.  We still haven't had a real fight but I'm less worried about it."}
{"id": "t3_3wusqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakups] How do I (16M) get over her (18F)?", "post": "So my ex and I were together for 19 months before we broke up and she cheated on me for like 3 months. This was an online relationship, but we loved each other and we were both inexperienced with love and relationships. After we broke up, I still had feelings, still do to this day, no matter what she has done to me, I still fucking love her. We are still really good friends and we want it to stay this way since we love talking to each other, we aren't gonna get back together, I tried, but she gives friendly hints and isn't a loving girl, but a caring friend. I just wanted to know how I can get over my feelings for her while maintaining the contact I keep with her, talking to her all the time. I know I will need to find someone else that loves me to fully get over her but I just want to know how to minimize my feelings for her and look at her as a caring friend instead of someone that loves me...", "summary": "Online relationship for 19 months, she cheated on me for the last three, we are friends now, how do I minimize feelings for her and see her as a caring friend instead of something more while talking to her often?"}
{"id": "t3_4vsci8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] cannot work my way through ending my first college relationship with someone who is still my \"friend\" [20f]", "post": "hey guys, \n\nthis will probably get lost in the pile but I could really use some advice. \n\nI started a relationship with a girl, let's call her Kim, last spring (2015). Our relationship didn't kick start right away. I I had to fight for a couple months to really win her over and get her to stay with me but once we started dating it got pretty intense pretty quickly. what started as myself putting in 110% to get her to like me turned into her putting in 200% acting like she was going to be my wife and asking if we're going to share an apartment and all of this really intense stuff for me personally, as a sophomore in college. \n\nSo I started to get freaked out by this and was also realizing that I was not in love with the person in front of me, like I thought I was. I told her I wasn't so sure about the whole thing sometime in February, and went through a painfully slow process of trying to distance myself from her. I honestly should've done this better and just told her right away I wasnt in love with her anymore, but I didn't, and as a result she became very clingly and attatched because she was scared of losing me. \n\nIt's now summer and I was more up front with my feelings, telling her she was making me feel claustrophobic and I needed space, she still wasn't listening so I pretty much ignored her for a few weeks because I honestly felt like I was out of options to get her off my back. We reconciled and talked about that a few weeks ago and she wants to try to be friends, I reluctantly agreed but now it's back to the way it was, I feel suffocated by here, like I don't have freedom and like she always wants to know what I'm doing and invite herself along. \n\nI really don't know if it's healthy for me to keep this relationship, or if I should tell her it's better for me to just leave the whole thing, or to keep trying to work it out?? I feel stuck, please help, reddit!", "summary": "college ex-gf is really clingy, don't know how to handle it without being a jerk."}
{"id": "t3_1xz5ng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my coworker [21 F] 1 week, is she interested?", "post": "I met this girl at work and we made out at one show(drunk) after 1 month of talking, I asked her out to dinner so I could know what she felt about it, I asked if she felt the same as I did and she said we could still go out, nothing serious, but that she didn't want to be just friends with me.\n\nThe problem is, I REALY like her and I want a relationship with her but I don't see any interest of her part, I always start the conversations, I always ask her out, I feel like she doesn't like me as much, what should I do?", "summary": "Going out with this girl I like but she doesn't seem interested, am I over analyzing things?"}
{"id": "t3_1liyxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22M] wait longer to talk to her? [21F]", "post": "This is pretty elementary but I've never been in a relationship before. Class started two weeks ago, and this girl and I have made eye contact multiple times now. I thought it was just coincidence at first, but now I'm beginning to think that it might not be. There seems to be \"something\" there, though I don't know what it is - maybe it's just awkwardness or something.\n\nWell, that's literally all that's happened, and I plan to talk to her soon, except that it's so early in the semester that I think maybe she will get weirded out or something, or that I will seem needy and ready to flirt and try to establish a relationship and all that when really I just want to see if we can become friends. Should I wait a couple more weeks to talk to her?", "summary": "Eye contact with girl in class for past week and a half. Should I talk to her on next class ( Wednesday ) or should I wait a couple more weeks, considering how long the semester is?"}
{"id": "t3_wtsdp", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "What's the best way to get my coworker to stop interrupting and interjecting while people are trying to speak at lunch?", "post": "I work in for a small IT firm outside of Portland.  \n\nBasically, there aren't many young guys here, but the five of us who are younger (I'm 26) began eating lunch together every day, and we all get along well.\n\nCue Tim.\n\nLately, I have noticed that Tim speaks very loudly and confidently in the middle of other people's sentences.  Someone will get a few words out and Tim will interject with either his own thoughts/stories/opinions.  It's incredibly rude and interrupts the flow of conversation within the group.  I don't know if it bugs the other guys, but it sure as hell bugs me.  If I'm the one speaking, usually I just continue to speak until he shuts his mouth, but even that is beginning to fail.  \n\nLittle background on Tim:  he's severly overweight with not many friends.  He often complains about his life, and I know he does nothing but play video games.  I'm confused as to why this guy controls the conversation and why people in the group seem to respect his opinion so much.\n\nMy goal here is for everyone in the group to be able to speak, share, talk, etc. without fear of being interrupted and buried under Tim's constant commentary.  I'd like us all to be able to contribute to conversation equally, so we can all enjoy our lunch hour to the fullest.\n\nWhat would you do?  I know it's in my bounds to ask him to not interrupt me when I'm speaking, but what I'd really like to tell him is that it's disrespectful and basic social etiquette to not interrupt *anyone's* speaking.    I feel like this is pretty basic stuff.  Should I call him out in front of the group, talk to him privately, or decide to eat lunch elsewhere?", "summary": "Coworker constantly interrupts and controls conversation.  Looking for ways to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_24riev", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What does this seem like to you?", "post": "This is the situation I'm in and I feel like I need some outside opinions to help my confusion.\n\nI(16) recently started taking interest in a classmate. For a while it was little conversations which led to getting each others phone numbers, texting. We've been trying to get together to hang out but its been kind of hard. he's dedicated to football, I'm just busy with mutliple things. He's asked me to hang out twice and both times it hasn't worked out because he wants me to come over very late at night to his house but I don't have a car yet so I need to bum off rides of people plus its late and of course my mom isn't too excited about to let me go. I realize that he has definitely shown signs of interest but what do you guys honestly feel about this situation, what does it seem like its going on? If any more info about whats happened or currently is happening is needed I'll gladly post it. Im trying to sort out things but my head is a jumbled mess of one half emotions and the other half logic. I'll post my personal feelings later but before that I'd like objective feedback. Thanks!", "summary": "2 teens having trouble finding time and place for 1st date. Girl teen asking for advice because she is confused."}
{"id": "t3_q01wl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When is a time that you thought you were the super hero but in reality turned out to be some creepy dude?", "post": "So I was at shake shack (burger joint for you west coasters) waiting for my food today when I noticed a very cute girl getting harassed by what looked like a very old homeless man. She was sitting alone trying to eat her food and turn her back to this man while he would berate her for ignoring him and would continue to pester her. I thought to myself, I'm going to go over there and pretend like she is my girlfriend, scare this creepy dude off, and talk to this cute girl as the ice would clearly be broken. When my food was ready I grabbed my bag and walked over to her and said, \"hey babe, sorry that took so long, what's with the old guy?\". She looked at me, then looked at him, then screamed, \"WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME TODAY, WHY AM I ATTRACTING ALL THE FUCKING CRAZIES\" and bolted off leaving all of her food behind. Of course the entire restaurant was quiet and all eyes were on me and this old dude so I quickly nope'd out of there as quick as I could, leaving what little dignity I had conjured up behind.", "summary": "I have no charm."}
{"id": "t3_1udn58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24M wants to send 23F flowers to work but don't know if I should....", "post": "A little background info. We met online but havent met in person yet. Im flying out in March to spend an entire week with her. I have her address and know where she works. A few weeks ago her best friend died in a tragic accident and today they finally put out her headstone so she's taking it pretty hard. I dont want to send flowers to her complex cause she has to work late and Im afraid they will sit in the lobby till Monday. Would it be wrong of me to send flowers to her work place to make sure she gets them tomorrow?\n\n Also what would be the best flowers to send? I dont want it to scream love I just want it to make her day better cause I know it'll be on her mind all day at work especially if its slow for her. And to clarify yes, we are kinda working towards a long distance relationship. Any and all help would be great.", "summary": "lady interest has had a shitty week and I want to send flowers to her work but dont know if its the right thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_16je4s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18 M] Need advice on how to approach an old girlfriend [17 F]", "post": "I don't think much backstory is needed, but basically I grew up with a girl for about 9 years, from ages 7-16. We have a lot of history together, and dated a few times in early high-school. Things ended pretty calmly, but ever since then I've missed her, and realized that I loved her. I've tried many times to get over her by dating different girls, all who I thought I was sincerely attracted to. Those ended shortly and it's probably because I've had a hard time getting over this girl, even though we haven't spoken a lot in the past two years. She's been with other boys, and she's moved on, I'm not too stupid to realize that. However, she is going through serious relationship problems, her boyfriend cheated on her. I'm going off to college next year and I need to go for her one last time, if I fail I fail, but I need to know that I at least tried. I've loved her since I was 7, and I can't let her go without a fight. So to my question, I just want advice on how to approach her now. I'm writing this in a hurry, so hopefully my message is getting across. Thanks for anything anyone can help me with, it's appreciated.", "summary": "Just read it, you can't help me if you don't read it."}
{"id": "t3_uo5ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do with my current bf?", "post": "Ages: Mine 20, His 21.\nGender: Female.\nRelationship: 3 months\n\nSo...my fin aid is currently cancelled for college and I went through an appeal. I wasn't able to finish some SAP policies because of my sexual assault(took my out of class, had to drop a class due to harassment) and I told my SO because I thought he had the right to know what was going on. He already knows about my assault.\n\nAnyways, that was a week ago and it seems like he's dropped off the planet. He's told me everything is okay with us but his actions are stating otherwise. We haven't talked in a week and I understand he's busy and I understand I've been emotional lately but I don't know how to get through to him.", "summary": "Pretty much everything has been going great up until this week and I'm not sure if this is just an off week or his freak out mode. Advice, please?"}
{"id": "t3_2hq3g3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of one year have had a rough couple weeks and I don't know what to do", "post": "I met my boyfriend when I got to college, I love him and we've been dating for a year. It all started two weeks ago after a party. He basically told me I need to workout more and try harder in every aspect of life because I'm accepting mediocrity. For the record we both go to one of the best engineering schools in the country and I am on the D2 track team so I automatically workout about 2-3 hours every day plus bust my ass trying to get good grades in my insane classes.\n\nAfter that argument we decided to take a break, it only lasted about a week. After we got back together I told him how I would try to improve in our relationship and that i expected him to try harder. He never really has given much effort and I honestly just need a little more from him all the time.  \n\nOkay so he agreed to try harder, the past couple days have been pretty good- He's been talking to me more and hes been more affectionate. But this week in one of our classes I saw he was texting someone and trying to hide it from me. This morning i found his phone while he was in the shower and looked through his messages.\n\nIt turns out that during our break he got in contact with his best friend's ex-girlfriend. According to the texts he likes her and she likes him. he even made a comment about them taking a shower together next time he's visiting home. I asked him about the messages and he looked sorry, he apologized and said this was the only time they had flirted like this.\n\n I said I would be willing to forgive him but now I'm not so sure. I was already barely trusting him before and now I don't trust him hardly at all. I think this is too much to get passed but I would like some advice", "summary": "My boyfriend of one year and I took a break after an argument, he ended up texting a girl from back home about them taking showers together. I saw tthe messages when I went through his texts. I think the trust is gone, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ygz15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my fiance [28M] 2.5 years, repeatedly searched for a girl he worked with on Facebook", "post": "My fiance and I spent the last eighteen months working and travelling. While we were away we picked up work at different stages and while at one job he remarked that one of the waitresses was really attractive. We shared one device while we were away and I noticed that he had searched for her on Facebook. I asked him about it and was a bit upset because he'd not looked up anyone else he worked with- just her. He said it was nothing and he was just curious. I was a bit concerned because she was french and he'd needed to have memorised her surname in order to find her which I thought was a bit creepy.\n\nFast forward to now and we got engaged last month and on the night of our engagement he looked up all of his ex's on Facebook. I know because he passed out half way through and his laptop started blaring music at 2am with images of his ex all over the screen.\n\nThat's one of a few instances when he's been pages deep in other girls photos and it really doesn't sit right with me. Especially because it's never random girls, it's either exs or girls he used to have crushes on. Last night I noticed facebook had a new app that lets you see everyone you've searched for in the last year or so. I couldn't help but go through his and I saw that while we were away he tried several spellings of the french girl's name over six days until he got it right. Does this sound like a crush? I've been torn up today but he doesn't think he's done anything wrong because I wasn't meant to see it. I can't help but wonder why he was thinking about her so much and so desperate to find her facebook. He never added her and as far as I know they haven't had any contact since.\n\nI already know that I'm crazy but am I overreacting and should I just drop it? Or should I be concerned?", "summary": "My fiance spent 6 days trying to work out the name of a girl he worked with so that he could look at her Facebook. Should I be concerned or am I over reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_3av3c9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] broke up with my best friend[18/F] of 7 years who I am in love with. I couldn't take the heartache anymore. This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, and I need your help, Reddit.", "post": "We met 7 years ago. I fell in love with her right there. I know I was 13 and I didn't know what love was, but it felt good. It felt different with her.\n\nYears passed, we became best friends and no one knew I loved her except me and her sister who is also my friend. It was hard for me to see her with the two guys she dated, it killed me. Every morning I woke up crying and with a pain in my chest. Today, I have finally decided to move on.\n\nI told her that I need to get my shit together and I will talk to her in a few months, and then blocked her and her family from every social networking site and WhatsApp so that I forget her.\n\nIt is so hard for me, I can't take it. I have to stop doing the thing that I am doing every day since the last 7 years. \n\nI need your help, Reddit! I want to get over her. I have imagined my life with her and now that I realize that she's not going to be into it, it kills me. It hurts bad.", "summary": "What can I do to get over her as fast as possible and make all this heartache go away?"}
{"id": "t3_2c5c6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 2 years, was planning of mutual break up but now everything has changed.", "post": "Okay I probably know what your thinking after reading my title. No she's not pregnant. I wouldn't going to you guys if that was the case. It's actually this, my girlfriend of two years graduated high school a couple months back and was to go away at college. Since I'm still in college but was close to her house (cuz I go to community college near her house) so that was what made it work but the original plan was that she would be away at college. Basically 30 minutes north of my house but an hour away from my college. I wanted to release some pressure of having a relationship and be mutual friends and we were planning on doing that until this morning. She has been having this chronic headache condition and she went to go see a neurologist to see any options and this ended that she will have to have brain surgery to prevent her from becoming blind in the future. So I have no fucking clue to do cuz I need to have less pressure in my life to finish college but I don't want to be the douche bag of century and break up after brain surgery. So guys if you can, some advice would be very appreciative.", "summary": "My girlfriend is having brain surgery but I want to be pressure free of having a relationship for me to finish out college and focus on me but don't want to break up and not be there for her."}
{"id": "t3_2qzn7f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk with my Stepmom. She confessed that she's decided to divorce him.", "post": "I'm 27, and they've been married for 14 years. Their marriage has been challenged a LOT in the past 3 years and to be frank, he can be kind of a prick. My stepmom is the most amazing person I've ever met and I am eternally grateful that she is in my life. After drinking too much tonight, we decided to take the dogs on a walk and in casual talking, she broke down about her recent cancer diagnosis, her mom (my grandmother) being in the hospital and said, \"2015 is going to be a SHITshow, and I'm not looking forward to it\". I'm currently living with them after moving back and she highly suggested I find a place asap before it all goes south. They are a high net worth couple and I have a 10 year old step sister so I know firsthand that it is going to be ugly. I knew they were having problems but tonight was the first time I heard divorce and now I'm not sure what to expect of 2015. My stepmom is incredibly strong, independent and compassionate but seeing her break down and feel like a failure was awful. She's questioning everything she's done in marriage and parenting because of recent actions and I know that nothing I can say changes or invalidates her feelings.  I just don't know how to best help, if at all.", "summary": "got drunk with my stepmom, and she confessed she's divorcing my dad. Love my stepmom (possibly more than dad). Unsure how to be there."}
{"id": "t3_4nyrbf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with who I'm in love with [18 F], but I don't know if its practical enough", "post": "I've known this girl for 5 years now, and there is no one in the world that makes me feel the way she does. I've had many relationships/hookups with others, but her presence does something else to me. She likes me back, although things have cooled off from what they once were. \n\n The issue I'm having is that I feel like our lifestyles and interests are too dissimilar for it to work between us. I enjoy going out to parties, am outgoing, being open about sexuality, having many friends. She's super introverted, sort of prim, and is afraid of vulgarity and rule breaking. I've spent the last year of my life with only her in my mind, but my friends have sort of convinced me that it just won't work. \n\nI know its cliche to say there's no one else, but the thing that draws me to her most is that she's not like the social media obsessed party girls, and I've known her so long. I'm willing to change for her, if I have to, but I don't know if it's right to do so. If anyone has any advice barring the ever-practical \"get over her\", I'm all ears :)", "summary": "I'm in love with a girl who is too introverted, structured and fragile to adapt and be brought into my world of many different activities and new people. Should I try to find someone else who matches my interests or push to make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_1xkcrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of six months (26f) doesn't seem interested in having sex with me (28m); always says she is too tired.", "post": "My girlfriend is mostly wonderful; she's beautiful, smart, funny, educated, and gainfully employed. Put simply, she's pretty much the best woman that I've ever dated. My only problem is that she seems uninterested in having sex with me. We have sex probably once a week, sometimes more, but usually less. She usually says that she is too tired. To her credit, her job is exhausting. And my contrast, my job is not very tiring, and I in generally have more time. But because of this, when I try to talk about it, she tells me, \"you aren't as busy, you just don't understand.\"\n\nThat being said, I feel as though sex is important. It's not just that I enjoy having sex (which I do). It's that sex is a sign of intimacy; it's part of what separates a romantic relationship from other types of relationships (such as being friends). It shows that she's attracted to me and wants me, not just as a friend, but as a boyfriend.\n\nFor me, sex is also an important sign of acceptance. Although I'm generally confident, I also have my insecurities. Having sex signals that she accepts me for who I am, even when I'm naked, fleshy, hairy, and sweaty. \n\nI understand that she's tired and busy. I get that. But I feel as though if sex was important to her and if she wanted to have it she would make time for it; it would be a priority. It's not like we have to do it right at bedtime; we could have sex in the evening instead of doing something else (say, seeing a movie, for example). \n\nAm I being unreasonable? I know that every couple has different amounts of sex. Some couples are happy having very little sex at all. Yet, I feel that, at my age, I really need to be having sex multiple times a week.", "summary": "GF and I only have sex once a week. Am I unreasonable to think that this isn't enough?"}
{"id": "t3_1vxb0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 F] with my boyfriend [34 M] 3 months, Am I asking for too much?", "post": "Background : I've had one serious relationship in college, many years ago.  He has had a \"normal\" amount of relationships and has been married.\n\nWhat I want is affection.  What I receive is a hug whenever we say good bye and a close-lipped kiss.  I've told him I want more affection.  \n\nI want to sleep over more.  I want to cuddle on the couch when we're watching a movie.  I want to hold hands.  I want to be able to reach out and touch him and I want him to do the same.  If we're fighting and I have hurt feelings, I want hugs.\n\nI know that I lack experience and am the big weirdo because I've spent most of my days pursuing other things in life and not pursuing relationships.  He is an introvert and you know, life is tough and whatever, and so he says he can't give me the affection I need.\n\nAm I asking for too much?  I mean, I wouldn't even need everything on my list if I could just get a few things.  But we just spend so much of our time near each other and never touching and I'm even afraid to reach out and touch him because he won't reciprocate (which hurts my feelings, and I don't know if it should).  I feel like even though I haven't had many relationships, I'm not an idiot.  I mean, I know other people in relationships.  I can see what happens and how varied it can be and I feel like I can know what I want.  But I just wonder if I'm fucking delusional or something.  So tell me, am I asking for too much?", "summary": "I want what I consider to be a normal amount of affection and I'm not getting it.  Am I asking for too much?"}
{"id": "t3_17f7fm", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Where can I buy 5th Avenue candy bars?", "post": "When I was a kid, these were my favorite.  Butterfingers can't even compare to a 5th Avenue bar.  I would walk down to the gas station and get one once a week with chore money.  Ever since then I have found, at least in my area, that they are impossible to find.  I have told my friends to be on the lookout for them and I check every time I enter a gas station to make sure I didn't miss them.  I googled 5th Avenue bar a while ago and came to the conclusion that they do indeed still exist.  I just don't know where to get my hands on one without having to order them online.", "summary": "I've been craving my childhood favorite candy for ages, but I can't find it."}
{"id": "t3_2av29i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (32f) niece (29f) told me she came up with a plan for my husband's (35m) disability and now I'm kinda freaked out.", "post": "For the the last 7 yrs my husband has been trying to get disability and it looks like it will finally happen very soon. Over the yrs when I have had a question about the whole process, I have always asked my niece as she had went through it all with her ex husband and she's always been able to help me. \n\nOver this past weekend her and I went on a over night trip. On the long drive she said two things that I just don't know what to even think\n\n1. She took it upon herself to calculate how much back pay my husband should be getting.  \n\n2. She said she talked with her boyfriend and they think once my husband gets his Medicaid, he would be eligible for medical marijuana for his disability. She would take the pot and sell it for us. We would make at least an extra $400 a month with her getting a small cut. She told me we would have to be very stupid not to do it.\n\nWhat the fuck. My husband and I have no involvement when it comes to pot or any drug for that matter. Why is she and her boyfriend talking about my husband's disability at all? \n\n The pot thing freaked me out but her saying she calculated his back pay really freaked me out. My husband said she will probably be wanting money since she thinks she knows what he will be getting. I have purposely never talked about the money part of it with anyone, it's no one business. \n\nSo what should I do? I thought I xould trust my niece but now, i feel really uncomfortable.", "summary": "My niece made a plane for my husband's disability and insurance amd it freaked me out. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3epk0i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/m] scared as shit of commitment and real intimacy and trying to break the pattern with her [21/f]", "post": "I've been seeing a real lovely lady for the past four months. She's sexy, selfless, supportive, patient, compassionate, focused, and embodies so many other beautiful qualities that I admire. She is, without a doubt, the most caring, invested, and honest person I've been in a relationship with and lately there have been moments in which I feel myself glow and surrender to my emotions and feel love. In these moments I am fully present and involved and any other plan or priority loses importance. \n\nHowever, I find myself wracked with anxiety and overthinking when I am not with her. I wonder if I am in the \"right\" relationship, I question whether she can understand certain aspects of me, I hold her up to old, fantastical expectations of women and I exacerbate my agitation by getting after myself for feeling these gnawing doubts. \n\nThese feelings of hesitation and doubt are not new to me and in at least the last four semi-relationships I've tried out I've let them dictate my actions. Because of these fears I've let people go and have realized retrospectively that my actions were either premature or unfair and now I am finally with someone who is genuinely happy and secure with herself, capable of loving me thoroughly and fully, and I find myself uneasy at heart, feeling the old, familiar feelings of fear.\n\nWhat can I do to just let go and immerse myself in this? I'm tired of feeling this in waves of intense affection and surrender that, ironically, only intensify the feelings of doubt and hesitation later. She's aware of my emotions and she's had shades of them herself, but mine have been going on for a couple of months now and I want them to not have such a strict command on me. I'll spend entire days thinking about them and sometimes I feel that the anxiety and hesitation consumes me so much that I am unable to feel myself outside of these emotions. Again, I've had these feelings before and the course of action has always been to end things, but I feel that doesn't truly solve my deeper issues of fear and commitment and I feel that she is someone I want to learn to love, at the very least. \n\nHelp out, please", "summary": "I tend to pull away from relationships out of fear. I can feel myself doing it again, to an amazing person, and I want to fight it and learn to love."}
{"id": "t3_2l3w57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] hate my girl's [23F] best friend. What to do?", "post": "I've met my girlfriend's best friend of many years one time. I didn't exactly gel to her. Let's just say I'm not her biggest fan. I know that she has used (and may be continuing to use) my girlfriend. Her best friend has heard me grunt or jokingly say something negative about her when she's mentioned if we're on a phone call. \n\nLast night I was away with some friends and I called my girl, little did I know her friend was there and when she mentioned her name, I let out a huge uggggggggh. It was stupid of me, but it happened, her friend got pissed. Now my girlfriend thinks it's her fault and she has to be doing a better job of compartmentalizing and separating her lives so there's time for both of us, but never together.\n\nI think that's incredibly stupid and will never hold up, it's too much wear and tear on a person. I feel terrible for being the cause of this situation.\n\nI have offered to bite my tongue and try to get along with her friend, but I don't think either of these two girls is exactly into that. I also offered to walk away from the relationship, even though I don't want to, but for the benefit of not having her play interference between her boyfriend and best friend. She didn't like that idea, either. What am I supposed to do in this situation?", "summary": "I hate my girlfriend's best friend and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11akur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Moving in together and issues with money", "post": "M25 F23 - dateing almost two years\n\nSo me and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly two years now and are thinking of moving in together beginning next year. When I was growing up my father passed and left me a large amount of money, It was put into trust for when I turned 18. Enough people knew about this growing up, and as my siblings and I turned of age many relatives and friends came out of the woodwork looking for loans/bailouts or to startup buisnesses. As I was the youngest I was told by the rest of my siblings to not lend money due to a few misshaps with loans to family and friends. \n\nWhen I turned 20 I purchased my first house cash and moved in with buddys from highchool. From getting shorted on rent to people flat out not paying and moving out ive developed quite the issues trusting people over money issues. \n\nIm honestly worried moving out with my girlfriend due to these issues, all the horror stories ive heard from people where the girl takes halve the house.  And issues with my own  family try to be chums with me as soon as I hit 18 with their great buisness ventures. To be honest the thought of her doing something like that seems really far fetched to me. How do I know what will happen a year from now though really.\n\nI live in canada and im pretty sure common law is after 3 months. Which means theyare inclined to half of my money after that? People always warn me thats its important to protect myself in these situations and it leaves me torn on what to do. This is the first girlfriend im going to move out with and am not sure what to do in this situation. Has anyone here delt with anything like this or have advice for me?", "summary": "Moving out with first girlfriend, looking for advice protecting myself financially. Canada"}
{"id": "t3_4hb2qm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend's [18M] ex-girlfriend keeps contacting him.", "post": "I just started dating this guy about two months ago and everything's been going well as we finish up high school. However, his ex, who's a year younger, has been popping up more and more frequently. They dated for 6 months and he broke up with her around 5 months ago in December, so it's still fairly recent. At first, she would say hi to him at school, which I didn't mind too much. But it progressively got worse. She would sit with him at lunch, study hall, and come over to his house a lot since she's best friends with his little sister. For his birthday a few weeks ago, she made him a cake and got him a gift!! And just last night, she baked him a pie and texted him 20 times at midnight.\n\nI know it's probably hard for her to get over because she sees him at school a lot, but she's being really annoying and I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. He doesn't like that she's trying to talk to him too. I appreciate him not responding to her texts, but he never told her to stop because he felt that \"silence was stronger at getting the point across\". I don't think it's doing much and I really want to tell her to back off, but I feel like it would be too childish and rude.", "summary": "boyfriend's ex won't back off, getting really annoyed and I don't know how to stop her."}
{"id": "t3_13fr2n", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "We are overwhelmed with chores. Need advice.", "post": "Ok here's the deal.  I have a 6yr old and 2 yr old twins. I work Sun - Thurs 6pm to 6am. I get my son to school from 7am-8am I sleep from 9am to 2pm. From 2pm-3pm I get shower, shave, etc. From 3pm-5pm I pick up my son from school and help him with his homework and then leave for work. So basically I can't help out with much at all during those days. \n\nIt's hard for my wife, a sahm, to get much done as watching the twins is afull time job unto itself. On my days off its trying catch up from nothing getting done in the past few days. Our biggest problems are always laundry and dishes. It takes about 12-16hrs to do a week's worth of laundry. Would it be better to round up all the laundry and take to the washateria every week so you can do it all at one time?\n\nI have looked up several chore charts and such but nothing really seems to help.\n\nAlso when we do get a break sometimes we know we should be doing stuff be damn are we never allowed to watch TV or go anywhere are do anything? Is our lives dedicated to doing nothing but working cleaning and watching kids? What kind of life is that? My wife is going stir crazy and I don't blame her. I go to work and work sucks but at least its a change of scenery.", "summary": "need help with time management."}
{"id": "t3_dkikx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, Monday I start teaching piano at a private academy. I have no teaching experience, advice?", "post": "An old friend of mine owns his own private music academy. He recently asked me if I wanted to be a teacher. I instantly said yes, and he said I was hired- no interview, no testing of my teaching or music skills. I took piano lessons from ages 9-15. I am 20 now, and play 5 instruments including the piano, guitar, bass, drums, and accordian. Other than 6 years of private piano lessons in my home, a couple of music fundamental classes in college, and experience in performing for small crowds, I have no experience in teaching kids how to play. I am extremely excited, but extremely nervous. I see the other teachers have music degrees, years of experience of performing at concerts and benefits. I feel very underqualified for my dream job. I get the curriculum tomorrow. The kids are around ages 7-12. I will be teaching about 4-6 at a time. I have a good knowledge of music theory and piano, but just lack the professional experience. Any suggestions?", "summary": "I start teaching piano at an academy monday, with no experience or formal degree in the field other than my private lessons as a kid. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1f2giu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19]F and [19]M friends for the longest while and now dating... Stuck with emotions", "post": "When to say I love you when your with your best friend? Been close for two years and even closer for a year. Started dating a few months ago. I love him and have no idea how I'm supposed go about... well... either telling him or hinting about my feelings or anything... its far different than ANY relationship I've been in. We've been through ex's jealousy losses bickering anger... everything... and our friendship has stayed strong. we have the same morals and ideas and goals in life... and I truly feel in love with him. and not the fast passionate puppy dog love. the slow happy easygoing love that just keeps growing. He's just a very timid person and I don't believe has ever said those tree words in a relationship... but I refuse to say them first... I want him to mean it and not feel pressured. what to do?", "summary": "I feel the urge to say I love you but doesn't want to say it first though he I know he may not say it."}
{"id": "t3_elpu5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "how do i make sure he knows i am still interested?", "post": "i recently got out of a pretty rocky long term relationship.  23F, was with my ex for 3 years.  i have been over our relationship for a while, but we finally just ended things for good about a month ago. \n\nsince i'm pretty ready to move on, i don't feel badly about having a pretty big crush on this guy that i met not too long ago.  he also just got out of a relationship recently and wants to take it slow.  understandable, i'm not looking to get attached too quickly.\n\na couple nights ago we hung out and had some drinks with a group of people, 1 of my good guy friends included.  when i came time to say goodnight to my crush, he repeated he wanted to have fun and take it slow, so i just kissed him on the cheek (even though i REALLY wanted to actually kiss him) and we went our separate ways.\n\nafter going home and venting to my roommates about being bummed that i hadn't kissed him, one of them said, \"why don't you just go kiss Guy Friend?\" i was sort of tipsy, and it seemed like a good idea, so i called him up and went to his place and we ended up having a really fun night of friend-sex. i have no regrets about this, it was truly a good time.\n\nfast forward to the morning after, i mistakenly send a text to my crush that should have gone to Guy Friend about our sexy time.  nothing major and sort of vague, but still probably a little uncomfortable.  i tried to play it off, but i'm afraid that i gave him the wrong idea of what i want.\n\nhow do i let him know that i am still interested in hanging out/pursuing a relationship with him, even though there's this friend sex business with Guy Friend? i really do like my crush and would love to h/o with him more.", "summary": "recently single, have a big crush on a new friend, decided after not getting to kiss crush to hook up with Guy Friend, crush may know (i'm not really sure).  how do i make sure he knows i still like him, w/o coming across too strong/crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_bs3kc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit, I love my girlfriend but also love my ex.", "post": "Before you say it, I know it's totally cliche. I'm with someone now for 1.5 years, and I can't stop thinking of my ex. I only really find my girlfriend attractive 50% of the time, and that only might be just before I'm going to have sex with her. \n\nI'm totally torn what to do. I know if I break up with my gf it will wreck her world, and she will be totally alone. She's in a big city without many friends. \n\nPlease don't call me a douche bag, because I've had so many chances to bang my ex and I haven't. Some might call me gay. Fuck knows. \n\nThis shit is constantly making me depressed. The only break I get is when I sometimes have sex with my gf from behind, I'll pretend it's my ex. That somehow gives me a few weeks break from all of this. Yeah, it's usually when I'm drunk aswell.  \n\nWhat do I do? Do I just break up with her and then proceed to find flaws with my ex again? We only broke up because she went travelling.\n\nOh yeah, one little thing. My ex is a bit of a whore but just kisses guys ALL THE TIME. Weirdly, when I'm with her, I feel really happy and at peace.", "summary": "Im a douchbag that still loves his ex and gf"}
{"id": "t3_4qhfz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my 23 [00 F] 1 year duration, please honestly tell me if I am wrong", "post": "Hi,\n\nso I have been lurking this sub for quiet a while and hope you can help me with a problem I have in my relationship.\nI am aware that it might be me who is wrong so I try to present everything as objectively as I can.\n\nSo we have been dating for about a year, known each other for 4 \nyears and everything has been great so far. We are long distance at the moment (not that far like 4 hours car ride) but we plan to move closer in the next year after she finishes university.\n\nOne problem that has been bothering me for a bit is that I feel like it is super difficult to plan anything with my girlfriend. So I am aware that because I am working at the moment and she is at school that it is not as easy for her to plan ahead. \n\nA few examples of what is bothering me: \n1.\nShe planned to visit me next week but might come 3 days later due to some friend visiting her at the last second.\n2.\nWe planned to talk tonight but she told me 20 minutes ahead that she cant make it because some friend invited her eat together as a go away present.\n\nThe reason why I am bothered by those two incidents is, that I do not have a great deal of free time at the moment. For example if she told me earlier that she will visit me 3 days later I would have liked to join a trip with my friends. Or today I left work early to talk to her as our schedules collide at the moment and we do not have a lot of time where we are both free.\n\nSo I am really not sure if this is someting I have to get over or something that I should adress with her.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems a bit flakey with plans. Is it something I should compromise with or something i should adress?"}
{"id": "t3_4xtv5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend (26F) Wants Me (26M) To Move Her In. I Don't Feel It Is The Rite Time To Do So.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating 2 Moths to me, but 2 years for her. Her and I broke up after a year, and a year later we are now back in a relationship. \n\n I won't go into depth of the breakup, but it involved some emotional cheating and things that took me a long time to move past (1 year) before I was willing to try again. \n\n So now, here we are. I have lived on my own for 16Months. She has never had an apartment of her own (she lives at home with her parents). She is ~2 weeks off from getting her own place now. She is attempting to guilt me in to moving her in with me. \n\n It's not something I feel is ready. She feels we have been together for 2 years, I feel we have been together for 2 months after what I consider to be a fresh start and a clean slate. \n\n Another problem is the amount of change my life is undergoing. I'm finally attending college for the first time, looking into better jobs with health insurance, and am unsure if I will be moving sometime soon to be closer to a new job, closer to college, ect. I'm undergoing so much change that I feel not only is it too soon but I'm also unsure of just what is going on in this new chapter of my life. \n\n Her immediate assumption is that I don't see us long term. That I don't ever seen us moving in together, and things of the sort. \n\n I feel that she is getting cold feet with moving out of her parents for the first time and is seeking a safe-haven. Something less risky. \n\n What do you all think? Is my mindset wrong? I'm feeling rather unsure. \n\n What I do know is that this isn't the rite time. Even if that's something she disagrees with. \n  \n________", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to move her in with me. She's getting her own place in 2 weeks. I'm undergoing too much personal change in life for that next step."}
{"id": "t3_2l28ek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my almost girlfriend [19 F] I need help getting out of a relationship that never even started.", "post": "Ok, so I met this girl about 1 year ago. We'll call her \"Jane\" I didn't know her very well, however she was a mutual friend of a friend of mine. We will call\nhim 'Nick'. \n\nNow about two years ago Nick dated Jane but it didn't work out. \n\nI get to talking to Jane and start to really like her. Later that night when I'm at home she messaged me on Facebook. It all went from here.\n\nWe texted a lot over a month's time and eventually we told each other that we had feelings for one another.\n\nWe decided not to date because we wanted to get to know each other better before we did date.\n\nOver the two month course of getting to know her better, my feelings for her have dissolved, she's just not my type.\n\nHowever, her feelings for me are still strong as ever.\n\nHow can I tell her I want out of a relationship that never even started?", "summary": "I have lost my feelings for a girl who likes me a lot, and thinks I still like her."}
{"id": "t3_4be72h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get buff", "post": "excuse me beforehand for my english, it is my second language. the case happend 3 months ago but only now my friend convinced me to write about it. me and my friends allways try to get better head from drinking buzz, so we try all creative ways to make it better and i guess you ask how it is related to me getting bigger dont worry it will be answered further ahead. so me any my friends sit in a park at night just drinking haveing fun until sasha comes up with the idea of drinking vodka upside down from the back entrance, and how all the young kids are now doing it and its way better then just drinking from the mouth, well we all agree and they try it, it was really wierd to watch from the side but they had alot of fun, here is the part stuff go boom boom for me, because they know i work out they suggest me to do it too but with protein shake and of course VODKA, i had no idea why at the time that seemd like a normal think but i went with it. after a couple of hours i felt really sick and calld my friend eigor, he came to my house only to find me passd out on the bed with alot of  protein on the floor, he take me to hospital they laugh, i cry, my mom calls me stupid, my dad says he probably would do the same, great day, i no longer friends with them try to make better friends now.", "summary": "buzz and shakes in bumm alot of fluids on floor hospital doctors laugh i cry mom pissd off dad would do it too."}
{"id": "t3_1ldhhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F16) boyfriend (M17) broke up with me and I'm really struggling.", "post": "He moved back to Australia about a year ago, and like all relationships we started as friends, really close friends and then it developed into something more. He is my first serious boyfriend, but he has had a previous girlfriend of 2 years. For the past few months things haven't been easy going, there have been so many of the stupid little fights you have, I thought this was just normal and they would go away with time because we would learn from them. In fact from what I have spoken to other couples about they are normal, nothing out of the ordinary.\n\nAbout a month ago he said to me that things needed to change because he can't keep doing this anymore, meaning he can't keep having these silly little arguments. I agreed because I was getting upset most days.\n\nThings got better, we weren't fighting as much and I thought things were fixed. But this week hasn't been good, we had a silly fight on the Tuesday and one on the Thursday. But the one on the Thursday went on for a bit and we both got upset. I am obviously thinking this will just blow over and everything will be okay, but it wasn't. He broke up with me and I am devastated. I haven't eaten, haven't slept, I'm just so upset. I love him so much and would do anything to be with him. He called me last night and I cried, and cried and cried, begging him for a second chance. I am so willing to change and I really need him to know that. I have asked him if it's a possibility to get back together and he said yes. He says he still loves me which is confusing.\n\nI know this is just a silly high school break up, but I would really like some advice.", "summary": "My boyfriend broke up with me, I'm confused because he says he still loves me."}
{"id": "t3_2tzz0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] asked a girl [20 F] to coffee, then she told me she had a boyfriend.", "post": "Hi all, so, as the title says, I asked a girl from one of my classes to coffee. She responded by saying that, while she doesn't drink coffee, she would like to do something with me. This is around the second or third day we had known each other and so I felt like my intentions were clear as it is a common thing on my campus. Afterwards we texted for quite a while into the late night. \n\nIn the midst of the conversation, she passingly said 'my boyfriend'. I'm not trying to step on toes or read too far into this, nor do I want to break up a relationship or anything like that, but I'm very confused. \n\nOf course there is only so much the internet can get from my description, and I'd be happy to describe it more, but how do I read this? Or handle it? I'm just trying to get back into the dating game so I'm behind the curve, haha.", "summary": "Girl I asked to hang out with passingly mentioned a boyfriend, how do I read this/what do I do."}
{"id": "t3_4mk2w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M, 21] girlfriends [F, 22] farts are the worst I have ever smelled and she doesn't seem to bother.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nso this is a bit embarrassing. We started dating almost two years ago.\n\nI want to say, I'm used to pretty bad farts. I have lived for three years with a roomie who had lactose intolerance and couldn't give a fuck about it. But her farts smell *worse*. Like, a lot. \n\nAt first I thought she had eaten something wrong and I was a little too embarrassed to address it, but her farts continued to smell like a dumpster on fire. So after a week or two I told her that I couldn't bear her farts, that I am concerned that she might be sick, that she should see a doc and that she should leave the room when she feels that she has to fart.\n\nHer reaction was... a little demeaning, to be honest. She made it pretty clear that she doesn't see a problem with it and that I should leave the room if I have a problem with her farts.\n\nAs stupid as it sounds, I thought about breaking up with her because I just can't stomage her farts and I am not willing to seek refuge in the bathroom every ~30 minutes because she ripped one.\n\nSo, has anyone of you some advice?", "summary": "GFs farts smells like death, isn't willing to do anything about it, I sit in my bathroom and need help"}
{"id": "t3_34wfq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend's (f18) Officially a Model Now, and I'm (m18) Uncomfortable With It", "post": "Hello Reddit people! This is my first post ever, so I don't know if I'm formatting this correctly or anything, so please bear with me. :P\n\nNow that we have that out of the way...\n\nSo, my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 8 months, and she just got a modeling job for a magazine or store or something. And this girl is absolutely beautiful, 10/10 babe with large breasts and the most amazing curves I've ever seen on a girl. Just a couple of hours ago, she messaged me about how she was going to be modelling for them regularly, including swimsuits during the July photoshoots.\n\nNow, I really, REALLY don't want to be a possessive or greedy boyfriend, but this just, well, makes me uncomfortable. Hundreds if not thousands of people are going to see my girlfriend in barely any clothing, and I know for a fact that the male models are a dozen times as attractive as I'll ever be. Plus, well, we all know there's those people who take these magazines home, and... do stuff.\n\nSo, how should I deal with this? Should I tell her up front that I'm not comfortable with it? She's really flirty, and I have no idea what the culture is in the modelling industry, so I don't know if she'll end up leaving me for some hotter guy than me (I'm not exactly an Adonis), or that her body's basically being exposed to the world. That kind of bothers me because guys (or girls) don't exactly go into a relationship with the understanding that nationwide people are going to see your girl (or boy)friend's nearly naked body on a regular basis. But on the other hand, I don't want to be controlling, and I want her to be happy, so maybe I should just forget about the whole thing. Am I overreacting?", "summary": "Girlfriend is a model now, I don't want her to fall for somebody hotter, among other issues I have with it. Should I mention it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3xej3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakups] My [19 M] girlfriend of 4 years [19 F] broke up with me in June, still not over it", "post": "We were together 4 years through high school and a year of college. This was our first time ever breaking up and I was devastated and did all I could to straighten things out. Things didn't work out and I decided that I should take the L and move on.    \n    \nI haven't talked to her in months and have had multiple relationships with girls since the breakup.     \n    \nThis gives you the basic background. Now to my issues. I'm always sad. I was understandably sad post-breakup but now it's not like I even want to talk to her let alone get back with her. And I'm not sad to the point where I can't do anything, but if I ever get more than an hour by myself, I'm almost guaranteed to cry.   \n     \nMy life is objectively great and I have great friends and I'm happy with everything I'm involved in right now, yet I just can't get over it. And I'm not always really thinking of anything in particular or any reason why I'm sad, I just feel deeply unhappy and I don't understand why. I really thought I'd get over it eventually but that hasn't happened yet and I'm starting to get really tired of feeling like ass all the time for no reason.    \n    \nHow I feel fluctuates depending on the day too, also for seemingly no reason. I really just want to find what's causing this and fix it, I just can't find why I feel the way I do.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me, been sad ever since. plz help"}
{"id": "t3_2dn0b3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've{21F} been in love with my best friend {24F} for years and I hate it.", "post": "I've loved her for years.  She's amazing. Her eyes are like are giant embracing globes. Her hands are so soft, they'd make you melt. Her lips are so sweet like candy. She often says I'm the only one who can make her cry from laughter. When were out together. She holds my hand and kisses my cheek. \n\nI love her and she knows this. We've hooked up several times. She proclaims that she's not bi. She is. I can't get enough of her. I want more than a casual fuck buddy...\n\nShe has bf, but I think it's all for show. He's an asshole and doesn't treat her right. He's completely fine with us hooking up occasionally so that's not it. It's doing my head in and I don't know how to tell her I want her. What the hell do I do?", "summary": "I love this woman, but I can't tell her.  I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_t8isv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My father is going to be Forever Alone if things keep up this way. Help.", "post": "**Backstory:** My mother is out of the picture completely, for reasons I rather not disclose. Since a very young age, my two elder sisters and I, the youngest were taken care of and watched over by my dad. Both my sisters went off to great colleges and are doing well as of now. I, myself am headed off to college in the Fall.\n\n**Problem is** that my dad, always working full time to support the lot of us through school and endeavors, and spending whatever time he had leftover with us, he's had virtually no time to make consistent friends or anyone to really talk to outside of the family. It doesn't help that in the past few years he had to stop working due to bodily injury, so socializing through work is a no go.\n\nSo I feel a massive pressure and guilt resting on my shoulders about going to college 6 hours away by car and leaving him all alone. I'm going to spend what little time I have left with him, going to get him a Nintendo DS, with a bunch of brain exercising games, which he's always loved, and get him a webcam so we could Skype often. I think all this would be great, so I could keep in touch, but other than that, he wouldn't talk to anyone else really. I'm afraid I won't always be able to talk to him consistently and I don't want his only socialization to be with his children.\n\n**What are some ways I could convince him to get out more and meet new people, doing new things?", "summary": "Single father raises three children, destroying outside social life. Three kids now grown up, father will be all alone."}
{"id": "t3_42f6dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How crazy am I [27F] to date my boyfriend [28M] of 1 month?", "post": "I met my boyfriend in a bar six weeks ago, and since exchanging numbers we have been like crack to each other. Together all the time, hardcore infatuated. I'm so intoxicated by him that I think I'm having trouble seeing the situation clearly, despite being a rational person in the rest of my life.\n\nI'm in the first year of a doctorate that will give me a professional credential I'll be able to have a very nice career with. For now I'm living on a grad student stipend, so I'm not rich, but I did get a prestigious fellowship that allows me to work a lot less than the rest of my classmates (no need for an extra campus job in order to get paid). So I have a lot of free time. My coursework is also quite easy. In order to start this program I had to relocate to a new city pretty far from anyone I know. So far, in fact, that the culture here is really different from anything I'm used to, and it hasn't been that easy to make friends over the past 6 months. I've felt pretty lonely and isolated. To top it off, I broke up with my long distance SO of 2.5 years in November.\n\nI met my new bf only a few weeks after that breakup. He's my age but lives the same way that someone ten years younger would: at mom's house, working a shitty shift-based job, with only a few years of community college that he never finished. He also had a 2 year old daughter (who I love). He doesn't have an academic mind, if you know what I mean. He's much more of a visual thinker. And he's an MMA fighter.\n\nObviously my parents aren't thrilled that after my ivy educated PhD ex I have found this guy. Heck even his mom thinks I'm \"too good\" for him! On paper he sounds terrible. But he's really physically and emotionally compatible with me and he makes me really happy.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are radically different, and everyone in our lives is skeptical of the viability of our relationship. Should I ignore the haters or am I being naive?"}
{"id": "t3_2qevxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (39F) don't seem to have any \"best\" friends or a circle of friends.", "post": "I've always been a bit of introvert, probably from being an only child. A little socially awkward probably... tact is not something that has always come naturally to me, but I have a good heart and have never meant to hurt anyone's feelings on purpose. Now that I've gotten older, I tend to not say anything rather than say the wrong thing.. so people think I'm just the \"quiet one,\" when that's not really the case; I'm just afraid they won't like me or I'll make an ass of myself.\n\nI've never had a ton of friends.. in high school I hung out with my boyfriend's \"crowd\" because I didn't have my own. I'd have one or two good friends, but that was about it. I was in high school 20 years ago.. before Facebook, Internet, cell phones etc. I think having those things would have helped my social life a lot. \n\nFacebook has helped me reconnect with a lot of people, but not many of them seem particularly interested in hanging out or getting closer with me. Everyone is so busy with their own lives, it's almost like everyone already has their \"best friends\" and don't need any new ones. So this would happen.. reconnect with an old friend on FB, go to lunch once, attend one party together.. and then never really hear from them again outside of FB. Don't get invited to the social gatherings they post pics of on FB. \n\nI don't know what I'm doing wrong. I do get a few invites to do lunch, but pretty much no one texts me during the day to share a funny joke or something or ask me how I am. I don't have a lot of really close friendships, I guess is what I am trying to say. The people I'm closest to are my husband and my mom. I feel like I have a lot of friendly people in my life, but no \"real\" friends.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "I have trouble making and keeping friends, and do not have a real circle of friends or any \"best\" friends. This problem has plagued me my whole life."}
{"id": "t3_1wband", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31 M] paranoid with gf [30F] 3mths. Sends an email which never arrives. Sobers up, won't tell me what's in it", "post": "She goes away on holiday. The morning she's due to come home she texts saying she's drunk and horny can't wait to get home and may need to have sex in the airport. Brilliant. Followed by a text saying that she has sent me an email which I should read before I pick her up. No email arrives. She replies later 'probably just as well!' I say she could just copy&paste into a msg but she doesn't reply.  \n  \nAnyway, she was drunk and while I got those messages in the middle of the night, later on in the day, I'm still a bit curious. So I text and ask and she replies but ignores the curiosity.  \nI pick her up at the airport, and though she travelled with a big group of friends (about 10, mostly all couples), she's on her own and her eyes are bloodshot. She's obviously tired but I feel she's a bit distant - like she won't let me push the trolley for her.   \nI decided beforehand I wouldn't mention the earlier text as I wanted to give her a chance to bring it up herself - she doesn't. Unsuprisingly, no shenanigans either. She's tired so I let it go.  \nAnyway, I'm chewing on this all day and realise I can't wait any longer so I text and say that I think she should tell me what was in the email. She says it was deleted when she sobered up. I say I think she should tell me what was in it, she also refuses. I say then I'll continue to think the worst, she says it was a topless photo. I ask if she's deleted it, she says she has. \n  \nIt does make some sense about it being a photo, except:\n* she has sent me a photo before  \n* but through MMS, not email\n* she could have been straightup about it being a photo, and not an 'email' right from the start  \n\nAnd that's where it stands...", "summary": "She says the deleted email was a nudey pic. I don't believe her and I'm having an ol' freakout"}
{"id": "t3_3b9v4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18M) with my gf (18F) feeling like we have a one-sided sex life. (1 year)", "post": "We have a great relationship, really never fight and have very good communication with this being the one possible exception. \n\nTo cut to the chase we haven't ever had sex, instead we do a combination of oral sex, fingering and hand jobs along with some dirty talk and playing into her kink a bit. \n\nI guess I'm just feeling unsatisfied and a little bit like the sex is one-sided. She gets multiple orgasms, fingering, eaten out, a ton of foreplay and her kink indulged, while I generally get a quick handjob or blowjob which I sort of enjoy. \n\nI want to have penetration sex, she doesn't and believes that she would get pregnant despite the fact that she's on birth control and I would use a condom and even pull out. I've simply accepted her decision and never have pressured her on it, apart from bringing it up from time to time and asking her if thats still how she felt. However I'm starting to have a growing feeling of resentment, and as petty as it sounds seeing her totally satisfied and melting with happiness after our \"sex\" just makes me feel envious.\n\nShe doesn't know about how I feel and I almost feel it would be unfair to share it as it would just be another way of pressuring her into doing something she isn't comfortable doing. Possible solutions? I really love her.", "summary": "I want penetrative sex, she doesn't and I'm quietly hurting."}
{"id": "t3_181ctd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [20] has been really pissing me off and I'm [24] trying to just let it go", "post": "I dated this girl a few months ago. I know this gets thrown around a lot during break-ups, but this was the single craziest girl I've ever dated. We had 7 break-ups in 6 months each one repeating a cycle. She would act completely happy, everything would be good for a bit, she'd start acting stoic and unhappy, and then she'd say she was acting the whole time during the good bit and blame her unhappiness on me. Then a week later we'd talk, she'd apologize and we'd repeat the cycle. I tried my hardest to make the break-up amicable, but she has been relentlessly agressive and it's starting to get to me. I want to be the bigger person and just let it go, but I'm really starting to want to push back. What should I do?", "summary": "My ex is a bitch and I'm getting tempted to be an asshole back."}
{"id": "t3_4i7xfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my husband [31 M] of almost 7 years, how can I make him feel appreciated?", "post": "Throwaway since hubby knows my username. \n\nThis is a little different than most posts here. I've been with my husband nearly 10 years, married almost 7, and we have two wonderful boys [3 M & 1 M]. We live with my parents [Late 40's M/F] in preparation for a big out of state move this summer, and he's a full time engineering student/house spouse while I work full time. We're in finals week, so obviously he's super stressed. \n\nThe thing is, he's the best. He helps my mom with the kids during the day, does chores around the house, and stays up super late every night studying and doing homework after the rest of us go to bed. \n\nHe's thoughtful and loving, tells me often how beautiful he thinks I am, and is an involved and adoring father. I feel like I can't properly express in any way how much I appreciate him. He's a major introvert, so taking him out or something like that wouldn't be pleasant for him, and it's impossible to get alone time since the kids are night owls. We have sex maybe 1 or 2 times a week if we're lucky since our youngest still nurses and often ends up in bed with us during the night to nurse. Next week we'll have a house guest staying with my parents in the boy's room for two weeks, so they'll be in the room with us and probably both in our bed since we don't have space for even the baby's crib in there. \n\nHow can I properly show him how much I love and appreciate what an amazing husband and father he is? I buy him things he needs or wants, tell him often how amazing and handsome he is, do everything I can to give him quiet time to study and decompress, but it all feels inadequate. What can I do to really show him how amazing he really is?", "summary": "How can I make my overworked and underappreciated husband feel appreciated?"}
{"id": "t3_347p46", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking pre workout.", "post": "Reddit this happened about an hour ago and is still going down.\n\nI woke up this morning and was in autopilot mode, I had a shower, got dressed and made up two scoops 'Oxyshredd' (fat burner) with water, Drank it down and was on my way to the train station to go to work, when I was at the train station My face and hands became very itchy and it began to dawn on me that I'd grabbed the wrong container of the shelf and made two scoops of pre workout instead of Oxyshredd and drank it on an empty stomach, by the time I got to my stop I'm feeling like I can conquer the world and in my haste I go straight to work and forget to get some breakfast! So now i'm sitting at my desk at work, My hands and face feel like they're on fire because of the super amount of caffeine and creatine I've just accidentally taken and i'm feeling pretty jittery.\n\nNot look forward to when this wares off and i'm stuck at my desk trying to stay awake and be productive.", "summary": "Took two scoops became superman."}
{"id": "t3_1x36bg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Fianc\u00e9e, [24 F] looking for advice on how I can help planning a wedding", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am not sure if this is the correct forum through which to be asking this question, but if it is incorrect, I apologize. \n\nI am a man who recently got engaged (great news!) to the love of my life and we are currently slated for an October, 2015 wedding. My fianc\u00e9e immediately began to research and gather resources, planning for our wedding. Seemingly, she has been quietly researching this for some time, though I would imagine that most girls do. Regardless, each night she takes some time to browse blogs, magazines and other resources to plan for our wedding while I just kind of sit there and do my own thing. \n\nShe has definitely been including me in the conversations and asking my opinion on everything, which I've loved. We even attended our first bridal expo last weekend which was a ton of fun. \n\nHowever, I want to do more--I don't just want to give my opinion, I want to actually contribute to the process. Ladies, were your men a part of this process when you were engaged? Men, were you at all a part o the process? Some nights she is very stressed about the process and I want to do anything I can to alleviate this feeling. What can I be doing to help with this process? Any tips for men or anything you wish you would've known during your engagement process? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "What can I, as a man who doesn't know much about weddings, help contribute to the wedding planning process?"}
{"id": "t3_1b0d25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [19f] told me that she loved me [23m] and has been distant since.", "post": "I have know my friend for roughly 3 months, most of that was spent working with her. Life happened and we no longer work together but we have been hanging out and talking at least 2-3 times a week and she always gets extremely excited when she sees me. We text some but nothing too in depth.\n\nThe last time that I hung out with her we just sat and talked for a little bit, laughed at a few memes that described me perfectly and then started listening to music...typical night...except she started singing...the first time I've ever heard her sing. I told her that she had a pretty voice and that she should sing more often and she told me I'm the only person that she has ever sang around.\n\nAfter a while we had to part ways and I went to leave and she said \"I love you\" and without even hesitating I said \"I love you to.\" Since then she has seemed a distant, like not returning texts  or asking to hang out.\n\nDo you guys think that I'm just over thinking this or is she upset?", "summary": "Friend said that she loves me and without even hesitating I told her that I loved her as well...she seems distant since then. Am I over thinking this or is she upset?"}
{"id": "t3_18qki2", "subreddit": "running", "title": "A run", "post": "So yesterday i went on a pretty unique run. It started off pretty normal until I took a turn. It was a new route, a new adventure. Unexplored hills and strange roads, it was awesome. I was in the zone but at the same time taking my whole environment in, which actually resulted in me wiping out. It was just a minor obstacle though, like a branch or rock in the path, and it wasn't going to stop me. I just kept going for 10 miles all around town and I was happy. The thing is when I tell my friends they are all confused as to how I could have enjoyed that and I all could tell them was that I just liked it.", "summary": "I'm in love."}
{"id": "t3_44h9co", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20/M] judging the girl I'm seeing [20/F] too harshly for the actions of her friend [~20/F], or is it legitimately a dealbreaker/red flag?", "post": "I met \"Liz\" about a month ago. We have been on a few dates since then and have really hit it off. Although we haven't labeled anything yet, we're probably on the way toward becoming an official item and have made plans to attend a formal event together at the end of this month. \n\nThe only problem is Liz's friend, \"Annie.\" I didn't know Annie that well until recently, but the more I learn about her the more negatively I feel toward her. When choosing who I associate with, I am very concerned with morality and ethics. Annie has done things I find highly unethical, including stealing (from both our university and someone at a party) and seriously considering lying about having a disease in order to circumvent our school's requirement for undergrads to live on campus. While I don't agree with the living on campus rule, I would never get a fake doctor's note and pretend to be sick to get out of it. I disapprove even more of the stealing, and I think it's important to note I wouldn't know about it unless Liz told me - she mentioned it kind of casually, and while she doesn't do it herself or think it's really okay, she definitely isn't as bothered by it as I am. I don't know exactly how close Liz and Annie are, but they seem to be pretty good friends and are in the same relatively small major at our school.\n\nI have a rare medical condition that would be a dealbreaker for many people, and I've seen plenty of stories of other people with this condition getting into/staying in bad relationships simply because they're afraid nobody else will want them. Although I wasn't explicitly looking for a relationship when I met Liz, and wasn't unhappy being single, I'm worried my judgment is being clouded by Liz's acceptance of me and my inexperience with relationships - I had never been on a real date before I met Liz, and have never been in a relationship either. I really like Liz and she really likes me, but her friendship with Annie is making me question her character and values.", "summary": "potential gf's friend is kind of a scummy person. Is it fair to judge someone for their friend's actions? How should I talk to Liz about my doubts?"}
{"id": "t3_17417p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't think he knows/wants to communicate with me.", "post": "I am 18/f dating 18/m, and although things are pretty good (I guess?) the issue of communication is... Terrible. He is very introverted, and I am not, so he doesn't talk much as it is. That doesn't bother me, I totally try and respect that (even though it is hard to do, being the opposite). The thing that does bother me is, we almost **NEVER** talk. Especially when he is upset due to some action outside of our relationship.... From what I know, he doesn't talk to anyone else about it either. I am just afraid he will explode one day. Or that the lack of communication we have will end us.", "summary": "I am dating a severely introverted guy who rarely communicates. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_53volr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] never had a BF but plenty of FWBs!", "post": "I am a girl who has always been aware of relationships and 'evolving' sexually. I am not the prettiest girl in any room but I can be confident and enduring. I have relocated countries twice in my life S.Africa> Ireland> London\n\nI have tried online dating from OKC to Tinder and everything in-between to find someone who finds me attractive and intelligent. \nI am also sexually adventurous having been involved with the bdsm and swing community. I have also been on the irc community  (though no longer- past 3years). \nSo i feel I have ventured every avenue though I have not yet found someone. \n\nI come from a very conservative family so I knew early on if i wanted a bf or fwbs I would have to use online mediums and guts!\n\nI have however been able to find longterm fwbs but they have either been the type not looking for a gf or cheating on their gf with me (been sexually active since I was 21).\n\nI have currently stopped all sexual activity for a year now while focusing on my postgrad studies. I have become so aware of my feelings of loneliness,  wanting to start and explore a relationship with someone. \nIt is honestly something that hurts me,  I feel I could be worth a gf,  I want to share my life with someone and cook for them and cheer them on!\n\nWhat is it about me that doesn't attract a bf? Am I just meant to be single and why would that be, especially as I am so longing for a partner!", "summary": "never had a bf but fwbs. Tried various online mediums to meet others with no success. Curious what I am doing wrong. Feeling lonely and confused about why I have never had a bf by 25!"}
{"id": "t3_3ge3mn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird to have never had a girlfriend at 17?", "post": "I'm a 17 year old guy who went to a grammar school and works as a Software Engineer that develops mobile apps. People tell me I'm good looking (even though I don't think so) and I've never been able to get a girlfriend\n\nI've only ever known a handful of girls (around 5-6) and most of them have either wanted to stop talking or there were problems like age (them being older etc.). I have a girl who is a really good friend who said that 25 is a good age but people around me say I'm weird or gay because I've never had a girlfriend or had my first kiss but to be honest, the only reason I haven't done that is because whenever it hasn't worked out, I always blame myself and lose all self-confidence so I can't approach girls.\n\nI've asked a friend to set me up but I've never been into them so it's never worked out, is there something wrong with me? I've decided to focus more on my career and growing my portfolio however it would be nice to have somebody by my side.", "summary": "Is there something wrong with never having had a girlfriend at 17?"}
{"id": "t3_4ghnzv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell if GF[22F] and exes like Me[23M] or just attention?", "post": "Hey, so to begin, I've been dating my current gf for 4 months now. It's been good however based on some conversations I had with her before and my past experience, I can't tell if she actually likes me for me or mainly because she likes that I care. Basically what I mean by that is of course I need to also get along with her but there's nothing special about me in particular other than I am the one asking how she's doing, complimenting her, etc.\n\nI definitely would acknowledge this is my problem as well. My current GF has a bit of a self-esteem problem and my ex did too. My ex definitely liked the attention more than she explicitly liked me and so that comes into my thoughts. \n\nMy GF and I were recently saying the lame sweet things you might say in a relationship and she says she likes that I ask about her as if that's a special thing, I can't help but think isn't that pretty normal? Like anyone that liked you would ask that stuff so what makes me any different than another guy that would be interested in you? Other reasons she said she liked me were the pretty generic reasons you might like someone like I'm smart, attractive to her, etc.\n\nI know I definitely have an insecurity here but I guess I'm trying to separate my insecurity from a problem I think could actually exist. As I type this out, I can't even think if there actually is a way other than to let it play its course. I just hate feeling like a fool but who doesn't? In the end though, I guess my question is do I share this insecurity with her to see if there's an actual answer? Or is this something where I just have to tell myself she's chose you and all that stuff?", "summary": "Wondering if GF likes me for who I am or just because I'm the one who's giving her attention at the moment? Maybe just insecurity on my part."}
{"id": "t3_2l737m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24f] with a guy I'm seeing[26M] how to tell him about my, um, stalker? [?M]...", "post": "This is pretty weird. Long story short I have a stalker that I have been dealing with for about 2 years. Nothing super threatening, just angry messages when I appear to date anyone (I have not had a boyfriend since this began, though), \"anonymous\" flower deliveries every time I move or begin working somewhere new, hang up calls.... I have changed my phone number three times and even moved but the weird behavior didn't stop. I do not know who it is. I have gone to the police with all the communications I have; they were unable to tell me who was behind it, and well, not really a priority for them haha. I guess all the phones he uses are those cheap pre paid phones, I talked to a PI and they said they couldn't do anything either. It never made me THAT nervous because this behavior was few and far between--every month or so, then silence. \n\nAnyway, radio silence from this mystery person for the past 6 months. I thought maybe whoever it was just found someone else or had gotten tired of harrassing me or something.\n\nI recently started seeing this great guy, John. We like each other but have not had the boyfriend/girlfriend talk yet, we've only been seeing each other about a month, so about 7-8 hang outs/dates thus far. I have not posted about him ANYWHERE on social media or even added him on facebook or instagram or any of that. We have only hung out at my house, John's house, and a couple restaurants.\n\nLast night I received a text from a new unknown number: \"You fucking this John guy now?\"\n\nsooo... yeah. I have no fucking clue how he found out about John unless he is actually physically watching me. I feel like I have to tell John about this now, right? So he knows what he's getting into if he wants to be my boyfriend?\n\nUgh.", "summary": "seeing a guy, online semi-stalker from the past angrily messages me about him. unsure how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_2qrkui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] has a warped perspective on meeting girls.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short, but let me preface this with something: All advice is welcome, but I'm specifically looking for advice from guys that have played around a lot in the past.\n\nBasically my perspective on women has been warped. I had no experience with girls for a long time, then moved to Las Vegas. Here's the perspective that town instilled in me:\n\n1. I'm good for one thing: My ability to make it happen for girls who are on vacation. They're looking for party dick, and if it isn't me, the they'll find it from someone else. They don't really care about who I am - just my ability to enhance their fun.\n\n2. Any girl I meet in town has had a thousand relationships and is Jaded. She's been through this process so much, that any inability or hesitation on my end to \"just make a move already\" is considered to be a personal shortcoming and a weakness of mine. It's not that I'm uncomfortable going for it, but I don't want to have be aggressive if I don't want to be. I feel like unless I'm single minded and aggressive then girls see me as weak or naive.\n\n3. If I want to meet girls spontaneously and without plotting how I'm going to hook up with them from the get go, then I'm a chump, and I need to wake up and get real. \n\nBasically I fell in with the wrong crowd in vegas and now I hate going out to meet girls. I want to do things spontaneously. I want to have a crush on a girl. I want a little innocence and spontaneity thrown in. I don't want to be judged for not acting like an aggressive wolf. And I'm convinced that if I act...normal about the whole process, girls will think less of me.", "summary": "Vegas forced me to be an over aggressive character of a man and now I can't have fun meeting girls"}
{"id": "t3_308uwo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not shaving for work.", "post": "I work for an oil company out in North Dakota. We have a no facial hair policy, but it has never been enforced. This week they decided that they will start enforcing it after 1 worker decided he wouldn't shave his long beard. They let him go for refusing. Last night I got a text from by boss saying \"Everyone must be clean shaved tomorrow, no exceptions. Any employee in violation will be subject to disciplinary action\". So guess who forgot to shave today? Me! The thing is, I barely can grow facial hair, I shave probably once every 2 weeks, but right now I do have some facial hair on my chin. So I called my roommate at 6:30am (he works at 7) and asked him to bring me a razor. He said he will try to get here when he can. Oh yea I work 45 minutes away. It's now a race between him and my boss to see who gets here first.", "summary": "Didn't shave, could get fire, roommate racing boss here. "}
{"id": "t3_1m27gw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and coworker [F24] seeing each other", "post": "Okay, I work in a fairly busy restaurant and I have been seeing a waitress, who I will call X. Well, basically I like her and she likes me. \n\nBut I am feeling like that I do not want to continue this \"fling\" because, if it ends well or if it continues it might affect my work, and to me my work is my life which is a very sad way of thinking I know this better than anyone.\n\nMy coworkers and company have no HR problems with dating, but I feel like either I am to immature? to balance my work which again to me at this point is incredibly important to me to risk any complications with a coworker, but on the flip side I really like her.\n\nWe have discussed about it, but there is a language issue, her english is fine but has a hard time to understanding how I am feeling because it doesn't make sense to her and even me.\n\nI need a kick up the backside to get my head straight.\n\nis this just me being to immature? Thank you.", "summary": "want to date coworker but scared it will affect work which is incredibly important to me"}
{"id": "t3_2rlwq0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I share most of my problems with friends and don't know how to stop?", "post": "I didn't always do this because my issues weren't such a substantial part of my life. I'm severely depressed have a dysfunctional family and borderline personality disorder. I know that everyone deals with problems many worse than mine but I guess my main confusion stems from my belief that if you don't talk about your life with friends who do you talk about it with?\n\n I also have a hard time understanding when to stop and how much information is too much information. How do I let people in and let them know what's going on in my life without telling them the events that are problematic? Sometimes I think I overshare but am not sure how to share enough without ruining other people's days", "summary": "when does sharing become oversharing? How do you make yourself vulnerable to friends without being a Debbie downer?"}
{"id": "t3_o36f6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Browsing Amateur Pornography; You're enjoying a jolly good rinse and pickle to the more ambitious or na\u00efve in society, when you're abruptly exposed to your girlfriend's girlfriend's quiffersnapper. What do you do?!", "post": "*Hypothetically,* whilst browsing the finest erotica the internet has to offer, you stumble across a provocative photograph of a gentleman/lady-friend familiar to you (possibly an acquaintance, a friend of a friend, a family member, a bro's ho or a ho's bro, perhaps even your better half, etc).\n\nHow would one react to this? Would one simply ignore it and respect the individual's privacy? Would one question whether there were any privacy left to invade? Would one investigate further? Would one bring this to the individual's attention? And *naturally,* would one **fap** to it?\n\n*Obviously, such an imagining couldn't possibly take into account all of your variable familiars (and the many more potholes in the road), so simply bestow an innocent shroud over who you choose, assume no relevant, prior knowledge to their possible provocativeness, and, most importantly, be honest!", "summary": "^title"}
{"id": "t3_10i5dx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How the fuck do you prove someone you're not gay?", "post": "A friend of my mom's who I hang out with often seriously thinks I'm gay, and my mom being the bigoted christian she is,started threatening to kill herself if I didn't promise to her that I'm not gay. \n\nI tried telling her that she needed to be more tolerant of other people's sexuality, and it's not going against the Bible to stop hating a certain group of people, she, of course, didn't listen to me, and I just said \"okay mom, I promise.\" Just to shut her up.\n\nNow this friend I was mentioning earlier, he keeps insisting that I'm gay, and I told him that if I *were* gay, I'd be sucking dicks left and right (figuratively) and wouldn't give a fuck. I love hanging out with the dude, but I don't know if this will become a thing or not. \n\nAnd yes, I am still a virgin* and still in 12th grade.", "summary": "Ain't getting any pussy, friend thinks I'm gay."}
{"id": "t3_140iij", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "My friend's asshole housemate.", "post": "Background: my friend/co-worker, Nate, started renting a room in his friend's house a few weeks ago. Nate is an awesome guy; he is funny, responsible, reliable and I always look forward to a shift with him. Nate's friend Liz asked him to move into her house (which she had just bought) and told him he would be the only person living there besides her. They agreed that his room needed painting so he bought a deep shade of red and got started covering up the ugly yellow old paint.\n\nOver the next couple weeks things went downhill. Liz had another friend, and then her boyfriend Mark move in. Despite not being on the mortgage and not paying rent Mark started to 'take over' as Nate put it. Mark would eat Nate's food, move his things, complained about Nate having 2 cars in the driveway (something Liz had previously said would be fine) etc. It all came to a head two nights ago when Nate got home late from work (as an EMT) and accidentally woke Mark up closing his car door. Mark confronted Nate, got in his face, screamed at him \"YOU DON'T WANT TO MAKE ME MAD BRO!\" while Nate backed off confused, trying to de-escalate the situation. Mark went back to bed and Nate sat in his room fuming. Nate resolved to move out the next day (no lease or security, so no problem) so I, along with a few other friends went over and got all his stuff packed up. While there I noticed that his room was about 90% painted; all the roller work was done but it wasn't painted all the way to the ceiling or to the trim. On our last sweep through to check that everything was out Nate grabbed the last gallon of paint that remained and loaded it in the truck.\n\nLiz and Mark have no idea what color of paint Nate bought, and therefore have no way to precisely match the same shade. The red is also so dark and vivid it's going to be a bitch to cover over!", "summary": "My friend's roommate was such a dick my friend moved out, but he left them with a time-consuming problem."}
{"id": "t3_obbcw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your most disgusting cockroach story? Ill start.", "post": "Well to start one morning I woke up like any other morning, and went downstairs to make some breakfeast. I decided I would toast a navel and butter it, so I take out the toasted and put in my navel and turn up the heat a little. After about two minutes it pops up and I take out one piece and start to butter it. But in the middle of buttering the first babel a roach comes jumping out of the toasted flying at me, he then lands on the counter and starts his retreat. I run and grab my shoe by the front door and after many back and forths I finally hit him hes dead. So turns out this roach syltayed in the toasted the hole time and nearlly roasted to death, and no I didn't eat the bagel I threw it out and had to have cereal :/ we also threw out the toasted and got a new one. I haven't seen a roach since that maybe I sent a precedence for the other ones. So what's your most disgusting roach story?", "summary": "found roach in toasted while toasting bagel, after long epic battle I won and killed him. Ended up throwing out toasted and bagel. Haven't seen a roach since the incident."}
{"id": "t3_16gt4h", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How do I not wind up like my parents?", "post": "Due to health problems and the resulting unemployment issues, my parents wound up in a really awful financial situation by the time I was in high school. Lots of debt, poor decisions, bankruptcy, etc. They have a \"spend as if you'll die tomorrow\" philosophy, figuring their situation can't get any worse. We wound up technically in the lower class by the time I reached college and I am terrified that I will not be able to make good money decisions since I don't have great financial role models in my parents like many successful people do.\n\nI'm in my last year of college. I will have about $30k in federal loans when I graduate. I am hoping to go into grad school for a PhD, but am only going to attend if I can get a fellowship with a stipend. Otherwise, I will go into the workforce and probably make about $25-45k annually to start depending on what I wind up doing.\n\nRight now I have about $2,000 to my name. No assets. Good to great credit. I live in Washington, DC, where things are pretty pricey. I pay for things with my federal loan money for now.\n\nMy boyfriend is doing well for himself, making a living, saving what he can, and paying down his student loans. We'll likely get married in a few years and I don't want my money fears/ignorance to screw us up, nor do I want to mooch off of him.\n\nWhat can I do to ensure I start out on the right financial foot after I graduate, whether I'm in grad school or employed, considering I don't have much and my parents can't help? And what kind of person can I go to for help with investing/consolidating loans/general financial advice? Like sit down with them, show them all my stuff, and they will give me options of what would be most beneficial?", "summary": "At a financial disadvantage money-wise and knowledge-wise. What can I do to ensure success and not fall into the traps my parents did? What kind of person could help me know my best options?"}
{"id": "t3_1t6syb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with SO my [24F] of three months, difficulty interpreting something she said last night", "post": "Been seeing my SO for about three months now. We don't have any official titles on it but we have discussed if we were seeing other people and we both agreed we were not. \n\nWe tease each other in a flirty way and last night she was teasing me about something that happened earlier in the evening. I, in a jokingly manner said how mean she is to me. Well she grabbed my hand and kissed it and said don't worry it's all in love. I don't think she meant to say the L word since she kinda froze and we just kinda looked at each other for a couple seconds before kissing.\n\nIt doesn't bother me what was said but the thought of her already thinking that gives me mixed emotions between happy and nervous. Do you think she slipped and accidentally revealed how she may feel or am I looking way to into this?", "summary": "Girl I have been seeing made a comment \"it's all in love.\" Not sure how to take it."}
{"id": "t3_17mgnq", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "My February/Last-Day of July Challenge.  Follow me!", "post": "So I am doing a challenge with myself for January 31st-February 29th/28th(Haven't checked if leap year yet :-)), basically until the end of February where I am throwing fear and uncomfort away for the whole month.  I am not going to care what people think of me, be as weird, outgoing, fun, and also working as hard as possible.  If you would like to follow me on this journey or do it as well you are welcome.  Here is the blog, I will be posting everyday   To be honest I am not expecting to have anyone following, but just the thought that someone might will keep me motivated each day to follow through and also to post.  Sorry for the long text and thanks for reading if you got this far!", "summary": "Challenge for Jan 31st-Mar 1st.  Check it out at  if you want to follow along and keep me accountable."}
{"id": "t3_21z24r", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Too chill", "post": "It's currently 1:40 AM, I'm trying to study for an engineering exam I have tomorrow. Tonight, a tuesday, the people I'm living with decided to get drunk, blare music, invite people over, and are now smashing all of the plates, cups and glasses in the kitchen (look, I honestly don't know). My quandary is that it actually doesn't bother me at all. I'm not being facetious in saying this; I'm genuinely not annoyed about this whatsoever. \n\nI've never gotten angry over things easily, I've always just taken that to be part of my personality or something, but I really feel that I should be at least *somewhat* pissed off about this current situation.  But I'm not. I've gotten worked up about things in the past, but these occasions are few and far between. I don't know if this a perfectly fine zen approach to life, or some kind of unhealthy repression. I appreciate how this post is, like, the opposite of the sort of thing this subreddit is for, but I find this current state of affairs interesting in an abstract sort of way.", "summary": "I needed to vent about my not needing to vent"}
{"id": "t3_22y2zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] Need help with aproaching one girl.", "post": "I'm 19 year old from Croatia. I've never really had a girlfriend, and im completly bad when it comes to relationships.\n\nThere is this one girl and college that I like. What I would like to do is ask her to go out for cofee with me. But I really don't know what would be good way to do that.\n\nSomething I had in mind was to contact her at facebook with message something like this. Keep in mind we already talked to each other few times.\n\nMessage: Hi here is what the thing is. I like you and i would like to take you out for cup or coffee or something. If you fancy that great if no, no hard feelings.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Do I come of wierd or something? Do you have any other idea that you think would be better than this? Im thankfull for your help.\n\nIm sorry if im not formating right this is my first time posting on this subreddit.", "summary": "Shy, need help with asking girl out"}
{"id": "t3_1l927w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Have a very dark past with my [23/m] family, New relationship [22/f]. Want to know how and when to bring it up.", "post": "My family deals with a father who is pretty much your stereotypical alcoholic gets drunk, gets verbally abusive. Almost a year ago now, while on a family vacation he got real drunk again and there was fight after fight and it ended up with me threatening to kill myself and a trip to the hospital. I'd like to make it clear it was out of shear frustration of dealing with this for years and not being able to have a way out. Here was a man telling me he loved me, how I was important to him, how proud I made him. Then he would have some drinks and turn into someone I hated so much. I didn't actually want to kill myself and was discharged after 5 hours. I have since cut that part of my family out of my life including him. I am much happier and am in a really good place mentally. Now I am starting to see this girl and we are taking it slow, it's fun, new and exciting. But I am really stressing out about how and when to bring this up. Obviously she is going to start asking who my family is and why I don't talk to them. I like this girl and don't want her to think I'm mentally unstable, it just seems like such an aweful thing to tell someone and in most people's book a red flag. Just looking on advice on how and when are the best times to drag some of the skeletons out of your closet.\n\nAlso Throwaway account, Alot of my friends and coworkers know my real account.", "summary": "Got in super big fight with alcoholic abusive father, threatened to kill myself. No longer talk to that side of my family. Wondering how and when to talk to new relationship about it."}
{"id": "t3_15e0u1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/m] am in love with a classmate [17/f], but she has a long distant relationship", "post": "Hi,\nlike the title says, I'm very in love with her. She is in a long distant relationship, and she thinks that her boyfriend will break up with her (because she want's to go au-pair to another coutry).(Don't get me wrong, I don't want her to quit her boyfriend for me, I only wanted to say this)\n\nShe and I have many things in common, and a few days ago she invited me to her appartment, to give me some films I wanted. I was there for about 1 1/2 hours, and we talked the whole time with each other. She said I could come over any time I want. I liked it very much. I frequently write with her, too, end then we end up writing for 2 hours or so.\nShe's also very kind to me, but I don't know how I shall interpret this whole thing, I'm confused right now, but I really love her.\n\nI didn't tell her yet, because I don't want to make her to force (don't know an other english word) her to make a decision.\n\nWhat should I make, should I wait and see what happens with her realationship? We're in the last scholar year, I don't know if I'll be able to see her after school as frequently as now.", "summary": "She's an a long distant relationship, she said it's unlikely that this relationship will last long. I love her, but don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1gx0v1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16F] with my boyfriend [16M] of 3 months, I'm having issues accepting something about him", "post": "Before dating him I knew he wasn't a gold-star citizen, and I know about his issues. His father, up until 3 or 4 months ago, would physically abuse him, and I know a lot of verbal abuse goes on as well.   \n---\n\nFor awhile (since 7th grade or so) he would resort to drugs and alcohol, and when I met him in 10th grade he'd sometimes show up to school high, or even a couple times having done shots in the morning. So I knew going in about a lot of this. But these things affected him directly, and then only casted affected onto other people in a more indirect way.   \n\nSince we started dating he's stopped drinking and stopped with the drugs almost completely. He hasn't gotten high in weeks.    \n\nHowever,  he's told me something about his past that I'm having trouble wrapping my mind around. He did something completely terrible that affected others in a direct way. He feels a large amount of remorse, and when he told me he was crying in the way that screamed regret. \n\nI don't know what to do, I care about him a lot, but this has taken away any romantic attraction. I was thinking about taking a break, but do those even work? I don't even know what that entails. Our relationship, up to this point, is short, only being together for 3 months but he's also a close friend of mine and I can't just walk away either. (I know there is 'other fish in the sea' but I can't just dump him because things get difficult. But how can I restore an attraction that was just ripped out?)", "summary": "Boyfriend involved in drugs, alcohol in the past I can accept. But I found out he's hurt people (not physically)  and I'm having trouble accepting that and maintaining a romantic attraction. "}
{"id": "t3_51qj1w", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help with a wedding gift, post wedding.", "post": "Hi, I am in a stupid situation about a wedding gift. The wedding, between a good friend and his fianc\u00e9e, was held last Saturday. Initially I was in a group of friends to buy a collective gift. I had suggested to buy the couple, experiences and skills rather than material goods, and everybody in the group agreed with me. However I ended up buying a box of chocolates and written a card instead, telling the couple to wait a little for my gift. My group of friends are apparently cheap and couldn't agree to spend more than 30$ on the gift each. They even brought an experience called body flight, which is a simulated base jump of sorts, in a wind tunnel. The idea is not a all in touch with the couple. I thought it was too embarrassing, so I bailed on the gift, so now I need a new approach. My budget is about 100$, which I think is more appropriate.\n\nWhat would you do in my situation?", "summary": "I bailed on a collective gift for a wedding couple, last second, now I need a new idea."}
{"id": "t3_vb6bg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't want to do this anymore.", "post": "I (23f) and a coworker of mine (22m) have been talking and seeing eachother outside of work occasionally for two months. It is mostly an FWB situation, but lately it feels as though he has been developing some feelings. I have as well, and I think it's time to pull back from this situation because of that. \n\nHe has a long term girlfriend (for shame, I know) that he intends on marrying, and I do not want to be the reason for the dissolution of their relationship or add to any problems they are already having (which they must be, or he wouldn't be messing around with me, right?). I do not have any illusions that he would ever break it off with her to be with me, and I went into this with eyes wide open. We work the same schedule in a small area and have no choice but to continue being around eachother as our shifts are on a rotating basis. Changing shifts is not an option. I don't have a problem with continuing to be around him, but I doubt he will feel the same way. \n\nAny time I bring up ending the affair, he gets upset and expresses that he in no way wants to stop what we are doing. I also know that he is firm on the stance of not leaving his girlfriend. Again, I'm okay with this and wish their relationship the best (I don't know her personally), but I feel terrible about this situation now. I know I was in the wrong, and so was he, to do anything like this. Say what you will on that. I'm just trying to figure out how to end this tactfully and with the least amount of awkwardness possible, although I know some amount is unavoidable.", "summary": "I (23f) messed around with coworker (22m) with a gf; feelings present, no intentions of leaving gf; need to know how to end this tactfully. Feels bad, man. "}
{"id": "t3_33eg5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Friend [16M] said hurtful things to his friend [16?F], he wonders if a \"relationship\" is salvageable.", "post": "I am posting this so I can give advice to one of my friends who is disappointed in himself for ruining a relationship with a girl he liked. My friend, let's call him Bob, and his friend, let's call her Anna, are both sophomores and were long time friends (I'm a senior that is giving advice to Bob). Bob and Anna were very close to the extent that they were best friends (with benefits). They would hook up but they never dated simply because Bob is half black and her family isn't the most accepting of that. \n\nShe started hooking up with other people leading to Bob calling her terms like b**** or c*** and ruining their relationship and causing her family to find out about him and now hate him as well. Part of me wants to tell him he is a high schooler and that you really shouldn't be worrying about relationships (though he shouldn't have called her those terms) and she definitely gets around a lot so I don't think a relationship would work out. So \na response I'm looking for is\n\nA: How would you salvage this relationship?\n\nB: How would you move on and learn from this relationship?", "summary": "Friend ruined relationship, how can he fix it or move on from it?"}
{"id": "t3_49jdvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] confused about him [24 M], said I deserve better.", "post": "We have been seeing each other for over 2 months now. It's been a really amazing time for me. However, I don't know how to take what he said to me last night.\n\nThe first time he asked me to make it official, I said I wasn't ready (3 weeks in). I'm the type of person that likes to really get to know someone before jumping into a relationship. We got into a minor argument the second time we talked about what we were. I admitted I was giving mixed signals and he was being pushy, but we smoothed it out. Last night he asked me to be his girlfriend and now that I'm ready, I told him yes. \n\nOut of nowhere he says he has insecurities about me. He said stuff like: you're amazing, no flaws, best thing that's happened to me, etc. Then said that I deserve someone better then him. I told him I'm anything but perfect and I really care about him. When I asked him why he felt that way, he told me he questions whether he can make me happier then someone else and how can he compete? (with this none existent person). Now I know the \"you deserve better\" thing tends to mean that whoever is saying it, doesn't feel the same way and likes the person they're saying it to less. But I don't think that's the case. I understand that everyone has some insecurities, I have them. I just don't know how to take this one. I tried my best to tell him not to think like that cause I know he'd make very happy, in fact he makes me very happy. I don't know what else I could do to help his feeling.", "summary": "Guy I'm seeing says I deserve better and I don't know how to feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_3193ay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Everything my girlfriend[21F] does annoys me[23M] and I don't know why", "post": "I've(23M) been dating my girlfriend(21F) for just over a year and a half now. It's the longest relationship either of us have been in and it's been a good one for the most part. The problem I'm having is with the way I feel for her. Ever since early December I haven't felt like I love her anymore. I still have fun with her and she is an amazing person but every time I'm around her I can't help getting annoyed. Every little thing that she does seems to get on my nerves for no reason. I basically feel like I'm the old married guy, in any sitcom ever, watching TV annoyed at his wife 24/7.  I really can't explain it because its not like she's changed. It's painful cause I know she would do anything to try and fix this but I don't think there is anything to be fixed. We don't fight or disagree often, but we are very different people. She loves attention/cuddling/talking/opening up.... and I'm just an emotionally distant quiet person. I've been feeling less comfortable around her than I used to and I think shes started to notice. Logically, she's probably the best girl I will ever get (nice, smart, attractive, caring) and shes super in to me. It makes me feel guilty that I don't feel the same way", "summary": "I'm unhappy with my perfect relationship and I feel awful about it"}
{"id": "t3_lv2v0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lexapro instead of Celexa. Can I switch? No option. GPs office closed for holidays. Tomorrow is All Souls Day. My stock of Celexa is over.", "post": "To any doctors here - \n\nHi. I've been on Citalopram (Celexa) since May. 20 mg. For anxiety. I've been a student in Germany since 2009. Last month when I flew back home to India for a holiday, my doctor there replenished my medication stock for me. But he gave me a 6 month supply of Escitalopram (Lexapro) instead of Citalopram. Escitalopram is just the S enantiomer of citalopram, and apparently has better anti-anxiety effects. \n\nToday I finished my previous stock of Citalopram. Unfortunately, my doctor here near my flat is on holiday, tomorrow is All Souls Day which is a holiday too. The next appointment I can get is probably next week. Is it okay to switch to Lexapro? I mean, I have no other choice as of now.", "summary": "On Celexa. Stock over. Have Lexapro. GPs office closed for a fortnight. Tomorrow is state holiday. Can I switch safely?"}
{"id": "t3_2bl2wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I 28m break up with my girlfriend 29f?", "post": "This woman (lets call her mary) that I am involved with has a 3yo daughter with another man. they have been over for 2 years now. Lately she has been telling me he has been angrily messaging her saying she's trying to keep his daughter away from him. After hearing her side and reviewing the situation in my mind I agree that my girlfriend is in the wrong.\n\nI asked her if she has any reason to believe he would harm the child she said \"No.\" Then I told her that she has no right to keep her from him. Should I be worried about this behavior? Has she really moved on? Should I run now? Is this a sign that she is not as over him as she would like to believe? Am I overreacting? Could this be a sign of her true character?", "summary": "my girlfriend is coming in between her child and her child's father because of past issues between the two of them that have nothing to do with the safety and welfare of the child. Should I be worried about this?"}
{"id": "t3_1njmvr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are you self-conscious about how you appear to others on Facebook/Twitter? Are your social media profiles an accurate representation of you as a person?", "post": "I'm in a college course about Digital Media and Culture and I'm doing a project examining how we represent ourselves on social media and how social media impacts our understanding of our own identity.\n\nAs part of my project, I'm making a satirical Twitter where, instead of tweeting what I normally would tweet, I'm tweeting the self-conscious inner monologue that goes on in my brain when I use social media. \n\nSo I need your help. **Are you self-conscious about how you appear to others on social media?** I'm guilty of deleting a Facebook post if it doesn't get any likes so I don't seem like a loser. Do any of you do things like that?\n\nAlso, **what goes into your mind when you Tweet or post a Facebook status? Do you worry about whether or not people will like it/think it's funny? How are you self-conscious about your social media presence?** \n\nThanks for your help and I'm interested in hearing your input!", "summary": "Doing a project on how we present ourselves on social media. Are you self-conscious about what your \"Friends\" and Followers think of you? Tell me what your inner monologue is like when you use Facebook/Twitter."}
{"id": "t3_488p3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27F] with my boyfriend [30M] of 4 years, need help with my proposal.", "post": "So we have been dating for 4 years and living together for 2. Everything is going great and I would like to just seal the deal if you will. After dating for about a year and a half I told him I would like to do the proposal. He laughed and said cool less pressure on him. We have talked about marriage and both of us are on board so, I just want to pop the question as somewhat of a surprise. So I am planning on proposing in May with a trip to another city. I already have the plane tickets/hotel all that planned but two small issues. \n\n1) I cannot figure out his ring size with out being stupidly obvious. Other than getting him blind drunk and measuring it while he is passed out(joke btw) I don't know how to go about it. Its not like I could get his best friend to ask because that's really obvious. \n\n2) Once I have the ring I have the fear that if we went through airport security they would see a metal object and pull it out to inspect and ruin the surprise.", "summary": "Want to propose, but fearing it might be too obvious with finding out his ring size and going through airport security."}
{"id": "t3_35kbv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34M] really like my [27F] friend and I'm not sure on how she feels. I'd like your opinion. The story has a bit of a twist.", "post": "Let's call her Jane.  I met \"Jane\"  through some friends maybe a year ago we started hanging out here there.  We became pretty good friends and I'd see her whenever I'd go hang out with my friends I met her through.  She's an amazing girl, I love her personality and the way she carries herself.  While I was going through a breakup she and I started hanging out a bit more and became closer.  Recently when I see her at a bar I feel as if she's been a bit touchy with me (and I like that).  So I started to like her as more than just a friend.  \n\nFast forward to last week...  I ran into her at a bar and we hung out.  Went to a couple of other bars and got pretty tipsy.  I drunkenly told her that I like her (don't know if she remembers) and I honestly don't remember her reaction.  We ended up having sex that night.  She took a cab home because she couldn't drive afterwards.  The very next day I picked her up from work to take her to her car and it was as if nothing happened.  Neither of us talked about what happened and haven't mentioned anything since.  Everything went on as if nothing happened.  Here's where I need your advice.  I don't want to ruin out friendship but I do want to date her.  How should I go about bringing up what happened and how do I tell her I like her without ruining what we have now?  Having only been in one other relationship I don't have much experience in dealing with things like this.", "summary": "I have a friend I want to date.  We ended up having drunken sex one night but neither of us talked about it after that.  I want to know if she likes me as more than a friend."}
{"id": "t3_21rzdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just broke up with my first boyfriend.", "post": "Just so you know I'm 21, I was with him for over a year and it was a mutual break up... But that still doesn't change the fact that I feel so lost now :( I want to cry, feel relieved, curl up in a ball forever and eat all the junk food and even just dance around. For those out there that are experienced in the art of relationships please what did you find to be the best way to get back on track? Oh and please don't suggest the gym... I dislike exercise, I have better things to do with my time... Like playing video games.", "summary": "Mutual Break up with bf, lost in a maze of emotions, video games are awesome, help me Batman!"}
{"id": "t3_2sh8p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] wants to watch a television show with me [19M]. I dislike the show, she really likes it, but don't want to upset her. What do?", "post": "So, my girlfriend (of 5 years) keeps asking me to watch a certain anime series with her. She has already seen it, but wanted me to see it too. Although, I'm generally adverse to shows such as the one she has been asking me to watch.\n\nThere's a simple solution, though, right? Just watch it with her to make her happy. So I did, I watched the first episode and some extra material with her. And then she asked me, \"So, what did you think?\"\n\nI try to be as honest with people as possible, so I responded, \"Well, it really isn't my thing. I probably would have enjoyed it when I was younger, but not really now,\" and listed some reasons why. There's certain parts of the show that make me uncomfortable, other parts that just seem silly to me, etc.\n\nShe still wants me to continue watching it, thinking I will grow to like it. I feel like if I don't watch it, and actively don't grow to like it like she does, she'll be upset. \n\nSo, what do I do? **Do I watch it and feign really enjoying it?** or **Do I continue to watch it and continue to be honest with her?**\n\nI'm sure the solution to this is common sense, but I'm having trouble figuring out how to respond.", "summary": "GF wants to watch anime show with me. I don't like it, but don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I respond when she asks me if I like it?"}
{"id": "t3_3fl0ib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy [29 M] I've [23 F] been dating for 2 months went to the beach alone, we planned to go together", "post": "This guy and I have been dating for about 2 months now. 1-3 dates a week. Anyway, I like him because he is genuinely nice, tips people well, and always pays for things (kind of unemployed now myself). \n\n What I don't like about him is that he is almost always 15-30 minutes late, prefers going to the gym more than hanging out with me (also a reason why he is always late), and this new issue. \n\nSo we talked about going to the beach together for a week or two now. We made plans to go Sunday together. Then he told me Saturday that he should focus on work stuff and should not be going. Ok. But then I text him at 4 pm today asking how he's doing, then he said he is already at the beach by himself (friends and family live there). \n\nI got this text at 10 pm today. Also, \"sorry.\" Like, what? And he did not mention this to me at all until tonight. If he said he wanted to go alone that would have been fine, he does that anyway every other week ish. But to get my hopes up and then only tell me once he is there, like what? \n\n I don't know, something really did not sit right with me with this. \n\nI have not texted him back yet because I have no words for this. Or what should I say or how to say it. I find this kind of stuff to be crossing some huge line, but I can't put a finger on it. Like the lying and sneaking behind my back and only telling me after the fact...Sounds like a preface for something bigger. Idk. \n\nAgain, I would not have had a problem if he simply said he wanted to go alone like usual.", "summary": "Guy I've been dating for two months and I make plans to go to the beach together on Sunday. He tells me he can't anymore and has to stay home and do work stuff. Today he texts me at night that he is there by himself. Huh? "}
{"id": "t3_k5zsy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Think I accidentally swallowed a very very small piece of glass. Help please?", "post": "I was drinking from a glass, and my tooth seemed to chip off a very tiny piece of glass from it. The piece that's missing looks to be less than half the size of my thumbnail, maybe even like 1/4 of the size of it. I'm pretty sure that I accidentally swallowed it afterwards. This was around fifteen minutes ago and I'm not feeling any particular pain or anything. I did some Google searching and heard everything from \"the gastrointestinal system can handle small foreign objects like bones, glass, etc relatively easily and they'd probably just be passed whole\" to \"a piece of glass as small as a piece of glitter can cause damage to internal organs and I should immediately rush to the emergency room\". \n\nI am in no pain whatsoever and the fact that I'm just assuming I swallowed it (I have no distinct memory either way) makes me relatively calm. Am I going to be alright? Does the fact that I currently don't feel and haven't to this point felt this thing mean that I can rest assured that it's either small enough that it's no big deal or that I didn't swallow it at all?", "summary": "May have swallowed piece of glass roughly 1/3 the size of a fingernail (really, really, really small). I did not feel it go down, and I don't feel it now. I am in no pain whatsoever. Am I just going to pass this or should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_4ia8eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (39M) fiancee (29F) wants to get married NOW. I want to wait until August. It's causing a big problem.", "post": "So my fiancee has been married before. This is my first marriage. We've been dating about 18 months and got engaged last month. We agree on all the details of the marriage except the date. We've decided to either just get married at the courthouse or have a simple ceremony at our church.\n\nThe only issue is she wants to do it RIGHT NOW (or as soon as possible). I want to wait a few months, sort out some logistical issues (like living arrangements, having rings made, etc), complete premarital counseling at our church, and just enjoy being engaged for a little while.\n\nHer reasoning is that is we don't get married immediately we will miss out on bonding with her kids this summer. She has a five year old girl and a 9 year old boy. While I understand her reasoning, I don't think it's good enough of a reason. I spend almost every day with her kids when she has them (she has them half the time) and we bond quite a bit. Plus, we have hopefully many more summers to \"bond\".\n\nAnyway, it's reaching quite a point of stress. Tonight, we aren't even talking and she stormed off to bed alone because she couldn't convince me to do it now. Honestly, that reaction makes me want to push the date even further.\n\nHow does the reddit community feel? What should I do?", "summary": "Fiancee wants to get married now. I want to wait. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ely5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19m] keep my friends from making me the group punching bag?", "post": "I'm a somewhat shy college student. I have a handful of close friends that I've known since high school, so we've known each other for about 5-6 years. Usually we get along fine, but I've noticed a trend. It seems that i get along with each of them pretty well when we're the only ones around. But sometimes, when we all get together, some crazy group mentality kicks in and they all start treating me like the group punching bag. If I have an idea for what we should do, I'm ignored. They talk over me in conversations. If I'm driving, they change my music. If I do or say something slightly clumsy or stupid I get made fun of for it. All this causes me to get nervous, which in turn makes me more likely to do something that will get me made fun of again. Keep in mind that this is only in group situations\n\nNow, I'm the group \"funny man\" so a lot of times I just let them do it and try to laugh at myself and use self-deprecating humor to diffuse my uncomfortable feelings about the whole situation. Sometimes though, it's just too much. I pretend everything's okay, but later on I beat myself up for not saying anything. I'm perfectly aware that by not saying anything (or in fact going along with it sometimes), I'm tacitly sending the message to them that it's okay, but I want to change that\n\nNow this doesn't always happen. There are quite a lot of situations where I'm included as an active part of the group and treated like friends should treat each other. These people really are my best friends, but sometimes they just don't realize what they're doing and get carried away.\n\nCan reddit provide me with tips on how to assert myself without coming off as a jerk or too whiny?", "summary": "Friends sometimes treat me like a doormat or the group punching bag. How can I get them to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_ycxjj", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Anyone else have a weirdly quiet dog?", "post": "I don't think this is necessarily a problem, but it is kind of odd.\n\n[Ernie] is the only dog I've ever had that's nearly SILENT. I hear him give a single deep, gruff kind of bark maaaaybe once a month and always when he's playing with my boyfriend. He's 50-something pounds of athletic mutt and the only noise he makes on a regular basis is that squeaky-hinge squeak dogs make sometimes when they yawn. \n\nErnie loves all people without reservation, even the hobo that came up to me one day and touched my calf. Ernie wanted to give him smooches. He's a super people friendly dog, and never makes any noises at people.\n\nWe're also regulars at our local dog park and he usually does very well, but he hates it when loud packs of dogs form and bark at him/run him over repeatedly/face hump him/steal the ball right out of his mouth. Even his corrections are SILENT, not a growl or a bark to be had--just a quick nipping bite.\n\nI don't think he has trachea problems--if he does bark, it doesn't seem to hurt him. I've mentioned it to his vet and she thinks he's fine. He DEFINITELY hears other dogs barking (and reacts not super happily) and has no problem hearing commands. Fireworks and thunderstorms go completely ignored by him, though.\n\nIt's kind of weird! I don't know! I feel like other dogs making noise confuses him and stresses him out, but I may just be projecting and whatever. He's from a shelter, so he spent six months in a concrete kennel that was constantly noisy.", "summary": "Please tell me about your quirky quiet dogs, reddit!"}
{"id": "t3_339vf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [23M] of 4 years just told me [22F] he's bisexual. I'm very confused and have some questions.", "post": "I've always been a strong supporter of gay rights and have many gay friends, but now that it is happening on such a personal level, I find myself frustrated that I am having troubles coping. I'm hoping that learning more about this will help me figure it out.\n\nHe told me about a week ago. Our sex life and romantic lives have been stable, so I have no rational reason to believe our relationship is at risk, but there are still of these nagging fears in the back of my head. After he told me, I did a bad thing and went through his browser history. When I found gay and only gay porn for about the last 2 weeks, I got really upset and almost felt threatened in a way. Even if I have no reason to believe so, I feel like his attraction to women (i.e. me) might falter. My reasonable side tells me he is experimenting and learning about himself, but at the same time the absence of straight porn signals a lessening attraction to women in my head.\n\nHe has expressed no desire to fuck men or even try a relationship with one, but what's to stop those desires from happening in the future? My self esteem has plummeted and I don't feel nearly as sexually desirable as I did a week ago. My biggest end all fear is that two years from now he won't like women at all.\n\nDoes him being bisexual mean his attraction for women is less than if he was fully straight? How do I cope with that fact that he watches gay porn? Is this strictly gay porn situation just a phase as he figures things out?", "summary": "Boyfriend just came out as bisexual. I am having a lot of troubles coping, especially given the fact he doesn't watch straight porn anymore."}
{"id": "t3_507s3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Future FWB(24M) never got me(21F) birthday present despite promising.I got angry at him.Am I overreacting?", "post": "I have not had a relationship since I was 14.It ended so badly I focused on school and life.It wasn't until recently I decided to try dating.\n     \n  This guy also had a bad relationship.She cheated on him,left him,and he said she would physically hit him.He and his ex were together six years ,have a child.Their only communication is related to their daughter.It has been about two years since their relationship ended.Since then,he's had one night stand type deals here and there.\n\n   We started talking about two weeks before my birthday which was August 8th. He swore he would buy me a present,promised he would never forget.I had a hard time believing him ,but he said he was determined to prove me wrong.\n   \n  Now, he's a really nice guy.We talk on the phone every day,one night it was over seven hours!He always sends me a good morning text,when he sees me he'll text me after complimenting my appearance.We agreed to \"go with the flow\" with our relationship.We have not slept together or kissed.\n\n We both work at the mall ,but different stores. So we see each other quite often. The day of birthday we talked on the phone,he wished me a happy birthday.No gift when we saw each other.\n\n  Three weeks later, no present. I told him last Friday how hurt I was that he didn't get me anything, not even a card(which I would have been fine with). He said he's been so busy, he remembers but gets caught up with work. I got pissed because he's had three weeks to come up with something! I stopped texting him and ignored his calls over the weekend.\n  \n Honestly, I feel a little silly being so upset. If he didn't promise to buy me a present I wouldn't care so much. We just started talking so I really didn't expect him to get anything ,but he insisted! I think I'm more upset that he didn't stand by his word. I feel like this is a dealbreaker for me. What do you think?", "summary": "potential partner promised to buy birthday present,three weeks later nothing ,I'm pissed and considering breaking things off before they really start"}
{"id": "t3_30jvm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26m) having kids name issue with wife (25f)", "post": "So this needs some background. My mom was a shitty single mom, never there, always looking for a man. Me and my sister were 8 years apart, she died of leukemia when i was 14 and one of the things we had talked about was me naming my first daughter after her. Now 13 years later that's still my plan.\n\nMy new wife and i have been talking about kids, before we even got engaged she knew about my plans, and never said anything to signal it would be an issue. Now it's a big deal, massive, doesn't want to have kids if i don't cave on this decision kind of big deal. I told her, that nothing she has had happen in her life compares to losing my sister/mom/primary caregiver/mentor in my first year of high school, to which she agreed, and said of course i haven't. She still doesn't understand how important this is to me, this is something I've been planning for 13 years, and something i don't feel like i can budge on. Her one friend and her mom are on her side, and i have everyone i know on my side. I also told her that if she ever had something this important in her life, i would never say no. I need some thoughts here reddit, am i crazy? Is she?", "summary": "wife won't let me name daughter after my late sister"}
{"id": "t3_1tvogp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] just been dumped by my gf [30F] of 2 years, hurts bad", "post": "so yeah 2 years down the line we've broken up, it fucking sucks bt makes me wonder if we really did love each other why wouldnt we work our problems out instead? \n\nPart of me thinks there is someone else involved and i have asked her straight up about it but she strongly denies it and says there is no one else and that shes disgusted at me for even asking the question but i had to know for sure, (i'm still not sure i even do know)\n\nShe says only time will tell if we will be together but how fuckin often does that happen??\n\nHEARTBROKEN :(", "summary": "gf ended it with me today after 2 years says only time will tell if we reunite."}
{"id": "t3_1np8sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17M] feel like I'm over her[17F], but I can't stop thinking about our relationship we had.", "post": "Her and I had a great relationship for 9 months. We broke up due to long distance and arguments, and she soon moved on and we stopped talking. It took me a few months, but I stopped having dreams about her and I and I began to feel comfortable not having a girlfriend around anymore.  \n  \nAlthough, I couldn't stop one thing from happening. Constantly, I would catch myself spacing out, thinking of her and thinking of the times we had. I often accidentally say some insiders that her and I shared with each other, and when I do, it kind of sends me into my mind, thinking about her again. I do it anywhere - out in public, around friends, alone - I can't stop.  \n  \nNot only that, I commonly think about how her life must be. I always think that she's having a good time and I still feel like I have feelings for her, even though I feel like I don't? We broke off contact after being best friends for two years and dating for one year, and I feel like I really lost something. I can't talk to her about it, because the last time I talked to her (a month ago, give or take) she argued with me and told me to 'get over her', which I was still having trouble doing. I don't want to talk to her, but I do. I know I can't, she's most likely blocked me on everything anyway.   \n   \nWhy am I still thinking about her? Why do I still have thoughts about how great we were, even though we argued a lot and we had our disagreements? Am I over her, or am I still stuck in a trance? I have no idea how to feel.", "summary": "After a relationship that lasted for 9 months, I still find myself thinking about the girl I had very often. Am I over her? Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_1gcy7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27f]I have had a crush for 5 months while in a 4+ year LTR[31m]\u2026current relationship has issues that have been addressed but nothing seems to be changing\u2026what gives?", "post": "The title says it all. I am a 27 year old female in a 4.5 year long term relationship with a 31m who I love and care deeply about. Our relationship has never been absolutely perfect (whose is?), but we have been able to manage our issues well. Earlier this year we started having frequent quarrels/disagreements/arguments and shortly after I found myself with a crush on someone else.\n\nI know crushes are normal, but I took it as a sign that it was time to address the serious issues we have in our relationship (dead bedroom; little spark/romance, future goals, and family issues). It is now 5 months later, I still have the crush (although I would NEVER act on it) and our issues have not been fixed.   In fact, my partner does not seem to think that our issues are as big as I have made them out to be. \n\nHe currently lives at home and I live with roommates. His answer to our issues is to move in together.  We had been planning to move in together when my lease is up, but I do feel that our issues (especially our dead bedroom), should be addressed before we move in together and are locked into a lease. \n\nWe get along well, I love him, and I can't imagine him not being in my life\u2026.we are best friends. I am trying my best to fix our relationship, but he seems to think the cure all is to just move in together? Is this a good idea? Any advice or suggestions are appreciated\u2026", "summary": "In a long term relationship with SO. I have had a crush on someone else for 5 months...I took the crush as a sign that issues in my current relationship need to be addressed but SO other does not think that are issues are as big as they seem."}
{"id": "t3_28zyx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] and my wife [25F] (together 6 years). I thought I didn't want kids, but I realized what the issue is (See inside)", "post": "Hello,\n\nI've been with my wife for years before we got married, she's my girl, plain and simple. I love her to death.\n\nWhen we we first dating we were starry eyed children. We always talked about kids and how I wanted them, but as we got closer to the wedding and moved in together, we put it on the backburner. I eventually started thinking I didn't want to have kids.\n\nMy wife is a larger woman, which physically has never bothered me, but when I would think about her being pregnant, I would get worried. I've read the list of complications that can happen from being obese and pregnant, and how it can gravely effect the baby and the mother by increasing every negative outcome that could happen.\n\nI have begun to come to term with the fact that I think it's not that I don't want kids, is that I think if we have kids at her current health, that the chances of things going wrong are much higher and that could ruin us.\n\nNow, I've tried to be encouraging about weight loss, I've lost 100 myself and she even asked while I was doing it if I was trying to get her to lose weight (I wasn't, I just wanted to be healthier). But when the conversation has come up, she is VERY sensitive about it. It usually ends with her upset for several days.\n\nHow do I discuss this with her to let her know that I think I know why I'm afraid to risk her life and our relationship without guilting her? I don't want it to be ultimatum either, just laying down facts. I've tried to be subtle, I've tried to do the cooking, I've tried to be aggressive (that was a terrible idea).\n\nAnyone face this before?", "summary": "Husband realized he didn't want to risk Wife's health or baby due to wife's weight, not sure how to handle her weight."}
{"id": "t3_ltzl8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am in danger of being wrongfully accused of rape. What can I do to protect myself in case all hell breaks loose?", "post": "Disclaimer: Yes, obviously, I made a ridiculously stupid mistake. That's not what this is about, so please refrain from \"lol karma bro\" or \"You're a terrible person\" or similarly useless comments.\n\nI cheated on my girlfriend with a girl who was also in a relationship. We drunkenly made out in her kitchen and it was very much consensual. About a month ago, I told my girlfriend, and the other girl decided to tell her boyfriend soon after. The other girl is now saying that I followed her up to her room, that she tried to stop me, that she was blackout drunk, etc. I don't know the exact details because I found out about this through my girlfriend. The other girl's boyfriend went to my girlfriend instead of confronting me, telling her all this stuff that his girlfriend's been feeding him and essentially accusing me of rape. I'm a senior in college, and although I couldn't care less what this girl's shallow friends and boyfriend think, I'm mortified that this could make its way to faculty or the authorities and stir up some seriously dangerous shit.\n\nSo, Reddit, these are my thoughts:\n\n1. Are there any steps that I can take to protect myself? I've started an e-mail dialogue with the boyfriend, asking him to talk to me about what his girlfriend said. He wants to talk in person, but since so much of this issue has been based on hearsay, I want it in writing.\n\n2. Is this grounds for libel? My girlfriend saved the messages that the other guy sent her in which he claims this stuff, so I have those. I don't want to stir anything up whatsoever, but in case it does boil over I want to know my options.\n\n3. If she really did feel violated, why wait five months to tell the boyfriend, and so conveniently timed with me telling my girlfriend?\n\n4. This girl is catty and just an ugly person at her core, but she can put on a sweet face. How should I approach this situation where most people will automatically side with her as a \"victim\" if it comes out?", "summary": "My reputation's dick is in a guillotine and I am terrified."}
{"id": "t3_45uho9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the best way for me (28f) to deal with ex, now friend and new BF", "post": "So I'm still casual friends with my ex, who I only dated for 1 month, but who dumped me and I had strong feelings for. Essentially,  things ended before they had really even began without even sleeping together, but still a heartbreak for me. This happened 5-6 months ago, right before I started dating my current bf. I admit I have some leftover feelings of anger or thinking about him a bit too much.\n\nI have a new BF of 4 months. Is it totally wierd for me to invite him to hang out with this ex and that group of friends? If so should I tell him I used to date this guy?", "summary": "how do I hang out with new BF and group of friends including ex? Or should I avoid hanging around with that group entirely, at least until we're more established?"}
{"id": "t3_18k5wl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it legal to force an employee to sign a non disparagement document in order to receive unpaid vacation compensation after said employee has given notice?", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. A coworker gave notice that they were resigning last week and today was given a long document that included a non disparagement clause basically stating that they could not \"make any statements, written or verbal, or cause or encourage others to do the same, that defame, disparage, or in any way criticize the reputation, practices, or conduct of organization, employees, directors, and officers.\" It went on to say they couldn't do so in social media, to the board, media, employees past or present, etc. The only exception was in legal proceedings. \n\nIn order to receive their unused vacation time they have to sign this (there were other sections but this one stood out the most). Said organization is in Massachusetts and is a nonprofit if that changes anything. \n\nThis seems totally fucked up and potentially not legal, are we wrong in thinking so?", "summary": "employee who gave notice is suddenly told they have to sign non disparagement agreement in order to receive compensation for unused vacation time."}
{"id": "t3_2vnmwj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "It's almost Valentines day and I [24/m] want to break it off with my girlfriend (25/f)", "post": "Last week I told my girlfriend that things weren't working out for me and that I wanted to stop seeing her. We talked for a bit and we decided that I would take a few days to see how I felt about it. Well, I have taken a few days and I still feel quite strongly that I want to end things.\n\nI am supposed to see her tomorrow. However, it is the day before Valentines day. I'm not a very sentimental person but the day means a lot to her, she's been looking forward to it for months and I know she would be devastated if I gave her the final word on Valentines day or just beforehand. It just feels like a dick move.\n\nThe only alternative is trying to commit to another week or two of the relationship but I just feel so emotionally drained from it. She will notice that I am not into it and get frustrated or upset that I am not being enthusiastic or affectionate enough or in the right ways. Does anyone have any advice? I feel under a lot of pressure at work at the moment and thinking about this just makes me feel sick.", "summary": "Can't be with my girlfriend but don't want to ruin her Valentines day."}
{"id": "t3_1peoo9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my gf [22 F] of 7yrs, She has severe depression and I don't think I can handle it anymore. Advice needed!", "post": "Hey all, thanks for taking the time to listen. I've been with my gf for over 7 years now. We met in high school and continued the relationship throughout college. She is my first long term relationship and so we learned a lot together along the way. She has always been dealing with some pretty bad depression. Meds don't seem to help and she's tried a lot of different kinds. She sees a therapist regularly and I can tell that she is trying her best.\n\nRecently she dropped out of her final semester of college and has been on a downward spiral. Panic attacks, no friends, extreme mood swings etc. I care about her a lot, but at this point in my life it has become so difficult to deal with. She relies on me for pretty much everything. She doesn't have any friends or family close by and so I am the sole person she hangs out with. \n\nI'm a social person and have a good group of friends but she really isn't interested in hanging out with them. I understand that she has a mental illness, but I seem to be hitting my breaking point. I see my close friends around me in their relationships doing well and it makes me sad that I don't have the same thing. Coming home to someone at the end of the day should not be stressful, but I know as soon as I walk in the door it probably won't be a good night because she'll be either crying, yelling at me endlessly for something silly like not putting the cap back on the toothpaste, or she'll want to just sit in bed and watch mindless tv shows.\n\nI've already spent many years with her but I am thinking it's time to let go. I have no idea how to do this in a non selfish way though since she practically relies on me for everything and without me she will have no support. Is there anyone here that has been in a similar scenario or maybe suffered debilitating depression that can comment?", "summary": "gf of 7 years has major depression. I can't take it anymore and am looking for advice on how to handle it and where to go from here while remaining supportive and not being selfish to someone I care a lot about."}
{"id": "t3_2mzyki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't even bare the sight my employee, need advice on how to deal with this", "post": "I manage a team of people and one of my team members is a girl who is about the same age as me, but she is incredibly quiet, but can give you attitude if point out something that she's done incorrectly. Her English isn't great, which wouldn't be a problem except for that she'll say she understands something and then not do what you've asked for. She's just generally a bit useless. \n\nShe's a hard worker, but she has the memory of a goldfish, needs constant oversight of her work for mistakes, has minimal common sense, and is completely lacking in creativity and insight.\n\nThe biggest issue though is that she creeps me out. She's always staring, but doesn't say much. I can't stand how useless she is considering she's about to turn 30. She makes my work life more difficult than it needs to be because everything she does has to be checked over.\n\nIt's gotten to the point where I can't even stand catching sight of her out of the corner of my eye because I have so much hostility towards her. I hate it when I see her name in my emails, and I get really annoyed when she messages me.\n\nI have to work with this girl so I need to find a way to deal with my feelings because my feelings towards her are stressing me out and I'm sure they don't make her feel very good either.\n\nI can't fire her, so I'm wondering if anyone has any tips to help me get over the way I feel? Please don't state the obvious and tell me I need to get over the way I feel because I already know, this is why I'm asking for help. Genuine solutions/advice on how to get past my feelings greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I can't stand my useless employee, and it's gotten to the point where I don't even want to look at her or her name. How can I deal with my feelings, so I can work harmoniously with this person?"}
{"id": "t3_2qpyh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20 F] has a friend [19 M] staying over at her house, and this friend tried sleeping with her before.", "post": "Me (21 M) and my girlfriend (20 F) have been dating for 3 months now, and she was a virgin until I met her. Things were going great between us.  \n\nOne of her friends (20 F) from Montreal is staying over at her place for the holidays, which I am cool with, until my girlfriend said that her brother (19 M) was coming too.  \n\nNow here is where the story gets interesting. About a year and a half ago, that brother tried to sleep with my girlfriend (single at the time) when they were drunk one time, but my girlfriend refused. I asked her if she is cool with him staying over, and she said \"yeah, we are basically cousins. Our parents were friends before we were born and we've known each other for as long as I can remember.\"  \n\nMy girlfriend told me about this incident a week after this brother was staying over at her house, and she was even thinking of not ever telling me this story. That worried me a lot. I felt that she should have told me about this incident right away, and I think that this brother still has feelings for my girlfriend. Like she said they are basically cousins, so why would he even try to sleep with her in the first place. That also bugged me.  \n\nSo I got really upset when she told me this story and I am very worried that she will cheat on me, or that he will try something again. They are sleeping in the same house for 2 weeks for fucks sake. Even though she says nothing will happen, I can never be too sure. I trust my girlfriend, but I dont trust that brother.  \n\nSo guys, I dont know what to do. I dont even know if I should be doing anything. I am really worried and I have this weird bad feeling in my stomach now and I know its because of this.  \n\nAny advice or anything to say to me would be very helpful. Thanks", "summary": "Close friend of my girlfriend tried sleeping with her a while back, and that friend is staying over at her house for 2 weeks for the holidays.  Im scared shitless"}
{"id": "t3_38eohj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [19 F] of 1 month. She sent pictures to other guys on multiple occasions, unsure of what to do", "post": "First off, I'd like to say that on top of her anxiety disorder, she also has separation issues, and problems with guys. We knew each other for about 2 months before we dated, but we were very close in those two months. We got into an argument, and she sent a picture of herself in underwear to a guy because she needed compliments. like I said, she has issues. She told me, and said its what she always does, but she desperately wants to change for me. we both are new to relationships so I could see where she was coming from ( I should also make it clear I see her 1-2 times a week as we are about an hour away and in school/work).\n\nAbout a month after this, I went on a camping trip for the weekend. When I got back, she told me how she was tempted to talk to guys for attention but she didn't, and how proud she was and how much she missed me. I had service for most of the trip, so every once and awhile I'd text her. a couple weeks ago, I had such burning suspicions that I went through her phone when she was sleeping. There were pictures she showed me that I had never seen, and I had to know. On her snapchat, there was 4-5 guys who had saved her pictures in chat, nudes. It was on the weekend I went camping. She straight up lied to me. She told me she was drunk, but I could tell how angry she was at herself. I told her If she ever does it again, I'm leaving her. But now every time she talks to a guy, every photo she likes, it makes me suspicious. I've lost a lot of my trust in her. I care for her immensely, more than anyone I've ever dated. And we are so alike. But I dont know how to move past this.", "summary": "GF sends pics to other guys for attention, I give her one more chance, but I need advice on what to do/ how to get past it"}
{"id": "t3_306wxj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "After 9 months of unemployment I have been offered two different jobs but I don't know what to pick. Please help a naive graduate.", "post": "I have been offered two different jobs in separate medical device companies. One job is Business Development but is basically a travelling sales job (selling lab analyzers) and the other is a Graduate program with four placements over two years.\n\nThe sales job is higher paid, with better perks (company car etc), I can work from home so I won't be paying high rent and is a permanent contract. Sales is not something that I had imagined doing in college (Majored in Biochemistry) but I think I could be good at it, however, I have heard that it is a lonely job? The company is undergoing a lot of expansion so there should be good development potential but there is a high turnover of staff and from what I have read there seems to be low morale (may not affect me if I am working from home?)\n\nThe graduate program would give me experience in a number of areas (no details yet), it has a fantastic reputation and in general people who come through it become managers within the organisation. It would be more lab based (manufacturing/QC) so probably more related to my degree but I'm not sure if I am suited to the highly regulated environment. The company is an established market leader with an excellent global reputation and treats its employees very well. \n\nThe grad program is probably the \"safer\" option but currently I am leaning towards the Sales job. Financially it is better and it also provides excellent networking opportunities but having said that it could be madness to turn down a really reputable grad program which arguably gives me better long term prospects.\n\nI'm really struggling with the decision reddit. Drop some wisdom bombs on me please. What would you pick?", "summary": "Got two job offers, one in medical device sales, the other is 4 placements spanning various areas (Manufacturing, QC, Reg Affairs etc) in a different medical device company and I can't pick."}
{"id": "t3_48pqcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My EX (25M) sporadically still send me (25F) snapchats despite having a gf.", "post": "My Ex and I broke up around a year ago. We were in a rocky 3-year relationship. Towards the end I thought things were getting better, talking about our future and he serious he was about me. He very abruptly ended things with me saying he hasn't loved me for the past year and within two months is had a new gf.\n\nI haven't spoken to him since he started dating her. A few months after then he blocked me on Instagram but began to follow me on snapchat. (I don't follow him on any social media but we remained FB friends and my Instagram isn't private)\n\nAround 6 months ago he started to send me snapchats and I figured if I never answered he would stop. He hasn't stopped and they just keep coming in, never anything inappropriate. I'd say it averages out to 2x a week.\n\nMy question is: Why does my ex continue to send me snapchats if he has a GF, said he doesn't love me anymore, and I never answer him back?", "summary": "Why does me Ex BF continually send me snapchats while he has a gf and I never respond?"}
{"id": "t3_1a6se4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Having trouble letting a girl know how I feel/finding out how she feels. 19M 18F", "post": "Back up about a month ago. I met a girl, let's call her Alice because I like that name. She's gorgeous, into cars almost as much as I am, sweetest girl I've ever met in my life. Did I mention she's a gearhead? Anyway, we've hung out a number of times since then and every time she's seemed increasingly interested in me. She'd hug me tighter, glomp me, get up in my face, cute shit. But when I text her, it's like a different world. Sometimes we'll have a good conversation, and sometimes it's just one word answers. Granted, I understand if she's at work or in class, but other times? And she never really texts me either. I'm always the conversation starter. That kind of thing usually bothers me. To get to the point here, I really like this girl, but I really have no idea how to go about telling her how I feel and seeing if she feels the same way. Any advice for a lonely old soul just looking for someone to care about?", "summary": "Met a cute girl, seems interested, I'm interested, need help with telling her how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_4vo57o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (27 F) wants to be FWB with me (28 M)", "post": "My ex and I still love each other. That much is clear but we both decided that neither of us are in a position to have a relationship. It kind of turned into a nasty break up before we both came to terms with it. Well she hit me up the other day and asked if we could still be friends and she has been coming over to hang out in a totally plutonic way. \n\nNow she called me today and asked if she could sleep over. She said \"I don't want you to come to my house because if you do, I'll want you all the time and we can't do that\". Anyway I agreed and she's coming over to spend the night.\n\nMy question is can two people that love each other really be friends with benefits? I just don't know if it can work. I feel like if it gets physical again, we won't be able to keep that boundary. Am I making a huge mistake here?", "summary": "can people that love each other be friends with benefits and not destroy a friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_2fn8ht", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My random dream made me feel more wanted than I've ever felt", "post": "So I'm currently fixated on a dream and I just can't shake that whilst I loved feeling the way I did in the dream it makes me unbelievably sad I haven't/ will probably not feel the same way in real life at least I'm the ear future. It wasn't the greatest or happiest dream I've ever had but I feel like I would happily have it every night at this point. to just feel so wanted emotionally by someone else was amazing.\n\nThe dream was myself and one of an old friends sister. It started off her wanting to have sex with me, I thought she was joking because I felt like She had never shown interest before and I thought it was a joke,  she reassured me that her feelings were true and that she had felt this way for a while.I wanting to have sex  said I can't because of her brother, she ended up getting upset and I comforted her I was already feeling emotionally wanted and it felt good but then we carried on talking about the past and how we had actually liked each other for a while and just having deep meaningful conversations and then in only a way a dream can things started keeping us apart and me still being a bit cautious I didn't believe her fully until she kept trying. To come and see me again to just hang around with me and share time together (non sexually).\n\nI woke up and I just can't shake how warm and loving it felt, I thought maybe it was a sign so I looked her up and she has a boyfriend so that's a no go. It jousts sucks for me that I know I've never felt so emotionally fulfilled in real life as I did in they dream which Felt like only 5 minutes.", "summary": "I had a dream which started out to look like it. Ah be sexual. But I declined to just feel like someone loved me so much emotionally and I've never felt so good and I realise I haven't and may never feel like it again"}
{"id": "t3_4usebm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "MI - Landlord threatening to sue for $500 in damages to property", "post": "Just moved out 3 weeks ago after living in a rental for 5 years. Landlord is now claiming damages of $1500 against our $1000 deposit and threatening to sue for the damages. The damage was caused by our dog. I do not disagree with the claims of damage but rather the amounts being estimated for the repairs. For example, $36 for window pins + installation and $140 for 4 sets of shitty mini blinds. $650 to repair dog scratches to \"vintage\" wooden doors to match the patina. \n\nIn addition my landlord has stated in that the costs are merely estimates and that she will adjust (ask for additional money) as actual receipts come in. MI law only states that an itemized list of damages needs to be sent to the tenant within 30 days and that I must respond with agreement or disagreement within 7; there is no discussion of landlord rights to adjust for damages past 30 days. Can she keep coming after me for more money as estimates turn to receipts? \n\nI totally have the money and would almost just rather pay her to get it over with. But I just can't bring myself to do it without fighting a little bit after she sent a very passive aggressive letter along with the list of damages. \n\nThank you for your help!", "summary": "landlord wants to collect for damages on estimates and the estimates are too damn high"}
{"id": "t3_1322hd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Not so straight members of Reddit, has your sexuality ever gotten you into some severely awkward situations with friends that are straight?", "post": "I was kicked back with some friends a little while back when they started talking about their girlfriends (I am gay and have a boyfriend, so clearly I already have no input off the bat). I would laugh and listen, but when I would start to bring things up about my partner and try to hop into the conversation, they would kind of just chuckle and switch the subject back to them. Keep in mind that when they started on that subject, it would be a while before they went off on a tangent that didn't involve vaginas, boobs or kitchen jokes, so I spent a good deal of time watching my Twitter feed update. Needless to say, I learned that I drink beer a lot faster when I don't talk.", "summary": "I'm gay and can't relate to straight men in the slightest."}
{"id": "t3_4bdnx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23f] become friends with my mom's boyfriend's daughter [21f]", "post": "So, this is kind of an odd situation. My mom and I lived right outside Philadelphia, PA. Morgan(mom's now boyfriend) and my mom worked within the same company, however, he worked for the HQ out in Iowa. They met and fell madly in love, I'll spare you the gag filled details.\n\nIn December, my mom moved out to Iowa to live with Morgan and my boyfriend and I stayed in PA. Morgan has 3 daughters, Desirae [21], Olivia[15], and Abi[12]. Olivia and Abi are still in school and live with Morgan and my mom 50% of the time. When I visit my mom in May, I will be meeting them for the first time. They're both really excited and so am I. We already have a relationship, not a strong one but it's not weird if they text me. \n\nRecently, Morgan asked my permission to marry my mom... My feelings about that aside, I'm more than happy for them. However, I don't want them to get married before having a relationship with a soon to be sister.\n\nShe does not live with them so I wouldn't see her when I visit. How do I open up a dialogue with her and hopefully become friends without coming off as weird?\n\nI feel like this should be common knowledge but I seriously only have like 3 girlfriends who I've known for like ever so I'm not sure how to start something like this. Any advice is helpful. Thanks!", "summary": "How do I start a friendship/relationship with my mom's boyfriend's daughter?"}
{"id": "t3_2bhtaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26f) and my bf (29m) have been in a rocky relationship for quite some time. Having a hard time loving him", "post": "I apologize for any bad grammar, I am at work and doing this my phone. \n\nHere I go,\nWe have been in a relationship for 5 years, we've had our ups and downs. For the past year, we have pretty much fight almost daily. It's about the same shit, and he always starts it. I just want peace. It's really hard to deal with it considering we live together. We have no kids, and we're not engaged. \n\nI couldn't no longer stand his constant drama, so I shut myself off emotionally. \nRecently, he's realised what he's been doing for awhile. We go to couples therapy and trying to work things out.\n\nI am afraid that this isn't salvageable. But I gave him an x amount of months to fix it, with me trying to make it work. I Judy don't want to be hurt again. It it's worth it? \n\nI need to know what you think reddit. Thank you", "summary": "I don't know if I can save my 5 year relationship. I still love him but I've been hurt for a long time"}
{"id": "t3_4mo6df", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28/F] father [58/M] refuses to come to my wedding or allow my half siblings [16/F & 14/M] to attend unless I invite his new wife [42/F] who has always been horrible to me and rude to my mother.", "post": "Subject pretty much says it all. \n\nI don't want to invite my father's second wife to our small wedding, he won't allow my siblings to attend or to come himself unless I invite her. \n\nMy stepmother has made it clear from day 1 that she resents my existence and has never been nice to me and has always referred to me as 'the product of the mistake marriage'. My father has always treated his kids from their marriage better than me, but he's still my father and they are still my siblings. He is no walking me down the aisle, thankfully I have an easy out as in my fiancee's culture, it is customary for the bride/groom to walk down the aisle together to symbolise they are making the decision/entering this chapter of their lives together. \n\nPart of the reason I don't want to invite her is because I can't trust her not to say something horrible to my mother and completely ruin the day for her. The wedding is not really big enough to keep them separated and it will be hella awkward for my poor mother to have the woman my father cheated on her with hanging around all day.  My stepmother has made one too many snide comments to my mother out of earshot of my father for me to be comfortable inviting her.....and of course, since she is smart enough to do them out of earshot, my father thinks we are making it up. \n\nAt the end of the day, my father is family, my siblings are family....she isn't. I feel like my mother's feelings need to matter more than my stepmohers. \n\nAnyway, I don't know what to do?", "summary": "Stepmother is rude and has never liked me much, is rude to my mother. father refuses to come or allow my siblings to come unless the stepmonster is invited. How to handle?"}
{"id": "t3_4iq5nx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Failing a college class resulting in a string of events", "post": "I'm a senior in college majoring in Biology and also an ROTC cadet. I failed my required chemistry class, which was a little unexpected for me. The thing is, I've been looking to commission as an officer my entire college career. As such, I don't have any internship experiences or don't even have a resume. My whole college career, I've been looking to commission as an officer. \n\nThe thing is, I am not the best cadet, but I've managed to get through 4 years of ROTC without getting kicked out. But because I've failed that chem class, I might not be able to make it as an officer. I already have 2 strikes for ROTC, and this would be my third strike, resulting in possible disenrollment from the program. I've been trying to get a hold of my professor, just to at least talk to her about it, but she will not answer my emails at all. She told me that she would pass me if I showed improvement in my exams, but our final was exceptionally hard. Average was 50/150 points. And I got around a 30. My other two exams before had shown improvement. My commander said that if I can somehow get that failing grade to change to a C- (which is the minimum passing grade) then it would change everything. I keep trying to contact my professor but she won't respond to anything. I don't know what I should do now.", "summary": "failed a required college class and I might be dropped from my ROTC program, which was the only thing I've been working towards my whole college life."}
{"id": "t3_15zjcg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(19/m) seizes up when trying to speak to girls in general. Affecting my ability to enter", "post": "Well, is probably quite common but it's incredibly depressing when I feel like I become someone I'm not around girls or in particular new girls I haven't met before. It's crippling my ability to get into relationships. I had a rough break up 2 years ago and I'm not sure I'd is because of this or not.\nIt's reached this point of desperation that I feel the bed to vent on reddit as I may a girl that I have pretty strong feelings for. We doesn't new years together and after an awkward night together I want to get something more. Does anyone else have any tips on being able to escape this crippling feeling", "summary": "Crippled by fear and insecurities."}
{"id": "t3_4ys2jb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23f) boyfriend (28m) has wandering eyes which hurts my feelings and may eventually end the relationship", "post": "I'm beginning to realize I can never compare. I can never compare to those pretty girls with the big butts. That's where his eyes always wander to when we're out. Well actually he yanks his neck to look at any young female in tight or revealing clothing that we pass. We've been together for 7 months now. I've already told him how it makes me feel disrespected and he told me he would stop but he hasn't. I don't think he understands how completely shitty it makes me feel. I feel like I'm not enough for him and that i never will be. I'm not pretty enough, too dark and i don't have a big butt. In my head I'm not what he wants, he wants one of these other girls. If that's the case then wtf am i doing here? Why am I here trying to make a relationship work with someone who clearly has his eyes set somewhere else. \n   Whenever we go out and I catch him ogling an ass it instantly puts me in a bad mood. A girl shouldn't have to feel bad and insecure when going out on the town with her boyfriend. She should feel happy loved and wanted. Even today when we were at a restaurant eating and talking his eyes were busy on one of the employees asses. I don't know how he doesn't see it as completely and utterly disrespectful to be talking to your gf while your eyes are wandering to someone else's ass. It is and I'm sick of it.  \n     Not to jump the gun but I'm not dating for fun. I'm dating to find my eventual husband. I can't see myself calling a man my husband while he has his eyes on every female but me. I just can't. His wandering eyeballs may be the thing that breaks this relationship, as small and petty as it seems.", "summary": "my boyfriend can't stop ogling other girls when we're out in public which may eventually break us up"}
{"id": "t3_19k3ve", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Get a personal website and help save dogs", "post": "Hello, I am a student and am interested in building your website for cheap, money goes towards Guardian Angels Medical Service Dogs for wounded war veterans. A lot of these dogs came from shelters and were only a few days from being put down.\n\nI am not a professional, but know quite a bit about HTML and CSS. I write the code by hand. Your website will look good from a visual aspect, however it wont be able to have login pages or other flashy javascript programs seeing as I am just a student.\n\nA little about me:\n--I am a volunteer dog trainer/foster for a Medical Service Dog for wounded war veterans. I live with a dog, train it, and get it exposed to environments like shopping centers, cars, malls, elevators, and restaurants before he is given to a disabled vet. This requires me to supply the toys, food for the dog, and training materials. With the economy the way it is and the cost dog food being so high I need a little extra help.\n--I am a student majoring in Psychology.\n--I took an advanced web design class in high school and have been teaching myself for the past 2 years.\n--I can do only basic Javascript, I have done several personal pages for my friends.\n\nMy base price is $50 dollars for the design and layout, compared to the several hundred a professional would charge, each page could be an additional charge depending on complexity and how many pages you want. I am really laid back, easy to work with. If you have an idea in your head, I will do my best to make it happen.\n\nYou wont have to pay 50% until the first page is done, and 50% at completion. This does not include the cost of hosting the site online, just the HTLM files.\n\nOne website will take about 2 weeks to complete,\n\nI also take donations of pet supplies and additional money towards the Guardian Angels Medical Service Dogs if you want to help the dogs out. Please spread this journal, donate, or just give an animal a hug. Anything helps\n\n.........", "summary": "I make you website to help dogs... woof woof..."}
{"id": "t3_35pk0j", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Question about MFP", "post": "i've had the ap for awhile, but was staying faithful to Weight Watchers, but I just can't afford it anymore. What I liked about WW was that you could enter in whatever serving size you wanted. This is my second day on MFP and I just cannot figure out if they have this option. For example, this morning, I wanted brown sugar in my oatmeal. Was planning for 'one serving' but was a couple grams over when I weighed (4g to 7g) and decided to live with it. After 10 minutes of searching on the ap on how to measure those few grams, I decided to come here. Since most of you use MFP.", "summary": "How do you enter serving sizes manually on MFP?"}
{"id": "t3_vhv30", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Obligatory \"What's a weird dream\" thread.", "post": "I just had a good one so I thought I'd share.\n\nI start remembering when in the dream, I was in a mall, at one of the ends with fountains and benches. Some chicks who were about 6s on a 1-10 hot scale came up and sat next to me. Started flirting and one starts going for my pee pee. Some people come up and say we can't do that in the mall. DGAF. Girl puts mouth on cock, begins blowing, then pauses and says, \"Oh my god. It looks so handsome.\" I found that weird, and I don't remember anything else from that part.\n\nThe next dream, (same night in sequence) I go to a music festival at my old college. See a bunch of old friends, make some new friends while looking for drugs to buy. I start getting real excited because I found some dude selling cheap shrooms. We start talking, hanging out with his friends, then I tell the story about getting blown at the mall. At some point here, I wake up a little bit, can see my room, and get bummed out but then go back to sleep. I go right back to the same scenario at the music festival. I start to realize that I'm in a dream, and I mention this to the other people and I try to wake up. Five other people are convincing me that I just took the shrooms and that's why I was feeling like I was dreaming. After some skepticism, I accepted that this was reality and that waking up was a dream, and I had really taken shrooms and had a ton to take home with me.", "summary": "Realized I was in a dream, but people in that dream convinced me that I was just on mushrooms and that waking up was the dream, which was supported by the fact that I told stories about the first dream to people in the second dream."}
{"id": "t3_1y7li4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M20] and im not sure if i should start dating [F19] who likes me.", "post": "I've known this girl for a year and i always thought she was good looking. I got a bit closer with her in the last 4 months and she wants to date me, but i'm unsure whether i should take her out on a date. \n\nI don't feel the way about her the way i have felt about with girls i have dated and liked. I'm not sure if i really liked the other girls or if i really dont have feelings for the girl now. \n\nThe girl now is a lot different compared to the past girls i liked.\n \n\nOverall i think i'm not sure whether i like this girl or not.\n\nI'm new to the out of highschool dating scene.\n\nThank You..", "summary": "I dont know if i like a girl which likes me."}
{"id": "t3_2el26t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [21 F] telling me she was the victim of being touched, lie or truth?", "post": "GF went on a business trip 1 month ago and everything has been great/even better since she came back.\n\nLast night we opened up about our past, and it seemed to get the words flowing. She then told me that she had to tell me something that might make me angry. \n\nDuring her last business trip, a group of co-workers were all studying together in her hotel room and as it got late they left one by one until she was left with a single co-worker. \n\nShe told me that he kissed her on the lips before she could pull away, and that he touched her before she made it clear that she had a boyfriend, to which point he apologized and left.\n\nI was extremely disappointed because:\n\n*  she waited a month to tell me because she didn't want me to be angry, and didn't feel there was an opportune time to tell me. I called bs on this, instead saying that she should have immediately told me. \n\n* she put herself in a position where this was allowed to happen. Why not kick him out immediately?\n\n* when I asked her where he touched her, she said she didn't want to talk about it but said it was nowhere intimate, more along the lines of forcing himself on her\n\nAt this point she apologized profusely and for at least the next 2 hours begged me not to be mad and that she did absolutely nothing with him. She felt compelled to finally talk about it because we were on the topic of infidelity.", "summary": "Did she have the right to wait this long to tell me that \"nothing happened\"? I don't buy it and am still clearing my head. Did she cheat on me, reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_46iq9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [45/f] with [46/m] sleepy, homebody, old man; are most men like this in their 40's?", "post": "We started dating 18 years ago and recently reunited after 6 year \"break\".For the first 4 months he wanted to be together many days of the week and all weekend, lots of sex.\n\nFor the past couple months he wants to hangout less and less sex.\n\nSays he is tired on weeknights and just wants to be at home including Friday night. \n\nWhen we were younger he wanted to be together often and have sex all of the time and now he is tried and says it is because he is older. He is often tired and usually does not want to leave the house.", "summary": "Is this behavior a red flag or normal for 46 year old men?****"}
{"id": "t3_43xdcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] attempting to get flesh things out with an Ex at a weird point in my life", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nThrowaway for obvious reasons. \n\nBasically, i recently rekindled a fling with an ex [21F] that I had previously dated for two years. We broke up about a year ago after things had been pretty sour for a few months beforehand. It seems pretty straightforward and we have decided that as of now we are in an exclusive relationship on campus. However, I am a second semester senior about to start a pretty demanding job in august and am worried that whatever we had is no longer as good. We also do not know if we will be in the same geographic location when I start work. Long distance didnt exactly work well for us last time we tried either. I would rather figure it out before I start this job and potentially move in with her. When we last talked I told her that I was scared that it wouldnt be the same and have voiced my concerns in an honest manner.\n\nFinally, we are super sexually compatible and sometimes its hard for me to distinguish whether I love the sex or I love her. Is it wrong for me to feel this out in an exclusive relationship with my ex to determine if whatever love we had is still there, while still keeping an open mind about other potential partners? (Read: I will not cheat or date other people so long as i am in this exclusive relationship, just keeping an open mind)", "summary": "Me and ex recently hooked up at a weird time in my life. Is exclusively hooking up with her while keeping an open mind to others (no cheating or dating while in relationship) wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_14176d", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Kissing in kindergarten?  What are your thoughts?", "post": "My daughter just turned 5, and is in kindergarten.  The other day when I was picking her up from school, she told me that a boy in her class told her that he was \"falling in love\" with her.  I had to clarify that those were his exact words, and she said yes.\n\nToday she came out and after doing our standard greeting, she said, \"GUESS WHAT?  [same boy] KISSED ME TODAY!\"  I looked at her and asked if she kissed him or if he kissed her, and she said that he kissed her.  I asked if it was on the cheek, and she said it was on the lips.  I asked if any teachers saw and she said no, that no one was looking.  She wasn't distressed by it, and mentioned that now he was going to be her boyfriend, and seemed quite happy.\n\nNow, I'm torn.  Part of me thinks it's cute, but a larger part of me thinking it's inappropriate.  I volunteer in her classroom a lot and am quite comfortable with the teachers (and I feel they are with me, as well), and when I brought up the 'falling in love' comment, her teacher mentioned that she doesn't like how some of the kids act, but didn't say anything about my daughter.  I told her today after my daughter told me about the kiss, and her teacher said she was very glad I told her and that she was going to have a boundary / relationship-type talk with the kids as part of a sexual type health unit, and was going to pull the boy aside separately and talk to him about how it's not appropriate to kiss other kids on the lips.\n\nI'm just not sure if I'm handling or responding to this in the right way.  I'm not outraged, but it does weird me out, but I also think it's cute at the same time.  \n\nDoes anyone have any experience with this kind of thing?  I apologize if this was too long and not to the point enough.", "summary": "My 5 year old daughter was kissed on the lips in school by a boy and I don't know how to properly address the situation."}
{"id": "t3_txz57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend moving in with craigslist rando dudes..cool right?", "post": "23/m I've been dating my girlfriend 22/f for about two years...she just got a great job on short notice and has to move away to start in 3 weeks.  The craigslist summer sublet search only turned up this option for her which is living with 2 guys (1 gay 1 straight) for a few months.  \n\nObviously I have a lot of trust in my girlfriend, we have done short-term long-distance before and it has been fine.  I have been planning to move back home (her job is in the same city I'm from) for a while but for now we are long-distance indefinitely.\n\nThe situation is only for a few months while she finds another place (with a girl she knows already) and I know she probably would have taken another option if she had one.  For some reason it still bothers me and I think it mainly stems from my distrust of other guys intentions in general.\n\nI am not going to make a big deal about it with her because that can only make it worse.  What's done is done, but am i out of line to let it bother me?", "summary": "My girlfriend is moving into an apartment with random guys from Craigslist, should that bother me?"}
{"id": "t3_11gflo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what events do you believe changed your life?", "post": "Not too long ago, I lived in Alaska. I loved to snowboard, so I would take a couple friends, and we would drive our snowmachines up mountains and snowboard/ski down. One day, while up in the mountains, I decided to take a little roundabout way down. After some beautiful powder snow, i was pretty confident. Picking up speed, I proceeded to go of the edge of a cliff that I had not noticed before. Half way down, my head slams into the side of the cliff, and I black out. I wake up a couple seconds later in a giant pile of snow. I had fallen at least 100 feet into a deep pile of powder snow, and my helmet had saved my life again. Everything was spinning, and I felt like shit. Just as I think it can't get worse, I see a fucking wolf. I don't know if it was a hallucination, but at the time it looked pretty real. I was getting ready to get eaten. It walks past me, looks at me, and just walks away over a small hill. Luckily, some other people had seen my insane fall, and had driven over to me. I was so disoriented, I asked the girl who found me if she was an angel and would she go out with me. 15 minutes later I am sitting in a car next to that girl apologizing about what I had said. As my friends come to get me, she gives me her number and says that I am on for that date. We were together for over a year until I had to leave. Nobody saw the wolf though, but after that I always respected nature more.", "summary": "fall off cliff, bond with nature, get girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_nvz93", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[HELP] Want to become fit and stop the depression", "post": "* Hi /r/loseit, I'm making this post as motivation for myself to start the path to losing weight. I'm a male, 18 years old, 5ft 7in, and weighing in at about 180lbs now. I have always been a little overweight, recently varying around the 160-170lb mark. In the summer of '10, I began to lose weight from around the mid to high 160's and got down to around the mid 150's. That didn't last too long as I began to go off that course and back into the mid to high 160's, occasionally low 170's for brief periods of time, until I would start watching my weight again. I fluctuated around this weight for a long time, and even up until recently, as recently as mid November, I was in the 160's. The plan was to start losing the weight, and finally go into the goal weight zone I was hoping for.\n* Things somehow soon went downhill, with a combination of incredible amounts of stress, and finding relief in partying and eating as much as possible. As I reach the tipping point of 180lbs, I just continually slip into depression about my weight and lose self confidence, which was already lacking before, which just adds on top of the incredible amounts of depression and stress I have about other things. I know that 180lbs isn't exactly a huge overweight mark or life threatening, but at this point, it's one of those things that's adding to a huge pile of depression, so I just want to take a step to fix that.\n* All I really want is to start working out and get myself down to the goal of 145lbs, and fit. That's 35lbs, and gaining some muscle. I'm asking /r/loseit for just some support and tips, how to lose weight and gain some muscle. I'll start to put up some before pics soon. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Gained ~15-20lbs in a month in depression, want to make a change. Seeking advice and workout plans."}
{"id": "t3_3yc0qw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [20M] won't stop bringing up his exes.", "post": "My boyfriend of one year had an old high school friend over today and the conversation started off pretty normal (what classes are you taking, how'd you do on finals, etc.), but once the introductory part was over, my boyfriend started talking about his exes and what they were doing in college.\n\nNote: this high school friend didn't know them. My boyfriend does not keep in touch with him. I was right there, next to the two of them. \n\nMy boyfriend has a tendency to fixate on the past, and I can't help but feel like he's almost trying to brag that girls liked him. They have had NOTHING to do with us or him in years, but they still come up in conversation. We have discussed this issue and how he's handling things immaturely. I feel hurt and I don't know if this is normal or if I am allowed to feel hurt in this situation. I feel that it is one thing to bring up exes and another to bring them up when I have asked him many times not to. I have spoken extensively in the past with him about letting go of his exes and past hookups, especially since he is NC with all of them. Now, I feel like he'll never change and that he'll always be callous & immature, as this is exactly how he used to act when we first met (always bragging about attention he received from girls, and worse).", "summary": "Boyfriend continues to bring up past despite having no contact with exes. I feel hurt and his actions feel immature."}
{"id": "t3_2w9ts0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/f]I just discovered that my Bf [27/m] of 4 years has been lying this entire time", "post": "I have no Idea what to do or how to even bring it up to him. Im not sure if I can forgive this. I love him deeply, he is my best friend as well. However we built us on a foundation of honesty, or so I believed. Now im confused and my heart is heavy.  \n\nHe has a criminal history!, and it isn't a short one. In all honesty I don't care what he's done in the past. I don't judge as a rule, and the past doesn't define you but it is a part of who you are. \n\nI ran the background search for kicks, figured there's no way a website would no more about him than me. I found the website through a dear friend's blog. : mugshotsandrecords.weebly.com  \n\n The report was detailed and it conflicts with a lot of what he's told me. I figured the report was bogus, it had to be so I ran another one only to get the same results. He's broken my trust in him because this makes me wonder what else he's lied about?.  \n\nWhat do y'all think I should do? I love him, I really do but I don't tolerate lies. On the other hand he has told me that his past was rough, growing up in the foster system made it hard for him to open up to people.  Should I just wait? If so for how long?. \n\nPlease put yourself in my shoes, what would you do?.", "summary": "My BF lied about his past, should I confront him? or wait until he brings it up on his own?."}
{"id": "t3_h9t6n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I live with my mom and hasn't paid the rent for two months, and isn't returning my calls. What should I do?", "post": "I am 19 years old and live with only my mom. When I graduated high school I decided to live from home to save money while in school. This past year (2011) she has basically been living with her father in New Hampshire (I live in Mass), a combination of working and helping him out around the house. \n\nNow my mom and I have an odd relationship. We pretty much don't speak to one another unless necessary. So she would never inform when she would and would not be home. And besides going to see her once for a weekend, I have seen her a total of maybe a week this year. \n\nNow up till now I couldn't complain about my home life since I was living alone and in a nice apartment just outside of Boston. But things started to get weird in April. The landlord knocks on my door (He lives up stairs) and tells me that the rent check has bounced. I told him I had no idea what was going on, since I didn't, and said I would tell my mom immediately. I tell her and she says 'I'll take care of it.' So I lived my life. Right before May I speak with him again, and he tells me that he still hasn't gotten any check, and that I should tell my mom. I tell her that she needs to contact him asap. She replies 'Ok.' Then may comes around and I talk to the landlord again and he says that he hasn't heard anything from my mom in weeks and neither April nor may's rent were ever got paid.\n\nNow we are both being summoned to court for eviction and I haven't been able to get in contact with my mom. My cell phone bill also has not been paid so no luck there, and we don't have a home phone. I used gmail to call her but she isn't answering. I emailed her, and I've left messages, I've also called my grandfathers house and left messages but to no avail.\n\nI really just don't know what to do. any advice reddit?", "summary": "My mom hasn't paid rent and we are getting evicted. I have not been able to get in contact with her, and am clueless as to what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4xyk09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (45M) is worried wife (41F) (13y) is lying about lending money to her parents.", "post": "About 5-6 times my in-laws have asked to borrow money. I have not said no. I was told that they paid us back.\n\nI have looked at the last 2 years or so and found a document my wife made saying that my in-laws owe us $1300. And they have not paid that back. I have asked my wife how much they owe us. My wife said that they have paid us back everything they owe us, but if there was $1300 coming into our household it would be obvious. \n\nI looked at the other times they borrowed money and it also looks like they did not pay us back. They start to, but never pay the whole amount. These I am not as sure about. I am not so much great with money.\n\nI do not know what to think of dishonesty in a marriage. Her parents are not in dire financial need. I would not mind if they needed money to buy food. But that is not the case. They go on more vacations and go out to eat than my wife and I do. \n\nI care more that my wife is being dishonest with me than if my in-laws have not paid back any loans. I do not know what to say to my wife if I find out if she has been lying. I do not know what to say to my in-laws if they borrowed money and then just did not bother to try to pay it back for a more than a year.\n\nI am not good with money. My wife takes care of financial things. I have never had a second thought about any decisions she made before. I am worried this will make me question many more things.\n\nA marriage should be built on implicit trust. If that is not there, what chances does it have to surviving?\n\nShould I just talk to her parents and ask them to pay us back?\n\nI have not been as comfortable around them as I was when I first met them and this will very likely make me not enjoy spending time with them in the future.", "summary": "My In-Laws have not paid back loans they made to my wife and I. It will effect family events in the future. I worry about my marriage if there is dishonesty in it. Should I tell my wife that I think that she is being dishonest?"}
{"id": "t3_2n3io2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24f] having trouble seeing girls my bf of 9 months [25m] has been with in the past.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for 9 months and things are great - we rarely get into disagreements or fights but if we do they're resolved quickly and without any dramatics. \n\nThe only thing is he works as a bartender, and has been with almost every female bartender or waitress where he works - and I have been struggling with this for a while. I know that he is with me now, and is devoted to our relationship...but I can't shake the feeling I get when I'm in a room with girls he's been with, or when I know he's at work or somewhere with a bunch of girls he's hooked up with previously. He's introduced me to them, I see them regularly, I have to hang out with them sometimes. \n\nOn the flip side, my bf only knows one ex of mine and (unbeknownst to me at the time) they dislike each other - and my bf loves to bring up that I was with this other guy in the past. I feel like if the shoe were on the other foot and I were constantly around guys from my past he wouldn't like it so much either.\n\nI want to get over it, but I can't. We were invited to his friend's party today and I knew two girls my bf had hooked up with would be there - including his ex of 3 years. I told him I wouldn't go and he got upset. How do I get over this nagging issue and move on? I don't want to be petty or jealous or vindictive - but I'm not sure what the right way to deal with this problem is.\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "My bf and I are always around girls from his past, and I can't seem to get over my resentment. He doesn't see why I have a problem - and I don't know how to resolve it."}
{"id": "t3_1dh2bh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [21F] have a crush on a friend [27M] I have had for 5+ years.", "post": "Hi lovely people.\n\nSo I've always wondered 'what if' with this friend - he is incredibly good-looking, ambitious, active, intelligent, loves to read, loves to cook, loves to try new things, and is very considerate, sensitive and a brilliant listener. We have always had relationships going on during our friendship, and thus I had never stopped to genuinely consider him a possibility. He has been single from a 4 year relationship for around a year now. I have been single from a 1.5 year for a couple of months.\n\nI don't know how on earth to go about expressing my interest. He has always been a good friend and as a result he has heard about the multitude of relationship disasters I have had, including the times I shamefully cheated when I was very naive in my first relationships. I am fearful that he probably thinks I would be a disaster waiting to happen, because I never really showed myself in my best light during our friendship years - but at least I've always been honest. When we hang out though, and do things together, I feel we really bring out the best in each other.\n\nWe are going on what I consider to be a date in the next few weeks. We are both introverts, so I suggested rock-climbing, and it's a day before my birthday. I have an exam the day after my birthday, so this is effectively what I'm doing for it. I don't know if he considers this to be a date. I have never attempted to take a friend into dating territory; I have always just met a boy, and we've started dating. I am like a fish out of water. Can anybody share any similar experiences?", "summary": "Don't know how to express my interest to take a long-term friend out of the friend zone and get him thinking about us as a couple. Don't even know if he's in any way interested. Help appreciated x"}
{"id": "t3_2u3cbm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (24F) ask my high school friend (25M) out?", "post": "Im on mobile so Ill make this short. The guy in question is my high school friend so we've known each other for quite some time. Hes never had a gf and ive also never had a bf. Ive realized that i have a certain fear of commitment and relationships so ive always turned down any relationship stuff from guys. \n\nWell i made out with my hs friend like 6 months ago when i got super drunk and turns out that it was his first kiss ever (Hes in a heavily male dominated field/school). A week after he asked me to be his gf claiming that he loved me? But i didnt really believe it so i said no because i was partially in shock and partially because i dont think im good at being romantic. I told him straight up that I didnt have the confidence to be in a relationship with him and wanted to stay as friends. He was kind of surprised but agreed and we didnt see each other for a while until recently.\n\nWe met up a few times and we had a good time. Nothing romantic or anything but i dont know whats come over me because i keep thinking about him and i want to hang out with him continually. I dont know if i even like him as a boyfriend kind of guy but im debating just asking him out. Im afraid that im making a mistake and ill regret it later on and cause more disappointment for both of us. Im also afraid that he will get pissed since i turned him down first. So im asking for really honest opinions. Should i ask him out...? Ill probably delete this in the morning but thanks", "summary": "he asked me to be his gf. I turned him down. Now should i ask?"}
{"id": "t3_wkda7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A fellow intern got nearly x2 the amount of money as I did, what happened?", "post": "there are 10 high school students in my area doing an internship at a local univeristy. Im 99% sure we are funded under this:  grant. \n\nToday, I got $2500 in the mail. According to the link above, I got the expected amount. On the other hand, one of my fellow interns got the \"economic need\" max amound. $4000. He told me that he does not qualify for economic need. No one filled out any paperwork or answered any questions pertaining to their economic status. What happened? How does the univeristy or the grant applicant even determine our economic standing without asking us?\n\nWe are worried that one of the 10 interns who actually qualifies for the $4000 did not receive his or her proper amount. Is this even possible? the check was addressed to each of our names and addresses from the hosting university.\n\nFurthermore, the pdf about the grant states that each intern should be paid in 2 installments. I got a single check. I'm guessing that means the 2 installments deal is a guideline?\n\nThanks for helping me out reddit. I've been a silent reader for nearly a year now and I don't know any other place to ask. clear things up for me a bit.", "summary": "Fellow intern got the \"economic need\" stipend when he does not qualify for economic need. We gave no information about our economic status. What happened?"}
{"id": "t3_2cs1pk", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Interviewing for over a month for a position I just learned (during my f2f interview on Monday) had already been filled. They said they couldn't decide between our candidacies so they're looking to hire us both.", "post": "This is my first post, so I apologize if this has already been touched on. I couldn't find a similar post so here goes:\n\nI was recruited for and have been interviewing for a position for about a month. They seemed highly enthusiastic, I made myself extremely available for interviews so that they all happened in relatively rapid succession in mid July and they asked that I come in for a face to face. The job is in the Netherlands (I live in the UK) so I bought a ticket to meet the first week of August. \n\nThe interview went great. I met everyone in the small company, we got along famously... and then they mentioned that one of the guys I had just met had been hired a few weeks before and technically filled the position I had been interviewing for BUT that they had been unable to choose between the two candidacies so they were looking to hire us both.\n\nI don't know what to make of this situation. How did this guy get hired so quickly? Does this mean I will be considered expendable if the company realizes an extra person is unnecessary? Most importantly, should I email the interviewer and vocalize my concerns? If so, how should I phrase it?\n\nIt's worth noting that at the start of all this, they emphasized that they needed someone who spoke French (this guy doesn't, but I do) and that they were interested in branching out into social media if I would be interested in taking on the challenge (but in the f2f interview, I was told there was already someone who did that and \"maybe I could help him\"). I don't have loads of experience in the working world yet and I tend to just be grateful someone wants to hire me, but now I'm afraid I'm being scammed or led on (or maybe I'm just overthinking it and being excessively paranoid)...", "summary": "Interviewing for a position that I found out in my face to face interview had already been filled but they want to hire me too. I am concerned I will be expendable. Also noticed other inconsistencies with the job responsibilities."}
{"id": "t3_pw77p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I was a bitch, but I'm actually not sure - advice?", "post": "So I'm a 22 yo female, recently started a relationship with a boy (21) a little less than 2 months ago. Thing is, he was in a (long term) relationship right up until we started dating, and while things had been on the decline for him, we found ourselves moving pretty quickly once he had broken up with his girlfriend.\n\nThe two of them had had a mutual friend base, who I had recently grown to know and enjoy (before starting to date said boy) - I had (until tonight) never seen her with that crowd before.\n\nOk - so here's where I think I have acted like a bitch. There was a club social event which I had attended the previous semester, and I wanted to go again. I knew a lot of the mutual friends in this situation would be there. Boy would not go because he knew his ex would be there. I went anyway. \n\nWas that a bitchy thing for me to have done? Should I have (and should I in the future) avoid gatherings where I know she will be? I don't want to start drama or hurt her feelings or anything, but I also don't want to feel like I can't go places because of an unsaid (but understood) social tension between us.\n\nIt was awkward the whole time, and I didn't talk to a lot of people I would have because she was there and talking with them. What do I do? How do I handle this situation? Should I just back off, or try to act like it's not a huge deal and see if things can smooth over?  Should I tell a mutual friend (to tell her) I feel bad and won't do it again? Help!", "summary": "Went to an event knowing boyfriend's ex would be there. Was this bitchy?"}
{"id": "t3_2jojbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have a difficult time expressing emotions with my bf [23M]", "post": "We have been together for over four years, and our relationship has been going steadily downhill for the last year. No matter how much I bring this up with him, I receive no emotional support from him and no physical interaction other than when he wants sex. I feel like he just uses me for sex. I have a job that requires a lot out of me emotionally (mental health case manager), and he gets mad at me when I come home from work and just want to sleep. I don't want to do much during the weekend because I am exhausted from my 45 hour work week, and this infuriates him as well, as he wants to go on a day trip every weekend. I have a difficult time explaining my emotions out-loud and I feel that this is part of the reason why he doesn't take me seriously. We just got into a huge fight where he called me all kinds of names and said that I'm a cold b**** for not being able to verbalize what I'm feeling. Does anyone else have difficulty expressing how they are feeling with their partner? How do you get past it in your relationship?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_25nn38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my (m22) girlfriend (f22) cheating on me?", "post": "We met by her trying to kiss me outside a bar while her bf at the time was inside.  I would see her there once a week for about two months prior and we always locked eyes and had some sexual tension but I pushed her away when she tried to kiss me because I'm against cheating firmly.  She swears that was the only time she tried to cheat, and chalks it up to it being meant to be with us.  We've been together just over two months and this is my first real relationship in terms of intimacy.  I've caught her in three lies already.  There was no reason to lie about the things she did but decided to anyway.  I've also watched her lie to a good friend of hers.  She is very untrusting of me and has gone through all of my texts and fb messages to see who I talk to.  Yet she deletes everything out of her phone so, even if I wanted to which I don't, I cannot do the same.  The other night when she thought I was sleeping and rolled over she hurried up to close out what's on her phone.  When I was 90% sure I saw her walking around town with some guy, I  asked where she was.  She said at home, so I asked to come see her.  She replied no because she'd have to let her parents know in advance.  This was at 9pm but the last time I was over, us coming back from a bar at 2am, that wasn't an issue.  She has an answer for everything I question her on and if I question further she goes more in to depth with details that make me feel bad for asking. (If true that is).  \n\nThere are many great things about our relationship, which keeps me around.  I fear that if I end things and am just being overly cautious and nothing is going on, I will regret it deeply.  The uncertainty is killing me and at this point I would be happier if I could catch her cheating.  At least I'd have an answer.\n\nI could go on and on about other qualities of hers that make me not want to trust her, but I feel this post is long enough already.", "summary": "gf has history of  untrustworthy actions, should I be more worried than I already am?"}
{"id": "t3_3lr6lw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can two corporations/company exist with the same name? ( Concerns in legal embroideries )", "post": "I have recently started some research about establishing a small company. I'd like to produce apparel. I was wondering if two companies with the same name co-exist. When I am talking about company name, I do not mean a company's name in paper, but rather what I can embroider on my products. \n\n1.  For example,can  a company, which makes clothing co-exists with another company, while both companies have the same name.\n\n2. A company (one) which produces apparel which does not compare to the other company (two).  one produces bags, gloves, jackets. two produces  summer items such as shirts, polos, and shorts.\n\nTo my knowledge the company that was created first, and is financially strong can claim a dispute with the new company that has been established. What is the name was the same, but logos different? Would it matter? When I mean company name, I do not mean a holding company, but rather what is embroidered into the products. \n\n  This is a vague example, but can I embroider the name \"THUNDER\" and picture : just as how polo embroiders their player and horse with name. Furthermore another company has the word \"THUNDER\" embroidered, but with a different picture. Can I legally do that? \n\nThere is quite a difference between polo and polo assn. The horse, the players and the name. Although it does somewhat relate to what I am facing. \"POLO\" is in both shirts, but both are for different companies. \nPOLO VS POLO ASSN", "summary": "Is it legal for me to create  a create a shirt with the same word as another company. This word is different in font and  is a different picture, but the word represents the company."}
{"id": "t3_2gmqma", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I like my friend but she's in a long term relationship with someone twice her age..", "post": "There's not much advice anyone can give me but I wanted to rant, I guess. I'm not going to be that guy and try to ruin their relationship by confessing my feelings or anything, but it really bums me out because I feel like the guy is using her. \n\nI met Claire about four years ago in high school, and we pretty much have been best friends since then. She had a boyfriend each time I wanted to ask her out, so I never got the chance to make a move. She has told me I was cute and she would date me if she were single, but that scenario never occurred because timing and such. \n\nFast forward and Claire meets this guy, John, who is like 42 years old. I was kinda surprised, but I didn't really judge her. Who I'm judging is John because I feel like it's kinda weird to date someone so young, but that's just me. He also has a kid close to our age. Anyway, she talks to me about him a lot and about their issues, and I think he's using her for sex. She wants to marry him, but he doesn't seem like he'll ever pop the question. She tells me how he chooses to ignore her a lot (he won't reply to her texts or return phone calls), throws temper tantrums, and hangs out with women Claire isn't comfortable with him being around, etc. They've been together for 2 years.\n\nI don't know. It sucks because she's like that one person I relate to the most. She just happens to be with someone else. I've dated girls, and I'm not waiting for Claire, but I still think of her. I just wish I could have a chance. That's life though, right?", "summary": "my friend is with a guy twice her age, and I feel like he's just using her. Just felt like ranting about how I'll never get a chance with her."}
{"id": "t3_3qj39g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my (21f) friend (20f) of about a year has aspergers.", "post": "Throwaway because I don't want this to go to the wrong people. \n\nSo I have a friend that was always kind of weird. I didn't start noticing it until we started having more one on one time that she fits into every description I read on the internet about aspergers. I'm not sure if it's diagnosed, but I doubt that she is. We go to school in a place where she's not really out of place, but I feel like in the long run this will affect her when she starts pursuing a career. \n\nHow should I go about this? Should I try to get involved and tell her parents to try and check? Should I let it be?", "summary": "should I get involved in trying to get her diagnosed?"}
{"id": "t3_13j24d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst situation you've been in over which you've had no control? I'll start.", "post": "During my Freshman year of college, I was rooming with a guy who I kind of knew before school (we'll call him Joe), and our roommateship mostly worked out (no longer roomies because of a money dispute) for the best. His girlfriend (we'll call her Victoria) was coming to town and he asked if I and my girlfriend wanted to go on a date. Now, I didn't like Victoria at all and I wasn't feeling that great either, but I agreed to go because Joe didn't normally ask those things, and I thought it could be fun.\n\nCue normal double date things, like the mall, restaurant, etc. While we're at the restaurant (Steak and Shake ftw), I offhandedly said an inside joke to Joe, and his girlfriend starts getting prissy about it. They're almost sarcastically fighting while we're eating dinner, and it's obvious. I'm sweating bullets and my girlfriend feels just as awkward. When we head back to school, Victoria (who was driving) continues to yell at Joe. It gets really weird for my girlfriend and me, and I am feeling progressively more ill, on the side of diarrheal explosion.\n\nIt really only gets worse from here. While we were driving up a hill, Victoria's car stalls and she has to pull off to the side of the road. I don't go to school in the best neighborhood ever, and it's about 11:30pm (23:30). Joe and Victoria both get out of the car and start screaming at each other on the side of the road. My girlfriend is crying on me because they're mad at each other, and my bowels are knocking on my metaphorical anal door like a Jehovah's witness.\n\nVery very fortunately, I held it, but I swear, their 5 minute shoutfest lasted 11 hours for me.", "summary": "Out with my roommate, his date and my date. Next, I'm in the back seat of a car, filled with feces, smothered in tears and people are shouting."}
{"id": "t3_3tjmqg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by crossing the road", "post": "This happened yesterday before my final written exam for the semester. I hopped off the bus a few streets away from Melbourne University in the adjacent restaurant / cafe district so I could get a coffee on my way to the exam venue. I was pre-exam anxious and oblivious to my surroundings as I stuffed my bus pass in my backpack while striding purposefully across the road. I was concentrating on the road traffic, not realising that I was striding straight toward the open rear of an armoured bank truck that was being unloaded with my backpack slung across my chest. Its only been a week since Paris happened so every uniform with a gun has been edgy in this city, hot on the lookout for a young bearded guy walking quickly toward them with a suspicious looking backpack. It wasn't until thick necked military arm tattoo buzz cut wearing guard 1 had his gun unclipped and alerted guard 2 of my presence that I actually looked up and realised what was going on. With a week of late night study sessions and fitful sleep , I wasn't in the best frame of mind for dealing with a realisation that I was about to be shot - I panicked and ran. In retrospect probably not the smartest move in case one of those dudes had an itchy trigger finger, but I wasn't gonna stick around on exam day to find out.", "summary": "crossed the road in a potentially threatening way in front of an armed guard almost got a face full of gun barrel"}
{"id": "t3_1c6lia", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How I fight hunger cravings.", "post": "Aside from the standard stuff I've seen around here, like drinking water or filling up on really dense/low calorie food, I've realized a method that works for me to avoid feeling hunger pangs.\n\nI noticed that during the week, when I'm watching TV or browsing reddit, I tend to get hungrier more often. I just want to eat when I know I shouldn't. But on the weekends I eat less than I usually do and don't seem to get hungry. I still browse the internet and watch TV probably a similar amount, but it's when I have free time and when I also do something else: play videogames.\n\nSomething about focusing or getting entirely absorbed in a good game somehow gets me through a whole day, almost forgetting to eat. I've experienced the same thing when reading or writing something, anything that gets me to focus all of my attention on it.", "summary": "buy and play/read/enjoy good game/book/hobby (mine was Bioshock), forget you're hungry."}
{"id": "t3_17bh4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M19] and a friend [F19] want to be FWB.", "post": "we have been friends for about four years. we are both nineteen, and want to be friends with benefits. however, we both know the other would be interested thanks to some manipulation by a mutual friend. it has never been brought up between us, our mutual friend sort of wheeled and dealed the whole thing without telling us she was. we have been friends through high school, but have never spent time with each other one-on-one. since its thanks to our friend i know we'd both be interested, and weve never talked about it, how do i bring it up?", "summary": "how do i smoothly bring up \"friends with benefits\" to a friend i know would?"}
{"id": "t3_myfic", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is causing our apartment to smell like shit.  How should I address this issue?", "post": "I'm a graduate student and after spending the previous year in my apartment with another (great roommate), I decided to roll the dice with the \"roommate match\" program that my apartment complex provides.  I figured, \"How bad can it be?\"  \n\nThey partnered me with a much younger undergraduate who has no concept of personal space or maturity.  Everyday he leaves open containers of food and dishes lying around the apartment.  This (in addition to my suspicions that he goes extended periods of time between showers and smokes a lot) has led to our apartment smelling awful.  I've tried adressing this with him directly to clean up, etc. but it has not changed anything.  Its gotten to be embarrassing to have friends over.\n\nFor a while, I was just opening windows and doors to clear out the odor; but now that the weather is getting colder, that is not really an option.  I've tried scented plug-ins/febreeze canisters but it is either overpoweringly scented or you get the weird mixture of nastiness and scented candles.\n\nIdeas/Suggestions? Please help.  I'm desperate.", "summary": "Our apartment smells terrible, how can I get rid of the odor?"}
{"id": "t3_1jgp6e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one thing your parents accidentally taught you that was useful in your life?", "post": "I have a fond memory of my mother losing her shit and accusing me of smoking pot.  When I asked her wtf, she told me she found my roach clip.  I didn't even know what that was, but my mother in her rage explained exactly what it was, thinking I was playing stupid.\n\nI proceeded to explain to her that the clip she was holding was part of an electrostatic discharge kit I had for working on my PC.  It was a little clip that would attach to the computer and let you ground yourself to the chassis.\n\nThis memory is fond to me 12 years later, because I had a roach left here from last night, and I immediately went to my electronics kit.", "summary": "Mom taught me another tool for getting high."}
{"id": "t3_1qwtrp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Mother-in-law built an extension on her business and now the owner of the property is trying to steal it!!! Any advice?", "post": "So my Mother-in-law (who lives in Guatemala) owns a chain of bakeries.  A few years ago, she decided that she would build an extension on her main bakery.  In doing so, her property would spill into a neighboring lot (which was empty).  The owner of that lot is (was) a family friend (they had a verbal agreement. I know, big mistake).  The agreement was that she would pay rent (roughly 750 U.S. a month) while the extension was being built and at the end, she would give him roughly 500,000 U.S. to purchase the land.  Well, recently the extension was finished and this guy decides that, no, he will not be selling her the land and that in fact, he would be raising the rent 3X to 2,300 U.S. per month.  On top of that, he has stated that he is planning on renting the building out to a bank.  Obviously, my mother-in-law is sick with anxiety over this issue.  Is there way that what he's doing is legal (even in a country like Guatemala)?  Does anyone have any advice that I can give her to help her out?", "summary": "Mother-in-law built extension on her business on land she did not own under the impression that she would buy it when it was completed.  When finished, property owner decides to triple rent until he finds a bank to rent the building out to."}
{"id": "t3_18z9d5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (25/m) can't seem to lose my insecurities and want to break up with her (23/f)", "post": "I have had a relationship of 4 years prior to this one of 2 years. I was very controlling in that relationship. I didn't want her to have friends, use social media, do things I disliked, she needed to live her life for me. If she didn't I would become very insecure. After two years I went to a psychologist and worked with CBT. It did help for a while but the relationship ended because the lack of control made me sick and unhappy.\n\nI was single for two years. Everything went great and I felt like a new man. I met a girl that I am currently dating for 2 years. The more time I spend with her, the more insecure I get. I want and need to control her but I don't. She can do whatever she wants, even though I feel bad about it. I have never looked at her Facebook, her phone or anything else that's private. I try to ignore and 'run' from it as much as possible. \n\nBut as the days go by I feel more irritable, nervous, sick, insecure and jealous. It's like I rather break-up with her so that these feelings will stop. I don't even know if I'll ever be relationshipmaterial. I don't feel talking to a psychologist again will help. I have no idea what I can do about my situation.", "summary": "I feel very insecure, sick when I can't control my girlfriends life. I want to end it so she won't have to deal with me and I don't have to deal with these negative feelings. I don't think I'll ever be good relationshipmaterial. This is the second relationship that this is happening. I talked about it with a psychologist, but it doesn't seem to work in the long run."}
{"id": "t3_101kja", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm being harassed over the phone by collectors looking for someone who's not me. What do I do?", "post": "Reddit, for months now I have received calls from different companies looking for a \"Kimberly Doyle,\" I have no idea who this woman is. I am a 19 year old male. These are all loan companies, and I get the impression that they are the kind of shady loan companies that appear in pop up ads. The only name I can recall is \"Bill Me Later\" or something like that. \n\nAt first, it would be a call a week. Lately, I've been getting upwards of 15 calls a day, all from different companies, asking me for Kimberly Doyle. Clearly she is signing up for loans and putting my number down. I thought it was funny at first, but now it's extremely frustrating and I feel like I'm being harassed. I have NO IDEA what to do here though! Call the police? Is there a way to make this stop?\n\nI tell every company that calls that I want to be taken off the call list, but many just keep calling, or if they don't there's always a new company that springs up and calls. I can't understand what any of the companies are anymore, most of the callers don't speak English well.", "summary": "Shady loan companies are calling me 15 times a day thinking I'm someone I'm not, how do I make this stop?"}
{"id": "t3_sloba", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you be able to live with a 7 year old kid when you were in university?", "post": "I am a 20 year old female currently finishing my second year of university. I live in a 3 bedroom house with my sister and a married couple (friends of hers). We share the entire house. It is not working out well with the couple and we are trying to think of alternatives. My sister's boyfriend (serious relationship) is one option as a possible new room mate. The catch is that he has a 7 year old son. I know the house would be a much happier place with the couple gone, but I'm very trepidatious about living with a child while I'm in university. I hold odd hours, come home stumbling drunk, and occasionally have guys over. I would move into the basement room and be far away enough from the child that I wouldn't be disturbing him, but I'm worried about him disturbing me. I like my space sometimes and need to be able to study without being disturbed. \n\nDo you think this would work? Should I give the green light on them moving in? What is it like living with a child?", "summary": "20/F. Should I let my sister's boyfriend and 7 year old son move in with us?"}
{"id": "t3_1cyp7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Birthday Etiquette: Celebrating my 30th birthday big on another friend's birthday, he wants to bring people and jump on the train last minute after all the work was done already.", "post": "*Solved - Just spoke with Bertram and told him that due to setting up I can't come to his event. Then went on and mentioned how much time and effort Albert and I put into this, yadayada. He then said he's looking forward to coming after his dinner and together with his friends... So I said simply that due to the limited space in the location we booked and insurance reasons, I'd appreciate if he wouldn't bring the whole crowd of his event, especially strangers, to our party. He said that he'd be happy to pay a part of the location cost but I repeated that there isn't enough space. So as a compromise I said that if he still wanted to come, he'd be a \"VIP\" and could bring 5 people as opposed to everyone else who can only bring a date. He said he'd think about it but let it be known that he might not be coming then at all. So he still didn't get the whole idea of me not wanting him to hogg the party for his own purposes but at least he now knows he can't just turn up there with 15 of his friends and think we created the event for him.*\n\n*Thanks for you help!*\n\nAges: Albert 30, Me 30, Betram 33\nLenght of relationship: Albert 1 year, Bertram 6 years.", "summary": "How do I tell my friend on whose birthday I'm celebrating my long planned 30th birthday, politely that he can't jump on the bandwagon last minute?"}
{"id": "t3_16wmsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25M] deter the advances of my landlord/roommate [29F]?", "post": "So I just relocated to a new town (less than a month) and found this place to live on clist. The homeowner lives here and she's nice and all but not really my taste. She's been really nice by inviting me out all the time since I don't know anyone here which has been great, but the last few days she's been pushing herself on me at the bar and getting a little more cuddly than roommates at the house. I've been playing it off like its no big deal, just a friendly person, but I know she has other ideas. What do I do so it doesn't get to the point where I have to move out just because I'm not interested.", "summary": "my landlord/roommate is interested and I'm not"}
{"id": "t3_hzk17", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Reddit, have you ever had to give up a pet?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nSo a little background:  I have a parrotlet named Cielo and I've had him since he was 5 weeks old.  He's 11 months old now, and recently started talking and can say, \"Kisses!\", \"Step up!\", and \"Hey, bird!\".\n\nIt goes without saying that we share a special bond;  I love my little guy!\n\nThe trouble is, however, I'm a recent college graduate.  I haven't been able to find any jobs or internships in the area and plan on moving wherever I find one.  It'd be difficult to take little Cielo with me because it's at least $100 to fly him with me one way, don't have a car, and plan on moving wherever I can find a job.  And there, the worry is whether I can find a place that would allow pets.\n\nHaving him during the year was a bit difficult, too, and I often gave up precious study time to come home and take him out of the cage to play.\n\nI feel like at this life stage, I'm not exactly ready to have a pet.  I feel that I *should* give him to a family so that he could have a more stable life (not that I don't take great care of him!) and also \n\nBut at the same time, I feel that I know him best and would love him best (cliche, I know).  He's also bonded to me, so I'm wondering how it would affect him.\n\nIn an ideal situation, I could find a fellow bird-lover who's experienced with parrots and is willing to take another bird under his wing.  So far, I've had no luck finding anyone :(\n\nSo what should I do, Reddit?  To be completely honest, I don't feel as though I have the time to devote to a pet and would love to find him a happy new home.  I think I'd just have trouble letting go and believing that others would take care of him as well as I did.\n\nWhat's your opinion of the situation?  Have you ever had any similar experiences?", "summary": "Life circumstances are giving me doubts about my ability to keep my bird.  What should I do?  What are your opinions/experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_pt7uk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel no love towards my brother. Is this OK?", "post": "First; don't interpret this as I hate him. I do not - don't even go there. I just mean that I don't 'love' him in the sense that one would love a family member. Would I be right in saying that [agape] is the correct term for this sort of love?\n\n**Some background:** I'm 20, he's 14 months older. I am quiet and reserved - your typical introvert (not the shy sort, I just keep things to myself). He is your typical over-the-top extravert. As such, our personalities are utterly and completely different; and it frustrates me, because who he is, is the sort of person I *don't* want to associate with. Loud, over-talkative, immature, disrespectful of personal space and privacy (at least that's my impression of him; but we have a lot of history.) We have pretty much nothing in common. No similar musical taste, different beliefs (he's christian, I'm atheist, but that's not the issue), different way of seeing the world, and different opinions on other things.\n\nA lot has happened, and I have come to the conclusion that we are just two very different people, and we just cannot be close. We can be neutral, as we are currently, but we cannot have a close, brotherly relationship. Don't get me wrong; if he was kicked out of his home and had no where to stay, I would not turn him down, or if he was really in trouble and I was the only one to help, I would - I know my duties. But what I am wanting to ask you, Reddit, is this: \n\n*I don't love my brother.* ***Is this OK?*** Or am I a heartless bastard with nothing to live for?\n\nThanks in advance. :)", "summary": "I feel no love towards my brother. I am completely neutral towards him. Is this OK?"}
{"id": "t3_3twyya", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I am a compulsive nail trimmer?", "post": "From the few results I got from google, some people are self mutilating their fingers with trimmers, which was able to make me feel more relieved, since I am not that bad. But I feel it's almost becoming a problem. I have finger nail trimmers and toe nail trimmers on my desk and I feel a compulsive urge to trim my nails. If I miss a spot on my hand and a tiny, tiny bit is sticking out on one side of my thumb it drives me crazy for the rest of my day and I pick and bit at it unless I'm in a public area. My toe nail trimming has also caused me trouble, since I have to be really careful on my big toe, sometimes I get careless and I end up with a nasty ingrown toenail.\n\nIt feels like a really compulsive urge and I can't just put them in a drawer or cupboard since I just get it later to trim again. I don't think it's causing serious trouble now, but I feel like it could get worse down the road. I feel like it's already become a habit.\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "I have a compulsive urge to trim my nails and I'm nervous it could cause trouble later."}
{"id": "t3_35ykzu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M 51] wife [F 52] shuts down any time we argue.", "post": "We've been married 22 years and we rarely fight. However, when we *do* fight--big or small--she always shuts down. What typically happens is that I say or do something she doesn't like and she just stops talking and paying attention to me. When I try to engage her in a discussion of whatever issue we're having, she denies she's upset or she completely focuses on how I made her feel rather than whether what I said was fair and accurate. As a result, we never deal with my issues. This is extremely frustrating for me and it often brings up a lot other things I don't like about her and the relationship. With us, small disagreements can turn into a big deal because of the way she chooses suppress them and give me the cold shoulder. To be clear, I'm never mean or verbally abusive to her. I calmly try to explain my perspective, what made me say what I said, how I feel, etc. but she refuses to offer her side, challenge my perception of things, or otherwise try work toward any type mutual understanding. She'd just rather have a cold war for few days, blame me for making her feel bad, and then let it blow over. Why does she do this? How can I get her to engage so that I can feel like I've been heard and I can move on rather than feel mounting dissatisfaction with other aspects of our marriage?", "summary": "Wife shuts down during arguments which is causing even bigger issues for me."}
{"id": "t3_4faugd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23f] am jealous of my bf [22m] ex girlfriend.", "post": "So I found a lost photo on his laptop, curiosity caught on and I set myself to be hurt.\n\nWith a bit of detective work, I found her facebook, and to be honest. She is cute, like really cute and pretty, and now I am jealous. \n\nMy heart sank when of course she was Asian, but again my bf is half Asian himself so I guess it was unavoidable.\n\nI know I deserve this but I just can't stop thinking about it. We have dated for about 5 months and he is a fantastic guy, sweet, patient and calm and what also accelerates my jealousy is that his ex also got this treatment most likely and I don't feel \"special\" any more. \n\nBut god damn, I feel low when I see how cute she is. She has got that \"stare\", the cute face structure whatever.\n\nI know its petty but please give me some tough love, feel like a bloody downgrade :(", "summary": "found my boyfriends ex photo, found her facebook, she cute, me jealous, need a reality slap."}
{"id": "t3_14gurg", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Petty revenge on classmates in high school", "post": "So years ago when I was in grade 10 of high school, I had a group project to work on with 3 other classmates. We were supposed to do a book report presentation as a group. Well, being known for being a procrastinator, I was given the lightest load of work; pick out 20 words that you didn't know in the book and find out their meaning. There was some other criteria for those words, but I can't remember. In any case, I emailed the words to the \"group leader\", a girl we'll call Amy. Nothing happens, everything seems all right, until the day before the presentation. Amy claims I sent her incomplete work. As I had a bad reputation for getting work done, nobody questioned her when I said she made it up. The teacher however, was so impressed with my knowledge of the book (a prayer for owen meany), that she knew something was up. I explained my end of things, and showed her the email where I sent said words. The teacher decided that Amy had it out for me, so she worked out a deal with me. I would be graded based upon my knowledge with the book. I ended up getting a B- on the project, but I was to tell my group I failed. So after the presentation of said project, I told my group that I had failed. As for their marks? My group got c's (varying), because of a poor understanding of the book. My revenge was petty and unknown, but satisfying.", "summary": "Book group member in high school tries to screw me over, and I end up getting a better grade than my group."}
{"id": "t3_3x2zun", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Currently off work but want to go to Office Party - boss not being helpful in aiding my return to work prior to the party. Should I still go?", "post": "Throwaway because you never know who is on reddit.\n\nSo basically, I've been signed off work by my GP due to stress from work as a result of bullying and harassment in the workplace by a colleague. I'm currently in correspondence with my line manager about how to resolve the situation informally (rather than going through formal grievance procedures) but they seem to be dragging their feet and taking forever to reply to each email (I could ring, but I'm keen to get everything documented in writing in case there are any future incidents).\n\nAnyway, I am really eager to get back to work as I've been off for a week and a half now, but am refusing to go back in on health and safety grounds until measures are put in place to ensure my safe working environment prior to my return. So, I've basically told my line manager that I feel ready and able to return to work as soon as they can provide written assurances that the situation will be dealt with appropriately to ensure the bullying and harassment stops. However, they seem to be pussyfooting around the issue and aren't giving me direct answers no matter how direct I am in asking for them.\n\nI don't feel the situation will be dealt with before the week is out, despite my best efforts to return to work and assurances that I am ready and willing to do so, and the office party is on Friday, which I have been looking forward to for months, and was generally really excited for.\n\nSo, do you all think it would look really bad if I went to the office party, despite not returning to work in the week if the situation is not resolved? My gut feeling is that I shouldn't go, as it won't reflect on me terribly well, but then again, I have indicated I feel fit to return to work if they hurry up and resolve the matter.\n\nI hope the above makes sense!", "summary": "Off work due to stress, feel ready to go back to work but boss is dragging their feet to make it possible for me to return to work - will it look bad if I go to the office party before returning to work?"}
{"id": "t3_t5y3l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most bitter sweet thing you have done?", "post": "I was dating a girl for two and a half years. It was the middle of senior year in high school and we were pretty serious. She had confided in me with her self consciousness and her eating disorder which had developed during our relationship. I was always there to listen. I was always supportive. I loved her like she was the only girl in the world. She seemed self conscious about being in a relationship and I let her flirt with a guy or two from time to time just to try to help her feel better.(I promise you i wasn't being a sucker). \n\nIt all escalated when i stumbled upon her personal tumblr. I began to realize from the accounts she had written on there that although we had such a strong relationship and shared so many good times together she was still haunted by this lack of confidence even when she didn't show it. She mentioned possibly liking another boy but not as much as me. Obviously i was mad, but its not like she had done anything with this kid or was making me out to be a sucker, it was simply her feelings.\n\nAnyways, I decided I had to end our relationship so that she could try to be independent and gain confidence for once. I knew I couldn't just end things however because then she would feel more depressed about me being the one to end things. Thus, I decided to confront her about it so that it would kind of add a huge awkwardness to the relationship. Needless to say, it worked. Slowly she develop feelings for this other kid. Finally it got to the point where we \"mutually\" decided to part ways and although i had second thoughts about this plan many times it finally worked. We ended. It hurt a lot more than i thought it would especially since it was my kind of tacit plan from the beginning.\n\nI still think about her all the time, but after we ended she gained a lot of confidence from seeing new people and getting more attention at parties and her eating disorders have hence subsided. It's been tough to give up a relationship with someone I love for their own good but it makes me proud to know I helped her, even if she doesn't know it.", "summary": "Got my self conscious gf to like another guy so we could end things and she could gain confidence."}
{"id": "t3_2ux637", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Leaving it all behind. Can i do it?", "post": "Hey so something i always wanted to do was travel. Im turning 25 soon and havent been anywhere and am starting to feel really depressed like my life isnt going anywhere and if i continue i never will get to see the world. \n\nI feel bad because im helping with rent for my mom and ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years and expects us to move in and start getting really serious soon. As much as i want to i dont have the money for it and feel like i wont ever be happy until im well into my later thirties. \n\nAnyways with all that aside. I guess what really matters is if i can use a working visa while im still paying for student loans. I know you need a certain ammount of money in the bank for it and i am so mad i didnt know it was such a small amount for most places id like to visit. Honestly, my plan was to take a year off after graduation to work and then go to Australia. My grad gift was supposed to be the ticket to go but my mom wanted me to save up 5 grand and wouldnt let me use the money from my dads passing.  I had no idea working visas existed. Somehow i was swayed to go to school first and then travel (hah). It was fine for me to use all my savings for school but not a working vacation so i figured id do something i can do anywhere. Art. What a bad fucking decision that was. Anyways, 4 years later i went from a 15 grand and a car to -40k and nothing else. Ive gotten it down to -20k now but im still making large payments a month. The minimum i could pay per month is just shy of 200 so im wondering if that works against the money i need for a working visa.", "summary": "i owe about 20k and i need to spend 200 dollars a month for student loans. Average working visas require about 4k in the bank. I currently have 5k in savings and 2k in chequing. Will i be able to live and continue paying student loans in another country? Should i leave my family and girlfriend behind for my goals?"}
{"id": "t3_1ldh6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[40F] with my boyfriend? [43M] who stopped responding to texts or ten days and just resurfaced", "post": "So a week and a half ago, I texted the guy I had been seeing, who knew I was separated (for a year and a half) but not divorced that I was filing my divorce.  That was the last I heard from him until last night even though I got read receipts for the imessages I sent over the last week, which devolved over the week to an (insistent) request to get my stuff back from his place.  He suddenly resurfaced claiming lost phone, which was later found dead.  I am not sold on this excuse (read receipts!).  should I just let it go as a freak-out over my impending genuine singleness or make an issue out of the sketchiness of the excuse.  I have my own commitment issues at present, so forever isn't so much what I am looking for as right now  in any case.", "summary": "Sudden cut in communication ends with lost iPhone explanation but I saw read receipts."}
{"id": "t3_wehtt", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Question about knee pain at beginning of run", "post": "I've been runnning for about 6 months now, have done a few 5ks and two 10ks (30min 5s, and about 1hr 10a). I've never had much access to professionals or other knowledgeable runners so I've come to my fellow runners for assistance. My knees (more specifically left more so that right) hurts for about the first minuet or two of a run, as in when I am warming up. After a very short while it does go away (usually about a city block or two). It feel like mainly the tendon that sits on the kneecap in the front and runs to shin (Patellar Tendon), feels like its tight.\n\nMy question is, is this ok or normal? I don't feel overly concerned but then again I've never received proper or professional training tips so for all i know its a big issue. Any advice if its abnormal or dangerous?", "summary": "My Patellar Tendon is tight for first 2 blocks or minuets of my run, is this normal or ok? Or should I change up how I'm doing things?"}
{"id": "t3_38hffj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [25, F] tell my boss [40s, M] that I'm going to a job interview?", "post": "I'm not sure if this really falls into the category of a \"relationship\" question, so please point me in the right direction if necessary!\n\nI work for a very small company (there are 3 of us here; me, the owner, and his brother. Plus a couple of part timers who work from home). I've been here for just over a year. Due to some very poor investments made by my boss, the company is in pretty dire straits. I don't know how much longer we'll be around for.\n\nThis has been going on for a few months now so I decided to just see what else is out there, because I'm sure if/when we do close down, there won't be much notice. I found this fantastic job in a completely different industry that I think I'm much better suited for. It's something that I would apply for even if we weren't having financial issues here. \n\nI've already had two interviews (and I had to take a morning off this week for one of them), and they've called me back for the third and final interview next Wednesday at 11am. Which means I have to take some more time off. \n\nI guess I'm just trying to figure out what I should tell my boss. I could come up with another excuse, but seeing as I've already taken time off recently, I know it won't look very good. The problem with telling him now is that it would create such an awkward work environment if I don't get the job. Everyone else at this company is either related or old friends, and they all have a \"we'll go down with the ship\" mentality. They also all have other sources of income. If I don't get paid, I can't afford my rent. I need to protect myself, but I know they'll all treat me very differently if I'm honest about the interview. \n\nI'm currently leaning towards not telling him about the interview, but I'd really like some outside perspectives. Has anyone been in a situation like this before?", "summary": "I work for a very small company that is failing. I've been invited to a third and final interview at another company, however I'll have to take time off work to attend it, which I had to do for the previous interview as well. Do I tell my boss the real reason why I'm taking time off, or do I come up with another excuse?"}
{"id": "t3_3zzop5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am not sure if I want to break up with my girlfriend [20F] and I keep having second thoughts either way", "post": "I've been with my current girlfriend for a little over a year. The beginning of our relationship was great, we got along great, and we are both very similar people, if not in our interests, than in our values. The main problem is that she doesn't really have many interests or friends outside of me so I end up being her only source of entertainment, and I'm feeling smothered because she is always around me and my friends. Also, she is a different person than me in how she approaches situations, I'm very upbeat and she isn't. She likes to gossip about everyone and I don't. Also, I find her attractive physically, but certain things she does make me unattracted to her. Finally, she is my only serious relationship, and I feel like I'm missing out on dating so many other people and learning about people and continuing with my hobbies if I stay in a relationship I'm not completely happy with and often upset with.\n\nI've been thinking about distancing myself before I actually break up with her, to soften the blow, but I find myself still interested in her life. I see her as a very good friend and we get along very well, and I wouldn't want to lose her completely out of my life. However, some would say a relationship is built on a man and woman being best friends. I find myself getting tired of spending time with her frequently. The thing that scares me is that I am worried I will feel like that with every girl I date eventually because that is my personality. I enjoy time by myself and friendships are just the right amount of time to spend with other people. Obviously, relationships require more commitment, even if I still allow for \"me time\" like I already do now.\n\nI guess I am just worried about ending a relationship for the wrong reasons, and missing out on something good. Has anyone ran into these problems before?", "summary": "I get along with my girlfriend but things bother me about her, not sure if they're reason enough to break up"}
{"id": "t3_fpkae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I obligated to respond?", "post": "I was dating this girl very casually in November/December. She's 23, I'm 26. It kind of died off on its own, though since then we hooked up once, which was last weekend. \n\nIn the month or so between our 3 or 4 dates and the hook-up, she slept with her ex-boyfriend once, which is of course fine; I'm not interested in dating this girl, and after we hooked up last week I realized immediately that we wouldn't do it again. \n\nHere's the thing: she's been emailing me a lot, asking to hang out, etc. I've been politely saying I'm too busy (which happens to be true), hoping she'll get the hint. Then last night, she sends me an email where she's just *wasted*, talking about how her bday is on Thursday and the anniversary of her father's death was two days ago, and basically all this stuff that I would probably need to be with her there for if we were in any way dating. \n\nBut we're not. But she's clearly sad (according to this email at least), and going through some stuff. I don't want to just ignore her, but I don't want to get involved in a way that seems like I'm interested in her. And to be honest, and I don't mean to be a jerk, but I'm not really interested in being friends, either. I'm super busy with work and we both have separate groups of friends anyway. What do?", "summary": "Girl I went on some dates with sent me a drunk email about some shit she's going through. Don't want to be cold but don't want to give her the wrong idea."}
{"id": "t3_3539v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my bf [25 M] 9 months, am I in love with him?", "post": "My boyfriend is my favorite person in the world but I'm not sure if I love him as a friend or more.\n\nI never questioned this until recently when we got in a small fight because he felt like I'd been a little distant recently and that sometimes he feels that he loves me more than I love him. My first reaction was to assure him that this isn't the case but the more I think about it, the more I wonder if he's right. \n\nHe's one of the most amazing people I've ever met and I'm terrified of losing him but I don't want him to be in a relationship that he feels is imbalanced and uneven. Since our talk though, I'm no longer as confident when I tell him that I love him. \n\nI guess what I want to know is, is it normal for you to go through periods of time in which you're not sure about your true feelings towards your partner? Is it just a funk that I might snap out of in time? Am I just overthinking things?", "summary": "Is it normal to sometimes wonder if your boyfriend is actually just your best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_270lkf", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "How to convince my parents to let me get a kitten?", "post": "So last night I threw a party for my 18th birthday (the age of majority in my country) and few of my female friends have bought me a cute little kitten. But when I called my mother to tell her the great news she didn't respond so well to the idea of having a cat, and in the end she started yelling at me and making it clear that she doesn't want one in our home. So redditors I want to ask you how have you tricked your parents into letting you have a cat?\nSome relevant information would be that currently there are three of us (mom, stepdad and me) living in an apartment which have 100m/2 and that even if I am outgoing guy I have kinda changed my lifestyle in the last six months (because of diet and exhaustion after hitting gym) and I am no more going out as I have used to. Also as there is summer coming in our way I would be able to be with the kitten almost whole day so that would also be a big plus I guess.\nAnd if you guys are wondering where is the kitten now, she is at my dad's house but she won't be able to be there much longer because of a doberman that my father has.", "summary": "As title says. Also a"}
{"id": "t3_34ddes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M21] caring less and less about the status of my relationship with my gf[F18], because she wants me to base my life around her", "post": "We've been dating for over a year, been friends for nearly 6. She's saying I take advantage of her. I get why. I've been kind of a dick when it comes to some things. I don't like taking her to my family events and don't like going to hers. Feels awkward. She wanted me to to to her prom, and she asked a few months back. I said it'd be weird, being a junior in college, so I said no instead of just going when she obviously wanted too. Basically she just went on a rant about how we're not sleeping in the same bed or having sex anymore, buying me things, taking things I buy her, etc. because I'm not ready for her level of commitment, and until I am, I won't get anything from her. I get it. It makes sense. I just find myself not caring. I love her, but...fuck, I just don't care about this. I'm 21, she's 18, and she likes to have everything planned out. I like to just let things happen. That, to her, means that I don't care about her because I don't have a spot for her in my image of my future. She said she's on the edge with me, relationship-wise. I don't know where I am. I just don't know.", "summary": "I was a dick, she went off, it snowballed, i just feel nothing."}
{"id": "t3_1d6afp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I prepare for shrooms?", "post": "Edit~This is not a joke, I am simply looking for help, I understand on reddit everything can be a joke to some people. (ik edits are supposed to be at the bottom)\n\nA little background information first, I am thinking of taking them with my closest group of friends (all male, as am I) 5 including myself, 3/5 have had a single experience with them and all 5 of us are thinking about doing them in a couple months or something. We will be at my friends house with no parents under the supervision of his older brother who has had 6 years of consistant (consistant as in taking them, not as in an addictive like way) psychedelic drug usage who has sat for people before. He knows how to set up the right environment for this \"event\".\n\nNow a little about myself. The only psychedelic drug experience i've had is that im the once a week or two smoker. I had minor depression as far as just being sad mood for no reason, that problem lasted a few years then went away. I currently have anxiety problems, these anxiety problems show up sometimes in social situations, in a large group of people, speaking in front of people, new experiences and general situations. These are all minor but can easily be triggered, and possibly made worse. Back in third grade through the middle of sixth these problems were much worse, to a point where i could not stay in class. I also have  ADD. All of these problems are genetic.\n\nFrom what i've heard and did a little background information about if you're not in the right place (not my concern) and the right mindset you can have a bad trip and possibly leave a bad effect or something after the fact.\n\nAs well i heard your insecurities can also possible give you a bad trip and they can all come out during your trip. All of my anxieties were based around being insecure about myself.\n\nAlso I am 16", "summary": "Anxiety problems because of insecurities (can cause a bad trip), history of minor depression, and ADD (on adderall if you cant tell from the block of text), all genetic."}
{"id": "t3_4vew3g", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "M17 Struggling with new relationship life and life in general.", "post": "My girlfriend (f17) and I (14 months) went through a very difficult time last month due to some petty fight that resulted in her parents hating me for yelling at her (i did but she started). Because they hate me they won't let us see eachother. And because we havent seen eachother (other than facetime) she wants to be friends cause she thinks I have become obsessed with her, like I spam her if she doesn't text me back in a while and I understand its like harassment and I know I am obsessed with her. She thinks by being friends we will figure that problem out be having space. \n\nHere's my problem, shes been the only person Ive talked to for 16 months. Shes my go-to person, my rock, I have some friends from work and school but I dont want to really hang out with them cause of their \"hobbies\" (i.e. smoking and drinking, etc.) and I dont really agree with those things. Its always really been just me and her, she has her girlfriends that she hangs out with and some other friends, but for me its been nothing except a few exceptions with my one friend but he always wants to do stupid shit and I dont, so I dont want to hang with him.\n\nI rely on her, I want to talk to her constantly, I dont want our old habits to disappear. Back in september we didnt see eachother until november and we didnt even have communication then (she got grounded for grades) and we stayed together then and I dont see why we can't wait this out and just build on our relationship in the meantime. I just so use to everything.", "summary": "14 month relationship, now \"friends\", cant accept it and obsessed with her. help."}
{"id": "t3_4a8pt7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using another company's restroom", "post": "Backgrounder: In our country, you'll often see signs in the toilet warning you not to throw pads, tampons, toilet paper, etc. in the bowl. This is because some people go crazy with the TP and end up clogging the bowl.\n\nAnyways, so I was waiting to pick up something from another company's office when I really needed to pee. While I was waiting, I went to their bathroom and did my business. I noticed the multiple signs saying, \"Don't throw your TP down the toilet\" but I didn't really pay much attention since I was just doing the #1 and wouldn't be using that much TP anyways (I've had no problems doing this in the past).\n\nSo I ended up using about 5 squares of regular, 2-ply TP so I figured that it wasn't much and I was sure it would go down. In the first flush, some of the paper went down but there was still some left so I decided to try to flush again. I realize now that I failed to notice that the water didn't go down the first time. So now panic starts to set in as I see the water rising and I'm trying to keep calm and quiet (thankfully I was the only one in the 2-cubicle bathroom) and some of the water overflows.\n\nNow I'm full on panic mode because I didn't want to ask for help and be ridiculed because I didn't follow the multiple signs, so I just start using their precious TP (this company even had signs recommending to limit how many squares of TP to use) to wipe up the spill. In my desperation I also reached in and fished out the TP that wouldn't go down and threw that in the wastebin just to hide what happened. Don't worry, I scrubbed, washed, and disinfected my hands very thoroughly after.", "summary": "I peed in another company's bathroom and fished out used TP from the bowl just to save myself from embarrassment."}
{"id": "t3_433wc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] want to ask this girl [~20] out that I've never spoken to (we've just seen each other around) and I feel like the only way I can is to be very forward, which I don't like.", "post": "Okay, so this girl and I are students at ~50,000 student University. We've never spoken before and have no classes together. We have ran into each other a couple of times and that is it. But each time we've ran into each I felt like there was this vibe between us that we were both picking up on. Other than that, there is no background, we are complete strangers to each other. I find her very attractive and would like to get to know her. \n\nBeing a large University you see new people every day and people you've seen before you never see again. So thats where I'm at. It's lucky enough to have ran into this girl a couple of times. So the next time I see her should I just introduce myself, make small talk, and risk never seeing her again? Or should I just go for it and ask her out? I feel like the latter is the right choice, but I don't know how to do it without coming off too forward.", "summary": "I want to ask out this girl and I feel like the only way is to be more forward than I am comfortable with. How should I do it without coming on too strong?"}
{"id": "t3_227pqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27f) with my mother (53f) and her abusive partner (55m). They have reconciled and want us to accept it. Advice please!", "post": "Last Christmas, my family found out that my mom's partner had been physically abusing her for years. We found out when she called the cops on him after he viciously attacked her and my brother (22m) and fled to my aunt's. It was quite traumatic for all of us, as we had accepted this man as family. \n\nSince then, they have reconciled. None of us wants anything to do with the man or to offer any endorsement of this reconciliation. She is pressuring us to invite him to family events and wants to host a big \"family\" Easter. Our relationship has pretty much disintegrated in the last year (particularly as he attacked my brother again since then).\n\nSo my question...do I suck it up and attend events being aloof but polite to make my mom happy and not do further damage to our relationship? Or is acceptable to continue avoiding the situation? (Bonus points if you have advice on whether I need to extend a wedding invitation to him).", "summary": "Mom's partner abuses her and attacked my brother. Do I need to have anything to do with him now that they've reconciled?"}
{"id": "t3_2y6sph", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stowing away on a truck", "post": "This actually happend yesterday so it should be YIFU but i guess it fits here best.\n\nI went to a party with my roommate, we had a good evening, a few drinks and around 3 a.m. we were on our way home. We decided to safe money and walk home - 3 km (about 1.8 miles - why dont u guys use the metric system in the US?!) instead of taking a cab.\nHalfway home at a crossway, there stood a heavy truck at a red traffic light. The truck headed towards my home and had a ladder mounted at its rear door so stupid me decided to jump on the ladder and drive the way home as a stowingaway.\nI thought the truck would stop at another red traffic light and i could jump safe of it.\nWell, the lucky truck driver caught a green wave, so there was no need to stop for him.\nThe truck drove past my house but I coulnd't get off it cause there was no red light. I drove another kilometer (0.6 miles) with it and when the truck headed the highway I decieded that i had to jump of the truck before we reach the highway as the truck will drive there much faster (80 km/h instead of 50 km/h (or for our US-User: 50 mph instead of 30)).\nSo I jumped of the driving truck - quite a bad iead- hit the ground and the next thing i remember is how i woke up in a hospital. Got a concussion, broke my jaw, a rib and my left wrist and lost a few teeth.\n\nNo native speaker - please forgive me my mistakes :-[", "summary": "Wantet toget home early by jumping on a truck - ended in hospital with less teeth"}
{"id": "t3_1tl5vw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my \"girlfriend\" [17 F] trying to find out what the hell is going on", "post": "Ok so I have been \"dating\" this girl L for about 3 weeks. We have been hanging out we went to see a dance recital watched movies and just general hanging out stuff. However I have no idea what i'm doing and thus i'm not sure if this is actually a relationship. Or how to make it an official one without being insanely awkward.\n\nWhy can't I tell? \n\nTo summarize last year she got asked to prom with some guy she barley knew so we ended up hanging out at after prom then hanging out and wandering the town until 3AM. During this time I had opened up about my depression(I had burns on my arms) which stemmed largely in part about me being confused about my sexuality.\n\nSo now i'm wondering if all this hanging out just makes me her \"gay friend\" or if we are unofficially dating, And what I should do in either situation?", "summary": "In a \"relationship\" trying to make it official, but I have no idea what i'm doing and am hoping i'm not just her \"gay friend\"."}
{"id": "t3_2n4vdp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [28F] am sick of my boyfriend's [30M] childish hobbies", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, but I'm becoming tired of his childish hobbies. Two days ago he spent over $100 on these Nintendo toys and game, but this isn't the worst part. He has a \"toy room\" and it's lined with *very expensive* action figures from video games, Legos and cartoons, some that I consider quite lewd for someone in a relationship. All together I'm pretty sure he's spent thousands of dollars all together in that room, not including his video game collection. Over this past month he probably brought 8 different games for his Playstation and I think that was overboard. \n\nI recently invited some out of town friends over for dinner and she accidentally walked into his \"toy room\" and I she also agreed that this is pretty embarrassing for someone that's an adult. He makes decent money, a lot more than me but I think it's time for him to give up and sell these things so he can finally move on and become an adult with me. It'd be shameful to have a my parents see this too, especially when we get engaged soon\n\nHow should I approach this /r/relationships?", "summary": "My boyfriend has spent too much time and money on collecting toys and video games, how can I tell him it's time to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_4zrk96", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Thinking about going back with my ex.", "post": "I am a 19 years old guy, about a year ago I meet this awesome girl (18 years old ) and we became friends. We hangout a lot, talked (deep conversation) and we did everything together. we basically became best friends.\n\nOne day we got some great news about the result of a test she took (for universities) and she was happy she hugged me and said \"I love you\" and I said that same. that night we talked about making it official that we start dating.\n\nwhile dating things were awesome and every thing was perfect until we had to break up cause her family didnt like me. even tho we broke up, we did talk from time to time and she would say she missed me and one time we actually kissed.\n\nAfter that communication between us stopped. than we meet 2 months after that and we talked and she said she didnt care much about me anymore and that it was my fault we broke up. I felt bad and I left. this was before sumer.\n\nNow summer ended i will probably meet her again and i want talk to her and tell her that i miss her and i want her back. what do you think", "summary": "best friend then we dated. broke up and she said she doesn't care about me anymore. I really want her back."}
{"id": "t3_vf4wp", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Hey Reddit, I need help finding a book I read once but don't know the title of.", "post": "I'm not sure that anyone has read this book, but I would really love some help finding it at least. Google hasn't been very helpful. Here's what I remember of it:\nThere was a young boy (prince maybe?) And this city that glowed silver and people in the kingdom where this kid lived (if they were lucky) would just wake up with all of their ailments healed, and be glowing, and it would mean that they got to live in this city and be immortal and rich and stuff. The city fell, and the people who lived there had to scavenge for food, and the silver glow on the city turned to a kind of slimy coating on everything. People who got chosen to go to the city now turned all blochy and their hair fell out; they would be disowned and hrown into the crumbling ruins of the city. The people were still immortal, but they didn't heal anymore, so if they stubbed their toe, they had to deal with that pain forever, so needless to say, a bunch of people went crazy pretty quickly. I don't remember the middle much, but in the end this retarded boy from the kingdom (whose parents hid hid him instead of banshin him) who remembered the exact number of feet between various places helped the prince kid figure something out, the people in the city could do magic/teleporting again, and the kid became super smart. An old librarian and a magic book may or may not have been present. Possibly also a princess.", "summary": "Glowing city full of immortal people, city falls, stubbed toe=eternal torture, kid and prince and librarian dude save the day w/teleporting or something similar, need help finding book."}
{"id": "t3_1e9ibd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If dogs aren't allowed to roam free, why are cats?", "post": "Admittedly, I'm not much of a \"cat person\" and I realize dogs are generally more of a danger to humans. I think cats are neat animals, but I find it disturbing that so many roam any given neighborhood.  I can deal with dirty paw prints, but the lure of a warm hood has resulted in scratched paint on a couple of my vehicles.  Where spiders, bugs and birds are concerned, I feel like I'm sharing THEIR home and do my best to co-exist.  House cats are intentionally adopted.  If you think it's okay for your cat to roam the neighborhood, is it okay for me to shoot it if I find it's damaging my property?  For the record, I don't own a gun and wouldn't shoot a cat (or any other animal).  I'm just curious about the sense of entitlement cat owners seem to have, assuming you wouldn't agree with me using a gun.", "summary": "You choose to let your cat roam; can the community take action if they're doing damage?"}
{"id": "t3_2jkgds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [16 M], and is this girl [16 F] hinting something?", "post": "This question is mainly for women, but that doesn't mean men can't answer.\n\nI'm 16, so like most teenage boys, I'm pretty oblivious to girls hints and ques. There's this girl that I've been crushing on for a while now and we have been decent friends, recently becoming better friends. We have a lot in common and we talk in class everyday.\n\nOn Fridays I walk the same way as she walks home, as I go somewhere aside from home on Fridays. We walk about 4 blocks before we split up and say good bye, see you Monday, etc.\n\nWell this time as we were walking there was a pause in conversation and she sighed very deeply and then said \"I have no idea what I'm gunna do this weekend.\" It wasn't until after we said bye to each other that I considered MAYBE it was a hint that she wanted me to ask her out?\n\nSo I would appreciate it if you could help me, do you think she was hinting at it or no?\n\nObviously not all women are alike, but I'm sure a women's opinion would probably be more accurate.", "summary": "Girl sighed and said \"I have no idea what I'm gunna do this weekend\" during a conversation just between us, do you think its a hint?"}
{"id": "t3_39e9fa", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Property manager entered my house without proper notice", "post": "So the property I'm renting (I'm the tenant) is up for sale by owner, so they are having contractors come in and fix everything that's wrong (which is a lot, but that's another story). Item 23 of the lease agreement signed by both the property manager and I when I moved in states that I must be given \"24 hours notice\" in order for them to enter my property to make inspections/repairs.\n\nSo yesterday they'd had some contractors come by for some \"maintenance\". We'd been given notice that they'd becoming on that specific day and agreed to it last week, so no problem there. They ended up re-tiling the bathroom floor, but left the place in a state of disarray when they left. Things moved around seemingly willy-nilly, paint chips in several places, scuffs all over the walls - super unprofessional. So I'm cleaning it up and my neighbors come down from upstairs and say the same thing happened to them, and on top of that, the contractors didn't finish the job so they're coming back tomorrow (i.e. today).\n\nWe weren't given any notice of them coming back today by the property manager. I emailed the property manager giving her the benefit of the doubt, saying that I'm sure she's unaware but the contractors are saying they have to come back today and that this was unacceptable and I wouldn't be having it.\n\nWell lo and behold, I did have it because they came back today and fucked shit up again. This time with no 24-hour notice. I've gone through the entire lease front and back and there's nothing in there that gives the property manager or any subcontractor the right to enter the premises whenever the fuck they want.\n\nSo my question is - what legal recourse do I have here? I know it seems petty, but this seems like breach of contract to me. However, I'm not sure if that's true and/or what (if anything) that means. I don't want to set a precedent of allowing them to let themselves in whenever they see fit to \"make repairs.\"\n\nI'm located in California. Thanks!", "summary": "Property manager's subcontractor entered property without proper written notice - what can I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_297xx0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/m] and my gf [20/f] are fighting all the time, I need to break free.", "post": "For the past while now, I've felt nothing but sadness in my relationship. She is a very emotional person, to the point where she needs help, but is refusing to get it. She doesn't want to think shes a problem, even though she knows she is, which makes no sense at all. Everyday I deal with her, all of a sudden, getting overly sad, to the point where she won't talk to me. Then I sit for 20-60 min while I try to comfort her. During this she would constantly push me away and shun me, then she would even try to run away to be alone. She has hurt herself in the past, and I fear that she may kill herself if I end our relationship. I don't hate her as a person. I just am no longer able to deal with her sadness since it's now affecting me. I am starting to mentally give out and I fear i'll get worse if I continue with this relationship. I would really appreciate any input that would allow me to get out of the relationship safely both on her end and mine, and would prefer if we could keep our friendship.", "summary": "Want to break up but keep friendship (She is possibly suicidal)"}
{"id": "t3_2az1i4", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Excited or Submissive urination?", "post": "My 7 month old pomeranian is developing a new habit.  He has learned pretty well so far to \"hold it\" while in his crate (we are crate training).  At night, when we sleep he is in his crate for roughly 8 hours.  During the workday, he is in his crate between 8-12 and 1-4 and outside his crate until he goes to sleep.\n\nWhen I come down in the morning to take him outside, he whines and rattles the crate door, as if he cant wait a second longer to get out.  In the process of opening his crate, he dribbles a little bit.  This is something he did before.\n\nHe also exhibits the same behavior when I come home at 12 to take him out.  Even though hes only been holding it for 4 hours, he dribbles a little bit in his crate, or right outside his crate.\n\nHe does not exhibit this same behavior with my wife, he has no problem holding it until she is able to take him outside.\n\nHe does not urinate while we are playing or when I greet him when he's already outside his crate.  Not sure what is going on, but its becoming increasingly frustrating.", "summary": "Puppy urinates when I let him out of his crate to take him outside.  He holds it when my wife takes him out.  Cant tell if its excited or submissive urination."}
{"id": "t3_3dg369", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My (f24) second date with a guy (28) ended incredibly confusing. Was I too much?", "post": "Hey everyone! So I met this wonderfully nice guy online. We talked for weeks (both online and phone calls) before deciding to finally meet. Our first date was pretty casual, we both had a drink at a blues bistro and ended the night with a hug. He even called me as soon as we got home and we talked for even longer. We were so excited about the date that we agreed to meet up again the following night. He's busy with an intense program at the moment, so he could only meet up for a couple of hours. He asked to come over which I was excited about. So he does and it starts off great, I make us tea, we talk. We then start to cuddle and that's when things get weird. We spoke the night before about how he wanted to kiss me and that I noticed but I wanted to wait until next time. So as we were cuddling I gradually kept making more and more moves initiating a kiss but he was so frigid and distant. I kept asking if everything was alright and whether I had overstepped and boundaries and he kept saying no. So when we finally kissed it was as if I had forced him into it, so much so that now I was uncomfortable for him. So I backed off and asked again if he was ok and he mentioned not wanting things to go to where they were headed (sex) which I had no intention of. But I guess the cuddling and kiss were too much for him. That night was two days ago and I haven't heard from him since (odd for him since he used to text me everyday). I'm just wondering whether to give him space and let him come talk it out whenever he's ready or confront him about it as soon as possible?", "summary": "I met an amazing guy. First date was incredible. Second date was awkward with miscommunication and possibility of me pushing on to him too quickly."}
{"id": "t3_40r3m4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting the mail", "post": "I should start out by first mentioning that I'm living in an apartment complex and have never gotten packages delivered here before so I don't know how the whole system works for packages.\n\nSo I was expecting two packages to be delivered, one box with shoes and another box with a phone case for my new phone. I get a text message saying one of my packages were delivered, cool yay!\nSo I open the door and don't see anything on the porch so i go to our mailbox which isn't really large enough for the boxes and get the mail. \n\nWhen I'm getting the mail I see two sets of keys and both have tags saying that they keys are property of post office and if found return by dropping into a mailbox. So my first thought is \n\"Oh, the mailman must have accidentally left these in my box and is probably looking for them! Better drop it into the mailbox slot below\" (there's an outgoing mailbox below my box).\n\nBut before I do that, my curiosity gets the best of me and I try sticking the keys into these larger boxes below mine and the key fits! I don't turn it though because I don't want to be caught tampering with other people's mail and I sated my curiosity for where the keys went already. I mindlessly drop both keys into the outgoing mail box slot and then 2 seconds later it hits me...\nthose keys were for me to open those larger *PACKAGE SIZED* boxes so I could retrieve my packages...", "summary": "Mailman left me keys to retrieve my packages, I thought he forgot them in my mailbox and returned them without taking my packages"}
{"id": "t3_11p0yj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What have you said at a job interview that you instantly regretted?", "post": "So I went into my Cardiff (my local city) with the specific idea of giving out CV's to as many shops as I could. Walking past Schuh (a shoe shop) I saw a sign on the window which was looking for staff, so I went inside with a CV.\n\nAfter telling the manager that I was looking too apply for the job, she takes me aside and asks standard questions like \"when can you start\", \"what times can you work\" etc. She then goes \"so why do you want to work for Schuh?\"\n\nDue to the fact I literally had only just seen the sign, I panicked and went \"err, I like shoes. They're an important part of my life\" FACEPALM.\n\nFunnily enough, they haven't phoned back.", "summary": "I told a manager I wanted to work in their shoe shop because i liked shoes /0\\"}
{"id": "t3_v3p6a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please advice, and more of it!", "post": "Ive spent a couple years in college since graduating high school, but I haven't accomplished anything. I had always wanted to take a year off, but was too afraid to.  \n\nThis last semester I had a little meltdown and dropped out mid way through. I've known the whole time what I want to major in, and am now transferring to a university (was a community college) to pursue a BS in applied physics, but I never applied myself while at the community college and after 6 full term semesters have roughly 40 credits and a hair short of a gpa of 2.0\n\nNow my parents who had been paying for my community college tuition want to actually see my grades, but they're terrible and they don't know about me dropping mid term this last semester, I feel like lying and forging my transcript so it's not as bad ( they know I've done poorly and am depressed about it) but I feel like being irresponsible is what got me into a depressed funk... I'm afraid of the ensuing fallout when they find out though, they had been pushing for me to take time off and are against (not unsupportive ) me continuing to try...", "summary": "poorly applied myself in community college leading to depression which made applying harder now trying to improve myself to prevent depression but have family wanting to know the truth on my very poor (mostly) grades over the past 3 yrs"}
{"id": "t3_kk7zm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, do I have fleas, bedbugs, lice, or just terrible luck?", "post": "I moved into a new apartment in Brooklyn this August. About two weeks in, I noticed a series of bites resembling bed bug bites along my thigh. Though I never found a definite source to the bedbugs, I threw out my mattress and bedframe out of haste and fear of the infestation spreading.\nA few weeks later, the bites on my leg had mostly healed and I had a great new ikea bed. I started noticing more and more bites around my ankles and feet which looked like mosquito bites. I had recently gotten my cat back from my parents who watched him over the summer. My roommates and I discovered that the cat had fleas. We bought medication and sprayed the apartment. We realized that our cat has always been an indoor cat and never lived with other animals, so we're not sure how he could have gotten fleas.\nMost recently, my roommates and I have all been complaining of itchy scalps. I spent the last half hour looking at my hair/scalp and definitely see small white dots just like lice or nits. Or maybe just dandruff. I don't know.", "summary": "A series of strange parasite, mite like bites and infestation. Questions!"}
{"id": "t3_16ddiw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(F21)(M26) Amazing connection and yet she has a boyfriend, what to do?", "post": "Long ago I met this girl and instantly knew something was special about her. We work at a grocery store and go to the same college. We would talk when we saw each other at work, and later down the line I ran into her at school. Got her number and talked with increasing frequency as time went on. I actually thought she was single since she never mentioned a boyfriend and tried for a while to get her to see a movie in which she said yes, but we never went. Now for months we have texted back and fourth for hours nearly every day... there is a huge connection there that is rather striking. Now here's the thing, shes very loyal and has a boyfriend who goes to school far away and won't be back for years. I don't want to interfere with her relationship yet I don't want to stop talking to her, and I'm sure she feels the same way. We talk, we flirt, but we don't really cross lines? She has expressed meeting up for stuff as have I. However I think she just always bails at the last second. We can talk for all day and all night, but seeing me in person may not be a good idea to her?. Her relationship with the guy isn't even that great and who knows what hes doing where he is. Yet she clearly shows that remaining loyal is important to her. Even if I stopped talking to her, she would be hurt, vice versa. It's just that its really starting to get to me. I have an amazing feeling about her, I'm just not sure what to do. I can almost say with certainty that she doesn't know either.", "summary": "What should be the start of a love story, has turned into she has a boyfriend and no one knows what to do."}
{"id": "t3_13blvl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel no regret and no remorse for anything. I know what feelings are, and I sometimes feel empathy but it's fleeting and I forget about it soon after. What is wrong with me?", "post": "I feel no regret in telling lies. I feel no remorse in taking advantage of others. I can really care less of what people think about me. If I say that I care, I really don't. I have no idea why I'm like this.\n\nI know I won't feel sad if I lose all my friends, even all my family. There are a select few that I \"care\" about, but I'm not even sure if it's really care. They are people I consider \"family\", and I personally rank them above my own blood related family. They are my \"brothers\" and \"sisters\", although I don't have many of those. The \"sisters\" are not girls to which I have romantic interest. When I defend them and help them go through their problems, I feel that it's more of a self-imposed responsibility to make me appear \"human\" rather than genuine care. The fact is, I have very little concern for what could happen to them. If they mess up, I simply come in, clean the mess and provide a solution to fix their problem, a bit like a janitor.\n\nI also take sick pleasure in berating people, and watching others being talked down. It makes me feel good that someone is suffering, and there is nothing they can do about it. I feed on other's negativity. The angrier they get, the more \"concerned\" I appear, while secretly hoping that what they just experienced is only the beginning of their suffering.\n\nHowever, I know what feelings are. I feel them. I get hurt as much as I get euphoric to things that happen to me. I know what empathy is, and I feel it for people who suffer. But I don't act on it, as if I have a twisted desire to suppress the little empathy I get. Then I forget about it and go on wishing for more pain to the victim. I also understand the concept of love, but I have no idea how to give any, let alone execute actions that show love.\n\nWhat the hell is wrong with me?", "summary": "I just don't give a fuck about anyone. I think I'm sick, please help."}
{"id": "t3_491i2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17/F] with my boyfriend [17 M] of 4 months, doesn't let me have feelings", "post": "So i've been dating this guy for 4 months and all in all its great, he loves me alot, compliments me a lot and makes me feel really good so please keep that in mind.\n\nbut the problem is that he doesnt let me feel anything, such as sadness or anger, especially towards him. For example, he posted an innappropriate photo of me on a group chat we are in and when i got obviosuly mad about it, he got really angry and started saying things like \"its not a big deal\" and \"it shouldn't even bother you\" and wouldnt accept how I felt and in the end he ended up rolling over and not talking to me for the rest of the night, he does this kind of thing a lot.\n\nhas anybody had any experience with this? I do enjoy his company, its just these little moments he has.", "summary": "Boyfriend does something wrong, i get mad, and im the asshole"}
{"id": "t3_2ftm71", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Adding a fianc\u00e9e and inherited car to car insurance", "post": "Two months prior to us meeting (appx 32 months ago) my fianc\u00e9e slid on some ice and rear-ended a Jeep Wrangler going 15mph on Lake Shore Drive in Chicago. All the damage was to her car (the spare tire pushed the engine into the firewall thus totaling her car), and she received a payout of $8,000. She was not cited for the accident. Since driving to work was optional, she decided to put off buying a new car until the spring. Before she could shop for a car, she met me and I convinced her that I was more than happy to do all the driving. It worked out.\n\nFast forward to today, we get engaged and two days later, her grandfather passes away, giving us the option to inherit his car.\n\nI called my friend/insurance broker to get an idea of costs and he tells me that keeping my current coverage and car and adding both the new car and my fianc\u00e9e will add roughly $180 more per month ($2,160/year) than what I was already paying and that this is by far the cheapest of all of his quotes.\n\nI called my insurer and the rate would only go up $800/year just adding the new car and not my fianc\u00e9e.\n\nMy questions are: \n\n* How long will this accident hang around?\n\n* Is there another way around adding her to my policy (e.g. an \"insurance bond\")?\n\n* Do we just have to get with reality and pay what insurance companies are asking?", "summary": "Two things happened recently: I got engaged to the love of my life and a death in her family inherited us a new(er) car. She has an accident on her record almost 3 years ago and it is expected to cost us $100/mo to add her to my policy. Is there a way around it?"}
{"id": "t3_53g1t7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my parents [60s M/F], disagreement because of a trip to Italy", "post": "First of all, English is not my native language. Sorry for any grammar mistakes.\n\nI will travel with my parents to Italy in some months. They know that I'm a huge gearhead, and I love cars. So, I got all excited and I told my parents more than once that I wanted to go to at least one car museum or something like that, because of all the Italian classic cars and supercars. They didn't oppose on that, so I thought I was going to fulfill my passion. Last week, they purchased the trip in a travel agency. When my father met me later that day, he told me that they sealed the deal, but they bought a travel package that didn't include anything related to cars. I was really disappointed. He told me that I'll have to wait until the next time we go to Italy (mind you that this is a very expensive trip, and I don't expect to go back to Italy in the next 10 years or so). I told my mother that I was frustrated about that and she started screaming at me, saying things like \"they won't give us a full refund if we cancel your package\" and \"your friends wish they had this opportunity to go to Italy\". They didn't talk to me before they sealed the deal with the travel agency, which I think it was wrong. Some days have passed and I'm still very angry about the whole situation. I didn't open up about this to anyone, so I don't know if I'm just being a spoiled brat (because I know that I'm complaining about a very expensive trip) or if my parents fucked up (because I feel they didn't care about what I wanted).", "summary": "My parents purchased a trip to Italy and they didn't take my wishes in account when they sealed the deal. Am I just being a spoiled brat or did they fuck up?"}
{"id": "t3_1ypsct", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my ex [24 M] broken up for a few weeks, I'm angry he's dating new girls.", "post": "My ex and I broke up mutually three or four weeks ago He wants to date around and sleep with/casually date new girls.\n\nWhile I know that this is okay and that he isn't doing anything wrong, I can't get over how angry I am about it, as he started trying to meet new girls immediately after we broke up (like within two days). He has met up with them, texts them a lot, and has become friends on facebook with new girls. I know that it is just jealousy as I still have feelings for him, and annoyance as he says he still has feelings for me but still wants to date new girls.\n\nI'm unhappy with feeling this way; I know it's unreasonable, and if I look at my anger I know it's less anger at him and more jealousy and hurt over the breakup of our relationship. Any tips on how how I can let go of my anger and get to a more healthy place? Right now when I think about it, in my head I'm involuntarily slut-shaming these girls and hoping something bad happens or something, but I'm feeling terrible about these thoughts. I'm trying to not think about it and focus on my life and meeting new guys, but I don't know what else I can do to make peace? We are no contact and I deleted him from Facebook/ social media today.", "summary": "Ex is trying to casually date new girls, I am unreasonably angry about it and want to find peace."}
{"id": "t3_1vttt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] having an issue with loud dorm neighbors [19F and 19F]. [Non-Romantic]", "post": "I've been living at my university since September (so about 5 months). \n\nMy next-door neighbors are RIDICULOUSLY loud, especially late at night. I'm writing this at 11:48 PM and I can hear their entire conversation. Since my bed is on the side of my room that is adjacent to theirs, the problem is exacerbated. \n\nThis happens at least 4 times a week, and sometimes during the day, too. It seems like they must be talking above normal volume. I never hear the neighbors on the opposite side, but on my side it sounds like they shout at each other and sometimes they make weird squealing noises (not sex, just like Ooooooohhhhh you talked to that guy or whatever). \n\nI've gone over to their door a bunch of times in the past, asking them to turn down their music while I'm studying or simply to speak a little more quietly, but it usually doesn't work.\n\nI'm kind of reaching the end of my rope here. I really don't want to get the RA involved, because I don't want to be confrontational (that's probably my problem). Also, I don't know what I'd say to our RA, since I haven't complained to her about it up to this point. \n\nI'm also worried because sorority recruitment is coming up, I am rushing and so are my neighbors, and I don't want to alienate potential sisters or have them think I don't like them. (I really think they're nice! I just want to sleep.)\n\nDoes anyone have suggestions on how to deal with this in the most mature way possible?", "summary": "Loud ass dorm neighbors, scared to confront them and don't know what to say to the RA."}
{"id": "t3_uvc7u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How and when should I tell my parents I do not believe in what they believe in?", "post": "I live in the states, and I am 16. My parents are from Ghana, Africa and are very strict christians. I am an atheist and I have to attend church 3 days a week, which is interfering with my homework and social life. I'd like to be able to not attend and do what I need to do throughout the week.\n\nMy parents also want me to go to a University, but don't want to pay for it at all. I've decided I most likely will not go to college due to tuition costs. My parents would be against this because they come from poor families and have worked hard for everything they have. They believe essentially that no matter what the cost a good education will bring in lots of money and make me happy. I do not agree with this at all.\n\nI don't have any fear of ex-communication at all if you're considering it. My dad has essentially had kids to keep my mom from divorcing him, and my mom isn't any better.\n\nSo how and when should I go about telling them this?\n\nShould I even tell them seeing since I'm moving out in 2 years anyhow?", "summary": "My parents and I have conflicting views. How should I tell them that our views do not agree and keep from the requirements they have set up for me?"}
{"id": "t3_4rm0ut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] gave him [24?M] my number, is that showing enough interest?", "post": "I feel stupid for asking for advice on something that should be common sense. \nAs of 3 months ago, I live in a huge 4 story shared house that I found off Craigslist. There are over 10 residents, some of which I haven't seen much of or interacted with.\n\n Early last month, I was sick and bumped into this guy that has lived there for a couple years. I didn't really see him around before that. He struck up a conversation, started as small talk and I got shy (my shyness sometimes comes off as unwelcoming) and made an excuse to leave.\nWe had a similar exchange the next day. The 3rd day, we talked longer. I moved into a different room, he followed. We talked about how we both loved to walk and he was asked if we could walk together sometime, I said yes and asked about his schedule but we never made plans. Since then, I haven't really seen much of him.\n\nAfter like a week of not talking or running into him, the 25th, I was out and came home at 11ish. He was hanging out on the couch when I got in. He asked me if I went to the festival that was going on that day and I said yes. He told me he was there too and I said it was a bummer I didn't see him. He asked if I would be going the following day and I should take his number if I was. I told him I was definitely not going because I had work, but that he could have my number anyways. I sent him a text through my phone so he had my number then we said good night.\n\nHe hasn't really spoken to me since then. Yesterday I ran into him as I was leaving, he asked where I was headed and I told him I was on the phone and he was like \"oh sorry I will leave you alone now\".\nDo you think I made it clear I was interested? Is it my turn to make a move? Or do you think he just lost interest? Normally, I would shamelessly pursue a guy, even despite being painfully shy, but the fact he lives with me makes me hesistant to make a fool out of myself.", "summary": "I am not sure if my housemate likes me, but I gave him my number, should I make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_2p4apx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should i change degrees?", "post": "Hello all so a bit of backstory; i'm 22 years old currently working full time as a Kitchen Porter/Commi chef, i'm also in 2nd year of a Software Development course slowly letting it all fail. \nI've lived by myself in a flat but had to move back home because i couldn't find a job where i was at. Me and brother live and look after ourselves (our parents are only back home for a month in a year). \n\nI was studying to be an accountant but hated that, so i tried to pick something i was interested in. I enjoyed working on games, and working with people. But once i hit 2nd year i just couldn't find the time to work on stuff properly, i needed the money badly. So i'm in the midst of resitting the module i failed, watching it fail again. \n\nMy coursework will be late, i'm pretty certain i can pass the exam in a month but my coursework i find just to difficult to wing it.\n\nI've fucked up i know and haven't found the time to work on my coursework, i could blame the crazy 12+hour shifts but i know other people work much longer then me and find the time to do many many things. \n\nI'm honestly scared because i'm 22, i don't know what the fuck it is i'm meant to do. I hate working in a kitchen but it pays the bills, but i think if i'm to be successful in this degree (if i get a chance to resit it in August)\n\nI might be able to get a resit in August but i'm just scared i'm not where i should be at 22, and i don't know who to talk to,letting everyone down.", "summary": "Fucked up again, cant find time to do things whilst working i job i hate, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1jfmsu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my GF [21F] of 1.5 years, creepy dude she hooked up with during our separation (~3 months give or take) keeps on messaging her and she responds. Is this weird?", "post": "Ok so here we go.\n\nMy GF and I have been together for 1.5 years, and everything recently has been going well, lots of loving and talking about the future/kids the whole shebang. \n\nBut of course, it hasn't always been this way. There was an instance of infidelity/youth on her part after which she broke up with me and began seeing this dude, whom, to put it succinctly, is fucking disgusting (this is a general consensus, mind you). \n\nAnd of course, she eventually comes back to me. Whatever. \n\nI know it really doesn't seem like it in this post, but we really do love each other and can see a future together. But this dude is like creeping the fuck out of me and I can not bear thinking about those 3 months during which they were together. \n\nNormally I would just block it out but it doesn't help that this dude is incessantly texting her and bugging her and asking her about her life. He knows we are in a relationship, so it's kind of weird. But the worst part is: she responds! She sees it platonically, whereas this creepy fuck definitely does not. \n\nI basically do not want to acknowledge this dude's existence, but I might have to as we're doing long distance for like 2 years starting in the fall (is this a good idea). Any help? I think I might have trust issues with my GF... not with this dude, however.", "summary": "creepy as fuck dude keeps messaging my gf and she responds. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mlkh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35M] with gf [29F] and other woman [28F]", "post": "So I'm in a relationship of 7 years, and throughout those 7 years I have been a significantly better partner for my gf than she has been for me. We both agree to this.\n\nWe then talk about me taking a lover and she's actually fine with this after some initial dislike of the idea. Not that I blame her.\n\nSo I start seeing this other woman (meeting and talking, nothing more). Gf knows and is cool with that.\n\nLast time I saw the other woman we got into a suggestive situation, lying and talking and she kissed me. I knew that the possibility was there but the timing kinda surprised me.\n\nI kissed her back. But all I could think of was that I wanted to get out of there and that I love my gf. This other woman really wants to see me again but how can I tell her that I don't want to continue the romance? \n\nWhat do I tell her? Should I do it in person or via text? Her place or public place?", "summary": "How do I tell someone whom I've kissed that I don't want to continue the romance?"}
{"id": "t3_3wwbjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me 27m be a kind supporter of my clingy ex 25f who is in a bad spot.", "post": "My ex, lets call her Jade, text me out of the blue a few weeks ago desperately trying to get heavily involved in my life. This is after not speaking with her for a year and a half. We 'dated' about nine years ago. She is a sweet person and very intelligent (in a sense) who just doesn't want to feel pain anymore.\n\nJade was sexually abused as a child and lived in a dysfunctional family. Her mom has her own issues she passed on, her step dad is a total dick. Mom was with him because hes financially stable, step dad in it because she is pretty meat. When I knew Jade, she was anorexic, popping pills,  and over trusting/ constantly being taken advantage of. Certainly, she struggled with this before and after I was apart of her life. \n\nShe quit pills, and now is unemployed. I am worried about her. She is in a rural area, little support system, and suffering from a condition that will fuse her spine. She is already damaged goods and now her conditions are stacked against her.\n\nI was always gave her unconditional love and support. We fooled around but we always had the base friendship that I think was sincere and nourishing. It was truly the only happy and functioning fwb situation I've been in.Now we live far away from each other. I have a career and I'm buying a house. I have my own issues to deal with. I don't know how to communicate this, to counter her very forward advances, without having her respond by shutting down. I know there is only so much one can do, but I'm hoping that Jade and I can talk as friends without putting so much pressure on us.", "summary": "My ex is suffering from poor circumstances and I want to support her without creating codependency."}
{"id": "t3_4mabfx", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Questions about resigning", "post": "Hi. A few questions about resigning from my first job out of college.\n\nI just started my current job only about two months ago. I'm a nurse at an agency, and there are only two other nurses. We're understaffed. I didn't envision leaving after two months and also told my supervisor I'd be staying for about a year or so when I signed on (he made it a point to ask.) However, I got the opportunity to interview somewhere I've been wanting to work at for many months. I decided to interview, and what do you know.. I got an offer. I accepted it today. Thing is, I start in two weeks and 3 days so I absolutely have to give in my resignation tomorrow. My supervisor is currently on vacation, so I'm guessing I have to tell his boss? \n\nAlso, is a letter of resignation always a must? I've never had to resign before. I'm extremely nervous about telling her - she's super busy, we're short staffed, and this is really bad timing since my boss is away and can't interview for a new nurse immediately. I feel guilty, but know this is the best move on my behalf career wise (my current job has no room for advancement and the salary is worse.) However, the timing truly could not be worse. We are also going to be audited by the state this month, so everything really needs to be in order to guarantee the agency's future.\n\nAlso, should I lie when asked why I'm leaving? Someone advised me to not mention that I found another job and to say I have to resign due to personal issues that I have to take care of.\nAnd for some background, the nurse before me worked for one week before giving her two weeks' notice, leaving for a position at a hospital. The nurse before that was falsifying visits and ultimately not doing her job. So, yeah.. they really don't have good luck when it comes to nurses. I feel very guilty since this was my first job out of college and they gave me a chance. They're been supportive since I arrived and I have no complaints aside from it being dead-end and my boss being rather negative half the time.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "leaving my job at a really bad time after only working there for 2 months. Is a letter of resignation a must? Is telling my boss's boss, since my boss is on vacation, the only thing I can do? (We don't have an HR department.) What do I say when she asks why? And should I be upfront about leaving my position for another job? Thanks so much."}
{"id": "t3_4iuqqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26F) with my BF (28M) of twoyrs wont have sex", "post": "Hey everyone. Sorry for the formatting, Im on my phone. \n\nSo basically, the title says it all. We havelived together the past year. Sex dropped off a couple weeks ago. Normally we have it a couple times a week, along with some casual blowjobs but lately, nothing, not even that. He's still really affectionate and complimentary, still wants to hold me and kiss me. He used to get hard when we cuddled and now barely seems to get an erection. \n\nWhen this issue has come up briefly in the past, we've talked about it and it seems to come down to stress from work or lack of opportunity. But right now he's been off for a week between contracts and has seemed pretty relaxed and we've had plenty of time. We have each gained weight recently and are each now trying to lose it. I asked him if that was a factor and he was really sweet about it and denied. However I dont think what else it could be. He didnt have any suggestions either.\n\nAnyone have ideas on what might be going on or how toapproach it? I really want to feel wanted by him and I dont even though I know he loves me.", "summary": "BF suddenly shows no sex interest, ideas, thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_20pp8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] w boyfriend [29M] duratio 9 months, his mom died last week and he feels guilty, sad, helpless", "post": "My boyfriend, whom I love very much and feel very close to and envision a future with, is from a very distant country. He's in his penultimate year of a phd program, writing his dissertation. Last week his mom died, and since he lost his dad ten years ago she was his last surviving parent. He immediately flew home but now that his departure date is nearing he is feeling incredibly guilty for returning to the US and leaving his sister, who is married with a child but was very close to his mom and spen a lot of time with her.\n\nHis sister's family is planning on moving to canada very soon, within the next 6 months, so I reassure him by saying that even if she feels lonely she will soon be much closer to him. The problem is that he cannot do both of the things he wants/needs to do, they are mutually exclusive: focusing on his work makes him feel neglectful of family, and vice versa. He is so torn up, misses his mom, feels helpless.\n\nI want to be there for him and help him somehow, but I don't know what to say when he says \"I miss my mom.\" It makes me sad too and them I'm tearing up on the phone and feeling like an idiot. I also miss him a lot. I told him to stay longer if he thinks he should, but he is obviously conflicted about staying and he says he can't, \"there's no point.\"", "summary": "My boyfriend is grieving and guilty, doesn't know how to help his family. I don't know how to help him."}
{"id": "t3_506mn0", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Just adopted my first kitten, and she tested positive for feline leukaemia virus, please help.", "post": "6 days ago, I adopted little Athena from a local shelter. She's a 4 month old black cat, who was at the shelter for 2 months before I adopted her. She was found abandoned with her siblings under a porch and someone brought them in. She has been nothing but playful, cuddly, and has seemed nothing but healthy since her adoption, and the shelter had found nothing wrong with her either. After her first vet visit today, I was heart broken to learn she has tested positive for feline leukaemia virus. She still has no symptoms of sickness, and the vet has told me that I have nothing to worry about yet, and that I just need to bring her in for her follow up in a few weeks. I'm so worried and scared for her, does anyone know more about this disease and can help me understand what our chances are or if there's anything I can do? I love her more than anything and am hoping someone help me understand what to keep an eye out for or what I will need to take care of her if the worst happens.  I've already contacted the shelter to let them know since the disease is contagious. I do not know how she acquired it as of now. For anyone who can help, thank you.", "summary": "newly adopted 4 month old kitten from shelter has feline leukaemia virus, and new pet owner would like help understanding the situation."}
{"id": "t3_3jzner", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] got dropped by a [21F].", "post": "This has been something I haven't been able to get past for months. About five months ago, I started seeing this young woman who, in short, made me better in many ways. We talked practically every single day, from sunrise, to sunset. When I brought her around my family, everyone liked her (this is a first, because my family never liked any of my exes). Fast forward a month or so, I wake up and try to say good morning on snapchat, which became a morning ritual. I notice she's not popping up. I check facebook, instagram, etc. \"What?\"\n\nAfter hearing nothing for days, I contact her through another phone since she had a few of my things, and I had a few of hers.\n\nWhen she told me what happened, her explanation in short was that she got back with her ex (for the fourth time). One of my favorite quotes from the messages are \"When I met you, I found that we had a lot in common, and you were so easy to be with.\"\n\nAll I want is to sit down and have an actual face to face conversation with her, but have no way of getting in touch with her.", "summary": "Lost an amazing girl to her ex, want to talk to her for closure."}
{"id": "t3_11cf3o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm a sucker for romance. What was the most romantic thing that you have done, have experienced, or even saw in a movie?", "post": "I'm currently watching the show drop dead diva, and on it two characters Jane and Owen are dating. They have different views on marriage as Jane feels that a wedding is a commitment and Owen feels that it's just a piece of paper. Jane talks about how as a little girl she has always dreamed of a white horse, a prince, a wedding, and ultimately is ecstatic to spend the rest of her life with a SO. Some time goes by and Owen asks Jane to meet him for drinks, and Jane is sure that she will be broken up with until she finally brings it up and Owen gives her a gift box with a ring. She of course says yes and says, \"I thought you didn't believe in marriage\" to which he answers, \"I didn't. But then I saw it through your eyes.\" And when they leave the place, a white horse with a carriage is waiting for them as he calls her his princess.\n\nCorny as fuck, but cute.", "summary": "2 tv characters. One believes in marriage, the other doesn't. One expresses how excited they are for a marriage and the other then proposes by saying, \"I didn't believe in marriage until I saw it through your eyes.\" And there's a white horse present."}
{"id": "t3_1eo7yu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "WHat should I do", "post": "I posted this to r/AskMen and r/dating advice and didnt get alot back so I'm wondering r/AskReddit, what should I do?\n\nFirst, some backstory: I've been talking on and off with a girl (G1) for the past couple of months while my friend has been talking to her friend (G2) for just over a month.\nAnyways, the other day I get a text from (G2) asking if I'm doing anything and if I wanted to hangout. I said yes just to be friendly thinking nothing would happen. Boy was I wrong.\nI arrive at G2's house and no one is home but her and me, she says she was bored and my friend was out fishing so he couldn't come. We just pop in a movie and start watching. halfway thru she stops the movie to go to the bathroom and when she returns she's wearing some different, more revealing clothes.\nI knew at this point something was gonna happen but I didn't leave even when I should have.\nOne thing turns into another and we end up giving each other head, about to have sex when I stop and say we shouldn't be doing this. (Note: We had been going at it for about 10 minutes).\nShe agrees and we stop and finish the movie. Afterwards we swear not to tell anyone that anything happened and that we were just hanging out because if either of our two suitors (G1 and my friend) were to find out they would be devastated and would never trust us again (Not to mention ruin friendships).\nMy dilemma is I feel really guilty about everything and was wondering if I should tell my friend what happened.", "summary": "Hooked up with friend's girl and feel guilty, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3ltjz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he[27] interested in me [26] or just messing me about?", "post": "So me and this guy 26&27 went to high school together and saw each other again about 4 years ago. \n\nSince then we have been on and off texting general stuff and flirty stuff. We keep talking about seeing each other but never get round to it I should add we don't leave near each other.\n\nWhen he texts me he seems interested - asks lots of questions, compliments me etc. When we text we text a lot for about a week and then don't text for a month. So it seems like he could take it or leave it. Every time I feel like I'm getting interested in someone else he messages me and I feel so comfortable talking to him that I compare that with any new guys.", "summary": "Am I wasting my time? Is he into me or is he just bored every now and then? "}
{"id": "t3_1ka9j3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16m] need advice on how to help my gf [16f] feel her self worth.", "post": "We meet at a camp during the summer. She wouldn't talk, look or even walk toward people because that's how bad of an introvert she was. Being an ex introvert I decided that I would try and help her come out of her shell.\n\nI then realized that I really do have feelings for her like I actually liked her. I asked her out and she said yes. We have been together for a month now.\n\nThe problem started toward the 3 week mark of our relationship. She always says that other girls are so much prettier then her and she doesn't know why I'm with her and not these other girls because they're so much better then her.\n\nWhat do I do to help her feel her self worth?", "summary": "GF FEELS AS THOUGH SHE ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR ANYONE. HOW DO I HELP HER?"}
{"id": "t3_2q3dn9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving a pool of blood", "post": "I recently had a lady procedure and can only use pads for the next three weeks. I haven't used pads since I was thirteen and am now in my twenties, so this has been difficult. \n\nLast night was my boyfriend's staff holiday party. One of his friends brought Magic cards so we started a game. I couldn't have been sitting for more than an hour when I realized it was time to.. check on things. I ran to the bathroom to find my pad completely soaked to the point I was wiping blood off of my legs. My wardrobe choice is the only thing that saved me. I wore a shorter gray dress with black tights, and as I'm furiously wiping the blood from my tights I notice the dress was short enough to miss the blood. My relief is immediately extinguished by the thought that if the blood missed the dress, it must have dripped onto my seat. After cleaning myself I shyly stepped back into the party to find my seat unoccupied. Thank god the lighting wasn't too bright because there was a light red pool right in my spot. It would have been way too obvious to wipe it up... and it wasn't very thick so I decided it'd be best to use my dark dress and just sit back in the same spot. \n\nNo one noticed :/ I wanted to clean up what was behind in the end (just a little pinkish red spot) but to explain would have been too shameful. Now I'm wondering how long I can keep it from my boyfriend... THE SHAME!!", "summary": "Girls who aren't careful enough can leave behind a crime scene."}
{"id": "t3_1lddjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update 3: Am I (unknowingly) in a committed relationship with this guy? [26F] [28M]", "post": "[Original Post](", "summary": "I'm in a relationship with my future husband."}
{"id": "t3_3xi5kp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Met a girl through unusual circumstances, she will be leaving town tomorrow, should I (27m) give her my number?", "post": "So, I met this girl a few nights ago, in the most bizarre way possible. Chik-fil-a was doing an event for opening one of their new stores, where you get free food for a year if you camp out before they open, and my roommates wanted to go. Well, we wound up meeting one of the girls who was brought in for the opening, and she seemed really sweet. We spoke with her several times over the night, and saw her the next morning before we left.\n\nI stopped in the next day, and we talked a bit, and after I place my order, she mentions she'd be out in the lobby in just a minute. Before I leave, we chat a bit more, and she's leaving this weekend, several states south.\n\nNow, having said that, most of my family lives in the South, so while it's unlikely, it would certainly be possible to see her again. Like I said, she seems really sweet. Of course, you can never really tell if someone in customer service actually likes you, or is just amazing at their job, so I don't know if giving her my number would just be stupid (or even if email or Facebook info is better?)\n\nI'm not terribly invested, I guess, but she's cute, and I could see her being someone I would like to get to know, at least if she loved nearby.\n\nShould I just drop the idea completely? Or risk a bit of embarrassment by giving her my number (subcontract info), and just seeing where things go?", "summary": "I mean a girl at a fast food grand opening, she's leaving town soon, should I make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_1kf9m8", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I'm a Clueless first generation freshman who needs help with a fast loan.", "post": "I just turned 18 today and have no credit score, but need a loan as soon as possible. I didn't think I would need a loan, which is why this is so last minute and stressful. \n\nI am heading off to college in a few days. I received a full ride, (half financial and half academic). I had about 1000 dollars my parents had saved that would have gone toward me paying for supplies for my dorm and my school. However, my little brother was arrested recently and that money went toward his lawyer. Because of all the complications with this, my parents have not had time to make up the money for me. My mother is disabled and has not worked in years, barely off social security. My father works as a taxi driver in a different state, but has had to stay in the state i live in to help with my brother and hasn't been making any money. \n\nI did not get a job this summer because my financial aid would decrease if I had proof of income. (so I'd be working to pay off money they'd deduct from me working.) The same was true if I had won any type of scholarship. I do not have any family that I could borrow money from temporarily. \n\nMy full ride has given me 1200 dollars for personal expenses and textbooks. this would be great if I could access the money. It shows as a negative balance in my ebill, so its to be refunded to my checking account. It has not been refunded yet, and I was informed that it would be refunded in two weeks, (which is well after i start college). \n\nI need a loan to be able to buy bedsheets and school supplies, as I legitimately have nothing suitable I could bring to college. I can pay off the loan immediately after school starts, I just don't the first thing about applying for loans. I'm desperate at this point.", "summary": "I have no money to pay for college supplies because of family circumstances. I will not have money until after school starts. I need to get a loan as quickly as possible. "}
{"id": "t3_31xs8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my fiance [25M] of five years - Lying about looking up a busty blonde", "post": "Today my fiance was showing something me on his computer, and he went to copy something and when it pasted, it pasted \"Lindsey Pelas\". I asked who that was, and he was like \"I don't know.\" A google search revealed a busty playboy bunny. Look, I get it. Even engaged guys need \"alone time\" sometimes. I told him that it was fine if he looked her up. She's hot. I get it.\n\nHis response was -- oh, she was probably mentioned in an internet meme...Then, he kept saying \"I don't know who she is.\" Boy, if you googled her from a meme, then you would know who she was!? That's the whole point of googling!\n\nI got so mad -- not because he was looking at her but because he wouldn't tell me the truth. Keep in mind that this isn't the first time this has happened. One time, I went to copy and paste, and the name of a brazilian swimsuit model came up. That time, I shrugged it off.\n\nThis time, I got super mad and left the house. I came back -- talked to him reasonably and told him that I just wanted the truth. He still was acting defensive and weird...this led me to get very angry. He then called me a psycho and said that he doesn't having kids with someone who gets mad like I did...\n\nWell, I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who lies about something stupid.\n\nSo what do you think? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "My fiance won't tell me if/why he looked up a playboy bunny on my computer."}
{"id": "t3_hmojo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question about distribution of 'nerdy' girls...", "post": "I'm a 15-year-old high school sophomore (soon to be junior) in Ohio, and I have somewhat of an issue with my school. I consider myself a relatively social guy, or at least the most social of any of my friends, and having been in the same district I have a pretty decent idea of virtually everyone in our grade. The issue is that, in 10 years of dealing with the same group of females, I've never met:\na) A single redditor.\nb) A single even semi-'serious' gamer, although there does seem to be a lot of Mario Kart played.\nc) Not a single one who does (or knows how to do) anything beyond opening a browser and using facebook on their computers.\nNow, this is a school full of exceedingly intelligent and honestly quite over-achieving people, so I would not expect quite such computer illiteracy. I've had many discussions with one good friend of mine and fellow redditor, and we both think that this seems rather unusual. Thus, I ask of you all, how normal is this severe lack of 'nerdy' girls, or at least my experience as such?", "summary": "I've never encountered a computer-using girl at my school. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2cuop8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Waiting for a reply \u2013 it's been 2 weeks. What should I do, if anything?", "post": "Background: I've been friends with the guy in question for many years. We keep in contact a couple times a month via e-mail, but we're both pretty busy with high school (we don't go to the same one), so we don't see each other too often. I've had an on-and-off crush on him for a while now, so this summer I figured I would settle the crush thing one way or another.\n\nSo, early in the summer we hung out and had fun. I didn't email for a while \u2013 I have a summer job that was taking up lots of time, and I have some anxiety about being forward (ridiculous, I know). So a couple weeks ago I emailed, inviting him to a fairly date-like activity (nothing too different than what we've done in the past), and haven't gotten a response. He's been fairly good at responding to meeting plans apart from this, so what gives? Did my email have swastikas all over it and I didn't notice?  Did the minute details of the wording put him off? What do I do from here? I could either email him and come off looking desperate (which I'm not, but I would like a yes or no), or wait it out until he eventually responds or I see him in September... whichever comes first.", "summary": "Messaged a friend, no response. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4fkaj7", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Pharmacy revenge- be a bitch, you can spend 20 minutes counting Tylenol", "post": "I bore witness to the greatest petty revenge of my life at the major hospital pharmacy I work in. \n\nThe pharmacy techs pull the drugs. The more advanced techs (called checkers) have to check the work to ensure patient safety. They make sure each pill is the called for dose and the packaging is intact with a good expiration date Their job is made easier when whole, intact sleeves or boxes are used for high volume drugs like Senna or Tylenol. \n\nOne of the techs was pulling drugs. The bitchy checker kept going after her for not ordering the drugs in the specific way she desired. No other checker has this requirement. The tech got tired of being bitched at so when 200 Tylenol popped up, instead of pulling out 2 boxes, she found 200 loose Tylenol which forced the checker to scrutinize each individual pill. She stopped attacking the tech after that.", "summary": "supervisor was nit picky to the extreme, was forced to carefully examine 200 individual capsules of Tylenol."}
{"id": "t3_1ka05r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18F] just saw two marks on my neck and thinks I [20M] have been cheating. What do I do?", "post": "We were watching films whilst over at my house, and when I stretched at some point she pointed to my neck and said \"are those bite marks?\". I had no idea what she was talking about so I asked her to take a photo, which she did. To my surprise there were two ~2 inch long oval marks on my neck which looked like bite marks. \n\nAt this point I start stressing a bit because she's been cheated on a few times in the past and I knew what she was thinking. I had no idea what to say, because I didn't know what they were and therefore couldn't convince her that they weren't bite marks. This just looks like I'm floundering and failing to come up with a lie, so she starts crying and saying that she hasn't seen me for a week, so who have I been seeing behind her back in that time gap. I haven't left the house hardly since I've seen her, so I had no alibi for that either, which just made my case look even more pathetic. At this point she left my house and caught a bus back home.\n\nI have no idea what to say at this point. I could use my internet history to prove that I've been home every day, but that doesn't seem like a very strong defence. She's now convinced that I'm lying and started calling out my body language and that what I said sounded \"rehearsed\", so I have no idea how I'm going to prove to her that I'm telling the truth if I have nothing to back it up.", "summary": "Girlfriend sees mysterious marks on my neck, thinks I've been cheating. I have no evidence to prove otherwise. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_17t9v5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "New to hooking up, post-hookup etiquette advice, please?  [26M/24f]", "post": "I hooked up with a friend of friends the other night, had a lot of fun. Before we fooled around, however, I told her that I wasn't interested in anything serious, she was OK with this. We exchange numbers and pleasantries the next day, I drop her off at her car, and no additional contact takes place.\n\nThe question: we're both going to be attending a Super Bowl party tonight, and I don't know how to act so it won't be weird. Just awkwardly ignoring her is obviously not OK, but I also don't want to spend too much time talking to her because I don't want to lead her into thinking that I'm actually changing my mind about the relationship bit (or alternately that I'm going to get all clingy/drama and it was a mistake to hook up). My instinct is to chat a little bit, but not get too stuck into conversation, but I'd like your feedback.\n\nThis is actually my first time sleeping with someone who I didn't initially have romantic/relationship intentions toward, so I'm sorry if this seems like a silly question for a twentysomething to be asking.", "summary": "What is good post-hookup practice for the first time you see your hookup in public?"}
{"id": "t3_2089yt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] having break-up talks with my [17F] girlfriend. What should we do?", "post": "Recently, my girlfriend and I have been talking not quite about breaking up but what our future brings. \n\nWe are going on a \"Grad Week\" vacation and she said that she wants to 18 for one week and not worry about hurting my feelings. However she also wants to spend it with me. We talked about the idea of a \"Hall Pass\" but almost a year into our relationship came to the conclusion that would not be a good idea. \n\nAlso, we are both going to college in the fall. We will still live close to each other but we are worried about juggling a relationship in with our freshman year of college and aren't quite sure what to do with that.", "summary": "What is our best option in this situation dating or not dating? We both wish to still be friends if we decide to put it on pause."}
{"id": "t3_3szcml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my BF [34M] of 11mo, he's really afraid of meeting my parents", "post": "So I have an issue that I suspect many people have gone through before, but I have no idea how help with this and could use some advice.\n\nMy boyfriend, let's call him Nate, and I have been seeing each other for just under a year. When we met we were smitten with each other pretty quickly, and he actually initiated the first big milestones in our relationship (asking me to be his girlfriend, first \"i love you,\" hinting at marriage and kids, etc.) We're planning on moving in together within the next year and things are pretty serious. We both live in a major city that's far from where our families live, so we don't see them that often. I met his family a few months ago when they came into town, and all went well. Very nice people and we all got along. A+ would meet again.\n\nThe problem is, my family is coming in to town to visit soon, and he's being extremely nervous/apprehensive, and even exhibiting some avoidance. Whenever I try to bring up the subject of doing stuff together when they're here, he will change the subject pretty quickly. Now, I understand it's pretty normal for a guy to be nervous about meeting his girlfriend's parents, but he's gone so far as to express to his friends when we're all hanging out that he's not looking forward to it, and even I suspect he's trying to change his work schedule so that he's less available while they're in town (when I ask him about a date/time, he will say \"I might have to work that day now, don't count on it too much.\") For the record, my parents are very nice/normal and are actually really excited to meet him. I'm afraid that, even if we only meet just for a dinner, he will clam up and be too nervous to enjoy anything the whole time. He does have a bit of social anxiety around new people, and I think this is sort of putting it into overdrive. I try to talk to him about it, but I feel like the more I bring it up, the more nervous he gets.", "summary": "Boyfriend is terrified of meeting my family. How can I get him to chill out and just enjoy it? They're not scary, I swear."}
{"id": "t3_40m6ri", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating my roommates two week old bag of chips.", "post": "My roommate bought a bag of chips two weeks ago. He opened them once and then put them under his bed. They were a rather large bag of chips. They were really awesome kettle cooked chips with salt and pepper which is my favorite type of chip. He went on vacation today so I thought to myself now is my chance to have some of those delicious chips. \n\nI know what you all must be thinking, why couldn't I go buy my own bag of chips? Well, I could have, but nothing tastes better than eating your roommates food when they don't know, especially when it's a favorite junk food. \n\nWell, I had not noticed that he left the bag completely open. They were still crunchy and not stale surprisingly. However, I also didn't notice, until much later that he had been throwing old food under his bed, like crumbs and such of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches under his bed too, very odd. But I assumed he was just rather lazy at cleaning up after himself, but it's his room, so whatever. \n\nSo I open the bag and start eating the chips. I noticed they tasted somehow different but I wasn't looking down at the chips while I ate them. Then maybe fifteen minutes later after munching on them my hands and chest area began itching like crazy. I looked at the chip I was about to put in my mouth and it was covered COVERED in small little sugar ants. There must have been hundreds of them in that bag, and I most likely devoured half a colony. \n\nI didn't throw up but I tried to, I took a shower and threw out my clothes which I assumed had ants all over them. I have been freaking out with the \"itches\" ever since.", "summary": "Grabbed my roommates old chips while he was on vacation, ate some ants unexpectedly."}
{"id": "t3_2dob1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [16 M] start talking with the new girl [16 F] at my school?", "post": "So, school started back a few days ago, and in the midst of the boredom and angst was a new girl. She is in a few of my classes, but we sit nowhere near each other. She's beautiful, and from what I gather she's in good classes for her subjects, so she's obviously smart. She seems like a really interesting person, and I want to get to know her. If I sat next to her, this would be easy, but sadly I don't. She had already made a couple of friends, and it would be insanely awkward if I just went up and tried to talk to her when she's trying to make friends with them. Also, my face goes red in these types of situations, only making things worse. She also doesn't seem to have Facebook, Instagram, etc. so in person is the only way to go. How do I talk to her without seeming like an awkward creep?", "summary": "New girl at school, how do I approach her without seeming creepy and awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_2rqx9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and GF [20F] of 2 years, I've been spending more time with her sister and sisters friends [22F]", "post": "Gf and I went away on a trip with her family and some of her sisters friends [22F]. The week wasn't that great for my gf and I, we were either both in a bad mood or one of us was.\n\nI started spending more time with her sister and her friends that with her, and when ever I would try to spend time with my gf she would not talk or not want to do anything with me. \n\nI managed to get her to talk to me before I left and found out that she was worried I was drifting away from her and honestly I feel like I am. I do love her however and am not sure if I falling out of love or just looking for a change.\n\nI was a bit flirty with her sisters friend on NYE and she was worried that night about how we were close on that night and that we were spending so much time this week together. \n\nI am not sure if this is me being attracted to the friend or if I am just looking for a friend since I don't have any one besides my gf that I am close to.\n\nI feel like I am a terrible person right now because I do feel attracted to the friend, not knowing how I am seen by her and I don't want to break my gf heart since I do still love her.", "summary": "24m unsure if i am just looking for a change and what reddit might think of my situation."}
{"id": "t3_4d2v8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 42M with a 28M in a 4 year relationship, I cheated once. How do I help my partner, how do I help our relationship?", "post": "I've been with someone for 4 years who I love very much. Months ago, I was going through a horrible depression/midlife crisis where every day felt the same and I felt old and hadn't felt an emotion in a year. I wanted to feel alive, needed to feel alive. \n\nI ended up having a one night stand type thing with someone half my age. We didn't have full sex. We made out, then some failed oral sex. (I couldn't come or even keep it up, it felt like being with a mannikin). I got into this situation because a really sexy 20 year old wanted me (a 42 year old), and it was an exciting idea to me, it was something other than wake/work/dinner/sleep & repeat. We snapchatted and sexted a bit and then I went over to their house. We watched a movie and then started kissing and like I said, didnt get too much further. \n\nI felt horrible, since the person I am with is beautiful, kind, sweetest most amazing lucky blessing I could ever want and I had no right to hurt them for my own problems. When it happened I was out of my head, not me. It is something I am violently against and would never have predicted I would ever do. \n\nThen yesterday my partner read my facebook messages and saw me talking to them about the stupid incident, and mentioning the snapchats etc. I cannot live without them. My heart never left, just my mind. I feel horrible that they are hurting over what I have done. Never mind me, but what can I do for my partner (who wants to stay together) to help? To help them trust me, to make them understand I always love them and this was my own problem. \n\nBasically, what the hell can I do now to reduce the hurt I caused and help my partner? Thanks.", "summary": "Cheated once, regret it, how to go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_2xohce", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying our game design major's funding.", "post": "Literally happened just 10 minutes ago.\n\nSo I am studying Game Design at a random college in the middle of the mid-west.  Needless to say, we are not exactly to the most prestigious major on our campus.  We have a tiny room in an old building where we work on our projects relative to our majors.  So today I was playing a game for research and yes that is indeed a thing.  The game in particular was Math Blasters, the old version not the weird MMO current one.  While playing I failed to notice some lofty looking investors walk into the room, and me being so engrossed in Math Blasters failed to notice.  The guide started to describe our major and that we work in this room.  Then apparently he said \"Don't worry, they don't just play video games\", and that's when I fucked up.  I had just beaten the level and decided it would be funny to exaggerate that I totally got the best score of 10,000 points.  \"Holy shit! 10,000 points! Little kid me can go suck it!\" and just as those words leave my mouth I see the several people standing in the door wearing very nice business suits.  The entire room of students just turn look at me and start bursting out laughing.  Needless to say, I don't think our major will be receiving much funding next year.", "summary": "Destroying college funding is worth 10,000 points in Math Blasters."}
{"id": "t3_4gftor", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My friend may have caused $3700 worth of damage to my car while driving it. Should I hold her responsible?", "post": "About a month ago, my friends, Jasmine and Lilly, and I were on a road trip and decided to drive my car. I had just bought a used Honda Civic and had a mechanic look at it. There were no major issues with the engine. We took turns driving and when it was Jasmine's turn I took a nap in the backseat. Jasmine woke me up to inform me that the car was breaking down. I saw that the engine was overheating and smoking from the vents. When we took the next exit it completely stopped and we had to push it to the side of the road. A police officer stopped to help us out and he said the coolant levels were fine. Then we had it towed to a repair shop. \n\nThe mechanic said that the engine was really overheated, the radiator was leaking, and the ignition coils had melted in spark plug tubes. From what I gathered, Jasmine didn't understand what the temperature gauge on the dashboard meant and kept driving even as the engine temperature kept rising. The estimate they gave me for the repair was $3700. Even though Jasmine was driving, she did not offer to help pay for the repairs at all. In the end I had to take out a loan to cover the cost of the repairs. \n\nWe are all college students working part time so $3700 is a lot of money for us. I had previously just had to spent most of my savings on tuition and buying a used car (this one). \n\nI'm wondering if I should ask her to help me pay for it. Even though it was my car, she was the driver and it was because she didn't know what the temperature gauge meant, the engine continued to overheat, which caused more damage to the engine, so I feel like she should at least help pay. I haven't asked her because I don't want to ruin our friendship which I cherish greatly, but at the same time, it's a lot of money and it's going to be stressful for me in the long run. Do you think she should have offered in the first place? Should I ask her to help pay back the loan now?\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Friend was driving car, caused a significant amount of damage and didn't offer to help pay. Now I am stuck paying off a large loan."}
{"id": "t3_1m3sw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] with my ___ [20F] half year, takes it out on me when she is annoyed about something. Decided not to care last night, blames me for not \"caring about her problems\"", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo my girlfriend and I were playing a game yesterday night. \n\nWe are doing a long distance relationship I might add. Now her laptop isn't that high tech so her game didn't run that good. So after playing for 1/2 hours she just stopped playing without saying.\n\nI stopped playing after a while too and noticed she was annoyed.\n\nTried to have a normal conversation with her, asked her about her day, what did she do? I got 2 short answers. I'm getting annoyed by this because I don't see why I deserved such kind of behavior.\n\nShe then proceeded to listen to music and start reading things on the internet, fully ignoring me.\nNow I sat back not saying a thing, when she suddenly says in a raised voice: \"well are you going to say something?\" and stopped our skype conversation.\n\nShe called me back, but I didn't pick up and asked her if she was ready to talk normally to me because I didn't deserve to be treated the way she was doing.\n\nWhat followed was her blaming me \"not caring about her problems\" and \"this is the way I am, deal with it\" and not \"being supportive\" \n\nIs that so reddit? am I being not supportive? it's not the first time she gets annoyed and takes it out on me and makes me feel bad.", "summary": "Girlfriend gets annoyed, takes it out on me, blames me for not being supportive when I decided to not listen to it for once."}
{"id": "t3_1zg7j3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my crush[18 F] , too nervous too talk, too shy aswell", "post": "At first I want to say that I have no problems to talk with other women. I may be a little shy when it comes to flirting in clubs, but I'm not a fan of clubs therefor I don't see it as a problem. Now I recently had the chance to have some fun with another girl some time ago, but once I was close I lost interest all of a sudden. My guess is that it was \"too easy\", sorry I don't want to sound disrespectful.\n\nNow here's the thing with my crush. She does know that there is something, the way she talks and chats with me is not the same like with her other male friends. For example she usually responds on messages only after a few hours, if at all on me. In between the time she is still online (what's app). I never asked why she does this though as I don't want to fail and sound weak or something in that way. \n\nNow when we're in a room together or like today as we were celebrating carnival, I just can't find any topics to talk about. And it's even worse, when she is around I can't talk to other people either. (guess my brain really is depended on her opinion)\n\nI do know quite alot about her, hobbys, plans, etc.\nBut I just can't talk to her the normal way, make fun of myself, of other people, the simpliest things become a math exam. \n\nWhat can I do about it? She surely is a challenge, many other guys tried, but as she isn't ignoring me and nor is talking to me like with one in the friendzone I guess I might have a chance.", "summary": "Have no problems to talk with other women, but when my crush is around I can't talk with her nor with other people."}
{"id": "t3_3qniee", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I have big dreams and goals, but they are kind of cloudy.[m20]", "post": "I live at home with my family right now and I don't go to school. I went to college for a year and decided to stop. My best friend convinced me that I don't need college to do what I want to do. Besides, I hated taking classes I wasn't interested in. The things I want to do in life (I know it seems like too much) included producing music, making a cartoon, making comics, designing clothes and shoes, and other smaller things related to that. I grew up with a good family with a father that had similar dreams. He niw has a job he's been working for 20+ years that he doesn't like. I too am afraid of falling into that path. I've been pretty down and frustrated and feeling things are quite impossible although I know there's always hope. I don't really want to do anything else, but I'm stuck. I'll be pretty down for a week, then by the next week I'm in high spirits with a game plan that always fails. I've been doing this for quite a while now. My parents are starting to get on my case now and when they ask what I'm gonna do in life I don't know how to respond. Maybe I should try looking for lessons in nyc to get me out of the house? I practice drawing and making music a lot, but I can never feel satisfied and feel like I'm moving in the right direction.  Everything seems like a scary cycle of ups and downs. I have faith I can turn it around, but I just don't know how.", "summary": "Want to be a musician/cartoonist/designer. I feel stuck and confused. How do I push forward?"}
{"id": "t3_ehvt5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What the f*k should I do now? Recently broken up with by a girl", "post": "Around March this time of the year, she broke up with me. My heart really shattered. It was my first relationship, my first love. We've been together for a little over a year. The breakup came because we had many problems in our relationship. This was totally understandable even though it was still very painful. Fast forward couple of months, I was able to get her back. Ever since, our problems dwindled, our happiness rose drastically. Every night, she told me she loves me and that she's really happy with me. I did everything I could to put a smile on my face.\n\nAnd now, 2 weeks ago on Thanksgiving, she broke up with me again. What is it this time? She wanted to \"explore\" life and find alternatives that are better for her. She wanted to find something of a better match. We are, according to her, way too different. \n\n2 years' worth of love and happiness, and now she throws it all away because she wants to enjoy new things. I personally think that's just really wrong. You shouldn't date someone, make all those promises, tell them to do everything to keep the relationship, and then throw it away because it's about damn time you go find something new. \n\n2 weeks later (current time), she is now dating her best friend. What the hell? The night before she broke up with me she still told me that she loves me. And now, not even a month after, she's already dating another guy. It's also this douchebag that talked to her all night and got her to break up with me.", "summary": "I don't know wtf to do now. I need some advice on what to do with my life. I go to school with her so I see her quite often. We went to high school together so we have the same circle of friends. I feel all alone because I can no longer hang out with my old friends. First time seeking help from reddit :("}
{"id": "t3_1nfdr6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19M and friend 20F, I talked to her with the intention of making her my girlfriend while she had a bf. Now i'm worried.", "post": "Me and my friend of a few months met at work started talking after getting to know each other and she tells me she has a boyfriend when i tell her that i like her. I think nothing of it and just talk to her to just to get to know her. Over time we both grow feelings for each other, i express mine and she doesn't. One day she opens up to me and lets me know that she has feelings for me. \n\nWe went out to a park for a few hours just to talk and we end up holding each other for a while. We go to the park 3 more times. Each time i can see that she is feeling guilty and she tells me that we should stop talking cause she doesn't feel right. We both agree that we are not doing the correct thing, (i later find out that its emotionally cheating) we decide to stop talking until she is single. \n\nShe has been with her bf for 5 years and i have never been in a serious relationship. I was just expressing my emotions and i felt so right with this girl, i stepped back after we talked and i realize i was being a jerk and disrespecting her relationship.\n\nMy question is should i be worried that she would emotionally cheat on me if we we're to later get into a serious relationship? Or we're we just both just innocent and ignorant?", "summary": "Me and a coworker (who is in a relationship) emotionally cheated and now im worried if she ever breaks up with him that she would cheat on me."}
{"id": "t3_24skc3", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Thinking of taking a year off", "post": "Hey everyone. Lately I've been feeling pretty unmotivated/lost regarding  college. I get the work done and I'm getting great grades but I feel like I am just going through the motions most of the time. I'm questioning why I'm putting myself into debt over something that I might not even come out employed from (I'm an english major so I am well aware that I am not as employable as someone in the STEM field). This was my first year, but I came in with credits from high school, so I am 3 classes shy of being a junior. \n\nI've been tempted to take the next calendar year off to work and hopefully hike the Appalachian trail. It's something I've wanted to do for awhile now, and I feel like I need it to clear my head. If I take classes over the summer/winter I won't \"fall behind\" and I will graduate in 2017 as expected. I'm just afraid that I will lose touch with the friends I have here, and of the very real possibility that I will not want to return after the time off. I just needed to rebound this off of people who maybe have been through the same thing.", "summary": "Do I take a year off to work/hike the AT or push through the next two and a half years?"}
{"id": "t3_3em57u", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Quick question re: wedding registry promo codes.", "post": "Target mailed us a small handful of promo codes to use towards our wedding registry. They're 15% off either one day's worth of brick and mortar shopping or one online purchase, for items on our registry. Each has a barcode [to scan] AND an online promo code. They're addressed to be used \"for friends and family.\"\n\nI'd like to make the codes available for people [guests] to use if they want them - I know some people are cheapskates like me and will search high and low for *anything* to slice a few bucks off a total. But there's a limited number and *super obviously* I can't just hand them out to people all like, \"here you go! Buy me stuff, cuz you'll get 15% off! Thanks bro.\" We have set up a wedding website - the info was on our STDs and will also be nestled somewhere on the formal invites, and we have a handful (34) of views already [guest list is only about 60 people long.] I recently added the registry to the website with no special wording - just on its own page with a link. I did this **after** I got an email from myregistry.com notifying me that someone had searched for ours [which is a little unnerving, considering I'd never heard of that website before then.]\n\nANYWAY. Bottom line, I'd like to put the codes on the website for people to use on a first-come-first-serve basis, but I have no clue how to tiptoe around the subject because etiquette registry is all 250395 kinds of complicated and regional and touchy. No one in person has directly broached the subject [website or registry] and I don't want to sound gift-grabby. But I'm honestly not going to use each and every one of these separate promo codes myself, especially given that our registry is pretty small in itself. I know that, as a past wedding guest, I would have wanted one. How do I phrase listing them in the least-offensive way possible? I *absolutely do not* trust any potential relative to discretely distribute them in person - especially when, again, there is a very limited number.", "summary": "Received several 15% off codes for items on my registry. Want to put them on website for people to use but need help wording it so I don't set off any of the existing 32049 wedding registry etiquette landmines."}
{"id": "t3_di7xh", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Driving in the US \u2013 What do I have to keep in mind as a European?", "post": "Ok, first US trip coming up. I will go to California, rent a car and drive around a lot. Are there any major differences when driving?\n\nThings I figured out so far:\n\nI think on multilane streets (highways, etc.) I can choose whatever lane I want and drive there at the speed limit, right? Here in Germany I need to take the right most lane and can only change lanes to pass slower cars.\n\nAnother thing\u2026 I heard you can take right turns at red traffic lights? Is this correct? Can I do this at any light or do I have to look for a sign that allows me to do this (that's how this works in Germany)?\nI would stop just like at any other red light and then very carefully drive into the intersection, right?\n\n__Edit__: Oh fuck, almsot forgot to get a new international drivers license\u2026 Just spent 2 hrs at our local motor authority but now I'm all set\u2026\n\n__Edit 2__: Ok, I'm in California right now and driving is super easy. I don't know why, but I kind of expected US drivers to be rude, selfish and overall bad at driving. The complete opposite is true, especially in the L.A. area. People are driving really relaxed, wave each other in, patiently waiting for pedestrians to cross the street. Very nice. I can see how driving in European traffic might be very frightening to US drivers LOL ;)\n\nOn the other hand the streets (up to the freeways) are in pretty shitty condition. No wonder they love SUVs here :) The whole Pickup thing is ridiculous though. Those people also seem to be the most likely to have their muffler seemingly completely removed.\n\nI also had an encounter with police when taking night shots of the Golden Gate bridge. Obviously I parked in a fire zone of some kind and got yelled (in a rather fatherly reminding way) with their PA system. Didn't get tasered, so I guess thats OK\u2026", "summary": "Driving in California is super easy\u2026"}
{"id": "t3_3gjvmu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Addicts can't be friends", "post": "Originally posted in /r/relationships.  I was told that I should have put it here. Sorry guys.\n\nI (female, 24) was living with a friend(female, 37) who is an addict, for 3 years. I'm also an addict. But I have my code of conduct which includes not stealing from injured, mentally ill, or old people. She has no such code.\n\nYesterday, I found out she stole pills from an elderly guy in our building with heart problems. After he saw the pills missing, she immediately said she saw me leaving his apartment. I haven't set foot in there except to fix his tv. \n\nAfter telling everyone that I stole the pills, she kicked me out and didn't give me enough time to pack. My name isn't on the lease so I'm assuming this is legal for her.\n\nBut now I'm homeless, broke because she stole all my money, and haven't eaten since before noon yesterday. \n\nI need advice on what to do. I hate losing friends because of drugs. That's why I have my code. But I still love that crazy chick like a sister.\n\nFirst time posting content and I'm on my phone so sorry for any errors. Also let me know if I posted in the wrong sub.", "summary": "was rooming with an addict for 3 years because I am also an addict. She got caught stealing, blamed me, and now I'm homeless and broke."}
{"id": "t3_26p8h4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] started talking to a woman on OKC [23 F] that used to cut, not sure if I should continue?", "post": "I've been on OKCupid for a while and I finally really hit it off with a woman I met about a week ago. We've been texting each other a lot, trading pictures, sharing our interests, etc, (even a little naughty stuff, which was been really awesome haha since it's been a while for me) but last night I found out she cuts. She said her last time was in April, and sent me a picture of her legs so that they weren't shocking for me whenever we met (we plan to meet next week), and I was a bit shocked, needless to say. I cut in my past and tore up my arm pretty bad (people notice my scars), but her legs were disastrous; far worse than my arm is.\n\nI appreciate her being honest with me though, and she did mention she battles depression and anxiety. I myself battle anxiety and bipolar disorder, however I'm on medication and feel pretty stable. She said she just takes vitamins and \"refuses\" to take medication... so I don't know if that's a red flag or not. I've been reading Relationships for Dummies and I know mental stability is very important, so I just don't know if I should pursue this or not. She also told me she stopped checking her OKC after we started texting; I haven't. Not sure what to make of that either.", "summary": "Finally hit it off with a gorgeous woman with similar interest on OKC near me, but a bit skeptical of the situation, need some outside input."}
{"id": "t3_te0ib", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fuck I just found out some optical Surgeries I had may have been botched.  My remaining eye is inoperable and I have a cataract. What should I do?", "post": "6 years ago I had severe myopia corrected by implantable lenses (phakic Iola).  Before. The correction I required was -20 ds -26 s after the Iols I only needed -.5 and -6.  But then I had a retinal tear in the good eye and required 5 surgeries over the course of two months to try to fix it.  It was not fixed and now my right eye has very low pressure and I can see some things but not much.  Then last year I noticed my remaining eye was not seeing as well as usual.  After I got a new retinologost everyone I met wondered why the iol in my retinal tear eye was not removed or I should say they wondered until they read my retinaologosts file then they never talked about it again.   The iol is smashed against the iris and repeated trauma has caused many of the cillary bodies that produce vitrueas to atrophy.  That has caused the reduced eye pressure and caused the eye to shrink.  \nAfter the cataract developed the cataract surgeon was all about removing the cataract but decided to hold off until he could consult with others. This was fine with me as my wife was expecting.   Then he called me and let it slip that not removing the lense was a big mistake and against normal protocols. He obviously regretted saying that immediately. Bloke it was some kind of secret.    Fuck. He was the best surgeon. He had terrible bed side manner. (he's a meme in the retina community).  \n\nSo what do I do now?    I think by end of year I won't be able to drive.  Right now I have to use a 30inch monitor to work.  I also lots of visual artifacts and def can not drive after dark. I loose about a line on the eye chart every 2 weeks. \nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Surgeon I respected may have fucked up my vision after not following surgical protocol."}
{"id": "t3_fm1j2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to tell a guy in love with me who has social anxiety dissorder I don't want to be friends anymore.", "post": "Ok, so here's my situation. \nI started a job 2 years ago. The guy who worked in my department was a really shy nerdy guy. Me being the outgoing type and love to talk and joke with people while I'm working kept trying to get him to have fun and joke around. After a few months he finally started to come around so I invited him out for dinner and drinks with the regular crew from the other departments after work. Still super awkward but better. We hung out n stuff n he admitted he has really bad anxiety issues and social anxiety dissorder. So I tried to help him with it n come out more. And he did and seriously thanked me for being there for him and helping him out.\n\nFast forward to us being outside of work friends. He met up with me one day in a park before we were going to meet friends from work n see a movie. Sits me down and reads me a TYPED love letter (with clip-art) where he proceeds to tell me how much he loves me, how hes never had a girlfriend, been kissed or had sex, trashes my boyfriend saying how hes not right for me, and says he'll wait for me if I want etc. I have NO IDEA how to react to this so simply say I'm not interested but we're still friends and proceed with a super awkward outing with our friends.\n\nFast forward again, he wont stop saying suggestive things, creeping on me, calling everyday, fbing me everyday even though I've told him to stop. I even had to tell him to stop talking to me for a month because he was seriously bothering me. He then proceeds to take the exact same class as me at the same time on the same date and after pretty much follows me home even though I live west and he lives east because I've since quit this job and this is the only time he sees me.\nI'm done with this friendship. He's ruined it by doing this. I feel bad and don't want to crush him and break all the serious improvement he's made so far but this is driving me absolutely crazy. \n\nAny suggestions on what I should do?", "summary": "befriended a guy with S.A.D and now he's in love with me and I want him to go away but don't want to crush him."}
{"id": "t3_1fc86p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What advice can you give me on finding a new job?", "post": "Ok so I've been working for the same company since I was 16.  I started as a bagger at this grocery store named Kash N' Karry.  Since then I've transferred to their warehouse.  \n\nSo to the point, the company has been going through bad times and it's closed many stores, last quarter it actually made a profit and our parent company has sold the brand to another company; but the warehouse was not a part of that sale and in six months I will be losing my job. \n\nDuring my time with the company I attempted school.  I wanted more than anything to be an animator.  I dabbled in drawing but I've never felt like I was very good.  I know a lot of artist say this but to this day I'm horrible at drawing from imagination.  I used to be very skilled at drawing what I saw in front of me but it has been many years since I've done that and I'm basically at square one with that skill.  School sadly did not work out for me, I've never been diagnosed, but I believe I suffer from ADHD based on the symptoms, which made school difficult and I suffered depression because at the time I just thought I was a loser who couldn't get his act straight.  (And maybe that was and still is the case.)\n\nI need to find a new job but my problem is that I don't have many skills I feel will help me with finding one, especially one that doesn't involve flipping burgers.  I'm not above doing that but I would like to try to find a better job before I take one that will severely cut my pay, which I honestly can't afford.  So if the wonderful people of reddit could give me some advice I would appreciate it.  I know more information will be needed in order to provide good advice and I will be glad to provide more details as you guys need them.", "summary": "I'm a loser who will be losing his job in six months due to layoffs,  with a serious lack, or awareness, of skills and would like reddit's help in my future job search."}
{"id": "t3_34tv02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "30/F with my 33/M 2 year on/off bf", "post": "I have been dating the same guy for the past two years. Everything reminds me of him to the point that its killing me. We decided to part ways last week but truthfully I can't picture a future without him. How do you keep the one you love, or can't picture a future with out? Because letting go doesn't seem like something I can do.. or maybe I just don't want to let go. I'm not ready, I see a future with him, I wish he still saw the same future with me. My heart aches in ways I never imagined.", "summary": "I can't picture a future without my ex bf I dated for 2 years.. we just parted ways last week after trying to make things work this past year. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_ii4uh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I know a lot of ISPs get a LOT of hate around here, so tell us some of your good ISP stories!", "post": "I know lately the ISP stories floating lately have been nothing short of anger inducing (especially in the US), but surely there must be some good experiences out there, so share them! I will start.\n\nFor the past few days my internet has been jumping down to about 1/3 of its speed (usually around peak hours), and then back up to decent speed, back down, etc. I had this problem a couple of years ago, and it was fixed remotely fairly quickly once I called. So I figured I would call again to see if they could do anything and unfortunately they could not fix it remotely and they said they would send a tech the next day. I later got a call saying that a tech would be unable to fix the problem, as the problem was with high bandwidth usage users in the area, now I know a lot of people will probably call that out, but I can actually understand, sort of, where they are coming from, the area I live in has a lot of people and just about everyone has the exact same plan, the wiring around the area in general (from power lines, to every cable possible) is terrible, I digress, the point is I can see where they are coming from. So in the end the lately offered my a $10 discount per month, for the next 12 months as they work to resolve the issue. It may not be as good as having my true internet speed 24/7, but I was damn well surprised that ATT of all people actually offered me a discount.", "summary": "my internet was going slower than usual, I called att, they couldn't do anything but offered me a $10 discount per month for the next 12 months."}
{"id": "t3_429tpw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fucking up an air pass in basketball and making the school get a new fire alarm system", "post": "Obligatory: this happened 10 years ago when I was 17 (2006); when I was a high school senior; when I was on the school's senior ball team.\n\nNow at that time, my high school had fire alarm pull handles in the gym which protruded, were of a curved design, and had clear plastic covers over them.\n\nLet's just say that, during a game, I missed the teammate I was trying to pass to, who was just inches away from out of bounds; the ball went into the OOB zone and then knocked the clear plastic cover of the fire alarm pull switch which somehow activated the alarm (something I never knew until then as I thought you had to pull it; TIL).\n\nThe game stopped when the alarm started to go off. Luckily for me and probably all of us, the school principal was watching the game and saw what happened, so he went to explain to the firefighters who just rolled in and hopped out of their truck, and they left after shutting it off.\n\nNeedless to say, the school got for the gym some new, flat-design pull handles, made recesses in the walls so their fronts would be flush with the wall when mounted, and put metal doors over them that balls couldn't knock open **and** couldn't activate the alarm. At least I (or anyone else on the team, or even the whole team) never had to pay as it was just an accident and \"shitty design\" (exact words of the principal).", "summary": "Fucked up an air pass during a game of ball, activated fire alarm, firefighters came, made the school get a new system for the gym"}
{"id": "t3_1bvgfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(m20) think my gf(20) may be interested in another man.", "post": "A small back story. \n\nWe have been saying over a year now, and the man i think she's interested in is very familiar with her. She used to work at a resteraunt/bar where he would come in 3 times a week or so. His comments used to be ray to brush off as i know she can't stop people from saying things to her. But the place she worked at closed over Christmas. And i hoped out was over. \n\nWell it's been a few months since then, and now she is working for him( in a place he owns attached to his house). And over the last month or two, we've been having some problems. Mostly communication, and I'm doing all i can to talk to her, but she seems distant. And it's really hard for me to try and bring this up because I've been having severe anxiety and panic attacks lately. \n\nAnd I've always trusted her. She has worked in her me job for a couple months now, and I've been accepting of it because I know she needs the job. But I've just been paranoid about everything lately. \n\nAnd finally last night i woke up around 3 am and couldn't get the thoughts put of my mind. And i went though her phone. I know what i did was wrong and i feel terrible for it. But i found some texts to this guy that were VERY suspicious. I know that he his on her and don't care, but what i read hit me hard. In the texts (i won't share full details) he implies she has done some sexual acts, and she does not deny them. He also implies he had seen her naked/ half naked. And i woke her up to ask her about it. She admits she was taking to him and said what i read was just him screwing with her a he usually does, and her just screwing around with him. \n\nI trust her and love he very much, but i can't get over this. I don't want to break up with her. I just needed someone to talk to and maybe tell me I'm not insane. \n\nSorry for the rambling post but o just needed to say this.", "summary": "gf may be interested in another guy am i overly jelous or justified"}
{"id": "t3_1x5rg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [18 F] keeps bringing up my boyfriend's [18 M] ex and their past to be funny [18 F].", "post": "During sophomore year of high school, my friend got his girlfriend pregnant and she got an abortion. And everyone found out.\n\nA year later, I got into a relationship with that friend. \n\nPresent day, I've been in this relationship for almost 10 months and I'm happy. \n\nMy best friend and I are inseparable so that means wherever my boyfriend and I go...she goes. A lot of people see her as a third wheel but my boyfriend and I don't really care. I mean, we're all friends. \n\nWhen we all started hanging out, I noticed she'd casually bring up my boyfriend's ex as a joke. So I'd laugh and get over. Lately I've been noticing she's been bringing up his ex more often and being more...of an asshole about it. \n\nSaying stuff like, \"Let's all go hang out with [your ex] and talk.\" or \"You think [your ex] is home right now?\" or \"Don't you think it's weird [your ex] lives right down the street from you? Do you ever hang out with her?\"\n\nWhen it's just us two, she always seems to randomly bring up his ex and ask me questions like, \"How do you feel knowing your boyfriend got someone else pregnant?\" or \"Is it weird knowing that they both lost their virginity to each other?\" or \"What do you think of [his ex] getting pregnant and getting an abortion?\"\n\nI try very hard to forget about what happened between my boyfriend and his ex because this is my first relationship and I don't want anything to ruin it but my best friend just won't stop.\n\nI told her how her questions and comments make me feel and she said, \"Oh my bad.\"\n\nShe continues to make these comments about his ex. \n\nI need advice on how to stop this.", "summary": "best friend keeps bringing up my boyfriend's ex and their past, makes me feel insecure about my relationship with him, she won't stop, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_2sgqoy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[IL/NY] Stupid question: vendor mailed package via USPS but it seems to have vanished. Who bears responsibility?", "post": "I purchased something from an online vendor in IL. I've made about 5 purchases from this vendor in the past year. This time, I paid extra for two day USPS priority. Their website indicates the order was shipped, and the USPS website tells me it was received at the local USPS office a week ago. The USPS website tells me the package is 'in transit' though there are no notifications of the package leaving the facility.  \n\nI've done everything I can in terms of contacting the vendor, contacting USPS, and calling the local USPS referred to in USPS tracking, and calling the local USPS sorting facility to whom the local facility referred me.   \n\nMy question is: I've paid for this item and I haven't received it. Who is legally responsible? It's only $100-ish, so not a huge deal, but, do I let the vendor keep my money even though I never received my order? Or do they have a responsiblity to make good on the order?", "summary": "I ordered something, paid for it, and didn't get it. Who eats the cost? The vendor? Me? USPS?   "}
{"id": "t3_2bw6y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to feel about what happened, distressed. Advice greatly appreciated.", "post": "This is a re-post from r/rape but I figured I would post it here too because it's something that I need to get off my chest.\n\nA couple of months ago, my boyfriend wanted to try anal sex. I agreed, however, as soon as he started penetrating me, I realized I didn't want to go through with it because it was uncomfortable and painful. I started saying \"stop\" repeatedly and at first, he was still inside me. He didn't pull out immediately, but after about 20 seconds he did. ( The details of this encounter are hazy because it was awhile ago). I basically curled up into a little ball after he pulled out, and then he started asking me if I was okay, what was wrong, etc. I told him I was annoyed that he didn't stop after my first initial \"stop\" and he told me that he didn't mean to disregard what I was saying, but that he basically just didn't know if I wanted him to pull out completely or to just stop thrusting or whatever. \n\nAnyway, fast forward to the present. Now when we're being intimate, I sometimes think of that experience and I feel violated. It makes me feel detached and disconnected, and kind of gross. I don't feel like I was actually raped, but I also don't feel super great about what happened either. I would really appreciate someone's perspective on this.", "summary": "My boyfriend made me feel violated, but I still love him and know he's a good person. I'm just at a loss."}
{"id": "t3_1tub5o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23, m] asked a friend [23, f] out per text message. Things got awkward.", "post": "I think I made the mistake by asking a good friend out per text message for tonight in the local ice arena \u2013 I would have liked to go to ice skating with her because I like her. We are both on a good level (but not that much depth in the friendship, rarely KINO).\nI just thought to try it \u2013 but she replied she couldn't understand the message (ah yes the friendzone), what do I want exactly... she replied she had already planned to meet friends to play board games. I replied to her that it was just an idea to ask \"a good friend\", I wanted to go to ice skating.   \nWhat it really made it a bit awkward tonight: she came with her friends (one is my roommate, yes we have close friend circles here) to our apartment to play these board games. She said hello, I said hello. But none of us was talking about these messages these two hours while she was playing games (we weren't alone). I think I will never ever again ask a girl out per text message... What should I have react to her \"hi\"? What should I do next, maybe there is still something in the pipeline with her? I'll see her (yes, with friends) the next days (NYE, parties). Maybe something like \"hey this is no deal to go for ice skating. Stay cool\"?", "summary": "asked a friend out for ice skating, she visited our apartment with friends unintentionally -> awkward moment for me. Advice needed."}
{"id": "t3_2fxk9s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By saying my friend's roommate looked like she was hit by a bus.", "post": "We went to visit my friend at her new University apartment and her roommate was sitting eating dinner.\n\nWhen she left the room my friends commented on how good looking she was (she was a solid 9/10 - 10/10) but me being an arsehole I thought it would be funny to to disagree with them and say that it looked like she had been hit by a bus. If you were apart of my friend group that would be known as a 'classic Bobieses thing to say'.\n\nI am just finding out today that (it happened last night) SHE FUCKING HEARD ME and not being a part of my group assumed I was being serious.\n\nP.S. I was drunk.", "summary": "Jokingly called extremely hot ugly thinking that she had left the room and my friends would find it funny."}
{"id": "t3_2gd2pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my _girlfriend__ [17F] duration, 4 years. What should i do?", "post": "Okay. Here goes. \n  My girlfriend told me on Sunday that we weren't working out and we need to talk about our relationship. So we both agreed to meet on Monday. When i met her, i could tell from her eyes that she was very sad. So she told me that our relationship has a lot of cracks and it isnt working out anymore and we should stop talking to each other for 2 months. So i told her that the thought of not able to talk to her for a day would kill me already. In the end we decided to not talk to each other for 1 month. \n\n  So out of curiousity, i asked her if there was another guy in the picture. She told me that she was talking to this guy whom was her classmate and they were just normal friends. So at night i send her a long message regarding our relationship on how i wish we could work things out and forget about this 1 month deal. She didn't reply me but i could see that she was on whatsapp. So i asked her again, what is the relationship of her and this guy. She told me \"He is a great guy, as of now he is my soul mate\" A part of me died when she said that.\n\n  I broke down in front of my family and they told me that, maybe that 2 months time was her buffer time, to see if she works out with the other guy or not. If it doesn't work out, she will come back to me. So im like her rebound guy. \n\n  So i would like to ask you guys for your advice. What she is feeling right now for the other guy, could it just be an infatuation? I mean she've known him for like maybe 1-2 months. I don't know what to do. She has already became part of my life, now that she's gone. I'm lost.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1l2jfv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[49F] with my potential date [30M]; How old is too old?", "post": "A few years ago, I found myself back on the dating scene.  After my relationship ended, I went a couple of years before I even wanted to date, but even so, I'm shocked at how few date-able people there are my age.\n\nWhat sucks is that most of the date-able guys in my town are in their twenties.  I've never thought of myself as a cougar and I'm really self conscious about hanging out with even late 20 somethings as friends.  But the sad thing is, I have little in common with people my age.\n\nI exercise regularly, keep myself trim, and I like playing video games and taking classes at the university.  I probably look slightly younger than my age, and I've been told that I'm attractive, but I don't think I'm one of those women who have \"hardly aged\". \n\nSo, here's the problem. I've met a great guy and we really hit it off.  We have lots in common and time just flies when we hang out together.  I already know that for him the age gap is too large, so we're going to only be friends.  I just want to get a general idea though...in general, how big an age gap would 28-32 year olds on reddit be willing to consider?", "summary": "Age gap.  How much is too much even if you have loads in common and have a blast being with each other?"}
{"id": "t3_4443pr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my husband [30M] want to fire our realtors/long time family friends [70sM/F] How to go about doing this without ruining friendship?", "post": "My husband and I are in the process of trying to sell our house and went with my families long time friends to handle this for us. I have known them since I was 4 years old, and they have helped buy/sell every house for my family in our area since then. \n\nThe problem is, they are getting way up there in age and are losing it. We signed with them last week and in just one week we have encountered the following problems- our signing paperwork all printed out with our address wrong, wrong directions to our house in the MLS, their request for our sign being sent to the wrong email which has resulted in us not having a for sale sign at our house, a miscommunication about an open house which left us with 2 hours notice to get the place as clean as possible and get out of the house for the day, a window being left open (in very cold weather!) and a candle left burning after said open house, the inability to find several houses for sale that we are interested in that we easily pulled up on several real estate websites, including their own offices website, a 2 inch stack of papers that were printed out when only 3 or 4 of those pages were needed (they waste a LOT of paper.) I don't know, maybe these all sound like petty issues. But when you're paying somebody as much as a realtor, you shouldn't need to be correcting them at every turn, and finding your own houses to look at, right? \n\nThere is more to it as we had issues the last time we went with them but overlooked the issues as our house sold fast and that's what mattered to us. I can get into more detail if anyone wants to hear it, but the bottom line here is we are not happy with the situation and would like to hire another realtor.\n\nHow do we handle this delicately? They really are nice people, but at the same time we feel like we need to do what is best for us. We're stumped as to how to handle this without causing problems. My family completely understands our feelings on the matter, but I don't want to cause any sort of bad feelings.", "summary": "Not happy with our realtors which happen to be long time family friends. How can we fire them without causing problems?"}
{"id": "t3_223jzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] finally asked out my friend [17 F] on a date, this is a post where I give you the updates", "post": "**[Original post](\n\n*Thursday:* \n\n* I went to work at 7am and asked my boss if I could leave at 1:30pm, he said yes.\n\n* I called her asking if she needed a ride home from school (this is why I asked for a shorter day) and she happily accepted my offer. I did this because I wanted to ask her out face-to-face and not on the phone.\n* I went to her school at 2pm and waited for her in the cafeteria, when she got out of class we walked to my car and started driving to her house.\n* On the way we talked about the usual stuff and when we were about 5 minutes away I asked her what plans she had for the weekend and she said she had nothing to do and that she'll just stay at home. I asked her if she'd like to go out with me and before I could end my sentence, she said yes (I felt so relieved and happy).\n\n* We are going to the movies on Friday", "summary": "Asked my friend out and she said yes"}
{"id": "t3_mapkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How intense is too intense?", "post": "So here's the situation: I'm 23, my boyfriend is 21. We've been dating 11 months and, even though it's a cliche, I couldn't be happier. \n\nWe got to know (and had crushes on) each other for a long time before we started dating, which meant the relationship got intense very quickly (very quickly. Like, we said \"I love you\" at 3 months.)\n\nI thought the intensity would lessen after the \"honeymoon period\" ended but our relationship has just gotten closer and closer, so that now we can't go a day without seeing each other. He went away for a week and we were both miserable. We have a lot of friends in common so we often socialise together too.\n\nWhat worries me is that I used to be a very independent person and now I feel like I'm voluntarily giving up that autonomy. We're planning on moving in together next year and I'm concerned we'll get more and more attached to each other. I (probably incorrectly) think of myself as creative and thinking about him all the time is stifling my creativity. Yet, at the same time, I'm happier than I've ever been.\n\nSo my question is, should I just do what my friends suggest and \"enjoy it while it lasts?\" Or should I try to put distance between us, even though it'd hurt him and be hard for me?", "summary": "love my bf to bits but worried the relationship is too intense"}
{"id": "t3_2vsahe", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Multiple IRA Accounts with Vanguard", "post": "This is follow-up to [my previous post] about a tricky IRA/Roth IRA situation I got myself into by making more money than I was planning to this year.\n\nI put money into a Roth IRA at the start of 2014, and now realized I can't contribute to a Roth. After some help and suggestions from my previous post I decided to Recharacterize the Roth IRA contributions as a Non-deductible IRA and then do a back door Roth conversion.\n\nHowever I currently have a rollover IRA with Vanguard from an old 401k. Does anyone know if I am able to open a separate IRA with Vanguard? If not then I will move the Rollover IRA into my fidelity 401k, but I would rather keep it with Vanguard if needed.", "summary": "Can I have two separate IRAs (Rollover IRA and non-deductible IRA) with Vanguard?"}
{"id": "t3_31kegp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've 23m] have just discovered my gf[26f] of 6 years has been cheating on me", "post": "i don't even know what to do right now, this is literally something that has happened in the last half hour, as in, I've only just found out.\n\nso a brief overview, I've been struggling with alcoholism for about a year, if you look over my profile you can see such things talking about how my gf nearly broke up with me and issues we've had, all due to my alcohol problems. I've no excuse for my behavior during drunkenness, i only have the fact that I've been really trying hard to change. As it turns out my actions to change have not been enough and have driven my gf into the arms of another man. i only know because i looked at her facebook messages, im not entirely sure why I've ever looked at them because I've never suspected her of straying, but out of nowhere, after pushing through problems we've had i now know shes not only cheated but is pretty much having an affair with this guy. it connects allot of dots of her being so much more affectionate and attentive which i now understand to be guilt. \n\ni feel numb, and i dont know what to do.", "summary": "im a drunken bum and my gf is cheating on me"}
{"id": "t3_25cyc3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "M22 Still a Virgin, Some advice?", "post": "Okay, throwaway here.\n\nSo, uhh, well I've never had a \"real\" girlfriend. I've had two online girlfriends, one who I traveled half way across North America to meet. We made out while I was there, it's the only time I've ever kissed a girl. \n\nI'm a small guy, I'm not really all that shy actually, but I have a hard time relating to people and people often think I'm much younger than I actually am (A few weeks ago, two people asked me what high school I go to when I just graduated from university last weekend...). \n\nI can carry on a conversation well, but I don't get social cues and I have a hard time just joking around. I have a passion for cars and when I'm not at work, I'm in a garage working on cars. This means that I'm not out meeting people very often. I go to bars, on occasion but I feel really out of place there and I don't like them.\n\nI just don't feel all that comfortable in social settings. I'm fine at work, because I know what kind of interactions I'm supposed to have. Or at school, because there's something that needed doing. But when there's no clear expectation of anything, I have no idea what to do or say. I'm one of those guys who people always tell me how smart I am, but yet I'm oblivious to the subtle social cues that people exhibit. I try to watch for them and study them, but they're hard to replicate.\n\nI just want to connect to people, to feel comfortable around them and to enjoy being around them. Right now, if I spend too much time around people, I begin to feel really drained.\n\nSorry for the long post.", "summary": "I want to learn how to connect with people (women especially) with the idea of having a girlfriend and losing my virginity."}
{"id": "t3_3z9wno", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by nearly circumcising my girlfriend.", "post": "Today, my girlfriend and I were finally together and alone back at home after 2 weeks spent visiting parents.\nIn order to prepare for sexy times, I offered to trim her lady bits as I usually do, however, in the excitement of it all, I caught the top of the clit and she let out a scream as if I murdered her genitals, after a lot of apologising, comforting her, I asked her if I should finish the job, then promptly caught a bit of her inner thigh.\nShe's ok and I've been given a temporary ban on going anywhere near her with that trimmer.", "summary": "went to trim the bush, got the squirrel."}
{"id": "t3_2rcw5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF [28 F] 1 yr, how to handle different schedules when co-habitating", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and she stays over most nights (5 or 6 a week). On weekdays, she has a considerably earlier schedule than me. Her alarm goes off at 6, and I don't need to get up until 8. She also has the tendency to snooze. I don't really want to be awakened at 6, but I know that's kind of part of the deal when sleeping in the same bed with someone. \n\nAre there any strategies so that I can get as much sleep as I need, while still allowing her to get up on time? I was thinking something like earplugs (but I still need to hear my alarm), or even just switching my schedules to hers and using those 2 hours productively.", "summary": "Girlfriend's alarm goes off 2 hours before mine. How do I get my sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_3vj1ke", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By dancing with a drunk MILF and danced so well she thought I was gay", "post": "Day before Thanksgiving, my friends and I went out and got so drunk that I had a hangover so bad I missed Friendsgiving. So tonight we thought we'd take it easy and have a couple beers and enjoy our cities nightlife. \nWith one friend (happens to be another guy) found Irish Pub and decided to stick around because they had a live band playing 80's music tonight. We were enjoying our drinks laughing/having a good time watching people dance to the live band. Struck up a conversation with this lady as we all drank and were enjoying our night. Eventually she asked me to dance, I initially turned her down cause I said I'm shy and don't think I can dance sober (really, I love dancing, I don't care how embarrassing I look, drunk or sober). She was very adamant and 'convinced' me to join her. We danced to the band's cover of 'Beat it' by Michael Jackson. Never had the opportunity to grind to this song, especially with her husband nearby, but I eventually ditched her to dance by myself. Once the song ended, I apparently danced so well, afterwards she said, \"wow your partner is lucky you're such a good dancer, otherwise I'd steal you from him\". I responded with, \"partner?\" and she said, \"yea aren't you gay?\". Devastated, I told her I was straight and to change subjects immediately ask why her husband didn't want to dance with her....random guy wasn't her husband. Got out of there as fast as possible.", "summary": "Drinking at a bar with one friend (happens to be a guy), MILF asked me to dance and danced so well, she thought I was gay which I followed up with \"Why didn't your husband want to dance with you?\"....wasn't her husband, left immediately."}
{"id": "t3_4tcmqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M/F] with my boyfriend [27M/B], 3 years together, he extended his vacation to cheat", "post": "My boyfriend for over 2years , has decided to go to our home country because a medical emergency in his family, and he left within a week, and was supposed to come back on the 20th of June , however on the 19th of June he calls me to let me know that he's not going to come back, he extended his vacation for 1 more month, which I was understanding because of his family's medical issues, but in the mean time his mom also went back to our home country, same reason, and today she called me to tell me that my BF is not really ever home, his hanging out with his buddies, coming home late, and he didn't really stayed home being preoccupied about what's going on in their families and to top it off he also is coming back on the 19 of August , but he still hasn't told me that. \n\nAlso I have his FB password, and I never used, but today I tried to log on to his profile and guess what , he change it recently ..... And that's not all, he also is traveling across Europe to visit family and friends, mostly friends , and he's always very shady about where he's staying or with who? \n\nNow I know the signs of a cheater , but still, I guess I like to give people multiple chances, and also he's forgetting to call me a few whole days, and finding always a good excuse, in normal condition I would have broken up, but we're planning a wedding , and just moved in together, my family is coming all the way to the US in a few months to meet him, they have tickets and everything, so the situation sucks, and I Haven't confronted him still, but I tink I will give him an ultimatum, because he was supposed to be here for my bday as well, we have everything schedule.", "summary": "He just left my feelings and opinion and did his thing, now there are two option he found some side action and he still likes to stay and enjoy , while I send him money for his poor sick family member, or he is getting cold feet either way, I will give him an ultimatum, any idea how to approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_3yw7ch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [29m]-- normal relationship anxiety or time to break up?", "post": "ive been dating a great guy for almost six months. He's been the best boyfriend a girl can have, and I love him very much. However, I just can't shake the feeling that we aren't \"meant to be.\" \n\nHe's my best friend and we have great sex, so I don't understand where these feelings are coming from. I do have really severe axiety, but how can I tell if this is the anxiety talking or my gut? I've been up all night crying over these feelings, and he's been doing his best to comfort me. I definitely don't want to lead him on, but I also don't want to throw away something great. \n\nI'd say I'm happy 85% of the time in this relationship. This is the longest I've dated anyone, so I'm not sure how to proceed.", "summary": "great man, but unsure if anxiety or gut is telling me to leave."}
{"id": "t3_21ymfm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(21M) am not sure what to do with my girlfriend (21F)", "post": "I've been together with this girl for about 9 months now, we come from different states but met at uni. We got together 2 weeks before she had to fly home(for 3 months). We promised that we would visit each other during that break.\n\nThe thing is 2 days, after we officially got together we went on a trip with 2 other friends( a guy and a girl). The thing is during the trip my gf was especially cold to me, and told me not to reveal our relationship to 'not make things awkward'. She would be nice to me when we were alone but when we were with our guy friend(lets call him M) she would push me away etc. After the trip i told her that i wasn't fine with it and she promised that she would our friends know that we were together.\n\nDuring the break, my gf talked to M often and would occasionally go out for dinner as they both lived in the same state. I eventually found out that eventhough they spent so much time together M was still under the impression that she was single. I got really angry and she eventually told him after we fought. A few months after i found out that she was secretly planning a trip with M(and other friends), and i found it odd especially since we were basically have the same circle of friends.\n\nBesides that, during the break i found out that she was spending time with her ex(and other friends) and even went on a trip with him. The whole time this happened i was under the impression that her ex knew that she was taken. It was only months after that i found out that she didn't tell him about us and her ex actually confessed to her, which apparently she rejected. I found this out by going through her phone(meaning she never intended for me to know), i also found out that she invited him to stay at her place when he came down to visit.\n\nI haven't actually confronted my gf about this because i have no concrete proof that she is cheating, this issue has really bothered me affecting my sleep and appetite. I would like to know from a 3rd person perspective what do you guys think.", "summary": "Gf seems reluctant to tell friends about us being together, appears to be too friendly with her male friend,caught her inviting her ex over when he visits."}
{"id": "t3_33hjcx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Lighting the wrong thing.", "post": "Soooo..... This is my first post so don't kill me. \n\nI am probably the definition of a massive nerd, I read comics, build PC's and am in the Lighting Crew for our drama plays.\n\nSo I was asked to go and help out the Primary part of our school with the tech (Primary is 6-10 years old) and I got to miss Double Maths so of course I accepted.\n\nI was helping the Juniors with the tech when one of the \"Bright Sparks\" (That's a pun read on and you'll understand) decides to knock over the switch for the spotlight, he pretends to not have done it, we all go along with as he's about 9 and pulled his cute face (who can shout at a 9 year old) and so I try to fix it, this is wear the FU begins so I see a part of the switch had broken the circuit and thought it was a piece of metal and so I grabbed it, which sent 400 volts up my arm and i recoiled as fast a Fucking snake on cocaine who just touched an old lady's tit, my arm started to spasm and I thought I would get superpowers or something, then my arm went dead and went to numb to pain, this was only the beginning of the problems it caused 2 problems \nProblem No1) When I was in my next lesson (arm dead to the world) I asked to my teacher to see if I should check My dead arm out with the school nurse. Then my brain clicked. HIS FRIEND JUST DIED BECAUSE OF AN ELECTRIC CABLE. He got very concerned and started problem No2 \nProblem No2) He started a full scale health and safety check into the schools electrical appliances and into the Tech Team, I had to go to a LOT of meetings the entire tech team now has to sign a big contract and now every teacher hates me including The Tech Team FML", "summary": "I was watching little kids and then jumpstarted my arm"}
{"id": "t3_sov7o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What stupid pranks/jokes have teenagers done to you that completely backfired?", "post": "I was hanging out downtown with my friend and we were standing at the corner of an intersection to wait for the crosswalk.\n\nI'm talking to my friend when all of the sudden a stream of water (at least I hope it was water) hits me in the face. Confused, I see my friend, mouth agape, pointing at a car that was taking a turn at our corner. Apparently it was full of teenagers and one of the kids in the backseat had a Super Soaker or something.\n\nMy first reaction was \"OH HELL NO.\" And I suddenly decided to run after the car like a mad man. The blocks in our downtown are fairly short and the intersections off the main path are all 4-way stops. The teenagers kept getting held up by lines of cars waiting at stop signs, giving me ample time to catch up to them.\n\nI could hear them yelling to each other through the open windows, \"DUDE, HE'S COMING AFTER US. GET OUTTA HERE.\" At one point, I was able to pound my fist on the trunk of the car. At that point they decided to just book it. They swerved into the oppose lane, run two stop signs, and then I see a cop car in the next intersection give chase to them, flashing lights and all.\n\nI'm gasping for air as I'm watching this unfold. My friend finally catches up to me after a bit and I told him those idiots were going to get pulled over. We decided to bounce ASAP in case anyone began wondering why some Asian guy was chasing after a car full of kids.", "summary": "Kids in car shoot me with strange liquid, I chase them, they run two stop signs and get pulled over by cops."}
{"id": "t3_2v53g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend's(f/18) adoptive father will beat her if he finds out she is with me (m/21)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have secretly been together for 2 years now. 4 years ago we were together, but when her violent and racist adoptive parents went through her phone and found out she was texting me, a half black atheist, they threatened to have me arrested. Her father also hit her, and both parents called her a whore for a while after. That was when she was 14.\n\nSo now, we got back together regardless. It has been very difficult having a secret relationship due to fear of being caught. Recently she told me that despite her being 18, if her parents found out her dad would assault her again, and she is 100% certain of this.\n\nSo you may be thinking, \"oh that's easy just move out.\" Which is what I told her, however she has no money. My parents who I still currently stay with are friends with her parents, and would most likely not let her stay here because of that. She doesn't make enough to live on her own, and she is starting community college soon. Her parents are paying for all of it, since she cant afford it on her own. And even if she moved out, she would get no financial aid for school because her parents make too much money. If she worked more hours, she would have to sacrifice her schooling, which she doesn't want to do.\n\nShe tells me that she wants to just keep things secret, and keep doing what we have been doing. I had no idea that he hit her in the past, or that he would hit her again if he found out about me until yesterday. It makes me feel horrible, and I dont want her to be living in a house with a man who will be violent with her. But she tells me she doesn't want me to do anything about it. \n\nCan anyone give outside insight into this situation? What should I do? How should I feel? I dont know how to handle this situation.", "summary": "girlfriend's adoptive father hates me for no reason and would beat her if he found out about me, but she needs their money because she doesn't want to struggle through full time work and school, so she says she wants to stay secret even though its taking a toll on our relationship, and I want to keep her safe."}
{"id": "t3_3zqcs9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [41 M] with my wife [40 F] finally decided to split. 3 little kids involved. Advice?", "post": "After 10 years of marriage, 5+ years of arguing, years of not respecting each other, and not even liking each other a lot of the time we finally agreed to separate and we both believe it will lead to divorce. We have tried extensive counselling, tried working at it, but we just have completely different outlooks on life and we can't reconcile them. \n\nI'm currently looking at places to move out to. \n\nI'm pretty certain it will ultimately lead to happier lives for both of us but in the mean time we have three kids between the ages of 3 & 6, and I don't know how I'm going to deal with breaking their hearts.\n\nI'm pretty certain the decision is made. I'd really like to hear from anyone who went through something similar (or even kids who were young when they experienced parent's divorcing) and what advice they have in hindsight.", "summary": "10 years of marriage, both of us want a divorce, three little kids involed. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4cz8xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/f] don't know what is acceptable in my relationship [26/m] because I have nothing to compare off of", "post": "I've only been in 2 relationships in my life. I don't have many friends or family, so in my relationship, I really have a hard time knowing what is \"normal\"/healthy/common in relationships.\n\nIn relationship #1 (lasted 2 years) I was so head over heals in love that I was blinded and didn't see any issues. Apparently there were some, because he eventually broke up with me (for reasons I still don't know/understand), but I didn't learn much from it because I was in such a fantasy world the whole time.\n\nRelationship #2: Current relationship. Almost 2 years. I care about him, in the way that you care and love your best friend. He is the first person I want to tell good news to, and I feel comfort when he is near. Sex is okay -- we only have sex once every 2 months or so (his sex drive is down but he is too embarrassed and has too much pride to even talk about it with me.. despite my sex drive being much higher). He talks about a future with me, and I feel safe with him. But there is no fire, no explosive desire to rip his clothes off, no passion. Everything is just.. comfortable. Safe. I know that the \"honeymoon phase\" eventually dies out for everyone, but I dont think we ever really had one in the first place. But is this what all relationships turn into? He is my partner. We are very much a great partnership. But sometimes I feel something is missing. I have been told I have unrealistic expectations for this everlasting, deep, passionate love. I think about leaving him sometimes, because I fantasize about finding that kind of love. But in relationship #1 I was so caught up in it all that I blinded myself completely.", "summary": "I don't know what is normal, and what are realistic expectations for love. I feel that my relationship is a dim candle, that lights the room just enough to keep me content. But I long for a fire that illuminates a whole house.. I just fear that fire is not something that is realistic for a long term, committed relationship."}
{"id": "t3_15lnkz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Advice needed.  Tested a homemade snack product in a small store, demand was so high, couldn't keep up.", "post": "My family owned a convenience store, and due to encouragement from friends, I made/packaged/sold a family recipe snack product on site.  The demand was not only overwhelming, but downright scary.  I had NO idea what I had started, but after some time of desperately trying to keep up (as well as run the store, staff, suppliers and being a single Mom), something had to give.  Unfortunately I had to quit making the snack.  That was over five years ago, and I still have people approaching me and requesting it.  I tried looking into marketing the product, even approached Kellogg's (use some of their products in the recipe), but never seemed to get anywhere.  The thing that keeps bringing me back to this is that I HAVE test marketed it.  And it was insane.  Any advice for someone who is not able to financially promote a product, yet has a proven track record of demand?  Yes, \"Shark Tank\", or our Canadian equivalent, \"Dragon's Den\".", "summary": "Can make a great product that people want, but don't know how to get it started."}
{"id": "t3_3mj0ms", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by telling my friend I have the house to myself this weekend.", "post": "I'm 25, recently moved back home. I never get peace to just sit home, smoke, and play video games. Today is my day off and all I want to do is play Diablo 3 and rocket league without being bothered. My friend asked to come over 5 times in a row to hang out after I kept saying no.  I finally gave in and say came over. He is a semi-professional fighter, hates video games, and only wants to talk about fucking girls, fighting, and watch ultimate fighter. I don't have many friends, but I do like to be by myself and I don't want to sound like an asshole and tell him to go home. He currently wants to binge watch the brink whenver I've already seen it.", "summary": "I ducked up my day off by telling my friend I have the house to myself. Now he wants binge watch the brink and get high. All I want to do is play computer before I work for the next 6 days straight and don't have time to play. And I'm too much of a pushover to tell him to go away. "}
{"id": "t3_2h6mhe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by questioning feminist theory in class", "post": "My English class is doing a unit on women and literature/comedy. It kept bothering me that the professor referred to things like \"privilege\" and controversial statistics, so being the brilliant shitlady I am, I decided to try to call him out on it, bringing up examples of female privilege and questioning things like the 77% pay gap statistic. Bad idea. I and my entire class are now tasked with proving or disproving the wage gap (based on discrimination) which we will present for a grade. I'm pretty sure they all hate me now, so I expect to be outnumbered 20 or so to 1. I'm currently printing out a few hundred pages of articles, studies, and papers. This is due Wednesday. Wish me luck.", "summary": "Turned entire class against me by questioning my feminist professor."}
{"id": "t3_3p2jd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating and time between texts", "post": "I'm 26M, single and actively dating. Most of the girls I meet online through tinder and facebook. In the early stages of dating is there really any reason for a girl to take a long time replying to texts? Will a person insinuate they aren't interested by deliberately delaying a response? Or are there people really too busy to spend a few minutes replying to a text even when they are interested? \n\nIf a girl texts me that I like I will text when I can within a few hours, but upwards of a day or two can be frustrating. I'm OK with rejection, I've had my fair share and it's a part of dating. I could be over analzying the situation though being told directly that someone isn't interested in dating you rarely happens. Most of the time you're left to assume. Is this part of that?", "summary": "Long time between texts. Subtle hint or too busy?"}
{"id": "t3_1w2i6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] of 3 years, I need help seeing if I am in the wrong.", "post": "My GF and I have been dating for a while now, since high school. We currently go to two different colleges, but spend nearly everyday together as happy as we can be during our breaks. \n\nRecently, she went to a leader ship camp recommend to her by a faulty member at her university. I am typically very introverted and only can bare having a few friends. Every one else mostly annoys me in some way, but I dont like to show it. So, of course at this camp they require people to become very close and develop freiend ships with eachother. She says she had an amazing experience and an overall good time.\n\nMy issue is that she obivously became good friends with both guys and girls. I don't care if she hangs out with all of them at once, it does bother me alittle when she hangs out with all of them at once, but it really bothers me when she hangs out with a guy one on one. \n\nTo me, it means that there is a chance she will develop feeling for him or vice versa. I wouldn't mind if she was hanging out with him and i was with her all the time, but the amount of physical distance between us cause me to worry a fair amount. \n\nI feel as though i may be replaced, which causes me a lot of jealousy and stress. I have told her that I don't want her to hang out with other guys one on one. I know that is wrong, but I still cant help myself from feeling that way. Earlier today she basically told me, \"too bad, I can have friends that are guys.\" Which is true, I just still don't like the idea. \n\nShe has never done anything for me to lose trust in her, I am just not a very trusting person.\n\nSo, is it wrong for me to ask her to not hang out with other guys? Can anyone maybe help me think of a comprimise? Or just give some of your advice.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "I told my GF that I dont like her hanging out with other guys when I am not around, she said \"too bad\"."}
{"id": "t3_1iz27r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do with my schizophrenic Grandfather", "post": "As the title says, i'm not to sure what I should do with him. Im 17, and I take care of him while my mom is at work. Usually that's just making sure he takes his medication, and eats food. Recently, hes started to drink. His psychiatrist ( amazing lady ) told him he has to stop, and he agreed to, but he hasn't. My mom thinks that all the booze is gone, but I know he still has some ( called the local taxi company to pick him up some vodka ). Last  night, he wouldn't take his meds, and drank instead. \n\nI'm not sure if I should tell my mom about this, it is quite a common thing when she isn't here. The only thing that is making me not tell her is that he is 72, it is his life. He is well aware he is ill, and knows drinking isn't a good combo with his meds.", "summary": "Sxhizophrenic grandfather is drinking/refusing to take meds. Should I leave it alone, or tell my mom?"}
{"id": "t3_36hfwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hurtful gf (24)", "post": "Hey all, I think I've posted here before about another issue but store is my gf and I (m24) have been dating the most of 10 years and she's always been hurtful. If she has a bad day she'll be hurtful to me if I'm not there immediately. Like today, I'm working and she's had a day off and I ask her during the day how her day has been and she says it's ok. I get home at 330 and she says come over and I say I'm having a rest for an hour and she's annoyed at that telling me to fuck off and stuff. Anyway she doesn't reply and she told me the day before she needs to be at work for something so I think she's not replying because she's at work. Turns out she's asleep. She wakes up later going off at me for not being there yet and I try and explain to her why I'm not there which is because I think she's still at work so I haven't left yet I hadn't heard from her in over 3 hours. She keeps saying hurtful things like why don't we just break up and general hurtful things which she doesn't need to say. I get to hers after I finally know what's going on and she's still like this. She wants me to just read her mind and understand she had a bad day when she's told me the exact opposite.\n\nHow can I stop her from being so hurtful all the time? I tell her I love her all the time and I show her I love her and I get nothing but pain in return half the time. When we have these fights about nothing I just feel like my heart sinks and all my energy is being sacked out of me. When I tell her how much she hurts me she says everything fucking hurts me. The only thing that hurts me is her.\n\nAnd I know I'm saying it as if it's the only thing she does but it's not,  she is loving and kind sometimes but it's like she has to much hate in her, I think she finds it hard to express those good feelings towards me.", "summary": "gf is hurtful when we get in a fight, she seems like she can't control her self when she gets in a mood and all that comes out of her is hate."}
{"id": "t3_21zdy6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Unexpected success!", "post": "F/19/5'7''\n\nI have had a lot of \"Day One\"s. And I think a lot of people have. So while this may not be The One, I really hope it is. I woke up this morning ready to stop bingeing (a side effect from my anxiety disorder). I was feeling bloated with an upset stomach all the time, and had lost nearly all pride in my appearance. I am a young adult. Now is a time where I should be embracing my body.\nI at so healthily and well today that I had enough calories left over tonight that I still probably needed to eat something; I was that far under. I went to CVS, wishing that I could buy a bag of Easter candy and consume it, but instead I bought a bar of dark chocolate, broke it into little pieces, and ate it over the course of a half hour.\nNow I'm about to go to bed, and I have stayed under my calorie goal, eaten healthy foods, gone to the gym, and only felt the good kind of hungry. I didn't overthink, and I am so ready to do this.\nI just want to hear something from out on this subreddit. I am so inspired by all of you and I just need some kind of sign that people are reading about the beginning of my journey.", "summary": "I started a day one today that just might be The One!"}
{"id": "t3_16v9gf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird for me [20M] to be obsessed with my summer love [21F]?", "post": "I don't really know how to describe our relationship. We are both counselors at a summer camp in California, so we saw each other every day for about 2 months. I live in California, but she lives in Australia, so our time together is basically restricted to the summer. At first we were randomly hooking up, but as the summer went on things were getting more intimate. We were pretty non-communicative, but there was *something* there; it felt like more than just a fwb situation.\n\nIt's been about 5 months since she left America and I still think about her every day. It's painful how much I miss her. I have some issues with depression, and summer is consistently the happiest time of the year for me. The rest of the year is kind of a drag. I've never been in a serious relationship before, so I don't know what to think of my obsessing over her. This was the first time I shared a mutual romantic interest with a girl. Sometimes I worry I'm only so smitten with her is because I lost my virginity to her. I tried to test this by hooking up with a couple other girls, but I didn't feel anything like what I felt with my Australian sweetheart. I dunno, I just don't want to waste all this time pining over her if it isn't justified.", "summary": "I can't stop thinking about my summer love interest. Am I overly attached?"}
{"id": "t3_2xxx13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] parents [50s MF] are being cheated by a psychiatrist [40s? M] and my sister [20F].", "post": "My parents are doting, loving parents and this gives them a very big blind spot when it comes to *anything* involving our well-being. They also know very little about mental health diagnoses, and think that the doctor is *always* right. \n\nThey have been paying an inordinate amount of money for my sister \"Marie\" to see this psychiatrist \"Dr. N\" for many years. Dr. N has \"diagnosed\" Marie with several disorders that require continuous weekly therapy sessions with him. Marie does not fit the criteria for these disorders at all (and multiple other people close to her agree with me). This is not just armchair psychology, she is experiencing side effects unique to people who are taking her medication who don't have the disorder. She is just a nasty person who enjoys drama.\n\nWhenever Marie is asked to do anything (such as go to class, not crash the car, care for her dog, etc.) she has a meltdown, claiming her disorder makes her incapable of doing whatever simple (unrelated to the disorder even if she had it) task is at hand. Dr. N will then back her up.\n\nI have brought this up before but my parents get angry at me for not being \"understanding\" enough. What can I do to get through to them?", "summary": "My parents are being lied to by a psychiatrist, and my sister is living it up with no responsibilities by claiming she's incapable of doing anything."}
{"id": "t3_2ofi31", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do I avoid my daughter associating \"private\" with \"shameful\"?", "post": "This conversation is still a ways off, but I have been thinking a lot lately about how difficult I find it to give my daughter messages about her body that aren't sending the wrong signals. \n\nFor example: At some point I want to convey to her that her genitals are not for public display. Right now she is still a toddler and can go around naked, so it's not a big deal. But at some point she will need to understand that our society considers those body parts to be \"private.\" My question is, how do I do this without her thinking that they are somehow shameful? I am really hung up on this question. \n\nIt is really important for me to give her body-positive and sex-positive messages, but I'm sort of stuck on how to answer the question of why these parts need to be covered up without giving her weird ideas about her own body. \n\nAnd, for that matter, I wonder the same thing about bodily functions. I don't want her to think that going poop is this horrible, dirty, disgusting thing. But I do want her to eventually understand that most people want privacy in the bathroom, and that talking about pee and poop at restaurants, etc., is not always cool. So how do I send the message about it being \"private\" without making it seem shameful?", "summary": "Basically the title. Hope this makes sense, appreciate anyone's input."}
{"id": "t3_3kmxsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [20M] does not care about 9/11", "post": "If you turn on your TV today, pretty much every channel has some sort of 9/11 documentary or tribute. I did not have any family or friends personally affected, but I think we can all agree that no matter your beliefs on why it happened, it is a very sad day. It makes me cry to see what people in New York had to endure that day. \n\nMy boyfriend doesn't seem to care. He is very kind, sweet, and emotionally open. If he has a problem, he will tell me. If he feels uncomfortable, he will speak up. We have been together almost one year now. He has not shown any issues before. Today, he asked for the remote so that he can watch one of his hows, and I said no. He then said in short that he doesn't feel terrible when he watches them. He said that he respects the firefighters and cops and volunteers, and feels for the family, but personally does not feel saddened by all this.\n\nI didn't say anything, but I am kind of scared now. Is this a sign of something? How can you NOT feel sad about so much death? Is this something I should look out for? Thanks for reading.", "summary": "bf does not care about 9/11"}
{"id": "t3_3gq0f6", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I get somebody to stop stealing?", "post": "So I'm using a throwaway because, y'know, life, but I work in fast food and I work the graveyard shift with two other people (me as a manager, 1 for service, 1 for kitchen.) I've recently come to find out that the service person, whom I've been on good terms with since getting this job, has been stealing food. This is my first job, and I haven't been manager all that long yet, and this is a new situation I've never dealt with before. I like this employee as a friend, and I don't want this to come between us, but I don't want to get in trouble for something someone else does. I'm horrible when it comes to conflict and I don't have a lot of confidence toward this job and this situation, so how do I confront them about this and get them to stop? I don't want them to have to lose their job for this, but I don't want to lose mine either.", "summary": "coworker is stealing. How do I get them to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1is0ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [23/m] and my ex gf [22/f] are starting to date again but she's still seeing her old fuck buddy, am I justified to be upset??", "post": "it's been a week since we started really talking again. We had a pretty bumpy relationship but were still best friends and love each other. She mentioned that she had been sleeping with someone but that it wasn't anything serious. I didn't mind because I've been doing my own thing as well. After a week of going out on dates and getting to know each other again, I'm embarrassed to say that I'm still completely in love with her. We we're talking last night and I asked her if she still talks to this guy, she said yes. I then asked her if she's still planning on sleeping with him. her reply was that she's not planning on anything but if the opportunity came up she doesn't see why not. She also added that I have every right to do the same and I understand because we're kind of just casually dating right now but I can't help but to feel upset. Is that normal?? Am I being clingy?? we're both trying to work our way back into a relationship. So what can/should I do???", "summary": "Just starting to date my ex again. She says it's ok for us to still be having sex with other people. Not sure if I should be ok with this or upset."}
{"id": "t3_36d22z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Los Angeles, CA) - How can I sue someone for an amount over 10k if that is the limit in small claims?", "post": "Greetings everyone! \n\nTwo months ago I filled out a loan agreement with someone in the amount of $10,000 plus interest for a period of a month. The agreement was notarized saying that the borrower was to pay me back in a month. Well now they are past due 3 weeks entering the 4th. I have maintained email contact but when he went past due he stopped replying. Do I notify him that I have a demand letter ready one last time to see if he cooperates or do I just send the letter via UPS or FedEx already? \n\nHe is a paralegal so I would think he has an idea how things work. Being that the small claims limit is $10k how can I sue him for the amount plus interest if it is over the limit?", "summary": "Borrower is about to be 30 days past due, how can I sue for an amount over 10k if that's the limit?"}
{"id": "t3_28a65f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Young and in Love: 17F with 18M ~6 months SO has Bicuriousity struggles, & I'm afraid to hold him back.", "post": "Hello there~\n\nStory goes, both myself and SO are a little bicurious. Him a little more public than myself, as I'm still discovering my preferences. But we're comfortable with each other's decisions and choices and strongly encourage one another to be open about new discoveries.\n\nIssue is, I know he's tempted to act on his curiosity, even though he's convinced me there's no way he could bring himself to do so. My best friend who came out a couple months ago has long since had a crush on him and there's always been joking of them two hooking up for a night. Guilty me; for a while I cheered it on playfully but I think SO is starting to crack.\n\nI feel sometimes like I'm holding him back. Polygamy isn't exactly something I'm crazy to get into, nor would I want to make it a permanent option. Is it wrong for me to want him be sure of himself? There's so many gray areas in these times of discovery that I'm not sure what's right to \"encourage\" or help him act upon.\n\nA lot of this is getting filtered to him as paranoia, which is partially an outcome. But I really want him to decide what's best for him and not worry about what will 'hurt me' or what is best for me. As far as loving someone goes, he is someone I could spend my life with. But I don't want my \"satisfied\" mentality to blockade him from what could also satisfy him.", "summary": "17F & 18M, SO is questioning infidelity, confused on if I should encourage him to experiment with someone else to satisfy his curiosities?"}
{"id": "t3_416ohc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [18/f] is having break-up issues with her ex[18/m]", "post": "I have this friend [18/f] who was in a relationship with a guy [18/m] for about 3 years. Let's call the girl Kate and the guy Tim. In the 3 years they were dating, they have broken up and gotten back together about 3 times. About 6 months ago Kate broke up with Tim due to personal reasons but still had strong feelings for him. She didn't want to lose him for good so she continued to talk to him through text, snapchat, and in real life. She did though, want to move on. Tim, who also still had strong feelings for Kate wanted to get back together but Kate really was against it. Knowing that Kate didn't want to get back together with him, Tim wanted to try and move on and decided that the only real way to do that was to stop talking to Kate completely so that his strong feelings for her lessen. This happened about a week ago and Kate was devastated when she heard that Tim wanted to stop talking. She ended up crying and the next day she told me about it. Over the next few days she's been telling me she's deleted him from snapchat and from Skype and so on. The problem is, I don't know how to respond to the things she's telling me. I feel like I can't tell her \"Congrats on moving on\" because I know she was really upset when T told her they should stop talking. When she told me she removed him from snapchat or something I always told her \"Good job!\" but I feel like I should be saying more or helping her out in some way. I asked her if she was okay once and she just said she was fine, but I can tell she wasn't. I've been friends with K for years and we're close so I really want to help her but in this case I don't know how. This seems like a stupid thing to ask for advice, but I could really use it right now.", "summary": "How do I cheer her up and what should I say when say to her when she tells me stuff about her ex?"}
{"id": "t3_ev1nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Single again.. Could use some comfort from my fellow redditors.", "post": "I was single for about a year and a half (i'm in my early 30's). I was truly, honestly content with being single and living out my days that way. Then, she literally just fell into my life out of nowhere and blew me away. I fell in love. She fell in love. It was like out of a freaking movie. It was more than I ever expected to have again. I thought I had finally found that proverbial \"someone\", well after I had given up even looking for them. \n\nToday, we broke up. I still love her. She still loves me. But, it just wasn't enough. It had just fallen apart somehow, without either of us being able to stop it. She said she \"we could stay together a while longer, but it just isn't going to last.\"  I said there was no point in dragging either of us through it; if one of us doesn't think it will work, it definitely won't. She said she wanted to stay friends, I said I couldn't stay friends with someone I still had such strong feelings for. So, I'm starting my new year alone and nursing some very painful wounds.. Kind words would be *very* welcomed right about now.. \n\nYes, I deleted her off my facebook.", "summary": "forever alone isn't so bad.. Until you get reminded why it is, and then go back to it, anyway."}
{"id": "t3_37aud3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out my boyfriend [20] cheated on me [20F]", "post": "My boyfriend and his best friend got in a fight. His best friend took it as an opportunity to tell me to ask my boyfriend about a certain girl he works with. When I asked, my boyfriend lied. As I kept pushing him and telling him I knew the truth, he finally told me. \n\nWe already live together,(in his mom's house)but we are moving into our first apartment together on Wednesday. Plot twist: The girl he cheated on me with, lives two buildings away from our new place.\n\nHe says he's sorry. He sounds like he means it. I love him more than anything. How do I even begin to get through this?", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me with his coworker. We're moving in next to her."}
{"id": "t3_twjch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are fat people?", "post": "That sounds like an awkward question, but the thing is, I just don't know. I really know much about why their bodies store extra fats, and I don't know what fat means. Is it someone who has a beer keg? Or is it someone who has wears XXL or on? I don't know.\n\nI often don't know how to treat \"fat people\" (quotes because I don't know how to recognize one!). It just feels awkward for me now. I am usually okay and chill but after being with my girlfriend for a couple years and hearing her call herself fat, and other girl friends calling themselves fat, seeing movies that people have a skewed sense of reality... I just don't know. \n\nCan we say fat jokes? I am not exactly racist, sexist, etc. but we can all enjoy some of these jokes now and then, especially with close friends as long as we understand them. But I don't understand anything about \"fat people\". What constitutes to you being fat?\n\nI gained 30 lbs in ONE summer. I got a bit of a gut now but it is not that noticeable. A little bit of it went to height as well but still, it was the first time I noticed my gut. I never considered myself fat and still don't and thus I am confused.", "summary": "I am asking, you, noble redditor's to educate me in what \"being fat\" means. Any personal stories? Medical background with the science? Or a therapist with the understandings of how it feels etc.? "}
{"id": "t3_4zewbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] wandering how people feel about physical flaws and how to approach them while dating", "post": "I was just after some advice or thoughts about how other people view/deal with flaws in someone they are dating.\n\nFor example, I think I look okay, but taking my makeup off to go to bed, I look horrible haha. I also have stretch marks on my legs and am pretty darn white. \nI know that I should be confident in myself, and accept these things are who I am, but I just wanted to know how other people see or think about these kinds of things.\n\nWhen dating, do you care about these little things about someone you have fallen for? Or do they make a difference to how you feel?\n\nFor me personally the attraction is important, but if a guy I was seeing had a small flaw or looked bad in the morning etc I wouldn't really care aslong as we had a physical connection. \n\nI would highly appreciate your thoughts or experience.", "summary": "Do physical flaws change the way you view/fell for someone?"}
{"id": "t3_18nnpe", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I don't have any form of stress-relief or \"relaxing\" zone anymore. Please help me find ways to de-stress, I feel like I'm going insane.", "post": "I moved away to university a couple of weeks ago. I share a room with two other people. I've never had to share a room before, so it's very unusual to me. I don't live too far away, so on weekends I have been making the trek back home to visit family and stay in my own room. \n\nNow here comes the problem. At uni, I almost never have any time to myself to destress from daily life. It's stressful for me to interact with everyone 100% of the time, and obviously the workload is somewhat stressful, etc. So there is always someone in our room, even when I go to sleep and wake up and all throughout the day and night. I don't get any \"time off\" there. When I come home, my family is always arguing. There is a new puppy so there's almost no time of quiet, someone always needs to watch him because he's brand new and gets into lots of trouble -- and when I arrive, everyone scatters so I'm left with the dog. My room has been salvaged for parts over the past few months so there's really nothing comforting or mine anymore. So, when I'm away I'm desperate to come back and when I'm back I can't wait to get back away, and I've soon found out that NEITHER of these places allow me that alone time I really need to function properly. \n\nHow can I get some time away? Where can I go to relax? What I used to do in my alone time wasn't much... just browse the internet, maybe do some artwork or read or something. It was just important to chill out by myself for a few hours every now and then. I could get *some* time alone by exercising, but I want relaxing and lazy alone time too.", "summary": "I have two homes and people are always there in both of them. I need alone time. Where else can I get it?"}
{"id": "t3_jrujv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am conflicted on whether or not I was a prick to the drive-thru lady at my local McDonald's.  What do you think?", "post": "I pull up to the drive-thru menu and order one McDouble (No special requests like no pickles or no onions, just one McDouble).  I pull up to the first window and pay for my sandwich with exact change, $1.06 (A dollar bill, a nickel, and a penny). I pull up to the second window and I see the drive-thru lady with a bag and drink in her hand, obviously not my meal.  \n\nShe opens the window and says, \"There's going to be a wait on your McDouble, please pull ahead.\"  \n\nI told her (exact quote), \"I think I'm just going to wait right here.\" \n\nShe turn around and says to somebody, \"He said he's going to wait right here.\"  I got my McDouble in about 20 seconds, and went on my way.\n\nI've always heard about fast food places making people pull up so as to not affect their drive-thru time. In this particular instance, I ordered one item that is probably one of the biggest sellers McDonald's has.  If I had ordered $20 worth of food, or had a bunch or special orders, I would have gladly pulled ahead.\n\nI also don't consider a wait of 20 seconds to be a major wait for food, but it does seem like enough time that the drive-thru staff wouldn't want that on the computer, especially given the amount of food I was ordering.  \n\nSo Reddit, was I a prick for not pulling ahead?", "summary": "I didn't pull forward when the drive-thru lady asked me, and resulted in a \"wait\" of about 20 seconds."}
{"id": "t3_wgzcg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, Has anyone ever used the site Couchsurfing.org? What was your experience? Would you recommend it for me?", "post": "Reddit, I am currently planning a trip to Moscow for a small vacation this August. I have already acquired my plane ticket and necessary documents but yet to have reserved a hotel as they are expensive and don't seem anywhere near as nice as what you could get in the US for that price (cheapest hotel is about $100 a night).\n\nMy friend suggested I use couchsurfing.com and see if anyone would host me for the few days while I'm over there. The site seems legit and makes it seem like this community really cares about having fun and meeting new people.\n\nHowever, I would really like to not be kidnapped. I can not stress enough how much I would love to wake up with my money and passport intact each morning, as well as my necessary organs. Can you guys offer me any advice?", "summary": "Is couch surfing a safe way to travel, and would you recommend it? Would like to wake up with all major organs."}
{"id": "t3_4p3vni", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "About to enter a plea in abeyance, too late to call for an attorney?", "post": "Sorry for the long post but all the information is important...\n\nAs the title says, I am about to sign a plea in abeyance for traffic violations I made a few months ago. The state is Utah and the charges are speeding (75 in a 55) and operating without valid insurance.\n\nI got insurance the next day- it was my dad's car I didn't know it wasn't insured- and conducted a phone hearing a few weeks later since I live in California.\n\nDuring the hearing I waived the right to have an attorney present since I believed I was in the wrong and pleaded guilty to both counts. I sent in my new insurace policy to the court clerk the day before the hearing to prove my insurance to lower my fine since the court can waive $300 off a $400 fine if it is proven before sentencing but after the incident.\n\nHowever my fine is well over $500 and I wasn't sure if the judge knew that I had gotten insurace and was too overwhelmed with all the legal terms being thrown around after the hearing to ask.\n\nI agreed to sign a Plea in Abeyance to expunge it from my record. However, there have been a lot of miscommunication between myself and the courts now and previously that I now believe it is important to seek legal counsel.\n\nI mailed a hard copy of the Plea a month ago and they are claiming it never showed up even though I have a new envelope containing the same paperwork I signed sent from their office dated three days after I mailed it to them... I have receipts and proof of delivery yet three clerks still deny having ever seen it.\n\nI have a status hearing soon about the missing paperwork but I still don't want to throw in the towel - I want to do everything I can to both lower the fine and tell them I am upset with the lack of communication between the court and their prosecuting offices.\n\nAm I too late to have an attorney given to me if I already waived it for the original hearing? The Plea stated that if I sign it I am waiving legal counsel but I thought I already did so?\n\nAny help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Ticket for no insurane and speeding. Waived right to attorney during hearing. Plea in Abeyance in the process (mailed a month ago with proof) but \"lost\" by attorney's office. Status hearing for said paperwork. Too late to seek legal counsel?"}
{"id": "t3_kylgl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to answer multiple choice responces when fillling out a job application?", "post": "It seems like this is always the longest and hardest part when it comes to filling out applications for jobs. I never know exactly how i should answer some of the questions and whether or not i should be truly honest. In most cases i feel as if i were to be as honest as possible then i would most likely come off a bit too bold for the job i'm applying for.\n\nAnother thing that confuses me is the use of the \"*slightly agree*\" and \"*slightly disagree*\" responses. I feel like if i were to respond with either of these options then it could be interpreted as if i'm trying not to lie or tell the whole truth.\n\nI guess my overall question is **(", "summary": ") should i lie about myself in the multiple choice portion of a job application or should i come out and be as honest as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_2yce89", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I might be shallow, I wish to change that.", "post": "I've always had high standards regarding appearance when I date and it's never really been an issue to me. It's a thing in my family it would seem. My previous girlfriend was incredibly beautiful and the girls my brothers are dating are jaw-droppingly stunning as well.  My parents even joke about how I'm going to have a hard time finding a \"prettier one next time\". \n\nHowever, over the past few weeks I've gone and gotten myself a massive crush on a girl with an absolutely amazing personality and I really want to give it a try, however my shallowness is pounding in the back of my mind because she doesn't exactly look like a photo model. I don't think she's ugly and I'm still attracted to her but she's certainly... different from what I'm used to. Even though I think she's cute there's this nagging feeling, this voice telling me I could do better appearance-wise. I'm suddenly faced with the reality that I might be less of a person than I thought I was and it bothers me a lot and I want to do something about it.\n\nI worry too much about what my parents and brothers will think and if they'll judge her even though I know, ideally, that shouldn't bother me.\n\nI hope someone can give me some advice because I've never met a girl I connect with so well and I don't want my own shallowness to stand in the way on this one.", "summary": "I might be a terrible person, but I'm looking to fix that..."}
{"id": "t3_3euwzm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [18F] thinks she hasn't ever had an orgasm because she's never \"squirted\"", "post": "My girlfriend and I are in a LDR, so whenever we're together and alone, we try to fit in as much alone time as possible. And whenever we do, I try to take care of her before we finish with me. So it usually starts with the (sorry if this is too much detail, but it may be necessary) kissing and fingering, sometimes play with a toy, until finally she reaches a point where her body starts shaking, her legs clamp, and she reels back down.\n\nHere's the thing: she doesn't consider herself to actually orgasm unless she \"squirts\". So, to her, despite all of the aforementioned events happening every time we've been together for the better part of a year-and-a-half.. She thinks she hasn't orgasmed, because she hasn't squirted.\n\nAnd it's not for a lack of effort. I've tried countless time myself to get her to the point of squirting, watching videos online, reading articles (I've even read in some places that some women can't squirt, others say all can, I don't know who to believe) but she usually tells me to stop after trying for anything longer than fifteen minutes.\n\nShe prefers her sexual activities involve me, so she's against the idea of using toys on herself, by herself, so I'm not even able to tell her the best way for us to get her to orgasm is for her to make herself organs so she knows what it is like.\n\nI just.. I am 99% sure that I've been getting her off during our alone time (She admits it feels good), but I can't convince her that an orgasm doesn't need someone squirting. Am I right in thinking that? Am I right in thinking that she's been having an orgasm the whole time?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't believe she has orgasmed during our entire relationship because I haven't made her squirt; I think she has and she just can't squirt."}
{"id": "t3_50kqa6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22m] have recently reconnected with [22f] from High School after 4 years, not sure how to approach the situation, conflicted in so many ways.", "post": "So, I'm [22m] moving to a new place in a few weeks, and I discovered that a girl from High School [22f] has been living in that same place for about a month now.\n\nIn high school and subsequently college, I didn't have much of a dating life. I had a few girls that I really liked, but I never really dated. Mostly dealt with rejection or general nervousness in regards to talking to girls.\n\nExcept once. This same girl and I hung out a lot, went to movies alone, went to the beach...stuff like that. But, I was never really sure how she felt about me. Eventually, I asked her out on a \"real\" date, and my maturity level essentially lead to it being just that one date.\n\nWe ended high-school on that note, and I haven't seen her since then.\n  \nOf course, like I said, we wound up meeting again after college. **She recently got out of an engagement**, (within the past month or 2) so I'm stuck with keeping my feelings at bay for the time being. I'm not sure the exact circumstances of the break-up, but regardless, I find myself very conflicted about the entire thing.\n\nNeither of us have many friends in this new place, aside from one other person [22m] who has a girlfriend of his own [21f]. \n\nThe other day, we talked about our lives up to that point, and it had to have been one of the most emotional and deep conversations I've ever had in my life. Which, makes the whole thing so much more confusing.\n\nEven worse, I might have to stay at her house in a few days, as I haven't moved yet and I have interviews coming up. It's probably weird as hell that I'm uncomfortable with that idea, but it's difficult to keep out of my mind.", "summary": "Discovered the one girl I was ever close to being in a relationship with lives in the city I'm moving to. She's recently out of an engagement, and I have very conflicting feelings. "}
{"id": "t3_4pbowr", "subreddit": "running", "title": "New to \"actual\" running on its own!", "post": "Hey everyone hope everyone is having a great day!\nBeen lurking on this reddit for some time but thought I should ask to questions.\n\nI'm trying to get into running to stay in shape and also because I enjoy running. I'm a 6ft tall and 165 lbs male that has been playing sports all my life since around 1st grade started with soccer and then in elementary switched over to lacrosse. I have always been a fast kid with lots of stamina and playing these two sports really helped. When high school came around I stuck with lacrosse for all four years. Fast forward to college and I didn't really play for any team but I did lots of intramural and \"tried\" to run on my own.\n\nSo after that little background I guess my questions are where should I start. During my first year at college I ran a 5k in 24 minutes not sure if that's good but that is the only real information I can provide to you guys to maybe help me. I'm pretty new to \"running\" on its own so any insight would be great. Even linking me to maybe a guide you followed. Any tips, tricks guides, or anything would be grateful. Thanks!\n\nAlso I'm not much a lifter I'm a tall lanky kid but will be trying to get into lifting this summer so any insight on what gym exercises runners should do would be great as well.", "summary": "New to running decently in shape would like to keep getting in better shape but has never ran just to do it. Looking for all and any insight."}
{"id": "t3_4g6hct", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and almost died.", "post": "So I was at Tallulah Gorge today with my girlfriend when we decided to hike down to sliding rock. It's a really cool area where  you can tan, read a book, and  take a dip. All the rock is really smooth from all of the water flow which creates a slide where the  river runs through. Today it  was running heavier than usual but didn't think anything of it. What I didn't think through was where the water was pushing into the pond down below start to circulate with the  force  of the water. So  when I slid down it start sending me feet over head like a spin machine. I was completely disoriented but after the second time it took me back under I realized what was happening. I tried pushing of the rock below me but it was  too slick and the water was pulling me too much to get a good  bearing. Eventually I either pushed out or the current spit me out. I feel so lucky and still can't believe it happened. Anyways, my  girlfriend taped the beginning of it happening. I'll post if  there is any  interest.", "summary": "I almost drowned from water that kept pushing me under."}
{"id": "t3_1u2jgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M23) My girlfriend(F22) hangs out with a guy she has slept with before we were together.", "post": "My girlfriend hangs out with a guy she has slept with before we were together. She also has forbid me to communicate with a girl who I share a similar situation with to the point where I deleted her number out of my phone. \n\nShe says they are nothing but friends and he's like a brother (he also apparently has a girlfriend). I've never been with them when they hang out she lives an hour away from me. \n\nToday they went hiking and did various other things together with another one of her girlfriends also but my girlfriend didn't even tell me they were going to go hiking until the day before when I asked her what she was doing. It seemed like she wouldn't have even invited me had I not asked. \n\nShe also barely texted me today, at times it was hours in between texts.\n\nI don't necessarily think they are doing anything behind my back, then again I can't be sure. \n\nI'm trying to be cool about it, I don't want to seem like a jerk but on days like today it bugs me, it makes me feel like a pushover. Am I overreacting? How should I act in this situation?", "summary": "My girlfriend hangs out with guy she used to bang, should I be okay with this?"}
{"id": "t3_23gide", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "2 months after we broke up, EVERYTHING still reminds me [25F] of him [38M], please help", "post": "I know two months might seem like a short time but it's driving me utterly insane, if you've any advice beyond 'give it time', PLEASE, throw it at me. With a brick.\n\nI know intellectually that it's over, but I don't feel the tiniest bit differently. I love him. I miss him. I want him. I am doing everything that I can to move on (in a healthy way, - okay, so I've done some unhealthy ones, too), but every. single. thing. reminds me of him, and sends me to tears.\n\nI know there's no 'magic cure', but someone out there might know of something, anything, that could ACTUALLY distract me from him, or make me feel even a tiny bit better, so it's worth asking. I cannot bear this.\n\nThank you.\n\nOh, mandatory stuffs: me, 25, F; him, 38, M; us, couple for 8 months, cohabiting for... I'm not sure, actually, - about 3 months. Short by most relationship terms, but we'd each had much longer, more serious relationships before, and never felt like how we did for one another. We ended things on excellent terms, still very much in love but realising that we weren't working out, 2 months ago.", "summary": "Help me accept that I'm single. YOU HEAR THAT, BRAIN? SINGLE! LET IT GO!"}
{"id": "t3_26gzc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F], Him [32 M] 2 1/2 years -- How do you thank someone who has been taking care of you when you're ill?", "post": "About two weeks I broke my leg. My boyfriend has been kind enough to let me inhabit his couch/apartment until I'm well enough to climb up the stairs to my own apartment (no elevator in the building). I can't even really go out and hop around on crutches because I sprained my wrist in the accident too and crutches wear me out fast because they get too painful.\n\nHowever, I am feeling increasingly more terrible about this. He has a very stressful job and trains for triathlons as well. He doesn't really have the time or energy to be dealing with me, but he's treated me with nothing but kindness and compassion to my every whim. He does SO MUCH for me!! Cooks me food, sacrifices his couch/privacy, lugs me to and from doctor's appointments, gets me water, gets me stuff from the store, checks my mail back at my apartment, keeps me company, comforts me when I'm depressed and upset about all this... today he is cooking me a favorite meal for my birthday...\n\nI try to keep up being courteous to him and everything, and try to be as thankful as possible to him. But sometimes I just get grouchy and stir crazy with being kept indoors and I am not as nice with him as I could be. After I snap at him or I'm cold to him, I feel absolutely terrible about it, like right now. \n\nAnyway, the point I'm trying to arrive at, is how on EARTH do you EVER even BEGIN to thank someone for all of this??? Like.... holy crap, we're not even married and he's doing all of this for me. How will I ever repay his kindness? how CAN I?? Does anyone else have experience with this type of situation or know someone that does? I feel so guilty and lucky and awful and thankful.", "summary": "Somewhat bedridden, my wonderful boyfriend is taking care of me and doing so much for me. How do I ever repay him for such a deed???"}
{"id": "t3_3j9mm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/M] roommate [24/M] is a terrible dog owner, what can I do? [X-post from /r/CasualConversation]", "post": "Basically the title. He works two jobs and lives in an apartment so the dog sits in a crate about 80% of the time. He rarely takes her for runs or even walks, so she's ridiculously full of energy which means I have 50 lbs of dog jumping all over me whenever she's out of the crate. We live less than a mile from a dog park, but he refuses to let her go because it's \"a disease breeding ground.\" He refuses to give her flea medication because \"chemicals\", which is idiotic. She's not trained well, she will only listen some of the time. My neighbor is scared of the dog because she's been barked at aggressively and I wouldn't put it past the dog to bite someone. I believe she is a pit bull mix but I'm not quite sure. She's about 1-2 years old.\n\nHow do I approach him about this? We've discussed it before but he is not taking care of the dog responsibly which pisses me off because it's a terrible life for a dog who should be in a house with a backyard.", "summary": "Roommate is not being a responsible dog owner, how do I approach him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1fudq6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M] her being 19. Not sure how, or when to get to second base for I am a virgin and not ashamed, just clueless.", "post": "Ok I being 19 and male and her being 19 also. It's been 5 dates now over a span of 2 weeks, I've meet all her closest friends, we hit off fairly easily even after I told her I'd never kissed a girl. \n\nNow this is where it gets to be a gray area for me. I'm still a virgin and all that jazz and I've never made it to second base with a girl and she knows that too.(Second to me being more physical touching above the waist/chest area). She adores that I'm confident enough to share that with her. Now my question is this. What is the best and smoothest way to transition to second base?", "summary": "Me[19M] Her being 19, 5 dates over 2 weeks. Me being a virgin and her knowing. How do I smoothly get to second base with her?"}
{"id": "t3_4bqmv2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my computer", "post": "Well guys I fucked up. Not an hour ago now. \n\nSo to start off I'm really new to the whole computer world. I enjoy gaming but when it comes to tech stuff I'm lost. Hardware and software terms go waaaayyy over my head most times. \n\nAnyway on to the fuck up. I just bought a new graphics card (XFX Radeon R9 380) and followed the instructions for setup. Everything went smoothly and it seemed to be running perfectly. Graphics boost in my games and everything.\n\nUntil I went to play a game called Verdun. \n\nWhen I booted the game up it suddenly told me I wasn't using my dedicated card and was instead using my integrated graphics. Which, while not the worst, was definitely a downgrade. So off I go to try to solve the issue. Drivers seem to be the problem so I tried updating those. Here comes the fuck up. \n\nIt being 2:30AM I was yawning quite a bit and was in the process of disabling the drivers for my integrated graphics to see if it was booting my dedicated card correctly. If not no big deal, you just restart your PC and it starts up the drives. Here's the fuck up. The options for \"Disable drivers\" and \"**Uninstall** drivers\" are right fucking next to each other. \n\nI yawned. \n\nI clicked. \n\nMy screen went black. \n\nAnd wouldn't come back on.\n\nOhshit.jpg\n\nNo matter what I've tried nothing has helped. Black screen and a $3,000 gaming PC bricked because I was tired and misclicked. \n\nSo now I'm going to bed and hopefully I'll get it fixed or something tomorrow.", "summary": "I yawned and fucked up my $3,000 gaming PC.  "}
{"id": "t3_436zen", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[M26] What is this geezers problem [M25]?", "post": "Well the geezer has autism. I was walking into the Chippy. TO GET CHIPS. And he is just staring at me for ages. I smiled through discomfort and I walked in and he was still doing it?! So I went into his face and I said ''What the fuck you looking at'' and laughed at him, and got in the queue. Seriously what the fuck. Yes I am a criminal.\n\nI got a DUI. I am on tag and shit. What do I do? I mean it's not my fault the boys fucking retarded. I mean I hate people of all differences. Anyway. Then I ate my chips, and I fucking went and drank some lagers and got high with my boys.", "summary": "Am I at fault here?"}
{"id": "t3_171ttw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "What exactly is a Union and do I want to be apart of it?", "post": "I'm 21 and living at home. I've only ever had one real job working in part-time retail for almost a year. I currently had my school hours cut down from a full time student to a part time student which means my parents will not be able to claim me for their health insurance. They've stressed that I need to find a job where I get benefits. I don't really know anything about job benefits or where to start. This is all new to me and I'm a little nervous. \n\nI have a few interviews coming up, one for Safeway and one for Peet's Coffee & Tea. I know both jobs offer benefits, and that Safeway may or may not have a Union? I don't quite understand what exactly a Union is. And do I want to be apart of it? Will I be forced to join one? What are the Pros and Cons? \n\nIn the end I don't mind a job in either. I feel like I would have a better shot at Safeway seeing as I have no barista experience. I quite like retail, I'm extremely outgoing and sociable and I like helping people and customer service. I am currently aiming for full time in any job I can land. If I land either jobs I plan to aim high and try to move up and take any promotion opportunities. I sound like a total newbie, but I'm excited to work. Hahaha. \n\nI don't think I'm going to have an issue with the interview, but I'm kind of stressing out about forms & taxes & more forms, ahhh! I have more job related questions, but they've slipped my mind, so if you have any tips about the AFTER interview please also let me know! Thanks so much!", "summary": "Explain Unions to me like I'm 12.*"}
{"id": "t3_1edtag", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex (21F) is in a relationship one month after ending a 3.5 year relationship", "post": "We broke up in mid March after seeing her for Valentines Day.  We were in a long distance relationship but I had plans to move back home after college.  I was upset over the breakup as anyone might be but I knew that we were both good people just going our separate ways trying to discover ourselves.\n\nHer birthday was yesterday and so I wished her a happy birthday only to receive a text from my friend, shortly thereafter, that according to Facebook she got in a relationship in mid April.  My friend sent me a picture and turns out the guy is a name I recognized from her Snapchat and texting all the way back around New Years.\n\nI was going to send her the following but I decided that she is not worth my breath, but it is still nice to vent:\n\n> I pity you and your cowardice. \n\n> To end a long term relationship is something I can accept but to lie when asked if there was another person in the picture and then be in a relationship only a month later, that's distasteful and wrong.  \n\n> I can't believe how fake you were, leading me to believe you wanted to try and be friends. \n\n> I thought during our time you grew as a person but you're still the same insecure girl looking for approval from guys and scared to be an independent individual.  \n\n> My only regret is second guessing myself when the problem was you.\n\nThe pessimistic side of me is pissed I wasted so much time with someone that's so heartless and the optimistic side of me is glad this all came about now instead of down the road when I could've potentially moved in with her.\n\nLet it be noted that I ended all communication with her at the end of March with the exception that I wished her a Happy Easter and a Happy Birthday.  Given the events that took place I don't think I will ever speak to her again.", "summary": "Long term relationship came to an end after 3.5 years.  Less than a month later she is with a guy that she was 'friends' with while we were dating."}
{"id": "t3_2e8cgf", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog misbehaves whenever mom is in his vicinity.", "post": "For some reason my dog misbehaves only when mom is around.  Neighbors, family, and guests alike have noticed how his attitude changes around her; he becomes disobedient, wild, ignorant, the whole 9-yards.  When she is not around he is HIGHLY obedient, calm, and fun to be around.\n\nMy friends have all commented on how my mother is highly enabling around the dog (read as he can get away with **anything**).  I didn't tell them to watch for it or anything, they just picked up on how the dog changes around her and how she basically lets him do whatever.\n\nShe knows he misbehaves when she's around but she'll deny it.  Whether or not she accepts it's her fault is unkown to me but I don't know of a way teach him without her help.  My father and I can walk him and it's a normal \"we lead, he follows\" type of walk; no pulling, nothing.  When she goes on the walk with us he literally pulls so hard that my father (220lb man) has to lean back so the dog doesn't take him.  He pulls so hard he strains himself and it looks like a damn lineman pushing back another player with all his might.\n\nWe tried one time to show her how to make him listen but within 5 minutes all she would say is \"it's not my fault, I'm not doing anything.  This won't help teach the dog.  If I'm such an issue then I'll just go home\" type of stuff.\n\nMy question to you guys is how do I teach him without her help.  Is it even possible?  I feel like she HAS to make an effort to help the dog act properly.  The dog knows full and well what he is supposed to do; he does it all the time when she's not around, he just knows \"when mom is here, I can do whatever\".", "summary": "Dog knows how to behave and is trained well.  When mom is around, her enabling makes him act wild.  When she's not around, he's a well-behaved angel.  Others make note it's her enabling that causes it.  She won't help train dog.  Is there anything I can do to stop this if she won't help?"}
{"id": "t3_1xmzip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How on Earth do I handle this? (AKA Help, I'm emotionally stunted)", "post": "Hello! I am really bad at being feely or emotional, but my other (will make sense later) needs help from me, and I don't know what to do. We're both college students (18/20), and we work together (circling each other for a few months, hence the /r/Relationships location). We had been flirting on and off until finally last week, he came to my room to watch a movie and ended up spending the night. \n\n     I've never been in a relationship before, he had had a few, and we both knew this. Long story short, he went down on me in my sleep. Don't judge him, he woke me up, and I may have egged him on a bit and sneakily kept boundaries, which he accepted. I told him the next morning he wasn't a sneaky as he thought, but that I wasn't upset. \n\nCue the ignoring me for a week. I finally accepted the fact that he probably didn't want anything to do with me, but I told him that it was frustrating to me to just be shut out. He apologized, and admitted that he was actually having problems with his view of himself. He is shocked at what he did, and is angry at himself for not having control over himself or respect for me.\n     \nNow I'm definitely keeping him, I just need advice on how to help him get over. Before you ask, yes, I am actually okay with his actions, misguided though they may have been.", "summary": "Made out with a guy, he took advantage of me in my sleep (not full sex/penetration). I am emotionally mentally whatever fine with the situation, but this guy is really upset and shocked with himself (his words). I want him, so I need to help him get past this, it's been a week. I suck at emotions, what should I do/not do?"}
{"id": "t3_18o7fo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The ex came back into the picture, and I may have over reacted. Now she isn't talking to me! [22M]", "post": "First off I'd like to thank you for taking a minute to read my post. (I apologize if this isn't your typical post)\n\nI have known this girl for 4 weeks, and we seemed to have something good going. Friday the 8th, she messaged me and told me that she was seeing her ex-boyfriend for supper on Saturday (9th). \n\nShe told me that it was nothing, she just has to settle some things with him, and they are just arguing (because he popped out of the blue and I guess old emotions stirred up). I told her \"I have no idea what to tell you right now! Good night!\". \nShe then goes \"wait up a second\", \"it's nothing, it's just taking a lot of my time, and I just wanted you to understand!\" \n\nI then told her that \"I hope I'm not your back up plan!\" and \"what do you expect/want from me?\". She said \"the plan was to stay alone for some time, but then there's you!\" and \"yes I am torn between wanting to be with you and being alone''. She then wrote this paragraph to explain more in detail the situation.\nThis was around midnight (the paragraph she wrote), and I ignored her until lunch time Saturday (but she saw on Facebook that I did see her message).\n\nAt lunch time I replied to her saying \"I understand your situation, and that you need to do this to turn the page. I think we should speak face to face because the lack of context and speed of reply makes it difficult for us to understand each other. I don't have any plans all week, so we could meet up if you feel comfortable. If not we can meet some other time.\"\n\nShe saw what I wrote a few minutes after I sent it to her (February the 9th). \nShe hasn't replied yet, and I'm wondering what I should do next? (I really care about her, and I don't want to lose her over this)", "summary": "Girl I have been seeing told me her EX randomly popped out, and I questioned her about what she wanted from me. I also ignored her last message until the next day; when I answered her I told her I understand her situation and that we should talk in person. She saw it moments after I sent it (Facebook message), and she hasn't replied in a week."}
{"id": "t3_2i0buj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28/M and 32/F. She says she isn't ready for a serious relationship", "post": "I met a girl on Match and from day 1 it's been a whirlwind of awesome. Every day better than the one before. We got very close very quickly. She always did say she wasn't looking to be in a serious thing when she got on Match, but then followed that up with something like \"but this is so amazing, I'm so happy\". We joked about her not wanted to call me her B/f... even though at times she would accidentally say I was her B/f. We went on a weekend trip together and were planning on going to Hong Kong together as well, but the trip (A business trip for me) got canceled. This way WAY more intimate than a casual dating situation. I was/am in love with this girl, which is strange because I am VERY guarded when it comes to feeling things like that. I did get the notion that she wasn't trying to rush into those same feelings, but she did tell her friend she was falling in love with me. \n\n2 weeks after telling her friend that, and pretty much over-night, she became distant. She had to get a new car and was moving into a new place (after living somewhere 8 years), so I chalked it up to stress. Finally, after a few days of this, she tells me she wants to take a big step back (not slow down, a step back). She says she never got a chance to date. She never got to be independent. I also find out she was still seeing her ex a lot more recently than I thought she had. We break up, but she won't say it's the end. She says she needs to figure her stuff out, but then she hasn't contacted me in a week, and I haven't contacted her in order to give her space to deal with her stuff. \n\nAm I being stupid to still hold on to something? She seems like a very genuine person who doesn't beat around the bush. I thought she would tell me if she just didn't like me anymore. I'm so head over heels for this girl and my heart wants me to fight for it, but my head tells me I'd be fighting a losing battle.", "summary": "Girl suddenly says she doesn't want to be together after 4 months of the opposite feelings"}
{"id": "t3_12f95e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When has your day turned out least like you have expected?", "post": "Today I thought I was just going to go to class and write a paper.  However, my day went wild from the very beginning.\n\nThe first crazy thing that happened was the seizure.  I was sitting in 8 am class with everyone really tired when I look across from me and see that this girl is sleeping.  She looks really into it, leaning all the way back in her chair, head flopped back and everything.  It even sounds like she's snoring.\n\nHowever, when one of my classmates tries to wake her up, nothing happens.  Meanwhile the snoring is getting more and more guttural.  It starts to sound less like snoring and more like a growling dog.  Suddenly her head snaps up and she starts staring right into my eyes, with the most contorted face I have ever seen.  Her hands are knotting and her skin is going blue.  She snapped out of it after about 30 seconds, but during that time I saw why people used to think epilepsy was caused by possession.  \n\nAfter that I come back to my room and try to do homework.  However, physics is a bitch, and I can't get her face out of my mind.  It was easily one of the scariest things I have ever seen.  I decide to go on reddit to distract myself.  After a couple hours of wading through delicious blue links, I hear a really loud banging on the door.  The person across the hall was practically falling onto my door.  He had just started to lose hearing and sight, as well as feeling incredibly dizzy.  I walk him downstairs to the RAs, but no one is there.  Then we try to go to the health center, but they are closed as well.  Finally I have to call the campus police to get help.  Then I walk back to my room and just sat around wondering at what was going on.  Needless to say, my paper has not been finished.", "summary": "I started today expecting to write a paper and ended up with one seizure and having to help one person to campus safety.  Didn't even start the paper."}
{"id": "t3_13ozpn", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "A question for those going through/or have been through a heart break", "post": "F [20] here, this is my first break up. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get him [m 23] off my mind? All day I just wonder what he is doing and if he misses me. Every time my phone rings I imagine it's him. I picture him sleeping with other girls. I am in pain constantly that I do not know anything about him anymore. It doesn't feel real. A background of our relationship and break up: dated 1 year, factors beyond our control broke us apart, used to be in contact 24/7 and would know everything about what we were thinking and doing. I know we can't be together and it won't work, but my heart and emotions can't agree and he consumes my every thought", "summary": "I am in pain because I miss the person I love and I need advice"}
{"id": "t3_2g0zwv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Confused by [28M] - 4 dates went great, texts after 4th date, but never asks to hang again?", "post": "I am a [26F] who went on 4 great dates with a [28M]. He seemed really into it each time, made dinner reservations, always made the plans himself, always asked what I was doing this week on Sunday nights, etc. He always texted after every date saying he had a great time and let's do it again. He also always suggested a weekend date once our weekends wind down. I said absolutely!\n\nHe texted Friday before LDW and told me to have a good weekend since I was going out of town. I suggested we meet up the following week. He said definitely. \n\nNothing from him ALL LDW. Not one word. He was with family and friends, so I figured just busy or didnt want to bother me. LDW passes. Nothing still. I texted the following Wednesday asking him to hang out to show I am still interested. He suggested the weekend and I said I was going to Miami (he already knew this), so we made plans for this upcoming weekend. He also suggested to meet up earlier in the week when I return from Miami. I said sure. \n\nHe texted saying have a safe flight before my flight there and back. \n\nNow... nothing. Hasn't suggested meeting up. Hasn't texted anything. Stopped making plans and asking what I am doing. \n\nMy question is... after 4 dates you usually know whether you like someone or not. Why would he continue to text after 4 dates (sporadically) and agree to hang out and even ask to hang out earlier than I suggested? WHAT IS THE POINT? I am not your friend. \n\nIf you're not interested, then don't text me! Lol.\n\nP.S. We only made out. No sex yet. I thought I was doing a good job by making him wait..................\n\nConfused!!!!", "summary": "Confused about men and texting after 4 good dates."}
{"id": "t3_2pv2ts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have been struggling since my girlfriend of 5 years [20'sF] told me she was a lesbian.", "post": "I don't usually post this kind of stuff anywhere but I don't have anybody I can talk to about this.  I'll try to be about as vague as possible since I'm honoring her request not to let anybody know that the real reason she left me was because she is a lesbian.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI loved my girlfriend and still do very much; and this is a problem.\n\nThe relationship was perfect, we never fought about anything and laughed with each other all the time, amazing bedroom life, just about anything I could have ever wanted.\n\nI'm getting ready to propose to her this year and start a family 3-4 years later with her, until I'm picking her up one day and she flat out tells me she's a lesbian.\n\nFast forward 4 months later and I've failed out of all my classes for the semester and still very upset and depressed.  I sleep until 2-4 PM almost every day and look at my ceiling in my bed from 2-6 am when I try to sleep.\n\nI try not to contact her at all anymore but I can't help myself and when I message her I just get hateful and resentful when she replies back with her 2 word uninterested responses.\n\nI don't know what to do.  I'm not going to kill myself but this has completely broken me and I still haven't recovered yet.  \n\nHow do I move on with my life and find someone else?  I'm in college now and I don't do anything social or get out basically at all; I debated using Tindr or something to meet someone else, but that feels kind of shallow to me and I think you have to log into it with Facebook and I really don't want my friends seeing me on there either.\n\nI feel like so much time was taken from me and I'd really like to be back into a relationship because I would like to have a family some day.\n\nCan anyone help me?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years is a lesbian and isn't interested in me anymore in the slightest.  How do I finally move on and meet someone else?"}
{"id": "t3_clwry", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the best way to close the gap between you and your parents after being emotionally distant for more than a decade?", "post": "We are on amicable terms but I have not shared much of my life experience with them for a long time. This is because I did many things in life that they have disapproved of, and after many uncomfortable talks during which harsh words were exchanged and I was chased out of the house (but subsequently returned), I decided not to share any of those experiences with them again. They mainly have to do with my boyfriends and staying over, the usual stuff I know, but my parents are EXTREMELY conservative. Now that I am completely independent financially and my parents seem more vulnerable and in need of my support, I really want to get closer to them again but it's hard.", "summary": "My parents need me emotionally, but I have been emotionally unavailable to them for so long that it's hard. What's the best way to change things?"}
{"id": "t3_4eukly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [34/M] says we're \"together\", but he won't call me [28/F] his girlfriend. Am I wasting my time?", "post": "We've been dating for five months now.  When we first met (from OKCupid), he told me he came from a failed engagement and several heartbreaks after that, and that he needs to take things slow because he doesn't want either of us hurt.  I understood that, and was fine taking things slow.  \n\nHowever, one issue I have is that he still can't call me his girlfriend.  We see each other every few days, and stay at each other's places on weekends.  We exchange silly and cheesy messages.  We cook for each other.  We've discussed wanting kids and what country we want to live in in the future (We're both expats).  We have stupid quarrels over food.  Basically, all the stuff we do together makes me feel like I'm his girlfriend and he's my boyfriend, but somehow that title just sends him noping out.  \n\nI asked him about this several times, and he responded that he's trying really hard, and that he doesn't want to make the same mistake like before by pushing things too quickly...  However, he said \"We are together\".  I don't understand what that means.  He even told me his own friends think he's weird for that too... and I find it weird that he openly tells **me** about this.  \n\nAlso, I learned that he's still active on OKCupid through a friend.  He changed his \"looking for\" to friends and his profile says that he's on there looking for friends, but he's still listed as single and that bothers me.  He doesn't know that I know.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI basically feel like he can't call me his girlfriend because he doesn't want to fully commit to me.  When he talks about his former relationships, he calls them his \"ex\".  If I leave, what would I be to him?  The \"girl I am no longer together with\"?  \n\nI know he has a lot of baggage and I want to believe that he wants to make this work, but I'm scared that I'm just gonna end up with my heart broken.", "summary": "Guy I've been dating for five months won't call me his girlfriend, but we do girlfriend/boyfriend things and it's confusing the hell out of me.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2wy4fd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family took in 5 \"foster\" cats that they never found homes for, but they cannot afford these cats. Help!", "post": "I (26/F) posted this a few months ago and was basically told to \"Mind my business\" and now what I originally came here asking for help for has came true.\n\nAlmost a year ago my family took in 5 kittens to \"foster\". My sister's (17/F) friend's cat had the kittens and my family was suppose to go there to pick 2 out but my Mom (51/F) ended up feeling bad because she was scared they wouldn't all find homes so they took them all home. Ugh.\n\nI live in another state and when my family told me about this I blew my lid. They cannot afford to take care of 5 cats, they can barely feed themselves. My Dad is 60 and has to work to support himself, my Mom, sister, brother, and now 5 fucking cats. I told them this was a horrible idea because they would get attached and they would not give any of them up.\n\nFast forward to now, they still have not given any up. They are all attached to them.\n\n**My parents are saying they cannot afford these cats now.** NO SHIT. And that they don't know who to give up because they love them all. This is taking a mental toll on my brother (16/M) and sister (17/F). \n\nI feel insanely bad for my Dad because he has to support all these people and pets, but he doesn't want to make the family feel bad and feel like a failure because he doesn't make enough money to support everyone so he isn't much involved in this.\n\n**My family took in these cats soon after all our family pets died. Our 2 cats, and dog died within 2 years of each other. So no wonder they are attached to these cats.**\n\nAny advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Help."}
{"id": "t3_2osdy8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] dating [24 F] for about a month. She never texts firsts or initiates things. Should I be worried?", "post": "Dating for about a month - things seem positive. We live far apart so we are seeing each other about once a week - usually for 4-5 hour dates. If it matters, we've kissed, but haven't slept together yet.\n\nWe have plans to go skiing for the New Year for a few days (we spoke about it and booked lodging) so I have to assume she must be interested since we will be spending a few days together alone.\n\nHowever, I get a little worried at times because she never texts first, or initiates a hangout. I've gone 3-4 days without texting first, and I won't hear a thing from her. \n\nIs this something to be worried about? Is she thinking about me at all?  I know some people aren't big \"texters\" but still, you'd think she'd reach out every once and a while, right? \n\nHard to wrap my mind around it.", "summary": "Girl and I have been dating for a month. Plans to spend NYE skiing together, alone, for a couple of nights. She never texts firsts or initiates plan. Worry she's not interested enough."}
{"id": "t3_zdr0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Significance in small gestures/actions?", "post": "In another post someone had given advice to look to actions, not words, in pursuance of a relationship. Got me wondering about the guy [28M] that I [26F] am seeing [duration: ~4 months]. He seems to put himself first or give himself the better deal for things, top of my head two examples from yesterday: \n\n1. \"Giving\" me avocado (his favorite) that has been tainted by raw onion smell/taste (which i know he hates), but passing it off as him doing a nice gesture for me\n2. Pouring himself all the chilled water from the Brita filter (which filled only his cup) despite me asking for water first and holding out my glass to him. Then refilling the brita with tepid tap water and pouring me a glass of that. It was a hot day, we both wanted cold water.\n\nNot sure if this is just him being a guy and it's no big deal. I don't want to over-analyze, so just pitching this to Reddit: am I being oversensitive if I feel like he's uncaring?", "summary": "Unsure if small gestures indicates lack of caring or not."}
{"id": "t3_1hrt44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[27m] with my Girlfriend [1827F] of 3.5 years, are in a very weird spot and I need advice", "post": "I feel like this is more of a sex question, but either way, my relationship needs help. \n\nI proposed back in december and she said yes. Admittedly this was a huge mistake since we never discussed it. We started going through stresses of moving and she was really stressed (er terrified) of having a wedding and didn't truly believe in marriage. \n\nSex also was near non existant during this time (maybe once a month). A few weeks ago this came to the forefront of her mind and we mutually decided to call it off (although I was devastated), and decided to go back to \"normal\", they way we were before the proposal. The night it was called off I was upset, hysterical and acted immature and this put her off. \n\nWe still live together, hang out, sleep together, and love each other, and things are starting to finally seem normal, except for the fact we dont have sex now. I have tried and she resists, or makes up excuses, or puts herself in a position where it is hard if not possible to have sex. She still kisses me, hold my hand, cuddles with me, tells me she loves me and is still planning our future together. I am going crazy in the mean time, second guessing the relationship, and sex is my ultimate form of validation. I fear I am going to lose interest and end up walking out on what was once the best thing I ever had. \n\nEvery time I try to bring up the relationship work needed to repair the damage she gets stressed out, and if I bring up sex she gets even more stressed out and shuts down. \n\nThe last time I brought it up she said things were still weird and she wasn't ready. How do I know when she is ready if we cant talk about it. I am sick of putting work in and getting my hopes up just to have them crushed. \n\nHer friends have been talking to her and relay everything back. I know there is no one else in the picture (She is squeaky clean). I know she loves me and doesn't know what she would do if she lost me, and wants everything to go back to normal as much as me...", "summary": "My proposal which is now called off killed my sexual relationship with my girlfriend who loves me and wants to be with me (just not married)...Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2sj2ra", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pocket dialing my mom while I was high", "post": "This was quite a few years ago but is still a good story. \nBackground: I was an avid pot smoker in high school and naturally my parents were not too keen with this. I was being drug tested for a while and had proven I could keep off this grass (for a while). So I finally had the opportunity to smoke a little ganj...and it didnt go so well.\nThe story goes, I met up with a friend after school to go smoke a doob a couple blocks away. We sat in my car and rolled the joint, and then got out to walk through a park and smoke it. When I sat back in the car I realized my crappy little touch pad sliding phone was dialing my my mom...FOR THE LAST 30 MINUTES!!!\nOH SH*T! So I quickly hang up and hope that it was just leaving a voicemail. I figured I could get home before she realized it or maybe she hadn't listened to the whole thing or could hear it. I was freaking out as you could expect a 16 year old to do when his mom is about to bust him smoking reefer. \nI walk in my back door and she asks how my day was. Am I in the clear? Where is her phone?\nI see it on the table, open to the recent calls menu. Dammit. \nI give her some BS, \"oh ya know...the library was packed...traffic was crazy...blah blah...\" she calls me out. Grounded. She stayed on the line and listened to the whole conversation we had. Rolling weed, smoking weed, getting high, and best of all how big of a bitch my nosy mom is. That was a lousy day but now we all have a good laugh about it.", "summary": "I pocket dialed my mom and she stayed on the phone for 30 min while I got high with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_3xm98o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and a classmate[19 F] are both (fairly openly) mutally attracted, but she is currently in a relationship", "post": "I started college this year, and me a girl a year above me in my program. She and I really quickly hit it off, but she fairly early on told me she had a boyfriend. I kinda thought that was the end of that. However since then she and I have have had a pretty flirty dynamic between each other, which is escalating to kisses on the cheek, her confessing her crush on me, egging me on to kiss her, etc. This happens especially when we're at the same party and she  and I have been drinking. On one hand, I find it cool that someones mutually attracted to me, but at the same time I don't wanna be a homewrecker (for lack of a better term) either. We are in a pretty small program, with same classes, go to the same housepartys and similar extracurriculars, so I kind of have to interact with her pretty often, which complicates things. I don't really know how I'm to best handle this situation. Any tips would be appreciated!", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl, she has one on me, but she has a boyfriend abroad. Things between us are slowly escalating. I don't want to wreck her previous relationship, but also really like her and have to interact with her often. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2cuja2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29/F] feeling a little weird about that fact that I fooled around with the brother [32/M] of the guy I'm casually dating [30/M] a decade ago.", "post": "Earlier this year I got out of a serious relationship of a few years. I didn't date anyone for a while, but over the past few weeks I've found myself getting close to [30/M]. A few days ago, things got a little heated and we ended up having sex at his apartment. The thing is, I feel a little weird about it because I've known this guy and his whole family all my life, and we were all childhood buddies through college and ten years ago I fooled around with his slightly older brother [32/M].\n\nI haven't seen the older brother in years. I'm afraid that if we start to get serious and I see older brother more it will be awkward. [30/M] doesn't know that I fooled around with his brother when we were all in college (as far as I know, anyway). I don't plan on telling him, but I admit I feel like I'm ratchet over the whole thing. Especially since I'm old enough that I'm looking for something that might potentially turn serious. Maybe I worry too much but I think it's kind of weird at some level.", "summary": "Kind of been seeing this guy [30/M] for a few weeks and feeling kind of slutty because I did things with his brother [32/M] ten years ago. Hoping enough time has passed for it to not be awkward."}
{"id": "t3_1fldxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) decided I want to be in an open relationship, but my BF (27M) of 3 years says it's not going to happen. Is he being unreasonable?", "post": "Like I said, I recently decided that having an open relationship would be pretty cool. I've seen it work out with some of my friends. \n\nI brought it up subtly before to my BF, something like \"so have you heard about X's open relationship?\" He said, \"Yeah I'm happy for them but it's definitely not something I would do.\" So that discouraged me a bit. But I thought I'd try it more directly and said \"Look, I want to try having an open relationship. I wish you'd just keep your mind open to these things.\" He just looked at me straight up and said that if I wanted to be with him, an open relationship was never going to happen and he would not reconsider this.\n\nI honestly think he's being a bit unreasonable. But I don't want to break up with him. What should I do?", "summary": "I want an open relationship, BF refuses."}
{"id": "t3_1p8bl9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "The worst decision of my entire live.", "post": "Getting LASIK is the single most fucked up thing I have done to myself in my entire life. Every day I wish (several times) that I could travel back in time and not do it. So many people have it done and come out fine, but if it goes wrong, it's life changing in an extremely bad way. I had -9 eyeglass prescription, which is pretty bad (very nearsighted) but I could see fine with glasses. Now I'm a -1.5 and even with glasses my eyesight is rubbish. I have all the fun side effects they warn you about. Starbursts, ghosting, shit night vision, chronic dry eye. I have to put eye drops in my eyes several times a day; my eyes always feel like crap. It wouldn't be so bad if glasses could correct my vision, but they can't. I'm never going to have normal vision for the rest of my life.\n\nThe. Rest. Of. My. Life.\n\nI'm really happy LASIK works for some people. I know someone who had it done by the same doctor as I and she's got perfect vision now. Those people are so fucking lucky.\n\nI'm not one of those preachy people who tries to change people's minds about LASIK. In fact, very few people know I've had it done. I don't like to talk about it. I don't even know why I'm posting this. It's deeply embarrassing to me that I willingly did this to myself.\n\nNot being able to undo it is the most heartbreaking thing in my life.", "summary": "Getting LASIK ruined my life  "}
{"id": "t3_1q36cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [32 F] split vacation money from parents with my [32 M] of 2 years for shared trip?", "post": "I've been planning a trip to see my out of state family for the holidays. I invited my bf to come with me and celebrate with them. I booked reservations at a hotel and he agreed to split the cost with me.\n\nI later told my parents we'd made a reservation, and my father told me he'd deduct $200 from an amount I owe my parents to help cover the cost of the hotel.\n\nWould it be wrong of me to not take $100 off what boyfriend will owe me for the hotel? He makes significantly more than I do, so I feel as though my parents giving me money to help me might not be immoral if I kept it for myself. However, we usually split everything 50/50, so I'm not sure if I told him about my parent's gift if he would feel like it was for both of us.  That my parents gave me a credit versus cash seems to indicate it was a gift for me, but they also never asked if my bf was also contributing to the hotel bill.\n\nWe do not live together, if that matters, and maintain completely separate finances.", "summary": "My bf agreed to split the cost of a hotel to stay with me on a visit to my family. I later found out my parents are going to give me $200 towards the cost of the hotel. Should I split this money with bf?"}
{"id": "t3_rln45", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mother with abusive Boyfriend. Need Advice.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nSo my mother as been dating an ex drogue addicted (seems clean, dough he smokes some joints every now and then.)\n\nShe breaked up with him and he became very stalker-ish and calling all the time and sending sms's all day.\n\nSome months have passed and now my sister says that they are together again, and that he is very possessive and keeps calling all the time to know were she is and with who, and in a very aggressive manner.\n\nMy mother wont listen to anyone that says that he is a dangerous person and that she should dump him for good. She keeps saying that he only turn against him-self (threat to kill him self, etc...), and not against other people.\n\nSo, what can I say that would make her see the danger? (me and my sister are out of the house for years now, so no problem there)", "summary": "mother with verbally (for now) abusive boyfriend wont listen to anyone that warns her of the danger. What can I do before something bad happens?"}
{"id": "t3_1akwsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] with [21F] feeling guilty over something silly?", "post": "I had my 21st birthday on the weekend and I got incredibly drunk. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years and I love her very much.\n\nHowever, during the celebrations I grabbed a close friends boob and gave it a little squeeze. I regret my action and I think a few people saw.  I had none at the time nor have any sexual feelings towards my friend and I apologised to her the next day. She laughed saying I was extremely drunk and she didn't feel awkward regarding it. Apparently I had also felt a few peoples bottoms ( which I don't remember).\n\nI feel guilty since this could hurt my relationship. Should I tell my girlfriend or only address this silly mistake if someone else mentions it?\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "Got extremely drunk at 21st, felt friends who are girls bums and one girls boobies and now feel guilty. Should I tell girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1eah1t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, does anyone know anything about passports?", "post": "Okay, so I have kind of a weird situation, I was born in the UK but I am currently living in the US and have been here for 13 years. ohh, also I have dual citizenship ( Mom is american, Dad is british ). My old passport has been expired for years, so I know I have to apply for a new one, my only problem is I can not find my American birth certificate . I do have my original birth certificate ( British one), a social security card, and an American drivers license  but from everything I have read it looks like I am going to need the american one, so i guess my question is; Will I have a problem applying for my  passport without my american birth certificate? If so, what steps do I need to do to get a passport within the next 3-4 weeks?", "summary": "Need a passport, have everything except a birth certificate"}
{"id": "t3_1lnzrz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by riding my longboard without shoes", "post": "I'm in vacation in California, so as always we bring our surfboards and longboards. \n\nToday we were going to trestles, to get to the actual beach you have to hike a paved path(takes about 10 mins). So I bring my long board and ride it down no problem. When we were coming back (uphill) my flip flops keep falling off my feet so I took both of them off and went for it. \n\nAfter I made it back to ny car my feet burned and I could feel cuts all over it. At this point I already knew I fucked up big time. But I just try to forget it and drove home. By the time I got home there is a huge blister under my toes and a lot of little cuts. So now I can't surf anymore on the trip I waited a year to come.", "summary": "I ruined my trip."}
{"id": "t3_4l7mc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Marriage + No Sex = Hell", "post": "My wife (40) hasn't cared for sex for A LONG TIME now. I (34) can't remember the last time I initiated and she accepted. She gives it up as a \"chore\" every month or so. We've been married 12 years.\n\nI find myself frustrated after a week of no sex. 2 weeks and I'm pretty angry. At 4 weeks I'm miserable. It affects my daily interactions with her as I'm frustrated with her and it affects the kids with a grumpy dad. I feel rejected, unloved, and just shitty. We've done counseling, I've been open, I work, I help around the house, I do surprise dates, gifts,etc... Nothing works!\n\nHow can I fix this?", "summary": "Wife won't have sex, i'm frustrated. Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_3j5rqt", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How do you think business travel/personal life sacrifice translates into dollars?", "post": "I signed onto my job for a reasonable sum of money. Basically I was transitioning out of a field that I knew a lot about, into a loosely related field that I needed a lot of training in. When I initially negotiated my salary I gave myself a couple thousand dollar raise over what I had been making at my previous job. \n\nAt the time I knew that in the coming year I would have to train overseas for a period of 6 months. Still, I felt like I could 'grow into' this job and that the experience itself was worth something. I felt odd about demanding too much money, when everyone involved knew I had no experience in this particular branch...I wanted the position and I didn't want to price myself out.\n\nAfter spending 6 months in Germany, I came back to the states and since I've been 'back' I have been traveling over 50% of the time...sometimes over a week at a time...East coast, west coast, Texas, Canada...overseas again...I am now nearly at the 1 year mark and I am really feeling the drain on my personal life. \n\nThey keep saying \"it will slow down\" and I actually DO like the job, but I'm looking for some equilibrium.\n\nAs I'm gearing up for my yearly evaluation, I feel like I need to address the personal strain...the job isn't EXACTLY what I thought I was getting and I feel like the pay scale is out of whack for somebody who is traveling so much...", "summary": "Job turns out to be like 70% travel the first year. How do I renegotiate?"}
{"id": "t3_2ugn3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex [16 F] 1 1/2 years, we broke up exactly 6 months ago and I lost my best friend I've ever had.", "post": "My ex and I had been dating for 1 1/2 years and we somewhat mutually broke up as we were becoming uninterested in each other. When we were face to face breaking up she asked me for a hug and I respectfully declined. This left her crestfallen. A few weeks later I reached out to her and asked if we would still be able to be friends (As she is the best friend I have ever had). She said she didn't know. Then I waited until another few weeks had gone by and she was pissed. Admittingly I had done some minor things to provoke her, but she went out and told people that I raped her and forced her to do things she didn't want to (When talking to the school her mom took my side that it was completely consensual). Its not that we didn't do any of these things, rather we both were very sexual people always wanting to try new things. But she went and turned that on me. All my friends hate her and want her gone. I feel that way much of the time however if given the chance to be friends with her again I would jump on it immediately. I don't know why but every day I think of her and just want to be friends with her again. (Because of rape accusations at my school I am not allowed to talk to her at all). What do I do? I want my friend back or at least want to be able to say hi to her in the hallways. I have apologized many times but now Im giving up.", "summary": "My ex accused me of raping her after our break up and my fucked up mind still misses her."}
{"id": "t3_2lhgxp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Out of the blue", "post": "Starting at uni over 3 years ago, i met this girl who i was to be living with for the year. Long story short, we ended up dating and living together through our second year. Just before our summer exams, i found out that she was seeing someone else behind my back. That was enough for me to call it a day and we broke up. \n\nCue awkward three months of still living together before i could move out... \n\nAnyway, i took a placement in my third year, leaving her to continue at uni and graduate. I haven't seen her or spoken to her since i moved out and i've been doing pretty good in terms of getting over her. Obviously there's been the odd slip up when ive looked at her facebook and got depressed but it comes and goes, and in the last few months ive pretty much got over her completely. Or so i thought.\n\nWalking out of lectures today, guess who i see in the corridor. Yup, its her. She graduated last July so i was completely unprepared mentally for this. It caught me totally off guard and its really thrown me when i thought i was over her. Seeing her walk through uni with her new boyfriend really got to me. Now, like i said, her seeing someone else behind my back was completely enough for me to break up with her, and i reallllllly dont wanna get back with her. But how i felt when i saw her really made me nervous/anxious etc. Luckily she didnt see me (i dont think) but even seeing her was really strange.", "summary": "saw ex at uni completely unexpectedly and it caught me totally by surprise, now re-evaluating whether im completely over her or not."}
{"id": "t3_4jr9oj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] can't tell if my friend [31F] of 5 months wants more than just friendship", "post": "My friend and I are both single. I met her at a local makerspace and asked her out (got her number and invited her to dinner), but it ended up not really feeling like a date. I started seeing someone else around the same time so this relationship became more of a friendship. We've never had much physical contact with each other, perhaps even less than I have with most of my friends.\n\nThing is, we hang out with each other a *lot*. One of the primary reasons is because I asked her to join me in this really ambitious project because she is talented. She is basically working for me for free so I feel immense guilt about \"egging her on\" - but I'm not sure whether I'm doing that? She hasn't dropped any obvious hints that she likes me, besides the fact that we hang out a lot.\n\nI buy her gifts and such because I like her (as a friend, I think) and because of the guilt I feel (she could sure use the money if I paid her for her work), but then she does the same for me, paying for dinners or buying me chocolates.\n\nShe's also been very interested in my culture (I'm Bulgarian) and often asks me to teach her the language.\n\nSo, does she just want to be a good friend, or something more? I feel guilty having her give me so much of her time like this when she is single and looking, plus it feels weird when we have rendezvous to talk about our project or work on our hobbies and it's everything but a date - we've gone to movies (she works pt at a theater), tea shops, plays together. She has hordes of other friends but we still do a lot of one-on-one stuff. She also seems to care a lot about me.\n\nAs for me, I think she's definitely very nice but I'm not sure whether I want to date her.", "summary": "Not sure if I'm being a dick by taking up too much of someone else's time with the wrong expectations."}
{"id": "t3_1y21tr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my friend[17-19 F] of two or three yers, I got in to the best college of my state with a low GPA my friend with a perfect 4.0 did not. What can I do to comfort her and to avoid seeming like I am bragging with my new school spirit.", "post": "I have tried to submit this post twice on my phone. This will be the last try. \n\nBasically both me and a good friend of mine applied to a really good school in my state. It is the best school in our state for both our majors (we have different majors however)\n\nMy GPA is around a 3.00 (un-weighted) and a 4.00 weighted. The schoools average student has close to a 4.0 (un-wighted) GPA. I applied because it was my dream school however I would say I was 98% sure I would not get in. \n\nI got in. My friend did not. I have no idea what to say. She is a straight A student. Unluckily her major isn't common there are only two schools in the state that offer it. This school and a not big name school that if she gets her degree from it will be close to worthless.\n\nI want to comfort her about this but I have no idea how. I'm also trying to figure out how. All my friends have been talking about their dorm stuff and now I can join the conversation. However I know every time I do she will be hurt. I know by the end of the year I will be wearing the school related clothes and all sorts of stuff like that. \n\nI got  in and I am amazed. \n\nBut by all accounts I should not have gotten accepted. Even my parents thought it might have been a mistake for a millisecond. \n\nSo what can I do? I really care about her and I want to help but I can't give up my dreams or not talk about them for her sake. \n\nWe had the following text conversation yesterday morning:\n\n\"Did you make it? I can't believe I did\"\n\"No\"\n\"Oh my gods I am so sorry. I assumed you would have if I did.\"", "summary": "I got in to an amazing school and my good friend didn't. This will basically ruin her life. What can I do to help comfort her and not to brag about my school and/or show of my new found school spirit."}
{"id": "t3_2oxpyj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by collecting firewood.", "post": "This happened a few hours ago.\n\nThere is supposed to be a \"freeze\" tonight where I live. My husband decided he was going to start a fire, so he asked me to go outside and help him collect wood. My husband took the wood from out large stock pile in the front yard, tapped out the wood and placed it in my arms. I was able to carry about 6 or 7 pieces.\n\nI go inside and drop the wood in front of the fire place. The very first piece that my husband had placed in my arms had a giant fucking spider on it. This piece of wood had been in my arms for a good 3 minutes. I have a crazy fear of spiders so I started crying and ran into the kitchen.\n\nThis thing was about the size of a silver dollar. We didn't have any bug spray, so we tried to kill it with oven cleaner. The spider was absolutely drenched and drowning in this shit and it wouldn't fucking die. My husband doesn't like spiders either so it was up to my mother-in-law to smack the shit out of it with a dust pan and then throw it out the door.\n\nI'm never getting firewood again.", "summary": "Got fire wood, had a spider, cried like a bitch."}
{"id": "t3_3bhgj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my ex and roommate [23 F], how to survive the nightmare my life has become?", "post": "I knew from the start of things that getting involved with my roommate was a stupid thing to do, but it had been so long since I'd had a meaningful relationship, and she seemed so...perfect!\n\nFrom the start it was agreed that it would be an open relationship, as that's how she does things.  Great, fine.  I was good with it, except I needed some boundaries to be maintained.  This is especially true as I couldn't exactly take advantage of my open-relationship status after a traumatic injury has left me off of my feet and out of work for three months.\n\nI still had savings.  So when she got into trouble from her drinking, or needed help with rent, I paid it.  Now I'm broke and waiting to find out if I get disability.\n\nShe said over and over that she loved me.  As such I tried SO HARD to make things work.  I gave her everything.  I trusted my heart to her.\n\nToday though, after she broke another (agreed upon) boundary (again), I told her that if she can't respect my boundaries, that I can't be with her.  She seemed sad at the time, which I'll admit was satisfying.\n\nFast forward four hours and she has her new boy toy over at the house.  They were drinking and they're likely fucking in her room right now.  Her bed is eight inches from my head when I'm in bed.  I've heard her moan and whimper fucking other dudes before.  \n\nSo now I live in terror of the agony and heartbreak of hearing her fuck the dude she brings into her bed.  I can't kick her out over it (none of the other roommates would likely support it), but I can't move with zero money.  I can't even lift anything for fuck's sake as I'm stuck with crutches.  \n\nMy life has turned into a nightmare.", "summary": "Still in love with roommate that I broke up with, what to do when I can't move out or kick her out?  Listening to her fuck other guys rips my heart apart."}
{"id": "t3_j39cn", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Help! Dog started chewing all the things!", "post": "I own a 1.5 year old American Pit Bull, [Sway,] who up until recently has been perfectly fine. She's been fixed, up to date on all her shots, and is house trained. When we first got her, she had some separation anxiety issues that caused her to chew up a bunch of stuff, including a DVD, thermometer, tooth brush and countless other things. This habit broke, she got used to being both indoors and outdoors frequently. However, two things have happened recently that have caused some serious concern. \n\nThe heat wave in Texas forced us to keep her indoors. She has shown herself to be perfectly capable in that she hangs out, didn't chew on things, ate and drank but waited for us to let her out to potty.\n\nOur neighbors started remodeling their house, and we have been waiting for the last month to find out when they will be putting in their new fence, which requires tearing down the old fence that is adjacent with our yard, leaving us with three sides of a fence.  This also has lead us to keep her inside. \n\nWithin the last week, however, we have come home to more and more destruction. At first it was some trash, strewn about the house. Then it was toilet paper. Today it was a box, toilet paper, AND trash. I was gone for an hour, tops. I don't know what to do!!!", "summary": "My dog has suddenly reverted to her puppy ways of chewing on things when we leave home. How do I correct this?"}
{"id": "t3_4phrpe", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Cardiologist report contained questionable health history.", "post": "Hello first timer here, I was viewing over my online health chart from my cardioligist and saw with past history conditions ( along with other conditions) that I have \"high functioning mental handicap\"  uhhhh wtf? The thing is I don't believe it was an oversight or typo ,  on the other hand I'm not completely sure what this means in regards to my current conditions ( depression , GAD, ADD......) so my cardiologist believes me to have a mental handicap just from my appointments regarding my health issues? ( not related to mental health) should I contact them to remove or ask them why it was put there in the first place?", "summary": "my cardiologist might think I'm mentally handicap"}
{"id": "t3_35lh4g", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My [37m] wife [49w] is no longer interested in sex", "post": "We have been married for 15 years, have a 9yr daughter and until quite recently have enjoyed a healthy sex life.\n\nIn the last 6-9 months, our lives had got a lot busier to the point we spend aonly about 1-2 hours a day together, although weekends are still fine. Also, my wife appears to be going through her menopause right now, and so whilst we are both still loving and affectionate to each other, there is no desire on her part for sex. What should I do, as I don't want to pressure her, but equally I don't really want to cheat or any thing?", "summary": "how to get my wife more interested in sex again."}
{"id": "t3_45fhe9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving myself a black eye via swing and via ball", "post": "NOTE: This happened in this month, both of em.\n\nSo, me and my friends were in gym, dodgeball for some reason. I was on the good (as in, the people that can snipe with a dodgeball) team. 5 minutes in, this kid was running around the entire gym, being crazy as all hell. I decided to throw a ball at him, since he was coming around. I threw the ball, and it missed, hitting the bleachers and then ricocheted right into my eye at full force. Black eye.\n\nAfter my black eye was healed, my friends wanted to go to our old elementary school playground and mess around. We went over, and this little kid was swinging. She got off and pulled back the swing and let go, sending it flying. I stopped that swing, and then started goofing off with my friends. We got on the swings, and my sleeve got caught. Turns out the chain was twisted from that little girl.\nPulled back, hit myself directly in the eye with a swing.\nANOTHER BLACK EYE!", "summary": "I hit myself twice with 2 different objects and got a black eye twice."}
{"id": "t3_3i8qkr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by exercising", "post": "So, I wake up in the morning, decide to hop on the exercise bike. I am not fit or experienced. I opened up Spotify, turned on some Monstercat (music person people) and started biking. Adrenaline was running high, and I felt fine all the way through. 1.0... 1.5... 2.0... And on and on, for 32 minutes. In which I went 7.2 miles. On an empty stomach. So, I get off the bike, walk over to the restroom to shower (palms are sweaty, knees sweaty, arms also sweaty, there's sweat on his shirt already) and the adrenaline fades. Quickly. So, now that my body has realized that I used up the vast majority of my blood sugar, it is very unhappy. I am barely able to see or walk, and I stagger into the bathroom, run into the door/walls/counter/cabinet/everything for 5 minutes or so, then fall over on the floor. My roommate heard me yell for him patted my back while I dry heaved into the toilet (James if you're reading this you fucking rock) then got me some orange juice. I felt like shit for the next half hour, but then I took a cold shower and a nap.", "summary": "exercised on empty stomach, blood sugar got low, I got fucked up. "}
{"id": "t3_53ei0s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21M) want's to get back in touch with High school crush (21F) after 4 years no contact.", "post": "My first ever post so here goes\n\nSo in the last 3 years of secondary school, there was this girl who had a crush on me. At the time, I was completely oblivious that this girl actually liked me more than friends. During drama and stuff where we needed to partner up, She would come to me automatically to be my partner and stuff. Gave off other subtle cues too which i never picked up.\n\n During the time I knew her in school, we used to have pretty much daily deep msn conversations about life and stuff. Heck a few times she slipped in she'd go out with me if I ever asked but I was so stupid at the time and didn't even make a move.\n\nI was pretty naive and stupid at the time but I think I took her advances towards me as teasing or something negitive, so I'd be mean to her in my last year of school. \n\nSince we finished school (4-5) years ago I haven't really spoken to her at all however I facebook messaged her around 2 years ago about something and she gave quite a nice enthusiastic reply back with kisses.\n\nI really want to get to know her again as she's a wonderful person, I've sorta struggled to find someone like her since and wouldn't mind if we became good friends again or dated (although i'd prefer the later :P) . I don't think she's had a boyfriend since then either\n\nI still have her on facebook, and I'm thinking of messaging her on that. She lives really close to me too.\n\nI know this is quite a ramble but I'd appreciate any advice on how I should go about initiating this, as it's been on my mind a lot.", "summary": "Girl in HS had a 3 year long crush on me, I took it negatively and pushed her away. Want to get back in touch after 4 years no contact."}
{"id": "t3_1bobie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's (F21) my (M23) ex but one of my closest friends. How do I deal with this?", "post": "My ex (F21) and I (M24) dated for a little over a year before she decided to call it quits. She cited feeling unappreciated and I didn't fight it, basically because I assumed she had already moved on, and didn't want to beg. One week later, she called back and said she thinks she made a mistake and wanted to try again. That only lasted a week. This was understandable, however, cause we tried to pick up where we left off and didn't address any of the underlying issues. And so, nothing much changed and it was painfully obvious that the first breakup had left somewhat of a rift between us. For me, the fact that she had made the choice to break up before communicating with me her concerns, made me think why wouldn't she do this again? Whether it's later on when we're dating or if we happened to get married? For her, the fact that I didn't fight for the relationship bothered her and made her question if I even wanted to be together. \n\n2 months later, she contacts me saying she realizes she's made a mistake. I'm not over her. However, I would be a fool to go back to her. The trust is  no longer there and I don't think she would be able to handle the fact that most of my friends now disapprove of her after all that has happened.\n\nI still like her, but I think I'm doing the mature thing by not going back to her. We broke up on good terms, but obviously we both need time away from each other. Having a hard time dealing with the fact I might not talk to her for a while though. It makes me sad because I feel as though I've lost a very close friend. Any advice for how to deal with losing a girlfriend who's also a very close friend? (we were not friends before getting together).", "summary": "Dated for a little over a year. Broke up, got back together, realized it didn't work. How do I deal with losing a close friend?"}
{"id": "t3_eel85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Oh man Reddit, how and the hell do I not lose my job by trolling this lady?", "post": "I work as a webmaster-ish person at an RV company, and have recently started working on adding video tours to all of our units.\n\nWe run our website through a company that handles web design for non-web people (before I got here).  Essentially it's a template we add our content too.  \n\nAnyway, After spending a few hours searching for how to embed content onto our site from youtube, I broke down and emailed support. This was their response:\n\n\"We don't offer any support on third party sites, especially YouTube. Your platform is built to support your own video individually on each piece of inventory. If you already have them why wouldn't you then submit them to us for publishing. YouTube is dangerous and in many cases has infected client sites with malicious viruses. Probably a good thing to stay away.\" -Angela\n\nWhich begs the obvious question, why don't I just upload it directly to their site?\n\nTo upload a video to this site, I have to go to a \"media\" tab and upload the file.  There is no progress bar, just a little box that blinks.  Once that finishes I have to go to a separate tab called \"video\" and dictate which media object is the video, I have to give it a title, length (in seconds), and size in KB of the video.  Once that is done I have a Standard Definition video in 4:3.\n\nI still haven't actually gotten a video to upload yet though.\n\nHow do I not troll this lady and lose my job?", "summary": "Wah."}
{"id": "t3_2b3d9m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Wanking on a First Date", "post": "So I've kinda had it in for this girl for a long time, but I never confessed it until she came to me first and said she had a huge crush on me. We had both flirted like crazy beforehand, but now we were getting serious. We jumped into a relationship and I couldn't have been happier. Then I fucked up our first date.\n\nWe went to this great bistro downtown. Very fancy, very date-night appropriate. The kind you get suited up and make a reservation for. I meet her there and she is stunning. I actually had to pick my jaw up off the ground. She had on a gorgeous dress that showed off her flawless long legs and, since I couldn't resist a simple glance, showed just a small, teasing amount of (awesome) cleavage.\n\nSo we sit down, talk and just kinda laugh about nothing. It's going good. But we're both painfully awkward so it resorted to us just laughing at the tablecloth after awhile and holding hands and sneaking a glance at each other every few moments. It was silly, but romantic and cute in a way.\n\nI had a very minor cold (that I was able to stifle in her presence) but the medicine I took a few hours prior was starting to get to me. Cold meds make me really groggy and disorientated. I have trouble focusing a few hours after taking them. So after a while I was just kinda sitting there, head sloping a bit, smiling a little as I tried to stay awake. My eyes darted to her cleavage a bit, and groggy me got a bit horny. And it was perfect cleavage, the kind you only see on Google Images. I guess some part of me thought I was at home looking up pictures of tits to wank off to, because I soon found my hand rubbing my tip through my pants. It must have been pretty obvious, because she looked at me, appalled and horrified. She scrunched her brow at me, then walked out. It was a huge scene, I guess, because I saw most of the patrons in the restaurant staring at me.\n\nSo yeah, I fucked up royally.", "summary": "I started jerking off to my date's tits in public while drowsy from cold medicine."}
{"id": "t3_44oyg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27M) and my ex-girlfriend (23F) broke up and I'm confused and not sure what to do about 4 year relationship/7 year friendship ending", "post": "We had a really great relationship for years, were best friends, and planned to spend the rest of our lives together, but then everything started to fall apart in 2015.I was having issues in my life and told her we couldn't be in a relationship anymore even though I still loved her the same as always wanted to be with her. I felt like I couldn't do it. I thought we would eventually get back together in a year or two if I was doing better, except now she's dating someone else so our relationship permanently over.\n \n\nShe still wants to be friends with me and for us to be in each others lives, but it doesn't feel quite right to me. I still like her, care about her,and enjoy talking to her for the most part, but I no longer feel this strong connection with her or feel too motivated to spend time with her since we have no future together and there will no longer be things like playing co-op games together, video chatting on Skype for hours, or her staying at my place. I've told her I'm not sure if we can be friends and she wasn't too happy about it.\n\nShould I try to rebuild a friendship with her since she wants to be friends and we've always gotten along so well, or should I forget about it and move on? Is it right to give up on someone I've known for 7 years and possibly hurt her more by cutting her out of my life? Despite being in a long-term relationship before, I can be a little clueless when it comes to relationships and friendships. I'm not sure what I should do.", "summary": "Was best friends with someone and also in a relationship with them for years. It's over now and I can't decide if we should be in each others lives or not."}
{"id": "t3_32durm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shit at my girlfriend's house", "post": "Quite possibly the worst day of my life.\n\nSo I went to my girlfriend's house to pick her up for the movie we were going to watch later that night. But first, I had to take a massive dump and I figured better at her house than at the movie theater. (this was only the second time I had been to her house and definitely the first time I used her bathroom). I told her I was going to run in and use the restroom while she waited for me in the car. I decided to use the toilet upstairs  (her parents were downstairs and i didnt want them to hear my poop hit the water) Once I get there I let it out and trust me, it keeps on going and going. When I'm done I wash my hands and proceed to flush the toilet. First try, nothing happens. Try again nothing happens.. Keep in mind, I just unleashed Hell onto this toilet and I really liked this girl. I contemplated on scooping it out and letting it flow down the bathtub. Suddenly, I hear my phone ring and she says, \"Hey sorry use the downstairs bathroom the one upstairs is clogged.\" At this point I feel like jumping into the toilet myself but luckily her parents were chill and so was she.", "summary": "i go to my girlfriend's house for the first time and take a massive dump in a broken toilet."}
{"id": "t3_pyyat", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When was the last time you actually watched live television?", "post": "I'm guessing that most people today have some form of DVR, whether it be a Tivo or the one you rent from your local television service provider.  I personally have a Ceton InfiniTV 4 card in my computer with 2 Switched Digital Video Tuning Adapters that provides for 4 HD streams at a time.  That along with a 2 TB Hard Drive makes for a pretty decent queue of recorded television shows for my fiance and I to watch when we feel like it.\n\nToday I sat down on the couch and after flipping through the recorded TV queue decided I didn't really want to watch any of those things, so I hit the \"Guide\" button on my remote to see what was on.  It dawned on me that this was the first time in at least 2 months that I had watched live television, when I tried to skip forward past a commercial and realized that I couldn't lol.\n\nSo yeah, how about you?", "summary": "Realized that I'd been watching nothing but DVR'd TV for at least two months.  When is the last time you actually watched live television?"}
{"id": "t3_43v3ep", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not realizing my sister was home.", "post": "So generally when I'm home alone, I'll walk around in my boxers and yell and have conversations with myself. I ain't ashamed, it's my house and I shall do as I please. But that's only when I'm home alone. My sister was spending the night here due to getting in late from a flight (she's a redditor, hi LMW) and she was sleeping in our guest room. I didn't know this, so I thought I was home alone. I was doing my thing, walking around in my boxers, checking myself out in the mirrors, winning imaginary arguments that were somewhat vulgar and very loudly yelling my hypothetical come backs. She walks out of the guest bedroom as I am standing in the bathroom right next to it, verbally dominating my dick head of a boss, and I find myself in one of the most awkward stare downs I've ever been in.", "summary": "thought I was home alone, stripped to my knickers and yelled like a crazy person, only to find out my sister heard the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_3kmdxa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I handle proximal domestic violence", "post": "So reddit. I just moved into a brand new apartment with my fiance. (The reasons being another even crazier story for later). And about a week into living here quietly with the other tenants, a man shows up at the building screaming about money in an argument with the girl across the hall from us (one of two other apartments).\n\nThe walls are super thin. I couldn't help but get the feeling something was up. So I listen and it seems like he is moving in. I heard here tell him she's got nothing and that she had just given him over some a week ago.\n\nHe came from his \"baby mommas\" place and constantly used his race as a former of psychological abuse for her. He also threatened to hit her more than a few times. He claimed he had to leave to avoid it.\n\nTo have a cigarette. \n\nAfter he came inside from his cig it escalated with her screaming about him lying and abusing her. There's a physical altercation and he starts yelling, \"Get away from me!\" Later a yelp from the dog. Some tumbling sounds and her crying. He storms out and she says he can't just move in. He obviously doesn't care. He's staying there.\n\nIt's been 5 days and he still lives there. They argue a lot and he smokes pot and cigarettes in the hall which is forbidden. My fiance and I are quite small and frail and have no idea how to handle this situation. We are concerned because the local statistics for this kind of thing isn't too good. I can barely sleep. What do?", "summary": "violent abusive homeless guy moves into \"side b****'s crib\" across the hall."}
{"id": "t3_4208jd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 3 1/2 Months, live together and don't have sex.", "post": "Throwaway because she Reddits.\n\nA bit of history. We met a bit more than a year ago, and became friends. We stayed just friends for 8 months mostly because I was talking to someone else during the time; but we were really good friends (I'd go over to her house and stay the night or she would come to mine and we'd play games or marathon movies all night). A month before we got together, after I stopped talking to the other girl, we started to hang out a lot. Like a lot a lot. To the point where we basically lived with each other. I talked with her about it, we both liked each other, and agreed to be in a exclusive relationship. Things progress as they should, we both love each other at this point.\n\nSo here is the problem like the title says. We've lived with each other for 4 months now, and she isn't comfortable having sex with me or anything related really. We kiss each other, and we both are comfortable being naked around each other. We even take showers and baths very frequently. Also on top of that we're around each other almost 24/7. I work a remote job, and she is jobless so she's always with me. Now when it comes to very sexually specific things it's a complete no go, including oral or stuff like fingering or handjobs. I've talked to her a few times about this, and basically her response is 'I feel awkward about that stuff, or dismisses the conversation without giving a reason other than \"I don't want to.\" I don't even know how to approach the conversation without seeming pushy anymore. We've both have had sexual relationships in the past, and to me sex is really important in a relationship. It just baffles me and makes me feel used for a place to stay. Even after she's said that she's attracted to me and that I turn her on. Also that she can see herself marrying me, and I feel like could as well. I need advice on this because I feel like it will destroy this relationship.\n\nI'm really sorry for grammar mistakes and formatting. I'm on mobile and struggling with it.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have lived with each other for 3 1/2 months, and we haven't had sex at all and dismisses any kind of conversion about it. What should I do about this to hopefully figure out what is going on?"}
{"id": "t3_1mg2xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20/F] and my SO [24/M] have been together for 2 years. Will my commitment issues ever disappear?", "post": "I don't trust men. When I was 14 I dated my first boyfriend and it lasted for 3yrs. It was co-dependent and very unhealthy. He told me what I could and couldn't do and would frequently dump me for other girls then come crawling back to me. I felt trapped and scared of getting \"in trouble\" constantly.If I did something he didn't like he would punish me. Ever since then relationships scare the shit out of me and I HATE feeling \"trapped\". \n\nTo add to this my dad was abusive too so I've never really had a + male role model or any idea of how a relationship should be. Being sexually abused by an adult male when I was 12 further added to my anxiety with men. I KNOW there are awesome guys but my anxiety wont let me relax and completely trust anyone.\n\nI met my current boyfriend a year later. He's a model boyfriend. Meaning he's everything you should want in a relationship. He's patient, caring, kind, loyal. We've been through a lot together. When I met him he was addicted to fentanyl and he got clean a few months after we started dating.\n\nWe are in a LDR 7 months of the year because I go to school 10 hours away. My issue is I am extremely attracted to other guys. I have never cheated on him but the temptation is always there. I don't want it to be there. I thought that you should be slightly attracted to other people but not overwhelmingly so. I am also terrified of being \"trapped\". It's horrible to say because I should feel secure but I don't. i'm scared of intimacy.\n\nI don't know if I'm ready to settle down and I know he is. I would never do to him what my ex did to me  so If I break up with him  there's no going back. This is why I need to view this situation from as many different perspectives as possible. He's perfect so why can't I just get over these commitment issues?! Please help", "summary": "commitment issues due to a bad controlling relationship when I was young + bad experiences with men. afraid of committing to current awesome boyfriend. feel like a bad person for always being so attracted to other men"}
{"id": "t3_h6t7q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad is seeing a PIXELATED ellipse/circular shape in his left eye that comes and goes. It remains in the same spot and is opaque, and appears seemingly at random. WTF is it?", "post": "**He is seeing a retina specialist on Tuesday. Anyone having similar symptoms and finds this via google, go see a doctor instead of googling.**\n\nHe does get Auras but without migraines AND ocular migraines.  We've ruled that out, it doesn't behave like either and it has become persistent, and looks like a drop of semi-opaque (ok, I guess transparent) water but with a mottled/pixelated pattern to it.  In shape, it appears to be a 'U' or horseshoe shape, but if he focuses on close things, like reading, it, becomes a circle, or O. It is not a blind spot, but more blurred, but blurred with that pixelated pattern.", "summary": "My dad probably has some shit going on in his eye or is a robot."}
{"id": "t3_29fzeg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By calling the cops on my Cholo neighbours", "post": "In our apartments someone had a Quincea\u00f1era party, there was loud music and karaoke going on around 10 p.m. Around this time one of our neighbours asks the DJ to turn down the music, instead of taking it to consideration, the DJ just ignores it. The guy gets very angry at this and turns on the water hose, sparying it onto the food, people, and electrical equipment. After I hear a few bottles break, I know there was going to be violence among them because the Cholo's family starts getting riled up and kitchen knives start appearing. At this point I called the cops on them because I was honestly worried what the outcome might have been. As I finished the call, I see one of his family members look at me from my window, I couldn't tell if he told the others but at this point I was nervous. Luckily the police show up on time before anyone gets shanked. During the police report, the Cholo tells the officer that someone threw a Chili pepper at his face and said, \"Stick it in your asshole\", I started laughing at hearing this from my window, which made them to believe I called. One of officers finds drugs and arrests the guy. \n\nAfter the incident; I start noticing the ugly faces the family makes at me. A few days later, my mail packages start missing and other things are getting stolen. I don't care at this point because I'm moving somewhere new for college in July but I can tell things would get a lot harder if I stayed around.", "summary": "snitches get stitches, or in this case their mail packages get stolen."}
{"id": "t3_3gu78k", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is pouring water out my window illegal?", "post": "hello everyone and first time using this subreddit.\nI am located in Canada, and I rent my house. I have made a system for my aquarium to cycle water and pump it outside my window,and in return replaces the water in the aquarium tank. so we live in a old 3 floor 12 unit apartment with no balconies and no elevator. soo my neighbor yelled at me last night at 3:30 in the morning saying \" hey hey dont do that, dont do that again are you stupid?\".\n\n i told him that its aquarium water that is being poured. MIND YOU THE SYSTEM DISCHARGES LESS THAN 100ml OF WATER PER DAY, PER DAY. think two sips of a can of coke. I told him to come upstairs and lets talk face to face. he said\" im going to tell your mom that you pour bong water outside your window\". So i laugh at and said go a head, she knows thats not what im doing here. Mind you i do smoke weed every once (joint) in a while with friends at my house, yet they them selves smoke weed either inside or outside the house (hypocrite).\n\nanyways my mom and sister enter my room, because they heard the conversation. so i loudly told my mom \"hey mom the downstairs neighbor has a problem with me pouring water outside our window\". and she loudly said that she know what im doing in my room and she has no problem with it. then the guy shut up. now i realize that this has happened before but i never really released the neighbor was yelling at me. \n\nNow i do have pictures of my setup, my aquarium pump and its arduino home made controller and piping, and i want to take a video of the setup and go downstairs tomorrow and show it to him. i want my god damn name cleared, im a god damn engineering student, working my way and paying rent just like everybody else.", "summary": "is it illegal to pour 100ml of water outside the window of my rented house which would not damage anyone property. because it rains here 9 months of the year. and the water basically lands in the alley way. 100ml of water. im i crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_4l0gf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do people in strong relationships just fall out of love with one another?", "post": "Me (21) and my gf (21) have been in a relationship now for 3 years and everything is going great. At this point in our relationship we're both very supportive with one another and completely in love.   The other day though I was with a good buddy of mine who ended things with his gf of 7 years because he didn't love her anymore. This completely baffled me because they seemed perfect when they were together and just last week they were talking about how awesome their relationship is. Now I'm just paranoid that regardless of how hard I try in the relationship it could just end so quickly and that scares me which obviously isn't healthy.", "summary": "friend broke up with his gf of 7years and now I'm paranoid about my own"}
{"id": "t3_1ny9jr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get over an unrequited love?", "post": "About three years ago I met this girl that I fell in love with. Now, I'm not the strongest and best looking person and I know it, and my personality is very unstable. But I though I would give it a shot and ask her out.\n\nWithout shock to me, I was rejected. Being in school at the time didn't help either, so I was picked on even more than I was before. But then we started to get to know eachother and I would hang out with her and her friends all the time.\n\nOne day though, we all got into a fight with eachother and I had to split with the group. I will never forget this, because I was the cause of it. Ever since then, we have never talked in person.\n\nA couple of years passed, and I moved to a different school. Numerous failed attempts on my part to reconnect have shattered my self esteem. I have now developed very low self esteem and severe social awkwardness because I am afraid of rejection. \n\nThe thought of her still crosses my mind all the time, even bringing me to the verge of tears. I have never gotten over her and I'm afraid I never will.", "summary": "fell in love, got rejected and have not gotten over it."}
{"id": "t3_51ekaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my SO[26 M] of 4months, we spend too much time together.", "post": "Hey so this is a bit silly and compared to half the stuff I read on here it's probably such a non issue to most of you.\n\nSo Max and I have been together for 4months now. Everything is fab and I love being around him and spending time with him, but because its so easy to be around each other I think we spend too much time together.\n\nOver the last 3 weeks we've spent every single night together after work (bar two nights) and we were also away together for a week in this time. Now in a way this is great, I love being with him and I'm not sick of him at all, I could continue doing this. BUT I feel like the excitements gone a bit. He'll sit on his phone in the morning in bed and we wont chat, or we'll just sit next to each other on the sofa in the evening and not really talk. It's like we've been together for years instead of 4months.\n\nI just wanted some suggestions of what I could do to make sure we don't just get stuck in to a routine. I'm going home to mine tonight and have made plans with friends every night this week and going to see my dad this weekend to just give us some space and chill time. Should I talk to him about this or should I just leave it unsaid and just work on maybe some fun date night ideas?\n\nI know it seems a bit minor in the grand scheme of things but I'd love to hear from you guys and how you keep things fun. Especially after we've both had long days at work etc :)", "summary": "New relationship, worried we're going to get stuck in a boring habit. How to make things fun?"}
{"id": "t3_ger46", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone take back something they gave to you as a gift?", "post": "My uncle was staying with my grandfather for about a year.  He was slowly throwing away my grandfather's old things (television sets, bath towels, etc) and replacing them with new things he bought and gave to my grandfather as gifts.\n\nHe suddenly gathered up *everything* he ever purchased in my grandfather's house (even if it was a Christmas gift from 30+ years ago) and left with it.  My grandfather is in a tight spot now because he's missing a lot of items he's come to depend on.\n\nOne of my friends said that if something is given under the agreement of a gift and then it is taken back, that can be considered property theft.  I know so little about all this, but I can't help but feel it's wrong (at least on a moral level).  Is there any legal backing, or is my grandfather just out of luck for accepting gifts?", "summary": "Uncle threw away grandfather's things, slowly replaced them with new things; recently took every purchased item and moved out without warning."}
{"id": "t3_3eqdst", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Suggestion for my boyfriend [31/m] and me [21/f] on when a good time to move in together is?", "post": "Hello, I am very new to this area of reddit and recently my boyfriend [31/m] of 1 year and 5 months have discussed moving in together. His current lease is up in April of 2016, by then we would have been together for 2 years and 2 months. \n\nRight now I am working part time and going to school full time to obtain my BA in Criminal Justice. I will obtain my associates in the spring of 2016. The only problem that I am worried about is that financially I will not be able to afford it and my grades slipping once I am accepted at a university. My boyfriend is also in school part time and working full time and will obtain his associates in the spring of 2016 as well.\n\nI am currently living with my parents, the first time I moved out was when I was 18 and it did not go so well. I'm afraid of history repeating itself. My mother suggested him moving into my parents home and save up money (my boyfriend is at my parents house everyday anyways, I don't see the harm). However, for some reason my boyfriend seems hesitant. \n\nWhat would you guys suggest in a situation like this? (p.s I really hope this is in the right subreddit).", "summary": "version: My boyfriend and I are looking at apartments, however, we are both not done with college, I am worried about financials and my grades being in jeopardy. My parents suggest that we rent out a section of their house until we are at least 1 year into university, but he is hesitant to give me an answer on if that is what he wants to do."}
{"id": "t3_3g2szx", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm a guy and i think my gf is cheating/had cheated on me", "post": "Alright, I've been together with her for a few years now and yesterday I was going through her gallery on her tablet looking for a specific picture when i came across an album named ''Bloody master'' which on the thumbnail was a a screenshot of a skype conversation and the other users profile pic which was a woman, curiousity hit me so i decided to check it out.\n\nThe album featured around 14 images of skype conversations, Nothing all that sexual in the comments except lines such as: ''Stop seducing me <3'' ''Oh master!'' and then the other person saying such as ''Good slavey'' and theres a bunch of blushing icons coming from my gf! But theres nothing that love related conversations in the screenshots I've seen.\n\nNow I, uh i really dont know if this is on going or not and i dont know if i should confront her or mention anything because im honestly upset.. However I do not know how to react..\nPlease help me, women of Reddit.", "summary": "Discovered photo album on gfs tablet, contains screenshots of skype conversations which doesnt seem right."}
{"id": "t3_4b0q6z", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Today is my birthday and everything is wrong", "post": "I feel like shit, not because of my birthday, I honestly feel like shit everything is wrong today. I feel useless and uncared, my family didn't want to go to have lunch with me even though they say they would yesterday, and yes they gave me a present but does it really matter if they disappear and leave alone this day?\nI came home from school wanting to go but it didn't happen, I took a nap and woke up more sad, this has been building inside me for a while I guess. My sister is angry with me I don't know why, she's just is, I just don't know what went wrong today, I wanted to have a nice time and here I am, on the verge of tears depressed as shit and no one caring, and I feel like if I act like this they will think I'm ungrateful cause they gave me a gift and that deserves a happy face from me all day. I'm not happy.\nI honestly don't know where everything went wrong today, I just wanted to have a good time this day, I've been stressed so much at school and work and it's just great that the only day I wanted to unwind everything is shitty.", "summary": "Today is my birthday, my sister hates me today I have no idea why, my dad is in his room watching Netflix and my mom isn't home. No one cares."}
{"id": "t3_wf703", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR question - How often should you stay home to talk to your SO?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm a 20F who's been dating a 21M for over a year.\n\nMy boyfriend and I are currently in a quasi-long-distance relationship. We live relatively near each other, but my parents are unsupportive of the relationship (for various reasons)\u2026 So the time we can spend together is extremely limited. In fact, the majority of the time we \"spend together\" is online, like most LDR couples.\n\nLet me start off by saying that I'm extremely supportive of my boyfriend spending time with his friends. I've learned over the years that time apart is necessary for a happy, healthy relationship. When he tells me he's going out and getting offline, I'm all smiles, and I send him off with a big \"Hope you have fun tonight!\" I'm all for independence, I really am. I'm not one of those girlfriends who expects their boyfriend to drop everything they're doing to come talk to me.\n\nBut the thing is, he goes out every single night\u2026without fail. He's gone from around dinner time to 3-4AM. He sleeps all day, wakes up at around 4-5PM, we talk or hang out (if possible) for around an hour, and then he leaves again to go out with friends. \n\nEvery time I try talking about it, he gets extremely riled up. So I just ended up giving up on discussing the issue. But yeah, the other day, when I had a horrible, horrible day and wanted to talk to him for a while, I just acted a little sad that he was leaving, and even then he started getting angry. \n\nI presume that this is an issue that at least some LDR couples go through. Is this something that I simply have to get over? Am I acting selfish / spoiled for wanting him to stay in once in a while?", "summary": "\u2013 Quasi-LDR boyfriend spends every night with his friends. Is it wrong for me to want him to stay in sometimes?"}
{"id": "t3_2o1oix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17F] and someone who hurt her [18M]", "post": "Let me start with this out with I think I took the right course of action but I'd like to see if there's anything else I could do.\n\nI've Been with my girlfriend, Anna, for a year and a half. Before I was in the picture she was with this guy, John. They weren't together as long as we were but she confided in me that he took advantage of her physically by forcing himself on her. She did go to the school counselor and report this to her school police offer. Nothing came from that.\n\nJohn has also forced himself on Anna' friend Melissa but as much as Anna encouraged her to say something to someone, she didn't want to. I would obviously like it for John to be no where to be found but lately he's been dropping by their schools and I'm worried. He's tried to talk to her but she was always with a friend and walked away. He's repeatedly trying to contact her, she has blocked him and told him that she will take appropriate action if he doesn't stop (the cops). \n\nIs here anything else I could be doing? I've been supporting her and she doesn't talk about this and she's sworn to me that this doesn't affect her day to day life. Am I doing everything possible? \n\nAny advice would be great!", "summary": "John is repeatedly trying to contact my girlfriend Anna and I'm seeking advice."}
{"id": "t3_3d7dub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26f with bf 25m 5 years. Bf is unmotivated to get a job.", "post": "In short bf is everything wonderful. But seems unmotivated or has practically given up looking for a job due to him not finding anything for so long. He flat out told me that he is not an ambitious person and he's happy to settle with an average paying job as long as its enough to support us. I should mention the unemployment is high where he lives so I was understanding of it at first.\n\nHe finished school a few years ago and is very picky about what he applies for or doesn't even apply sometimes because he reads too much into the requirements and thinks he's not qualified. He's been to recruiters and job centers but they've offered either no help or jobs that are 4 hours away. I've had enough of it and told him that we would break up if he didn't keep applying for more jobs. We set up a linedkin together and found 7 jobs to apply for. He has past military experience. Warehouse experience and found a temp job at the military as well. But he hasn't worked in over a year.\n\nWe don't live together. We are long distance. I worry his lack of motivation and ambition is problematic for our future. I have a fairly good paying job and I'm always looking to advance. But for him its the opposite. \n\nWhat to do? I'm also worried he may be depressed? Idk I've seen a bunch of posts like this where ppl say it may be depression?", "summary": "bf has no motivation."}
{"id": "t3_2hhwbe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Too early for a diamond ring? No idea how to proceed... Me[29/f] He[27/m]", "post": "We met while working overseas. We work for different companies, though we're in the same field, so we ended up spending a huge amount of time together for three months. He ended up getting really into me and I made it clear that I wasn't looking for anything serious. I made it clear that our \"thing\" was just for right now, and that I felt it wasn't meant to last. At the time, that's how I felt. \n\n I was sent back home and he remained overseas, during which time we kept in constant contact. I ended up missing him much more then anticipated. He insisted that we see each other again. I agreed to come and see him so that we could get a gauge on what a relationship would be like OUT of a work environment.\n\nHe paid for my flight after much insistence and now I am here to spend some time with him *out* of a work situation. Everything is going well, but today is my birthday and only my 6th day here and he gave me a spectacularly beautiful diamond ring. \n\nOoooook. \n\nSo I was floored. This thing is magnificent, and he insists it's just a birthday present, but I still don't know how serious this relationship could potentially be...and I think it would be unethical to accept this. I have no clue how much this thing could have cost, but it looks like it was a lot. No one's ever gotten me a diamond ring before. Or a diamond anything. \n\nI really like him, but I am wondering if he's the type to move far faster then I am. I am so flattered, but now I am also a bit scared. \n\nWhat do I do here? If I still feel fond of him, and I leave here feeling *just* fond of him, then I can not possibly take this amazing ring with me. I think it would be wrong. And even after coming here to figure out how we'd click out of an intense work environment I do not know if I could love him like he'd probably want me to.\n\nJeez, how the hell do I handle this?", "summary": "Non-serious relationship and I've been given a diamon ring not even a half-year into it and I don't know what path to take."}
{"id": "t3_1vk4g0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22m] asked out 22f , not sure if a no/maybe and what to do?", "post": "I(22m third year) met girl(21f fouth year) as orientation leaders in September. She was my co-leaders friend and we hung out a bit and exchanged numbers.\n\nWe started texting and snapchatting soon after and then made out one night at a club. It was pretty sloppy since it was my first time (finally) and I then walked her back home until abruptly running away after experiencing \na pretty severe panic attack.\n\nAfter a few days of no talk, we started texting and snapchatting a lot every day. My co-leader suggested that I ask her out, as she was pretty sure she liked me, but I was swamped with a heavy course load so I thought it would be best to wait until Jan. Meanwhile we started running into each other almost daily at the library and would often hang out for study breaks. We also discussed our unexpected make out   at the club and we joked about it. She knows it was the first time I had ever kissed someone. I usually dont come off as a socially awkward virgin.lol\n\nOnce back from the holidays, she asked me around midnight to come to a party with her on weekday. I was already in bed and had a long day ahead so I apologized. She was pretty open and direct about what she wanted to do and how she felt. \n\nA few days later I asked her out on a date. She said she wanted time to respond and 2 days later texted me that she 'doesn't want to be a douche but her life is a currently a mess'. I responded with okay and we didn't communicate much for a few days. She's snapchats me a lot again and I occasionally respond, not as much as I used to.\n\nSo, her reply was in no way a yes. Do you guys think there's still a chance? Should I stick to maintaining distance or just be the way I used to be. I really don't want to be placed in the imaginary friendzone since I do like her. If this is a more casial/fwb thing, how do I figure that out?", "summary": "I(22m) met a girl(21f) recently, made out a club and became friends. I heard she into me and then found that out directly from her. Asked her out but got a very cryptic reply. Don't know what to decode that reply to or what to do now. "}
{"id": "t3_16isy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First post, really looking for support: Cheating SO [m21] says he will do anything to prove he can be right for me again, is there anything?", "post": "Last night I found out my boyfriend of 1 and a half years cheated on me for a couple weeks while I was abroad. The cheating started one week after he came to visit me and continued for a couple days. \n\nThe day after that, I broke up with him. I had no idea about the cheating, but he felt distant and started scaring me by saying he wasn't sure about our plans for the future. Wasn't sure he wanted me in his future.  A couple days later we decided to talk things through. Attempt to take future conversations out of the relationship (for him). He continued cheat with the same girl throughout the next month. (again, without me ever knowing she existed).\n\nI got home and it took abut a month to feel like we were before, but it was starting to feel good. Starting to feel like the relationship I was ready to devote my life to .And then I found out. I didn't find out from him, bu he confirmed it all. \n\nNow he says he will do anything to get my trust back. To show me he won't do anything like this again. I loved him. I thought we were going to spend our lives together, but now I am completely devastated. I feel like I don't have any idea who he is or what kind of guy he is. What are my options please? What is your advice? Please be kind. Its a really hard day.", "summary": "Last night I found out my bf of 1 and a half years cheated on me for a couple weeks while I was abroad. Now he says he will do anything to prove to me that he is sorry, that it will never happen again, that our relationship will work"}
{"id": "t3_2zdrrp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24m) and my friend (27f), she bailed on meeting up, is there a problem?", "post": "This is the same girl as from my previous posts (see submitted history for more info).\n\n---\n\nAnyways, she started talking to me on FB again a month or so after she got back from her trip, and in general things have been pretty okay. She has been busy because she started a new job. I still find this a little questionable as no matter how busy someone is, I don't know anyone who really stops checking their Facebook.\n\nAnyway, I digress. About two weeks ago, I asked if she would be up for hanging out. She seemed pretty up for it. She said there was a good chance she'd be free next weekend; the next day (Monday) she tells me that she might be going skiing during the weekend. I told her that was totally fine, we could hang out some other time, but she assured me that it was only a \"maybe\" and she'd let me know. \n\nThursday comes, I send her a message asking if she was going on the trip. She replies early Saturday saying she was busy the past few days (to justify why she never responded) and said she ended up not going on the trip. We chat about a bunch of random stuff and I send up asking her if she's free the next day, she stops responding. She finally responds Sunday evening saying she didn't see my message because she was busy cleaning her room. (???)\n\nAm I overreacting or does it seem like she really doesn't want to hang out with me? I realize I'm being kind of needy by asking this but given the signs... It's entirely possible she's just stressed out about her new job but I'm getting the feeling that's not the entire reason.\n\nWhat should I do? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to a while (and casually hanging out with) has started to avoid talking to me. We planned to hang out but she bailed on me and never really said anything until after the fact."}
{"id": "t3_489hd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Alright I (20M) need help with my ex (20F)", "post": "Quick timeline-\n-Met her freshman year and \"fell in love\" (she was my first a lot of things), dated for a year and a half\n\n-Basically lived together for 7 months\n\n-Signed up to study abroad together for Jan 2016\n\n-She went home for the 2015 summer (she lives 700 miles away) and became depressed\n\n-Visited her in the summer a few times, and when she came back for sophomore year she was not the same\n\n-Helped her and trucked along in the relationship until christmas break where she went home again\n\n-She abruptly ends the relationship and starts a new \"relationship\" at home with her male best friend on New years 2016\n\n-I turn into a complete emotional nightmare\n\n-January 26th we leave together for Europe\n\n-We live about 15 feet from each other here and have to do everything together\n\n-We fight and have sex and then fight and have sex some more\n\n-Until this past week where we fought and I put an end to it harshly.. She told me her new BF was coming for spring break.\n\nThen we make it to last night. My entire class is at a club and I am hitting it off with an Australian girl (if you are reading this PM me). We make it to the dance floor and she starts kissing me. Insert my ex. Comes and rips me from her arms and pulls me aside and jumps on top of me. This is a person who claims she has moved on and is not romantically in love with me. I try to get her off but by this point my Australian babe was gone.\n\nWHAT THE FUCK DO I DO? IM AN EMOTIONAL WRECK I CANT DO NO CONTACT FOR TWO MONTHS SHES EVERYWHERE.", "summary": "Studying abroad with ex, she lives next door. She has a new guy, but is still coming for me. Like really coming for me. I am not emotionally alright, and cannot escape."}
{"id": "t3_4mf90x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24M] am thinking about breaking up with my Girlfriend [23F] but I'm just not completely sure", "post": "Hi guys thanks for the help! I could really use some.\n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and it's my first 'real' relationship. But for the last few months I've been feeling that it's been going the wrong way. I'm just not feeling it that much anymore. It's kinda hard to explain but I just don't really want to spend that much time with her. The relationship is just going nowhere. \n\nI still love her in a way and still enjoy sleeping together (not necessarily sex) but I feel like we're at a dead end. We've had many talks about this but I know nothing is going to change. So I've made the decision to break up. It's been killing me though, easily the hardest decision of my entire life so far. I'm pretty scared that I'm going to make a bad choice and it's going to absolutely kill her. \n\nSo that's where I am right now, wanting to break up but finding it extremely hard but at the same time not wanting to break up. It's my first real breakup so I don't really know how it should feel, is it ok to still have doubts? Or is the pain a sign?", "summary": "Should I break up with my girlfriend while we still have a good time sometimes and I have the feeling it would hurt me very bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2tknpg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My (25f) longtime crush (27m) confided in our mutual friend that he was into me. But....", "post": "Hey reddit!!! Throwaway time!\n\nSo 5 years ago I met a friend of a friend, we'll call him James.  We met by chance at a party when we he was in town visiting our mutual friend. I wouldn't say we hit it off, but we had similar interests so we added each other on FB where we started chatting and continued to nearly every night, for over a year.., just about random stuff. He is and always has been, the person who has made me laugh the hardest. I started developing feelings but never acted on them because he lived out of state and never gave me any kind of hint that he was interested.\n\nAfter that year and some change we saw each other again at a friend's party. I was smitten but he seemed a little standoffish, so I didn't say or do anything for fear of awkwardness. Afterwards I slowly stopped talking to him as much, it'd go in waves and we'd go through periods where we talked every night for weeks and then nothing for weeks. We saw each other a handful of times afterwards and he was cordial but never overly friendly or anything that would insinuate interest.\n\nNow, throughout this time he's always been someone I...? Idk? Seem to be on the same level as? Idk? I just feel like he gets me on such an intrinsic level, hard to describe.\n\nFast forward to now, wherein he confessed to our mutual friend--when asked if he had had anyone he was dating-- said that he hadn't really been interested in since back when he talking with me...\n\nUhh?? I guess I'm still not completely convinced considering he was standoffish and seemed so uninterested, and never said anything himself...?!\n\nWhat do I do? Tell him I know? Therein breaking the confidences of our mutual friend?(isn't that what he/James kinda would want though?). Still, remember, he lives a plane ride away. Likewise, if I start talking with him again, is he going to be suspicious that our mutual friend told me?", "summary": "guy I had/have crush on told our mutual friend he hasn't liked anyone since talking with me."}
{"id": "t3_35l9lt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22f] with my SO [22m] 4 years, we both suck at fighting and it's ruining our relationship", "post": "I'm not really sure how to explain this. We live together and have for 3 years. Sometime in the last two years the way we fight changed and it is now happening more frequently and the fights are much worse. I used to not mind fighting because we always got a better understanding of what each other wanted in our partners and I thought we came out better following a fight. \n\nNow fights are happening over nothing and we both suck so much at dealing with it that we can't move on. Basically we get stuck on whose fault it is and who owes who an apology and who should apologize first and it just doesn't seem like the way an adult couple should be. If something bothers me, should I just let it go? If he makes a kind of rude comment, should I request an apology? Should I tell him it upset me and not request an apology? Should I just ignore it altogether? Thinking back my parents had an incredible relationship and I never once saw them get hung up on apologies like this. \n\nAny advice will help. This sub taught me how to admit I am wrong so I'm hoping it can help with this as well.", "summary": "SO and I are fighting more frequently over stupid things and our fights elevate because we always get hung up on who should be sorry and who wronged who and something needs to change"}
{"id": "t3_2u39yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Our sex life [21F] and [26M] randomly just stopped.", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I had a very very active sex life. (We've been together a year) I'm talking like 3-4 times a day at a minimum. That slowly died down to at least twice a day during weekends, and at least once during weekdays. And then all of a sudden, the sex stopped. I don't understand why. I know he isn't cheating, all he does is go to work and come home. He is still very loving and affectionate but the sex is almost down to 0. I've also lost weight, so it can't be because I got fat or anything. I tried to talk to him about it, but he just said something along the lines of that now that we live together, he just doesn't feel as horny as often anymore or something like that. (We moved in together 3 months ago). I don't mind the less sex, I myself don't really have the highest libido, mind you once a day would be nice. I feel pretty unattractive  because of it. It's not like we haven't had sex, but it's like, I give him a blowjob every day and then sex is every few days. It makes me want to cry. Is there anything that could be happening? I know he's been caught up in a new video game as of late and that could be the cause but idk. Every time I try to talk about it he says there's nothing wrong, he thinks I'm beautiful, and so on and so forth. What am I doing wrong? Everything outside of this is absolutely picture perfect..", "summary": "Sex randomly stopped, why?"}
{"id": "t3_2egx2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl friend [F 20] told me [M 20] she wants a break after two years. Looking for advice on how to move on.", "post": "Hi everyone, I'm going in to my third year of college and was just told that she wanted a break. My girl friend and I were together for two years and it hit me out of the blue. \n\nWe met three days into our first year and on breaks we lived about ten minutes away from each other. For the past two years we had been inseparable.\n\nShe had just transferred to a different school about an hour away and two days after she moved in she told me that she didn't know what she wanted anymore and that she wanted the \"true college experience\". She says she still cares about me and that shes not sure if she wants it to be over but it feels like she already made up her mind.\n\nThis was my first long term relationship, up until now they were all six months or less. Also she was my first for virtually everything. I'm just looking for advice on how to get over her. Classes starts tomorrow and I'm worried that I wont be able to focus on my school work with everything else that's going on. Any advice would be very appreciated.", "summary": "Got \"put on hold\" by first long term girl friend after two years. Says she might want me back but isn't sure. Looking for advice on how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_3s1vsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(17m) am having trouble connecting with a girl(17f) who likes me and who I like as well.", "post": "We've both acknowledged that we like one another, but the problem is I kind of don't. She's good looking and our personalities click pretty well. I just have a bad feeling about it for some reason. \n\nI've been talking to her for about 3 weeks now, and a few nights ago we went out together for the first time just to sort of hang out. (A few of my other friends were there too) It was fun, but it wasn't like other relationships I've had. There wasn't any super excited feeling when I would look at her. Something just doesn't feel right. What do?", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to for about 3 weeks likes me and I like her. But for some reason I feel like I shouldn't ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_1olr0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [21 F] of 4 years, reconnecting after a fight but she will not tell me what she wants.", "post": "Recently reconnected after about 1.5 months apart with my gf after a fight.  She is staying with her mother in a different town and I feel we have repaired our relationship as much as possible while still being apart.  She wants to work things out but doesnt want to return to our home together but rather have me go back there alone and just visit until she completes college (3 years left roughly).  Previously she was attending the college near our home and only has 2 years left there due to differences in curriculum requirements.\n\nIve asked her why she will not just continue attending where we have lived together and ive gotten a number of reasons that are always changing.  Things such as: being scared of fighting again, secluded from her family, turning her back on her mom who she has been staying with, not liking a few (literally like 3-4) people that live in that town, not wanting to have to work through college.  We have 2.5 year old son together that she wants to keep with her too.\n\nI offered to make it as easy on her as possible if she will try, but she said no or ill think about it multiple times.  I offered to move to where her mom lives but she does'nt want me to because I would have to give up my schooling and job and work in a beef rendering plant.  Though she would rather me do that then go back it seems.\n\nShe has expressed interest in moving in together in her moms town if i do move. Its her hometown so she knows a lot of people and i just found out she has been going to lunch with \"guy friends\" not in a group but alone on a one on one basis.  I see this as her dating though she denies it and tells me to trust her. Basically im scared that if i do move and give my current setting up ill just get burned from one of these guys but at the same time I dont want to leave her here and lose her from being away either.", "summary": "Recently reconnected with gf of 4 years she says she still loves me and wants to be together but refuses to leave her mom and come back to live with me again.  When I offer to move and live near her she was hesitant but did not shoot the idea down, however she is going out on \"guyfriend\" dates and i dont think thats appropriate. Advice!?"}
{"id": "t3_119ohq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She may be leaving for two years...", "post": "My girlfriend (F20) and I (M18) have only been together for two months. She was raised Mormon and I was raised roman catholic. Never before has our different religions created any issues and we both respected each others beliefs.\n\tI am not a hard core catholic or religious person. I doubt my religion on a regular basis and find myself struggling to stay religious. She on the other hand has always had a steadier faith, but never over whelming or pushy about it.\n\tAbout one month ago she left for Arizona to help take care of her younger siblings while her mother and father were out of state working. While she was gone we remained in regular contact via skype, texting, phone calls etc.  about one week ago she told me that she was considering going on her Mormon mission. The mission would last two years and during that time no contact is allowed with anyone except an email once a week and maybe some hand written letters. After she tells me this I am heart broken since I was finding myself falling for her. After talking about it she said she would not decide until she returned from her trip and was back home. (one week from now) \n\tI am at a loss for what to do. I know that if she leaves she will not come back the same person and I know that the person she comes back as will not be the girl I fell for nor someone I want to be with. Other friends of mine have gone on their mission or something of the sort and returned as scripture spewing ignorant irritating people, and it drives me crazy. I don't know how to act knowing that its possible I am losing her. And then, not three days ago she tells me that she loves me. I said it back and I meant it. But now I am not only afraid of losing her, but I am confused and perplexed on how to proceed. \n\tWhat should I do? Its still 50/50 that she will leave.\nPlus, she never mentioned mentioned the Mormon mission or leaving until she was back in her home town. Its possible that its only because she is home and getting pressure from everyone at her church.", "summary": "please read it, its not that long"}
{"id": "t3_1ivg82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25F] LTR boyfriend[27M] wants to buy a house, I won't be on the mortgage. Anyone in this situation or have input?", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nMy SO and I have been together round abouts three years. We were friends for years before that, he kissed me on a friend's balcony and we haven't looked back. He and I try to communicate as best we can (partially due to me trolling /r/relationships).\n\nI realized we were meant to be when we were installing a light fixture in my mother's house. We work so well together, I can't imagine finding a better partner.\n\nThe issue here is our living situation:\n\nOur original plan was to find a rental in a neat part of town, but his parents have offered to foot the bill on a down payment on a house. There are a few places he has looked at in the area in his price range, but he hasn't followed up on them at this point. He did all this decision-making and research without involving me in the process, but we talked about it today. \n\nI've agreed to living in the house he buys, but I don't want my name on the mortgage. He wants to move to a bigger city in five years or so, so I don't see the point in purchasing a house. His roommate is moving out in a month or two, and if he hasn't found a place yet, I will be moving into his apartment temporarily.\n\nI was wondering what you all thought about one partner having the property in their name? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What should we do in terms of property tax, repayment of his parents, and the mortgage?", "summary": "My boyfriend is going to buy a house, I am going to live with him. Uncertain on how to go about this."}
{"id": "t3_tatoz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my inability to take action is resulting in some major regrets now...", "post": "I'll try to keep it short.  One night this past year, a close female friend of mine came on to me.  We had been talking about our views on friends with benefits, and I assumed that's all she wanted.  However, it continued, and I think we both developed feelings for each other.  I know I did.  I was worried that if I asked her about it, and she didn't return my feelings, then our friendship would be ruined.  So I said nothing, and we acted like nothing had ever changed.  The end of the school year came (we go to the same college), and we both went back to our homes very far apart.  \n\nMy inaction and lack of balls resulted in me never asking the burning question of whether she felt something, too.  Is it too late?  Are any opportunities that we had now long gone?  Would it be seen as weird and clingy to call her and talk about it once and for all?  I have a feeling that I missed my chance, and it's just something that I'm going to have to painfully get over, but I really like her, I'm hurting because I feel like I missed something wonderful, and it would help to at least hear you guys weigh in on it.  \n\nThanks, and feel free to treat this kind of like an AMAA if you need more deets.\n\n**EDITS**:  me, male, age 20.  her, female, age 20.\n\nAbout AMAA...i lied a little.  it's getting very late, time for bed.  i'll keep checking back tomorrow, thanks for the answers so far!", "summary": "friends turned into fwb, turned into developing feelings.  i was a wuss and didn't acknowledge or ask if she felt the same.  gonna be apart for the next 3 months.  is it too late??"}
{"id": "t3_3ab88v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] boyfriend [32 M] told me I need to wear makeup around him", "post": "My boyfriend of 8 months doesn't like leaving his house a lot. He has a lot of social anxieties, so we stay in a good bit. Yesterday, he told me in a text \"I do like you for you, but sometimes I like to change it up babe. Sometimes I would like to see you wearing makeup with your hair down. Like you wanted to look \"good\" for me.\" I feel like because we are staying in that it is okay to hang out with my hair up and not put makeup on? Or just because I don't feel like it. I got very upset and he said I was being too sensitive. Am I wrong in being offended by this?", "summary": "Is it okay for my boyfriend to tell me that I need to wear makeup and fix my hair?"}
{"id": "t3_xjrph", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your favorite memory from college/university?", "post": "My best friend from university and I like to bake and cook with each other. One night we decided to make crepes. The shitty little \"kitchen\" in our dorm was about the size of a small closet and one could never shut the door all the way because the doorknob didn't function properly. My friend was unaware of the door problem and she accidentally shut the door.\n\nAfter we mixed the crepe batter I announced, \"I'll get the frying pan!\" To my horror I realized that no matter which way I turned the doorknob, I could not open the door. We immediately started pounding on the window of the door and shouting for help. Thankfully someone in the study lounge heard us. Of course, the first thing he did was stand there and laugh at us and take a photo to record our folly. Then he went back to the study lounge that was full of boys to make many women-stuck-in-the-kitchen jokes. After he came to his senses and remembered that we were indeed trapped in the kitchen, he sought help and a locksmith was called.\n\nTo help us pass the time, some of our friends grabbed a deck of cards and played Go Fish with use by shouting from the other side of the door and slipping cards underneath the door to us when we needed them.\n\nOver three hours later the locksmith (whom we aptly referred to as Colonel Sanders due to his portly stature, white hair, and white mustache) arrived to free us! :D", "summary": "Tried to make crepes, accidentally got locked in a shitty dorm kitchen the size of a closet, many jokes were made, and was freed by Colonel Sanders."}
{"id": "t3_2tvlc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 4 years, are thinking of having a poly-amorous relationship.", "post": "I am wanting to hear from other poly-amorous people on how to open up our existing relationship, good rules of thumb, and advice. \nMy boyfriend has brought to my attention that he wants to have an open relationship, where I have freedom to be with who I want. I, of course, want him to have the same freedom and opportunities. We had tried this once before but when things with someone actually started happening he kind of freaked out on me so we called it all off.\n\nWe're not really looking to solve a relationship problem specifically, I just think we would have a much happier lifestyle with the change.", "summary": "Wanting an open relationship, need advice on how to ease into it."}
{"id": "t3_1alsrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20m/22f] How often does the \"s/he loves you but doesn't know it\" scenario actually happen?", "post": "Hello all! \n\nThe background:\n\nI (22f) have been dating a special someone (20m) for about a month now. Everything is going really well and we make each other very happy-- of course, we're probably still in the honeymoon phase! We haven't spent a night apart since we started dating and one could argue that we spend too much time together (a question for another time!) We've could be moving too fast, but everything feels good and natural so we're throwing caution to the wind and just going with it. \n\nThe situation:\n\nI tend to talk a lot in my sleep and as I hover on the half-asleep edge of consciousness. Apparently for the last week I've been telling him that I love him, which I don't remember doing. I doubt this is a reflex or instinctual thing from previous relationships since I call him out by name and I haven't said (or even wanted to say) \"I love you\" to anyone in years, and I've been in other relationships since then. This is also the first time I've ever said it in my [half-]sleep, to my knowledge.\n\nI've heard somewhere that the subconscious doesn't tell lies, so is this a case of \"I love him but I don't know it?\" Personally I find the notion a little silly, but I wont rule it out. I definitely like him a lot, but being in love after four weeks? That's silly too. \n\nDisclaimer: I'm not stressing about this-- whenever it happens, it happens. I'm just curious about the whole thing, and I'd be interested to see what others think about it! Thanks for your thoughts!", "summary": "I say \"I love you\" to my boyfriend in my sleep. Is the \"s/he loves you but doesn't know it\" scenario a thing that actually happens in real life?"}
{"id": "t3_fxx5y", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Can we please cut out this Forever Alone shit?", "post": "Back in high school (before reddit existed) I truly thought that I would be forever alone. I have a vivid memory of sitting in a sex ed class where the instructor started it off by saying \"I don't care what any of you think but you will all have sex one day\" to which my internal reaction was serious doubt.\n\nI ended up going off to college with this mentality, and it was horrible for me. I didn't end up 'Forever Alone' in fact quite the opposite. I was so concerned that I would be 'Forever Alone' that I started treating women like objects instead of people, and attempted to 'acquire' them. I collected a string of girlfriends, all of whom were bad for me. But instead of realizing this I felt validated by the fact that I could get a girlfriend at all. Later when there was societal pressure to have one night stands with girls I wasn't attracted to I once again bought into my fear of being 'Forever Alone' and slept with them.\n\nIn essence, because I was afraid that I would be 'Forever Alone' I hurt myself to make sure that I wouldn't be. I've learned a lot along the way but I went through some pretty miserable years. For us as a community to be perpetuating this viewpoint, I think, only hurts our constituents, and will cause others of us to go through the same process.", "summary": "I thought I was going to be FA, so I got into a ton of bad relationships to make sure I wasn't. It made me unhappy, I don't want to see anyone else do it."}
{"id": "t3_2zbni0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 4 months, didn't check up on me after my surgery today.", "post": "I got all four wisdom teeth pulled today, and while the procedure went relatively smoothly (I did have a pretty bad allergic reaction to the meds they sent home after), I was hoping to receive some sort of text or call from my boyfriend asking how it all went. \n\nFor some background information, he is NOT the texting type at all, and I've mentioned before to him how I wish we could communicate more (with him initiating conversation some times). I understand that he gets distracted by video games and other things, and he claims he often just forgets to respond to my texts...but I feel like it is just weird to spend a whole day without talking to your significant other. Please let me know if my thinking here is rational or not! I would love to just give him a call sometimes, but I know he's usually busy with friends and video games so that's why I opt for texting.\n\nIt seemed like he was making progress in the communication department. He did initiate conversation yesterday before the procedure via text, and the last time we hung out I mentioned my concerns/worries about this surgery (first-time worrier under anesthesia). But the conversation yesterday ended off-topic, then he forgot to respond again, and then today I didn't hear a word from him.\n\nI understand that communication is a two-way street, and maybe I should have initiated conversation today, too. Part of me thinks that maybe he just wanted to let me rest; and since I did end up feeling awful and lonely and sad and NOT restful, maybe I should have reached out to him. I'm just not sure what to really think as it just seems so weird for him to just assume that everything went well (I could be dead for all he knows!!) \n\nI've been having trouble going from my last relationship to this new one, as my ex was way too clingy. Now it's like I'm not getting enough attention! Will I find a happy medium? I want to hear from you guys what kind of communication and how much is normal for a relationship, and I'd also like to know what you guys think of the whole thing because I tend to over-analyze everything! Thanks you guys!", "summary": "Boyfriend didn't check up on me after my surgery--was he letting me rest or did he just forget about me? Am I in the wrong for not initiating conversation today?"}
{"id": "t3_t8blm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU; got to work late because I missed two buses and deleted an e-mail from a boss", "post": "So I was asked to work this morning. Normally I walk to work, but last night I got some Chinese food and wated to bring the leftovers to work for lunch, so opted to take the bus.\n\nSo I look up the time that the bus closest bus should be passing and I go outside and wait at that time. However the bus wasn't coming. I waited 5 minutes after it should have showed before I figured that I had just missed it (maybe it was early). So, I started to walk for another bus stop.\n\nAs I am walking to the next bus stop I see the bus I want to catch leaving. Seeing no point to rush, I walk to the stop hoping a different bus us coming soon. As I am waiting for the next bus, I see the bus I originally intended to take pass by (13 minutes late, might I add). I couldn't get to it by that point. The next bus I could catch only got to where I was at the time I should have been at work, so I was about 10 minutes late (which made me do my first task a little late).\n\nAs I'm working my first hour, one of my coworkers mentions how I have an increased work load today, which surprises me. She mentions how an e-mail was sent and read it off to me. I check my e-mails and don't see it. Turns out, it was sent 12 hours prior and I deleted it along with a bunch of spam I got at the time. So, I had double the work load and had to stay an extra hour, which I didn't know about before then.", "summary": "Saw two buses I wanted to take pass by in front of my face. Late for work. Deleted information I would have liked to have know. But I got Chinese food."}
{"id": "t3_3kgk3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [42 M] with my Friend [38 F] Confusing affection.", "post": "Back in June I reconnected with an old acquaintance after I got divorced. We really weren't super close before, and in fact we reconnected over some online dating app. We tried to date unsuccessfully for about a month, and ended up realizing we made better friends than trying for anything else. There was an awkward phase for a few weeks, but then we continued to hang out and have fun without anything weird and I really enjoyed having a wingman that was a woman. \n\nFast forward a few months of her and I going out at least once a week, chatting daily, and both of us sharing intimate information about our lives with each other and the last few nights out have \"crossed\" the friend line, and was initiated by her. First it started out she simple held my hand while we walked, then she started to cuddle me a little bit while sitting next to me. Then last week I dropped her off after a night out and a typical hug and \"check to check peck\" goodbye ended up progressing into a kiss, and then another kiss and not the kind you give to a \"friend\". \n\nOne thing that she made clear to me when we decided to be friends was she wasn't attracted to me. It was the biggest obstacle, and is why we chose to be friends. If that's changed, cause I don't know if most woman would snuggle and make out with someone they aren't attracted to, what the heck do I do now?\n\nI feel like I have two options.\n\nOption 1: Continue going out, don't make a big deal out of the additional affection, keep it rated PG.\n\nOption 2: Confront her, and ask if she's changed her mind about wanting to be just friends, and worried about losing a friend if it doesn't work.", "summary": "Friend who claimed to only want to be a friend, not acting like a friend and being very affectionate. Is it worth risking it if she's changed her mind but doesn't want to rock the boat?"}
{"id": "t3_k9kni", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the best thing to say to a cheater?", "post": "Every week, I play pub trivia with my family. These involve prizes of substantially more money because it's the \"tournament of champions\".\n\nToday, a man and his 2 blonde barmates scored suspiciously well and seemed to take many bathroom breaks. My dad took 1 trip in the bathroom when the man was in there. He was blatantly, frantically typing into his smartphone. My dad was enraged and reported him to the MC who took it in stride and told my dad to wait until next week (the tournament lasts 2 weeks) for a result.\n\n2 other teams verified our suspicions by observing them with their smartphones on (which is banned!).", "summary": "Scumbag cheats in the bathroom with smartphone on pub trivia"}
{"id": "t3_1xnp8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my only girl I Ever loved [26F]. Haven't seen her in 4 years and I worry I'll never love again", "post": "I've only ever been in love once, when I was 21. I was dating a girl from Brazil for a year. \n\nShe moved back home and now 4 years on I'm getting worried I'll never find love again. I live in Ireland/England and am honestly thinking about flying to see her. \n\nWhile we dated she tried to convince me to visit her and to plan for her to come visit me. But honestly I was a stupid child who Didn't know what to do. I don't want to contact her too much because I know the break up was hard on her and I don't want to resurface anything (possibly making it difficult for her) if I can help it.\n\nSo seriously is it stupid of me to think about this? Is it something I should get over? Is a civil engineering career worth giving up to go try and get her?", "summary": "after 4 years of little contact is a flight to Brazil for love stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_4oks9a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Had a windfall a few years ago & invested with a financial advisor. Seemed ok until I saw John Oliver last week and freaked out. I don't understand finance at all\u2014please help!", "post": "Several years back I was fortunate to come into about $500k. For a while it just sat in a savings account, but two years ago I got my act together and hired a financial advisor. Things seemed fine until I watched last week's John Oliver segment on saving for retirement: it made me realize I don't understand where my money is, what my fees are, or whether my FA is even looking out for me. \n\nToday I followed John's advice and asked my FA whether he's a fiduciary and what my fees are: he isn't, and 2%. He stressed that my portfolio is actively managed, which is worth the fees; I shot back that statistically, actively managed portfolios don't outperform index funds. \n\nHere's what I have today: 60/40 split between stocks and bonds, and some sort of small money fund (not sure what that even is). Bank website says the portfolio is 48% equity, 33% fixed income, and 18% cash. I don't know what that means, but it's managed via Blackrock's Socially Responsible portfolio, because I don't want to help the oil companies wreck the planet. My FA talks about ETFs and mutual funds a lot but I don't think I own any of those. \n\nI told my FA that I want to lower my fees to 1% at most, that I want index funds and don't believe in active management, and that I felt that if he truly had my best interests in mind, he would have told me that index funds are a saner, cheaper option that performs just as well. Am I right? Did I miss something? Should I make the switch? Should I fire him? How can I educate myself to understand this, avoid pitfalls, and take control?", "summary": "I have an actively managed portfolio of stocks and bonds. I pay 2% fees and my FA isn't a fiduciary. Should I switch to index funds? How can I get educated?"}
{"id": "t3_2sr45r", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog HATES when people shake hands. How do I desensitize her?", "post": "We don't often have guests over to our house, but we threw a party last month and I noticed my dog displaying a weird behavior. \n\nWhenever two people shake hands inside the house, my dog will run over to them, jump up, and try to nip the handshake. She freaks the hell out. At first I thought she was just getting anxious because people were acting excited and loud in the house, but then my husband and I tried shaking hands in front of her when no guests were around, and she did the same thing!\n\nShe's an 8- or 9-year-old lab mix. Female, spayed, adopted from the shelter two years ago. She doesn't display any other behavior like this in the house. She's a little leash-reactive, but we've made HUGE progress on that. When we are home with her, she is calm, loving, and well behaved.\n\nSo, /r/dogtraining, any ideas on how to get my dog to be calm when people shake hands? I have searched the web and this sub for my problem, but all that I'm seeing are threads on how to teach one's dog to \"shake,\" as in the dog and the human. \n\nWhat is going on here? Again, if two people shake hands, she runs up to the hands, jumps and attempts to nip the hands that are shaking. If she doesn't make contact, or if me or my husband intervene, she will sit and stare at the shaking hands, making weird yelping noises like she's extremely stressed out. \n\nMy dog gets a LOT of exercise, so this is not the problem. I'd appreciate any insight you have.", "summary": "My otherwise calm dog nips and yelps when she sees two people (including me and my husband) shake hands inside of our house. How do we desensitize her to this?"}
{"id": "t3_11ptu3", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex (21F) doesn't respond (23M)", "post": "We had something of a mutual breakup - the relationship was stressing us both out. At her behest, we didn't communicate for the better part of 3 months. I then sent her a card for her birthday, one which she then called me to thank me for. \n\nWhen she called, she said she'd like to grab dinner sometime - we made plans. She called off the plans bc something came up and she couldn't make it. We rescheduled for Monday and, come Monday, she didn't respond. And she hasn't responded. And now I'm thinking she just doesn't want anything to do with me. \n\nI was ready to move on and be friends. My guess is she isn't? She wanted to hang out, called it off, and now isn't responding. It's been 4 days and I think that I'll text her once more this weekend and then not contact her at all. Thoughts?", "summary": "ex suggests we grab dinner to catch up, bails on plan to meet, and then doesn't respond thereafter. Any idea what's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_1mtvha", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need advice police chase by friend on my bike, UK.", "post": "Asking for advice. So me and my friends were drinking last night and being stupid i let my friend use my motorbike to go pick up my other friend, it was only down the road it should of taken literally 5 minutes but ended up taking 30, next thing you know police are chasing them outside my house they crash and my 1 friend jumps back on the bike and drives off, the other guy ran off so i came outside to speak to the police i said what's going on my bike's just been stolen. The first thing they said no it's not thats you're friends i defend myself saying no it's not my friend's so they put me in the car then about 5 minutes later they take me back to my house (this all happened outside my house). they bring all scrap bits from the bike where they crashed, and my helmet. stupidly my friend threw my helmet of thinking they can't knock him off if he's without a helmet. After all this they say i'm to drunk they'll come get me tomorrow to question me etc because i'm to drunk, i say thats fine. I go back in my house phone my friend like bring the bike back, he's already on curfew breached it over 10x now and hes most likely going to jail he brings the bike back to my house and the police must of waited or something and soon as we were putting the bike in the garage they jumped out and grabbed us both and arrested my friend.", "summary": "Friend uses my bike, gets chased by police. I just need some advice on what i should do about t"}
{"id": "t3_1ldr9l", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't let me use your book? Don't save money.", "post": "Last year, I had a class with this guy and we had to read a really short passage out loud during class and I leaned over and asked if I could borrow his book for 2 seconds to read it (it was like a short paragraph long) because I didn't have mine. He slammed it shut, told me \"nope\" in a really rude tone, and put it on the other side of the table. \n\nToday, I saw him in the grocery store. He was comparing 2 different brands of something and then grabbed the box that was on sale and went to the cashier.\n\nHe was having a rough time remembering which phone number he used for his \"club card\" to get the savings  and normally when people say they don't have one or they can't remember it, I'll just tell them mine so they can save the couple dollars. Not this time, asshole.", "summary": "Rude guy didn't let me borrow his book to read all of 5 sentences out loud during class once so I didn't tell him my club card number so he could save $2 on his cookies."}
{"id": "t3_3shjz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (29F) ex (29M) followed my sibling on social media. Why?", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nAbout 8 years ago, I dated this fantastic dude. I was head over heels for him. The time we spent together was fantastic and to this day I have only fond memories.\n\nUnfortunately, our relationship came to an end when he broke up with me unexpectedly. We went NC and I didn't hear from him for many years after that.\n\nSeveral years later, he friended my sister on FB. Many months after that, he friended me. Me and him had a pleasant, friendly, catch up chat and he did express some remorse for our relationship ending, but that was pretty much it. It was pretty platonic. After that, there were some \"likes\" on random photos, but that was it.\n\nA year ago I got rid of my FB account because I hate FB.\n\nA few days ago, he once again friended my sister on IG and \"liked\" an older photo of me and her in it. He has not requested a connection with me and has not reached out to me at all.\n\nI told my current SO about this because it's such a weird situation.", "summary": "An ex from 10 years ago keeps trying to make a social media connection with my sister and I. Why? Why is he doing this? Why is he just creeping and not saying anything? Should I say something to him?"}
{"id": "t3_5137hr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Not sure where to go from here", "post": "So I'm 20 years old. I hate what I'm studying at university. I feel like I was pressured to be here as my high school was very university-oriented and I achieved very good grades. I've been struggling with an alcohol addiction for nearly a year now and I'm starting to think I may have Bipolar II disorder (I will see a doctor about this soon). After this year I will be in my final year of my degree, but my drinking and depressive episodes have put me behind in my coursework and I'm quite concerned I could fail some classes. I just have no motivation to do well anymore. I can't see myself enjoying working in my current field (engineering) but feel I've already built up so much student debt that I don't have much choice.\n\nI'm really not sure what I should do. University is stressing me out but since I hate what I'm studying so much I don't want to take any longer to graduate than I need to. A lot of the things I enjoy seem to be expensive, dangerous, illegal, or frowned upon (hanging off buildings, flying planes, doing drugs, chasing girls); and I can't find the motivation to do anything that feels like work (exercise, a part time job, studying, etc).\n\nI know this is a quite open ended call for advice but I'd love to hear anything you guys have or know what you'd do in my situation.", "summary": "hate everything, alcoholic, maybe bipolar II, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_o03db", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Confused about whether to stay or transfer from college?!", "post": "Ok so there's a bigger story for this. So right now im going to a private university and honestly I don't like it. It is about 45 minutes away from my place. So that's at least an hour and a half drive each day. It is expensive even though I commute everyday. I also have to take religious classes which I haven't taken so far. I might have to take a total of 6 classes per semester if I stay due to the core requirements. The university is pretty depressing for me. One of my best friends is also transferring. There is barely anything to do there. Last semester was really awful. I took genetics, ochem, and calculus at the same time which really screwed me over and I ended up getting C's in all of them. So I applied to the University of Texas at the beginning of the semester hoping to transfer out. I also applied to a program called JAMP which if I get accepted means automatic admission to medical school if I maintain a 3.25 gpa and get a 25 on the MCAT. So im getting ready for UT when I get an email saying I got selected for a JAMP interview which is in a few days. And I won't know if I got accepted until the February. And if I get accepted into JAMP then I have to stay at my university and potentially be miserable for an additional two and a half years. So its basically UT or get a chance for medical school? I honestly am not sure if I want to be a doctor, but this is a great opportunity. If I go to UT I might have more a broader perspective on what I wanna do. I am a bit nervous to go as well. I have never been away from home and its pretty scary. But the opportunity to be a doctor does not come along often and many people struggle for years just to get into medical school. Im just really confused as what to do and I don't have much time.", "summary": "transfer to University of Texas or stay at current university and be unhappy, but have a chance to go to med school"}
{"id": "t3_hsk5n", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Any guys or girls up to offer some good advice for me?", "post": "I'm a 22 year old guy, and I am terribly intimidated by women.\n\nI've had girlfriends before (2 to this day), but they came into my life through mutual friends.\n\nNow that I've been single for going on a couple of years, I'm really missing having that 'connection' with someone, and I'm wanting to meet women and try my hand at finding someone again.\n\nBut, therein lies my problem. I cannot, for the life of me, build up the courage to approach a girl if I'm out and about and one catches my eye.\n\nA little background on myself, if it'll help: I'm a 22 year old ginger (not the level of ginger you see on South Park, but a ginger nonetheless), fairly chubby, atheist, metal head, and probably a tad too intelligent for my own good.\n\nI've had some of my girl friends try to help me out with my plight, or try and introduce me to someone they're friends with, etc., but nothing ever happens because I clam up and pretty much turn into \"super awkward man\".\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for me as to how to break myself of this? It's getting pretty lonely here for me, and I'm sick of sitting and waiting for someone to drop right into my life.", "summary": "I'm awkward and foil my own intentions of meeting girls"}
{"id": "t3_52pt18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] am not sure whether I am ready for settling down with my girlfriend [23f]", "post": "We have been together for more than one and a half years now. She was the first woman I slept with and my first girlfriend. I am incredibly happy with her and I do not believe that any other person could love me like she does.\nWe plan on moving in together in a couple of months since it would turn into an LDR otherwise.\n\nHowever, I am in a weird position now. She is all I could have hoped for and I genuinely want to spend the rest of my life with her. But I am somehow not able to deal with the fact that there are many things I would have liked to do in my life that simply won't happen now. I am afraid of realizing one day how much I missed dating and being uncommitted.\n\nNow of course we are young people in a relatively short relationship, but it wouldn't be the first time that people that age stay together forever and it simply feels wrong to approach this with the assumption in mind that I will be single one day again anyway.", "summary": "I am not sure how to deal with the fact that I am moving towards life with the woman of my dreams when I never really had a single life."}
{"id": "t3_34a4om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19f) roommate (19f) has her boyfriend (22m) sleep in our room 2-4 nights a week. Am I wrong to be bothered by this?", "post": "Just some background. I have 2 roommates. One has her own room. I share my room to cut down costs a bit. Everything with my roommates is awesome. We're all really close and have never had a problem. Sarah (who I share the room with) is dating a way nice guy (John). He's so nice. Whenever people meet him they're like \"wow, I love this guy. He's great\" \n\nHe lives two hours away. And it's easier to stay here during the week because he goes to school with us. He used to stay with his ex boyfriend who lives nearby, but Sarah isn't cool with that because the ex was trying to get back together with him. \n\nIt was fine a couple of times. But he's like always here. I wake up early for work, and I feel bad when I wake them up. I have to change in my bathroom or closet. I can't sleep sometimes cause they're whispering for hours and he snores. \n\nI don't know what to say to them because I like her boyfriend, and everyone seems cool with everything how it is. I just don't like that he's always in my room. I don't exactly know how to put my feelings about this other than saying that I'm irritated. \n\nI don't know how I would bring this up with them. I don't know if it's a dumb thing to be mad about either. I just need some advice.", "summary": "roommate who I share a room with has her boyfriend stay in our room a majority of the week sometimes. I'm irritated"}
{"id": "t3_2o8n4g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] confused on [20/f] girlfriend: How do you know you really are losing interest in a SO and it's not just a phase or something stupid? Please help.", "post": "I've never had this before with her. I would always hang with her since I was always free (jobless). My days were pretty much spent on her, well in a larger scale you can say the past 2 years were largely spent on her. Of course I've seen my friends, but 90% of those 2 years were her, which at the time I didn't mind. Also I didn't make new friends in college so those friends I just said I see are high school friends. Now I got a job back in June, so of course there's new people to talk to and such else. I don't know if this helps my question but most of co-workers are women, MOST not all. So ever since this job I've been wanting to be with her less and on a daily basis she would annoy me, the simple things she does. I don't know if this is just a dumb phase or what. If anything else you need to ask let me know, i'll answer. Please help.", "summary": "Been with this girl for 2 years and most of those 2 year have been spent on her. Now with a new job and new friends, it's a different lifestyle and it's making me confused on the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1sznmj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (29M) destroyed me. How do I (29F) feel better about myself and get over it?", "post": "My ex bf utterly destroyed me. He was most likely cheating on me throughout our 4 1/2 year relationship, and was also verbally and emotionally abusive. He gaslighted me whenever I tried to bring up concerns in the relationship, and called me names like \"cunt\" and \"bitch\" when we fought. He was also a pathological liar. I wasn't a saint either, but I got much better during the last two years. I just found out he was emotionally cheating on me and broke it off with him two weeks ago but I feel like I can never be whole again. I have no trust, no self-esteem, and feel like I wasted 4 years of my life. Can anyone give me advice? I know to hit the gym, delete facebook, lawyer up, but any other advice would be great. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "how do I recover from a relationship of lies and abuse?"}
{"id": "t3_3z1i7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] was lied to my girlfriend [17F] and ignored so that she could play online with her friend.", "post": "This all relates to my previous post if you want to check it out its about the same people.\n\nSo last night my gf invites me over for new years eve saying that, since she's been on vacation for a week, she would love to see me. She also said that it wouldn't be long because she was tired and wanted to sleep after the new year so I accepted that. I was a bit sad that she couldn't stay up. She was only tired because of playing with her friends until 3 am so I felt like she chose that but whatever.\n\nSo when I get there her father answers the door instead of her which is odd. So I go upstairs to find her online with her friend. She ends up playing for and hour and a half with him with me just sitting there watching. That made me a bit angry but I just said \"If you just wanted to play games why invite me over\" so she stopped. She then text the person that she'd be on after 12. So I asked her what she meant. I thought she was tired and wanted to sleep. She ended up telling me she lied to me because she wanted to play with him and she didn't want me to feel like she chose him over me. At the time I was a bit mad but now I'm livid. She made such a big deal out of only having 2 hours and how she was sorry that it was so short but it was spent online playing for most of it anyway then lying to me about it later. Thoughts?", "summary": "I spent the only 2 hours I got to see my gf on new years watching her play online with her friend. After that instead of going to sleep like she told me she stayed up playing with him. What makes it bad is the fact that she lied about it."}
{"id": "t3_11e5f4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [m,17] wants to have a talk with me [f,17] and I'm thinking it might be over", "post": "Alright, so we have been dating for a little over four months. He has significant issues with his family, and we live around 30 minutes away from each other, and he can't drive (but I can). I am his first girlfriend, I have had many boyfriends before but he is my first serious one. We are young, and I am probably taking this too seriously.\n\nWe don't see each other very often, and sometimes when we do sometimes it's great, but other times we can only talk in his driveway for an hour or something like that. We see each other at school but only for short amounts of time and often not all of his attention is focused on me. The other day, he mentioned that he didn't like PDA and I later asked about it and found out he had just been kissing me to make me happy and I feel very insecure and worried. Why wouldn't he want to kiss me? The last time we were intimate, I initiated it and basically forced him to get in the back of the car. During, he seemed fine and I could tell he enjoyed it. I just don't feel wanted at all. \n\nSometimes, I have bad days for no reason, or get upset at him for no reason. He has a lot going on at home so when I do this, it upsets him and turns him off to me. Also, he mentioned that I dictate a lot of what he does. So I am controlling him. I feel like I only do that when I am trying to make plans because he is often very wishy-washy, I either because of his family or he doesn't want to see me.\n\nBottom line, neither of us are happy. He used to call me endearing names, and want to kiss me, and speak kindly towards me. I'm not feeling any love or care, and he makes me feel like it's my fault. He wanted to talk, but we never have time. It's been building up for awhile. I think he has lost feelings for me. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "my boyfriend is distant and wants to talk, this is killing me."}
{"id": "t3_yt1j8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just received a major guilt trip from a friend (Details inside). What's the biggest guilt trip someone has taken you on?", "post": "As for what happened today, I was asking some people in a Skype group how their days were going, and someone said that it was \"going alright.\" I then proceeded to reply the same way, saying \"...but I need to do some homework and go to work today, though.\" Next thing I know, there's a giant-*ss text wall on my screen going into great detail about how this guy's great-grandmother just died, and before that she didn't remember him, and his friend now hates him, and stuff like that. Now, I know these things are horrible, truely. However, the fact that he follows it up with \"But I think I aced some tests last week, though, so that's good,\" makes me think that he's just using it as a guilt trip.", "summary": "Friend on Skype hits me with a wall-sized guilt trip. What's the biggest one someone has laid on you?"}
{"id": "t3_32mtyq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my BF [21 M] one year open relationship, slept with someone else, not sure if I have feelings for him anymore.", "post": "I go away to school in another country. I come home in May for the summer. Last May, my current BF asked me out (we have known each other for 5 years and have been close friends). I had a crush on him forever so naturally I did say yes.\n\nAt the end of the summer I had to go back to school for my final year. We both decided that our relationship was too young to do long distance. We decided to have an open relationship so we would not have to worry about each other cheating. When I am home for breaks we are completely monogamous, and when I graduate and come home we are going to return to monogamy.\n\nI went the whole school year with not doing anything with anyone else. However, 2 nights ago I slept with someone I have been flirting with for a while. I did not mean to sleep with him but alcohol was involved, and I am incredibly attracted to this other guy. \n\nThis would not be a problem, accept for whatever reason sleeping with someone else made me less interested in my BF. Now I feel annoyed whenever he texts me, whereas before I felt I was in love and I could not weight to come home and be with him. \n\nIs this natural? When I go home to my BF and we resume a monogamous relationship will I get my feelings back? I am worried about how much I enjoyed being with someone else. I feel like a bad person, and I learned a side of myself that I did not know existed.", "summary": "Open relationship, slept with someone else, lost feelings for current BF. Will those feelings come back when we actually live in the same country?"}
{"id": "t3_13o0vk", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My long distance ex invited me over for the holidays...", "post": "We had a perfect 4 year relationship. We never fought, we only had good times together. When we graduated university she went back to her home across the country. She is financially dependant on her family, and I understand that she couldn't move across the country just for our relationship. We had to break up because it would have been long distance forever. That was 2 months ago and we talk around once every 2 weeks. It's really hard to get over her since we didn't have any fights or difficulties with eachother. I want us to be together, but I know it's impossible. I have to get over her. Last time we talked we played with the idea of me visiting her for 4 days in December. She wants me to come. Her family is fine with it and we would be able to sleep together. I feel like it might be a 4 day time machine, where we pretend like we are still together. This sounds delightful to me right now, but I'm wondering if it will have devastating implications for my well being and recovery. Would going to see her set me back to square one in my recovery? Is this playing with fire? Could it actually be positive? Thanks /r/breakups!", "summary": "Broke up because of distance, now we have a chance to be together for 4 days. Do I go, or let it be?"}
{"id": "t3_4qzxlm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I and if I should how should I tell my parents that need to consider a divorce?", "post": "Age of relationship: 40ish years\n\nBoth are late fifties\n\nThere are a lot of items that would make me want to tell them that they should consider a divorce. Actions like domestic abuse, infidelity to the other things  like verbally abusing each other for small things like forgetting to turn off the stove alarm and so forth. I know at one point they did seek marriage council which seemed to kinda to work that is there no more physical violence or infidelity as far as I am aware (I live with my parents so I am kinda sure of that statement). However most of their interactions still seem to be either to be bitter exchanges or one telling the other to do something, or gossip about each other's coworkers. However, in recent years I been hearing a lot comments from the two that be could be paraphrased as being sickened by the relationship. The thing is I don't think either one is really considering a divorce which leads to the question of the post.... Of whether I should and if so what is the least antagonistic way of approaching this situation? \n\nAlso take note that I have elder siblings that no longer live in this household and I haven't said any of this to them either.", "summary": "Parents have a terrible relationship with one another and I am thinking about whether I should tell them to consider a divorce."}
{"id": "t3_cyf18", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My best friend is about to join the Navy, I MUST persuade him otherwise.. REDDIT HELP!", "post": "My best friend of 3 years is planning on signing himself over to the navy here in a few days. He's planning on doing so due to these things:\n-He hasn't started college/trade schools\n-He has theft and weed on his record\n-His parents have told him to join\n-He wants to make money fast and get a badass car\n\nI've already told him that he could just get a retail job and start saving up for a nice car, but he doesn't think anyone will hire him with his record. I've also told him to go to a trade school or community college like I am doing, but he thinks he's too dumb/unmotivated to do so(though he's not). I've done my best so far trying to convince him otherwise, and I know he should be asking more people. I figured Reddit would be a great place to start.", "summary": "I can't stand the thought of losing *another* best friend to the military and I don't want to miss hanging out with him for the next 4 years. I know he can get along just fine in the real world, but what am I supposed to tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_3i75su", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to get over being shy?", "post": "Me (23 M). Her (19 F). I meet her from a friend and we went on a few dates. We talked and got along well. But i have always been very shy. She put an effort forward to show that she likes me but I was too shy to return it. I constantly have this fear in the back of my head that I might do or say something that might push her away but in the end because of that I do nothing. Im not sure what to do here now. I feel like because I did not do anything I might have given her the idea that im not interested in her. I honestly dont know what to do to get over being so shy.", "summary": "im very shy and dont know how to get over it. In being so shy I might have unintentionally pushed away someone I like."}
{"id": "t3_38y6rg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get over the \"perfect\" girl?", "post": "So there is this girl who I got to know a couple of months back. In the beginning we were just regular friends who only talked about regular things like school, tv-shows etc. Then once time passed I got to know her a lot better. We talked about eachother's interests, hobbies, future goals etc. Our conversations could end up being very intimate. During that time I really started to like her. The more we talked to eachother the heavier my feelings for her got, and then eventually I ended up falling in love with her. \n\nAt first I was too afraid of telling her, but then I finally gained enough courage to admit my feelings for her. Unfortuantely, as you probably could have guessed from the title, she rejected me.. She told me she liked someone else, a guy she had been seing for a while. She told me she really liked him because of his personality and character. \n\nI was heartbroken, like really destroyed.. She is to me the perfect girl. She is beautiful, smart, have a great sense of humor and above all; different. She is two years younger than me (she is 15 and I'm 17) but I have never met a girl like her before and I can't stop thinking about her! Please give me some tips/advice on how I can get over her. I feel like shit.\n\n**[", "summary": "] Basically there is this, to me, perfect girl who rejected me over another guy. I feel like shit and can't stop thinking about her. I really need some advice on how I can get over her. (She is 15 and I'm 17)"}
{"id": "t3_3focbf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Sask, Canada] Mother getting divorce, I fear for her.", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nMy mother and step father have been married for four years. At the moment, he is not aware if the divorce, she is planning to move out later this month. Here is our problem.\n\nShe wants no alimony, none of the possessions, she, in her words, wants her freedom. How could she go about getting out of this as soon, and as smoothly as possible? Because to my limited knowledge, divorce lawyers want the wife to go after the husband without holding back so that they make more money.\n\nWe are afraid of the repercussions from this, because while my step father hasn't hit her, he has a MASSIVE temper, and gets VERY jealous. He is very unpredictable.\n\nAt the moment, if he threatens her, my mom's only defense is that she will retort with her own threat of sending the RCMP's after him for his illegal guns.", "summary": "mom and step-dad soon to get divorce, how can she get through it as fast and smooth as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_2ryg1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my FWB/Ex/Friend [23 M] of 15 months, I'm pregnant and I can't tell him", "post": "Backstory:I met this guy when I was 19. He was my first kiss, my first everything. He's the only guy I've been with sexually. We decided to become official very early on in the relationship but we didn't work out for various reasons. We eventually transitioned to a friends with benefits type situation, but we have always been friends first and foremost. Right now we are merely close friends, in fact I would consider him one of my best friends.\n\nI recently took a pregnancy test and found out that I'm pregnant- last time I was with the guy was a little more than a month ago. I attend a top ranked school on full scholarship. My biggest dream is to become a doctor and I've been working so hard toward that goal. I am beyond disappointed in myself  especially since my mum was a teen mum and my dad had so much hope that I'd make something of my life. This presents one of the biggest obstacles for me. I have issues with adoption based on my past. I cannot do the same thing that was done to me to my child. I resent my mother so much for abandoning me by giving me up. It's manifested itself into a lack of trust in others and self- sabotage when it comes to relationships. I cannot go through an abortion, and I cannot keep this child.\n\n I don't want to tell the guy because he's planning on joining the military and wants to be stationed abroad. Additionally he hasn't really got his life together- college dropout, quits everything he's ever started. Makes me feel like he will give up on me as well. I see no benefit that he would bring towards this child nor do either one of us have the capability to take care of a child at this point in our lives. I know I have three options- adoption, abortion or keep it, but I cannot bring myself to do either of the three. At this point my life is in shambles and I don't know what to do.  I guess my question is that, would it be unethical to keep the dad in the dark if I ultimately give up the child or should I suck it up and involve him in the process?", "summary": "knocked up. I have no idea how to tell the dad/ I don't want to tell the dad about my situation, because he doesn't have his stuff together and he would just upset me further. At loss on how to reconcile my goals with this situation"}
{"id": "t3_1273yj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm disappointed that my LD boyfriend did NOT cheat on me... What? (21/f & 21/M)", "post": "I'm a 21 year old female dating a 21 year old guy for the past 6 months. We were physically together for the first three months and have been apart since. We have seen each other once during that time period and will see each other again at the end of November.\n\nLast night, my boyfriend went out drinking with friends and I did not hear from him until late this afternoon (early morning his time). It is very uncharacteristic of him to just disappear and not contact me to let me know where he is, when he's gotten home, etc. As the day went on, I started to wonder: Maybe he's hurt, maybe he hasn't gotten home yet, maybe he blacked out and is waking up with some other woman right now. \n\nThe more I thought about it, the more I was sort of hoping that he had cheated. Strangest thing, but when I did finally hear from him and he told me he had just fallen asleep, I was disappointed that he didn't cheat. It's a very long distance relationship (USA to AUS), so it's been a struggle and I can understand why I subconsciously would want a way out of this relationship. \n\nDo you think this means that my heart just really isn't in it and I need to end things? This guy has treated me better than any guy and loves me to pieces, and I love him too, but we do have some issues we are trying to work out, and the distance doesn't make it easier at all. Do you think it's just a product of the distance? Help me make sense of this!", "summary": "Long distance boyfriend went out drinking and was out of contact last night. I was disappointed when I found out that he had just fallen asleep and DIDN'T cheat on me (which would have given me a definitive reason to end the relationship). Help me make sense of these confusing feelings"}
{"id": "t3_l4ohm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most odd job/task you have ever had to do for someone else?", "post": "One time in high school my friend told me he was going to help an older lady move out of her house and asked if I would like to help. He also mentioned we'd be paid $10/Hour, so I agreed.\n\nUpon arrival we found that this lady was such a pack rat. She had worked at a large grocery store for 20-30 years. The stuff that the store was getting rid of, because it was expired, was what she was stockpiling. So her garage, a shed, and the side of her house were stacked with food/drink in various containers: jars, bottles, boxes, cans, etc. ALL of the products we found were expired by at least THREE years, some even older.\n\nWe started by moving a few larger things that any normal person would have. But later she asked us to take care of some of the stockpile she had. She wanted us to open cans of soda/pop and dump them out so they could be recycled. There had to be at least FIFTY 12 packs of assorted soft drinks. We sat, opened, and dumped these cans for FOUR hours before finally leaving. We made some good money ($60) and got free pizza out of it. She offered to have us back a few days later to help, but we politely declined.", "summary": "Opened cans of soda and dumped them out for FOUR hours. Made $60 and got free pizza"}
{"id": "t3_1anx2p", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Applied for several internships at the same company", "post": "Hi guys, a few weeks ago, I applied to several (probably five) internships at the same place. It's all under the same summer programme. I wrote custom cover letters for each and tweaked my CV for each. However, after applying, there was a problem with some of the files I attached so I contacted the HR person and she said she lifted the CV from my other application.\n\nSince I had made CVs specially for each position I sent her the right one and things were ok. Thing is, it was definitely (at least technologically) possible to apply for several internships. Each had a separate application. But the fact that this HR woman saw them all feels like it was a bit unfair of me to apply for several.\n\nA few days ago, I got an interview invitation for one - yay. However, it confused me because of the five I applied to, arguably I was the least qualified for this internship. The cover letter was written more smoothly, though. In any case, the HR woman sent me the email invitation and since then I haven't heard about the others I thought I was more qualified for. Do you think it means I've been disqualified from the other positions? I don't want to ask for fear of being pushy or getting an instant 'actually, you were only supposed to get one'. Finally, I realise that it's not in their best interests to use their time to interview me more than once (different interviewers, but transportation paid for). If somehow I was offered more than one, I'd have to turn down one and that seems troublesome. In general if I only get an interview for this one, I feel that my chances aren't very good. \n\nThen again, I might just be worrying too much and maybe the interviewers liked my application in a way I didn't think of. Also the interviews aren't until early April so I suppose there's still time for the other internships. Maybe they're just slow.", "summary": "applied for five internships at same company, processed through same HR woman. I feel like this disadvantaged me since so far the only interview invitation I got was for my least qualified application."}
{"id": "t3_224wzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] friend's [18 F] mom just asked me to break up her relationship with her boyfriend of 6 months.", "post": "Hey everyone, I hope someone can give me some advice on how to approach this problem.\n\nAbout 8 months ago I met this awesome girl in class and we became really close friends, to a point where I was gonna ask her out but then she found a boyfriend. \n\nShe is Armenian, I am Armenian but her boyfriend is Mexican and in Armenian culture, there is this very strict (and stupid imo) tradition that says Armenians have to marry Armenians. But it's 2014 for fucks sake. My friend has been with this guy for 6 months now and her parents think it's just a classmate kind of relationship but they are together as in girlfriend and boyfriend and I'm happy for her that she's not with an Armenian cause I'm totally against that \"rule\". She goes out with him secretly because she knows if her parents find out, she will be in big trouble. \n\nToday, I was at the subway and saw her mother there. She started getting a bit upset and asked me if I knew about her daughter's and her boyfriend's relationship. I said I only met the guy once (which is true) and that's it, I didn't tell her that they are boyfriend and girlfriends. She started telling me that it is not right to be with a non-Armenian guy blah blah. She told me to talk to her and not let her get in a relationship with the Mexican guy but they already are so I don't exactly know what to tell her. Her mom asked me not to tell her daughter that this is coming from her mom. \n\nThis is totally not my business to get involved in her relationship with other men but her mom asked me to talk to her and I'm going to do so but only because I respect her mom. So what do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "My Armenian friend's mom wants me to break up her relationship with her Mexican boyfriend but I don't know what to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_2e5vr8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Update] Sent engagement ring to be repaired by Kay, haven't seen it since. The world will soon know!", "post": "[Original post](\n\nFirst off, thank you for your comments, support, advice, and the  sharing of my story. \n\nAfter I posted this, the media contacted me back, and everything moved pretty quickly. With the pressure of the media, getting my ring back went from \"6 to 8 months\" to \"next week\". \n\nOn 8/11 Kay called to say my ring was back in the store and ready to be picked up, so my husband and I went right over. The ring was mine and looked great, they re-plated it with rhodium and it honestly looked like the day I got it, except for the diamond. The new diamond looked like crap. This is my engagement ring ffs! They did also send some compensation in the form of a Kay gift card. \n\nWe went who an appraiser who said it had a large imperfection and a smaller one. I was not happy. These imperfections were visible to the naked eye from not only the side, but looking straight on.  \n\nWhen we got home I called Kay and explained how unhappy I was. I was happy with everything but the diamond. I told them how my original diamond had no visible imperfections. The guy asked my ring size, said he would work on something and call me back soon. \n\nWhen he called back, he said he contacted our store. They had my ring in the store, so I could take that one if it was okay, or if I didn't like it, they could send my ring back for a new diamond. The ring in the store ended up being perfect, so we took it. My husband even proposed again since it's a new ring, which was super sweet!   \n\nThe news came interview us on Tuesday, and our segment is airing today.\nI just want to protect other people from this terrible company and their terrible customer service! It sucks that I had to contact the BBB and the news to get a new ring, something I asked for several weeks ago!", "summary": "Once the media got involved, everything sped up. Kay returned my ring with a new crappy diamond. Called and complained, got the ring offered in the store and took it. My story will be on the news tonight."}
{"id": "t3_2gh0t7", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Wedding Slideshow - HELP!", "post": "I've got to put together a slideshow for a rustic western wedding (by the bride's request). The wedding is next month and I have a bunch of photos but now, I need your advice. Those who have done this before, been the subject of a slide show (or just sat through one (or many)) please lend me your knowledge/opinions: What makes a great sildeshow? Is there a particular program you'd suggest using to make the slideshow? How long should it be? What are your worst slideshow blunders? What's something I should think about beyond simply creating the slideshow? Is there anything I should be aware of as the person in charge of the slideshow? What has made your experiences go smoothly or horribly? What has made a particular slideshow memorable \u2014 or wow-levels of boring?", "summary": "making slideshow and need your advice/tips/bewares"}
{"id": "t3_o8q1w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What book should I read next? List of favorites inside.", "post": "So finishing my 5th read of the Hunger Game's trilogy and I need to find a new book so I do not read it all again. Hoping Reddit can give some suggestions on good books/series. I just got a touch pad with the kindle app so bonus points if the book is available on amazon. Obviously Hunger games is my current favorite but I also enjoyed the Harry Potter series. Also Arena from the MTG series was great but I am not sure anyone else but me bought it. That's pretty much it for books the hunger games is the first book to really get me interested in reading and I want to keep the ball rolling.\n\"", "summary": "Name a Good book"}
{"id": "t3_14qn8z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone on Reddit had a \"perfect timing\" moment?", "post": "A few years ago my family and I were having a small family gathering at my parents house. Nothing too big, just a few aunts, uncles, and their kids. Some of my cousins and I were tossing around a football when one of them threw it onto the roof. I, being the oldest one, decided to go up there and get it. I was a heavy kid and the roof was not very sturdy but I was always pretty athletic for my size. I quickly got the football and tossed it down. Suddenly I could feel myself slowly sinking into the roof. I ran as quickly as I could back to the ladder but kicked it over in my panicked state. Some of the roof started to cave in so I began to run along the edge with the roof crumbling behind me. As I was nearing the end of the roof, I could see my uncle pulling into the driveway so in one smooth motion I jumped off the roof, rolled off my uncle's van, and landed safely on the floor. I wish I could say that this was followed by non-stop clapping and cheering but all my dad said was,\" what the FUCK did you do to the roof!\" Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else on Reddit has had a moment like this?", "summary": "I jumped off a crumbling rooftop onto the top of a moving van and landed safely on the ground."}
{"id": "t3_4e0wnc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [16/M] ask out my friend [16/F] or should I wait longer?", "post": "I used to date this girl for like 1 and a half years. I ended it because I was stupid and didn't want a relationship, we stayed really good friends.\u00a0\n\nShe then started dating this guy who I am friends with, he is basically me (my personality) but older and has money. \n\nShe recently broke up with him and started hanging out with my family more (my mum and her mum are friends)\n\nWe go out alot as families and go round each other's houses\n\nShe calls me annoying alot but not sure if flirty or what\u00a0\n\nBasically what I am asking is should I wait a while and ask her out or just move on?\n\nPeople always mention us going out and we both kinda get embarrassed and blush", "summary": "Went out for 1 year and a half, broke up because I'm stupid, she went out with different boy, broke up and now i want to ask out."}
{"id": "t3_33zxs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A girl [19-ish F] is hitting on me [19 M] but I unfortunately don't like her back. How should I handle this?", "post": "A girl who recently joined the club I'm in in college has gotten particularly close to me and I have good reason to believe she's hitting on me. I've hit on girls before and I know how I act when I am crushing on a girl, and it's not too different from the way she's acting around me. She's a really nice girl and I enjoy her company. However, I don't like her in *that* way. I've been on her side of things before and I know how it feels to try to get close to someone, and worse, I know how it feels to consider someone your friend only to find them removing you from their life when you confess your feelings to them. I know how it feels to walk five feet away from someone you once considered a good friend and they don't give you so much as a nod because you confessed your feelings to them and they shut you out, and I would hate to be that person. And we're in the same club anyway, so that would make things very awkward. But at the same time, I don't want lead her on because that happened to me before and it doesn't feel good when reality comes crashing down on you. It's a tricky situation.", "summary": "girl probably likes me, I don't like her back in *that* way, I don't know how to handle the situation. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1xdx10", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 2 years off an on, can't decide if we should break up or try to fix it", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating (off and on) for 2 years now. It's been 7 months since we've gotten \"back together\" after a small break. We are in our last semester at college. \n\nMy boyfriend believes we should break up so that we don't end up hating each other. I feel that we can fix things, realizing now that much of the fault is mine. About a year ago, my boyfriend did some stupid things while I was abroad and I still haven't completely gotten over them. I feel insecure. He continually feels guilty. However, I'm realizing that I haven't even tried to let go... and am willing to make that effort. I'm asking him to give me a chance to try, to stop blaming him, and to take responsibility for my own actions. \n\nHe is torn and as am I. Because we both see the positive in breaking up, but we both want to stay together. We really care about each other, but we have a lot of really tough days where things from the past just haunt us. Sometimes I can be mean, but I want to let go of this resentment. He thinks it's a big picture thing keeping us down, whereas I see it as day to day hardships that can be conquered. Will this go away with work and love? Or would it be best to just end it now, knowing that we'll never overcome this?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are having a hard time deciding whether to end it or to try to fix things that are rooted in past mistakes and pain. "}
{"id": "t3_1nng5w", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Newbish Runner needs shoe advice. Road shoes vs. Trail shoes.", "post": "This is probably a dumb question.  \n\nI started running last February by way of the c25k.  Ran my first 5k in May, but only ran sporadically over the summer (I prefer cycling).  Now that there is less daylight, I've started running regularly again.  \n\nI'm somewhat interested in trail running. I hike pretty regularly, and understand the importance of good shoes for the trial.  One run in my road shoes reminded me of this.  That said, I'm not likely to do a lot of trail running - its much easier to just run right out my front door.  \n\nI'm an over-pronator, and need stability shoes.  Went to a shop and got fitted.  Here's what I'm currently wearing:  \n\nGiven that 80% of my running is going to be on the road, I was figuring on picking up a second pair.  Then I came across these:  \n\nThey appear to be the same as my current shoes, but some how made for trail running.  If I were to buy these, I'm assuming that the differences will be negligible for road use - is that correct?  Or am I going to regret buying them whenever I run on the road?", "summary": "will I hate running on asphalt in trail shoes?"}
{"id": "t3_142bpz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mold specialists, help! What is the best product for mold abatement? Considering Benefect, Concrobium and Fosters 40-25.", "post": "**Backstory**:\n\nI recently purchased a home with a vent stack that was not connected in the attic. It was cut off and terminated in the attic with a top half that goes outside the roof just hanging there leaving the attic open to the elements (rain, snow, etc). [Album link](\n\nAs such just around the base where the open vent stack is the blown cellulose insulation is moist and has black mold on it.\n\nI have since reconnected the vent stack so the moisture issue should go away. I now plan to go up and remove the insulation around the where the stack was hanging (bag it and then double bag it). I will of course be fully covered and have the appropriate protection.", "summary": "After the damaged and moldy insulation is removed I will need to assess the damage (how widespread the moisture/mold issue is below the insulation). I plan to spray a mold killing product on the area but am unsure of which to use:"}
{"id": "t3_2jzb9e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with a girl [17 F], not sure if shes intrested in me. Help.", "post": "First poster here. Basically, at school theres this girl, shes pretty good looking too. Shes in one my classes and sometimes I look around at something and will catch her kind of looking at me. But she wont necessarily smile or wave or anything. But then at break (lunch), the group of I hang out with (two of my mates), is kind of friends with one of the guys in it and she will often come over and be like whats going on and try and join the conversation. Sometimes Ill even go talk to some other guys or a really good friend of mine and she will come over and be like \"my friends have ditched me, whats going on\". Im just confused if shes wanting to talk to me or am i just \"exaggerating\" it - cause im a guy who only recently has started hanging with girls and what not. What do you guys/gals reckon? When she comes over next, should i try say something? Like what?", "summary": "Reckon shes intrested?"}
{"id": "t3_2gor69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "During interviews, I [25/F] slept with a graduate student [25/M] in my department", "post": "After graduate school interviews for a PhD program last spring, I went out to a bar with some graduate students already in the program. I got fairly drunk and ended up sleeping with one of the grad students. I am pretty sure some graduate students saw us leave the bar together...I know I should have been more discreet.\n\nWe stumbled to his place and started having protected NSA sex, which was fun. I was sober enough to give consent. In the middle of sex he started trying to have unprotected sex multiple times, which I refused (he took off his condom and tried to penetrate me, I had him put on a new condom, he tried to take it off, hoping I wouldn't notice, I ended the sexy times). I think unprotected sex is really wrong to push on anyone, especially on a stranger!\n\nNow I have chosen to come to this school to start my PhD program. I have mixed feelings about the hookup because I feel like the grad student tried to take advantage of me while I was drunk by trying to sneak in unprotected sex. I don't want things to be awkward between me and this student because we have a lot of research interests in common so he would be good resource to talk to about courses and research. But I don't want to talk to him with the hookup hanging over my head. \n\nSo I'm wondering, how do I interact with this guy? Should I pretend the hookup never happened? How do I have this guy treat me normally, like a coworker? I am not interested in hooking up again, and I doubt he is either. We don't have the same PI but we will both be working in the same small building so I can't really avoid him.", "summary": "Slept with a grad student during graduate school interviews, how should I act when I see this guy in the hallway or in class?"}
{"id": "t3_k80ov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I a really shallow person? (BONUS! Creepy redditor stalking story.)", "post": "Long story short I saw a comment from a female redditor that made me interested in seeing if she posted to r/gonewild (Might as well be honest, it also happens more often then you think guys). As I looked through her comments, I began to notice that she was a fundamentally good human being. \n\nShe spent a lot of time on r/suicidewatch helping people, and most of her comments made her sound like an intelligent, funny, and genuinely caring person. For a moment I stopped to think \"I should send this girl a message, to let her know that she is doing the right thing and on the right track\" (many of her comments seemed to imply she struggled with self esteem issues). \n\nAs I continued to browse, it got to the point that I was mentally writing the message. Its something I sometimes do, just tell people that they are doing the right thing. Its a weird little quirk of mine, but I like to think that i the long run that I am helping them. This is kinda my good side. However... \n\nI eventually came across a link to a picture of her in her comments (not gonewild, but that mood had temporarily subsided). I got excited, but she turned out to be a beast of a woman. I won't go into detail, because I'd rather not narrow down the field too much, but she was just hideous. At that moment I felt a strong enough disdain for her to close out of her comments and go back to browsing. I stopped a moment later, shocked at myself. Is this normal? It seems shallow, but is it really all that uncommon (the callousness, not the stalking. I'd hope that's fairly rare.) \n\nAnyway, had to put this out there.", "summary": "I'm creepy. Am I also superficial?"}
{"id": "t3_1reji9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my [16 F] dont have anything in common and nothing to talk about", "post": "Well alright so i have math with a girl and she and i started talking alot! She has a locker right next to me so i see her everyday. I asked her out to a movie and a dinner. It went great! I asked her out the next week, She said Yes!\n\nWell now that we are talking alot the conversations are not going so well. Theres no flow and really kind of dont know alot about each other. We talked about this today. She and I both agree that it was a little quick and that we should be really close friends and learn more about each other before we move on. Im taking her out on a picnic on wednesday, for some one on one time. Because everytime we went out some where there was always other people there along with us.\n\nIm very open to her and like her for who she is, but she says it was a little to fast and wants to know be better. I dont want to get into the friend zone and i really like her. I already kissed her. In the movies we were cuddling with each other.\nIm kind of confused on what to do right now on what to do. Do i just become a friend to her, how do i make her feel comfortable around me?", "summary": "She says we went to fast and wants to get to know me better. Possible friend zone? how do i prevent it"}
{"id": "t3_4hsqve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23] unknowingly broke/threw out a thing my bf [24] made (4.5 y)", "post": "So my boyfriend and I both go to a trivia pub night (lots of alcohol).\n\nI made a paper swan out of napkins and set it on the table.\nHe used the scraps to make a little paper chain and set it on the table.\n\nI didn't notice and thought he had put the garbage scraps on my thing, so I took them out and put them with the actual garbage on my table while saying that \"he should get his trash off my stuff\" in a mean voice.\n\nHe just messaged telling me what actually happened.\nWe're both pretty upset about this but, how do I make this up to him? he understands that it was just a misunderstanding but we tend to be giant babies around each other so he is pretty hurt.", "summary": "I broke a thing my bf made. how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2cwu1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my long time friends [16 M], are becoming farther apart because of partying", "post": "I'm going into my Junior year of high school this year and this summer (also towards the end of my Sophomore) year some of my friends started to bore me. I've been great friends with them since middle school but things change. They were just content to sit down and play video games all day while I wanted to go out try new things, chase girls etc.\n\n I've recently found a group of guys that I get a long a better. They are more outdoorsy people. We have a lot of the same interests: one of them is drinking and going to parties.\n\nMy old group of friends is totally against going to parties. I've invited them to a few things at my house but they always turn them down. I tried to show them something new and interesting but now they resent me for it. It's like they have an irrational bias against drinking and weed. I feel like they think its a lot worse than it really is. I'm not a stoner or a drunk but I like to have a little fun now and again.\n\nWe have a lot of mutual friends in common so I still see them around but I'm nervous for this upcoming year that they won't want to be associated with me because of this stigma that I've brought onto myself. I have my new group of friends but I would still like to hang out with my old one occasionally. \n\nIs there any way that I can get them to understand my point of view? And get them to come and try new things with me?", "summary": "My old friends are against my partying ways. How can I get them to see my point of view?"}
{"id": "t3_1x80uo", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help with making a huge educational decision.", "post": "Hi guys, first time posting here. I'm in need of some serious help. I'm a 19 year old college student. I am a Software engineering major. I'm in my second year and I started taking some more advanced classes and I started realizing that this isn't what I want to do. I'm sick of writing code and going to the tutors everyday to get help on hw. I understand that the major isn't supposed to be a walk in the park but it's just not meant for me. I can't picture myself writing code for a living. I can barely remember how to solve the assignments I did last quarter even though I got an A. The only reason I got into the major was because my father researched and found out that it is the highest paying field in Computer Science and I've always loved working with computers.\u00a0\n\nBut my true passion and fascination is Video editing /production, special effects. I started doing research on it and I have only 22 classes to take to get a bachelor compared to the 15 for Software Engineering. I've always been curious about special effects and this is something that I can really see myself doing. My school has a very good Digital Cinema program and a lot of good hands on internships too.\u00a0\n\nI'll be discussing this with my Father in about 5hrs when I get back from school so any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm sick of writing code and I'd like to work in cinema production."}
{"id": "t3_vs9pf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm the rock, but I feel like I'm crumbling.  How do you keep it together Reddit?", "post": "I'm the guy in the group who's always happy.  I never get mad, or sad, at least not in public.  I seem to attract people with issues.  Good people, but people who need help, and I'm more than happy to give it.  But as the years go by it gets harder and harder.  It seems like every relationship and friendship is with someone who needs help.  I would give anything to help my friends but it's draining me.  It's a cliche but I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.  My best friend of several years was a total alcoholic.  It took everything out of me trying to keep him together.  Finally, I just couldn't do it.  He was pulling me down too far and I just couldn't handle it and I bailed.  I feel terrible, but I couldn't help him without completely sacrificing myself.  So I let him go.\n\nMy best friend now has similar issues.  I've tried and tried and given him all I had and he's almost better now but I've run out of steam and I don't think I can help him anymore.  I feel like a bad friend but I can barely keep it together myself.\n\nI've met a new friend in the past month.  She's a great girl, one of the best.   She's sweet, smart, attractive, and fun to be around.  But she gets depressed sometimes.  I do my best to cheer her up but I feel like I'm slipping.  I can't make her happy and all my efforts drain me.\n\nI attract people who need me, they need my help and all I want to do is help them but I'm losing control of myself and I feel like I'm going drown.  I want to run away (figuratively) but I can't abandon my friends.\n\n#angst\n\nHow do you keep it together Reddit?", "summary": "Venting.  Sacrificing my happiness for those around me."}
{"id": "t3_4p0o1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 7 months, have completely stopped having sex and I don't get it", "post": "I know the age gap is crazy to people, the whole \"barely legal\" stuff and all that but the age thing aside our sex life should not be nonexistent. I will cut him some slack because he has to work like 60+ hours a week but still he should want me at least occasionally right? Also, he currently started smoking again- almost a pack a day- \n\nHe is a very attractive man and I know he could get anyone he wants (as could I) but I don't think he would ever cheat, when would he have the time? Things started slowing down over the past couple of months. I asked him a couple days ago if he ever \"pleasured himself\" and he said he has....in the bed...while I was sleeping next to him (what the hell!?!) I even asked him once if we could fool around and he got so offended. He has reassured me before that he is still attracted to me in that way but he doesn't show it and if I ever ask questions regarding this topic he gets so upset at me, acts like I'm interrogating him.\n\nI am too young to be dealing with this, but should I continue to cut him some slack and wait to see if there is a light at the end of the tunnel or should I just count my losses and end it? He is also too young to not want sex whatsoever, I just don't understand.", "summary": "Zero sex life over the past couple of months and we are way too young to have this problem. What should I do? Will this ever get better?"}
{"id": "t3_186k9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23m] am talking to a [16f] with a 5 month old.  Is it worth the time?", "post": "**Bit of clarification: we've been dating for just shy of 6 months.  Not very long, I know...  Also, the age of consent in my state is 16 with no age gap stipulation.**\n\nIts been extremely hard to bring myself to ask others about this because just from the title alone, people will instantly make a judgement.  Obviously she was irresponsible at one point in time and she's quite a bit younger than me, but just hear me out.  Just to put it out there, my parents started dating when my mother was 17 and my father 27.  They've maintained a successful and happy marriage for over a quarter of a century and raised 3 kids.\n\nSeveral months ago, I hit it off with a waffle house waitress (stick with me).  I thought we were around the same age until she mentioned having a 5 month old child.  She says she was in a relationship with a 19 year old guy who jumped ship when he found out she was pregnant.  They didn't necessarily plan to have children, but after a certain amount of time, they stop using contraception.  They were both stupid to do that but she felt like they were in a stable relationship.  \n\nI have stable work with great pay.  I could easily provide for her and her child, but I'm afraid of being used.  I also don't want to waste time and resources on someone who will just move on when she gets bored or finds something she likes better.  She's still living at home and is still financially supported by her parents for the most part.   She's not a party girl, a drinker or a drug addict. \n\nI'm only 23, but I've had more than my fill of dating drama and I'm ready to settle down and build a life with someone. \n\n* Is our age gap going to present challenges that we won't be able to overcome?\n\n* Other than straight up having the conversaion, how can I tell if she's not ready to settle in the same way I am?", "summary": "23/m dating 16/f with 5 month old.  I'm ready to settle but I'm not sure if she is.  I'm also afraid our age gap will cause too many issues"}
{"id": "t3_nfh6k", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My roommates suck am I being an jerk by doing this?", "post": "I've tried everything with my roommates in order to get them to do their share of cleaning/etc. I even went out of my way to design a chore calendar, that was completely fair. This worked for like two weeks and then they just stopped doing it. I just can't take it anymore, I'm not passive agressive and I always confront them. Enough is enough though, right now I pay half the rent, I have a studio and a bedroom railroad style. The 3 of us share a 4bedroom duplex. I pay 1200, they pay 650 and 550 respectively.\n\nThis morning I woke up to dishes all over the sink, used trays for cooking on the stove, a wad of hair on the side of the bathtub, no toilet paper, stains on the counter top, empties on the kitchen table and downstairs, packages that have been delivered but never opened, stacks of magazine that haven't been recycled the list could go on. I just kind of was like I can't do this anymore, I've tried but it's just not working, so I called them and told them we need to have a roommate meeting because I'm just tired of carrying the apartment on my shoulders. \n\nI am going to suggest that there rents go up to 750 and 650 because of the amount of crap I have to deal with and if they don't agree I will suggest they move out because I won't have a problem finding people to fill their rooms. Is this fair? They are good people but they are just completely disrespectful of the space. What is the best way to approach this situation? I just never really had to deal with this before.", "summary": "My roommates do all the roommate bullshit, pay close to nothing for their rooms considering the space, so I intend to raise their rents or get them to move out. "}
{"id": "t3_28hucm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] keep making mistakes...", "post": "When I broke up with my girlfriend it felt like it was the right thing to do. I wasn't ready for a committed relationship and she wanted to marry me. It shattered our hearts but I broke up with her, she hugged me so hard to not let me go I couldn't believe my heart could be more broken but it got. There was never another one on my side, I just didn't want to hurt her more in the future but I still loved her.\n\nTime passed and I'm still unable to live my single life, I still see her in my dreams and imagine myself getting her back. When I finally start to realize it might have been a mistake not only did I learn she was getting it on with a friend of hers already, but that the very next night after the break up she got blind drunk and she slept with her companion (I don't know if it's the same guy). Our common friend who told me this made it clear they don't have a real relationship (it's only sex...like that helps...).\n\nI've been asking myself if it's even worth it wanting to get her back now, I know she'd take me back, but I feel so betrayed even though we weren't officially a couple anymore. To make it worse, since I learned about those things the pain for her has only increased and the deception only works to make me feel angry and frustrated, I couldn't imagine myself touching another woman but she...\n\nI'm a mess, I'm confused. Another thing that happened when I learned about those things is that I got so angry that I threw all her pictures and gifts to the trash, now I find myself regretting it and unable to rescue the stuff.\n\nIs it wrong for me to care so much about what she did after the break up? Do you think things have a chance of working out if I get over that stuff and look for her? Was it wrong for her to do that?", "summary": "I broke up with her but I realized I missed her too much, by that moment she had sexfriend already and I can't get over it."}
{"id": "t3_27uu9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to proceed. Feeling like my (21/f) year and a half relationship with (20/m) is not going to work out.", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is honestly a great guy. Hes kind, understanding and funny. However I feel like he doesn't know what he is passionate about. I know my dream and career goals- I've known them for a while. \n\nHe seems to be going down a career path that he doesn't care that much about. \n\nFor some people that is fine. I personally think its important to be passionate about your chosen career path. You should be into it- day and night. That's how I feel about mine! \n\nMy boyfriend does not have a steady job. The hours can either be heavy or sparse. I work very hard, both with school, jobs during the school year and several jobs during the summer. I tried very hard this year, reminding him about internships he had heard about, encouraging him to apply for jobs but he never did. \n\nI feel like his mom sometimes. I love him a lot and want him to be successful, but I feel like he doesn't care and he says I come off as nagging. \n\nI will be moving to another university for the next full year, several states away. I have been having a hard time with our relationship lately, feeling either like we are doing fine or that we are on the verge of a breakup. We decided to take a break while I am on the school exchange, since it would be a long trip for him to visit, and he does not have the money. \n\nI plan to re-evaluate in the time we are apart. I wonder if this is fair. Am I expecting too much? Am I just being harsh? \n\nThis is made worse by the fact that I have begun hanging out with an old friend of mine who I have always had feelings for. He is passionate about his education, he has goals and plans for the future. He is a hard worker and an old family friend. \n\nWhat would you do? Is it wrong for me to be disappointed that my current boyfriend, whom I really love, doesn't seem to be thinking much about his career and future goals? Is there anything I can do to fix it?", "summary": "Feel like boyfriends mom- am passionate about career- worried boyfriend won't grow into it."}
{"id": "t3_1ajctx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Collectors calling about a debt I don't think I should have to pay... Can I stop them?", "post": "Almost 2 years ago I met with an advisor at a community college. I had full intent to being a few online courses assuming that they were within my budget. I took the aptitude test and was given a list of classes that I should consider. She even showed me how to use their website to sign up for classes and then I left. \n\nI decided not to enroll at the time since my hours were cut at work and I had real bills to worry about. \n\nAfter a few weeks I got curious about the courses being offered next semester and logged into their portal. When I checked my .edu email I saw several notices for an online class. I had no idea that the advisor had signed me up for a class while what I though was a demonstration. I was never even asked to pay for the class at the time and had never logged into the course before that day. \n\nSo begins the problem\u2026\n\nI tried to drop the class but it was too late. I tried to reach out to the college but they denied removing me from the class. About a year ago the debt was sold to a collections company who have been hounding me ever since.\n\nI've tried to explain to everyone why I don't feel responsible for the debt. I've pretty much dodge the collectors for a year. \n\nToday I answered a call from the collector thinking it was a call I was expecting. I explained to him again why I did not feel responsible for the debt.  I told him I was going to seek legal representation and he inquired what steps I've taken since this is the first time I've mentioned doing so. He got a little upset and continued to try to guilt me into accepting the debt. I requested that he no longer call and to send everything by mail. At first he ignored my request and asked again about who was representing me. I told him firmly again to mail me. \n\nWhat are my options here? Can I seek legal representation? I've never had to do anything like this before.", "summary": "Receiving calls 2 years after incurring a debt I don't feel responsible for. Am I stuck paying for this?"}
{"id": "t3_3cd8cc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 6 months, I surprised him and his immediate reaction was to push me", "post": "I'll try to keep this short but basically I started dating one of my friends six months ago and we quickly became inseparable. We're college students so we do everything together, I love him a lot, he loves me, young love so cute etc.\n\nHe has a little bit of a temper but it's never been directed at me until one day about a month ago we were waiting in a line and I kicked the back of his knees. My friends and I used to do this all the time because it makes the person stumble a little bit and everyone laughs, and I just did it to him because I was goofing around. I take full responsibility for this I did it and I realize I shouldn't have but his reaction freaked me out. \n\nHe yelled \"what are you doing?!\" and immediately pushed me. I stumbled backwards and frankly was shocked that he'd just put his hands on me. He immediately apologized and we talked about it a few more times and he seems very apologetic. He's said his number one priority is being a good man for me, and he never wants me to feel scared to be with him. \n\nAm I supposed to believe that was a one time thing? Why can't I let this go?", "summary": "Boyfriend shoved me out of anger and surprise and I can't get over it."}
{"id": "t3_2d459b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too soon for me [27F] to invite him [25M] to a wedding?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships - I need some advice! \n\nI've been seeing this really awesome guy for a month now; we connected super fast, and see each other at least twice a week. I don't want to jinx it, but it seems like it is moving in the \"relationship\" direction. \n\nWell today I officially got my wedding invitation to my sister's wedding in the mail - and I would absolutely love to invite him. If we were just friends and there was no romance at all, I'd still want to invite him - I just know I would have a much better time if he was with me. The wedding is in late October. \n\nBut there's always a but...the wedding is in Florida and we live in Connecticut. If it was just down the street, I don't think I would feel as mixed up about it. Yet - I already have my own hotel room, that was paid for by my sister, and the flights are covered with points. So he wouldn't need to spend any money. And I know one worry with weddings is that its meeting the family...however the vast majority are the groom's family, with only my parents and another sister coming from up here. \n\nI'm leaning towards just asking him in another month, because I know if I don't I'll wonder the whole time if he would've said yes. But at the same time I don't want to ruin things or scare him off!", "summary": "Is it awkward/too soon for me to invite a guy I recently started dating to my sister's wedding out of state?"}
{"id": "t3_h0bwp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one deal with unsavory housemates?", "post": "A friend of mine is living in a house with six other people. Her group of four needed an extra three people to cover rent so they craigslisted for some additional people. Two of the other people started out as lazy stoners but transitioned more and more into ass-hats as the year went on. Various pieces of property have been damaged, as small pet has died from neglect, and, once, the police had to be called because they were acting belligerent. There's only about six weeks left on the lease but my friend has already reached breaking point. She has been very open with her housemates, calling house meeting and speaking to them individually. She has no qualms about filling charges against her housemates but we are not sure how to gather evidence and such. We live in CA.", "summary": "My friend wants to protect her shit and possibly file charges against her housemates,"}
{"id": "t3_tx4ql", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need Life Advice/Help Please!", "post": "I'll start off with saying what's going on. I am 19 years old living with my parent's, at least till next Sunday, and then they're kicking me out. I hate to admit it, but I'm scared on what to do. They're giving me nothing but the last few days to clear my stuff out and move on since apparently I'm \"holding them back\". I've worked a job since I was 16 years old and recently quit to try something new. So I'm jobless and only have about 5 grand to my name. I really don't know what I should do financial or how I'm going to get a place to live. I've graduated High school, and currently am enrolled in a Community college which I really want to continue to move onto a University, but I have no idea how I'll be able to afford such a thing financially so I'll probably have to give that up. I'm scrambling to find a job as soon as I can, but I've been looking around for the past weeks since I've left my old one. I honestly just really need some advice on what I should do, any ideas for a plan, or personal experiences that may help give me an exact idea on what might be the best path to head down.", "summary": "Parent's kicking me out, what should I do :/"}
{"id": "t3_2ofe8g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying not to be gross", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. This story takes place when I was about thirteen years old and in middle school. I felt weird about taking a shower after gym (so I never did) but I still didn't want to feel gross. This led me to a drawer in my mother's room wherein several individually wrapped packets of wipes were. I thought these wipes were meant to refresh the body, and after taking almost ten or so, I would liberally wipe them over my face, arms, and armpits in the upcoming weeks at school. My FU was this, my mom's wipes were actually vaginal freshness wipes.", "summary": "Unknowingly wiped my face with vaginal wipes."}
{"id": "t3_1s1g7s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "LGBT People: How do you deal with people defining you by your sexuality?", "post": "I work at a comedy club, so there's a constant stream of inappropriate shit being said by the comedians and employees. All the male servers and all the cooks could be fired for sexual harassment if anyone ever decided they weren't playing along.\n\nFrom the moment I walk in the door, I started getting jokes about \"Oh, look who's here Alfonzo (the dishwasher), it's your boyfriend.\"\nThey have the sense of humor of thirteen year olds. Always telling me to grab someones ass or make a move on them. \"Why don't you fuck Chris?\" The only other gay guy working there. \n\nI'm just so sick of it, and I know it's all in fun, but my sexuality isn't what defines me, and I can't help but think that through all the constant joking (even how the straight guys constantly grope each other jokingly), they do view me as less than them, or weak. Honestly, if I was from China, would it be funny or OK for them to make fun of me for eating rice or drinking tea, or having slanted eyes? \n\nI've been told it's just them trying to include me. Maybe it's just my own insecurity with myself that I feel I shouldn't put up with it. I think I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, but this is making me wonder. I just don't know how to react to these jokes, because unlike Chris, my sexuality doesn't define me. I don't go making jokes about sucking dick or getting fucked in the ass. I just don't know what to do. I'm not a clown.", "summary": "We all know how straight guys joke about being gay for each other and stuff, but in this situation it's extreme, and I am gay. I just don't know how to react when the joking is directed at me"}
{"id": "t3_47beua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/21] had a breakup ages ago and now no hope for reconcile with [F/19]", "post": "I am 21 and my ex SO is 19, we were a long distance relationship for 2 years.\n\nWe were friends for a long time (5 years) and we got in a relationship 2 years ago. Last November 2015 we broke up due to distance, university and arguments.\n\nIt lead to her breaking it up, I was and still am heartbroken but I had hoped for a reconciliation and a new start to a relationship together. \nI sent her a Christmas gift and even sent a Valentine's gift, I had thought everything was going well, we had a few arguments again but we were doing better than before. As we are long distance we facetimed everyday and she regularly flirted and told me she loves me, I was happy and thought a reunion in the future would take place.\n\nI had my suspicious that she has been talking to a new guy, while we were on FaceTime she would pause our conversations to text someone back. I confronted her last night and she was honest and told me she met a guy, she's texting him and they went for coffee together. I understand we broke up and we are single therefore I appreciate her honesty and that she told me but I feel heartbroken. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship as university wasn't going well and now she tells me she's found another guy just last week and she's interested in him and he's pursuing her and it's mutual.\n\nCan I ask for advice on what to do. I still love this girl and hope to be with her but what she's said has broken my hope.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up due to arguing, things have gotten better and we have been close. Suddenly finds new guy and tells me she wants relationship with this guy despite telling me she loves me everyday."}
{"id": "t3_4b3j3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27f] don't know how to respond to my ? [32m] blowing hot and cold.", "post": "What is going on this guys head?\n\nMe and potential bf are currently long distance, but we have met in RL before but we were just friends back then. We have been in contact every single day through text, calls and Facebook. He always sends me a good morning message as well as wishing me good night too. We talk about everyday life stuff, personal stuff and for the last month there's been lots of flirting and the occasional sexting session.\n\nI have asked him what 'we' are and he has said that he really likes me and can see this going somewhere and he wants to meet up again when he comes to live near me in a few months.\n\nHe told me he has difficulty trusting a woman when she shows interest in him because he had a long term emotionally abusive relationship a few years ago where she basically faked the whole thing to get his money and destroyed him emotionally in the process. I told him, I understand and I am happy to let him take the lead so it's at a comfortable pace.\n\nBut he blows hot and cold all the time and it's so frustrating.  He'll act like a boyfriend one minute and get very platonic. He'll text me all day and phone me then I'll barely hear from him at all apart from maybe a checking in text. He'll open up to me about something and then completely close off for a few days.\n\nWhen he lets go and acts himself and not so 'in his head', he is an amazing guy and it's that that makes me wan to pursue something with him.\n\nMy question is, how do I respond to this? I've just been remaining consistent and not chasing when he pulls away, but being happy to speak to him when he returns. It just makes me confused as to whether he actually is serious about this turning into something and he's just 'rubber banding' or if he is just playing with me.", "summary": "Guy with previous emotionally abusive relationship is blowing hot and cold with me. Is this normal for his situation, how do I respond? Is he even really interested?"}
{"id": "t3_3yw90i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by refrencing a video game at the airport", "post": "So im from croatia, one of the countries that had a traffic of refugees from syria. And second thing to mention is that i grew a beard that would put osama bin laden's beard to shame.So as many people these days I've been grinding Rainbow 6 Siege. So while at airport I pointed at one of the cameras and said to my brother \"you've been spotted\". After a minute or two, a cop came and requested my brother's and mine ID, I didn't have so I provided my passport. Bad idea as my flight was leaving in 45 minutes. More cops came while he walkie talked our detail and took photos of IDs. It lasted for good 20 minutes the barrage of questions. Who are we, why are we here, where going, what do we do, where we're we born, fathers name and all that. Almost made me miss my flight. In the end they said we are free to go and with beard like that people tend to jump to conclusion but they had to do their job.", "summary": "my beard and pointing at the camera made me look like Syrian refugee so cops saw me as threat"}
{"id": "t3_2yfzxj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The coveted NSV/NSF clothing fail today!", "post": "Me: SW 320lbs, CW 268lbs, GW 190lbs\n\nThree months ago the thing that finally pushed me over the edge was that none of my dress clothes fit. I was going to a company christmas party and not only could I not find a 3XL shirt to fit, my 46\" waist dress pants split right down the seam when I sat down in my car, ripping my soul apart with them.\n\nThat was at 320lbs.\n\nI had court today. I bought a new pair of pants b/c I knew I'd need them, 42\", but they fit not only well, but offer some wiggle room. The big surprise was the shirts. Instead of being too big for a 3XL, I now fit comfortabley in a 2XL with some wiggle room.\n\nThis is at 268lbs.\n\nAll in 3 months! I can't wait to see what the next 3 months hold in store!", "summary": "NSV Clothes that didn't fit are no longer too tight"}
{"id": "t3_eep2w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night, I unintentionally killed the mood.", "post": "Last night I had a girl in my bed, and decided I'd start to move things slowly by giving her a back massage.  As I'm rubbing her shoulders she's starting to get really into it.  Then, all of a sudden, I feel something around her shoulder blade that seemed out of place, like a lump.  So, I told her. She protested that it was just a knot.  I cautioned her it was a lump and that she should get it checked because it could be cancerous.  She told me, \"any chance you had is gone\" and rolled onto her side.  I effectively cock blocked myself.  It was dumb yes, but I was oblivious with genuine concern.\n\nI know I'm not the first to do this.  Can someone cheer me up with a story of a time you've unintentionally cock blocked yourself?", "summary": "Telling a girl she might have cancer does not make them moist."}
{"id": "t3_2c4dzj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My girlfriend cannot choose a birthday present for me!", "post": "Hi all, It's my 24th birthday on Monday and I have no idea what I want - which isn't helping my beau choose a present for me either. We've been together for a year and are off to Berlin on Tuesday. \n\nLately, I haven't been able to chase up any of my hobbies because of my job. I work 60 hours a week in a combination of shifts - and time outside of work is precious (I'd love a new job for my birthday, but that isn't going to happen anytime soon). I spend most time at home reading or floating around on the internet. I'd chase up more photography stuff - however I don't have the time to get out and shoot anymore. I bought a Canon EOS 5D MkIII and have used it a dozen times since Christmas.", "summary": "Something for a 24 year old creative guy with an interest in space/photography/food/modern fashion..."}
{"id": "t3_4r0t6d", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[SERIOUS][26M] I am beginning to have memory loss.", "post": "I am 26 yrs old, I have Asperger's and learned to hide it pretty good, I have a respectable job and I'm working on the side to start my own business. The stress is too much and my past(last 2 girlfriends cheated on me, self esteem touches bottom) doesn't help me. Neither does the Asperger's Syndrome. \n\nLast month I caught up with some of my old classmates and they started telling stories and i was in them, but I can't remember a thing. I can't remember what happened 2 months ago, what I did those days, if I went out with friends, eg:I went on a trip but I don't remember what I saw what I ate what funny things happened etc. I have some images in my head but it's like I don't have the stamina to remember more. Remembering is very exhausting. I realised this (yes realiSed, europe) and now I am terrified.\n\nNow, why am I asking for advice from internet strangers? Last week I smoked 2 joints and I fear that if I go to a neurologist they will test me for drugs and I'll lose my job. I don't do drugs, before last week I smoked a joint 6 years ago and that's all my experience with drugs.", "summary": "I can't remember 90% of what happened to me more than 2 months ago and I smoked pot last week and I'm afraid I'll lose my job if I go to a doctor and test me for drugs."}
{"id": "t3_1cqbag", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My mom cooks constantly and my dad always brings restaurant-food home. Advice please!", "post": "I started trying to lose weight at the end of February. I told my parents and they seemed alright with it, but my mom seems to not realize that she buys way too much food for the four of us (myself, parents and sister). We have TWO fridges and they are both completely full of leftovers and ice cream and all kinds of junk. The day after I told her my diet plans she cooked chocolate chip pancakes and my dad ordered pizza for dinner. She literally brings food to me every hour or so that I'm at home. My mom is a nurse so she's always telling me I'll be healthy if I just eat what she gives me but if I did that it would add up to about 3000 kcal per day and I'm trying to eat half that! She gets angry when I refuse food and when I asked her if I could cook for myself she just ignored me. \n\nMy dad is also trying to lose weight but he eats whatever my mom makes and hasn't been successful. He never cooks, but on the weekends he always goes out for lunch, so my sisters and I usually do too. He doesn't have a plan and isn't really committed to it. \n\nI've lost 10 pounds (170 to 160) so far but it's been so hard and my mom has not been supportive at all despite her initial approval. My dad is proud of me and has gotten better about buying food for me (he will call and ask if I want anything instead of just assuming I do). \n\nWhat can I do to make this easier? I know it's not supposed to be easy but when my family was gone on vacation for a week (I couldn't go) it was SO much easier to eat less! Without my mom shoving food in my face constantly I ate a reasonable amount. I cooked and shopped for myself and it was the best week for my weight loss so far. How do I convince my parents, mom especially, to let me cook for myself? Or at least not give me all of the food she cooks.", "summary": "My parents buy too much food and it's hard to not eat it when it's in my face. Do I just deal with it or can I convince them to stop and let me make my own food?"}
{"id": "t3_1t7rj5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/M] want to know if her [25/F] reason for ending it was realistic", "post": "Dated for 3.5 years in college and beyond.  We were both each other's firsts. Chemistry was instant from day one and never seemed to die off. Took a long trip together this summer, had an amazing time. \n\nAbout a month after the trip we hung out and she was noticeably upset. She mentioned that the \"spark\" was no longer there between us. We took a break,  and it ended a few weeks later when she told me she loved me but was not \"in love\" with me, and wanted to make some sense of it all. I gave her some space to think, left her alone for a while, and felt numb. \n\nMet for dinner recently and was blindsided with the news that she is dating someone else. I had thought we could potentially rekindle, and am devastated. It was a good relationship, there was no cheating or lying or anything really negative, and I didn't see the end coming until it suddenly happened. She was saddened (was crying) by my reaction as she stills cares for me, but obviously not in the same way anymore. I have pressed for answers since then and she explained that I transitioned from a lover to a friend in her mind, and this started even before the trip. The person she is currently dating asked her out about 3 weeks after it ended officially, so cheating seems unlikely. \n\nI'm dumbfounded. It has led to a lot of self reflection and pain, because I'm wondering why she was suddenly no longer attracted to me. Ladies especially, is it even possible that you will organically lose attraction to a person without them screwing up royally?", "summary": "Good relationship, no cheating, no attraction on her side. Baffled. "}
{"id": "t3_4x6u98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] just ghosted my boyfriend [22 M] and feel horrible. Can I save our relationship?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating since April of this year, so around 4 months. We decided to go long-distance once summer started because I had to take summer classes while he had to work in another town 3 hours away. \n\nWe kept in contact daily but towards mid-July the texts and phone calls became less frequent, probably a text or two every other day. Around this time I was also getting busier and more stressed with class, labs, and doctor shadowing. Finals eventually hit at the end of July so I pretty much extinguished what was left of my social life to study.\n\nIt's been two weeks since finals ended, and while I'm back to my normal routine, I haven't contacted him in 3 weeks. No texts, calls, nothing. He texted me a week ago asking me if I wanted to talk. Didn't reply. He called me on Monday, couldn't pick up because I was busy, but I never called him back.\n\nI feel like absolute shit. I understand that I am solely responsible for our falling out, but I can't bring myself to confront him let alone respond to his messages because I'm afraid of the outcome. Heck, I'm 99% certain that he'll break up with me. I'm just too sheepish to face reality.\n\nAll I want to do is apologize and somehow convey to him that my flakiness was caused by my stress, not because of him. I really do care about him, and ideally I still want us to stay together, but I won't be surprised if he breaks up with me because I messed up big time.", "summary": "Haven't contacted my boyfriend in 3 weeks because of stress. Is our relationship salvageable? How should I get over my fear of accepting responsibility and facing him?"}
{"id": "t3_2v9yzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] want to break up with my girlfriend [22 F] of 3 yrs but don't want to hurt her", "post": "we're both in our last semester of college, and we've been dating since our first semester. We have put a tremendous amount of time, energy, and money into each other, and for the most part our relationship is good. She is very kind and loving to me, but the problem is that she doesn't understand me on a basic level, and our personalities have huge fundemental differences. \n\nWe react to everything completely differently, and while this isn't a big deal for most stuff, whenever we get married, have kids, or make serious life decisions, this is going to be a huge problem. We don't see eye-to-eye on anything philosophically, and our dispositions are very different. She is uptight and very cynical, while I am laid back and pretty much never say anything negative. \n\nI don't want to spend the rest of my life to this girl, and I even knew that 3 years ago. Objectively, however, I can't find a reason to break up with her. Most guys would love to be in my shoes. I have a girlfriend who is very pretty and cares deeply for me and has tried so hard to be interested in the things that I like, but we are very, very different people at our cores. I know I want to break up with her, but I don't have the courage or justification to do it. What can I do?", "summary": "I have a girlfriend who loves me, but is fundamentally too different, and I want to break up with her, but I can't justify doing it."}
{"id": "t3_3ifvpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [19F] for two months now, get jealous and makes her upset because she says i'm not trusting her.", "post": "Hi,\n\nWe've been together for two months now.\n\nOn monday she started a new work for a week.\n\nShe said it was cool and had 4 coworkers about the same age wich is great. \nAt the end of the first day i asked her how it went and she kept mentioning one name.\n\n--\n\nI allready thought about something suspiscious.\n\nYesterday morning i wake up go to work and when i check my FB feed i see that she becomes friend with the guy.\n\nAs her phone is broke i can only wait until i see her in the evening to talk about it.\n\nHere comes the evening and i decide to ask about the Guy. She seemed like she knew what was coming but didn't want to talk about it.\n\nIn the end after i ask many many questions she finally say that he's been hitting on her during the day but wanted to comfort me and said that she rejected him everytime anyway.\n\nShe says apart from that they are getting along together well. She also add that it's her superior so she can't really say anything harsh so she reject him but that it.\n\nAll of this made me upset 'cause i had to ask many questions before getting to the point and the story changed etc... She said she didn't want me to worry about it and that's why she tried to avoid it.\nIt seems that she hates it because according to her i'm not trusting her. \n\nKnowing that it's only her second work day and it's allready getting to that stage, i'm a bit nervous about the rest of the week.\n\nIn the end i get upset by the actions of her coworker and she gets upset because i get upset.\n\nIt's not the first and that's not gonna be the last so i'm wondering, what should i do ? How to react ?\n\nI know that it's gonna be a vicious circle because if she talk about it and i'm getting upset, she won't talk about it anymore, and i'm afraid getting upset everytime something like that happens gonna make her drift away from me.", "summary": "coworker is hitting on my gf, don't know how to react because when i get upset she gets upset too because she says i don't trust her."}
{"id": "t3_uo5ds", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "\"Discipline is remembering what you want.\"", "post": "Normally I lurk around on loseit, marveling at the incredible weight loss stories of so many of you on here.  Today I wanted to post a personal accomplishment of my own!\n\nYesterday was my IRL cake day and to celebrate, my family went out for dinner then did gifts and whatnot at home.  At the restaurant, I shared a piece of cheesecake with my younger brother (I have cut sweets/desserts out of my diet but it was my birthday and I wanted to treat myself!) but when I got home, my mom also had cupcakes!\n\nNow, I need you all to understand, I LOVE desserts.  And I do not mean that lightly.  I love cookies, brownies, cakes, doughnuts, all of it.  But I want to lose ~15lb that I gained in college and I know a diet with all of those things in it will not do me any favors so I have cut them out (almost) entirely.  To curb the cravings I will have a couple of nilla wafers after a meal.\n\nAnyway, back to the cupcakes.  Rather than even have one, I brought them with me to a game of hide and seek with some of my younger brother's friends and let them enjoy the birthday treat.  I thought about it earlier and realized I didn't even think twice about giving away the cupcakes and I felt so proud of myself!  Old me from just a few weeks ago would have had a much more difficult time doing something like that!\n\nThat's all, just wanted to share.", "summary": "Rather than overindulge on my birthday, I donated my cupcakes to a bunch of hungry teenagers at a game of hide and seek."}
{"id": "t3_wlpcl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just found out my flatmate has herpes, after living with him for 5 months. Am I being ridiculous?", "post": "I wouldn't have minded except he should have told me upfront. He might be symptomless but that doesn't mean he won't infect me.\n\nHe's also been extremely blas\u00e9 about sharing glasses and cutlery - insisted when we're out to eat chinese that we share all the food, increasing saliva contamination chances etc. Never mentioned it even when we shared a straw because he wanted to try my drink.\n\nHe tells me he's never infected anyone else, even people he's slept with. I don't think that's the point. He put me at risk unecessarily!\n\nAm I being ridiculous?", "summary": "Flatmate has no problem sharing saliva, but neglects to mention the possibility of permanent viral infection for 5 months. It bothers me he didnt tell me sooner, am I being ridiculous about wishin I was told sooner?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5u2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [22F] wants to break up with me [23M] after 5 years because of long distance relationship. Advice?", "post": "I met my girlfriend 6 years ago and have been going out with her for 5 years and she is perfect. \n\nWe ve been in a long distance relationship for the past 4 month or so (due to the fact of me doing a 1 year internship and her completing her masters degree oversees; I finish next August she finishes next December). And when I say long, it means 10 hours time difference. \n\nLast 2 weeks she's been acting weird so I asked what's wrong, she wouldn't tell me. After a while I got her to talk and she told me that she is not feeling good anymore, she's always sad and it hurts her so much that we are not together and sharing moments like we used to. \n\nShe said that we re talking less and less together which makes it worse. \n\nShe's coming to spend a week vacation at the end of the month and I was planning to go to hers in March (both trips planned 2 month ago). \nBut now she's saying that she wants to come and talk about us, our relationship face to face (instead of having fun and enjoy seeing each other)\n\nShe kept saying that she loves me so much and it kills her that we can't be together. What I understood is that she wants to break up and maybe we ll see what happens. She's not comfortable with the idea of us not knowing where our future will take us. She thinks that we do not have a future and can't stand that we will only see each other 20-40 days a year tops. \nI thought that we could be strong and sacrifice a bit until we both finish and do an effort to live/work in the same city. \n\nShe ll be here in a week. Any ideas what I can do or what we should do to make this better? Or is this relationship doomed?\n\nHelp me reddit I'm in love.", "summary": "my gf wants to end our relationship because we barely see each other during the year and because of the time difference."}
{"id": "t3_szvk1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Retail employees: When has a customer made to feel like crap?", "post": "Okay, I work for a large eyeglass company that makes glasses in an hour... you all know what I'm talking about. Anyway I'm the manager on duty and I work in the lab. A middle aged woman comes in with her son to pick up a finished pair of glasses and to also drop off a frame to have lenses put in it. \n     I finished the glasses and since the frame belonged to the customer i just put it in a generic velcrow case and not a brand name case (I'm not obligated to give a case at all but I'm nice so i do it). She comes to pick it up and then asks me for a better case. I kindly let her know that since it was his frame that this is the case that I am supposed to give her son. She then starts getting loud about how she spent good money and her son should get a better case so I cave. I look everywhere for kids cases and I'm getting frustrated because i can't find them and I want this lady to leave. I finally find one and hand it to her.\n    When i hand her the case she asks me if there is a problem. I say no, there isn't any problem, but she cuts me off and says its written all over my face. I told her I didn't mean to make a face to offend her.  She replies by saying \"you mean you didn't mean for me to see it\". I keep apologizing but she just walks out saying that I need to work on my customer service.\n   Just when I think its over she walks back in and asks for my name. I tell it to her and then she accuses me of making the face again! I try to apologize again (not sure why, just instinct from working retail too long i guess). She cuts me off and tells me that \"you've got some real problems girlfriend\". Crying ensues after she leaves.\n\nTheres more to this story but I'm using bacon reader. The important stuff is here. Look forward to reading your stories reddit!", "summary": "some lady got pissed at my face"}
{"id": "t3_4on8qv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26F] People keep calling me awkward and it's getting me down.", "post": "Hi, 26 year old woman here. I've noticed that a lot of people tell me I'm weird or awkward. Especially men I go on dates with, it's the major reason I don't get second dates. To me, first dates are just uncomfortable by their very nature, but I'm told it's me being awkward. Sometimes my co-workers or just random strangers will feel the need to tell me I'm weird too, even my boss\n\nI'm outgoing, I don't think of my self as shy or anxious at all. I really like to make people laugh, even if I end up looking silly. I'm polite though, I would never say anything rude or inappropriate. I'm talkative but I really do make an effort to listen and take an interest in who ever I'm talking to. I have some really close friends who like my goofy ways but most people are really put off by it.\n\nHow can I be more serious? It's intimidating to me. Maybe using humor as defense mechanism a bit here.\n\nAlso, as a kid I was diagnosed with something called dyspracsia. I have poor motor skills but normal intelligence. It doesn't affect me that much in my adult life but maybe it's my physicality people think is awkward. I'm also very tall and skinny. I've been variously described as being like a robot or a mime. But guys are into that, right?", "summary": "people keep telling me I'm weird but I feel normal. What do they mean by this?"}
{"id": "t3_1rhu7d", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need a little advice", "post": "Basically I am 18 and I currently live with my Auntie and Uncle as my mum has an illness and had to move to a smaller home which resulted in me finding some accommodation elsewhere, I get on well with my mum but my Auntie and Uncle do not. They have started to get funny about the slightest things such as me not letting them know if I am coming home as I am staying elsewhere niggly things that wouldn't bother the majority but does them. I hadn't spoke to them for at least a week when I got told I had to have my stuff out by Wednesday. We have no contractual binding so I acknowledge that it is fine to not give me a grace period of trying to sort alternate housing out but I have now been told that to get my stuff out of the house I will have to pay them rent, I would have no qualms over things like this normally but they owe me the majority of what I pay in rent a month anyway and they have already told me I am not getting this back. I have recently found out they are committing fraud as they receive benefits (I am in the UK btw) for housing and I am not supposed to be living there so basically I am paying them money and the government is giving them money to live there also.\n\nJust want some advice on how to get my stuff back in the best possible way is it ringing the non emergency police number and reporting this or just getting my stuff and walking out or anything else?", "summary": "need advice on how to get stuff back from my house for moving out."}
{"id": "t3_yrn0u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How have strangers made your day?", "post": "I was having a pretty awful day yesterday, as I was meant to be going out on the piss (Having some... quiet drinks) with a bunch of old friends, but almost everyone bailed. I was feeling pretty awful and spent a few hours roaming around town on my own. I live in Edinburgh, where there's been a huge comedy festival on for the past month, so big and small acts from all over the world come over to help get them some recognition.\n\nAfter feeling lonely for a while, I had a seat and a man playing the saw (as in the hardware tool) was sat nearby. He finished his act and came over to me and we chatted for a little bit, then he handed me his saw and bow and taught me how to play. We chatted for a while before he headed off to a show he was performing at.\n\nAfter that I headed off to my favourite bar, which was open early due to the festival. The bartender essentially forced me to chat to a bunch of people who were by the bar, since they had all come in by themselves and I was looking rather sorry for myself. So I got a couple of free drinks and got talking to a fine few bunch of randomers. One charming Irish chap who was there sat and explained to me about a festival down near his home town that once a year, would put a goat upon a 3 storey high scaffold, then essentially declare the goat 'king' for the week and due to this, the bars in the area were open for 7 days straight.\n\nI went outside for a cigarette with one of the tourists I was chatting to and got talking to a bunch of side show entertainers from America, who were doing acts in the festival. They'd all met that day and the group of us stood outside and blazed up a few 'gentlemens cigarettes' and just had a really good time.\n\nAll in all, it was a pretty sweet day. I'm usually not massively social outside of my group of friends, but I'm glad I got talking to people. My faith in humanity has been greatly restored... Up until I stumble back upon /r/atheism...", "summary": "Was feeling lonely and rather shit, strangers saved the day!"}
{"id": "t3_eucna", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are the Dating Rules... when you're 47?!", "post": "I'll try not to give too much information--don't want to be tedious so here's a quick sketch. I'm a 47 year old woman, attractive, self-sufficient and independent with grown children. Divorced since 1989, dated one wonderful guy for a couple of years then broke up with him because it kept hurting him that I wouldn't make him a priority.\n\nI've been happy with my own company, busy because I teach preschool full time and do home care for kids with special needs part time. Met a fella when I was stuck somewhere for a while and he chatted me up and wants to date me.\n\nI met him for dinner with some other friends and my daughter but I ended up not feeling good about this guy. I was trying not to give in to a reflexive no-this-is-not-for-me-I-don't-date thing, but I'm pretty sure that's not what my problem is in this case. Talks about liking to hang out at the local \"meat market\" bar, played a weird un-funny joke on the waitress which only confused her, talked about admiring celebrities I think are douchebags, and what made me most uncomfortable of all, kept reassuring me about things I don't need or want reassurance about. Like, \"I like that you work with kids. That's good.\" And, \"You look so young, I like that. I can't believe you have a 26-year-old daughter.\" And, after meeting my daughter for less than an hour, \"She handles herself very well, you've done a good job raising her.\" I realize these aren't bad things to say to someone. Something just feels manipulative about it. Does that make any sense at all?\n\nPlus, he's 55 years old and he texts me several times a day in Chatspeak? \"if u r willing i would like 2 get 2 know u better.\"\n\nOkay, sorry if that's too much information. I've made a second date with him for tomorrow night, but I plan to tell him I think we're not compatible and that I don't want to date him.\n\nHow would you do that?", "summary": "I haven't dated since 1992 and don't know how to play. I met a fella who likes me and seemed promising but I realize I don't think I like him very much because he's slick. I need to know the best way out, and fast!"}
{"id": "t3_1mpj5w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is taking a backpacking trip to Europe alone a good/bad idea?", "post": "Here's the deal. I'm finishing school this December (in the US), and then taking time off during the Spring before I start working and being a functional member of society. During this time I plan on taking a trip to Europe for probably about a month. Here's the issue: It would probably be super awesome to have one of my friends go with me, but due to the timing of it all and other factors, none of my friends would be able to join. \n\nI'm perfectly capable of not going crazy without a comrade, but I don't know if perhaps I'd be missing out on something by not having someone with me. In terms of where I want to go, not really sure. I don't really care too much about all the touristy places, I'd rather go and explore the different cultures in Europe than just see landmarks and move on. I want to explore and meet people and hang out with new friends while I'm there. \n\nCan any of you share stories of trips you've made alone or with people and possibly lend your wisdom? Any small anecdote is appreciated!", "summary": "Going to Europe in the Spring, friends won't be able to join. Going alone good or bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_dszat", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit! My appartment has mold and our landlord wont do anything about it. What can we do?", "post": "So we have lived in our apartment for several years. We have dealt with the mold since the first winter we moved in (moved in in august and there wasn't a problem). We do everything we can to keep up with it, dri-z-air containers in every room, ionic pro air cleaner, run a fan all night long in the bedroom (burrrr) and I can only clean so much! The windows are old and we have asked the landlord to replace them and they refuse saying that \"it hasn't helped other renters in their units with mold\". They came in to \"check\" the mold, rather they had their maintenance man come in and look at the window sills ask us to clean it then told us he would come back in two weeks to check how quickly it was growing. They did this in June....the dry season...I have taken pictures of the worst of it and sent them to the property management company and had several conversations with the landlord about it. I have taken to every spring doing a cleaning then putting on a fresh coat of Killz but it comes back every year. The mold is under our bed and on the wall that the bed is aginst, behind the desk, in every window and window sill and the sliding glass door, the wood around the largest window in the living room is soft and the paint bubbles during the winter. Im sure we will have to throw out a large portion of our furniture (the one that pisses me off the most is a dresser and desk I have had since I was a child that I love) Moving isn't an option, its nearly impossible to find a place in our town that takes dogs and isn't over run with screaming children. I'm sure this is affecting our health and the health of our dogs but its apartment the landlords aren't going to do anything about it. So, Reddit what can I do?", "summary": "We have mold and its nasty. Landlord would rather be slummy and not do shit about it. What do I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3busgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking of breaking up with my[23M] long distance girlfriend[22F] of a year.", "post": "Throw away account.\n\nI met my girlfriend on a dating site when I moved back in with my parents.\n\nSo here's my story. I have been in a relationship with this girl for a year and things are not all bad. She lives a few hundred miles away but we see each other once every month or two and talk a lot. We talk a lot about the future but I haven't told her honestly the way I have been feeling for the last month.\n\nA little background on me; I am a highschool drop out and I am unemployed and living with my parents at the moment. I dropped out of school because of an argument with a teacher, I thought I was the greatest guitar player on the face of the earth, and the drugs I was into may have played a part.\n\nAs it is, I am in no position to even have a girlfriend. I have so much \"me\" to work on and I shouldn't even be thinking about girls. This girl seems to love me the way I am and I am grateful for it but I feel like we are wasting each others time.\n\nI have no idea how to even bring this up to her. She has invested so much into me and I don't want to hurt her. I just think I need to focus on my own person before I can continue this relationship. I have hinted at this before but she usually replies with \"I love you just the way you are.\" \n\nOn top of all that being so far from each other and seeing each other so little often I am afraid that if I were to move in with her things would change and we might not get along.\n\nHow do I start this conversation? Is it possible to do without making her cry or get angry?\n\nThank you for any advice you can give.", "summary": "how do I suggest breaking up to my long distance girlfriend because of concerns of the future and the need to better myself? Is it possible without making her hate me?"}
{"id": "t3_4jmhmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] am a young mother to my daughter [2F]. I have started having feelings for my roomate and best friend [19M] since childhood. Is it worth asking him out", "post": "Hi everyone, my name is Maddie and I just need some advice. I am a young mother and the father pretty much left me and my daughter. He told me that he wanted to keep the Baby and get married when we turned 18, how quickly things changed after the baby was born. My mom greatly disproved of me having this child and pretty much cut me out of her life completely. \n\nThe only one to truly have my back is my best friend Griffin. Griffin goes to university in California and I am his roommate. I am planning to go the university in several years. Griffin and I both work and he looks after my daughter while I am at work. My daughter has really come my first priority in life, she has become a huge part of Griffin life as well. He is amazing with her I think it is because he has younger siblings. Griffin has been my best friend since we were 5 years old. \n\nHe looks after her, plays with her, he never gets mad at her and he has the patience of a saint. As I said before I think it's because he has younger siblings. \n\nI think I am starting to have feelings for Griffin, whenever I see him with his shirt off my heart flutters. He always takes his shirt off when he is hot, it makes me really happy to see him playing with my daughter. I have been thinking about him a lot more than usual when he is at university or at work. I have been having dreams about him and find myself fantasizing about him.  \n\nI have had plenty of guys ask me out, but I have decided to stay single. I feel as is if my daughter comes first now, Griffin is also really good looking, he works out and his body is amazing. I find him extremely attractive\n\nI am so scared to ask him out, I don't want to do anything to mess up our relationship. Is it worth a shot asking him out or should I just leave it alone? He is home right now and he is sick, he has a cold I think, I am not sure what he has.", "summary": "as the title reads"}
{"id": "t3_4q6jft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with a good friend [26 M] of 10 years - Invited him to a sailing trip, don't want him to come anymore", "post": "So my girlfriend, two friends of us and me wanted to go on a sailing trip in a few weeks and rent a boat. At first we were not enough people to pay for the vacation (renting a boat, house etc.) so I asked a few friends if anyone wanted to come.\n\nOne of them actually agreed to come with us, even though he knows only me there. Now that two other friends of my girlfriend tag along, I think he wouldn't really fit in that group. I have a feeling he might even make me uncomfortable in a few situations. I'm not sure if I still want him to come with us, but don't know how to get out of this while still keeping him as a friend (I like him, but as I said, I just don't think he would fit in). If I just tell him, we don't go on that trip, he will eventually find out (Facebook photos etc.)...\n\nI appreciate any contribution/suggestion/discussion.", "summary": "I invited an old friend on a sailing trip with my GF and two other friends. I now don't think he would really fit in. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_39yxyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mum is annoyed at me [F20] for not telling her that my brother is gay [M20]", "post": "My brother came out to me as gay about a year ago now; he's really quiet and pretty shy but I've had suspicions for years so it wasn't a surprise for me. He was drunk when he told me and although we live in the same house, we don't talk much, generally - he's a bit of a recluse!\n\nWe were talking last night and I encouraged him to come out to our parents when he was ready to. Really and truly, everyone in out family has had suspicions about his sexuality for a little while now.\n\nToday, he came out to my mum and she was absolutely fine about it. My brother mentioned that I knew, but didn't elaborate to my mum and left it there.\n\nEarlier this evening, she challenged me and asked why I hadn't told her. I explained that my brother was obviously very nervous about it and had told me in confidence, so I didn't deem it appropriate for me to jump the gun and tell my family before he did' it's not my business, right?\n\nI need some help rationalising! Was I in the wrong? What would you have done?", "summary": "My brother came out to me a year ago, I didn't tell anyone but now that he has come out to our family, my mum is annoyed that I withheld information. Who's the unreasonable one?"}
{"id": "t3_2tsfx2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22M] How to approach a [21F]", "post": "Long story inc...I like this girl. She has many guys chasing her and by many. I mean many. So basically I'm meeting with her tomorrow night cause i offered to lend her my phone since i have a spare and i felt bad that she bought a new one and it went spiderman edition on her. She's denied basically every guy that chases , Her friend told me she doesn't want a relationship but constantly posts statuses on facebook that would suggest otherwise. We have many things in common, and by that i mean we have a pretty similar way of thinking. \n\nWe're meeting at her school and she doesn't own a car. Should i offer to take her home and or grab a bite to eat? Any advice is appreciated :P.\n\nOn a side note , I just recovered from a previous relationship.", "summary": "Need help how to approach a girl who's really cute and has many guys chasing her."}
{"id": "t3_1ba94y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 16, turning 17, girlfriend is 13, turning 14. Is it wrong?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have never met, we talk every single day, for several hours each time. My friends tell me she is too young and that I should move on, but we met through a friend on skype and we have so much in common, we love eachother and really want to meet to get a bit more physical. Is she too young? I know at the moment we are at two pretty different stages of life, but if I'm 23 and she's 20 the age gap wont matter at all. I am just wondering if there is anything wrong with us being together? neither of our parents mind.", "summary": "Gf is 13, im 16, wondering if its wrong."}
{"id": "t3_355t7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my 22 [F] year relationship, Feeling burnt out on being with her.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now and honestly it's been great so far. Unfortunately recentely I've been struggling with enjoying myself around her.\n\nBackground is she's a master student going for a PHD, I'm finishing up my bachelor. She's a workaholic, basically all she does is work on her study (I really do admire her work ethic) and doesn't leave any time for herself or her hobbies. Now whenever we meet up in the weekends and do anything, she get's tired by 7-8PM and wants to hug or rest her head on me etc. constantly.\n\nAt first I figured it was just cute and allowed it, but recently it feels like the only reason we hang out is so she can take a break from her studying and \"do nothing for a while\". Now I'm an active person, into fitness and have a bunch of other hobbies I do next to my study and work, and it bothers me that she basically uses me as a \"hobby\" to relax.\n\nI really do like her and she's great to be with when she has a break, but I'm just feeling tired from looking after her when she's with me. I'd like to go out and do physical activities together instead of hanging out on the couch... \n\nI'm going to talk to her about it this weekend and confront her about taking time for herself and all that, but what are your opinions on this?", "summary": "Girlfriend is great, but always tired when we hang out and uses me as an excuses to do nothing after studying all week long. How to confront?"}
{"id": "t3_2gyjju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24M] deal with a girl[24F] who I have liked for over a year now, but it seems she is not ready for anything serious.", "post": "Alright so some background: \n\nEarlier in the year, we both dated each other. I liked her, she liked me. After a while we stopped really dating each other since neither one of us had time, but we still made an effort to talk to each other several times a week. Recently we went on what I think was a date? But she just seems so difficult to like. We have known each other only for a little over a year. We met last September.\n\nBut everytime we hang out, it kind of has to be planned. It can never be like hey, I wake up on a saturday morning, lets go get breakfast. She was engaged before and I don't know if she is just not ready for anything serious, but I obviously like, she knows this, but how long do I really do this for? \n\nI love getting to know her, and I know that I like her. I don't ever pursue anyone (especially for over a year) if I don't like them. But I dont want to push her away by confronting her either", "summary": "I have pretty much fallen for someone, but because of her past it's not really moving as much as I would like it."}
{"id": "t3_gsvah", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I often have motivation to become a better person at night when I go to sleep, but when I wake up it's gone and I end up sleeping in and/or wasting half the day. How can I fix this?", "post": "I usually go to sleep thinking of all the great things I'm going to do tomorrow. I'll finally hit the gym, start learning a new language, take up a new sport. I make plans in my mind for my day tomorrow, and I get excited - if it was tomorrow right now, I would leap out of bed and get started on these plans right away!\n\nHowever, when I wake up, I'm usually very tired/weary and I ALWAYS lack motivation. Sometimes the only way to stop myself from going back to sleep is to go on Facebook or reddit on my phone, otherwise I'll end up sleeping for half of the day. Even if I do get myself out of bed, I usually spend a couple of hours watching TV or browsing the net. By the time it gets to the stage where I realize I should do something, it's too late for the plans I had for that day, so I decide that I'll \"do it tomorrow\". Rinse and repeat. \n\nI don't think the problem is that I procrastinate (at least in the conventional way) - it's just that I have a completely different mindset when I wake up, and I don't *want* to do the things I wanted myself to do the night before. The desire, the motivation, just isn't there. \n\nI consistently get a healthy 8 hours of sleep, and I've even tried using Sleep Timer, an app which is supposed to optimize your wake-up time so that your weariness is minimized, but it doesn't seem to help. \n\nSo, wondrous advice-givers of reddit: is there any way I can make this easier for myself, and perhaps carry some momentum from day-to-day?", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_uwpdv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats the weirdest/creepiest thing that ever happened to you following a break up?", "post": "I'll go first.\nSo I'm going out with this girl for about a year and a half, it started off as just fooling around but things got pretty serious fast. Fast forward about two months ago and one of my close friends tell me that he seen her out with some guy at the cinema, at first I thought it couldn't of been her because she had told me that she was spending the week at her moms the night my friend saw her. I try texting and calling her all week but doesn't answer any of it.\nWhen she gets back I immediately ask her was she cheating on me. Not the best approach I know but I was frustrated as hell. She starts bursting into tears and tells me its all true and that she spent the week at this guys place, so i do what any normal man would do in that situation and I lose my shit. We argue for what must have been an hour and we end up breaking up. I clearly remember calling her a whore when she was walking out the door, not my most mature moment.\n\nThis is when it gets weird, about two weeks ago I get a text saying 'You're dead' off an unknown number. I ignore it and then just two or three days after that I'm out with friends, just hanging out and this random guy comes up to us from across the road and punches me in the face. Now I'm kind of a small guy so I drop like a ton of bricks. As the guys runs away he yells back 'Thats for calling my girlfriend a whore'. Turns out my ex got with the guy she was cheating with me with and told him what i called and her. I rang my ex asking for an explanation and she told me 'Thats what you get for messing with his girl'.\n\nSo Reddit now its your turn.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me, broke up, called her a whore, she gets her new boyfriend(who she cheated on me with) to punch me in the face for calling her a whore."}
{"id": "t3_2ozdh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I suck at texting and it is making this dating thing difficult.", "post": "I'm 23 F. Been talking to a guy for a short while now and there's a lot of texting involved. Normally I treat texting as a functional thing (planning, asking a quick question), not as a primary mode of communication. I really like talking to this guy in person, but over text it is so hard for me to stay interested in our convos, and I hate being on my phone all day. I also hate the lack of voice and body language. Makes it difficult for me to respond, and I overanalyze every thing I say. I think: \"well, he might think this if I word this this way, or not quite get what I mean\" or \"what if I offend/give the wrong idea/sound weird/ect??\" I feel like I need to get over it, because this is how it's done, and we can't always hang out with out conflicting schedules. I've also ruined previous potential dates due to my poor texting skills (waiting a really long time to respond, lacking creativity in texting, avoiding it altogether). So I'm asking for help to figure out a way to improve my texting skills, enjoy it, and stop overthinking every. little. word.", "summary": "when getting to know a guy, I'm a boring texter. looking for advice on how to improve and learn to like texting."}
{"id": "t3_whoee", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most dumbest/idiotic/pointless/funniest argument you've had on the internet or other electronic communications? I'll start", "post": "One day on BlackBerry Messenger I had my display picture as my truck. I then receive a message from a person that is a few years younger then me. I tutored him in highschool when I was in grade 12 and he was in grade 9. He then starts an argument as follows:\nHim: ur display pic is ugly\nMe: I didn't take it to impress u\nHim: so its still ugly\nMe: ok whatever\nHim: I don't know why u wasted money on it\nMe: lol who r u to tell me about wasting money?\nHim: U don't know how to buy vehicles\nMe: idk why ur making a big deal out of this\n* he then stops messaging me back*\n*after 10 mins*\nHim: Y do u read\nMe: I like to\nHim: ur stupid\nMe:*did he just call me stupid for reading*\n\nAt this point he makes a bunch of sad insults. I just use big words against him and he then got annoyed and stopped messaging back.", "summary": "some kid says my profile picture is ugly and then lectures me on spending money and then calls me stupid for reading."}
{"id": "t3_19nvhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M, 20] am to go through an arranged marriage at age 30 if I am still single, but I am no success in relationships.", "post": "So I'm 20 years old now, and my mother and I came to this agreement a while ago that if I am still single by the time I am 30, then she is to arrange a marriage for me, with a woman from my home country. I don't really know why I agreed to this, but it's not like I absolutely hate the idea. Or maybe I do, I don't really know.\n\nI've never actually ever had a relationship. A bunch of small things have built up the mindset that I have today, and even though I like myself, it seems like nobody else does. I find it difficult to be happy, when I'm always worried about why I can't find \"the one\" or something.\n\nI guess my life is pretty swell if my worst worries are just troubles of the heart.\n\nNo girl I've ever liked has ever reciprocated my feelings. From the first girl I liked to the most recent one [F, 17].\n\nOne of my friends told me I was a sort of sicko, because I'm in college now and I was into a girl who was still in high school.\n\nIs there a way that I can change my thinking process, or is there something I just might be doing wrong?", "summary": "Gonna be in arranged marriage at 30. Never had a girlfriend. Don't know if I'm doing something wrong."}
{"id": "t3_3dzzw9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scaring myself with a pillow.", "post": "Okay, first - some back story. So I was sitting on my uncomfy office chair, hours went by quickly, I was playing DotA 2, later some \"Mein Kampff (That's how I call minecraft) and suddenly it's 01:00 (1am). I was like: *pfft* what bad could happen if I was to turn some doto on and play a match? I load up and see that my team's communicating (Hell yes - I thought - maybe a descent game for once. I picked Invoker (This sayan dude who always shoots ki blasts and has stuff like kayo-ken (Alacrity). The start was good, we were dominating. 30 minutes passed and my mom heard me from another room and came in with a thunder and told me off to bed, I was all like: God fuken damnit, y u do dis mama mia! I turn back to take a look at the game - we're loosing mid racks and we're all dead - game's over and as usual I loose 43 mmr. So I just turn around in my chair and jump into bed (literally). Take my phone and start browsing 9gag then reddits nosleep subreddit and find a creepy story and while l read it a pillow (I sleep with 3 pillows, 2 of them are behind my main pillow and are bigger than my main two or even three times) just falls over on my shoulder and scaring the living shit out of me.", "summary": "A pillow fell on me scaring the shit out of me."}
{"id": "t3_4glr1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33 M] have been with my girlfriend [33 F] for 8 years. Our relationship is very troubled, it's all my fault, and now I find myself crushing on a coworker.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for eight years. The relationship didn't start out well. I broke up with the girl I was currently dating to be with her, but I was trying to be nice and still answered the ex's calls, which were frequent. I thought I was doing the right thing by my ex. This angered my girlfriend to no end. I also was pretty controlling and abusive for a time. I got arrested, got treatment for my underlying mental health issues, and am now a completely different person. It's been four or five years since the last incident.\n\nAs a consequence of my actions, my girlfriend does not want us to live together. She also has expressed no desire in having sex or even being physically affectionate. She won't even tell me she loves me.\n\nNow I'm not faulting her at all. I fucked up, and I'm paying for it. The problem is that I'm finding myself attracted to a coworker who seems to possibly be attracted to me. I've found myself fantasizing about her. What I need to know is how I can fix my relationship. I don't want to cheat, but I feel like my resolve will only get weaker the longer I go without any sort of intimacy.", "summary": "I was a dick and ruined my relationship. Please help me fix it before it gets worse."}
{"id": "t3_472w6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My abusive ex's sister works with me now. How the fuck am I going to get through this?", "post": "So title says it. \n\nDated *John for 2 years when I was 18-20. He was verbally, emotionally and in the end physically abusive. I tried getting out of the relationship multiple times but finally with my great friend support, got out of it.\n\nI moved 5 hrs away from where him and his family were located. The sister I thought was sweet but then eventually showed her crazy and suffers from bipolar disorder. \n\nToday, I was going to pick up one of my kids (I'm a rehab therapist in the school system) and run into this new teacher who looked familiar. I think she also thought I looked familiar and kept trying to look at my name tag. I became panicky and walked away. She then introduced her self and my worst nightmare came true. \n\nThe thing is, he's shown up to my workplaces in the past. It was more than coincidence and more than likely if she finds out it really is me, he will try to make contact with me which he will do from time to time.\n\nIt's just wild how I live in a small town, three states over and magically, out of all of the people in the world, she now works there. Last I heard, she was in law school.  I know it's coincidence but I literally just wanted to cry the rest of the day because it's just rehashing all of the mental progress I've made. \n\nAnd yes before anyone asks, I am seeing a therapist.", "summary": "My ex's sister now works with me, and I don't know how to interact with her..Should I avoid her at costs? Do anything? Help!"}
{"id": "t3_281456", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my ex[24M] broke up 6 months ago, want to be friends. Is this even possible?", "post": "My ex and I dated for 1.5 yrs. The last \".5\" year was long distance. We broke up back in early January. I moved on fairly quickly, being an active, social person. He is introverted and a homebody. We have texted several times, usually talking about day-to-day stuff.\n\nWe are now back in the same city for the summer and have overlapping friend groups. He thinks that I'm brushing him off and feels awkward about speaking with me. I honestly don't feel awkward at all. (But I also sometimes have the social finesse of a bull in a china shop.)\n\nHe says I was his best friend for that 1.5 years and that he wants to stay friends. I'd like to be friends, but he expects me to come find him and initiate plans to hang out with him, and that because of his introverted nature, he is \"not the type to make plans\". I told him that's not my job and that friendship is a two-way street, that he could have shot me a text at any time to hang out.\n\nHe seems also to be going through some issues like depression and whatnot. I'm just wondering - is it even possible to stay friends? If so, how?", "summary": "Ex and I broke up ~6 months ago, he wants to be besties, I don't know how to manage that or if I should even try."}
{"id": "t3_3idwai", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling at my mother", "post": "So this was Today,more specifically 15 minutes ago. I am in the living room playing on my", "summary": "My brother (6) was hitting one of his toys with a Machete, I lost my shit and yelled at my mother for not doing anything or talking to him about what he did, she didn't care much about what he did but mostly that I lost my shit and yelled at her  "}
{"id": "t3_ef3tv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is anyone else simply tired of the, \"Is anyone else simple tired of reddity redditors?\" posts?", "post": "I don't understand what these people are complaining about, this is a website based on picking things apart. I have read quite a few posts recently that were something to the tune of, \"oh my, why is this issue still being discussed, can we move on already\", or \" why do people care more about what Julian Assange has done than what cell phone companies are doing?\", or \"sure things aren't perfect but we don't really have anything to worry  about UNTIL we feel oppressed\".\n\nI come on reddit to discuss serious world issues, with people. I come on here because the world has a lot of problems, and it alleviates stress to come on here and talk about the issues in the world. I trust that talking about these issues in any media is healthy for society, as idea's both digital and not spread. It's the communication of idea's that garners change, and results. Every redditor on here has friends, and families, coworkers and clients, the idea's and conclusions we come to on reddit or through other media sources, don't stop the second we see them on the computer screen. They follow us into our lives. \n\nThe implication that discussion of important issues on reddit doesn't matter, or is a waste of time, is a little offensive to me. If the issues didn't matter we wouldn't be discussing them. We all know why we come on reddit, and it's usually because we are pissed off with the world, and in the real world we are told \"don't discuss this at work\", \"it's not polite to talk politics you might offend someone\", or you are met with people who have no interest in world events.", "summary": "Is anyone else annoyed with the implication that serious issues do not diserve as much attention as they get? Is anyone else annoyed with the implication that bad things aren't possible and that speculating \"possible bad things\" is a waste of time?"}
{"id": "t3_2lb8gp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] just can't reassure my depressed girlfriend [18F] of 1 year, and it's killing me.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together about a year, and I knew since we first got together that she had issues with depression. She's very self-conscious about her looks (despite the fact that she is genuinely beautiful) and often feels insignificant. I think this may result from a lifetime with her subtly, semi-controlling mother (who is a nice enough person, but can be sly and manipulative of her children). \n---\nA lot of the time, I can cheer her up if I'm physically with her, but that's not always possible, and I feel like she's slowly desensitizing to my efforts to cheer her up when I'm away from her. She has been through therapy before, but she stopped. I just wondered if you guys could give me any advice on how to give my words of reassurance more power? I know that depression is highly complex, as I used to suffer from it myself, but I just want to feel that I can cheer her up without having to be around her. It's especially bad lately with school and university-related stress, and I am usually very good with words, but I just don't seem to be having much effect. \n---\nIf you could offer any advice I would appreciate it so much. \n\nThank you to anyone who reads this.", "summary": "Girlfriend is depressed, feel like crap for not being able to help her feel better."}
{"id": "t3_3l1yfo", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This guy I know in town had his life story posted online by \"Humans of New York\". Subsequently someone started a GoFundMe for him and he's going to squander all the money.", "post": "He's this homeless guy who hangs out sometimes at a bar I go to. He had his admittedly fucked up life story posted online by the \"Humans of New York\" dude and had his picture taken. Afterwards someone started the charitable GoFundMe for him to help him out or whatever. \n\nIn one sense I think the guy might deserve a lucky break. He's had a rough life, and it's nice that people want to help. I certainly don't want to diminish the struggle of his life in any way. It's just that on the other side of the coin the guy is probably just going to blow all this money away. He's already just bought some drugs with it, and plans on taking a trip west with one of his road buddies. If someone plopped $5,000 and growing in my lap it could change my whole life, but here this guy is just spending it like its money falling from the sky.\n\nIt's kind of like that concept where people say they don't want to give $5 to a homeless guy because he's just going to spend it on beer, and its not really helping him get anywhere. Only its on a much larger scale to the tune of several thousand dollars. So all of these people around the country and world are being taken in by this sad story and giving their money to some guy who's just going to blow it all away on dumb shit.", "summary": "a lot of people are giving money to this guy and it makes me feel bad because I'm watching him just fuck it all."}
{"id": "t3_47prc5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being home alone with a girl", "post": "This started on Thursday during my half term or holiday/vacation I was home alone and decided to invite my girl round. We started by watching TV. After a while we went upstairs to watch movies, after a couple movies I got bored so we faced each other and started getting off.\nAfter an hour of doing this and touching inappropriate places then I eventually moved round to the front and started putting fingers up places. In school on Monday I told one of my friends and another one over heard and started spreading it around the school... She was not happy and is currently in a mood with me won't speak to me or anything I will update. Well I asked if there was a point in going out and she replied NO. Lesson to learn is not to tell anyone if you do anything with a girl.", "summary": "I was home alone me and girl did stuff told one mate got spread around school. Girl not talking to me   "}
{"id": "t3_3rz4l3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 F] with my work crush [26 M] 6+weeks, can't decide if I should take the plunge", "post": "Hi there redditors...I need some advice.\nAfter years of grad school and temporary jobs, I finally started a proper grown up full time professional job on 9/15 this year. I love the position, it has great benefits and I could see myself settling in for the long haul. \n\nThe issue is my coworker... He's 8 years my junior, a long term temporary employee working very closely with me (but I am not his supervisor). Our desks are only about 10 ft from one another. And I adore him. We have developed a pretty clear mutual affection in the last few weeks, with lots of eye contact, goofy giggling, inside jokes, etc.. We have a lot in common and have made plans outside of work twice now. Today we spent about 7 hours together (hiking mostly but also at my apartment) and talked and talked (Not about work stuff!). At the end of the day I just wanted more time with him. \n\nHis plan as of now is to leave this job in 6-9 months and go to grad school or get another job, possibly not in our area. However, he grew up about 45 minutes from where our job is so I imagine wants to return to the area eventually. In fact, I met his parents already (long story..he had car trouble and I gave him a ride to pick up Mom's car), and his Mom gushed and cooed over me. He had told her how much he loved having me at work, she knew that it's my birthday this coming week, and even about how I don't eat gluten. It was very cute.\n\nSo, we haven't crossed any lines so far. No more touching than a couple of hugs. Nothing more overt than some flirting and lots of personal conversations. I am impatient and impulsive but several friends have warned me the hang back because of the work situation. How long do I wait to see if our chemistry is still there? Should I have a conversation with him? Or just keep it on lock down and find someone I don't have to see at meetings?", "summary": "Met an amazing much younger guy at new job. Do him or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2fp51s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19] Girlfriend [21] moved away to college and is being hit on by another guy.", "post": "So some backstory. I met my current girlfriend at the start of the summer, about 6 months ago. In that short space of time we grew very close and have formed a very significant relationship. \n\nBut now it is the end of summertime and she is moving halfway across the country for college, while I was staying in the same place (we both live at home with our parents). We both knew this was coming and had discussed it: While initially we had decided that we would simply go our separate ways, as the time for college approached we started making plans to see one another every other month: her coming down this month for my birthday, me going up in November, and spending Christmas together. It seemed as though we were going to try and make a LDR happen. \n\nSo this week was the first week of college. She had to come back to collect some of her things, so we took this opportunity to meet up. When we met up one of the first things she told me about was how this cute guy had fallen for her and he was just so cute but she could never do anything since he was 3 years younger than her. So I ask a few questions about him, and didn't feel there was any need for concern.\n\nBut then when I get home, I see she's posting on her Tumblr about how cute this new guy she met is, and how she wishes he wasn't 3 years younger than him, and how sexually attracted to him she is. Then she starts making posts directly at him, so she must have given him her Tumblr. This was quite striking for me since she didn't tell me about her Tumblr for months; she felt quite private about the whole thing. \n\nSo that's where I'm at now. Am I just crazy? Feeling sick with jealousy and quite betrayed. I feel like in a month she'll be dating him and have forgotten all about me. This is hard to type.", "summary": "Girlfriend moved away to college and is being swooned by another guy.  "}
{"id": "t3_1hjzei", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] I am no longer attracted to my [22/f] girlfriend.", "post": "I've been with the same girl for three years now. We met when I was 25 and she was 19. She never really drank, and exercised fairly often.\n\nSince she turned 21 she's let herself go. Nights in with wine, or out at a bar mean extra calories and hangovers mean less morning runs.\n\nShe's put on a substantial amount of weight and I don't know how to tell her I don't find her sexually attractive any more. In the past few months I've drastically lowered how often I initiate sex.\n\nI've hinted that she should join me when I go to the gym. I now only stock my fridge with diet sodas instead of soda. I've stopped drinking with her, and any time I cook dinner I do so healthy... but she doesn't seem to get it.\n\nI love her, and I don't want to break up with her. She's still awesome to be around... It's just I am losing interest in her sexually, and that's a huge part of a relationship to me. What should I do?", "summary": "I no longer find the woman I love attractive and I don't know how to tell her..."}
{"id": "t3_3yg4de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] am having trouble convincing my parents [55 M, 54 F] to allow me to move to the midwest with my boyfriend (who will be attending medical school).", "post": "A little background:\nI have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. He has been accepted to a medical school in the Midwest and will be heading over there in June 2016. Currently we are in the west coast in our respective undergraduate and graduate programs. We will both graduate by this summer. \n\nThe issue:\nMy parents are against the idea of my moving to the midwest in the same state as my boyfriend. My parents think that I, as a future medical school applicant myself, shouldn't follow him to school. This is a double pronged problem, as my parents don't want me to be \"tied-down\" (I guess) to a small state and be making life decisions to have the flow of my life match with someone else's, someone they think I've known for only threeish months. They would much prefer that I live near where more of my family lives, in New York City.\n\nThey know how much I love New York City and how hard I've worked and am working to get into a good medical school (NYC has a good handful of medical schools). I'm disappointed that my boyfriend really doesn't have many choices in terms of schools. He also made some decisions that made my problem almost inevitable (including turning down an interview in NYC, not delaying his application).\n\nBecause he believed his parents would be angry with him for dating me during his studies, all of our parents believe that we've been dating for about 3 months now. And because he and his parents didn't believe the NYC school that gave him an interview was \"up-to-par\" he declined that interview.\n\nWell he may have dammed up his parents' wrath, but now I'm suffering mine and I have no clue what to do.\n\nLDR is not an option for us...", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have parents who want what's best for their children, but really one of us has to make a sacrifice. I'm okay with the sacrifice coming from me, but my parents aren't and now I'm becoming angry with EVERYONE!!"}
{"id": "t3_2qo48p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] just started dating a wonderful girl, [27F] and have no fucking idea what I'm doing.", "post": "I'm not well versed with how normal relationships work. My first actual girlfriend was my classmate, so we spent every minute of every minute together and things progressed from there.\n\nSecond \"girlfriend\" lasted less than a month, we had sex on our first date, and we spent the night at each other's place everday from the 3rd day onward and spent all of our free time together until we broke up.\n\nNow, I'm trying to date like I guess I'm supposed to. We've had a couple of dinners now, and we get along great. I haven't actually liked a girl like this in as far as I could remember, nonetheless one that's seemingly interested in me as well. However, neither of us have yet to use the word \"date\" and I have no idea where I'm supposed to take this. Both dinners ended with a sort of side hug.\n\nShe's an independent and very busy woman with her career in full swing, and I'm busy myself. Generally we only text each other to make plans, which is in and of itself a bit new to me. I've moved a bit quickly in past relationships it seems.\n\nI'm not a generally shy person, but don't want to overstep my bounds with her. She seems more classical than my prior dates, and would just like to get some advice on how I can move forward healthily and establish a meaningful relationship with her, as we both see fit. We are going to plan something for New Years Eve, but I honestly have no idea what. Neither of us are generally the type to really go out and party hard.", "summary": "Need some help on how to move slowly and establish a healthy adult relationship, something I have no experience in."}
{"id": "t3_jv54e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why should I, have to lift...", "post": "...the toilet seat up AND down for ladies?!?!? this is bull shit and it always pisses me off (puns intended). why should i have to lift the toilet seat up to then piss and then put it back down?? ladies if you want one or the other that is fine, but not both. if the seat is down when i go in to piss, sure, i will lift it up so my urine doesn't end up on the seat, but that is as far as i will go for common courtesy. i will then flush and walk out. if i have to lift the seat, you should be able to have enough common sense to look where your ass is sitting before \"falling into the bowl\". remember, there is no piss on the seat, i lifted it up already... so you can touch it and put it down... Men = lift seats; Women = lower seats. Everyone wins and shares the responsibility 50%-50%, you wanted equal rights, right???. Have a nice day. r/rant", "summary": "Men = lift toilet seats up; Women = put toilet seats down, thank you!!!"}
{"id": "t3_2qj3dz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Not respected or trusted at work for no obvious reason. How can I be more valuable to the department and avoid losing my job?", "post": "I've been at my job for a year in a small department, where I handle conference planning and admin work.  I'm good at what I do but still my bosses have been taking away my responsibilities, like outsourcing them to other (less competent) people in the office or just doing it themselves or behind my back. Meanwhile, they're giving me more stupid work, like photocopying pages from books and making charts, *things an intern should be doing*.\n\nIt's not like I don't work hard or do a good job. I do. I take initiative, I make good decisions most of the time. I'm not a very friendly, open person, but I've been working on that and it hasn't made a huge difference. Also we've onboarded an intern in the last couple months, and she's now given way more privileges than me, like sitting in on meetings and getting the \"insider\" department stuff that I don't get. And it also sucks because my bosses still go to the girl who had the job before me but for like a fraction of the time (she still works at the company) for things, like instead of trusting ME and MY judgement, they go to her, when I've already been working there for twice as long as she has. I also feel like when I screw up, it's twice as bad as others. Like for example, my bosses caught me on my phone a couple of times, I got in huge trouble for it, when in reality, that's something *everyone* in the office does.\n\nThe truth is, I'm a really competent, smart, tasteful person who makes good decisions and has done a lot for the department. So I don't really get, and nor do any of my friends, why I'm being so used and abused in this position.\nI really don't know what to do and how to make more of an impact in the department, and  how I can keep and gain more responsibility and add value. Can anyone give suggestions on what to do?", "summary": "Job of 1 year I've lost responsibilities all the while seeing our intern become more valued than I. How can I make a comeback and gain the respect I deserve/add value to the department?"}
{"id": "t3_2vi0nc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are these sorts of things okay in a relationship?", "post": "My best friend[17F] is having \"problems\" with her boyfriend[17M]. The main reason I'm asking this is because he does horrible things and causes her to be a wreck 75% of the time, but she doesn't see it.\n\nSome of these include:\n\n*Calling her overdramatic and bitchy\n\n*Telling her best girl friend he's attracted to her\n\n*Ignoring her goodnight texts and being short with her\n\n*Pressuring her to have sex before marriage even though she stated she wanted to wait\n\n*Agreeing to take her to the school dance then canceling because he \"doesn't want to\"\n\nThese are just a few of the things that go on. I try to tell her that I don't think they are okay and she should end it, but she just says it's normal and perfectly okay. Am I being too harsh? Are these things okay? I haven't been in a serious relationship so I don't know....", "summary": "Boyfriend should be a better boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2fsr27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my gf [22F] duration 8 months, how do I get her trust and love back?", "post": "Basically I've been with her for a longer time, 5 years ish but 8 months since we got back) we both cheated on each other at some point (different times, her 3 years ago and me 1y ago), ,when she did it it was because I started having stress issues and mistreated her for some time until she did it. Time passed and I really changed that so we got back several months later (we both had a relation with others in that time).\nIn my case it was because we were LD and became distant because she was having trouble getting over the abuse she suffered with her ex.\n\nWe got back again months later, we both had changed a lot, specially her, a more mature person, finally realized all the wrong things she did in the past and she just felt more serious and changed.\n\nThing is, she has this group of gaming friends, but she talks more often with one in particular, chatting and stuff, but despite that, we were doing great!, and she told me there was nothing between them and there were no signs of it beside my paranoia caused by past experiences, except she told me that in order to get more serious and become more official like we were before, she had to trust me again fully, and I kind of needed to make her open herself again.\n\nSince my insecurity is basically ruinning our own relationship, we got into an argument where she confessed how annoying that was for her (wich is my fault because I bring up past issues often and seems bitchy and jealousy of me), and that it was a huge turn off for her and that it was the reason she spent more time with them now rather than me, it's like I dried part of her feelings for me with my stuff.\n\nSo I wonder:\n\nWhat can I do (aside from stop poking her with my bs) to get her and her feelings back? She says she's with me because she hopes I can change that, and I know i can, but that I ruined part of her feelings with my bs and I want to fix that somehow :(\n\nI hope that at least part of this makes sense, I'm sad and tired and can't think straight...", "summary": "my insecurities are ruinning relationship with gf, how can I get her to trust and love/want me again?"}
{"id": "t3_1m85m2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So, how do I (F/25) ask out a guy?", "post": "I've always been in LTRs where the guy made the traditional first move. I have no idea how to date and have been single for about 2.5 years now. I'm very picky when it comes to guys, and rarely meet guys I'm instantly attracted to. Usually, I get on well with guys, but it's more about the personality, so they end up becoming close friends. Never have I even considered asking out a guy before. \n\nThis past weekend, I went to the mall and one of the employees caught my eye. And I know it sounds crazy, but there was a some sort of connection there. We didn't talk much (simple hi, he laughed at my awkwardness and I tried being a bit more talkative than I normally am). He seemed to want to start a conversation, but I was with a friend. Normally, my friend gets most of the attention from others because she's more social and I'm very shy. \n\nI really want to go back and get his name, maybe give him my number, but I'm not sure how to do this. I don't want to come across as weird. I'd need to play it cool, but if he has a girlfriend or if he just isn't interested, I wouldn't know what to say. Should I go for it? What do I say? Am I crazy for wanting to ask him out? (because I don't know him at all) : Help?", "summary": "how to ask out cute guy working at the mall. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ue8xt", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[Update] A year after losing weight, I got abdominoplastia", "post": "Hi!\n\n I'm back, after almost a year. Here is the story I posted last time: \n\nA year ago I had lost 54 lbs. I felt healthy and better than I had in years. But losing a lot of weight tends to leave some loose skin for some people, including me.\n\nI started to feel very discouraged because of all the hanging skin in my abdominal area. Not only did it look awful, but it was also very painful. There was nothing I could have done or worn to make the pain less intense.\n\nI decided to go and talk to my doctor, to see if there was anything to be done about my loose skin. Thankfully, since I live in Finland, my doctor gave me the chance to undergo surgery (abdominoplastia) to get rid of it. I am very thankful for Finnish public healthcare; I don't know if I could have lived happily with all that skin. I weighed 168 lbs when I went into surgery, today I weigh 154 lbs.\n\nHere are some pictures. Note that I am not a very good computer user, and don't know how to tag photos that are NSFW or something of the sort. There is one picture in this album that is taken right after surgery that might not be good for everyone to look at. \n\nHere are the same pictures without the one right after surgery:\n\nThe picture of me in front of a mirror was taken 25 days post-op. Still a little sore and slightly swollen from the surgery, but I'm really happy about the results.\n\nI wanted to add the last picture, because I got to participate in a show called 'Bad mother'. It is a Finnish talk show, that uses humor to critisize our way of seeing motherhood. They wanted to use my story as an inspiration for other people who want to lose weight, but don't think they can do it. This was my way of telling people that if they want something enough and are willing to work for it, they will meet their goals.\n\nI also wanted to thank all of you for your nice comments last time. They really made me happy.", "summary": "Lost weight, had loose skin, got abdominoplastia. Now I'm happy :)"}
{"id": "t3_35kkn5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/f]married to (27/m), have feelings for [25/m]", "post": "PART ONE - So I'm secretly married to the father of my child. We've been married for almost 3 years(together for five). We spent maybe a year and a half seperated. It's not the healthiest relationship,  he is emotionally abusive, and we are both stuck in some very toxic patterns. \nI've been wanting to leave for about a year. I even flew to a different state, and started living in my home town with our daughter. So we have been living together again for about a year. We fight constantly,  we don't have great conversations or great chemistry,  or very many common interests.  Even little things turn in to big fights, and life just isn't easy. The only thing we have in common is that we adore our daughter. When we are playing with her we get along. I don't love him. If I even know what (romantic)love is. \n\nI've told him \" I don't want to be with you\", \"I don't want to do this for the rest of my life.\" \" learn to respect me or we should get divorved\". He acts like he doesn't believe me. I'm not saying them as threats, just trying to say how I feel. \n PART - 2 I'm emotionally disconnected from my husband, So my heart has been open to other people. I've been talking a lot to this guy at work. I really like him. He is kind to me and we have a lot in common, same communication styles and similar values. If I weren't married I would definitely pursue a relationship with this man. My husband knows about him and about my feelings for him, and he knows that I almost left for him because we almost broke up. I am not sure what to do. I don't know how to make a divorce happen or if I should. I know that I don't want a loveless marriage but to be honest, my feelings are not always top priority. I don't know how to move forward from this situation.", "summary": "emotionally disconnected from verbally abusive husband, have 3 yr old. In love with someone else. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2olc2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20/M) and my girlfriend (21/M) have disagreements on swapping partners", "post": "So I met this girl about six months ago. It's my first relationship and I as such I value it a lot. When we first started dating I knew about her willingness to experiment with her sexuality. I'm a very well season drug user so I'm familiar with wanting to experiment with pleasure but some of the things she talked about, like having group sex or sharing each other with other people did bother me.  As open minded as I've been, nothing really prepared me for the situation that came up last night.\n\nEver since I quit using heavy drugs I've found more socially acceptable ways to get intoxicated. Getting drunk at social events is not looked down upon and does the job so I'm lucky my SO enjoys drinking as well. We got really drunk a local bar when she started talking to a group of men. I joined in on the conversation but as the night went on I realized we were both very drunk. She kept leaning on the men and I kept losing my coordination but I guess her movements were more intentional. By the end of the night she suggested we go to bed with random strangers and when I insisted I wasn't comfortable with the idea she left with them only to contact me in the morning to say I can't feel bad about it since I know it's part of who she is. What should I do?", "summary": "Partner of six months wants to sleep with other people while being in a relationship with me and I disagree"}
{"id": "t3_2v84ua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] am having trouble with my BF [28M] of 9 months being in contact with his exes", "post": "I am not normally a jealous person, in my last relationship my ex never brought up or had any contact with exes so I've never had to deal with this before. \n\nMy current bf seems to be in contact with all his exes, maybe not constant contact but on good enough terms with them that he will send them messages or vise versa once and a while seeing how they are doing.  I have no doubt in my mind that our relationship is stable and that he is happy. I am just having a hard time understanding the point of needing to keep in this sporadic contact with them. He can be a flirty person and I know that his messages can sometimes come across flirty. \n\nThe rational side of me says it's no big deal, if I think back to high school exes there'd be no feelings whatsoever if I was to contact them. The other side thinks of my most recent ex where there could still lingering feelings and to contact him would be playing with fire and I think that side is where this insecurity is coming from by putting that situation on what he is doing. \n\nI understand the silliness and irrationality of this, but I haven't been able to get it under control and get over it. I haven't talked to him about it because I don't really feel it is my place to tell him who he can and can't talk to. Any helpful advice to help me work this out would be great. Thanks", "summary": "Bf talks to exes, my ovaries turn green. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_3wqqur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19f] with my boyfriend [19m] of two years, how do I go about a break the 'right' way?", "post": "So, a little backstory- \nmy boyfriend and I met about five years ago.  We were acquaintances for a while, then best friends, then started dating about two years ago.  In short, I love him.  I would never want to hurt him, I love the time we spend together, he is my favourite person.  \n\nHowever, because we have been together for two really pivotal years of my/our growing up process, I'm having a really hard time separating me from him.  I feel like so much of my identity is tied to him, and that's honestly starting to make me nervous. I've been in a codependent relationship before, and this is nothing like that.  I just think it is a matter of the timing of it all that's making me feel like this.  \n\nIt's not that I want to break up with him.  I just feel like I need to know who I am as a person without him for a little.  I want to push myself outside of my comfort zone, I want to depend on myself for things and not him.  I don't want to lose him.  I don't think going on a break is a bad option as long as we do it the right way...I just don't really know what that entails.  I know I don't just want to go on break to fuck around or to have an excuse to do dumb shit, I just want to find myself a little, as cliche as that is.  So I feel like there should be rules to it all - is that fair?  I also have no idea how long is long enough, or how to even really bring this up without hurting him.", "summary": "i want to go on a break.  is it fair to put rules in place?  how long is too long/too short? and how do i even talk about it in the first place?"}
{"id": "t3_2x3c7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(23F) trying to make my boyfriend (27M) understand that gaming should be secondary over sex", "post": "Hi all, I am (23F) been dating my boyfriend (27M) for 3 years but I feel very left out at times. He loves gaming i.e. DOTA, Ingress, huge Redditor (moderates a sub-reddit) and loves cricket. I love playing Ingress with me and I enjoy watching sports with him.\n\nBoth of us coming from conservative Asian families , only get to make out or make love in secret. On Sundays, we can do it my place because my parents go to church (I am Christian, he's an atheist and I don't care about his lack of religion). It's World Cup season for cricket and as a result he at times, forgets about us. 6/10 times, he would give more priority for gaming than he does towards me. I have a high libido and he's on the low end but with constant communication, we try and make time for each other.\nI feel very upset and hurt most of the time when he chooses gaming or sports over me. What do I do? I don't want to break up with him because I love him but I plan to move abroad in a couple of months and we will embark on a long distance relationship for a couple of years. I hate reminding him that today we promised to make time to have a full blown makeout session or have sex.", "summary": "How do I make him understand that gaming or watching sports shouldn't be a bigger priority over me?"}
{"id": "t3_3thsbl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] of ~5 years, where to spend Thanksgiving?", "post": "I've been dating my gf on and off for 5 years, and I've only gone to her family holiday once - Christmas, last year. My immediate family would be dad, mom, brother, and grandfather. These are the only people that I consider family, as my uncles side of the family has done some questionable things, and we've cut contact with them. Grandma passed away a few years ago, so its only grandpa. \n\nRecently my family has had a bit of a fall out, and my mother and father don't speak anymore. Because of this, we were planning not to do a thanksgiving, and just go hangout at a ski resort or something. That fell through when grandpa said he bought a huge turkey for us(brother, mom, grandpa, me). I'm obviously strongly connected to my family, and want to spend the holiday with them. However, my girlfriend invited me to her family and is now angry with me that I've only spent one holiday with her family(arguably the biggest in my household) - Christmas. \n\nI've explained to her that my family has fallen apart, and my mom asked me to stay for this Thanksgiving at home. Mom has even said it's not worth cooking if you aren't here, as it'll only be 3 people. \n\nIn a sense, I feel I'm perfectly justified for staying at home with mom, brother, gramps and I cause thats the only family I have now. She on the other hand is angry I won't be going with her to her families Thanksgiving. \n\nCan someone from the outside tell me what I'm missing? I feel pretty pissed that she can't comprehend what's going on in my house and how its affecting me. The only thing she tells me is \"its between your parents and you should stay out of it and do as you want\". But when I say I want to stay home, it's the start of WW3.", "summary": "Am I wrong for wanting to stay with my family for Thanksgiving?"}
{"id": "t3_r7msm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Questions about my recent breakup", "post": "Throwaway account as a lot of people I know are on reddit.\n\nM(30) was just broken up with by F(40) over almost a year of a serious relationship.\n\nI guess the hardest thing I'm coming to grips with is the fact that only two days ago, she was calling me the love of her life and saying how we were meant to be.  I do see that before we started falling for each other, she was not interested in a serious relationship.  I understand that we both fell and things were being viewed through rose coloured glasses... Now those glasses are off and guess what, she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship.\n\nI feel like i've already gone through the denial phase as when I she sent me the email saying she did not want a serious relationship, it did not bother me as much as I figured it would.  This is because it seems like shes been trying to do this for a while and because we work together, things just continued and we thought would get back right.\n\nYesterday I got the email, I was a little angry and just said fine..  I've been feeling really bad because I honestly love this girl and she loved me.  It just seems though, that it was not meant to be.  I want a serious relationship, and shes just wanting that at all.  She cannot give me what I need at this time, and I understand that.  The biggest thing I'm torn up over though is the fact that the last year, we've done almost everything fun together... So i'm losing a good friend as well as my love.\n\nI realise time will heal, and I think I'm at least past the denial and anger stage... Just wanting to vent a little I guess.  Any comments would be great.\n\nAlso, A girl that I met before my ex txtd me today wanting to hang out.  Obviously I'm in no condition to date another person right now.. But it made me feel 100 times better.  I guess its just made me feel good because I realise that there are more fish out there. \n\nAny advice on what to do since we work with each other?", "summary": "gf broke up with me, we work together.. saw it coming."}
{"id": "t3_i9ifj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's have a discussion.", "post": "DISCLAIMER: I did not research my facts or opinions before typing this. I did not verify any piece of (useless?) information that I'm about to present to you. If you feel the need to correct me, or provide your own insight, I'm all ears.\n\nSo basically, let's say 2012 really DOES happen, okay, exactly the way the Mayans predicted it.\n\nSo I'm not saying the way the Bible predicts it, with the rapture.\n\nIf you didn't know, the Mayans predicted the Earth basically going crazy on itself, with a bunch of natural disasters happening everywhere, and these disasters would be so severe (like the tsunami that recently happened in Japan, earthquake in Haiti, etc.) that the entire human race would be wiped out.\n\nOkay, so that's said and done in 2012.\n\nNow, if we were speaking on a scientific thought process, it would be understood that the Earth (in this sense) was created by the Big Bang, and that cells and bacteria slowly started forming, thus creating life, etc, etc.\n\nIf 2012 happened, and the entire Earth was in shambles, wouldn't the Earth just slowly and gradually adapt to the environment, and create new life suitable for the conditions? It's been happening for thousands of years, so I don't see why not, right?\n\nSo let's hear your thoughts... Discussion, go.", "summary": "2012 happens, history repeats itself and life is recreated on Earth."}
{"id": "t3_f13d2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it normal to not want a relationship?", "post": "Not a troll - I promise. I keep getting myself into almost relationships by being friendly with girls and then just naturally responding to their advances, and then all I want is out, but I don't know when to cut it off. I like not thinking about significant others - being single. I don't need sex. I feel comfortable always being in large companies or alone, not this weird 1 on 1 relationship thing. Right now a very pretty girl is after me, we make out for like an hour, well, I don't want to make her sad so I do it too. Then I suffer the worst pain of blue balls ever which makes me almost pass out while holding back the screaming when I get home. Now she wants to come over and watch a movie. I learned what that really means after I got pissed off at my last girl of not watching my favorite movie - it's hard to do when you're facing me. Or do I owe it to myself to experience a real relationship and see if it works for me? How far do I go into this faking? How unfair is it for me to drag her along for this test? I'm definitely not gay, I like the sex seeing boobs flying around part sometimes when I'm drunk, but I find it simpler to just jerk off once in a while. I feel like I wrote the stupidest sentences put together by a person ever.", "summary": "I am an immature idiot who doesn't know what he wants. help or lol."}
{"id": "t3_1jfjlz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't let go of someone I can't be with,it's driving me insane.", "post": "So,I (20F) met him (25M) few weeks ago while he was visting my hometown. We met in a club,danced a bit and then left and spent the rest of the night talking to each other until dawn. He gave me his phone number and his e-mail address and told me to contact him if I want so I did.\n\nI texted him a day after that and he asked me if I was willing to show him around town and help him find presents for his family. We spent the entire day together walking around the city and later that same day, we met again to go out and have fun. This was our last night together because he had to leave back to France next morning...after he left we talked to each other every day via email in which he wrote that he misses me and how he wants to be here.\n\nThe thing is that we get along very well and are very comfortable with each other. We were together for 3 days and had a lot of fun and gotten to know each other as much as you can get to know someone in 3 days...I miss him a lot,I met many people after he went back but no one seems to be interesting and I'm not attracted to anyone else at all. I know it's a long shot and that I shouldn't waste my time on something that it's not going to happen but I really can't get him out of my mind. I really do understand that it was just some kind of summer thing but we connected very fast and now I can't stop thinking about it. If someone has a similar story please share and tell me what happened and how did you take it?", "summary": "I really like a guy I met while he was visiting my hometown, he's a very busy person and I'll hardly see him so soon again. How do I make it easier for myself to let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_4y4qmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 M] tell my girlfriend [20 F] of 9 months, that I have cancer?", "post": "Made a throwaway, obviously.\n\nI was diagnosed with thyroid cancer this past Monday, the 15th. I scheduled my surgery for the 23rd because the endocrinologist didn't want it to spread anywhere else.\n\nIt is extremely survivable, the doctor told me I only need a partial lobectomy to get rid of it and a biopsy of lymph nodes showed there was no cancer in them. So chances are like 99.5% that I will be fine.\n\nThing is, I am super scared of telling my girlfriend. This news will absolutely crush her and I hate making her sad. She is starting her junior year of college next week and I don't want to mess up what should be a happy time for her.\n\nI even took her to dinner and for ice cream to try and give myself a chance to just say it, but I can't. She knows something is up because I tried to tell her and it was like my tongue was tied.\n\nI thought about lying and saying I need a surgery to repair a vocal cord or something, but I could never actually lie about something this serious, just in case. I also thought about saying it over the phone, but I couldn't do that either. Especially since I know she will cry.\n\nI feel more horrible that she has to deal with this than me actually having the surgery and it is giving me severe anxiety. I don't know what to do and I would appreciate help from someone.", "summary": "How do I tell my SO that I have a form of very treatable cancer without her freaking out?"}
{"id": "t3_25ho02", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help! I'm starting to hate all food, doctors aren't helping. Do I have a food disorder?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI've always been a picky eater - I've hated peppers since the day I first tasted them, I hate most greens, unless in a nice salad, I hate all fish and seafood, unless in a nice sushi or fillet/steak, BUT I've always enjoyed a well-cooked meal.\n\nI love good food. Well-prepared food. I myself rarely cook, because I mostly hate my own food. I know it sounds really spoiled, but it wasn't always like this and it's been getting worse and worse. Right now I'm mostly eating SOMETHING, because I have to eat and 99% of the time I don't enjoy eating it at all.\n\nI used to love meat, I used to say things like 'I can survive on steak every day'. Now I can't look at most meat-only dishes, even in restaurants. I only eat meat when it's mixed with something else in either a meal or a sandwich. I also started hating all sandwiches... everything, really. \n\nI don't know what to do, when I went to the doctor he just told me to try and eat more food that I like. He didn't seem to comprehend that I'm slowly DISLIKING the food I used to like. Another doctor told me I'm depressed and prescribed me pills, but I highly doubt that's the case. I'd know if I'm depressed, right? I'm in a pretty good position right now in my life - I have no reason to be depressed.\n\nSo.. I'm out of options. I don't know how to fix this. I want to be able to enjoy my meal again, but I just can't. :(\n\nI moved to the UK 5 years ago. It was very hard to adjust to the food here, as everything tastes different. Back, where I come from most people have their own veggie/fruit gardens and chicken/pigs and 99% of the food is super fresh (literally just killed/picked). You'd think that for 5 years I'd get used to the food here though...", "summary": "developing a hate towards food I used to like, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1xkasf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my exboyfriend [24M] 6months - dumped for drugs", "post": "I can't believe I am doing this but I am really in a difficult place right now. I dated my ex for six months. Please don't judge the age difference. We started hanging out as friends. He asked me on a date and we both assumed it would be \"just sex\". But we really hit it off. It had been 7 years since I met someone with whom I enjoyed spending so much time with. It was wonderful. He was like a Disney prince. And I fell in love; big time. I should have known it was too good to be true.\n\nHe had planned on joining the military and was drug-free because of that. Three months in, that plan changed. Within two months he was a full blown addict; unable to even go a few hours without smoking weed and drinking excessively (and he's diabetic so that's just great). He quit his job and hasn't been trying to find a new one. His family supports him financially. We broke up because I do not want this in my life and he can't tolerate our difference in \"values\".\n\nJust walk away right? \"He's just a kid,\" my friends say, \"He'll realize what he gave up\". But that's not it. I feel an overwhelming sense of responsibility because I am the only person who knows how bad his situation is and how quickly he spiraled down this rabbit hole. As bad as I know it is, I fear it may be even worse (ie: other drugs).\n\nFor three months, this guy made my life wonderful and I know the potential he has. I also know about the mental and physical health issues that he is ignoring while self medicating with drugs and alcohol. I had to cut ties with him. We hang out in the same circle of friends and I have ceased going out because it hurts too much to see him like this. But I am really worried about him, regardless if we are dating or not. Thoughts?", "summary": "Ex is self destructing. Seriously concerned but what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2a66qv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] & my [28 M] >10 year SO, How do I break this off without ruining his life?", "post": "We've been together for > 10 years now. I still enjoy being around him, but I just can't take this relationship anymore. He never thinks about my feelings at all (Most recent case in point: He didn't get me anything for my birthday. This is not the first time this has happened, and I've tried talking with him about it many times.)\n\nBut here's where it gets complicated: He's completely dependant on me financially and emotionally (yes, I've talked to him about this many times as well). \n\nI'm afraid that if I end this it will ruin his life. \n\nAnd on top of it all I still love the dude as a friend and I don't want to lose his friendship or put him through hell. But I just can't take this anymore.\n\nIdeas?", "summary": "How do I break this off without destroying his life?"}
{"id": "t3_30ayhl", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I[18M] cannot speak to my love interest,best friend[16F]anymore what should i do?", "post": "So there is this girl that i met,we met on tinder 3 months ago and we've been together for 2 months and a half,we broke up almost a month ago but she wanted to stay best friends\n\nAt first i couldn't take the emotions in fact i even wanted to take my life but i didn't,we used to text eachother all the time like when something happened to her i was the first to know and likewise,even after the breakup it stayed like that.\n\nThis girl used to have a psychiatrist and was the worst experience of her life she said,now on monday she came home from school and her parents forbade her to talk to me because our friendship was going to lead to nowhere and that me and her have too many problems and that if she did not stop she would bring her back to the psychiatrist.\n\nHer mother thinks i'm one of those freaks from online dating that will kidnap her daughter and rape her even if we already met.\n\nIt's been 2 days since this happened and i miss her terribly,i want to know how she's doing how her day's been i want to talk about stuff to her..i don't really know what to do.", "summary": "Can't speak to my Ex girlfriend/Bestfriend anymore because of her parents but i miss her so much,what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dl9mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice in how to deal with realtionshil lows. (F22,M22)", "post": "I have been dating my bf for a little over 10 months . Ups and downs like any normal relationship but I don't know how to help him when things go down . I try to talk which he isn't able to do a lot of the time if it's a serious issue. I try to always be the bigger person and help him even if I'm hurt or upset by the situation but it goes unnoticed and doesn't seem to help. He is sensitive to a lot of things and I am a very blunt person . I've tried being more sensitive but insecurities seem to make anything I say an issue. I guess the question is how can I be a better girlfriend? Has anyone ever been in this situation? Is it just a guy thing? Help!!", "summary": "boyfriend has problems dealing with emotions I get hurt by this how can I help improve our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2o5wfr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By climbing a rocky wall at a beach boat-loading section.", "post": "Background story\nSo this happened a few years ago sorry, but I went to a seaside in flamborough. (A seaside in England.) I went with my other half of my family. I was about 10-11 at the time so I had much less than the little common sense I have now.\n\nThe actual story\nSo were at the beach and were having loads of fun and as I rummaged around the beach I found a fossil like thing, My brother with the little amount of interest he had then was making fun of my awesome palaeontology skills. He continued to say \"Why don't you do something more fun.\" I said there is nothing to do and he said \"Lets climb that wall.\" Bearing in mind I have a very mild case of cerebral palsy yup that's right.\nHe rushes to the rocky wall fast and scales it like a monster. This is the fuck up moment. I challenged him I could get up fast due to my superior upper body strength. My dad constantly saying don't do it you will hurt yourself. I ignored him and beat my brother. My brother now said who's fastest to get down, and he started blasting down the rocks. I saw a boat loading wooden hill and I though I will slide down NOT A GOOD FUCKING IDEA AT ALL! I grabbed onto a piece of wood and slipped I was literally being held from falling and killing myself by 20 year old wood. I was screaming help, help and my brothers and my dad were just staring at me laughing. due to my weight gain I couldn't really hold on any more my brother came back up the rocks and reached out to try and help me. I let go grabbed his hand and the wood broke. I slide down banging my pre-pubescent nuts on each wood ledge there was. I got to the bottom pretty much dying and all my dad could think about was how I wasn't allowed in his car because I was that muddy.", "summary": "I climbed rocks tried to get down the quickest route became muddy made to strip before I could get in a car."}
{"id": "t3_3ni26s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16m) punched my dad (57m) and he threw me out of the house.", "post": "Well fuck. This happened a few hours ago. Some background: my parents and I used to live in an upper class neighborhood, and I was mostly raised by my mother, who raised me as a polite, non-violent kid. These past few months I've had some trouble with the law (note that I'm 16). Two months ago, I caught one of my parents cheating, and decided to tell the other, hence, I was the reason of the divorce. My dad, in the meantime, got a new girlfriend. And decided to sell our old house without telling me. And this morning decided to start hitting me after I ignored him multiple times. Here's the fuck up: when he starts pushing me and screaming at me, I impulsively punch him as hard as I can in the face. And another time. He looks at me surprised and I run out of the house.\nNow I'm at my mom's house which is like 50 minutes away and idk what to do (I have to live with my dad, because we have dogs that he doesn't give a shit about and my school's closer). What do I do now?", "summary": "punched my dad after he started pushing me around and failing to keep promises after divorce."}
{"id": "t3_44zzxr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21F] BF[23M] of two years is unsure about a future together.", "post": "We've had a pretty rocky relationship. He is unsure about a future together due to our different lifestyles. I'm very materialistic, he is not. He does not want and cannot afford to support my lifestyle. My parents give me thousands of dollars a month to spend, pay for my brand new car ($50k car/bought me two of them in the past two years, because I screwed up the first one), gas and insurance. My BF on the contrary believes in being independent, he wants to be able to support himself, and not depend on his parents. He is very smart financially. He just started his first job, makes 60K$ a year. He still lives with his parents, and has no bills to pay (besides student loans). Anyways, fast forward to now, I only get to see him twice a week (I used to see him 5 or 6 days a week), and he knows we have different lifestyle wants. We agreed to have a casual relationship, but it really does hurt knowing there's an expiry date. I have no idea what to do. We've been through a lot together, I've wronged him a lot, but he always made it work with me. This may sound petty, but he started putting his WhatsApp status/last seen/read tags private, so I can't see when he was last online or read my message. I think it's because he's talking to another girl, he says that's untrue, and he wouldn't cheat. He says he did that because I always got angry if he read my message and couldn't reply right away. No idea why he did it all of a sudden though. Seems fishy, my friends say this guy is crazy about me and I'm overreacting. Thank you for reading this mess, I've had very high levels of anxiety lately, and this is making me crazy before my midterms. I decided to post here because all my friends are tired of listening to this. They think I'm paranoid and I have no reason to distrust him. I've lashed out and exploded on him a billion times the past week, but he has been nothing but supportive, and he says he is trying to understand that this is difficult for me too.", "summary": "BF started new job, I'm adjusting to seeing him 2X a week, rather than 5-6X. He says he is unsure about a future together due to different lifestyles, therefore, we agreed to have a casual relationship. I don't know what to do. I'm kind of sad."}
{"id": "t3_noebh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did I handle this situation with my friend poorly?", "post": "So my friend is 24, and he tends to like the \"younger girls\". He often jokes about jailbait etc. I don't find this all that alarming, but it does make me a little uncomfortable when he comments on the looks of especially younger girls (14-16 range). So fast forward a bit and he is introduced to my fiance's cousin who is 18. Being a typical 18 year old girl she gets all giddy about him and somehow gets his number. They start texting, and then my friend asks my fiance directly what she would do if he persued a member of her family. Her response, very plainly: \"I would murder you.\" So fast forward a bit more, and my friend is still texting this girl A LOT. She begins contacting me, asking me if he is a good guy. Now is a good point in the story to mention that she lives a good 14 hours away from us, so while the situation is not preferable, it's still nothing I'm concerned about. I basically tell her that as an adult she can make any decision she wants, but she should understand that both me and my fiance don't approve of her getting involved with my friend, and that there would probably be backlash if she did. So me and my fiance at this point are concerned and to be honest, we should have been more vocal to my friend about it. I just honestly didn't think he would do anything to jeapordize our friendship. But I come to find he drove the 14 hour trip just to see her without telling us. And now things are just blowing up faster than any of us could have forseen. Once we found out about this trip we pretty much just stopped talking to both of them completely. Of course this pushed them closer together to the point that now she is MOVING HERE TO LIVE WITH HIM.\n\nShould I have just been happy for him, or am I justified to be pissed that he would do something like this.", "summary": "24yo friend is banging my fiance's 18 year old cousin even though she expressed how it would bother her. Now they are planning to live together after 2 months of \"talking\"."}
{"id": "t3_3ddxp3", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Should I invite FMIL?", "post": "As the title states, I need opinions on whether or not I should invite my FMIL.... \n\nFH and I picked our venue a while ago. We did our tasting, and we brought my sister (also my MOH), and FMIL. \n\nSince my mom and two best friends have not seen the venue (and BFF's will be helping to make decorations), I planned a night with the venue that I can bring my mom, two BFF's and sister to check out the venue. \n\nShould I also invite FMIL? She lives about 5 minutes away from the venue, and her and my mom haven't met yet. I wanted to have them meet on Mother's Day this year by taking them out for brunch with FH, but he kind of dropped the ball on getting her schedule to me in time to book anything. \n\nI feel this wouldn't be the best circumstances for them to meet under, I would like for it to be nicer, but I also feel like it's important for them to meet!", "summary": "should I invite my FMIL to come check out the venue with my mom, sister, and 2 BFF's eve though her & my mom haven't met yet?"}
{"id": "t3_ss9jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We've been together for a long time, and his attraction to me has faded.", "post": "I'm 36F and he is 35M. Our 17th anniversary is next week. So, yeah, we've been together for a very long time; married for almost half my life. I love my husband, I always have. Emotionally and mentally, things are perfect between us, but he's admitted he isn't as attracted to me physically anymore.\n\nIn the past, it was impossible to keep him off of me (not that I'd want that :p), but now that's changed. It could just be a lower libido with age, but I don't think so. We have sex maybe once a week when I'd like it 5+ times. He never orgasms during sex and doesn't let me go down on him anymore. \n\nI feel really superficial about this, but I noticed his change in compliments, too. He stopped calling me \"beautiful\", \"pretty\", or \"sexy\". We had a talk about it and he basically said that he loved me, but he just isn't attracted to me anymore. I'm crushed.\n\nI have no idea what to do. I don't think I'm unattractive. I looked better 15 years ago than I do now, but I haven't put on any weight or anything. I've been going to the gym at least 3 times a week for many years (upping it to 5 now). I take care of my appearance.\n\nI've tried everything to change for him: dying my hair/getting it cut differently, lingerie, makeup, everything. But he's still not attracted to me. I've considered a boob job, but I hate hospitals and don't know if it'd help.\n\nWhat am I supposed to do? This is the worst feeling in the world. I wish I was attractive as some model on TV or his secretary, but I'm not.", "summary": "My husband isn't attracted to me anymore. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1j81bv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[30/F] with my husband [32M] Am I crazy? Should husband be able to clean the house?", "post": "I work 40 hrs a week and my husband has not been able to hold down a steady job since we got married. He is taking medicine for being slightly manic and he has ADHD so I kind of always wrote off his laziness as being a symptom of some of these issues. I told him that if he didn't have a job he would have to consider housework his job. Every weekend rolls around and I end up being severely pissed off that I have to clean things on my days off because he ignores things such as pulling out the trash can to clean behind it, dusting or washing out the waffle maker before putting it away. Am I crazy to think that he should be able to clean things effectively without my oversight since this is technically his job? Or are some men just unable to see things in the same way women see things when it comes to cleaning? I am at my fucking wits end with this and it causes so many volatile situations.", "summary": "Husband has no job, sucks at cleaning. What do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_4b1bfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [25F] write a thank you/sympathy card to my friend's [19F] parents [50sM/F]?", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief. One of my roommates moved out and a friend of mine (more like a friend of a friend maybe, we were just getting to know each other) offered to take over her portion of the lease. It was almost signed and sealed when my friend's younger sister unexpectedly passed away. Due to her loss and some ongoing health issues, my friend decided to move back home to a town several hours away. However, since I was left to cover the third room's rent from March, her parents felt bad and offered to cover half of it.\n\nObviously I am going to write and thank them for their generosity in such a difficult time. The problem is I'm not quite sure what to say. I have never met them and I never met their late daughter; actually, I don't even know her name. I'm very bad at phrasing delicate things appropriately. I often forget important things or say things that I find innocuous but others find awkward or offensive. So I would really appreciate some help figuring this out.", "summary": "Friend decided not to move in due to sister dying, leaving me to pay an extra month's rent, so her parents offered to cover half. What do I say in the thank you card?"}
{"id": "t3_grdda", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I moved to China with only $1000 and I am looking for a job.  Is there anyone that might be able to help??", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI haven't been using the site for a very long time, so I don't know how to do all the links and stuff (I want to put an image of my Resume, but I don't know how to do that - help?)\n\nI was living in Michigan and grew tired of the lifestyle that I had accumulated there, so I made the decision to move to Beijing China.  I have been here before, (for about a year, but it was for a different purpose), so I know some of the city pretty well, but now I sorta took a leap of faith with all the money I had (about $1000 after airfare cost), and now am looking diligently for a job. (arrived 3 weeks ago).\n\nPeople tell me that I should do English teaching, but from what I've seen so far (and have done the last time), it's very difficult to make any sort of living off of that and is very unsecured type of work.  I have A bachelor Degree and some experience with sales and advertising.  \n\nI guess I am looking for some advice or possibly anyone who thinks they can help.  Not looking for hand-outs, but just in general I find the Reddit community to be wonderful and I have (for the short time being part of reddit), always found the advice to be great.\n\nI also can speak some Chinese, Intermediate level - fairly good but just not fluent.", "summary": "Moved to China with $1000 and looking for advice/help toward finding a good job, generally something that has a future career."}
{"id": "t3_2r8ew0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I (20M) possibly get my ex (20F) back?", "post": "Me and my ex broke up a while back and we had no communication for a while. She texted me to wish me a happy thanksgiving and we resumed talking. I was so mad that I did not care about our initial break up but after reuniting I realized how much I missed and loved her. \n\nShe recently ended things because she wants to \"work on herself.\" I've been very depressed and needy recently. I want her back but I know she does not want me. Should I move on? Or should I try again? I need specific advice here.", "summary": "How can I convince her to be with me again?"}
{"id": "t3_rt56x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do about clingy old man?", "post": "Hey Reddit, need some advice. Recently I helped a talkative old guy I work with by fixing his computer up for him. He took me out to lunch for a thank you, I accepted and on we went. This week he asked me out to lunch again, he paid again and made note of plans for lunch next week. I'm a real nice guy at work because being in a support role pretty much demands patience. I don't want to be rude to him but how do I stop the cycle? I'm not a social person and generally stick to myself as an introvert and enjoy my lunches quiet while reading the news. Also, he kind of got me into helping the owner of the restaurant we're eating at by checking his computer out in the future in exchange for a free meal. I'm one of those guys who is \"work to live\" not \"live to work\" so I really value my personal time.", "summary": "need to shake some old guy trying to take my black cherry."}
{"id": "t3_3rujfp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey, r/relationships. I [F20] am American, born and raised. My Indian-American SO [M23] of two and a half years officially \"outed\" me to his parents. I could use some advice.", "post": "To give the long-story short, SO's parents have known he's had a girlfriend for quite some time, but have chosen to ignore it (either thinking it wasn't serious, or that it would end and he would move on). A few days ago, he decided to \"out\" me to his parents, and spent several hours making his case and defending me. His parents came to the consensus that they would *consider* meeting me. Boyfriend said he gives his parents a month until they cave and want to meet me.\n\nMy SO and I are rather serious, and while we are still a way's off, we've discussed marriage in the future. So, obviously, it is very important to me that when I meet his parents, I want to make as good a impression on them as possible. They have fears and trepidations about their son being in a relationship with someone that was not born and raised in their culture, and had put up a fight about it.\n\nAlthough born in India, my SO spent almost his entire life living and growing up in the states. He easily identifies as American with regards to his Indian (Gujarati) heritage.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice or perspectives to share? Is there anything that I can do personally (besides the obvious, like continuing to be a good girlfriend) to make this whole process of meeting his parents and --hopefully-- getting along with them easier? I ask my boyfriend plenty of questions about cultural things to keep in mind, do's and don'ts, but I can only nag him so much. He remains absolutely certain that they're going to love me when they meet me.", "summary": "Indian-American boyfriend of 2.5 years officially told his Indian parents that he has a white, American girlfriend. They're \"thinking about\" meeting me, and I could use some advice on the whole ordeal."}
{"id": "t3_272x06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am unsure whether I should contact him. (23m/f)", "post": "I am hoping for some help to ignore my feelings and continue with my current decision to not contact him!\n\nI met my best friend about 5 years ago. She has a big group of close friends from her home town (Palmer) that I have become close with over the past year or so. They are mostly boys and they are so much fun to be around. The past two weekends I have stayed in Palmer just to hang out and see everyone.\n\nOne of the boys (Caden) has been in an on and off relationship with a girl for about 2 years now. She broke up with him about a month or so ago. Now that he is single, he has been coming out with the boys more and therefore I have gotten to know him a lot better these past two weeks. I was surprised to find that he is smart and extremely funny - exactly my sense of humor. We have been making each other laugh constantly and I have found that I look forward to see him. This past Friday when we went out he was being very flirty and I planned to kiss him but we never got a chance to be alone. \n\nYesterday, one of the boys told me that Caden was interested in hooking up. I already could tell, but cool he's making it known! I couldn't decide if I wanted to have sex with him but as the night went on, the  more fun we had, the more we made each other laugh and I decided I was down. We went to his house and had really great sex. This morning I left and I have not spoken to him since. \n\nI don't think I should contact him. I think he was just looking for some fun, I think he is hurt from his breakup and this was something fun and nice to get his mind off of it. But I still wish I could speak to him. Is it a good idea to ignore him? Should I avoid hooking up with him in the future or is it possible to make this a FWB?", "summary": "Have a lot of fun with him, not sure if I should contact him or not."}
{"id": "t3_tfoh5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend and I are caught in a very serious dilemma currently, reddit, we need your help!", "post": "So as the boyfriend in this relationship, I recently ran out of body wash. Old Spice \"Swagger\" was my usual go-to selection of soap, but after going the local CVS recently I found Old Spice had a new brand, known as \"Champion.\"\n\nBeing as I am a champion I thought to myself, this is clearly the choice for me, and bought it without a moments delay, thinking about how amazing I'm going to smell with this moist nectar of the gods, I excitedly took it home.\n\nFast forward to tonight, after a post work work-out, I showered, used the aforementioned liquid gold, got dressed and was on my way.\n\nThe girlfriend finds this new soap repulsive, says it \"doesn't smell like me\" and cannot stand being next to me. She suggested showering, but I pointed out that if I shower, it'll wash off my deodorant and if we end up having fun times later, I will once again smell. If I don't shower though, those times are almost certain to not come without a serious warming up to my new musk or a serious dissipation.\n\nReddit, what should we do?", "summary": "bought new body wash, gf wants nothing to do with me"}
{"id": "t3_3rbsqk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found messages in bfs (25m) messenger to ex (19f) while he would have been home with me (25f). Been living/together for 2 1/2 yrs. What do I do?", "post": "I'm looking for some advice. Tonight my boyfriend and I had \"the\" conversation about out futures and children etc... but something felt off. He fell asleep on the couch and I plugged his phone in so he would have an alarm for work tomorrow. \n\nMy curiosity got the better of me by going into his messages. I quickly found out that in February and March of this year he had been communicating with his ex. By no means does that warrant for a problem, it's the conversation that was. Essentially, she messaged him telling that she missed him etc. And then he replied back asking how things were and then said you're looking rather \"hot\" these days and should be a model because you have the looks. Which was said more than once. \n\nThe conversation then led to them getting together before she moved to a different place. Then she asked of getting together would be more theb friends and his reply was who knows maybe one day. \n\nWhat do I do? This is the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with and raise children together in a loving home. It was in February and March of this year, am I even warranted to be so hurt? I understand that everything I'm feeling is valid but it feels like such a waste that I've put in so much effort into our relationship only to have it thrown in my face.", "summary": "Found out BF messaged his ex earlier this year after he said he wanted to spend the rest of our lives together."}
{"id": "t3_19e3g0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20] and my boyfriend [M20] have been in a relationship for 10 months but we both have different expectations of touch within the relationship.", "post": "My boyfriend really values touching within our relationship - not necessarily sexual but things like holding hands, sitting close/on each other, playing with my hair, rubbing legs/arms and stroking my face with the back of his hand. He thinks of these touches as really important and special and he has a constant desire for them. He also does it because he wants to make me feel happy and loved if he perceives I am not in a good mood.\n\nI also value touch within the relationship but not in a similar way: if I am working on my computer or reading I don't want to be touched as I find it distracting. In these circumstances I often will move his hand away, push him gently away or say \"Stop that.\" \n\nMy boyfriend finds this upsetting and feels creepy and sleazy, and he thinks I find him creepy and sleazy when this happens. We are very open with each other in communicating about it but we haven't been able to reach a solution that makes both of us happy - we both inevitably end up doing the same thing again.\n\nIs this normal within a relationship? How should we negotiate this? Am I being selfish and should I be more open?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have different expectations and desires for touching, how can we reconcile these?"}
{"id": "t3_49c3qu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention in chemistry", "post": "Made an account to post this after lurking for a long time, and also this FU happened today so double internet points to me.\n\nSo in Chemistry today we were doing a practical about the acidic/basic hydrolysis that amides undergo. We were in groups of three and we start the first one which is two gently warm ethanamide with sodium hydroxide.\nFU No.1:\nBeing the top level chemists we are, we gently warm it by sticking it right above the bunsen burner, which leads to it to it boiling vigorously and (semi) exploding onto the wall.\n\nFU No.2: We redo the first part so that we can proceed, and manage to do it without causing serious injury to anyone, and then add dilute sulfuric acid. Same thing happens again: test tube is gently warmed by being stuck on top of the bunsen burner and once again explodes, a portion of which landen in group member A's hair.\n\nFU No.3:\nThe textbook says to try the reaction the other way, adding Sulfuric acid to Ethanamide first, and then Sodium Hydroxide so I put the two into a test tube, but we're told to pack up as there's only 5 minutes left of class left. We are told that we can just dump it all down the sink, which I interpret as \"don't tip it down the sink\".\n\nFU No.4: At the back of the class we have a fume cupboard with a large brown bottle that we put all the organic waste products into, so I go to the back and find the brown bottle, which is three quarters full and seems to have some sort of precipitate in it. I take no notice and dump the H2SO4 into it and immediately white fumes rush everywhere, and a horrendous smell fills the room, so I close the lid and move away. It turns out that the bottle was filled with Phosphorus Pentachloride and the smell was the HCl(g). The fume cupboard got turned on and a few minutes later I go to the next class smelling like chemicals.", "summary": "I am bad at chemistry and made cool things happen"}
{"id": "t3_1c7kuu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Excuse me, but when did Anonymous become the World Police?", "post": "Look, I hate rapists as much as the next guy (or girl, especially), but that doesn't mean it's acceptable to release the names of individuals and call them rapists when there has been no evidence of a crime yet uncovered by actual authorities.\n\nWe can and should petition for investigations, we should allow the media to know that police might be shirking their duties. But should we really trust an anonymous, unaccountable group of people releasing the names of four teenage boys and subjecting them to *national* attention over a crime they quite possibly didn't even commit? Is this really acceptable behavior that we want to encourage? Do we realize that we could be inadvertently caught up in something like this as well, that we ourselves could be victimized by it?", "summary": "I'm worried we're setting a dangerous precedent by allowing and encouraging an anonymous group to carry out vigilante justice."}
{"id": "t3_3b94s0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Interview and emotions.", "post": "I'm beating myself up over this job interview. After being currently employed for six month. Also having previous work history. I thought for a 19 year old. \n\nI haven't quit working since i was old enough too. Not a single day off, excellent attendance, always on time. After a brief introduction to being laid off, this was a first. I started to think about different job opportunities. None of these jobs i worked so far had no benefits, nothing above 13 dollars an hour, And physical labor was demanding. \n\nI had no problem working these hard physically demanding jobs. But figured i could get something easier. So i applied at Autozone, which they do offer benefits and retirement, but low pay. Also applied at norfolk southern. They both sent me e-mails saying to come in for an interview. \n\nI rush to go get some dress clothes, shoes. I have about a week to prep and get ready. Tuesday is here, first interview down. Thought it went pretty well.  Friday, interview goes pretty well. This is the job i wanted. \n\nI get an email, stating thank you for your participation but other candidates were selected. From norfolk southern. So, much disappointment from this e-mail. My Grandpa worked there for 40 years. My dad worked there, he passed in 2006. My brother is currently working there.\n\nMy feelings hurt supremely. I had so much hope and greatness in my mind and i got hyped. But only to get ultimate failure.", "summary": "Got feelings hurt over this job i didn't achieve in getting. Hyped for nothing."}
{"id": "t3_v887v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, show me the magic! I need your advice on a laptop... More inside->", "post": "Let's begin...\n\nI'm currently about to finish my last semester in college with a BFA in Painting. I'm 24 Female and use Photoshop, Illustrator, etc programs with my artwork (mainly to edit them). I enjoy, okay love, playing PC games (Skyrim, Portal for ex) but I play all these on my bf's Alienware (Dell, ew!) laptop. I've always built my tower's (friends help) but they usually have mileage on parts so they don't last long. I do know some computer lingo, mind you, but not enough to build my own laptop.\nWe use Mac desktops on our campus and I love the processing system. I've always known Mac's to have a friendly user face system and to not contract virus' little to non compared to Windows. \nIt's difficult, thou, with the keyboard on Mac's system- I'm use to CTRL not COMMAND. I also like to customize the desktop (W) and I just recently learned that you can on M like a W. \nI have my 1 tb external drive synced to our M on campus to help keep my files. \nOriginally I'd love to get a Mac for work purposes and some play, since my Bf has a gaming system. But he'd rather us both play together than take turns (okay, some fights did occur to play, but this was when Skyrim was born!!) \nSorry if all is confusing, if I could play games on Mac I would! I love the sleek finish and lightweight of MacBooks. \n\nReddit. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Mac laptop or a Windows based Laptop for work purposes/gaming?"}
{"id": "t3_2de4z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/M] really want to ask out my coworker [23/F]", "post": "I'm one of those people who have rare but lengthy relationships (4 years and 6 years).  I don't really date since I'm kind of weird and don't really click with too many women I meet.\n\nBut this one girl is the first one for a long while that I absolutely adore.\n\nShe started at my company last month and we started talking.  Turns out she's really passionate about sailing and surfing, just like me.  We both graduated doing computer engineering, and somehow we both ended up in marketing, but we're both really nerdy about electronics and stuff.  we even have very similar career goals even though we did the most irrelevant career paths for our degrees.\n\nI just thought it was really cool we share so many similar and unrelated interests.  we ended up talking a lot during one of the company happy hours.\n\nBut here's the problem.  I don't want to make a move and end up getting rejected and then have a career shitstorm rain on me.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "crush on coworker.  shit?"}
{"id": "t3_4nvyoo", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about closing a store credit card, and its effects on my Credit Score", "post": "Hello PF! I have a question about a store card I have opened and paid off in full.  My wife and I decided that to reward ourselves for meeting our savings goals last year we would spend a little money and buy a new living room furniture set.  So we went to Haverty's and picked out a set we liked and went ahead and opened a store credit card that was 0% interest for 3 years so we could buy everything we wanted at once.  Well now it's 3 months later and I've paid off the card in full and it has a 0 balance.  I have no plans to ever use this card again.  It has a credit limit of 6k and has no annual fees.\n\nWhen I opened the card to purchase the furniture it negatively impacted my credit score by almost 40 points, the biggest factors being that my total credit utilization was around 50% at the time of my last credit report along with the average age of my credit lines dropping because the account was brand new.\n\nSince I've paid off the card my credit score shot back up to 764ish but the average account age is still low.  What affect will closing the store card have on my credit score?  \n\nI'd like to keep my score as high as possible because we may be buying an investment property at the end of this year and I want to keep it healthy and high.", "summary": "Opened Store Credit Card, paid it off, Want to close it, will there be negative impact to credit score for closing card?"}
{"id": "t3_2zxvu5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] want to enjoy giving oral to my girlfriend [22F] of 2 years.", "post": "Hey. First off I just want to say sorry for the details, I tried not to put too much unwanted detail in there!\n\nI'm thinking of experimenting more with girlfriend in bed, and we've spoken about a few things. We don't give each other oral much at all, and I want to give her really good oral.\n\nThe problem is that I never enjoyed it much before. I never really liked all the messy business and it didn't do anything for me in terms of arousal, but I'd like to do it for her enjoyment because that's how it should be sometimes, and I figure it'll be better for her if I learnt to enjoy it too.\n\nWe've used lubes before to counter the tastes and smells and I'm okay with that, but I go through the lube like a rhino (Sorry, I couldn't think of any analogies). Are there any ways I can learn to enjoy giving her oral more?\n\nOne more thing though, is that she doesn't wash properly down there and I don't know if she's aware of it. So sometimes it'll smell terrible and it I don't want to go down there at all. The last time I brought it up she got quite offended at the suggestion.\n\nQ1: Is there a way I can learn to enjoy giving oral more?\n\nQ2: How can I tell her about the off-putting smell and that I think she needs to wash herself better down there, without causing offence?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Want to learn to enjoy giving oral to GF, put off by smells and tastes. 1 - How can I learn to enjoy it better? 2 - How can I tell her about her sometimes off putting smell and that she needs to wash better without being offensive?"}
{"id": "t3_hhlkh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how does a student go about starting a line of good credit?", "post": "I am an unemployed student, but I am responsible and save money.  I am cautious on expenses, and I have never over-drafted.  My goal is to establish some sort of credit history, so I will have good credit in the future where I may want/need a loan or better credit card.  I applied for a credit card from amazon, got rejected, waited a week or two, and then applied for a \"secured\" credit card designed for people with bad credit or no credit.  The idea behind it is that it requires a security deposit to activate use.  I was even rejected from that too.\n\nHeck, I really dont even care if I get a credit card with a limit of $20.  I just want to start establishing a good line of credit.", "summary": "I am an unemployed student who wants to get a credit card."}
{"id": "t3_1qh2hv", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Follow up / co-lecture for Nightfall by Isaac Asimov", "post": "Hello fellow literate reddit users,\n\nso university has begun for me just the last month and I forswore the all-day-gaming and want to focus mainly on sports, my studies and literature I am interested in. As I was browsing the depths of reddit I found this hint to the short story \"The Last Question\" by Isaac Asimov and I was left speechless finishing it. I could really identify with the way it was written and it's just what I seem to be missing.\nIn just that post there was a recommendation to his novel \"Nightfall\". Since I \"fear\" falling in love with it just as I did with the short story, considering orders take really long for me (2-3 weeks), I would like to have your opinion on what is worth a read on the same topic as he writes. It can be anything science related, I like plot twists that leave questioning everything.\n\nBesides that: Any engineers, or soon to be engineers here that can state whether I'll be able to identify more with the profession and the whole way of solution finding / problem solving by reading scientific literature, or is it just the same boring stuff comparable to lectures? I have to admit I feel a little bit lost.", "summary": "Started studying engineering, came across what title mentions, looking for something supporting my studies and my well-being, teaching me the ways of maths and science :)"}
{"id": "t3_1c405z", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "girlfriend [23f] broke up with me [23m] because \"it's what she needs to do right now.\" Does this make sense to others? Anybody gone through this before?", "post": "She broke up with me because she feels like it is something she needs to do at this time. Her words were, \"I need to be able to take care of myself before I can take care of somebody else.\" We've been together for just under three years and she claims to still love me, but says that I shouldn't wait for her and that if I find somebody else that makes me happy to go for it.\n\nI asked her whether she still wants to make this work, and she says \"yes, if whenever I'm ready and you happen to still be willing to make this work, I would love to be with you.\"\n\nI thought about the possibility of her wanting to see what else is out there in terms of partners, but she claims that \"I don't want to date others and do not want to sleep around.\"\n\nShe even took it to the point of saying that \"we can still be faithful to each other, but owe it to let the other know if that ever changes.\"\n\nNot sure what other females think of this? Is this a way of her \"not hurting me\"? Have any other females gone through something like this? And then had it work out down the line?", "summary": "GF of 3 years broke up with me, says she needs to get on her feet, willing to get back together when she is ready for a commitment."}
{"id": "t3_368wst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Today something doesn't seem right about my (19M) girlfriend (20F) of 4 months.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have recently (temporarily) moved apart from each other, but we still talk every day.\n\nTwo days ago, my girlfriend was working back-to-back shifts - one at night, and one the next morning. She said she would have time to talk to me the following day, after her shift.\n\nThe next day I don't hear from her until almost 10PM, and I'm about to go to sleep. So we don't have much of a conversation, and I just expressed that I was disappointed that we didn't have time to talk. Stuff happens, I guess.\n\nThen at 4AM, I get a drunk knocking on my door, so I call the police to come deal with him, and check my phone after he's taken care of, and see a couple missed texts from my girlfriend at around 1:30AM asking if I'm mad and if I want to Skype with her later today, so I shoot her a text, thinking she'll see it when she wakes up today. \n\nBut she immediately responded, which surprised me. I ask why she's up in a joking way, and she said she was with her friends. In her small town nothing is open at 4AM, so when I ask her where she is, she says she's at a guy's house. But it's okay because he's gay. And he's just drunk anyway ^hehe . And also there aren't \"friends\" there, just the two of them because 3 other people conveniently left in the 15 minutes it took her to text that. And she's still there now (4:45AM).\n\nThis situation makes me feel really uncomfortable, most likely due to being cheated on by two different partners in the past and this situation resembling one of the instances fairly closely. Am I paranoid? What can I do? What should I say to my girlfriend?", "summary": "Temporarily-long-distance girlfriend said she would talk to me yesterday after not having much time to talk with her lately, but she brushes me off to hang out at a guy's house until 4:45AM."}
{"id": "t3_23u7lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of three years. Relationship issues, having a hard time asking sensitive questions --- **tl;dr**: How do I ask my girlfriend something she doesn't want to hear?", "post": "I've been dating a girl for three years now, and although I love her, I've had an issue recently. About a year ago, my girlfriend decided to get a very short haircut. Now, I have never, ever been attracted to short haired girls, but as it's her body and her life, I supported her decision and tried to maintain the same attraction as before. However, as time has gone on, I'm finding, against my will, that the physical spark I used to feel is dying out. As much as I hate to say it, her short hair is starting to cause problems in our relationship. I know that the average user of this site will see this as a man trying to dominate his woman and impress his idea of the ideal female appearance on her, but I don't believe that that is what this is. Physicality is important in a relationship, whether we'd like to admit it or not, and this drastic change in appearance has lessened my attraction for her. Help me out. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "How do I ask my girlfriend something she doesn't want to hear?"}
{"id": "t3_2foyz7", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Could the break up/move have made my dog depressed?", "post": "I am currently going through the heartbreak of a long term relationship that I ended and I think my dog is feeling just as terrible because of it. \n\nMy boyfriend and I adopted him 2 years ago but he's really been my dog because my boyfriend rarely paid attention to him. Even so, my dog was obsessed with him. Always wanted to play and if he was around, it's like I was invisible. Anyway, we lived in a two bedroom and gave my dog run of the second bedroom while we were at work. He hated the neighborhood because of all the noise so his walks were always short but he loved sitting in the sunlight in his bedroom and was always down to play. Basically, he was a happy dog. \n\nThen we moved to the west cost and my dog LOVED IT! Outside time was his favorite time. He would always stare longingly at the door and loved to go out to the balcony and people watch. Time of his life. \n\nThe breakup came around and my dog and I moved back to the east coast into my moms place where I am sharing a bedroom with my two siblings. This place drains the life out of me because there is no sunlight. But my dog is taking it pretty badly. It's been just over a week and he's slowly becoming more lethargic and withdrawn. His food hadn't changed at all and I play with him just as much if not more than before and he has two other people that smother him with petting all the time. \n\nHe keeps hiding under the bed and won't respond to commands. He sleeps all day and only wants to play for a few minutes. He hates going out now and the sight of his leash sends him running. He hasn't touched his food all day today. I think he hates this place more than I do. \n\nMy sister took him to her friend's place so he can play with two other dogs and she told me he was wagging his tail and eager to play and roam around. \n\nThis is making me feel worse. I want to make him feel better. What do I do?", "summary": "moved back to east coast from west coast after breakup and my dog is not himself anymore. What do I do to make him better?"}
{"id": "t3_2bn6a3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Can this be considered discrimination?", "post": "Below is a situation where I feel the president of a club I'm involved in has abused his power as leader to discriminate against others. But before I officially report him, I want to know whether this could actually be considered discrimination or not, as its a big accusation to make. Another consequence of reporting him is that it is common knowledge that the new treasurer and I don't get along well, and I'm afraid that reporting him will mean that he and his friends will start targeting and harassing me, as they did something like this before. I also  don't want to lose respect of my fellow members by coming off as petty and mean.\n\nOne of the clubs at university I am involved in has had a complete change in their executive board. We were only supposed to have a new president and treasurer, but the new president has replaced the treasurer and all three authorized agents with all his Chinese friends (he is also Chinese himself.) Two of these people have never been involved with the club previously in any way or form whatsoever. The new treasurer did apply for the position, but he was unprofessional and hostile in his application and on the clubs Facebook page by repeatedly using swear words. (His language in the application is common knowledge, the new president knows about it.) \n\nNone of the previous board members have been kept on, and the person who was promised the position of treasurer (me) by the previous president has been discarded aside for someone with a weaker application. I don't care to be treasurer as much as I wanted to before, but I still feel that what the president did is wrong and should be reported.\n\nSome of us have brought up the issue with the new president, but he simply says that he felt these people were better for the job because they like the sport, without addressing the complaints from club members of why these strangers might not be better.", "summary": "New club president makes all his friends (also of the same race) official board members, only way to fix it is report him."}
{"id": "t3_4m3lsl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Coworkers always speak their native language, that I don't speak", "post": "So I've moved to another country and an amazing company. Everything is great the atmosphere, the job, the people etc.\n\nHowever, during lunch breaks and when speaking with each other they always speak their native language. I can't blame them, as anyone prefers speaking their first language and it's normal. In principle, they don't seem to care about my presence and when I speak in English they follow, but quickly switch back after like 2'. \n\nI'm a very social person and we enjoy the time we spend together when I'm able to speak in English. Mostly I get angry with myself and not them for not having a good level of their language. \n\nWhat should I do to avoid being impolite, yet generate a response from them in English and keep the conversation going?", "summary": "Coworkers speak in their native language during lunch breaks, however much I try to speak with them in English. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_36n38w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [37F] having a hard time with my ex-BF's [29M] behavior after break up", "post": "Last week I ended my three year relationship with my boyfriend. It was a surprise to him even though I had let him know there were serious issues for months. He was very upset. Cried and said he was devastated and lost.\n\nAfter the discussion he stayed the night and dropped me at the train to see my folks the next morning. We haven't spoken since.", "summary": "Recently ended relationship, ex is very publicly partying and making new connections"}
{"id": "t3_2y6lmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] interested in flirtatious girl [17 F] who stopped flirting with everyone.", "post": "So this girl, let's call her Jennifer, was really flirty about a month before. Two months ago I told her I had a thing for her; she said aww but no I don't feel the same. A month goes by and not much changes we still talked a bit like not much had changed. But this month started and now she has started video calling me and stopped flirting with everyone, as well as me I suppose. She still sort of flirts with me by asking me to pull her up and sitting on my lap and all, but she cut back on the hugs.\n\nI don't really know what to think if she just using me as some sort of toy or something. She I just give up on her or pursue her.", "summary": "flirty girl stops flirting with everyone, cuts back with flirting with me."}
{"id": "t3_23q3kn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[me:24/m-her:26/f] Need advice on tough subject", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over a year. Started out a bit awkward online and went quick. I live with her now and things are mostly fine, but we have a couple issues. \n\nSex is primary. My drive is much higher than hers which is to be expected but I feel like it is a bother. Talked to her and she does not mind and told me just to masturbate more which I try and do not gt satisfied. When we have sex it gets to be a hassle as she isn't on the pill and so spur of the moment things cant happen. But then if she can't get off then she gets frustrated which upsets me so I want to quit though I didnt get off. It happens alot.\n\nWe try porn which I am into but it doesn't do much for her. I also have some different 'fetishes' that I want to do or things to try but she is not comfortable. That is fine and she gave permission for going to a nudist club alone since nothing happens but i would like other stuff.I do not nessesarily want to have sex with others but i would like to watch things at the least. \n\nNot because she isn't attractive, she is is, but could lose a few, but its what i enjoy. i also never did anything with someone my own size and feel like i never got to experiment with stuff.\n\nThere are some other things but they are primarily habits, nonsexual, that i can settle with.", "summary": "sex is not as satisfying and i feel like i would like to do other things, but not cheat (i wont have any sex without permission or do anything). she said she will try but it wont be for awhile stuff happens. frustrated. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ixgk2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17 F] and my boyfriend [18 M] often split the bill or take turns paying. My friend [16 F] thinks it is wrong for a girl to pay..", "post": "My boyfriend and I make around the same amount of money and we take turns paying for movies or dinner depending on who has more cash or who feels like paying to be nice. I don't mind paying for stuff as I don't feel as if its his obligation to always spend money on us. I told my friend this, and she told me that in a relationship,it's always the man's job to pay and support the female. She said that she wouldn't even pay for her boyfriends dinner on his birthday because it's improper. I was shocked to hear this. So I'm basically just curious as to what you people have to say about this...\nI just want to ask you guys who are also in relationships/have been in relationships: do you and your parter take turns paying for dates? Is it \"proper\" that the guy mostly pays? Tell me what you've done in your case...", "summary": "Is it wrong if the male doesn't pay for the date? Who should mostly pay for dates? Is it okay to take turns paying? What have you personally done?"}
{"id": "t3_3jksn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [15M] make some more friends in high school", "post": "So I've had an epiphany lately and realized I know like, two girls that I consider to be friends. Sophomore year I've really been wanting to expand my horizons of people (preferably girls just cause I have a bunch of guy friends). Also **NOTE** this is not \"how do I pick up chicks?\" it's just how can I become friends with more girls. For awhile I never really talked to any girls outside of my school \"social class\" (the nerdy and unpopular but not a total loser group) and I've had a hard time breaking the mentality of \"oh, I can't be friends with jocks or cheerleaders etc.\" or that all geeks are weird and unattractive (**NOTE** I used to think like this when I was younger and didn't understand that stereotypes aren't good so before anyone rages please keep in mind I know it's wrong nowadays. Also, I'm not saying I don't want to be friends with girls if they're unattractive it's just I used to only look for romantic partners rather than friends until I realized how stupid I was).  \n\nIn addition, how can I break my train of thought thinking like \"all cheerleaders are like this\" or \"all geeky girls are like this\" Thank you\n\nSorry if I come off as an inconsiderate jerk, I just really need help and I can't find a goof way to put into words what I actually mean.", "summary": "How can I make some friends that are girls/how do I stop seeing people as high school stereotypes"}
{"id": "t3_30w8ug", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/M] My girlfriend [22/F] is very shy around her parents whenever she's doing something related to me? How can I help her?", "post": "So my girlfriend of 21 months is really shy around her parents whenever it comes to me. We are currently in a long distance relationship (11 months of the 21 months have been long distance) but whenever I try to video call her, she either 1) doesn't pick up because her parents are around or 2) picks up but doesn't say anything or 3) picks up and talks (if she's alone in the house / room).\n\nI was just wondering if it's normal behavior of a shy person? **She admits that she's shy that's why she isn't saying anything** but it's not like as if I haven't met her parents. In fact, I knew her since she was 11. Whenever we are together (in the same country), I would make an effort to visit her parents at least twice a week (usually to have dinner). \n\nHer parents and I aren't very close partly because they're also quite shy so our conversation runs dry pretty quickly. The time we spend together with her parents, dinner time, usually involves her mom and dad talking to each other while the both of us quietly eat our meal. \n\nI've been telling her to make an effort to talk, to help ease the tension / awkwardness between us and her parents but she's too shy to do anything. It isn't causing any major problems in our relationship but I would just like to help her become less shy around them. \n\nWe're Asians if that even helps.\n\nThanks", "summary": "GF is very shy around parents whenever it's doing something related to me e.g. if video calling, she won't talk if her parents are around. What can I do to help her become less shy?"}
{"id": "t3_2hg7de", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (22m) has me (19f) feeling a sort of imbalance in our relationship.", "post": "We've been together for a year and three months, and we live together, which sort of makes it harder. I don't really want to list all the details because honestly, I don't want to get angry again, but it comes down to this:\n\nIf I treated him like he's been treating me for the past month, he would have left me. I've been a pushover and he's been a dick, and I just realized. And I can't live like this. And he's been so snappy lately that I'm getting anxiety about bringing it up; if he feels even slightly criticized he will freak out and the conversation will just ignite. I don't argue. I mean, I really don't. If he starts getting heated, I stop talking and leave the room. Adults talk, they don't argue. I'm not doing it. I need to be able to speak to him about this in a way that allows him to stay calm... How frustrating.", "summary": "boyfriend is being a dick and I'm tired of stepping around it like a pansy. How do I bring it up without him getting defensive?"}
{"id": "t3_53q7p7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Right Girlfriend, Wrong Place. What Should I Do?", "post": "About two years ago I (24) met the love of my life (25) and decided to move to her country and learn her language.\nEverything was amazing at first, as always, I was penniless and homeless, but her parents ( she lives at home still) took me in for a while, I eventually got my own place and got some work, although not much.\n\nafter a short while the rent was bogging me down, I was living off pasta or rice and the work I had was private teaching, so I had no colleagues, meaning no friends.\n\nthis went on for quite a while, up until around three months ago in fact, when I returned home for the first time to visit.\nI was so happy seeing my family, seeing my friends, rock climbing and just generally enjoying life.\n\nNow I'm back and am undecided if I want to stay here or not. I'm not happy living without friends, without a real job, back living in her parents house again.\n\nBut I feel like I wont be happy without her, we have built a relationship here and I don't want to throw away two years for nothing.\n\nAdvice?\n\nI also want to point out that the country she lives in is around a 14 hour flight from the country I live in.. so I cant just visit home whenever, especially as I'm super fucking skint.", "summary": "Love my SO, but hate the city she lives in ( on other side of world) miss family, friends and not being a bit depressed."}
{"id": "t3_3fnzyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of 1 month. She is a \"recovered\" anorexic & alcoholic. She also has PTSD from an abusive ex-boyfriend. Any tips for me?", "post": "She has seen a professional for all of these problems she says. \n\nShe also suffers from depression, because if she doesn't take her anti-depressant she gets randomly depressed after a few days. \n\nShe is not currently actively seeing a professional, even though I think she still should be(I obviously can't fix any of these problems, I can only support her). \n\nShe saw a professional regularly in the past.\n\nIs there anything I should look out for/ be aware of? **My main worry is something will happen and she will need help immediately and I won't know what to look for to recognize it.** I'm very uninformed about these issues. \n\nShe drinks more than most people, it's not horrible but I doubt very many days go by where she doesn't consume some alcohol.\n\nShe doesn't eat very much and I think probably not enough, but she swears her eating disorder isn't a problem anymore. However, she was blackout drunk a few nights ago and forcing herself to throw up the food I had to basically force her to eat. \n\nThis made me think, maybe I should learn a bit about these things she's going through. I just want to know warning signs for relapses of these problems and things I can do to help support her struggle with them. \n\nThanks Reddit, and of course I am still gently urging her to continue seeking professional counseling.", "summary": "Girlfriend has a lot of problems that I've never had to deal with before, how can I help her deal with them?"}
{"id": "t3_1zvruv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Still thinking of chemical castration after 4 years. I want to be a eunuch.", "post": "I think the thoughts first started coming into my head about 4 years ago when I was 16. I'm 20 now and the they're still returning to my head at 4 in the morning. That is a longer period of time than I'd consider for getting a tattoo so I'm positive that I want this. I just don't know what to do about it.\n\nIt is really hard to find information on CC or even where I could have it performed. I think it can be administered through shots or pills. Planned Parenthood didn't really have any results so I'm guessing they wouldn't help.\n\nI don't really know what to do about it. It's not like there is anyone I can talk to either without people thinking I'm a pedophile rapist (I'm just a normal guy not either of those) or clinically insane.", "summary": "I want to be a eunuch. I just don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_4q9uge", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Ohio] Sublessee caused damage to unit while I was present", "post": "This might be a complicated situation, or it might be simple, I have no knowledge of tenant law. I'll try to be descriptive as possible.\n\n.\n \n\nTo begin, I live in a 2 unit house, in the top unit, with 3 other roommates. This summer, all of them but me have basically moved out and are staying with parents or vacationing, but one found a random person on a Facebook page to sublet his room for the summer. The guy is upstanding and pretty normal, so no big deal.\n\n.\n\nAbout two weeks ago, me and the sublessee were eating dinner. I finished up, put my dishes in the dishwasher, and proceeded to take a shower and retire to my room to study for an exam I had the next day. about 2 hours later, I realized I had forgotten my laundry (in the basement) so I went down to collect it. there, I saw water dripping through the ceiling, and quickly ran upstairs to see what the issue was. In the kitchen I found the sink on with the sublessee's dishes, overflowing onto the floor, and presumably through the bottom unit's ceiling and floor, all the way into the basement. I immediately turned it off and tried to dry as much as I could, but didn't have the presence of mind to take any pictures. \n\n.\n\nI have discussed this with the sublessee a few times, but he has a hard time believing he would have left the sink on.\n\n.", "summary": "sublessee left sink on and it flooded bottom unit"}
{"id": "t3_4sjnk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F19) hate my boyfriend's(M22) bad teeth", "post": "This guy and I got together about 3 months ago and knew each other for about half a year before that.\n\nI like him a lot and he likes me a lot too. I feel like our personalities mesh together really well. He's my best friend, a great person, and I could rant for hours about how cool he is. He's a scrawny nerd, but I personally love how he looks.\n\nI can't seem to get over his teeth, though. He has other physical problems that I don't mind as much (dry skin). But his teeth, tho.\n\nThey're extremely crooked and chipped. You'd notice his teeth right away and they can be very distracting. It's so bad that sometimes he has a snaggletooth when he closes his mouth. They're discolored and he has really obvious cavities on his front teeth that get embedded with food. \n\nIt affects his breath. His breath isn't too bad but it's still not good. Also, his teeth cause his saliva to be thick and viscous and that makes me to feel sick when we kiss. I don't like to be near his face for too long because of this.\n\nIt's been bothering me more and more as time goes on. I know he's insecure about his teeth. He told me that they're his biggest insecurity. When he was talking about them I asked him if he ever planned on getting them fixed and he said \"I don't know. Maybe later on.\" \n\nI don't want to break things off with him but I also don't know if I could deal with his teeth with no end in sight. If I knew he was in the process of fixing them I wouldn't care as much.\n\n \nI've never spoken of his teeth negatively or even brought them up and I really don't want to hurt him.\n\nShould I talk to him? Is there anything I (or we) could do? What should I do? I'm definitely willing to compromise and make things work.", "summary": "My bf has really bad teeth. They are making me lose attraction and make it difficult for me to be near his face. I don't want to break up but I don't know if I could stay with him if he doesn't pursue a fix. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1vh1ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend(?) [19 F] for 3 months, have kind of a weird relationship", "post": "So we've been seeing us for the last 3 months, holding hands, kissing hugging and recently (like a month ago) we started having \"dry\" sex together.\n\nWhen we are around our social group, we usually hold hands, but only after quite some time. The last time one of our friends saw us holding hands, he looked pretty weird and seemed to \"laugh\" about it, and he asked \"what this is\". \n\nShe left my hand asked him back \"what, is what? Well, you can ask x (x = another friend, who also \"laughs\" about this) about it\". After a minute or so we held hands again.\n\nIt felt quite weird, because I don't even really know what \"this\" is actually is between us. It feels like a relationship (exclusive?), but we never talked about it nor said \"I love you\" to each other.\n\nBut we spend time together alone and get naked and please each other.. So what is this? What should I do?\n\nI've also the problem that she is having lots of friends that I don't know in person (they are usually  the same from listening), while I don't have that many yet (I just moved to this new city) and she is meeting them regularly too. Because of that we can usually only see us like once a week (she sometimes tells me that a few other people asked her for meeting too, but well she was with me), and sometimes there isn't even time for at least one meeting due to other things we have to do.\n\nIt's pretty confusing for me, not so say frustrating. I'm not sure what this all is about and I love to see her so much.", "summary": "What should I do to make me feel better about the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2xoaso", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by learning Reddit lore...", "post": "So I've been on Reddit for a couple years now and I have a coworker who's been around since near the beginning and is considered the office guru of all things Reddit. \n\nOne day while I'm eating my blueberry yogurt he decides to test my knowledge of lore; we determine that I know when the narwhal bacons, understand \"breaking both my arms,\" and have heard of Kevin. I have not however heard of \"the cumbox\" or \"the Jolly Rancher.\"\n\nNeedless to say he takes it upon himself to fill in the gaps of my education. Cumbox, ok, pretty gnarly but not surprising for Reddit. Then he gets to the Jolly Rancher story...\n\nAfter he finishes the punchline, I'm nearly gagging, but trying to save face by finishing my yogurt. Until I get to a blueberry and all I can think as I bite down is \"that's not a jolly rancher.\"", "summary": "Heard the Jolly Rancher story, may never enjoy blueberry yogurt ever again."}
{"id": "t3_51wlgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[serious] wish my boyfriend had asked me out.", "post": "This is my first reddit post, I'm sorry if it doesn't post properly. \n\nI'm 25/f in a relationship with my 25/m boyfriend for 6 years. Weve been doing long distance right from the start of our relationship but we grew up together, went to the same school together etc. We are getting married next year and will be closing the distance then. \n\nI keep having dreams/wishing that he had asked me out instead of me asking him, that he had pursued me instead and wooed me instead. \n\nI know this is stupid seeing as our relationship is perfect otherwise, I don't even know what kind of advice I'm seeking but maybe someone out there could tell me how to get over it/console myself/deal with it. \n\nPlease be kind, this is my first reddit post.", "summary": "upset that boyfriend of 6 years didn't ask me out or confess his feelings first."}
{"id": "t3_29d0k9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[16 M] have been with my girlfriend [16 F] for 2 months but her dad found out about the relationship.", "post": "So I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months and it was good. She didn't tell her dad because she knew that he would say no to it because she's 16 and too young according to him. She used to go to an all girls school before moving nearby.\n\nSo a couple of days ago, we were hanging out together with a few friends in a place near her apartment. Her dad walks by and sees this and pretty much gives her the death glare and walks back to her apartment. When my girlfriend gets back, she was shouted at for about an hour about how she's too young to be dating and that they're really disappointed in her. While she didn't listen to him, she wants to talk in person about it and I think she's thinking about breaking up with me because of her family. I honestly don't think she wants to but might be forced to by her dad. How do you think I should approach this situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend's dad found out about the relationship, she might break up with me because of him."}
{"id": "t3_248aya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] dating extremely compatible [21 M] but worried about his weight issue.", "post": "Before I begin [20F] I just want to clarify that in no way am I trying to be horrible, but rather honest. I recently met a man [21M] who I am incredibly attracted to from an emotional aspect. We can talk for hours, share the same interests and are working on establishing an interdependent relationship before we head into the 'serious' side of it all. I honestly can see myself spending the rest of my life with him but only one thing is holding me back...he's overweight.\n\nI've got countless flaws myself and and it's such a superficial thing for me to actually be considering his weight to be a 'flaw' considering the fact that I've never met a man like him. I just need some piece of advice-some moral view-that will show how insignificant this issue is. \n\nI don't know what to do; the physical attraction doesn't seem to be there. And I understand some people might say 'if you're not physically attracted to him then don't date him' because I really do feel that we will have a long-term, healthy relationship. I just can't seem to get over this one thing.", "summary": "[20F] dating [21M] but can't seem to get over his weight issue despite his otherwise perfect self."}
{"id": "t3_4c4jcs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] I can buy m*fing Dickies!", "post": "I like Dickies pants but I haven't been able to buy a pair in forever because the largest ones I usually find in stores are 42. I was wearing a 46 or larger so I had to give up.     \n\nI planned on waiting until my next big weight loss milestone to shop for clothes but pretty much all my clothes are incredibly large now so I just had to go buy some.     \n\nSo, here I am at the store, kinda dreading the moment. The last time I bought pants, in October, I had to buy size 46 (which was already smaller than before). The pants I was wearing today were size 46, my t-shirt a 4XL, and my shirt a 3XL. I grab a pair of size 42 pants from a clearance rack, two 2XL t-shirts, and a 2XL shirt. I go to the fitting room.    \n\nThe fucking size 42 pants were a little too large! The size 2XL were more than fine (I like them baggy), and the 2XL shirt was too big! I put the 42 pants back, went to the Dickies display and grabbed size 40 Dickies. I also grabbed an XL shirt. Back to the fitting room: I fit in size 40 Dickies, 2XL t-shirt, and XL shirt.", "summary": "I bought a bunch of clearance clothes and they are MUCH smaller than what I used to wear. Damn it felt good."}
{"id": "t3_uih3h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Exactly how much am I screwing future me by taking out a student overdraft?", "post": "I got into some debts with my university last year, due to some bad decisions, that my Grandma helped me with in terms of a loan. As it's taken much longer than I thought to pay her back, I'd thought to empty the student overdraft available to me into a payment back to her.\n\nTypically (this information is based on talking to other students and post-students) the overdraft available is ~\u00a31500 and doesn't gain any interest until graduation. A majority of students here (UK) use theirs, and I'm going to make a guess that a majority of students in the UK DON'T cripple themselves financially. At least, not for those of us who started studying before the increase in fees.\n\nI really want to be able to pay my debt back to my Grandma, but a friend's advice suggests that I would be taking a short cut by using my overdraft and screwing myself over in the future. I'm not sure how much basis this advice has in reality, or if said person is just overreacting because money is involved.\n\nI would really appreciate any advice or experience with overdrafts my fellow redditors have to offer.", "summary": "Exactly how much am I screwing future me by taking out a student overdraft?"}
{"id": "t3_1a62cf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (19/f) girlfriend's sex drive dropped off a cliff, and I (25/m) didn't notice", "post": "This is probably the most difficult thing I've ever asked, but my mind is in pieces here.\n\nMy girlfriend frequently goes away for long periods at a time, but it's amazing when we're together.\n\nThe last time she came to visit, we had sex (as we often do). Only this time, she had the strangest look on her face. I couldn't place what it meant: it was honestly like no face I've ever seen her make before. I didn't think anything of it at the time: we were locked in embrace and she seemed as eager as me. She's always been so assertive, the kind of person who'd tell me to fuck off if she didn't want it.\n\nAbout half an hour into things I hear her say in the quietest, barely audible voice, \"leave me alone\".\n\nShocked, I blurt out \"what???\". And she quickly replied \"nothing!\", but I knew what I'd heard. I stopped immediately, and we cuddled, I asked if everything was ok, and she said it was. \n\nBut then afterwards I started noticing things she's posted online, mentioning or joking about her feeling 'frigid' and uninterested in sex. I started to realise she hasn't been into sex for a long time, which has me taken aback since when we first got together she had a higher sex drive than anyone I knew. In the time we were apart she's lost all interest in sex.\n\nI would never have had sex with her if she told me she didn't want it. I'm pretty clear that she consented as she was pulling off my clothes, pulling our bodies close together, kissing and groping my body. \n\nWhen she later withdrew consent I stopped, but my head's still spinning about this. I paid her petrol money to come visit (she was broke): did she think that she owed me? Was she afraid of hurting my feelings?", "summary": "? I just realised my girlfriend's sex drive has dropped off a cliff in recent months, and now worry she felt pressured into sex she didn't want."}
{"id": "t3_im6f3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can an off duty police officer detain someone?", "post": "Today a couple of friends and I were flagged down by a man on a motorcycle, thinking he needed help we stopped and he came up to the window, flashed a white laminate card that said Police on it and ordered the driver to hand over the keys. She complied.\nNow this officer was not from the local police department, in fact he was from a city about 20 miles away. He did not give us any indication of why we were being detained.\nI immediately got on my cell phone and called 911. After explaining the situation to the operator three local squad cars arrived. Moments later I was grabbed by an arriving officer and forced to the rear of his vehicle where he proceeded to interrogate me. I had done nothing wrong so I complied and told the truth.\nLater we were told that a African American gentleman (we were all white) had been seen stealing purses from cars and jumped into a vehicle similar to ours. When I told the officer who had grabbed me that I felt my rights had been violated and the out-of-jurisdiction officer was in the wrong and could not detain us I was told that once an officer is licensed or whatever in the state he can apprehend anyone no matter the jurisdiction or whether hes on duty or not. Is this true? Did this guy have jurisdiction to detain us in such a manner?\nTo top it off when I asked for badge numbers and a police report I was told to \"let it go, shut up and get back in the car.\" The only thing I received was the card of the out-of-jurisdiction officer and a half-assed apology that sounded like he was covering his ass. I intend on filing complaints, they fucked with the wrong unemployed guy.", "summary": "Are off duty cops allowed to detain people? Even outside their jurisdiction?"}
{"id": "t3_21pxev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my 21 [F] Approaching 3 Years, College Grad, now long distance, breakup seems imminent. Advice?", "post": "Hey All,\n\nSo first time poster. (I made an account just for this post as well) \n\nBackground: This upcoming October my GF and I will have been together for 3 years. We met at school through a mutual friend and we went to rival schools. The first year was distance (~1.5 hours) with seeing one another about every other weekend. The second year she transferred to my school and we were together basically the entire time. This past fall, she transferred to a school near her home (~2.5 hours away from me) and Fall was my final semester.\n\nNow, we are 13 hours apart, I am employed with a solid job and benefits right near my hometown. And she is attending a community college. \n\nSeveral occassions we have talked about getting engaged and moving forward, but as we would get closer to that I wouldn't feel comfortable going through with it. Last summer we had a situation where I thought I would propose before I graduated... I graduated and still no proposal. We have seen one another like once a month since then and she seemed to expect the proposal around Valentine's day. Last month came with no proposal and she mentioned she was giving up hope and just letting whatever happen happen and that she was going to pursue medical school again. (She has changed majors about 5 times since we have been together.)\n \nSince she went back home (~2 weeks now) our conversations have been pretty short and small talk.\n\nAnd now I feel terrible, because I know I shouldn't have said anything about engagement at all and just let it happen, and I also know she is upset. We are both currently unhappy, and I have no clue what to do.\n\nI am not a big fan of medical school for her mainly because of our future together and our family, but I am also not confident that this will be the last time she changes her major. She has yet to complete her undergrad degree.\n\nI'm sure that I have too many details and left out some, so if you need any info feel free to ask.", "summary": "BF/GF in LDR, approaching 3 years. Recently graduated, and having issues aligning futures."}
{"id": "t3_1x52an", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "When you've been assured that a girl has the same feeling you have, is it alright to just ask here to be \"more than friends\"?", "post": "unfortunately, I can't really ask her to go anywhere this week because of how busy we are in school and that we are low income teenagers. However, I've hung out with her after school a lot and got to really know each other. I mean like, being comfortable enough to discuss personal things and even made her cry because I've asked her about something emotional( It was later confirmed through a friend that she was happy she was comfortable enough to do that in front of me). The same friend told me that she has the same feeling I do, so I was just wondering if it would be ok to just straight up ask her to be my girlfriend. I've picked out somewhere private and something meaningful to say. Should I do it? Is this the best approach to the situation I'm dealing with.", "summary": "If we both know we like each other, and have really hit it off, can I just straight up ask her to be my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5ilh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to register my dog", "post": "Earlier this year I finally was in a situation to get a dog, after a long search I found a beautiful - if somewhat dimwitted - Collie x Huntaway named Cooper. I got him as throughout my childhood my family had dogs, one in particular, a Collie name Lofty, was my best friend throughout my teenage year, but I left home at 16 and my family moved,so I never saw him again. \n\nAnyway, so the last couple of weeks I've been working heaps of hours to try and afford a decent Christmas this year, and while I normally work at home (I'm a programmer, unfortunately not a well paid one) Ive been working on site with my main client testing code for the last few days. I got home yesterday with a note from my neighbours complaining that my dog had been barking all day, I was surprised, but I figured since I only have one more day of work for the year I'd sort that out over my Christmas break. \n\nSo I get home today and my daughter pulls a note out of the letter box, it's from our local council and basically says that there was a noise complaint, however they don't have a dog registered at our address, so we need to contact them in 24 hours to sort it or they'll take my dog. \n\nIt's at this moment I realise that I completely forgot to register him. I got him microchipped the day I got him and had spent a fortune getting his vaccinations up to date as his old owners neglected him. After all that I didn't have the $100 to register him that month so I though I'd wait until next pay. Fast forward 6 months and I'd completely forgotten. \n\nNow I have to pay $400 in fines (aka everything I'd saved for presents) or have my dog taken away, more fines issues and him likely put to sleep. All on the 23rd of December.", "summary": "forgot to register dog, now have to spend all my money I saved for Christmas presents or my dog will be taken away."}
{"id": "t3_1cd1rp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Roommate accuses me of stealing.", "post": "We're both 19f, been living together for 6 months. We were friends at the beginning, always borrowing each others things. We'd always ask first though. Then we went through an awkward faze of not talking. We got over that. During that period though, she would tweet things that I felt were obviously related to me. For example she tweeted \"I smell a theif\" and then a day later all her food from the kitchen was stored in her room. I have NEVER touched any of her food...ever! And now she'll ask me \"hey..do you have my black shirt with the lace..\" ex..and I wont have it because I never took it but she'll act like she doesn't believe me. And then she'll tweet..\"I strongly dislike people who take my stuff without asking.\" So I texted her just being like..\"Hey, I hope you don't think im holding out on you. I have given all your clothing back that I've borrowed, and I haven't taken anything without asking. I just don't want you thinking im lying to you!\" and all she responded was..\"lol nah its all good. it will probably show up somewhere. \" \n So I don't know where to go from here. I was then like..\"Okay, well I have 5 and I dont where 2 of them anymore, so if you need one you can have one! :)\" and she was like..\"lol ok.\" \n\n So this is so awkward for me, and I know she's telling her friends its me. I don't know where to go from here. Or if there is anything else I can do.", "summary": "haven't taken any of my roommates things, yet she hints very strongly that it's me. Tried confronting her about it in a nice way but she just basically ignored me. Not sure where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_hdw9p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's a simple thing you've done for a stranger that made you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?", "post": "Today while finishing up homework at the coffee shop, I saw these two young lads (Couldn't have been more than 8) messing around with mismatched chess pieces, but with no chessboard. I found it, and handed it to them, saying \n\"That'll work a bit better with this\".\n They looked at board, and looked back up me with a blank stare. \n\"You guys don't know how to play chess?\"\n\"No.\"\n\"Well now is a good time to learn!\"\nI proceeded to set up the board, explain the rules and the pieces to them, and let them go at it. I left to grab another coffee, and saw them completely engrossed in the game on my way out the door. Their Mom, chatting away with a friend of hers, saw me and said 'Thank you!' The whole experience, however mundane, really made my day.", "summary": "Taught some children how to play chess, and felt really awesome about it."}
{"id": "t3_4jpoir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21m) Gf's (23f) ex and also baby daddy is a huge problem", "post": "So we have been together for about 9 months and \"dating\" for well over a year. Her ex is a real problem. He has made things very difficult for us, constantly calls her to talk to her, tried to turn my gf's daughter (6) against me. Things of that nature along with finding any excuse to get near my gf even telling her he still loves her at their daughters dentist appt. anyway, we have spent many hours fighting due to him and she knows I despise him and has agreed to have no unnecessary contact with him. This changed the other day when she was at the mall with her daughter and text me that she was gonna take her daughter to see her father, this was bothersome because she wasn't gonna drop her off to him she was gonna be there for it, she promised she's be done in 30 minutes. It took me her over an hour there... Am I being ridiculous? It's bothersome because I know if I had been with her and her daughter asked to go see dad or her dad called and asked to see her I know she would have said no. So why is it when I'm not there I have to worry about that. I don't trust him around her at all because he's manipulative and uses their daughter against her and tried to lure my SO back with the happy family picture. What do I do? Sorry for the rant!", "summary": "my (21m) gf(23f) had unnecessary contact with her ex and baby daddy"}
{"id": "t3_1krw9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25M] flabbergasted at [29F] coworker", "post": "I don't know where to start... \n\nI eat lunch with some coworkers every day, 7 total: Me, Roslyn, Jack, Nicky,Robert, Beth, and Kristie. Well, *used* to eat lunch with them, until I stopped. I found their conversations to always rotate to either bitching about work or about videogames. \n\nAnyway, I decided to eat lunch at a local store instead of at work. One of the coworkers (and actual friends, Roslyn) joined me, which I'm fine with that, as the conversations tends to be about other things other than just work and videogames.\n\nAbout a month passes and Beth asks me if she can go join me and Roslyn for lunch at the store for lunch. I'm ok with it, and so is Roslyn. We have been going about once a week to have lunch at the store now. Kristie has joined us as well...\n\nWhich leaves Jack, Nicky, and Robert at the cafeteria. I'm having problems with Nicky, as she takes it as a personal insult that she and Jack haven't been invited to the store... But that's the catch: I never invited anyone to join me. Now she decided to send me a nasty message online through work email. \n\nDo I confront her directly, or do I contact my supervisor about this issue? I still have the message she sent me in ky inbox.", "summary": "Female coworker is upset she isn't invited to go out for lunch, sends me angry email at work. Who do I talk to: her or my supervisor?"}
{"id": "t3_h8av3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am changing my major and have absolutely no idea what I'd like to do with my life. Please help.", "post": "I am 19 and just finished up my sophomore year in college. I was attempting a Nursing major but that changed this last semester when I realized I wouldn't make it in the program. I decided it's best to just change things up and find something else I really enjoy, and my first thought was Biology, possibly Plant Science. \nLately my mom has been saying I'd make a great lawyer, but I am not a fan of ethics what so ever; I find it horribly boring...\nAre there any majors that I should strictly avoid? Your help could change my future, and I'd certainly like it to, because I need this change.", "summary": "I need to change my major but have no idea what's out there, and would like people with experience in certain majors to help me with my options."}
{"id": "t3_3t6qxt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I have a discussion with my wife about restorative cosmetic surgery for c-section scars and muscle tone?", "post": "I want to be clear at the outset: I love my wife \"as is.\" This is a topic she has been bringing up over the years.\n\nMy wife, 50, had 2 c-sections more than 20 years ago. One was the result of failure to progress during labor and the other was an emergency.  Her scars resemble an anchor to give you a visual. \n\nOver the years she has expressed frustration with the effect of two abdominal surgeries on her body. Not only is there the cosmetic aspect, but it's really messed with her abdominal muscles, too.\n\nAfter 30 years together, we are in a position to be able to afford some cosmetic surgery -- if she wants it, and based on her statements over the years,  I think she does -- but I'm not sure how to bring up the topic because I don't want to imply that I'm dissatisfied with the way things are.", "summary": "Should I ask my wife if she is interested in undergoing reconstructive/cosmetic surgery to address c-section scars? If so, how does one bring up the subject of suggesting someone make a big change to their body? Also, is surgery like this even an option? "}
{"id": "t3_2xe500", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] asked out a girl on the street yesterday, found out she was [28 F] during the date. What now?", "post": "I had just bought a pack of smokes and was waiting for a cab, she came out of the same corner store trying to light her smoke with a match so I quickly stepped in with a lighter. Talked for the 3-5 minutes it takes to smoke and figured what the hell might as well ask her out. \n\nI have just gotten out of a relationship that ended because of some deep seeded problems on both ends but we both still love each other. \n\nJust really asking what a 6 year gap is like and if she may take this more seriously or something cause of her age. Comments from women that age or men who have dated older women, any advice welcome. I have just always kept within a couple years of my age and the one time at 22 that I slept with an 18 year old I felt a little weird about it but that was me being the older one so I have no idea honestly how to feel about it.\n\nShe seems clearly interested but just want to handle everything right.", "summary": "Asked out a girl I thought was my same age, she thought I was her same age, turns out big age gap. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1xpuwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] BF's girl friends are over stepping boundaries. Am I [30F] being ridiculous or overbearing?", "post": "My current BF is an all round great guy... He's funny, he makes friends with everyone, he genuinely cares about people, etc. Makes for a great person, but this has caused me some feelings that I feel are justified, but obviously I need some more support. We've been friends for several years, but recently started dating. \n\nMy issue is, that while I love these qualities about my SO, they are annoying as well. Because of his very gregarious and happy personality he attracts a lot of \"friends\", mainly girls. I say girls because I'm 30 and this seems like something I might not have to \"endure\" if we both were older, but he's a little younger than I am. There is one girl in particular that knows he's in a relationship but she visits him at work, texts him, etc. I don't think he encourages it, but he doesn't necessarily discourage it. We've gone through these motions before and a few years ago we were at the beginning stages of what felt like dating to me when he started dating a girl he was \"friends\" with from work. So, I feel like I am automatically on the defensive. When we've talked about it, he assures me there is nothing to worry about and wants me to be nice to her. I feel like he should be worrying about my feelings, not hers. \n\nWe've had one discussion about it when he tried hiding a text from her because he knew I would be upset. I don't feel like he's cheating on me or will, but it makes me uncomfortable when I feel like she is overstepping her boundaries and/or he doesn't say something to her about it. She apparently wants to befriend me or not want me to \"hate\" her, but like I said... I am grown and I don't really care to entertain a friendship with a 19 year old college student. It would be different if she was a longtime friend, etc. but this is a new acquaintance.", "summary": "Are my feelings warranted about this behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_2sgapn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22] of 4 years broke up with me [23 M] on the 30th of Dec[23 M], and I don't know how I feel about it", "post": "At first I was sad and upset and thought my world was falling apart. Maybe cause I wasn't at work much cause of the holidays but I don't know now. \n\nWe are still living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed. \n\nI just don't know what I want or how I feel about it, I don't whether to accept it and see it as an opportunity to reconnect with people I have been distant from since we got together or try to win her back. Right now the one thing I do is that I still love her but our relationship was shaky and not the best, and she says she doesn't love or feel the same but she sounds as confused as I am. And her behaviour kind of gives me mixed signals - still calling me by cute names, then she will be out every night with friends, then come home and sit and watch tv. Its weird! \n\nIts all very confusing and I don't know what to do, anyone felt like this? \n\nAny advice is welcome.", "summary": "Feeling confused about how I feel about my breakup. Any Advice is welcome?"}
{"id": "t3_1338j6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (20/f)Annoyed with mom mom(55/f)", "post": "My mom treats my boyfriend (21/m) like one of her kids. She likes him a bit too much and is overbearing.  Temporary boyfriend has been living at my house during the weekends and his parents house during the weeks. He has finally found a place where he can move out on his own.  However during this time she worries about his bills, our sex life (she doesn't know we have sex and its a concern for her), his work e.g. him being late, and even his whereabouts. Its annoying. How do I handle this in subtle way and not hurt her feelings", "summary": "My mom treats my bf (21/m) like her kids and his being nosy and overbearing about his life. How did I do indirectly. subtly handle this without damaging anything?"}
{"id": "t3_2nb3mh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while attempting small talk with a hot new co-worker", "post": "It all happened so fast, and I still feel like I'm in a freeze frame of Picard facepalming himself.\n\nI was in the lunch room at my office at the time. I had taken a late break as I was pretty overwhelmed with my caseload. Two attractive women came into the lunch room and took their seats. One began heating up their lunch and the other unfolded a salad. It was only the three of us.\n\nThey were talking about god knows what, and I was flipping through the feeds on my phone. I was listening to their conversation which suddenly changed subjects - they began talking about relationships. \n\nNow, as 25 year old single white male (who's a god damn catch, I may add) I tuned into their discussion about their exes and this and that.. I don't really initiate that often, but I felt the need to say something because one of the girls was at least 6'2, and she was wearing flats... For a man like me that's 6'10 (yes), the rest could have been history. \n\nBecause I was the acting first aid attendant, I decided to use that to my advantage as the beautiful amazon woman approached the sink to clean her tupperwear.\n\n\"Careful with the knife in the sink there.\" I said, unfolding my tote bag.\n\n\"Yea I saw that there, thanks!\" She said.\n\n\"I'm the first aid attendant, prevention is key ya know.\" \n\nWe both smiled.\n\nThen I ruined everybody's day.\n\n\"So if you and your friend ever have any spontaneous bleeding or whatever, you just give me a shout!\"\n\nShe looked at me sideways, and didn't say anything.\n\nFuck.\n\nFuck.\n\nFUCK.\n\nI tried to play it cool... So I pretended I didn't realize what I said. I think the only blood problem in the room was all of mine rushing to my head. I was firetruck red. I hit the ejector seat and got the fuck out of there.\n\nBack to my busy ass caseload.\n\nHappy fucking Monday, Reddit.", "summary": "Offered to clean up a woman's period by accident."}
{"id": "t3_1onev4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF [20 M] Extremely new relationship, I'm not comfortable bringing him to my house yet", "post": "I'm a really private person,\nI don't like people knowing what I'm doing, and so, for that reason I'm not comfortable hanging out with him at my house, but he's been dropping hints that he already wants to meet my family and I'm just not there yet. I don't want to deal with the 10000 questions I'm going to get asked by my parents.   \n  \nI mean it's only been a week or so, I'm not being out of line or anything am I? Should I just suck it up and bring him home? :\\  \n  \nI've thought about asking him if he wants to go see a movie or something, but we're both really shy and don't like being in public places (I'd rather be in a public place than around my family just so you know how much more uncomfortable I'd be with the other option)", "summary": "I'm not ready to let my parents meet my bf.  "}
{"id": "t3_26mara", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (26F) wants sexual relations with another female but without me (27M) taking part or even present", "post": "So alittle baxk story. I've been with my wife since high school. We had are ups and downs, break ups, make ups, 2 kids, and we finally tied the knot last year. \n\nShe has had some female experimenting while I was in college and during break ups. So this isn't anything new.\n\nNow she is telling me she has been hiding this side of her to make me happy. We were having a little relationship problems mainly small stuff that we normally overcome but now she wants to break away from us to go do \"her thing\". She says I can go do what I want, just not in our bed but I think that's bs since we do have sex still (which is great on both side). \n\nI told her she can do it cuz otherwise she would not let go. She doesn't want another relationship it seems like just a fling. It bothers me though.\n\nThe main problem is that she is willing to throw away our entire life together for this. She has no plan in terms of money or housing for the kids but would take them away from me if she could. \n\nAnyone with similar situation or knowledge of this type of scenario? If so how did you handle it and what was the result?", "summary": "wife wants sex with girls without consequences of the effects on our family together. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2atpvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my [28 F] GF of 2.5 years. Debating on buying her a nice piece of jewelry (but not going to propose any time soon). Should I?", "post": "What are the unwritten \"rules\" of buying a girlfriend jewelry well before you plan on proposing to her?\n\nIn our 2.5 years and counting of being in a committed relationship, I love her and would one day like to marry her. I've even told her this much, but there are a lot of factors in both of our lives that would not make this the right time to move forward with that, likely at least for another year and a half (work + finishing grad school + temporary relocation issues). Money is somewhat tight, but I recently do have some extra cash I can comfortably spend.\n\nAnd though there are certainly things I would like to save for and buy for myself (new camera / lenses), part of me feels like I should buy something nice for her like a non-engagement ring, bracelet, earrings, or necklace. Something to make her feel like the special person she is to me. We have gone on vacations before, I take her out often, and I buy her nice gifts for all the holidays, but I have never really purchased any jewelry for her because she has seemed to have a lot from relatives of hers who passed away.\n\nI feel like maybe I should have bought her something already at this stage in the relationship, and that just because she has never asked for it or demanded (not her personality to do so) doesn't mean that it has never crossed her mind or that she hasn't wished for something.\nAnyone have any insight into this? I know it must sound so trivial, and I apologize for that\u2026 neither or us are materialistic at all, so that's ironically one of the sources of my stress with this matter.\n\nTHANKS!", "summary": "won't propose to her anytime soon, never bought her jewelry before, should i get her something nice in the mean time?"}
{"id": "t3_3w3awa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] think my GF [30F] still seems attached to her EX-BF or am I reading into it too much?", "post": "I have recently begun to suspect my girlfriend still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. I went into the relationship with the understanding that they were friends before they had a relationship so when things didn't work out with the relationship, they decided to continue to be friends. I was okay with it all in the beginning but now it seems like they talk all the time on FB and I've noticed that ever post my GF likes, he ends up liking very shortly after. It might not be anything and it may be just some insecurities of my own but I just thought I'd get the opinion of others before doing anything I'll regret. She assures me that he is just a friend when I ask her about it but I can't understand why they seem more connected now - especially considering we had been discussing marriage in the future.", "summary": "My GF still seems attached to her BF. She says he is just a friend and they still talk and every FB post she likes, he does too. Overthinking?"}
{"id": "t3_heqd2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst driving experience?", "post": "Worst one I had could have ended up with me shooting a guy. I was traveling in the far right lane of a 4 lane road. 2 lanes in each direction, when the driver next to me starts changing lanes. I am forced onto the 'shoulder' of this road when he suddenly starts blaring his horn and flipping me of. Traffic slows him down and I manage to get back on the road in front of him. There was know way in hell I was going to get behind this guy and let him be able to block me. Turning onto a road that runs along a mall. I turn left and see the offending SUV tuning towards me with the door opening. I slow down, grab my phone and prepare to dial 9-1-1 and pull my handgun from the glove compartment. Then I see the driver turn right and I drive a way a little shaken", "summary": "ass cuts me off and and he almost got shot"}
{"id": "t3_28tew6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (18) and I (M23) have just talked about the idea of a threesome, wat do.", "post": "We have been together for 1 year.\n\nWe basically entertained the idea of her making out with a girl (mutually), To discussing well we can't just bring a girl over and have her leave for us to have sex to, let me ask this girl if she wants to. \n\nThe girl that she asked initially said yes but now the next day is having doubts but hasn't said no. The girl in question is a good friend of hers so I'm assuming it's somebody she's comfortable with.\n\nNow I've never done this before so I have no idea where to start. But how do I approach the situation and let her know about somebody I might have in mind. I would want this someone to focus on her mainly so she doesn't think that I just want to have sex with other woman. \n\nI told her from the start if she is any way uncomfortable with this then we don't have to go through with it because I cherish our relationship more than a threesome.", "summary": "We want to have a threesome, girl she asked might back out, how do I let her know about somebody I have in mind."}
{"id": "t3_12qr1i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are you passionate about? What is an ethical dilemma that you think is important and should be brought to light? I need your help.", "post": "Hi! I think that some things in life are very important and should be discussed more. Everywhere. To make people reflect on their opinions and challenge their views. To evolve. \n\nThis could be anything. It could be equal rights of any kind, women and men, black and white, homosexual and heterosexual, or it could be animal rights. It could be religion, spirituality, atheism, or any kind of belief or view that can be challenged. Abortion? \n\nMy question to you is: What are you passionate about? You. Personally. What's important to you? \n\n- - - \nI want to make a video blog, on YouTube. And I want to challenge everyone's views. I want to change the world. I can, and I will. Even if I just make a difference to one person, or one animal before I leave this planet. I want to make a difference. This is what I live for. This is what I want to do with my life. \n\nI want my first video to be about something that a lot of people are passionate about. Because I am passionate about so many things and I want to share that with you. And I want to start out with a video that you would like to watch. Something that is important to you. \n\nAnd also just because I love hearing about what people are passionate about. Even if it's just a teeny tiny little thing from everyday life that you find important and significant and would like to share.\n\nOr just experiences. Life. Anything you would've liked to hear or see. \n\nAlso, this is my first time posting anything here. I usually just lurk around and vote. I just lost my Reddit virginity.", "summary": "\u2013 Read title. (and/or first part.)"}
{"id": "t3_3vfvj7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24M] stumbled upon diary of my GF [24 F] of 2 months, and read the last entry only. Seems she is still in love with her EX. What should I do?", "post": "Starting of this year October, we both kicked off with a casual relationship and had an agreement to stay in \"No commitment\" mode and see how it develops. It has been going pretty smooth between us. We both like each other and are comfortable around each other. Lately, I started developing more than \"No Commitment\" kind of feelings towards her. She seems to also acknowledge this.\n\nFew days back, before going to bed I found her diary just at the corner table and at First I did not know if its her personal diary or some kind of random notebook. So I started from the last page which was written last week. And what I found was that she wrote about her feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She broke up with him to have freedom and space ( that's what she told me). Now I just read this entry and closed the diary.\n\nSuddenly this feeling of insecurity creeped in and she could see from my face that something was now right with me. So I confronted her and told her that I read the last entry. Her reaction was also like \"Damn!! but whatever, now you know even more. \" \n\nAt first place, I should not read her personal stuff and specially not violate her personal space. But then now I regret reading that and second since then, my head is pretty clouded with this insecurity \" What if she catches up with her Ex and patches up?\"\n\nWhat should I do with the situation now? How can I make it right since she also has a doubt regarding me as iff I went through all her personal stuff. Reddit please help.", "summary": "Read personal diary of my relative new GF and came to know, she still has feelings for her EX and now don't know what to do and how to go about this pickle in the new relationship."}
{"id": "t3_17m5ki", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing an accident then driving away", "post": "So two days ago we had a massive rain storm, no big deal.  Well today it was followed up by a nice 5-6 inches of snow, which means that the roads were covered in snow and underneath was a nice layer of ice.  I was turning left at an intersection and must have hit the gas too hard and couldn't turn enough so I ran into a curb.  Well the car behind me had to swerve to avoid me and the car behind them hit their car.  Here's the thing I didn't know, I thought they were just waiting for me to move, so I drove away.  Well one of my co-workers saw and talked to the police and told them it was me.  I had to talk to an officer about it, and ever since I found out I feel awful.  I don't think I'll get charged with anything but I feel terrible for ruining two other people's day and damaging their cars.", "summary": "Slipped on ice, made an accident happen behind me that I didn't know about until 4 hours later."}
{"id": "t3_1hkndv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Posted for a friend (43/m) having trouble with new merged family with his new (39/f) wife.", "post": "My friend is not familiar with Reddit, so I am posting this to gather opinions for him to read.\n\n43/M married new wife (39/f) last March. Male brought 2 teen age daughters and female brought 2 teenage sons into relationship. The 2 teenage daughters are smart, respectful and absolutely love their daddy. The 2 sons are dropouts, potheads and disrespectful to their mother. The male doesnt really like to ever be around the boys, but tolerates them for the sake of the marriage. The female feels like the girls are ahead of her in their daddy's heart and she does not like to be around the girls.\n\nThis morning, they were discussing how bad they want to go to the beach when she replied with \"When we go, I want to relax and not be around bad attitudes or be rushed by anyone wanting to shop/eat/go, and if you are taking the girls, Im taking the boys\"\n\nHe is adamant that everyone will be miserable if they all go. \n\nOne thought is to tell her ok, we are going on the 28th, which day are yall going? The other thought is telling her that this is a tradition with his daughters and she is welcome to come, but the sons cannot go.\n\n**Any ideas on how he should deal with this?", "summary": "Newly merged family with polar opposite children want to go to the beach, but no one likes each other."}
{"id": "t3_iijp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible to stay friends with the ex after he cheated on me?", "post": "Backstory, I'll keep it as short as possible because it upsets me to think about it: My very recent ex (20M) and I (22F) had been dating for a year, he's spending the summer abroad, and he cheated on me three weeks ago. He told me immediately afterwards and we broke up. He and the other girl continued boning for a week and a half, when one day he realized that he still had feelings for me and broke it off with her, too. Right now, he tells me that he loves me and wants to be friends, and maybe in a few years we can get back together.\n\nIn moments of paranoia I'm convinced that he's still doing stuff with the other girl. I guess I can't trust him by this point. It has been a tumultuous three weeks, to say the least. \n\nIn an ideal world, I would like to be friends. We have great conversations about books, politics, and such, and I would hate to lose that relationship. More importantly, any romantic feelings I had for him are pretty much dead by this point. The thought of getting back together with him, even in the future, does not appeal to me in the least. \n\nHowever, I'm finding it increasingly difficult to be calm about this betrayal. Obviously, I'm really hurt. I also don't like the fact that even though he's apologized for what he did, he's being very defensive and concerned about his reputation with our mutual friends.\n\nSo the question I'm grappling with now is whether or not it's wise to stay friends with him. I'm the kind of person who can't burn bridges without feeling guilty for months afterwards--I don't know if this is a problem or what, but the guilt is a big motivator. But will forgiving him reassure him that what he did was okay? Will cutting him off now jeopardize any chances of being friends in the distant future? \n\nHas anyone else been able to stay friends in a situation like this before?", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me, wants to be friends. I don't like burning bridges so I'd rather stay friends, but the leftover hurt is muddling my thoughts on the matter."}
{"id": "t3_3b1h4i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/F] with my girlfriend[18 M/F] 5 months \"I want to be free\"", "post": "So, my girlfriend of 5 months, who has helped me through a lot of bad demons I used to have texted me claiming that she doesn't want a relationship right now. After hours of talking to her the most key things I could pull out of her was \n- \"I need space\"\n- \"I don't want to be tied down\"\n- \"Being in a relationship takes a toll\"\nand when I asked her how long it'll last or if we would ever get back together she says \"I don't know what the future will hold\"\n\nAnd the worst part about all of this is that she was doing this in a non-remorseful tone, monotone almost. She had absolutely no emotion and I asked why she doesn't seem like she's affected by it and she says that she probably will in a weeks time. I just want to also say that this was not her at all. I didn't feel like I was talking to her. Her and I connected more than anything or anyone else. She was my first and I was her's. \n\nI just don't know what to do. Should I give up completely? Should I wait? I'm scared to death to give up on her because she meant everything to me and still does. I just don't understand all of this and hope you can help me decipher it.", "summary": "Girlfriend says she needs space, relationships are stressful, doesn't know how long it'll last."}
{"id": "t3_1n488h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my girlfriend [20F] are torn over the idea of abortion.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together happily for over a year. We have sex probably 3-4 times a week, and we are very happy.\n\nEarly in our relationship, we established that in a worst case scenario, she would agree to an abortion. She also is on birth control, so I don't always use a condom.\n\nJust recently, she has changed her mind about abortion: she will not have one if she gets pregnant. \n\nMe and her are both going to college, and we both have jobs. I have tried to explain that I could not risk having a child without knowing it would be taken care of. I understand this is cruel, but I'm too young to handle a child, given where I am in life. \n\nWe are currently torn, and cannot agree. I feel this may be the end of our relationship, as I cannot risk having sex with her considering the slim possibility of my life being drastically changed by a child.\n\nPlease advise. I am torn.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are torn because she has changed her views on abortion. I can no longer risk having sex with her. Is this a deal breaker? "}
{"id": "t3_2xv8ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my boyfriend[26/M] 3 years, I think he is in love with someone else.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, things are mostly really great. He has a female friend that moved far away (across the country) when we first started dating - so I didnt know her very well. \n\nA year ago she came back for a visit. We went out to dinner with her and a bunch of people as sort of a \"Welcome Back\" thing. My boyfriend asked where she was staying while she was in town -- and she said \"I was hoping to stay with you...\" \n\nOk, fine, no problem. Im not happy about it, but hey, she's only in town for a day, she can crash on the couch. That night I went to bed and they were up until 5am laughing and talking. I felt like shit but I didn't say anything for fear of looking like a crazy jealous person. \n\nSince then, they text all the time. He always mentions how much he misses her. How she is one of his best friends. How she is soooooo nice and sooooooooo sweet. She moves back into the city for good next month and I am worried sick about it. \n\nI know he would never physically cheat on me... but I think he honestly wants to be with her. I am afraid to bring it up because he will think I am being crazy/jealous/stupid.\n\nDo I talk to him about it? How do I bring it up? Should I just leave it?", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is having an emotional affair with another girl, unsure if I should address it with him or leave it be and hope nothing comes of it."}
{"id": "t3_30l3oy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found sex pictures and videos on my(26/F) boyfriend's(30/M) laptop of he and his exs", "post": "Please don't lecture me...I'm scared to say anything because I know I shouldn't have looked through his computer.and now I don't know what to do...\nAnd sorry to post it again, something wrong with my old account..\n\nYesterday my boyfriend of 9 months was acting funny when I suggested that we should watch a TV show together on his laptop. He reluctantly entered the password and immediately changed his position to an angle so that I couldn't see the screen.\nLater, while he was sleeping I tried not to think about his weird/suspicious reaction, but couldn't help feeling curious. I found hundreds of sexual videos and pics of he and his exs in a hidden file on his laptop and the creating date of the file was few weeks ago just right after he told me his laptop had some problems and all his important pics were gone. Now that I know what he meant about the \"important pics and documents\".... Anyway either did he lie about his crashed computer or he just found a way to have all his files back.\n\nI understand keeping memories but sexual memories...? This kind of behavior really hurts my feeling and I feel like I've been betrayed. I feel like he lied right to my face again. I'm really uncomfortable knowing that he still has those videos and pictures of his exs. I don't know if I'm overreacting. I'm so hurt and confused. I think everyone deserves respect, loyalty in any relationship. Now I don't know if I should say something to him or not. What should I do and how do I bring it up........And I don't know how to confront him without upsetting him.", "summary": "Boyfriend has nude pics and videos of his Exs on his laptop."}
{"id": "t3_ga9sr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I convince someone to go forward about physical/emotional abuse?", "post": "I have a friend I met online over the summer (omegle of all places), and we've gotten closer since then. She lives on the east coast and I live on the west coast, but we talk every day.\n\nRecently (maybe a month or two ago) she told me that her ex used to hit her when they were dating (this scumbag cheated on her too, and is now currently dating the \"other woman\"). I asked her who knew about this, and I'm the only one she's told. No friends or family know about it. She didn't seem too keen to come forward even though I tried to convince her and she said it wasn't happening anymore and she was \"sure\" that he wasn't doing it to his new girlfriend, so I kind of dropped it.  I should mention both of them are 16.\n\nThen there was one time she was texting me saying that he mad and was going to come over and probably hit her. I told her to call the police, and she refused and said she could \"take it,\" and that she didn't think he would actually come over. Later she texted me and said it  \"wasn't that bad.\"  Obviously this is UNACCEPTABLE behavior.\n\nEven more: She's told me that he used to be extremely emotionally abusive as well, telling her she was worthless, and she should kill herself. She tells me more and more, and has also told me that he'll text her HUNDREDS OF TIMES without a response, many of those texts being her name, or saying \"why aren't you responding?\" He'll call her just to start arguments and call her worthless, ugly, and abuse her even more. This is all after they've broken up. Obviously this guy is (to put it lightly) fucking insane.\n\nThe reason I'm posting here is because she came forward today and told me he held her down and cut her with a knife once. This guy is a sick fuck. I need to get her to go forward about this, AT LEAST ending up with a restraining order, and best case with this guy in jail. He needs serious help.\n\nWhat can I do? How can I convince her? Who should she go forward to?", "summary": "Girl has been abused in the past and needs to go forward but refuses to. How to convince her?"}
{"id": "t3_grx9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend is extremely nervous about letting her parents know we're dating and it's affecting our plans for the summer. What do I do?", "post": "I'm male and 18. She's 18. We've been together for six months and we met over the internet via friends that introduced us. She's never had a relationship with someone \"in real life\" I guess; all her relationships have been through the internet. I on the other hand have had all my relationships \"in real life\".\n\nWe've talked about the idea of meeting up this summer (she's in England I'm in the US) and we can both find the funds. My girlfriend's offered to have me stay at her house since my parents aren't comfortable with us sleeping together in the same bedroom in their house.\n\nTo the point: My girlfriend has told me multiple times she's going to talk to her parents about it, but then she has a panic attack and just shuts down. We'll Skype and she'll just be either close to tears, pouting, or acting extremely anxious. She tells me she just feels so awful and wants to cry whenever she thinks about telling her parents.\n\nShe tells me she never tells her parents anything about her life and she wants to keep our relationship \"private\". I don't understand that at all and it really irks me because I personally enjoy letting other people know about my relationships, especially when they're wonderful!\n\nThe big issue here isn't just that it irks me, if we want to meet this summer, (which she's told me she does) she's going to need to tell her parents so I can have SOMEWHERE to stay (if her parents are even going to let her).", "summary": "My girlfriend I of six months met over the internet doesn't want to tell her parents about me because it makes her anxious as fuck, she does tell other people in her \"offline\" life about me, and if she doesn't tell her parents about us soon any chance we have of meeting up this summer (probably late July). WHAT DO I DO?"}
{"id": "t3_etc37", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "When is the tone of an encounter set?", "post": "I recently had a (f)riend of mine over, with the entire house to myself and what I thought was an... Enticing circumstance. We are both in our first years of college, and the year before we had gotten fairly close... But nothing had ever come of it.\n\nSo, I had mutually appreciated music playing, some plant matter to consume as we are wont to do, and a comfortable spot for things to get intimate, should they take that course. My question concerns events immediately after she arrived and the rest of the time we spent together. \n\nWe hugged when I first opened the door, shared a little small talk on the way down the stairs, and then I went to the sink to get a glass of water. As far as I can tell, it was at this point about 30 seconds in when she stood the closest to me, looked at me right, and just generally seemed... Anticipatory. It came on so fast that I think this may have been the point I missed my chance.\n\nThe rest of the afternoon went well, smoking, going through music, just sort of catching up. After about an hour I'd started to lose hope, but eventually the music got turned off entirely, and we were just sitting, facing each other, talking, and I started to twist my hair, just to do something with my hands... And she did the same, until I stopped, which she did too. As I understand, this is a fairly good indication of interest. I wanted to tell her how I had missed her and make my move, but... It just felt like the 'tone' was wrong. This too, may have been my mistake. I'm really not sure.\n\nMy question is essentially did I blow it in the first minute because I was caught off guard, or did I miss an obvious opportunity later on because I psyched myself out?", "summary": "I have a friend over, fail at an undetermined point and do not get happy. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_4s78e6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/M) want to take a day off work without upsetting my (3?/M) boss.", "post": "So I work a 0 hour contract cause duty manager, so they ask me to work when they need me to. \n\nMy partner has exams this week and wants me to take a day off to help them relax before the exam. I'm fine with doing this, my boss not so much.\n\nThere are 3 managers, one is already on holiday all week and I have had to take on all his shifts. I already got Tuesday off work but want to get Thursday as well, if I don't my total hours for the week is 45 hours. I don't want to do that many.\n\nBut I feel like if I say \"I can't work Thursday cause I don't want to\" my boss will get angry and reduce my hours or just be disgruntled towards me at work. \n\nWhat would be a good reason to say why I can't work? Also I live in the UK.", "summary": "what should I say to my boss to get a day off work without him being annoyed at me?"}
{"id": "t3_2y9blm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my crush [21 F], crushin for a few months, she's attention hungry but ignores it, advise?", "post": "This girl that I used to work with and I became friends. She's really attractive but she does weird things to get attention. (posting a semi nude to 'mystory' on SC) or other things. I think she does it so boys will get all hot and heavy and start texting her, paying attention to her... \n\nSo I don't really know what to do. I obviously give her attention when she does crazy things like that, like I'm sure many others guys are doing. But when shes not doing crazy stuff like that should I work on giving her attention even when she's not asking for it? Sometimes when I do she never texts back or tries to respond and I find that very frustrating, I don't know if I should just drop it or she's playing some kind of small puppy card. \n\nWe have allot of fun together and I know that she finds me attractive, and I really want to get with her because it would be really fun for the both of us. I just don't know what I should do. Should I try and quench her attention thirst consistently even if she ignores me, or wait tell she asks for it?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Girl wants attention, sometimes when I give it to her I get nothing in return. Seeks attention in strange ways. Should I give her attention consistently, even if it means she ignores me, or wait tell she asks for it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ekpvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(15f) Dad Slapped My Ass...", "post": "I use my dad's phone to text my boyfriend. I found a message from \"Circleville High School\". A conversation. It was the woman I assume my dad has been cheating on my step mom with, since Circleville High School was on his contacts list for over a year, long before he and My stepmom even filed for divorce.\n\n Another conversation was from our cousin. We'll call her Marie. Marie and my dad have a weirdly close relationship. I don't mean best buds, I mean like lovers. They hang out all the time. \n\n So my dad texted her stuff like how he's horny, hasn't had sex in over a month, they're already accused of sleeping together, and what sounds like him hitting on her. At one point he mentioned getting in her pants. \nThey're blood related. I wouldn't have been so concerned about my dad doing this until I read this chat log. It makes me think he's OKAY with incest.\n\n He seemed to be joking when he slapped my butt, not an accident for sure. I yelled at him to stop. He walked away. I don't know if he was sexually advancing on me, or if he really was just playing around. He's never sexually or physically abused me. He seems to care a lot about me. \n\n Do you think he was really just joking around? Or do you think he was acting inappropriately? \nI'm really upset about it. It happened about two hours ago and its making me feel sad. I also don't know if it's okay, since I am his daughter. Or if it's not, because of the reasons.", "summary": "Found texts between my dad and My cousin, sounding like he's hitting on her. My dad slapped my ass in a seemingly joking manner."}
{"id": "t3_2tdie7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am not sure what is and is not appropriate contact with my ex boyfriend [22M]", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. Two years ago (early 2013) my boyfriend, who I had been dating for a year at the time, accidentally got me pregnant. I was 17. I had an abortion, I didn't want one. It was the worst fucking thing that ever happened to me and I still struggle with almost every day. It wasn't easy for him either, but to be honest he handled the whole thing horribly and I will always resent him over that. I forgave him and we continued the relationship but the resentment is still there. I never told anyone about what happened; he's the only one in my life who knows. \n\nFast forward to late 2014. I broke up with him last month for a number of reasons. He wasn't happy, obviously, and we haven't spoken. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to talk. I still love him a lot but our relationship just didn't work. Anyway. The anniversary of the abortion is coming up, and all of these horrible feelings are resurfacing. I really need to talk about what happened, and my ex is really the only person who understands. It was our child after all. But I don't know if it would be appropriate to contact him. \n\nI'm not in therapy, I can't afford it, I don't have insurance. I run in a very conservative social circle and can't talk to friends and family about it. But I need to talk about this, it's killing me. And I feel like talking would benefit both of us. But I don't want to be the crazy emotional woman who inappropriately contacts her ex. I should add that he was my first relationship and this is my first break up so I'm still figuring out how to treat someone who you were close to for a long time.", "summary": "Had an abortion, want to talk to ex about our child, but he's upset with me. Not sure if contact is appropriate."}
{"id": "t3_2qssr7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F27) boyfriend of a yr and a half (M28) mother introduced me as his friend at his grandfather memorial service", "post": "My boyfriend(m 28) and I(f26) have been together for a year and a half. We always solve our problems and this is the only major thing that we have came across. \nI was originally supposed to spend this past weekend with my boyfriend's family out of town for Christmas, but plans were changed when his grandfather died. So, I went to the memorial service with him. I always try to give his mother the benefit of the doubt when i interact with her however this weekend was very difficult for me. \n\nFirst on Saturday night his mother has a tantrum over a bow and stormed out of his grandmothers house causing a scene. This caused boyfriend to get irritated and then have to calm everyone else down. he is used to her antics but this just really did not set well with him. the second thing that really bothered me is when we were visiting with everyone before the memorial service she would introduce me as his friend. I did not correct her or say anything because I just wanted to keep the peace until the end of the service. the third thing that she did this weekend was that even when I tried to initiate conversion she only said maybe two sentence to me. \n\nBoyfriend is aware of how she treats me and does not like but said that he does not want to be blamed for the way she treats me if he says something her. He also stated he thinks she introduced me as his friend just to get under mine and his skin.  I try to be civil and very nice with her I am now at the end of my rope on how to handle her.", "summary": "My (F27) boyfriend's (M28) mother introduced me as his friend at his grandfather memorial service and has never really liked me, how do I have a civil relationship with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3blgp7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my best friend I like her", "post": "I was talking to my friend and then suddenly the topic of love lives came up. She then proceeded to ask me who I liked and I was going through my thoughts to see if it would be worth it to tell her that she is the one I liked. I reasoned that it would be. I told her. She said alright. Now, so is likely ignoring me as she cancelled our plans to hang out tomorrow and does not respond to any of my texts or calls anymore. I regret this so much right now. (On the other hand I might just be paranoid because I like her, note: I am a boy, she is a girl, could I make it anymore obvious)", "summary": "I told my friend I like her she now be ignoring me"}
{"id": "t3_1q4p23", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [20/f] get over my ex boyfriend[20/m]?", "post": "I dated this boy for the past 3 years, and were best friends for the entire year before. We started dating our senior year of college and then spent two years long distance at different schools, but were madly in love. we spent every vacation together and talked about getting married and having a life together. After my sophomore year, I transferred to a school across the country. (He encouraged me to, it was really the best decision for me.) He spent the entire summer living with me because he had an internship, and it was the very best summer of my life. We decided to have an open relationship when he left, because we knew that the distance would be unbearable. But it slowly started becoming more and more like a breakup. (mutual.) I am still crazy in love with him, and I know that he loves me, we are just so far. There is a boy here at my new school who is fantastic and wants to date me, but I know i cant do that to him. And on top of everything, my ex (still close friend) is dating a new girl after a month and a half, and i found out on reddit. Reddit, what can I do to stop thinking about him?", "summary": "my ex of basically 4 years has a new gf after a month and a half of being broken up. our relationship only ended because of distance. how do i get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_4o4hr2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I continue living with my roommate?", "post": "Hello /r/advice,\n\nI have a roommate that I've been very good friends with throughout college.  We are looking to move to a place that is cheaper, and along the transition of doing so, we will be moving back to our respective homes until we find a place.\n\nMy roommate is very unclean and tends to get loud due to gaming with a headset (likes to yell and whatnot) and we've received multiple noise complaints from neighbors.  It does not seem to affect him.\n\nHe also has a problem with money, and makes poor financial decisions.  Some months he is short on rent, and I must provide for him in order to avoid eviction from our landlord.  There's times when he's claimed to be broke, only to spend $20 on delivered hot wings for dinner.\n\nI've given him a lot of time and effort.  I give him advice, both with life and with money, in order to help him grow as a person.  But is this doing too much for someone?\n\nWith a regular stranger roommate, I assume this is easier.  But this being my friend, how do I go about this?", "summary": "roommate is messy, always broke, and extremely dependent on me to pick up after him.  Unsure if I should live with him or not"}
{"id": "t3_3kn1cn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [22F] and I[24M] can't seem too admit our relashionship is over after 5 years.", "post": "For a very long time I was a shitty human being and met a girl that fixed almost every problem she could was willing to stand by my side. For whatever reasons I could muster, multiple times I cheated on her and broke her heart. We stayed together and each time managed  to rebuilt a little part of our foundation and continue on with our lives.\n\n Through all this we managed to be graced with a child, now 2, that I feel is a large part of why we are still together. We both love our son very much and want what's best for him. Often times I feel this is a good enough reason. Because of our child we do our best and have managed too keep him safe and happy this far.\n\n But at the same time. We no longer look at each other the same. We don't entrust secrets or much else too each other like we used too once upon a time. We exists almost like roommates sharing a bed. We still say the \"I love yous\" and call each other babe but it doesn't feel like anything but the routine.\n\n Am I crazy too think that maybe sticking around has the hope just big enough to follow that I can keep the woman of my dreams? Or have I spent too long destroying her heart that no good can come of it?", "summary": "I spent a long time destroying a person but I don't know if there's hope to fix it even though that's all I want."}
{"id": "t3_3mzsc3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by opening Tumblr in school", "post": "This happened less than two hours ago. I'm beyond mortified. Pardon if the formatting is awkward or wrong, this is my first post.\n\nWe were sitting in band, listening to our director talk about a fundraiser we are hosting this week. I got bored of his presentation and decided to open Tumblr. \nNow, I'm pretty careful about what I open in school. Every day, when I arrive, I usually open up snapchat or something so that I can turn down the media volume on my phone. However, I was slightly late to school and forgot to do this today.\nFast forward to band, and I open Tumblr. I see a vine on the dashboard, but I don't click on it because I didn't want it to make noise. Suddenly, I hear loud sexual moaning coming from my phone. I didn't click on a single thing. I started freaking out and trying to hide my phone. I exited the app, but the moaning didn't stop. I locked my phone and it still didn't stop. At this point, all my friends are almost dying with laughter and I can't get the sound of people having sex to stop coming from my phone. I opened my phone and quickly turned down the volume as quick as possible. The moaning stopped. My friends are doubled over in laughter and I'm too embarrassed to open my eyes. Everyone within ten feet of me heard it. I'm mortified.", "summary": "opened tumblr during a class meeting, audio from some porn video started playing loudly, panic and can't turn it off for a good thirty seconds."}
{"id": "t3_288y5n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Just wanted to vent about this", "post": "I don't have anybody to vent about things that upset me about my relationship with my girlfriend, so that is why I wanted to post this. My mom, my girlfriend, and I currently live in a apartment. At this point my girlfriend is moving out mostly because my mom stresses her out, which is understandable. I would get my own apartment too but currently I'm a student and have a job that doesn't make enough to pay rent on my own (hoping to get another job so I can). Anyways what been happening is that when we're with my girlfriends friends/other people, they'll ask why she is moving. She responds with \"I don't like living here, miss my family, not enough jobs, don't like the city, his mom stresses me out\" and so on and so fourth, now the problem is not that I disagree with her because I do agree with what she says (I'm happy she'll be closer to her family). What upsets me is that she never mentions anything about missing me or having a hard time making this choice because of me, in fact everybody but her has said something like \"ya but you'll miss your boyfriend, or how about you guys look at some apartments together\". I mentioned this once to her and she said that ya she'll miss me and didn't want to move but her actions/words to everybody but me says the opposite (not a hard choice for her).", "summary": "Girlfriend is moving and says to everybody that it's because her living situation doesn't work for her. I agree but I'm hurt that she never mentions about it being a difficult choice."}
{"id": "t3_2ok81o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's a quirky, EYE-CATCHING YouTube music channel name? Winner will be rewarded!", "post": "Friends and I thinking of starting a new deep house/techno music channel on YouTube (yes I'm aware lots already exist...) but as a group we already have a significant fanbase (8000 combined followers on soundcloud) and decent access to new and unreleased material. \n\nWebsite design in the making and we've put together a plan for forthcoming uploads but WHAT WE LACK IS A QUIRKY, EYE-CATCHING AND PUNNY/WITTY NAME. Our leading suggestions are Grade-A, K-Major, CarpeDiem and  Synthetique Sound..so I put it to you, my lovely Redditors..What's the best you've got?! All suggestions welcome, winning suggestor will feature on the website.", "summary": "new and witty music channel name needed, puns intended. Winning suggestion REWARDED"}
{"id": "t3_2fn326", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have trouble looking past my [23F] girlfriend's previous long term relationships [4 mo].", "post": "I've been dating this girl four months. Her best friend is the wife of my brother's best friend. It's safe to say that we love one another. We truly enjoy each other's company, we treat one another with respect and trust, we agree on just about everything, we have a healthy sexual relationship, and her family is fond of me and vice versa.\n\nI met her in high school when I was an acquaintance of her first long term boyfriend. He's long since out of the picture considering it was ~8 years ago. \n\nHowever, she has been in relationships pretty much continuously since she was 15. I've had two long term relationships; both lasted between a year and a half and three years. The last long term relationship I was a couple years ago. \n\nShe was single for one year before we started dating. But previous to that she was in a number of long term relationships - each of them lasting 2 or more years. She says she has always been faithful to her boyfriends, and I absolutely believe her. \n\nWe sometimes talk about how good we are for one another, and about our future together. However, I have trouble believing I really am significant. We've only been together a fraction of the time she was with any of them. I sometimes think about the sex she had with all of them (although I know I shouldn't), and I worry that maybe she falls in love too easily. She says she was single the past year because she was tired of dating guys that didn't treat her right, but stayed with them because it was \"comfortable\".\n\nHer past two boyfriends were heavy into marijuana and other drug use (dealers). Last night she said she stayed with both of them because it was easy for her to get weed through them. We were both pretty heavy into drug use for years, but we've both since discontinued all drug use aside from drinking.\n\nShe treats me very well, and I love her, and I want this to last. But how can I convince myself that the way she is comfortable with me is any healthier or different than the way she was comfortable with the rest of them?", "summary": "I would like to find a way to rationalize the fact that my girlfriend has been in numerous long term sexual relationships before dating me."}
{"id": "t3_3r1x5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) boyfriend (26m) of 3 years refuses to get tested.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We started having unprotected sex maybe 2 months after we were together (I have an IUD) because he said he got tested when he had his physical for the fire department. Long story short, a short while ago he told me he had slept with probably 40 girls unprotected throughout his life and he \"was pretty sure\" that he had been tested by the fire department. I have been tested since we were together and I am negative, but I still want him to get tested. \n\nHe says there is no need to because we have been together for 3 years and \"something would have shown up by now\". He also still thinks he had testing through the fire department. He doesn't have insurance. After a few fights he has agreed to get tested but keeps putting it off. Even after I pointed him in the direction of a free clinic. What do I do? I feel like an idiot and I don't understand why he is being so difficult.", "summary": "boyfriend of 3 years told me he's slept with 40+ girls unprotected and is being difficult about getting tested."}
{"id": "t3_1kvhn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29/M] am f*cking lost", "post": "I got divorced last year.  I [29/M] found out she [29/F] was not entirely faithful and moved out.  She didn't know that I know so the divorce wasn't a fight, so no major problems there.  After rebuilding everything in my life from scratch (housing, car, diet, medical, career, finances) and finally reaching stability and independence again I want to date.  \n\nI've tried and I'm fucking lost.  I haven't a clue how to talk to women outside of professional or family interactions and my extended family has noticed that I'm even awkward in talking to anyone at all outside of immediate family which wasn't a problem before.  After watching me interact with a coworker who was interested in me another coworker remarked that it was like watching someone who hurt their hands try to tie shoelaces (the exact quote was \"Some dumb shit who juggled hot charcoal briquettes try to fuckin' tie their boots\").  I don't know what to do .  I work overnights and usually worked 60+ hours a week, but I'm in the slow season and am unable to do what the same coworker said \"bury myself in work\".   I did the online dating thing and never had replies.  I'm lost here.  Hope somebody has a fuckin' map and compass?", "summary": "I got hurt a lot.  Pretty burned and need solid advice."}
{"id": "t3_2nq3pf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend's [25M] dad [~50M] is dying and I [25M] have no idea what to do/say, I feel like a bad friend.", "post": "So over a year ago my best friend's dad got really sick.  Completely unexpected, and the condition has just been getting worse.  My friend is the type of person to avoid confrontations, and so am I.   We both are kind of emotionally unavailable people.\n\nWe've talked about the situation briefly, I try not to talk about it too much, but I know it's all that's on his mind.  He will try to have fun when we go out, but he isn't the same person.  I totally do not blame him, if I was in his position I wouldn't even be going out...\n\nHe is always so bummed, I just don't know how to help him.  Distracting him is just not working out, and bringing it up always bums him out even more.  I want to be a good friend, but I don't know what to do to make him feel better.  His dad is probably never coming back and he is basically living my worst nightmare... how do I help him???", "summary": "my best friend is losing his beloved dad and I'm being a shitty friend because I don't know how to deal with these kinds of situations because I've never been an empathetical person"}
{"id": "t3_2tz8q1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [31/F] dating and introvert [40/M] Help me?!", "post": "How would you describe your dating process?\n\nI'm dating an introvert right now and it's a COMPLETELY different experience. I've never texted so much in my life! LOL\n\nWe talk all the time and we've been on 4 dates but the last 3 dates have been \"couch dates\" (We didn't actually go anywhere). I'm sort of a homebody myself so I'm fine with. I just like being with him. He makes me conformable and he says my eyes makes him comfortable, too.\n\nDo you fine it difficult to keep asking a girl out if you know you don't want to be around people?\n\nWould you be put off if a women starts inviting you to her place after the 4th date because she knows you don't want to go places?\n\nDo you enjoy a women who is straight forward (asking you out more)?\n\nWhat are some places that you WILL go to and be comfortable?\n\nAre you only touchy on a women if you really like her (when we are together he can't keep his hands off me)?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Dating an introvert, it's tough, help!"}
{"id": "t3_19ix1p", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "New Dog Old Cat HELP", "post": "I have a 7 year old cat. He has lived with dogs before and they all got along fine, just ignored each other. I had a dog keep showing up at work and was malnourished so I took her home. I didn't have the heart to leave her. She is a lab/pit mix and is 10Mo old. Full of energy and is obsessed with interacting with the cat. The cat is pissed. So far I have left the dog in our sun room until she becomes more potty trained (big tiled room) but eventually they are going to have to coexist. Any suggestions on how to guide that path?", "summary": "My cat doesn't get along with my new dog, they keep fighting. What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_4wp7fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F23) am being blamed by me friends (M25) and their girlfriends (F19) for something I haven't done. What do I do?!", "post": "I am a 22 year old female who had been good friends with 2 brothers for over 6 years now, the eldest one 25 has had a girlfriend for 2 years and we have always got along fine never had any issues before, we have been on holidays together and everything. The younger brother 23 has newly got a girlfriend who is bestfriends with the older brothers girlfriend. This is when things became a problem the girls began to publicly ignore me, at a friends birthday they made a scene going around tell everyone that all I want to do is sleep with the boys. (Which I found hurtful considering I've slept with 1 person my whole life). After all this went down I started recieving messages from a fake account which told me that stay away from the boys and are rude and abusive. They just go on about how the boys don't want my friendship and that they will do whatever it takes for me to not be friends with the boys. I have told the boys about them and at first they were supportive this has now gone on for months and now the boys and have turned around and think I'm sending the messages to myself!! The boys even made up rumours about my little sister saying it came from the girls cause they thought I would send it to myself in a message! These girls are so manipulative I don't know how the make the boys believe I'm not sending the message to myself, it is the most hurtful thing I have ever been through. People blaming me for something I would never do and I don't know what to do about it or how to make them believe me! It's literally pulling my life apart how is it fair that I loose 2 friends and get the blame for this horrible immature act. Please what should I do?! I'm over feeling horrible for something I haven't done!", "summary": "My friends are blaming me for something I didn't do. I'm not sure how to go about it or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_ggn31", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need reddit's advice on starting my own small business", "post": "Hey reddit, \n\nMe and my cousin had the opportunity to pair with a small factory (very local based) that makes leather belts. I planned to sell them in an office-worker-heavy city and planned my target market for leather belts as men age 25-65 and \"fashion\" type belts to be girls 11-26. Currently building the website and online store, but I don't have it quite yet. Really considering selling to other retail stores but I have no idea how to approach them. \n\nI don't know how to actually start selling. How to get the word out and inform people that I actually have these for sale. Any advice for a poor business startup?", "summary": "Advice on how to help me with a small startup? Thanks for your help, I appreciate it."}
{"id": "t3_dm23c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Website ideas? I just bought TurtleOnSpeed.com", "post": "I had the name in mind for a while and finally decided to buy it yesterday. Right now I just have a Joomla powered site up with some of my short stories, apps etc. on it but I have other sites with some of the content and I'm a little bored with it. Do you guys have any suggestions on what kind of content would match the domain name? BTW I'm not a very skilled web designer, it's not my occupation (hence Joomla). Also, if you visit the site, go easy on me. I've only been working on it for a couple hours.", "summary": "I bought TurtleOnSpeed.com, what type of content would match the domain name?"}
{"id": "t3_2uczy2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] want to tell a girl I really like/love [17 F] that I love her. Where should I tell her, on Facebook or at her house?", "post": "So basically, I have two options here I guess: \n\nOr I tell her somewhere this week that I love her on Facebook (because that's were we will chat most of the time), or I tell her face to face at her place when i happens to be there (let me point out that the minimum duration of my time there is one sleep on the couch with no way going back if things awkwardly backfire). \n\nI basically met her back in October, and since then, she seemed unattracted to me. But as things went on, we're hugging, she says I am cool, she says he like me, and that she likes when I hug her (also, when I say I'll hug her on FB, she goes all yaay). \n\nSince it's valentine's day soon, I guess it's no surprise I'd like to make good use of it.\n\nSo what's your opinion on this. What should I choose, from your personal experience. I'll take any tips and advices too, thanks in advance.", "summary": "Facebook or face to face?"}
{"id": "t3_20kwjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21F] having problems with my boyfriend[25M] of 4 years and his porn habits. Am I just being too sensitive?", "post": "I don't care if he watches porn, everyone does it. Lately, I feel like he has been watching it more often, even when I'm in the next room. I get that sometimes it's just faster and hassle free but I've walked in on him more this week than I have in our entire relationship. \n\nI told him how it's been making me feel inadequate because I feel like he prefers the look of the stars over my body. I'm not fat or ugly, but I'm not a model. He apologized for making me feel that way and that he didn't mean to, but then I walked in on him again the next day twice. We didn't have any romantic time for 2 weeks, even though I would try to initiate to no avail. One night, he even left the bedroom and watched porn in the living room.\n\nIf he wants sexy times, why doesn't he just do it with me instead? I have body issues and I've tried to keep that in mind while (over)analyzing this situation, but it's difficult.\n\nAm I being too sensitive or am I right to feel this way?", "summary": "Bf has been watching more porn than usual and I'm feeling inadequate. Am I being stupid and sensitive about this?"}
{"id": "t3_v3z1i", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My bf's mom basically hates me.......", "post": "Im a soon to be 20/f. It's been about 9 months since me and my ex of two years broke up but that is irrelevant. Recently I start dating this guy who is the same age as I am. We hit it off instantly and things started to progress really quickly, faster than im use to. \n\nThe problem comes in when I went over to his a while ago and one thing let to another and we ended up sleeping together. Im not easy or anything but it just seemed right and I know he really cares about me.\n\nWell afterwards we are on the couch playing videos games (me wrapped in his sheets basically naked) and his dad comes home early. He did not seem that mad or anything but he told us to get dressed and I was asked to leave. After that he texts me saying he really didn't get in trouble.\n\nFast forward a few weeks and we haven't hung out since and I don't hear from as much. I come to find out that his brother told his mom about the incident and she has basically banned him from seeing me for who knows how long.\n\nThat was a month ago and nothing has changed. As you all know not hanging or going out is really putting a strain on the relationship. On top of that it is just me and mom so family is very important to me and im just unsure if I should continue seeing some who's mother dislikes me enough to basically try to ruin our relationship.\n\nWhat do you think I should do Reddit?", "summary": "1) Bf's mother has banned us from seeing each other and 2) should I continue a relationship with someone knowing I may never really be accepted by his mom"}
{"id": "t3_50jmtf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] lost a friend [18f] to her control freak boyfriend [18m]", "post": "It started from a possible misunderstanding a couple of weeks ago.  She said clearly she broke up with her bf at the time.\n  Just now, I asked her to hang out AS A FRIEND over text, and she said she has to ask her boyfriend about that.  I took a wrong step (a stupid one) by asking her didn't she break up. Her boyfriend immediately called me with her phone and asked me to f off. I tried to reason with him and told him to give her the phone back, I also told him that she is 18 and should be making her decisions by herself. \n  His replies include \"Shes my girlfriend and I can do whatever I want.\" and some other curses that are directed to me personally. I clarified that I was just being friendly but he would not listen to me.\n  A minute later i find all my contacts (facebook, phone etc.) blocked by her (possibly her boyfriend since I have known her for quite a bit of time and were still having conversations the day before).\n  I do recognize that it was my fault that caused this mess, and I did apologize later but got no reply since I was blocked. \nJust to clarify that I had completely no intention in starting a relationship with her and was only trying to be friendly to a friend.\n  It would be really kind for anyone who would care to help me, thanks a ton!", "summary": "I asked her to hang out as a FRIEND but her boyfriend wouldn't let her and blocked all my contact"}
{"id": "t3_dlxou", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have an Avoidant Personality Disorder?", "post": "Do you avoid getting close to people because if they knew the real you they'd reject you? So what. Is rejection really that bad? Why not get out there and get rejected a bunch of times, it can't be worse than sitting around all day reading lame posts like this one. We only have one life, perhaps it's better to face your fears than let them take control of you. \nHint: if you do have a trunk full of horrible demons then it's best to keep these bastards caged - if these demons are out of control then let your partner know about them, because sooner or later they will find out about them.  IF they are under control then they do not need to be spoken of. See my problem is, I'm forever alone because I'm trapped in the catch 22 where my chemical balance is somewhat balanced by feeding the demons - when I don't, I become horribly depressed and even more withdrawn (nobody wants to be around someone who exhibits massive cravings and withdrawal symptoms).  I guess my solution is to do a 90 day detox and then get out there and replace the demons with humanity.", "summary": "why do you have an avoidant personality disorder and what, if anything, will you do to rejoin humanity? Do you immediately reject someone when they get too close to you?"}
{"id": "t3_3nbavw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [21 F] tell my best friend [21 M] that I have feelings for him!", "post": "He's my best friend, we have so much in common, we are so comfortable with each other and we have so much fun together. \n\nLast year he told me he had feelings for me. But I'm kind of slow and didn't feel the same way at the time and turned him down (even though I did like him a little at the time). I told him no because I didn't think it was fair of me to string him along if I didn't think my feelings were as strong as his feelings. \n\nFor the past several months I've realized that I do indeed have feelings for him. But now I feel like its too late...\n\nI need you guys to kick my ass and encourage me to not be so scared and just tell him. \n\nEven if he says no, it just feels like a huge burden to keep it to myself.", "summary": "Help encourage me to tell my best friend how I feel. I'm too scared!!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_4pxauk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking a door with a broken lock", "post": "This happened two days ago.\n    \nI was having a few friends over for a local festival and some of us decided to go out drinking.    The rest stay at home and one of my friends locks my door to stop the rest of the gang from waking us when they get home.\nThe lock on the door to my room has been broken for a while and me being stupid didn't remove the lock.\nThe morning after I wake up by my friend trying to unlock the door and I realize immediately was has happened.\nWe try for a while to unlock the door until the key breaks. We are now stuck in a room on the second floor and can't get out.\nLuckily I had a drill in my room and manage to drill around the lock until we could kick the door in.\nPictures of the aftermath: [Broken door](\n\nI also broke my phone at the festival, so all in all a good weekend.", "summary": "A friend locked my door and I had to drill holes around the lock and kick the door in."}
{"id": "t3_35514e", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I lost my hobbies with time and don't find what I want to do.", "post": "I will try my best to explain:\n\nNo money and no jobs ( get hit by a car 1 year ago ... ) , I'm trying everyday to get back my passion in many hobbies or wish I could get some ... I have many debts for my age ( 21 M ) and I can't even pay something to me or my GF. Also, mostly all my left body is painful , my arm , leg and shoulder get hit on the impact.\n\n I'm feeling like someone who lose interest quickly. \nI'm an artist , or I was. I'm good at drawing and making art stuff. but this hobbies look dead , everytime I tried , nothing satisfy me.\nI make studies in wood crafting ( or making wood furniture ) sometime I would go back in this , but this is soo expensive to bought equipments and I don't remember how to sharp some wood tools...\n \n\nReading was one too , but now , I'm feeling like wasting my time when I can watch a TV show than reading a book.\n\nI can't do sport ( not until the next year ) and when I'm trying to get in shape , I don't get the motivation to keep going ... since my accident I win 40 lbs , at least my GF find me comfortable.\n\nThe only thing I have some fun ( or not ) is playing video game. I have many retro console and many games on PC ... but it look a waste of time . But this is the only thing I can easily do during my day. \n\nI wish I could return to school soon , but without money, I can't.\nMany thing change since the accident but the only hobbies I found is watching movie ( my last one was Total Recall with Arnold , gods that was great )\nI'm still looking about what I want to do in my live , cabinetmaker is not what I want , working in a animation studio is an ideal ... but I lose interest in drawing. I tried many school ( 4 on 3 years ) and nothing.", "summary": "! Had an accident 1year ago , lose interest in some hobbies and forgot what I want to do in my live."}
{"id": "t3_1t42yd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My ex-friend (f21) still hates me (f22)", "post": "We were friends at high school. My best friend drunkkissed at a party and later it turned out she was in love with him. She was really mad at me.\nA year later, she got in a relationship with him (I lost him as a friend), now three years later they're still together, but she's still mad at me. I have a boyfriend as well, so it's not like she has a reason to be scared I would \"steal her boyfriend\".\n\n First I was sad to loose her as a friend. But lately I don't really bother...\n\n...But when we're at parties together, she leaves, or stops speaking, because of me. None of our mutual friends understand why she's still mad but, but they all notice her being mad (so I'm not crazy). She ruins the party not just for me or herself, but for our mutual friends as well.\nOnce she found out her boyfriend was at the same party as me, she called him and made him go home. I feel sad for him.\n\nI know I can't fix their relationship, but I wish I could go to a party, without ruin the evening for other people.\n\nI have a party this weekend, what can I do?", "summary": "ex-friend hates me and her anger ruins parties for our mutual friends"}
{"id": "t3_2m31mb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17M] begin a relationship with someone [17F] if I know it will become a LDR?", "post": "Hey guys,\nThis is the first time I have posted to this subreddit so bear with me,\nI'm 17 and I've not had a girlfriend yet. That's not the reason I'm posting this. Basically, I have met this girl through my work and we're really hitting it off. I feel like I want to take this further but in August we're both going to different universities (about 1 hour 30 mins from each other). I don't know whether to go further if I know I'm only gonna be able to be with her \"full time\" for a year or so, and I really think this could work.", "summary": "Should I go forward with a relationship if I know we're only going to have a certain amount of time in the same city"}
{"id": "t3_4w5wee", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Would you feel rejected? Male 36 Female 45", "post": "Here is the story. A female and I are friends for 2 years.  Over the years, we gave each other clues we like each other more than friends but nothing came out of it.  \n\n3 weeks ago we were hanging out. A lot of bottles of wine was consumed between us,and we started to make out for the first time.  Making out as in a lot of kissing with tongue , hugging and touching of bodies of the non sexual parts. About 30 minutes in, she said \"I want to feel you.\" Initially I thought this as having intercourse but wasn't sure. i asked, \"you mean have sex?\"\n\nApparently me asking this killed the mood for her. I don't feel I was wrong for asking because we were both still pretty buzzed and since I felt she was out if it, I had to ask. No intercourse happen that night but would you, as a female, feel rejected or have any other negative feelings based on my actions?", "summary": "Female and I were drunk making out. Felt she wanted sex but was unsure so asked for clarification. Mood was killed."}
{"id": "t3_2s4r6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F18] get upset too easily over small problems with my boyfriend [18], what can I do to help myself and our relationship?", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year and we haven't had any significant problems. Usually small problems we can talk through and feel better about afterwards. For quite a while recently, when he brings up a problem, I get very emotional and cry.\n\n He's told me that it makes communication difficult with me being so sensitive, but honestly problems that I know are minor still upset me to the point of crying and I can't help it. I try to fight it as long as I can but I can't help getting so emotional. \n\nI really want to stop being so upset over small problems but it's very hard for me. If it is of any help, I've been on birth control for about 2 years that has given me waves of anxiety, depression, and other problems for quite a while. I am planning on switching my birth control soon, but could this be the problem? \n\nThank you in advance for your responses", "summary": "get too emotional too easily and is causing problems with communication in relationships"}
{"id": "t3_16q35x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Highschool Senior male (me) dating Freshman Girl?", "post": "So there is this freshman girl who moved into the house right across the road from me just over a year ago. I've actually had my eye on for a little bit, and actually had the courage to walk up to her in the morning on Tuesday whilst walking to the bus stop. We seemed to have hit it off, though I've only talked to her to and from the bus since Tuesday and Today (Wednesday), but so far everything is well. We've only had small talk, such as how we're doing in school, how she likes the neighborhood, and other general school stuff. I actually switched my seat from mine to hers on the bus ride to school which she seemed to be OK with.\n\n**Now here's what my question is**: How will I be able to tell if this 14 year old girl is interested in me (17)? I'm willing to be that there's other guys that are probably interested in her though, but I am not sure if she has a boyfriend. I have been told by other girls that I am cute / attractive, so I think I have that going for me, but I'm not sure if she is interested in me. \n \nI have yet to get her phone number, and I don't think she has a facebook, but she seems pretty chill so far. And another plus is that she lives right across the street, so I would be able to see her whenever. I haven't had any relationships my whole High School career, so I was hoping you guys could help me with this! Thanks!", "summary": "How can I tell if this freshman girl is interested in me and not some of her other guy friends that she has already made?"}
{"id": "t3_1eu2qp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] have 'creeped out' my fiance [23F] and don't know how to fix things.", "post": "So my fiance [23F] of 3 years and I [M23] were recently at a dinner with some of her friends.\nAmong those friends was a friend to whom I'll refer as Belany.\n\nBelany organized everything, and was essentially the hostess of the evening.\n\nShe has a habit of dressing, in the most polite of versions, scantily.\n\nNow, being a Hank Hill of a male, it made me very uncomfortable and self conscious to be sitting at the same table as Belany. I did my best to be as sociable and polite as possible throughout the dinner, despite my discomfort.\n\nAfter we left the dinner, I confessed to my fiance that I was very uncomfortable throughout the dinner due to Belany's attire. I told her how I did my best not to let my discomfort either show or ruin the dinner for anybody. 'Was I OK throughout dinner, my love?'\n\nBefore I know it, my fiance has used her superior knowledge and understanding of the English Language to convince me that I'm a creep, that I'm somehow sexually in love with Belany, and that I have bad hair to boot. She behaved as if I had, to a lesser degree, cheated on her.\nJust to be clear, I'm a one-woman man. I'll remove my own manhood before I ever do anything unfaithful towards my future wife.\n\nAm I a bad person? I certainly didn't think so, but the way my fiance received the news that I was uncomfortable during dinner, you'd think I just left her and our first born child to go play the slots in Vegas.\nWhat's the best way to handle this?", "summary": "My [23F] fiance is very creeped out and thinks I'm [23M] some form of pervert for being made uncomfortable throughout dinner by the way one of her friends dressed."}
{"id": "t3_usxow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my girlfriend is graduating college, and her closest friends decided to plan a week long trip out west without her. Graduation only happens once, how can I cheer her up?", "post": "Friend drama seems like a really small problem, and I understand that. That being said, She hasn't exactly had the greatest life before school (drugs, homelessness, divorce) but did well enough to get herself into an Ivy League University, where she moved the fuck away and immersed herself in a new life. At various points, due to depression or anxiety, she'd cut herself off from the people she was closest to, and now that her friends seem to be cementing their post-grad relationships without her, I worry about how she's going to be able to handle things.\nI don't want college graduation to be a bad experience for her, but I really don't know how to make light of the situation. Any Ideas?", "summary": "girlfriend ditched by friends on eve of graduation, how make better?"}
{"id": "t3_3l9bk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself (16M) needs help with 2 friends (16M) and (16F)", "post": "Typing this on mobile, so please excuse any formatting errors.\n\nSo my male friend, let's call him James, is someone I consider to be one of my best friends. We are both in our final 2 years of high school and have attended the same school for the last 5 years. He decided to complete high school in another institution, for the sole reason that our school didn't offer the subjects he wanted to pursue.\n\nThe school he ended up going to was where most of his female friends from elementary school attended, so he knew quite a few of them.\n\nOne of them, let's call her Alexa, used to be really good friends with James in elementary school, so once he went to her school, they started talking again. I am friends with Alexa on Facebook, but I never really spoke to her before a few hours ago. Alexa sent me a text saying she was interested in James, and wanted advice on how to get him interested. Of course she asked for me to keep it a secret. \n\nSo I told James that she messaged me on Facebook (which is probably where I screwed up to begin with), and he said she asked him for my number. He knows we never really talked before, so he knew that she wanted to ask me about him.\n\nSo at this point I am in a bit of a dilemma. Alexa wants me to keep it secret from James that she likes him, but on the other hand he wants to know what she asked. Besides, he is one of my best friends, and I would feel really bad lying to him.", "summary": "Girl is interested in best friend       and told me, but asked that I keep it a secret. Best friend wants to know what she said to me."}
{"id": "t3_3rh0ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] unsure of girlfriend [23 F] of 3months motivations and if I'm wasting my time or not.", "post": "3 months ago I met this girl on a dating site and we just hit it off.  Shes really pretty, my type, we have the same sort of interests it just worked. \n\nWe dated, took it slow as we met online and wasnt sure what level of crazy to expect (took about 3 weeks to sleep with her). It was all ice cream on the beach, dinner, movies, shows, theme parks, I think I do well at the dating thing anyway.. \n\nNow, the one thing we've never done is go on a 'night out', clubbing.. getting drunk in bars, parties, whatever. Though she does tend to do this nearly every weekend with her friends. Not wanting to be the controlling /jealous type I just rolled with it, we see eachother a few times a week doing other stuff and text everyday so for a new relationship it felt normal/healthy. \n\nAt least it did until lately, I kept trying to do that sort of stuff with her and see that side of her but she keeps making excuses and saying she doesnt want to go out, but then does with her friends(male and female). I have got her out with me in the past but often says she doesnt want to get too drunk because shes seeing friends the day after so cuts it short. \n\nI have spoke to her about it in a calm way and it didnt seem to get my anywhere. It was more blustery excuses and nothings come about as a result, Im just not sure how to progress. \n\nShe says shes really lucky to be with me and seems to genuinely really like me, I just dont get why we're getting stuck onthis point. I have no issues with hanging out with her friends or her with mine, either. \n\nAs a side note, shes had trouble with the contraceptive implant so we arent intimate that often, she says she'll get it removed to solve this soon. \n\nSorry this isnt a juicy cheating story, well.. yet anyway.", "summary": "My girlfriend only goes on nights out with her friends, Im concerned about it, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_13z39i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(18 m&f) Shitty situation, and I can't seem to find a way to help.", "post": "We've known each other about a month. She admitted she liked me, and I did too. She told me she wants to date, but isn't ready for a relationship because she still has feelings for her ex and doesn't want to rush into anything. I said cool. We've made out, no further.\n\nLast night, I was hanging with some guy friends and they started talking about how she's banged everyone, saying some other shitty stuff and I left feeling a bit sick. I went over to her and told her what they said (honesty is the best policy?), she was, understandably incredibly hurt and crying the whole time. She told me to leave but I stayed and told her I like her for who she is, not what she might has or hasn't done. I told her it doesn't change anything, and that she shouldn't care what they think, and I don't either.\n\nShe didn't say much, just crying. Today I text her asking how she is and if there's anything I can do, she says she's sick, and nothing I can do, but she thanked me.\n\nShe texts me and I try to make small talk. I end up making a shitty joke relating to a paper we both have to write, trying to lighten the mood. She sends me a paragraph saying how she's going through so much and feels so scared and is crying and asks if I really think that's appropriate (what I said). I apologized and got no reply.\n\nI think I was pretty insensitive. I feel pretty lost. I feel like shit. I didn't sleep last night, and I've been feeling stressed all day thinking of her. I can't seem to help. Should I just give her space? Let her contact me when the times right? Talk to her? Say what? I don't know.", "summary": "I wish I was better at this. This too shall pass."}
{"id": "t3_1ursv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] Kissed My Gay Best Friend [23M]", "post": "My best friend and I jokingly kissed under the mistletoe during Christmas Eve, and ever since then he's been acting very strangely. He's become possessive and jealous of other people, and has been calling and texting more often than usual.\n\nI asked him what the matter was, and he told me he was expecting us to progress into couple status. \n\nProblem 1: He has a boyfriend. As I've mentioned, he's gay.\n\nProblem 2: I have no feelings for him whatsoever.\n\nWe've already had a fight about it because he raised his voice at me while I was trying to reason with him. \n\nWhat do I do, Reddit? Please help!", "summary": "I kissed my gay best friend, and now he has feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_wg8o6", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I don't know how to cut off contact completely. Support?", "post": "Throwaway because hell, he uses reddit as much as I do.\n\nWe were friends for 7 years, together for a year,  we broke up in what was the messiest breakup sequence ever (feelings everywhere). We decided it was best to go back to being friends. A few weeks into being friends I decided that it was hurting too much so I just needed a little time because I knew he was still a good guy. Some weeks later we try to hang out again and we can't. *He* can't. He said he felt horrible and just couldn't. We decided to cut off all contact but I'm crushed. He said it was 3 years before he started talking to his ex again. 3 years without him in my life? He was my best friend. And all of our friends our mutual. Small towns suck. We can't go anywhere without running the risk of seeing each other. I've been crying all night because I lost a friend because of some stupid relationship. I feel horrible and I don't know how to go about this the right way. Help?", "summary": "Best friends turn into couple, couple breaks up, tries to be friends again, doesn't work. Need help with having no contact."}
{"id": "t3_500664", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Forgot the vastness of Disney awesomeness.", "post": "Let me start by saying I don't intend to start some political agenda argument about the conglomerate known as Disney.....\n\nAll I came here to say is my son just recently turned 2 and has come to love almost all things Disney, ranging from Mary Poppins (Pop-Pop as he would say) to new ones like the Good Dino. \nHaving seen a ton of these in my childhood and now researching them I get to experience how awesome these movies are all over again. \n\nAnd for the record as a 31 yo man I still nearly have an emotional breakdown every time we watch The Good Dino (that circle around the family).....", "summary": "son turned 2; likes Disney/animated movies and I get to also enjoy them again...which is awesome."}
{"id": "t3_4nb8c1", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need Help to Effectively Use Tug as Primary Reward", "post": "I have a 6 month old high energy BC x Blue Heeler mix. I have been working with him a lot and I utilize a multitude of training styles. Here are some things I have learned about his so far: 1) he will participate in training that uses food, although the best way to describe his effort is half-ass. 2) He is completely disinterested in ball play of every kind. 3) He absolutely LOVES to play tug. \n\nMy issue is primarily with new behaviors. After a fair amount of tether training, he responds very well to a leash for behavior modification. He wears a leash almost all the time, and when he is misbehaving, I simply pull the slack out of the leash and he understands that as an effective redirect. I am reluctant to use the leash in \"trick\" or \"task\" training because he is most responsive to it in low drive situations and I chose a high drive dog for a reason, not so that I can train some energy out of him.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience training individual behaviors unrelated to tug by using tug as a reward? Using a clicker is difficult because of my tug structure, he only grabs the tug when told. It plays out like this. Dog does desired behavior, click, dog is given the bite command, dog gets his play reward of tugging, then dog is clearly confused. When I have the tug, he is extremely motivated, but I am struggling a bit.\n\nSo far I have been training behaviors with the clicker and food (which is less than effective because he is not interested enough to really lure and he is not motivated enough to simply offer behaviors for shaping) and once I get the behavior remotely reliable then I begin to have dog do behavior during a tug session. His behaviors end up reliable, but sloppy.", "summary": "dog is most motivated by tug, I struggle to effectively use clicker w/ tug, training ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_tyv4q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone hovers over me when I'm trying to work on something. Anyone else feel this way?", "post": "It's always bothered me when I'm trying to work on something and someone is standing behind me just breathing down my neck. It's particularly annoying when I'm using the computer, doing homework, or playing video games. I was wondering if this is just my weird pet peeve or if other people feel this way, feel free to rant and tell stories. \n\nI can kick start this with my own story I guess. Basically I'm writing this post because I was just trying to assemble some new furniture I bought at home. I wanted to work on it alone, but my mom kept insisting on helping. After I told her I didn't need help and she could go relax, she just sat there staring at me and watching me work. It drove me crazy, but I couldn't say anything since she technically was just sitting there harmlessly.", "summary": "= Do you also hate it when people stand behind or around you and breathe down your neck when you are trying to do something?"}
{"id": "t3_27fqvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 F] been friends for 5 years, stuck in friend zone and not sure what to do?", "post": "So, I have been friends with this girl for many years though high school. We both understand each other clearly and have had many great times together. But lately I ran into a problem. After being friends with this girl for many years and understanding her, I learned to grow feelings for her. We had a thing going on for a while, but it just died out, and things became awkward. Few days later, I figure out that she likes someone else. So my first though is to myself, \"welcome to the friendzone\". So, being the self centered person I am, I kinda just broke away from her and stopped talking to her. Its been 3 weeks of practically ignoring her completely with only short sentences like \"hey\" and \"bye\". But ever since I started ignoring her, shes been all over me. This includes her telling my friend that she \"misses our friendship\" I have no idea what to do with this whole situation now. Do I continue ignoring her and try getting over myself? Do I confess my feelings for her even though she likes someone else? This girl is really important to me and I don't want her to just disappear, but at the same time im not the kind of guy to just sit around the friendzone. Any advice you could give me?", "summary": "I like my friend but she doesn't feel the same way, should I keep her as a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_fc3x0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can any anti-facebook redditors help me out?", "post": "I decided to quit facebook. I am a male 23-year-old college student, and I was wasting way too much time on facebook. Do any of you know of some good anti-facebook websites or material? I have found a few blogs etc. but I would like to find out more.\n\nI am interested in any studies or articles related to the effects of facebook on people my age and on communication in general. Facebook-is-the-man-and-is-taking-over-the-world type information would also be interesting to me.\n\nI haven't deleted my account completely because it is the only way that I am in touch with some friends who live in different parts of Mexico. My plan is to get some of them to start using email or something. My profile pic is blank and I left a message. Email and SMS notifications are now deleted. I also used a host-hack on my laptop to redirect facebook.com to Google so that I don't ever get on the site.\n\nAnd to anyone else who has quit facebook: What do you do with the extra time you now have? I plan on learning how to cook. Thanks for your input!", "summary": "I'm done with facebook. Tell me your quit facebook stories and give me more anti-facebook information please!"}
{"id": "t3_2a6alj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with married [36M] duration, going on a \"trip\" together.", "post": "I want to start by saying that I have no intention of doing the unthinkable, regardless of what he tells me about his marriage. I see it as no more than harmless flirting. \n \nSome background: I can't go into too much detail or I'll give personal details away. I'm basically on a 24 month internship with two other students and we just shadow our seniors for the 2 years.  \n\nWe've known each other for just over a year and both spoken about what's going on between us (nothing physical at all, just emotional or mental) and agreed that in another life it would've been great. The problem is that I've worked really hard on a piece of work that I am going to present at a conference. I secured a presentation a year ago and he has always been the supervisor of my work. The conference is in another country for six days (separate hotel rooms) and I can't help but feel that this is going to turn into some kind of couple's trip and I feel...I don't know, dirty I guess. I've asked my sister to come along \"to see me present\" but she's busy so declined.  \n\nI just don't want to feel like I'm doing something wrong, when I'm not.", "summary": "Going on a conference with my supervisor who I also have a mutual crush on and who is also married."}
{"id": "t3_16yz2e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the weirdest \"It's not what it looks like\" situation you've been in?", "post": "Here's my story;\nSo, the other day, me and my buddy, we'll call him Jeff, decided to start drinking at 5pm. Jeff has a few too many pints and starts falling asleep/ shouting occasionally. Y'all know how it is. It gets to about 8.30pm and I decide to take Jeff home. He tells me he's recently moved in to his Aunt's house 20min bus away. Now I knew he'd lived somewhere else over the summer so I wasn't too sure about this but I wasn't entirely sober, and I wanted to get back home. So, not knowing if he's telling the truth or not, we get to this house. Jeff picks out the keys from under a brick and opens the front door. I ask him one more time, \"Are you sure this is your Aunts house?\" he simply replies, \"No. It's Hal's mum's house\" and walks in and disappears inside this house.\n\nNow, I have never been to this house, it's pitch black and I need to pee. I walk inside and close the door behind me, I can't find any of the light switches so I get out the flash from my phone, and use it as a torch. I walk into the first room on the left, kitchen. On the right, living room. As I'm walking back towards the hall, the front door opens and a middle-aged woman just stares at me in shock. \n\nThe only thing I can think of saying is, \"It's not what it looks like\"", "summary": "Went to a house my drunk friend led me to. Friend disappears. Can't find any light switches. Use my phone flashlight. Home owner (stranger to me) walks in and obviously assumes I'm a burglar."}
{"id": "t3_35bpfb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Emptying fuel tank(?) and feeling like a big crap", "post": "Hello runnit!\n\nYesterday in the morning i ran 26km (16miles) with stable averaging pace 5.28min/km (8.5min/mile) and i was feeling exhausted, but really great, no real pain in joints or something, but exhausted. After 3hours of recovery, lots of food eaten and little nap i went for light rock climbing; it was really light, but it still wasn't sitting or lying down. \nToday's morning i was feeling good, just little exhaustion in lower legs, so i decided i gonna go for a run this afternoon. For first 4km (2.5 miles) it was really cool, was averaging my usual 10k pace 4.30min/km (6.90min/mile), but after that, suddenly i started to feel like a big crap, got a little dizzy and had to slow down by ~30s/km, but after like few minutes this feeling went away, but i decided to just finish this run at 6km mark - better safe than sorry. Little more background: i run 35-45mpw (started to increase mileage last month), last week i did 22km (13.5 miles) followed by 11km (6.8 miles) next day with super easy pace and those two days went really nice and pain-free, but a little exhausting.\n\nI am wondering... Does it mean i pushed myself too hard today and emptied my carb storage and body had to take little time to switch to burning fat? Or what could be the reason? Is it start of this popular 'wall' that begginer marathoners are often hitting? \nI'd love to read your experiences with similiar situations :-)", "summary": "ran 26km followed by 6km next day, started feeling like crap at 4th km, probably had problems with amount of energy storaged."}
{"id": "t3_2pktgl", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Don't smoke in the dorms", "post": "Hello /r/college,\n\nJust a", "summary": "get a vape"}
{"id": "t3_2v98ma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30M] girlfriend [21F] of a year wants to have a threesome with another guy. Doesn't believe I'm willing to try due to me being cheated on previously.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are VERY open with our sexual likes and dislikes and I recently became aware that she's always wanted to have a threesome with two guys. Nobody in particular, just a normal threesome fantasy.\n\nAt first I was pretty hesitant of the idea, due to being cheated on in a previous relationship (she's aware). But I've always been pretty open minded and honest with myself, so I thought about it for a bit and actually took the idea into consideration. After getting over the thought that I might lose her, or that it was because I'm not satisfying her anymore, I actually started liking it. The problem is that she doesn't believe me and thinks that I only want to do it for her. The last time I brought it up she said it was seriously starting to weird her out and that she wanted to end the conversation. I didn't know how to respond to that, so I agreed.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to have a threesome with another guy. I'm hesitant at first due to being cheated on previously. I have a change of heart and really want to try it now too. She doesn't believe me and talking about it makes her feel weird."}
{"id": "t3_4zmrbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Her (23F) ex (23M) is apparently her best friend", "post": "So I (24M) just started seeing this woman. We have been hitting it off fairly well. Up until she mentioned that she is best friends with her ex boyfriend from 5 years ago.\n\nShe claims there is no physical attraction and they are just friends. I creeped this guy on Facebook and yea... I'm straight and even I felt some movement in my jeans. The guy is jacked and decently good looking.\n\nThe rough background behind how they split up was he moved across the country while she stayed put. She claims they just grew apart out of the relationship. Something smells fishy here.\n\nHe also still lives on the other side of the country, but he visits every Christmas. And they usually hang out quite often when he is back. She also claims they haven't hooked up since their split up. And despite the distance, they are somehow still fairly close.\n\nShe also immediately messaged him after our first date telling him about me.\n\nOther details: - they dated for 4 years - their relationship was sexual\n\nWould appreciate if a female could enlighten me on this particular situation!! Thanks!", "summary": "Girl I just started seeing claims she is only best friends with her ex from 5 years ago. Their relationship was sexual."}
{"id": "t3_1stbza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] I need some advice with a girl I like [23f]", "post": "---So here it goes, I've gone on about 7 dates with this women, we'll call her K, for the sake of this post. I'm 25 (M) K Is 23. K and I went to the same high school so I've known her a bit prior.. So here's where I need help.. Everything's great we talk all the time, she tells me she \"likes\" me a lot, that I make her laugh, and that I'm handsome. On my end I think K is perfect she is classy, funny, beautiful, pretty much the total package and a girl I'd love to date exclusively. \n\nK is an RN (registered nurse) and works nights and I'm a small restaurateur owner/manger. She works nights I work days. That's fine. All of the other girls that I was seeing and talking I've very quickly stop talking to them in favor of K. But here's the problem K still goes on dates with other guys, gets hit on non stop on Facebook.. She doesn't lie about it, she just says she has plans with another \"friend\" and then a couple hours later in my news feed I'll see K with whoever all over each other.. It's not that I'm jealous, I just don't know what to do... I. Don't wanna throw the \"boyfriend\" thing out there cause I don't wanna ruin what we have, but I also don't wanna continue making my feelings stronger if she doesn't  want an LTR.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "think I found the girl of my dreams , but  I think she's still looking."}
{"id": "t3_2fywnx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my boyfriend [18 M] I think he got upset because I wouldn't let him read my text?", "post": "So I really hate anyone reading my texts and also because I had really really old texts with exs from months ago tha I dont want him to read(I never delete texts =_= and we've only been going out for a few days) To the point where not even my best friend could read her own texts on my phone that she sent me.he was playing on my phone and was about to read my messages when I told him no and he seemed sort of upset. \nDo you think i was wrong on my part? Should I let him? I mean I have no problem with giving him passwords on facebook and such if he was to ask but my phone is just something I hate sharing.\nI just hate it because I did use to get my phone checked by my parents up till 15 years old and it always just felt weird and I hated the check so whenever someone tried to go through my phone thats what it feels like so I just kind of freak out and get all weird about it still.", "summary": "boyfriend got mad because i wouldnt let him read my texts"}
{"id": "t3_1mripq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F23) can't get along with my partner's (M23) mates.", "post": "My partner and I have a very very different group of friends. And I've never in my life acquainted with people like his friends. I'm not saying they are bad people or anything but we just don't seem to click. We come from different backgrounds, have different hobbies and interests and think very differently. They are also mainly rich kids who don't work hard for anything. The girls are mostly materialistic bitches who ask money from the bfs to buy branded stuff. The boys are lazy bums who dont have proper jobs/ just slacking off in uni.\n\nI tried to be nice to his friends (boys and girls) when we first started dating but it didn't turn out very well. \n\nThey are just... not friendly and sometimes even come off a tad rude to me. I find their lack of manners extremely annoying. Pretty much every time I went over to my partner's place (which he shares with his mates), they just blatantly ignored my existence. Not even a hi, not even a smile. They just looked away and pretended that I don't exist. They only talk to me when they are asking for favours. I tried to talk to my partner about it but he just shrugged it off - They have different upbringing/ they are just shy/ you'll get used to them.\n\nI don't mind his friends that much if not only my partner try so hard to make me 'blend in'. He tries to make me go for all of their gatherings and such but I find myself dreading more and more to attend. I know his ex-gf used to follow him everywhere he goes but I'm not that kinda girl. Call me intolerable, judgemental, all you want but I am not comfortable hanging out with them. And I can feel that they dont like me that much too. \n\ni know its crazy but sometimes i even think about ending our one year relationships because of his friends. He's nothing like them. He's really nice and hardworking but I can feel that when I'm not watching him, he starts to drift away. He's starting to be like them. And it's also fucking annoying when he makes me hang out with them all the time.", "summary": "I just fucking hate my partner's mates."}
{"id": "t3_2mmhlo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (53F) suspect guy I'm seeing (53M) might have been sexually abused as a child", "post": "Been seeing him on just a friendly basis for about a year, but lately we have been growing closer and in the last couple of months there have been movements toward physical intimacy (lying down on his bed together, snuggling, hugging and kissing on the lips). A few times things have seemed to be going further ('petting'), but I haven't pressed it because he seems to 'go away' when it happens. \n\nI myself am a sexual abuse survivor and have done years of therapy to get over it. There are other things about his behavior that make me worry he might have been abused, but I'm not sure if I'm seeing something that isn't there. He has an older brother who is under investigation for child porn, and some time ago he mentioned in passing that he'd never had sex without being under the influence drugs or alcohol (this was way in the past, he has since stopped using both). \n\nMy question is, how do I bring this up, or should I even try? I haven't told him I know about his brother, I only found out about it because I was Googling him one night and found an article about the brother. It's not just this one night of 'freezing up,' there are other things that, now that I think about them, make me wonder if there is some sexual trauma in his past. What do, reddit?", "summary": "suspect possible boyfriend may have been sexually abused, don't know whether/how to address"}
{"id": "t3_xcl9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one of the strangest reactions you've gotten to a seemingly innocent act you've done? I'll go first.", "post": "Today I'm driving to my local Mobil station to get a snickers bar. There is state road construction in the area, and traffic can get a little hectic. The entrance to the Mobil is inaccessible, due to said traffic, so my plan is to pull into the lot next to the Mobil and walk. I drive a smallish car, and I used it to my advantage to go between a curb and a guy in an older minivan, very tight squeeze, but no harm, no foul. As I'm pulling onto the street behind the Mobil, the driver of said minivan LOSES HIS FUCKIN SHIT and is half out the passenger window, flipping me off and cursing. Okay, no biggie. I park in the previously mentioned lot and walk to the store, as I'm doing so, here comes minivan guy asking me \"what the fuck I think I'm doing\" I replied \"getting a Snickers bar\" and went inside. Pay for the candy, walk back to my car in the adjoining lot, and lo and behold, there's minivan guy blocking my egress. Finally I asked him what he wanted, he replies \"an apology\" At this point, I've had enough, I told him \"sorry you drive a minivan\" haha. Guy FLIPS SHIT, and tears off yelling \"you'll be sorry for that!\" I get in my car, and leave in the opposite direction of which he went. Pull onto the major road to head home, sure as shit, there he is, pulls out of a Lowes that's also right there, and proceeds to drive 20 mph, directly in front of me, all the while throwing a ridiculous amount of trash out the window, presumably at me. Again, taking advantage of the fact that I drive a smallish car, I ditch him at the signal, letting him go through, I stop and make a right turn, into my neighborhood, and pull my car in the garage. He has driven past my house at least twice now, searching in vain for the Snickers eating asshole that I am. I considered alerting the local constabulary, but am unsure of what I'd report. I assume the mentally ill minivan pilot will eventually lose interest.", "summary": "Crazy guy chased me today because I went around (behind?) him in traffic."}
{"id": "t3_35qmlt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [18F] of 2.5 years and Space?", "post": "The first year of college brought in the second year of my relationship with my S/O times were tough with her new found freedom being out from under her household rules (strict parents). We grew and argued and dealt with the stress as I did everything I could to help conform to the new schedule she faced with school\n\nSecond semester rolls in and the partying stops however its all school all the time, rarely does she open up to me about the stress or the issues shes feeling with us, it takes mountains of efforts to get her to share any details... the last couple of weeks at school we are happy as could be getting everything perfectly after a long term\n\nNow that we are home we began to argue over something trivial and I asked my SO to come and clearly explain and make effort to fix the issues at hand, however 4 days later and a ruined date she FINALLY gave the explanation of the situation(which wouldve been minor). However now shes saying shes annoyed with me and says she needs space, that she tired of how i make her feel when i get frustrated with her and that I belittle her. \n\nI made and effort to take full responsibility as to stop the fighitng but shes been out and about taking her \"space\" ignoring texts and not talking to me, stating shes unsure if we can fix this relationship\n\nHonestly Just looking for some help, its hard to not talk to someone you spent everyday for 2 years talking too\n\nTDLR: Growing pains, How to handle Space, Advice.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1292o5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How much effort? [Male 17]", "post": "A little background first. I'm a senior in highschool and I have a friend who I have been fairly close with since 8th grade. I've always thought she was attractive. She graduated last year but hasn't left town yet. I hardly ever see her or talk to her anymore, none of us from my friend group do. See, she hardly ever  initiates contact with anyone. She never texts anyone first, and she only replies to invites now and then. She can be cold and distant. I can respect that but at the same time its really hard for me to put all the effort into something like this. However, when we do hang out I have a lot of fun and I think she does too. Anyways, the other night she came to watch our last soccer game of the season and afterwards we sat in my car switching between making out and just sitting and talking. Same thing happened the other night when i went over to her house to watch a movie. I got the feeling that she enjoyed herself. Since then I've texted her first twice and after awhile both conversations died and she quit replying. Like i said earlier she never texts me first. So my question is should I keep trying to establish a relationship or is it a lost cause? and is it normal for one person to put more effort than the other?", "summary": "I am attracted to a friend that is distant at times. I put most the effort into our friendship, should I put any effort into establishing a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1eq1qu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest revenge that you have ever heard of?", "post": "When I graduated high school in 1981, my father thought it was time to tell me this story.  In circa 1970, he was working building [this bridge] ( in the middle of Idaho's wilderness as the [Dwarshak damn] ( was being completed.  The bridge was and still is remote.  All of the workers lived in a makeshift community of camper trailers at the water's edge.  \nA coworker had been telling lies to the boss about my father, as he tells it.  Fed up, my father approached the man and told him that if he said one more thing to the boss about him, he would be sorry.  Sure enough, another complaint was made to the boss.  My father took a [front loader] ( dug a hole at the building site, yanked the man's camper trailer out of its lot and dumped it in the hole.  Then, covered the hole, packed it down so it looked like the rest of the construction site and parked the front loader.  The man went back to his camp spot and there was nothing there.  He could not afford a new camper so he moved back to wherever he came from and the problem was solved.  The wrecked trailer is a couple hundred feet below the lake.", "summary": "My father helped some guy move."}
{"id": "t3_1lgzfl", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job hopper, expecting another offer next week. Can I possibly jump ship again?", "post": "I'm in my early 30's, made a career switch about 4.5 years ago, and am rising up in my field. However, I've developed a history of job hopping. Through a variety or circumstances (all of them my choice - never fired), here is my employment record the last 6 years, and the reason I left (or why I am considering leaving current job):\n\nJob A: 6 months (left to purse 'dream job')\nJob B: 9 months (ended up being shitty, 100% travel, far from dream job. returned to previous employer in a new role/career change)\nJob C: 2 years, 3 months (maxed out my role/pay, moved on and up)\nJob D: 9 months (job was non-existent, no work, fear of being laid of daily)\nJob E (present): 18 months (maxed out role and pay, boss is a psycho/disrespectful and abusive)\n\nAdditionally, 6 months ago I received my master's in my current field, which is what's making me expand my horizons.  FWIW, I have always gotten good reviews and have been seen as an easy person to work with. I just do not tolerate being bored or underpaid.\n\nI am now expecting a job offer in the next week that would pay me about 50% more than I make now, and really does represent everything I want in a job. Great boss, culture, location, etc. I can really see myself riding this out for a while. However, I am terrified of switching jobs again, since if this doesn't work out for some reason than I am somewhat screwed with my resume. \n\nThe plus side is I am in a tech-ish field (not IT, more like tech training) and I don't think it's a huge deal to bounce that much in my field. \n\nShould I even be considering moving on again, or should I sit tight for another 18 months to at least beef up my history?", "summary": "Job hopper expecting job offer - should I take it or keep building up experience?"}
{"id": "t3_46q1fg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [21 M] liked his ex-girlfriend's profile picture. This would be fine, if he was normally never active on Facebook and doesn't even like my pictures.", "post": "This seems like such a juvenile question to ask, I'm 21 for gods sake. But I need some reassurance that either I'm being the crazy jealous girlfriend, or this is a little worrying.\n\nI've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for about a year, it's getting really tough honestly. I love him, I know he loves me, but we hardly get to see each other/talk now because we are planning to be together in about 6 months. He is working A LOT at the moment and I am feeling quite neglected.\n\nNow to the actual question I have. Because we have been talking so little, for some reason today I just wanted to go on his FB profile. It kinda makes me feel more connected, being able to see our tagged pictures together (posted by me) and whatever else. I rarely go on his wall because he is VERY inactive on FB, we talk on there but other than that he doesn't regularly post and I never ever see him liking friends pictures, mine included.\n\nHowever, I saw in his \"top\" friends (those ones that come up when you click on the profile) his ex girlfriend. It's late and I was bored, so I had a little stalk I figured would be harmless. Then I saw he had liked her most recent profile picture (a selfie, no friends or anyone else in them) from about the beginning of the month.\n\nI know this should be fine and I know I'm most likely overreacting, but I need clarification because I haven't seen him EVER liking even his closest friends pictures. Not even mine. I don't really know what to think, and I don't want to be the crazy girlfriend that confronts him about it if it's me overthinking.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very inactive on FB and doesn't post or like anything, including my stuff, recently found a selfie of his ex that he had liked. I think I'm overreacting, but it's his normal inactivity and then this that worries me."}
{"id": "t3_l3qpn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Been swapping messages with cute guy, but is his interest waning?", "post": "Me: F, 21, grad student. Him, M, 25, grad student. \n\nWe met through swing dancing, as I was one of the few girls who was really good at his favorite style. He started FB messaging me in a flirtatious manner about two weeks ago and I flirted right back. We sent silly messages for a week straight, and on Monday had a little silly touch-flirting and chatted in depth between dances.\n\nNow, my messages are getting quick, \"Hahaha that's funny. Later!\" notes. He's still being goofy on the dance floor and I'm getting lots of deep dips (:D) but I'm not sure if he's just a dancefloor flirt. \n\nI understand that he might be busy, but I was intending to Make A Move^TM and don't want to lose my good swing partner to awkwardness if he's backing off. \n\nAdvice?", "summary": "He's cute but I'm not sure if he's interested. Should I ask him out anyway? Or should I do a few more litmus tests?"}
{"id": "t3_32gv2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] can not let go of my ex [17F] dated for three months, broke up approx 6 months ago", "post": "Desperately need some advice. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible.\n\nMy ex, who I was in a relationship with from July 2014 to November 2014, still has me wrapped around her finger. She says she will always love me, and that she misses what we had together. She is currently in a relationship with her boyfriend of about 5 months. \n\nHer boyfriend does not like that she talks to me and he forced her to stop talking to me about 2 months ago, so she resorted to texting me on snapchat to be discrete about it. Her and I had a picture perfect relationship. We were madly in love but we broke up due to drug addictions, trust issues, long distance and mental illnesses. \n\nI think about her every single day. I want to talk to her every minute of every day. I love everything about her and with all of my heart. \n\nThe problem lies in that I am neglecting all of my other personal relationships due to my infatuation with her. I am constantly thinking and worried that she is lying to me or that she really doesn't care about me one bit. I am emotionally dependant on her. \n\nShe will sometimes talk to me intimately and closely and tell me how much she cares about me, loves me, etc, then will not text me for days or barely talk to me. She seems to allow some degree of closeness and romance between us still but she keeps it limited. \n\nI revere everything about her. She is the reason I live. Without her, I would surely be nothing. \n\nI apologize for the inconsistency of this post. I just really really need advice. This 'relationship' has a stranglehold on my life.", "summary": "emotionally dependent on ex gf, she still loves me but is in a relationship currently. Says she would date me again if she is ever single again. I'm Living on that hope because I know she is 'the one' what should I do? I am lost."}
{"id": "t3_frkqn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I get this girl out of her shell?", "post": "I [23 y.o. male] met a girl [20 y.o. female] a couple of months back; she's very attractive and intelligent, yet incredibly shy. After meeting her she started sending me friendly texts (she only likes to text) quite frequently.\n\nI asked her out shortly after meeting, giving her a week's notice. She said it would be fine. Later that week she said she would be busy after 8:00 pm. Later that week she said she would be busy before 2:00 pm. Then, on the day of the date, she canceled apologetically.\n\nFast forward to now.. we've hung out about six times in two months, had a few make out sessions, and she's sent me a handful of provocative texts. Yet despite how frequently she reminds me of how she likes me, it seems impossible to have a normal date with her. The times we have gone out it took an immense amount of effort.\n\nLast week we tried three different times to do something, and she bailed out apologetically. Logic would suggest that she's not interested, but the fact that she texts me several times a day and even invited me to her birthday party in June shows that she is.\n\nWhat should I do Reddit? I like this girl, and would like to be more than a penpal.", "summary": "A girl I like is constantly displaying affection, yet never wants to go out."}
{"id": "t3_1oswaj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24m) think my aunt (43f) may be HIV positive and don't think my family knows.", "post": "This is my first post so forgive me if I miss some rules.\n\nThis goes back several years but it has been on my mind since. About 5 years ago my aunt came to live with our family as she was between jobs and moved into town to look for a new one. fast forward 6 months and she moves out after finding a job and an apartment.  When she left there were some belongings that were left behind. Among those belongings were some pills. Me being curious as to what they were, I googled what the pills were for (don't ask me what the name of the drug, it was a long time ago). What came of the search was a drug that is used to fight HIV. I looked into it a bit further and it appeared as if that was the only use for this particular drug.\n\n   My family has never once mentioned that my aunt may have HIV and I feel as if they don't know. I know she is kind of a black sheep of the family and they don't talk to her or about her much. \nI am torn whether or not I should mention it to my family. On one side I feel as if they should know, after all it is their sibling. Then again I feel as if it isn't my place to tell them. If she wanted everyone to know she would have told them. If she wants to keep it to herself I respect that. It has been eating away at me for years and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I think my aunt may be HIV positive, but can not prove it, and I don't know if I should tell them or not."}
{"id": "t3_dcey8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I win her over?", "post": "I met this girl at work a few years ago, when she was 16 and I was 20. She had just got hired, I had been there almost a year. I was instantly attracted to her; she was very cute. After getting to know her, I realized she was also very funny, which I don't think about too many girls. She was, to oversimplify it, perfect. I was upset that it would be illegal to make a move on her, so I didn't.\n\nWhen she turned 17 and became legal in my state, she had a boyfriend. I didn't mess with that. She broke up with him sometime around the end of her senior year, a few months ago. I asked her out a few times (even going so far as to manufacture a double-date situation), but she was always busy. As far as I know, she was legitimately unable to meet me when I asked her out (she's even assures me that's the case when I crack wise about it), but a part of me still thinks she was just shooting me down.\n\nI decided not to be too persistent, lest I come off creepy. I decided to wait until the start of the new semester, when she would be a freshman at my college. \n\nFlash forward to last week. I'm 22, she's 18. On the first day of classes, I texted her to see if she wanted to meet up, which she did. We met a little ways away from a cafe, hugged, walked there together. When she went to pay for her latte, I insisted that it was on me, and she let me pay for it. We sat down and started talking and flirting. Everything was going really well, and I thought I was on the way to a real date... until she mentioned her boyfriend. I was, honestly, heartbroken.\n\nShe hasn't been going out with him long; only just over a month. It's also a long-distance relationship (he goes to school pretty far upstate). What can I do? I *really* like this girl, I *really* want to be the one dating her. How can I get her to give me a chance?", "summary": "Perfect girl has a boyfriend who is not me. How can I become her boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2vqmil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my new relationship [20 F]. Are my feelings normal?", "post": "Hey guys, I've been seeing this girl for 2 months now.  I've been on dates before but this is the first time that I feel a relationship could develop into bf/gf status.  The girl is so sweet and the communication so far is amazing.  She is attractive and totally into me.  When I'm with her I don't want to leave, but the next day I feel completely indifferent about the whole idea.  Like if you had asked me if I wanted to continue dating, I'm not 100% I would say yes.  But then after a day or so these feelings fade and I get excited again.  \n\nI don't know if this is normal because I've just been single for so long, or if this is an early sign that I should abandon ship.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "I'm not 100% excited at all points during a new relationship, is this a sign to abandon ship?"}
{"id": "t3_2j7p02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] like a girl [16 F] who lives 1000 miles away", "post": "A friend (Todd) and I were hanging out a few months ago and we were trolling around on omegle to pass the time when we found a cute girl (Sarah). We started talking her up and I realized I have a lot in common with her. I'll spare you the details of that but we have many interests in common.\n\nI got Sarah's number and we've been texting ever sense, and we both have grown to like each other. The problem is distance. We live 1000 miles away which is obviously a big problem. Todd has warned me about getting too attached to Sarah, but it's kind of hard with how awesome is. What should I do? Try and stay platonic and not get emotionally attached cuz of the distance or is life too short for that?", "summary": "Should I try and keep from getting attached to a girl who lives 1000 miles away?"}
{"id": "t3_47pof5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [23 F] of 1.5 years, I'm trying to change but my GF is on her last straw with me.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl ever since i was 18 and she was 22, she's is perfect in every single way imaginable shes smart, shes good looking, good with family,etc etc. \n\nThis is the first relationship I've ever been in and to be honest i didn't know what the hell i was doing. In short I would do stupid shit like bring up stuff from our past (when she was distrustful to me, she is very trustful now) and it would end up like making us both sad (ya i know im an idiot).\n\nMore about me and her, I live with my parents and I'm still in 3rd year of University and she has already graduated and lives by herself and has a stable job (which stresses her out all the time). \n\nAs of last week, she came out and said that it might be better for us to breakup and I begged and pleaded that she give me another chance to see that I can change (which she did). \n\nThat conversation was a serious wake up call I've been changing my attitude and I'm becoming overall a nicer person (I believe). We had a intense conversation yesterday where she aired her fears and concerns, she mentioned that it's to big of her to ask me to change my personality  for her , and shes afraid I would hurt her by reverting to my old ways (emotionally, I've never physically hurt her ever). For the record, I would go through this change regardless if I was with her or not for the better of me.\n\nWhat can I do to save this relationship with this girl that I love so much, and when I say I'm changing I'm really changing and I've told her that. \n\nA couple months before I met her I lost 40 pounds in two months with exercise and healthy eating and I've stuck to it I have more determination than anyone, when I make a goal I always put 100% of my effort to reaching it.", "summary": "I was the biggest jerk in the world to my GF, I'm changing to a become a better person, but she is scared ill revert to my old ways and she is asking to much of me to change."}
{"id": "t3_2fluyx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 1 year, I have trust issues", "post": "Hey guys!\n\nSo I have an amazing girlfriend of 1 year. Everything's perfect except how she is when she gets drunk. She's the type to just go crazy all over the place and completely lose it, which is fine I guess I can put up with that, but she also gets really flirty.\n\nOver the past year, she's had two incidences; one where she flirted with some bartender, even taking a photo, getting really touchy and all, and once where she made out with a good friend of hers. Granted, \"[but] he's gay op!\" but I'm still not okay with that. Both times she also went around getting touchy with every guy she ran into.\n\nNow I've tried talking with her about these things but she always responds in horror saying \"oh now I can actually see us breaking up cos you don't trust me anymore\" cue crying which is really unfair when\nA) it's not my fault I'm having trust issues right now\nB) by talking I'm trying to fix the issue and her reshifting the focus isn't helping any, only making me feel worse.\n\nOnce, I finally got through and she apologized, promised not to do it anymore, etc... Which was great. I finally felt at peace. Or so I thought. Flash forward to now and I can't seem to get over it. Every time she tells me she's going out with friends to go drinking I can't help but worry inside and it sucks. I'd try talking to her again but I don't want another giant fight. It also doesn't help that we're LDR and she frequently has things lined up (I.e. A giant annual street party at her city where the entire city gets soaked in beer. It's that big, one of our bigger tourist attractions) and so I have to worry for periods of times, what if she gets drunk and starts flirting again, etc...\n\nSo reddit, how do I get over this?", "summary": "girlfriend is a flirtatious drunk. Had 2 big incidences in the past year and now I have trust issues when she goes out to drink with her friends. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1uz3hx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my GF [31F] of 10 years, broke up last night, need some advice on how to advance from here", "post": "My GF and I have had a rocky unstable relationship for years.  Last night, we had tentative plans that I broke due to an argument we had that morning.\n\nI went out to have some drinks with friends and vent.  The GF shows and threatens to cause a scene.  I leave with her, but on the way home, I tell her that she can't do what she's doing and needs to leave me alone. She refuses. I repeat this over and over, but she either ignores or refuses.\n\nI strong arm her and walk away, and she follows quickly, grabbing my arm.  I push her and start running the other direction.  She pulls out her mace and sprays towards me.  Luckily, I was already running away and didn't get hit.\n\nMaybe I shouldn't have pushed her, but she sure are hell shouldn't have tried to mace somebody who was trying to get away.\n\nI proceeded to get drunk with the aforementioned friends and crashed on one of their couches.\n\nNow what?  I gotta work in a few hours.  I can probably find a couch to crash on tonight and crash at my mom's after that.  I'm really kinda lost.", "summary": "Fight ends with pushing and attempted macing, now I'm single for 1st time in 10 years.  Halp."}
{"id": "t3_1sw7i9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] had an incredible date with a girl [22/F] from school... but I don't know if we can see each other again.", "post": "Throwaway, and some obfuscated details, just in case...\n\nSo for a while, I've had a massive crush on a girl from school. She's an undergrad; I just finished my graduate degree - thus, the age difference. She's charming, funny, wonderful, stunningly beautiful... all in all, a spectacular catch.\n\nLike an idiot, I waited too long to ask her out. I do know she's really busy, and I kind of assumed she had a boyfriend, but that's not really an excuse. I'm leaving the area for work soon, and figured I'd be wondering forever if I didn't ask her out. To my surprise, she said yes...\n\nWe had an *amazing* time. Hands down the best first date I've ever been on. We went out all dressed up to a holiday event, then came back to her place and watched a movie, talked, joked, played a couple games, watched another movie. She fell asleep on my shoulder. Each time we kissed, her face would light up in this cute smile that just melted me... Same thing when I kissed her forehead - cute smile of complete satisfaction.\n\nShe's gone home for break, and won't be back until after I've left the area. I'm moving about 4 hours away, give or take... but I'll be working full time, which would mean I'd only be able to see her on the weekends. I would happily drive that distance every week if I could keep seeing her. It's been a *long* time since I felt that kind of instant connection with someone.\n\nWhat to do?", "summary": "Amazing date with a perfect woman; she's out of town, I'm moving; *really* want to see her again. And again. And again."}
{"id": "t3_uwvq7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "At a major crossroads. Should I go to college or not?", "post": "Ok, so I'm 19, graduated from highschool a year early from one of the top schools in the state in 2010. I know that in terms of intelligence, college courses are not an issue for me difficulty wise. But I hate it. Every fiber in my being despises the way I have to do things to achieve in college. My freshman year I flunked out. I came back in the spring and tried it again. Failed 3/4 courses out of sheer laziness. Not really on purpose either. I was significantly more motivated than the first time, I just didn't want it. \n\nSo now I have to decide if I want to take out more student loans and go to community college to bolster my GPA, or start working. My dad owns an automotive repair shop, and he said if I work at it, and I give that my full attention, he will expand and let me manage the next shop. I could also get a factory job, and start working that way. I currently make minimum at the shop because that's about what I'm worth. I could make about $10-15/hour at a factory (DHL or something). My final option is the military. I would join the Air Force or Navy, most likely AF. \n\nMy hesitation in joining the Air Force is my girlfriend. That would be taxing on the both of us given the circumstances (read through my history and you'll see what I mean). I am leaning towards working for my dad, but that's not really my idea of fun. I know that none of my options are really \"fun\" but I would choose the military if it weren't for my girlfriend. My preference towards the military is that I will learn to be motivated in the military. And that's really the big struggle is I'm not self motivated to do almost anything. I quit smoking pot a few months ago, I enjoy it on the rare occasion, but mostly I have a few beers every now and then. \n\nIs there anyone that can lend me their experience in how they coped with such a decision, or one similar? I know no one can magically have the perfect answer, but it's worth a shot.", "summary": "19 making decisions about what to do with life, no motivation. Actually, just read it."}
{"id": "t3_2xfxfk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Keeping in contact with ex because of a shared pet- does it ever work?", "post": "I am 24/f, my ex is 26/m. We broke up recently, it was a tough breakup for me because it turned out that he had lied to me quite a bit and used me. He turned out to be a shit partner, but he is a decent, smart guy. I don't hate him, or anything like that, but I certainly am in agreement with the relationship and don't want to be with him now, knowing what I know. We were together for 2.5 years and lived together for 1.5. \n\nThe pet in question is a dog, I helped my ex adopt the dog right around the time we started dating (I worked at the shelter at the time) when he was just a puppy. I helped a lot in caring or and training the dog during his puppy hood and he was about a year old when my ex and I moved in together. The dog is super high energy, and has become my exercise partner. My ex is less active, so I have always been the one to take the dog out running/biking, where as he will usually just take the dog to the dog park and let him run around. In my perfect world, I would be able to stop by and pick up the dog once a week or every other week for some running/biking/hiking and be the one the dog stays with if my ex goes out of town. My ex has pretty much agreed that that would all be fine, and he wouldn't expect me to stop seeing the dog since I basically raised him.\n\nHowever, I feel like I've heard a lot of horror stories about pet sharing after a break up. My ex is an okay guy, I don't foresee him or me becoming a \"crazy ex\" but I'm still wary. My biggest concern is that he will start seeing someone who dislikes me coming around to get the dog and then I will be cut off unexpectedly.\n\nAny advice would be nice.", "summary": "Would like to be able to spend time exercising with the doggy I've pretty much raised and trained over the last 2.5 years. My ex seems fine with the idea, but I'm just concerned about all the horror stories I've heard. I desperately want to be able to see the doggy, I love him like crazy, but it would hurt worse to get to see him and then be cut off in the future :/"}
{"id": "t3_3icgif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) feel like I've failed everyone and they all know it, so they're all out to destroy me.", "post": "The past few recent years have been extremely rough on me.  I've suffered a number of setbacks, all mostly completely out of my control.  I once had a life where I was doing well, was confident, competent, self-assured, etc.  But afterwards, I'm cowardly, self-doubting, and overall just depressed over a life I once had that's now gone.\n\nIt's certainly not for a lack of trying.  I've tried all sorts of personal projects and have tried to put myself in a good position for better jobs in my career ever since.  Nothing works.  And I know the root of the problem is that I'm just not the same person anymore.\n\nI feel like I've failed everyone.  My parents, my wife, her parents, my friends, anyone I've had any professional contact with.  I don't even know who I am anymore and I always want to try to be confident and professional, but I'm so scared that I always come across as either a wimp or an asshole.  \n\nI've noticed that so many people have tried to distance themselves from me in recent years.  Whether it be because I'm a failure, because I've become a different person, because I've treated them wrongly, I don't know.  I just feel like I've failed them all and they perhaps just see me as a terrible person now and they want nothing to do with me.  Perhaps they're even out to destroy me.  People that I once would have had great relationships are now the ones who are making barriers for me or causing problems for me, and it's probably my fault to begin with.\n\nI just don't know what to do.  Can anyone offer any advice to help me get out of this problem?", "summary": "My life has fallen apart in recent years, causing me to be only a shell of the person that I used to be.  I feel like I've failed everyone around me and that everyone is either distancing themselves from me or trying to destroy me and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2f73gn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] not sure if I can stay with my husband [24 M]", "post": "I expect to get blow up on all sides for this, but I need perspective so here goes. Been with my husband 3 1/2 years, married for 1. We have a baby together. He has been physically abusive in the past and has alcohol and anger problems. I have many issues from past relationships being abusive and this has made things harder to work through. \n\nI go to personal counseling and we go to marital counseling. They both go well but my problem is this, I don't feel anything towards my husband anymore. I don't want to kiss, cuddle, having sex is out of the question. He has complained that I never say I love him. I do feel love FOR him, but not like I'm in love. \n\nI know that marriage isn't all butterflies and rainbows, but shouldn't I feel ...more? I've asked him to be more romantic or just think of me in day to day activites but it seems from my side he just lives his life and I go along with it, not a partnership.\n\nWe recently separated for a while, we both were unfaithful. I slept with an old flame from school and he had sex with 4 girls. He's devastated about what I did because he's worried I have feelings for the guy ( I don't ) but honestly I wasn't even that upset about what he did. I feel broken and I don't know how to proceed or if I should give up. He deserves someone who's good for him and loves him.\n\nI asked my therapist for advice and she said to set myself a time period. If I still feel this way at the end of that to leave. She also said to keep marital counseling going. I'm just scared and frustrated and sick of my indifference to him.", "summary": "I don't feel in love with my husband anymore. How/should I try to fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_1e3tvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (18F) so to my sister's college graduation (21F) tomorrow?", "post": "I know it's a monumental point in her life and she really wants me there, but there are some complications. I have an 18 month old son, and it's a two hour drive. I had a babysitter lined up for this, but she canceled literally at 7pm tonight. We were going to leave at 4am tomorrow. Now I can't take an 18 month old to the actual ceremony. It would be incredibly rude to those around me, and he simply cannot sit down for three hours straight. He can't sit down for two minutes.\n\nI talked to her on the phone and she made all these plans (I would just stay at her house with my son until the ceremony was over and our family would meet up for lunch afterwards). Honestly, I really don't want to do any of that. I'd be waking up at 4am, driving two hours in the car with my son (which if you don't have children is a lot more trouble than you'd think), stay at her non-child-proofed apartment for three hours, then see her for lunch, then drive two hours back.\n\nNow if we're being completely honest here, I really didn't want to go in the first place, even with the babysitter. I love my sister and I'm so incredibly proud of her, but that's a four hour total drive with an antsy toddler, a three hour ceremony where we'll see her for ten seconds, and then lunch afterwards.\n\nAm I being a bitch? Should I suck it up for her? If you think I should back out, how do I do that?", "summary": "Should I go to my sister's graduation even though I don't want to?"}
{"id": "t3_32dazq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19/F] duration 2.5 years. Has extreme trust issues not sure what to do.", "post": "To start off with im not the type of guy that talks about his issues to anyone, so i'll ask you guys for some advice because it's just easier for me to be anonymous. \n\nSo me and my girlfriend have had our fair share of issues, she doesn't trust me at all. I have never cheated on her nor talked to any other girl besides my cousin & one good friend (girl) \n\nSo this brings us to last night i was talking to my friend (we will call him john) and he was saying how he was dating some girl ( i dont know her) and i jokingly said she'd much prefer me because i have a  good job, have a nice car, just jokingly having a fuck around with a friend. not serious at all!\n\nSo she snoops on my facebook and see's the message, on the same day that the message was sent sends a huge message to me. About how i'm sick of being in a relationship which i'm not at all, and that she'll be waiting for me to break up with her in the morning, i'm just so pissed off about everything she has said!\n\ni'm not sure how to approach her about these trust issues and i really need some advice on what to do? please help me!", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't trust me, snoops on my facebook. need help!"}
{"id": "t3_1nb5df", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Win back my girlfriend (19/f) of 3 years before I loose her.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now and she means the world to me. We seem to have been going really well I thought but her friend today told me that she is thinking of breaking off the relationship. I've been told it isn't a big thought but this really shocked me. I want to make it so these thoughts don't even cross her mind.\nIn other words, I want to win her over like I did when we first started dating. The only problem is that I haven't stopped doing what I started with and I have nothing new to use. That's where I need your help. I want something to do something new and creative to make her fall in love with me all over again. Any advice will be great help and I thank you for it.", "summary": "I want to make my girlfriend fall in love with me all over again. What's something new I could do."}
{"id": "t3_30ivx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my SO [31 F] 3+ years. I'm in too good of shape for her to want to have sex with me.", "post": "When we first met I was slightly overweight and so was she so none of this was a problem. Now I've been steadily lifting heavy for over a year now and have changed my body completely. Not trying to humble brag but a six pack is more then noticeable as well as a ripped body. \n\nI was never a sex maniac to begin with and neither was she, but sex at least once a week was definitely doable. But as the more toned I got the less interested she got. Now sex is once a month if at all.\n\nLast night we got into an argument about it and she broke down and told me that I'm making her hate her body because of the way I look. It's also apperently killing her sex drive. \n\nOk. I never once asked her to change with me. Actually she's managed to lose some weight on her own without my help or advice. I think she's beautiful the way she is. I got in shape for my happiness, I just figured she would get the benefit of it. I was very wrong it seems.\n\nShe's not interested in working out and I'm not interested in being fat again. I don't want to lose her but I also want a normal sex life.", "summary": "Got in shape and toned up. GF now thinks she's not good looking enough to be with me no matter what I say. She has no sex drive now. Life sucks."}
{"id": "t3_1s6k50", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What does one do in this situation?", "post": "Dear Redditors,\n\n  Thanks for taking the time from your busy day to read about my insignificant life.  Yes, I know this is more a 'relationship' category, but truth is that section takes way longer to respond.  As a woman of the internet, I appreciate receiving brutal and honest opinions as conveniently soon as possible.\n\n  Here's the scenario: I (23 F) have been \"involved\" with a 25 M for the last few weeks.  Both of us are attractive young adults in many aspects and seem to be quite compatible.  Physical relations aside, we have really great conversations.  \n\n  I think it'd be good idea to try dating out, but the M states he's not interested.  I asked why this may be and he simply stated he didn't have an actual reason, that I have plenty going for me and that it's definitely not me - simply that he doesn't want to date.  Further inquiries led to confirming my suspicion: he's never been heartbroken nor been dumped.  He's always been the one to dump the other person.  \n\n  It's clear there is a mutual attraction between us, despite him encouraging me see other people, and that we both find each other stimulating.  It seems the main issue is that he likes to be in control and wants to enjoy his mid 20s...though he's not sleeping around or even that social.  \n\n  I honestly don't have a problem with any of this.  However, I've met enough guys at this point to know whether or not I'm a good match with someone and personally think his record of always being in control of his own emotions is getting in the way of something that could potentially be really great.\n\n  What are your thoughts and what would you suggest?  Thank you ladies and gents.", "summary": "Seeking some perspectives on how to go about current situation with person who is interested, but does't want to date."}
{"id": "t3_4tli7o", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Suggestions for promoting speech in my 19 month old?", "post": "Before my son was born, I read all the books that recommended talking to your newborn/baby to develop brain growth.  I have to say, my wife and I did a good job of sticking to it and I'm proud of my son for learning all that he has thus far.  We can go through picture books and if I say \"where's the school bus?\" or \"where's the horse?\", he gets it 90% of the time.  He can identify things that we know we've only pointed out to him once or twice.  That being said, I feel like we need to transition to a new approach now that he's a little older.  He has a nice vocabulary for his age (maybe 15 words), I'd just like to help him use his words more.  We thought it was so cute when he finally started answering \"yes\" to our questions a few weeks ago, but I feel like we rely too much on yes or no questions.  But if we ask for a more substantive answer (\"what are you playing with?\" \"where do you want to go?\", he just responds with a blank stare or his \"ba\" sound, which is the little grunt he uses when you know he wants to say more but doesn't have the words.  I know he *wants* to say more, but I'm not sure how to help him.", "summary": "how do I transition from just dumping words on my son to actually getting him to engage in a little more \"conversation?\""}
{"id": "t3_owck2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "starting again", "post": "Hello, i've finally pulled my self up from that depressive side and being negative about everything i see.\nNow im planning my permanent-diet, (meaning that ill try stop eating stuff like cheesy stuff, or deepfried stuff)\nI am learning lots of things about what to eat but im also going to workout and im not insterested in gym just yet, i was considering buying a indoor training bike, for 3 reasons. 1st i dont like biking outside, ESPECIALLY not now!, 2nd still quite a bit ashamed of my weight. 3rd i live in a city which means alot of stops and i rather just go on instead of waiting for all the traffic lights.\n\na entirely different thing, when working out, How will i know when enough is enough?\nI've tried losing weight 2 times before (didnt go well but i got the motivation this time!) And the first days i went far to hardcore, it resulted with me not being able to move for 40 hours, my arms was locked and i had to walk on my knees. Yes very stupid, which is why im asking you, What is enough for a beginner whos very very out of shape, weights 320 pounds (6'3 feet) and don't walk more than 3000 steps a day.", "summary": "is a training bike worth it? When is the first days of training enough, How do i find out when enough is enough?"}
{"id": "t3_1jao2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] Considering Online dating", "post": "Hello, I've recently graduated college and got a new job away from my college town and have realized how hard it is to meet people post graduation, especially when my co-workers are all MUCH older than me. I don't think I'm socially awkward by any means, but I just haven't seen an oppurtinuity to meet people-- especially women. I'm not the type to just approach women I don't know and ask out on a date (I'm a panzy). It's been around 5 months since my last relationship and I feel I want to start dating around now.\n\nI guess my question is-- is it \"normal\" for people my age to be using dating sites (eHamrony etc...), and also has anyone my age had success with it? Any site recommendations? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Is it normal for a 22 year old to resort to online dating? Has anyone had success with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2srbgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it ok for me [18M] to Give Gifts to HS Alumni Services (40s-50s M/F)/Rec-Writing Teachers (20s M & 50s M) as Thanso, ks?", "post": "Basically what the title says. I am currently a senior in high school that is seeking out internships for the summer. There are a few teachers, faculty members, and alumni service heads that have helped me a lot throughout this process. Is it acceptable to give them something as thanks? If so, what would the threshold (dollar wise) be? I go to a college prep boarding school (East Coast) with a reasonably high tuition if that factors into the price thing. \n\nI don't want it to be considered bribing or rewarding them for helping me (or writing good recs or whatever) but I'd also like to thank them in a more formal way. I don't even know how I'd go about presenting the gifts. I don't expect to see this group of people frequently (if ever) after I graduate but I would like them to know that I truly appreciate their help.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Is it ok to give teachers/faculty members gifts for helping me seek out internships? If so, how should I present such gifts and what would an appropriate value be? My school has a pretty expensive tuition which I think could factor into an appropriate dollar value."}
{"id": "t3_2sarbd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [18/f] Boyfriend [19/m] is always busy and barely makes time for me because his degree is more intense than mine, what do I do?", "post": "My boyfriend (19) is really busy all the time with the copious amounts of work he has to do for his math degree so I only end up getting to see him once a week- if i'm lucky. \nI love him a lot and there are stretches throughout the semester when I do get to see him often and then life is good but there are times when I end up only seeing him if I place myself in his line of vision. A lot of the time I end up watching him do calculus or algebra work where he barely speaks to me. \nAs much as i'd like to talk to him about it, I fear that he'll only think I don't understand the commitment required to his program. That and my lack of patience could make him feel like i'm just being needy. He's a very logical person who only thinks things through without much emotion involved. So budgeting time for me wouldn't make sense to him when calc and algebra assignments take precedent. \nTo be fair, when he is present in our relationship he's very considerate and pays attention to me. He's a very loving guy but he just doesn't understand what it does to me every time he puts me back on the shelf.", "summary": "my boyfriend spends a lot of time doing work and doesn't seem to be able to budget time for me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1q0iyq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does anyone else feel like a drug to men? (I'm a woman)", "post": "22/F here, and I've recently noticed a theme in my past relationships with men, both romantic and non-romantic. A lot of time I'll meet a new guy, we'll hit it off, start talking all the time, get close, and then just drift apart for no reason (that I know of). Additionally, more than once I've been dating someone, they're really into me, and then all the sudden they end it, and start taking back a lot of the more serious things they said to me during the relationship.\n\nI feel like I'm an intoxicating drug, they get high off my personality, and then at some point realise that their bored of me and didn't actually have that much fun with me. Is that even possible? I don't have a scary past, I don't lead people on, I'm up front about all my feelings and intentions, and I'm also super chill about most things.\n\nHas anyone else felt the same? Or known someone that has the same affect on people? I'd like to try and figure this out, because the pattern is starting to depress me.", "summary": "Have a pattern of men getting really into me, and then dropping me for seemingly no reason."}
{"id": "t3_8z046", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear AskReddit: What's a good, hearty dorm-room plant that I could start taking care of now for school in the fall?", "post": "So  [this]  was a nifty submission but the article itself was vague and relatively uninformative. \n\nSo I want to know what you guys have had success with as indoor plants that you think could survive a small dorm room. I'm in school in Cleveland, but of course the inside temperature will remain relatively constant. Not very humid though. \n\nI can take care of it plenty, I don't need a cactus because I fail at caring for plants regularly. However, I do want something hearty enough to survive lower light in the winter and general existence in a dorm room. That also means not too big, although I can make room for something of decent size. \n\nI was thinking of maybe trying to get a sapling (or seed if I must) started soon so that it could be nice and strong for moving back to college in about 6 weeks. However, I could also buy a mature plant.", "summary": "Name a strong, relatively small plant that won't die on me in a dorm room."}
{"id": "t3_3fxtfz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl said yes to lunch date, but I don't think she has an actual interest?", "post": "Me, whom is a 20 year old male figured I would take the shot of asking out my crush (18F) in a snapchat conversation. It went in the lines of this\n\n\"We have a lunchdate when I get home, just so you know\"\n\n- \"Haha \ud83d\ude0a\" (embarassed smiling emoji)\n\n\"I take that as a yes?\"\n\n\"- Absolutely \u263a\"\n\n\"Date it is then\"\n\nWhereas she stopped replying and I haven't had any reason to pursue any other conversation with her, just some minor that she kills by ceasing to reply despite the ends being loose to continue with if there was the desire to talk more. So I am confused, does she have an interest or am I wasting my time being toyed with despite her not being that type of girl? I am abroad now and discussing the specific lunchdate would across as weird momentarily but of course I will within a short future.", "summary": "girl said yes to lunchdate but seems to have no interest in talking to me - not a mutual excitement so to say. what is likely cause? will bring specifics about the date within short future to either confirm or abort."}
{"id": "t3_26ptxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21f with my 22M boyfriend. Should he get rid of his dog?", "post": "Boyfriend has a small dog, I have a small dog, we live apart.\nBeen together just over 2 years. \n\nHis dog isn't trained, is food aggressive, doesn't share toys, is needy, attention seeking and very very noisy, doesn't listen to anyone, stubborn.\n\nMy dog likes to chase things whilst off lead but other than that very well behaved.\nIs very much loved but knows I'm the boss, does as he's told.\n\nTried to like his dog, found it difficult, stressful dog to be around, causes a lot of hassle.\nTried to hint at training, told him to train him, begged him to train him.\n\nHe has improved a little and he's a little more strict with him.\n\nBoyfriend works very long hours, dog gets left alone a lot though family looks in on him, but I get the feeling they don't wanna be doing it much longer.\n\nMy dog with me all the time, I work from home, don't agree with dogs being left all day.\n\nHe told me that if he started to work away a lot and dog got left even more that he would get rid of him as it wasn't fair.\n\nI think this is the best for the dog as I don't feel my boyfriend has the time or patience to train and deal with this dog.\n\nBoyfriend now works away 3-5 days a week. Still has dog.\n\nHe has started to talk about moving in together but I don't want to be stuck looking after his dog all day and sometimes all night while he's away.\n\nI don't have the time or patience to train a 5 year old dog whilst work and look after house and look after my dog, plus I can't trust them alone together as his dog is food and toy aggressive. \n\nHave told boyfriend this, he just kind of nods and says he understand but then it's never mentioned. He just talks about moving in together and includes his dog in the convo.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "should I look after dog or should he get rid of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1m5kcl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I did a really stupid thing", "post": "Don't want to give too much back story (sorry), but basically I hooked up with one of my flat-mates (we were drunk). I know it's stupid and I always laughed at the idiots who made that exact mistake, we agreed things weren't awkward and moved on. Being that I never fall for girls I hook up with, I initially wrote this off as a great success, but (of course) over time as we've been living together we've been finding that we're almost scarily similar. We like so many of the same things and of course the covert flirting we have going has made me start to develop feelings for her. This greatly frustrates me because after my last relationship, I was finally content to be alone, not sure why that's changing now..\n\nTo be honest, I'm high and I just needed to write this down, not even sure if it'll be true in the morning. Input of any kind (even explaining in greater detail how I'm an idiot) is welcome.", "summary": "I'm that guy"}
{"id": "t3_4djycy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiancee [29/F] is upset I [29/F] flirted with a man even though I'm a lesbian", "post": "We went to a party last night. I \"flirted\" with a man even though I'm a lesbian. Flirted in the sense that it was fun, lighthearted, teasing, light touching, and just good-natured fun. I didn't initiate it, he did. I just went along with it. My friend Anne who's straight was with me and talking to his friends, flirting with them. It honestly was NOT a big deal. \n\nBut my fiancee, who saw it across the room, is making it a big deal. She was upset in the car ride home, I tried explaining, she didn't listen. We went to bed angry (we live together), woke up today, didn't get to see her much until after work, she is still angry and holding it against me. \n\nShe's terrible at communicating and won't talk to me about this, nor will she listen to me when I try to explain. She knows I'm not straight. She knows I wouldn't cheat on her even if I were attracted to men. What the heck is going on?????", "summary": "I flirted with a man in good fun and my fiancee refuses to communicate with me about it"}
{"id": "t3_1u2092", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "No Christmas Bonus? That's ok.", "post": "A little background first: I am a secretary and work for a small family owned company that has been in business for 33 years. I started this past year, taking the position on as a second job. It is common knowledge at this company that for the first 31 years every year at Christmas time all the employees were given a full bonus, which was a check for 40 hours - essentially an extra paycheck worth one weeks pay - as well as hosting a company wide Christmas party at a local restaurant with an open bar. Last year, in the company's 32nd year, they were struggling with money and were having problems with several employees who were eventually let go for various reasons, but they still managed to give a bonus to everyone for 20 hours, so half of a paycheck, which in my opinion was still generous given the circumstances the business was facing financially and was a show of good faith to their employees. This year the company has been doing significantly better and could have afforded to give full 40 hour bonuses to the 10 employees that work there, however they did not. Now, I'm not by any means saying that they HAVE to give bonuses, cause well frankly they don't. Plus I have only worked there for 10 months, but a precedent had been set over the past 30 years, so a gesture would have been nice, one of the owners didn't even wish anyone a Merry Christmas when he called from his house in Florida. So we were all feeling a little bit like Clark Griswald. \n\nSo my revenge: Being one of the two members of the office staff, I had a pretty good idea early on that there would be no bonuses. And as an underpaid, frustrated employee I decided to seize my moment and enact my revenge. I have a large family and always like to send a Christmas cards to them, spending at least $50 in postage each year. So one day about a week and a half before Christmas I addressed all of my envelopes brought them to work, and used the stamp machine in my office taking about $53 off of the account. $53 is far less than a 40 hour bonus would have been, but damn it felt good.", "summary": "Company I work for didn't give Christmas bonuses after doing it for 32 years, so I used the prepaid stamp machine to send out $53 worth of personal Christmas cards."}
{"id": "t3_1gxzqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [20f] and I [21m] have run into an issue...please help :(", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI'll cut to the chase. We've been together for a little under two years now. We're both from the same country, but from different region and have different languages. We currently reside in the US and are about 2 hours away from each other (LDR). She dropped a bombshell on me and said she wasn't sure about us because she's not sure how her parents will take it and she wants time to focus on herself. She feels like she's always been in a relationship and has never had the time to be independent and do things herself.\n\nThe other problem is she's afraid her parents won't accept me and she's sick of the sneaking around and hiding things. Her parents specifically told her to not date guys from the region I am from but she did anyways. Now we're not sure what to do. I told her she can't assume anything and that she needs to tell her parents about us but she still hasn't. \n\nI love this girl so much and the last thing I want to do is lose her but it seems like that's inevitable...I know my thoughts are kind of scrambled but I'm in shock right now because I didn't see this coming. \n\nIf you have any questions, please ask and I'll answer them as soon as I can.", "summary": "GF not sure what she wants. Said she's afraid her parents won't accept me and wants time to focus on herself."}
{"id": "t3_2oudl4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself [20 M] and the girl I've been seeing [20F] have been dating for around a month, but her friends scare me.", "post": "I'm a senior in college (under 20) and a met this girl through a mutual friend. We hit it off, and have hung out a bunch since we met a month or two ago.\n\nI'm finishing exams next monday, and she just finished hers. She lives 10 minutes away from me, and things are going great.\n\nI'm pretty damn inexperienced when it comes to girls, and haven't really ever had a relationship outside of highschool, let alone progressed much further with girls. You can see where I'm going here. I was incredibly shy though HS, and while in college I pulled a total 180. Though I have close female friends,  I put all my time into school/work, and haven't been looking for anyone until now.\n\nThe girl and I were at her place watching a movie, and her friends walk in and bring their bong. Weed has never been my thing, and I haven't been around it much, but after looking at her friends Facebook pages briefly, they're clearly into drugs and partying way more than any of my friends.\n\nI really like this girl, but her friends and their lifestyle isn't something I'm into, and it scares me. I don't know this girl too well, but I don't know how similar she is to her friends just yet. We're hanging out in a couple days. Any advice?", "summary": "Met an amazing girl. There's a mutual attraction. I start winter break soon and want to spend a ton of time with her. Her close friends are huge into drugs and partying, which I've never really been around that much, and it scares me. I'm wondering how much the girl I'm seeing is like her friends, seeing as though I don't know her too well yet."}
{"id": "t3_pcvyb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something unexplained that has happened to you? (Supernatural or otherwise)", "post": "I'll go first; When I was about 17 my boyfriend and I were hanging out in my bedroom. I went to look for something in my closet, (like an old schoolbook or something) which i never used and randomly found a cellphone on a shelf which I had never seen before. From memory the cellphone was **on**. I rang one of the numbers on the phone and found out it belonged to a woman who lived 1.5 hours away and had lost it ***two*** months earlier in a park near her house. I returned it to her a few weeks later, and never worked out how it got in my closet.", "summary": "My closet apparently teleported a cellphone."}
{"id": "t3_268v1j", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I be scared?", "post": "I live in an urban area in the South with 4 siblings, 3 brothers and a sister. One of my brothers is a college dropout and has a particular hatred toward me and my older brother (by a year) for little to no reason, and was always quietly grumbling to himself about petty things, like cat hair shedding or a laundry basket that is too full -- but things have escalated recently. \n\nOne night I had a loud argument with my mom and he was one of the things we were arguing about. He did some questionable things afterward [details redacted because he is a redditor, but please shoot me a PM if you're willing to help me settle my nerves a little]", "summary": "My brother worries me. Am I being paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_22113q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] with[20F] for 9 months now. Very healthy relationship, we are both happy. I just have a question.", "post": "She and I have been going for 9 months.  We were seeing each other for a few months prior to that and have overall been close for about a year now.  We are both very happy.  We have only had two small arguments, both of which were me saying something dumb without thinking about it, hurt her feelings, apologized, and she has never mentioned either time again.  I love her, she loves me.  We say that to each other frequently.  She means the world to me.\n\nSome nights when I am going to bed, or am alone and thinking about our relationship, when I think about how much I love her I start to cry.\nFor most of my life I have been pretty in-tune with my emotions and I can tell when things bother me or affect me.  I just can't figure out why even though I love her and I am happier than I have ever been,  when I think about how much I love her and that I want to do everything for her to be happy, I become overwhelmed and cry.  I can't put a finger on what emotion I am feeling, unless it's just how strong love really feels.  \n\nI am just wondering if anyone could shed some lights or ask me something to pinpoint why I feel this way.", "summary": "Girl and I have been together for 9 months, are both very happy.  When I think about how much I love her, I become overwhelmed and cry for a few minutes."}
{"id": "t3_1h32rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] Should I Wait for the Right Girl?", "post": "I guess I should start it off by saying that I'm 23 and a virgin. I know that society has inexplicably made this some sort of stigma for men, so I would like to ask the question... should I wait for the right woman? I am under no illusions that I NEED to go out there and sleep with some random woman or I'll be a loser, but at the same time, I'm starting to get antsy and I'm wondering if it's worth reaching Wizard status just to wait for the right woman.\n\nI'm not only a virgin, but have never been in a relationship, either. It's not that I haven't wanted to, but High School was a very poor experience for me socially. I am nearly 7' tall, and was overweight in High School (I still am, but I'm working on it, and have made significant progress). This set me apart from people and I was just never comfortable talking to anyone. I'm not afraid of rejection by any means, but I just wouldn't know what to say to a woman I'm interested in.\n\nSo I guess what I'm asking is... is it worth reaching Wizard status just to save it for a woman I'm actually interested in? Or should I go through with it so when I actually find that woman I like, I'm not as awkward as I am now? It's like asking if I should do a bunch of bad jobs to gain experience before going for the job I want so I don't mess it up.", "summary": "23 year-old virgin wondering if it's worth reaching Wizard status just to save myself for the right woman."}
{"id": "t3_1f322b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(21f) is busy and doesn't have time for me (25m) very often these days. It's making me feel restless and anxious.", "post": "We have been together for about 2 years now. We are currently in different cities since about the last 4 months. I think the earliest we will meet next is in 3 months. Since the last 2 months she has been pretty busy and doesn't stay in touch very often. Of course we have days when we do talk a lot but the number of days we don't get to talk much has been consistently going up. She doesn't always reply to my texts sometimes claiming that she didn't get the texts at all. I bought her a smartphone about a month back so that we could stay in touch on whatsapp when she was out. Even that didn't work out well with her normally replying to me multiple hours after I would write to her. Whenever I've tried talking to her about this, we always end up fighting. She says I should trust her and she replies as soon as she can. The most annoying thing is that sometimes when she hasn't replied, I have seen her be active on facebook. When I have asked her about this, she says that she feels like I am questioning her with evidence as if she has committed some crime. And ofcourse she still says that she loves me.\n\nNow, when we do talk normally, we have a great time and it doesn't feel any different. But lately I feel that she wants some space away from me. It was never like this before. We were always each other's number one priority. Now she doesn't get in touch as soon as she can but takes her time to do it. The worst part is that I feel restless and anxious when I dont hear from her. I feel like shit. I feel like I am losing her. I love her.\n\nHow should I go about talking to her about this without it ending in us fighting? I am really confused about what to do.", "summary": "GF says she is busy, doesn't stay in touch very often, I have seen her active on fb though, how should I talk to her about this without us fighting?"}
{"id": "t3_3hewgs", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I have a new found respect for new runners.", "post": "So a little backstory: I ran all four years in high school and all 5 years in college at a nationally ranked D2 program. All in all I have run for 9 years never taking more than a month off a year. But, then I finished my eligibility for NCAA in April, and, quite frankly, I got lazy. I told myself I was going to take as much time off until I got \"the itch\" to run again. After 2 months, the itch came and I ran consistently for a week or two. Then, I took another 2 months off, maybe running once every two weeks (if that). So today I finally had enough of my laziness because I have been feeling depressed recently and I have attributed it to the fact I haven't been running, among other more deep-rooted issues. I went running this morning and struggled. 2 miles at an 8:30 pace, which earlier this year I would have considered a day off and not broken a sweat, nearly killed me. I finished my run and my heart rate was north of 180. Nearly passed out and threw up. \n\nNow you lovely people may be wondering... why is he telling us this? \nWell my comrades, if I did not know that with time this feeling of death would give way to a feeling of accomplishment and success, THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL I WOULD EVER DECIDE TO START RUNNING. \nSo I say to you, slightly over-weight human being starting out thinking \" I am gonna die,\" you won't. It'll take some time, but it'll get better with consistency and progression. Just know that you are brave and far more courageous than me you beautiful bastard you. So keep putting one foot in front of the other.", "summary": "I'm out of shape as fuck, nearly passed out, but now I have renewed determination because of all of you c25k people out there. So thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_f45wc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The Girl Project: become a part of a wonderful birthday present.", "post": "Before I get to it, this is obviously a throw-away account as I have no idea how people will react to this.\n\nI have been together with my girlfriend for five years, and I want to do something special for her birthday - which is on the 3rd of February. By coincidence, most of her close friends will either be on holiday on that day or will be in the middle of exams. This has gotten her quite gloomy as she's afraid she'll feel kind of forgotten on that day.\n\nThis is why I have come up with The Girl Project. I have teamed up with a close friend of mine who is a talented musician. Together we'll perform a cover of \"The Girl\" by City and Colour. I think this song expresses exactly how I feel about her. I can't really sing all that well, but I'm going to do it anyway. This is another reason why I could use your help.\n\nYou can check the song out here: \n\nNow, you'll notice that around 2:17 the screen turns black and the song gets more upbeat. That's where you guys come in.\n\nI would really love to have you guys and girls all sing along (a capella) from that moment on, and record it on video. You can send your videos to me, and I will edit them all into one video, creating a big virtual choir. When the song ends, I would like five seconds of silence so I can say \"Happy birthday\". After that, you're free to cheer, woo, clap and whistle all you want.\n\nYou can send in your videos at thatgirlproject@gmail.com. I am encouraging everyone to participate in this, it would my girlfriend so profoundly happy.", "summary": "Love my girlfriend, whose birthday is on February 3. Want to make a music video to make her happy and I need your help."}
{"id": "t3_1p1v2s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24/F), no longer know how to deal with my dad (57/M)", "post": "I really have no idea how to say any of this.\n\nI grew up in a really tight knit, really supportive family, I was always daddy's little girl. However when I was 20 my parents divorced and a lot of ugly things came to light. \n\nMy dad is a dry-drunk - which, for the uninitiated, means he is an alcoholic who has stopped drinking, but is not in recovery. He still has the anger.\n\nHe grew up in an alcoholic, abusive family, but idolizes his father, who used to lock his family out to wander the streets of NYC in the middle of the night in winter. My grandmother also still talks fondly of him as well (her ex husband), though the things he did to her were horrible, and I know him only as this man who inflicted terrible punishment on everyone. \n\nMy dad is also bipolar and has OCD, but is not treated in any way. The bipolar part can be very frustrating. He will go for weeks without showing any interest in me, and then suddenly I'm smothered by attention, which makes me basically wait for the inevitable, horrible crash. \n\nSo basically, I guess I don't like my dad too much. He's very frustrating, at times very hurtful, and he has made me feel so damaged. But that all said, he's never done anything that, in my mind, warrants kicking him out of my life, however I just don't want to talk to him, and when I don't I feel so horribly guilty.\n\nI just don't know what to do anymore and I'm exhausted by the yo-yo moves he does in and out of my life.", "summary": "Dad has mental disorders and while he's involved with my life it's only when it suits him, and I want to kick him out of my life for good but can't .... wrap my head around it and I really don't want to but I don't know what's best for me."}
{"id": "t3_417723", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TiFU by giving a stranger a ride", "post": "So I was doing my 3 am shopping and this guy asked me for a ride home to get his spare keys because he locked himself out of his car and it was running. Well its winter in Michigan so I tell him I'll give him a lift.\n\nOnly, he has me go to one house where he runs up and does a quick hand off with one guy. Then has me drive to a second house only has me pull in across the street. I look in my rear view mirror and there is a big bouncer looking dude on the front porch, he does a second quick hand off.\n\nThen has me drop him off at third house rather than at the super market where his car is supposedly running.", "summary": "Pretty sure I participated in my first drug deal last night."}
{"id": "t3_1kigw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] had a one night stand with a friend of a friend[20F] should I facebook message her goodbye?", "post": "Hey :) Well I had been staying at my friends house and she had friends over from America who I had gotten to know quite well over the past few days and on the last night I was there I ended up hooking up with one of the american girls who i really got a long with. We didn't get to say goodbye the morning after as I had to leave quite early in the morning to catch my train back home, but she added me on facebook and tagged me in a few pictures yesterday but we haven't spoken since. \n\nShe's heading back home to America tomorrow and I was wondering should I just leave it at that or is it can I wish her goodbye and that I hoped she enjoyed her holiday in England. I have no intention of taking this anywhere else. I'd feel guilty if I didn't say anything or is that just the done thing?", "summary": "Had awesome one night stand with a nice girl I met, feeling guilty for not messaging her."}
{"id": "t3_gy7u1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Not your typical roommate problem.", "post": "Hey, this is my first time on Reddit, so I'm really sorry if I didn't post this to the right sub-reddit. Anyway, I'm a freshman in college and just found out my roommate assignment next year, and after a little bit of creeping via Google (c'mon, we've all done it) I came across a horrific piece of news about him.\nApparently, a few years back, he had been drinking with his friends when he accidentally shot and killed one of them. (Actually, it didn't say anywhere that it was an accident, but I fucking hope it was.) He spent 6 months in jail and another 5 years on probation, bringing us to today.\nI figured out from some more creeping that he's transferring here from a community college, and it looks like he's turning his life around. I've tried to contact him via Facebook and am waiting anxiously to hear back. \nBasically, Reddit, I'm torn. I am scared shitless at the prospect of my future roommate being a murderer, but there's no way I'm going to get a roommate change just because of this. I'm sure he's trying to forget the past and get his life back on track, and I don't want to be one more person who shuns him for the mistake he made. I need to talk to him about this, though.\nI know you guys are an open-minded and insightful bunch, basically...should I bail or should I stick with rooming with him like my conscience tells me? More importantly, how do I bring up the fact that he fucking killed his friend?!?\nI don't mean to be self-centered. I know my little problem pales in comparison to the shit he's dealt with for the past seven or so years, but I just would like some advice. Thanks so much.", "summary": "I found out my future roommate recently got out of jail/probation for killing his friend. What the hell do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3a8j9p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I [17f] apologize to my mother and convince her that I'm serious about changing?", "post": "My cousin overheard my mother telling my uncle on the phone that she plans to send me to rehab for drugs. She also heard my uncle mention it to my aunt that my mother was planning to do this. I'm not suppose to know that this is happening. My cousin does not yet know what date they will try to do this, but my uncle has implied to my aunt that it will happen this week. \n\nI don't have any plan on how to avoid this at the moment. I'm trying to get my cousin to find out more. I read a few texts off my mother's phone that confirmed that it was happening but did not mention any specific details. \n\nI think I should just make a long apology to my mom tomorrow and tell her that I want to change and I want to be a good person and how sorry I am about everything. I don't think that I should let her know that I know what she's planning though. I'm not sure what to say. I'm sure she'll believe the apology, but I'm less sure that the apology will be enough to make her reconsider sending me to rehab. I think if I say that I want to spend more time with her and \"repair our relationship\" it might work better.", "summary": "My mother plans to send me to rehab. What should I say to her to convince her that it is in our best interest that I not go? "}
{"id": "t3_2ondj4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A concern with a 8 day lack of bowel movement", "post": "I created a throwaway because I'm embarrassed to ask this but after 8 days-I need some help.\n\nI have lost 10lbs, and have been at it for 35 days. The first few weeks were great and I lost most of the 10lbs by Thanksgiving. However-I have not had a single bowel movement in 8 days. In addition to this, although I have been strictly counting my calories (1,200/day) and weighing everything I eat-I have not lost any scale pounds in those 8 days. Actually-I've gained 2 lbs back since then-which makes no sense because I have been adhering to my diet and restricting calories religiously. I'm not really doing any muscle building activity (any workouts I do are cardio based right now: Zumba, running, walking) so I don't think my 'plateau' of weight is due to muscle gain. I honestly think it's because I haven't been able to, well, shit, in 8 freaking days! I'm starting to get really frustrated by this...and worried. I've been taking a fiber laxative supplement to try to help, eating lots of fiber, little dairy, no meat (I'm vegetarian)...but NOTHING. \n\nMy questions: Why have I been constipated for 8 days? Does this have to do with my diet? Am I eating too little? Is my weight stagnation/minor gain due to this? Anyone else have this problem since they've started losing? I've never had constipation issues before!", "summary": "Since I've started dieting, I've lost 10lbs-but as of the last 8 days I have lost no pounds and have not had any bowel movements and worry that these two things are connected and my diet is somehow messing up my body."}
{"id": "t3_pt1bu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need a costume for my works theme night, any ideas?", "post": "Ok so my place of work occasionally has theme nights, I make very little effort for these and get in trouble for it every time.\n\n*So* hopefully with your help, I can make a better impression this time around.\n\n**Theme**: ***Movies***\n\n**My restrictions**\n\n* I moved to the other hemisphere and only took what I *really* needed with me.\n* I got a shit low paying job which means I haven't bought anything new since I got here.\n* Sad as it is to say, being female drastically lowers my options on the character front, I've searched things like the 100 greatest movie characters and most of them are male >.<\n\nI have been raged at by coworkers for not making an effort on nights such as \"School Uniform\" night, I tried explaining that when I was packing to move to the other side of the world, a school uniform i'll never ever wear again wasn't exactly top of my priority list but alas i'm still lazy and didn't make an effort despite my disadvantages.\n\nSo any ideas for a famous film star or character that just wore jeans and a top but did something iconic with their hair, or their make up or something?", "summary": "Need a female film star/character that is/was a normal boring person so I can actually be seen to be \"making an effort\" at my work theme night."}
{"id": "t3_2w0l6w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my gf the ending to Breaking Bad", "post": "So my girlfriend has been wanting to watch the rest of Breaking Bad for a while. She started watching it right before the final season came out. She refused to know the ending to the series, and expertly avoided all the spoilers when it was on TV and Facebook. She went so far as to stop people from talking about the show around her, and if that wasn't possible she would expertly distract herself or just walk away. If people would talk about it on the street, she would literally run away after hearing what they were saying. She was the definition of dedicated, and expertly avoided all the spoilers. \n\nSo here we are today on the couch, calling friends to get ready to go out to dinner. She's on the phone with a friend who (as usual) was making BS excuses. As soon as she gets off the phone she says that his excuse this time is that he's watching Breaking Bad. \n\nBefore I even thought about it the first thing that comes out of my mouth is \n\n**SPOILERS**\n\n\"You should call back and tell him he dies in the end\". I completely forgot about her even wanting to watch Breaking Bad, until I look at her. She was completely heartbroken, all that hardwork and I just fucked it up without even thinking about it.", "summary": "Girlfriend went to great lengths for the past year and a half to avoid hearing the ending for Breaking Bad, and I unthinkingly ruined everything"}
{"id": "t3_ievuw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stay with Econ, or switch into (Mechanical) Engineering?", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I figure it'd be worth a shot and hope that maybe some of you guys could help me figure my life out.\n\nI studied at a UC for two years as an econ major. I had to leave for financial reasons (couldn't afford international fees) and am transferring to a university in canada, where i can pay domestic fees. However, after leaving my UC I realized I hated econ and wanted to switch into engineering, because I find math and physics interesting.\n\nMy parents are against me switching, claiming that what you study is VERY LOOSELY connected with your actual job in the future. So I might like studying engineering but hate the jobs associated with it, and I might hate studying econ but  love the jobs I can find with it.\n\nAny econ majors/engineering majors who can help shed some light on this issue? What are your jobs like (stuck in a cubicle all day? working with groups of people? social environment?) \n\nFor econ majors, is it possible to find a decent job that's not finance/accounting related, or would that be too limiting?\n\nAny inputs appreciated!", "summary": "Debating about switching into engineering, but not sure what actual jobs are like in the real world. Any advice (from both econ and eng majors) are welcomed."}
{"id": "t3_y95jj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Why does she still listen?", "post": "Quick summery of my story: Me:M27, Her:F24. 4.5 happy years together. She cheats on me with co-worker at a party. She confesses to it a few days later. We split up. She's \"taking it slow\" with this other guy, although I can't help but believe he's just not that into her.\n\nIt's been just over a month since we split. Occasionally I have broken down and asked her to call me so we can talk. We are still like old friends when we chat. Although I admit that I am still too emotional at the moment to hold a civil conversation that doesn't spiral into anger/sadness. I can't help but work in little digs and tell her that this guy she is seeing is a prick (you can't blame me right haha).\n\nI'm just curious though as to why she *still* talks to me? I know I did nothing wrong but she knows that any conversation we have generally leads to me getting upset and repeating the same questions over and over again. Yet, she *still* talks to me. She's an incredibly sweet person (when she isn't cheating haha) I still don't think she is a bad person. So maybe she's just being nice or maybe it's guilt?\n\nThe last conversation we had, I completely lost it and screamed horrible things to her down the phone. I think I needed to do that as it made me feel a helluva lot better afterwards.\n\nI have since deleted her numbers to remove any temptation to contact her, although I did send her an email apologizing for my behaviour (I'm British after all haha). But I don't think we are going to talk again for a while, which is good. I need to move on.\n\nToday I feel better and it feels like I am experiencing a piece of  acceptance and no longer in denial that one day we will reunite.\n\nI'm just curious as to why she would still talk to me, I know you don't know her and there could be many factors. But like I said, I'm just curious and trying to iron out any last creases of doubt.", "summary": "Ex is still willing to talk to me, listen to my anger, even though she doesn't want to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_4961qy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] looking to start my first relationship with a friend [20F], need some guides", "post": "I have been friend with a college classmate for about 6 months, and recently, I decided that I'd like to start a relationship with her. The problem is, I have never had much interest in anyone until now, so I have no idea how a relationship works or how to even start one. Therefore, I'd like some resources (books, sites, or just advices, etc) on the inner workings of a good relationship, how to start, what to do, how to deal with bumps on the way and all that stuff. I value her very much as a friend, so I'd like to make sure we can still be friends even if it doesn't work out.", "summary": "I want a first-time relationship with a college friend, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2n9eb6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting high at school.", "post": "This happened on the Friday of last week. Me and my friend in 6 form/year 13 decided that because it was at the end of the year and only exams were left, that we would get high before school. I brought out my gravity bong and we got to work.\n\nI arrived at my first class feeling very spaced out and heavy, but I got through it with my trusty prescription shades and a bottle of water. At interval or recess, me and him decided to go into the bathroom and top up a bit. We smoked a joint between the two of us and 10 minutes later, it was time for class. This is where shit started going downhill...\n\nI fucked up and had way too much weed, and came into class with my head spinning and vision heavily impaired. It was maths so generally I'd just put my head down and do the study. I sat down in my chair too fast and threw up my breakfast, a liter of water, and the bag of dorritos I had consumed with my friend at interval. My teacher, a very old and bitchy English lady, saw my bloodshot eyes and instantly knew what was up. My parents were called, a drug test was issued, and now I'm confined to my house for the next 6 months.", "summary": "got high at school, vomited everywhere, got grounded till half way through next year. "}
{"id": "t3_12iwgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (f26) left me (m25) after 4 years. I love her with all my heart. I'm in ruins.", "post": "We know each other for over 10 years and we've been a couple for the past 4 years. We live in different cities so the distance has always been a problem, but we dealt with it pretty well. \n\nI have some trust issues apperently, but they were provoked often. Specifically, her close friendship with a guy from another country and her visits to him. And even though I firmly believe that it really was nothing more than friendship I hope you can understand my position and doubts. We've had a few fights about it but always managed to get through it fine.\n\nDuring her last visit my jealousy kicked in again and I looked at her skype history (on my PC, very old conversations while she was staying here). And I also looked at her e-mail. There was some upseting stuff and I had to confront her about it. I knew how horrible it was of me to intrude her privacy like that, but I thought we would be even after a good fight. Her lying to me (no cheating) and stuff (too long to talk about all of it, I don't think anyone would read through all that) would even me being a nosey bastard, I thought.\n\nBut after a while of acting cold, last night she decides it's all over. \nI can't grasp it. I finished college almost a year ago, still jobless (I live in a screwed up country), no future prospects. I had her. She's gone now. The thing I thought was the safest thing I ever had, thing that gave me strenght and kept me sane - is gone. She says she'll be there for me, that we'll stay friends. But I don't know how to cope with that. How am I gonna react when she tells me about her new boyfriend?\n\nEverything reminds me of her because we formed as people together. I love her with every inch of me. What do I do? How do I get out of this self pitty. I don't remember when was the last time I cried, and now I'm acting like a damn baby.\n\nAdvice from people who were on the wrong side of ending a long lasting relationships?", "summary": "Girlfriend (f26) left me (m25) after 4 years. She is all I want. What do I do? How to get through this?"}
{"id": "t3_1vgzm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] can't stay attracted to anyone I'm in a relationship with.", "post": "My first girlfriend and I were together for 2 years and wee broke up September 2012.\n\nSince then I was in a relationship for 7 months, then 2, then 1, and now I am in another one. Each one I ended for the same reason as the last: I wasn't attracted to them as a partner anymore (although I would not say it in those terms).\n\nI don't like being single or having one night stands and I enjoy being in a relationship, but as soon as I get past the honeymoon stage I lose all interest in being with that person, having sex, even just spending time with them.\nI don't want to keep leading people on every time I think the next girl will change anything because it never does.\n\nWhat is my problem? Is it common? How do I stop it? I like the girl I am currently seeing but I'm at that point where I am losing interest.", "summary": "Can't stay attracted to anyone past honeymoon stage since first ex. Want to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_32gyks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my ex-boyfriend [28M] one year. Broke up but don't want to move on?", "post": "A month ago, my ex-boyfriend (it still doesn't feel like it) broke up with me. It was a LDR, and we had very poor communication, and I was dealing with a lot of stuff and never great at completely opening up to him. I disregarded a few of his texts for a while because I was trying to de-stress myself. Then he finally called and broke up with me. His final words: \"I'm done\" and he's had enough. I know I was at fault for the bad communication. \n\nBeen in a 7-year relationship before, but I never felt this strongly with another person before. He was almost everything I wanted in a person. Didn't have a hard time getting over the person of 7 years, but I did have troubles with the whole being afraid of getting hurt thing. Just when I started to open myself up again, my heart got crushed again. Maybe I still need to work on myself?\n\nWe loved each other very much, and I know we are both trying to move on. We decided to stay friend, but not now. I think we are doing the no contact thing, and it's only been a month. The only reason I'm staying friends with him, honestly, is because I feel like maybe in a month, 6 months, a year, we might get back together. I think about him all the time. I have so many hobbies and distractions, but my mind still continues to wander.\n\nI don't want to 'wait around'...although, I can't help but think that we might get back soon. I don't think I will meet someone as great as him.", "summary": "I miss my ex...I feel like there is still hope for us to get back, but I hate that feeling."}
{"id": "t3_45ezjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I might be losing my only friend.", "post": "Hey everyone. If this isn't the right subreddit I'm sorry please feel free to tell me where should I be asking for advice.\n\nI'm a 22 years old girl, finishing a degree. I never had many friends but right now I only have a single friend. I think I'm losing him as well and I'm starting to panic with the thought I'm gonna be alone. \nHe's also 22, I introduced him to someone I knew and they got along nicely. \nAt first they tried to make me feel a part of the \"group\" but now I know and respect they want to have time alone. \n\nI assume he liked her so I backed off. Me and him don't talk as much, about anything, don't do anything together. I'm not jealous of her. I don't like him that way either, he knows I'm gay. I just don't like being alone. \n\nWhat makes it worse is how she treats me. I sometimes spoke of my college degree and how hard it is on me (people talk about those kind of stuff with \"friends\" right?) and instead of being understanding she'd undermine everything I said:\n\n\"Damn I wake up at 6 am, 8h long classes\" \"Lol I wish! That sounds so easy stop bitching\". Err ok.  \"Damn rain so much traffic :(\" \"At least you can drive! I wish! Stop bitching\". \n\nAnd sometimes if I'm talking to him about something related to just us she gets in the middle with no context and always gives her opinion \"he's right shut up\" etc.\n\nI tried talking to him alone, about how I feel, that I'm losing him and how she treats me. It didn't really help at all... He didnt give any real answers, and made me believe that he only talks with me because he feels pity for me.", "summary": "Losing my only friend because of some girl I introduced him, she treats me like garbage. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ai2sq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23/m] wants me to lose weight, but I am not fat [24/f].", "post": "We've been dating 3 years. He seems to only like skinny girls. I was not skinny when I met him, I was actually kind of chubby but he still dated me anyway with no complaints. I lost a bunch of weight (my choice), became pretty skinny, now I'm \"average\" again, maybe 10 pounds over but I carry my weight well.\n\nMy bf keeps saying that he wants me to lose weight. He even said my size makes him uncomfortable in public because he feels we don't look good together and that it feels like some connection is missing from us because of my size. I have doubts that I can ever be skinny again. \n\nI feel like I should start exercising and watching what I eat again, honestly. I would actually like to lose a couple pounds. But at the same time it hurts my feelings he's acting shallow about my weight. I don't have a gut or anything, nor am I \"fat\". I'm simply just not skinny anymore and I have naturally wide hips and a big butt, so it's hard for me to look rail-thin. Should I dump him? Is he being unreasonably shallow? I feel bitter that he dated me even though it was obvious I wasn't a super skinny girl.", "summary": "I'm not fat but not as skinny as I used to be. "}
{"id": "t3_1ehplo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20f) want to sleep with this guy while me and my boyfriend(23m) are on a break, but boyfriend will be bothered if I do", "post": "Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half. About two weeks ago we broke up, because we got into a fight, and over the course of the past two weeks his actions and what he's told me has led me to believe that he was sleeping with someone else after we broke up, and that this relationship was over for good. Because of this I start talking to a new guy, and make plans to chill and sleep together tomorrow.\nTonight he came over to my house begging me to get back with him. I said no, I can't do it right now, we can try again later in a few months because I really can't be with you at the moment. We decided on a break for a while until I feel ready again and comfortable to date him again.\nWhile we were talking tonight he told me how he hasn't slept with anyone else, and told me how he'd be bothered if I slept with anyone else while on a break with him, but it wouldn't change how he loved me and still would wait for me and want to be with me. I  told him while on our break he can sleep with someone else if he'd like, I wouldn't mind much, but he insisted the he wont and doesn't want to.\n\nWhat should I do?\nI would really like to sleep with this new guy tomorrow, but I know it'll make me feel incredibly guilty and awful.\nI'm stuck reddit, please help with any advice.", "summary": "Me and my boyfriend broke up, made plans to fuck another guy tomorrow, boyfriend talked to me today, we decided that we're going to be on a break for a while but he says he'll be bothered if I sleep with someone else, and I really want to sleep with this new guy, but I know i'll feel guilty afterward."}
{"id": "t3_4d90he", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] ex [22 M] broke up with me, but he won't leave me alone.", "post": "We dated for a year and broke up a few days ago, and right from the start I told him I didn't want to be friends. He did. So we return each other's belongings that day. We still had tickets to a concert that we were supposed to go to together (my birthday present), and he asked if I still wanted to go with him. I told him I would go by myself or take a friend. He told me to let him know if I changed my mind and let him know if I wanted him to come with me. \n\nI unfriended him on Facebook. He sent me a friend request that day and I deleted it. We text only when we need something from the others apartment. I try to be as short and to the point as possible, and he tells me that I am being short, rude, and snippy. I didn't reply to one text, and he responded with saying if I kept ignoring him, he'd delete my number and not try to be friends with me anymore. \n\nI don't want to be friends with him because I still have feelings for him, and it would end up hurting me in the long run. What is he trying to accomplish? Is he just being inconsiderate with my emotions and request for space? Why can''t he just leave me alone so I can start to get over him?", "summary": "My ex [22 M] is complaining that I am being snippy and rude to him and says he won't try to be friends with me anymore. I [22 F] told him during the breakup that I didn't want to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_4236hu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying off and keeping a car that I won't use for 1-2 years--a good idea?", "post": "The car I have:\n\n* 2010 Mazda hatchback\n\n* 65k miles\n\n* KBB value: ~$10.5k\n\nAfter 5 years, I still owe $6500 on it in $400/month payments. (My parents had just gone through bankruptcy, so we took an extremely long loan.) It has been sitting at my parents' house for 1 year while I have been working my first job in Korea. Now I have $12k in savings and could conceivably just pay it off for good.\n\nBut I may have the opportunity to go work in France for 1-2 years. The car would sit mostly unused, but I wouldn't have a car payment when I return. That sounds like the safer option to me.\n\nMy dad disagrees. He thinks I should sell it, pocket that $4000, and then also close the life insurance policy he sold me in high school and pocket the $4000 value that's in that. He sells insurance and sold me that policy when I was in high school. My understanding was that you should never use life insurance as an investment, but he says that's not true. He says I can just start another car loan when I get back.\n\nI'm really trying to be careful here. What do you say, /r/personalfinance? Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Should I sell a car that I won't use for 1-2 years, or should I keep it to avoid a car payment in 1-2 years?"}
{"id": "t3_247l3j", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Question for you armchair cat psychologists", "post": "Just wondering if someone here is good at interpreting cat behavior. I adopted an adult male cat about two months ago, and he's awesome. But as the weeks have drawn on, he's grown less interested in getting petted or cuddling, and more interested in playing. The thing is, he'd way rather play with me than a toy.\n\nHere's a typical interaction: He meows at me to get my attention. I look over or get up, and he leads me to the kitchen. I follow him and try to pet him, he responds with some playful swats. I reciprocate, then I have to lay off because he's got sharp claws and I'm made of flesh. I try to sub in a toy and he has no interest, so he walks away. As he walks away, food catches his eye and he stops for a bite. Then we repeat the process.\n\nAs recently as last week he was very insistently meowing at me to pick him up, but he doesn't do that as much right now. He also doesn't purr with the force he did recently.\n\nI guess my question is what does this behavior indicate? Has he grown more comfortable with me as an owner, or somehow resentful? Can cats even feel and express resent? Does he long for a second cat to play with? Is he bored?", "summary": "Recently adopted adult cat wants to play with me, not his toys; cat doesn't enjoy affectionate gestures from me as much as he did when he first joined my house. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3lbu9n", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Not Your Average Traveler vs Tourist Debate...but which are you?", "post": "I'm curious to know what Reddit thinks, NOT OF THE TOURIST/TRAVELER debate itself, but more of which term you would use to describe yourself and why? The terms mean basically the same thing, but each term almost has a negative connotation. (If you're a tourist, then you're not adventurous. If you're a traveler, then you're elitist because you think you're better than a tourist)\n\nDo you travel a lot, but tend to stick to popular destinations, but because of your on-the-go-lifestyle consider yourself a traveler? \n\nDo you travel infrequently and so consider yourself a tourist, despite that your travel destinations may not include \"touristy\" things to do? \n\nWhy do you pick the term you do? \n\nIf you're not aware of the Traveler/Tourist debate, it boils down to thus: Most people consider being a Traveler different from being a Tourist in that Travelers look for the \"authentic\" side of a destination, where \"the locals go.\" While Tourists stick to the well-known, beaten paths of a city (remember, they're \"tourist-y\" for a reason).", "summary": "Traveler and Tourist mean pretty much the same thing, yet we get really butthurt over which term we choose to use. Which way do you refer to yourself and why?"}
{"id": "t3_vs77p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So she is menstruating, in pain, moody, hormonal and totally insists we hang out/date tomorrow !  We are probably going to fight and break up if we do... suggestions?", "post": "M28,F28\n\nBefore I start I like this girl... she is a child abuse survivor and we have many good things in common, but deep down she has huge issues that are unresolved.                                                     \n\nI hope this does not turn into a bitch session, but my girlfriend of 3 weeks has been irking the shit out of me... I really want to make this work but tonight's conversation highlighted why this isnt going to work...\n\nSo what are you doing? - Washing dishes... (she spends hours a night washing dishes)\nWhy dont you  use paper plates? -- Oh I dont want to destroy any trees.\nHow about the dishwasher-- Oh that waste water, and makes higher bills.\nWhat about when you cook, do you ever  use the microwave? -- No those are dangerous, can cause cancer...\nHave you spoken to your family.... 10 minute rant about a horrible childhood.\nWhat  have you been doing all night -- Cleaning (she is an OCD cleaner)... the last time we hung out, we spent about 2 hours washing dishes, she then breaks out the broom, vacuum and is in so much pain from her time of the month just sits there like a rag doll, as I try to hold her. \n\nShe then insists that we hang out tomorrow, even though she will be miserable... but hey she says... you got to get used to it if were dating long term... \n\nWe are going to go out, she is going to be miserable and we are going to fight and break up I can see it as clear as daylight. Maybe this is not meant to work, but why would anyone ever want to go out,  when they feel like death? \n\nI am probably coming off as an asshole, and I do want to make it work, I feel that each cycle is going to kill me off little by little...", "summary": "GF has these stabbing horrible periods that drive us insane... she insists we still hang out... if we do this tomorrow a fight will probably happen and we will break up."}
{"id": "t3_281l8l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Made a terrible impulsive decision.", "post": "Last night I broke up with my boyfriend. I had convinced myself that the reason I did this was because of all the stress I've had lately and things going on in the summer. But really, I just wanted to be alone and not have to worry about anyone.\n\nBut now I realize I lost someone ment for me. He was the most kind hearted person ever, and would do anything to help me out. We had great discussions about life, and he knew how to bring out the happiness inside me. He's the kind of guy who deserves eternal happiness. \nI got home right after the breakup, and lost my shit.\n\nI just made a mistake, and now he is gone.\nI called him, and tried to talk to him. He said he was willing to give me space but that we did not have to break up, and he was upset about it. I said that we should stay together and I wasn't thinking through what just happened. \n\nAnd so he told me he needed to think for awhile and he would call me back.\n\nReddit, what do I do? I can't sleep, and I feel like my heart has been punched.\nI've never felt so much sadness over a breakup before. \nPlease give some advice on how to handle the time before he calls me again. (If he does.)", "summary": "I impulsively broke up with my potential soul mate and I feel terrible."}
{"id": "t3_3yo9ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my coworker/friend [28F] friends for 2 years, worked on project that was screwed up", "post": "I met her through work and we became friends. We were in 2 separate departments for most of this time, however, recently she was switched into mine.\n\nA few weeks ago we worked on our first project together, and just got news today that we majorly screwed up. Our client is under litigation and our field notes were incorrectly filled out, and the labels were switched for 2 samples. \n\nBut here's the kicker... I didn't do any of the writing. I collected the samples and needed measurements and handed them off to her. I've done this project before a few times and have never made these mistakes.\n\nI said something in confidence to my direct superior, but told him I would take the blame along with her. However, after the meeting (where we got our asses handed to us) I am really bummed. \n\nShould I just keep my mouth shut and take the blame too, since I was there and I didn't look over the notes or double check stuff, or should I discretely say something? She wasn't shadowing me, we were equals in this situation. \n \n\nIs my friendship worth my professional reputation or is my reputation worth my friendship?", "summary": "Coworker / friend and I messed up on project but it wasn't directly my fault, do I keep my mouth shut for sake of friendship or discretely say something to save my professional reputation?"}
{"id": "t3_2ofem1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my mum a prostitute.", "post": "So I'm a huge fan of Les Mis\u00e9rables, and recently persuaded my mother to watch the movie with me, since she's not a big reader and wouldn't read the book.\n\nWe watched the movie, and all was well. She enjoyed it, and we talked about it for a little while afterwards- we then got onto the subject of which character we are most like.\n\nShe asks which character I think she's most similar to, and trying to be a good daughter (perhaps not thinking this through) I say Fantine, because the character is an extremely devoted mother.\n\nI guess my mum wasn't paying much attention to the movie, because she immediately asks \"who is she?\"\n\nHere's where I fuck up. Without thinking, I tell her: \"she's the prostitute.\"\n\nOf all the things I could have said- for example \"she's Anne Hathaway's character,\" I unthinkingly call my own lovely mother a prostitute.\n\nShe went ominously quiet for a moment, and cue me back-pedalling as fast as humanly possible. After an extensive explanation and a cup of tea, I think she saw the funny side of it. I hope.", "summary": "called my mother a prostitute, now have to make her tea for the next two years."}
{"id": "t3_2ali6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18] girlfriend [19] just messaged me last night saying she kissed her ex, now wants to be just friends.", "post": "So here's some background I became friends with this girl back in October of 2013.  We started to chat a lot and hang out a lot and got along really well and eventually became best friends. \n\nWell in February of 2014 we both liked each other more than friends and started to date. We were dating she was in a relationship with another guy in Mexico that she saw once a year for 5 weeks in the summer. I knew of this and simply didn't care cus he was a douche bag to her and she told me that she wanted to be with me..\n\nSo time goes on and she breaks up with that guy and we get together...\nI notice that she still has feelings for him but I just assumed with time thay she will get over him.\n\nWell summer comes and we spend a weekend together before she leaves to Mexico saying how she is gonna miss me and how much she loves me. Well the day come and she leaves.\n\nSo while over there everything was fine for a week and then I noticed that she simply started to act weird during our text conversation... seeming like she didn't even want to text and barely keeping the convo going.\n\nWell anyways last night she told me she got drunk and that she made out with her ex and that she's really sorry and that she's so emotional confused...I was devastated..then she Continues to tell me how she loves me but as a best friend not a boy friend...that it's a different type of love...she keeps telling me how I'm so special to her and that she doesn't wanna lose me because we get along so well. But she wants to go back to being best friends like before.\n\nI got really anger when she said that...so guys I don't know what to do she says she wants to be friends but honestly I don't want to..she hurt me so much when she told me that and I feel like I should just ignore her and take her out of my life..\n\nBut what do you guys think!?", "summary": "Girlfriend cheats on Me with ex and now wants to go back to being just best friends like before."}
{"id": "t3_2hhv65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "New here, but you all have come highly recommended from a close friend and I appreciate any comments, thank you. Here it is.\n\nWe both go to college together, same major, and we sit next to each other in two classes. We started hanging out Oct 5th of last year and it was great. Shes smarter than me and helps with homework which is nice, but its not a reason to keep a relationship alive.\n\nThere are two main problems that I've been dwelling on for the past few weeks. As far as I can tell, she is very much in love with me, but I've come to see that although I like her, I do not love her. One problem remains with this because I cant determine a definite reason why I don't...\n\nI don't know how to break up with her. I care about her, so I don't want to crush her, but I think its just as bad to go on thinking that, \"maybe if I stick it out for awhile I will see something different and then love her again.\"\n\nBest case scenario: We remain friends and can both look fondly on memories shared, mostly that she can move on without excessive agony. I'd rather no longer be friends and have her be happy sooner than try to hold up a friendship if you guys think it'll make a difference.\n\nAny help or comments are greatly appreciated and questions are also welcome! Thank you so much for reading.\n\nExcessive background: Small classes (20+-5). Military with similar interest in field so good chance our paths will cross for at least the next two years. This is my longest relationship I've ever held. She just had her wisdom teeth out today. Im leaving for a football game at noon tomorrow.", "summary": "Almost 1 year, intertwined lives, she loves but I don't. I don't know when or how best to break it off."}
{"id": "t3_1w6kgh", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Applying to schools... after a break period in the military.", "post": "This is something that I've been sweating for a while now... Going on two years now, I've been enlisted in the Air Force, and for a solid chunk of that time, I've been pushing to get a scholarship and find a way to work on a bachelors full-time. Lo and behold, among dozens of outdated, done-away-with military scholarships, I've found what I need. My only problem now is applying to a school and getting in... However, I was a bit of a dirtbag in high school and barely graduated by the skin of my teeth. I've turned my shit around since then, have been making rank as fast as I can, and am currently more than halfway done with my associate's, but what I really need to know is how realistically improved my chances of getting into a good school will be.", "summary": "I was a douche in high school and enlisted in the Air Force, but I turned my shit around and am now driven to get my degree full-time. How much will being military help with applications?"}
{"id": "t3_2shtg5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Kentucky] A crime charged as a felony but reduced to a misdemeanor...Can it be expunged?", "post": "in January of 2006(9 years ago) I was charged with a felony which was reduced to misdemeanor, I ended up having 2 year probation which if broken would result in 30 days in jail.\n\nLong story shot, me and friends in high school took a Golf Cart from a country club, drove it around then put it back where we found it.\nThe 3 other people with me got off easy as they were all 17, I had just turned 18 that month and the prosecutors came down on me hard because that's the only person they could target.\n\nWell, this never affected me that much, but now I'm a working on my Computer Science Major and I have applied for a bunch of internships and gotten calls back and they are going to be doing background cheks I'm sure.", "summary": "Can  crime charged as a felony but reduced to a misdemeanor be expunged in the state of Kentucky? How do I go about doing it? Is it expensive? How long does it take to not show up on a background check?"}
{"id": "t3_2a63c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [29 F] married for 7 years, has thrown out the Divorce term, but claims she wants to work things out.", "post": "I've been married 7 years and have two kids aged 5 and 2.  Recently I had to have major surgery, and while I was recovering my wife told me to pack up and move out b/c she had to figure stuff out.  She told me I had an attitude problem, and wasn't the same person she fell in love with.  She stopped having sex with me, and told me she wants to wait a while and see where things end up.  My wife has a habit of withholding the truth, and the most recent example is lying about when she works at night in an effort to get out of the house away from me.  I feel like this is a major warning sign.\n\nThis marriage is important to me, and my kids, because when I took marriage vows I meant them, and committed to working through any problems that may have arisen.  I feel that she is slipping through my fingers, and I am in no control to resolve this issues at hand.  It seems like everything must wait in the balance while she figures herself out.  \n\nI have had to make some wholesale changes in my life, including my diet, exercise habits, my friends, and now my marriage, but I am not adverse to change, especially if it is going to better me as a human.  I feel like the changes I make aren't going to be enough to salvage this marriage, because it feels like it could be too late.  Even though I don't feel her reciprocating love toward me, I still put a major effort into making her feel special every day.  I get her coffee ready before she wakes every morning, and leave a love note with it.  I sneak up behind her and hold her and whisper how beautiful she is into her ear.  These are just a few examples of ways I focus on her everyday.  Every women deserves special treatment, but I'm starting to feel maybe I should focus on someone else and move on myself.", "summary": "Wife wants divorce, but says she's willing to give me a chance to convince her to stay.  Is it even worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_51eyc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15M] live with my sister [23F]. Her and her boyfriend leave used condoms lying around the house.", "post": "Hi, so I have kept my mouth shut for over a year. Because I will be honest all I want is a stable home. That's all I really care about and my big sister is the only one who can provide that. I am sick of all the bullshit with CPS and the police they can all go to hell. Dealing with them was probably the worst time of my life. They took everything from me, I am not allowed to see my dad anymore. \n\nMy other sisters are in college so they can't provide it and I would feel bad inconveniencing them for me. I would like to refer to the certain people as the following to keep as much anonymity as possible. \n\nMe: Blue \n\nSister: Pink \n\nBoyfriend: Orange. \n\n**The Problem**\n\nI try to be a nice person, I don't cause any trouble. I go to school, talk to my friends, do my work and come home. I am a high school student and I have three years left. I talk to my other sisters daily on Facebook and I have kept quite. I love them to death but I know they will just get CPS involved again. \n\nMy sister Pink and her boyfriend Orange, it would appear they have sex everywhere while I am at school. I come home and I can find multiple used condoms just lying on the floor. They have by this time left to run the bar they own together. This has happened for over a year. \n\nSometimes they are right near my room, the kitchen etc. \n\nHow can I get this to stop", "summary": "Sister and boyfriend leave used condoms everywhere"}
{"id": "t3_2vnb1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] need advice on talking to my boyfriend [22M] about making our relationship less boring.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years, and it's a really loving, stable relationship. My only problem is that we always do the same thing for date night, and that is going out to dinner. It's becoming boring and predictable, which I know can happen in a long-term relationship after a while, but I'm starting to feel like it's a chore to go and do the same thing over and over again with no variety. I love him and I get excited to see him, just not for our actual dates. We have plans for the day after Valentine's Day (we're celebrating a day later to avoid the VDay crowds) to get dinner again, and I want to know how I can ask him to cancel and change those plans so we can do something more exciting. I just don't know how to say it without hurting his feelings. I know it's kind of a stupid question, but I'm asking because we planned this dinner almost 2 months ago and I would be canceling it on such short notice.", "summary": "Want to work on making our relationship more exciting. Need a way to ask boyfriend for \"better\" Valentine's Day plans."}
{"id": "t3_2ljfqj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by offering two girls from work my one extra concert ticket for tonight", "post": "I've been flirting with this cute girl (call her Abby) that works in my department. She seems kind of flimsy and noncommital to things in a cute way, but she suggested we go see a band that we both like that's coming to town tonight. I look up the tickets, and it's only about $100 for two so I say screw it. I confirm with her that she will go with me and I bought the tickets the next day.\n\nThat was two weeks ago, and I haven't talked with her outside of work at all yet. I sent her a text an hour and a half ago, and then gave a call but didn't get a response on either.\n\nSo I just offered the ticket to another girl from work (in a different department that I rarely ever see) that I hooked up with 5 nights ago. We'll call this other girl from work Vicky. \n\nVicky texted me an hour ago asking what I was up to tonight. I reminded her that I had this concert planned for tonight but wouldn't have dreamed of mentioning that I was going with another girl.  \n\nCool, Vicky says. I ask her what *her* plans are for tonight because in the back of my mind I'm ready for flimsy Abby to completely blow me off since she hasn't texted me back.\n\nVicky texts me, \"Well I was supposed to hang with Abby tonight but she can't, lol.\"\n\n***Spaghetti falls out of pocket.***\n\nNow I'm thinking that Vicky (oh did I mention Vicky was a virgin until we got together?) told Abby that her and I were together last weekend. I know she already told one of her girlfriends about it because the friend was sending me goofy texts about taking Vicky's virginity. That seems to be the most logical explanation for why Abby would not want to hang out tonight. However I do not know this to be the case.\n\nI had no idea they even knew each other, and there are over 100 employees in my department alone, so for the two of them to be friends is astounding.\n\nI don't want to mention where Vicky's ticket came from if she does happen to ask. That might make her upset.", "summary": "Invited two random girls from one of the largest employers in my city to go to a concert with me tonight. They turn out to be friends and were supposed to hang out with each other but blew each other off to go to the concert with me."}
{"id": "t3_24yqc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25/M with 23/F, 8 months, distance starting, afraid to break up", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nAbout a year ago, I started talking to a wonderful, smart, and attractive girl. We were both getting out of relationships at the time and we soon began dating seriously. I've realized over the last few months, however, that our values, goals, upbringings, and beliefs are quite different. I've realized this through petty arguments, discussions, and an overall feeling of lack of connection at times. The relationship isn't bad, but lately I have just not been very happy in it because of some \"deeper issues.\"\n\nShe moves fairly far (~3 hour plane ride or so?) in July for a rather intensive job. She wants us to stay together, and I told her I really wanted to see if we could make it work as well (which was not a lie -- for a while this was a really good relationship). We have many of the same friends now as well.\n\nI've started to feel like ending this, but I am worried to do so. She has a history, which she has been so open about, of rather severe depression, particularly after a serious relationship she was in ended. I would be worried about her if I ended it. I know I need to look out for myself too, but how do you Redditors approach this?", "summary": "I care about my girlfriend so much but don't think this is broadly strong enough to continue as an ldr."}
{"id": "t3_28kc9u", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Recommendation on Oklahoma Lawyer to help obtain a lost title for motor vehicle.", "post": "This is a long story but going to condense it as much as possible.\n\nI own a vehicle for over 2 years that has no title attached to it.  There is no lien and it was never stolen (after doing background investigations with many sources just to make sure). I purchased a vehicle from a dealer in Tennessee who promised me for the past two years that he will get me my title and never did. I already dealt with the Tennessee state to deal with his dealership (long story short, I don't think he has a dealer's license anymore and a massive fine from the state from what I gathered after their investigation). But this still hasn't led me to my title.  I tracked down the title original owners information, which it is in Tulsa, Oklahoma.  However, based on the address on file, owner doesn't reside there anymore and unsure where he is currently residing. Oklahoma is no help and will not issue me the title unless I get a court order, but I don't reside in the state.  Tennessee is giving the same excuse and my current state will no help either. People pointing fingers at one another.  I am assuming since Oklahoma is where the title is last registered for my vehicle, is there a good lawyer for that state I can contact with? I am also trying to get a hold of the District Attorney's office for the state but still waiting on a phone call from their investigators.\n\n*Serious inquiries only. Nothing about that I shouldn't bought the vehicle without a title, yadda yadda, as I was unaware that he didn't. and I didnt took care of this previously as I deployed while in service, and now unemployed, which makes it even harder for me.", "summary": "Need lawyer or someone in state of Oklahoma to help me obtain a lost vehicle title asap."}
{"id": "t3_4ijf75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I (F16) just lost my bestfriend (M16) to his girlfriend...", "post": "So first off, I'm a lesbian, and both my bestfriend and his new gf know that, but he spoke to me the other day...He basically said he and I can't hang out anymore (even in groups) because his gf doesn't like me and feels \"jealous\".\n\nWe recently went to prom together but it was us only because he started talking to this chick a few weeks ago (after everything was arranged). I hardly even talked to him at afterprom but apparently his gf didn't like the fact that I danced with him ONCE...\n\nThis is the guy that knows all my secrets. For a while he was the only person I trusted, now all he says is \"I'm sorry...\" Should I just forgt about him, or hope that he'll come around?", "summary": "my bestfriend isn't my friend anymore because his girlfriend is \"jealous\""}
{"id": "t3_3gf8mx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know how to act when I see my [22 M] ex [21 F] of 3 years, after a month of no contact", "post": "Thank you all for reading this I appreciate any help that you can offer!\n\nKeeping it as short as possible,I was with my girlfriend for 3 years, everything was great and but I got some doubts. I broke up with my gf because I was afraid to be with her because she was the only person I've ever been with and I grew distant and pushed her away until we broke up. \n\nWe met up a week after breaking up and had a great day but she is still unsure what she wanted. I started to ask her to come back and get back together and even begging a bit (I know I know...) Eventually it led to her asking for space and telling me that she really really needs it. I respected that for a month and did not talk to her at all. \n\nSo I contacted her today and see how she was doing and asked if she wanted to get lunch sometime and just catch up, no talking about anything serious. She and I had a decent friendly conversation but she said she is still unsure if she wants to meet up.\n\nLater in the day she texted me again and asked if I was going to an upcoming concert in town. I am going and apparently she is too with some mutual friends. I offered her a ride since she is uncomfortable driving there because it's somewhat in a bad area. She told me she'd get back to me on the ride situation but she bought two tickets from me. (I am also selling the tickets)\n\nMy questions to you are what do I do when I see her again at the show? How do I act so that I can eventually get her back in the future? I don't want to mess anything up. Also how do I act when I see her to give her the tickets sometime this week? \n\nI really want to be with this girl but I want to make sure I don't come on too strong.", "summary": "Will be seeing my ex after one month of no contact, not sure how to act in order to win her back"}
{"id": "t3_2bulbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my Bf [24M] told on me to his parents, what do I do now?", "post": "So me and boyfriend are currently going through a phase of arguing a lot, I am quite a argumentative person and never take our fights seriously but he is super sensitive and always needs to talk for hours about our feelings. We have been together nearly 2 years and rent a flat together.\n\nNow yesterday we had a stupid argument that escalated quickly and I said that he doesn't want the same things I do (Marriage) and it ended with me saying I needed space, at this point I packed a little over night bag and decided to go stay at work for the evening.\n\nThis is where it fucked up, my BF decided to call his PARENTS and tell them how nasty I am how horrible I am as a person and that I DEMANDED that I marry him (not true). \nHe then made his parents drive over a hour at night to pick him up to tell them in person how bad I am, I said to him I don't want to leave but I think he has just ruined our relationship by doing this, he insists that his parents don't dislike me but I'm not a idiot.\nHe admitted that it was heat of the moment but I think the damage has been done, I am meant to be going on holiday next month with him and his family which now I feel like I can't go.\n\nI really don't want to break up and I take absolute responsibility for the argument because I was unfair and a bitch but I am so angry at him for phoning his parents to which he won't acknowledge his wrong doing.\n\nI am sorry for the wall of text I've just never been in this situation before, I really thought I was going to marry this guy until this happen, I guess I just need some non biased advise.\n\nThanks", "summary": "My BF told his parents I'm a horrible person."}
{"id": "t3_2cv1sn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21F) having some life issues and my cousin (23F) isn't making this better. I'm very confused.", "post": "Hi. So I just recently moved to a different state. It was a big move and it needed to be done. Well at first, I was having issues getting a job and the person I was staying with (F25) got fed up with her offer after a week and three days. \n\nThis is where what I thought was a blessing came in.  My cousin (F23)called and offered me a place to stay. If was near the bus stop and the mall so it was near a lot of jobs. I took her offer. \n\nShe said get a job, get your car legal, pay me 250 in rent and half the light bill and groceries once you're on your feet. Awesome thank you!!! \n\nMy first paycheck was pitiful. I gave her $75 which was more than half and it went towards rent. I bought $30 in groceries and said hey this is all I have. I kept $10 for the bus. \n\nI'm getting my new state licence this pay check and all my car stuff legal. Its going to be $475 ish before tax. I also have to give her $175 and $97 for the light bill. Also pay my phone bill. I know it doesn't seen like a necessity but I'm still looking for s job. \n\nI added if all up and showed her. It literally leaves me no money for food. She doesn't care. She also wants $250 my next paycheck for Septembers rent. \n\nLet me point out that she drives a new Camero works 3 mins from me, and has never offered to drive me to work but instead makes me ride the bus for an hour and a half even though its on her way ..... Her version of broke is only going to the mall once a week. Her bf has had multiple duis and she wants me to get the interlock on my car since I'm living here. \n\nAll of this seems a bit much for a cot in a corner and z closet..... Am I overreacting?", "summary": "cousin is altering her decision ultimately fucking me over."}
{"id": "t3_4bsk8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] almost one year, broke up- how do I get him to talk to me again?", "post": "My boyfriend broke up with me last week because he said he is dealing with depression and could not be in a relationship with me anymore. \nI was extremely hurt because I had no idea he was feeling depressed and the breakup was so sudden and out of the blue to me. Also I am taking my MCAT on April 1st, so the sudden breakup just seemed like the worst thing to happen before my exam.\nI feel regretful that he did not tell me earlier when he started feeling depressed, because recently we have had fights mostly because of stress from college- but obviously if I knew he was dealing with depression I would not have fought with him at all. I really did not want the break up to happen.\n\nAfter the breakup, he said he wanted to remain friends. However, I got angry with him- feeling that he was messing up my future by choosing to break up with me before my MCAT. so I blocked him on facebook. Afterwards, I immediately regretted it because I knew that he would be very hurt by it. \nNow, I want him to know that I want to be there for him, but I am not sure how to make him talk to me. His friend told me he is very hurt and not talking to anyone. I have sent texts saying that I apologized for blocking him on facebook, but he has not replied. Should I re-add him on facebook? Send another text? I just don't know what to do to get him to talk to me...\n\nThis is my first relationship, so I really don't know what is best to do.\n\nI really want to just see if he's okay. I want to be there for him.", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me before mcat, I blocked him, now i regret it and don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_2xr1gr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Low sex drive, mental block", "post": "**Hey guys,\nI'm a 20 year old female with a wonderful boyfriend also 20 years old. I love him very much, but for some reason lately although I've enjoyed kissing him in the past, I feel as if there is some sort of mental block or something that's keeping me from having the drive to kiss him.\nI also feel like I don't want to have sex as well. It's almost like I just can't. There is some sort of blockage.**\n\nWe've been together a year now and it feels as if this drop in libido began about a month ago. It seems to be a general reduce in drive. I was taken advantage of a little over a month ago while I was away (from my boyfriend) and it does feel as if there may be a correlation between this low drive and the incident, but it doesn't seem to add up because when I returned and was with my boyfriend again I was able to have sex and be sexual in general, even though at the time I was having nightmares about the incident. So, the loss in drive started a couple weeks after we were back with each other and had been sexual. Seems confusing.\n\nHelp me please!!!", "summary": "I'm not horny. Why."}
{"id": "t3_1rm6y3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend of 9 Months dumped me unexpectedly. (Need Help, please read and respond, sorry for the long story)", "post": "So I have been dating a single mom (34 with a 4 year old boy) for nine  months (I'm 27).  Our relationship was so great, we did everything together and I was a big part of her and her families life.  Her son loved me, always asked about me, I taught him to skateboard and we got along so well.  We had a really great summer, I went on vacation with her family and they really liked me, her nephews (twin 7 year old boys) would tell me they loved me, life was going good.  So in October we went to Florida to visit her family, and spent 3 days in Disney World.  Her family really liked me but when we got to Disney there was a problem with the room (I thought it was paid for and didnt have enough on me to cover it).  So I ended up owing her 400$.  When we returned I started paying her back, 50$-100$ a week.  Well after we returned she started getting real distant from me, she was getting mad at me all the time over nothing and kept saying she was just a little sad and it was nothing to worry about.  Well last Friday without warning she dumped me, said that her Ex-Husband was dating a girl that basically replaced her.  Plays on her old softball team, is coaching her ex's other daughter (not my girls kid) in softball and is and I quote \"living her life.\"  I'm really hurt by all this and kind of a mess.  I want her back but I'm worried that shes not over her old life.  What do I do???", "summary": "My g.f dumped me shortly after our vacation to Disney saying that her ex's new g.f is living her life."}
{"id": "t3_11clfd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I shouldn't be alive.  What are your near-death survival stories, reddit?", "post": "I have one story, and one honorable mention.\n\nWhen I was two years old, I walked across the neighborhood street to play with a neighbor's dog.  From what I've been told, my dad was in our garage and gave me the \"Snipard if you don't get your ass back here I'm going to spank you senseless\" look.  I started to walk back across the street, and was hit by a Ford F-150 going 35mph.\n\nI broke my right arm, my left leg, my jaw, bit straight through my tongue, had deep facial lacerations, abrasions of the hip and knee, and ruptured my spleen.  One of my teeth was twisted at a 90 degree angle and backwards.\n\nI was airlifted to the San Diego Children's Hospital and taken care of by the amazing medical staff there, and was given some slight plastic surgery to reduce the size of the scars on my face.  To this day, the only scars I have from that accident are a 2\" scar curving next to my left eye, a small one underneath my chin, and a nike swoosh just above my hairline.  Other than those scars, there is no permanent damage or health complications.\n\nMy honorable mention is when I was on a flight to go from LAX to Manila, there was a miscommunication between the flight control tower and the pilot, and there was either another plane landing or taking off on the same tarmac as us.  The pilot was going full speed, and right before lift-off slammed on the brakes to a full stop.  Brakes overheated, caught fire, popped 14 of the tires, and we were grounded for two days.", "summary": "LOOK BOTH WAYS BEFORE CROSSING A STREET."}
{"id": "t3_1cadve", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] I think I'm developing feelings for a close friend [20/m] and I'm getting mixed signals from him.", "post": "Well, this is a long story but I'll try to tell it quickly.  Basically I've known this guy for 4 years now.  We work together (I should mention that it's a part time minimum wage job, nothing serious).  When I first met him we weren't even particularly good friends, we actually only really started being friends about a year and a half ago. \n\nLast summer is when things started getting weird.  My best friend started working with us.  He told me that he had feelings for her so I could find out if she felt the same way or not.  At this point I still only saw him as a friend.  Anyway, as it turns out my best friend did not have feelings for him so he gave up on that by the end of the summer.  \n\nSo once he was over her, we would hang out one-on-one a lot more frequently and he'd text me more often.  Nothing happened, but I started developing feelings for him and sometimes it seemed as though he felt the same way.  We have a lot of the same interests and we can talk to each other about anything.  I love spending time with him, and it seems like he enjoys spending time with me as well.  Some of our other friends even started speculating about us being together.  He was always quick to deny anything though, so I just tried to move on.  However, a few days ago asked me to go on a long weekend beach vacation with him this summer and share a room.  He texts me all the time still, but he's not coming out and saying that he's interested so I'm not really sure as to what I should do.  I want to know if he feels the same way about me or not, but I don't want to ask him and risk ruining our great friendship. And even though nothing happened between him and my best friend, she knows that he liked her so I don't want to hurt our friendship either. So, reddit, what should I do in this situation?", "summary": "I[19/f] developing feelings for my friend[20/m] and I'm getting mixed signals from him(ie he wants me to go on a short vacation with him and share a room, yet tells our friends he isn't interested in me), don't know what to do.  Also he used to like my best friend and I don't want to ruin either friendship.  Sorry if this seems like a bunch of unorganized thoughts but I just don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3qm1if", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my boyfriend [30M] for a year, I am making myself suffer needlessly", "post": "I am in a loving relationship, but am constantly worried it's going to turn bad or that he doesn't love me.  The thing is, he's never done anything to make me feel this way.   It's all coming from me and my insecurities about myself.  Sometimes, I think of worst case scenarios and I play it out as if it has happened.  I feel the emotions that would come as if it had happened.  Then I get sad.  \n\nThe thoughts I tend to play out are sad.  For example, my boyfriend having feelings for another person.  I make myself suffer needlessly.  And, I take it out on my boyfriend by asking about said thought and looking for reassurance.  He understandably gets upset and frustrated because he does love me and it's like saying I don't trust him.  I feel disoriented and like I have no perspective about how to live a normal healthy life without making myself suffer.  I guess my question is, what are some tools that I can use to correct my thought patterns.  I want peace of mind.  Thanks in advance for any thoughts or advice you guys might have.", "summary": "I play out sad thoughts in my head and make myself needlessly suffer and my boyfriend is getting the brunt of it."}
{"id": "t3_rn5rx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I not mess up?", "post": "So I (m15) just got back from the movies with this girl that I like (14? I think) and a couple of our friends. It was fun, and we all had a great time. She doesn't know i like her, and I don't think she really likes me at this point. She just treated me like her other friends. I think that I could get her to like me, but I always get to this point with girls and then mess something up. \n\nJust a little background: I've known who she was for a while now. We go to the same church, our families are kinda good friends, and I'm really good friends with her older brother (a year older than me). We are in a church youth group, and only really in the last week or so have we started talking and stuff. We have a bunch of mutual friends, so it was easy to arrange something like the movie tonight. We are both on the high school track team, but it is segregated by gender so I don't see her there, but it's usually a conversation starter. \n\nBasically, I just want to know how to not mess up with this girl.", "summary": "Like this girl, we've known each other for a while but just started talking last week. We went to the movies with some friends tonight, and just treated me like her other friends. I usually mess things up with girls at this point, how do I not this time?"}
{"id": "t3_4730xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriends [22 F] messages, does this conversation seem flirty?", "post": "My gf had her steam account logged into my computer, this was a conversation between her and some guy. Does it seem like flirting or friendly banter? My gf = O. The guy = S.\n\nS: what are you doing?\n\nO: Playing rust maybe .-.\n\nS: OuO\n\nO: yOU? :D\n\nS: Playing rust :3\n\nO: Same, So much in common\n\nS: Oh wow\n\nS: You know what\n\nS: Since we have so much in common\n\nS: We should totally get coffee or something\n\nS: 8)\n\nO: I hate coffee and i got murdered right after i found a gun :')\n\nS: Are you playing on our server?\n\nS: Well if you dont like coffee, ill tkae you wherever you want\n\nO: No im on facepunch seatle, i hate it. :)\n\nS: RIP\n\nO: (Hozier voice) take me to church\n\nS: .....\n\nO: ;))))))))))))))))", "summary": "flirting or banter>?"}
{"id": "t3_4kk3x8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [29 M], a friend [14 F] of my 12y sister, is 'in love' with me, how to deal carefully with it or where to ask?", "post": "Hello and apologies if this is the wrong subreddit to ask this kind of question, please point me to the right direction.\n\nTo explain the situation better, picture I have a sister with a big age difference, I am 29 she is 12, I like to play videogames with her and her best friend (14 F) occasionally\n\nIn the island we live, a very closed community of 3000 people, it is VERY common for young girls of 16-20 to make relationships with 30-40 men, mainly cause they want to escape their parents house and lifestyle (family business etc), through marriage, pregnancy etc\n\nIt has come to my attention, mainly through my mother who is very observant (since I am hopeless with women) that this girl really REALLY likes me, it started from tickles (I am very suspectible to tickles) to personal questions like if I have a girlfriend and such.\n\nDo **NOT** take me for a pervert, even though I like the attention since no women above 18 even looks at me (I am so workaholic), this is a delicate situation, her family is divorced and her father [45 M] is an alcoholic, swearing, abusing pig (I do not think he hits her though) and I happen to be in good terms with her mother [35 F], we are coworkers, with an occasional flirt.\n\nI want to save this particular girl from this situation, since I really like her as a person, she is quite mature for her age but anything I do will affect my way too young sister as well\n\nI have started by avoiding her (no videogames and touching)\n\nShould I talk to her mother?", "summary": "An very cool underage girl likes me, I don't deal with such situations well and I want her to avoid a worse than me scenario."}
{"id": "t3_ux188", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you identify this bug?", "post": "I went camping in the BC interior last weekend, on the last day I kept feeling a prick in my leg and several times rolled up my pant leg to find it. I didnt find anything and assumed it was a small seed that has hooks on it stuck inside my pant leg, which has happened before. Fast forward 10hrs later to when I get home and take off my pants to have a shower, this bug crawls out. Not knowing if it will fly away and get lost in my house somewhere I quickly used my sock to grab it and take it outside. When I get outside it gets stuck inside my sock, it has several small barbs on its legs, which was the pricking i felt, finally get it out of my sock and put a glass over it. Now im trying to figure out what it is, in the 10 years I have been camping at the same place I have never seen it before. So Reddit, WTF is this thing?", "summary": "I had this huge bug in my pants, pricking my thigh for 10hrs, and want to know what it is."}
{"id": "t3_1e0vk5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best Proverbial story you know?", "post": "I'll share mine.\n\nA Man with three sons passes away and leaves them will that reads, \"To my oldest son I leave 1/2 of my horses, to my second oldest i leave 1/3, and to my youngest I leave 1/9 of my horses.\" The man had 17 horses so now the men are confused as to how they should proceed as it would impossible to split 17 horses in this manner. They seek out the advice of a wise women who sees their problem and gives them one of her own horses. Now there are 18 horses and the oldest gets 9, the second oldest gets 6, and youngest gets 2 and the wise women gets her own horse back. \n\nI find this story inspiring as it shows that a different perspective and input can find a simple solution to seemingly difficult problem.", "summary": "Read the story its not very long."}
{"id": "t3_3f8lz9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Co worker relationship [25/m] my girlfriend [24/f] my coworker [30/f]", "post": "Hello all! Just a quick heads up this is a throw away for obvious reasons. Basically I want/need to talk about this situation I been having at work. Here is the back story. I currently live with my girlfriend we been together for about 3 years and been living with each other for the last 1.5. We moved in together to deal with the high rent of living in a big city. Things with us are overall great but we just don't have sex enough. I tired having many open talks about this but it seems to never change. It's frustrating and getting to the point where I question our relationship. So I been dealing with these personal issues but then something came up at work. This coworker of mine and I have recently developed this weird relationship where we talk dirty to each other. It started off small but has gotten very graphic over the last few weeks. We text each other every day during work about all types of things but never after work. She also has a boyfriend that she lives with. We have certain rules like: we will never have physical contact and like previously stated, no contact after work. It is only just talking but it gets us off because we shouldn't be doing it. Now it's getting to the point where I don't know where to turn. Should I dump my girlfriend whom I live with to find someone more sexually active. Or should I stay with her and keep this type of innocent/ naughty conversations on the side. I never dealt with something like this and it's really getting to me. Any input will help .", "summary": "I have a girlfriend I live with who doesn't put out and j have a horny coworker who talks dirty to me"}
{"id": "t3_3ake4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f21) am beginning to be disgusted by my relationship with (m57) but I have become dependent and don't know how to leave.", "post": "P and I have been dating for over a year, and I moved in with him a few months ago. At this point, I don't know what I was thinking. I think I was looking for love any way I could find it. I was sexually/verbally/emotionally abused by my father from birth to 12, so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it.\n\nI do think P is extremely interesting, he is an academic (in fact, he teaches at the university I graduated from). I also think he's incredibly attractive, and I love being intimate with him. But I've realized there is literally nothing of true value for this relationship and I'd like to be with someone in the future that is able to be what I want and would be more conducive long-term.\n\nI just feel extremely down on myself knowing I'm this man's girlfriend. And that I live with him and I am completely financially dependent on him. At this point it is almost impossible to move out because I have an internship that doesn't make any money, so I have no source of income and I do not talk to any family (due to all of the fuck-upedness). \n\nI just feel so uneasy that he would let things get this far with me at my age. I've just had so many revelations in the last couple of weeks because he has been gone across the country doing research. \n\nI do not know what to do. He's not at all abusive, he treats me like an equal. So I don't feel in danger of being harmed. I just don't have any money, and I don't have any family. I really don't have any friends to help either, seeing as to how my close friends are 1500 miles away.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for any kind of advice to get out of this situation.", "summary": "I've been dating a guy that's almost 40 years older than me and I didn't realize it was fucked until I live with him and am financially dependent on him."}
{"id": "t3_2obvb7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I f(17) have run into some issues stopping me from actually dating and I am wondering what should be my next step.", "post": "Every time I get close to someone I freak out. After I start to like someone and hang out with them a lot, we get closer and then I become afraid and try to avoid them. I feel like I am not capable of being around one person for too long without becoming tired of being with the same person and/or being afraid to get closer to them. How am I supposed to have a boyfriend if I have this problem? I have felt both of these things with a male(18) but then once I start backing off I miss him again. He is really the only person I\n have ever actually had a crush on. I have never really felt anything quite the same for anyone else. I dont know what is wrong with me. I really like him but then once we start getting close I start having these issues. \n\nThese issues have lead me to a multitude of questions: Is it me? Is he just not a good match? If so why cant I get over him?(I have liked him for about a year with periods of having the feelings mentioned above) Is it normal to not want to be around the same person all the time? Do other couples feel this way when they are with there SO non stop? Should I just try to force myself to dive in to a dating situation and ask him out on an actual date? Should I cut my losses and just let it go?", "summary": "I have liked this guy for a little over a year but have run into some emotional/mental blocks that are stopping me from dating someone."}
{"id": "t3_1sy3sw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with a girl from my work [23F] [Dating]", "post": "Throwaway account because she knows my main account...\n\nHi everyone, first of all, thank you for your advices...\n\nSo. there is a girl at my work with whom I share alots of common interest. And soon we started seeing each other outside of work. So fastforward to last week, I feel like she was interested because when I took her with my arms, she didnt mind at all. We spent a movie night like this. \n\nThen yesterday we went to restaurant for a hockey match and came back to her place. (Note, we didnt had any drink at all) It was like 1 in the morning and was snowing outside so I didn't felt like driving to home in a such condition. So I asked her if I could stay over for the night and sleep on the couch, she actually said she would prefer me to sleep in her bed instead. We spent the night cuddling and spooning. It was amazing. I felt like she wouldn't do such thing if she wasnt interested at all.\n\nHowever when  I got back to home this morning, she sent me a text saying that she felt bad for last night and she didn't want anyone in her life at the moment. \n\nMy question is... Should I stick around and see if she would change her mind or just move on?", "summary": "Girl at work gives me hope then say she don't want anyone."}
{"id": "t3_2t31nc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like I'm not cut out for my career.", "post": "I made the decision after about 2 years of community college with not real path in sight, to quit and look into trades. I took a gamble and went with cosmetology; I thought because I like to do make up I can probably do hair too. So I began researching school. I wanted to go to a \"nice\" school which of course came with a nice big price tag of roughly 20,000. \n\nI started out in love I thought I made the perfect choice. However that quickly ended about 5 months into a 12 month program. Beauty school is almost exactly how anyone can picture it. Catty, bitchy women, and a lot like the girl's in high school. I tried my best to keep my head down and power through all the bull shit being thrown my way from instructors and other students, but eventually it gets to you. \n\nAnyway, I graduated at the beginning of the month with 1600 hours under my belt. A year is a long time to focus on one thing so you would think that I would feel at least a little bit ready to find a job in my field. Well I feel the exact opposite. But I just payed $20,000 to do this so I'm going to get my license. I payed my fees and went to go take my practical exam last week. \n\nI feel like this is a lot of back story for the whole point of my post but", "summary": "I fail my practical and I couldn't possibly feel less shitty. Logically I know its a big deal and I should just pay and retake it. However I just really don't want to, I feel defeated and I have lost all passion for this career I payed so much money for. I just don't feel like I'm good at all. I just really want to give up."}
{"id": "t3_3nlr1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] Friend [21F] Smacked My Son [3M]", "post": "My son is 3 years old and I've always been hesitant about having him around my friends since most people my age don't have much experience with parenting, one of my best friends is the only one I allow to ever babysit him, but I don't know if I want to now. She was over on Saturday and she got angry at my son for throwing her shoe down the stairs. I don't believe in corporal punishment whatsoever, and she knows that too. But when he threw her shoe down the stairs she smacked him, and not even just a little smack on the butt, but like a smack right across the face. That absolutely pissed me off and I couldn't believe she did that. He cried and broke my heart, I told her that's not okay and that's not how I discipline my child. And she seemed apologetic and understanding, her and my parents take turns sitting him while I work. She wanted to look after him Sunday while I worked and my parents did the past couple times so I felt guilty saying no to her, even though I didn't want her looking after him. So I dropped him off at her place before work and the entire time I was so anxious and worried about if that's not the only time she's hit him. What do I do if it happens again? How do I build up the courage to stand up to her and tell her I don't want her looking after him anymore?", "summary": "My friend smacked my son for throwing her shoe down the stairs, she looks after him sometimes and I don't know if I want her to anymore."}
{"id": "t3_zppgi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I find a job when I'm not interested in anything, not educated in anything, I'm 19 and kind of a lost cause.", "post": "So basicly, I've been unemployed now for about 3-4 months, only got the job because my Mum worked there and they needed someone else, after 9 months of probational work I failed and got fired, so now I'm claiming for money to try and find a job, but im basicly hopeless, there's nothing out there that makes me want to go \"Yeah I can imagine myself doing that for the rest of my life\" and im not educated or skilled in anything, so Reddit, what should I do? sorry if this is the wrong place to put this but this was the only place I could think of, thanks for any advice, if you want to be cruel about it go ahead, I don't get offended easily.", "summary": "I'm Hopeless and need some guidance."}
{"id": "t3_13ngyh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your best, or possibly worst, camping experiences?", "post": "For me, about a year ago a few buddies and I went up to a cabin out in the middle of nowhere that very few people know about.  Our hike most of the way was through a big old winter storm coming in. Upon arrival and a few beers we decided to take our liquid courage into sledding form.  Eventually I ended up slamming into a tree (fortunately without injury).  After that we all sat around smoking cigars while looking at a mountain across the valley, and we came to the dead set conclusion that some maniac mountain man was hiking the damn thing pretty close to sunset, and thought he was for sure in for a very cold night in sub zero temps.  After that we moved our efforts into the cabin and made some delicious dinner consisting of cheese bratwursts, onions, green peppers, and whatever else we could find.  Once bed time rolled around one of my buddies tried to stumble up the ladder to the loft of the cabin, and ended up slipping off and falling around 8 feet right onto my back.  Didn't even care at this point and just started cracking up for the next few minutes.  All in all just fun with a bunch of guys in the middle of fucking nowhere.", "summary": "Sledded into trees, convinced ourselves a rock was climbing a mountain, and made some damn good food in a blizzard."}
{"id": "t3_1euqo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21) am extremely uncomfortable with my girlfriends (20) friends.", "post": "Relationship of 4 years. Me- 21, her-20.\n\nAll my girlfriends friends sleep with many different people and are burn outs. They wake up everyday and are high 24/7. They don't care about anything but sleeping with people and being high.\n\nIt makes me uncomfortable for her to be around them, they all seem to have a good time together but the fact that she goes off alone with them makes me nervous. I don't want her to fall into the same pattern of behavior as these girls.\n\nDrugs in general makes me nervous, I had them in my life once and now I want them gone. Whenever they get high around us, I just get this sad/uncomfortable feeling, I really just don't want to deal with it.\n\nI'm worried that this could end our otherwise healthy relationship, I can't ask her to stop being friends with them but is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Girlfriend has crap friends who just get high and sleep around. Makes me uncomfortable for her to be around them, makes me even more uncomfortable to be in their presence while they are getting high/are high. What can I do to stop this from ruining our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3x2zep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with the mutual friends of an ex-fiance and the new girl(s) [31F] I'm dating...", "post": "Was engaged 8 months ago. \n\nJust starting dating again.\n\nNew girl and I have gone exclusive so its time to meet some of my friends.  \n\nOne social circle of mine is mostly all mutual friends with my ex-fiance.  There are no problems there and I'm happy everybody is still getting along.\n\nHowever the new girl has expressed some concerns she'll be compared against the ex-fiance. New girl has a small amount of anxiety about the situation and that she'll be judged unfairly.\n\nI'm not concerned at all because my friends are awesome and non-judgmental but I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to make everything more comfortable for the new girl.\n\nI can totally understand the trepidation but I'm not worried. My friends are amazing and non-judgmental. I've conveyed everything, communication about the scenario has been open and honest.  However I'm not the best at understanding the full dynamics at play so reddits advice is appreciated.\n\nFYI ex-fiance will be avoided if the new bae is there.  I'll avoid that dynamic for a while.", "summary": "How do I make a new ladyfriend feel welcome in a social situation surrounded by mutual friends with my ex-fiance."}
{"id": "t3_3s6905", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] Broke up with stable boyfriend (19/m) to go to school on the other side of the country. We still love each other and I am not happy at my school\u2013 might transfer.", "post": "I [19/F] am a freshman at a University 900 miles from my hometown. I'm from the Midwest and decided to attend a respectable school on the East Coast. So, the situation: when deciding where to go to school, I was between the school I am currently at and my state's (also respectable) big state school. My boyfriend of two years (19/M) had already committed to the state school when I was deciding. The deal was, that\u2013if I picked the east coast school\u2013we would break up and remain friends, instead of straining our healthy relationship. I tried really hard not to go to the state school just to follow him there, but I am feeling like I made the wrong decision. \n\nI am not, socially, happy with my current school\u2013even though, academically, I am thriving and already am participating in research (Med school is the ultimate goal). I just don't have a lot in common with a lot of kids here, as the demographic is extremely wealthy while I am lower-middle-class who has to pay a lot for my tuition. \n\nOn top of not being happy here, I still talk to my ex every day and he is really happy at his school. We both aren't over each other, but I am having a harder time because I am not as socially happy. We are still best friends, which makes things more difficult sometimes. We have hinted at getting back together, but he is afraid that we won't talk anymore if we try long distance and it doesn't work out.\n\nI am seriously considering transferring to his school sophomore year, but am trying NOT to do it just for him. However, I cannot help but think about how we would be together again if I transferred. \n\nI am just really confused. I have always had a very stable, healthy relationship with my ex, but I am not able to make sense of my feelings anymore.", "summary": "Mutually broke up with boyfriend when we went off to college. I am not happy with my school. We still love each other. Thinking of transferring, but want to be careful that I'm not doing it just to be with him."}
{"id": "t3_3gdfl9", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "To those who tailgate.", "post": "The other day on my drive out of town on a two lane road (two opposite lanes), a guy on his phone in a brand new 2015 Jeep Cherokee decided to ride my ass when I was already doing 10 over the speed limit.  He decided to keep on tailgating me for the next 30 minutes when he could have easily passed.  He finally decided to attempt to pass me, but luckily I was in my 2013 Nissan 370z with a 350hp v6.  There's no overtaking me in that car.  \n\nThe second he went out to overtake me, I put my foot down and I was gone.  He ended up having to get behind me again, and he kept his distance.  I think he learned his lesson not to tailgate but instead to take his time.", "summary": "Don't tailgate."}
{"id": "t3_1rf8g5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (21/M) tell her (20/F) that I'm not sure I'm ready to be in a relationship right now?", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nI just got out of a year long relationship just a couple weeks ago and have since decided it'd be best to stay single for the remainder of my time in college. I graduate in Spring and am not sure where I'm going after, so starting a new relationship probably isn't the best idea right now.\n\nI've been hanging out with a girl I intern with the past couple weeks and it became apparent rather quickly that she liked me. I didn't want to jump the gun and tell her I wasn't interested in dating because I enjoyed her company and didn't think it was anything serious. Our hangouts were pretty much limited to watching movies and eating food so I wasn't too worried that I was leading her on. I was doing what I could to distance myself and not act flirty around her to avoid giving her the wrong idea. Last night, however, as I was getting ready to walk out her door, she grabbed me and kissed me. I didn't exactly hate getting kissed so I didn't do much to stop her. \n\nI'm not really sure if she is interested in dating me or if she's just looking to have a fling with me so I'm not sure how to proceed. If it's the former, how can I tell her I don't want to be in a relationship?", "summary": "girl that likes me kissed me last night. Just got out of a long relationship and not looking to date. Unsure of how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_z8o4i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Met girl [23f] online, I'm [24m] not sure if she likes me but I'm just not quite good enough and she is looking for someone just a smidge better. Or if I'm being played.", "post": "I [24m] met this girl [23f] through a dating site (only been seeing each other for 3 weeks). We've been on two dates so far and text a lot (she lives rather far so it's a bit of a production to meet up). I'm pretty smitten for her and asked if she wanted to go exclusive a couple days after the first date. She said it was too soon and I agreed and just went with it. I generally like to move quickly in relationships to get to a level of comfort. I believe she is less experienced with dating though.\n\nI don't mind waiting if she wants to take things slow with me. The problem I have is that I still see her on the dating site some times (I have her on my favorites list and can see when she is online). It really bothers me. I can take it slow with her just fine but if there is a chance I could lose her by hanging back.. it hurts. \n\nOr am I the one with the problem? I think I need some perspective.", "summary": "Met girl online, I'm not sure if she likes me but I'm just not quite good enough and she is looking for someone just a smidge better. Or if I'm being played."}
{"id": "t3_1n148e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28m] am coming home the day after our 6 month anniversary after being away from my gf [25f]. I am sending an anniversary gift. Thoughts on my wording of the note?", "post": "Gwarster's GF,\n\nSix months ago today, you drove a little bit too far past my house, parked your car, and awkwardly walked up to my house in that beautiful turquoise dress.  I didn't know exactly what would happen that night.  I know I was nervous.  I tried on four different ties and two shirts before you had even parked.  While you walked up that afternoon, I saw you as I finished my last half-windsor and figured it would be best to throw caution to the wind and pretend to feel as confident with you as I should have been.  Truth be told? I was really nervous.\n\nI remember the nervousness I felt in the cab, at the theater, the restaurant, at the bar...  Even when your lips pressed against mine and I felt that electricity that you and I could patent as a renewable source of energy to solve world hunger..  I was nervous... and electric... and excited.  I was all of those things because you changed my life that night.  I met someone truly beautiful.  Someone who is equally attractive in a white dress, black boots, or a strongly worded thesis on the effectiveness of the contemporary feminist movement.  \n\nI love you when we argue.  I love you when we kiss, when we fight, and when we sweat together.  I never imagined I'd be so lucky to have a catch like you.\n\nYou changed my life that night.  For the last six months from precisely today,  you've made my life intrinsically better.  \n\nTomorrow I'm coming home.\n\nI hope that for the next six months I can change your life in the same way you've changed mine.\n\nI love you.\n\nSee you tomorrow.\n\nP.S. Wear a dress.  Leggings/pants won't serve you well.  I'm going to make up for lost time.", "summary": "I am thinking of attaching the entire upper portion of this post to a 6 month anniversary after being apart for 4.5 months.  I come home permanently one day after this will be delivered.  I am looking for input."}
{"id": "t3_2kre0k", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I am in serious need of a solution to a big problem.", "post": "I guess I need to start off by saying that I live in Wisconsin where weed is very much illegal. My boyfriend and I have a baby girl due in January and for his job security he has given up smoking and has been clean since around March of this year.\n\nHere is the issue: My boyfriend seems to resent me because I don't want to risk it by having weed back in our lives. I understand it is difficult to give up something that you enjoy. I have made many sacrifices being pregnant. He constantly brings up how much he misses it and wishes he could smoke again. Meanwhile, he is trying to find a better job and pretty much any good place around here will drug test. Also, where we live has a strict \"no drugs\" policy. So, if he were to get caught, he would lose his job, we would be evicted and he would have the charges on his record. As a first time mother I definitely feel that the negatives outweigh the positives in this situation. He doesn't seem to understand and he says that I am \"not letting him be himself\". If weed were legal, I wouldn't be as uptight about it. But the reality of the situation is that weed is NOT legal in our state and too much is on the line. Every time we try to talk about it, he just gets mad at me and shuts down... I don't know what else to do. Does anyone have any constructive advice for me?", "summary": "My boyfriend resents me for not wanting weed in our lives with a new baby in the picture. Too much is on the line with it not being legalized in our state."}
{"id": "t3_51sntw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) girlfriend (20f) is wanting me to propose to her soon. I don't want to, yet.", "post": "We've been together for about 3 years, had some ups and downs, now it's pretty good-ish. Lately she's been hanging out with her friend Sam. She's married, has an apartment and does a lot with her husband. The past few times we've been hanging out (me, gf, sam and her husband) the gf thinks it's cute to yell husband and stare right at me when she talks about sam's husband, in a playful manner and sparks up a discussion about me proposing to my gf.", "summary": "GF and her friend like to pressure me about proposing to GF, but I'm not ready."}
{"id": "t3_38tump", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my [23 F] GF of 3 1/2 years are probably breaking up tomorrow. I want to take her somewhere", "post": "My girlfriend is breaking up with me tomorrow, and I am letting her go ahead with it.\n\nWe never fought. We never argued. We never yelled at one another, nor did we act out irrationally. We loved each other for the whole of almost 4 years.\n\nI am not saying there were not difficult times, and heartache, because that would be lying, but we got through it together. Our love was unconditional. Our love was mutual compromise and understanding. We are soulmates, but I am letting her go.\n\nI did not believe in love. It is used too much. Everyone says it and it feels wrong. I find it feels wrong because I was not the one in the others' shoes. I was not worthy of understanding. I will probably never feel that same feeling again when she said it the first time. \n\n'I love you'\n\nShe said it to me and I believed her. It was not wrong! Everything she said was right, everything she said was wrong, but I believed in her wholeheartedly.\n \nAll this 'was' and nothing has yet to happen, but time has stopped for almost 10 minutes now from that last text, and only now am I starting to move. It feels like slow motion.\n\nI never liked indie music, but she loved it. And right now, it soothes the living shit out of me. I love it now more than ever.\n\nI am an anonymous poster from Los Angeles, CA and my question of advice is where should I take her? She has always wanted to go visit the plains, or the Flowerfields in Carlsbad. She has always wanted to go to the Japanese garden at the Getty. All of which I promised to take her one day, but never did.\n\nWhat do you think reddit? Want to help me out?", "summary": "My girlfriend will break up with me tomorrow and I want to take her to one last place before she moves on."}
{"id": "t3_4gq9z5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my husband [32 M] 9 years, he told me sometimes he just wants to end it all.", "post": "I'm posting because I'm really not sure what to do and, I'm really scared.\n\nMe and my husband were introduced to each other by a mutual friend and, he's amazing. He can be really sweet at times he treats me right and, I really love him.\n\nHe's seemed happy throughout the years and has never showed signs of being unhappy. Last night really scared the shit out of me and, broke my heart at the same time.\n\nHe went out drinking(you can walk there and back the bar is only 2 blocks away) and didn't come home until 4:00am which is really unusual for him. \n\nI went downstairs and saw he was in the bathroom throwing up so I went in there. Turns out he wasn't he was actually crying(he has never ever cried in all of our time together) and I asked him what was wrong.\n\nHe told me sometimes he feels like just ending it all because he can't take it anymore. I actually started crying because it hurt so much to hear him talk like that.\n\nI held him for most of the night before I took him to bed he went to work this morning. He was acting normal but I could tell something was still bothering him I could see it in his face.\n\nI'm not sure what do I do what should I say to him when he gets home.", "summary": "my husband got drunk and came home late I found him in the bathroom crying and he told me sometimes he wants to \"end it all\" not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2w5c6x", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Heads up: American Airlines and US Airways are having website issues, leading to erroneous flight prices shown on their websites and 3rd party websites", "post": "Thought I'd share this with everyone, I apologize if this isn't the right subreddit. I tried booking a flight for my wife and I for later this year on American Airlines, and after entering my credit card on aa.com was told that the price of the flights had TRIPLED. I do want to say that it gave me an option to hold/purchase/cancel the flight, which I promptly cancelled. \n\nAfter searching for the flight again the price quote only reflected the updated price. I called American and spoke with a rep and was told that AA and USAirways are going through a corporate merger, and also merging websites right now. The site merger is causing issues with coding and is showing inaccurate and erroneous flight prices and quotes on the airlines' websites along with 3rd party websites like Kayak. The \"true\" price is shown only after credit/debit card info is submitted. However your card is not automatically charged and you do have the option to cancel the reservation. The rep I spoke with said that true prices are also available by calling customer service, and because of the website issues the airlines are waiving any booking fee by phone.", "summary": "Don't trust flight prices or quotes from American Airlines or US Airways for the near future."}
{"id": "t3_qg4cc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Friend that i have feelings for just got into a relationship. Do i tell them how i feel, or forever hold my silence?", "post": "So, i'm crazy about a person who also happens to be a good friend. In the beginning, we really hit it off and most of our friends thought we would definitetly get together, just a matter of time. But i've known him for over a year now and nothing doing...we are both quite shy. We talk a lot and share stuff, whenever we're together there's a lot of accidentally-on-purpose physical content...tension etc...friends who didn't even know i had feelings for him would always say he was being really obvious...you get the picture. recently, i found out that he was seeing someone casually, but he told me that he wasn't that into her, he just knew she liked him and he wanted to be with someone...i was bursting to tell him that she wasn't his only option...but i didn't. he was still being very affectionate with me and i thought he might still choose me. now they are together and i'm gutted. i feel he has led me on. do i confront him? what do i say? \nReddit, thanks so much for reading this - please give me some advice!", "summary": "guy i'm friends with and have feelings for gave me loads of signals that he felt more than friendly toward me, now he's with someone. do i tell him the truth?"}
{"id": "t3_2dsla2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Could a girl(16f) who friendzoned me(16m) start liking me after some time?", "post": "There is this girl who I liked whom I confessed to three years ago through text(yes, now I know not to do that) of which she responded with an 'Okay ;x'. I never really knew whether that was friendzoning or not but that's what I thought it was. \n\nFastforward to the future when I decided to move on and go after another girl. However, around this time she started showing signs that she liked me. For example, she seemed a lot more hyper around me. There was one time when we did that thing in Tarzan when he met Jane and they put their hands together(to compare hand sizes, but we stayed like that for too long for just comparing hand sizes, also nobody compares hand sizes so did she ask because she liked me?) Also, even though we were not being squeezed in a crowd and had a lot of space around, she seems to purposely lean on me to try to see something. Also, there was one time I visited her class and then one of her classmates called her name then pointed at me like he was suggesting something to her about me. \n\nAlso, when texting her she would use a lot of caps and laugh a lot. \nThen, when I moved on to the girl I'd mentioned(called girl B to avoid confusion), the girl in question(girl A) and B are actually best friends. So when I heard that B got a boyfriend recently(who is A's cousin), I wanted to confirm it by asking A. Ever since then, her replies have less laughs and emotes, and she gives one-word replies more often. Could she be upset that I like B? \n\nSo could she like me?", "summary": "Girl I liked friendzoned me. After a while she seemed to show signs of interest. I'm not sure if they really are though, so could she like me?"}
{"id": "t3_2twurw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did anyone get monthly space books when they were a child? If so do you remember what it was called?", "post": "Dear reddit,\nWhen I was a child my father had a monthly subscription for some space magazine. The way it worked:\nThey sent us a large 4 inch binder with several starter articles about space and every month they would send 4 new articles (one for every week I assume) to add to the binder. These articles included information about the stars, planets, important/key figures involved in space exploration, key events and the technology behind it all.\nNow that I'm a father I'm looking for the same or similar program for my daughter. Does anyone have any idea what I'm talking about or something similar?", "summary": "I'm looking for space books (similar to the zoobooks subscription) for my daughter so she can learn about space."}
{"id": "t3_2y7liz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think my Neighbor robbed me.", "post": "I will start with some back story, I live in a nice neighborhood full of retired people. My neighbors who fit into this category are lovely, they look after our cats and water our plants while we are away, we get along really well because of this they have a copy of our house key. They have a daughter who is in her early 30's and she is very different to them. She doesn't have a job or a house and is living with them at the moment, in short she is a trouble child. On Friday morning i left some money and some candy on the bench and left for work, when I got back it was all gone, nothing there. I searched the house and there was no sign of forced entry. I went round to the neighbors house and asked the elderly couple if they had seen anything, they said they had been out all day. Thats when i came to the conclusion that I think there daughter came into our house and took it. I don't know what to do, please help me reddit.", "summary": "Neighbor has troubled daughter I have reason to believe she robbed my house."}
{"id": "t3_36781z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can an employer refuse to offer a check as payment?", "post": "I am trying to find if there is any lawful documentation stating that an employer must offer a check. Right now my company only offers direct deposit as payment, and states simply \"they can't\" cut a check (and we have a full accounting department that has the ability to physically print checks, so that is not an issue.) \n\nNormally DD wouldn't be an issue, however, the way the DD works, the payment hits the account nearly 3-5 days after the pay stub is made available, dependent on the bank.\n\nExample:\nPay period is 1st-15th, the 15th falls on a Saturday. The pay stub won't even be processed until the following Monday (17th), then it takes 2-3 business days (this is mostly dependent on the bank at this point) for the money to actually hit the account. \n\nThis happens almost every pay period, and it is even worse when there is a holiday on a Monday, because everything is pushed back even further.", "summary": "I am trying to find some sort of legal webpage/document stating that an employer must issue a check as payment (and that direct deposit be just an option)."}
{"id": "t3_1o046f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the difference between just having opposite-gender friends and emotional cheating?", "post": "Call me (19,M) naive, call me immature, but I am genuinely curious.\n\nMy girlfriend (18,F) is very independent; it's great. She's nice, sociable, funny, etc. She has girl friends and guy friends alike. I trust her completely, she has never given me a reason to be distrustful. Her friends make her happy and in turn that makes me happy.\n\nWe are in a LDR (not so far, but we only see each other once every two weeks). She sees her guy friends everyday. So yeah, they're her friends, she jokes with them, talks about life, what have you. When does it cross the line? what's the difference between her just being friends with these guys and it becoming too emotional?\n\nThanks so much!", "summary": "Girlfriend has a bunch of guy friends. What's the dif between her being friends and her emotionally cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_12p8ud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I came home this morning to discover that a glass jar in my kitchen had exploded. What's the weirdest thing you've come home to after a weekend out, Reddit?", "post": "So my dad makes this drink he calls \"Apple Pie\" that's basically a shit ton of apple juice, some Captain Morgan's Spiced Rum, and cinnamon and other spices, and he just lets it sit for a while and it tastes like apple pie after a while. He had let his most recent batch sit out on the counter for a few months, and because the apple juice he used was really natural and didn't have many preservatives, it started to ferment. Apparently the glass jug that was holding it was just as strong as the cap that was on it, and exploded rather violently. Glass fucking everywhere and sticky apple juice residue on the floor. Luckily, no one was home this weekend and we only have to clean up the mess as opposed to sending people to the hospital. Probably the weirdest thing to happen to me in the last few years.", "summary": "Fermenting apple juice + deceptively thin-walled sealed glass container = huge goddamn mess."}
{"id": "t3_4o09j4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] looking to take a friendship with a [18M] to another level", "post": "Not sure if the title was clear, but let me explain.\n\nI've been with only one guy so far and talked to various guys and not really been fond of any of them. Even the guy I was with was just casual, I didn't enjoy spending a lot of time with him. There's only been one guy that I've really connected with, we've been friends for almost two years. And we've been strictly that, friends. (We're even jokingly eachother's GBF). He's had similar experiences and a lot of our time is spent talking about wanting more from guys, guys we really connect with that want more than sex.\n\nI recently had a cringey encounter when a guy really desperately tried to get into my pants. He was somewhat cute and somewhat nice but I don't know him, so with what willpower I had I declined his offer.\n\nSince then, it hit me that I had never really thought about my friend in that way, except when I initially met him and thought he was cute - but had then thought better of it considering I liked just talking to him plus I had a lot of confidence problems, as I used to be about 70 pounds heavier. And then I started thinking about him in that way, I've always thought he was cute, though I'm not the one to admit that in fear that it could harm our friendship. And I really connect with him.\n\nBUT I'm very very very nervous about trying to take it to the next level. I know he connects with me. And I think he thinks I'm somewhat attractive based on things he has said to me. But I'm not sure if that's enough. How do you go from friends to something more? And what if something more hurts our friendship forever? I'd prefer to be friends with him forever even if it means giving up on the idea of us as a romantic thing over losing him.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Been friends with a guy for years. Always really connected with him and not other guys - and I know he's felt the same about that. I'd like to be more than friends with him, but I don't know how to do that or if it's worth it. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_f0s9b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do/did other redditors prepare for exams?", "post": "This is my first time posting on reddit after lurking for a long time, so I hope I've done everything right.\n\nI find myself in an all too familiar position. I have an exam today, and I am unprepared. I just keep putting revision off until I get to the point where I'm doomed. I have decided never again (after today) to be in this terrible position because it makes me feel terrible.\n\nHow do you guys study for exams? Do you have any brain hacks for mass information overload at last minute? I'd be interested in hearing from anyone else who had my problem but overcame it.", "summary": "how do/did you revise for exams?"}
{"id": "t3_2t6c5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] was just told by my GF [F 21] that she cheated on me in her dreams", "post": "I feel stupid writing this but I just want to gauge people's reaction, and just get some thoughts out of my head.\n\nMy GF slept over last night, and this morning told me she had a dream. In the dream we had an argument and she'd stormed off. She then had sex with 2 of her friends, whom she said she hadn't seen in 6 years. After some pressing she told me who the 2 were, one I didn't know at all but the other was a guy I kinda knew, who she's good friends with currently. The awkward thing is there's an event next week that I'm going to with her and this friend will also be there, so I can imagine myself feeling quite odd around him.\n\nWe've been together about 5 months, and in that time I've always trusted her and it's been really good, but this latest episode has made me think about some things in the relationship. Like the fact that she talks with a half dozen or so ex boyfriends and guys who were/are interested in her, and that she always talks about her past partners. Now that first part wouldn't really bother me but she recently told me she wouldn't like me talking to other girls.\n\nI've been cheated on in the past, which made me take a long break from any sort of relationship until this one, so even the thought of it makes me feel ill.\n\nLike I said, I don't think this is that big of an issue and the I think the fact she told me means I have little to worry about, but I would like to get other people's opinion on this situation, and if anybody had a similar experience.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "GF had dream in which we argued and she then cheated on me with 2 friends."}
{"id": "t3_mpy49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Possible to be friends with opposite sex when married?", "post": "Wife and I of two years (mid-20's) have little in common but of course enjoy each others company.  Turns out I've found that I have several things in common with various people I went to college with, including a few woman who majored in the same field and since have gone into working in the same field.  While in school we hung out a lot, driving my wife to get upset.  Often I would rather spend time with the lady friend either working toward school related goals or even out at night having a drink or two.\n\nNothing sexual ever happened between of the two us, nor do I personally think it ever would.  I love my wife and while my lady friend is extremely attractive I don't feel that I would ever put myself in a position where I would cheat (I also don't believe she would cheat, or even be interesting in sleeping with me).\n\nForgetting that I should of handled the situation better with my wife, she doesn't agree that it is possible for a married man/woman to be friends with the opposite sex without cheating being an issue.", "summary": "Is it possible for a married man/woman to be friends with the opposite sex w/o cheating occuring?"}
{"id": "t3_3fcul3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hugging my wife.", "post": "Obligatory not today, but within the last 24 hours, so close enough for reddit.\n\nLast night my fine, super sexy wife was going to bed before me, as usual. I generally tuck her in to fall asleep to Jon Stewart, tell her goodnight and watch tv for another half hour or so before I go to bed. Last night however, she was sprawled across the bed to my side as I came to kiss her goodnight. As I bent down to hug her, she moved towards me, and reached up to the waistband of my shorts. I, not noticing the action, kept going in for the requisite goodnight hug and kiss, pushed her back down to the bed away from my lower horn, and fell half on top in a good husbandly embrace. She began laughing uncontrollably, and in the moment of reflection I said, \"Oh shit, did I just cockblock myself?\". \"Yup\" was her reply. \"godDAMMIT!\" I exploded in laughter myself, and as she reached for my waistband again, I stopped her with, \"No, I'm sorry, there's no going back now. I'm an idiot. Maybe tomorrow night. I'm so sorry.\" We laughed and hugged, and I left.", "summary": "I went for an arm-hug, cockblocked her mouth-hug."}
{"id": "t3_2p3nmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [40 M] reconnect with my estranged father [76 M/F]", "post": "My parents got divorced when I was 8. I have had limited contact with my dad since.\n\nWe spent most of my teenage years not talking. I did see him once when I was 20 but it didn't go well and we haven't talked since. Honestly, I'm not 100% sure I would even recognize his face anymore.\n\nOver the past few years, I have realized how my mother manipulated me into hating him all these years and probably pushed him out of my life.\n\nI'm working through the No More Mr Nice Guy book to deal with other issues and would like to reach out to him and attempt to reconnect.\n\nBecause of his age, he has no online presence. I don't want to initiate contact with a phone call. I do have his address and keep trying to write him a letter.\n\nI really just want to invite him to meet for coffee sometime but no matter how many times I try to write the letter, I end up throwing it away.\n\nI need some advice from anyone who has experienced a similar situation. How did you reach out? Was it helpful or hurtful? Were you glad you did it?", "summary": "Haven't talked to dad in 20 years. How do I start?"}
{"id": "t3_he0ll", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is stealing water, can I experience legal repercussions?", "post": "The water at my house got shut off today. \n\nIt almost happened last month too. A man came knocking on our door saying the water would get shut off by 5 pm unless the bill got paid. I sucked it up and paid the bill so we'd still have water. This month, we got yet another 48 hours notice and I refused to pay it again cause I have only gotten $25 back out of the $145 I paid last month. \n\nThe roommate in question (let's call him Todd) refuses to take over the bill because all the other bills are in his name. He also says he doesn't have enough money because he left his job and hasn't received unemployment yet. \n\nToday I came home to a note saying \"Our water was officially turned off today :(\" When I went in to Todd's room to confirm, he says \"I turned it back on.\" I ask him to clarify and his girlfriend says, \"You know Todd, he has his ways.\"\n\nSo my roommate is definitely stealing our water. I can't afford to go and make it right by paying the bill. Do I have any legal obligation to report him? Can I be held responsible in any way just by knowing about it?", "summary": "My roommate is a douche. Can I be legally tied to his douchebaggery?"}
{"id": "t3_3x0c1d", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Old 401(k) and new 403(b). Convert old to new IRA?", "post": "My old 401(k) at my previous employer has basically been sitting making around 8-10% but receiving no funds.  My new 403(b) as of 3.5 years ago has been maxed out with the matching I get around 4% I believe.  \n\nI was asked to make a choice by the old 401(k) provider to either roll into a Roth IRA, transfer to my current 403(b), or let it ride to a new company (which is why they are asking me about in the first place). \n\nNow I know I should have one of each but I like the idea because I'm a simple being, to keep everything in one place.  But the part of me saying, \"roll into a Roth and donate yourself each pay period\" is starting to make sense.\n\nWhat do you guys think?  I believe the amount paid into the IRA is tax refundable, or deferred, and managing shouldn't be very difficult.  However, they also asked if I wanted to pay a small fee and have a professional look over the account for higher yeilds.  Again, never done that before and have no idea if it's a sales pitch for not a lot of return.", "summary": "Roll 401(k) to 403(b) or create IRA account?  If create account, is it worth to have them actively manage it?  What to expect?  I know basically nothing about trading or stocks, I just send monies.  "}
{"id": "t3_2hvmg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [20f] i'm interested in has told me [18m] there's another guy... I've been hurt to many times to care...", "post": "So from my post history, this girl was acting weird when i told her how i felt towards her..\n\nTurns out there's another guy that she is semi interested in, this little thing has been going on for roughly a year and she is confused as to what she wants...\n\nI honestly like her so much, and i haven't felt this way about someone for a good long fucking time. I feel like i should be angrier about the situation but i simply can't be..\n\nI feel that i have been hurt to many times to care about this.. (Was cheated on by my last 2 girlfriends so this doesn't seem so bad to me).\n\nI have told her that needs to make a decision between me and him and she keeps telling me that she feels that she wants me but isn't sure.\n\nI don't know what to do, how do i get a decision from her. I just want to fucking know so i can either move on or settle down..", "summary": "Girl acts weird when i confess my feelings, explains there's another dude, I've been hurt too many times to give a fuck, i want an answer."}
{"id": "t3_w16c8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18F] I want to break up with my boyfriend [23M], but I'm scared I won't have any support from my once-friends.", "post": "I recently started thinking about my 18 month relationship with my boyfriend, who is five years older than me. We grew up in the same small town, but just started to talk and date in December 2010. We were complete opposites, as he did drugs and drank alot while I was the quiet straight A student who was just starting to come out of her shell.\nAnyways, throughout the year until now, he has cheated on me, lied to me, slept with my cousin and went behind my back to do drugs again (he quit drinking and drugs in the first few months of the relationship). I know I should have broken it off then, but I was head over heels as he is my first love. The real problem here is his insecurities. He won't let me have any sort of social networking site, and I lost almost all of my friends because of him. He is a very controlling person. There is no trust in the relationship. He also wants to get married and have kids, but I'm only 18 and I'm starting college in the city this fall. Our plan was to move to an apartment there, and I'll go to school while he works. But he doesn't trust me at the school alone (that's how bad his trust issues are with me).\n\nAs I read back on all of this, there is plenty reason to end the relationship. What I am scared of is that my friends, who I stopped talking to for my boyfriend, won't accept me back. Most recently, it has been my best friend who I lost. I feel like if I break it off, I'll end up with nobody. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend is very controlling and I lost most of my friends due to the relationship. If I break up with him, I'll end up with nothing. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1owlfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M20] not sure wether to stay w/ or leave her [F18]", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years. I have felt completed and happy most of the time but we have had some big arguements. At one point we broke up for about 1 month before getting back together and I still love her.\n\nNot long ago she wanted to break up saying she's never felt true happiness in the relationship. Of course I know it's not true because every time we see each other she is always very positive. But ever since I recieved this information I cannot feel comfortable in the relationship, it's as if I know she's gonna break up sooner or later. She requested me to be more open and let her know if I'm upset so she knows when to back off (I'm verbal not physical).", "summary": "She will leave me eventually if I dont change, I'm not sure it will be enough if I do."}
{"id": "t3_3mgvh9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[KS] First time poss. Of marijuana and poss. Of drug para. (Pipe) any advice would be appreciated!", "post": "Last night me and 4 other buddy's were caught and arrested for about 2 grams of marijuana and also a piece. We are all about 19 and we got released from jail last night on O/R which is just them having faith I will appear for court in about 10 days on the scheduled day. All 5 of us received the same charges which were \"Poss. Of marijuana; poss. Of drug paraphernalia.\"\n\nI was just wondering if anyone can give me advice on how to handle this? I've had no priors or anything on my record until now, so would anyone know what to expect? \n \nI already plan on staying of drugs and alcohol after this wake up call and I know i won't have any issues stopping.", "summary": "first time poss and poss of drug paraphernalia. I'm not sure what's going to happen next and how I should approach this."}
{"id": "t3_1w7l9g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "26/m This girl [24/f] I'm dating wants to take it slow. Can someone elaborate on how to do that?", "post": "So I took this girl out on a date. The next day she told me that she wants me to take it slow with her, but doesn't want me to be scared off. She said she has been hurt too many times. Whatever that's fine. We continued to talk for a few days before i asked her out again. she agreed. We have since had 3 dates out and the last 2 saturdays, she has had me to her place to hangout. We have a group date scheduled on friday with 2 other couples.\n\nClearly she likes me, so how do I take it slow with her? Are we moving at a good pace? Only thing that has me worried is that I haven't kissed her on the lips yet. I kiss her on the cheek every time... I only do this because she wanted to move slow. Am I moving too slow? I really like this girl", "summary": "1st date she said she wants to move slow. We've been on 3 dates since and have another scheduled for Friday. What's too slow?"}
{"id": "t3_5036m0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What's wrong with me?", "post": "3 years ago, I had a car that was paid off, less than $200 in debt, shitty credit, small apartment, but was kinda happy. \n\nNow I have a house, $6000 Lowe's card maxed out (woodworking hobby), just bought a truck yesterday for $40k. Decent credit but I am acting Stupid! I will be barely able to make the payments along side rent and other bills. \n\nOver the last 3 years I have exceeded my means gradually. Thinking that having a house, and my life together will attract a better mate. But now I am realizing that I cannot afford to go out much less date anyone.", "summary": "I now have my life kinda where I want it in one way, but at the expense of another."}
{"id": "t3_12m9ml", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I went to a party Wednesday. I was the only straight, single guy there and the only straight, single girl there turned me down. Reddit, when have you too had the sweet spot of odds and still got nowhere?", "post": "I'll elaborate slightly on my story. I'm at university (college for US users) and live next door to students at a rival university.\n\nIt's Halloween evening and my 'wonderful' housemates pull the same shit they always do. Go out without me. \n\nI pop into my kitchen and see next door having an awesome party.\n\nSocially awesome penguin goes round next door, ringing doorbell and knocking door. Note that we haven't had much to do with these guys yet. Said hi once or twice, but not much else. Socially awkward penguin quickly realises no one will answer the door as they assume it's trick or treaters.\n\nNip back round my house and in the back garden of next door is a guy from next door out smoking. A quick conversation with a housemate that lives there later and I'm making my way back round with a few beers.\n\nSit down and quickly realise this is mostly members of said rival universities LGBT society. Fine. A parties a party. Have a laugh, drink a bit. Trawl back home at stupid-o-clock.\n\nI find one of the girls there is the only straight girl there (no bi girls, either). \n\nEveryone is playing drinking games / chatting etc, I get roped in to a twisted version of truth or dare. \n\nI get a dare of kiss the person to my right. Which was said girl. So I do. She gets the \"what is your magic number\" later on. Turns out she \"lost count at about 40\". (magic number = how many people have you slept with).\n\nSkipping on to later on in the eve, I'm dancing the night away with everyone and enjoying myself, she gets back in from the garden and gives me the \"like you've got a chance look\".\n\nEveryone else leaves much later on. I'm the last to leave the party, skulking home again to my bed alone.", "summary": "Went to neighbors party, got off with the only straight, single girl that had shagged 40+ guys. Still got rejected."}
{"id": "t3_2e7y21", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [18/m] girlfriend [18/F] of 6 months says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now.", "post": "So me and her started dating 6 months ago. Recently with her sister moving away, best friend moving away, grandpa dieng in the hospital, and new stressful job, she has been a emotional wreck. She says she cant handle being in a relationship right now and she needs time. It's almost been 3 weeks since she broke up with me. She's really emotional and there may be a mental issue with stress. I text her like I used to and she's my ride to college so I can't cut contact with her, and I love her and want to be with her. She still says I love you before we go to sleep. Also I had a conversation in the car with her and she said that she wouldn't move on with her life with another guy, she'd move on with me and be together when shes ready.", "summary": "She doesnt want a relationship with all the stress in her life right now, but probably will later"}
{"id": "t3_35likz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my SO [17 F] 18 Months, Girlfriend got an AVO on me, think we can work it out.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend broke up on valentines day because of a really heavy fight, not physical just an emotional one, and things didn't really turn out well and we screamed at each other and tore each other apart verbally and she hit her head on a wall and went to hospital and the police thought it was me who hit her but i didn't.\n\nSo the police filed and AVO on me and i went to court and heaps of hatred came out of that towards her, but now we have been talking a lot lately and tying to make us work because we made each other really happy for the duration of our relationship and I'm not really sure what to do with it, like i love her and want the best for her and but i don't really wanna deal with the shit off my friends and family if i do get back with her because she's made my life hell over the past couple of months.\n\nWe dated for 18 months and she made me heaps happy and made me feel loved for a long time and recently I've been pretty unhappy, so i feel if i get back with her everything will be good and ill be happy again, we've met up and were happy again just sorting everything out, I go to court again this monday to get the avo revoked because she has told the police i didn't do anything, but none of my friends can give me a proper answer on what to do. So Reddit, i ask for your help, what do i do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and i broke up, she got an avo on me and made my life hell, want to get start fresh, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3xwyro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23m) girlfriend (18f) of nine months has started talking to me less and talking to other people more.", "post": "Hello everyone.\n\nI am in a spot of trouble. My brilliant ladylove has found a group of friends that she likes a lot. I notice her texting them when I'm around, and I enjoy seeing her make new bonds be they male or female.\n\nHowever, I have also noticed the inverse. She tends to see or talk to them more quickly after work, and talk to me less. \n\nThis is all in context of us having a big argument last week. She ended up self destructing, and a few days ago called me and apologized profusely.\n\nSince then (3 days ago), we've spent two days bonding. Telling each other the deepest of things within ourselves, and really working through emotions.\n\nShe regularly texted them back every hour or so. (I have a mind for patterns, I don't keep track of things like this intentionally). This has started to bother me though, as she doesn't seem to enjoy just texting me as much.\n\nAs another part of us soulbonding, we mutually agreed that I need a larger friendbase. Yesterday she actually told me to spend the day with some other people (in a benign way), then we ultimately spent the night together.\n\nShe loves me, but are there tiny general things I can do to re-pique her interest? Or should I just relax, give her space to just interact with who she decides and let her interest in me ignite on its own?", "summary": "ladylove has new friends. She says I need a larger friendbase. Has begun talking to others more than me but I don't know if it is contextually a bad thing."}
{"id": "t3_48rin9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my gf [25 F] 3 years, she found out that I slept with another girl long ago, while we were on a break, now I found that she had sex with other guys while we weren't on a break but somehow I feel the guilty one from all of this.. Should I feel like this? Help please", "post": "so, long ago I had a little break up with my gf, like for about 3 months, and I thought that I would never be with her again but the odds had been that she called me one night and as soon as I could I was in her apartment. So we came back together, and time later she found out that I slept with another girl while we were on that break, since then she had been so upset about everything: that I am not good enough, that she is so \"nice with me\" and All the bad thing a gf could say to her boyfriend, long story short, I found out that she cheated me months after my encounter with that other girl, she slept with other guys and she told me all of this because she was confused about us.. And I don't know why but I feel that I love her that much that I shouldn't even care.. Is it really my fault? I mean I wasn't in a relationship anymore but then came back and after this she makes me feel that all of this nonsense started by my fault.. Am I the guilty one? I need an advice please guys.. (Sorry for my redaction English is not my first language", "summary": "I was with someone because I thought I wouldn't ever came back with my gf, we came back and she found out months after that now and cheated me because she said she was confuse. And I feel the guilty one about all this."}
{"id": "t3_2tuh34", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "reddit, I need advice.", "post": "women of reddit, I would really appreciate your advice and help... I figured that a subreddit of women would be the best place to ask, and I hope this post is well-received. \n\nin the 10 years I have been out of high school, I have been in two 4-year relationships, the latter just ending sunday. I don't have a lot of pickup experience, and my number of \"partners\" is still in the single digits.. I'm pretty crushed about it and by no means ready to jump back into the dating scene, but if I was...\n\n\u2022 how would I go about respectfully catching your attention? \n\n\u2022 how can I get you to open up to me and talk to break the ice? \n\n\u2022 I'm not very good at flirting, advice please? \n\n\u2022 how/when would be a good way to ask you to mee up with me somewhere? \n\nabout me: I'm 27, male, and I'm told that I'm very handsome. I just went back to community college to finish my bachelor's degree and there are quite a few beautiful young women in most of my classes, though I might be 8 years older than some. is that an issue? I have a nice car, decent job, my own place, nice clothes, and I can pull off a vest quite well.. I'm very inexperienced meeting women and could use all the help I can get.\n\nany questions that could help you tailor a response will gladly be answered, so please ask... thank you in advance!", "summary": "I'm very inexperienced meeting women and could use all the help I can get"}
{"id": "t3_mdkss", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I kick the Reddit habit? And do I have a deeper problem?", "post": "At first it wasn't too bad. I got on a few times a day for a good chuckle or to see what was going on in the world. But recently it has COMPLETELY stopped me from getting schoolwork done. I literally have not turned anything in for a good 2 weeks now, and it's hurting me. Luckily I still manage to pull myself away from it for work, which I enjoy, but when it comes to schoolwork, reddit always takes priority. I've tried the Google Chrome extension that blocks certain websites after a given amount of time, but I always just disable it after the time is up. I used to consider myself to have a pretty strong willpower. I still work out an hour a day everyday. But reddit is something I just can't will myself to avoid. It has literally become an addiction.", "summary": "I'm a strong willed person that still can't pull himself away from reddit, and it's hurting my grades. Can anyone provide some help?"}
{"id": "t3_r8iwu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, should I change my Wi-Fi password and cut my freeloading, friendly neighbors off?", "post": "Three college chicks moved in next door to me and my roommate. They're all really laid back and have been good neighbors. However, we entered into an arrangement that allowed them access to our Wi-Fi, as long as they paid half the bill (half being $30/month). This arrangement began in October. My roommate and I have still not received a dime. I've spoken with them about it multiple times and they always promise to pay soon, but it never happens. I understand, they're broke college kids. I've been there. But they all have OK jobs and well-off parents and should be able to afford $10/month (per person).\n\nSo here's my question: Should I change my Wi-Fi password until they pay? Should I go all Tanya Harding/Stewie Griffin and beat my money out of them? Or should I just let them freeload?", "summary": "Neighbors agreed to split internet with us, but haven't paid us in 6 months. Should I murder them or let it slide?"}
{"id": "t3_1fn3el", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [18F] and I [19M] broke up due to a lie i made, still in love, were going to get back together, but i fucked up.", "post": "We've been dating for 5-6 years, and she unexpectedly fell pregnant last year.\n\nWe broke up because i lied to her about things and i did a lot of stupid things after she had the baby.\n\nAfter months of feeling like shit, she couldn't take it anymore and ended the relationship. We agreed that even though we were broken up, we're still going to respect each other / not hurt each other. We continued on as though we were still in a relationship.\n\nI started talking to 2 girls on facebook, one i had liked previously before i met my ex for a long time(B) , and one who is a friend(C) (But my ex already had a problem with C When we first started dating, myself and C took photos of ourselves hugging, and then one of her bent over in front of me. Stupid i know, i have no idea why i did it, but they were posted on facebook and my ex saw.) Ex didn't like it at all, but i kept going.\n\nI made plans with C to go out to dinner with her a week later. Came back later that night and told my ex \"Nothing happened, but i wished something did.\" Ex started immediately crying.\n\nI still kept talking to the 2 girls.\n\nI snooped through my exes inbox quite a lot, i showed her mine to prove that i wasn't saying anything and i was indeed \"respecting the relationship.\" Then she came across me telling C how beautiful i think she is, once again ex broke down.\n\nEx was sitting next to me while i was on fb, i didn't think she'd see, but she saw me talking about masturbation with B. She got upset.\n\nI really fucked up a lot of times, and i want nothing more then to get back with her, but now she's told me that she can't because all she'll think about is what i've said and done.\n\nI've stopped talking to the 2 girls, all i want is her.\n\nWhat should i do?", "summary": "Told ex that we'd respect our relationship, i didn't. I fucked up quite a lot, i want to get back together but she doesn't."}
{"id": "t3_pil8q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever had a total oblivious meeting with a celebrity that you only realize later.", "post": "My story is that when I was 12 or something I went for this Forest walk with my family in New South Wales. At the time we were there, a movie was being filmed, which I thought was weird. We managed to walk on this beaten path, occasionally passing cameras and technicians. We get to this part near a waterfall where most of the film people are. I walk pass this guy who looks so familiar. He was bald and had a goatee. He was joking with all the film crew. Anyway, we keep walking and I see a film crew with a WWE shirt and realize at that moment that I just passed Stone Cold Steve Austin, who at the time, I was a major fan off. I instantly ran back to get an autograph... but he wasnt there....", "summary": "KirbyFTW 3:16 says I just passed Stone Cold's ass"}
{"id": "t3_2u8uts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] looking to go away for 3 months, leaving GF [18F] behind", "post": "I have been going out with my GF for 9 months now, its all going swimmingly, she's a great person and I love her, and I know she feels the same way about me.\n\nHowever, I am looking to spend this summer in the States, teaching at a camp, and then travelling around. This will take around 3 months. I have told my girlfriend about this, and she said she wants me to go, but is kind of hoping I don't get it, which I understand. We already live in different cities a half hour away so I don't think she is concerned about cheating. I can also categorically say I will not cheat on her.\n\nI almost hope I don't get in, but at the same time, I don't want to waste the last few summers I get before I have to join the real world! I also don't want to regret not doing it later in my life. \n\nJust looking for some advice really.", "summary": "is it a dick move to leave the country for 3 months?"}
{"id": "t3_huctq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I have gmail virus that changed my password and sent out an email to a bunch of contacts with some link does anyone know what it is?", "post": "This is the link \" so obviously dont go there unless you are confident with your security. \nThe fucking thing sent out an email with nothing but the link and then deleted the copes from sent emails AND trash.\nThe only reason I found out is because I got a delivery failures from old email addresses and a couple from vacation replies quoting the original email send from my account.\nWhen I tried to log in about 20 minutes ago I had to first reset my password as well...... it also changed my facebook status to \"RE\" somehow and for some strange reason....nothing else has been touched on facebook as far as I can tell.\nI am very careful about where I click on the internet and running programs that i trust so how this thing managed to hack me in mind blowing. The only thing I can think of is a key-logger perhaps though I cant see how I would have gotten one....", "summary": "if anyone knows anything about this thing or how to prevent it in the future would be greatly appreciated"}
{"id": "t3_2s91il", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/18) am dating a Trans Man (FtM/23) for about a month. Not exact sure how to label oneself? Also, have questions about dysphoria.", "post": "Hello Reddit! Not sure if this post belongs here or not but I might as well try!\n\nI am an 18 year old girl who finally got into her first relationship with a trans man (ftm). So far we've been together for about a month and everything is going very well. Our communication is pretty much on point and he makes me really happy even though I'm fully aware that he is biologically a female. It doesn't phase me at all really. Coming from years of Catholic School, I'm still trying to understand this whole sexuality and gender thing.\n\nBecause I am dating someone who is transgender, does that mean I'm pansexual? Am I still straight or am I something else? I am still very attracted to males and I know I'm not attracted to females, so what does that make me? I'm really curious and I'm trying to figure out what my identity is.\n\n \nAlso, I'd love to hear from other straight women who have dated a trans man! Any general comments are welcome but I do have specific questions on dealing with dysphoria. How did you handle their dysphoria?Any ideas for helping my guy out when he starts to feel like that?", "summary": "Female dating trans man (ftm). Am I still considered straight? Or am I considered something else? Also, how does one deal with significant other's dysphoria?"}
{"id": "t3_1g116o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why is she being so hit and miss with texting?", "post": "This is the same girl from a previous thread and a similar issue: \n\nBackground: She lives 3 hours away so visiting isn't an option right now but we go to the same college. \n\nTaking reddits advice I decided to lay off talking to her for a bit. After maybe 2 days she texted me asking if something was up because she hadnt heard from me. I told her \"no I've been busy.\" We got to talking into the late night and started to flirt really hard until maybe 2 am. I started to drop hints for her and she was picking them up and I thought maybe tonight I would tell her how I felt than suddenly no response. I fell asleep and at like 3:30 she responded but then ignored my response to her in the morning. I wasn't to put off considering the \"mood\" of last night had faded. \n\nI decided to just ignore her for a few days since we talked all day the last time. I texted her after a few days and got a few responses then nothing. I was annoyed since we had talked/flirted so much last time but I thought fine. I ignored her for a few more days and she texted me again to see what I was up to. We talked again to almost 4 am flirting again until I fell asleep. Once again I decided I would just ignore her for a few days but something came up on Friday that reminded me of her so I sent her a cute text and got ignored. \n\nToday I snappchatted her a photo of something we had talked about before and she responded in a flirty way. My question is what the hell is going on? Why is she ignoring my texts when then texting me the next day? Why is she staying up till 4 am flirting with me then not responding to things? Ignoring her is working to some extent but I fear its making me come off as uninterested. We've been friends for a while and texted back and forth for almost a year now and this is totally new to me. I've had a friends girlfriend read our conversations and she cant figure it out what's going on either.", "summary": "I get texts from her every few days but she has stopped responding if I text her first. Girls are confusing."}
{"id": "t3_1p8xc5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure if I'm [18/f] being used in my new relationship by my boyfriend [19/m]", "post": "My boyfriend [19] and I [F/18] have been officially dating for almost 2 months now but have been together for almost 3 or 4 months unofficially.  We have quite a bit in common including the fact that neither of us are very conservative people and so we are already very sexually active together.  This didn't bother me until recently.  I mean, I enjoy sex and he does too and I am happy to go out of my way to please him but the amount of sex has escalated significantly recently.  He always seems to be aroused and while it tends to be a bit of a joke I've started to get a hunch that he might just be using me for his sexual satisfaction.  There is never a time when we are together that we don't have sex.\n\nI'm not sure if I should be concerned about this at all or whether or not I should bring it up with him and if so, how?  Do I just put it down to the fact that he's a teenage boy?  We've already had to iron out some significant kinks in our relationship to get this far and I *really really* like him.  I just don't know what to do.  Especially when he's so forthcoming and reassuring in telling me that he likes me.", "summary": "been dating boyfriend for two months, starting to become worried about how much sex we're having and whether or not I should tell him that I'm feeling kind of used."}
{"id": "t3_ho5tz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some ideas for revenge, the embarrassing kind! Any Ideas or Storys?", "post": "I'll try keep this short and sweet, basically a couple of months ago a few of my friends put up a lot of posters around my college referring to me as the \"Modern Day Casanova\", with a picture of me, my phone number and a short paragraph about how I'm looking for hot dates with lucky ladies.\n\nIt was a little embarrassing but it was hilarious and it wasn't exactly uncalled for. I only became aware of who the perpetrators were last night and I have began my revenge plans, however I havent come up with anything original and brilliant. Any Ideas would be much appreciated! I'll try get a photo of the poster.", "summary": "Looking for ideas for revenge, not murderous revenge but the playful embarrassing type."}
{"id": "t3_2cufbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "On again off again finally over between me [22 F] and my ex [24 M]", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nSo I'll try to make this quick. I have been on again (1+ year without breaks) and off (months apart at a time) with my ex. \n\nBasically, our relationship was always so emotional - like we cared about one another too much and didn't know how to handle it. As a result, we ended up messing up in so many ways, and have finally agreed that it needs to be over for good. Although we have agreed to this before, this one is final. There's no way either of us can jump back into what we were. \n\nBut here's my problem - I feel like he is that one person that you can never turn down, no matter how much you have moved on. The last time we spoke was late June, and he said those same sort of words to me. One of our biggest problems has been how stubborn both of us are (ie. it's the only reason we didn't talk for a few months at one point), and I can't help but think that this is just another \"break\", as I know he thinks of it too. But I can't keep doing this, and neither can he. No matter what I do, I still think about him every day, and I just can't make myself move on completely, knowing there is still that chance..\n\nI haven't had any interest at all in other guys since I started seeing my ex, so I never really let myself get involved with another person. I know this is shitty, but I've basically been telling myself that he's dead because it's the only way I won't automatically think of eventually being back with him.\n\nI started hanging out with a new guy, and I actually really started to like this new guy. Problem is I still have that mental virus in my head telling me things like I have to hide this new guy from my ex in case we end up making up. Stuff like that makes me feel crazy. \n\nI'm just writing here because I really don't know where else to go or have anyone to talk to about it. My friends don't really know what to say, and at this point, I'm actually embarrassed to admit that I still miss him.", "summary": "I'm afraid to let go completely of my on-again-off-again relationship in case we ever go \"on again\". I know the right move is probably to let go completely, but I know he still misses me too, I can't make myself be the one to set things in stone. Any advice? Words of encouragement? Any words really :| Thanks guys.."}
{"id": "t3_hdsuf", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Not hating on kittehs here, but...", "post": "There is this really cute black and white cat that i assume is one of my neighbors' cats as it has a red collar, who wanders into our yard every day. I have also found stray poops and \"gifts\" (that would be dead birdies), in the driveway. I do appreciate the cuteness when it wanders into my window view, but would rather keep it out of my yard. My guard dog ([Lily the Pug] is currently in Florida with my mom for the next few months, so she is unavailable for anti-cat patrol. How do i keep this kitty from leaving \"gifts\" in my yard???", "summary": "Neighbors cat poops and kills things in my yard. How do I keep it from doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_35428a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] best friend [M24] just told me he loves me. He's in the Military and that scares the fuck out of me.", "post": "I met Dalton at school last year and we quickly became best friends. I hang out with him at least once a week, we talk every day and I love him as a person. \n\nWe've each had our own relationships during our friendship but now for the first time ever, we are both single at the same time.\n\nTwo weeks ago, he told me that he loves me, that he's loved me since we met and that he's only been dating other people because I was never available and he wanted to respect that I had a boyfriend.\n\nIf Im being perfectly honest, I have always found myself attracted to him and it made me happy to hear him say that. I absolutely would want to pursue something with him.\n\nThat being said, I just got out of a two year long relationship. Im still mourning the loss of that love and am no where near ready to start something with Dalton. I told him as much and he said he understood and would be there for me when I was ready.\n\nWhen I am ready to start something though, I have a pretty big concern: Dalton is in the Military. He's seen combat.  During our friendship he's told me a lot about war, and a lot about the kinds of things that he's done.  He's talked about his PTSD and the kinds of things he still does while asleep (for example, he sleep walks and apparently has managed to open his gun safe, get his gun, open his ammunitions safe, and load his weapon, all without waking up). He's also told me that if there is another war, he will absolutely do whatever he can to go back and fight again.  \n\nHonestly Im scared shitless about all of this. Its not a deal breaker for me, but I have no idea how to prepare myself for what this kind of relationship might be like.\n\nI dunno. I guess Im hoping for people who have been in this situation before to share their stories... maybe give me advice on how to be supportive and helpful and how to keep myself safe.", "summary": "Id like to start a relationship with someone in the Military. This is uncharted territory for me and Im hoping for advice from those who have been there."}
{"id": "t3_3v89v9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking to have a picture taken in China", "post": "On a recent trip to Beijing, China, I wanted to have a picture taken outside a temple. I also wanted to have the full temple in view so I thought it would be a good idea to get someone else to take it for me, with myself and the temple in the background. Wanting to impress the locals, I walk up to the nearest group and ask if they could take the photo for me, in mandarin. They gave me some odd looks, but I figured it was just the way I pronounced words so I pulled out my camera and made photo-taking gestures. One of the group nodded and proceeded to take some pictures of myself and the temple. \n\nAfter taking the pictures, I went back to the group to collect my camera, and said thank you in mandarin. I guess this was the last straw, as the person who just took my picture replies, in english, \"Dude, I'm Korean.\" and walks off with his group.", "summary": "I asked a group of Korean tourists to take my picture in mandarin"}
{"id": "t3_2kv1en", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being knowledgeable about alternative lifestyles.", "post": "Well here, goes. This happened about 30 minutes ago, when I and a friend of mine were chatting on Skype and playing video games. My friend is on Steam negotiating a trade on TF2 and the guy says he'd be more comfortable with trading if he could do it through voice. Okay, no problem. I invite him to the call, and notice his profile picture is a cartoon fox. I thought he might be a furry, but was not entirely sure and didn't want to ask for fear of offending him. \n\nSo they go through with the trade and we all just start talking about video games and whatnot, just shooting the shit, when the call drops on his end, and it's just me and my friend. I ask my friend, \"do you think this guy is a furry? I noticed his picture and I don't want to be 'that guy', asking like 'Hey, are you a furry?'\". Well, on the other end I hear, \"Yes, I am. Is that an issue?\" \n\nMy heart sank. He had reconnected. I stuttered out a measly explanation while I assume my friend was fighting all urges to laugh heartily at my expense. I explained how I didn't mean any offense, and that I was genuinely curious about it. Luckily, he was totally cool and explained that he was, in fact, a furry, and that was that. He stayed in the call for about 20 minutes afterwards and I have never felt more awkward in my entire life. I said I was going to bed and left the call and i've just been sitting here for a good while contemplating my fuck up.\n\nP.S. I'm completely fine with furries and any alternative lifestyle. I just had a legitimate curiosity that was quite awkwardly sated. Sorry, Mike.", "summary": "Don't ask the tough questions until you know they've disconnected."}
{"id": "t3_1f03yw", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Petty revenge in the food line", "post": "Okay so way back when, about 15 years ago, I was living on the streets, and frequented food banks and the like, having no real source of income.\n\nOne time I was waiting patiently in line at a weekly charity food truck for a meagre bag of groceries and some soup. I had waited about 20 minutes already, when this very large fellow who looked like he was fresh out of jail came from out of nowhere insinuated himself into the lineup, immediately in front of me. So I said to him, \"I don't mean any disrespect,\" (I am Canadian, by the way) \"but do you think you could stand in line like the rest of us here?\"\n\nHe replied, \"Don't mess with me or I will fucking kill you.\" Crazy look in his eye.\n\nI don't know what prompted me, because this dude was like twice my size and clearly the kind of motherfucker who wouldn't hesitate to make good on his offer... maybe it was because I was fed up with my current life situation (broke, homeless, standing in a food line), or what, but I said, \"Fuck, just do it.\"\n\nAlmost instantly I was pulled off my center of gravity, spinning around in a circle, and falling to the ground in slow motion. Suddenly, *bang! bang!* my face explodes in pain as one foot, then a second, smash into my face.\n\nSo where's the revenge, you ask?\n\nWell, as I was clearing my head, I saw that he was storming off. The food truck workers refused him any food and told him not to return, ever. They gave me an extra bag of groceries and an extra bun with my soup.", "summary": "Guy cuts into food line, gets violent with me for asking him to get in his proper place in line, gets turned away, and I get extra food."}
{"id": "t3_26nwip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/f] with my best friend, [18,f] I'm annoyed by her negative attitude.", "post": "I became close to my best friend early last year. I love her to death, I really do. She's funny, sweet, and a good friend. \n\nShe is just so negative and I hate it. My SO, his family, and our friends see it too. \n\nExample: we're both seniors and while pretty much everybody is excited about graduation, she was complaining about how the rules & celebrations regarding it are dumb. It is dumb, the point is to be silly and not act like you have a stick up your ass. \n\nShe's also really jealous, negative, and unappreciative. I recently started coming out of my shell and generally became more confident and happy. Since then I've made some new friends and we planned on going to see a movie together. Her boyfriend said that they could go too. She was genuinely mad about going the next day. \"Well it looks like a dumb movie and and I don't really know everybody going\" was her excuse. He takes her on dates almost every weekend but you can't go see one movie with him? She complains a shit ton and just acts super apathetic all the time. \n\nThis is what makes me the most mad. Her SO wants to go to disney with her next year and she flat out said she was planning on ignoring him the whole time they were there because she doesn't wanna go. I mean, if my boyfriend said he was gonna take me to Disney next year I'd be SO excited. But she's completely apathetic to everything and can't appreciate it. \n\nShe's just getting worse and worse and I can't stand it. Once you get her by herself she's completely different but otherwise she's just miserable to be around. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Best friend is extremely negative, jealous, and unappreciative and it's only getting worse. I can't deal with it anymore. Is there any hope of this getting better, and if not what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_11sbwm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[F/19] casually started seeing a guy [M/19]. Now I'm being ignored, possible avoided", "post": "So, I [F/19] recently started at a university and I've picked up a group of close friends. Two of whom are roommates [M/19] at our residence. Me and my neighbor [F/19] both were hanging out with these guys, nothing serious, going out as a group, getting smashed together, but also casually hooking up. It kind of turned into a double-dating kind of thing. \nAnyway, while i and one of these guys were just being FWBs and seemingly being happy with it, my neighbor and his roommate started to get serious and started dating. I didn't think this would affect anything. I didn't want anything too heavy and liked how things were. And for a while, things were alright.\nProblem is, i think he feels differently. Lately, he has stopped texting me, (or responding to my texts inviting up to my room), won't sit next to me if he can avoid it, and completely avoids any conversation that is remotely personal. I'm lucky if he'll answer a direct question about his class. \nI'm not sure if he's afraid that I want commitment, or if he's just gotten tired of me. What do you guys think about this?", "summary": "Guy I've been hooking up with barely talks to me anymore. Not really sure why."}
{"id": "t3_1mv42y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this fair for her to demand: It's me or weed, your choice", "post": "To preface my fiance (marrying in 8 months) and I's argument, I have smoked weed 2 times in the last year, had edibles once and I am 23 years old. When we started dating 3 years ago I used to smoke weekly and had my own vape. 99% quit weed when I graduated college 1 year ago.\n\nI smoked weed once last weekend with some friends and my fiance completely exploded on me. She has a big issue with the culture and people surrounding the drug. She had a discussion with me about how \"no successful people smoke weed\", how I am damaging my life with weed, and how any friends I have who smoke weed are losers. So you can see this was a heated discussion..\n\nMy fiance then demanded that I never smoke weed again and I agreed. She also demanded I never have edibles or vape ever again or use marijuana for any reason. We fought for the next 2 hours and she finally busted this one out....\n\"it is me or marijuana\", I told her I can't work with that ultimatum.. her last straw.. now she told me I have 12 hours to move out of our apartment and she tossed the engagement ring at my face.. What do I do..", "summary": "Ultimatum to never use weed in anyway ever again, said no, fiance threw ring in my face and demanded me to move out."}
{"id": "t3_ss91y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Husband is in fear of losing his job as a teacher because of political school district crap. What are our options?", "post": "Reddit,\n\nMy husband is a Special Ed teacher in a rural school district. There are circumstances going on that i don't want to get in to much (my paranoia runs deep) that make the school district want to get rid of his position. Because of the nature of his position and the student base he serves it is hard for them to do it legit. \n\nInstead they are focusing on petty things regarding his performance, and subtly threatening to not renew his contract. He talked with administration today and feels as if he was put on notice. His follow-up meeting is in a few days. If his contract was not renewed, the program would be abolished and they get what they want. I told him to talk to his union rep, but that is all i know what to do.\n\nHe does not have performance issues, and the parents all love his. Some parents are moving closer to the school so he can continue to work with their children if they re-do boundary lines. Unfortunately, it is not American Idol and the parents do not get a vote.\nAny advice on what steps to take Reddit?\n\nWe have already\n\n1.\tPrinted off all emails where he asked for training and was denied due to budgetary reasons\n\n2.\tPrinted off all other emails, some where he requested help or advice and was given the brush off, some where he requested additional personnel that was needed, some that requested curriculum (he has none, has had to make it up) and some that requested additional equipment required for his job.\n\n3. He will be contacting his union today.", "summary": "Husband is being screwed over by idiot school administration, may lose job, want advice."}
{"id": "t3_fcf1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any redditors know of a good traffic lawyer/happen to be a good traffic lawyer? (for metro ATL)", "post": "What happened: This past Thursday, I was in medium traffic, around 3:30, as several schools had just gotten released. Person in front of me was going 30 in a 45. Since it was nice out, I had my windows down, and, like any other person (they were holding up traffic), I honk my horn at them ONCE and yell \"Come on!\". They then brake, go 20, but then speed up (before they applied the brakes, I was about a car's length behind them). Shortly after, I see a [motorcycle} cop who had someone pulled over near a subdivision...this was right about the time when the person applied their brakes (so I was probably closer to them than before). OF COURSE, cop sees that, then next thing I know, I'm getting pulled over. He asks me only for my license...I even asked him if he needed my registration; he said \"No, this is all I need.\" He asks me if I know why he pulled me over, and I say, \"I honestly don't know.\" Then he says, \"I saw you back there honking your horn at the person in front of you and yelling 'Come on' at them. About how far behind them would you say you were?\" I said, \"About a car's length\". Then he proceeds to write me a citation for following too closely, even marking on my ticket about honking my horn & yelling...both of which are my first amendment rights (person in front of me even had their windows up).\nThat's the gist of what happened. I feel the real reason the cop pulled me over is for the honking and yelling, which is in clear violation of my 1st amendment rights, because I was not doing harm to the person in front of me. Only problem is that traffic court cases are hard to win without a decent lawyer. So, after giving it some though, I was hoping maybe one of you redditors could give me some advice on what to do? Please?", "summary": "cop pulled me over, violated my 1st amendment rights. legal advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3zh6wl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Not receiving pay promised for 3 months now (US)", "post": "I'm not really sure where to go with this but this seems like a good place to start. In 9/2015 I received an email from my project mgr that I was getting a raise effective 10/1. I am paid bi-monthly and received my first paycheck with the new rate on 10.22. However, the pay rate was listed lower than what I was promised by 4 cents an hour. I work from home and have no in person contact with anyone from the company, so I emailed my direct supervisor who found a contact in HR for me to email.\n\nI sent that person an email on 10/23, and received a reply a day later that the pay rate on my paycheck was a mistake and \"we don't know why some paychecks were off cents on the dollar but it is definitely a mistake and will be fixed retroactive to October 1st.\" I have not heard a single thing from this woman since that time. \n\nI waited a month and emailed her again asking why it was not fixed. I did not receive any response from her so I emailed my boss. She immediately emailed the project manager (who emailed me the raise info to begin with) and was told he would \"run it to the ground\" which she forwarded to me. Still no response directly to me from either of them or anyone else, and no explanation as to why the pay rate was off cents on the dollar.\n\n12/22 I emailed my boss yet AGAIN. I have now received 5 paychecks with the incorrect rate and no one from the company has contacted me in any way to fix the problem or apologize or even make any kind of excuse. There is no reason why it would take this long to fix. \n\nThe minimal amount of the discrepancy is irrelevant to me. I'm just pissed that I'm clearly not valued as an employee. Any amount should be enough to warrant at least a response. Obviously it's not enough money to warrant me consulting a lawyer, but isn't what's happening here fraud? I received a written confirmation of pay rate increase and have not received the pay rate promised.\n\nWhat should my next step be in trying to solve this issue?", "summary": "Was promised a raise, got my paycheck and it's a few cents an hour lower than I was told in writing. Company refuses to even respond to my requests for an explanation or fix."}
{"id": "t3_uvmzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Redditors, have you ever had a temporary open relationship while a SO was far away? How did it work out? Would you recommend it to others?", "post": "My boyfriend (20) and I (F, 19) have been dating for about a year. He is spending the summer months away from home, traveling around Europe and doing some farming. Even though we are far apart we talk a lot and both of us make an effort to stay in touch. \n\nWe have some trust issues. I have confronted him twice over the past 5 months about breeches in trust, and we have worked through them for the most part. The first time he had reactivated an old profile on a dating site, and swears that he was only re-reading our old correspondence. The second time he was looking for \"gal pals\" through online personal ads. Some were tame in nature, but one had a line that made it obvious he could be looking for me. The second time was very hard for me to overlook, and i still think about it. it haunts me. But I love him, and want to work through it. \n\nBut now, I have fucked up. I got really drunk and had a boy sleep over in my bed. we did not sleep together, but there was cuddling and some kissing. I feel horrible! I want to tell him, but at the same time I don't want to hurt him. \n\nI am wondering if an open relationship would be a good idea for us. I wish I could fully trust that he isn't seeing other people, but a part of me still wonders. And I am lonely and bored without him. But I am worried an open relationship will ruin our future relationship, and maybe stir up feelings for other people (for either him or me). Despite our obvious trust issues, I really love this man, and want to be with him.\n\nDo you think our relationship is strong enough to withstand an open relationship while we are apart? Have you ever had a temporary one open relationship? How did it work out? I would love to hear your thoughts. Thank you!", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are long distance for the summer, and have trust issues. I am considering suggesting an open relationship for the summer but am not sure our relationship is strong enough."}
{"id": "t3_yg450", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When I was young, I'd spend days or even weeks on something just to break it down. Curious as to whether you guys have any self-development stories?", "post": "When I was really young, like 6 or 7 maybe, I used to spend days on building these huge lego models like those Star Wars ships and such. Then, within the next 5 minutes of completion, would completely destroy it and take it apart. I did this because younger me realized there will be times in life where you will spend so much time into something, put a lot of effort and yourself into it, only to something to happen that would deem all that hard work useless. As the years went on, there'd be a few other times where I would do the same. Another example is when I was in junior high, I played World of Warcraft almost all of the time. I believe I started playing after the first expansion came out so I forgot what the cap level was then. But of course, I'd put in a lot of time into that game, eventually hit the top level, and then proceed to delete my character. But, here's when I realized for the first time that all of this payed off. In my senior year of high school, I was typing a paper for my first semester final. I had spent the last week or so putting together this 13 page paper (brainstorming, writing down notes, organizing ideas, etc.) that was going to count for 25% of my final grade. So then one day I began to finally put it all together in my paper. As I was finishing up the paper, my computer crashed and microsoft word failed to recover my paper. This did not phase me one bit. I simply turned my computer back on and began typing it again from scratch, ended up getting an 80% on it.", "summary": "Broke/took apart everything I ever worked on growing up. Paid off in the end when my final paper was deleted when my computer crashed, didn't phase me, started paper over from scratch."}
{"id": "t3_2ism4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33 M] mother is dying.", "post": "I grew up in the south, raised by a single mother. Mom raised 2 pretty good kids (Me and my sister). Mom was a smoker (as am I) and she's dying from small cell lung cancer. The cancer went into remission, just reappeared in her thyroid, and is pretty obvious that she will be dead in a few years.\n\nIts really confusing and I dont know what to do. I live in Boston and spend my time working or drinking/dating beautiful women, total awesome bachelor life, and she lives in the rural south with the rest of the family. It makes me feel really fucking stupid to not be home, but theres nothing there for me but to watch her slowly die.", "summary": "Mom is dying, don't really know what to do, really... confused about.. I don't even know."}
{"id": "t3_1uo16d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 6 months, doesn't really care about his appearance and it bothers me.", "post": "So, long story short, I ended a long term (5 year) relationship with my ex boyfriend this past summer. He was a really attractive guy who definitely always kept his hair neat and styled, his beard groomed, and always made sure to dress nicely. And by nicely I mean depending on the situation. If we were going out, he always had a button down on and a decent pair of boots or shoes, if we went out to dinner, same thing.. always made it a point to be presentable. \n\nFast forward 6 months, and I'm dating a new guy who was my closest friend for about 2 or so years before we started dating. Now, he is a complete 180 from my ex in pretty much every way. Which is totally fine. Our relationship works and I'm happy with just about everything except... the way he presents himself. In a way. He doesn't really keep his beard/mustache groomed, he REFUSES to get a haircut because he \"can do it himself\" but never does, (he means just shaving his head too..) He just got a new job at a corporate office and wears the same sweater over the same 3 button downs (in ridiculous colors btw) every. day. \n\nHe is going to be graduating in May, and I just feel that it's time to grow up. I'm trying to not come off shallow or rude, but I just don't want people to judge him based on his messy appearance. And sometimes I've noticed that it makes me sort of downgrade my own appearance. I don't know if I do this subconsciously, or out of spite somehow.. like \"Fine, you're going to look like a mess, I will too.\" kind of thing. I know others have dealt with this type of situation so I'm just looking for suggestions on how to bring this up or how to handle it. I don't see the relationship ending anytime soon, however this is becoming a bit annoying.. :/", "summary": "My boyfriend of 6 months, about to graduate college, has a messy appearance, sometimes it rubs off on me. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_2m3avt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong for me [33 M] with my Gf [31 F] of 2 years, to look at our relationship like a business relationship?", "post": "I've been told that marriage certificates are filed in court houses next to other business documents (partnerships, corporations and the like). Is it wrong for me to look at my relationship with my Gf the same way? \n\nAfter all each person in a relationship exerts time, money and energy and in return they try to get what they want from it. Seems logical and fair but what if you do the calculations and you realize that you are not getting much out of compared to what you put into it? I did the calculations at a site called: whatlovecosts.com\nand now I am more confused than ever. According to the numbers this relationship is just not providing enough benefits for me to continue in it.\n\nThere are of course intangible benefits that are hard to put a cost to but lately she has been getting scope locked on marriage. And to be honest now I find that I have a LOT more fun with my buddies than her. If I were to break things off then would it make sense that I would save a ton of money and could still have fun with my friends? I have more fun watching hockey than watching re-runs of Greys Anatomy.\n\nOf course I've factored the fact that we used to have fun but now she is primarily focused on trying to get engaged. From what I've read here and other places the benefits aren't going to be better if we got married. All my married friends were fine for the first year or so but now some are wishing they didn't get married.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice, tips, what to expect, should I leave?", "summary": "Can a relationship be compared to a business relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_28i6a8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19/M) have felt feelings resurface for girl (19/F) I dated three years ago.", "post": "We met three years ago at school. She was an exchange student from Germany. We were both young when we dated (16-17) but I was sure that I loved her and had very strong feelings for her. Eventually she went back and we tried long distance, eventually breaking it off after several months. I was hurt at first and reluctant to move on but eventually I felt that I had. Now, she is back and visiting town for a few weeks and after spending time with her, all of my feelings have come back and I don't know what to do. I feel miserable thinking about it because obviously, we can't get back together or anything. I just don't know how to get rid of my feelings. I wan't to be able to spend time with her without feeling any old feelings.", "summary": "My ex-gf is visiting and I still have feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_4py6oh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [23 M/F] with my gf [24 M/F] of 8 years. I've been waiting for sex for over 4 years. Still a virgin. I think I'm done.", "post": "Original Post: \n\nThanks for all the comments and thoughts.\n\nI told her on Monday that we needed to break up. She was surprised at first and understandably upset. I told her that we were just becoming two different people and that it would be better to end the relationship on a high note before we start to resent each other. \n\nShe still wants to be friends, which I understand. I don't know if it will work out, but I told her that after a while of no contact we can reach out and see if we're ready to establish some kind of platonic relationship.\n\nSo I'm sad and newly-single. I've been going out drinking with a good buddy from work, and that has made me feel better. \n\nI still can't help thinking about her, but I hope that she'll be happy. I hope we both will be. :)", "summary": "I broke up with her. Feeling sad for losing a long relationship, but also excited about all of the open doors."}
{"id": "t3_g8as2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help me- Facing a misdemeanor for defending myself. What can I do?", "post": "Hello Reddit, \n\nI am strictly a lurker, but today I need some help and I thought who better to Ask than Reddit. \n\nWhile I was driving to the store near my home a few days ago the car in front of me sprayed water out the back of their car and onto my car's hood. We ended up both pulling into the same grocery store parking lot, so when I got out of my car I made a comment, something like \"Do you think that's funny? Because I don't.\" The driver reached in his car and took out a metal pole, one that was jagged on the ends. He came toward me and lifted the pole above his head, as if he was about to strike. I grabbed the pole before it hit me, and wrestled it out of his hands. In the process of wrestling it out of his hands, the jagged edge of the pole cut up his arm pretty badly. \n\nNext thing I know, I'm surrounded by 4 cop cars, with one cop running towards me with a taser. At this point, I am standing there holding a bloody pole, and one kid's arm is busted open (his friend didn't do anything). \n\nI am handcuffed, get a ticket for \"following to closely\" (there are 4 stop lights and a stop sign to get to the grocery store...you can't help but be following someone closely, you are going slow and stopping a lot). I also face a misdemeanor for being a \"disorderly person\" and my ticket reads, \"starting fight in lot\".\n\nMy lawyer says it doesn't look good, and there is not a good chance I will be cleared of these charges. I will lose my scholarships and loans for college when I am a couple months away from graduation. I have to stop smoking trees for my court date in a couple weeks. I also won't be able to leave the country if I'm on probation, and I have an awesome job opportunity waiting for me overseas once I graduate college. When I say awesome, I mean my dream job, that I have spent years working my ass off for.", "summary": "douchebags attacked me with a pole, I got it away from them, the kid attacking me got cut up by the pole, now I'm being charged with a misdemeanor that could really fuck up everything for me. "}
{"id": "t3_39fher", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by escorting my friends on a booze run", "post": "So this happened last night but yada yada, TIFU. Anyway, so my parents are out for the evening and they've allowed me to have my friends over to get trashed and sleep the night. Friends all arrive at 6.30 and we rush off to the supermarket for snacks and beverages. We get to ALDI only to find they don't sell alcohol after 7, same with Coles. We grab all our stuff and now it's a real panic as we're running low on options. I hop into the drivers seat and everyone else loads up the boot.\n\nNow here's the FU. As I'm speeding along, passing closed bottle shop after closed bottle shop, I start getting some people on the horn. I'm on my P's and think nothing of it and speed off. People keep laying it on even more, flashing their lights and I'm beginning to get pissed off. A car starts following me and I try to burn him off but he's still bloody there. We finally find a bottle-shop and behind me this guy who followed me pulls up. I get out and I'm about to spew my guts at what appears to be a middle-aged Asian guy until I see it. Noone shut the boot. I wave him off and my face is bright red before going off at my friends who all refused to take responsibility. The whole boot was packed with stuff and was just lucky nothing fell out. Man I felt dumb. I bought the cheapest goon (cask wine) I could find and my mates bought a case. The cashiers got a good kick out of the story at least.", "summary": "raced off on a beer run, car boot was open the whole time."}
{"id": "t3_13llv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[20] bored of my GF[20] and unsure of my feelings towards her", "post": "So, we've been seeing each other for about 4 months, and lately I've been having a feeling of being uncomfortable around her, even more when we are with other people, like when there's someone in a group of friends that doesn't really belong there. We don't even see each other that much.\n\nI've said I love her plenty of times, but I'm not sure of the sincerity of that feeling, she's much more certain about it\nBut what worries me the most is that kind of the same thing happened with my previous gf, so I don't know if what I'm feeling is natural or just some weird fear to commitment thing.", "summary": "I'm confused about me feelings for my gf, afraid of not having some basic compatibility"}
{"id": "t3_3usfqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] bf [28M] is a 9/11 truther...reason for concern?", "post": "I have been going out with Daniel for about a year now and things have been going great. He is really an amazing guy; brings me flowers every once in a while, helps volunteer at a few local shelters, and understands me like no previous partner has, to name a few things.\n\nThe \"catch\" is that I recently saw him browsing reddit on parts related to 9/11 \"truther\" claims. He wasn't posting but just browsing posts about how it was an inside job, the commission report was a cover-up, etc.\n\nI was pretty shocked and asked him if he believed that stuff. He jokingly said that he didn't wear any tinfoil hats or anything but did examine the evidence and found that the official story was lacking. He said that in light of the gulf of tonkin, etc. the official story should be put to scrutiny. He referred me to \"the evidence that changed his mind\" and it didn't look like Illuminati stuff or other crazies so I was pretty surprised. He said that that stuff shouldn't dictate our relationship but we could talk about it more if I wanted. This seemed pretty reasonable but I was still a little wary of the \"truther\" association.\n\nI told one of my girlfriends about it and she got really concerned like I just told her that Dan strangled a puppy or something. I told her some of the arguments he made but she didn't even address them and said that I was getting deceived. Basically she said that the fact that he believes the conspiracy theories (which I thought was kind of unfair characterization of his position) is proof that he is of unsound mind. At this point I was really confused so I told her I needed some time to think about it.\n\nHow should I proceed? Is my friend right to where this is a big enough issue to end the relationship? Dan doesn't think so and says that he is willing to stay with me even if I don't accept the evidence, although seeing it from him perspective \"would make him so happy.\"", "summary": "Found my bf on 9/11 truther forums. It actually seems legit but one of my friends thinks that it's dangerous. How to proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_1caioy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] trying to support gf in her career difficulties", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nHaving in been on reddit for a while, I really appreciate the care and wisdom that the community possesses. With great trust and gratitude, I hope to hear your advice on the issue above.\n\nMy gf and I have been in a relationship for more than a year. I assure you that the length is not indicative of how much I care about this person. At this point she is looking for internships and jobs, the success of which will determine whether we can be together.", "summary": "I'm trying to be supportive while gf looking for jobs, yet I often feel tired and helpless myself. I have talked to her about my feelings, and it's a great idea, yet these feelings still don't go completely away. I do not want to keep talking about my feelings either, since that will distract her more. We are both young college graduates [22] in a 1+ year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_kepqv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Living at home?", "post": "Alright Reddit, I've got a question for the hive mind... Do you consider me a \"living at home\" weirdo or what?\n\nI'm mid 20s and I rent an apartment from my parents. My parents have owned this property with rental units on it since before I was born and if I wasn't in the unit they would be renting it out to someone else. This property is also right fucking on the beach. That means I grew up in the ocean and I do all the oceany things so I take full advantage of my location. The only kind of weird thing is that my rental unit is in a building (actually right below) attached to my parents house... They have the entire second story of the building and half of the first floor which is essentially the same floor plan as my apartment, they put the second story on when they bought the place. The other half of the first floor is my place which is a separate unit, again, would be rented out if I wasn't in it.\n\nI've lived there for a few years now and I'm still fucking stoked about the location. It is an amazing spot in a great neighborhood. I work mostly full time and go to school and I pay full rent (obviously I have some perks, but I am 100% self sufficient) so its not like I'm just some forever alone bum living in my parents basement... although technically I guess it could be considered their basement.\n\nI fucking love it, but I always feel weird when dating and things... I always just leave it at minimum information at first: \"I'm renting this apartment\". One time a girl asked me when I was going to move out of my parents place and I was like ... well where the fuck am I going to go that's more solid than this? I've got everything I've ever wanted... I've traveled all over the US and I still don't really feel any compelling desire to move away permanently. That girl was kind of a cunt anyway...\n\nI'm totally content with my position but I want to know what the hive mind thinks about it.", "summary": "Renting an apartment from my parents and having the rental unit be in the same building as their house. I am 100% self sufficient and can move out any time I want, I just don't really have any compelling desire to leave the location."}
{"id": "t3_4l5ot7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife [28F] doesn't want me [30M] to play DOOM around our [5M] son", "post": "Hi there,\n\nI have gotten the new DOOM game recently and have been playing through it. I have gamed for most of my adult life and sometimes my wife's son (from a previous relationship, I'll call him Billy) will walk in on me playing. He likes the fast-paced nature of most of the games I play (mostly racing stuff) but he can't work the controllers yet.\n\nAnyways, when I got the new DOOM my wife forbid me from playing it around Billy because it was too violent/scary. Billy doesn't see it as scary though (nor will he grow up to be an axe murderer because of this game) so I resent that I can't spend this time with Billy while we game. Also there's not much time during which I can game without Billy looking over my shoulder due to my weird work schedule. I don't see why I have to cut him out and get up at weird hours of the night to play this thing I spent my personal money on.\n\nAt this point it has become a big point of contention. She says I just need to suck it up and compromise for the sake of compromise but I don't see any point in kowtowing to her since I think she's in the wrong here.\n\nHow can we resolve this?", "summary": "Wife doesn't like me playing DOOM around the son. I don't see much point in compromising but she is insistent. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_4x02da", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my new Friend [25F] who is a co-worker dropping mad hints about wanting to hook up/ explore a relationship. How bad of an idea is this? What am I missing?", "post": "Hi guys. I'm a youngin and looking for advice from someone who can see problems before they happen. I am not one of these people, especially in regards to relationships. \n\nI knew this girl through college but we were never close. We connected recently and she helped me get a job at her work recently. I am beyond thankful. We started hanging out recently and have been very open with each other, yet flirty and honestly I wouldn't mind trying to date her to get to know her better and have some fun physically. I just know we will be working together soon and I want to make sure things don't go super south.\n\nShe doesn't seem like a drama queen and is extremely mature. I just have something in the back of my head telling me to be careful. I like her and don't see her as a girl I want to hook up with an leave. We have a lot in common and I would really like to get to know her more and see if something could come of it. How do I do this safely. \n\nSidenote; Insane amounts of sexual tension. I had to leave today after we had been drinking and she wanted to show me her bed room, (new bed spread she just got). I also know I'm horny, and she is gorgeous so I'm not only thinking with \"one head\"\n\nThanks guys!", "summary": "How do I deal with relationships in a work environment? Need advice to avoid doing something I/we will regret."}
{"id": "t3_3rgerc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to turn the flash off", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster.\n\nThis happened a couple of years ago, but still has to be, one of the most stupid things that I have ever done.\n\nI was at a restaurant with my family, when this absolute cake face walks in. When i say cake face I mean her face was literally 99% makeup. Now naturally I found this hilarious and wanted to share this with my friends. So I come up with my game plan, this was some CSI type shit. So I tell my parents that I am going to the bathroom and execute my plan. I pull my phone out and pretend I'm making a phone call as I walk past. Of course I'm not, I have the camera up. Now here is the FU. This all would have been a great plan, had I have remembered to turn the flash off. This restaurant is really dark, so it wasn't like the flash wasn't noticeable, because, I'm telling you right now, the flash was noticeable, and everyone at this girls table just stared at me. I just walked out really calmly still talking to my camera. I walked all the way out into the street, and waited for my family to finish eating.", "summary": "attempted to take a picture of someone whilst pretending to be on the phone, left flash on"}
{"id": "t3_16ip3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal to have thoughts that your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't good looking enough for you? I'm 25/f, he's 24/m.", "post": "My boyfriend and I (25/f and 24/m) have been together for three months and I'm really falling in love with him. He's perfect for me and I adore everything about him, his flaws included.\n\nHe has the cutest smile and the sex is great... I love the way he touches me. The only thing is that he dresses and carries himself in a very... plain sort of way. \n\nI don't know, I just sort of always pictured myself settling down with a guy that was kind of flashy. Ugh, I know it's shallow and I'm not going to leave him or anything, but I can't help looking at other guys sometimes.\n\nHe won't do anything with his hair or facial hair, he wears plain tshirts, jeans, and ugly sneakers. I've seen pictures of him in suits and he is SO HANDSOME it's ridiculous. He is classically good looking when he cleans himself up, but he rarely ever does that.\n\nIs it normal for attraction to wear off a bit after a while? I'm still wildly attracted to him in general and sexually and I would never leave him for anyone, but I can't help but think about/look at sexy guys sometimes.", "summary": "3 month relationship, I'm 25/f, he's 24/m.  I'm in love, but wondering if it's normal that I don't think he's great looking as far as style."}
{"id": "t3_1v23lw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I become a writer?", "post": "Some info about me before I explain myself: I'm half German, half American. I am 18 years old and I have been living in Germany for about 15 years. I speak both English and German fluently and even though I speak German in 99% of my social life I consider English to be my primary language. Everything I do on the Internet or even on the computer is in English. I think in English. I take English advanced in school. Whenever I take a test/an exam in English I get an A on my writing style but not so much on the content, which has mainly to do with my laziness...\n\nAs I think about my future, my skills and  possible career choices the only valuable skill I come across is being pretty decent at writing. The weird thing is: I suck at writing in German, but English... Not so bad if you ask me.\n\nNow my problem is I really don't know if I want to become a writer. I do enjoy writing essays for school but only because I have to. I've never written anything that wasn't for school. I do think I can find enjoyment in writing but I just don't know what I would write about.\n\nI really enjoy sitcoms and it seems like the actors and writers have a ton of fun producing these shows. I would like a taste of that fun. I've thought about becoming an actor but I'm way to shy for that and I think acting just isn't for me. Today I thought to myself: \"I should become a writer for sitcoms!\". Now don't get me wrong, I am well aware that no one starts their career as a writer by directly writing/creating sitcoms. It's a lot of work until you get there, I understand that. I believe I am a fairly funny guy and that I could come up with some pretty funny stuff but I am just blank of ideas and the thought of creating full blown characters just baffles my mind.", "summary": "I think I would enjoy writing and be decent at it but I have absolutely zero ideas of what to write about neither any concepts or outlines of stories."}
{"id": "t3_1km5bl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some good job fields for people who used to be homeless, can't read, no GED, or may be in a halfway house?", "post": "I go to church at Triune Mercy center. Before you break out your pitch forks, I don't go for the religious aspect. I go in an attempt to help others. I just spoke with a lady after the service about volunteering. She said they needed help with the online area so that people could come apply for jobs during the day. She went on to say that many of them can't read, don't have GEDs, and at one point were hooked on drugs. That made me question how much opening a computer center would really help individuals.\nSome individuals obviously aren't ready to help themselves. But some truly have changed and want to beat poverty. I asked her for individuals who show real interest and return over and over in search of help. I proposed that if these individuals meet the standard why we don't take the steps to be a liaison instead of sending a resume up against 500 others with people more highly qualified.\nThat being said I took the role on and will be contacting businesses along the bus route that may have opportunity for people who have fallen on hard times. however, I've only come up with dishwashers. Manual labor jobs often require that you be able to drive to new job sites. I was just wondering what you guys thoughts were on the situation. What should I look for... What should I look out for?", "summary": "I need jobs ideas that take minimal credentials to fill."}
{"id": "t3_w0buy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "More of a favor than a question...", "post": "My house was broken into a couple months ago (check my previous posts for proof) and one of the items that was stolen was the portal of power for my sons Skylanders game.  We have the game still along with all of the action figures....just no portal.  Apparently you cannot purchase the portal by itself anywhere.  I have checked at Best Buy, Gamestop, internet, etc. and nobody has one.  We don't want to purchase the full set again for stuff that we already have.  You can't resell it because then you still have the issue of whoever buys it doesnt have the portal.  Everyone keeps saying go to Ebay.  Ebay has some but nobody can confirm that they are in working order or want to charge an arm and a leg for one.  I don't mind paying for one, but I would like a fair price.  I'm just curious if any of you guys might have one laying around that you don't use any more and would sell for a reasonable price?  Any takers?", "summary": "Sons portal of power for Skylanders was stolen and I'm trying to see if anyone has one they would like to sell."}
{"id": "t3_1l3g4i", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "How can I tell if the Vet is overcharging for my Cat's health?", "post": "Today, I had to bring my 12 year old cat Rocky to an emergency vet clinic. He had been throwing up bile and food/hairballs earlier in the week but today he has been totally lethargic, sways and tumbles when he walks and keeps retching, dry heaving and throwing up white foam. He may have had a seizure as well.\nAfter the $99 veterinary examination and some $500 Xrays, it seems he has kidney stones and a very swollen intestinal tract. My dad (who is paying for the vet bills) wants to take things step by step so we can see where Rocky's at and judge his health so we can make the harder decisions, like whether to give him whatever treatment he needs or to put him down:( \nThis doctor, however, was very speedy in explaining all the details and was quite confusing and difficult to understand. I want my cat to get the necessary treatment he needs but I don't want to be tricked into paying for a ton of unnecessary vet bills!", "summary": "Cat is quite sick but the vet's pricing seems sketchy, how can I deal with giving Rocky the help he needs without being scammed?"}
{"id": "t3_i8qy9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Someone was trying to scam me on Internet (didn't succeed), how should I apply revenge?", "post": "Alright Reddit, this is a throwaway account.\n\nI was trying to sell some stuff from home, and someone claiming to live overseas said he wanted to buy a table. He said he would make the payment through PayPal (of course). I then received an e-mail from \"PayPal\" (which I looked inside the headers and found out the real email was jaaron90@gmail.com). He wanted me to send 1000$ to a shipment company (which I looked up and didn't exist).\n\n Basically, I have his IP address (which for some reasons I can't track). Now, I'd like to find a good way to make him Pay.", "summary": "Someone tryed to scam me, found out and want to make him pay."}
{"id": "t3_2u3h7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F/21 - problems with boyfriend M/22 - together for 1.5 years", "post": "I need some advice with an ongoing problem with my boyfriend.  When it's good, it's so good.  However, when we fight, we could tear the house down.  And it's usually over something small.  I've been working on my communication with him when we fight, trying not to speak out of anger and whatnot.  However, he says things like I hate you, I want to break up, I never loved you.  While hurtful, I have trouble believing it, because he recently introduced me to his parents, we go on small trips together, and he's really affectionate.  I just find it hard to believe he doesn't love me if he's invested that much.  \n\nI don't want to break up with him.  I love this boy like crazy and I do see a future with him.  But I can't fight like this anymore.  I'm aware I need to change too, but I need to find a way to talk to him that doesn't set him off.  Also, he's just so stubborn that he refuses to back down, and be blames every single issue on me, and I try to tell him this is a two way relationship and we're both gonna fuck up every now and then.", "summary": "I love my bf but when we fight he says the nastiest things and I need to find a way to communicate with him that we need to find a better way to settle arguments instead of breaking up"}
{"id": "t3_3d08df", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Incredibly long deep sleeper. Have trouble waking up in the mornings", "post": "Have not posted here before, hope this is right. Thanks in advance!\n\nAge 21\n\nSex Male\n\nHeight 6ft\n\nWeight 140lbs\n\nRace White\n\nDuration A few years\n\nRelevant issues Recovered from years of clinical depression. \n\nMedications None\n\nFirst off, I would like to say that I do not have problems getting out of bed in the morning after I become conscious. My problem is that I do not wake up to very many alarms or noises. I typically set at least 5-10 alarms in the morning when I have to get up for something knowing that it is very likely I will sleep though the first 3. After I do wake up from alarms or naturally in the morning I will am able to get up and out of bed alright.  I am an incredibly heavy sleeper unlike the rest of my family who will wake up to footsteps in the house. I VERY consistently fall asleep quickly, sleep throughout the whole night, and do not wake up to loud noises, lights in my face, people poking me, etc. Since it is typically so difficult for me to be woken up I can end up sleeping for very long periods of time. On average I would say I slept from 3am-1pm since I am not doing much this summer(college student). Sometimes longer, sometimes shorter. It's been pretty hard for me to get on a regular fixed schedule because of this variance in the times I wake. Another problem, some mornings I will wake completely refreshed, but more often than not,  I still feel a bit tired after getting out of bed in the mornings. Even after sleeping for >10 hours I sometimes feel like I didn't get a good night's sleep even though I was out for X hours solidly without interruption. Side note, I very rarely have dreams or remember my dreams in the mornings.", "summary": "I am really good at sleeping. Waking up is hard. I do not like sleeping for so long."}
{"id": "t3_54n3v8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[relationship] I [30F] am in a shit marriage and can't seem to leave my [32m] husband", "post": "I can't work it out why im staying with this man. He's an alcoholic who only stopped drinking because he developed a serious illness off the back of it. He didn't stop when I was critically ill in hospital and needed his support or when he prioritised the drink over me miscarrying his child. He stopped because it affected him.\n\nBut I didn't leave. Why didn't I leave when I had the chance? Why do I keep forgiving his lies and bullshit?\n\nFor background:\n\nI live in his house, he refuses to put my name on any bills even though I pay all of them (he's self employed and yet to bring any money in) I ask him to transfer the bills to me or at least let me access them and he refuses instead asking for a set sum each month (2/3rds my salary)\n\nWe never have sex unless it's on his terms - which he sees once a month as more than enough. If I suggest we have sex \"I'm coming down with a cold\" or \"I'm tired\" gets rolled out. I don't even have to overtly suggest it a simple kiss and \"yawn I'm tired tonight\" follows. I feel empty and resentful about this.\n\nI know he's using me. But yet I can't leave. I have serious problems of my own health wise and cannot physically run a house on my own so I guess I'm using him for a place to stay and housework included. It and I feel so empty though. I resent him. I hate everything about him and when he talks about his \"business\" I cringe and get embarrassed. I feel everyone sees me, him and us as a joke.\n\nI'm scared to leave. I have no friends. My family see me as the drop out and loser so rarely have time for me. If I leave I'll have no one. Literally no one other than my child.\n\nWhat the hell do I do?", "summary": "Husband using me for money I'm using him for a place to stay. Relationship is all but dead but I can't seem to leave."}
{"id": "t3_4pn41j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [18 M] of over a year, my BF says that he lost all his will for his passions because of me.", "post": "The title basically says it all. My BF, John, has told me that he realized that he lost the will to do anything that he's passionate about (drawing, reading, watching, and writing which is the worst of them all). This all started when I spoiled him on Expanse, not on purpose (I promise!). He said that it made everything clear that I ruin everything he loves unconsciously or consciously.\n\nWe didn't break up but we were close to breaking up. I obviously don't want that to happen so I wanted to ask how can we fix this? How can he get his will back? Bear in mind, I don't think he wants me to help. I want to help him subtly and indirect.\n\nI think the problem is that we forgot to be individuals already. We were too focused on us as a couple that we forgot ourselves. It's also not that I don't support him or anything because I support him in whatever he does but it's not enough, I guess. \n\nPlease please help me. I'm quite desperate. His passions are such a big part of who he is and he's lost. I just want him to be happy again.", "summary": "My BF lost the will to do his passions which are an integral part of who he is. I need advice and suggestions on how to get it back. Also on how to start and focus on ourselves as individuals apart from being in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_ol6je", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Unsure if I'm being not open enough when getting to know a potential guy to date.", "post": "Hi, I'm a 27F and was messaged by a 28M on a dating site two weeks ago.  He immediately asked for my number so that he can get to know me.  I told him I'd rather talk to him online first before giving out my number because I don't know him.  We didn't message much, just how was you day, etc. and then I signed off.\n\nI go back to the dating site and he messages me again for my number.  I figured, why not, since he seems pretty interested in me even though I really prefer not to give out my number so willingly.  \n\nWe talked on the phone for about an hour and he seemed nice.  We talked about our jobs, what hobbies we're into, etc.  We had a lot in common and he seemed nice.\n\nThen he started to ask me more personal questions like how long was i living with my ex-bf, how long did a date my ex-gf, etc.  I don't like to share personal things like that with people that are practically strangers.  So I just responded to those questions with \"I don't know you that well enough to answer personal stuff like that\"  The guy got kind of annoyed with that response and just said stuff such as \"how can I get to know you when you won't even open up?\" \"I'm trying to get to know you, so I'm asking you questions but that's not fair that you won't answer them?\" \n\nAm I being too private and not opening up enough when trying to get to know a potential date? or is this guy being a bit too pushy?\n\nSorry for the long post.", "summary": "Started talking to a guy online and phone, they asked some personal questions that I don't feel comfortable answering because I don't know them, not sure if I'm not being open enough/too private when getting to know them/people."}
{"id": "t3_lra8s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where can I get low-cost, cheap or even a free coat or good sweater for winter in NYC?", "post": "If your in the city today you can kinda feel the cold coming on...I for alot of reasons, don't have a coat or a good sweater, or lots of clothes period. I live by myself, well in my grandma's house but she is out till January, visiting different places, most recently costa rica, with her old lady friends. I have no job, only job I have held was a 5 month internship at a company that gets grants to set up afterschool programs for schools with a high risk drop out rate, like the 11212 zip code, and that looks good in a resume but in this are most jobs don't look at that. But there are none. I have no one to ask because well my mother lives off, $670, and that has to cover rent, phone bill, and a month of food. My dad got deported early this year, for apparently smuggling illegal immigrants, who I found out he's been letting them use my SS. Anyway most of my money these days I save up to pay for college applications because I can't get fee waivers from my school, cause im not enrolled, and it's also my top priority, because of the support I have from my old principals, not to mention my own goals (I graduated late for alot of reasons, by late I mean last August).", "summary": "Life isn't making finding a job in my area easy, no money, it's cold, need a place to find a low-cost, or free coat or sweaters, in NYC."}
{"id": "t3_2ujonh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help With Reporting a Fraudulent Account (X-Post from /r/Comcast)", "post": "[I originally posted this in /r/Comcast, but a user suggested I should post it here as well.]\n\nHi all, I'm hoping that you can help me in dealing with Comcast. I recently received an alert from Credit Karma that a Comcast account associated with my SSN was in collections. I do not have a Comcast account and have not had one in several years, so this was alarming. I called Comcast to report the issue and the worker asked me for the phone number associated with the account, or the account number, or the address associated with my account. Obviously, I don't have any of this information because I didn't open the account.\n\nI asked him to search using my SSN, but he didn't seem to come up with anything. It is also problematic because the account likely would be under my first name but under a different last name. I had trouble in September where someone got a hold of my SSN and opened various accounts (including a Comcast account) using my first name but a different last name.\n\nI know that more info would be on my credit report, but I already exhausted my free annual reports in September when I was dealing with that problem and I would prefer not to pay for a credit report just to close a fraudulent account. Does anyone have tips on what I can do?\nThank you!\n\n(As a sidenote, this is especially irritating because, as I noted above, I closed a fraudulent Comcast account in September and put a fraud alert on my account. And yet, somehow, Comcast thought it would be just swell to open this account in October without verifying any information. Very irritating.)", "summary": "Trying to take care of a fraudulent Comcast account, don't have any of the info associated with the account (like the address, account number, etc.), Comcast is unhelpful. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21iqr4", "subreddit": "college", "title": "What do you spend your money on?", "post": "Hi guys! I am an international student and this fall I am going to be a freshman in the US. First of all I noticed that the room and board prices are suuper high and I have no idea why, but I also noticed that prices in the US are pretty much the same as in my country, if not even cheaper in some cases. My question is: what do you spend your money on during the year? (not taking into account the stuff you buy for the beginning of school) I was thinking of getting a part time job for like $150 a week. Is that much? Is that too little? What would I spend those money on? Food, booze, clothes, supplies? <br>", "summary": "What do you spend money on during the week, while in college?"}
{"id": "t3_2drkcu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning cat litter boxes", "post": "INB4 I'm called out as a dumb ass: I know, I'm a dumb ass.\n\nAlright, so a while back (about ten years)  I got stuck with cleaning kitty litter boxes. No problem, I had a cold and there was no way the ammonia could bug me as much.\n\nAs per usual, I dumped the litter in a trash bag- we didn't have the scoop litter and I'll be damned if I'm gonna clean out three litter boxes the hard way. First two go without a hitch, but the third is gross on the outside so I take a scrub brush and a bottle of water and start spraying away.\n\nIt took about thirty seconds for me to notice that I was getting a bit more spray back that normal. I hope you, the reader, have picked up on what was happening quicker than I did.\n\nI'm going about my business and stop spraying, start coughing a little. The cats have totally vacated the area, but I can't smell because of my death cold, which is getting worse by the second.\n\nAbout a minute in, the utility room is really fucking foggy and my mom comes running in to open all of the doors and windows, telling me there are easier ways to kill people than poison gas. \n\nI asked her what she meant because the bottle I was using was clearly labeled as water? Nope, we've been putting bleach in this one.\n\n It took three hours to get the room free of the accidental gas and it was another month before the cats would even go into the room because I almost killed them.", "summary": "I made mustard gas with cat pee and a mislabeled bottle of bleach"}
{"id": "t3_24t3ul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my gf [22 F] 6 months, past cheating causing me severe anxiety while my gf is out of town.", "post": "I have a past that included some big time betrayal by women and it has me more messed up than I thought it would. \n\nMy gf is out of town for a summer job. She was never allowed to do this with her ex, so being the supportive person I am, and going into this relationship with 100% trust. I supported her. \n\nI wanted to come with her, but she said she needs this time to do her own thing since she's always been taken care of and wants to become a more independent person and a better person in out relationship. Although it kind of seems like she is 'finding herself'. \n\nAlso, we want to get married. After this summer, she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and I'm going to propose to her. I've never been so sure of something in my life.\n\nThe plan is to go visit her every couple of weeks. \n\nBut now that I'm not there, the anxiety is killing me!!! \n\nBoth my and her past are rearing up in my mind. Mine being cheated on multiple times with the same person and them hiding it for a year. Hers being that she got emotionally involved with someone (and then cheated) on her ex 3 years into their relationship (when she was 19). She was devastated and wanted to try and work it out but he bailed. She said she'd never make that mistake again. \n\nThe job has co-ed housing and there are a lot of disrespectful guys there that think they are players. We sometimes can't talk for 3 - 4 days at a time because of cell reception. \n\nI'm not worried about her so much, as I'm worried about them all getting fucked up together and someone trying to take advantage of her.\n\n I trust her and know that she wouldn't give in. But my anxiety from past relationships has me really freaking out about all the stupid what-ifs running through my head!!", "summary": "Gorgeous outgoing GF is working a summer job with a lot of bros and my past relationship problems are cropping up to cause me more mental anxiety than I bargained for despite trusting her. Trying to find a way to cope."}
{"id": "t3_4y92gz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Has anyone pined for/dated their best friend? How did that turn out?", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, I tried to see the rules and couldn't tell what side of the lines I was on. Mods, let me know if I need to move it, I will gladly abide.\n\nAnyway, for some background, I'm M/25, and the advice in question is based on my best friend, F/25. I move from CA to MI last year, and this woman was the sole reason I didn't want to leave that state. She's the definition of a best friend: we're almost always talking/texting, she'll ask me for advice, I'll ask her, etc. We call each other our \"personal venting machines\", if that makes things a little clearer. Well in my situation, I met her through an ex from high school(whom neither of us are in contact with after all these years), so we've known each other for years, and I think the longest we've gone without speaking was a week...well she has a boyfriend, and I'm not planning on breaking them up or doing something stupid that I'll regret...she's my best friend first and love interest second. So basically, I guess what I'm asking is how did this kind of scenario play out for you? Did you say anything to your friend about your feelings? If so, were they reciprocated? It may sound sad, but because of said move and my feelings for said woman, i can't talk to her about it, I have to reach out and hear some stories of other successes/failures. All I really want is to be with my best friend.", "summary": "I have feelings for my best friend, she has a boyfriend, I'm not planning on being stupid or stealing her, but I'm wondering how this scenario played out for you?"}
{"id": "t3_m5c6f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've had quite a few failures and don't know where to go from here!", "post": "Alright, so I'm a 24 year old male, with not very much work experience, no school degrees past high school. I've failed with post-secondary learning a few times due to a lack of discipline, disinterest, and poor decisions.\n\nI'm not stupid academically - I can learn new things and understand concepts rather quickly if they're taught decently, but a lot of teachers have methods that conflict with my way of learning and it makes things extremely difficult for me. I'm taking individual courses now in university to try and get back into things after trying my hand at a tradeschool (did well, no certificate though). There are no jobs in the industry I trained for, and I'm unfortunately not doing well in my classes.\n\nWhat the heck can I do? I want to get out of the city I live in because the government is super oppressive towards english people (Quebec), and maybe go back to school or try another trade - I just don't want to end up working at Starbucks as a career.\n\nAt the moment I have no debt, but no job, and no direction in left.\n\nSo I ask reddit - What would you do if you were in my situation?", "summary": "I fucked up several opportunities in higher learning and have no direction anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1ayl30", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do I get rid of the anger?", "post": "My ex (19/f and I 19/m) broke up 6 months ago after an 11 month relationship. First 3 months of breakup, I ignore all her texts, feel great move forward. Next two months, she says me not talking to her is not the way to distance myself because then she only wants me more. So I agree to answer all her texts but I never let the conversation go on long.\nThis last month, told her I can't talk to her anymore because her texts make me depressed and they do. I wish her the best and she agrees not to contact me anymore, she hasn't.\nThe problem is, for the past two weeks or so I've had all of this anger inside me and it's all aimed at her. I don't know why. She didn't do anything wrong, she's not a bad person, it just didn't work out between us. I have no reason to be mad at her but still every moment I'm awake I think about slamming my fists into a punching bag. Nothing makes this feeling go away. I've never had this anger before and I really don't know what's going on. I just want to forget about her and leave this anger behind.", "summary": "For the past few weeks I have felt an incredible amount of anger towards my ex that had never been there before. I don't know what's happening. I don't want to hate her and I don't want to be angry but I'm struggling."}
{"id": "t3_1sak5f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by allowing infants to play with insecticide", "post": "I've been trying to grow an avocado plant out of a seed for a couple of months. After it sprouted I planted it in a proper flowerpot. Some weeks later I started to notice that despite all my care, the poor plant started drying up, and there's when I realized that there were some nasty white bugs leeching all around it. I asked my mother what to do (she's a great gardener) and she told me to go to a plant shop and buy an all purpose insecticide.\n\nAfter reading the insecticide's bottle (with skulls, toxicity warnings and everything) looking for instructions, I start mixing a small quantity of said chemical (transparent) with water, resulting in a milk-like white liquid, and then spraying it on the desired plants. My mother had already warned me about the terrible smell that it had, that I should be careful handling it.\n\nThey also say that the sensory memory is the strongest of them, because as soon as I opened the bottle, the insecticide's awful stench reminded me of an event that had taken place a couple of years earlier, when I had to take care of my little cousins (5 to 9 years old at the time) one hot Sunday:\n\nIt was almost summer and it was warm enough to organize a couple of water games for my cousins in my backyard. I started gathering anything from the house that could hold water: buckets, water guns, balloons... and suddenly I remembered that for some reason there were some empty spray bottles (like [this one] in my house, and decided to look for them. Three were empty, but about three of them already had something inside - an awful smelling white substance on them. I washed them all at once, but the foul odor didn't fade in the least. I said 'fuck it' and decided that was enough and took them with the rest.\n\nAfterwards, I immediately realized that I had allowed little kids to play with bottles that had held liquid that came on a bottle with skulls.\n\nFortunately nothing happened to my cousins so far AFAIK.", "summary": "Bought insecticide, its smell reminded me that I had allowed kids to spray themselves with it a couple of years ago."}
{"id": "t3_fh7qd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A Job/Ethics Dilemma", "post": "So I was recently passed over for a promotion at my company by someone who is extremely under-qualified compared to my work, seniority, and educational background. Upset and feeling like it was time to move on anyway, I wanted to give my notice and quit. My mother suggested though that the best way to \"stick it to them\" is to take a leave of absence then go on disability for a couple months (I have a legitimate disability that is exasperated by my job). This would allow me to be paid for a couple months while not working and look for my next job. I've always felt social benefits are for people who are really in need (my \"disability\" is fairly manageable and more of a nuisance than anything else), and I don't know if it is right to \"milk the system\" in the name of making my employer suffer. I'm in a bit of a moral quandary. Help?", "summary": "Should I just quit my current job and move on or try and take a leave of absence and file for disability while I'm not working?"}
{"id": "t3_49kmck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my girlfriend [34 F] 4 month, Letting the dogs into my bedroom", "post": "My girlfriend has to small dogs and recently moved to a new place, she still got the old place for a month, she decided that she didn't like the old place now and she doesn't wanna sleep there anymore, but at the same time she is to lazy to move her stuff, so she is sleeping on an inflatable mattress and barely have anything at her place.\n\nAlso she has some stomach issues and with stress it flared and she was not feeling good for the past month, so I felt sorry for her and I keep taking care of her; so some days she'll stay at my place, because there is an actual mattress and while staying home sick she can watch TV.\n\nso the other day I had to leave for a couple of days for family event and I told her that she can stay at my place if she felt that she needed that, and when I came back I found out that she stayed there for the past couple of days, and that she moved the dogs there too and they were sleeping in my bedroom, I'm living at a community that have $500 insurance per dog, and there are penalties for violation (and yes she knows that!!), and anytime before when she came to visit with the dogs I told her that I like the dogs but not in my bedroom or on the blankets (they are not my dogs and I don't really know places they have been at playing).\n\nSo that night she was staying there and I didn't want to kick her out at a late hour and sick, she just let the dogs into the bedroom again, and she said that it is okay and I shouldn't make a big deal out of it, I got pissed and told her that she is being disrespectful and that is my place and I set the rules in it, she started the drama of me overreacting and that it is a problem if I don't like her dogs because they are like her children.\n\nand to be honest I don't really like the dogs much because they keep barking and they are not well behaving dogs overall and in previous visits they did poop or pee or the carpet and I had to buy a carpet cleaner to remove the stain", "summary": "Is it disrespectful that my girlfriend deliberately ignored my house rules of no dogs in the bedroom?"}
{"id": "t3_2jfn1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my _girlfriend of 1 year_ [27F] can't communicate because I'm \"angry\"", "post": "Ok, so my GF and I have been living together for pretty much the duration of our relationship. We get into arguments sometimes but they usually don't spiral out of control. We have just moved into a NEW place a week ago and all of the sudden we cannot communicate.\n\n I was diagnose with IED (Intermittent Explosive Disorder) in the military (Navy SEAL candidate) and have always had a HOT temper. I mean I am not a big guy but I have intimidated a LOT of ppl by the energy I can put off (so I've been told). After finding my gf, she has been the best source for peace and and always seems to have a level head, unless we argue. Lately she has been using my \"diagnosis\" against me in EVERY argument, regardless of how mad I am. And let me put this straight, I know when I have overreacted and immediately feel bad about it. But lately, I can honestly say she is not wanting to fix the problem of the argument, she just says \"Oh you need to go get help for your anger\" or \"You are too angry right now\". I know this sounds ridiculous since I am the one with the anger problem, but she is using it against me every time we talk and I wont even be raising my voice!\n\nWhat the hell can I do here? I have agreed to see counseling and all that and believe me, I am tired of being \"that guy\". I have made a lot of positive changes in the last year and can thank her for that, but this is one that I am very frustrated by. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Diagnosed with anger problem in military, GF uses it against me in EVERY argument."}
{"id": "t3_45nx47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my SO [23 F] of 2.5 years are in a great relationship and I have been thinking about but am scared of marriage", "post": "We are on the same page about everything including: libido, sexual preferences, when to have kids, when to get married, religion, how to raise kids, hobbies, where to live, etc.\n\nI have dated a lot of people and she hasn't which is understandably scary for her.\n\nEverything is going great even after moving across the u.s. together, owning a motorhome together and traveling all over the country. We just moved to a place both of us want to stay for the summer and probably longer. Both of our parents are still married after 25+ years.\n\nI was fantasizing about getting married today which I've never done but we are on the same page about all the big things such as not having the ceremony in a church, our parents like each other, and most importantly we are overall very happy together.\n\nWe have discussed marriage but aren't ready for a few years if things work out. I could definitely imagine being with her until the day I die and I'm pretty sure she feels the same way.", "summary": "SO and I are in a great relationship, and I have been fantasizing about marriage, looking for some advice!"}
{"id": "t3_2geuwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] Never been with a girl, I just can't..", "post": "Ok, im awkward and shy I know that's my biggest killer. Im starting to get more confident but its not going to happen over night. I have been working all over the country for the past 4 years with my old job it made it hard to make friends or relationships in fact I talked to NOBODY my own age in that time.\n\nSo now that I have a new job and im only staying in the one place im trying to make new friends and start meeting girls. I just see other guys and then look at myself and think how... A few months ago I started to make a change in my life with the hole confidence thing I have lost over 40 lbs although I still have a little more to go before im happy. \n\nI get told by most girls I have a really nice smile so Im trying to use that but really I have nothing else. I don't know how to talk to girls or get there attention to start a conversation and when I do I ask them a few questions like food, Music, Movies that kinda stuff then I don't know what else to talk about.", "summary": "Just looking for tips on talking to girls, what are good things to talk about?"}
{"id": "t3_ezbqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having trouble getting over him", "post": "**The backstory:** I am bigender, physically male, and I call myself \"gay\" to make it simple on people who ask me. I am 19 years old. I recently broke up with my boyfriend (age 21), Travis, a little over a week ago online (he was at his home in Kentucky at the time; I'm in Massachusetts). He's an extremely emotional person, so I was quite surprised at his \"Oh. Okay.\"-style reaction. I didn't see him for a week following that, since he was out visiting a friend (one of the reasons I broke up with him: I knew he was going to have sex with this person, I gave permission, but I still wasn't comfortable with it. I had no real way to say \"no\" -- I'd had sex with other people while in the relationship as well [again, with permission]). I talked to him a little online while he was there, and I really got the feeling that he wished I would just stop.\n\nOriginally, he was going to college up here. This is the reason he is in my house right now; he's staying here until the semester starts. *However*, it turns out he's not going to school next semester and is only here because he wants to visit another friend who lives nearby, and to get his car and move everything out of his dorm. Basically, he's living in my house for everything around me but me.\n\nI thought I was over him (since I was the dumper, not the dumpee)... but I can't even stand in the same room as him without tearing up. I know I still love him, I still love all of my exes, but I can't even show the slightest bit of affection without him getting frustrated at me. (Note: I cope with stress with affection. The juxtaposition sucks. I know.)\n\nIt's obvious he needs space. I figured that out. But how can I handle living in the same house as him for the next week, until he moves back (to Kentucky)? While I'm at work all I can think about is going home and seeing him in my living room. It's negatively impacting my work, and my supervisors are noticing.\n\nAny advice for getting through the week?\n\n----", "summary": "I broke up with him and thought I could handle seeing him in person. I can't, and I'm stuck with him until the end of the week."}
{"id": "t3_3l9qxz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(30M) am having near daily panic attacks over whether to break up with my gf(30F) or not.", "post": "I am completely torn between breaking up or staying with my serious gf of 3.5 years. We live together and our lives are completely intertwined and she's the best and most amazing person I've ever known, but there's some fundamental issues like sexual attraction and chemistry, and the fact that I am pretty sure I don't want kids, and she does. The problem is I don't know if those issues are because of my uncertainty about my own life or my inherent desires about the type of life I want. I panic about this stuff nearly daily because I feel like I am trapped in prison. If I stay and we break up 5 years from now, I have hurt her by not being able to move on. If I leave, I feel I could be leaving for the wrong reasons(not strong enough to face adulthood and responsibilities) and I could be leaving the best person I've ever known, who loves me more than anyone ever will. I mean the things she does for me and to try to help me is staggering and overwhelming. I've never met anyone who has as good of a heart as her and who is so empathetic and selfless in trying to make me happy. I feel like such an asshole sometimes for even wanting to leave her because of the work she puts into us and how much she cares for me. \n\nHow do I stop panicking and calm myself down? It's been over a year now since I've started to panic about this stuff. We've worked on stuff but these questions and uncertainty are just not going away. I am miserable. I cry nearly every day, and when I am with her and I look at her I just see all of this stress and potential pain I might cause her. We used to be just carefree and happy but I can see the toll this has all taken on her. I just want to get back to a point of enjoying life and having what we used to have. Fun. My guilt is nearly crushing me too, because I know how much she loves me and I don't want to devastate her and ruin her life.", "summary": "I am torn between leaving my wonderful gf or moving forward with our lives together and panic nearly daily because of it. How do I calm down and process what I am going through?"}
{"id": "t3_1gim8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23 M] am having trouble trusting my gf [21 f]", "post": "We've been dating for 7 months now and gotten to know each other pretty well. I really really like her so I've been completely honest with her and she says she's been completely honest with me but recently I feel like she's always hiding something from me. Whenever I'm on my phone, whether I'm on facebook, playing a game or texting she'll enter detective mode and ask me a bunch of questions. Whenever I'm texting someone she looks over my shoulder and watches me text, which is fine by me because Ive got nothing to hide but whenever she's texting and I get a little curious she pulls away or walks away.\n\nI understand she wants her privacy so I dont pry and let it go. Lately she's been hanging out with a mutual friend and I'm totally okay with her having male friends. She's hung out with him at his place a couple of times with one of her girl friends. A couple of times she told me she was going over and other times I had to find out from her friend. A couple of days ago I found out she went over his place late at night without telling me. I was extremely furious when I found out. After I calmed down I confronted her and asked her what it was all about. She assured me that they were just \"hanging out\" and they're nothing more than friends. For all I know she's been over his place a bunch of other times without telling me. \n\nWe were supposed to hangout last night but she said she was feeling like shit and wanted to reschedule. Seemed kinda suspicious to me since I saw her earlier and she seemed fine to me. Haven't talked to her since. Been avoiding her texts and calls until I have time to think about what my next move should be. She's not the cheating type but you never really know. Sorry for ranting.\n\nI've never been in this situation before. Am I overreacting? She wants to hang out tomorrow but I'm gunna either cancel or just flake on her. Although I will see her at night since we volunteer at the same place. What should I do? Any advice will really help, Thanks!", "summary": "Girlfriend goes over a mutual friends place late at night and hasn't been telling me. Should I be worried or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2lwo30", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Lost my best friends and idk how to get them back", "post": "I'll try to make this a simple rant. \n\nSo basically I was friends with a guy and girl (I'm a guy) for a few years, and they ended up dating when I introduced them (been together 2 years). So I've been friends with them for 3ish years (little more for the guy) and best and close with them for the last year. Like this past summer we were all hanging out 2-3 times a week for months straight.\n\nWell anyways near the end of summer I voiced to the girl I had been battling depression and stuff because I had always been open with her before and she was very helpful. Long story short once I told her this I let down my \"fake me\" and became very negative and suffocating to both of them (bugging with problems and insecurities (which led to fights) until they reached a breaking point). They said they needed a break 2 months ago. A week into the break I tried reaching out with no answer.\n\nSince then I have been in therapy and have really in my eyes and the therapists eyes changed my views. I'm not perfect, but I'm much better and I miss my friends. The problem is even still I see on their twitters comments like \"You have to cut people out who bring you down\" or \"I wish I would have removed the negativity from my life sooner, this is great\". I feel like these are directed to removing me.\n\nBasically I was one of those toxic friends you hear all about that need to be removed. \n\nIdk what I should do. Idk if I can do anything even. I was thinking about writing a letter or something to them, but idk. Any thoughts?", "summary": "Friends haven't talked to me because I was negative, not sure how to get them back"}
{"id": "t3_1d4pr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] found out that my boyfriend [24M] reactivated his OKCupid Profile. How do I bring this up?", "post": "Me: 21 F, Him: 24 M\n\nWe met on OKCupid about 9 months ago and have been dating exclusively since then. We discussed deleting our profiles a few weeks into dating and I haven't visited the site since the day I deleted my profile.\n\nWhile we were hanging out at his apartment today, he got up to use the bathroom and left his phone on his bed. It was unlocked and I happened to glance over and see the page of apps it was on. After the NBA and Netflix apps was the OKCupid app. No big deal, really, the man also still has the NBA Gametime 2011 app. I figured he just hadn't deleted the app yet.\n\nWe've had a pretty solid relationship and I've had no reason to suspect cheating, but something about this wasn't sitting right with me. When I got home about an hour ago, I typed in his old OKCupid username and lo and behold, there's his profile. Complete with the \"Online Now!\" tag and a \"single\" relationship status. I know he's used/updated it recently. He moved a few months ago and the city listed on his profile is his new city. When we met, his profile was set to his hometown.\n\nI'm sick to my stomach, guys. I really can't even think straight because my mind is going in a million different directions right now. I have a text meant for him but with no recipient that says \"Hey I saw your OKCupid profile. Are you cheating on me?\" I've also thought about logging into my old inactive profile and sending him a message, but both these options don't seem like they'd directly solve the problem. I know I need to talk to him about this, but how do I bring this up in a calm manner? And can I bring this up without falling into the \"why were you looking at my phone\" trap?", "summary": "found my boyfriend's recently active OKCupid profile. How do I talk to him about this?"}
{"id": "t3_15hlkf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] Trust issue with my GF(20/f) of one year.", "post": "The relationship itself is great, I just seem to have some trust issues. In her last relationship she was real flirty and did some questionable things, that's probably what it stems from. Also, I tend to be socially awkward; her on the other hand has not trouble getting a long with everybody, mostly guys.\nSo say we were out with a couple of people and there were two other couples there. She would mostly be talking to the guys. If the girls give her a dirty look then she says she doesn't like said girl. At school she makes friends more with guys than she does with other girls and that really bugs me. Our first month as a couple was shaky because of this. She made friends with a guy in her class. So when we would talk on the phone or skype she would always be texting him. The part that really hurt me was the guys name on her phone was \"My Sugar Daddy\". \n\nSo here's the problem. I really like her, I honestly see a future with her, but in April I'm going to be leaving to the military. I want to spend as much time as possible with her, but she just told me that she is going to be going to school on the days I work. I know I may sound like a OAB, but I'm scared with all the time we won't spend together that she will start talking to one of her classmates( guy ). Well you know the rest. I know I should be happy because she's going to school, but given her past I'm scared of us drifting away.\n\nAm I over-reacting or is this valid concern.", "summary": "I have trust issues"}
{"id": "t3_361a4c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't get my ex to talk about splitting up the apartment.", "post": "I (25/F) can't seem to get my ex (24/M) to talk about separating up the apartment. No matter what I do to bring this up nicely he gets a blank look on his face and moves on. Its been three times within the last week I've tried asking some questions. He instantly shuts me down. He won't give me any sort of estimated time of him having his own place, and then says if he takes his dog then it'll definitely be longer for him to leave. Up until tonight he told me that he would at the very least take his dog. I'm tired of excuses and want answers.", "summary": "ex boyfriend ignores me when I try talking about splitting up the apartment."}
{"id": "t3_3ld4zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "should I[23/m] ask my ex gf [23/f] now if she still wants to go to her birthday dinner, even though we just broke up.", "post": "She left me on sat after being together for 3 years and it was all my fault. she put up with a lot of my shit for those 3 years.\n\nTold me she cant be with me right now because I hurt her too much.\n\nwe talked things over today and agreed on being friends because she wants to(I told her being friends never works) and that was the plan.\n\nShe always went over the top for my bday and this year I wanted to do the same for her but did not get a chance to because the break up halted that.\n\nI still have the reservations for dinner, and If I couldnt give her everything that I wanted to get her, would it be wrong to at least still take her our for her bday dinner?", "summary": "gf left me. my fault. we talked it over. now friends. couldnt give her best bday ever, but still have reservations. Should I tell her about it still?"}
{"id": "t3_r2u7v", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M[19] Should i make a move soon or should i just keep things as they are?", "post": "Hello! First time posting on reddit ever so pardon me if there are mistakes or what not. Im pretty bad at expressing myself in an organized way so i apologize in advance.\nAnyway here's my situation:\nI met a cute co-worker just 2-3 weeks ago, she works part-time and both in the same grade like me and I found her very attractive. She's new to the job and to the country as well and we both are from the same country. We talked before our shift since we both came early and for the first time I talked with confidence made the girl that I like smile and laugh and share stories with me. The problem is i'm getting overly excited about my progress as a person who used to be shy around a girl that I like. Now I want to see her more often, work with her more and get to know her more. So then I asked my friend if i should take another guy's shift from work just to work with her (because we had zero shifts together for the past two weeks) and I really want to talk to her and get her number. However the guy would not give away his shift, so I am left with another week not seeing her. Then I thought maybe I could go to the place where we work around the time when its not busy and order food from her and have a little chat while she grabs my food for me. My friend then tells me to give her space and give myself some space and not to think about her too much and to just keep things as they are meaning not taking other peoples shifts just to work with her. Now my question for you reddit is, should I make an effort to work with her and talk to her at least once a week on the job or should I just, as my friend adviced me, calm down, keep things as they are and not worry about her too much?", "summary": "I like this girl, we both work together but have at least 1 shift together every 2 weeks. Should i make an effort to try and find shifts so i can work with her more or keep things the same? "}
{"id": "t3_2qd8ij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my coworker [40+F] since this summer, my coworker has it out for me and I don't know why", "post": "Just started a new career this summer, and immediately landed my dream job! \n\nI work off-site from the main office. We (all off-site workers) have weekly meetings at the office, so we get to move the office people. \n\nWhile I was still in training, I met this office worker when she interrupted my personal meeting with a higher up to accuse me of something. I explained to her that I had no idea what she was talking about and that I was so new that could not have done the thing she was accusing me of.\n\nAfter that, I tried to be extra nice to this lady since we started off in the wrong foot, and I wanted her to know that there were no hard feelings over the misunderstanding.\n\nShe has written several emails to my bosses to accuse me of things. I only find out about these email when my bosses copy me on the reply and tell her that she is incorrect.\n\nApparently they are starting to believe her BS because they gave me a big lecture about some shit that she made up.\n\nI really don't know why this woman hates me. She couldn't have wanted my position, since she doesn't have the licensing required.", "summary": "New coworker apparently hates me, and I have no idea why. How can I get this woman to stop targeting me?"}
{"id": "t3_254kt3", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Can't clear the timer on the microwave?", "post": "Before I get started, just note that this is petty revenge. I have several stories I wish to share with Reddit, but this one is really petty.\n\nFor about two months, I lived in an apartment with my fiancee and her cousin. I liked him and everything, but he was AWFUL to live with. He did not help with anything around the apartment, but one thing he did really drove me insane. He always opened the microwave before the timer was done and didn't clear it. This was annoying since I had to clear it before I could use it. So, in order to punish him for his heinous crimes, I started unplugging the microwave.", "summary": "Waste my time? I waste yours right back."}
{"id": "t3_4cf8hj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] had my brother [22 M] visit my crush [22 M] and he told my brother that he has a girlfriend. What does this mean?", "post": "I [21 F] had my brother [22 M] visit my crush [22 M] and he told my brother that he has a girlfriend. What does this mean? \n\nBackground: My brother [22 M] and I [21 F] and my crush [22 M] used to all be good childhood friends. My crush used to say that he wanted to marry me someday (besides the point b/c it was an old childhood promise). My \"friends\" told me in high school that my crush had a summer fling with the girl he recently said was his girl friend. I feel like backing off on this one because of what has been said and done. However, his mom once told me that my crush said not to date anyone other than him because he would get super jealous and beat up any guy that might defile me. His mom also said that my crush had insecurity issues and didn't want to see me when I asked to see him. He also asked me to prom but I wasn't home. However, when I finally plucked the courage to send him a card with my brother that had my phone number written in the card, he was casually said to my brother that he had a girlfriend (who turns out to be the girl my \"friends\" said he had a fling with). I'm not sure if he's lying or not or what to even think of this. The reason I had to give him my phone number was because he recently moved and we had no way of contacting each other. I don't have his phone number or email so I have no way of contacting him unless I go to his house which I would not after what he said. Should I do anything about this, redditors? What does this all mean?", "summary": "I [21 F] had my brother [22 M] visit my crush [22 M] and he told my brother that he has a girlfriend. What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_f8jgq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you were allowed to do what ever you wanted to Osama Bin laden would you?", "post": "I have thought about this hypothetical situation. Imagine this:\n\nOsama Bin laden has been captured by the U.S. and is being helled in a prison cell here in America. Every member of the affected families of 9/11 has been given a pardon by the U.S. government, even God if you believe in him, to do anything you wanted to Osama, with NO repercussions. Taking turns if you will.\n\nTo allow everyone to do something they would obviously not be able to kill him but for the sake of the argument imagine you are the only one. You can torture him or if you simply want to ask him something imagine he speaks english and can answer any of your questions.\n\nFor redditors outside of America who may have not been as emotionally attached to 9/11 please understand this event killed thousands and devastated our country. Clearly people felt and still feel passionate about it even today.\n\nCall me fucked up for thinking about this I don't really care.", "summary": "Read the title and answer it."}
{"id": "t3_23qvfh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "8 months of illness and some thoughts", "post": "Im pretty much an introverted guy. Dont know a lot of people, not a lot of friends. Barely interact with the rest of my family.\n\n8 months ago, I suddenly got sick and really weak. So weak that I couldn't even lift 1L of water bottle. The first months, I was pratically bedridden since it was too painful to walk around. I was taking small doses of gabapentin. \n\nThen a few days before Christmas, I felt like I was being burned alive all over my body and being shocked all day long. At the end of the day, I wasn't been able to endure the pain that I went to hospital. Since they \"weren't\" able to do something for me because they didn't know exactly what I had, I asked the doctor if it was at least possible to have higher doses of the pills I was taking. The doses were tripled.\n\nAfter 3 months of waiting oto meet a neurologist. I waited from September to December. I got told that I had a peripheral neuropathy. \n\n4 months later, I got a call from the hospital that a doctor wanted to check on me. After the appointment, my doses got doubled. Ever since I got stronger doses, I was finally be able to walk around the house more often. Sometimes I push myself too hard that it takes me at least 2 days to recover.\n\nDuring those 8 months, I've been thinking a lot about my past. I noticed that I've sacrified a lot to make my friends, family happy no matter if I liked it or not. I turned down a lot of stuff because I wanted to protect my mom, sister and brother from my dad. And now I am wondering if all I did was worth. Even right now I am pissed that I cant do a lot of stuff and hate to depend on others.", "summary": "Have peripheral neuropathy. Mostly been bed and home ridden for 8 months. Starting to think about the past."}
{"id": "t3_rrge1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to import a car from Canada to US.", "post": "I recently purchased a car from British Columbia, Canada, and I'm trying to import to the US.  I've contacted the manufacture and received the letter of compliance stating that it's EPA compliant.  However, when I crossed the border the lady told me that I was missing a the DOT (Department of Transportation) form.  The lady was not clear on how to obtain this, she said that you would normally get it from the manufacture, or a dealership might be able to provide this for you.  Shortly after we crossed the border, now in the US, went to a dealership and they had no idea about a DOT form.  I called Customs again and they basically gave me the finger and kept circling about.  After calling around a bit more I finally figured that the DOT form is the HS-7 and the 3520-1.  I printed those out and went back to the dealership to see if they could do a vehicle inspection for me and fill out the form.  The dealership didn't feel comfortable and told me to be on my way. I eventually got fed with this and drove all the way home.  So now I'm home and have no idea who can do the vehicle inspection has anyone imported a car to the US that can give me a hand?", "summary": "I bought a car in Canada drove it back to the US and need help importing and registering my car."}
{"id": "t3_dff73", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's catch up college grads of 2010", "post": "So you just graduated college, you made it into the big wide world and were full of wonder. It's been 4 months since you left school and I'm curious to see how you are all doing given the economy, aging workforce that won't let go of their jobs and the grizzled vets we go up against at interviews.\n\nHere is my tale of leaving school:\n\n-Moved to a new town to go to Grad school, got deferred (managers' letter of recommendation didn't make it by deadline) and run into the workplace\n\n-After two months got a job in a factory making minimum wage and working 40-45 hour weeks\n\n-Countless job applications to numerous companies and I finally find a better job flipping burgers, so left the mind numbing factory job to go back into the restaurant industry.\n\n-Applying for Grad school again in January w/ all my letters of rec in place.\n\nAll-in-all I was pretty bitter at the beginning of the old job as I went to a decent university and didn't do terribly. Now I've kind of woken up to the realities of it all. Hopefully I can get something good going out of grad school eh?", "summary": "Life kind of blows out of college, how's it going for you?"}
{"id": "t3_155idk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my GF [21F] broke up while she was studying abroad. Any advice?", "post": "Well, long story short, we've been together since prom in high school. Everything has been great we were always best friends since then. We went to separate colleges and did our own thing and I, of course trying to be the alpha male, told her I did not want to hurt her going into college. (was a freshman and wanted 'college experience') Everything went well we visited each other like once a semester and it was fun and all. We were always together over breaks and during the summer. Always.  Last summer I decided to man up and ask her out because not only was it what I wanted, it was what I THOUGHT she wanted too. \nShe planned on studying abroad this semester in hawaii. I encouraged her to do so because clearly it is a great experience and I only wanted the best for her. Things start to get rough through the communication channel. Halfway through this semester, she tells me that something happened and I basically already knew this via her Facebook pics (nothing obvious just her and a guy pretty much in every other pic together). She breaks up with me, me semi-unwilling, but later on man up and tell her you're right it's for the best.  I have been really broken up about this, and she comes back this weekend. \nWat do?\nDo I try to pick up where we left off? Take it slow? Clearly some have had this feeling before, but I feel as if she is 'dirty' now and just wants some other guys like this stud from Texas.", "summary": "Broke up with gf while she studied abroad, I still love her and want her back. She still texts me once in a while like she wants to be with me when she's back. Still broken up over the fact that she may or may not have had sex with someone else :/ any advice would be great"}
{"id": "t3_3pron8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to cut my hair myself after the barber.", "post": "So today I go to the barber, get my usual short haircut, it looks pretty decent when I look in the mirror at the barbershop, everything seems ok. I come home and realize that a part of my hair looks slightly too long. No big deal, I'll just cut it off myself, how hard can it be, right? So I cut off one little part, suddenly it looks kinda weird. Welp, the only way I can fix it is by cutting off a bit more...fast forward 20 minutes and I look like I got my haircut from a monkey.\n\nNot sure what to do now, my dad has already called me a fucking idiot when he saw me, I'm embarrassed to go into public like this, the only way to fix this is to go back to the same barbershop and have to explain that I didn't like the barber's initial haircut, buuuut I still need another one.", "summary": "Got a slightly imperfect haircut, decided to fix it and fucked it up completely."}
{"id": "t3_14qz0n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Middle aged people of Reddit what hi-tech things have you done in the past, which kids of today would laugh at.", "post": "When I was 13 I photographed our black and white television using my parent's camera.\n\nIn 1981 I recorded the first Space Shuttle launch being on the UK TV news on a cheap camera. It wasn't even my camera - it was taken from my parents bedroom. Needless once they had been processed (a few weeks later) I had a my own picture of the Shuttle launch. Yes they were rubbish - but they were my pictures.\n\nWhen I tell my kids that story and the fact we couldn't record the TV or everyday things like they can with their phones  they look at me as if I'm [a time traveller from the past] (which to some degree I am).\n\nWhat things which where uber hi-tech in your day, would make the kids roll on the floor laughing.", "summary": "As 13 year old I had to photograph the telly to record special items."}
{"id": "t3_tsyhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend doesn't want me smoking weed, I've been smoking recreationally for 6 years.", "post": "Hi reddit, I've been with my girlfriend for about a month now, im 18 and shes 16 and I have a problem.\n\nShe doesn't want me smoking weed. I have never been addicted and have never needed weed, it's always just been a great way to spend a night with friends, since I'm in a relatively new relationship with my girlfriend, she's wanted me to completely go cold turkey and I don't think I can do this anymore.\n\nI love smoking weed with my buddies and some of the best times come from this.\n\nThe reason she doesn't want me smoking weed is because of some family history where weed caused trouble in her family, gona leave it at that.\n\nShe says she hates the idea of me smoking weed even though there is no logical reason, I think that's really dumb, but that's just me. I have always gone along with it saying I will do anything to make her happy, she says she gets really depressed and upset when I do it. I don't know what to do.\n\nI don't want to give this part of my life up, am I in the wrong here, I just need help please.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want me to smoke weed because of issues that it's caused her family in the past, I don't want to quit smoking weed though."}
{"id": "t3_4qjgzw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/M] and I really need an advice with a \"relationship [19/F]", "post": "Well, Hi everyone. \nI never post anything because I never need it, but now I do. I've a friendship with a girl that is so awesome, like 5-6 months to know each other. So I had the guts to say that I liked her and it was something that I couldn't understand because she was perfect for me, my last relationship was about 4-5 years, I'm 21 so that relationship hurt me a lot and it was something that I don't want to remember but it's okay, so back to the topic, she had a relationship too, she didn't want to tell me but I know because she explained some little details, the point is when I told her that I was fall in love with her she told me that I was only a goodfriend (I KNOW, FRIENDZONED) but for like 2 -3 months she always told me that I was all she needed , I was perfect for her. I always tell her \"I hope you have a good day, if you can tell me when you come  safe :)\", \"how're you doing sweetie?\", \" Miss you a lot\" and stuff like that even when I was working I left her little messages and she liked it and answered me a lot with some little messages too,  she did that too, but not for so long. Like 1-2 weeks ago when I left some messages, she only replies with\" thx\" or \"np :)\", soooo, wtf? What did I do? I harassing her a lot? it was wrong? I don't know, I know I'm in the friendzone but she told me that someday she will accept me but I can't stand it anymore I feel like sh*t. She has a lot of male friendships, so, what can I do? I know I should just ignore her or don't message her but I can't. Would you help me? :(\n\nSorry If my english is too bad, not my mother language.", "summary": "I'm in the friendzone but she told me maybe she will accept me but I feel like I harrasing her a lot with my messages with cute things and stuff like"}
{"id": "t3_1yrsar", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I sue Paypal?", "post": "Changed some of my currency in Paypal the other day in hopes of gaining some money similar to a Forex Trade, noticed that the exchange rates for Paypal for most currencies is lower than the actual price of the dollar. For example, when i traded the AUD for Mexican Peso mid-way through January the exchange rate was 1 AUD = 11.8 PESO, When i looked at my receipt on the exchange rate, turns out i got ripped off at 11.3 PESO, which hasn't been that low for 10 months.\nIs there anyway I can take legal action on this, location is Australia by the way?", "summary": "Exchange rate was $1 =11.9 PESO, Paypal gave me 11.3 PESO per $"}
{"id": "t3_49jf5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M/F] with my boyfriend [31 M/F] 2.5 years, I don't know if we can survive this", "post": "We will call my boyfriend Rob. The first two years of our relationship were really wonderful. I won't go into detail because that seems unnecessary, but I have thought he was the one for a long time and we have talked about our future/marriage/etc.\n\nAbout 7 months ago we moved in together. This put a lot of stress on us as we both started new jobs in a new city and were getting used to living together. I went thru a long depression that I am just now coming out of. \n\nI started to feel a lack of passion between us. I brought it up to him, asking if he is still in love with me. He says he loves me and really wants us to make this work and start over, but that he hasn't been feeling the passion. It feels like he loves me but is not IN love with me.\n\nIs this normal? Is this something anyone else has experienced? I am heartbroken. I don't know if I can move past this. I just need input.\n\nI know I didn't give a lot of details but feel free to ask if needed.\n\nThank you guys.", "summary": "BF and I love each other, maybe not \"IN\" love right now. Can we survive this?"}
{"id": "t3_uqxc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm getting sick and upset about my boyfriends past lovers.", "post": "Me(19) and my boyfriend(21) have been together for 1\u00bd years now. We met over the internet and it's a long distance relationship(2 different countries in Europe).\nWe have a good relationship, and as the most important we love and trust each other. \n\nBeing a girl though, I overthink stuff way too much. In the past I would just tell him about everything and we would argue. Now I'm trying to hide the 'craziness' from him.\n\nI'm no saint. I've have had lots more experience than him sexually and with relationships. He have been with 3 girls before me. Then he had a dry gab for some years before he met me. \nI found out today (read it on his reddit) that apparently some girl gave him a hand job at a party(he never told me). This made me physically sick. It was like my heart stopped for a second then started beating like crazy, my tummy started to hurt, my body went cold but my head got warm and I had the urge to throw up. \n\nI know I have a problem, I hate feeling like this. I have nothing to be jealous about, but the image is stuck in my head. My throat still hurts, like when you're trying to hold back tears.(that's not what I'm doing though)\nI need advice badly. This have happened before. How can I stop this from happening? Cos it's the worst thing have ever felt. Please help.", "summary": "I get sick over past sex experiences my boyfriend have had."}
{"id": "t3_13utq4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] I am currently dating a girl(23) and I don't know if she is cheating on me or not.", "post": "I have only been dating this girl for about a month. She doesn't want to make anything 'official' or have titles because she wants to take things slow. we have already slept together and see each other 2-3 times week. This past week over Thanksgiving break from school we didn't talk much because I went back home. She has told me that she will not be able to see me for a couple days she has made other plans. The part that makes me worry is that there is another guy in our class that openly talks about how he likes her. Tonight she drove him home. I have expressed my insecurities to her about this before but she tells me not to worry. Since I haven't spent time with her since before break I am starting to get worried but I don't know if I'm just creating my own nightmare.", "summary": "unofficial gf doesn't seem to want to spend time with me and is hanging out with semi-mutual guy 'friend', I might be crazy"}
{"id": "t3_271elb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/m] need advice about post prom [17/f]", "post": "Last night was prom and I took one of my best friend's friends to prom. I didn't really know her until I asked her but I have gotten to know her for over the past month. She started liking me but I did not want to start anything. I am not really into her and we are leaving for college in 3 months.\nI tried to enjoy myself and I ended up taking it too far. We did not kiss or anything but we slow danced, grinded and then cuddled after prom at my best friend's house(Same one that set us up). I know she is really into me because she has a picture of us as her phone background and she makes it really obvious. She is a really nice girl and I don't want to hurt her feeling, especially after leading her on so much last night. I am not really sure what I should do. I don't really want to date her but if it makes the breaking it off process easier I am willing to date her. **The issue isn't the grinding it is mainly the slow dancing and the cuddling after prom.", "summary": "I took a girl I did not really know to prom and she ended up liking me. I slow danced, grinded, and cuddled with her after prom. She thinks we have a thing but I don't. How do I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_2jvawi", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Rescue dog has awful separation anxiety...", "post": "I just adopted a 9 month old puppy a couple weeks ago from my local shelter. I live in an apartment and he's basset size. He was so well behaved the first week and now he has AWFUL anxiety. He whines the moment he is left alone, even if I leave him with my neighbor and his dog he whines. It has now escalated to incessant barking. He also started barking at people and other dogs when outside or on a walk. It's to the point where we tried a muzzle, but he found a way to bark through it. I have tried a crate, it didn't work. He seemed to like sleeping in the car, so we did that. It worked for a few nights, but he is now barking and whining in the car. I've tried leaving him for a few minutes and returning to let him know he's okay to no avail. He defiantly poops and pees inside after we come back and spend time with him even though he is definitely house trained. I don't know what to do, I want to find a family for him, but I don't think anyone would want him if they knew how he was. I'm afraid the neighbors will complain to the landlord and they already have complained to me. My roommates hate him. I need a miracle, fast, or I'm afraid I will have to take him back to the shelter which breaks my heart.", "summary": "My dog has the worst separation anxiety that I don't have the time or resources to deal with over a long period of time. Looking for a hopefully quick solution or I will have to give him up. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_2qip5q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] I feel like my best friend [19/F] hates me.", "post": "A few years ago I met some people online, and we formed a group of friends. We all became really close. We've drifted apart and together a lot over the years. However this time feels different. It feels like whenever we talk anymore all that happens is she gets mad at me. Sometimes I know she's right, and I will admit it and apologize. But it feels like she hates everything about me, like she hasn't said anything positive about me in forever. I've been thinking about just ceasing communication. Any advice?\n\nFor reference: She's asexual aromantic, in a different state, in college. We're very similar in many ways.", "summary": "I feel like an online friend hates everything about me and only gets angry at me when we talk."}
{"id": "t3_s1n15", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stranger returned lost phone and refused reward, asking that I consider donating to charity instead. Anyone have a \"faith restored in humanity\" experience to share?", "post": "Longer version: I lost the phone while biking on a trail yesterday. Trail is pretty wide and I was sure that I'd be able to find it when I backtracked. I didn't. \n\nI rushed home and changed every password I had. Tried using the \"find my iphone\" app, but had no luck since there is no signal avail on the trail after the first mile or so. \n\nCalled Verizon, explained the situation, but had no luck there either. They could suspend the phone's service temporarily but said my only option for getting another phone was to pay full price for one at the Apple store. That's roughly $600. They said I should've had insurance on the phone but wouldn't retro the insurance to help me out in this case. \n\nI woke up this morning planning to cancel my Verizon account ($175 termination fee) and just go to Sprint where I'd get a similar plan and a new phone for only $199. That would put me ahead of the $600 bill for a new phone and Verizon would have one less angry customer, I thought. Then I saw an email in my inbox. \n\nSubject read \"LOST IPHONE.\" \n\nA college student found the phone while running the trail and wanted to get it back to me. \"I hope this email gets to you and you start having a better day,\" he wrote.\n\nWe emailed a bit more and I offered to send him an iTunes gift certificates as a thank you (he found my email address bc it was associated with the iTunes account on the phone, so I assumed he'd be into iTunes bucks). He declined, stating that if I really wanted to thank him, I could consider a donation to the Boy Scouts. \n\nI live in a big city and run into a lot of rotten people on a daily basis. When I lost the phone I assumed that if someone found it, they'd take whatever info they could and just sell the phone.\n\nI was happy to be proven wrong and it made my day. Anyone else have a moment like that to share?", "summary": "version: Guy that assumes everyone is rotten is proven wrong and has faith restored in humanity by a good samaritan."}
{"id": "t3_1jrx42", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/f] am seriously attracted to one of my husband's [26/m] coworkers/friends", "post": "My husband and I are recently married but have been together for the better part of 6 years now.  The title explains most of it, but I have a very strong attraction to one of my husband's coworkers, who we often hang out with and spend time with.  It goes beyond whether or not he his just \"handsome\", and what I mean is that after spending time with him and knowing him better, I am drawn to him physically and catch myself fantasizing about him.  \n\nI would not act on those feelings, and they (as far as I can tell) are one-sided, but my concern is how normal these feelings are for others in long term relationships.", "summary": "Been in long term relationship, have strong physical attraction to husband's coworker who we hang out with frequently, wondering how \"normal\" this is"}
{"id": "t3_2a4kmk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17m] Unsure of intentions of [17f]", "post": "I've never been involved with anyone in any way before, so now that this is happening I feel out of my depth a little.\n\nSo through a series of unexpected events I happened to start talking to this girl I've known only peripherally for about a year.\n\nAfter only a few short exchanges she invited me out to a party with her, which I accepted, but she had to cancel at the last minute (I knew a few other people so it wasn't too bad). She was very apologetic and wanted to catch up with some mutual friends at a movie instead.\n\nThereafter we began texting quite frequently and flirtatiously (fairly long conversation daily / every two days) plus the occasional (innocent) Snapchat. Whilst I was unsure at the beginning, she seemed rather enthusiastic, given the invitations and flirty texts.\n\nFast-forward a week to our little movie night (2m, 2f) and it seems as though as I start to like her more, she becomes increasingly reserved. It wasn't at all awkward, but to have seemingly disinterested silence is a bit disconcerting given the usual barrage of texts and Snaps.\n\nShe has a close friend whom I also know who I have considered asking advice from, but any questions or information would probably be passed on.\n\nNow I find myself interested in pursuing something, but unable to gauge any reciprocal interest. I don't want to say the wrong thing and make things awkward, because I do enjoy the little chats we have regardless of any other interest.\n\nAnd with that, any advice would be greatly appreciated \u2014 what to say, what to do, what to look for, etc!", "summary": "Initially enthusiastic girl now more reserved, unsure of what to do in pursuit of relationship"}
{"id": "t3_297ohu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does the ongoing temptation to cheat ever go away?", "post": "I've (21 M) been engaged to my fiancee (21 F) for about a year now, and we're scheduled to marry next year. However, despite remaining loyal to her, I've often felt tempted to cheat.\n\nIt's not just out of a physical urge or sexual desire, sometimes I'll talk to women who I relate to and I feel a connection with. It's not any one person in particular, it's happened on three or four occasions with women that I may not even know very well.\n\nI've heard that after one cheats, the guilt gnaws away at the cheater incessantly. Will this desire to cheat stay with me, or is it something that people experience temporarily?", "summary": "Does the temptation to cheat ever leave?"}
{"id": "t3_4yrl7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [25 F] Lied to me about talking to ex bf, but insists to change fb passwords", "post": "Sup reddit, hate to harp on this but i genuinely need some advice/dont have friends to talk to about this at the moment. \n\nthis is a continuation of this post : \n\nBasically i caught my GF lying to me about the last time she talked to her ex bf. Then she was talking about a guy named \"tom\" in her sleep, when i asked if she knows any \"toms\" she said no, but it turns out that he was a volunteer on her trip (vacation). \n\nAfter confronting her about all this she apologized and a few different things happened. ill try to make this easy to read: \n\n1. She apologized for not mentioning tom, but she said she genuinely wasnt thinking of him at all and its unfair for me to say she lied about tom because she didnt, she just forgot about him. \n\n2. she apologized for lying to me about her ex, but insists there is nothing to hide. she just simply lied about the time she talked to him and thats not too big of a deal, but it was still wrong. \n\n3. She insists on changing her FB passwords saying that i cant be trusted not to look through her stuff again, even though i told her i wouldnt. she says she has a right to privacy and doesnt have to show me anything and i need to respect that boundary. i told her if she changes them it will only make things worse. she is making the fact that i broke her trust and looked through her FB a reason as to why i cant be trusted...even though i caught her in a lie. She has really been making it seem like me looking through fb is a really big deal, and i agree to some extent...but still the fact that i caught her lying makes it seem justified. Just dont know what steps to take from here.", "summary": "caught gf in a lie cuz i snooped her fb, seems like im the criminal here."}
{"id": "t3_1wn8kx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Looking for Anniversary Ideas for My Girlfriend of 2 Years and I. [20M][21F]", "post": "Hey guys, first off I'm sorry if this is the wrong subreddit, in which case please let me know where this question would fit in better so I can post it to the correct location.\n\n[M]y SO and I have been dating now for 2 years, and have lived together for most of it. Next Tuesday is our anniversary, and although I had plans to travel 3 hours to the coast and stay in a condo, I was unable to find the condo I was looking for (it's difficult to find good resort locations that will take people under the age of 21).\n\nAnyway, now I only have a few days left and am completely without an idea. I've been *incredibly* busy with both school and work so she's not expecting too much, but I'd still really like to do something special simply because it's been awhile since we've done anything too romantic. \n\nMoney is not necessarily an issue right now, so most options are open. Please let me know if anyone has some good ideas, I'd really appreciate it!", "summary": "Anniversary ideas for my live-in girlfriend of 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_4s3fsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20) was kissed when drunk at party by another boy (17) and I saw and the image is stuck in my head! :'(", "post": "Hi, so me and my boyfriend have been strong since the ft we met 30.10.15 and have got stronger over the months. It's been hard as I live 1h 20min away so we've had our moments together to realise the pain and stress of not living close. I now work in his town and stay at his quite often so it's getting better :)\n\nLast night it was our friends bday party and we went to her house for drinks. I had a drink and tried this milkshake alcohol and something didn't go down right which meant I was sick and throwing up endlessly for a long time, I decided to take a break and go to my BFs house for some quite and then go back later to catch the taxi to the club. My bf stayed there as didn't want him missing out because of me, I felt better so headed back to our friends house..\n\nWhen I got there everyone was outta it.. I found my boyfriend half asleep and pretty drunk on a sun lounge bed and this boy sitting on top of him kissing him. This boy was our friends new BFF which last night was the first time meeting him and I had joked about him wanting to touch my bf but didn't think it would actually happen. I walked away and the boy realised and walked away to, everyone reassured me than my bf didn't want it but he was to outta it to try push him off him for it to stop. My bf can't stop saying sorry and can't stop punching and throwing things and crying in anger about what happened. \n\nNow this image is stuck in my head, I can't sleep, I can't stop crying and I don't know what to say. Every time my bf or I wanna sit on top (just in general chilling ect.) I'm gonna remember that moment, I haven't even kissed him since because I just wanna cry! I love him and literally can't live without him!! :'(", "summary": "Exactly what title says, bf is angry and upset about what happened and keeps sayin sorry and I can't get what I saw outta my head"}
{"id": "t3_1o5gsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My (27f) husband (27m) won't let me go to medical school", "post": "[Here is my original post.](\n\nThank you all for your advice and sharing your thoughts with me. I will not be able to achieve my dream of becoming a doctor after all.\n\nI found a test preparation center that would let me take a practice MCAT for free. It was short notice so I did not study, I went in and did my best. I scored only 29 points out of 45, which is 64%. It is the lowest score I have ever gotten on a test. I think it was a sign.\n\nMy husband was very angry when I told him about this. He said that we had already discussed it and it was not okay for me to do this without his approval. He was also upset because I got home late and did not have time to make dinner for the family. He said that was exactly what he was afraid of and he did not want to have to do my job in addition to his. He told me that I already have one degree I do not use, which is true, and it would be foolish to waste time and money on more school.\n\nAfter that happened, I met with my priest who said the same thing that you all did. That my family must come first. \n\nThank you again for your help with this. I appreciate the time you all took to help with my problem.", "summary": "I will not be attending medical school."}
{"id": "t3_jlyeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend/ex boyfriend, is getting married labor day weekend. I need advice!", "post": "My ex and I(he's 26, I am 25) were best friends for four years before getting involved. We were together for almost one year when I got pregnant(accidentally) but ended up miscarrying. We tried for a couple of months after that to make it work but couldn't. It got to the point where all that was left between us, was silence and we morphed into strangers but couldn't do anything to stop it. As if we busted apart overnight. \n\nAfter we split up we worked really hard at being friends because we still loved each other and wanted to be in one another's lives. \n\nHe got engaged this spring and they had to move up the wedding date because his fiancee is now pregnant. It's been almost 2 years since we split. \n\nI don't know how to describe how broken my heart feels right now. Not only is the reality of the upcoming wedding bringing up old memories/emotions I thought I had dealt with but just the thought of seeing him from now on with a wedding ring on his finger, that alone, I literally can't imagine being able to look at. \n\nI know that weekend I'll be playing out the wedding in my head and feeling even worse then I do now, so I am trying to think of what I should do that weekend. \n\nI have thought of everything from treating myself to a massage and a nice hotel room to just getting incredibly drunk at a dive bar. I would really prefer not to be alone that weekend but my best friend is already attending her sister's wedding in Hawaii that week and almost all my other friends in town are mutual friends of my ex's and I-so they'll be at the wedding. Essentially, I don't really have anyone to hang out with. \n\nI really don't know what to do. I know it's gonna hurt like hell no matter what. I am just trying to figure out what I could do that will make it hurt a little less.", "summary": "how do I occupy the weekend my ex is getting married?"}
{"id": "t3_1jdbp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Constructive & progressive ways of dealing with jealousy (F22)", "post": "Title should read \"insecurity\" instead of jealousy.\n\nHello, I'm here to seek advice on how to healthily stop being a insecure woman. Since I can remember I have always had a jealous/insecure streak, not a nasty one, but one that would leave me feeling like \"the one who is never good enough\". And this also happens outside of intimate relationships, it occurs in my job, it occurs in university. \n\nI am currently with my boyfriend (28) of about half a year and all our fights as of late result from me being insecure/jealous. We all 'look' at other people while in relationships even if we don't act on it. He does this, I do it. But I cannot stand the feeling when I know he looks at another woman. It hurts me so much to the point where I feel physically ill. This isn't healthy, and he has picked up on it. He tells me I have nothing to worry about, and I don't. we are so open and honest with each other, but my jealousy/insecurity issue (when there is no need to have one) is strangling and suffocating our relationship to the point where we fight almost every day. \n\nI look at men and appreciate their good looks, this does not take from the fact I love my partner, nor does it mean I want to leave or cheat on him. When he appreciates another woman it is the exact same as me. So why does it make me want to vomit? Why can't I accept that it means fuck all and is no reflection on me? Are there steps I can take to stop myself from being this way, because apart from driving him nuts, I'm driving myself nuts.", "summary": "I am a jealous/insecure woman, who thinks she is not good enough. I get insecure/jealous to the point where I physically feel sick when there is no need to. Is there steps, or some contructive or progressive way I can deal with this level of jealousy? Please note, my jealousy is not nasty, I just take things really really personally. "}
{"id": "t3_35k71o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [20 M] of two months broke up with me [20 F] really unexpectedly and I still feel so confused about everything.", "post": "My ex and I had been dating for two months and everything was so great. It was my first relationship and he made me feel so special and beautiful. We really clicked too, we had the same interests, taste in music, and got along really well with no fights during the relationship. And he seemed like he was really into me because he told all his friends we were dating before we were even official and was always excited to see me and text me. \n\nSince we're both in college, we knew we wouldn't see each other much over the summer (I got a job in another state for the summer), but we talked about it and made plans to visit each other and everything. \n\nThings were going great the past few days, better than they've ever been and all of a sudden, he breaks up with me today. He says that he didn't think he could do long distance and didn't think it would work out in the end. He wasn't even open to the idea of continuing the relationship after classes started again in September. He also doesn't want to stay in contact all summer. I'm just so confused right now. I thought things were going so well and suddenly he drops all this stuff on me. I was actually really into him and I have no idea what to do right now.", "summary": "My boyfriend just broke up with me all of a sudden and I don't know what to make of this."}
{"id": "t3_z6gbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(m, 14) Need advice for girl i like D:", "post": "Okay so well, this all started about...4 months ago in May. I met a girl at school, who well...completes me? I know this kinda sounds stupid since im 14 and its stupid to think like this at a young age, but i honestly feel so lost without her. Shes on my mind every waking second and i feel so confused as to what to do.\n\nI've asked her out to a movie like 3 times, the first time it was a bit awkward-ish but it was still fun. Second time, was probably the best time, we went to watch the movie and by the end we were all cuddling (kinda like a couple ><) and finally, 3rd time could've been the worst?  Like, i tried getting close to her and stuff similar to the 2nd time, but when i did she like pushed me away from her, so my hopes of her liking me suddenly dropped.\n\nI did ask her out once like after 3 weeks and she said no. My friend asked her a few days later (i didn't ask him to) and he said she didn't know me well enough, so i got to know her better, and shes like my bestfriend around me and i can say anything without feeling awkward or anything like that.\n\nLately i've been trying to get over her, but like i said it seems so impossible at the moment. I've also been trying to like distance myself a bit, and also kinda see if she would chase me back, in which she kinda has and she invited me to go watch a movie with her in like 2 weeks time. Also i've also been a bit depressed lately, and i kinda vented out to her the other night, and she was acting really caring and like there for me, and i felt alot better the next day. \n\nOkay i guess thats it, in a summarized version? ><, i'm wondering if you guys can give me advice on how i can get her to think about me like that, and if not then idk o-o. (btw there is alot more to this but i'm lazy to type ._.)", "summary": "I've like this girl for 4/5months now and i really need help on how i can get her to feel the same way back for me."}
{"id": "t3_4aqib0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My not quite GF[17F] is building walls due to fears of emotional vulnerability with me [18M]", "post": "We had been friends for a while and then hooked up at the end of december, and we started dating. \n\nBy mid february we may as well have been official due to how we were with each other and how frequently we caught up. But at the end of February she heard that I was going to bring up being official-which for all intensive purposes would've only been a change in label from unofficial and exclusive and no practical changes.\n\nThe next weekend at a party she said she wanted to be \"inexclusive\" despite her not wanting to get with anyone else, and that she didn't want to message for the sake of messaging like we did-which I would've been fine with if it weren't for the fact that we'd been messaging frequently in the past two months. \n\nI think she's afraid of things going badly and is therefore putting up walls to protect herself which I feel could end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy.\n\nIt's also played into her fears that I'm going into first year university while she's still in her last year of high school (in Australia so I'm still living at home) and that she doesn't want me to feel like I'm being held back by her-in terms of any potential relationships at uni, which is definitely not the case.\n\nSo now not sure whether to nip it in the bud-which could make her feel pressured and then cause her to downgrade the relationship even more/end it, or give her more time-which could only make the walls stronger and harder to overcome.", "summary": "would be girlfriend got scared at the prospect of being official due to emotional vulnerability and insecurity and is putting up walls."}
{"id": "t3_3eptg8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my wife [28F] of 5 years are in a deadbedroom, and she isn't making progress in therapy tl;dr: she acts like she will change then doesn't, turning into a pattern, pretends like everything is fine", "post": "So, I've been with my wife for 7 years (5 married) and since about a year before marriage, we have been in a sexless marriage (once a year avg). We have been in couples counseling twice, and currently the therapist has been pushing my wife more to initiate sex, date nights etc. because my wife says I am too \"aggressive\" and that I \"think about sex all the time\" so the therapist has put the ball in my wife's court. My wife has been putting more effort in at home (I usually do housework since she is currently employed), has been kinder to me, but when we get to date night nothing happens and she makes excuses. My wife then told the therapist two weeks ago that she needs to work on her own issues, but has put in no effort to find an individual counselor.\n\nShe got sick 6 months before our wedding (horrible whooping cough for 3 months) and our sex life never recovered. I was semi-pushy about starting up our sex life again after being her caretaker for 3 months, but once she started responding that I was pushy I stopped. I have brought up sex maybe once a month for the past 5 years, but always get the same response. I once went 6 months without bringing it up and once I did I was labeled as \"pushy\" again.\n\nSide note: One thing I worry about is that she had a lesbian fling before we got together, and was guilty about choosing me over her. Is she a closeted lesbian?\n\nI still love her, but our views, habits, goals, and practically everything else has changed over the past 4-5 years due to lack of intimacy and communication. I've even brought up divorce in the past few months and she forgets that we have these blow out arguments within a few days of them happening. She keeps making future plans like nothing is going on.\n\nI'd really appreciate advice, and also any support because I've been having a really hard time with this. Thanks", "summary": "she acts like she will change then doesn't, turning into a pattern, pretends like everything is fine"}
{"id": "t3_1z2svq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just wish he would put a baby in me.", "post": "I work really hard to be independent. I'm a chemical engineering major, and I've been working since I was 15. I love my life. Whenever I hang out with any female friends who are single or childless, all they want to talk about is how we're so much smarter than the girls who have chosen to have babies and families already. Everybody always acts like I'm the one who's super anti-family and anti-baby. \n\nBut deep down, I just can't help but wish that I could start a family. The man that I care about always talks about that kind of life, but we haven't known each other for all that long yet. Sometimes I just wish I could tell him to put a baby in me and make me his. \n\nI even fantasize about staying home all day and doing laundry, taking care of babies, and making dinner for him. He always praises my cooking, and acts like I'm such a saint for cleaning up his house when I'm there. Truth is that I'd love to take care of him all the time, and fire the pointless housekeeper.\n\nOnce, while we were in the middle of sex, he told me that he'd love to fill me up and get me pregnant. Just the idea made me so happy.", "summary": "I really do just want to be a baby making machine."}
{"id": "t3_1b0iei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25M] pregnant GF [30F] alludes to not wanting the child and frequently says \"she resents me for getting her pregnant\"", "post": "So the baseline is: We've been dating 6 months and beforehand we were banging like rabbits. We loved each other's company and were each other's outlets. Then she got pregnant. I was so happy! She was not. She cried. There are hundreds of details by now(she's in her 2nd trimester) but now she is just so UPSET about how she looks (5'1'' 119 lbs, previously ~110lbs) that she doesn't even want to be around me, and has no libido. She's constantly stressed out about the entire world and everything around her. She says she would rather have her body than the kid.. I give her constant props for how beautiful she is and how it doesn't matter HOW she looks, because I find her beautiful in everyway. It just doesn't seem like anything I'm doing matters anymore: she's constantly unhappy. When I'm with her it seems like she would rather be somewhere else.. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, points to her just hating being around me and it's making me not trust her at all- because before- we were banging LIKE RABBITS. ALL THE TIME. I can't stress that enough.  Now, she goes on \"weekend trips\" frequently with a girl i've never met to vacations she doesn't take pictures of and none of her supposed 14 friends post pictures or anything on facebook.......... \n\nI'm just either getting paranoid or being cautious. I love her to death but everything is pointing to something going on and I'm freaking out.\nWhat the hell can I do??!?", "summary": "Fuck buddy turned girlfriend got pregnant, perfect relationship beforehand, but after finding out we were pregnant: horrid"}
{"id": "t3_2d5cwb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17m] girlfriend [18f] of six months cheated on me in June. A few days ago I found out that she lied.", "post": "Back in June I had been seeing my girlfriend seriously for about six months. She was a senior and I was a junior so she graduated a week earlier than I did. During that week I stayed in school taking my final exams while she and the rest of the seniors went to a rented house and spent the week partying. I'll admit that I was nervous at first because I knew people would be hooking up and I knew that there would be alcohol involved. When she came back home, she told me that she had gotten drunk and kissed her ex boyfriend and that she felt very guilty about it to the point where she thought she could no longer Be a \"good girlfriend.\" I explained that I no longer wanted to see her. The reason I mention this is because she wanted to meet in person so that she could get closer. I accepted it and started to try and move on. A few days ago, I found out that she did not only cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend but she cheated on me with anywhere between 2-4 guys on a regular basis on multiple nights. I then found out that she has been hooking up with a lot of my friends and going to a lot of parties. I understand that we are broken up and that she can do whatever she likes but it still stings and has caused me a good deal of pain. So, what do I do about her lying? How do I move on? Any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend of six months cheated on me. She told me it was with one guy. I found out it was with anywhere between 2-4. She has also been hooking up with some of my friends over the summer."}
{"id": "t3_o8kz7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help identifying girlfriends pain or give a suggestion", "post": "Ok so my girlfreind's arms or legs will suddenly go numb. Or her joints hurt to where she can barely move. Especially her shoulders and knees.  Shes got a doctors appointment but we want to know if its something that we should be worried about or not.\n\nNow she used to be really fat like 260,  shes 140 now.  she lost the wieght pretty quickly.  When she was fat she had a hernia and it was leading to health problems which is why she lost the weight, as well as a kidney infection that spread into her bloodstream.  But that was before.  She also has anemia now.   im sure alot of the problems now have to do with her having been obese but is their something that could be really wrong that needs to be checked now.", "summary": "girlfriends limbs will suddenly go numb to where she can barely move, what may that be?"}
{"id": "t3_45orua", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "20 year old with a 762 credit score, should I wait till 21 to apply for amex/do I have \"means to pay?\"", "post": "I'm currently a sophomore in college, just turned 20, I've been an authorized user in my parents discover card (5k limit)for 6 years now. I've had my own 53rd platinum that my mom is a joint account holder on, that I pay off in full every month since August(I was approved with a 12.5k limit/13.24% APR with my mom(who has freaking stellar credit), but she had me reduce it to 2k(dosent trust me to not fuck up, but knows I'm responsible), credit utilization is usually less than 25% of 2k). I've read that it's possible to get a credit card if you're under 21 if you can prove you have a means to pay. My parents take care of all of my expenses, and pretty much won't let me work, and tell me to \"focus on studying.\" How likely is it that this will be a \"means to pay?\"  I will be getting a job soon cause I've convinced them that hospital experience is critical when applying for med school. (Side note, they own a small business, can they add me on the payroll? To show means to pay?)\n\nIt dosent have to be an amex card, but it's the one that sprung to mind when I thought of rewards(which is why i want to apply for new card) I'm mainly looking for a card that gives me good cash back, and the amex blue cash (preferred) seems in line with what I spend money on(supermarkets and gas), and would maximize my benefit.\n\nBasically how likely is it that it would be seen as I have \"means to pay\" based on my circumstances? I don't want to have a hard credit pull if it's not likely when I can wait a few months but I'm an impatient prick.", "summary": "been AU on parents discover 6 years, joint 53rd card w/mom since August. Pay off balance in full every month. parents won't let me work, but pay for everything. Will it be approved as \"means to pay\""}
{"id": "t3_159b3h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How much attention is too much attention?", "post": "Ok, here's the deal... I (37F) was in a long term relationship (5 yrs) and we broke up about 3 years ago. I wanted to give myself time to get over the person before dating someone new and pretty much threw myself into work and anything else non-dating related.\nFast forward to the present -I met a guy last week (46M) at a party and we totally hit it off. We've been talking and texting everyday since then. The problem is that it's been so long since I've dated someone I'm afraid I'm going to fuck it up. I really like this guy and don't want to scare him off with too much attention.", "summary": "getting back into the dating scene after a few years, met a guy and I'm worried that I'm going to scare him off with too much attention."}
{"id": "t3_27r732", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [f19] being overly attached/ bitchy about his behavior [M19]?", "post": "We, due to school, have a long distance relationship going on.\nfew days ago we set a date - last night - to webcam. I got so excited and rearranged my time/ cancelled my plans for this.  5 hours before the time we set he  tells me out of blue that he wants to go to his friends house and get drunk because he was having a bad day. I didn't argue with him but I let him know I was disappointed at this. \nThis is not the first time he does that sort of thing,  he never sticks to his word and it makes me mad because to me he is a priority while he doesn't respect my feelings and ditch as if it was okay. We got into fights where he promised to change. It makes me sad, frustrated and hate him for it. Maybe I'm just making a  deal out of nothing??", "summary": "My boyfriend never respects his word or commit. It's getting in my nerves and I don't know how to deal with it especially since we already talked about. Should I break up with him over it?"}
{"id": "t3_296ain", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18 F], has a new good friend and they met under rare circumstances.", "post": "My girlfriend went to buy a new phone 4 days ago and she was meant to go to the store again because of the SIM plans, according to her.\n\nSo later in the day the guy from the store texts her: \"Hey, don't forget to stop by for the plans we talked to and bring all your paperwork\". She said \"Ok, thanks\" to what he replied \"Your welcome\", with lots of complementary smiley faces. She replied once again saying \"Have a nice day\", then according to my girlfriend they started chatting and now they are friends.\n\nShe told me all this and the way I see it this is not natural, she tells me not to make a big deal out of it but the dude clearly has second intentions, he asked her out twice and she keeps chatting with him. Am I being reasonable for being upset for the way they met?\n\nThus said I'm not usually jealous nor anything, in fact, most of her friends are guys and I have no problems with them, except her latest friendship of course.\n\nShe naturally told me this after 4 days went by, and we talk a lot with each other.", "summary": "I wonder If I'm being reasonable for my girlfriend having a new guy friend she met 4 days ago, and not telling me about him.. Oh and he was the guy responsible for the sale."}
{"id": "t3_2yacxe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] Asked longtime crush [16/f] to prom.", "post": "So I like this girl for a long time. About three fourths of a year now. We almost dated a year ago but she had some of her own issues that prevented it, and I decided to try again. Things may or may not have been going well. Sometimes it feels like they do, other times I have my doubts. It feels like she likes me too at times. I never actually told her I like her because I realized yesterday all I have with her right now is hope. If I tell her, and I'm turned down, what do I have left? I decided to suck it up, and ask her to prom. So I did, and she told me she has a date set up already. I'm truly lost, almost in a panic. I don't know if I should just give it up now, or relax and see what happens. I don't even know who the prom date is, it might just be someone of little importance, right? I just need to know where to go from here. Is it wise to maybe waste My time?", "summary": "Turned down by girl who sometimes acts like she likes me when asking her to prom. How should I hold her in my life now?"}
{"id": "t3_uy1lr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tips or stories for emotional eating?", "post": "I've lost a pretty substantial amount of weight and really feel like I've made a ton of progress on my journey. I'm pretty darn close to my \"goal\" weight, have size 30 pants and wear small shirts, consider myself an athlete (running sub 7s pretty regularly), etc.\n\nStill - when times of stress (or even celebration) come on - I find myself reverting back to my bad emotional eating habits pretty consistently. I won't necessarily eat a large pizza - but I'll chow down on a small one. Maybe grab a pint of FroYo or indulge in a slice or two of cake. Sometimes I'll just chow down on healthy stuff - but way too much of it.\n\nThese \"trip ups\" definitely stick out in my mind as \"bad.\" I don't feel great (physically) when I wake up after 'em. I know they're setting me back to my ultimate, toned-body goals. Exercise is something that's a part of my life from here on out - so this is mainly focused on the eating part. I certainly ENJOY the food while I'm eating it - but I don't enjoy the feeling after.\n\nSo - any thoughts/tips to try to combat this?", "summary": "All around healthy guy now still has the remnants of emotional eating, even after I've got everything else under control. Any thoughts/help?"}
{"id": "t3_1gwtf7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Married people of Reddit, has marriage made you sacrifice your ambition/career?", "post": "I'm getting married in January and I recently had a falling out with a feminist friend over my engagement. She says that she \"had high hopes for me\" and I'm \"throwing it all down the drain to just get married and have kids\". Today, stay-at-home-mom has a negative connotation for people who are pro women's rights. I disagree, and feel it will not hold me back if I want to have a family, and I will still do everything I want to do with my life, even if I'm a stay-at-home mom for a few years. I know it's a little different for men than for women, but I was hoping that some married people of Reddit can clue me in on what sacrifices they've made for their spouse and family, if any. I'm *not* looking for advice on getting married, I'm still getting married to the man I love. :D I just want to open the floor for discussion about this issue, and your experiences.", "summary": "Getting married, friend says having a family means sacrificing your ambition. I disagree. What is your experience?"}
{"id": "t3_12poga", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I Think I cheated...(17M), (21F)(18F)", "post": "So about a month and half ago I lost my virginity to my coworker (21F) and she made it clear that this wasn't a serious relationship (we only hung out a couple times then had sex on the second day of \"hanging out\" at her place). We were keeping it a secret from our coworkers because of the age difference she didn't want to be judged, I didn't want to keep it a secret being my first sexual relationship and all but never really told her that.\n\n So we hadn't really done anything but had casual sex a few(3-4) times and had had sex in about 3 weeks because she did feel like it feeling a little guilty about my age and taking my virginity.\n\nSo last weekend I when to a party with all the people I work with and friends of the person throwing the party. I came right as the party started and began to hit it off with the roommate of the girl throwing the party(18F) but after a few hours the girl I was sleeping with came in but since we were hiding our relationship we kinda avoided each other awkwardly (like we when we work together) and after a while I made out with the roommate in view of the entire party who \"wooed\" me and the girl but which also brought the attention of the girl I was sleeping with. About ten minutes later we slipped upstairs to her her and we began to get into It but realizing she was way to drunk and I need to get home soon me and her friends put her to bed and i left my number by her bed, she wants to go out sometime but in the morning I completely disregarded the feelings of the girl I'm sleeping with. \n\nI want to try dating the new girl and not have to constantly hide my relationship, but I don't want to hurt the girl I'm sleeping with. What should I do?", "summary": "friends with benefits(maybe.. not 100%) hiding relationship from coworkers, she's unsure about taking my virginity/being 4 years older, meet girl at party. I want to keep seeing the new girl but don't want to hurt the girl im sleeping with's feelings"}
{"id": "t3_3v9gd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong to ask someone out over text?", "post": "There was a girl [19F] at work that I [19M] wanted to ask out tonight after our shift had ended (the only one we share together). We have not been able to have had any long talks but we work very well together. But I think she may have quit this job or at least won't work there for some time and now I can't ask her face to face. \n\nI have her number and had planned to text her if I couldn't ask her tonight but since I haven't met her in a week, would it be weird to ask her out over a text message now?", "summary": "I want to ask out a girl I haven't met in a week over a text message, would it be weird?"}
{"id": "t3_xgu99", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Does anyone have experience with diabetic cats? Mine's currently in emergency care and I'm freaking out. [x-posted to r/cats]", "post": "Background:\n\nMy cat's been losing weight and drinking too much water. I made an appointment to bring him to my vet this evening, but this morning he was lethargic and stumbling so I took him to emergency as this was before my vet opened.\n\nThe emergency room vet called me today and said he's possibly diabetic, though it may be a pancreatic flare up. They're doing another test to figure out which it is. He's being kept overnight for treatment, and will spend at least 24 hours in there.\n\nThe complication: he has ketoacidosis, which after some googling, is scaring the shit out of me. The vet recommended a course of treatment that runs close to $2000/day, and I just don't have ten grand lying around to spend. So we're going with the less ideal but more \"affordable\" (it'll only cost me about $2k total) route of longer acting insulin and hope he comes back to normal quickly so I can take him home tomorrow.\n\nEither way, he'll be on insulin injections until the ketoacidosis and blood sugar levels are under control. It looks like I'll be investing in a blood glucose monitor, keto sticks, and a few other necessities to keep him healthy. A lot of research online seems to indicate that a wet food diet that's high in protein will help as well.\n\nHas anyone been through this? Any advice or rays of hope to keep me from completely losing it while I wait to hear from my vet?", "summary": "cat may be diabetic, currently has ketoacidosis, and I'm losing my mind with worry. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4mltou", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by telling a joke that I saw on Reddit at work.", "post": "So this happened yesterday. I work(ed) at a very fancy sushi restaurant in down town Nashville. I serve tables with a very static enthusiastic crew who has a very similar sense of humor to me and am friends with the majority of everybody there. So 10 minutes into the shift I turn to 5 other servers and the head chef and say \"Hey you guys wanna hear a joke?!\" They all nod their heads and I begin the joke. Unbeknownst to me another employee walked up behind me and heard the joke. I found out later that she's extremely feminist (nothing wrong with that until you tell the wrong joke that offends them). Anyways, Long story- short, I tell the joke, she gets offended, I get pulled into the office and fired at the end of the night. I think the whole thing is funny and am kind of glad it happened because I have been serving tables for way too long and it's caused a serious case of misanthropy in my overall outlook on life. \n\nThe joke was \"what do pornstars get paid?\" Answer: \"income\".", "summary": "I told an offensive joke on the front page of reddit at work and got fired for it."}
{"id": "t3_2tn5l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my Friend/Coworker [34F], she has been part of an abusive relationship for 13 years, I need advice how to help her.", "post": "Hey all, first of, I have no romantic interest in my friend, she is pretty and has a bubbly interesting personality, but I just don't have that sort of attraction towards her.\n\nOn the downlow, what happened was this Friday when we went out for work drinks with the rest of our company, she has confided in me and our other female friend about her current relationship. She has revealed that over the last 13 years she has been abused both mentally and physically to the point where she believes it is entirely her fault and the treatment she gets is what she deserved.\n\nThe abuse included receiving beatings and such whenever she was late from work, her SO absolutely loathes the fact that she is currently working at all and would prefer her to sit at home and be the \"obedient\" wife.\n\nIt is at the point where he stalked her to work on his day off and witnessed us two having a cigarette outside, she was told off as a result of her interaction with me and has received physical abuse and further belittement.\n\nDuring our drinks when she was telling us about her relationship, he has called her and she didn't mention my name when he asked her who was with her (Which I did not mind at all, taking what I heard into account), but she just kept repeatedly apologizing to me about omitting my name throughout the night, which I found really unnecessary.\n\nI have tried to tell her repeatedly that it is not how a relationship is supposed to be, and if whenever she needed any help whatsoever, whether it is to pack her stuff up or emotionally me and our mutual friend will be there to help her out.\n\nAlso, she has mentioned why she wears scarves all the time: Because he constantly burns his cigarettes out on her chest when he believes she \"misbehaves\".", "summary": "How can you convince someone to abandon a relationship that is toxic, belittling, physically and mentally abusive? If you can't, what more can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_1jbnke", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I ask her out?", "post": "I'm 15, I just started driving school, and there's a really cute girl in my class. The class is 4 days long. I think she is a little bit older than me. I know that she goes to a different school, and I know her name, but that's about it (I haven't talked to her yet, but that's what she told the class when the teacher asked her). She seems to know 2-3 of the other girls at her table, and I don't really know anyone exept the 4 people that I just met at my table. We get some breaks, but everyone just stands around awkwardly for 15 mins. Should I walk up and talk to her? I want to, but what should I say? I'm not good at meeting new people at first, but once I know a little bit about someone, it's less awkward. What can I say that will limit the amount of awkwardness?", "summary": "I'm 15, and there's a cute girl in my 4 day log drivers Ed class that I really want to talk to, and maybe ask out. The problem is; I have no clue what to talk about/ how I should go about introducing myself."}
{"id": "t3_2rv9md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm(25m) if I love her(24f) or I'm just bored", "post": "I recently just ended it with my girlfriend after 8 months. In the past she caught m on Tinder but I never went on a date or fucked anyone. She was real upset. Then I realized that at that moment I didn't really want to stop her from leaving. We talked it out and got back together. Then I moved to Austin and now am having those same thoughts, so i broke it off completely, and I don't feel sad. Is there something wrong with me? She keeps leaving me messages saying how much she loves me crying. There is nothing wrong with her, but I can't see myself being with her.", "summary": "I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_du6cc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "TV show argument. Was I really in the wrong?", "post": "So my housemate was watching the Philly's game and it was the bottom of the 6th inning and I wanted to watch the new South Park. So I changed the channel and he got pissed that he was missing the 7th inning. Well, by the time South Park was over it became the bottom of the 7th inning. In the end, we ended up watching a good portion of the end of the 6th inning because of commercial break and I missed about 5 minutes of South Park because he wanted to finish the bottom of the 6th inning. And then while South Park was on he ended up missing the top of the 7th.\n\nMy argument was that he's got three whole innings to watch and South Park is a measly half hour of the 1.5 hours he has left of the game. Not to mention during every commercial break I switched to the game for him so he could stay updated on what happened. Also, baseball is a slow as fuck game. Like half the time nothing is actually happening, the cameras just zoom in the crowd and players that are preparing to go next.\n\nAnyways, now he's pissed at me because I watched South Park and he missed a little over half an inning where nothing actually happened. He also thinks that because he rarely makes requests that he deserved for this one to be granted. Guy, it's fucking South Park, one of the best shows to ever grace the tube.\n\nSo what I want to know is: Am I douchebag for taking over the TV to watch my half hour of South Park? And is there anything I can say/do to smooth the situation over? He's still a little upset about it, I think to him it's now the principle of the situation, but I feel totally differently about it and I just want him to understand that sports are really not that big a deal not to mention he only cared about this team now that it's the playoffs.", "summary": "I wanted to watch South Park; housemate wanted to watch Philly's game. I forced South Park and he's pissed because he missed 30 minutes of at least 1.5 hours remaining in a baseball game."}
{"id": "t3_33dgwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my GF[30F] 1 1/2 years. I think we should break up.", "post": "My girlfriend and I live together in my home along with her child who is 7 (not mine). We have been dating for over 1.5 years now but lately I've just want to break up. We fight more often, and the feelings aren't really there on my side. I've approached it in the past and she says that I'm just tired or not thinking correctly as I usually mention it late at night. But even when I mention it during the day, it's kinda brought up as me just having a bad day.\n\nI've been working since we dated and she typically does work that isn't as stable. So many for many months she wouldn't really work, so this led me to paying all the bills and for food. She would make up for this by cleaning the house and things but would still ask for help. She just recently starting working a more stable job, and she pays for food now but not any of the other bills.\n\nThe kid I got along with at first and was mostly tolerable, but now I'm just not sure. I don't think I want to raise another persons kid, and the kid seems to do nothing but talk back most of the time and so it feels weird for me to try and punish them in anyway.", "summary": "I want to break up with my girlfriend and her kid, but feel bad because they won't have anywhere to go."}
{"id": "t3_4kqy3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] got rejected by my [19F] best friend. I don't want it to affect our friendship, but it is", "post": "I've been talking to a girl I met online for a few months now. We're meeting in person next month. We've gotten really close, we're best friends, we talk about everything. Neither of us have had a relationship before.\n\nI brought it up yesterday. Just asked if she'd like to try it. We had quite a lot conversation about it - she's not ready. I'm her best friend, and she doesn't really have any other friends to support her, so it's too much of a risk - if it goes wrong and something happens between us, she doesn't have anyone. Maybe just an excuse, I don't know, she seemed sincere. I told her that wouldn't happen, and we could both grow from it, but she said it's a risk she doesn't want to take. So the more I think about it the more I think maybe it's an excuse.\n\nI do love her. I'm depressed, and getting to talk to her is the only reason I get out of bed most days. The only reason I'm still bothering trying to get to university is so that I'll get to move closer to her. Admittedly I'm desperate, I want to be intimate with someone, but I love her.\n\nTalking to her makes me feel like shit now. I feel sad, and a little bit annoyed, even though I have no right to. I don't want to talk to her, but I do at the same time. I feel awful, because I know I'm all she has and I don't want her to blame herself, and I don't want her to suffer over this. But I often feel like she doesn't care about me as much as I care about her - not in a love way, just in the sense that I always make sure she knows I'm here for her and if she says she doesn't want to talk about something I'll push a little bit because usually she does. She doesn't do that for me, if I'm upset and I say I'll be okay we just move on.", "summary": "I don't want this to affect our friendship, but it hurts trying to just be friends."}
{"id": "t3_1whyrq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m]My girlfriend [21/f] broke up with me after 4 months of perfection. Really confused and in need of advice.", "post": "Some back story about us:\nI met her 5 and a half years ago, sophomore year of high school. For me it was love at first sight. I became her friend, and tried to hint at my feelings for her, but she's always been pretty oblivious. Fast-forward to a year later I finally asked her out, but she rejected me, claiming that she was too awkward to function in relationships. Nevertheless I refused to give up and stayed close to her in hopes that she would change her mind. After high school she went away to college about an hour's distance from our hometown. I figured that after I no longer saw her my feelings would slowly fade, however they persisted and I still thought about her every day. Early last year (2103) she moved back to our hometown due to financial issues with her school. I bumped into her at the store and later that month I confessed my feelings to her, only to be rejected yet again. A month later she texted me, saying we should hang out sometime. And so we began dating and she became my girlfriend. Everything was perfect, and she acknowledged that it was. I did everything perfectly, knowing that this was the chance i'd been waiting for for 5 years. On our 4 monthiversary she sent me this huge long text saying how sorry she was and that she didn't know what she was doing and that I deserved someone who could love me equally. I found this strange, as she always showed huge amounts of affection for me and even told me she loved me after our first time having sex a month before. So I met her the next day expecting to talk things out and find out what the problem was. She persisted on breaking up with me, despite my crying and begging. It's been a month since then and she's made no effort to contact me, while I have made several attempts. I told her I would wait for her, like I always have been, but she insisted I move on. I don't know how to handle this. It's devastating to lose a relationship like this, especially knowing you did nothing wrong. What should I do? Should I move on, let her live her life, or do I keep at it? Help me reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me without giving a solid reason, even though everything was perfect."}
{"id": "t3_1rkxy9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just visiting home back from college... feels kind of strange seeing her car parked in front of his house.", "post": "So went through bad breakup over summer. Left for college. Best friend calls from back home crying, saying \"I don't know what happened... I fell for your ex and we are going to start dating.\" \n\nWas hurt for a bit, but feeling much better . Came home last night and went on my neighborhood walk. \n\nSees her car in front of his house. I braced for that \"heart break\" feeling (anxiety chest tightening) that I was by now so accustomed to feeling every time I hear about her,especially in front of another guy's house at 2 AM..... Never came. My chest didn't tighten up. \n\n**I felt like there was a physical barrier on my chest where the feeling tried to enter, but was shut down by something I have never felt there before....Kind of a hardening... a scar. It's weird... sounds over dramatic, but that was the literal physical feeling I felt. A feeling driving towards my chest, and bouncing off, leaving on a feeling of discomfort, but never actually initiating that dreaded feeling**\n\nStill feel oddly strange seeing her car there instead of 10 yards up at my house.", "summary": "Back from college, and sees ex girlfriend's car in front of the guy who she dating's house (my best friend). Braced for feels empact. Didn't happen. Still feel weird though."}
{"id": "t3_342bxa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/ F] I have to decide if I should stay or leave my boyfriend [20/ m], soon.", "post": "I've posted before, but I'm still at a loss. I can't clear my head enough to think about it. I'm in love with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He's amazing. We are great together, we laugh a lot, I trust him with everything. We have fights pretty often, but we always have and they aren't usually too serious. He's probably the best person I've ever met. I have all these reservations about leaving him, fear of not finding anyone else like him, scared to live alone etc. The problem is that a certain part of our relationship. The sex is terrible. We have never had good sex. The problem is mostly him. He doesn't last but maybe 30 seconds. I know it isn't his fault, but it's driving me crazy. I used to be able to just suppress my sex drive, but lately it's been going crazy. I have all these urges and things I want to try, and I'm afraid I'll never get to try them. It's becoming increasingly hard to satisfy myself. I can't help it. I haven't cheated, but there's so much I want to do that he just can't do for me. \nThe biggest problem is that I don't have much time to figure out what to do. We live together and go to the same college, and the semester is ending and new class registration will start. I really need to figure out if I am going to stay with him or not, because this is the only chance I'll have for another six months to break the relationship without needing to figure out how we are going to work out the remainder of the school year. I need to decide for sure. I can't just keep putting it off until I'm stuck. \n\nI just want advice from someone who has either been in this situation or at least someone who can see it from the outside, and I trust the good people of relationship_advice. Just be kind, please.", "summary": "My boyfriend is a great boyfriend and we love each other but the sex is terrible and it's making the relationship questionable. Need to decide if I should stay with him or not before we have to register for new classes and are stuck for another 6 months. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_gzcyf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, are any of you unapologetic optimists?", "post": "I've noticed quite a bit of misplaced cynicism (read: laziness, they say it's just being realistic though), strong pessimistic sentiments and \"the sky is falling\" attitudes on Reddit. \n\nAre any of you insanely optimistic about pretty much everything? \n\nWhere are all my fellow Redditors who think everything is going to turn out better than okay, that things are in fact getting better in the world when viewed in a historical context, and that the future is yours for the taking?\n\nDunno about anyone else, but despite my obstacles, I think I have it pretty great when compared to all the generations that came before. \n\nTo add to the question, if you are, do you find that many of your friends are, or do you find it difficult explaining your optimism to others who might not agree?", "summary": "are any of you optimists and if so, do you find it hard explaining that to others who might not see the world as positively as you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2z4x78", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ..... Eating a sandwich in class", "post": "This happened today in class.\n\nA little back ground, im in high school, and the shitty school that im in [all boys]  had no food to serve for lunch, and some other student who had a hot dog sandwich was about to eat it then I offered him 3$ for the sandwich, I didnt get to eat it cuz no time, then Math period came.\n\nI tried to eat it while hiding it under my desk, when some student decides to play a little prank on her [math teacher], I was in for the fu of my life. She wanted to sit down on her chair which had a thumb tack on it (the prankster planted it there)\n\n**Now heres the FU**. I took a bite out of the hot dog and didnt realize it was spicy, so then I tried to hold it down, then the teacher sat down on her chair so at that time I HEARD THE FUNNIEST shriek\never, like the kid I am I started to laugh uncontrollably, I chocked on the hot dog, I punched myself in the stomach the dog followed by puke from todays breakfast flew to the teachers table/chair/face/**EVERYWHERE** she looked at me with faces of disgust and confusion, I explained myself later on, she got over it(I think...)\n\nThe teacher is safe btw, her ass fat saved her from anything dangerous.", "summary": "Tried to eat in class, ended with me puking on my teacher and her stuff"}
{"id": "t3_11in7v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the best comment you ever posted? This can be ranked by upvotes or decided by your personal opinion. I'll go first.", "post": "My personal favorite was one I posted to the revenge thread:\n\n\"I will invite all of my enemies to my funeral. I plan to be cremated. After the service, there will be a reception. At the reception the guests will be encouraged to at least take a few sips of coffee because it \"was my favorite drink.\"\n\nI will make sure some of my ashes are mixed in with the coffee grounds.\n\nMy spouse will then make a large scene screaming that \"somehow\" my ashes were mixed in with the coffee. I'll have my children walk around and say things like \"wow, my dad's inside of you.\" and \"you ate my dad\" and \"he's going to be a part of your forever.\"", "summary": "I'm a terrible person.\""}
{"id": "t3_2bz3d8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] think I am beginning to fall for my ex boyfriend's best friend [24M]. Not sure how to tell if he feels the same or if I should pursue it.", "post": "I dated his bestfriend for about a month. Some time has passed since then (but not too much), and my ex now lives thousands of miles away. His bestfriend sent me a text a week and a half ago asking how I am doing and that he's been trying to figure out how to get a hold of me because he misses hanging out. \n\nSo, we caught up via text and we have been texting everyday since then. I even invited him to hang out with my friends and me and he said he had a lot of fun and thanked me. He and I have both been depressed lately and in bad places, but talking to one another has helped us both out so much. He calls it a symbiotic relationship, which seems true. We both play music and are starting to create a music project together. Last night, while I was at work, he made a dinner he \"invented\" and wanted me to have some. My work is fairly far from where he lives but he insisted on bringing it to me. We hung out when I got off my shift and talked for hours about nothing and everything until the sunrise. It seemed like minutes. \n\n I know it's too soon to tell if he has any feelings for me, but even though it's only been a little over a week, I am starting to really like him. I don't know if he feels the same because he always goes for super model looking girls, and I dated his bestfriend which is a huge no-no for some guys. \n\nSo basically, I just want to know if you think I should wait and maybe give it a shot or shoukd I let it go? Do you think he is starting to like me? \n\nNote: He is moving at the end of the year, very far away.", "summary": "I think I am falling for my ex's bestfriend and I'm not sure if he feels the same or if I should do anything about it."}
{"id": "t3_2ab5jq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) feel like im really annoying to my SO( 2yrs) sometimes (24m) he insists im not but his atitude and reactions speak otherwise [relationship]", "post": "Weve been together for two years and mostly its been good. We have been living together since 6 months into the relationship but it seemed natural and has been smooth in general. \n\nThere are a couple things i worry about. He gets testy/snippy with me and i feel very upset about it but dont bring it up because when i do he says im too sensitive and unreasonable. When we were watching a movie one night i asked if he was tired and wanted to sleep. But he didnt answer for a few minutes so i said \"babe?\" I mean its not like i was interrupting. He had mentioned he was tired and i was understanding. But he replies back to me with the most annoyed expression and a \"WHAT???\" with such a nasty tone. Its instances like this where i get flashbacks of my dad telling me not to give him an atitude when i was a teenager. I dont want to be spoken to like an annoying child. \n\nIm scared there are red flags im not seeing. My SO is a strong minded man and so am i but he is \"the man\" and likes to take control when at home. Im a natural leader and very independent so its strange and sometimes difficult for me to let go of control but ive been doing a good job of it so far. I like to think im a team player. But there are times where the smallllest question or thing will set him off. He looks at me like im an idiot with such a patronizing look in his eye. I cant really explain. Its not like im always tapping on his shoulder and pestering him. Tonight i asked if he wanted me to get potatoes from the store tomorrow and he was like \"No!!??!! As if asking what he wanted was the stupidest thing i could say. \n\nI just dont know what to think. He is generally very sweet and supportive and honestly i rely on him almost 100% right now. I just want to know if im being too sensitive or if he is actually putting me down and how to communicate how i feel without coming off as a sensitive crazy person.", "summary": "bf randmoly talks to me with a shitty atitude which i find hurtful and disrespectful. I believe i deserve to be spoken to differently but dont kniw if im the overly sensitive one andhow to talk to him without him claiming i am."}
{"id": "t3_2pybw9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] made a joke dating profile and now it's popping up in google searches and I'm not sure if I should tell my [25 M] BF.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for a really long time-- six years. Great relationship. \n\nThe trouble is, about six months ago I was watching a documentary about sugar babies/sugar daddies. I was really curious and they all mentioned one website they go on to find sugar daddies. I was fascinated and wanted to see if people really used these websites to find people, so I made a joke account with a fake picture. It was a late night internet venture that I completely forgot about. However, I used a username which I very very occasionally use for other things. \n\nLo and behold, I googled my username because I was looking for my instagram account (which I never use) and now this dating profile is popping up. I've deleted everything I can but the website won't let you delete the account completely. I am incredibly embarrassed.\n\nI am wondering if I should tell my boyfriend so he does not get suspicious or worried if this should ever come up somehow. I feel so awkward about it and feel like it's going to look really bad... but feel it would be worse if he discovered it another way. HELP :(", "summary": "Made a joke dating account months ago, is showing up in google searches :("}
{"id": "t3_3q536i", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Ladies, HOW did you realize you're in love with your best friend?", "post": "My own brain is full of fuck and I need guidance. Sad little throwaway here.\n\nThere's many advice threads and stories about how \"I fell in love and I told him and we're married/it crashed and burned\", but how do you understand where a person being your platonic partner and rock crosses over into needing to be with them romantically? I've always told everyone freely that I love my male friend, say call him Isaac, because he's the most honest, dependable person I know, we're bros and homies, we feel amazing when together and I miss him everyday we're not together.\n\nRecently I started crying uncontrollably everytime I think about how much I miss him. We've been away from each other for years, though I visited a few times. I feel extremely uncomfortable with this topic and don't even want to write to him on FB or read our convos, something in me feels ashamed. I don't know if I'm even attracted to him.\n\nMan, I don't know if I'm not projecting my sexual and romantic frustration onto the poor guy, internalizing his possible attraction (he gave me some weird long looks but that's the extent of it), just being flat-out crazy desperate for someone to love, or if I really had these feelings all along, masking them out of shame, going for boyfriends that didn't make me feel \"at one\", protected and understood like he did.\n\nI'm sorry for the text wall, tell me if something is wrong with my post please because I was already rejected from two subreddits and feeling kinda desperate. Fuck. Fuck. Even the best case scenario that could happen here is long-distance, so my mind is not really bright and clear with joy.", "summary": "I may be in love with my male best friend, how do I know it's for real?"}
{"id": "t3_2cyjmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/F] with my ___ [38 M] 2 weeks, he was a good friend of my deceased rapist.", "post": "Hi Reddit.  When I was a senior in high school  I was raped by an older man that worked at a cell phone provider near by. I was 18 years old. He was from a rather small town originally, & my town was a more large college town.  I was gutted, spent a few years in a destructive cycle.  Eventually surpressed much of the event, probably not in a healthy way.  But regardless I survived.  I mostly surpressed the memory & with a lot of issues \"moved on\"\n\nI looked up the rapist about 6 months ago.  The first time I acknowledged him to myself in some years.  I found out via news articles he passed away.  He died of a heroin overdose in his grandmas basement.  Hate to say, I was happy.  I felt at peace & glad for this aside from the confidicted feelings of being happy for someones death. I often felt guilt for not going to the police & this news helped a lot.\n\nSo, what brings me to today.  I've met & started dating a man from the same small town.  Went to high school with the rapist.  Him, his family & friends bring him up often.  Talk about what an \"amazing\" person he was, change facebook avitars to his picture, talk about his baseball game, etc. I don't mean around the anniversary, nearly daily.  Very close with his whole family, talk often about what a saint this dick was. I've never spoke about what happened to me, & I'd honestly rather not.  This guy is my ideal, but I'm on pins & needles to when the next time what a wonderful man my rapist is is brought up to me.  Should I tell him? Will I be \"accusing some who can't defend themself?\" I'm not sure however I care about him I can forget he was a good friend to my rapist despite not knowing.. Not sure what to do here.  Whatever hurts.", "summary": "My new boyfriend was a good friend of my rapist (didn't know he was a rapist overwise good friend) Rapist died 2009 not sure how to get this."}
{"id": "t3_yr0a1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (17) informed me (18) that she might be getting feelings for her abusive ex again", "post": "Yesterday my girlfriend (of 3 months) informed me that she and her abusive ex had had a conversation at school. I initially helped her as she tried to end her relationship (of 15 months) with him and since this is her first real interaction with him since school let out (which is right around the time we started dating), I was caught by surprise.\n\nHe was both physically and emotionally abusive towards her and cheated on her numerous times during the relationship.\nI'm really not sure how to explain the situation more than to post the conversation I had with her regarding this", "summary": "gf told me she might be getting feelings for abusive ex"}
{"id": "t3_3dqf5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M/F] and my girlfriend 29 M/F] are falling out because I sing a song about my previous relationship.", "post": "We've been dating for almost a year and since then I've formed my very first band. I've always been self conscious and scared to sing in public so now I've just thrown myself into it. Which is great. I've been using songs that I think are strong and one of those happens to be a song about an ex. It's not a love song as such, it's actually about being broken up, not wanting to see her (not in a spiteful way) and instead being happy to move on with my life. The starting point and about half of the lyrics are talking directly to my ex. \n\nI can see where I went wrong to start with. I sang that song in front of my girlfriend quite a bit when we started dating as I'm proud of it. I'm not the best song writer in the world but it's one of my best songs and I think the most honest. I then found out my girlfriend gets really upset hearing that song so I stopped playing it around her. \n\nI misunderstood the situation as she actually doesn't want anyone else to ever hear that song either. She gets really upset knowing I'm singing about someone else and she says she'd also be really embarrassed by it as well if other people heard it when she was there.\n\nI don't want to give up that song. It's apart of my experiences, and I don't have an emotional attachment to it anymore. I've tried to explain the lack of emotional importance of the song to her and that I value the product I've made but this issue is causing a major rift. It's essentially the only thing that will break us up if I don't. But it's a tough one. I can see her side too and I don't want to lose her. I just need help. Any suggestions? Happy to give more info and many thanks in advance", "summary": "I have a song I sing about an ex but my gf gets really upset about it. What should I do in this instance? I don't want to lose her but I also want to be me, and be able to express myself properly without feeling censored."}
{"id": "t3_1u7oy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [20F] gives me the tone over the tiniest of issues", "post": "We've been dating for a little over a year. If I do something even slightly wrong, she immediately gives me the \"Jesus CHRIST, [my name]\" speech. This used to be pretty infrequent, but now that she's staying here a lot more, I'm seeing it more often. Be it leaving the oven light on, or being \"in the way\" in our tiny kitchen.\n\nOn top of it all, if I give her any sort of tone myself, she gives me the silent treatment for an hour before announcing I hurt *her* feelings. I love this girl but I'm having a hard time understanding this from her perspective. Where do I go from here?", "summary": "Girlfriend gets angry over tiny things.*"}
{"id": "t3_1w912k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF does not want to feel obligated to call when going out", "post": "Hi, reddit, I'm 32 yo female, in a relationship with 38 yo male for almost a year now. We have been living together for five months. He has done a LOT for me, way more than anyone ever has. He's very caring, affectionate and attentive. \n\nI am very much in love with him and I think he cares a lot about me. However, our relationship has been a tense most of the time. At the beginning of us seeing each other he had a gf that I didn't know about. He ultimately ended it with her and began seeing me exclusively. \n\nTo build trust I have asked him to call me and \"check-in\" with me whenever he's working late. He agreed to do this and has been calling every night from work to say he's okay and what time he'll be home.\n\nHowever, a few days ago when he was going out with co-workers/friends, he stated that he does not want to feel obligated to call me and check-in with me. He said he that since we have been living together for months, I should be more trustful of him and his calling should be done because he wants to call, not because I expect it of him.\n\nI feel like I am not asking too much - a 30 second phone call would not greatly interrupt a conversation with friends when he'd be with them from 10pm-2am. \n\nHe said that this is \"keeping tabs on him.\"\n\nI feel that if the situation is reversed I would have no problem letting him know how I'm doing when out with my friends. \n\nWhat do you guys think? What is your advice?", "summary": "Should I not expect phone calls? Is it unusual for a partner to expect check-ins? PLEASE LET ME KNOW BECAUSE IF IT'S AN UNFAIR REQUEST THEN I'M NOT GOING TO ASK FOR CHECK-INS ANYMORE."}
{"id": "t3_3qbs63", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Help me /rbooks-ken-obi you're my only hope!", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nMy[26M] wife[28F] has been studying writing (mainly) creative non-fiction at university for six years now. She can get a master's if she sticks with school for two more years. Problem is she's quite fatigued with full time schooling and 3 days a week at work. \n\nI'm looking to give her a big boost, here's my plan...\n\nI've found 1st edition copies of her 3 all time favorite books, and contacted their agents/publishers asking if I could send them the book and get them to personalize it for her.\n\nI'm also going to contact as many author for the books she does own, (there's a lot and I have until the end of this school year) if they can send a letter of encouragement or some wise words!\n\nUpon Finnish this year I want to give her the books, and one box (hopefully a big one!) full of letters of encouragement/wise advice to write/keep on going for her masters!\n\nOr if your willing, can you send your favorite book with written words of advice from you!\n\nI'm also hoping to get a 2nd job so she can work less.", "summary": "I'm hoping to get some hand written letters from anonymous book lovers and the authors she loves who can help revitalize her gusto for writing!"}
{"id": "t3_114tky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21(f) just found out that boyfriend 25(m) has been lying about porn since the beginning of the relationship.", "post": "Hey all. My boyfriend and i have been together for around seven months, and weve been living together for about a month. \n\nI dont like porn. I dont like the person im dating to watch porn. My last boyfriend was seriously addicted to it, and it led to a lot of unhappiness and the total loss of my self esteem and sense of self worth.\n\nWhen we first got together, he told me that he had stopped watching porn because he knew how it makes me feel. I was touched. I couldnt believe that i had found a guy who was willing to do that for me.\n\nHe has lied to me about several importat things in the past. And now this. He has been lying to my face since the very beginnin of our relationship. I had a feeling that he was lying to me, but i never could find any proof. He had been clearing his browser history, but i was noticing that there were large chunks of time missing. Finally, i went to youtube and looked at his viewing history. Garbage. All sorts of things there.\n\nI just dont know what to do. I packed my things and confronted him when he got home from work. We screamed and yelled and cried. Hes apologized over and over, but there is absolutely no way that i can trust him anymore. I dont know what to do. I just need some advice on what to do about him, and how i can go repairig myself. Thanks.", "summary": "just found out my boyfriend has been lying about watching porn since the beginning of the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1s4qcl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (21/m) and my gf (20/f) of 2.5y are having a fight over the keys to my apartement.", "post": "Back story:\nAbout a year ago I(21/m) moved in to my own place (single room apartment). Everything was really great, I was looking forward to living by myself again, wanted to be able to have her over whenever I wanted. She'd come over for the night once, twice a week. Then three to four and so on, by now she drops by her parents' place once a week to talk to them, come back my place. I've always had the need to have some time alone once in a while so I didn't give her a set of keys since I wanted to have a guarantee of some me time once in a while. Thought I'd come around after half a year or so. Then came some problems but we worked that out, i'm happier then ever, know she feels similar. For two months now being at home is great. About a week ago i've decided i want her to have the keys. Told her, though i'd leave it as an xmas present since i'm seeing family abroad over xmas break. This week the keys keep poping up in conversation constantly, tonight she tells me she feels hurt about not having the keys, having to leave the apartment for 3 weeks, and goes to bed mad. Now i feel like i'm being guilt triped and don't know what to do.", "summary": "gf(20/f) wants a set of keys to my(21/m) apt. don't know how to react"}
{"id": "t3_ys3ed", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So I (24 male) have been dating this girl (25 female), AND I'm extremely confused.", "post": "I've seen this girl twice now, and it looks like we dig each other.  She even sent me texts like \"Good night, sweet dreams :)\" etc.  I like her as well, but she plays this texting game that I hate.  She sends me a text, and will take anywhere from 4-15 (literally) hours to respond!  It's impossible to have a normal conversation.  I was thinking maybe i should just start calling her?  I like her a lot, and i want this to work, but I can't deal with this texting game.  So I've texted her today already, and it's been 4 hours and still no response.  I think if she responds to my last text, I am just going to call her to set up a date.  What do you guys think of that idea?", "summary": "Girl is playing mind games via texting with me, I don't know how to react."}
{"id": "t3_33n36d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making cake", "post": "I've been on spring break this week and I decided to make it a productive one. I had planned that today I would finally make this beautifully awesome chocolate mousse cake that I had been dreaming of making for months. \n\nIt all started at around 11AM this morning. It took me a couple hours to make the batter and bake the layers of the cake. All was well and I was feeling confident. Then I made the mousse to fill the cake, which was another two hour process. So far everything tasted great by themselves respectively and I was excited to put it all together. Cue heart-stopping amount of sugar and chocolate to make the frosting which also took about an hour or so on its own. Six hours of prep and cooking total.\n\nJamming out to some sick tunes, I start assembling everything. I have two layers hollowed moderately hollowed out and I start to fill it with the airy mousse. All is well; I get the cake filled and then I begin to apply the frosting.\n\nOut of the corner of my eye, I notice that I must have absentmindedly spilled a bunch of the mousse on the table... but nope. Ensue unintentional lava cake eruption of cake and mousse rushing out all over the kitchen table. After a bunch of attempts to try and save it, I eventually scooped up the cake remnants in giant baking pan and tossed it in the fridge to fester as a shameful reminder of why being productive isn't always for the best. The worst part is now I have two hours of cleanup ahead of me.", "summary": "Cake becomes Vesuvius, hopes and dreams become Pompeii."}
{"id": "t3_43s6pg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17F] of 1 year, we got \"caught in the act\"", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now, and our sex life did't really start until around 7 months in. She has a bit more experience than I do, and so she taught me a bit.\n\nShe's been telling me she's been feeling kinda horny for the past couple days, so we decide that after practice we would go over to her house and have some \"fun\" ( not sex, maybe hands and oral at most ). Her dad is usually working this time around, and we had no idea he was home.\n\nTurns out he was in the shower.\n\nHe comes banging on the door, screaming why is it locked and closed, and starts screaming at both of us once I open the door, and yeah.. Now he wants to meet up with my parents on the weekend and have a discussion with them about this. What do we do?", "summary": "Got \"caught\" doing things with GF, her dad freaked out, wants to have discussion with my parents and we're expecting that they'd force us to break up, even though we really don't want to. What do we do to clear this up?"}
{"id": "t3_35udl8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Long-term injured runner wondering where to turn/what to do next?", "post": "Firstly **I am not** looking for a diagnosis.\n\nA little info about me:\n21/M student, I used to run around 5-6 days a week for around 4 years, achieving 5k: ~17mins, 10k: ~36mins, HM: ~1:20hrs. I'd never had an injury, did cross-training, ate healthily, regular plyometrics, studied my form, etc.\nThen got a dull pain in my foot during a cross country in Nov '13, finished the race. Couldn't walk for a few days, didn't go and see a medical professional and a couple of months later when it still wasn't okay to run on, I finally did go to a doctor and found out I'd had a stress fracture.\n\nI've had X-rays, MRI scans, seen a GP, multiple physios and I'm on my second podiatrist. It's quite conclusive that I had a stress fracture (more than likely from over training on hard surfaces) but I've still got a 'lump/slightly flatter right foot now'. I've done exercises, stretches, etc, to try and relieve it, but it still tends to hurt when I do a few mile so I've been given a range of insoles to try over the past few months to try and run with.\n\nMy flatmate is currently trying to get into running via the Couch to 5k program, so I've been doing that with him. The first 3 or 4 weeks were completely pain free for me and my podiastrist has said that it is very encouraging, but since we've been getting into running longer without walking breaks and it is beginning to hurt again (and it's also been uncomfortable/sore when I've attempted the odd Parkrun). I'm not due to see my podiatrist for another ~4 weeks and with me being a student I can't afford to go and see someone else in the meantime.", "summary": "Stress fracture injury has left me with complications. Recovery has taken over 18 months now and just as things were looking promising I'm getting pain again and won't be seeing my podiatrist for another ~4 weeks. Student with not a lot of money to be spending on running injuries, wondering what to do/who to see until then as I really *really* want to get back into running."}
{"id": "t3_gobew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a recently minted lawyer thinking of taking two years off from the legal profession and worried it will kill any chance of becoming a lawyer in the future. Advice from experienced lawyers appreciated.", "post": "Here is my situation. I'm a recent grad (2010) who was no-offered from my summer associate position with a large NY firm. Since then I've been bumming around doing a few temp jobs and looking for a permanent position. At the urging of a buddy of mine and on a whim I applied to the Teach for America program. The T for A program takes non-teachers, puts them in under-served education markets for two years with the goal of closing the achievement gap in those areas. Think inner city schools, Indian reservations, etc. \n\nHere's my problem (or opportunity in disguise.) I've been accepted to the program and need to make a decision by this Friday on whether I'm going to spend the next two years teaching high school chemistry. I was excited for this opportunity until I checked in with my counselor at my old law school who told me that taking two years off from the legal profession, especially as a new attorney, could very seriously hamper any chance I would have of returning to the legal profession. To further complicate matters my legal education was far from cheap (200K in debt) so there is the practical matter of how I would pay that off if I couldn't return to the legal profession (the loans are in paid deferment while I'm in the T for A program.) \n\nAfter that wall of text now comes the question. As an experienced attorney what would you say about this situation? If I came to you two years from now looking for a legal job what would be your feelings? \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm a new lawyer who is worried that taking two years off from the legal profession would preclude me from every returning to it. Advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_4qn8vm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] wants to consider long distance in the future but boyfriend [23M] of one year is completely unwilling to even try it.", "post": "So, I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for a year now and I am facing the possibility of moving to another city for work/grad school. I've brought it up to him and how we could make things work out \u2013 but he is completely unwilling to even try doing long distance. He wants to put a \"pause\" on our relationship and pick up if we are ever in the same city again/if we aren't in relationships. He thinks that if we try long distance we would crash and burn \u2013 ruining our chances of getting back together in the future. He also thinks it's way too soon to move in with one another because it would end up badly and we shouldn't commit to a yearlong lease (sigh, I realized how negative that sounds as I typed it out). \n\nNow, I think that the possibility of getting back together after a break up (no matter the reason) is slim to none. Realistically, what are the changes of ending up in the same city (and single) in our 20s? When I brought that up, he said that's just the way life is and that we would move on. He's frustrated that I'm bringing something up before it's even a reality, even though I want to address this issue before I leave. I just can't help feeling as though I am a placeholder in his life. \n\nConsidering how I have several friends who are in committed and successful long distance relationship, I feel hurt and confused. I don't need an assurance from anyone (hell, we are 23 and have our careers to prioritize) but I just want to feel as though we have a possibility of lasting. We've talked about everything and made our peace, but I just want the opinion of well...strangers on the internet. Has anyone else been in a similar position? How have you dealt with it?", "summary": "\u2013 boyfriend doesn't want to do long distance after a year together, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_4zjxd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Working on my [22M] keeping relationship and girlfriend [28F] Strong.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years officially.  We met in school.  We both got our bachelors degrees.  She went back (to the same school) to get her masters.  She struggles with depression and occasionally a lack of motivation due to the depression.  We decided to move to NYC from Florida, but we weren't going to move until she got her degree.  She changed her mind when she found out that my sister had an internship in NYC, so she selflessly decided to stay in Florida while we housed my sister for her internship.  It has been ~3 months since we moved and she is still in Florida.  Our relationship is struggling because of the distance.  She is having trouble with her research.  For people that have done biological research, shit just doesn't go right all the time and the school where she is getting her degree is slightly disorganized, so that doesn't help.  She is starting to lose hope in herself and in us.  She wants to drop out and come back so that we can be together.  She is, at the most, 1 month away from finishing her research and being essentially done with her degree.  How can I keep her encouraged and happy, but help her finish her degree?", "summary": "Girlfriend is worried about our distance and her degree, wants to drop out a few weeks from completion because she cannot handle the issues with her research and our distance."}
{"id": "t3_3z6zot", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Sore throat followed by cold symptoms", "post": "I'm 25 male, caucasian, living in the US, with no medical issues or medications.\n\nI traveled to Canada for the holidays, on the 24th. The day after I arrived, I came down with a very minor fever and a sore throat. I returned on the 28th, and was feeling almost completely recovered on the 30th.\n\nOn the 1st, I started feeling sick again, with a runny nose, sneezing, congestion, and my throat being a little sore. Today, I have a small fever and I'm feeling a bit worse.\n\nI suspect that I may have just caught a cold while recovering from the sore throat. I'm going to see a doctor if I'm not feeling better by the end of the week, but I'm wondering if this sounds like something I should be more worried about.", "summary": "sore throat and fever for 6 days, recover, then cold symptoms two days later."}
{"id": "t3_zs382", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How to improve cardio?", "post": "It seems like kind of a vague question, so allow me to elaborate. I recently started running in hopes of competing in the Spartan Race.\nI was never really a good runner, and due to an injury, I wasn't able to run for about 2 years (Inguinal Hernia).\n\nWell, my problem is that it seems my lungs give out well before my legs do. I could run a mile, and while my legs feel like they could push out more distance, my lungs feels like they're on the verge of failing.\nHow do I improve my lung functions so I can run longer?", "summary": "How do I improve my lung stamina? My lungs give out before my legs do."}
{"id": "t3_3s6z1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 24[M] really hope everyone that reads this cares enough to give me some advice on my personal issues. Its eating me up and I don't feel the same.", "post": "Throwaway account.\n\nTo start off I was raised in a very good family and was loved and treated wonderfully from all my family which led me to be a strong person all my life. I have always been content and happy and confident in myself. \n\nIn the last year I have changed to a completely different person and I'm starting to think I may never be the same ever again.\n\nI used to be a romantic and believed in love. I was with my ex for 5 years and she honestly never did anything to me that made me not trust her and we are still friends right now. Thing is she's the only girl I think I could ever trust. \n\nRecently I have seen so many of my male friends being cheated on and also read this  which if you can read this it Would help in explaining my position.\n\nI just can't get over all these horror stories of all this infidelity. Most of the time the guy or girl never even knows. I used to feel confident though knowing that lots of guys cheat but I know I'm not one of them and that women are the better sex therefore I didn't have anything to worry about. I really do not like this sexual society and I'm not religious one bit I just personally feel sex should be special but I'm starting to lose all hope for love or relationships and feel like I may be single forever because I can't trust anyone.\n\nHow do I find hope reddit after reading about so much infidelity? I want to eventually find someone I love but I'm scared of any relationship nowadays.", "summary": "used to be confident in myself and love but after reading awful things have little to no Faith in love or the opposite sex."}
{"id": "t3_3oko8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 18 months, still keeps in contact with her ex. How much contact with an ex is normal?", "post": "I'm not sure how much contact they keep. \n\nI've seen his name pop up on her Facebook chat, and every time I have to do something on her Facebook (legitimately, she knows), he's one of the most recent messages.\n\nShe's never shared her phone, but she's not necessarily secretive about it. \n\nShe seems to always know about whats going on in his life. \n\nI think I'm so uncomfortabel with this, because at the start of our relationship when we werent exclusive yet, they slept together.\n\nI don't think she wants anything but Im not so sure its innocent on his side.\n\nHow much contact with an ex is normal?", "summary": "How much contact with ex is normal?"}
{"id": "t3_1x5fcs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Why do I feel so ashamed when I actually did well?", "post": "Hi, guys. :) First post here! I'm really stumped on one trick that my brain plays on me and I was curious if it happens to any of you.\n\nEven when I've done really well for the day, no sweets besides two servings each of fruit and yogurt, and no grains, plus a good supply of good veggies and lean meats. (I'm attempting The 17 Day Diet, has anyone done it?) I feel like a failure. I feel like I was stupid for even trying. I know I did good, but at the same time I can't accept that. I didn't do this well enough, or the yogurt is ruining everything. It's too much sugar; too many carbs. Not enough of this, not enough of that. I'm angry with myself, so damn mad for being so hard on myself, but it's like my evil side is telling me late at night that I was pathetic for trying and why do I even bother and you should just go eat a bowl of cereal to feel better. How can I begin standing up when I'm already pushing myself back down into the dirt?\n\nDoes/Has anyone experienced this? Please and thanks.", "summary": "Even when I've done well in my diet for the day, I feel like a failure and shame myself."}
{"id": "t3_2mfz2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my roommate [also 21F] of four months, keeps trying to be friends with me. I'm not interested.", "post": "Okay, this is probably going to come off bitchy, but fuck it.\n\nMy roommate keeps trying to be more than roommates with me. As in, she wants to be my friend. I'm not interested, and here's why:\n\n1. She's annoyingly clingy. If I'm not at home, I get a text asking where I am. We're in COLLEGE. I'm probably in CLASS or the LIBRARY or AVOIDING YOUR STUPID ASS. She also invites herself out with me and my friends all the time, and one of us always ends up babysitting her drunk ass. I think this is also the reason she doesn't have friends of her own. \n\n2. She thinks she's entitled to my stuff. I buy nice things, because I work hard for my money and I believe that because I work hard to buy myself nice things, they are mine. Bitch gets her haircut at SuperCuts and thinks she's entitled to my $25/liter shampoo because she wants Big Sexy Hair, too. \n\n3. She doesn't have a drivers' license or a car and has no problem asking me for rides, even though gas costs money, which she never contributes. I'm talking like, \"Hey, I got drunk last night and threw my phone over a fence, but I don't know which fence, can you drive me around so we can look for it?\" And then while we do this, SHE CRITICIZES MY DRIVING. \n\n4. She's not my type of person. I like intelligent company, and she's not that. She burps and farts all the time, even when I tell her that it's my room and she needs to stop or leave. My best friend is going to med school after graduation, another friend just got a job at Billboard, and I just got into grad school. I like smart people, and therefore not her. \n\nSo before you ask, YES I HAVE GIVEN HER A CHANCE. I'm just tired of being used, and I'm not interested in being anything beyond friendly with her. Not rude, just not friends. Advice?", "summary": "My roommate uses me and keeps trying to be my friend, but I don't want to be friends with her."}
{"id": "t3_1kejry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Quickly getting into new relationships (22M)", "post": "I'll keep this short: \nMy girlfriend(F20) of 8 months recently broke up with me. Although I had very strong feelings for her, I have not grieved at all. I cried briefly the day it happened, and that was it. I don't even feel the desire to cry. This is very uncharacteristic for me, as I usually bawl my eyes out for a week or more when I get rejected.\n\nI almost immediately hopped back on OkCupid and resumed my exhaustive search for a compatible SO. It unnerves me that this has been so matter-of-fact for me. My roommates just tell me it's \"too soon\" to be back in dating-mode, but I *really* want to find a relationship that works for me, and I know that's not going to happen while I'm sitting on my hands.", "summary": "I'm feeling uncharacteristically indifferent about a break-up, and I'd like advice."}
{"id": "t3_3b3h6n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking talking german in Florence is safe", "post": "This happened in April this year. I went to Florence with my school and we were put into different host families across the city. We were a group of five people in one family, and everybody was pretty hyped about going there. So we went to the place, and the maid opened and let us in. When we entered, there was a really hot girl sitting in the kitchen. We came in and said hi. Everyone was in a really good mood, and we all have that really immature humor, so we started talking about how hot she was and you know, that kind of stuff that you definetly dont want your parents to hear.  I dont wanna go into detail about what we said, so im just gonna put those phrases out there: whore, suck dick, butt sex, and even more whore. Of course everything we said was german, so we thought it was okay since she couldn't understand us anyway. We went to our room and talked about random stuff when she came in. The first thing she said was: \"so you speak german?\" \nI couldn't believe she really said that. At that moment i thought we had all fucked up big time. We were sitting there not really knowing what to say, and being lets just call it really surprised.  It turned out that she was from Switzerland going to school in Italy. (she was 26, we 17) So she understood every single word we were saying earlier. We actually had a nice conversation and she didn't even mention it, I guess she was pretty cool about it, so everything turned out pretty well for us.", "summary": "turned out the girl living with us wasn't Italian and understood every single word we were saying about her."}
{"id": "t3_39k1g7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22 M] with my two friends[22 F], one interfered in my friendship with the other", "post": "So I am friends with Betsy and Robin. Betsy and Robin have been friends for longer than I have been with them and they always hang out. Robin and my friendship is slowly winding down.\n\nAnyways, whenever I've asked Robin to hang out, it usually hasn't worked out. She says yes, then something comes up and then it's cancelled. I asked her to hang out on my birthday, she said yes then something came up. I was sad, definitely, but it wasn't unexpected.\n\nHowever, Betsy was annoyed on my behalf. When Robin asked her to go to a party, Betsy asked her why she didn't invite me. I don't know what they said exactly, but Robin then invited me. \n\nNow I feel extremely embarrassed for Betsy's involvement. I feel that *Robin knows I exist* and whatever reasons she has for not inviting me or whatever flaky reasons she has for not coming to my invites is valid to her and it's way too confrontational to ask her why she doesn't really want to hang out with me. Also, I've hung out with Robin before a couple times.\n\nI feel that it reflects badly on me that Betsy had to ask Robin to ask me to hang out. Like I asked or manipulated Betsy into getting Robin to ask me to come out. Also, Betsy doesn't know that what she's done has made it awkward for me. \n\nI just wonder, what should I do about this situation? Should I apologize to Robin about Betsy making it an issue? Should I just do nothing cause Robin and I don't really vibe anymore and it's just the end anyway?", "summary": "A friend got another friend to invite me to an event, but I feel it was forcing an invite from someone who has their own reasons for not inviting me. I feel awkward and don't know what to do about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_4s3oyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my Girlfriend [21F] one year, accidentally discovered her account on a furry porn site and it kinda freaks me out", "post": "(second try submitting, apparently you can't use the r word)\n\nSo I've been dating my gf (we'll call her Sophie) for almost one year now. Now, Sophie's a furry, I know this, and I don't have a problem with it because for her it basically just means she likes cartoons/movies/video games with animals in them. She also has some paintings of panthers and other big cats in her bedroom. She doesn't fursuit or go to cons even really hang out with other furries online. At least that's what she told me.\n\nShe walked away from our shared computer the other day and apparently forgot to log off, leaving the site open in another tab. Normally I don't believe in snooping but well...I couldn't resist. She'd left herself logged in to a furry porn site with her favorites open and I couldn't help but notice a pattern. Lots of stuff marked \"r***\", \"forced\", stuff like that. About half of it was \"feral\" (only anthropomorphized in behavior, nothing else) which is also icky to me. Most of the feral stuff was pokemon and big cats... ew. I looked at her account and apparently she's had it since 2011\n\nI'm kind of freaked out? I wouldn't have minded her being into furry porn but she claimed she wasn't. And the fact she has paintings of big cats in her room is suddenly really gross to me now, since she apparently has a thing for them. That and she also has a r*** fetish or something, something that I don't condone in porn because I think it's sick to be fantasizing about. And she knows how I feel about it.\n\nI just feel kind of hurt that she felt the need to lie about it to me and also really disgusted by all the r***/wild animals. I don't know if I should keep it to myself or confront her about it? If this was real life porn it would probably be a deal breaker.", "summary": "accidentally found GF's furry porn account, learned that she apparently has a fetish for wild animals r****ng each other, really freaked out that she never told me. I have no idea if I should leave it alone or talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_3fz7rg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am uncomfortable with my girlfriend [17 F] spending time alone with other guys, am I unreasonable?", "post": "You know when you have a problem and you get tunnel vision, and you can no longer tell whether you're being logical or not. Is it unreasonable for me to ask my girlfriend to spend more time (outside of school) with me than other guys (outside of school)?\n\nShe has started spending time with another guy outside of school on a fairly regular basis (they usually just go out to lunch, or so I'm told). I have told her it makes me uncomfortable but that hasn't had much of an impact. \n\nAt the same time we have been spending less and less time together; she is always either too tired or busy (not actually) or has family commitments. Another thing that scares me is that she repetitively says she just can't so 'no', and I fear that will lead to her cheating.\n\nIs it unreasonable for me to ask her to spend more time with me? \nIf so how do I do ask?\nOr should I just cut my losses, break-up and just save myself the pain? (although I'm scared of negative repercussion of this; because she could effectively ruin my life with what she knows. Plus I really care for her and don't want to leave her)", "summary": "Girlfriend spending a lot of time alone with another guy, it makes me uncomfortable and I'm looking for a solution. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3g1yvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 17F. A creepy guy I work with (30s?M) keeps licking me (seriously).", "post": "Okay, this is really weird and it sounds weird but I really don't know what to do. \n\nI've been working at a local non-chain coffee shop for 6 months. I'll call the guy I mentioned in the title Joe. Joe is higher up than me but not a manager. He trains new employees, does inventory type stuff, and makes some of the baked goods we sell. \n\nThe other day it was a really slow day. Joe, another guy that works there (19M) and I were all talking and we got on the topic of double jointed people. The other guy mentioned something about being able to lick your elbow, and I mentioned that you can't feel if someone licks your elbow when you're not looking. Ever since then I have caught him attempting to lick my elbow/sometimes actually licking it. It's really weird and awkward.\n\nJoe has always been kind of awkward/slow to understand social cues. But I have told him firmly every time I catch him doing it to please stop and that it makes me uncomfortable. BUT HE STILL DOES IT. I don't really know who to talk to about this, or if it's even a thing to talk about. It's awkward and uncomfortable but it seems silly/immature. But then I turn around and see a grown man crouching to lick my elbow and I just about lose my shit. It happens every time we work together, 3+ times a day. He does it usually when no one is looking, but still, wtf.\n\nDo I go to someone about this? Do I yell at him? \n\nThere is two co-owners (married couple) that work every now and then but their kids are usually the ones in charge. Their kids are in their 20s so I'm not sure if they would take this seriously or think I'm joking or something.", "summary": "A guy I work with keeps licking my elbow because I can't feel it and thinks it's a game (maybe?)."}
{"id": "t3_1rxg1j", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Mom in need of ideas for disciplining my 9 year old stole from my friend", "post": "Hi, last night while getting ready for the week, I checked in on my 9 year old after he was done with his shower. He was in his bedroom getting his pj's on. Before he knew I was even in the door way, he took a drag from an electric cigarette. In shock, I sternly asked him what he was doing. He looked at me, eyes wide open, and also in shock, hid the e-cig behind him and said \"I don't know\". Obviously that was a reaction and not a real answer because he does know what he was doing. I made him hand over the e-cig and asked him where he got it from. He said he found it on his bedroom floor and pointed to the ground. I realized that it looked familiar. My friend, whom we were with and at her house earlier that day uses these e-cigs. I texted my friend a picture of the cigarette and she confirmed it was hers. The last place she saw it was her purse. My son finally admitted that he stole it from my friend and that he found it on her kitchen table. I don't believe any of what hes saying, clearly he stole, lied and now is trying to cover up whatever he can. What is a good punishment? Hes not a bad kid. This is the first time I've caught him for doing this but not the first time lying.", "summary": "9 year old son stole e-cig from friends purse - need punishment idea."}
{"id": "t3_1bag84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship: Age difference and long story.", "post": "I am a 24(m). I have a very good friend who is 38(m) and I spend a lot of time hanging out with him at his house. He has a 14(f) daughter who obviously has a crush on me. I am completely okay with this as it is something I deal with a lot (I work around teenagers) so I've been through it before. I haven't been in a relationship in over a year by choice. I realize that there is a big age difference between me and the daughter, and we have had time to talk alone about her crush. It's safe to say that the girl is going to be VERY attractive in a few years. I am definitely not a pedophile and have no intentions of doing anything sexual with a 14 year old girl. I have very very very strong morals and am extremely conservative. My specific question: I can tell there is chemistry between me and her. I think that in a few years a relationship is something that would be worth pursuing. What does reddit think? I'll do my best to answer questions in the comments.", "summary": "I have started to get feelings for a girl 10 years younger than me, is it worth the wait?"}
{"id": "t3_2jfsay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [30m] tell her [25f] she has bad breath?", "post": "Ok so I met this really cool girl. We've been going out for almost a year. We started out as friends and slowly have been getting more close. I like her and have a good time hanging out together and I know she likes me, but she has this pretty serious problem with her breath and its really holding me back and is the reason why nothing else has developed. We have been intimate, but many times I have been trying to avoid it because of this.\n\nHow do I help her with this? How do I tell her she has this problem without hurting her?", "summary": "How do i tell her she has bad breath without hurting her?"}
{"id": "t3_2waikp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to watch movies online", "post": "This one legitimately happened about 40 minutes ago and the fuck up lasted about 30 minutes.\n\nAnyway, being the quality-ignorant poor man that I am, I went online to go watch the movie \"Kingsman\" that came out recently.\n\nI'm the kind of person that likes to have something playing in the background while I work on things and I remembered that I wanted to go watch this movie a while back.. So I went on google and found it pretty easily. It was titled perfectly and everything.\n\nSo the movie starts off with a flashback in Chicago 1990. I'm busy working on whatever I'm doing so I'm only paying half attention. The movie starts out focused on an Indian kid but is set in Chicago. Parts of the movie were in an Indian dialect with the majority of it in English. I knew the main actor in the trailer was a white guy so I thought, \"Cool! They're introducing the bad guy first!\" The Indian kid was extremely athletic and was like the son of a magician or something.\n\nFrom what I knew about the movie, the main character joins some sort of secret service. So I began to think, \"Wow! This movie is about the secret service catching some sort of magician thief!\"\n\n After 20 minutes of annoying directing, drawn out police chases in America, the Indian kid starts dancing. Then like 40 other people come out and then they all start dancing for like 5 minutes straight. \n\nMy mind starts to piece everything together, thinking, \"What the fuck? This isn't Kingsman.\" That's when everyone struck a pose and the screen faded to black. The title shows up in another language. It was then that I realized that what I actually watched was definitely the first 30 minutes of a bollywood movie.", "summary": "because I'm stupid and poor, I ended up watching 30 minutes of a Bollywood movie"}
{"id": "t3_2qhe0b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by touching my teachers beard", "post": "This happened some time ago, but I found out about the results recently. To start off I was hanging out with my older brother at school when his teacher came up the stairs, and for some strange reason that I don't know why I run up to him and touch his beard and not just touch I mean straight up grab it for w good could seconds. \n\nNow that some time has passed I asked my brother if his teacher still remembered me. Turns out he does and to make it even worse he still talks about it... The fuck up is that he'll be my teacher next year. :(", "summary": "Touched my future teachers beard thought he would forget, turns out he still remembers and frequently talks about it to my brother."}
{"id": "t3_4ewu3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30f) dad (63m) died on Friday. I'm sad. I want a puppy. Bad idea?", "post": "I have a husband(29m) with allergies and a dog thats been my buddy for 9 years. She is slowing down and I think a companion pet might extend her longevity. But also, I'm just sad and I want to find a sweet puppy at the human society to focus on. My husband is allergic to dogs and tolerates my pooch since she isn't allowed in our bedroom and is basically the chillest, lowest maintenence dog in the universe. I'm worried a puppy might be too much for him, even though it'd be my dog and I'd be responsible for it's care. Am I missing anything? I don't trust my own brain right now. Should I wait? I've been thinking about a companion pet for a while but since my dad died the idea of a new pet to love and take care of makes me feel excited, like having something to look forward to. So yeah.", "summary": "Sad. Dead dad. Would a new pet dog help or am I being rash?"}
{"id": "t3_2j7gsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22,F] broke up with my boyfriend [22 M] of a year and half a month ago, he's seeing someone new and I am so hurt", "post": "My boyfriend boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a month ago. He was everything to me and we had so much planned holidays and trips.We had just come back from a festival together and one day he just hit me with 'it's not as exciting anymore'  his reasons kept varying 'we need to focus on our careers' 'I need time alone to think' 'the  relationship isn't the same anymore' I was so hurt and for a week I barely ate or got out of bed. He said we could still be friends and he promised we would see each other again. eventually  I started to feel better, I had job interviews, I was seeing my friends and starting to feel a bit better. Then a few days ago I see that my ex has been seeing a new girl from his work already and i am back to square one. They've been spending loads of time together,  like every single day ( one of the reasons he said to me was we see each other too much, it was like 4 times a week) I'm so hurt that he can move on so fast. I'm absolutely devastated about the whole thing and this after starting to be more positive is just another kick in the face. \n\nI have recently graduated from uni, moved back in with parents because I don't have a job and now I've lost him. I feel useless. I need to talk to someone but none of my friends have ever been through this, I just feel every time I try to step forward I end up being shot down even further.", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me and is now seeing someone else already and I feel worthless"}
{"id": "t3_2mx52e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] how to move on without being angry", "post": "My ex and I were together for 7 months. We hit it off from day one. For me, this relationship was a big deal. In the past year, I had been with 8 different people but wouldn't get close to any of them. \n\nThis was different, he actually was interested in me and what made me, me. Before I knew it I was falling in love, which I didn't realize, I had pushed it so far away. We had amazing communication. For the first time I was 100% even when I messed up or did something he didn't like. Before I would have lied and avoided. But everything he knew. \n\nHe supported me in my studies and my future, along with my recovery. I also expressed that I loved him which was the first true relationship for me to do that with. \n\nEverything started on wed. he was sick, I made a care basket and made my way over there, just for company. I had homework for if he wanted to sleep. We ended up connecting really well, something that had been on the fence for a few weeks. I asked about Thanksgiving with his family. Then Christmas and how that will work, I asked if he would be interested in a small Christmas with just the two of us, a small meal, small tree, and old movies. He was thrilled, I even had a special weekend surprise set up for him.\n\nThen he barely replied to my texts, Tuesday he called me up and said I wanna break up, less than a five min conversation. and just like that it was over.\n\nI am crushed, angry, hurt. I don't know the reason, I don't know what he is thinking or why. I just know it ended and wont respond to me. I've decided to give him time and when he was ready he will tell me. But in the mean time how do I not be angry for if he does want to talk? Advise?", "summary": "Everything looked fine, then one day he ends it and now wont respond to me. I've decided to wait for him to come to me but in the meantime, how do I not be angry?"}
{"id": "t3_27vp4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [22 M] using relationships as an emotional crutch and over-emphasising their importance?", "post": "The last year has been rather difficult for me emotionally. My girlfriend of almost a year split with me and then I had to live with her at uni. After I finally got over that I realised I had feelings for a friend of mine that I thought she recipricated, I asked her out, she turns me down.\n\nNow this sounds like a hugely average turn of affairs, no big deal you might say, things will be better next time. Well the most recent turn of affairs turned into the end of the world in my head. I very quickly developed an almost obsessive \"love\" for this girl and couldn't see a life without her. We are still friends, or at least she still wants to be friends and so do I when I get my head back in to seeing as a non-romantic option. Or until I stop believing that a relationship with her was the only thing that could make me happy, I think they are the same thing.\n\nI have also recently developed a hightened sense of depression due to the ending of my University career and fear of the future. This is something that in retrospect has under lined the last 6 years of my life but got worse very recently. I only seem happy when I'm in a romantic relationship. As far as I can tell I made this latest girl into my guiding light if you will, the only thing that gave me hope when everything else seemed really pointless. \n\nSo with that background I guess my question is am I using relationships as a crutch for deeper emotional problems and if so, what can I do about it? I want to be able to have a healthy romantic relationship and not be reliant on them.", "summary": "How can I tell if I use relationships as a crutch and how can I stop doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_1ssd6j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By deleting my coworker's last month's worth of work", "post": "So today, my coworker at a tech company asked me to help him set up a second database for one of our apps.    \n   \nHim: \"I've been working with 'App' for a while now. I've been working hard on making the data in it really great for demos, I just need a second version of 'App' for dicking around with development work.\"  \n\nMe: \"OK Great! I've done this before, I'll help you set it up!\"  \n\n45 minutes later.  \n\nMe: \"OK That was harder than I thought it would be, but this new instance of App seems to be working! Try bringing up your original App to make sure it still works! :D\"  \n\nOriginal version of App comes up.... NO DATA!  \n\nUs: (\u25c9\ufe35\u25c9) (\u25c9\ufe35\u25c9)  \n\nMe: \"Well, looks like there's no data in this anymore\"  \n\nHim: \"...\"  (trying to be a good sport about it)\n\nMe: \"Well that's fucked up. Sorry dude\"", "summary": "Today I fucked up and I feel really bad about it. I lost a lot of his work and he works really hard.  "}
{"id": "t3_33bl3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my S/O [26 M] told me he'd be home at 5, it is now 10:40 our time.", "post": "Boyfriend went to a co-workers house today to work on a project, told me he'd be home around the same time I got home from work. I got home and figured he must be running late. Have not heard from him since. He doesn't have a phone, so I've messaged his facebook numerous times since 5. He doesn't drink/party at all, and we have a happy relationship. I'm really worried that he's in a car accident or something. I messaged the co-worker on facebook to ask what time he left and haven't heard back either. \n\nMy questions are: Has this ever happened to anyone? What do you do? The waiting is awful. We are in Canada btw. There are no reports of accidents on the internet, but I don't know how quickly those things \"break\" news-wise. \n\nIm just so worried something has happened and they wont be able to contact me or anyone he knows because he doesn't own a phone!", "summary": "boyfriend has not returned home, is almost 6 hours late. Has this happened to you before? What do you do in this situation/ is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_1uifbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18f) boyfriend (19m) is already giving up his new years resolution, and seemingly everything.", "post": "My best friend from childhood, but just started officially dating 5 moths ago.\n\n   A few years ago \"T\"s mother was diagnosed with ms, and he struggles to deal with that, along with other family based issues. This has always resulted in him turning to weed as a way to deal. This year cigarettes got added to the mix, and he got progressively worse; withdrawn, angry, depressed. With all of this going on its hard for him to save up any money or even consider a better future.\n\n   The good guy in him quit cigarettes on new years, knowing I don't approve.    But literally 5 days later he said he didn't think he was at a point in his life where that would be possible, and he hopes I don't judge him for it. \n\n   I just dont know what to do. I'm trying to maintain the high grades that we both used to want, and saving up for a future. And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with our relationship itself, his life is always nagging at the back of my mind. I can't live that lifestyle, but that is no grounds for leaving him, especially when I know that's not the life he wants either.", "summary": "his life is a mess and I feel like he's not even trying to fix it. Where's the line that needs to be crossed before I should be letting go."}
{"id": "t3_4wzxes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M27] and my SO [F27] have been together four years. I feel our relationship is stagnant and she is looking at me to move it forward. Can I get some advice?", "post": "I met my current SO when i was 23 shortly after completing my BS.  She lived in my hometown working at a small bakery and we hit it off and began dating.  I enjoy spending time with her, we almost always have fun together, and by and large she is not very demanding of me.\n\nSince that time, four years has passed.  I have worked hard to get good footing in a career path which has led us to be in a long distance relationship for the past 14 months.  As of the last couple of those months, I have grown weary of the distance.  I feel that I either want to be close together or not together at all.\n\nShe is in the food service industry and has been ever since we met.  She has been \"in school\" for the last four years and is still at least 3 semesters away from an associates degree.  When I moved to my current location (a very high CoL area), she told me she would only move up here if we moved in together, but she can not contribute financially to the relocation.  \n\nI don't make enough money to move her.  I don't feel it is my responsibility if she wants to live with me.  I also don't want to tell her she has to move or we'll break up, as I do not believe in ultimatums in a relationship.  I recently had an opportunity arise to move back to where we met (a low CoL area), and when i mentioned her moving in, she said she would not live with me unless we were engaged.\n\nAt the end of the day, I feel like I am responsible for both the future and health of our potential family, as well as solely responsible for her future.  This is weighing on me a lot and I feel almost taken advantage of.  Is there another way I should be looking at this?\n\nI will be happy to continue talking with people in the comments to release more details.  Just looking for someone else to bounce this off of.", "summary": "she wants me to handle everything, has no college degree or career path, and won't move in with me unless i propose.  Am i crazy for thinking she should be contributing more or demanding less?"}
{"id": "t3_3rnnqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] lied about losing my virginity. My gf [18F] of three years (one long break, dating again for six months) wants to know who/how/when/why... More information than I want to provide. What should I do?", "post": "**Yeah, this relationship is rocky. I wouldn't be in it if it weren't worth it to me, we've grown up a lot in the past year and want to make it work. Please take all information with this in mind.**\n\nI'd like to preface this by saying lying is never the right approach, and I answered her truthfully when she asked. However, I don't believe in dwelling on the past because it feels like a focus on who a person was rather than who they are now. \n\nMy girlfriend wants to know every detail of the encounter, and with who, and why, and where. I'm not at all comfortable with this, whether that's through insecurity or just a value system. I don't have contact with the person didn't have contact with them after the fact, told her it was me trying to throw the virginity out of the way, etc. Didn't seem to help much, and she still wants to know who. \n\nI think this is immature and a breach of my boundaries. I don't dwell on her sexual past, and she never told me any details when I asked about hers, and I feel better not knowing who, or why, or where. I'm in this relationship, right now, with just her, and only want the best from it. My past experiences do not weigh in at all. \n\nI lied because I was insecure and weak and cowardly, and bringing up something so suppressed is taking it's toll on me. \n\nI'll provide any further information if asked.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I don't want to tell my girlfriend who I've slept with. Or why. Or when. I don't think it would support the relationship, and it would provide unnecessary strain."}
{"id": "t3_3isznb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] accidentally shared nude pictures of myself to everyone, BF [20 M] hates me", "post": "I fucked up and I know it. Please don't hate me for taking them in the first place :(\n\nMy boyfriend and I are very compatible sexually. We both have very high sex drives, are very open, and enjoy each other's kinks. He loves it when I message him naked pictures of myself when he is at work in the office, and I am glad to do it.\n\nWhile his work was a strict no phone policy, he has found a way to use facebook, so I usually send them there. That's where I fucked up. We have a group chat, that includes him, with 16 of our closest friends. I snuck into my college bathroom, snapped a quick picture, and went to facebook and clicked send, and thought nothing of it. Less than 5 minutes later, my phone buzzed like crazy, with messages making fun of me jokingly, the girls in the group expressing disbelief, and the like. I told them it was an accident and to please delete it. They did, and agreed also not to mention it again.\n\nMy boyfriend must have seen, however, because I got a very angry WTF from him. When we got home, he started yelling at me for what I did, and even called me a slut, even though I kept telling him it was an accident. He said he needs time, and left with his friends. (They usually go bowling Fridays so its not unusual)  I would never cheat on him, even in the slightest way, and have no attraction to anyone that saw, but I don't know how to make this up to him! what do i do??????", "summary": "accidentally sent nudes to group chat, bf thinks I wanted to show off"}
{"id": "t3_2hbvv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f24] moved with boyfriend [m25] for his job to a new city and hate living here but don't want to leave relationship over it.", "post": "Together 2 years.\n\nI recently moved with my boyfriend to a new city and after a few months I still think about moving back to my hometown constantly. I grew up in a smaller resort vacation town. It was safe and beautiful and a tourist destination. When I went to college (where we met) it was a smaller engineering school in the middle of the woods. Again, safe and scenic. Now, we live in Cleveland and even though we live on the outer parts of it I just dislike it so much. We live in a high rise and I can't stand being this close to so many people. I'm constantly on edge about crime. And no offense to anyone that lives here but it's just like they don't even try to make anything look nice. He has a job that is very much in demand, so he is not stuck here at all, and my future job is similar. I have mentioned moving to a different city a few times and he gets mad, which I understand since we just moved here and he provides so much for me since I'm still in school. I guess what I'm asking is if anyone has been in a similar situation and how do I be more realistic about this. I don't want to break up an otherwise perfect relationship over this. Eventually we will get a house out in the country but that won't be for awhile.", "summary": "Moved to Cleveland with bf 4 months ago and still not used to it. Dream about moving to hometown daily but do not want to break up over it. Anyone been in a situation like this?"}
{"id": "t3_4hhb2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me a [19 M] met with old friend [18 F] got intimate, does it mean anything?", "post": "I'm a full time customer service agent and I don't really get much excitement in my life, but last night my friend from high school who I'd known for about 4 years and had no previous romantic relationship with was in town and I went over to the place she was staying and we watched Shrek and hung out for a bit.\n\nWe got half undressed and kissed for a while and that was it. Even after a close to 2 year dry spell, I didn't do anything, but it was nice, it was needed. Should I pursue this? Does it mean anything? What do you guys think?", "summary": "First bit of action in months, just happy to be there."}
{"id": "t3_4v3xp1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I accidentally get in the friend zone after a 1 night stand?", "post": "I lost my virginity in a 1 night stand to a girl I met at a bar.  I didn't tell her I was a virgin until she put me inside her because I got really nervous when she did that.  Sex was really nerve-wracking at first but I got more comfortable as it went along.  \nSo the morning after I told her my friends that I was with at the bar were not going to believe that I lost my virginity (I'm 24 which I know is late).  She asked me for my phone number so she could text me pictures of her so my friends would believe me.  Later that day my best friend called her on my phone b/c he still thought I was lying.  Right after that we briefly texted with each other.  \n2 or 3 days later she sent me a friend request on facebook.  My reaction was 1. oh that's her last name 2. it will be sorta awkward when she gets a boyfriend but I did lose my virginity to her so I will accept her request.  So I added her and then I see she has all these posts with some bad boy.  I thought ok why would you send someone you had 1 night stand with a friend request after you were already interested in someone else?  So I went to her page to unfollow her in facebook and her latest post was something like \"there's nothing better than waking up to Jozea rubbing my bum\", seriously who posts stuff like that on facebook.  For the record I wasn't stalking her profile page, like the posts I saw were ones that showed up on my timeline and she would post alot.  \nSo yeah I am 100% bitter about the situation and I feel like I need to have another 1 night stand to get over this.  If anyone knows the proper 1 night stand day after rules that would be helpful too.", "summary": "Why did the girl I lost my virginity to in a one night stand request me on facebook a few days later after she was already interested in someone else?"}
{"id": "t3_1kzh9g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "FUCK YOU ITUNES STORE", "post": "Yeah, I know there's been countless posts like this BUT SERIOUSLY THERE'S A REASON WHY\n\nSo I enter my password to login. Then I have to enter it again to confirm. Okay. Then the FUCKING SECURITY QUESTIONS FUCK I made this account like 4 years ago I don't remember where my parents met or my best friend.\n\nI'm not going to call Apple Support at 11pm **I DON'T GIVE A SHIT IF YOU THINK YOUR WAIT TIME IS 2 MINUTES CAUSE I KNOW THAT'S A FUCKING LIE** so I try using my backup email LOLNOPE I HAVE TO KNOW MY SECURITY QUESTIONS TO RESET THEM\n\nI like iTunes as a music player but holy fuck their store **no", "summary": "Fuck iTunes store and fuck my stupidity from 4 years ago"}
{"id": "t3_3emf8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my sister [23 F] I'm bad at deescalating arguments", "post": "On phone calls I've tried telling her that I'm going to hang up because we need a breather, but she just gets so angry.  And once when I tried to leave while she was angry at me she body slammed the hood of my car and wouldn't get up until I went back inside. (Old beastly car luckily, but still not cool.)  But letting her scream at me just gets her more worked up too, and I can never get a word in.  What are some better ways of handling arguments? Obviously I'm terrible at deescalating situations, and I hate confrontation.  We both grew up in a violent household if that helps at all.  \n\nThe fights aren't anything serious, it's just stupid sister stuff. It just makes me feel nauseous and it's hard to shake off afterward.", "summary": "I'm bad at deescalating fights and hate confrontation, but my sister hates it when I try to avoid her."}
{"id": "t3_p5fyv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Work is going into a reality show. I get to modify my release since I don't want to be a character.", "post": "Help from lawyers much appreciated. Basically, I have no problem with cameras walking around and I'm in the environment walking by, but that's it. Thing is, that still requires me to sign a release and the only one they have is filled with crap that says they can do whatever they want. So I get to edit it for them to agree to it.\n\nI already got to get rid of the things that say, \"[The Producer] may expose me to public ridicule, humiliation or condemnation, and may portray me in a false light.\" \n\nI basically want to say that he Producer will use my person or my likeness only for passive roles, like walking by the camera or if I'm in the room they don't need to blur my face or rope off my office if the camera wants some B footage of work being done. But how do I say that in legalese?\n\nIf the Producer doesn't agree to it, then I don't sign (which will likely happen since I crossed off the juicy parts of the release). No biggie.", "summary": "Read the 3rd paragraph."}
{"id": "t3_j4i67", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some help and advice: I was overpaid without my knowledge over 4 years ago and now they want it back + 180%", "post": "It's not a whole lot of money, but as a mature student who is also working full time just to pay for tuition, it hurts. I was contacted by phone 1 month ago by a debt collection agency saying I owed $280.00. I was very surprised because I haven't been living in this country for 3.5 years (came back in February), and who it was owed to didn't make any sense. I held a contract over 4 years ago as a casual employee with the local government (library actually).  I was working about 8-10 hours a week and liked the job. My contract ended normally and I was kept on the on-call list. I moved and left my contact information with my supervisor, including a telephone number and address to be reached at (incidentally I was going through a divorce and my previous address was given to my now ex-husband). My last day of work was December 30th 2006. According to them, I was over paid by 100$ on my last paycheck as a mistake (I didn't notice at the time, it was New Years and I was getting a divorce). I've spoken to two people in hr/payroll and they've both been rude, unsympathetic and unwilling to do anything except lower it 20$. I have no problem paying 100$ but paying an extra 180-160$ seems wildly excessive since this was by no means my fault, I was completely forthcoming and hadn't heard anything from them. They say that my information was never updated, and it was my responsibility to do so (which my supervisor never mentioned) so tough luck, I have to take on their 180$ mistake. The debt collecting agency is calling twice a week, I've had 2 pointless conversations with both a clerk and the manager of the section and I'm wondering how it's possible for a government organization to bully someone like this.\n\nHelp? Any advice would help. I obviously don't have funds to pay for a lawyer.", "summary": "I worked for my local government, they mistakenly overpaid me and are trying to fuck me over for 180$ and they expect me to like it."}
{"id": "t3_fd4ii", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out some info via snooping (I know!).  Can't say anything, but feel like shit.", "post": "So I found out that this guy that I thought didn't want to date me because of timing issues actually had this plan to dump me to get back together with his ex-gf.  I was friends with him after we stopped dating and everything actually seemed pretty good, we got along really well and stuff, but after finding this out, I could not be normal, and am pretty sure I'll never talk to him again.  Which is fine, I think it needed to happen, but it still makes me feel so worthless.  We met online, didn't date for long, but it just makes me feel like crap that he didn't just say, \"I think I still have feelings for my ex, so we probably shouldn't date.\"  And then continued to be friends with me, and tried to have sex with me.  I guess I was just hoping someone might have a similar experience and insight into this situation.", "summary": "snooped in friend/previous dating partner's email, found out when we were dating he was not entirely up front about everything, now i feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_2iekjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I(22F) silly for being hurt that my parents(63M,53F) celebrated my boyfriend's new job and not mine?", "post": "I graduated from college in May and moved across the country to live with my dad (63 y/o) and stepmom (53 y/o) at their insistence in July. They wanted me to live with them \"for as long as [I] need\" while I take advantage of the great job market here.\n\nI started dating a guy I met online in August. 3 weeks later, he got a great job offer, and my dad (who had only met him twice prior to this) took our whole family out to eat at a fancy French restaurant to celebrate. It was a sweet gesture.\n\nThis last week, I got a very unexpected full-time job offer after interviewing for a part-time internship. It's basically a huge opportunity, and kind of amazing that I got something I didn't even apply for. And from my parents - nothing. From my BF - nothing. Everyone has acknowledged, with prodding, that this is a crazy awesome opportunity for me... and yet, no one really cares enough to celebrate. We're eating Costco brand ravioli for dinner tonight. No fancy dinner, and not even a nice home-cooked dinner. I dunno.\n\nAm I being a huge brat for feeling so hurt about this? I feel like they cared way more about my brand new boyfriend's success than they do about mine. I don't have much of a support system out here and it's been really hard on me.. Is it crazy that I expected people to want to celebrate my achievement? I'm trying to swallow the hurt right now, but it's definitely affecting me.", "summary": "Dad and step-mom celebrated my new boyfriend's job last month with a fancy dinner, but no one wants to celebrate my new job. Feeling hurt that no one thinks my achievement is worth celebrating, but I'm not sure if I'm being bratty considering the fact that they do let me live with them for free."}
{"id": "t3_282f7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update : I 24m just caught my 24f gf cheating & she's trying every lie to convince me otherwise", "post": "So yesterday my suspicion of my girlfriend cheating was confirmed . After she found out I knew she flew somewhere else she started to try and give me reassurance . I blocked her from all social media , but she continued emailing me....somewhat giving me hope , I know, I'm an idiot.\n\nHere's the thing .... it fucking hurts , how can someone who claims to love you , wanna marry , have kids just move on like that ? She emailed once again about not wanting me to give up and to still trust her, then instantly started posting pics of her and said girl , kissing , half naked ... disgusting . I haven't eaten , feel sick , and lost. She's even trying to contact my parents about coming back , but blatantly putting it out there that she's clearly moved on. I hate that she strung me along instead of just keeping it solid , she made it seem as if nothing was going on when in reality , everything I assumed was true, down to the smallest detail. \n\nIt helps to vent because I'm not one to ever go to someone for advice , but I need help . I need to kick this feeling before I do something stupid . As I said in my last post , I definitely don't want her back but it still doesn't take the hurt away .... the person you're in love with not only moved on while she claimed she wanted to work it out but she's almost gloating and I feel she's trying to hurt me . \n\nI know what I'm feeling is inevitable in a serious break-up but these intense feelings are overwhelming , even for me ... I feel so stupid and betrayed . Any advice...outlook...prior stories are welcomed. Thanks for even reading and hearing me out.", "summary": "GF cheated , moved on fast and could careless"}
{"id": "t3_2qckl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and interested in [19 F] but don't know if she's interested in me?", "post": "So for the past month I guess I can say I have been seeing this girl. We've been talking everyday and we have been on a couple of dates. I am really into her and she seems into me but recently she has been cold towards me. We were at a christmas party last week and she was with me all night and she started vomiting as she had too much alcohol and I spent the night looking after her and making sure she was okay. She had a drunk confession telling me that she really liked me and that she doesn't know what I see in her and I told her how I felt which was the same pretty much. She kept on trying to sleep with me but as she was very drunk I didn't due to all respect (although I was drunk, just not as drunk as her). \n\nI ended up staying the night with her and then in the morning we ended up having sex. Ever since then she has been very shallow and far away from me and hasn't seemed interested. Saying things such as \"we aren't dating\" and \"I guess I'll never know\" whenever I suggest we do something. I was going to ask her out but now I don't know if she's interested anymore? Is this just a thing to see how interested I am?", "summary": "really into a girl, been on a couple of dates and talk every day. We slept with each other one night and now she's distant. Does this mean she isn't interested or?"}
{"id": "t3_2nbpbd", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I don't know who I am anymore, I feel like I am killing my passion for life, I didn't know where to post this so..any advice.", "post": "It all started in the summer of 2012, I was 16 and had just finished secondary school, a skinny white kid who wasn't bullied but wasn't popular. 6 Younger half-siblings and severe anxiety, my first year of 6th form did not help, it was fine but I just felt so...weak.\n\nSO after a year of bullshit I decided fuck it, I grew some balls and left 6th form, though I didn't really do anything afterwards, the reality of the real world destroyed my anxiety, I started working out and am not longer skinny and finally started slowly getting my shit together, very slowly. Fast forward to July 2014, no longer with any anxiety, I was on par with most people, just...normal, on my 18th that month I had a good time and decided \"Ok, enough of this childish bs, lets roll\" I started an online business, really pushed at the gym, got a tan (random I know but Im otherwise pretty pale) and started getting some attention from women, It was like I had taken nzt-48 (the pill in limitless) and I was just...happy. This lasted two weeks, my parents went away so I had my mates over, so naturally we got shitfaced and Very VERY stoned(weed-relax). I'd say that over the next week my state of being the man i'd always wanted to be was gone. \n\nAnyway, over the past few months I got a part time job, which I don't mind. But I stopped doing my A level work (which I am doing online now) and slacked at everything, all my life consists of now is smoking weed with my mates (who all smoke, that may be a problem) and going to the pub. \n\nThat passion, that \"true\" version of myself is gone, I need to get back but, I don't know how, I reckon stopping smoking weed will help but I don't think it will fully fix the issue, I'm too close to it all to think rationally. I need some objective opinions.", "summary": "Found my inner fire, lost my inner fire. Weed is one of the issues, one I know I need to address, but what else?"}
{"id": "t3_38f3v5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What should I do during the course of the day in an unpaid, not-looking-for-employment-afterward, internship with no tasks to be completed?", "post": "There are other details irrelevant to this post, but I am working an unpaid internship this summer in an office that is, quite simply, not busy whatsoever. I have gone around and talked to everyone in the office, which has a few small departments, making it clear that I am happy to take on any task.    \u00a0    \n    \nIn all honesty, not much happens in this office. It is open from 9-5, and I have come for those hours thus far. Realistically, I could skip a day and either nobody would notice or the person or two who would notice would not bat an eyelash. Some of the paid employees don't come in until later, so I am planning to start coming in at 10.    \u00a0   \n \nI have fooled around on here, brought a book to read, etc. I can continue to do this, but I feel like I am wasting my days away. What can I do?", "summary": "unpaid internship, made it clear that I am ready and willing to do nearly anything, truly nothing to do whatsoever"}
{"id": "t3_4dcdr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [34 M] wife [35 F] of 12 years has been cheating on me for 3 months. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Long story short, my wife and I have been having troubles for several years.it started when I went back to school 4 years ago and I preoccupied with my studies due to the intense workload. She believes that I pushed her away, which I may have due to stress and school requirements which meant I had to be away from home frequently for class and clinical hours. \n\nWe have 2 children together and I never in my life thought it would come to this. We were best friends when we got married.\n\nI just found out today as I was plugging my phone in to charge and noticed a text notification from her new boyfriend addressing her as 'lover'. I confronted her and she admitted to sleeping with him several times.\n\nI don't know what to do. I don't want our relationship to end like this but I also don't know if I'll ever be able to trust her again if we do stay together. \n\nI guess I just need some advice on how to handle the situation, both rebuilding trust if we stay together and also how to handle divorce with kids involved if it comes to that.", "summary": "Wife of 12 years has been cheating on me for at least 3 months. We have 2 kids together and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_133fz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] ruined a friendship with a friend [28f] because I'm attracted to her.", "post": "Hey Reddit, you've come through for me in the past, I'm really having trouble determining if I'm a fool here.. I'll try and be concise.\n\nA year or so ago I met a girl at the gym, really cute, kinda quirky. Talked to her there for a bit, didn't get to know her really well but we added each other on Facebook. She moved away to a nearby city shortly after.\n\nFast forward to a few months ago, she messaged me that she was moving back to my city. We talked online a bit, hung out a few times... she was pretty clear that we were just friends, but I wasn't really attracted to her at this point, she takes some time to get used to.\n\nRecently when we've been hanging out, we really started to 'click'. We get along great, effortless conversation/etc.. and I've discovered that I really started to be attracted to her. It's a one way attraction unfortunately.. so the other night, I just frankly told her that I was attracted to her, and I can't be friends anymore because of it, no hard feelings.\n\nAm I being foolish? I would rather not talk at all than be stuck in the friendzone. I enjoy hanging out with her, and she seems really hurt that I don't want to be friends anymore.. but I don't think I can hang out with her, considering the way things sit..\n\nWhat say you reddit?", "summary": "Met a girl, started hanging out as friends, ended up becoming attracted to her (not mutual), ended friendship rather than stay in the friendzone. Am I being foolish?"}
{"id": "t3_yg6v1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most worst thing your friend has done to another person?", "post": "For me, my friend ( Let's call him... Arthur)was actually asked to Prom by a girl he was friends with since Freshman year. She surprised him with flowers and he responded with \"Yeah, sure.\" Afterwards, when his best friend (Let's call him...Samuel) asked Arthur why he was going (At this point, Samuel just finished venting to Athur that Prom was a waste of money and they could go do other stuff.) Wanting to hang out with his bud instead, he replies \"I'm not really going with her lol.\" So basically, he pretends to say yes to a girl and not even inform her of his change in plans. She had to find out from word of mouth.", "summary": "Friend says yes to girl who asks him to Prom, only to change his mind and hang out with his bud without telling the girl himself."}
{"id": "t3_2jvmfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (17) and this girl (18) are going to see a movie then to dinner. Is this a date and what should I wear?", "post": "Alright, so I asked her to go see a movie with me and then I eventually suggested we go get dinner after. I dont know if this is a date or hee accepting as a hang out. 1. I'm picking her up 2. Were going to a movie and dinner which will be sushi (idk if ik paying yet although I'm gonna insist.) \n\nIs this a date and would this be a mutual date? Also what can I wear? I mean I dont wanna look overly dressed at the movies or dinner. Help me out here, heroes of Reddit. Sorry I know this is kind of a mediocre question.", "summary": "going on date, is it a date, what should I wear?"}
{"id": "t3_2csxki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [24 M] unable to show any emotion to my family and my IN LAWS who are suffering. (Personal Issues)", "post": "I have been practically cheated on, been rejected by my father and my fathers side of the family, been left alone, abused, basically i suffered a lot. I have even witnessed my mother and grand parents bittled by people around us, scammed, and humiliated.\n\nNow my mother-in-law [60F] of 3 years is suffering a cancer. I see her family basically cry everyday,  i do feel their pain but somehow unable to show or project it. I see my grand parents [62F, 63M] battle old age sickness yet i cant show any loving emotion, even with my mother [41] who is currently batteling  a 4 month sickness of her own...\nSometimes i can even feel my mother being annoyed or angry for not showing any emotion when shes in pain. And its eating me up inside.\n\nI basicaly make up with all this by being at their sides when they need me and i do my best to support them. But when it comes to showing emotions i just tend to be in the corner.. \ndoes that \nmake me a horrible person??", "summary": "! Suffered a lot since childhood, basically cant show any emotions."}
{"id": "t3_1igzew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's funny how things change, and you'll never notice it. (20/M)", "post": "Have you ever wondered how crazy things are in life? You could be close to a group of friends. Then when you least expect it, you're absolutely nothing to them? \n\nOr meeting a girl. A girl who changes, makes a tremendous impact in your life. Making you into a better person. A girl who's little insecurities are the little things that make you fall in love with her? After a year and a half of nothing but perfection, things turn out for the worse? Doing anything to make things work. From that cute, loving innocent girl I once loved. To a bitch. A selfish, materialistic, heartless bitch. Who turns her back on me, who chooses her friends over me. Never did I try and make her choose. But I can take the hint. \n\nWhat kills me the most. Is that the shit I've done for her. I live 30 miles from th nearest job source. So it's tough for me with money. But I would scavenged pennies, dimes, quarters. Surprisingly I'd have enough to take her out to dates. Movies. Or Surpising her with some thing she's been wanting. Helped her family out and got them a washer, so they wouldn't have to stress about that. But not once I brought these things up to her. \n\nI just wish she could see this within herself. But she's not the woman I fell inlove with. This should hurt, but it does. Just hard to accept that she's not the same person anymore.", "summary": "How things change, girlfriend changes, wish it didn't hurt from thinking about how things used to be."}
{"id": "t3_27nq6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17/F] non-gamer, trying to take an interest in my gamer boyfriend's [17/M] games but he keeps pushing me away.", "post": "Kind of a follow up from my last post \n\nI followed the suggestion of trying to become more interested in my boyfriend's games and ask questions about them. I ask him what position he plays in League and why, his favourite character, what objectives they have to reach, etc, but he just answers with \"you won't understand\" or \"is there really a point in explaining it to you if you'll just forget it the next day?\" I told him that I'm trying to take an interest in his games so we have more stuff to talk about and so that I can be a better girlfriend by not shitting on his games all the time but he truly doesn't care that I'm trying and always shuts me down. I told him that I'm trying the best that I can but he just replies with \"that's fine\" or \"you don't have to force it\". He doesn't care that I'm trying so hard to be a better girlfriend for him. Advice ? Is there anything else I can do to take interest in his games ? Should I just give up trying to understand all that stuff ?", "summary": "Trying to understand my boyfriend's games to be a better girlfriend but he doesn't care and just keeps saying \"you won't understand\". Advice ?"}
{"id": "t3_1p6jmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my husband [40 M] of five years, I am overly suspicious my husband is cheating for no good reason!", "post": "As stated in the title, I've been married to my husband for almost five years. He's a wonderful guy, and we have a great marriage.\n\nThe only problem is me. Every so often I fall into patterns of thinking that my husband is cheating on me, or wants/plans to. The rest of the time, I know that I trust him completely and could never imagine that he'd do something like that to me, but sometimes it's like a switch flips and I start imagining the worst situations from whatever \"evidence\" I can find, guessing that he's talking to women online, on the phone, while at work, etc.\n\nI generally try to keep it to myself for a while, being sulky, but eventually I end up telling my husband my suspicions. And every time he's patient, will go through and show me or explain to me whatever it is I'm worried about, and every time it's been nothing but my over active imagination. \n\nHe does nothing in his actions to suggest that he would cheat. Since we've been together and throughout the marriage so far, he's nothing but kind and loving to me. We spend most of our free time together genuinely as friends, and we have an active sex life and he's very openly affectionate. So I really don't know why I can't stop myself from imagining that he's cheating on me. I really want to stop, because I know it hurts him that I don't trust him. But once I start thinking these things, I'm not sure how to make myself ignore or forget about it and just eventually feel like I have to tell him, even while it's obvious from experience that I'll just find out that I'm being mistrustful for no reason at it was a mistake.", "summary": "Every so often I get obsessed with thinking my husband's cheating on me for no good reason. Why? And how do I stop/deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_135e4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [25m] bring up a delicate subject with my SO [21f]?", "post": "Been in a LDR for 5 months now. We know each other and love each other very much.\n\nThat being said, there is a loooooooot on her mind right now. She's stressed about school, family, her pets, money, friends, her past. A lot. It's really dragging her down into what may become a depression.\nWith that also being said, there have been some things that she's doing in our relationship that's absolutely breaking my heart and eating me up. There are definitely lines and boundaries being crossed that I am not okay with.\n\nHowever, I feel like due to everything else going on in her life, me bringing up these issues when she talks almost daily about how much her life sucks will not only make her feel worse but I feel like she wont be in a clear state of mind to fluently talk with me through this.\nI'm in such a pickle, I don't know what to do, should I wait? How long? I don't want to come off as a selfish dick by bringing things up now ><", "summary": "How do I bring up sensitive subjects with my SO when things in her life are already a total mess?"}
{"id": "t3_2sf0x6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22M with 20F GF, with a 18 month old child dated 3 years.", "post": "I'm going to keep this as short as possible, basically my girlfriend of 3 years moved out of our house together about 2 weeks ago and took our son back to where she is from (about 3 hours).  The reason she did this is because I technically cheated.  I took another girl on a date when we were arguing, but she knows nothing physical happened..  but she said that still eats her inside even though it was 4 months ago.  \n\nI've been trying to convince her that I want to be a better father and boyfriend to her since she decided to leave two weeks ago.  She says she still loves me but says she has \"no desire or will\" to make things work.  What is the best thing I can do to change her mind?  She has had my son 2 weeks and I get him for the next 2 weeks this weekend and I am hoping that she will miss us and come home but I'm not sure what to do without constantly bothering her.", "summary": "How can I give my ex the will or desire to make things work if she doesn't want to give me a chance?."}
{"id": "t3_3lu4qb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Is an HRM accurate for calculating calories?", "post": "I searched the FAQ and Reddit, but couldn't find a solid answer to this. If one exists and I just haven't found it or maybe used the wrong search terms, a link would be very much appreciated.\n\nAfter my last run, Endomondo paired with the Scosche Rhythm+ HRM told me I burned 1,331 calories over 85 minutes. I ran 5 miles at a pace of almost 17 minutes/mile with an average HR of 153 bpm. I'm trying to keep my HR low, but at no point did I walk or stop. (Yes, I'm aware this is so slow that most people could walk it. In the past, my best time was about 8.5 minutes/mi, but I'm just getting back into running and my HR wants to climb very high very quickly). I stayed in constant motion.\n\nMy question is this: Is this an accurate approximation for calories burned? I've seen the general \"100 calories/mile ran\" figure thrown out several places online, including runningforfitness.org. Using that calculation, I would have only burned 500 calories on my run. If that's true, then Endomondo is telling me I burned over 2.5 times that amount. That seems like a huge discrepancy. Has anyone else experienced this?\n\nAdditional possibly relevant info: Temperature and humidity were 95 degrees (Faherenheit) and 25%. Current weight is 208 lbs, height 5'10\". HRM says I spent 40% of the run in the Aerobic zone (70-80%) and 60% in the Anaerobic zone (80-90%).", "summary": "Endomondo+HRM say 1300+ calories after 5 mile run, conventional wisdom says 500. Which is correct?"}
{"id": "t3_3jr6ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/F] with my boyfriend [29 M] of 8 months will not drive but I want him to learn", "post": "I love my boyfriend. I want to help him feel like it's safe to drive. He says he has a lot of anxiety behind the wheel and is afraid of killing someone. But I want him to drive. I don't hate driving but what if there is an emergency and he has to drive me or someone to the hospital? He gives me 60$ every month to pay for gas to make up for his refusal to drive but I am starting to resent him. Before anyone suggests therapy we have been to therapy over this and it doesn't seem to have worked. I don't know what to do. Has their been anyone else in this situation where the love of their life is too scared to drive?", "summary": "boyfriend is too afraid to drive and I am starting to resent him"}
{"id": "t3_1wuw5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex-girlfriend [20 F] of a little over a year, recently broke up with me and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "My girlfriend recently broke up with me (Friday) and I'm not sure what to do. We had been fine, at least I think, until maybe December. She seemed a bit distant and I wanted to give her her space but maybe that's where I fucked up? Maybe I should of told her how I felt more instead of worrying I might scare her away. I seriously thought she was the one and still do. The break up seemed so out of the blue to me. We've never fought. Nothing seemed wrong. And when I asked her why she said she just didn't feel the same way anymore.\n\nI know it seems pretty straight forward, but I just don't understand. Maybe I'm too young or whatever and can't rationalize it but regardless its killing me. I've talked with friends and made sure no one was mad at her for it and for general advice, but I'm tired of the same advice. I'm tired of hearing \"you need to move on\" and the like. I don't want to move on. I've been friends with her for roughly five years and I've been crazy about her since the day I met her. When I finally confessed and she said she felt the same way, I don't think I had ever been happier. And this has genuinely been the best year of my life.\n\nI've talked to her since then and told her I was ok with being friends. Kind of doing a \"fake it till ya make it\" thing but I know its not going to work. I'm basically lying saying I want to be friends. I mean I want to be her friend like we used to but I'll always want to be more. What can I do to remind her how she felt? She's not the type to run off and find someone else so soon. I know I'm only 20 but I really don't want that to be part of the equation. Who cares how old I am. I just know I want her. And I do want her to be happy, but I want her to be happy with me. I just want someone to tell me what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a year broke up with me. Was best friends with her for five years. I want advice other than to move on, even though I'm starting to realize that's probably all I can do."}
{"id": "t3_4swce0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my Dad[50sM],he is both physically and emotionally abusive , my family is thinking of leaving him but now I feel guilty.", "post": "My Father has a long history of abuse. He has basically trapped my Mother for their entire marriage and now that we have the opportunity to leave I can't help but feel guilty that we're leaving him.\n\n He has beaten both my mother and me and is generally abusive.The most recent occasion was on my birthday where he pulled the car over while driving on the motorway and turned the lights off, so we were basically invisible, and then locked us in the car. This is not the first time where i have felt that he has endangered my life. Another instance is when I was young and having trouble with homework. He got frustrated and tried to make me go to bed. When I refused he grabbed me by the collar of my shirt and dragged me up the stairs by the neck.\n\n When he has been asked to leave previously he has refused and told us he would kill himself if we left him. I completely believe that he would kill himself, he would be forced to live with his mother and he has no income. \n \n Despite all he has done to me and my family in the past, I feel like I am personally responsible for him ending up alone even though all of this is his own doing. I think this is because when he isn't being abusive I love him to death and he is a great guy. I hate the idea of him dying alone. It feels wrong to leave him alone as he is getting older.\n\n Am I right to feel like this and should we even be leaving?", "summary": "My father has been abusing my family for years but I still feel sorry that we're thinking of leaving."}
{"id": "t3_wlu11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and my boyfriend's split is inevitable. Is it a bad idea to continue with the relationship?", "post": "I am 20f and have been with 21m for about a year.\n\nLike most redditors, I am unreligious, and really don't want or feel a need to be. My boyfriend's church holds a huge place and is very important to him.\n\nHe told me he \"feels like [he] would only marry somebody that is a part of [his] church.\" Well, I don't think I'm going to become part of any church.... Ever...\n\nHe knows this but hopes for the opposite. However, I know I won't. Therefore, an eventual split is inevitable.\n\nIs it unhealthy to continue our relationship only to know we will definitely have to break up sometime?", "summary": "boyfriend and I will break up eventually. Unhealthy to continue the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_kqsw5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I think I have a personality disorder... now what?", "post": "throwaway account...\n\nSo I was reading a reddit post the other day and I came across someone who mentioned they had Schizoid Personality Disorder, and, being the internet zombie that I am, I idly did a wikipedia search.  The article was disturbingly close to me in a lot of ways, trapped in fantasy worlds, grandiose self-assessment, inability to make close connections except with a few people, sexual encounters (many) that don't lead to relationships, etc.  Writing this I see how it is a bit comically close to the stereotype of the normal redditor, and I know self-diagnosis is always dangerous.  Even taking this into consideration I just would like to hear if anyone themselves has had this sort of condition and led a productive, successful life with lots of meaningful connections to people?  Also, if there are any people with backgrounds in mental health with any advice?  I work in a developing country so I don't have access to direct care.  \n\nMaybe I'm overreacting, maybe wikipedia gets under my skin too much, I'd like to hear that, too!", "summary": "Armchair diagnostician sees himself in wikipedia definition of Schizoid Personality Disorder, seeks advice."}
{"id": "t3_fcnjk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there something wrong with me?", "post": "So I made a throwaway for this.  Basically I'm 18, I'm on a gap year before I go off to Uni... and I have no friends any more.  All my friends are at this whole let's-go-out-clubbing-every-single-night-and-failing-that-let's-get-drunk-at-the-pub phase.  All they are interested in is getting shitfaced and as much boy attention as they can possibly get.  I feel that they are all so superficial and shallow now and they never used to be like that... that's why I was friends with them before.  Now it's totally different.  I can feel them all just leaving me behind because I'm not a party go-er and don't feel the need to go out half naked every day of the week to get attention from guys.  Every conversation they have these days when I'm with them is who is have sex with who, who is a bitch, who's hair is stupid, who is fat, who is ugly, and to be honestly, I couldn't give a shit about stuff like that.  I would rather be friends with down to earth fat and ugly people than people like this.  So most of you may just be wondering why I don't just leave them alone and find someone else... well the truth is, I don't have anyone else.  I feel like the socially retarded oddball in this situation and I'm in no position to find anyone else to put up with me as a friend.  Anyone else ever been in this situation and how did you feel/cope with it all.  Thanks reddit.", "summary": "I have no friends because they're all attention seekers"}
{"id": "t3_3d3vsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [25 F] cheated on me [27 M]. Can't move on with her social media. Advice / strength required!", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nFirstly, apologies for taking up your time with something that I'm not sure I could say out loud for how ridiculous it is. \n\nThe short story - girl I was seeing for a few months cheated on me, it was a huge blow to me as I was really falling for her. Found out a month ago, not spoken to her since although she's text me a couple of times telling me that she can't live with herself etc. \n\nRelationship wise there is no coming back from what she's done, but, the problem I have is that I feel somehow still connected to her in the sense that I can check up on her Facebook. Despite what she's done to me, this is still somehow comforting - seeing what she's up to, when she was last active, etc. I've maintained with friends that deleting her would suggest I'm thinking about her, and that indifference is a better approach, but I think that the reality is I know deleting her online is basically the final cord cutting between us.\n\nCan somebody tell me what I need to hear to totally erase her? I'm pretty sure that's what I need to do but just cannot press the button! Apologies again for something so trivial & thanks for any words of advice!", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me. Struggling to delete her social media. What should I do?!"}
{"id": "t3_1k1cii", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How can I save my plans for short trips and adventures so that I can share and easily access them online?", "post": "I like planning short excursions and saving them for future access, when I'm ready for some adventure.\n\nAre there any good websites out there to help plan, and save locations for small to medium size trips. For example, I like to use google maps to save nice beaches, swimming holes and beach access close to me. I also like to save fun towns close to me that I want to explore, restaurants, and other adventures. I feel like there must be a better tool than google maps. \n\nFor example, my co-worker just gave me a good suggestion for a local beach that is great for kids, a nice place to rent paddle boards, a good place to get a picnic and an island to paddle to. I'd love to save all of this in one area so that I can access it and share it with others. Then, some weekend, when I have time for a short adventure, I can look up my saved trips and pick one. I'll have all the directions and details ready.", "summary": "Suggestions for a website that helps plan for weekend excursions and adventures? Something that can save multiple adventures and is easy to share with others?"}
{"id": "t3_4fczsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my 18 [M] are having issues based on religion.", "post": "Ok so first of all I am 100% new to Reddit so I'm still figuring this out, but I saw this subreddit and thought I might finally be able to find some help with this. \n\nSo here it goes, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now (which I know isn't a super long time) and we are so good together, I have never met anyone like him he is the most caring and genuinely nice guy I have ever met. But we have a difference in religion and I don't know what to do about it. \n\nI am not a religious person, and I never had been but i am also not opposed to religion (I like to think that anything is a possibility) anyways my boyfriend is very Christian which I'm totally cool with I even go to church with him fairly regularly and probably about a month ago he was asking me all these things about if i've been able to open myself up to god yet. Pretty much what it is is he wants me to become a christian and I don't think I can do it. I called him on the phone that night in tears trying to explain to him that I couldn't just change my entire belief system without changing who I am. My boyfriend is determined that if I am unable to change my beliefs that we cannot work out in the long run and I am so confused.  Like if I am going to be in a relationship with someone I want it to be for the long run, I don't want to waste my time and have myself even more hurt in the future if things stay like this. He makes me the happiest girl in the world when we are together, but at night I am stuck awake thinking about this and how inevitably we are going to break up. Can someone help?", "summary": "Me and my boyfriend have different beliefs, boyfriend wants me to change to be with him, don't know what to do. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3arrtr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf [23 F] of 2 years are in a pickle. Need advice on how to get her to want to do couple activities again and not lead separate lives. I think she's the one.", "post": "We both lead very busy lives, her so more than me. I took it for granted that she should make more time for us when I haven't been putting initiative and effort in to planning quality time together. Now she doesn't want to do anything with me. Help! How do I get back in her life even though we live together? I know that she still loves me despite not talking right now.", "summary": "I messed up! Took her time for granted. Advice on how to get her to want to spend quality time together again?"}
{"id": "t3_4ex0yk", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "SV- 10 lbs down. Wife and I are losing weight together and dad just made a bet with us...", "post": "M, 35yo, 6' 2\", SW: 353.4 lbs. CW: 342.8 lbs. GW: 250 lbs.\n\n10 pounds down today. Still a long way to go before I get to 250, which is my first REAL goal. My wife and I are both going on long walks together (sometimes with the kids too). We're both tracking calories with MFP, and we both just bought each other Misfit trackers. We're trying to average 3 miles/day of power walking. Once I get to a healthy size, I think I'll try C25K, but I worried right now about damaging my knees and ankles at my current weight.\n\nSo anyway. On to the bet. My father has been on me since Christmas to lose weight so I don't end up dying of heart disease. I told him about my 10 lb loss and he said that if my Wife and I lose a combined 150 lbs, that he will buy us a new fishing boat (which is something we've been wanting for a long time now but couldn't really afford).\n\nLooking forward to the free boat, pops. Game on.", "summary": "Get Skinny, win a boat."}
{"id": "t3_213xxb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I did something new today.", "post": "Today I took my first pregnancy test ever during the night on an empty field, behind my boyfriend's car, with the stoplights as my only source of light\n\nI'm 19 and about to finish my senior year in high school. I've been planning to go to university in another country, because the educational system is better there and because I don't want to be stuck in my hometown my whole life. I've always been among the best students in my classes. My parents have never had to make me study or do my homework because I've always been responsible enough to take care of my school situation without involving them.\n\nMy current boyfriend is not the first one I've had and I've educated myself about contraception from a young age. I've always used condoms when engaging in vaginal sex. I am aware that they are not 100% effective.\n\nMy period being late a few days, I decided to go buy a few pregnancy tests, since I couldn't bear not knowing for sure and I couldn't concentrate on activities that kept my mind off the whole situation.\n\nBy this point I had, of course, talked about all of it with my boyfriend. So we met up, he took me to one of the few pharmacies that were open at 10 pm on a Saturday in my little town and after getting a judgmental look from the old lady pharmacist, I had three pregnancy tests ready to be used in my bag.\n\nSo we went on an empty field and stopped there. I followed the instructions on the box. I did two of the three tests, then went back in the car, waiting for the results. We waited 5 minutes, as the instructions said.\n\nBoth the tests were negative.\n\nI felt my life shift back to normal. I am now extremely grateful for everything I have and I wouldn't change a thing about my life in this moment.\n\nWe should maybe use another method of contraception besides condoms, so that we won't put ourselves through this again. Maybe we won't be so lucky the next time.\n\nJust to be sure, I'll do the last test tomorrow morning.", "summary": "Had a huge pregnancy scare at 19 that made me appreciate my life more."}
{"id": "t3_2yimyq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By putting down a coke", "post": "Today (yes actually today!) it seemed like a normal Monday. School was boring and eighth hour rolls around so I am kinda losing my concentration. Anyway of course we have a lab in chemistry today and it involves (you guessed it, coca cola). Anyway we have a 2 liter bottle of coke all in this one huge glass beaker. My group is first so I grab the beaker and pour my group a cup for the lab. Then I like a normal human being decide to put it down back on the table. Problem is il even though I put it down as slow and cautious as possible it simply makes contact with the table(going under .2 miles an hour and then this whole about a 2x2 inch hole busts open in the bottom of the beaker. Of course I wonder why coke is spilling all over the floor. This all happening while literally my whole class and lab partners laugh at me. Needless to say I turn beet red. This is just the beginning. Then my teacher goes here you can start cleaning up. So I had to clean coke off the floor for 10 minutes. While my whole class was snickering at me. And of course since coke is sticky my shoes went \"swirl squek\" for the rest of the day. Very much dreadin eighth period tomorrow.", "summary": "fucked up by spilling the coke everywhere and being embarrassed forevermore in that class"}
{"id": "t3_3cqket", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not picking up on her \"signs\"", "post": "As per usual this didn't happen today, happened to me about five years back in highschool.\n\nAt the time, I was almost done 11th grade and yet to have a serious relationship but have had a few flings here and there. Any ways, so there was a new girl that transferred from China on this home-stay program, so evidently she didn't really know anyone. Luckily my principal threw me a bone and asked me to show her around the school. Quickly we became good friends with a lot of common interests (video games, anime, movies, etc.). We would spend a lot of time together after school at my house or occasionally at her home-stay, of course me being what you call \"Oblivious as fuck\", I just thought this was just being friends. \n\nEventually she would skip classes to just hang out with me during my lunch (My school didn't have common lunch) which I again just thought was \"Friends being friends\". She would always ask me to hang out with her on the weekend and over half the time I would cancel on her, I wouldn't feel bad because she would ask me every weekend, another sign I didn't pick up on. At this point, people would ask us if we were dating cause we were together so much.\n\nNow, at this point it was summer and we would Skype all night talking about relationships, sex, and whether we would date each other. I fucked up hard and called us **best friends**. I friendzoned a girl who was super into me... After that she slowly started to not have feelings for me, and it kinda settled down from then, this time I was super into her but never realised she felt the same way. After about a year, once we had graduated, we were talking about highschool crushes and her feelings to me evidently came up. I was completely shocked and told her that I liked her too. I felt like an idiot, she made fun of me a bit telling me that she made it super obvious. \n\nWe're still really good friends and talk a lot still, this time I made sure she doesn't have feelings. Still wish I tapped that though.", "summary": "A girl had feelins for me, threw out all the signs, I was dumb and didn't catch on."}
{"id": "t3_2xrqa5", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So i just had sleep paralysis for the first time in my life", "post": "It's fucking horrible. It's barley midnight and I'm kind of dreading morning. \n\nIt was so vivid it's ridiculous. I can CLEARLY remember everything! \n\nI'll paint the picture. \n\nI'm sleeping in my room, with water flowing under my bed and friends laying down at what seemed like other beds around us. Typical dream, in kind of a camping sense. \n\nThere was lightning and wind. I grab a picture with a date on it and take a look. It said 10-3-4 (apparently that's supposed to be the date). But somehow in front of the wall in my room the date was different. So things begin to...flash. \n\nKind of like when there's those fireworks that flash white but it felt like more of when time is correcting itself if you go back in time and look at yourself. \n\nhere's where the shitty part starts. I look to my left and i see MYSELF crawling in a demon-line way towards me with my blankets coming off by themselves! I yell \"Go Away!!\" in a mentally challenges kinda of way and i couldn't move! It starts crawling backwards until it dissappears. \n\nAll of this while my eyes were open! How the fuck does this happen? Jesus ive always wondered what that felt like. FUCK THAT! People can have heart attacks like that from the sheer terror! \n\nI never want to experience that ever again. Ever. Talk about traumatizing. Hearing my uncles snores from the next room are so peace enduring it's amazing! I'd usually hate hearing him snore, but now, I appreciate every single one that hw lets out.", "summary": "Had sleep paralysis for the first time ever, fuck that."}
{"id": "t3_wd4rm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your single, most disgusting or foul habit that you keep to your self?", "post": "Tell reddit about your most disgusting, detestable, or downright gross habit that you fulfill, or used to fulfill, daily.... Knowing some of you, you may need your throwaways.", "summary": "Bathroom ritual leads to self analysis and eventual disgust within a 7 year old.[/b]"}
{"id": "t3_zd5l4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't know anymore.", "post": "Basically I feel like a hypocrite. My whole life I've lived with an \"above the influence\" perspective, growing up in a home based on the values of God and morals. I've never wanted to be that person who drank and smoked and loosely allowed myself to hook up with boys. I've always had a problem with those people who went to church and put on an act of being so perfect, but going out and partying hard the next chance they got. But here I am now doing just that. It all started junior year, slowly taking it all in drinking here and there. And now here comes senior year, big and bad, top dog. Schools started back up and every weekend I've gone out and drank and got baked off my ass. For lack of a better term, I've been fucked beyond belief. I've fooled around with guys not even remembering their names or what they look like the next morning . I'm not even going to deny the fact that I enjoy drinking and smoking and messing around with someone. But I continue to go to church and act as if nothing has happened, it makes my parents happy when I go to church, and it's not something I would want to give up, religion is actually a big part in my life. I'm not even sure what I'm asking, I guess just your input. So Reddit, hand it to me.", "summary": "I am a church going, alcoholic, whore, who smokes weed and feels like a hypocrite."}
{"id": "t3_3wrx8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My cousin [45M] just sent me [22F] an apology/thank you letter and I don't know how to respond", "post": "A couple of years ago, my uncle (by marriage prior to my birth) was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. It was a very final situation, with everyone preparing themselves for when he passed away.\n\nI was going to university nearby and when I went to visit with some vegetarian food for my aunt, they asked me to move in to help out. They paid me, I wasn't entirely a paragon of charity in all this, but when I agreed, it was to maintain a small farm and do all the cooking and cleaning and some of the care to let my aunt focus on her husband while still keeping her job.\n\nA few months in, my cousin moved back too to spend time with his father. This was really hard for him on a few levels - he was close with his dad, he moved away from all his friends, he was in a wheelchair in a rural environment, so found it difficult to leave the house further than the deck out front. And he took it out on his step-mother and I upon occasion, generally acting like a snarly teenager despite being twice my age. I didn't take it too personally, just mentally labelled him a bit of a dick and kept on keeping on.\n\nOnce my uncle passed away, I stuck around to help out with the funeral and so forth, and then left to go travelling. It's been two years since that six month period in which my cousin and I lived together, and I just received a hand written letter from him.\n\nIt apologises for his treatment of me and talks about how great I was, and how envious he was of both my attitude and my ability to concretely help. It references several specific events that he has clearly been lingering over that I... Just haven't, honestly. I basically forgot about it a few weeks later, and have been way too busy to linger on.\n\nWhat's the protocol here? Am I supposed to write a letter back, acknowledging that his behaviour was unpleasant but understandable and that I forgive him for it? It's clearly been weighing upon him much more than the other way around.", "summary": "My cousin just sent me a heart felt apology letter for something I honestly don't care much about. How do I respond without dismissing that?"}
{"id": "t3_xwx5f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is wittiest thing you've ever said that has backfired on you?", "post": "I'll start: When I was in High School we were learning how to use the professional cameras in our yearbook class. In the class of 30+ students there were only 6 cameras, so we went outside and 6 students got a camera while the rest of the students lined up along a fence along a road. As it turned out I was standing next to an extremely attractive Jewish girl and in my efforts to woo her I turned to her and said \"I bet this isn't the first time your people have been lined up against a fence and gotten shot at.\"\nShe wound up crying and freaking out a lot until she told the teacher. The teacher was so upset he didn't let me back into the course the following year.", "summary": "I think I'm a racist."}
{"id": "t3_3iyy4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] have come to the conclusion that normal relationships (heterosexual, monogamous) don't work for me. I've been told that I'm in love with my friends. Is this a viable type of relationship?", "post": "Hello, \n\nI've been raised in a very repressive and religious household, in which the only option I considered was monogamous and heterosexual. But as I've grown older, I've been in multiple relationships over the years and I've never really thought of them as long lasting. My friendships have been the most important to me. \n\nMy friends have been there for me through good times and bad, allow me to be myself without guilt or shame (two issues I struggle with per my upbringing) and don't drain me of my time, attention, money, or energy the way a normal romantic relationship does. I'm extremely sexual and most of my friends are women, and I would love to have sex with most of those in my circle, not as a bragging right or just to get off, but because I actually care for them and love them as people. Sex and physical affection is just how I connect with humans, which is generally difficult for me to do, and jealousy is not something that I've ever had a problem with. \n\nThat's what I would like, but I've never heard of such a style of love or relationship before. I just want people in my life that I can interact with and love without them wanting to claim dominion over everything. Is this a viable style of relationship?", "summary": "I want to be in a relationship with most of my friends simultaneously, on a level deeper than FWB. Has anyone heard of a such a relationship style that works well for those involved?"}
{"id": "t3_2btv7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 6 months (3 in person, 3 long distance), growing distant and wants a break", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now, the last 3 of which have been long distance (about 1k+ miles apart). When we were together in person everything was absolutely wonderful, we were very in love and talked all the time when not together. No issues to speak of. Then classes ended for the semester (we are both grad students) and I stayed in the city our university is in while she returned to her hometown because she could not afford rent over the summer. \n\nAt first, while long distance, everything was still great. She was stressed some, but because of unrelated factors, and I did my best to be there for her even from so far away. But now, 3 months later, things have tapered off. We barely talk anymore, though I still attempt to get conversations going. I am fairly certain it is all the long distance that is causing it, since neither of us has been able to visit the other and it is not a very long lasting relationship so far to begin with.\n\nAnyway, she just texted me that she wants a break until she returns. We knew going into summer that we would be apart for only the 4 month period that is summer break from classes, and while a bit lonely I have not had too many issues waiting for her to return so we can be together again. She says she just wants to be on break until she gets back, but with how distant we have been I am worried. Should I be? I feel like I am rambling by now, but I just wanted to put this somewhere and maybe get some advice.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants a break and I just need some advice, this is my first relationship and I don't really want it to end now when it was going so well."}
{"id": "t3_2d6wds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] still have an uneasy bad feeling after an argument with my [18F] girlfriend of 4 months, even though we are both over the argument now", "post": "So me and my Girlfriend got in an argument Thursday night, that caused a lot of bickering and arguments over the entire weekend. It wasn't over anything major and the argument is over now and were fine now.\n\nShe's the most caring, affectionate partner I'v ever had and I love her so when she went cold on me throughout the weekend as well as us having been argumentative with each other, which we never are It was slightly shocking\n\nEven though I'm not mad at her anymore and we'v both apologized and forgave each other I'm still kinda raw after it all\n\nIt's like I have tunnel vision and can only concentrate on what happened.\n\nI don't think I should tell my girlfriend I'm still raw after it all because when we bring up what happened it really brings the mood down.\n\nShe's back to her amazing affectionate self now and I'm being very positive to her so do I just need time? \n\nThis is my first relationship and first argument that lasted more than a day so is this normal?", "summary": "Got in my first big argument with my first serious girlfriend, everything fine now, but I'm still feeling bad, is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3jrinr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally throwing a lit cigarette butt in a bin", "post": "I was in front of a discount sports store, about to go in, while smoking a cigarette. I, inspired by my civil spirit, decided to kill the cigarette and throw it in the bin instead of flicking it to the ground. I can perfectly remember me squishing the cigarette against iron case surrounding the bin; yet, apparently, without enough might.\n\nMinutes later-- after a swift purchase at the store --I heard people saying that the bin was, in fact, on fire. People from the store came out to put out the fire, while I was queuing.\n\nLesson of the day:\n\nLitter. Else you might damage society in another way.\n\n[", "summary": "] I threw an apparently still lit cigarette butt in a bin and set it on fire."}
{"id": "t3_l4mf1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Coolest 60's inspired gifts you can think of for my best friend's birthday, please!", "post": "So, it's my best friend's birthday soon and he's made a challenge out of getting him a gift. He told me that he didn't need anything and he has refused to give me any useful information, including clothing measurements and his mailing address for his college. \nHowever, I am not deterred! \nI want to get him the coolest 60's inspired present i can. \nYou see, he's kind of an nostalgic guy; he really wishes he lived in the 60's but not for the hippie crap, for the more elegant and proper and just generally more badass styles and times. \nThink Madmen (which he is a huge fan of, the Beatles, too.)", "summary": "Basically, Reddit, can you help me come up with an awesome 60's inspired gift for him, be it clothing or merchandise or art or anything awesome that you may have come across? "}
{"id": "t3_uuat4", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I hate having sex and just got broken up with over it. Is there any hope of me ever having a successful long-term relationship? (Details inside.)", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right place for this - if there is a more appropriate subreddit please do direct me there...\n\nSo here is my deal. I'm on a medication that kills my sex drive. I take the meds for a mental illness and I will be on them for the rest of my life - changing meds or going off them completely is not an option.\n\nI just got out of a 2+ year relationship with a woman who was extremely understanding and whom I loved very much. (I'm a woman too, by the way.) We had sex maybe once every few months, and when we did I couldn't get into it. Over the course of the relationship she started to get more and more frustrated at our lack of sex until finally she broke it off. It was a very amicable breakup and one that we both agreed needed to happen.\n\nSince then I've been thinking a lot about whether I'll ever be able to be in a healthy relationship. My ex was as loving and understanding as a person could be but even she couldn't stay with a person who wasn't able to be intimate. I liked being romantic and cuddling and all of that stuff but sex is just something that my body is not interested in. I tried faking it but found it emotionally exhausting. I just plain don't like it.\n\nI am only 24 and she was my first real long-term relationship, but I can't help feeling very depressed at my relationship outlook. Is there any hope for me to ever find a partner who will want to stay with me long-term despite a lack of intimacy? Should I resign myself to a lifetime of faking it and putting myself through unpleasant sex time and time again in order to maintain a relationship?", "summary": "No sex drive because of a necessary medication. Feel like I will never be able to be in a relationship because of it. Advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_133pqj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What's the nicest good Samaritan act that you've been on the receiving end of?", "post": "Today, I woke up late to work. So I pretty much just threw on my uniform, brushed my teeth and hair, and bolted out the door. I didn't grab my purse and thus had no money on me. I got to work just fine, but on the way back home from work I noticed my tank was under \"E\". I tried really hard to make the gas last, but my car just wasn't having it and it ran out in the middle of the highway a few exits from my house. \n\nI managed to get my car to the shoulder, and I tried calling a few friends for help. But within five minutes, a random van pulls up onto the shoulder in front of me and back up to just in front of my car. A man steps out, comes to my car, and asks me what the problem is. I tell him my car ran out of gas, and since I had been late for work, I ran out of my house with no money to fill up my tank. He just smiled at me and says \"I knew I got out of work early today for a reason. I have some gas.\" \n\nHe put a gallon and a half in my tank. He refused to give me his name, or phone number, or address so I could pay him back. He just smiled and waved and left. I thanked him profusely, of course. I still can't believe something like that happened to me!", "summary": "My car broke down and this amazing dude stopped and gave me gas out of the goodness of his heart"}
{"id": "t3_3wixoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18] girlfriend[16] wants to start smoking how do I stop her?", "post": "So I am together with this girl for almost 10 months, the relationship is kinda LDR, we are from the same city but we go to different cities to highschool and we we see each other every 2 weeks, and of course in holydays. Three weeks ago we broke up, we were kinda fighting a lot for 3-4 days coz she said I was too possesive, because texted her to not drink a lot the night she got to the club with her friends, and she said she wants to try smoking but didn't let her so we were fighting on the phone about this.\n\nSo she texted me after 2 days of fighting that she felt lonely and not atracted anymore, but of course I tought this isn't true, after we broke up, 3 days later she said she felt more free than she was with me, i started starting crying and shit...but she said to me to stop and not cry after her coz it hurts her. After 2 weeks she calls me and starts crying that she wants me back that she loves me and she can't lose me, that she was confused when she said that she wasn't atracted anymore and felt alone and asked if we can be back together. Of course I said yes...I'm madly in love with her.\n\nThat day she said to me that she smoked i cigarette but she didn't liked it, and wants to try more. I said again to her that I've been were she is , that 3 years ago I smoked like 20 cigarettes but stoped for simply reason that it's bad for health to smoke and the smell is so unattractive. But she didn't listen, 3 days later she told me she smoked again and she liked it this time, I ask her if she wants to start smoking and she said she isn't sure she just wants to smoke from time to time, not everyday or every week. But I don't belive it's possible , i have friend who smoked from time to time and then started full time...So my question is how do I stop her without being possesive about her life?\n\nSorry for mistakes, my english isn't very good...", "summary": "How do I stop girlfriend from smoking without being possesive?"}
{"id": "t3_2f9ewr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ME [22/F] torn about how to treat my cheating father", "post": "A few months ago, I found out that my dad was having an affair on my mom. He had been having an affair for a year and a half. He had been married to my mom for 30 years (and had 4 kids together), so as you can imagine, it was a pretty hard blow to the family. My first thought was how could my dad do something like this to my family. But I honestly didn`t hate him. But as the months have gone by, I realised how manipulative my father is. He has made me feel bad for him! He`ll tell me how lonely he is living on his own and how he wished things would go back to normal. He doesn`t understand why my mom hasn`t forgiven him and let him move home. I`ve finally realized that I need to stop feeling sorry for him because he put himself in this situation. I remember thinking when I was younger, that if my dad ever cheated that I would hate him and never talk to him. But that's not the case. I am still talking to him, but it`s because I feel bad for him if I don`t. He`s manipulated me into feeling this way. I don`t know what to do or what to feel. Should I stop talking to him or should I continue on trying to re-build our relationship because he is my dad? Any advice would be great.", "summary": "Dad cheated on my mom, don't know how to act with him"}
{"id": "t3_4kmwbm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] good friend [16M] and my crush [17F] just started dating. Its fucking killing me on the inside.", "post": "I've liked this girl for quite a while now. We started out as good friends who helped each other out whenever we were going through something. I think I was drawn to her not just because of personality/looks, but by the fact that we could be honest with each other. Gradually, I started to have feeling for her. I assumed that we could become something. Around 3 months ago however, she found out about my feelings. She started to try to avoid me. I took notice to this, but never assumed that she was ignoring me because she discovered. Eventually, she had a talk with me. She told me that she knew about everything, and that she didn't feel the same (obviously). She told me that I shouldn't ask her to senior prom or hang out with her for a while before she could straighten her feelings out. We didn't talk to each other for a few weeks afterwards. We eventually made up, but we don't hang out or talk much at all. I eventually found our however, that my friend told her of my crush on her. That same friend decided to ask her to junior prom. From what I've heard, the two are currently in a relationship. They are both going to senior prom together as well, this time as a couple. Me and the girl will both go to college in a few months, but its killing me how I essentially lost two friends over some stupid bullshit. Me and my friend haven't really talked much since either. \n\nI'm hurt on two fronts. First, my friend decided to throw me under the bus for his personal gain. Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, I realize that she chose him over me. I'm not as jealous anymore, but I would like to do something to remedy the situation. I want all of us to get along somehow. I know this sub is mostly for relationship stuff, but I'm not sure where else I can find help. \n\nSo, any advice guys?", "summary": "Title says all. Just want the best for all of us."}
{"id": "t3_38ievg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a photocopier whilst still tired", "post": "This morning, about half an hour into my morning shift at work experience (I only had about 5 hours sleep so I was quit tired), I was asked to take 20 copies of one document and 25 of another, both of them have the same back (a grid). No big deal right? \n\nWRONG!\n\nAfter the machine had finished copying the last of the fronts, I took all the copies and placed them back into the paper tray so I could get it to copy the grid onto the back of the 45 sheets. But I forgot to turn the document around so instead of copying the grid, it copied the front onto the back all 45 sheets of paper YAAAAAAY!!!", "summary": "Used photocopier whilst tired and printed the front of a document onto both sides of 45 sheets of paper."}
{"id": "t3_4ef4hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Non-Romantic. How do I [30F] come to terms with the fact that my brothers [26M and 33M] will never want to spend time with me and my family?", "post": "I probably need to just get over myself on this so other perspectives would be great. I keep trying to arrange things to do with my brothers, but they aren't interested. I have a really close relationship with my parents who we see daily, but I in no way push for this level of contact with them, but I wish they wanted to see me/my husband/my 2 sons ever- once a month would be great! \n\nMy youngest has a disability so we moved back to our home town 2 years ago as I was struggling in the city we lived in before, my mum is amazing support and absolutely my best friend. I think we have a great balance now for his care and general family life so I dont think we can be dragging things down too much, we occaisionally have to cut trips short for him or plan things a little more but I make sure we never burden any one else with our schedule/expectations. \n\n I try to see my older brothers kids weekly so our children can at least grow up close- but my brother rarely joins in, although I have a good relationship with his wife. My younger brother only comes to me when he wants something ordering from amazon prime as he doesnt have it or recently to help him reunite with his estranged girlfriend. They do join in at events like Christmas, Easter and Birthdays but only because they 'have' to. \n\nI know that they are adults and as long as I live I will try to make no strings attached offers for fun hang outs, we have a varied and active social life away from my family so I would hope that I am not asking too much from them. I just have an aching sadness that they reject our company but I seem to be their first port of call in an emergency/crisis. I know its ok for them to be low contact and I know I cant force them to change and frankly would only want them to change if itcame from them. I just miss them both and wish it didnt hurt.", "summary": "My brothers are pretty low contact, no negativity or animosity but I only see them when they want something/need something. Love them to pieces so it hurts and I'd like to deal with that hurt without asking for anything from them, as they clearly dont want to give it. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2yl4xn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 6 months, overthinking everything/anxiety", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I developed a serious crush on her last summer and we started going out towards the end of it. She's always on my mind and when I'm with her time flies and I have fun even though we usually just do nothing and enjoy each others company. We text literally 24/7 and have done so for nearly a year. She gets on really well with my family and they all love her. I travel an 8 hour round trip to be with her every weekend and it never bothers me.\n\nI get really anxious sometimes though, especially when I'm far away.(I should mention I've been seen by a therapist for anxiety in the past). I'm scared that if I get drunk I'll fuck up and cheat on her (when I do get drunk all I can think about is her and I calm down) and I'm scared to grow too close to other girls in case I develop feelings for them. I also can't sleep if she's out without me and I just feel really protective and get jealous very quickly. I know these things are seriously unhealthy and I have every reason to trust her and myself but I just overthink everything.\n\nI think about my old crush from high school and sometimes I feel a nice warmth from thinking about when we used to kiss etc. I had a massive crush on that girl (obviously she was my first crush) and I worry if I'm over it. She has a boyfriend now and I feel no resentment or jealousy or anything like that so I'm pretty sure I am. I just feel wrong for finding other girls attractive and lusting over them. There's some notion in me that I should only have nice feelings for my girlfriend and no one else. \n\nI'm just really fucking scared and anxious and I hate thinking about it. It only happens when I'm far away and I fucking hate it. Please help me.", "summary": "Extremely anxious over seemingly nothing: HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_4wl2ht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with a [25 F] I've been on multiple dates with, couldn't achieve an erection during an essential time", "post": "Last night we went on our 4th date - just the simple sit down for a nice dinner and movie afterwards.\n\nWe came back to my house and started making out the second we came in the door.  Prior to this, we had only kissed, but this time it led to moving to the bedroom.  We were both super turned on.  I fingered/performed oral on her and made her orgasm.  We then made out for at least 10 minutes before she said it was my turn.\n\nI had this horrible gut feeling and rush of nervousness that I was not going to be able to get hard.  Despite being so turned on and the girl being so beautiful, of course my brain got the best of me. I maintained a semi-erection for a little while (HJ/BJ), but then it just completely went away.\n\nQuestions for girls: Would this bother you if this happened to you? (I really just don't want her to feel like it's her fault, because it wasn't.) Would you consider hooking up again or is this a bad sign/deal breaker?\n\nQuestions for guys: Has this happened to you? What did you do to solve the issue of being so excited that you made yourself nervous?  Did the girl continue to date you and/or hookup with you even after you were unable to achieve an erection?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Things got hot and heavy after a date, started hooking up, and couldn't get/maintain an erection.  Does this bother girls or make them second think hooking up again?"}
{"id": "t3_34uy3t", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I take better care of my cats?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\nI recently moved in with my fiance and our cats are sharing a house  together. Prior to moving in, my two male cats (a laid back Tonkinese and a Ragdoll with anxiety issues) lived relatively stress-free lives in my two-bedroom apartment. \n\nWere there altercations? yes, but there were also moments where the two of them would enjoy each other.\n\nNow that we are in a big house, everything has changed. Where they used to sleep on my bed, it is now a rare occurrence because there is no space for them. The vast (and I mean vast) amount of space and variety of windows and other places to sleep. We have two full sized cat trees, tons of furniture and 4,000 square feet.\n\nMost of the time there isn't an issue, but whenever my Ragdoll and my fiance's long-haired male cat (think Maine Coon) meet, there is always a lot of posturing and growling from my cat and hissing and loud meowing from the other cat. \n\nWe think the ragdoll purposely sits in places because it allows him to keep control over what is going on in the main hallways. \n\nBoth of them get along with the tonk, and they can all eat as long as the Ragdoll's bowls are in the next room. I try to greet and treat all of the cats fairly, but it seems like my Ragdoll just isn't interested in getting to know my fiancee's cat. \n\nMy fiancee and I just want all the cats to be able to be in the same general area and not cause so much commotion. \n\nWe have plenty of toys, we clean the litter boxes regularly, we feed them treats in the evening at the same time when my fiancee gets home and she puts calming stuff in the water. She also recently purchased an air freshener that releases pheromones to calm the cat down.\n\nWhat else can I do?", "summary": "\u2014 How do you teach two cats that there is no reason to hate eachother? We don't want to let them just fight it out."}
{"id": "t3_3leha6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] feel tied down in 2 year relationship with girlfriend [19F]", "post": "Been dating for 2 years, but everything just feels stale. We've exchanged the v-cards and the \"I love you's\" and I really did mean it for a while. She's the only person I've ever dated and I feel as if I should get to know other people, but she's also a really good friend.\n\nI don't really have a reason to break up except for \"I want to see other people\" and I feel like that's a shitty reason because of how long we've been together.\n\nEven if I do decide to do it I have no idea how to start the conversation or explain myself. I'm horrible with grief.\n\n>", "summary": "long term relationship has me feeling like i got married at 17"}
{"id": "t3_qk8h8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you get over a breakup...when there is a strong chance of getting back together in the future?", "post": "Hey guys, so I've read all the advice posted here on getting over someone: delete from facebook and phone, throw away stuff that reminds you of them, etc. However, here's my situation--\n\nWe broke up due to jobs on opposite ends of the country after 6 months of amazing relationship at the end of college. We both have acknowledged that we can see being together in the future and that we felt things for each other we've never felt before. However, we'd rather have a shot at a clean start if we're in the same city again (probably within the year) than try long distance and have it ruin any chances of a good relationship (we've both done LDR before with other people and it didn't end well).\n\nSo here's my question- how do I \"get over\" someone who I fully intend to try to get back together with in the future? The worst part is knowing that we are both dating other people- I keep thinking she'll meet some guy and get married (very unlikely). We talk maybe once or twice a month, and just spent an amazing platonic weekend vacation together. Should I cut off communication until we're in the same city? Any help would be awesome!", "summary": "broke up due to jobs in different cities; both recognize that we may date again if we live in the same city (maybe within a year); still painful for me, but it's not worth cutting her out of my life because I still care too deeply for her"}
{"id": "t3_1nbggc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is she [15F] trying to make me [15M] jealous?", "post": "Background info: girl got out of 2 year relationship about a month ago.\n\nI have been hanging out with this girl alot. She throws me hints quite a lot, like resting her head on my shoulder, saying she likes tall guys in front of me(I'm tall), etc.\n\n2 days ago I told her I needed to ask her something the next day. We live in the same apartment complex, so she told me she wanted to know now, but I kept telling her I would tell her tomorrow.\n\nNow, that next day we hung out with my best friend and her best friend. I could tell that she was into him, so I asked her and she said yes. She said she felt like a bitch but she just sees us as being best friends.\n\nIs all of this because I didn't make a move on her while she was flirting with me because I didn't want to be the rebound or is it just truly not there?", "summary": "is she playing games?"}
{"id": "t3_1c2sbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23) girlfriend (21) wants me to be the father of her child and for me to call me dad.", "post": "Here's the story: My (23) girlfriend (21) of 7 months has a son who is about to turn 2. His biological father is a dead beat and not in the picture at all. He doesn't see him, or pay child support. Naturally, my girlfriend doesn't want her son to grow up without a father so she expects me, as her boyfriend, to fulfill that role. I should mention that her and I do live together so I am the primary male role model in his life.\n\nA little about me: I am divorced and have a 3 year old son and share joint custody. My ex-wife was kind of in the same situation and my current girlfriend and has a daughter who is 5. I've been in her life since she was 6 months old. While my ex and I were married I took on the role of \"dad\" and she has called me dad since she could talk, but now that her mom and I are divorced and her mom has remarried, that little girl is very confused about who her real dad is. I have since been pushed out of her life and she has been told to call her new step dad \"dad\" and me by my first name. \n\nI don't want that to happen again with my girlfriends son should we break up or eventually marry but get divorced. I told her that I don't have any problems being a father figure in his life but I don't think he should call me dad. He already gets confused because my son calls me dad and at times my girlfriends son will call me dad too but usually he calls me by my first name.", "summary": "My girlfriend of 7 months wants me to be her sons dad. I've been there and done that with my ex-wife and her daughter but It didn't work out well for anyone the first time. I told my girlfriend I want her son to call me by my first name so he's not confused if her and I ever break up or get divorced should be marry. She feels like her son is missing out on having a dad in his life and it's my responsibility to fulfill that role. "}
{"id": "t3_3diqt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33M] cheated my wife [32F] married 8 years with child.", "post": "Hi,\n\nI cheated on my wife of 8 years, been together 15 years total.  It was with a younger coworker after a party.  My wife and I have been having problems for about a year, becoming distant.  She's a very non-sexual/affectionate person, while I am certainly am.\n\nI've told her in the past months I've been unhappy, and wanted to seek counseling.  My issues are her lack of affection towards me, and often she can be downright mean. Not name calling or insulting, but just cold towards me.  It's not uncommon that she would go multiple days without as much as a hug, and if I tried to touch her, I'd be met with \"I don't want to have sex\".\n\nThere was a party over the weekend at our house we hold every year. I invited some people from work, including the girl in question.  The party was fine, everyone had some drinks.  At the end, a group was leaving to the bar, and I decided to go with, and my wife stayed home.  The girl and I got flirty, and we ended up back at her place around 2am.  We had sex (with protection), and I went home. My wife was upset I was out late, and had tracked my phone. I was drunk, didn't know what to say, and made up a story and fell asleep.  Over the next three days, she kept pressing me on it, telling me she wouldn't be upset, and I finally came clean. I told her everything, and told her it was the truth. She punched me in the eye, and hasn't really been talking to me since.\n\nNow she doesn't believe anything I say, and is accusing me of carrying on a relationship, which is not true.  It truly was a one night mistake.  I want to stay with her, and move forward.  We're scheduling marriage counseling, but can't get anything until tomorrow.  Any advice in the meantime to try and calm the situation?", "summary": "Been unhappy at home, wife doesn't pay attention to me. I cheated once with a coworker, now she doesn't believe anything I say"}
{"id": "t3_3i5jb5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "~$4,700 leftover from internship... Pay down student loans? Savings Account?", "post": "Hello PF,\n\nLong time lurker here. I am finally in a situation where I need PF's advice. I have looked on the sidebar, but I would still like a second opinion.\n\nBackground information: I am a rising junior studying business. I have just finished my corporate internship with roughly ~4.7k leftover (in my checkings, I do not have a savings account). I have 4K in emergency funds. I am starting school soon and am trying to find a Fall internship to pay for some of my expenses (have 3 interviews coming up, pretty sure I will land one). \n\nI currently have taken out ~10K in subsidized loans (won't accrue interest until 6 months after graduation). My question to you PF is, should I use 4.7K to pay down loans? Should I invest it in a savings account (the one with 1.25% APY  THEN use the money I save up to pay my loans off once I get out of college? \n\n**The kicker is that I want to make sure I have money incase I go on some trips with friends and don't want to tap into my emergency fund**\n\nThank you guys for all your help and I look forward to hearing your answers!", "summary": "I have 4.7K in my checkings account, do not have a savings account and 4K in my emergency fund. Currently ~10K in subsidized loans. Should I use the money to pay off my loans NOW? Save it then pay it off later?"}
{"id": "t3_3l62i8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forcibly celebrating the new year by accidentally ignoring my class", "post": "This happened Monday, but you know that whole deal.\n\n**Anyways**\n\nRosh Hashanah just happened, and after years of having class cancelled in school, I realized this wasn't the case in college. My 12:00 professor cancelled our class for that day quite a while ago, but the professor for my 8:30 didn't. Whatever. I guess I had to deal with that.\n\nFast forward to Sunday. Set my standard 5 alarms and sadly entered the realm of the unawakened.\n\nFast forward to Monday morning\n\n-Alarm 1: Wake up, go to the bathroom, go back to sleep\n\n-Alarm 2-5: Slap my phone, turn\n\nI finally woke up at 9:45, which is when my 8:30 ends. I decided that the only way to deal with sleeping through the class was to go back to bed until 1:00 PM.", "summary": "Forcibly imposed the Jewish new year upon my 8:30 class, made myself look more Jewish than I am by refusing to awaken*"}
{"id": "t3_2xrp4i", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Shutting down comparisons between me and my sister?", "post": "When people see a photo of my younger sister (16), the response is \"Oh my god, she's so pretty\". My (20) response is \"Yeah, she really is :)\". \n\nThe problem is that most people, even people who are otherwise pretty tactful, tend to carry *on* the discussion like this:\n\n**Them:** No, but I mean, she doesn't look like you at *all*, she's really *pretty*\n\n**Me:** Yeah, I guess we take after different sides of the family. Funny, huh?\n\n**Them:** Yeah but she's gorgeous, I literally would *never* think you guys were related.\n\nAnd on and on. I try to keep it cool, but honestly I've been getting these comparisons for such a long time from family, friends, people who've just met us. I know she's pretty. I know I'm not really. I try to be cool about it but when someone keeps pressing the issue, I get closer and closer to being like \"SHUT UP I ALREADY KNOW, ALRIGHT?\"", "summary": "How do I deal with this in a mature way without showing I'm upset?"}
{"id": "t3_1ck3vc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is some advise you can give me and other reddit users under 21?", "post": "I usually dont post because i feel like im just whining to people but i truthfully need some help. i come from a low income family my parents work all day to pay for this little trailer we live in. i have 2 younger siblings so money is. always tight around here i am currently still in high school but will be graduating soon and will have.to start applying for colleges. i just really have no idea what i want to do with my life i know i am still young but i still cant get over the fact that im not a little kid anymore. growing up is awful. i didnt have much of a childhood so i still do childish things and act immature. i havent talked to my dad in weeks because he.says im a huge dissapointment. i have a passion for music and graphic arts and simply just any type of art. i dont know how to pursue my career as an artist or a muscician. these are the only things i really enjoy to do i dont have any family or many fuends so i basically just sit at home all day play my keyboard, write and browse reddit\n i need a computer to be able to record my music so i really need a job but i have a terrible fear of people( im nervous typing this thinking someone would know me so i made a throwaway) please give me some advise or what you did at the end of your high school years before college. also i need a computer to record music with i dont have much money so i was wondering if anyone here is a muscician what is the best computer i can get for a low price. thank you for readind and sorry for the long story.", "summary": "im finishing high school whats some advice to get over my fear of the outside world and what is a good computer to record music with that doesnt cost much"}
{"id": "t3_2uge6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my friend [18F] of more than 1 year having been going out recently, how would I go about DTRing?", "post": "I somehow met an amazing girl via Facebook about a year ago and we hit it off amazingly well and have been messaging eachother daily for the whole time.\n\nRecently, we've started going out together (took so long because we were both super shy [still kinda are but comfortable around eachother]) and our messages have started sounding more and more couple-ish. \nI want to bring up what exactly we are or how she feels about me but I have no idea how to do this.\nThe only experience I have is \"wna b my gf? kl\" when I was like 11.", "summary": "known a girl for a long time, recently started seeing her, want to know what we are/where we're headed."}
{"id": "t3_206m16", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M[21] I am about to ask a F[20] out, but see her rarely in person. Help me out here!!!", "post": "So as I mentioned in the title, I have a class with this girl and we hit it off good (from what I can tell). We chat before class begins and text every so often, and we see each other personally in class every Tuesday and Thursday. I really like her and want to ask her out for coffee. But there is a problem, I don't want to ask her in class (i.e. its a strict lecture like class), and the only time I would get a chance to ask her personally is after class. The problem with this is that she always walks out with her friend EVERY SINGLE TIME. I figured that calling her is the next best thing. Is this okay, I need to know if it is or not.", "summary": "I rarely see this girl in person, but we talk to each other quite a bit, is asking her out for a date over the phone bad?"}
{"id": "t3_xmr0l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "30 Chinese college students are coming to my house for a cookout.  Chinese Redditors who have spent significant time in the USA, what are some American cookout type foods that would be interesting to try on a first time ~3 week trip to the USA that will go over well (aka will actually get eaten)?", "post": "I teach in China and a large group of students (~30 + ~5 admin) from the University I teach at are spending ~3 weeks this summer visiting the USA including a couple weeks at the University I graduated from which is very close to my hometown.  My parents have a large yard where we host our annual family reunion of 20-50 people.  We have invited the visiting students over for a cookout and are struggling a little with deciding exactly what to make.  On one hand I want to give my students a chance to try some typical American foods.  On the other hand I don't want to make food that will be mostly left over because no one wanted to eat it.\n\nSo far we are planning on making deep fried turkey as I know most of them have never tried turkey before.  We will also do some other form of grilled meat (most likely bratwurst but possibly something else).\n\nCorn on the cob, [grape salad] and S'mores are also on the list.  We were thinking maybe baked beans and potato chips as well.\n\nI thought about maybe picking up some fresh fruit as well (local grown sweet cherries, peaches etc).\n\nI was hoping maybe someone, especially Chinese redditors who have come to the USA as an exchange student or for a longer trip, might be able to give some suggestions of foods that are new and interesting but will also please the Chinese palate.  Basically looking for things you hadn't tried before coming to the USA but loved after trying them.", "summary": "30 Chinese college students visiting the USA are coming for an outdoor cookout.  Anyone have some food suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_498rf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] gf [19F] of 4 months is pregnant with her ex-boyfriend's baby", "post": "I'll start from the beginning. Last August I met this girl, let's call her Lisa, at a friend's birthday party. We had a great time, talked for ages, made out, the whole thing. The next morning I accompanied her part of the way back to her place.\n\nIt seemed like a pretty standard one-night-stand, and we didn't have much contact after that. However, I couldn't really forget her, and after a while we started writing a lot, until we realized we had fallen for each other.\n\nAt this time I wasn't in Germany anymore, as I'm doing a voluntary work year in Uruguay, and she was in a friends with benefits kind of relationship with a guy, Dave for now. Anyway, she broke up with him and we decided to make it work, keeping regular contact and waiting to close the distance next August.\n\nJust over two weeks ago, she tells me she's pregnant with Dave, however she has a high chance of miscarriage due to a medical condition we had talked about earlier. I told her that it is her body and her life, and that I won't interfere with her decision. I also said that I would stay with her, no matter what. She asked for time, to talk it through with Dave and think a bit.\n\nLast week she hits me with her master plan. Dave and Lisa agree that the baby should grow up with both parents, and neither want to push the responsibility on someone else. So far, so good. But she also tells me that she wants to reenter the relationship with Dave, which I don't understand.\n\nSo I tell her that to be good parents, you don't have to be in a relationship with the father. She hadn't thought about it, and thanked me for the input. \n\nEver since she told me about her pregnancy, she has been very distant. I understand how difficult her situation must be, and I also know that we love each other. I'm just worried that our relationship is breaking apart, and that I can't do anything about it. \n\nWhat do you think? Is it completely out of my hands? Should I talk to Dave? Thanks for any and all input.", "summary": "Gf is pregnant from her ex, considering coming back together with him for the baby, becoming distant."}
{"id": "t3_1ng8r9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the \"weirdest\" thing you've eaten thats actually really good?", "post": "Just curious. \n\nI ordered goat curry from an Indian place today. As the cashier was ringing up my order I remarked that I've never had goat before. Cashier looked surprised and said \"I'm sorry theres goat in your bowl, its part of that combo!\" To which I responded, \"Yeah, I know. That's why I got it. I'm just saying I've never had it, because I'm excited to try it.\" \n\nWe then had a brief conversation about how weird it is how people pick the foods that are \"normal\" to eat. \n\nI know goat isn't *that* weird, but I've had plenty of other things that many would consider gross but were definitely tasty and I would absolutely recommend at least trying.", "summary": "People think some foods are weird, but some if those are tasty."}
{"id": "t3_1ages8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I[26m] let her[25f] know that I don't care about her dating life without being a dick about it?", "post": "I[26m] have a friend[25f] who I've known for roughly 10 years, since high school that whenever we are with each other (hanging out, social outings, out to eat, etc) constantly talks about her dating woes and follies. I am at the point now where I just don't care about what this dude did, or didn't do. It's almost as if shes obsessed with the fact that shes single and cannot find a guy.. and I inevitably hear the stories on repeat. How can I let her know that I just do not care or want to hear about that part of her life without coming off as an asshole/terrible friend? To be honest, it's literally 90% of what she talks about with me.\n\nSome background:\nWe've known each other forever it seems, since early high school. Have been good friends since then and I have been hooked up with her friends through her, and I too have tried to set her up with guys I know. I see her as a friend, and nothing more since the later high school years and I'm fairly certain she feels the same way. We were room-mates for a brief period of time when she finished college and I had a spare room in my apartment at the time and everything was fine and dandy then from what I recall.", "summary": "Friend of many years won't stop talking about her dating life, and I'm to the point of just telling her to shut up whenever she brings it up."}
{"id": "t3_3lzfup", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Positive reinforcement victory!", "post": "I am all aboard the positive reinforcement train. My husband, when we talk about it, basically is too, but in practice, he can be inconsistent. We got a second dog a few months ago. She was a year old and had no training (literally did not know her name) and was terrified of EVERYTHING because she had lived her whole life in one house and its backyard. Strollers, shopping carts, horses, cars driving by on the gravel road, would all send her into a tizzy of not just barking but howling. Gentle desensitization and patience and lots of treats allowed her to overcome fears of most of those things. \n\nRecently, we moved to an apartment building from a house. People walking up and down in the stairwell were the new thing that made her freak out and, of course, howl. Here's my husband's inconsistency: several times he has tried to get her to stop by yelling at her. And (as we know dogs often will) she DOES stop barking -- but his yelling clearly scares her and seems counterproductive to me when the problem is that she is scared and uncertain about people in the stairwell! \n\nMeanwhile, I had already started my positive reinforcement plan to solve the howling: I taught her a command to lie down in her bed, and now every time when we hear someone come in the door I tell her to go there. Conveniently my husband went out of town for a a week so I got to practice this with full consistency.\n\nUltimately I want the sound of the door to literally be a cue to go lie in her bed (good for when guests arrive too), but for now she is definitely learning to associate it and feel more confident about the situation. The howling is already gone, we are usually down to one or two mini woofs where she will look at me for confirmation (she is a dog and obviously hears people before I do) until I tell her to go. And today we had two times where she didn't bark at all and just jumped up and ran partways towards the door before looking at me for the command.", "summary": "Dog barks at neighbors, husband yells at her but while he is out of town, I teach her to lie down in her bed instead of barking when she hears people and it works!"}
{"id": "t3_44db1q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(FL,USA) Started an LLC with a friend. We have no idea what we are doing and I'm worried he's going to screw up my tax filing.", "post": "A year ago, a friend, J, asked me to join him and work on a business plan for starting a small farm. We came up with a great name and J went ahead filing the paperwork and paying $140 to make the LLC official.  \n  \nHere we are a year later. The business is still in the \"is it feasible\" stage, however, we have attended a few workshops. He thinks the fees we paid for them become business expenses that are then taken from our yearly earnings on our taxes. I'm still a full-time student and my worry is that he going to misfile or mislabel something that has my name attached and delay or reduce my tax refund. Are my worries grounded?", "summary": "Two people who have no idea how LLCs work formed one, and and now one member thinks they have it all in the bag and other is (me) is worried they're going to get screwed."}
{"id": "t3_45ew65", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "IVF donated egg born yesterday", "post": "Ok so a little back story. 6 years ago my wife and I started to try and have a child. She was married once before and I have a stepson who lives with his dad and my step daughter (13 yr old) who lives with us and I'm, as she has put it, her real dad since she has lived with me since 3. \nWe'll we found out the dr that did my wife's tube tie years ago didn't do it correctly. We would have to do IVF. After a couple of failed attempts we have twin boys who are now 2 yrs old. \nWe had two healthy gentically tested fertilized embryos left. My wife was 36 when she had the twins and the dr advised no more kids. I wanted to destroy the embyros. She didnt. She ended up talking me into donating them to a needy couple. \nWe went online and found a great couple and donated the eggs. \nFast forward 9 months and last night we got an email and pictures of the little girl born to these donated embryos. It hit me a hell of a lot harder than I had expected. I look at this picture and that little girl is my dna. My wife who talked me into donating the eggs completely looses her shit. So here I sit watching my two beautiful boys play and I can't help but think about that little girl. It's probably the hardest thing I've ever done to sit her and know someone is going to raise her. It's crushing. Sorry but I wasn't sure where else to vent. We are not telling any family about this right now as her parents are a bit crazy.", "summary": "we donated embryos and the baby was born. I feel like shit that I won't be there to raise her..."}
{"id": "t3_397f81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29m] don't have a clue as to how I should handle or voice my thoughts to my [28f] friend who is still married; she says she will \"eventually\" get a divorce but then hooks up with one of my friends [26m]", "post": "Going to give a quick brief about her: After living abroad for a few years with her husband, she returns home while he gets sent off to be stationed out of the country. I've known her since middle school and we've been good friends. After college, we lost contact during college but then got reacquainted and started talking again a bit more this year.\n\nAt one point she began talking about her relationship with her husband and that it was \"getting rocky\". I began to develop some feelings for her but I never acted upon it; I realized that having these kinds of thoughts/feelings would just lead to something worse so I took precaution when I was around her.\n\nHowever just recently, she did something that took me by surprise. \n\nMy friend and I moved in together and we invited our friends over. I decided to invite her as well; I figured maybe this was a good time to introduce her to our group and keep her occupied. She got along really well with everyone and as the party went on throughout the night she got particularly close to one of my friends. Everyone began to notice her gropey, flirty actions with him which eventually led them both having sex in his car. \n\nLast night she texts me asking if I had fun at the party, and then she sends me another text with a picture of him and her this morning showing off her spontaneous trip to Vegas; they both left together that same night during the party. I haven't replied back to her because I feel disgusted and confused about the situation. Am I overreacting and naive? Am I being unreasonable about how I feel? Should I or should I not replay back to her?", "summary": "Female friend that I occasionally hang with has sex with a male friend and now I see her in a different light. i don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_42bcnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] ex [24 F] isn't in love with me anymore, but I'm still in love with her and she wants be to stay.", "post": "So this is an update from the events that happened in  We got over it and we became lovers. \n\nI did end up moving out of state for work, but I've visited multiple times just to be with her and every time was memorable . We were inseparable. We rented a hotel and had every single day to ourselves while I spoiled the hell out of her. Plus, the sex was amazing. \n\nFast forward to the present. She seems really distant. I found out that she pretty much never stopped talking to that same guy and was still seeing him. Sure enough it was before and after I'd take my vacations. That shit hurts especially when you have to find out through pictures and videos. I confronted her about it and she told me everything, but there was no way I was going to get her back this time. \n\nThe worst part is that she wants me to stay with her, but as a friend. Apparently her BF lacks in areas I excel in, so she wants me to fill in the holes. She wants to try and be serious with the other guy. I tried it for a bit because I guess I had some kind of hope that our spark could reignite. We had moments where we'd kiss and hold each other, but still, I was wrong. Every night she'd leave me to go to him while I spent mine alone. She wouldn't / couldn't give me just 1 night to be with her. I'm still in love with her and I'm going crazy. Now I'm being dry spelled.\n\nI should've listened to those comments from my other thread. I know this relationship is toxic af, but I can't help it. We've almost 6 years in our belt and I can't get over it. That's my fetish?", "summary": "Ex stopped loving me and this time I'm not getting her back. Found out she went back to her ex, but she still wants me around to be what her bf isn't. I decide to stay and get hurt every night when she leaves to go to him."}
{"id": "t3_3e33st", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (18M) literally at a loss. No idea what to do.", "post": "So I've just come off a 3 year long depression back to being very social. I go out almost every day. I've been hanging out with this one old friend and just living the laid back stoner lifestyle all summer. A mutual friend of ours (female) is also in another friend group that I'm a part of and we've been spending a LOT of time together. We click amazingly well and there's never any awkward moments.\n\nHere's where the trouble starts. Yesterday she asked me how I feel about her and it was established that we both dig each other. There are many complications, however. She has a weird relationship with her ex where he is still very into her and I honestly don't know if she's completely over him or not. He's also someone I see occasionally and would definitely hate me if anything progressed with me and this girl. \n\nShe also said she isn't necessarily trying to have a relationship, but I think she said that just to not scare me away because before she had been heavily making light of the fact that she wants a boyfriend. This is the biggest source of confusion for me. I'm going to college in 1 month, and while her school is very close to mine (dating wouldn't be a problem) do I want a girlfriend in college? Does she?", "summary": "I am not emotionally equipped to deal with all the different facets of this situation. The girl that I like is surrounded by things that would make the situation not ideal. Please, please help me reddit."}
{"id": "t3_n3cuj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "REDDIT! When was the first time you farted in front of your girlfriend/boyfriend/SO?", "post": "I was a senior in high school and just got my first real girlfriend. Started hanging out at her house a lot with my friend and her friend. One night we were watching a movie and I heard the rumbles in my stomach. Oh boy. I tried to hold it in but it would just hurt my stomach. So me thinking I was clever, I started \"sniffling\" and acting like my nose was runny so I could get up and go to the bathroom and try and let out this monstrous fart. Of course, nothing happened. So I went back to watching the movie and the rumbles come back...worse this time. I attempt the \"blow my nose\" thing again (did this about three times) and nothing! I was pissed. So as I was sitting on the couch, the stomach was going crazy and BOOM without even pushing, the loudest fart came out. Everyone laughed. I ended up dated the girl for three and half years after that. Learned she was good at farting too.", "summary": "Watching movie with girl friend and friends, had to fart, tried to let it out in the bathroom, ended up just letting it go in front of everyone."}
{"id": "t3_4664as", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F22] confused on making friends with married people", "post": "So I just started at a new engineering consulting company on the east coast (I am originally from Colorado). I work in a department where the only other female is our lovely, elderly secretary. I am also visibly the youngest worker (next oldest 27 and then 34). \n\nI just moved out here and have zero friends. My boyfriend is back home finishing up his last year of school. How do I go about making friends in this close knit group? I don't have children and am not married. I am just looking to fit in, maybe get dinner after work with a coworker and his wife? I feel like I'm left out a lot because all of their kids go to school together and they mostly talk about high school sports.", "summary": "how can I better fit in at work when I am a young female and they are all married men with kids?"}
{"id": "t3_4nnxla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] trying to deal with my girlfriend [30F] not wanting to go on vacations anywhere where other people have been before", "post": "Advice of \"find someone else\" is not going to be helpful, seriously. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have a long and great relationship. However, we're planning our first overseas vacation together and everything was going well until a few of her friends went on vacation to the same country we were planning on going to. \n\nShe now steadfastly refuses to go anywhere that other people she knows have been, period. I've tried explaining that neither of us have ever been to those places, and that it's a new and fun experience for us, but that doesn't matter. She says she wants our trip to be unique and to make other people jealous at how awesome our trip was. \n\nShe grew up in very humble beginnings so I'm a bit taken aback by the whole attitude about jealously. I've also tried to explain how it'll still be special for us together even if others have done it before, and that shouldn't matter, but \"I know people that have been there so it isn't special.\" I tried to give the example of what if we were going to Paris and you knew people that had been to the Eiffel tower, the louvre, and everywhere else worth seeing and she said she wouldn't want to go anymore just because her trip would be a copy of others. Wtf??", "summary": "girlfriend only wants to go on vacation places that no one she knows has ever been before. How do I convince her the trip is about our experience and not other people?"}
{"id": "t3_34ikad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [16 F] ignores me [16 F] when her other friend is around", "post": "We've been friends for over a year now and have several classes together. We usually hang out at least once a week after school and talk almost everyday on facebook. She has this other friend (I'm not really friends with her) who she's known since the beginning of high school, but they don't have any classes together. However, sometimes her friend sits with us during lunch, and when that happens, they can't stop talking with each other (and only with each other). We would have a nice group lunch of 8-10 friends, and they'd be talking softer with each other, chiming in every once in awhile in our main discussion. When my best friend's friend is around, my best friend basically stops talking to me and only talks to her. I can't get any attention from her unless I ask her a question directly. When her friend's not around, she'd always look at me when she makes a joke or laughs, like she's reaffirming the humor. But she stop looking at me when she makes jokes or laugh, and instead looks at her other friend when she's around. They also seem to have tons of inside jokes together and are more physically comfortable with each other, eg. my best friend would randomly lean her head on her friend's shoulder, which never happens to me. I've also tried an experiment where I purposely sit right in between them, but it doesn't matter cause they would lean back and talk to each other physically behind my back.\nSo what gives? Are we actually best friends? How is she somehow so much closer with this other friend of hers? Should I say anything about this? I feel pretty insignificant whenever her other friend is around.", "summary": "Best friend has a friend that makes me feel useless. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_2ov0sj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] have been casually seeing this guy [21M] and it seemed to be going well but now I'm not so sure.", "post": "We met on tinder and texted constantly for about 2 weeks before we decided to meet. We hung out at his apartment and ate food and just chilled. We did not kiss or sleep together.\n\nThen the next night he invited me over again and we both got pretty fucked up and we ended up having sex. This was on a saturday. \n\nThe following monday he invites me over again to cuddle and thats exactly what we did. No sex, no anything we just slept.\n\nI initiated plans for the next time we hung out and it was really fun and went well.\n\nI was at his place last night and I cant help but feel like hes not into me anymore. When I asked if he wanted to hang out he said \"if you want to\". And hes just barely texted me since I left. I'm not sure what happened because I thought things were going well.", "summary": "Guy really wants to see me at first, all of a sided not so willing or excited, hardly texts back. Wtf?"}
{"id": "t3_2sp7il", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] needs to tell friend [25M] that I still having feelings for him", "post": "We have had a very close friendship in that we remain in almost constant contact when we are not together.  Very physical and flirty one night when we were out together.\n\nThen we were in different cities for the holidays when we got in an argument relating to him sleeping with a mutual friend of ours and I ended up telling him that I used to have feelings for him which is why the argument was bigger to me. He replied with that things are complicated for him because he is newly out of a long term relationship and that he thinks things are strange between us of attraction, etc.  But he never really definitively said he had feelings for me.  I asked him if we could spend some time apart and not keep in such close communication.  \n\nAfter about two weeks with minimal contact we are on decent terms again. A mutual friend has told me that he told him that he \"wished things had of worked out for us\", and he has been overly nice to me and very touchy feely.  \n\nI don't know if I should bring it up to him, since he is obviously not one to take initiative, or if I should just let it go. I feel like he is old enough and should be an adult about how he feels, but I'm not sure if through our recent argument he now thinks I don't feel the same way.", "summary": "I like my friend who I think likes me, but is it even worth it at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_ffrqx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is expecting the guy to pay for more than the girl in a relationship an old fashioned expectation?", "post": "I'm in college and I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. He has never had much money but when we first started dating he had a job and would occasionally take me out to dinner or pay for me when we did things. It was never anything over the top but it was in a gentlemanly way. Now, a year later, he does not have a job anymore and has literally no money. Any money he does have he spends on alcohol or things for himself. We have not  been on a \"date \" in months and avoids having meals with me so that he does not have to pay. When we do get food it will be somewhere cheap like subway and Ill have to pay for myself.\nThis was all frustrating me but I would make excuses like its not his fault he doesn't have the money. But this is the first time in his life that he has not had a part time job. It frustrates me further that I have worked hard over the summers so that I would not have to work during the school year and still have money to play with but he does not have any money at all so when we hang out we just sit around and do nothing.\nThen the other day he started giving me a hard time because \"I never buy him anything\". This is where I lost it. He told me that my view of the guy \"providing\" for the girl, and paying for the girl was old fashioned and that I expect too much. I got angry because I have given him money for gas plenty of times and he said that I should because he is always driving me around.", "summary": "So my question is, is the idea that the guy should pay for the girl no longer apply to our society?"}
{"id": "t3_528ehc", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat question from someone who knows nothing about cats", "post": "I was at work last night when I got a phone call from my wife saying that my four year old had found a stray cat and wanted to adopt it. This cat has no collar and the neighborhood kids said they often see this cat wondering around. From my brief Google research, I don't think the cat is feral as it was extremely sociable and played very well with my son. I also read stray cats can be a host for diseases, fleas, ringworms, and other parasites so I told them they could not bring it in the house and they need to let it go. Well, whether it was the abundant amount of affection or the treat my wife gave it before extricating it from our garage where it would not leave, the cat was sitting in our yard when I pulled in this morning and immediately ran back into our garage. I picked him up several times to remove him from the garage but he immediately ran back inside. I had to close the garage and then put him out the side door. I am not 100% against keeping this cat but I have never had or been around pet cats and I don't know what I should do. I don't know if this cat has a home, it doesn't seem so, but I don't have any idea. Does it cost a lot to get all of it's shots? What else is involved in taking in a cat? Is it safe? I have a 4 year old boy and an eight month old. What should I do? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Random cat appeared and family wants to take it in. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1nhdqx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Grad school is stressful and my motivation is flagging. Help! (Explanation inside)", "post": "Since January, I've lost over fifty pounds. I was doing especially well over the summer, when I had plenty of time to work out daily and plan my meals, but I'm now halfway through my first semester of law school and seriously struggling.\n\nA combination of \"stress eating\" (so. many. carbs.) and lack of time to work out (hell, at this point I'm hardly even finding time to sleep) has led me to gain about ten pounds back in a very short span of time.\n\nEvery day I wake up and tell myself that today will be the day I get back on track, and then....I get busy with another assignment. I eat the free (and usually very unhealthy) food at a lunch meeting. I grab something quick or microwaveable on the walk home because I'm starving and have zero time to cook.\n\nI know, I know, I've heard all of those excuses before too, but for the first time in my life I *sincerely* feel like I don't have any time to spare. \n\nOverworked grad students of loseit, any advice? I've come this far and don't want to mess it all up now.", "summary": "Just started grad school and rapidly gaining weight back as a result of stress eating/not working out. Suggestions for getting back on track?"}
{"id": "t3_1wfehs", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [20M] and this girl made out dozen of times, but she said no to a relationship (and she still likes me). We hang out all the time, and she's often being flirty with me... I don't know what to feel or what to do.", "post": "Here's a quick synopsis: we go in the same class in this college, and we were friends for about five to six months. Two months ago we went out partying (the whole \"group\" of 5 friends..) and while I danced with this girl.. I felt something towards her. It felt fucking amazing to have my hands on her waist, to keep her close, to dance with her and what not. Days later it was bugging me so much I had to get it off my chest. As we were texting on Facebook I told her that I felt something and that I felt stupid since I really didn't want that, blah blah, just for her to tell me she felt the same. We went out to talk about it and ended up making out. Until the NYE came, we went out on 4 to 5 dates because we skip classes and we go somewhere alone and ... we kissed/made out every single time. \n\nShe hadn't been sure of a relationship.. Second to last date in 2013., I asked her about a relationship and she said she'll think about it and let me know in a day or two. She hadn't said anything for seven days and on 8th day we went out for a casual coffee and kissed and I told her to let me know on NYE. Fast forward to NYE, 30 minutes after a clock-ticking-kiss in front of everyone, she tells me she doesn't want a relationship because it will ruin our group of friends and our friendship, but that she can't stop thinking about me and her feelings..", "summary": "Kissed a girl from a group of mutual friends, dozen of times. She said no to a relationship, but she still likes me. Read below:"}
{"id": "t3_f851k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just found out I have had manic bipolar after 8 years of being misdiagnosed", "post": "I have been diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression, ADD, and have had my medications changed multiple times throughout the years and now only to find out that my doctors have been treating the wrong problem all this time and feel that some of the medications I've had to take may have made my condition somewhat worsened with periods of mania changing DAILY everything makes a lot more sense now but I'm at a loss to what I should do to get myself back together and not be fucking out of my mind half the time, I'm currently 17 years old and this began when I was nine.\n\nAsking this to Reddit because I figured there might be some people that deal with this on here and might be able to help me out with some strategies to get things back on track...", "summary": "Doctors were wrong and gave me a bunch of medication that(I think) messed my shit up more"}
{"id": "t3_328qhg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a Pope", "post": "Hi! This'll be short.\n\nI made a new friend a little bit ago, and we grew close pretty quickly. This friend (lets call her Sarah) goes to my church (I'm religious). Eventually, I said \"Hey Sarah, you know there's this really attractive girl in our church and yada yada yada.\" Oh yea, I spared no expense in talking about how I couldn't stop looking at this girl and how cute she is. Sarah asked me who it was, and I told her. Turns out it's Sarah's best friend.\n\nTurns out Sarah's best friend is only 13. **She does not look 13.**\n\nSarah told me that her best friend has had a massive crush on me for a while now. **I am almost 20 years old.** She still does not look 13 to me.", "summary": "Accidentally perpetuated the small but relatively present stereotype that Christians are closet pedophiles."}
{"id": "t3_4gd10j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23F] ex[26M] started dating my co-worker [22F] and I don't know how to not feel resent towards her", "post": "My ex was my first and only boyfriend I have ever had. We did not date for very long, almost 6 months, and those 6 months were of the best of my life. He broke up with me for reasons that I still don't understand, he just claims he \"fell out of love\" with me. I guess it happens, I wouldn't know.\n\nWe broke up about 3 months ago, and I only recently started getting over him.\n\nLast week, one of my co-workers whom I don't really speak to very much, mentioned that her boyfriend would be coming by the office to pick her up for lunch. At lunch time, to my horrible surprise, my ex-boyfriend shows up as my co-workers boyfriend.\n\nCue my emotions going crazy, feeling sick to the stomach, awkwardly having to explain to my co-worker that her boyfriend is my ex-boyfriend, etc. It was the most horrible and awkward lunch hour ever.\n\nSince that day I've been having so much trouble just looking at my co-worker. I have started resenting everything about her. Every time she speaks, I roll my eyes, every time she passes by me, I feel so angry. \n\nI'm feeling so unprofessional and I am hating myself for it. She never did anything to me, and yet I'm resenting her so much. I'm obviously jealous but I'm not sure how to deal with the resent I have for her. I really need help dealing with this. She's a really nice person and I don't want to deal with hating her because of my envy", "summary": "Co-worker [22F] is dating my [23F] ex-boyfriend [26M] and I'm starting to hate her. How can I act more professional around her at work, how can I not feel resent towards her and how do I stop being so jealous?"}
{"id": "t3_1gdjlq", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Alaska USA Credit Card", "post": "I have been with capital one for the past 5 years and still am stuck with a $500 credit limit which is annoying me considerably. I don't miss payments and I pay off my card several times a month. I don't pay fees, have late payments or pay interest. I have a job, and good credit (nothing has impacted it negatively)\n\nI'm 24 atm and would like to get a credit card through my credit union (Alaska USA), but after looking online I have been unable to come up with any reviews on them. **Has anybody had any experience with their card?**\n\nI don't want to jump into a credit card blindly as getting rid of them is either a negative impact.", "summary": "Has anybody acquired the Alaska USA Visa Platinum Credit Card? "}
{"id": "t3_2tp01r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by (falsely) confessing my (non-existent) affair to my girlfriend", "post": "So I've been on /r/keto, a low-carb diet, for a couple of years now. This basically means my life is devoid of sugary and starchy happiness which makes it very awkward because baking is one of my biggest hobbies. Last night was my brother's girlfriend's birthday party, for which I baked some amazing chocolate chip sugar cookies. The party was great, but while I was there I was coxed by some vodka to have one (or four) cookies.\n\nToday I was hanging out with my girlfriend and we reached the end of one subject and paused to look at each other. I start to tell her about how I broke my diet last night (which rarely happens)...\n\n> \"So last night at the party I cheated...\"\n\nAs I said this, her face turned into shock and I realized why, she started tearing up and all I could say was \"No no no no no no no no!\" Once I was able to convince her I was not a scumbag cheating bastard, I finished...\n\n> \"..on my diet. With cookies. I ate cookies.\"\n\nIt was awkward.", "summary": "cookies."}
{"id": "t3_1bb4v1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (m, 31) started dating last week with a girl (24). But after today I'm havin 2nd thoughts.", "post": "And the problem is that I don't know wether I'm just paranoid, or irationally fearful. Or wether my doubts are reasonable and I should start to think about what to do with them.\n\nI'm doubting my own feelings because I'm really inexperienced with dating and relationships, she's the first girl I've actually dated and had feelings for.\n\nAnyway, we went to the circus yesterday and had a great time. She stayed the night. ( No sex, we agreed on that though some heavy cuddling was involved. )\nNext day I brought her back home and met some of her family. Her grandfather & mother where fun people.\n\nHer brother was nice too, though a few things he said kind of made me panic. Before I brought her home he sent me a few txt messaged on my phone, telling me that I should take good care of his sister. That didn't sit all too well with me. But there's a few good reasons for him to be protective.Something I can let slide easily.\n\nWhen I met him in person he also seemed nice. Not someone I'm likely to ever be friends with but you can't like everyone. The three of us are chatting and the big subject of the conversation is drugs, hard drugs like XTC, speed, cocaine and others that I haven't heard of before. There's talk of using. And I know she's used xtc on occasion. But the way they talked about using and, what I hadn't know before **dealing* * made me want to just get away right there and then.\n\nI wasn't bothered by the occasional recreational use. But I'm seriously concerned because I think that her use of hard drugs is more frequent then she lead me to believe. And I don't want to be even remotely associated with the dealing of hard drugs. I believe/know she doesn't deal herself. But it's still very upsetting.", "summary": "New girl appears to use more drugs then I first believed, and brother seems to be a big user and dealer. Freaks me out"}
{"id": "t3_1b7pse", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [21/m] over 2 years relationship with her [20/f] is losing romance", "post": "Hi guys, I need some advice here..\n\nI started dating this girl back in freshmen year of college. We fell pretty hard for each other. We've been going out for over two years now and things have been really ... blech.\n\nWe both go to the same college and we both have roommates. For the past couple of months, our relationship has been somewhat of a really close friendship (if you could call it that). All we do is eat together sometimes, study, sleep and go to school. There hasn't been any excitement (sexual or not) for a long time.\n\nI talked to her about this before. She kept on saying it's because we both have roommates, so there isn't any time/space for anything personal/sexual between us. (I'll be lucky if I get it twice a month).\n\nSo now it feels like we are more like best friends than lovers.\n\nI really want to bring this up (I have before, and every time she just thinks I'm blaming her..) but I don't know how to start it. \n\nA part of me wants out and another part doesn't have the heart to hurt her. (I know she's crazy about me and we have told each other that we want a marriage). \n\nSo what do I do now? \n\nI appreciate any advice you guys can give!", "summary": "dated this girl for over two years. Relationship is slowly becoming like friendship. She's still crazy about me though. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_24uqu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[20 F] of 1 year, she's been abroad for almost half the year and I'm not sure about the relationship anymore.", "post": "I've been with my current girlfriend for a year now since our second year of college. With her I've had some of the best times of my life so far. She always takes care of me physically and emotionally and has given me so much support. I've never experienced a connection with someone like this before. I honestly feel like she's the type I'd like to marry one day.\n\nShe decided to study abroad for almost half a year now and we webcam almost every day so I don't miss her terribly. In her absence I've gotten a taste of what it's like to be on my own again and it felt refreshing. I started cooking my own meals, I can focus more on my studies, and I feel like I have more time for friends and myself. I've changed so much since I've been with her and I'd like to see how I'd do on my own.  \n\nI can see myself being with her for a long time but I feel like I'm going to slowly regret not being on my own and in time that will worsen our relationship. I'm the type of person that always wants something new so I know if I continue this relationship for the long run I'd probably start to resent it.\n\nThe only thing that really keeping me from making the decision to break up with her is that she's very insecure. She's always talks down on herself and she very opinionated so she doesn't have many of her own friends. I'm afraid if I leave her she'd be alone and hate herself in her last year of college and I care for her enough to not want that for her. \n\nI feel like I have to choose between ending it now or just waiting for something to happen that would end it for us. Should I just try and stick it out or be selfish and just pursue my own wants?", "summary": "Had a life changing girlfriend. She went to study abroad for a bit and now I want to go try living life on my own."}
{"id": "t3_3326yi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going down on a girl, and getting distracted", "post": "his happened years ago. Hope you enjoy.  \n\nI had hit it off with this girl, and got some sexy time.  Well as I am going down on her she whispered  \"Boyferret\"  and I am very busy but polite so I look up and whisper back \"what?\"  Then she pushes my head down so I figure it's not that important.  A little later she whispers again \"boyferret\"  and being busy but polite I look up again and go \"what?\".  She pushed my head down again, and I an like wow that's odd she must have ADD too or something.  So a little while longer she wispers again \"Boyferret\"  and I am still busy but a little less polite and whispers \"what is it?\".  This time she jams my head back and held it there till I got smarter.", "summary": "when down on a girl, she found out I have ADD."}
{"id": "t3_38h0kb", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Help with food poisoning", "post": "Hey guys so I think I have food poisoning as of this Monday when it started. I think I got it from taquitos for not cooking it long enough (TIFU) . I'm currently taking 2 tylenols every 6-8 hours and getting lots of rest and a good supply of water in me. I Currently have a headache, stomach pains and diarrhea (no blood) and chills and a fever. My task right now is to try to get rid of these stomach pains in order to do that I just have to poop, however only little is producing. I've been eating healthy following BRAT and some bland oatmeal. Any suggestions/recommendations would be appreciated. Thanks", "summary": "food poisoning (not extreme)"}
{"id": "t3_3h64yk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my BF [32M], broke up with him after four months of dating. Did I do the right thing?", "post": "The reason I broke up with him was not due to lack of attraction on my part, but a lack of effort on his in regards to setting up dates and maintaining contact. He works evenings and has a son who was visiting for the summer, along with taking care of ailing parents. So it was understandable at first that he didn't have time...but after a while I started to realize that our only real relationship was through text. I would see him about twice a month on average, and a lot of times I would have to be the one to bring it up that I'd like to see him. At the same time, he would say things like \"just be patient with me, things will get better when _________ (son leaves, take time off work, etc...)\". The final straw was on Thursday. He and I had talked the night before, and he said that he would call me the next day and we could make plans. Well, he must have forgotten  (did I mention I hadn't seen him in three weeks at that point?) because I kept waiting for him to call and he never did. Finally at about 9pm, I realized he wasn't going to call me that day, so I texted  him something like \"I can't understand why I believed that you would call me today\". He texted back really nonchalant \"oh I'm sorry I was busy today. Do you want to come over?\". I knew that he wouldn't have remembered had I not texted him that night, so I just basically texted back \"I'm tired of you giving me false hope. I get it, you don't care. Just stay out of my life.\" Yeah I was mad.\n\nNow I guess it's pretty normal, but I feel pretty down about the whole thing now, like maybe he really did care about me and I was the one in the wrong. However, how can you forget about plans you made with someone the night before, unless you really just didn't care? I keep thinking \"I wish I didn't erase his number\" just because sometimes I think about getting more closure about the whole thing, like maybe I should still be a \"string along\" and see where it takes me?", "summary": "broke up with BF due to low effort on his part in maintaining contact. I now question whether he was really busy but did care about me or if he did not care and made promises and texted nice things just to string me along."}
{"id": "t3_r2y2m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Aspiring game designer/developer here looking for help! How do I start learning how to develop or design games of my own?", "post": "Starting off, I would like to explain the situation. \nOn Friday, March 16, 2012 I went to the Smithsonian American Art Museum for the opening of a new exhibit, The Art of Video Games. During this visit I learned about the predecessors of our current gaming consoles and the painstaking measures to create games in the past. Unfortunately the actual exhibit was not as detailed nor informative on the subject but what has gotten me to this point of inspiration were the panels! The panelists involved were video games pioneers RJ Mical, Mike Mika, Rand Miller, Don Daglow and Keith Robinson. While each of them spoke of their own different experiences and difficult procedures related to the early game development era, they all had one thing truly in common. They were all inspired to create video games. They all wanted to embrace creativity and stressed that there are no longer the tech limitations which they had suffered in the past. \nAfter a Q&A the next set of panelists took the stage. Paul Barnett, Mark DeLoura, Ken Levine, and Kellee Santiago, these people represented the current generation game developers. What really inspired me was how they each conveyed the same underlying message as their predecessors. They all wanted to create games because it was a part of themselves, their own creativity. They looked forward to the future of gaming and what path they have lead the consuming gaming population to follow.They looked forward to the have flame they were sparking in young gamers, such as myself. So here we are with me inspired to create games yet no knowledge of the career path and zero experience in programming.", "summary": "Went to event about game development and design. Got inspired. Want to learn. Now."}
{"id": "t3_1iuooq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "How bad is this lawyer?", "post": "Short answer: Obviously pretty bad\n\nLong answer: Curious to see what r/legaladvice thinks of this guy: my friend is currently a defendant in a civil action. It sounds like a pretty frivolous lawsuit, and he has a good lawyer. Problem is that the plaintiff's lawyer is pretty awful - he's had his law license suspended twice by the state board for incompetence.\n\nAlso, he doesn't have emotional control of his client. The evidence came in the form of an email that was *forwarded to my friends lawyer by the opposing (plaintiff's) lawyer*. That's right, an actual email, private conversation, between the plaintiff and his counsel... forwarded to the defendant's lawyer.\n\nMy question - this is obviously unethical, but is there anything my friend (defendent) or his attorney do at this point? Obviously, my friend wants this civil claim to go away as quickly as possible and he's considered telling the plaintiff that he should consider getting a real attorney. One that doesn't chase ambulances and forwards private emails.", "summary": "California friend's lawyer got forwarded private email conversations between the opposing side and his attorney, and now my friend is considering starting a turd storm in order to force the opposing side to blow up and drop a frivolous civil claim"}
{"id": "t3_4kftvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 23f boyfriend 22m said something that's concerning me even though it was part of a hypothetical discussion.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. Generally our relationship has been good, but I'm not really thinking about marriage at this point. \n\nThe other day, my boyfriend and I got on the subject of divorce, and he said that if he ever got divorced (he didn't say from me specifically, he meant in general) he would prefer to also leave his kids, to avoid custody issues and any problems from having two homes. I said that was terrible, what if the kids missed him? He said his friend ' s father had just sent in child support after the divorce but never visited, and that his friend was better off and was doing fine. I don't know my boyfriend ' s friend well enough to know the situation, but I told him that wouldn't work for every kid, and that it also wasnt right to make the mother handle everything. He just shrugged and said that if the mother couldn't handle it someone else should take the kids. \n\nI was pretty shocked that he felt this way, and I know that my hypothetical ex husband walking out of my kids lives would not be okay with me at all, unless he was a terrible person. The issue is, I'm not sure if I'm overreacting about being upset. If marriage and children were definitely on the table then I would have definitely taken his comment seriously, but we aren't any where near that stage,  and it's possible he was just talking out of his ass about something he hasn't put any real thought into, and that he wouldn't actually do this if the kids were real people, not just faceless hypothetical ones. I don't know if I should leave it, confront him about what he said, or what.", "summary": "boyfriend made a comment saying that he would not visit his children if he ever got divorced. I don't know how serious he was."}
{"id": "t3_2m4fbu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) was cheated on 3 years ago, left with trust issues.", "post": "3 years ago i was cheated on by my ex and have cut contact completely, i focused more on myself and have become independent and hooked up with other girls but have always been afraid to commit again even though its what i want.\n\nFast forward to now, I'm currently seeing a girl 19F lets call her jane, we clicked and it felt like somebody i've known for years when we first met and had a deep talk about life, ex's, goals, dreams, etc.\n\nThe problem is i'm the type of guy who needs affection now to reassure that i'm not about to get cheated on again and jane doesn't show much affection but does reciprocate my moves on her but it feels one sided and i go into such a high defence that something is sketchy and we get into an argument.\n\nI used to be extremely mellow and laid back when i'm in a relationship but now i seem to be on high alert and have such bad trust issues ever since my ex.\n\nJane is aware i've been cheated on i told her myself, but now i just don't know how to trust again and fear i won't recover from this negative mindset.\n\nHow do i overcome this?", "summary": "Cheated on, left with trust issues and possibly neediness when in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_kpoil", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbor might be date-raping girls. WHAT DO I DO?", "post": "To expand on my title, my boyfriend's neighbour (a creepy kid, probably about 19) has been telling them about how he puts roofies in girls drinks and \"fucks them lightly\" so they don't know that they've been raped when they come to.\nI don't know if this is true. He often has several girls over at once that are completely out of his league, but this proves nothing. I no real proof that he is actually doing this to girls. It may be some sort of twisted story to look cooler.\nEither way, I feel like I need to do something with this information. Every time I think about it, I feel sick to my stomach. Can I call the authorities with absolutely no evidence? Is there any realistic way that I could collect proof? I don't think my boyfriend and his roommates will help me because of certain discrepancies, which upsets me even more. Please help!", "summary": "Neighbor talks about how he roofies girls and rapes them. No actual proof. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ge0e5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Chances of getting into a fairly exclusive school?", "post": "Wasn't really sure how to word the title so here's the background. I went to a community college studying computer science for two years, decided I want to try something that is challenging in a different way, so I switched to physics. At community college for two years my GPA was not great, but not horribly, at a 3.2, 3.3 in major(which I guess probably doesn't matter anymore). Now I am going to a university that I will be living at for the year, but I know I don't want to go there next year. Next year I want to apply to the physics program at UCLA, as well as a few other schools with similar acceptance rates. My question is this, if I do very well this upcoming year and can pull a GPA of 3.8 or higher, will I have a good chance of getting in, or will the lower 3.2 GPA from community college hold me back from being considered. I know a lot more goes into this stuff than just GPA, I have no internships, and didn't take the SAT. So I'm just wondering if anyone has known someone in a similar situation, and whether or not one very strong year would be enough to get into a really good school. Also, would contacting admissions at the schools I'm looking at and asking them these questions be appropriate or no? Thanks in advance!", "summary": "3.2 GPA in Computer Science for 2 years at a community college, now going to university as physics major, would 3.8 GPA for one year be enough to get schools with similar acceptance rates to UCLA to accept me or are my hopes too high?"}
{"id": "t3_2sdgjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am, hopefully, finalizing my divorce tomorrow[26f]. 2 years in the making. I have a gf [23f] when should i announce on social media we are dating?", "post": "Hello reddit of relationships, this is a throw away.\n      Tomorrow morning I am hopefully finalizing my divorce with my ex-wife. It has been a very long process\n to get to this point, taking almost 2 years. In the time from our separation I have found someone who has\n been amazing in the support she has been giving me through the extra \"fun\" of this process. She and I had\n been friends before the divorce happened, but due to my respect of the relationship I had with my now ex.\n I didn't pursue anything beyond friendly interactions. So my ex didn't know her. \n     After I had moved out and started moving forward with the divorce my now gf and I became much\n closer to the point where we started dating. She was fully aware of the details to my divorce and the my\n personal situation before we started dating, and she recommended (with advise from her family whom had\n also gone through messy divorces) that we keep our relationship off of social media.\n    I have been trying to play fair in the divorce and give each other a fair and even break from each other\n because there is children involved. But my ex's parents are out for blood and have dragged this out much \nmuch much longer than it should.\n      All of my closest family and friends already know and love my gf. But still have social media ties to my \nex due to the children. So /r/relationships after the divorce is finalized how long should I wait to post to social\n media of our relationship?", "summary": "Divorce getting finalized. How long should I wait to update social media about my current gf?"}
{"id": "t3_30du4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [25F] change the tension between Bf's friend's fianc\u00e9e [26F] to make hangout out with her enjoyable?", "post": "My bf (let's call him Atticus) of 4 years has this male friend (let's call him Bob 25F) and were friends ever since high school. Now fast forward to the future, Bob has a fianc\u00e9e (let's call her Mary 26F). They've also been together 4 years. But we only hung out wth them for the last half year when we moved back into town. Let's just say if it were possible, Bob would like to hang out with us EVERY weekend (however, Atticus likes to spend alone time with me on some weekends. We go on dates just the two of us). \n\nBut to be fair in the relationship I have with Atticus, we do go to hang with Bob and Mary every other weekend. Our hobby hat we've all have in common: board games. That's what we do when we all hang out together. But now my problem really exists with Mary. \n\n[Her background: Mary is more of a tomboy... Well, I suppose only dresses like one. But she does art stuff, knit, and crochet. ]\n\nAnytime we hang out with them, Mary talks with Atticus with ease and never opens a conversation with me. I always start chatting about random things, and the conversation always ends with her. I know Mary does not have many female friends.. I even invited her out with my 2 female friends and they thought she was weird (they didn't say it, but I could tell just by the look on their faces. My friends would ask her questions, and again... The conversation always ended with Mary. Mary did not ask questions or anything. \n\nMaybe Mary is just a shy person? Or is just an awkward person? I don't know... Well at this point I dread hanging out with them because of Mary.", "summary": "But my question is how can I change this awkward tension between my bf's friend's fianc\u00e9e and I. I want us to be able to hang out together.. She makes it difficult to enjoy hanging out together."}
{"id": "t3_3xy8gv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[17M] girlfriend[17F] gets mad and jealoux over me sharing my best friends[17F] gum", "post": "So me and my best friend have this thing, where after one of us has chewed on a gum, we give the used gum to the other part to chew on. (a little gross perhaps, I know) Nothing mouth-to-mouth contact or anything, just spit it out in our hand, and hand it to the eachother.\n\nWe have been doing this gum thing since before my girlfriend and I got together. My girlfriend has always been quite jealoux of my friend and I, but she gets really mad and even more jealoux when we do the gum thing. She doesn't like it at all.\n\nShouldn't I do this with my female friend?", "summary": "Girlfriend jealoux over me sharing used gum with my female friend."}
{"id": "t3_n4xe9", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Most cuddly cat in the world needs a loving home.", "post": "Hey everyone - this is Bones:  \nHe was a stray dropped off near my parents house a few months ago. I have fallen in love with him and would adopt him if I wasn't leaving the country in a few months. He loves to cuddle. Also, when I walk my parents dog, Bones will follow me all around the neighborhood, pouncing in and out of bushes. Most adorable thing I've even seen! \nAnyways, I've taken him to the vet and he is neutered and in complete health. Anyone who lives around Baton Rouge, Louisiana - Or Louisiana at all, I'm willing to take a drive to bring the cat to you - that wants a loving, inside cat please let me know!", "summary": "healthy, neutered cat in need of a nice home somewhere around Baton Rouge, Louisiana"}
{"id": "t3_32m2bk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 F] worried I've fallen out of love with my [22 M] partner of 1 year", "post": "I can't seem to get enough distance from this to have any kind of objective perspective on the matter, so I'm seeking help.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been friends for the whole of our college careers and have been dating for a little over a year. We have a good relationship- we are supportive, kind, and loving to each other. I laugh with him, I enjoy his company, I feel that I could tell him just about anything. We have great sex pretty regularly. I do not doubt that I love this man.\n\nWhat I do doubt is if I  am *in* love. Lately I have been thinking almost non-stop about men I've been with in the past, and men I'm around that I would like to be with. I have dreams about my exes. When I'm with my man I don't get any of the same genuine joy that I used to when we hung out, it's more of a general contentment. I don't look forward to a future with him the way that I used to. I notice more regularly in him flaws that used to not matter to me. I know that he does not share these feelings. \n\nIs this a normal part of a long-term relationship? Do I need to just suck it up and throw myself into this whole-heartedly? Is this just the ~honeymoon phase~ wearing off or should I seriously evaluate if I should continue on in this relationship?", "summary": "I've been with my partner for a year and I'm beginning to have serious doubts: is this a normal part of a long-term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_f56dh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This girl got me confused...Why is this going on?", "post": "Hello Reddit! \n\nI am in need of some advice with my \"relationship\" that has been going on for a few weeks now. I am 23 and she is 25, We are getting along really well and everything seems to be going ok and she always is talking to me either on facebook/text/calling but she will always throw me curve balls that i do not under stand...For example she wont talk to me for a little while throughout the day then ill be the sweet guy and say something along the lines of \"i miss you\" and she will say \"nahhhh you just think you do\" or \"give it time it will pass\" and when i ask her why do you say stuff like that she goes \"lol cause im a bitch\" but really she is not, its like a shield that she is wearing... she has told me that she has been through a lot and i can understand this but what i feel for her is genuine and i do not think that she can see this....\n\nNow i understand that we have been only \"dating\" for 3 weeks or so and it should not mean too much but i really like this girl and from what i can tell she feels the same...But at the same time its like she is trying to get me to hate her and i cannot figure out why she is doing this...\n\nEvery weekend we hang out all weekend and she always crashes at my place where hours and hours of sexy time ensues and always sending dirty texts to each other during the week when we cannot see each other and 95% of the time we are great but these \"cause i'm a bitch\" and \"you don't miss me you just think you do\" responses are fucking with me.\n\nI just do not know what to do anymore, am i going down a road that is not worth it? I do not see me doing anything wrong, i been 100% honest with this girl the whole time i have been with her...i am at a crossroad where i do not know which direction to travel in...Please Help.................", "summary": "great relationship, but throws fucked up curve balls at me and i do not know what to think of it....Help."}
{"id": "t3_2pheqs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying my cat an $8.99 cat toy", "post": "I'll preface this by saying my girlfriend and I have three cats. Miso was a feral kitten, who I adopted from a shelter in 2011. Butters was adopted in 2013 from a SPCA worker whose cat had kittens. Dobby was adopted this summer.\n\nButters has always been a special cat. Whenever the cats were causing trouble, Butters was usually the root cause. He's a troublemaker and an instigator. He digs stuff out of the trash constantly, and always tries to steal food. He's also not the brightest cat either. Once he ate a hair-tie and pooped it out. \n\nThis weekend, I bought a $8.99 cat toy for them. It's one of those fishing rod toys with a toy mouse attachment at the end. Our cats go nuts for this toy. Butters was being especially enthusiastic. Whenever he grabbed the toy mouse with his paws, he would put it in his mouth, and when we tried to take it from him, his ears would flatten and he'd started growling. \n\nAfter a few minutes, we left the cats alone, and noticed Butters walking off with the toy mouse. He went to a corner and started playing with it by himself. Half an hour later... my girlfriend said to me. \"Hey, the toy mouse is missing.\" We spent around 30 minutes looking for it, and it was nowhere to be found. We suspected that Butters had eaten it, but we weren't sure until the next morning.\n\nWhen we woke up the next day, I saw 5-6 puddles of cat barf throughout the house, and Butters was throwing up constantly. We rushed him to the vet, got an X-ray, and the vet confirmed our fear: the little bastard ate the toy mouse and they would need to remove it.\n\n8 hours and $1700 later, Butters was back to normal, and I learned a lesson to never buy toys for my cats again.", "summary": "$8.99 cat toy actually costed me $1.7k"}
{"id": "t3_1vdq33", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Future possibility of adoption questions. Im 24 and my GF is 23. No kids currently.", "post": "I've been dating this girl for over a year now, and she is hands down the best thing that's ever happened to me. I've had several relationships before her, and she beats out every prior relationship in every aspect by a mile. Basically my dream girl (and I have high standards). I definitely see myself marrying this girl in the future (I'm not rushing into anything, don't worry).\n\nThere is a good chance she won't be able to have kids due to medical issues, and this will probably mean adoption (or a surrogate or something), unless we were to try in the next few years. And even then there would likely be a higher probability of issues. I'm having trouble filtering out how I feel about not having a genetic relation to a kid, because I'm young enough to have ever thought of it before. \n\nI'm hoping to hear from parents of adopted kids, or the adopted kids themselves. I want to hear everything, such as how you love each other, if you still feel a parental bond, and just your thoughts on the topic in general. \n\nA big part of me feels guilty for feeling weird about something she can't control and wants to be told I'm a selfish little shit and need to snap out of it. And I also feel I should be told that many many relationships can't have kids naturally, and there could be something wrong with me as well to cause that and I just don't know about it yet. \n\nI've always thought I'd be a good father, as I learned a lot from mine. I've always thought it would be enjoyable to teach a son or daughter life skills, and experience the hardships and rewards of raising a child, I just want to be told it will basically be the same with an adopted child. \n\nI know how selfish this sounds, and I feel like an ass for even needing to ask about it. Please give me your thoughts on adoption and the parent child bond that's created through it.", "summary": "I love this girl and am open to adopting if we can't have kids, but I want to be absolutely sure I know what I'm getting myself into."}
{"id": "t3_1vdmsf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most tactful way for me (M) to tell my adult roommate (F) to clean her period blood off our toilet seat?", "post": "My friend and I (both male) are living in a house and share a bathroom with a woman who lives in the guest house behind us, which has no bathroom. She has to come in and use one of the bathrooms in the main house, the one the 3 of us effectively share (as well as the guest bathroom). She's rarely ever home during the day/night, so we've barely seen her/gotten to know her in the 3 months we've been here, but anytime either of us have seen her, it's been cordial.\n\nHowever, 3 separate times (and in monthly intervals), she has left period blood on the toilet seat, not bothering to clean it up, leaving us to clean up after her. We tried discussing it with our \"landlord,\" who knows her better and he said he would talk to her, but obviously didn't/doesn't want to. And I get that. But now it's up to me, and I just feel incredibly uncomfortable telling this woman I barely know to clean up her period blood, even though that is in no way my responsibility.", "summary": "How do I tell an adult woman I barely know to clean up her period?"}
{"id": "t3_207n44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M22] just broke up with my girlfriend [21F] and feel like a complete asshole", "post": "I'm still in an anxiety episode, so forgive my awful typing.\n\nI dated this girl for four months or so. I liked her a lot, but as time went by, I felt like neither of us were able to help the other one's personal issues at all. It hurt my feelings tons that she wouldn't let me see her without makeup, ever, even after months of me telling her truthfully she's beautiful and shouldn't be ashamed to go outside with confidence with herself. In turn, her feelings would get hurt because I'm still hurt and angry towards an ex, mostly from just the trauma of it all, and she didn't know how to address it.\n\nIn short, neither of us seemed like we connected in the right way to be able to support each other the right way. She wanted me to not text her for a couple days, so she could think, because I made her upset over the weekend when I ran into a person I used to hang out with my ex with, and he brought her up, and I was upset, and her feelings were hurt because she felt she should be enough to make me forget her.\n\nShe texted me again today, and at a point asked me if I knew why she was upset. I told her truthfully I thought she was upset and wanted to break up, and after she said no, I told her I thought we should. She gets angry at me for hurting her and leaving her, and I tell her I thought it needed to be ended before things were dragged on, because we both aren't helping each other heal.\n\nI don't know. I feel like a bad person. I know she's a wonderful person. I hate that I hurt her. But I also don't think that we could be partners since neither of us apparently could support each other.\n\nDid at least anything I do seem like the right thing to do? Or even make sense? Sorry again; I'm still very panicky.", "summary": "Didn't think my girlfriend and I were going to get better around each other, broke up, feel awful and like an asshole"}
{"id": "t3_4fodtj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "2012 Subaru Impreza back at the dealer for the 14th time for the same issues.", "post": "Hello, Pittsburgh PA here!\n\nSo I have a 2012 Subaru Impreza which was part of the oil consumption lawsuit that just went through.\n\nBack in October I had the short-block replaced because of the issues it was having. All covered under warranty. The dealership has been great, no charges for rentals and generally good people all around....\n\nHowever, It has been back in the shop 14 times since they did the short-block replacement. Each time something else is going wrong. They blame it on not having a full engine from the factory, and since they just replaced part of it, it is causing the issues. Mind you, I NEVER once had an issue before this.\n\nThis last time it was in for 3 weeks. They had their master mechanic tear it down, replace any parts that he thought were bad and put it all back together.\n\nSo it is running GREAT, all the small things I noticed have gone away and I thought we were in the clear...\n\nWell, two days ago i noticed oil drips in the garage from sitting over night. Called the dealer and I have to take it back in on Friday. They said if it is something major, they may look into getting Corporate involved. Which I think they should have done by now already.\n\nIs there anything I can do legally with this issues? I know that Im not paying for anything, but if I'm going to have to worry about something going wrong on a weekly basis, that isn't acceptable to me.\n\nThank you for any help!", "summary": "Car back in the shop for the 14th time after short-block replacement, under warranty. Anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_q1huw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having a Hard Time...", "post": "I'm sure that this post has happened a million times in this subreddit but I am feeling very confused. I am a 30 year old male who has been with the same woman for 10 years (her 41 female). At first we had a very active sex life )I met her when I was 20 and didn't have a lot of experience.) About 5 years in, I began to chat with other women and it lead to a few full fledged affairs that continued for the remainder of the relationship. There is a certain part of me that loves the woman she is but I do not really think that i'm \"IN\" love, and haven't felt attracted to her for a number of years.\nRecently we decided to take a break(I was more or less caught flirting with another woman), and she has gone to stay with her sister while I try and work out my feelings. When I come home at night I find myself missing her sitting there, and feeling bad about being unfaithful.\n Is this what happens when you break up with someone (I know that question really sounds naive)? I love her being around the way you liked your college room mate but I find myself satisfied that im out of the relationship. Does this confusion end? I guess the moral is that i'm quite confused and am hoping to hear from someone who maybe has been through this? I feel like this time, maybe I can change, but in my heart I feel like that is not the answer? Sorry for the rambling, ask any questions, provide any answers, thanks in advance.", "summary": "Need advise after a breakup. Do I make it work, or just realize that it never was working and continue on with life."}
{"id": "t3_3yqcaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you guys handle coworkers that talk and need attention constantly? (F/F 30's)", "post": "I have a coworker who is always talking. The subject is almost never work related, its usually about her kids, or her life, or whatever activity she is currently involved in.  I'm not particularly fond of this coworker, and I'm really not interested in being held hostage by her conversations.  At this point, I feel like she is just really needing attention, and she does not appear to acknowledge any unspoken social boundaries.  I work in an office setting, so its difficult to keep distance from her. I've thought about just telling her I'm not interested, but at the same time I don't want to be rude or hurt her feelings. \n\nIn the past I've tried using body language to communicate disinterest (ignoring, not engaging, not stopping when walking past her desk, no eye contact) but this is not working on her. In fact, when I do this she just stares at me in a really angry way. So I am looking for suggestions on how to deal with this. Is it OK if I just say I'm not interested? I like to keep my work life at work only, and so I don't usually make friends with my coworkers. Obviously there are some exceptions to this, but for the most part I find it difficult to have professionalism and friendship with everyone.", "summary": "coworker wants a lot of attention that I am uninterested in giving, how do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_t986h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I be concerned?", "post": "I started dating my current girlfriend, of 8 months now, in september. We're both in high school, we're 16 (I know, I know, underage, bear with me). I met her in August while she was still dating another guy, lets call him Chris, but she was extremely flirty with me, and ended up leaving him and then we started dating in September. Note, she is flirty with everyone, extremely, and when I confront her on it she tells me that I shouldn't try to change who she is. \n\nAnyway, fast forward 8 months, and when I called her at 9, which is our daily routine, she was telling me about how she talked to Chris for 2 and a half hours today (which is longer than we ever talk on the phone), and it was a really great conversation. So then she tells me what I would think if she wanted to see Chris sometime, on a weekend. And that she was going to do it regardless of what I said. I tell her whatever, its fine. Keep in mind that we don't get to hang out on weekends, we never have, her mother is extremely strict and I doubt she even knows were dating. So we've never been on an official date, but she wants to go see Chris for a day.", "summary": "Girl breaks up with another guy for me, they started talking one night, she wants to see him again. "}
{"id": "t3_302ab7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being 17", "post": "This is currently happening, every agonizing second of this weekend.\n\nIm a 17 year old male, living with my parents. I graduated highschool early, while i was still in highschool i was team captain of the swim team. Had plenty of friends. Ever since i graduated i have been attending a local community college, my parents want me to stay around until im old enough to go to university.\n\nAfter highschool ive been doing jujitsu as a way to stay in shape and not get too bored, but ive lost alot of friends after graduating because i dont see them every day at school. Ive always been into computers,(built my own) i play league of legends and CSGO . But currently my college is on spring break, and im sitting at home. my computer is being fixed, so i cant do that. So now im sitting here watching shitty hbo movies, no real friends to hang out with, actually wishing i had a class to get to. All because i thought i was getting a head start in life.", "summary": "take your time in highschool, enjoy it while you can."}
{"id": "t3_13q31x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last week one of my closest friends and life-long neighbors stole all of my and my roommates rent money to support his gambling problem I didn't even know he had. How have people surprised you in the worst way possible?", "post": "About 2 weeks ago my wallet went missing with about $500 cash in it. I tend to misplace things constantly so I went about searching for it. After a few days I humbly ask my parents to spot me the money and I would pay them back once I found my wallet. Fast-forward to this past Sunday. While I'm at work I check my bank account to make sure I have enough money and there are $400 dollars worth of charges made with my ATM card in the town around my house. I cancel the card and immediately call the police to start filing a report. Since all the money was taken out at ATM's I figured we would find whoever did it pretty quick because of that nifty little camera that looks at people's face as they take money out. I go back to working and finish my shift with my buddy. We leave with the intention of stopping at the police station to finish filing the report. On the way there he reveals that he had taken the money off the card to \"help get out of some trouble with a bookee.\" I flip out and scream at him for about 10 minutes. We get to the police station and I tern him in. They charge him for the full amount in the wallet and off the card. I don't know why he rode with me to the station. I guess he thought since we were best friends and my feelings about police I wouldn't tern him in. He guessed wrong. So reddit, what ways have people surprised you in the worst way possible?", "summary": "Best friend, life-long neighbor, and co-worker stole roughly $900 dollars from me and then rode with me to the police station not thinking I would tern him in. He was wrong."}
{"id": "t3_49z62k", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My 4 yo suddenly needs all the lights on to go to sleep", "post": "I'm going nuts trying to find ways for my daughter to stop needing all the lights on.  She has a nightlight in her room and doesn't sleep with her light on, but she wants the hallway light and the bathroom light (bathroom faces her room) both on.  The problem with this, besides the soaring electric bill, is that I can't sleep with lights on and both of these lights flood my room and wake me up/ keep me up.  I understand that my daughter is scared so at first I told her everything was fine and I just closed my door at night.  However, that didn't solve the actual problem of her being scared and it's getting worse now.  Not only does she want those lights on now, but now she wants her door closed just enough to have it cracked and then she barricades toys and clothes on the other side of the door during the night.  She's afraid of a man and/or spiders getting her in the night.  I should also add that she's 4 years old and **still** has never slept through the night since she's been born.  She's still waking up like a baby would multiple times in the middle of the night.  This is getting ridiculous and I need help because my wife and I are out of ideas.  I hate that my daughter is so scared.", "summary": "4 yo needs all the lights on because she's scared."}
{"id": "t3_a71hr", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Best books written from the female perspective?", "post": "It seems like most of the books I've been reading recently, and most of the books I've been recommended recently, have been from the testosterone-soaked, ego and war and fixing things with wrenches side of the spectrum. I have, therefore, no idea how women write, tell stories, etc., etc. \n\nI would like to change this, and I really would appreciate y'all's help. What book, in your opinion, best captures the female perspective (*The Handmaid's Tale* is the only book I've read that even comes close)?\n\nAlso, I apologize if this is sexist, discriminatory, or any other such anathema. As a man, writing like a man and reading how men write, I'm just ready for the other side.", "summary": "Recommend a good book written by "}
{"id": "t3_1dkd18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F24) cheated on my boyfriend (M28) of two years. He forgave me but now he's asking if he can sleep with another woman so we're \"even\" - What do I do?", "post": "Two year serious relationship.  I'm a 24 year old female, he's a 28 year old male.\n\nI cheated in the very beginning of our relationship.  It was the first month we were exclusive and I slept with an ex.  This has been my secret for the past two years and the guilt recently overwhelmed me.  So I told my boyfriend what happened.  He was extremely upset with me and almost broke it off.  \n\nIt's been a couple of months and our relationship is finally back to normal.  However, last night, he told me he thinks it would be fair if I allowed him to have sex with another woman since I had sex with another man.  \n\nI immediately started crying.  I fucked up so bad.  He said it's not about revenge but I don't understand.  **He's been the perfect boyfriend over the past two years.**  He was faithful, sweet, kind, loving, and now he wants to fuck another girl just because I fucked another guy.\n\nI have a really bad feeling the girl he wants to have sex with is a chick he just met at college.  I haven't met her yet but I get the feeling that's who he wants.  I'm so afraid he's developing feelings for her.\n\nHas anyone ever gone through this?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to have sex with another woman since I cheated on him.  He's been the perfect boyfriend.  I really fucked up this relationship."}
{"id": "t3_frmov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I wish my 'game' was backwards...", "post": "So I'm 21 years old and a member of the Air Force. Until very recently I've been very shy and had very little self confidence. When I joined the Air Force things changed a little. It started as a cover-up where I pretended to be confident in everything I did. It worked though, and since then (last 9 months or so) I've really started to feel confident for real. I'm so much more sure about myself than I was in High School or the 2 years of college I did.\n\nI'd never had a girlfriend throughout high school or the time I spent in college and was a virgin actually. I'd barely gone farther than making out with a girl. I was always too scared.\n\nAnyway in the last few months my success with girls has been a lot better, but I'm confused. My increasing confidence has made it so much easier to talk to girls and I'm loving it. However I feel like things are working backwards for me. Of the 5 girls I've made out with in the last 2 months, 2 I hooked up with, 3 it stopped at the making out. What confuses me is that I cared very little about the two I hooked up with, and really liked the other 3.\n\nI feel like a pretty traditional guy, and like to 'date' a girl I'm actually into emotionally. So when there is a girl that actually interests me a lot, I don't push things. That doesn't mean I won't make a move, but I didn't take things past kissing the first night. But then over the next few days they were very responsive (initiated texts etc) but 'weren't able' to meet up again and then quickly drifted away.\n\nOppositely the girls I hooked up with on the first night were very very into me (and still message me frequently), but I'm not into them. It was just sex for me.\n\nI'm just confused on why things seem to be working out backwards from what I'd really like. Where can I change things to actually form a relationship with a girl I like?", "summary": "Girls I'm actually interested in seem to lose interest in my quickly. Girls I hook up with, just to hook up with get attached to me, but I have no real interest in them. What can I do to reverse this, or at least do better with the girls I actually like."}
{"id": "t3_1u7r5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] and my friends [19-23/All Genders] - seems I always end up as the \"drunk babysitter\" and don't know how to fix it", "post": "I'm a hopelessly responsible person, and realistically I have the most medical training of my friends (raised by a med school teacher). I'm also known for being very un-squeamish. I'm glad to have all these qualities, but combined they mean that I'm almost always the one who ends up taking care of others who get way too drunk. This happens with multiple friend groups, so it's not just that I'm \"friends with total jerks\" or anything - in fact, most of them are pretty fantastic people. \n\nOn the one hand, I wonder if I'm hypersensitive about this. My most recent ex manipulated me for a while by purposely getting himself sick from drinking when I was around (we have a lot of mutual friends) so that I'd pay attention to him. Since that, I can't help but feel a little angry every time someone drinks themselves to the \"helpless\" stage when it's clear that I'm the only one caring and/or sober enough to help them. I know it's probably not intentional on their part, but there's still some part of me that gets unreasonably upset about it. Especially because a lot of these people *know* about my history with my ex - hell, last night, my NYE got kinda fucked up when my best friend proceeded to drink herself into a near coma and I had to stay sober-ish to make sure she didn't choke on her own vomit (the only other person in the apartment was my SO).\n\nOn the other hand, I feel like I should set up boundaries on this. I get that we're young and still figuring out our tolerances and whatever, but *come on*. Then again, it's not the sort of thing where you can call someone's bluff on it...what kind of friend would I be if I let one of my friends get alcohol poisoning because I was too much of a selfish brat to take care of them? \n\nI don't know how to approach this without seeming totally selfish, like a drama queen, or like the biggest party pooper ever. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "I love my friends, but sometimes I wish I could get wasted without worrying if I'm sober enough to care for someone else"}
{"id": "t3_1awumi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit how do you face your family after something really embarrassing?", "post": "It's 2:26am where I am, I was watching something on the computer when I felt the sudden urge to take a shit. About to stand up, I felt my asshole opening and I freaked out and grabbed my rubbish bin and was forced to shit in it. Obviously I didn't have time to pull my briefs right off, just the back part so in doing so I managed to piss myself as well. After a solid 2 minutes of shitting into the bin, I managed to escaped to the toilet where I sat down and proceeded to shit even more. This time that horrid bubbly, squirting shit. I was [bracing the walls and moaning in horror] and at the end of it my family woke up and I had to explain to them all what had happened. I cleaned everything up and they were very understanding but I am mortified and beyond embarrassed.", "summary": "Shat into a bucket and pissed myself, had to explain it to family. Feeling"}
{"id": "t3_3qwbvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] posting from my bed while my crush [21M] sleeps next to me", "post": "I met this guy 2 months ago and i sorta developed an interest in him. I never asked for his relationship status cause i thought it'd be awkward. Long story short he went back to his country after we ment and now he's back in town for a short vacation.\n\nHe got off a 4 hour flight with a 20 kilo backpack and we had lunch and then went for a 2 hour stroll. He was supposed to stay at a friend's house, but complications occured and he had nowhere to stay for the night. At 1 am i told him he could sleep at my place. At 3.30 am i picked him up at a bus stop and took him home. He went to sleep straightaway after apologizing multiple times.\n\nSometime during the night i snuggled close to him and when he woke up around 10 mins later he sort of pulled away a foot or so. (My bed isn't big enough for two). He's also just been sleeping and sleeping amd i havent slept a wink - i want to try and touch him a little, but ...", "summary": "Maybe he's not interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_sz1sc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been cheated on and recovered? My brother-in-law cheated on my pregnant sister", "post": "when she was 31 weeks pregnant and confessed when she was 35 weeks pregnant because he contracted chlamydia. We don't know if he would have even told her otherwise. She gave birth on Wednesday and told me today because my parents didn't want what happened to her to sour my views on marriage. She's not sure what she should do, and I'm SO ANGRY I want to kill him.\n\nHe created an alternate email address and went on Adultfriendfinder to set up a \"date\" with a young woman to let him give her a facial, since my sister wouldn't. The day he met up with this prostitute (she asked for $300 because she was broke..... clearly a prostitute), he told my sister he was going out to get a gift for her because she was working so hard as a mother and wife. :| Then he drove an hour away, rented a hotel room and got his rocks off. It was all so premeditated.\n\nHe's apologizing profusely and they're in marriage counseling now and he has his own personal counselor as well. Apparently he had abandonment issues from his own very fucked up childhood and was worried my sister was leaving him too after the birth of their first child (born in 2010). He basically abandoned his own family after the birth of the first child and hired a full-time nanny to help my sister (who also had a full time job). This nanny sucked and neglected my niece and now she STILL can't speak because of this neglect. All because my brother-in-law was a selfish fucking asshole.\n\nI just wanted to know, has anyone else been cheated on like this (or worse) and managed to make the relationship work? Do you know of other couples that have overcome this? Or should my sister just start planning her exit strategy? She's not sure what she should do.", "summary": "My brother-in-law cheated, fucked up his family all to get his dick sucked by a whore. Can they recover from this?"}
{"id": "t3_1kws6n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24M] with my GF [20F], been dating for 3 weeks. She casually mentioned her old FWB is really good at sex. I'm insecure/jealous.", "post": "A girl and I have recently started dating. Long story short, she was talking about her past sexual experiences and said that her old FWB (male) (also her best friend currently) is very good at sex.\n\nI told her that makes me a bit jealous, and she promptly said that I'm good at fingering, etc. and that I'm a very affectionate, etc. To me, they are just compliments to shut me up even though I'm sure she was being sincere. \n\nI don't think I'm jealous because of the fact that a guy has had sex with her or whatever, because that's all in the past. I think I'm just insecure knowing that I'm possibly not her best sex partner, which is the dumbest thing ever but I can't help it.\n\nShould I just get over it? Or is there something I should do?\n\nI am going to try to not think about it too much. However, there is a very good chance I will meet her best friend. I feel like I would feel really insecure/self-conscious in front of him. What can I do to help ease that feeling?", "summary": "GF says her old FWB is good at sex; I feel insecure. Possibly meeting her old FWB soon; I feel even more insecure. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_238a6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] have become fixated on marriage but I am in no position to plan marriage. Need help understanding and managing my thoughts!", "post": "For a bit of background, I am a 19 year old college student, and I have been in a relationship with a girl [19f] I feel I connect with on every level for about 8 months.  While I do think we are still honeymooning a bit, I do see a real future with her.  She requires quite a bit of attention, but I honestly think that is best for me: I like to be in that role.  My girlfriend and I have a BDSM dynamic, and she sees me in a Daddy Dom role.  I love taking care of her, it literally gets me off.\n\nRecently my siblings both became engaged and frankly I am enamored with the idea of marriage.  I catch myself grazing my thumb against my ring finger, imagining what a wedding band would feel like.  Whenever I'm studying for a crucial exam, I get motivated by imagining myself being able to provide for my girlfriend-now-wife and children.  When we are having sex, I imagine her as my housewife (note, she knows about this fantasy).\n\nAll these behaviors sound harmless and possibly constructive for me, but I fear this fixation might bloom into something inappropriate.  As much as I would like to, getting married young tends to be a bad idea for many reasons.  I have actually discussed the idea of marriage with her (although not seriously, we just talk about everything).  She is excited by the idea too.  We have both acknowledged we probably will not be the same people in five years that we are today.  I want to be financially secure before I settle into a life with someone, and that's not going to happen for quite some time.  It's just a terrible idea to plan marriage at this point, but I can't stop thinking about it.\n\nIn short, my heart says \"yay!\", my brain says \"slow down, idiot!\".  I believe I am maturely managing my obsession with marriage, but I want to keep this feeling in check.  Can anyone help me understand these feelings?  How can I keep my head on my shoulders?", "summary": "I am too young to seriously consider marriage, but I have a fixation with it.  How can I channel this fixation into something manageable and more healthy?"}
{"id": "t3_3ln3wy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25F] feeling burnt out from bf's [27M] lack of kind reciprocation", "post": "I feel like I put a lot of effort into the relationship. I dote on him a lot. Massages for his back (he has a back injury), cook dinner most nights, He's in school and does not have a lot of money. I have a decent job and like to use my disposable income on both of us. I told him that he can do things for me like write sweet notes or foot rubs that would mean much more than gifts. He will offer to do things, but wants to do them on his own time. He also gets really angry if I ask him to do the thing he offered to do upfront. He agreed to make dinner once a week, but is inconsistent with it or makes dinner so late at night I end up just going to bed. He told me that he wanted to give me a massage every day that I worked (my field is very taxing on my body). I worked for three days straight and complained in passing my shoulder was acting up again. Instead of offering to help, he brought up that he felt he was too ambitious in offering to massage my shoulders every day I worked. Instead, he said he'd \"try for once a week and go from there.\" I really don't do things for him so I'll have a list of \"you owe me\"s. I genuinely enjoy taking care of people I care about. I just feel like he is very lazy in our relationship when it comes to follow through or reciprocation. I find myself becoming burnt out. When I try to stop accommodating his needs or doting on him, I feel anxious because that's not who I am. I feel guilty about not bringing him home something to eat or helping him if he needs it. I just wish he could see how uneven the give and take is in our relationship. My birthday is November and I'm going to see if he does anything to make me feel special. I'm already anticipating being disappointed, but I hope that is enough time for me to realize if I want to continue in this relationship. I just wish I felt like he cared for me as intensely as I do for him. I don't really know what to do.", "summary": "I do a lot for my boyfriend because I genuinely enjoy it. However, I'm beginning to feel burnt out from a lack of reciprocation."}
{"id": "t3_gbt5w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost my mojo, anyone seen it?", "post": "I'm a chick who lost 100 lbs 3 years ago calorie counting and light exercise, and I thought I was doing really well. I went from 267 to 168, at 5'5\". Last May, life got a little hard. My little brother lost his ever loving mind and got arrested, I was working full time, doing a 30 hour internship and going to school full time. I think I then understood how my brother lost his marbles. I started taking anti-depressants to help me get through this patch, and gained 38 lbs, so I am now around 205.\n\nLast week, I lost my job, things seem really tough, and am now off my happy pills. (I hate even talking about that, it seems so degrading to need them, which is stupid because I know it isn't.) I can't seem to find my mojo for weight loss. I am ready, I have the time *snork* and I have an elliptical. I just can't seem to find the motivation. I will do well for a day or two, and then self-sabotage. Not fair to myself, and I gain back anything I may have lost.\n\nSo, does anyone have any ideas on how to find my weight loss mojo again?", "summary": "Lost 100, gained 35, stuck. Help.  :)  Thank you!!"}
{"id": "t3_294izs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by potentially poisoning my pets", "post": "So today I was bored and got some whipped cream out, and sprayed it all over my mouth. A bit got on the floor and I was suprised to see my cats were licking it up, so as the nice person I was, I gave them some more. Then I felt like i might of given them something bad for pets so I searched up if whipped cream was dangerous for cats, The web showed me it wasn't so I watched TV and let them do their thing. After some time i was hungry and looked in the fridge and my gaze went to the whipped cream, I then saw it was flavored, and the flavor was CHOCOLATE. I wondered how i didn't notice that before when I was spraying it in my mouth and if my pets are gonna be ok. I'll be leaving for the vet in the morning and my cats have not shown any symptoms yet but I am very worried.", "summary": "I should never be trusted in feeding or taking care of pets ."}
{"id": "t3_48guxg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend[22F] of 1.5 years, is always busy and gets mad at me when i try to talk to her about trying to give time for me (long distance)", "post": "So me and my gf have been together for a long time (a year and a half) and it's been really great but since she started her second year in college she's been seriously busy all the time.\n\nWe've barely seen each other like 3 times in the past few months but that's not what i'm asking for because i know that its hard for the both of us, what i am asking for is that she would just sit down and call/text me for like 30 mins to an hour everyday because that makes me feel like i make her happy.\n\nEvery time i try to talk to her (text) about this she just ignores it and when i call her out on it she gets mad at me like i did something wrong and just says stop talking im tired i need my rest.", "summary": "my girlfriend is busy always and doesn't even want to talk about it."}
{"id": "t3_38zuly", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Summer Camps, enrichments, programs... how do you pick them?", "post": "My sister-in-law enrolls her kids in a county-sponsered \"summer fun\" day program that runs most of public school summer. The enrollment is for 4 hrs on a single day and is \"first come first served\". People line up at 5am to make sure they get a spot. Since my kid is finally old enough, SIL asked if I would split the wait-time with her. \n\nOut of curiosity, I started looking at what other type of summer programs are offered locally (Hawaii) and there are quite a number of interesting, albeit pricey, things.. I also looked up mainland camps and wondered how he would take being shipped out completely as he gets older.  It seems like an awesome way to explore different areas around the US.", "summary": "Who sends their kids where during the summer?"}
{"id": "t3_3wmx2o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a dead baby joke", "post": "So this actually did happen today. My sister recently had a baby, the first grandkid of our family so it's a big deal. My siblings and I have an online chat group for ourselves so we can stay in touch and stuff. \n\nSo here's my FU: I'm known for cracking somewhat inappropriate jokes in our group chat and it always ticks my sister off. Well today I was watching a YouTube video and a dead baby joke comes up. I thought \"Aha! We have a baby in the family again. Let me share this joke\". And I do. I expect the typical the typical reaction of \"whatever\" or \"thats dumb\" from my sister and others. \n\nHell hath no fury like a mother scorned. I get messaged outside of the group chat by my sister. She's furious and ends up saying a bunch of really harsh and hurtful things at me. :( Other reactions to the joke were \".......\" and \"-_-\".", "summary": "How many babies does it take to paint a house? Depends on how hard you throw them."}
{"id": "t3_270jtq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] have been single for 5.5 years and need help!", "post": "I am a shy introvert who is a lone wolf.  I've suffered from depression for as long as I can remember and, a year ago, I hit an all time low and sought help.  I found the right combination of meds and I am doing better now.  I didn't know that guilt and worthlessness are two symptoms of major depression.  Having felt that way my whole life, I believed it was normal.  I also have Pectus Excavatum (surgery isn't an option right now) and it doesn't help my confidence.  \n\nIt takes me a long time to build relationships and, for me, the dating world is fast paced.  I sometimes feel like I am at a job interview.  I have friends who I usually see once a week, but I spend a majority of my time by myself.  It doesn't bother me much.  I've had women tell me that I am attractive and handsome, but it's difficult making it to the next step.\n\nI don't feel comfortable with hookups.  I want a relationship built on trust and I want the sex to happen after that.  I have a difficult time expressing how I feel, but I think I have great things to offer.  \n\nI have had limited success with online dating (a few dates), but nothing happens after that.  I can be a smooth talker during phone conversations and I know how to be really flirty with texts.  \n\nIn a sense, I am content with being single, but I desire a partner to share my life with.", "summary": "I am a shy attractive male who can't figure out dating."}
{"id": "t3_3z1ss2", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Sacramento, California] Renting a house. Water heater is old and insufficient, but not broken. Landlord's or tenant's responsibility to upgrade?", "post": "Location: Sacramento, California, US\n\nWe are a three adult household (plus child on the way) renting a house from a property management company.\n\nOur hot water heater is quite old (1977). It technically provides hot water, but not very much, especially in winter.\n\nWe figure that we can get about 10 gallons of hot water, plus 10 gallons of warm, before the heat drops to room temp.\n\nWe're curious about what the landlord is required to legally provide. My own googling just gives the general requirement of \"hot water,\" but I haven't found any info on minimum requirements for volume, or tank age.\n\nWe're willing to split the cost with the landlord for an upgrade, but want to make sure that they're covering their legal requirements first before we contribute funds towards a replacement.", "summary": "old water heater isn't meeting our needs, what are the landlord's requirements vs tenant responsibilities if we want to upgrade? We're willing to split costs."}
{"id": "t3_2zhtrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF[25M] planned on meeting girl behind my back", "post": "So me and my bf have been dating for over 2 years now. Over a few months ago he made a meetme account behind my back and I finally let it go because he said he didn't talk to anybody, or so he says.\n\nA little background info, neither me or my bf have had a facebook account in over a year. So he reactivates his facebook account without telling me, no big deal. So last night I got two weird text messages from him in the middle of the night talking about seeing each other. We live together so I found that weird. I looked through his phone and nothing unusual in texts. But, then I looked at his chrome history and it says facebook, so I'm like he doesn't have one of those. I go to the messages and I see that he has been messaging hi ex fuck buddy that he talked to before we got together. He started the conversation. He was telling her that he wants to meet up to catch up and he decides that he will pick her up from his place and they will go to Starbucks. \n\nI wake him up and he informs me that they were just going to talk. He admits that he was NEVER going to tell me that they met up. He tells me this because he knows that if he told me I would get upset and not approve. I don't know what to do from here. I told him to message her that he has a gf and they won't be meeting up and he did. Am I overreacting, what should I think? What should I do from here?", "summary": "bf talked to girl about meeting up behind my back."}
{"id": "t3_4fz6pt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is she flirting??", "post": "Im 15 and so is she and her friend, her friend likes me but I dont know about her. I have known her and her friend for only 5 months. Lets call the one who likes me x and her friend xf\n\nSo basically xf grabbed me and put her lipstick on my hand and was laughing when I said I wasn't gay,  she kept saying im insecure as a joke. X was there too laughing. Xf did this too the other guys but then she kept trying to put it on face and kept rubbing it on my cheek.\n\n Idk if xf is single but I know x is.", "summary": "Some girl put her lipstick on my face"}
{"id": "t3_20v7h9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Mum [47 F] have been having problems for the past year.", "post": "Basically my mum argues with me constantly I admit it isn't always her but it's unfair that she just nitpicks at me for the tiniest things. \n\nShe also tries to use emotional manipulation to make me feel guilty which I've just learned to ignore now. Last night was the final straw basically just all of my frustration had built up to the point where I just told her to get fucked and that I don't consider her my mum anymore.\n\n Now this made my dad upset who's a nice guy and always tries to do well, only thing is he always backs my mum up regardless of the situation and it's not fair on me. I'm moving out as soon as I can afford which should be in the next couple of months.\n\nHow do I deal with this situation as I still love my mum but she just doesn't get the message that she is being a bitch and has only started to carry on this way in the past year and a half. (She's going through menopause).", "summary": "Mum's being a bitch, making my dad upset, how do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_1sim33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Father [55M] hates Me [17M] because i'm not the same skin color as him..", "post": "Hello. My father married a Brazilian woman, he is white and she is brown. My mom passed away when I was very young, I had one brother and he was white, he got my fathers skin and I got my mothers skin. Ever since I can think, my dad has supported my brother multitude times more than me, I do better than my brother in everything but football which we are both in varsity.. I do more charitable work, I am nicer to my father, I have never cursed at him once, and I can count by fingers how many times I have raised my voice too him where-as my brother constantly cusses at him, loud arguments occasionally, and gets in trouble more...  \n\nHe never says he loves me, says he loves my brother though... He  calls us both '' son '' but says my name halve of the time in a commanding tone, and his friends I think are racist because whenever they are over my dad and his friends talk about and I quote '' niggers '' and '' wetbacks '', and '' coloreds '' .. I have even heard him say '' master race '' before. He has never said this to me, but I just overhear him.", "summary": "My father is racist, treats me badly compared to my brother for no reason, doesn't like me around his white friends, looks at me like i'm not his son..."}
{"id": "t3_qndb3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do in the case of multiple potential job offers?", "post": "I'm in a bit of unfamiliar territory, and I need some advice. I'm currently employed as a jewelry sales manager in a retail environment, and I have been looking to move to a new job for the last few months for a handful of reasons.\n\nAfter putting out about a dozen applications, I have gotten a few responses. I did an initial interview for a good job with Company A on Monday that went very well, as I have a final interview with the company president tomorrow. Today, I set up an initial interview with Company B for what at this point seems like a great job. The two companies are in totally different fields, and the jobs are very different as well. Barring any unexpected revelations, I don't see that one is that much better than the other. I think I would be happy and successful in either.\n\nSo, pending the results of tomorrow's final interview with Company A and the interview process with Company B, I may find myself with two potential offers on the table, and I've never been in such a situation before.\n\nCan anyone with experience in this type of thing offer some advice on how to go about it?\n\nI'm assuming that if Company A would like to hire me, that the job offer would come before the potential offer from Company B. How exactly should I respond to an offer from Company A if the job with Company B ends up looking like a better fit? I would hate to take an offer and then leave immediately for another position, but I'm also not wanting to pass up a better opportunity if it arises.\n\nObviously, this depends on my performance in the upcoming interviews, but I wanted to get some advice going in, so I'm prepared for all of the possibilities. Any feedback that you have would be much appreciated.", "summary": "I may have two offers coming at once, and I'm not sure how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_350whp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Can the job hunt really just be pure luck?", "post": "Currently at a dead end job making barely 20k a year, and I have been doing nothing but job hunting since getting my BA degree and starting my current job. Then one day at a recruiting fair I stop by the USAA booth to inquire about their claims rep positions, and they email me an online application.\n\nI fill it out and submit it and they respond saying they wish to go forward, I get sent an online assessment involving typing speed tests and situational questions. Apparently I passed (I almost never do with those questions do you strongly agree or strongly disagree) so I get set up for a phone interview which I had at 9am today.\n\nApparently I did great in that and so they had me submit a form online to authorize a background check and drug test (submission was approved and drug test is tomorrow). The rep on the phone at the end of the interview (which happened to be the same rep at the fair) then explained all of the job terms and benefits. Then she set me up for an in person interview with the hiring manager (who was also at that career fair) for May 13th, and as long as my background check comes back good and I don't screw up this interview I essentially have the job as they need people to fill the training class which starts in June.\n\nI'll be making 17.20 an hour starting off (roughly 36k a year at full time) and any hours they need me to work past 6pm gets me a 30% raise to 22.36 an hour. I've been to many job fairs before and had many phone interviews but none moved past that or I never passed the online questionnaire (why do those things have to be so god dammed long... 300 questions WHY!?!?).\n\nMy degree is in management and I have no insurance experience at all, but this job is in a call center and I currently work at a call center which I guess helps me.\n\nSo to reiterate the title can job hunting really be this luck based?", "summary": "Months of dead end job hunting with no leads, lucks into great job with USAA."}
{"id": "t3_ekdg5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I missed my exam today. Details inside.", "post": "I don't know whether I slept through my alarm clock or if my clock didn't ring, but nonetheless, I missed my exam today. I woke up in the middle of it, freaked out, got dressed and dashed out the door. By the time I arrived at school, there was only twenty minutes left so I decided to wait outside my professor's office. While it's not like I could reschedule the exam and take it, my professor did inform me that I would pass the course anyway. \n\nI fully know that this is my fault and I acknowledge it. I don't blame my alarm clock, my professor or so-and-so for making me do this-and-that during study week. It was my mistake and I have come to terms with it.\n\n...Still, it's a fucking lot to take in. I feel like all that studying went down to waste and that if I had woke up on time, I would rock the fuck out of that test. Yeah, I know I'm gonna pass anyway, but it's hard to get past the \"what if\" part. And now I'm stuck with a passing, yet crappy, grade. I don't think I've been this depressed since God knows when. The rest of the day has been a haze, to the point where I just went back home and rotted on my couch with a bottle of vodka.\n\nSo Reddit, the favor I'm asking you guys to do is to cheer me up a bit. Give me your words of wisdom, crack some jokes, suggest ideas on how to cope with it or share your experiences of academic mishaps. By the end of the day, Reddit always seem to be the perfect medicine for temporary angst, excluding the vodka.", "summary": "I missed my exam and now I'm an emo bitch."}
{"id": "t3_3glmyy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "(NSFW) TIFU by trusting my loving father and brother.", "post": "TIFU by giving my father a call since I haven't talked to him in a few days. He invites me over to visit for a while since he was about to leave the country for business. No problem I thought, maybe he was even going to cook, my dad is a fucking great cook so I was really excited. \n      Fast forward to me getting to his house, I come in everything is going swell. Then my older brother who just got off work comes in, Sweet even better I thought to myself.\n   We are all sitting and watching tv when my dad says he cooked some really good food the other night, jackpot! He even throws in that he made my favorite, **stuffed peppers wrapped in bacon**.\n   This is when things get really shady, my brother looks over at my dad and gave a quick little smirk, I barely even saw it so I gave no attention to it. So I sit down and prepare three of the peppers for myself. Before I began to chow down, I asked who had made them, my dad said that he and my brothers wife did. Sweet, even better if it had a woman's touch to it! No way this could ever go wrong!\n  I settle in, preparing myself for the greatness. I take a bite, holy hell this tastes great, I take another bite, only to get a mouthful of seeds. SON OF A BITCH MY FATHER HAD MY BROTHER MAKE THE PEPPERS. MY mouth was numb, I surprisingly hadn't started to cry. Well shit, I still had two left to eat and I wasn't going to let them down. I finish the unholy meal from hell and survive the nightmare. \n  Then we enter the morning, thinking it was all over. I don't think I could've been more wrong in my entire life. I wake up and run to the restroom, thinking, \"Okay, maybe this will be short and painless.\" Jesus Christ I was lying to myself, my butthole was on fire, I didn't think it could be twice as worse going out.", "summary": "I went to my father and brothers house and they had cooked my favorite meal, Stuffed peppers wrapped in bacon. They lied about who made them, were hot as hell and twice as hot on the way out. Don't think I'm in the clear yet, might have a few more rounds. "}
{"id": "t3_29gqvv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a woman her shorts were unzipped in back.", "post": "This actually happened 25 years ago.  I was eating at McDonalds in Green Hills, a small wealthy community in Nashville TN.  It was lunchtime and there were lines at every register.  A woman was standing waiting to order wearing shorts that zipped up the back.  They were not zipped at all and she was showing her granny panties.  She wasn't old, maybe mid thirties, but she was not thin and she did not have a particularly attractive figure.  Not grossly overweight but no MILF.  Still I felt bad for her and decided to tell her of her oversight.  I felt it best to not draw a lot of attention to preserve her dignity.  So I walked up beside her and whispered, \"Your shorts are unzipped\".  I guess I caught her off guard because she jumped in the air sideways away from me and screamed like I'd said, \"Boo\"!  Now everyone in the restaurant was looking at this construction worker dressed in dirty coveralls standing next to a clearly well to do woman with unzipped pants.  She turned toward me and apologized saying I'd scared her.  As gracefully as I could, I told her I was sorry I'd startled her and that her pants were unzipped down the back.  I then went back to my meal she got her food and sat down.  Now here's the part that even to this day amazes me.  She was with her husband.  We looked at each other at one point and he glared at me.  Hey buddy if you don't want your wife to go out in public with her pants unzipped you should still be checking out her ass.  I can tell you my wife would never make it out of the house with her pants unzipped because I check her body out constantly in my continuing efforts to pork her.", "summary": "Tried to surreptitiously tell woman her pants were unzipped, startled her and attracted everyone's attention to us."}
{"id": "t3_3vzli7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by choking my girlfriend", "post": "Hey Reddit! This happened on Sunday. \n\nSo there I was, half in the bag at my best friend's engagement and housewarming party. Family and friends were gathered all around his well decorated new living room. Everyone is having a delightful time. The room is buzzing with side conversations, light music is playing in the back ground, his new Fiance is cooking some small appetizers with the other ladies and the guys are all drinking beer and chit-chatting about finishing the basement, how nice the driveway is and how great he (best friend) is doing. \n\nMy girlfriend (my shy, very intelligent, beautiful girlfriend) is sitting in between two of the oldest friends of the couple's family. I sit next to her and gently place my hand on her thigh to let her know that I'm there. She smiles and whispers to me, asking for a bottle of water. I return quickly in my idiotic stupor and hand it to her like a good dog. She, given her sense of humor, eye-balls be from the side and dramatically throws her head back as if to take a long, slow drink of this sweet nectar of the Gods. \n\nWHEN OUT OF NOWHERE I SQUEEZE THE WATER BOTTLE, RAMMING +8oz OF WATER DOWN HER THROAT.\n\nImmediately I see her eyes get huge and she begins to choke, spitting water all over her new pants, sweater, floor and almost throwing up on the family friends while I run around the kitchen looking for paper towels. \n\nI apologized immediately after, wondering why the hell it seemed so funny in my head, while she laughed and cried hysterically. (Yes, she thought it was hilarious.) The only other people who thought it was a riot was my brother, best friend and his fiance. \n\nEveryone else was baffled by \"how much of an asshole that I am,\" and proceeded to spend the rest of the evening giving me dirty looks, making snarky comments like *\"if you don't want to ride home with him, you don't have to\"* and the like.", "summary": "Made my shy girlfriend deep throat the contents of a Poland Springs bottle in front of old people at an engagement party and spent the evening being judged."}
{"id": "t3_3wyu0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 F] and my boyfriend [14 M] of 1 month, already have rumors surrounding us and I don't know what to do.", "post": "**Yes, I know that this is middle school we are talking about and people are dicks, but I need advice.**\n\nSo me and my boyfriend (lets call him Bob for anonymity purposes) started officially dating about a month ago. There are a few people who have a grudge on me and of course, rumors started because of this. I've heard from people that my best friend Laura (fake name) is Bob's \"side girlfriend.\" I know this isn't true but it's really annoying me and I want to stop the rumors. Before you say \"talk to Bob and Laura about it,\" I already have and we all know that these are just lies. How can I stop (and address) these rumors?", "summary": "There are rumors that my boyfriend has a \"side girl.\" Need to know how to stop and address the rumors."}
{"id": "t3_3ku4w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [22 F] 2y (6 months of actual dating, Pregnancy scare now questioning relationship", "post": "Greetings strangers on the internet (because you're basically the only people I feel really comfortable asking this about)\n\nMy GF and I have been together for two years but because of our work schedules I really more consider us to be at the 6 month point relationship wise (we get together about 2 days out of the month for any time, even a half hour).\n\nRecently we had sex for the first time and she told me the other day she was 'late'.  She asked me what to do and I suggested pregnancy tests, if necessary followed by doctors visits and if necessary the abortion pill that is now legal in Canada since neither of us want or even can raise children where our lives stand.  The test came back negative and she's going to use the other two at three day increments to be sure (she thinks it may also be late due to stress).\n\nI've been questioning our relationship on and off because she feels comfortable going long spans ignoring me but now I'm questioning if I even want this woman as the mother of my children.\n\nAre these feelings normal and will pass or should I be exploring them further to come to a final answer?\n\nHelp me Obi-Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope.", "summary": "GF and I had pregnancy scare, now I question if I want a relationship with her**/**is this normal and will pass or should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2xgs1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23 M] afraid my lack of skill and anxiousness in the bedroom is killing my relationship with my girlfriend [21 F] of 2 months. Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] duration, short-description", "post": "To spare you guys a wall of text I'll jump right into the issue. It's been a long time since I had my last relationship. My social axiety made it very hard for me to make friends, let alone get into a relationship.\n\nThe girl I'm seeing now has been a friend of mine who I know had feelings for me since I rejected her once (I panicked..).\n\nAfter quite some time has passed we finally had our first kiss. That started our relationship. Since then things went pretty quick and we ended up in bed together.\n\nIt was as if it was the first time again for me...\n\nI did not want her to notice I was so inexperienced, I really wanted to prove myself to her. \n\nI failed to get it up.\n\nThis happened two more times. I was devastated and thought I had serious ED at 23. But after doing some research I found out it was something called performance anxiety. \n\nI knew it would only get worse each time we'd try to have sex. So I decided I had to talk to her about it. She was very understanding and told me, while laughing a little that it's ok.\n\nHer lighthearted reaction really calmed my nerves. And helped me remain strong the next time we we're together.\n\nThe end.\n\nNo from the moment I entered to finish couldn't have been more than 30 seconds.\n\nIt already felt like this relationship was hanging on by a single, slippery thread. We can't see each other every day so almost every time we meet it ends up in me disappointing her.\n\nShe seems to be losing interest now. \n\nShould I talk to her about this? Or do I just keep trying until I get more comfortable? I really don't know what to do. \n\nI don't have much but I'm willing to spend it all on this girl.", "summary": "Constant bedroom disappointment hurting the relationship with the girl I don't want to lose. Lost as to what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ugrw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've (27m) dated this girl (20f) for a month, she then left the country to see her family for a month. When she came back she told me she wanted to take it slow.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for a month before she left to see her family in her country for a month after school finished. \nBefore she left things were going really well,  she was really into me and we would text almost everyday. While she was gone we texted about twice a week talk about our day ect.  We would say how we missed each other. \n\nWhen she came back she told me she wanted to take it slow and wasn't sure how she felt about me. So I told her I respected her decision and that I would be willing to go at what ever speed that she wanted. \n\nAfter she seemed a little distant. She seemed to be avoiding seeing  me, having excuses when I would ask her out. After almost 2 weeks out of the blue she texts me on Friday night asking to see me the following day. She invites me over to her place for lunch. \n\nOn the Saturday I head to her place not really sure what to except.  We kiss we talked about our month apart , eat, watch a movie. The day goes by really fast.  \n\nSoon I have to leave since I had plans that night,  on my way out I noticed she has a bulletin board with a bunch of stuff that are important to her. What caught my eye was that she had pinned the movie studs from our first date to it. \n\nSo now I'm a little confused, should I keep asking her out every week or should I wait until she asks me. Should I wait for her to make the next move? I don't want to come off as too needy or attached.", "summary": "dated girl for a month, left one month, came back and said she wanted to take it slow, became distant, called me out of blue to see her, she's giving me mixed signals. Need advice on what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_27qmeh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My so (F/18) Lied to me (M/19) about who she has been texting with, I need to learn to trust her again.", "post": "Hey ladies and gents of reddit. I M/19 am in a bit of a jam in my relationship. A couple of days ago I found out my SO F/18 has been lying to me. \n\nShe has been talking to one of her exs. Now this wouldnt be a problem except he has been openly flirting with her, and when I asked who this guy was (before I found out he was flirting)  she said a friend. So basically she lied by omission. \n\nNow yes I only found out bcs I was going trough her phone ( which we had previously agreed was ok for both of us to do). Still I confronted her about it, She apologized profusely and said it would never happen again but this is the second time she lies to me about this. \n\nI have been cheated on in the past but I want to give her one more chance bcs she is a great person, and makes me insanely happy but I feel completely betrayed and my trust in her is at 0%. \n\nI just want to know how to trust her again", "summary": "My SO LIED to me by omission when she failed to tell me he was an ex and was openly flirting with her. I want to learn how to trust her again."}
{"id": "t3_3ae0sm", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can one get a bad semester, or two expunged from a record to qualify for financial aid?", "post": "So a little bit of background is required for this. My wife when she was younger attended the University of Phoenix but was unable to complete her classes due to the fact that her husband at the time was in the military and moved her around abruptly. As a result she failed her classes. Years later she attended a community college and did rather well (3.2 GPA) however we were forced to move and she transferred to another institution. At this institution she was required to disclose all previous school records to qualify for financial aid. After doing so her GPA was brought down below the minimum level and she no longer qualified. The counselors assured her that her current semester would raise it above provided she did well. Prior to this she began to have health problems (a few years later she was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia) and was forced to drop out due to health concerns. Now that she has undergone treatment and is on medication she wants to go back to school. With both semesters on her record, it is unlikely she will remotely qualify. Is there any advice people can give to get these records expunged or at least waived due to extenuating circumstances? Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "Wife had health problems and had bad grades but wants to go back to school with financial aid."}
{"id": "t3_35jopm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Florida] Renters right to end lease over maintenance issues?", "post": "I have lived in this apartment with my boyfriend since August. It is a 1 year lease. We have had the maintenance come out 4 or 5 times for broken air conditioning since we moved in. It is broke again.\n\nThe issue is that when it broke a month or two ago(time 2 or 3 of the 4 or 5 times it's broken), it was a corroded board. The maintenance manager found a leak and went to our upstairs neighbors apartment to investigate. He couldn't find the leak. At this point, we were in a cold front so the AC being broke wasn't too much of an issue(but it is FL afterall). It took over a week for the special order part to get here and it to get fixed.\n\nNow, they have to order the same part again because the leak from the neighbors apartment. I believe as renters we have the right to terminate the lease with no penalties if the problem is not fixed in 7 days. And I believe there is some other special part of the law about unlivable conditions. Not a lawyer, so idk. \n\nSo the question is: Do I need to give them written or verbal notice that if the issue is not fixed within 7 days that we are out? Or can I just tell them on day 7 that the problem is not fixed and they must allow us to terminate the lease? I just don't want them to start issues with us over it, but I am tired of the AC breaking because they won't fully fix the issue. \n\nIt is the summer and it is close to 90 degrees out. My boyfriend and I can kind of help ourselves with fans(we have one tiny personal one and a 16\" fan), but we have 2 dogs and 2 small rodents and I am terrified of what this heat will do to them since we have to wait for a special order part to get here.", "summary": "Not 100% sure of my rights as a renter. Do I need to verbally tell or write to my leasing office that if the air isn't fixed in 7 days we will be terminating our lease as no fault on our end? Can I just tell them on day 7, they didn't keep up their end? What are our rights because of unlivable conditions(if this counts)?"}
{"id": "t3_393q30", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with post rejection crush on a coworker?", "post": "Hello,\n\nRecently a new girl joined our team. We got along well so I went ahead and asked her out. She said that she doesn't mix dating with work.  \n\nNow, since she said no I figured she wasn't interested in me and I kind of instinctively started avoiding looking at her in a group setting but I didn't avoid or ignore her if she was in front of me and continued to greet her as usual.  \n\nWe're in different roles so aside from maybe a common meeting per week our interaction lasts only for about 10 minutes everyday in a group setting and that too can easily pass off without us really requiring any direct conversation. I am not sure how she construed my behavior but it seemed like she didn't like it and this one day when I didn't make any eye contact with her in a meeting she looked very disappointed and maybe a little angry too. I think she thought I was giving her the silent treatment or something when in reality I'm a really quiet/shy person. I am in my late 20s and she is the first girl I ever asked out face to face.  \n\nAnyways, from the next day onward I stopped avoiding eye contact with her. For a whole week straight she would look me in the eyes the first thing every day during our 10 minute stand up meeting. She stopped doing this abruptly one fine day. Now things are kind of back to normal or at least I hope so but the problem is I can't get her out of my head.  \n\nAny suggestions/advice? I'm completely at a loss here. How terrible of an idea is asking her one more time? Is there another option aside from quitting my job?", "summary": "Unable to get over a coworker who gave confusing signals after rejection. Any option aside from quitting?"}
{"id": "t3_j8fsm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, should I study law at Cambridge or Toronto?", "post": "I have been admitted to study an LL.B at Cambridge, or a JD at Toronto University. I am having a tough time deciding where to go.\n\nA little background on me: I just finished an engineering degree in Ontario (where I live), and have always had aspirations for either law or finance. I heard that it is easy for lawyers to transfer into finance, but not so easy in the other direction, so to keep my options open I applied for law school rather than business school. I have become keen on areas of law that might be helped by my engineering background, like technology law and patent law. Corporate law also seems interesting.\n\nThe one thing that I do know is that I want to work in Canada at the end of the day. I have dual citizenship with Canada and the UK, so I can work for a few years in England if need be, but I really just want to be in Canada for the majority of my life.\n\nI've struggled with the law society of Canada, which makes it very difficult for a foreign lawyer to bring their degree into Canada. If I go to Cambridge for law, these rules will put me behind either 2 or 3 years depending on their whims.\n\nAn alternative solution is to acquire a master's of finance after my law degree. Both Cambridge and UT offer great master's of finance degrees, but it would probably be better to take this in Toronto in order to meet some people in the business.\n\nI have spoken with people in business and in law, both in Toronto and London, I have friends and family making very valid arguments for both choices, and frankly I'm just confused. Reddit, oh powerful beast, I come to you with hopes to harness your collective knowledge. What say ye?", "summary": "r/firstworldproblems"}
{"id": "t3_4l9i9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22 M) have been with my girlfriend (22 F) for over a year now. Things started off great, but aren't the same anymore.", "post": "So, like the title says, things changed. We used to get along real well and things felt magical. Naturally, as in every relationship, the excitement and all wore off and things stabled out and settled down. That's when things should feel really stable and comfortable, but she began to act with disrespect and became more aggressive as time went on.\n\nHer disrespect very much resembles the disrespect I see in her sh***y father.\n\nI have told her that it hurts me when she treats me that way, she will not back down at all until I apologize for something (even though I didn't do anything (I'll often just make up something for me to apologize for)). Only then will she apologize and the conflict will resolve.\n\nShe will say that she will work on it and improve it, and she will be better for a while, but then her behavior comes back worse than before. Now it is at a point where I am just about ready to call it quits.\n\nEspecially lately, she will pick something that I said, with no ill intention, and will start something with it. When I reason with her, she will try to find something else to hold against me. This carries on until I, of course, apologize for anything.\n\nShe is extremely stubborn and does not want to back down until she \"wins\". Just like her father (whom I despise very much).\n\nIs it just time to call it quits? She told me she is very sorry and she will fix it and make sure the relationship gets better. I just don't know anymore. I really do love her, but I am starting to get depressed.", "summary": "Relationship was great, but now she's mean. Do I stay or leave?"}
{"id": "t3_r7xj6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Honestly, who are all of these people crying on Reddit?", "post": "Despite the title, I'm not knocking or belittling it, but really, is everyone actually crying?  Just read through the comments on the post about the guy reserving the seat at the bar for the dead soldier (R.I.P.), and everyone was respectful and obviously moved by the story, as was I.  Every third comment, though, was \"There's something in my eye....TEARS!\" etc. etc.\n\nAs someone who doesn't cry about....anything really, especially some internet post, I just want to know if it's genuine.  This is purely curiosity, once again, not judging.  I've seen these comments on many emotional/sentimental submissions and I can't really tell if it's for real or something along the lines of LOL/ROFL etc.\n\nPlease remember, this is coming from someone who never cries and just wants to understand.  Thanks!", "summary": "Do you guys/gals actually cry about stuff on here or are you just conveying how you feel in a hyperbolic way?"}
{"id": "t3_dzcq7", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I think my mind is going through a radical negative change and don't know what it is exactly, how to prevent it, or why it's occurring.", "post": "It all began around mid July, the day I returned from a trip to see my father I had a panic attack. I have never felt any sort of self-doubt or depression throughout my life until this point. I came home ready to handle some problems that have been plaguing me and I decided to relax that night by smoking with some friends and just playing it cool. I was making a joke to a friend about a mess in the living room and I noticed his reaction was not one that would come from receiving a joke. I then began to question my mind.....I thought that my mind was deceiving me. I remember feeling that perhaps the way I acted was completely different than how I felt it was. It felt like without my knowing I was coming off like an ass, and subtly insulting. I lapsed into a negative brainstorm considering the thought that perhaps I have always been negative and ignorant of it.... after this happened I experienced another situation which again left me feeling like I had insulted someone and didn't realize how. This all led to the attack.\n\nThings have been different ever since then. I constantly question my actions in my head. I feel like I am inadequate in social situations now and have experienced a fair amount of anxiety since. I am afraid daily at some point and constantly find myself questioning whether what I said was acceptable or not. It won't go away.\n\nI fear that people notice and never mention anything. I fear that my friends have slowly begun to dislike me and I feel like I've grown apart from a lot of them. My ambition has had a punch to the face as well....It just feels like I'm becoming depressed in the worst way possible and I can't figure out why or how this is happening.\n\nCan anyone help me with this? Or relate at all?\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Had first panic attack after never experiencing anxiety, depression or much stress, now I'm slowly feeling more and more depressed ever since, as if the curtains have been pulled back revealing a nasty image of what my life might be."}
{"id": "t3_2px49a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(m19) go for this girl(f18)?", "post": "Hey this is small haha,\n\nI'm 19 male and she's 18 female\n\nBasically before the fall semester break ended this girl and I met a few weeks prior to it ending and we got off really well from the start. talked daily, talked about morals and values and essentially clicked on everything. We slept together if that's somehow important to this question. Before she left I said have fun with your family, and joked to not forget about me ina teasing way. She told me to text her over break.\n\nShe went home, i texted her asking how her flight was and told her to text me sometime and she said sure ! wished her good night and all ... 4 days and no text so my question is should I text her or nah? Either shes playing games or forgot about me lmao...probably forgot about me. before she left she told me she wanted to take her on dates when spring resumed and if a relationship ever formed distance wasn't an issue for her.\n\nTo be honest I'm not in love because i dont know her that well but do have a little \"crush\" on her so I don't want to loose it but is there any point in pursing this or nah?", "summary": "girl and I get along well before semester ends, sleep together and when she leaves for home doesnt text me and she said.. should I text her to keep the connection going or nah?"}
{"id": "t3_48xzz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [ 18F ] constantly disagrees with me [ 19M ]", "post": "Compared to a lot of the stuff here I guess this isn't a huge deal, but it's bothering me and this is my first real relationship so I'm wondering if it's normal or healthy.\nWe've been going out for about 8 months and it's been like this on and off for a lot of it, but a lot more recently. If I moan about someone or something she'll constantly play devils advocate when all I want is for her to listen. Occasionally I wouldn't mind if she disagreed, but it's like I know regardless of what I'm going to say she's going to argue the opposite side. And then if she moans about something and I agree with her, she'll spin it around like actually she's being silly and she shouldn't be moaning about it which again makes it seem like we have different opinions on the subject.\n\nAny advice would be great, thanks.", "summary": "Whenever I want to complain about something that's bothered me my girlfriend turns it into a debate when I just want her to listen. If she complains about something and I agree she'll then change her mind. It's as if she doesn't want us to agree on things."}
{"id": "t3_3yd76k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18m] s\\o [17f]keeps breaking my heart and I need advice.", "post": "Ok so this has been happening since the beggining of Christmas break. Rough summary of our past is I hit on her very creppishly and actually got a chance at her about a year ago.. Ok so my mom is going crazy(literally) she has been diagnosed with tardive dyskensia. And my s\\o has been the only one able to calm me down about it. But I didnt say my mom is on dope. Yep my life. My father was just recently diagnosed with congestive heart failure. Bummer. The only person I have actually cared about in my short life is \"Ashley\". I've always been socially awkward and very clingy. I was her first kiss and so forth. So I feel like we have a great connection. But lately she has been telling me she would come with me to various places and has canceled on me last minute. To be exact it's 8 in a week and a half. I left her out of anger the other day and she told her family. We made up and things arent the same. Any advice on how we can progress and strengthen our relationship?", "summary": "I am getting heartbroken over my girl lying and not being there for me."}
{"id": "t3_3qo4jb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [23 M] for six years, want to get back together because I feel like he's the \"one.\"", "post": "Three months ago, the love of my life packed up a few things, got in his car, and drove across the country back to his home. He also broke up with me with the excuse that \"You can find/ You deserve better.\" \n     \n     Because of this, I spiraled in my depression  that I hid for 2 years so much that I went to Partial Hospitalization \u2026 I know now that it was not his fault, but that what happened was the catalyst into putting my depression and GAD into fun motion. Unfortunately, I had to discharge from the program due to college. My ex does not know about my hospitalization or my diagnosis. \n     \n     A month after he left, he texted me saying that he wanted nothing to do with the place (where I'm at), or the people there. He hasn't tried to contact me in 2 months and I haven't tried to contact him. Started working out religiously, changed my hair, went to a convention, and working on getting my meds situated. I know it's gonna be a long time till I get my mental health under control, but I can't help but WANT HIM BACK. There was no clear reason why he left and he left most of his belongings behind. I know this sounds cliche and stupid, but from the moment we met 6 years ago I knew he was the one I was meant to be with for the rest of my life. I've done everything to convince myself otherwise, and thought that him doing all this would have changed that, but the feelings remains the same. \n\n     Should I try to talk to him again? I want to wait until he tries and contacts me but I'm afraid he's waiting for me to make the first move. I'm sorry this whole situation makes no sense and is super confusing. Super sorry for such a long post, I'm just lost and want him back.", "summary": "Lost boyfriend of 6 years almost 4 months ago, haven't talked to him in 2 months. Should I make the first move to contact him? If so, how should I go about it?"}
{"id": "t3_32zzc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M 19], Girlfriend [F 19] My girlfriend asked me if I watched porn and I said yes. She is very upset and is crying. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Gf and I have been dating for 7 months. My girlfriend was talking to me about how she feels that I am not completely honest with her. I always tell her I find her to be the most attractive woman I know. She never really believes that (even though it is absolutely true). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is constantly and mean every word of it. She never really believes any of it deep down because she has self-esteem issues. I try very hard to make her feel good about herself, every compliment I give is from the bottom of my heart. She decided to test me and show me a picture of a naked women. She showed me the picture and felt that I was partially hard and she seemed offended. \n\nShe said that she did not believe I found her the most attractive because I got partially hard to this girl in the picture. She then said that she never really believes the compliments I give her and that I lie. She then asked if I have watched porn recently and I told her I have, once or twice. She became very upset and started to cry. She told me that the thought of me getting off to another woman made her extremely upset with me. \n\nI am trying to see her point of view but I told her that if she were to get off to another guy in porn I would not care very much. She said she did not feel like being here anymore (here being my dorm), and she then ran into the shower crying. I am typing this as she is in the shower and am worried and don't know what to do. I wish that she would trust me but it seems to be almost impossible. I feel like she might want to break up with me over this (although hopefully it is not that extreme). I don't know what to do and need advice to help her trust me and I need to find a way to let her see that watching a little porn does not mean I don't find her attractive. I am sorry if this is badly written, I am typing this in a panic.\n\nI also would like to know if I am in the wrong for watching porn and if she is right?", "summary": "I watched porn, girlfriend is very upset about it, does not believe I find her attractive. Am I a bad boyfriend for watching porn? What can I do to help her trust my compliments?"}
{"id": "t3_34qi3f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it over already? But it hasn't begun yet.", "post": "So I keep finding myself in these non-relationships that go nowhere.  Well this time I'm determined to at least kiss someone I genuinely want if nothing else, it doesn't have to be a relationship at all since he's moving away in a few months for college.\n\nAnother girl, Amy, likes the same guy I like.  However, she is into drama and gossip and managed to convince him not to talk to me saying it's not a good idea to talk to people at work, but she still flirts with him.  The thing is, she is married and that isn't right.\n\nWhat us single people do isn't her business.  She should mind her own since she's already committed.  She's already got into trouble before by causing drama with other men and women, why her department still keeps her?  I don't know.  She's already made up a pretty big untrue accusation about me which I'm going to take to the office Monday.\n\nNone of us work on the same side of the building, we only see each other on breaks.\n\nI haven't felt insanely attracted to someone in my town in a long, long time.  I am determined to at least kiss this boy if nothing else.  Damn it, I just want to know what it's like to kiss someone I'm really, really into.  I always have to give people chances who are left talking to me or people who I don't want.", "summary": "Should I just give up already or give it one more shot?  I was thinking about writing him one more note on Monday asking him why he is telling Amy what I said in the first note I wrote him when I didn't address it to her.  He always answers questions every time someone asks him something, he doesn't get he can say it's none of their business.  I think he's just trying to be polite to her.  I want to say if he doesn't want to talk to me because of what some hater said, his loss, but if he rethinks it over to just pull me aside to talk in private where people can't hear what we are saying.  I got some info on her saying she'll try to sabotage people over a guy she likes but I'm not going to let her win, especially when the idiot is married."}
{"id": "t3_2bzv98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [26M] of four years, has refused any sort of physical intimacy with me [23F] for almost six months.", "post": "I've never been thin, but it hasn't affected our relationship until this past February. I noticed my husband pulling away, and it's gotten to the point where he won't hug or kiss me unless it's in front of others (I assume to put up a good front), and has refused sex, hand holding, kissing, etc. He isn't thin, and while he used to be fit he stopped being as focused on it not long before we married. \n\nI'm about twenty pounds lighter than his distancing began in February as a result of a medication change and new exercise plan, but it isn't helping. As of this point he says he finds me 'gross' and says my fat is 'sticky' and makes him want to gag. I'm just not losing weight fast enough for him. Because of my beliefs divorce is not an option. Should I seek an outside third party to help us, or just find some drastic help for my weight?", "summary": "Husband refuses all physical intimacy because of weight - seek professional help or personal trainer?"}
{"id": "t3_1hebcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26M] with my friend[22M/F] of about 6 monts, trying to bring things back the way it was..", "post": "We both work together, and I consider her a good friend. The past couple of months I started to feel something for her. I really admire her. She's smart, up beat, great personality, hard working, and overall she makes me want to be a better person.\n\n I got her number, and we would text like crazy. And at work, we would talk about all kinds of things. It was overall fun.\n\n I later would ask if she wanted to go anywhere, like get coffee or something, and she would say she was busy. Then a month ago I asked if she wanted to go to the movies and she says \"sure as friends\". In a way, I felt bad, but did my best to just accept it. (hey, maybe she will get to know me better atleast).  \n\n So far we haven't gone, I only brought it up during her time off from school, but she seems to be always busy. \n\n At the same time, it just started to feel like we're getting distant. We talk, and she no longer looks at me, texting has been one sided(where I initiate), and mostly her side is reduced to one word answers. She no longer looks for me to talk to.\n\n Overall, I miss my friend, I have feelings for her, and I think she might suspect that. I'm trying to let it go, and I just want to hit the reset button and bring back things to the way they were. \n\n I'm hurting and I'm frustrated. I felt like I mattered and now I feel like I'm losing her and right now she's the closest friend I got.\n\n I just want her to realize that I am not looking to make this more than a friednship, and want her to know that I consider her my closest friend(between you redditors and I, i would love to for it to be more than what it is, but I don't think it's worth losing her completely).", "summary": "Have a good friend that I secretly like, I really value our friendship and am worried that she can see how I feel so we have become somewhat distant."}
{"id": "t3_2nyjjh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Grade withheld by college professor for many months past required posting date. Possible conflict of interest; is there anything here? (NE, USA)", "post": "First of all this is for my girlfriend who is going to a community college.  She is having some issues with a grade she got in her capstone class (the last class she needs to receive her degree).  She was unable to complete the final project as required and failed, but didn't receive this confirmation until almost 4 months after the posting date. During this time the professor was hinting that her grade would go from N/A to Passing if she took one of his more demanding elective classes and did some work on the side.  \n\nShe ended up completing the class and the extra out-of-class tasks.  However, not long after the end of that semester she received a failing grade for the capstone class.  Now she has missed 2 enrollment periods, wasted a ton of her time, and has no degree.  \n\nI helped her draft an email to the dean to get her grade changed, but I am wondering if there is any legal issues here.  Does anyone here know anything about this?", "summary": "GF was led to believe that if she would get a grade bumped up in a class if she took another class with the same teacher.  She failed the original class as soon as the other class was completed.  Any legal issues here?"}
{"id": "t3_1hyspj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Honest female opinions wanted! I [18M] am feeling a little too jealous over my girlfriend's [21/F] desire for a full body massage.", "post": "So the title is pretty self-explanatory.  I am a fairly jealous person as my girlfriend and I live an hour apart due to summer off from university.  She told me she was going to schedule us for a couples massage, but couldn't find any in my area.  So she instead made an appointment of her own in her hometown.  I'm just feeling extremely apprehensive about how this will make her feel.  I KNOW that massages are supposed to feel good, but I can't help but wish I were the one giving it to her.  So, women of reddit, I'd like to ask... How sensual are these massages?  Mostly, my concern is that a guy will be giving it to her and I know how most men view her (she's a real catch).  She's not given me a reason to not trust her, but am worried a massage could very well push her over the edge.", "summary": "Girlfriend gave up on trying to find a couples massage, and instead made an appointment for herself."}
{"id": "t3_ei2uz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend won't leave", "post": "(throwaway account)\n\nThe first 3 months were bliss, in love, in the clouds, now we've been together just over a year and a half. It's fucked up, but at least half of that time I have not wanted to be in this relationship, and have thought alot about dumping her. I've tried at least 5 times to dump her, 2 in the last month, with varying levels of resolve, but somehow she won't go.\n\nBy \"won't go\" I mean that she will not accept that we are finished, and if faced with it she will threaten to run off into the night and take drugs and basically throw her life away. She was an active cocaine user ~5 years ago. She's also an orphan, and apparently has some abandonment issues.\n\nI've spoken fairly clinically thus far, but a very important part of this is that I am not ready to accept that my action of dumping her leads to her destroying her health and/or losing everything she has, because she IS still my friend (soulmate?), and I care about what happens to her. I also feel like if it played out as I imagine it would, the thought of it would plague me and generally be a black spot on my conscience forever.\n\nGory example of breakup attempt: We're at my place (I know this is a mistake..). I explain everything. She cries, hard, for 3 hours, holding onto me like she was losing a parent. I completely choke up too because I can barely deal with seeing that and imagining the repercussions for her. Then at some point, mood changes, she wants out so she can go buy coke. It's LATE at night and not safe outside either. I have to physically restrain her, I consider calling police, or her parents, to put her into some kind of custody. I've tried during the day too, she'll just keep calling and it'll go on all day until I'm forced to make a deal.", "summary": "Ex addict, not prepared to take responsibility for herself, what the fuck I do!??!1"}
{"id": "t3_43qpp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my Wife [28 F] of 2 years - with a baby on the way - Birthday Gift Expectations.", "post": "So my wife and I are high income earners - but we come from humble backgrounds, so only on rare occasion do we buy each other expensive gifts. For example, her engagement ring was $36,000.00 - but her Christmas gift last year was $300.00. \n\nMost of our gifting for each other's birthday's and christmas's are in the $300 - $500 range.  On rare occasion, we will buy more expensive gifts. \n\nSo this year, my wife, for her birthday, wanted a full day spa retreat.  Thus, for her birthday gift, I bought her a full day spa retreat package - last about 8 hours - cost of $400.00 before tip (which of course, I will pay).\n\nAs her birthday approaches, my wife has been also been dropping hints that she has been eyeing a particular designer bag.  \n\nSo my question is simple - what are my wife's birthday expectations?  Is she expecting the purse in addition to the spa retreat?  Or is she just letting me know for perhaps valentine's day?  I just want to make sure I don't let her down.", "summary": "My wife's birthday is coming up and I'm not sure if she is expecting a gift in addition to the \"gift\" of a day at the spa."}
{"id": "t3_4fqil9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20f] brother[15m] has the worst BO I have smelled in my entire life and refuses to fix it.", "post": "My brother has always had issues with hygiene, he's always just sort of smelled bad and never cared about washing himself or the things he uses. Sure, when he goes swimming for a while or actually uses soap in the shower it isn't too bad, but he rarely does. He smells bad ALL THE TIME. My parents chastise him constantly for this and every time he's faced with the issue he just does the typical \"Yeah yeah. Okay. Yeah.\" response, pretty obvious he doesn't care. He basically only ever washes himself when we're visiting family (i.e. staying at someone else's house). I've tried to actually sit him down and talk to him, I just get the same response.\n\nNow I feel bad emphasizing this but he smells so bad to the point of me not inviting anyone over anymore, because the smell just hits you like a brick when you enter the house. I burn lots of candles in my room & the window is constantly open because I really like fresh air (yes even in the winter heh), and I notice the difference as soon as I leave it even just to cross the hall to the bathroom. It's so bad he leaves a scent trail with him, you can always tell where he just was or where he is just by smelling him. He also rarely uses soap or anything in the shower, he'll step fresh out of the shower and still smell absolutely horrid, often into already dirty clothing. He's 15 and has to be reminded that he can't wear dirty clothes multiple times. Like his hygiene is just terrible. Doesn't even always wash his hands, I never eat anything he touches and sanitize the hell out of doorknobs and handles.\n\nHe really doesn't seem to care whatsoever that he's single-handedly stinking up the entire house and he has the basic hygiene of a toddler, and I have no idea how to make him see it. My parents can't make him see it, kindly speaking to him about it won't change anything, it's insane. No matter what, he just doesn't give a shit. I am at my wits end and I know my parents are too, just no idea what to do.", "summary": "Brother smells like a hundred corpses, is very much aware of this, yet doesn't care and won't bathe properly."}
{"id": "t3_uxhiz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he no longer interested,or am I just being needy? What can I do?", "post": "I apologize in advanced as I am not very good at gathering my thoughts.\n\nFirst some details:My boyfriend(20) and I(f19) have been together for almost 1.5 years. We met on the chanz. We have been incredibly happy. We do have the occasional argument,the most serious ones being about me not able to spend the night with him(I come from a very strict and conservative Hispanic family.) or being able to see each other(neither of us have cars and very limited funds for public transportation.) But other than that I can say that we do love each other very very much. He has body dysmorphic disorder and I have borderline personality disorder and self-worth issues. He's also been to several rehabilitation centers/hospitals for drug addiction. I only have done therapy for my bpd.\n\nThe Problem:Boyfriend recently moved out of his parents house and into a sober living home. He decided that he can no longer come down to see me because the area that I live in is very triggering for him(it's not a very nice area and he would get drugs from this area). He also says that he feels \"bored\",not with our relationship,but in that he feels he has accomplished nothing in life. He says that I deserve much better than him,I am \"too good\" for him. He makes me happier than I have ever been and he saved me from my depression.\n\nThe Question:Since he has moved out,we don't talk as much. He is pretty busy with work/house meetings/groups/NA meetings,etc. I also feel that he hasn't been as \"lovey\"(I can't think of another way to say this) as he once was,and I've been feeling pretty neglected.Of course my bpd makes me think very black&white so I begin to have thoughts of \"he doesn't love me,he found someone better,I am terrible girlfriend,etc,etc\". **Has he lost interest in me? Is it normal for me to feel neglected? Am I being needy? Should I just give him space? Or should I just talk to him?", "summary": "Boyfriend has moved into sober house,we don't speak as much and I feel as if I am being needy."}
{"id": "t3_2m0kmb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] I No Longer Feel Ashamed At The Supermarket", "post": "Before I started losing weight my trolley would be full of cake, biscuits, cheese, all the ~~good stuff~~! I'd be walking round the Supermarket embarrassed for people to look into my trolley. I still eat some of these occasionally obviously but now I limit it considerably.\n\nAnyway, usually at the Check-Out the attendant would be beeping all the biscuits through etc, and even though they're friendly, you know they are quietly judging you. I always felt that way anyway, that could have just been my mental shame.\n\nToday, I was at the check-out and the girl at the counter said 'You're so healthy with all this veg, you're putting me to shame, right before Christmas too!'. I felt so proud of myself .\n\nJust wanted to share this with you all because I feel like someone on here might have had 'supermarket shame'.", "summary": "I used to pile my trolley with crap, now it's full of meat and veg. Feels good."}
{"id": "t3_dk3l5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A Blackberry on no credit?", "post": "Hey reddit,\nI've just recently moved to england to attend university. I opened an account here a few weeks ago through HSBC, but they had the wrong address on it until today which i found when trying to get a BB and contract with Vodafone. Got that fixed, but now my account has been in the UK for literally an hour, so my credit check failed, and the guy said i'd need to wait three months to apply again, and that if i try other places i'll just ruin my credit further. I really need a BB for texting home / internet etc, and im stuck with a shitty nokia pay-as-you-go for now. Are there any ways or tricks in order to pass the credit check that could get me a BB now? I'm willing to go with any carrier!", "summary": "Know any ways to pass a mobile provider's credit check without credit?"}
{"id": "t3_2dj9h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 7 years, confused and I think things are over. UPDATE", "post": "I understand that an update needs to have a solution but I've found out more information since my initial post and need advice. There's a million thoughts going through my head and not sure what to think anymore.\n\n[Original Post](\n\nSince then I found emails of order confirmations of home things like shower curtain, chair, pots pans, etc. I also found an email to her mother with a link to pictures of an apartment nearby. \n\nWith this new information, things make a lot more sense. In my original post, I mentioned that during one of our talks she said she felt like things went to fast with moving in together along with moving 800 miles away from all of our friends and family. At that time I asked if she would like to get her own apartment to have some space and she said no, but I guess now she wants that. We haven't talked yet, but we will when she gets home from a trip she's currently on.\n\nIf that is what she wants, then I can't really blame her. We started going out at age 16 and definitely spent way too much time together through high school. We never really had many friends outside of each other.\n\nI feel regret for moving away from our hometown and wish I could rewind back to before the move, but I think this would have happened anyway, no matter where we were. I also feel like a lot of blame should be put on that friend she made when we first moved down, that girl changed my girlfriend so much and I feel like she drove us apart, but again, I think that would have happened to whoever she became friends with.\n\nAt this point, I have some home that things can work out. I think a break would do her good, but to me I want a break where we are committed to still being faithful with one another. I know it sounds contradicting, but I think she wants more time with friends rather than time with guys/dating. Is this even possible?\n\nAm I stupid for having some hope that this can work out?", "summary": "Found more information about things. Seems like maybe she was telling the truth about talking to her mom, but didn't want to break the news that she is thinking of moving out. Not sure if she wants a break or to end the relationship, but will talk with her this weekend. Am I stupid for having hope?"}
{"id": "t3_4vojyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] just came back home to my [23F] gf of 5 years after visiting family for a and she has moved another guy into our room. My roomates are supporting it.", "post": "I live in California, and went to visit my family for a month after not seeing them for years and my girlfriend stayed behind at our shared apartment. We had been going through a rough patch and had talked about a break shortly before I left to come back to my apartment, but had made plans for things to do together and how to get back on the right track when I returned. I never heard any different until I walked into my apartment and she told me she was with someone else and he was staying there some. Last night my first night back I went to go sleep after this news and the drive and he was in my room, my now ex told me that I have to go somewhere else even though I've paid my portion of the rent, and my friends/room mates have been apologetic to me, but supported it because \"its what she wants\" and because he had apparently paid rent as well. I arrived late and was hit by these bombshells and now I don't know where to go or what to do. The whole life I had built seems gone, and she is showing no sign of remorse. She also led me along to send her money while I was away and set it up for us to attend a festival, which included tickets and renting a car.\n\nWe've always seemed good together and I'm completely blindsighted that she could even do something like this. Any advice on how to deal with the situation, get my room back. Find another place to stay or just not have a mental brakedown would be appreciated.", "summary": "Just got back home after a month away. Was being strung along and arrived to another guy living in my room with my gf, room mates haven't been supportive and I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3r575p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] and my girlfriend [20/f] hooked up with my best friend after we broke up but now we're back together. Should I break up with her?", "post": "I started dating this girl at my university last Spring. We mutually and amicably decided that we wouldn't be together over the summer but possibly pick back up in the fall. Over the summer she had sex with my best friend [20/M]. We got back together in September but now I can't get the image of them two out of my head. I know we weren't together but I feel very disrespected and broken-hearted that they did this and I'm having a hard time getting past it. I'm starting to think that maybe we should break up. Am I in the wrong for thinking this way? How should I address this situation?", "summary": "I dated this girl last spring, we broke up for the summer and she had sex with my best friend. Now we're back together but I feel upset that she did that and I don't know if I should continue dating her."}
{"id": "t3_3oaaen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] For 3 years, not as into it.", "post": "So I know my partner pretty well. We had gone out in high school for a while, then we broke up because I was dealing with personal issues that had an impact on the relationship. Later on, when we went to college, we got back together and we've been together ever since.\n\n I love her and she's my best friend in the world. It's my opinion that a good relationship is defined by how each person improves the other and grows with them. I know that everyone has little things and big things that are imperfect in ways I may never understand. And I understand that spending enough time with someone forms a special bond to that person, like a symbiosis. \n\nIn spite of this, I have throughout my time with her felt an uneasy disillusionment about the relationship. I'm constantly thinking things like \"Is this the best for me?\" and \"What if I'm missing out on something greater?\" As you can imagine this is terribly troubling for me as a person because I know I should cherish my partner and love for who they are and try to improve them as a person. But I seem to constantly be stuck in the clouds.", "summary": "Having trouble being satisfied romantically in my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1mdv1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 2months, she's still afraid of getting close to me and I'm at a loss", "post": "So I've been dating this amazing girl and everything's been going smooth and fantastic. Last month she had to move across the nation for college, but we decided we were both mature enough for long distance. Anyways, her past relationships almost always had ended with the guy cheating on her. As a result, she is still reluctant to get intimate with me because she's super afraid of getting hurt as badly as she did before. I've tried to assure her that I would never do that ( I honestly would never do that to her, or any girl) and that I won't let her get hurt like that again,but she's still afraid of it. I don't think its that she doesn't trust me, she's just not wanting to get hurt so badly again.\nI'm trying to be patient with her and be there for her, but won't even confide in me; she'd rather talk to her close friends or her mom. I guess i'm just asking for advice on what to do here. She's very special to me and I don't want to lose her from something her ex's left her with.", "summary": "Girlfriend's afraid of getting intimate due to scars left from old boyfriends who cheated on her, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_4blsfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [16M] is displaying all the signs of a crush towards me [18F] but he already has a girlfriend. What do?", "post": "I have this really close friend who I met at the start of the school year. For the sake of convenience, here I'll call him Sal. So, when I met him, Sal was acting oddly flirty with me; complimenting me on my t-shirt; noticing I had braces and then telling me they suited me; smiling at me and looking me in the eye; etc. But he has a girlfriend, and when I found out my reaction was more \"huh?\" than \"aw\". Coz he was totally giving me signs like he was interested in me. (FYI I never asked him out or anything, he just mentioned offhand once that he had a girlfriend when I asked him what his plans were for the weekend)\n\nWe're really close even today and he still behaves the same way towards me, maybe even more. He sits next to me always, he set a photo I took of him and some other friends as his laptop background, he always shares his things with me, likes all my Facebook posts, still still STILL always looks me in the eye when we talk (this is a big one. It makes me feel so touched yet so vulnerable at the same time) and compliments me on literally everything I do (I.e. Artwork, writing, guitar, etc.)\n\nSo what I'm wondering is, does he have a crush on me? He seems close with his girlfriend when they're together (she doesn't go to our school) but when he's with me I get the unshakeable feeling he's got some kind of romantic/sexual interest in me. Am I just reading this wrong? If I'm not, what can I do about it?", "summary": "I think my friend has a crush on me, but I'm not certain. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4zjkx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my nice neighbor [30s F] of a few months, how do I get her to stop smoking in her driveway?", "post": "Hi there, any advice would be much appreciated! My neighbors (a couple in their 30s with a toddler) moved in a few months ago. They are a huge upgrade from my previous neighbor, who made it her personal mission to make sure nobody parked on our street. Anyways, all is fine with these neighbors; they're quiet, friendly, and normal in general. I don't talk to them much, just a simple \"hello\" or \"how are you?\" if we bump into each other outside.\n\nHowever, the woman smokes in her driveway every few hours, every day, and it blows in through my side patio door right into my dining room where I spend a lot of time working or just hanging out. She obviously has every right to smoke on her property, but I have tons of allergies so having my house smell like cigarette smoke every few hours isn't great for me. \n\nIs there any way I can go about addressing this issue with her without ruining our friendly/hands-off neighborly relationship? Do I have any right to ask her to smoke elsewhere? I really don't want to inconvenience her, and I'm sure she has no idea her smoke is blowing into my house, but I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with my house smelling like smoke.", "summary": "My neighbor smokes in her driveway and it blows into my house, causing it to smell like an ash tray. How can I address this issue with her without ruining our friendly neighborly relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2v2qcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my fwb [26F] 4 years, cheating? Should I really care?", "post": "So I have been in a 'forbidden' relationship with this girl who has a relationship back in her country. We are amazing friends who are also friends with benefits, for the last 4 years, while I was (and still am) single.\nLast week we met a guy from school, and all three of us became friends, however I can see when I take a glimpse at her phone (not staring, not spying) that she is always exchanging facebook messages with him. When we hang out, when we study, when we lie down, when we cook, eat etc. \n\nNow, a girl who already has a relationship and 'forbidden' friend with benefits wouldnt be talking to a new guy 24/7. But here's the twist: Last night when I stayed over, she was really cold, and this morning when I asked whats wrong, she said she wants to stop doing this 'fwb' thing cos she feels bad about her boyfriend (they've been together many years). \n\nWhat are the chances that she really meant that, I mean, if she has her bf convinced that they are together for so long, and having me aside, whats stopping her from convincing ME that she no longer wants to do it?\n\nIt feels weird, cos this is a person I trust a lot (and she proved it several times that she's honest with me)  \n\nAt the end of the day I always knew this had no future and was just for the fun of it, but still doesn't feel nice to be kicked out the moment a new guy is introduced. Should I care?", "summary": "forbidden relationship draws to an end, no idea if its cos of the new guy she became friends with. Should I really care?"}
{"id": "t3_oq7dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke my best friend's heart.  What do I do to make this split a little easier on us?", "post": "My best friend (18M) and I (18F) have grown a lot closer over the past couple of months, and it apparently escalated to a bit more on his side. I have a boyfriend who I love very much, and I have no intentions of leaving him.  The other day, I told my best friend that I wouldn't leave my current boyfriend.  I feel like I completely broke his heart, and I feel awful for it.  I have no way of avoiding him as we have classes together all the time, and I don't know that I even want to avoid him in the first place.  I'm afraid that this will send him back into a depression (for which he's already on medication).  Are there any thing I can do to make this easier on the both of us?  Has anyone else gone through this before and wants to share the story? I need words of encouragement to stay strong and not guilt myself into giving him everything he wants just  because I feel bad for what I've done to him.", "summary": "Broke my best friend's heart. Both of us are upset over it. What do I do to make things a little easier on the two of us?"}
{"id": "t3_cym0x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel completely helpless! I need advice.", "post": "This is a little somber but I am really at a loss here. This is about my Mother. My Mother has helped me and several other people during some really dark times. My Mother is the kind of person that would help anyone in need if was within her means and maybe even when it's not.  I call her when I am going through my own crap in life and she's there as a positive light that gets me through it. \n\nWe have all heard the saying the bad things happen to good people but my Mother does not deserve this. In the last 3 years she has dealt with the loss of her young niece (my cousin), an ugly divorce from my Father, an abusive evil manipulating asshole ex that practically took her money and house along with ruining her credit and the serious sickness of her Father (my Grandfather). She is raising my youngest brother alone.  All her children, including me are spread out hundreds of miles away from each other. She loves us more than anything; she tells us almost on a daily basis. \n\nOut of all the mess in her life, she did find someone that loved her and took care of her. This was her boyfriend who from what I can tell she's in love with. They have been dating for about 3 years now. He passed away last night very unexpectedly of a heart attack. To say my Mother is devastated is a gross understatement. \n\nRight now my Mother needs me more than ever. Like I said before she is separate from her kids. I live in Texas and she lives in California. I am a 25 year old broke college student. What do I say? How do I comfort her from afar? What can I do? I have never seen her like this (or heard since everything was over the phone).  I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "My Mother is like a saint and has gone through dark very times. Had a boyfriend to help cope through those times and he passed away very unexpectedly. We are states apart. How do I comfort her from far away?"}
{"id": "t3_2ghq05", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "BF (27/m) broke up with me (25/f) after I moved across the country with him. What next?", "post": "Hey, all:\n\nMy sweet Navy boyfriend asked me to move from WA to SC with him last December, and when we finally left in May of this year, I was so excited to start a life with him. I'd only ever lived in WA, and was so excited to see another part of the country and see what life was like outside of the Northwest. He broke up with me a month after we got here, and I am so glad that I worked so hard on finding a job and getting my shit together. He wants to be friends, but I'm still so heartbroken about this whole thing that I can't handle talking to him without trying to get some answers about this huge change of heart...on the wrong side of the trip. Is there any hope for getting back together? Am I being so foolish for even thinking that I should try and get with someone who practically abandoned me, not knowing anyone, 3000 miles away?", "summary": "Dude waited until the other side of the country to get relationship jitters or figure out I wasn't for him: am I dumb for wanting to get back together with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3qq8ud", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog wagging really indicate happiness?", "post": "I have a 2-year old rescue who is quite timid, but sweet. \n\nI've started to notice something, she always starts wagging very enthusiastically when I approach her (say I walk into the room where she is sleeping and she wakes and notices me coming over).\n\nAs I get closer and closer to her she wags even faster and with more excitement, but the moment I actually touch her and start petting her, she tends to stop wagging her tail. \n\nI've tried petting her in different areas, softer or more vigorously. Doesn't seem to be much correlation. She doesn't always stop wagging entirely, but the effect is pretty noticeable nonetheless.", "summary": "Dog wags happily when I approach  "}
{"id": "t3_2qnwx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, introvert [25 M] with my introvert crush [25 F], known her for about a year but we speak very sporadically. Not sure if I should continue asking her out \"directly\" as we don't cross paths much.", "post": "So I've known this girl for about a year now, we met through a church group. She doesn't come often and neither do I. Our correspondences prior to me asking her out were rides home I gave her after group meetings, during which we conversed pleasantly.\n\nShe usually doesn't attend regularly because of work and also because she's really introverted, while our group discussions tend to be lively. She usually sits there quietly while the rest participate. For me, I'm only in the group for the community and company. So we don't really cross paths. \n\nRecently, I plucked up the courage to ask her out over a meal. It went alright and I thought a second time wouldn't be a bad bet, but that turned out to be worse-than-expected. I asked her about her family and aspirations, but her answers were very close-ended. It turned out that family was more of a personal question for her (I assumed that for most people it would not be), and she asked me why I was asking them (the questions). \n\nIn the end it became almost as if we were role-playing in theatre and each party was asking questions and giving answers because it was the right thing to do at that moment. We were almost too experienced to allow awkward silences to fester and so moved on with machine-like efficiency.\n\nIt was hard for me that I initiated interest but it wasn't returned (she's really private and reserved and I couldn't read her) ostensibly due to the fact that it was an extremely direct approach and there was no circumstantial reason for me to ask her out. Need help on what to do from here on.", "summary": "Me and introverted girl whom I don't see regularly, asked her out twice and by the second time she was wondering why I'm going out of my way to hang out. Conversation becomes scripted and awkward, like role-playing. Not sure of how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_33zpw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] have been with my GF [21 F] for three years, 1 in long distance, may not see each other again for years", "post": "We've met each other where I am currently living (she lived here too) and developed a happy relationship. We were friends through high school and a few years into college, in 2012, we hooked up and it stayed that way since then. \n\nIn early 2014 her father had to relocate due to his job and her whole family had to go to a city 5000 km away. We live in Brazil, I live in Porto Alegre (extreme south) and she now lives in Boa Vista (extreme north). We didn't break up or anything at the time because we really like each other and she was supposed to to come back in 2016 and during college breaks we could visit each other.\n\nLast month she told me her father is not comming back, neither is she. Also, we both can't visit this year because of many reasons (I study mechanical engineering and recently got a job in a big company). So it may take years since we see each other again.\n\nI like VERY much, but since the day she told me that it may take a few years for she to come back, I've been doubting where this relationship is going. I truly like her, but I don't think I love her anymore. It is really confusing to me, on one side I really care for her and want to be with her but on the other side I am kind of accepting the fact that we won't be able to see each other again and I'm ready to let each of us go our ways.\n\nI think I need an external opinion on this, any advice would be helpful.\nSorry for the bad english, it is my second language.", "summary": "GF is living on the other side of the country and may take years to come back, we both can't visit at the moment and I'm starting to question my feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_bze2v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife is an Excel nerd. I want to ditch Office. Suggestions?", "post": "My wife is a pretty hardcore excel nerd. She uses it to track our budget and to help us plan for everything from vacations to debt pay off. I also use it for some light book keeping. \n\nWe currently use Office. I'm considering ditching it. I've thought about Open Office or GDocs, but I'm not sure. \n\nWe run on several different flavors of Windows. My MS Office replacement must have a spreadsheet application that is better than or superior to Excel. Free is delicious, but I will pay a reasonable fee if needed. \n\nMy excel fu is less than stellar. Is the spreadsheet application in GDocs   as functional as Excel? What about Open Office?\n\nSuggestions?", "summary": "See title."}
{"id": "t3_2x05kh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I think I payed my credit card with someone else's bank account help!", "post": "So earlier this month I opened a CFNA credit card with STS to pay for a repair I had done on my car. I went ahead to pay off the debt once I got the money. Online payment for CFNA requires the bank account and routing numbers. For days after I submitted the payment I was wondering why my account balance wasn't changing. When I went to check my CFNA account I found that the payment did go through but it was not from my account. I had messed up the account number and it appears I may have taken money from someone else.", "summary": "I went to pay my credit card with my money. I mistyped the last 4 digits of the number and apparently the number I put in was a valid account that isn't mine."}
{"id": "t3_3k4xzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my ex girlfriend [18] was secretly seeing someone else but wasn't honest enough to tell me when she broke up with me [M 21 ] Should I say something if i am certain she is?", "post": "Girlfriend broke up with me last night. Usual cliche text. 'i'm not a relationship person. 'you'll find someone better than me'. She said we didn't click, and that she wasn't happy with me. Was all very sudden and I'm still surprised.\n\nHowever there's been a few interesting revelations which may explain a few things if confirmed true to me.\n\nShe used to work during the summer at her uncle's metal part factory. There was a guy there my age she always used to work with and talk to there. Her gran always used to try and get this guy to go out with her. Naturally at the time I laughed with it, thought it was a bit of harmless banter and all.\nHowever I found out the night before she broke up with me she had this guy round her place, and they hanged out for the night.\n\n It was her grandad's birthday too, so they had family members round. And she had him over for dinner. But not me\nThey recently added eachover on facebook today\n\nNow it's either a pretty awful coincidence. Or she actually was seeing this guy and didn't have the honestly to tell me straight that she was.\nI know some of you might not see this as being too bad.But for me, i if this is true, I feel like I have been lied to. She didn't tell me the honest truth\nNot to mention making me feel incredibly angry.\nWhat should I do if I can confirm she is seeing this guy?", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me very suddenly. Had a guy she knows at work round her places the night before. Feel like she wasn't honest enough to tell me she was seeing someone else."}
{"id": "t3_4b3s65", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Need advice on my college path", "post": "I have an AA degree and recently transferred to a university. I applied to major in English with a specialization in creative writing and got in but I realized I wanted to major in a STEM degree, more specifically computer science or engineering. The college im at won't let me because I don't have the pre reqs. So now im going to be stuck at an overpriced university doing a non STEM degree which i dont think the money ill be paying is worth it. My long term goals after college is to be able to work from home and start a business. My original plan with the English degree was to write scripts for movies with a friend mine who is finishing his degree in film studies. Like i said before, i don't know if an English degree at this university will be worth it.", "summary": "University im at is expensive. English degree might not be worth the loans and debt. Wanting to do STEM field major. Should i go to community college and get those pre reqs in?"}
{"id": "t3_w7yn6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What moment in your life made you Realize that you have done too much of something?", "post": "Mine would be a few years ago, When i first stumbled across Xbox live during the halo 2 era. I was young and my social life was pretty bleak and non existent at the time, so played it non stop when i got home from school, weekends, you name it. after a couple of months of non stop playing, i remember waking up in the middle of the night due to a loud noise (turned out to be my brother falling out of bed) and Look straight to the bottom left of my vision, to check my radar and see who was nearby. Turns out i didn't have a motion sensor in my peripheral vision. i cut down on the amount of games i played after that. better social life", "summary": "Thought i was master cheif"}
{"id": "t3_yqxxh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] [19/f] Shit twister of lurve", "post": "It all started when my best friend died from cancer. (I will just call him Steve)\n\nSteve's death touched many people. One of which was a girl, (I will call her Laura)\n\nIn lack of Steve's presence, she became instantly attached to his older brother (I will call him Jason), who I was also great friends with.\n\nOne day we all hung out (Jason, Laura and I). It wasn't long until I noticed that Jason was leading this girl on. Using her for sex, but wouldn't make the commitment for proper relationship.\n\nIt was then that she started texting me about her problems. She confided in me, telling me everything. She said she would cry sometimes. I felt horrible. I couldn't let this happen. I started talking to her. No worries, it was no anti-Jason campaign, I primarily just listened, but the odd time I'd give her advice. (Once again, nothing too sleezy)\n\nAnd then just me and her started hanging out, (was her idea), she would bring presents like home-made cookies, and we would just watch movies and play games and smoke weed until we would fall asleep.\n\nAnd out of no where it was Steve's birthday. It had been 3.5 months since he died.\n\nShe knows how much I loved him (brotherly like love), so on his birthday, she came over to my house unexpected with something that brought me to instant tears.\n\nShe had brought over Steve's favorite pipe (who she had borrowed from Steve's mother). We smoked that whole day away, in remembrance of Steve.\n\nIt may not seem like much, but this was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me. And now I feel horrible.\n\nI now love this girl. She keeps me awake at night, thinking about her. Yet, shes stuck in an abusive relationship with a friend who's friendship is important to me.\n\nIs it worth the risk?", "summary": "My best friend dies from cancer. A girl gets clingy on his older brother, who abuses her (psychologically). Me and the older brother are still great friends, so we all hang out a lot. She confides in me, we start hanging. She does the nicest thing anyone's ever done for me. I fall in lurve."}
{"id": "t3_1hs5ur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/F] cheated on my boyfriend of 10 months [22/M] and I feel incredibly conflicted.", "post": "[19/F] cheated on my boyfriend of 10 months [22/M] and I feel incredibly conflicted.\n\nI've been dating him for 10 months. We love each other a lot and don't have a bad relationship. The past few weeks though, we haven't gotten along as well. We live together and we're stressed about money/paying rent. He goes out of town 2-3 days a week for work, which used to really make me mad. \n\nThen I met someone [47, M]. I cheated on my boyfriend with this man I just met. It's happened twice now.\n\nHe's very into health and wants to improve my quality of life. He gives me money so I can afford quality food and a bike to get to my job, etc. It's not for sex, though there's probably at least some correlation there.\n\nI need the money. And the sex involves all of the things that my boyfriend is unwilling or unable to give me. As in, we've talked about them, and it just doesn't happen.\n\nI don't want to stop seeing this new guy, because I need the money and he's helping me become healthier and fitter and the sex is really good. It helps me in ways that therapy doesn't.\n\nOn the other hand, I really care about my boyfriend and don't want to lose him. I think if I told him, he would definitely either break up with me, or force me to end things with the other guy. I wish I could tell him that I think I need to see other people, but I know he won't go for that.\n\nWhat should I do? Feel free to ask my questions, because this is a complicated situation.", "summary": "Cheated on my bf with older man, now I feel trapped because I don't want to lose either relationship, and there's money involved."}
{"id": "t3_4s2r3d", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Program like sea semester but cheaper!", "post": "Hi guys! So I've been interesting in Sea Semester for a while (link below) and it is essentially boating (not a cruise ship but a boat with ropes, etc) and traveling to different spots around the world. I absolutely LOVE the program but it is waay to expensive for me as it is almost like a study abroad trip (cost wise) and a long time (about a semester or summer). However, even the summer option is too expensive. :/ Does anyone know of a trip akin to this? Just not as expensive (pretty sure it's 17,000 dollars+)Please let me know any and all advice is welcome. :)", "summary": "I'm looking for a trip like Sea Semester (short term sailing and traveling) but cheaper!"}
{"id": "t3_28ovz4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Naive lady seeking your dating advice", "post": "Hi there! I'm a 22 year old girl who recently started seeing a 26 year old dude and desperately need your sound opinions! \n\nWe've only been seeing each other about 3 weeks but it's has been pretty serious from the get go. We talk everyday and FaceTime just about every night because he lives an hour away. He's really been working hard to get me to trust him because I have issues with trust which has resulted in me never having a serious relationship before; hence why I need all of your advice :) \n\nThis last Wednesday was my birthday and he was scheduled to come up and take me out to dinner. I told him it wasn't necessary because I'm not the kind of girl who expects that sort of thing, but he insisted. He called me on Tuesday to cancel because he got a call about a job interview. I totally understood and we made plans to see each other Friday. Thursday rolls around and I text him in the afternoon to find out about the interview, no response. I call him later that evening, no return phone call. I send another text asking if everything is okay, no response. Today (Friday) I send him another text after seeing he had shared some story on Facebook and told him good luck with everything in the future and still no response. I don't understand what happened. Why work on gaining my trust only to end things by not speaking to me? Is silence a hint as I was thinking? Was I too quick to tell him good luck with everything? \n\nAll advice welcome.", "summary": "I started seeing a new guy very seriously and now he's gone completely silent and won't return my calls or texts."}
{"id": "t3_1k7gxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17F) boyfriend (18M) has seemed to have shut down lately...", "post": "He's just become very... mechanical. We've been friends for about 3 years now, and we've been together for about 3 months (not a very long time, I know.) I think we're reaching the point where everything is settling down in the relationship. It's lost some excitement.\n\nNow don't get me wrong, I still absolutely want to be with him and we still love each other, but I'm just beginning to feel neglected. He isn't as sweet as he used to be, doesn't compliment me like he used to, and it's nearly impossible to hear him say \"I love you\" without being prompted. He'll be sitting at the computer on Reddit or something and I'll ask him to come sit with me on the couch, but most of the time he won't anymore (or I have to practically drag him from the computer to get him to.) He hardly ever holds my hand or puts his arm around me anymore unless I initiate it, and it's just a bunch of things like these that make me feel unwanted.\n\nThat being said, when he's not acting like this our relationship is great and we have really good chemistry. Our sex life is good, we still go out on dates, he's not shy at all about bringing me around his family (hell, I'm pretty much part of the family by now,) and we're just all around happy together.\n\nBut any time I try to bring up his neglectfulness, he always counters it with \"no, I did xyz the other day\" (referring to one of his \"nice\" bouts.) And I can't argue with it... Or at least I don't know how to. It's more of a general feeling that specific instances, so it's hard to come up with specific examples. He always asks for proof to back up my feelings/opinion on the subject.\n\nSo how do I get him to understand what is happening? How can I rekindle the initial feelings from the beginning of the relationship?", "summary": "My boyfriend has become increasingly mechanical and neglectful lately, and has a hard time believing me when I point it out. How can I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_53yr8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my friend [24 F] of 8 years, she want to wait 2 more months", "post": "Hi everybody, this is a throwaway and this is the first I post here.\nFirst sorry for my English.\n\nSo we are friend for 8 years since high school and be friend only. Recently I fell show some extra affection of her toward me when we go out with our friends.\n\nLast month she invited me to go out with only her (the first time), she suddenly hug and kiss me. She said she like me for about a year ago but didn't tell me because of her emotion.\nHere is the main part: her emotion. Around two years ago she fell in love with this guy. They had sex. He cheated, they broke up.\n\nFast forward now when she told this to me, she said that whenever we hug or kiss. It's remind her of that guy. She still cannot decide her love and they gonna meet up in December. She said she still miss him and still cannot let go. She will decide when they meet in December.\n\nNow my choice is:\n\n1 - Wait until December to start a real relationship (or not).\n\n2 - Tell her to decide now because I don't want to be a backup plan or some emotion healer.\n\nI really like her and I also really don't want to lose our good 8 years friendship.\n\nPlease give me some advice. Thank you.", "summary": "She said she love me but she can't give me the answer until December because of past love."}
{"id": "t3_42pgw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 18[M] best friend of 3 years and roommate 18[M] admitted to me that he was bisexual while we were drinking", "post": "Now I've had a secret 'crush' on him for about 2 years. I suppressed those feelings for years because I assumed he was 100% straight. Even after he told me I still denied those feelings. All I said back to him was \"Me too.\" We talked about being together and he said he was into it.\n\nSo after that we talked while sober and decided to try hooking up. We did twice and it was pretty great. Those feelings I had suppressed started to come up. I started thinking about the future with him.\n\nLast night we got high in my car. Then we started talking about it again. He told me that he has a \"on/off switch\" when it comes to being gay and that he \"got his fill\". I was pretty hurt at that point so I changed the subject. Eventually things went quiet and he said his \"switch was back on\" but he didn't want to initiate it. I said neither did I.\n\n I feel like I just got broken up with even though we didn't really have anything. I guess I just got too wrapped up in my fantasy. But I still want to be with him. I just don't know what to say to him.\n\nSorry if I'm rambling, I'm feeling pretty shitty right now. Thanks.", "summary": "Slept with best friend and "}
{"id": "t3_1oryk5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Can I train for a marathon with cross-training twice a week?", "post": "I'm considering doing a marathon in April, but I'm wondering whether I can continue doing capoeira twice a week while I train. Here's my deal: Mondays and Fridays I do capoeira, and Sundays and every other Friday I do the hash (tamer European version though, so I can get away with just one post-run beer). I'm wondering whether only 4 runs a week (assuming I take a real rest day), one of which is the hash, could be enough for marathon training. That would give me one hash, one long run, and just two normal runs per week. That wouldn't even be 30mi at first.\n\nMy current level: standard run is a 10k at around 52:00 (fastest is a 48:00), longest run I've ever done is a half marathon (not in a race, just ran 13.1 mi on my own). So I'm an ok runner, but I still haven't crossed over into being truly serious about it.", "summary": "With a few days a week devoted to cross-training or non-serious running, could a decent runner still train for a marathon in six months?"}
{"id": "t3_181c4r", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Question to all you fine folks...because our vets office is closed. Anyone with experience with a cat in a cone---stitches in head...", "post": "Hi all. Sorry to ask a \"vet\" question but our vet closed. Our cat (5yo, tabby, med hair, \"big boned\") had a tumor removed today from his head along with a few teeth extractions. 4 teeth in total...poor guy, such a long day for him. He's definitely still drugged up, stumbling about, not meowing or blinking much. He's got the cone of shame on and doesn't understand it; his whiskers are giving him all the wrong information.\n\nAnywho, main question: He has to eat wet food because of the teeth extraction and it sounds like he's having trouble swallowing. After a few bites, he'll shoot his head straight up and lick, almost like he's trying to get it to slide down his throat =/\n\nAnyone experience something similar? Any idea's? Ugh. Sorry to bug, just trying to ease our minds and help our little guy", "summary": "Cat with teeth/head surgery, struggling to eat/swallow, cone of shame"}
{"id": "t3_3dgqd0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24M) dont what to be an asshole to my girlfriend (19F) but...", "post": "Sorry about the click baitty title, Im looking for some advise.\nSo me and my girlfriend have been going out for five months now and every thing is great. She's madly in love with me and I love her as well but for the last 2-3 weeks I have been getting these feelings of (I can do better) or (I want to try a relationship with some one else). This would be easier for me if are life's were not so entwined (she's moved in with me/ has no where else to go and is on my auto insurance). I think the reason why I am feeling this way now is that I was more attracted to (being in a relationship) than (being in a relationship with her). I really dont want to hurt her or make her want to change. Are these feelings some what normal? I have only ever been in one other relationship and I was dumped after a rocky three months, so I am relatively new to them. Thanks in advance for your advise and if you have any questions ill be glad to answer them.", "summary": "I want to be in a relationship with other people but not hurt my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_258x98", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "22M trying to date 21F, date idea and some questions.", "post": "Howdy. \nI am 22M and I'm into my 21F colleague from university classes. She's a \"I don't like being touched\" and very introverted type. Because we have much work at the university (classes 9am-7/8pm) there is no much time to set a date, even if we end classes earlier there are always many friends going out with us, and during the weekends she works at the clothes shop. \nSo, my idea is to text her tomorrow noon telling that I have some business near to her shop and ask if she would like to eat something together during her lunch break. Do you think it's a good idea? Maybe you have some pieces of advice for dating very introverted girl or maybe other ideas for us? I think I shouldn't bring her flowers to her workplace but... maybe should I? And the last question: when it becomes relationship between two quite unemotional people?", "summary": "is asking a girl out for a lunch during break in her job?"}
{"id": "t3_oytvz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Skype conversations, I need help[male]", "post": "I just turned 18, there's a girl, I like her, she likes me, she's 17.  We've been chatting on facebook for a little while, and recently we started skyping.  We only get to see each other once a week, so skyping is our solution to not seeing each other.   \n\nHer parents won't let her date(major conservative catholics) until she's in college, but I think she's worth the wait.  Anyway, this skyping thing is making me miserable, I'm just not very good at it, too much pressure it seems.  In person it's great, but on Skype, she does most of the talking.  Also sometimes there's long pauses... I hate long pauses.  how can I fix this?", "summary": "I need advice when it comes to skyping girls, I suck at it."}
{"id": "t3_2hb894", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I might have gotten a girl pregnant at 16 3 days ago.", "post": "First of all, this is a throwaway. Don't need any of my friends learning about this. So this weekend, I went to a party and towards the end, a girl I knew for a long time have a slight hint she might want to have sex with me. I didn't really get that so I walked off. A few minutes later, people start coming up to me and asking if I am gay because I turned her down. I said no and figured the only way to show that I wasn't gay was to have sex with her. \n     So skip ahead to the room and I don't have a condom, so a friend brings up a condom and we get to work. Skip ahead towards the end where I wasn't really sure if I nutted or not because of how drunk I was. We continue for another 10 minutes until something comes up. Not due to me, she rushes out and leaves in a hurry. Now i am not 100% sure whether or not the condom broke or some love juice slipped out after I may or may not have nutted. I don't know if she took the morning after pill. I am desperate for some advice on what I should do at this point.", "summary": "Had sex, not sure if I nutted, and may have gotten her(16 also) pregnant. Need advice on what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_1drol1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Have been having problems in my life, but would like to ask this girl out. Not sure if/how I should?", "post": "So I'm an 18 y/o male and I haven't had much experience with women. The two women that made a move on me both ended up using me and making me feel really shitty about myself. I have some problems with depression and anxiety, but I've been trying to work through that with therapy and going to the gym everyday for the past 3 months. Most of the people I loved (father, step-father, step-brother) pretty much abandoned me. The two girls that made a move on me immediately turned their backs on me after seeing that I was depressed and a little needy sometimes. They were both pretty hurtful and didn't care much about me, but I understand that I have to tone the neediness down big time because it's a huge turnoff.\n\nBut I'm tired of being alone and have decided that there are about three girls I might try to ask out this summer. There was this one girl in particular (18f) two or three years ago that apparently had a crush on me as I learned a few months ago. I hung out with her and friends once and looking back, I can see some signs that she liked me, but we were just acquaintances. We went to the same high school, but now we've graduated and go to separate colleges (though still in the same city). I've been considering asking her out because she seems cool and pretty, and I'm tired of trying to pursue the other girl (21f) that treats me like shit. The only problem is, I haven't talked to her since like 3 years ago. I don't like asking girls out because in the past, it always resulted in rejection. But since this girl used to have a crush on me, and I'm generally a kind of handsome, funny guy, I thought I might have a real chance. I mean, she likes my posts and pictures sometimes on facebook. But I don't know how to initiate it or anything. I don't know how women feel about cold approaches from facebook inboxes either. So should I ask her on a date or try to start talking on facebook or what?", "summary": "Have problems with depression/substance abuse/anxiety, and girl #1 doesn't seem interested anymore. Girl #2 had a crush on me a few years ago and I'm not sure if I should try to ask her out over facebook, though I'd like to."}
{"id": "t3_2bztx6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25/m] trying to ask out this girl [27/f] that i met through a friend... but not sure if she has a bf", "post": "we hung out a few times in a group and a few of those times, we were left 1 on 1 at the end of the night and we got along pretty well. she went away for the weekend so i told her i'd like to have dinner with her this week (after she returned). she agreed and told me to call her to plan something. \n\nnow my problem is; while she was away on vacation, she posted a lot of pictures with this one guy... nothing that made it so obvious that they are dating but enough for me to question whether or not i should be asking her to dinner. i feel like maybe she will think its dinner as friends? although im clearly trying to ask her out on a date to get to know eachother... but if she has a boyfriend i feel like i would just end up looking stupid. what do i do? do i back off or ask her to dinner and during the dinner ask if shes seeing someone..?", "summary": "supposed to ask this girl out to dinner this week but not sure if she has a boyfriend. if she does, i would look stupid taking her out..."}
{"id": "t3_2yfjgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27m] and my ex[26m], already know he has dating profiles, but saw one and got real sad. What gives?", "post": "I already know my ex is on grindr, okc, and the like.  The other day, my roommate happened to be on tinder and of course out of the only two profiles I see, one is my ex of 3 months. We dated for almost two years, and I was the one to initiate the break up.  However, even though I already knew he was dating, the fact that I SAW the profile killed my night.  I was super in my head, kept 'seeing' the picture in my head over and over.  Why is it that even though I knew he was dating, and okay with the idea, seeing the pic spiraled me out of control?\n\nI know this is kind of a bitch move on my part, but I want to understand/rationalize this emotion away.  It's pathetic and I am more mad at myself for feeling this way, than I am knowing my ex is putting himself back out there.", "summary": "I'm being a lil' baby. How do I stop being a lil baby?"}
{"id": "t3_49d2d2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update) My(22F)Bestfriend(22F) told my fiance(23M) she loved him. He hid it from me.", "post": "It's been a while! Reading my last post I felt a bit ashamed over my reaction and it seems like such a long time ago.\n\nSo basically my best friend is out of my life...Turns out she had tried contacting my fiance to hang out when we weren't on speaking terms. I felt really betrayed and decided there was no point even trying to speak with her. She won't be attending the wedding either.\nMy fiance and I had a long talk in which I explained to him it was really the fact that he kept a secret with her, and didn't let me make an informed decision on who are my friends that hurt me. I apologized for my behaviour and we decided on some premarital counselling in order for me to learn not to shut him out when I am angry and not hold onto resentment, as well as getting better at communicating. We are getting married in August, however I am currently two months pregnant! The baby wasn't scheduled but we are financially stable enough to welcome it, so I guess we are just starting our family earlier than planned.\n Luckily I will graduate in May, I'm a bit upset about not being able to wear the wedding dress I wanted but that's superficial. Otherwise we are both excited about our first baby coming and still happy and in love.\n\nThanks for the advice from last time.", "summary": "My fiance and I reconciled. I lost my best friend as she took her chance with my fiance. We are pregnant and happy."}
{"id": "t3_fivfr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Resources to learn French?", "post": "Reddit - I recently found out that I need to translate an essay for a doctoral exam in a foreign language (Italian, German or French). Instead of viewing this as an obstacle, I want to use it as an excuse to learn the language I have always wanted to learn: French.\n\nMy question for you all is, do you have some resources that you would recommend? The exam is translation from writing only, but I want to be able to speak it as well, since I am going to go ahead and make this a learning experience anyway. I took Spanish in high school, so I have a little bit of background in the romance languages, but high school was 14 years ago! Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Need to learn to read/speak French. Good resources to do this?"}
{"id": "t3_oxh5l", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Is there a way to still be friends?", "post": "Me (18) and my Gf (18) have been going out for almost four years- since year 10. We are going to different schools at opposite ends of the country, and are both pretty neurotic/the jealous type so we have (wisely imo) decided to end it.\n\nI've seen other serious relationships go totally down the toilet because of long distance issues, and people who used to be best friends end up not able to exist in the same room together.\n\nI really love her, and all I want is to still maintain a functioning friendship with her, and perhaps when we finish our courses if the timing's right, we could get back together... Essentially what i'd like to know is is it possible to maintain a functioning friendship after so long together?", "summary": "Me and GF of nigh on 4 years have mutually decided to break up for convenience. Is a functioning friendship possible?"}
{"id": "t3_3teex1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] boyfriend broke up with me [25 F] boyfriend unexpectedly. Help me with what to say to get some closure.", "post": "People of Reddit please help me with what to say. So almost a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We had been dating for 5 months. \n\nSome backstory: We met when I was at Uni and he lives in Sydney and I in Melbourne. At first I thought the distance wouldn't work but we spoke every day and I frequently traveled to Sydney for my course. He traveled down to Melbourne also. I met his sister and all his Sydney friends. We had never had a fight. Everything seemed to be going perfect. Then one day he came home and said 'I don't see a future' 'this isn't working'. I told him if it was the distance I was planning to move to Sydney since I also had a job opportunity. He said it would change things and he had made up his mind. \n\nIt was such a surprise, there were no warning signs and it seemed to just come out of nowhere. It has really broken my heart. I am trying really hard to move on but I keep thinking what was the 'real' reason he suddenly changed his mind. I haven't spoken to him since two days after the breakup when I returned to Melbourne. \n\nI know there wasn't another woman, the sex was amazing, we got along incredibly well. I'm going to contact him via facebook chat.", "summary": "I want to know why he did it. What should I stay to start a conversation that would help me get some piece of mind. "}
{"id": "t3_1gre5r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing on my friends shorts.", "post": "Well not today, but more like a year ago.... hell you don't care.\n\nSo i used to have a huge fear of the dark when i was 14. No biggy right? Wrong!\n\n I have a decent group of friends that skate like me and one of them asked me over to hang out. Ended up staying over but didn't bring anything to sleep in so i asked him for some sleep shorts.\n\nWell it was all fine and dandy till it was 2 in the morning and everyone was asleep.\n\nI had to piss.\n\n Now my greatest fear is trying to find the bathroom in a friends house in the middle of the night, but at the time i was to scared to so i decided to piss right there in the shorts he gave me. So there i am 14 scared of the dark with my snoring friend one bump in the night away from seeing me urinating all over his basketball shorts. I almost cried. Luckily I maned(?) up and fixed it by (while peeing) by taking the shorts off and using them or suck up all the pee. I put on my jeans and went to the bathroom. Threw the shorts in the bathroom trash can and set out to his room to lay back down and hope it all goes smooth in the morning.\n\nIt did and we had eggs. I still slightly smelled of but covered it up with axe bodyspray(we were 14). \n\nI have grown [alot] since then and have been invited to his house many of times and it had gone off without a hitch.", "summary": "Was to pussy to go upstairs to my friends bathroom so instead pissed on the shorts he gave me but did clean i up."}
{"id": "t3_1vmsml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Been with my SO for a year and a half and my best friend really hates him", "post": "So my boyfriend (22) and I (18f) have been together for a year and a half now. For 5 months we broke up which was my decision because I felt under valued and that I was being treated badly. We have since discussed our relationship problems and now are in a happier more stable relationship.\n\nThe only problem is is my best friend really dislikes him - I know this is partly my fault as I confided in her when we went through a really rough stage in our relationship and I feel awful, but I have no idea how to make the situation better. Both are a huge part of my life and I want them to get along.  \n\nAs a side note - my boyfriend also thinks my friend doesn't respect my decision to be with him as she isn't fond of us being together again. I can understand where he is coming from and he has told me his friends are \"more respectful\" as they welcomed us being together again. However, there was no need for them not to like me as I tried my hardest in the relationship before the breakup and it was he that mostly put strain on the relationship. I'm not sure if I'm over reacting by being mad about his view?", "summary": "What should I do?! :("}
{"id": "t3_2e3dwi", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Community College student taking a loan out for a car", "post": "Alright, so I found a car at around $5200 and I think I want to buy it. I have no idea where to begin taking out a loan or even how to. \n\nI read somewhere before that someone used a student loan to pay for a car, how do I do that? Those loans are cheaper than most other ones right?\n\nI could push all of this onto my mom like I've always done, but I want to learn and I know that there's always the possibility that someone else knows a better way. I want to make sure I'm not pushing my self into debt and bringing my mom along with.", "summary": "Community college student needs money to buy a used car. How/Where do I get a loan to do that?"}
{"id": "t3_14rjlq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I hope this the place where I can post this... BF and Mom in another Christmas tiff...", "post": "Ok so here's the issue:\n\nA month ago, I saw a trailer for the Les Mis movie and I got really excited. My BF(20) saw how excited I was and told me that he would take me to see it at midnight. I was really really happy that he took an interest in it.  I went home and told my mom how sweet his idea was and she agreed to how wonderful his idea was.  About a week ago, my mom, brother, and I were out to lunch and my mom asked us if we wanted to see the movie the day it came out. My brother (who is really big into theatre) agreed and thought it would be great. \n\nI told mom (again) about my BF's date idea. She made a big scene about how she doesn't want to step on his toes and that I should go with him and stay home on Christmas Day (day the movie comes out) alone.  \n\nIdeas were tossed around about I see it at midnight then see it again (that's a long movie and I really don't want to see it twice in two days), my BF comes with the family, BF comes with the family an we sit elsewhere, etc...  It has gotten to the point where my BF is mad at my mom because he feels like she had to one up him and encroach on his idea. And my mom is mad because he isn't going for any of her suggestions. \n\nThis has gotten to the point where I don't want to see the movie anymore because I don't want to to hurt anyone's feelings.\nSomething like this happened two years ago where he told my mom what he got me for Christmas and the next day she got me the same thing. He comes over and I'm playing the video game that he told my mom he was going to get me that I had unwrapped from her that morning.", "summary": "BF and mom are fighting over me and I don't want anyone to lose."}
{"id": "t3_1k4nc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26F] Where is the line between 'easy' and 'frank'? Pursuing a man of few words...", "post": "Hey all, thanks for reading.\n\nI've been getting to know a guy online for a few weeks now and am really starting to like him enough to someday invest in a trip to meet him.  I would just like some guy's perspective (or women who have been in my shoes) on his communication style, and how I may be being perceived.\n\nBackground: We first did private messaging, and then emails, and then texting, and have had one phone call.  In the emails (one every few days) he would call me beautiful, doll, things like that, and in general put some thought in to them as they were a few paragraphs long and staying on-topic in a back-and-forth conversation.  I enjoyed the phone call but could tell he was kind of a dominating conversationalist, which didn't bother me.  Texting, he disregards things completely, and hasn't been affectionate at all.  And, no 2nd phone call or skyping... just texting.\n\nSince he's a very straight-forward guy and owes me no niceities, I know if he *didn't* like chatting with me it would be really easy to stop doing so.  I don't need to be constantly dosed with affection - responding to me and continuing to communicate with me clearly shows something.  Frankly, too much affection comes across as clingy - this all probably contributes to why I'm really starting to like this guy.\n\nIn addition to this - a bit about me: I've never been afraid to tell a guy that I like him, and I'm quite frank about it.  I am really picky when it comes to choosing a guy I like, but once I do, I make it very clear what I'm after.  Some guys have told me that this comes across as being easy, whereas others say they like the clarity and that I don't beat around the bush or play games.  Sometimes, with this guy, I feel I just need to cool my damn jets and leave some things to the imagination.  I've been out of the dating game for quite a while and I don't want to come across as needy or pestering.", "summary": "Am communicating regularly with a guy I met online who is a man of few words but honest and frank.  How should I best manage my forthcoming fliratious self without scaring him off?"}
{"id": "t3_2fncom", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pooping at work", "post": "I rarely use the public restroom at my work, but today I was forced to make an exception. When you gotta go, you gotta go, so I took my break and headed to the bathroom, the while time worrying that I'd be sharing the space with someone else whole I took care of business, which I hate. Of course, as soon as I took a seat in one of the stalls, someone comes in after me and goes into an adjacent stall. I started to open the sphincteral gates, and accidentally let out the most gargantuan fart of my life. **POOOOOOOT** \"Whatever, I'm in a bathroom. The guy next to me doesn't know I work here. It's not a big deal.\" Then once again, I play the song of my people. **POOOOOOOT** It just keeps coming. My billowing butt trumpet continued to explode in a cacophony of flatulence.  \n\n**POOOOOOOT** \n\n**POOOOOOOT** \n\n**POOOOOOOOOOOOOT** \n\nAt this point, I'm completely fucking mortified, and I decided to wait in the stall until the other guy left. I had finished my business, so I just awkwardly pretended to fumble with my belt for a bit while he took his sweet time washing his hands and heading out. \n\nAfter he finally left, I left the stall and washed my hands and exited the bathroom. I walked out hoping and praying that the guy wouldn't see me. There was a dude grabbing a cart at the front of the store just staring me down. I knew it was him. I pulled out my phone and walked toward the breakroom while timidly avoiding eye contact. I heard his wife tell him to go over to electronics, which is where I work. \n\nI'm in the breakroom right now, and my break's almost up. I'm not sure if I can go back out. Maybe I'll make a break for the emergency exit and call it a day.", "summary": "I had the liquid shits and some shockingly loud farts next to a customer."}
{"id": "t3_1jfyrk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boss just installed a bunch of cameras where I work and none of us employers are very happy about it. How can we mess with her without being fired?", "post": "I work at a very small business, and in the gift shop our boss recently installed a bunch of \"security\" cameras. I would understand if they were meant for security and were only used as such, but they are not. She often comes in from her office to rant and rave about how we were dusting a particular spot wrong, and other petty things. She is quite the control freak and I am tired of feeling like the protagonist of George Orwell's *1984* every time I walk in the door. Is there anything we can do to have a little fun and not get in trouble for it?\n\nFor the record, we are all a bunch of high school (I'm 19 and just graduated) kids from the area and there is nothing in the shop that we are at risk of stealing (it's mostly rocks). The cameras were intended for \"security purposes\" for when we close down for the winter, but she has access to them on all of her computers as well as on her phone. We also don't want to lose our jobs, so I have no plans of mooning them or anything. Thanks.", "summary": "Control freak boss installs \"security\" cameras that she uses to make her petty self even pettier, and we want to have some fun with it while she is watches us like a hawk."}
{"id": "t3_3o7mot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23] \"cheated\" my \"girlfriend\" [26 F] Now I'm devastated.", "post": "Hello everybody!\n\nAs the title says, I cheated on my so called \"girlfriend\" with a mutual friend of ours. Me and my \"girlfriend\" have been dating and having sex etc for 4 months now. But she does not want to go official with our relationship.\n\nShe went for a one month holiday to her home country and she has been there a week now. Yesterday I got drunk with my friends and met our mutual friend in the club, we went to her place after the party and had worst sex of my life. After that I told the girl that never ever talk about this with anyone or me again.\n\nI don't even know why the hell did i go there, since my girlfriend is hotter and better in every way than our mutual friend. I have accepted that what happened but feeling I'm feeling guilty for doing this. \n\nWe have not talked about having affairs with anyone else, even we are not officially in a relationship, but I'm sure that she hasn't been with anyone else.\n\nNow I'm feeling guilty as hell for doing this, but I'm not sure should I even feel guilty if we are not officially together? Should I tell her, she would probably get mad since she is a hot head, or should I just mind my own business.\n\nPlease help me out guys.", "summary": "Cheated\" on GF with our mutual friend, relationship not official, we have never talked about dating others, feeling guilty for doing this but not sure if I should."}
{"id": "t3_40saxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] girlfriend [19F] of a month wants to spend all of our time together, I don't and I'm at loss.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend Stacy for one month and a half. So far it's going well but she wants us to spend all of our spare time together. She always wants me to come over to her house and sleep there, or she's just at my house. \n\nWe already exchanged \"I love you\". I think I love her, sometimes. But it isn't comparable to the feelings she seems to have for me. She's idealized me and it scares the shit out of me. \n\nWhenever she doesn't see me, she says she doesn't have anything to do with her life, that she has no friends and that I'm \"home\" to her. She also said \"you're my drug\". \n\nThis morning she called me, said she needed to see me, so I asked what was wrong and she answered \"nothing, I just need to see you because I miss you too much\". I can't say I feel the same. \n\nI've already tried to tell her that I need space. She seemed to listen and understand but nothing changed. \n\nI don't know what to do, I care about her and I would like this relationship to work but it can't go on like this.", "summary": "Gf of 1 month wants to see me all the time, I need my personal space and I already tried telling her but it didn't change a thing. I don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_1lv4gk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] and my girlfriend [22F] been together 3 years, she says she has no sexual desire.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have ben dating on and off for three years now. In the beginning of the relationship, the sex life was good. Around 18 months her sexual desire dropped off a cliff. We broke up and have gotten back together twice in the past 18 months due to relationship tension stemming from this. \n\nThis last time getting back together, she said that she had felt sexual desire towards me, but every advance I have made has gotten turned down. I have become frustrated with the situation and I cant get her to open up. She wont even make out with me. She doesnt want to lose me because of it, but she almost refuses to make an attempt to overcome it.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend has no sexual desire towards me after 18 months."}
{"id": "t3_pfpip", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how is a girl able to tell if a guy likes her?", "post": "***Background information***\n\nI have a male friend. He's a great person, he's intelligent and a good person and funny and all of that (which is, I suppose, a bit axiomatic, seeing as how he's my friend). Lately, I've noticed things that make me question whether he's attracted to me in a non-platonic way. These behaviours include: \n\n* going out of his way to talk to me, sit next to me, etc. \n* asking for my opinion on nearly everything\n* initiating unnecessary physical contact (nothing sexual, just grabbing-of-hands and stuff like that)\n* looking at me, then looking away as soon as I look at him\n* putting his hands in his pockets (which, until recently, I never knew was a \"sign\" of anything)\n\n***My confusion***\n\nHe also does certain things to make me believe that he is *not at all* interested in me. These behaviours include: \n\n* asking me about how attractive I think a female celebrity is -- I'll usually respond with \"she's pretty\", but when I ask him the same thing about a male celebrity, he becomes uncomfortable\n* talking to me about a girl on whom he has a crush\n* telling me that, if he likes a girl, he won't be able to talk to her or look at her without getting nervous\n\n***Regarding the \"obvious\" solution and why I need you to clarify***\n\nI know that you probably will tell me to simply *ask him*, but we are both in high school and any relationship that we could initiate at this point would likely terminate as soon as we go to different universities (which I'm sure that we will, as he is planning to apply within the country and I'll probably be studying abroad). \n\nI ask for your help with this matter because I am totally inexperienced with things like these. I am also horrible at picking up social cues of any kind (including basic things like sarcasm). \n\nIf it's at all possible, please specify your gender if you choose to provide me with any advice/clarification. \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Guy friend may or may not like me and I need your help figuring things out."}
{"id": "t3_2k80jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] girlfriend [24 F] of one year, 'accidentally' got the job I wanted. Now I'm unemployed.", "post": "My girlfriend and I work for the same company, we are both trainees in different cities.  At the end of the training program several jobs are released, usually one in each city.  It is usual although not guaranteed that the trainee will get a job in the city they have been trained in. \n\nI wanted to remain in my current location because I have made friends here and I think I fit the office well.  I applied for a couple of other locations (not my girlfriends).  My girlfriend applied for every single city saying she \"wanted interview practice\" and \"to get to know other managers\". \n\nSo we both interviewed for my city and she got the job.  My girlfriend didn't call me once she had been offered the job instead I had to find out from someone else.  \n\nThe result is that I now have to leave town and search for a job elsewhere as my contract runs out.\n\nMy girlfriend claims it was \"an accident\" and that she \"didn't mean to get the job\" but had no choice once she was offered it. \n\nI feel pretty deflated right now and I'm angry and my girlfriend for forcing me into this position especially as I helped her prepare for the interview.   Should I just be happy for her and concentrate on getting a job of my own? Part of me thinks if she cared for me she wouldn't have at least called me to discuss it?", "summary": "Should I break up with my girlfriend for getting the promotion I wanted?"}
{"id": "t3_259itg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/M) need to move on from feelings for friend, advice?", "post": "Last year I (23/M) struck up a friendship with a married coworker (20s/F).  We both had some issues going on in our lives and it felt really good to have someone to talk to.  It stayed friendly for a few months until we both admitted that it was starting to become more than a friendship.\n\nNeither of us were interested in having an affair but after another month we started spending a lot of time together.  Eventually she felt that we should have some space from each other, which I reluctantly agreed with.  Looking back now I see that it was the right decision but at the time it really hurt.  I've done my best to keep my distance, but things have been awkward since then because I still feel strongly about her.  I know that it's best for her to stay committed to her marriage, but I'm just having a really tough time moving on from how I feel.  Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Married friend and I developed feelings for each other, ended up hurting our friendship and I'm having a hard time moving on."}
{"id": "t3_196qln", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Toddler with a tick?", "post": "We have a two and a half year old and a 3-month-old at home. In the last few days, our toddler has been blinking a lot. Strong, noticeable blinks. I don't think there's anything in there, I've looked and she doesn't seem to be in any discomfort. I tried looking it up and read that toddlers can develop stress-induced ticks, especially when a new baby is around and to just ignore it and it will go away. But our baby has been around for months now, I don't know that it would just now stress her out. Have you experienced this? Just wondering if I should ignore it a while or have it checked out.", "summary": "kid is blinking a ton, should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_35t3ni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my ex [26 F] of 6 years, wanting to get back together after a complicated couple of months.", "post": "So my ex decided we should take a break 5 months ago but we remained exclusive. I did not mind because that point in our relationship we needed some time apart to work on things.\n\nFast forward a couple months I have made some changes being healthier, more motivated, basically just overall being a better person. This is what the break was for after all.\n\nAt this point I felt good about everything and tried to start up the relationship again. She clearly was not ready and about 2 weeks ago officially ended our relationship.\n\nHaving the long break before the breakup kind of eased the idea of being alone so I was accepting it pretty well. But then she started texting me for support and all that. Essentially she was giving me the illusion that she still needed me which led me to believe she wanted to get back together.\n\nA couple days ago she came over after we texted and she told me that she had slept with someone. I obviously lost my shit because of how quickly it happened. I understand we were not together and she has every right to do that. What really bothered me was the fact she kept texting me during that time to keep me pretty much on a hook, which worked. Also the fact that we took all this time to work on each other and when she felt ready she sought out someone else and did not come to me.\n\nAfter I cooled off I invited her over the next day because this is a person I have spent a great deal of time with and have been through a lot with so I feel we are both owed some answers and perhaps closure. Instead she confesses her love for me which confused me even further. \n\nSo basically right now I have to decide how I want this to play out. I am having a hard time processing everything so I am hoping opening it up to everyone's responses will help give me some clarity.", "summary": "Ex wants to get back together after making many choices that would have me believe otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_50o3qj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21m) girlfriend(24f) says due to her religious beliefs she no longer wants to have sex until marriage.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We don't really see each other often because we both work a lot and our schedules conflict quite a bit. We aren't able to be alone all of the time. so through the entire span of our relationship we've had sex probably 10 times...\n\nIt has been like this since the beginning so I got pretty used to it and didn't really complain, however; she went on vacation for a couple of weeks to visit her family back home. She got back yesterday and we were talking about the trip and all that she did.\n\nShe told me that she went to church with her family and that she is now having second thoughts about us having sex and not being married. (She is catholic by the way) I was a little thrown off by the whole thing because obviously I disagree and it pretty much came out of nowhere so I don't like the idea. She said that she hasn't made up her mind about it she just feels guilty about it often. She also said she still believes that when the opportunity presents itself it will probably end up happening anyways.\n\nI am not really sure how to approach this situation. I don't see an issue with us continuing to do what we do but she does and I don't want to pressure her or make her uncomfortable. I am absolutely fine with being in a relationship with her and not having sex if it's what she really wants but this whole thing is making me wonder if there is a deeper meaning to it all. How do I approach this situation. Should I just respect her wishes and patiently wait for years until she is ready again? Or should I just move on?", "summary": "My girlfriend has decided due to her religious beliefs that we shouldn't have sex anymore and the whole thing caught me off guard and it stressing me out quite a bit How do I approach this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_394339", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and ex [18 F] broke up almost a year ago, I'm still not over her", "post": "We had dated for a little over a year before she visited the Philippines for 10 months. During that time, we decided to break up. (Part of it was because she was leaving, the rest because we still had a lot of childish personality flaws. (We were only 17 when we started dating.))\n\nSo we separated and, because of the time differences, we didn't really talk while she was there. In the meantime, I headed off to college and we did our own things.\n\nNow she's back and we met to catch up a bit. It seems like she has gotten over me (even having a small romance while she was away), and I've learned I'm still not over her.\n\nHere's the thing that prevents me from just dropping all contact with her. She is also my best friend (I know, kinda weird to say that about your ex.). We shared secrets and struggles with each other that we'd never shared with anyone else. (Her father was abusive.....and I'm gonna leave it at that. My father was a selfish narcissist.) We'd became incredibly close friends while we dated and that friendship is still there.\n\nMy only issue with our relationship now is that I still have feelings for her, while she is over me in a romantic sense. I don't want this to cause problems in either of our lives, but I also refuse to break all ties with her for something as small as this.", "summary": "Ex and I broke up, we're best friends, and I still have feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_50q9w3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [13M] brother [17M] stole my $360 I made over the summer picking up trash by the lake", "post": "Hello, I need some advice please with this situation, I am 13\n\nSo my parents are wealthy and they don't buy me a lot of stuff I want know that I have a little part time job. They buy me things we need but not stuff I want. My siblings and I live together and right behind us there is a lake in our backyard. I am not trying to brag I just need to give you an understanding. \n\nTo like the left of us there is a area the public can go and they leave a lot of trash. My parents spoke to this guy and they got me this part time job of going around and picking up trash, when I was not with my friends or sisters I was working. My sister [14F] did it with me. \n\nFor every $100 I made, mom would give me $20. So I had 360 by the end of the summer. I came home from school and my brother left a note in my room saying \"I.O.U $360 see ya-Jeremy\". My parents have left and I am waiting for my sister [18F] to get here. My parents are going away for a week for business and she is looking after us. My sister is a college student but she lives off campus, so it's easy for her to look after us \n\nBut what can I do because he stole my $360 and I don't know where he is", "summary": "Brother stole my $360"}
{"id": "t3_1j0cvh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm a (25/f) gamer. A \"boy\" friend of mine purchased a game for me as a surprise at the end of the summer Steam sale. Why does my boyfriend seem to /not/ care about it?", "post": "My boyfriend knows of this guy, we all went to high school together. I was talking about this game a couple of months ago with my friend and how I was going to wait for it to go on sale before I purchased it.\n\nI ended up purchasing other things during the last big Steam sale. When he had seen that I hadn't purchased it, he bought it for me as a gift.\n\nMy boyfriend and I share a steam account, when I woke up the next morning he was telling me that my friend had purchased me this game. At first, I was waiting for him to question me as to why, he didn't seem to think anything of it.\n\nI can't be certain of my friend's intentions, when I asked why they had purchased it, they said they just had extra money lying around and knew that I wanted it.\n\nIf the situation were reversed, I am pretty sure I would've been pissed.\n\n(It's not that I don't appreciate it, I just question it... because I am biologically hard-wired to do so...)", "summary": "Am I over-reacting and this is a nice thing a nice guy is doing or is my boyfriend under-reacting? :/"}
{"id": "t3_1rkkk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] might have kissed another man, should I tell my boyfriend [25 M]?", "post": "I am in a long distance relationship with a man I love very much. I haven't seen him in person for a few weeks. I'm going to be moving in with him in two months so it won't be long distance for much longer. Last night I got VERY drunk and danced with another guy at a bar...I might have kissed him, too. Thing is, I don't really remember it. I might have just thought about it. But I think I probably did kiss him. Definitely no tongue, I'm positive I would remember that, and I don't know the guys name nor do I care. Never seen him before and probably never will again. I've NEVER done anything like this before and I woke up feeling extremely hungover and even more guilty.\n\nShould I confess to my boyfriend? Or will that only hurt him for no reason? I'm not going to drink for a while because I think I have a problem knowing my limit, so I can say for sure it won't happen again. I think if the situation was reversed, I wouldn't want to know. But I just don't know what the right thing to do is.", "summary": "I might have drunkenly kissed another guy, should I tell my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_18qqb1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Foreign student need advice on choosing a British college.", "post": "I'm a civil engineering student and I've recently applied for a government scholarship program to study abroad at an UK university for an year. Provided I am selected to participate I have to pick 3 universities to apply to. \n\nThe program includes a few months of research and I'll be on my last year of college when I come back, so it would be great if I could pick a college which is strong in the fields of study I'm intending to follow.\n\nI'm inclined towards construction engineering, due to its wide range of applications, different challenges imposed by each new construction and the possibility to work on site. I'm also very interested in environmental issues, so any area related could be a possibility too.\n\nI have been looking through some university rankings and, although they offer a general comparison between the universities and their civil engineering courses, I have the impression they don't provide the specific informations I wanted to know about those institutions.\n\nSo, Reddit, do you know any British college whose civil engineering departments are renowed for/specialized in construction engineering, or any area related to enviromental issues?", "summary": "Want to know which British colleges have civil engineering departments who are renowed for/specialized in construction engineering or any area related to enviromental issues."}
{"id": "t3_3dmer8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28m] have been with my wife [29f] since we were 16 and 17 and we have never had sex", "post": "We have been together since high school and she is the love of my life. We have always had a strong emotional connection and are best friends. I grew up in a cold family and she helped show me what love and affection was. We have had one major problem through out our relationship and that is she can not have sex. In our younger days we would try and she would say it hurts too much (not John Holmes so I know its not me) and as time went on she would start to panick and cry because she couldn't go through with it. Then eventually I just stopped trying because I didn't want to see her cry and hate herself. Should we just see a therapist? I don't want to leave but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I have been with the same woman for 12 years and never had sex because she can't"}
{"id": "t3_2ldq1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my bf[24 M] 5 years, I'm jealous because he is traveling with some random girl he met", "post": "Boyfriend was traveling for work with a male friend and they decided they'd lengthen the trip to make it a mini vacation. They had planned to do that all along and I was fine with it. Yesterday was the last night of the conference and they met this attractive Brazilian chick who is traveling alone. Well now she is traveling with them until Thursday or Friday. I told him I felt weird about it, especially because he is good looking, and I'm not naive. He says he doesn't even find her that attractive and its not like that anyway. He just thinks she's a really cool person.\n\nI don't know why I'm so upset. He's always been trustworthy but I'm going through this inferiority complex with him lately anyway. I feel like he is better at everything than me, smarter, nicer, more confident, more successful. He's even gotten really good looking in the past year, which sad to say was the only thing I ever thought I had a leg up on him. It's not helping the way I feel. If he thinks she's so cool then she must be cooler than me right? It doesn't help that he is having this crazy adventure (they don't even have a place to stay tonight) and I'm eating lunch at my desk at my boring job. How do I get out of my own head about this. If he's always been trustworthy, do I really have a reason to be concerned?", "summary": "Boyfriend traveling with friend, met attractive girl and they're hanging around with her now. I feel like shit after hearing of this."}
{"id": "t3_53vt4c", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "American Guy likes Egyptian Girl", "post": "Made my first Reddit account just for this! Anyways, I am a normal American guy and I have a thing for an Egyptian foreign exchange student in one of my college courses. She is very smart, beautiful, and I think we could get along well. We have a group project together so I will soon to get a lot of face to face time with her to see if she is really someone I would be interested in dating. My question is if it is worth my time actually going after her and what are some key cultural differences that I should be aware of? I'm not afraid of taking risks when it comes to dating but from what I know of Egyptian dating customs, which is VERY limited, people there don't really date in the American sense. It is more of a courtship kind of thing and again I might be completely wrong about this. She seems to practice a more secular version of Islam (no head covering, wears western clothes, ect.) so she may not be that conservative when it comes to dating. I'm not going to rush anything so I'm not going to ask her out anytime within the next two weeks, but with this time I want to try and learn anything I can about an American dating someone from that part of the world. Thanks for the help!", "summary": "American guy likes Egyptian girl and he needs to know some Egyptian cultural dating etiquette so he knows what he is getting into and so he doesn't make a fool out of himself. "}
{"id": "t3_1ywgkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need someone to tell me [M/24] that I'm not crazy.", "post": "So the backstory here is that I've got a buddy that's still in school for a host of reasons, but he's in my hometown. Me and my friends from high school hang out over there all the time. \n\nWe became friends of a sort with this one girl, let's call her Alice [F/20]. Alice lived on my friend's floor and she was never a particularly close friend. More of a good drinking buddy. But that was last year. This year, she started hanging out with us more.\n\nNow Alice and I got along well enough, but we were just acquaintances. I didn't know much of anything about her. But a few weeks ago, we decided that getting to know each other better was something we wanted to do. A lot of texting and talking happened- it was basically 21 questions.\n\nWe got to know each other very well, and at this point, we're pretty close. It's alarming to me. I suddenly find myself very interested in her, not only as a person, but as someone I could potentially be in a relationship with. \n\nShe's going through some stuff right now with her home life (it's not pretty), and there was some drama between her and my buddy's girlfriend because Alice is with us so much. I'm worried about her, and its not the same as how I'd worry about any other friend of mine. I think I have very strong and sudden feelings for this girl, and given where we were only a few weeks ago, it seems crazy to me.", "summary": "I have strong feelings for a girl I only got to know well recently. Tell me if I'm crazy."}
{"id": "t3_2yxsjz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/F] really like my friend [19/F] and I don't know if I should talk to her about it", "post": "So about 6 months ago, my friend [19/F] told me she really liked me and it's lasted for about a year. She wanted me to know and was wondering if we should pursue anything. I told her I didn't like her like that (which I didn't at the time), and we haven't talked about it since.\n\nI started having feelings for her about 2 months after that conversation, and I haven't said anything. For some reason, it's really been getting to be recently. I am extremely upset (no idea why) and I'm just constantly crying and it's bringing my mood down. \n\nFriends among friends gossip, and I've been told she still likes me. I'm a very pessimistic person, so I don't believe she does. I'm terrified to ask her, but I think that it might make me feel better if I did, just to know whether she does or not.", "summary": "I have a massive crush on my friend, but I'm terrified to approach her, even though she has told me before she likes me. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_33enn7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by meeting a girl whilst drunk", "post": "One of my friends is in a punk band called Local Douche and this Saturday they had a release of their cassette and held a release party in celebration. While watching the first band, I saw a girl in front of me who was about an inch taller than me. She kept looking over at the girl next to her who I presumed was her girlfriend, so I paid her no mind.\n\nDuring the third band, I had moved to be by the speaker and was kinda chilling there doing my own thing. Every once in a while I'd look away from the band and find her looking at me. This happened about 5-7 times, and once the band was finished, I approached her. In my approach she began to smile, so I went in with confidence, and offered her my number, which she enthusiastically took. I told her my name, and she told me hers. Then I had to leave with my roommates. She immediately sent me a text so I texted back, but the thing is, I never input any contact info. I figured I could put it in later and just left the venue.\n\nHere is where I fucked up. Once I got out of the venue, I realized, I didn't remember her name anymore. Not wanting to be awkward in asking I simply continued to text her and make plans for the following day, hopefully she'd bring up her name. I all else fails, I could ask for her name on Facebook.\n\nWe hang out for a few hours, she never mentions her name, but she does mention that she in fact doesn't have a Facebook. So here I am, and all that I can hope for is that I get to introduce her to someone before I actually need to know her name.", "summary": "I met a girl at a cassette release party, gave her my number, and forgot her name, never to return."}
{"id": "t3_10qaym", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/F] sad about being broken up with by [18/M] Advice wanted!", "post": "I'm the F in this equation. I was been with my ex for nearly 2 years now, he was my longest relationship and I was his first relationship. I was his first everything. \n\nHe moved away to go to university, and for the first two weeks (atleast in the UK) the new students pretty much just go out and get drunk all of the time. My ex wanted space but I didn't give him enough space. He's been there 2 weeks now and is starting his 3rd on Monday. \n\nWe spent nearly the entire summer together, so It took a bit of adjusting for the first week. I 'demanded' attention that he couldn't give me and when we met that first weekend everything got all sorted out with tears and hugs, we were alright... or so I thought. \n\nI met him there on friday and he told me that he thought we should break up. It seemed a little out of the blue because of how amazingly well we got along the prevous weekend. He never really was a big texter anyway and we always got along better in person anyway. He printed out a picture of my face to put on his wall the previous sunday, but apparently by the Monday he knew what he had to do.\n\nIf you need any more information I'm here to give it to you. This guy was my best friend, my family (not biologically of course!!) and my boyfriend all at once. It was a nice enough break up, no fighting or shouting... just tears from both parties. I just feel lost and need advice. We both have agreed to be friends but I don't think that he thought the break-up through. We had a great 2 years together. What hapened? \n\n(Sorry if this is confusing at all. I'll clarify if you need me to in the comments)", "summary": "got dumped on friday, need advice on how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_2cphht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] is beat down by work, relationship of 2+years seems to be going stagnant & I [24F] don't know what to do.", "post": "Hi there!  SO & I have known each other since high school. We would have been highschool sweethearts had we not been in relationshits, so we've said. The relationship is great! The sex has been more than amazing since day 1 one and continues on that way. But now I can't help but feel like we're in an old couple boring married relationship full of work stress & financial stress... and we don't even have kids yet! this is not fun!\n\nBoth of us moved from part time to full time jobs, his turning into a full full time job (50+hrs a wk) & are finding less and less time for each other. I plan to go back to school next year & cut work down to part time, which I hope will alleviate some of the feelings I'm having, but until than  WE need some help! \n\nDuring the week we both fight the battle of rushing home to spend time with each other but that time goes to cooking dinner,catching up on a movie or tv show we've missed (hardly even time for that), and turning in for the night like two little old people-usually without sex, which has turned into a weekend only occasion as of recently . We try to get out on the weekends and were trying to do a mandatory date night, but that has failed due to finances, work & poor planning or a combo off all of the above.\n\nWhat do you do with your SO to keep things fresh, fun & \"spicy\". Not just sexual stuff, I can totally \"spice\" things up in that department, and plan to give him alot more sexual attention (as I think it would imrpove both our moods, we're pretty sexual).", "summary": "Any ideas for us to spice up our stagnant old marrried old people routine we've fallen into would be great!! What do you and your SO find fun & enjoy to do together with limited time. Or what are sweet things I can do to show him more attention?"}
{"id": "t3_1rfg9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf[22 F]- Conversing when out to dinner", "post": "So me and the gf have been together for several months now, before that we have been best friends for a couple of years. We know each other very well and have experienced so much together.\n\nI've been taking her out to dinner a lot for our weekly/biweekly date night and we both noticed at the same time - \"Shit, everyone around us seems to be talking up a storm, why can't we converse like that?\". It seems like after a few months of being together, some/many topics have dried up and we have trouble just making \"small talk\". We're both admittedly bad at small talk for most situations.\n\nWe talk about our days and get through the more \"mundane\"/\"normal\" topics when we see each other after work, then when it comes to going out we both freeze and occasionally find something to discuss besides the fact that we're both awkward, haha.\n\nSo basically, I was looking for any tips on what I can do on my part to improve this.", "summary": "Why can't we talk to each other like normal people?"}
{"id": "t3_2rnana", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Need some help asking for a specific gift", "post": "We desperately need a new mattress/box spring. The one we have is over 10 years old. We don't have a bed frame either. Just a box spring and mattress on the floor. That's not too big of a deal, but it would be nice to have a bed frame.  \nThis is the thing we need the most. I was considering registering somewhere that people can just add money to, kind of like they do for honeymoons, and asking guests to help us purchase a new bedroom set since it's what we need the most.  \nHow do you ask people that in a polite, non tacky, maybe semi humorous, way?    \nWe're putting all of our registry info on the wedding website, in case you're wondering.", "summary": "How to ask guests for a new mattress set without sounding tacky."}
{"id": "t3_109wvx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why does the world like to taunt Muslims?", "post": "let me start by saying the whole movie protest is a bit interesting. the movie's cheap and quite frankly is just hate speech but many proclaim it as free speech. ok, got that, but people are obviously still pissed.\n\nso why piss them off more?\n\n[In France] for example, someone decided to piss Muslims off even further, by drawing Mohammed in some sort of porno sketch. was that ever Necessary? and to add to that, it is [heavily defended] and actually praised. really? and it's just so happens that [France decided to ban protest over the cartoons] followed by it frivolous ally [Tunisia](\n\nnow I read something that's even more silly, [some naked Ukranian chicks decided to run through a semi-Muslim Neighborhood Topless.] really now, for what reason i wonder other than pissing them off. more and more examples are out there, and they're increasing by the day.\n\nwe all know that it is easy to piss them off at this point, and how oh so willing people are to do that. but why are we doing it? it's like fucking poking a hungry tiger that will attack you one day.\n\nwhy is the world being an ass to Muslims right now, where does free speech really start here, and where does hate speech and all-round douchebagerry step in? this isn't South Park, this is global politics, International Relations and overall respect at this point being played with.\n\ni keep hearing arguments like \"oh, so they banned Kate's nudies, and punished the publishers, but not youtube nor the french publishers of the cartoons\" or \"oh, so it's ok to hate Islam and hate on Muslims, it's the new fad, but heck talk about Jews and you're an Anti-Semite.\" and really some arguments at this stage seem to make sense.\n\nit's normal to have prejudice towards a group of people, i guess, but why isn't it condemned just like any prejudice, why is the world ok with a pretty large pissed off population at this stage and just pointing out and saying \"well this is why Muslims/Islam sucks\"", "summary": "why is it looking like the world is enjoying pissing off Muslims at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_w8393", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"The Help\" of Reddit, what's your worst horror story for cleaning up other people's messes?", "post": "I'll start! During grad school I used to nanny for rich families. They were all similar, hot stay at home mom (that was never home), dad traveled a lot, 2 to 3 kids, and housekeepers that came in the evening. \n\nThere was one family I found the mom to be very cold, but I loved the kids so I stuck it out. One week she met me on my way in, she looked a bit frazzled and said \"Kids are upstairs in the playroom, I didn't have the cleaners in last night so do you mind cleaning up the spare bedroom a bit?\"  I say sure, assuming it was a minor mess the kids made. She leaves and I peek in the spare bedroom. Disaster zone. It looked mostly like a big mess of blankets, but upon removing the comforter I see the obvious stains of some funky lovemaking. We have wine, chocolate, whipped cream, and an array of mystery stains. But my favorite was the body hair...EVERYWHERE. I grab gloves and an apron, remove the mess hazmat style and toss it in the laundry. I then tidy up the room (i.e. put lamp shade back on, replace rug, pick up fallen picture frames, etc).\n\nNext, I go and do the usual day with the kids. The kids seem cranky and tired. I ask, \"was Daddy back this week?\" Kid 1 says \"nope\". Kid 2 says \"I heard a bear in the house last night so mommy let us sleep in her room with the TV on all night!\". I laugh, \"Oh wow super fun!\". Amazing.\n\nEnd of day she gets back, says\"thanks\" goes to pay me the usual amount. I look at her and say, \"oh your kids heard a bear in the house last night?\". She looks at me, nods. Looks in her wallet grabs her cheque book and says \"will $100 be good?\". I say yes. She then says, I'll need you again next Thursday. We nod, I leave.\n\nThis continued every Thursday for the remainder of my time working for that family.", "summary": "Nanny cleaned up love stains for mom who had sex with a bear every Wednesday."}
{"id": "t3_1flivw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(20) m (25) I had an abortion six months ago and he still has not repaid me.", "post": "M-25 steady income F- 20 not so steady, student\n\nWe are no longer together as of 6 months ago.\nWe dated for 8 months prior to that. \n\nI had an abortion which set me back $500. I didn't tell my parents and had to come up with this money on my own. He did not help because he was unemployed. I spoke to him in person( the day of the abortion) and he said he would have the money by the end of the month.\n\nI stopped talking to him since then(Christmas time) and he believed he did not have to pay me back. He probably thought since we were done talking he didn't owe me anything. \nI have been patient the last 6 months and I haven't pestered him about it.\n\nI asked him to give me half. I saw him a week ago in person for the first time and gave him a total amount. He laughed it off but didn't say anything concrete about paying me back. He has even bragged about having 'money in excess' so I know he's in a position to pay me back.\n\nWe are not on very good terms and honestly I just want to block him and never speak to him again. If it turns out he doesn't pay me, I'll live but I really want to try.\n\nMy dog has a tumor and it costs just as much as an abortion to have it removed. I really want to use that money to get her surgery.\nMy ex has been known to owe people a lot of money and never follow through. For ex. During a drunken jealous rage he broke my best friends car windows outside of a club we were all at. He promised to pay and never did. It was around $600 in repairs. My bf pressed charges but he never showed up to court so my ex was let loose. \n\nHow can I get him to pay me back?", "summary": "had an abortion around Christmas time($500) he verbally agreed to pay me. It's been 6 months and he has not done so. We agreed to split it."}
{"id": "t3_3srnty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] broke up with my fianc\u00e9 [30M], and I'm really struggling to keep going. Any advice please?", "post": "I had been with P for 15 months- not the longest relationship in the world, but I thought that he was the one. I found out on his birthday in September that he was lying to me over something huge [addiction related] and I nearly ended it. Gave him a second chance and he did it again.\n\nI tried to be supportive and loving it in reality the situation caused me to be distrustful and at times, distant. I regret this, and the hurt it caused us both.\n\nI ended things with him on Tuesday. He agreed that it was the right thing to do- that the situation was not fair on me and he was not willing to hurt me any longer. It was obviously bittersweet. Lots of tears, \"I'm sorry's\" and \"I love you's\".\n\nI have not spoken to him since. He sent me a long text the next evening, essentially telling me how wonderful I am and how he will miss me.\n\nMy daughter is sad and missing him. I can't stop seeing him in everything in my home. There is a crushing weight of loneliness in my chest. How do I move past this? Will I be alone forever now? Even if I ever do meet anyone else, how can I possibly trust them?\nAny advice would be really welcome.", "summary": "Ended the relationship with my lying ex-fianc\u00e9 and need advice on moving on."}
{"id": "t3_2gvxtn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Grocery store mile-marker", "post": "Today I went to the grocery store and at checkout looked at the conveyor belt and realized that nothing on it contained refined sugar. This started out as a huge struggle for me, but now it's almost subconscious.\n\nI got veggies, hummus, meat, eggs and nuts.\n\nThis comes after having rejoined the gym, counting my calories again, and dropping five pounds. Over the last 2.5 weeks. I've noticed that while the first week was a real challenge to avoid sweets, now it's less challenging to avoid them because I don't crave them anymore. I also feel sick to my stomach more often, and get hunger pains pretty quickly, but I no longer stuff myself till it hurts or eat food that makes me feel gross, and I feel pretty good about it.\n\nFelt proud. Thought I'd share.", "summary": "I think my diet just transitioned to lifestyle."}
{"id": "t3_nrc1s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've had nodular acne for 6 years now. What else can I do to fight it?", "post": "On Dec 2005 (I was 15) I first noticed a line of 4 hard, bright red pimples appear across my cheek, I found it odd since I never got pimples before. They weren't the white heads that you could squeeze the puss out of, instead they were deep in the skin. \n\nThe following summer the acne spread all over my upper body: arms, chest, back, neck, face, and scalp. I couldn't sit or lay down from the pain of thousands of bleeding, inflamed, puss-filled pimples all over my body. I ruined a few t-shrts during a 2 week period. During this time my dermatologist put me on Accutane, and I did that treatment for a period of 1 year. I had to get off of accutane because the potential side effects are horrible, and by horrible I mean stuff like blindness, loss of sexual potency, and death...\n\nThankfully i got through it and suffered none of the side effects. I was acne free for a year 2006, and then in 2007 the acne came back, but not as strongly. I've been dealing with it through a combination of topical treatments and antibiotics (currently on Menocycline).\n\nAnyway, I'm 21 now and the acne still hasn't shown any signs of going away. I'm considering getting some sort of laser treatment to literally burn the glands in my face that produce sebum and clog my pores causing the facial acne, but this doesn't get to the root of the problem which I believe to be hormonal (which is why I also get acne in my back).\n\nBefore I do this however, I wanted to get the opinion of reddit to see if anyone has gone through this before, and what steps you took to deal with it. I would also greatly appreciate the advice of dermatology students or any experts in this area.", "summary": "I have nodular acne, caused by hormones. I've had it for 6 years and has left me scarred. What steps can I take to fight it, what should do? (I'm considering laser treatment)."}
{"id": "t3_36uh33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25 M) am thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend (25 F) of 1 year because of guilt.Breakups (self.relationships)Relationships", "post": "I told myself a long time ago I would never cheat on anyone. I have been cheated on myself in the past and I know how much it sucks. Unfortunately, I have found myself in a grey area that can definitely be considered cheating.\n\nBefore I met my current girlfriend I was single for over year. I somehow stumble across some video chat sites I guess out of curiosity and boredom. I quickly realized how easy it was to find girls who were looking to flirt, get naked and even have cam sex with. It was something new that I found way more exciting than porn but it was still like porn, just tailor made to me yet there were no strings attached and you never saw the person again. In some cases I realized that I didn't even need to see the girl get naked at all. If she was attractive I would just get off at the expression on her face as she watched me get naked. It turned me on a lot, I guess its some kind of weird fetish?\n\nOnce I got into a relationship I stopped the video chat thing... for a while. I finally found somebody who was really fun, easy going, funny, smart and someone I just clicked with. It was great until we discovered she has an STI. It fucked me up. I stayed with her anyways but the stress of possibly catching an STI really nagged at me, especially because I don't know how serious or how long this relationship would go on for. Neither one of us have a career picked out, we do have different interests and ideas on what we want to do with our lives. So why risk catching an STI with her?\nI guess out of feeling stuck and possibly wrecking my sex life/ future relationships, I gave in and started going on chat rooms again a handful of times. As soon as it was over I felt horrible. The guilt was awful. Some how I've managed to stay with her without telling her about this but there are times where I cannot stand the guilt.", "summary": "Should I tell her or just break up with her? It's really not fair to her and it is eating me alive."}
{"id": "t3_z3je6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boyfriend of three years and I are going on a date. What's a way that would be an enormous surprise for him to make the night really special?", "post": "I have been with with this guy for three years now. He is my life, and we are still very much in love.\n\nI have been trying to think of ideas of a date night for him and I.\nHe knows we want to go on one but he thinks it'll just be another movie/dinner type thing.\n\nMy question is, what do you think would be an enormous surprise for him to make the night really special?\n\nThings we like:\nMusic\nBeing alone together\nLearning (Muesums, shows, live shows)\netc...\nI could tell you more if there are specific questions.\n\nI was thinking of doing something like, pre-planning a picnic at the park at dusk and maybe recreating one of our first dates. (We went to the park and drew with chalk on the sidewalk.)\n\nNot sure if that's really big, but I want something he'll definitely remember.\n\nThanks for any feedback.", "summary": "3yr long relationship, looking for a big surprise date night."}
{"id": "t3_2oyabt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some serious advice on my [18M] ex [18F]", "post": "So we have broken up cause she fell for someone else back in 2012 (we have been together for 9 months). I admit I did some crazy stuff to try to win her back, but failed. We still kept in contact after the break. I've even went to the same school as her even though that school is far from my house. Something happened during the years in school and we stopped talking for a few months. A few months ago she texted me again and tried to be friends again, and I've accepted her apology, and have started being friends again, even though my other friends all advised me against it. It have been going well so far, and we talked often, but now, she seems like she do not appreciate me anymore, like giving me one word reply, asking me for favours, etc. This is not the first time that this happened, it happened many times before. I don't really know what to do, and my friends don't really have experience in relationships so their advice may be superficial. I hope that you can understand what I'm talking about, and I hope you guys can give me advice on what to do from now on. Thanks alot", "summary": "just a screwed up relationship overall"}
{"id": "t3_1vbr4x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What YouTube Network do you recommend I join, Redditors?", "post": "We created a YouTube channel about a year and change ago in Mexico and we're currently growing at a slightly slow but steady pace. Thing is, we don't have enough numbers to actually start generating any revenue but enough to join a Network and give a bit of a jumpstart to our reach. We have been striving for the best quality in our videos but our Latinamerican audience don't really seem to be responding as fast. \n\nSo, I guess my first question is *Does joining a Network actually help jumpstart your channel into having more views and reaching a wider audience?*\n\nAnd my second question would be related to the fact that we're looking at Machinima (but we've heard a lot of bad things about them) and N4Gtv. *Which of the two would you recommend? If neither, do you recommend a better one?*\n\nThanks a lot fellow redditors!", "summary": "I'm checking if I should join Machinima, N4Gtv or some other, more reliable and helpful Network out there."}
{"id": "t3_hr6v9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the greatest stories that old people have told you?", "post": "So an old family friend was over tonight for dinner, and he is 86 years old. We got him telling stories for us and he had a few great ones. The best by far though was about him walking in the forest hunting. He was going along a path when he sees a big black bear sitting in the middle of the path, refusing to move. So instead of turning around, or going around the bear; he throws a goddamn stick at it so it will leave. The bear sits there for a few seconds, then decides to run away. The guy just continues on his way down the path. (he did this when he was 65)\n\nWhat are some of the great stories that old people have told you?", "summary": "65 year old man throws a goddamn stick at a bear: bear proceeds to run away"}
{"id": "t3_t6g6r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on how to deal with my roommate situation?", "post": "I would really like your help regarding my situation.. This is a throwaway btw, because she uses reddit sometimes.\nOne of my roommates this year used to be my very close friend. We got along great, but I noticed she did this thing where she burned through people very quickly. She would get tired of friends and suddenly stop hanging out with them or talking with them when she thought they weren't fun/exciting/whatever enough. I feel stupid for not predicting it in advance, but I'm now one of those people. Its hurtful that she suddenly doesn't want to be my friend- but that's not the end of the world. I'm honestly probably better off without someone like that as a friend. Problem is,  when she decides that she's not friends with someone, they suddenly become completely not worth her time. She is almost 100% ignoring me now, and usually doesn't even respond when I say hi/bye to her. This is obviously a really unpleasant environment for me to live in, and it makes me feel very lonely/uncomfortable, especially when it is just me and her here. I would talk to her, but she did something very similar to one of our other roommates and she just yelled at him and said he was being ridiculous when he tried to talk to her about it. We live in on-campus housing (like an apartment, but on campus) and luckily I'm going home for the summer in a couple weeks. But stupid me decided (a few months ago) to live with her again next year. Yeah, its was a dumb decision. But now that it's too late to change my housing situation, how do I keep from going crazy next year?", "summary": "Roommate is almost completely ignoring me and acting like a 5 year old- what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_oa9v0", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "SERIOUS PROBLEM... Dogs choke collar broke and she ran into the middle of traffic", "post": "Reddit, I'm shaking right now. My dog is a puppy, 6 months old. I just recently bought a choke collar for her and a long lead and was walking to the park to teach her how to come when called. In the middle of our walk to the park, her collar breaks and she darts off. She thinks I'm chasing her, and she runs away from me. I live in downtown Los Angeles, and she was running into traffic. She ran into the middle of a green light and almost caused an accident, and luckily the dog park was on the other side of the street. She started playing with the dogs and i eventually caught her and put her collar on. The only thing I'm proud of is that I did not hit her or smack her or anything negative. I know it wouldn't do any good but I don't feel comfortable taking her out now. I'm afraid I've taught her to run away when she's off-leash and I'm approaching her. Can someone help? Puppy pics included. \n\n* \n\nI try to stick to positive reinforcement training and I tried not to panic. But I'm freaking out now... What do? How do I 100% fix this??", "summary": "Puppy almost got hit by car, runs away when off-leash and we really need to break the habit or else she'll die."}
{"id": "t3_rhx1i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife wants to start doing drugs again.", "post": "Been married 12 years, have a 13 year old daughter. We're both 30.\n\nMy wife has major depression. She takes an SSRI and a mood stableizer (Abilify) but they don't seem to be working. She a former drug abuser, pot and that synthetic pot stuff. I don't normally thinks it's too bad a thing to get high, but she does it all day every day, and to a point that she's completely blitzed out of her mind. For two years she did that and I couldn't take it anymore, we seperated for about 4 months, and then she finally realized what an idiot she'd been. She apoligized profusely for how horrible she'd been to us, (it was very bad.) \n\nShe's been drug free for almost 3 months, and she's been so awesome in that time. A great wife and a great mother. Just like old times. \n\nBut now, I guess a wave of bad depression is hitting her and she says that she either needs to start doing drugs again, or cutting, or she'll kill herself. She has appointments to go to therapy, one on Friday and another next week, but she says she needs something now. \n\nI told her I wouldn't go through that again and that I'd get a divorce if she started using again. She said \"Well, if you divorce me, then you divorce me.\" So I said I call the police if I found it in our house, and since she's on probation, then she would go to jail for it. So she hasn't done it yet, but I know she will. She's very pissed off at me, she's sleeping on the couch because I'm keeping her from being happy. \n\nThere's no way I'd actually call the police though, they'd prolly beat me and take me to jail. \n\nAm I being to harsh, should I just let her get high all she wants? She's done so much shit that I should have left her years ago, but I had so much hope that she'd finally realized what she needed to do.", "summary": "Wife wants to start smoking pot again to deal with her major depression. I will divorce her if she does because she's an addict and she's horrible when she's using. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jsftw", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do I get this kid to sleep!!!!!", "post": "I feel like I am going to go nuts!! \n\nI have a two and a half year old little girl. She is very busy during the day at daycare. She goes for a nap no problem at daycare. When she is at her fathers she goes to bed without a fuss. \n\nWhen she is at my house I pick her up from daycare, we come home and she watches a movie or plays with toys while I make supper. When we eat it is usually around 6:30-7 I tell her before we eat that after supper it's time for a bath and reading books then bedtime. So then she has a bath, sometimes with lavender bubble bath, sometimes not. After her bath she gets out and gets her pyjamas on and picks out her books and we'll read together on the couch. But once I say it's bedtime and I stand up to walk with her to her room she does the whole rag doll thing and won't go to her room. I have tried laying her down and scratching her back, laying with her (she just stares at the ceiling...forever), leaving her alone to cry, sitting in the room with her silently, I've tried asking her what's wrong etc. by the time she actually falls asleep it's usually 10-11 at night. I can't be the only one with a sleep demon.", "summary": "Two year olds are the worst."}
{"id": "t3_3o5j2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24m] girlfriend [28f] continuously disregards my opinion and refuses to compromise in our relationship but I love her and don't want to break up, reddit help???", "post": "She's perfect, pretty, smart, does great at her job and the 7 months we've been together have been a blast. The only thing is she ignores me and doesn't even THINK about compromising in our relationship.\n\nShe wears lots of sundresses and I feel like it's very disrespectful both to our relationship and to me as her boyfriend that she wears such clothing, especially as she has a few guy friends who I'm certain have liked her or do like her. It's making me very uncomfortable that she'd flaunt herself this way and I just need some opinions on what to do.\n\nI don't want to break up with her and I really really love her but it freaks me out and worries me that she is so comfortable flaunting her body in front of other men. I want her to stop wearing them but she simply hasn't stopped wearing them and just says she loves sundresses.", "summary": "gf flaunts herself in flimsy dresses in front of other guys and refuses to not wear them after I asked her to stop."}
{"id": "t3_1vxf3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [24 M] just told my ex[25 F] who I've been trying to work thing out with that we need a break.", "post": "Original thread: \n\nTonight I went over to my ex' s place after I told her that we need to talk. She knew what was coming. I told her that I think we both need some space and that I think we both have a lot of healing and growth to do before anything could ever work between us. She gets upset, starts crying, so I start giving her my reasoning. I told her that I feel like an emotional crutch that she uses because she has no friends or support network and that I'm still upset about being strung along while she fucks other guys and is on tinder and sexting people. She gets mad at me and tells me these were all tests and that she did those things out of revenge and because she wanted to feel wanted. I stuck with my guns and stayed strong and explained my reasoning. She told me that I've wasted 3.5 years of her life and am selfish and a shitty person because I don't want to prioritize her anymore because I feel used. I'm feeling really shitty now after all of that and I'm just hoping I made the right decision. I want to work on myself and be independent, do what I want when I want... she tells me that I'm being selfish. Anyone got any advice or comments regarding this?", "summary": "Told ex of 3.5 years that I want to quit working on things and that we need a break from each other. She made me feel like shit about it. I still feel like I made the right decision but am still feeling upset about it. Any words of wisdom?"}
{"id": "t3_14v1v5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend and I are quitting our \"stable corporate jobs\" and moving across the county to work seasonal jobs around the Yellowstone/Jackson area for a while. Got any advice/tips for me?", "post": "I started working for this corporation a little under six years ago directly after I finished college. It has been good experience, but I know it's not something I want to do for the rest of my life (several reasons dealing with quality of life and constant anxiety). I'm 27 and I think this is my best chance to get the hell out of dodge and start something new before I get tied down with debt and a family to provide for. I grew up spending time in the Rockies during summers and winters and I've always been drawn to live out that way at some point. Anyways, I met this girl a while back (same company) that sees eye to eye with me on life and after much dialogue we decided to go for it and move out west together. We've been planning/preparing for the last 2 months and we have about 2 & \u00bd more months till we want to dip. We've applied to work seasonal jobs around the Yellowstone area this spring-fall, and we hope to work in a ski-town(not sure where yet) during the winter. We have a 25 ft tow behind RV to live out of during our time at Yellowstone, but obviously we would be looking to find something a little warmer (apt rental) for the winter.  I've got a pretty good cushion financially, but other than initial get out there costs we plan on surviving on what we make. You guys got any tips or advice for me? Suggestions on a good ski town that might be better to live in compared to others for seasonal workers i.e. housing, living expenses, Etc\u2026 Any tips on private health insurance? Any advice on the plan? Special gear we may need? Oh yea, my dog is coming too.", "summary": "Quitting my job to start a new life with my girlfriend out west and while we have a plan I could use some advice/tips"}
{"id": "t3_1y4v5q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Me [27 F] with my husband [27 M] 8 year relationship, Husband wants an open relationship, I think it'll go down in flames.", "post": "My husband has this bad habit of faking sexual dysfunction whenever his best friends wife(23F) wants to sleep with him. This tends to happen once or twice a year and always leaves our relationship teetering on the brink of collapse.\n\nIn the last few occasions we've tried swapping, which sucks, I'm not remotely attracted to the couple so I end up having to be coerced and boozed into it. I shouldn't have to get wasted just to be able to tolerate it.\n\nThis time when he brought it up as a \"solution\" I told him I was absolutely unwilling and if he tried to make me I'd divorce him so fast his head would spin.  In response he suggested a completely open relationship, in which I could fuck anyone I want.\n\nWhich is appealing for the first time.\n\nIt's not appealing in getting to fuck whoever I want, it feels like I'd be shopping for a new husband.(forgive me for how sexist that sounded, oh god it sounds horrid)\n\nI realize that the only reason I'm wanting this as well is that I'm looking for an out, basically I want to stop trying and let it die.", "summary": "Husband wants an open relationship, I think it'll be the last bullet in the head for our marriage, but I'm sick of fighting him on it."}
{"id": "t3_l15tr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How did ignoring each other become the done thing?", "post": "This morning I walked to the train station near my house and stood with a group of silent people. I boarded the train and sat in close proximity to five other people, who were also mute. We sat for 20 minutes, avoiding eye-contact, without uttering a single word to each other. \n\nThe absurdity of the situation hit me \u2014 it's not only common, but standardised behaviour, that we autonomously go about our day without even acknowledging each other's presence. Yet from my understanding, homo sapiens owe a massive debt to their collective colaboration and togetherness. Arguably my fellow commuters and I all live in the same suburb and are travelling to a similar destination; we aren't that different. \n\nI'm not suggesting we should be chatty to random commuters on public transport \u2013 but rather am interested in the transition from an integrated society to one where mutual indifference is the social norm.", "summary": "When did we stop being a group of homo sapiens collaborating around a common cause to barely noticing each other?"}
{"id": "t3_1qqmg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] ex/FWB [26M] is suddenly turning cold? Should I bother?", "post": "Hello r/relationships. I was just wondering if I could get your opinion on this.\n\nMy ex and I broke up over a year ago. He dumped me, but in retrospect, there were plenty of things wrong with that relationship  including his lack of communication. However, a lot of time passed and we both had relationships during that time. Now we're both single (at least, I'm assuming he is) and he recently got a place near mine. \n\nWe reconnected as friends, and ended up going out/having casual sex every now and then. No strings attached. Friendly stuff, like going to see a movie or playing games together. We actually get on well, especially without the hassle of an actual relationship. He has invited me to hang out. However, we were supposed to meet up again today. I called him a few hours beforehand to confirm, and he never picked up, which is very unusual. Later tonight I saw him online and messaged him. I made a lighthearted joke about how he should at least tell me if he didn't want to see me. He signed off after a few minutes without responding.\n\nWhat's going on? Should I try to contact him again in a few days to ask what's up, or just leave it at that? I do enjoy his company, but I don't like that he's starting to ignore me from out of nowhere.\n\nI should add that recently I've been getting this gut feeling that he may actually be seeing someone (no snooping involved, but I have other reasons to think so). Can't very well ask him now though.\n\nIf I'm being stupid please slap some sense into me. I just hate when people leave me hanging like this and I start to overthink things.", "summary": "Ex, now FWB, we hang out often but he suddenly stopped responding. Should I just drop it?"}
{"id": "t3_2c5pi8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by picking up a quarter I saw in the gas station.", "post": "TIFU. I was in line at the gas station, waiting to pay for my soda and gas, when I saw a quarter on the packs of gum directly in front of the counter. When it was my turn to pay I bent over and scooped up the quarter, and put it in my pocket, forgetting about it instantly. Putting my soda on the counter and reaching for my wallet, I looked up and saw the cashier eyeing me with an angry glare. I was confused by this. Was she mad at my choice of soda? (She could be one of those freaks that prefer Pepsi) Did I have an offensive t shirt on? (not unless she's offended by my obscure podcast shirt) \n\nI say \"......$40 on 2 please.\" And she responds with \"What's in your pocket?\" \n\n\"huh?\" I stammer before finally understanding. \"Oh! I didn't steal anything!\" and proceed to fervently pull everything out of my pockets, dropping change, and other things. I pick up the 25 cent culprit and thrust it to the cashier, as if it proved my story somehow, and explained that I had just seen the quarter on the gum and nabbed it.\n\n Her face hadn't changed at all during the entire exchange. She finally just completed my transaction and said have a nice day. I'm not sure if she believed me or not, but I gathered all my stuff and hightailed it out of there.", "summary": "I found a quarter on a display of gum, cashier thought I was blatantly stealing gum right in front of her."}
{"id": "t3_16baqg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my relationship doomed?", "post": "Throw away here. I've (24f) been with my SO (26m) about 10 months total (between being official and in our dating phase). A few months ago the topic of marriage was brought up. I had mentioned I wanted to get married one day. He stated he would never get married. He didn't think a piece of paper should define who he is with, doesn't want the government involved. Basically the same thing any other person would say if they had the same views. I love him to bits and I don't want to let something he feels so strongly about effect if I'm with him or not. But, again, I want to get married. I grew up with the notion that it was the thing to do. I've explained to him that there were a ton of legal aspects to getting married. Health insurance, death, only family allowed in hospital rooms. (I go back and forth on the having kids issue and so does he so that's not anything I'm concerned about now) and that I honesty liked the aspect of \"forever\" because I plan on working through my stuff and never get a divorce, wishful thinking I know but I'm still young, but he just shot me down explaining there are ways around it. \n\nMy series of questions is, how many others have been in this type of relationship? Was it successful? Is there anyway I can stay with my SO and still come out happy if we end up going the distance?", "summary": "Boyfriend never wants to get married, I do some day. will this cause problems in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_4621u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] flew from Canada to Ireland to see my girlfriend[22 M/F] for valentines day, got dumped on valentines day, and now Im stuck 3000 miles away from home for another week, help?", "post": "So heres the dealio.\nI'd been dating this girl for eight months, had her living at my house for two, and this all went to shit after i spent alot of time and money to see her.\n\nI came over here on the 23rd of january to see her, but once i got here she'd began to act really horrible and volatile towards me. \n\nOnce i got here i was put into what used to be their dining room, and i sleep on a mattress on a floor. [22/F] stopped having any intimacy towards me, started going out with her friends and leaving me behind a lot. When i did come along then she would say I'm awkward around her friends and act as if I'm a burden (they say otherwise/ that she's acting terribly) \n\nSo fast forward two weeks of fighting, no intimate contact, no love at all. We went to dinner for valentines day two days before because she was working, so i go out that weekend.\n\nNow when i get back to her house on valentines day, that night she starts telling me about how she is in a different stage in her life and ready to grow up and how we need to break up. A week before my flight home.\n\nSo now I'm stuck in this tiny room all the time just counting the days down until i can leave because at this point i have no money, nowhere to go until otherwise, and no ride except for a mutual friend who will only drive before my flight.\n\nThis was supposed to be an enjoyable time but I'm just being guilted into staying and i have to fake this relationship for some reason in front of her parents.\n\nThis has been stressful and draining. I was dealing well with anxiety before but now I'm having random panic attacks at night, i cant sleep. I'm starting to go a bit crazy just because I'm so bored all the time.", "summary": "Im stuck in Ireland at my ex girlfriends house and need some advice on how to pass the time/what i should do at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_3b14e8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Best friend [m21] has been flirting with my [m21] girlfriend [f20].", "post": "Well a little back story me and my best friend graduated highschool together and my girlfriend had been a mutual friend ever sense. When her and I started dating he told her that he liked her a lot and that he wasn't going to do anything because she was dating me. Now a few yours later were all still friends but he broke up with his girl friend and sence then he has been acting very flirtatious with my girlfriend and bring her food and eating with her on her lunch at work and always trying to spend time with her. I trust her and have no doubt she would let anything happen but I just don't know what to do. He's kind of a heavy drinker and recently tried to kiss my girlfriend while I assume under the influence  and I haven't brought it up yet.... Any advice will help but I'm looking for other advice other then \"well just talk to him\" I need more then that.", "summary": "best friend likes my girlfriend of 5 years and has been flirting and making it abviously he's interested in her."}
{"id": "t3_ulw5c", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Am I too husky for \"standard\" P90X, or should I start with lean?", "post": "I'm a 23 year old female who got my first real job at 18 in a call center.  I have worked in call centers since then and it's been an uphill losing battle to not gain weight.  In highschool I weighed about 180-190 at 6', and as of January weighed in at 265.  Now I understand I am 6' so I don't expect to end up at 130, but 150-175 would be nice and reasonable.\n\nI am a very intense person and I know that you have to be \"realistic\" with workouts or you fall short of them or give up.  But if I do anything, I go all out full force.  So I want to start with something that's going to make me cry in pain anytime I move the next day.  Something that will make me see some (at least small) difference by 30/60 days.  That's what will keep me going.\n\nAs of today, I am around 250, 6', female, and look somewhat like this(removed).  I can't do chin ups (don't think I ever have been able to, to be fair, not much of an upper body strength girl), I can't do a real pushup (only ones from the knee) and I'm carrying more weight than I care to admit (read: engulfingly ashamed).  I have decided on P90X but am concerned since a lot of the tutorials say to start with lean if you're a larger individual, but don't really give any more insight into it.", "summary": "Am I too heavy for \"regular\" P90X or should I start with \"lean?\""}
{"id": "t3_rzdcd", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Help in handling a not-so-helpful environment?", "post": "Hey guys, I've posted here before and it has helped so I thought I'd ask for your aid again.\n\nMy ex and I broke up a little over three months ago (both 21 y.o.) from a 1.5 year relationship. We had been best friends for around the same amount of time before that. \n\nNow, my roommate of two years, whom I consider my best and closest friend at the moment, also broke up with his long-term GF around the same time. It made things a bit easier for both of us, going through it at the same time, despite the fact that he had always had reservations about his relationship due to compatibility (I couldn't see their future). But, he was genuinely surprised that my relationship ended, due to the fact that my ex and I had great chemistry and communication.\n\nBut I digress..the problem arose when perhaps a week after my roommate became single, he ventured into another relationship. Don't get me wrong, the new girl is a lot better for him and really sweet, and I am happy that he found someone that makes him happy.\n\nHowever, it is just a nail in my heart everyday. Not only am I still trying to get over someone I passionately loved, I have to wake up everyday knowing I'll be seeing my roommate and his GF with their honeymoon infatuation and whatever ancillary cutesy-ness comes from things like this. They make each other things, can't see faults in each other, and just in general provide constant reminders of what I recently lost. Actually, what he recently lost too but got back right away. I know he feels so damn lucky right now, getting such a great gal' after his loss. But I just feel like shit most days, seeing that stuff.\n\nSo my question to you, r/breakups, is this: Has any of you ever gone through something like this? And if so, what are some methods to handle it?", "summary": "Broke up with GF, roommate had the same thing happen, but immediately entered a new relationship. Their proximity to me and lovey-doveyness is making it hard for me to stop thinking about what I've just lost."}
{"id": "t3_sobvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Young, romantic, and torn as fuck.  Please lend me your advice, friends.", "post": "I'm 23M. Not long before I started seeing my 21F girlfriend, \"Bonnie\", 4 months ago, I met another girl who interested me. The problem is that this girl (36F, let's call her Miranda) lives a few hours north of here. I don't go to her town often.\n\nBonnie and I have had a great relationship. We've even talked about living together eventually (not anytime soon)! I told her last night, though, that I might need a breather. I got dumped by my first love (after 3 years) back in October and I feel like it's too soon to get serious again.  Bonnie understands this.\n\nMiranda is really fun, smart, crude, laid-back, and into a lot of the same stuff I am... just like Bonnie. There's something that draws me to Miranda, though.\n\nI know I said it's too quick for me to be serious with a girl again, which is why I don't want to get so serious with Bonnie just yet, but I feel like I'm still so young and now's the time to date around. My brother realized the same thing recently, broke up with his girl, and it really made me think.\n\nIf I go for Miranda, it could break Bonnie's heart. I don't want her to think I dumped her just for Miranda. But if I don't call Miranda back up, I may be stuck forever wondering! I feel a little scummy, but as I said, I'm young and I feel like I need to date around even though I don't want to lose Bonnie.", "summary": "Want to satisfy curiosity about one girl without hurting another."}
{"id": "t3_3ardwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F], recently broke up with [18M]-- still in love with him, having trouble dealing with it.", "post": "Me and Boyfriend were friends for about a year before we started dating. We talked all the time and about everything, and were pretty close. We started dating last May after I got out of a long-term, abusive relationship. We dated for more than a year before breaking up mid last week. We were, for the most part, pretty happy together. I didn't expect it to last forever, given our ages, but I was content to just allow it to run its course. He, on the other hand, told me that he was unhappy having only been with me, and that he felt that he wanted to experience other things/people. Hearing this hurt quite a lot, and now I'm in this terrible place where I just miss him so much, and am at the same time so hurt that being with me wasn't enough. My emotions are everywhere, and I just don't know how to handle this. He was my best friend for a year, and then my boyfriend for another, and I just don't know what to do with this gaping hole left in my life.", "summary": "Broke up with long-term boyfriend, don't know how to cope. Any advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1nvxl7", "subreddit": "running", "title": "A beginner's question regarding how to equip your gears", "post": "Dear cool runners (and hot ones too):\n\nI've been gaining a lot of weight lately and so I'm considering to dedicate, for the first time in my life ever, some time to run seriously. \n\nMy experience with jogging isn't very bright: I've always associated it with feeling sick and down, feeling bad because I get so tired all the time, because everyone talks about those runner's high that I never experienced. \n\nI broke down the problems I had in the past to one simple-ish fact: I don't enjoy the run before any adrenaline hits and I always give up (too) soon. \n\nSo I'm going to make some changes regarding the issue- which is to say, I'm going to listen to some music. I've got an Iphone 5 that's going to do that job. \n\nProblem is, how do I keep it safely on my person when I'm herpa-derping around the park? \n\nI mean, I can imagine some kind of belt-holder-fastener thing that could hold an iphone in place but I won't be wearing any pants that facilitates for wearing a belt am I?  \n\nSo how do you guys do it? How do you wear your music device while running, let alone small water bottles? It sounds like it'll drag my pants down while I run (which is a problem I'm already familiar with, even without the extra weight) and my wiggling bum is the second last thing I want to show the world (the dangling wonder is the first last thing)!\n\nSo here's a", "summary": "Show me your running gear, how do you keep your water bottle and music device on your person while you run? Holding it in your hands sound awfully inconvenient :("}
{"id": "t3_3roo7l", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Arch of feet hurts", "post": "Hey guys, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post but I think it may have originated from running. About 2-3 months ago, I was running a lot, Increasing in increments of about three miles every time I ran. However something happened and I abruptly stopped running but the most I've done at the time was 11 miles. While this was happening, after I got home from my runs and even up til today if I stand or walk around too much, the bottom/inside of my right foot feels strained still (near the arch of my feet). As if the tendon or ligament or something is being pulled on. Im just wondering if this is common in runners or if anyone else has experienced it and knows how to make it better? Thank you.", "summary": "hurt my bottom/inside of my right foot. Anyone know how to make it better?"}
{"id": "t3_1ksxto", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When I die in a dream (such as the typical falling off a cliff) I dont immediately wake up, but rather fully experience the death. Is this common? Is there some psychological explanation?", "post": "I have only started experiencing \"death\" in my dreams in the last year or so. Each time it happens, it's the kind if dream where I have absolutely no idea it's a dream, it feels real. They fascinate me, always the most interesting dreams I have, and I'm curious if they mean anything from a psychological standpoint.\n\nThe first time I got shot in the back of the head, which at first felt like a hard impact and warm/hot sensation. In the dream it took me a few seconds to realize I had been shot. I felt blood on my neck and my vision started going black and my thoughts got blurry until everything went quiet and black and then I woke up. I even looked up what getting shot in the head is supposed to feel like, and the descriptions fairly matched mine.\n\nLast week was an interesting one where I was on a charter bus with a bunch of people touring some place with a volcano. The volcano started to erupt, sending lava down the hillside toward us. We tried to drive away, but then a larger explosion started which enveloped us in seconds. I just watched the fire and lava shooting toward me, accepting that I would die in less than a second, simultaneously feeling curious about what it would be like. I remember the moment the wall hit the bus, shattering the glass inward, and obliterating everything, but all I really sensed was a sudden impact too great to register anything else, and then and empty senseless blackness. This time the dream continued. I thought to myself \"so I guess I'm dead. I guess there's nothing when you die. Except I'm still thinking, I still have consciousness, that's weird.\" At which point I started to feel more sensation, my body came back to me, a light started to fill the void, and I thought maybe it was an afterlife, a heaven of some kind I was going to. Turned out I just woke up.", "summary": "fascinating and realistic dreams of death and even after death (gunshot to the head, pyroclastic flow of doom), what do they mean? Does anyone else have them?"}
{"id": "t3_3w6gob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27f) offered a job reference to an acquaintance (27f). She's been messaging/calling me since and she is unprofessional.", "post": "As my title states, I offered an old acquaintance a reference for the company I work for. To clarify, I work in customer service. \n\nShe has called me and messaged me. All times accounted for, she has talked to me about drama she has encountered during her job. (this guy likes her, her boss has a crush on some other worker, wanted to know if my boss had a crush on someone in the department??...). She has even mentioned on social media that a different coworker said her ass looked good. \n\nI had her send me her resume  and looking at it she has no customer service experience. I ask her if she's ok with more of a data entry job. She's completely ok with it. \n\nMy issue... If I offer to give her a reference.. The behavior she has exhibited in our conversations, Will this negatively effect me? For HR purposes? My job? This is my first career I have an actual passion for, and I do not want to loose what I have. \n\nI love what I do, and I cannot risk anything.", "summary": "I offered an acquaintance a job reference, I've chatted with her and it turns out she is a huge drama magnet, and may cause HR problems, will this negatively effect me if I refer her?"}
{"id": "t3_ra7nn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone ever been in a marriage that actually worked very well for both parties, and have no regrets?", "post": "I'm 23, come from divorced parents and have very few good role models for relationships. What got me thinking about this is the [thread on cheating] here. None of these stories surprised me, but when I really thought about it, I can think of only *one* marriage in which both parties work well together and seem genuinely happy with one another. Every other one that I've seen in my entire life seems dysfunctional, composed of at least one person that is unhappy, and generally not worth it in the end. \n\nI always assumed I would one day get married, but now I'm wondering what the point would be. If it's truly inevitable that things will get stale, and people will become unhappy in the relationship, what's the point?\n\nIdeally I would like to hear from people that have been married for many years and have found themselves to be truly compatible.\n\nI know people are going to say that it takes work and all that stuff, but I want to know if it's actually worth it, because I haven't seen many that I think are.", "summary": "Is marriage ever worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_wjw5l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, a disgruntled neighbor put a used condom on our front door and the police didn't do anything about it.", "post": "My parents work on the Rules Committee so basically, whenever someone in our community breaks a rule, they have to vote whether to give the person a fine or not. 99% of the time when someone breaks a rule, they get a $100 fine. One of our neighbors did break a rule, got a fine and this is what's been left at our doorstep so far:\n\n2 notes slandering my mom\n\na used condom\n\ndoor mat stolen\n\nThe only other thing left outside is my car and my dads car. My mom and I share a car, so if something happens to her car, I'm also left screwed over. I've already pointed this out to my mom and told her that she shouldn't stick her nose in other peoples business. After my parents turn 55, they're moving to a new 55+ community (in 3 years) without anyone under that age so I'll be staying here with my moms car. I don't have the money to move or get a new car (I'm in college btw and a girl and the neighbor has had trouble with police and females in the past). \n\nBasically, on all incidences, my mom called the cops. The police didn't do anything except go to the neighbors door, which he didn't answer obviously. The police left saying there was nothing else they could do.", "summary": "Neighbor pissed off at my parents for giving him a $100 fine, got back at them by stealing door mat, leaving notes, and putting a used condom on our front door. Cops said they couldn't do anything. I share my car with my mom so that can get damaged next and when my parents move in 3 years, I'm going to stay in the apartment. I have no money to move or get a new car. What the fuck can I do about this?"}
{"id": "t3_2w4r4k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by chewing gum", "post": "So here I am at the mall. Valentine's day, to be exact. And I'm walking around alone (cue dramatic music). I see all these couples laughing and talking, and I'm just trying to navigate my way through the sea of love and cheap cologne. The scent of Axe deodorant was strong, and It was burning my nostrils. So I toss a piece of gum in my mouth. I walk into B&N to look at some manga. Next thing I know, this this 8/10 comes up and picks up the *next* issue of the manga I was reading. She looks at me and and says hi, which I suppose is the polite thing to do when you're standing next to someone in a cramped isle reading the same manga as them. I go to say hi back, and the second I open my mouth to speak, *I inhale my gum and start to choke*. She looks at me while I'm gasping for air and about to puke. So she puts the book back and leaves. I'm coughing and wiping my eyes (coughing makes my eyes teary) and the dude in the next In the next isle just starts dying.", "summary": "8/10 says hi to me in a bookstore, and I choke on my gum and almost die"}
{"id": "t3_w9dyk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm graduating next year and have no idea what I want to do with my life, and no idea how to figure it out. Stories, advice, criticism - anything?", "post": "I'm 21 years old, a double major in Psychology and Chinese, neither of which I'm fiercely passionate about. I've recently been getting more into neuroscience, but I don't know if I'll have the grades to get into a good grad school, or if I even want to. I'm also set to go to Beijing for an extra semester after I \"graduate\", to fulfill the last requirements of my Chinese major. While I am moderately interested in the stuff I'm doing, I haven't fallen in love with any of it. What should I do? Should I apply to Psych/Neuro grad and figure it out after? Should I spend the next 4 years in spiritual retreat? Get an MBA? Plant an herb garden? I need some help here.", "summary": "Graduating soon, don't love my majors, feel adrift."}
{"id": "t3_3wl7sb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[IL, USA] Can my employer force me to purchase lottery tickets that customers refused?", "post": "I work at a small convenience store and I've only been here a few months. There's the usual drama here and there between coworkers and just recently, a bulletin was put up saying \"To all employees: If you do not sell lottery tickets that customers refuse by the end of your shift, YOU are responsible for purchasing them\".\nI'm young and have really no ground to stand on but, isn't there some sort of workers protection policy or something stating that an employer cannot force you to pay for anything unless you are directly responsible for any kind of damage or defamation? Sure, our store loses money when there's lotto tickets that have been printed and cannot be cancelled therefore requiring someone to pay for them but I don't think it's the employee's responsibility to pay for them.\nThere's always a risk when operating a business and if you choose to sell lottery tickets, you accept the fact that here and there customers are gonna be dicks and not pay for some tickets so the company has to bite the bullet. Most companies budget at least a portion for losses, correct? Why would an employee have to cover their loss?", "summary": "My boss wants me to buy lottery tickets that customers refuse to pay for. Is she allowed to even suggest that, like it's some sort of policy?"}
{"id": "t3_iutde", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I can not stop an Imap access to my gmail (I changed the password, log out from other sessions, etc). Should I be extremely worried?", "post": "[This is what I'm talking about](\n\nI checked the \"details\" link on my gmail, and I discover an imap connection made from an ip (50.17.201.169) that seems to be from San Francisco, more specifically from the Amazon Cloud. \n\nThe think is that I changed my password, log-out from the other sessions (using the 'Sign out all other sessions' button), but the imap connection appear again not a minute later. \n\nI repeat the process several times, but in minutes  the imap connection shows up again. \n\nI look for info, and some guys complain (in spanish) of the same ip connection on gmail groups:\n\nI'm at work, but I will say the computer should be ok, I reinstalled windows from scratch some days ago, and I have Security Essentials on it. \n\nIn any case, even if there is a key logger on it, that will not explain how quickly the imap connection seems to get my new passwords. \n\nI'm using firefox 5, with some very common addons (flashblock/delicious/dictionaries). \n\nI'm pretty worried right now, and I wonder if I should be extremely worried. I will appreciate a lot any ideas you guys may have about this.", "summary": "I can not stop an unknown imap connection to access my gmail. Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2auo8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/F] with my husband [27 M] married 3yrs suddenly said he doesn't want to be married anymore.", "post": "Together 6 yrs, married for 3. We emigrated to Canada from the UK (I sponsored him). I did another degree here and he started school as well. We've had rocky parts to our marriage but all in all its been great for about a year. \nI was offered my dream job in another province, the plan was he would join me in 8-9 months after he graduates. The place I'm moving has a huge need for his trade, moreso than where we are now.\n\nAnyways out of the blue he says he isn't coming with me, has no desire to move, doesn't ever want kids and now has an issue with my 20yrs of being a vegetarian. \n\nI am totally blindsided by this. He says he has felt like this for months, doesn't love me anymore and I feel like a friend. I have excellent intuition and never even noticed something was different which shocks me cause I can always tell.\n\nNo there is no one else on his part, I believe that and know in my heart there isn't.\n\nI spoke to a counsellor which was very helpful. She said he is doing me a favour and that he is likely one of those people who can't be in a relationship because the emotional intimacy is too much to handle. I believe she is likely right but it still hurts so much. I took my vows seriously and the thought of breaking them makes me feel sick. I feel like a failure. I would do anything to make this work but I believe he has no interest.\n\nI'm packing up my things and everything makes me depressed, seeing our photos, the things we collected on our travels etc. \n\nWe share 3 dogs and 2 cats. I have no idea how this will work, its very hard to find pet friendly accomodation where I'm moving, and yesterday when we were talking he made some comment on selling our dogs. I have no idea if hes joking or not, I can't read him anymore. \n\nDoes anyone have any insight? Have you felt this way before, aka suddenly just not want to be married anymore?", "summary": "husband of 3 years doesn't want to be married anymore, doesn't love me. "}
{"id": "t3_i1bqq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I continue into E. Engineering?", "post": "So today at work (I work for a housing office for student living on a college campus) someone called about his daughter checking out of the residence hall.\n\nThis summer we're doing some really stupid shit where the students have to check out of the halls at 9am on the 23rd, and new students are checking in at 3pm that same day.\n\nNormally, this wouldn't be an issue, but on the 23rd, students are taking their finals for the first summer session. These exams vary from 8am-1pm, so we have students and parents calling left and right asking for check-out deadline extensions.\n\nWhen a student checks out of a room, leaving that room empty, the room has to be cleaned before a new student checks in. The hall we have for summer sessions holds about 400-600 students, so one can easily see how stressful this could be for housekeeping.\n\nTo get to my point, a girl's father called today and asked wtf was going on. I told him students needed to check out at 9am, but we could give her an extension 'til 12pm so that he can come pick her up (some students don't have cars.) He said \"No, that won't work,\" then proceeded to tell me that he has appointments and shit", "summary": "Is E. Engineering a decent field for a soulless automaton who hates irrational fuckers and small talk?"}
{"id": "t3_3e4x3i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flicking my tongue at the microwave", "post": "This just happened, so TI truly FU. \n\nMy family and I are visiting my grandparents, I love 'em to death. \n\nSo the FU happened at dinner tonight. I had just gotten a haircut which leaves my sides and back of my head pretty short, yet I still have a lot of length on top. My friends kept telling me I looked like a fuckboi, it kinda became the running joke. \n\nSo then there's me, at the dinner table, bored as hell. I'm still in a joking mood, and I see myself in the reflection of the microwave glass. \n\nI start flicking my tongue quickly at myself like a \"fuckboi\", I think I'm pretty funny. I look back and my Grandma turns to look at the microwave. Confusion ensues.", "summary": "I used my fuckboi seduction charm on the microwave, Grandma wondered who I was seducing"}
{"id": "t3_44hlr5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accusing my boyfriends mother of opening my mail.", "post": "My boyfriends mother sent me a picture of a letter addressed to me announcing my 20 year high school reunion. My first thought was \"Fuck- they found me\" and I try to remain as hard to find as possible.\n\nMy second thought was \"She opened my fucking mail!\" because she has always opened her sons mail and continues to do so if he gets mail at her house. \n\nWe do not live with her but we did briefly live on her property in a tiny cabin that did not have it own address or mailbox. So for a year my and my boyfriends mail was delivered to the main house mailbox. Haven't lived there for 6 years now so I have no idea why stuff is still going there.\n\nSo I responded to the picture with \"Why is that opened?\". To which she replied \"It's a postcard.\"\n\nAnd I am a filthy asshole who has been cringing for hours now. I am too embarrassed to ever see her again so clearly this relationship of 9 years has to come to an end.", "summary": "It was a postcard."}
{"id": "t3_4zcs0r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally overdosing on caffeine.", "post": "I take a lot of gym supplements. At 3am, I realised that I had forgotten to take my daily creatine supplement so I went to take it. I don't really weigh out creatine, I just take a spoonful from the bag, mix it with water and down it. So, I did like usual.\n\nI forgot that I had a bag of pure caffeine powder in my stash of supplements and the bag looks identical to my bag of creatine, so you can probably guessed what happened.\n\nI accidentally took a ridiculous dose of caffeine and very quickly started feeling shit. Sweating, nausea, ridiculously high heart rate, dizziness, confusion... all the classic signs of caffeine overdose. My girlfriend rang the emergency helpline, told them what happened and they sent out an ambulance immediately. I was taken off to hospital to be observed just incase my heart decided to give out. Had a bunch of blood pressure tests and ECGs. Blood pressure extremely high, high rate high.\n\nThankfully it passed without anything serious happening... but holy shit, it felt bloody awful. Caffeine sucks. Also, I have random bald patches on my body now from where I ripped off the sticky ECG sensors and that hurt like a bitch. Apparently a potentially lethal dose of caffeine is ~5g and I'm pretty sure I had more than that.", "summary": "I got my supplements mixed up, overdosed on caffeine and had to spend the night being observed in hospital. I felt like death."}
{"id": "t3_2d2j61", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my gf a howling orgasm in public", "post": "I've been inspired by reading the sexual escapades of other f-ups to make my first post.  So it was back when I was in my early 20's.  My gf and I had a healthy appetite for sex in public.  The danger of getting caught amped up the excitement.  So on this occasion we were watching the fireworks display at the waterfront.  Beautiful night, beautiful fireworks, stars shining brightly, and a beautiful woman by my side.  Wasn't long before we found a nice grassy spot under a tree. \n\nSo we're in the throes of passion and this encounter is feeling excitingly different.  Her moaning is building up quicker than usual and getting increasingly louder.  Her gyrating hips would make a whirling dervish blush.  So of course I'm feeling pretty good about myself and my skills.  I'm thinking, yeah man, I'm tapping this to ecstasy.  \n\nHer moaning is getting so loud I'm now at the point where I'm thinking we're going to get busted.  But a man doesn't leave a job unfinished and I carry on dutifully.  Just as this mind numbing orgasmic pleasure hits, she screams out, shoves me off of her, jumps up, and starts swatting at all of these ants that were biting her.  Her ass and legs were covered in ants.  \n\nI felt horrible for her but realised what a thoughtful gf I had for putting up with the biting for so long.", "summary": "having sex with my gf in a park, thought my mad skills was sending her to ecstasy, realised it was ants biting her ass that caused the loud moaning."}
{"id": "t3_1nnrwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My morals might be getting in the way of a girl I \"like\"(me [m/18] her [f/19]", "post": "Backinfo: Never had a real girlfriend, and we decided to be \"a thing\" I said friends with benefits and she said no lets be \"a thing\" whatever difference that makes.\n\nSo i met this girl about 2 and a half weeks ago, and she instantly liked me which I'm not used to. She pulled me away at a party that night a kissed me. we have been hanging out daily for at least an hour since, and we both talked and said we wanted to take it slow. \n\nThe problem is, I don't know if I actually like this girl, or if I'm doing it to loose my virginity. If someone where to ask me what i liked about her, I could only say i like the way she looks, the way she kisses, and how I can make her happy by just being with her. She has had a hard life with things I don't want to get into and I don't know if I'm doing it because i feel bad for her or what. \n\nOn the other hand, I think i do really like her because if we ended this today and she were to hook up with other dudes id be devastated but again I don't know if that is a jealously thing or not.", "summary": "Not sure if i like this girl for her appearance or if i have emotional attachment."}
{"id": "t3_niuux", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To those who feel concerned: how do you deal with your porn addiction?", "post": "I've been worried for a long time by my behavior concerning porn. With the success if the movie \"shame\", I have seen a few articles dealing with \"sex addiction\" and the way they describe it is disturbingly close to the way I handle porn.\nI have a great looking (trust me on this one) girlfriend. I love having sex with her. I want to marry the shit out of her. I want to make her fucking beautiful children. But it is stronger than me: every single time I'm home alone, I have to watch porn. It can be once in 3 months or every day in the week if I have the opportunity.\n\nThat seems to me like it's two separate drives, two different kinds of experiences, and, I'm sad to admit, but when I'm deprived of both, the one I miss the most is porn.\nI have discovered porn when I was around 13. Being the awkward penguin teenager you can imagine, I \"only\" got laid at 21. I explain my addiction from this diference between the two. But that does not tell me if I should cure it or not and even less how to do \n\nI feel the need to tell you that I'm an atheist. My wonderings are not driven by faith or beliefs but simply by the fear of disrespecting my SO. She told me she was ok with me watching porn once in a while, but I don't think she knows how I feel about it.\n\nWhat about you?", "summary": "I'm addicted to porn and feel uncomfortable about it. How do you feel on your side?"}
{"id": "t3_2ecipp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being polite and letting someone go in front of me in the line", "post": "So this happened a couple of years ago. Every year or so my swim team hosts a party for celebration of a great year we had. Usually everyone on our team (and parents) attends. All the swim team members are somewhere from 10 to 16 (some under/above). Since I was on this steam for a long time I new all the kids and parents and they knew me. So this is where it begins. A couple of months ago we had a new young kid join the team (I think he was under 10 at the time). Being polite I helped teach this kid to swim and his parents where happy and liked me. They were at the party and I was polite and said hi to everyone and showed the kid around the place we were renting for the party. Thats when I saw the new thing we had this year, it was a lottery machine. So the kid goes to ask his parents for money to buy tickets while I'm in line. I get out my phone and look at my texts and check Facebook while doing so, the kid comes and goes in front of me. Being occupied by the phone I notice his parents and him went in front of me but I don't tell them and play it cool because he was new. We bought the same amount of tickets (I don't remember how much) and sit and wait for coach to announce the winners. He announces people 1 by 1 blah blah blah you get it. Then finally he says the new kids name. I am shocked. He won and I didn't, so I go up to him and say nice job and he leaves with his prize. I think it was a $25 dollar iTunes gift card. It wasn't much but I was still mad. If I hadn't let him go in front of me I would of won.", "summary": "Was being polite and let a kid go in front of me for the lottery and he got the prize."}
{"id": "t3_ydg52", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stuck between two job opportunities, help is appreciated!", "post": "I have just graduated university in the UK with a 2:1 in Computer Forensics and I have been offered a work experience placement which is unpaid in Hereford for a month or so. The boss told me that come mid autumn which is around October time they may have the money to be able to fully employ me and I imagine it'd be around \u00a313,000 - \u00a315,000 a year starting. I start here Monday if I take the job.\n\nHowever, I have applied for various other jobs that pay upfront and I have an interview at a local company that is just setting up forensics as part of their business, they are usually just general PC sales and repairs. They will be offering around \u00a315,000 - \u00a318,000 I believe but I'm not sure how it will be regarding the Forensics as they are starting up, likely to be very boring and a lot of paperwork and mainly ICT repairs. \n\nMy main issue with Job no.1 is that I won't be paid for a month or two at first, but the company is well established and carries out work with some top contacts.\n\nIssue with Job no.2 is that it's not well established and if I were to go for another job afterwards they'd just see it as general ICT work rather than forensic computing which may not be of any benefit.\n\nAny idea which one I should go for?", "summary": "2 Job opportunities, 1 is relevant to my degree and will benefit me in future but is unpaid. The other isn't entirely relevant but is paid. Not sure which one to take."}
{"id": "t3_ljsq8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A conservative kid I went to HS with posted this, but I'm not sure as to the validity of his statement...", "post": "I took Micro and Macro Econ in College, I study up on current politics pretty much everyday but something about this quote just seemed inaccurate.  Maybe my fellow redditors can shed some light or prove actual specific data either supporting or going against said quote.\n \n\"There comes a moment when the population realizes that it has to stop, and sometimes it takes a form of tax the rich people, which is a reflection more of the lack of understanding of how the economy works. Rich people are now being defined by the administration as people who make $1 million. Well, most of the businesses in America, other than giant corporations, are paying taxes under Chapter S, partnerships or individual proprietorships. So somebody shows that they've made $3 million or $2 million this year and they paid personal taxes on that money. They subtract the cost of living and then what's left after, and that does not show that probably 25% or 30% of their profits are tied up in accounts receivable or inventory, stuff that they can't spend or get their hands on, but to support their business and their employment. And then they take whatever is left, these so-called millionaires, and they open up another shop or another office. And that, that is the only known engine of growth in the United States of America. And we have an administration that is fanning the fires that this is somehow undeserved, profligate millionaires, and it is worse than hypocrisy. It is totally dishonest. It represents by young people who don't know the difference, simple misunderstanding and the lack of understanding of how the economy works or what's going on in America, but if it's politician that does it or union leader, then it represents something much more pernicious. It represents a deliberate misleading of the public.\" - Steve Wynn", "summary": "Quote about why millionaires shouldn't be taxed because most are small business owners who reinvest their gains.  We, as young people, clearly don't understand how the economy works and will ruin it all."}
{"id": "t3_bgbbd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you forgive yourself if they won't?", "post": "I recently came out of a 2 year (and apparently loveless) relationship.  We're both 20.  She told me that she loved me with all her heart for the first part of our relationship and stopped once I flew thousands of miles to go to school.  She's stated that my lack of effort in our relationship killed anything we had going but stayed with me because she didn't like the idea of not having a boyfriend.  And apparently I get an e-mail today stating she was disgusted to have sex with me after the first six months.  Now, I know where I fucked up and how badly I fucked up but I just wanted to know how I can go about forgiving myself if she won't?  I should note that I'm in a relationship right now and I am clearly in love with the woman and she knows of the ex and I just really want to stop feeling guilty about the how I treated the ex in order to forget about her.  I'm not in love with my ex anymore.", "summary": "i fucked up bad in a relationship, how do i go about forgiving myself if she won't (guilt)"}
{"id": "t3_2zw38l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (22F) an introvert and don't have many friends and it is affecting my relationship with my bf (21M)", "post": "Ok first a short summary on me. I have a total of 5 friends, 3 of them live hours away from me, 1 is my housemate and the last is my boyfriend. \n\nI have social anxiety which I have slowly been getting a handle on. I attend university and am currently unemployed. This has separated me from my peers and now everyone has solid friend groups that I'm finding hard to break into.\n\nPreviously this didn't bother me so much, as I had my housemate. However, ever since I started seeing my boyfriend (9months) she has fought with me and just generally made drama.\n\n------\n\nNow, for the current problem. Due to my lack of friends, I enjoy spending my time with my bf. He works nights, so I do not get to see him more than once or twice a week. We text during the day, but he is terrible at texting back. I get excited to see him and upset when I have to leave. He tells me that I need friends and is always telling me I have to go out and do something with other people. This is starting to happen at least once a week and since this has started he has been inviting me over less and less.", "summary": "Don't have many friends, this seems to bother my boyfriend. Just would like advice."}
{"id": "t3_48dci9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21F] of 4 years, I essentially cheated and need help.", "post": "Long story short, we got into a big fight and she told me she was done.. didn't talk to me for a week. I hooked up with someone else during that time on a drunken one night stand at the bar and she called me the next night and said she didn't actually mean it and wanted to work things out. I want to try and work things out but I cannot keep this inside me and I have to tell her what I did. I need advice on what to say and how to say it if at all possible.", "summary": "Got myself into a bad situation and don't know how to tell my girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_4nmkta", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scorching my taint, getting a concussion, and stitches", "post": "Obviously a throwaway account.  \n\nSo I suffer from HMAS (hairy man ass syndrome) so in the shower I make sure to really wash back there well, also of note I take really hot showers (usually my back is bright red when im done).  Today, this happened a few hours ago, I was in a hotel and set the temp to full hot, which is normally fine in hotels.  Get in feel the shower starting to finally heat up, and proceed to start washing back there.  Well the temp goes from slowly warming to molten lava in .003 milliseconds, instantly going from the small of my back down the crack and further below scalding everything in its path.  In my haste to get away from the stream of pain, slip and grab the shower curtain, which of course rips off the hooks, and hit my head on the toilet.  So got to explain to the very nice ER folks exactly happened, to their credit they almost didn't laugh, so yeah concussion and a few stitches on my forehead.", "summary": "Wanted a clean crack, ending up getting scalded from the brown eye to taint town, and just to add insult got a concussion and stitches."}
{"id": "t3_19p863", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M]Calling someone months after getting the number.", "post": "Hey.\nBeen in lots of relationships, never felt anything tho, nothing serious.\nAbout half a year ago, I randomly stmbled into girl on the street, whom I instantly fallen in love with, from the look of it she felt the same. Having this happen to me for the first time, I was so overwhelmed I didn't even approach her.\nAbout a month later I met her on the bus.\nLiterally, 30 seconds before I had to get off it (And I mean HAD TO)\nI had a chance to come up to her and talk. \nAsked for her name and number. Got the name, had to leave before I could get the number.\nSpend another month or so, looking for her with no success.\nFinally I met her randomly on the street, asked for the number again and got it. She got on the bus and left before I could strike up a conversation.\nAnyway, I never called her.\nI'm still in love with this girl, to the point I am not interested in forming any other relationship.\nI never called her, out of fear that the reality might not live up to the expectations. That she might just not be right for me.\nI am positive, it's not a crush, I am actually in love with her, was hoping it'd go away but it's not.", "summary": "Is there a way, to call someone who might like you, 3 months after getting their number ?"}
{"id": "t3_54qcp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I always fuck up relationships", "post": "Male 21. I didn't realize it until now, but I always manage to fuck up either a friendship or a relationship but getting too invested. Then I'll do something to mess up the friendship, and rather than let it cool off i keep trying to fix it. In turn, this leads to my friends or dates to get turned off of the friendship, and I don't know what to do about it. \n\nRecently I've been friends with someone for over a year [female 20s], and I've been feeling lonely recently so I thought I was starting to like her. I realize now this isn't the case, but at the time I didn't know. I was feeling really depressed and thought that she was the only one that could make it go away. The next few days were really weird, and ended with me telling her \"I don't think I can be your friend right now.\" Then two days later I texted her a long paragraph that I definitely should not have done telling her how I've just been in a really shitty place the last week and a half. I think I've definitely lost her as a friend.\n\nWhat should I do if I find myself in a situation like this? Should I just tell them that I need a week and then not talk to then for that long? I'm so confused and I've lost too many good friends this way. Please, help!!", "summary": "I always fuck up friendships/relationships and don't know how to stop myself from becoming over reactive"}
{"id": "t3_1v0yr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever found out something about your S.O. that changed the way you saw them and they don't know you know?", "post": "Ever found something out about your s.o. through snooping or other people that was diaturbing to hear and they dont know that you know? Perhaps it shed light upon a lie they told you or made you realize something about them you didnt think was possible.\n\nMy ex left her facebook account open at my house once...I snooped through her messages and found out she had been knocked up by 6 different men. What was disturbing is the casual way she talked about it with them. It absolutely shattered my image of her cause she had told me shed only been knocked up twice before and obviously gave birth to two kids...I never asked her what happened to the rest of the kids...it also shattered what I thought I knew about her sex life. Just from facebook alone I could pin down 20 or so men shed slept with or talked about flings with. Not to mention god knows how many one night stands. Orother unmentioned relationships.\n\nI couldnt look at her the same way after that. I dont have a problem with womens sexual past...but goddamn I think she may have set records. And shed always tellme that she was a \"prude\" but now I saw that she was easy and had been around the block too many times.\n\nI never directly asked her about it and shell never know that I know she lied about the number of pregnancies or men shes been with.\n\nAgain im not bothered by womens pasts cause men can be just as bad. But I was disturbed by the fact she projected an image that was totally false. And I never confronted her about it but I was so unattracted to her from what I saw cause shes clearly had multiple abortions and lots of unprotected sex while trying to tell me shes very careful with protection and using birth control and she also doesnt \"put out\" like that...", "summary": "went through gfs facebook"}
{"id": "t3_2x2vtj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20, F) GF of 3 years broke up with me, (19, M) 2 months ago, and now wants to see a new guy.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been through ups and downs throughout our relationship, but we've always been mostly happy. Though we've broken up before, I've usually been able to show her that I can make her happy. I love her more than anything in this world, and being apart from her is the hardest pain I've ever felt. \n\nAs we still talk as friends she approached me yesterday saying that she has been talking to a guy she's interested in. I've always fought for her to prove my love, to convince her that I would give her anything. In our last breakup she went to a rebound just like this, slept with him only to feel terrible about it and come back to me. I fear this will simply be history repeating itself. I'm at a point as to whether I should keep pushing and try to convince her not to get with him but rather take me back, or to back off and potentially let her get hurt again. It kills me to think of her with other men. She has always responded positively to me fighting for our relationship and our love, but I don't want to jeopardise our relations further if she actually wants to pursue this guy.\n\nI'm at a loss of what to do. I really want this girl, and I know she loves me too. What do I do here?", "summary": "New Ex is talking to new guy, always liked me fighting for her before and don't know whether to back off this time. I want her happiness above all else and I'm afraid that by choosing the wrong choice I will lose her."}
{"id": "t3_43g6is", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "NY - Issues with retirement tier, not sure if this is a legal question or not.", "post": "Basically I joined the NYS retirement system in 2005 into tier 4, got a retirement number, packet, all that jazz. \n\nA few years ago they sent me a new packet for tier 5 with a new number, then another with tier 6. They won't recognize my tier 4 registration number and INSIST I am tier 6. \n\nI have called at least 7 times and written no less than 16 letters with documented proof, and nothing has changed. My paycheck is still listing tier 6 and taking money out of me. Under tier 4, after 10 years, you stop paying in. \n\nDo you know if a lawyer can write some strongly worded letters or take this to court? Is this even a court issue? What kind of lawyer would this be? I have just tried everything and feel so frustrated.  It is the difference of me paying thousands of dollars more and retiring 8 years later, with significantly less pension.", "summary": "should be in a different retirement system, after two years of fighting state refuses to change it, want to pursue it further with a lawyer if possible."}
{"id": "t3_1ebc2q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I've propably(M/20) destroyed a possible relationship with the girl I love(F/21) kinda have no clue about what to do.", "post": "Hello redditors, recently i was trying to communicate with a girl who very outgoing, social but shy around me. last week on friday since there is a lot of girls around her i made up my mind and decided to tell everything to her. and the only way to catch her was the train station. so i started waiting, waiting but she never turned up so i've headed right home. at that night i messaged her from facebook saying \" i had things to tell you and i've waited for you where were you? and she said she is sorry and she had to meet with her friends. we've done some more talking along the weekend but i've never told her that i love her. on monday i didnt have a chance to talk either cuz there had been so many people around her and i left school early ( me being a total dick). on tuesday she didnt turn up aswell and it made me freak out. with the rage i've written some text saying \" i liked you but with the actions you do you made me isolated from you\" 2 days she never replied. she seemed happier then usual at schooldays which made me absolutely evenmore furious then i told her that \" you're making me feel terrible. please talk to me\" and she said \" i have nothing to talk with you, and i tend to ignore people that has no importance at my life\". This sentence destroyed me.. from now on she was absent for 2 days including today and she removed me from facebook. Im suffering heavily cant even eat properly and im in desperate love. So redditors is there any chance to get her back? I know i've been a total dickhead but I truely love her..", "summary": "I liked a girl we were talking to each other on weekends but when she ignored me during schooldays i went mad and hurt her. now she says that she hates me and blocked me from everywhere. AND IM IN DESPERATE LOVE"}
{"id": "t3_1pe9hd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(19/M) I never had a relationship , and I don't even know what want out of one with a girl", "post": "I'm 19, never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never kissed a girl, shit, never held hands with one. I used to be a weirdo in middle school and high school and now I'm in college, a little bit more relaxed, but still socially awkward. I've been through quite a bit in my life emotionally and mentally\n\n---\n\nThe biggest reason why this bothers me so much is the fact that all my best friends have had steady relationships for the past 2-4 years, and I'm the only one who hasn't. It sucks being the third or fifth wheel. It freaking sucks.\n\n---\n\nMy biggest problem in trying to find out what I really want in a girl and a relationship. I guess I want somebody who is understanding, kind, and supporting, but it's hard to find somebody here, even at college, who doesn't want to party or focus on studies all the damn time.\n\n---\n\nI kinda want a relationship, but I feel like I'm a bit young and inexperienced for anything long term, but I feel like I don't want anything short term or some brief hookups/one night stand bullshit. There's this one girl in my class that I met last semester that I've become good friends with, but I don't think she's into dating\n\n---\n\nI'm so confused.", "summary": "Never had any kind of romantic/sexual encounter with a woman, don't know what I want out of one."}
{"id": "t3_3w31n2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] My friend from class (19/F) invited me over to study", "post": "So the situation im in now is it has been kinda flirty with me in class we always sit next to each other. Recently I presented the idea of us studying together and we got a day and time but when it came to where she said either her apartment or the library and I didn't care either way so she suggested we go to her apartment? Should I take this as a hint or do I actually just go over to study? To give a little background information this has only really been a friendship for about 6-7 weeks and I haven't ever really hung out with her besides in class and i've seen her at a party off campus once but other than that the situation is strictly in the classroom.", "summary": "Girl from my class invites me over to study at her apartment, not sure how to perceive this."}
{"id": "t3_1uvb7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] been friends for 3 years and dated for 1, she wants to know more about my past.", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\ni have an interesting problem /adv/, i have fortunately found someone i care about other than myself, someone to protect. we've been dating for a year now and she finally realized she doesn't know that much about me beyond when we first met, she wants to share my burdens with her but she doesn't realize how much of a broken and emotionally crippled person i am.\n\n>father was the definition of evil\n\n>raped sisters infront of me\n\n>raped mother infront of me\n\n>constant beatings even when sober, twice as hard when drunk\n\n>watched him murder someone\n\n>be the only child to be moved out of country because he decided to run\n\n>completely isolated in a 3rd world country, no friends no anyone to speak to about my issues\n\n>flee to the us embassy when i turned 18\n\n>join military\n\n>serve my 4 years and go to college\n\nfrom what i know, shes always been sheltered in a loving family and she wants to take on the darkness within me. how do i share it? should i share it?", "summary": "she wants to know me better, but i have a fucked up upbringing that she will never understand!"}
{"id": "t3_3eobxx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forcing a stranger to go on a date with me", "post": "As most fuck ups, this was not today, but about two and a half years ago. At the time, my best friend and her boyfriend had this roommate who they kept telling me I'd get along great with. We started talking over text (had not seen him in person as he went to school about two hours away) but he was really cool and sweet, and asked me if I wanted to meet up at Starbucks for coffee as he'd be in town for the weekend. I said sure, and we planned a time to meet.\n\nWhen I got there, I saw a college aged guy there, alone, with a lanyard with the name of the college my date went to. He looked a little different than the guy I was talking to in the pictures, but I've known people who look nothing like their facebook/twitter pictures before. After looking around for 30 seconds I figured it had to be him, and went and sat next to my \"date,\" Jason. I said hi, he said hi. Looking back now, he did look confused. But hindsight is 20/20. We started talking. It was going quite well, a lovely date. After about half an hour, some hints were dropped that made me realize something wasn't right. He told me a story about his trip to Guatemala, in the third person. Things like, \"Jason got hit by a football\" \n\nme: ...*laughing* \"Wait, why are you talking in the third person? Aren't you Jason?\"\n\nhim: ...My name is Greg. Zoey??\"\n\nme: no...I'm Ava. Who's Zoey?\n\n....\n\nAfter a moment of total confusion, he texted my actual date because they were friends, who'd gone to Guatemala together (hence the \"third person\" stories about my actual date) My date awkwardly comes in from his car, where he had been waiting the whole time. We had an awkward 3 person date, until \"zoey\" actually did show up and it turned into an awkward 4 person date. Texted friend to told me to meet Jason, to tell her what happened. Was called to be laughed at for no less than 3 minutes on speaker phone.", "summary": "Made a stranger go on a date with me. Mistakenly assumed my date would come in to coffee shop and not wait in car. Missed several signals including third-person stories that indicated he was wrong person. Was laughed at and trapped on four person date."}
{"id": "t3_32key2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I Think my neighbor is going to break in to my house. What should I do?", "post": "Call me paranoid, but I think my neighbor is going to try and break in my house. Here is a little back story: I don't live in the best part of town, and my neighbors family (wife and 2 adult sons) have been making a living off of selling drugs while he was in prison. Well the dude just got out about a month ago, and been acting really suspicious the last 3 weeks or so. It all started when they got news they were going to be evicted. Every time I leave my house/come home he watches. and he waits for outside me any time I leave and comes and talks to me as soon as I get out of my car. That's where the suspicious questions come in. He will ask me: \"Where do you work at, What's their hours, what shift do you work?\" He has also asked to come into my house on several occasions for various reasons. (to use the phone, internet, ect.) I can only assume that he want's to case out my house. Now, my house has some CCTV security cameras installed and a DVR to record the video. I've had them installed for about 3 years now, and he has been in the state pen for only 14 months. He just recently asked how many cameras I have and if they are operational. That sounds like a huge red flag to me. You would think cameras are all I need as far as a deterrent, but he is still watching my every move. And on top of that, the DVR isn't internet capable, and if someone was to simply take the it, I would have no video evidence of the break in. I have several firearms and I'm not afraid to use them to protect myself, but I think he knows this and is waiting to strike while I am away at work. I'm getting so nervous (or paranoid, depending who you talk to) that I'm having trouble sleeping at night. What should I do?", "summary": "Neighbor acting really suspicious and I'm sure he wants to break in to my house. I have security cameras but they wont do any good if the DVR is stolen."}
{"id": "t3_2k1y9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke up with my SO (19F), she won't leave me (19M) alone, constantly harassing/following me. What can I do?", "post": "A brief back story: we started dating my senior year of high school. I'm now a sophomore in college (so about 2yr roughly together). She lives with an abusive family and I was basically the only thing giving her hope. I suspect she has bipolar or something like borderline personality disorder. The relationship started off fairly well and we really clicked. Around a year in, she started meddling with other guys. Mostly flirting and a few kisses. This enraged me and I slowly grew more and more dissatisfied. She would not let me leave. Every time I tried she would beg me back with a sob story\n\nCut to this May. She cheats on me again. This time, its full blown sex. Stupid me, I forgive her and try to move on. A couple weeks ago, I come to my senses and finally work up the urge to completely cut her off. I tell her we're done. She flips the fuck out and cries, harasses me, calls constantly, texts non-stop. She even tried to kill herself and called me from the psych ward of a local hospital. She's out and back to her crazy self. I have time where I'm not being berated by her. I just want her to move on and leave me alone. What can I do to make this happen? please ask me any questions that may help.", "summary": "Crazy ex won't leave me alone, constantly cheats, tried to kill herself. I want to be left alone."}
{"id": "t3_16vl2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girls of this subreddit I need advice, I [17m] unwittingly pissed off my girlfriend [16f] and don't know how to apologize. [5 months today]", "post": "Last night me and my girlfriend were on the phone, she was clearly tired and after speaking for about 20-30 minutes with her falling asleep about 5 times I said to her \"I'm just gonna let you go to sleep\". She responds with \"You just don't wanna talk to me\" *laughs*.\n\n So I reassure her that obviously I want to talk but she keeps falling asleep so she'd be better off just sleeping then me keeping her up. Well half way through my explanation she hangs up, I call back the first time and she just texts me saing \"no!\" I call her the second time, she answers saying \"What?\" and then hangs up as I start to talk, then she texts me simply saying \":P\". At this point I don't really know what to do so I just say \"Forget it ____, get some sleep and I'll talk to ya tomorrow, Good night <3\", all I get back is \"kay...\"\nText her this morning and got nothing back, but I know when I do there's gonna be no smileys and not much of an effort at conversation, so I need to know how to apologize.\nOh, almost left out that she was supposed to see me today but her dad told her they were going somewhere, we only see each other every second weekend except during the holidays, plus I've got tests in a few weeks and she's always telling me to be studying instead of worrying about seeing her and that she's \"patient enough\".", "summary": "Girlfriend hung up on me for saying I'd let her sleep instead of me keeping her up, I text her saying I'd talk to her in the morning, now she won't talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_11h53c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This is my bed. Replace, repair, remake, buy new, or suffer?", "post": "Okay, so I've had this futon,  , for a few years now and it's infront of a 42 inch tv, stays in couch mode 100% of the time, and people tend to flop down on it. This has caused the supports in it to buckle, bend, and even snap. At this point the bed causes me sore ribs if I lay on my stomach, sore back if on my back, and pains in my sides if I was to lay on my side. \n\nAt this point I feel it has come down to a few choices:\n\nReplace: I can replace it with the thing.. Another futon.\n\nRepair: I thought about going out and buying a slab? of wood and putting it under the mattress to create support like people do with old furniture.\n\nRemake: I really thought about going out and buying the tools and wood to build a completely wooden frame to replace this metal one, I figured it'd be cheaper than replacing it or buying new, including buying the tools.\n\nBuy New: Well basically buy a new bed or something like it like an army cot or something.\n\nSuffer: Basically ignore the rest of this and just continue moving pillows and clothing around to create a support and suffer through it till I can get a better paying job.", "summary": "My bed is shit and I'm trying to pick the best choice for working at an $8 an hour job and not waking up in pain every morning."}
{"id": "t3_1gjabo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [29M] with my wife [24F] of 3 years, found out about recent online affairs.", "post": "I invested so much in this relationship so i can have a good life with my wife, i put our relationship before myself so we can move forward and today i found out she has had multiple online affairs (from cyber sex chat to even call masturbating with some of her friends or best friend even). All of them know she is married and yet she is telling each one of them how badly she wants them.\n\nI am lost for words, I confronted her about this and told her what is the meaning of this when she always says shes happy with us and i am more then everything she could ask from a husband. She had no words, said nothing and kept quiet. I gave her a choice, to stop all of that or to call this out, she said she needs to think about it and wanted the day to give me answer. \n\nI am too ashamed to tell this to anyone when people know how I am and see my dedication. I don't want people to feel sorry for me, I been trying to make sense of this and I can't. I don't know what to do anymore. How can I trust her even if she decides to work things out.", "summary": "Wife of 3 years, cheats on me when everything was great."}
{"id": "t3_wnpbj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hotel employees: what should I do about a hotel that lost my belongings in the mail after I left them behind? Is getting my stuff back a lost cause? What is customary in this situation?", "post": "So I left some items behind. My fault, I know.\n\nI called the hotel to find my stuff after checking out. They said they had it and asked for my address to send it all back to me saying the delivery fees would be charged to the account on the hotel's file. \n\n2 Weeks later I called again wondering why I hadn't received the package. They acted like they had no idea and asked me for my address once more. \n\n2 weeks later, again, I called back with the same question about the whereabouts of my things. They said they mailed them and I should wait to receive the items. \n\nAgain, just today, I called now given that sufficient time has passed and they said they had mailed it on 7/2 - about 2 weeks ago. I asked for the tracking number and the housekeeping informed me that they didn't get one. They sent it regular mail with no way of tracing the items. I then called the front desk and they said they send all things out of there with fedex and I told her that housekeeping sent it regular mail and I found it hard to believe that they didn't use any tracking system or give me an option to send it as such. \n\nI had assumed this sort of thing must be frequent and customary; they must have some sort of system. I don't know how to proceed. BTW,iIt was only 2 jackets, that were relatively expensive for me, not like it was jewelry. I am more angry than anything, that I have had 10 conversations with them (I took an record of the dates and calls) and they neglected once to mail it out and then getting lost in the mail. I'm not great at complaining and demanding action. What should I do?", "summary": "I left my things in a very upscale hotel/spa and repeated attempts to understand where my stuff is left me with the understanding that it was lost in the mail with no way to track the package. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_et2ps", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit: To beard or not to beard? Would you find it sexy? What if my beard looked like one of these?", "post": "Most beards I see people grow are too large and don't look that professional or necessarily attractive. I think the unkept look is primarily what women find unattractive, but not being a woman and not wanting to asking the women I know (they'd probably be honest, I just don't want to walk around with a bunch of photos on my phone of men with beards).\n\nI've also noticed that a good percentage of men would probably look better without a beard rather than with one (I'm young so I don't know which I am yet).\n\nI have enough hair to be able to pull it off, but I wonder if it will match my face as well as theirs since I have thick eyebrows, whereas all the good beards I've seen were on men with thinner eyebrows.\n\nWhat do you think if I grew a beard like one of these? [Beard photos](", "summary": "1. Do you think the above pictures look good/sexy? "}
{"id": "t3_26rlt3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 20M \"friend\" 20F says she doesn't want to date", "post": "So I've had a big crush on this girl in high school but never told her. We were friends but never close. She went off to college in another state. So 3 years passed and she writes to me out of the blue starting a conversation. A few conversations later after we started texting she tells me she had a big crush on me, I told her I did too and then she said when she comes home this summer we can do \"cute stuff\". So fast forward our conversations. She comes here for 2 days, we meet, I invite her and watch movies, one thing led to another and we spend the time kissing and cuddling. She then leaves for two weeks and comes back now for the entire summer, yesterday we go to the beach, all romantic and stuff, I buy her flowers, we come back to my place and eventually have sex and she spends the night. But during the drive when i was picking her up, our conversation leads to talking about friends and she says I'm one of her \"guy friends\". She says she doesn't want to date because she will go back to school after the summer and doesn't know where life will lead. I am really confused, a guy friend that you have sex with and go on obvious dates with? I really try to show her that i care about her, I really really like her but I don't want to ruin whatever we do have. I want to be more than just a \"guy friend\".", "summary": "Female friend says she doesn't want to date though we have sex and hang out like a couple."}
{"id": "t3_3ahtik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex 24f of 6 months is now dating someone 24m from my circle of friends.", "post": "I'm on mobile so I apologize for any errors. My ex and I dated for six months before she broke it off since she was no longer interested. Since then we have been NC more or less. Lately we have been slightly talking again and today she dropped a bombshell that she is now dating someone from my circle. Now this friend and I have a complicated history. I'll paraphrase for the sake of the story. At the time his gf and he were in an unstable relationship and cheated on one another. The gf came to me as a revenge fling. I fucked up I know, I'm not perfect. Since then we've admitted we all fucked up and since things have been neutral, or so I thought.\n\nSo mybex texts me saying that she wants me to hear from her that the two if them are now dating. So I call her. Big mistake. She goes on to tell me that since our breakup my circle of friends stopped communicating with her. She doesn't have many friends. He however was the only one to keep contact, and apparently she liked how he listened to her. The conversation kept on going about where our relationship failed. And how he was the only one to listen to her. She went onto say i can't control who she dates. I agree, but it could be literally anyone else and I don't think I'd be having this problem. \n\nI can't help but feel he's out to get me, or is using her in a moment of weakness. I don't know, but this is driving absolutely insane. It's now almost 5am and I haven't slept. I don't know what to do. End rant.", "summary": "ex is dating a friend with a complicated history. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_301f1g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a haircut", "post": "So in the morning after coming from the gym I went to my barbers which I always go to. The barber that I go to has 2 seats where you can get your hair cut by 2 people but because of the time I usually come in it's always the same guy as the other one comes in later. So I go in and the second guy is there and I am hoping by the time it is time for me to get my hair cut that the usual guy cuts my hair because he does it so well and I all I have to ask for is \"the usual\" (One time I didn't even say anything and he cut it perfectly). When my turn came, it was the second guy who was gonna cut my hair.  I was thinking of telling him I'll wait for the other guy but I was in a rush to get to college anyway. After 5 minutes of explaining how my hair should be cut he finally gets going.\n\nTowards the end of the haircut (which he didn't even do it exactly how I wanted it) he used one of those small rectangular blades to define my shape up (the outline of my hair for those who don't know). Everything was going so well till the fucker sneezed. Because of the sneeze he sort of jerked his whole body or something and ultimately cut me with the blade a little bit above my right eyebrow. I started bleeding like something out of WWE. Blood streamed down the right side of my face and as I put my hand on my forehead he and the other barber started to make noises like \"SSSSS\" and \"Ayayayaya\" (I can't put what they were saying into text so just go with it). \n\nAfter I got cleaned up the fuck head had the nerve to say \"Don't worry baby. You can pay only half\". This guy actually had the audacity to offer half price after what he just did. My inner ghetto London upbringing came out and I said \"Are you silly fam? Do I look like a fucking sideman to you?\" I honestly don't know why I said that but I didn't pay anything since I was pissed off.", "summary": "Got cut by my barber and sneeze fluids on my neck."}
{"id": "t3_3qlnux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [16/F] broke up with me [17/M] last night", "post": "We were getting along great for three weeks and then she suddenly said she couldn't handle a relationship right now and she wants to make herself happy. She was my first everything...first kiss, first dance, all of that... and then she just left. She said she didn't want to lose me and she still likes me but she needs to focus on herself. \n\nAnd honestly, I don't want to lose her either. We both went through a lot of pain together with other people and we just kind of wound up with each other, and I still really like her. \n\nShe, and everyone else, keeps saying there's nothing wrong with me but there clearly is. Before her I was getting pretty close with another girl, but she decided she couldn't see being in a relationship with me. And now my ex suddenly decides she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me.\n\nI think my problem is that I'm too moody because I get into times when I'm really happy and times when I get really depressed, regardless of other people. The breakup did not really help. \n\nI don't really know what I'm expecting with this, but I right now I just kind of want to go away and not feel anything like I used to.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me... I don't know if I should still keep fighting for her and for myself or if I should just let myself go."}
{"id": "t3_1gxucn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Being suspicious or would you be too [25/f, 25/m]", "post": "I'm [25/f] in a LDR with a [25/m] that is supposed to be ending soon when I move out there at the end of the summer. We've been dating for 4 years and this is the next step to our relationship. However, recently he's been..well, hormonal. He'll email/text me about how lonely he is and that he is so depressed about \"us\". And when I beg him to let me call him, he said no it won't help. That makes absolutely no sense to me and when I kind of call him out on it, he just says he's too sad to talk. But I don't see how that would be. Is he pulling one over on me? What is he hiding here? If you miss someone, why would you deny a phone call? Advice?", "summary": "Missing me puts him into depression but doesn't want to talk"}
{"id": "t3_4939co", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my BF [25 M], big life changes, stress, and feelings.", "post": "Moved into my BF's (of 4 years) apartment a couple of months ago, started a new job that is stressful and I'm not sure I want to keep. His job is also super stressful. Basically, we're both really stressed all the time. Everything was great before the move. We don't honestly have a lot of problems living together, like we split chores fine and each have plenty of our own space.\n\nBut, I'm starting to feel like he's pulling a way a lot and so am I. Feeling more like roommates sometimes. Does this happen sometimes? Is it just a phase. I still love him, I think, but I just feel like everything is off. Nobody is cheating, he wouldn't have time with the amount of work he does anyway. I try to make time for more romantic evenings but it just doesn't go anywhere or just feels forced. I tried talking to him about it several times, but he says things are fine, we're just busy. That makes me feel kind of dramatic or crazy, but I KNOW things are different, less sex, less affection, etc.", "summary": "Relationship feeling stagnant. Both very stressed. Is this normal? Can I fix it? Will it get better? Is there anything I can do to help it along?"}
{"id": "t3_3wzxpk", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fast Food Addict", "post": "Hello everyone my name is Blitz and I am a fast food addict. I don't know what to do anymore. I live in a small town and the main street is only about a block from my house which conveniently has all the fast food restaurants on it. I have to drive by 7 everyday to get to work in a town that only has 9. My doctor recently started me on phentermine because I am constantly hungry. It has actually helped a lot. I can eat a granola bar and be full whereas before I could eat 12 granola bars. I have actually managed to lose 24lbs in the past 2 months but cannot stop eating fast food. It has become so bad I lay in bed in the morning trying to decide what fast food I want for breakfast. I don't even like the taste of it and I feel sick and fat afterwords. My wife always packs me an amazing and healthy lunch and it has been awhile since I have ate that early and drove to town for 2nd lunch so I have won that battle. I read a post a while back where the person said anytime they wanted fast food they immediately transferred the money yo savings. I might actually give this a try but does anyone else have any other recommendations?", "summary": "I am fat and can't stop eating fast food. Even though I am not hungry I still think about it constantly."}
{"id": "t3_2x44vj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by popping pills in a club", "post": "So like with most of these this didn't happen today, but I had another fuck up today that reminded me of this one. It was so painful I must have blocked it from my memory. \nAbout a year ago my friend and I used to take MDMA pills, or Molly, and my body reacted to this by having to take a massive dump about a half hour afterwards. I had gotten pretty good with my timing, so I was able to get it out of my system before going out. Well, one night we were out at a club and we had been drinking when she offered me some. My drunk self forgot about the pill poops and took it. Fast forward a half hour later and right on cue I needed a bathroom, quick. After waiting 20 minutes to use the girls bathroom I finally make it into one of the two stalls and all is right with the world. I felt bad about stinking up the place, but it had to be done. I go to flush, and the fucking toilet won't flush. No matter what I tried it just wouldn't go down. I just wrecked half the girls bathroom. In a panic I run out, grab my friend, and sprint out of the club before explaining why we needed to leave.", "summary": "Popped pills after drinking and forgot they liquefy my insides. Ended up destroying the girls bathroom at a night club"}
{"id": "t3_i1g5x", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just had an amazingly positive experience at a Verizon store! [details inside]", "post": "My dad has been using the same flip phone for 5 years. No shit, he has no interest, nor the capability of learning a new smart phone when he doesn't even txt. He's 67.\n\nSo, for fathers day, I found his exact phone on ebay for 20 dollars! So if his current phone breaks, he will have a back up! When I got the phone, the moron didn't erase the contacts pics, or anything else off the phone. So, I needed to wipe the memory to make it back to factory settings.\n\nAfter hours of sifting through fixya,toms repair,howards forums and yahoo answers...with nothing, I finally decided to bite the bullet and deal with Verizon, explain what happened, wait for an hour, and have them charge me 10 dollars to do it. I braced myself for the worst.\n\nI went in and was greeted within seconds by the person at the door, I explained the fathers day story to her, expecting her to ask me to give her all my information, address, number etc, and tell me to have a seat.\n\nShe said \" let me see the phone\" and I handed to her, she entered some codes and 30 seconds later handed it back to me saying \" happy fathers day\".\n\nDone. No clipboards, no waiting, no bullshit, no charge.\nIt was so refreshing to see common sense used in these huge companies I thought I'd share.", "summary": "Got a phone set to factory defaults in less that 5 minutes with no questions asked and no waiting."}
{"id": "t3_1dajbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [22f] in love with a single dad [27m], but his mother [60f] hates my effing guts. Should I just wait for her to bite the dust?", "post": "He lives with his mom so she can help take care of his daughter[6f]. I used to babysit, and have known the family for over a decade. My bfs ex (mother of daughter) used to be my friend when they were dating about 5yrs ago, but she got addicted to herione, became a Super Klepto, and ditched him with the baby. They disowned her after that.Now its Grandma dearest, him, and the baby girl all in one mobile home (scary, right?). One day, about a year ago, Heroine Addict Mom was going to rehab, and called me at work. Thanks facebook. She asked if she could stay at my apartment so that she did not have to sleep in the park that night. So I let her. When I told Grandma about her staying that 1 night she 'bout flipped like a fish and refused to let me babysit. She asked what day. I panicked and lied to her saying it was last Saturday as opposed to what it really was (That day, Monday). When she found out I lied she banned me from the house and from babysitting. My boyfriend still lets me see her and we still go out and enjoy ourselves (the three of us) regularly, because he doesn't feel that it's his mother's choice whether I get to see her or not. In reality, I think she might've disliked the fact her granddaughter called me Mom on a regular basis. I love that little girl with all my heart and it hurts not to see her. But ever since Grandma From Hell banned me from her house, its been difficult. \nShould I continue the relationship with her son and try to reconcile with her, or just say \"fuck it\"?", "summary": "We've been on and off for 3 years. I'm helplessly in love with him, her and his mother (unfortunately). Now she doesn't even acknowledge me. Classic silent treatment. I've apologized up and down, hand wrote a three page letter saying I'm sorry, and bought her gifts for the holidays. Should I keep trying and waiting even though she never will? She's as stubborn as they come, and I've tried everything. Unless you have an idea..."}
{"id": "t3_21cmfp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Reddit, I really, really need your help right about now.", "post": "Hey guys, thank you for reading this. I'll try to make it sweet and short. I'll stick around to answer your questions however. I'll be 24 years old in two weeks. I have been in a serious relationship for almost three years. My boyfriend is really in love with me, however he has no desire to have sex with me. \n\nI have gotten laid literally once this year, and it only happened because I pretty well begged for a quickly before work. He didn't even climax. \n\nI'm a recovering alcoholic who cannot even socialize with people without at least marijuana (I've gotten used to not drinking). I've been trying to give up weed in order to save money, and on top of that, I'm trying to quit smoking cigarettes. All my friends drink and smoke, so I basically have no choice but to stay home all the time with him and our dog. \n\nI love him and the dog so much, but I feel absolutely alone when I'm around them. My throat is always tight and I'm actually getting very deeply depressed. \n\nI'm young, I have a healthy sex drive and a beautiful body that I take care of, and I can't share it with anyone. He has no interest in sex whatsoever. I honestly feel disgusting. \n\nAlmost everything else is the relationship is okay. I however make twice as much money has him, and he barely thanks me for anything I buy him unless I ask him to. He's lived with his parents until I came along, and they have lots of money. \n\nI'm falling apart. My confidence is crumbling. I used to be my own hero, now I can't even go for a walk on my day off. I'm getting so depressed, that I started seeing a doctor for it. I'm actually scared that one day I'll give up on everything..", "summary": "I love my boyfriend but he doesn't fuck me and it's killing me inside. "}
{"id": "t3_3ymqof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15M] was rejected recently. Now I have questions concerning relationships.", "post": "A few months a girl [14F] rejected me. It was very hard to get over because I really, really liked her. Now that it's pretty much all out of the way, I have questions concerning relationships (that was the first time ever approaching a girl):\n\nDo a lot of people get rejected the first time asking a girl out?\n\nBefore you were ever in your first relationship, did you think you would ever be in a relationship?\n\nAfter rejection, do most people have doubts that they will ever find someone?\n\nThese questions may seem dumb, but I've never had experience with relationships do I want to know if what I am going through is normal.", "summary": "Was rejected recently and I have questions on relationships in general."}
{"id": "t3_cl3xo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend. What should I do?", "post": "Ok, so I've known Mark and Emily for more or less the same length of time. We're close friends. For the longest of times it was myself, Mark and Emily just hanging out as friends. I've always had a bit of a crush on Emily but I knew, almost certainly, she didn't feel the same way about me and I never confronted her about it because I didn't want to lose her friendship. What would be the point? So I've tried my best to put my feelings behind me and move on but the more closer we got as friends, the more I got to know her and everything about Emily pleased me. Last couple of years ago Mark and Emily got real close. About a year ago, they finally became involved romantically. Ever since then, it's been Mark and Emily, THE couple. Don't get me wrong, I'm genuinely happy for them. It's Emily's first boyfriend and Mark is a nice guy, handsome and certainly the type I'd imagined she'd go for. I even used this to move on from obsessing over her and it worked. However, a few months ago, Mark goes out of town for a few days and Emily and I go for a few drinks to catch up. Now, Emily has always been a bit of a romantic. She told me that her relationship with Mark had no real romance to it, she was rather upset by it. They both love each other but Mark's not really the romantic type. So I took it upon myself to nudge Mark in the right direction from time to time, a little bit of breakfast in bed over here and a few flowers over there. Suffice to say, their relationship is going  very well. I can see those two exchanging vows in a few years time. The only thing is that since Emily has told me about this all those feelings have come gushing back in and now it's gotten to the point where I'm wondering whether I should start distancing myself from my two closest friends for my own sanity or just man up and keep my feelings bottled up?", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend. The feeling is NOT mutual, she has no idea. Almost certain she never saw me more than just a friend. Should I distance myself from my two good friends for the sake of my sanity or man up and keep my feelings bottled up?"}
{"id": "t3_39sang", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being too cocky", "post": "So this happened an hour ago. Me and my friends were walking out of the mall after seeing Jurassic world (btw it was a great movie). So we walked into the parking lot and I pull out my phone to check messages and such, and my friend sees that its a Nokia windows phone. He says something about Nokias being a fake and they actually do break. I call him out and say that they don't break, so we put this to the test after betting $5. So me being my idiot self, drops the phone (on the cement) and picks it up to find a horribly broken screen. I am now writing this on my broken Nokia. I learned that its probably the old nokias that don't break not the new ones. So now im out a phone and 5 bucks.", "summary": "friends and I test to see if phone will break, I am now out a phone and $5."}
{"id": "t3_ckstb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear Reddit, girls are jerks. That is all.", "post": "So, I'm living in an extended stay hotel for the summer in Illinois for an internship.  I don't know anyone here, so last Friday (my first Friday here) I went out to the bars to meet some people.  I ended up meeting these two girls and we ended up talking and dancing together.  We had a generally good time. I told them how I didn't know anyone and was just looking for people to hang out with on the weekends.  \n\nThey seemed to take this well and at the end of the night I asked for their numbers.  It appeared they were in a hurry so they just said, \"look us up on Facebook, our last names are (insert last name).\"  I didn't mind too much because I wasn't looking for a hookup, just friends.\n\nI added them the next day and they both accepted my request.  I waited until Sunday to ask them about hanging out again (didn't want to appear too desperate).  Both of them have ignored my messages, and one of them even limited me from their profile so that I can't see anything/communicate with her.", "summary": "I'm new to a state for a summer internship. Met some girls and had a good time, they told me to look them up on Facebook. They completely ignore me afterwords."}
{"id": "t3_2vskyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex's twin sister/colleague/friend [25 F], Friends for 10+ years, liking her for over a year. Could use some help!", "post": "So there is this twin sister of my ex gf, we have been friends for more then 10 years and I started liking her a good year ago.\n\nI'm still good friends with said ex-gf and allready talked to her about all this. Our relationship had ended 6 years ago, so i'm very sure it's not about any feelings I had for her. I could also not even think about being back with her. But she gave her 'blessing' because she really thinks me and her sister could be happy together.\n\nSo this girl I like I also work with 3 days a week, were also working together tomorrow on Valentine's day. After a really long time of thinking and worrying I decided to tell her tonight, after 12, when it's officially valentine's day.\n\nI am absolutly clueless about how I'm going to do this and it allready feel awkward. so any help/advice is very welcome!\n\n*sorry for grammar/spelling, not a native speaker.", "summary": "Think im in love with my ex-gf's twin sister. want to tell "}
{"id": "t3_dc2kl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you see a Therapist?  At what point did you say to yourself that you need that? Or were you persuaded to go by others?  How did you start going?", "post": "I've tried some form of therapy in the past and it didn't stick.  \n\nOne was career counseling that I took when I finished school and was in a rut.  Turned into more of a life counseling thing. I think I only went twice.  My parents pushed me to go to this.\n\nThe other time was a straight-up therapist and it didn't stick.  I was very uncomfortable.  I'm a pretty quiet person and it takes a really good friend with a specific attitude for me to spill beans on what I'm thinking.  Trust issues? (right there is a therapy topic!)\n\nI'm not sure I can do the therapy thing (let alone afford one) but I'm thinking I should give it another go.  But maybe I don't need to?  I might be over-reacting.\n\nI could just be in a small rut right now.  I just need to pick myself \nback up.  Or not.  At what point do you say \"I need this\"?\n\nThe whole idea of therapy is very strange for me.", "summary": "I've tried it before, and I couldn't do it.  Not sure if I should try again or if I need to.  Need some insight from wonderful reddit."}
{"id": "t3_qgnfq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl I've been talking to seems really into me. Then suddenly gives me the \"better off as friends\" line. Need advice.", "post": "I met this girl through a mutual friend's party. We're both juniors in college. We seemed to have immediate chemistry and she actually kissed me that night. Over the next couple weeks we started talking regularly and went on several dates. Things got more physical/romantic as we felt more comfortable around each other. Everything seemed to be going great.\n\nOne day she invited me to a party. This is where things get confusing. That night she seemed really distant. She didn't spend much time with me. I figured maybe it was just difficult for her to balance spending time with me and all of her guests, too. \n\nAt the end of the night, we got a little alone time. We walked together with our arms around one another. Before I left, she told me she was really glad I came and she kissed me (this wasn't just a peck, if you know what I mean).\n\n**Later that same night** we were texting a little. The conversation took a weird turn and she ended up telling me that we're better off as just friends. She said she kept trying to see if we would work out, but there's no spark. She said I'm too nice/not aggressive enough to keep her entertained.\n\nIs any chance for a relationship effectively over at this point? I'm really confused about the whole thing because she passionately kissed me earlier that night. What gives? Did I just completely misread our chemistry for the last two weeks?", "summary": "Started dating a girl. Things seemed to be great. Invited me to a party and seemed distant all night. Then as I was leaving she kissed me and said she was really glad I came. Later that same night she says we're better off as friends."}
{"id": "t3_2oguis", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jacking off at school.", "post": "Of course this didn't happen today but it did this previous week.\n\nBeing a teenaged boy, I usually jack off twice a day; once before school, and once before I go to bed. Last Tuesday, I got up late, and didn't have time to rub one off before school, so come 3rd period, I'm pretty horny. I ask my teacher if I can go to the bathroom, and I immediately pull out my phone and pull up pictures of my ex in bikinis on Instagram. (damn, that sounds a lot more creepy than I thought it would :s) A couple of important things to remember is that: 1. My ex has third period with me and knows I went to the bathroom, 2. These were some pictures from 1-2 years ago that I've never liked and 3. It is very easy to accidentally like someone's picture because all you have to do is double tap on the image. For those of you who don't use Instagram, when you \"like\" a picture, the person will get a notification immediately that you liked their picture.\n\nI bet you can see where this is going now. I finish my business in the bathroom while using the pictures on Instagram as something to help speed up the process. I come back to the classroom and everybody gets kind of quiet all of a sudden. Even my math teacher was giving me a strange look. I sit down next to my best friend, and he asked me if I \"had a good time in the bathroom\" and some of the class laughed. I then pull out of my phone and look in horror as I see that I accidentally liked a picture of her in a polka-dot bikini from over a year ago. After that, I booked it out of the classroom, and I've faked being sick ever since.\n\nI really want to change schools, but I don't know how I could do that without telling my parents what happened.", "summary": "I jacked off at school, accidentally liked a picture of my ex in a bikini on Instagram, everyone knows I jacked off to that picture of her in the bathroom, now I have to change schools."}
{"id": "t3_1g62fv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M]y girlfriend[18F] is headed to a date right now, I am at a loss as to what to do", "post": "I started seeing my current partner about 3 months ago. Started off casual FWB but we both ended up getting feelings for the other and had the exclusive talk and now we are a couple. We generally get along well though the last week or so we've gotten into a rut of nit picking and one fight led to another to another and last night we actually made some progress into trying to turn this ship right round again. \n\nCurrently she is a few states away and has been the last two weeks as she is spending the summer with family of hers out of state, so talking has been a little difficult with the time difference and her spending time with family, which has probably contributed to us arguing more than usual. She only knows her family there and wanted to get out and meet new people so she went to an event at the community center today. I called her about 20 mins ago thinking she would be home by now, she told me she's out a game right now and after that she is going to a \"friend's\" house for dinner and movies. I asked what friend and she said a guy, she met him at the library and he asked her to come over and she said ok. I was kind of shocked and just said ok, well I'll talk to you later and left.\n\nThis isn't normal, yes? That is strictly a date and can't be misconstrued as something else, right? Or am I just being paranoid? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or is that not ok? One of our biggest fights came from her not really respecting the boundaries of our relationship, she didn't cheat or anything but doesn't seem to understand what behavior is and isn't ok in a committed relationship when it comes to other guys.", "summary": "I [22M] believe my girlfriend [18F] is about to go on a date with some guy she just met today, what do I or can I do if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_35xiay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] love interest [22F] has a past she can't get over and it's getting in the way of \"us\".", "post": "I've known her for 6 months. There've been times where she's told me she's in love with me, times where she's had to put her feelings for me aside and times when we've just been good friends. Right now I think she's into me. She's initiating a lot of contact, putting in effort to be around me and telling me about other guys she's rejecting which gives me the idea she wants something more from me.\n\nShe also keeps bringing up her past, and her most recent ex. She feels guilty inside because she's still in love with a guy from her past (3 years ago) who is no longer in her life. According to her he's the one guy she's ever been _so_ in love with and it hurts her that she couldn't have him. They were in love, but had to part for reasons she hasn't been fully clear about. \n\nShe feels like her most recent breakup was her fault. It wasn't. Her ex was a control freak and a psycho, and manipulated her into thinking everything was her fault. They were luckily only together 4 months.\n\nNow again, I'm _sure_ this girl still likes me. And yeah, at times she was in love with me and was really open about that. She goes from one day hurling compliments at me, to the next day being quite down and closed up against affection because she doesn't want to \"use\" anyone else to \"try and get over her past\".\n\nI'm honestly just stuck. Maybe it's a waiting game, maybe one day she'll realize she's ready to commit to something with me, maybe she never will. Any of you have thoughts? Anyone been in a similar situation? Lost as to what to do.", "summary": "In love with someone who's in love with an ex from the past. She's really into me and at times has been in love with me, but is letting her past and her guilt from using someone else get in the way of pursuing anything with me."}
{"id": "t3_2l3uco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] having trouble with relationships after breakup", "post": "Long story short I got dumped 4 months ago and I'm completely over my ex (and I mean it when I say that) and I feel very happy.\n\nBut every time a relationship starts to get a little serious with a girl I freak out and I don't feel want to continue on. \n\nFor example there was a girl, K, and we were talking for about a month, but she wanted to get serious and I freaked out and backed out and it's not because I didn't like her I just cant handle the idea of a relationship right now especially since it is my senior year.\n\nThen about a month later after I finished talking to K, I met another girl A, who I really really enjoy hanging out with and this friday we went to a party and she came back to my place and yes it got sexual. Now I know she really likes me and now I feel scared and uncomfortable again and I don't know what to do :/", "summary": "I keep talking to girls even though I'm not ready for relationships and I feel like a jerk"}
{"id": "t3_3aem5g", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Hypothetical start-up/ investment question", "post": "How would you handle this situation?\n\nAssume you already have a BS science and an MBA. Assume you are currently unemployed and uninsured and need income fast. Assume you are not risk averse.\n\nWhile hypothetical, all serious answers are appreciated. Thank you in advance.\n\nYou are given a check for $35,000 (after taxes 35K straight into your bank account) by a crazy relative you don't know and never knew existed. By accepting the money you accept some terms.\n\n1) You are not allowed to use this money as income, it cannot go to any monthly bill you currently pay. 2) You are not allowed to pay off any bills/debt with the money. 3) You are not allowed to pursue formal education with the money 4) You are not allowed to save the money\n\n5) You are only allowed to invest that money for entrepreneurial purposes.\n\nSo what would you do? Thank you thank you thank you!!!", "summary": "You are given 35k strictly/only for an entrepreneurial investment. What do you do with it?"}
{"id": "t3_3pcpgm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my SO [28 M] of 9 months, I saw something I shouldn't have and now I'm considering just breaking up.", "post": "I never thought I would be posting here, but honestly I don't know what to do. So a little background before we go to the main situation. I've been with my SO for about 9 months and things have been great, minus some hiccups . He's clever, funny, and very outgoing, and is very supportive. I love him to bits. He's also from another country (remember that.) \n\nFor the past two months, the issue of him moving back for work in 2018 has been brought up time and time again and we would always say \"when that happens, we'll cross that bridge, etc. etc.\" Because after all, why ruin a good thing? I've always knew there was going to be deadline with this relationship, and I've sort of come to accept that.  \n\nRecently, about two weeks ago, my mother passed away and I'm an absolute wreck. He has been supportive throughout this whole thing, even came with to my hometown. But I've noticed that he was slightly more distant and now always hide his phone now when he used to be so open about it. \n\nSo I did something I shouldn't have impulsively and I regret immensely (you can spare me the disdain). I looked at the messages. And now I have no idea what to do. It turns out he wants to move back home more quickly than we talked about (like within 9 months) and that night before I got the phone call my mom died, he was going to break up with me. \n\nHis friend who he saying all of this is telling him to wait a few months and then do it. But I don't know. I don't want him to be with me because my mom died and he's doing this out of pity. But on the other hand, I know he loves me and I love him and I don't want to pull the trigger. I feel like I've lost someone and now Im losing him and it's just overwhelming right now. \n\nI don't know what to do and I can't think straight right now, any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "SO was acting distant, hid his phone, so I looked. Said to friend he wants to break up, but won't leave because I'm mourning. What to do? Should I just cut my losses? Or wait until the day comes?"}
{"id": "t3_t8dgm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need some help with my sister's bully who happens to be a family \"friend\"...", "post": "My sister is five. I'd rather not disclose my age here, but let's just say I'm old enough to scare her bullies--that is, if my parents don't stop me first.\n\nMy mom has a best friend who just came to our neighbourhood, and though she's a nice person herself, she does *nothing* to restrain her obnoxious-as-fuck kids. The boy's six or seven, and the girl is twelve. They're basically Annoying Childhood Friend halfway evolving into Scumbag Steve.\n\nThey come over on a semi-regular basis. Now, it's not their obnoxiousness or downright rudeness that I seek to curb--okay, maybe I do--but it's how they isolate my sister and even hit her *inside her freaking own home.* They would even hog her toys and brush her off when she asks to have it back.\n\nNobody--including herself, my parents--does anything about it and even stops me from intervening. I did consider sitting down with the mother and having a talk about it, but then again, having talks and generally being straightforward is not a big thing in my parents' culture, and my mom really values their friendship (again, her indifference to her children's behavior is probably her only major flaw). \n\nReddit, what should I do? They're coming again in less than two hours.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "FIVE-YEAR-OLD SISTER BEING BULLIED BY FAMILY FRIEND'S SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON AND TWELVE-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER. EVERYBODY TURNS A BLIND EYE TO IT AND TRIES TO STOP ANY INTERVENTION."}
{"id": "t3_1s2yu7", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Any experience with Feliway?", "post": "My poor cat (~1yr old calico) has problems peeing--it might be crystals.  I'm currently working with a vet and changing her diet etc.    One thing that was suggested was Feliway.   \n\nThe Vet said that she might not be getting enough water.  This cat drinks more water than any cat I've ever seen, and I was giving her wet food twice a day as well.  Before she was having problems urinating she'd PEE SO MUCH!  Like massive clumps of urine that she'd play with if I didn't scoop them straight away (my kitten is a dirtball).    I'm wondering if maybe she misses me and is drinking less when I'm not around and I'm not really noticing it.  If this is the case I want to try Feliway.  (My mom, a vet tech recommends it as well).  \n\nFor my cat's first 7 months with me (she followed me home off the street) I was working from home, this month, I started working a \"real\" job and am away for 9 hours.  I do make an effort to play with her a bit when I get home, but she's such a cuddle bug that we wind up just cuddling and watching TV.   \n\nIt's hard to tell if she is stressed with me leaving, because she is SUCH A CHILL LITTLE GIRL.  She's playful at the right times, cuddly when I want her to be, and she's so good at the vet--only slightly \"normal\" nervous.  \nI'm not having issues with her peeing outside the box; I just want to make her less stressed.  \n\nSorry, on with the questions,  have you guys used Feliway?  Where do I plug it in?   My apartment is the first floor of a row home and she's allowed everywhere.", "summary": "want to try Feliway for my 1 yr spayed kitten because she's newly alone all day. Has anyone used it?  How do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_26ktdp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] recently removed a temporary online fling [21/F] from Facebook and I wonder if I made the right decision", "post": "About 2 years ago I met this guy on tumblr, we'll call him L, and we started talking.  We hit it off so we continued to talk on gmail, with us eventually becoming Facebook friends.  \nHe was always open about his sexuality, and described himself as an exhibitionist (this is important later). It made me uncomfortable at first, but soon I began to fall for him. However, when I asked him out he said no, because I live in America and he lives in Britain. I was okay with that, and tried to continue being friends with him.\n\nAll throughout the summer, he became very flirty with me, telling me that he thought I was beautiful and that he wanted to be with me. Many times the messages became sexual, but I became okay with it because I really liked him. Many times he asked me to send him a naked picture, and everytime I said no.  This went on for about a year, with me falling harder and harder for him and him continually refusing a relationship. One time, I found out that 2 days after telling me how he wanted to come to America and have a romantic/sexual date with me, he had sex with an ex. It hurt, but I couldn't stop talking to him.\n\nHowever, last December he started dating a new girl, and almost completely cut me off. I was heartbroken, but continued messaging him when I could and trying to keep our friendship.  Last week, my friends suggested I cut him off for good because I was beginning to have the mindset of someone who was emotionally abused. I decided to do so, removing him from Facebook and deleting his contact from my iPod and email. \n\nI kind of regret my decision, because I really miss him. But I am scared to add him again and deal with the same hurt, especially because he probably doesn't understand why I removed him. Should I add him back?", "summary": "I deleted an on/off online fling from Facebook after he began to ignore me, and I'm not sure if I should add him back."}
{"id": "t3_19sy3l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the funniest (preferably subtle) thing you've seen someone do to someone else who has a short temper in an effort to get them to lose it?", "post": "I work at a data center and handle the backup media that comes and goes on a daily basis, as well as writing up discrepancy report emails that get sent to the appropriate individuals.  The reports are supposed to simply mention anything from tapes that weren't sent because they hadn't been ejected from the library on time to oddities with the listings themselves, such as when more than one is sent from the same server.\n\nWell yesterday a duplicate listing was apparently sent from the same server twice about 5 minutes apart, and so I simply said with one sentence just as much.  It's my job.\n\nOne of the guys responsible for the server that produces these listings and has a reputation for hating getting these reports shot back an angry 6 paragraph email telling me that his system didn't send 2 emails but that the email servers somehow duplicated the same message and went ahead to berate me for not checking some header ID numbers or something to see if they match, CC'ing a bunch of other people in the process and basically causing everyone (including me) to laugh about him and his short temper.  Personally I'm starting to get a kick out of seeing him get upset for no good reason and am looking forward to sending him more reports in the future.", "summary": "Someone rustled their own jimmies."}
{"id": "t3_2mfn3w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I had a dream last night", "post": "I had a really really powerful dream last night. It was so powerful and emotional, and just *real*, that even when I was awake I actually thought that it had happened, and that the dream was real. Disclaimer: Its a pretty stupid dream in my opinion, so I'll provide some background for it. \n\nIn July I met this girl(yes another silly dream about a girl). She was beautiful, funny, all that stereotypical stuff people say to describe someone they like. Now we've been talking since then, and she keeps saying things like I make her happy when I talk to her, gives me nicknames all that stuff, but she really only texts me and we don't talk much in school. \n\nAnyway, what this has to do with the dream is that I've been starting to lose faith that she actually likes me, and that she sees me as a friend, which I thought was fine, and at that time I could definitely have been friends with her.\n\nBut last night I had a dream about her. She had died. And I was devastated. This girl I had known for less than half a year had died in a dream and it ruined me. It seems really stupid, and ridiculous that I might think like that about het, but for some reason I do. Even when I woke up, I had trouble shaking my self from that reality. It was probably a solid 20 minutes before I did, in fact. \n\nI apologize for the length, but I just really needed to say this. Thank you.", "summary": "I had a very vivid dream about a girl I like dying."}
{"id": "t3_qf6h4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got told I was adopted. What kind of news have you gotten that everyone else found important except you?", "post": "Basically, My parents met with me and told me I was adopted. They were very serious and comforting, but for me it was a real \"Meh\" moment. \n\nI cared more that they told me and were supportive. I told them I didn't really care, since my biological folks were seem to have been in a position where I was unwanted (for any logical/irrational reasons), and they still haven't bothered to contact me. I am more than happy with great parents that care for me.\n\nThey asked me what I would do if I was ever contacted. I told them I would probably have a chat or what-not, just so I could set *their* minds at ease after having found their son. Admittedly, I also want to get an idea of what my genetics might be, for health reasons.\n\nThere is something I have concluded, though. If my biological parents contact me for financial aid, or for any other such problems, then it will lead to an immediate break of communications and contact. I would do this because I have to help care for my real family. I am not about to lend time and resources to other people on the *only* basis that they are blood-related. If they put about zero effort in, they can get zero effort back.", "summary": "I was told I was adopted, and I don't really care. What information were you told that everyone thought was shocking and important, except you?"}
{"id": "t3_2f0gxc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Called out a queue-jumper, he gestured to slap me, I coped out. What should I have done?", "post": "English is my second language, forgive me and let me know if there are parts that I didn't describe well. \n\nSo friday night in bar area in Hong Kong, in a 7-11. Around 2200, long queue. Someone right in front of me jumped the queue. Nobody said anything. I was indignant, and I told him: \"Sir, please don't jump the queue.\"\n\nHis eyes flared and he raised his voice, calling me a punk and told me to \"shut the fuck up\"; what pissed me off the most was he gestured to give me a \"backhand slap\".\n\nBut all that happened too quickly, as soon as he told me to stfu, I just coped out and filled his spot in the queue, turned my back at him. He must have thought I backed down; which is pretty much the case actually.\n\nNo one said anything, someone else must have seen the whole thing, the queue was shaped like a big \"U\" at the back of the store.\n\nYes, I was a wimp. But I didn't want to fight him and get into trouble. If I didn't cop out, very likely he will hit me. I honestly don't know what to do; I never really got into a fight.\n\nWhat should I have done? Fight him? Call the cops right after he backhand slapped me? What would you have done?", "summary": "called out someone who jumped the queue right in front of me, he threatened to slap me, i backed down."}
{"id": "t3_qtidj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Long time girlfriend broke up with me, need some help", "post": "Reddit, you always have answers in my time of need, so here I am again. My ex and I had been together for about two years. We were very close, and she was and is my very best friend. Our personalities match better than I could imagine. Her family has also taken me in, and become my family in a way. She also has an almost 3 year-old daughter who I have been raising as my own. She broke up with me this past Friday.\n\nShe tells me that she needs some time to grow up on her own (we are fairly young, and have been living together since before we started dating. We have also essentially been together 24/7 since then. Not by choice, it's just the circumstances surrounding us). I completely understand, and I feel the same way, but I am still completely devastated. We have been living with her parents, and I unfortunately have nowhere else to go, so I am staying in their spare bedroom. Her family is just as upset as I m, since they love me very much. My girlfriend also still loves me, and I believe that very much, and says that she still wants us to be together when she is able to find her happiness on her own. She feels like she has been too reliant on me to make her happy, she wants to prove to herself that she can be happy independently.\n\nI think she is the girl I will propose to, so this is very difficult on me. She tells me she still wants us to be close, and try to work toward being together again.\n\nI trust her with my life, and am almost certain that it isn't about anything she says it isn't. \n\nMy question is this: How am I supposed to try and be just her friend for now? I need an idea of how to make this work so we can be together again. Kind of lost at the moment. And I will not give up, I genuinely think she is the person for me.", "summary": "Long time girlfriend broke up with me, but wants to find herself for a bit. How do I make this easier?"}
{"id": "t3_1hwbe1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[21M] Not sure how to read [19F]. Need some advice.", "post": "I met this girl through a friend a few months back in about February/March. My friend told me she was liked me at the time. About the end of May I finally started talking to her and asked her to hang out. We hung out pretty much the whole day and I felt we both had a good time.\n\nI texted her a week or two later asking her out on a date and she said she wanted to but was busy. Then about a week later I asked her if she was free that night and she said no. So we went out that night and I took her out to dinner. After that we walked around for a bit and then talked at her house for quite a while. I really did try anything when I was leaving due to her having some allergic reaction in her lower face and her lips swelled up a bit.  I didn't want to make anything uncomfortable for her. I texted her that night saying I had a good time and hoped to see her again soon. She responded with \"Me too :)\"\n\nAbout a week after that I told her if she was free we should do something, and I didn't get a response back. Another week or two went by so I asked her to do something and she ended up being busy. \n\nWhen we are together, everything seems normal. We both seem to be having a good time. She almost never texts me first, and I normally don't text a lot so I don't text her often. And when we do text she does seem interested. Outside of being face to face it seems she's not interested. And maybe I'm reading way too much into this next part but pretty much anytime I ever post anything to Facebook or Instagram it's always liked by her. I think that's what generally confuses me.\n\nI have no clue what to do next, I want to ask her to see her again but I don't want to be annoying. It's been about a week since I last asked. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "Went out twice with girl. Getting a lot of mixed signals from her. Not sure how to proceed. Help."}
{"id": "t3_d05lx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to go back to school, but I have no idea where to start. Anyone care to lend me a hand?", "post": "I have been unemployed for about 6 months now. I've been on numerous interviews, none of which have panned out. I have been thinking about going to school for the last few years, but I have never really acted on it. I am a high school graduate, who took part of a couple classes in community college just after high school but I dropped out because I was making more than enough money at the time to support myself, I also had no financial aid at the time. I was paying for it all out of pocket (stupid, I know. But I was a cocky 18 year old). Now I feel like I should go back to school so I have something more substantial to present for future employment. My problem is, I have no idea about how to go about funding it at all. I filed my FAFSA in February of this year, with the intent on enrolling in the web development program (I have years of experience in web development and design. But no formal training outside of high school classes.) at Full Sail university. I have no idea on the consensus of the credibility of this institution, but I am looking for something I can do online in my own time. I still have never applied there because I can't afford the application fee.\n\nAlso, what are the chances of having enough financial aid to support myself while in school? I still plan on looking for work, but since things haven't been too promising to date could I squeak by on financial aid leftovers until I actually am employed again. \n\nBTW, I am 25. I have no idea if that means anything.", "summary": "25yo Looking to go to school for (pretty much) the first time. No idea where to start. How do I go about financial aid. Filed FAFSA back in Feb. What do I do with that? Any other advice or pointers appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2tkctk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a dog person", "post": "This happened a few years back during a family gathering at my grandma's house. For context, at the time I didn't like dogs. I'm a cat person. My grandma has a super hyper dog, Ronnie, who is always happy to see me (i've never met a dog that isn't super affectionate towards me). Ronnie's a pretty big mutt. I'm not sure of what breeds he's made up of.\n\nWell, my aunt brought down her little JRT, and while I now like dogs, I still hate this little leg-humping, ankle-biting, pint-sized beast out of hell. Every time I would come anywhere near him, he would come up and start humping my leg, and successfully tripped me several times that day in doing so.\n\nLater on, I went out to the porch to get some peace from the perpetual stress of the family gathering. I sat on the edge and put my earbuds in. Ronnie comes up the stairs and sits next to me. His face at my face, panting his bad breath at me. I give him a little scratch under the chin and pull off a couple of ticks and go back to ignoring him. Then he nudges my head with his and crawls on top of me. Great. There's a giant, fowl smelling, slobbering puppy sitting on my lap.\n\nHe tries to lick my face, which makes me lay backwards on the porch, trying to push his face away from my own. He proceeds to crawl off of me and stand on my (very long) hair. Now I'm really pinned down. \n\nYou can see where this is going...\n\nJust as this happens, my aunt comes out the back door with her pup in tow. He jumps down from her arms and proceeds to mount my ribcage and start humping my side. If that wasn't bad enough, everybody starts coming out of the house and stands on the front lawn to spectate at what's happening to me.\n\nEventually, I manage to shoo the pup and get Ronnie off my hair. And, in hindsight, this is pretty funny.", "summary": "held down and raped by dogs."}
{"id": "t3_11it2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (21/f) is threatening to leave me (25/m) if I don't leave our mutual job which she was just let go from.", "post": "Little bit of background- She's 21/f, I'm 25/m. We were both brought into the company by friends about two years ago and have been dating for the last year and a half. Everyone at the company knows and we have never gotten any grief for the relationship. The management at the company, however, is very finicky and has always had a tenuous relationship with its employees.\n\nThe company has undergone some new management changes in the last six months or so and has basically tried flipping the company on its head by enforcing some new policies. And of course, that comes with layoffs. My girlfriend was part of the most recent string of layoffs. She's quite upset, as is understandable. I was not let go and am continuing to work.\n\nThe problem now is that my girlfriend is threatening to leave me if I don't quit as well as a sign of solidarity to our relationship. This has left me at a compete crossroads. I have a criminal record, so finding a job is incredibly difficult for me to begin with. I also feel it would be a terrible idea to leave both of us without a source of income. She will be able to collect unemployment for a while, but I will collect nothing if I quit. But at the same time, I don't want to lose my girlfriend over something so trivial. We have both been actively seeking new jobs over the last few months with little to no luck. Am I wrong for feeling like she is being unreasonable in her request? How should I go about trying to find some sort of compromise?", "summary": "she (21/f) was just let go from the company where I (25/m) am continuing to work. She is now threatening to leave me if I don't quit, but I feel it would be irresponsible to leave us both with no source of income. How can I come to some sort of compromise with her?"}
{"id": "t3_kp3fy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm stuck paying too much for a car that I don't want anymore.  What should I do?", "post": "So I've had Scion tC for the last couple years and, while it made sense at the time, and despite the fact that it's a good car, I really want out from under this car payment. \n\nI wouldn't really say that it was an impluse buy at the time, but I'm thinking that I really didn't have a firm grasp on how shitty it was going to be to have that car payment for the next 6 years. \n\nSo, Reddit, what should I do?  I'm open to pretty much any **legal** means of unloading it (selling, letting someone take over payments, etc...) but my question is this: whats the best way to get rid of a 2007 Scion tC that you owe $12,000 on?", "summary": "Bought a car, now would rather have an old shitty car than a car payment*"}
{"id": "t3_2ja8vm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] asking my crush [17F] on a date?", "post": "I am an American attending a public high school in the U.S. I am a senior/Grade 12, and the person in question is the same. We share a class together.\n\nI never had much luck with girls. Social anxiety. Fear of pursuing and committing to a relationship.. that sort of thing. I don't have any experience with girls whatsoever.\n\nAnyway, this girl is really fun and outgoing, and I really enjoy her outlook on life. I feel that I can be myself around her. We have talked to each other daily for the past couple of weeks. She often specifically targets me for conversing with, which is a pleasant change from my previous experiences with girls and people in general...\n\nI have been chatting on FB with her for the past couple days, and I got her phone number today and would like to start casually texting..\n\nI also have been getting some of the body language cues (making eye-contact with with me immediately after laughing at something, sitting very close to me even when other seats are available). But I keep considering that maybe that is just in her \"outgoing and fun\" nature, and that it doesn't mean anything special in my case.\n\nI also kind of get the vibe that she might only want to be a friend, but I really can't be sure that I'm not just misinterpreting things... And she isn't super popular either, so maybe she's nervous and unsure of herself too.\n\nSo I'm not certain that she is interested in me, but I won't be able to live with myself if I let the opportunity slip away. Soooo....\n\nAny advice as to how I could go about doing this?... maybe some date ideas?\n\nAnother piece of info I shouldn't omit: I don't drive. and she does. Is this a problem? My parents just believe I need a ton of experience with my provisional learner's permit (stipulates that I can only drive with an adult in the car) before I can get a license and get put on the insurance policy etc. etc.... No telling if that will change any time soon... :(\n\nSo, yeah... any tips and advice you all might have would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "I really want to begin a romantic relationship with a girl who I am not sure is interested in one."}
{"id": "t3_1n0nrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] cant talk to my girlfriend [18f] of 9 months anymore", "post": "Let me just clarify that this isn't a case of Romeo & Juliet where we arent allowed to talk to each other, its more that i cant think of anything to say when around her\n\nSo my girlfriend and I have been dating for the best part of 9 months now and for the majority of this time we use to always be able to talk, we talked constantly.\nBut as of recent we just haven't been able to talk to each other at all. I find it hard to be with her now and spark up a conversation, or even when I do I just end up bringing up some old thing that we have spoken of a million times before and then we maybe have a little talk then it just goes quiet again.\n\nI honestly dont know what the problem is or where it lies. We usually just sit there now while all of our friends are chatting about, but we just sit there cuddling and whatever but we never talk. \n\nAnd sometimes now Im even afraid to be me around my friends because Im afraid i might say something wrong and she will be disgusted/ begin to lose interest in me.\n\nSo I have come to this subreddit to ask for your help. What do I do to keep this relationship going, and if I cant, should I move on?", "summary": "Having a lot of trouble to talking to my girlfriend of 9 Months, need help"}
{"id": "t3_4uhi5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] is having a huge crush with my friend [20 F] Here's the catch - She's also a good friend of my EX [21 F], we're in the same circle of friends.", "post": "I know this is trouble, yeah, I've done everything to avoid this exact situation. [Maybe not everything]. Anyway, the point is, I'm already crazy for the girl and I have a strong feeling that she likes me too. The problem, obviously, my ex [we've become friends after the breakup months ago] but I know she will be devastated and the entire group would be shocked. \n\nI'm potentially destroying 3 different friendships when this doesn't work out. I'm fucked but I am in love. AND THE STRESSFUL THING IS I DON'T HAVE OTHER FRIENDS TO VENT ALL THESE FEELINGS OUT TO.\n\nI don't know what to do, what to expect and everything. So, I'm sorry if this post is not appropriate and I hope someone is there that could relate or have been in this kind of emotional mess", "summary": "crush [potential love] on ex's friend, how fucked am i"}
{"id": "t3_xk0lc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When was being nice helped you get something you didn't think possible?", "post": "I got my car towed once (I parked in a parking lot that had a 12inch sign saying it was going to be repaved)  and when I got to the lot it was just as they were closing but the door was still open as there was a guest yelling at the guy behind the glass about how much of a dick he was for towing their car.  The angry person had a huge pill because they added on the afterhours charge and a few other charges for the type of car and how hard it was for them to tow it.  So it was my turn and I put on a smile and asked how his day was and started small talk about photos I could see on his desk and after a few mins he leans close to the glass and said if anyone asks I was here a few hours earlier and I walked away with a bill $400 less than the angry man in front of me did.  He screamed the price at the guy while he was paying it.", "summary": "put on a smile got $400 off towing bill"}
{"id": "t3_1bsp4e", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Suggestions for getting over a long term relationship break up?", "post": "My ex girlfriend and I were together for nearly a year and a half, by far the longest time I've spent with someone. We were with each other every day and practically lived together for a time. \n\nIt grew to a point where I was being pulled in different directions by the relationship, friends and school and I began to resent each of those things. I realized that I wanted out of the relationship so when it was brought up the two of us talked about it and decided to break up. A break was discussed but she said she didn't like that term because it confuses things. \n\nI've been having issues getting over it though because, first and foremost, the number one person in my life for the last year and a half is gone completely. We've had to talk a couple of times since it happened (it's been only 3 days) because he had a class together but I asked her if she wanted it, too, because she continuously said that we were doing it for me. She cannot give me a straight answer, so I'm assuming that she was wanting it, too. \n\nI know it's selfish and hypocritical, but now when I think about it I get angry, sad and jealous all at once. To know that the one person who actually cared for me for the last year or so (I've had my own series of emotional issues lately and all that I took out of it was that she was the only one there for me) no longer wants to be there for me, or at least she didn't want to. \n\nIt makes it that much harder to get over. She says she's been having a difficult time with it, but from what her facebook and twitter say it's quite the opposite. I always felt like she cared more than I did when we were together but now I'm the one still thinking about it all the time, crying and being sad while she seems to be having a great time.", "summary": "Any suggestions on how to stop feeling upset or how to stop focusing on how she's moved on so quickly? I'd really appreciate it - thank you."}
{"id": "t3_okla7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just realized I still have access to my ex's Facebook. Ideas?", "post": "I'm too tired to go into the details of the breakup right now, but we dated for 4 years. He broke up with me in order to find a \"fat chick who would put out more\". That was the only reason he gave for the breakup. Within a couple of weeks he had also called two of his best guy friends and insulted them/driven them away. So basically, this guy has become a huge jerk to a bunch of people he was close to.\n\nI realized tonight that I still remembered his Facebook account password. He uses the same password for most things, and we had exchanged school account passwords in college to work on a project. Reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend is a real jerk. I have his Facebook."}
{"id": "t3_11kkxd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23 [M] have a question regarding the dynamics of a relationship. Female opinions appreciated.", "post": "Hey, all. I have a question that is mainly directed at the women who use this subreddit. \n\nI've been in a relationship with a girl that I like very much for about 6 months. Things have been mostly pretty great. \n\nRight now I'm going through a very stressful time in my life, as I'm starting my own company and doing things that are very much so outside my comfort zone. Such as dealing with lawyers, public speaking, presentations, dealing with employees, managing investors. I.e. a big load of responsibility that has emerged rather rapidly. \n\nDue to this I'm sleeping very little and I'm just stressed all the time. There for I've started talking less and less to my GF and frankly I'm just no fun as I'm anxious all the time. \n\nAnd I just feel so weak, I feel like such a pussy for being so stressed. I don't know why. I'm doing thing's that are impressive for my age, but for some reason I can hardly look my GF in the eyes with out looking away because of how shitty I feel. \n\nSo what I'm asking is, if your boyfriend told you that he was anxious, scared and insecure due his new added responsibility, would you support him through a tough time or feel that he was a giant pussy? \n\nWriting this it feels obvious that I should just talk to her.. but for some reason I just feel this giant urge to 'Man the fuck up' and stay quiet and try to adapt. In the meanwhile she suffers because I'm being very closed off. \n\nWatchya think?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Starting my own company. Can't sleep due to stress & anxiety. Feel like I shouldn't tell my girlfriend how I feel. As I've always tried to be confident and calm through our entire relationship. Should I tell her that I'm scared to death or should I man up?"}
{"id": "t3_z9u8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Beginning college with my [18] year old girlfriend, and I [18] have a few questions.", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for almost a year and a half, 8 months long distance and I've known her since I was 11. Whenever we're together everything is perfect; we are very much in love and everything we do together is fun. However, when we're apart or stop communicating for a day or two I start becoming more and more insecure. I have a history of cheating exes, and I admit that I am a misogynist, but I really believe that this girl is the one. She is perfectly fine with not talking to me at all for days on end, and this sort of bothers me. \nI am a hopeless romantic and she is fairly realistic. I understand that how she spends her time is her business, but a text or something to let me know she's thinking of me would mean so much to me, as little as that is. I am definitely a believer that communication is very important in a relationship; is asking for a text/short phone call every day a bit much?\nThis is her first relationship, and I have done everything I can to let her know that she is the world to me. She is extremely happy with me as a boyfriend besides the fact that I can be a little overbearing at times, and I plan on working on it. I just want a little compromise to make things a little easier to get into.\nI am very willing to make this work because she does mean the world to me. Throughout the course of this relationship I have changed and am slowly but surely learning my way around fully trusting her now. Coming from a long distance relationship (I was in Canada, she was in Taiwan), we would Skype/video call daily and it just seems like now, without the daily reminder that I am important to her, I start doubting that I am.\nI dislike how I make her feel like I am smothering her, does anyone have advice for this situation?", "summary": "College just started, girlfriend not able to talk as much and is ok with it. I get insecure because of past history with girls."}
{"id": "t3_3p6kbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with [24 F] possible partner, I don't know what my question is. I'm in uncharted territory as I've never felt this excitement for the possible future.", "post": "Hi, I've been single most of my life.\n\nRecently, for the first time, I have found a girl I very much enjoy the company of, and there's the possibility of that turning into something.\n\nThe problem is, this is sort-of uncharted territory for me. I think I have so many questions about how to handle this, and it's all making me a bit nervous. I've been so used to being single, and comfortable too. I'm a loner with good friends.\n\nI've had previous girlfriends, but when I was much younger, and none of those people gave me this excitement of being around somebody, it's an excitement of the possible future. My last relationship was 6 years ago during a 3 month stay in Thailand, with a girl who was lonely like me at the time. We made half-hearted plans and things fell apart. I don't have casual sex. Except with myself.\n\nIt might be worth mentioning? We work in the same place, an office environment. Our duties are related but unlikely to ever be at odds with each other.", "summary": "I'm nervous to ask this girl out as I've been single for so long, I guess? I worry it might affect our chances of a successful relationship, particularly as she is friendly and social toward everyone around her and I like to keep to myself for much of my time."}
{"id": "t3_2waxee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20m) get over my ex (20f) ?", "post": "Hey reddit \n\nSo basically me and my ex broke up about a month ago officially (she cheated on me and was in a relationship with other guy)\n \nI have been trying everything to get my mind off her eg. workout, work,study,party,write about my feelings, have sex with other girls, hang out with friends, play video games. But I cant seem to stop thinking about her and miss her. I know what she was wrong and I need to move on, but how do I change how I feel when I am already trying so hard ?\nIs there anything else I should be doing ?", "summary": "Can't stop thinking about ex even after trying so much, what do I do to get over my ex completely ?"}
{"id": "t3_2nze7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [25 F] dating about three years, Might be leaving me for another man.", "post": "Hi guys and gals so I told my girlfriend a few weeks ago that I had a fantasy of her sleeping with other men as long as it didn't grow into something else.  She seemed interested in it.  Boy was I wrong, Long story short she slept with a dude from work, and now has feelings for him.  I don't know what to do, she says she wants to be with him \"for now\"  and doesn't plan on being with him for a long term relationship but she doesn't want to hurt him because he as trust issues.  She pretty much wants to be with him until they hate each other/break up after honeymoon stage and come back to me.\n\nSo on the other hand there is me, I really do love her and have no idea what I should do.  She also told me the same thing that she would want to be with me the rest of her life but thinks he deserves to be treated better.  I told her if you really don't want to hurt him end it as soon as possible and not drag it on into later stages like more sex=more feelings and hanging out.  Also I said you should try to minimize contact with him texting/sending images to each other.  But the problem is she really wants to get to know him and wants to keep talking to him and all that jazz\"Because ooo the new shiny item\".  She even says now that it feels like cheating on him since he doesn't know the situation and technically at the moment we are \"friends\" but we live together and same bed/room. Help please.", "summary": "GF wants to leave me for a \"current\" BF and come back to me later, we both really love each other, and be together the rest of our lives she just doesn't want to hurt him.  What do I/We do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hl1qp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by listening to the radio", "post": "This happened yesterday.\n\nSo in southern Minnesota (around the Mankato area if that means anything to you) there is a radio station on 96.7FM which plays the usual pop\\whatever's popular on the billboards nowadays and I have it saved as the default station in my car (I usually use an aux cord but sometimes I can't be bothered.\n\nAnd then yesterday, I was at the Minneapolis area where I'm about to begin college. I met a bunch of people and we decided to go somewhere, being the person with the car and not really minding driving in city traffic I offered to drive.\n\nI turn on the car, turn on the radio and then.... \"96.7 Minneapolis Pride Radio, Your City Your Community, LGBT etc. etc.\" and then they all looked at me weird like I was supposed to know that radio stations change.", "summary": "Went to college, became gay"}
{"id": "t3_3x59zm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend(14F) thinks it's unfair that I (14F) didn't invite her to hang out at the mall.", "post": "This friend, I'll call her Jess, thinks it unfair that I had plans with another friend(we'll call her Sam) to hang out at the mall. I spend every moment with Jess. Sitting with her at snack and lunch and at bible class, we even had a sleepover together. Now Sam, on the other hand, I don't get that much time to spend with her. \n\nWe were talking about our plans for the mall at lunch today, and Jess overheard. It probably wasn't very nice to discuss plans like that in front of people you weren't inviting but nonetheless, she kept saying things that implied she was coming too. Such as \"But I'll fall on my butt again!\"(in reference to ice skating in the mall) \n\nThere was another girl too, who was also giving off the \"I'm going too!\" act and Jess told her \"Don't even try Sarah, we're not invited\" in a really annoyed and disappointed tone.\n\nI'm not sure if I am in the right to feel like I did not do anything wrong. Jess is always saying we should think about others, but Sam and I were looking forward to spending some time together. Should I be inviting Sarah and Jess along too?", "summary": "My friend Jess thinks she should be invited to hang out with me and my friend at the mall, but I spend so much time with her. I was really looking forward to spending time alone with my other friend, but I'm conflicted about what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_4x7xir", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [16/m] holding a secret from a friend [16/m]", "post": "My friend (We'll call him A) is gay and is in the closet about it as we live in a place where gays are not very accepted. To my knowledge, he has only revealed it to 2 people, myself and another friend (We'll call him B). What happened is that a few months back, A told B that he had a crush on him. B was slightly disturbed by this and did not reciprocate. However, B had told others about A behind his back and the secret spread among a small group of friends and eventually reached me. Now I am faced with the dilemma of whether to tell A or not. On one hand, he would be a lot happier if I didn't tell him (he's quite embarrassed about his sexuality). On the other hand, he kind of deserves to know. I've tried to keep the secret from spreading for the time being but I can't control everything. I'm just lost and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Others know that my friend is gay but I'm not sure if I should tell him"}
{"id": "t3_uyeiq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "While at TV Class in School, I accidentally knocked over a $100 External Hard drive and it broke, What Other \"Fuck Me!\" Stories do you have?", "post": "So in TV Class at my school we took our final. After the written test we were told to fix any mistakes on our last project and then submit it to him. While I was eager to work I started moving the keyboard, mouse, and monitor onto the table we are to work on, the monitor wire got caught into the External Hard drive cable and the hard drive fell out and crashed onto the ground below, which caused it to die. Not only did that die, I now owe the teacher $100 for a new one with the money I don't have, and I lost all of my footage on the hard drive and due to losing the footage I failed my Final do to not being able to fix mistakes... FML", "summary": "While working on my final, computer monitor wire got attached onto external hard drive, causing hard drive to fall and break; Now I owe my teacher $100 I don't have and I failed my final. "}
{"id": "t3_4ga54v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am currently in a Katy Perry song with this girl [24F]. How do I proceed?", "post": "Hi Reddit\n\nFor the last six months, I've had a small crush on this girl. Nothing major, I just think she's cute. We've never spoken in depth about anything, just random stuff once or twice a month for this period.\n\nAbout a month after I met her, I slept (literally slept) with her - we cuddled a bit, but that's it. I texted her twice, but she was always slow to reply, so I figured that was it.\n\nWe then spoke on and off for some time.\n\nAbout a month ago, she kissed me early in the evening at a party, and then hung on me for the rest of the evening. No more than one kiss, and I was sort of annoyed that she was toying with me. I texted her the following days where she was all smiles, until she suddenly dropped off the radar and didn't respond to anything for some days. I stopped too, figured she'd come around if she wanted to. I thought that was the end of it, as contact was kept pretty short after this.\n\nCome last night. I figured she was done, but no, she texted me all night and we end up kissing again. She had a girlfriend staying from out of town, so she went home with her. Then here I am today. She snapped me a couple of times, but I really can't be arsed dealing with this hot and cold behaviour. How do I figure out what the fuck she wants? Every time I asked her she tells me she likes me, but then keeps pulling this shit.\n\nI feel like saying fuck it, but she's so nice and sweet, and really pretty too. Dropping off the radar just isn't cool.", "summary": "Girl is hot for boy, boy (literally) sleeps with girl, girl goes cold. Boy kisses girl, girl is happy, girl suddenly goes cold. Girl kisses boy again, girl goes no."}
{"id": "t3_20ltip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [21F] 6 yrs she's unsure about us", "post": "Been in a relationship with my GF on and off for the last 6 years. Just recently she said that she needed time apart from me and deleted me from all social networks and took me out of her life. Probably not the smartest thing to do, I texted her and asked her why all of a sudden. \n\nA week goes by and she finally responds to me and tells me that she has a lot going through her mind and that separation from each other is what she needed. And that she would let me know when she is ready to talk to me or see me again. \n\nSo this weekend she tells me that she doesn't know if she likes me still or not. \n\nMy question is, should I keep on going through this and wait for her until she's ready to see or talk to me again? Or should I just take the loss and move on?", "summary": "gf for 6 or more years"}
{"id": "t3_35371n", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm a horrible human being, please help (serious replies only)", "post": "I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I really am looking for help\n\nI [20F] feel like I am only just now understanding what boundaries are...I got really physical with my male friend without explicitly getting his consent (he'd be silent) and then right before we actually had sex I asked again \"seriously are you okay with this,\" and he said \"yes\". The day afterward, I asked if he was okay about it multiple times afterwards and he said \"it wasn't rape, seriously we're fine, etc.\" Again, this all happened a few months ago. We've since just not talked about it and I thought it was just one of those things that happens between friends and we never talk about again - But then I just found out from another friend that he (the guy I slept with?) jokes about it being rape all the time. But we still see each other all the time and the friendship hasn't really changed. It's since been too long to apologize (again, I asked if it was rape afterwards and apologized profusely despite him saying it wasn't), and the mutual friend has expressed that he's telling me this specifically to make me feel uncomfortable as a joke, and that the friend I slept with bears me no \"ill-will because you didn't intend for it to be that way,\" but I don't know what to do now...\n\nThis came up again now because I asked his advice regarding a situation with a different friend and I pushed at their boundaries too. We didn't actually sleep together, but we expressed that we were very attracted to each other but couldn't sleep together due to making things awkward. I handled it like all things I do in my life - poorly and awkwardly - and he hasn't spoken to me since\n\nSeriously what the hell, how can I not know what \"yes\" or \"no\" is, I consider myself fairly well versed in what constitutes as consent but I guess I don't? I feel like I'm going to throw up and that I am a horrible human being.", "summary": "I feel like I raped my friend by not understanding boundaries, even though he's told me it wasn't rape, and I pushed another friend away in a similar manner"}
{"id": "t3_nyeyx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A story for the new year...", "post": "I am a 21 year old man living in California, and on this new years eve I felt like sharing a story about myself that hopefully someone will hear.\n\nI married my wife in August, we'd been dating since 15. I can honestly saw that was the best day of my life. But since then, the year took a nasty turn, as it did for many people across the country. My wife had to drop out of school because she couldn't get in to any classes due to over crowding. Soon after, because we are sadly still part-time retail employees (despite our best efforts) both of our hours got cut due to low labor budgets. This has lead to a buildup of debt with a lack of income. Also, during this time, two very close family members were diagnosed with cancer, my step-father, and her step-mother. Now because of a flawed system at work, my wife and I are afraid to take time off work to be with our families. She has already been threatened with being fired if she calls in sick, and now she's developing a cough that's been steady getting worse, yet we can't afford to see the doctor.  Now, its at the point where we are unsure if we can make our rent. \n\nTo make a long story short, I'm not writing this for sympathy or handouts, but to remind people that we could be anyone. The people you see and laugh with could be in our position is the blink of an eye. Just don't forget that not everyone is as fortunate, and that we need to be thankful for what we have.", "summary": "this year, be thankful for what you have, it may not be there forever."}
{"id": "t3_20vacn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] losing patience with my boyfriend [20M]", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short as possible, as I'm writing this on a phone plus I don't want to make it seem like I'm ranting.\n\nMyself and my partner have been together since Dec 2012. We got together shortly after I had ended a long term relationship with my previous boyfriend of 3 years. When we first started to get to know each other... it was amazing. We clicked rightaway. I couldn't stop thinking of him and vice versa, sex was passionate, everything just felt right. For a couple months my ex gave us a bit of trouble (practically stalking me) and we got over that just fine,  the problems started to kick in around August 2013.\n\nHe would spend all of his day playing computer games. Now I'm not one to complain about playing games as I'm a gamer myself, but even if I would go over his house to visit,  I would barely get a hello and a kiss if he was playing something. It felt like our relationship was secondbest to a computer. It's gotten to the point where atm, I could stay over his house all day, and he would sit on the PC and expect me to just sit there with him and do my own thing.\n\nI can be hormonal at times, but it's usually flared by when I feel like I'm getting nothing back from our relation. I've tried to talk to him about it but nothing sinks in. I try to look after him, and just be a good partner, but I'm just losing the motivation to even be around him anymore. I used to stay over his house on weekends, but now I find myself making excuses not to go over there. I feel nothing when we kiss or hug, I just feel like an emotional brick wall. We haven't had sex in almost 2 months, because I can't bring myself to doing it when the connection isn't there anymore.\n\nTo top it all off, I'm his first girlfriend, and he's jumped into a serious relationship rightaway. I really don't want to hurt his feelings, but I can't bring myself to crack a smile around him anymore. I honestly do not know what to do anymore. What can I do to repair our relationship?", "summary": "slowly losing motivation to be around my partner"}
{"id": "t3_3od7zm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25f] boyfriend[25m] did more things for his ex-girlfriend[23f] because she was hot, need some perspective.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, I am in a crappy situation. \n\nI been dating my boyfriend Charles for six months now and have been exclusive for over five. On a mental level we connect perfectly. He is one of the funniest guys I have ever met and I always look forward to spending time with him. \n\nThe main problem is that a lot of his free time he likes to spend either with his friends or alone. His ideal frequency of seeing me is twice a week. And also, when we are together, he doesn't like to do anything really besides going out for food or staying in our apartment.\n\nI know his last ex-girlfriend was beautiful. I am not unattractive myself, I am slim, I work out, but there are things she has looks wise that I can't compete with. At first I used to be really insecure about our relationship after seeing how pretty she was. I ended up cooling off after my boyfriend cut all ties with her. \n\nThe thing which really is getting under my skin though is that I looked through some old pictures of my boyfriend and her, they went to a ton of places. They went to museums, Cherry Blossoms, other towns, just a lot of things. What bugs me so much is that when I asked my boyfriend to take me to some place simple like a music festival in the city he just flat out says he doesn't want to. When I asked him why he went to all of these events with his ex he said that he put up with a lot of shit because she was hot.\n\nSee that's what really hurts me, I don't want to force him to go to anything. And before when he didn't want to go out it didn't bother me. But knowing that he went out of his way to make his ex happy really hurts me. I don't want to break up I am just really looking for some advice.", "summary": "boyfriend said he did more for his ex because she was hot."}
{"id": "t3_451cdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my Therapist [60+ M] My therapist fell asleep during session. What do I do?", "post": "I am having a hard time knowing because he is blind. His eyes are always open. \n\nToday during our session, his body slowly seemed relaxed as I was talking, then several seconds later he released a single snore and immediately snapped back to attention. He then cleared his throat and followed up my moment of silence with a generic comment on feelings that did not pertain to my subject. \n\nWhen he fell asleep I was talking about important family issues. It derailed my train of thought and I cut the session short.\nThis therapist is older, he threw his back out the night before. He may have been on meds? Maybe the snore was actually unusual breathing? \n\nThis has happened before where he seems to relax, go silent and sink into his chair. I'm not sure rather or not to confront him.\noccasionally", "summary": "Therapist fell asleep. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4wuor8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I did something awful while i was drunk", "post": "Hey reddit, I really need some fucking help.\n\nA few nights ago, me and some friends were having a going away party for my friend, and it was a few of my closest guy friends and some girls as well. That night I was being force fed shots and was unbelievably hammered to the point where im still recovering a few days later.\n\nBut a few days after said party, I was told that I had made out with a really pretty girl, so at first I thought to myself, \"Hey, go me.\" But as it turns out, I did something really fucking awful.\n\nI'm a pretty timid and easygoing guy, so it sounded really fucking weird what I did, but apparently I tried to get this girl to give me head, and was told she was crying as I tried it as well. \n\nAfter hearing about it, I felt so fucking awful, and she talked to me about it and was like \"It's fine, we were both just really drunk, it's fine, it's fine.\" But I honestly still feel so fucking awful about the whole situation, and it's really getting to me, because I know I would NEVER EVER do that in a sober mindset.\n\nWhat do I do? I really need help and dont know where to turn to.", "summary": "Got really drunk at a party, almost raped a girl, she says it's okay, I feel absolutely awful. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1gvs00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/F] would like to spend the weekends with my SO [27/M] without his friend (28F) in the picture.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. I usually spend the weekends over at his place. For the past month, a mutual friend of his and his roommate as been coming around every Saturday or Sunday. Seems like whenever she comes by or has something going on at her place we end up hanging out with her/doing what she wants to do. \n\nShe's known my boyfriend and his roommate for a while. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable because it seems like she has zero interest in getting to know me/talking to me. I also have a gut feeling that she might be interested in my boyfriend but I have nothing really to back it up. I just don't feel comfortable hanging out around her and it makes me look forward less to the weekends because now I can expect to see her.\n\nI don't know how to bring this up without sounding weird and jealous.", "summary": "Seeing boyfriend's friend (who might be into him)too much lately on the weekends when I'd like time with him, not sure how to bring it up without sounding jealous."}
{"id": "t3_w8s0y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a 25 year old male full time software engineer. Where do I meet women?", "post": "I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. As the title says, I am 25, and I work as a software engineer. I am relatively fit, decently attractive (I think?), and quite socially capable though I tend to not go out much these days. I have a huge number of hobbies and passions aside from programming: writing, vehicle maintenance, Aikido/martial arts in general, astronomy/physics, guitar/bass/drums/production/composition/arrangement/music theory, video games, carpentry, and a ton of other stuff. I'm not trying to provide a comprehensive list but trying to convey that it is not terribly difficult for me to find something in common with most people.\n\nThat being said, I never meet any girls. My job is terrible for it. My hobbies tend to keep me to myself. Even when I do/did go out more, it was mostly to friends' houses to hang out or just bar hopping, neither of which are a good avenue for me (both places are meat markets and far too loud). So my question is: where do I go and/or what do I start doing to meet more ladies, preferably the more bookwormy/nerdy type? The only idea I have is to leverage mutual friends more and go to more parties, though those tend not to be my scene.\n\nI'd like to stress that I do not like the idea of going to, say, a Starbucks or Barnes and Noble and randomly approaching strangers. I consider that to be contrived and a terribly shallow way to meet people. I'm not looking for a girlfriend **this instant**, I just want to have more exposure so that there's more of a chance of meeting someone whom I might share things in common with. I am not looking for a one/two/n night stand.\n\nIf it matters, I live in a place that has several small cities within acceptable distance, but is more sparsely populated (lots of scenery, mountains, riverside pulloffs, etc).", "summary": "25 year old nerd with ability to speak in non-awkward way to females needs to know where to meet females, as his occupation and hobbies don't help much."}
{"id": "t3_1putbx", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just tell me that this is alright. That I'm not just an indecisive failure.", "post": "I've been in college for two and a half years now. I should be graduating in about a year, but I won't be walking across the stage staring out into the crowd at my proud parents. I failed out the second semester of my freshman year as an art studio major due to depression and an eating disorder of mega proportions. The following fall semester, I enrolled into a community college to do liberal arts classes and failed out again due to the still untreated depression. After receiving notice that I would no longer be able to receive financial aid, I realized I would not be able to continue school as I had no way of paying for it now. Coming to terms that I had issues, I decided to do an Appeal blaming my educational failure on my depression. After providing the necessary evidence, I won my appeal and was able to receive aid for the next semester. I ended up confessing to my parents after dealing with their frustration and confusion. I was then set up with a therapist who I visited throughout the spring semester of my sophomore year. Things were going well and I passed every single class and found a love for photography. Since I finally felt that I was in a good place, I transferred back to my university this fall semester, my junior year, as a biology major. I felt that a science major would make up for making my parents so unbelievable disappointed in me my freshman year. It did help that I held interests with animals and plants. After being immersed in the biology program, I realized that my interests still lied in art classes. Not to mention, the birth control prescription I had been on caused my depression to come back, causing a drop in my attendance and poorer grades in my heavy biology courses. I'm on a low dosage prescription now and it seems to not have any ill effects. I'm also not taking an science courses next semester, and retaking some of the art classes that I had previously failed out of. I don't even feel like telling any family or friends what I plan to study in school anymore, because it's different every year. Fuck me for changing my mind and feeling depressed for extended periods of time.", "summary": "Been in school three years, failed out a couple times, parents disappointed as fuck, been up and down depressed, tell me it's okay and second chances are real."}
{"id": "t3_re5a8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend had an old boyfriend stay in her room the past two nights. She seems to think that's ok.", "post": "They are using the same bed, and did last night as well. \n\n(I am 21, she is 18 with the mind of a 30 year old)\n\nwe were OK tonight, but it had been bothering me the whole day, so with my friends advice I told her exactly how I felt about the situation (Thretened, amazed that she would think this was ok, ect.). She responded with venom, and turned every point that I made into something against me (that I am being selfish, who gives you the right to blah blah blah).\n\nThe only reason I was OK with this (she asked me) was that I really thought she would find him another bed to sleep in.\nI am so incredibly stupidly in love with this girl it's not even funny. I dont care if it ends, I just want it to end well so we can still talk.\n\n(back story)\n\nI am a romantic who opens themselves up to a person complealy when it comes to a committed relationship.\n\nwe have been dating for seven months\n\nFor the last month or so, she has been distant and wanting more space\n\nThis week we had a fight about \"space\", and I have been laying off as much as possible, letting her engage me. I stayed over Friday night, and we had a great Sunday morning, untill she rolls over at tells me that he is coming up up in a few hours. from that point on, she was very cold and distant.", "summary": "my partner wont admit that this is an incredibly shitty situation to put me in. how do I make her see that without pushing her further away"}
{"id": "t3_3vvuw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my boyfriend [33 M] of 2.5 yrs, work together and I'm not sure how to handle our situation.", "post": "First of all this is my first post on Reddit, so I apologize if its not to the regular standard or simplicity of other posts.\n\nMe and my boyfriend work together, for his father. We have been working together for about 6 months, and we have a pretty good system going. I started working with him because his dad's cancer returned last spring so he isn't able to do much of the work anymore while taking care of himself.\n\nNow i know 6 months isn't very long speaking in career terms, but I've started thinking about our future and how things are going to progress business-wise. His father takes about half the money that comes in from the business, as he needs it to pay for his house. He had it paid off but due to several setbacks in the business he had to take out a line of credit on the house. I'm more than okay with this arrangement for the time-being but would like to know what our plans are. I brought it up casually tonight and didn't get a very positive response. I suggested we work for him for a few more years until he can get a good portion of his line of credit paid off and then we could consider asking him to let us take over the business completely.(by selling his house he could comfortable retire)\n\nI figured this would be like a payment plan for us to buy the business from him. My boyfriend however took it as me wanting to take the business from his dad which he worked very hard to build up over many years. Anyone care to share their point of view?\n\nthanks!", "summary": "My boyfriend is worried I'm trying to take his dads business out from under him."}
{"id": "t3_gccnu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a geographically displaced intellectual in a world of meat-heads.  How do I make friends here?", "post": "Long story short, i'm in the military and have been for 5 years now.  I still keep close contact with my friends back home, but since coming into the military i have made 0 friends.  \n\nWhy?  It isn't because i'm anti-social or anything like that.  It is because, in general, all the people i meet are of a much lower intelligence.  I either alienate them with my thought process or, more often, I can stand to have a conversation with them.\n\nIs there some hobby i can pick up or some place i can go to interact with people more my speed?  Reddit, in general, has been a nice distraction within a community of (sometimes) like minded people.  \n\nI laughed for hours on end at the physics joke thread; not one person at my work got any of the jokes.", "summary": "Is there someplace intellectual people hang out, interact, whatever that i can go, or a hobby i should take up to find more people like me?"}
{"id": "t3_247uz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20F] tell him [21M] about past assault 1 week in?", "post": "I have been sexually assaulted both when I was a kid and since coming to college. In trying to develop a healthy sex life, I have discovered that oral, both giving and receiving, is incredibly triggering. I started dating a guy from work a week ago and we've begun having sex. This morning while fooling around, he brought up oral sex and I said that was something we'd revisit soon. I want to tell him the reason I'm uncomfortable with oral because I don't want him to think I am just a selfish lover, but I don't know how to go about it taking into account the brief time we have been together and my general lack of tact in discussing more serious problems. Advice?", "summary": "How do I address my problems with oral due to assault with tact considering it has been a week?"}
{"id": "t3_3x4523", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not liking Star Trek", "post": "Over the past week I have been texting this girl, and it seemed to be going fairly well. She sent me a Star Trek gif and me being my honest self, I admitted that I didn't really like Star Trek. Well as it turns out, one of her favorite things is Star Trek. She proceeded to tell me that fact and has also informed me that since I don't really enjoy Star Trek, anything with her can't go any further. \n\nSince then I've been watching The Next Generation, a show I used to watch when I was younger but never really enjoyed as a child, and I'm actually really enjoying it. So, I decided to tell her, since the entire reason I decided to give it another chance was for her, to no avail. She told me that regardless of that fact its still not going to happen.", "summary": "Decided to be honest. The thing I didn't like was the girl's favorite. Lost a chance with her. Tried to like the thing. No chance still."}
{"id": "t3_j5zvc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most memorable act of kindness and why?", "post": "Random or otherwise.\n\nI was walking to school one morning when I was about 15 when I heard a voice call out \"Hello? Excuse me? Young man?\". I turned and saw a frail old man who must have been in his 90s standing in the doorway of his house. I walked over and he asked if I could help him with something. I said I would help, so I followed him to a step-ladder in his kitchen. He said that he needed to change the bulb but he couldn't get up the ladder. \n\nAfter I changed the bulb, he said that he'd give me something for helping out. He reached for a small tray of change on his kitchen table and picked out the only 50p coin in his tray of 1p and 2p coins. I told him he didn't have to give me anything but he said that it was only right to reward helping out an old man.", "summary": "Helped an old man change a light bulb. As a reward he gave me the only 50p he had in his tray of 1p and 2p coins."}
{"id": "t3_2iq56y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not reading a card I bought.", "post": "This morning I bought a really cool letter-press made card with an otter on it.  I knew it was a card but I bought it to cut the front off and frame for my apartment because my girlfriend and I love otters.  I left it sitting out on the table hoping that when she got home before me she'd notice it and see what great taste in decoration I have.  So later when I got home I asked if she'd seen the card and she said yes and asked if I'd read the inside of the card and if it was for her.  I said no and that it was to cut up and put on the wall.  Turns out the inside of the card reads \"I love you like no otter\" and she was mildly disappointed that it wasn't specifically for her.", "summary": "Bought a card for the front.  Didn't read the sentimental text. Disappointed my girlfriend by not specifically getting it for her."}
{"id": "t3_1hxhqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] tell a friend [22F] it really hurts me to be the one starting conversations", "post": "Hi,\n\nI *was* pretty sure we were friends, at least she is a very good friend. I don't know what I am to her. \n\nWhen we were in the same city we would spend all clases together, visit museums together, go to the cinema or go eat together so I guess she doesn't hate me or anything but I initiated **everything**.\n\nI have never been invited, or never received a message from her first in 6 months, and because I consider her a good friend it pains me. I even seriously doubt she like me :/\n\nIs there a way to tell her without sounding over attached or should I just give up and stop trying?", "summary": "She is my friend. I'm not sure I'm her friend. It hurts. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4xe3r5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [41 F] and my husband [46 M] with my parents [70/70 M/F], gifted them a $15k cruise for their 50th anniversary - they are currently on and posting about their adventure on social media, never publicly acknowledged our gift.", "post": "This is not a huge problem but it's been eating at me so I am looking for some outside perspective.  Thank in advance!\n\nMy husband [46/M] and I [41/F] have had a lot of financial success (both from hard work and being in the right place at the right time) and wanted to give my parents something special for their 50th anniversary. We discussed many options,  I got them in contact with a travel agent near their home and told the travel agent to have them pick what they wanted to do, where they wanted to stay, upgraded cabin, dining plans, the whole bit, price was not an issue. We paid $15k for a land/sea adventure.\n\nThey seemed grateful and thanked us for doing it for them and I thought all was well.\n\nThey left this week.  They posted the day they were leaving \"We are beginning a fantastic new adventure to [_____] for our 50th Wedding Anniversary.\" and since then have posted updates at different locations they have been in and how much fun they are having.\n\nMy question to you fine folks, is it my place to be upset about the lack of any public acknowledgment that this \"fantastic new adventure\" was a gift?  My husband and I didn't do it to receive accolades but it feels like a simple acknowledgment isn't too much to ask for if they are going to post about it publicly and not doing so feels like it was left out on purpose.\n\nI have a theory about why they might not be willing to post about it related to my brother but I'd prefer to get some general opinions from everyone before sharing that for fear it might taint the replies.  After the cruise my parents are coming to stay with us for a couple weeks.  I plan to ask them about why they wouldn't say anything publicly but I see no reason to bring it up now.  I was just hoping for some perspective to see if I'm being too thin skinned or out of line for expecting them to say something to their friends about this gift.", "summary": "Gifted my parents an expensive trip for their anniversary.  They are posting on social media about the trip but never acknowledged our part in it publicly.  My husband and I are bothered by this, are we being too thin skinned?"}
{"id": "t3_43a24e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Two of my friends [20 M] got into a fight and won't talk. I don't know what to do about it.", "post": "Last week I was talking to one of my buddies, let's call him Adam (20M), and of out nowhere he said some bad stuff about our other friend, let's call him Johnny (20M). Johnny wasn't there when Adam said it but when I saw Johnny I told him. Johnny got pissed at Adam (the maddest I've ever seen him) and told him off. They haven't spoken for a couple of days and I'm in the middle of it and I don't know what to do. They are both part of our big friend group so it's not gonna work out if they hate each other. Also, before I told Johnny I had no idea he would get so mad because usually he's a pretty laid back dude that can shrug things off so I kinda feel like it's sort of my fault and that I should have just talked to Adam about it. So basically I'm not sure what to do about he both of them.", "summary": "Two of my friends stopped talking and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4vwf65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am sick of my boyfriend [24] wanting me to be a perfect girlfriend", "post": "Looking for some outside perspective as I don't even know who is in the wrong here, him or I. I'm so confused and not feeling great about the relationship.\n\nWe've been together for about a year, and in the beginning of the relationship, maybe I did try a little bit harder and make more of an effort with some things because it was a new relationship and I wanted him to like me. \n\nFast foward and I still try. On a good day, he's had two blowjobs and steak and eggs before he's even gotten out of bed (not in a 50s housewife kinda way, but in a 'I love you and want to do nice things for you vibe.') On a bad day, I have avoided him most of the day, but my mental health isn't great right now and sometimes I just need space and time alone because I don't feel great and don't want it to rub off on him. I have explained this to him, but he always accuses me of neglecting him or ignoring him. \n\nThe problem is, he has started to make me feel like a 50s housewife with his attitude. He expects the blow jobs, plates of food, attending to his every need girlfriend all the time and at any chance I don't, he tries to guilt trip me and says things about how our honeymoon phase is clearly over and how he \"sees how it is now.\" These comments hurt my feelings because I feel like it's my fault, but when I communicate these feelings he just says he's \"missing how things used to be.\" I honestly don't feel things used to be significantly different and that he might just be saying this to manipulate me into say, giving him oral sex when I don't want to. Does this sound right? I don't want to hit him with claims like these because I'm not sure. \n\nI know anyone who is kind enough to comment might say he's an asshole, but do you think I actually should do something to make him feel less neglected? I try my hardest but as I said, my mental health isn't great and I'm trying to focus on myself sometimes, which does make me feel guilty but I need to do it. Thanks in advance for any input.", "summary": "My boyfriend is saying I'm neglecting the relationship whenever I don't attend to his needs and I'm stuck of resolution"}
{"id": "t3_1eughl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24M] When is it acceptable to talk to my ex [22F] again?", "post": "Its a bit more complicated than it seems.\n\nAbout a year ago, I began dating my best friend. For better or worse things didn't work out. I broke up with her about a month later because she felt more like a sister than a GF. I was not really physically attracted to her so I think that definitely has something to do with it.\n\nNow, I've been living without my best friend for year. We have had exactly zero contact since I broke up with her. The problem is I want my best friend back. Is it selfish of me to try to smooth things out with her and make an attempt at being friends again? I'm afraid she is going to say something along the lines of \"well if you cant handle me at my worst you cant have me at my best\" and just things like that. I really only want a friend and nothing more. Is this possible? She was always the one pushing for the relationship and I know she really wanted it to work out. How do I get her back as a friend and have things go back to the way they were before we got involved?", "summary": "I dated my best friend then broke up with her after a month. How do I get my best friend back? We haven't spoken in a year, do you think she is ready to move on too and be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2wjs78", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Taking an entry level job for an early-to-mid-stage tech startup that isn't offering immediate compensation... How do I make sure I'm making the right moves when negotiating a contract?", "post": "So, this is a very small tech startup (around 5 employees so far), that will probably receive more funding within the next few months through a few different means. I won't start receiving a paycheck until the company starts making enough money to justify paying me.\n\nThey're offering me a position in exchange for *either* equity in the company, which will be based on my earned \"salary\" as a proportion of the value of the company, or simply as a deferred salary that would be added onto my paycheck once I do start to make money. The equity could turn out to be pretty high as a percentage, simply based on the current (low) value of the company and the low number of partners so far.\n\nI won't try and sugarcoat it: The idea of working hard for zero pay doesn't sit well with me right away. But it is experience and I've been struggling to find an entry level job for a while, so it would inherently be a mistake to not take it. Since there's also no job security, I can't imagine there would be any significant downsides to quitting if a better (keyword: paying) opportunity comes along for me.\n\nSo, how can I make sure that I'm making a safe decision here when negotiating the contract? Obviously taking the equity option is a pretty big risk that could pay off MASSIVELY based on the amount of equity I could build up. But, I'm just worried that the wording of the contract could screw me out of a lot of money depending on what happens with the company. What if the company gets bought out before I make any money? What if I decide to leave the company before I make any money? What if the company isn't even able to raise enough money to pay me (assuming I take the deferred salary)?", "summary": "Taking a non-paying job that will eventually become a paying a job, but want to make sure I'm covering all possible bases to make sure I make a good decision."}
{"id": "t3_39hroc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "what stops a girl from going further?", "post": "Throw away because idk if the girl in question is redditor.\n\nSorry for the wall of text, most of it kinda background story and me probably venting a bit.\n\nI've been seeing this girl for a few weeks and we've steadily gone slowly on our dates. Monday was our third date and the plan was to go to my apartment and watch movies and have dinner.\n\nUp to this point we have been going strong I think and I really like her and the stuff we do, we text and snapchat all day every day. First date was dinner and walking around town (ended with a kiss and hand holding throughout the date), second date was a movie and we held hands the entire time and then drove around for like 2 hours just talking and then a quick make out sesh before leaving.\n\nFor our third date, I'll be clear, I was not expecting sex, but being the third date, I was expecting more than we did. \n\nAfter the movie, we had a bit of a makeout session and i was feeling her up but to my dismay, she did not reciprocate. She actually was more lethargic than anything but She did kept going with makeing out and I even made sure she was ok with me grabbing her the way I was, but no clothes came off. I was a little annoyed that things didn't go at least a bit further but I was still happy. We ended the night literally just cuddling in my bed and talking.\n\nTonight is our 4th date where we are actually having the same plan. I am hopeful we will do a bit more, again I dont need sex right now but I want more than what we did before.\n\nSo in regards to the situation, what stops a girl from going further? She was ok (because I asked and check) with everything we were doing but she didn't do more on her part and it felt one sided.\n\nMaybe I'm thinking about it too much? I dont want to push her into going too fast if she is not comfortable, I will respect her, however I would like to try to meet my desires.", "summary": "Going on the fourth date with a girl i've been talking to for a few weeks. Up to this point we've only made out. Our last date, we didn't go nearly as far as I would have liked. What stops a girl from going further? (Doesn't mean just sex) Is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_u3u4r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get a best friend?", "post": "Hi reddit, so I've had a best friend before, we met in elementary school and did everything together until about halfway through high school. We sat and talked for hours and watched movies and read books. We loved all the same stuff and were just inseparable .\n\nLife went on and we drifted ways in high school. I got a boyfriend and only hung out with him and we were never close again.( You know how these stories go.)\n\nI'm wondering how do I make a best friend? How do I find someone who loved movies and books and can talk for hours just like me. ( I have friends but nothing like that kind of friendship)\n\nI just want a friendship like that again..\n\nForever alone...", "summary": "had an childhood friendship that was awesome, wants to know how to get one like that."}
{"id": "t3_3gy052", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my GF [17 F] 7 months, broke up but she doesn't want anything to change", "post": "Using a throwaway just in case\n\nJust a little bit of backstory: it took forever before my girlfriend and I officially got together, with our feelings confessed months beforehand, she always refused to become official until about 6 or 7 months ago.\n\nSo recently, my girlfriend and I have had a rough patch. We've been having lots of arguments over little things. A big problem I had was with feeling unwanted because she never initiated anything or showed affection to me. Throughout all these arguments, one thing she kept repeating was that \"this is why I didn't want a relationship at first because it complicates friendships too much.\" (which ties into the difficulty of \"becoming official\" in the first place).\n\nBut tonight, as we were having yet another small dispute, she just said she wanted to be \"just friends\" in her words. I thought it would be over for a second but as she explained herself more, it turns out she still wants to keep everything the same. This includes the affection, late night chats, and physical intimacy as well.\n\nI thought she wanted just a less serious relationship but she was adamant on not calling it a \"relationship\" at all, preferring to use \"best friends.\"\n\nSo, as icing on the cake, I said I'd finally be able to change my Facebook profile picture (which is one of us together) to a different picture of myself I liked. She became sad when I said I would be changing it.\n\nAt this point, I'm more confused than anything. I don't understand what she wants or what she gets by breaking up but not changing how we interact with each other.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to break up but keep everything the same. Can someone help me understand what to make of this?"}
{"id": "t3_3auluf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Take a loan from 403b to pay off and sell car?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nMy wife and I are in the middle of a few changes financially. We are having twins this fall, so we're selling our small house and moving in with the in-laws for a while.\n\nBecause we're going from 1 kid to 3, we also recently bought a minivan and we're looking to sell our other car. It's Blue Book is about 22,500 and we owe about 12 on it, so selling it should be no problem, but I think it might turn off potential buyers to have to deal with the title transfer, especially since the credit union where I got the loan is about 45 minutes from home in a neighboring state (same metro area). We have about 16K in checking right now and COULD just pay it off, but it wouldn't leave us with much cushion in case we have to spend some cash to get our house sold. We have ~35K in my wife's 403b, so I was thinking that we could borrow the 12K to pay off the car and then, of course, repay it when the car sells. Also, we bought the minivan at the end of April and have 180 days from that sale to sell the other car and claim a sales tax rebate for the sale price of the other car (~2K) - at this point I'm a little worried that if we wait for the house to sell to fund paying off the car, we could miss that or wind up having to try and sell the car after the twins are born. Good idea/bad idea/meh?", "summary": "in midst of selling house"}
{"id": "t3_4t7j7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am anxious that my boyfriend [28M] and I aren't hitting relationship milestones.", "post": "Hello!\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for about 5-6 months now, and things are going very well! We went through a pretty rough patch for about half this time (no one's fault - stressful outside circumstances that placed strain on the relationship) but things have started to get a lot better since mid-end of June. He is back to his normal self, which is caring, affectionate, and considerate. We text more now, and we very recently had a conversation where he said sometimes he felt like he didn't know how to care for me, and that he wanted me to express my needs more so he could fulfill them. Objectively, things are wonderful. \n\nDespite this, I can't shake off some doubt he expressed about our relationship back when we were in the rough patch (where he admits he wasn't acting or feeling like himself). I'm afraid we aren't hitting any of the traditional relationship milestones (such as leaving clothes over or saying ILY or meeting family, etc.). I know he has a slow timeline (he didn't leave clothes over at his ex's place until 1.5 years in, when they were \"really serious\"), so I'm trying not to take it personally, but it feels personal. \n\nI'm not necessarily looking for something as serious as The One right now, but I also want to know that our relationship has some momentum. I am ready to at least say \"I love you,\" but I'm worried he's not. \n\nDoes anyone else have similar stories about either dealing with relationship anxiety or dating someone (or being someone) with a slow timeline?  \n\nThank you!", "summary": "Bf and I have a wonderful, happy relationship but I am afraid he will never love me because we aren't hitting relationship milestones. This is making me anxious."}
{"id": "t3_2f6yb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A guy [M/20] that I hung out with last night asked me [F/19] to dinner, how do I make my platonic intention clear?", "post": "This may seem dumb to even ask, but here goes. \n\nIf you went through my post history, you'd see that my boyfriend broke up with me about a week and a half ago. I am not in a proper mindset for casual dating yet, just minor flirting at maximum. \n\nI hung out with this guy last night at a party we both showed up to and decided to leave and go to another party at his friend's house together. Nothing happened except he was minorly flirting with me all night and walked me home, saying that we should get brunch the next day, and I tried to subtly blow it off by making a joke about how I would be too hungover for brunch. Today he texted me asking about my ankle (I had injured it at his party) and then said \"do you want to grab food tonight or no?\"\n\nI just need to make my intent clear about being just friends, but I don't want to be overly presumptuous if he is indeed not thinking anything more than us being platonic himself. He is a flirty person in general, so I don't want to misinterpret him either. I just don't want to make a fool of myself.", "summary": "guy asked me to dinner, I want to be just friends, how do I say this to him without seeming presumptuous or assuming of his intention?"}
{"id": "t3_4nt834", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] struggle with dating girls who are not ethnically Chinese/Taiwanese.", "post": "I'm half Caucasian half Chinese/Taiwanese, but identify very strongly with Asian culture/as an Asian individual. I speak fluent Chinese, have many Asian friends, etc.\n\nThroughout my life I've dated people of many different races. For example, I just got out of a relationship with a white girl, who I was dating for 2 years. The relationship was great. She was very friendly, our personalities were pretty similar, and we trusted each other very much. We were just very comfortable around each other.\n\nUnfortunately, inevitably I would get the nagging feeling in my mind that if I married this woman, I would be giving up a strong part of my identity/culture. If I had kids, they would be 3/4 white, so basically white. Most of her friends are white. I would basically be viewed as just a white guy who married a white woman.\n\nThis isn't so much that I'm an \"Asian\" guy who doesn't know how to communicate/work with people of other races. I myself am of mixed race, and I love the Caucasian part of my heritage, and it's something that is definitely a significant part of me. It's more so just that I feel not marrying an ethnic Chinese/Taiwanese would be completely changing my life and who I am as a person.\n\nSometimes I find it tough when there is a girl who is not Chinese/Taiwanese I hit it off with, but then when she wants to take it further into a relationship, I feel bad because I know inevitably I will have to break things off before marriage. IDK, fuck. It's hard for me to describe what I'm feeling. Any advice or thoughts are appreciated.", "summary": "I find it hard to date girls who aren't ethnically Chinese/Taiwanese, because I feel doing so gives away a big part of my heritage/culture and who I am as a person."}
{"id": "t3_4zo93l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24m) mother (53f) and our relationship.", "post": "Well reddit, I dont know why I'm posting but here goes. \n\nMy mother was kinda abusive I guess. Used to hit me with a stock whip, sisters gave me eating disorders (they'd tell me how disgusting I was when we ate at the table together) and my mother was just out right crazy; never a day when I was not walking on egg shells because she was angry, moody, depressed, screaming, yelling, insulting and just outright uncomfortable to be around.\n\nMy mother is entitled, she is emotional and a complete wreck. My father was never around. But when he was, they'd literally punch on. Every time. And I think I've grown up around violence to the point where I'm almost conditioned to it. \nLike I'm more ready to fight people on the street that just try to do normal stuff like hand me a pamphlet or are using their phones while walking - my mother over reacts. A lot. \nAnd I reckon I can't help but mirror her behaviour. \n\nIt drives me nuts - I blow up over stupid shit, things that aren't even a problem and it takes me a long time to calm down. \nBut I'm also distant and I can't stand being closely people ; maybe it's because of my parents, but I don't know. \n\nIs it weird or wrong that I don't feel anything for my family? Is it strange or bad that I don't feel like I love them? That I don't miss them even when I don't see them? I didn't see my mother for fifteen months until about a couple of months ago - and I literally didn't even care, I was good with it until she started crying over the phone and I just organised a date to shut her up. \n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "My mother was a lunatic when I was younger and I don't want to contact her. Just venting."}
{"id": "t3_2q1xda", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping someone steal from my workplace", "post": "As always, it wasn't today but perhaps a mere week and a half ago. I was working at the registers and as most stores do, we have our own specially designed bags with our logo and everything on it. So just context for people who didn't know this, but the reason items trigger the alarm when you leave the store with them is that they have tags on them, but for my store, just to keep it easier and save time, we don't tag some cheap items.\n\nCarrying on, I called down to the registers to help out as it was a very busy day, and a customer came to me and asked me for a bag. Assuming it was to double bag something breakable or one of us packed a bag too full and she just wanted to even the load out, I gave her one. As I was heading towards my work station from the reggies, I watched as she walked towards her son, say \"Come on, we're going now\", picked up a handful of cheap items from their box, put it in the bag, and walk out.\n\nI was just so surprised that I didn't react in time and ended up looking at her back as she left the store. I was too scared to tell my manager and ended up going back to my station but it got to me so I told my coworker who I swear probably is now judging me.", "summary": "customer asked for a bag, placed unbought items in it, walked out and I accidentally assisted in the robbery."}
{"id": "t3_lcpg9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HELP! how do I get my dog to stop chewing on all my expensive shit????", "post": "My dog is a four month old half chihuahua half wirehair terrier mix. She used to be a sweet adorable dog, housebroken, and two weeks ago she got into some sort of manic state and started chewing on everything and pooping on everything. She has ruined two laptop chargers, four cellphone chargers, a whole slew of my daughter's toys (including some toys that used to be mine when i was her age and an expensive parasol my mother bought her) and has recently started getting into my potted plants. I walk her twice a day, feed her well, and she always has water. I work from 8-3 every day but in the afternoon my daughter and I walk her and play with her. I have tried lots of things like putting \"phooey\" on my rug (which she also ruined along with my decorative couch pillows) and keeping her in a crate all day. The problem with crate training is that she cries from the moment i put her in it until the moment i take her out. \n\nIm at my wits end and sort of desperate. I can't afford to replace this stuff anymore, and if I can't find some sort of remedy soon I am going to take her to the humane society, despite the fact that both my daughter and I love our \"molly wolly.\" I just don't know what to do anymore. Please, pet owners of reddit, help a newbie out? I don't know how to make this situation a positive one. Any suggestions?", "summary": "My four month old puppy is a destructive menace. I do not what else to try, crate training was a massive fail."}
{"id": "t3_3cvn7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17F) want to ask out another 17F but I rarely see her.", "post": "So I've only seen this girl at roller derby (typical, right?) twice, but I find her really attractive. She's on a team and comes to the very occasional practice to help out us newbies.\n\nI sent her a friend request on Facebook in May after adding a couple other skaters, and she accepted. I messaged her about practice a little bit and mentioned that I wish I could improve. She said that she would help me out, but she didn't have much free time (ouch). I played it off by saying that I didn't even know if she lived near me so no worries (skaters come from about an hour drive radius, so she could be a ways away). The next day her status changed to in a relationship. QUESTION: Is she totally uninterested in me or was it just because she was about to ask another girl out?\n\nAnyways, she's back to single now (unsure of when it happened, but probably relatively recently). Her instagram status mentions that she's single with the little open lock emoji after it, so is that a sign that she's open to dating again (as in not totally bummed about it)?\n\nAs I mentioned at the beginning, I rarely see this girl. Do I have to wait until I see her again, or could I invite some derby girls (including her obviously) to go do something and hope she joins? Or is there some other tactic I could use? I just don't want to randomly message her right after she got out of a relationship, but if there's a way to make it not-creepy then I'm totally down to hear your thoughts! Thanks guys :)", "summary": "I want to ask out a girl I hardly know or see. Is there a good way to do this or am I screwed?"}
{"id": "t3_2snk3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35M]. Wife [38F] with newfound collecting hobby, worries over it.", "post": "OK, this is a bit long so let me explain. I've been married 7 years now - April 2008 was when we married. I'm from the UK.\n\nIn the past few months, my wife has taken up a new found hobby of collecting. Not much of a problem you might think.\nIt's *what* she's collecting that's the big issue. She's bought old streetlights from the city council, and they're now in our house - the garage has about 2-3 of them, and there's even 1 in our bedroom.\n\nAt first I was pleased she had a hobby; we already have a hobby we do together - dancing, I suggested it, after watching Strictly Come Dancing in 2009, she really enjoys it.\n\nHowever, I have an issue with this hobby - the amount of space it takes up and issues with dirt, dust etc.\n\nI asked her what she got out of it and she said she liked the aesthetic of the old 1980s/1990s streetlights and began telling me about what she'd bought, a column called a CU Highfield Liverpool - you'd have to look that up on Google Images since I'm not allowed to post links on here according to your rules, and how she'd acquired some Thorn Gamma 6's from the council, another type of streetlight. TBH, I had no idea until now about manufacturers of streetlighting, to me the lights were just that, streetlights.\n\nShe was saying to me about putting the CU Highfield Liverpool in our garden as an ornament, but I asked her realistically, where would we get the electricity, how would we afford it, etc. and she couldn't explain.\n\nNormally she's a girly girl, loves her shopping - and actually wears all the outfits she buys, unlike some women who shop endlessly, a stereotype I know is often mentioned in the media.\n\nI've tried to be the understanding husband here, but could do with advice on how to cope with this situation, I'm worried about where she'll fit them all, and if she'll buy more. Seeking some advice.", "summary": "Wife's newfound collection worries me."}
{"id": "t3_wn1pb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm only 15 male, depressed and horny, and in desperate need of advice. GF is also 15.", "post": "I met a perfect girl my age (15) on holidays. We only stayed together in the same hotel for 5 days but became very attached. (I am not going to say we are in love because of chance of hate saying it is only a crush). At the end of the 5 days we separated with our families to return home. The problem is that we live in different states which are a 2 hour flight apart. This travel is not possible as a 15 year old. I am unsure what to do. I already miss her so much and am becoming very sad and depressed even though I only last saw her 2 days ago.\n\nFortunately she visits her relatives in my city during each of the four school holidays.", "summary": "Attached 15 year old live in different cities but one visits other city 4 times a year."}
{"id": "t3_4v51ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 6 years, shes breaking it off tomorrow.. I don't even know how to start over", "post": "Where do I even begin?\n\nLiterally I have no idea where or how to start my life without her. We were so dependent on each other and now it's finished. \n\nI'll spare you guys the details on why its happening, and I will say its not a bad breakup. It's not mutual but we're going to continue to be friends to whatever degree seems appropriate after the breakup. To put it short, I can't be angry with her reason to break up, its kind of out of our control... That doesn't mean I'm not completely broken inside or anything though.\n\nMy question is, how do I start over? Where do I go from here? What steps should I take to rebuild my life?\n\nSome things I've been thinking I'll need to do..\n\n- Get everything of hers from my place and give it back to her. get her to do the same for me.\n- Delete everything with us in it, pictures, relationship status'... The works.\n- Call family, text friends, make a short post on social media. I don't want people to ask me how we've been when theres only me.\n\nOtherwise I'm lost... I don't think I can meet people, I don't even want to right now. I have no drive and my confidence has gone kaput.\n\nPlease, any help would be amazing right now. I really don't want to hear any criticism or hate. Thank you!", "summary": "GF is breaking off our 6 year relationship, what steps should I take to get my life back on track?"}
{"id": "t3_yy1tv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I may be the \"ugly friend\"...what should I do?", "post": "20 F here...slowly coming to a realization that's really been bothering me. I think I'm the ugly friend.\n\nI started realizing this about a year ago, when going to campus bars and parties and such. I'm literally always ignored by guys, while my one or two gorgeous friends get all the attention. I've never had a guy buy me a drink, and I can count the number of times I've hooked up with someone or had sex on one hand. \n\nI've noticed this outside of the party scene as well. Friends get honked at, whistled at, stared at. Guys readily initiate conversation with them, leaving me standing there, feeling awkward. I barely get noticed at all, even walking by myself somewhere. I feel invisible.\n\nI've started to form theories about why this is happening. Maybe it's because I'm short and petite. Or because I'm an A-cup. Maybe it's my small ass, or larger nose. It's sad, because I really put effort into looking good, and my appearance. I dress nicely, wear makeup, and go to the gym several times a week. But it doesn't seem to be doing much. \n\nI've posted to r/amiugly before, and once to r/gonewild (separate account, so don't bother checking), and responses were surprisingly good, but I almost feel like it was a bunch of people white-knighting me, because I get nowhere near that much attention in real life. My friends also don't seem to think there's a problem, but they don't exactly do the whole \"you're so pretty\" thing either...\n\nI like my personality. I'm friendly, have a great GPA, and an active social life. But I just can't seem to get on guys' radar. So, as the ugly friend, what do I do? Give up? Buy a cat? Lower my standards?", "summary": "I'm the ugly friend. Is there any hope for me in the dating game?"}
{"id": "t3_173qnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I  balance truth vs tranquility in my new marriage?", "post": "Forgive formatting and brevity, on phone. \n\nMe: 27m\nHer: 31f\nMarried: 1 year \n\nI want to say my honest opinion about a great many things, but it would inevitably lead to some degree of negative emotions. I often find it easier to hide the truth on trivial things where it seems she just wants me to say what she wants to hear. \n\nNo, you shouldn't have 2 pieces of cake. \nYes, your favorite wedges stink. \nNo, I don't like that outfit. \nYes, I think we should return that cute gift your sister bought us BECAUSE ITS BROKEN. \nNo, I don't think you're getting fat. \nYes, it might be a good idea for us to work out every now and then. \nNo, I don't say that because I think you're fat. \nYes, I'd be more attracted to you if you wore granny panties less often. \nRemember how I stopped wearing tennis shoes and baseball caps every day? How about a little reciprocity? \n\nSorry, that's probably a little bit too ranty. \n\nThanks for your help, reddit.", "summary": "how do I share my honest opinion without making her upset? "}
{"id": "t3_2f1ze0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] wants to separate from my wife of 9 years. Don't know how to even start that discussion", "post": "Hi Reddit, I am married with a 2-yr old kid. I was never truly in love with my wife and always looked at the marriage as something that needs to be done as part of being a human being. This is partly due to my Asian heritage. But now I feel that I am being dishonest to my wife as well as myself.\n\nWe are quite different people. For example, I have a totally different set of hobbies, interests, etc., and I want to do many of these activities with a companion. I want to go backpacking in Asia, want to go hiking, but my wife hates these things. Worse still, she doesn't want me to go out with anyone unless they are males. (I can't even go back to meet my parents in my home country regularly because my wife doesn't like that.) I feel that I am losing precious time and will never be able to fulfill my dreams this way.\n\nAfter thinking a lot, I have decided that I want to bring this up with my wife. The problem is that she is very suspicious of everything I do. So if I bring this up, she is likely to think that I am having an affair and that's why I want to separate. No sane discussion will happen from that point onward.\n\nJust to be sure, I am going to make the lives of my wife and my kid financially secure. That will mean I will give up on a lot of my retirement savings but that's the price I am willing to pay.\n\nI am totally clueless whether we should meet a marriage councilor for this or I should see a psychologist first. I don't know anyone who went to a marriage councilor. This is an alien situation for me. My friends who got divorced had a pretty clean-cut break up where they just walked out. I don't want to be a ruthless person like that.", "summary": "I want to separate from my wife of 9 years but don't know how to open up this discussion. Should I go through a marriage councilor? Would that help or complicate the matters?"}
{"id": "t3_1pt26e", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do you organize and store your photos?", "post": "After becoming parents six months ago, my wife and I have struggled to keep our photos of our little one organized.  We started using google drive, but it is hard to share. And I personally try to keep facebook to a minimum, but I would love to share with some close family and friends. When I share my google drive files with family most of them (grandparents) are not tech savvy enough understand the concept. I very much want to keep our photos for the long haul, I have lost so many when computers die in the past, but what good are the photos if I can't share them.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much", "summary": "Don't want to put all my daughter's photos on facebook and don't want to store them all on my local computer hard-drive. Looking for a way to keep photos organized and shared with close family only."}
{"id": "t3_2egx4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] SO [21 M]'s \"sexual bucket list\" broke my heart", "post": "We were comparing each other's sexual bucket lists today. Sharing some things we had never had the opportunity to do. To start with, my list consisted of points like blindfolding, orgasm denial... All things pretty vanilla, all things that could be carried out together. As a couple. My boyfriend (M21), however... He didn't obviously quite get what I was after. I thought hey, sharing fantasies and ideas is a great way to improve our mutual sex life. No. His 'bucket list' wish was to \"have sex with someone with big breasts\". I'm appalled. I changed the topic quickly.\n\nI'm his first, and well, I'm a skinny girl, perky B cup. We've always agreed (or so I thought...) that this relationship (of 2.5 years) could be the one that leads to marriage. Now it seems he wants to have sex with others. I'm hurt. I feel like I'm not good enough to satisfy him with my tiny boobs, and I don't really know what to believe in anymore.\n\nWhat on earth should I do? Communicate? But what? I feel childish just sulking at him, but I don't know how to handle this. I'm not ok with him having sex with others. Period. I want to cry simply because I'm not what he wants.", "summary": "SO (M21)'s biggest sexual wish is to have sex with someone with big boobs. Mine are small."}
{"id": "t3_1pfhmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird that one of our (22F, 23M) best friends is only in his mid-teens?", "post": "My  boyfriend and I have a video game stream.  A couple years ago this kid showed up to watch and soon became a regular viewer.  We soon came to consider him a good friend of ours, adding him on Skype, Facebook, Twitter, Steam, etc.  We regularly all chat together, both in text or on Skype, about any old thing - current events in our lives, games, music, movies, whatever.  He'll confide in us and ask us advice, and he's insightful and an amazingly good listener.  We'll all play multiplayer games together or even watch movies in sync on Netflix from time to time.  He met his girlfriend through our stream.  He's 15 now.\n\nIs this weird?\n\nMind you he he is one of the smartest, wittiest, most mature people I know, regardless of his age.  It doesn't feel at all like we're hanging out with a kid.  He's been homeschooled most his life and doesn't have a ton of friends his age.  He's told me I feel like a cool older sister to him.  We haven't met in person or anything and have no immediate plans to but he says he'd like to get together sometime when he's an adult (he lives in the next state over).\n\nIt doesn't feel weird to me at all but I feel like other people might find it odd.\n\nNo stupid BS \"have a seat over there\" answers, it's nothing like that and this is a serious question.", "summary": "one of our best friends is only in his mid-teens, is this bizarre?"}
{"id": "t3_1d3hgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f21] have a dilemma with two friends [f21, f20]", "post": "P, one of my best friends since 7th grade, is turning 21 over Memorial Day weekend. She asked me about a week ago if I wanted to go (implied in a group including our other friend D) on a trip for her birthday weekend. I said it sounded like a great idea and we started researching. I asked D if she wanted to go and she said it sounded like fun (some sort of halfway commitment).\n\nThen D messaged me back the next day and reminded me that we had planned to take a trip just with our boyfriends at some point during the summer. She suggested (possibly without really thinking about it) that we go the week and weekend of P's birthday because that's apparently the only week D has free this summer to go. I expressed reluctance to not go on P's trip since we started planning that first, and because it's her 21st, but D thinks that since P isn't putting enough planning into her trip, we should make our trip a priority. \n\nMy inclination is to explain the whole situation to P and agree to go on the trip with D because D can ONLY go that week, and without D going on the birthday trip, we actually cant go on that anyway. I would then make it up to P by celebrating her birthday the week after however she wants including a trip or whatever. but it looks like D won't be able to go on a weekend trip in the future either, nor does she care, about that or P's birthday. I've already expressed to D and our two boyfriends that I'd like it if we could just invite P on our beach trip, but they aren't interested in that, I guess because she'd be a fifth wheel and the boyfriends don't know P very well. \n\nI've just sent P a message saying I need to talk to her, but I'm not sure what to say.", "summary": "My friend P asked me and friend D to go on a trip for her birthday, D wants to go on another trip with just me and our boyfriends then. I technically made promises to neither but feel more obligated to go on P's trip because it's her actual birthday, and D is being inflexible and unreasonable about it.*"}
{"id": "t3_2ckixy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] hooked up with my FWB [25M] and he said I love you multiple times while we had sex and has never said it before, ever.", "post": "He lives in another city than me but visits often because his family lives in the city I live in.  Just about every time he visits we end up hooking up a couple times.  I've known him for about four years and we've hooked up about less than ten times.  Two of those years I was in a monogamous relationship with someone else.\n\nThis past weekend we hooked up after partying with friends (alcohol was involved) and he said \"I love you\" multiple times while we were having sex.  The sex was not on the intimate side, we got a bit freaky actually.  He has never told me he loves me at any point in our friendship.  I thought everyone knew that it is a cardinal rule not to say \"I love you\" to a FWB.  We've hooked up after drinking before so I don't think that's the reason.  And he's been single since I met him so it's not because he just got out of a relationship.  \n\nI'm trying to just blow it off but I'm so perplexed.  No FWB has ever told me that they love me during sex.  And I can admit that I could have more serious feelings for him if I allowed myself to.  I think that makes me so curious as well.  I wish I could just ask him but I don't want to make it weird.", "summary": "My FWB told me he loved me multiple times while we were having sex and he has never told me he loved me at any point in our relationship.  Should I just ignore it or ask him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1cyc8r", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Quite a 'shocking' tale, Pardon the pun", "post": "This happened to my stepfather when he was just a wee little guy. \n\nWhen he was in the last year of toddler's school, he had a fake watch with candy in it. Now, he freaking loved that watch.\n\nBut then, a bully in first year elementary school (toddlers school and elementary school share a playground) walked up on him and ripped it right off his arm. He cried ofcourse and asked for it back, but the bully kept it for himself.\n\nBut he kept a grudge. He kept a grudge for over four years, and then he made a little device existing from a few electric parts, a sort of taser. It worked fantastic and you could hear a buzz coming from the device when it was on. Then he sneaked up on the bully and zapped the shit out of him. \n\nEven though he never got his watch back, the satisfaction from zapping him was more than enough.", "summary": "Bully stole my stepfather's fake watch, Stepfather tases him four years later"}
{"id": "t3_gu6xi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how many honest homeless people have you met that don't ask for an inch and take a mile?", "post": "I live in Dallas and very frequently run into people down on their luck. In the past 3 weeks I've run into 5 or 6 of them. Being a young man, they seem to gravitate towards me. I try to assume the best of people and when they say \"I need money for the bus\" they mean it. However, each time I see them abusing handouts and simply unethical in their persuasiveness and speech. \n\nOn Monday I was walking to my car downtown and for two blocks a man was following me screaming after me. I got to my car, turned around and realized he was trying to get my attention, and told him I had no cash. He insisted he didn't want cash, but instead a dart pass. I said \"Ok, I can help with that\" spent 10 minutes walking with him to the dart station nearby. During this time I thought \"If I get stabbed walking with this man, or he is about to jump me, I will have been injured doing a noble and stupid thing\"\n\nWe walk up to the dart box and he says \"I really need a month one\" - I look at the screen and it was I *think* $65. I'm a broke college student working an internship and barely making ends meet. I proceeded with just buying a day pass for him for $4 and tell him I only work 20 hours a week and depend on my parents for my survival. He proceeds with looking at the ticket and saying he needed a month one.\n\nI spent a few minutes talking with him hearing about him, where he's from, etc, then say goodbye. He then asks if I could bring him money on Wednesday. I asked him if he's looked up homeless shelters, food kitchens, etc. You know - places that us Dallas citizens pay for and that churches and non-profits pay for. His response was that they taste gross. I tell him that he needs to go to them and they're healthier than any fast food he'll eat.\n\nSo, Reddit, please restore my faith in people down on their luck.", "summary": "Homeless man follows me for blocks, asks for a dart pass, tries to get me to buy a $65 one, then asks if I can give him money every week. He refuses to visit foods kitchens or other facilities that exist to help him"}
{"id": "t3_1acq6s", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Pulled over by cop for the first time ever.  Not sure how to feel.", "post": "I'm 26 years old and have had a clean driving record from the time I got my license, to now.  I was on my way to work and will not lie, I pass by a school that I disregard the \"school zone\" speed limit for.  This is mainly because it take only about 0.1 or 0.2 miles until I pass the school zone.  Once past the school zone you're allowed to resume 35-40 mph.  Obviously when you are in the school zone it's supposed to be 25 mph.  \n\nI was picked up for going 41 in a 25 zone.  There's no debating it.  I was compliant and cordial to the officer to avoid any chance of confrontation.  The end result?  A $54 dollar fine for having license plate holder that is not legal in my state.  He stressed he could have given me 6 points for speeding in a school zone though.  Told me where I could go to dispute it and that we can tell the judge how I could be possibly dangerous to the children of the school, including the judge's grandson.  \n\nPart of me wanted to argue that I was just out of the school zone.  The other part is thankful that this guy did not throw 6 points at me?  Could you guys reaffirm that I should be feeling relieved to walk out this with only a $54 fine?  Or was I wronged?  He was extremely stern and brisk in the conversation.  Guess I'm not completely used to that.", "summary": "Never gotten a single ticket in my life.  Not sure how to feel about.  Could have gotten 6 points, but got a $54 fine instead.  Questioning how I feel about this and if I got off easy."}
{"id": "t3_10su4h", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "FIXED: Reddit, I will do anything that is legal. How can I make $5,000 in the next 10 days? (x-post from /r/LPT /r/Assistance and /r/AskReddit)", "post": "**If there is a better sub that I can x-post this on, please let me know.**\n\nI am currently a financial burden on my family who has very little. \n\nI was recently in an accident that totaled my car. I bought a $900 dollar car (that was all I could afford) only to have it break down needing a new engine. I have about $400 dollars right now and I can get rides to my internship from my dad. I hate wasting his money for gas and I live at home eating my parent's food. \n\n$250 a month in loans are coming and I have a better paying job lined up that can get me out of this situation and I convinced them to give me 12 days before I start.\nTo be able to work there I'll need a reliable car and reliable computer. My parents' work schedule won't allow them to get me there on time.\n\n**Skills**\n\nI am a college graduate with a PR and Graphic Design degree. I have experience working in IT (why I love reddit) and I can teach swimming since I swam in college. I have a DLSR 5100 camera and photo/video skills. Will do any manual labor if that's what's needed. \n\n**I will work day and night. I will shovel poop. Whatever I can.** \n\nI don't think this is an unreasonable number, and if this produces any results I will post with the progress at the end of the 10 days. \n\n*Additionally, I am sure I am not alone in the post college struggles and any advice will help us all.", "summary": "I will do anything to make $5,000 in 10 days to make things better for me and my family. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ndtp4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(M)Need advice on Dating a Girl with Rheumatoid Arthritis", "post": "<h4> My Background</h4><br>\n<p>I am twenty years old I live on my own. I am currently working as a draftsman to save up money for school. I am a very open-minded individual that often feels drawn to help others with their issues. My last relationship I was cheated on and haven't even gone on a date in over a year.</p><lb>\n<h4>Our relationship<h4><br><p>I had met this girl(23) about two months ago in a very seemingly odd way over the internet. She is going to school to get her certification to work on Airplanes and lives with her parents. When we first started to get to know each other, she told me about her condition and asked me if I was judgmental. Having quite a few issues of my own, and knowing well of the dangers of autoimmune diseases (My dad has MS), I told her it didn't bother me at all because it didn't. We seem to share many of the same thoughts and experiences and things look very promising. I realized at that moment that I was going to need advice over the issue.</p><lb>\n<h4>Her Condition</h4>\n<p>She apparently used to run cross country and work as a mechanic while doctors were puzzled over her condition. This badly damaged her joints to where she has to take pain medication often, but can still function normally. She was officially diagnosed with RA a year ago. It already affects her ability to work and might even prevent her from pursuing what she loves ( working on airplanes ). She takes many different kinds of medicine to treat it although she has told me that it makes her miserable.</p><lb><h4>My Questions</h4><br><p> How can I be supportive towards her? What flare up symptoms should I look out for and how can I help her with it? How should I approach intimacy and sex? What should I say and do to make her feel as comfortable as possible? Any advice is appreciated.</p><lb><h4>", "summary": "</h4><br><p>I a male of 20 need advice on dating a girl of 23 with Rheumatoid Arthritis</p>"}
{"id": "t3_2npad6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a lesbian of they were a guy", "post": "This happened about an hour ago, also I don't post much so sorry if this story isn't up to standards. So I was at school, playing dumbsweep during break with some friends, when these 4 lesbians walk in the room. 2 of them looked like they were sisters, the other 2, I honestly couldn't tell whether they were boys or girls. I turned and whispered to my friend and asked him of they were all girls, then all of a sudden I heard one of the lesbians yell angrily, \"YES, we're all girls!!\" I was so embarrased but my friends and I couldn't stop laughing.", "summary": "Lesbians walked in the room and I asked if they were all girls, one heard and answered me."}
{"id": "t3_28eye1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by maturbating after cutting and handling hot peppers", "post": "Yesterday the supermarket near me had a big sale on hot peppers, so I bought two dozen ancho and jalape\u00f1o peppers. Today when I got home from work I figured I'd grill some chicken and roast some of the peppers to put on top and some more for omelettes and other recipes throughout the week. \n\nAfter grilling I ate, read the paper, and cleaned up  and totally forgot about handling all those hot peppers. Fast forward about 30 minutes and I find something good online, break out the lotion, and do what must be done. The whole time I feel a little warm, but don't really notice anything amiss.\n\nLiterally the moment I finish, the most excruciating pain I have ever experienced takes hold. I stumble to the shower kicking off my clothes, but the water hurts, the soap hurts, and nothing works. I spent about a half hour in there with cold water and every single soap and shampoo hoping that one of them would magically be able to remove all the pepper oil. Now I'm sitting here in my loosest pair of boxers with the fan pointed at my crotch regretting everything.", "summary": "Not even burning pepper oil can stop me from jacking off."}
{"id": "t3_1oykac", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Old people should only get respect if they have earned it, because I had to see this old cunt today...", "post": "So today I decided I'd get an early dinner from KFC, something that I don't usually have. I walked in and the first thing I see is this old coot screaming at the Muslim girl for the manager. The manager comes along and tells him to calm down, of which he goes even more apeshit, screaming at him \"I WON'T BE SERVED BY MUSLIM IMMIGRANTS!\". What. The. Fuck. The guy behind this cunt looked like he was ready to kill, and I'm surprised he didn't. The old coot took his meal and left, screaming his way out. Fuck that guy, so much. I went and apologized to the girl when it was my turn to order. \n\nI know I just said it before, but fuck that old coot.", "summary": "Racist old guy screams at young Muslim girl and manager because he had his order taken by a Muslim."}
{"id": "t3_4f8k7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (35F) am dating someone new (26M). He has body odor. How do I address it?", "post": "This is slightly NSFW. My apologies.\n\nI am recently out of a long term relationship so this is all new territory for me. I've been on three dates with Sam. We met online and we had been texting for a couple of weeks before that (scheduling issues kept us from going out). \n\nThe first time we went out I noticed that he had a little bit of body odor. He's a bigger guy and he had been playing pool with his league all day. We had a nice date where he gave me a lovely kiss goodnight. I wasn't too put off by it. For our second date he made dinner and we watched movie. No issues whatsoever. I was very happy.\n\nHowever, last night we met at a bar. Afterwards we went back to his place. We went straight to the bedroom and it was very noticeable this time. Stoner bachelor funk everywhere. We wound up spending a lot of time in the shower but it's not like I scrubbed him down. Later on I noticed that his sheets are a little rank too. I'm kind of embarrassed but I powered through anyway and wound up having a great time. But I had to shower when I got home. The smell was in my hair and my shirt. \n\nI am at a loss here. This guy is such a sweetheart. He's been single for a long time. Maybe he hasn't had anyone point it out to him? I think he probably is one of those people who needs to shower twice a day, especially since it's about to be summer here and he does martial arts training 4-6 days a week. \n\nHow should I approach this? I don't want to embarrass him. I also don't want to spend all of our time in the shower. Our poor aquifer! Now I'm starting to debate whether I ever want to invite him over to my place.", "summary": "New guy is a bit funky. How do I bring it up to ensure continued sexy times?"}
{"id": "t3_1l2z2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible for something that seems a sex based relationship to be more? (Me F[22] him M[25]", "post": "So for a while now I\u00b4ve been seeing a guy but we broke up but want eventually to hook up again later... \n\nThe main thing is that he thinks we were together thanks to sex. Now, our relationship with each other is still great. We are great friends we talk a lot to each other (most conversations go down to sex eventually but we have meaningful conversations with each other about our problems, our dreams etc...) \n\nSo I come to you all to ask for wisdom: so if he says it was only the sex, when hooking back up again how can we make it be a lot more than that? He says he will keep an open mind and will try when he is ready.", "summary": "How can a sex based relationship can become more?"}
{"id": "t3_1jhzzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] am incapable of only wanting one person, bur also have huge jealousy issues, how do I go about this?", "post": "Based on my last several relationships, I've come to realise I cant be with only one person. I constantly develop feelings for other girls in my life while taken and it always messes things up, and I realised the solution was to try having a nonexclusive relationship, like polyamor or something like that? Basically I had two girlfriends who knew about eachother and also had their own flings, and though it felt like exactly what I wanted I realised it really hurt when they slept with other people. I'm not sure what to do, i know myself enough to know one person isnt right for me, and loving others doesnt reduce my love for any current SO, but at the same time I cant handle it the other way around. Hypocritical? Yes, and id like to fix that.", "summary": "I dont see myself able to handle an exclusive relationship, couldnt handle my non exclusive girlfriends seeing other guys."}
{"id": "t3_t1gm1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question to the wise and weathered Redditors: Is financial responsibility during youth worth the sacrifice? What did you do or what would you do differently?", "post": "Explanation: I grew up in a lower middle class single-parent home. My brother pretty much raised me while my mom and grandmother worked to keep the family afloat. When school wasn't in session my brother and I would be lucky to get one meal a day. Most of the time we were left to fend for ourselves. I know how to be poor and I know how to go without and I appreciate and work for everything I have.\n\nI'm bookish, though, so I was able to breeze through school and get into a decent state school which had a bunch of incentives for accomplished students. In addition to taking money off the top of the tuition costs, I qualified for a bunch of scholarships. What those two didn't cover, I covered with student loans. I also lived off-campus in a modest apartment and worked my ass off third shift so I could pay my bills and go to school full time while incurring as little debt as possible. Now I have my Bachelor's and I'm two years out of college with only 17K debt. \n\nI just got my first credit card three months ago, which I only use for transportation-related costs like airfare and train tickets to see family. I pay it off at the end of each billing cycle. I have a budget/declining checkbook that I fashioned for myself in Excel and I budget myself strictly and toss between 150 and 200 a month into savings so I'll have a backup in case of an emergency. \n\nI go out once or twice a month with friends and drink or what have you, which is fun. I feel like, financially, I'm doing everything right but I'm not seeing any real benefit to it. Perhaps this is a \"Grass is greener\" scenario, but when I compare myself to friends and peers I see myself sacrificing a lot of opportunities for travel and frivolity for not a lot of benefit. I feel like I'm wasting my 20s being prudent while those around me are enjoying their 20s being silly... and they have more money in the bank than me.", "summary": "Grew up poor; Worked my ass off; Now financially stable and independent and wondering if I'm doing it wrong or I missed something somewhere."}
{"id": "t3_1p0kmb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Western New York - Mold/delapidated condition related desire to break lease, any advice?", "post": "So, long story here.  My family (myself, wife, and 19mo old son) live in a terrible apartment.  At the time, it was all we could afford so we signed the lease and figured we could save, and move out.  The plan at first was to move back to louisiana and buy a house, plans change.  Now we are staying in ny and can't stand this apartment any longer.  There is mold in the ceiling, the ceiling fell through last month when the upstairs neighbor flooded their bathroom.  This was fixed, in a way. they  just sort of plastered a new piece of ceiling where the hole was. There are holes in the floor of our unit where you could see through to the basement until one of the maintenance guys sprayed styrofoam expanding insulation into the holes which our son loves to attempt to rip out.  The lock on the front door of the building has been broken for ages.  keys get stuck in the lock and homeless people steal them, then proceed to sleep on the stairs. When we moved in the commercial space next door was vacant, now its a guitar repair store. (think concert volume equipment testing 8-10 hrs a day in a space that we share the entire wall of our unit with).  Needless to say this doesn't agree with a toddlers ability to sleep.  We didn't realize how poor the air quality/how bad the mold problem was until we went on vacation with our son and the chronic cough that has plagued him for a year or so cleared up within six hours.  called the local housing authority, they refused/don't provide mold or air quality tests.  Not sure what to do but simply cannot continue to live here.  Our lease doesn't expire until april and we aren't sure of the best way to get out of this.  In its current condition, no one would sub-lease.  At least no one in their right mind.  Trying to figure out the best, least expensive way to get out of here.  Money is very tight at the moment or i would simply pay the balance on the lease and call it a day.  We just don't have months of extra rent money to throw at the situation.", "summary": "We live in an awful, moldy apartment.  With Months on the lease left to finish and a young son with health issues due to the state of our apartment.  NEED HELP please if you have any ideas we would love to hear them."}
{"id": "t3_2uuych", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) boss/landlord (40+M) used me, replaced me and is ending the lease all at once.", "post": "Ok so my boss, who by chance is also my land lord is probably not the greatest person in the world. At work he routinely pays us 2 weeks to a month late, brags about where he is spending the money elsewhere and is sham contracting all of us. \n\nWhen he became my land lord I was already working for him and was looking for an apartment in the city. It's really hard to get a nice place and the rent is extremely expensive here so I was happy to move in to a gorgeous apartment. My rent has always been on time. I look after the place, pay my bills and don't complain. A great tenant. \n\nAt work I do my job and more- going out of my way to do free web design, organise promotions etc when in reality I'm just a receptionist there. In the time I have been there (9ish months) he has not done a day of work. Opting to sleep in his office instead. Even has a pillow and a tv in there. \n\nRecently he hired someone new, a friend who is recently divorced and couldn't find a job. He didn't have the available hours to give to the guy so instead he makes them - by pushing the other staff out. \nYesterday he was bragging to his friend and the manager (who is a close friend of mine) that he is going to push me out and sell the house as soon as I don't have any shifts there. My friend, concerned, relayed this onto me. \n\nThis morning he asks my availability and then rosters the new guy into all of my available shifts- obviously pushing me out. Then gets the manager to tell me I don't have those shifts but asks if I can come in just to train the new guy on the website creation etc which I had made for the business. \nI told the manager that I can't, because if I'm not on shift I'll be finding hours at my other job.  In reality I just don't want to help them at all. \n\nSo all in all I've been pushed out of my job, going to loose my house and have no idea what the hell to do. Pls help reddit.", "summary": "leapt over oceans for someone who wouldn't jump over a puddle for me and now I'm being screwed in the ass with no lube."}
{"id": "t3_3dw3ce", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [19/f] in love with my best friend [19/m]", "post": "I just finished my first year of college, and I met my best friend there. He lived across the hall from me, and I saw him pretty much every day of my life for nine months.\n\nWe were good friends first semester, then got really really close second semester. We tell each other everything. He would tell me about his family life, struggles with his ex, etc, and I would do just the same. We're entirely honest with each other, and there's this level of comfort and easiness about the relationship that makes the friendship so much different than any other friendships I've had.\n\nSo the school year ended and I live out of state, so I hadn't seen him in person since I left school. I started to notice some feelings, but I was certain that it was a misplaced sense of missing him.\n\nRecently he came to visit for the weekend, and I knew. I realized I had had feelings for him for a long time, but that I had just been ignoring and/or burying them. In the interest of honesty, I told him. He didn't say much, but it went over okay. He said it doesn't change anything, and that he's my friend, and that our relationship means a lot to him.\n\nI'm okay with being his friend, but why do I feel so horrible? What should I do? It's not like any other \"crush\" or anything, where if it doesn't work I can just stop seeing the person, because he's my best friend. He's the person I go to. He means so much to me, and I feel horrible inside.", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friend I met a year ago in college, and I told him and our friendship is completely fine, but I feel terrible."}
{"id": "t3_2zrz2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: How do you start dating a girl (19F) you haven't seen since childhood on facebook? (19M)", "post": "Link to the original post: \n\nOkay so I messaged the girl on facebook and this time I put a lot more effort into the greeting.  She responded to me back this time!  Here is the dialogue that took place, however I censored out the names:\n\n\"Hello *Her name*, not sure you remember me but we went to blank together. I was just looking up some old photos  and started laughing seeing everyone as kids.  Just wanna know what's up is all, hope you're good \"\n\n\"Hey !! *My name* of course I remember you !! I remember all my classmates !! I'm good how's everything with you ?? Lol we're all grown now \ud83d\ude0b\"\n\n\"Haha me too!  I'm good right now, just  relaxing.  But wow you look so different since we were kids.  I mean I can still recognize you, it's just you look a lot more grown now haha. You look great!\"\n\n\"So what have you been up to lately?\"\n\n\"Awe thanks .. Yea I bloomed into a beautiful rose lmao .. U were cool .. All my *blank* people I miss !!  Nothing I just been working I took some time off but I'm going back to college in the fall .. Hbu ??\"\n\n\"Haha,I'm in a similar boat.  I completed 2 semesters in college, but I'm taking a break to pursue my ambition.  I'm also currently waiting for a call back for a job.\"\n\nAnd that was the end of that conversation, I kind of felt like I messed up somewhere though cause she didn't reply after that.  I'm thinking maybe I should message her again but idk.  Any suggestions?  How do I get her to want to meet up if she's interested?  How do I even know if she's interested?", "summary": "The girl I'm interested in responded to me after I put more effort than just saying \"hey\" on facebook.  We talked for a bit but she stopped responding, I think I might not have given her anything to respond to. Should I message her again?  How do I get her to want to meet up assuming she's interested?"}
{"id": "t3_a9lhg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone give or like getting gift cards?", "post": "I've been searching for gift ideas for my niece and I'm ready to headbutt the internet in the face.  Pretty much every site/article/blog post that I've found has suggested gift cards.  They just keep suggesting the same thing; Amazon GC's, Wal-Mart GC's, Itunes, Restaurants, Bath and Body works, etc...\n\nWhat the fuck is the point of a gift card?  If I wanted to give somebody money, then I would give cash.  You can use cash anywhere, it doesn't expire, and it doesn't have a service fee.  \n\nI've had this argument with people before and the most often cited reasoning for gift cards I hear is that they \"Want the person to buy themselves a gift, they don't want them to spend it on bills or something\"  This usually leaves me speechless.  If I'm in a financial situation where I would use gift money to pay bills then you helping me with the heat and water bill is a much better gift than a $50 Itunes Gift Card ass hat.  (I can at least better understand a Wal-Mart Gift Card on this level, I need to buy food either way).  \n\nI've never given a Gift Card although I've received them in the past. Its not the fact that somebody didn't want to take the time to find/buy me a gift, its that they act like a Gift Card is more appropriate than cash.  What do you think, is a Gift Card really a \"Gift\"", "summary": "I hate gift cards, what do you think."}
{"id": "t3_350emd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/F] have a monster crush on my professor [31/F]. In dire need of some sense talked into me.", "post": "I don't identify as gay and have never had a serious crush on another girl, but I seriously can't get my professor out of my head and it's driving me nuts. Tomorrow is my last day at college and I'll be moving out of town forever on the 21st of May and I don't want it to be one of those things that haunt me forever.\n\nBut guys, this is ridiculous right? There's no chance of a 19 y/o undergrad having *any* kind of relationship with a ~30 y/o professional with a PhD, right? \n\nThis all started as just a way to entertain myself in class, but then there was some confusing eye contact and she kept saying if there's *any* way she can help me do well in her class to tell her and saying how good of a student I was. Now she looks away whenever she sees me in the hall. I don't even think she's into women, but she does support the LGBT community a lot and does some things that could be questionable. \n\nAnyway, crush my dreams into smithereens and tell me how ridiculous I am! I've *got* to stop thinking about this; it's consuming my life!", "summary": "I can't stop thinking about my professor and as my days at this college and in this town draw to a close, I'm getting some anxiety about never expressing my feelings!"}
{"id": "t3_qkl4d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Parents, do you brush your kids teeth? What foods do you allow them to enjoy?", "post": "Original article on NYTimes \n\nI registered to post this because. \n\n1. Reddit is full of young ones who will be parents someday .\n2. Reddit is full of young parents who need to be aware of this. \n3. Good parenting includes proper oral health care, and it's not the dentists' fault your kid has cavities.\n4. I'm an orthodontist and can't stand seeing kids run around sipping on things they shouldn't be... especially when it's already hard enough calming them down for a simple dental check up, let alone restorative treatment.\n\nI hope this gets front paged. I usually hate sensationalist writing, but the NY Times article actually paints a real light on the problem with kids and their diets/hygiene in America today... and their parents who encourage it.", "summary": "Preschool kids are getting fillings, pulpotomies (baby root canals), and extractions done to baby teeth in the operating room under sedation and/or general anesthesia, because parents feed crap to their kids and don't enforce proper brushing."}
{"id": "t3_3dzspm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After breaking up with my [24F] now ex BF [29M] of two years he wont talk to me. I am worried for his depression. flair:'Breakups'", "post": "We were together for two years, it was a lovely relationship where I grew and learned a lot but it ended a few weeks ago because we have been having unresolved issues and my passive-agressiveness combined with his anger management troubles made everything too complicated. We started long distance, then I moved near him, then I am back to my hometown again for work reasons. \n\nWhen we broke up, we agreed on keeping it friendly. I know he struggles with depression and he's very lonely. I love him, of course, and I didn't want to cut him off completely. We even spoke a couple times and he suggested skyping soon. I said yes, everything went well but now he stopped answering my messages. It's been only two weeks, and I don't want to seem overly attached, I don't want him to think I want him back or I am intruding, but I am honestly worried about his state. \n\nOf course, I also miss talking to him. After more than two years talking to someone daily, you can't help but feel incomplete with his absense. Sometimes, it just makes me want to cry but I know this is how things have to be. I've thought about asking one of his friends about him but I am certain they would tell him, and I am not comfortable with it, since I don't know how is he going to react. \n\nDo you think he just cut me off completely to deal with the break up? or should I be worried since he has always had trouble with depression? I am at lost, I know him well but both possibilities seem equally possible. Help.", "summary": "After breaking up, he cut all contact with me. We are still fb friends but he wont answer my messages. I don't know wheter to be concerned about this being a bout of depression or just give him time and space to deal with the situation. I am also coping with the end of the relationship and I feel extremely insecure about both options."}
{"id": "t3_4cfi6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F15] broke up with me [M15] after a year of dating and I feel empty", "post": "We've been dating for a year and it was genuinely the best year of my life. We did have some fights because I wasn't the best, but I thought I had gotten better. Apparently, she thought otherwise.\n\nWe fought last night about it, and I thought we had fixed things. She broke up with me today, saying she was unhappy and over our relationship. That was the moment I realized I need to let her go. I can't keep her in a situation where she is unhappy just because she makes me happy.\n\nSo I let her go, but even though I know it was the right choice I feel empty without her. She was my only real friend that I could go to with any issues I had. Not only did I lose my best friend, but I lost my girlfriend too. I feel lost.", "summary": "My girlfriend said she was unhappy, and I let her go because it was the right choice. I still feel empty."}
{"id": "t3_4trfh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/M] girlfriend [19/F] is expecting her parents to divorce. How can I help her?", "post": "Hi Reddit. As a lurker for a long time, I would never have thought I'd be in a complicated situation (for me, at least). Yes, there may have been posts in the past regarding this type of situation, but I really need your help.\n\nFor some background, I am here in the US while my girlfriend went back home for summer. Between her and I, everything is just peachy (been together for 1 year and 4 months!). Since we were both away from home for college, I've done my best to help her out throughout her time here. Her parents have been happy/supportive of us, and despite a language barrier between her parents and I, her parents adore me. \n\nShe is away from the US as I speak, but she tells me that her parents are always arguing and fighting. Because my girlfriend was in the US for school, she didn't have to face the full scene of having to deal with her parents. And as far as I knew, I thought they were doing fine.\n\nIt is typical that the sons/daughters of argumentative parents actually think it'd be better if they divorced. That sounds harsh in itself, but after reading posts concerning this on Reddit, I see that it is pretty common. \n\nAs someone who has never had to be scared of their parents divorcing, I'm very new to this situation and how emotions run through a difficult time. All I ask is that: if they do divorce, what can I say to my girlfriend to comfort her? Or do I just drop the subject? What are some ways to lift her spirits up at this time? \n\nI, as the boyfriend, don't want this to happen because I love her parents, but at this point I am lost at what to even say to my girl.", "summary": "My girlfriend's parents are showing signs of divorce, I need help on how to help her."}
{"id": "t3_2qpbxq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my ex [20F] 9 month relationship, 3 months on and feeling worse than ever.", "post": "Hello everyone, I have been a lurker here for a while and wanted to post my story after going through this horrible time.\n\nBackground: Met this girl around this time last year. Asked her out on New years day and was in a relationship for 9 months. Just to add this was my first real relationship and the first time I have been in love.\n\nShe went to uni in September and broke it off with me 1 week into uni. She told me her feelings changed for me a while back but she couldn't tell me in person and that I was 'not the one'. I was and still am heartbroken from it. I know I learnt many things from this relationship but I was honestly not expecting it. I honestly put everything I had into this relationship. \n\nNow to where I am now. She came back from uni for the Christmas holidays and I thought I would be ready to meet up 'just as friends'. I was wrong...We played catch up and I asked for another chance (I know I shouldn't have). She turned me down of course and this has just extended my recovery. \n\nMy problem is I am deeply unhappy with myself and my life right now. I can't help but think I wasn't good enough and that she was too good for me (really she is stunning) and she had a lot of qualities I admired.\n\nI can't stop thinking about her, it is driving me crazy. It has made me realise I am not happy with many things outside this relationship and I can honestly say I feel depressed, nothing makes me happy any more. I am a different person and I feel like I am alienating myself from my friends and family. Everything seems to be spiralling down hill and I don't know what to do. This particular time is rough because I know it was when we first started dating and we spent my best New years together last year. I can't stop comparing where I was last year to where I am now.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to ask more questions if that will help.", "summary": "First love broke up with me right as she went to uni, feeling stuck in life and has been getting worse since. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_qyfsy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Sex Kind of Sucks (No pun intended) Am I Doing it Wrong?", "post": "To start things off, this is a throw away account. \n\nLast night I lost my virginity, and it was really rather disappointing. I'm an 18 and a half year old male- and I was pretty fucking excited to FINALLY see what I had been missing out on. Once things got started though, i found it generally dissatisfying. I'm not sure if it was her, or me- but it didn't actually feel that amazing. It was a lot of work for not a lot of benefit. I also lasted for, what seems to me, a ridiculously long time, upwards of 35 minutes. It just seemed sweaty, messy, and mediocre. I mean, I would blame it on a condom- but she uses birth control so that wasn't necessary. \n\n She seemed to be really enjoying it, and even had an orgasm herself- so I'm wondering if it's just that I don't have the right mindset or what. Does anyone else find Sex to be incredibly overrated? Was this just a bad experience? Are there things that I can do to improve the experience?", "summary": "18 year old male lost virginity, mildly disappointed with sex. Is everyone else blowing it out of proportion or am I doing it wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_33qfnz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my fiance [30 M] and female friend", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have been together for about two years. His friend group is mixed male and female and he had a close female friend when I met him. I was pretty certain something had gone on in the past (they made out 5 yrs ago, slept in the same bed years ago, and he told her he didn't like her and nothing would happen) but certain he doesn't really like her - he had his chance and turned her down. He used her for a confidence boost which is shitty but I have no concerns He's going to cheat or anything. They stayed good friends after all that. \n\n She was nice to me at first but then became weird towards him, ignoring him when he spoke and bein short, just generally cold. when we got engaged everyone congratulated him except her. He was pretty sad about it since they'd been friends for a long time. The she started leaving me off group messages 'by accident.' I told him to confront her or stop making effort to talk to her - it was embarrassing watching him get ignored and he would come home mad about it and it was affecting me. He confronted her and she wanted to 'talk about it.' I said if it was me I wouldn't bother chasing her by going to meet her. She could talk via text. He didn't respond, now he thinks there's a rift in his friend circle bc they aren't speaking. He says I 'told him' not to go speak to her. I feel im getting blamed for her behavior and want to just avoid his friends group altogether bc her jealousy of me being with him obviously caused this. Now he is saying I'm making him choose between his friends and me.", "summary": "how do I handle fiances jealous friend being an attention-seeking asshole without 'telling him what to do'? Do I step back and avoid his friends altogether?"}
{"id": "t3_4ajc8f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by disabling the Internet in my town", "post": "So this happened 2 years ago. I am currently on my last year in becoming an electrician. A big part of the course is to get experience \"in the field\", you get this by tagging alongside of someone already working as an electrician for a couple of weeks every year. So on my first day I was shown a network switch during a renovation of the town hall and was told that it was a vital part to keep the internet in my town of 50 000 going. I was told NOT to go near it. I actually took a picture of it because I thought that was pretty cool (see comments). Fast forward 3 weeks to my last day. I was securing some cable to the ceiling above the switch, I did this on a ladder, on my way down I accidentally slipped on the last step and of course I land on the damn internet switch and broke it. My first reaction was; Shit. The guy I was with shouted \"WHAT THE HELL\" when he had realised what I had done (He had been working on this server room for weeks) Phones started ringing complaining about loosing internet access and it felt like the whole town was falling apart. Two more guys walk in the room and says that the next delivery on a switch like that would be on monday(It was a friday) and by this time I was really freaking out. In the end they actually managed to salvage the old wire from the older switch thus getting the internet back online. Turns I took out the internet in the schools, libraries, companies, houses etc in my town. Good thing that didn't happen on my first day.", "summary": "Managed to slip off a ladder cutting off a cable controlling my towns internet in the process"}
{"id": "t3_33qq81", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I [24/M] am dating a single mom [23/F]. I'm looking for some ideas for things to do with her and her daughter [1/F] on Mother's Day [x-post from /r/relationships].", "post": "Hi all. Pretty self explanatory, but I'll expand just a bit for clarification: I want to do something special for the two of them on Mother's Day, maybe take them somewhere or do something for them both.\n\n**Things to consider (maybe haha)**:\n\n- We've been dating for about five months now. \n\n- My girlfriend works until about 5-6 on Mother's Day, and the little one usually goes to bed around 8 (9 at the latest).\n\nWhat are some things a young mother would appreciate/want to do with her one year old on Mother's Day to make it special? Thanks all :-)", "summary": "Read the title again haha"}
{"id": "t3_4xpm4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22/F] How normal is it to be freaked out / anxious about sex?", "post": "Original post: \n\nI am still a virgin and have never come close to having sex.  I also can't decide if I will eventually want sex or not.  I feel a lot of pressure overall to have to want sex or to otherwise be have to be alone.  I've had relationships end due to sexual incompatibility.\n\nBecause of this I am extremely frustrated with myself.  I don't understand why I don't want sex because my sex drive is normal.  I know that sex is not some major magical thing.  I do experience sexual attraction.  But for some reason I have never been in a situation where I felt the desire to have sex with someone.  I am currently in a relationship and feel that if I can't \"decide\" to want it soon it will jeopardize this one as well (1 year, 27M).  Not sure how to deal with this.", "summary": "22 and still don't want sex.  Am I fucked? (lol)"}
{"id": "t3_iqqx5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm in a bit of a bind and I need a gimmick.", "post": "I'm a 21 yo street performer (busker) in a medium sized liberal city in the Southern US. Before the hive-mind starts calling me a lazy bum, I'm gonna explain my situation.\n\nI'm financially independent from my family and have been for 4-5 years now. I work two legitimate jobs and a third under-the-table photo restoration job. Yet, these aren't exactly helping me make rent, pay for food, or help with my overdue medical bill.\n\nIn the past, I've done a fair bit of street performing with my guitar. I usually make about 10 dollars for 2.5-3 hours of solid performing. The generous few who do tip complement me on my talent and perseverance. However, complements don't pay bills. Other buskers that play paint themselves silver/white and act like human statues, when they get tipped they play. If you're not familiar with the busking community, these people make bank. Easily upwards of 20-30 dollars an hour. Personally, I don't agree with or like this tactic.\n\nI'm not asking for pity, but rather some advice. So, Reddit, what can I do to improve my street performing?", "summary": "Working my ass off still doesn't pay bills. What would get you to tip a street performer?"}
{"id": "t3_zai3k", "subreddit": "self", "title": "TIFU by stepping on a scale", "post": "I have always been fat, but I didn't realize how bad it was until I saw my profile in the mirror. That was 8 weeks ago. I jumped on the scale then to get a real number instead of the one I had imagined in my head. I was a little surprised but not shocked. \n\nI didn't tell anyone what I was doing, except my husband. I cut back on my portions (weighing out 3 oz of meat, a cup of veggies, actually paying attention to the serving sizes on stuff). I dropped the diet soda, cut way (way) back on the beer, and upped my water. I started to run, ride my bicycle (with a child trailer that my 30 pound 2 year old rides in), and do various other exercises (crunches, leg lifts, yadda). \n\nAnd albeit something small, my woman's size 20 pants are getting a little big. My calves that had always been \"jiggly\" aren't so much anymore. I thought, \"Ok, time for me to see how much I have lost.\" \n\nYeah... well... I have actually gained 7 pounds. I mean, I know that if my clothes are fitting better, then something is happening. Not that I have a ton more energy now, but there is a little bit. My hip doesn't hurt nearly as much as it did 8 weeks ago. I *know* that I am helping myself by making my body healthy, and it's going to take a good while to take off the 100 pounds I need to lose.\n\nI wasn't hoping for a lot, just a few pounds. I'm not going to do it again until I have to change clothing sizes.", "summary": "Decided to make myself healthier, ended up gaining 7 pounds."}
{"id": "t3_3w7uce", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating tictacs", "post": "This happened a few hours ago.\nSome background info: I have to take an anti depressant everyday and I just got a tongue piercing so I walk around with a bottle of salt water to clean it every few hours. \nThis morning I went to my bedroom to grab my meds when I saw tictacs next to my bed. If you're human you'll know how great they are and understand how much I love them. So I walk to the kitchen to get water to take my meds and want to another tictac. I put one in my mouth only to bite down on an antidepressant- it tasted like sin covered in Hitler's shit. That was my first fuck up. My second fuck up was taking a gulp of salt water to get rid of the taste. Can barely deal with the smell of food I feel so nauseous right now.", "summary": "accidentally chewed my anti depressant instead of a tictac and then swallowed salt water"}
{"id": "t3_1t74ip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend had his friend move in 5 months ago and it's getting to be too much. What should I do?", "post": "I'm 26/f, bf & friend are both 26. We've been dating a little over 4 years and living together for 2+.\n\n5 months ago, my bf told his friend he could move in with us. The friend had just signed a lease in Colorado, so my bf says you can stay with us until you find a subleaser for your old place. \n\nI pay rent and all the bills. He can't afford to split utilities because he's still paying his Colorado rent. He's not looking for a subleaser for that place either because apparently his room mates over there are picky about who they live with.\n\nANYWAY. So it looks like he's about to stay for a year or so. This isn't OK with me. I've brought it up to my bf and he's basically said, \"What can we do? He's broke.\" My bf likes him living with is because they're in a band together and they play video games. My bf doesn't pay utilities either. \n\nI hate it though. He doesn't clean or pay bills and I'd rather just live with my bf. Ugh.\n\nI think I just had to vent. Any ideas?", "summary": "Bf brought in a \"temporary\" room mate, but it's driving me crazy and I don't know if he'll ever leave"}
{"id": "t3_1v51fk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] girlfriend [23 F] of five months lied to me about her previous sexual experiences.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for five months and things have generally been going well. When we first began dating, my girlfriend told me that she had slept with another guy \"recently\". I was okay with it since it was all in the past.\n\nWe recently got into a small argument and it came up that she had actually slept with him only a few days before we met. I was slightly more jealous but again, it all happened in the past, so I let it go.\n\nHOWEVER, after some investigation and asking her again, I discovered that she actually slept with him during the first week we met (we went on dates for a week and began officially dating the second week). I was furious. She profusely apologized and promised never to lie again. She said she lied because she was afraid I would get angry and break up with her. She also says she cut off all contact with him and never really wanted to sleep with him in the first place (since she had just met me) but he just kept insisting and they had been FWB in the past. I don't know what to think. Should I let it pass? Do I have a right to be angry?", "summary": "Girlfriend says she slept with guy before she met me. Turns out, she slept with him the first week we met. How should I react?"}
{"id": "t3_32mfsm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Owe $4k in taxes on $25k of income because an employer misrepresented me as 1099. Any way I'm not boned?", "post": "Title sums it up, crushing tax burden because of 1099 taxes. Tried as many deductions as possible but in NYC taxes are ~1/4 of every paycheck and I earned $18k there. Is there any way to ease the load and would reporting them help?\n\nOn the job: I was their only employee for months at a time, followed their schedule and used their equipment. I asked at the beginning what 1099 meant and he laughed and said it just made paperwork easier for him in the office, I was too dumb to look to deep into it.", "summary": "Signed it now sleep with it. Hire dude to do taxes for me quarterly."}
{"id": "t3_1pc1zr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [24 F] About a year, Embellished my past due to my insecurities - Come clean?", "post": "I've always struggled with weight problems and a constant hatred of my body and self-worth. I lost a ton of weight this past year, and met my girlfriend who is VERY experienced (20+ partners), I've honestly only slept with 3 people in my entire life and have had zero past relationships. When we first met, the inevitable - \"how many?\" came up. I eluded towards having sex with 6 women and also hinted at having a previous relationship... I feel weird about it and am afraid my friends will expose me in front of my girlfriend; should I just come clean about it? Or is it really not a big deal?", "summary": "My guilty conscience eats at me over something I don't feel is a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_14u6c4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [14M]have probably ''failed'' with a girl I like, need advice", "post": "So, I met this girl for the first time in August, we see each other 1-2 times per week, and we've made alot of eye contact. We are both christians (we go to the same church).\nI think she likes/liked me.\nHere's the situation:\nI wen't to a place where I knew she go to probaby everyweek. She was happy that I came there and she began talking to me.\nSome moments later she and her friends walk up to me. She asks me if the place (where we are) is okay, and I answer it in a emotionless tone and didn't make any eyecontact at all (it's because I've never left my comfort zone. I've never made any first moves with strangers EVER). She then left into another room with her friends, and I walked away. \nShe probably brang her friends so they could make an opinion of me, and frankly, this was my first impression for them. An unreachable freak, that doesn't make eyecontact, and talks in the same tone. Note that this is what I think they thought of me then... (Yep, that's me around new people!)\nI dream about her at nights (not weird for me lol)\n\nSo, do I have chances with her again? What should I do, I'm useless in these situations, and I've been kind off depressed since the moment has been bugging me in my mind.", "summary": "I probably fucked up with a girl I like, because I AM socially awkward."}
{"id": "t3_ru6uc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst thing you have ever done to a friend who is about to have sex? (A.K.A. Cock-block)", "post": "How and what was the best way you have ever cock-blocked a friend? I'll start.\n\nThe other night my friend was telling me about this girl who was coming over to his house, and I obviously knew that some sexy time might ensue. Well, he decided to tell me that things were going \"AWESOME!\", and I really wanted to cock-block him. Because she was crazy and it sounded hella funny. So I decide what I will do. I leave my house with a copy of Halo Reach, drive to a grocery store and get a box of tissues and a HUGE bottle of lotion. (The look on the cashier's face made the whole experience worth it within itself.) \n\nAnyways I leave for his house and casually sneak up to the house. Open the front door and notice the fireplace on with some jazz music on, but I knew he was most likely in his room. So, I proceed to walk up the stairs, with tissues, lotion, and Halo in my hands and I'm hearing some making out. Then I walk to the door, and before I am to the door I start saying, \"Hey derp, I got you some tissues, lotion, and this copy of Halo. I know how much you get off to Master...\" And before I finish that sentence I walk through the door with the supplies, and say \"Chief.\" In utter \"shock\" while he is about to go down on her. Let's just say there was no more sexy time for him that night, because NO ONE can explain their way out of that one.", "summary": "Cock-blocked my friend to the point where this girl will shudder at the idea of having sex with him."}
{"id": "t3_1jk3te", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not letting somebody overtake", "post": "Now this isn't a fuckup because of my initial actions but rather because it could of ended in dire consequences.\n\nSo today on my commute to work I was happily driving along in a long line of cars doing the speed limit when all of a sudden I see a troublemaker in his hatchback van speed up behind me. When people do this it's usually blatantly obvious they want to overtake you and I could see the way he was looking around that he was going to try at some point. Despite the fact we were in a long line of cars and overtaking me would literally get him in front of my bumper and no further I decided I didn't want to let him do this...\n\nAs he went for the overtake I dropped into 3rd gear and sped up, closing the gap between me and the car infront of me so he couldn't squeeze in. He just kept driving along at a level speed on the wrong side of the road until he had to drop in behind me before getting crushed by incoming traffic. I gave a little laugh.\n\nI could see in my rear view mirror that he was clearly PISSED, he was shouting, pointing and waving around, at this point I could tell he clearly hated me. It wasn't until we stopped before a roundabout that I saw him pull up his handbrake and open the door to come drag me out of the car like Niko Bellic so I locked my door and starting driving forwards at the first moment I got. I started to panic because this guy looked like one crazy motherfucker and I was sure he'd follow me to work and beat the shit out of me there with whatever tools he had in the van infront of everybody in the office. Luckily though I managed to lose him in the traffic and hopefully I never see him again!", "summary": "Almost got beaten up GTA style by some guy with road rage."}
{"id": "t3_11sytt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the grossest event you were ever involved in?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nWhen I was a young soldier, we had uniforms made of Dakron, some synthetic, shiny and non-stick fabric. This detail is important, so remember it.\n\nI also had to take a bus back to base when I returned from a home visit. This bus would be full of soldiers, all the seats and the isle were full as well. So, it's a Sunday, early morning on a bus full of soldiers all wearing this Dakron thing. \n\nI was sitting in the isle seat, when suddenly a heavy smoker cough comes up. I put my hand to my mouth and start rolling this big, thick black-green mucus from my lungs up my throat. I can feel it, it's really big, after a weekend of heavy drinking and the smoking that accompanied it. Anyway, somehow, this monster mucus escaped my mouth, which is bad, but worse, it slipped through my hand and landed on the pocket-flap of the soldier standing in the isle next to my seat.\n\njust at that moment, he decided to put his hand into his pocket to fiddle with something. A few seconds later, he took his hand out, but before I managed to recover from my embarrassment and apologize, he noticed the mucus monster, that due to the Teflon quality of the pants, immigrated to the guy's hand.  Now, I'm sitting about half a meter from the guy, and from the corner of my eye I see all the events, without looking directly so that I don't  arouse any suspicions. The guy, needing to deal with his newly found mucus, gives a couple of quick looks around, sees that no-one is watching him and his acquaintance, and with a swift move of his arm towards his face sucks the mucus monster and swallows it.\n\nAt this point, I gave up on wanting to apologize and pretended to sleep.", "summary": "accidentally fed someone a huge mucus."}
{"id": "t3_ehu58", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help me find my brother's favorite PC game from the '90s?", "post": "Lately my brother and I have been having a sort of \"nostalgia off\" on facebook by posting on each others' walls some of our earliest and fondest memories (from the early 90s). His latest post was Commander Keen. Tough one, but I think this one rabbit game I barely remember could win it. \n\nI remember that the main character is a bunny/rabbit. I've searched Google and reached the conclusion that it is not Jazz Jackrabbit, Reader Rabbit, Bucky O'Hare, Rabbit Punch, or Super Bunny. It was definitely 2D on the PC.  The rabbit was very muscular and at the time reminded me of Duke Nukem.  He may have been a mutant, or from space, that much I don't really remember. \nPlease help, I've been trying to find this game for a long time, even before this nostalgia contest started. Thank you!", "summary": "Must destroy brother in nostalgia off, in search of early 90s PC game involving muscular rabbit. "}
{"id": "t3_4urxk4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20 F] got dumped by ex [20 M] after 8 months because he's studying abroad for a year, but wants to spend the last month together?", "post": "My ex and I were each others first love and real relationship. For the past 8 months we never really fought, cared, and supported each other.\n\nMy mindset was always to have a long distance relationship, but I recently found out he did not feel the same. He broke up with me because he didn't want a LTR would have been fake and superficial. He didn't want to worry about texting someone all the time. He was also scared at the intensity of our relationship and felt that it was either we would do a LTR for a year and get married or we would break up now and experience more. He tells me he still loves me and cares about me, and we wouldn't have broken up at all if he wasn't leaving for a year.\n\nHe is leaving in one month and wants to \"have as much contact as I want\". Meaning he wants to see me but will respect my decision if I don't. Also- he's not just trying to hook up before he leaves, if all we did was talked he would be happy. I have talked to him in person post breakup and things aren't weird at all. I actually had a surprisingly good time despite all my emotions.\n\nI'm really hurt, angry, and confused but at the same time I still love him. He was my best friend. I'm currently taking summer courses for college and am away from my hometown, friends, and family. My options are to\n\nA) Make the most of this summer by spending time with someone I truly care about and makes me feel so good, but possibly make it harder for me to move on. Being with him would probably get my hopes up that we would get back together.\n\nB) Spend all my time alone and sad, but not sticking around for someone who is going to leave anyway. I could potentially save myself hurt in the long run.", "summary": "Would you spend time with someone you love, who is leaving in a month, who is cutting the relationship off as soon as he leaves, but claims to be in love with you?"}
{"id": "t3_4o2wpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [40M] son [16M] is threatening to make my step sons [16M] life a living hell at his new high school. Because my step son is\" better looking than him\"", "post": "Hi everyone so I would like to thank you all for taking the time to read this. I am about to marry this wonderful woman and gain 3 step children. Only one of them will be living with me and his name is Barry. She has two daughters twins who are away at college, they are home for the summer vacation but they live on campus. ( Barry 16M, twins 19F)\n\nWe do not currently live together as she wanted her son Barry to finish his sophomore year at his High School, which is rather far from where I live. They will move in with me towards the end of the end of the summer vacation. Barry will be attending my son Micheal Co-ed private school. I should clarify it is not a boarding school or anything it is like a regular high school except private. They will go to school in the morning and come home when they finish for the day. I had to clarify that with my partner she hates the idea of boarding school. \n\nBarry is a very handsome young man. For reasons I can only assume is jealousy this had made my son micheal hate him. Micheal is not a ugly boy, he is also handsome.  Micheal is afraid that Barry will get more attention from the girls at school then he will. \n\nMicheal has threatened to make Barry life a living hell at his new school come the fall. I have told him there will be consequences if he does anything of the sort. He said to me this morning \" You can ground me all you want, but you can't stop me from doing what I want at school\"\n\nHow do I handle my son in this situation. Nothing I do or say seems to be getting through to him", "summary": "Son is threatening to make my step sons life a living hell come the fall at his new school. ,"}
{"id": "t3_1ueaaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my \"Girlfriend\" [21F] looking for ideas for a small Christmas gift", "post": "I've gone on a few dates with this girl; she is from MN and I'm currently on winter break in WI. Though we're not exclusive yet, we definitely will be soon. We have been corresponding, but we haven't seen each other since mid-December, and won't for another week, which is why I can shop so late.\n\n--\n\nI have kicking around the idea to get her a small Christmas-type gift. I'm a terrible gift finder/buyer and I'm looking for ideas for something small/not too personal that I could get for her.  I've never really had a relationship, so I have no idea on what is appropriate to get or when the gift giving thing is o.k. with out being weird.\n\n--\n\nIn fact, would it even be appropriate/a good idea to get her something, considering we're not exactly exclusive yet? Any advice or ideas are greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Should I get my not-yet-girlfriend a Christmas gift, and if so, what?"}
{"id": "t3_13nmvp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/M] broke up with her [18/F], regretted it almost immediately, but now she doesn't want to get back together.", "post": "We dated for over 2 years, I was off in college about 4 hours away and she was still in high school but for the most part we made it work.  Over the summer i convinced myself that we weren't right for each other and that both of us could be happier with other people.  I thought there might be someone better suited for me out there, as well as better suited for her.  less than a month later, I realized how awesome she was.  i'm way more comfortable around her than anybody else.  i love her so much.  she says she still has feelings for me and that \"i'm the one she sees marrying in 10 years.\"  however, she still says that she wants to remain single and she's not ready to give me another shot.  I want to respect her decision and give her space, but I also want to show her how committed I am to our relationship.  I don't want to just give up right away on her, for fear that she may think  i'm not serious about wanting to get back together with her.  \n\nI know this may just seem like stupid teenager problems, but I very much believe that i will marry this girl if everything works out.  \nYou guys have probably seen similar posts about this before, so sorry if this is just a giant repost :/  \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!!", "summary": "dumped girl, regret it, she doesn't want to give me another shot."}
{"id": "t3_1xl7gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] live with my mother [63F], I need your help. My relationship with my mother is deteriorating.", "post": "Reddit, I need some advice. My mother and I have been really close my whole life. A couple months ago she started a long distance relationship with an old friend. He is a really cool guy and I really want this relationship to succeed for her. She was with my dad for many years and their divorce a few years ago was a long time coming. \n\nShe has invested herself entirely into this new relationship. She spends hours on the phone with him. She drops everything as soon as he calls. She revolves all of her waking hours around him and when he will be calling her. She has charged several thousand dollars on her credit card to go on trips to see him. She makes enough money to support this kind of spending but she has never wanted to charge anything before. She hates having credit card debt. \n\nMy problem with all of this is that I feel like it is not healthy for her to give up so much of her own identity. She is making the relationship her identity. We have always been very close and we are really like best friends. Ever since this relationship started I feel like I am being disrespected a lot. If we are in the middle of a conversation, which is rare these days, she will literally walk away from me in the middle of a sentence if her phone rings. She will often cancel plans with me or not do something she said she would do because he called. She is even considering leaving her very good job to go live with him on his farm. We have a lease together and I could not afford both halves of the rent.\n\nAny time I try and bring up these issues with her, she just thinks I am jealous of the time she spends with her boyfriend. I am worried that she is investing too much of herself into this relationship too early. Honestly, the worst part about all of it is that she used to be the most reliable person in my life and now I can't count on her at all. \n\nDo you think I'm overreacting and I'm not being supportive, or is she getting out of control?", "summary": "My mom got a new boyfriend. Now her whole life revolves around him. Am I justified in feeling like she's getting out of control?"}
{"id": "t3_4eky7d", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Worried about false rape accusation- Massachusetts", "post": "I am a 30 year old male in Massachusetts.\n\nMy now ex-girlfriend has been raped several times by her exes, something I fully tried to support her going through. However, a few I found out she was cheating and confronted her about it. She got really upset, tried to blame me and we ended up talking through it. Finally I said something along the lines about makeup sex to which she did not exactly say \"no\" but was definitely uncomfortable with the idea. So nothing happened (we did not have sex). The next day more cheating was revealed and we broke up (Her being very angry with me). \n\nIt was then that I realized her exes raped her right before they broke up.\n\nLater that evening she posted on her writers blog something that describes the portions of the event that she remembers. It includes phrases like \"I had 4 glasses of wine and could not consent... no, no this cannot be happening again\".... cliffhanger.\n\nThe entire idea of being falsely accused is terrifying. Now, in my defense, we did not have sex that night and I can prove it. I was wondering about the legality of my proof. I have seizures that typically strike at night and because of which I record my nighttime movements to see if I seized. I prominently provide a sticker on my door of such a camera and I do warn people verbally as well. I had previously given her warning (not that night but previously in our relationship) of the camera.\n\nThe camera does record the entire night from when we go to the bedroom and just sleep. What is the legality of such a recording? If an accusation comes how good is it as a defense?", "summary": "Girlfriend really upset after I confronted her about cheating. She has accused past exes of rape late in their relationship. She wrote a public blog about how she could not give consent on that night and she didn't want rape to happen again (and her story makes it seem like it did). I have video evidence that it did not (from the point of at least one room)."}
{"id": "t3_3863mx", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Started 2nd job as a summer intern, need help on how I will pay taxes on it", "post": "Hello everyone, \n\nI have been working as a Patient Care Assistant at a local hospital in Ohio for almost a year now. The taxes I pay for this job are in good order. I am also in school but am on my summer break. \n\nI was able to land a summer internship in which I will be paid almost $5,000 for ten weeks of work. My first day there I was asking my boss what paperwork I need to sign so I can get my paycheck in order. He tells me that instead of putting me on the payroll for only three months he will invoice the amount we agreed upon and cut me a check. \n\nI am fine with getting paid this way; I just want to be sure what kind of taxes I may be looking at so I know an approximate amount to save for tax time.\n\nBased on this information is there any advice on how to maximize my tax savings? \nCould I put it down as supplemental income?\nAre there any forms I should be asking for from my boss?\n\nThat is all the information I have at the moment. I can always update this when I get the first half of my check at the end of the month.", "summary": "I work while I am in school, got a second job as a summer intern. Will not be placed on the payroll for the 2nd job, they will just cut a check for me. "}
{"id": "t3_fyr3t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it wrong for professors to grade on handwriting?", "post": "Let me start this off by saying that [I have dysgraphia] aka, my handwriting just isn't that good and there's nothing I can do about it.\n\nIn the past I've had a few professors try to comment on my handwriting, but I've always made sure to let them know that there really is little I can do about it. \n\nUnfortunately, I told one of my professors about it recently as he was calling me out in front of the class over my bad handwriting, and he said \"Dyscrapia? What's that, something you made up? hahaha\". \n\nI mean, I tried to explain it's a real thing, blah blah blah, but that shit is pretty insensitive to call me out in front of the whole class simply because my handwriting isn't up to par, let alone the fact he told me he was going to stop collecting my work if \"You don't start writing better.\"\n\nNote, this was not an English teacher or anything of the sorts, it was an engineering class.", "summary": "My handwriting is bad, I can't do anything about it, professor is giving me shit for it, should I see student disability over this?"}
{"id": "t3_4g67ju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my SO [39 M] of 2 years, major age gap?", "post": "My SO and I have been living together for 2 years now. He is very caring and sweet. To be honest, when we're together I don't even think of our age difference.\n\nRecently I went to a work party/event and I took him with me and introduced him to my co-workers. He has a great personality and is very intelligent so I was very proud to have him by my side. The next day at work one of my friends told me how my boss was saying how \"disgusting\" (word she used according to my friend) that I was dating a guy who \"could be my father\". I was so embarrassed.\n\nI realize we have a large age difference. But there's nothing I can do about it. I only worry about our age difference because I know I won't have as much time in the future with him. \n\nI do get sick of hearing people's reactions when I tell them how old he is (usually I just hope they don't ask). They always say, \"He's twice your age???\". I feel like there's also a stereotype that because of our age gap I must be with him for money and he's with me for sex. I feel like as a couple we are not taken as seriously.\n\nWhen he takes me to work events I get so worried that I will make him look back because of my age. He does look much younger than his age but I do look very young so it's noticeable.\n\nHow should I deal with peoples' reactions when this happens? Is there something we can to not be judged as harshly? Should I just lie about his age when people ask?", "summary": "SO and I have large age gap. What should I do about peoples' reactions?"}
{"id": "t3_1idf3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19M] need some help with a girl[18F] I adore", "post": "Hey /r/relationships\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago a friend of mine introduced me to one of their friends because they believed we would be perfectly matched. After being introduced, we sat down for a good three or so hours and had a very solid conversation about a number of things without it being awkward or strange.\n\nAs we started to get to know each other more, I also started to know her friends and they told me that this girl I was interested in (Let's just call her Lucy) had previously been in a relationship with someone who had passed away whilst they were still dating (this was 9 months ago). At little uncomfortable at first, I still continued to invite Lucy out and we had already become really close and it was something I had never really felt before.\n\nSo that's a little back story. We have been seeing each other (in the literal sense, not dating) for 3 weeks now and have spoken everyday but now I am lost. I don't know how to express my interest in her very well. We have kissed several times and she stayed over the night after watching a few movies but I still get the impression from her that she isn't interested. For example, I was talking about two of my friends that recently started dating and she replied with something along the lines of *\"I'm just the single one that likes to get drunk, and thats the way I like it\"* and also *\"People really need to stop worrying about boyfriends and start to have fun\"*.\n\nShe is in her final year at school and returns back from holidays tomorrow which means I will barely be seeing her as much as I did the previous 3 weeks. So what do I do? I feel like I should atleast let her know that I really do like her, even if she doesn't like me back.", "summary": "Girl I like's ex died whilst they were still dating, confused with women in general ._."}
{"id": "t3_2a9hwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] want to end a relationship of 2 years (25F) there are no major issues but it's not going to work.", "post": "I've been in a relationship for the past two years and I just feel like it's not going to work out going forward. We spend a lot of time together and she doesn't have much of a support network outside of me and my friends and isn't an incredibly social person. \n\nThe issues in this relationship really all stem from the fact that she doesn't deal with stress very well. This was tolerable in the past but it has become abundantly clear since we've both started 9-5 jobs over the summer a lot more of it has fallen on me. It's much less noticeable during the academic year when there is only approximately 10-15 hours of class and the rest is your own time. The result of this is that she's not the same person, she's lazy, unmotivated, has no sex drive and seems unable to take care of herself. Her place has become a complete mess and she buys take out for most of her meals. \n\nIn the past month she's worked on some of this but I fear that if I stay with her through another school year things may improve for the duration of the year but ultimately we will just return to this point once the year is out and we have full-time career type jobs.\n\nAll that aside it wouldn't be a complete deal breaker but I just don't feel like we are right for eachother and her personality often feels kind of grating or abrasive towards me.\n\nIt's become clear to me that I will not be happy in the long term staying in this relationship and staying together is a mistake.  I haven't let on that I'm not happy with the current relationship because it would add to her stress and it would completely blindside her to do this with no warning.", "summary": "I'm just looking for some sort of exit strategy for a relationship that is mostly good but ultimately doomed. I could very easily be cruel  and do this with no warning but she's a nice enough person and I'd like it to be easy on both of us."}
{"id": "t3_qvfcm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What the biggest bullshit story you've ever heard?", "post": "I've got this friend who always seems to make up bullshit stories that only really ever happen in action movies... They always seem to start with \"This one time.\" and have convenient ways to cover up the lack of evidence. They always seem to involve bitch'n knife fights, baseball bats, super human ass whooping abilities, and the police.\n\nLike the one time he \"beat up a bunch of drug dealers outside the 711\" and when the police arrived there they didn't arrest him because he was apparently cleaning up the streets or some jacked off bullshit.\n\nThere's gotta be more people out there making up dribble like this.", "summary": "My friend is a douche and thinks he can convince people he lives an action movie."}
{"id": "t3_3i11wq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "my (23M) girlfriend (24f) broke up with me recently and seeking advice", "post": "Hi- First time posting\n\nSo me and my girlfriend broke up yesterday and to be honest im devastated.  We had everything there was to have in common and she was honestly my best friend.  \n\nWe would text all day and would talk on the phone at least once a day.  We talked about getting married having kids and things like that.\n\nYesterday she said she needed to pull the plug because she needs time to work on herself before she can be involved with someone else but maybe in a could of months things would be different.  To be honest I'm completly devastated and kind of shell shocked.  I have to stop myself all day from texting her.\n\nAny advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated \nthank you", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me and I'm completly devastated and looking for advice"}
{"id": "t3_3qifur", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why does everyone look down on my dreams.", "post": "I am in school right now, studying biochemical engineering and math. People often ask me what I want to do with that and I'm always embarrassed to respond. Always embarrassed because when I respond they make the same face. The same look of disgust from every person. I want to be a weapons engineer. I always thought it would be fun. Something interesting. Something cool. But everyone seems to hate me for it. \n\nThey all want to be doctors, or worse, petroleum engineers. Most just want money. There are the few who are in it to \"change the world.\" But without fail they all look at me like I'm a demon for wanting to design weapons/ weapon systems. I don't know whats wrong about it. \n\nI thought it would be cool to help military tactics out by adjusting the weapons and the situations they would be used in. I mean war will always exist as a conflict over resources. Why not have better control over situations by being able to react in better/different ways.\n\nThe more I talk to people about what I want to do, the more they look down on me. Maybe I'm just missing something. Maybe I'm broken. If I am missing something would someone kindly explain it to me.", "summary": "I want to be a weapons engineer, everyone ( even professors ) treat me like I'm a sick monster."}
{"id": "t3_4trkqm", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do you train an overly clingy/chatty cat?", "post": "I just adopted a really sweet 9 month old cat.  I was so excited about adopting her, but then I got her home and realized she's over the top talkative (and has an abrasive meow which doesn't help) and is clingy to the point that she's never more than a foot away from me.  If I'm not petting her, she's not happy.\nI had her closed in the bathroom overnight since it was her first night in my apartment, and she meowed all night long.  Ignoring her didn't help the meowing, and I'm pretty sure she never slept so I didn't sleep either.\nIf you've had an overly talkative/clingy cat before, how did you train them out of it?", "summary": "new cat is really loud and I'm drinking bucketloads of coffee to stay awake today"}
{"id": "t3_12dygr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I approach this girl I want to be with?", "post": "Here's the situation: I've only every been in one \"relationship\" with a girl, and I use quotations because it was never even a real relationship. I invested years into it, and it crashed and burned about a year ago. The problem is, ever since her, I can't approach a girl I'm attracted to and ask her out! There's this stunning girl at my school that I have a real attraction to, but I just have no idea where to start. Every idea I run through in my head just ends up with me looking stupid, and her rejecting me. My question is this:  How can I approach her, and get to know her?", "summary": "Pretty socially awkward/shy around girls, would really like some advice on how to approach an intimidatingly attractive girl."}
{"id": "t3_1077ev", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit can you help me overcome my shyness?", "post": "I recently got out of a relationship and before that one I had been in another one. So I'm finally single and I realized I have a big fucking problem. There's no other way to put this other then saying I'm a big fucking pussy. Everyday I go out I see tons of beautiful woman id love to get to know but I do absolutely nothing about it, I don't even try. Now here's where I realized I really do have a problem. I just started university and I always find cute chicks I like looking at me or checking me out but I'm way to shy to approach them and I wouldn't even know what to say, so I literally walk past opportunities everyday. So reddit, I'm asking you, what can I do to overcome my shyness and actually approach woman.", "summary": "I realized I'm a huge fucking pussy and it's stopping me from enjoying life."}
{"id": "t3_1pfu9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] may have been ambitious when I told boyfriend [26 M] that I wanted to participate in a threesome", "post": "I have always fantasized about threesomes, so when I told my boyfriend (of one year) that I wanted to do one, he was very excited. A few days ago I mentioned I really wanted to do it, to which he replied that he knew a girl that may be interested and would contact her if, and only if, I were serious. I said yes and he  messaged her and she said she would be up for having drinks with us in two weeks time.\n\nNow that I am not exactly \"turned on\" about the idea (it comes and goes) I am now absolutely uncomfortable with the idea that they are friends, have known each other for a while, and that she used to be sexually interested in him. On top of that, they had made small talk (catch up) since his proposal and I am now getting increasingly uncomfortable with not only the idea, but with him.\n\nWas it a mistake to let my boyfriend choose the girl? I am now getting angry at him for something he didn't even start, and I need help calming down about it. Can someone tell me if I am being irrational (I hope) or whether i have a reason to be worried that he is now interested in having sex with this girl regardless of threesome?", "summary": "Asked for a threesome with another girl, boyfriend contacts his female friend, and I am now angry and need to calm down"}
{"id": "t3_2rjdko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 M] self-confidence is very low after many failed relationships. Feel like something is wrong with me. Worried I won't find anyone.", "post": "I have a lot of good traits. Ironically, all my good traits are currently hurting my self-confidence, because I keep failing in relationships and don't understand what it is that I can improve.\n\nFrom the outside looking in, people assume my love life is effortless. People tell me I'm a good looking guy, I'm into a lot of hobbies (hiking, kayaking, woodworking), I'm in good shape, I have a great job that's allowed me to be financially stable, I volunteer at a retirement home, I'm not overbearing, and I'm not jealous, I try to be genuinely kind...\n\nMy friend's regularly joke that if they could transfer their \"game\" into my body and had my life that they would be killing it with the women. I know they're trying to help by telling me I have a lot to offer, but all it really makes me think is: \"If I'm so great then what the fuck is wrong with me that prevents me from getting a relationship to work?\"\n\nI've gotten to the point where I'm afraid to seek out new relationships because it hurts to be rejected. I'm always trying to improve myself, but I don't exactly what to focus on. Currently I'm just working on myself and trying to be happy, but I would also like to start pursuing dating new people.\n\nI'm 28 years old and have always dreamed of having a family, coaching my children in sports or just supporting whatever it is they want to do with their lives. I know I'm still young, but I'm starting to feel old. The only problem is that there isn't anyone in sight. I'm beginning to have doubts that it will ever happen. It bums me out. Should I try online dating or something?", "summary": "After many failed relationships, I feel like something is wrong with me. Friends telling me I'm the \"perfect guy\" only makes me feel like my personality must be terrible..."}
{"id": "t3_3cdkal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my bf [22 M] 1year. Snooped and found proof of cheating early in relationship: Do I drop it or confront.", "post": "I am a 22 year old female who has been dating someone for one year (as of this July). For the first time I snooped through his phone. He left it at my place a curiosity got the best of me. I found some proof he cheated (I consider it pretty solid?) texts from two girls from last august saying things like \" I had fun last night, I wish I could have spent the night\" and \"text me soon for our next playdate ;) \". I also found texts from an ex girlfriend from last december when he went home for Christmas saying, \"I need to see you before I leave, cutie\" followed by them setting up a time to meet up, and her sending a picture from when they were dating saying how cute they were. \n\nMy question is...these things happened 6 months and almost a year ago (he never erased texts). Do I confront him still? I went from feeling so secure in our relationship to feeling the opposite! I feel terrible for snooping, but I honestly did not think I would find anything. \n\nOn a side note, I start law school this fall in a different state. We have already decided to stay together, but with this new information I am not sure I have that trust to do something long distance. \n\nAm I overreacting??? HELP.", "summary": "snooped through boyfriends phone and found texts that point firmly to cheating both 6 months and 11 months ago. Do I confront, or let it go if I am not having trust issues."}
{"id": "t3_4jhi6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my [17 F] GF of 1.5 years broke up about 4 months ago, ready to try again. Help me out?", "post": "Hey there, let's cut right to the chase. My ex and I have been split for a few months now and I am ready to have another go at it. I am here to ask you good people your thoughts on it.\n\nI have refrained from speaking to her as long as possible and one day a few weeks back, I went to give her a few smalls things that belonged to her and was as nonchalant and friendly as possible. I also mentioned that I hoped we could go on good terms. For whatever reason, she decided that then was a good time to be rude and a tad bit pompous.\n\nI have gotten my perspective and have been taking care of myself for a good chunk of time.\n\nWhile we were dating, she often said that she couldn't be friends with an ex because she would find it awkward and the likes. \n\nShe has since texted me saying sorry about the way she acted and reaffirmed that she just didn't want to be friends ( She made the assumption that I was asking to be friends, I guess? )I'm a bit confused as to why she would even bother? \n\nAnyways, Let me know what you guys and gals think about how I should approach this, or if I shouldn't? Thanks!", "summary": "Ex and I broke up, ready to try again. kept quiet for as long as I could and when I bring stuff back to her, she decides to be rude. Says sorry by text a bit later."}
{"id": "t3_1j2t71", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "A Revenge That Was 9 Years In The Making.", "post": "My mother is a very nice person and is a person who takes an inch and gives back a mile. Now this story started in 2003 when my mother met a guy at her job as a receptionist at a auto parts provider. The man's job was to check on the parts to see if they were ready for delivery. After a few months my mom decides to move to a new city as she was transitioning to a new job as a receptionist at a condo management company. The guy decides to leave and head back to Miami to be with his family. \n\nCut to 2004 when my mother gets a call from the guy as he asks her to loan him some money. He promises that he would send her back some money so he could start his own business. In total she gives him about $8,000 so he could start it up. Within the first two months he sent money to her ranging from $50-100. After those two months he stopped paying altogether. My mother calls him again and again for about a week and he starts paying again. He stopped paying once more after a month and changed his phone number. My mother was pretty pissed as she saw that $8,000 of her money went to nothing.\n\nCut to 2012 as my mother is now a bit smarter and rarely lends anyone money and she gets a mysterious phone call. The call was from the guy who owed her the money as he is now back at the auto parts provider they had met at years ago. He tells her that his life has changed for the worse as he has been jailed a few times and gotten a woman pregnant. He tells her he has no money to afford the things he had to pay and my mother without skipping a beat says \"Now you know how i felt when you did not pay me back\". She hung up the phone and we never heard from the guy again.", "summary": "Mother loans a man money. Man ditches paying my mother and is given 8 years worth of hell for his actions."}
{"id": "t3_vx8pi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your story about being a badass/superhero/ninja? ...or all three if you prefer.", "post": "Had a shit night at work and wanted to read about how awesome people are instead of focusing on how shitty people can be to each other. \n\nWhen I was about 8 years old my brother and I were playing in our room, pretending to be cops or some crap and suddenly I heard my mom pounding her hands on the floor in the living room. Run in to find her grabbing her throat and choking (she had been eating cookies on the couch recovering from a cold). So like a badass-superhero 8 year old I performed the heimlich (sp?) maneuver and saved her life. It should be noted that my mom is a very small person, so this isnt actually as impossible as it sounds.  This skill came in handy when I finally became an ER nurse and in my first week had a very young, and not so bright, mother bring her toddler in to be seen for a head cold. She gave her kid a lifesaver which he proceeded to choke on. She comes running out of the room screaming that her kid is choking.  I ran into the room and I actually did the backslapping/chest thrust thin properly without freezing up in panic. So those are my two most badass moments. What are yours?", "summary": "people frequently choke while around me. I fix them."}
{"id": "t3_2anuqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "will my[m27] gf[f28] really grow up to look liker her mother?", "post": "i am sure you have all heard about how you should look at your gf's mom to see what she will look like in the future, but is it true?\n\nright now my gf is a little chubby not to the point of being unattractive by any means.  i find her sexy and beautiful and everything.  she used to very fat but started taking care of herself and is now super good looking.  her mother and both her older sisters, on the other hand, are HUGE, very very fat and and unattractively so.  i am just worried that she will eventually just blow up to the size of her mother or sisters.  \n\nas terrible as it sounds, i broke up with my last gf because she got very fat herself to the point of being unattractive and unhealthy.  that wasn't the only reason, but it was one of them.  besides becoming unattractive, it turned me off because it showed lack of self control and the inability to do what needed to be done.  but i digress.  \n\ndo you have a personal story to prove or disprove this?  thanks for any help.", "summary": "my gf is a little chubby, but it doesn't bother me, i find her very very attractive.  her mother and older sisters are very very fat.  should i worry about my gf looking like her mother when she gets older?"}
{"id": "t3_10z7vz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I (25M) broach the subject of her (26) possibly being a virgin before I continue?", "post": "We met at a mixer for people within our respective field, not a whole lot of talking went down before I, in my cocky drunk state, had started a steamy make out session with her. I noticed she was a bad kisser, but I still had fun because we were in an atrium where we could easily be seen, it was a stranger, and it was a fairly aggressive make out (up against a wall, on the lawn furniture, on the ground...) so I kinda just pushed aside the idea that she wasn't a good kisser. She had to leave on externship for two weeks, then returned and we set up a date. Now this time I've only had 1 drink when we start making out, and I really realize how bad it is. Between how she kissed, and how she pumped the brakes at her shirt coming anywhere above the bra line, nervous laughter, and just shyness during the whole situation, I'm wondering if she might be a virgin. I'm not saying I've got the sexual prowess of a god or anything and can immediately tell, but it was just very odd... I've also been told by some of her classmates that she is not a party girl at all, that they've maybe seen her out drinking a handful times over a few years, one of which being the night we met. If she is a virgin, I have no problem with that, but to be honest I'd like to know what I might be getting myself in to. She seemed to really enjoy herself, and said so much in a text the next day, but I don't want to keep dry humping until my dick breaks (I've had blood in my semen because of this, scary,) and I would have a much better idea of how to approach the situation. Would it be rude to ask?", "summary": "Seems very inexperienced (even at kissing), should I ask before I continue?"}
{"id": "t3_3j6fem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my [22 M] boyfriend of 1 year, he couldn't get me from the airport", "post": "Hi, I'll try and make this as short as possible.\n\nI've been dating my boyfriend for about a year, and we're now doing long distance since he is going to school in New Jersey, and I live in Hawaii. He really wanted me to come to visit him for his birthday (It was during the middle of the work month-no holidays, or anything so I had to take off time from work and spent $600 on the flight over there. I know his birthday is really important to him so I decided it was worth it, also knowing I wouldn't see my family for Thanksgiving because it costs a lot for me to fly there & back) \n\nHe originally told me that he would find someone to pick me up from the airport (maybe his roommate), but when I got there he told me his roommate couldn't do it and I'd have to take a cab. It was really frustrating trying to find a cab that late at night, after I was exhausted for a 15 hour flight, because the town he lives in is very small and a little rural. I finally found a cab much later to get to his place. My boyfriend offered little solutions, and I was annoyed right from the get go. \n\nAm I right to be annoyed? I was thinking that for all I went through just to come see him, he would at least come to the airport so we could go down together or find me a ride or something?", "summary": "boyfriend didn't seem to care how I got from the airport to visit him"}
{"id": "t3_4rlzwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] Have been crushing on my friend [20 F] for 8 months, she knows and accepts it.", "post": "I am in college and met a girl in one of my classes. it was an instant connection and we started talking outside of class through facebook after about a month. \n\n     so when I friended her on FB it said she had a boyfriend and I was unhappy but decided we could still be friends. she and I talked on facebook daily, to the point that I couldn't even put my phone down even when I slept.\n\n     after about 2 months of messaging she brings up her bf and from then on started complaining about him. I gave her advice when she needed it and just listened the other times. \n\n     well, it turns out that she knew I liked since before we started messaging and brought it up one night. so I spilled the beans and told her how I felt. she gave the usual speech about how she's in a relationship and that she didn't feel the same. \n\n     so fast forward to a week ago, her bf broke up with her and she turned to me for comfort. I, of course, helped her through it. the problem is that I find myself really loving this girl and the last 2 days she's been very flirty but I don't wanna take advantage of her.", "summary": "I really like this girl but she just got out of a relationship and has previously stated she doesn't like me but is now acting like she does. any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_53rwbb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Does this girl I lifeguard with like me? 16M", "post": "I lifeguard as a job and recently developed a crush on this girl at work. I can't tell if she likes me though and I don't want to make work awkward if she doesn't and I ask her out. A summary of our relationship is the when I first got there I actively avoided her because I was awkward and had no friends that I worked with but now I know everyone and am considered the funny guy there. I have an ongoing joke about an obscure animal going on at work and she always laughs really hard when I bring it up to anyone even after she has heard the joke like 20 times. She also somehow knew about the joke before I old her because she brought it up to me after I told her the joke so I guess people were talking about me outside of work. Also we had to do a CPR practice and me and her got paired up and she kept whispering all the stuff I had tot do to get all of my points to me and at the ens said to our manager testing us \"I like my caregiver (referring to me) I think he did a great job.\" and then joked around about someone else we audited with when we were walking out. She also offered me a ride home a couple of times because I don't have my car right now. I am not worried about being allowed to date someone I work with because there are already 2 people dating my age there that are dating. So basically I am wondering if he likes me and if so how can I ask her out without being awkward. Also it's my birthday when I next work with her should I mention we should do something or what?", "summary": "Does this girl like me and how should I ask her out"}
{"id": "t3_1x9f91", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [22/f] refuses to eat vegetables and fruit! I [23/m] have tried everything and don't know what to do! Please help!", "post": "I love her. I do. But her diet is killing me. She has the appetite of a four year old and simply won't eat anything that isn't meat, potatoes, salty, or sweet. She has an almost complete aversion to all vegetables and fruits, that is, unless the fruits are blended into a smoothie. Few vegetables pass as acceptable, she doesn't like most of them raw (because they don't taste \"good\") and then she won't eat any cooked because the texture is bad. In the past year she has started eating her burgers with onions. She takes most of the onions off the burger and thinks of it as a major step forward. \"Baby steps\" she tells me. More like \"bullshit steps.\"\n\nWhenever I bring up the fact that she needs to start actively changing her poor diet we get into huge arguments. It's something that she \"struggles with\" and is something that I \"just can't understand.\" She hasn't started to get enormous yet, but her complexion and energy levels tells the tale. She doesn't gorge herself, but a poor diet is a poor diet is a poor diet! I keep trying to motivate her, but it doesn't help at all! She is simply too stubborn and won't budge.\n\nWe've been living together for a year and I do most of the cooking. Because I have to cook stuff that she'll eat (because I love her) I have started to put on pounds. It's frustrating. If I just stop cooking for her she'll just eat the things she likes. And if I keep cooking for her then I will keep gaining weight.\n\nNot sure what to do here. I feel like I've tried everything. I just want us both to start living happier and healthier lives together.", "summary": "My girlfriend is the most picky eater on the planet and won't eat fruit and vegetables. I do most of the cooking and appealing to her diet has started to make me put on pounds. How do I make her have a come to Jesus with her diet?"}
{"id": "t3_nezkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do if my parents income screws me over on my FASFA?", "post": "I am 22 and my parents income is still counted against me for financial aide.  I am fully responsible for myself financially.  I do not live at home and buy all my shit. This year my parents income combined is going to be close to 200k.  I am pretty much screwed for financial aid.  That being said, I am one of six kids.  My older brother is 24 so he now gets aid, and my younger sister is married and has a kid so she is off the hook as well.  \n\nBecause of there being only 4 of us now, my expected family contribution rose quite a bit last year.  I can only imagine with my parents increased income what will happen.  The only way I was able to pay for school was begging my parents to co-sign on my loans.  I have good credit, but not enough history to get my own loans.  \n\nI have been spending most of my winter break so far applying for scholarships for my senior year that starts in June.  It is a full year of an unpaid externship at a public hospital.  I work 40 hour weeks and pay 15 credits in tuition a term. Most of these scholarships are awarded on terms of financial need.  And since I don't have that on paper, it pretty much seems impossible to get any help. \n\nAny advice reddit?", "summary": "Being a upper middle class white girl with stingy parents makes paying for college shitty, what to do ?"}
{"id": "t3_2450vh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it me M[23] or do I have poor friend choices?", "post": "So basically I have always had a hard time making friends/ used to not care much as I was rather withdrawn and shy, lately I've been wanting friends though.  \n  \nI made one friend who is also gay but like todrink and party which are all just not my kind of things as I'm still kinda shy and also don't drink. He however seems to get mad over the simplest thing and then doesn't answer my phone calls. Simple things such as my being cluelessly tactless and asking questions such as why are you still single.   \n\nThe other friend says I'm a bit embarrassing with how tactless I am in that people know exactly what I'm trying to ask as I'm usually straight to the point. He completely blocked me and won't respond at all. He is holding a grudge because I messaged a girl he was infatuated with who he'd never spoken to and had only seen her profile online (dating site) and had yet to message. He says he's mad that I didn't properly apologize even though I said sorry. He had demanded that I block her and never speak to her again and started going on about lost chances etc... I however think there was never a chance and merely wanted to introduce him to her. I tried to fix things but he was arguing with me and I stated that when he gets a girl friend she may make mistakes and unknowingly betray his trust and that he would need to try and understand her better and let it go instead of shunning her, I was immediately blocked and we haven't spoken since.   \n  \nThere is a lot missing here but I know I can be tactless and am working on that. I can also be annoying at times, I have very few friends but the other few aren't really close.  \n  \nI feel like they are being immature but I can't be sure what exactly the issue is, who holds  a grudge for over a month only to hold anothet.", "summary": "am a picking bad friends or am I the problem and how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_wtwbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found my boyfriends porn stash... on my computer. What, wait what??", "post": "I am going through my computer today to try and delete some extra files so I have more space on my HD. Just trying to get rid of unnecessary shit. I go to my trash bin to empty it and do a quick glance through just to make sure I'm not deleting anything important. I find a folder I don't recognize and go into it. It's several porn films of the same woman. I previously asked on Reddit about my boyfriend's porn watching habits and whether or not they had to do with anything lacking in our sex life. Most replied that it isn't a big deal and a few said there's really only cause for worry if he seems to have a \"type\" in porn or be really into one woman who doesn't look anything like me. Well. This woman bears no resemblance to me whatsoever, different race, different build, hair color, breast size, everything. I don't really know what to do about this. I wish I hadn't seen this but what I REALLY don't understand is why this is on MY computer!\n\nWhat do I do? Do I just try to forget this? My boyfriend is showering right now (we live together) and I don't have a lot of time to figure out how to react (or not react).", "summary": "previously have had issues with boyfriend watching porn, today found a bunch of videos of the same porn actress on my computer. Otherwise pretty good relationship, with some bedroom issues. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_495woz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I've never screwed up like this before. I could use some advise.", "post": "We started as friends and then something clicked. I'd never liked someone this much. He seemed perfect in every way. It was confusing and scary and exhilarating. I was head over heels for him and ready to make a move, when I learned he was in a relationship. It was long distance and he was never very public about it but I respected that. A few months went by and I was moving on. Someone loved him, he seemed happy and I didn't want to jeopardize that. \n\nI had a squeaky clean reputation. I was the one everyone called the \"good kid.\" Never drank, never swore, never kissed someone. I liked it that way.\n\nI was at a party at his place when I became uncharacteristically tired (turns out I was getting a nasty cold.) Couch space was limited so he let me lean on him. As the night went on it turned into cuddling. Everyone else saw it as innocent but something was different. As the minutes went by we were closer and closer to one another. He had been drinking and it was getting late. My friends told me I shouldn't drive home. It was snowy and they had never seen me so tired. He brought me upstairs, offered me clothes and told me I should stay the night. Even in my stupor, I felt like it was a bad idea but he was respectful and we trusted each other.  \n\nWe laid down in his bed. He held me tight and we stayed there for a long time. I had never felt so safe and excited and happy. He kissed me and I kissed him back. Things began to get heated. I knew it was bad, but it felt like I couldn't speak. We stopped and instantly knew what we had done. \n\nWe haven't told anyone. We talked it out and admitted our guilt. I told him that I had been into him for a long time. He understood and apologized profusely. He told me that he was planning on marrying his girlfriend and he has never done something like this. \n\nI hate that I can't stop thinking about him. I hate that I love someone who cheated. I hate that he hasn't told his SO. I can't believe I screwed up like this.", "summary": "My first kiss was with my first crush, while he had a girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_3g6i97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] started dating my best friend [20 F] 10 months ago and I want to go back to our friendship before we started dating. Is it possible?", "post": "Before we started dating, I knew the consequences of dating someone in my close friend group. I thought our relationship was different, but after 10 months of a mostly happy relationship, I don't think I can do it anymore. \n\nIn many ways I still love her, I just don't like the idea of being in a relationship anymore. She is a very attached person and even though we're only sophomores in college, we spend more time together than most married couples and sleep together every night. I guess spending so much constant time with her has burned me out. I try to tell her I need more space often, but it always results in her breaking down in tears because of it. I still feel the problems even when we're apart from each other for long periods of time, however, so I know my feelings must go beyond simply spending less time a day with her. \n\n She feels vulnerable because she thinks I don't love her as much as she loves me, and it really bothers me that my form of love isn't good enough for her. On top of this, we've never really fought often before but in the past month or so, I learned what \"good days\" and \"bad days\" were for relationships. This is my first real relationship and I don't know what to do besides just tell her exactly how I feel. We have the same friend group and I'd love to be able to keep our friends together because we're both overall level-headed people that want to keep normalcy and won't let personal grudges ruin anything. \n\nI obviously don't know for sure, but I could picture myself marrying this woman. I just don't think I'm mature or dedicated enough to keep a relationship this close and maintain it my whole life. In some ways I want to stop now so I can have her later if that makes sense. \n\nWhat should I do? Who should I talk to? How do I not hurt her feelings in the process?", "summary": "Girlfiend and bestfriend is too attached. Want to stop the sex and fighting."}
{"id": "t3_33uh8w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sexting my wife", "post": "My SO and I know the value of keeping the fire simmering, so we often send racy messages to one another. Sunday, I woke up with a huge erection, and - being the gentleman I am - sent her a pic so I could share the fun. She came in and we had some fun, included a little kinky play. Later that day, I asked (again via text) if she \"wanted my cock back in her ass?\"\n\nThe next day, we were working in the yard and my daughter was looking for a friend's number. When she asked me where it was, she said \"I am never looking at your phone again\". We are pretty open about sex, but there are no secrets now.", "summary": "text dick pic to SO, found by daughter, dinner will never be the same."}
{"id": "t3_407jy8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] feel like I'm emotionally cheating on my boyfriend [22m] with my best friend [26m]", "post": "It's complicated doesn't even begin to cover it. So I apologize now for the wall of text. Names are changed obviously.\n\nTo give a little background. My best friend (John) and I used to be FWB. It was perfect for the both of us and didn't cause any issues with our friendship shockingly. We became closer and we now talk about everything. The reason we never dated was because of my job and because of it I am away from home frequently and for long periods of time and that was something that was a deal breaker for the both of us.\n\nI started dating my boyfriend (Ricky) a few months ago. We are coworkers so that made the relationship easy to have and has caused us to move much faster then expected. We basically live together.\n\nI've told Ricky about John, and I've been honest about everything. \n\nWhen Ricky and I first started dating I wasn't really ready for the relationship, but I wanted keep dating him so i decided to go with it anyways. Ricky is a nice guy who I'm afraid of hurting. My biggest complaint about our relationship is that he complains a lot, about everything, every single day. Our sex hasn't been that great lately either and I'm sure it's my confusion. I feel like I should be in love with him by now and I'm just not. I don't want to end with him because I care about him and with work it would make things complicated.\n\nI still talk to John on a frequent basis. If something happens he is the person I want to tell about it, but he is my best friend. John has jokingly asked me to marry him many times, but that was all before I started dating Ricky. \n\nI don't really know who of my friends to ask about this, which is why I'm looking for an opinion here. I'm asking for no judgement.", "summary": "my sex life is boring with my boyfriend and I miss my best friend/former FWB. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3xkba9", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Crate-training for daytime?", "post": "Hello! My family adopted a 4-month-old Lab/Newfie mix last week from a Colorado rescue group. She's a joy and a sweetheart, and our other dog (Lab mix, age 2) seems to have bonded with her little sister. Maisie already knows some basic commands and has the prettiest \"sit\" you've ever seen, but she needs a little work, and right now the biggest issue is crate-training.\n\nBoth dogs sleep in my parents' bedroom in their separate crates. With few exceptions, Maisie has slept/kept quiet through the night in her crate, which is great! However, she really does NOT like being put in her crate during the day, especially when she can hear that people are in the house. I haven't tested this theory, but I'm guessing she'd be OK in the crate during the day if someone was, say, napping in the same room. She just hates to be alone.\n\nWe don't intend to crate her much during the day or leave her alone for long. Once she's fully trained and trustworthy, she'll have the run of the house with our other dog even when nobody is home (which will be rare, as there are three of us and we all have different work schedules). We also want to be as certain as possible that both dogs get along and that they definitely won't hurt each other if left in the house unsupervised. Everything looks fine so far, but I think it's too soon to be sure, and better safe than sorry.", "summary": "there will be times when she needs to \"kennel up\" for perhaps an hour or so, and it seems like a good habit to get her into. She doesn't try to get out of the crate during the day, but she whines, cries and barks. We've been careful not to let her out when she's doing that and to make her be quiet for a minute or two before opening the door to let her out. "}
{"id": "t3_yyc8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 31 year old guy in love with a 20 year old girl on the other side of the ocean. Anyone have any tips to make something like this work?", "post": "I met a beautiful 20 year old girl from Spain earlier this year. Haven't felt as intensly connected to another person for 10 years. She's fun, very down to earth and pretty low maintenance. I've slept with between 30-40 girls total and had 4 long term relationships over a year. This girl effects me in ways I've forgotten existed.\n\nOn the negative side of things, she's 11 years younger and immature in a few regards. Drinks more than I do and needs attention from other people to make her feel sexy/special/important/center of attention. Not good with money and doesn't have a stable job.\n\nI've been with her for 6 months now and I'm starting to have a hard time with the distance thing. I haven't been with her in 5 weeks and it's starting to feel too distant. I know she cheated on other boyfriends and I've cheated on exes too, but I'm wanting to do this right.\n\nAnyway, going for months without seeing each other is hard. I guess my question is this:\n\nHas anybody found themselves in a situation like this and made it work? Either with a age-gap like that or a loooong distance relationship like US/Spain?", "summary": "I'm in love with a younger girl but she lives in another country (and is really young and kind of an attention whore) What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_493g6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my sociopath [26M] ex of 1yr, after breaking up with me 6 months ago, he sends me a FB friend request, why?", "post": "If you guys are interested, you can look at my history for details on the cruel way my ex broke up with me. After he ended things with me, I told him never to contact me again and it's been 6 months since I've heard from him (tho he did send a text congratulating me for getting into med school). \n\nAnyway, after the devastation and heartbreak he inflicted upon me, I'm finally happy again. I'm tempted to accept his friend request just so he can see how awesome my life is now. But at the same time I don't want that toxic excuse of a human back in my life. I don't really care anymore, but I do know through mutual friends, he's dating a trashy whore and he's about to be fired at work for sexual harrassment. \n\nI'm just curious as hell, after pushing so hard to break up with me (played breakup songs during our last road trip, called me pathetic, said I was holding him back from other women) why in god's name would he friend me? I don't understand this one bit and would really love to. He made a point to say I don't exist to him anymore and treated me like less than garbage. And, do I do it?", "summary": "piece of shit ex friends me on FB, why!??!?!"}
{"id": "t3_4lr436", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[39F] Not sure how to celebrate my 40th at end of January when everyone is all Christmassed out", "post": "So it's my 40th next year (2017) and I'd like to have a party BUT my birthday falls at the end of January when everyone is still suffering post-Christmas blowout. So do I plan something low key or something crazy to keep the Christmas spirit going? \n\nOr do I ditch the party idea and go away somewhere with my husband (38) and daughter (4) for the weekend? My daughter will be at school then so will be restricted to weekend only. Also, don't have family living locally so no one available to babysit overnight.\n\nFinal thought/worry re: party - people are so flaky these days. Well,maybe that's a bit harsh, but even trying to organise a coffee with just one other person is a nightmare! Should I send \"save the date\" type things soon/now so I get an idea of numbers? Or is that too desperate?", "summary": "Is end January too soon after Christmas to have a big party?"}
{"id": "t3_2zeh43", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My girlfriend (F/20) can only achieve orgasm through clit stimulation, what do ?", "post": "I've started dating a girl who has apparently never ever had any orgasm through classic penetration, only clitoral stimulation will do.\n\nSomehow, when she's on top, she can just rub herself against me whilst I'm inside her and achieve orgasm, but it's not from me being inside, so she says. \nI can also achieve the same result if being fast enough during missionary and putting enough pressure on her clitoris.\n\nNow I've set on a quest to get her to reach that point as I'm sure it's possible and there cannot be such a thing as a girl who cannot achieve vaginal orgasm. So, i've been googling on the subject and reading all sorts of stuff about how the G spot doesn't exist and there is no such thing as vaginal orgasms, and now I'm just sitting here in front of my screen thinking \" well then, what is going on here ? \"\n\nPlease do give me any feedback, advice or personal experience on the matter?", "summary": "My new girlfriend says she cannot/has never achieve/d vaginal orgasm and I would like to help her get there, any advice ? :)"}
{"id": "t3_2xl42y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "36m dating 35f workaholic...how much is too much?", "post": "I (36m) am attracted to smart, independent, successful women. I am also smart and hard working and dedicated to my work.  I love and respect that my gf has such passion and dedication to her work, but how much is too much?  I only see her for 15 minutes at home at night before she passes out, sometimes for weeks on end.  The odd day, maybe once every two or three weeks, that she actually takes 4 or 5 hours off and spends some time with me, she's constantly texting or taking calls from her co-workers.  We do manage to eat dinner together about once a week. maybe once every 1.5-2 months, we'll have a weekend together.  But it's just not enough for me. I dont want to spend my life \"being with\" someone I only see an hour a week for years on end. Am I being unrealistic? I know women who are just as busy, if not MORE busy than my gf, and they have successful marriages.  Am I wrong in assuming that they make more time for their husbands than my gf makes for me? or are their husbands just ok with having a partner they never see? this is the second relationship I've had like this (the last one was 3 or 4 years ago), the last one ended up not making it because of this. The woman I was dating is now very successful and very single. \n\nAnd no, before anyone asks, she's not dating someone else on the side, and yes I am sure.", "summary": "my gf works too fucking much and I never see her and she swears it will change but never does. am I being unreasonable or is she?"}
{"id": "t3_25tav5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] having troubles with myself and my pride.", "post": "(yes, you may call me a d-bag)\nThis is basically a \"the one you want, or the one you need\" situation.\n\nso basically I like two girls.\n\nThe other one, is pretty. She's the one I want cause I want my parents to be proud of me for having such a good taste. (its an ego thing)\n\nand the other one. Eh, not really. But she's the one who I can be myself with. Problem is, my pride/ego always gets in the way. I cant go for her because I know that my family will judge me because of her physical appearance.", "summary": "cant choose between the pretty [want] and the ugly [need]"}
{"id": "t3_2fgzp2", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I'm very nervous about something and need help", "post": "Monday I had an interview with a company who shall remain nameless. They spent a lot of time with me, and it seemed to go great. I met with 5 people total, and they were all very nice. I had two interviews. It was definitely the best job I applied to. I have lousy work history (only fast food places...), and I just graduated college. I've never had a real job. I can't explain it but after the second interview I just \"knew\" I would get a call from them.\n\nAll the other jobs I interviewed for have been [almost] minimum wage junk jobs. This is a full time job with benefits and paid holidays. The pay is very good for a first job. It feels too good to be true. I've been searching for almost 3 months with no luck at all. I got offered this job out of nowhere, and I'm terrified!\n\nI talked to an HR person on the phone, and they emailed me an offer. I said I wanted a bit of time to look over everything and read through the material. I said I would call back ASAP. \n\nI'm supposed to start next week if I accept the offer. I just graduated school. I've never had a real job. Working full time sounds HORRIFYING and I'm really worried. I know I should be overjoyed, and I am, but I'm also very nervous. I'm used to sitting around all day doing absolutely nothing, so I have no clue if I'll be able to adapt to a regular adult work life.\n\nI would like some people to tell me how lucky I am, yell at me, tell me I'm stupid for feeling this way, etc.", "summary": "I just got offered a great job, but I'm a sissy"}
{"id": "t3_2zbmyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he [34M] in looking for FWB or something more?Me [31 F]", "post": "Met guy [34M] off OKC, been seeing him on-and-off for 1 month now. A typical date is meeting each other for dinner, having conversation, and then going back to someones place/watching tv and hooking up. Hes never suggested doing activities in the daytime, but he texts me on a daily basis to say hi/small talk. At the same time, he continues to actively check his online dating profile.\n\nWhat gives? Is this what FWBs do? I haven't suggested wanting more out of the relationship because I don't know if we're completely compatible, but I'm confused as to what he wants. Its not quite a relationship, but not quite a FWB?", "summary": "Guy texts daily to say hi, but doesn't put effort into cultivating a real relationship. At same time wants hookup and checks his online dating profile."}
{"id": "t3_4yjj05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex is manipulating me", "post": "So me (27f) and oh (25m) broke up about 7 months ago and have a 3yr old son.\n\nHe has been pretty horrible since we broke up, he is constantly trying to sleep with me and use me to listen to all his problems. I just want to have a civil relationship for our son.\n\nHe has always had quite a temper and will blow up at me over everything. The thing that's really getting me at the minute is if I don't have this weird relationship with him or if I don't do what he wants or bring up something like when he is going to start paying child maintenance he will start shouting and swearing at me and threaten to not see our son again. He will be horrendous for a while, calling me all sorts of things until he finally leaves and then will phone apologising/crying.\n\nHe knows I want our son to have a relationship with his dad so I always relent and let him come back. But even when he's here he doesn't bother with the kid. It really depresses me. He also frequently threatens to kill himself if I don't take him back.\n\nI don't know what to do. I'm completely at a loss.\n\nI can't be the reason my child doesn't know his father or worse that he killed himself! But there is no way I want to be back with him. He has done some horrible things.\n\nDoes it sound like I need to just stick to not engaging with him unless it involves our son and not responding to threats or begging? Or should I do whatever I need to to keep a relationship between them?", "summary": "Ex treatens to stop seeing son and/or kill himself if I don't sleep with him and give emotional support"}
{"id": "t3_xulox", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What moment in your life were you most scared?", "post": "I was on my way back from working at a wedding at around 2am when I got onto an arrow straight stretch of road which would take me back into town and away from this persons old countryside barn. As I was driving a pair of headlights were around 100 metres behind me which then suddenly disappeared leaving said car immersed in total darkness. Obviously with this being a dead straight road it was possible to keep driving in almost total darkness. Now going through my head was the thought of some psycho killer wanting to pull some stupid stunt by trying to drive without any lights. About 30 seconds later the car behind me reappeared by switching on their full beams and literally being only 2 metres from the back end of my car. Never in my life have I been so frightened especially with it being in the middle of nowhere. Turned out it was my friend who had finished his shift just after me and decided to play a cruel practical joke on me.", "summary": "Driving alone at 2am in total blackness when suddenly a car appears metres behind me with full headlights on. Never been more scared in my entire life."}
{"id": "t3_3p77lj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family member [61/F] is (possibly) working with another family member [60?/M] via drugdealing", "post": "It's almost no secret between my grandmother, my family member (F), and the other family member (M) are drug dealers. Today I discovered that (M) had been raising a weed plant, after finding it in the basement. They don't know a single thing about this, though. I put the weed into a plastic bag to show to a trusted adult (grandmother/grandpa, no idea) since after googling what's legal here and what's not legal there, I discovered that it was illegal in our state.\n\nI want [F] to have a nice dose of justice after what I discovered, but since she's 61, I'm just considering throwing away my proof that she's a drugdealer and just ignore it the best way I can.\n\nHow do I take on this matter?", "summary": "[61/F] and [60/M] family members are drugdealers"}
{"id": "t3_4n9air", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Scaphoid Fracture Misdiagnosis - Looking for Advice (Canada)", "post": "Hi there,  \nIn September 2015, I suffered a fall at work onto my right wrist. The following day, I went to the ER where i had X-Rays done. The X-rays showed no sign of a fracture and I was told it was just a sprain and to expect the pain to dissipate within a few weeks. However, it is common for scaphoid fractures to not show up on the X-Ray immediately and patients are usually told to return within 2 weeks to get a follow-up X-Ray done. This was not done for me. It should also be noted that I was actually treated by an intern. The attending physician, did not directly examine my wrist, and simply went with the words of the intern.  \nHowever, the pain did not leave and about a month and a half later, I went to a Walk-In Clinic. The doctor here was informed about the circumstances surrounding my fall and diagnosed me with Chronic Tendonitis. He gave me anti-inflammatories and did not even request another X-ray. This particular doctor implied that the pain would never completely disappear and that I would just have to live with it. But given the degree of difficulty I was having I saw another doctor this week who immediately suspected a scaphoid fracture and had X-rays done. And lo and behold, there was indeed a non-united scaphoid fracture. This was diagnosed 9 months after the initial injury. \nTreatment for a non union typically involves surgery and places me at risk for developing arthritis of the wrist at an earlier age. Is it worth taking legal action over the management of my case? This is clearly a case of medical mismanagement which severely affected my quality of life for the past 9 months. For context, I am an active 19 year old who was unable to perform any strenuous physical activity or sporting events involving the use of my right hand.", "summary": "Non-union Scaphoid fracture diagnosed 9 months after injury. 2 different doctors mismanaged the injury. Is it worth it to take legal action?"}
{"id": "t3_10uw3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F20] My boyfriend [M26] is incredibly selfish in bed", "post": "We've been dating for about seven months now, but he was deployed for six of them. He only just got back to the states last month, and we've been sexually active for about that long.\n\nWhen he wants sex, he touches me or kisses me until I want it, too. (Even if I'm driving, and repeatedly tell him to cut it out or we'll die in a fiery crash.) \n\nIf I want sex and he doesn't, he just kind of shrugs it off and doesn't really care. I can't do anything to get him interested in it... Even if he does get aroused, he holds back, just to tease me. Not the fun teasing that ends in sex. The horrible teasing that ends in a cold shower.\n\nHe heckles me and asks me for anal sex and blowjobs consistently. I usually comply with his requests.\n\nBut, if I want to be fingered, given oral, or otherwise played with, he refuses. He says that he doesn't want to go down on me because \"That's disgusting.\" He usually has no interest in fingering me or playing with me. \n\nHe doesn't care at all if I have an orgasm, which is disappointing to me. Sexy times basically consist of him kissing me a few times, then thrusting into me (usually dry.) and continuing to thrust until he has an orgasm. At which point he just stands up and goes to play video games.", "summary": "Boyfriend is really only interested in his orgasms. Doesn't care if I get off, or if I'm even aroused."}
{"id": "t3_4hh097", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I just payoff my auto loan?", "post": "I bought a truck back in October of 2015. I borrowed 7K at 5.5% interest. Minimum payments are 165.00 per month, I've been paying around 500 per month as this is the highest interest loan I have. \n\nI currently owe $3,841.00 on the note right now. I have 19K in my savings and 1.5K in checking right now. Should I just pay the loan off now, or continue to make the 500/month payments? \n\nOnce I have this paid off I plan to add the 500/month I had been spending on the auto loan to my mortgage.", "summary": "It depends. By paying it off now I'm only going to save a couple hundred dollars in the long run since the principal is so low already. If I would rather have liquid savings, just keep paying the minimum or the 500 a month I currently pay. If I'm highly debt averse, pay it off. Some are saying paying it off may actually hurt my credit."}
{"id": "t3_150lyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/f] want to break up with my long-distance SO [21/m], but he won't talk to me.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years.\n\nI've been considering breaking up with him for awhile, and all the sudden, it just clicked that I'm ready to be single. He's supposed to be coming to visit me for Christmas, which I obviously don't want him to do; it'd be a huge waste of money and big disappointment for him to come all this way to get dumped. I'm not sure when he's planning on buying a ticket, which makes me want to break the news as soon as possible, before it's too late.\n\nBut for the past two weeks, we've barely talked. We used to Skype every day, but it's cut way back. He doesn't return my calls or texts.\n\nI'm already acting like I'm single, which I never wanted to do. I just want to end things before we start to resent one another.\n\nI have no idea how to get him to have the conversation with me, though, and how to break up with someone via text or Skype.", "summary": "I want to break up with my long-distance boyfriend, but haven't been able to get him to talk to me for long enough to do it."}
{"id": "t3_je2gt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a detailed 3D Map Editor.  Do any Redditors have any suggestions?", "post": "I've been searching the internet the past several days only to find conflicting information and programs that, when I do try them, I find are rather lacking.\n\nSo Reddit, what would you suggest?  I'm interested in transposing two different maps:  one of the world of A Song of Ice and Fire (Both Westeros and Essos mainly - as there are already 2d maps and detailed information from the books; it would be tougher to design a 3d map of Sothoros) and one of Middle Earth.  The map editor I am looking for would be one that would support massive, world-sized maps and one that would allow for details such as cities (and semi-detailed cities:  not just a dot that would indicate their location.  I would like to design walls and unique castles to further detail their design), ruins and, of course, mountains/rivers/all sorts of environment details.  And one last thing:  I would like the ability to zoom in, out and observe my creation from all angles.\n\nI know that's asking a lot, and finding a program that can handle all that may prove difficult...  In my mind it would be a digital version of a hobbyist's miniature landscape ([something like this but a near endless boundaries and digital]  The detail doesn't need to be amazing.  I just want to have the ability to make locations distinct.\n\nHopefully one of you may know of a program or map editor that can work wonders like this.  If you do, I would much appreciate a suggestion.\n\nIf not... well... I may have to go into some game like Age of Empires and use their map editor to create something similar; albeit on a much much smaller scale and with confines I wish I didn't need to deal with.", "summary": "3d map editors with the ability to create city/castle models.  Do you know of any?"}
{"id": "t3_27loz3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "15 year old boy with $100 looking to make change!", "post": "That's probably not the best title but I'm in a rush.\n\nWell, I'm 15 years old and I have $100, and I really want to make that $1000. The reason being is I make a lot of videos for my class (I'm in a academy for video production) and I was recently surprised with a lot of video awards. So I wanted to invest in a computer/laptop and a video camera. I'm quite fond of the Surface Pro 3, and I don't know what kind of camera to get. I'm still talking to with my video production teacher to see what will be a good camera. I don't know where to start and I've been noticing the kinds of post here and decided, why the hell not? I really have no idea where to start and I'm too young to get a job. So, yeah.", "summary": "I have $100 and want to make it $1000, and I can't get a job."}
{"id": "t3_3oo7ga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with ex [17F] of a few months, I feel like I've gotten over the breakup but I think about her so often", "post": "I'll try to be brief. Met this girl at the beginning of the year through a mutual friend. We hit it off right away and started seeing each other. She was my first real girlfriend, first kiss, we told each other we loved each other, typical stuff. Were together about 4 months, official about 3. Went to different schools so we saw each other between 1 and 3 times a week.\n\nThe breakup was really unexpected, to me at least. I've spoken to her since just twice, both times shortly after the breakup because, honestly, when she broke up with me, my mind was going a million miles an hour and I barely heard a word she was saying, so I just talked to her to try and get a better idea of why she ended it. Haven't seen her in person since.\n\nWe've been broken up now for 5 months and, while I think I've gotten over her, I find myself thinking about her a lot. Pretty much every day. I sort of feel like I miss her, but I'm honestly not sure sometimes if I miss her or if I miss having someone, if that makes sense. It's worth noting I go to an all-guys school so I don't have any particularly close female friends.\n\nMy question is this: Is it normal to be thinking about her so much so far gone when we have had essentially no contact since we broke up.", "summary": "Short relationship (my first), broke up, no contact since, can't stop thinking about her. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_33zksf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by recycling (NSFW)", "post": "A few months ago I became horny and started relieving myself so to speak with a glass drinks bottle. Thinking little of it, I washed it when I was done and chucked it in the recycling. There are no weekly collections and to my knowledge, no bin nearby where you could deposit glass. My plan was to look for somewhere online. \n\nLater on I asked around the internet about where I could deposit my glass. A man then offered to take them, and I assumed that this was to earn some extra money by taking them down to the recycling plant which pays a small fee. I then found the bottle and washed it again, a little more thoroughly, to ensure there were no visible signs of my activities. He then came round and I gave him the bottles. He thanked me, saying he used them for home brewing. I seriously considered taking it out but did not want to draw attention to the issue. So I just smiled and handed them over. \n\nSomebody probably has already drunk out of that.", "summary": "Jerked off using a bottle which has probably since been reused as a drinks container"}
{"id": "t3_heqct", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who the fuck is spamming my phone?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I'd really appreciate some information if you can help me.  I just flew to a different state to visit relatives, and I started receiving spam texts from random numbers with different area code.  The first text said my name, so I'm thinking it's from someone I know.  These texts were coming in constantly, I had to shut off my phone to make it stop.  Some of the texts were creepy, and some of them mentioned bud, and some of them were completely random (one said \"spiderpig, spiderpig....\" etc)  I changed my number, and now it has stopped.  \n\nI tried to do a little research to see how someone could do this.  My first thought is some kind of bot.  I use an android phone.  I read something in an android forum about an app that can be used to send x number of text messages to barrage someone with texts.  I couldn't find any info about whether the texts would come from random numbers.\n\nI'm still a bit freaked out, and I really want to figure out what caused this.  Any info you guys have would help a lot.  Thank you for taking the time to read this!", "summary": "Pineapples."}
{"id": "t3_42i4ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have been \"hooking up\" with a girl [21F] for about 3 weeks. Last night she told me she's gay, but it's more complicated.", "post": "I recently got out of a 3+ year relationship with a separate girl. We broke up and I started talking to current girl that I was friends with in High school. \n\nWe have a lot in common and just talked for a couple weeks and eventually hooked up and had sex. She seemed very, very into me. Saying \"come cuddle with me tonight\" or \"I just want to spend all day with you\". \n\nSo I told her we needed to discuss what we were whether it be boyfriend and girlfriend or what. She says what every guy dreams of, \"I just want to fuck, no strings attached, I like you but don't want to be exclusive\". Awesome right? Perfect for me as I just got out of a long relationship. \n\nShe continues to act as if we are together, wants to hold hands, meet her parents and stuff. So last night I told her again that we needed to discuss our relationship. \n\nShe told me that she doesn't want to date me because she's more interested in girls and would rather \"date\" a girl. I'm fine with that and appreciate her honesty. However she still wants to hook up with me ( not that I'm complaining ) but it just feels weird, I like her more than just a hook up and we hangout all the time. \n\nI'd be content with being friends with her and not hook up, but she always wants to. Then we discuss things and she talks about how she wants a girl. \n\nI'm honestly just confused and kind of self conscious about this. I accept she wants a girl and I'm fine with that, but it's the weird \"I want to be with a girl, but please come have sex with me\" that is messing with my head. \n\nAm I reading into this too much?", "summary": "Fwb told me she's gay but still wants to hook up and I'm unsure of what that means."}
{"id": "t3_11m8mn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] First college date, didn't go for the kiss...now what? [18/f]", "post": "Took a cute girl out that I met at a party on Friday to watch the sunset. Hugged when we met, little bit of touching here and there, lots of flirting, but I could tell from when I met her she has a very flirty personality. We got there and I played the question game (1. have to answer honestly, 2. can't ask the same question twice, 3. you go first) and quickly escalated the conversation to sex. \n\nShe was cold and I gave her my flannel shirt even after she refused. She laid down on my lap, etc, etc.\n\nI accidentally touched her boob and joked \"oops went straight to second base\" and she said \"skipped right over first\" and I said \"we should go back\" and she said \"oh really?\" ....the conversation continued and when I asked her to stand up she went and took a picture about 10 feet away, and when I went up next to her she said she wanted to go eat. I feel like I missed my opportunity for a kiss.\n\nWe talk a bunch, eat and gave a really meaningful discussion, we talk about relationships and she's asking about my ideal girl, my experience with girls, etc all while being flirty, but I couldn't figure out when to kiss her, and it seemed inappropriate. I got a feeling from her that she felt something from our conversation and I never really get that feeling from a girl. We hugged and went separate ways.\nI know it'd be stupid for me to text her and say \"come outside I forgot to tell you something\" and then kiss her. I could ask her to hang out with me this weekend and try something...has my moment passed? Should I text her tonight, or just send a simple goodnight?\n\nRegardless, this did wonderful things for my confidence. I'll be talking to lots more girls, and hopefully this one again soon.", "summary": "date went well, could've gone better -- how should I proceed? what should I do differently next time?"}
{"id": "t3_3jzltf", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "The story of Me:Double Agent Extraordinaire.", "post": "I need to tell someone who will understand my pain! I planned my wedding almost two years ago and now it's my Mom's turn. My Mother's husband recently asked me to help him \"spy\" on my mom for ring styles and the like. So fast-forward to Saturday, my Mom her best friend and I went shopping for baby things, as I am pregnant. All the while her best friend and I were trying to get her into a jewelry store without being too noticeable. But the darn woman is stubborn! Finally her friend comes up with a lie that she wants to change her wedding ring and we get her in. Then as we are looking at the rings my mom figures it out. Not because we're bad liars just because she knows us too well! \n\nSo now the cat's out of the bag, her fiance (to-be) is asking me questions and talking about his ideas for their wedding, she's all excited and talking/pinning to me about wedding things, and I'm just sitting here going \"Oh, God! What have I done!\" I'm so excited to plan a wedding again, but oh my god I don't know how long I can keep a secret I hope he asks her for real really soon. \n\nAlso I'm sorry if this isn't the correct subreddit, I'm just super excited and needed to tell someone other than my husband who just thinks it's hilarious.", "summary": "My mom's fiance asked me for help, I let the cat out of the bag... They are now both using me to plan a wedding without the other one knowing."}
{"id": "t3_3c1b4z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Marchman Act (Florida) Help for Sibling", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am seeking help information and understanding of how to use the Marchman Act to involuntarily send a sibling to a substance abuse facility. I just came across the statute through a google search and it seems like the only possible route. My sibling is in Broward County Florida.\n\nBackground of situation: Sibling is a severe alcoholic to the point of urinating and deficating self. Sibling has repeatedly fallen and has been emitted to local hospitals 7-8 times in the past 4-6 months. He has gone through DT's and withdrawal symptoms each time. During one of the hospital stays the Baker Act was put on my sibling, but after the 72 hour hold he was released.\n\nMy sibling is retired. He was just divorced and lost his house due to debt.  He is in denial of the alcoholism and will not voluntarily go to into a substance abuse program. I was able to get my sibling an apartment, but I live out of state. I attempted to get my sibling to move to where I live, but he refused. I am concerned for my sibling's well being and don't believe my sibling is capable of independent living. My sibling has already been emitted to the hospital once since I left a week and a half ago.\n\nIs the Marchman Act a viable option for this situation?\n\nIs there a way to enact the Marchman Act without going to court?\n\nAny help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Sibling is severe alcoholic. I am concerned for my sibling's well-being. I need help and information on whether the Marchman Act is a viable option to get my sibling substance abuse help."}
{"id": "t3_1l0xuk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "17m; I don't know what to talk about", "post": "I'm at a point where I feel confident enough to actually talk to girls. The problem I have, is that I just don't know what to talk about. \n\nI believe it's mainly because I rarely get out to meet people, since I'm not drinking/smoking/doing drugs etc. I don't feel comfortable at all in a disco and well, I'm not into the stuff that is popular like most current TV shows and music. I couldn't tell one pop singer apart from another, since I listen to other genres of music. Same goes with TV; I watch some animes and one regular show, but that's it. I really despise those popular \"reality\" TV shows...\n\nThe advice I get often is to simply say whatever comes to my mind - I highly doubt that this is a good idea. When talking to girls I don't know, I have trouble getting a straight forward thought together. Just spouting out \"oh, I find your legs sexy\" doesn't seem right to me. Other than that, I only think of specific things, since my hobbies are pretty much playing computer games, surfing the web and metal guitar. I just don't feel comfortable talking about this kind of stuff because whenever I would try that, the conversation would become awkward. I rarely meet people who actually understand what I'm refering to or what I mean. \n\nAnother thing that comes to my mind is gossiping, but I don't like that at all...", "summary": "I feel awkward talking about stuff that actually interests me; what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2viftc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24M] don't think I am the right guy for my girlfriend [28F]", "post": "I have torn myself up thinking about this for awhile now. We've been dating for almost a year now but I just can't help but think she needs someone other than me.\n\nWe have a pretty good relationship, I like her a lot, we have fun together. She has really gotten me out of my shell, or at the very least cracked it a bit. Gotten me to do things and go places I never would have and I am so grateful to her for that. She is one of the best things to happen to me in a long time.\n\nHowever, I don't think I am to her. She has always said I am the sweetest boy she's met but I know that I disappoint her sometimes. She wants a guy to drop by randomly and to know when she needs/want something, whether it be a bag of chips (on her period) or a trinket she had had her eye on.\n\nBut I'm not good at that. I need to be told what to do. Or at least guided. But she thinks I Should just know, that it's not that complicated to understand her. But I don't. Just tonight she said she was feeling depressed said she would like it if I was with her, I agreed because I would like to be with her. But she told me obviously I didn't because if I did I would be there. I have work late some nights, I'm tired when I get home and want to rest alone (I'm severely introverted that way). But she makes me feel so guilty. I don't think she really means to but the guilt lasts. And I'm not a romantic, I try but I have failed spectacularly, and again I feel guilty because she wants me to be the guy for her and I can't. It's causing me stress.\n\n I really like her, I enjoy the time I spend with her, but she wants me to be a certain way so bad it is stressing me out enough that I'm asking strangers on the internet for help. So, what are your POVs on the situation?", "summary": "Can this relationship work? Or do I just don't want to let go of what I have?"}
{"id": "t3_gxnrx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors with divorced parents..... how did it effect you and your relationships?", "post": "My parents got a divorced when I was 3 yrs old. I did not remember much and they were still friends. I spent 75% of my childhood with my mom and 25% with my dad. I never felt like it effected me in any way.\n\nHowever, I am a senior in college now and I have noticed some stuff I do in my relationship life such as :\n\n- I always choose work, having fun with friends, etc.. over someone I like. \n\n- I don't try hard enough in relationships. If there's a problem I usually don't talk about it. I just move on REALLY fast. (Not move on to a new person, I just stop caring entirely).\n\n- I left my ex-boyfriend of over 2 years the same way my mom left my dad. (I took all my stuff from his place without telling him or officially break up with him and just kind of 'disappeared'. He did not see it coming and now I think I was very immature.)\n\n- I don't care enough about my relationships to analyze things with my significant other. My roommate and her bf always talk about their relationships every once in a while and to me it's a waste of time. They think it's better to fix it but I think it's better to just move on and find someone else more compatible.", "summary": "Just answer the question. Also, suggestions of how you \"fix\" it would be helpful."}
{"id": "t3_3jj08y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] and my GF [21] have had a very one sided relationship and recently broke up. Need advice", "post": "Ok so my gf and I have been dating for about a year and we recently broke up. It wasn't a very good relationship at all. A lot of the problems were on my part because of past relationships and personal problems I have (undiagnosed ADD). I was very selfish for a long time and we always did what I wanted. We moved in together pretty soon and it was just really bad timing. We broke up but we are currently still talking. I spend the night a lot and we act like we are still together in a way. There isn't any sex or anything though. I am currently getting help for myself through counseling and medical assistance. I have become a much different person through the process (for the good) and she has definitely noticed. Now the problem is, is that lately we do everything she wants to do and almost nothing I want to do. Technically she doesn't have to do anything I want cause we aren't together and I don't live with her anymore. Now this is where I need advice. I have been such a piece of shit to her for so long, and have only cared about what I want to do and what I want to spend money on, that I'm just letting her have fun and do what she wants. This has been building up so long that she's finally just doing what she wants. Is this ok or at some point do I say something about it? I love her way to much to let go. I know she is the one for me. I know I can be the guy she wants. We broke up about a month and half ago.", "summary": "gf and I break up, still talk all the time and hang out, kind of start dating again. We only do what she wants because for the longest time it was all about me. Do I say something or just let it be because I owe it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_4lwgtv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am considering breaking up with my girlfriend[18 F] of 2 months, I can't tell if this is the right decision", "post": "Please take this somewhat seriously. Me and her have tried to not have a typical high school relationship that revolves around publicizing our relationship and fucking. I don't really want to break up with her because I still have feelings for her and she still has feelings for me, but since she's a senior(year 12) and I'm a junior (year 11) she's leaving for college and going to across the country at the end of this summer. I was hoping that these next few months could've been a way for both of us to bond more and form a stronger relationship before she eventually left, but I found out a couple days ago that she will be working 6 days a week and going to church in Wisconsin on the Sundays (I live in Illinois). The days she's working she has to be there by 9 and once a week at 3 in the afternoon and works until 9. Added on top of this her parents are strict and most likely won't let her do anything after work. \n\nSo I'm kind of left in relationship limbo where the only thing we do is text and possibly meet once a week for 2-3 hours. I've had relationships before and I've never felt this strongly about someone, about a month prior to this we were hanging out daily and I was having the time of my life. She's a beautiful short Asian girl, who I can actually have an intellectual conversation with, but I don't consider this a relationship. I've always held a strong opinion that relationship can't be just over the phone and that's what this is devolving to.\n\nI still want to date her solely for the reason that things might change, but right now I just feel like I'm wasting my summer on a fantasy.", "summary": "My gf and I aren't able to be together because of her work schedule and parents. Want to know if should break up with her or bear through it and hope that I get lucky and things change."}
{"id": "t3_1nsu5i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I am 21/M my co-Worker 21/F sending mixed signals how do I react?", "post": "Me and my co-worker (21 F) started talking recently more and more, there's clearly signs of flirting going on at work and when we hangout out of work. She has sent me texts Like \"My moms out of town we can do whatever we want ;)\" Makes constant sex jokes to me like \"I love being on top\" while saying it is not the laughing \"Thats what she said tone\" while saying this she will make eye contact with a flirtatious smile. But then she will out of the blue say comments like \"It's stupid to date your friends.\"\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Co-Worker makes comments suggesting to come over and have sex then will say...I wont date my friend last time it went horribly."}
{"id": "t3_oxufd", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Help, how to change from Psychology to Physics?", "post": "I don't know if this is the best place to ask this, but it feels as good as any.\n\nI'm currently an Applied Psychology Bsc (Hons) student in the UK.\n\nI got onto the course through attending an \"Access to HE (Humanities)\" qualification, this was due to the fact that I just simply failed to attend any examinations at the end of school and so ended up with no qualifications to speak of. (my mother had just passed away from cancer.)\n\nWhile I was in school however I wanted to eventually go into physics, I've always found it terribly fascinating and I would have attended some form of Access course based on science had it been an option but there simply wasn't any available in my local area at the time. I was working with the options I had available and choosing the best of those options has led me to this point.\n\nSo the actual question.\n\nAs a first year psychology student with no scientific background (other than the psychology degree itself) what would be the best way to change courses and get into physics instead? I should state now that my current university does not offer degrees in physics. Otherwise I would have just gone to them directly and asked.\n\nIf I finished the psychology degree would there be any way to switch degrees at that point? I mean by that I know that you can switch to another course via masters (though I'm under the impression they have to be vaguely related subjects, which I don't imagine physics and psychology being regarded as such.)\n\nCan anyone suggest how I would go about making this happen?", "summary": "Applied Psychology Bsc (hons) student with no level 3 or A level science subjects wants to switch to Physics, how do I make this happen?"}
{"id": "t3_149oew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit what times have you felt guilt for only to find out they were doing something wrong.", "post": "I was in middle school and one day I had gone to my grandparents where there was a little 22 rifle I used to target practice with. Anyway one day I forgot to take the ammo box out of my pocket, it was my heavy jacket so I completely forgot about it. In the following weeks I had not used the jacket but the day I did some of the tiny 22 bullets fell out of my pocket in the hall. I was never one for trouble so they blamed the usual troublemakers. The one that they first searched the locker of who was a school bully had an air soft hand gun in his backpack giving enough time to hide the box in the bath room for the school to find he was kicked out and I have not heard from him since then.", "summary": "school bully blamed for bringing ammo I had dropped, kid ended up having an air soft gun and tool full blame."}
{"id": "t3_3ir8qa", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy I really like doesn't response to conventional flirting. Any idea on how to proceed/ what to try?", "post": "I don't consider Asking him out an option because we're on the same team in our work place, and share a lot of mutual friends.. Getting rejected would be hella awkward, i don't want to even try before i get better response from him. \nMore background - I'm almost 22, he's 20 i think. I'm \"one of the guys\"  kind of girl, we share the same 15-year-old-boner-jokes. I recently got transfered to his team, and in December he's getting transfered to a team in a different city so i won't be seeing him a lot. He's kind of a workaholic\nAnd.. I'm really into him. Actually, I've never seen so much into someone my entire life, i think I'm in love. I know how to flirt. My ex was one of those guys who doesn't give girls any attention and i got him to ask me out in two weeks. But this guy... We're friendly, sometimes he messages me, we always eat together with our friends at work, we joke about each other, sometimes when we clean the office he spills a little water at me to \"start a fight\" .. Two weekends ago i went to a party at his house and i told him i can stay the night to help him clean (everyone were waisted so i couldn't drive home), and he made sure that i stayed and me, him and his friend slept in spoons with me in the middle, so he's not repeled by me or something lol..\nBut i don't get a good response when i flirt with him. For example- when i gave him a neck massage he said I'm bad at massages and any type of physical contact doesn't get a response , when i told him he should really smile more he answered \"i don't smile\", when i ask him if he wants a cup of coffee or offer him help at work he rejects... \nI guess i sound like a teenager but I really want him. What can i do to make him into me?", "summary": "guy at work initiates frienly contact, doesn't respond well to flirting or sometimes to me being friendly. How can i make him mine?"}
{"id": "t3_2221t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and my boyfriend[28 M/F] of 9 months broke up. He says he wants to be friends in the future...", "post": "He broke up with me, I was pretty sure it was coming, because for some time we'd be dealing with mismatched feelings, I loved him, and his feelings kept changing. We parted pretty amicably, but I still love him very much. He moved back to Korea and we were in an LDR for a month and a half, and I was planning on going to his Korea within a few months to be near him and teach. I'm still planning on going but everything is different now. \n\nI've been having a hard time, it only happened two days ago. I called in sick yesterday, and decided to go to work today, only to break down  in tears and have to go to the bathroom, after which my supervisor just sent me home. \n\nSo much crying. Ugh. A lot of people have their first relationships end when they're teenagers, but I'm 26. It's embarrassing. Now I have to tell everybody too. \n \nI still feel like I don't want anybody else, and don't even want to think about it, I especially can't stand the thought of someone else touching me.  I know logically that it's for the best that we aren't together, because we have some conflicting core values. I had dreamed of our future and now it's gone, and it's hard to wrap my mind around it. Plus, I'm still going to Korea.\n\nHe says that he still wants to be friends, and will wait for me to be ready, but I'm not sure. I want to talk to him more than anyone, especially right now, but I know that probably isn't wise. But, it would be really good to have a friend in a foreign land.\n\nIs it a bad idea to make contact after waiting for a little while? When things have had time to settle down?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I broke up, he wants to be friends in the future, is this unwise?"}
{"id": "t3_11yz0i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, if your bored dog chews up another persons possession, do you offer to replace it or say tough luck?", "post": "Full story: My boyfriends roommate and girlfriend have a nearly 2 year old Jack Russell terrier mix that is not trained and has awful separation anxiety (that they fuel by giving him attention whenever he whines). They went out of town this weekend on a whim and did not make proper arrangements for him to be taken care of, leaving it up to the other roommate who worked 13 hour days on Saturday and Sunday to care for him. During one of the few times he was free from his kennel, he found a pair of patent leather wedges that I left at their house and proceeded to chew the absolute hell out of them. Understandably, this is not the dogs fault (yummy leather shoes!) but the owners are extremely reluctant to take responsibility for him because they were out of town at the time.\nSo Reddit: who is responsible for the dogs behavior (the out of town dog owners or me for leaving my shoes out) and should the owners offer to help me replace what their dog destroyed? What would you do or what have you done in similar situations?", "summary": "Bored dog eats leather shoes, should owners replace them?"}
{"id": "t3_43v54k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are these deal breakers for me (21F) and my boyfriend (25M)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and I am head over heels. I really think I love this man already and can see a real future with him. It's still a relatively new relationship so it's early to think about this kind of stuff, but there are a few differences in values that is eating at the back of my mind. First of all, he wants a big family. 3-4 children. I only want 2 kids- I jokingly told him MAYBE he could get a third. I could compromise and have 3 kids, if I could have a kitty of my own too... But he is severely allergic to cats. I LOVE cats and the thought of not having a cat is unfathomable to me. He said we could get a dog instead, but I *need* a cat of my own. A dog is just not the same. He finally said that he could learn to tolerate a cat by I don't want to make him unhappy. I honestly feel deep down that this man is \"the one\", you always hear that people just \"know\" when it's real and I have that feeling too. Im just really worried that things will end because of these incompatibilities.", "summary": "boyfriend wants at least one more kid than I do, and he is severely allergic to cats but I love cats so much that I think I could ever be happy if I don't have a pet cat of my own. I don't know if these are deal breakers."}
{"id": "t3_4xxrwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (24m) and I (21F) are going on vacation..how do we stop from murdering each other?", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years and have been on vacation twice together and I've found it's really hard to travel with him. But....we are going on vacation again next month and it's going to be his first time going abroad (we are going to Greece). \n\nWe were in San Diego last year and here are some other the problems we ran into:\n\n-He's a REALLY picky eater so finding places to eat was a battle. \n\n-He doesn't navigate and we don't really go anywhere unless I pick out the place and figure out how to get there. I've also picked out the flights and arranged all the hotels.\n\n-I'm not great at navigating and we sometimes get lost which results in us both getting frustrated at each other.\n\n-I don't really know what he wants to do? I think he's happy to sit in a hotel room all day and I want to actually do stuff. \n\n-Spending that much time together all at once kind of makes us annoyed at each other.\n\nI know travel can be stressful especially in a foreign country but I just want everything to go smoothly. Any ideas on how to avoid the problems above and other possible problems? How to compromise so I'm not doing all the planning/organizing? How do other couples do this??", "summary": "my boyfriend is a pain in the butt to travel with"}
{"id": "t3_2f3n0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31/M] with my G/F [21/F] 1.5 years, Broke up three weeks ago.", "post": "I dated my ex for 1.5 years, which is my longest.  She broke up with me for the following reasons:\n\n-She felt that she doesn't make me happy anymore.\n-She feels that she can't give me what I want.\n\nI respected that but, I honestly felt that it was also bull crap. I felt that she was leaving me for some one else or something like that.  I found it odd that we kept texting.  Well, last week, we met up for dinner to see how we were handling the break up. Well went back to my house because my dog absolutely loves her and he has been depressed since she left.  Well she ended up sleeping over because we got high.  We watched Pretty little liars (horrible show FYI) and passed out. \n\nI woke up at four am to her riding the hell out of me.  After we came, She literally said that she thought she was dreaming.  Immediately, feels returned and we began texting everyday. Calling each other saying good night and saying I love you.\n\n-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------\nI can't stop thinking about her and she says the same thing.  I don't know what to do? Should we go slow and see how it goes or just go back into our relationship?", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up 3 weeks ago. We didnt talk much. Went to dinner. Hooked up thinking we dreamed it. Now i am confused. I don't know what to do? Should we go slow and see how it goes or just go back into our relationship?."}
{"id": "t3_3jhtiz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my gf [16 F] 8-9 months. she's always too busy to see, affecting me emotionally. is this selfish? what should i do?", "post": "of course i love her, and all i wanna do is be with her, ya know \"young love\" and all that shit. but every time i ask to see her, or go out, or come round i always get denied because she's too busy, always because of family and her part time job and college. we haven't seen each other in over a month and every time i try to compromise she responds with i don't know or we'll see. She doesn't text much but responds to mine, we rarely get to see each other at all. the last time was around a month ago. before that i can only remember seeing her a few times over the space of 3-4 months and only for about 2-3 hours. the thing is she says she really wants to see me too.\n \nBut it really gets painful for me and does affect me because i tend to overthink things. It also makes me feel selfish sometimes because all i'm doing is messaging her and it starts to feel like i'm annoying her because of her response times. and it feels as if she doesn't appreciate me as much as i appreciate her.", "summary": "we never get to see each other, she's always too busy. i'm always trying to compromise and find a way, she 'doesn't know'. we haven't seen each other in ages."}
{"id": "t3_36q1in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my ex-boyfriend [30 M] a narcissist?", "post": "I had a horrible break up with my ex-boyfriend. He played with me, did horrible things to me, he humiliated me and used me. I felt so ashamed and horrible so when he apologised I went back to him because I wanted to get rid of this horrible feelings. He of course just used this for his next abuse.\nEventually, it was a friend of mine who told me that he is having another girlfriend. They already booked their holidays together, so they must have been together for a while. I was so shattered. When I told him that I know what was going on, he just answered, oh well I don't know why you know that but it is kinda true, I never lied to you or played with you, all the best. He did not even want to talk to me in person anymore. The last time I saw him was around 10 days ago and he pretended to be so in to me. I did not understand the world anymore. I assumed that something is wrong but everytime I asked him about it, he just told me that I am shellfish and that I think that the entire world is turning around me. But he has never done anything wrong. \nThey are still together now, he is still so crazy in love. He posts pictures and talks about her openly the entire time. He is so proud of having her (she was his friend's girlfriend before so that is maybe why). He never did that with me, at the beginning he introduced me to his friends but he started to hide me soon after that. \nI still suffer from what he has done to me. I feel humiliated, used and worthless. I feel ashamed and have anger attacks.\nI know that I was na\u00efve and stupid but could it be that my ex-boyfriend is a narcissist and treats everyone like this eventually? Or is it purely my fault what happened?", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend treated me horribly but has now changed and treats his new gf really nicely. Could it be that he is a narcissist and will treat everyone badly at one point or is was it just my fault?"}
{"id": "t3_v5ami", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "\"I'm not interested right now.\" Ladies, what causes someone to say that.", "post": "M/20 here. I've been single for a decent amount of time and lately I've been talking to a girl and I can honestly say that I'd be delighted to take her on a date and see where we could go romantically, and admittedly she recently got out of a relationship that lasted about 6 months roughly a month and a half ago. She left him because he had control issues and such. Anywho, I thought things were going really well until we actually start clarifying where we stand and she gives me that dreaded line, \"I'm not interested right now.\" This caught me off guard and I feel like I've wasted time and I feel a bit of a fool for not recognizing this.\n\nMy question is, do I expect a change in the future? Do I wait? Is this some kind of test? (I've heard of some pretty crazy girls doing something alone these lines) Do I wait and see if her feelings change? Am I permanently friendzoned? I'm just lost here. If someone could help me here, I'd greatly appreciate it.", "summary": "I'm just not interested.\" Do I wait for things to change?"}
{"id": "t3_ol4b1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My gf was diagnosed with chlamydia and gonorrhea, but she was a virgin up until a little more than a week ago and I have not had sex for over 2 years. Has anyone else had something like this happen to them?", "post": "My gf and I have been in a monogamous relationship for over a year and a half and we hadn't had sex until two Saturdays ago (1/8). We went to the doctors last Thursday b'c she suspected that she had a UTI and she was right. She left a urine sample and once we got her medication for the UTI we thought we were good. Yesterday, she gets a call that she had tested positive for both gonorrhea and chlamydia and we have no idea how this could be. We used a condom our first time and every subsequent time after that. I'm getting tested today and I'm sure I do not have either STD considering I have only had sex once before more than 2 years ago. I was just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and if their results were actually incorrect or there was some human error on the hospitals part?", "summary": "my gf was diagnosed with 2 STD's but we're very skeptical that the results are correct considering our circumstances."}
{"id": "t3_4bdzu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] dealing with stress because ex [20/M] is in jail, who I have known for four years", "post": "The last time I had spoken to my ex before his arrest was two years ago. We ended up getting in an argument that ended our friendship. In those two years, I had meant to apologize to him and make up with him, but he was in a long-term relationship with a girl that I didn't want to come between or mess up in anyway. \n\nOnce I had heard they had broken up, it was too late. My ex had already been arrested for a crime that I personally believe he did not commit, and could serve up to 30 years in prison, if convicted. I do communicate with him while he's in jail, and I'm terrified that he will be found guilty because he can't afford a good attorney and the odds are stacked against him. \n\nThis whole situation has been messing with my head since he was arrested. I am extremely regretful that I did not communicate with him in those two years, and I feel like maybe if I had, I would in some way have prevented what he is being accused of. I can't sleep at night most nights, and the nights I do sleep I have nightmares about him. \n\nI want to help him get out of jail and get him a good attorney, and I don't know where to even begin. What he is being tried for does not in anyway sound like him. None of his friends or family believe he did what he's suspected of doing and doesn't line up with his personality or past history. \n\nIf anyone has been in a similar situation where someone they care about has gone to jail for a crime they are wrongfully accused of, please tell me how you got through it. I'm crying everyday and worried sick about his future.", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend is in jail being tried for a crime that I don't believe he's capable of, could serve a long prison sentence, and I'm heartbroken and falling apart because of it."}
{"id": "t3_251dqz", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Heart rate over 190", "post": "A story about me.\n\nI have always been very active. Played basketball, soccer, cycling, running as a kid. Now I am 22 years old and I occasionally go on a run up a hill (around 15min run with 100m increase) + 15 min bike ride to the hill. I ride my bike to school every day for 15 min there and back again.\n\nRecently I bought a polar heart rate monitor, and to my surprise I got a heart rate of 190 and I didn't even go max. I always ran this way, running didn't very exhausting. I ran with 190 for around 10 min, then stopped because the watch kept being annoying.\n\nIs this normal heart rate btw? I never expected 190 heart rate to be normal...\n\nHeight: 181 cm\nWeight: 83 kg", "summary": "Fit person that can run half a marathon has 190 Heart Rate when not running max effort."}
{"id": "t3_2qdggs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [23 F] for six months, she stopped talking to me", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for six months, we used to see each other all of the time until she moved and then neither of us could find time to see each other. No worries, we'll just call and text every day. We kept telling each other that we'd work things out, wanting to see each other all the time but our schedules just always seem to miss each other. We'd talk for hours every night about our days and always finish with the, \"I love you's.\"\n\nWell. A month ago, it seems like she started calling less and less. Her job is seasonal, so I just argued to myself, \"Hey she's probably just busy with work, no biggie.\" And I just let it go.\n\nAbout two weeks ago, I find out that I'm going to have the 23rd through the 25th off from work. I'm excited. I can finally probably spend some time with her. I call her up, I leave a voice mail, I text her. No response. No text. Nada.\n\nI'm thinking she just has her phone off, or she's not receiving my texts (since this is actually a problem between us) so every day between now and then I send her a little \"Hey! :D\" Nothing.\n\nWell. Now I'm almost through my break. I feel like I've spent the entirety of the time brooding over her during it. I'm not too sure if she's trying to fade me out, we seemed to be too intimate for her to suddenly dismiss me like that. Like not even the day before she was telling me how she wants to get an apartment together with me.\n\nI'm so confused. Should I just break it off from her? Should I assume that she's trying to break off from me?", "summary": "Girlfriend of six months just cold stops talking to me, doesn't return any of my calls or texts. Is she trying to break up from me?"}
{"id": "t3_2hheqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my girlfriend [21 M/F] 10 days short of 1year, like dont love anymore", "post": "New here, but you all have come highly recommended from a close friend and I appreciate any comments, thank you. Here it is.\n\nWe both go to college together, same major, and we sit next to each other in two classes. We started hanging out Oct 5th of last year and it was great. Shes smarter than me and helps with homework which is nice, but its not a reason to keep a relationship alive.\n\nThere are two main problems that I've been dwelling on for the past few weeks. As far as I can tell, she is very much in love with me, but I've come to see that although I like her, I do not love her. One problem remains with this because I cant determine a definite reason why I don't...\n\n I don't know how to break up with her. I care about her, so I don't want to crush her, but I think its just as bad to go on thinking that, \"maybe if I stick it out for awhile I will see something different and then love her again.\" \n\nBest case scenario: We remain friends and can both look fondly on memories shared, mostly that she can move on without excessive agony. I'd rather no longer be friends and have her be happy sooner than try to hold up a friendship if you guys think it'll make a difference. \n\nAny help or comments are greatly appreciated and questions are also welcome! Thank you so much for reading.\n\nExcessive background: Small classes (20+-5). Military with similar interest in field so good chance our paths will cross for at least the next two years. This is my longest relationship I've ever held.", "summary": "Almost 1 year, intertwined lives, she loves but I don't. I don't know when or how best to break it off."}
{"id": "t3_1ok36l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl I like [16f] just said yes to being my girlfriend, and broke up me [16m] less than two hours later. What now?", "post": "So to explain, this girl that I've been friends with for around a year now, and that I've really liked for about four months now and I had gone on several dates in the last two months, and I asked her to our homecoming that was this last Saturday. At the end of the dance I told her how I felt and asked her to officially be my girlfriend and she said yes very enthusiastically. \n\nBut, shortly after the dance, she texts me saying that she doesn't know if she's ready to be in a relationship and then says she doesn't want to ruin what we have now. I told her that neither or us had been in a real relationship yet so we could help each other, take it slow, and then I said what we had now was really more than just friends. She responded that that was true, and we were more than friends, but she liked what we had now the way it was. \n\nNow here's my question: where does this lead for me? Basically, she's the girl I want. Like trying to imagine my ideal girl is stained with her image. Moving on would be horrible. I want to be with her but if she's \"not ready\" is that all there is? Would she ever come around to us actually dating or do I have to move on? I basically knew she liked me, even her friends were always saying that I was practically her boyfriend but this last conversation really hurt that. She said the way we are now is great, but it's definitely past friendship, if I just wait, will it happen, despite what just happened? I don't know how long I could last having to stay here.\n\nI realize I'm young but the whole \"move on kid, you got your whole life ahead of you\" isn't helpful or comforting.", "summary": "the girl I like and who likes me said yes then no to being my girlfriend, but wants to be more than friends really: what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1urviy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: what is your go-to beer at a public venue, event, bar, etc.?", "post": "I am a home brewer and have been commissioned by one of my best friends to brew all of the beer for his wedding reception of 200+ people. Most of the people that will be there are generic American lager/pilsner drinkers (bud, miller, coors), so I want to make beer that caters to their tastes. \n\nMy plan currently is to have three different brews on tap, two of which I've decided on already. One is going to be a beer like Sam Adams (a Vienna lager) and a beer called Spotted Cow (cream ale), which is present in every single Wisconsin liquor store, grocery store, and gas station. Both of these styles are easy-drinking, light, and similar enough in taste to a Budweiser, Miller High life, or PBR well-received by any kind of beer drinker. The third beer I want to be a style that is a change of pace but not too \"pretentious\" or \"bold\". \n\nA little about the wedding: it is in the summer, neither the bride or groom drink but are perfectly fine with others doing so (so they have no preference about what beer I should make), and there will be other alcohol served at the wedding as well including wine and liquor. Also, it's in Wisconsin, the unofficial drinking capital of the USA. \n\nSo, what beer is your favorite, Reddit? I don't need a style, just a name. Feel free to explain why you like it and, more importantly, what you don't like about it.", "summary": "what beer (besides beers like Budweiser and miller lite) are your favorites on tap at the bar?"}
{"id": "t3_hf76p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you find motivation through life?", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI'm 28 years old, female (if it matters)  and I find that I have some serious issues regarding motivation. At first I thought it was laziness, but after some research and reading, I realized it's not that I'm lazy, it's just that I'm a procrastinator. I'm completely intimidated by long-term and difficult things and therefore put them aside - which causes massive anxiety. I'm all about instant gratification. \n\nWhen I get pumped about something, anything, I'm motivated for a month and then I deflate. I REALIZE all this about myself but I can't figure out HOW to fix/deal with it. I realize I don't think I'll ever change - this is my personality, this is something I would CONSTANTLY have to work on - but I don't know how.\n\nSo far, it hasn't hurt me badly - I have a great job , a great relationship (although he get frustrated with this aspect of me sometimes - he's driven and successful), I'm a fitness/nutritional enthusiast (and I think the only reason for this, is because I'm seeing fast results), and I'm waiting to hear if I got into my MBA program. \n\nHOWEVER - I'm losing my excitement for the job and I don't even know if the MBA will do anything for me (if I even get in to this particular program), because I'll be excited for a while and then just lose all interest. \n\nIt's amazing that knowing these things about myself, how I operate, yet I still can't get my shit together. Can someone please point me to some advice and/or some research material that can help me figure this out? Please!", "summary": "I'm a master procrastinator and afraid I'll never grow, because I can't figure out how to effing get my shit together and find my drive before it's too late."}
{"id": "t3_1u5jzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] am having a hard time forgiving my boyfriend [23/M] of 4months, for hitting on other girls online", "post": "So I recently found that my boyfriend is hitting on other girls online, girls he's never met. He leaves comments like \"wow you're too gorgeous\" \n\nWhen I read it, my heart broke completely. He tells me he's so in love with me and I'm the love of his life, he even says he wants to marry me. If he felt that way about me I can't understand why he would tell other girls they're beautiful. I can't comprehend a legitimate reason. \n\nIt hurts even more because he knows I have a lot of insecurities about my appearance and am very sensitive. It feels inappropriate and I'm finding it hard to forgive him despite his extensive apologies. \n\nAm I overreacting? I feel partly that I could be but he knows how hard it's been for me to give him my heart and trust, to accept his love for me. \n\n---\n\nBackground of our relationship: we met online, live in other countries, fell madly in love and I took a 14 hour flight to meet him. We're working really hard to be together, I am moving to his country to be with him in Feb. We have a very passionate relationship, have worked through a lot and are very open and honest about everything. We believe it's true love but this whole situation has left me questioning everything.", "summary": "Found my boyfriend has been hitting on other girls online, not sure if it's harmless but I'm hurt and need to know if I'm overreacting."}
{"id": "t3_q7jy5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In a shitty situation, need some opinions, details inside..", "post": "Last Sunday an ex of mine, whom I was/am on good terms with texted me asking if she could borrow 40 dollars because she had left her debit card at home when she was home for the weekend (we both go to the same university, about two hours from our hometown) and was in a bind because she needed 40 dollars the next day for a club she was in. Now usually I don't loan out money because i hate the position of debt collector, but I dated this girl for about a year and considered her trustworthy. So I obliged and dropped off the money, she said she would pay me back Tuesday because her mother was dropping off the card then. Tuesday comes around and I casually text her, no response. Since Tuesday I've probably called about 8 times and sent 6-7 text messages which have all not been answered. Being a broke ass college student 40 dollars is a substancial amount of money and I would like to get it back without anything getting nasty, does anyone have advice or similar stories? I feel like I'm being the dick now and am not enjoying the spot I'm in.", "summary": "I borrowed an ex of mine some money, since receiving it she has ignored all of my calls/texts, it's been a week, I'd like to get my money back and avoid any nasty situations. "}
{"id": "t3_3r5mle", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[US, California] Misdemeanor for Fake ID in city 3 hours away (I'm a minor) could I get an attorney to represent me?", "post": "Hi, this is my first time dealing with the law so please excuse my inexperience! \nBiggest question: I was charged with BP 25661 which is holding a fake ID with the intent to purchase alcohol - the punishment is $250 fine, community service, and drivers license suspension. However, I was trying to enter a restricted venue, but as far as I know there was no alcohol even being sold there. Should I fight this?\nThe city I got caught in is 3 hours away from where I live so I was wondering if I could hire an attorney to represent me? (Despite making dumb decisions like fake IDs, I'm close to being valedictorian at my school and can't miss out for multiple court dates). Can you hire an attorney as a minor, without parental knowledge (if the money isn't a problem)? \nAlso, it's pretty unlikely I could get a parent to accompany me if I have to show up in court, so could someone please point me in the right direction from there?  \nAnd finally, is it possible to change the charges from a misdemeanor to an infraction (I know Los Angeles does this automatically)?    \nAlso (sorry) if the get-attorney-to-represent-me part doesn't work, should I even get an attorney? I want to plead guilty, but only if I get a fine and community service.  \nAs it is, I already do about 5 hours of community service weekly for colleges (ok, at this point for fun because college apps are almost done) - anyways I wanted to ask if I could/should bring that up and how (during the sentencing part)", "summary": "I would appreciate figuring out a way to get through the legal court proceedings as quickly and succinctly as possible, "}
{"id": "t3_2t3eoz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Thinking of breaking up with [22/f] of 2 years, has all her belongings at mine. Need advice", "post": "Hello sub. Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nThis has been a long time coming and maybe I've been delaying it for a while now, but I'm feeling like this relationship isn't going to work out.\nI still do care deeply for her, but now I don't believe we are right for each other. She's an absolutely great person but we have our differences, not just what we like but our morals, values and culture. We've had talks about this before and I always believed if we tried to accommodate to each others likings we would be fine. \n\nBut I'm now worn out, I'm frankly tired of trying to like the things that she likes and loosing time and money for things that I would want to do (She's not really keen in my interests though she has tried).\nShe's been away for holidays for a while now and has left all her belongings at mine as I agreed to help her move out to a new place when she got back. She would be staying at mine until then (few weeks) This was before I felt like we needed to break up. I too went overseas for holidays for a while and I had time to think for myself.\n\nI need your thoughts on what to do sub. I did promise I'd help her move out and don't really want to break up while she doesn't have a place to stay. There's also a few celebrations coming up that I don't think I would be able to celebrate with her, I feel horrible..but I'm thinking of telling her today after work.", "summary": "Relationship not working out, gf left belongings at mine while overseas and I promised I would help her move. Don't feel like breaking up while she doesn't have anywhere to stay."}
{"id": "t3_2kfbd9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] the past two weeks I've been hearing things that aren't there, and i have don't know when i'm dreaming or when i'm awake!?", "post": "i've noticed this happening lately, when i have my headphones on i'll hear a deep gutteral voice call out my name from the other room, i'll walk in and no one will be there  no one is home. \n\ni have never taken any illegal drugs (i did take lexapro for about two years when i was 14-15 for anxiety and depression) i have an uncle who is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic. i have read that it is hereditary so i'm not sure what to think.\n\nyesterday, or today i don't know it felt like i was dreaming while i was awake. i saw stars while the sun was out but saw my family as clear as day. \n\nI drove to work and all the other cars were frozen in place. i just drove through them like ghosts and when i got to work it felt like i was shaken awake out of bed because my manager called asking where the hell i was.\n\ni'm really confused right now, i have a therapist i see once a month, i bumped the meeting up next tuesday which was the earliest she could see me. i've taken break from work until i can figure this all out.. my question is how should i approach my therapist about this? she told me upfront if she thinks i'm a danger to myself or others she has to report me to the police. i don't want to be locked up in a insane asylum. how do i tell her this without being taken away???", "summary": "hearing things that aren't there, seeing things, can't tell the difference bewteen dreaming or being awake.. how do i tell my therapist i think i may be schizophrenic????"}
{"id": "t3_g7pgm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit! I woke up with a hangover, a friend request/creepy message from a girl I was hitting on at the bar... (need some advice!)", "post": "in addition to my friend telling me that she got my number through him (saying that it was urgent!). We didn't sleep together so I'm not worried or anything, I just do not know how to let this girl down easy and walk away from it without a stalker on my tail or a heavy conscience.\n\nThe fact that she found my facebook astounds me; not only did I never tell her my full name - my facebook is under a pseudonym and we have no friends in common. I am creeped!\n\nShe just sent me a text message as I am writing this. It says \"Knock knock\". I am assuming it's her because I don't have the number saved.\n\nPLEASE - How do I save face here? What should I say in response?", "summary": "Girl I met at a bar is bordering on stalker behavior the morning after. Wut? Please halp!"}
{"id": "t3_3agf3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] broke up with my girlfriend [23 M/F] of 7 years, we both cheated on each other.", "post": "I am 24, she is 23. We've been going out for 7 years.\n\nI physically cheated on her during our 3rd year (kissed a girl).\nI confessed to her and begged for her forgiveness. She gave me another chance.\n\nShe emotionally cheated on me in our most recent 7th year. \nShe was secretly seeing another guy for a month. \nI found out myself, through coincidences and social media.\nShe did not want to get to get back together so we broke up that night. \n\nI wanted proper closure so I contacted her the next day to see her and truly find out all the problems and explanations and questions I needed answers to. \nAt the end of the day, I was willing and wanted to fight for us to make it work, \nbut she was already done with me, repeatedly said she no longer loved me, and was ready to move on.\n\nAt this point, my first thought is that I should delete her from my life \nbecause seeing her will only hurt me further. But on the opposite side,\nshe said she would still like to be friends (when I am ready).\n\nBecome friends. Is this a mistake? Is this even a possiblity?\nI can't think straight right now, I am obviously extremely emotional. \nMy first thought is, why would I want to associate myself with you, you betrayed me in the worst way possible. \nOn the other hand, I have known her for so long, it almost wouldnt feel right to forget such a big part of my life like it never happened.\nI almost want to stay in contact and eventually become friends that hang out once in a while. Is this just a cliche thought because I miss her?\n\nI just don't know what to do or how to feel. Time will tell, but I know if you guys can speak from experience it would help me so much at the moment.", "summary": "gf of 7 years broke up with me."}
{"id": "t3_w2h8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I ruin my relationship by having sex too soon?", "post": "Okay, so my boyfriend (18m) and I(17f) have been going out for three months.  I took his virginity about two months into the relationship.  We are very comfortable with each other, and he first told me he loved me two and a half weeks into the relationship (to be fair, we had been into each other for a really long time but the circumstances were never right until recently).  \n\nAnyways, I worry he's losing interest in me.  He hardly texts back now and I feel like I bore him when we hang out.  Because of his detachment I become clingy, which makes the situation worse.  But he still tells me he loves me every night as he wishes me goodnight and does cute things...\n\nWe moved fast physically compared to my previous two year relationship, but we both are very comfortable with it.  I feel like we moved too fast though, upon retrospect, even though I love our closeness now.  Should I suggest a hiatus to all sexual activity for a few weeks, let us bond more emotionally?  The only thing is I really like the emotional and physical closeness/satisfaction post-coital.", "summary": "I think I ruined my relationship too soon by having sex two months into relationship.  Would it be a good idea to put a halt to physical stuff so we don't lose interest in each other?"}
{"id": "t3_j0g5w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I prevent my aunt from stealing from my mother?", "post": "My grandmother died 2 years ago, and in her will she left the house to my mother and my aunt 50/50. The executor, my grandmother's uncle, has been trying to sell the house since her death, and if he can't sell it by august, hes rendering ownership to my mother and aunt.\n\nBack story on my aunt: she has been a leech for the past 15 years. She lived with my family for 3 years, never paying any rent, and costing us thousands to renovate the rooms she destroyed living here, then she lived with my grandparents for another 11 years until they passed, and now she's living as her son's house, all the while never paying anything for rent or utilities, and disregarding any rules that were set in the house. She's not the honest or loyal type.\n\nNow my aunt currently lives much closer to the house than we do (the house is in South Carolina, my aunt is in South Carolina while we live in New York), and she's offered to \"sell the house\" for us, i.e. shes going to live there indefinitely until she sells it, which knowing her, she won't make any real attempt to do, and we have no real way of getting down there to stop her from essentially stealing half the house from my mother. Reddit, is there any legal action we can take to prevent her from living in the house while its being sold?", "summary": "My scumbag aunt is going to try and live in my dead grandmother's house that she has 50% ownership of with my mother, and we don't know how to stop her."}
{"id": "t3_2aqw49", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [19f] am trying to seduce a man [30m] over text. Any tips?", "post": "Hey there! First of all, without getting into too much detail, let me say that the age difference is not a problem. He was the one who started the flirtation between the two of us.\n\nRight now, I'm not interested in actually hanging out. Not just yet. I want to indulge in the \"texting game\" for a little while first. My question for you lovely men and women is what kind of texts would you like to get from someone you're interested in to start up a good conversation? My demeanor and sense of humour is very playful, sexy and just a touch cocky. I'm just starting to run out of ideas! \n\nThanks for the help. :)", "summary": "My question for you lovely men and women is what kind of texts would you like to get from someone you're interested in to start up a good conversation?"}
{"id": "t3_4z39cc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a stupid kid with a cellphone", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today but rather about 15 years ago. \n\nSo i was in 6th grade, about 12 years old, living in Sweden. Our class was going on some kind of sleep over camping trip in the woods. We brought tents and all that shit and my brand new cellphone that i got from my parents, my first one. I got the whole spiel about only calling in emergencies and all that jazz.\n\nSo we're out walking in the woods and me and like 3 other guys and 1 teacher wander off from the group and get separated. It's getting darker but we're still trying to locate the main group. The cellphone reception was spotty so the teacher couldn't reach the other teachers on the trip. Me and another guy walk off a little bit onto a little hill and I get one bar! \n\nI quickly call my parents for some dumb ass reason and say we're lost, but forget to mention the slight detail that we have a teacher with us. With reception being spotty it's hard to communicate and a lot of things got lost. The call gets dropped and I don't think much of it. \n\nWe finally somehow find the main group, i think just by walking around and that's when I get a call from the vice principal of the school. Apperently my parents had called the school and the police. The police we're going to get choppers ready but as it was already dark that wasn't feasible. So they started mounting a search party with dogs and the whole shebang. Luckily we found the main group before they really got going. \n\nLuckily there weren't any consequences except my parents getting a little mad about me missing to mention crucial details about our situation :)", "summary": "Got lost in the woods, called parents and didn't mention we had a teacher with us and cops started mounting search party for us."}
{"id": "t3_1515y3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27m] am having a falling out with my LDR [23f] caused by what I feel is no fault of my own. Are we done?", "post": "I started seeing my current girlfriend back in July after an event that we both frequent on an annual basis. She seemed like a great person; understanding, kind, bright, willing to give attention, the works. I wouldn't consider myself particularly deserving of her, so that marred the first month or so. Afterwards it was great, and despite the hundred-mile difference, we really seemed to click.\n\nRecently (since about Thanksgiving), though, I've been getting the sense that she is becoming more and more distant. Everytime I text her I can't get more than a few lines out of her and that's it. Small talk just gets a \"fine\", \"okay\", \"yeah whatever\", or something similar. A few days ago I brought to her in detail this same concern; that I thought we were drifting apart. I received no response at all regarding it.\n\nShe is supposed to come see me again during the week after New Year's, but I'm starting to have doubts. Should I cut things off? I feel like it's unlikely I'll get an opportunity like this again, but what's the sense in staying with someone who doesn't often communicate with you even though you try to communicate with her? I'm...confused and frustrated.", "summary": "girlfriend stopped communicating, not sure if I want to stay with her, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3u935p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my Mother [46F] - She's not willing to see us on Christmas because of new boyfriend", "post": "Our mother had us young, and there's only the two of us girls. Our Christmas tradition as we've gotten older has been to do Christmas Eve just the three of us or the three of us and my sister and I's SOs. We hang out, exchange gifts, and have a good time.\n\nThis year my mother has a new boyfriend they've been together for about a year and he has called \"dibs\" on Christmas and Christmas Eve.\n\nMy mom has placed him over us and stated she would be with him and we'd have to find another time to get together.\nHis response was that his family has a 30 year long tradition and our small tradition doesn't matter. He said \"with all due respect\" before saying it, fuck that there's no respect.\n\nI told him to his face that for her to put him above us is bullshit, boyfriends come and go, your children will always be there.\n\nMy mom has in the past been a pretty big nmom and places herself above us and everything else.\n\nAm I being unreasonable for being mad? I know we're older/not children anymore but it's been just the three of us for years and now she's throwing our traditions to the wind.", "summary": "Mom has chosen to spend Christmas/Eve with her new boyfriend  instead of her adult children. Ignoring our tradition of spending time alone together. She says we'll \"figure out\" a different day. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2qerx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help Me [22M] figure out next move with [21F]. What should i say or do after her last text?", "post": "I went out for a casual evening to the movies with girl I had met in college (we are in different courses). Next day I say we should catch some drinks on friday and she responds with:\n\n\"Hey I didn't mean to lead you on in any way - was just happy to go and watch a film with you. I currently have a boyfriend, so if that puts you off so be it, but if you'd still want to get coffee some time around college I'd be game. I'm usually very busy on Fridays.\"\n\nI then respond with: \"Hey no worries I understand, I'll be happy to get coffee anytime i see you around. Take care.\"\n\nThat was a month ago and there has been zero communication since then.\n\nCan you advise me on what my next moves should be. I was thinking of saying something like:\n\n \"hey there , I haven't heard from you in a long time, just wanted to check how you are doing and also to take the chance to wish you a happy new year.\" \n\nor should i just leave her alone? Was she just being nice to me in the message and was basically telling me to fuck off or was she saying she'd be open to seeing me more?", "summary": "Don't know how to precede with this girl who i have not texted in over a month. I don't mind if it is just to remain as friends I just want closure."}
{"id": "t3_2lqymk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking about being transgender while having sex", "post": "Before I start, I should say that I am a gender studies major and understand the LGBT community very well; being a bisexual woman, I am a part of it. Therefore, I have no intention of offending anyone affiliated with the LGBT community in any way, and apologize greatly if I do. \n\nThis actually happened a couple hours ago.\n\nTo preface, I have a horrible sense of humor. Very sarcastic and most of the time people just look at me like \"what the fuck is this bitch talking about?\" or \"why the fuck would you say that in this setting?\" But seriously, it gets bad. Basically, I have ZERO filter. It's gonna get me in actual trouble one day. Almost got me in trouble tonight.\n\nSo I'm \"dating\" this guy who is actually just about as sarcastic as me and for the most part doesn't have a filter either, but his is still better than mine. Actually, our first date, I got a call from my sister, and answered just in case it was an emergency (dick move, I know). I hung up and said, \"sorry, that was my husband.\" For a second he was like \"what?\" and then realized I was joking, and laughed. And he's pulled some clever jokes on me too, but this last one went a little too far.\n\nOkay, so to the fuck up. It was our first time having sex, and possibly the last. I was riding him, and then got off for a sec to take a breather, and said \"dude\" nonchalantly.. in a \"woah, that was nice\" kind of way. He then said,\"girl\" in a sarcastic way, because apparently you can't call girls \"dude.\" I said, \"You can call me dude... what, you didn't notice the surgical scars?\" His face was priceless. I was laughing and he was having a mini heart attack. I immediately said that I was kidding and after a few minutes we were able to continue. However, I have a feeling that he's not gonna want to see me again.", "summary": "Stopped to take a breather after riding a guy; Nonchalantly said \"dude,\" to which he replied \"girl,\" to which i replied \"You can call me dude... what, you didn't notice the surgical scars?\" "}
{"id": "t3_4md9jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my ex [24F] want to try our relationship again. We can't until she comes back from work in a months time. How do I go about this?", "post": "**I submitted an older post if you want more background on us\n\nI was the one dumped. I was NC for a while but had to break it (to get her stuff back to her), at which point we talked and agreed to try again in a months time. I asked her what she wanted to do this month and we both said we didn't want to see/hook up with anyone during this time, since it's sort of a pseudo-LDR right now (never been in a LDR either).\n\nBut I don't know how I'm supposed to go about this month, especially being the one who got dumped. We text all day long and it feels the same as when we were together (which texting after the breakup didnt), but there's no romantic texts or anything. I'm worried she might change her mind at some point and I'll be back to square one with the breakup. \n\nPart of me wants to go NC for the whole month and see where things are then. But...I *was* at fault for the breakup and I feel like I *should* be talking to her everyday, building her trust back, and showing her I'm different than before (because I truly am). I feel like me going NC would be mostly an ego thing as in, \"I'm amazing! If she doesn't see that she's not worth it! I'm the best thing ever!\"........when I wasn't in the relationship. I was a dick.\n\nI'm kind of lost. If we were both in the same city right now we would already be dating a bit and seeing where things go. I do want her back but I don't want to be pigeon-holed, and since I was the one dumped the ball is mostly in her court. \n\nAny advice? Maybe a way I can get her to give me some reassurance without being overbearing? Typing this out makes me sound pathetic.", "summary": "Ex dumped me. After NC for a while we agreed to try again in a months time when she gets back to the city. How should I go about this month?"}
{"id": "t3_9ifu6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Single + Crappy Town = How to meet girls?", "post": "I'm 26, I've finished college, I work at a company where the average age is 43, and my city nor any cities around me have social things to do that might be conducive to meeting people.  I'm hoping some of you out there might have overcome a similar circumstance, or can think of some social activities I'm not that my city might have (and I'm just overlooking them).  I don't have trouble talking with girls or anything; met and dated plenty of girls in college.  It's like that song says, \"If I could meet 'em I could get 'em, but as yet I haven't met 'em.  That's why I'm in the shape I'm in.\"   So please, HELP!", "summary": "Any ideas for meeting ladies in a small to medium (50k) southern town?"}
{"id": "t3_s3rd5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help with me choose a Canadian University? My future depends on you!", "post": "Hey Reddit, this is my first post ever, so I'll try to make it worthy of you guys and ladies. I'm currently in the final stretch of high school, with only a few more months to go. Thing is, report cards are being given out tomorrow and universities base their acceptances/rejections on these, or earlier good marks. I have been given early acceptance to Wilfrid Laurier Brantford for Journalism and McMaster University for Humanities. I have also applied to Laurier Brantford for Criminology (but you only get accepted to one program there), Queens (classics), Carlton (psychology) and University of Toronto (social sciences) (I applied for more, but I am positive I won't be accepted, even putting Queens on here is a stretch). So here's where you guys come into play. I need help deciding on my future, and before you start saying \"be a hobo\", I have consulted my parents about this, and they think I would make a terrible hobo (they specifically said I'm under-qualified). I have almost no knowledge of Laurier Brantford or of its Journalism program past some basic information, and I was wondering if any of you have experienced it, in recent times, or know anyone who has. I am very interested in writing and it is one of my strongest suits. I'm on the fence about McMaster as its programs aren't of much interest to me, past philosophy (which I feel would kick my ass, but would kick my ass in a classy way). Any help would be incredible, as I'm kind of nervous about my future :p. (just to let you know, I currently plan on going into law afterwards, as my current plans are for a job in criminal law, so I am considering switching from journalism to criminology at Laurier Brantford.)", "summary": "help me decide on my future"}
{"id": "t3_2w5z7z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my girlfriend's antidepressants would get me high", "post": "This actually happened yesterday, but it is still effecting me right now. Yesterday out of curiosity I decided to take a 100mg dose of my girlfriend's extremely powerful prescription antidepressant medication because if it can make depressed people feel good, then it should make an emotionally stable person like me feel *really* good, right guys? Because whats the harm in recklessly taking a prescription, brain-chemistry altering medication? \n\nIt didn't take me long to find out. The proper treatment process for the meds involved tells you to take a 50mg pill each day for a month before moving up to 100mg dosages. This is because the brain needs time to adjust to the changes in its chemistry. So what I had done was go from 0-60 miles an hour in about a second. I wish i knew this earlier. \n\nAbout half an hour later the nausea hit me. Soul-crushing, vomit inducing nausea. Then came dizziness, muscle fatigue (couldn't clench my fists properly), appetite loss, confusion and a general feeling of how fucking stupid I am for taking this bloody pill. I barely slept and even now, 14 hours later, I still feel incredibly nauseous, like I've been hit by a bad stomach virus. \n\nThere was no high, just pure suffering. I definitely learned a valuable lesson however.", "summary": "Don't fuck around with prescription drugs folks"}
{"id": "t3_txinl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bai Forever. More like tell Reddit, but maybe you can help.", "post": "Well. Bai Reddit. Its been fun, but I won't be coming back. My mom and dad don't like me anymore because I spend all my time on my computer mostly on Reddit and playing steam games. Apperently I have changed because of violent games and all my moms friends kids are better then me. I don't want to leave, but I have to. My mom told me the story of how my dad and his mom didn't get along and they finally started to and then she died. So she started crying and got mad because all my friends got more awards then me at the thing at school, but all my friends are asian, so I can't beat them. So. Bye. Its been fun. I didn't even get my first cake day. :(", "summary": "Mom hates me, gtg bai."}
{"id": "t3_2s1pkd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/M] Girlfriend's [18/F] Mom dislikes me and is pressuring girlfriend to choose between her Mom or me", "post": "Hi, this is my first submission I've ever done, so let me know if I've done anything wrong.\n\nBackground: My girlfriend, for the sake of names/privacy we'll just say her name is Gina, and I have been dating for about three months. Everything has been going great since the day we first started talking. Of course there have been minor arguments, but nothing out of this world crazy. We both are going to school and have talked a lot about staying together for a long time. I have always treated her well and have done everything I can to make her happy.\n\nEarlier today I found out that Gina's mom dislikes me a lot. I read a text message from her mom saying how she \"KNOWS\" I am not right for her. After talking to Gina about this I asked her if she was going to break up with me because of this debacle. She said she has been considering it but she doesnt want to and that it has been causing a lot of disharmony between her and her mother. She has no clue why her mom doesnt like me.\n\nI was distraught by this and I tried the best I could to tell her that her mom doesnt have to like me but that she should accept the fact that we love each other and learn to be ok with us dating. My impression is that her mom is afraid to lose her to me. I told Gina that she needs to stand up for her beliefs and if she cant do that, then we should break up.\n\nShe hasnt texted me back since I told her these things. I think its fair for me to want her to stand up to her mom and says what she wants. I have never treated her poorly so I dont think that is unfair of me to ask. Am I being ridiculous? Is her mom being ridiculous? Any advice on what to do in this situation would help a lot. Thank you for listening.", "summary": "Girlfriends mom doesnt like me and is pressuring girlfriend to break up with me. Told girlfriend she should stand up for what she wants or we should break up."}
{"id": "t3_2yldf9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to handle a workplace that is a serious factor in depression.", "post": "So, I want to preface this with I am super grateful for my job, and I actually love what I do. I understand that I am very lucky to have a well paying, moderately secure job in this environment. My problem lies with my work environment. \n\nI am having a hard time coming up with wording that doesnt sound like whining, or that I feel entitled. Honestly, I just need help and advice for how to deal with my workplace. \n\nI work for the state. I hold a pretty integral position in my program and am responsible for a lot of moving parts. On top of that, I am 20 to 40 years younger than my colleagues... and have been a go to for their \"technology\" needs. Its been... trying at best. I am often utilized above my pay grade and to be honest? Routinely taken advantage of.\n\nSince starting this position 2.5 years ago, Ive developed pretty severe depression. Ive seeked out medical help and have tried an assortment of meds. While they help for a while... it still gets pretty bad.\nThe work load is fine, but the environment is hostile and there is a lot of turnover in my program for being a state job.\n\nIm a primary provider for my family, so i cannot afford to leave and find alternative employment. Anything I do find, has a starting pay that is significantly lower than what I make now.\n\nDoes anyone have advice for how to deal with an debilitating work environment? I know I cant be the only one in this situation.\n\nSorry if this has been asked before... I just could use some help. :)", "summary": "Advice for making a miserable work environment bearable would be greatly appreciated. :)"}
{"id": "t3_3j10ed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [21 F] of six months, should I wait for her?", "post": "We're both seniors in college.\n\nWe've been friends since freshman year. \n\nHooked up on and off throughout the years, made it something real (i.e. commitment) in March. \n\nThings got serious (started talking about a future together, possibly moving to the same city post-graduation, consistently expressing our feelings for each other verbally). \n\nAt some point, her behavior changed. She became more distance, less intimate. When confronted, she said she wanted something less serious. A complete 180 degree change from what she had been saying. \n\nAfter our discussion, I \"changed\" what I wanted; said I wanted something less serious. \n\nNow, after discussing things with her tonight, I realized I've been lying to myself and want something more serious (i.e. more emotionally involved). \n\nShe says she's too busy to have something more serious, but when asked if she wants something more serious in the future she responded with \"maybe\". \n\nNow I'm conflicted and thinking about leaving because I've resigned myself to settling for something that isn't what I want, and I now hang upon a \"maybe\" to one day bring me what I'm looking for in a relationship.    \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "I want something serious and emotionally involved (i.e. something beyond the typical hang-bang-repeat). My girlfriend doesn't, but might in the future.  Should I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_v1nrp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having our house targetted for my younger brothers problems. What can we do?", "post": "My younger brother is in some trouble with the wrong people. They claim he stole from them and he denies it. They want their money.\n\n10 days ago they come to our home and attack the front door with a baseball bat, hurl abuse at my mother and myself (I was told I would be stabbed and my mother, raped.) My dog ran out of the door and chased them off. We called the police. They got arrested and released the same day with no charge.\n\nSince then my mum hasn't slept, scared they will return at night and do something worse. I went away for a few days on a planned trip away and left a friend to keep an eye and ear out for the first sign of trouble. Nothing.\n\nI come home and everyone seems a little less worked up and seemed to have calmed down. \n\n2 days ago they came back and stopped outside the house and shot our frontroom/lounge window with an air rifle. I saw them outside the house in the car which I made the police aware. They had their home searched and were arrested. Granted bail until a date on a drug charge that was from the search, nothing to do with our window and terrorising our neighbourhood. \n\nThe main guy is an utter scumbag. He sells Mephedrone/meowmeow to kids (as young as 12) and sits outside a local school to sell there. He has his brother run for him so he doesn't do any dirty work.", "summary": "Little brother is in trouble, having our house targetted by nasty people, police can't get them on anything. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_27nly2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[16M] fathers[38M] computer is filled with gay porn and his browser history shows he's been talking to guys online. I don't know what I'm supposed to do.", "post": "He's still married to my mom btw, and has three kids.\n\nMy computer died so I went on his computer, it was open and and a folder filled with videos of guys fucking was open. I was really shocked obviously and couldn't believe my eyes. I opened his browser and saw that he had some M4M chat sites open and after some digging I actually found some conversation he had saved, some even with the other guy on camera doing stuff so not just chatting. Thankfully my dad didn't go on camera.\n\nIt was like a fucking car crash, I couldn't look away. After like 20 minutes of this I left everything like it was and got the hell out of there.\n\nI just am completely stumped, this is something that shouldn't happen to a son. I have nothing against gay people by the way. My dad is just a normal dad, works construction and quite the macho stereotype. Maybe he's overcompensating now that I think about it.\n\nI feel like I'm going to just ignore this and do my best to look my father in the eye next time I see him. I feel guilty about mom though, she doesn't deserve this.", "summary": "Found gay porn and evidence my dad has been kind of cheating on my mom with other men, don't know what to do with the information."}
{"id": "t3_ocjff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get my friend to leave her boyfriend?", "post": "Okay, before you send down the hate, let me tell you that it's not what it sounds like. \n\nThe thing is, her boyfriend does not love her. He has actually openly admitted this, just straight up told her that he doesn't love her, and never had. He also says that she's annoying, hysterical, passive etc. He definitely wants to end their relationship.\n\nSo, what's the problem? Well, she loves him. She says that she loves him with all her heart, that she will always love him and that she will never love anyone else. He makes her sad, they have fights like every week and she's often depressed, but she claims that she still loves him. So, he won't leave her, he's staying in it just to make her happy. She doesn't want to be alone.\n\nHow can I get her to realize that she won't be happy like this? I have tried everything, but she won't ever leave him. It's worrying me, it feels like he's brainwashed her or something.\n\nOh, and maybe some info: They're both around 20, and have been together for something like 6 months. They live in different cities, but meet during the weekends.", "summary": "Friend's boyfriend doesn't want a relationship, friend won't stop loving him, please help"}
{"id": "t3_1z6pzq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by riding public transportation", "post": "This wasn't today, but last week. So I was down by the local UNI and decided to take the bus home. So I sat down, then at about two stops over a man in his late 30's was extremely high looked like he had just done crack. I had an open seat next to me and this man was shaking and picking at his skin, of course he sat down by me. I had my headphones in and without me even noticing he took my headphones then put it in I didn't notice until it was my stop and stood up and I kid you not this man was covering his ear so I couldn't take it out, I kindly asked him to take it out to which he did. Then I had noticed there was a nickel size glob of ear wax on my earbuds. I decided to toss my earbuds in the trash, but wait there's more. Later that night my right arm was itching and looked like the mans arm, I had my arm on the arm rest where his arm was for a certain amount of time and I kept scratching, after going to the doctor it was only poison ivy...", "summary": "Rode bus got poison ivy and lost a pair of earbuds"}
{"id": "t3_12zsw0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like my friends don't want to be friends anymore and tonight kind of confirmed my suspicions.", "post": "I've always had issues with being paranoid that I'm the friend no one really likes. Yesterday, one friend cancelled plans we had for today, and tonight, ~20 of my friends including the aforementioned friend all went out without me. They've been polite to my face, but otherwise have not been talking to me. We normally go out every weekend...\n\nI have two people who haven't let me down and I'm grateful to have them (Anna and Megan, you guys are fabulous!!), but shit like this makes me feel so horrible about myself.\n\nAlong with all of this, I had two major positions promised to me, and three of my friends went behind my back *while I was out of school/work for two weeks and nearly dying with mono* and got them instead of me. Annie, I fucking hate you for becoming captain while I was gone. Max, I usually don't like you anyway, but stealing my spot in honor band was fucking low, even for you. Isabella, you're a fucking awful human being for starting a gay-straight alliance right after *I* got permission from the activities director, you chose the most homophobic faculty member there is to sponsor it, and you didn't tell any of the bullied gay people here (myself included) about it. I really do hate you.\n\nI feel so beyond useless right now. All of this makes me feel like a failure, and trying to catch up with school while scheduling college visits and making it to work on time is killing me.", "summary": "Most of my friends have betrayed me and I'm a failure."}
{"id": "t3_51lzhc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can we make this work if we're broken up but still want to be together? [21M/F]", "post": "Confused? Yeah me too. So a little background, my ex girlfriend and I dated for over two years. Everything was going great until the last couple months we started fighting over little stuff that then snowballed into a bigger argument and resulted in us both agreeing that now is not the best time for us. That was about a month or so ago and now it's getting to the point of where what do we go next? We have both stayed loyal to each other and still hangout we just don't really talk all the time. Think of it as exclusive fuck buddies but with history. We're both college students through and with school starting up we know we're going to go out and party. We can't stop each other from being with anyone else we have just chosen not to since we've broken up but with going out more there is more incentive to be with other people. I know that if one of us were to hook up with someone else it would feel like that person is cheating even though it clearly is not. We have and still talk about our future and that we want to get married and everything but both agree now isn't the right time. Giving up on her isn't the right decision because she's my best friend but staying together in this awkward stage isn't the right decision either because I want more. So I come to my fellow redditors in hopes that at least one of you have gone through this and found something that made it work. I look forward to every piece of advice you guys can give me", "summary": "My ex and I want to be together forever but don't know what to do for now"}
{"id": "t3_33vxq6", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Major Commitments clash", "post": "I'm in my final year of college now and I have run into a problem. I've moved to a new school and I've had no problem fitting in but, I have a main group of friends that I play in the top rugby team with and the first game of the season is on Saturday 2nd of May. This is a problem as 2 months ago I put my name forward for a one-off 48 hour film festival with a different group of friends, that that goes non-stop from May 1st 7pm - May 3rd 7pm. Both are on at the same time and I am unsure about what I should do about it. \n\nRugby: If I miss this game I lose my starting position in the team and I don't want to let the team down (we have been training for 8 weeks.\n\nFilm festival: I said I would do it first week of new school and one guy has had to pull out due to a unexpected medical issue and we have all put in a registration bond so I don't want to pull out as they might have to pull out.", "summary": "I need advice about choosing between a one time film festival and the first game of the rugby season. I will need to make the decision within a few days"}
{"id": "t3_1hl4tn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18M] girlfriend [18F] just told me that for the first month she felt guilted into dating me", "post": "I don't want to make this too long but the title pretty much sums it up.\nWe were talking yesterday (skype) and I found out that during the first month that we were dating she didn't really feel \"a spark\" and was very close to breaking it off with me. The only reason she kept dating me at this point was because she knew that I loved her and felt guilty.\n\nWe have been dating for 4 months and are now madly in love with each other (teenagers right?) and I know that there is nothing to worry about now. I just don't know why it bothers me so much. Every time I think about her now and our past I keep thinking \"Did she go out with you that day because she felt something for you or because she felt obligated to?.\" I don't know. I still love her and I don't want this to end the relationship but it just really bothers me and I don't know if it should or not. \n\nI know she should have broken up with me but we are both so happy that she didn't. I find it hard to believe that dishonesty was good for our relationship..\n\nI don't know what I am looking for in terms of advice. I guess I just want /relationships/ 2 cents on the matter.", "summary": "Girlfriend just told me that she was very close to breaking up with me a month into the relationship (4 months so far) but only stayed because she knew I liked her a lot and felt guilty. After the first month she realized she loved me and everything is alright."}
{"id": "t3_3101g8", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "May have accidentally overdosed on acetaminophen please help", "post": "Okay so here goes.\n\nOn March 18 I was with a couple of my friends and went into their house. He suggested to do purple drank ( which is basically cough syrup with sprite to get a \"high\" effect). I decided that I would have some. I wasn't sure how much of the syrup he used as he just poured some in in a tall glass and poured in ginger ale. He split it evenly and we drank it. I immediately regretted this decision. It contained acetaminophen and I got worried that I may have overdosed. I tried to throw up in the washroom to get some out, which I did and then later we t home and threw up some more to try to get the most out of my system. It's been two weeks now and I don't know if I overdosed on it or not. I have had no symptoms of overdose other than a loss of appetite today. But can side effects come in later for liver damage and also how much acetaminophen is required to overdose? I am 14 years old, turning 15 in 3 months, 140 pounds and my height is around 5 foot 4 inches. Please help, I'm extremely worried. Also the syrup he used was NyQuil cold and flu relief", "summary": "I'm worried that I may have overdosed on acetaminophen two weeks  ago and is worried that I may have done damage to myself with no side effects of any harm. Also can I have any side effects two weeks after I took it?"}
{"id": "t3_50leqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "About to meet my [22F] boyfriend's [24M] ex girlfriend [22F]", "post": "I've been dating Charlie for about a year and a half now. We met in college through mutual friends, but at the time were both in relationships with other people and developed a decently close friendship. By chance, or some other turn of fate, we got broken up with by our SOs. Nothing spiteful; they just weren't working out and we're both on good terms with out exs.\n\nWe ended up going to a party where a drunk Charlie confessed his feelings for me. It all happened kind of fast, and at first I thought we were both rebounding, but it doesn't seem that way now.\n\nWe agreed to keep it on the DL though for the sake of our exs. This also included him not telling his entire close knit friend circle from his hometown, since his ex (Maria), was incredibly involved and they still hung out. I also didn't tell my friends who were mutuals with my ex, but since getting together, I've been telling my friends gradually. It wasn't always met with pretty responses, but overall it felt better to be honest with my friends and also not have to hide this guy that I love.\n\nIt took over a year of dating and a conversation about me feeling upset that he still hadn't told anyone for him to start. And even then he didn't tell Maria until a few weeks ago.\n\nNow, I'm prepping myself to meet his friends and Maria at their labor day barbecue. My main worry is how they'll react to me, because I can't help but feel like I'm the girl who's intruding on their friend circle that was once perfectly convenient (Charlie dated Maria, and there are three other long term couples, with others floating in and out). I know it might be dumb to be anxious over this, but any advice on how to deal with being nervous or how to navigate the situation would be very appreciated.", "summary": "Going to meet my boyfriend's close friends and ex, who up until a few months/a few weeks ago didn't know I existed"}
{"id": "t3_u3wc1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Am I doing something wrong?--Diet Questions", "post": "Hey all,\n5'11, 215 here. So after 22 years of not caring about my body, I finally decided that I want to get down to around 170-180. Based on suggestions from reddit, I'm using MyFitnessPal (AMAZING app by the way) and something doesn't seem to be adding up in my diet. \n\nI have a slow cooker, and last night I make some spicy salsa/alfredo chicken with carrots and potatoes. I used 3 lbs of chicken, and 1 lb each of carrots and potatoes. What I normally do is make enough for 2-3 days, and eat the same dinner each night until I cook again. (College student so no freezer in my summer dorm.) The total calories with the sauce/salsa came out to be about 2700, or 675 a meal if I separated it into four meals, which I did. \n\nWhat I don't understand is this: This is an ungodly amount of food. It's almost a pound of meat, and a half pound of root veggies and another half pound of sauce/tomatoes. I literally have difficulty eating two meals this large a day. For breakfast I normally have either a banana or half a cantaloupe with my black coffee, and I normally only drink water or tea, so how is around 1600 calories a day filling me up so much? I think I'm doing something wrong, because with a 40 minute jog, I'm apparently only retaining around 1200 calories a day on average? \n\nDon't get me wrong, twice a week I add 200 calories worth of pasta to my meal, and once a week I have sweets, but thats only when I get cravings for grain/sugar. I'm not cutting things out of my diet, just reducing them until I want them.", "summary": "I think I'm misunderstanding how calories work"}
{"id": "t3_4kofh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) keep going back to abusive ex (25M)", "post": "I've been in what I believe to be a abusive relationship for 3 yrs. I met my SO when I was 16 in high school. The abuse started verbally. Tons of name-calling, shaming me, cussing me out. Then moved physically where he would push and shove me, hit me, etc. \n\nEvery time I leave him I go back. I have extremely low self-esteem from being in this relationship and truly believe I deserve no better. He constantly manipulates and twists things around to make me feel like I'm the bad one. Or I'm the abuser. \n\nI get back with him in a moment of weakness and things start up right where they left off. I don't have family support or friends that I feel comfortable sharing with. For the past 3 years he has been my only confidant. I feel lost and alone without him. \n\nHow do I stay away from him? When I call it quits he shows up at my work or place until I talk to him. He calls and texts constantly until I answer. He is obsessed with me but I'm also obsessed with him. \n\nAs much as I want him out of my life. I am afraid to be without him and for him to just stop caring. I am desperate and scared and need support. If anyone has anyone advice I would so appreciate it. Thanks!", "summary": "Trying to leave a abusive relationship but always end up going back. How do I stay away for good?"}
{"id": "t3_264qnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [47 M] online date [40F] 1 month. She seems to lack intellectual curiosity. Should I cut my losses? Female advice particularly welcome.", "post": "We were introduced to each other by her aunt who lives near my house.  \n\nShe and I are in different countries.  \n\nWe talked on the phone once.  \n\nWe mostly communicate via Facebook sms.  \n\nI use my laptop and type.  \n\nShe supposedly uses her newly purchased hand phone.  \n\nIn the past one month, we communicated about 3 times a week.  \n\nI find that whenever I mentioned something happening in my life, I only get a couple of comments from her at most.  \n\nFor example, I mentioned to her that I am going to an improv class tonight and I will teach this class next Sunday.  \n\nShe basically just commented : \"What time yr class will get started?\"  \n\nNo questions about why I like improv, what improv is, etc.  \n\nNot the way I would react.  \n\nIf the role was reversed, I would have asked at least half a dozen questions about improv or anything she is interested in in her life , even if I find the topic boring.  \n\nSeems to me I am more interested in her life than she is in mine.  \n\nShould I be honest with her and ask her why she seems to be holding back?  \n\nShould I just say to her that is it between us ?  \n\nDating is kind of rusty for me.  \n\nAny advice?\n\nThank you very much in advance.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1dkljp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Email header question: did Mastercard scam me from seeing Justin Timberlake?", "post": "I got an email the other day inviting me to sign up for a \"Mastercard Priceless\" event where I would get an email and then have the opportunity to buy tickets to a Justin Timberlake concert for a small group in New York City.\n\nI received an email today to my gmail account at 1:39PM Eastern Standard Time and immediately clicked on the link to try to buy tickets. Alas, they were sold out even though I clicked on the link within 10 seconds of receiving the email.\n\nThen I reread the email and saw that the tickets went on sale at noon, 12:00pm and felt cheated because I hadn't even received the email until 99 minutes after the sale was open to the public. No wonder the concert was sold out so quickly.\n\nDoubling back to the email I noticed that the timestamp it was received by my gmail account was 13:39:09 Eastern Time, but that it had been sent from Mastercard with a timestamp of 10:21:12 Eastern Time. \n\n**What's up with the 3+ hour delay?**\n\nCan someone look at the email header and help me understand it a little better? I uploaded it [here] I'm just curious if the delay would have innocently been caused by Mastercard's bulk-mail sending service, Gmail delaying delivery for some reason, or whether it was a scam from the get-go with Mastercard knowingly sending me an email for a concert that they knew would be sold out before I possibly could have clicked the link......\n\nThanks in Advance.", "summary": "Got email in afternoon that I'd be able to buy high-demand tickets \"soon\". Realized \"soon\" had already clocked out for the day, taken the subway home, and was sitting on the couch with a beer."}
{"id": "t3_4rbnll", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying 1.6M \u20ac worth of paint", "post": "This TIFU actually happened today at work. \n\nI work as a chemical worker at a company who sells expensive paint. We are the guys who mix chemical components to get the right color and other specific properties. \n\nThe TIFU was, now that I think about it, not even only my fault but still my boss thinks so.\n\nI was synthesizing some chemicals in a 15.000L tank and had to take a sample of the product.\n\nNote: The product has to be 100% white \n\nThis would have been the last thing on my list to finish the day. As I went to the device for extracting samples I noticed it wasn't there. Someone assembled it and forgot to install it again. \n\nI asked my boss what to do and he said I should extract the sample manual through the manhole (big opening of the tank). \nThe manhole is most of the time closed because we change the pressure in the tank often + that nothing can contaminate the white product. \n\nThis is where I fucked up - after opening the manhole I had to get a hose for the exhaust air, because of the poisonous gas that could now exit the tank. As I hung the tube above the hole some violet water ran down into the manhole, repainting the whole product (12.000L) into a pinkish color. Of cause I got yelled at, because the paint was worth 1.6 million euro.  Hope that I don't get fired...", "summary": "TIFU by accidentally reprinting white paint worth of 1.6M \u20ac"}
{"id": "t3_1eudlu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19f] deal with having a partner [22M] whose had the \"one\" pass away?", "post": "Ive been dating (22m) for about 5 months now, and Im beginning to really fall for him and its looking like it could be a serious relationship. But when he was 20 he had the love of his life (19f) die in his arms of a drug overdose. Obviously he was very traumatized by this and its going to effect him for the rest of his life. In his words, she was the one, the love of his life, but hes accepted that he cant be with her.\nHe talks about her a lot, which Im okay with. He has a tattoo representing her on his shoulder, and he never takes off a necklace she gave him. I dont want him to, thats not fair of me to ask him to put that all away because its what made him who he is today and he doesn't want to forget her.\nThis may sound incredibly selfish, but how do you deal with the fact that your SO is only with you because a girl is dead? Ill never be his \"one\" and hell probably never be mine, and if she were here he would drop everything i a second to be with her. But his life shouldnt end because his girlfriends did.. Im the first semi serious relationship hes been in since her so I dont think he really knows what to do either.\nI dont have anyone to talk to thats been through something similar, or has had an SO die or had their SOs previous so die. If anyone has been through something similar I would really love to hear how they dealt with it and got through it, or didnt get through it.", "summary": "Boyfriend's old girlfriend died in his arms, how do I be in a relationship with someone who will always rather be with someone he can't?"}
{"id": "t3_qcbtp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "While in, or holding an interview, what is the most interesting or absurd thing that has occured?", "post": "Doesn't have to mean it was even a part of the actual interview itself, it could be something regarding the setting (e.g. your interview for a tech firm being held at a zoo), or unexpected event that occurred (like a sudden fire in the building). Im sure some of you have some much more interesting things, or pranks you pulled than what my friend experienced below, so I would love to hear.\n\nFriend was sitting in HQ's for a snowboarding company waiting for her interview. It was right before noon, and suddenly a large group of people fully decked out in snowboarding gear and equipment gregariously burst through the door and started herding everyone (including my confused and flustered friend who they had never met) to one of the conference rooms with gregarious shouts of \"PIZZA HERE\". The group then proceeded to eat lunch and shoot the shit, absorbing her in like a friend before she ended up doing the interview. Apparently when the weather is nice, employees can run off and hit the slopes for a couple hours as long as they bring back lunch or dinner (depending on the time of day they leave)\n\nObviously this isn't the most ridiculous thing to ever occur, but it sure as hell was more interesting than anything that has ever happened to me.", "summary": "Friend waiting for interview and is greeted by a herd of employees showing up hours late after deciding to go snowboarding before work"}
{"id": "t3_344s7a", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Broke up with gif have letter that haven't sent. What to do.", "post": "I recently broke up with my gf (about 4 months ago). I still care deeply for her and I wish her the best. I can't go into details but we broke up because of things that couldn't change. No one was a bad person, it just didn't turn out as expected. This was a multiple year relationship. I wrote a letter to her but I haven't sent it yet. It's been in my car for the past 2 months. It basically says \"I still care for you and I always will. I hope you find someone that makes you happy.\" Or something to that regard.\n\nI don't want to get back together, just want to tell her that I still care for her and shit.", "summary": "broke up. Have letter. Don't want to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_2flzed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 2 years are having an issue over a college anime club.", "post": "I'm going to college this year and joined and already participated in the anime club. I told her and she got really sad and upset at me about it. I asked her why and she said it was our thing and wants me to wait a year for her until she gets here to go to the club.\n\nAfter a lot of arguing, I lost my temper (which never happens) while talking on the phone and yelled and then proceeded to cry. I immediately regretted it and felt so bad, but now she is telling me to go since I got so  mad at her, even though it will make her sad, she regrets bringing this up. \n\nI feel absolutely horrible for everything I did and she doesn't realize even after telling her so much and trying to console her and trying my best to make it up to her, the only thing I think that will make her happy is if I don't go to the club, but I really enjoyed it and want to go. I'm just so lost and confused on what to do, please someone help.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I got in an argument, it spiraled downwards and got worse, please help my situation."}
{"id": "t3_3mteeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend[29 M] together a year and a half, positive problem, I love his family and mine but, I don't know how to get them all together.", "post": "Myself and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half now. I love his family, my family loves him and as far as I can make out his family love me. It's a great situation. \n\nI am very family orientated. I love family gatherings, birthday parties, anniversaries, holidays together. Myself and my boyfriend have been living together now for a while and I see a lot of his family and he sees a lot of mine. We have no plans for engagement or marriage just yet. \n\nI live in the city and his family mostly live about an hour and a half a way. One of his brothers live close. My brother lives in another country. \n\nI would love my family to meet his family. They don't often get together (there is seven in the family and they are all adults so it is hard) maybe four or five times a year, which is more then most. \n\nBecause engagement and marriage isn't on the cards yet I was just wondering how could I possibly get them at something all together. I would just love them to all meet. My boyfriend is graduating from college in November but, my brother won't be around for that. \n\nI would just love to arrange something to have everyone together and meet everyone. It is important to me. Our apartment is too small to host anything and my boyfriends mother is on her own so I wouldn't like it to just be my parents and her. \n\nI don't know a natural way to get everyone together but, I would love for them all to meet each other at this stage as I am very close to his family and my family is very close to him. Is there a tactful way to do this? I am assuming sometime close to christmas? Or is this just kinda weird to want with out marriage and engagement on the cards?", "summary": "Would love for my boyfriends family and my family to meet but, cannot think of an event or an excuse to do so outside of the traditional engagement/marriage stuff which would be traditional."}
{"id": "t3_4ghy1o", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Update: First date done, some questions...", "post": "Hi,\n\nsome days ago I submitted [this post] about me meeting a girl I met in a bar.\n\nTurned out she lives in my street, maybe 50 meter next to me. I am pretty happy.\n\nSo we met and since it was sunday and in my country stores and others things are not allowed to open at sunday, we decided to meet, go for a walk, talk, go with my dog and so on. I am really into her and we share the same mental attitude to live and a lot of things.\n\nSo after we walked and chilled in the nature for many hours I told her that I find her pretty. It seemed like it would get really cold and maybe snow or rain. She said that she is going home now...we went to our street again and when we parted we just stood there...you know.\n\nI think she had \"that look\" in her eyes. I thought about kissing her but since we havent gotten \"that close\" over the whole day I didnt have the balls to do it. So I just looked her in the eyes, hugge her, kissed her cheecks. She looked surprised as if she was expecting a kiss...but afterwards I felt it would be awkward to go for it again. I feel like an complete idiot now.\n\nWas this a huge mistake to not go for the kiss. We know each other for 3 days now, but I am kind of shy and I dont know. Does she think that I am not interessted now?", "summary": "Met girl, went out with her, she had to go home, had that look in eyes, I didnt have the balls to kiss her directly on the mouth, did I fuck up?"}
{"id": "t3_w0gzh", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I wanted the girl version of me so I rejected the girl who loved the me version of me", "post": "So my girlfriend (25) and I (27m) just broke up a bit over a week ago. We agreed that it was the right decision because our lives seemed to be moving in different directions and we didn't share interest in enough activities. She pointed out that I seemed disinterested in her towards the end, which I was guilty of, and that I just didn't seem to try to help the relationship mature. We had been living together for a bit before this and we are now staying at friends trying to find new places to live.\n\nOver the past few days I've obviously done a lot of thinking and have begun to realize that I may have made a terrible mistake letting our relationship fall apart. Sure, she didn't like to do all the same things as me, but she liked that I did them. She accepted me for exactly who I was and didn't ever try to change me and I grew disinterested because we didn't hold every interest in common. We enjoyed the same life \"outline\" but differed in a lot of the details. Is it necessary to share all the same interests or does that eventually lead to some sort of over connectedness?\n\nIt's only after losing her that I've realized truly what I had and it may well be too late to fix it.", "summary": "I wanted the girl version of me so I rejected the girl who loved the me version of me."}
{"id": "t3_w0k07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New to dating.. what's the definition?", "post": "Me (27f) and him (29m)\n\nSo its been almost a year from my last relationship that was 2 years long, and I'm a little out of the loop as far as getting back into the dating scene.  I've been seeing a guy for about a month so far. He's a really sweet guy, takes me out on dates, still opens car doors and seats me when we go out to eat, and just over all well mannered and a bit chivalrous (which is adorable).  We get along great so far, have a lot of things in common and all that jazz... But the other day I got the feeling that he was hinting at the \"what are we\" talk.  We had aleady established that we are very monogamous people, but haven't really defined what we are. We sleep over at eachother's places, and see eachother almost every day, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I've started to have some strong feelings for him so far, but not really sure what to call us yet. \n\nI wouldn't mind being his girlfriend... Honestly I'm secretly hoping for it, but I don't want to be the first person to admit my feelings. Not sure if its because I'm scared of rejection (though I highly doubt he'd reject me at this point), if one month is sufficient enough in time to justify my secret feelings, or if I'm just not cut out for this kind of thing.\n\nSo guys, I'm just looking for a little advice here. Play it cool and see if/when he brings it up again? Or would it be completely off base for me to flat out bring it up instead of beating around the bush for who knows how long?", "summary": "wondering when is the right time to have the \"what are we\" talk and what justifies the admission of these feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2dh2g7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) am falling in love with my SO (25M) and it is not making me feel happy", "post": "I've been seeing my new SO for almost 5 months.  He is an amazing person on the inside with devilishly good looks and he makes me incredibly happy.  Everything about our relationship is good, in fact almost perfect.\n\nHowever, 9 months ago I got out of a terrible on and off 5.5 year relationship, one that made me want to give up on love because of the pain he caused me for years during that relationship.  Well now I am with someone I could have only dreamed about, who really likes me for everything that I am and I am falling in love with him.  It has been freaking me out a little, and now I am extremely nervous and anxious about these new found feelings and it is making me upset.  \n\nI know it's scary to be vulnerable and that I can't live my life scared of being hurt again.. but the idea of being in love again makes me totally uneasy.  I just wish I could be happy about falling for someone so great, but instead I am worried that he will hurt me or worse I will freak myself out over it and push him away.  Does anyone have advice?", "summary": "I am falling in love with an amazing man and instead of being happy, I am upset because I am so anxious and nervous about feeling this way.  Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_3080hc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] asking out TF [20sM]? Talk some sense into me!", "post": "Hello /r/relationships, or as I sometimes call it relationshits...\n\nI'm in a bit of a pickle. Not sure what to do. I'm graduating from undergrad this May and have developed a bit of a crush on my TF (Teaching Fellow) in one of the courses I'm taking. I'm interested in asking him out for coffee after final grades are submitted... But here's where I'm not sure what to do.\n\nMaybe this is me being neurotic, but I feel like it would be selfish of me to convey interest because I already know I'm moving away after graduation (ie different part of the country) and WON'T be on campus. So... What would be the point of a single coffee date? (Though I do want to get to know him better even if it was just as a friend.)\n\nAdditionally, for anyone who's been in this position before... Is it creepy or flattering to have an old student ask you out? Said TF and I have chit-chatted a decent amount. He's definitely single, it somehow came up in conersation in the past. I'm performing above average in his course but... I definitely don't want to creep him out. Is it for the best to just keep silent?", "summary": "version: Senior about to graduate crushing on TF. Already know I'm moving away after graduation. Is it selfish / creepy to ask him out for coffee anyway? "}
{"id": "t3_d9tei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I making the biggest mistake of my life here?", "post": "Hello, there! First time poster, not so long time redditor here.\n\nFirst off, I believe that personal problems must be solved by oneself, but I would really appreciate some outside input/similar experiences.\n\nAlmost 2 years ago I've met a girl that, for all intents and purposes, is the perfect girl for me. We have shared hobbies, she's awesomely pretty, she reads Pratchett, plays Munchkin with me, she's very smart and she even plays video games (we've bought a console together). \n\nWhat is the problem then, you might ask? Well, the problem is that she's almost 5 years younger than me. I'm 25.\n\nShe says she loves me, and I believe her. But she also dropped a few hints about the fact that she feels like she's settling down too early. \n\nSo we've had a few talks about that and I was right. And we came to the conclusion that we should take a break. Well, I came to the conclusion, because I don't want her to feel that she's losing something because of me. \n\nSo, in a few days we'll be both single, and I don't know if I did the right thing. Yes, it feels like the right thing, but at the same time it breaks me inside. \n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Boy and girl. After a 2 year relationship, even though we get along perfectly, girl is afraid of settling down. Both agree to take a break. "}
{"id": "t3_qy1py", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So it's over, i guess? Nearly 2 weeks with no txts, confused and need direction.", "post": "Greetings Reddit,\n\nThrow away acct. So I'm a M(29), her F(33). Been together almost 2 months now. So I'll jump right into it. She's great, we enjoy the same things, haven't dissagreed on really anything so far, and we have established a rapport over txts mostly that just works. (txt is how she communicates mainly)\n\nSkip to two weeks ago... we end up spending 3 days in a row together, dinner and a movie one night, just a walk for ice cream the next (on her suggestion), went walking around down town the 3rd, so far so good i think. \n\nWe're supposed to meet up again for a sporting event we both planned and bought tickets to when I get a txt that a room mate of hers became violent and they came to blows in the wee hours of the morning. Over the last few weeks she has been opening up about being in an abusive relationship in the past and how she is in a similar situation with her living arangements (in short she doesn't really defend herself and people have taken advantage of this).\n\nHer lease is up in a month and she had planned to move back with her folks for the time being but this 'event' spurred this process forward to leaving 'right now'. I offered to help if needed and got a txt back that did not seem her normal self stating \"this was a long time coming, and this is something she needs to do alone, she hopes I understand, I just need some space right now, I will txt you next week when it all settles down, i dont want you to see me like this\" (paraphrased).\n\nWell as the title states... it's been nearly 2 weeks and not a peep. I haven't sent anything thus far and a female coworker of mine suggested maybe i sent an informal 'how you holding up' txt, while all my guy friends suggest 'dont you dare txt that woman!' etc, etc. \n\nWhat are your thoughts Reddit? Hit me... I'm lost.", "summary": "Ladyfriend was showing nothing but possitive interest for over 6 weeks then had a violent encounter with a roommate. Txt'd she is moving out, and haven't heard back in nearly 2 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_2emt81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[18 F] undateable?", "post": "I have no social life and I'm closeted. Mainly because I'm not entirely sure if I'm gay or bi. I have a feeling that I'm gay, but I keep on thinking that I'm possibly bi. \n\nI have depression, anxiety and possibly ADHD and OCD. I haven't been able to regularly go to school since I was in middle school because of these issues. I also can't work right now.\n\nMy life is just a complete mess and no one worth dating is attracted to me. The only people who seem to like me are creepy special ed guys.\n\nI have a feeling that the people who I want to date wouldn't want to date me. I just have no life.", "summary": "I'm depressed and have no social life. Does that make me undateable."}
{"id": "t3_1kkemy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [f/28] silly for wanting 3 words from my older man [40]?", "post": "I've been with my older boyfriend for 9 months and everything is going great - he's kind, trustworthy, considerate, we get on with each other's parents and friends. Best relationship I've ever had. We haven't argued once and there's never any drama.\n\nOnly thing bugging me is he hasn't said 'I love you' yet. I really need to hear it. Is that silly/too soon/expecting too much/normal??\n\nI know that I love him, but I don't want to say it first. There are a few reasons, mainly that I want to know he means it and isn't just saying it back. (I made the first move and we joke about this - but in all seriousness I wish it was the other way around and want him to make *this* move first!)\n\nAnother reason it concerns me is that he has said those words to other people a lot sooner than 9 months. He was married for over 10 years and has a child with his ex. After their marriage ended but before we met, he had a very short but intense relationship with another woman. They only dated a few months but I have seen correspondence between them stating they love each other. \n\nOur relationship seems so perfect so why hasn't he said it to me when he did to her? :(", "summary": "9 months and boyfriend hasn't said 'I love you', even though everything seems perfect. He said it to an ex a lot sooner!"}
{"id": "t3_1b8z36", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How to move to Australia?", "post": "I am an American looking to move to the Melbourne area for work. My girlfriend has found an agency that places teachers in the Melbourne area. The placement agency explains that my girlfriend will have to apply for a work visa for the first year after which she will then determine whether she will stay or not and be placed full time. \nI on the other hand am a Quality Chemist I have a few questions\nHow do I begin the process? I assume I apply for a job and ask the companies to sponsor me?\nDo I need to apply for a work visa?\nHow long does this process take, if I am accepted by a company?\nIs Melbourne as awesome as it sounds? I have never been there but have dreamed about moving to another country.", "summary": "How do I apply to move to Australia from USA for work?"}
{"id": "t3_2dl7bn", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Men's Health Question", "post": "From time to time, I will get a pain in my left testicle.  It is not a constant pain, but it's noticeable when poked.  I most frequently associate this with periods when I am running the most (i.e. marathon training) and it usually accompanied by tightness / soreness in my hips / pelvis.\n\nA full body massage usually lessens the pain.\n\nI am wondering if this is similar to sciatic pain in which a nerve is being pinched by a tight muscle in a different region and / or if anyone else has similar and / or can suggest the muscle / trigger point that might be doing this.\n\nI've been to several urologists / been ultra sounded several times over the years.  My current urologist is board certified and has been practicing for 40 years so torsion, hernia, cancer, etc ... have all been safely ruled out.", "summary": "Running a lot ... testicle bothering me ... maybe tight muscles?"}
{"id": "t3_1hfdzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "<Dating> [30M] soon to be in a complicated situation with [24F]. Favourite drinking establishment could be in jeopardy. Advice required!", "post": "Here is the run-down of my current predicament. I'd love to hear your advice guys and gals!\n\nI know this fantastic, intelligent, attractive girl who works behind the bar at my favourite socialising venue and I've kinda had a crush on her for about a year, but it's never really been a big deal. We've both had relationships within that year, but are both currently single.\n\nAbout a month ago, she posted on FB that she had been let down by a landlord and needed a transitional living arrangement for the month of August. So, being the helpful person I am, I offered my spare room to accommodate her. She accepted and is moving in for a month.\n\nNow, although we have chatted a few times in the bar, we hadn't really spent any time together outside of the barmaid/booze-hound dynamic...that is, until last weekend.\n\nShe had the night off and randomly showed up in the same place that I was. We sat, we talked, we drank, we laughed...it was a great night; the first time we actually got to know each other a little more. It seemed as though she enjoyed herself as much as I did!\n\nThe problem I'm having now is that I like her more than a crush, and don't know if this month of flat-sharing will ruin our new friendship, or generate the spark needed for something a little more!\n\nI want to ask her out for fun days or nights out before she moves in, but I feel like she might sense that I like her and think that it was all a ploy to get close to her. I had no real idea that I wanted to get closer until our random encounter the other night, now I can't stop thinking about her.\n\nGuys, what would you do in my current situation?\nAnd Girls, would it be wrong to use this as a chance to get closer to her? How would you react in this situation, from a female perspective?", "summary": "1. Known her for a year, 2. She works at my fave bar, 3. I offered her a room in my apartment for the month of august, 5. Don't want to scare her away, 6. Don't want to miss chance to have awesome girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_28a6h1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Where do i find the nerdy girls?", "post": "So as i cross into the part of my life where im tired of hooking up with \"hot chicks\" from the bar or girls i meet in the city for the weekend i come to a real struggle... It seems i have no problem enlarging my crowd more and more of my dude friends who love to come over and play video games all night with some beers or want to play PC games online all night after a long day of work and want to unwind that way instead of a long long night out on the town right? Where are the girls who enjoy this type of behavior and why are they so few and far between? It seems that women who enjoy to be nerds are in such short supply they are next to impossible to find! I would love to find a chick who would be cool with getting down on some video games friday night rather than having to wine and dine her for an entire weekend to feel like she has a purpose... I come to you reddit to point out some locations that these types of girls frequent or what to look for when finding one...", "summary": "Where the nerd chicks at?"}
{"id": "t3_2wvu52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] really like a girl [17F] who is a teen mother UPDATE", "post": "Link to original post: \n\nNot really going to be a huge update, but i think im approaching a time where im really gonna have to face what i spoke about in my last post. The romance between Emma and I is really beginning to turn into something so to speak. \n\nI had her over for the weekend (my mom was out of town) and we had a great time. Drank a couple beers and chatted on Saturday night and watched the Oscars together last night (first time watching for both of us).\n\nWell basically, last night thinks kind of heated up a bit. We did a lot of talking about just life in general and the direction we're both headed, how important it is to get her highschool diploma and not adult diploma (for her daughters sake, and hers) and a lot of talking about her asswipe baby daddy. At certain points she became visibly upset and i came over to comfort her, and I really layed on the cute things that girls love. It was almost an instinct, it just felt so right in the moment. I played with her hair, layed down next to her, we cuddled, things like that.\n\nWell eventually it was time for bed as we both have school today, so i got her all set up in my bedroom (she sleeps in there alone when she comes over for a night and I crash on the couch) and was about to head downstairs, but she asked me to get into bed with her cause it was cold. We laid there and talked for awhile and she cuddled me for basically the whole night (we fell asleep). She woke me up maybe a half hour ago with a few really soft kisses and headed off to her house to get ready for school (she lives about a five minute walk from me).\n\nThis is the furthest from platonic we have gone, and like i said in my last post the chemistry is DEFINITELY there. I am at a point where i really want to persue a relationship with this girl, but im still afraid of my mother getting in the way (see my last post). The only thing between me and this amazing girl is the fact that I cannot see my mother accepting her simply because she has a daughter, and its honestly torture.", "summary": "Things went further in a romantic direction for Emma and I and i feel like the time is coming where im going to have to deal with the issues my mother will inevitably cause because of Emma's daughter."}
{"id": "t3_1mjyb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29f] am in a good loving relationship with my boyfriend[28m] the only issue is I want to get married, he doesn't.", "post": "Our relationship is great, we love each other and get along well but moving forward I would like marriage and babies.\n He's on the fence about kids and firm on no marriage. We plan on moving in together soon and he's up for it, but doesn't ever seem all that excited about it either. \n I need advice on if leaving is a good idea. It would be hard to walk away from him, I don't think our relationship is one that will ever be easy to duplicate but I don't want to deny myself the things I want in life.\n I just wish we were on the same page but I fear that will never happen.", "summary": "The relationship is great, I want to get married but he doesn't and I don't know how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_e0m8n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Some help? My wife got bit by some kind of bug..The spots on her legs are necrotic...doctors baffled. Details inside.", "post": "She fell asleep on the floor of our cottage in Ontario, Canada. When she woke up it looked like she had 3 burns on her legs - water blisters etc. Then they turned black, first doctor said they were not burns, and gave her antibiotics. 2nd doctor said the same and gave her MRSa - level antibiotics after seeing the results of a swab (Several types of venom and some e-coli) - and yes we know about recluse spiders. Docs have no idea what did it, but think skin grafts may be required after possibly months on antibiotics. Anyone with any insight on this? Thanks in advance. \n\n(I can get you details on the test results, but not right away as I'm at work).", "summary": "doctors clueless, my wife's legs have black holes in them from mystery bug. "}
{"id": "t3_jqvhh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just had someone take a picture of my boyfriend in a public restroom...", "post": "The person switched stalls 4 times, then slid under his, took a picture, and left. We can not find the guy who did it. What should we do?", "summary": "Random stranger takes picture of boyfriend under stall, mentions penguins, runs away."}
{"id": "t3_1zldit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have been talking to [18 F] in my class. We do a quick conversation but don't talk much after. I'm also interested in asking her out but not sure how to go with that", "post": "Hopefully this doesn't become too long\n\nSo the girl i sit next to we generally just say simple things and actions but it just stops soon.  \n\nAn example is she'll look up me walking to my seat, she smiles at me, I smile at her.  I say something like \"Whats up\" and she'll say something pretty bland like \"nothing much, you?\" Then I said \"Ah, I just took two tests, so pretty tired and dead beat\" then it just kinda stops there\n\nI just assumed she doesn't like me so she doesn't want to talk much but half the time she starts the conversation with me. But sometimes (like today) we just didn't say anything to each other.  She also was homeschooled so maybe she doesn't know how to converse either?  I dunno\n\n  Also, I don't know if this matters but this professor is really weird and had us have assigned seats.  So we had two weeks of preparation for us to have our permanent seats, both of us haven't moved out seats and are now just sitting next to eachother\n\nEver since I was a kid I've been really shy/awkward especially too women (i've never dated) so I guess I'm just not sure how to keep the conversation going.  She's also generally one of the people in our class to be in class discussions but I'm generally not, maybe I should also start bringing my self in?", "summary": "Interested in a girl i sit with next to in class but our conversations are abrupt.  Need some help in keeping the conversation going"}
{"id": "t3_g40au", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I feel bad for it bothering me like this, but me and my girlfriend have yet to have sex, and it's been 4 months...", "post": "We're young, only 19, which is that age where usually, people are boning left, right, and centre. I'm not really one of those people (I'm about 15 months into my dry spell), I usually only have sex when I'm in a relationship, but I do have a pretty high sex drive which hasn't exactly made those 15 months seems short.\n\nAt first, I didn't think anything of it, because I figured \"oh, she just doesn't want to come across as being easy, I get that.\" But as time went on, it became less that thought in my head, and more \"why isn't she making any advances? I know she really likes me, but she never makes a move toward anything beyond just kissing.\" Until it became \"is there something wrong with me? Is it my body?\"\n\nThe worst part is, I'm the guy that girls usually turn to with their problems, and one of the ones I keep hearing about is that they think that guys only ever just want sex. Which isn't the case, I'm borderline falling \"in love\" with her (I put it like that because I'm only 19... I have to face reality that there will probably be an end to the relationship and it may just be hormones tricking me...) but the fact is, I have needs... It's like showing a starving man a feast, but not letting him eat. Like forcing someone to drink loads of water, stand him in front of a toilet, and tell him not to urinate.\n\nIt's a real concern that she just won't want to, ever. And I've had relationships like that before, and they didn't end prettily. I understand if she feels like there's pressure on her to perform, but there really wouldn't be any. I was just wondering if I could get some advice on what to do? If I talk to her about it, then she'd definitely know that it's something that bothers me, and that would only put more pressure into her head that doesn't need to be there...\n\nSorry about the amount of text there is, I think I started to ramble a little...", "summary": "It's been 15 months since getting any, and I don't know why she won't sleep with me."}
{"id": "t3_c4abt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Could Cerberus exist in the real world?", "post": "Conspiracy theories and mysterious organizations like The Illuminati aside (which exist to subvert), could [Cerberus] from the Mass Effect universe exist in the world?  If the organization had humanities best interests at heart and was benevolent in action could such an entity exist that operates outside of traditional law?  Meaning it has it's own government but exists in no particular country but which can also operate in any country without asking for permission from that country.\n\nThe thought process that lead up to this was the fact that a separate private entity could mobilize faster to help people when a natural disaster strikes without having to go through the normal legal channels that exist in that country.  Take the Disastrous Gulf Oil Spill as an example, even though a lot of things are being done to resolve the situation it seems as though there is an incredible amount of delay in fixing the issue from beginning to end, everything from the government and organizational level blame to the nitty gritty of the issue, which is action, just seems to be taking an exceptional amount of time for REAL ACTION to take place.\n\nCerberus, which is a fictional organization from a computer game, with supposedly unlimited funds and run by a guy only known as [The Illusive Man] operates outside of the law but wants to do what's best for humanity.  \n\nHonestly, I think problems in the world can be resolved A LOT quicker than how they are managed currently and it would almost always seem to be the law or some legislation that gets in the way of a timely resolution.\n\nSo say there were some billionaire in todays world that *truly* had access to unlimited resources, could such a person create this organization similar in outward appearance to Cerberus and actually help humanity without conceding to any nations laws, as long as they were benevolent?", "summary": "Could a gigantic organization that employed the **best people** and which had access to unlimited resources operate outside of any nations laws and help humanity when natural disaster strikes?*"}
{"id": "t3_1ohl68", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (18M) want to ask out a girl (18F) whom I haven't had contact with in 4 years", "post": "So I had this huge crush on this girl during my years in middle-school (Gr. 6-Gr.8) and I'm certain she felt the same, but we were both too nervous to do anything about it. When high-school started we both went to different schools and never had any contact since. I tried to forget about her, but I couldn't and it has caused me to not want to ask any other girl out. After meeting an old friend from middle-school, who went to the same high-school as she did, I came to learn that she attends a university near mine. This friend has rekindled a flame, but I have no clue how to ask her out, let alone approach her. How do I go about doing so? Is it even possible? I should also mention I have her as a friend on FB and the fact that she's also single.", "summary": "I want to ask a girl, whom I haven't had contact with since Gr. 8, out on a date. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_37x04f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by posting a picture of my nuts to my company facebook cover photo.", "post": "A little back story.  I had a vasectomy a couple weeks ago and couldn't see the scabs or check for bruises so i took a couple photos to check on things. I thought i erased them all...\n\nSo today after getting home from churchi check my phone to see if i missed anything.  I didn't miss anything, but i see the checkmark showing a Facebook upload.  I click on it and it goes to Facebook, but has no new pictures. Hmmmm. Oh well back to reddit... 10 minutes later my SO comes down from the bedroom and hands me her phone with Facebook open. What do i see? My shaved nuts with two red scabs from the vasectomy as the cover photo for my company's Facebook page!  I drop her phone and grab mine to change it. First pic i see is my nuts again then load a new pic of the sky.  Sigh of relief.  SO says \"ummm, it's still up there\"  damn damn damn... checknmy company page again, it's still in the news feed. Delete that too!  Hmmm ok now what? Every person who has liked my page got the notification of my cover photo changes and gets to see my nuts.  Lol sigh. Oh well, its just my mom, my sister, my SO, one of my friends, and my SO's sister. \n\nSo far no backlash, but i am pretty sure they are busy and will still see it later.", "summary": "my phone uploaded a pic of my post vasectomy nuts while i was at church."}
{"id": "t3_2naz2a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by beating up a kid with Asperger's.", "post": "TIFU: this probably took place an hour or so ago.\n\nFor context, I'm on a division 1 wrestling team. Its my fourth and final year one the team. I've started two of my years here, but not this year. All in all I'm decent college wrestler, I'll probably end my season with a 4-4 record or something like that.\n\nThe kid in question is a freshman an a walk on this year. He's not actually a half bad wrestler, although he will never be really competitive at a division one level he tries hard and he cares, which is more than you can say about most wrestlers who make it through four years. \n\nAnyways, today at practice this kid, who we will call C for now on, broke me. At the end of most practices partners wrestle \"live\" or match pace.  Today I was partnered with C, which is frustrating because for all his good intentions he doesn't do much to help me get better. The first part of live wrestling was a 6 minute go, only takedowns, by the end I had taken him down around ten times and was already getting frustrated. The next part of live wrestling was 8 minutes with partners alternating in the top and bottom positions. By the end of this session I knew I was losing my temper. The last go was 10 minutes straight in all positions. At this point I was beating the crap of him, being over aggressive with my cross faces and cranking arms harder than I should of. But C never slowed down, at this point he had begun crying, but he never slowed down. He kept trying to stand up and when he did he would be in my face. Tears be damned.\n\nThe frustrating part is that he doesn't move right, doesn't position himself to wrestle in flowing manner. Every move, no matter how successful, is frustrating because C has his hands in you face. By the end of practice I had lost my temper. I knew it, my coach knew it, my teammates coming in for next session of wrestling knew it. It may of been all forgivable though, after all C choose to be on the team and no one else would receive any sympathy in his position, if only I didn't step on his back while standing up at the end of practice.", "summary": "I might be a dick and now instead of writing my paper in the library I'm writing this post."}
{"id": "t3_4mjl5i", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need advice on moving out of home", "post": "I'm a 19 year old male living at home with no job, no car/open license or educational obligations. I have spent the past year working full time and just recently had to quit. I have now had to give all of the money I saved to my mother because of financial issues. I do not get any assistance with driving lessons or hours and am quite frankly treated like a house servant fetching things for my mother or constantly cleaning. My mother is becoming increasingly abusive and does nothing but complain about the smallest things (e.g: a hair on the bathroom floor = scrubbing the floors and benches) As hard as it is to get the motivation to get myself out there, her taunts and harsh words make my almost non existent confidence and self worth basically non existent. \n\nNow that brings me to why I need advice, a friend of mine has offered me to live with him as long as I help pay rent every week. The only way I can get money at this very moment is by getting benefits from the government.. \n\nSo, should I stay with my mother and put up with her constant belittling/complaints and try to push through what she is throwing at me? or move out with my friend with no money, no job, no car, no license or educational obligations?", "summary": "no money, no job, no car, no license or educational obligations. should I stay with abusive mother or friend?"}
{"id": "t3_45vngq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a male friend as a +1", "post": "For starters, I am a straight male.\n\nSo with the school ball coming up I thought it would be a great idea to get a friend who had moved away 2-3 years ago to come as my external partner. Unbeknownst to me this option is given to actual partners, it's not just an invite your friend thing. So in blissful ignorance I filled out my side of the forms and sent them to the friend for him to sign his sections. \n\nAll was going well until I heard the beginnings of an awkward conversation my mum was having on the phone. Mum gave me that look as I walked into the room and stood there silently, not knowing what the hell was going on. As it turns out the school rang my mum to say how wonderful it was that a gay couple would be coming to the ball, and they just needed to properly fill one of the forms out (and also that the reason the due date is being extended is because \"we are gay\"). She gives the phone to me to sort it out and I have the most awkward 15 minute conversation in the history of the universe. As I hung up the phone I realised I hadn't actually disputed the fact that I was gay. I walk back past mum to hang the phone up and she is still giving me that look. She straight up asks me if I am gay on my way back, which I do dispute, and she continues to press me. \"Are you sure, now would be a good time to come out. Mrs Blank is fairly certain that you are.\" I maintain the fact that no, I do not have an interest in men, and she eventually lets up, still looking like she doesn't believe me. \n\nSo now I have to decide if the special treatment given by the teachers at my school is worth having a friend come to the ball. It probably is.", "summary": "Partner means partner and my school loves the gays"}
{"id": "t3_1wot7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 2 years. I'm unhappy and find comfort in a male friend that I grow feelings for. Did I make the right decision?", "post": "Am I making the right decision? \n\nI have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past couple of months I have been very unhappy. He was changing in a negative way. Just recently I have confronted him on how I was feeling and he  agreed with my opinion of him.\n\nAfter 2 weeks there was some positive changes being made and I could tell my boyfriend was really trying to be a better person and treat me better. \n\nI met a guy at work and started being friends with him and I opened up to him and told him about my relationship and how I was unhappy. He would talk to me all day and watch shows with me. He made me feel less alone. \n\nAfter talking to this friend and spending time with him I started to develop feelings for him. I felt emotionally torn between the two, my boyfriend and my friend. One night I broke up with my boyfriend telling him that I didn't want to be in the relationship anymore.\n\nI took some time to think and realized I didn't want to be without him, I didn't want to end the relationship I just wanted time with myself to figure everything out. I felt as if my friend and boyfriend have both been manipulating me a little bit.  \n\nThe day after, me and my boyfriend talked about everything and I confronted him with my feelings for my friend and that I didn't want to break up. \n\nMe and my boyfriend decided to stay together and I decided that it was best to keep my distance from this friend for awhile. Me and my boyfriend having been doing much better and I'm feeling happy with him again.\n\nBut I still want to talk and be friends with my other friend I'm just not sure its a good idea. I feel confused and very stuck and I would just like to know if you think I'm making the right decision.  \n\nAs harsh as your advice or opinions might be. Tell me, please. Thank you. \nAnd sorry if this was confusing. I left out small details and just stated the main point.", "summary": "I was having problems with my boyfriend and found comfort in a friend that i started to like. I broke up with my boyfriend and got back with him the next day. Now I'm taking time away from my friend and he's hurt by it. Am i making the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_gseot", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "invitation wording help: how do i say \"you're not invited to the actual wedding but the after party\"", "post": "my honey-pie (soon to be wifey-cakes) and i are getting married earlier in the day with just 40 folks made up of family and oldest friends. we're going to have an after the reception-reception where all the in town friends and not besties are invited. \n\nwe're struggling over the wording to use on the invitation.\n\nshe suggested:\n\n\"we're getting married (at a small private ceremony) join us for an open house party in our backyard.\"\n\ni feel \"small private ceremony\" is a little exclusive. the other options all don't make it clear that people are not coming to the actual wedding. just the 2nd reception.\n\nbefore you say it my family are really poor communicators and very gossip prone. if one of them thinks they are coming to the actual wedding they all will. but they are also easily wounded so i don't want to sound like a dick. there's nothing i can do to change this.", "summary": "how do i say \"small private ceremony\" in a nicer way"}
{"id": "t3_3r1hu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [18 M] of over one year, am I justified in my anger? Involves alcohol and helicopter parents.", "post": "My boyfriend Alex and I are long distance. I am a sophomore in college and he is finishing up his senior year in high school. It's tough but we see each other about once a month during the school year and we're together all summer and winter break. \n\nThis weekend, I came home because his family threw him a Halloween costume party for his 18th birthday, which was last week. It was mostly family but he invited a few of his friends. Now, Alex does not drink or smoke. I do not drink or smoke. I have in the past, but for personal reasons, I just don't enjoy either.\n\nAlex's friends brought over vape pens and were vaping in the basement. They also brought over a few Mike's Hard Lemonades, which obviously have a very low alcohol content, but Alex's parents are a bit insane. They are extremely strict, helicopter parents. If they knew people were smoking in their basement, and drinking, they would be furious.\n\nEven though Alex is eighteen, they \"punish\" him often still. They treat him like a child. I knew that his parents would come down and find everything in the basement so I was very uncomfortable. I did not want to put up with the wrath of his parents. But Alex was allowing his friends to do whatever they wanted. I think he was feeling very pressured.\n\nI mentioned to Alex numerous times that I did not think this was a good idea, but he just waved off my concerns. So I decided to leave. He got VERY angry, saying that I ruined this weekend, that I was shortening the little time we had together. I told him that I had mentioned I was uncomfortable and he did nothing about, so the next solution was to leave. I didn't want to leave, but I did not want to be there to see his parents freak out and I was just annoyed in general that Alex was giving in to peer pressure. Alex, though, is extremely pissed at me still. But I feel justified in being angry. I'm just looking out for him. What do you think?", "summary": "Boyfriend is being reckless, even though he knows his helicopter parents will punish him. I feel uncomfortable so I leave. He gets pissed. Am I justified in being angry?"}
{"id": "t3_3uyd3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] cheated on my girlfriend [18F]. Should I tell her?", "post": "It's been two days. I can't handle it anymore, I need advice. I have already cried twice. I hate myself and my choices. I am at a complete loss.\n\nTwo days ago, while home for thanksgiving break, I cheated on my girlfriend. We've only been dating for a few months but I care about her more than I could've imagined I would at this point. I was with friends, drinking, and had waaaay too much. I was near blackout drunk, and stepped into another room (away from my friends) to sit down and rest for a second. One of my friends (who revealed the next day that she's been interested for a while) came in and when I stood up to follow her back into the living room, kissed me.\n\nShe didn't know that I have a girlfriend, I didn't fully comprehend what was happening. Having not seen my girlfriend in almost a week I was horny and needy and so disgustingly drunk that I didn't realize what she was doing. She made it to third base at which point the gravity of what was I was doing connected in my mind and I started to panic.\n\nEven though I was drunk and didn't intend for it to happen, it happened, I let it happen. If one of my friends came to me with this problem I would tell them without hesitation that they need to tell her. But this is different. My girlfriend has serious trust issues. It took her a solid month into the relationship to actually start to trust me and confide in me. Not only that, I am notoriously dramatic about exclusivity, I'm a very jealous person. I'm afraid that if I tell her, it will almost certainly end our relationship or at the very least destroy any shred of trust she has for me, and I really, really don't want that. \n\nDo I owe her the truth or is it fair for me to just spend some time swallowing my guilt and being miserable that I betrayed her?", "summary": "I got excruciatingly drunk and cheated on my girlfriend with a long term friend. I didn't instigate it but I let it happen. She has serious trust issues and telling her would mean the end of the relationship. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3frmao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27 M] have some issues years after my break with my ex/coworker/friend [29 F], I've just realized that I'm still too attached", "post": "We met at the workplace and got together for about a year, during that year we had constant battles, way different expectations from each other, and things just didn't worked out.\n\ntwo years later we still work with each other, seeing each other once a week with little amounts of texting but still when we do we have a great time together.\n\nThere's a few issues though, we still have feelings for each other with mine being higher then hers, we still sometimes get a little physical with feeling up and kissing when we say goodbye, I have this huge issue which I'm just done with which is whenever I masturbate she always crosses my mind to help me finish.\n\nLately we've talked about getting back but we decided that staying friends are for the best, yet a part of me wants to even though I know it won't work out at the end and that we're just not cut out for each other in the long run. (Being with her will make me settle, a lot, yet I still have this affection to her, I'm an idiot, I know!!)\n\nI've made these connections in my brain over the years, reinforcing them with this bad behavior instead of cutting them loose and breaking them completely.\n\nHow can I break free ?\nwe have to work together still for at least the next 8 months, I can minimize seeing her to only one day a week, avoid flirting and saying things like I love you even though we think we say it in a friend kind of love.\n\nAnyone experienced something similar, how did you manage through this ? How did you break loose ?\nShe's a good friend but I'm doing a lot of wrong things as she's my ex still, friend or no friend.", "summary": "Still attached to ex, how can I break loose ?"}
{"id": "t3_2lz6l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 21/M who wants to ask out a 21/F. Is it okay to ask about a date through snapchat or should I tell her to meet me.", "post": "Hello, \n\nI've been friends with a girl who has been talking to one of my friends for a few months now. They broke it off a while ago, and I've noticed a bunch of people are interested in her.  I'm almost certain she likes me back, and I really think I may have dropped the ball in terms of missing some queues. \n\nI want to ask her out in person, but I don't know when and where I'll run into her next. Should I tell her I want to talk to her on snapchat and find a place to meet or just doing over Snapchat?\n\nI really just don't want to come off a weird.", "summary": "Should I ask a girl out over snapchat or ask her to meet me in person to ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_1u3syk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is the girl I'm dating [35/F] a slut or not?", "post": "I [M/36] just started going out with this girl [F/35] and I'm a bit surprised at her behavior on our 3rd date.\n\nWe didn't do anything on our first couple of dates. Not even holding hands or hugging. On the third date, I walked her to her door, and I wanted to give her a kiss goodnight. Next thing I know, we're making out on her porch. So I pull away after five minutes and I tell her that I gotta go home. She says: where are you going?  I wana make out some more, and she pulls me inside her house. 30 minutes later, we're at 3rd base on her couch. I then had to go home, because I had to wake up for work.  \n\nI come from a conservative upbringing, and I'm used to dating conservative girls. Usually I'm the one pushing for more. However, this girl is the one who did all the pushing, all the way to 3rd base, and every time I tried to leave (because of work the next day) she would say \"don't go, I want more\". \n\nSo what do you guys think? Is this normal behavior by any average (non-conservative) girl ?", "summary": "on the third date with this girl, she pulled me into her house and kept pushing till we reached 3rd base. She said it's been a while since she had sex. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_4uq5yg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M], having trouble feeling like a \"part\" of college and socializing with peers close to my age.", "post": "When I was in high school, I felt like an outsider. I thought as I would grow older this feeling would go away, and the good news is that it has, for the most part. Though, I still find myself mostly socializing with classmates that are older than me, and I have trouble socializing with peers of my own age. \n\nI don't consider the age of a friend to be very important, I just wonder why I never seem to connect with peers of my own age? Anyone else ever feel like they don't fit in very well with their age group?", "summary": "I have trouble socializing with peers of my age, but find it easy to become friends and socialize with peers that are older than me. Is this normal, bad, or good?"}
{"id": "t3_39qtww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25/m How do I make friends?", "post": "Well I wasn't really the talkative one in high school.  I'm kind of tired by ruminating about the past.  Currently in school at a state college where studies are my primarily concern.\n\nI took up volunteering at a hostel and started to play the guitar.  I'm going to graduate from college in two years and I've realized I missed out on that whole making friends thing that was supposed to happen over the last few years. I'm beginning to realize that I'll be alone quite a bit.  I know I need to make some friends, but it's been so long since I made a new friend, a friend who I actually liked. \n\nSo how does a person like me make friends? I love learning about Culture (Anthropology is my love!), movies, music etc. \n\nThanks for your advice!", "summary": "How do I go out and make friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3enywf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying rental furnishings and perhaps my SO's respect", "post": "We were doing some baking while talking about movies when my partner realized we didn't have enough eggs so she ran out to get some and I got the great idea to reenact one of those cliche movie scenes where someone sits in the dark waiting for someone to return. The plan was to take one of the dining room chairs and move it into the living room area, placing it at an appropriate angle (so that I'd be mostly perpendicular to her when she walked in the door) and then just play with my phone in the darkness until she returned.\n\nI sat there for about 20 minutes before I started giggling on and off. The anticipation was too much for me, and when I finally heard her car pull into the driveway I started giggling uncontrollably the dumbest sounding giggle of my entire life (it was a deep, bassy sound like \"uhuu hu huuu huhuuu\". I tried desperately to quash it, but it wouldn't be suppressed and so that was how she found me. \n\nIn the dark, sitting on a chair from our dining room, facing our couch, giggling like a dullard.\n\nThe plan was completely FUBAR at this point and I wanted desperately to explain that I was just trying to have some fun but at this point all the breath is gone from my lungs and my giggling has turned into a drawn out wheeze. I start seeing stars from the painful strain of my unstoppable laughter, and when I finally manage to gulp some air down, the sudden loss of pressure causes my bowels to move. I start tooting a long stream of very short farts, timed to my ongoing wheezes. \n\nVery wet toots, on a cushioned chair, that I don't own, that comes as part of a set of six chairs. \n\nI cleaned everything up and she accepted my explanation for my actions, but it's all very fresh so hopefully she can shake the image I granted her. I would hope I could do it if the tables were reversed.", "summary": "my gf ran a quick errand, i tried to be cute recreating one of those dramatic \"sitting in the dark waiting for cheating spouse or delinquent child to get home late\" scenes since I thought it would be easy and fun, laughed uncontrollably at my own genius and my gf walked in on me laughing in the dark and I had a wet BM on a chair that I suspect will have to be replaced along with five others in it's set."}
{"id": "t3_x98fy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors: Do you ever worry that if you don't travel when you are young then you'll never travel at all?", "post": "A little backstory:\n\nI am a university student who has recently received my Associate of Arts Degree. I have been working on my Bachelors Degree but my thoughts keep turning to exploration. \n\nI could very well travel with ease if I put in a semester of schooling and pick up TESL (teach english as a second language) certification. However, this would mean putting off my education for a time. I just worry that if I keep going with my education as I am now then I will be too heavily invested in my career path to explore the world as I have so long dreamed of doing. \n\nSo I turn to you Reddit. What are your thoughts on this matter?", "summary": "Travel the world or continue down my career path at the possible risk of not traveling the world."}
{"id": "t3_3ks366", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my gf [26 F] of 2 years, deleting messages once again, holiday on Wednesday......", "post": "Hi all,\n\nWill try and keep this short and sweet!\n\nBasically, my gf has a history of messaging other blokes and deleting messages, couple she arranged to meet up with and lied about, deleted messages and I found out. Ex bf she has told me several times she wouldn't speak to and lied and still spoken to him and deleted messages to hide it but again I found out and there has been couple other instances recently as well.\n\nAnyway we said would do that whole starting fresh thing again and not break each other's trust etc, we have a luxury holiday booked on Wednesday, anyway last night, I see her, went down stairs and heard she got couple Facebook messages around 1145pm, that wasn't problem was fact when I walked in room she put her phone straight back down, I had bad gut feeling but didn't say anything last night.\n\nWhat I did next was wrong, I looked at her messages when I went out the room and needless to say, there are no messages on her Facebook since Wednesday, problem for me is we have this holiday booked Wednesday and I'm really not sure what to do.\n\nShould I say I looked and potentially ruin holiday or wait till it's over?", "summary": "Think girlfriend is deleting messages again but got holiday booked Wednesday and not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2orzu6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a midnight snack", "post": "First post! Okay so TIFU by eating a midnight a snack. Badly. I had just come home from a workout at the gym and felt a little hungry. I remembered that I had some leftover fried rice so I heated that up and ate it. It should be mentioned that I had already eaten a lot during dinner which was about 3 hours prior to my midnight snackage (I have dinner quite late due to work).\n\nSeveral hours later I was greeted by stomach pains and the need to vomit. I moved around in bed trying to fight the pain, and even tried Google for answers but realised it's gotta go. I step out of bed and realise it's 6AM and that my parents would kill me if they found out I over ate and spewed (brain somehow rationalised that punishment would be so extreme that I can't let them know) so I end up tip toeing to the door and only to find out that it's raining. Great. I grab an umbrella and head outside to do my stuff. I'm busy spewing my guts out when all of a sudden a gust of wind blows as I'm chugging away and I get bits of rice and vegetables on my legs (I'm only wearing a shirt and underwear). I go back inside and cleanup and am now sitting on my bed in pain as I write this post not even caring about the obvious pile of sludge I left outside.", "summary": "Over ate and woke up with stomach pains. Brain decided it would be a better idea to let it out outside in the rain at 6AM. Wind blows at opportune moment and I vomit on my legs. Sitting on my bed in pain while I write this post."}
{"id": "t3_38py34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my Boyfriend[22 M] of over three years, having problems with balancing boundaries and kink", "post": "Early on in our relationship my boyfriend and I had a porn tumblr blog together. We didn't post videos of ourselves (two or three nudes but that's it) but used it more to explore our kinks and look at others together. We are both into BDSM, pet play, but not heavy or 24/7. \n\nAfter moving in with family for a few months for financial reasons we dropped the blog because we didn't want any younger relatives to find it on our computer and we just haven't restarted it since.\n \n\nAlthough we had discussed the difference between doing things together and alone, and laid down cheating guidelines (look but don't touch, not even webcam sex) I recently had to let him know that replying to craigslist personals is cheating in my book. \n\nHe is apologetic and willing to stop/change his habits but I'm worried. We have talked about threesomes before (he is bisexual) but now I am not sure because of the nature of his exchanges with strange women (no men replied to him, not sure if it's from lack of trying or what) I am now very paranoid that he thinks our relationship is open  and/or that he will continue this in secret.\n\nHe says he wouldn't have done anything physical without talking to me first but that he does find the idea of sex with a stranger or an occasional hook up arousing. He followed up by saying that he would rather explore these feelings within our relationship either through role playing or fantasizing and will not act on them.\n\nHe has since shown me all the emails, deleted them and even agreed to counseling if needed (for himself for this and other issues he has been having). \n\nIs there anyway to continue being monogamous while still being into pornography and kink or does it open the door too much?", "summary": "Kinky Boyfriend has permission to look but not touch, but now has been messaging women online(it's stopped now)/ Can we keep our monogamy and still be somewhat open online or is it too temping?"}
{"id": "t3_4kbptg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M/F] with my girlfriend [19 M/F] of 4 months, are long distance now, and I keep encountering trust issues, even though she has never done anything to make me not trust her.", "post": "So we have been dating now for four months, we've known each other for almost 9 months, and our relationship is amazing when we are together, but since we left school for the summer, it has become long distance. Long distance is hard on its own, but for some reason I have been getting nervous when she says she is going out drinking with friends, etc... and I have felt like this rarely earlier in our relationship. I always bring it up with her when I am feeling anxious. She has never done anything to not deserve my trust, and I feel really guilty for feeling this way. She has told me time after time that she loves me and knows herself and would never want to hurt me, and I feel the same way. \nI think this may be an issue relating to my insecurities and self-consciousness, as I have never had someone like her before, and this is my first relationship. I don't want to feel anxious when she goes out, what advice do you guys have for getting over these kinds of feelings and really becoming comfortable trusting someone completely in a relationship?", "summary": "I have been feeling anxious in my long distance relationship regarding putting complete trust in my girlfriend, even though she deserves it and has never betrayed my trust before."}
{"id": "t3_3wcjk1", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I haven't heard from my SO (M24) in 3 days and I'm starting to get really worried.", "post": "UPDATE:\n\nafter 4 days of no contact he finally got in touch and said he was on an island just off Cambodia where the whole islands wifi waant working. \n\nThank you everyone for your assurance you helped ease my worries. So so relieved I can update with happy news :)\n\nMy SO (25 M) has been travelling in SE Asia for a couple of months. We've been keeping in touch over whatsapp and Facebook chat and messaging each other every day.\n\nLast time I heard from him was 3 days ago and he said he was by the beach in Cambodia. \n\nMy messages won't deliver on whatsapp and he's not been online for 3 days, which suggests his phone is off or he has no wifi. I checked facebook and he's not been active there for the same time, and I also checked his friends facebook who he was travelling with and he's not been active for 3 days either. \n\nI'm well aware he could just be somewhere with no wifi, but it does just seem that everywhere at the moment has wifi. I've been hoping up until this point he was on a boat trip or something, but now its been 3 days it's starting to look less and less likely.\n\nI just don't know what to do, it's scary not being able to get in touch with him to know if he's okay, and I can't stop myself thinking that something bad has happened. \n\nI havent yet told snyone I've not spoken to him as I didnt want to be dramatic and make a fuss out of nothing... At what point should I start to get worried / what am I supposed to do? Any suggestions would be really helpful as I'm at a loss.", "summary": "BF is travelling in Cambodia and I haven't heard from him in 3 days now. Starting to get worried about him."}
{"id": "t3_22q12k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] missed a last college class before final exam.", "post": "I've never missed a class, but through a series of events: Stayed up late on a project before, forgot to set alarm, I woke up too late to go. Now I am worried that the teacher gave out more instructions for the final and I don't know if or how I should approach the teacher.\n\nI'm not sure if the teacher will be annoyed that I missed the class and then when I ask him about the final and he's already given the information in class which I didn't go to, it might affect his grading of my test. I don't have any friends in class that I could ask them what he said in class.", "summary": "Missed class, afraid teacher might have talked about final, how do I get this information?"}
{"id": "t3_254nne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it safe to ask out a bank teller? [21M] and [~23F]", "post": "There's a new bank teller at my local bank from Brazil and I find her very attractive. I've seen her three times already and I specifically go for her even though the other bank tellers are free and she seems very cool with that. The last time I saw her she greeted me with \"so have you learned Portuguese yet?\"(I'm half Portuguese) and initiated a conversation with me. She's very giggly when she speaks with me.\n\nThe thing is that I heard that bank tellers are supposed to be friendly with clients so maybe I'm just reading it wrong, you know?\n\nI also heard that Brazilians are naturally very social people as well so I don't know if I should go for it or not.", "summary": "wondering if it's ok to ask out bank tellers and is it even worth it"}
{"id": "t3_4fhxg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] and my GF [33] (16 month relationship) are on a 'break', should I also be on a break from her kid [5 F]?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 1 1/2 year now. Since 10 months I've been introduced to her daughter [5yo] and I've started building a relationship with the daughter too (which was going really good).\n\nThe last couple of weeks the GF and I had a lot of very loud and unpleasant fights (just verbal). Up to the point that we decided we needed to give each other some space to figure things out while we still maintain a relationship (as in a lot less contact, but we are still together) and I don't see her daughter anymore.\n\nThe daughter keeps asking about me and I'm really missing her. GF and I don't know what to do now. We really want what is best for her daughter. So if anyone who has been in a similar situation could comment or advice, that would be really much appreciated.   \n\nApology in advance for bad grammar; not a native English speaker.", "summary": "On a 'break' with GF. Should I also be on break with her daughter?"}
{"id": "t3_300x3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with an old college friend [18F], sort of first date, haven't seen her in over a year, need advice please!", "post": "To give a little context - I'm awful with girls. I've only had two relationships, one where I was rather young (like 12/13, if you want to even call that dating) and it was over good old msn chat! Kinda cute tbf. Both relationships (other was with a 17 year old when I was 16) didn't last long. I also got close with a girl but she ultimately told me to bugger off and another girl I slept with. Unfortunately still a virgin, but it was like foreplay stuff. She also told me to eff off.\n\nAlso have rather bad social anxiety, but I dunno, because this girls shy, plus we're both introverted gamers and into the same music and stuff so should be OK...?\n\nOn to the question! So, I haven't seen this chick in year and a half, but I messaged her couple days ago saying I miss her (hadn't messaged her since Christmas at this point) and she replied back the same, and then I suggested we meet up, thinking maybe half hour coffee shop thing. \n\nAnd this is where the sort of date comes in, because she said that sounds awesome but I'm awful at planning days out. I messaged her saying this thought and she ain't got back to me yet, but assuming she does want it to be a whole day thing... Do I even treat it as a date? If so, what kind of advancements, if any, should I make? Big, like possibly hand holding, or small, like a hug which all my girl mates want anyway (I'm a good hugger apparently) - yeah, just general advice would be awesome and thanks in advance!", "summary": "not seen this girl in ages, really bad with women, might be going on a first date with her (that is, I've been on dates before) and need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_b6poi", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Reddit, I need to know how to cook a filet mignon.", "post": "So for the first time in a good long while, I have surplus dollars laying about. I want to do something ridiculously fancy for my girl and myself, and the first thing that jumps into mind is \"filet mignon\". The next thing that jumps into mind is that I have no idea how to prepare one.\n\nThis next part is hard to admit to you, Reddit. I don't own a cast iron skillet. I know, I know, I can hear your howls of rage and disbelief. I have plenty of other kitchen goodness, but no cast iron skillet, nor do I own a griddle pan. I have a George Foreman grill, but the idea of using that just seems kind of low-brow.", "summary": "how do I properly cook filet mignon without a cast-iron skillet?"}
{"id": "t3_1gfkx7", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Wedding chocolates > friendship", "post": "Sitting at a wedding with my buddy, at a table alone except for one other person, waiting for the rest of our friends to show up. Eventually, two of our lady friends do show up, and we say hi, start to catch up, and then inform us that they'll be leaving to go sit with another mutual friend. We tell them that he was supposed to be sitting with us, but apparently he also has bailed on us. As they leave us to drown in the ocean of loneliness that is our table, we suppress our ever mounting feelings of inadequacy by stealing the small boxes of chocolate set on their plates, proving once and for all that we are the bigger men.", "summary": "disregard females, acquire chocolate"}
{"id": "t3_1abk1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (44) is involved in bitter, ugly custody battle.", "post": "My boyfriend (44) divorced his wife 5 years ago. They have an eight year old daughter. He and I (40) have been together for 18 months. \n\nTheir divorce is final, but she wants changes made to it, mostly more money. And he won't agree, and he wants custody, too. They spend most of their time sending lawyers letters to and fro.\n\nIt's stressful, draining, poisonous and time consuming. All our conversations seem to be about what she's done now, or what his next move will be. They show no signs of EVER coming to an agreement.\n\nI don't know what to do. This isn't what I thought our relationship would be. When is enough, enough??", "summary": "custody battle and divorce between my boyfriend and his ex wife is ruining our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2o8m3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my BF [26 M] of 2 years. He says he no longer feels romantic love for me. Need advice.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. We have a fairly normal relationship. I thought we were in love and past any chance of break up. Last night I asked him where he thought our relationship was and he told me that he no longer feels romantic love for me and is planning to break up with me. \n\nWe discussed it and we are going to have a short trial period to see whether or not that feeling can come back. One of his biggest complaints was lack of hobbies in common and I've known more or less that I've been really bad about partaking in any of his hobbies. That's a different long other story but I intend to do my best to show that I do actually like some of his hobbies, etc. \n\nMostly I guess I'm just wondering if you all think that it is possible for a person who has lost the feeling of romantic love to get it back or not.", "summary": "Bf says he doesn't have romantic feelings for me, going to do a trial period to see if we can rekindle that spark. Do you all think its possible for a person to fall back into romantic love with someone once they fall out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_2hda83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18] met a cute girl last week, is it too late to make contact to her?", "post": "So I recently got in the dating game aftery first serious relationship. And I just started working a new place last Monday.. I met this cute girl at my work, but unfortunately it was her last day there, so we only talked for like 30 minutes. I would have wanted to ask for her number, but her friend stepped in and interrupted us.\n\nIs it too late to make contact to this girl? I guess I could add her on Facebook, that's the only place I can get in contact with her..\n\nAnd if I should hit her up on Fb, what should I open up with writing to her?", "summary": "met cute girl at new job last week, too late to make contact?"}
{"id": "t3_15d98l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, how can I help getting over an ex-girlfriend?", "post": "I am going to try to simplify this the best I can. I am a 20 year old male attending college in California. I dated my ex-girlfriend from Sophomore Year of High School, until she broke up with me this February. She was a year ahead of me in school, and went to college 1 year before me (we both transferred as juniors from community college). Basically, I have been slowly getting over it ever since we broke up, small steps at a time. I have seen her briefly for lunch over summer once, and just saw her again now since it is Christmas break. We just went out for dessert together, nothing monumental really happened. Said hello to her parents, exchanged little gifts etc.\nWhat I am getting at here, is that I still do have strong feelings for this girl deep down. She told me that she got a job offer in Chicago and she is going after her next (final) semester at her college. Pretty much there is no way that I can work out getting back together with her. I am really bummed out and I still think about her all the time, even though it has been almost a year since our break up. I haven't been \"that\" ex-boyfriend who calls/texts constantly trying to get her back. We have casually texted and exchanged a phone call or two since we broke up, nothing serious. I just want to know what I can do to help me forget about her and truly move on. For those of you wondering, she broke up with me because she couldn't balance her studies/new lifestyle with having a boyfriend. Pretty much she thought we were on different levels at the time.", "summary": "still not over my ex-girlfriend who broke up with me ~1 year ago, and I want to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_3xn139", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F23] set boundaries with my mom [F60] for the holidays?", "post": "I'm an only child and my mom has always been extremely controlling and overbearing. We are extremely close and enjoy spending time together, but frequently get into arguments.\n\nSo first of all, my mom and I already spend a LOT of time together. I live about an hour from home and we talk on the phone throughout the day, every single day. We also hangout quite a bit in person, more so than the average family IMO. \n\nIn spite of this, my mom seems to feel starved for attention and is extremely resentful if I choose to do anything else in favor of being with her. As an example, I've chosen to come home for about a week for the holidays. My mom wants to spend a lot of time with me, which I'm happy to do. However, several of my friends are hosting holiday parties and I've been going out to see them the past couple days. \n\nEvery time I've gone out, my mom has dropped hints that her feelings are hurt and she feels ignored. This morning she finally confronted me and said, \"Let me know when you actually decide to hangout. It's not... Working out so well, so far.\" She glared at me and looked really upset. \n\nI'm confused by this because I've only been home for a day and a half and still have another five days to be with her. This response is not unusual, though, because it seems like it's really easy to hurt her feelings. \n\nI guess my question is- is this normal for a parent? And how do I set boundaries with her?", "summary": "My mom and I spend time together 24/7, but she still gets hurt when I choose to spend time with my friends."}
{"id": "t3_24t8ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my father [64 M], always tells me \"no, you're wrong/you can't do that\" or ignores what I say, doesn't remember anything", "post": "He is really upsetting. He has always found fault with me. He doesn't form memories apparently. He corrects me whenever I say something, and if he misunderstood something it was always on me. No matter how something turns out he always frames it so that it was in some way my fault but never out of my will, so that I've tied myself in knots throughout my life dealing with him, trying to please him and make him happy, and everything in my life is centered on him. I've come to realize that he probably just really really hates me. He wouldn't go out of his way, except for certain things which fit his preconceptions. I am caught within catch-22s he makes and he always guilt trips me. He is amazingly passive-aggressive and frequently stonewalls me, which somehow works because he always seems to plan on me messing up.", "summary": "I am dependent on my father mentally and otherwise and always have been. How do I give up on him for validation, think for myself and get away?"}
{"id": "t3_16dcsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (23M) told me he's no longer attracted to me (22F).", "post": "My boyfriend, who I have seven years of history with, has told me tonight that he is no longer attracted to me. I don't know if this can be salvaged, I feel crushed. I am hopelessly in love with him. He told me that he loves me and that he wants to work through this, but he doesn't feel anything when we kiss anymore. He doesn't feel desire to have sex with me.\n\nI asked him I'm not skinny enough (I had previously gained 30lbs but I currently weigh less than what I did prior). He said that's not it, he thinks I'm gorgeous and that he loves my body.\n\nI asked him if it was because I had an abortion. (He, without reason, stopped talking to me. We didn't talk for over a month in which time I found I was pregnant and I opted to abort since things between him and I were over. I did not discuss the decision with him. I only told him later when he came back around.) He said that could have something to do with it.\n\nIn general he says he does not know why he feels this way. He said it was only after our \"break-up\" that this lack of feelings had begun. He says that he still loves me though and he wants to talk it through.\n\nHe has also mentioned recently that he is turned off by my lack of confidence. Maybe he is not attracted to my personality? I am so confused.", "summary": "Boyfriend says he is no longer attracted to me. Is there anything we can do to repair this?"}
{"id": "t3_2ctdue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] met a guy [36M] I actually really like and we've been talking for a short while. I'm relationship naive and want to know if I should be straightforward or patient with his seeming lack of interest", "post": "He seems like a really nice guy and I'm pretty into him. We met online, but have yet to meet in person despite talking for about a week. He comes off really reserved, a military guy, and he struck me as different because he was the only guy I met from from this online thing who *wasn't* 1) only looking to just to seeing what happens 2) or avoiding something serious. He seems to really want to find something substantial. \n\nThe problem is his signals are strange. I compliment him a lot when I rarely ever do that. I flirt a bit. I initiated talking offline in text and phone chatting. I feel like I'm giving way too much effort thinking that maybe he is shy or a little guarded. I don't really know what I'm doing or what to look for, but I feel like he should sometimes say \"you look pretty\" when I send pics or be trying to get closer to me. He just seems really passive despite saying he's got his fingers crossed with me and he's happy we're forming a connection. I backed off of texting today because he was giving me nothing even though we had a really good convo last night, but then he told me \"text me whenever, I always have my phone on me\" and wanted me to add him to Facebook. I'm confused.\n\nI was thinking of just asking him \"are you into me or not really feeling it because it kind of seems like you're not really feeling it\", but I don't know if I should do that or just go silent or do something else. I'm really scared of investing time in yet another jerk. I have never met a guy who was genuinely interested in me besides trying to score a one night stand and it just hurts. I want to find someone who has some sort of passion towards me.", "summary": "I met a pretty stand up guy who is fairly guarded and reserved and I don't know if I'm wasting my time or if I should have a different approach with him"}
{"id": "t3_2jcpot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] just broke up with my abusive boyfriend [20M] today, I feel destroyed", "post": "I had been with my boyfriend for just over a year. The abuse started in early May of this year. He'd always been pretty emotionally abusive but in early May, he started doing things like pushing me, then pulling my hair...it eventually escalated to punching my arms and sides (this was rarer but happened), holding me down, and much more recently, choking me. I'm leaving out a lot, mostly because I can't keep my thoughts straight right now. We'd had many breaking points where we almost broke up or did break up over him doing this, but we somehow always ended up back together. He emotionally manipulated me a lot but I admit I also just wanted to be with him. \n\nI feel so fucking stupid for being where I am right now. I feel so broken. The fucked up thing is, I'm all about feminism and stopping domestic violence and all that sort of shit, but I was living with this secret that I was actually experiencing domestic violence weekly, if not daily. \n\nEverything hurts so much right now, I don't know what to do. He left maybe a half hour ago, after beating me up (twice). He packed all his shift and left. I know this is EXTREMELY good for me in the long run, and that this is 100% the right solution and so on. But it fucking kills me. My heart feels shattered. I can't stop crying as I type this, I'm in so much pain both physically and emotionally. I don't know how to function. I just want him to come back. I know not to contact him and i know it would be bad if he returned, but I can't lie and say I don't feel that way.\n\nSomeone please tell me how to deal with this. I'm so lost. I feel so alone. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Broke up with my abusive boyfriend today. Everything hurts."}
{"id": "t3_3i4pgj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by washing my face and going out for a date.", "post": "So, I come back from work tired, put my shit down and was all ready crash. Right at that moment, my crush messages me and says she's at a bar few blocks from mine. I jump up, get my car keys and I am ready  to leave my apt. My flatmate stops me and says \" Bro you  look like shit, you should atleast wash your face before leaving\". \n\nI take his advice run to the bathroom, wash my face and scoot.\n\nI enter the bar, she is with her friend, I walk in with all my swagger, we hug and then she proceeds to introduce me to her friend Kassandra.\n\n\"Hi! I am RabindranathTagwhore\".\n\n\" Hi! I am Kassandra, have heard good things about you... Is that soap on your face\".\n\nI PLAY DEAD.", "summary": "Went to meet crush; washed my face to look fresh;  walked in with soap on my face."}
{"id": "t3_1vos6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with a [24 F] dating for less than a month, when to ask her to be my girlfriend?", "post": "We met on OkCupid in a small town in California, and have been chatting online on that site, and eventually IM since the end of December. We have been on four real dates, and had sex on the last date, but I see her briefly about every day, as she works at a store I frequent, so I think we've gotten to know each other pretty well.\n\nI have another dinner and movie (read: sex) on Thursday, and likely going to meet her parents at an event on Saturday. I really like her, and am pretty sure she really likes me, but she would be my third girlfriend I've ever had, so I'm not too keen on the rules of when to ask her to be my girlfriend. I was thinking of asking her Thursday, which would have the bonus of making it less awkward meeting her family. I think that the fact she invited me to a family thing means that she would say yes, but I'm not certain. She said she doesn't do anything casual before we even had sex, which implies she would want a relationship eventually, but I don't want to ask too soon or too late. Any advice would be appreciated.\n\nThanks", "summary": "when to ask girl I've been dating to be my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_q6rxy", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I feel like I'm losing weight far too fast", "post": "Hi, I started at 205lbs just over a month ago with a goal to lose 35lbs by summer. The weight has been absolutely dropping off me, it's unreal! I'm 6ft, male and I've been eating under 1500cals a day. The first time I went over this was last night when I had a few beers after work, but even then I calculated everything and I was hovering around my maintenance.\n\nWhat I'm saying is, I've stuck to this pretty well and it's working. Working a little too well I believe. Here's the graph of my weight loss for this month:\n\n[\n\nIn 32 days I've went from 205lbs to 187lbs. That's 18lbs in 32 days. That's over 1/2 a pound a day!\n\nWhen I say it like that, I can't help but think \"that must be unhealthy!\" but my body is telling me that I feel great. I really don't feel any different than before I started to be honest, except that I don't feel hungry an hour after every meal now.\n\nI can definitely notice a difference with my body - a pair of jeans that I couldn't even button up a month ago feel loose, my shirts fit a little nicer and measurements that I took at the start have came down a little.\n\nI don't exercise often. I do bodyweight exercises for maybe 2 -3 hours a week whenever I can fit them in. I work in a nightclub a couple of times a week which involves moving kegs, lifting crates of beer for half an hour, then being on my feet for 5 hours behind the bar (which is crazily busy) then tidying up after it. I always feel like I have enough energy to do this, even with lots of uni work.\n\nI guess I'm rambling now, so I'll try to sum up:", "summary": "lost 18lbs in 32 days eating 1500kcal a day (I'm 6', starting at 205lbs now 187lbs), can definitely notice the loss of fat in both my clothes and measurements, I feel absolutely fine and don't feel much different than before in terms of hunger and energy levels. However I feel like this rapid weight loss is unhealthy and was wondering what your thoughts are?"}
{"id": "t3_3hltws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [38/F] bf[26/M] called me a c*nt last night", "post": "We have been together 3 years it's been a really rocky relationship. Lately stuff been going really well. \n\nHe was helping me compose a long letter to my boss about a work trip I have to go on, he writes a lot better than I do and this was a task that he volunteered doing even though I didn't ask him. \n\nWe ended up getting into some argument about whether or not Venezuela was a poorer country than Ecuador. Really stupid I know, but I told him I had been to both countries and even if Venezuela had more money technically, visually it looks a lot poorer there. \n\nHe ended up flat out calling me a cunt. Like didn't say \"stop being such a cunt\" he just goes, \"you're a cunt.\"\n\nNot that one is better than the other.\n\nHe certainly has verbally abused me in the past. I've been called stupid by him and so on, but never have I been described as being a \"cunt\" by anyone. And furthermore, he is extremely adamant about the word \"bitch\". Like for example,  he would get mad if I was in line at Target or something, and let's just say hypothetically the cashier bothered me, I would say to him in the parking lot- \"wow that lady was really a bitch\". He would get really angry that I use that word to describe a woman. \n\nSo my point to him is, if other women can't be called bitch, because he considers it degrading, why is it ok to describe the woman he loves as a cunt? He thinks the words are totally different.\n\nHow?\n\nHe just texted me, and said I was being a cunt, that's why he called me that, and to stop being so sensitive about it. This reasoning really bothers me. \n\nAm I wrong here? He says I'm bullying him into a fight over this.", "summary": "Boyfriend called me a cunt even though he says he will never use the word bitch to describe a woman because it's degrading."}
{"id": "t3_1cytf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (F18) admitted to not wanting sex with me (M18)", "post": "Today I was talking to my gf, eating lunch and relaxing. We're planning on moving in together in a year and to not have sex until we do so to avoid pregnancy scares (of which we have had 2). While chatting about this, her friend, let's call her Ashley,  comes over and talks to my gf (Brianna). They talk about Ashley's sex life and Brianna mentions her cutting me off for a long time, as she put it. Ashley asked me when I thought I'd get some and Brianna said \"Not for a while seeing as I don't want it.\"\n\nDoes this mean I'm not good in bed, or what? She's pretty passive aggressive and has been for our 2 year relationship. Help a brother out?", "summary": "gf says she doesn't want the D. Problem with relationship, me or her?"}
{"id": "t3_di7mk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get into writing for videogames?", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI just recently graduated from film school and am eking out a living with a mailroom job at a production company. I had had an interest in writing for a long time, but my college education didn't really center around it. So because of that and because grad school costs a lot of money, I'm learning Good Will Hunting-style by reading textbooks about writing and screenwriting during my downtime at work.\n\nI got to thinking, and I realized that a lot of what I've been learning can be applied to my second love after movies: videogames. A lot of my favorite games (Half Life 2, Shadow of the Colossus, the Legend of Zelda series) are all really well developed in plot, characterization, and theme. So I feel like I'd be right at home helping to create something that was both fun and engaging in its story.\n\nTo add to this, a majority of videogames are very poorly written, so if I had to guess I'd say there's a market for good writers.\nSo my question for you is this: how would I start working my way into the gaming industry through writing? Should I focus my writing portfolio in a certain way?", "summary": "I think it'd be the bee's knees to write for videogames. How do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2w92jw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Coworker [17 F] Unsure if asking her out is the correct decision at this point in time.", "post": "So recently over the past month or so I've been talking to this cute girl who works at the same restaurant as me part-time. Every so often (about once a week) we finish our shifts at the same time and I'll give her a ride home. Unfortunately due to the nature of my work we rarely get to say more than \"Hi\" to each other during our working hours, so these rides home are really the only opportunity I get to talk to her.\n\nAnyways so over the past month or so whenever I catch her eye I notice she looks away and smiles, even to a dense guy like me this looks like she might be interested (She's shy). And I'm interested in her too, but there's a few issues I see with asking her out and that's what I'm particularly worried about.\n\nBasically whenever I talk to her she always complains that she's so busy with studying for exams (final year of HS) and we're both working every weekend, so she rarely has any free time. I feel like if I were to ask her out, even if she said yes, we would get to hang out like once a week maybe *before* work. Which isn't really ideal for a relationship and I can't imagine it being very easy to balance along with everything else. The only other thing holding me back is the unwritten \"don't date coworkers\" rule that people usually talk about. I'm not really that worried about that but it's something to consider.\n\nBasically I feel like time constraints would hinder our relationship, am I right in feeling this way? Or am I looking too much into it and should just ask her out?", "summary": "Want to ask out coworker after receiving mostly positive signs, but worried that the relationship won't work out/will get rejected due to her not having enough time to divide between me/work/studies."}
{"id": "t3_41c114", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tagging someone in a inappropriate post", "post": "Go easy on me it is my first post.\n\nNot today but in the last 72 hours.\n\nStarting with context.\nAbout 1.5 years ago i started working as a cook in a bowling alley where i met and worked with young (17) teenager named Buck. He was the kind of kid that was somewhat anti social. Getting him to talk to me was like pulling teeth but over time i got him to start talking to me and we became good friends to the point i would call him my foster child (i am a good bit older then him and have a son his age who was also rather anti social) or as he would put it homies.\n\nEven more context.\nAbout 3 months ago he grew a lump slightly smaller then a fist on his neck. At this point he was going to see doctors regularly to figure out what it was. But there insurance was making it difficult for them to test for cancer as \"it was very unlikely that he had cancer due to how young he was\"(19) eventually they did test for it and quite unfortunately it came back positive. He started his chemotherapy about a month ago.\n\nTime for the fuck up.\nMany people were posting inspirational and cheerful post on facebook with the general theme of fuck cancer in support of him.\nI decided to add to these by posting a picture of Lemmy, David Bowie, and Alan Rickman all giving cancer the middle finger. Little did i realize that Lemmy and Alan Rickman had just died. Shortly after posting this Buck's mother informed me that they had all died to cancer recently. After this i felt like a truly horrible person.\nThis probly cant match alot of stuff on here but thats my fuckup.\n\nPicture Link", "summary": "sent cancer patient a inspirational picture of people who all died of cancer recently."}
{"id": "t3_4wysrz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24 F] get my husband[23 M] (together 7 years) more excited about doing things together?", "post": "I usually enjoy seeing my husband excited about things. For example, for what seems like a year now, he's been waiting for the game NMS with an extreme lack of patience. I used to find this cute, it's great seeing him excited!\nHowever, lately I've noticed that no matter what, I can't seem to get him to even semi match that enthusiasm for anything involving us. And I mean even playing games together, doing things he likes together, hell, even trying new things in bed! Sure, he gets excited, I just wish I could get at least half of the excitement he has for things without me.\nHe says he gets just as excited, but it just never comes through...I just kind of feel like maybe I'm not good enough or fun enough and maybe this is why? Or does anyone else find this normal?", "summary": "Husband is more excited to do things without me, normal?"}
{"id": "t3_32zv2f", "subreddit": "self", "title": "[Serious] How fat is too fat, when dating?", "post": "So, I'm a plus sized girl. An Aus size 22-24 (117kg - have not budged so much as 1kg in either direction of that in 2 years, despite eating small, clean portions for almost a year, and then eating whatever I like when that didn't work).\n\nI have PCOS and Graves' Disease so weight doesn't come off so easily (PCOS encourages weight gain and discourages weight loss, and I'm also limited to keeping my heart rate at or under 90bpm or risk another thyrotoxicosis - which nearly killed me when I first discovered the Graves'). \n\nI'm a single Mum of an almost-5-yo girl. I met a guy after hitting it off through text for a week. This morning, after not responding for 24 hours after we met, he messages to (", "summary": "terms) tell me I'm great, but too fat. "}
{"id": "t3_vn8ld", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone help me fix a Nintendo DS for my disabled mom? [X-Post with Gaming]", "post": "Sorry, didn't know if i should post in AskReddit or Gaming, hence the cross post. \n\nAnyway, my mom and I got DS's a while back for birthday gifts. They were both used, but I really enjoyed playing with my mom (we liked playing mario and yugioh) So anyway she got sick and ended up having her leg amputated and the DS's got put away. She recently mentioned them because she was bored over the weekend. I pulled them out and found that both of them had thier upper screen broken. I don't really know how this happened. I told her and she was pretty upset. I'd love to buy her a new one so she could at least play but I don't have a lot if any money (some weeks it's medicine or groceries) so I wanted to know if there is a cheap way to repair the screen? Any where i could get a SUPER cheap replacement screen? I'm not very tech savvy when it comes to these sorts of devices so I don't really know what is entailed or if I could even do it. Here are some pics of the broken DS's.\n\n*\n*\n* \n\nIt's a shame they didn't break differently because then at least maybe i could have done a transplant from one to the other. Thanks for any advice you can provide!", "summary": "Both the top screens on two DS's broke, need cheap/easy way to replace or repair for my wonderful mother who puts up with me somehow. "}
{"id": "t3_aq62j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Talking to strangers.", "post": "I'd like to be a bit more social and I figure talking to strangers would be a good start. I'm not very good at initiating a conversation but once that's out of the way I'm quite fluent so I was wondering if you could share some of your favorite conversation starters and maybe some tips.\n\nThis is what usually happens: I select someone I'd like to talk to, spend several minutes trying to force myself to act and then when I ask for the time or whatever they just answer, but not giving me anything to go on with.", "summary": "What's our way of starting a conversation with a stranger?"}
{"id": "t3_4wo494", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my new co-workers, I don't know how to respond when people tell me that I look miserable.", "post": "I started a new job several weeks ago, I really love it there and I like the people there as well. Everything is going pretty well, it's just one little thing. I have a sad resting face, even when I'm not particularly sad - I look sad. I'm often lost in thought, and I have a pouty bottom lip. I also am sometimes sad - I'm bipolar, and go through the occasional depressive mood-swing. The few times people have commented on my expression, I haven't been sad at all. It's happened with three different people already, telling me I look sad/miserable and one asking if I am okay. I find it really frustrating, I can't change my resting face and really even if I weren't okay, I'm not about to confide in anyone about the things that are bothering me. I'm never sure how to respond when people say this to me, I've explained that it's just my face, but I don't know that to say beyond that. I also get a bit anxious when people say this because I don't want anyone knowing about my depression or talking about me, so I'll spend a long time worrying over it. I'm upbeat and ask a lot of questions when I talk to other people, it isn't as if I'm shutting down and not talking to anyone. I don't know how to handle it, what to say, just looking for some suggestions.", "summary": "I look sad, people tell me, I don't know what to say."}
{"id": "t3_xz28o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "am i just going crazy?", "post": "hello fellow redditors, redditexors, you all remind me of dinosaurs. \n\nI know I'm not crazy or anything, I'm just in dire need of some advice. Relationship advice. I [20;f] have been with my boyfriend [18;m] for a year and a half. Things have been the usual relationship, ups and downs - but as always fighting through them.\n\nThe past few months have been especially rough, but we're going strong. He seems to have good weeks and bad weeks and since july 10th, 2012 - things have been wonderful! And I finally thought things were getting better. This past Monday, something with the way he acts with me got off, again. He tends to have weeks where the way he talks to me is just..different then usual, the way he reacts to what I say is different, and it just feels as though he doesn't want me there at all. \n\nI know some women - and even guys can possibly relate to this. Just knowing something is going on by the way your SO talks, or texts you. I'm not sure what to do anymore? I have asked him over and over again on if everything is okay, or what is going on, or if he's happy with me, and the answer is same thing always. \"Everything is fine, nothing is going on, don't worry and I am happy with you, I promise.\" But something with the way he say's that just doesn't seem like he means it.\n\nWhen I try showing him why I feel this way - he get's angry. I'm not trying to bring this up each time his tone changes to get into an argument. Fighting with him is the last thing on my list for the day. But I just don't know if I'm just causing all this in my own head, or if there is something going on.\n\nFrom experience or even just reading this, can anyone help? I feel as though I'm going crazy or being mind fucked trying to figure out what's going on. I know I care too much about those I love, but this is starting to bother me.", "summary": "20 year old female in year and a half relationship with an 18 year old male, something seems off."}
{"id": "t3_296ay2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my parents [50s M/F], they want to come to the company picnic.", "post": "I just got done with my first year of university and I am living back with my parents for the summer (because moneys and stuff. It's just easier). I got a summer internship with a construction management company and received an invitation yesterday to their company picnic. It was mailed to me at home, so my parents immediately knew about it. They started asking if they could come. I originally said I'd ask, but now I'm thinking it would be really awkward and unprofessional for my parents to come to the company picnic. \n\nAm I right in thinking it would be really weird? If so, how should I tell my parents that they can't come? Also, I'm planning on taking my SO [20 M] of three years instead, and so I need help telling them that he's coming and they're not...", "summary": "Parents think they're coming to the company picnic for my internship. I'd really rather just bring my SO. Awkward situation."}
{"id": "t3_2ntt3g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fixing an autographed signature.", "post": "Like most TIFU's, this happened many years ago. This was about seven years ago when I was seven.\n\nNow, I come from a family of die-hard Boston Red Sox fans. The Red Sox have just one their second World Series parade and we just got back from it. Like I said, die-hards, we've been to all the past 3 parades.\n\nNow, I was looking at our autographed baseball collection and one of them was by David Ortiz, my favorite baseball player. That baseball was starting to look dirty and the signature was starting to fade.\n\nWhat does someone do with bad OCD and cleaning issues do? I grabbed the ball out of its case, cleaned it under the sink and grabbed a sharpie and made the part of the signature that was faded darker.\n\nWell, let's just say, you can tell someone messed with it, enjoy it [here](", "summary": "7 year old me noticed that my autographed David Ortiz baseball signature was fading so I made it darker where it was fading and fucked up the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_43skgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Wife [24 F] of 2 years, cheated on me and moved out for a month, moving back in this month but not sure she loves me.", "post": "We were together another 2 years before marriage. My wife cheated on me several month ago by making out with a guy on three different occasions before asking me if I would mind if she slept with him. I freaked out and said no and was very hurt. She felt so bad that she wanted to kill herself, I know she really regretted it. After a couple of months I was getting really depressed and eventually I was very critical of her. One night she came back and told me she was leaving. She got a long stay hotel and stayed there for a month. She's coming home next week but she says she's not in love with me anymore and she's not sure if we can work it out. She seems willing to go to marriage therapy and at least try a little but she doesn't seem very enthusiastic about it.", "summary": "cheated on, left, coming back but not sure if we can work it out. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3eh055", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24M) need some advice regarding girl I met (27F) a few months back.", "post": "Hello Reddit! I feel like I know where my relationship with this girl is going, but I don't really have anyone to talk to about it, so I was looking for some advice. I met this girl on vacation and we ended up hooking up and spent the last 2 nights she was there hanging out drinking and such. She gave me her number and told me to text her so we can meet up, even though she lives in another state about 8 hours away. This happened at the beginning of May and I'm still talking to her, which is good I guess? We've been texting and Snapchatting and she constantly calls me doll, babe, player, or cutie. The problem is, multiple times she has texted me saying we need to meet up, she can't wait to meet up, etc., but whenever I text her about meeting up, she won't respond. For example, the other day she texted me and said \"we need to travel to each other.\" Ok, awesome, sounds good. I texted her the next day asking if she wanted to try and pick some dates we can meet up on, but she didn't answer. About an hour or two later she sends me about 3 Snapchats, so she has her phone, but is ignoring my text. I guess my basic question is, am I getting played? I pretty much feel I am, but like I said at the beginning, I'm just looking for others opinions. Thanks Reddit!", "summary": "Pretty sure I am getting played, but I don't really have anyone to talk to about it, so I'm reaching out on here."}
{"id": "t3_3j1fr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I [32 M] out of line to ask her [26 F] to be more spontaneous?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a bit over four months. I suggested that we bake a cake together to bring to her friend's party as well as some bran muffins for her dad who is recovering from surgery.\n\nI'm the cook / baker in our relationship since she does neither (she knows how to make sandwiches and I think meat loaf). I've made her dinners and pizzas and cakes on several occasions (from scratch, not pre-mixed stuff).\n\nWhen I arrived at her place, she showed me a simple bran muffin recipe on pinterest with 3 ingredients. I explained that the easiest recipe might not produce the best end result. She seemed upset that I made the muffins my way instead. The muffins turned out perfect and both she and her dad liked them (and her mom too).\n\nThe next morning I texted her to let her know that I thought the party was great and that I had fun. I followed up by sayinng that she should try to be more spontaneous and have more faith in people. This upset her greatly and she called, crying, claiming that I accused her of being boring.\n\nIn retrospect I suppose I chose my words poorly, and really I just wanted her to trust me a bit more than some random post on pinterest. But she threatened to break up with me and that this was \"the last straw\". She later calmed down a bit and we talked it through (at least I think we did).\n\nWas I being that much of a jerk?", "summary": "Texted GF to be more spontaneous because she was upset I used more than 3 ingredients for muffin recipe. GF threatened to break up."}
{"id": "t3_3mw54f", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Need help!", "post": "I just moved into a house with my girlfriend and sister and they both have dogs. Both are female, one is a black lab the other is a rat terrier. The lab is fixed but my girlfriends terrier is not and she refuses to get her fixed until she breeds her. The terrier isn't very well house trained (my girlfriend had the dog before we met) I practically trained the dog as best I could. I've done everything and anything I possibly could to train the pup to go outside and for brief instances she's actually good about it. However since my sister started living with us I've noticed how the terrier is urinating and well, shitting EVERYWHERE. I literally laid down on my couch and the minute I do the terrier jumps up and urinates right beside me! \nMy girlfriend is oblivious to it and doesn't/hasn't treated this like a serious issue since the dog is well over a year and a half old. I've never personally raised a dog on my own before so I'm kind of lost here. Any advice or helpful hints would be greatly appreciated since our landlord does business with my family and I don't want to ruin any of that because of my girlfriends dog.", "summary": "gf's dog won't quit pissing/shitting in house. Can't find a solution what do reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_3ias2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I [22F] am depressed. What should I say to my fianc\u00e9e [22F] of three years?", "post": "I've been depressed before and I know how this feels, but last time was before we were together. Katie (my fianc\u00e9e) has noticed my moods and encouraged me to see a therapist so I've booked an appointment. So that part is fine.\n\nI'm worried I'm going to drag her down and make her hate me. I'm an open book normally when it comes to emotions but now every time she asks how I'm feeling it's just coming out bad, bad, bad. So I try not to say anything about it but then she gets more inquisitive because I'm acting weird!\n\nI don't want her to end up resenting me. I know how long it can take to get this under control. What should I do?", "summary": "I need tips on handling a relationship while depressed."}
{"id": "t3_f7kvc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you handle a stranger acting like a douche nozzle to someone else?", "post": "This morning I was grabbing coffee at the Starbucks next to my house.  Sunday mornings are usually crowded here.  I place my order then turn and  realize the man behind me is clearly a giant douche.  40-something, bluetooth in ear while not talking to on the phone, long slicked back hair,goatee, leather jacket, nasty fat flappy jowls while, and on his blackberry.  Dick-Weed behind me orders and and the cashier calls the out the order to the barista which I guess was wrong.  This guy starts flipping out that he has to tell the cashier his order twice.  Everyone was disgusted by this guy's behavior at this point.  So the barista asks to make sure the order she wrote down was correct and read is back to him.  I have never heard any so angrily growl the phrase, \" I want, whip cream!!!\".  This prick is about to lose it on the staff and continues to berate them.  No one there said anything.  I wanted to but was at a loss for what to say.  All I could do was smile at the staff and say thank you when they served me.  How do you handle these people.  I feel crappy for chickening out and not calling this guy out but I just have no clue how to handle these guys. Thanks for any help!", "summary": "Guy is asshole to barista, I dont say anything.  How to you handle these people?"}
{"id": "t3_1o43r1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] mother [43 F] wants me to spend Thanksgiving with her new family.", "post": "Less than a week ago my mother remarried. She now plans to spend her holidays with her new husband's family. She has asked me to attend a Thanksgiving dinner being hosted by her mother in-law. More than a dozen people I have never met are expected to be there.\n\nI suffer from social anxiety and this is a nightmare scenario for me. In similar situations I find myself sitting alone with a book trying to avoid everyone. My discomfort is obvious and sometimes people try and help me which only makes things worse. I don't want these people thinking I'm a crazy person.\n\nI tried to explain to my mother that I don't plan on attending but she didn't seem to understand. How should I explain this to her?", "summary": "My mother wants me to meet her new extended family and I don't think I can handle it."}
{"id": "t3_32p49t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am unsure if my feelings for my good friend [23F] will ever disappear", "post": "It started having a crush on my work colleague 1.5 years ago. We worked together but didn't spend much time together socially, and if we did, always with another work colleague. We had a lot of similar interests and we always had a good time talking together. At this point i didn't realize i had feelings for her, but my day was always brightened after having a laugh with her. It should be mentioned that she had a boyfriend. After 5-6 months, we started hanging out more, just the two of us, having deep conversations and i found we agreed on a lot of things. This is where the feelings began to develop. In part, i think, due to me not having had such a connection with a girl before, not like this anyway. I knew she had a boyfriend and i knew i wasn't the type of guy she would have a relationship with anyways, so i tried my hardest to kill these feelings. I also haven't had a good friend like her in a long time, so the thought of losing her by cutting her off where too much.\n\nShe quit her job about half a year ago to start something new, and ever since that we've been hanging out 2-6 times a week. I feel like i have my feelings under control. I've gotten to know her very well and with an objective eye i know we wouldn't fit together in a relationship. But, i just can't stop thinking of her. Not 24/7, but at least once every day. It's driving me a bit mad, because i know there's nothing there and there never will be, but my brain likes to make me think there is. I always realize shortly after how stupid it is and then i laugh a little at myself.\n\nWill this ever get better? Will i ever stop thinking of her this way? I feel like i'm conning her into believing i'm just a friend. I also feel like i may be doing this to myself. I'm not the best at making new friends and the thought of losing her ruins my day.", "summary": "Met a girl at work who i developed feelings for. Spend a year being a friend while trying to kill my feelings. Unsure if feelings will ever stop, will they? I really hope i'm just being impatient."}
{"id": "t3_250pah", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend [25/m] says I [22/f] shouldn't lecture him?", "post": "My boyfriend is three years older than me, and overall, he's very mature and intelligent. But sometimes, he acts like a child. I love him and care about him, so when I think he didn't do something right, I feel the need/obligation to tell him about it. If I didn't care about him, I wouldn't waste my breath. \n\nToday, he went to his tattoo artist to finish his half-sleeve tattoo. The tattoo artist is well-respected and the tattoo looks amazing. BUT he never even asked how much it would cost. The tattoo artist charged him $450 for the first session, and another $350 for today's session. I'm not saying the tattoo itself cost too much, because I know good tattoos are costly (and you should never go cheap on a tattoo). \n\nHe's angry because I lectured him like he's a child, and because it's his money, not mine. But that's not even the point. The point is, it's fine that he charges $100/hour, but he still should've asked during the consultation (or when he was working on him). What if the tattoo artist, or some other person in the future, decides to rip him off? \n\nI know he's a grown adult, and I know he can take care of himself, but I still feel the need to express my feelings. Is that wrong? We're very close and comfortable with each other, and we always talk about everything... so I should just keep to myself and watch him make \"stupid\" decision?", "summary": "I feel the need to voice my concerns when he does something stupid, but he thinks I shouldn't lecture him like a child."}
{"id": "t3_151753", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[21F] am in a FWB situation with a guy [23M] that may be developing into more. Am I reading too much into it?", "post": "Okay, so here's the situation: I had a massive crush on this guy in middle/highschool, didn't talk for years though we go to the same (large) college. Started a fwb situation about 2 months ago when we hooked up after a party.\n\nWe've been hanging out every weekend since then, and we've moved from just meeting up for sex to meeting at bars and then sex, then meeting up, hanging out then sex. He's even met some of my friends through the bars and came to a party at my house once.\n\nWell, the extra talking/hangout time has continued, and recently he actually put his arm around me/kissed me at the bar when we met up.\n\nWe've obliquely discussed the relationship thing when another fwb (call him Mark) wanted to hook up with me a few weeks ago. He said he wouldn't like it, but I can do what I want to. He hasn't hooked up with anyone else over this period of time, but he said (a while ago) that he doesn't want to start a relationship because he wants to go to grad school overseas and doesn't want a LDR.\n\nI am starting to kind of want a...casual relationship, I guess? As in go out to dinner together, actually meet more friends, but it can end when he leaves to go overseas.\n\nI guess I just don't know how to approach this. I already have monogomy from him, if only by default, so it would just be making this a bit more official.\n\nAn additional complication is that Mark is gonna be in town over winter break and wants to hook up while we are here. I am not sure what to do about Mark either way.", "summary": "In a FWB situation that is starting to turn into more, but previous FWB is around wanting to hook up. If this becomes more official, I won't hook up with him, if not, then I probably will. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3zh7im", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feel like I wake up every day expecting my farther to be gone.", "post": "So to start things off I care about my farther and it really scares me to think he might not be on this world for much longer he is only 50 which is not that old but i just don't believe he will be here for the next 10 years he smokes A lot and does not really do a lot of exercise, I have no way to help him he refuses to stop and does every time i suggest him to do something he always has some kind of problem or something hurting him I really don't know what to do,I suggested he tried to vape but he says its \"not for him\" I just don't want to lose him before his time like he lost his farther.\n(sorry about spelling/grammar i'm really bad at it :/)", "summary": "Feel I will lose my dad in the next 10 years (probably cancer)"}
{"id": "t3_13ilzr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your favourite moment from history class?", "post": "After reading this story,  it got me thinking of what my favourite moment in history class. For me, it was an activity our class did where we where we were put into groups, and each group was assigned a country in pre-WWI Europe. The goal of the conference was to stop the first world war from happening. The way the activity worked was each country had a leader, and the leader's job was to give propositions to the teacher. The league (countries) then voted, using secret ballets, on whether they wanted the motion to pass or not. At least half the countries in the league had to vote yes in order for the motion to pass. There was about 10 min between vote, which allowed for countries to make agreements, form alliances, ect. We were allowed to assassinate one person without war breaking out, which in retrospect, we should have used.\nIt was the second day of this, and the leader of Serbia happened to be sick, so the second in command, who happened to be the class troll, was in charge of Serbia. All was going well, when the Serbian leader put forward a motion that the league would take control over Russia and Britain. I was a part of Britain, so my group members and I were Running around the class room, frantically trying to get enough countries to agree to veto the motion. The leader of our group then gave a note to the teacher that Britain had positioned the Royal Navy and that if the motion was to pass, it would shell the conference. When the vote finally happened, every country but two agreed to the motion, so the leader of every major country in Europe was killed, starting the first world war.", "summary": "In our history class, the first world war was started because Britain and Russia were taken over by every European country, so Britain shelled the leaders of every major European country."}
{"id": "t3_4vscth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] have gone on 2 dates with a girl [21F] I met online, now we're both on vacation. Should I contact her during or wait till we both get back?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nI've gone on two dates (both last week) with a girl I met online. They both went really well in my opinion and we agreed to hang out again when we both got back from vacation (we joked a lot about mini-golfing so said we should do that, but no concrete dates have been set). \n\nThe day after our second date we texted a little bit, but nothing major - and haven't been in contact at all since. A few days after our second date I started my vacation and a few days after that she started hers. \n\nShould I send her a small text, (\"Hey! How's your trip to {location} going?\") or let it lie until we're both back in town early next week? \n\nWe've only known each other for like a week, so I don't have any expectations on her to message me or ask  me how my trip is going, but I was wondering if I could / should on my end. Like I mentioned, both dates seemed to go really well (we ended up kissing on our second date, if that matters), so that just makes me wonder if it's weird if we don't contact each other in 1.5 weeks (how long it will have been when we're both back in town).\n\nOther small issue is that I'm not sure she has cell / data where she's gone. I could message her on FB though. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Went on a few dates with a girl, which went well. We're both off on separate week long vacations now. Should I text her or wait till we're both back in town?"}
{"id": "t3_4d1hw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am ready to break up with my girlfriend [25 F] of 5 years. How do I do this?", "post": "I know it seems like a silly question but I've never really done this before. She is the first serious girlfriend I've had. Lately it just seems like communication between us is breaking down. It feels like we argue a lot and we just can't seem to get on the same page with how to talk to one another. I guess because we've been arguing a lot I've also noticed we don't have a lot in common. We have very different interest, political views, religious views, and to some extent, we differ on how we think we should raise a child. \n\nI don't hate her, which I guess is what makes this hard for me. In my head I think a relationship this long should only end with some dramatic. Someone cheats or there's abuse or something like that, but there really hasn't been any of that. I just don't love her anymore\n\nSo my question is, how do I go about having this conversation? How do I start it? What should I say? I don't think she expects it which makes it hard too. I know I'm going to hurt her, and I do still care for her, so that really bothers me. I suppose I'll have to get over that, but I do want to end this as cleanly as possible and I just need some advice.", "summary": "How do I have the break up conversation with my girlfriend of 5 years?"}
{"id": "t3_34w60i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25M] 2.5 years, planning for marriage, is doubt normal?", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and I couldn't be happier. We have tons of fun together, have the same values, want the same things out of life, and all that. We support and care about each other. Of course there are some minor disagreements from time to time, but for the most part, we are both very happy. \n\nWe talked about getting married a long time ago, and we both have always known we would get married. We were waiting for the right time - when we were both out of school, ready for marriage, financial stable, etc. Well, we are getting to that time, and we are talking seriously about when we plan to get engaged. \n\nOut of nowhere, I have started to have some doubts. I've been wondering, is this really right for me? Sometimes when we have little arguments, I think to myself \"Do I want to deal with this my entire life?\" The smallest things that never used to bother me (like, if he didn't put his plate away right after eating), now make me wonder if I'm headed down the wrong path. \n\nSo, basically, I want to ask: Is this normal?? I know that almost all couples who get divorced say that they had seen \"warning signs\" and had doubts prior to being married. However, I have to imagine many happy couples also felt some fears and doubts before tying the knot? It is such a HUGE commitment, and people always talk of getting cold feet. Is it normal or a red flag? \n\nI don't want to leave a great relationship for no reason. At the same time, I'm terrified of making the wrong decision on such an important decision. My parents had a bad divorce when I was young, so that may be part of my fear. I should also probably mention that in all areas of my life, I have a hard time making decisions and suffer from pretty severe anxiety. \n\nAny advice is appreciated! Thank you!", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are planning to get engaged/married soon. Our relationship is great. Is some doubt normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5v6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16m] am wondering if this is too creepy or weird.", "post": "This girl [16] and I play this online game together and have for a (relatively) long time now (8 months(ish)?). I'm not sure if she does or not (pretty sure she does) but I consider us friends to an extent. \n\nWe talk a lot about anything really almost daily. We do get kinda flirty sometimes but I don't think either of us think of us as serious because we really only know each other over text in a video game.\n\nBut I really want to thank her for being such a good friend to me for all this time and am wondering if this seems to creepy.\n\nThis is kinda a rough draft I just wrote out:\n\n-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------\nWe have known each other for a long time now haven't we. Considering my not-so-perfect social skills, I think it's really amazing that you have been so nice to me for so long. If I think about it, even if you don't think our \"relationship\" is out of the ordinary, you are very high on the list of good things that have happened to me in my life. And even if it seems weird, (which I am aware it probably does) I really want to thank you for being such a good friend. But u know I'm just going to put myself out there and say that you have made my life a lot better, and me a lot more confident irl. I really look forward to and enjoy playing with you on here and just wanted to let you know. And to let you know that I care about you and that I have been and will be here for you if you ever need anything. \n\nIk that was sappy and awkward >_< I'm sorry lol. \n------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nAlso maybe at a different time if it seems appropriate, ask for a different form of contact, fb, skype, etc?\n\nDoes this seem ok to you guys or should I not send this to her?", "summary": "I am wondering if I should send a thank-you to my online friend for being such a good friend. Also if I should maybe get a different form of contact from her in the future (or maybe now idk?)?"}
{"id": "t3_263git", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [20 F] of 12 months. I've made several failed attempts at breaking things off. Is a letter an acceptable breakup method?", "post": "If you're a regular in this sub, there's a chance you may remember my multiple posts regarding my relationship with my GF and me wanting to break things off. (If you're interested my previous posts can be found in my post history).\n\nAnyway, I've tried to break things off with her multiple times, and each time I've failed. The sight and sound of her being upset and crying makes me give in every time. We currently live together with my parents and things have deteriorated to the point that I no longer feel like dragging this on any longer, for both of our sakes. We're both miserable and I'm beginning to feel it's becoming detrimental to hers and my own health. \n\nMy question is, is a letter an acceptable method of breaking up with someone? If so, do you guys have any suggestions as to what I should include in said letter? or when / how I should get it to her?", "summary": "I suck at breaking up. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ec6l7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My neighbor is bat-shit insane.  I need some ideas that won't get me arrested to make her back off.", "post": "My next door neighbor is some kind of crazy and over the top annoying.  Yesterday - Thanksgiving - she started he outdoor stereo system at about 10 a.m. - as she does.  She only has one CD and it's a mix with The Gambler, Sweet Home Alabama, and that Zac Brown song and some other random shit.  We left at 1:30 for dinner, and when we got back several hours later, It was still playing.  And they were drink and noisy and the same damn songs all effing night.  Going inside and shutting the doors didn't help.  We asked them to turn it down - they turned it up.  We finally called the cops after 12 hours, and they turned it down for about 10 minutes.  Then they turned it up even louder after the cops left.  The cops basically said, there's nothing we can do - it's not 1 a.m.  So we decided to put on our own music.  System of a Down - on repeat the Prison song (don't know what the name is).  We let it play with the speakers pointing at her patio for about an hour and a half before they called the cops.  The cops came, said turn it down, so we did.  When the cops left, the son - who's in his 30s, threatened both of us - fortunately, the cops didn't actually leave - unbeknownst to us.  They were listening at the fence to see if it would escalate.  They intervened and told the son to back off or he would get arrested.  Other than playing System of a Down every time they crank it up and start being obnoxious drunk, does anyone have any ideas about how to put my neighbor in her place?", "summary": "If you've ever had a horrible neighbor (really horrible), was there anything you did to make them leave you alone, that didn't get you arrested, but annoyed the crap out of them?"}
{"id": "t3_3zppn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My friend [25M] depends so heavily on me [24F] and I'm not sure I can bear much more. Am I being selfish?", "post": "Hi again, so my last post here :  Didn't get a huge amount of attention but appreciated every comment and PM. Thank you all. \n\nA lot of people noted my avoidance of conflict which was letting him walk all over me. You were right. So I called him, and basically told him that I couldn't be his support system, that I could be his friend but I'm not his therapist or his SO and advised that he gets help with his emotional issues. \n\nHe agreed with me, and agreed to back off. He didn't agree to therapy but I can't force him.\n\nIt was good for a few months,  we were having near normal conversations and it was a looot easier on me. \n\nThen christmas came around. He became very lonely and all started again. Except this time I didn't have the patience at all, and I couldn't help it - I turned really mean. \n\nHe started complaining about how others treat him, that he feels people are not appreciating him. One of many examples was his work colleagues weren't \"grateful enough\" when he gave them all (unasked for) xmas gifts. I flipped out, and told him he expects far too much from people and he needs to sort himself out (I'd be freaked out if some random work guy gave me presents, it's not a thing in our country). \n\nIt's pretty obvious this is an unhealthy dynamic. As a friend he should be able to get some support from me but he's exhausted that avenue so much that I just become nasty. I don't want to be nasty.   \n\nSo I cut contact. He's tried to contact me a few times apologising again, asking to talk. So I do have one more question for reddit, though I'm pretty sure I know the answer myself.", "summary": "Should I stick with not contacting my friend who relies on me to support his emotional baggage, or is there another way I could help him? An ultimatum that he could get therapy and I'll talk to him could be one - though is that even my problem?"}
{"id": "t3_43ns91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am struggling with pre-existing intimacy problems as I get close to friends now [21F],[20F]", "post": "I've always had trouble making and keeping friends. Nothing abnormal, some mild anxiety after bad experiences in middle school. Throughout high school I decided to go it alone and did well with a few friends I would only see and speak to once a week. \n\nI met my current friends about two years ago. For the past couple of months I've been really stressed and I couldn't figure out why. I think now it's possible that I've become close with them to the point of discomfort. I trust these guys a lot. I care about them, a lot. I've told them things I wouldn't tell anyone. It's felt really good to be able to have that relationship! But I also feel weak and exposed. I feel some deterioration in my self worth. \n\nThe anxiety is coming back to bite me in the ass. They know I have intimacy problems, we've talked about it before. They know I have fears and weaknesses and that just makes me really uncomfortable. I know some things about them as well, but now I'm not the collected and composed person I might have appeared to be before. It's just a really big change and I feel kind of overwhelmed. Also feel like I want to pull back to my comfort zone. If anyone has similar situations/stories to share, please do!", "summary": "After years of no real friends I finally have people I care about, but being in an intimate relationship is apparently not in my comfort zone."}
{"id": "t3_31p89c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Embarrassing myself by getting locked out of the car by a spider.", "post": "TIFU: Today on my way out of my college campus a spider made me its bitch. (Worth the read) I was driving off my college's campus when I saw a big hairy spider descend down it's web onto my steering wheel. Alarmed, I started to pull over to the side of the road only using the nubs of my hands. I get out of the car in a panic, forgetting to turn off the car, take it out of gear, and taking out the keys from the ignition. I do, however, pull the parking brake up. Car dies (because it is manual trans) and I begin to pace back and forth for about 10 minutes, I gather a dandelion in hopes it'll help me get the spider out, and begin getting strange looks from anyone driving by. After deciding that a measly little dandelion isn't strong enough to flick the spider out of the car, I decide I should use one of my pencils that is in my bag which is in my car. I attempt to open the Jeep doors, they're both locked. I suppose I must have locked my door by force of habit, as I do anytime I get out of my car. Having a soft top Jeep, I unzip my windows, reach in and unlock my door. I grab a pencil from my bag and begin to, very awkwardly, hold the driver's door open and attempt to flick the spider out of the car. I think I saw it fly out, but I wasn't able to find it on the ground near my car. Now, hours after the incident, I'm still terrified that it may still be lingering somewhere in the car.", "summary": "Almost died because a spider appeared out of nowhere in my car, and I should have just torched the car instead of making a fool of myself for anyone driving by watching me dance around my car with a dandelion."}
{"id": "t3_khk48", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most disappointing New Year celebration?", "post": "I'll start.\nTwo years ago I decided to spend it with my girlfriend at her place. She had been invited to this party/concert a couple of miles away from her house so naturally we went. She was also supposed to sing at the concert so I thought this was a pretty big deal. We left pretty early so she could make the sound check and everything. We show up and it's this local normally used by boyscouts or something, much smaller than I expected. First of, she introduces me to the guys she's supposed to sing with and when they ask if I'm her boyfriend, she says no. We had been dating for a couple of months and she was immature as hell, but what the hell, I just travelled across the country to spend New Year with her and I get that at the start of the evening. Doesn't get better from here. \nI waited for hours being bored as hell since noone else showed up until a few hours later. Didn't really matter anyway since the only person I knew was my gf. People started arriving and it got more and more awkward since they were all black (not a racist, just felt it was weird with me and my gf being the only white people there).\nLater that evening I felt this intense pain in one of my testicles. I went to the bathroom about 6 times in one hour and it wouldn't go away. To this day I have no idea what it was, but I've never felt it again.\nPeople didn't even recognize that the clock had struck 12 so I found out myself by checking my phone. Didn't even see a single firework that day. Shared a tiny itchy couch with my gf and got about 1 hour of sleep in total. Oh, and my gf sang one single song with some young hip-hop wannabes. Worst. New Year. Ever.", "summary": "Party was crap, found out my girlfriend didn't see us as a couple, intense pain in testicle, no fireworks in sight, only white guy at the party, night spent on the itchiest fucking couch in the world"}
{"id": "t3_2r7ra4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What are my options?", "post": "Hey /r/personalfinance, I've run into an issue with one of the major online brokerage firms (that I don't yet want to name publicly) that I'd like to seek your guidance on.\n\nFirst, I should say that I have all my investment accounts with this firm (including 5 IRAs and a main brokerage account) and have been a client for over 10 years now. Just about a month ago, I moved a rather large sum (low 6 figures) into my brokerage account with the intent of beginning to invest it. In the interim, unforeseen personal circumstances compelled me to move those funds out of the brokerage account for another purpose. I intiated a transfer online and was informed the transaction could not be processed...after calling and speaking to a customer service rep, I was initially told that there should be no problem transfering the money as the amount does not exceed the daily limits, however upon speaking to a supervisor (in risk or possibly compliance dept?) **I was told the transfer was not allowed because they thought it was suspicious and it didn't make any sense why I would move funds into the account and then want them out again so soon.** After explainingg in general terms that there was a very legimate reason from my perspective as to why I'm moving the funds out again and pressing them on this since I was intially told by one of their reps before I moved the funds into the brokerage account that there is no issue moving funds in and out as long as you don't exceed the daily limits. The response on this from the supervisor was that this is a 'business decision' and they have compliance and other regulations to follow.\n\nSo, here are the questions: What is my recourse here? Can they legally hold my funds based on suspicions only? Who do I contact at the firm to resolve this? Anyone I should reach out to outside the firm? Do I need to provide an explanation as to why I moved the funds in and why I'm now needing to move them out? Any advice you can provide on how I might be able to resolve this is very welcome.", "summary": "Online brokerage firm not allowing transfer of funds out of account and claim its a 'business decision'"}
{"id": "t3_xn2hy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "About to buy me some Interwebs (UK) for the first time.  What, in your opinion, is realistically the best ISP out there?", "post": "I am about to move into a new Lad-Castle in Glasgow, and I've been riding the free waves of my girlfriends internet to find out about the buying of said internet. What an age we live in.\n\nSo far, all the jargon and sales pitching (which I can usually see through when I glance over to the small print) has left me feeling untrustworthy of any ISP's promise to provide me with the means to look at pictures of cats until my eyes bleed.\n\nI am therefor reaching out to the watchful guardians of internet sanctity to guide me through the dark forrest of InterBlag selection, and find out who ACTUALLY lives up to their claims, and fulfils your dreams of flawless surfing.\n\n**Details:**  Only looking for an Unlimited Usage service that is the fastest and most reliable, at a decent cost (price being the least important factor).  It will be used in a flat of 3 internet-heavy users, for copious amounts of downloading, streaming, blogging, blagging, and gaming, so ability to cope with high demand is a must.  Had Virgin Media last year and it was a let down.", "summary": "BEST INTERNET ISP for heavy usage with fast, reliable connection."}
{"id": "t3_1419mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't tell when it's time to call it quits (both 25)", "post": "My SO (25M) and I (25F) have been together for 2 1/2 years. Most of our relationship has been long distance, but 6 months ago he moved cities to move in with me. It feels like it has gone down hill since then. Here are the main issues:\n1)He lived with his mother prior to that who did all the cooking/cleaning/chores, and now cleaning is a constant argument. He's comfortable letting the house get WAY dirtier than I am. We almost broke up a while ago and following that he got better about pulling his weight for a couple weeks, but he has now gone back to his previous pattern.\n2)I have trouble with his porn use. We've discussed this before and he volunteered to just not use it anymore when he moved in, but then a few months ago he went back to using it. Our sex life was great when he wasn't using it, but now sex is very rare. I might have an easier time with it if he appeared to still be interested in me, but since he's gone back to using it he never initiates and often rejects me when I do.\n3)I've been very open with him about ultimately wanting marriage and family. I'm not in any rush to get engaged or anything, it's just something that I know that I want in my lifetime. About a month ago he casually mentioned that he definitely doesn't want to get married and is unsure if he would ever want kids.\n\nWe've been seeing a counselor for a while in the hopes it would help us adjust to living together, but I'm still pretty unhappy. The problem is, in spite of our problems and my unhappiness, I do still love him. He's the most significant and longest relationship I've had. He isn't open to moving out without breaking up.\n\nMy question is, for people who've ended serious relationships (particularly if you thought that person was 'the one'), how did you know it was time to make that final decision? There are times I think I know that I have to do it, but other times I doubt myself because of the feelings I still have for him", "summary": "How do you finally make the decision to walk away from a long relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3h1w1y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [20/f] and I [23/m] may have a \"slight\" problem.", "post": "My SO and I are currently in a long distance relationship as we met at school. We are 9 hours away from each other by car or a couple hundred dollar plane ride. I got to go see her 2 weeks ago and her family and I went on a trip with a bunch of their family and friends. Well, we snuck off to do our thing and were usually safe, minus a couple occasions. Well, I wonder who else sees where this is headed, but she's 4 days late as of right now. This has been stressing me out for a couple days now and she's on her way to take a pregnancy test at the moment and then we are going to talk right after. Her family is pretty conservative, and she is home alone right now. Her whole family is out of town, I'm 500 miles away, and she's going to see if she's pregnant. I'm freaking out. I don't know what to say either way and I don't know what to tell her if this doesn't go the way we are hoping. And I don't want her to be alone either. I didn't know how we were going to make this work leading into this situation... I just graduated and she's on her way back to school so we'll still be 3 hours away as my job is not in the same city as our school was. \n\nI guess I am asking others who have had this kind of situation happen: what they did, what they said, and what happened in the long run? Maybe a good wish or two would be nice.", "summary": "Had sexy time and now she's late."}
{"id": "t3_4krmca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriends keep asking for marriage, I never commit. Me [25F] with my bf[27M] of 9 months, do I fear commitment, have grass-is-greener syndrome, or lack love?", "post": "My first relationship that was 2 years was passionate but troubled. In that relationship I was slow to admit my feelings-- to both him and myself. I didn't say \"I love you\" until a year in. Early on, he wanted to get married, I didn't feel us getting married felt right so I left him as to not lead him on. For the next 2 years I felt a lot of regret and pain over leaving the man I loved, but still believe it was the right choice. \n\nSecond boyfriend lasted 2 months, he started to say he knew I was the one he would marry, I panicked as I didn't feel the same so fast and the situation felt similar to my first relationship so he dumped me. \n\nSo spent a year single, then dated around a while, then met my current bf. My relationship now is more healthy. It is not as much raw passion as my first but more centered on shared values and communication. Whenever we have arguments we talk through them, he always listens and works on ways to improve the relationship. He said \"I love you\" about a month in and says it to me everyday. It has been 9 months and I have not said it back. (only ever said it to my first bf and took a year then) He wants to get married, but is willing to wait until I feel ready. I have been honest with him and told him I am not even ready to say I love you, much less get married. I am not sure if its that I just don't love him that way, am afraid to commit, have an unrealistic desire for a passion like my first love, or have a false sense that the \"grass is always greener\". I have been careful to not lead him on, but also fear letting him go in fear of repeating that feeling of deep regret I felt when leaving my first relationship.", "summary": "Decent boyfriends keep asking for marriage, I am never on the same page and I don't know if its them or me"}
{"id": "t3_fik5y", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Starting a new job on Monday... earlier today I setup a callback for the dream job.... HALP.", "post": "OK, so I've been out of work since December 3rd. I applied at many many places and put out of my resume in a lot of good places. Including my Dream Job at Company \"Huge People\"\n\nI actually have been turned down by Huge People's automated hoop jumping 4 times now... but I'm really qualified for the job. I have in depth background and it was literally my life for three years. (they are asking for people with 5-7 years experience)\n\nNow, I have a job at Small People, I interviewed with them last week, they checked my references and made me a good offer that was right about the same amount of money that I was making before I departed my last job. \n\nSo an old friend send me an email today to say that a recruiter from \"Huge People\" had emailed him and he was going to check if it was OK to send to me. About an hour later I get the email forwarded to me and I replied back with a quick cover letter and my resume/references. One of my references works for \"Huge People\". Oh and Huge People would probably be double the pay of Small People. \n\nSo I'm looking for some advice... What do I do?\n(I guess the more important question is if \"Huge People\" offers me a Job how do I handle \"Small People\"?)", "summary": "I've taken an offer for a job from one company and a bigger company has now asked me for a phone interview tomorrow. How do I handle the situation? "}
{"id": "t3_1gx7uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/m] Quick advice - Messaging a girl I haven't officially introduced myself too.. weird?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nso, there's this girl that I see about once a week and we always make eye contact and like theres definitely something there. It sucks because every time I see her, it's never an appropriate time to talk to her and i don't want to interrupt her. i've seen her out at a local bar once but i had to babysit some drunk friends and never was able to approach her.\n\nwell anyway, i was thinking about sending her a message on the FBook and just asking if she casually wanted to go out and get a drink. upon further investigation, it seems like she comes up to my town in the summers and doesn't have many friends around, so i thought it'd be nice just to bring her out around town and get out of the house. she has a few mutual friends of mine on their, but i'm just not sure if sending a message is creepy or not that big a deal.\n\ni'm pretty confident she would be up for it, but i'm just not sure if sending a message out of the blue like that, randomly - and i mean randomly - would be like a weird or 'stalker' type thing or if i should just wait to see her again and hope there is a time i can say hi. it's never certain that i'll run into her, it just happens randomly. i've run into her about 10 times in the past month and a half, but only the past few times have i found out she's single and stuff and would like to pursue her. as you can tell i'm pretty nervous and anxious. \n\nthanks all.", "summary": "i see this girl every now and again, have never introduced myself, i'd like to send her a message but we're not 'friends' on the book, not sure if creepy or not a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_40vf08", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (33M) love my (31F) girlfriend of 2 years+ and she is my best friend but am no longer attracted to her. Do I end it?", "post": "Our strength has never really been our physical/sexual chemistry, but I've always thought of that part of relationships as being the least important, and what we have had has been passable.  However, lately the physical/sexual side of things has decreased even further, and it now feels more and more like a companionship kind of relationship more than romantic.\n\nOther aspects of the relationship (intellectual, emotional chemistry, etc.) all continue to be the highest I've ever experienced.  But I'm coming to the conclusion now that the physical/sexual is still a necessary prerequisite for any relationship, so it seems inevitable to me that we will break up.\n\nSince realizing this I have been feeling incredibly guilty.  She remains my closest friend and my favorite person in the world, so I desperately don't want to hurt her, but now that I've become more certain that we won't make it long term, I feel like I need to end it asap to avoid wasting her time, since neither of us are getting any younger.", "summary": "When the physical/sexual side of a relationship dies, is it time to end it even when other aspects of the relationship are solid?"}
{"id": "t3_2v6hrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] thinking about ending a seemingly non-problematic relationship with [26F] gf of 2 years", "post": "Here's my story:\n\nAbout two years ago my ex girlfriend of many years broke up with me due to LDR. Naturally I was quite devastated and had this massive hole in me which needed to be filled badly. This is where my current gf comes in. We started seeing eachother a few month after my break up and things started progressing. At this point I wasn't sure if I wanted that but she was somewhat pushy and I accepted it thinking that I'd give it a change and see what happens. Fast forwards 2 years - I don't feel anything special about her. We don't fight, everything is normal and I enjoy her company most of the time, but she might as well be my sister. Furthermore, we live together which means that I have very little personal space and I'm feeling like strangled. \n\nThat's why I've been thinking of enidng it for a few months now but I can't gather the courage. What bugs me is the fact that everything is normal between us and when I decide to break up with her it will be like a shock... one day we go outside, meet friend, etc and the other \"hey we're breaking up\". I just seems weird to me.\n\nI don't know if I'm looking for an advice. Maybe I just wanted to put my thoughts into writing. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Thinking of breaking up with gf because I feel nothing for her, but don't know how to bring the topic up."}
{"id": "t3_225zku", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] With serious question! This is driving me insane!!! About a [22/F]", "post": "Right, so this girl has been driving me nuts! I really am head over heels for her. I've known her for ages and everyone knows I like her now.\n\nHer brother is my best friend so obviously he knows and he took matters into his own hands and asked her, she said she didn't like me that way. I've text her drunkenly confessing my feelings, she let me down way easy. She is pretty awesome like that.\n\nA few years ago we'd always go to the pubs and we would flirt to no end, she'd take me by the hand to places, sit on my knee and kiss me all the time and stuff. Which made me feel AMAZING.\n\nAnyway so yesterday I'm in her car and she's asking me why I'm down and I'm telling her nothing, because who wants to date a misery guts? \n\nBut then she starts listing things trying to get to the bottom of it and she asks if it was her. I hesitate and say no. And she tells me to text her if I feel down. I do this for her aswell, it's a two way street :)\n\nANYWAYS. Tomorrow, I'm going to tell her to pick me up and when she asks me what's wrong I'll tell her to park up so we can have a cigarette somewhere and I want to know what to say. Because this is it! I'm laying my cards on the table one last time.\n\nWhat I was thinking of saying was:\n\n\"Y'know I used to like you? Well that's changed, I'm absolutely head over heels for you. Seriously I wish you could see yourself through my eyes, you're amazing, and I'm not just saying that. You are amazing. Look I know someone like you would never go for someone like me, or ever could. But a few years ago I thought it was possible. It's just that I see you all the time, and to try and think of you as just a friend is like trying to climb Everest.\" \n\nWhadda ya think? BTW it's like 5am and I'm meeting her today. Yes I'm losing sleep over this. Feed back ASAP would be awesome!", "summary": "Need to figure out what to say to the girl I'm head over tit for ASAP!!"}
{"id": "t3_2evfl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] crushing on my friend [25 F] who is already in a relationship", "post": "Basically, I have a friend that I'm crushing on pretty hard. I think part of the reason that I like her so much is that I haven't had any real connections with any female friends for a long time. This is the first crush I've had in like 6 years.\n\nThere is zero chance of us ever working out especially since she has a BF. I know it doesn't mean shit when a girl flirts with you if she has a BF but try telling my emotions that.\n\nWe connect on so many things its kind of unreal. As far as I can tell, shes perfect in all the important ways. Everyone has flaws but I haven't come across any of my dealbreakers yet so it's making getting over her pretty hard. I'm probably idolizing her. No one is perfect.\n\nAnyways, we're good friends. I want to get over her so that I just think of her as a friend but it's been really difficult. I (regrettably) tried demonizing her and it just strained the friendship. Maybe I just need to distance myself? Stop hanging out with her as much? Is it possible that I'm filling in the gaps of her romantic relationship since she has told me it's kind of rough at the moment?\n\nHow blurry is the line between close male friend and boyfriend? If I think about it from his perspective (her BF), and if he knew how much we talked, he'd probably be a little uncomfortable with it. If it feels wrong then it probably is, right? I don't want to feel this way. I want to get the fuck over it. My heart shouldn't jump when she texts me and hearing her voice shouldn't put me in an inexplicably good mood. She's just a friend.\n\nThis is starting to feel like a confession more than anything. Just writing it out has helped me kind of organize my thoughts but the irrationality comes in waves. I know the feelings will come back. I'm getting better at managing it but any tips would be greatly appreciated.\n\nBTW, I don't think she knows I like her in this way but sometimes people are more perceptive than they seem.", "summary": "I need to get over my crush to preserve a great friendship. It's unhealthy and unfair to myself to dwell on her. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_4u0x8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] don't know how to get my parents [40sM/F] to take me to a doctor to get a mental illness diagnosed.", "post": "Throwaway because my main is really easy to link with myself.\n\nSo for quite a few years now, I've been feeling what would probably be diagnosed as depression (...and maybe some other stuff at this point. I have no clue anymore.) I don't remember when it started, but all I know now is that very few things actually make me happy anymore.\n\nSo before high school started, I wanted to get this figured out. When I had alone time with my mom, I tried to tell her. However, she responded with, \"Oh, you're too smart to have a mental illness.\" (Paraphrasing a REALLY long response, but that was the main point of it.) I didn't really know how to respond or what to say, so I just kind of dropped it for a while.\n\nLater, I brought it up again with both of my parents. This time, the response was, \"You have all these amazing things going for you! What do you have to be sad about?\" I, again, didn't know what to say to that, nor did I want to really deal with the discussion. So I just went to bed.\n\nThis happened a few more times, but each time the responses have been the same. I really don't know what to do from here and it's honestly making me really worried.", "summary": "I've felt what seems like depression for a long time but every time I try to bring it up I get told that it's not really a big deal. I don't know where to go from here"}
{"id": "t3_1c1mt2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ok, we have all seen the commericials for the starving kids and abused animals. Why cant we do this....", "post": "Ok, so I have had this idea for sometime now. Late nights when the normal world sleeps and all the cable channels have sold their slots cheap or donated them to causes such as helping kids/animals or \"wonder products\". Well I do not have a product but I have an idea. Two birds with one stone kinda thing. \n\nWhy not send the animals to the starving kids as food?\n\nYes, I know at first this idea may seem cruel, hell maybe it is, but I don't see what the harm could be if we are going to be filling a kids belly and not prolonging the life of an other wise healthy, but unwanted animal?\n\nI know there is a bunch of government agencies such as the Food and Drug administration who prevent selling of animals scheduled for euthanasia  to third world countries, but what if there wasn't?\n\nMany cultures around the world eat animals we consider pets everyday. Dogs, cats, fish, whatever. If it breathes, somewhere someone is craving it.\n\nSo other than the FDA and other agencies standing in the way, is my silly late night idea just mean?", "summary": "Why not send abused animals to the starving kids for dinner?"}
{"id": "t3_1r0zq7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the terms of taking a break from college?", "post": "first off i work a full time job and its that season again. go retail (sarcasm). this year due to my seniority in my department and my assistant manager / support leaving the company i have been under alot of stress going into this season. im having trouble sleeping and my time for full time school is getting overridden by overtime at work. when i get home and try to do class stuff i just break down and have no motivation, i just want to go to bed, i end up stareing at my screen or reddit until my eyes hurt.       /////     so here is where the real question is. i feel like a break would be good for me until the season is over in february/march. is there such a thing as taking a break from school in a official way, and if so what does that mean for my federal aid? do i have to pay it all back? do i lose it and owe the school money. or can i pause it somehow?", "summary": "can i take a break from school, what happens to fed aid?"}
{"id": "t3_3ika46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Family[M50/F48/M13] and I[25M] with my Brother[25 M], Since dropping out of High School[3 Years] has refused to earn his keep and it is starting to weigh us down.", "post": "I have a brother who I'll call Weaver.\n\nWeaver does not work. If he gets work he doesn't keep it. He does nothing productive, despite being prompted and told to.\n\nWeaver is currently out of state. He was sent on work to help my Uncle on his business. He is not doing his work and is now in risk of getting kicked out.\n\nThe problems stated before happened again in the different household. There was a problem with discipline in our household. Mainly stemming from the fact that there were no consequences dealt by any authority figure.\n\nHe is 19 Years old. We as a family can't continue to support him. We can't have him back the way he currently is. He is a negative influence to my baby brother (13) and is a crushing weight on both my(25) and parents (48) financials and sanity.\n\nWhen confronted by one person, he denies wrongdoing. When confronted by multiple people he deflects and focuses on one person, claiming that the person singled out has a grudge against him personally.\n\nThe way I see the situation is that the only thing we have to get him in gear is the threat of kicking him out.\nAnd that is one threat I know we can't deliver on. I am lost and don't know how to proceed with the situation.", "summary": "Weaver is currently a drain on our resources and has no education. Weaver does not respect rules and boundaries we lay out for him. Our family can't continue to support him like this for much longer (lower middle class... if that)"}
{"id": "t3_3u30l3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting I was braless on the bus! [NSFW]", "post": "So, I suppose this was yesterday but YIFU makes me think of furries...\n\nAnyway, I was on the bus going to the bookstore and whilst it was cold outside, the bus, as usual, had the heat blasting. It was unbearable! Sweaty gross claustrophobic busrides are not for me! Being completely absorbed in imaging the lives of all of the random busfolk, I slipped my big winter jacket off to stop me from overheating and thought nothing of it. I was holding on to the bar overhead and trying to telepathically help this lady sitting infront of me with her morning crossword when I get a tap on the shoulder by this cute grandmother (complete with little-old-lady headscarf and all). She whispers to me, \"you're peeking out a bit there honey.\" Before fully processing what she meant I assumed she was another crazy buslady muttering gibberish. \n\nBut then I realized I was just wearing a loose-ish tanktop below my coat, and when I had reached up to grab the bar the fabric had moved in well... an unfortunate way. Luckily I am blessed with itty-bitty ones (hence the lack of a bra), so I wasn't dangling out all over the place, but I was still pretty mortified! \n\nI quickly smiled a thank you and adjusted myself the best I could, put on my coat again, and proceeded to pretend as hard as possible that everything was totally fine for the rest of the ride.", "summary": "forgot I wasn't wearing a bra on the bus, might have flashed the whole evening commute"}
{"id": "t3_1n7mih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) with my (23F) girlfriend, been together 2 years, unsure if I should break up after finding out new information", "post": "Hi everybody, sorry for the wall of text\n\nA few months ago I moved away from my girlfriend to go to grad school in a different state. In the spring, we were fighting a lot and decided to take a short break at the end of the semester. The break ended when we decided to be in an open relationship. She wasn't very interested in a strict LDR, and it seemed to work out over the summer, though she told me about a couple people she hooked up with.\n\nHowever recently I learned from friends that before the break she almost slept with multiple people, and then during the break had sex with one of those almost-hookups (the night we agreed on the open-relationship).\n\nAfter confronting her, she confirmed. Obviously I was really angry and hurt, and we've been fighting a lot in the last few days, but now I'm very unsure of what to do. I can understand that she didn't want to tell me when it seemed like things were getting better, and right now I'm more scared that I'm going to lose her than I am about anything else.\n\nI think a big issue is that she regards sex as less important than emotional intimacy. I'm fairly inexperienced and can be much more uptight about this kinda stuff. I honestly believe (and her friends agree) that she cares for me and that's why she was so terrified about telling me herself. \n\nI've told myself that we were on a break when she did sleep with someone else and it technically wasn't cheating. I'm trying to get over my hurt feelings, but what should I do?", "summary": "Found out girlfriend wanted to sleep with others, then did it when we were on a break; not sure if we should stay together now"}
{"id": "t3_1jfgnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] and my really good friend [17F]. I genuinely like, but don't know how to proceed telling her.", "post": "I'll start off by saying that I don't usually use subreddits like this, so I apologize in advance for any mistakes. Now this all started at the beginning of the school last year when I had a foreign language class with her(I have friends on reddit, so I apologize for vagueness). People find me fairly humorous so she immediately enjoyed my humor, which at the time I didn't see as anything strange. Throughout the semester we became pretty good friends, but I didn't feel anything special. Then the sports began again, which lead to use hanging out for extended hours due to the sport, and I gradually started liking her more than just a friend.\n\n Now, as you can probably guess, I'm not the jock, social butterfly that would have no problem asking this girl out. I'm the token friend of the cool people, but not actually being cool myself. So I just let it be for a while, but I knew I had to do something soon, because she was going off to college soon. Unfortunately I waited too long and she ended up getting back together with her old boyfriend, who was already in college. I was pretty bummed about this, but at the end of the season we became even closer friends. The past couple months she seemed incredibly flirtatious with me.\n\n We had texted constantly and had accompanied each other to a few parties, but just as friends. She is initiating conversations with me often, and she favorites almost most of my tweets. \n\nNow I don't know if I am overthinking this, but I think its time to tell her how I feel, but I don't know how to go about it considering her boyfriend(who she doesn't mention at all around me). I just need to know if she actually likes me too, or if I am just overthinking our friendship, thanks reddit, and once again I apologize for any mistakes, or holes in the story.", "summary": "Not so popular guy befriends popular girl. Girl has a boyfriend but seems to flirt, and initiate conversations, and wants to hang out with guy."}
{"id": "t3_1jpd35", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "F/21 is giving me M/22 countless red flags 5 yr relationship living together with 1yr old son", "post": "After 5 years of \"walking on eggshells\" and realizing that not only is she crazy but she is making me feel crazier. Tantrums, the mean then sweet cycle, cutting off relationships with friends and family because their not good enough for me, paranoid control which makes my cell phone more of a burden than a hassle, talking me into giving her access to my bank accounts, never enough\n\nMy friends are gone and all I have this this beautiful baby boy whom i would take a bullet for at this very moment he is the only reason ive stuck it out this long. I'm afraid of child support being that I work a minimum wage job and have heard stories of friends working full time to pay child support full and ending up with 50 bucks in their pocket after their check is garnished.\nBut this is not about the money this is about happiness...ive noticed a few of the \"red flags\" in the past but always put them off as just an episode and not her true colors.I know nothing of the child support system and need to know what im up against after the break up...i know i have 17 years of payment in store but i cant see myself being with this women any longer\n\nI feel so much better to get this off my chest...living in fear stops here", "summary": "walking on eggshells in 5 year relationship baby boy only thing stopping me from breaking it off"}
{"id": "t3_22zj13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my SO[25M] have been dating 9 months, he has really low self esteem and constantly wants validation from other women.", "post": "I caught him using tinder because I suck and for some reason I thought it would be okay to look through his phone. He claims he wasn't messaging anyone. He just wants to know if he is still attractive to other women. I'm worried this will forever be a problem in our relationship. I don't even know if this is a bullshit excuse. He is seeing a therapist about a lot of his issues involving social anxiety. He is constantly worried about his level of attractiveness.\n\nHe promises he would never do it again. I'm worried he might be just planning to cheat on me. Do I have the right to ask him if he deleted his account or has activated any other accounts?\n\nIs this going to lead to cheating? Should I leave now? \n\nWhy is my validation not good enough?", "summary": "Boyfriend used tinder to seek validation of how he looks. WTF. Is this even okay? Am I allowed to ask him again if he's deleted his account?"}
{"id": "t3_2nxjlv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not possessing true wheelchair skills", "post": "To fully understand the story you must know that i am bound to an electric wheelchair.\nIt was a normal day at school, nothing out of the ordinary. Until a teacher came into the class room and told us that we could leave early today (10 am). Now i had a problem because this happened before i got my drivers license. And the way i normally transported myself back and forth was with a taxi. Normally the taxi wouldn't show up till 2.30 pm, so i tried to get the taxi to show up sooner so i didn't have to wait, but i was told that wasn't possible.\nAnd this is where everything went wrong. I went into rage mode, and told myself that just because the teachers couldn't plan their schedule in advance i shouldn't be stuck at school. So i had the brilliant idea of driving all the way home by myself. In my wheelchair. Out on the road. First of all it was pretty scary driving on a road where people were only inches away from hitting me multiple times, but the worst thing happened when i was half-way home. The chair gave out... I remembered, stupid as i was, that i had forgotten to charge the battery on my chair. I just made it past the road sign and was stranded at the sidewalk. So i sat there for an hour, normally that wouldn't be a problem but i also forgot to mention that i didn't bring any warm clothes and it was in the middle of the winter. And to top it all of when sitting there in misery, hating myself for being stupid, one of my friends drove past me in his car waving and smiling like an idiot, because he couldn't see that i was stranded and he just drove on. But my luck finally changed for just a short period of time. I managed to convince someone to come pick me up and drive me home.\nNow it would probably seem like this was all over, but because life happened to wanna teach me a lesson i also had to be sick for a week", "summary": "Forgot to recharge my wheelchair, thought i could drive home from school. Got stranded in the middle of nowhere, which resulted in my being sad and sick for a week."}
{"id": "t3_4nt5fn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my ...friend [26 M] 8 months, long distance", "post": "Do I keep waiting and going with this guy or just stop?\nI'll make it as easy as possible. \n\n-Met said guy through Craigslist in October 2015. We got to know each other and went on hangouts, then began getting intimate. He works in LA but goes to different sites all the time, including the town I am from. We began developing feelings for each other. He says that I'm wonderful, very important to him, beautiful and of the like. He is also very supportive of my career choices in life and wants to see me work my way up. He's told people that I am his girlfriend, although I don't feel like it because he isn't here. \n\nBut now he only texts me every other day (once every 4 days or so) I text him throught the day and I get absolutely no response, even on the weekends. We don't see each other as often (once a month if lucky because of his job) . I'm often thinking he's a player and I'm a side-chick. \n\nHe insists that I am very important with me, and he said he wants to see me succeed and be successful and do me, and still have me in his life. But we don't talk often, and I don't want to be played with. \n\nDo I keep on waiting for him? Or do I just stop?", "summary": "Met guy, developed long distance feelings, not sure if I should continue or just keep doing me."}
{"id": "t3_24asw9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] hanged out/went on a date? with [24F] friend, don't know where to go from here.", "post": "Started hanging out with a girl I've known for awhile recently. I asked her if she wanted to get coffee/something to eat and she said she was down. \n\nFirst time we met for lunch and had pizza and it was cool, it was pretty awkward at first but were both awkward people. This was my first time in a long time going out to meet someone I wasn't too familiar with. \n\n5 or 6 days later we hung out again but it was for lunch + drinks + dinner. We hung out for the whole day and had deep talks about relationships, life, existence and all that jazz. It's been awhile since I've been able to have conversations with such substance. I realized that I was starting to maybe catch feelings. It was fun, a good mix of laughs and seriousness. She is very similar to me with how we view the world and we both have had similar issues growing up. \n\nFrom this point I don't know whether to pursue it as something more. The first time we hung out it was the intention of just getting to know someone better and making friends because I felt like I've been neglecting some friendships the past few years. But now after this 2nd  time hanging out (Which I would consider a date) I am starting to build feelings for this girl. \n\nWe are going to hangout this friday/weekend. Should I see how that goes and maybe hint that I am interested in her?\n\nI don't know how to approach the situation, I can't really tell if shes into me or not. Its usually me messaging her first but she always responds. Shes really cool and down to earth and we get a long really well.", "summary": "Went on a few dates with girl, going on 3rd, don't know if shes into me mutually or if she just wants to be friends. Don't know how to approach her to see how she feels about me. Should I make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_152z9t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I don't think I'm cut out for this", "post": "I just looked at my grades for my first semester of college, and they're just downright awful, I won't give any specifics but my GPA is not good. It's not because I'm not smart, I'm just so fucking lazy and i hate that about me. I know I should just suck it up and be mature about it but Its killing me. I told my parents what happened right away and I could feel their disappointment in the air. And it makes me feel terrible. \n\nNot only that, all of first semester has been complete shit. I made a fool of myself so many times that I don't hang out with anyone anymore. In other words I have no close friends. And even worse, I'm starting to feel like a stranger around my high school friends. \n\nAnd worst of all, I don't feel like I have any purpose in life, I don't know if I'm going in the right direction and can't bear to think of the future. I'm stuck in a hole and want to get out of it, I don't want to be lazy anymore, I don't want to spend my weekends alone anymore, and I want to feel like I have a purpose in this world.", "summary": "I'm a lazy fuck, socially awkward, feel as if I have no purpose, and I'm sick of it. I just needed to say it somehow..."}
{"id": "t3_czh3x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something you did that you felt horrible about at the time, but now look back and laugh about?", "post": "In third grade, i hung out with some troublemaking neighbour boys down the street. One day boy1 decides to steal some gasoline from daddy's garage. Being young boys, we were immediately excited at the prospect of lighting random shit on fire. So we go through the park and under the railroad bridge and use up all the gas lighting up leaves, small bushes, garbage, even the wooden support beams (looking back, that was none too bright). We proceed to make a mini camping fire when out of nowhere we here\n\nWHAT DO YOU BOYS THINK YOU'RE DOING?\n\nIn a deep manly voice. Turn around faster than greased lightning to see 2 police officers standing there. Scared the living shit out of 3rd grade me. Took our info and gave us a stern warning and threatened to call our parents. I couldn't sleep for 2 days but never did tell my parents.", "summary": "Got caught by the police in 3rd grade lighting fires under a wooden railroad bridge. Scared the crap out of me but nowadays always brings a laugh."}
{"id": "t3_1sdeuk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 M] with my exgirlfriend [26 F] having trouble continuing as friends", "post": "My ex girlfriend of 6 month broke up about a month ago.  In the 3rd month of our relationship we moved together have continued this even after the breakup.\n\nToday we had a big argument over some lying that I had done to keep from creating tension among other things.\n\nI had went out last night with another girl because she was offering sex. That did not make my ex happy.  She was not opposed to me meeting other girls and pursuing a new relationship she was upset that I was so willing to just at the first thing that came up.\n\nThe girl whom I met didn't connect with me at all and I ended it after a few kisses.  I get home and we talk about what went on and to make sure I don't go after someone that would make a horrible match for me she decides that we would have a no strings attached relationship for this day only.\n\nI felt that I did love her and possibly still do, but as the day moved forward we both found out things that happened before and after our relationship had ended.  \n\nTo make this clear she had tried to break things off with me 3 times before we decided to just be friends with occasional benefits as to not bring someone else home to make thing awkward.  \n\nTonight I came clean that I had sent myself some of her naughty pictures that were on her phone.  I feel horrible for having broken her trust yet also by taking those pictures and not asking.  \n\nThey were for personal viewing only, yet I broke her trust by taking them.  She is very upset and not sure if we can still even be friends.  Is there any possible way to mend this or should I just try to move on and see what's in store", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up continued living together she found o had take her naughty pictures and now doesn't believe she can trust me enough to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_1c3ydy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19M]Taking my friend[19F] to the Military Ball", "post": "So the story is I have been friends with this girl for a while now and I've liked her for a while. The stars never really aligned to where we were both single at the same time until now so I asked her to the mil ball and she said yes. I know that she at least used to be interested in me and while hanging out the other day I was teasing her about something and ended with saying \"I'm just kidding, you know I love you\" and she replied, \"that remains to be seen\" which I didn't really pick up on at the time but I guess that means she's waiting for me to show her i like her. \n\nAnyway, back to the mil ball. I've recently started wondering if she knows I meant as a date and not just as friends. I was pretty forward about inviting her. I said something along the lines of, \"Are you busy on the 26th?\" and \"Do you want to go to the military ball with me?\". Most of my friends agree that it is pretty strongly implied that it's a date but what do you guys think? Also, would you say she's still interested, just based on her response to me teasing her. (Not the only time she's shown interest, just most blatant)", "summary": ") I asked my friend to military ball, does she know I meant it to be a date? I'm not friend zoned, we're a little flirty when we hang out and she has shown interest before."}
{"id": "t3_2r6te8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] want to room with my two friends [18M] next year; they want a gf [18F] to join", "post": "Bob, Steve, and I are currently freshmen in college, and in a couple months we'll need to submit our rooming decision for next year. (Bob and Steve share a double right now.) We know that we want to block together, which would mean we either shared rooms or were in adjacent ones, but we disagree about whether to include Steve's girlfriend, Sharon.\n\nSteve and Sharon really hit it off when school started and have been together since September. Bob and I like her a lot and we all hang out pretty often, so I'm not worried about us not \"clicking\"\u2014we're all good friends already. I'm just significantly more worried than anyone else here about what happens if their relationship goes south. I think they're both great for each other, but there's so much that can happen in between now and next May, when school gets out. I just don't think that their relationship is likely to last that long, no matter how good it looks now. They're in college, for frick's sake. It seems like they understand my concerns but don't share them.\n\nI don't really have another option for rooming next year unless I want to be alone (which I really don't). So at this point I'm looking for help convincing the three of them that this is a bad idea, or for help realizing that it isn't.", "summary": "Bob, Steve, and I want to block together next year. Bob, Steve, and Steve's girlfriend think it's a good idea for her to block with us. I am unconvinced. We've talked a bit about it, but not at length. They do not share my concerns."}
{"id": "t3_1p0hen", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In a relationship for 3 months, my girlfriend is already talking about apartment, marriage, and kids. I could use some advice please.", "post": "I am a [27/m] in my senior year of college. I have been single for the past 5 years due to bad luck, too busy with school, and not wanting a relationship. I met my girlfriend [26/f] through my previous job. She is a single mother with a 3 year old. \n\nI care for her a lot. I have had serious relationships, and just playful ones, but this has been the best relationship I have ever had. She has said she loves me on numerous occasions and i don't doubt her truthfulness. I am starting to fall in love with her. Recently she has started talking about getting a place together, and getting married, and is really wanting children. I am all for the idea of having an apartment, but she wants to rush the marriage and kids bit. I have my hesitations because it has been so long since i have been committed to someone. I do want these things with her, but not yet. I will be ready for it, but not now.\n\nMy question is this. How do i talk to her and tell her I don't want kids right now? Is this cause for alarm? I don't want to get her upset, and I don't want this relationship to be over.", "summary": "In love with girl that wants kids and marriage, not quite ready, but want to be. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_15e749", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cat owners of reddit, do you hit your cats when they did something bad?", "post": "I was eating some ham while redditting, then I went downstairs to get some coffee and went I got back in the room, one of my cats dragged the ham from the plate to the floor and there are tracks of ham glaze everywhere. Instinctively, I got pissed off and hit them both in the thighs using my hands (hit them both to be fair, I've no idea who the perpetrator was), then felt bad afterwards. I hardly hit them and now they're under the bed, eyes ablaze, looking at me like I'm some kind of bad fucking witch. \n\nI only give my cats cat food. They've never had any meat in their lives and I'm really shocked to see them munching on the piece of meat. I know they're carnivores, but I never expected them to eat human food because they never liked it.", "summary": "One of my two cats stole a piece of my ham, got mad and hit them both."}
{"id": "t3_njifj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I want to have kids someday only because...", "post": "I want to prove that I can raise one better than they did. My whole life I was told I'm a piece of shit by them, I've never had good friends because they told me that only family will care for you (part of why I'll be forever alone). Nothing I do will be good enough for them and because of that mentality, I will never be happy in anything I do. \n\nThey are religious freaks (why I'm scared to say to them I'm atheist now) that think everyone that isn't catholic is wrong. They are super racist, and when they see a person of different color they'll call them by racial slurs, they mainly speak Polish so no one notices.\n\ntheir close minded thinking is driving me insane.  I'm glad I somehow came to thinking on my own and figured what's right and wrong. \n\nThis is just my rant that i wanted to say somewhere and I could go on forever but I won't.", "summary": "My parents are assholes and I'm completely opposite and I want to prove I'm better by having a kid and raising them better."}
{"id": "t3_20mdfu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - My weight doesn't start with a 3 and I can wear \"normal\" sized clothes", "post": "I started 7 weeks ago at 335, in size 48 pants, and wearing 3XL-4XL (3s were often tight).\n\nSunday morning, I'm at 299lb!  I looked in the mirror (I have a horrible problem where I can't for the life of me see the new me in the mirror) and didn't see thinner me, but saw horribly unattractive me because I was wearing clothes that didn't fit at all. I went shopping for some clothes (not a full wardobe, but enough that I can go out and not look like a slob -- who cares if I look at slob at work).  \n\n* Revelation 1: my go-to big and tall store is all too big for me. \n* Revelation 2: I've gone from size 48 pants (and only relaxed fit fitting at all) to 42 with regular fit being an option (much more flattering since I have no-ass syndrome)\nRevelation 3: XXL fit well (a tad tight in the right places).  Most of my shirts I wear for work are 4X with the occasional 3X (which was tight).\n* Revelation 4: I can wear \"normal\" sized clothes which means the styles I've always liked but been unable to wear (let's face it most Big and Tall clothes look like they came directly out of the 80s or 90s) I can now.  \n* Revelation 5: Wore my new clothes out to my normal bar where I don't think I've ever really been noticed, didn't pay for a drink all night and got hit on copiously.", "summary": "35lb makes a world of difference already. I can't wait to see what the next 80 bring."}
{"id": "t3_2czd7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [25F] GF. Don't think I did anything wrong but I still feel guilty.", "post": "I'm currently in a 2.5 year long relationship with the love of my life and I couldn't be happier. I went out for drinks with my brother last night and the night basically consisted of me drinking and watching him hit on women with no success which I found hilarious. Throughout the night we had this super nice waitress hooking us up with free food which was awesome. At last call, as we stumbled out of the bar, my brother said we had forgot to tip her so he gave me a 20 and I ran back inside, gave her the tip, and said \"You're super cute, have a great night!\" and ran back outside to get a cab. That's it. No flirting happened over the course of the night, no touching, no numbers were recieved but I still feel really guilty, I guess for saying that she was cute! I feel like a big idiot for blowing this up in my head.", "summary": "In relationship, told waitress she was cute while giving her a tip and now I feel like a dick, should I really feel that guilty?"}
{"id": "t3_b4hu3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We Will Beat the Top 5 Games In This Thread (without sleeping)", "post": "This event will be recorded by my laptop webcam on time lapse. There will be some rules/suggestions because I don't want to end up playing some unbeatable flash game for a month. When I say \"we\" I mean myself and the lovely BeautyOfAnnihilation (another Redditor).\nFirst what we have available:\n\n* Wii and Virtual Console (enabling certain NES, SNES, and SEGA games)\n* Nintendo 64\n* Playstation 2\n* Xbox 360 (two of em actually)\n* Two TVs\n\nSecond what rules we impose:\n\n* No flash/PC games\n* No games without a clear climax\n* We chose the difficulty\n\nPlease suggest and vote!", "summary": "Suggest non PC games and upvote the ones you would want to play in a sleepless gaming spree. Also we are looking for a timelapse program to record it on."}
{"id": "t3_4lccfh", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm 26 and I think I'm on the autism spectrum, is a diagnoses possible at this age?", "post": "I'm a 26 year old who has always felt \"behind\" in milestones compared to my peers.  (For example, I don't know how to get a job, and I've only had 2 interviews in my life)  I've been diagnosed with a few mental illnesses (BPD, Bipolar, Anxiety Disorder, ADD) and I don't know if they are where my difficulties lie, or if it's something else.   My mother went to school to work with people with developmental disabilities and after college she told me \"I don't know, I really do think you're on the spectrum\" but never went into detail [we don't have the closest relationship] and I mean, I have friends who are on the spectrum and friends who have kids on it and I see similarities with communication difficulties and I just ..  I'm very curious if it's possible to test an adult for it?", "summary": "I suspect I may be on the spectrum, do people diagnose adults or am I up creek without a paddle?"}
{"id": "t3_30b5t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 2 years high school and a year in college with a short break in between, lack of trust and communication", "post": "We dated junior and senior year of high school and through the summer before I started college before taking a short break. During this break she began dating my best friend. I was devasted and the friendship was lost. After a month she realized her mistake and broke that off and we began talking again.\n\nSince then we have been a fling for the last year and some change. We have never made it official because she said she didn't want that commitment yet. I planned on dealing with this because I love her. Recently her communication has been less than stellar. I began worrying and decided to investigate.\n\nI created a fake Twitter account and was able to DM her asking about a date hoping to get a no right away. After not replying for a few hours she began asking questions trying to get to know the fake person. I asked if she was with any guys and she said she had just broken something off. She also said she wanted to take it slow. At this point I'm distraught and decide to go see her. She acts like everything is ok until I confront her about the messages. \n\nShe inmediately gets pissed and starts saying she can't believe I catfished her and that I was crazy for doing so. I asked her to see it from my point of view but she refused to finish the conversation. She said she was just playing along to see if it was real and was about to say no when I went to talk to her. I just don't know what to think or do.", "summary": "messaged girlfriend with fake Twitter account. She talked to the fake guy and said she had broken it off with some Guy recently. I approached her and there was a fight."}
{"id": "t3_3gg18r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16/M) asked a girl (16/F) out and am unsure about her response.", "post": "Hi, I know I am massively overthinking this but I just wanted a second opinion. So I asked a girl out like this.\n\nMe: got to get out and make the most of summer, we should go out one day\nHer: yeah\n\nShe does mean that we should go out one day this summer doesn't it? Sorry if this seems stupid to a lot of you but it is my first time asking a girl out and I was so nervous. I just want to be sure she means we should go out one day.\n\nThank you all in advance. This was via text message by the way.", "summary": "asked a girl out, not sure about her response."}
{"id": "t3_tw40z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the dumbest thing you did as a child?", "post": "I remember one time, 3rd grade, I got in trouble at school and my teacher sent me home with what we call", "summary": "cursed my teacher out on paper, stupid me didn't cross it out."}
{"id": "t3_2ynvex", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting a friend", "post": "Actually it's not just today, it's been for the last 2 years. \n\n2 years ago, I used to work with a guy named Den. We were friends at work but never really socialised outside of that environment. \n\nI eventually quit from that job, and a couple of months later he sent me a Merry Christmas message. I thought that was nice of him since we're not really that close. Over the last couple of years we stayed in touch  via sms only and it turned out he bought a gym and moved interstate. Good for him! I thought. It's a change of pace and I never knew he was into fitness, but hey, it's a solid business. \n\nFast forward to a couple of months ago and Den started working at the same company as me again. We made small talk but I didn't bring up the gym as I figured if he's back it must not have gone to well. \n\nThen I get a message from Den about a gym promotion. Hmmm, he must have a business partner, I thought. So I asked him about it - he had no idea what I was taking about. \n\nI sent a reply to the gym message, asking who is this. He told me it was Den and asked who I was. I told him my name and he had no idea who I was either. \n\nTurns out for the last 2 years I'd been having a conversation with a total stranger. He thought I was his grand mother and I thought he was an old work mate.", "summary": "a random stranger thought I was his senile grand mother for the last 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_e8mxa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What beliefs/opinions do your children/younger siblings hold that are going to have to be shattered when they are older?", "post": "I have a 6 year old younger brother, and being a avid film fan and student, I have ensured that he has seen all the films that made me love cinema when I was younger. \n\nI was at home recently and he was playing with his Star Wars toys, so I asked him who is favourite character was, to which he replied \"Luke Skywalker\" as is to be expected, but when I asked him what his favourite movie in the series was, and he answered \"The Phantom Menace\" and then I asked him what his least favourite was and he said \"The Empire Strikes Back\". Poor kid, one day he is going to watch TPM and just be shattered.", "summary": "Younger brother thinks The Phantom Menace is the best Star wars film."}
{"id": "t3_39uto0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting Krabs from my Daughter.", "post": "This Fuck Up happened last week when i was sitting on the couch, on the phone. Now, I was pretty sick, so I was calling my boss to tell him I wasn't going to be in today. Now my daughter is 3 and she is on the floor playing with whatever. So as soon as I get through to the receptionist, my daughter comes to me with her Mr. Krabs plush toy. Normally when she does this, I give her attention and I play with her. Now, she isn't at the stage where she can speak full sentences, so she just says, \"krabs\". While I'm waiting to get through to my boss I say, \"Honey not now\". This makes her more angry which makes me more angry. As I'm trying to tell my boss that I won't be in my daughter just keeps saying Krabs. This becomes a distraction, but i power through it. It gets to the point where she is yelling Krabs and I'm afraid my boss is going to hear her. I tell my boss to wait one second and, i thought I muted my phone. While my phone was muted, I raise my voice and say, \"I don't want krabs right now, honey!\" she starts crying and I say \"You can give me Krabs in a minute!\". I go back to the phone and my boss is acting a bit different but we still finish the conversation. Flash Forward two days later and the ENTIRE office is asking me if I want krabs. Apparently the boss told a few people and now people who don't even know about the situation are in on it. I go to my his office and ask why, everybody is asking if I want Krabs. He tells me that I didn't mute my phone and I have the walk of shame back to my cubicle.", "summary": "Got Krabs from Daughter, Boss heard, Entire office wants to give me Krabs"}
{"id": "t3_1lp2n8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Now, before you tell me what a crazy idea this is, or how marriage is such a big deal, I KNOW.  We would not be considering this if there were any other options.  He has already wasted a lot of time and money on a lawyer that was no help at all.  I have had a couple of friends suggest that he might just be using me, but I would like to point out that it was my idea.  I told him about an old friend that did the same thing for his Thai girlfriend that he met at a seasonal job.  That was years ago, and things seem to have worked out great for them.\n\nI wouldn't even think about marrying him unless I really loved him.  He is such a sweet and caring person who has been dealt an extraordinary amount of bad luck.  If anyone deserves happiness, it is him, and I would do anything to help him find it.  We have only been dating for 3 months, but I have never had such strong feelings for someone.  The thought of losing him, and not knowing if/when I will see him again makes me feel sick.  I am honestly tearing up while I type this.  \n\nI don't know if it makes a difference or not, but he is Muslim and I am atheist.  To my surprise, this has not been an issue at all.  We have discussed it several times, and we agreed that we can be open-minded enough respect our different views.  I have never been so happy and comfortable with another person, and I don't want it to end so soon.\n\nI have read over a couple of older posts dealing with this topic, but the responses were quite discouraging.  I just want to get some advice on my particular situation.  I want you to imagine being in love with someone, but only getting to experience it for a short time.  Would you not do anything you could to prevent that person from being sent away (to a very unstable region at that)?  Help :(", "summary": "Am I completely crazy for considering marriage in order to keep the man I love from being sent back to his country?"}
{"id": "t3_4debsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] for 14 months, and I've somehow contracted an STD.", "post": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I'll try and make this short and sweet and avoid the wall of text. I've lurked here before on my main account, but never posted.\n\nI started dating my girlfriend 14 months ago. Both of us were negative for STDs. Around the 10 month mark, I flirted with another girl for a couple weeks. It was inappropriate, but I knew it was wrong, ended all communication with that person, and have come clean and told my girlfriend.\n\nShortly thereafter, I got a cold sore. No biggie, right? I've had them before. After the cold sore, I started to have what appears to be a breakout in the nether areas. It never did clear up, and at the 14 month mark, I've decided to get it checked out.\n\nI told my girlfriend that I was getting checked for STDs and what could be the herp down south. Now, she is accusing me of cheating on her. I'm being 100% honest when I say she has been my exclusive partner. She is citing the girl I flirted with as a sort of infidelity and she doesn't know if she can trust me.\n\nThis has turned into a huge issue and fight, and I'm backed into a corner and don't know what to tell her. Obviously it affects her as well, as she might have it if my test returns positive. (I'll know in a week.) However, I can only continue telling her the truth over and over and over. I've even went as far as telling her to contact the \"flirty\" girl from months ago and straight up ask her.", "summary": "I didn't have the herp, now I might have the herp, and my girlfriend is accusing me of sleeping with someone else. How do I handle this? What do I tell her to make her believe me? (Or what can I do?)"}
{"id": "t3_3qnijo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30/F] dating another woman [18/F] for the first time", "post": "My whole life I considered myself straight, but recent events have changed that. A year ago, I started a new job. For obvious reasons, I won't be saying where. Only that it's in retail, which is why someone as young as my lover was able to get a job there as well.\n\nWe both started around the same time and worked closely together. We struck up a somewhat unlikely friendship, given our age difference. I knew from an early conversation we had that she was gay, which didn't bother me in the slightest. \n\nOver time, I began to realize that my feelings towards her were more than just friendship. I fought to deny it at first, but eventually I confessed to myself that I had real romantic/sexual feelings for her. Until this point, I had never felt this way towards another woman (not consciously, at least), or anyone so much younger than myself.\n\nAt first, I wasn't sure what to do. Perhaps she sensed my feelings somehow, because she began to subtly flirt with me. I was as surprised as anyone that she would have an interest in someone so much older. Eventually, I gave in and began to subtly flirt back. This led to us getting coffee together one night after work. I suppose this was our first date, as well as the event that ended in our first kiss. \n\nSince then, we've been dating with none of our co-workers being wise to it. We both acknowledge that it might lead to problems if we were out about it, as a lot of people would consider this weird.\n\nI guess what I'm wondering is if I should feel the same way my co-workers would if they knew about the situation. What we're doing isn't illegal (as she's of age) and I don't think there's anything wrong with being in a gay relationship. Maybe it's just cultural conditioning, but despite my love for her, I can't help but feel guilty sometimes about dating someone so much younger. \n\nShe recently said she'd like to tell her parents about us and introduce me to them. I need to work out now whether this is something I should continue with. What do you all think?", "summary": "Feeling conflicted about whether it's okay to date someone so much younger than myself."}
{"id": "t3_1l30iv", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Enjoy your monopoly money...", "post": "I worked in a well known pet store chain in the UK, I used to work mainly on weekends, and with this comes the general douchbaggery that has to be dealt with on a bi-hourly basis. I recall one woman attempting to buy a fish tank at the same time as buying fish (far to many for the tank) without having the tank set up for the necessary amount of time to allow the water to stabilise. So I refuse her a sale of live fish. Unfortunately she then decides to treat me like crap generally swearing at me and I end up bringing my manager to explain that I had followed procedure and there was a good reason for me refusing the fish. \nSurprisingly she still buys the tank, and brings it to the till where I am since I have switched sections after talking to her. The customer before her paid with a Scottish \u00a310 note, which is legal tender throughout the UK, but many retailers (specifically smaller ones) do not like to accept for fears of counterfeits and problems at the bank. The woman who buys the tank then pays with two \u00a350 notes (the tank happened to be around \u00a385 if I remember correctly. Because we dont often recieve \u00a350's I ring the bell for a manager to come and check the notes, its a busy day so it takes a few mins for him to get there, all the while she is huffing and puffing and smoking her electronic cig in front of my giving me the death eye. He comes over checks the notes and all is well (as I already knew) I think put the tank through give her the \u00a310 note underneath the receipt with the change on top, she shoves it in her pocket and as she goes through the door realises its different, and walks off anyway. Enjoy your monopoly money.", "summary": "Woman comes to store, is an arse about buying a fish tank so I give her scottish money back as change."}
{"id": "t3_39dvnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My two best work friends (36M, 26F) revealed to me (27F) that they've been having an affair for the last three months. 37M is married with two young children. She also works for him. Where do I go from here?", "post": "I'll try and keep this as short and succinct as possible--my two best work friends (have a constant text thread going, go out to lunch often, there for each other through tough shit) revealed to me that they've been having an affair for the past three months, both seriously emotional and sexual. They thought because I'm a pretty non-judgmental human that I wouldn't judge them but...there's a lot to this.\n\n 36M is married (maybe getting divorced) and has two young kids. 26F also works under him in his department. I do not work in this department.\n\nMy initial reaction was sort of shock/disbelief so I sort of rolled with it, but now I'm having all sorts of feelings about it and don't know where to go from here. I think cheating and blowing up a family is repugnant, I think it's shitty that they aren't considering the consequences of their selfish decisions both professionally and personally, and I'm hurt that they lied to me explicitly and by omission for a long time (but that's obviously the least of the bad things). I'm also worried that this might put my career in jeopardy if it ever comes out due to how close we all are, because it'll certainly blow his up and cast some serious doubt on hers.\n\nI spoke to my work mentor (senior management) about all of this in hypotheticals so as to keep their privacy and his integrity intact because he'd obligated to report if he knew details. He advised me to distance myself, keep my nose clean, and try and be as far as I can from the bullshit if it hits the fan. \n\nThey were my best friends and they keep texting me asking why I haven't been responsive. What's my next move here guys? Do I tell them why I'm backing off, do I back off, does me knowing and not saying something make me morally complicit?\n\nThank you for reading, every time I've asked reddit for advice it's been no-nonsense and helped me to consider many different perspectives.", "summary": "My two best work friends revealed to me that they are having an affair, and thought that I'd be cool with it. I'm not. He's married with kids, she works under him in his department. I don't know where to go from here. What do you think my responsibility is going forward?"}
{"id": "t3_2crmbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [23/M] wants to be back in my [22/F] life. I don't know whether to let him.", "post": "I was dating a guy at the start of the year and honestly thought that he would be in my life forever. Unfortunately, he ended things because we were doing long distance and he couldn't take that. He's moving back to where I live in a few years time and so he asked to be friends for that period. He suggested that perhaps when he returns we begin a relationship.   \n\nAfter a month he got in contact with my and tried to be friends. However, I found out he had just starting see someone and because I still had feelings for him I told him I didn't want to speak to him for a longer period of time.\n\nIt's been a good 5 months. I'm really happy. I'm not dating anyone but I'm doing well at College and have made some really good friendships. He's still dating that girl. A week ago he text me saying hello, that he misses me and wants to talk again. I never responded\n\nI know he only wants to be friends but I still feel like it's inappropriate that he's texting me when he's dating someone new. I don't have any romantic feelings for him anymore and I don't want to lose him out of my life but I'm not sure whether I should keep in contact. \n\nShould I try to be friends with him and then see what happens in the future, just be friends with him now and NEVER contemplate the future with him or just ignore him and remove him from my life? I was thinking of sending him a message saying that I think it's inappropriate that he contacts me because of his new girlfriend but I have no clue. WHAT DO I DO? ANY suggestion is appreciated", "summary": "old flame broke up with me but wanted to be friends. He started dating a new girl. Haven't spoken in months but he texts me saying he's missing me. Don't know whether to respond and be friends or ignore and move on."}
{"id": "t3_1jjelh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my girlfriend [23F] and I'm having doubts", "post": "So... I have been dating this girl for about a year. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, and I saw her for a weekend.\n\nSometimes I get the feeling that I'm settling with her. Isn't that bad? Shouldn't good relationships be where each partner thinks the other is settling? I kinda feel I'm settling because she is lazy, always tired, letting herself go (eating a lot, not exercising), and, I sometimes feel she doesn't like me back the way I do. And I dislike that... Though don't get me wrong, we do have beautiful and lovely times, but I sometimes get the vibe that she likes more the way I make her feel instead of liking me and my personality...\n\nRecently, I have started talking more to a new friend, who is beautiful. So hard working. So nice. Makes a lot of witty jokes, and overal a better match for me. I feel VERY conflicted. Every time I talk to her, I feel this perfect chemistry, and I feel like I would love being with a person like her 100 times. But then again, I go back to thinking about my current girlfriend, and I sometimes get this \"hope\" that things will get better with her in the future, and I feel like if I break up, I will lose a really good friend... I don't know... I feel terrible breaking up with her... This would be the first person I break up with. I'm not even sure if I want to break up with her. Because when I'm with her, I love being with her, but since we're in a long distance relationship, it's very hard... I kind of lose my feelings for her... don't think that's normal.", "summary": "Long distance relationship with girlfriend. Having doubts about her liking me, and I think I'm settling for her. Have a crush on another girl. Not sure what to do.... could somebody provide their perspective on what I'm experiencing?"}
{"id": "t3_1gy3vc", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cut my solo short? Nah.", "post": "So I was in 8th grade. Last year of middle school, and I was one of two drummers in my grade. The talent show was coming up, so I planned to do a drum solo. The other drummer did as well, and since his mom was in charge of running the talent show, he got the grand finale, and I got second to last act.\n\nI was perfectly fine with that, and was just trying to impress the girl I had a crush on. Let me add that the other kid was kind of a douche and had a very entitled attitude. His mom hated the fact that her kid didnt have the only drum solo. During rehearsal she would often tell me to speed it up/take things out, so that her kid could do his longer. (After all, it *was* the grand finale.)\nThe first day I was a little pissed. I didn't say anything though, as the cogs in my devious eighth grade head were beginning to spin. After a few rehearsals, she had cut out quite a bit of my favorite parts and even suggested \"only demonstrating a few simple beats.\" I said \"great idea! Maybe the kids can learn something!\" \n\nEvery day at practice I played the same mundane beats over and over, and listened to talent show planner's kid wail his heart out to the approval of his mom. But every day after rehearsal, I went home and practiced the solo I was planning to unleash. \nFast forward to the day of the solo- I was sitting in line waiting to have my turn, when the other drummer boy turned to me and said \"try to speed it up; this isn't your time to shine. I have the last act.\" I said okay, and my turn came up. I sat behind my kit and the announcer introduced me as \"here's zachboy95 to demonstrate a few cool drum beats!\" Applause died down and with the biggest grin on my face, I let loose on the loudest drum solo I've ever played. \n\nBest part, I went over my time causing the 'grand finale' to have to be modified into a shorter version. His mom was quite pissed.", "summary": "I will not let you govern my drum time. Ever. "}
{"id": "t3_4rzx1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] 3months, gf has history of cheating without bf ever knowing, should I be worried?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nMy girlfriend and i have been going out for 3 months (my first and her 6th or so) and she has told me that she has cheated on 3-4 of her past boyfriends without them ever knowing.\n\nShe has said that she is \"all in\" with this relationship, where-as she wasn't before. We are both looking for a long term relationship.\n\nShe was originally worried that I would keep her past relationships against her, even subconsciously, which I promised I wouldn't.\n\nShe has also told me she's very good at lying and manipulating, which she said she would never use against me.\n\nThe fact that the majority of her previous boyfriends never knowing about her cheating on them makes me kinda worried, as I could be just another of those guys to never find out and think we break up for another reason.\n\nI don't really want to bring it up with her as she would view it as me not trusting her and doubting her faithfulness. Not to mention going against my promise.\n\nI really love and trust her and I really want this to work out but I can't get the thought out of my head that I could become another one of those guys.\n\nAny ideas or thoughts?\n\nThanks alot :)", "summary": "Gf has history of cheating on current bf without them knowing, I'm worried I could become like another of those guys."}
{"id": "t3_1jsfos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20/M] have started seeing this Girl[20/F] and are my emotions wrong?", "post": "A little history about me. I used to be quite shy and bad with girls. I only within the last 8 months have changed myself and become better with women. I got my first girlfriend and had it last 2 months and Dated a few others as well.\n\nNow I have started to see this new girl recently(Three weeks) and I am not sure how to feel about things. I am not looking for a serious relationship and neither is she which is what I wanted. But because I didn't get my first relationship until this year I don't think I have the emotional experience to know how to feel about things between us. \n\nI am not sure what to do. She says we aren't dating and that is partly because when she ends up dating someone she ends up liking someone else and messing up the relationship. That's fine cause its not like I am looking for someone to settle down with. Even though she says that we aren't we still see each other enough and do stuff that would pretty much make us Dating.\n\nWhat bothers me is that I don't know what I am allowed to feel knowing that this isn't supposed to be serious. Am I allowed to *like* her? How much can I like her? Is it okay if I get jealous sometimes? If I want to do something romantic is it out of line? I am sure I have other questions but I can't think of them. What do I do?", "summary": "I'm in a not Serious relationship and I lack the emotional experience to know how to feel about her and react to those feelings"}
{"id": "t3_xippk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, are the tipping rules fair, or is there an alternative?", "post": "When I get good service, I tip.  I will usually go above the required percentage.  When I receive bad service, I will not tip.  \n\nWe all know that waiters and waitresses make the majority of their money from tips from customers.  But you have to admit, everyone has a horror-story to tell.  From both the perspective of the waiter/waitress and also the customer.\n\nIs there a solution to this?  Should their wages be increased and tips decreased?  Is there a better way of rewarding those that do a great job?  I see many arguments about how much one should tip based on service - but all those arguments seem to be based on perspective.  If  one is a decent human being and has good service, one tips.  If one doesn't receive good service who do we blame?  Their hangover that night?\n\nDo you guys have any suggestions as to how we might equalise this?  Bad service is bad service - good service is good service.  Conversely, asshole customers are asshole customers - and good ones are good ones.", "summary": "Is there a better way than tipping?"}
{"id": "t3_shf7o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Most important thing i've ever learned.", "post": "This past November I lost my father to cancer. I have thought about the last two things he has told me non-stop since then, I have found unending comfort and strength in them. The first was said about a week before his death, he and a childhood friend were talking about what they would tell their 18 year-old selves, Dad turned to me and said \"if you ever see a girl that is more beautiful than any other, ask her on a date without hesitation or else you will regret it the rest of your life. Worst thing she can say is no.\" I followed that advice the next week and true to his word I'm a happier man for it. The last thing he told me still chokes me up as i type it but mumbled out the best he could \"I love you two, let me hug you.\" to myself and my half sister who he raised as his own. I miss Dad alot more everyday and it doesn't get any easier.", "summary": "Hug your dad goodnight, you might never get to again."}
{"id": "t3_23d73b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my ex [32M]. Kept all his stuff, can't fully move on. Feels unhealthy but still can't get rid of his stuff.", "post": "Please, serious replies only.\n\nMy boyfriend and I broke up about 2 years ago, it was a pretty bad break up and I just recently started moving on. We were together off and on for about 8 years, and now we have no contact.. which I think is for the better.\n\nIt took me a really long to get where I am today, hit a few lows on the way here.. so I would say I am happy that I am finally ok with how things are. However, I have a super hard time throwing his stuff out.. or things I associate with him. In a way I kind of just want to throw everything out, but for some reason I just can't. I keep thinking that all these things are a part of me and my past (I have no problem with this when it comes to other things). \n\nWhat should I do? Is it reasonable to keep his stuff? Is that a sign of that I have truly not moved on? I know this sounds silly/stupid, but it's obviously a pretty big deal to me.", "summary": "Can't throw out my ex's things, kept everything that reminds me of him. Does not feel healthy."}
{"id": "t3_34522n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting immature stuff in online forms before.", "post": "So everyone knows about autofill.  Well, about 20 minutes ago it well and very nearly fucked me up.\n\nI work in a competitive industry so in order to scope out the competition, we regularly make up fake accounts to infiltrate them.  On one occasion I signed up for one of our competitors (name, address and all that) and just for fun I called myself 'Billy Bumfarts.'\n\nFast forward to earlier today. I work in a job where we have to demo our product to potential clients via a screenshare application, so they essentially sit wherever they are and watch me run through it on my screen.  I was doing this with someone earlier when we came to our form section.  So just to give them an example, I hit the 'b' key.  Right enough, it autofilled my name to 'Billy Bumfarts.'\n\nNot only that, but the address I had put in was 1 Butthole Gardens, Shitsville, Tennessee.\n\nLuckily they found it quite funny - they said it was good to deal with a company that didn't take themselves so seriously.  The deal went ahead!", "summary": "my own immaturity led to what I thought would be my downfall, but actually helped!"}
{"id": "t3_481hzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] met amazing boy [21M] on exchange, need advice", "post": "First post - I hope I'm doing this right.  \nI went on exchange to another country and got back yesterday. I only met 'Will' on Monday but we spent basically every day together from then until I left. I lost my virginity to him.  \nI really, really like this guy. I have never felt such an incredible spark with someone before. Our countries are about a 3 hour flight from each other but I'm wondering if a long distance relationship is exactly feasible if we've only known each other a week. I know that he really likes me too. I just don't know what to do. Is it totally crazy to think that this could ever work?", "summary": "Met boy a week ago, fell hard for him, moved away. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_41tvs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[20F] 6 months, Major Surgery", "post": "Hey, my girlfriend is soon to go under the knife for major surgery on her foot which will leave her temporarily disabled for around 8 months\n\nIm looking for ways to do things together as a couple that haven't been together long that are both extremely budget friendly because of only having one income and disability friendly. Basically she cannot use her foot in any manner or put any weight on it.\n\nthe only one i have thought of so far is kayaking although i beleive she will struggle getting into my Nissan Patrol.\n\nI also need advice on how to help her through the loneliness etc of being permanently stuck at home", "summary": "Girlfriend having major surgery, need advice on disability friendly activities"}
{"id": "t3_qm0n8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, My girlfriend of two years says we have become increasingly distant, i still feel completely in love with her and currently i feel like my world is collapsing. what should i do?", "post": "We have been dating for two years, and we are becoming more distant, she's at work and school constantly and i see her once a week maybe. i am unemployed and can't get a job, when we started the relationship we had a lot in common, but i feel like we have less in common everyday. i guess my question is should we stay together or not? (if i even get that decision), should i do anything to make her want to stay with me? and if we do break up, how do i carry on? what do i do to not be miserable constantly and to feel like theres a reason to get up in the morning.", "summary": "girlfriend and i becoming more distant, what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1rjyxa", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have a very unpopular opinion and it is causing a riff between me and my best friends.", "post": "I hate pot. I hate the culture, I hate the smell, I hate that everyone thinks \"you have to do it, just once\"\nNo, there are things in this world that you don't need to try. You don't have to try to eat dog shit to know you don't like dog shit. Just because everyone does it does not mean I have to. That being said I don't hate people who smoke pot. I knowingly moved in with a girl who smokes frequently. So I normally ignore it, and just turn on my oil warmer so my room doesn't smell like rotten vegetables. \nI will add that my room mates are not rude with it, or at least they don't try to be. They only smoke in that girl's room, not in common areas, and once i explained my views on it they never ask me or try to pressure me into smoking. \nHowever! I feel alienated by my decision. And when people come over, they all go to her room to smoke and I get stuck out in the living room alone. My only other issue is that I think that my room mate is hypocritical with her usage. She says that she doesn't need it, or doesn't smoke often. I have lived with her for 7 months now, and there have maybe been 10 days that she hasn't smoked? \n\nAnyways, this is just a rant. I feel like I push myself away because I choose not to be apart of that lifestyle. And I HATE people who will not take \"I don't want to\" as a reason why I don't want to. Its my life, my body, I don't pressure you to not smoke I just want people to be honest with themselves.", "summary": "I hate pot but live with potheads. It sucks."}
{"id": "t3_4iswix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my now GF [22F] of a few months: I don't like her friend 22M", "post": "While my now GF and I were talking/getting to know each other, she had a friend who she spent some time with and obviously liked her. She denied that he did and continued to hang out with him. Then one night she got drunk at a party and they made out. I then find out that she and him had some history before of trying to make things work and that all of her friends had been trying to set them up.\n\nNow we are dating and she will hang out with him in groups without mentioning that he is coming along or anything. I know this girl really loves me (she loves me better than anyone ever has), and she really does want a future with me. I have mentioned that I don't like her hanging out with him and she says that she talked to him and told him that nothing would ever become between them but I know he still has hope.", "summary": "my now GF made out with a guy before we were dating (but were in courting/still committed phase) and is still really good friends with him even though it bothers me."}
{"id": "t3_2b5bmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and this girl [21 F] went on a dAte two weeks ago...", "post": "Let me preface with I met this girl on tinder while I was on a trip and she turned out living about an hour away from my hometown. We talked pretty much non stop via text the entire weekend. Started talking on Friday met that following Monday so a quick set up. I drove to her. \n\nWe had a great time she texted me the next day saying she did too. So I knew I was good. She mentioned during the date that she just got out of a relationship of a few years and I asked if was her rebound she said \"No.\"\n\nWe were fooling around in her car that night and she stopped me when I went to take her panties off. So i knew then she wasn't looking for that.\n\nShe says to me also \"you're too good to be true\" and that resonated with me. She also said she wanted to see me that weekend she has her own place and said I should pack for the weekend next time I see her. \n\nSo the Friday after the date I texted her bullshitting with her a little bit and later asked for her address to meet her on Saturday. No response. \n\nTexted her the next morning saying maybe this was a bad idea to spend the weekend together. She says she's not really ready for anything, I say, \"so that's it, you never wanna see me again\" she says \"no I didn't say that.\" Then i make the mistake of saying \"Im looking for anything alright... I like you and I just wanna spend more time with you.\" Didn't really read how that came off till after i sent it, i didn't mean for it to sound upset even though i was. Then she says \"I know. I would too.\" that was the last thimg she said. And last thing I say is along the lines of meeting again on Monday. No response. \n\nI know it's pretty much done but I'd like to know what happened, pretty broken over a girl from tinder I only met once but i thought we clicked.", "summary": "girl stopped talking to me I just wanna know why. What do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_2cke9a", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Have you ever dated someone emotionally withdrawn?", "post": "Have you ever dated someone particularly withdrawn/emotionally guarded?\n\nI'm going to try to get this out as succinctly as possible--so sorry if the writing's a little abrupt...\n\nI've been dating my partner for about 5 months. We're both 30. This is my third serious committed relationship, his second. His previous committed relationship was dysfunctional and emotionally abusive (with him on the receiving end).\n\nThough he's kind and considerate, he's very closed off emotionally. We talk easily about a range of things both personal and conceptual. But though he's told me a good deal about his life, I still feel a distinct intimacy gap. It feels rsther like I'm a good friend who he also happens to have sex with.\n\nHe does considerate things like cook for me and come to my rescue if I'm stuck somewhere and need help, but he doesn't express much physical affection and expresses almost no verbal affection.\n\nBecause of this, I tend to feel rather more like a placeholder than a partner, and I frequently worry that I have more affection for him than he for me. I feel convenient rather than significant. \n\nWhen I've brought the subject up, he's said that ours is the first functional relationship he's had and that he does care for me, but that our relationship is fairly new territory for him.\n\nI listen and see others in more outwardly affectionate relationships and feel a bit pained. I like him and am interested in the potential we may have, but at the moment I also feel a little...hollow.", "summary": "My partner is emotionally withdrawn. I've never been in such a situation...Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4skeje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am wondering if I'm bisexual or straight because I am turned on by women but never considered having a relationship with a girl.", "post": "Sorry for any mistakes (English is not my first language).\n\nI know it's silly but it just can't get out of my mind.\n\nThe title says itself.\nSince forever I have been turned on by women. I masturbate myself watching porn, but I just look at the girl; I also like to look at naked girls photos. I tried doing it looking at men, didn't work well. \n\nI am so much more attracted by women, but I have never considered dating a girl or anything like this. I just love the women's body.\n\nI have kissed some girls and I had one sexual experience with her and her boyfriend. I still want more, so I don't think it's just curiosity. My boyfriend [20M] says I am bi, but I'm not so sure because I believe bi loves both in every way.\n\nHas anyone been like this?", "summary": "I feel extremely attracted by women but I have never considered dating one. Am I bi?"}
{"id": "t3_3gfjy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I {24 F} would like to 'come out' to my family about my relationship with {46 M}. How?", "post": "Hi. My partner and I have been together for over 4.5 years. We are thinking of engagement in the next few months (perhaps 2016, spring or summer). It is silly we have talked about it in such great detail, but we are very detail-oriented people.\n\nI am super excited to move to our new apartment together in less than a year. My parents know about our relationship and have known for many, many years. My mom has said the kindest words ever stated to a child: \"I will always love you no matter what you do or who you marry.\" My dad is a bit of a hard ass, but he has accepted it to some degree. \n\nThey are not the issue. I would like to be open about my relationship with my extended family, ranging from ages 25-75. However, a few issues...\n\n* I am not close with my extended family, at ALL!\n\n* I am not a huge Facebook user, and none of them are really.\n\n* We don't chat on the phone, or \"do stuff\" together, but we do see each other at Easter, X-Mas, etc...\n\n* I would like them to attend my wedding in a two-three years (we are thinking of a small ceremony).\n\nIf someone could offer some insight into how to tell them, I would appreciate it. I am fully prepared for reactions of disapproval, due to the \"age gap taboo\". I am fully prepared for some to say they are not going to my wedding. That is all OK. I just have never gotten around to telling them. My last relationship ended and we never really chatted about boyfriends since. It never came up. \n\nDoes one make a mass phone call, or something, in these situations? My issue is inviting them to a wedding when they aren't even aware I was dating!\n\nAlso, I have seen many age difference couples get less than helpful comments on reddit. If you disapprove of the relationship on the basis of the age difference, that is totally cool and totally up to you -- but please keep comments specific to my family situation. Thanks so much!", "summary": "Wedding in the distance. How to tell family about boyfriend now?"}
{"id": "t3_s0p62", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Looking for a home for our dog. [pic inside]", "post": "I recently lost my job and am basically moving into the cheapest apartment I could find. The only problem is, they don't allow pets. I adopted Iris, a bloodhound/coon hound/mutt, from the Humane Society in Omaha, NE in 2007. She is very sweet, has never bitten anybody, and can run for miles and miles. She can be a bit needy, but that's pretty standard for a hound like her. One problem is she is very selective of the dogs she'll play nice with. Taking her to the dog park can be a nightmare sometimes.\n\nShe has a very strong hunting instinct. One time I was letting her play in the front yard while I was doing yard work, and she started pulling chipmunks out of a hole. One by one she was pretty much eating them whole. She loves to chase rabbits and squirrels, though, I've never seen her catch any.\n\nMy wife and I have a 9 month old and Iris wouldn't dream of biting her. Iris doesn't like to play with my daughter, but she'll just quietly get up and move whenever my daughter crawls up to her. She is very smart (when she wants to be). She's house trained, kennel trained, and knows \"sit\" and \"down\". I've taught her to use a doggy door (in Omaha), and out here I've taught her to ring a bell that hangs from the doorknob whenever she wants to go outside.\n\nIt makes me sad to have to get rid of her, but it would break my heart even more to have to abandon her at a shelter. If I could find someone to take her it would make my wife and I very happy. I live in Southern Maryland, but I'm willing to drive wherever I have to to find a home for her.", "summary": "I'm out of a job and am moving into a place that doesn't allow pets. Please take my dog."}
{"id": "t3_2la9ut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) was lied to by my girlfriend (19f) of over 2 years about how she danced at a party.", "post": "Well, this was about  a week ago that I kind of found out she lied.  She grinded with guys at the party which I was not at (not in Greek life). \n\nBefore this we set the boundary for no grinding when dancing. It is basically dry humping each and I feel maybe there are other ways to dance besides that. She was pretty drunk when she got back to my room. She promised she didn't grind or do anything of the sort, and basically told me she had a great time. The night was great and we just kind of passed out and went to sleep. We woke up the next morning and said she was so sore from dancing, when again she said she didn't grind but just danced with girls, and with guys without grinding.\n\nA few days later it was my birthday and we were at the dining hall eating with one of her friends. Her friend asked me how I felt about my girlfriend grinding, and I just said I wasn't a fan of it and it was kind of inappropriate. My girlfriend then asks me if I could get her some water. Weird timing but I oblige and get her water. I see her say something to her friend so I just got a weird vibe from it.\n\nWe get back to her room and I asked if she grinded with other guys. She said no. I asked her to promise, she said yes she promised. Then I say \"you swear to god?\" which I guess is something I've always done after a promise? But she said she couldn't swear to god on that and said she did grind with guys. I was kind of taken back and hurt. Not so much about the dancing, but the blatant lying about it.\n\nShe said she planned on telling me but didn't want to ruin my birthday or our anniversary. She knew how I felt about it so she knew it would hurt me. I mean I was not happy about the lying and I didn't know how to handle it. It's been constantly on my mind lately, even when we talked about it.\n\nAm I being insecure? Am I overreacting? I just need some outside perspective because I don't know how to feel...", "summary": "girlfriend lied about dancing we deemed inappropriate. Kind of hurt and not sure how to feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_zmvbe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (16) wants to join the army and I (f:16) don't know what to do.", "post": "My boyfriend really wants to join the army and I don't really know what to do :/ I don't want to say don't go because it's his dream and I wouldn't want to say \"stay for me\" especially if we ended up breaking up but I don't think he's taking into consideration how his leaving for the army would effect the people around him like me and his family and I don't think he realizes how dangerous it's going to be and I've already told him how I feel but he wont really listen to me :/ What should I do? How should I handle it? :/ We've only really been dating for 2 weeks but it's a complicated thing... if anyone has ever been on SALTS then they might understand what kind of relationship we have.", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to join the army but there's no way to tell him I don't want him to go without saying no to his dream."}
{"id": "t3_2j9uxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] trying to decide what to get for my gf [21F] for our 6 year anniversary.", "post": "This is my first post here so bare with me, and if this topic is not appropriate for this sub I will delete immediately.\n\nOur 6 year anniversary is coming up and I wanted to see if there are any ideas you guys have for something I can get/make her or even suggestions of what to do that night. We both have school until about 7 in the evening so the night is going to start pretty late for us. I've been looking around for a beer festival or something of that sort since this is the first anniversary that we are both of drinking age. Located in SD if that helps. \n\nNow for the gift. Some of the things I've given her in the past include: Custom picture frame with picture of us, engraved necklace, Wooden picture frame made from scratch with collage inside. I would like the gift to be personal and not just some random thing I bought for her. I think the meaning behind it is what really makes a gift special. Any ideas or gifts that you have given to your SO would be a great help for me! Thanks", "summary": "6 year anniversary gift/plans"}
{"id": "t3_2m1nb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/f] Will I ever stop being afraid of my ex?", "post": "Throwaway because reasons. \n\nI got divorced two years ago from a man who spent nine years(four of those married) emotionally manipulating me, physically and sexually abusing me, and spiraling me into such a deep depression that I was on so much Zoloft that I gained almost fifty pounds(I've gotten rid of half of that in those two years.)\n\nI chose not to press charges, because it took so long for me to even get out of a situation like that, that I just wanted to get out of that situation. \n\nI'm usually fine. Today, I got into a clicking \"random\" subreddit frenzy and ended up on a sub that was off of the WTF sub. One of the top posts was a video of a 911 call where a woman comes in to her dead newborn and confronts her partner(I assume) who killed the baby. I didn't watch it, but read some of the comments. One of the comments included a quote, and the name of the killer matches the name of my ex.\n\nI'm terrified.\n\nThe possibility of that being the same person is infinitely small, but I'm not going to listen to the video to find out.\n\nI have no idea what my ex was/is capable of. I still get nervous going into town for errands, because I'm afraid I'll see him and he will find me. I have nightmares. My ex-boyfriend and my friends have said they would destroy him if they met him, simply because I have woken up screaming and crying.\n\nRight now I'm in an amazing relationship with a man who is everything I loved about my abusive ex, but with none of the psychotic tendencies.\n\nI'm still afraid my ex will find me and kill me and hurt my boyfriend.\n\nAm I broken? Will I ever stop being afraid? My head knows I'm safe, and that my ex may be a nice person now, but I'm still scared.\n\nIf this isn't the place for this, please let me know where to post it.", "summary": "My ex was abusive. I'm still afraid even though I know I'm safe. Am I broken?"}
{"id": "t3_1p5xhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am not sure what to do about my crush [16]", "post": "I guess I'll start off by saying that I am a senior in high school and the girl I have a crush on is a junior. We are both on Student Council and I have known her for about two years. I would say that we know each other pretty well although we don't hang out outside of school. We work very closely as we both are on the Executive Board for my schools student council.\n\nLast year I had figured out she had a crush on me and I had one on her as well. I was much less outgoing and confident than I am now so I never got around to asking her out. She has a boyfriend now and it seems like I missed my shot to date her.\n\nI've never really felt this way about a girl before. I've had crushes on girls before but this time its so different. She is beautiful, smart, hardworking, and the sweetest girl I have ever met. She goes out of her way to help people and expects nothing in return. She is so kind and every time we lock eyes I just can't help but smile. I'm not sure if I should wait and see how her relationship goes or if I should say something. She seems happy with this guy and I'm very happy for her. I just wish I was the one that could treat her how I KNOW she should be treated.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I wait or tell her? Should I try and forget about her and move on? Please help :(", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl that at one time liked me but I have since missed my chance because she has a boyfriend. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1buzw9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Please help...", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now.  I know she loves me but I feel like she gets scared of being with me because I have my life together as far as my career goes and she doesn't because she's a waitress.  Anyway,  we've had our issues in the past because she's a christian and I dont really belong to or claim any type of religion.  We broke up for about a week because of this and during that time she had a one night stand with a guy that she doesn't know and now she's pregnant (she claims to be have been so black out drunk that she doesn't remember any thing).  She doesn't know if the baby is mine or the stranger's but she plans on having an abortion either way.  She doesn't have anyone to talk to about the problem except me so i obliged to be by her side through the whole procedure...  After I said that, she asked me if I wanted to marry her because no other guy would ever stay by anyones side after something like this and she says she could spend the rest of her life with me if I could just forgive her.  I'm so confused and heart broken, I really don't know what to do.  I love this girl very much but I have many reasons to think that she doesn't feel the same as I do for her.", "summary": "My girlfriend may or may not be pregnant for a complete stranger and doesn't remember having sex with him.  Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_4ff6wy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] boyfriend [29M] of 1 year + always makes jokes about me cheating on him/having a side boyfriend. Harmless or cause for concern?", "post": "I'm going to attempt to keep this short and sweet.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and everything is generally pretty amazing. Sure we have out ups and downs and arguments here and there, but nothing out of the ordinary.\n\nThroughout the course of our relationship, my boyfriend has always made sarcastic comments and jokes about me cheating on him, or my \"second boyfriend\". For example if I receive a message at night when we're in bed he'll say something to the effect of \"ohhh is that your secret boyfriend?\". Similiarly if I leave my Facebook open on my computer and he comes around he'll jokingly say \"Ahhh, I don't want to see your Facebook messages, you're probably organising to hook up with someone when I leave.\" Other comments are fairly out of the blue such as \"you've probably got a secret profile on [dating app] talking to boys\". Granted these are all said in jest, but I do find it somewhat concerning.\n\nGranted he is fairly insecure so sometimes I do let this slide. However, on the flip-side i've had an exboyfriend who was cheating on me the entire time and always said similiar things, convinced that I was on hookup apps all the time, when in reality he was.\n\nI've never cheated on anyone, and never will. Not to sound conceited, but I like to think i'm a pretty good boyfriend and have never given reason to mine that i'm cheating. But these jokes have started to a) concern me as i'm a big believer in \"a thief thinks everyone steals\" so to speak and b) offend me, as I have told him how fucked up I got in my past relationship being cheated on, so him joking about it to me kind of pisses me off.\n\nI've brought it up in the past that I don't like it, and he tones it down a bit, going on about how he is just joking, but do you think I should be concerned at all?", "summary": "Boyfriend has a habit of making jokes about me hooking up with other guys and having a side boyfriend, which has led me to be a bit concerned due to past experiences. Do I chalk it down to his insecurities or should I be a little worried?"}
{"id": "t3_1tl9lj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "There's a girl [19] who made it known to my Jewish self [23] that she has nothing up on Christmas day, what are some good ways to approach this?", "post": "My downfall is overanalyzing everything I think, do and say. There's this girl I like and she likes me. It sounds so simple right? GET TOGETHER WITH HER.\n\nI want to badly because I think it has potential to go somewhere with her, and I don't get that feeling often with most girls. She's really cute, has a good sense of humor and I get along with her well.\n\nI just started texting her the other day, and I asked if she had any extravagant Christmas plans and she said she didn't since she \"doesn't have any friends or a boy\".\n\nNow as a Jew, my Christmas tradition is Chinese food and a movie with my family since there's nothing else for me to do, plus Santa hates my kind.\n\nI want to spend some time with this girl and know I should, but would love some input on the best way to go about handling this matter. (BTW I live with my family, and she works with my mother)\n\nThank you much to all, and Merry Christmas and happy holidays!", "summary": "I like a girl, she likes me. And I'd love to get some advice on how to approach this matter since I get nervous to when it comes to making moves."}
{"id": "t3_1hx1qi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Subconscious mind leaving me annoyed.", "post": "For the past week, I[m21] have been dreaming about my ex[f20]. In my dream, either we're just casually talking going through our everyday lives or just being together but not in a bf/gf relationship type. We haven't spoken in months. Seven months to be exact. I do not miss her at all! She doesn't pop in my mind during the day but only in my dreams.. which got me feeling curious a little bit. Note that we broke up 3 years ago and during the span of that 3 years, we met 3 times. I want to sleep and not dream about her.", "summary": "Exgf keeps popping up in my dreams for the past week even though I havent spoken to her or seen her or thought about her. Just got me wondering, feeling curious. Looking for any answers to why is this happening and what should I do? I dont want to contact her or anything at all."}
{"id": "t3_171yri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27M] shares feelings with friend [27F], who just broke up with a long time friend [27M]. How can this be dealt with delicately?", "post": "I am in a situation where two friends of mine [27F, 27M], recently ended their 3 year relationship (He ended it). She had no idea it was coming, so she says, but the two of us have been growing closer for a few months.\n\nShortly after they broke up, she hinted that she had been having romantic thoughts about me. I let her know that there was a recent change in the way I viewed her, and our friendship. Her ex doesn't know anything about it.\n\nHow do I know when he may be ready to know about my feelings for her, and how can I bring the subject up? I value my friendship with him, and hope the break up hasn't changed him too much (Nobody has heard from him in weeks).", "summary": "I have romantic feelings for my friend's ex, and have spoken to her about it; She has shown interest as well, but is not ready for a relationship yet. I am going to take it slowly with her, but how do I do this without losing my friendship with him? (He is my room mate)"}
{"id": "t3_43odf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21/F) with my boyfriend (21/M), changing birth control methods, but nervous about how it could change our relationship.", "post": "Hello all, could use an outside perspective on this. Using a throwaway account.\n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I haven't been on birth control pills for the whole time, but I started about a year into our relationship. I've been thinking about switching to non hormonal birth control for some time now, as I really don't like the side effects of the pill, but unfortunately I won't be able to see my doctor for a few months for insurance reasons. So, I want to just stop my pills after this pack is up, or about 2 weeks from now, and only use condoms. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have talked about this and he is completely on board. He is so supportive and telling me this is my decision, but he appreciates me taking his opinion into account. We haven't been using condoms since I started the pill 2 years ago.\n\nNow here comes the issue. We are both still in school, and nowhere ready to be parents. I want to use condoms religiously and even have him pull out with the condom on. I am terrified that this change may make him resent our sex life. It has always been so relaxed while I've been on the pill, and I'm scared that this change may be a big difference compared to what it was. \n\nHas anybody gone through a similar experience? How was the transition?", "summary": "I'm planning on switching from BC pills to condoms, but afraid the change may affect my sex life with my boyfriend. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_35guem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27M] am possibly developing feelings for my roommate[25M]", "post": "I've been living with my roommate for the better part of a year, and just in the past couple of months feel like I may be developing feelings for him. Before we moved in together we only knew each other through mutual friends, I was moving into the city where we live and he was renewing his lease while his old roommate was moving out. In the time that we've lived together we've become really good friends. We float around the same social circle and spend a lot of our free time together in and out of our apartment. \n\nAbout 2 months ago he was in a car accident and ended up in the hospital for a few days. His recovery has been slow but he's doing well considering. While he was staying overnight in the hospital I missed him, a lot. I missed having him to bullshit with, watching him make coffee in the morning, his mannerisms. There were things about him that I missed that I didn't even realize I had taken notice to. Since he's been back my physical attraction to him has grown. Before I just felt like I recognized that he is a good looking guy, but now I actually fantasize about him, his body, etc. \n\nI've only hooked up with a few guys in my past, all when I was in my first couple years of college. I've had my fair share of girlfriends, only one serious relationship that lasted 3 years. I guess I don't see myself as straight, probably more bi than anything. As for my roommate, to my knowledge he has never brought a girl back to our apartment in the time we've been living together, but I have seen him on tinder a few times, and he's definitely approached women when we've been out to bars/clubs together. There are only a few occasions that have possibly hinted at him being into other guys. He can be very touchy. He's offered, and given me back rubs on many occasions. We've fallen asleep on the couch together once before he got in his wreck and twice now since after the accident. \n\nI'm conflicted in whether I should tell him any of my feelings, and if I should, how do I go about doing it?", "summary": "Guy has feelings for more than likely straight male roommate, debating on whether or not I should tell him."}
{"id": "t3_4azmk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 F] have been with my boyfriend [29 M] for four years , I recently found a message from a girl from his past on Facebook that worried me. Is this cheating?", "post": "I recently discovered a message from an ex flame that my boyfriend had years ago . This girl , let's call her Rachel sent a message to my boyfriend saying that she would like to be friends with him , as long as her fianc\u00e9 or his girlfriend  (me) don't find out . He then responded with ok , don't text me in 3 days because I'm going on vacation , I will text you when I get back.   That was it , but it seemed very secretive to me why he would hide something like that from me . I understand having friends with the opposite sex , but why hide it ?   I confronted him about it , he said he was going to tell her that he didn't feel confortable being her friend ,but why didn't he tell her sooner ? I also saw some phone calls between them and some messages back from January.   He sent her a message saying not to contact him anymore and that he loves me and doesn't want any problems and blocked her from FB ,but only after I told him to..is this cheating ? I feel hurt and betrayed and dont know if i can trust him after this.  Did I nip it in the bud before it may have gotten worse?", "summary": "I found a message from an ex to my boyfriend,  it was very secretive and now I don't know if I can trust him."}
{"id": "t3_3p7218", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [27 F] 2 years, lack of sex straining my relationship.", "post": "I have been dating my GF for a little over 2 years. At first she was very sexually active with me. I felt connected to her, I was happy, I liked going to do things with her, a healthy relationship.\n\nOver time she would occasionally mention she wasn't feeling good, felt stressed etc when I would initiate with her. I felt that was understandable and let her know it was ok. Her reaction to this was questioning me, asking if I was mad at her about it, if I was sure I wasn't upset over it. I told her that I understood if she wasn't feeling good and let her know it wasn't a big deal.\n\nOver time sex happened less frequently. Which caused me to feel a variety of negative emotions. I felt less desire to go out and do things, which wasn't fun or normal for me. \n\nI talked to her about it eventually. She told me that my weight made me less attracted to me. I agreed with that and put more effort into bettering myself physically.\n\nBetween running my businesses, gym, side projects, and the reduction in desire to go out with her; things have been stressful especially without intimacy.\n\nDespite my feelings for her, the lack of sex has made me feel less close to her. It isn't something I can tolerate for the rest of my life.\n\nI imagine my best option is to simply part ways with her. I figured i'd throw up my thoughts on here for potential wisdom any may have to offer.", "summary": "Lack of sex has increased over time. Finding it to be unacceptable. Feeling like breaking up is the only option."}
{"id": "t3_10fvwr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I believe in an abstract God and Girlfriend can't be with me because I disagree with her God. Need some advice for these feels please", "post": "I am a philosophy graduate, read a lot, have done my research, and have come to my own personal conclusions. Me and my girlfriend had a talk tonight where I basically told her what I believed in God... and it is not like her God.... Point where we specifically disagreed is where she believes that if you believe and trust in God he will help you... something like that. Long story short I support her beliefs as we have been together for more than a year and have said the \"i love you\" to each other. She... on the other hand got mad at me various times and twice said \"If you really believe that I can't be with you\". I told her that I have come to my conclusions through research and hard thought.... and am sorry if she disagrees...... I am mega bummed. I can't stand the thought of being with someone who will not be with me for my being critical of my beliefs. What should I do? I think I should break up with her.... I didn't expect hearing this from someone I love... let alone someone who loves me.... I especially felt that considering the fact that I DO believe in a God... just not hers...... Help me everyone! What should I do? She left the house when I told her to and now I'm mega sad.", "summary": "GF told me she can't be with me because I don't believe in her God and now IDK what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_29dd8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [m.22] depressed and my gf [f.21] makes it worst. I hate the discomfort she makes me feel and it won't stop.", "post": "There's just so much to say, I'm not sure how to phrase it all so that it works..\n\nEarlier this year, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I'm working on getting myself better but my gf is always in the way, she never lets me get shit done, and then she would make me feel like shit for giving something else attention other than her.\n\nIf she asks to hang out, I'm obligated to go or else she'd start throwing a fit. I like my alone time, I have hobbies, interests and am working on getting my business off the ground by the end of July. However she's always holding me down. Everytime we hang out, it's never for a few hours, it's literally all fucking day, from noon to 2am. I'm not allowed to do shit while I'm around with her.\n\nI hate it. I like my time, I have hobbies, interests and projects I'd like to finish. All she has is work. The only chance I get to have my own time is when I do it while she's working, sleeping, or if I just straight up disconnect myself from the internet/phone.\n\nIf I had plans before she even asks to do somethign, she still throws a fit. I'm not allowed to have any other social plans unless they involve her. She starts saying how \"Oh you make time for that but not me\" and it literally makes me want to just punch myself in the face. It's come to the point where I just feel guilty about anything, studying, working, spending time with family, because she's just always making it seem like I'm a dick for not spending that time with her.\n\nI really want to beat my depression and anxiety, but it's hard when she's always getting in the way when I'm trying to be organized and keeping myself occupied with personal goals. \n\nShe knows of my problems, but it really doesn't make a difference. She gave me shit when I first went to a therapist because I was in a room alone with her. \nThis is my first relationship too. Is this type of behavior normal?", "summary": "I'm miserable. I'm in a relationship where I can't get shit done without thinking I'm an ass, because that's what my gf does."}
{"id": "t3_2sey07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF (21F) doesn't seem to respect me (22M)", "post": "For some context.\n\nI have been with my GF for 7 months soon.\nI'm her first ever boyfriend and first guy she's even dated.\nShe has told me she loves me and I've told her the same, and I truly thought we both meant it.\nIn the past 3 - 4 weeks we have been constantly fighting, she seems to be attacking me on little things at every turn and no longer making seeing me a priority.\nI understand that she has her own life and that outside of me but recently we have gone from seeing each other 3 - 4 times a week to 1 - 2 and she doesn't seem to be really upset by this.\n\nBoth of us are dealing with things outside the relationship and letting it interfere with how we are around each other a lot as well but I feel like that's nothing new for a lot of couples. \n\nWe have tried talking about it and it just ends in a fight and her shifting the responsibility on to me.\n\nI'm really at a loss as to what to do.", "summary": "girlfriend has begun attacking me a lot and seems to have lost interest. Wet suddenly. Not sure why or what to doZ"}
{"id": "t3_2cw4wf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "closed credit card", "post": "Ok so I need some help...\nRecently I have been working to repair my credit and pay down my credit card debt. None of my accounts are in delinquent status I'm just utilizing more than I should.\nOne of my cards which I have had for the past 4 years and has my highest limit recently expired. I noticed I hadn't received a new so I contacted my credit union. They now inform me the account is closed. After a 20 min hold they say it was closed by collections. I speak with them, and they have no record of why they would close since I'm not delinquent. After about another 10 minutes she informs me that the credit bureau closed my account.\nThere is no information as to why available, and she is unsure if I will receive anything stating the reason.\nDoes anyone have the answer?!", "summary": "credit bureau closed my credit card, what could be the reason?"}
{"id": "t3_2xmlnf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 23] think I'm falling for someone [F 23] I shouldn't.", "post": "About early January I began dating this girl and i never really thought it was going to go anywhere. But i think I'm falling for her. She's one of the most amazing girls i have ever met in my entire life. She's beautiful, smart, happy, and she makes me feel....i guess. Happy. It's not like a \"I need you in my life happy\" but more of a \"You make me better in so many ways happy, when you smile, my smiles bigger.\"\n\nI've only been seeing this girl for about 2 months. But here's the kicker. She used to be a really good friend of mines ex-gf. Well not really a CLOSE friend. But just a good friend that i know and used to hang out with. \n\nThing is, i don't know if i should break it off with her. I don't want to. But it seems like shes losing friends because of it, and i don't want anything bad to happen to her. Especially if it's because of me. \n\nShe tells me she doesn't care. But I'm sure she does. I just want to see her happy, she deserves it. \n\nWhat should i do guys? I really don't want to not see her anymore. But i don't want her to lose her friends because of me.", "summary": "dating friend's ex-gf. She's losing close friends from ex-bfs side because of me. Don't know if i should end it. I think I'm falling for her."}
{"id": "t3_29eu2y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m], freshly single. I'm lonely, have trouble connecting with most people, and dislike dating.", "post": "So, I'll try to make this brief.  \n\nMy girlfriend just moved away; we can't do an LDR.  We both have strong feelings for one another, but this is just how it is and I accept it.  This is not the first time this has happened to me, so I am experienced in coping with this.  \n\nAs for issues connecting with people, I don't know.  I am an ivory tower, intellectual type.  I'm highly educated, a research psychologist and well-read on many other subjects.  Incidentally, the vast majority of my relationships within the last several years have been with, by chance and to my surprise every time, valedictorians.  This suggests to me that my most attractive quality is my intelligence, or that I am mostly attracted to girls who are highly intelligent.  Likely it works both ways.  \n\nPeople also note that I am exceptionally honest, yet hard to get to know.  (Not entirely sure how that works?)\n\nProblem:  There are only so many highly educated / open-minded girls in my area, and they're not easy to find.  Really, it's apparent that my local culture just doesn't value education or intelligence very much.  I have nothing against dating girls who are less interested in intellectual issues, per se.  That said, my love of exploring ideas is a defining feature of who I am.  Thus, I wish to have an SO that is comfortable openly discussing deep, if not controversial ideas.  This is difficult since, again, this is not normal in my local culture.  (For example, more than once people at the bar have interrupted my private conversations to mock me, referencing Einstein, just because I'm talking about some deep idea that I love.  Similarly, girls have literally shot me down by saying, \"we'It's insulting, and reflects a culture wherein people hate ideas.  Perhaps I should speak less loudly when drinking, but that's another issue altogether).  \n\nI am at university, but still..", "summary": "it seems hard to find girls who have a similar love of ideas and deep conversation as I do.  Where should I look?  What should I do?  "}
{"id": "t3_1cgo6z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [23/f] feeling disillusioned with my relationship [23/m]", "post": "Throwaway as my boyfriend knows my reddit username.\n\nWe have been together almost three years. I love him a lot, and up until recently have been imagining a future with us together. \n\nHe is in the midst of his honors year, which he has fully thrown himself into. My boyfriend is very ambitious, which I find to be an appealing quality. I have just graduated and am now in full-time work. However my boyfriend studies very long hours, also on weekends, and we see each-other 2-3 nights a week.\n\nI love to travel (particularly with him) and I brought up going away for four nights in July to celebrate our three year anniversary. I think it would be great to spend some quality time together since he has been so busy this year. He said he would like to go and that he would talk to his supervisor about it.. turns out that his supervisor doesn't think it's a good idea as its such a busy year. \n\nIt feels like I've come to the realization that he won't spare four nights with me out the whole entire year. It feels like I'm not a priority, but I guess I can't blame him for making university his first priority. It just hurts when he is my number one, I give him my all, but he can't/won't do the same. It is really wearing me down.", "summary": "Reddit, am I being a drama queen? Bf of 3 years won't take four nights off in the entire year to go away with me for our three year anniversary because his supervisor said he'll be too busy. The consistent \"uni first\" approach, while understandable, is starting to wear me down. Starting to think we just want different things."}
{"id": "t3_ukhdr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm feeling really confused and frustrated and feel like I need a total getaway, off the grid, to do some \"soul-searching\". Any tips or similar stories?", "post": "I've finished my first year of college, one semester of which was abroad. Lately, I've just been feeling down, confused, almost like I'm wasting my time day after day sitting here at home when I could be doing big things with my life (besides college, which I am doing well thus far).\n\nI really love nature and photography, they are the two things that I find truly calm me. I'm getting tired of the same old friends, the same old high school BS in my small hometown. I just want to get away for a few days and really work out on finding who I am, rather than hiding from the search.\n\nI do some biking, but I'm also looking to (once I learn the ins and outs of hiking/camping) to do a few day through-hiking journey in the Appalachians. Does anyone else have some suggestions? I just really want to get away from EVERYTHING, and be entirely on my own for a bit to really explore myself without any distractions.", "summary": "I'm confused about my identity and need to do some deep-self searching, away from everything and everyone."}
{"id": "t3_3d4yub", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying thank you.", "post": "l'm a manager of a store and customer service is highly valued by the owner, so I always make it a note to say thank you.\n\nHere's the problem, every single customer says thank you back when I say so, and I end up saying thank you back to them for saying thank you back.\n\nStill following right?\n\nI hate this part of my job, I call it the Thank you battle.\n\nWell today, I had a thank you battle and the man looked at me and went,\"Thanking one is a gesture that should remain sincere, don't make it otherwise.\"\n\nand the idiot that I am replied,\"Thank you.\"", "summary": "Thanked a man meaninglessly, and he rocked my world."}
{"id": "t3_31087f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saving a little girl from harm", "post": "This happened a few months ago but regardless.... I was on a field trip with some business classes when we went to the mall to eat in the food court. It was the middle of the day and of course the mall was packed with people. I left my friends at the table while they ate so I could get a hot pretzel. Halfway there, I see a little girl about 3 or so try to spin a type of game spinning wheel. Here's where everything went wrong. It was a tripod type wheel, on a table, and it was at least twice her size. She hit it and it fell towards her. I sprinted over and used myself to block her as I tried to catch it. Needless to say, it fell on the flow with a loud bang and I asked the girl if she was okay as her mother came over from across the way. I fix the wheel before the saleslady came over to do so. That's when I notice that the whole food court stopped and stared. I made eye contact with my teacher and she laughed so loud. She was the only one who saw what happened in full. Everyone else, including my friends, thought I had walked into the table, knocked stuff over and caused a huge commotion.", "summary": "shielded a toddler from what could have been a serious injury, got laughed at by hundreds of people because they thought I made a huge blunder"}
{"id": "t3_331cqp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Am I a flight risk?", "post": "I finished my PhD in Oct 2010 and started with a very small clinical research company about a week later. I worked there until Dec 2013 when I realised that, regardless of managerial promises, I was never really going to progress much beyond where I was.\n\nIn Feb 2014, I started in a public sector job that turned out to be nothing like what I interviewed for. It was obvious from the start that the position wasn't for me (why they hired me, I don't know: I am way over-qualified for what they wanted). \nFour months later (Jun 2014), I start in a managerial level position. It's okay money, good experience and good science.\n\nLast week, I got a call from a recruitment agency. They were recommended my name by an as yet unknown third party for a very, *very* good job: pretty much what I'm doing currently but at nearly twice the salary.\n\nNow, I'm jumping the gun a bit as I haven't even been called for interview. BUT, assuming I am (not a big if, even if I say so myself) and assuming I'm offered the job (a far bigger if), and assuming I take it, would you, as a potential future employer consider me a flight risk? Would you look at my work history and dismiss me for fear of not staying, or would you call me for interview and allow me the chance to convince you I had good reasons for each jump?", "summary": "Since Dec 2013, I'd have had 3 jobs with a potential to have a 4th by the end of June 2015. All roles are clearly better paying than the last and, aside from a blip, all with more responsibility and clearly progressing my career. Would you consider me a flight risk based on CV alone?"}
{"id": "t3_463t42", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of four months may be apart for a year. I don't know how to start this conversation and what the best option is.", "post": "I am in the running for a prestigious grant that will allow me to study abroad for a year in another country. In the past few months I've met a guy who I've fallen head over heels for. I love him very much and I want to continue our relationship. By the time the grant starts we will have been dating for about 10 months. \n\nI applied for the grant before I met him and he has been supportive about it. I keep ignoring talk about it, however, as I really don't want to leave him. At the same time, the grant is an amazing opportunity and we've both agreed if I get it I do it. Yet we haven't discussed what we will do as a couple if I leave. \n\nI really want to stay together but a year is a long time to be apart. There will be opportunities to see each other during that time, but I am afraid he'll get tired of the distance. \n\nShould I just ask him what he wants to do? Is it unreasonable to expect him to continue seeing me if I take this opportunity?", "summary": "Moving abroad, scared to talk about the relationship. I want to continue it but I'm afraid he'll say he doesn't. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_31p3pd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] was placed for adoption when I was a few weeks old. My birth mom's attourney contacted me saying my birth mom wants to meet me. But I don't want to meet her. Help!", "post": "I guess there's not much more to say.\n\nBasically my parents adopted me when I was 3 or 4 weeks old. I don't know much about my bio mom other than I think the story is she was a teenage mom. I know nothing about my bio father.\n\nI've never really been curious or had a desire to know the story or my bio parents either. The fact of the matter is my adopted parents are my REAL parents. They've raised me almost my whole life and half the time everyone, including me, forgets I'm adopted.\n\nI'm now happily married and have a good start to my career. Recently an attourney representing my birth mother contacted me, saying my birth mother very much wants to meet me.\n\nReddit, while I'm grateful to my birth mother for placing me for adoption and for giving me the best set of parents and brothers (my adopted parents biological children) in the world, I am not very interested in meeting her.\n\nI have no animosity towards her at all, as I said I am so greatful she gave me the best shot at life possible, but she is a stranger to me and I feel no pull, tie or even curiosity about her. I'm happy with my life and my family and this just seems like it would disturb that or throw it out of balance somehow.\n\nAm I a horrible person for not wanting to meet my birth mom? I'm feeling really down about it. My husband supports me either way but he loves me like crazy and isn't the best for unbiased opinions. Neither my parents or my brothers know about this, just my husband, because I really don't want to involve them unless absolutely necessary.\n\nAnd what *should* I say to my birth mom's attourney to make the rejection and let down as kind and easy as possible on my birth mom? I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to meet her.", "summary": "My birth mom placed me for adoption when I was only a few weeks old. I have a kick ass family. 24 years later my birth mom's attourney contacts me saying my birth mom wants to meet me. I have zero desire to see her. Is there a way to let her down easy or would I be a horrible person to pass this up?"}
{"id": "t3_4x3h3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 6 months (20F) is having a hard time thinking she's not good enough for me (21M) (in reality I'm nothing special, she's the special one)", "post": "Sorry if I'm a little absent minded or write things that make no sense.\n\nBasically, my girlfriend has slept with a lot of men and she regrets it all, we met six months ago and instantly clicked, she was trying to shove me away at the beginning because she thinks she is dirty and used. I told her that I loved her all the same. \n\nRegardless it's been a constant thing in our relationship, always hanging in the air. She just repeats how amazing I am and how lucky she is to have me all the time(I'm completely average, not that good looking not that special I have nothing amazing).\n\nToday she just broke down saying she doesn't find herself \"worthy\" of me and that she feels like she's hurting me and that I deserve better. \n\nNo matter what I tell her she won't change her mind, I managed to convince her to cool down and wait until tommorow but I'm worried since she's very emotional and attached she will disappear from my life.\n\nPlease, help me Reddit. I love her so much.", "summary": "Girlfriend things I'm amazing and things she's not worthy of me when actually she's the amazing one and I'm basically average joe."}
{"id": "t3_158tye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hooked up with a really good friend and now we don't talk...what do? [18F][18M]", "post": "At college I met this guy who I connected with immediately, we have very similar personalities and interests, there was obvious chemistry and sexual tension.  At the time we met I was in a relationship, shortly thereafter BF and I broke up and I was pretty upset.  Guy friend who I'll call \"Greg\" took me out with him to a party to try and cheer me up.  We ended up dancing and being very 'friendly' while at the party, when we went back to the dorm we continued what had been started at the party and went back to my room and hooked up.\n\nWe had established the next day that we were just friends, but I had feelings for him and emotionally I was a bit confused.  We tried to continue the friendship and pretend that everything was normal but he felt that I had become too attached and clingy.\n\nHe has a new love interest in his life, and I'm over my feelings for him but we're still awkward around each other.  I make him feel uncomfortable because he interprets my actions differently from how I mean for them to be taken.  I want to be friends again like we were, but I don't know how to make it happen.  I'm also a bit worried because he invited me up to visit him next week before things got weird and I'm still going but I don't want it to be awkward.", "summary": "Hooked up with a good friend (2.5 months ago, we've been friends for about 4), things got awkward and I'd really like to be friends again but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_119wu6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] How do I approach/ let a girl know, that frequents my workplace, I'm interested?", "post": "I [23m] work at a private fitness center in the membership department. These two girls come in regularly and we greet each other but nothing much more than that. I'm interested in one of them, but I'm not sure how to go about letting her know that. I have access to all of the members info in our computer system, but I absolutely don't want to use any of that for personal use. It's easily grounds for termination.\n\nI do know her name, but only because I helped her when she signed up for a membership (and again, the access to members personal info). I could try and add her on facebook but I feel like that would come across as someone just being a creeper, plus I don't know if she would even know it was me since she never sees me outside of my work attire. At the same time, I could send a short message along with the friend request perhaps. \n\nAny suggestions on how to approach her would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I see a girl a few times a week at the fitness center where I work. We exchange nothing more than the generic hi and goodbye, with the occasional joke thrown in. How do I let her know I'm interested?"}
{"id": "t3_rlaa2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Steam users, I need Suggestions!", "post": "So after seeing numerous posts about Steam, and the *Great Awesomeness* of it all, I have decided to go ahead and start the transition back from Xbox to PC gaming. \n\nBack in the day I used to play a lot more PC games then I do now. Whether it was Counter Strike, Jedi Academy, Star Wars: Movie Battles, Starcraft, Guild Wars, and a few more that I can barely remember playing. So now that I am not familiar with most of PC games, minus the obvious cross console/PC releases, I have no idea what is good or what is terrible. So are there any games on Steam that I should specifically try?\n\nKeep in mind that money is tight, so any submissions that seem more popular than others I will obviously try first. I would consider myself an all around gamer, I'll try anything; RPG, RTS, FPS, you know the rest.", "summary": "Just started using Steam, any advice on what I should try first, minus the obvious cross platform releases?"}
{"id": "t3_g8ssw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For those of us who are poor what are the (smallish) luxuries you're looking forward to when you're not as poor?", "post": "For me, it's being able to keep the A/C super low at night when I'm going to sleep and being able to afford to order an alcoholic beverage or an appetizer when I go to a restaurant. \n\nTwo years ago, it was to be able to fill my gas tank all the way up so I wasn't stopping every three days to put another ten dollars in. I got a better job and now I can and I feel like a boss when I slide my debit card. \n\nIn a dream world I want to be able to afford to send my laundry out.", "summary": "What splurge do you want to be able to afford someday?"}
{"id": "t3_23ty3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my SO [20M] of 1 year. His brother has been battling cancer for half a decade and now he has taken a turn for the worse. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I have known my SO for six years. We went to high school together and began dating once I graduated and moved on to college. We are very close and I can confidently say that we have a strong, healthy relationship. His 26 year old brother has been battling Hodgkin's Lymphoma for about 5 years now. He has relapsed three times since his initial diagnosis and this last relapse may be the final one.\n\n I am not close with his brother, and honestly, it is impossible to be. He is very quiet and keeps to himself most of the time. My SO's parents have dedicated their lives to saving their son. I respect his family for sticking together during these tough times but I cannot think of what I should be doing to help. I am supporting my SO by staying consistent with our usual dialogue and activities. I have never lost someone close to be, nor have I had a seriously ill family member.\n\n I did not visit his brother when he was first admitted to the hospital, which was yesterday 4/22/14. I don't feel sad about this happening and part of me wishes it could just be over. I hate that his brother has suffered for so long. His parents have begged him to continue chemo even when he insists that he is done trying to survive. I may be ranting so I apologize for that. I really don't know what to do. Should I visit his brother? I have no idea what to say if I do. He is a total stranger to me.", "summary": "SO's brother is dying and I don't know what to do to be supportive of him and his family."}
{"id": "t3_mhygz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who is right here, me or my mother?", "post": "First of, I'm 16 and I live in Norway. The laws and also prices are different here from the US.\n\nOk. So I wanted to get Skyrim for PC, but none of my laptops are good enough to run it. Therefore I decided to get myself a better computer. At the same time, a friend of mine was getting rid of his computer because he was tired playing games like MW3 and wanted to focus more on school. Therefore I bought it for 5000kr and a monitor from somewhere else for approx 2000kr. \n\nUpon finding this out, my mother got really angry, and she has ordered me to return it to him. I didn't talk it over with her (probably should have) because I knew she wouldn't like it because of a previous incident, and perhaps would let it slide when the deal was done. Anyway, she is saying that I legally can't make purchases like this over 2000kr without telling her because she is responsible. She is also mad because I'm not getting a guarantee for buying it used.\n\nEven though I used my money (mostly, but I'll come back to that later) she is saying that I couldn't use them. A lot of the money has come from my work, but some of it has come from me getting some refunds that was intended for her, but she let me have. I thought I could use it for anything, considering that it was on my account. Now for the \"mostly\" part over: I was a little short on cash for the monitor, so 950kr of it was paid for with a card the family is sort of sharing. I'm planning to pay it back at the end of the month. Mom doesn't know yet though.\n\nI know my mom has her own motives for denying me a gaming-PC. She does not like the fact that I play video games, even though my grades are good and I'm not obese. She is also kinda paranoid about getting ripped-off.\n\nI also have a terrible feeling that my friend has already spent the money on an iPhone.", "summary": "I got a cheap PC, mom gets angry and says it's illegal for me to do so. Now she says that I have to give it back."}
{"id": "t3_zgkui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible that the first relationship you ever have goes all the way to marriage? [20F/21M]", "post": "I'm the 20M by the way. We've been together for 3 months now and she's my first real SO, so I wanted to know if you think it's possible for the first girlfriend you have to be the best, I think so but then again how would I know.\n\nSome backstory, we've known each other for 10 years or so, always been friends, but she's been in a long term relationship for 5 years and that limited our time together to only with her boyfriend, who I was also friends with. Recently (over the past year) she has been confiding in me all her problems with her relationship and eventually I helped her realize that she was being emotionally abused, and gave her the courage to finally end it. We started hanging out one on one for the first time since we were little and it was awesome. We have all the same hobbies and interests, we have the same thoughts and say the same things at the same time, shit, we even called each other at the same exact time on two occasions. Basically if you look up soul mates or twin flames on the internet, that's us. \n\nWe've always wondered why we smile so much at each other and stare at each other, while she was with her last boyfriend. Anyway forgetting all the time we could have been together, we both think it can go all the way. She has had a few middle school relationships but nothing compares to what she feels for me.\n\nThe thought is in the back of our minds that since I've never had another girlfriend I don't have anything to compare my feeling for her to. My reasoning is that I'm quick to find problems in potential girlfriends, little things that don't match up to me just turn me off to a relationship, its been this way through high school, no one was good enough for me and I wasn't going to get a girlfriend just to be 'cool'. But this girl is perfect in every way, it's some strong feelings I've never felt before, but that's all I can say.\n\nSo I wanted to know some experiences you guys have with only one SO. Is it a bad idea to just stay with her and potentially ask her to marry me when the time comes?", "summary": "my first girlfriend might be my soul mate, but should I date other people?"}
{"id": "t3_21fnmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17 M] a boy in my class has an intense crush on me that's starting to get creepy, how should I deal with the situation?", "post": "I'm a high school senior and we're both in the same grade. He's constantly staring, overdoing it. Always flirts, like one time, he was like \"Oh you got new glasses?\" \"Yeah! Do they look good?\" \"YOU look good.\". He casually confessed \"loving\" me twice. He sits behind me in class. So a weak ago I looked back and he was staring. And when I looked at him, he sang a love song and added my name in the end. And with his spot behind my chair, he started touching. He's put his hands on my hair and neck multiple times. Today he left his spot next his best friend and cramped a third seat between me and the guy sitting next to me. And also today, he looked at me around three times right in the eyes and would sing this intense love sing. One of the three times he actually was singing to my ear, too close my right ear. Even my friends have noticed he has a crush on me. I barely even know him.\nI just need an advice on how to deal with the situation. Here's the thing, I'm living in an extremely homophobic country. And I'm gay myself so I sort of empathize and I don't want to get him in trouble over being gay. But I'm not into him, and he is starting to seriously creep me out.", "summary": "How should I deal with this situation? And how should I approach if I was to talk to him about it and tell him to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_3pl3pr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [29 M] for 6 years, doesn't want to give me a key to his new apartment?", "post": "So, like the title says, my boyfriend doesn't want to give me a key to his apartment.  We've been together 6 years, lived together for 2 years, but our lease expired in early October.  I moved in with my parents due to my parents needing assistance around the house (dad had seizure with long-term complications).  Boyfriend and I discussed and agreed this was okay - I plan to be with parents for about 3-6 months.  I still sleep most nights at boyfriend's new place, and I was never made a key (and never needed one, due to timing and schedules).  \n\nI had to wait for my boyfriend to get home one day and casually asked him if he was planning on making me a copy of the key.  He said no, because he signed the lease with his brother and his brother may be walking around naked if I were to walk in unannounced.  Ummm...what?  His brother had stayed with us (in our previous apartment) due to unemployment and was immediately given a spare key.  \n\nI'm a little confused as to why I'm not getting a key...clearly we're in a committed relationship and rent money is not an issue as his brother (who hadn't paid anything before) is now on the lease and paying half the rent.  I also help with utilities and groceries.  I've asked my boyfriend multiple times and he's not giving me a clear answer...or at least, the answer's he's giving me are not acceptable to me.  Case in point, the example above with the potential scenario of \"naked brother\".  \n\nSo, am I crazy or is this a really weird situation?", "summary": "Boyfriend isn't giving me a key and won't give me a reason why.  "}
{"id": "t3_12r75w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can't you stand about society?", "post": "I can't stand it when everyone assumes that fair-skinned people can just go out and get a tan. Skin tone is genetic. In order to be tan, fair-skinned people have to majorly risk their health with tanning booths in addition to slathering on a fuckload of fake tanner, all to conform to what society dictates they should be. Also, some people can't tan even if they want to. For reference, here is the Fitzpatrick scale, which \"remains a recognized tool for dermatologic research into the color of skin\": \nWhatever happened to not judging people by the color of their skin?", "summary": "It should not be asked of us to try to change our genetics to conform to society."}
{"id": "t3_e8ltr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My GF is in massive credit card debt and I want to help. What can I do?", "post": "So my gf of almost 2 years is in massive credit card debt but its not her own doing. She is the only one of a family of three (mom, sister, her) that is actually working to provide for rent and everything else. Her father passed away 6 months ago without life insurance and left the family with just debt. He and the mother used my GF's credit card to pay for bills and the like somehow amassing 20k for my GF to pay off on her own.\n\nThing is, she is the only one working and has barely enough money to just cover rent every month. There is none left over to pay the CC company which resulted in them hassling her with phone calls and letters asking for money. Finally, they called asking for a cash settlement of 6k by the end of this month or they will hand it over to the debt collectors.\n\nI'm pleading for your guys help here...is there anyway she can negotiate for anything less than 6k? or maybe an extension? I know she can file for bankruptcy but i really don't think she should. I'm trying as hard as i can to scrap up what i have to help her get the 6k by the end of the month but its not looking so well (only can get 2k so far).", "summary": "GF in 20k cc debt trying to settle for 6k what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4s6f1q", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "sold domain I had for 9 years, turns out two major conglomerates bought it through a broker, violated terms of sale. advice?", "post": "Yes, this is a throwaway for obvious privacy reasons. So in November I got a random email from a broker saying they have a client with \"passing interest\" in my domain. I did some digging to see who would want this short URL I had for 9 years that served as part of my brand.  I asked if it was so and so, they assured me it was not. Come April I finally find out my domain was sold to two major American conglomerates who formed a merger. There was no way I'd find this out in December as they didn't announce the merger until Spring. My domain didn't redirect to their new website until about April. The problem isn't that they are using my short url to redirect to the longer version of my old domain. Fine, I can justify the not so much amount of money I got. HOWEVER, they are using my brand as part of their social media name (short name) across several platforms. This was not in the sales agreement for the DOMAIN sale. Mind you they have invested over half a billion dollars into other digital companies and I think I have a right to sue! Any advice or any lawyers you can recommend in the NYC area? They are using \"mybrandOFFICIAL\" in their social media as if they had come up with the brand 10 years ago. Thanks very much.", "summary": "I sold my domain I had that hosted my blog/brand to a broker, assured client had \"passing interest\" in the domain, now I find out TWO major media companies bought it and are using my brand in their social media. Need advice/lawyer recommendations."}
{"id": "t3_3stj7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [24 M] and my [23 F] GF takes up to 12 hours to answer a text...", "post": "Hey all. I don't know if I'm making a big deal out of this but I've noticed that my GF takes a long time to answer a text. \n\nBackground info, we've been dating for almost 2 years and are considering living together soon. I've noticed that a couple of months ago she started answering any text I send her, hours later. It's now gone so far that she takes up to 12 hours to answer. This shouldn't be too big if a deal but I know that she is just ignoring me! I see her post and do stuff on Facebook and she even posts stuff on snapchat. So she is blatantly just ignoring my messages.\n\nAnyone have any thoughts?", "summary": "GF takes up to 12 hours to answer a text. Blatantly ignores me. Any one have any thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2fmzu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19 M] been talking to a girl, went on a date, now unsure how to proceed", "post": "I went on a date with a girl, and as far as I can tell it went really well. She seemed into me and we hit it off pretty well. I forget to ask for her number because I honestly went into it thinking it was a pity date and was super excited that it went so well, but I did ask if she'd like to do something like this again sometime and she agreed. We've been talking through Facebook which, since she doesn't have it on her phone, she checks maybe once a day. So I let a couple days pass and asked her on a second date. Usually she responds that night when she checks her facebook. This was yesterday, around noon. She still hasn't responded to it. What should I think? It seemed like she enjoyed the first one and it seems like she's into me, but I really don't want to force anything if she's not for it plus I can't send any more messages because that would appear desperate/creepy. The not knowing is killing me :(\n\nI should add that this is the first time I've really been dating someone before a relationship; the other big relationship I had we had already had sex by the time we went on our first date, so I'm completely out of my depth here.", "summary": "Date seemed to enjoy it, hasn't responded about second date yet when she usually would have."}
{"id": "t3_2x4hdc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong that I [30 M] feel like I need to make my wife [33 F] of 2yrs jealous?", "post": "My wife is has connected emotionally with another man (also married), much deeper than she has with me. I feel he is a threat even though she tells me he is not, but I can't get over the feeling of wanting her to feel the same things I feel when she tells me how they have talked about divorcing their respective partners and starting a life together. It is clear to me he wants to pursue more than just a friendship with her, but I'm unsure about what she feels. I know she is not as happy as she could be in our marriage, and in fact has told me she was content. I know the power of jealousy is an extremely dangerous emotion, but if I could make her feel like I was wanted by another woman, it would make her see me as more desirable. I'd like to hear what some of the female redditors would think. \n\nAt this point, divorce in not really an option. I'm not looking to have an affair, I'm just looking for a woman who wants my time in the hopes that it will make my wife want to spend more time and emotional energy with me.\n\nThis is also something she has suggested at one point.", "summary": "I feel as though I need to go out and find another woman who is attracted to me and wants to spend time with me in order to make my wife want to be closer to me."}
{"id": "t3_qw10f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My car was totaled and now the tow truck company is threatening to ruin my credit.", "post": "I am at a friends house and he needs help: I will tell the story from HIS perspective as he dictates it to me:\nMy car was in an accident(my sister was using my car) and the car was totaled on the freeway. The car was towed by a tow truck company on the scene and she did not report it to the insurance right away- she said that she did not report it immediately because she knew it was not her fault. So she thought she did not have to. Meanwhile, I was out of the country- I was back home in Ethiopia. I did not allow her to borrow my car, she took it without my permission. My sister was not at fault. The car was hit in the rear. The insurance paid for the tow company (about 4,000 from the date that they got the report). However, they did not pay from the date that the car got towed (so the initial 3 days were not covered). They are asking for the first 3 days payments, and I refused to pay because the tow truck company states they will require the initial 3 dates of payments. The original total was $600. The current amount they are requesting is now $2200 (after fees and penalties). I did not pay initially because I felt this was not my responsibility- I was in Africa during this entire incident. I do not want to pay the 2200 because I feel that I was not responsible for the incident. I was out of the country, I was in Africa. I did not give her my permission to use my car. Is there anything I can do to save my credit?", "summary": "My friend was in Africa(Ethiopia) back home. His sister in the states(San Francisco, CA) took his car w/o permission and totaled it on the freeway. Didnt report for 3 days, the insurance didn't cover the days the incident wasnt reported. Friend's credit is getting destroyed."}
{"id": "t3_1lndmr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] recently hooked up with this [18F], but it seems I'm always asking myself when it will end.", "post": "I recently hooked up with this girl, and we're giving each other good vibes but as with the last girl, I always seem to question (or be insecure as to,) how long it will last. How can I mitigate this?\n\nThis is mostly due to the fact the first girl I was with started off the same way, but then over time slowly broke it off until one day just dropped it on me that it couldn't work anymore because she was too busy,  and then a month or so later I show up to a party hosted apparently by her new BF.", "summary": "insecure about relationship ending. help me out."}
{"id": "t3_3ge92u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have been with my girlfriend [20F] for 2 years, and she wants to open our relationship as of late.", "post": "I've known this girl for the past 6 years, and they've been amazing. We started dating after 4 years.\n\nI love her entirely, and I don't want to see her go.\n\nThis was your ideal relationship up until just a few weeks ago.\nShe told me that she wanted to experience girls, so she might not feel regret later in her life. In addition, she says that if she finds that she is better off with a girl, then she will leave me.\n\nI am getting used to the idea of her trying out new things, but I think that if she left me for another girl, it would break me. \n\nI just feel like she wants to put me on the waiting list so she can find someone better or end up settling for me.\n\nI can't think of anything else to write right now, but if there's any other information you think would be beneficial to you all helping me, just let me know, and I'll post more details.\n\nI want her to just pick one side quickly, but I know that rushing into things could get shitty.\n\nThanks a ton, /r/relationships", "summary": "Girlfriend wants open relationship to date other girls. She said that leaving me is a possibility. I'm afraid. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yzsn8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After two weeks of being broken up, she [32f] told me [32m] that she hasn't loved me for the last 6 months.", "post": "Just not sure what to do. It was hard enough that she broke up with and threw me out 2 weeks ago. Now she texts me today after she's had some time to think saying she hasn't loved me since October. Which October was when we lost our dog to cancer we owned together. \n\nShe told me we can be friends but she doesn't want me to go to the house at all. If ever again. And she wants me to do all the communicating/initiate hanging out, just incase I change my mind and don't want her around anymore. She also mentioned something about she didn't want to annoy/bug me. \n\nI'm just not sure what to do. I love her more than anyone I've ever loved before and it hurts me to just \"get over her\" and move on. I imagined a whole life for us together and our relationship was perfect until our dog got sick. Then everything just crashed and we started yelling and fighting. \n\nLost right now...2 weeks ago she have me sort of false hope about us fixing things and then today took it away. I have no friends that have been available to hangout with since the break up and meeting anyone else, friend or potential, has really scared me. I don't trust people very often and I told her things I've never told anyone.", "summary": "girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago with a small sliver of hope. Today she decides that it's for the best and she hasn't loved me since October"}
{"id": "t3_iagd2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, Reddit, what's the most awkward situation that you've tried your hardest to avoid?", "post": "Here's my most recent one: Every night around 10 pm go to the gym.  It's a 24 hour gym and there's generally a nice size crowd (15-20 people) there.  Since it's such a peculiar time and because I live in a smaller town it's usually the same people there, and we've all become familiar with one another. So last night I go to the gym and start using a treadmill in the center of the row. I usually go and run for an hour on the treadmill, but last night I decided to push myself run past my usual time.  I was pretty happy with myself as I was approaching an hour an forty-five minutes and decided I would leave once I hit 2 hours. It's kind of late and I'm the only one on a treadmill, but there's still about 15 people lifting and what not.  I watched in relief as the treadmill's clock  turned from 1:59:59 to 2:00:00, but just as this happened, a black lady that had just walked through the door gets on the treadmill right next to me despite the fact that there are 9+ open ones on either side of me.  I start to over-analyze the situation and decide that if I immediately get off the treadmill, she will think I'm leaving because of her, and I don't want anyone to think I'm a racist.  At the same time, however,  I just ran for 2 hours so I'm absolutely exhausted and want to leave. At that point I start wondering how long I should run on the treadmill so that it doesn't seem like I'm leaving because of her presence.  Long story short, most awkward 2&1/2 hour run ever.", "summary": "I didn't want to look like a racist at the gym and I ended up running for an extra 30 minutes."}
{"id": "t3_1c8w8v", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Thinking about getting a second dog.", "post": "I volunteer at my local spca and I am the only volunteer there that has just one dog. Everyone tells me it's way easier owning more than one dog because they, assuming they like each other, can play with each other and keep each other company. It makes sense and would be very good for my dog since he is by himself most of the day when I'm at work, but I'm sure there is more to it then that. Anymore Pros/Cons?\n\nMy dog is around 2 years old. He is just under 50lbs, a mutt, I think lab/shepherd and probably some pitt in there. He loves dogs. He is very well behaved at dog parks and around a lot of dogs. When he is one on one though it's like he is compelled to play with the other dog even if the other dog doesn't want to and it is nonstop. I'm hoping if he is one on one with another dog for awhile he would eventually get used to it and go back to acting his normal self. \n\nThe dog I am thinking about getting is great, she is super sweet, very submissive to people and other dogs. I don't think I have ever heard her bark at the shelter and every dog barks at the shelter haha. She is a Pharaoh Hound/Pitt mix, who knows if that's right. I know they would get along great. \n\nI'm assuming if I did get a second dog I should crate them at first. Should I crate both? Or let my dog have the run of the house as he usually does?", "summary": "Thinking about getting a second dog not sure what the Pros or Cons are."}
{"id": "t3_1nji0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] have this friend [21/M] who shows an interest in seeing me, but I'm not sure how to approach this.", "post": "I met my friend three years ago in college. We had two classes together and hung out with other classmates at school so I would call him a loose friend. I haven't seen him since last Spring, but we text every now and then and he recently told me he had a crush on me. Almost every time we text he asks to see me, offering to buy my movie ticket or take me to a hockey game, which is all nice! but I have a boyfriend whom I've been with for 3 years (which my friend should know). I don't want to lead this guy on, but I also don't want to be a shit friend. He told me he \"had\" a crush on me, he never said he \"has\" which is why I *think* he just wants to be friends. What should I do?", "summary": "A friend asks to see me a lot, he had a crush on me during school. I don't want to ignore him but I also won't lead him on."}
{"id": "t3_4tua0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) love my boyfriend (21M), but I miss the 'new relationship' jitters. Is there any way to blend old and new?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for three years.  I love him so much, and he's very good to me.  He's very attentive, gentle, and sweet.  We have a decent sex life, and go out on dates often.  I'm very committed to him and we plan to move in together after our last year of college.  \n\nSo, my boyfriend's best friend from high school had his first-ever kiss a couple days ago.  My boyfriend told me the whole story and it was adorable.  It got me thinking about our first kiss and the whole buzzy feeling that came with it, the adrenaline.  I realized I really missed it, and I got a teeny bit of regret thinking about how I'll never experience this again.\n\nIs it possible to get that exciting feeling in an established relationship, or is comfort the inevitable result of an LTR?  If it is possible to get the buzz back, any suggestions on how to do that?", "summary": "I miss the adrenaline and excitement of a new relationship, but am in love with my boyfriend.  Is there any way to reconcile these, or are my expectations too high?"}
{"id": "t3_2kdo1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] need advice.", "post": "My girlfriend [23 F] likes to be social, in the sense that she enjoys going out to clubs, dancing, getting drunk, etc. I don't, I hate it. Every time that I've ever been in a club bad things happen, in addition to just having some bad experiences with getting cheated on by girls in those situations.\n\nI never feel completely comfortable with her going out, but I don't ever stop her. She wishes I would come with her so we could have fun together, and so I would stop worrying about it, the problem is I genuinely don't know how. I don't think I'll enjoy it, I think I'll be a miserable prick the entire time and will ruin her night. \n\nI'm too worried about overreacting if I think something is going on, or not liking how she responds to a guy who hits on her(she's quite attractive, so in a club that seems pretty inevitable). I don't want to be that guy that gets upset over nothing and ruins a night. If I go out at all, I want to make sure that I'm ready to make it a good night, and not freakout the first time a guy looks at my girlfriend. What can I do to improve my mindset, or to prepare for club inevitabilities?", "summary": "girlfriend wants me to go out with her, idea terrifies me, want to fix it"}
{"id": "t3_4wbkdh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my unanswerd crush [16 F] for about a year got drunk, made out and went skinny dipping,", "post": "i made out with the girl of my dreams on a party, WHILE DRUNK.\nwe also took a shower together, you know without clothes.\nthe next morning we talked about it on whatsapp,\n(without the emoji's)\nme: \nyeah i kinda liked it, kinda funny as well that i got my first kiss from you.\nhell i can still fill you hugging me and almost taste you from the kissing (yes i brushed my teeth)\nher:\nyeah, i am sorry i was drunk and it probably should not have happened especially since it gives you all these feeling.\n(some more conversation which did not really matter.)\n\neventually we decided to not tell anybody we both know or would spread rumours quickly because our school is filled with asshole bullies... but this does not help me with processing it.\n\nand ever since a great friendzone/friendship got ruined by all the awkward feelings.\nwhat should i do to stop making stuff awkward between us and except torturing my brain by forcing me to ignore her while we have the same small group of friends in and out of school?", "summary": "i made out with my crush while drunk and went skinny dipping, there were regrets. and we already talked about it over whatsapp."}
{"id": "t3_39oiej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I m24 have a crush on my co worker/ best friend f23", "post": "So, a co worker of mine, whom I work with 5 days a week is basically my best friend. She and I have worked together for the past year and shared a lot of personal stuff with each other. I never meant to be or think of her as more than friends but it happened anyways. I don't plan on coming out with my feeling towards her, but I've had a tough time getting over the infatuation. We obviously see each other a lot, how do I limit my time with her/start to get over her? It is not an option to quit my job unfortunately. What would you all suggest if you've ever been in a situation like this?", "summary": "how do I create space between myself and a co worker whom I'm also in a social circle with?"}
{"id": "t3_159et5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you dare or challenge me to do for a year, starting today, to make my life more fulfilling and more purposeful?", "post": "When I was a kid, I've always wanted to be a rebel with an extraordinary life who made an impact. Unfortunately, I ended up in a vanilla state of things: I'm F/21, living in US, working a full time job, and being part-time in school. No SO at this point. I am not satisfied with where I am. I've always wanted more and I feel like now is the time for more.\n\nMy job pays me well so I have reasonable financial resources. I create my own schedule at work so my time is fairly flexible. Give me ideas - anything I can do on either a daily, weekly, or monthly basis (but something that doesn't interfere too much with my daily life; e.g. I can't move to a different state or country).", "summary": "I have a great life, but it's kind of boring... I want to be more impactful and have a more fulfilling life. What do you challenge me to do for this following year?"}
{"id": "t3_15d3ep", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention to my (boyfriend's) dog.", "post": "Sorry for the wall of text and/or if this is the wrong subreddit.\n\nSo my boyfriend has a 100+lb 2 year old female Bull Mastiff (Simba). We live together so I consider her my dog too. Today we took her to his friend's house for Sunday football. He has a 9 month old female Black Lab and a 5 lb male Pomeranian Poodle (Payton). \n\nChristmas dog treats were given to each dog and they played together well inside and in the Wisconsin snow. All of a sudden, Simba gets greedy and tries to steal Payton's pig ear. They both bark, then Payton jumps off his perch toward Simba and barks more. Simba then snatched Payton by the neck and shook him violently about half a dozen times. Another friend in the room kicks Simba in the mouth and Payton goes flying and spurting blood.\n\nI scream, pull Simba to the couch and pin her while clenching her collar. She's completely lucid and doesn't resist me. I start crying as someone called the animal hospital. I call for my boyfriend to come in here. I attempt to tell him through sobs why his best friend's dog got mauled. He takes Simba home as Payton clings to life. I talk to my mom some, smoke a bunch of trees, and we just wait. Less than an hour later we get a call. Payton was DOA and his family said goodbye.\n\nI'm a pretty sensitive person and this has completely tore me up. I especially didn't want to witness it. I know at the end of the day she's an animal, but hindsight is 20/20. We're too lenient with Simba and we should have watched her more closely when she was around such a tiny and cocky purse dog. I know it could have happened to anyone, it was anyone's fault, etc, but I don't have much experience with death so I don't know how to proceed into dealing with this.", "summary": "My (boyfriend's) dog killed his best friend's toy breed dog and witnessing it messed me up quite a bit."}
{"id": "t3_pvb7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Didn't Celebrate V-Day with GF as I was out of the country.  Didn't send flowers as we agreed, was I in the wrong?", "post": "Hey gang! I'm a 28M dating a 23F for the past 19 months. Im in R&D and for whatever reasons have been forced to do a traveling assignment.\n\nFor the last one year, I've physically seen my girlfriend only 4 weeks or so. I was forced to go to Asia to oversee some development and missed her birthday and valentines day. We agreed to celebrate both when I get back since I'm traveling nearly every day within Asia quite a bit.  \n\nI've been gone so far, about one month.  About 1 hour before my flight from America, she gets the news that she got laid off.  In this job, she was with a startup that actually the day before hired me as a consultant for some work in Asia.  My girlfriend was going to come to Asia for a few weeks as I set up, coordinate, guide and handle all work relations for that company.  Sadly, the angel funding fell through and the trip was cancelled along with all the jobs in the company.  So, this was a VERY bad time for her when I'm not around/there.\n\nWith my trip in Asia, I've been traveling literally EVERY day and am using credit cards for food, drivers, food, internet, cell phone, etc. to keep a paper trail for work as every things going on the expense reports.\n\nAll of a sudden the gf gets disappointed in me that I didn't have flowers delivered to her on VDay. I kept explaining I can't do that when I'm traveling since if I use my credit card 10 times in Asia then once in USA for the flowers they will put a hold on my account and I'm stuck and screwed here...did I do a whoopsies?  Communication is a serious problem for whatever reason, internet/phones etc are hard for me.  I'm basically in 3rd world LOL!", "summary": "I travel a lot and missed my girlfriend's birthday and valentines day due to being out of the country. We agreed to celebrate when I get back. She got angry when I didn't send flowers on VDay. Should I have anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_1nys9h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[22f] suffer from social anxiety that affects how I feel in my relationship with my SO [22m]. How do I bring it up?", "post": "I suffer from fairly severe social anxiety. My SO knows that I'm very shy, but I don't think he's ever suspected that it's anything more than this. So far, it hasn't caused any real problems in our relationship, at least outwardly. He seems to accept that I'm naturally very quiet and don't like to talk a lot. I still make an effort to spend time with him and his friend group, even though I'm very uncomfortable, and up until I graduated from college recently I had a friend group with whom I would invite him out occasionally as well.\n\nHowever, I feel like I'm constantly going through an inner struggle because of my anxiety. I have very low self-esteem, for one thing. Participating in activities with his friends is usually an incredibly difficult and painful experience for me, and this makes me not want to go out with his friends even though I often still force myself to. It even makes it difficult for me to spend time alone with my boyfriend sometimes because I often struggle to make normal conversation, and usually feel badly about myself. He doesn't seem to mind my introversion, or at least has never brought it up as an issue in our year together so far, but I'm worried of the long-term effect these issues will have.\n\nUp until now, I've never mentioned any of this to my boyfriend. I'm thinking of going to see a therapist about this, which I know I've put off for far too long. But I don't know if/how I should tell my boyfriend. I know it's something I probably shouldn't keep secret, but I'm afraid of unloading all of my emotional baggage onto him. Any advice on how to bring this up?", "summary": "I have social anxiety, and would like to get help from a therapist soon. How do I talk about this with my SO who I've never told about my anxiety?"}
{"id": "t3_2v84n7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and my boss [24F] are very good friends. Her boyfriend is cheating on her. What do I do?", "post": "So my boss and I are very good friends. She is a hard worker and has been dating the same guy for almost seven years now. They have a house together, but aren't married and he is very adamant about not getting married. \n\nHe has an Instagram, and all he likes and comments on his pictures of slutty girls. Last month she was crying in her office because he was texting some girl about hooking up. She may be in denial, but deep down she knows he is cheating. \n\nIf she was a just a friend, I would tell her to get the hell out of there. But as my boss, I don't want to have any backlash about giving her relationship advice.", "summary": "My boss' boyfriend is cheating and I don't want me giving her dating advice to ruin our work relationship."}
{"id": "t3_myi6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have only had chemistry with <5 people? Is the bar too damn high?!", "post": "Hi r/relationships, I'm a 20 F and looking back, I think I only had real chemistry with about 4 guys my entire life out of all the guys I've ever met. I did go to an all girl's high school, but I'm a pretty sociable person and go to a relatively large school where I meet new guys nearly every week (and I'm a junior now). \n\nNormally, I would not assume there was a problem, but I've never had a boyfriend and I just talked to a F friend (also 20) who said she's had really good chemistry with 3 people in the past three or so months. Personally, I see chemistry as when you feel completely comfortable to talk/flirt, the jokes are making sense, etc (the feeling you are with someone who 'gets' you like a best friend but there's also that extra spark), and of course the physical aspect. I've had more crushes than 4 people, but I've also realized that it hasn't been a two way street and the guy in question probably 'wasn't feeling it', so I wouldn't count that as chemistry per se.", "summary": "What I am wondering-is this similar to most people or am I setting the bar too high for what chemistry is?"}
{"id": "t3_3n2vi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [25 f] help my conflict-avoiding, compulsive-lying fianc\u00e9 [26 m]?", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 is, in many ways, a great person. He is loyal, generous, hard-working, and can be very considerate.\n\nHowever, he comes from an abusive home with an alcoholic father and, I think, as a result he has a few very difficult qualities that as of late are making me reconsider our relationship.\n\nHe has a lot of conflict-avoiding tendencies, he lies compulsively, and he cannot control his drinking. He also smokes a lot of weed, which I have less of a problem with except that we cannot afford the amount he spends on it.\n\nI love him. He has helped me through my own health issues. I want to help him through this. I just don't know how.\n\nHe has agreed, several times after doing something awful, to go to therapy. He has never followed through, however, insisting he \"doesn't have time\" or \"doesn't need to.\"\n\nOver the course of our relationship we've seen each others' highs and lows. For a while he was able to distance himself from his dysfunctional family and was a much happier person for it. Now his dad (who still drinks heavily but is too weak to be physically abusive) is dying (very slowly) and things have gotten quite bad again.\n\nReddit, what can I do to help my fianc\u00e9? I don't want to believe this is abusive lost cause, but I can't get married to someone I can't trust, and right now there is very little trust.", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9 causes many unnecessary problems in our relationship by avoiding conflict, lying, and abusing alcohol. How can I help him?"}
{"id": "t3_xacv9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'll be an adult soon, but how do I do it?", "post": "Okay. I'm sixteen now, and I'll be seventeen later. That'd be utterly unimportant if it weren't for the fact that after that I'll be eighteen. Once I'm eighteen, I'll be out in the world mostly on my own. \n\nI have a vague idea of what I want to do with myself, and I know how I want to do it. I even have a lovely piece of land and a house I'll be able to afford by the time I'm eighteen (should I?) What I don't have an idea about is all the auxiliary stuff about being an adult. I couldn't fix my plumbing, handle wiring around the house, etc.\n\nMy question, aside from the house/land thing, is, what do I NEED to be able to do to make being on my own easier, what do I not need to worry about, and where can I learn to do these things? Also, if someone could recommend a good college for someone wanting to be a historian/history teacher/folk musician located near VERY upstate NY, I would say thank you and want very much to give you a hug.", "summary": "I want to be an adult, but I don't know how to do typically adult things. Also, please read the whole post."}
{"id": "t3_1kn4sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] decided to take a break with my girlfriend [20F] of six years. We're both happy with our relationship, but we've never experienced anything(one) else. If we both agree that this is the right decision, why does it feel wrong?", "post": "I guess I'll start with some background. Me and my girlfriend have been together for more or less six years, since freshman year. It's almost my junior year of college, and I've had maybe three months out of those six where we weren't together. We get in fights every now and then, but always make up for the better of the relationship. I'm genuinely really happy with her and can't imagine life without her. But that's part of the problem. \n------------------------------------------\nI feel scared by the fact that I've been with her so long. I'm only 20 years old, and I feel like I could see myself marrying this girl. But what do I know? I don't want to be making these decisions at this age, but I feel like by bein together for so long (and never experiencing time alone) I'm committing to something I'm not ready to commit to. \n----------------------------------------\nSo I brought this up to her the other night. I suggested taking a break for the next semester, as I'm transferring schools and this seems like as good a time as any, even though we're both happy with each other. She agrees with my idea, but feels like we should wait until an actual problem arises in out relationship. I disagree, because I don't want to end things badly and end up hating each other. I'd hate to never have the chance to be with her again. \n----------------------------------------\nSo for we agreed on a break. We're talking again before she leaves for school and I don't know what to do/say. These past few days since we've talked have been really depressing, but I know it's for the better.", "summary": "I'm a 20 year old with the commitment issues of a 30 year old. I love my girlfriend, but think we need a break after six years. At the same time, I don't want to lose her. What should I do? How should I cope?"}
{"id": "t3_mwedu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend's family are fighting over everything. Known them for 13 years and I'm can't take it anymore.", "post": "I've known my best friend since I was 5(13 years now) and his family for almost as long and I've spent a large amount of time with them and I really care about them.\n\nI like to think they care about me as well, at least that's how I've understood it. However, they just can't stop fighting. \n\nI would say there's at least 3 fights on an average day and that's only the fights that I see before I leave, there's probably more.\n\nFamily consists of mom, dad, best friend(20), sister(16), brother(25ish). \n\nOverall, I feel awful when they're fighting around me especially since it's so painfully obvious how easy it would've been to avoid the fight altogether.\n\nI know fighting with your parents at that age is normal and usually leads to the kids moving out, this has been going on forever and I feel like they will all have trouble communicating with other people in their life if they continue like this(Not to mention how fragile their family connection is right now)\n\nToday after yet another meaningless fight, I decided I was done and gave them an ultimatum. I'm going to break all connections with them until they learn how to not fight. Starting with being able to spend a longer period of time without insulting eachother(Especially in unnecessary things. You don't have to insult someone to get them to do something they forgot)\n\nI talked to them seperately about it and it feels like the sister has already given up and feels like it wont work anyway and that she's tried before and it's hard because they insult her all the time.\n\nMy best friend basically replied: \"Okay then, it was fun having you as a friend all these years\".", "summary": "Best friend's family can't stop fighting. I told them I wont come back until they learn to live without constantly insulting eachother, what if they don't?"}
{"id": "t3_29d9ob", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I think I almost died today", "post": "I'll just preface this story by saying that I don't have anxiety, nor do I often feel anxious about much. Today was different.\n\nI woke up in the morning feeling really anxious about driving, but I had no clue why, since normally I love to drive. I felt like something really bad was going to happen - like a sense of impending doom, death, or something. I felt like this the entire day, but I really didn't know why. Either way, I decided to be more careful than usual when I eventually had to drive somewhere.\n\nMoving on to the actual incident, it's about 8:00 PM, and the sun is in the middle of setting. I'm driving down a street towards my friend's house  and I'm stopped at a light (right [here] to be exact). Suddenly I see a lifted dark-gray pickup truck heading straight toward me on the wrong side of the road. At first I thought, \"What is this guy doing? He shouldn't be trying to go around those other guys.\" But he kept going, heading directly for me. Then I realized that he was going about 60 mph and he was getting closer quickly.\n\nAt this point, I'm like, \"Holy shit, I need to move. NOW.\" So I turned as quickly as I could into the one way street to the right (again, right [here] the street to the right) and tried my hardest to avoid being hit.\n\nNarrow miss is an understatement. He whipped by me about a second later, hitting two other cars that were near me, and missing me by about two feet. If I moved even a second later, I honestly think I would've either died or been terribly injured. It was the scariest moment of my life, seeing a large pickup truck heading straight toward me.\n\nAfter it all happened, I talked to the police, gave them my story, and then headed to my friend's house. He bought me a lottery ticket because he said I was the luckiest guy ever. I didn't win anything though - I told him that I already used all my luck.\n\nAnyway, thanks for reading. I don't really need any advice or anything, I just wanted to tell my story. I guess you/I should always listen to your/my gut feeling.", "summary": "I narrowly missed a head-on collision with a large pickup truck, bought a lottery ticket, and lost."}
{"id": "t3_2ftagf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "On Saturday I (F/24) asked my so(M/22) to get an STI test. He said he would but now I fear he's pulling away from me.", "post": "Hi All,\nSo my SO has a hard time with condoms and I went and got on birthcontrol last week so we could do it without them. But then I started freaking out about STI's and if he can't use condoms he's obviously  been sleeping with other girls without them blah blah blah.\n\nSo I asked him on saturday(over the phone, we're long distance) if he would mind going and getting tested. He said \"for sure, I can do that.\" Then i didn't hear from him at all yesterday and usually he checks in at least once a day to say goodnight or how my day was. He's coming to visit next weekend and I'm really concered he's not going to go and I'm going to be angry and resentful at him for the whole weekend.\n\nIs there anything you think I should do? He's obviously not worth it if he's not willing to go pee in cup for me.", "summary": "SO feels distant after me asking him to go get tested for STIs"}
{"id": "t3_1gbbge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "22 M. I was rejected a couple of weeks ago but still want to ask the girl again", "post": "I've been hanging out with a girl I like for the last couple of months and really like her. Two weeks ago we were at a lounge and I told her I was attracted to her and wondering if she shared the same feelings. She said she didn't. It hurt more than usual because I really thought I had a chance since we've been getting along for a while. So it's been 2 weeks and I've tried to get over it by not contacting her, but she has messaged me a couple of times since then to say hi. I've been thinking about asking her again just to be 100% sure that there's nothing there. Should I? How should I go about asking again?", "summary": "I asked a friend if we shared mutual attraction. She said she didn't. I want to ask again, but not sure if it's a good idea or should I just accept the rejection and move on."}
{"id": "t3_os7l2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me with Vegas Pro 11?", "post": "System specs:\nInspiron 560 PC\nDual Core CPU 3.20 GHz\n6gb RAM\n64-bit Windows 7\n\nIt's a cracked version and I'm trying to edit battlefield videos, but whenever I play it, it doesn't respond after a few seconds. Whenever I try to render instead of play it, it pauses a few seconds into it and and just sits there. But on my laptop (what i'm on now because my desktop is slow when i'm trying to render) i used to have vegas pro 9 and i never had a problem and the laptop had 2 or 3 gb ram. now it has 3gb and has the same problems of the pc (yes i have vp11 on both don't ask why). So is there anyone who has experience with vegas pro and would know what to do? should i downgrade to vegas pro 9 or can anyone give me tips to help me fix the problem? If so thanks in advance.", "summary": "vegas pro 11 gives me not responding when playing preview and just sits there when rendering. vegas pro 9 had no problems a year ago when i had it. should i downgrade to 9 or are there other fixes?"}
{"id": "t3_2hjwz9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (22/M) am in a relationship with a (20/F) that has depression. How can I help her?", "post": "For context, this relationship is relatively new. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months, but we have been 'official' for one month. She told me she has been dealing with depression before things had gotten to serious, and I was okay with that because I also deal with depression. She is on an antidepressant as am I. Everything has been perfect until this last week. Over the past five days she has been very short with me over text, and when we see each other she just seems like she isn't interested in me. She will spend a lot of time on her phone, or go to sleep. We do work and go to school, and our schedule are sometimes opposite of each other so I can understand how she has been exhausted. However, even when she has free time she barely communicates with me. I asked her directly what was going on last night in a very non confrontational way, and she said she just needs time to figure things out and get better. She said she has been upset and she's not really sure why. I just want her to talk to me about it. I'm sure I've had similar feelings to what she is having right now, and I just want to help her.", "summary": "Girlfriend has depression and I'm not sure how to help her get out of a rut."}
{"id": "t3_in7gp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "So I got an interview regardless of not having experience and they say experience is a must...", "post": "I feel like I'm being given a huge opportunity here. I applied to a sales/csr postion because I had the customer service experience and I got an email back with the generic, \"we're sorry\" message because I had no sales experience.\n\nWell apparently I did a very good job of writing a convincing email back and not giving up. I effectively sold myself in the email and later on the phone so they gave me the last available slot they had for an interview.\n\nMy question is, with no sales experience outside of probably selling my car, how can I land this job? I'm nervous as to what kind of questions they'll ask and how I can not sound like a huge buffoon when I have to reiterate to the supervisor that I have no professional sales experience.", "summary": "Landed the interview for a sales job with experience required and I have no experience. Recruiter for their company knows this and still thinks I'll do fine. How can I impress the supervisor at the interview?"}
{"id": "t3_3bjqa7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding to reflect on my life in the makeup isle", "post": "So right now I'm in the middle of moving. I'm sure anyone who's gone through the experience knows how it can make one reflective on previous successes and failures, so no need to go off on any tangents. \nI'm at Wal-Mart, weaving my cart through the health and beauty isles. I'm a 30 year old male, so I'm there for the body wash, toothpaste, face wash, etc. I turn a corner and see a woman and her two young daughters checking out some items on an endcap. I think nothing of it as I push my cart into the next isle. \nI pause with my cart and start staring into space: the stress of moving has taken a bit of a toll, and I just need to take a minute to reflect. How can I make an outline of myself? Where's the guidelines? For the profiles? For my country? How do others see me? I'm worried. Worried but I feel guilty.\nI'm in this state for about a minute before one of the little girls runs into the isle and starts looking at something within my vicinity. Her mom then turns the corner and yells at her to come back over to her. I turn around and can tell by the look in her eyes that she does not like my presence. I can't really blame her: I immediately realized that it probably seemed suspicious that I walked by her and her two young daughters and continued to hover in the next isle for a minute while nobody else was around.\n\"I can still redeem myself!\" I think as I attempt to exude some sense of belonging in this particular isle I've been standing in for the past minute. I push my cart and start eyeing the shelf interestingly, and what do I see? Makeup, makeup remover, makeup pads...you get the idea. Unless I have an alternative lifestyle on the side, or I'm ballsy enough to try and buy makeup for my girlfriend, I have absolutely no business in this isle!\nI pushed my cart out of the isle as quickly as I could and continued my shopping, not feeling ashamed but aware that I have to be more aware of my surroundings when I space out!", "summary": "Spaced out and started contemplating life in the makeup isle, mom wanted her young daughter to stay away from me"}
{"id": "t3_4dvg8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19f) with my boyfriend (21m), Needing advice on something nice to do for him", "post": "I've been with my partner for a year and I'm pregnant (we're very excited about it)\n\nIt's been a pretty rough ride for us, morning sickness and other little complications so we haven't exactly been the most intimate pair for a while, though we try. \n\nHowever I want to do something special  for him, something to show him I love and appreciate everything he does for me and our baby. He isn't overly cuddly and when I try to say \"Cute\" things he makes light jokes and stuff, which is great because I'm uncomfortable with cheesy affection so it works for us however I just want to show him how much he means to me. \n\nI can't drive in my current condition so I can't take him to dinner, I cook most nights and we have lunch dates weekly, It's  routine and not exactly a special thing, so what I'm asking is, can someone give me a good/cute idea for how to surprise him? :) \n\nThank you in advance", "summary": "I'm pregnant and worried my partner and I aren't being affectoonate towards each other enough, I want to do something special for him but I don't know what."}
{"id": "t3_1vnz2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with a co-worker [27F], got a meeting in 2 hours, is there a way to ask her out?", "post": "So I've been working with this Woman for quite some time, and I'm attracted to her. I work as a graphics designer for her company and we have contact on a semi-regular basis. We get along really well and she invited me to multiple company party's (where there was no need to invite me), but I've been always held back to ask her out (obviously), since i was in a LTR til about 6 month's ago.\n\nLong story short she requested me to come over to her company in about 2 hours, to talk about some project. Is there a smooth way to ask her out for drinks somehow? I dont wanna just throw out \"hey, you wanna hang out in private some time\" I guess, since it may come off forced.", "summary": "Meeting a co worker in 2 hours, would like to ask her out, not sure how to do it smoothly."}
{"id": "t3_rj413", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Walked in on my brother jacking off to personal photos of my girlfriend", "post": "To start off ill explain a bit of background info. You can skip it and read the second paragraph if you just want to know what happened.\n\nI'm 21, my brother is 19. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 4 years and she is 19. Me and my girlfriend haven't been with anyone else apart form each other. My camera has some suggestive photos of my girlfriend which were only and ever intended for me. She is not the type of girl that would post on r/gonewild and i respect her for that. She has only ever shared her body with me. Me and my brother both still live at home.\n\nWhat happened:\n\nWe left the house empty to get ice-cream from supermarket. Arrived home in the driveway, opened the door quick and got to my room. My brother was inside my room sitting on my chair, with the camera holding the suggestive photos. We saw him quickly pulling up his pants as he left the camera on my chair, then he walked past us not making eye contact. The only eye contact we made was when we looked inside my room and he looked at guilty as hell.\n\nAftermath: \n\nMe and my girlfriend yelled at him and told my mother who was really shocked. My mum went to talk to him alone. This all happened two hours ago.\n\nReddit how do i handle this situation? too mad right now to think straight but i was looking for advice along the subjects of: forgiveness, payback, fixing it, getting over it, and helping my girlfriend get over the shock and sadness she is in.", "summary": "2 hours ago me and my GF walked in on my brother jacking off to my GFs nude pictures."}
{"id": "t3_1wb1q1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [20 F] says she does not feel quite the same anymore about me [21 M]. Can anything be done?", "post": "This is a newish relationship (6 months) that hasn't had many (if any) issues or fights. But shortly after christmas it seemed she was becoming more and more distant. I confronted her about it and she took a night to think things over. I went over the next day and she basically kept it short and sweet and said we are done. For the record Im crazy about this girl and I know at one time she felt the same way. She isnt a very good talker when it comes to things like this or even showing much emotion at all so its tough to really communicate with her about this.\n\nShe left for a trip and said she would think about it during that time, I really want to sit down again once she gets back and talk things out, but I have no idea how I am supposed to go about rebooting a relationship like this. This girl means alot to me, and I feel its too early in the relationship to call it quits.\n\nFor the record, there isn't another guy (that I am aware), and it wasn't due to fighting etc.", "summary": "Gf loses interest, what can be done in a situation like this?"}
{"id": "t3_3l22pv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34F] with my soon to be BF[36 M] dating a few weeks, work opposite schedules", "post": "I've been single for awhile and I finally met a guy that I really click with.  He gets my sense of humor, accepts me for who I am and overall is a really nice guy.  The only thing I can't wrap my head around are our opposite schedules.  \n\nI work in a sales position where I work M-F 8-5 but I also have a lot of freedom to leave early and take a decent amount of vacation.  He works as a bar manager - he works most days from noon to midnight.  He definitely gets one day a week off completely and its usually Sunday or Monday.  He doesn't have any real freedom with his schedule and his vacation time is limited.  \n\nI don't know if I want to pursue a relationship with someone I will not get to see as much as I would want.  I already feel limited in all that we can do because his availability is so different.  I feel like we will never get to take weekend trips, or go on fun dates without extensive planning and waiting.  I do like this guy a lot but I can't get these thoughts out of my head.\n\n  \nI have spoken with him about this before and he said that he is working on a better schedule to have more time for me but I fear that it still will not be enough (he is going to be getting a guaranteed Saturday evening off a couple times a month plus another weekday evening off).  He has said that dating me and getting to know me is a priority because he sees a future with us but I'm not sure he gets how annoyed/upset I am by not being able to see a future where we can see each other more and door more things together.  \n\nMy friends say to just wait it out, we've only been dating for a short period of time and you never know what is going to happen.  Plus they always reference that he is addressing the problem.  Am I crazy?  Should I give this guy a chance?  How do I get past this?  Does anyone have any solutions for this?", "summary": "My guy and I work opposite hours - Is it worth pursuing a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2zheea", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Roommate's girlfriend is at our house ALL the time...", "post": "Jenn is at our house non-stop. They've been dating for 6 months and in the past 3 months, she is probably at our house 6.5 days of the week. She's materialistic, lazy and generally unhelpful. She brings her dog over when no one in the house has a pet and lets it have free reign over whatever the fuck it wants without discipline. She expects to be treated like a guest and doesnt help out with any house maintenance or chores, even though she spends more time at our house than I do. Its annoying as hell. The one good quality she does have is she likes to be clean. So naturally our shared bathroom is overflowing with her nice and expensive beauty products. \n\nSo, to get my jollies every morning, I use all of them. In EXTREME excess. Shampoo for brunettes that will shine and brighten my curls that i dont have? Fuck it, ill take 5x the amount needed. Peach exfoliating body wash with microbeads that makes me smell like a princess? POUR IT ALL OVER MY BODY. Super fancy loofa with a cushy handle? cover it in more body wash and polish my hardy boys. Coconut conditioner that will give me all-day, long lasting volume? Just squeeeeeeeze the bottle right onto the top of my head. I end up walking out of the bathroom shining like a sunset and smelling like a god damned unicorn. \n\nHey Jenn, you useless piece of crap, we're running low on body wash...", "summary": "fuck you Jenn"}
{"id": "t3_440jo4", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Contract Questions", "post": "Greetings! We've finally entered a contract phase and I have some questions from those more in the know. \n\nOur venue is a hotel (large chain that owns a historic hotel). We've got a contract with date and concessions in it, but the only actual dollar amount mentioned are guest room rates, parking, and room rental fee (all acceptable).\n\nThe concern is with food and beverage. We're paying for this ourselves and have a maximum amount we can spend per person. Previous contract examples she sent us included bar package, apps, and dessert as requested. It was all acceptable. Now those numbers are missing from the final contract. \n\nWe're setting this up a year in advance. I understand prices change, but are we right to request some sort of specific numbers for this? Mostly to protect ourselves? Even a \"bar package plus 3 apps and dessert for $X per person\" sort of thing. \n\nThanks, folks!", "summary": "contract has no specific prices and we're worried about getting screwed."}
{"id": "t3_1ogwwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hetero Couple [30s] together three years. We need a way to stop taking each other for granted.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, we are both in our 30s and I can tell we are definitely taking each other for granted.  \n\nFor me, I just find myself focusing on his faults and not feeling thankful for the good stuff.  I find myself crushing out on his friends or just fantasizing about having relationships with some of them because they seem like \"better\" versions of him (more romantic, better listeners, more career-focused, whatever). It's like being together so long and being exposed to each other has made us sort of \"immune\" to each other's charms.  \n\nWe still go out on dates, I still keep myself looking good and dress up for him, we talk about marriage and make plans for the future, but even that doesn't feel very romantic anymore, just inevitable.\n\nI know the minute we broke up, all the good, wonderful, unique things about him will come flooding back, but I just don't feel like I can access them now. And the same for him about me.  They feel buried under layers of nights home watching TV and routine sex (at least every night or morning, sometimes both).", "summary": "3 years together and stuck in a rut, need some tips on how to fan the flames of appreciation for each other."}
{"id": "t3_4c70si", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend (20M) found out I (19F) am recently single and keeps flirting.", "post": "I've been single for a few weeks now and when one of my friends found out he started being really flirty. He texts me every day and he keeps complementing me, telling me I'm pretty, saying I'm better off, etc. \n\nHe didn't text me nearly as much when I was in a relationship and he has never been this nice before. I don't want to lead him on but I don't know hot to approach the topic or if I should  approach it at all. I do like having someone to talk to I'm just not ready for any new romantic relationships in my life. What should I do.", "summary": "My friend is being very unusually flirty after finding out I'm single. Im not sure how to let him know I'm not interested."}
{"id": "t3_1mk8kd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Yo Reddit! What are the things on TV that just piss you off to no end (prey on the combination of desperation and stupidity of the average person) . Fill you with rage even though it does not affect u at all. The type of hate that draws u in.", "post": "I just finished watching one of those infomercials on how to get \"free\" Money. I just wasted about 10 minutes of my life watching it because the anger I was experiencing had me glued to the TV. It was titled \"Free Money in your Pocket, Learn how to Find it Now!! All u had to do was buy a $50.00 book and you could figure out how to get free money from the government for things like child care, food, and money for bill.. here's the kicker you \"MAY\" never have to pay it back..MAY!!... written by some scum bag named Kevin Trudeau and titled \"Free Money\" .. essentially a con man who claimed he receives no money from the sales", "summary": "What type of scams that pray on the weak Infuriate u to no end"}
{"id": "t3_3voo8i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my LDR Fiancee [26 F] of 1 year - I need ideas for a romantic day while I visit her for Christmas", "post": "I'm coming to visit her over Christmas and New Years - we have five days in Chicago in the Hilton Hotel before going back to her parents which is 50 miles away.  When we get back to her parents house, we'll be sleeping in separate beds and wont have the opportunity to go out too often.\n\nI don't get to see her too often, but this may be the last time I see her before we start applying for the visa and trying to save cash to get her over to the UK.  \n\nI want one day to be as romantic as possible... I dont know many places in Chicago or anything, and I guess its going to be pretty damn cold when we're there.  I can think of all the usual stuff like dinner and champagne and whatever, but I really want to have a day where I take lead and take us to xyz or do xyz while there.    I love to plan so would like a set plan to do xyz.  Like 9am get omelette (she dosent like pancakes :'( ), afterwards uber to x then after x go to y etc...\n\nCan anyone give some ideas of how to make this day something special?  Recommend places to go, places to see, things to do - dosen't need to be chicago specific!  I want to make this the date of all dates...", "summary": "Limited time with fiancee over xmas, need ideas for big romantic day."}
{"id": "t3_1nbyfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) SO (24M) constantly points out girls that he thinks are \"hot\" or that he says he'd screw.", "post": "I (22F) asked my SO (24M) at the start of our relationship (which was 2 years ago) to please not tell me when he thinks a girl is \"hot\" or that he would screw her. I asked this only because he seemed to do it noticeably more than any other guy I've dated, and it started to make me uncomfortable.\n\nHe generally remembers not to say things like that directly to me anymore, but if we have a few friends over to our place or are in a group of people, he still makes comments like that to other guys. So he isn't saying it directly to me, but I still hear it.\n\nIt's not that I'm insecure, I know people can look, but it just gets to me how he constantly talks about it. Also it makes me feel like a chump when he's constantly pointing out \"hot girls\" to people that we know when I'm right there. I can understand being attracted to other people here and there, but does it always need to be said out loud? I also want to add that any time I've said a guy was cute, he gets extremely upset (that has only happened maybe 3 times in our whole relationship because I don't want to upset him), so I feel like there's a real double-standard/hypocritical thing going on here.", "summary": "My SO constantly talks about girls he thinks are \"hot\" or that he says he would screw. I'm just getting tired of it and I'm starting to feel like I've had enough. How much of this kind of behavior is too much?"}
{"id": "t3_2jwwaj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "PSA: Don't be a dummy like me; eat before you workout, even when you're running late or low on calories.", "post": "This should be a no-brainer, but sometimes priorities aren't what they should be; hopefully my tale will caution someone to keep theirs straight :)\n\nI woke up less than half an hour before my personal trainer appointment this morning and in my haste to actually have time to warm up, threw on my clothes and got into the car to go without eating anything- the only \"on the go\" stuff we had lying around were super high calorie/sugar protein bars (former roommate was a bodybuilder type and left them), and I figured I'd just eat after because I didn't have time to get in my usual greek yogurt with berries. I did less than 10 minutes of warm up on the bike (interval cardio), and started working with the trainer. \n\nI was fine for the first 20 minutes; we did lower intensity things like planks, balance work, lunges, etc.  As soon as we started doing squats, I did one set of 15 reps and I felt dizzy, like I was going to throw up, and then collapsed. My vision went all white when I stood back up; I was pale and had the chills. By the time I was feeling up to getting my blood pressure measured at the pharmacy next door, it was 104/72, which I guess is pretty low for during a workout, and even though I have no history of hypoglycemia, I still had an episode.  \n\nI would have much rather been a few minutes late or not gotten to warm up than collapsing the moment we did something intense, and scaring myself, my trainer, and my fianc\u00e9. I lost more time off the end of my session than I would have had I gotten there 5 minutes later and STILL warmed up for 10 minutes.", "summary": "Thought it would be fine to work out without eating anything because I was running late for a trainer session. Collapsed and had a hypoglycemic episode despite not having any medical history of that.  Please be careful and use better judgement than I did :)"}
{"id": "t3_2aq1at", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18/M) girlfriend (18/F) of one year has been growing distant and I'm afraid she's going to end things", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year now, and it has overall been great. Of course there were rough patches, but this is a step above.\n\nThis summer, she is working 3 jobs to help pay for college. I work as a relief employee in a manufacturing plant, so I work shift work. Me being busy hasn't really been an issue; her being busy with her jobs or her summer sports team is what prevents us from seeing each other.\n\nAs of the past month, she's been very short in answering my texts. She even admitted yesterday that she just really isn't interested in what I'm saying and that she just doesn't have anything to say back.\n\nThis past Saturday was the first day since before we dated that we didn't talk at all. I tried to reach her, but she didn't respond. The next day, she said she didn't even realize that we didn't talk.\n\nShe seemed concerned when she told me all this (she asked me if I was happy with how things were going between us and stuff), and she is texting me when she can.\n\nI haven't been able to see her in person yet, and she says she doesn't have any answers to my questions on how things are between us.\n\nI can provide more details if need be. I just don't know what to expect or what to do in hopes of saving our relationship", "summary": "My girlfriend hasn't been as interested in texting me and we both realize it. She doesn't seem to know how she feels about us. I want to save our relationship if possible"}
{"id": "t3_3jlrk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself(m21) and my girlfriend(f18) have been in a relationship for over a year. She recently started at a college and wants an open relationship.", "post": "Its not that she just wants an open relationship for a situation that may happen. She wants to have an open relationship because she already found a guy. She says she still loves me but she wants to date this guy as well. I  don't know what to do. \n\nI think she already made up her mind as to whats going to happen. I love this girl and I'm terrified that this is how I'm going to lose her. \n\nMore specific details are that she is going to school with this guy. I'm an hour by train away. We've been through a long distance relationship for this while relationship. I move across the country for her. \n\nI don't know what to do I feel like I'm at an unfair disadvantage due to this distance. I also feel that this is how I'm going to lose her.", "summary": "Girlfriend met a guy. Wants an open relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2yjr2d", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I was issued a citation then later called by the officer and told that the I was ticketed in error. How do I confirm this?", "post": "Yesterday, driving home from a long weekend trip, I was pulled over and issued a citation for doing 86 in a 70. I had my cruise control set at 78. I asked if I could see the radar and if the gun had been calibrated recently, etc. He refused and said that \"Georgia State Patrol is not legally obligated to show you the radar\" and that \"For my safety, you cannot enter my patrol car with the firearms that I carry.\" I told him I was using cruise control and that I couldn't believe my speedo was so far off. As you would expect, he wouldn't budge.\n\nI drove off, absolutely furious. I felt like I had been taken advantage of by East Bumble, Georgia. I called my wife, but she was unsympathetic because I have a history of speeding.\n\nAs I'm on the phone, a police car flies up on my ass and flashes their lights at me. I get over, half expecting to be pulled over again, but they just fly by. about 10 minutes later, I get a phone call from the police officer who just ticketed me. He said that I was not the car that they clocked and that he hadn't sent the ticket yet. He apologized and told me to disregard the citation. As it turns out, they flew up behind me to get my tag and they looked up my tag and found my phone number.\n\nI was relieved, but the whole situation doesn't sit well with me. I want to confirm that I, indeed, have no ticket against me but it feels super foolish to call the court house and ask \"Hey, I just want to make sure I don't have any tickets.\"\n\nHow should I handle this to ensure the ticket is actually gone? What recourse do I have if the ticket is not gone?", "summary": "Was cited for speeding when I wasn't. Cop realized mistake and called me to apologize and tell me the ticket will not be submitted. How do I confirm and/or resolve if the ticket IS submitted?"}
{"id": "t3_2kb1sw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my fianc\u00e9 [31M] of six months. He want to settle down and have a family. I don't.", "post": "I have been dating my fianc\u00e9 for a little over six months now. I love him and he loves me. He has told me his desire to settle down and eventually have a family but says that he would rather keep me and not have a child than lose me.\n\nEven though he agreed to do things my way, I agreed because I knew it would make him happy and, for a while, I was happy too. We have picked out a ring together and even started trying for a child. \n\nToday it hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't want to do this. As much as I love him, I feel like he wants something I'm not ready to give him. I feel awful I didn't realize it sooner. I know that I'm an idiot but I just don't know what to do now. I'm afraid I might have already gotten pregnant. But it's too early to tell since it's only been two weeks since my last period. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 is an amazing man. He loves me with all of his heart. I just wanted to make him happy and now I can't take it back. I don't know what to do. Please help.", "summary": "I [19F] started trying for a baby with my fianc\u00e9 [31M] and just realized I'm not ready for this huge commitment. He loves me and supports me no matter what. I just wanted to make him happy and now I feel awful. I know I'm stupid. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1duzxw", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Girlfriend[16F] and I [17M] broke up after 3 months because we weren't \"in love\" but I still want to be with her.", "post": "To make it short, I was dating a girl for almost three months before we broke up. We are in high school and we broke up (her idea) mostly because we both knew we weren't \"in love\" and understood that there was a very slim chance of us getting married. But we broke up within this last week and I still want to get back together, even though I know there is no future. Should I even bother getting back together? or is it ultimately going to be a waste of time.\nP.S. We also wanted to stay friends so we could chill over summer with other friends and it wouldn't be awkward, and we still hang out in the same social clique, if you want to call it that.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I end it because we weren't in love, but I kind of still want to date"}
{"id": "t3_47oct3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading like an ass", "post": "So on Monday I saw an advert on the notice board in our residential complex. \n\n\"Cycling Project - Meet Thomas at the gate on Friday at 9am to participate\"\n\nBeing in the spirit of losing a few extra pounds, I thought it'd be good to engage in some recreational activities. \n\nI gathered a couple of friends and convince them that we should participate as a team. - They agreed and put in a day's leave from work. \n\nSo, all geared up, ready for action, we gathered at the gate. Fun right? WRONG! \n\nThomas arrived at the gate with garbage bins and refuse bags. \n\nTurns out, the advert read\n\"Re-Cycling Project - Meet Thomas at the gate on Friday at 9am to participate\"", "summary": "Convinced friends to put in a full day's leave to pick up trash. "}
{"id": "t3_fvrvr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was put in a socially awkward situation by an old friend, how should I respond?", "post": "While mindlessly browsing facebook from work, I get a message from someone who I used to be really good friends with a couple years back. Since then he moved out of town and our contact has mainly been through the occasional chat conversation. I haven't seen the guy in person for roughly a year.\n\nAfter the usual small talk he asks me if I'm doing anything on the 23rd this month. Thinking he's hopping to town and wants to sit down for a beer or something I say I don't have anything planned. Nothing like that. Instead, he proceeds to invite me to his brother's wedding (who I don't even know).\n\nAs I've already said I'm not doing anything, I try to hint that it's a bit weird and awkward. He doesn't get the hint. \n\nSo now I'm waiting on an invitation in the mail to a wedding three weeks away from now. I don't know the bride, I know the groom only by name, the only people I will know there are my old friend and another old friend he told me he's inviting, who I haven't seen for even longer \n(if he even comes).\n\n The extra kick is that the wedding is in the middle of the week, and I will have to drive there alone and get back early because of work, so just coming for the alcohol and having a bit of fun isn't really an option.\n\nSo reddit, should I go? Should I bail? If I'm bailing do you have any advice on doing it smoothly with coming off as a blatant liar? I do still wanna keep a good enough connection with the guy, we used to be good friends.", "summary": "Old friend pops out of no where, invites me to wedding of brother I don't know, already said I'm free. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4zoz50", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving something ordinary looking that turned out disgusting on my dining room centerpiece", "post": "So, about a month and a half ago, my girlfriend and I went out to the bar with a couple of our friends. We set them up on a double date together and all went out, had plenty to drink and a great time and then came back to my apartment for the night. Of course we get Taco Bell, as most people in their 20's seem to do after a long night of drinking. After my girlfriend and I finish eating, we go to sleep in my bedroom and our friends end up deciding to spend the night together at my apartment out on the couch. Next morning I wake up and go to work.\n\nWell about a week ago, I was cleaning out my apartment from top to bottom. In my couch cushions I found a couple of silver marble looking things below the cushions, so I take them and put them in the glass candle holder centerpiece of my dining room table. I usually keep random items in there like my keys, wallet, lighter, etc. So, I basically leave these two balls on display in my dining room/kitchen area, mind you I live above a restaurant that I work at, and my oven is used for some of the baked foods that are used downstairs. So it is fairly common for the waitresses and managers to be walking in and out, right by this table multiple times a day.\n\nWell, today, my girlfriend walks in, sees these two balls sitting there and calls my name in disgust. I come in from the other room, and she goes, \"Why the hell do you have kegal balls sitting on your dining room table?!\" I replied with \"Kegal balls?.. I just found a couple marbles in my couch cushions and left them there until I decided for something else do do with them.\" I was then explained what Kegal balls were and slightly disgusted that they belonged to her friend after figuring out why they would be on my couch and realizing that I've handled them without regarding cleanliness, and the realization hitting me that every waitress in the restaurant has probably been secretly wondering the same thing that my girlfriend was.", "summary": "Left vagina exercise balls up for display in my dining room for several guests to see."}
{"id": "t3_2v5fs0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17 F]should I break up with my gf [21 F] for good?", "post": "I just joined reddit so I'm not exactly sure how to go about this but here we go. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about eight months now. It all started out perfectly, we just kind of worked and we still do but there's one problem: she compulsively cheats on me. I found out a couple months after we started dating that she had been flirting with another man and sexting him. We were open at the time and I regret doing that so I said that she needed to stop and she said she would but about a month later I find out that she's still been flirting with this guy. I confronted her over it again and we had a huge fight which led to us breaking up a few times, but I would always come back to her. After one particularly huge blow up things were going fine until just recently when I found out that she had let another man kiss her and touch her breasts and that she went to a party with yet ANOTHER man and decided she wanted to make out with him too, so she did. And I didn't find out about it until a week or so AFTER because she hadn't told me the full story.", "summary": "my girlfriend is a cheater and a liar, should I keep crawling back to her because I love her or should I just let go?"}
{"id": "t3_38rzgz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Small Question about taking things slowly [m:23] dating [f: 19]", "post": "Hey all. I have been dating this super shy / awkward girl for about a month, we share a public speaking class in college. Anyway, after about a month of dating, we now spend all evenings when together cuddling and playing footsie. It's super cute and I love it. A few nights ago when driving her home, I asked what her thoughts were as far as an official relationship with me goes. She made the point clear that she really likes me but that she would rather take things slowly. I'm yet to kiss her (even though I've been really, really wanting to.) But I still feel confident that things will work out because we cuddle whenever were together.\n\nMore to point, she said she would like to make sure that we can be friends first before we have a relationship together. I of course agreed to this because I like her but I fear the worst. If she is wanting to take things slowly, how am I to avoid the friend zone? I understand that she wants to take time and become comfortable around me but should I still press eagerly for a first kiss?\n\nI really like her and I've already told her so, as she has towards me.", "summary": "Overall, we have both confessed that we really like each other. I want to say we are girlfriend/boyfriend after a month but she'd rather we take things more slowly. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_3deqwg", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Pain, harassment, action plan, PIP and now resignation. How can I salvage references?", "post": "I had an office job under the same manager for about 5 months and wanting more excitement, I switched shifts and teams.  Yes the new team had more exciting tasks, but it also put my health in jeopardy even more than before and had these 2 leaders who made my life a living hell.  A supervisor who felt the need to constantly coach me as if I was fresh out of high school, along with a manager who set up unattainable goals and decided to approve an action plan carried out by the supervisor.   I never agreed to the terms so didn't sign the action plan, however it went on.   The supervisor threatened to escalate it to a PIP - performance improvement plan.\n\nManagement keeps refusing vacation requests and decided I should finish up (and fail) an impossible to achieve action plan so that they could show \"proof\" that I was not meeting the team's requirements.  It's so much BS as I will be the 8th team member (according to a team veteran) to be forced out by the management in a year.\n\nI also experienced health problems including hearing loss, ear pain, tinnitus, stress, anxiety, etc.  I saw a doctor a couple of times and got a basic note indicating I was a patient of his and a basic diagnosis, but he wouldn't write me a doctor's note suggesting a certain period of time off because of such and such a reason.  Therefore I won't be able to apply for short term disability or medical leave.  His suggestion: quit your job and find something more suitable that doesn't cause you pain.  \n\nAfter informing my current supervisor, the supervisor's assistant and another supervisor (not mine) of my intention to resign my position verbally and by email, no one answered my request for a reference yet.  What to do?", "summary": "Forced out of a full time with benefits job by an overzealous supervisor and her manager who imposed an action plan with impossible to achieve goals on me, was then threatened with a performance improvement plan no matter which team I switched to.   Combined with pain, tinnitus. hearing loss and management's continual denial of vacation requests, I finally had enough and resigned.  I still have to submit my final time sheet for the final pay check and give back my access card.   "}
{"id": "t3_2qa6yn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing poorly on a semester exam", "post": "First, just a little bit of background info. I am currently a junior in high school, and our school, like many others, has us take final exams at the end of each semester.\n\nThe story starts two weeks ago, which is when my exams started. I had only a few exams to study for, with Chemistry being one of them. Because science comes easily to me, I thought I would be okay. Even so, I studied quite a bit for the exam, and I thought I was well prepared. So I went and took the exam, which I thought was easy. Turns out I got a C :/. While that may not seem bad to some of you, to my dad, it is unspeakable. I knew he was going to be pissed off beyond belief when he saw it. I decided to not tell him at the moment, which was probably a big mistake.\n\nOn another note, I only ended up with a B+ in the class, which I find acceptable, but once again, my dad does not.\n\nThis leads me to last night. I cam home from my friends house and my parents sat me down and told me that they knew about the exam. My dad proceeds to flip the FUCK out and yell at me for a good half hour about how I don't take school seriously, and a bunch of other things he was pissed at me for, like he always does. Needless to say I also got pissed, and had to constrain myself from throwing profanities back at him, but that would have made the problem worse. So now my dad and I are pissed at each other just in time for the holidays....This should be fun Reddit.", "summary": "Did poorly on Chem exam, dad flips a tit, we get pissed with holidays around the corner."}
{"id": "t3_2w10uu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [23 F] girlfriend for 2 years, best friends for 3; how do i move on without cutting her out of my life.", "post": "i've known this girl since the first day of college. We've been really close friends for 3 years and eventually started having feelings for eachother. It blossomed into a great relationship, but started fizzling out towards the end of last year. she broke up with me on the 12th this month because she said that this relationship felt like it was back to being best friends. She said i wasn't romantic enough and that the fire and passion was not there. She's said this before in the past, i guess she had enough. It is partly my fault, but at the same time it was a two way street. It just fizzled out. she was my first love and vice versa. I still love her as a person and friend, but I know that this would have eventually happened because our lives and personalities were too different for long term compatability as intimate lovers. When we talked, we agreed were better off as friends. Though I agree with the breakup, i cant help but feel devastated. I mope around for hours just thinking about her, until i find something to preoccupy myself with. I miss her too much. \n\nMy real concern is that I see her everywhere, she lives 4 doors down from me, goes to the same school, is involved in the same organization. everything. she is everywhere. I want to cut her out of my life just so that i could move on and focus on myself, but at the same time i dont want to cut her out of my life as she was a great friend and would like to remain friends with her later on.", "summary": "we were bestfriends all throughout college, became a couple, she broke up with me. I dont hold any grudges, regrets, or hard feelings about this. i want to move on and focus on myself, but i dont want to cut her out of my life."}
{"id": "t3_ue1pe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears", "post": "Me (f) 24, Him 23, we've been together a little over six months. \n\nLike the title says, he was logged in and my curiosity browsed his messages. The message causing me to post to r/relationships was a conversation between him and a sister of a girl he pined after for years. I don't know the complete history of the two, but it spans years. Basically he said he loved me, but he thinks of her everyday and misses her like crazy. Yep, he misses the girl that kept him friend zoned and wrapped around her finger.  That old country song 'Jolene' is echoing in my mind. Oh, and he works with her, not always side by side, but occasionally.\n\nThe message was sent around or on our six months anniversary. He made a big deal out of six months. I told him most people celebrate by the year, not every six months. Eventually he said we we're going through a rough patch and thought making six months momentous would help.  This hurt because I didn't know we had issues and am constantly trying to get him to communicate.\nYesterday morning while laying in bed I made the comment that nothing good lasts forever. Right before going to bed he tells me he thought I was breaking up with him when I said that. I asked him why he didn't say anything, he had some weak excuse.  He did mention he grabbed me tightly and wouldn't let go, which is what he does when things get especially rough or emotional. I should have picked up on it, in retrospect. \n\nThere has been one other time when I got on his laptop and looked through his history. He was upset with me, embarrassed, and felt his privacy was invaded. I can't imagine what he will think or feel about this. I know I'm hurt and have no one to talk to. It's difficult not to feel hurt when I accept him for everything and love him as much as I can, and yet he finds himself hung up on a girl that kept him away. I thought advice from this community would spare me from worsening the situation.  And maybe make me feel a bit better\u2026", "summary": "SO didn't log out of FB account, read message, found out he is missing another woman (who kept him friend zoned and strung along) like crazy. "}
{"id": "t3_2x9a4b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I told her how I feel, What now?", "post": "Hey Reddit, Lets get some short context here.  Lets say, her name is Laura. A friend of mine is Steve. Steve and Laura dated in high school and when Steve went to collage he broke up with Laura because he cant keep his dick in his pants. Regardless Laura opened up to me and I found out she is just as screwed up as I am (maybe more) and that to me is attractive. \n\nAnyway, I waited about 3 months to tell her how I felt about her. I picked her up the weekend after Valentines day because it was snowy as fuck the week before. We went to B-Dubs because its her favorite place to eat. Smoked a bowel and took her home. About 2 miles from her house I admitted my feelings for her.  She said \"Awwww\" in one of those voices that you would talk to a baby or puppy with. Regardless our friendship hasn't changed, we still Skype and play video games together.  I just don't know where to go from here.  Laura is the most interesting woman I have ever met, She is a wonderful artist and she has great life goals. I guess I'm asking what to do next? I was thinking about seeing if she wanted to go out to dinner and a movie. I don't know reddit, I'm just so dumbfounded because in the past when I told a woman I had feelings for her, they would avoid me like the plague. Laura is just wonderful and I don't want to fuck this up.", "summary": "Told a girl I have feelings for her, I think I'm friend zoned."}
{"id": "t3_2rla84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24M] prefers large breasts, while I [20F] am head chairman of the itty bitty titty. committee.", "post": "This is obviously not a new issue within society. I'm just a self-conscious Asian girl with small breasts [32A]. \n\nThroughout my life I've been comfortable with my breasts. The ability to run, lay on my chest, and being able to jump on trampolines without needing a 10ft fence. \n\nHowever, when I started dating my boyfriend and I found out he liked bigger breasts, I started noticing how small mine were. For instance, how they don't look as good in certain dresses/tops and how I could be more aesthetically pleasing with the lack of chest squish. \n\nHe tells me that he thinks my breasts are cute, but it feels more like he's only \"accepting\" my breasts instead of genuinely liking them. I find myself noticing other peoples' breasts more too, \"wow, I have none of those things on my chest\". -Looks down at own chest with disappointment- \"Damn.\"\n\nNo, no. I am not looking to get surgery, I just wanna know how I can feel more confident with my straight A's with my boyfriend who prefers the larger variety.", "summary": "Boyfriend is a boob guy that prefers large ones. My boobs are tiny."}
{"id": "t3_zo81l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something you've done that people thought you were a dick for doing, but you don't think you did anything wrong?", "post": "Ill Start.\n\nSo this past year i moved away from home. I came back for a couple of weeks over the holidays to visit friends and family. I called up a friend who i  regularly slept with to see if she wanted to have adult fun times, she did and we had some sex. Now it turns out she had been sort of casually seeing some dude in the periphery of our social circle but had recently broken it off. Think stereotypical \"nice guy\" by which i mean had all of the feelings. Anyway, few days pass and he's gossiping about what a bitch this girl is and what an awful person she must be to break off their casual fling. So later that night he's at a party at her house being mopy and currying sympathy and generally saying mean things. He sees her and gives her a really catty look, so i pick her up, start making out with her and start carrying her back to her room. As I'm doing this i stop and give him the most, \"look what i get to do look\" i can and watch the smile fall off his smug face. anyway everyone thought that was super mean and i shouldn't have rubbed his nose in it like that. I still think fuck that and fuck him. This was someone he supposedly cared about and he took effort to tarnish her name. I maintain he's the asshole.", "summary": "Rubbed salt in the open wound of someone who was being an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_188cp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend[21] has a crush on her professor?", "post": "I'm 19[m] & have been with my girlfriend a few months. I've been in Spain for the past 2 months so we're doing the long distance thing. We email a lot and she mentioned her new professor, saying how cool and funny he is. She told a mutual friend that she has a crush on him, so I found out. I mentioned it to her and she doesn't seem to want to talk about it. I feel a bit hurt that she has feelings like this for someone else. And when I mentioned it to her I was expecting her to tell me it's no big deal and I shouldn't be worried about it, but she didn't. \n\nAm I overthinking it? Is it normal for her to have a crush on her teacher? or should I be worried that I'm getting replaced?", "summary": "gf has crush on teacher, not sure how to feel about it"}
{"id": "t3_48ci01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19m, confused by 17f", "post": "So there this girl Ive known for a little bit in history, she's nice, bipolar.\n\nI talk to her in class sometimes and found out she was very attracted to me, I also found her on twitter and I watch her tweets. I know she's attracted to me because she has said some things on twitter and looks at me alot in class.\n\nI asked her if she wanted to hangout and she gave me a raincheck.\n\nI was talking to her though, and she talked about how she tried to kill herself. I was extremely offput and didn't know what to say.\n\nI joked about it and was like, Well I have a room full of weapons you wouldn't want to come over to my house then.\nI sent her a picture of my armor previously (Im a collector)\nso she kind of got it i guess, told her i kept weapons for historical value.\n\nwas this over the line, I feel bad for making fun of a problem but mentally i was like WTF, Dont kill yourself. I then got invited to her party\n\nAt this point I have a raincheck, I know she likes me and it seems to me that she is probaly dating someone else right now. So i will just respect her and maybe we can date later.\nThis has bothered me for like 2 weeks.\n\nI really feel like an ass about the comment I made though, I didn't know how to handle it. Now im invited to a party she's having in a few weeks/months and don't know what to think.", "summary": "Girl I want to date is currently dating but i have class with mentions something about a suicide attempt. I joke about her like; well i have a room full of weapons you don't want to come over to my house. Now i feel like an ass. I also got invited to her party and im happy about that but now i feel like I don't deserve the party."}
{"id": "t3_2ezo3z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not neutering my cat on time", "post": "So this is a story from freshman year, sorry, I didn't know about reddit then. Due to funding issues, I wasn't able to neuter my cat once he was old enough for it. In case you didn't know, when cats get old enough and need to be neutered, they pee everywhere and hump everything. My cat had peed in the house once before, and I thought nothing of it. I woke up around 5:00 am to get ready for school- showered, got dressed, did my hair, brushed my teeth, etc. and by the time I was done it was time too leave to catch my bus. I grabbed my backpack, took four steps outside and realized it was soaked in cat piss. I had a bus to catch at 6:10 and it was already 6:06. I had no other choice but to throw my backpack in the back of the truck and hope it would get the smell off in time. It didn't do anything but dry the pee. I walked on that bus, piss-smelling backpack slung on my shoulders and my headphones in my ears. I would not be talking to anyone. I knew they smelled it. I didn't care. 3/4 of the way in, I decide y'know what- fuck it, I'm leaving my bag on the bus. I got all of my school supplies out of my bag, placed them on the seat next to me and folded my backpack up into a cylinder. When I was sure no one was looking, I put it on the ground in front of me and pushed it into the corner with my feet (I was in the last seat in the back). So I got into school, went through all of my classes without incident and got back on the bus in the afternoon. It was gone and until now, no one was the wiser.", "summary": "Was late, had to bring cat piss smelling backpack to school, emptied it and left it in the back corner of the bus. Got back on the bus and it was gone."}
{"id": "t3_q3odf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Piracy is Protest?", "post": "I have a question for everyone on reddit: Why don't we do anything about the Music Industry. Why don't we protest using piracy\n\nNo one likes it. I have never heard a single person go \"Oh Atlantic Records? I Love those guys!\" And this is because they are genuine bad guys. They hurt artists and they hurt their consumers. The ONLY reason they exist is because its easy to get songs from them. And now, thanks to the internet, they are not needed and the bastards are trying to censor the internet to stay afloat.\n\nComing back to my main question, why DON'T we use piracy as protest? 98% of people illegally download music already, so we should put a banner on it. Like Ghandi or MLK, they cant put EVERYONE in the world in jail. We should boycott itunes, amazon, and other places that sell music. I could even try to make a video, denouncing the companies.\n\nThis might not be in the right section but please bear with me; if you can support this cause please upvote and if i need to move this could someone PM me and tell me where to put it?", "summary": "Music Industry Sucks, we should Protest it using Piracy. They cant jail everyone"}
{"id": "t3_114x6b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mum has made a psychological profile of me as a kid, anyone else had this happen to them? (Story inside)", "post": "I apologise if this is difficult to read or is a wall of text, I'm very out of sorts and shocked right now. Please bear with me.\n\nI'm a female to male transman, 19 y.o.\n\nOn thursday my parents found out that I identify as male and did not take it well. My mum and I got into a fight, I left home for a few days and stayed with friends. I came back home tonight to try and talk to them because my dad implied that my mum was depressed and that I should come home.\n\nAfter telling me that they love me, my mum started telling me about how I was born 17 weeks premature and that I'm trans* because of it. She told me I don't know who I am because I don't know enough about premature children, she told me I'm trans* because I'm attention seeking.\n\nShe just handed me a book of baby pictures and medical/psychological documents that reported session with psychologists and doctors when I was 7-8 y.o. They reported my average spelling, reading and math skills and provided teacher and parents self reports about how I was shy and quiet. I want to know why the fuck my mum has weird psychological tags on me, like shes trying to prove that I'm normal by seeing a series of health professionals. But talking to her was inconclusive, she told me that \"I had to get tests done because I relapsed\", when I asked her what the relapses were of she just repeated herself and wouldn't give me an answer.", "summary": "Please read the post, its important"}
{"id": "t3_115g8n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23(F) Started dating again after a bad break-up and I'm paranoid this will end badly", "post": "I broke up with this guy I thought I would spend the rest of my life with about 1.5yrs ago. I recently started dating this guy that I really like. We went on a few dates and everything was going good. About 6-7 dates into it, we made it official so to say. We've had a couple of arguments/fights in the past week. We don't get to see each other often since we're both busy with work, which is something we mutually agreed was fine, and it is. \n\nI think perhaps I'm being paranoid that this will end badly too? I've known this guy for many years now as an acquaintance and I want to give this relationship a fair chance but I can't help but wonder if maybe I'm not ready. Exactly how long does it take for someone to heal from a bad break up? Sigh, I know it's subjective, but I don't want this to get ruined. \n\nIs there any way to control ourselves from changing when the label of a gf is tagged on us? I mean, I feel like I'm taking things in a different way maybe, I'm allowing myself to grow closer to him, but I also feel like because of getting hurt in the past, I'm being very oh-you-hurt-my-feelings-with-that-joke.. not funny", "summary": "i need advice on how to not let my past relationship affect this one. How do can I reduce my paranoia that this will fail too?"}
{"id": "t3_1cb4xa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M20] two best friends [F20, M19] just decided to start dating each other.", "post": "Edit:  I have been friends with both of them for about 2 years.\n\nSo my two best friends that I have spent every day with for the past month (literally) both had crushes on each other and it all came out today. I knew that my friend [M19] we will call him Adam liked her, but not vice versa.\n\n**Side note:** The [F20], we will call her Haleigh, has a boyfriend right now. They have a horrible relationship. (He refuses to hang out with any of her friends, refuses to go to parties if she is going to drink too, etc.)\n\nMy buddy Adam had told me he had feelings for her and that he was going to say something about it. Today he did. Turns out they both were into each other and Haleigh is planning on breaking up with her current boyfriend to be with my other friend Adam.\n\nI know I should just be happy for them, but i'm not. I know that our whole friend dynamic will change and for the worse. I am not going to want to be third-wheeling, but I don't want to lose my friends either. Also I used to have feelings for Haleigh, and I thought I was over her, but it seems they have not really gone away.", "summary": "My two best friends just started dating and I know it will effect our friendship"}
{"id": "t3_4mpx3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] 3 months, she recently told me she was in a abusive relationship in the past. Not sure how to proceed.", "post": "So, yea I'm not sure what to do with this information.\n\nMe and this wonderful woman have been dating for 3 months now and she's great. She's kind sweet funny and intelligent and charming and great overall and I can see this relationship going far.\n\nShe has a scar going up her side and when I asked her about it in the past she brushed it off. Until today.\n\nShe said she wanted to tell me something she's never told anybody and made me promise not to say anything. She was in an abusive relationship before we met.\n\nShe said he was physically abusive and would hit her sometimes when he would get angry. She said it got so bad that he pushed her and she fell into their coffee table and some glass broke and made a long cut up her side.\n\nShe was partially crying and I just hugged her and comforted her but I'm not sure what else to do. Is there anything I should do going forward to make her feel sad with me.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "my girlfriend told me she was in an abusive relationship before she met me I'm not sure what to do with this information."}
{"id": "t3_1vmu9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M/21] and my ex [F/22] who is my closest female friend is probably going to start dating my closest male friend [M/22] and it makes me extremely uncomfortable", "post": "My ex and I have a very long history going back to high school. We were in a relationship once for about 6 months (this was a year ago) and it didn't work out. It took me a while to get over it but this past summer I finally did. I know this because she was with a guy in September and it didn't bother me at all. She was and still is my closest female friend, if not my best friend in general. \n\nThe guy she's started seeing is a guy I met in college who is probably my closest male friend. I love him to death and want only the best for him. \n\nA couple weeks ago it seems that they started seeing each other. She's been going to visit him (he lives 2.5 hours away) and staying there for days at a time. I pretty much know what's up at this point but neither of them have communicated with me about it. \n\nI do not understand why it bothers me so much. I thought I was over her but I feel old feelings resurfacing and it feels absolutely terrible. I want to talk to them about it right now but she is with him as we speak and has been for the last four days. I feel like if I asked them not to see each other I would just be thinking about myself and not their feelings which is why this is so hard. I'm so worried that if they continue seeing each other I will resent both of them and lose my two closest friends. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "my ex who is one of my best friends began seeing another one of my best friends recently. they haven't talked to me about it but it makes me very uncomfortable and I don't know how/if I should relay these feelings to them"}
{"id": "t3_3bv3t9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [20F] just asked me [20M] out, I don't like her in that way. Problem is, I have to tread carefully or i'll lose all of my friends...", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nSo stuff has gotten really serious these past few days. It would seem that my friend (whom i only see as a friend), asked me out, problem is that I don't see her in that way. I just said i'd get back to her on it and it's been 3 days since we last talked. Not a big problem? Well not quite...you see we have a tonne of mutual friends so if i fuck this up i may lose everything. So i need help on how to politely turn her down and stamping any future advancements. PLEASE HELP!!!!", "summary": "Friend who i don't like romantically asked me out, I want to turn her down without hurting her because we have a tonne of mutual friends."}
{"id": "t3_2k9bv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M16 of 6months) and I (F16) getting complaints about PDA, but we're being pretty reserved?", "post": "(My apologies if format is weird, im on mobile)\n\n     My boyfriend (we'll call him James) and i eat lunch with his friends every day, we've been doing this since before we started dating because i was friends with them before we were an item. Recently we've been getting shit for \"being annoying\" to the point  where i was told by one of his friends not to come with them to an event i'd been excited for because \"no one wants to see that\" and we've had people just get up and leave when we kiss hello. \n\n      Now i know this is a grey area for a lot of people, and as teenagers we're known for being gross, but we dont see how what we're doing is all that offensive. During lunch he sits with his arm around me and we maybe kiss a few times but its generally a second long peck on the lips, nothing major. We kiss hello and goodbye but generally wait until we've parted ways with friends and make sure to keep it below a count to three. I can understand being grossed out by pda when people are really going at it, or being annoyed when they aren't interacting with the group, but we're being pretty chill and actively participating in the conversation. This is literally more reserved rhan we are around my parents. None the less we're appertently really bothering his friends. James is a pretty affectionate person and i really enjoy it, it feels wrong to tell him to cut back when we're already being pretty reserved (as far as we're concerned) and other people are the only ones having any objection to it. James thinks they're being unreasonable and doesnt care if they're annoyed, i on the other hand feel awful about it and feel like i should stop going to lunch with him so as not to bother them. The problem with this is that James insists that if i leave he's coming with me and i feel like they would have even more of a reason to resent me if they think their friend has stopped hanging out with them so that he can be gross with his girlfriend.", "summary": "Bf and i are annoying friends with pda, dont know if we're gross or they're immature, regardless i'm trying not to be a bitch about it how can we solve this."}
{"id": "t3_zh1xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] got a couple texts from my girlfriend [23F] of almost one year that has me worried.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating just shy of one year and have had a wonderful relationship thus far. At work today, we have had a small conversation that has me worried. Has gone like this:\n\n______________________________________________\n\nHer: I really really hate everything and need to be alone right now.\n\nMe: [name], what's the matter?\n\nHer: I'm worn out. I don't like me, I don't like my job, I don't like any other job I could have, I don't like my life, I don't like our relationship. I'm just fed up.\n\nMe: Oh no. Ok, please tell me what you need me to do for you right now.\n\nHer: I don't know. I need to get on a workout regimen again and start eating properly but I spend so much time away from home and at work I can't seem to make time for anything other than sleeping and showering outside \nwork.\n\n_________________________________________________\n\nThat's all so far. I haven't ever been in a situation like this before with a relationship. We love each other, and nothing has been out of the ordinary until she texted me this today. \n\nI know she has been unhappy with work for the past few months and we have been making efforts to change this for her. ex. updating and polishing her resume, sending it in places. She has been hesitant to do anything because she wants to hit her two year mark at her current job in February.\n\nShe has clearly said what is wrong and a few things she wants to do to help the situation.\n\nMy question: Where do I start, and what specifically do I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend texted me about being unhappy with work, life, and our relationship. With no previous problems in our relationship, where do I start?"}
{"id": "t3_3m2d5u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Turned a 4 minute speech into a 1 minute one", "post": "So I've been preparing for what I had to say for a group presentation since last Friday. I practiced it and everything. I'm usually really good at presentations. I knew my material well, woke up early at 5 am(yesterday) to go over it again. \n\nThe TIFU happened yesterday...So I drive to school class. Our group presents first. I am the first to speak in our group. For some reason, I developed anxiety for some reason during this and go through my entire part of my part of the presentation in one minute. I pretty much just read it so fast it took a minute. No breaks, no transitions used. I just read it like I was a reading racer.It was supposed to take 4-5 mins.\n\nAnd on top of that my teacher tells me I was standing in front of her so she couldn't see our presentation. I had to stand angled so that our group could fit.\n\nHave that class tomorrow again, I'm really quiet in class. So now the class probably thinks I'm weird or have social problems lol.", "summary": "Went through my presentation in about a minute was supposed to take 4 minutes at the least and teacher probably hates me now lolololol. Group/class probably thinks I'm odd haha"}
{"id": "t3_2mll6x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My coworker is an extremely difficult person and I need to deal with this.", "post": "Guys, I have a few problems with this, and since I moved to another country, working in a local company and stuff things have been pretty great. I came to be the expert developer on a certain software, and the only other developer was this guy with like 40+ years.\n\nAt first, I started to work with him but then I was asked to join a project in the company, which actually was pretty important and other companies didn't manage to deliver it.\n\nSince we finished the other project, I noticed this guy, let's call him Bob, is treating me differently. He invited me to a meeting to see something he did based on something I did before, and like there was no real problem, everything was working (according to him). Then he asked me if there was something bad in his code. As soon as I said something was bad, he replied \"I copied that from you\", as I promptly said \"No, I would never do that\".\n\nAfter that, my boss asked me to take over a few tasks that were with him because Bob said he couldn't do it alone. So I took like 75% of the available work and Bob got the rest. \n\nBob needed to pass me the password to access the customer's server and sent me the wrong password. I noticed it was wrong and he replied I should talk to the customer. Thing is, I went to the company and asked him to try the password he sent me. It didn't work. Then, I asked him to erase the password that was saved in the software and try the one he sent me, and he said he wouldn't do that. He was projecting from his notebook, and as he opened his email client I saw the new password the customer had sent him.\n\nWell, problem is:\n\nBob makes a lot more money than I do;\nBob is a terrible developer and his lack of knowledge is making my work less efective;\nBob is friends with one of the owners since college.\n\nI'd really like to hear opinions on this.\n\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Coworker seems jealous because I know way more than he does and it is trying to screw me. He is a long term friend of my boss."}
{"id": "t3_23zzn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (22F) depressed and i dont know how to deal with it without dragging my bf (21M) down.", "post": "I dont know how to get my feelings across with a few paragraphs but im sure a lot of people on this forum have dealt with depression and had it effect your relationship. I guess what im coming here for is some outside perspective, experience, and ways that i can help myself. \n\nI come from an abusive family, my moms borderline/narcissist (diagnosed), and i grew up in foster care. I finally cut contact with them completely for good about three weeks ago. Also three weeks ago i got an abortion. Im just feeling so down right now. My sex drive is at 0, im so tired and i just feel like everything is crushing me. Im sad and i dont want to go out i just want to stay home and i know its wearing my boyfriend down. Hes super supportive and listens to me while im upset and comforts me but im so scared of holding him back and making him bitter. Like this whole ast week hes come home after work and hungout with me and i want him to feel like he can go out. I dont want to push him away but at the same time i feel like i need him here for me and i dont know what to do. Im seeing a counselor once a week but thinks arnt improving that fast. Its like every step forward i take theres like 4 negative things to take it back. Does anyone have any advice on how i can help myself?", "summary": "I miss being happy, what can i do to get back to that way"}
{"id": "t3_ou291", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was about to have sex with girlfriend for \"first\" time and had some complications (More details inside)", "post": "And when I say \"first\", I mean first time we have relations intentionally as the first time it was by accident. If you want to know more just ask and I'll explain.\n\nAnyhow, so we decided to have sex for the \"first\" time, so I put on the condom, she laid back and spread her legs, ya know how it's suppose to to or at least we thought we were suppose to but anyway, I was on top of her and then I suddenly realized something. I had no idea on how to put it in. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins (other than that one accidental time) so neither of us had any idea on how to do it. We're both inexperienced with the whole sex thing (I'm 17) so other than seeing what I've seen on the internet, I have to idea how to put it in.\n\nSo as embarrassing/hilarious as it is for me to ask, what are you suppose to do to get it in there...", "summary": "Was about to have sex, had no idea how to put it in."}
{"id": "t3_o34t1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We've been dating for 5 months and I don't know what to do", "post": "Rundown: I met him at the end of August online. My \"intent\" was a long term relationship, his was hanging out. I'm confident *we're both terrible at communicating how we feel*. We both make subtle comments, but those only have so much merit. **How can I open myself up more?**\n\nAt the start we saw each other about once every two weeks, and now we see each other once a week unless the other is really busy with school or work. We're both still listed as single on POF. He has an account on okcupid, too.\n\nHe's 27 (a grad student), I'm 20 (an undergrad).\n\nI really like him and we get along well.\n\n*It seems like one of the bigger issues is stuff on fb/about his ex-it's making me uncomfortable*:\n* He has photos of him and his ex (now best friend) in bed together on fb. The photos are from 2007 (they broke up in 2009). Would it be rude of me to ask him to take them down? \n\n* He has only mentioned his best friend once, and hasn't mentioned that she's his ex.\n\n* He went to Iceland with her this summer. He mentioned going to Iceland, but left out going with her. \n\n* The day after our 5th date I noticed that the photos of him and his ex were gone, but I also noticed I couldn't see any of his tagged photos. On her profile, it's clear that he's still tagged, he's just limited the access on his profile. I don't know if it's just limited to me. \n\n* We don't talk on the phone, and I don't mind because I actually hate talking on the phone. I much rather skype or meet in person. Is it strange or telling that we don't speak on the phone?\n\nAside from that, I look forward to seeing him and spending time with him. Sooo please help me :) I'll be seeing him this time tomorrow.", "summary": "how to bring up inappropriate photos of potential bf with his ex without sounding dramatic or insecure. How do I ask where our relationship is going? We've never had a talk about it."}
{"id": "t3_3h2ipu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a police officer search my house for intruders", "post": "This happened tonight. \n\nI [F] went out with a girlfriend tonight. She picked me up because I had very little time to get ready and it was convenient. I have been having work done in my house so my contractor has the key to the house. I usually go in and out of garage.\n\nMy gf pulls up to my house and my front door is open. I currently live alone and could have sworn that I didn't leave from the front door. \n\nThis is where the fuck up begins to unravel. My friend and I decide to call the cops to check the house before I go in. This very attractive police officer pulls up and he gets the whole run down. To be safe, he goes in to check to see if everything is alright. They could have eaten my food, stolen the tv's, graffiti'd the walls, hide in the closet to murder me in my sleep. Who knows.\n\nThis very attractive (and I am very single) police officer comes out of the house and I immediately ask if everything was ok. 'Was everything there?' I ask frantically. With a big smug on his face he says 'oh yea, everything is where it should be'.\n\nI was confused. He tells me to walk in and double check and everything WAS where it should be. I left a bunch of items from a gag gift I had gotten from a friend of mine layer out ever so nicely on the bed. Stuff like 'after masterbation hand sanitizer' a packaged dildo that said 'the only man you ever need', cherry scented lube, and a few other novelties my friends thought were hilarious birthday gifts.\n\nNow I rush the cop out of my house as my face is bright red and the thought of the whole police department talking about the middle aged sex freak that was too scared to go in her own house.", "summary": "i asked a cop to search my house for intruders and instead he found a plethora of novelty sex toys."}
{"id": "t3_26zekw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Many dates and no kiss. Attempt to kiss shot down. Help!", "post": "Short and sweet:\nI've (32F)  been dating a guy (35M)  for almost a month--tons in common and long, frequent dates. Not much physicality (him) despite showing multiple signals (me). I finally decided he might be too shy, so I went for it and asked to kiss him--cue crickets. Shot down.  Awkward is an understatement. Was told that he wants to take it slow. We've gone out since and are slowly overcoming the awkward fallout. He initiates dates, texts and calls often, and is fine with hugging, but he doesn't initiate anything else. Are guys really this slow moving?  I asked if I was friend-zoned and he said he wants to take his time before becoming intimate. Not sure how much time to give. We have a great deal in common and I really like him. I am just confused. I just finished school, am starting a new job, and I am ready to pursue a relationship. Is he worth waiting for?  Any and all advice welcome. Thanks!", "summary": "lots of dates, great connection, no physicality?!?"}
{"id": "t3_2page1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] Just looking for someone to talk with following breakup", "post": "Hello Reddit community, I am currently working on getting past my ex and have been doing well so far the past couple of weeks. I've cut off all contact and kept myself busy and doing all the essential things that I have read on here to do. This by no means is my first breakup but it still is hard to move on sometimes as many of you know. \n\nIn light of recent events this past weekend of seeing her out it just brought back feelings and frustrations that I still have. I am proud that I didn't interact with her and simply left with my friends as soon as I knew she was there and haven't contacted her still. \n\nEssentially I am just looking for someone or people who are willing to discuss and talk about how we are feeling during these tough times. Feel free to comment back or PM me if you feel like. Thank you.", "summary": "Recent breakup, been doing well but saw ex out this weekend and brought back feelings. Looking to chat.."}
{"id": "t3_37gobc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "5 year relationship, sink or swim? me-[24,f], ex-[24,m]", "post": "I dated someone for over 5 years and I think things are ending permanently now. I guess I don't even know how to feel because the way it happened was just so...weird? I told him I wanted to see other people and that I thought he should too and we just kind of mutually agreed, I think. This happened around New Year. But then we kept talking all the time (we were in long distance for the last 6 months of our relationship) and he was still always there for me when/if I needed him.\n\nI saw one other person in that time but it wasn't serious. And after seeing my ex (it feels so weird calling him that because of how much we talk) for the first time since our \"break up\", I just started to regret everything. \n\nAdmittedly, we had a lot of problems that we would need to sort out but I honestly think if we both worked hard enough, communicated more openly and honestly, and helped each other with personal efforts to better ourselves, we could be together for good, and right now, that's really what I want.\n\nHe says he still loves me and I love him, but he thinks we need to become our own people, with us getting back together being just a \"possibility\", not a goal. He thinks if we change for each other, we would both have to compromise and would fall back into our old ways. I agree with the first - however, I think most successful relationships require that - but if we are both really trying to become better people, I don't see things reverting to how they were.\n\nHe's been a huge part of my life for so long and I want to keep him in it but I don't think I can handle us being such close friends, knowing we both love each other but that we won't be getting back together any time soon/ever.\n\nThe thought of excluding him from my life hurts just as much though as the idea of our (IMO) precarious friendship.\n\nI really have no idea what to do.", "summary": "Going through extremely blurry break up. Willing to go all in but ex doesn't want to. Still good friends and talk all the time though.."}
{"id": "t3_34jm9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17/M) want to ask someone out but one of my friends said that she (16/F) is batshit crazy.", "post": "I am currently a senior in high school. I met this girl who is a junior at the start of the year. We barely talked even though we sit in the same group at lunch. As it is almost the end of the year, I built up enough courage to talk to her. We hit it off very well. We have been talking on a daily basis for about a month or so now. I was going to ask her out earlier in the week, but when I talked to my friend who I have known for just about 3 years, she says that she is insane. I just saw the ask reddit thread about people sticking their dick in crazy and it not going so great. I feel that we have quite the connection but my friend tells me otherwise. Should I trust my friend or just go for it?", "summary": "Want to ask someone out. Friend says she is crazy. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3zxyhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) deceased mother's (56f) ex? (56m) acts like he wants to be in my life...ten years too late.", "post": "My (24f) mother (56f) passed away on December 30th. It was very VERY sudden. She and I were very close, especially after my father passed when I was ten years old. \n\nMy mom's ex (56m) started dating my mother when I was 13. They were dating a few years, and she broke up with him multiple times due to circumstances (ex, caught him with son's mom, saw him get close with male friend, etc). One of these instances was that he physically abused my mom. That is when I lost all types of respect for the man. Every time he and I would be in the same room, I would immediately leave cause I couldn't stand him. My mom was a strong person and a tough cookie so I knew she was ok to be in the same room. \n\nThe past two years, my mom has used him around the house for handiwork and her self employed business. However, they were never \"official\" anymore. He was just her \"employee\". In fact, my mom wrote him off weeks before she passed because she got tired of his bull. \n\nSo when she passed away, he all of a sudden acted like a \"father figure\" to me, saying stuff like \"i really loved your mom\" and \"if you need anything i will be there\". With me, i wouldn't care if i EVER saw him again. Her funeral is Saturday and he said he wants to \"show up in his military uniform (from the 80's) in honor of her\"\n\nI don't know how to get this leech of a man out of my life. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "my deceased moms ex won't leave me alone after being a \"fantastic\" figure in my life for the past 10 years. I want him to GTFO of my life."}
{"id": "t3_30auqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] breaking up with GF [29 F] of several years, have I done the right thing?", "post": "I've been really unhappy for a long time, but hidden it away for the sake of staying together and not being alone. I've finally come to the conclusion that I can't let this go on any longer as the next thing we would do is buy a house, get married, have kids etc etc. and then I'd be truly tied in, with how many years of me secretly being unhappy? Until I die? I'm not someone who sleeps around, I'm not going to give her a reason to not like me.\n\nThe problem here is that she really likes me, it's just not mutual. She's a nice person, not crazy or anything, but after the first year of living together I started to feel like I wasn't in it any more and now everything I do just feels forced, we carried on because she was happy and we could live and work in the same area.\n\nWe broke up the other day because I basically said I'm not in it any more, and I felt like there would be no good time to say this, but it would only get worse as time went by. She was really upset, got angry at me, and asks me if I'd change my mind. I told her it makes no sense, it's not fair on her if I'm not going to want to be a part of it and her love goes to waste, and it's not fair on me if I'm tied to something I don't want.\n\nI just need to know it'll get easier for her. I'm an asshole for letting it go as long as it has, but I'm not the one suffering here anymore. I know it's the right thing for me.", "summary": "Broke up with GF of several years, I wasn't happy for a long time. Someone please tell me I've done the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_ubsl8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I used to have panic attacks nightly, and though they went away they are now returning.", "post": "A few years ago I used to get panic attacks every night, or anxiety attacks, whichever one is the lesser of the two.  I'd lie down, and begin thinking about things, and eventually it would lead to the afterlife.  I'd think about blinking out of existence and then start becoming scared.  I wasn't and am still not sure why I get scared only sometimes.  Like now, I can sit and say to myself \"I'm going to die someday, deal with it, it's not going to be a big deal by the time it happens\"      \n    Other times, I think about my future or something and immedietly start to panic.  I usually start to breath really fast, and usually I talk to myself or start trying to find someone to text or call, because If i'm distracted I stop freaking out.  A few times I've tried to try to sit and ride it out without a distraction, but it usually ends in small hallucinations or I start frantically running around turning on lights and trying to find things to read and/or talking to myself or trying to distract myself.     \n      Just a few questions.         \n -Does anyone else have panic attacks frequently?      \n    -would this be a panic attack or an anxiety attack? I've read about both, but anxiety attacks seem to cause blackouts or vomiting or something?       \n   -Medication isn't an option, I'm 18 and still living with my parents and my moms solution is to start believing in god and/or an afterlife.       \n -Could it be stress related?  I'm about to graduate high school and maybe the change is a cause? \n    -Any other solutions or things I should look into?  I'd really like to make sure this doesn't become a nightly thing again.", "summary": "I have panic attacks, and want them to stop before they become frequent again."}
{"id": "t3_4sjwql", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Hired at first salary position on july 1st. never Received information for drug test; attempted to contact multiple times, getting ghosted! Help??", "post": "So I got my first salary job finally; it's decent pay and something I wouldn't mind doing... The interview went great and they were very enthusiastic about getting me going as fast as possible. \n\nThat was July 1st. They said to call back on Tuesday (July 5th) to get the information for my drug test, and they'd submit for my background check in the mean time. \n\nSo I called Tuesday and got told to call back the next day. On Wednesday the manager said I should of been contacted by now, and confirmed with HR that my information was in the system... was told to hold tight and wit for a e-mail with the drug test information. \n\nI never received anything. Called back Friday ( July 8th, one week since I was \"hired\") for the hiring manager to tell me \"well I don't know what the problem is... try back on monday.\"\n\n------------\n\nCalled multiple times yesterday and got put on hold indefinitely in till I hung up. Tried e-mailing and calling again today and was ghosted on both tries. \n\nI'm frustrated and close to giving up. What would you guys do?", "summary": "Got hired about two weeks ago; company ignoring all my attempts to contact them to do drug test/back ground check..."}
{"id": "t3_3815yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my SO [19 M] of four years, have had an argument about him not wanting us to move in together.", "post": "My SO and I have been together for a long time, and we've recently been arguing often about various issues such as my lack of trust, and his lack of effort. But overall things have seemed pretty normal. \n\nAs we are both in university, him moved out, me still at home, the option of moving in together has come up. However, it seemed like I was the only one to ever bring it up, and any time I did, he would shy away from it , never giving a true answer. But having never been given a yes or no, and him making comments such as \"when we move in together....\", I still held a lot of hope.\n\nThat was until last night, when I brought it up again, and explained that I needed an answer. This is where he came clean, telling me he has no interest in moving in with me, has been unhappy the past few months, and feels we have different future plans. \n\nI'm sad and hurt, not only because he doesn't want to have living together as an option, but also because it seems like he's not seeing me as a part of his future.", "summary": "boyfriend seemed happy, but has told me he has no interest in living together and has in reality been very unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_3hjhkj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] planning on breaking up with my girlfriend [26F], desperately need advice", "post": "I [22F] identified as bisexual throughout my teens and essentially dated only men. I came out as a lesbian about 2 years ago, a little before I met my current girlfriend [26F]. \n\n\u00a0\n \nI love her very much and our sex life has been great, but I feel myself becoming less and less attracted to her because she is fairly masculine-presenting and I prefer more feminine women.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nBecause I was in denial about my sexuality for so long, I feel like I never really got the chance to date anyone that I'm actually attracted to (i.e. a feminine woman), which seems really sad for some reason. I also feel that it is unfair to my girlfriend to be in a relationship with her when I don't feel the same attraction.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI'm not sure what reasons I should give my girlfriend for breaking up with her. I'm absolutely not going to tell her that I'm not attracted to her because that would be cruel. So I'm not really sure how to go about it. \n\n\u00a0\n\nAlso, her brother is coming to visit her from across the country this weekend and she wants us to all do stuff together. I'm not sure if I can fake being a happy couple now that I've decided to break up with her, so I'm not sure if I should do it before or after. \n\n\u00a0\n\nAnother problem is that I don't have many friends and most of my them are primarily my girlfriend's friends. I have no idea how I'll even manage to date as a straight-looking lesbian with few friends; I may end up alone for a very long time.", "summary": "I jumped into a relationship with someone I'm not really attracted to and have decided to break up after ~2 years"}
{"id": "t3_2ps1f1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [23 F] of 7 months, we started dating back in the summer, We get on well but I don't know if my heart is in the right place.", "post": "throwaway my main account is easily linkable to me and I don't want anyone to come across this post who might know who I am. \n\nwell to begin we started dating back in the summer, everything was going well we get on well but I'm just not feeling what I should be towards someone I'm in a relationship with.\n\nI tried to break it off back in October but I agreed to meet up with her after some time to see how I felt. We went out on a few dates and she had just decided that meant we where back together. She came to watch me play a while ago at bar, some of my friends where also there and she was saying to one of my friends how we where now back together. I'd never agreed past we'd see each other and see how things are.\n\nI've now ended up back in a relationship when I'm just not feeling it is the right thing for me. It's not that she's a bad person or I dislike her in fact I think she is a great person and I do enjoy spending time with her but mentally I'm just not there in this relationship, I can't imagine any kind of future with her it's just me that comes to mind when I think about it, now don't think I cant think like that because I have had thoughts of time spent together and future plans with other girls I've been with.\n\nI just don't know what to do, do I carry on and see if I end up with those feelings or am I flogging a dead horse?", "summary": "with a girl, broke up with her met up with her once after said breakup, she assumed that means we're back together after that, don't think this is what I want, Brain hurts from all this thinking"}
{"id": "t3_488nx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I [21M] do about my little brother [18M] who is playing way too many video games?", "post": "My brother is a freshman in college, and isn't doing well in his classes. He is failing one of them. He was blaming this on a bad professor, but I've recently discovered through a friend that he's put 30 hours into a PC game that came out four days ago, and 100 hours total over the past two weeks (the service he uses tracks usage).\n\nI am worried that his gaming is affecting his not just education, but his social and physical well-being as well. If you're putting 50 hours of gaming in a week, on top of school work, how do you have time for friends or staying physically active? He was always with friends and staying fit (he was a swimmer) in high school, so I'm worried he's on a decline that is for the worst.\n\nHow can I talk to him about this? I am concerned he's going to do poorly in his classes and am also concerned for his general well-being. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Brother is playing lots of video games, very possibly to the point that it is impacting aspects of his life. How I can talk to him about this?"}
{"id": "t3_4qnpn8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] brother-in-law [33M] just confessed that I turn him on. How should I approach this?", "post": "A couple months ago my family and I went to visit my sister in law for vacation. They have 4 wheelers and we had to go in pairs. I got to ride with my brother in law, who I've always cared about and has never disrespected me to this point. My sister didn't think anything of it either. \n\nWell we leave and they started having issues (nothing to do with me). He was caught cheating among other issues, but my sister loves him and I understand her decision to stick by his side. \n\nFast forward a couple months to now, I text him asking about a pair of shoes and he brings up the 4 wheeler ride. I try to steer the conversation away, but he then says it turned him on and he knows I had to have felt it! I didn't respond because I didn't know what to say and so he texted again saying never mind. \n\nI don't know if I should respond to him? If I should send screen shots to my sister (I don't want to start more issues)? Should I just avoid visiting for a while? I don't want to get in the middle of this. I love my sister and brother in law and respect their family very much. \n\n(By the way it's important to note I caught my sister cheating once on my brother in law and I was the one that told him about it. My sister and brother in law have a long history together and I don't think they are ever going to break up, regardless it's not my business. Ever since that though, I was looked down on by my sister and family and we finally have a good relationship again and I don't want to ruin it again by sticking my nose where it doesn't belong.)", "summary": "Brother in law confessed I turn him on and I'm not sure how to respond and if I should tell my sister or not. "}
{"id": "t3_20kabt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27/F) was honest with my husband (28/M) about my feelings for another man (36/M).", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 1.5 yearsz I wrote awhile back under another throwaway that I had interest in another guy, Jake, and that we had briefly kissed one night. I got called a lot of names in here so I deleted the post. Anyway, I told my husband the truth and we went to marriage counseling the next day. We have been going each week for about 6 weeks now and our relationship has been really good. I no longer feel interested in Jake, and my husband and I  identified what we need in a relationship to feel content and desired by each other. \n\nI still occasionally hang out with Jake in a group setting and only when my husband is comfortable with it. Fast forward to today when I get a message from someone claiming to be Jake's girlfriend. She called me names and asked if my husband knew about me and Jake.  This is surprising because it means that Jake had kept texts from me from months ago. I messaged Jake and told him what happened.  I asked him to delete any old texts from me because we are past that stage and it makes me feel weird that he still has that stuff on his phone. He said that he likes our old texts but that he would delete them.  He said the girl is his ex-girlfriend who is bitter he won't take her back. \n\nI don't care what their relationship status is, but I do care if my husband somehow gets dragged into this. Should I message her back and say that Jake and I just got too flirty and nothing really happened between us? Or just not message her back at all? Should I tell my husband that she messaged me? I really hate talking about this stuff with my husband because I can tell that it hurts him. I would really rather not bring it up, but I also don't want to hide anything from him.", "summary": "I was honest with my husband about my interest in another guy, we fixed our relationship, now other guy's girlfriend is messaging me about old text messages I sent him."}
{"id": "t3_255cp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my FWB [26 F] roommate Possibility?", "post": "So i have been FWB with this female for quite some time now. It doesn't happen as often as you would think, but it does Happen. I have been wanting to move out of my house for sometime now and was wondering if it was a good idea to be roommates with a FWB. Sometimes i feel that she gets clingy and pays too much attention to me and i like to be left alone for a week or two sometimes. I don't always want to sleep with her and eventually want to find someone i actually want to be with. I have already told her I'm not looking for a relationship but the way she acts sometimes is just awkward. Looking for some opinions here.", "summary": "Not so sure about being roommate with FWB who seems to get clingy sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_1hc90m", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Revenge on annoying cashier", "post": "I know I'm pitching for a tough crowd here.. Most of the stories seem to be from the service-person's POV complaining about a customer, well here's a tale from across the counter.\n\nThis happened when I was 20, still in college. I had a car, so I took one of my female friends (23) grocery shopping. We shared a cart since I needed a couple of things, but she decided to go on a massive food shopping spree. She also got a single six pack of Mike's Hard lemonade, the black cherry stuff.\n\nAs we're checking out, on separate orders, the cashier who was a young-ish dude asked to see her id. She complied. Then he asked to see mine. Being underage for drinking in the US (21 is the legal age), I straight up told him that I was not 21, but that the alcohol was definitely all hers. He would hear none of that and told her she can't buy it.\n\nWe were a bit annoyed, because of how stupid it all seemed. I'm a pretty big guy, 6'2, posses a luscious beard, pretty muscular, and this little prick thought that my friend (5'5, really skinny Asian) was buying me girly liquor. If there was a substantial amount of beer, or hard liquor, I'd totally understand, but at the same time I'd never actually go myself to buy alcohol for myself, because that's just stupid.\n\nOn to the revenge. This particular grocery chain occasionally had employees that would bag the food for you. When no \"baggers\" are available I bag my own shit if I'm buying a lot to speed things up for the cashier. So this time I went to the bags at the end as if I was going to help bag the substantial amount of food my friend got... and proceeded to simply stare at the foodstuffs coming down the rolling ramp. The cashier looked at me, and I look back at him expectantly. He then proceeded to bag our food.\n\nRight after we exit the store, I head to the car with the grocery cart, while my friend goes back to the store, picks up her Mike's, gets me a 6-pack of beer, and proceeds through the self-checkout line without any issues.", "summary": "Cashier at grocery store doesn't let my friend buy herself some girly booze, so I don't help him bag our stuff"}
{"id": "t3_3jiej1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my Wife [34 F] I'm trying to get out and get a divorce, everyone keeps saying take it slow.", "post": "This is a follow up to these two posts:\n\nI realized my relationship with my wife of 11 years has been destroying me emotionally, but I still love her. I went into counseling. Counselor and everyone I know says \"take it slow\", this is a decision you don't take lightly.  Which is totally true. We still might patch things up, but I have no idea how.\n\nWhen we are apart, I resolve myself for a divorce. I feel great, I feel free, I feel like myself. When we are together I am filled with fear, regret, yet also not wanting to leave this woman I love. It would be so easy to just take her in my arms and hold her forever. I bounce between these emotions a half dozen times a day.\n\nI can't just move out of the house, I have nowhere to go and can't afford to rent an apartment and pay for the house. We're stuck together until we either resolve our issues, or a divorce is finalized. Its agony.", "summary": "Stuck living with person I want to leave, making me conflicted about leaving. How do I \"take it slow\" and keep my sanity?"}
{"id": "t3_uodbo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brother is looking at going into the army, but is basing his decision off of a recruiter, what should he know?", "post": "My younger brother (16) is looking at going into the US army.  He has only talked to a recruiter (who I know is full of shit) and thinks that if he signs up for the reserves that he will basically be getting paid to be at home and is in no way at risk of being sent overseas.  I want him to know the truth about getting involved so he can make an informed decision about what he wants to do, rather than listen to a guy who is probably just trying to get a bonus for him enlisting.  I have showed him videos and documentaries such as \"The Ground Truth\" to try and show him a different side, but he played them off as no big deal and thinks that things like that will never happen to him. If there is anyone on Reddit who has been deployed/active duty/knows what it is truly like, can you give some proper insight?", "summary": "My 16 year old brother wants to join the reserves, but has only been informed by a recruiter."}
{"id": "t3_lpsro", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need your help for some bonus points reddit!", "post": "I was going to post this in /r/science, but it seems they don't allow text posts? wtf?\n\nAnyways, One of my cooler profs decided to throw us a curve ball on our take home exam, and for bonus points he asks ;\n\n\"How many technological determinists does it take to change a light bulb?\"\n\nWith your help, I want to make this guy laugh! Do your best Reddit!\n\nNote; I am going to indicate that my answer was found on a social media website if I do use it, to cover my butt! It's only worth a couple bonus points, so I won't risk any kind of plagiarism. \n\nAlso, the account is new because it was going to be a throwaway, but I am so surprised that this name wasn't taken that I might just keep it!", "summary": "How many redditors know what 'technological determinist' enough to make a joke about it?"}
{"id": "t3_345ykz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [16/m] and in need of some advice", "post": "So I like my best friend [16/f] a lot. Like a lot. But the problem is she just thinks of me as like a best friend(according to her  best friend which happens to be a close friend of mine as well she didn't say it to me personally but you know). Now I understand and respect her decision but at the same time I can't seem to accept that in my heart (I know,sounds cliche as fuck). So,Reddit what should I do? Should I keep trying with let's call her Daisy? Or should I try going for someone else to keep my mind off Daisy. Cause I'm getting signals from some other girls.", "summary": "Likes best friend doesn't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_17xxk1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most awkward situation you've ever been in?", "post": "My mom and dad had just recently got a divorce and my mom still had a lot of feelings left for him. She decided to bring her two children (my sister and I) along with her as she spied on him while he was out drinking and getting bitches. She spotted him finally at a corner talking to a girl and she got furious. She grabbed me and my sister and we walked up there with a look to kill and holy crap the embarrassment on my dads face was horrible, but even worse was the women who he was with was my English teacher. After a few harsh spoken words to my dad and his hoe of the night she grabbed us and left.", "summary": "My emotionally broken mom yelled at my dads new hoe of the night (my english teacher)"}
{"id": "t3_3btius", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be Mr. Fixit", "post": "This happened just now. Ok to start things off, last weekend I recieved a broken 3ds from one of my cousin's friends. She had dropped it and as a result broke it in half. It seemed a waste to just let it sit there and corrode so I asked for it and took it home to fix it, mind you this is the first repair job I've done, besides barely opening my ps vita to disconnect and reconnect the battery.\n  After a couple hourse of reasearch i found that the speaker, lcd,  and camera cables were torn, PLUS the wifi antenna. So i ordered the parts on ebay, with smash 4 hoping that I'd be able to play once i fixed it all up.\n  Fast forward to this afternoon and I've got all the pieces, of course smash 4 isn't here but oh well I'll worry about that later. Everything seems to go smoothly until i have to put the ribbon cables back through the hinge, which took me a couple of hours to figure out, but not without giving the cables a bit of damage. *Pssshhh* whatever they're *supposed* to be bendy, right? So I continue to put the console back together and am excited for the end result. Press the power button, and then *pop!* and then nothing. \n  I couldn't believe it! The 3ds i spent so much time working on wasn't turning on! Now I'm sitting here saddened that I spent 60+ dollars on 3ds parts and smash and have nothing to show for it.", "summary": "Tried to fix up 3ds for my own personal enjoyment despite having no experience. Am now broke. Leave it to the professionals guys."}
{"id": "t3_175mgd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is dairy bad for you?", "post": "I have several friends on special diets; paleo, macrobiotic, and Eat to Live, to name the few that come to mind at the moment. I noticed that all of these diets, though differing philosophies in each, say not to eat dairy. After reading a couple of Michael Pollen's books, I have been pretty satisfied with the eat whole foods mentality, and I like milk and cheese. But seeing these various diets all say no diary makes me wonder what is wrong with dairy? Paleo followers will eat red meats, so it can't be the fat content in dairy. Is it because it seems unnatural because other mammals don't continue to eat dairy into adulthood? But what if you still presumably have lactase enzymes breaking down your milk and you are not lactose intolerant, why is it still then bad for you? And what if you are consuming dairy from pasture raised cows? My macrobiotic following friend said that sheep and goat milk is better for you because they are smaller animals and their macro nutrient profile is more similar to that of humans, which a cows milk is not. Anywho, just curious what redditors might contribute on this!", "summary": "why are so many diets telling you no diary?! <3 milk and cheese"}
{"id": "t3_15h7g3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to ask girlfriends father for his blessing to ask his daughter to marry me, but I know he is going to bring up religion...I'm atheist. Need advice", "post": "Pretty much the title says it all. I (M25) want to ask my girlfriend (F27) to marry me. We have been together 2 years, lived together 1, and best friends for 7 years. I really like her family, and want to be respectful to their traditional values...at least with this and ask her dad for his blessing. They are pretty religious, just nondenominational Christian. My girlfriend classifies herself as spiritual, as in she believes in God, but not necessarily in the bible, etc.\n\nHer family has hinted at religion with me before. They know I am not religious and that my family isn't either, but don't know that I actually don't believe. I know he is going to bring it up when I talk to him, and I worry that it is going to be an issue. I have spoke to my lady about this sort of thing in the past, and she always just says to not talk about religion with him. I don't really want to bring it up to her now, because I want this to be a complete surprise.\n\nWhat happens if he says that is a prerequisite to marry his daughter? Should I tell him that I am an atheist if he asks? Should I still ask her if he says no? Has anyone had any experience with this?", "summary": "Want to ask my lady to marry me, but want to respect her parents wish. They are religious, I am not, I am just looking for advice to handle this potentially awkward situation."}
{"id": "t3_rv8aq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you kick someone out of a group that no one likes hanging out with anymore?", "post": "So my old roommate tries to hangout with me and my new roommates every weekend. At first I tried to tell my roommates not to let him come but they thought I was being irrational. Now he feels like he is part of the group and we all want him out. He used to invite himself over all the time and we finally got him to stop doing that. But we don't want him to be around anymore. I told my roommates the only way to deal with it is to just straight up tell him that we don't want to hang out with him anymore, but we don't know how to go about it without saying it outright. What is the best way to handle this situation? \n\nBTW- he is an alcoholic so we want to let him down easy so he doesn't go crazy with alcohol.", "summary": "Annoying old roommate always wants to chill every weekend, but we all want him out and want the gentlest way to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_x6vy8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Oi Reddit. Just found out my wife is pregnant, we've had a roommate to help with general money saving. Advice on how to break our needing to move him out?", "post": "Simply put : Wife is pregnant. My friend is a long-term friend of about four years and he's been staying in one of the bedrooms to basically assist with us saving money, etc. We haven't told him about the baby yet, but it's obvious that as the months pass we are sooner or later going to need that room for the baby, along with the fact that he creates a bit of stress and such for my woman. \n\nWhat would be the best way to talk this over with him, I keep running scenarios through my head but no matter what always end up thinking \"Oh so your kicking me out onto the streets\" or something along those lines. Am I being to harsh on myself and blowing this out of proportion, or is that how he'll think?\n\nIn the end I will end up doing it no matter what, but am simply looking for any advice or suggestions or like-stories to get me through this without me sounding like a dick. The baby and my wife are far more important to me, but I'd hate to lose a friend.", "summary": "Baby coming. Need to remove roommate from house. Best suggestions on how? Has this ever happened to you?"}
{"id": "t3_2fxrbm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18/M] and I've been with my [18/F] Girlfriend for over a year, and might be in love with another girl.", "post": "So about 2 years ago i was set up with this girl. we hit it off and everything went perfect. we're inseparable, and I'm so comfortable around her, and i really feel like we're perfect for each other. I feel that i would have an amazing future with her because we always talked about getting married and the whole having a family thing (I move fast) and i know she would be the perfect girl to have a family with in every way. but recently, I've started having feelings for another girl, who has been there for me through it all, and a couple days ago i told her how i felt, and she told me about how shes had feelings for me for the past 2 years. i really can't get her out of my head. she really has taken priority over my girlfriend. when i get up in the morning i used to think of my current girlfriend, but now i check my phone just to see if the girl i like texted me or anything. on 1 hand i feel like its dumb to even consider to even leave my girlfriend. she's head over heels about me and would really lose all hope if i left her. there is no doubt in my mind, i would feel like shit. But i really cant stop thinking about this other girl. I just really don't know what to do. I think the one thing that bothers me the most, is that i wish i met her later on in life. I feel like me being with her never let me have fun or experience anything else. shes my first real relationship, and i just want to experience more before settling down, and shes told me that she doesn't care about experiencing more so she won't understand where I'm coming from.", "summary": "I like another girl, and don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_jvyq8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How much initiation (if at all) should I expect my SO to show in pleasuring me?", "post": "Mid-20s, living together 2 years.\n\nIt seems that once a week-once every two weeks is about all I get in terms of them deciding they just want to take me to the bedroom and do something to get me off and make me feel good.\n\nI've talked about this issue before, and how I would like them to put more effort into initiating things with me (before this I felt I was offering to help them out quite often, though with recently being upset about this issue, I'm probably not doing as good a job as I could, and I am going to try to step up my game again).  They show interest in that they compliment me, tell me how sexy I am, touch me when I'm naked (at least a little) but then things rarely seem to amount from it.\n\nThe explanation was that they just aren't thinking about it and I shouldn't expect them to ever really initiate for me, and I should just ask.  While I can see that logically I have to ask sometimes, should I really have to ask EVERY time?  I want to know that I'm not desired because I asked them to desire me, but that they just sometimes want to do it on their own.\n\nThey initiate sex (or ask me to get them off) way more then the once a week or once every two weeks they initiate something with me, when it involves their pleasure as well.  Which usually ends up with them getting off, then we cuddle, and there is no attempt (or really even asking for that matter) to make me get off too.\n\nIs it common curtosy to help your partner out after sexy times?  Or just roll over and wait for them to ask you?", "summary": "Is it wrong to expect my SO to initiate sexy times that focus only on me more then once in a few weeks without having to ask?  Is it wrong to think they would try to make sure I cum afterwards instead of go into their own world and not even offer unless I say something?"}
{"id": "t3_2r2d16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28/m) am completely unattracted to my wife (28/f). I could really use some advice.", "post": "I should start by saying that I love my wife very much. She is an amazing woman and mother. \n\nWhen we started dating I couldn't let her walk out the door for work without being all over her. By the time we got married we were hardly having sex, and in our first year of marriage we probably had sex 2 or maybe 3 times. It just wasnt there. \n\nWhen we decided to try and get pregnant we had sex pretty often, but it was sort of forced, like a chore. We have a 5 month old daughter now, and yes, her body has changed but honestly I am not less attracted to her now, I already was even before the baby. Since we got married 3 years ago, we have probably had sex less than 10 times, outside of trying to get pregnant.\n\nWe are both very into fitness and workout (often together) multiple times every week. It's not so much that she has gotten huge or anything, I just simply am ZERO attracted to her in a sexual sense. When she undresses to shower or something I find myself looking away. \n\nI'm very frustrated sexually. She may be as well. We have not even talked about or hinted at the thought of sex since our daughter was born. \n\nI know step one needs to be the two of us talking. If I am genuinely unattracted to her, is that something I should actually be honest about? Would that make everything worse? I don't want the rest of our lives to be this way, I need help.", "summary": "I love my wife but am completely unattracted to her, seeking advice to bring our relationship back to a healthy place"}
{"id": "t3_36se3l", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Married couple in our twenties looking to console a friend whose wife left him", "post": "Our friend is about the same age. They were married for 2 years, together for about 3 years before that. We found out only after the wife left the husband (about 6 weeks ago) that they've been struggling for at least a year. The husband was incredibly stressed out with work and doesn't have good communication skills and had been taking it out on her, to the point that everyone involved now acknowledges he was verbally abusing her for at least this past year. She left and has no intention of coming back, and wants to speak to him minimally except about logistics of the divorce. \n\nHe's already made changes (read multiple books about verbal abuse, started seeing a therapist), and believes if he could just convince her to try that things would be better because he now understands that he was mistreating her. She's fully convinced that she doesn't want to try to fix things and feels relieved to be out of the marriage.\n\nNow that I've spoken with the wife a couple of times, I'm realizing that there's very little hope of reconciliation, and I'm trying to help the husband move on. He's stuck on the fact that she's not willing to try and that she's only talked to him for several hours total about the dissolution of their 5 year relationship. He believes he'll never be happy without her. I don't know how to help him!\n\nMy husband and I are the closest friends to them and are the main support system of the husband. We get together with him 1-2 times a week, and a lot of it is spent talking about their relationship (understandably). The other concern here is how to be helpful without also getting myself depressed, because it's been an extremely stressful year for me and I'm having my own struggles with optimism and being the main support system for someone whose life is crashing down around him is leading me to my own internal freakouts (e.g. when I first found out about their impending divorce, I was so affected that I cried a lot the next day and had had to take a personal day from work to deal with my new feelings about the fact that the optimistic beliefs I tend to hold about life might be irrational).", "summary": "How do I be a support system for my friend whose wife left him, and do so without sending myself into a tailwind of depression too?"}
{"id": "t3_347t05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my friend [30 F] 6 months, We are very close, suddenly she's distant. When to ask about it?", "post": "Greetings relationshippers!\n\nI met a new friend 5 or six months ago lets call her Brenda. Brenda is 30, female and is pretty cool. Our relationship is non-romantic but we got close very quickly and we hold nothing back from one another. We at the very least text every day even if it's just a few messages and see each other once a week or so for dinner/drinks or just to hang out.\n\nSince I last saw Brenda about a week ago she's been distant. She doesn't reach out at all. She only responds to my texts about half the time and I don't know what's happening. Everything seemed fine when she was here and we said our goodbyes and see you soons.\n\nI know that sometimes friendships fizzle, I've been through it before, it sucks but it happens. In the past I've just let it happen, but I don't want to sit passively this time. I don't know if she's going through something, if I did something or if she's just moving on.\n\nSo my question is when do I bring it up? We've barely talked over the last few days but I'm not sure if that's long enough.", "summary": "Very close with friend, suddenly she's distant. Not sure how long to wait before bringing it up."}
{"id": "t3_2t0dg1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Best sex of my life.. but it wasn't with my boyfriend.", "post": "So, I [22F] cheated on my bf [24M] with one of his friends.. I don't really want to hear it, I know it's a horrible thing to do. Anyway, I slept with this guy several times a while ago before my bf and I were together, but now we're officially together and I cheated on him. He's several states away for the semester and I feel like he will cheat on me anyway. But WOW the sex with his friend was just as mind-blowing as ever, whereas the sex with my bf is mediocre at best.. What should I do? Should I break up with my bf, tell him, stay with him and not tell him? His friend isn't looking to date, but honestly, this is the best sex I've ever had in my entire life and it makes me question if I could really stay with my bf when he doesn't satisfy me in this way. Help!?", "summary": "Cheated on bf with his friend and had the best sex of my life."}
{"id": "t3_16nq7o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) just interrogated my SO (23F) without realizing it", "post": "I don't know where else to go for some advice, but here it goes:\n\nI've been in a relationship with this girl for 4 months now and every day has been nothing but exciting. Recently though, I did something that I though I wasn't capable of.\n\nMy girlfriend has been having a rough couple of days and hasn't been telling me what's been bothering her. I've been trying to ask her, but she keeps insisting nothing is wrong. When I hear nothing, I immediately know that something is up and it gets me worried.\n\nSo tonight I went to her place to talk to her. She was still clearly upset from the past few days and I tried, again, asking her what was wrong and that it would help to get it off her chest. Well, I didn't pay attention to the way I was talking to her and it turned into a full out interrogation which included why she should talk to me about what's bugging her, how relationships are about communication, and that her not talking to me was driving me crazy because I felt useless. \n\nBut, she kept rolling her eyes, tearing up, and looking away from me. She finally looked at me a few minutes later and said \"I'm upset right now because you're interrogating me!\" \n\nI couldn't do anything.... \n\nI felt lower than low. I started to tear up and apologized to her many times. I tried explaining that I'm just scared because I feel left out of something critical in her life and want to help, but I'm sure I made things worse. I love this girl to death and even plan on proposing in the coming months, but I'm worried that my actions may have just destroyed this relationship. \n\nWhat should I do? Do I leave her alone until she collects herself and her emotions? Do I try to talk to her again? Any advice would help.", "summary": "I interrogated my GF for being sad and may have made things worse."}
{"id": "t3_e7fcn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Good friend has a crush on me, would like advice (details inside)", "post": "Two of my new roommates introduced me to a whole new social group that I have been hanging out with a lot since they moved into my house. This is a college house fyi.  This girl is good friends with my two roommates and this social circle and they all have a lot of history together that doesn't involve me prior to two months ago when we all met.  Since then, we've all been hanging out very regularly and I even have a class with her and two of the other new friends.\n\nBased on her body language, texts, and other forms of verbal/non-verbal communication I am certain this girl has a crush on me. She's a sweet, cute girl and I would hookup/date her if it came down to that, but I recognize that I shouldn't for the sake of our new friendship and for the sake of not disrupting this new social circle I've been immersed in.  She's a long term friend of my two roommates and I don't think that would go over all that well.\n\nI'm kinda unsure about what direction to take this in.  Nothing decisive has to be determined at this moment, but if someone could share thoughts or similar stories that would be awesome.", "summary": "Cute, nice girl/good friend of my friends likes me.  I *could* get with her, but probably shouldn't. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_4zvo67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out yesterday that my [21F] dad [66M] abused my mom [56F] before they split up", "post": "Sorry, this might be long. \n\nWhat I Knew Before Yesterday:\n\nMy mother [24f at the time] got a job working for my dad [34m] at an architecture firm. He was married, but they started sleeping together. When my mother broke things off, she went to graduate school in Europe to get away from him. He followed her there, begged her to take him back, and left his wife for her. He had a temper and would sometimes scare her in fights. Ten years later, he starts sleeping with Julia and my parents split up while my mother is pregnant with me. \n\nWhat I Found Out Yesterday:\n\nMy mother did not leave my father just because he was cheating on her. She left him because he was starting to expand his emotional abuse into physical abuse. He hit her. He smashed plates during arguments. He broke his first girlfriend's jaw in an argument. Her animosity towards him growing up clicked into place; I always knew my dad was sort of an asshole, I didn't know he was a piece of shit. \n\n**\nI guess I don't know what to do with this information. As it is, I rarely talk to my dad and rarely visit him, not because of what he did to my mother, but because he's always been self- and work-centered with a painful lack of empathy. He didn't want anything to do with me or my brother until I was already 3. My only tie to him right now is that his current girlfriend, Amelia, manages my schizophrenic brother's [25M] legal, therapeutic, and life-problem issues. I don't know if it's worth burning my bridge with my father all the way down, even though this new information makes me want to hurt him. I don't know what to do. Probably see a therapist. But if there's any coping mechanisms any of you could offer, it wouldn't go unnoticed.", "summary": "My dad abused my mother before they split up 20 years ago. I just found out yesterday, how do I go forward with this information?"}
{"id": "t3_33epnd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I wish my dog was with me.", "post": "She was the only thing that kept me here and I actually stayed on this earth because I didn't want to leave her.  Now that she's gone I can't stand this fucking earth.  I have a lot going for me now, though, and very big, very good things are about to happen to me.  They just take a longer time to happen.\n\nInstead she's the one gone and assholes get to live and be assholes just because they can be.  All she did was want to make me happy.  God, I do hope I receive the justice by writing a book about that nasty idiot stalking me.", "summary": "I don't get why bad things happen to good people and good animals while nothing bad happens to bad people to give them a wake up call to stop being assholes.  Instead of being contributing members to society some people want to be degenerates (and I'm not talking about myself being a degenerate.)"}
{"id": "t3_445py8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf(21) broke up with me (m20) 3 days ago. We finally talked about how getting back together would work out.", "post": "Basically, one of the reasons we broke up was she felt I wasn't maturing along with her. I am in college and have been putting off getting a job. We live 2 hours and 30 minutes away, and I was worried we wouldn't get to see each other. I realize now that's extremely stupid and we need to plan for our futures if we want a good one together. \n\nShe said she needs to see I've matured and am serious. She also says I need to do it for myself and not for her. I absolutely want to better myself but in the long run, I need her back and it's one of my motivators for this. How can I go about doing this? How do I prove to her I've grown up (besides getting a job) and not make it seem like I'm just doing it to get her? Any advice is welcome.", "summary": "Gf broke up with me, and if I want to get back together I have to prove I've grown up and am serious about my future."}
{"id": "t3_297ruw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being late", "post": "Background is I live in New Zealand so while you lucky people are enjoying freedom (only that New Zealand is the most \"free\" country) we are stuck in school slaving to teachers.\n\nSo I was late as per usual, lazily walking into school to get a class permit (which is given to repeat late offenders like I) and who should come round the corner, only the top asshat dean of the school, let's call him Mr A. So Mr A was like \"oh hey [Pebblezcrwd] internal detention\" so I aptly reply in stupidness \"that's cool\" and off he goes. (Mr A) \"This is serious, you have been late 30 times in the last term\" (me) \"my record is 40 so its not that great of a deal\" (Mr A) \"so I will take you out if your classes today\" (me) \"you can't do that\" (Mr A) \"yes I can\" (me) \"I dont disrupt classes so you can't, its in the school rules\" (well its like a law student vs a lawyer, lawyer will always win) (Mr A) \"I can take you out of class for disorderly conduct\" (Me) \"that's cool\". So from here on Mr Asshole flips his table and his tables tables and attempts to stand me down for disorderly conduct and being rude to a dean and then walks out. The dean of my year then comes in and tells me \"he's going through a rough patch in his life\" and let's me go to form class. So this whole morning shrunk my time on reddit before school from 20 minutes to 0. I walked past him later today and he gave me that death look, so I just smiled at him and told myself how I should not pull the fingers at him while he's watching. Pretty sure he hates me now. Probably not a good thing because he writes my school report.", "summary": "Was late, was sarcastic to a head dean and now he hates me. Gonna have a great rest of year"}
{"id": "t3_4iwmdu", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Grandmothers 6 Y/O shih tzu peeing everywhere", "post": "Short backstory:\nMy grandparents live in a 2 story town home, but they trained their dog on potty pads in the house instead of training her outside, so she doesn't get out much and isn't very stripped from her routine. As of February, my grandfather passed and everyone is going through a rough time, and I think the dog is as well. My grandmother every night before bed went upstairs to sleep, but she can not bear sleeping in the bed without my grandfather so she has been sleeping downstairs on the couch ever since. My grandmother also leaves the house a lot more now than she used to, and we recently started packing up furniture to start moving her closer to us.\n\nThe problem:\nThe dog (Sadie) keeps peeing all over the floors and not on her potty pads that are in certain spots in the house (2 spots downstairs, 1 upstairs.) she often pees in front of the staircase, sometimes poops. Well now my grandmother is staying at our house for the weekend while she moves, and now the dog is peeing all over my kitchen floor. She scolds the dog whenever it happens, but nothing changes. My grandma is getting sick and tired of this, and doesn't want to get rid of the dog but she can't take it anymore. What steps do we need to take in order to fix the dogs potty problem? Is it a way of grieving? Is it out of spite for changing her routine?", "summary": "my grandpa passed away and the dog is being stripped from her routine, resulting in potty problems. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_hes05", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not good at picking up on text flirting. Need some help...", "post": "I was texting this girl a couple days ago and she was saying things which I'm pretty sure was flirty but I'm no expert. We're both sophomores in college btw. Both 20.\n\nI was kind of teasing her about plotting something behind her parents back and being secretive. I asked her if she had any other secrets I should know about and this is what she said: \n\"Another day...I dont want to give away too much at once ...haha! But theres a lot about me that would surprise you! ;)\" \n\nNow this really caught me off guard because I was not expecting this from her. She always seemed kind of shy and reserved. I didn't really expect her to be that good at flirting. Its kind of exciting really because I was afraid she might be a little too bland. \n\nSo is this as flirty as I think it is? Or am I just wanting it to sound like something its not?", "summary": "Not sure if the above is flirty or not. Need some advice."}
{"id": "t3_uxf1o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a book from my teen years, maybe reddit can help?", "post": "I don't remember a whole lot about it, (obviously, or I wouldn't be looking for it). It's along the lines of a Christopher Pike novel, but I know for certain it's not his. \n\nTo start, the cover had a teenage girl, with her face blurred, possibly a hand to her face, what seems like a wooded background, trees, bushes, but still suburban. The only main plot points I can remember are the beginning::  typical twins-separated-at-birth-neither-knew thing. one twin gets murdered, face blown off by a shotgun as she answers the door. Completely unrecognizable. Other twin flies to place (California maybe? Alive twin was in European country)  twin that's still alive takes over dead twin's life, down to mannerisms, friends, whatnot. I remember a gazebo in the yard being a major plot focus, a motorcycle driving by, waiting at the gazebo, and a palm pilot in a hidden desk drawer with an alarm that goes off at a certain time every day. \n\nThat's all I can remember. It was the first in an either two or three part series and it's been bugging me for 10+ years that I cannot remember the title or author or anything. Maybe someone else has read it. I picked it up when I was maybe 13, and I think it was printed in early 90's, but definitely not sure. If anyone has any leads, they would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "young adult book, twins, one killed, motorcycle, gazebo, secret desk drawer, palm pilot, alarm, first in a series."}
{"id": "t3_3l4bjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling like my depression makes me [25/F] a terrible wife to my wonderful husband [25 M/]. Advice?", "post": "I've been with my husband since ninth grade (almost eleven years). I have always suffered from chronic depression and he has always been an unwavering support for me during the tough times. He is so kind about it but I feel insanely guilty that he has to deal with it constantly. I have constant panic attacks and mood swings and I haven't been able to control it at all recently. He is a saint. The least I could do is give him some good sex. \n\nUnfortunately, my sex drive is at an all time low. I don't want it at all and I honestly feel like I don't need it ever. I've switched medications in an attempt to revive it but I fear that I'll never get it back at this point. He is so patient about it but I fear that he'll start to think I'm not attracted to him or I don't love him. And mostly I fear that I'm depriving him of sex, which is terrible! He is probably incredibly stressed out about my problems and he needs an outlet that I can't provide right now. I feel like the worst wife ever :(\n\nI want to be able to show him how much I love him and how much I appreciate all of his help. I just started seeing a psychiatrist in the hopes that she'll be able to help me with it. The medications make me robotic but without them I'm constantly on the verge of insanity. \n\nI know he says he doesn't mind but I feel so guilty and selfish. He has to work around my problems all the time. He doesn't deserve that and I don't really know how to proceed. \n\nHas anyone else been through this? Have you been able to overcome the lacking sex drive that comes with depression and antidepressants? How can I improve my sex drive? How can I show my appreciation in other ways?", "summary": "Looking for ways to overcome the severely lacking sex drive that accompanies depression and antidepressants. How can I improve my sex drive? How can I show my husband I care in other ways?"}
{"id": "t3_18hd2s", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Question about seasoning balance in corn tortillas.", "post": "Hope this is OK in this sub.\n\nBeen doing a bit of experimenting this winter with pork shoulder. I enjoy making Mexican-style (or maybe Tex-Mex?) dinners with soft corn tortillas. I am certain there's a more proper name for this dish, and I am sorry I am not paying it proper respect by not having a better vocabulary for it.\n\nMy ingredients are typically as follows: slow roasted Boston Butt, shredded with fork, radishes (sometimes lightly pickled), fresh jalape\u00f1o sliced, fresh cilantro, sometimes guac, and red onion, usually fresh, sometimes lightly pickled, and a hot sauce, typically Crystal or Texas Pete's. I usually use two tortillas to make a serving, and add in a variety of toppings.\n\nAt any rate, my issue is that the tortillas are typically made with no or very little salt. These tortillas are typically so bland that to my palette (and my wife's), the balance of the entire dish is thrown off. The pork typically is awesome by itself, and is great with condiments that cut the fatty richness. But put them on those tortillas..\n\nI've tried with a variety of widely available tortillas. Tonight with Mission yellow corn tortillas. Same blandness. Tonight, I put a bit of grey salt on the table to be lightly sprinkled on top of the meat a la how Pot au Feu was served to me in Paris. No dice. I still felt the entire dish was off balance.\n\nThe reason I am making an issue of this is because I've never noticed this at the many Mexican restaurants where I've had this dish, from whom I've drawn inspiration for my own kitchen hackery. Maybe they typically make their own tortillas and add salt, whereas salt is not typically added in commercial preparations. I don't know. Maybe they over-season all the components such that the entire dish is in balance.\n\nAnyone have any experience/expertise in this area you can share with me?", "summary": "how do I make bland corn tortillas not make my whole dish suck?"}
{"id": "t3_3pxrc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M] have recently entered a long term relationship and am worried my SO[F] is cheating", "post": "I am in the military and have been posted several hours away from my SO for training. Very soon after I left my girlfriend has been talking to me less. She said we should talk everyday and I was only able to get on the phone with her twice.\n\n Then she told me she was staying at a hotel with some friends and that one of them was a guy and asked if I was okay with that. I didn't want to be one of those guys who tries to control their SO so I said I was fine.\n\n I've been paranoid about cheating because it's happened to me before so I texted one of the friends she said she was staying with and she told me that she wasn't going with her and that it was just my SO and this guy. So now I'm terrified that I'm going to lose another to cheating I'm not sure what to do", "summary": "I'm scared my SO is cheating"}
{"id": "t3_38itrp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my ten year old son and his two friends to see porn.", "post": "Okay so this actually happened five years ago and it was my mom who screwed up, but I'm telling the story.\n\nWhen Piranha 3D came out my two friends and I pestered my mom to go see the movie. She watched the trailer and found it acceptable. \n\nSo we go to the theaters and my friends and I run to the theater entrance where a security guard stops us from entering. My mother eventually catches up and is told this is a rated R movie. She says it's fine and we enter. Due to the trailers, she and my friends and I thought it was just a new Jaws. Just blood and gore. \n\nLittle did she know, the movie was full of nude ladies and a very very explicit lesbian scene. At this point she was embarrassed as heck. The security guard and all the others in the theater must have thought of her as a horrible mother. \n\nWe leave the theater and my mom rushes us to the car as fast as we can. She bribes my friends into not telling their parents by buying us all McDonald's.", "summary": "My mom took me and my two friends to see Piranha 3D because she didn't know about the countless nude scenes."}
{"id": "t3_2kt4pw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17 M]and have a crush on this girl [17 F], but we don't have any lessons together, so we don't see each other much. When we do, it's just awkward.", "post": "So there is this new girl in my year that started a couple of months ago, and we DID have a few lessons together, at the start of term. WE really hit it off, but she later found the subject too demanding and she switched subjects.\n\nI then didn't see her for a while, but I messaged her on Facebook and had a conversation with her and, again, she seemed really into me. However after that conversation, I haven't talked to her because we no longer share the same lessons and when I do see her around, I get really nervous and just smile and move along.\n\nIt can also be awkward as she might be talking to someone else (her friends etc) and I don't know them well enough to but in and talk to her/them.\n\nThere are also a couple of guys that are much more forward than me, and just go up to her and start talking. It also doesn't help that they have the same classes as her, so they can talk about subject-related things etf.\n\nHow should I proceed in talking/ getting to know her? I am really finding it difficult to just go and say *Hi, how are you?*, after all of the awkwardness. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I like this girl, but we don't see each other much. When we do it is just an awkward smile and I can never pluck up the courage to talk to her and I do not know what to say."}
{"id": "t3_2zo30q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting into an accident 3 days after getting my license.", "post": "So, this happened a few hours ago. I'm still a bit shaken from it. \nI just took my driving test a few days ago and got my license. I'm 18 right now. So I thought I would drive to downtown with a friend. I borrowed my sister's car and took my friend downtown as planned. On the way back, I was about to make a left turn. I didn't notice that there was a car coming from behind at full speed and it crashed into our car. \nI quickly pulled over my car and looked at the damage done. My sister's car had some pretty bad dents on the driver's front side. Same with the other guys car, but his damage was on the passenger's side. I traded insurance information with the guy and he called the cops ( I'm not sure if that was necessary since I already complied and was cooperative). \nThe guy claimed that his car was not drivable anymore and needed a rental car. A tow truck was called and towed away his car. I called my sister and she drove over with aunt to where I was. By this time the police officer had already written up a citation against me. My sister also yelled at me for a while. She was afraid to drive her car home because she didn't know how much damage was actually done to it. So we parked the car in an empty lot and came back home in our aunt's car. My friend's parents came to pick her up. \nI'm so mad at myself. My sister trusted me with her car and I crashed it on the third day of getting my license. Her insurance will probably go up now as well. She never had an accident before this. And I have to go to court for the citation and I have no idea what to expect there. Today was just a terrible day.", "summary": "Crashed my sister's car on the third day of getting a license. Got in a whole lot of trouble."}
{"id": "t3_att8u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Dear reddit, what constitutes emotional cheating? She's spending hours on the phone with her ex...", "post": "Just put it all together tonight after consulting my online cellular bills.  This phone call nonsense has been going on for at least 6 months... totally behind my back.\n\nshe's spending hours on the phone with her ex, but her ex's phone number is stored as a different person's name in the cell phone.\n\nSome other info:\n* we've been engaged for a year and dating for 3.\n* few months back i found a pic of him stashed away in a strange place in the house.\n* they broke up after several years when she woke up in the same room to find him being felated by her underage cousin.\n* he lives several states away, phonecalls to him peak when she's in that same state -- presumably visiting her family.\n\nWe've had problems for about a year & no relations for 6 months, but prior to that we were the very best friends.  I've done my best to ask her to discuss what her thoughts are on the condition between us.  At this point I think I need to be prepared to move on.  What are your thoughts?", "summary": "i caught her txting & calling the ex, but i had to snoop to do it.  how does this play out?"}
{"id": "t3_40fh6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 3 months, I am concerned about the way he treats his cat. Please help.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying that my boyfriend has never gotten mad at me, raised a hand at me, or threatened me in any way whatsoever. When it comes to me, he is the gentlest, kindest person I know. However....\n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He got his cat from the humane society when we first started dating. This cat is a senior (14 years) and has some medical issues (hyperthyroid) that require daily doses of medication. For the most part, he loves the cat. However, when he gets annoyed or angry at the cat, his behavior turns semi-violent. I have seen him aggressively scruff the cat, yell in his face, and even toss him across the room a couple times. I'm pretty sure I once saw him choke the cat for a second as well. This all concerns me greatly. He seems to think he can discipline the cat as if it is a dog (he has never owned a cat before, only dogs.) He doesn't understand that cats are different. I have seen the cat shy away from him on multiple occasions. He handles the cat roughly (claiming he's just \"playing\") and then gets angry and wonders why the cat tries to bite/claw him.\n\nI am not sure how to bring this up to him. He sees nothing wrong with his behavior, but I believe there is absolutely no way to justify abusing an animal like he is. How do I make him see that what he does is wrong? Please help, this is really getting out of control and I'm afraid what might happen to the cat if it goes on.", "summary": "boyfriend borderline abuses his cat when he gets angry/annoyed. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_reg6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my boyfriend is gay- I really don't know what to do.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 22 and have been dating for about three years and currently live together.\n\nMy boyfriend and I went to a party Saturday night. He seemed distant, odd and anxious. Before we went out he was home with his best friend and there was a strange tensions (as usual). I didn't want to say anything because he gets very sensitive. After we came home from the party I knew I had to ask him what's up. I told him I knew something was off and I felt like he has something on his chest he is not telling me about. I don't remember how it happened but he ended up telling me he's attracted to men. He told me that he loves me and thinks I am beautiful and that he needs to be in this relationship with me. He said it was a shame that I was so beautiful and I deserve the best (i.e. he can't be as attracted to me as I deserve). He said he was in-love with his best friend but he is straight so there's not chance.\n\nThere have been other instances. At his staff party one man at his work (who is gay) asked me who I was there with and I said \"oh I am here with ____\" and he replied \"Oh gay ____!?\" I said... he's not gay he's my boyfriend.\" I have caught him eyeing other guys and he's denied it. \n\nAt this point he denies everything he told me. I don't know what to do. I know he really loves me and cares about me. I am sure he's been inlove with me at some point. We have a great sex life, he is amazing in bed. I know he's been unhappy for some reason and maybe this is why? I asked if he wants an open relationship so he can experiment and see if this is what he wants but, he says no he wants me. I don't know if it's because he's scared but, he knows I will support him through whatever even if it hurts me. Maybe he is bi? I can't come to any conclusion since he is denying everything he said at this point.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is gay & in denial and I am crushed. Some advice please!"}
{"id": "t3_3daoef", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: reached the last notch in my belt", "post": "NSV: reached the last notch in my belt\n\nAs opposed to the first one, which is where I started four months ago. I don't weigh myself (I can't take the aggravation: I prefer sheer physical change even though it takes longer) but when I started my clothes were all super tight and I was on the first notch of my belt, and even that felt tight. \n\nThis morning I put my work clothes on (I'm a Business analyst, and I have to wear collar and slacks/dress shoes every day) and everything fit baggy, to the point my pants felt like they were sliding off. I then put on my 'fat' belt and to my surprise I was able to tighten it all the way to the end. And it's not even that tight.", "summary": "Fat guy loses weight and his clothes fit, and his belt can now be buckled on the last notch."}
{"id": "t3_2z9em0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 f] boyfriend's [27 m] laugh annoys the shit out of me.", "post": "The title is pretty self explanatory. We have been together for about 18 months now and I am damn near losing my mind. He's a great guy and easily the best person I've ever dated, but his laugh makes me want to tear my hair out. It also doesn't help that he laughs after nearly everything he or anyone else says. It's the same every time, a short but extremely loud, \"ah-huh-huh-huh.\" He literally sounds like a cartoon character. \n\nI don't want to tell him that his laugh is annoying, because you can't really control that very well and that's a hurtful thing to hear, but at the same time I am afraid I'll accidentally rage strangle him next time someone tells a joke.", "summary": "boyfriend's laugh annoys me. I love him and want to know how to bring this up/get over it."}
{"id": "t3_wwf3s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need help.", "post": "So I started a diet a month after the birth of my second son, two weeks after moving to (yet another) new Army base.  And I was doing so good - down almost 20 lbs in 6 weeks.  But lately, my husband has been working crazy hours, like he was at work yesterday from 5am to 2am, and he's not home yet today, nor do I expect him before I go to bed.  This leaves me alone with a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old, from their 5am wake up to their 7:30-8:00pm bedtime, all day every day. I'm starting to make a few friends in this town, but I don't want to pester them constantly and come off like some sort of stalker girl, so I try not to call them constantly. Taking the boys out somewhere by myself is more stressful than staying home, but my house is a mess of toys no matter how often I pick them up.  Also, it smells like diapers and milk, but it's too hot here in the south to even contemplate opening the windows to air it out.   Tonight, lonely and stressed and sad, I binged on 1/2 a jar of peanut butter (eaten off a spoon) and a bottle of wine.  Now I'm tipsy, feeling sick from all the peanut butter and sorry for myself.  I hate my life, but I feel guilty for even thinking that - I have two healthy children, a husband who makes enough money that I can stay home with them, a nice house in a great suburb, friends all across the country, etc.  I'm living the suburban dream; why am I so miserable?  And what can I do to avoid these binges in the future?", "summary": "Life is great, but I feel miserable.  Binged on peanut butter and wine.  Contemplating quitting diet since apparently I suck at everything."}
{"id": "t3_s98w3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst excuse your boss has given you for firing you?", "post": "Title says it all really. I just got fired from my casual job today. I went in to cover a friends shift. My manager had asked me to come in 15 minutes early so she could have a chat to me before our managers meeting. (I am a supervisor)\n\nI get in there and she lets me know im not wanted because she feels \"I'm not committed to the company because if I were to get a full time job teaching I would leave straight away.\"  I asked her about my form and ability at work and if there were any complaints about me, and she could not give me any, and said i am great when im at work, and am very friendly. \nShe said it wasnt personal either. I told her that her reasons for firing me were completely weak. She then told me she can pay me for the hour of being in at work as i was meant to be working, but not for the 3 hours i am entitled to by law. I told her to shove it (essentially) and that i expect my full payment for my shift.\n\nAlso:I just finished uni, and graduated as a primary teacher, and was working at a bowling alley/Bar", "summary": "Boss fired me as a casual for \"possibly getting a full time teaching job and leaving the company then\""}
{"id": "t3_nqjo7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone else had their Christmas ruined today?", "post": "So, as I said, my Christmas is ruined already.  \n\nShort story of me:  I'm 21.  I live at home with my parents, don't ask for anything, make my own food.  I go to college and have a semester left until I graduate.  I don't have a job at the moment because I was told by my mom to worry about the last year of college and not about work.\n\nWoke up like normal; today we decided to open gifts later in the day since my dad is working an odd shift at the plant he works at (he is one of the few workers there to keep everything running over the holiday break, but gets paid triple plus holiday bonus for it).  \n\nAbout halfway through the day, my sister (19) decides to throw a fit because she can.  A little backstory to my sister: over the past few years she's pretended she's going to kill herself multiple times; one of these times she screamed it, her next door neighbor called the cops (because he was sick of this 'woe is me' shit from her) who then rushed her to the hospital for the psychiatric hold for it two years ago (right before Thanksgiving and she was FORCED, by the hospital, to stay until Christmas).  She also likes jumping from guy to guy, and by jumping I mean fucking them so she gets what she wants and pretends her life is so bad to them that they basically treat our family like trash most of the time.\n\nIN WALKS MY BROTHER.  Short story about my brother:  He's failed out of community college.  Twice.  He's 24, lives at home, and is a selfish prick.  Problem is, my parents don't do a thing about him.\n\nSo it all comes down to the fact I'm basically at fault for my sister throwing a fit like she always does and my brother jumping in taking her side when he has no clue what's going on.  Then my mother basically flips out saying christmas is ruined, starts tearing down the tree, and basically says all the stuff is being returned to the store.  Also, remember that nothing was even opened.", "summary": "My sister's a selfish cunt who throws fits and storms out if she doesn't get her way.  My brother is just as selfish but is a complete lazy fuckwad who would rather work a minimum wage job and constantly ask my parents for gas money and food money because he wastes all of his buying shit he can't afford that he buys all the time.  They decide to throw a shitstorm fit for no reason, and I get laid with the blame for doing literally nothing wrong."}
{"id": "t3_13e290", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smacking the singer of a band in the face with her own mic.", "post": "So I was playing a show with a couple of other pop artists. This one artist; absolute beauty in every way. She play's the piano and from the start was having issues with her keyboard. Her sustain pedal then gave out, she finished her first song and got up and grabbed mine. \n\nKeyboard sustain pedals have a positive/negative switch. Some manufacturer's use the negative other's use the positive. If the switch is in the incorrect position the sustain switch will act opposite to how you want it to. Mine was set to positive, she needed negative but didn't realize.\n\nShe jumps back on the keyboard and starts playing. There is so much with her full band going on the piano already gets lost but from seeing her before it didn't sound right. My buddy just looks at me. I run up to the stage. I feel something tap my shoulder, and it happens again, and then I look up and we make direct eye contact. (I am already really shy to unknown people, and to make direct eye contact like that I panicked hard) While she's playing and trying to sing the entire time I keep on smacking her while trying to fix the pedal.  \n\nI make the successful switch on the pedal and the show goes on. However she was so upset with how the show was going, she played a couple more songs said something to the guitarist and just got up and left.", "summary": "Singer's gear wasn't working, I tried to fix it and ended up smacking her in the mouth with her own mic."}
{"id": "t3_245njt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Emotional blackmail and a baby. Me 22F him 22M her 19 (?) F", "post": "I guess length of relationship is for them, 2 1/2 years. I've been around for 6 months.\n\nOkay first I'm not 100% sure I'm in the right place for this.\n\nI have a friend. Robbie. Me and Robbie adore eachother and want to be together. He has a ex gf, Megan, who is pregnant with his child.\n\nThey broke up, and she says if he's with me he can't see his child. Which is tearing him apart. Now she's continuing with it. If he doesn't get back with her she'll fight him for full custody.\n\nMe and Robbie were meant for eachother, I swear. We get along so well and run right along the same lines of interests and what we want out of life.\n\nRobbie and Megan do not at all. Niether of them love the other.\n\nI don't care what you say Megan doesn't love him if she's going to pull this crap.\n\nAnd he doesn't love her. I know more about him and his past than she does.\n\nWhat can I do? There has to be some way to fix this... he has to have some way...\n\nHe hates it.. she's making him choose between me and his son... it's horrible and I want to help him.. I want to fix it.\n\nThere has to be some way for this to work out so we can all be happy..\n\nIf you need more details, don't hesitate to ask.", "summary": "girl's trying to blackmail guy into being in a relationship with her.. using his unborn child."}
{"id": "t3_2esn09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (15f) and I (15m) just started going to different high schools, and barely see each other Now we both feel like the other is disinterested. Help?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I met a couple years ago and were always pretty good friends. we started dating about two years ago, but it was very on/off for 7 months, and we took a break. We started dating again almost 9 months ago. We've been really really happy and not like most teenage relationships. We really love each other. A month ago we both started going to different high schools, and its been hard. I dont know anyone at her school, and neither does she. Shes really gorgeous, so of course she attracts lots of guys and I also get hit on a lot. It makes the other person pretty protective. Theres no real problem with that, but we havent seen each other in weeks. And I feel like she's lost interest, and she feels the same about me. We feel like over text and phone, we dont talk much anymore, or the other person doesnt seem interested. We think the other doesnt feel as excited and passionate about the relationship. I am so in love with her. I adore everything about her, and she means so much to me. I cant stand the thought of not being with her. Shes my favorite thing in the world and I havent lost any interest. Does anyone know how to fix this? I want to make our relationship feel amazing and two sided again. Any help would be very appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Great relationship, In love,\tDifferent schools, both of us feel like relationship is one sided, I still love her, need ideas on how to fix it"}
{"id": "t3_3rxtd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 4 months, just broke up. Is there a chance in the future?", "post": "I'm in need of advice. First off, when I go into a relationship, I give my all. I try to stay strong and don't give up on something easily.\n\nSo, I recently had a break up with my girlfriend. Her parents got divorced and she took it really hard. I reassured her that I am there for her and we could get through this in time. Despite my best efforts, she ultimately decided that she wanted to be alone right now and deal with this herself. After hearing of the divorce, she lost all feelings for me. She wasn't affectionate. Before the divorce, everything was great. \n\nWe had a lot of common interests and never had a fight or conflict. Her family and friends liked me as well. She told me that I was the best boyfriend she's had. That I treated her very well. We got to the I love you stage before all this happened. But after the break up, my mind automatically starts searching for what I did wrong. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like there's nothing I did wrong. Do you think that her feelings for me could come back over time? Do you think we could get back together after some time has passed? What to do. What to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend's parents divorced and said she wanted to deal with it alone, so she ended our relationship. Chance of getting back together in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_381enf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) have had wedding fever for a year yet unsure if I want to marry my SO (24M).", "post": "A little background, my SO and I have been together for 3 years and moved in together 1 year ago. There have been ups and downs as with every relationship but for the most part we are a strong couple. We've talked about marriage before and our life plans fit together well. If he asked, I would say yes in a heartbeat. However, when I really think about it I wonder if this is the right decision for me. I'm so young and I wonder if I'll be someone drastically different 10 years from now, someone who would regret this. All of my friends are going to college and I'm working to help support us instead. I'm wondering if I'm missing out on clubbing or getting wasted or just plain being young. I'm afraid I'm not even mature enough to understand the reality of full blown marriage yet. I'm stuck between doing what feels right at this moment or putting it off for a while just to make sure I'm not making a mistake.", "summary": "I want to get married but I'm afraid it will prevent me from living life to the fullest."}
{"id": "t3_37qw7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if crush [24F] is being flirty after hooking up with me [32M] or is actually disinterested.", "post": "Last Friday I hooked up with a co-worker crush after going on about six \"dates.\" I say \"dates\" because they weren't officially dates, but it was always just the two of us, we went to a museum, dinner, movies, etc\u2026 \n\nAnyway, after dinner and a movie last weekend we went back to her place and hooked up, I spent the night and we both went out of town for the weekend after. When I got back we had a good playful/flirty text exchange, but then when I got to work on Tuesday it was definitely different. We would gchat a lot during the day, there was none of that (maybe just a busy week, I get it). In the middle of the week I asked her if she wanted to go get something to eat and she said she already had plans that night, but was still somewhat flirty in her responses. The next night on my way out I stopped by to talk to her and she was short. \n\nSo I figure she didn't enjoy our night together and decided to move on, or is she just setting some boundries in the office by ignoring me? I really want to ask her out again this weekend but I am so afraid she will reject me again and I don't know if can handle it. \n\nJust looking for advice and experience!", "summary": "office crush and I hooked up after half a dozen dates, now I am not sure if she is ignoring me or just keeping distance to set boundaries."}
{"id": "t3_1nlykc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my boyfriend [27 M] of a year, having some bedroom problems.", "post": "So it's been about a year with my boyfriend whom I've come to love quite greatly. He makes me extremely happy in most ever way and each day with him is really fulfilling.\n\nI wish I could say as much for the sex life.\n\nI'm uncertain if it's the fact he is 27 and I am 22, but his sex drive seems far lower than mine and pretty much has been from the get go. Furthermore, we don't have the same preferences whenever it comes to what actually goes on in the bedroom. I prefer to have 'actual' (read: anal) sex, whereas he would be okay with doing it absolutely never, focusing solely on 2nd and 3rd base. To top all of it off, I would describe his sexual prowess as 'mediocre' at best.\n\nNow, I've dealt with not having what I consider 'sex' for about the majority of the year, and I'm kind of getting fed up. I've expressed to him how this is disappointing to me and all I ever get is an 'I'm sorry'. I've asked how I can help him, but I always receive a 'Nothing' or 'I don't know'. I would perhaps press the matter further, but I seriously don't bother anymore because when we do do what I would like I find it really boring and generally off putting.\n\nI don't really want to turn this into an open relationship because I truly do only want him, I'm just so unsatisfied I don't know what to do.\n\nThanks so much for any advice :)", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't like butt sex and is bad at sex in general. Don't know what to do to make my sex life more satisfying or even how to include the things I want to do with the person I want it to be with."}
{"id": "t3_4kq3sr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] [kind-of] cheated on my boyfriend [20 M] and he just found out (we aren't dating anymore.) Do I owe him anything?", "post": "I was dating my boyfriend for three years and it was lacking the spark it had in the beginning. I met another guy while I was dating him at a party and I started texting him as friends. There was clearly a connection but nothing happened while I was dating my boyfriend. I broke up with him 2.5 months later because I finally realized it wasn't working out. I ended up talking to the guy I had met earlier about three months later and then we started dating (half a year after I broke up with my boyfriend.) He found out that I am dating him and now thinks that I was cheating the whole time. I tried to beat around the bush and say that I didn't meet him while we were dating because I was afraid he would jump to conclusions but I feel like that makes things worse if I try to explain the truth now. Do I owe him an explanation? Will it do any good or just make him more upset?", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend thinks I cheated on him and I need to fix things or ignore him completely."}
{"id": "t3_1guc65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[ME 23/m] am having trouble with my [21/F] girlfriend of 2 and a half years.", "post": "Ok I need some advice. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and a half years now. And have been living together for 2 years. At first things were great as they always are but now I'm just not sure. It started about 7 months ago when she really started getting mad at me more. It started out with her complaining I don't show enough affection which I can understand, but I've never been one to show affection well and it's always been that way. \n\nLately she gets mad at me at least once a day, and I'm just not happy right now. I know the obvious advice would be to express how I'm feeling but it's progressed to the point to where I'm always wrong. She will never admit defeat and if I were to say she was in the wrong the fighting would never end untill I admit. I'm just not sure what to do. She says she loves me and cannot wait to get married but then will complain about something I've just done and will get super mad literally In the same sentence. Always giving me back handed comments like \" you would never give me a compliment like that right?\" Like she wants me to say I don't love her. I don't know. \n\nThis has turned into quite the rant. Basically I'm not happy, but In all honesty I'm too nice or probably to much of a push over to really say how I feel or to change anything and really just need some advice.\n\nOh and the reason I've had enough and turned to reddit for help is because I am feeling very shitty as I'm sick right now. And I waited for her to get home to talk and visit before I took NyQuil, so after about 30 minutes I tell her ok well I really want to take some NyQuil I feel terrible. She gets mad and says I don't want to spend time with her. When literally last month she was feeling sick and just took NyQuil before I got home and just went to sleep and that's ok? I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I'm just not happy with my relationship anymore and I'm not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3bg0wh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28f) have a great connection with a woman (29f). Our friendship is not going anywhere, though. :(", "post": "We've known each other for years, through mutual friends. A few months ago, I asked her out for this event. We went together, it was great, we really had a good friendship spark. We went out for coffee a few weeks after that, and I could really get the feeling she was opening up to me and that she really did like me as a human/friend.\n\nHowever, the line has gone dead. We both have full time jobs and partners. I don't know how to not let this fizzle out and become just someone I went to \"coffee with a few times.\"\n\nWhat do I do? I don't want to be the one always inviting her out places if she isn't reciprocating. Should I text her? I don't know how to make myself into a part of her social world, and I really do get the feeling she likes me - but maybe she is very busy.", "summary": "Great connection. Line has been dead for a while. How to rekindle to keep that friendship going?"}
{"id": "t3_1wrjrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like my GF (20/F) is putting me (21/M) 2nd to her friends ALL the time. Am I being too selfish?", "post": "I understand that her friends should come before me, but is it wrong that I feel bad that she does it ALL the time? I feel like the only time I can see her is if I hang out with her freinds at the same time, if she can't hang out with her friends because they have nothing planned, or she is done hanging out with her friends and comes to my place at the end of the day. \n\nEvery time I ask her out, she will say, \"I'm going out with so-and-so. I'll let you know later\" but I've never heard her receive a call or text where she replies, \"With my boyfriend, so I'll let you know.\"\n\nMy feelings aren't hurt because I can understand that she wants to be with both me and her friends when she goes out, but it does bother me a little how she would rather be with her friends over being alone with me 100% of the time.", "summary": "I share my free time between my friends and my girlfriend all the time, but it seems like she doesn't do the same. Am I being selfish or over dramatic?"}
{"id": "t3_1c45co", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (24M) and I (21F) drink a 15-pack of beer every night. Is this not good?", "post": "My boyfriend (24M) buys a 15-pack of beer every night before he comes home from work. We usually finish it off together, I (21F) usually have 5 beers and he usually has 10. We have been together about a year and a half and we live together.\n\nHere's the thing. I don't even necessarily like to drink that much. My back has started hurting when I drink, I don't know why but it just hurts on the right side and I can't imagine that's a good thing. Even if my back didnt hurt, I cant imagine this is any good for you, but what do I know. Is this actually not good for you, or am I nuts?\n\nI would ideally like to live a more healthy life. I honestly love cooking healthy foods and exercising. I have no idea what Im doing with my life right now though. I grew up in the suburbs beside a train track and horses. I have dabbled a bit in drugs and stuff but nothing to the extent my boyfriend has. Thats like his whole life and friend group. They deal with some pretty heavy shit and I just really dont like being around people who are fucked up (Im not talking weed or booze either, this is beyond that).\n\nMy boyfriend literally thinks he could die anytime so he says \"FUCK IT!\" to basically any danger in life, but at the same time promises we'll be together forever and all that. But, I feel like the only way to stay close to him is to join him in all his escapades. When I don't, he just leaves. I don't even wanna talk about that.\n\nI guess I`m just looking for some support and advice on how to get through this. And saying \"just leave him\" is a lot easier said than done because most of the time (when he isn't drinking) he is very sweet and loving. When he drinks I find him to be like... obtuse, for lack of a better word. Honestly it just feels like everyone in my town is either an alcoholic or addicted to blow. I want a way out but I feel weak as fuck :(", "summary": "I don't know what to do about my boyfriend, I think he may have a problem with drinking and drugs. We have discussed going to an NA meeting, he says he will do it, but it just hasn't actually happened yet. I love him and I almost want to just drink or do drugs every day with him just to keep him by my side, but I also feel like that is no good for me. I'd like him to change but that's not something I can control. I need some help on how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_2dyynb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by touching a girls boobs", "post": "Just happened.\nI stay in boarding school for sports.\nFirst year have huge crush on a Asian-American senior girl in the same sports club as me.\nConfess after a long time.\nHad pissed her off along the way.\nShe says no, after being sad for awhile try again.\nStay friends for awhile.\nDrift apart, argue alot.\nShe HATES me.\nUsually after training we shake our coaches hands. We have 3.\nAs I finish shaking one coaches hand I leave it out and rotate my body.\nHand hits her boobs with a small thud.\nC Cups, not sure if they got bigger(she told me before we started fighting.).\nShe gets really pissed, mouths fucking creep and walks away.\nI stay stunned thinling holy shit what did I just do.\nNo one else notices. Carry on as usual.\nText her saying sorry, then wrote this.", "summary": "hit the boob of my crush who hates me, she's super pissed. Apologised."}
{"id": "t3_3p07y6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] haven't felt an \"immediate spark\" with the guy [23M] I'm casually dating.", "post": "I'll preface this by saying it's really hard to put what I'm feeling into words, but I'm going to do my best.\n\nI recently started causally dating a guy I met on tinder. We've had 5 or 6 dates so far spread out over probably a month now (vacations put actual dates on hold for a while). He's smart, funny, incredibly kind, cute and all around the exact type of guy I'd love to be with. The first date we just talked for 3 straight hours over cold coffee. \n\nWe text every day about random things and snapchat frequently. I do genuinely enjoy spending time with him, but I'm confused about my specific feelings. \n\nSo far, we've been moving at what feels to be a glacial pace to me. We didn't kiss until our 3rd date and we've made out but haven't done anything else.  Now this is my problem, I know, but usually I'm pretty quick to jump into bed (I know, I know). I really enjoy sex and have a pretty high sex drive. Taking things so slowly isn't the type of start to a relationship I'm used to. At all. Usually I feel an immediate sexual attraction and get all giddy and excited thinking about  a possible relationship. \n\nNot so much this time. I'm certainly attracted to him and I'm excited to see him and talk to him. But not to the extent I usually am. And when I think about sleeping with him, I get incredibly nervous (which is very unusual for me, I'm generally very confident when it comes to bedroom activities.) \n\nI think essentially without trying to, I've sort of friend zoned him. Is that something I can undo? \nI guess my question is, is it worth it to continue to see where it could go if I'm not 100% sure (maybe like 65% sure) I like him in a romantic way?", "summary": "Casually dating a guy who I'm not completely sure I like in a romantic way yet because the relationship is moving much slower than I'm used to.  Is it worth continuing?"}
{"id": "t3_3dakbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] met a girl [21 F] a couple weeks ago at a work function and she seemed cool, so we went to lunch and hit it off, but she lives with her ex.", "post": "Early in June my workplace had a social event for employees, and I met a pretty girl from another department who seems like the kind of partner I'm looking for. Interested to learn more about one another, we went out to lunch recently.\n\n\u00a0\n\nAt lunch we talked about where we're from, our work, and our hobbies. We got along really well, but what struck me as odd is that she lives in an apartment with her ex-BF. I don't know any details since I didn't want to push the topic on our first meeting. But it seems like a big red flag to me.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI haven't been in a \"first-date\" scenario in a long time, and I've never encountered this situation before, nor known a friend in this situation. Do any of you have some experience to share to help me figure out if this is a relationship worth pursuing?\n\n\u00a0\n\nI'd definitely want to know how long they were together, how long ago & why they broke up, and the reason they're still living together. I'd understand a little better if they were older and more established with their job and household, when it was harder to pick up and move, but they're both young and in school. I know her family lives in town as well.\n\n\u00a0\n\nIf she doesn't care about living with her ex, my fear is that it may mean she doesn't value relationships or invest herself in them as much as I do. Then again, maybe the breakup was recent and they haven't been able to move out yet.", "summary": "Met someone I'm interested in, but it turns out she's living with an ex. Does anyone with experience in this kind of situation have advice on whether this could ever work out?"}
{"id": "t3_pdool", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend is suicidal.", "post": "I'm 17 years old and she is 16. We have been together for 10 months now.\n\nThings haven't exactly been going great lately and it is indeed my fault. I broke promises that I clearly shouldn't have and it's taken a toll on her emotionally. \n\nThis is actually my first relationship, she's the first girl i've done anything with so I have literally no idea what to do. Last night she told me that she already attempted to kill herself, but stopped herself because of me. I called her that night, unknowing of all of this, and admitted that I had broken my promise to stop smoking marijuana.\n\nShe's now telling me that she regrets even stopping herself and she wishes she did it. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to kill herself."}
{"id": "t3_fdzuc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me earn money for a new computer", "post": "So here's the story: I have a rather old computer. How old you may ask? Well, it can't support over 512mb of RAM, it's has a 40GB HDD (Updateable, I know, but still), 1.4ghz processor... yeah, it stinks. For those who don't know how bad that is, I can't even run Firefox without it freezing.\n\nSo what to do? Well, I'm not a troll as you call it, I want to **earn** for it. So I would like to know if anybody needs a website built, which I do for pretty cheap since it's a hobby. It's very difficult for me to find people that need them though, so I figured I'd ask here. Perhaps you know somebody else that does?\n\nMind you I have this situation: No clients = No money = No portfolio = Few example web sites. Thus I really have only one to show, that being \n\nAnd for those who wonder, no I don't have any friends or family that would want one to help build the portfolio. They all have no reason for one.\n\nIf you want to suggest somebody on Twitter, my username is DavidA94 which I created for this reason.\n\nBTW, I've been trying to get a real job, but being under 18, and with few places around where I live, it is difficult.\n\nPlease upvote so more will see it. Also, I apologize if this kind of thing is depreciated. I don't post much here, I mainly read.", "summary": "Need to get a new computer, if you need a web site, or know somebody that needs one, let me know. Twitter @DavidA94"}
{"id": "t3_wdafa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Calculating Balance Transfer amounts", "post": "I looked around the internets and this subreddit and couldn't find the answer to this question anywhere...\n\nI want to figure out the maximum amount of balance I can transfer onto a new credit card, for a given percentage transfer fee. \n\nAn example situation:\nTransferring part of an existing high-APR high-balance onto a new card with 0 current balance, 10k limit, and a 0% intro APR, but with a 3% transfer fee. How much exactly is the maximum I could transfer onto the new card? \n\nIt's not 10k*(1-.3)=9700, because transferring in 9700 only incurs a $291 fee, making the balance only 9700+ 291 = 9991.\n\nI feel like \"calculus\" could be of use here, but I can't cast that at my current level of financial wizardry. Does anyone know how to do this calculation?\n\nAlso, I'd rather not get into the specifics of whether this move (transferring to a new intro APR) is smart or not, that has been discussed exhaustively elsewhere, let's assume for the sake of discussion it makes sense in our example scenario", "summary": "determine maximum amount of balance I can transfer onto a new credit card, for a given percentage transfer fee"}
{"id": "t3_3md5xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents [50M] and [48F] went through my [18M] stuff and took my condoms", "post": "I woke up this morning and searched through my drawer to discover that my condoms are missing. I know for a fact that they have to have taken them. I didn't misplace them, they were definitely in that drawer. I think my parents may intend to confront me about it or something. I have had a girlfriend for 2 months and I think they are worried she's not right for me or something. Maybe they're just not ready for the idea of me having sex.\n\nHas anyone else had a problem like this? I'm irritated that they would go through my stuff like that. I understand that this can be a difficult thing for parents, but they are way out of line. Please help me prepare a well-thought out response if they do confront me. Thanks.", "summary": "Parents went through my drawers and confiscated my condoms without my knowing. They probably intend to confront me later today. I want to know what's going through their minds and how I should react. "}
{"id": "t3_4cgam5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep", "post": "This happened this Easter's Eve. I was at my friend's place with him, and his girlfriend. It was getting late, naturally, I started to doze off. I woke up the next morning before them, and left. Around three o' clock that day I get a call from my friend. He started the conversation with, \"Some shit went down last night\". Which confused me. All we did was get a little high, and watched Goodfellas. What shit could have possibly gone down? He then tells me that he woke up to me \"sleep peeing\" on him, and his girl. He told me that he started to get really hot in his dream, he woke up to find the heat source to be my urine. As naturally as I dozed off he punched me in the stomach thinking that would wake me up. Instead of waking up I said, \"unlock it\", for some reason only the sleep gods know of, and continued to pee. After I finished relieving myself on my friend, his girlfriend, and their bed I walked to where I had passed out, and laid down to continue sleeping. I've always slept walked, and would occasionally sleep walk into my parents room. A handful of times I ended up sleep peeing in their closet, but it hasn't happened since I was around nine years old. This is by far the most embarrassing event in my life so far. For some reason that I'll never be able to wrap my mind around my friend, and his girl weren't mad, in fact they even invited me over the night after I had defiled them in my sleep, and theirs. I didn't accept their invitation due to the fact I won't be able to look them in the eyes for a while.", "summary": "I fell asleep at my friend and his girlfriend's place and ended up sleep walking over to their bed and proceed to \"sleep pee\" on them."}
{"id": "t3_3s0wye", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "AB, Canada: Advice with exemption for Ignition Interlock Program.", "post": "Got my first impaired a year ago and just finished taking the Planning Ahead course. This was absolutely the most informative and helpful thing to come by so far. The Ignition Interlock Program is mandatory for 12 months before getting my unrestricted license back. Now to my understanding I can apply for an exemption because I blew under .16. I've also heard that these exemptions are hard to come by unless you have some kind of medical condition, or other circumstances preventing the I.I.P from effectively doing its job. When I got my impaired I was able to keep my job. I'm a mechanic and have been working for the same dealer for 8 years. Accommodations have been made as I cannot test-drive, but who knows how long they will hold out for. This is pretty much the only reason I did not apply for the I.I.P. early after the first 3 months. I totally understand the purpose of the program and what it requires to complete it. So I'm going to try and write a letter to the board applying for an exemption from the program. I know that having references and any volunteer work related to the cause will support the exemption. So I guess I'm asking if anybody has had experience with writing this exemption letter, either successful or not, and any advice they can give me even for work.", "summary": "need help with i.i.p. exemption letter"}
{"id": "t3_27uejk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[F28] haven't heard from him[M27] , should I be worried?", "post": "We've been dating for two months, but only been on 6 dates.  He's a first year resident (doctor), who works 65+ hours a week. He lives an hour and half away. I'm a busy girl, as well. Long story short, we don't get to spend that much time together.\n\n I'm okay with that; I enjoy spending time with him and look forward to it, but I'm in no rush here. He doesn't seem to be either. Physically speaking, he hasn't tried to make a move. Don't get me wrong, we have madeout a couple of times and cuddled. He's very affectionate, but we haven't had sex.  Most of our dates have been outings, but he has planned most of them.\n\nWe talk quite a lot, he texts me almost everyday and calls at least once a week. \n\nThis past Sunday (which was his only day off in 12 days, he won't have another for 12 more days), he came up to visit me and we spend the whole day together. As far as I'm concerned it was a great day, he seemed to feel the same way. \n\nAfter he left, he texted me saying, \"Thanks again for a really fun, relaxing day! I would have stayed longer if I could. We'll figure out a time hangout again soon! Let me know when you've made it home safely.\"  I responded saying I also had fun day, thanked him for coming to visit and I looked forward to seeing him again. We said goodnight, and I haven't heard from him since.\n\nI'm starting to worry a little, as I'm used to hearing from him everyday. Should I be worried?", "summary": "Dating a busy guy for two months, he texts me everyday. We spent the day together Sunday, haven't heard from him since."}
{"id": "t3_hch7p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Now that Skype is Microsoft-owned, what to use now?", "post": "Now that Skype is a Microsoft product, what should we move onto? It's more than just \"it's Microsoft\" - I don't think the non-Windows versions of Skype will continue to be maintained very well in the future (Have you used the official MSN Messenger for Mac? You'll see what I mean.). In addition, it's never been open source, and it's security has never been shown, proven or properly inspected as it's just a black box.\n\nMy friends and I use Mumble a bit for voice chat, but is there a good alternative that:\n\n* preferably is open source (why not, if we can?)\n* supports all 3 platforms - Mac/Linux/Windows\n* supports multi-user voice/video chat\n* preferably a desktop app, not a web-based system\n\nCurrent alternatives:\n\n**Mumble**: does voice chat well, but it's more a TeamSpeak alternative than Skype\n\n**Google Talk**: Possible contender. Only works in the browser so far, doesn't seem to do multi-user chat. Also according to Google: \"Note: Voice and video chat has some known compatibility problems with Mac OS X v10.6 Snow Leopard\"... it's only been out for how long?\n\n**iChat**: Mac only\n\n**Facetime**: Mac/iOS only, no multi-user chat\n\n**Gizmo5**: bought by Google\n\n**Steam**: No linux support, client is horrible on OS X\n\n**Tinychat**: Flash, laggy.\n\nIs there a brilliant app that I've somehow missed?", "summary": "It's not just Microsoft, but what do we replace Skype with?"}
{"id": "t3_2r6lov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with a friend a really like [17 F] - I cannot masturbate and think about her (or any girl that I like)", "post": "Alright, it's kind of a weird question, I know. So in short, I really like this girl, she's everything you could want (attractive, musician, unbelievably friendly, dabbles in psychedelics) but she's dating my really good friend so I would never even attempt to pursue her. Anyways, she's out of my league, etc.\n\nThat's not really the issue here though. So everytime I've ever liked a girl, I've never been able to masturbate to them. All I feel is this sort of sad, longing feeling. Like I really want it but I can't have it. Here's the problem - I can't masturbate at all. This has happened before and it lasts months, which you can imagine is a huge problem. I can't think straight!", "summary": "Why can't I masturbate to girls that I like (even if they're super hot), but I have no problem thinking about other girls, even other friends?"}
{"id": "t3_49xmie", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22M] I can't flirt with women", "post": "I'm 22, virgin and have no experience with romance. I had a little girlfriend when I was 14 for about 3 months and that's it. Because I was really fat, while all my friends were having their first relationships with girls, I was getting fatter and playing video games.\n\nAbout 2 years ago, I lost over 100 pounds through surgery and thought \"well, maybe now I can start having some relationships\". Problem is, since I have basically no previous experience, I can't even flirt with women. If I'm talking to a woman, I keep the conversation casual and non-intimate.\n\nI don't really know how to flirt. I don't know at what point during the conversation I hint that I may be attracted to her, or even how to do it, what to say. Everytime I try to make that step, the little guy in my brain hits the big red PANIC BUTTON and I freeze, start to sweat like a pig, start shaking and have to excuse myself to somewhere else.\n\nIs there anything I can do to stop that? Thanks!", "summary": "I have no experience with flirting and panic everytime I try."}
{"id": "t3_1xuh69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] Mom [50F] relationship has changed completely. So much so, that I'm close to being kicked out.", "post": "This is on my phone so forgive me, but I really DONT know where to turn.\n\nMy parents went through a really messy divorce that was finally finalised on New Years Eve and started back in 2010. She then met a new partner who, at the start, was friendly, forward, kind, etc. However, that soon changed after he moved in properly, he recently spent \u00a310,000 on a new kitchen and redid the garden, I tried to do that stuff - but I'm not practical.\n\nNow, I'm trying to save money for my own place, with my partner but its going to take 10 months of saving to get there and Shes making it tougher and tougher. She used to be so cool and relaxed, I could have friends round, I'd come back at all hours of the night from nights out with friends.\n\nI can still do that stuff, but now she has started stipulating, \"one night a week, your girlfriend can stop round.\". Etc. Which I DONT mind and I'll do it to please her, but its the sudden changes that's baffling me.\n\nNow she wants me to stop somewhere else for the whole weekend, so she can spend some quality time with her partner, I've got nowhere to go, I'm severely allergic to animals and all my friends and relatives have them. I DONT know what to do. The only money I have is my savings for a house, I don't wanna use that because its defeating the point and I'm gonna be stuck in this rut for longer.\n\nI barely eat any of the food they buy, I pay well over what I think I should be paying for board and everything I get asked to do, I do it. I don't encroach their space, I just stay in my room and play games so that I DONT annoy them. I've gotta get out sooner, but if I rent its dead money and its going to take me even longer to save up. \n\nI don't know what else to do.", "summary": "Dynamics of my relationship with my mom has changed and I'm close to being homeless."}
{"id": "t3_2r19db", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself [22] breaking up with bf [25] of 5 years.", "post": "Sorry if this is shitty, I have to write it on my phone. Basically, I've never done anything like this before.\n\nI love my boyfriend very much, but over the years I've noticed a bad trend of insecurity. Over the last year he has told me multiple times that he would probably kill himself if I left him. He constantly cries now and, more or less, needs me to be attached to him at all times. He's passive aggressive, won't talk to me about his problems, and I basically feel like I'm being punished at every turn. He is so possessive I can't text or look at something without him asking me about it, I'm typing this now so he doesn't ask me about it on my computer. He told me he trusts me completely because when he thinks I'm cheating he knows I can't because of my medical issues. Honestly, I'm not attracted to his personality anymore and I've grown into an entirely different person since I was 17.\n\nThe big things that changed this year for a frame of reference are as of October, I've had to stop sleeping with him because of severe medical issues that I can't take care of until I get insurance. The second largest thing that happened this year was I started working full time. I think both of these things of had a toll of him. \n\nSorry this is all I can write, off the top of my head. Honestly, am I in the wrong here? Should I just stay with him even if I'm not happy. Everybody keeps telling me this is my fault and I should try to work it out, like an adult. I'm not sure what I should do?", "summary": "I think I want to leave my boyfriend and I'm not sure if I'm just being stupid."}
{"id": "t3_3tb24g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] like her [19 F] and she likes me but she thinks about breaking up with her BF for \"us\"...", "post": "Hi, I'm Dwight and I am going to college atm... I met a girl in my year (different major) at day one of year one and today (halfway year 2) she confessed she likes me, and I like her.\n\nI never had a GF (I know 19y and still?) but she is still in a relationship with her BF. She says she's unhappy in it etc...\nAnd she brought up the topic of breaking up...\n\nI'm kinda scared, I am friends with him (trough her, we game together in a clique) and I don't wanna be that dude that \"steals yo girl\"... I don't want to anger him...\n\nShould I suggest not to breakup (since I have no experience so she might be overestimating what could be) or suggest not to breakup because every relationship has up and downs so she should talk to her BF...\n\nMaybe I shouldn't just let her \"hop\" from him to me...\nSorry Reddit I'm new and kinda scared... I don't want to lose HIM but more-so don't want to lose her because I was not what she expected, her friendship is one of the biggest reasons I like college...", "summary": "She likes me, I like her, she has Bf, wants to \"hop\", don't know if I should just let her... (scared for consequences)"}
{"id": "t3_39i91f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [23F] is threatening to leave me if I don't help her pay off her student loan debt.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for just shy of 7 years now. We've gotten very serious and own a home together, have just graduated post-secondary, and are looking to start our lives now. I have 0 student loan debt. My dad works at our university so I got three classes for free per year, and then my parents covered the cost of the rest. My girlfriend wasn't so lucky, and is currently sitting at roughly $45,000 in debt just after graduation.\n\nShe is threatening to break up with me if I don't help her pay it off. I think its not reasonable at all. She's basically demanding me to take on $22,500 worth of debt for no reason at all and no fault of my own. She says that at this point in the relationship we should share our finances, but isn't that kind of convenient right when she's getting huge bills? I thought our relationship was worth more than money? It feels like she's using me just to get her loan paid off.\n\nWhat do I do reddit? It feels like I'm betting on what's more valuable, $22,500 or my girlfriend, and that's not right.", "summary": "I have no student loan debt but my girlfriend has $45,000. She is threatening to leave me if I don't help pay it off."}
{"id": "t3_2aw7ld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my husband [32M] of 6 months (dated 4 years, close friends for 10), he is going to kill himself because he is an idiot and everyone is encouraging him. How do I stop him?", "post": "Over the past 6 months or so, he has been working out a bit more. Maybe from 5-6hrs per week to 14hrs per week. I asked him why. He said he wants to climb the mountain K2.\n\nUhh, 25% of people that try to climb it die doing so. He claims it will be ok because he climbed a mountain called K5 6 years ago. But he isn't in his 20s anymore, is in worse physical condition, and the one he climbed isnt as dangerous.\n\nAll his friends, family, etc are telling him it is a great idea. WTF? They're trying to get him killed. But he seems set on this. How do I get him not to? Threaten divorce?", "summary": "Husband wants to commit sudoku, how do I get him to not do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2k23ri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother[19] has an unbelievably jealous girlfriend[19] who is now his only friend.", "post": "My brother Tim (fakename) and his gf Jill (likewise) have been dating for a little over a year now and things have been steadily getting worse for them both.  \n\nFirstly: they seem to be bad for each other. 1 in 4 times I hear them talking she's crying her eyes out about how he is \"always\" doing this or \"always\" doing that, arguing about past mistakes and taking things out of context. She lies about past promises he made to get her way (and he doesn't argue with her) and tries to manipulate him. I could (and can) provide tons of examples but I'm on mobile right now and can follow up later if anyone's interested.\n\nTim seems to love her very much despite all of this. He drives nearly 100 extra miles a day to bring her to and from college, (despite her having a working car) buys her food every day, and even helps her financially because she has a bad homelife and a deadbeat mom. (Who has punched him in the face, but that's another story.) I don't know if it's because she's scared of losing all of this, but she won't allow him to hang out with anyone, not even me. I called him on the phone yesterday wondering when he'd be home (we had plans) and Jill exploded all over him, demanding to know if he was going to \"ditch\" her to hang with me...\n\nSo that prompted me to come to you guys. I've got to talk to Tim about this and I don't know what to say. She's driven away every one of his friends(and is trying to drive away me), he's spending money on her that he should be spending on school stuff for himself, and he seems absolutely miserable.", "summary": "jealous gf taking his money, friends, GPA and sanity, and I don't know what to do or say."}
{"id": "t3_2eeg2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [23 F] 3 Months, How can I earn her trust if she's been hurt before?", "post": "I've been dating this girl for a few months.  We've taken things very slow, because every guy she's dated before has just used her for sex.  \n\nOur relationship is lacking most things physical to say the least.  We hug and peck-kiss goodbye, but she told me she doesn't want to make-out or have sex yet, because she's been hurt before.  She says she's trying to get over this problem, and that she's in therapy for it.  \n\nAlso, whenever she talks about her future plans after college, I'm not in them, which makes me feel like she doesn't think we'll last.  These plans include moving to another country.", "summary": "She's been hurt before, what can I do to earn her trust?  And why does she not see me in her future?"}
{"id": "t3_240qok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [18M] of 1.5 years searches his exes facebook profiles regularly", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years and haven't really had alot of problems until now. We have always been open with our facebooks and other social medias as we both felt we had nothing to hide. I understand that some people think that exchanging passwords is a bad move however I have always felt that you shouldn't have to hide anything from each other especially after being together a while I believe I pretty much know everything about him. This morning I went on my laptop and his Facebook was logged in, having many mutual friends I just carried on looking at his feed which would of been nearly identical to my own.\n\nI went to search a friend up in the search bar and Facebook will order the search results on how often you visit their page. So I Typed In \"O\" to search for my friend and his Ex was top result baring in mind it is her second name that in fact begins with \"O\". Brushing it off I carried on browsing. Then when I went to search for another friend the same thing happened with a different Ex. I was obviously intrigued by now assuming that it wasn't a coincidence so I looked at his activity log where there is an option that will allow you to see what the facebooker searches for. On clicking that I saw that he would, sometimes even on consecutive days, search and i assume browse his exes Facebook pages. \n\nNow I understand that if any teen heart break blogs mentioned this it is to say that he is not over them and feels the need to check up on them but i just don't know what this means. It did shake me up quite a bit, What do you guys think? Am I over reacting by thinking that its strange?", "summary": "Boyfriend checks his exes facebook pages regularly, What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2ey0hq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22f] am talking to someone [24f?] online and think they are crossing boundaries.", "post": "I play an online game and someone started chatting to me. I'm friendly enough so spoke to them for about 20 minutes and they asked if they could add my email address which would show them my real name etc etc. I said no, I don't giving my email address to people I don't know in real life. They said \"well if you want, you can add mine, it's my brother's email address but I use his account\" which made me start to question this a bit. Anyway they asked if they could tell me something, I said yeah sure. They said they are trans and \"came out as a woman\" (their own words) two years ago. No big deal to me really. \n\nThey told me they lost their job and their family have not been supportive. At first I had the feeling that they just wanted to talk to someone and have been quite isolated. But I have a bad/strange gut feeling about this. They asked about underwear/dresses/swimsuits because they \"don't know what to buy\". They keep mentioning Facebook and they would like to add me (again, I said I don't add people I don't know in RL on there), and that they feel very lucky to have met me and hopes we can meet some day? Which is just...ehhh...I'm not sure about this.\n\nMy boyfriend said by all means be helpful and kind with them but be wary. Admittedly I can be quite naive and too kind but like I say, my gut is telling me otherwise here. I know people online are not always who they say they are. They asked me am I interested in men or women and I said just men, they said \"oh that's too bad for me :(\" and I feel like this is kinda crossing a line? I've known this person for literally a day. \n\nWhat do you think? Would you be wary of this? I really don't care about them being trans, I'm just not comfortable with what they are saying. I don't even know them. Or am I being too cautious and this person is just lonely and wants a friend?", "summary": "spoke to someone online, they are being a bit inappropriate and I am not totally comfortable with it. Am I overreacting or should I keep this person at a distance?"}
{"id": "t3_3pl7mi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with close friend [20F] who just broke up with her boyfriend", "post": "Hey all, ill try to give a bit of background info before i ask my question. In my last year of high school me and this girl got really close and were talking for about 6 months. We hung out a few times and then she went away for about 2 months in which this time period we didnt talk. She came back from her trip and about a month or so later she got together with this guy. We continued to talk but not as much and I decided to give her space at the start of this year only really talking at parties. I just saw on facebook that she broke up with her boyfriend about 3 weeks ago (theyve been together for about 2 years) and I think from friends posting motivational things on her wall, it may have been a bad break up. Now I still have feelings for her but I dont want to rush anything, but I want to see how shes going cause like I said we havent spoken. I dont want to sound like Im trying to get with her, ultimately id like to be in a relationship with her but i know thats something thats not going to happen any time soon. My real question is how do I approach this entire situation as Im pretty confused about. Any positive advice would help a lot and please now negative shit about me just wanting to get with her, I genuinely care about this girl and have for a long time. Thanks", "summary": "This girl Ive been really close with recently broke up with her boyfriend, I have feelings for her and i do care about her, im just confused about the situation. Please read above for more info"}
{"id": "t3_s6coo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fiancee found pictures of an old fling", "post": "We've (28m and her 28f) been together for over 2 years and do live together now.  We are getting married before the end of the year.  Prior to that, I was involved with someone in a very casual relationship.  Some pictures were taken and since forgotten.  While my fiancee was on the computer last night, she stumbled upon these pictures (from about a month prior to the two of us officially dating).  \nThey are not that explicit (topless shots of girl).  Let me also add that I had NO idea these pictures still existed.  Had I known, they would have been removed years ago.  There are a few problems:\n\n1-I never mentioned this past relationship with my fiancee. I know, I should have, but she has VERY strong feelings about how guys and girls cannot be friends.  I disagree and consider this girl a friend, regardless of our past.\n\n2-The dates on the pictures were from after my fiancee and I met, but weren't really \"together\".\n\n3-She has lost trust in me due to my not telling her about the history between this girl and I.  \n\nI do want to fix this issue.  I want to make it clear that I've never cheated on her nor have I intentionally lied to her.  I want to make this better and I want to get married to my fiancee.  Any advice would be GREAT", "summary": "Hooked up with someone before I started dating now fiancee, forgot I had pics on my computer.  She found them and is justifiably mad at me lying/cheating even though it all happened before we were official."}
{"id": "t3_4nx5ig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my BF [25M] of two years, I'm tired of him being unemployed.", "post": "This is my first time posting but I've been lurking for a while now...Hopefully you guys can help me a little.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now, I'm still at college and until recently he worked full time. For the last two months he's been unemployed (benefits in our country are very good so money really isn't an issue) and I've seen a new side of him I don't like.\n\nPart of this is jealousy, I've been studying for exams and I'm sick of it and I envy him having free time. But the other part of it has me seriously annoyed. These days all he does is cook (he's always cooked), never clean up, never do washing up, never start a creative project he's been talking about for months and just sits around on the computer either watching youtube or playing video games. He's also barely looked for a new job and doesn't seem to be motivated by anything.\n\nI know what you're think, depression right? Thing is he knows he has depression and does very little to help it. He's avoided therapy and won't take medication, although he does go to the gym. I've tried to talk to him about the depression but it decends into an arguement where it's all my fault (I'll admit, I too have depression and can be difficult to live with).\n\nI'm tired of coming home after an exam to a filthy house again and ask about his day for it to have been only internet filled. \n\nI don't know what do to. I've tried encouraging projects/therapy etc and I've tried not to nag him about cleaning/searching for a job but I'm so tired of all this.", "summary": "Boyfrend recently became unemployed and seems to have lost all motivation but does nothing about depression."}
{"id": "t3_1suret", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my old friend [18 F] of 5 years started talking again? Shes acting differently", "post": "So this girl who I've been friends with for about 5 years now we used to be super close sophomore year, went apart junior year and now it's senior year and were getting closer again. Im fairly certain she liked me at some point but we both had a class off period on Friday so we sat down and talked for the first time in a while. She seemed super flirty, anyway her mom said that when she graduates she can roadtrip somewhere and she said that she wants to go with me somewhere like down to Mexico with me where you can get alcohol at 18. She also jokingly said that she wants to marry me so when I'm rich and successful (which I probably will be) I can buy her sports cars and stuff but she was just joking with me. She said we should hang out on Saturday like we always used to but that was yesterday and she never responded back when I asked her if we were hanging out on Saturday. It seems like she wants to get into my pants or something. Advice? I think perhaps one of the reasons shes acting like this was I used to like her and just gave up on her my junior year and made some major changes in my life about my persona, self image, developed high ambitions, and showcased myself as one of the most high-achieving students at my school through my athletics and academics, heck I've scrubbed into heart surgeries and everyone at my school knows about that (but thats a long story for another time). So advice? What do you think?", "summary": "Didnt hang out with friend for a year, and now it seems like she wants the D"}
{"id": "t3_40y8qv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stealing a woman's grocery cart", "post": "So a couple days ago I was at Trader Joe's to end my 2 week toast and peanut butter diet. I was very absent-minded that day, obviously. I get what I need from the fruit section and roll into the frozen section. I decide to grab some coffee from the little stand they have but it was pretty hot so I waited around for it to cool down. I glance over at my cart and see a woman lingering around it looking around. A couple minutes later she's still there. I go up to my cart and she says coldly, \"hi is this your cart?\" I tell her yes and she cuts me off by saying, \"yea so this is actually my cart?\" It's then that I notice that mysteriously there's a trader joe's reusable bag in the cart along with some meat items. I'm a vegetarian. Shit. She starts piling all of my items onto my arms while I'm apologizing profusely. She seemed very annoyed and I was mortified, hoping no one around us heard this embarrassing transaction.", "summary": "don't grocery shop while tired."}
{"id": "t3_1723sd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/22] Problem overlooking issues in potential relationships", "post": "I recently posted about commitment issue with a girl and eventually talked her her and we broke things off. Since we were on good terms, I asked her to discuss what happened.\n\nI guess my previous 3 relationship have all ended with the girl finding problems and not thinking the relationship could move forward.\n\nI also had some issue with these girls but would rather try to work things out or simply focused on their positive traits.\n\nSo reddit, what is going on with me? Why am I so critical and pessimistic in my regular life but then I look for the best parts of my SO and remind myself of good times during the relationship. \n\nLooking back, I see how there are a lot of issues with my previous SO (punctuality, intimacy, feeling secure, being able to express myself) but we did connect on other levels and that was my focus.", "summary": "Pessimistic in normal life, overly optimistic in relationships"}
{"id": "t3_k90s2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I go for it?", "post": "A little background on me: I've never had a girlfriend since I was in about second grade and never have been intimate with someone so anything with relationships I'm about as clueless as a teenage boy sadly..\n\nSo my lady friend F/20 and I M/24 have been hanging out a lot recently. We had a rough patch about 2 weeks ago where she stayed the night at my place, and I thought things went well. For the next 3 days she ignored me and finally broke the news to me that she wasnt nterested in a relationship. \n\nWe worked through that and I managed to get her to spend the night again and we finally kissed.  The only times we display affection is at night usually before we both go to sleep. Things are going well between me and her currently but the only problem I have right now is I'm not sure if its ok to kiss her while we are out doing things like going to the movies or having dinner.\n\nI want to make a move on her but I don't know if it would cause problems as I said before the only time shes affectionate to me is late at night, while during the day its like hanging out with a good friend but no romantic interest involved. Her last boyfriend she had flipped out on her when she asked him if they were officially together so I can see that being a problem for her still with us. I feel like she is my girlfriend and I think I'm filing the role of a boyfriend for her, as I take her home from work all the time and she asks me to visit her during our lunch breaks (my friend is my \"boss\" so getting an hour out is no problem for me at work). I'm just scared that if I do something with her that she will turn cold on me again.", "summary": "I don't know what to do reddit; she tells me before she doesn't want a relationship (she told me shes scared to love someone again as everyone she has loved has moved out of her life..) but I worked past that with her and we finally kissed for the first time (4 in the morning) but shes not affectionate during the day but I really want to kiss her and I'm scared to make a move on her during the day. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_efbmo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Coworker Introduced me to her Daughter", "post": "So I started this job a few months ago and keep to myself a lot. I've gotten fairly friendly with some of the older women who work there and a couple days ago one of them introduced their daughter to me and another guy I work with closely. I think her daughter was checking me out as she looked me up and down about three times. We didn't say much and she left with her mother. Come today she tells me and the guy I work with that her daughter thinks we're awesome even though we didn't exchange words or do much of anything but look at each other. She continues to tell us where her daughter goes to school and other misc details.\n\nI'm 21 and from what I could pry from the mother her daughter is 19. I consider myself pretty socially inept and maybe I'm thinking too much but how would I find out the intentions in this situation and should I pursue it?", "summary": "Coworker introduced me to her daughter, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_16vmpm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Are Men allowed to freak out?", "post": "Just as a bit of backstory:\n\nI've been under an incredible amount of stress lately and I had a meltdown.  I ended up punching a dumpster and couldn't hold back my emotions.  I didn't hurt her in any physical way, but she's angry at me.\n\nThe basis for her anger is that I \"don't have good coping skills.\"\n\non average, i'd say I have 1 or 2 big \"meltdowns\" a year and the rest of the time I am totally normal and she's told me repeatedly that I am \"the most patient person she knows.\"\n\nAm I allowed to freak out?  I know \"allowed\" isn't really the right word.  I don't channel any anger towards her when I'm under a lot of stress.  at least I don't think I do.", "summary": "Am I allowed to melt down when I'm under an undue amount of stress, or what?  If you ask questions, I'll be more than happy to answer."}
{"id": "t3_2kjqz9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Today I had sex with a prostitute", "post": "Throw away account for obvious reasons.\n\nMale. 28 yrs old. Never had sex. Never had a serious relationship before. Frustration = Level 10,000.\n\nI have tried and tried again to find a meaningful relationship with a girl. But everyone that I meet and come across is either taken, married, has a full house of kids, or just gives me the cold shoulder. I consider myself a good guy with a big heart to share with someone, looks wise about a 6 1/2 to 7, but today I couldn't bear it anymore.\n\nAm I proud? No. Its a low moment in my life. Did I enjoy it? Yes. The experience was good because, had sex. But in my mind, it was dirty sex. And I feel gross. I had the longest shower of my life afterwards.\n\nI dont ever want to resort to it again. Im starting to hate myself for doing it.\n\nWhat is this quality or skill that im missing from the other lads out there who easily pick up girls? Im very social and not the type who would sit in a corner at a party. I feel like Im letting down my family as well with no relationship/marriage/children. I feel time is running out and every now and then I have these waves of depression hit me because of this whole issue.\n\nAll comments/suggestions welcomed\n\nCheers", "summary": "laid a prostitute tonight. Feeling gross from this decision today. Not happy with non existent relationship life. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1k8nv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] broke up with my girlfriend [32F] several weeks ago, am still fine about it but today something strange happened.", "post": "So I have been single again for some weeks now and recently made some improvements in my life that really lifted my spirits the last 2 - 3 weeks.\n\nTo clarify, I broke up with her because I didn't reciprocate the feelings she had towards me in the same way and felt it would have been dishonest to continue the relationship on that basis.\nI was actually really fine with the breakup and the few times that I thought about it I never regretted my decision.\n\nToday this strange thing happened: I was walking on the sidewalk when I saw her riding past me on her bike (without noticing me, I think) and the good mood that I had maintained for some time now seemed to just drain away and leave me feeling kind of empty. Suddenly all the (in my book) vast improvements in my life and attitude towards myself lost their shine, so to speak.\n\nIt is not like I wanted her back or anything, I am still sure breaking up was the right thing and I feel still fine with it.\n\nWhere is this coming from?", "summary": "Broke up with gf, was fine with it, turned parts of my life around for the better, seeing her again made positive changes feel meaningless."}
{"id": "t3_ungbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I Feel Like I'm A Problem...", "post": "Hello everyone, 20 (F) here and 26 (M) SO of 6 months now.\n\nI'm going to try and keep this as short as I can.. I'm sorry if it turns into a bit much heh but I could really use some outside perspective and will appreciate any input I receive.\n\n**Background:** Met my SO about 9 months ago and as corny as it sounds we clicked instantly but waited to enter a relationship. This is my 3rd serious relationship and his second.\n\n**The Problem** I feel sad or frustrated almost all the time lately.. He makes me laugh and cuddles me at night and does all those great things that make me smile but I just can't help but feel really depressed.\n\nI'm frustrated because I feel like I can't talk to him about anything. If something is bothering me I can't talk with him because 'hes not my therapist' and whenever we talk about us it turns into a conversation about him and his ex.. Its also frustrating that he lies to me about his past and won't admit it. I just honestly feel like he doesn't care or doesn't know how to deal with any emotional thing.\n\nI'm becoming visibly upset and depressed, today I cried when he left the room and I just feel so out of control. I'm adult but I feel like I'm acting like a child, I feel like I am becoming a problem and making drama.. I don't want to be a burden and I don't want to make waves.", "summary": "Feel alone while going through a hard time and can't talk to my SO. I feel like a burden and that my emotions are causing problems and making waves. Reddit, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_3x5ld1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I can be cheap", "post": "Well, it was actually last night, but still. My TIFU saga begins when I see someone posted a Win10 Pro key online. Thinking I could use it, I change my key to the key I found. All is well for a few hours. Then, 3 to 4 hours latet, I see a watermark and error saying it isn't activated. I think \"oh shit\" to myself and use the media creation tool to begin a reinstall. So I back up my files and reboot, disabling secure boot I used 32 bit windows in hope to save time as I was pressed for time. So I rebooted and reinstalled, reenabed safe boot. But that gave an error saying no boot device. So, I had to reboot again and disable safe boot again and windows went on its way. Out of the 8 GiB of memory I got, only 3.2 GiB  is actually usable.\n\nAFTR (And for the record), I am not reinstalling 64 bit until I get an SSD.", "summary": "Don't be cheap and upgrade to pro windows in a sketchy manner."}
{"id": "t3_1cbn1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I (20f) was just rejected by my SO (22M)", "post": "My SO and I have been together just over a year, and known each other about 3 years. After a few failed relationships on both sides, we gave \"us\" a shot and haven't looked back.\n\nI can say with confidence that he is the love of my life. We talk through each and every issue, have common interests, love spending time together and apart, whether it be with friends or whatever else we want to do. There's never been any suspicion of cheating/dishonesty on either side.\n\nWe've also talked about our future together. Previously he was keen to move in together, have a few pets and when the time was right, get married and have kids. Our career aspirations are similar too, so our rough time estimates on everything match up perfectly. \n\nHere's the trouble: today we were walking along the beach and when we had reached the end I asked if he \"wanted to spend his future with me\". He looked at me and said \"well I'm not sure about the future, but I do like spending time with you now.\" \n\nI was crushed, Reddit. I really thought he was enthusiastic about our future, but now I'm not sure. I didn't want to push the subject further, so I said \"oh! okay.\" And let it drop. He knew there was something wrong, and tried to tell me that everything was okay. \n\nI don't want to sound crazy OAG, but how can I explain that I thought we had something serious going on? Is this his way of saying that he's no longer interested? Am I just overreacting?", "summary": "boyfriend rejects the idea of a future even though we discussed it previously. How do I talk to him about it/is it even worth talking about?"}
{"id": "t3_2snio4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] watched my boyfriend [25M] of 2 years at work and felt extremely uncomfortable.", "post": "Hey Guys, this is my first post but I know how helpful you can be.. I'm just looking for some perspective/advice.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, are both in school and in the process of figuring out our next steps together in terms of where we should live/work etc. He's currently working as a used car salesman (I know I know, he's not a slimy car guy though, promise!) and I'm in school full time and working two jobs at the university. His company happened to have a booth set up at our school yesterday and I stopped by to see him in action only to become extremely uncomfortable with his 'sales' tactics. He spent the majority of the time hitting on girls and not talking about cars at all! He's by nature a very friendly person who can talk to anyone about anything so I'm used to girls getting the wrong impression even when I'm around. These girls who were approaching his booth had no clue I was his girlfriend and I was sitting a couple metres away at a table reading. \n\nThe plot thickens though. When I approached him about it, he became extremely defensive and said he was working and just being himself. In the last two years, there have been 2 occasions (at least that I know about) where he was texting and messaging girls completely inappropriately so my trust is a little bit shaken in that respect. After watching him 'work' I felt very disrespected and upset and it made me question his entire job or if I am willing to date someone who essentially flirts in order to make sales. \n\nHas anyone else experiences this? I'm not sure if I'm out of line or not...", "summary": "boyfriend flirts with girls to make sales right in front of me and then claims he was just 'working'."}
{"id": "t3_121gz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16 M] Having second thoughts and could use some advice.", "post": "A little background; I am a 16 year old male dating a 16 year old female for a year and 9 months now. This is my first relationship and I have been experiencing second thoughts about who I am with.\n\nThe problem is it seems as though she is much too attached to me. Things like being away for 2 days at bag camp and being tired when I get back (causing me to be indifferent when speaking) makes her sad and sets off red flags for me. To top it off, I've been having thoughts about other women. I am naturally introverted and she is extroverted. She insists on constant contact which is creating a lot of stress on me and making me short tempered with other people.\n\nI don't want to make it sound all bad. She is a great person and bakes me things all the time, she writes me letters and draws me pictures. She is genuinely a good person and her family is cool, but I am losing what I had for her.\n\nMaybe it's a first breakup kind of deal, but I don't want to hurt her either,\n\nSo reddit can you help me with my typical teenage problems? Should I stop it now before I cheat, should I wait it out longer, or should I ask for a mutual \"break\" (which is what I was thinking)", "summary": "OAG, but is still a great person, having second thoughts about other women. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_31ta18", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Help with stuffed dog toys!", "post": "What stuffed animal brand will last for atleast 2 weeks to a month?\n\nMy dogs favorite toys are stuffed animals for dogs. You know, the ones that are floppy with squeakers. This guy however will intentionally rip pieces of it off and swallow them in less than a day. I take them away when he's in danger of really pulling one apart and monitor him while he's playing. He does have other chew toys too (nylabone bones, deer antlers).\n\nHe has torn up some of the \"stronger more durable\" stuffed animal toys. I just want something that won't force me to go to the pet store every day to replace it. Do you have any recs? \n\nDog bio: 2 year old, male, whippet/ beagle mix. 25 pounds. Loves to chew on chew toys.", "summary": "Brand recommendations on stuffed dog toys."}
{"id": "t3_3ubmnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21M) girlfriend (22F) of 5 months drives her own and now my friends away, but i still love her so much", "post": "So the title sums it up pretty well. My girlfriend is a very friendly and outgoing person and always has been. She has ADHD and is treated but she rarely takes her medicine. When she does this she can become quite talkative and is unaware when she annoys somebody. She has only one consistent long time friend, as most of her friends get to know her for a while but get driven away because she can just be downright annoying to some people. I am aware of this, but that kind of thing doesn't bother me, so I can be around her all the time and not mind, even when she's talking at me for 20 minutes without relent. And i absolutely love everything else about her. However, my own best friends dislike her for being annoying, so i have to keep my girlfriend and social life separate for the most part.\n\nJust for clarification i do not find my gf annoying and i love her very much. Most people do find her annoying though.\n\nWhat should I do about this situation? Thanks for any advice", "summary": "title is a good summary"}
{"id": "t3_3ixycu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - by leaving poop on the toilet seat [NSFW]", "post": "Obligatory, this happened many, many years ago. \n\nI was young (8-10), and we had a small party at our house. 2 families (plus mine), 6 adults, and 7 kids. It was the middle of the afternoon, when I felt a #2 coming on. I knew I had to go to the bathroom THAT instant. So I ran to the bathroom, and barely got my underwear down before I started pooping. Somehow (don't ask how) in my rush to poop I had missed the bowl, and shat on the back edge of the seat. \n\nAfter I was done, I didn't know how to deal with the poop on the seat. I decided I would try to track down my mom to explain my predicament. Well, being the distracted young person, as soon as I left the bathroom I got caught up watching TV.\n\nA good 10-20 minutes later a boy came running out of the bathroom frantically searching for his mom. He said he didn't know who did it, but there was poop all over the back of the toilet seat. His mom scolded him, and told him not to lie about it. She said that it was perfectly okay, accidents happen. So his mom got my mom, and they cleaned the toilet together. They obviously thought he was lying, but cleaned it up anyways. He was made fun of for the rest of the party by the other kids. I kept my mouth shut in order to avoid embarassment, and haven't told a soul until now. To this day his mom still brings up the poop incident, and how weird it was he wouldn't admit it was him. (He still denies it)", "summary": "I pooped on the toilet seat and forgot to clean it up. Friend staying over got blamed and ridiculed for it instead, and his mom still judges him for it to this day."}
{"id": "t3_z8u4x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] Never made out before?", "post": "Hey guys, I'm 17 and I've never made out before. It sounds weird, it's just never occured lol. I'm not a prude or anything, but I was single freshman year, sophomore year my gf and I just never made out. Well I have another girlfriend, and I just get self-conscious because the longer I wait the longer I push it off, since I have no experience in it lol.\n\nSo can someone give me a pretty detailed idea of it? I just really don't want to fuck up, and then my GF tells someone, or isn't satisfied and we break up.\n\nIf you're going to be an asshole please leave, even though this is Reddit.", "summary": "17, never made out, i have a gf, i've done lots of things besides make out, can someone tell me a detailed idea on how to not fuck up, and how to make out properly?"}
{"id": "t3_4nxdld", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wanting to play football.", "post": "So this morning my friend calls me saying that he wants to play some football (soccer), I agree and get ready to meet up with him. The thing is he brings his group of friends with him. We are walking to the pitch, and we come up to where we get into the pitch. It's beside a green fence thing with a pointy fucking top. I felt the need to kind of show off so I ran up this small but steep mound of dirt. But I fucking slip backwards and put the top of one of the spikes through my fucking hand. \nAnyway I run home and show my mom ( I'm 17 and live at home), she rushes me to the practitions nearby and she said it might need stichtes so we go to my doctor, but he's on holiday so instead we wait for this bitchy doctor. She immideatly start poking the cut pulling it inside out and shit. After half an hour of poking she says that she can't do anything and I'll have to go to A&E. So we rush to A&E only to wait three fucking hours for one motherfucking stitch.", "summary": "I go out to play football slip cut my hand on a fence and am sitting here after five hours of running around with one stitch in my hand."}
{"id": "t3_1knllj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] am starting to develop feelings for a friend [21], even though I have a boyfriend [21] of almost two years.", "post": "I'm entering my second year of college, and this will mark the second year of being relatively long distance from my boyfriend, which I think complicates the issue. Last year, I went to a party with a friend, and was introduced to all his friends. I quickly became a part of their \"group,\" and was informed early on by these friends that one of the guys liked me a lot. I made it clear to him that I had a boyfriend, and he's made no efforts to flirt or anything since then. In the meantime, we've become very good friends. We talk almost daily, and I love spending time with him. \n\nRecently, however, I've found myself being attracted to him, and I fantasize about being able to touch him, not even in a sexual way, but just to be close and cuddle, if you will. I need to be clear that I do not want to and will not ever cheat. But these feelings are growing stronger, and it's not as simple as cutting him out of my life, not just because we share many mutual friends, but also because I genuinely appreciate him as a friend. Sometimes I find myself thinking \"well, if your current relationship fails, then you can give it a go with him and see what it's like.\" I don't know how to process these feelings, and it's unfair to everyone involved. Advice, please?", "summary": "I've developed feelings for a friend who used to (and may still) have a crush on me, but I have a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4mlxk7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's (21M) friends (22M) and parents (46F/M) think I'm too quiet and hard to get to know", "post": "So, at separate times, both my bf's parents and friends have said that I don't talk much and that they don't know much about me. I've been dating my bf for four years and thought that I had a pretty good relationship with them all. I wouldn't say I'm super close to his friends/parents but I'm comfortable with them and enjoy seeing/hanging out with them. \n\nI think one problem is that I'm never around. My bf and I live apart while we finish school. When we're both in our hometown, he usually comes to my place. His friends live in different college towns and are rarely down as well. I went to his parents house for the first time in two months last week, and I thought everything was fine. We didn't get in until late so we only talked about an hour, but I was comfortable. I haven't seen his friends in months, either. It doesn't bother me because when they're all down I'm either at my apartment sixty miles away or I'm in town but giving them brotime, as they never see each other. I never thought this was an issue as they're his friends/parents and I typically just kinda tag along. I enjoy their company, but we definitely only meet/talk with my bf around. \n\nI'm also naturally pretty quiet and not good socially. I don't care to talk about myself too much, but if someone asks I'll definitely answer. I don't open up and talk a lot to people I don't know that well, so it takes a while to get to know me. My very close friends have said the same thing, that it took a little while for me to warm up and talk. I get that initially I may have been hard to hold a conversation with, but it's been four years! I've gotten very comfortable with his friends/parents and don't think I can be considered too demure/shy/whatever anymore. I certainly didn't think I was. \n\nSo, how do I solve this? I don't want to be hard to get to know! I'm feeling kind of hurt about this and am not sure how to proceed.", "summary": "my bf's friends and parents find me too quiet and hard to get to know. I don't want that but am not sure how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_1qlm15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M], make women hate me MORE after a breakup...somehow.", "post": "Let's be honest, I'm usually the one broken up with.  Here's the thing, most of the time we're on decent terms after a breakup, even admitting we have affection and care for each other but it just didn't work out.  But it never fails, after a few months I make my ex HATE me for some reason...and here's why.\n\nAlways, ALWAYS, my ex contacts me and expects me to do something that is out of the ordinary for just some other person, and when I don't I'm a big fat jerk.  For example, I don't care to talk to my previous ex on the phone.  I've already told her this and asked her to just text me.  Yet she insists on trying to call me and when I don't answer, and I reiterate that she should just text me, she says she \"fucking hates me.\"\n\nExcuse me?  YOU broke up with ME.  Why in the world should any girl expect anything more than the standard treatment if not less?  I mean I'm the one who should be bitter right?  But it seems like because they broke up with me, I should be the one to suck it up and suffer, serve, and go out of my way.  I don't understand it.\n\nIn the end it really sucks because I don't hate these girls.  I don't want them to hate me.  But it seems like just because I don't \"make up\" for them dumping me by going out of my way for them, now I deserve to be hated.  What gives?", "summary": "Girls hate me more after breaking up than while breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_1acoup", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't be a bitch on the dancefloor.", "post": "This was quite a few years ago now, a friend and I were going out dancing one night to a club that is always *very* crowded on the weekends. This happened to be a Friday night.\n\nNow the dancefloor at this club was a very small, and had a railing around it to contain the unruly dancers. Now my friend and I get out on the crowded dance floor, and are having a good time everyone is bumping into each other because, well, it's crowded. WELL, apparently one girl thought that she deserved to have her own personal bubble out on this dancefloor, so she began elbowing my friend and I, being very rude and glaring at us. THEN she starts saying things like \"Move over bitches!\", \"Move the fuck out of my way\"... etc\n\nAnyways we just looked at her and was like \"Ummm, *NO*\" SO THEN, she starts sucking her drink into her straw and spitting it on my friend, and eating chunks of ice and spitting them at us. *OH NO SHE DID NOT JUST SPIT HER NASTY ASS MOUTH GERMS ON ME!* \n\nSo for my revenge? I walked right over to the giant ass bouncer with her eyes locked on mine I pointed right at her and told the bouncer what she was doing. He walked right through the crowd and grabbed that bitch by the arm and walked her on out of the club while me and  my friend laughed and waved at her.", "summary": "Bitch thinks she owns the dancefloor and spits her drink on me? Not likely, enjoy your friday night elsewhere."}
{"id": "t3_18uryv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How could I (24m) break up with her (23f) in the most harmless way (2 years in) ?", "post": "We've been dating for 2 years and were deeply in love at first. We got closer really quickly and long story short, she knows all my friends, my parents and extended family, texts my mom every now and then just to have a laugh, etc. (we don't live together though). Problem is, I don't think I love her anymore. I guess feelings can (and did) fade away eventually. But now the problem is bi-dimensional: first off, we've been saying \u00ab I love you \u00bb and stuff like that on a very regular basis. If I don't say it regularly she'd ask why, and then I wouldn't have much to explain except that I don't mean it anymore, and she would probably feel devastated. What's wrong with that, right? It's a breakup after all, even if I would have a hard time justifying the \u00ab I love you \u00bb of the past months (I'll take any tip), and neither her, nor my mom, or my friends, would understand at first? But the other dimension of the problem is that she's going through rough times at the moment (not exactly her, but her sister is in a deep depression and her father just got fired), and even if I don't feel any passion anymore, I would never ever want her to be sad, feel hurt, or anything like that. How can I be true to her, in saying that I don't see a future for us, as well as making it as easy as possible for her to go through that? Should I wait for better times? How long until better times?", "summary": "I don't love her anymore after 2 years; she's going through a hard time with her family, and I don't want to hurt her. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_1cynk0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Class 1 Misdemeanor trespassing in VA for entering a building under construction to take pictures, photographic defense against?", "post": "Hey there, I'm a college kid in DC with an interest in photography. A few weeks back, I entered an unfinished 35 story building with a friend to take pictures of the view. \n\nWe were walking in the city with our cameras and I found a wide open entrance to the building site (completely illuminated at 12:30 am). We were under the influence of no alcohol or drugs, we didn't take anything (besides pictures) and we didn't leave anything. There were no posted trespassing signs, no security guards and no cameras. \n\nI stupidly published a blog with pictures from the evening and a sensationalized account of the evening. The company head of security found it and has brought us up on VA 18.2-119 for trespassing. \n\nThe writing of the law on the warrant states that a person is prohibited from entering a site based on posted signage by an authorized individual forbidding such actions. Fortunately, I took pictures before the incident and three days after (when we were contacted about the incident). The pictures clearly show a wide opening and no posted signs at the end of a busy metro stop. Three days later, there is a large additional fence blocking the entrance, caution tape covering the entrance to the building and an \"Authorized Personel Only\" sign. I can timestamp these photos.", "summary": "While I know our actions were not completely blameless, could I motion for the charges to be dismissed since I have specific photographic evidence that refutes their charge that we disobeyed posted signs?****"}
{"id": "t3_3ozmrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(24F) with my boyfriend(25M), of almost a year, his birthday party is coming up and I'm anxious.", "post": "Hello, been lurking for a while so thought I'd come to you guys for this little issue, it's minor but it means a lot to me.\n\nMy boyfriend is having a big birthday party in two weeks, it's the halloween weekend and we live in a country in europe that isn't really into halloween at all. He thought that it would be funny if people wanted to dress up a little, but he hasn't really told anyone yet. He did tell one of his female friends though, one who dresses very provocatively. I've told him that I'm not really comfortable with the whole costume thing. I don't particularly like how I look and I've always struggled with it, been bullied for all of my school years really. I also told him that of course I wouldn't tell him to change it, if that's what he wants. It's his birthday and he should have it exactly as he wants. He said ok and that we might talk about it later.\n\nI then found out that his female friend has bought a costume and now I'm guessing it's a thing. So my question is, how do I deal with this? I can't get myself to tell him that I'm really not ok with it and that I don't want to be there. I need some advice about some tips for not feeling so anxious(I have anxiety aswell as body-image issues) at the party or some way for me to tell him so he really understands how uncomfortable I am about it. Normally we have no problem about openness in our relationship, but this is a really touchy subject for me and I'm kinda scared. Please help, and thank you in advance :)", "summary": "How do I deal with my anxiety over my boyfriends borthday party, where a provocatively dressed girl will be??"}
{"id": "t3_167sqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] just got into a relationship with [17F] girl, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So I just recently got into a relationship with this girl who I have liked for about 6 months, and it's not exactly going as I thought it would.\n\nAbout a month ago, I told her that I liked her more than a friend, and she told me that she needed time to think about getting into a relationship. So I waited for a month and had a long talk with her. At first she said that she didn't need a relationship at the moment, but sometimes she wants one. She also went on about how she would be a bad girlfriend and that I didn't know what I was in store for. We talked for about an hour, and it ended up with her saying that she \"would stop being paranoid\" and gave me a chance.\n\nIt's been about a week, and while I know it may be too soon, I feel as though we both aren't \"feeling it\". We've been friends for a long time, and she considered me a friend for so long, but now, I really don't know what to do since the relationship does not feel like it's going anywhere at all.\n\nI also recently asked if she was happy with where the relationship was going so far, and she avoided the question.\n\nSo do I persist with everything? Talk to her?", "summary": "Zoned for 6 months, finally got her to say yes, but relationship feels off."}
{"id": "t3_553jqf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking the nose of the daughter of my boss.", "post": "So this happened a couple weeks ago and most of the people aren't talking about it anymore so i thought i would share it now.\nSo our company was celebrating our anniversary, wasnt such a big of a celebration. We were just eating at our boss' house.\nMy boss told me to stay a little longer when everyone else already left. My boss wanted to have a little chat about my amount of effort i put in the company and such.\nSo i had to wait in the living room, but in the living room his daughter of 6 was playing with her toys. She was looking a bit weird at me, so i thought i play a little joke with her...\nShe was close to me so i did the 'i got your nose prank', at that point she got very excited and was jumping up and down wanting her nose back. So i told her,\"i have to throw it back to you.\" So she stood back a couple metres, and i was like readying before throwing 'the nose'.\nThats where the FU comes in, i was swinging my arm to throw the nose but then a door opened and i looked away for a split second and apparently the girl thought it was the right time to run and grab the nose.\nWithout me seeing it i hit the little girl right in the face...On her nose. She fell to the ground, blood was coming out of her nose and she was crying like no tommorrow.\nThe person coming through the door was my boss, he saw the whole scene and was shocked.\nHe started yelling at me and took his daughter to the hospital.\nSo apparently she broke her nose, my boss was mad at me ofcourse but we have always been good friends.\nHe didnt want to fire me, but i had to pay the hospital bills. My coworkers were pretty shocked when they heard it.", "summary": "i broke the nose of my boss' daughter by playing 'i got your nose'"}
{"id": "t3_4xdees", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Sister [26 F] Has burned the bridge between us because my friend had a problem and told me not to tell anyone.", "post": "A friend of mine was coming over to talk to me about some problems he was having and told me not to tell anyone. \n\nI then told my sister that my friend was coming over and she asked why and I told her he was coming over to chat but was also having some personal problems and I wasn't at liberty to say what those problems so out of respect I said I could not and would not tell her.\n\nThis really upset her and she then went on a rant on how she can't trust me anymore and how we shouldn't even talk now because I don't trust her enough to tell her things. I replied saying that this was out of respect of my friend and I respect people's privacy. She went on a rant on how if they're my good friends they should trust her as well. (which I told her is totally absurd.)\n\nShe then brought up examples of how if I had a wife I would tell her EVERYTHING but I said no I wouldn't if my said friend told me not to tell ANYONE.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I try and mend my relationship or move on because she is being unreasonable.\n\nThis is an asian household so we live together.", "summary": "Sister won't talk to me because I can keep a secret."}
{"id": "t3_vycmx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most \"faith restored in humanity\" act you've seen at work or anywhere?", "post": "I was at the Cheesecake Factory around Thanksgiving a few years ago, and a family of what 7 sat next to us. They arrived before us, and they were about finished and had gotten the bill. The waiter came back and said their credit card got rejected, and the what I figured was the father and mother, tried to get enough cash to pay, but they couldn't. Then a man walked up and gave 2 $20s to them and walked away. That still wouldn't complete the cost. Then one by one, random people(including my family) near them gave a $10, $20, etc. till there was enough for them to give the waiter a $25 tip. I know this was probably because of the giving spirit, but it was still nice to see this.", "summary": "Saw random patrons at a restaurant help pay for a big family's entire meal, and made it able to tip the waiter $25."}
{"id": "t3_393zn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am having trouble finding the courage to ask out my best friend [19 F]", "post": "I became best friends with this girl that I met in college about 9 months ago, but I realized that I started to like her more than a friend about 7 months ago, so about 2 months after becoming friends. Because we lived in the same dorm, I decided that it would safest to wait to tell her until we moved out and school was over. About 4 months ago, she started showing a lot of signs that she liked me more than a friend. I told a lot of my friends about these signs, and they all agree that she likes me. I concluded to myself that there is probably a 99% chance that she also has feelings for me, but it doesn't feel like enough. Now that we're out of school, I've been planning how to tell her how I feel, and I decided that I want to take her out to dinner and tell her. I'm completely comfortable talking to her about almost anything because we're best friends, but I feel like I'm going to be super uncomfortable telling her how I feel. I would love to just text her how I feel because doing that is so much easier, but I would never do that because that just ain't right. I think I need some motivation.", "summary": "How can I be more comfortable telling my best friend how I feel about her? Motivate me plz"}
{"id": "t3_1zyp7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] having communication issues with my gf [28F]", "post": "Hi,\nI was looking to get some opinions on an ongoing issue I have with my GF. I feel like she doesn't communicate openly and regularly, often keeping issues burning away inside until one day they explode into the open. E.g she felt I wasn't taking the initiative in organising enough outings, she never said a word about the issue until this current explosion happened. I've accepted that and promised to be more proactive in the future. However...\n\nI've raised this issue with her, and asked her to be more forthcoming if she has any problems; and talk about them before it overwhelms her. Her response however, took me aback. She claims that she is telling me all that she feels comfortable talking about, and anything else she feels uncomfortable talking about. In short, she says she cannot communicate any more than she already is. I think that's completely unreasonable, and that as a partner in this relationship, my request isn't too much to ask. Am I being unfair?", "summary": "I feel GF isn't being forthcoming and communicating enough. GF says she doesn't feel comfortable and cannot communicate any more than she already is."}
{"id": "t3_2b314k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 36m with my GF 29f of 1 year. Should it bother me that she's friends with exes, and old flames, on Facebook?", "post": "Been together a little over a year.  \n\nShort and sweet: She's friends with some exes on Facebook, as well as some people she has hooked up with in the past, but is now just friends with.  \n\nShe's on Facebook ALOT, literally every time I log in, she's logged in.  When we go to dinner, she'll often flip through Facebook or her phone.  I would say she's on Facebook checking things out at least 3 to 5 times per day, and it's a very rare day indeed when she's not on there looking around.\n\nShould any of this bother me?  Am I being irrational?", "summary": "She's friends with exes and old flames on Facebook, it bugs me, what is acceptable?"}
{"id": "t3_1yx4ib", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This is about my brother. What should my parents/family do?", "post": "I'm his 18 year old sister (living at home). He is 23 and has many issues and my parents have no idea how to help him. He failed out of college his freshman year and is addicted to oxycodone and uses cocaine and many similar drugs. He can't afford to live anywhere and keeps losing part time jobs, etc. He surrounds himself by the worst possible people to get better. He goes through phases where he tries to get help and my parents will do whatever they can but it keeps costing them a ton of money (therapy that he stopped going to--paying off his car payments, etc). He's been arrested a few times-all drug related and just ended up in the hospital for stomach pains (from drug use). He is currently living at home and any advice on dealing with people who do this would be so helpful. Thank you.", "summary": "Drug using 23 yr old brother is doing nothing with life and costing my parents so much money, what can they do?"}
{"id": "t3_1t0g2i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [25/m] in long distance relationship with [24/f] who suffers from mood swings/depression. Need help with support/advice on what to do. I feel like my frustration with her is starting to show.", "post": "I don't really know how to go about asking for help. I work at a school in a different state than my long distance (on again, off again) girlfriend. We've dated two different times in the past, since high school, and as long as I can remember, she's had pretty intense mood swings. There are times that she is happy, impossibly happy, and then others where she is unbearably sad. I'm patient, but I wasn't always. I can assure you that it was one of the reasons we broke up when we first dated in high school. But I've begun to understand that these things are beyond her control, and I get that.\n\nInevitably, after a week or so of her being in a great mood, she'll call and talk about how awful her day was, how shitty she feels, and cries. And I mean sobbing. Often, she just feels sad, usually for no reason (her words). I've listened and been patient, said that it's okay, that everything will be fine.\n\nOccasionally we'll come to the topic of \"what do we do?\" As in, how can we make things better. I don't have any answers besides \"talk to someone.\" Specifically, a counselor of some kind. I say this because I've seen a counselor regularly, about once every three or four weeks, and while things are often tough, I've been able to get past those moments and work on things. Now, I know this isn't a band-aid, and that it isn't a guarantee that it'll work for her, but I'm confident that at least trying to figure something out can lead to another solution (if the counselor option ends up not working.) Sort of like a reference or start point.\n\nThe point is, what can I do to support my girlfriend and work on trying to find a coping mechanism? It gets frustrating when I can't provide an answer, especially when she asks me straight away. She can totally tell, too.", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend suffers from mood swings/depression, at a loss when it comes to support. Asking for advice of any kind."}
{"id": "t3_hiy8i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is holding in a sneeze really bad for you?", "post": "I've checked google and some online medical websites, but I keep finding very differing answers as to what the drawbacks are for holding back a sneeze. \n\nWhen I was in 5th grade, my friend told me that by plugging my nose, I can hold in my sneeze. That year, I held my sneezes in all the time. Then later, someone told me that by holding in my sneezes, I take the risk of breaking my ribs or having my eyes pop out of their sockets. Later that year, my grandpa sneezed and his eye literally popped out and he had to get it put back in. I don't think he was holding a sneeze back, but it made me paranoid.\n\nI then stopped trying to hold back my sneezes, but it happened automatically. Once in a blue moon I can sneeze regularly, but for the most part, I get right to the point where I'm about to sneeze and it automatically gets held back. I even try to go through with it but I can't. I still get the satisfaction of a sneeze, but it's definitely irregular. People usually say \"god bless you...?\" because I don't actually sneeze anything out, I just get that initial jolt, and no follow through. \n\nAm I running the risk of hurting myself in the future? I'm now 23-years-old and don't seem to have anything wrong with my sinuses, besides the fact that I can't sneeze.", "summary": "I can't sneeze! Is this bad?"}
{"id": "t3_13437h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (23f) and I (23m), are headed down the path of divorce and I dont know how to stop it.", "post": "My wife and I have been together since we were in 8th grade, moved out, went to college, and just celebrated our 2nd year of being married.\n\nHowever, when the good times are good, the bad times are equally as bad or worse. Things began a downward spiral when she thought I cheated on her with a female friend of mine and I didnt, but is the type of person that once you break her trust, she cannot trust you again. \n\nSince then we have fought about when we should be engaged, married, buying a house, and moving back home. All of these things have led to us being completely distanced from each other and now, I struggle to even hold a conversation or spend time with her. \n\nTo make matters worse I feel like I have been changing in my early 20s and dont know what I want out of life anymore while she still wants the house, kids, and a dog.\n\nI am at a loss and dont know what to do. I dont feel like we can fix things and even if we could we dont see eye to eye on key issues anymore. I feel like staying together deprives us of being happy, but seperating after being so pivotal in each others pasts is too painful to consider. She thinks Im selfish for not telling her until now and I need help to ensure we both arent wasting effort at a marriage that wont work. Reddit, I turn to you for the honest truth...Please.", "summary": "My wife and I cant see eye to eye anymore, enjoy each others company, and our marriage is headed toward divorce."}
{"id": "t3_3g0eur", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my GF [22F] Broke up with me [21M] recently and we have a holiday booked. Should I hold out?", "post": "Hi relationship advice! I'm struggling lately, this was the girl of my dreams, we went to school together, then we mmet up a few years later and we hit it off. we had been together for only 7 months. But she was the love of my life. I was (am) so sure...She is having some rough patches maybe? She broke up with me 3 weeks ago, after a month of being off with me. The excuse was that we needed space? I don't think we did, we never argued and always had a good time. \n\nIt has been a struggle, I have not been speaking to her and I don't have her on facebook. the only struggle I have is that she is going out lots and ive seen her in pictures with guys, and it just breaks my heart :(. We have a holiday booked abroad in September, and it has all been paid for (no refunds). DO females come around? She says she loves me, so does that mean she will be back? When am I suppoed to talk to her again. This heartache and depression is eating me from the inside, and since I have been cheated on in the past, I am only assuming the worst and that somebody else could be on the scene?", "summary": "GF broke up with me, Don't know if she will be back or not? We have a holiday booked, should I be expecting her to come? Or should I just not go atal/go on my own?"}
{"id": "t3_ypi66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want him [25] to marry me [23] before more babies. How?", "post": "So my boyfriend [25] and I [23] have been together for 8 years. Long time for being so young, I know. We have a 6 month old baby, and he's wonderful. SO says he'd like to have another baby when baby #1 turns 1 year old. I would've liked to have been married before any babies, but it didn't work out that way. I definitely want to be married before more babies, but it doesn't seem like he thinks about marriage at all. I don't know if he even wants to marry me. I want to have the same last name as my children. I want to have a husband. A family. I want him to claim me and be proud of it. But he's never spoken about it at all. Ever. How do I go about asking for it? It's awkward to bring it up, especially when I don't know if it's something he even wants. And if he doesn't want to marry me why does he want more kids with me? Because kids are a bigger commitment than marriage, right? If he doesn't want to marry me should I even stay with him? I'm just so confused and embarrassed to tell him what I want. Help.", "summary": "I really want him to put a ring on it, but I don't know how to let him know. "}
{"id": "t3_4ua511", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M22] have a hard time tolerating my mother [F52]", "post": "During the past year I noticed how bad my relationship with my mother has gotten. I'm in college and live with my parents. She treats me like a child and expects me to drop everything and do something for her immediately and if I don't, she gets passive aggressive and starts guilting me. If I call her out on the fact that she's being manipulative, she says things like \"I can't believe this is how my son treats me\" and gets so dramatic. It's constant demands, passive aggressiveness, guilting, yelling, drama.\n\nI don't think she's a bad person and she definitely loves me, but she's driving me crazy. Right now she's on vacation and it's just me and my dad and I feel so good with us not having to see each other. I feel so much happier and calmer. Now she FaceTimed my dad and told him that she feels that I don't care about her because I haven't been FaceTiming her a lot. Me and my dad usually FaceTime her when we're together, but I guess the fact that I'm not calling by myself is agitating her.\n\nHow do I handle this situation? I feel constantly agitated when I'm with her.", "summary": "Smothering mother, need help"}
{"id": "t3_k678k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I take HMRC to court for being late processing my return?", "post": "It seems completely unreasonable to me that if I pay my VAT bill 12 hours late, I am fined almost 100% of the figure for doing so, yet I have just got my tax bill from 2009/10 (it was 40p!), nearly a year late and somehow it's OK for HMRC to just write a limp apology letter.\n\nThe timeliness and administrative discipline imposed on me through harsh financial penalties (we're a small business) should surely be reflected on those that impose it and we should all work to the same standards and regulations.\n\nSo can I take legal action against HMRC for their latency in processing my taxes?  I'm pretty used to court action from a parking fine hobby I used to have and I have also successfully taken 2 clients to court for non/late payment without any legal support for any of it.\n\nThough this time, I think I need some support if it's possible.\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "If I'm late with paperwork or payments, HMRC fine me, so can I sue them when they're late processing their paperwork for me?"}
{"id": "t3_1zoals", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27 M] was an idiot and hooked up with my ex [27 F]. I learned she is hooking up with someone else now. How do I get over it all?", "post": "Ok reddit, I know I was an idiot and I had a moment of weakness and hooked up with an ex who treated me terribly in the past, who I was on and off for a year.  I did a good job avoiding her and rejecting her advances a few nights, but over the weekend I had a moment of weakness and wound up hooking up with her.  The cycle continues.  I made the mistake thinking she wanted to try and start things up again.\n\nAnyways, I found out a few days ago that she started hooking up with a new guy.  I had suspicions (she posted some stuff about going out, etc) and so I asked her saying I just want to make sure we're on the same page because we've always been exclusive when we hooked up in the past.  \n\nShe told me that honestly she did hook up with the guy.  I just feel so disposable again, as we were fine and I was actually hanging out with her when she met the guy.  I told her that's fine and I'm glad she was honest about it, and left it at that.  She doesn't need to know that I'm actually upset about it. \n\nI know there are other girls out there, I've been with plenty.  But she is really one of the few that I ever really cared about, and the rejection, the false hopes, the sadness, and I just feel really damn weak overall.  \n\nAgain, I know I messed this up. How can I get past these feelings of sadness and move on?  I just have knots in my stomach to see someone I loved just go on like that.", "summary": "I was stupid and hooked up with my ex who treated me bad.  I soon learned she is hooking up with others.  I have been with other girls since, but I still feel terrible, rejected, disappointed (I hoped we were getting back together) and very weak.  The main issue is while I date a decent amount, it's rare for me to truly fall for someone (like, twice ever in my life) so this is making it incredibly difficult for me."}
{"id": "t3_4e0bi2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I am going to meet my Pen Pal after 4 years", "post": "I have written to my pen pal since High school and now I'm in university. At first It was cool to have a friend in a different continent with different lifestyle and culture also note that I needed help for a language I always wanted to study, I have been texting, talking and video calling with my Pen Pal for 4 years and she is my friend, we feel great talking to each other, sent presents for birthdays, speaking to me when I'm down, making time for each other to talk, she was so in to me that she learnt my native language as I normally shrug feelings off because I'm realistic and pessimistic that I thought it would never happen, she has invited me to her country before and I declined it for years but now recently I have developed feelings and I have just bought a plane ticket to visit her. \n\nThe thing is that, Should I tell her that I have feelings for her when I am seeing her for the first time?\nOr I should just keep it to myself and not say my piece?", "summary": "pen pal for 4 years, recently developed feelings and bought tickets but feeling conflicted on telling her my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_c3zdc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College Apps are nearly over, I'm curious as to how everyone did", "post": "I'll go first. I'm a CC transfer student from CA, pretty low SAT scores, like 1890 or something...went buckwild with applications cause I got a 4.0 and I figured it couldn't hurt to dream....applied to UPenn, Stanford, CMU, NYU, USC, UCLA, USCB, UCSD, and Cornell. Filling out the transfer applications to the private schools from junior college was a bitch...spent almost a month straight doing it. Aaaaaaand only to get rejected from nearly all of them. USC wants to see spring grades. Got into UCLA, UCSD, UCSB, still waiting on nyu. I Have fairly unique extra curricular...ran a small \"business\" I guess you could call it on Amazon and made around 20k in a year buying and selling media. Then donated a months profit to American Cancer Society.", "summary": "4.0 GPA, 1890 SAT, transfer student, econ/business major, rejected: Upenn, Stanford, Cornell, CMU; Accepted: UCLA, UCSD, UCSB; USC wants to see spring grades, still waiting on NYU"}
{"id": "t3_o8301", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Some asshole in my battalion in JROTC stole my expensive calculator. This isn't okay.", "post": "I took a physics test the morning of a field trip, so I needed my calculator. I didn't want to carry it around all day, so I thought it would be safe in the ROTC building. I was wrong. The person who took it left all my other papers and pencils, but they took my $130 calculator. What am I supposed to do now? My high school is having finals next week. I can barely get a good grade in calculus and physics WITH a calculator. That is not so much of a concern, but these people who I'm supposed to trust took something that wasn't theirs. My fellow cadets are supposed to be the most responsible students in the school and set an example for others. It was probably stupid of me to trust teenagers, but these are the people I see everyday and one day will be serving in the military. Do you want the kind of people who cheat and steal in charge of thousands of dollars of equipment defending your country? This is ridiculous. Sorry, but this REALLY pissed me off. Was I right to think I could trust the members of my battalion?", "summary": "fellow ROTC cadet stole my stuff, really pissed me off because we're supposed to trust each other and set example for others."}
{"id": "t3_3w0zf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my friend [21 F] for 5 months, realized after surgery that our friendship may not be so great after all..", "post": "This is my first time posting on reddit, so bear with me!\n\nI moved to the Northeast in August for a post-grad program that has a small class size. I became closer to a certain group of girls, I think mostly because we have similar personalities and live close to each other. I became particularly close to one girl, we'll call her Monica.\n\nRecently I had to go to the ER and underwent emergency surgery, and I let my friends know through group text. Everyone seemed supportive and let me know that if there was anything I needed, they would be there for me. Monica was interviewing out of town the day I was in the ER, but she texted me after I had my surgery and was also supportive. The last text I sent out through the group chat was letting my friends know that I had been discharged. \n\nIt's been four days since I was in the hospital and no one, including Monica, has texted to ask how I'm doing or visited me. Maybe they thought the surgery wasn't a big deal? I don't really use text too often outside of making plans with Monica and the others when we go out each week (it's actually mostly me, Monica, and another friend in our group who go out), but I'm surprised that not even Monica has asked me how I've been doing.\n\nMy roommate, who is also in our program, asked me if anyone has visited me yet, and I told her that no one has. She felt disappointed for me, and she was surprised that even Monica, who she thought was closest to me, hasn't even texted me since I was discharged.\n\nI understand that since we have two tests (today and tomorrow) this week they may be busy, but I still feel disappointed that none of them have bothered to ask how I am since I've been discharged. Maybe they'll text me or visit after tomorrow?\n\nMaybe I should start becoming someone who texts a lot? But we see each other every day...lol. \n\nMaybe I'm just looking to express my feelings about this, and I've realized that I should definitely make more friends outside of the program.", "summary": "Had surgery, realized I was not as close to a friend as I thought, and now realize I should make more friends outside of my program."}
{"id": "t3_2hehk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationship] me (24m) want to get back in touch with (f24) haven't talked in a year", "post": "So i worked with this girl for quite a while that I fell for hard and thought she showed interest in me as well. we haven't talked for a year when she told me she likes to keep her circle of friends small. We're somewhat complete opposites but thats why I like her. I just want send her a message and talk to her again but don't know how to go about it. I pass by her but can't bring myself to at least say hi because I felt like that would be shot down. I just need a little advice about my situation and would like to hopefully talk with her again", "summary": "still have crush on girl I worked with, and haven't spoke in a year. Want to talk and hopefully get back with her"}
{"id": "t3_454tdp", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog suddenly fearful at meal times.", "post": "I'll start with a background and my dogs normal behavior. She's a ~3 year old Boston Terrior who I've had since she was 9 weeks. Her typical personality is very energetic with a big appetite, very friendly especially towards all humans. She's never been timid or fearful of any living thing. The only household items she's afraid of is the vacuume cleaner. Which we've be working on lots of positive reinforcement lately with it. And she is showing improvement towards her vacuume cleaner fears. \n\nIn regards to meal time, because of her big appetite I've always served her food at the same time every day, twice a day. I meantion this as this routine is very established for her. She knows when it's dinner time as she'll sit by her bowl. Typically I pour the food in the bowl and give her the \"okay\" to dive in. I don't usually make her work too hard for it. She just has to be polite and I say \"okay\" and she dives in. \n\nNow intermittently in the past two weeks, she'll still sit by her bowl when it's mealtime. But as soon as I pour the food she cowers and hides in her safe place (aka her crate). Her hackles will even go up. So I just leave the bowl of food and she'll make her way to it in a half hour or so. \n\nNothing has changed. Her food is he same, the container of food is the same, same bowl, same amount, same schedule. I can't think of any event where I may have accidentally spooked her in relation to her food. \n\nLots of text, I know. I just wanted to give a thorough background in relation to this new problem. I'm hoping someone can think of a why and hopefully tips on getting her to her normal behavior.", "summary": "Dog is suddenly very fearful and cowers when I pour her food at mealtime."}
{"id": "t3_2ov44q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last update. Husband (27/m) is leaving it up to me (27/f) to deal with his relatives after our vaccination decision.", "post": "[My first update](\n\nI wanted to update quickly as it's early in the morning and I'm livid. I called my SIL last night (the one who was \"banned\" from my husband's sisters). I was candid with her and told her why I was calling, what happened, etc. She asked if she could come over and I obliged. \n\nI don't want to go into absolutely everything she told me, but it was much, much worse than I thought. They are so terrible to her. I'm actually in shock. I knew they weren't the sweetest, but I found them to be very kind to me when we first got married. I just can't believe all the shit they do and say and get away with! My SIL is NOT childfree like they have told me. She is infertile. I cried when she told me that. On top of that, she said she was hurt that I hadn't invited her over because she got her vaccines so she could see my son. I did not know this. I AM SO FUCKING PISSED. I cannot believe them. After she left, I called my husband and told him we needed to talk. He came home and I told him everything, angrily. He called his brother, apologizing not knowing what the hell she had been put through. \n\nI deleted each and every one of them on Facebook and blocked their phone numbers on my cell phone as did my husband. We're completely cutting them out of our lives. Only one of them noticed I deleted them so far. She called the house and my husband picked up (we don't have caller ID which we will be getting today). I took the phone and told her to kiss my fucking ass.\n\nThe only thing I'm upset about with all of this is their children. I do love them.\n\nAs far as my SIL goes, I hope she can learn to trust me so we can become real family. Starting next week, she is going to watch my son once in awhile so my husband and I can go out and reconnect as our communication has been lacking.\n\nThank you all for your advice and support.", "summary": "Talked to SIL. Cut off his sisters for good."}
{"id": "t3_4nxev7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [25F] of 7 years and I [27M] have lost our sexual intimacy due to a medical condition she has. I feel unwanted and unloved.", "post": "I can count on my two hands the number of times in the past two or three years that my girlfriend and I have shared any kind of sexual intimacy and it is making me question our relationship.\n\nPIV sex can be extremely painful for her, like an intense burning sensation that can last for an hour after sex, due to a symptom of her endometriosis. \n\nBecause of this I feel selfish when I initiate sex and she understandably very rarely initiates. When she does initiate sex I can see her building herself up to it like she is going to jump into the cold sea. I appreciate the effort she makes when she does initiate but I know that she doesn't really want to be having sex with me. She honestly seems scared of sex now and she has said that sex isn't worth it for her because of the pain.\n\nWe have spoken many times about the need for more intimacy but despite that we rarely kiss, we almost never kiss passionately outside of sex, and we almost never have oral sex or any sexual contact using our hands.\n\nI tried to discuss this with her recently as we haven't had any sexual contact in 3 months but when we discuss sex she retreats into herself and becomes quiet until the conversation moves on. \n\nShe has said before that she blames herself for our problems because of her medical condition. I always tell her that of course it isn't her fault but I just can't understand why we don't have any sexual contact now. I know PIV sex is pretty much off limits but we have no physical intimacy at all now. To me love and a physical connection are intrinsically linked so this is really making me question our relationship.\n\nWe are probably getting to the point in our relationship where we decide whether we will be with each other for good and even though I love her more than anything else I can't imagine feeling physically unwanted and unloved for a lifetime.\n\nAt the moment, and for quite a long time, I have felt more like we are close friends who share chaste kisses than partners who will spend our lives together.", "summary": "Girlfriend has a medical condition that makes PIV sex extremely painful for her. We now have almost no sexual intimacy of any kind. I feel unwanted and sometimes unloved because of this."}
{"id": "t3_2rifpp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "We think our friend (23/M) is getting catfished by a former classmate (~23/F), advice on what to do?", "post": "About a year ago, one of our friends begun having a long distance relationship with a girl who left our town during middle school. She reconnected with him via WhatsApp and Instagram. We are suspicious of her because:\n\n* All her photos are hella filtered. Looks nothing like the girl we remember. We confirmed by looking at class photos. Different skin tone, cheek bones, etc..\n\n* On Instagram, a High School friend of hers (went to school in Florida I think) commented on how different she looks now. Something like \"Wow, you look so different 5 years later! Beautiful!\"\n\n* Also on Instagram, a family member posted something like \"Aw cousin, wish you could post real photos without being afraid\". The photo was deleted before I got home from class.\n\n* She has refused to come visit after almost a year in this \"relationship\".\n\n* She claims to live outside the country but she has posted photos from family events who live out in California.\nA couple of us have mentioned some of our concerns to our friend but he waived us off. Now, we're determined to figure out what's going on with this girl.\n\nWe have tried Tineye and Gogole Images for reverse image searches but had no luck. To make sure they were working, we tried reverse searching other public Instagram photos and they also returned no results. Maybe there are better reverse image searches for social media photos?\n\nAnyone have any recommendations on what our next step would be?", "summary": "We are almost certain our friend is getting catfished by a girl who left our town almost 8 years ago. Her new photos look nothing like the photos from middle school. Advice on how to find something conclusive without being confrontational?***"}
{"id": "t3_4f3azs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [19 M] just got back with his ex [19 F] and I think he's made a big mistake. Advice?", "post": "Firstly, me and this friend are like brothers. I was always at his before he started uni, and I've been on a family holiday with him. And he adored this girl, they had been dating for a good two years, and one day she just said she didn't love him. No kind of warning signs, just cut loose. He desperately tried to patch it up, she refused, I, his family and other friends finally convinced him to give her up.\n\nForward to a couple days back, and she says she made a huge mistake (it's been about 3 months), still loves him etc and despite him telling me he has other girls he's met, he goes back to her. What's really pushed me is he just messaged me on her facebook account, meaning they're basically really close if not back together. She's manipulative, he knows this, he says if she just ignores him again and hates him for no reason, like last time he'll take a stand, but I don't think he will. Can I help him without pushing our friendship too much? Thanks so much for all advice in advance.", "summary": "Friend of over 15 years is back with manipulative ex, how can I help him without pushing our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_r4k30", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need new friends. I have no idea how to make new ones, please help.", "post": "I have friends and they are not bad but they are not people I feel connected to on a deeper level of beliefs and aspirations. I want friends who are competent in the way they communicate and carry themselves but still have a sense of madness and eccentricity that leads them to pursue unusual ideas and practices. I don't care what it is, just that they have a passion and taste for exploring and experimenting with life. \n\nNeedless to say, my current friends aren't like this. I hang out with them less than I had been lately, but that doesn't mean I'm progressing toward the person I want to be or the lifestyle I want to have. I know I need new friends, new minds to learn from and bounce ideas off of in order to do this. I am pretty introverted and don't know where to look or how to connect even if I was in the right place. I'm talking about friendship on a strong intelligent and experimental foundation, not just another bro to bro out with. \n\nAnybody got experience or suggestions, I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "I need new friends, old ones not satisfying. Like to make acquaintance on a intelligent and experimental level. I want to enter into a circle of some really interesting people."}
{"id": "t3_18ewty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "should i (f19) end it with my boyfriend (m22) of 2 and a half years?", "post": "Let me start off by saying that i love and care about him more than i have anyone else. But we have alot of issues and im just not sure if they can be fixed. We have broken up twice befor, but were back together within 24 hours. a big issue is that he is bipolar and he gets so mad so easily which causes alot of fights (nothing physical). he can sometimes be really mean to me. But he says that i handle his mood swings really well. I try to be understanding when he gets mad at me and know its just his mood swings but im just not sure if its healthy for me to be in a relationship where my SO is always mad at me. another issue is that he says he loves me but hes not sure if hes in love with me, and we both feel that after 2.5 years that he should have fallen by now. We think one reason for him not feeling in love with me is his bipolar and depression medicine. also, i think maybe because hes older now and maybe his hormones have leveled out a little. when i was younger, when i liked a guy, i would feel really obsessed with them. and i don't get that really strong feeling anymore but i know im still in love with him. its just a different feeling then when i was younger. we started dating when i was 16 and he was 19 and he had just started his meds before we started dating so could that be why? I really dont want to break up with him, but maybe its for the best. ive thought about it but i just cant ever bring myself to do it.", "summary": "don't want to end things with my boyfriend but maybe its for the best"}
{"id": "t3_t9jn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When do I give up?", "post": "I (22y/o F) have been casually seeing someone (26y/o M) for the past few months however have come to have feelings for him.\n\nAt the start of all this he said he didn't want a relationship, but now I'm not so sure if he still thinks that. I know he is still seeing other people however his attitude towards me has changed (cuddly, talks about things that actually matter all that sort of stuff). I dislike that he see's other people and it upsets me but it isn't really my business as he isn't my boyfriend. I also work with him and his dad.\n\nSo reddit what do I do? I don't want to resent him if things go south but I'm not quite ready to end things.", "summary": "When do you decide whether to end a casual relationship or push for it to become a monogamous relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_50iuh4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] am not turned on by my boyfriend [35M] at all anymore.", "post": "We have been together for 4 years and the sex was off the chain for about the first year. I got on the shot at some point during that time and bled/spotted for about a year straight, which complicated things but the sex was still good when we had it. Then he started asking about a threesome. I told him at the beginning of the relationship I was bi, I've always been attracted to both male and female but had never had any experience with the latter. I told him if he could find someone I was down. So we ended up having a couples swap swinger type deal, which took some convincing for me, and as I originally thought, was not what I wanted. He got very jealous for various reasons and things went downhill after that. Some time later, there was some accidental penetration to the wrong hole, it happened two different times, along with another time when I had agreed to anal but he entered way too fast. I feel like I'm traumatized now and I can't even let him go fast without thinking he's gonna do it again. I'm fine with anal, or was, but now I dont think I could do it again. He constantly brings it up like nothing happened despite my telling him he needs to ease me back into it. His lack of understanding makes me extremely dry, along with the guilt he's put on me every time I say no. We're now at the point where he's completely witheld affection from me without me giving him some. I also have endometriosis, so it's often painful anyway. I have no desire to have sex with him and it feels like an endless cycle to the point where I'm considering ending it. This is also my first relationship so any advice is very welcomed.", "summary": "this is my first relationship, after 4 years my desire to have sex with him is non existent. I have endometriosis, he stuck it in the wrong hole a few times, his lack of affection is a huge turn off. Should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_3qhiw4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shaving my beard.", "post": "Obligatory this happened last week.\n\nSo I suffer from severe anxiety. Over the last few years I've developed a habit of stress pruning. Basically I pull my beard, chest hair and eyebrows out without even realising.\n\nI've been pretty stressed lately and last week noticed something terrible. I'd pruned my beard so much I had a massive bald patch under my chin. Obviously I didn't want to walk around with a bald patch so I decided to do the unthinkable, I shaved my beard. I was gutted, I love having a beard. \n\nAnyway, cut to a few days later and I noticed that in the absence of a beard to prune I've apparently been focusing heavily on the eyebrows. So now I have no beard and half an eyebrow above each eye. It's not my best look ever.\n\nI'd post a picture but apparently this sub is text only.", "summary": "Shaved beard due to bald patch now I have (nearly) no eyebrows."}
{"id": "t3_1z34mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M27] don't understand why I miss ex[27F] after she treated me TERRIBLY.", "post": "A few months back, I posted how my ex treated me terribly over [here] .  You guys gave me lots of good advice and I haven't ran back (long story short, we dated 6 months, then became on again and off again with her running to her ex each time).\n\nThe last time we ended things, it was because I noticed she was texting her ex all night, so I asked her about it. She exploded about it, tried to make me the bad guy and then proceeded to run to his house.   I later learned they didn't hook up that night (mutual friend I trust told me) but still...Like I said, I was treated terribly.  She has tried to hook up with me once since but I rejected it.\n\nBut lately though, the anger subsided and I've just been really depressed, missing her, getting jealous, etc. I know she's not seeing her ex anymore, and I have no logical desire to get burnt again, but I've been so depressed missing her and I don't know why, especially when I've been with other girls since...\n\n lately I've been surrounded by couples and have been feeling pretty third wheel, not sure if that has something to do with it.  And while I know there are plenty of girls out there and I have no problem meeting women, getting physical, etc but it's very rare for me to actually fall in love, and this was the 2nd girl ever out of the many I've been with that I actually loved.  \n\n I'm not sure what to do.  I've been feeling terrible the past few days, and I'm embarrassed about it, because why would I miss this drama queen who treated me like absolute garbage?  I know she says she messed up, but I forgave her multiple times before, and honestly don't think I can even get back with her without being paranoid the entire time.", "summary": "normal relationship for 6 months turned on again/off again for 6 more.  She ended things with me multiple times and got with her ex, the last being the most brutal... yet I still miss her for some reason, even though last time I ran into her I rejected her trying to hook up that night."}
{"id": "t3_2flmor", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] and my boyfriend [31M] of 7 years - how to get him to be more dominating and more adventurous in bed?", "post": "So here's a bit of background:\n\nWe started dating when I was 17 and he was my first boyfriend. We didn't have sex for the first year we were together because I wanted to know that wasn't all he was interested in and because I have always had problems trusting people and didn't want to be THAT vulnerable(at least not yet). When it did finally happen it was waaaay better than I could have anticipated and it happened ALOT. I was never bothered by the fact that he had a lot more experience, I was actually looking forward to him showing me what he knows.\n\nBUT...now it doesn't happen as often as I would like or with as much variety. I have to initiate sex 7/10 times and even when I do there is no foreplay, no real enthusiasm, no variety. It is good and we both get off but I want him to be more dominant and change it up every now and then. I have asked him about his fantasies in order to spark a bit of enthusiasm but he just says he doesn't have any. I know he has a foot fetish but that has never really come into play during sex(don't understand why not). I know he is into kinkier and more adventurous things(which I would love to try) but I don't know how to make it happen. I have brought it up on multiple occasions and he'll make more of an effort the next time or two but quickly falls back into his old ways. I told him a few things I would like to try but he has not acted on any of them. I am starting to give up on improving our sex life but I can't help by want more. I don't understand why he is holding back and being so reserved. Somebody please help me, how can I get him to be more dominant and adventurous in bed? \n\n Otherwise, I would say we have a really good relationship with the usual ups and downs but nothing out of the ordinary or that we haven't overcome.", "summary": "Our sex life has plateaued over the years and I need advice on how to get him to be more dominant and kinky in bed. Or at least some perspective on why he would possible hold back his fantasies and fetishes."}
{"id": "t3_2pgkg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my boyfriend [35 M] 9 Months, not sure if this in my issue or if I'm being unreasonable", "post": "So, we met through mutual friends. We are pretty different in personality. I take things too seriously, he takes things as they come. \n\nI have always had this idea in my head of what I wanted my life to be like, good job, nice place.. the ability and money to do nice things on the weekend (things that don't have to involve going to parties all the time) and go away for weekends. \n\nThe age gap doesn't bother me really, but when I think about being 32 and him being 40 without the possibility of a good job, that bothers me. He is currently working in a touring company that pays minimum wage and doesn't operate over the winter. Which means he goes on the dole for the winter (social welfare for the 'mericans). \n\nHe is also involved in a community arts project, which is great and I like his determination in creating this studio. \n\nWe have fun when we are together, but when we are not these thoughts enter my head on a regular basis. He seems to have this disdain for anything \"mainstream\", meaning if a lot of people like it he will almost go out of his way not to. This can be applied to clothes, music, movies, exercise, diet anything. \n\nNow he is not unfit, or overweight, but he doesn't take care of his skin or house. His house is disgusting!! Food on the floor. At 35 I think this should be a red flag. \n\nI do like him, and I feel like his sillyness makes me a little less serious. Which is good. But we have been fighting more recently about making an effort to spend time together, and have had 2 conversations about maybe breaking up. \n\nI'm not sure what to do really. I enjoy being with him, but I'm not sure if these things that bother me are something I need to work on not caring so much about, or if they are a deal-breaker. \n\nSomeone else's advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Not sure if my perceptions of goals in life are unreasonable and I need to change, or if they are important and are deal breakers."}
{"id": "t3_3xwk0p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking mushrooms with David Bowie", "post": "Okay, this happened in high school in the early 2000's. I took about three grams of Blue Amazonian Cubensis at 7 am just before first bell my junior year of high school. Worst idea of my life. First period, CAD class, everything is smooth, second period, Advanced Architecture, shit starts going downhill real fast. My computer is talking to me, I'm just dragging random lines in CAD. I leave, my teacher stops me, starts saying something, he's talking like Charlie fucking Brown and all I hear is whomp whomp whomp. I turn and walk out, the whomps intensify, I continue walking. I'm wandering through the halls, we had 1500 kids in my graduating class, it was a pretty big school. I'm lost. I'm walking through a maze of tiles and lockers and I'm stuck in a maze, circa 1980s The Labyrinth. I hear David Bowie calling my name, I gotta get the fuck out of here. I start panicking, then it happens, the bell rings. Loud enough to burst my ear drums from the complete silence to bell ringing catastrophe. The kids pour into the halls, so many legs moving. So many conversations at once, it's fight or flight. I start sprinting, throwing people out of my way like a Die Hard chase through a crowded subway. Hours have gone by since I left class, in reality, most likely twenty minutes tops, I've lost my mind. I make it outside, freedom. We had a closed campus, the security guard spots me making my break, he gives chase. I cut through an alley, hop a fence, cut over a few blocks. I've lost him. An hour later wandering my own neighborhood I finally find my own house. I get inside, finally home safe. My stomach starts to turn, I don't know if mushrooms on an empty stomach, or all the running, I have to hurl. I spend the next three hours hugging the toilet vomiting rainbows asking for God to spare my life and I'll never neat mushrooms again. I pass out, wake up with a pounding headache, covered in vomit, and sweat. I thank God I'm alive, and wash up. I take mushrooms again the following weekend.", "summary": "Took mushrooms at school. Hilarity ensues."}
{"id": "t3_501axh", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How the hell do I find love as an overweight woman? (25f)", "post": "I am 25 years old. I have had one relationship before that I would describe as nice but casual. \n\nI have been on dates and have found that I'm checking boxes for things but I guess being overweight is a big deal breaker.\n\nI've lost weight, I used to be bigger, but could stand to lose a few more stones. \n\nIn the past, I used to believe that being overweight did limit your pool of partners but at the moment it feels like there's no-one.\n\nI am on apps like tinder, pof and okcupid! So I do feel like i'm actively looking.\n\nAnyway any advice would be amazing and I would fully appreciate it.", "summary": "fat girl wants to find love."}
{"id": "t3_2vgn31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my [24 M] army boyfriend of 4 months. He hasn't spoken to me in a week.", "post": "My boyfriend is at an army training (JRTC).  I know he has access to his phone.  I also know he is busy and career focussed at the same time.  The problem is that he has been ignoring my texts and hasn't spoken to me in a week.  It makes me especially concerned considering I saw that he had logged into Facebook a couple times recently, so I know he isn't THAT busy. I feel extremely hurt that he seems like he's pulling away.  It's interfering with my daily functioning, I feel depressed and unproductive at work.  He's all I think about and I need to start moving on.  I've decided I need to initiate a conversation about breaking up.  I want to do it ASAP but am also considering waiting until he gets back from the training in a little over a month. Waiting would be the considerate thing to do - but the anticipation is killing me.  I also don't think he deserves it considering the fact that he is treating me this way while he's gone.  Maybe I'm overreacting?  Ugh I don't know.  I'm going crazy and feel so terribly sad about this.  Advice please.", "summary": "I don't know if or when I should break up with my boyfriend who seems to be ignoring me"}
{"id": "t3_2anmk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my boyfriend[25 M] of 3 years, brother's heroin addiction interfering with relationship.", "post": "My boyfriend is choosing to move to MD and live with his brother in a house with his heroin possession and use if I don't come with him. I shouldn't feel bad but I do. He's worked too hard in his education and career to fall for this. He's an electrical engineer highly praised by a major aviation company. Other than his boredom in Iowa, I don't know why he'd want to risk this.\n\n---\n\nBoyfriend is now demanding I allow heroin addict in any place we live, to hang out even if I come and we get our own place.", "summary": "Boyfriend is demanding I make heroin addict brother part of our lives/home."}
{"id": "t3_unlz3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "WOMEN OF REDDIT, I need advice", "post": "Here is the situation.\n\nI dated this girl off and on for a few months and she originally had a crush on me but things got complicated because I didn't put myself out there/communicate enough. She basically has burned the shit out of my douchey self by dating this other guy and I just spoke to this girl a few hours ago and she is definitely still my friend and not \"somebody that I used to know\". I just assumed throughout the conversation that she is still dating this other guy who happens to also be my friend.\n\nA part of me thinks that I should/could move on but quite frankly I feel like this girl is 100% worth another shot. I honestly could easily see myself being with her until my death. \n\nMy feeling is that she is not that serious with the other individual but how do I know when to express how I feel? At the very least I want to remain her friend but what do I do if I love her? \n\nShould I remain in contact and just be 100% friendly until she is done with this other individual, then tell her how I feel?\n\nI'm sure that things would get awkward if I said that I wanted to be with her right now. Is it okay to wait and just hide my feelings? What do I do? \n\nMore details: we live far from each other SF -> LA \n\nAt one point I actually expressed that I wanted to be with her but it was already too late! She was seeing this other boy already, but sounded very sad on the phone. :C\n\nI don't hate her!! I just want to rewind and fix everything... I suppose I can be friendly,  and just casually date other people... is this the right choice? HELP!!!", "summary": "I sabotaged this relationship and now am in hell. I need help/support, please."}
{"id": "t3_4dkw1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] is stuck in a love triangle with two of my best friends.", "post": "I'm sorry if I screw up formatting or anything because this is my second post in reddit ever.\n\nSo my two best friends are Bear[M] and Jet[F]. We all live in the same university. Bear and I have been really good friends for three years now. We became friends with Jet three months back. I developed feelings for her a while back. I tend to be stupid and go all in usually when i like someone. I've been trying really hard to be logical about this and i asked her out politely making sure that she could say no and not affect the relationship between both of us.\n\nSo a lot of people like the way Bear looks and a lot of my female friends occasionally flirt with him. Jet used to do the same too but yesterday she admitted to me about having feelings for him. What i want to do is not still have feeling for her and react to how i would to this if i didnt have feelings for her. Jet and i spend most of each day with each other. She's been a really good friend.\n\nI dont know if Bear knows whats happening. I think he does. I havent told any of my friends about how i feel about this. The last time i did tell them when i had a crush on someone, they kinda made it harder for me to get over it and it got really difficult for me. He knows Jet likes him. But i dont think he feels anything. I dont want that to give me hope. I can't stop it either.\n\nI don't know what to do. I have enough to deal with already with all of my academics going to shit because of my degrading mental health over the last couple of years. I'm just finally figuring out how to deal with depression and i think its working finally. I can't get outside of my own head and think this through. Can someone just talk to me about this,please?", "summary": "me [M] -> jet[F] -> Bear[m] is the chain of affection. i want to be mature about this since she clearly does not feel that way about me. its hard. need someone to talk to me"}
{"id": "t3_1h0wpm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone have experiences with \"if she cheated with you, she'll cheat on you\" situations?", "post": "This spring I met a really nice girl and we hit it off really good right away. I knew she had a boyfriend but at first all I wanted was to get laid. We ended up having sex and we started to have a \"thing\" while she was still with him. We both fell deeply in love with each other, and she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend.\n\nI really love her, and she really loves me. And we have even spoken about our future together i.e marriage, kids.\n\nWe both have talked about the phrase \"if she cheated with you, she'll cheat on you\" and how the situation came to be and she assures me that she wouldn't do that to me. \n\nI'm wondering if anyone on reddit had a similar situation and hopefully looking for some happy endings.", "summary": "I love this girl and I'm hoping to hear of other redditors similar situations."}
{"id": "t3_2dh2fc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16m] having problems having a serious conversation with friend [15f]", "post": "Alright so I will try to keep this relatively short and answer questions in the comments if needed.\n\nSo I started talking to this girl about 6 months ago and us talking has kind of been a roller coaster. She liked me at one point but now she just wants to be friends. I have had a hard time with this over the past few months with mixed signals, hanging out with her a few times, and talking.\n\nThe big problem is that I can't never talk to her about anything serious. Anytime I apologize for something she doesn't want to talk about it. She knows I'm sorry but she doesn't talk about it any farther. \n\nI've been wanting to talk to her lately about something pretty serious but she seems to get scared every time I bring it up. She'll give excuses or just say she isn't comfortable talking about it. \n\nI don't know what to do to be able to tell her what I want because she never wants to talk in person about it. She's one of my best friends and we trust each other with a lot of things. I don't just want to drop her because she is still important to me.", "summary": "Friend of mine won't have a serious conversation over topics that are important to me."}
{"id": "t3_3ftuje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 F] get turned off by the thought of a slow and steady relationship.", "post": "Every time I think about post-high school relationships, it makes me think that they're more marriage-oriented the older you get, which turns me off. I don't know why, but the idea of marriage and having a slow and steady relationship sounds boring and dreadful. \n\nI've never really liked the whole idea of doing cutesy traditional relationship things (ex: meeting the parents over dinner, holding hands, having the guy head-over-heels for me, going on fancy dates) because it just seems cringey and gets old fast.\n\nThe thing is, I want to be able to have a relationship where I have sex with my boyfriend 24/7 because it just seems exciting that way! I guess I get more interested in high school relationships because it connotes to sneaking out late at night from the family, not really having the worry of whether marriage is in question or not, and just not taking life too seriously because we're so young!\n\nI've talked about this to a few of my friends and they think that my dating desires are a little off because what I described seems to be more of a FWB than an actual committed relationship to them. I'm not sure what to think or what to want, but I feel like it's kind of a problem to think that without tons of sex, a relationship is boring.", "summary": "I hate steady relationships, just want to have sex 24/7 with future boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1fqmfu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] in a 4y relationship with [35/f] with husband and 2 kids", "post": "It's almost 4 years now, we met when I was 19 and SO 30. \n\nWe were close friends for a year, I got to know her kids(she's an amazing parent) also got to know her husband. He is verbally abusive, also had her caged at home for like first 5 years of marriage. He's extremely catholic and conservative and she will divorce him regardless of me being with her or not, but she needs to have a stable job before doing so. \n\nI absolutely love her company, never had anyone with whom I felt so comfortable around, we share hobbies, I mean, we read same books, game together, sometimes work together. We spend 2-3 evenings a week together. \n\nHowever, I'm really afraid, that jumping in this relationship after divorce will destroy everything and leave her in a situation worse than now. It's all going great now,  she recently got a decent full time job, kids love me but still, I am absolutely terrified of potential consequences of the duties overwhelming me,  mid-life crisis of chasing girls, starting to see the age difference, etc - I have huge doubts.", "summary": "I'm a 23yo lover/partner of a *wonderful* 35yo that has a husband and 2 kids trying to divorce, and I don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_e8kca", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Band Booster Parents are the most selfless people on this planet.", "post": "This actually happened last Friday, but these people deserve some credit, and I just thought to post it. I recently got asked to volunteer at a high school football game in the concession stands. As a college student, there are a billion other things I would rather do on a Friday night, but they needed the help, so I agreed. At first, I was standing there thinking,\"Why am I doing this? I don't know these people. I have no connection to these people. I will benefit nothing from this.\" Then I looked at the people around me and thought,\"Well, they're here too, but they... they... wait they're not getting paid either. They don't actually get anything out of this. Their kids are the only ones that get anything out of this. They could easily be at home or in the stands enjoying the game, but instead, they are serving hot dogs and pizza in order to make sure their kids have the best equipment. Wow, I'm such an asshole...\" Basically, I learned these people, who probably already do more than enough for their children, were going the extra mile, and a shitty mile at that. It also was annoying to see the people who were rude to the parents. These people are selflessly serving people, and your hot cocoa is not hot enough? Show some damned respect. Next time you buy pizza or whatever at a high school football game, go tell the band parents how wonderful they are. They totally deserve it.", "summary": "Band parents work every Friday night, to get their kids cool shit. Respect."}
{"id": "t3_40ixry", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting the fire alarm off in the library on the first day of the semester", "post": "Today I was trying to find my Calculus Room, but for some reason my class is in the same building as the library instead of the math building. I'm not familiar with this building even though I've been here for 3 years. Anyway I look at the map and my room is connected to a hallway that I cannot get to from the main entrance. I have to go into the library up to the second floor. Then cross the entire second floor go back down to the first floor and my room is on the end of that hallway. Well I go into the library got to the second floor and get to the staircase that I think is the one I need to go down. I see a sign in the door that says push hard. What I didn't see until after I opened the door was the fine print that said \"Alarm will sound when opened.\" The alarm went off and I just acted like I was looking at books, the strange thing though was that nobody not even the staff did anything when the alarm went off. So after 10 minutes of pretending to find I book I left and went back to the first floor main hallway. Only to find the room I am looking for was attached to the main hallway the entire time.", "summary": "couldn't find my class, thought I was taking the right path only to set off the fire alarm. But nobody cared that the alarm went off and I found my class room"}
{"id": "t3_4ffq2r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [23m] and told my friend [21m] that I'm falling for him. It's mutual but he's currently taken (but wants out) and I'm graduating soon.", "post": "Here's the deal:\n\nI'm kind of madly in ~something~ with my friend. I realized this just before he entered into a relationship with his boyfriend. I finally told him after months of being utterly petrified of the prospect, and it turns out that it's mutual. Not just a mutual attraction, but in his words \"you're the first person i think of when I wake up and I want to spend literally all my time with you.\" He said that he's wanted this for basically two years, and wants to build something too, but circumstances are getting in the way.\n\nHere's the rub: He's currently dating this guy. He told me he can't see that relationship lasting much longer. He basically said he feels a much deeper connection with me but the current situation can't be changed, since he and his BF are both working together this summer. Even worse, I'm graduating, and I'll probably be far from school. \n\nI know this sounds like whiny and star-crossed, and I figure the suggestions will be \"move-on\" and \"don't even start a LDR\". It's just...as someone who is demisexual, and hasn't really felt this way about ANYONE before, I just really want to know if there's a way this could work out. I really can't imagine feeling this way about anyone ever again.", "summary": "Two guys mad about each other, but one is graduating and one stuck in a relationship for the next 4 months."}
{"id": "t3_z7zu4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was high school like for you?", "post": "I am going to college tomorrow and I am reminiscing about high school, watching \"Fast Times at Ridgemont High\".\n\nFor me, high school was nothing like the movies, there were  no spontaneous outbursts of song, a lot less sex, and a lot more Asians than expected. I loved my high school though, the smartest were never publicly humiliated or bullied and the jocks kept to themselves. I went to prom alone but I was able to hang out with friends during and after and had the best time of my life. No one ever bragged about having sex and I am pretty sure very few people actually had sex, I never saw a pregnant girl waling through the halls and all the teachers were extremely cool. \n\nI miss high school and I am scared of what college has to offer.", "summary": "High school was the best time of my life and I hope college will be better."}
{"id": "t3_ho1wl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going to court for following a speeding cop, any advice?", "post": "Here's the story: I got onto the highway and there was nothing but the open road in front of me, two lanes with a barrier separating the oncoming traffic. A police officer pulled onto the highway in front of me so I made sure I was going 65mph and kept going, but noticed that the cop's vehicle was accelarating way faster than me. He didn't have any lights on, so I [stupidly?] decided to test my luck and go the same speed as the police officer. Neither his lights nor siren were on. He was in the right lane and I was in the left lane about 40 feet behind him, going the same speed. After a minute, the police officer slams on his brakes, gets behind me and pulls me over. \n\nI pulled over immediately and had all my papers ready, addressing him as \"sir\" and being as cordial as I know how. He asked why I was clocking him and I said that I was just going with traffic. He told me that the reason he was speeding was because he was trying to get into my lane so he could make a left turn at the upcoming stoplight. I asked, \"If you wanted to switch lanes, why wasn't your turn signal on?\" I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, but I thought it was a valid question and his answer might be useful if I had to go to court. \n\nAt that point he just asked me to step out of the car. I asked if I was under arrest and he just walked back to his car. He began talking about taking me to jail if I didn't sign the ticket, even though I told him I was going to sign the ticket, I just first wanted to know why I was being asked out of my car when I was cooperating the whole time. He never answered why he had me get out of my car, I signed my ticket, and my court date is in a couple days. Is there anything I can do? If I could charge him with speeding I would; him speeding was an obvious abuse of power, and what can citizens do about small but principally important abuses of power but somehow draw attention to it?", "summary": "Followed 40 feet behind a speeding cop on an empty road who didn't have lights or siren on and got a ticket for it. Is there anything I can do? How can this possibly be legal?"}
{"id": "t3_kinuy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the closest you've ever come to death? (x-post from /r/reddit.com)", "post": "How close have you ever come to losing your life in any fashion?\nI'll start. For me, I was an undergrad in college, living in on-campus apartments. I stayed up with a friend from out of town until after 3 in the morning the day before he left. Being so late, I crashed hard, knowing I had to get up early in the morning.\n\nI woke up gradually, snoozing my alarm a few times. As I gradually became more conscious, I realized there was something in my hair, like dust. When I became aware of that not being normal I woke up, saw what looked like plaster on my pillow and bits of it in my hair.\n\nI first looked up, thinking maybe some part of the ceiling had collapsed, but no. Then I looked next to my pillow above where my head lies in the bed and saw my window. It had been destroyed.\n\nIt took a little figuring out, but what I eventually learned was this: some non-student individuals had been up late in the parking lot. One of them had a handgun (a .45) and fired it, then they all scattered. The bullet entered the wall in the edge of the window frame, shattered the glass and destroyed the metal edge of the window, carved out a path through the wall, then embedded itself in the metal frame inside of the wall edge. That point in the wall was sitting right next to my head as I slept. The wall was less than a foot from the top of my pillow. If it hadn't stopped the bullet, it would have entered the top of my head.\n\nHow I slept through it I have no idea.\n\nAnd [here's a pic] to show what I saw that morning.", "summary": "45 round going into my head was barely stopped by my window frame while I slept."}
{"id": "t3_4iwoys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 M] GF [25 F] of 1 year, recently told me how she had a casual relationship for two years, and I'm having a hard time dealing.", "post": "She recently told me that at a party a guy she knew had called 'dibs' on her, and he and his buddy offered to have a threesome.  She declined, but did have sex with the first guy, and proceeded to have a casual FWB situation with him for another two years.  I'm very aware there is nothing wrong with this.  \nShe's a grown woman, and just because it's not something I would do, does not make it wrong.  I'm just not sure why I'm so shaken up about it, and am having hard time coming to terms and moving past it.", "summary": "GF had a FWB, and it makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_1xp4aq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[21F] trying to move on after a 5/6 year relationship.", "post": "I recently broke up with my boyfriend/best friend. He was my first serious relationship, and I was committed to him since I was 15 years old. I still care about him, but (long story short) we were headed in separate directions and I needed to break away... \n\nEver since we broke up, I feel like there is a void inside me; I've been hitting the gym, working hard at school, attempting to learn guitar but I still feel this emptiness and loss of motivation. I'm afraid of feeling this way, and that I might not return to how I was before.  \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? What has helped you move on?\n(By the way, I'm sorry if these are common questions...)", "summary": "I feel empty; any tips for moving on from a long-term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_36fv25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I (19f Jewish) handle a guy(30s m) at rehab's admission of anti-Semitism? X-post /r/Judaism", "post": "Hi. I need some advice. I am Jewish by birth and as my ethnic identity. I am currently at rehab. In my small group (a group of ten patients and a couple counselors that meets consistently throughout treatment), we were asked to admit things about ourselves. A guy admitted he was a high ranking member of the KKK 2 years ago. He walked away because when his family found out they were upset. He made this admission under the assumption that he had a room full of white Christians as an audience. I didn't say anything today because I wanted to collect my thoughts. I want to put a face to the group he perpetuated bigotry and ignorance against. I want every time he looks at me for him to be reminded that we are people. Could any of you please advise me on confronting an admitted anti-Semite? I feel obligated to say something, I'm the only Jew here. And everyone else in the group was all reassuring him about it. No! That behavior is not okay and someone needs to tell him how that type of ignorance is dangerous and nearly wiped us out. He is in his 30s so it's not like we're talking about a misled adolescent who has repented.", "summary": "I'm Jewish and need to call out an anti-Semite at rehab. Do you have any advice about confronting racists maturely?"}
{"id": "t3_22x9v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20 M] am finally seeing some success with women, but don't know what to do with it.", "post": "First, I just want to say that I'm not secretly bragging, here. I've been working hard to improve myself for the past year in terms of dating. I've been working out, dressing better, and I've been putting myself out there enough that I've become a lot less awkward socially as I've gained more experience. \n\nBecause I was so crappy with women before, I followed the typical pick up artist advice of just hitting on every hot girl I met. The rationale is that most of these women are going to flake out or say no to you, but the ones who like you will say yes. So if you ask out 10-15 women you think are cute, you'll find one or two that think you're great as well and you can just go from there. \n\nLately though, I've been hearing a lot more yes than no. And I don't know what the hell do to. All these women want different things from me, and I'm not sure which route to pick. Some women just want to hook up, some want to date.I'm afraid if I don't hook up with these women, I'll regret it and miss my chance. But is it really ethical to hook up with multiple women in a short period? How would I know if I were spreading STDs? Even if I'm safe, I'll never be sure. Then I'm also afraid that I'll miss out on someone great in a real relationship because I'm too busy having shallow flings.", "summary": "Should I go for short term flings in college while I still have the chance or should I keep my focus and try to find someone worthwhile?"}
{"id": "t3_4b8wac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] want to break up with my boyfriend [22 M] but we're going on a trip soon.", "post": "I've been with my bf for a little over half a year, but we get into fights constantly, like at least every other week, and it's causing me a lot of emotional stress. I was hesitant about breaking up because I always felt like when we're happy, we are really happy, and that I wanted to keep that. But I just can't stand the arguments anymore. We are both really stubborn and hotheaded so we clash every time we fight. The thing is, we are going on a trip in about two weeks and I don't want to cancel it because we are going with other friends. Should I wait until after the trip to call off the relationship?", "summary": "Want to break up with bf but going on trip soon."}
{"id": "t3_1nydb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21 M] wondering if it's ever okay to ask [20F] out over Facebook?", "post": "Yes, the old \"Should I ask a girl out over Facebook\" scenario. The quick background is that this girl and I are a part of a university club together but due to the number of people involved in the club I haven't really gotten a chance to talk with her one-on-one. We are only casually acquainted, although we are on a first name basis. \n\nAnother problem is that this girl is pretty good looking and as result has a lot of dudes hovering around before and after our club meetings. I don't want to be like one of those guys and hover around her, but outside of that I don't really have a chance to talk to her in person.\n\nWe are Facebook friends and I was considering asking her out through that. Is that fine or creepy?", "summary": "Asking a lady I kind of know out through Facebook. Yay or nay?"}
{"id": "t3_1vuuxz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Japanese women fucking suck.", "post": "I live in Japan, I'm so fucking sick of the women here. Everyone tells me to date older women because they're more \"chill\". You mean willing to settle? SHOULD I? Like, how the fuck are an entire population of women ages 20-26 entirely undateable. That's fucking ridiculous. I'm a foreigner and apparently it's \"easy\" if you're fucking white or black of course. Course you only attract the type who basically are out to fuck a white or a black man. I'm drunk and can't even fully articulate the reasons why I can't meet fucking women here. It's fucking garbage. It's all impossible, im-fucking-possible. I'm doomed to live the rest of my life as a lonely overworked workhorse. Fucking, impossible.\n\nMy solution: get older, or fucking die with my hands clutching a keyboard as I make my last commit during my last hour of overtime which will ultimately be my last hour of life.\n\nOverdramatic? Fuck you, that's what this fucking subreddit is about.", "summary": "FUCK JAPANESE WOMEN. CLOSE MINDED FUCKING SEXY PIECES OF SHIT. FUCK. AND FUCK ALL YOU OTHER GAIJIN THROWING YOUR HOT ASS GIRLFRIENDS IN MY FUCKING FACE DESPITE HAVING A JOB THAT ANY WARM FUCKING BODY WITH A WALMART COLLEGE DEGREE COULD GET. I WORKED FOR MY SHIT, FUCK YOU."}
{"id": "t3_2drit3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm definitely going to commit suicide", "post": "I can't wait to be free of life and humanity! I know some people find meaning on their own, but I don't. I just don't see the point of going through with life (which I view in a purely negative light) if there won't be some reward waiting for me. I'm not scared of death and I know there's no afterlife because that's the only logical conclusion. I think my problem is that I'm too empathetic. I can't be happy knowing all of the evil shit going on in our world: all the people being tortured, raped, murdered and their attackers getting away with it. Rich people and celebrities can get away with just about everything. I don't want to exist in a world where this shit happens and no one gives a fuck. I don't want to be part of the species responsible for the extinction of so many other species. The only thing really stopping me at this point is my fear of reincarnation.", "summary": "my fear of death is nothing compared to my fear of life"}
{"id": "t3_50r42q", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Ladies, have you ever been dating a new person and kissed someone else?", "post": "Hi, so the title speaks for itself. Have you ever been dating a guy and kissed someone else? Why did you do it and what did it mean to you?\n\nI (M22) recently started dating this girl (F22) we had been on a few dates and things were going well then she had to go out of town for a few weeks. We talked everyday while she was gone and then a few days ago she told me she had kissed another guy on her last day out of town. Before she left we had talked about how we both like each other and we don't want to see anyone else and she says she was drunk and immediately regretted it. I know I need to make a decision myself on what to do but I was just looking for some input from people who have been in a similar situation.", "summary": "! Girl I am talking to kissed another guy while out of town after we talked about only seeing eachother. Would like to know why she would do this"}
{"id": "t3_4vljz3", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Coworker won't talk to me after I called in sick", "post": "Title gives the gist, here's the devil in the details. I work at a sort of vocational school. If you are sick, you're supposed to call it in. That's because they need to find a substitute instructor or just postpone the class. Well, one morning I woke up, felt like crap, and called the office. The person I talked to actually wasn't in admin but is one of my colleagues. Why she was answering the phones, I don't know. As she was asking me questions about not coming in to work (feel like I'm gonna puke, don't think its a good idea for me to speak in front of office executives) when suddenly--I puke. On the phone. So she quickly relayed my condition to the staff, they need to get a sub trainer pronto.\n\nI have laryngitis and some kind of flu. As soon as I can start talking and I don't feel like my insides are on fire, I email the office to let them know I am coming to work that day.\nThis coworker sits in the cubicle next to me. I apologize to her and tell her how embarrassed I was she had to deal with all on the phone. But she doesn't even look at me or acknowledge I am there.\nNormally, I'd say 'eff it' and get back to work. However, she is a nice person and we often chat because we sit together. We are work colleagues and professional but also have a civil relationship. No romance, we like to keep the chit chat to work stuff-great. But that is out the window apparently. \n\nHelp me, reddit! What can I do or say to at least get things back on track and we can make dumb jokes at our other coworkers expense?", "summary": "Coworker who is usually chatty got to hear me get sick on the phone and won't talk to me now that I'm back."}
{"id": "t3_2wievw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] with my boyfriend [21/M] of ~2 months, it's complicated, also he is moving way too fast, how can I tell him to slow down without hurting his feelings or our relationship?", "post": "This situation is... complicated, sorry, so I'll start from the beginning. I'll try to keep details out if they don't pertain to this situation.  \n  \nWe started out as \"FWB\"- we agreed about being exclusive because I didn't have the time to keep getting tested for STD's; I'm not sure why he agreed, but he did.  \n  \nHe was my first... everything, really- boyfriend (now), kiss, lover. I was really good about keeping my feelings exclusively friendly (thanks to years of depression and a-romantic leanings), but he eventually (or, as he told me later, since the first week he knew me?) fell in love with me. He didn't tell me until I got mad at him and nearly ended the \"benefits\" part of our friendship because he slept with another girl. We talked about it, he told me that he loved me, and we worked through it. We became \"official\" a few days before Valentine's, although our relationship didn't change except for the feelings.  \n  \nHe's been talking about having me move in, trying to get me to work at his job (it's closer to his house, and neither of us have reliable transportation yet), and talking about marriage (I'm pretty sure that he was joking...). I'm starting love him to bits and pieces, but I don't want to burn through this relationship.   \n  \nHow can I tell him that he's moving too fast for me, and that I'm afraid that his feelings are all from a young first love, early relationship brain high, without hurting either his feelings or our relationship? I'm also afraid that he's only telling me that he loves me because he wants to keep having sex with me, and that's the only way he knows how to keep me around- this fear comes from the fact that we started as FWB and, even though we had previously spoken about being something more, he told me he was happy where we were, ie no romantic ties. Is that a legitimate fear?", "summary": "My boyfriend is kind of clingy, and, as much as I want to love him, I need to take it a bit slower. How do I tell him without hurting his feelings?  "}
{"id": "t3_3zovi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) am with a great guy (26M), who is recently divorced and I am struggling with some jealous issues.", "post": "Quick Backstory: My boyfriend and I started dating about 6 months after his divorce. He was married for 3 years until he found out that his ex-wife cheated on him multiple times. I came from a relationship where my ex-boyfriend was emotionally abusive and manipulative. \n\nNeedless to say, the two of us were struggling but over the last couple of months, I think things have gotten better for the both of us. We both got to separate counsellors to work through our own issues and are working on some activities around intimacy that his conselor suggested to bring us closer. Unfortunately through some events over the last couple of months, we have had to support each other through some rough days. Something that I am grateful to have him around for.\n\nBut. . . I can't help from dealing with some serious jealous issues. I am really struggling with feeling that I need to be better than her. This isn't something that he comments or or even remotely suggests but I still can't shake the feeling. Occasionally, when we talks about the future, he comments about how he had an awesome wedding day. Nothing about her but the day itself and it was exactly what he wanted in his own way. He makes comments about being disappointed that it isn't something that he could share with me/the next person he marries. (FYI- We haven't been talking about actually getting married, just during late night future talks and he doesn't talk about her too much ) \n\nI am really having a hard time not being 1. Pissed, with the fact that someone could take this great guy and be so callous to him 2. A bit jealous that she took this away from him and eventually/hopefully me. 3. Just sad because people are so crappy. \n\nI guess what I need is some suggestions on dealing With being jealousy, how to be a good support for him, and to not feel like I am just a constellation prize.", "summary": "My boyfriend married before, why am I jealous of someone and something that isn't there anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_1s4b3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F19] of two years is showing me [M24] a few \"red flags\" (possessiveness), not sure how to handle this...", "post": "Hey guys. I guess I just need to vent, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nI [M24] hang out with a lot of girls (just always have), and I think it's starting to make my girlfriend, \"K\" [F19] jealous. One particular friend, Y [F23] and I have always hung out, but once K got wind of it she's been acting really passive-aggressive.\n\nIt started when I was walking around the mall the other day with my arm around Y's shoulders because we were shopping together and she said she was cold. K heard about this from a friend (apparently I'm being spied on??? wtf???) and got really upset and told me it made her uncomfortable. I told her it wasn't a big deal but if it really mattered I wouldn't do that with Y anymore. Eventually I got her to stop crying and made her understand that we're just friends.\n\nFast forward a couple of weeks and I'm cuddling up with another female friend, R [F24], just watching a movie. My girlfriend came in, turned around, and then just slammed the door and left. My sister was right next to me and we were all kind of chilling on bean bags and having a couple of beers, so it was nothing sexual or intimate.\n\nHonestly, I'm getting tired of dealing with her possessiveness. Reddit, what I am supposed to do here??? Never hold hands with another girl???\n\nthis is getting ridiculous...\n\nfor the record, I do *not* want to break up with my SO. Our two-year anniversary is coming up really soon, so her being mad at me is just making me miserable :(", "summary": "my girlfriend freaks out whenever I touch other girls in even the most platonic of ways, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_4zjbd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] am moving in with my gamer boyfriend [28M] and wondering if/what ground rules to lay down.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years and are getting ready to move in together. He stays over 4-5 nights per week now as it is, we're talking about marriage, etc. We're definitely ready.\n\nI'm a total non-gamer. I have a 4 year old son who I have full custody of and he has become very attached to my boyfriend. My boyfriend is a huge gamer \u2013 he uses it to pass the time, escape into a different world, interact with others. I see zero harm in it, as that's very much like being an avid reader or in a book club. Everyone has their \"thing,\" and he's a normal, functioning adult outside of his house.\n\nMy fear, though, is how our lives will mesh now that video games will be in MY house. Should I lay down some ground rules? I don't want my son ignored while my boyfriend is constantly in the media room. He sees my boyfriend as a father figure. \n\nIs it unfair of me to lay down ground rules (for example, no gaming when my son is trying to play with us \u2013 if my son is watching TV or doing something solo, gaming is okay). I don't want to be responsible for all of the housework while he's playing either \u2013 I would still expect help with the dishes, general straightening/laundry, etc. before he delves into his games. \n\nI also have hobbies (I like to read and knit, which are solo activities as well), so I'm not particularly worried about being \"bored\" while he's playing or anything. But ideally, I would also like to go to bed together/at the same time most nights. Between work and my son, the end of the day is really our only alone-time together besides the weekends.\n\nDo you think laying down some rules would be unfair? If not, can you think of any other \"ground rules\" I should discuss with him?\n\nI've never been involved with a gamer until this relationship, and it hasn't affected it at all so far. I'm just scared of what a different dynamic it might be having video games in the house.", "summary": "\u2013 moving in with my long-term gamer boyfriend; worried about losing valuable time, housework help, etc. Wondering if I should discuss some ground rules with him."}
{"id": "t3_160on6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Go ahead, leave your dog shit. I dare you.", "post": "I have such a wonderful upstairs neighbor. She has two dogs, a tiny rodent (that is somehow considered a dog) and a big bull something. \n\nI put up with the bed slamming against the wall, the loud moaning and screaming, and the hooker boots stomping across the floor. One thing I cannot stand is stepping in dog shit.\n\nThis lady, who has different men over every night acting like she is in a porno, often takes her dogs out as every pet owner should. But she NEVER cleans up after them. That shit (no pun intended) needed to stop.\n\nSo I do what every courteous neighbor would do. I cleaned up after her dogs. I then took those poop filled grocery bags, and tied them to her windshield wipers.\n\nSo anytime she goes out to her pretty little VW bug, she gets to see a nice bag of dog shit. This had to go on for about 2 months before she finally got the hint. Haven't had a problem since.", "summary": "picked up neighbor's dog shit and tied it to her windshield wipers."}
{"id": "t3_2cgzku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with past lover/friend [19 F] of two years. Saying Goodbye.", "post": "I've been close friends with this girl for two years and at one point lovers for six months.  Over the last month I've been pursuing that same kind of intimate relationship and it's become clear that it's not happening.  I know I shouldn't stick around a relationship like that and I should move on, and I am!  However, this is where my issue begins.  \n\nWe're leaving for college in two weeks.  So I could:\n\n1) I could do the go-to man thing and end it now over text (she's out of town, it's not me being scummy.)  \n\n2) Considering a large part of our relationship has been mutual friendship and it'll all be over in two weeks anyway, I could tell her I think we should stop talking regularly and just have a off to college goodbye when she gets back. \n\nMy relationship with this girl means an incredible amount to me.  While just breaking it off would be the obvious thing to do in most situations, a large part of me wants that 'goodbye' after the close two year friendship and thinks it'd be thick headed to not see someone I love one more time, even as friends.\n\nWhat do you guys think?  I beg you put yourself in my emotional shoes before shouting out an answer.", "summary": "Ready to move on from 2 year friendship/relationship.  Will be forced to say goodbye anyway in two weeks.  Should I say goodbye now and begin getting over it or enjoy one last platonic hangout with her before moving on?  Please read the full story."}
{"id": "t3_1me0vr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] am in a sort of love triangle? Help!", "post": "One of my good friends and I like the same girl. He is a very awkward guy and has problems talking to girls most of the time, so I asked him if he wanted me to back off. He was very vague about it, so a week later, I'm falling for the girl even more and I don't know how to tell my good friend to just back off. I don't want to come off as an ass.\n\nWhile I'm at it, how can I tell if the girl is actually into me or not? Friends have told me she's been dropping hints and I saw the hints as well, but I don't want to over think it.", "summary": "How to tell my good friend to back off and how to tell if a girl is truly into you? Any advice would help!"}
{"id": "t3_4gh0wb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M17] just broke up with my girlfriend [F17] and need advice please.", "post": "So basically just hang in here while i ramble a bit. Also on mobile so maybe a bit off. I just broke up with my girlfriend after I decided I just wanted to be friends. She cried a little bit and said she saw it coming but we both decided to have a break and see where we stand feelings-wise. I just feel very guilty however. I had asked if she wanted to do some \"stuff\" which I don't think I need to explain. Not sex but basically everything else. I just felt that I took advantage of her innocence and led her on for a while now. I told her this and she said that it was okay and that it was a joint decision but i feel like I forced her to do these things. I didn't physically force her but I feel like she felt if she didn't do these things I wouldn't love her. I also feel guilty about being kind of douchey these last couple of weeks to her because I was so grumpy all the time trying to decide if I was gonna do it or not. I did know our last couple of dates would be our last ones so I tried to make them as fun as I could just one last time. But away from that subject, we decided we would be friends because we are very close still and I don't want to lose her friendship. I don't know why I feel so guilty. I just want advice for now and for the future.", "summary": "broke up with girlfriend. Feel very guilty for making her do sexual things. She says it's okay but I still feel awful. Still want to maintain our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_4sw4q9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) want to stop shaving but I'm not sure how my BF (27M) will/should react.", "post": "I've shaved pretty much my whole life, started at a very young age so unfortunately we're past the \"soft hair\" phase, but recently I've been getting a lot of ingrown hairs and have found myself frustrated with shaving in general. It's time consuming, expensive, and in my opinion unnecessary. I've always done it just because that's what I was taught women do, but as I get older it's less and less appealing. I'm not going to go cold turkey, as there will probably be special occasions in the future that I'll want to shave for, but I'm thinking of seriously cutting down. I have not discussed this yet with him because I have some questions. 1. Will he find me repulsive after this transition? If so, is he justified? I know he didn't sign up for a hairy girl but we've been dating almost two years and frequently discuss marriage in the distant future. 2. Are there any other women out there who hAve made this transition? What was it like? And last, 3. Men of reddit, how would you react if your woman decided to stop shaving?", "summary": "I want to know what to expect will happen in my relationship if/when I stop shaving."}
{"id": "t3_21neqm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and [18 F] and I have no idea where we stand.", "post": "I ended a relationship in January and immediately started chatting with a new girl that attends the same university. After about a week I realized it was going to be a rebound so I cut communication pretty quickly. When I saw her around campus I said hey, but kept on with my business. \n\nWell about 3/4 weeks ago we started chatting again and things were going great. We went on several dates, things were kind of awkward but we still had fun. Asked her to formal, she said yes. We've been texting every since and hanging out at the library or at my house, but here this past week things have been kind of weird. We've had lunch a time or two and when we hang out everything seems alright, but when we're texting it's off/on. Sometimes she acts interested in talking, flirts, is mildly affectionate... Other times it's like talking to a wall. \n\nShe has told me specifically some slightly bothering things, including: \"I haven't really gotten close to a lot of guys before if you can't tell already, I'm just awkward so lol\"... \"I feel like I suck at being affectionate so...lol\" Some other things but they were verbal and I don't remember them. She's somewhat sexually inexperienced (virgin) and we've had several nights where we stopped getting heavy because it was leading there and she didn't want that unless she was in a relationship. Now a week or so later and I'm lost.\n\nI've been in several, year + long relationships with girls who were fairly easy to read but I also didn't have to work overly hard for. I'm really having a hard time figuring out why I can't get a grasp on this situation and whether or not she is looking for a relationship. I feel like asking or confronting the question is just a waste of time.", "summary": "Girl acts interested then disinterested slightly, then interested again. Constantly flip-flopping her emotions in conversations and her general tone. She's very relationship-wise inexperienced and is a virgin. Don't know what to do from here."}
{"id": "t3_2xgrxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22F] tell family & friends [mostly 50s+] to stop talking so much?", "post": "I feel like such an asshole. I'm an ISFJ if that matters so I think I might cross-post this over to /r/mbti or /r/isfj but I just wanted to get some different opinions on this issue.\n\nI love my alone time. I like listening to the sounds of the birds or wind or water, I prefer music over television as background noise. Having the news on or listening to people talk in the background irritates me to no end to the point. I'm currently on vacation staying with some family friends at their condo and I'm going insane. I'm very grateful that they're letting me stay here, don't get me wrong.\n\nHow do I tell my pseudo-grandma that her non-stop babbling drives me INSANE without being rude about it? If I'm in the same room as her she needs to vocalize every single thought that pops into her head, I cannot go 10 seconds without her saying something to fill the void and the television with news on is constantly running in the background. \n\nWhenever they ask me if I'm bored or what I want to do or watch  I've answered the same questions with \"I love that we don't have to do things or talk 24/7 or I'm perfectly comfortable right here just hanging out doing or own thing etc\"\n\nI've tried spending a lot of my time in a room by myself where it's  a bit quieter but I don't want to come across as rude or I don't want to spend time with them. Any suggestions on how to vocalize my needs for some quiet time would be much appreciated, she's so sensitive and kind I don't want to hurt her feelings. \n\nI also have the same problems with people at work coming into my office and having conversations that go on WAY TOO LONG and they don't get the hint that I want the conversation to be over so I can go back to doing my work so any advice on those situations would be appreciated too.\n\nSorry if this comes of as me being rude or bitchy I just need some help without hurting their feelings :(", "summary": "How do I a.) stop conversations when I no longer wish to engage or b.) block out background babble without coming across as rude?"}
{"id": "t3_27xcvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21M] being lead on by [20F] friend?", "post": "Hi guys, I'm losing sleep and think I need an objective viewpoint here.\n\nEarlier this year I met a girl at my college, we instantly hit it off and became quite close friends very quickly. She had a boyfriend when we met, so although I was attracted to her, our relationship was platonic. \n\nCut forward a few months, she breaks up with her boyfriend, and we become closer and more flirtatious. Eventually (after a few weeks) we confess to liking each other as more than friends. She however was upfront about not wanting to jump into anything so soon after her breakup. Fair enough I said, and I explained I was willing to let her get her head sorted before we moved on. \n\nCut forward to now, some weeks later. Right now we're temporarily apart by distance, but we still speak daily, and we talk often about how we wish we were (physically) together. Essentially we speak to each other as if we were a couple and I feel for her a great deal.\n\nHere's where things have put worry in me. Today she tells me a few weeks ago she hooked up with one of her friends. She admitted she liked him somewhat, and to some extent still does. She doesn't know what that means, and still isn't ready to commit to anything serious with me. \n\nIt hurt me a lot more than I let on to learn this. Part of me wants to give her space and not be pushy, but the other half felt kinda distraught and wanting to ask for a more concrete explanation from her. \n\nDoes it sound like she's leading me (and possibly this other guy) on? Should I even be involved with her if she's so confused? Should I just give her space and stick it out?\nI'm worried the more I fall for her the harder it will be if nothing comes of it.", "summary": "Me and my friend have grown extremely close, but I find out she also likes someone else - is this a disaster waiting to happen?"}
{"id": "t3_25hs2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Those of you with your own computer business, my dad (50)is at his wit's end and it's starting to take it's toll on him and our family. (22m & 50f)", "post": "I'm not exactly sure where to post this as technology only allows links to articles from what I read so if it isn't allowed feel free to delete / move this post, Thank you!\n\nSo my dad owns his own computer business and he gets extremely stressed out from the amount of people who bug him and want free stuff done or just to pester him because they have free time. He has a monumental amount of things on his plate that he needs to get done and all these people who bug him won't allow him to get any work done because they constantly nag him and call him for things that he doesn't have time for.\n\nHe tends to vent his stress / anger out on us because were his family and he cant vent to other people because 99% of them are customers of some sort and he doesn't want to be rude. \n\nHe needs some sort of secretary but can't afford to hire one. We can't really do anything about this but sit there and deal with it.", "summary": "How can my dad keep these nagging people at bay so he can get work done? He fixes their computers / electronics and he cant have 25 hours in a day to work on all these tasks that just pile up and become overwhelming."}
{"id": "t3_2b530f", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My family's weight loss challenge: 10% loss by XMAS", "post": "So I am a long time lurker, first time poster. Everyone here has really encouraged me to really work toward who I want to be. (current: F/ 5'7\"/ 167)\n\nHowever, my parents are not on this fitness train on much as I'd like them to be. We were always a more overweight family growing up and ate out more often than we probably should've. (Typical American family problem) I always tried in high school to eat healthier but approached it in the wrong way and deluded myself of how much I was consuming. Now, I've seen the light, and want to help my parents get healthier. \n\nI've come to the realization of how serious the problem is for them, specifically for my mother. She is morbidly obese, and has in the last two years developed Type 2 diabetes. I've recently convinced her to get a myfitnesspal and log her food, so I feel like she's trying at least.\n\nAs a true motivation, I decided to make a [challenge] with them. Whoever is able to lose 10% of their current body weight by xmas get a reward of their choosing. Hopefully we will all be able to complete this goal. \n\nNow, reddit, this is where you come in. If anyone would like to join in for this challenge, please PM me. I'll make a Google Doc for anyone interested in joining us. (Please tell me by August 1st) Other people who are struggling with Type2 would be particularly encouraging for my mom. Thanks reddit! <3 \n\nAlso, if anyone wants to add me or my parents on myfitnesspal, feel free to shoot me your username. :)", "summary": "My parents and I are going to lose 10% body weight by XMAS"}
{"id": "t3_2ngkkz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18f] wants a \"break to be alone\" in our 1 1/2 year relationship and I [19m] can't figure out why", "post": "Disclaimer: My girlfriend's brother died a week ago and she was very close to him.\n\n2 weeks ago my girlfriend and I decided we were going to move in with each other once i finished with my first semester of school.  When we decided this she told me she hoped to marry me one day and I was very excited to  hear this because i feel the same way.\n\nthen, 2 days ago, my girlfriend \"wanted a break\" so she could be alone and think about her life.  I asked her if this was just a way to let me down easy and she said no. I don't know if this is in reaction to her brother's death and how she is coping with it or what.  I feel that our relationship was very strong and she had no problems the day before (we had spent all day together) I think my relationship is about to end with her. Am i overreacting to this \"break\" thing? And can she be doing this just to cope with her brothers death?", "summary": "My girlfriend wants a \"break\" should I be worried about our future or am i overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2u73xq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] have only been dating my boyfriend [26M] for 2 months, but I think he's only on a rebound", "post": "My boyfriend and I have only been dating for two months so I'm not sure if it's too soon to assume that he doesn't love me. Hence, this post. \n\nI met him through the spearfishing community. He's from another place so I barely know him and we don't really have common friends. A week ago I found out, through a little research, a little stalking and a lot of questioning that he broke up with his ex March 2014 and they continued going out until July 2014.  He got into drug abuse and excessive drinking when he found out the girl started dating someone else in July. I met him in October and I fell in love with him right away. We started dating in December and everything has been going really amazing until I accidentally clicked the year 2013 on his facebook timeline. I suddenly felt a need to read his posts from the past. He was so in love and sweet. He regularly posted about his ex and was so romantic. They were only together for 10 months and I saw that he started posting on their first month. \n\nHere's where the problem is - he doesn't post about me at all. He did during Christmas and New Year but other than that, he doesn't seem to show his affection publicly. I know some people think best to keep affection in private but I'm starting to think that he doesn't love me like he loved his ex. I talked to him about it but he couldn't give me an answer. He kept saying he will but he hasn't still. An hour ago I started getting upset. I asked him what his ex had that I didn't have. He wouldn't answer. He quit the chat.  BTW, we are on a long distance relationship and so were he and his ex. He works at an offshore oil rig and he stays there for 28 days each time. Help me please, I'm confused. I don't want to settle for less love than what he can give but I love him.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend still loves his ex. He can't love me the way he loves her and I'm not sure if I should continue the relationship or not."}
{"id": "t3_jb0uh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I want more?", "post": "**Info:** I am a heterosexual 16 year old male in a relationship of sorts that has lasted roughly six weeks. Until before this relationship I was being held back my social ineptness, I had not yet 'made out' with anyone. I am reasonably attractive if I am honest without trying to appear arrogant. Since then my confidence has drastically improved I've been far more sexually confident, though I still haven't had sex. \n \n**Relationship:** We have been seeing each other for roughly six weeks, starting after an after prom party. I've seen her at least once a week and we text everyday and sext nearly nightly. I am attracted to every aspect of her both physically and intellectually. We haven't had sex but have been sexually involved. \n \n**Situation:** Last night a previous boyfriend wanted to retry their relationship. She told me how it was a difficult decision -- she liked us both etc. She said she couldn't pass it up, and I was fine with it. I had no reservations and told her to have her as my own only would be possessional. A relationship makes you unselfish, and that is the worst thing you can be, or something to that effect was in my mind, having recently read 'A Picture of Dorian Gray' (hence the account name). I am meeting her again this week for an almost certainly sexual resolved movie. Should I want more than this?", "summary": "Should I be happy with a comfortable emotional relationship and casual sexual encounters?"}
{"id": "t3_37nwa3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23M] I'm done with school and building a career/life for myself. Ready for a serious relationship... where do I start?", "post": "Growing up I was focused on getting setup for a good career and bettering myself rather than worrying about dating. I always had the mindset that my love life would work itself out in time. I did have the odd fling (nothing over 6 months) and some meaningless sex but that's about the full extent of it.\n\nNow that I am finished with school and have a career that I am working on building more and more each day I feel like I am financially and emotionally ready to start getting serious about my love life. The problem being, I have no idea where to start.\nI work with people significantly older than myself and no longer have any real connections to girls my age through school. \n\nMost of friends found their girlfriends/love interests in college/university but I never really tried. I know I didn't miss the boat (hopefully) But I really don't know where I can go to start making connections with people my age and seeing if I can find someone that I'll have a connection with.\nI set up an Okcupid account the other day (one for both gender's just to see who I was competing with) and the ratio of guys to girls on that site is insane. \n\nHoping to hear from some people with experience in this situation but I'd appreciate any advice you are willing to share. Thanks.", "summary": "[23M] finished with school, building a career for myself and ready to take on a serious relationship. No idea where to start, online Dating seems to be pretty saturated with guys"}
{"id": "t3_ft175", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Graduated, got a job, have a salary that is well below average.  How quickly do I move on?", "post": "Graduated with a computer science degree last May in the midwest (US), got hired in at a web development company in the same area in October.  Hired in at $30K + benefits.  I do about 85% backend (using PHP/MySQL) and 15% frontend (xhtml, css, ajax, javascript/jQuery/prototype).\n\nI realize that this is well below average, but I saw it as a good opportunity to get rid of my $8/hr job, get my foot in the door in my field, see how a corporate development environment is run (worse than I had imagined, fwiw), and to see how I stacked up against other developers.\n\nThis particular company only renegotiates salaries/hands out raises annually.  Do I wait a full year?  I sincerely appreciate the opportunity the company has given me, so I'd like to stay a year and see what they offer me, but should I leave sooner if I can find something that offers significantly more?  How often do people find new jobs in the real world?  Would I be burning bridges by leaving a company that took a chance on me so soon?  It was hard enough finding an entry level job with no prior experience, is it much easier even if I only have 4-6 months experience?", "summary": "echo $this->title;"}
{"id": "t3_1wb7nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with gril that asked me out [20 F]. Is it cool to \"date\" several people?", "post": "This girl kinda asked me out. I'm not really sure what's going on but I'll find out soon enough. I'm not super into her though. I honestly think she's kind of boring but she could just be shy so I'm giving her a shot here. \n\nIs it generally acceptable for me to go for other women at the same time? I really don't want to put a lot of \"eggs in this basket\" because there is a good chance I might not be that interested if I don't warm up to her after a couple dates. \n\nI've never been in this kind of position before because I'm normally picky enough I can't find more than one girl to go for at the same time. Normally I wouldn't have asked this girl out and I'm just kind of going with it because why not. \n\nI know women do this sort of thing but I feel its a little different because they're really just letting more than one person go for them. They don't have to actually go out and ask men out like I normally have to make the first move with women.", "summary": "Is is cool to pursue more than one person at a time?"}
{"id": "t3_2fs2dl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating spicy noodles", "post": "This happened moments ago.\n\nI enjoy spice, I love to mix many different ingredients into my bowl, putting a little bit too much heat into, nothing I can't handle. But today, this fateful day, it was my downfall.\n\nI boil the kettle, unwrap the noodles, chuck in a mix of whatever flavour packets I can find, put in some soy sauce, sweet chilli sauce, chopped up chilli, the works. I let the noodles soak up the delicious boiling concoction of throat sizzling goodness for a few moments before I grab my favourite pair of dark red chopsticks.\n\nI dig into it, despite it still being quite hot from the boiling water, I could say I enjoyed it.\n\nBefore the accident, that was.\n\nI dig my chopsticks in deep, all my years of practice had failed me, as I pulled the chopsticks up too fast, everything was in slow motion, several noodles slipped from the grip of my glazed red chop sticks and a massive droplet of destructive noodle juice gracefully arced from the ceramic bowl to my right eye.\n\nThe reaction wasn't instant, it took a moment to realize what had taken place, I could feel it coroding my eye, the hot water and balzing mix had made me flinch and begin to involuntarily cry, my nose started running and I made a dash for the bathroom to exorcise the watery death droplet from my unsuspecting eyeball.\n\nExtra fuck up: on the way to the bathroom I knocked over an ornament that was thoroughly smashed on the tiles in the bathroom.", "summary": "accidentally spiced my eye"}
{"id": "t3_kfh3x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know there are plenty of IT folks hereabouts. Any advice for an aimless college student?", "post": "Heya.\n\nSo, I'm a 24-year-old junior pursuing a BS in Info Systems. I started college late, wasted a couple years looking for a 'passion' that I never found, and jumped into IT for practical reasons.\n\nI'm a bit aimless, and in need of some career direction/advice. I feel I need to focus and self-study a given field in order to have a chance of landing a job when I'm out in a year. \n\nI'd really appreciate any input on what field/job I should aim for. I have taken/am taking courses in several disciplines (networking, database, C++, Java, MIS, web programming, security, etc.), but I'm not excited about any of it; it's all mildly interesting. Hence, I'm more worried about job conditions than job interest. \n\n(Realistic?) characteristics of what I'm hoping for:\n\n* I really like to be left alone. Half the reason I opted for IT was for the solitude (relative to other careers). I do data entry part-time now, and am isolated for 99% of the workday. It's perfect. Being left alone is extremely important to me.\n* I don't care about being challenged/stimulated at work. Doing something rote and boring all day is fine by me, even preferable.\n* $$$ is secondary. Mo' money is always good, but I won't be getting married/having kids/etc., so a lot of cash or opportunities for career advancement aren't necessary. I just need to be able to live comfortably alone. And I'm pretty cheap.", "summary": "I'm an aimless junior hunting for an IT career that's solitary, simple, and stable. I'll gladly sacrifice cash, stimulation, and career advancement in return. Wut do."}
{"id": "t3_24f5jl", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Deciding on a career; my heart vs my head.", "post": "Hello all. I suppose a little back story would be helpful.\n\nFor the past 3 years I've been working on my art and writing in the hopes of one day becoming a well known comic artist/writer. The idea of people enjoying my work made me as giddy as a school girl, and I loved coming up with stories and characters. \n\nHowever, my inspiration started dwindling a month or two ago. I've had writers block before and this was nothing like it. It got to the point where it would take me a whole week to get the line art done on a single piece. My once enthusiastic outlook on my future started looking bleaker, and I didn't like where I would see my life going. \n\nAbout a week or two ago, I was completely distraught. I didn't want to let go of my dreams and all of the work I already put in to my writing and such, but I knew that I needed to. Or at least, I should. But there are only two things that I really have an interest in. Becoming a doctor(Oncologist to be precise) in the medical field, or being a comic writer/artist in the entertainment/art field. \n\nNow, here is when I start to feel lost. I do not at all doubt that I'll enjoy being an Oncologist. I've always wanted to help people, the topic of cancer interests me a lot, and I'm pretty good with people. The job also seems more stable, from a financial standpoint, than the othet alternative (art), and seems like a much more respectable career.\n\nThe thing is, I'm extremely passionate about my art and writing. If someone told me that I was going to make it big as an artist/writer in the future, I would absolutely go down that rout. But I don't want to take that chance. On top of that, nothing is stopping me from drawing and writing in my little free time as a doctor, where as treating sick people in my free time as an artist might be a little unethical.", "summary": "Right now it's essentially a matter of my head vs my heart. It seems like becoming a doctor would be better for me in almost every sense, but I feel really bad about just giving up on what I've been working on/wanting to do for so long, and it seems like I can't really let my passion die out (not completely, just enough to focus elsewhere)"}
{"id": "t3_41y5nm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by downloading the wrong file on my phone", "post": "First of all, this just happened about 15 minutes ago. I finished solving the problem and now here I am, typing this for reddit.\n\nI was on my phone, looking to download a movie. Found a movie I wanted to watch. I started the download. After it finished, my phone showed me a screen that said the cyber police have locked my phone and I had to pay a $100 fine. I started freaking out, thinking this was real. Turns out it was just a virus, which I found out about 3 minutes ago. But as I was panicking in the moment, I instantly went on my computer and wiped it of everything that could be illegal. As soon as I finished that, I searched what to do if my phone is locked by cyber police. I read that this was just a virus and I had to go into safe mode on my phone to uninstall it. My phone is all good now and my heart is still pounding after how terrified I got. My lesson learned is to download anti-virus on my phone.", "summary": "Thought I had Homeland Security, FBI, CIA all going after me because of a virus I got on my phone."}
{"id": "t3_167v2b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As a 20-year old student in my final year, what are good tips you wish you knew when you started for a good career and money management?", "post": "So I'll be a programmer when I graduate and I plan on being a good one. I'm one of the best in my class and I really love what I do.\n\nWhat is/are, according to you, the most important thing(s) to take into account? I'm not sure how to build a career and spend my money in a way I won't regret it.\n\nI'm ambitious and I want to shine in what I do and I want to work hard for it. In return I would like to earn good money for what I do and gain respect from other people in the sector.\n\nMaybe those points are a little bit unrealistic for in my twenties but hey, I don't know any better, I never worked before. (Other then silly summer jobs)\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I want to do what it takes to get (almost) to the top, any advice? How about money management?"}
{"id": "t3_2ydka9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New, I'm 17 6,2 and 175 pounds (80kg). Sick of being chubby.", "post": "So around this time 2 years ago where I was as chubby as I am now, I started going to the gym and lost loads of weight and gained quite a bit of muscle. However I had my first set of exams that mattered (GCSEs) and I stopped going to the gym and ending up revising and snacking a lot and this has carried on since. I was quite happy at around 155-160 pounds (70kg). Ive had some personal issues with friends etc recently aswell so not going out much has not helped.\n\nI have another set of exams coming up soon, but I really want to start losing this weight now. I need motivation and advice, I find it really hard to not snack now and just do it without thinking, I need big meals to feel full and get hungry just a couple hours after a meal. Really need some help, myfitnesspal does not work for me, I dont have time to log everything I eat as most of the time im not sure what my mum put in the meal.", "summary": "I need some help on how to start losing weight, Ideally 20-25 pounds."}
{"id": "t3_3mz84t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If a man really wants you, will he make it known to you?", "post": "When it comes to men and dating, I (21f) have always been told things like 'if a man wants you, he will let you know' or 'if he wants you he will come and get you'. What I'm basically asking is how true is this? I'm specifically referring to situations where you are already dating a man and things seem to be drifting or you may have actually taken a break.. do men seem to make it known to you if they really do want you? If they don't make this known then does it show they don't really want you enough? I am mainly wondering if this is true for the majority of men, if it is rubbish I've always been told or if it is more of a personality thing which is different with different men?", "summary": "if a man really wants you, will he make it known?"}
{"id": "t3_4e4xv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Old friend [F 21] of mine [M 24] cut off contact with me just before I leave country for months, what gives?", "post": "We used to be a couple back then, but our relationship slowly transformed into this beautiful, deep friendship after our breakup. Sitting-on-her-porch-all-afternoon, eating-mom's-homemade-cookies-and-having-deep-uplifting-conversations type of friendship. We're not the \"bestest\" friends ever, but I was looking forward to our weekly meets. 2 weeks ago she stopped responding to any of my communication attempts. And I'm leaving the country in 3 days for work, will be away for months. The least I was looking forward was a farewell tea in her or my home.    \nNo, we didn't have a falling out, nor she's hospitalized or anything like that.    \nWhat do I do?", "summary": "One of my best friends cut off contact with me before me leaving the country, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jjg5h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24M with my 22F wife of 1.5 years; 1 daughter (14months). Terrible childhood and I can't seem to overcome it. In counseling, but still struggle so much.", "post": "I am the youngest of four siblings in my family.\n\nMy parents had my two oldest siblings between 18-20, and then my other sibling and I between 22-24. \nMy father was an alcoholic and abusive with my mother until I was 2 when he became sober.\n\nGrowing up I thought my family life was all good, I didn't know any better. \n\nLooking back; I missed a lot of opportunities to learn how to be a proper man. (i.e. how to respect your wife, children, how to show that you love someone, care, and appreciate them. How to truly contribute to the family unit)\n\nI left home when I was almost 19 and entered the military. I met my wife just before my enlistment ended and we got married 6 months after we started dating when she became pregnant (damn flu, and then antibiotics, we knew not to have sex but that didn't cover the sex we had a few days before she came down with the flu... but in the grand scheme... our daughter is the best thing that has happened to us and was enough motivation to get me to start figuring out what was wrong with me)\n\nAfter we got married I had quite the face plant in to depression and had to spend a stint in a behavioral health center for threatening to kill myself. (my cry for help) A year and a half later; our marriage is barely staying together, we go to counseling together, but I just can't seem to grasp the positive concepts and slip back to the negative ways from time to time. \n\nI feel as if I much rather would have grown up outside of my family because I'm not sure if that life granted me anything positive at all, and what it did, seems to be largely outweighed by the negatives.\n\nRegardless; I'm just so sick of being consumed by the negativity and want to be happy, to love myself and the same with my wife and daughter.\n\nAnybody in a similar boat and have tips or strategies to overcome the negative past that built you to who you are today?", "summary": "Childhood that I thought was good, wasn't, and now I want to fix myself to save my family (wife / child) relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_1ner17", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] I can't tell if my FWB [24/M] wants more", "post": "I met this guy in my second year of university and have known him for 3 years now.  When we first met we instantly had a connection but remained just friends for the first year.  During the summer break that year we realized that we didn't want to be away from each other so we both flew to New York and spent the week together.  That was the first time we had sex together and he told me that he waited so long because he our first time together to be special.  He did ask me out while we were on vacation but i told him as much as i wanted to date him that i didn't want to start our relationship out being long distance.  Fast forward two years and I am still with him have been on two vacations with him and gone on multiple dates but we remain FWB.  Neither him or I have slept with anyone else during this entire time.  We've had our ups and downs, but we always figure things out.  Recently i've been telling him that i want to become more serious and officially date him.  He tells me that he does not want a girlfriend right now (which i understand because it's our last year of university and school is stressful enough)  and sometimes when he's been drinking he tells me that he wants to move into an apartment with me after we graduate.  I am comfortable with the situation I am in with him but i do love him and eventually want to be more serious with him.  Should i just forget about it and move on? or should i stick it out for the next five months to see where things go?", "summary": "Been FWB with a guy for 2 years, eventually want something serious."}
{"id": "t3_19h377", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need a challenge for 2 hours, any ideas?", "post": "So, I'm a youth worker and I have to come up with team a team challenge which will be around 2 hours long and engage the young people (aged 11-18) on our weekend away.  \n\nWe take the group to a country park and basically let them do whatever they want in the 2 hours to complete this 'challenge' and do it as best they can.  In previous years, they have made a film on the theme of the weekend, but I'm stuck for ideas.  I've had a few, like maybe try to see who can make the biggest and best sculpture with what they find in the park, but it doesn't really grab my attention, and if it doesn't grab mine, it certainly won't grab a load of teenagers.\n\nThe theme of the weekend is 'Living in the light' (it is a Christian group, which is the reason for the name of the theme if you were wondering)\n\nI'm open to any ideas, but with a low budget, no idea of what's actually in the country park and with no time to set up...  We also don't have any leaders to spare, so we can't play 'hunt the leader', unfortunately.  You see the difficulty I am in.\n\nReddit is probably the most creative place I know for ideas, so I'm counting on you for inspiration!  Thanks!\n\nAlso, if this is in the wrong subreddit, I apologise.", "summary": "I need a challenge to engage 11-18 year olds in groups of 4/5 to last for 2 hours, on a low/no budget."}
{"id": "t3_50sbk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gay relationship ends on bad term, what should I do? (I'm 21/m)", "post": "I'm a 21-year-old  Asian student studying in England. He is an European man and already working (he's in his early 40s). We've been with each other for about 3 months when I met him in a gay event celebrating Pride month. We did really have good time together but last night, things have fallen out. We went out for couple of drinks before he's gone (he needs to comeback to Germany to work there so the chance for us would be zero for a long distance relationship). We went to McDonald at 3 in the morning for something to eat, and there were only one counter working. However, he and I were standing at the other side of the table, in front of the closed counter. I told him that we should move over the opened one to order, but he said to the staff that they should have gone to us to serve instead (I think he was being unreasonable). Then somehow I pushed him onto the opened counter in front of a few people, and he was mad at me and told me I was embarassing him with others. Then he left me alone on the street and the last thing he said to me was 'Never message me again! How dare you!' I was heartbroken and walked back home in the rain (At some moments, I really wanted to run into a car or jump off the bridge tbh, but I could not). I really love him and want to be with him, and try my best in his last few days in England. But I failed, badly. After I went back to my house, I opened Grindr (I've stopped using it after we've been together), to see if he was on there. And he was, even he changed his avatar twice in one night. I texted him what he was up to (he deleted our conversation apparently, so he doesn't know who I was on Grindr), and he said he wanted sex, NOW. I was very upset and turned it off immediately. How could he do that right after that incident? Maybe it was my fault. I don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "We are supposed to meet for the last time at a LGBTQ event tomorrow night but I think I won't go there because he doesn't want to see me anymore apparently. I did write a letter for him a few days ago about our relationship, and intend to give it to him at the event as well. What should I do in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4ba2qq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] [20 F] 3 years, First long term break up. What to do?", "post": "So this was my first ever long term break up. Just over 3 years. Thinking about it is killing me..we had a lot in common that I find might not be easy to find in someone else. Just a lot of great traits. But we clashed over stupid things and it ended up bringing us both to this point. I guess better now than a divorce in the future.\n\nWhat do you guys do to handle this? I don't even know how to meet girls in the future. Being alone again is going to be different. She was like a best friend..so I feel an empty space.", "summary": "First long term breakup, don't know what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_1rl8bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend[17M] LDR, Am I being stupid?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 and a half years, one year has been long distance. For about a month or two, I've been unhappy with the way things have been going. Basically, we used to always send each other a long text before we go to bed. (8 hour time difference) but we talk after i come home from school on skype or by phone. Still, he wanted us to still send the texts just as something to wake up to before the end of the day. Since, I've been sending him ones every night. I never forget and always spend a good while putting in sweet things and videos and things. He works. He just hasn't been putting a lot of effort into our relationship as in he hasn't sent texts in a while. He says he's either so exhausted and falls asleep or he forgets. \nHere's the thing, after work everyday, at about 8, he goes to the gym for at least 2 hours. I always say can't you just even send a few words in the car on the way to work? or at break? anything.\nThen, come the weekends he gets pissy if i don't give him sexytimes. but i feel why should I when I'm unhappy about his lack of attention? Don't get me wrong, he's amazing, when we talk on the phone, he's constantly complimenting me and we talk about our future and how much we love each other and it's great. But I just feel like he's causing a drift. I feel emotionally distant from him and I just wish he would care more.\nNot only is this just a once off thing, I have brought this up at least 10 times and he says he'll promise to make more of an effort, but he doesn't. He says he is. I beg to differ. H called me a 'bitch' today for bringing up this issue because he says basically im creating it out of nowhere. Am I in the wrong? I'm in my final year of school as well, so im busy studying yet i make time!!", "summary": "I don't feel like boyfriend puts in enough effort, he think I'm being crazy."}
{"id": "t3_1n076r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fixing my friend's iPhone", "post": "So the other day, my friend had updated his iPhone 4 to iOS 7. Part of his password had letters in a keyboard different than that of the default, and for some reason the update did not carry those settings over, which effectively locked him out of his phone. Earlier today, I helped him and ended up restoring his phone to factory settings. I set it up as a new phone, then configured his keyboard before restoring from the latest backup he had. It had finished restoring much earlier than expected, and he had left a minute ago for class, so I go run after him to give him his phone back. I try to give him his phone in a nearby parking lot, and it slips out of my hand, falling face-first into the curb and spider-webbing the front screen.\n\nI then took his phone to go get the screen fixed at a repair shop in a mall the next town over, as the local repair shop had already closed by the time I got a chance to do this. After about 2 hours, the screen was swapped and all seemed to be well. Upon closer inspection, however, the phone no longer appears to get any service, and the screen seems to randomly flicker as well. The poor technician tried to troubleshoot these problems up until closing time, at which point he basically admitted defeat and asked me to come back tomorrow, which leaves me with a rather pissed off friend, ~$80 out of my pocket, and still a non-functioning phone.", "summary": "Fixed software problem in friend's iPhone, phone slips out of hand and cracks front screen as I give it to him. Take to repair shop, screen swapped out but phone still doesn't work right. I'm out $80 and he's pissed."}
{"id": "t3_3oshla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] recently have become aware of my codependent tendancies and don't know how to change.", "post": "I've come to the conclusion after some counseling and reflection on past relationships, and recently failed dating endeavors that I have codependent tendancies. I have a problem with taking time away from texting a person or waiting long periods for their response. I frequently initiate conversations because I'm to anxious to wait for them to contact me. \n\nI'm searching for validation from other people, I have a hard time being alone. \n\nI am overbearing sometimes and get to high of expectations for a partner, even before expectations should be had.\n\nI'm needy and come off as overly clingy sometimes, and I get upset when people try to end things or put distance between us even if I wasn't that into the person. \n\nI've realized that these tendancies have happened in some variation of severity over the course of most of my relationships and that it has put strain on them. I want to stop this destructive behavior but i don't even know where to begin or how to change. I'm sick of ruining potential relationships because I have this issues. Any advice on overcoming codependent tendancies would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Recently realized I have codependent tendancies that have cause problems in all past relationships and some friendships, and I don't know how to start changing."}
{"id": "t3_29jf2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M/] want to break up with my GF [18F] after 2.5 years", "post": "As the title suggests. The main reason I want to break up with my girlfriend is that I am not happy. I've told her this before and she still insists that we stay together. I am also moving away for college at the end of summer. \n\n--\n\nAs of right now we're on a \"break\" she knows that I want to break up with her. She's madly in love with me and I am not. She said she is willing to move to where I am going for college and I told her no, because she would absolutely regret it if she moved with me. \n\n--\n\nShe just recently graduated high school at the beginning of the month. She's ready to start a life with me and everything. I'm not ready for this commitment. \n\n--\n\nHow do I end it?", "summary": "Want to break up with girlfriend of 2.5 years. Can't exactly find the words to end it."}
{"id": "t3_33tgdr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [16 F] has over 15+ guy friends. It's not okay to me (17 M).", "post": "We are both in high school, and have been dating for 5 months. I try hard to not be a jealous man, and I have pushed my boundaries far for this relationship.\n\nMy girlfriend has a LOT of guy friends. Over 15+. I constantly see her walking with them, talking to them (in a flirty demeanor), texting different guys. Almost every time we talk she brings up another one of her guy friends. I have no direct evidence of her cheating, but I'm seriously having trouble trusting her.\n\nI have tried talking to her about it and she denies it, says she only has \"one real guy friend\", and has gotten seriously angry when I mention the topic of cheating.\n\nShe is far from the \"romantic type\" which is fine, but she also puts little effort into our relationship and it seems as if she does not respect me much at all.\n\nThis is reaching a breaking point when I logged on Instagram yesterday, and saw her post a picture with yet another one of her guy friends, heads touching with a huge open smile. Yet she downright refuses to take pictures with me, and hides her face when I try to do so. \n\nI haven't talked to her about it yet, but all of this is seriously boiling my blood and I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend has so many male friends that it makes me uncomfortable, and I'm having a lot of trouble trusting her."}
{"id": "t3_l9g0q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Americans on Reddit, I have a question about your newsreaders", "post": "So I'm a random Australian with a penchant for youtube. I often like to watch the Daily Show with Jon Stewart on the comedy channel, so I thought I'd youtube him to see what came up. Most of the top hits were interviews with people on FOX news. I found this slightly puzzling, because from memory all he ever does is bag that news station out. Remember, I'm not American, so I have very little background for this. Anyway as I was watching, I found myself growing more and more amazed at the unbelievable lack of courtesy that Jon was shown. It's OK to have political differences, but is certainly not OK to ask someone on to your show and precede to interrupt and crudely abuse them in adamance. How are these people getting away with this? Is this acceptable behaviour on news stations in America?", "summary": "What the hell is with the rudeness of your newsreaders?"}
{"id": "t3_3cqb88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my ___ [25M] Longtime friends, casual hookups, more?", "post": "Okay so we have been friends for 10 years. Lost touch for a while then got back in contact and hooked up, this happens anytime we see eachother which could be a week apart or months, I just depends when we are both free. Should mention we don't live close. \n\nWell recently our hookups have been getting more, meaningful, for lack of a better word and now when he comes over I have this fear. I freeze and can't talk to him like a friend. He initiates conversation and it's all good in that respect but I have nothing to add to conversation, it's like my brain freezes and I go mute. I need to figure out how to change this. \n\nI really like him and know it's just not practical to be together as a couple but I have no idea when this is going to end. I have been putting off seeing other people and that's a BAD thing & refuse to commit to anyone because I know he's there. It's bad. Oh so bad. He's gunna get bored, I am bored but not being able to think when he's around. Stimulating conversation was our thing. I hope this makes sense?", "summary": "Hooking up with a LD friend now I like him so much my voice or brain doesn't work when he's around, need to get my mojo back. "}
{"id": "t3_3wzdm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) wanted to donate some eggs to pay off a student loan debt, but my bf (23M) isn't okay with it.", "post": "So we've been together for almost a year and his opinion definitely weighs heavily on me. His parents are devout Christians and I think that's where the disagreement might stem from. But I'm pretty young and think that donating my eggs would be a good way to benefit all parties. But for whatever reason, he feels very strongly about it. Mentions someone else walking the earth that would have half my genes... \n\nI don't really see this issue in the way that he seems to see it. Guess I'm just kind of wondering what you guys have to say about it. If anyone can shine some light as to why this would make him so uncomfortable. And maybe even some advice from woman that have done this before.", "summary": "Boyfriend has strong opinions about me donating my eggs."}
{"id": "t3_4qivxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 23/F am about to ruin my 2.5 year relationship with SO 32/M because I'm insecure and uncontrollably emotional", "post": "I'm trying to make this short. There is a lot I could say about this relationship. As all couples do we have had our ups and downs and we are currently in our 2nd month of a break via advice from our couples counselor (SO needs to deal with some personal/family issues without me as his crutch and I need to work on my self esteem/trust issues) but lately (the past week or so) I've really been feeling like I'm going crazy. I feel depressed and worthless. I feel like he can do better/wants to do better and I've convinced myself he wants to be back with his ex who he's been friends with for 10+ years. She lives in another state where his college friends live and she's super cool with his whole circle where as I am never around his friends. He tells me she was friends with his friends before he was so he can't exclude her from that group. But he also doesn't tell me when he's seeing her while he's out of state. When I ask he says oh yeah I ran into her but from her social media it looks like planned get togethers. Yesterday I asked him if he has any feelings for her still and he told me the time for them to be anything more than friends passed which to me sounds like \"I love her but we cant be together\" when I asked he said that's not what he meant and he had no feelings for her. I know he's frustrated with my insecurities and I wanna make this work. But I can't stop thinking he's only with me not To hurt my\nFeelings. I really feel like I'm going crazy! I've been crying nonstop for 3 days and there's no one to blame but myself.", "summary": "I feel that my insecurities are real and that my boyfriend doesn't want to be with me despite him assuring me that's not the case."}
{"id": "t3_249ajt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am about to propose to my girlfriend [22F] of almost 2 years, and I can't calm myself down", "post": "Alright, so I am preparing to propose to my girlfriend of almost 2 years \n(we were friends for double that beforehand) in a couple days and I am starting to get EXTREMELY anxious/nervous. We have talked about this for months, and I know she will say yes, but I can't seem to relax. \n\nThe other day I bought the ring, which I fell in love with myself and know she will too. And then two days ago, I asked her dad's blessing. Everything has gone great so far, but now leading up to it I can't think about anything else. I can't sleep. I am anxious as hell, and all I want to do is pop the question now, but I have to wait since I don't see her until Thursday. \n\nI know how I am going to do it. I have thoroughly planned it out and I am more than prepared. But, at the same time, I am freaking out. I asked my best friend for advice since he just got married recently, and all he could say was \"It will feel 10x worse right before you do ask.\" \n\nAny suggestions on how to relax leading up to it? I would like to be able to sleep...", "summary": "I am about to ask the love of my life to marry me, and I am getting EXTREMELY anxious. Advice on how to relax leading up to popping the question?"}
{"id": "t3_wao6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was the asshole who pressured my wife to have sex until it became an \"obligation\" for her. I'm trying to change. Any advice on how to heal this part of our relationship?", "post": "I know this happens for a lot of relationships, and as far as I can tell we're a typical case. In a nutshell, after 8 years, sex with me became something really negatively charged for her... something she did out of duty. We had a big blowup about a few issues 7 months ago, around both of our 30th birthdays. Since then we've done a lot of work with a therapist to heal. But sex is still difficult.\n\nAt the therapist and my wife's recommendation, I've stopped the pressure as far as I know. I basically don't initiate anymore, and when I do (about once a week), if she says no I just move on without pushing, usually making a joke or some other lighthearted comment. I've started doing the nofap/pornfree thing, and it's been a fantastic benefit for my life. \n\nBasically, my wife is just never in the mood. She says she's attracted to me, and I'm an attractive, fun guy... but she doesn't feel the thrill, the desire to kiss or have sex with me the way she used to. On the worst days she feels like we're roommates. On most days we'll kiss and cuddle a lot, but even if the kiss gets too passionate she'll push me away.\n\nDo any redditors have experience with this kind of issue? Any advice that might help?", "summary": "Pressured my wife for sex, now it's negatively charged between us. Looking for help recovering."}
{"id": "t3_1ne9zn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] slept with with my best friend [18 F] even though she has a boyfriend for 2 years. Not sure how she feels.", "post": "The three of us know each other for a few years now, but about a month ago, She \"asked me out on a date\" during one of their fights and break-ups (they \"break-up\" about twice a month), and while they got back together the next day me and her started talking a lot more.\n\nShe tried to match me with her friend and called me a \"traitor\" when I said yes or whenever I mentioned her, She often asked me if I like her or who I prefer, her or X, She said that she would probably try and hook up with me if she didn't have a boyfriend, You get the idea...\nBut she also always made sure I know nothing will happen between us (even the day I slept with her) and it doesn't look like she have any plans of breaking up with her current boyfriend.\n\nIt's been a few days since and I talked to her every day like nothing happened, but when I did try asking her what she would want to happen between us I was never able to get a straight answer (\"I don't know\" mostly).\n\nI have no idea what to think right now. I owe her a lot (circumstances aside she pretty much saved my life) and I would do anything for her, but I don't know what to think about her. I'm not even sure if I can be in a relationship with someone like her.", "summary": "I slept with my best friend (cheating on her boyfriend), our relationship is complicated, I have no idea how to continue.."}
{"id": "t3_1fgcs7", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Finally found the motivation to get started with my dream of creating video games - and I'll be keeping a daily blog chronicling the process!", "post": "I've been a long-time lurker here on r/GetMotivated. For the past few months, I've made it my morning ritual to scroll through r/GetMotivated with my morning coffee. The great quotes and stories of success never fail to pick me up and help me head into the day with an upbeat attitude.\n\nLately, I've been feeling more and more that I should apply this motivation and positivity to my life in a bigger, bolder way, so I've decided to pursue a dream that I've had for some time now. I've decided to challenge myself to create one small video game per month, for the next six months. Although I've a fairly tech-savvy person (if I do say so myself...), I have only minimal experience with programming / game creation (a minor amount of scripting knowledge, a smattering of HTML5 / Javascript). I'll be using a lot of middleware, and this will be very much an exercise in learning as I go.\n\nI'll be chronicling my progress (and the inevitable pitfalls and hilarity) in my blog:\n\nThe blog's quite scant at the moment, I know (just the one introductory post), but I'll be posting more every day. Videos, images, and tales of daring heroics to follow.\n\nI know that you guys here in r/GetMotivated are awesome, supportive people, and I'd appreciate any thoughts, comments, or advice you'd like to throw my way. Help keep me motivated, and keep me honest!", "summary": "I'm challenging myself to make six simple video games in six months. Read about my exciting adventures in amateur game design on my blog: "}
{"id": "t3_2i8aot", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by entering the women's washroom.", "post": "Here I am, walking through the meal hall, when nature calls. Knowing a layout of the hall, I knew that the two bathrooms are across a corridor from one another. As I near the washrooms, a song pops into my head, distracting me. I waltz blindly into the washroom.\n\nThis bathroom seems different. There is a complete lack of urinals. Meh, sometimes they are farther back. I pass by an occupied stall, heading to the back of the washroom. No urinals. Guess a stall it is. I promptly close the door, lock it, and begin urinating. Then I notice the smell, err, lack of smell. Old piss? Zero. B.O.? None. I dismiss it, assuming it isn't frequently used. Halfway through, I notice a small, aluminum thing on the stall wall. I lift the lid, and wish I hadn't.\n\nThis isn't the men's room.\n\nTo cement the fact, the other patron, whilst walking out, began talking on their phone. And that trilling laugh didn't issue from a male. Fuck. I finish up, and pray I can get out before anyone else comes in. Just as I round the corner to the doorway, two women walk in. **Fuck**. They glance at each other as I brush by, and I bolt away, but not before I hear the raucous outburst of laughter behind me.", "summary": "Distracted when going to the washroom, notice key differences, flee in shame."}
{"id": "t3_3hadwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Current GF may or may not have slept with someone else while single", "post": "Okay so I[M-18] have been with my current girlfriend [F-18]on and off for a year and a half. The last 6 months have been steady and amazing. However she lately revealed a thought to me that is completely freaking me out and I need help in. Right before we got back together when she was single this past December she said she may have slept with someone at a party but isn't sure due to how intoxicated she was. Now this thought kills me because we finally had sex for the first time this February and I thought I was taking her virginity. \n\nThinking that maybe she wasn't a virgin just bothers me mostly because I'm just a jealous person. Can someone put my mind at ease? I understand I don't have a right to be mad at her because she was single. But the fact that it's unclear what happened that night is what bothers me. Just to be clear we both absolutely love each other to death and we both want to be together despite our difficulties.", "summary": "Girlfriend may or may not have slept with someone else while single. Not sure how to deal with it "}
{"id": "t3_42r6d4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "F 22......Looking for advice on guy Im seeing!", "post": "So I will try and keep this brief......basically there is this new guy Ive been seeing for the past 2-3 months, and things have been great for the most part. I just finally split with my cheating ex a few weeks ago, and wasnt really PLANNING on meeting anyone but, a guy asked me out while I was bartending and I couldnt say now lol. He constantly takes me out on dates, we have a lot of sex, he introduces me and brings me around to his friends, he has met my sister, etc. Nice dates too.....like sushi, Canoeing, dinners, walks, etc. On our first date he mentioned that he is going to Europe for 6 months (which is now in 4 months from now) and since than we haven't really talked about that at all.......we also haven't DTR'ed or had the exclusive talk or whatever.....which kind of concerns me. We are also both graduating college at the end of the semester. Im not seeing anyone else (minus the fact that Ive been talking to my ex.....who cheated....new guy doesn't know about him...were not sleeping together though), and I'm pretty sure he's not seeing anyone else either. We just got back from a cottage weekend where I met literally all of his friends, and it was a great time for all accounts. BUT Im worried that this guy is stringing me along......does he want to try a LDR when he leaves? Is he just looking to date me until than and to take off? I really just have no idea where his head is at and am wondering what this looks like from an outside point of view. He keeps insisting on helping me move this weekend too....but my whole family will be there and I don't think Im ready for that quite yet. Im thinking of maybe pulling away a little bit and seeing how he reacts. I know you will probably say \"just talk to him\" but I kind of want some anonymous opinions first.", "summary": "Looking for advice on the above!"}
{"id": "t3_1fto5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) might be losing her (16f). How do I show her I've changed?", "post": "We have been dating for about a year and a half now. Starting in January I have been really hurting her. I told her I was not happy with her appearance, and recently told her I had a low sex drive. It has been a while since I made a move, or initiated any intimate contact. I honestly don't know why. I used to want it all the time, then I guess my desire just dwindled.\n\nI still loved her with all of my heart, and I definitely still desired her. Just not as often I suppose.\n\nSo she decided that she wanted a break, I resented at first, but eventually I just let her be for a while like she asked. I didn't text her or contact her. It was hard, but I just needed to get through the break. Well the day after, she texted me and said that we are breaking up. It hit me pretty hard and after exchanging a few more texts I drove to her house unannounced. I told her I wanted to get my belongings and say a few things.\n\nShe told me that she was very confused. She didn't like the way I treated her and in that way didn't want to be with me. But on the other hand she didn't want to let me go. So she said she just needed some time to reflect.\n\nShe assured me that we would talk again and see each other, once she has made her final decision I guess. I have said I would change so, so many times in the past. Failing practically every time. But I felt something so different today. I finally convinced myself that I needed to change. I have just been selfish toward her, while she gave so much to me. I realized that I want to live for her, not for me. I just want her to be happy. I desire her, I want to be intimate with her, and I love her body contrary to what I've told her. I never made any of that clear to her. \n\nI know this sounds rather general, but if anyone has any advice on how, if I get a chance to prove myself, do I do that? Any other advice is certainly welcome.", "summary": "told my girlfriend many many times that I have changed (for various reasons) and failed to actually show her that I did every time. She broke up with me, she is very confused and isn't sure what she wants. When I talk to her again, how do I prove that this time I have actually changed and want to live to make her life better?"}
{"id": "t3_31rhhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my [26F] girlfriend, who tells me frequently how often she gets hit on", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for the past 6 months, and things have been going really well. We both care deeply about one another, are compatible in the important ways, and really enjoy spending time together.\n\nSince I met my girlfriend, I've noticed that she makes a point of telling me about how much attention she gets from other men on a very regular basis, and I suppose I'm not really sure why. At least 3-4 days per week, she'll find a way to mention that so-and-so male friend used to have a crush on her, or that she had to block someone on Facebook because they were sending flirtatious messages, or that a bunch of men were trying to talk to her when she was out at a bar, and so on.\n\nI don't really know what to make of this. I feel awful saying it, but my girlfriend, while pretty and definitely more attractive than I am, is still not a super model. She is fairly social, can be flirty, and certainly does certain things to garner male attention, which I suppose is relevant, but this doesn't really bother me because she has never cheated in past relationships, and I trust her. Interestingly, she never gets hit on when we're out together, but I'm sure this is because I'm standing right next to her. Moreover, she has other female friends who are single and attractive, but when she tells me about her nights out, she always seems to imply that she gets significantly more attention than anybody else. \n\nMy question has to do with why my girlfriend seems so eager to tell me about all of this attention that other guys give her. I consider myself to be a pretty caring boyfriend, and I tell her frequently how much I love her. I know she's been in a few unhealthy relationships in the past, and that she considers herself to be a victim of verbal and emotional abuse, so I'm not sure if she's trying to remind me that she's valuable and attractive to others, if she needs me to give her more compliments, if she's just trying to keep me in the loop, if she's trying to make me jealous, or if she's trying to brag.", "summary": "girlfriend seems to attract a lot of male attention, and has made a habit of telling me about all of it. I'm not sure why she feels so strongly about telling me every time it happens."}
{"id": "t3_evsjc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone have an Etsy or Ebay store or something of the like?  Do you claim that on your taxes?", "post": "I started an online business this year, but I'm not even sure if it's considered a legitimate business.  I did as much research as I possibly could, looked up all the rules and regulations for my state (Florida) and still I'm confused because most of it doesn't apply to a strictly online business.  \n\nI even took business classes in college and asked people who owned their own businesses - nobody can give me a straight or simple answer that matches any other answer I've gotten.\n\nI didn't make much money at all in 2010 (a couple hundred dollars) - it's that small of a business right now - and all of that and then some went right into the business (desks, machines, website, etc.)\n\nI don't have a Tax ID, I didn't charge sales tax, I don't have a business license or a vendor's license...  Someone told me I can't get a business license or TID until I've turned a profit for 3 years, but I can use my social security number in the meantime to claim the losses on my tax returns.. but I don't want to get in trouble.\n\nI'd take my taxes to a professional service, but most of those people are just seasonal following the same program walkthrough I can get on the shelf for $20 bucks.", "summary": "Does anyone have an online store and what do you do about sales tax, income tax, and your tax returns?"}
{"id": "t3_3lu2eu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing a door", "post": "It all started as an innocent game with my daughter. We have glass patio doors and she was pushing it closed while I would open it (can't leave her stranded outside as she isn't tall enough to open it yet). Anyways after a few minutes of playing this game I go and get a drink and hear her close the door so I run up to the door shouting \"aaaaaah\" pulling funny faces and slam my hands on the door. Unbeknown to me the door wasn't fully closed so I have just pushed the door open at full pelt into my 2 year old sending her flying across the path. \nBad mummy. \nLuckily there were no tears but the game was over.", "summary": "I ran up to glass patio doors and pushed them open full force into my daughters face and sent her flying."}
{"id": "t3_4zdnc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My married coworker [29F] has bee telling me [22M] about her sexual exploits with a guy my age", "post": "*", "summary": "Should I tell my coworker something or say something (possibly anon.) to her husband? Should I keep my mouth shut?"}
{"id": "t3_1gfgj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl (24F) I am dating doesn't want to have sex with me (22M) until she's in an \"exclusive relationship\"", "post": "Been seeing each other for a few weeks. Great chemistry, get along really well, she's been to my house a bunch, I'd say we're compatible as people.\n\nLast night we were making out and she said she didn't want to lead me on, and that she didn't want to have sex until she was in an exclusive relationship because of past experiences. I'm totally cool with that, I'm not going to rush/pressure her.\n\nThat being said, I'm not sure how to progress from here. I know she's sexually attracted to me, and vice-versa, but I'm also not keen to rush into an exclusive thing just to have sex. My last relationship (of two years) was very rushed and didn't feel like it developed naturally, and I don't know how to progress here without feeling like sex is a driving force now.", "summary": "Girl wants to wait until we're in a relationship to have sex, I'm not in a rush to get into something, but I also don't want to commit months of time/\"work\" and then find out we're sexually incompatible."}
{"id": "t3_183c5x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When have you exploded at someone in customer service?", "post": "I placed an order online for a pair of khaki shoes ~$100 two weeks ago and received the same shoes in brown several days later.\n\nCalled customer service, had original price reduced by $5 dollars with 4 day custom handling (to ensure correct product) and 2 day shipping, sent back original shoes with included return label.\n\nToday I receive the second pair of shoes.  Brown.  Order form in box confirms brown.  200 dollars out, original payment not yet refunded, now this.\n\nCalled customer service, tell them situation.  Their solution: place a third order for a different similar pair of shoes.  Want another $100.  areyoukiddingme.  \n\nAsk for manager.  Don't get manager.  He told rep that sometimes in the warehouse its difficult to differentiate between similar colors.  The order form says brown.  I ask if they employ literate warehouse workers.  Or workers who can differentiate opposite shoe colors.  At a shoe company.  \n\nCalm down.  Place third order for same shoes this time free overnight.  Still out about $270 without correct shoes.  Excited for next phone call.", "summary": "FUCK YOU DSW"}
{"id": "t3_2uxccu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Valentines day is coming. Girlfriend [22/F] hates the day. I [23/M] still want to do something special for her.", "post": "The past two years has been a bust. She always gets horribly depressed and a bit angry around valentines day. She's never told me outright why though, which is why my attempts at romance always fall short.\n\nValentines day also happens to fall about 2 weeks before out anniversary (this year will be our 3rd.) I know for sure I want to get her flowers because she's been hinting at that lately. However, I don't know what she likes! Obviously I can't walk up to her and say \"Hey what kind of flowers do you like?!\"\n\nAnother way to go is to not do something at all and simply respect how she feels about it. I'm completely clueless about it all.", "summary": "Girlfriend hates valentines day, I want to do something romantic so maybe she won't hate it as much next year. I'd love ideas on what to do (or what not to do!)"}
{"id": "t3_12w5qy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend made an INCREDIBLY inappropriate joke. What do I do? [21F, 28M]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating since March. In September he had to move across the country for work, so since then we've been long-distance. We alternate visiting each other each month, and see each other about every 4 weeks for a week, and talk every day. We're looking at moving in together in April.\n\nToday we were just chit-chatting over text about a TV show we were watching about tattoo artists. He asked if I ever wanted to get a tattoo, and I said \"No, my pain tolerance is pretty low!\" and he replied \"What happens when I start beating you?\" **WTF**\n\nHe is incredibly gentle with me, and I know he'd NEVER hurt me. He would also never have said this in person. He's hardly sweet and sappy over text but this is really out of character and it makes me uncomfortable.", "summary": "Boyfriend made a joke about beating me. I'm pretty hurt and offended. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_349w5l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost setting my room on fire.", "post": "Obligatory this happened a few months ago. I went out drinking this one time to this bar with 5 shots for $10 and I, of course, had a few too many rounds of them. I should also mention I'm a fan of damaging my lungs by smoking, especially when I drink. I go through a pack at most. So me and my friends are having a good time, yada yada, and at around 3am I decide to go home. I get to my place craving a cigarette but I don't have anymore but I remembered my sister had gotten me some cigars for Christmas and decided to smoke one instead. After awhile I called it a night, turned off the cigar and went to bed. This is where I fucked up. I wake up around 15 minutes afterwards with my eyes bothering me thinking wtf is going on. Flicked my lights on and my room is full of smoke. Turns out I didn't turn the cigar off properly and it started a little fire in my garbage can. Quickly I grabbed the water bottle I always leave in my room and put it off, turned on my fan, opened my windows, and threw out the bag after making sure there was no more fire. Had to sleep in my living room that night (;~_~)\u30ce\n\nSince that night I got scared of ever smoking indoors so I always go to my fire escape or go out my building to smoke.", "summary": "got drunk. Smoked a cigar. Turned it off badly, set my garbage can on fire. Made a rule that nobody is allowed to smoked in my room."}
{"id": "t3_1jh5jb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (m18) feel like I don't have enough time with partner (f17)", "post": "My (18m) girlfriend (17f) of 1 year has a new job in which she works 50+ hours a week. Before this, we spent a lot of time together, 3-5 times a week (or upwards of 30 hours). We mostly just hung out, not really many hardcore dates. On top of this, she's also re-united with a past friend and started to hang out with him a lot more. She is close to her family, has no father (deceased) and is middle class. She must pay for 3 years of university. So the past 2 months or so we have only been hanging out for a total of about 6 to 9 hours a week. Is it wrong for me to feel neglected? How should I go about tackling this? \nAs a sidenote, I also am a bit jealous of her new friend but am trying to keep this as my problem only, and am overcoming it.", "summary": "GF works 50+ hours/week, I only get 6-9 hours per week with her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1iw6ie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] found the girl of my dreams [32F] but she doesn't have my preferred breast size. Am I asking for too much? (x-post from r/sex)", "post": "So it's really hard for me to have any (emotional) feelings for a girl. I haven't truly been in love in my adult life until recently. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months and she's probably the greatest person I've ever met. We get along so well and I'm very much in love with her. Everyone who has met her agrees: there are very few people like her.\n\nShe is the first person I've seriously considered marrying and having kids with. But she doesn't have big boobs, and that is a huge thing for me.\n\nI really, really like girls with large breasts. Every girl I've been with who has large breasts tell me they've never been with a guy who pays so much attention to their breasts. If you go through my porn folder it's all girls with huge tits, it's a really big thing for me.\n\nI like them so much that I don't know if I can go my entire life without being with someone without large breasts. And it's not like my girlfriend isn't attractive. She is a beautiful girl with a phenomenal physique.\n\nI've been waiting over a decade for someone like her, but I can't deal with the small breasts thing. Am I being a selfish asshole and asking for too much? If we break up will I be kicking myself for not being someone for this one reason? Will I ever find this chemistry with someone again?", "summary": "I found the girl of my dreams but don't think I can marry her because she doesn't have big boobs. Is this reasonable? Does this make me a selfish asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_39ohn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34F] with my Ex BF___ [36 M] 6 months went from ex to next ::happy dance::", "post": "Met the ex online. Thought he was 100% available.\nNope. He had his head always looking for what else was out there but failed to see the girl in front of him.\nHe has been rejected ,shot down and been made to look like a fool but he was still chasing those girls.\nThe Grass is Green syndrome is a fatal flaw in relationships. I tried talking to him about it but he denied it. I felt like I was ripped off. Like he never gave us a real shot because in his mind he was still chasing after those other girls. He even had secret accounts (Whatsass, snapcrotch etc) \nHe never asked me to join and threw a tantrum when I told him that it bothered me that he has social networks with other women but doesn't include his own gf. He even said this nonsense \"Well, whats next? I can't be friends with my own mother? Shes a female.\" \nYes, yes that came out of his mouth in his defense. and none of those other women new about me or that he was in a relationship because he did NOT tell them. \n\nEnough was enough. I felt hurt, rejected and couldn't keep up with the fantasy in his head so I left.\n\nKeep in mind I wasn't looking for anyone or anything new but a wonderful man has just entered my life. \n\nHe has introduced me to his circle of both female and male friends. He has also introduced RESPECT in to my life. Something that has been lacking from previous relationships. I'm taking things slow. Friends first then build from that.\n\nMy question for my fellow Reddit Readers\nHas someone treated you poorly because they thought that they could do better but in turn you are the one that is succeeding?  \nThank you", "summary": "He thought the grass was greener and I tried but turns out I found greener fields. Has this happened to others??"}
{"id": "t3_wi38b", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Progress Pics after almost 2 months, NSFW-ish", "post": "So I started out at 157lbs, I am now 148lbs and oh so close to dropping the last pound.  I have been tracking my calories on MFP and staying just over 1200 calories a day.  I started lifting weights at the gym a week ago and I can see a big difference in my legs and arms.  I am getting to the point that my inner thighs rub together!  To me that is a big deal because I always used to get big holes in my jeans at my crotch from my thunder thighs rubbing together, jeans don't last as long.  I'm getting more and more pumped about the little differences I see in my body!  So, losers (and I mean that in the best way possible!) tell me what you're excited about this week, it can be anything!  For example, I just got a call last night and I got the job that I wanted!", "summary": "excited about the little things, share your small victories!"}
{"id": "t3_34onwx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [21M] is frustrated by my curfew.", "post": "I'm a 19 y/o F college student and I live at home, my boyfriend also lives at home. My parents are nice enough to not force me to pay rent or contribute too much financially because they know I'm saving to transfer to university after community college. Although they allow me some freedoms, I do have an 11 pm curfew. I think that because they already cut me so much slack, the least I can do is abide by that. \n\nMy boyfriend also lives at home and understands my situation somewhat, although he has more freedom, like for example, he has no curfew. \n\nToday, while he was over, he said we wanted to go see a movie, but the only showtimes available where a 9 or 10, and he asked me to ask to stay out late. I told him no because it wouldn't even matter, I know my parents' stance and that I've told him before about my curfew. I said that he should have been more considerate and looked up early showtimes. He gave me the silent treatment for a bit. I suggested we go to a different theater closer to my house, suggested we do something else, asked him if he was okay, but he wasn't giving me much to work with. After just sitting on my couch, ignoring me and playing on his phone he got up and left. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "I have a curfew, have told my boyfriend before about this. Boyfriend wants to see a late movie, told him I can't go past my curfew, try seeing if we can do something else, he gives me the silent treatment and leaves."}
{"id": "t3_2t3pjh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally breaking an old man's hip", "post": "I was walking around my college town procrastinating an important homework assignment when I stumbled upon an antique shop I'd never seen before. I'm an absolute crazy for old stuff, so I walked in and a seeminlgly harmless old man greeted me. \n\n\"What're you looking for pretty lady?\" \n\n\"I'm just looking around\" I said.\n\n\"Okay, I'll be up front if you need anything.\"\n\nLittle did I know this motherfucker was quiet as a goddamn cat on a carpet. As I was walking around, I got that creepy feeling like \"you know someone is behind you, but every time you turn around, nothing is there\" type stuff. I did this about four times before I caught the bastard snapping pics of my bum when I would stoop down to look at something.\n\n\"What the fuck are you doing?\" \n\nHe made a run for it around a corner and dodged me around some antiques before I caught the sleeve of his sweatshirt.  I thought to myself, *I got him now, I'll just make him delete them and leave!* I spoke too soon. Trying to steady myself, while still holding onto his sleeve, I accidentally slipped on some old magazines laying on the floor and he came down with me.\nCrack. Something definitely broke. \n\n*oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck*\n\nCalled an ambulance and turns out he fractured his hip during the fall, but he'll live. He took his phone with him. He still has pictures of my ass.", "summary": "wore a skirt to an antique shop, elderly owner took pics of my butt, tried to escape and I accidentally fracture his hip."}
{"id": "t3_171jyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19f] have developed feelings for a friend [20m] at a time when my relationship with my boyfriend [20m] feels like it's declining", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years. We're long distance since I attend college in another town. Our relationship has been pretty great thus far: we rarely fight and do lots of stupid silly things together and just have fun in general. The last month or so, however, things have felt noticeably different. It feels like we're in a rut. I find it difficult to talk to him and our conversations are really dull. I feel like he has stopped being romantic and I've tried talking to him about it but there's been little improvement. I tried to compensate but after a while the extra effort with little response drained me. Now things just feel dead. Whenever I try to discuss things with him I feel like I get no response and it's rather frustrating. I'm not sure how to fix these issues and it's gotten to the point where I just feel like quitting, like I don't even want to try any more.\n\nA year ago I met a new friend and we became close rather quickly because we are so similar. Just recently he admitted to me that he has a crush on me and I told him that the feeling was mutual. I also let him know that I wasn't looking for anything to develop between us because I am in a relationship and he respects that. My issue is that this new guy is so tempting because he's new and I feel like our personalities are better suited towards each other. I feel happier talking to him than I do talking to my boyfriend. I want to work my issues out with my boyfriend because I love him very much but I'm afraid that my feelings for my friend will get in the way, will make me want to call it quits on a relationship that seems to be going under. I'm not entirely sure what to do. I'd greatly appreciate your opinions and advice. If there's any extra details you'd like to know, please ask and I'll share.", "summary": "Relationship is in a rut and now I'm stuck between two guys"}
{"id": "t3_xabh0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad has now gone through two bouts with pneumonia within ~2 months. His allergy to our cats has worsened to the point where getting rid of them seems to be the only remaining option. Have any of you ever successfully found homes for animals you can no longer keep?", "post": "Some additional information:\n\n* Because I know this will come up: Yes, he had an allergy to cats prior to getting so sick. However, he was always been able to manage the allergy. \n\n* His lungs are so bothersome now that he's on multiple steroids and a nebulizer. The reason we are having to debate getting rid of the cats is because his allergy greatly reduces his treatments effectiveness.\n\n* We have asked everyone we know - both personally and from work - and no one can take them. \n\n* We are in the process of preparing ads to go on pet-finder.\n\n* We've called the pound as a last resort, they don't have room. They said we'd just have to leave them out back in a cage, and we will NOT do this. \n\n* The ideal situation would be to find a foster family who can look after them for 6 - 10 months while my father's lungs recover. Our hope is that if he's able to recuperate that his allergy to the cats will diminish to where it was prior to him being sick.\n\n* We are in Western, Md. \n\nI am totally crushed by all of this. I have never before had to get rid of a pet, and we are all embarrassed at having to do so. But the only option is for my father to continue suffering, and it's not fair to him. So please - if you have any advice or suggestions I am all ears.", "summary": "Dad got super sick, cats are making it near impossible to recuperate, and we need to find them new homes."}
{"id": "t3_27i0sa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25 [m] with gf 25 [f] together 1.5 years, she is financially incompetent and I'm trying not to be the bad guy.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years and hopefully will be together a long time. \n\nWe currently live with my parents since I got sick and had to move home, and pay for all kinds of medical related stuff. We're trying to save money so we can leave the state were in and head somewhere where we can afford to live. I make decent money, and have been supporting the both of us as she has been out of a job the last 9 months. \n\nI personally am pretty good with budgeting and finances. Currently she owes the IRS $3k. She just got a part time job working 15 hours a week. She is without a car, however she is free to use my car just about anytime. \nShe just brought up the fact that she now wants her own car so she has more freedom and doesn't have to bother me, even though we've discussed multiple times that we would set her up with a car once we move and get situated.\n\nAs of right now it does not make sense for this to happen. Her getting a car would cost a few thousand dollars initially, then registration, gas, insurance, and money in case it breaks down since neither of us can afford for her to get a car that's decently reliable. It's caused multiple arguments and I'm getting tired of trying to help her try to manage money and teach her the practicality of situations.\n\nThis is her 3rd job since we've been together, so I don't want her to get a car and then be out of a job and have more expenses to cover when she isn't getting an income. Am I being too \"controlling\" over the situation? I'm trying to do what's best for US!", "summary": "She has my car she can use anytime, and we're trying to save up to move. Gf not good with money"}
{"id": "t3_41sof5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my Girlfriend [26F] and her son [4m], I thought I could handle him but now I'm having second thoughts, am I in the wrong?", "post": "I live with my girlfriend and her son, which has been going on for about 9 months. I met her son a few months after dating her and we moved in together not long after that, getting them both away from her abusive parents they were living with.\n\nAt the time she asked if I thought I was up to being in her sons life, saying that I might be too selfish to look after someone so young, and I said that I loved her, and I was willing to give it a try to the best of my abilities, and in the beginning it was fine, there was some conflict but he and I got along well. I was helping my girlfriend out with him while she was dealing with long hours of work, which was fine by me.\n\nFast forward to now, and I'm having doubts. I want to spend time with her, without her son being there but we haven't in such a long time (almost 6 months!) and I feel like being with him is a chore. I have to force myself to pick him up at a reasonable time, and help out with him. Any time he starts acting up I feel like I just shut down emotionally and the amount of time I spend looking after him and feeling uninterested/frustrated is bothering me. \n\nI love her so much, and I do want to help out, but I feel like after I've given it my best shot, I'm just not cut out to care for him and it feels like I'm trapped because of her new work hours which means she won't be able to take care of him at all without my help. Is it wrong to change my mind? I don't want to leave her without support, but I don't want to be around for him to have an example of if my hearts not in it.", "summary": "I told my girlfriend over 6 months ago I could help take care of her son and now I'm realising that I'm not suited to it."}
{"id": "t3_426exd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I have dinner with a girls [f/20] parents whom i [m/28] don't see long term potential with?", "post": "So this girl i'm seeing wants me to have dinner with her parents I don't really consider this to be that serious of a relationship yet.\n\nWe get along and everything, but I think there might be a slight development gap (career, focus, maturity) I don't know maybe it can develop more layers in the future, but for now we're just enjoying each other's company. \n\nWe've been \"seeing\" each other for about 7 months now. We've had the exclusive convo somewhere around the 2nd month, but also said we're gonna take a step back (recently) and see other people and now we haven't had the exclusive conversation again. \n\nI feel like this is moving in a direction of exclusivity which I'm hesitant about becasue I'm uncertain as to whether this will be long term. \n\nI think i'm reading too much into this though because even among friends its really not a big deal to meet your friends parents so that they can see that their son's or daughters aren't hanging out with people of bad influences or dumbasses. \n\nCould I get some varying viewpoints on this so that I can better make a rationally weighted decision?", "summary": "girl i don't consider long term potential with wants me to have dinner with parents. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_336pkp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "If I keep what I saw a secret, I might be semi responsible for major negative consequences down the road..", "post": "To my 12 year old little bother,\nBecause I am 8 years older than you, I have always given you the benefit of the doubt when I have caught you doing dishonest things. I do this because we are very alike and I understand the stupid actions we do when we are young. I have never told on you because, as your big brother, I have the right to show you what is the difference between right/wrong without getting our over reactive parents involved.\n\nI have always had your back, but after what I saw today, I do believe I should tell an actual adult. I walked in on you and our 9 year old cousin lying on your backs on our mothers bed. As soon as I opened the door, you quickly moved your hand out of our cousin's pants and got up immediately to go to your room. By the sketchy way you and our cousin were acting and the way you got up from the bed so abruptly, I know what was going on. I didn't say anything because I honestly don't know what to do.\n\nFor Christ's sake, you're only 12 years old and you tried to do sexual things with our cousin. If I tell on you, you may never talk to me again and the whole situation will wreak a very awkward havoc on the family. If I don't tell on you, you will face no consequences for your actions, and I might be responsible if you turn into a pedophile later on in life. I really want to help you but I just don't know how to..", "summary": "Im a 20 year old guy who caught my 12 year old little brother with his hands down my little 9 year old cousin's pants. If I tell my parents what I saw, the news will disrupt home life and my brother may never speak to me again. If i don't say anything, I might be responsible for letting my little brother turn into a pedophile or some shit later on in life. If he faces no consequences, he won't stop."}
{"id": "t3_1ir005", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (23/f) let go and get over the person he (23/m) used to be?", "post": "I've been in a LDR with my current boyfriend for 2 years. We liked each other so much in the beginning of the relationship that we knew we would end up together and worked really hard to keep it together. I was supposed to stay with him (permanently) last month but a lot of things happened.\n\nFinancially, I struggled to do this. And it was taking a longer time than we had planned. He became depressed due to a number of factors. Completely changing. He was smoking weed and lying about it. He set up a dating profile and lied about it. When he came clean, he said he was going to get better and change. While he stopped doing those things, his depression just keeps getting worse and it's difficult to deal with.\n\nAt one time, I wanted to be with him and make it work. Even if it meant struggling financially. But now I'm not so sure. We put me coming there on hold. We haven't seen each other in so long. He's depressed most of the time. He feels nothing. He's literally empty. And isn't able to care. On the other hand, I do care about him very much. And can't let go of the person I once knew. Which is why I'm staying around. I'm afraid if I leave, I'll miss out when he's back to normal.\n\nI am by no means blaming him for his depression. But I still think he should want to see me at least. I don't know what to put up with, what is real, how to let go of the person I fell for if need be. And one of my biggest fears of this entire situation is that he's going to meet someone else and she's going to get that person I want. Not the one he is now. Any suggestions are appreciated.", "summary": "Think I should end things with my boyfriend but can't let go of the \"old\" him. Afraid when he moves on, this new person is going to get the side of him I'm looking for. Not his depressed side."}
{"id": "t3_187v7q", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My dogs have totally lost their biscuits.", "post": "So my family has two fairly large mixed breed dogs, M6 and F9. We've had both since puppies, so we know they werent abused, but my parents never formally trained them. They've never been good with visitors and now its gotten to the point where they completely run the house. My parents treat them like spoiled children. \n\nThe female dog, who has always had fairly strong herding tendencies, has gone totally insane in the last few years. She growls, barks and gives warning bites to anyone who gets in her space (AKA the whole house.) I can't have friends over anymore because she has bit all of them for leaning the wrong way, entering a room without her permission. She's not allowed outside anywhere but our back yard because she bit/nipped (no blood) a kid in our neighborhood. Now she whines all day long for no apparent reason and nothing will make her shut up. \n\nThe other male dog seems to have learned from her that these behaviors get her attention and is now imitating her with barks, growls and whines. My parents both feel that putting down the crazy dog is way over the line, and she is my pet so I'm not in support of that either, but shes lost her marbles and nothing seems to help. We've put her on mild meds that just make her sleep but don't solve the underlying problems. \n\nShe's 9 years old, but what are we supposed to do, just let her be the queen bitch of the house and wait who knows how long until she passes? Would love some advice for dealing with such extreme dog behavioral issues, especially a fairly old dog. Thanks r/dogs!", "summary": "I've got a crazy old female herding dog who is completely out of control and a younger male mutt who is learning to imitate her insane behavior. What on earth am I supposed to do?"}
{"id": "t3_ubl7j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The love of my life told me she is getting married... I don't know what to do... Advice?", "post": "Since the first time I saw her, I knew she was going to be important for me... When we were together everything was awesome knowing from the beginning that it wasn't going to be for long time because I was leaving the city. I don't know if the fact that we knew it was going to end some time soon, it was so intense... but we fell in love for each other so quick.\n\nWhen I left the city we decided to end things up  because either of us wanted a long distance relationship. I came back hoping that she was still single... and indeed she was, but she told me she was planning to go as an Au Pair to the United States. Again we where together for a couple of months before she left and it was amazing.\n\nI always thougth she was coming back and we would be happy together. She has been there for the last two years... and we are not that close anymore. We use to talk as friend but deep inside I know i still love her and she loves me.\n\nShe told me she was getting married and wanted to talk to me about it. We spent the las three hours talking about our relationship and remembering how happy we were. She told me that she still love me but she wants to stay in the USA. She told me how important am I in her life and that she didn't want to lose me \"as a friend\"\n\nReddit... I don't know what to do rigth now... Should I try to stop her? should I support her?. After we talked today I felt all those things I used to feel about her. I'm feeling all kind of thing's right now and don't know what to think...\n\nHelp guys!", "summary": "The love of my life is getting married but we're still in love, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_smqka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Looking for advice re wife that seems overly possessive of me", "post": "My wife and I get along great when it's just the two of us, but massive fights seem to happen when I want to spend time with other people in my life, e.g. friends and family.  Particularly without her.  \n\nExample 1: I like to have a beer with my work friends on Friday afternoon.  Regardless of whether I do this or not, I still come home at the exact same time, 6 pm.  But my wife considers me not coming directly home to be me \"choosing them over her.\"  She also tells me these people are coworkers and are not my friends.  I feel like that's up to me to decide.  \n\nExample 2: She cannot stand the thought of me visiting my family without her, even just for the weekend.  Suggesting it leads to a huge argument.  \n\nAny advice?  Am I being selfish?", "summary": "I have a possessive wife and want advice."}
{"id": "t3_3b3qcn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I rent a room in a house, do I have to help with yard work?", "post": "Hello, I am fairly young, and haven't lived on own for very long (Been out of school for about a year). I rent a room in a ladies house that she owns, we get along really well, I pay monthly rent and half of utilities, and we keep the house pretty clean and take turns cleaning to bathroom etc. I've lived there for about 4 months now, and now that it's summer she keeps asking me to help her mow the lawn and do other yard maintenance. Yard work really sucks imo, and if I just rented an apartment or condo I wouldn't have to do yard work at all. Is helping with yard work my responsibility?", "summary": "My roommate who owns the house I rent a room in is trying to make me help with yard work, is that my responsibility?"}
{"id": "t3_101ed8", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Thank you r/jobs for helping me earn my first offer. But before I accept, what are some things I should consider?", "post": "I posted in the beginning of August about how to prep myself for my first few job interviews. Today, I got a call from one company I had interviewed for over the phone (in July) then in person (in August). \n\nThe offer is a full-time, 40-hours a week job in an industry I would love to be in (I earned my degree in this field) but the pay is hourly and the position is 8.5 hours away from where I live now. It's a long term position.\n\nThe position I'm in now is 35 hours/week with an hour long commute and 50 cents less an hour than the other offer. It started as a part time position I turned into one that will last until next August. It's in a related field to my degree, but not the same one I fell in love with.\n\nI'm also applying for grad school in the fall. My dream school is in NYC, 6 hours away from the offer I earned today, so there's no way I could keep it if I get into my dream school. On the other side, my position now would be finished and my bosses are writing my letters of recommendations for grad school.", "summary": "before I accept a job offer, what do I consider before giving up my life and position right now?"}
{"id": "t3_4s9st6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years, need advice on future of relationship", "post": "Okay some back story; I am currently with my high-school sweetheart who graduated high-school early to come to college with me. We are entering our second year living together and just passed our three year anniversary. Things are great between us. We spend a ton of time together, never fight and we have always gotten along like the best of friends.\n\nMy problem is that we have nothing in common. We have totally different interests and hobbies. It bothers me that we relate on almost nothing and that we are so different. The worst part about it is she is so sweet and kind and I know she would never leave my side. I feel like I am missing out on being with someone who I can relate to more and share more of myself with. I am not unhappy and I really love her but I can't help but wonder what my life would be like with someone who understood me better. I have tried to get her interested in the things I like: video games, philosophy, working out. It just feels like a struggle whenever I try to explain something to her and she can't grasp what I am talking about at all. We don't think the same and it bothers me.\n\nHer and I are so intertwined and close that I know it would just destroy her if for whatever reason we were not together anymore. I really do love this woman but there are big things in my life that are missing. I try not to question it but why would I even be making this post If I felt complete? I can't justify just leaving her because she is perfect in every other way. Do I sacrifice parts of my happiness and just shut up and be content? \n\nThanks for the advice and letting me materialize and vent my thoughts.", "summary": "Do I hide part of myself away and pretend to be wholly happy or do I risk losing what could be the best thing I could ever have?"}
{"id": "t3_3igpf5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I tell people the truth?", "post": "So I am a 23(M) who suffers from depression. I grew up in an abusive home and was sexually assaulted in school at the age of 11.  I've never had a 1st kiss, never been in a relationship. \nI'm unsure if that's because I am asexual or that I am just too messed up to ever trust someone enough to let them near me.\n\nI have the same 7 friends that I've known since I was about 5 years old (kinda got a few trust issues), and I think I'm ready to tell them. But honestly I am not sure if I am asexual or not. I find people attractive and get crushes on people but I have absolutely no sexual desire. Which I believe is what asexuality is. But it could just be my brain identifying sex as something negative.\n\noff topic* This week I got one of my best friends a housewarming gift and she hugged me, it was the most uncomfortable experience I've ever had to endure with her. \nShe's usually more of a \"nod your head and smile\" person. \nI have had a crush on her for a long time but always knew I couldn't be what she wanted. Emotionally and sexually unavailable, she deserves better. I'd like nothing more than to be **that guy**, that can give her those things but I know I can't. And its my fault for being weird. I just want to be normal!  \n\nI want to tell my friends everything, I've bottled it all up for over a decade and I trust these people... which is a rare thing for me. But I don't want to force my problems on them. I'm sure they have their own problems to worry about.The last thing I want is to burden them. I guess I'm just feeling conflicted.", "summary": "23(M), abused at home. Sexually assaulted in school. Think I'm asexual. Might be just too broken to be with someone. I want to tell close friends but don't want to risk them treating me different. And don't want to burden them."}
{"id": "t3_t0lk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was discriminated against in my search for employment, the company responsible is dodging my calls/not answering my emails. I can't get enough information to actually file the complaint now, what can I do?", "post": "I live in British Columbia, and recently applied for a job at an escort agency as a driver. I received a reply email stating that none of the ladies would feel comfortable with a young, male driver. I replied gently with a reminder of Section 15 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms (The section on discrimination based on age, gender and other grounds). She stuck to her guns, saying that I could make all of her employees quit due to discomfort. \n\nI decided to file a complaint with the BC Human Rights tribunal, but I need a full name and an address for the establishment. They are refusing to give me either on the phone, and have ceased responding to my emails. The BC Human Rights Tribunal has to remain neutral, so they can't help. What's the best course of action?", "summary": "Got discriminated against, now they're hanging up on me, trying to avoid me filing a complaint. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qztks", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having all of the clocks in my household 3 minutes late.", "post": "I think you all know what that inevitably leads to on New Years Eve.\n\nShort and simple, I was hosting a small party of a few friends (4, to be exact) to watch the ball drop and raise our glasses of cider. Initially, around 15-30 minutes before the countdown, that's when they start showing the potentially bad pop stars. So naturally, we changed the channel to something more suitable for our tastes for the next 20 minutes or so. Unfortunately, we got a little bit too caught up in the show we were watching. So much so that we decided to be \"daring\" and wait for the last initial 10 seconds to switch the channel. Not only this but we didn't prepare the cider beforehand. So we find ourselves scrambling into the kitchen, taking out the cider, getting 5 wine glasses, pouring the cider, and making our way back into the living room... within a span of 4-5 seconds or so. Accumulating to a total of 1 black eye, 3 knee-related bruises, and a no-longer-useful dining chair. By the time we finally get our shit together and change the channel. NOT ONLY do we miss the ball drop, but by several minutes. So here we are, ready to do the ceremonial *clink* of our glasses at the ball drop. Only to be accompanied by some random, probably famous black guy flexing his pecs at midnight in the middle of winter on national television to the song that wasn't even the first one playing after the ball dropped. Needless to say, the first thing on my New Years Resolution is: reset my goddamn clocks and stop getting so attached to petty, 2 year-old TV shows.", "summary": "I missed the ball drop and I have a small kitchen."}
{"id": "t3_2n3ajg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/F] boyfriend [23/M] is ignoring me after a fight. Is this normal?", "post": "I posted this earlier but wanted to slightly update. We've been dating for four months. Things were going great until about a month ago when I noticed how different he was acting towards me. He's always been sweet, supportive, funny, talkative etc. But now he's constantly grumpy and it seems like he's losing interest in me.\n\nOn Wednesday he ended our date early because he \"had to get to the gym at 6 before the courts fill up\". I asked him why he *had* to go today and why he couldn't just skip one day and he said he always goes to the gym on weekdays to play basketball with his friends. He then drove me home and told me to not get upset when I was clearly very upset. He basically forced me out of his car. I don't even know why he asked to meet on Wednesday if he was going to leave so early. \n\nThat night he sent me a goodnight text and I replied with, \"You make me puke\" (which I now really regret). He went, \"Why so?\" and I was about to send him a paragraph stating how cold and insensitive he's been but instead I just put, \"You don't even like me.\" He didn't reply so I assumed that I was right. I then started feeling really guilty, like maybe he was mad at me for thinking that. So last night, in an effort to save our relationship, I decided to text him, \"I'm sorry. I was being immature and mean. It just seemed like you valued basketball over me.\" Still, no reply. \n\nI don't know why he's doing this. It's incredibly frustrating not knowing where his head's at now. We've only had one other fight before but he didn't act this way at all. Is this normal? And do I have a right to be upset? I feel like I shouldn't have apologized but our relationship is so much more important than that fight.\n\nWe were supposed to see each other on Sunday but I know that's not going to happen. We have class together on Tuesday and I am fully expecting him to break up with me then.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 4 months is ignoring me after an argument we had on Wednesday. I apologized but he's still ignoring me. Is this his way of ending the relationship? I'm so confused by this."}
{"id": "t3_lpbu0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are popular online science journals?", "post": "I'm aware that there are science journals where professionals can submit or publish their research and work. But I am wondering if there is some sort of website out there where people can submit work in the same way. What I'm thinking of would be something like reddit at its essence where people can submit any type of research or work and people can discuss and comment on it. Also this website would have places where you could submit talks at conferences or lectures (like a class lecture or a TED talk). Or people could also submit online lessons to teach people things. All content could be user submitted and people on the websites could review and validate the work(peer review). Perhaps people could also propose research ideas or form research groups online and submit work to the group over the internet with a reddit-like forum structure. The website does not need to be specific to one area of study but I would hope to find something that is about many different topics that I would find interesting? Are there any websites out there that exist like this?", "summary": "online science journals?"}
{"id": "t3_2w7v62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23/ M] boyfriend [38/ M] of three months is super-frugal and I want to know the best way to pay for things without hurting his feelings.", "post": "He's by far the nicest guy I've come across, and has a heart of gold. He makes very little money and is completely content with what he makes and lives within his means - rarely eats out, goes to free art exhibitions for entertainment, meets friends in parks for walks instead of overpriced cafes. I've been doing a lot of that ever since I've met him, and have discovered that I find this much more fun than the life I lived earlier - going to overpriced restaurants and bars, impulsive shopping, et cetera. Even with the little he has, he helps the homeless on the streets, feeds the stray dogs around his house everyday, and volunteers a lot of his time in helping his friends.\n\nI work a job that allows me to have a fair bit of disposable income. Knowing his financial situation, I've been insisting on paying for things. I feel an overwhelming urge to make him feel loved, for him to have the things that he wants but cannot afford. And even though I've been warming up to his way of frugal living, I can't help but feel like going for a meal in a nice restaurant once in a while or going away for the weekend to a nearby place, but I don't know how to bring the idea up.\n\nWhile he is not the kind of man with an inflated ego or notions of a man having to be the provider, I would think that me paying for him all the time would hurt his feelings. He has already mentioned that he thinks I'm being too giving, but not materially. I always let him pay for the smaller things and try to pick up the tab for slightly bigger expenses, to try and even out the imbalance. He is also significantly older than me, which makes things more complicated.\n\nSo my question is this - how do I explain to him that I am perfectly happy paying for things, that his happiness means the world to me, and that I approve of his beliefs and his lifestyle and don't want him to feel emasculated? Or if you don't agree with my approach, some other advice would be great too.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "make more money than older bf; want to find a way to pay for things without hurting him."}
{"id": "t3_43kwig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (30F) with my boyfriend (31M) of 4 months, me feeling upset and alone and not sure why", "post": "I've been dating him (31M) for just under 4 months...really not that long. We met online and things were going really well for a while. We dated twice a week for a while, then after about a month we started sleeping together. We have both met each others' friends once each (most of our good friends live out of town and were here for the holidays). \n\nOther than those occasions, our pattern is that he comes to my house after work one day a week, we make dinner or go out, he spends the night and we have great sex, then he leaves the next AM. Then one weekend night I do the same things at his house, going home afternoon the next day.\n\nWe seem compatible, the sex is great, we have fun together and he has treated me well. We have established exclusivity and I don't doubt that. This has been going great so far, but the last week or so I have felt sad. Today when I returned from his house I started crying instead of feeling happy like before. \n\nI think the problem for me is that I feel a bit emotionally alone. Although he is sweet, texts and talks to me daily and calls me beautiful, I don't know where his head is. He doesn't tend to want to see me any more than our usual times a week and he doesn't make future plans far ahead. He spent both the winter holiday and will spend valentines weekend out of state visiting his family. These were plans he made before we started dating, but I still feel like I'm not a priority in his life. \n\nAnyway, I'm feeling emotionally alone and like I don't know where this is going, though I can't put my finger on why. I just wish he would give me a look, say something, take more time for me or take some gesture to let me know how he feels about me. \n\nWhat should I do? Is this legitimate to feel this way? Does it mean we just aren't meant to be, or is it fixable? Is it my problem that I'm rushing in too soon? Should I tell him how I feel or just give it more time and see if things change on their own?", "summary": "Dating a guy for 4 months and I suddenly feel that I'm emotionally alone in the relationship. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ebv51", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "mobile gaming brings out the worst in people", "post": "i recently started playing a mobile strategy game called Kingdom Corps, in which you participate in a \"war\" over territories and various map objectives. big timesink, but relatively fun if you have friends interested in the genre to team up with.\n\nin the game, one of the major map objectives are \"dark lord forts,\" next to which you or your guild must have already captured an adjacent territory prior to attempting to siege the fort.\n\none day, i noticed a dude snaking up the map past my territory trying to reach a nearby fort, so i captured all the territory between him and the fort, and walled him out. apparently, he took offense to this.\n\nhe [messaged me in-game] i didn't bother replying, and didn't take much notice, until the next day when he decided to attack and capture one of my territories.\n\nthis simply wouldn't do. i was willing to overlook this sniveling little upstart, until he decided to metaphorically throw TP all over my lawn.\n\nso, in the finest traditions of pettiness, i took the fight to his front door. literally. i marched my armies across every single piece of land he owned, all the way to his starting castle, and then relinquished them all into neutrality. the effect was that he had no more lands, and basically had to start over in terms of expansion, and the neutral territories were now up for grabs for anyone who wanted them.\n\nthe payoff? the next time he signed on, and found his kingdom in shambles, he was absolutely furious. he [composed another in-game message] to me, and then he quit the game. his rankings have been dropping steadily ever since, as he remains inactive.", "summary": "guy attacks me in a game, so i ruin his gaming experience. sweet, sweet revenge."}
{"id": "t3_vr74t", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Have you ever been properly scared on a run?", "post": "So, today I went for a trail run in unknown terrain (I just knew there was a path where I planned on going, and where the path would end up), but I had no idea about the quality of the foot path, or precisely where it went.\n\nBig mistake. First, the climb was downright terrifying, and climbing shoes would have been better equipment than running shoes - the elevation difference between my left and right foot was something like 20-30 cm at times, and I was looking at 20-30 degree inclines with loose surfaces and little vegetation to grab on to.\n\nSo, when I got to the top, and it levelled off a bit, the path was often as narrow 40-50 cm wide (that's one and a half foot for if you live in the US). On it's own, that's pretty generous, but means that you have to show some courtesy when meeting other runners.  \n\nWell, other runners were not a problem here.  The problem was what was on the right side of that path. One stumble, and I would have fallen to my death off a 100 m vertical cliff, landing on the roof of some car on the highway below me.  \n\nWhen the path decided to drop 15-20 m, in a distance of 15-20 m (Yes, that's a 45 degree incline), and the surface was loose, and the path was as close as it could get to that cliff, I was, to say the least, scared shitless.  On runs and rides in the past, I've had encounters with moose and other big creatures of the forest, but none of those were as scary as today.\n\nWhat made this extra scary is that it's only my second run since removing two splints/pins and a cast from my right arm after a metacarpal fracture.  My right hand has absolutely no strength compared to what it had before the fracture.\n\nThe pace and HR charts for today's run are completely irrelevant, but nevertheless interesting. Averaging over 180 BPM with a 13 min/km pace, for instance. That's a higher HR than what I have when I work at VO2max.", "summary": "I suffered from fear of heights before today's run. This run didn't exactly help."}
{"id": "t3_1x2n51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 /F] Uneasy about BF's [30 M/F] thing for Asians", "post": "I met my boyfriend in Asia a year ago while we were both working. The relationship has been going well so far and things are getting pretty serious.\n\nHe has lived in Asia on and off for a good few years, working. His two longest relationships before me were with Asian women and he has had a number of shorter relationships with Asian women. I am his first serious white, Western girlfriend despite him having grown up in a Western country with lots of white women around. He has made a series of ... interesting... remarks about Asian women, while tipsy, and has said he thinks Asian babies are the cutest. *A lot* of his hobbies and interests are related to Asian culture. In casual conversation, I have subtly asked him if he has a physical preference for Asian women (I've met a lot of Western men who have professed to this, so I wouldn't be surprised) and he said no and told me the reason that he's been with more Asian women is because they have taken more of an interest in him, than Caucasian Western women and it's all just circumstantial, etc... Sounds like BS to me.\n\nI want to stay with him, but lately I've been feeling insecure about the fact that he might like Asian women more than White women.\n\nAre there any people out there who can identify with this situation? How do you manage these thoughts? I talked to one female friend about it and she told me that \"he sounds like the kind of person who will always prefer foreign girls from any region\" but that I shouldn't overreact. I don't know. I am terrified of investing my feelings in someone who may later reject me when he realises that I am not what he really wants.", "summary": "I want to stay with my BF, but lately I've been feeling insecure about the fact that he might like Asian women more than White women."}
{"id": "t3_3t7j22", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hanging out with these groups of people at school for 2 years.", "post": "Ok so backstory first; I was 12 (now 14, why am I on reddit??) and my current friends were turning into thugs so I decided to leave them...\nI found these new people who were like 20-30 friend squad k\nIn 8th grade an egyptian kid moved to my school and this year someone did a really REALLY racist thing...\n\nThey made an instagram account him and went on random posts saying pretty racist things.\nAnyways my friends tell me and I'm not a person that makes fun of those things so I said thats not funny and I didnt laugh.\n\nAnyways the next day I'm on the lunch line and the guy finds out and all my friends say it was me who made the account, which I didnt at all, I barely have internet to post this here.\nFlash forward to today, his brother threatens me, saying that he's gonna beat me up, and at the end of school I'm called to the office (I thought it was for putting pictures of my teachers all around his classroom).\nI see my friend there and we both say how we had nothing to do with it, and the principal says he's going to open a police investigation about it. Crap.", "summary": "hung out with some people and later they jokiongly accuse me of being racist to kid and i end up with threats + a police investigation started up (and im the best student at the school) :("}
{"id": "t3_3atsbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on how to make sure my (20F) new and inexperienced boyfriend (20) of one month feels comfortable being physical after his abusive childhood.", "post": "I've known my boyfriend for five years, but we just started dating a month ago (yay!). Everything is going really well, but he's mentioned his difficulty showing physical affection/accepting affection due to his childhood when he endured physical (though not sexual) and emotional abuse. It is hard for him to express himself emotionally and physically, though he has said he has already come a long way since we have been dating. \n\nHe's also never been in a serious relationship, and everything is new to him. He has been receptive to physical stuff thus far, but I'm concerned I might make him feel uncomfortable because I don't know where his stopping point is.  I've also been in a serious relationship before and have more experience, which I think is intimidating to him. \n\nHow do I make sure he feels safe and comfortable? I'm worried he won't speak up if/when we go further and that's the last thing I want. I also don't want to baby him as he already feels like a \"child\" (his words) when it comes to physical affection.", "summary": "Need help easing my new boyfriend into a physical relationship after his abusive childhood."}
{"id": "t3_496jmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my [27M] 8 years (in which 4 years was LDR), he cheated, I found out and forgave him. I think he is cheating on me with her again", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. During our 4th year he moved away to a different country to work. I found out he was cheating on me few months ago. He said he cheated because things between us weren't very good(which I admit) and he was feeling lonely. And he said he was sorry.\n\nI forgave him and we decided to work things out. He had plan to come back home this year and I thought everything would be better after he move back.\n\nBut few weeks ago, I found out he was still with the girl despite promising me that he has no-contact with the girl. He doesn't know that I know.\n\nWhy wouldn't he just break up with me if he really wanted to be with her so much/couldn't be away from her? Should I wait for him to come back home?", "summary": "Long term boyfriend moved to a different country. During out last year of LDR (he is coming home this year) I found he was cheating. He promised not to contact her again and we decided to make things work. But I think he is cheating on me with her again. Why wouldn't he just end this and be with her? Should I wait for him to come home?"}
{"id": "t3_3slahk", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Guy tried to smack/grab me on a 600 ft high bridge!", "post": "Decided to run on a bridge I run decently frequently today before sunset. I've never had any issues there before. As I was running, a guy walking in the other direction reached out to strike/grab/smack(?) my butt as he passed me. I instinctively reached my arm defensively between my butt and him and our arms collided as he swung toward me. I looked back at him and said/yelled \"don't f'in touch me!\" And continued my run. \n\nMy HR stayed high and I tried to calm down. Then I was scared of every person I passed (this happened on the beginning of my bridge run out and back)- I started strategizing and checking to make sure I was outrunning walkers and that nobody was close enough to touch me and tried to think of what I'd do if someone tried to throw me over the side to the water or pavement 600 feet below. At one point, I almost started crying. \n\nI was determined (crazy or not) not to let this guy mess up my run. So I finished my run before walking back to the cops on the bridge to report it. They took down all the information and said that they'd never heard of anything like this happening and that the bridge is usually safe. I'm still a bit shaken up.", "summary": "a random guy tried to smack/hit/grab my butt or something while I was running on a 600 ft hight bridge, so I now want to be able to outrun the average man and to be able to defend myself against the average man. Muay Thai here I come. That man just created the next Ronda Rousey."}
{"id": "t3_1ggupu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My SO (26/f) and I (26/m) aren't communicating", "post": "My SO and I have been \"best friends\" for almost 10 years. We tried dating in the past, but we realized that we wanted to have fun and would probably ends up marrying each other later in life. Fast forward to now where we have been dating for about 7 months. \nShe is dealing with a stressful custody situation with her son's father (they never married, although he proposed multiple times), and she is terrified that he will try to get full custody. I have been doing everything that I can to reassure her that she will not lose her boy. \nI can see that she is troubled. She is sad and hurting, but she won't open up to me about it. Her son has been visiting with his father for the past two months, ant will be there for another week. Before he left, life was great. We both were happier than ever, and we had a connection that was really stronger than I have ever felt with anyone in the past. \nNow when I try asking her what's going on or what's on her mind, I am met with anger and rage. Its like she has put up walls to protect herself, yet has locked her biggest ally on the outside. I've brought up the fact that out communication has declined, and she acknowledges the fact. She says that she isn't the type person that likes to share emotions, although I know that's not the case. We have been close for years, and we gave both poured our hearts out to each other multiple times. \nThe current situation has been going on for almost a month now. That's a month with no emotional connection with my girlfriend. This has really driven a wedge between us. I now feel as if I don't even know her anymore. \nI am looking for any tips or ways to show her that I care, that I'm here for her. But also, I need to feel needed. As it stands, I do not know my role in our relationship. \nWhen she does allow us to have a conversation it usually turns to an argument. I try to be as passive as I can, but it isn't getting me anywhere. So Reddit, help. What advice do you have? What ways have you remedied a similar situation?", "summary": "SO and I have been best friends for years and have always been pretty close to each other emotionally. Now its feels like she has put up walls, and I am looking for ways to work around them so that we can be close again."}
{"id": "t3_3cm08z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20F) tell my boyfriend (21M) that I need space to masturbate?", "post": "This is as weird as it sounds.  We've been together nearly two years and are sharing an apartment with two other girls for the year.  We moved in last week.  We aren't close with these girls so boyfriend spends most of his time in our shared bedroom, while they watch tv in the living room or something.  We also sleep in the same bed.\n\nI have a high sex drive and masturbate several times a week.  I can only do so while lying in bed.  I felt the need yesterday and went to the bedroom, where he was on the computer.  I asked if I could have space and time for a nap, and he first said he'd cuddle with me.  But I said it was too warm to cuddle (lame excuse, I know) and he asked if he could just sit at the desk while I napped.  I said no, I wanted to be alone.  He left, but seemed a little hurt.\n\nI don't know how often I can use this excuse.  What's the right thing to do here?", "summary": "need a way to nab alone time for masturbation without telling boyfriend directly."}
{"id": "t3_2aonf7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "401k rollover advice before attending grad school", "post": "I'm leaving my current position at the end of this month to go to grad school this coming fall. I have a fully vested 401k with my company that is managed through Transamerica and I'm wondering what to do with it.\n\nI already have a Roth IRA with Vanguard (and I've read some of the other posts about the ease of doing a direct rollover with them) where the money could certainly go but I just wanted to see if there were other options.\n\nIs it advisable to try to diversify my accounts and invest the money in an account other than a Roth IRA? Or is simply rolling the 401k into the IRA the best idea? If there's any sort of high risk/high yield fund which may help me offset some of my future debt, that is a risk I may be willing to take.\n\nAlternatively I know that simply taking the cash and paying the tax is usually not advised but as I'll have no more income for the rest of the year I'm wondering if it may be an option.\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Have a fully vested 401k, going to grad school this fall and I'm wondering what to do with this 401k"}
{"id": "t3_mgqtx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would a guy just randomly fuck me?", "post": "Hey Reddit.\n\nI'm a 17 year old girl, and I consider myself to be attractive; I'm in great shape and have a great body.\n\nMy friend has a younger brother who is 16, who I think is incredibly hot, but is fucking annoying.\nI want to fuck him.\n\nFrom everything I've seen on Reddit, it seems to me that if I were to just walk to him and ask him to fuck me, being a guy, he would..\n\nMy question is: As a guy, how would you respond to a hot girl who you don't know very well, asking to fuck, with no strings attached, and should I approach him so bluntly? I'm not looking for anything else.", "summary": "Should I bluntly ask a guy to fuck?"}
{"id": "t3_uwowb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/M] I've never had a girlfriend.  I met a girl recently (24/F) who is interested, but I'm not.", "post": "So, first, a bit of background.  Like I said in the title, I've never had a girlfriend.  In recent years I've lost weight, started to dress better, and I have developed a more confident disposition.  I've been on dates, but nothing ever seems to work out.\n\nI met this girl through a mutual friend at a party.  We were both fairly drunk and we hit it off pretty well and talked at the party for a couple of hours (I'm a talkative drunk).  We exchanged numbers at the end of the night and we've been on a couple of dates since.  She's a nice girl and I can tell that she's interested.  However, I feel like I'm forcing myself to feel the same way.  We share almost no common interests, and I don't find her as interesting as I did in my drunken state.  She also lives an hour away (more if there's traffic).\n\nI hope this doesn't come off sounding frivolous (it HAS only been 2 dates, and nothing has happened); I'm just really not sure how I should proceed as I have pretty much no experience in this area.  A couple of friends have advised that I try to develop common interests with her, but I'm not sure if that's the right way to go since I'm not sure if we connect on an even baser level.\n\nShould I see her again and hope that something sparks?  If not, how do I tell her?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Met a girl who's interested in me, but I don't feel the same way.  What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1m17yy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She[24F] said that she wants to take things slowly with me [22M]. Been a couple of weeks.", "post": "She's had some relationships end badly, and is a little bit fragile because of it so asked if we can take things slowly. \n\nWe've been on a first date which went well, I didn't think it was the right moment to kiss her or anything, and I didn't want to go too fast for her. How should I go about doing this slowly? I don't want to be so slow that I seem boring, and I don't want to be too fast incase it irks or upsets. I'm unsure what to do. I like her a lot. Thanks in advance for any advice.", "summary": "How should I take things slowly?"}
{"id": "t3_2qsdoj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F/20] don't know how to think about my boyfriend [30] not giving me a Christmas gift or saying anything straightforward about it.", "post": "Christmas just passed and everyone got gifts! Including my boyfriend, from me and he didn't get me one. I was a bit upset about it, but understood that with his job he barely has time and he also is without  car for the time being. The thing is he has gone to the mall and other places before I arrived back home which would had given him time... I believe. The awkward thing is that he had mentioned me about these ray-bans he wanted to get me, but said something about his cousin not getting them to him... but the way he said it was vague (he said this on the 25th). What sparked up this question is that today my mom asked me if my boyfriend had given me a gift and I felt embarrassed answering her question and got a little defensive. \n\nWhat should I say to my boyfriend about this? How do I express that I am a little upset?", "summary": "Boyfriend didn't get me a gift, didn't really say any excuse. I'm upset don't know how to express this. I did get him a gift."}
{"id": "t3_20jaiz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 1 year, how can I compare?", "post": "I have been dating a guy, Ryan, for an year. I am a senior in high school and he is a freshman in college. Ryan is extremely smart and hard-working; he graduated top of his class and attends a prestigious college. He started his own company at the age of 18, he is talented enough in the instrument he plays to go professional, and is all around a great guy. Obviously I am young, but I've never met someone who even remotely compares to him in terms of intelligence and ambition. I admire him for it and seeing him work so hard to make a name for himself makes me want to achieve more as well. \n\nI am not as smart. I am average in terms of grades because I slacked off in high school and as a result my GPA isn't the best (3.8 weighted). I don't understand anything he says about work or school and all I can do is smile and nod and say \"good job!\" I feel like I'm taking something away from him by not being a partner that understands his work and interests. I love hearing him talk about his job and the latest projects he's been working on- I genuinely find it all interesting and hearing the passion in his voice makes me happy. But at the same time I feel like I'm not at the same intellectual level as he is. I feel like I'm taking something away from him because he should have a girlfriend who can understand his passions and everything instead of nodding at everything like a bobblehead and not being able to contribute to the discussion. We are compatible sexually and emotionally but intellectually I cannot compare.\n\nRyan is a great boyfriend to me. We initially connected because we both had abusive families and helped each other through tough times. We are very honest to each other and talk about all of our issues and work them out. We have great sex and I sleep over at his house and I'm on good terms with his parents. We have a lot in common and pretty much a perfect relationship. I just feel like I'm not capable of connecting with him intellectually because he is so much smarter than I am.\n\nWhat can I do about this? Is there anything to do at all?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are on different intellectual levels and I feel like I am wasting his time."}
{"id": "t3_1j8bem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He asked me to move in, then told me he is scared.", "post": "27F with my 35M boyfriend for 1.5 years.  We've been open about moving in together eventually.  Yesterday he brought it up and asked outright.  We talked about finances and other arrangements and things seemed to be agreeable to us both; we were optimistic and excited.\nToday he was not so eager and forthcoming to discuss specifics.  I asked him if I should give my landlord my 60-day notice and he skirted the issue.  \nThen he told me he is scared.  He said I did nothing wrong, that I treat him well and he's very happy and he wants to move in with me...but he's scared.  \nI offered to postpone things, hold off on making plans, and he said no, but then he won't answer specific questions regarding time-frame etc.\nI should mention that he has a crazy ex baby mamma who will probably have a meltdown when we do move in together, and his breakup with her left him in debt which he didn't accrue.  Now he's financially well-off again, but he admits that 'losing everything again' is a factor in the fear he's experiencing.  \n\nMEANWHILE, I don't know what to think now.  I almost feel bad for saying yes to moving in!  Obviously the situation has given him misgivings, and maybe he's regretting asking me.  I'm pretty hurt that he's having this fear- we spend every free moment together and sleep together every night, but it looks like he was more comfortable having the 'exit-strategy' of me having my own place.  \nWhat do I do?  What do I say?", "summary": "he asked me to move in, but now he's scared.  I don't know where I stand."}
{"id": "t3_rk6oo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know how to express anger anymore.", "post": "Me 28f; Him 31m; Relationship casually for a year, more seriously for 6 months\n\nI dated a guy in college for five years who was physically abusive and we broke up three years ago. The reason the casual part of this current relationship lasted so long is because I was not ready. Finally I've let myself go and am falling pretty hard but don't know how to express anger healthfully anymore (I'm pathetically googling \"how to be mad\" and \"how to communicate\")! I believe that my abusive relationship kind've turned everything upside down but it's time to move on - this guy is great (I know that much even though I am mad right now). \n\nI have told him he hurt my feelings, that I don't feel like he's supportive of my artistic ventures but I don't think he is listening. Also he is a non-apologizer (something I will probably bring up when things aren't so heated). I have asked for some space and time - but it's been two days. I feel like I am making a big deal out of nothing. He also has a bff visiting for the week and I want to respect their time together. I don't want to be manipulative and give him a guilt trip but I also want to avoid saying things I don't mean.\n\nSo how do I say I'm mad without making him totally defensive? And then how do I deal if he comes back with \"suck it up, you're too sensitive\"? I don't want hear that anymore.", "summary": "Feel like I totally forgot how to argue with boyfriends after an abusive relationship. Trying to confront my new boyfriend without coming off too aggressive but also want to stand my ground."}
{"id": "t3_xlysn", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I just wrote a 200 page science fiction/fantasy novel and will continue to write two, if not three more, but I need the help of this subreddit if it would not mind.", "post": "I just sent the completed, unedited novel to the U.S. Copyright Office via pdf file and paid the registration fee. I'm a little paranoid(whether justified or not) that someone may steal the pdf and blast it on the internet in it's pdf form or that someone may take the pdf version of my novel and claim it as their own. So I'm looking for some good word of mouth editors and publishers. I've been looking up some online and reading testimonials, but I know that some testimonials are paid for by the website themselves and besides, I'm looking for a editor and publisher(combined or separate) that has a good track record or one that treats authors better than others.", "summary": "Looking for good editor/publisher that gives the personal touch, not the corporate touch. Please try to refrain from puns."}
{"id": "t3_4uudh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30m] with my SO's [30f] best friend [28m]. He turned to us for advice last night. And we are not 100% sure what to tell him.", "post": "My girlfriends best guy friend, let's call him N stopped by at our place last night. He just started dating and went exclusive with a girl he had a crush on for almost a year now. So he is really happy... except: \nLast NYE he was with her and his best friend and some more friends on a party somewhere in a pretty boring city. And finally they kissed and made out. Needless to say he was pretty happy. \n\nPlot twist:\nHis best friend B. made a move on that girl C that very same night and went home with her for a ONS. Friendship over. N did cut all ties with him and her. \n\n2 weeks later he met C's sister and they talked, had a few drinks and had a ONS themselves. \nFast forward 3 months N and C somehow met again and made up, started dating and this is where we are now. \nThey talked a lot and she apologized even more and kept asking him to forgive her for that night and trust her again. So he did and they came to terms again. \n\nExcept he never told her he slept with her sister. \nHe asked us whether he should. We told him yes, absolutely but \nthe tricky part for us was we couldn't tell him how. \nIt would be a lie and very hypocritical to not tell her.  \nAlso I added the sooner the better gf disagreed. \n\nN and C are going on a vacation next week and he is pretty worried how this will come out. \n\nSo guys, what do you think. How and when should N tell her?", "summary": "guy's best friend slept with a girl he had a crush on, 2 weeks later he slept with her sister. How should he tell her after they are now exclusively dating?"}
{"id": "t3_1sloge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "New boyfriend [21m] doesn't initiate sex with me [22f] presumably because of his body issues. Help?", "post": "I've been seeing this guy for a few months, and things are mostly going great, except that he never initiates anything beyond kissing, ever. I have to ask him to touch me if I want any foreplay, and he's never even so much as gotten on top of me while making out unless I ask. Whenever we're making out or I'm going down on  him, I ask if he wants to have sex, and he says \"Sure.\" I've tried asking him what his preference is, but he always says he doesn't care. In the four months we've been together, I've never had to tell him I'm on my period because I just don't initiate and then nothing ever happens. In the past, he's had some problems becoming/staying hard, which I totally understand and never point out. He also used to be very overweight a few years ago, but has slimmed down considerably. He still has a soft midsection, but I've told him multiple time that I love his body (which I do). Whenever we do have sex, I have to ask him to get on top. I think he's insecure about his stomach hanging down. He also mentioned early on that he was afraid to be lousy in bed because he's very inexperienced. Sometimes he turns sex down because he's too drunk or tired.\n\nI don't know what to do. How can I make him feel more comfortable? What's his deal? It seems to me that he just has this wall up against intimacy. It's starting to really wear on me.", "summary": "Boyfriend never initiates sex possibly because of body issues or other insecurities. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1bvige", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm an 18 year old female and I've just discovered that I'm pregnant with someone that I have met over the internet, (24m) please offer me some guidance.", "post": "I recently moved to a new high school this year for my final year. I've applied to a university and got accepted and I am about to start my life. Moving here was a struggle and I could not find any friends considering my introverted personality. I'm making a throwaway account because I have met this man I've slept with through reddit. (r4r post) Originally I was looking only for a friend and found him. He is a very nice guy and I was very attracted to him so I tried to entice him. Well obviously, it worked and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm intending on scheduling an abortion and I know the decent thing to do is confirm this option with him before hand. The thing is I don't know what he'd say, I'm afraid he'd blame me or something. The truth is I don't know this guy that well, I've slept with him 4 times and the only knowledge I have of him is the little jokes and stories we share after sex, he's basically somewhat of a stranger. Also, I feel awful because he's told me that he had gotten someone pregnant in the past when he was 19 and she miscarried and I'm afraid some of the baggage from that experience that he still has will affect how he would feel when I tell him that I'm pregnant. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place or what I just typed sounded like word salad, I'm scared, I'm a 1000 some miles away from friends I used to have and I need comfort and advice.\nThank you very much", "summary": "Pregnant with a stranger's child and I do not know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3hzpi4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By \"safely removing\" my 64gb USB stick.", "post": "So this happened last night, but I was way too tired to post it in TIFU. Little back story got a new WiFi card for my PC, my PC does not have a CD drive so was using my old laptop to download the software, transfer it to a USB stick and take the files off that for the drivers to my PC.... On to the fuck up.\n\nAfter everything is happily finished downloading, I'm thinking I should really start treating my hardware with more respect, so I right click the little USB icon and click \"Safely eject USB flash drive\" everything seems fine, get the little notification everything is good. Turn on my PC, plug in the USB and than get USB error 43, \"device not recognized due to malfunction of device\" aka to all you untechsavy people its fried. Thanks a lot Microsoft!", "summary": "Tried to safely remove my USB stick for the first time in my life and that fucked up my 64 gb USB drive."}
{"id": "t3_qc7zf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! I want to know if a website like this exists...", "post": "I tried googling it, but It's one of those things where I don't know *what* to google... \n\nAlright! \n\nYou know how chain \"mart\" stores (K-mart, Walmart) will sell the display models of items for super cheap once that item is discontinued?\n\nIs there a website where you can see what Tvs/Stereos/Riding mowers are soon to be discontinued, so that you can rush to walmart and buy the 46\" LCD display TV for half off ?\n\nI literally saw a 50\" LED at Costco for $399 ***Just*** because it was the display model. If I'd known they had that deal, I would've brought the cash with me.", "summary": "I want a website where I can see what items are on their way out, so I can cheap my ass on over to walmart for a used TV."}
{"id": "t3_2nno6h", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Looking for some advice on sex with my girlfriend.", "post": "Hey TwoX, I kind of would like your opinion or advice. Throw away because well, Incredibly personal.\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months, And we've only had sex once. When we started dating, Were totally open with eachother and she told me she'd only had sex one time, And So I was completely fine with waiting. On halloween though, She was excited to give it a try, Bought lingerie, We rented a hotel room while we were out of town partying, And long story short, We tried to have sex.\nHere's the problem, While we did sort of have sex, And I tried to do as much foreplay to make her comfortable and enjoy herself as possible, She didn't seem into it. When it actually happened it was more of a, her wincing alot and me asking alot if she was ok, And when she'd wince i'd try to pull out, And she'd try to pull me in, But afterwards she confided that all it did was hurt. She even said it hurt for two days after the fact.\nNow i'm completely ok with waiting as long as she wants or needs to. I'm not dating her because I want to have sex with her, I'm dating her because she's an amazing beautiful individual, Both mentally and Physically, And ever since we got together everything just kind of makes a bit more sense. She's fantastic, Honestly the girl of my dreams.\nBut I also worry, Because we had a talk and she said she is kind of scared or nervous to try again, And while I would wait, well, forever. I do worry that not having a healthy sexual relationship might sooner or later cause some problems, So here I am for advice, with a few questions.\nWhat's your opinion on the situation?, And if any of you have experienced the same sort of situation or feelings of physical pain, What did you do to get past them? Should I be worried about this situation at all?", "summary": "I love my girlfriend but sex hurts her and she's scared to try again. How can I make sex something we can both enjoy?"}
{"id": "t3_3q95xp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a farting voice note", "post": "This just happened (CET). Have been flirting with this girl for many weeks now, have been unable to convert. I am close though, and we have a date lined up for this week. I woke up this morning, grabbed my phone and sent her a little \"have a good start to your week! :) :) :)\" message on whatsapp.\n\nstill on our conversation, i took the phone by its lower right corner between my thumb and index finger and reached back to place it above me on my shelf above my bed. As I reached back, I felt a big fart coming - the \"this is gonna really feel great to get out\" kind. I let rip. Long and hard. It was loud, and thundering. The bed shook a bit. A subconscious \"ahhhhh yess\" joined the symphony.\n\nJust as I put the phone down, I felt it buzz. Confused, I looked at the screen. Why had it sent a voice note to this beautiful girl I so looked forward to seeing on Thursday? Weird.\n\nUnbeknownst to me, I had activated a voice note with my thumb. I hit play, only to discover a perfect recording of my loud asshole trumpeting to the high heavens.\n\nShe has listened to the voice note. She has not responded.", "summary": "Accidentally recorded a voice note on whatsapp of me farting and sent it to my crush. Super-dooper pooper."}
{"id": "t3_46s89x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm in love with another girl", "post": "To start, I am sorry for my grammar, english is not my mother tongue.\n\nI (19m) have been dating my girlfriend(19f) for about a year and a half. Things were okay, we went through a lot of fights, and arguments. Whenever she was upset, she took it out on me. She changed, she was a loving and sweet girl, but quickly became the worst part of my life. I stuck with her because I saw something in her.\n\nWell, after 1.5 years, she's back. The sweetest most loving and caring girl ever. Not a single negative thing to say about anything. She's extremely kind, and caring. We're absolutely perfect for eachother.\n\nEXCEPT. I don't know if I love her anymore.. Lately I've been developing a resentment towards her. It's about 50% of the time.\n\nI am on antidepressants, and half of the time they help me be happy, and I love her more than anything. I could not live without her. But the other half, I am so sad, and want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis is where the other girl(18f) comes in. She is a friend of my sister's, and she has told my sister that she liked me long ago. I recently became very intrigued by her, and I really like her. But I'm scared to do anything because I am too worried about failing and losing my current girlfriend as well as scaring this girl away.\n\nSo with me I take this crush(?) to the death. Thank you for listening reddit, I just needed to get it out there.", "summary": "Don't know which way to go, Girlfriend, or find someone else."}
{"id": "t3_22lud2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am devastated that my ex [26 M] is engaged.", "post": "I've been in love with him since we first became friends at 15. We dated 2 years from 16 - 18. Breaking up then hurt like a bitch, but I also figured I was really young. \n\nWe've always remained really good friends. Moving in the same circle plus our families are friends. However, I've never stopped loving him. In 9 damn years. My heart pounded when I saw him and was just so happy to be in his company, while always wishing something would happen between us one more time.\n\nBut, today I heard he's engaged.. This is beyond painful. I felt like vomiting. The thought that I have lost him forever now, there is no other chance for us. \n\nReading over this I feel like I'm coming across as a bit of a twit, I'm sorry. I'm not great out writing down how I'm feeling.\n\nI don't know what to do. I don't know how to act. I don't know what to say. My heart actually feels like its been crushed.", "summary": "the love of my life is marrying someone else. Want to shrivel up and die."}
{"id": "t3_2e722b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update #2]My[27/F] boyfriend[24/M] won't sleep next to me.", "post": "[Original Post](", "summary": "Therapy seems to be working, no sex."}
{"id": "t3_30eyui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] best friend [22M] is addicted to Adderall and video games", "post": "Hey guys, so without giving out too many personal details, here is the current situation for my friend: \n\nHe dropped out of college two years ago, and has made no effort to go back or do anything else. In the meantime, he's become completely addicted to video games and the drug Adderall. He frequently plays over 120+ hours a week of various online games. This, combined with adderrall, has destroyed his sleep schedule. He regularly sleeps at 6-7 AM and sleeps until 5-6 PM.\n\nAs his best friend, I'm extremely worried about the path he's taking. He's become completely delusional and detached from reality. For example today, we set up a time to meet up and go hiking around 11 am. I took a sick day from work, and ditched my morning class to free up my day. I drove 30 minutes to his place to pick him up and texted him with no answer, called him like 10 times with no answer, and eventually went back home extremely frustrated (I can't physically get in because he lives in a gated community). An hour after I got home, he texts me saying that he hasn't slept yet and that he was in a ranked game and couldn't answer the phone. This is unfortunately a common occurrence, and he's alienated all of our mutual friends this way.\n\nIf this was anyone else, I would've cut off contact with them a LONG time ago, but we've been through alot together and I want to help him, but I have no idea how or what to do.", "summary": "Friend addicted to Drugs/Video games, and is throwing his life away."}
{"id": "t3_1ui81j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [F/24] caught me [M/24] doing drugs on new years at my house party. She is livid. What do I do?", "post": "Been dating for 4 years. I was doing cocaine with some friends in my bedroom on NYE and hid it from my girlfriend by locking my room door and telling her that my friends were just rolling joints in the bedroom. I did it a couple times but basically stayed out of the room all night. The issue really comes down to me lying to her about what was going on that night - the coke isn't as big of an issue. She hates the idea of me doing it, and I have probably only done it 3 times in my life. It's really about the lying.\n\nHer reasons for being upset are as follows (PS I think she's totally right and I'm a complete asshole for doing this).\n\n1. I lied to her\n2. I lied to her in front of people who knew I was lying to her\n3. She wasn't able to even access my bedroom and didn't feel at home in my house (which she should because she is here all the time. I get it)\n4. Because I did coke\n\nThe worst part is she caught me in another lie when we were talking about what happened, which obviously made things way worse.  Now I am a liar and she says she needs a break. I have literally never lied to her before in my life. This is the first time we've gotten into a fight over a lie. I don't care about the drugs (I don't have to ever do it again), I just want to patch things up. It obviously wasn't worth it. She is more upset with me than I have ever seen her be. I'm terrified.\nI've already apologized (the night of, and several times in person after) and I've admitted I was wrong about everything. But I don't think it's enough. I understand she is upset, I realize the magnitude of the situation but I don't think it's worth breaking up over this.", "summary": "My girlfriend of 4 years caught me doing coke and wants to breakup because of the lying.  I don't want to break up. "}
{"id": "t3_2jv8ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] caught my dad [~60/M] browsing backpage. How do I confront him?", "post": "I'm going to let you know straight up (for those who like reading drama) that he is divorced and isn't in a relationship. \n\nSome background:\nSome time ago I was on his computer. In the browser, I started typing \"beach\" and up came a long list of auto fill URLs that have our city in it (ends in beach). I didn't have any proof it was him as it could have also been my brother who also uses that computer randomly (though he doesn't live with us).\n\nActual story:\nLast night, I came home with my dad and boyfriend from a dinner at a restaurant. My dad had had a Margarita and a beer ( I promise this is relevant). So, when we got home, I went to take my boyfriend back home and we were gone for only 15 minutes or so.  \nI get back home and can't find my dad anywhere. I called him a few times because my grandma is in the hospital so I wasn't sure if something went wrong and he went to see her. I also called the hospital and they told me she was fine. \nI thought that was pretty weird that he seemingly waiting until I left so that he could leave. \nI noticed his computer screen was on so he must've used it before he left. I thought, \"Maybe he saw something that made him leave?\" So, I checked his history. I find several backpage links that were viewed *that day* and a lot about supposed massages. Others were more obvious about what they were. \nHe finally called me back after an hour or so to tell me he \"went out for a beer.\" That doesn't make sense to me since he already had 2 drinks before leaving AND he had to wake up early for work the next day. I told him I didn't believe him but left it at that. \n\nHow do I confront him? Should I? He will likely try to change the issue onto me snooping on him to avoid talking about it and he'd likely flat out lie (assuming he did do what I think he did).\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "caught my dad browsing backpage and he ended up leaving the same day at a random time after looking at the site."}
{"id": "t3_403i1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] talked to this guy [25 M] on tinder for a while but ended up dropping him because I didn't want him to be a rebound for my previous relationship. How do I talk to him again?", "post": "So I never actually met this dude but we had a ~*~*Connection*~*~ basically we read the same books, watched the same tv shows, had a similar sense of humor, had similar goals in life, etc. He asked me out twice and I ended up cancelling both times, the second time I cancelled I came clean and told him it was because I wasn't completely over or done with my ex and I didn't think meeting in person would be beneficial to him or me at this point in my life. So we never met. He was very understanding, wished me well, we talked a bit more and then said goodbye. \n\nIt's been about a month and a half since that happened. I now feel confident that he wouldn't be a rebound on the off chance we met, actually liked each other in person, and actually started something (a lot of 'ifs' here but who knows).", "summary": "How do I talk to him again? Should I even assume he still has my number saved? HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_31d7f2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F19] handle commitment issues in a potential relationship with [M18]", "post": "Hey everyone! I need your advice. I live in America and have a friend from Sweden. We've been talking for 4 months or so, and a month ago I realized he's a great guy and I want a relationship with him. I'm moving up to Sweden in the summer so we've been discussing a more exclusive relationship rather than the very open and undefined one we have now \n\nEven though we both want a relationship I'm afraid to go into one because then I feel like I'll be loving him out of obligation rather than actual love. It sounds silly I know. But it's happened with every relationship (3) I've had. Everything is great, I love my friend, and then the minute we get serious, I feel uncomfortable and more like I *have* to love him than I *want* to love him. \nI really don't want it to be the same this time around, so what can we do? For the moment we're just taking it slow and enjoying each other's company as much as we can.", "summary": "I have a Swedish friend I'm in love with, but I might be terrified of commitments."}
{"id": "t3_3mhf8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] have been with my gf [22F] for 3 years, can't cope with long distance any longer, but don't see it ending.", "post": "Bit of background, I am divorced and have a child from that marriage & this is her first serious relationship. She had to move away for her job (nothing available in the local area at the time) 6 months ago and I stayed where I am to live close to my child (They live with their mum and I see them 3/4 times a week). We lived together for a year prior to her moving away.\n\nThe intention was for her to either commute from where I live to her job (1 hour drive) when she passed her driving test or move to a job near me when one became available.\n\nNow she is saying that the commute is too far for her and she doesn't want to change her job ever (despite her complaining about how much she doesn't like it many times a week). She tells me that I am being selfish because I won't move away from my child to live with her where she has moved to. The commute to my job wouldn't be a problem, but living away from my child would be.\n\nI love her with all my heart and want it to work, but I get the feeling that she doesn't feel the same, despite her saying on a regular basis how much she misses me and wants everything to work out. I don't see how a relationship can work if we are never living together and there is unlikely ever going to be a time when we are\n\nWhat should I do with this situation? Am I being selfish not being willing to move away from my child?", "summary": "Long distance not working and no end in sight. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3005b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/m] Not sure how to address girl's [24/f] drug use.", "post": "*", "summary": "Dating a girl that does drugs more frequently than she led on to. She wants to make our relationship more serious, but this could be a deal breaker. Just not sure how to bring it up because this can be a sensitive topic."}
{"id": "t3_tle2k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my brother is blatantly ignoring all internet safety precautions. How to fix this issue?", "post": "Obvious throwaway for starters.... I use a common tag through many sites.\n\nHere's my issue. My brother (almost 15) has now become extremely independent. He isn't doing very well in school, impossible to catch, and is really stressing out my parents.\n\nI have suspected for a decently long period of time that facebook/IMs are the root cause of the problem. I told my parents and they told him to close them while he's working, but there's no way of further checking since he'll hide his screen every time someone comes by (big red flag).\n\nToday, I broke a ground rule and checked what he was doing while he had gone to the bathroom since he just blacks his screen out (obviously without his permission).\n\nWhat I found was rather disturbing. He had a chat open with someone who I'm 99% sure he didn't know (ASL, picture request etc.... Not even on omegle, on Yahoo messenger). He pretends to be reasonably technology+internet savvy but my confidence in him in these matters is close to 0.\n\n**So Reddit, my question to you is how to bring this issue up with him/parents?**\n\nI can't tell them how I found out about his transgressions, because I'll get into massive amounts of trouble for breaking trust. If I just use anecdotal hints/examples he'll just deny everything. Also, I'm not sure if he'd learn anything from being lectured or if he'd just find a way to go around a possible chat block.\n\nMy thought was to drag him outside and give him my current external screen so that everything that he does will be viewable to people behind him. This only will not work.\n\nI need suggestions on how to 1) Stop his behaviour and 2) How to get internet safety into his head?", "summary": "Brother breaking all the basic rules of the internet. I can't bring it up to parents without admitted I've broken his trust, although he could be putting himself in some deep shit. Advice/Common Experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_1ho9w9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel conflicted", "post": "I think i just want to write this all out, but if you want to reply you can. \n\nA girl i work with told me her cousin wants me to know he's interested in me, she said he came in a few times to see her and i guess saw me? And she said how he thinks i'm cute and we apparently have a few things in common (found my facebook through her i guess?). He sent a friend request but at the time i had no idea who it was, so i've not responded or anything yet(it's only been a couple of days).\n\nMy other friend at work keeps telling me i need to find a guy to take me on dates. I think she's tired of seeing me single or something. \n\nNow, i don't really know anything about this guy and i really prefer to know them pretty well before deciding anything. Last time someone showed interest in me and i didn't take them up on it i ended up regretting it. So naturally i'm wondering if i'm going to end up regretting it if i don't do anything.\n\nPart of me is fine continuing being single, but at times i do miss having someone else around to do stuff with or see movies with. \n\nI feel like i've become a lot pickier with guys the older i get(i'm 26). Because of not being so picky before i've gone through a slew of bad ones and it would be nice for once to meet someone halfway decent. \n\nI guess i really just want someone to tell me to give dude a chance, or i'll end up regretting it again.", "summary": "I don't know if i should start talking to this guy or not."}
{"id": "t3_380yj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Not sure how to tell her.", "post": "Hello, sorry ahead of time, I'm not sure where to post this so if i \n\nneed to move it I will, Thank-You.\n\nWell to start I'm \"John\" [17 M], and this girl is \"Jane\" [16 F].\n\nI've known Jane a little over a year (same school) and I've liked her \n\nsince the beginning, I've not said anything, I assume she has some \n\nclue but not the full extent, I don't know if she likes me. There are \n\n2 things however, 1-She is pregnant (~6 months) , 2-She has a bf \n\n[16, baby's dad]. Jane and bf got together at school just over a \n\nyear ago. I've liked her since before she was pregnant and dating \n\nbf, and the pregnancy changes nothing (I know..). Jane and the bf \n\nare not doing good, the bf does not even care. I want to tell Jane \n\nI like (love) her and I want a relationship, but I'm not good at this \n\nstuff. How should I tell Jane I have feelings for her without ... \n\nupsetting her. Thank-You.", "summary": "How should I [17 M] tell a 6 month pregnant girl [16], with a "}
{"id": "t3_jr3ra", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Priority list for someone who's about to lose the internet.", "post": "Dear Reddit,\nIn a couple of weeks I'm being sent of to some hoighty toighty, fancy boarding school for the next couple years. I'm not too keen on the idea, seeing as it involves me leaving a whole bunch of family and friends behind BUT ALSO (and most regrettably) it has no internet connection provided...Meaning I'm losing access to a huge world of procrastination I've been delving in for a long time now (First world problems amiright?).\nANYWAY, what I ask you is what you guys would recommend I download while I still can to pass the time during my stay at this academy. And don't hold back on anything, I have a huge hard drive (tee hee) ready to store a whole bunch of stuff. I'm talking anything! Games, tv shows, movies, programs, ebooks, podcasts, music. Would really appreciate the help with this one, although I realize it's a pretty broad spectrum and this post most probably won't see the light of day before it's down voted into into oblivion (a game I already own. So no need to advise I get that one :P)", "summary": "Recommend me stuff for two years of little to no internet access. e.g games, movies, tv shows, ebooks, podcasts, music etc."}
{"id": "t3_ra08z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend referred to me as \"my friend\" in front her friend...did I overreact?", "post": "I helped my girlfriend out today picking up discarded books at public libraries for her project. She needed my truck to load up all the books. We fill my truck and drive into the city to drop them off at school. I also had class at 6. We get stuck on traffic, eventually we get there around 6:40. I'm late as fuck, so she calls her friend down from the dorms and she was like \"hey I was wondering if you could bring down a bin so I can load up all the books because my friend has to go to class\" as soon as she said this I was like \"WTF!?\" but didn't say anything and I was like \"get out of the car and lock the door\" and she immediately knew she fucked up and she was like \"what's wrong!?\" but I didn't have time to argue so I just went to class. \n\nDuring class she sends me a text saying \"hey sorry I wasn't thinking. We got invited to go out so I hope you didn't make any plans.\" \n\nAt this point I was like FFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUCK YOU!! After 3 years of brig together she calls me her friend. It came out so natural. Almost as if shes referred to me as her friend so many times whenever she speaks to them about me, I'm just her friend. I don't know if she hides me or something or doesn't want anyone on her class to know she has a boyfriend. She's in college. \n\nAfter class I made plans to grab a beer with a friend and she was waiting for me after class, I walked right past her and I told her me and my friend were getting bears. She stood there all sad. Now I feel kinda bad because I feel like I overreacted. \n\nWhat would you do?", "summary": "girlfriend for 3 years referred to me as her friend on the phone with some dude from her class and I lost my shit. Now I feel like an asshole cause I may overreacted a little"}
{"id": "t3_gblgh", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Southern edge of France?", "post": "I'm a student on study abroad in Barcelona. I was fooling around on travel sites one day and discovered a convenient \"loop\" of southern France, starting on the coast and working inland, and coming back over the pyrenees.\n\nMy planned route is Barcelona-Perpignan-Narbonne-Carcassonne-Toulouse-Back. I haven't found much luck with guidebooks, as the first two cities are somewhat smaller. I'm envisioning 4 days for this trip, arriving mid-day in Perpignan and taking the last train over the pass (leaving toulouse in the afternoon).\n\nI should mention that I speak absolutely no French, however I do speak fluent Spanish and have experience with Catalan, so signs generally don't pose a problem. I'm also on a student's budget.\n\nThis trip seems pretty doable; it's just that I have no idea about the cities themselves.\n\n---\nPost-trip", "summary": "Fun, Cheap, No reservations no regrets travel."}
{"id": "t3_3szw0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18m] brother [13] just got a girlfriend while I've never had one. Now everyone I know is making fun of me for it.", "post": "Basically everyone I know is pestering me about this and it really bugs me that 1: I've never had a girlfriend and 2: my little brother of 5 years got one before me. It's getting under my skin a lot even though I don't really show it (which I think has made people sort of stop with the bugging part as they're trying to get a reaction from me but I just shrug it off like I don't care). \n\nIt's not like I'm some social outcast it's just that I never felt the need to ask a girl out when I was younger but now I regret it a ton, especially when I look back and think about how close I was with some girls and realize they were waiting for me to ask the question. Anyway just want some advice on how I should handle these feelings & how to get people to stop bugging me without sounding whiny and butt hurt.", "summary": "brother 5 years my lesser has a gf while I've never had one. This coupled with my regret of never having a girlfriend and people bugging me about this fact got me down and depressed atm."}
{"id": "t3_3rf2d9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom [51F] acts like a toddler and it's driving me [23F] nuts.", "post": "My mother [51] and I [23F] used to have a fantastic relationship. We would go shopping together, we called each other every day if we were apart, and I could tell her anything. Then she got into a car accident which nearly scalped her.\n\nEver since then, she has changed. She focuses solely on herself and acts like a toddler or teenager. She only buys name brand clothes, always wears heavy amounts of makeup, and frequents the local tanning salon. Needless to say, I find it increasingly more difficult to be around her. I am now forced to be a mother figure to my sister [19] because of her ideals.\n\nNow, my fianc\u00e9 [24M] and I are planning our wedding and my mother's attitude is intolerable. She has taken it upon herself to look into the catering, but has become so focused on this, that she no longer cares about the rest of the wedding. She told me, \"I want the food to be perfect because I'm going for the food because I don't dance.\"\n\nI am constantly getting bombarded by my mother about the catering and she is concerned with nothing else. I feel as if she has lost sight of her family and is stressing me out about the wedding.", "summary": "Advice needed on fixing the relationship between me [23F] and my mom [51F] who acts like a toddler."}
{"id": "t3_32u9v2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] mom [50F] is too sensitive. She thinks my girlfriend hates her for no reason.", "post": "I just turned 21, and I'm currently living at home for the next few months while I finish up school. I pay my own bills and have a separated apartment in the house, so I have a lot of privacy. I'm in my fourth and final year, thankfully. My mom has always been a little sensitive. She's kind, caring, and would do anything for you - however she gets offended quite easy, and believes everyone is out to get her (words verbatim from my dad). I've been dating my girlfriend for the last year. She's the one - we're moving in together after I graduate and I have every intention of marrying her. She's the kindest, most down-to-earth person I've ever met. \n\nThe other night my mom wanted me and my girlfriend, C, to have dinner with her and my dad. C had a crazy day at work, so she was telling numerous stories of her crazy encounters over dinner. For some reason my mom felt like C didn't look at her at all, and focused all of her attention on my dad (not true). Because of this, she fears that C doesn't like her. Additionally, she was hurt because I jokingly said \"swallow before you talk!\" when she tried to talk with her mouth full. I figured it was an obvious and harmless joke. I obviously don't want to tell my girlfriend this, as she already fears my mom doesn't like her. How can I handle this situation appropriately?", "summary": "My mom thinks my girlfriend, C, hates her because she believes C didn't look at her when telling stories at dinner. Over-sensitive in general. I don't want to tell C, as it's silly and I don't want to cause her unnecessary stress. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_3dyf4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] Advice for a return to the dating game", "post": "My ex cheated on me for over a year, mind you we had been dating for exactly 5 years when she decided to inform me of this. At first I didn't want it to be over and even tried to ignore it and make things work. (Terrible Idea) In the end though I know if was over so here I am 5 months later and thinking about getting back into the dating game.\n\nLong story short I am clueless really on dating. My ex and I met in college early during our freshmen year, I've never really had to date I guess. One big issue I think I've always had is that my sarcasm and humor make women see me as more of a friend. Which is a good start but then there I am stuck being your friend. \n\nBeing relatively new to this dating game I feel like I need a little help with starting over. I'm pretty optimistic about life and know that being 24 and single is nothing but any advice on re-entering dating life is much appreciated.", "summary": "New to the dating game and looking for advice on starting"}
{"id": "t3_1i3789", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Think my [30/m] gf [25/f] is screwing around", "post": "Been dating this girl 2 years come next week. Ive trusted her implicitly during this time and until recently she's given me no reason to doubt her.\n\nAbout a week ago, I stopped by her house unannounced to say hi. Her bed has no sheets on it, which I thought nothing of, until she realizes and tells me its because she couldnt sleep the previous night and ripped them off in a huff.\n\nI woukd have thought absolutely nothing was amiss, cleaning her sheets, whatever, but she volunteers this story, which doesn't make allot of sense, in far too much detail for such an insignifficant matter. Also her doona cover and pillowcases were gone too, which doesn't really gel with her story.\n\nA few night ago while eating dinner her phone rings and she kills the call. Odd for her as it's only ever her family who calls, and she'll answer or call straight back. My alarm bells are blaring.\n\nShe goes to bed shortly after dinner. Hoping to convince myself im being paranoid, I violate her privacy and look at her call log. What do you know, the missed call has been deleted. Fuck.\n\nSo im pretty sure were through regardless of what happens now. Ive violated her privacy and Im convinced shes violated my trust.\n\nIs there even any point discussing it with her? My experience with cheaters has taught me they'll deny and lie and offset blame even in the face of overwhelming evidence, of which I have none. To top that off im the shit that went looking through her phone, and while I feel somewhat vindicated by what I found, I think thats a line ive crossed which cant be undone.\n\nNevertheless, she's definitely doing something sneaky that she doesn't want me to know about and I doubt I'd believe her even if I confronted her and she claimed it was innocent.\n\nAnyone got some wisdom to share?", "summary": "dodgy stories and suspicious delected call log making me question partners fidelity."}
{"id": "t3_wgfta", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Have you had multiple job offers that you needed to choose from before? I've got a dilemma and need some advice.", "post": "I've currently got two jobs offers, one in the same sort of position that I've worked in for the past year and a half (automotive service advising) and another that is slightly related to my past experience but in a different direction (online parts sales for a dealer group). I interviewed at both jobs about two weeks ago, and last week the parts job called me back to make me a job offer conditional on passing background and drug tests. I hadn't heard anything back from the advising job, so I emailed the manager I'd interviewed with a couple of days ago to see if the position was still open and follow up on everything. This morning I received a call from the parts job telling me everything was good to go, I accepted the job, and I'm supposed to start there on Monday morning. However, I also received an email from the advising job about an hour after that phone call telling me that the original position that they were hiring for has been filled, but there is a position available that's a \"floating\" position (no dedicated team to work on) and is considered a training position, although it is also full time and offers the same salary and benefits as the normal service advising position.\n\nMy dilemma is this: the parts job seems much more laid back, the people seem friendlier, it will be infinitely less stressful than what I've been doing, and it is a 40 hour work week, Monday through Friday. However, the pay at the advising job is roughly twice as much, I've got the experience and skills to do the job, but it is significantly more stressful, it is 60-70 hours a week with some weekends, and the fact it is a \"floater\" position makes me feel like I might be getting set up for failure.\n\nHas anyone had any experience with a situation like this? What did you end up deciding to do, and how did it turn out for you? What would you do in my position? I much prefer being in my situation as opposed to not having any job offers at all, but I am concerned about making the wrong choice.", "summary": "job 1: easier, less stressful, more free time; job 2: more stress, more hours, more money"}
{"id": "t3_xk3mt", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Am I going too far?", "post": "I was in a 6 year relationship that ended last August 31st but the fallout never really stopped. We officially broke up November 1st and I am the one who ended it, because I was trying to make a better future for us by taking the GRE. After having screwed it up once before, I had it scheduled for only a few months away and could not handle it all, so I made the most difficult choice in my life. I choose the future over the present. \n\nI took it right after Christmas, I did amazing, got into the grad school I wanted for both my MA and PhD fully paid for, but at the cost of the woman I love. In January, we started screwing around again, and things seemed to be going well. On April 17th, I realized we could make it work and that's when I asked her if we could get back together. Things began to unravel, there was another guy she was cheating on for the past few months with me, etc etc. It all blew up in my face mid-June with her telling me via a text from a friend's phone that she doesn't love me and to leave her alone. I was and still am devastated, the dreams haven't stopped, I can't eat, I can't even function. I broke her heart, she broke mine. Two wrongs don't make a right. \n\nWhat I want to do now is tell her friends who have no idea what kind of a monster she has turned into. She can lie, she can cheat, she can hurt people now, and I just don't want to see it happen again to someone else. So what do you think Reddit, am I going too far by telling them the truth? What kind of repercussions could I face, besides the obvious losing her forever?", "summary": "Should I tell the truth about my long-term ex cheating with me on another guy? "}
{"id": "t3_t9ku3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asked her out, all is going well, then BOOM, she's seemingly afraid to commit to more-than-friends. Advice?", "post": "I (21M) have known her (21F) for quite some time through mutual friends but we'd never really been introduced until recently. We go to different universities, only about an hour apart, but we spent some time together over winter break after I formally introduced myself and politely asked her out, etc. After our third date or so, I talked to her in person about how she felt about us. She seemed caught off-guard a bit and said she really liked me. I mentioned that maybe we could be more serious than just friends and she side-stepped it tactfully. Fast forward a few days, we go see a hockey game or something and when I'm dropping her off after, she mentions that she's afraid to commit with us going back to school soon for the semester. Her words, IIRC.. \"I always come away from spending time with you feeling very positively. I just don't know if I can commit to much for now. I do enjoy you very much.\" \n\nShe's mentioned that she has never been in a serious relationship and she is very conservative, even more so than I am (and I consider myself to be pretty conservative). Based on how well we get along, I get the feeling that she really likes me but is afraid to take the step into the relationship zone as it is relatively new ground for her.\n\nSince January we've talked a bit through text and facebook, and we met up for a bit during a weekend where we were both home, but I still have feelings for her and I want to know how she honestly feels. We're both mature adults and I don't want to play games. I want to just be honest with her and tell her how I feel and get her input. Would a facebook message or a text be too informal? I don't really want to take her out again just to find out that she isn't interested because I'd be a little embarrassed after putting so much thought and effort into our relationship.", "summary": "We're both conservative young adults, she's not been in a serious relationship. I have feelings for her but she seems afraid to commit. I feel like it's a delicate situation and I'd love a little input."}
{"id": "t3_hzkt9", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Going to the vet today.  Don't want to make this visit...", "post": "I don't know why I'm even writing this, save for maybe it's a bit cathartic.  Our 14 year old lab is just breaking down one piece at a time.  There's no catastrophic illness (that would actually make it easier - on me anyway), just an aggregation of lots of little and maybe some big things.  I'm taking her to the vet today for an evaluation by the doctor.  I don't have a ton of money for extreme measures, nor do I think that's necessarily fair.  I am prepared to leave without her if that's what has to happen.  I'm just sad and have a great big knot in my stomach.  Now that I've made a list of her issues, I'm actually afraid I should have made this trip sooner.  I feel like a terrible dog owner.  Among the symptoms she has, I'm most afraid of congestive heart failure.  Here is what we have observed recently:\nExcessive panting while not exercising (possible symptom of CHF), \nTires rapidly with any outdoor activity (possible symptom of CHF), \nOccasional gagging coughs (possible symptom of CHF), \nRandom single barks at nothing in particular (Doggie dementia?), \nAimless wandering (Doggie dementia?), \nDocumented severe arthritis in her hips (treated with Meloxicam), \nRecent change in eating habits (doesn't always eat when fed.), \nFrequent skin cysts, & \nHearing loss", "summary": "Going to the vet for possible last trip.  Don't want to go, but have to.  Feel like a bad pet owner for not seeing signs sooner."}
{"id": "t3_18mlo9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(F23) get into a serious relationship with a regular pot smoker(M23) when I don't smoke it at all and never will?", "post": "I've met an amazing guy who really treats me right, for once. He is sweet, respectful, considerate, caring, intelligent. He has a well paying job and is successful in life. More successful than me by a long shot. \n\nMy only problem. Is he smokes weed several times a week. This has always been one of my \"no way\" rules in dating someone. No drugs, no kids, no criminal record... Those are my rules that until now I'd been sticking to. But this guy is so perfect in every other way except his smoking. He hasn't done it around me and he knows that I don't touch the stuff. \n\nHe joked that it will be one of the things I will want to try change about him as we get further on in our relationship. I have no intention of telling him to stop... It's obviously a big and enjoyable aspect of his life. \n\nDoes anyone have any experience of being in a similar situation where one person in the relationship smoked and the other didn't? Is it going to be too much of an issue? Should I just GTF over it?", "summary": "Should I pursue a relationship with someone who smokes weed when I'm pretty against weed in general."}
{"id": "t3_4h0cp0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "PSA: Read the damn labels! (TIFU)", "post": "*", "summary": "I wasn't putting into account the brand name when I logged in \"white rice\" on mfp and just found out I've been eating like an extra 350 calories per meal."}
{"id": "t3_1meabi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I/How do I become a life coach?", "post": "Reddit friends, I am in a bit of a quandary. \n\nI feel incredibly drawn to this idea of life coaching, and I'll attempt to give some background as to why. I am young (25) and I've accomplished a great deal already and, most importantly, am incredibly happy in my current social and professional life. \n\nI have a wonderful job that I love and don't ever feel like I'm actually working. I have very acute passions, ones that I've actively pursued and integrated into my daily life. I'm a bit of a rogue entrepreneur, and am in the process of finishing up the creation of both a business and an arts and culture blog, both of which are near and dear to my heart. \n\nTo be brief, I am totally consumed with empathy and assisting others with the discovery of their spark. I'm known amongst my friends as someone with a hugely positive, enthusiastic disposition on life and a borderline psychotic determination to follow my heart and gut. I spend all my free time reading Ken Robinson and Daniel Goleman and others, who are defining the impetus for a fulfilling life. I am also, constantly and consistently, the person who my friends turn to for advice and guidance. I feel an unearthly push towards life coaching but I have no idea where to start, whether it's a good option, or how to build a clientele. Please help.", "summary": "Happy, Successful, positive empathic person obsessed with the theory behind creativity, innovation, happiness, and success needs advice on life coaching."}
{"id": "t3_3296jw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my bosses [F,F,M mid 20's] Once again have not sent me a schedule for the upcoming week.", "post": "I'm really just asking if my solution is the best, if I can tweak something or scrap it all together.\n\nFor background info, I started working there in late January, work super part time, and don't enjoy working there at all.  I'm already looking for a new job but it's been proving difficult.\n\nAnyway, for the past FOUR weeks I've had to chase down a manager for the upcoming week's schedule, and they usually make it the Thursday or Friday before.  The work week starts on Sunday.  I've now held off for four weeks booking various appointments, haven't been able to make plans with friends, and now work the weekends, despite making it clear I could not due to other commitments and the fact that my bus doesn't run (I'm from the next town over) between my town and theirs on the weekends, so I've had to take cabs or rely on a family member or friend to get to work.\n\nWell, I couldn't hold off on making these appointments any further, and it's the day before the new work week and I still haven't gotten the schedule.  My solution is just to politely explain why I can't make it (I have an appointment just about every day of the week) and that I have a life and if they expect me to be able to come to work, I need notice.  And just not show up.  This is getting kind of insane and I've been having lots of anxiety over it for a while.  What should I do?", "summary": "my job never has the schedule out in time, I won't be able to make it now because I had to make appointments, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_l4b8s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Non-Owner's Car Insurance ?", "post": "I am 24 years old, and about to get my driver's license for the first time. I have been taking a driving course, but I need to practice outside of the class and I do not own a car. Luckily, I have plenty of people willing to let me use theirs. What I am looking to get is a non owner's insurance policy so in case I do have any accidents or mishaps, there isn't anything to worry about. I've called a few places and they tell me that I can't have a policy until I have received my license (I'm in WA state by the way). Is there anything else that I can do?", "summary": "In WA, no license and no car, can I get non-owner's insurance?"}
{"id": "t3_3cmjw9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to cover for my racist friend", "post": "So today my friends and I went to go play some ultimate frisbee down at the fields the next town over. After the games were done we decided to go to the local Chipotle to visit our friend who couldn't make it and works there. Everything is good and all as we get our food and sit down. As we're eating and talking my friend loudly blurts out \"yeah we have this CS:GO group and I change my name to Trayvon Martin when we play\". Low and behold, two black guys were sitting right behind us and give us the dirtiest look. Fuck. I immediately turn to him and say \"wtf dude?!\". The entire group looks at him in fear and finish our food in silence. Towards the end of it we see the two guys get up and one of them comes up behind me and says \"what you say about black people?\". Me being the scrawniest asian kid alive and about to shit bricks immediately says \"I'm sorry, it was a terrible joke. I love black people. I love Kanye, I voted for Obama, I grew up in Flushing!\". In my mind I'm like \"holy shit i didn't just say that.\" Thankfully they leave after just writing me off as the biggest idiot but I sit in silence while the rest of the group looks at me with the biggest looks of disappointment. Even my friend just sat there and facepalmed. Gonna take a walk of shame now. Smooth.", "summary": "tried to take the blame for my racist friend and unintentionally blurt racist things to save my ass."}
{"id": "t3_1rh90q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Psychotic episode after smoking weed. Could this indicate underlying problem?", "post": "This happened a few years ago now, not entirely sure what question it is im asking. Could this hint at an underlying problem? So the story goes like this. I had cut back smoking due to anxiety whenever i smoked and was currently in therapy for just a lot of shit (my therapist was big on meditation not medication). It was 4/20 and i had not smoked for two weeks prior due to a most unpleasant experience, my buddy had a joint to share with friends so we go off behind a pizza place to smoke. I take one toke, one big haul and hold it in for about 10 seconds. We proceed to head into school as first period is about to start. The first 20 minutes were alright sat in class, talked with my friend for a bit, then it got bad. As i sat there everything got louder, i got nervous, people sounded like they were talking right next to me i could hear the buzz of every individual light in the room the air coming from the vents, i was getting twitchy. I thought \"meditation\" i laid my head on my desk in an attempt to relax. I didn't work, like mid air during a cannonball everything went silent, i was gone for a moment. Bam! Back to reality i was twitching every 5-10 seconds (at least i think i could not perceive time). Then it started one voice a demonic voice was speaking in my ear words/nonsense i could not understand it. I endured this until the end of class at which point i went outside told my friends i was going home. Went home went to sleep woke up fine (sort of).", "summary": "took a puff off a joint, twitched in class for 30 minutes give or take while a demon talked to me."}
{"id": "t3_hhzgi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some advice - 5 years in a long-distance relationship, now want to move in together, jobs incompatible. What to do?", "post": "This is my first time posting on reddit, so please be kind.\n\nI've been in a 5 year long-distance relationship with a guy I love so so much, and feelings are mutual. We get along great, enjoy the same things, are each others' best friend, and our lives are based around each other.\n\nWe have been discussing for at least a year or two to move in with each other (he lives in a country 500+ km away) and I was planning on moving there and finding a job after my current job finishes (this year). The language barrier of moving to another country is not so much an issue (I have lived in this country before as a child for 10 years). Haven't applied for any jobs yet as we weren't sure of how this would be going.\n\nThe issue at hand is that his job has recently changed and he will be doing night shifts (12 midnight to 9 am) for at least a year, if not more. I work changing shifts which I have now gotten used to doing (work as a doctor so my shifts vary from 9-5, long day weekdays and weekends, to occasional night shifts as well).\n\nOur relationship has come to an end because we can't find a solution to the problem - how can we live together and work in our own jobs and further our career, without ever seeing each other, except for once a week on the weekends? We feel both work and our relationship are equally as important, and can't bear to give up either.\n\nHas anyone been in this position? How have you worked through it? Any further advice anyone can give me? I am at a complete loss. None of our friends have gone through something similar so they can't give any advice.", "summary": "long distance relationship ending after 5 years despite plans to move in together due to jobs clashing, as will be devastating to relationship; advice please!"}
{"id": "t3_dwf2a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditor Coders, I could use your advice", "post": "(Crosspost from /Programming, think I was picked up by the spam filter there.)\nI'm a professional who works with a great deal of paperwork for a company that still does things the old-fashioned way: they literally sit down with clients and fill out said paperwork by hand. We're talking thousands and thousands of form with repeat information.\n\nI have plans of opening up my own consulting firm in this industry. Basically, I want to create a website that clients can access and fill out their information themselves, which is saved to a secured database. The website itself would need to react to choices made by the client and provide appropriate future choices (e.g., client indicates they are in a certain income bracket, which triggers different choices). Upon submitting the information, an appropriate pdf is populated and saved to their online \"file.\" I need Outlook Calendar to be automatically updated upon submission (e.g., \"File Paperwork for Client X\" scheduled for 2 weeks out). I would also like to be able to access this information via a Droid phone.\n\nHeavy apologies for the rambling. I hope some of this made sense. Basically I would like to create a virtual firm that does not require a brick-and-mortar establishment or other employees, thereby eliminating overhead.\n\nThe only programming experience I've had was with Visual Basic, well over a decade ago. Clearly I'm not able to do this. I would like guidance on where and who I should go to for creating this monstrosity. Which technologies should I ask for? What should my budget be? How can I adequately convey what kind of product I want? What kind of planning software would you recommend I use? Any advice you can provide would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I have a project requiring creating custom software/webpage and I don't know who to turn to."}
{"id": "t3_3lgby7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My best friend hooked up with a girl I have been getting over for months", "post": "Last night, my friend met up with me at a bar, we left to meet up with these two girls who we've known for a few months. Friends, but I was actually into one of them for awhile, we talked about it and we decided not to do it, but we kept hooking up. Ive told my friend that its been an issue for me, I think about her alot, we wouldnt work, but I was an admirer. \n\nMy best friend knew this, knew i was having troubles moving past her and all.\n\nBasically, what happened is that as the night went on, one of the girls leaves, leaving the one who i do stuff with. Over the rest of the night i notice they were kind of cuddled up. I didnt think anything of it, \n\nI went to the bathroom, heard some noises and walked out. They started asking me a lot of questions, not talking to eachother really. Very weird, but they both know the score. \n\nI went for a cigarette, she came out and was weirdly chatty, like she was trying to keep me from being suspicious. My heart knew something was up at this point, but I fought it down\n\nFinally, I went to bed, offered her a spot, figured shed come in later. Got out of bed after 10ish minutes. The couch was empty.\n\nIt was happening.\n\nI went to the bathroom, and heard noises from downstairs, the second common space. I walk down, and saw them together. Not yet coitus, but well on the way. Thats burned into my brain now.\n\nI told them to get out and went upstairs so i didnt react violently, my friend left. the girl stayed for awhile, she was a bit drunk, I woke her up later and kicked her out, but it was already late so I waited until there was light. they are gone now. In the course of a night, I lost my best friend of 3 years and a girl friend who I thought would atleast do right by me.", "summary": "Friend get with girl I like, I find them, kick them out. I could have stopped it if i had only said something earlier. I'm alone now."}
{"id": "t3_3lbisg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am not my girlfriends [21 F] first for anything and it bothers me.", "post": "Girl I have been dating for 12+ months now ended up talking about our past (details never real came up until now) and she told me all this stuff she has done with other people. I knew she had been with other people before and didn't care about that at all. However after we talked it kinda started to bother me because she has lost count at this point how many people (25+) and she has already done just about everything sexually with these guys except for like some strange fetish stuff neither of us have interest in. Beyond the sex she has also done the whole vacation thing, living with them and pretty much all the relationship stuff except having a kid or getting married. I am insane for feeling kinda bothered that for her there is not really any \"New Frontier\" or firsts that could happen with me other then marriage.", "summary": "Girlfriend been with lots of guys and has done just about everything with them and it makes me feel uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_1juxtm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17f] don't want to be with him[18m] anymore", "post": "My bf and I have been together for 2 years and I just want to start new with someone else. He has changed and he just isn't the guy I fell in love with. I'm not in love with him anymore and the love I have for him is more of a friendly love.\n\nI work with this one guy who I completely adore. He is one of the most intelligent, funny, outgoing person I have ever met. We have been friends at work ever since I started, a year ago. I feel like we have a connection and I want to pursue but obviously I can't. I'm just really unsure about the whole situation. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but I don't want to keep dragging him along and lying to him about how I feel. I have tried the past 3 months to be happy with him and fall back into what we had but I can't. I don't necessarily want to leave my boyfriend for the other guy because it's going to take some time to really get to know this guy before I date him(I would have to hangout with him and become close and develop strong feelings before dating, and Im not going to do that while dating boyfriend). Suggestions?", "summary": "don't want to be with boyfriend anymore and a new guy is influencing this."}
{"id": "t3_3k98ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [32 M] an American living in Taiwan with my Chinese GF [26 F]. She us awesome except for one thing: She's racist.", "post": "I'm a white American teaching English in Taiwan. My gf is from China but also lives in Taiwan. I love her to death, but she's racist. She'll say negative things about Africans, Indians, etc. I tell her how uncomfortable it makes me and how I don't share her beliefs, but she has these convictions and she's not about to change them. \n\nI understand that she didn't grow up in a PC environment. I'm not about to suggest that my viewpoint is superior or that I'm somehow enlightened and have to bring her up to my level. I'm just wondering if anyone in a cross-cultural relationship has dealt with something similar.", "summary": "I love my Chinese gf, but she's racist as fuck. Has anyone experienced something similar, and how did you resolve it?"}
{"id": "t3_3a652c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dubstepping infants", "post": "I was stuck in Toronto traffic today surrounded by cars and no one was really getting anywhere so I decided to put on some music. I saw that the car next to me clearly had two rear facing car seats with cute little blankets so I kept the music at low volume. Then [This Song] came on which was really quiet in the beginning so I turned the volume way up to be able to hear it.\n\nIt was so relaxing and calming and then WUBWUBWUBWUBWUBWUB I quickly shut off the music and got really weird stares from the cars around me, I looked over at the mother and she was leaning into the back seats trying to console her dubstepped children. She even got out of her car and opened the back door to try and fix the situation, I thought she was getting out to kill me.", "summary": "ruined a moms day"}
{"id": "t3_4j8syf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] just had an argument with my GF [17/F].", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now and since prom season is coming around my GF talked about trying to lose a little bit of weight. When she brought it up I was happy and supporting and even offered to diet and work out with her since its something she wanted to do.  \n  \n However, today when we were talking she brought up how she's literally eaten \"nothing\" all day and when I told her she should eat something she told me she didn't want to eat until the next day. When I asked about it she said it was because of her diet. I ended up having a conversation with her about crash dieting and why it doesn't work, but instead she just got mad at me and told me she didnt care and that she had already done the research and refused to eat anything. We ended up arguing because of her refusing to eat. Near the end of the argument she said she \"ate\" and told me to stop arguing and I told her  that I didn't believe her and she got more fed up. It ended with us both not wanting to talk to each other and she pretty much told me, \"Don't talk to me until you drop this.\"  \n  \n Now I'm sitting here pretty much clueless on what to do because I just want her to be healthy while she loses weight and not crash diet and potentially hurt herself and it doesn't sound like she's listening to reason at all. She has a history of not caring what happens to herself so when she said she \"didn't care\" about the health problems I just got more upset. I understand that I was a little pushy and that maybe my mindset was a bit controlling, but I was just unsure what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend started a crash diet and I got upset when she told me and we had a super heated argument. Unsure on what to do next now that she won't talk to me?"}
{"id": "t3_3qcpkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (22f) pretty sure my parents are going to kick me out.", "post": "Sorry for this mess of a story but this literally just happened and I have no coherent thought process. These are my parents...what happened to unconditional love? \n\nSo I was taking prereqs to become a nurse. The deadline is soon and I was rushing through the hardest classes I've ever taken. Sadly, today I had to drop two of those classes because I'm failing and there's no way to catch up with so little time left, so, no deadline for me. \n\nOf course I had to tell my parents because they are paying for all of it. They're disappointed of course but they told me that maybe nursing isn't the way I should go and I should go for something easier and more \"my level\" like a business degree. They were the ones pushing me to go for nursing and now they're basically telling me I'm not smart enough for it. \n\nMy plan was to finish this semester and take a break to figure it all out instead of wasting their money. They don't see that as a plausible path for me since the \"deal\" of me living with them is that I'm in school. \n\nNow, mind you, I moved 3000 miles to be with them, go to school, and get away from an abusive relationship. I'm pretty sure they will kick me out if I don't go to school even for one semester. And I honestly don't know what to do.\n\nI've been trying so hard for the last 2 years with nothing coming out of this. They just keep getting more and more disappointed and I can't seem to change that.", "summary": "I'm not so sure school is ever going to work out for me and my parents might kick me out for that reason."}
{"id": "t3_28rfhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Friend [18 F] Need some quick advice", "post": "So I've been friends with this girl for about 3 or 4 years now, we started dating when we first met but shortly afterwards we stopped because she wasn't feeling the relationship. We stayed friends afterwards and became quite close.\n\nWe have been best friends since then and we care a lot about each other. I'm going hanging out at her house in about 2 weeks, we were joking about what to do when i got there while texting, and i jokingly asked if i could feel her breasts and butt,to my shock she said she wanted to snuggle up to me and said i could feel her breasts and see them if i wanted to,she said to do it during the movie, im wondering how i should go about the process of feeling her up without it seeming weird, she said she doesn't want to make out and just wants to be close to me, and cuddle while I'm there. Shes a really nice girl and i want to minimize the awkwardness.\n\nCan i get some advice on how to go about the process of feeling her up and reducing the awkwardness.", "summary": "Friend who is a girl said i could feel her breasts and see them, nothing more. Need tips. Appreciate it"}
{"id": "t3_1m0x0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/f] of 8 months broke up with me [18/m] and i'm having a hard time dealing with it", "post": "So my GF of 8 months just broke up with me. Reason being is because I let my anger get to me. Its been around 8 times that this has happen and when I do get angry I go all out, mostly yelling A LOT and make false accusations most of the time. After my last lash out she ended it. Because she doesn't believe that I will ever get over it. I would also tell her that I would get help or talk to people if I ever got angry so I would lash out on her, well I never did until now. After the break up I realized that she would actually do it since I was given a few last chances before.\n\n Well after talking to two of my friends everything seemed 100 times better then it could have. I felt stupid for never doing this before. Either way she doesn't want to get back even though she says she loves me a lot and it hurts her to do this because she doesn't believe that I will actually change. I want to convince her somehow that I will. Even one of the friends I talked to agreed that it seemed like I would change but she just wont believe me. I also don't blame her.\n\n Anyway I just don't know what to do. should I just give up on her or should I try to convince her? Reason being that its so hard to just give up is because I really tried by best at being a good boyfriend. I even decided to not go to UNT but instead ACC to be with her. \n\nAnd for some reason ever since the break up my body rejects any kind of food. I haven't eaten it 3 days and feel completely fine. If i even try I will feel the need to throw up. I just need help on how to just try and get over her. I'm just having a really hard time right now and don't know what to do. whats worse is she want to be best friends now because she doesn't want to lose me completely. which I do too but its really hard.", "summary": "I don't know if I should give up because I know that I can change for her or if I should just become best friends and learn to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_30u0cq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] need help coming to terms with my fianc\u00e9's [26 F] actions in the early stages of our relationship over two years ago.", "post": "First and foremost, I do not, under any circumstances, want to leave/break up with my fianc\u00e9. I love her to death but need advice coping with something that has caused me grief on-and-off over the past couple of years.\n\nShe was in a 5-year relationship before we met, and was going through a breakup with said boyfriend when we met. He was emotionally abusive and controlling and she wanted out. We were friends for a few months and it turned into a friends with benefits/casual dating situation. After a while, I asked her to be my girlfriend and become exclusive. \n\nAfter a few weeks of being exclusive, she admitted to me that she had occasional sex with her ex-boyfriend while they still lived together during the transition from us being friends/dating to exclusive. She told me that once we had the exclusivity talk, and defined what we wanted in a relationship, she never had sex with him ever again. I believe this to be true. He harassed her to the point of her filing a restraining order against him after he found out we were together. She wanted absolutely nothing to do with him after we became exclusive.\n\nNone of this bothered me in the early stages, as I am a very open person sexually. However, as our relationship progressed and I fell in love with her, I began to feel \"two-timed\" and \"cheated\" during those early pre-exclusive months.\n\nI buried these emotions for 2 years but now that we are engaged and I've had some time to think, it's hit me hard this past week and it's something I can't stop thinking about.\n\nOur relationship has been absolutely amazing and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but for some reason can't stop obsessing over those few months over two years ago. I can't change the past, and I want to stay, but I need help accepting what happened and to somehow feel okay with it and where we are now.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 whom I love dearly and don't want to breakup with, had occasional sex with her ex-long term boyfriend in the very early casual pre-exclusive stages of our relationship. I don't want to end things, and I'm not \"mad\" per se, but I feel odd about it and need help coping and moving forward."}
{"id": "t3_3frpam", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do you properly read and enjoy critical, nonfiction literature?", "post": "My first semester of college is coming up soon, and I have to finish reading Hilton Als' White Girls, a critical work that I cannot get into for the life of me. I can't seem to understand what message the author is trying to convey. To me, the first half of the book seems like a slew of essays rambling on about the author's personal life, and I do not understand why anyone would want to read this (no offense). \n\nI'm more used to reading fictional novels, with plotlines and characters and events and everything, but I am not very well-read so this type of book is totally new to me. I am not asking the internet to do my homework for me, but I could use some advice on how to read this type of work, what to tune in on, and what the reader is supposed to get out of the book (compared to novels).", "summary": "Idiot can't read critical book, please help"}
{"id": "t3_2e8d4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 F] am struggling to like my boyfriend [30 M] of 1.5 years mother and find her constant negativity and doomsday talk alienating", "post": "My boyfriend is very close to his family which I think is wonderful, and for the most part his family is also wonderful. However, his mother has recently (within the last few years so before I knew her) gotten obsessed with politics. Any time we are around his mother, the conversation will inevitably lead to some comment about how we are all doomed, the country is doomed, Obama is the devil, etc. no matter what the original topic is. Fox News is on every t.v. in their house and is on 24 hours a day. \n\nI used to have her hidden on my Facebook newsfeed so I would have limited interaction with her gloom and doom sentiments, but I went on a Facebook hiatus recently and now she includes me in family group text messages expressing all her opinions from Facebook. \n\nI really want to like her. She can be very fun and friendly; however, it has become increasingly difficult to spend any time with her without her going on an angry rant about the current political scene and her view of how the US is basically in the shitter. \n\nMy boyfriend knows how I feel about her behavior, and he agrees with me that it is very unpleasant to be around but just told me to ignore it. \n\nIt's gotten so bad that I dread having to interact with his parents because I don't want to be bombarded with a summary of today's talking points from the conservative media outlets. I don't mind political discussions and often appreciate hearing various perspectives; however, his mom is just taking everything that she listens to or sees at face value and believing it to be truth, so there's really no discussion since she's not willing to listen to other opinions or possibilities. \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this since my boyfriend and I live about 2 hours from them and have pretty regular interaction, whether it's through text messages or going to visit them on the weekends or them coming to visit us for a day. \n\nDoes anyone have advice on how to handle being around someone very important to your SO who you just don't enjoy being around?", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother is very negative and every conversation ends up being about how terrible the president is and how the US is doomed to the point where I now dread having to interact with her. How do I try and maintain a positive relationship with her?"}
{"id": "t3_4pdf31", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need some barking help", "post": "So during the day my 5 month old alsatian is a bit hyper but won't bark excessively. He follows my commands and knows when I say bed time, it's time to go to his area in my room that I put the grate over to stop him from getting to my bed and chewing everything. He has a bed, a kennel, bowl of water and his last small meal of the day. But as soon as I sit on my bed, with my lamp on to finish getting ready for bed he starts freaking out, yipping, barking, whining. I've noticed he only does it when I have the light on so 8 have to rush through my last few bits and turn my lamp or do it in the dark. Is there any way I can get him to stop barking during this time? It drives me insane. As soon as I stand up, to tell him to sit and be quiet, he runs to his kennel and hides and he won't stop if I'm telling him from sitting on my bed.\nHas anyone had this problem? What did you do about it?", "summary": "5 month pup barks from his area but only when the light is on before bed."}
{"id": "t3_3ntbv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She (15F) feels a romantic attraction to me [16M], but not a sexual one", "post": "We're not dating, but we both really like each other. We kissed a few days ago (quite a lot, actually), but she told me that she didn't really feel anything. She liked the intimacy, and she liked being close to me and when I touched her (face and hips), but she doesn't really feel anything sexual. She told me that it's nothing to do with me, but that's just how she is (and I believe her).\n\nBut basically, if I'm going to date her (which we both seem to be pretty open to), she won't feel anything when we kiss; it's essentially just exchanging saliva. She doesn't really seem to be open to sexual things either (not that she wouldn't try them, but I don't think it would please her). She wants me to take all of this into account before making a decision regarding us dating.\n\nI like her a lot, and I don't really know what to do. I really want to date her--like, a kiss is just a kiss, right? She said that she likes cuddling and being close to me, but kissing doesn't mean much. And she doesn't mean that in an offensive way (and I don't really take offense to it either). I just don't really know what to do.", "summary": "She likes me a lot, but she doesn't feel anything from kissing. I like her a lot."}
{"id": "t3_37mv3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40F] with my neighbor [60sF] concerned about her taking diet pills to lose weight", "post": "My neighbor is an older woman and she hasn't been in the best of health in the past couple of years. She's gained weight that she wants to lose, but when I brought up talking about her diet she brushed me off. A few days later she told me she got prescription appetite suppressants from the doctor. \n\nThis makes me feel concerned, but should I push her to try to look at her diet and see if there are changes she can make before she tries the diet pills or should I just leave it alone and whatever happens, happens?\n\nAnd if I do say something, what could I say to convince her that diet pills are not the way to go?", "summary": "Older woman wants to diet pills to lose weight, seems like a bad idea, worth saying something to talk her out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1j31z8", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Make me stay late at work? Hope you didn't want that sweater back!", "post": "I work as a server in the dining room of an upscale old folks home. Frequently the old people will take their sweaters off and leave them behind. Usually we will just put them in the office in case they come back for them. Well today was a particularly busy day. The worst thing that can happen on a busy day is getting a table of slow eaters.\n\n    \nSo of course by the time these people leave my shift had ended already. So I clear the rest of the dishes and what do I see laying on the table? This guy's sweater. I roll up the sweater in with the tablecloth and throw it in the linen bag with the rest of the tablecloths. Good luck finding that!", "summary": "Take up my time? I take your sweater."}
{"id": "t3_1dqbuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my girlfriend [22F] have been dating for 4.5 years, scared if she's cheating", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 and a half years, we started hanging out in high school where she had a boyfriend of 3 years, nothing romantic, just hanging out as friends. She then broke up with her boyfriend for their own reasons. I thought nothing of it, since Me and her were just friends. \n\nAbout 2-3 months later I started falling in love with this girl, and I guess she did too, since we had a very good relationship for about 2 years before our first big fight where we almost broke up. We started long distance because of college, we see each other every 2-3 weeks for the weekends. Since last week we stopped talking as often as we do. She said it was because I wasn't paying attention to her, only after I was done with my studies. During the period that we were not talking, I see that she friended her ex, this shocked me as my girlfriend and I always talk about everything, so trust is not an issue. But when she did this, I felt she betrayed that trust. I confronted her about it, and she told me \"everybody is over it\". I accepted him because if I didn't he would think I still felt something for him. Alright, I said and decided to let it go but told her I was losing my trust towards her, she said she would do something to make up for it. Since then, we've talked 1-2 times a day by text. I've called her twice and  and left a voicemail once where I ask to call me back the next day, she doesn't, just text. This was all last week. \n\nFast forward to yesterday, she goes out with friends, and after studying I see Facebook and see my newsfeed where she liked one of her ex's pictures.. Call me crazy, but I did not expect her to do this after she told me she would try to help our trust issues. My emotions are driving me crazy, I'm mad, I'm sad, I don't know what to do, so i need some advice as to what to do.\n\n[", "summary": "] my girlfriend and I are becoming more distant, while I believe my girlfriend is reconnecting with her bf."}
{"id": "t3_nxf0p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "19 [F] Clueless Kupid is learning how to date. I need some tips!", "post": "Well the new year is approaching and my lack of a love life is on my list. My backstory is that the only experience I've had is from two guys I dated previously this year and held a casual mostly physical fling with the last one for 2.5 months until it fizzled out :( [I wasn't particularly satisfied with either but it took too damn long to realize]\n\n* What's my cue to know that I should cut things off after a first date? \n* If I'm not floored do I even bother for a second date?\n* Which expectations should I have?\n\nI don't want to get stuck again in a situation where I keep going on dates with a guy thinking \"Oh he's nice and we don't have any obvious major differences let me stick around a few weeks to see if I like him,\" and then flip flop in indecision over what exactly I feel for him. I know it's chemistry but what exactly is that can someone paint a picture for me of what it looks like :0?", "summary": "I have trouble distinguishing the mediocre dates from really good ones. When should I bail after a first date?"}
{"id": "t3_3cer7u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [17/m] girlfriend [18/f] doesn't seem to care about me when she's basically happy.", "post": "Little background info: We're together for about 2 years. She's my first girlfriend, I'm not her first boyfriend (fucked a 30yo guy in India 2 years ago).\nShe's now on holiday with her father in Prague (we both live in Paris) and I'm staying in Greece with my mother for a few days.\nShe's generally an easy going person, usually very loving (says how much she loves me, how she misses me etc..) .\nI've noticed since a few months that, whenever she isn't as sad as usual (i study medicine and she's in vet school, which we find exhausting for both of us) she stops caring about me, no more \"i love you\" texts, hugs and becomes very distant. \nFrom yesterday when she arrived in Prague, which she founds amazing, it's the same thing. \nI'm really concerned because we're supposed to spend a week together by the end pf the month.", "summary": "Girlfriend becomes very distant when she's happy."}
{"id": "t3_gul6i", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How to deal with non-supportive people?", "post": "Hi loseit, I was curious if anyone else has experienced this and could share some sound advice.\n\nMy closest female friend throughout high school and college (yes, I'm male, but we're *just* great friends!) really motivated me to start going to the gym after my doctor told me I needed to drop some weight, or else I'd have health problems down the line: arthritis, fatty liver, etc.\n\nWell, two weeks ago I finally accomplished my short-term weight loss goal and dropped 20 lbs. -- I'm now working to drop another 20 -- and was super excited to tell her! So I texted her right after weighing myself at the gym, and her response frankly appalled me:\n\n*Only 20 pounds?*\n\nI nearly flipped my wig when I read it. Someone who I loved like a sister and always turned to for moral support suddenly dropped me on my ass like a bad habit. I explain to her how surprised/hurt I was by her comment and she says:\n\n> I won't say anything about the matter. You want to lose weight, go ahead. If you don't, doesn't affect me. But when you wonder why girls don't like you, don't look to far.\n\nWe used to chat daily, but we haven't said a word to each other in 2 weeks. I feel great now that I've lost weight, my confidence has improved, but I still feel kind of betrayed by someone who I thought was my best friend. Should I even bother to find closure or try to make amends, or move on with my life?", "summary": "Best friend supports my weight-loss journey, I drop 20 lbs. and she shits on my accomplishment. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kh1zf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] girlfriend of 2 years has been deathly sick for 6 months now. Our options are extremely limited and it feels I [20 m] will lose her.", "post": "My gf (22 f) of 2 years has been sick for 6 months now with a rare form of scoliosis that causes her constant headaches/ migraines plus causes her legs, arms, back, and neck to feel constant pain and she might lose her ability to walk in the future. She also has something wrong with her ovaries that causes cramps constantly making her stomach in pain.\n\nWe've talked to many specialist and they've tried many medications to try help ease the pain, but they either don't work or cause horrible side effects to her that she can't take anymore. Trust me when I say we tried every medication they had. The last resort would be a surgery that only have a 50 % chance of working, but could also make things worse.\n\nShe doesn't want to live anymore. She says the pain is constantly killing her and she doesn't want to live like that. I tried everything to have hope things would get better, but she's given up. She can't live with the pain. She feels constant depression and pain and hates feeling that way.\n\nShe can't work anymore. It hurts a lot to get through the day. She's always either in pain or trying to hide it. She wants to be euthanized. She says the only reason she tries to live is because of me. \n\nI don't want her to live in pain for the rest of her life. But I don't want to lose her either. She says if she does get the surgery and it doesn't work then that's it. There's no hope.", "summary": "my gf is in constant pain cause of sickness and no medication works. She wants to die, but only lives cause of me. I feel everyday she's in pain is my fault.  What do I do reddit? Do I support her decision and let her life go or do we keep hoping something might change?"}
{"id": "t3_400iex", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My friend (M,28) raped me (F,21) in my sleep. What do I do?", "post": "Make sure to read all of this before replying. This is a repost from /r/rapecounseling\n\nI had gone over to my fuck buddies house to have sex with him but decided we needed to stop having sex. We had a big conversation about it and I made it clear I didn't want to anymore and then went to sleep. I woke up to find him having penetrative sex with me without my consent. After a few minutes I realised that what was going on was wrong and then asked him to stop, which he did. There was no physical violence. I also found out that he didn't use a condom even though we never discussed this was okay. He assumed it was okay because one other time he didn't use it and I said it was ok that time and to just pull out.\n\nI talked to him on Facebook after the event and he did apologise and told me he thought I was awake, which I found hard to believe. I went to the police today (a few weeks later) unsure of what to do and they said they can either go to his house and tell him it's not on but he wouldn't get in trouble. Or I could give a formal statement and he would either get a warning or convicted. If he got convicted he would be a sex offender and wouldn't be able to go overseas, it would also effect his career options.\n\nKeep in mind this WAS one of my best friends and he does seem genuinely sorry. I really don't know what to do. I am to make my statement in two weeks but I am allowed to pull out at any time.\n\nI am also living in New Zealand.", "summary": "Friend raped me in my sleep."}
{"id": "t3_2bhxmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am in a verbally abusive relationship with my girlfriend [17F] and i don't know what to do", "post": "I am a 16 year old male in a relationship with a 17 year old female. We've been dating for 6 months and things are shaky. She's broken up with me twice (high school relationships lol) and she has a blatant disregard for my feelings. She tromps all over me and doesn't respect me and doesn't treat me as an equal. She's controlling and quite frankly stressful. She also is managing to lower my self esteem while she's at it. I'd say this is a borderline verbally abusive relationship from her to me and I don't know how to get out of it. \n\nI'm becoming more and more depressed because of it and my self esteem is at an all time low because she treats me like im trash and she doesn't see it. She is a nice girl at heart I know, but quite frankly she's really hurting me over and over again. \n\nI don't want to hurt her by breaking up with her, but \nI'm miserable and becoming depressed and stressed out because of this relationship. Every time I try to talk to her about these specific things she shuts me down and guilt trips me and makes me feel worse. But for some reason I still really like her even though I'm hurting. How do I handle this situation?! Please help!", "summary": "I'm miserable in my relationship because it's verbally abusive and degrading and I don't know what to do. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_v916y", "subreddit": "running", "title": "my Feet are rejecting every pair of running shoes I attempt to run in.", "post": "Hey guys, I'm going into my 4th year of high school xc and am encountering problems with new shoes. This all started during December/ Jan, when I went to get new shoes for track, I tried 4 pairs from my local running store, putting a weeks worth of miles on each of them but they all still ended up hurting my feet and tightening my legs. So i gave up and ran in Nike Xc flats for the season not encountering problems. fast forward to now my flats are worn out, so I have to buy new shoes again, So i pick up a pair of Nike streak XC flats, after putting on 25 miles om them I'm noticing that my left foot goes numb and my left leg slowly tightens while my right foot starts to hurt on the bottoms of the feet, I should mention that my flats are 11.5 while I wear 11 s they have undesired wiggle room. \n\nI have no idea what to do, I'm at a lost for ideas on how to solve this problem. Any advice AT ALL would much appreciated.I'm going Insane because every time I run i end up in a world of foot pain", "summary": "trainers hurt my feet ran a track season in flats no problem fast forward to xc conditioning said flats are unusable need new shoes don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_g4zms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "PLEASE HELP! I need help securing the best financial aid for college and the cheapest housing in South Loop, Chicago.", "post": "So here's the story. Within the past week, I was admitted to Columbia College Chicago (my dream school) to study music business in their arts, entertainment, and media management program. For those of you unfamiliar with the school, it's one of the largest, most prestigious private liberal arts universities in the nation. It's also the cheapest, at $19,000 a year in tuition; that should give you an idea of how much more expensive its competitors are. \n\nMy plight is this: I had sent in my application for admissions the same day that I completed the FAFSA for the 2011-2012 school year. FAFSA responds by telling me that my family is expected to cover the costs entirely. My parents had me late in life and are planning to retire, so the money that the FAFSA screened as their 'available resources' was effectively their life savings. My folks will not aid me in my endeavors--a position I do not begrudge them for, as everyone in my family has worked to get where they are today. I've not a penny in my name, and the thought of taking on such massive debt at such a young age is frightening. I can't even afford the tuition deposit to tell the college that I've decided to attend--I spent most of my money on application fees and transcript handlings. I've completed my search for scholarships, but I fear that if I even do get awarded the few that I was eligible for, I'll still have a hefty cost for tuition and living expenses that is not covered. What options should I be considering as means of financing college? This is my dream, and I don't want to be held back just because I can't afford. What little money I make now is used for rent and living expenses (I live away from my parents, but I still am legally considered a dependent).\n\nAlso, moving to Chicago, I'm going to be living off-campus (on-campus is more expensive). I'd greatly appreciate any recommendations you Redditors can give me for housing in and around the South Loop area.", "summary": "I got accepted to the college of my dreams in Chicago, but it costs a ton and my parents are not in a position to help pay. What is the best way of securing money, and what are the cheapest apartments around South Loop?"}
{"id": "t3_vjxg4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First RoadBlock in First Relationship m18", "post": "Basic Info We are both 18. First relationship for both of us and been going out for 2 weeks. We have been friends for months and coworkers.\n\nLast date she was acting distant. We talked and she said she still has feeling for a guy(also coworker) she liked for two years. They have done nothing unlike us.( Me and her have done everything but sex)\n\nShe has told him 3 times different times about her feelings. Nothing happend. She also didnt get a yes or no. She said they were about to go out a while back but he didnt want to make an another guy jealous. Again nothing happend. They did go to prom together but he didn't want to hang out with her after prom. \n\nShe tried forgeting about him before but she couldnt. the first time i asked her out( month ago) she said no. Her excuse was she has liked a guy for too long. then couple weeks later i asked her out and she said yes. \n\ni asked why she changed her mind her response \" your the first guy i regretted saying no to, i said fuck it and said yes\"\n\nShe wants to get over him but doesnt know how to. We are still together.", "summary": "Girlfriend liked a guy before me, she told him before about her feeling. nothing happend. she has trouble getting over him."}
{"id": "t3_icgri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have this strange rash, any idea what it is and if it is serious?", "post": "Created a throwaway cause its somewhat embarrassing.\n\nAnyways, I was playing soccer last Friday and I forgot to wear compression shorts and instead wore boxer briefs. We were out there for an extended period of time and I do not know whether it is from the sweat buildup or what but over the next two days (I played Ultimate Frisbee on Saturday and forgot my compression shorts AGAIN), I developed a rash on the inside of my thighs and my groin area, which causes it to itch like hell. Some of the skin seems to be peeling off and whatnot so I do not know if this is serious or not. I've tried looking up what it is possibly is and I am fairly certain it is either a \"sweat rash\" or \"jock itch\". So far I got myself some antifungal powder and have been using it to see if it goes away. Any ideas on if this is serious or not or if I should get it checked out?", "summary": "After physical activity, weird rash is on my thigh and groin. Itches like hell and is slightly painful, have no clue what the fuck it is and need to know whether or not I should get it checked out."}
{"id": "t3_4u6esv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents [M 55; F48] won't stop giving me [F 21] unsolicited advice.", "post": "I just graduated college and moved back in with my parents. I just got a job and am now saving up to get my own apartment, but it will take a few months until I can afford my own place.\n\nMy parents have always given me unsolicited advice or just plain lectures about how I should behave. It's always bothered me, but now I'm just fed up with it. Sometimes it's small stuff like how I should look them in the eye more, or be more cheerful, or start conversations more. Sometimes it's about \"being more aggressive\" with job hunting or life in general.\n\nI've gotten to where I point out that it bothers me that they always criticize me, to which they reply something like \"don't get defensive - you need to learn to take advice and listen.\"\n\nHonestly it feels incredibly overbearing, but they seem to think it is completely normal. So basically they're criticizing me for being unhappy with their criticisms!\n\nNot living with them throughout college really helped (though it wasn't perfect) because whenever we were together, they would actually talk/have fun with me instead of constantly pointing out my faults, and we would only see each other for a few days at a time.\n\nWhat can I do or say to get them to lay off? It seems impossible to get anything across to them.", "summary": "My parents won't stop lecturing and criticizing me, and they don't listen when I say it bothers me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mlrx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/f] LDR bf [22/m] does not show he cares about me at all. The lack of affection is extremely unfulfilling. Should I just give up?", "post": "I have been with my bf (X) for a year and a half. We met while I was abroad, starting dating, and visit each other probably once every 3 months. We skype daily and have no problem keeping contact with one another. Overall, I would say our communication is great.\n\nThe problem is, X has reached the point where he is not affectionate at all, in person or otherwise. For instance, when I was in his country the last time, he was rarely physically affectionate. He never initiated sex or introduced any verbal affection. He would often ignore me to watch videos online of his favorite MMO. He'll say he loves me if I ask, but is overall very disinterested.\n\nNow that we are LDR again, it's even harder to feel loved. He claims that he's \"not good with words,\" but I really feel like he just doesn't even try. I feel love through verbal affection, and X has resigned himself to the belief that he isn't good at all with words and that I should accept that. I feel incredibly frustrated and unfulfilled.\n\nWhen we began dating, he was incredible about showing affection. I never felt unloved and was confident about our relationship, but lately I just feel so frustrated. Is there any way I can fix this?\n\nWhat could I possibly say to my boyfriend to make him show that he cares more?", "summary": "Formerly caring boyfriend no longer shows any affection. Does it mean he just doesn't care anymore? How can I get through to him?"}
{"id": "t3_343wtc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Today I realized I'm good looking, how do I take advantage of that?", "post": "So, I'm a 20 year old guy, my whole life I've been kind of quiet around people and never really approached women properly, the ones I did approached showed me through signals and very politely that they didn't wanted anything to do with me, I completely understood and leaved them alone as wished.\n\nSome years went by and I just grew up being quiet, no flirting since I never learned, and having small talks with the girls I liked, at best; but nothing beyond that. I'm very average Joe in terms of a social skills.\n\nToday at uni a friend of mine asked me why I don't have a girlfriend, since all the girls are always checking me out, smiling, acting like... you know, girly. I thought that was nonsense, \"if that's true I would have noticed by now\". So I was told to stop being naive and to really start looking for signals.\n\nTo my surprise, it was all true. Turns out I'm receiving flirty looks in a lot of places, and those are not \"polite smiles\" or \"friendly smiles\", they're as flirty as you can imagine, I know how to distinguish them. \n\nI asked my friend since when did he noticed these things and he said that since we met it's been like that, and that girls even talk about me, that I'm the \"mysterious\" kind of guy because of how little attention I give to girls. He even talked about a girl who approached me last semester and I recall her as just being friendly, now that I think about it, she was completely wanting more than a friendship. I'm so dumb.\n\nHow do I start things with these girls? I have no idea, when I open my mouth every flirty vibe dissappears. I can approach, but how can I not end up as a boring dude, or just a friend?", "summary": "Turns out I'm a good looking guy and I don't know how to exploit it."}
{"id": "t3_4usum5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15 M] like my friend [15 F] of 1.8 years; don't know if I should pursue it, and how I even would.", "post": "The title is overly complicated, I didn't know how to word my situation.\n\nBasically, almost 2 years ago, I met my best friend (also 15 F)'s best friend, who we'll refer to as Gwen for this story. We're pretty good friends, and that's all I really thought of Gwen until a few months ago.\n\nAbout two months ago we were paired up for some end of the year school spirit bullshit, and for the majority of the time we were working on it, we were mostly just sitting around waiting to do something. So that led to us talking a lot, and we realized we had more mutual interests than we previously thought, and we had really good chemistry. But I had gone through some shit with my family about a month earlier and I wasn't in the mood to open up to a girl at that point. So I ignored how I was starting to feel. (I tend to do that a lot.)\n\nSo flash forward a month and a half. We're out of school, and the best friend that I mentioned at the beginning is having an end-of-the-school-year party, and both Gwen and I are invited. We hadn't really talked since the school year ended, but we still had really good chemistry. We've talked a bit since then, but it's been a bit limited since she's 8,000 miles away visiting family.\n\nI thought that once school started back up next month (although the thought of that is killing me tbh) maybe I could ask her out. But the question is, should I? Shouldn't I? How would I go about it? There's an event in December that I'd rather not go to alone as a single white teenage boy that looks like Egon Spengler, but at the same time I'm afraid that I'll make Gwen angry or lose her as a friend. I'm almost fine with being rejected, but I'm worried about what would come afterwards.", "summary": "I have a good friend who I really like. Don't know if I should pursue it in fear of A) rejection and B) losing her as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_2nntno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband (25m) of 5y thinks we don't have enough sex. I (26f) disagree.", "post": "So. When we first started dating, my hubby and I were disgusting animals who just humped for like, days at a time. Then we got married and had kids, who are now 2 & 4. We currently live with his mom, which definitely puts a serious damper on the romance. My husband is working 60+ hours a week right now as well, and has to be at work at 5am every day. I am a full-time student, up at 6am every day with the kids who I do pretty much everything for, as well as all meal prep and cleaning (his mom doesn't really clean or cook unless it's a holiday).\n\nI mean, just like adults everywhere, we have a lot on our plates right now. It sucks. We are tired. I fall asleep on the couch by 9pm many nights. The relationship with his mom is tense at best, and we are planning to move into our own place within the next 3mo. \n\nAll things considered, I think our sex life is still pretty healthy. There have been dry spells in the past (especially postpartum). We have (great) sex 2-5 times every week. Even when I'm on my period, he still gets BJs. He gets frustrated because we only have sex at night, but I'm like.... when the hell else are we supposed to do it?!?! He wants me to start waking up with him at 4am so we can have sex (or at least oral) before he goes to work. I am so not into that idea, and he has called me a dick multiple times for rejecting his advances in the mornings. He initiates more than I do, but I still make a conscious effort to be the initiator at least once a week (it's been a complaint in the past). I have been making more efforts to be physically loving and adoring as well, to make him feel more appreciated without the need for sex constantly. I've tried telling him that this is as good as it gets, that we have two young kids AND we live with his mom who has no sense of privacy, personal space, or boundaries. So what to do?", "summary": "Husband and I have sex between 2-5x per week, but he wants more. We have two young kids and live with his mom. I'm tired."}
{"id": "t3_1x01ln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After a near year-long silence between my best friend [m25] of 10+ years and myself [f25], I want to put the past behind us and simply let him know I'm still here for him, but not sure how.", "post": "Long story short, after he started using drugs every day and essentially changed his entire personality (including bringing me to tears on many, many, many occasions), my s/o and I cut ties with the guy who was our best friend for 10+ years. \n\nI'm afraid that since we were really his only close friends for that decade, he doesn't have anyone to talk to about his life/problems/ etc etc. Before when I thought about him, I would just get angry, but now I have a massive pit in my stomach that I've completely let him down and used the anger as an excuse to not reconcile this hostility a long time ago. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose both of your best friends at once, and I can't seem to get that out of my head. \n\nI don't know if he'd even care to be friends again, but I want to at least tell him that I'm here if he ever needs me. Does anyone have a suggestion as to how I could reach out to him? I know that the responses are likely just going to be, \"Just talk to him,\" but I really don't know how.", "summary": "I want to be on talking terms again with my best friend and don't know how to go abouts doing that."}
{"id": "t3_281tjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A guy [17 M] who works with my [21 M] girlfriend [18 F] of 5 months tried to kiss her", "post": "I have had been really close friends (like brother/sister) with this girl for 4 years.  We started dating 5 months ago and both love each other.  Because I went to college out of state, I live 900 miles from her.\n\nShe started working at a restaurant two weeks ago.  A guy was assigned to supervise her after the manager had trained her.  They quickly became friends (or so she thought).\n\nA couple days ago, he moved in to kiss her in the parking lot after work (off of store property).  I visit every possible chance I have, but she said she let him kiss her because she was confused and caught off guard.  She said she didn't feel anything during the kiss and felt so horrible afterwords that she went home and cried for 3 hours.\n\nShe doesn't want to claim harassment because she felt like she let him kiss her, and the kiss wasn't long enough for her to push him off or show resistance (although she frequently told him she is in a relationship before this happened).  She also can't ask to work different shifts than him because she has to work nights and he works nights 5 or 6 days a week.  I want her to talk to the manager, but she won't.\n\nRight now, I think our options are have me talk to the manager (with her consent) or have her find a new job.  Finding a new job would be a hassle.\n\nAlso, what can I do?  I feel so helpless since I'm so far away.\n\nThank you all very much!", "summary": "Guy kissed my girlfriend.  She didn't like it, but she has to work with him.  I live in another state.  What do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ygrvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Suicidal girlfriend (16F) broke up with me (15M) because of trust issues", "post": "So, my girlfriend's father left when she was about 4. Her mother then had a mental breakdown, which resulted in her mother strangling her sister, who's about 10 years older. She was then sent to live with her grandmother, who is not a nice person. She boards at my school in the week and some weekends.\n\nSo, the night we started going out, about 6 weeks ago, started with a text conversation. In it, she revealed to me that she had tried to kill herself 3 times, by overdose, wrist cutting and \"considering jumping off a bridge\". The next time I saw her, I asked her to see a psychiatrist, but she wouldn't, presumably because of her mother's history.\n\nI was talking to her friend, let's call her Orla, because it's her name, and I don't care about her. Like an idiot, I said \"Oh, she trusts me more than you.\" Orla responded with \"What has she told you, then?\" I thought that she probably knew, and, even if she didn't, that she would be a good person to tell. She wasn't.\n\nSkip forward to last week, when she broke up with me. Orla was in the room when she called, and was basically telling her what to say. Orla also made up stuff about me. She said that she couldn't trust me because of what I told Orla. I did not take this breakup well.\n\nThe problem is that Orla won't care enough to help her, and one day, she might kill herself, and I don't want that to happen. If I'm another person she trusted who let her down, then what if I'm the final straw, and she kills herself? What do I do?", "summary": "Suicidal girlfriend told me she was suicidal, and I told someone. She doesn't trust me, and could kill herself if I don't help."}
{"id": "t3_z7w2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m24] have a friend [f20] who has personality disorder and I dont know what to do.", "post": "I won't leave this up for long because she \"used\" to be a redditor.\n\n I met this girl about 2 weeks ago. We really hit it off from the start and told me she was into me. I go to university about 2 hours away so when I was gone we would chat on skype everyday. Eventually she told me suddenly that she had 2 personalities. I didn't know anybody like that so she was a first. I didn't ask much about it and didn't know how it was triggered. \n\nSkip forward to present day and i'm back in my hometown. Her and I get a hotel room . I didn't think anything would happen but one thing lead to another and we started making out. She mentioned previously about how she didn't like being touch around the neck but I completely forgot being in the moment. At first nothing seemed wrong but she got really quit. She said I told you I dont like being touched there. She got up and sat on the side of the bed very still, not saying anything. She told me how she wasn't the other person anymore.\n\nWe talked for about 20 minutes. She asked what I saw in her other personality. How she's with someone but he's ignoring her and she took interest in me. Also if I thought she was crazy. I took her home early and she slammed my door on the way out saying not to hurt (emotionally) her other personality.\n\nI do like this girl but today really shook me up. I don't know what's going to happen, or what to say to her next time. I didn't know how to act during that experience so I tried not to say a lot. What do I do reddit?", "summary": "Friend I like has personality order and I accidently triggered it and things got weird. I dont know what to say to her next time."}
{"id": "t3_2gdao4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does being a Tomboy make me [24F] seem 'easy' to my guy friends?", "post": "Background: I am a bit of a tomboy. I enjoy gaming, crude jokes... also reading, poetry, illustration... (not so much sports and cars.), so I tend to just get along better with guys. Usually, once I become comfortable with someone, conversations become filled with banter and just messing about, which -might- be confused with flirtation?\n\nMy problem is: most of my closer guy friends reach a stage where they either want to become more than just friends, or begin to expect more of me sexually.\n\nThe most recent ones all happened around the course of the last year.\n\nA close friend of mine, Peter [33M], who I've been friends with for over a decade, got engaged. 2 months after the engagement, he wanted to speak with me. (we had a history of him being interested, but it never went anywhere because I didn't feel the same). We had coffee, and he confessed that he might still have feelings for me, and he just felt that I needed to know... I'm still avoiding him.\n\nAnother close friend who I study with Grey [22M], friends for a year... he keeps trying to fish out how sexually adventurous I am.\n\nThe last one I feel like talking about Daniel [30M], friends for 3 years, is engaged to one of my close friends [23F]. He recently started flirting with me and suggested that we should maybe try something. We had a fall-out about this yesterday, and I'm currently avoiding him.\n\nAm I doing something wrong?\n\nAm I making myself look \"easy\" message because I like to hang with the boys?\n\nI have a lot of girl friends too, it's not like I spend time with men exclusively.\n\nI'm just sick of it... Would be nice to know if there is something I could change.", "summary": "Does being a Tomboy make me seem 'easy'?"}
{"id": "t3_2f6e19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22/M] say something to my friend [22/F] over a petty comment she made?", "post": "Okay so I'll admit this probably seems very minor, but what she said REALLY got to me.\n\nI've known this girl for a few years now, but over the last 6 months we have become real close best friends. \n\n* Yesterday she was in town (my town) for a cookout at her moms house.\n* Was texting her while she was there and she mentioned she was playing this game I had never played before\n* I text back I have no idea what youre talking about\n* She calls me and asks me to come over so I can play this game with them\n* I go over and eventually I start winning\n* She jokes about how I'm winning even though I never played before\n* I say \"Ha you shouldn't have invited me over then\"\n* She says \"I didn't invite you, my mom did. Mom didn't you invite 9virtues over because he never played\"\n\nIdk why but this really hurt and put me in a down mood the rest of the night. It was like I didn't want you here, my mom did. \n\nShould I say anything?", "summary": "Friend made me feel like she didn't want me to be at an event. Should I say something."}
{"id": "t3_4yq7gn", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help with my GSD pup (4 months old)", "post": "Hey, posting from mobile so sorry for any formatting errors.\nDuke is a lovely, friendly and social puppy with lots of energy! He's perfect except for his barking, whining growling and lunging in three situations:\n\n1) When he sees a broom \n\n2) When you have something in your hand and he wants it\n\n3) And now most recently, the retractable leash. He didn't used to have a problem with it before, but now if he sees it in my hand he will start barking and growling and jumping up to get it. I usually give in to him cause even though he's only 4 months old, he's a big pup and he jumps almost up to my height! It's quite scary when he starts growling and gnashing his teeth all up in my face.\n\nWhen he has the leash, he'll start chewing it aggressively and whining at it. I really don't get what the issue is, maybe cause when I walked him I would stop when ever he would start to pull?? Why did he start this behaviour? \n\nAs for the toy thing, I feel like that's a really important behaviour to stop, because he needs to know that he isn't the \"pack-leader\". Any advice?", "summary": "puppy growls and lunges at me if i have something he wants, and has now started doing this to his retractable leash. I want it to stop- does anyone have any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1c9ov1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am confused about how I should act around my friend", "post": "To cut the back story short, my friend and I have known each other for about 1.5 years and we were brought together by a project here in college which is wrapping up.  We spend lots of time together and see each other nearly every day due to this project.  Since we've gotten to know each other pretty well, we hang out frequently and do stuff like go to bars or sports or whatever; this isn't what makes it unusual though as I am like this with other people I know on the project.  The issue is when we get a bit of alcohol in us we get... how should I put this, overly friendly.  To me, it feels like we flirt with each other the entire night when we go drinking.  Lots of intimate contact, dancing together, or what have you.  One night, he even kissed me.  And if you haven't surmised it already, we're both dudes, which causes confusion for me.  I don't know know how I should act around him sober.  He doesn't deny/isn't ashamed of the way we acted around each other the next day nor does he try to play it off and blame it on the alcohol; actually, he laughs when I bring it up.  I don't think either of us is gay (yes, I know what you're thinking: \"OP and friend are gay but in denial\", but I really don't think that either of us is.).  Advice?  I may be able to provide some more details into the dynamic, but I've purposely kept it vague.", "summary": "friend and I, both male, are close.  Maybe too close."}
{"id": "t3_z5zm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Suddenly gf finds erotic texting awkward [m18, f17]", "post": "We have been together 3 months now and for the past week or so before we fall asleep we'd tell each other roleplaying type erotic stories with fantasy situations between the two of us (I'm sure this is common).\n\nHowever, 3 nights ago she said mine was too graphic and it turned her off and now she says \"too awkward\" when I ask her to tell me a story.\n\nEverything seems moderately normal between us. She is having a lot of family problems which have made her a bit upset but I know she's not upset with me and I try my best to provide a safe environment for her to vent to me about these.", "summary": "went too far with erotic story now gf feels awkward"}
{"id": "t3_1o3fdh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] asked out by my friend [19 F] that I'm not attracted to physically, but I kind of want to date her...", "post": "Little back story: I've known this girl for about 4 months. We go to school together and ended up in the same class. She isn't to pretty ( a terrible thing to say, but it's the truth) and I'm not attracted to her physically, but from the start she was obviously in to me. I never sent mixed signals and I kept everything strictly friendly. She's a really cool person and I think our personalities mesh really well. \n\nAnyways, she finally sent me an email saying that she has feelings for me and she asked me out on a date. Now I'm not really attracted to her looks, but I think I can get past that. Physical attraction can grow, right? The ideal situation would be to remain friends, but I don't think there's any going back at this point. If I say no everything would be awkward between us and I don't see the friendship continuing.\n\nOr I could say yes, and see how things work out. This is what I'm leaning towards right now. I think friendship is the most important part of dating, and I think I've made mistakes in the past by only dating based on looks. However I've never dated someone I'm not even remotely physically attracted to, so is this a bad idea?", "summary": "Girl I am friends with but aren't attracted to physically asked me out. Should I say no and basically end the friendship or say yes and hope physical attraction comes later?"}
{"id": "t3_2sfrsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] with my brother[23/M] wants to move in with me, but i want to move in with 2 best friends", "post": "My brother is 23, and we both live at home. My parents have tried charging him rent but as he is currently unemployed he finds that as an excuse to not have to pay. \n\nI am 18 and am beginning to look for places to move out to, and the thought of me moving out before my 23 year old brother does is humiliating to him. So what does he propose? \n\nInstead of me moving out with my 2 best friends, whom also want to move in with each other, my brother proposes we ALL move in together, which would bring us up to 4 people total living together.\n\nI have lived with my brother my whole life, and I feel bad that he has no friends to move in with. This leads me to feel obligated to let him move in with me. However, I know that it would lead to trouble and my two best friends would not want to. When it comes down to move out, how the hell do I tell my own brother that I don't want to move in with him?", "summary": "Want to move out with 2 best friends, brother wants to join, no one wants to live with him"}
{"id": "t3_mv4pt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your best \"owning up to it\" story, other than pregnancy/children.  While that's probably the most noble thing to own up to, I want to hear all of the other stories.", "post": "My friend was driving, and I was giving directions.  I spaced out, realized we were about to miss a turn, pointed to the right and said, \"THATSITRIGHTTHERE!\".  My buddy spastically jerked the wheel and proceeded to ram a car in the other lane off of the road, spinning over the curb, and across the landscaping into a strip-mall parking lot.  \nHe pulled into the lot to check on the driver, who was fine, if a little rattled.  He apologized profusely and started giving the driver his insurance information.  \n\nCue the police.  They check everybody out, and then start writing their report.  Here's the kicker, though.  They didn't believe that my buddy had been involved *whatsoever*.  They kept asking, \"Are you sure you actually hit him?\",  \"It doesn't look like your vehicle was involved.\"  He had a Ford Bronco with a Mad Max style brush guard/battering ram, and it didn't have so much as a speck of paint missing on it.  The other guy's car was, for all intents and purposes, fucking trashed.  My friend had to *convince the police that he was in fact responsible for the entire ordeal*.  Yeah, his parents raised a true GGG.", "summary": "My friend had to convince the police that he was at fault for a car wreck because they didn't believe him."}
{"id": "t3_3so4cg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my friend [21F] who knows I have feels for her, wants to hang out while dating some other guy", "post": "I have been good friends with this girl through college and just started to grow feelings for her.  It just so happens that she starts dating this guy at about the same time, and whenever they are not together, she comes to me for someone to hangout with.  \n\nI usually try and play it off that I am busy because, honestly, I think I am just hurting myself by hanging out with her.  Is it bad that I am basically lying, most of the time, to get myself out of a situation I don't want to be in? I have no idea how to be straight up with her about this because I may come off to her as slightly crazy and i don't want to ruin the friendship we have.", "summary": "girl I have feelings for gets boyfriend, wants to hangout with me, i don't want to hang out with her because the situation sucks"}
{"id": "t3_41cjrh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My friend (18f) and I (18m) have know each other for about 6 months. Over the last month or so she has begun remarking out loud how amazing my eyes and smile are. What's this mean? If anything", "post": "So this girl and I (both 18) have known each other since the start of the summer, we were introduced by being in the same \"friend group\" at school. Over the last month or so, she repeatedly (at least once a week, like, 5 times last week) makes comments about how \"beautiful\" my eyes and smile are and says she loves looking at my eyes and it is at this point she'd proceed to stare for a little more than a few seconds (words like gorgeous, amazing, and beautiful have all been used by her to describe my eyes). I've never thought of her as someone that likes me, but a friend of mine pointed these things out to me. What's your guys/girls take on the situation? I'd like to note that these comments are always made with our other friends around, there is never any one on one conversation going on here.", "summary": "Girl says guys eyes and smile are beautiful and she loves staring at his eyes, what's this mean? I don't think she likes me or anything, just confused cause no one else says things about me like that."}
{"id": "t3_3dbqqu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [16/m] feel like we act like a couple, but when I asked the \"what are we\" question, her [16/f] response differs...", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nSo we talk almost everyday in person during the school year, and text each other for hours every day for almost 10 months. We talk about in depth things that you would generally talk about with your SO, and have made it clear to each other that we do like each other. (More than just friends) We often hug each other when saying goodbye in person, and often text goodnight followed by hearts. I see that both of our friends already think that we are in a relationship together. I also feel so, and believe anyone else in my situation would feel the same.\n\nBut here's where my problem starts. About a week ago when texting at night, I asked the \"what are we\" question. To which she basically responded saying:\n\n* She doesn't really know what \"we are.\"\n* Not sure if she wants a relationship.\n* But made it clear she does like me.\n\nI honestly didn't know how to respond to this. I could tell she didn't really wanted to talk about it then, so I thanked her for being honest and I changed the subject after she acknowledged. We continued to talk as normal that night and have still talked via text almost everyday since that night.\n\nI guess you could say I was a little hurt by this because I see that we both like each other, and already do things most couples do. However I don't want to force a relationship if feelings on both sides aren't mutual. I feel like if we aren't \"in a relationship\" then we shouldn't be doing \"relationship type\" things, if that makes sense. I feel like I should bring it up again with her but am a little unsure of how to go about doing it, what to say, and what to expect.\n \n\n**What do you think Reddit?**\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated and thank you in advance!", "summary": "When I ask her \"what we are\" she says she doesn't know, and isn't sure if she wants a relationship even though we've been already acting like we're a couple and has made it clear that she has feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_3u840k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36M] with new girlfriend[43F] 4 months, lots of intimacy, but she finds sex uncomfortable.", "post": "Been seeing somebody for almost 4 months now. Getting on really well, I love being with her. All is well outside the bedroom. In the bedroom there is plenty of intimacy, but sex itself is a problem. She often finds it uncomfortable and painful, which makes her anxious, which shuts her down to having sex.\n\nA little lube and some long massages have helped, amongst a few other things, but the anxiety is still there and is causing her frustration. When it has worked, it works well. But something just seems to trigger that shuts her down. \n\nI've no reason not to believe the following...\n-I'm her first since she divorced 5 years ago.\n-Her ex husband was the only other person she was sexually involved with. (She is rather reserved, joking to have had 'a sheltered life'.)\n-That relationship was dogged with intimacy issues (I've not questioned this, but I suspect these had at least some part to play in the relationship failing)\n\nI've been reassuring her as best I'm able, but need a plan now. She is rather amazing, and I'd hate for things to go south because of nookie. So any and all suggestions welcome.", "summary": "Hot new GF is anxious about sex as it often hurts. Pain leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to panic, panic leads to no sex. Looking for ideas on how best to reassure her, and how to introduce a healthy sex life to what is otherwise a great relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3eu843", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F/25) boyfriend (M/27) of 3 years can get really grumpy and withdrawn while travelling in small groups and it's offending my friends. How to deal?", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm looking for advice on how to approach my boyfriend about a trend I've been noticing lately. \n\nTo summarize, we'll be travelling for a few days with another couple (one of my close friends and her boyfriend) and something uncontrollable happens to make the situation less than ideal i.e., the weather sucks or a reservation gets messed up and he gets really grumpy, moody and withdrawn. It's happened more than once and with more than one couple, so it doesn't seem personal, but it is offending my friends and they're taking it personally. And he seems really uncomfortable. \n\nOn one hand, he is more of an introvert than I am and I'm not sure that there's something inherently wrong with just being in your own head... but the way he's doing it is offending my friends (and sometimes myself) and I would like to have our future trips go more smoothly. \n\nAny tips or insight to deal with this, both when it's happening and how to work it out? Introvert travelling tips might be useful. I find it particularly hard when travelling in a small group to make a graceful exit and talk about what's bothering him (or to ask him to get his head out of his ass, because most of the time it seems that he's upset about something that you just have to make the best of). I feel like I have to do the work of two people sometimes. It makes travelling stressful and less fun for everyone, and I can see it happening again during future trips with friends. So please help me approach this!", "summary": "Looking for advice to deal with introverted boyfriend who gets grumpy and withdrawn when travelling or hanging out in small groups."}
{"id": "t3_2h9zxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24f) just into a new relationship with a 22m and I'm terrified...", "post": "A bit of back story: I had an abusive relationship for 2 1/2 years that I finally had the balls to end. It was bad, both mental and physical. It's really messed with my head and he won't leave me alone...\n\nI had been talking to this guy around the 10th or 11th and we've been talking non-stop. We decided to become an item only two days ago and we're both terrified at how fast our liking of the other has evolved. We joke a bit about it and say we're both crazy, ya know, to lighten the mood.\n\nWhat scares me the most is I'm afraid that I'll fall in love with him very quickly, I can see it happening and I'm not sure how to keep those feelings in check.", "summary": "I'm scared that I'm going to fall in love faster than he will because of my past."}
{"id": "t3_2m2dqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my BestFriend [18/F] , Sudden loss of feelings, PLEASE HELP", "post": "Basically, I met her this year and we became the best of friends within 7 months. I met her as we were in the same class during the semester and I had a crush on her. Told her after 1 month and found out she was in a relationship. Tried to forget and get over her but couldn't. Few months later, she broke up, and 2 months ago, I told her I still liked her and would want to chase her. Then fast forward, we started holding hands and giving hugs frequently and she told me that she has feelings for me but now is not the time to be in a relationship, so we are withholding it.\n\nBut suddenly, I feel a loss of feelings for her last Saturday. I felt very sad and depressed. I'm not sure what I am or where I am now. If I was infatuated with her, or that my feelings became from intense to dull as we started doing more things.  I told her yesterday. I requested to stop holding hands and hugging. I think I still love her, but maybe not the same as before where it was thrilling. I'm not sure about myself now. I care very very much about her and really do not want to hurt her. I'm lost please help. I'm feeling very heartbroken about myself now and her", "summary": "Crush -> feelings reciprocated -> suddenly lost of feelings -> lost unsure what to do, do not want to hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_1itnjg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My friend failed her driving theory test. I feel like it's my fault.", "post": "The two of us were living in a school and taking theory and car driving lessons daily. It's a form of bootycamp for those who wish to take their driving lessons. All other places in the country were filled to the brim with people taking classes, so this seemed like a good option.       \n\nNow, since we were there to study for our theory test, and for our driving test, naturally we had to do just that: Study. And we did. Some did more than some, some did less. From the day we arrived to the day of the theory exam we had 11 days. She arrived one day later than everyone else, so I let her for three days, since she sorta studied a bit. Then I started to remind her gently once or thrice that she needed to study more instead of just browsing the Internet. She said she would. Did she need the books I had to study? No. Oh, well. Okay.     \n\nNow, after a while she started to get annoyed with me reminding her to get off whatever site she was on to study. Not wanting her to be in a foul mood, as well as wanting to preserve our friendship, I let her be. The day before the exam she asked for the books. She got them, and she studied.     \n\nThe day of the exam comes and.. she fails the test. I pass it.      \n\nNow, it's unreasonable for me to feel like this, cause I'm not her mom and she's not my responsibility per se, but I feel bad for not pushing her more. She'd probably have gotten even more annoyed if I had but it still feels as if I should have. I feel awful that she didn't pass, but I did.", "summary": "My friend fails her car theory exam. I pass it. I feel as if I should have pushed her to study more"}
{"id": "t3_46yiip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with ex[18M] of ~1 month; how important is it to win the breakup?", "post": "I know it's rarely a good idea to contact an ex. I also know it's rarely a good idea to apologize for something a month after going NC with the person in question, since that is usually a selfish search for forgiveness and alleviation of guilt. I'm very much leaning toward not doing any of these things, and had decided not to when it occurred to me that had the roles been reversed, it would have been nice to know that my ex was suffering and hating himself a little. \n\nThat said (once again on a selfish note), contacting him again would definitely rip open old wounds for me. I'd rather just bury my head in the sand and not deal with it. Also, I feel like an apology would be showing weakness, and I don't want to give him any kind of satisfaction. For every apology I owe him, he owes me six. I think.", "summary": "I'm considering texting an apology to my ex. Either talk me out of it, or give me a REALLY good reason to do it. "}
{"id": "t3_21o9ax", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(EU) Ethical credit card company?", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI'm just a young man from Belgium trying to get his personal finances straightened out, because I frequently purchase things via internet and don't want the bank-transfer-to-paypal-hassle anymore I thought I'd look into getting a credit card though I would like to find a company that has a certain ethical standard (as far as banks and ethics go) but still is broadly accepted on the inernet. This means that the very large companies like Mastercard and Visa don't enjoy my preference. \n\nHas anyone got any ethical alternatives or am I doomed to put my principles aside because of my desire for material fulfillment?", "summary": "Need ethical credit card company, so not Visa, Mastercard or American Express."}
{"id": "t3_190g3v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I use my 4-year electrical engineering degree to start a hands-on/blue-collar career in NYC?", "post": "I went to college and got a bachelor's degree in electrical engineering. Then I spent four years doing nontechnical jobs. Now I'm 26. Male. In New York City, and I don't want to relocate.\n\nNow I know myself well enough to commit to a career, and I know I want one that's not in an office and is impossible to outsource. Something hands-on. Don't care if it's dirty or doesn't require (or in this economy, didn't *use to* require) a four-year degree.\n\nWhat should it be, and how do I get there? Most important, *how do I get there*? Where do I go, who do I talk to, or what training school do I pay for?", "summary": "I got an EE undergrad. How do I get a decent technical blue-collar job?"}
{"id": "t3_162o4e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What story about you is complete bullshit and/or misunderstanding?", "post": "We all have friends or family members who blow things out of proportion... right? :| \n\nIn this case, I'll share a story about someone else that got hilariously blown out of proportion. It was in middle school Algebra class. I'm assuming in the middle of a lecture or near the end of the class, our protagonist got insanely bored. Trying to find something mundane to do, he raised a ballpoint pen to his lips and began to chew on the end of it. As time passed, the chewing started to destroy the cheap, 40-for-99-cents ballpoint. Suddenly, ink would sputter from the end of the pen, a trail of black leaking onto his face. This is when the teacher noticed... a student with a pen to his mouth, continually chewing on it as it leaked. \"Uhm, XXX, what are you doing???\" asked the teacher, drawing the whole class's attention to our pen-chewing protagonist.\n\nThis moment is key. At this moment, our protagonist could have easily acted like a normal human being... He could have snapped out of his daze and realized he was chewing on a leaky pen... ran out of the room in embarrassment. But no. This boy... in spirit of all of his smart-assery, decided to reply... Words that would change the truth forever. He smirked and replied to the teacher, \"I was hungry...\" \n\nAs the rumors spread, what was once a guy chewing on a pen.. became a guy chewing on a marker... then back to a pen.. a guy eating a pen.. and then, the grand finale... The guy who ate the marker. Yeah. It doesn't have to even make sense to be blown out of proportion, does it?", "summary": "Apparently, my friend ate a marker."}
{"id": "t3_2yurni", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Concerns about Sertraline", "post": "Hi, so I'm not sure if this has been posted before, but I visited a doctor a while back and she prescribed Sertraline for general anxiety and agoraphobia.  While I started the medication I experienced dry mouth,  which I was willing to sit with.   One day,  though,  I was getting out of the shower and became extremely confused, which really scared me so I stopped the medication. \n\nThat was all before I started school.  Since this semester began I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety.   For a while I was handling that, until my grades started to fall.  After that I became unmotivated, lethargic,  and irritable.  \n\nNow I'm debating going back on the meds because I've not been able to \"kick\" the depression.   My concern is that I might experience more of the side effects.  If I've already experience a few, does that mean I'll experience the others?", "summary": "I stopped the meds but want to go back on them.  I'm worried about some of the side effects. "}
{"id": "t3_2br0nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my fling [27 M/F] 6 months, replaced in a creepy way, disturbed", "post": "EDIT: I've been working at the same place for about a couple years on a break from college (got too expensive and my grades got sour, long unrelated story). I've known this girl for the entire time I've been here and we only accepted we had sexual tension about six months ago. The rest of the time has been spent with on/off physical interaction on a mostly FWB level. She's kinky in usual ways: biting, nails, a little pleasurable pain. There hasn't been penetration, either; she's been pretty clear about how far she wants to go comfortably as friends, and I couldn't agree more (I've been trying to escape this hole forever, and commitment stops that process). We flirt every day, though, and we've stopped short of third base while she chose to see someone else.\n\nHowever, the time has come for me to go back to college, which means leaving the entire state, actually. (I announced it earlier last month but the college got back to me late, and I have to go in spring, which means I'll still be here for longer. She is aware.)\n\nThis has made her react in a very odd way, and this is where disturbing comes in. She brought in a creepy bobblehead of the kid from Meet the Robinsons (Disney) and claims it exists \"so when [I'm] gone, [I'll] still be there anyway.\" The object looks nothing like me (I'm brown-haired, normal teeth, and I wear contacts). It's enough for me to freak a bit, because it's clingy and weird. It ends up on my desk in the mornings; she points it out and smiles at it; today, I even heard her talk to it.\n\nPlease, someone, explain this to me... Is there any way I can confront her without making it worse. I need confirmation: have I been blind to her feelings, is this a negative reaction to life outside the comfort zone, or something else entirely?", "summary": "Summary: Sort-of FWB for 6 months, uncommitted, replaced me with an odd proxy figurine after I announced I'm going to college in the fall. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1vpad5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F feeling suffocated by my long distance boyfriend 25M", "post": "I need some advice. I have been in a long distance relationship with a guy I met online for the last 6 months. My problem is I feel we talk too often. I don't know anyone else in a long distance relationship however so I have nothing to compare my situation to and no one to ask for advice\n\nWe speak every day via instant message before work. Then on my lunch break. Then every night on the phone for an hour at least and usually longer. If I am busy or miss any of these times he gets angry with me. I care for him very much and love having him in my life but I'm feeling suffocated. I feel like I HAVE to make time for him every day even when I'm tired or busy and it impacts my life and means I avoid going out to do things when it may mean I'm not ready to talk when he wants to.  \n\nI want to know what other people in long distance relationships consider normal for communication. Am I just not that into him or are my feelings validated?", "summary": "I am exhausted from having to speak to my LD boyfriend for hours and hours every day and feel suffocated."}
{"id": "t3_26y17y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my __SO (EX)_ [21/F] 4 years, broke up with me today", "post": "Yesterday I made a post about my SO's low sex drive of four years who I have been living with for 3.5 years. \n\nOriginal post  \n\nThis morning she came home from work early and ended our relationship stating that she wasn't ready for this sort of relationship, wanted to experience being young etc. I assume this means other men and relationships. Their was some of anger and tears on my behalf but we ended it on good terms. I suggested an open relationship so she could experience other things but she said she didn't want to do this to me and felt I was too good for her. I asked her if their was anyone else she was adamant that their wasn't anyone and she was feeling this way for a while. I cant help but think our talk yesterday was what did it, that it's my fault for bringing it up and should of been content.\n\nAs we have a very close net of friends I'm trying to be mature and accept what has happened, but I'm very lonely and sad atm which has stopped me going to a mutual friends 21st today.\n\nMy SO was my rock to lean on, she was always their for advice and knew what to say to me to make anything alright, but now I have no one to turn to that I'm that close to. \n\nWe had planned a trip to together for a few days to another city to see a musical in 2 weeks to celebrate our anniversary together. Everything is pre booked so I have suggested to her that we still go as friends. Should I treat this as a last ditch effort to get her back or just concentrate on going as friends or not go at all? I've tried to limit contact to give her space but I'm so alone, scared and depressed with out her presence. I spent the day with a bunch of other friends which helped until I got home to our empty house, so far she has only taken her clothes. \n\nShould I give up? Should I wait it out to see if she reconciles? What has worked for anyone who has gone through such a long term break up?", "summary": "SO of four years ended our relationship today citing she wants to experience being young. I'm a wreck and cant see my self functioning with out her."}
{"id": "t3_11smca", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I am a girl (18) that wants to let a guy (18) know that im hurt.", "post": "OK so theres this guy I had sex with earlier this year twice and he was really nice to me and everything . But then he rooted and booted me. Fast forward maybe 5 months and he calls me up one night when, drunk, wanting to see me. I saw him at a party the week before so maybe I got in his head again. Either way he rooted and booted me again and hasn't talk to me since and when I tried it was just him and his mates being silly and saying stuff. Like it's pretty much impossible to see him when I want to as he's a player and is always with the boys.\n\nSo what I want to know is, next time he calls me up wanting a booty call or whatever I need to know what to say to let him know that he really really hurt me and it hurts to be had sex with and then him not care? Do any guys know a way that will make him actually CARE and get the picture.", "summary": "had sex with a player, care about him, want to let him no I'm hurt in a way that he will understand"}
{"id": "t3_2tl9q9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Mom problems, what do I do?", "post": "Alright, so my mom decided to join a business dealing in the distribution of different vitamins that are supposed to \"enhance\" your lifestyle, but quite frankly, these \"special\" vitamins aren't any different than the ones you can get at your local pharmacy. So naturally, I wanted to see the reputation of the company she now became involved with. Just searching the name of the company showed many great comments and reviews and how it was life changing for many people, however if you added \"pyramid scheme\" at the end, countless stories, videos, etc. appeared, even more so than the initial search. So quite blatantly, it was a pyramid scheme. I haven't told her what I thought about it but she's been going on and on about how \"this will give us more income!\" And \"this is for your future!\" But quite frankly I'm extremely worried that the money she's giving to this \"amazing and worth while\" business will out weigh the amount of money she earns from raking other people in this scheme. Worst of all, she wants me and my siblings (who I don't think know about the nature of the company) involved as well. Things like, creating advertisements, and telling our friends, practically just getting the word out to anyone who would listen about the amazing product she's selling and how you could also sell it yourself. So basically I have no idea what to do, she's clearly blinded by all the \"great\" rewards she thinks she'll be getting, but in the end she'll probably gain nothing out of this.", "summary": "Moms part of a pyramid scheme and wants me in on it, going crazy on how to tell how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_azm3b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with poor customer service?", "post": "I am upset with a particular graphics card company. I bought two of their nVidia 285 graphics cards about 6 months ago and both of them have broken in the last week. The first card has been at their factory for over two weeks. I asked them about the status on it and they simply said that they are short on stock and it hopefully would be shipped out in a week. Now, the other card is going bad and causing my computer to crash. I can't use my computer without a graphics card, so I can't send in the 2nd one before I get the 1st one back.\n\nSo I sent them a polite email explaining my situation and how I wasn't happy with the situation but realize that sometimes things break at inopportune times. I asked them if there was anything they could do with shipping seeing as I paid $20 for the last one to be shipped there, and don't really want to do that with the next one. I clearly explained that I needed the first card back before I could install the second one. I also made a couple other requests about how to proceed and the shipping issue from above.\n\nThis is the response I received:\n\n> \"Please give us a call at [800 number].  I'm sure we can help you out with the RMA for your second card.\"\n\nThat is their general help number, and the people on the phone can't look up the email. What do I do at this point? They obviously did not read the email at all, and last time it took them 3 days to respond to it.\n\nIs there a way to talk to a supervisor or actually get a hold of someone who knows how to help me out?", "summary": "Graphics card company being unreasonably difficult, didn't read anything I sent. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2yjnzs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining my party", "post": "This happend on saturday, my birthday.I ruined my own fucking birthday party.\n\nMy friends are kinda divided into two groups, since a quite complicated breakup last year. And so these two girls who hated each other just didn\u00b4t talk and it was okay as it was. But girl A decided that it would be a great idea to make bets on girl B kissing a guy i hardly knew. (Friend of the boyfreind of a good friend of mine) So While they where joking around and making fun of girl B I didn\u00b4t want to join them since I like girl B quite a lot. I went outside to have a smoke and I encountered some friends smoking a big fat J. Of course as the birthday child you have to smoke some aswell and I got pretty stoned. Not to bad like puking and stuff but high enougth to giggle a lot. So while we were standing there on the porch I told my friends about the bet the other girl had made and didn\u00b4t think about anybody listening to me apart from my two buddys on the porch. \nLong story, short. Girl B heard about the bet and went total bitchmode on girl A. I don\u00b4t know but both girls are pissed of and I ruined my fucking b-day party by deviding the group into two again. There where literally two rooms with people that didn\u00b4t talk to each other.", "summary": "Fucked up by talking about a secret bet while stoned"}
{"id": "t3_2hb89f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18F] just broke up with me [18M] after only 10 months I have no idea what to do I never thought it would hurt this much I just thought I could find some sage advice here.", "post": "She has just left for university which made us long distance and 3 days into it she calls me and breaks up with me.\n\nShe is heartbroken too she cried on the phone and told me she wants to end on good terms and this is something we agreed on before she left that if it wasn't working we would accept it and move on.\n\nBut I can't stop texting her and it's up and down I'm pissed off one minute and sorry for it the next I can't handle being this emotional.\n\nI'm scared that by the end of the week she'll be fucking a new guy and will have completely forgotten me. If that happens clearly I meant so little that she can just sleep around. Me and her hadn't slept together in over 2 months because she was \"never in the mood\".\n\nI understand why she did it. Her hearts not in it anymore and she can't do the long distance so ending it now is much better than in an argument in a months time.\n\nThe worst part is that she seems to be fine and going out partying without a care in the world while I'm crushed back home and she has loads of new friends to keep her busy and only a few people are still here but I work a pretty isolated job all day so it gives me way to much time to think while she can be constantly distracted.\n\nI just want some general advice I guess about how to start trying to move past this.", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me and seems fine while I'm crushed please save me reddit!!"}
{"id": "t3_gmi9r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what's up with you \"Forever  Alone\" people?", "post": "It's something I've seen on Reddit literally every day since I joined and I just gotta ask...what gives?\n\nWhat's so hard about finding someone to be with?\n\nThis is coming from a fellow nerd.  I've spent hundreds of hours on Morrowind, Super Metroid, Final Fantasy Tactics, Minecraft etc.  I've been building my own PC's since before I was a teenager.  I'm A+ certified.  I've owned every iteration of the Gameboy released in the U.S. from the original up to the first DS.  I've written code, overclocked CPU's, drawn videogame characters in my spare time, take stuff apart and put it back together for fun, taught my H.S. journalism class how to use Photoshop, did extra-curricular activities in school relate to science and computer tech, have played Chess longer than I've been attracted to girls and can probably name all the original Pok\u00e9mon if I tried....and know how to type \"\u00e9\" (Alt + 0266) based on memory.\n\nBut throughout all my years I've never had trouble finding a girlfriend, I've found time to enjoy the outdoors and excel at sports and so on.\n\nI don't think I'm an exceptional person.  I think I'm pretty average, and kind of boring to be honest.  But I see this shit posted here all the time, and I know a few \"Forever alone\" types in real life and I don't get it.  You know, the kind of friends that bitch about how they'd love to get laid, find a girlfriend etc., but never pursue it.  You're not gonna get laid by spending all your free time playing WoW.\n\nWhat's so difficult about it?  What's up with the whole forever alone thing in general?  It's one thing when you're just joking in a rage comic...it's another thing when that's your life.  I wouldn't give a shit if people were single and content, or single and kept their mouths shut.  But when people are single, bitch about it often, but never do anything to fix it, I just want to tell them to stfu.", "summary": "Forever alone?  Stfu, I don't care."}
{"id": "t3_4w0pa5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Bad case of D\u00e9j\u00e0 vu.", "post": "When I was 2 years old I lived in a trailer park got a dog, beagle yellow lab mix. Over the years, it was nice, but when I turned 12 I got my second dog, a chocolate lab. a year passed and we got a notice telling us that are dogs are too loud, and we shouldn't have them. at the time my chocolate lab was registered as an assistance dog since I had Aspergers. when I turned 13 my trailer was falling apart, black mold, neighbors wanting to kill us for having our dogs, having to hide our dogs to prevent eviction, it was the worst years of my life. we weren't wealthy it took a couple years before we could finally move, so we did. at the new trailer everything was nicer, it had some holes but they could be fixed easily. we ended up getting 2 more pups \"both chihuahua wiener dog mix. my first dog ended up passing away and one of our old ass drunk neighbors who hated us for no reason kept bugging my land lord about my dogs, so now like last time my dogs are forced to stay hidden (besides the service dog) just because of a neighbor can't deal with puppies. (im 18 now) my father offered the landlord more money to keep the dogs but he declined. (we take the pups to the park far away from the house to take them out)\nso my question is, what should I do?\n\n1st dog bo:\n\n2nd dog sammy (service dog):\n\nthe pups gracie and ralphy (rescued dogs):", "summary": "got yelled at for having dogs at first place and threatened to get kicked out, hid them for 2 years. moved, rescued 2 puppys, stuck with 3 dogs cause my first dog died. now stuck at my second trailer park like the first one, forced to hide them so I don't get evicted cause angry neighbors making up b.s. don't know what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_38g5h0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sneezing", "post": "Obligatory \"this actually happened today\".\n\nI had just gotten out of the shower and was drying myself off when I felt a sharp pain coming from my index finger.  I checked and after a thorough inspection of said finger, I had found a very small cut.  While examining said cut, I failed to realize that I was standing within close proximity to my bathroom door.  Above said door is a small shelf.  This shelf does not contain rounded edges, mind you.\n\nSo as I am exiting the bathroom, I feel the urge to sneeze.  When I sneeze, my body decides it's a good idea to send my head flying out in front of me.  The sharp edge of the shelf collides with my forehead at light speed.\n\nThis is the second time my body has failed me - this one is physical, unfortunately.\n\nFortunately, the pain went away short after; but the moment it happened, it was horrible.", "summary": "Sneezed, sharp edges of shelf...you get the idea."}
{"id": "t3_4bjgx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24f) have started dating a guy (34m) and he only wants to talk about sex", "post": "So it's pretty early in the relationship  (to the point of where I didn't even want to post here) but I'm just so annoyed. He's a great guy with a great job and thinks I'm funny, which is nice. Except he just admitted a kink to me, which just happens to be my kink as well, and now all he wants to do is talk about it. Like it went from good conversation to just \"do you like this, what about that, anything else you like, did you try xyz yet\" etc.\n\nI know that it's important for people to be compatible on that level, but I'm personally not into focusing on sex so much in the beginning dating stages. I want to be people compatible more than just sex compatible.\n\nAny advice on any thing?", "summary": "want to have a non sex based conversation with someone I just started dating"}
{"id": "t3_1mgf0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] just broke up with my bf [23M] of 3ish years. How do I stop feeling so bad? And one other issue...", "post": "We live about 2 hours apart, so its hard to do it any other way than over the phone. It was such and awkward conversation and I didn't even get out what I had planned to say to him once I was actually on the phone with him. I feel so bad, although he said he wasn't angry and said he still loves me (but I don't love him anymore like I used to). I just feel so bad about all of it and wish I could have done it in person. I feel the need to contact him to explain myself better. Our conversation was short, too short it felt like honestly. He abruptly ended the conversation saying he had to go. I want to know how he is doing and just... I don't know. I guess I want a better ending to it.\n\nThen there is one last issue, he still owes me money. Which we did not discuss. I want the money because it is not just a small amount (less trhan 1000 but more than 100). My mom says to let it go. I feel like he is the kind of person who would want to pay me back, he wouldn't like to still owe someone money. Should I contact him about it or just let it go?", "summary": "can't stop feeling bad; should I contact him about money he owes me."}
{"id": "t3_358iuv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My dad is in hospital and i'm worried and afraid.", "post": "Hey there reddit. I'm kinda depressed and as for why, well my dad just went to the hospital (actually about a few hours ago) and I'm worried. the first visit was because he got an ulcer and left it untreated, until he collapsed and went to hospital. The one now, is much worse. \n\nHe has more than one ulcer and now some if not all of them ruptured, and then he started to bleed out of almost every orifice and to make matters worse, the ambulance in my shit-hole of a country decided that they weren't going to send anyone. It took my neighbour's fire-fighter friend to get them to send one.\n\nIn that time, he had turned yellow, lost any semblance of control over his bowels and slipped in and out of consciousness, when he was awake he was delirious. This is after 2 hours of waiting. Now I am worried, my mother is with him and I'm at home \"holding the fort\".", "summary": "My dad was just recently sent to the hospital after a 2 hour wait and is in critical condition, I'm worried and depressed"}
{"id": "t3_3ax55h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My gf[25/f] and I [28/m] disagree on religion. What to do?", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for approximately 1 year 4 months.  We click on almost every level, we're both in grad school together and we spend a lot of time together too.  She has very strict parents and she basically kept me a secret from them(especially her father) for quite a long time.  If you had asked me 6 months ago if I was going to propose, I would have emphatically said yes.  However, within the last 6 months one big issue has come up before us.  \n\nHer parents are Catholic and she said that unless I was willing to convert than her parents would never accept me.  I told her that I wasn't really comfortable with converting.  I'm Buddhist myself, but not a strict one.  My issue with converting is that my gf is barely catholic as it is.  She hasn't gone to Church ever since she moved here for grad school, she even lies to her father about going to Church.  Not trying to point out flaws in their religion, but I feel as though the parents are Catholic for face value.  The father gambles like crazy, the eldest sons in the family have children out of wedlock.  Even my gf said \"Just convert so you can make them happy?\" \n\nThis has caused a lot of tension in our relationship as of late because her father just found out about me and was not happy to find out that I wasn't Catholic.  If my gf was super strict and went to church every Sunday... If her parents super passionate about their religion and was understanding then that's something I could get on board with and I would maybe consider converting.  It seems as though they just want me to convert for the sake of converting...\n\nAny advice?  Anybody go through the same thing?  Not trying to make this an anti religion thread so please try to keep things away from that =]", "summary": "My gf is catholic.  Not really catholic.  Her parents want me to convert.  I don't want to."}
{"id": "t3_t9ear", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When your SO is depressed, is it better to...", "post": "SO is 25M.  I'm 25F.  together for 8/9 months (not doing math, slightly intoxicated atm. feliz cinco de mayo)\n\nHe's depressed.  Seems to need a ton of space to figure out what's going on and how to improve his situation.  Trying my best to be supportive, but honestly feel like an additional burden, impeding his growth and ability to overcome the challenges he is facing.  I love him so much, but I feel weak and lost.  I'm not the type of person to give up on anyone (unless they SERIOUSLY wrong me), and I understand that it's not my battle to fight... but I don't know what to do.  My heart is breaking, and I think he's worth it if he can get through this... but like I said, I just feel like a burden.\n\nAm I supposed to stay, and just keep my distance until his mind is clear and he's ready for us?  Or am I supposed to do what I think is best for him and walk away so he can *really* focus on getting through this?  Again, I'm not running away... I can't even explain how much I love him and want to show my support... but I feel like I'm making things worse and not better.\n\n-Confused girlfriend", "summary": "so is sad, is it better (for him) if i stay or go? "}
{"id": "t3_2uc6o9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a threesome (NSFW)", "post": "This happened a few years ago but what a fuck up it was.\nI'm a guy that has been happily married for over 10 years. My wife is a beautiful woman inside and out. We have a great sex life and are very open with each other. She is bi-sexual and that has only ever made things hotter. Though she has been with women before, I have never pushed the issue though I'd said it would be hot to see her with another woman, never expecting anything to happen. \nLong story short, my wife was approached by another extremely attractive woman at our local. On several occasions we ended up in the same bed though my only contact was ever with my wife as I had no intention of anything else as it would be wrong in my eyes, though she can do whatever with her.\nThe fuck up happened after the 5th or 6th casual hook up (same person) we were all naked, my wife had been giving me a bj while the other woman was licking her pussy. She came up to my wife and was kissing her passionately (obviously close to my cock). She said she was lucky as she had one to suck, my jaw dropped when my wife said, you can share this one. The next 10 minutes was the most intense of my sheltered life. My wife then got on top for a short while, when she came off the other woman said, pity I can't. \nAt this point I should mention that we were all very merry. My wife said, yes you can and held my dick facing the ceiling and said \"get on\". She held me in place as the other woman sat on my cock. Even being drunk I knew this was not a great idea but the horny head was on and I was in bed with two stunners. My wife was kissing me and I had the most Charlie Sheen experience for about 10 strokes. Pure pleasure turned to pure terror as she looked up and said \"that doesn't belong there\". \nThe look on her face will always haunt me. Not only do I feel like total shit but the chances of seeing some awesome girl on girl action ever again are pretty much zero. It's never mentioned.", "summary": "went from Charlie Sheen to Mr Magoo in 10 seconds."}
{"id": "t3_1fudxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I the right person to do what I'm contemplating? [21]", "post": "I'm in a bit of a dilemma.\n\nIt involves a guy[20] and a girl[20] I went to school with and have been going out together for 4-5 years. It's come to my attention that last year one of my closer mates slept with the girl a couple or so times.\n\nA lot of people are aware of this happening, including the close friends of the guy who got cheated on, the guy still knows nothing about it. I feel like if I was the one to tell him it would obviously be detrimental to a relationship that's half a decade old, but unfortunately, also to the guy's relationship with all of his friends that chose to keep him in the dark this whole time.\n\nBy telling him I feel I'd be causing the guy unnecessary pain... But on the other hand, maybe I'm this guy's only chance to avoid him going down a long dark road which he may choose to avoid given he knows all the facts.", "summary": "Guy got cheated on last year, a lot of people know about it. Should I be the one to tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_31rgiq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/m] am bewildered by my relationship with my gf [20/f]", "post": "We have been together for a year and 3 months. The first year was one of the happiest of my life. We shared the same humour and really enjoyed each others company. However we have no common interests in terms of hobbies, movies or music. \n\nThis year we started fighting more often. She has depression and has gone to almost fatal lengths before I knew her. It seems the depression has become stronger. She will not take medication as she fears how her family will respond. Her father is of the belief that it is a matter of will power and doesn't believe in medicating it. \n\nCurrently she feels I don't show enough affection or emotion towards her. Which is truthful, I find it hard that she is only happy when with me and miserable when we are apart. I struggle to spend more than two days with her before I become bored and leave in fear of saying something mean.\n\nShe is highly emotional and is upset by the smallest of things. I worry that she won't be able to handle a real problem should it arise.\n\nI don't want to lose her but at the same time I don't want to try and keep a doomed relationship going.", "summary": "gf and I have no commonality, she is depressive and I don't know if I should end it."}
{"id": "t3_30qusv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17m) girlfriend(17f) seems to have lost interest in me. Should I keep trying or should I let her go?", "post": "We have been dating for 3 months ,and those 3 months have been nothing but wonderful. Two weeks ago she went cold on me.\n\n She stopped talking, couldn't look me in the eyes, and looked really uncomfortable around me.\n\n We have so much in common and I believe us to be really compatible. I feel I would do anything for her, but I don't want to push her into hating me. \n\nThe talking and texting have become painful for me. I used to be able to get her to laugh without trying. Now I only get annoyed responses. I never knew emotional pain felt like real pain. \n\nI never stop thinking about her and my mind always goes back in time to when things were going amazing. \n\nI never pushed her into doing anything if she said no. I respected her decisions. I really like her and it's hard to imagine not having her with me. Did she get tired of me or am I to blame?\n\nI've tried talking to her, she seems to avoid answering by saying \" I dont know\" and when I press for an answer she changes the subject.", "summary": "Girl I've dated for 3 months seems to have lost interest in me, I am heartbroken. Know very little about relationships, should I stay or should I go. Is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_ob8j2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "We've slept together, why won't he hang out with me and why does he ignore my texts?????", "post": "So I met this DJ ~2 years ago when he was working in a divebar. As a drunken girl, I've ended up going home with him a few times after chatting/hanging out with him while he works. In the 2 years, this has happened maybe 10 times. So obviously, they have just been drunken hookups. \n\nHowever, New Years 2010, I spent with him and then spent all day new years day with him just hanging out. And then after not seeing him for 11 months, since December 2011, I've gone home with him every friday, having seen him last last Friday. Now, we have a lot to talk about and I really do enjoy his company. During those nights, I have expressed how I would like to hang out with him more, in situations outside of these postwork drunken hookups. He said sure, that it'd be fun many a time. \n\nHowever, the 3 times I've tried texting/messaging him asking him to hang out in the past 2 years, he's just ignored them. I've confronted him about it in the past and he says that he's just too busy and missed those messages, which could be true given that he's extremely popular and now works at the hottest club in the city. But the thing is, when I messaged him 2 days ago asking about a painting, he responded immediately. Yesterday I texted him telling him I wanted to sleepover and what he was doing today. He still has not replied. WHY?? I'm not asking to date, it's clear that's not what either of us want. So given that I'm just asking to hookup/hang out with him, why is he ignoring me?", "summary": "guy hooks up with me when I show up, but ignores my texts. Why and what do??"}
{"id": "t3_fazjb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm still in highschool and have my first real job but I can't handle it. Suck it up or quit?", "post": "I'm a senior and I've been at my current job for about five months. Before this I babysat regularly my junior year, and had an blow off job at a pizza place over the summer. \n\nI work at a major retailer, and although the actual job isn't too strenuous, I work around 30+ hours a week plus school and usually go straight from school (I get off at 1) to work. Some days I'll get to school at 7 am and I won't get home until 11 pm. The long shifts aren't negotiable because that's what everybody else works and it would just mess up everybody's else schedules.\n\nI've suffered from depression and anxiety before, and this year I've felt more stressed out than ever. The 16 hour school/work days are killing me, and I feel like all I do is wake up, spend the whole day miserable, go home and just have to do it all again. It's creating stress between me and my boyfriend, and I just dread everything about it. This week, for whatever reason, I didn't have to work and have felt so much better about everything. \n\nI make minimum wage, and although I don't necessarily *need* the money, my mom is a single parent and before my job we would constantly argue about money. I have a small amount saved up from the holidays that I could rely on for two or three months for just the basics (gas and food.) If I stayed at my job I would quit in May anyways before finals/long summer plans.\n\nSo, any advice? I know many people do and have done much more work than me while juggling school and a family life, but the job is making me miserable. Part of me thinks, \"It's your senior year of high school, are you really going to spend it all working?\" while part of me knows that I need it the money.", "summary": "I'm a high schooler who is stressed with their job. Quit or suck it up?"}
{"id": "t3_3wvoud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Odd payment request?", "post": "I'm unsure if this would be the correct subreddit, as it didn't seem to fit in elsewhere, maybe personalfinancel? If not, here goes.  \n\nA little background, I'm in the military and looking to buy some car parts. I saw on the Perrin Performance website that they have a \"Military and first responder discount\" [reddit!] . To be approved for this, you need to email or call the representative listed with a few requirements and also list the parts you wish to purchase.  \n\nAfter sending all of this I received an email this afternoon statin all of the (newly) priced items at about 10-15% discount (awesome!). The email also includes the following text, which I found incredibly off.\n\n> If you'd like to complete an order, feel free to call or email me with your credit card number, expiration date, and 3 digit code OR send a paypal payment to sales@perrinperformance.com, just put it to my attention.  \n\nI shot the representative an email back asking if he could somehow give me a discount code equalling the amount of the discount I was to receive noted in his email, as it didn't feel right to do either of the options listed. I am also going to call tomorrow to see if he could answer some other questions I may have. \n\nI can't wrap my head around it being a scam, as it is from a reputable company, it just seems odd that the initial payment options listed were what he mentioned.   \n\nAny help or suggestions would be great, or maybe someone has used their discounts before? For all I know this is completely normal, but I've never been asked to send my \"credit card number, expiration, and 3 digit code\" to someone via email.", "summary": "want to buy car parts, inquired about military discount, received email back with discounted prices but asked to pay by email/paypal."}
{"id": "t3_28b0nu", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I have 42 books to read on goodreads", "post": "I like good reads especially for being able to organize all the books ive read (I can sort of re familiarize myself with them easier with them all organized nicely like that, tho i suppose an excel spreadsheet would have been equally effective...) , but I have a \"to read\" list of 42 books and my true list is probably an entire library.\n\nCan anyone please advise or relate to wanting to read and entire library?\nI know Malcolm X said he could happily spend the rest of his life in a library just satisfying his curiosity. \n\nFor me, Im also interested in learning, and there may be more effective efforts than simply \"consuming\" in the form of creating, aha! I just realized i need to do more creating but i love consuming \"books\" so much tho :/ \n\nFor me, I feel the same, but another \"phrase\" I recall is \"this aint a fuckin trivia contest(life)\" and \"the nobel prize does not go to the man who reads the most journal articles or takes the most notes, it goes to the one who knows what he's looking for\"\n\nso while reading is certainly pure joy, I suppose since im temporarily broke and unemployed I should have some direction in my reading but life is so rich and complex and interesting I am just \"flabbergasted\" or \"astonished\" and in awe of this world we live in\n\nperhaps im \"escaping\" with my reading", "summary": "I feel like my \"to read\" list may never get read, why do I have this list and why do I feel the way I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_20jiwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [19 M] possibly ruin my chances with [19 F]?", "post": "I've been talking to this girl that I really like for a while now and tonight she admitted to me that she has a thing for me. So then I deiced to share the news with a friend of mine who is also the person that I met this girl through. I had been sharing with him my progress with her and trusted that he would keep quite about the things I tell him, but for whatever reason he decided to text her and confirm the news. Then I get a text from her saying \"You told Eddie...\" Since then she has not returned my text and now I'm wondering if this might have ruined my chances with her or if she is just a little bit upset and that she will get over it shortly.", "summary": "Girl I like admits she like me. I tell a friend the news and then he texts the girl to confirm the news. Girl text me saying why did you tell him and has not texted back since. Now I'm wondering if I ruined things with her or if this is just a minor hiccup."}
{"id": "t3_2y711z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bleeding all over a cute girl.", "post": "So this fuck up happened today. \n\nNot to sound like a tool bag but I go to this gym everyday on my campus. It's relatively small and the people that work there are all familiar faces at this point. Today I decided that I wanted to do some cardio on the treadmill while listening to music on my phone. I was reaching for my bottle of water and accidentally knocked my phone over and watched it fall into the treadmill. That might actually be my first fuck up come to think of it.... No biggie, I call over one of the managers and it's a cute girl I've been trying to talk too this semester. \n\nFast forward she gets the screwdriver, opens the machine to reach for my phone and I'm standing over her watching this whole thing. (after asking her if I could do it but it's a liability issue so she says she has to do it. I respect that.) I got a clear view of her cleavage though so I stood a little closer. Then in her excitement, she stood up really fast but wasn't aware that i was standing so close that her head collided with my face. I ended up getting a nose bleed and some of the blood went all over her. I was so embarrassed I held my nose in shame, took my phone, said thank you and ran away.", "summary": "got pervy, got hit. so ashamed and now i'm just going to get fat for the rest of the semester."}
{"id": "t3_2svr85", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Very general relationship question. I [25F] would like to know if it's normal for most friends in the span of your lifetime to eventually disappoint you? In my experience most friendships end due to people letting me down rather than just drifting apart. Normal?", "post": "I'm not in the middle of any crisis at the moment, this is just something I've began to notice.  \n\nIt's pretty sad, maybe the reality of life is just hitting me, or maybe I attract the wrong kinds of people.  I'm a very giving caring person.  I don't feel like I get taken advantage exactly, but I do notice that I am ALWAYS there when various friends need me, but the reality is they aren't always there for me.\n\nI do have a couple old friends that I consider very good friends, they have yet to disappoint, and are a pleasure to know, however I rarely see them.", "summary": "Do most friendships come with a lifespan?  If so, is that lifespan mostly related to the amount of time it takes for them to eventually disappoint you?"}
{"id": "t3_q2pel", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has there been research on genealogy of professions/interests?", "post": "I was having a random discussion with a friend about how I chose to become a graphic designer. Basically, I've always had an instinct on what looks good together, and it's something I noticed my dad always had.\n\nThis got me thinking about passing down inherent traits from years of practicing a certain skill or profession. Could my ancestors have been artists? Has there been research on things of this nature?\n\nA side question, if you had to guess what some of your ancestors (over 100 years ago) did, what would it be? I believe mine could have been artists, but possibly Philosophers.", "summary": "If ancestors practice certain things their whole lives, do descendants down the line benefit from that?"}
{"id": "t3_1r2son", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of Reddit is there a justifiable reason to cheat? Have you ever cheated on someone and why?", "post": "my SO has been continuously hurting me in vindictive small ways and does not seem to honestly give a shit about me. It hurts a lot and in a way I suppose I know this is the one thing that will really hurt him and I feel like I've begun considering this. At the same time, I know this is just the worst response. But its been a month since he's made an effort to see me and he texts me roughly one hour a day if that. I've told him things need to change but when I try to leave him is the only time he ever makes an effort and within an hour is back to his asshole self.", "summary": "to cheat or not to cheat that is the question."}
{"id": "t3_34akto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [22 F] 8-months, her mom [57] has snapped. Help.", "post": "Right, so my GF has supported herself since 18 by stripping. Two years ago her mom appealed to her, and has managed to get my GF to pay for her food, clothes, (loss-making) business, and given her a place to stay. She is 100% dependent on my GF.\n\nThat said, my GF's mom [hereafter M] used to be weirdly nice. Despite pretty obviously having sex with my GF ~3 times a day in the same flat, she would insist on cooking our meals and even did my laundry.\n\nShe kind of snapped 3 days ago though. I knocked water onto some unprepared potato. She silently picked the tray up, threw it at the wall and stormed off. She's been silent 23 hours a day. The other hour is now spent yelling at my GF through the wall and telling her I'm manipulating her.\n\nShe's always aluded to the fact that she would get violent if I hurt my GF. I never would, but I think she might be detatched from reality. I don't feel too safe sleeping at my GF's anymore. What do I do?\n\nDo I drop my GF? Do I just live apart? Or do I just keep living there? I have no clue what to do. Or what to say to my GF. \n\nAlso, extra, possibly relevant info. Her mom's said a few slightly flirty things, I don't know if that's normal. She emphasized that a cake she was making aroused her for instance, and she's told me to come into her room to talk to her when her bathrobe hasn't been properly closed. She isn't jealous is she?", "summary": "GF's mom is going a little nuts, do I stay or do I go? What's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_3u7epj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M23] gf [F21] for 1,5 years has problems with my sexual past", "post": "My girlfriend was a virgin before she met me. From time to time she starts crying and doesnt talk to me. After an hour or two she comes, hugs me and talk about it. She can't stand the idea of me having sex with other women in the time before her. \n\nThere hasn't been many women (3). I talked to her everytime, that these things didn't mean anything and I love her etc, but this topic always comes up from time to time and I got to be honest. It starts annoying me. What do I do reddit? I really want to help her and us.", "summary": "my girlfriend can't stand it, that I habe slept with other women in the time before her"}
{"id": "t3_43f8jr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (43F) husband (46M) is difficult to be around when he is home", "post": "Hi there,\nMy husband is a great guy, for the most part. We've been married for seven years, and together for 16. We are living the dream, have two great kids, all is terrific - except for the actual being at home together part. \n\nHe comes home and shuts down COMPLETELY. Occasionally, he is pleasant to be around but mostly, he is short-tempered, non-communicative and frankly TERRIBLE to be around when he is at home.\n\nI have learned to dread the weekends - he doesn't engage with either me or the kids. Or if he does, it's pretty easy to tell that he'd rather be doing pretty much anything else, even with the kids. The interactions between us are frankly non-existent (I tend to avoid him because chances are it's going to be an unpleasant interaction).\n\nIt gets better if we go skiing but that's about the only activity that brings out his good side.\n\nHow do I cope with this? How can I approach him and let him know how difficult it is being around him when he's in this (seemingly perpetual) bad mood? How do I make him happy? I'm getting really, REALLY sick of constantly walking on eggshells all the time. Any tips would be welcome...", "summary": "husband morphs into a grumpy bear whenever he's home. Don't know how to cope or make him happy."}
{"id": "t3_10oshu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21m) fell for my friend (20f) of 1 year, initiated flirts and response seemed good, then the \"just friends\" card... wut??", "post": "I know it's bad advice to fall for your friend, I don't know what happened, but I did, and I decided to go for it (because life is short right?). We have nothing in common but we enjoy each others company; at least I did, and her smiles when she saw me made me think she is interested\n\nI started touching her lightly, joking about her other guy friends (\"I didn't know you were taken\") she would smile and look me in the eye... and we would stare at each other for quite some time. \n\nMaybe I just saw things I wanted to see, or it's because we knew each other for about a year. But I thought things were going swimmingly\n\nThen her sister, also a friend of mine, tells me she (the girl I like) isn't interested. I tried calling her but her phone was off so I shot her an e-mail saying she could have told me herself....\n\nshe responds that we are just friends and if I wanted something more then she's sorry and she is fine if I don't want to be friends anymore.\n\nI probably lost it at that, since I thought things were going well and probably dropped the ball since I called her like 3 times and she never returned a single call... (yea not doing so hot). I thought she'd at least give me the courtesy of talking with me since I am/was her friend and all. \n\nI'm not sure what to do, do I remain her friend, cut all ties, is there even somewhat of a chance to reignite a romance that was probably just in my head? or what?\n\nalso, by the time I started showing interest, she also befriended some other guy and I would joke around saying \"so is he my competition?\" and she would just laugh and say no...she's been spending time with him which in all honesty got me jealous as hell....", "summary": "I fell in love with a friend of mine for 1 year, she seemed like she was interested as well, then when things seemed to be going great, I get the \"we're just friends, sorry\" line...I'm not sure if I should remain friends or cut her off entirely, or what to do to attract/reattract."}
{"id": "t3_1mwv4k", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "4 year old step-daughter cries whenever she's redirected. Help!", "post": "I have been living with my SO and her daughter for over a year now. The transition was tough, but nothing like some of the horror stories I've heard. She's a really great little girl! She's smart, funny, and caring. We use the old counting to 3 and timeouts. Most of the time all you have to do is warn her that you're going to start counting and she realizes we mean business and gets to doing whatever she's supposed to be doing. We also try to give her choices like \"We're leaving in 10 minutes. Do you want to watch a bit more of your show or read one story before we leave?\".\n\nI should also mention that my GF and I both are involved in the discipline and we really try to work together to parent her daughter. \n\nRecently, she's been getting into the habit of crying whenever we tell her not to do something. She's an extremely sensitive kid. I think she's having a hard time understanding that it's the behavior we don't want - not her. More recently, however, it seems like she's been starting to fake cry when we tell her not to do something. \n\nWhen she seemed genuinely upset after I would tell her not to do something I would offer comfort and explain that we love her and are not mad at her, but there are some things she's not allowed to do. Basically I just try to be understanding while also sticking to my guns.\n\nHas me comforting her sent her the message that if she cries she'll get whatever she wants? We're really at a loss for what to do! Any advice would be hugely appreciated!", "summary": "Step-daughter cries when I tell her not to do something. Sometimes it's because she's upset, but more and more often she's fake crying. How can I get her to stop crying???"}
{"id": "t3_skyrw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I will be graduating high school as well as turning 19 in a few months. I am considering joining the army/navy/air force/or coast guard. I am hoping to find some advice or input from somebody that isn't my 75 year old grandfather.", "post": "I will be graduating at the end of the summer, and my father has just drained my savings for a very expensive wedding ring for his now wife. I will not have a place to go home to after I graduate due to his wife being pregnant. I have not been very fond of the military to be honest. I have little idea what I want to do with my life other than I really want to visit and probably move to Japan. I am good at cooking so I was planning on getting my B.A. in culinary arts, and going with one of those English programs. My fear is (other than I will be shot and killed) that my ability to travel will be hampered by my military past. I wouldn't mind being taught the martial arts and stuff like that, but I truly hate guns. I will answer any other questions you want to know, and I would appreciate anything you may offer me. One last thing is that I did talk to a Marine recruiter, and he told me I needed to lose a lot of weight, but wouldn't return any of my calls or anything later down the road.", "summary": "I am contemplating joining a branch of the army, but am not sold. Any advice on what branch or if I should?"}
{"id": "t3_3bukf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22, M] have trouble talking to and feel left out of activities with my extended family [16-90, M/F] at gatherings. I don't feel comfortable going up to and talking to anyone in my extended family.", "post": "This is my first post, so I apologize if I didn't follow the guidelines on the side bar exactly, and I apologize if this becomes a rant.\n\nHere's my problem. I have a lot of extended family members, and anytime we have a family gathering, I can't strike up a conversation or comment on what is being talked about. Well, I could, but I don't feel close enough with them and I have no reason for that besides my current problem of not being able to muster up something to talk about.\n\n When I think about my cousins and aunts and uncles relationships with each other, they all seem to mesh pretty well like a spiderweb, they seem to enjoy other's company, and they always have something to talk about. When it's just me and one of my family members in a room, it's completely silent. I'm pretty sure they think I'm completely mental...\n\nWhen I was a kid, we would have family gatherings pretty much every month, but as the years went on we just meet for holidays and special occasions and the occasional trip to who-knows-where.\n\nI'm not an anti social person, though. I have a lot of friends who I can always find something to talk about with, and I don't have trouble meeting strangers. I feel so much anxiety just thinking about seeing my family. I'd feel embarrassed if I said something wrong in a conversation with them.\n\nIs there a general way for me to gain confidence around my family? I don't have social media besides reddit, so there isn't a way for me to talk about what's going on in their lives. Is there a way to kind of \"fake\" being not awkward around, in this case, family? How should I approach family who I can't converse with that well?", "summary": "I feel uncomfortable being around and talking to extended family even though I'm not anti social or have a lot of anxiety in the general public. I can never be able to start conversations about relevant stuff with my family."}
{"id": "t3_33ju05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] Just had a first date with a close friend [19 F] who has never kissed a guy, how do I go about the first kiss?", "post": "We've been friends for six months. We're at college, so rooms fifty feet from each other means we've hung out nearly every day for the past several months and were definitely pretty good friends before our first date about three hours ago.\n\nWe do cuddle a lot, so the touch barrier isn't much of a thing, except in public of course.\n\nI've kind of been around the block before her, like double digit partners. She knows about them but my issue is that it's hard to figure out what she might be thinking since she has so much less experience with this type of thing.\n\nAll I can figure out by myself is that I shouldn't rush it, she may end up wanting to stay friends(which would be okay), and judging from my first kiss it should probably be rather quick. The reason being in my experience first kissers don't know what to do with their lips and it can be a little freaky for them. \n\nMy question is, assuming we stay together long enough, how should I go about a girls literal first kiss?", "summary": "How do I give the first kiss to a girl who has literally never kissed someone before?"}
{"id": "t3_hdepy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I just moved back in with my parents, what are things I can acquire or do to not go insane?", "post": "Sorry if this has been asked before (I searched and found nothing).\n\nAnyways, just like the title. What can I buy/acquire or do to help me stay sane while living at home?\n\nLittle more info for those that care: I'm 21, and I just moved back in with my parents (moved out when I was 18). They've been super nice about everything and have given me everything they could. They even put a new floor in my old room for me. \n\nAnyways, I have what I consider the necessities: A bed (although it's old and the slats keep falling out), dresser & wardrobe, a tv. I'm considering the possibility of a mini fridge? Things seem a lot more minimalistic than what I had in my apartment. I do have to share a bathroom with my younger sister (so ideas on dealing with that would be good). \n\nThanks for any advice!", "summary": "What stuff do you own or do that helps you survive at your parents? "}
{"id": "t3_52tvm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my(22M) best friend's(24F) boyfriend(25M) is cheating on her but I don't know how to bring it up to her", "post": "My best friend is madly in love with this guy and I never really liked him but it wasn't my place to tell her how she lived her life. \n\nThe only thing is that right before he started dating my friend, he just got out of a 4 year relationship. He's been caught still texting his ex girlfriend(and lying about it), he likes every single thing that his ex posts on social media, and he's just really weird about who he hangs out with. He hangs out with his old friend group a lot but always says \"oh don't worry, Nicole(the ex) won't be there.\"\n\nThe most suspicious thing was that my friend went on vacation out of the country for a week and her boyfriend wasn't around either. He all of the sudden had all of these \"impromptu errands\" to run in the same area that his ex lives in.\n\nhowever, i'm not going to judge my friend for staying with him after all of this shady stuff happened because I really don't know the nature of their relationship. Maybe they communicate more than what I see, which is why things arent adding up for me.\n\nThe thing is, my best friend and this guy have been dating for over a year now and they live together and i'm really afraid he's been cheating on my friend the entire time. It could just be me being worried about losing touch with my friend in the process but I don't want her to get hurt. I want to open up a dialogue with her and i want to make sure that she feels comfortable and secure in her relationship.\n\nI don't know how to talk to her about it. I've been in a relationship for the last 6 years so I dont want a conversation to come across as \"Hey, I know way more about relationships than you do and i think your relationship sucks\" but I dont want her to get in too deep and feel like shes not good enough.", "summary": "how do I start a conversation that I dont want to have about my friend's shady boyfriend of a very long time."}
{"id": "t3_3t3czg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my now ex boyfriend [19M] of 8 months i love him, i cheated, please help", "post": "I cheated on my now ex boyfriend. I was drunk and we had many issues such as him lying about his drug abuse problem, and I thought i wanted something that i wasnt in a spot where my boyfriend was rejecting my help constantly and yelling at me when he couldnt get a fix. I love him so much but i was drunk and i cheated. He is obviously very angry and i dont blame him but we had issues and i did try to end it multiple times, all these times we just crawled back to eachother. we are taking a year break to see where we go. How do i get over this and what the hell do i do.", "summary": "cheated on the only person i love, taking a year break"}
{"id": "t3_4xlwg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31m) fiance (29f) of 4 years wants to cancel our wedding (3 weeks away) because she is too fat.", "post": "So I know Reddit is a minefield when it comes to overweight women. My fiance, Jess, is overweight. She has been since I've known her. I would say that when we met she was 5'0 and 220, and she has been steadily losing weight since the wedding plans were being set. \n\nShe has been working hard all year to lose weight. MyFitnessPal, weight lifting, cardio kickboxing classes, all of it. We never ate very unhealthy to begin with, but we are big drinkers, so we cut alcohol down significantly. \n\nOur wedding is in 3 weeks. She came home sobbing from her final dress fitting, and started begging me to cancel the wedding. She said that she is too fat to be a wife, that she looks disgusting in her dress, she doesn't want me to see her, that she feels like a troll, and that she is embarrassed to let me walk down the aisle with a fat girl. Right now she is out at the park with the dog doing laps. \n\nMy heart is breaking over this. I think she looks amazing. I thought she looked great when we met -- obviously, I fell in love with her. It's not like I'm a body builder Chad type with bulging muscles, either. I'm fit, but not muscular, and I have honestly never been one to care about a girl's size when it comes to this stuff. And it's not like she's still 220. Her MFP app has her last weigh-in at 140. \n\nI don't know what to do or how to help. I asked her maid of honor what to do, and she didn't know. But I know we cannot cancel this wedding (so many people are coming in from out of town already), we cannot change anything. \n\nWhat do I do to help her?", "summary": "Fiance wants to cancel the wedding because she thinks she is too fat. I don't know how to help her. She has lost a lot of weight and had her final fitting for her dress and she feels awful."}
{"id": "t3_woqlb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After seeing \"the process of regret\" thread, I wonder, what's the worst thing you have drunken or eaten?", "post": "When I was about 12 years old I had a birthday party and my dad decided the boys were old enough to play a big kid game. So he lays out a deck of cards and tells the first person to make a concoction of any drinkable items they want, it can be as disgusting or delicious as they want (definitely more fun if you go for disgusting). whoever draws the lowest card is required to drink the drink, only downside is the person who makes the drink is also able to pull lowest card and might have to drink their own creation. Fastforward to my turn, I try to make the most vile thing I can think of....consisting of pickle juice, jalapeno juice, jalapeno seeds, vinegar, a raw egg, hot sauce, mustard, milk, and orange juice. Well whadayaknow? I pull the lowest card and am sentenced to this punishment I brought upon myself. I take one giant gulp to try and down it as fast I can...bad idea...I throw up more violent and fiercer than I ever have before.", "summary": "played game at birthday party, made disgusting drink, had to drink it and threw up the characters of family guy when they tried ipecac. \"Cue cutscene.\""}
{"id": "t3_1ssboy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] met a few days ago, was drunk and all over her last night", "post": "So I met my friend (we'll call her Felicity) a few days ago through another friend, they live in the same building, I was invited around to drink before we go out to the club, we did that got there and for the first hour it was fine but I guess I drank a bit too much. I turned to my  friend and said, I want to get with Felicity should I do it. And he said yes you go do that and so I took her to the side, bought her a few drinks started kissing making out all that stuff, I ended up following her around for the whole night. She got to me smoke, I don't smoke, I was all over her. I feel like I probably harassed her the whole night and made her feel uncomfortable. So I'm pretty confused not sure what to think, also sent some drunk text saying she's amazing and that I want to wait for her, I don't remember this.", "summary": "I spent most of the night at the club with my friend and I was all over her, I think I made her feel uncomfortable although I can't remember. Not sure what to think"}
{"id": "t3_o16t9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "NYC urinating in public", "post": "So I'm in NYC.. I went to a concert on NYE, and as I was heading to the venue with friends. We got kind of lost and wind up unknowingly walking through the projects. My friend goes down an alley to go take a piss and i'm standing next to a dumpster allegedly committing the same offense according to police. \n\nI'm standing there, on my cell phone showing no sign of urinating. I turn around and walk past the alley where my friend is and all of a sudden i hear a voice from the distance, and I turn around to see a few police officers walking from the street a good 30 feet away. They ask if we were just taking a piss and i don't even have time to answer before they take our IDs and walk off leaving us with a couple other officers. Not to mention one guy pulls up in a fucking taxi cab that was an undercover police car.\n\nAnyway, we don't even have a chance to plead our case, and to be frank we don't really bother because we know it's a lost cause. They tell us how we're walking through the projects and that we were putting ourselves in danger and all this crap because they heard gunshots earlier. Meanwhile we're standing there for about 15 minutes like sitting ducks with the other officers who are extremely on edge and jumping at any noise while this officer who disappeared is writing out citations. They play it off like it's nothing and say we can pay it online for $25.\n\nI get home and here I have a citation that makes no mention of paying online, and simply says to plead guilty you have to appear at the court date shown on the front, or to plead not guilty you must send it in before 48 hours is up and await a court date to arrive in the mail.", "summary": "Cops think they see me urinating in public NYE from far away and blocked view. Issue bogus $25 fine that I can't pay online like they said. Should i fight it?"}
{"id": "t3_305ko8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slapping my friend's behind and leaving my mark", "post": "I [M] was with a friend [F] at school. We have this joke where we put chalk on our hands and leave hand marks on each other's backs (and sometimes yell \"The Hand of Saruman lolololol\").\n\nToday she tried to leave a mark on my thigh, but I turned around at the last minute and she ended up leaving it on my bum. I thought no biggie and messed around with her for touching me inappropriately. We got a few chuckles out of it. Here's where I messed up. She was wearing black pants, so I thought it'd be a great opportunity to reciprocate what she did earlier. I covered my hand in chalk and just as she turned around I slapped the hell out of her behind. The scandalized look she gave me through the cloud of chalk that was floating around... She's a bit of a shy person and clearly (and rightfully) felt violated by it. I later apologized a couple times and she brushed it off like it was no big deal, but that face she made is just stuck in my mind. I didn't think before acting and now I feel like I violated her intimacy somehow, especially since she never had a boyfriend before.", "summary": "Slapped my friends behind, created the most perfect Hand of Saruman in Middle Earth's history"}
{"id": "t3_2vcqwb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] might have a stalker from tinder [25 M] since I added him to skype.", "post": "So I have always had terrible self esteem, and just recently my bf of 4 years and I broke up. \n\nI join tinder, because I have been curious about the app and knowing how it works, I wanted to see if the people I found attractive found me attractive. Success, they do. \n\nAlthough I kind of was just there for the confidence, I added some of the people to Skype and once one of them wants to take me out for coffee I leave it at a maybe and forget to log into Skype again for a long time, especially since I really wasn't interested in meeting them at all and am repulsed by the thought of another relationship. \n\nOne of the dudes, a week ago, found and kept checking my LinkedIn page every other day (nothing really bothersome here, he knows my name), then tries to add me to FB twice, recently wrote to my Other inbox on FB, and what has now made me seriously uncomfortable is that he managed to get my work email to my new job I haven't told anyone about (but you can find me on the employee page), saying he doesn't want to be creepy but he really still wants to be friends. \n\nAs well as spamming me on my Skype account, apparently which I logged into just to check. Lots of talking about how he is here to talk if I need to (I mentioned I have depression), insists on giving me both his phone numbers, then types in all caps PLEASE COME BACK ONLINE, TALK TO ME I AM TOO LAZY TO FIND OUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER TO TEXT YOU\n\nMy question is, how do I in the best way possible tell him to leave me alone if he continues? Considering he has gone as far as finding out my work email and daring to write me there, I don't want to tell him to fuck off with the chance that he may be crazy enough to try and keep this up or worse.", "summary": "add some guys from tinder to skype after breakup for confidence boost, log off skype for a month once they want to actually meet (cuz i am honestly not interested), one guy stalks my online profiles and work email, want advice on how to tell him to leave me alone if this keeps up."}
{"id": "t3_2y2lrz", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Resentment over dog's injury", "post": "Ok so the dog in question is 11 years old. I got her when I (25F) was 14 and she was 7 months from a rescue. She is the best dog I've ever known. She's a Brittany/Lab mix at 30 lbs. She's seen me and been there for me through a lot. I know my resentment is unfair and this person would really be heart broken learn that I felt this way.\n\nThis dog lives with my mom and step dad. They were out one day for longer than they thought and called me to let her out. Since weekends for them usually consist of doctor appointments I'm always happy to play with our little girl. Being 11 she's always been able to hide her age so well. She's went camping just last year and was ahead of us! Ugh this is hard to write...\n\n Well I get there with my SO (29M) and she's acting completely normal. Happy, jumping to greet us, and runs to the back door. I also have to go to the bathroom so I ask him to let her out. He accompanies her outside to play. In the meantime I check her water and food, see if she's had her medicine today. I hear her running and romping through the yard. They come back in and my SO days that she's limping and she was. Her back left hip seemed to hurt. My parents took her to the vet and they have her anti inflammatory medicine and she seemed to improve. It's been a while and she's just seeming older and older. Still limping and hobbling around. When I see her limp I can't help but blame my SO. I feel like he pushed her too hard even though I know that's not true. He was beside himself and was scared my parents would be mad at him. Maybe if I had gone out there instead them she wouldn't be limping and in pain. \n\nI know it's not fair and I know that these are terrible thoughts. I just feel so sad. My great grandma just died and I was waiting for that call.. now I'm waiting for another telling me my precious girl is gone. How do I let go of these resentful feelings and accept that she is just getting older?", "summary": "resent so for playing with my dog when she came in limping."}
{"id": "t3_3cqxid", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing potatoes at my neighbors and getting arrested", "post": "Exactly what the title says. Here's the backstory: I made a bet with reddit if this post ( was to make front page of /r/showerthoughts, I would throw potatoes at my\nmy neighbors. You can find that comment if you scroll down a tad bit.\n\nAfter exiting the store with a singular bag of potatoes, I proceeded to enter my car, mounted my camera in a good spot and drove to my neighborhood. First victim, a good friend of mine, I promptly said \"I'm sorry I lost a bet\" and threw a potato right at him, and this continued for a few more streets, just assaulting people \nwith potatoes, the majority of them thought it was rather funny that I had to do this because of a bet. About 10 minutes in, I heard a police siron, and yep, it was coming for me. I got pulled over, and taken in for little bit, explaining to the officer what reddit had made me do. I was released after a few neighbors told them their side of the story. They took my camera while searching the car for any drugs that I might've been on. I later found out the only reason they came for me because a woman was watching me do the deed and thought I was mentally ill. I think I am.", "summary": "I lost a bet with reddit, had to throw potatoes at people, got arrested for it"}
{"id": "t3_4567c5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34 M] am having a mental breakdown/performance anxiety, advice?", "post": "Been married for about 8 years, about a year ago I had a episode of whiskey dick as everyone has had at one time. \n\nWife freaks the hell out. Now i have the issue of being worried about getting up which prevents me from getting up on occasion.\n\nWife cheats on me, we go separate ways.\n\nAttempting new relationship same shit. I know its all in my head. But i can't seem to shake this. I really need some help here, I've already lost the love of my life over something silly as this and I know I'm not broken I just need to get right in my head.\n\nI really need a solution.", "summary": "Can't get it up, all in my head / help me get my mind right"}
{"id": "t3_2mktrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Brother's (28m) girlfriend (32ish?) girlfriend is an awful woman. How do I stop the racist/homophobic comments at family gatherings?", "post": "Update: Thanks, everyone. You totally called me out on what was making me so uncomfortable about this situation - that by not saying anything, I have become complicit. Our family has created an environment where she feels comfortable spewing hate. This Christmas could be interesting. \n\nI (33f) am not overly close with my youngest brother, so this is not some weird protective sister thing. He has utterly terrible taste in women. The last one had some other guy's kid while she was with him. This new one has been around for 18-ish months now. He has totally burned bridges with our other two siblings over her. He is stubborn as shi* and this is what he has decided, so this post isn't about breaking them up. It's his life, so whatever. \n\nI have a hard time with the fact that she is strongly racist and homophobic. At family gatherings we have heard such pearls as \"dirty ragheads\", \"black people aren't welcome where I come from\", and \"marriage is between a man and a woman the way God meant it.\" More horrifying is now hearing my brother spewing this crap. I have never been around someone so ignorant and nasty. So far I've just dealt by changing the topic very quickly. Christmas is coming up again and this is going to be a problem. I don't want to start a brawl at a family function, but can anyone suggest tactful ways to shut this down?", "summary": "My brother's gf is an outspoken racist and homophobe. How to shut this down without causing a scene at family events?"}
{"id": "t3_203p9g", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[26/m] I have never had a girlfriend and I'm interested in dating a girl at my job. I would truly appreciate your ideas about what to do....", "post": "The last few years I haven't dated anyone. At the beginning of college I dated a couple girls but things never advanced from that. After that I decided to focus in other stuff even if I wanted to date. (probably out of fear and a growing shame of not having a girlfriend and comparing myself with more successful people). So my experience is almost nonexistent.\n\nAt the beginning of this year I decided I want things to change as I know if I never act I'll be in this situation forever but I don't know what to do. \n\nI'm in good terms with her [24/f], she seems to enjoy talking to me and from her approaches I think she might be a bit interested but I have no idea where to go from here as I have avoided most of my life thinking about it so I'm feeling very lost.", "summary": "I know nothing but want to learn and need some help."}
{"id": "t3_wdbpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Really need advice keeping our relationship alive over long distance.", "post": "I think the title gets down to it. My girlfriend (22) and I (23) have been dating for 2.5 years now, and this is our first long distance span. We've been going to college together our whole relationship, and now she is back home before she goes to master school (I'm still finishing up my degree).  We both are very committed to each other and where our relationship is going, but things have been rough with the distance. \n\nWe both have never had to deal with distance before, and we both don't know how to handle it after being on the same campus together this whole time. Now that we're far apart all we can do is call, text, and the occasional Skype. Even when we have these talks we're usually tense and argue an unconventional amount (for us). She's far enough away that by the time I get off work it's too late to drive down for a day visit. Also, since we're both very busy it's hard to plan weekends to see each other. \n\nI try to stay optimistic, but she says she feels emotionally distant with all of my reassurance. I dont know what to do, and I'm scared the distance might ruin us.", "summary": "Distance is hurting our relationship despite a great 2.5 years. Not sure how to reassure her."}
{"id": "t3_23txr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (20/m) stop feeling like a failure because of this?", "post": "I've never been in a relationship, not even a casual one, and have had almost no experience/success with the opposite sex.\n\n Im fit and well groomed/dressed, have a decent amount of confidence,  plenty of friends, a good job, etc. So im generally happy with my life, except for my love/sex life, because its nonexistent.\n\n I can safely blame part of that on the fact that im really introverted so it can be hard for me to meet new people, especially women, and another big reason is because I work in a completely male dominated profession and I live far away from any family/relatives, so my entire social circle is 100% dudes.\n\nBut it seems like the more time that passes, the lonelier I get, and the more frustrated I become at myself. Everyone else maakes it seem easy, so what the hell am *I* doing wrong? I decided to make an okcupid account to try out online dating, but 6 months later, still no dice. The most that has come out of that is me being stood up for a coffee date. \n\nI've only been on one date in my life, and while I thought it went really well (it seemed like we were really hitting it off, and she even started full blown making out with me at her doorstep), I never heard back from her again, no idea why. The fact that I've had literally *no* success with relationships or women before makes me feel really shitty about myself, especially when other people talk about their own stories, and makes me feel like I'm somehow not good enough, which is a pretty shitty thing to be feeling every now and then.\n\n I really just want to feel desired/loved for once. I got real tired of this whole lack of any intimacy in my life whatsoever thing a long time ago. Even just a simple hug would make me happier right now, but even that seems unattainable. I don't know what to do Reddit. I mean shit, I would get a dog or something but that isn't possible where I live.", "summary": "Have never had a girlfriend or any success with dating. Thats really the only area of my life im not happy with, but at this point I get regular bouts of loneliness and feel like a failure in this aspect of my life because of it.  Not really sure how to get off this path."}
{"id": "t3_yfyv1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone coming to Martha's Vineyard from the Southern CT area in the next week?", "post": "I have a package that was supposed to be delivered today, that I intended on bringing when we came to the vineyard. The problem is that we left for the Vineyard a few hours before it arrived (we had to make the ferry). \nI can arrange for a family member to retrieve the package, but I would need someone to bring the package to the Vineyard.\nIt would be great if someone could help, but it is nothing that someone would have to go out of their way for. \nThe package is a few knick nacks I bought and you can play a game with them, B-Daman, if you have heard of them. I ordered them a few weeks ago and have been waiting awhile.", "summary": "There is a package in the southern part of Ct , and I need it brought from there to Martha's Vineyard in the next week."}
{"id": "t3_3xehqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my _\"Friend\"__ [22 F] 1 year, Conflicted. Need more woman help but men help too.", "post": "I am going to try and make this as simple and as short as possible but it might be hard. Please just give no judgement and look at it from both sides. \n\nTo start, a while back, I had a good circle of friends and we grew up together. Really nice. As I hit near 16, I noticed they were kinda dropping off the map and felt bad. Eventually,feeling like crap every day, I just stopped caring. I thought it was my fault., \n\nWell I grew up towards college years. Eventually met someone mutually who I was going to be at school with. We kinda were odd with each other at the start as we knew nothing about one another, but learned. She was nice and helpful and was interested in me (guessing platonic but other things did happen I noticed). Well I kinda acted bad to her in that I was angry,anxious, upset and she was confused by it. I later figured out I had depression and then was sorry to her and we still remained together, she was agitated but willing to help.She came back for me multiple times and I asked if she was okay and she came right over once too as she had an issue of her own. IE we stick up for each other. She opened up about her own personal life and past. I started to see her show signs of interest which are debatable but a good chance. \n\nNow I have improved and for a while things were getting better. Later on with it being recent, this event happens where according to other women, she was rude and it was wrong of her to be like that to me. It was uncalled for but she still talks to me. Totally happy with each other. Other friends came back but it eventually too but it sucks with what happened with them and it is my own . \n\nI am at a point where I dont know if she likes me other than romantically and im kinda confused with all the other events with what to do. Its not everyday thing and we seem compatible. However, I feel a bit anxious and tense about her with what I had.I definitely want to talk to her and stay on good terms, but, things that happened before get to me.", "summary": "Really like a girl for her help but stuck with some things. Need advice"}
{"id": "t3_1b83kx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (22 M) doesn't seem to be interested in having sex with me (20 f) how do talk to him about it without hurting either of our egos?", "post": "So me and Boyfriend have been together two years now, and have been living together since November. At the beginning of our relationship, just like any other young couple, we were having sex all the time. Not obnoxiously or anything but every night (maybe more than once a night). I'm not an unrealistic woman, and I understood that kind of heat would not last forever but now, two years later... we've had sex twice the past two weeks... and that was on the same day because the first time didn't really.. work out. \n\nI've tried talking to him about it before but it just makes him upset because he thinks it means I'm unsatisfied with the relationship, which I'm not. I love him and am perfectly happy with most other aspects of the relationship. I just want to be intimate and make love. I want to feel sexy and attractive which I am not feeling anymore. I feel insecure about my body constantly now because he just can't seem to get excited about it anymore. I feel ashamed to even change in front of him. Which sounds completely asinine, I know, but it does make me self conscious.\n\nI've also tried the alternative to talking and just kind of going for it. Today for instance, I was in my undies and a t-shirt when he came home and started kissing him and he wanted to nap since he just got off from work. So, okay, I let him rest. Then I started at it again and he wanted to shower. I feel like I'm just completely being blown off and I don't know why... I've tried this in the past as well and it just makes me not want to even initiate anything sexual because it really pains me to be turned away by the person I love..  it's been a week since we've had sex. Jeeze... I'm just frustrated.\n\nLong story short... how do I bring this up to him again without sounding mean or feeling like I'm pressuring and attacking him...", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are only having sex once (or less) a week. Have tried talking about it and just going for it and nothing seems to make a difference. Happy relationship. Dating 2 years"}
{"id": "t3_333w83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it time for me (24 F) to stop being friends with my ex?", "post": "We broke up ages ago, but we stayed friends. My and his now ex girlfriend don't get along.  They stayed friends as well and when we try to hang out he always wants to invite her and it turns into a mess. \n\nHim and I were good friends even before we dated and we've been friends since we broke up. This chick is crazy and obsessive and because of her our friendship has been really shaky. \n\nI've know the guy for so long and he's 1 of 4 friends I have. I really don't want to loose his friendahip.... but I also can't keep dealing with the drama. What else can I do?", "summary": "I stayed friends with my ex and now I'm questioning the friendship"}
{"id": "t3_46ox4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15M] found my biological parents and want to meet them", "post": "I've always known I was adopted. My parents told me I was adopted from Russia and that no one knows my biological parents, but I found out that was a lie a year ago. I was born in the United States.\n\nI spent some time researching, and I found the address and number of my biological mother, but not my biological father. I called her phone, and she answered, but I didn't say anything. She lives in the mid-west, and I'm in New York, so I'll probably not get to visit her. I want to find out who she is. I don't have any motivation for it except that we share DNA, so I guess I want to know who she is and what she's like. \n\nI don't know if I should tell my adopted parents that I found out that I'm not from Russia (though my biological mom is Russian, and I look Russian, so I see how that was convincing) and that I know the identity of my biological mom.", "summary": "Found my biological mom and want to meet her but don't know how to tell my parents or if I should at all."}
{"id": "t3_378irm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(ex)SO (30m) and I (25f) broke up 2 months ago after 2 years together. Confused about our current dynamics.", "post": "He broke up with me. We work together but on separate floors. After the breakup, we just said hi to each other and exchanged a few emails. Nothing big. Just pleasantries.\n\nI went back home and when I returned, he asked if we could get dinner to catch up. We did. Since then, we've been on walks and have been kind of hanging out at work. I asked him if he wanted to go somewhere with me this upcoming weekend and he said yes. He asked if I wanted to get coffee this morning and I said yes.\n\nWe've been emailing more regularly. I like having him in my life. I'm just worried that we're both keeping each other around for the wrong reasons. I think he's afraid of me moving on even though he was the one that wanted to break up. I'm afraid that his presence in my life is more comforting than it should be now that we're no longer a couple.", "summary": "Ex and I have been hanging out. Confused."}
{"id": "t3_3ixwp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] mom [50F] has trouble letting me go, I can't deal with it.", "post": "My mom got my brother when she was 21, before that she only worked for 3 years. She decided to stay at home, while my dad earned good money. When my brother was 11, she got me. She never got a real job since the birth of my brother, apart from voluntary work at my brother's kindergarden, as she loves kids. In fact, she didn't want to work, she wanted to be a housewife, care for me and my brother as well as possible, and there is nothing wrong with that at all! \n\nNow, I graduated in June and now I'll start university in October. I'm moving out of my parents' house and into an apartment about 1 hour away from my parents, I'm planing on coming home every other weekend or so, though. The main problem is that she doesn't have any hobbies, almost no friends and no job. My mom basically made it her mission in life to care for me. My dad works during the week until 6 and on the weekends they usually stay home and do nothing. \n\nNaturally, she can't deal with me moving out. She gets really upset when I decline her offers e.g. to pick me up from places where I normally walk home from, and she's constantly texting me when I'm not home. Recently my parents were on vacation, she still couldn't stop sending me messages asking what I had for dinner, what I am doing and stuff like that. It's getting worse and worse. \n\nI'm feeling extremely uncomfortable, as I can't wait to move out and be independent. When I kindly tell her to stop caring too much about me, she gets extremely upset. I have no idea what to do. I can't deal with her being so clingy and I'm sure it will get so much worse once I'm not living at home anymore.", "summary": "My mom can't deal with the fact that I'm moving out, as she has been a stay at home mom basically all her life."}
{"id": "t3_27j0l4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Old Mistake, Still Haunting Me", "post": "When I was 16 I (female) ended up becoming friends with a male teacher (we will call him Marvin). Marvin and I clicked for some reason I don't understand, but we became close friends. Every now and then we forayed into the realm of more than friends (only after I graduated). I went on to college, he stayed in our hometown, we kept in touch. He was always the type of person to drop everything to help me (probably all his friends, but I didn't really know them). So when I got a concussion he drove up to my college and took me to the hospital. It was pretty bad, but once they released me I went home with him. The next night we ended up at the hospital because things got worse. It was a little like being drunk in the sense of losing all filtering ability. So when we were at the hospital I told him I didn't want anything to happen between us in bed. Well it did. I didn't say no. It dawned on me a few days later that the whole situation was thoroughly fucked. We tried to stay friends, it didn't work. We've spoken once since we had one last blow out over the whole thing. I told him I didn't hold it against him, which is true. My bad decision is no one else's fault. My husband, who I have been dating since shortly after the concussion hates him. Out of respect for my husband, I maintain no contact. But sometimes, when I feel really dissatisfied with life, I wonder about Marvin. It is super unhealthy, and I wish I didn't, but I feel as if I can't help it. I want to know that he is doing well and is happy. I guess in some ways I want to just catch up with Marvin. But I would never risk my marriage, I love my husband way too much, so I don't. It's dumb, but I had a dream last night where I called Marvin and he answered with telling me he missed me a lot, and I've just been feeling fucked ever since.", "summary": "I am an idiot"}
{"id": "t3_2nz8zw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How Can I Increase My Total Annual Income?", "post": "Hi PF, I am a 22 year old chemical engineer. Here is the basic overview of my financial situation currently in my life:\n\nRent: $190  \nPhone: $70  \nInternet: $25  \nElectric: ~$35  \nCC: $60  \nCar Insurance: $65  \nGas: $200  \nFood:$120  \nTotal Loans: $0  \n\nTotal Bills: ~$765 Per Month\n\nI just accepted a job offer that will be paying me $58,000 to start, with a raise after a 6 month evaluation. It is salary and I am paid Bi-weekly (Not sure if relevant or not). I always pay the current balance due on my credit card so that I never pay interest. I have always paid my bills on time and see no reason why I wouldn't in the future. I have an emergency savings account which has ~$2,000 in it currently. I am already starting to boost that to about 6 months' worth of my total monthly bills and then not touch it. I also plan to max out my Roth IRA contribution for next year.\n\nMy Question:\n\nWhat can I do now as an investment move that would increase that $58,000 per year to say, $75,000 per year? Or even $65,000? I am very good about doing my homework before making any type of investment. I have considered investing in houses that could be flipped in a couple years from now, as well as one day buying a piece of property and building my own storage unit business. But what are some other things that someone in my situation could get into right now to boost up that annual income? Thanks a lot.", "summary": "Just received large increase in my annual income, how can I increase it even more?"}
{"id": "t3_3sx91n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm an apprentice, how can I save?", "post": "I work at a cinema, I'm 17 and in the UK. I earn \u00a35.20 an hour and I get a minimum of 16 hours (not enough to live on) and a maximum of 30 hours. \n\nI currently still live with my parents, they don't charge me for rent, but rightly so, anything I want, be it food for work or games, travel etc. Theyll make me pay.\n\nI currently have about \u00a3300 in my bank, that's it. I have a student rail-card, entitling me to cheaper fares but I still have to pay about \u00a33.45-\u00a35.00. \n\nThere are times that I am working before 10 am, which doesnt allow me to use my rail card, meaning it costs \u00a37.30 for a return ticket from my home to work.\n\nI'm on this apprenticeship for 2 years, I just started in September. Perks are free cinema tickets and 40% off food and drink, but its not financially beneficial or worth mentioning really..\n\nBasically, what can I do to save more? I get paid every 2 weeks, and I used to put \u00a320 in an envelope to save up, but I had to use that \u00a320 because my debit card broke one time, so now I don't have any left aside. \n\nPeople do laugh at my stupidly low wages, others call me stupid or say it was a mistake for working there..", "summary": "I am 17 and work 30 hours a week, \u00a35.20 an hour, for 2 years. How can I save and stuff? It's my first proper job. "}
{"id": "t3_nvg90", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I just had a debate with my mum that thinks that when I am her age I will be out of sync with technology. What are your thoughts reddit?", "post": "So I consider myself to be quite the geek, I recently assembled my first computer not too long ago, I play too many video games and am learning how to get around different DAWs such as Cubase and Logic. My mum is adamant that when I grow up the more urgent things in life will take my interest and time away from technology, and that my future children will laugh as much as I do at her when she is confronted with a computer. I understand where she's coming from, but I just can't see it happening.\n\nYoung redditors, do you see yourself losing touch with modern technology as you grow older? Older redditors, are you proof that this is not the case?", "summary": "Mum thinks I will suck at computers when I'm older, is this true?"}
{"id": "t3_3bkgv5", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "New homeowners and we actually care about our floors now!", "post": "We trained our 5 year old frenchie to use wee wee pads in the apartment. Its destroyed the linoleum beneath the pads (whatever, we've kissed our deposit goodbye a while ago!). \n\nNow were moving into a home with lots of rugs and wood floors. I can only imagine how fast her pee will destroy the wood floors. We havent moved yet, but I'm thinking ahead. \n\nWe will have a small yard, is it possible to train her to go outside 100% of the time? Is there an indoor alternative that catches all the pee and wont destroy our new beautiful floors? \n\nOf the entire home buying process, this is stressing me out the most.", "summary": "I need clean alternatives to an already wee wee pad trained frenchie."}
{"id": "t3_ike44", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Askreddit can you help me get over my fear of finding a job?", "post": "I was let go from my job, which I thought was going to be my career, 2 years and 4 months ago due to a downsizing of the company. Since then I haven't looked for a job even though I've told others I have. I had a lot saved up so there was no desperation to find a job. I have done next to nothing. I have read a lot of novels, watched movies, spent time online and Reddit. \n\nI'm 28 years old! and live off the kindness of my parents, who are close to retiring. I feel guilty of taking advantage and they are too kind to kick me out. In truth I just think I need a really good *kick* in the ass and a sound sobering wake up call. I just got one today when I realized that in a few months I would be broke. \n\nYet *every time* I look for a job my hands get sweaty, my heart beats faster and I get light headed. So I just stop. I guess I *really* dislike the idea of being stuck in a job I hate, yet needed. The answer is probably \"find a job you like\", but reality is setting in and I need a job soon ... preferably one in the field I started and studied on. \n\nEveryone goes through this life crisis at least once in their life and I'm having a difficult time with it. I just need a little help Askreddit, can you give me some advice? or inspirational words? ... anything", "summary": "I'm a man child and I need to man up"}
{"id": "t3_3c513k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19 M] with my gf [19 F] for a year, recently annoyed by her past", "post": "So I recently found out my gf, who was a virgin before me, gave a bj before I met her when she was 15 in 9th grade to a classmate with a gf she only got with a few times. She didn't let him, or anyone else after him till me do anything to her, and didn't give a bj again till me.\n\nIt hardly bothered me at first (probably a shitty bj anyway!) but recently it's been bothering me a lot. I understand it's the past and I shouldn't be annoyed, but I can't stop thinking about it for the past week, and don't want to think of her differently. Any words of advice as to how to get past this and be less judgemental of her, as I really do like her, will help", "summary": "help me stop being immature"}
{"id": "t3_yp9ly", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Went through a rough break-up, how do I move on?", "post": "I[25] recently went through a break-up with a girl[19] I had been dating for a year and a half. I've dated other girls for longer, but none ever meant so much to me as this one. She broke it off because she said I was too much like her father, as in controlling. She got fed up with me asking where she was if I hadn't heard from her or calling to see how she was while she was hanging out with friends. Basically, she broke up with me(at least as I see it) for caring. She has a lot of issues on her own though, mostly relating to her father.\n\nAnyway, this has left me emotionally crushed. I've never cried from a break-up before, but I've been crying and throwing up for a few days now. I invested more of myself than I ever have. How am I possibly supposed to move on from this? Everyone keeps telling me this is a good thing, and that I'll find someone better. I wanted to marry this girl.\n\nHas anyone else ever gone through a break-up like this? Does it actually get better? Right now I feel like I don't have anything to offer the next person. If I gave everything I had to this girl and she does this, how am I supposed to look forward to the next? A friend told me it was an experience to learn from, but I can't see what I learned. Don't give them my all? Remain closed up and detached? How am I supposed to put myself out there again? Not to mention that I'm starting a new job that is basically all guys; I don't even know where to try and meet some one. I've always dated co-workers or friends of friends.", "summary": "How do I emotionally put myself out there again for the next girl to come along after being so hurt by this one?"}
{"id": "t3_42pyfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) just broke up with my bf (22M) and am so hurt", "post": "I've (23F) been with my bf (22M) for about 1.5 years and we just broke up. We've been having a rocky few months and have been fighting, breaking up, making up and falling in love over and over again. I was hurt already because a part of me felt like he didn't truly love me. I tried to tell him so many times and he didn't do much. \n\nToday he left his iPad at my place and I went through it , I know it's terrible and not sure why I did it. Well I didn't find anything about him cheating and I knew I wouldn't. But I did find where he continuously vented to his mom about me and our relationship. He told her details of our personal fights and constantly asked her advice. I'm not saying this is wrong but it was to the point where he could call me a crazy b... He also had told his dad about a beautiful woman he had briefly talked to and his dad egged him on to talk to her. <-- this part especially upset me and made me feel betrayed. \n\nWell I decided to break up with him bc of How hurt we both are and I don't see it getting any better. I've told him to work on things so many times and he fails to communicate properly and do so. I still love him so much and would do anything for it to work but I'm hurt, very hurt and I can't anymore. \n\nI'm not saying he's 100% at fault at all I realize I've done things to break us apart but I do love him and he makes me feel at home and safe. I want to be together but I don't think I can anymore, I don't think I want to be in love with him anymore.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "my bf and I just broke up after having many issues and I snooped around in his iPad and got upset. I love him and I'm sad but think it's best..I'm very confused."}
{"id": "t3_3klvxv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the mobile LinkedIn app", "post": "I am just starting to look for a new job and have been following a nearby company that looks like a good possibility. The manager for the department I'd be working in is also on LinkedIn and seems pretty awesome from his profile. I applied to a job there a couple of days ago but haven't heard anything and I was perusing LinkedIn to see if I could get an introduction from a shared connection. Clicked the Connect button thinking it would open a new page asking me where I know the guy from. NOPE! Invitation sent?! Why? In my horror, I found a page where it had a person with a plus icon that was filled in. Hooray, this uninvite button will save me, I thought. NOPE! Second invitation sent...", "summary": "Assumed the UI would prevent me from looking like a stalker; ended up looking like a stalker."}
{"id": "t3_33opbu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Stalker-ish guy has my SIN and other info. Should I be worried?", "post": "I was looking for an apartment in a new (US) city, and through some new friends I met a guy who was just moving into an apartment and had a spare room.  We got along well and after I helped him move in, he offered me the spare room.\n\nWhich was all well and good for a few hours, until it became clear something was off.  I had a new place within a few days.  It turns out this guy had broken up with ex, been bitter and went back to his hyper-conservative gay-hating family who had rejected/disowned him when he married the ex, and he and the family decided to punish the ex.  The whole thing is a twisted family web, and I stepped into the middle of it. \n\nIt turns out that his ex looked just like me, similar mannerisms, same herritage, and my roomate's rage against his ex seemed to be matched by some amount of guilt over what had happened.  I feel sorry for his situation, he's been through a lot, and it's an almost Shakespearean story when told in full.  But like many of Shakespeares' memorable characters, this guy was also batshit insane, unpredictable, vindictive.  I had no relationship with this guy (and am straight to boot), but he was very obsessed, angry, wouldn't take no, and kept trying to track me down.  \n\nThing is, on my last day there, while I was out he went through all my stuff to get info about me.  And months after I left, I didn't get a tax form from my work, and it turned out that I had given them his address because it was within those 4 days I was at the guy's place.  \n\nThere's a lot more, but essentially he has a history of being both obsessive and vindictive, and he has my info.  Should I be worried, and is there anything I can do?", "summary": "my gay doppelganger set me up.  "}
{"id": "t3_2xj5nu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By putting a condom in a rubbish bin.", "post": "So, like all TIFU's this didn't happen today, but two days ago... close enough. I was at my girlfriend place, her mum is away on a girls weekend so only her dad and sister were home. Keep in mind we're frisky uni students, taking every opportunity we have. Her dad was at a school reunion that night and her sister was out doing something else.\n\nWhilst alone, as normal things began to heat up. However, it's 'her time of the month.' She suggests that if I put a condom on she would give me a BJ. So I chucked it on and the magic began to happen. However, about 3 minutes in her dad texts her telling her that he is 5 minutes away from home. She immediately tells me we need to stop and to dispose of the condom. So I take off my hooded jacket and she gives me the wrapper to put in the bin. Being the dumbass I am, I go to the bathroom and throw the wrappers in the bin there, leaving them at the top of the bin not giving it a second thought.\n\nLater that night, I get a text while driving home from her, stating \"Dad just put something in the bin, so he probably saw. FML.\" At this point I was freaking out at the thought my girlfriends dad now knows I get up to stuff with his daughter, in his own house. To make it even worse, he approached her in the morning and says \"Uriamuthrowaway's a good guy to you.\"", "summary": "Put a condom wrapper in the bin at my girlfriends place, her father saw it later that night"}
{"id": "t3_sexoi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I stay a virgin?", "post": "I was raised in an Episcopalian home and attended a Born-Again camp for seventeen years of my life.  These both instilled the idea in me that I should save my virginity for marriage.  Even after I gave up Christianity and became an atheist after that, I kept the idea that I should save myself.  I always figured that I should wait for someone who was also willing to wait for me, and save something that supposedly good for my future spouse.  I'm now a college student who has had boyfriends in the past and currently have one, and I still have not lost my V-card.  However, I have been seriously doubting myself on maintaining my virginity.  I meet so few people who are also virgins/plan on staying that way until marriage, much less someone who is also an atheist.  What are the odds that I'll find a spouse who waited for me?  Am I being immature or naive by keeping my virginity?  Am I putting sex on a pedestal by refusing to have it, or would I be by having it?  Has anyone had this same dilema, and how did it work out?\nBy the way, if I did lose my virginity, of course I'd be safe about it.  Condoms and/or the pill, for sure.  Just wanted to put that out there before people advise me about that.", "summary": "I'm an atheist college student deciding whether or not to lose my virginity to my boyfriend after previously deciding to save myself for marriage.  Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4ixro3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "22 years old, 41k in student loans, 36k salary and weekend job...can i afford to move out?", "post": "Hey PF, \n\nSo I am 22 years old, and just got my first job out of university (yay!) \n\nI plan on working with a $36k salary (with benefits and vacation time) as of late May, and a part time retail job on the weekends. \n\nI am currently living at home for free (thank god for parents) and as of today, I have approximately $41k in student loans, $200 in credit card debt, no savings and no major expenses besides my phone bill. \n\nMy plan is to save and pay off as much of my student loans in six months and move out by January of next year. Would I be in a good position to move out? I would probably rent and have roommates if I do move out and it would help me lots since the commute is killer!\n\nI live in Ontario, Canada by the way.", "summary": "version: 41k student loans, 36k salary and weekend job, no major expenses and want to move out. is it doable?"}
{"id": "t3_3yqrrv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Dad [59M] married a woman [52F] who is driving our family apart.", "post": "I'll [25M] try to keep this short but concise. My dad has been married to this woman for over 8 years. She has serious mental issues (not professionally diagnosed) and has been driving a wedge between him and the rest of our family ever since. She consistently causes drama between herself and family members and my dad refuses to see it. He is very dependent in his relationships and is scared to be alone. She starts fights between his family and friends and manipulates him into always taking her side. He's lost all of his friends and is disconnected from a lot of family members because of her. \n\nI'm not sure if he doesn't see anything wrong with the things she does or says, or is so scared of being alone that he won't admit it. I think there's a chance he isn't happy but won't leave her for fear of being alone and/or because of the financial implications of a divorce. \n\nIt's to the point where his immediate family is done putting up with her for his sake. We want to confront him and tell him this woman is a poison his life, but I am not optimistic any good will come of it. He's so scared of being alone that I believe he wouldn't divorce her no matter what and would end up losing the rest of his family to stay with her.", "summary": "Dad is married to a woman who is a cancer to his life, want to confront him about it but am scared it may do more harm than good."}
{"id": "t3_386dk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] Went away for a month and my GF [22F] of 4 years intentionally broke up with me to hurt.", "post": "This was actually a long time ago but it still confuses the hell out of me.  We were highschool sweethearts and had one of those relationships where we loved, argued, and made-up constantly.  Lots of passion and drama.  We fought A LOT but we were also inseparable for 4 years.  She hinted at wanting to get married for a while and I decided to propose when I was done with school.\n\nRight before I was going to propose to her, I went out of state for school and was going to be gone for 9 months.  I offered her to come with me but she didn't want to leave.  My plan was to come back and surprise her with a marriage proposal. But a month in she called me on my birthday to tell me that she was breaking up with me and that she was hooking up with someone.  By her tone she sounded like she was trying to punish me.  I was devastated to say the least.  Planned on spending the rest of my life with her and I never expected her to treat me so cruelly.  I never got an explanation but figured she had some kind of seperation anxiety or maybe she fought I was leaving her.  Never forgave her for that and never recieved an explanation.  What do you think happened?  \n\nWhen she found out that I was about to propose to her someone did tell me that she got really upset and felt regretful.  About a year after, she called me out of the blue to tell me that she had a sexual dream about me and tried to talk about meeting up.  I just tried to be polite and got off the phone with her.", "summary": "Was about to propose to GF of 4 years but she called me when I was out of state to intentionally break up with me in the painful way she could've."}
{"id": "t3_3670gl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk the night before my friends graduation", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nThis actually happened last night/ early this morning. My friend, A, was having her 21st birthday at a bar close to my house. $20 for a two hour open bar. Now the thing was, my bestfriend from high schol, I, had her graduation the next day, today. I's dad was going to pick me up from my house at 5am day of due to her school being 90 minutes away.\n\nThe plan was simple enough, go celebrate the birthday, come back sleep a couple hours then go to the graduation. Here's where the fuck up happens. After the open bar ended, A's party moved to a different bar where we stayed till last call which is 4am. Due to the exorbiant amount of money I had already spent, I decided to stumble home. I got home around 4:30am and blacked out into my bed with my phone on the couch. When I woke up around 11, I realized my fuck up. Not sure how to address this with them Reddit. Please help.", "summary": "got drunk night before friends graduation. Her dad was suppose to get me at 5am. Missed graduation."}
{"id": "t3_28xhr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal to be jealous of your s/o ex? I am (23 f) and my s/o of one year is (22 m), the ex is (26 f).", "post": "My s/o's ex keeps texting him.  She is engaged, lives across the country, and originally broke up with my s/o about 2 years ago.  Me and my s/o discussed how I don't feel comfortable with him talking to her because she didn't treat him well. He ignored her for months and deleted her from social media, but she still tries to talk to him. \n\nShe also goes to him to talk out her problems, instead of talking to her fiance.  She sends him articles on schizophrenia b/c she has a slight case of it, she used to sleep with people for money in order to move out, she asked my s/o to visit her when she was dating her now fiance and hooked up with him then proceeded to tell him they should just be friends.  Im not judging her for her past mistakes, but I can't help but get a bad feeling about her. Especially because when she tries to talk to him, it is about memories they have or telling him she misses him and thinks about him.\n\nHer dad also tried getting in contact with my s/o.  He texted him for months as well looking for an outlet to talk about his problems.  After my s/o told him he has a new girlfriend and is happy with her, he immediately stopped talking to him.\n\nAm i over-reacting or do I have a right to be a little jealous/upset?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2sqiwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I weird for being a [20/21M] afraid of the notion of infidelity?", "post": "Not really sure where else to post this but the thought of cheating or infidelity makes me sick to my stomach. I know, I know cheating is bad so it shouldn't be admired but I feel weird that while I don't see it happening to me and my fianc\u00e9, who is 6 months younger than me, it puts fear in me knowing that this is a fairly common occurrence in our society. Now I've had women try to get me to cheat about 3 times now and I never feel tempted in the slightest, she's my everything and I believe that's a two way street, but after seeing a lot of posts recently about happily married men being cheated on by their spouses it makes me sick to my stomach and uncomfortable, even movies or shows depicting cheating or such makes me uneasy. So basically I ask am I crazy for being made uncomfortable by cheating and infidelity?", "summary": "Cheating or infidelity, whether a real life situation or in media like shows or movies, makes me uncomfortable and sick to my stomach. Am I weird for feeling this way?"}
{"id": "t3_2ggiex", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "A dose of reality of who my real family is", "post": "I got the best dose of reality from my cousin and my neighbor. Backstory: I had invited my parents neighbor, an older couple, to the wedding because they have been good family friends. They still live with their two adult children, 37 and 40 (both have a form of Autism). They are great people but I'm not super close compared to other people on our guest list. We always had them in the back of our minds for when we got any \"nos\". \n\nNow, my cousin was always on the guest list but once the save the dates were sent he bitched about everything-not having a plus one-not inviting his children-not inviting his entire side of the family (25 people we didn't have money for!). Well, the due date for the RSVPs came and went and we called him up and he said he won't be going and claimed he \"lost\" the invitation. I wouldn't put it past this asshole to throw it out and we are all pretty damn sure that is exactly what he did.\n\nSo now we had the room after several \"nos\" to invite my neighbor's adult children. My mother walked down to hand deliver and RSVP card and invite. The girl answered the door and my mom explained we had room and we would love to have her and her brother at the wedding. She started crying she was so happy! She went on for about 5 or 10 minutes about how excited she was and she will be getting a new dress and everything. It's stuff like this that reminds me who really cares for me and who I should be caring more about.", "summary": "Cousin was a jerk and most likely threw out my invite out of spite. Invited neighbors instead and she cried tears of joy."}
{"id": "t3_2mj5m3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (23)M is bored with me/our life (24)F. Advice to fix it?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 1 year 5 months. Right after the 1 year mark he moved in with me and we also got a dog. A huge step obviously and it was a little much at first. It seems things are simmering down. We learn about each other, the dog has calmed down. He always worked Monday through Friday and I was off Friday's and Sunday's. So we had Sunday's together. I was so excited because recently I finally got my Monday through Friday schedule I have been wanting for so long (and he knew this). I wanted it so we could spend time together because at least once a week we would have a huge blowout fight. The sex died down (partly because Zoloft kicked it out of me). Now two weekends into this shift set up he tells me he liked having his own day to himself. Understandable. I told him how I felt. I wanted to do stuff because I can't even remember the last time we went to dinner or a movie. His response was, \"I'm just bored with the routine and this.\" This is not the first time I've asked to do something. He hates his job so it affects him a lot so he usually just wants to sit around and play video games and smoke weed (which does not bother me). It has been a rough few months and I, myself, am getting bored. I just want to go somewhere with my boyfriend and get the spark back that we used to have. How can I fix a routine boring relationship if someone only wants to sit around? Help?", "summary": "how do I fix a relationship boredom when the other party is hard to motivate to do something?"}
{"id": "t3_298nv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [19M] doesn't make time for me now that we've moved in together. I've moved 300 miles across the country, so I'm very isolated.", "post": "The title rather explains it, but here goes:-\n\nWe've been together roughly a year now and it's been great. We've always sat down and talk about things that troubled us, because we're not mind readers. \n\nI've tried to talk to him about this but I didnt really achieve much, he acknowledged what I said, but nothing's changed.\n\nThe fact is, I've moved 300 miles away from friends and family, I have no job yet and no money. So I'm largely dependant on him at the moment, which is killing me as he's working, playing on the computer or spending time with his friends.\n\nI just feel a little hurt because he spent much more time with me when we weren't living together. Now that we do, our relationship has been dumbed down to \"Hey, how are you\" and a reply when passing. \n\nI have depression, which means that the isolation can be very damaging.   I dont have medication for it, I just try to keep myself active, eating well and exercising and surrounding myself with people.\n\nBut, since I'm 300 miles away I've lost all this and I'm worried that I'll slump again. \n\nWe were supposed to go out for dinner last night, but instead he played a game on steam with a friend. He was also supposed to help me unpack and move in, but instead I've had to do all that. \n\nDon't get me wrong though, he's a nice guy, buys me my favourite food when he knows I'm upset and all that jazz, but it's exhausting wondering where he is and if we're actually going to spend any time together before going to bed.", "summary": "It's a really small issue, I guess, but I just don't know how to approach it. We no longer go on dates, or spend time together, we just sleep together and share the same laundry pile."}
{"id": "t3_x7w36", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your favorite true story to tell?", "post": "Mine has to be from a couple of months ago. \n\nA few friends and I were at the mall, and we had nowhere else to go, so we went to a watch store. Right after we walk in, a big black guy and his 8 or 9 year old son enter. The kid is wearing a beanie, mind you. After a few minutes of browsing, I see the kid take off the beanie, and puke inside of it. \n\nHe then proceeds to nonchalantly tell his dad that he threw up, as if it happened every day. The dad's eyes swell up with rage and he just yells out \"DESEAN, WHAT THE HELL?!\". We then left, but I think the icing on the cake was that you could tell that the floor was freshly mopped.", "summary": "A kid puked in a hat and got yelled at by his dad."}
{"id": "t3_4e4mja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my GF [23F] are going through tough times", "post": "So me and my 4 months gf have been going through some rough times.. mostly thanks to her major depression and my personality (I get emotionally dependent on her and I am too rough on myself when I can't help her with her depression or anything else. Though I'm going to start seeing a psychologist next week to help me get past that dependency). \n\nLast week we were on the verge of breaking up since she said she couldn't see a future with me as she could see with her 2 year long ex due to my personality issues. We talked it through and came to agree to give it one more try. \n\nLater that week she asks me if I want to grab lunch one of these days to which I say yes. Then she tells me her ex is tagging along. (Now little explanation here. He is her only friend, literally she has no one else besides me and him. Plus I had already met him and he has a gf of his own now and I trust him.) So I ask her if he invited her so she could meet his new gf. It wasn't the case. She invited him first and then decided I could come along them. Usually I wouldn't mind but I was really hurt when she said she could see a future with him but not with me.. so I tell her that. That I was hurt about thosr things. She told me to forget the lunch as I wasn't okay with.\n\nNext day I ask her if she still felt something for him or if she'd prefer being with him rather than me. She told me I could think whatever I want, do whatever I want, that she had nothing to say.\n\nI decided to brush it off and think it was just me being mad cause of all the grief we went through that week and then we both went to have an awesome day on the day after.\n\nBut, after all this I'm still kinda hurt. I do understand I'm not the perfect boyfriend and that maybe I shouldn't have asked those things.. but damn I had to let it out..", "summary": "Gf might still have feelings gor ex. Are there any reasons I should be afraid? Did I do the best thing?"}
{"id": "t3_pnnyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to handle this one Reddit.", "post": "Preface - My GF works 7-5 on weekends, so I planned on a snowboarding trip with my friends for Sunday.\n\nHad a great time, but when I got home I wanted to finish up the valentines day present (handmade) for the gf.  So I called her and said I was just going to lay low tonight and that I wanted to see her, but it would be better if I just stayed home.\n\nShe was okay with it, but texted and called soon after and said she couldnt sleep alone.  I was already knee deep in the project, so I said if you literally can't spend the night without me, I'll come by after I have some food and shower.  (figured it would buy me some time) \n\nShe took this as me not wanting to come and kind of ran with it.  I planned on going by later once I was done, but I closed my eyes and eventually woke up to the sun peering through my window.\n\nI don't know what time it happened but she won't respond to me today and posted to fb \"I've learned not to stay up waiting\"\n\nI was about to post \"I've learned not to stay up working on valentines day presents\" but I need some sense here Reddit.", "summary": "GF couldnt sleep alone at her place, I was up working on her VDAY present so I needed the night to myself, she got upset and now I don't know how to clear the air because I didnt want to ruin the surprise.  Help."}
{"id": "t3_1wxtg2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] (virgin) just started dating a [21 F] very experienced (20+ partners). I'm unsure how to feel about it...", "post": "-Throwaway-\n\nI really like this girl, and things on our first date when amazing. First time in a long time I've really clicked with someone. Then she drops a bombshell on me about how she doesn't even know how many guys shes slept with. She knows I'm a virgin, and well it makes me feel very uncomfortable. The thing is, I'm torn because other than that I really like this girl. I' m not sure what I'm asking for here, except just advice. If you've been in a similar situation, on the other side of it, or whatever I'd love to hear your input!", "summary": "I need advice on how to handle dating someone who is super experienced when I'm a virgin!"}
{"id": "t3_356ebi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] found some transexual porn on my FWB [39M] computer. Need some advice. [NSFW?]", "post": "Hello all. Throwaway for obvious reasons. Also, I'm on mobile so I apologize if I can't write or spell.\n\nThis just happened last night. My FWB and I have been seeing each other for almost a year. It's a complicated relationship but it works for us. Anyway, while my FWB went to go make a beer run, I started cooking dinner. As I was cooking, I decided to use his laptop to check on one of my take-home finals. No big deal. I've used his laptop plenty of times without going through anything. And I'm usually not the one to snoop through people's things. So, my final was a word document so it started to download. But as it was downloading, I noticed he browsed a few porn sites from the downloading tab and DL some photos. Curiosity got the best of me and I opened one of them. What I found really surprised me. He was browsing M2F but it was pre-op. It wasn't M2F sex, it was just photos of a M2F.. I mean, yeah I get it. While browsing porn after the deed is done, people stumble upon different types of porn, I know because I've done it numerous of times. \n\nI guess where I'm getting at is, should I bring it up to him and tell him I saw it? Or should I just let it be? Part of me thinks he may be interested in this type of sexuality due to his performance sometimes in the bedroom. But another part of me is just brushing it off as curiosity browsing. He's expressed what he thinks about homosexuality and says he would never be into the opposite sex. Either way, I understand that people have different preferences but I don't want him to think he's a freak (for lack of a better word) or embarrassed by looking at nontraditional porn.", "summary": "found FWB downloaded M2F pre-op photos but not sure if I should bring it up to him."}
{"id": "t3_4es57q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "No response on r/relationships, my wife [28/F] of 8 years feels disconnected from me and I [30/M] feel hopeless and terrified.", "post": "I created this as sort of a throwaway account, but I really need some advice. I don't really have anyone close to me that I want to go to but I have to get this off of my chest so to speak. We've been married for almost eight years and dated for close to five before that. I love her and our daughter more than anything in the world. But the last couple years I'd noticed a loss in our relationship. The intimacy went from sporadic to basically nonexistent. And when we did find time for it, I could tell it was only perfunctory for her. For a long time, I put the blame on our schedules. I work basically night shift and she is has a flexible week that usually includes weekends. The old saying \"absence makes the heart grow fonder\" was not applicable though. She had started going out with friends after work until 3:30 or 4:00 in the morning, which even for me was late. Often she slept on the couch after as to \"not wake me\". There were a couple times I was suspicious of cheating, but found nothing to go on and I still trust her. \n\nLast Sunday after she admitted to having a bad day at work, I started prodding and she let loose years worth of disappointment with me. How my trying to be physical and flirty was the opposite of what she wanted and sex was important and not intended to objectify her. I neglected the small moments of appreciation like telling her she was beautiful and how much she does for our family everyday. Even though I thought I'd been showing it in my own way, my introverted nature prevented her from getting the praise she deserved. We both cried and held each other for a little while but what is grinding in my brain is that she said she doesn't know what's going to happen. She knows I love her but she has a disconnection from us and from her family. Sorry for the venting, but what can I do? I feel like I'm emotionally starting from square one.", "summary": "I've messed up on a fundamental level for over a decade, how can I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_tb25c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After reading posts about American proms , I'm curious about american life before college. Could the American redditors please divulge their social lives before they went to college?", "post": "Okay so I live in the UK and I would describe my experience as a  pretty typical English teenage life , but when I read about American proms on reddit and speaking to American relatives I'm amazed at the differences in what's permitted at the same ages , and the emphasis on certain things like getting a date for prom.\n\nSo I wondered if any american redditors could sum up their teenage life (age 12 to 19) and especially those who have experience of both the US and UK/Europe. \n\nThings like when you first got drunk , what your parents attitude to this kind of thing , where there decent parties , if so what were they like ? Do lots of people get cars for their birthdays?", "summary": "I'm curious about the American teenagers outside of the films"}
{"id": "t3_4j47wf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [17M] has been threatening to hit me [17F] and I don't know if I have feelings for my friend [17M] because I feel safe with him.", "post": "So I just got home from school, I left early today because my English teacher is not here and I have free periods for the rest of the day. \n\nI live in Melbourne Australia and my Boyfriend moved from Queensland to Melbourne. I guess you could lump me in with the \"pretty popular girls\" at high school. Let me tell you something popularity is bullshit, my sister was popular and it meant nothing when she left high school. \n\nMy boyfriend gets really rude to me sometimes. He gets angry at me if I don't wear free dress under my school uniform. He threatens to hit me on several occasions when he gets mad. He always apologised and said he would not do it again. He threatened to hit me again today and I want to leave him. \n\nFor a while now I have had feelings for a friend of mine. He goes to the same school as me and I started to talk to him in a group project. He is attractive and he and his friends are hilarious, everyone knows them.   \n\nI have started having feelings for him, but I am not sure if it because my current boyfriend treats me badly and then apologises. He is in most of my classes and my locker is not far from his. \n\nWe sometimes get the train home together and I just feel safe with him. He makes me laugh, he does not have a girlfriend. But I just don't know if the feelings I have for him stem from my poor treatment. \n\nHow do I get through this?", "summary": "My boyfriend treats me poorly and threatened to hit me. I have this guy friend who I have feelings for, but I don't know if these feelings are just a result of feeling unsafe with my boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_3fiv2m", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 25 and learning how to budget. How much money should go toward enjoying life v. grad school ?", "post": "So I am 25 female, I have no student loans and no debt. I previously lived with my parents and worked part time/hourly, so I have 7,000 saved up. I just got a full time job for 37,000$ and since I have moved to a state up north, my relatives have generously offered/begged me to let me live with them for the next two years rent-free. (Also, my dad gave me 1000 dollars to buy winter clothes... which has to be excessive right? Unless the canadian border really is that bad...)\n\nI generally think I am a good saver, but I have been slipping up recently by not setting a concrete budget on leisure activities/ red bull consumption. Also, I spent several thousand visiting several countries but I only hopped on that because I had an opportunity to make it cheaper than it would normally be.\n\nAny way, since I won't be spending 30% of my paycheck towards rent, I thought I would but 10% in my 401(k), and put 20% in regular savings. In a matter of fact, I would like to put more than 20% in regular savings. Because when I finally get my own place, I don't want to be used to spending 70% of my income and not knowing how to save extra.\n\nBut the whole thing is confusing me because I now have to pay for my own food, gym membership and one-time purchases like snow tires and office clothes. I can't plan on how much gasoline I will be using because I don't know the state yet and where I will want to drive. I probably need plane tickets to see family because 8-11 hours driving is too much, but I still want to travel internationally. And then I really want to save for a good grad school, but also maybe take french classes this year or buy adobe illustrator. \n\nWhen I think of all these things my head starts spinning, and I try to divide and separate my income, I keep forgetting to set aside some monthly money for me to grab a beer or buy some lipstick. So this is all sort of a stream of consciousness by now but I will sum it up as follows:", "summary": "37,000 income, no rent. What percentage of my income should go toward saving for grad school/educational tools, and what percentage should go to actually enjoying my life and not worrying about snow-tires."}
{"id": "t3_12p51m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever tried to do something nice for someone and have it completely blow up in your face? Tell me about it.", "post": "I work as a medical assistant in an eye clinic, and I have a pretty good reputation at being good at what I do. A little proof: I am the \"nurse\" cited in this story [notalwaysright.com](\n\nWell, I had a patient recently that was left unattended in our contact lens area. Usually, this never happens, but another assistant dropped her off in there and had to go tend to a phone call.\n\nIn the 15 seconds she was left alone, she managed to pick up the ONLY bottle in the entire room that could injure her; a hydrogen peroxide based contact cleaning solution called Clear Care. It's safe for contacts, but bad news for your eyeballs.\n\nShe picks up this bottle and ejects this solution straight into her eye (Note: The bottle has a red label that tells you not to put it into your eye, along with a red top that typically indicates BAD NEWS). I'm on lunch at this point, reading a Magic:The Gathering novel and indulging in a leftover Halloween sucker. 2 assistants come running from the front of the office and tell me the story.\n\nI abandon my book and run up front, sit the lady down and start flushing her eye as much as I can. Finally I'm able to get it washed out enough to check for corneal damage and it seems she's a'ok. I lean back to tell her this and notice her glaring at me.\n\n\"Is everything alright?\" I asked, noting that \"is everything alright\" was probably a stupid question 25 seconds after a severe burning sensation to the eyeball. \n\nThe lady picks up her purse, stands and pushes past me, eyeballing my forgotten Halloween sucker. I had forgotten I was eating it and did the entire procedure with it in my mouth. \"That's really gross, and  totally unprofessional.\" She snaps before walking out to the reception area and filing a complaint with my doctor ABOUT ME.\n\nI was absolutely dumbfounded, I couldn't believe this had really happened.", "summary": "Lady burns her eye with hydrogen peroxide and calls me unprofessional for eating a sucker while I cleaned her eye out."}
{"id": "t3_1vj7nv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (27/f) have a fuck buddy (25/m) and a potential longterm boyfriend (30/m). Need help.", "post": "I've been having nsa sex with my fb, who isn't bf material, for the past 6 months. I also date other guys casually, since I'd like to find a longterm bf, but I'm not having sex with them. \n\nI've been dating a new guy for the past two weeks and I'm pretty sure things are going to get serious. We haven't had sex yet and he hasn't asked to make things exclusive. We have another date planned for Monday.\n\nMeanwhile my fb wants to hang out tonight and I haven't gotten laid in a while. He knows I'm dating the other guy and doesn't have a problem with it. \n\nWould it be wrong to sleep with the fb?", "summary": "I have a fb but I think it might get serious with another guy I'm dating. Would it be wrong to sleep with the fb?"}
{"id": "t3_1mw64b", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lumpy fat?? Please advise.", "post": "So I've always had lumpy fat ever since I started losing weight and I've been looking up about it and not sure what I think.\n\nBasically, under all my skin with any fat left, it's filled with pea-sized, kinda firm lumps. The majority of my fat left to lose is on my abs and my belly is filled with these little lumps. I don't think I have any fat that isn't made entirely of the lumps but I'm still losing weight at an expected rate consistently.\n\nI've had them as long as I can remember so I thought they were normal, but reading about it brings up a few things which are kinda worrying. I have no pain or anything, it's just what I've always known fat to be. I always thought it was fat and nothing else. Loss is consistent. Why is it lumpy? Should it be? Am I just worrying about nothing?\n\nThank you all in advance!", "summary": "Lumpy fat, is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3xv1vn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] was invited to my friends' annual Christmas Party but I'm so broke I feel like I will be left out.", "post": "I feel pretty embarrassed and childish...\n\nEvery year my friends' have an annual Christmas party with ~50 people.Normally I have gifts ready for couple people and we have gift exchanges and a nice potluck. \n\nThis year I'm broke. I lost my house and family. My dad died last month and didn't tell most people. (Told my closest friends about it and they haven't contacted me ever since... maybe I got them feel uncomfortable? Think i'm too broke to hangout? Idk but I feel like I shouldn't have told anyone. Rumors went around quick so some people know, apparently.) \nI've focused my time in school this year that I haven't hung out with people every week like I used to. \n\nI'm not sure what I'm really worried about but I feel uncomfortable. I feel so dead poor and out of place that I might bring negative vibe or something to the party. \n\nI feel like I need to go because I haven't seen people in months and I don't want boyfriend to be there alone when I said I would go. \n\nI've always been the \"jokester\" type in that group and I feel like i'd be weird if I suddenly write them a Christmas card as a gift suddenly. I don't know. \n\nI'm not sure if cards will be enough...how to interact, what to talk about, etc. etc. \n\nMy boyfriend bought me so much baking supplies for me to bake for the party but didn't come out well... I feel like I wasted his money too... fuck. \n\nI feel like not baking and not going to the party will make me \"running away\".. but not sure what to do from here. \n\nI want to prepare myself for the party but not sure how to make the best out of it.. sorry if this is going all over the place.", "summary": "Haven't seen people in months and feel too insecure to see people again. I need to go but not sure how to prepare it."}
{"id": "t3_37jv0x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my brother Futurama", "post": "This happened a few months ago. I am 15 and at the time my brother (lets call him Henry) was six and was in first grade. I picked up him and his best friend (lets call him Alex) from school. I had to look after them for 2 hours until my mum came home and i needed to get my homework done so i put on Futurama for them. When mum came home she turned off the T.V and dropped Alex home. The next day i get home to find my mum and dad at home wanting to talk to me. Apparently my brother and his friend had got in a lot of trouble for talking about sex in class. I was shocked and asked why he did it. Well it turns out that in the Futurama episode fry and some other male characters met some \"horny\" giants and they were chanting that they wanted \"Snoo Snoo\". It also turned out that Alex was chanting Snoo Snoo over and over at home and his big sister told him it meant sex. Well my Brother was began chanting Snoo Snoo sex when they were at school and got a large group of boys to chant it without knowing the true meaning.\nI am now grounded and so is my brother.", "summary": "Showed my bro sexual futurama and he chanted an unknowingly sexual chant at school and got in trouble from the school."}
{"id": "t3_ymh3a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "OCD: Not so uncommon?", "post": "I don't know about anyone else (thats why I'm asking), but my experience is that a lot of people have a little bit of OCD in them. I mean, I know everyone has at least one little weird thing they like (i.e. you like things to be straight, some weird food combination you like) but thats not really OCD, 'cause they don't HAVE to have it like that, they just prefer. But I seem to know lots of people with little OCD things, (one of my friends HAS to have the middle page if theres a pile of paper). I always thought OCD was quite uncommon but I don't think it is, I think theres lots of mild OCD out there.", "summary": "Do you know lots of people with any form of OCD? 'Cause I seem to. Examples?"}
{"id": "t3_10vxhm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] When we see each other in person everything is great, but then he (20/m) doesn't text me for days.", "post": "Throwaway. I met this guy on okcupid about 4 weeks ago. We instantly clicked, so after a week of talking we decided to meet up for coffee. It was great, and I think we really got along. After a couple more weeks of talking he asked me to meet up again last weekend for frozen yogurt. We haven't talked since.\nI can't tell if he's in to me or not, and normally I'm good at reading guys, but he's confusing me. I'm usually the first one to text him, and if I don't we'll go for a couple of days without talking. But when we are in person everything seems perfect and I feel like he likes me. It's so frustrating! Sometimes I feel like I'm annoying him by always texting him first. When I'm seeing a guy I'm used to him texting me pretty much all day, but this guy is not like that. Should I text him first again? Or should I wait it out and see if he does? It just seems weird that he doesn't talk to me, because it really seemed like he was interested.", "summary": "should I text him, or wait and see if he texts me?"}
{"id": "t3_13m9hg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] [22m] planning on proposing tomorrow [22f] after three years, but is it too boring?", "post": "[Original Post] (\n\nWe're engaged!\n\nIt went great! She got out of her grad school classes early, so I had to run off from work early to get home before her, so it was close! I left roses in the kitchen and she was over the top excited that I had just gotten her flowers, but she still had no idea!  I took my camera and in my camera bag I hid a bottle of champagne and two plastic champagne flutes. I popped the question after dancing around the bandstand and giving her my sweet proposal speech, I got down on one knee (she started crying) and **she said yes!**  She even yelled \"OH MY GOD ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!\".. who knew that really happened in real life? We popped the champagne and carved our initials and the date into the inside of the bandstand.  We had about an hour before our dinner reservations so she could change and do her hair and then we went back to where we had our first date, and we even both wore the same clothes we wore on that date, too! We're over the top excited and can't wait to tell our friends families today! Thanks for the support redditors!", "summary": "She said yes!"}
{"id": "t3_drlcb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Female Redditors! My GF took contraceptives, now faces (medical) aftermath. Please advise", "post": "Disclaimer : I know this looks like it belongs in /r/relationships, but it's actually medical.\n\nSo the story is, we're together for almost 3 years. I'm 24, she's 22. Playing it safe, we decided that she will take the pill. After consulting the doctor, who decided everything was fine, she got her perscription, everything was fine for some time. After about a 1,5yr her sex drive went down, down to 0. We lived with it somewhat for a while, then last summer i got a 1yr internship 2000km from home. So we decide that's it's sensless for her to be on the pill during that time, and that it might help get her \"spunk\" back. 3 months pass, she visits me in my new place, sadly, nothing seems to change back :/\n\nThings go bad between us, not only because of the lack of fun in bed, but because for some time now i feel more like a friend, than a SO. I finally make her realize and admit, that she doesn't feel for me anymore, but she still loves on me on some level and doesn't imagine herself without me. I still love her too, and give her another chance. She promises to change. I have my own theory.\n\nI make her go see the gyno, and my suspitions are confirmed - because of the pill, her body stopped producing Estrogen altogether, and her hormonal balance is way off. Today she got a perscription for hormones(cyclo-progynova), and her first evaluation is in 3 months, but the whole curation may last up to a year. She feels really bad about this, saying \"i don't feel like a woman anymore\". I try to be as supportive as i possibly can from a 2000km distance.\n\nMy question is : any female redditors here that had the same/similar experience? How did it turn out for you?", "summary": "my girlfriend took contraceptives, then stopped and her estrogen is gone. she feels like shit."}
{"id": "t3_4z747j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hip checking an older woman in the elevator", "post": "I work in an industrial business complex, very white-collar environment where each floor and/or building could house a different company. Taking the elevator to my 19th floor, I'm not paying attention and instead looking down on my phone. The elevator stops a floor early and, still not paying attention and thinking this is my stop, my stride is now timed in cadence with an older woman (mid-50's, I'm in my early 30's and male). We both reach the elevator exit at the same time. The elevator opening is unable to accommodate the width of both our bodies. The force of my frame and hip crash into the woman's torso, launching her into the side of the elevator. \n\nShe careened off the side of the elevator and luckily stayed on her feet as she wobbled out. \n\nI let out a helpless, \"sorry, so sorry\" and caught the door to hold it open to make sure she was OK.\n\nShe had this, \"I'm embarrassed\", \"why do bad things happen to good people\" look. She stuttered an, \"I'm fine\" and walked away shaking her head letting out a soft sigh.", "summary": "I accidentally hip checked a helpless older woman getting out of the elevator because I had a total disregard for others around me."}
{"id": "t3_41ffam", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help with Depression and Panic Attacks in the Workplace", "post": "##**Some Backstory:**\n\nFor quite some time, I've been seeking on again off again treatment for depression and anxiety. I started a job with a company in July and everything's been relatively alright until recently, with a few hiccups here and there. \n\nHowever, over the last month or so, the job has been increasingly putting pressure on me, and life itself has been insanely stressful. My Girlfriend of several years left for 2 months to have surgery and recover from it. My student loans are causing me enough grief to get a lawyer involved. My mother is undergoing cancer treatment for the 4th time. It all happened within a short period of time. \n\nThis has sent my depression through the roof, with the new addition of constant panic attacks. I've seen the doctor twice in the past week and a half, both times out of pocket as my employer has not (6 months in, now) evaluated my performance, and provided me with benefits/salaried pay, as I was told I would have within 90 days of starting.\n\n##**What I need advice for:**\nSince I've started, I've noticed a trend both with my supervisor/boss and my co-workers. They all seem to have a fairly negative view of people with mental health issues. We have an ex-marine with obvious signs of PTSD, and they constantly harass/joke about his situation. I honestly can't tell the difference between friendly joking and aggressive harassment.  \n\nI've been on leave for the past several days, suggested by my doctor. I have proof that I saw him and a note excusing me from work. However, I know when I do return to work, I'll be asked by my boss what the situation is. I'm hesitating telling him that I'm suffering from Major Depression, Generalized Anxiety and that I've been suffering from Panic Attacks at work on a regular basis. I have this feeling that there's nothing positive that can come of me revealing this to them. \n\nWhat should I do? There's no HR department, as it's a small company. And at the rate that I'm going, I don't think my situation is going to be getting any better any time soon.", "summary": "Sufferring from bad bout of Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Workplace has a history of harassing people with Mental Health issues. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_357u7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am a medical student and am with my GF [19 F] (also a med student) for 2.5 years, now she has studying issues and wont let me help", "post": "I have always been a good student in primary and high school (straight A's for 12 years). As we were high school classmates, I know her for a while and she has never been able to maximize her efforts in studying although she's got a bright mind.\n\nSo we both passed the final exams last year but that amount of studying is not enough here. I suggested a couple of times that I can study with her, maybe I can explain it but she never asks, always get pissed off when i bring up this issue... \n\nI honestly trust in her that she will pass this second semester but I feel like I could do more about it but she wont let me, maybe she feels as I am ashamed about her.. And also what if she fails, would that be the thing that bothers her?", "summary": "How can you study together? How would you explain to her without offending her that you are worried about her future?"}
{"id": "t3_i9crk", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I need her.", "post": "Me, (m, 17) and her (f, 16) dated for a good 2 years, and as sad as I am to say it she finally broke it off, she said it was neither of us but instead, she just wanted to be friends, its been about 6 months and i am distraught still, mainly because as I have explained my feelings hours on end to my therapist (i was seeing him before i met her for unrelated reasons) and other friends, they have all said on thing, that they think I still love her. And I do, so basically, what can I do, I have opened up to her and cried with her multiple times and she just says that she has trouble pin pointing how she feels, sometimes she will say she feels the same, other times she says shes not sure. so basically what can I do.", "summary": "Many people have said that I am in love with my ex and I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_34cyhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Newly single, I can't tell if this nurse is just being friendly.", "post": "I(24m) newly single for the first time in 6 years am confused on my next step (due to my sever lack of \"game\"). I work as an paramedic in a fairly small community and while talking to one of the nurses my relationship with my ex came up. I casually mentioned that we weren't seeing each other anymore and then got sent out on a call. \n\nThe nurse (21-22f) (who I've know for about 6 months usually chat for 5-6 minutes at a time) almost immediately added me on Facebook and struck up a conversation. \n\nSo my question is, am I reading to much into this? Or should I being asking this girl out for drinks or dinner?", "summary": "I'm dumb and don't know if a girl likes me or not cause the last time I was single you made your buddy pass a note in the hallway."}
{"id": "t3_2mgotz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my dick do the thinking", "post": "A good friends sister moved to our city from another province and he asked me and another mutual buddy to help move her in to her place. We agreed and go down to her place, meet her for the first time, and proceed to move her in. She has an instant attraction to other buddy and they start a relationship. Her brother is OK with it because buddy is a good kid and responsible. Anyway one thing leads to another and he gets her pregnant and I'm told of the dilemma because they don't know what to do. I tell them it's either they keep it or terminate the pregnancy. They decided abortion is best and book an appointment to get it done. Buddy who got her pregnant tells her after the abortion they are done, do she is heartbroken and doesn't know what to do. We, as a group, go out to the bar and she is mangled drunk, and starts texting me suggestive things. I'm half cut at this point and my dick takes over and one thing leads to another and I end up fucking her. I'm scared what will happen if her bro finds out because we are such good friends :(", "summary": "buddy's sister moves to our city, other buddy gets her pregnant and he tells her after the abortion it's over, and she convinces me to sleep with her when I'm drunk to get back at other buddy."}
{"id": "t3_gtpk2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how much freedom should a kid have over his future?", "post": "so I was reading the AMA about the guys who's son works in pornography and the responses surprised me. I understand if a parent doesn't like what their kid is doing, but should you really be applying your own morals to his future? several redditors were saying what's wrong with a parent wanting their son to live a good successful life. but what defines what is good and successful? if the kid enjoys it and can support them-self on it isn't that good and successful? or does a Childs career have to fit the vision of their parents?\nlet's try to move away from the porn example, for the sake of discussion about what control a parent has say over having their kid become a doctor versus if he wants to be an actor.", "summary": "should a kid or his/her parents define what is good for their future? assuming of course the 'kid' is over the age of 18."}
{"id": "t3_2au99y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my 20 F of 2 years just broke up", "post": "We have been dating just over 2 years. We have had a really bad past. Yelling arguing, name calling. It wasnt pretty. I have been physical. I know its wrong. I think about it daily. If you feel like reminding me, go ahead. When we were getting along and happy it was awesome. The last few months ive beem trying to be a nicer and sweeter SO. Asking to see her more. Giving her the little things a relationship needs. The last week we have talked and have hung out. She says she misses me but gets scared about trusting me again because of the past. One part wants me, the other says no you dont get another chance. Does this relationship sound completely lost? Please help reddit. I want her back", "summary": "was a shitty boyfriend. Tried to show i changed but said it was too late. Sorry for the long post. Long nights get me thinking :/ pm me if have more detailed advice or want a more in depth story"}
{"id": "t3_wmnf4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and had sloppy drunk sex with my best friend's little sister", "post": "-A little back-story before I begin-\n\nMy friend (Josh) and I have been best friends since Middle School. Ever since then, his family has become my secondary family entitling his sister as my sister also. We're both 20 and she (Janice) is 18. I have had a crush on her for awhile but denied the feeling since we're practically family. When I graduated HS I was kicked out of my house and Josh's family happily took me in as if I were their own son. Been living here and going to the local community college for the past 2 years now.\n\n-Now to the stupidest, most fucked up, unforgivable thing I have ever done-\n\nSo mom and dad are out of town and we decide to invite a couple friends over, have a couple drinks, chill, just have a good time (Janice included). Some rum and coke and a couple hours later I find myself shmammered drunk. Josh has went to our room with a girl so I figured I'd sleep on the couch. Everyone is passed out and Janice has went to her room. Like clockwork I go tell her goodnight, as I always do, but this time I find myself laying on her bed. We start talking and somehow get to talking about our feelings towards each other (I've always had a crush on her but ruled it out since we're practically family and apparently she did also). One thing turned to another and we start making out, I'm taking her clothes off and vice-versa, and I'm eating her out until I get my whiskey dick to act properly. It obliged and we do the nasty. Now, this was THE best sex I have ever had but it hurts to say it due to my predicament.\n\nI have been talking to Janice pretty much all day today about how and when we should tell Josh, knowing he's gonna turn furious.", "summary": "Got drunk, talked mooshy mooshy shit with friend's sister, had sex with her."}
{"id": "t3_3h59ux", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally using meme as a verb", "post": "okay so this happened today. to give a backdrop: my friend & i are great buddies and our second most popular \"together activity\", after crafting hand-made rare pepes, is mocking people for pronouncing the word meme like this: meh-meh or me-me.\n\nnow back to the FU, i'm hanging around with my mate, rummaging through some new pepes, when my girlfriend phones up. now, my girlfriend isn't really that much in the know with memes however she tried to impress me with an Advice Animal-tier crappy meme, now me being the dank trendy quick-thinker that i am, decided to respond wittily to her meme via referencing the ol' Bushism with a playful twist:\n\n\"There's an old saying in Tennessee\u2014I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee\u2014that says, 'Meme me once, shame on...shame on you. Meme me \u2014 you can't Meme me again.'\"\n\nnow as you'd imagine i felt fairly spiffing and great after this comment however my friend happened to have his handy dictaphone beside me and recorded the conversation and cropped the part when i say \"meme me\" which sounds like the deplorable pronunciation of meme which i hate and mock people for using. \n\nas you'd imagine i am now the butt of all the jokes in my friend circle and it is played whenever i engage in my first favourite hobby (see: above).", "summary": "tried to use the word meme as a verb to sound dank, end up getting bullied over it"}
{"id": "t3_183xw1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with family members who don't support or understand you?", "post": "Backstory: I am an Indian girl in America and I aspire to be an English teacher. None of my family or the Indian adults with whom my family mixes approve of this and they constantly try to derail me and change my mind. \n\nI have managed to deal with this presently but soon I will be returning to India for a visit where I will no doubt be bombarded with rude questions and derogatory accusations. Frankly, I don't know how to cope with my extended family, whom I haven't seen in over 4 years. They are genuinely great people and I love them but I don't want to have to constantly justify my career choice to everyone. \n\nI am aware that it seems rather preposterous for people to object to a steady, respected job as a teacher but sometimes Indians just suck.", "summary": "stereotypical Indian family disapproves of my wanting to be a teacher; how to cope"}
{"id": "t3_xuq59", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice on job choices....Reddit, Please Help!", "post": "Okay so here is the deal AskReddit...\n\nI graduated in May with a degree in Business Administration, and had been working in an internship from January until the end of July. This month, I started a job and can finally say that I am gainfully employed! \n\nThe issue is, I'm not quite sure I'm sold on my new job yet, and I may have an offer from my previous internship for a job that would start next month. The job at my previous internship has not even been posted yet, but my former boss indicated that it was opening before I left for my new position (but after I had already signed my offer letter). \n\nMy new job is at a young, high-energy software company with decent pay, great benefits, and lots of really awesome people. The downsides are that it is all cold calling, and the commute is about an hour each way in terrible traffic. \n\nThe job that may be opening with my previous internship is about the same pay (possibly more), a 15 minute drive, and they will also pay for half of the costs associated with me getting my master's degree. The job is also an \"inside sales position\" but is much less cold calling and more \"warm\" calling. The downsides to this job are a much smaller, and quieter office with a bit of a slower pace and a much broader age range. \n\nSo I come to you Reddit, I'm hoping some of you may have experience with a situation like this and will be able to offer some insight and advice for me. Also, before anyone asks, the room for growth is about the same at both companies. Thanks in advance to anyone who can help me out with this.", "summary": "Recent grad who actually has job options to choose from, for once, but doesn't know which choice to make...."}
{"id": "t3_2mt44n", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - Went to Whataburger", "post": "Prologue: I've been in India for two months, so I haven't had a burger in forever. Despite being in India for Diwali and being surrounded by delicious sweets, I managed to *lose* five lbs during my trip. Not a lot for two months, I know, but considering my grandma tried her best to stuff me every meal, I'm proud of it.\n\nAnyway, I went to Whataburger and got a chophouse whatameal.\n\nCouldn't finish it. Got through half the fries and half the burger, and threw it out. It tasted great, but I was full and I just didn't feel that rush of endorphins I used to get with fast food. It was just...food. And it was too much for once.\n\nI remember a day when I got two of these burgers, fries, and a large drink. I've come a long way. I've got a long way to go, but things are looking up for once.", "summary": "Got made a bitch by a burger, but it's okay."}
{"id": "t3_1ic1jy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [17M] has \"fallen out of love with me\" [17F] and i want to try to save the relationship. Help!", "post": "My bf (17M) and I (17F) have been dating for almost a year and a half. We have been really strong and don't really fight, but sometimes he becomes distant, and I probably do too.\n\n We both lost our virginity to each other a month ago, and I thought it was the right decision because it seemed natural. But now I'm not so sure.\n\n Anyway, I was gone this week on a camping trip (no phone/ contact for 5 days) and I was excited to be back and see him, but he was 0% enthusiastic when he saw me. I don't know if it was because of his new job, or because he is nervous about applying early decision to a college or what, but something wasn't right. We literally just watched TV, and it was a bit odd because he is really physical. \n\nI saw him the next day and we hung out for a bit, but when convo lagged for a bit he said I should go home because he had \"things to do\" before work. That hurt, because I knew he didn't. Last night I texted him asking why he was being distant and he replied that he had a lot on his mind and \"was falling out of love with me.\" I found out that he had been feeling that way for about two weeks, and I don't know what to do. I asked if we could try to mend the relationship, which he said had problems mainly \"mentally.\" He agreed to try but I was, to say the least, thrown for a loop because I know I still love him, and I thought the relationship was going really well (there are occasional spots of disconnect for a few days, but we always talk and work it out). I just don't know this time because it was so unnoticed and abrupt and I want to know what I should do.\n\n I have a month to try to mend this, and I don't want to end the relationship. It would be great if I could get advice on spicing up dates, new/ fairly unusual topics to talk about, things to say or cute things to do for him, and general suggestions other than that. Thanks!", "summary": "my boyfriend and I [17M/ 17F] have had a great relationship, but last night he said he had/is fallen/falling out of love with me. Suggestions on how to save this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_44jl1t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I think I actually experienced real sexism today.", "post": "At work I had a call escalated to me for a man needing some additional help. I see in the notes he had already had a call disconnected from a female rep because he was yelling and cussing at her. A male rep transferred to me and said the customer was really calm and respectful with him so we thought maybe he had calmed down. \n\nI took over that call and explained what I could do. He asked me multiple times if I understood the situation.... It wasn't difficult at all to understand and I had already laid out a plan of action. He ended up yelling and cussing at me as well so of course I hung up. \n\nHe calls back and I see the guy who sits by me gets him. I asked him how he was with him and he said he was frustrated but not really mad and did not yell or talk disrespectful to him at all. \n\nI am hoping it was just the fact that he had calmed down before he called back both times and not actually that he just was so awful to me and the other woman because we were female. I know I shared how I felt to the guys at work and they said they do get calls where men request to only talk to men so it could have been a little sexism or just didn't really like/women. \n\nJust weird for me. I'm 24 and have never really experienced consciously recognizing that my gender was affecting me in a negative way like that. I was not really mad about it since he was just an insane, unreasonable customer who could have straightened everything out in the first call but because he has no emotional maturity he wasted over an hour of his night on the phone. If those are the kind of guys who are sexist then it just doesn't hold as much weight. I'm more just surprised. I'm sure this is not the last time it will happen but it is the first I felt it like this.  If that's even what happened, again he could have just calmed down in between I guess.", "summary": "I'm pretty sure this customer felt more inclined to yell, cuss, and imply I did not have comprehension abilities because I am a woman. He did not treat the men he spoke with the same. Never experienced that before. I'm not mad about it, but I do feel surprised and really caught off guard by it. I hope I'm wrong and that he had just calmed down after speaking with the women and was then able to talk more respectful to the men."}
{"id": "t3_1phflj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/F] - my boyfriend (29/M) lets me down a lot.", "post": "We've been together for 3 years now and we live together. My birthday was two months ago, and I had to ask him a couple days before to do something for it. I knew he didn't have anything planned. The first birthday I had with him we had just started dating so I went away with some girlfriends (he didn't do anything for it-no big deal though). The second birthday we had together was pretty disappointing. He didn't get me anything, no surprises at all and took me out to dinner at a restaurant I requested (which was nice). He says he has no money all the time, and I understand that. But even when I had no money I made sure to make sure his birthdays were a great experience. I threw him a party, planned things for us to do, got him a thoughtful gift. I got a last minute card and a bag of chips that I like. I had to ask him if he was going to get me anything for my birthday. I feel like I'm being materialistic but he's never given me anything before. The only thing I've ever received from him was when he asked me what I wanted for Christmas (after he complained how little money he had) ,he asked what to get me so I told him some cheap bodywash because I knew he was broke. I surprise him all the time, not just with gifts but with actions. I feel like I try so hard just to get nothing in return. I love him and hes a great person I just feel like I get no effort from him. I've tried talking about this as nicely as I can and even asking him to surprise me more often or just be more thoughtful (cleaning, leaving notes. etc) but nothing has changed and he just gets defensive and upset when I bring it up. I thought he would surprise me and get me something little for my birthday, but nothing. I have many interests and hobbies so I'm not hard to shop for, and I certainly do not have expensive taste but something thoughtful would have been nice. What else can I do to explain nicely the way I feel?", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is thoughtless, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xeclz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23F] too old for him [20M]?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now and things are great.  It's the best relationship I have ever had.  He's caring, loving, ambitious, and we share the same values and life goals.\n\nHowever, the age difference is always in the back of my mind, making me wonder if I'm doing something wrong by dating him.  He's still in college and I've graduated a little while ago... And I know people say that dating younger mean's you're not mature enough to date someone your own age.\n\nDoes that apply to this 3-year age difference?  If so, how do I know if that's why I chose him?  \n\nI guess I'm just looking for some reassurance that this age gap is normal and healthy.  He says he never thinks about it, but I also think that's because if people are going to judge us for the age gap they'll put the blame on me.", "summary": "Is it healthy for me to date a guy 3 years younger than me, at this stage of my life (he's in college and I've graduated)?  Everything else in our relationship is fantastic."}
{"id": "t3_29un6b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] sexted another girl without telling my (mutual) [18 F] crush.", "post": "So me and my crush have liked each other for the last year, however we live around 10 hours apart from each other (driving). We mutually agreed to be exclusive, until I graduate and we can move closer to each other. After around 4 months of this, I began to feel extremely disconnected from her, and instead of telling her I decided to look for gratification from someone else. That was in November. I still feel disconnected from her, and I think this may be because I am a very physical person (Main love-languages are Touch and Quality Time). Not being hugged, held, etc. has really taken its toll on me, and I am seriously considering taking a break from the relationship with her. How do I bring these things up with her/deal with the fact that we live far apart and I am not having my relational needs met? Is this relationship bound to fail? I really care about her but I also do not want to set myself up to fail.", "summary": "Having trouble with girl because of distance + love languages."}
{"id": "t3_4pvg4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Military wives and husbands, anything I need to prepare myself for?", "post": "My boyfriend is a new Navy Sailor and we plan on moving in together in the next 5 months. We have been dating for 3 years but this is a new step in our lives, considering he just graduated from basic training and we will be living together full time soon. For the military wives and husbands, is there anything YOU wish you knew when making this transition? Do you have any advice and tips for me? I will be a \"military husband\" (not married, only dating on a serious level) and am trying to prepare myself for this big transition. \n\nIf it matters, my Navy Sailor is 20 and I am 19, but we have been serious since the day we met and we plan on growing old together.", "summary": "If you have any advice/tips/heads up for a new military husband, send them my way!"}
{"id": "t3_3j1zqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend (39F) drops contact with me (34F) & vaguebooks when mad but denies it. How can I put my foot down?", "post": "Recently, my best friend dropped contact for several weeks. I gave her the benefit of the doubt at first (assumed she was busy), then checked in to see if she was okay. She either blew me off or responded curtly. In the meantime, she vaguebooked things that felt targeted towards me (\"I hate people who...\"). I tried not to personalize it, but it became apparent there was a problem. (Many passive aggressive acts.) I backed off.\n\nNow, after several weeks, she's reaching out. I'd love to air things out and mend fences, but have no idea how to do that in a healthy manner. She tends to give the cold shoulder when upset (rather than speak up). She uses tactics that are meant to hurt or gain attention, but specifically those that can be denied later (\"Oh, I was busy,\" \"Oh, I didn't mean anything by it,\" etc.).\n\nI'm really easygoing, direct but kind and approachable. My friends never have to worry if there's a problem, because I'm responsive and welcome criticism or even anger, so long as it's respectful. I try to accommodate people within reason, so if someone has a particular sensitivity, I try to be responsive to it. (That is, I'm not someone you have to fear confrontation with.)\n\nHow can I \"call\" someone on behavior they (technically, plausibly) deny? How can I draw a boundary here? It feels silly to say, \"If you go out of contact again, our friendship is over,\" because I don't expect to constantly be in touch. Likewise, it feels absurd to say, \"Don't vaguebook at me,\" since there's no way to prove for certain it's directed at me vs. one of her hundreds of her other friends.\n\nI'd otherwise like to keep the friendship, but don't want to feel like I'm waiting for her to be secretly offended again, or waiting for unanswered texts to become weeks of silence. Is there any good way to draw a boundary, so this doesn't happen again?", "summary": "Friend gets angry but uses withdrawal / silent treatment / vaguebooking to communicate that. How can I respond well when she denies those things were personal, even when they obviously are?"}
{"id": "t3_2l0r8a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk with my boss.", "post": "I'm going to start this by saying that I am a 5 foot tall female who weighs around the 107lbs, that's how I got drunk so quickly. So a couple weeks ago was the birthday of the doctor I work for. Our office took him out to this great GoKart track and we all had a blast. On the way to the track, some of my coworkers (including my office manager: the boss, the doctor, and a coworker ) and myself shared a bottle of wine, and each had a couple of hard ciders. Leaving the track, we shared another bottle wine and doctor, being pretty drunk at that point (and also the one driving ) decided to stop off at a pub he used to frequent. He proceeded to buy each one of us 4 shots of tequila each on top of whatever other drinks we ordered. Fast forward to being dropped back off at the office where my boyfriend was waiting to pick me up. (on the way to the office i had to throw up but didn't want to do it in the doctor's car so i thought it would be a good idea to catch it with my hands, so I'm covered in vomit at this point ). I've blacked out at this point so the rest of this story was relayed to me. We get out of the car and the doctor leaves. I then point to my boyfriend and shout at my office manager \"I suck his dick and he likes it! \" Boyfriend is obviously embarrassed but I turn to him and point to my office manager and say \"it's okay, she sucks her husband's dick and he likes it too! \" at this point boyfriend takes me home and I go on to have the worst hangover ever.", "summary": "Got drunk with boss, bragged about sucking dick."}
{"id": "t3_1snldh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Went to get a dental cleaning, ended up with 4K \"needed\" procedures and no cleaning.", "post": "Like the title states. I went to get my teeth cleaned, and ended up with them piling up that I \"need\" \"deep cleaning\" and how I've got gum disease, and that I've cavities, and my 3 wisdom teeth need to come out (had 1 out). They ended up giving me a 4K bill estimate!\n\nI didn't even have a teeth cleaning done!\n\nI came to get my teeth cleaned, my insurance knows that that's what I came in for, paid for a *teeth cleaning* (yey being covered for that) and yet, I got *no teeth cleaned* all I got was poked and prodded and slapped with a 4K bill!\n\nAnyone heard it costing over 2K for a deep cleaning of teeth?! And that's *with* insurance covering things!\n\nOver a thousand for removing wisdom teeth (which aren't bothering me at all) while knowing that I don't take well to opiates as painkillers (ether allergic to the blend, or get blackouts in which my character takes a 180 change and I've no memory of anything, complete amnesia) and the fact that I might be allergic to morphine. \n\nAnd in the range of a thousand for cavities & fillings. \n\nWhat. The. Fuck.\n\nI'm looking into finding a new dentist, I read the reviews of my dental office and they all say that it's overpriced crap. Yelp grading is a 2/5.\n\nGonna be a bitch finding a dentist that takes my insurance and is good and doesn't charge bullshit fees.\n\nI still want my teeth cleaned! I've been told *by the dentist* that it's a waste of time and $ to do a regular dental cleaning. So my insurance paid for me to sit in the chair and have a 4K bill thrown at me (4K with insurance coverage) because it makes sense not to clean my teeth when I came to have them cleaned, right?! \n\nAGH.", "summary": "Came in for a teeth cleaning, got slapped with a 4K bill for allllllll these things they *have to* do to me. Didn't get my teeth cleaned because dentist decided it's a waste of time and $."}
{"id": "t3_4ejr3m", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I've been hired as a photographer for a temporary job assignment, and I feel they're low-balling me. How do I approach requesting a higher figure?", "post": "I've been into photography for years, and I know my way behind a camera. Yes, everyone with a DSLR is a photographer these days, but I actually know my shit. I've captured hundreds of shows and even a handful of weddings, but I've never been paid for my services. \n\nI'm unemployed and in-between jobs, but I recently llanded a gig at a local business documenting one of their projects. My job is to observe, photograph, document the build process step by step, and create a power point presentation. \n\nThey've offered me $20 an hour. Work is 25 miles away and I've been stuck out in the hot sun twice already. When we initially discussed my range, I said \"some photographers work for as low as $30 to $40 per hour, while others expect $150 to $200 depending on the occasion or assignment\". They then said they would talk it over and prepare a letter of consignment for me within a few days, which I received today (at the end of my second day on site). \n\nI was pretty surprised to see they had settled on a figure as low as $20 when I felt I made it clear that $30 - $40 was the lowest I was comfortable with. \n\nOn the one hand, it's a job. It's better than nothing, and truth be told it IS easy work. Dirt easy, actually. On the other hand, I don't like being low-balled and taken, I feel, advantage of.", "summary": "Offered $20 an hour for my time and skill, feel I'm worth at least $30 per hour, if not more. Considering approaching them instead of accepting their offer. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_1c3tq9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M/18 Going to ask a girl to prom, when it got unnecessarily complicated. I'm in a rut here.", "post": "Alright, so I was going to ask a girl I've known for a long time now to prom, and had been thinking about doing so for a while now. On Monday, I heard she currently had no date, so I was preparing to ask her out the next day.\n\nThen I find out the hour before I was going to ask her that she had literally just asked someone else, who I later found out was one of my close friends. I kind of fucked up on this one because when I mentioned it to him, he said he originally had no plans of even going, but it was all sort of spur-of-the-moment, and that if he knew I planned on asking her he wouldn't have agreed to go.\n\nWe agreed that one of us would talk to her about it, although both of us seem rather adamant in trying to get the other to talk it over with her. I don't have much time left at all, so I've decided I might as well grow a pair and take the plunge.\n\nTrouble is, how does one ask someone to prom, at the same time saying something like \"Oh, yeah, your date didn't really want to go anyway, and said it'd be fine if I asked you,\" which seems really desperate and kind of a dick thing to do.\n\nI assumed it would be easier if both of us talked to her either at one time or one-on-one, since she has 3rd hour with him and 5th hour with me, so he could possibly break the news and later me and her would talk it over.\n\nI honestly don't have much of an idea what to do. I'm not usually all that social anyway, but she and I have been good friends for a long time now, so I feel like it shouldn't be too much of a problem, but the more I think about it, the more I worry I'll somehow fuck it up. So does anyone have suggestions. Please be honest if I seem too clingy or desperate.", "summary": "Was going to ask friend since childhood to prom, she asked a friend of mine who wasn't even planning on going and agreed that he'd be fine if I went with her, but neither of us seems to have the balls to talk to her about it"}
{"id": "t3_3v5xsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] will be putting our family dog to sleep tomorrow and am having a hard time coping", "post": "This is painful for me to write so I will be keeping it short\n\nI will be losing my best friend tomorrow.  She has been a fighter but it's time to let her get some rest in dog heaven\n\nShe's been my main source of joy and support these 11 years.  I used to have anger issues but having her around me calmed me down significantly.  Now that I'm losing her, I can already feel the anger swelling up inside me again.\n\nI can't cope, this is too painful.  I need some support.  How do I deal with this?", "summary": "losing my dog, can't cope with pain"}
{"id": "t3_3ck8hp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering Jimmy John's to dorm.", "post": "Obligatory it didn't happen today but last semester. So it was nearing the end of the day when I decided to chill out and go ahead and smoke some of that good stuff. I normally follow this by ordering some pizza but today I felt like getting a sub from Jimmy John's. \n\nSo I hit the GB (gravity bong) a couple of times and proceed to get on their website and place my order. Their delivery is awesome because the fee is super cheap. So I place my order and turn on some music to chill out. \n\n30 minutes goes by and  I'm starting to worry because they usually don't take this long. Did I place the order? Did I accidentally tell them to deliver it tomorrow or something? As I'm contemplating the possibility of making a mistake, my phone rings. It's the delivery man letting me know he's just arrived.\n\nHell yeah.\n\nI make my way downstairs and approach the young man with the food. He's on his phone talking about how long he's been waiting and he's just going to leave since I haven't arrived their yet. I began to rethink the past 3 minutes and wonder if I somehow dipped into a trance and wondered around for a good while. I walk up to him and apologize for the wait. Anywho, I sign the receipt and grab the goodies when all of a sudden I notice something that's off. The delivery fee was $2.00.\n\n\"What?\" I muttered out.\n\n\"Did you charge extra on the delivery because I ordered drinks and chips instead of just a sandwich?\" Like I normally do.\n\n\"Uhh, no this has always been our delivery fee.\" *long pause* \"we don't sell sandwiches.\"\n\nDumbfounded I look at the bag, then up at the delivery man's uniform, and finally at his hat. \n\n**Hibachi Factory**\n\nWhat the hell is going on I wondered when I slowly look to the left and behind this confused man to find the Jimmy John's delivery man with the widest grin on his face. \n\nI apologized to everyone for clearing being blitzed out of my mind, grabbed the food and went back to my dorm giggling like a madman.", "summary": "Almost stole someone else's food. Noticed difference in delivery fee before difference in delivery service."}
{"id": "t3_m6cx4", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Let's talk about cat boners", "post": "seriously.  let's talk about 'em.\n\nI got my cat back in July.  He's a year old and they had already neutered him at the shelter where I found him.  Lately, cat boners.  Like two to three times a day when he's on the couch next to me, I'll glance at him and he's got the lipstick out.  \n\nNow, I'm really good looking and all, but I don't think I'm his type so I'm not really sure what to make of this.  My online research has yielded little (and I think I am now on my work's watch list for googling \"cat boners\") other than saying this is common for about a month after the snip snip as there is still testosterone in their system.  Other things say it might be a urinary tract issue or other medical problem, but that's only if there's a constant boner.\n\nThe only possible explanation I found was that they didn't get both balls during his eunuch surgery.  Botched neutering isn't uncommon apparently, but I found that answer on Yahoo Answers and we've all seen enough screen shots to know that's not a reliable source.\n\nSo kids, I come to you for advice.  Advice on cat boners.", "summary": "what to do about tons of cat boners?"}
{"id": "t3_51s4wl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How forgiving should I [30/F] be to a good friend [32/M] who has been under stress?", "post": "I've been good friends with this guy for nearly 7 years.  He's always been super sweet and considerate.  Over the last year and a half, we've decided to become something more like friends with benefits.  At first, it was just fine, but in the past few months, he's become for the lack of a better term, an asshole.  \n\nWe've always messaged each other about stuff like asking how was your day or just to chat.  In the past months, he's stopped messaging me first, I always have to message him to initiate a conversation.  And half the time, my messages go ignored.  He'll still be friendly in group situations and when we're face to face, but when we chat over messages, I'm usually ignored.  I've tried bringing it up to him, but he just says I'm being paranoid over nothing.  If I press the matter, I get snapped at and told I'm being ridiculous.  He never replies when I ask to hang out, so I've been seeing less and less of him, but he'll readily hang out with other people.  The only time he'll actually initiate a chat with me or talk to me for an extended period of time is when he's asking for sexual photos of me cause he's horny.\n\nI know he's been under a lot of stress lately with both a job he hates and recently his dad just had a stroke.  So I want to be forgiving and understanding, but I can't help feeling like I went from friends with benefits to just benefits only.", "summary": "Good friend went from being a sweet guy to a raging asshole probably due to stress, but how much is too much to put up with?"}
{"id": "t3_err3q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thank you AskReddit for finding that carriage toy from my mom's childhood. Here's her reaction Christmas morning.. (video)", "post": "Backstory: \n\nSo after much help from the reddit community, I was able to track the exact one down, and I also bought a display case for it (pics:)\n\nI hid it under a large giftbag, and then had my mom take the bag off christmas morning. The video is below, but be warned, its not the best - the main reason is that I'm hugging her for most of it as she sobs. It also starts about 3 seconds after she realizes what it is. Note to self: next time, have someone else hold the camera..\n\nAfterwards I explained what reddit was, and then gave her a printout of the entire post (16 pages!). Her words: \"Thank those website people, and tell your friends on the internet what they did was amazing, and its remarkable just what people are able to do nowadays..\" Although this sounds a bit 'Old-timey-ish', She is right in a way - if I had tried to do this 10 years ago, it would have consisted of me going from antique store to antique store, most likely empty handed..\n\nbottomline: thanks again to all of reddit, and to Ainslie, DanielBG, Obomba, nyjets, pizzawar, nilhilustfrederi, funkiporcini, hobart, gimme_a_sec, and all the others who helped track this thing down - you made this a very cool christmas for my entire family..", "summary": "Reddit helped me find a toy of my moms that I destroyed long ago, and replaced this christmas. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_lgerl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found a backdoor into the school's network; Use it or Report it?", "post": "Okay, a friend and I found a backdoor into our school's network, it allows us to access every file on the network which could potentially lead to disaster.\n\nWe're ***not*** planning on formatting the C drive, changing grades or anything drastic. He suggested we make an admin account and I suggested we just look around and see if we found anything interesting. (Bearing in mind we can access every student's files, although I really don't want to invade anyone's privacy.)\n\nMy question is, should we report the backdoor (and potentially get a *\"get-out-of-jail free card\"*) or should we use it to make an admin account and play pranks on the school?", "summary": "Friend and I can access all files on school's network; Use it or report it?"}
{"id": "t3_rksbv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your best \"Good Guy Greg\" moment?", "post": "Mine has to be this one time I was at the bus stop my junior year of highschool.\n\nMy friend was a complete wimp. Stature, personality, etc. Not that I was much better, except in the personality department. I would do just about anything that would not send me to the hospital.\n\nSo one day, some big guy, probably 275+ lbs, 6'5\", started pushing my friend around, calling him racial slurs. I pushed him, and said to go fuck with someone else.\n\nI regretted almost immediately, but I kept a straight face. He gets in my face, and asks if I have a problem. I figured it was too late to back down, so I loudly said, \"Yeah, fucker, why are you picking on him, you mother fucking faggot?\", hoping to gather some attention from someone to have this stopped. \n\nHe starts laughing, says, \"You wanna fight, you little bitch?\"\n\nI remembered something that a kid like me used to get out of a fight a few years ago at another school. I looked up at him and said, \"Yeah, bitch, lets go.\"\n\nHe smiles, and I take off my shirt. He takes off his too.\nI start unbuttoning and taking off my pants, his face was priceless. \n\n\"Wha- what the fuck are you doing?\"\n\n\"NIGGA WE GONNA DO THIS RIGHT, WE'RE GONNA FIGHT NAKED BITCH\"\n\nI had an audience at this point, and they started chuckling. \n\n\"Hell no nigga, I ain't fighting naked, get your clothes on\"\n\n\"FUCK YOU BITCH I FIGHT NAKED, IT'S HOW I DO SHIT!\"\n\nHe was starting to get nervous as I was down to my boxers and some bus drivers were stepping off of their buses. \n\nHe jumped on his bus and said, \"You're fucking crazy bro, what the fuck is wrong with you.\"", "summary": "Friend was getting picked on by a huge guy. I stepped in and he wanted to fight, I took off my clothes to fight naked, he noped right out of there."}
{"id": "t3_3bmon8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost breastfeeding my nephew", "post": "First off, I'm a guy which makes this whole ordeal 10x weirder. \n\nSo this fuck up happened Sunday night while I was attending a birthday party for my little niece. We all gathered around as she proceeded to open Frozen present after Frozen present. Admittedly I was a little bored so I thought it would be a fun idea to hold my new nephew for a little bit. I'm usually not one to hold babies, but I have a soft spot for this little guy as he has an enormous baby head and it makes me chuckle every time I interact with him. So I pick the little fellow up and everyone is oohing and awing as the little tyke is snuggling up to me. Wow, this isn't so bad I think to myself. After about three minutes he starts trying to bury his gargantuan head into my chest. Me being a rookie have no idea what he is trying to do and assume he is just being extra cuddly. Because of this, I make no attempts to stop him from grabbing at my plus sized man boobies.  Soon everyone in the room is staring at me and begin to burst out laughing. At this point in time I still have no idea what's going on. Finally the light bulb in my head turns on. Babies are mammals, mammals get milk from their mothers breast, I'm a bit chubby and have man boobs, this fucking baby thinks he is at an all you can eat milk buffet. I quickly handed the baby back to his mother so she could give him a proper meal. Not sure if I will ever live this one down. \n\n(", "summary": ") Decided to hold my 8 month old nephew while at a family party, thought he was being super cuddly, turns out he was looking for dinner."}
{"id": "t3_500n70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27 M with my boyfriend 34 M for 2 years, How do I become a better listener?", "post": "Lately we've really gotten into some heated arguments. He expressed to me several times that he doesn't feel like he's being heard and/or appreciated.\n\nWhenever we talk I always try to stop what I'm doing to hear him. If there's something I didn't catch,I always ask for clarification ex. \"What did you say before that?\" \"Can you say that again?\" \n\nThere are sometimes when I'm in the middle of housework or something that requires my attention and I'll give him one word answers or tell him I'm trying to complete something so he knows I can really delve into a conversation with him.\n\nBut lately it's gotten pretty bad where I will completely forget something he told me until he mentions it to me a second time. It's not that I'm outright ignoring him, he expressed that's how this feels to him. But it's just me forgetting. I have a bit of a poor memory, I tend to forget dates, holidays, events etc. (unless they are written down or I have event reminders). \n\nHow can I be a better listener? I don't want him to feel unheard. When I can, I do give him my attention and listen to him. But it's the small details that get between us because those are usually easy for me to forget and they are also the things that will make him feel unheard.\n\nI've thought of trying to write everything down but after thinking about it, it would be really difficult to incorperate, not mention more time consuming. \n\nHas anyone had a similar issue? How can I be better at listening and making my partner feel heard?", "summary": "I forget some of the things my partner tells me and it makes him feel unheard/What can I do to fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_4ph26q", "subreddit": "college", "title": "What are some good extracurriculars I can get into?", "post": "I'm looking to get into an elite college. I have good academics but I know that won't help me fly into an elite college easily. I go to a \"poor\" high school (according to my peers) allegedly, but I see that my options for extracurriculars are very limited.\n\nI want to be a computer science major when I go into college, just keep that in mind.\n\nI want to go into an elite college. Not talking Ivy League, with the opportunities given by our school, that's hardly possible, but I have my eyes set on Cornell University because I believe I can make it if I truly try.\n\nSo that's the thing about those top elite colleges, they don't just want academics, they want extracurriculars, so what can I do that'll help me in the admissions process? I'm an open-minded person that loves trying new things, meaning that I'm not asking just for the sake of getting into a good college.\n\nI'm currently a dancer (company/performance level), school tennis player (Varsity division), and policy debater (Varsity division). I volunteer at the local debate league to judge tournaments for middle school students enrolled in their school's debate program, which gets me a few dozen hours but not adequate.\n\nFor next year I'm looking to do National Honor Society (community service and tutoring) and math team (might help for my STEM major).\n\nSince my school's ECs are pretty limited I'm preferably looking for something I can do outside of school in my own time. Tennis and debate particularly take up most of my after school time so other school ECs wouldn't work well because of conflicting schedules, but I think I can be well-off with something outside of school.", "summary": "Give me an EC that'll help me get into an elite college. I'm open-minded so anything is welcome and I'd love to try."}
{"id": "t3_50xjw3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not paying close enough attention to my son. (Slightly NSFW)", "post": "This happened a few days ago. So mommy went out for a meeting today and left dad (me) in charge of Casius. Well I am a pro at this now, super easy right?\n\nAfter maybe 30 minutes he comes into the room and looks at me making noises like I don't like this. I look at him and think, what is he eating, and where did he get peanut butter? I smell it. There are no animals in this house so how did he find cat poop? The little gray cells are turning. I look down. Ah. His diaper is gone. I go into the other room, and there on the floor is the evidence. \n\nOn August 30th, 2016, my 1 year old son ate but did not enjoy, his own poop.\nMom will be so impressed with me.", "summary": "Son tried his own brownie mix and I should pay more attention to what he is doing."}
{"id": "t3_ws0rh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What actions can be taken to reduce the local rent in Duluth, MN?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I am going to post this in [1] /r/advice and [2] /r/askreddit. I am a 26 year old female. I am married and have a daughter who is almost three (October 1st). I work full time for a small construction company that pays me well and is very flexible with my home schedule (I work 38-40 hours/week). I also attend online courses full-time as I am working towards my Bachelor's in Accounting (I maintain a 3.75 out of 4.00 GPA). I feel that I am a reliable, hardworking, and motivated person....I'm getting to the point I promise.... My husband delivers at night for a local business. He also attends school full-time. This really helps because he is able to mind our daughter during the day; I take over at night. Between the two of us, half of our monthly income goes towards our rent. We live in a four-plex. We have an average two bedroom apartment. It has a little character, but not so great carpet and tile. Our landlord is mediocre. We do not pay any utilities (thank goodness). I understand that Duluth is a college city and renting an apartment/house is the norm around here, but how is it possible for landlords to charge so much money? We have lived under the roof of five different landlords and it's always the same story; high rent, not such a great place. In all but one apartment the washer and dryer have always been coin operated, and never work. I cannot seem to find a very reliable source for median income, but it seems to be close to $36,000/year. So I'm asking reddit, what can I do to get this rent thing under control? I mean legally. I want to protest. I want to do something. All advice is appreciated and welcome (even all you smart asses).", "summary": "Reddit, what steps can I take to help lower rent in Duluth, MN?"}
{"id": "t3_2lzba5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [26/m] said something stupid to the [24/f] i'm dating. Wait or let her know i'm Sorry?", "post": "Intro: We have been seeing each other for 4-5 weeks. Daily contact,great sex etc. \n\nLast Friday we went out for some drinks. And this was the first time we told each other stuff like \"You make me happy, I like you\" that kind of stuff. She went home with me the same night, but she went home to herself the first thing she did when she woke up. \n\nThis made me quite confused. Was all those stuff she said just lies? I failed to realize that perhaps she just wanted to get home for other reasons. \n\nWe talked on FB the same day, and everything seemed alright. And she told me she went home because she was tired etc. But just as I was about to log out for next night adventures, I said \" I meant all that stuff I said yesterday have a great night\"  she replied \"Okey, you too\" In an act of rage and confusion i thougt the reason she left me early was because she did not really mean any of the stuff she said.(expected a more \"i like you to\" response)... \n\nSo I ended the conversation with \"Now i know why you really left\" Ever since then she has been cold to me. And I have not heard from her since.\n\nThis might not be the \"real reason\" she is acting strange. But Should I swallow my pride and let her know i'm sorry and I understand why you went home. Or just wait for her to contact me again?", "summary": "Said something stupid. Not sure if I should Hail-Mary an excuse or wait for her to contact."}
{"id": "t3_50n3mn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my boyfriend late for work", "post": "Last night my boyfriend came over to hang out/stay over. He tells me he needs to get up for work at 6:40, and asks me to set an alarm on my phone. \n\nFirst a quick bit of background; I have OCD which usually makes me very paranoid about alarms specifically. I always have to check them over and over, sometimes to the point where I can't even sleep. Usually. \n\nSo anyways, he asks me to set an alarm for him. I ask him please to just do it himself but he is already half asleep and says he needs to me do it, trusts me to do it etc. \n\nI'm in the middle of playing mass effect so I quickly set alarms for 6:30, 6:40 and 6:45, thinking I'll be an extra good girlfriend. \n\nHere's where my ever-annoying OCD let me down; did not even think about checking alarms again, and went to bed. Fast forward to 8:20, 20 minutes after my boyfriend is already supposed to be at work (which is an hour drive away) and I frantically wake him up saying he needs to leave right now. I check my phone to see what happened and there I see my three alarms set for 6:30PM, 6:40PM and 6:45PM. Nice. I'm an idiot. Needless to say he was not happy.", "summary": "Fucked up the AM/PM on an alarm and caused my boyfriend to be over an hour late to work."}
{"id": "t3_1cn204", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28m] gf [20f] went back to her ex but keeps kissing me and touching me when we are alone.", "post": "I started dating this woman about two weeks ago and we hit it off really well. Shes going through a divorce and did warn me that she was still hung up on her ex. So two nights ago her ex messaged her and told her that he wanted to get back together with him. She ignored him that night and I spent the night with her like normal. The next day though she told me she chose me over him, and showed me where she texted him that, but like 30mins later she said that it didnt feel right and that she thought she should take some time to work it out with him, since she is still\nIn love with him and they have a baby together. I told her that I understand, since they have that history an we haven't been dating for long. The problem is that he is in the army and won't be around for a year and we work together. When no one else is around she kisses me on the mouth and holds my hand, all the while saying she wants to be with him. I do like her a lot so the kisses are nice, but it also makes it hard to move on, as I keep thinking she will leave him. What should I do?", "summary": "she went back to her ex but gets jealous when I try to move on and keeps kissing me"}
{"id": "t3_1aq3g7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going ape shit at 3 am.", "post": "Now, the whole story requires some explanation, so bear with me.\n\nMy next door neighbors have servants (slightly low paid butlers/maids, without all the etiquette butlers/maids usually have), which outnumber the occupants of the house in a ratio of 1:3. The servants live in their own quarters, which are an extension of the house. The problem is that their quarters are right in front of my window, and if i was crazy enough I could easily jump the gap in between.\n\nHere's where the problem begins. They got two new dogs (male and female). And they're living right where the servants are. Naturally, they engage in loud, dog sex for a better part of the night. \n\nAlong with that, they also got a new radio, which is on full blast all night long.\n\nThe worst part is that the servants have a tendency to fight at night. They yell, hit each other with sticks, and eventually become friends and make up. And by make up I mean they engage in some really freaky, loud sex. Sometimes when the radio is on, sometimes when the dogs are doing it, sometimes when all three are taking place at the same time. They get so loud that I have trouble hearing music through my headphones.\n\nNow that I've gone through the explanation, let me tell you what happened. I had a maths exam the following morning, and I was trying to concentrate and study. Naturally, I was in a bad mood. And that's when they start with the lovemaking. Oh god, they even broke a washing machine during all that, and soon enough I lost it. I got up, started swearing at the top of my voice and whatnot. This resulted in everyone in my house waking up and listening to the kind of swearwords I, er, swear(?). And the worst part? The guys next door didn't even stop.", "summary": "Neighbors were doing the nasty at 3 am, I got pissed, started swearing and raging and now am grounded for all the swearing I did. "}
{"id": "t3_3aaub5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a dishonest shop to have my oil changed for the past 12 months.", "post": "Most expensive fuck up of my life. I've been going to a chain oil change place to have my oil changed for the past year. Today I was driving to work and when I tried to accelerate to get onto the freeway my car wouldn't move. It tried so hard to accelerate with no success. I was like, \"what the fuck?\" So I decide to get off on the next exit and turn around and go home so I'm not stranded on the freeway. \n\nNow I notice my car is making a knocking sound. For, apparently, any car savvy person... this is not a good sound to hear. I manage to make it to a mechanic shop by my house. They inspect my car and revved the engine.... which produced the most horrid screeching sound I've ever heard. The mechanics in the shop, even the receptionist, look at each other and shake their heads. Great. They tell me that if the place that was changing my oil would have told me that I had a leak that could have been fixed by a $60 part, it could have saved me from having to BUY A NEW ENGINE. Fuck me. I work 2 jobs, luckily one of them is within walking distance. I just have to figure out how to live off of one income...", "summary": "Place that I went to have my oil changed failed to tell me about a leak that needed a $60 part. Now I have to get a new engine."}
{"id": "t3_1dudwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m28) love my wife (f 29) but need some sex advice.", "post": "First off let me say, I love my wife. She is an amazing person. She cooks, cleans, works from home and manages to take care of the toddlers that we have created. I know most of that seems normal so let me get to the amazing part, She gives me BJs when she is on her period, because period sex grosses me out. She lets me play video games and watch sports on the weekends. I have a poker night with my buddies and she never complains, always fixes us snacks and even gets in on the play. She never makes me go to girly movies or home shows or any of that other crap.\n\nWe have been together for 10 years, we lost our virginity to each other and have \"grown up\" together. Our sex life is amazing, we have sex almost daily or on good days twice. The problem is I want to have sex with other women. I still want to have sex with her, she is amazing in bed but the thought comes to mind of well she is all I know in bed. I would never betray my wife but I find myself wanting to have sex with another woman more and more.Or maybe being involved with a poly relationship. \n\nI am really at a loss on what to do next. Do I talk to her about this or just leave it alone and be thankful that I have such an amazing partner?", "summary": "I love my wife but I want to have sex with others."}
{"id": "t3_3lmttf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20M] mother [40F] is forcing me to break up with my SO [19F]", "post": "My SO and I have known each other from childhood but we've been seeing each other for about 6 months. My mother found out we had been seeing each other about 3 months ago. She told me to break up with her because she was too fat, not pretty enough and that we didn't have the same goals. I didn't want to nor did I think the same way so I continued seeing her in secret. That continued smoothly until Friday, where my mom randomly called me  and asked me about where I was. I ended up telling her and she picked me up. When I got in the car she was crying and began yelling at me telling me that I needed to tell her who I was with. I couldn't handle it and I finally told her. She told me that I betrayed her by lying (which I completely think is true, I mean i lied to her and went behind her back) she once again told me that I needed to break up with her but this time she gave me an ultimatum: either i break up with her or I'm getting kicked out of my house. I told her I needed some time to think she said that I couldn't have any more time. We went about our errands and she didn't say much until earlier today. We talked about it again and now she brought up how she didn't have a job, her physical appearance, how I was just trying to get away from home because of my family's situation and the fact that we don't have similar goals. I told her how she had a job, how I'm not trying to run away from home and how we do share interests and goals. After that she was just speechless and went to bed. That was the end of our conversation. I don't know what to do or how to handle this. I don't want to break up with my SO but I also don't want to get kicked out of my home.", "summary": "Mom found me secretly dating and gave me an ultimatum, I'm not sure how to handle this. "}
{"id": "t3_2t7d6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my Boyfriend [25 M] 10 months, Boyfriend still talks to ex.", "post": "So this is my first post. Forgive me if I format it incorrectly. \n\nSo my boyfriend and I have bee dating around 8 months, we started off being friends with benefits. He told me at the beginning that he basically wasn't over his ex. \n\nSo a little backstory. He has know his ex since they were 4 because they lived next store to each other. She was his first crush but they didn't date until college, and didn't date for that long (Our relationship is the longest that he has ever been in). \n\nHe has told me once that he was completely over her after we made it official, but I asked him about it again recently and he said basically that he would always care about her because they've known each other so long and are really good friends etc..\n\nIt's always bothered me a bit, because I just always feel like second choice. He always tells me he is happy and that he loves me. She lives in a different state and im not really sure about their break up details. \n\nI feel like I'm just being stupid and jealous so I try not to think about it, and mostly I just feel like I'm being crazy. However, I recently saw some of his texts to her and she sent him a picture (nothing dirty just a selfie) and he has it locked on his phone as well as a text with her address. \n\nI just don't know what to think. It goes against my instincts to bring it up because I don't want to be one of those crazy jealous girlfriends, and usually Im not happy with this situation.\n\nI haven' dated a lot and I am just not very good at communicating. I don't know if I'm just being crazy or I should just let it go. I really are about him, but I also don't want to date someone that is pining over their ex. I can honestly say that I don't have any feelings for any of my exes, so maybe Im jus having a hard time relating??\n\nAdvice/Opinions please???", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4zazm4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[PA] Police took my car after friend was arrested and are threatening to seize it but cant. Legal grey area", "post": "This is a throwaway to ask for advice.  Please save the lectures.  I have little funding for a lawyer so maybe someone will know something here.\n\nI have been using my brothers car as I just wrecked mine.  He lent it to a friend 4 weekends ago who was arrested for:\nConspiracy, possession with intent to deliver and prohibited acts... whatever that means.  The story he told us probably isn't true so I wont post it.\n\nAnyways this was a month ago and the car has been in impound the entire time.  The cop refused to pick up the phone or return calls and he impound lot just states its on police hold.  After finally contacting the cop he/she said she would release it that day.  When he/she didn't we called back and now he/she is threatening to seize it.  \n\nPA is notorious for seizing cars and any property with no recourse however my brother did not know he would be committing a crime with it and it is still owned by the bank technically as its only half paid off.  Also, fortunately this happened in Allegheny county which is the only county where they cannot just seize property without a conviction of the owner(sources pasted below).  Since the owner was not there it cant be seized.\n\nthe cops seems to be holding it just because he/she can to make a point.  It's been a month though and this is getting out of hand.  Does anyone have experience with this or know of a way I could simply pay an attorney <$100 to make some phone calls and put some pressure to release it.  Its not held as evidence, just based on the whim it could be seized at a later date.  \n\nNo paperwork was provided.", "summary": "Cop will not release a car from impound holding it in a legal grey area"}
{"id": "t3_2bv1wc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M15] have feelings for a girl [F16] i met online and dont know what to do.", "post": "Hey guys,\nI recently(2months ago) met a girl online ,lets call her Emily.\nEmily and I met on a game many of you may know, League of Legends, and we got pretty good friends and started skyping and chatting over hours everyday. She has the most fun and loving personality i've ever seen someone have and we have a lot in common (interests)\nNow slowly i developed feelings for her and I really am not sure how to handle all that, for more information: \nWe both live in different countries but already talked about meeting each other, we camed a lot of times.\nI really started liking her, maybe its more then just liking her, and i know it sounds like im just a teenager whos overreacting or taking it too serious, but when im with her i just have that feeling that im all these things that i want to be i feel like im charming and funny, everytime we skype both of us just laugh and have a lot of flirty talk.\nUnder normal circumstances i wouldn't have any problems waiting for her to come over and then tell her about how i feel, but what really drives me crazy and makes me unsure of how she feels is that she has a lot of friends that have crushes on her and she told me that she doesnt like that and that she feels like its awkward.\nAnd thats what makes me nervous.. i dont want to just be another guy that has a crush on her and now i just cant figure out a way to find out what she feels about me and how to confront her with my feelings because i always have the thought in the back of my mind that im just one of many and that just makes me go crazy...", "summary": "Met a girl online and im unsure of how to find out what she feels for me and how to tell her about my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_nhtfx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In general, why are girls uninterested in anything that lacks substance? (Best word I can come up with at the moment)", "post": "Seriously. Even girls who're smart school wise, seem to not care for any further education or thought provoking topics. There're a few female friends of mine who get higher marks than me, but there is no way in hell you could ever argue that they are smarter. They achieve these marks through studying and such for the test, but why is it that they won't spend their time learning about new things or developing a hobby? They're content in talking about guys, shopping, and pop culture. What the fuck, seriously. \n\nThis is a generalisation - obviously there are some awesome girls out there. Generally though, those that are awesome tend to be ugly or take poor care of themselves. Is this an evolutionary thing where the ones who aren't as attractive try to compensate through other means (e.g. having the ability to have a conversation about current events with them, developments in science, etc.) in order to procreate?", "summary": "why are most girls, despite doing well in school dumb as fuck, and/or why are the ones who aren't dumb as fuck ugly as fuck. again, this is a *generalisation*."}
{"id": "t3_51n0q5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] Is what I want realistically achievable?", "post": "I crave a 100% honest relationship with someone, where they're also confident in being able to understand and respect what the other wants, no matter what.\n\nMy current relationships all tell me they want that too.  Then their actions show they don't, and they're just lying to/playing me\nleading me to believe it's most likely that this type of relationship doesn't exist, or that we're incapable of it in which case I don't understand why I want it or where it came from.  So I've been bitch-slapped sideways And am lost.\n\nI'm lost about being lost, man.  But with that idea in my mind, everything else has been just settling and not that interesting to me.\n\nI am confident I know what it takes to identify what I really want from a relationship, how to do it, and that it's doable.\n\nNo one will give up people pleasing for it though, leaving me to wonder: Is what I want even realistically achievable?  \n\nP.S: I'm okay with that relationship being \"with myself\", with me being that person for me.  But then I'm literally uninterested in anything in this lame and sham-ful world, so it neutrally&logically sounds better to consciously choose not to continue being here.", "summary": "Is a respectful relationship through 100% honest communication realistically achievable?"}
{"id": "t3_30hilo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] am annoyed by gf [27F]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and we moved in together 4 months ago because she needed a bit of help with bills. Her and I have been friends since middle school and over-all I have mad love for the girl. But she's got this problem.. where she's a huge jerk. She is a know-it-all of incorrect information who literally will not be corrected.  \n  \n  Small example: the other day we were chatting about daylight savings, when she started \"educating\" me about how it's an American idea and Benjamin Franklin pushed for it. Having recently researched DST, I disagreed. I brought up the facts, and she became offended, so I offered proof, so she wouldn't be misinformed but she became more argumentative as I tried to move on.  \n  \n  A larger, more trying example, is last night. I was watching the new Cosmos for the first time and it was actively blowing my mind, when she starts ranting about the obvious atheist agenda. I was raised Catholic but became atheist after a series of intense soul searching and she is a \"spiritual\" christian who doesn't actually practice Christianity. I told her that I didn't create the show, but I am enjoying it, and asked that she just respect my choices. I agree with Cosmos, that organized religion has actively held back scientific progress. She continued to persist (yelling, mind you) that Carl Sagan's original Cosmos was being tarnished and that Mr. Sagan was an avid Christian, which is also the opposite of true. I kept asking her to simply stop yelling, drop the topic and enjoy the knowledge for what it's worth.. or simply stop watching. This unfriendly, one-sided debate continued for hours, even all the way to bed before she went to sleep, as I just endured being cornered about how it's not fair for this tv show that has nothing to do with me is educating people against the bible.  \n  \n  Long story short.. what the fuck, man? She started off cool and now over the past month, she has just been the crazy activist for ignorance, battling against me about things that I don't even feel like talking about. Life's too damn short to fight like this.", "summary": "My girlfriend gives incorrect information and gets overly agressive about opinions to the point of causing day-long fights if I disagree with her."}
{"id": "t3_1la76w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29M] boyfriend believes in a \"don't ask, don't tell\" policy when it comes to travelling and hooking up with other people. I'm confused [23F]", "post": "My boyfriend thinks that it's all a part of the experience of traveling, casual sex does not mean love, and hooking up with other girls does not have anything to do with his love for me.\n\nI understand this at a conceptual level, but I'm still uncomfortably jealous knowing that it will happen. He's also going on a trip for one month and still wants to be in a relationship with me. We've been together for almost 9 months now.\n\nA part of me wonders if I'm being irrational and should just try to be mentally strong and confident. But then again-- what kind of freak of a person thinks it's okay to cheat on/hurt someone he loves under ANY circumstance?", "summary": "boyfriend thinks it's okay to hook up with other people while traveling in other countries under the \"don't ask, don't tell\" policy. Makes sense conceptually, but I feel uncomfortably jealous about it."}
{"id": "t3_3iwnck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) have been asked to give a speech at my sister's (24F) wedding. We are not close and I don't know what to say.", "post": "My sister Kelly is getting married and she informed me and my other sister, Sarah (25F and recently married), that she wants us to give a speech at the wedding since the groom's brother is giving a speech. We both don't have any idea what to say.\n\nNone of us were close growing up, we didn't talk to each other much, and even today it's difficult to make genuine conversation. I can't really remember many fond memories.\n\nAnd so with Kelly's wedding a month away, Sarah and I are trying to piece together a speech, with zero ideas. It's just a really awkward situation. Any advise on how to do this?", "summary": "Sister has asked my other sister and I to make a speech at her wedding, but we are not close at all."}
{"id": "t3_xz8xz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] slow moving relationship, how to avoid friendzone?", "post": "Been dating this girl recently for almost a month and everything has been going pretty smoothly. Girl seems to be on a conservative side/seems to want to take it slow. I'm fine with that, but I want to avoid heading into the friendzone. We've already had our first kiss(after 2 dates), but not our first makeout session if that makes any sense. We've been holding hands ever since we first started to, but my friend had told me about how he too had been hand holding this girl and things just never escalated...\n\nI feel like I should try to escalate more, but I don't want to be pushy due to her seeming like she wants to take it slow...I've tried steering the conversation before into something sexual but it didn't work(she didn't seem like she wanted to talk about it) so I gave up.", "summary": "going out with girl for a month but only kissed once very lightly. girl seems conservative. how to avoid friendzone?"}
{"id": "t3_3i0s69", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being nice at a bar", "post": "This happened about a month ago.\n\nI have a tendency to be nice to people when really I shouldn't. Reason being, let's face it, people suck. \n\nLong story short I have to walk with a cane cause I had hip surgery. I haven't left the house much because walking sucks. \nI have reached a whole new level of bored. My friends being friends they force me to go out to the bar with them so I'm not cooped up at home. \n\nLet me just say, I really don't like bars. I've come to a point in my life where I don't like being in loud places full of obnoxious drunk people (sorry not sorry). Especially since all the bars in New York are now flooded with yuppies & trust fund babies. \n\nI go to this bar, and the first thing I wanna do is sit. It's crowded so I can't find a seat and I post up against a wall by the bathroom (no line surprisingly, that's why I stood there.) It's easier on my hip to lean on something. There's a guy standing diagonally from me who looks just as bored as I do. We both watch this girl come out of the bathroom and I happened to notice she had toilet paper stuck to her shoe. I tap her till she finally noticed and she turns around and gives me a \"ugh who is tapping me\" look. I point down to signal to her shoe. While also trying mouth out \"you have tissue\". \nWhat happens next I was at a loss of words for. She kicks the long piece of toilet paper tissue off of her shoe and it goes right on top my foot and my cane. And she just turns back around and walks away.\nMy jaw fucking drops, I don't even know why it surprises me anymore. I look around to make sure I wasn't the o my one who witnessed this. The guy standing diagonally from me looks right at me with the look of shock and starts bursting with laughter to reassure me I wasn't crazy. My friend then comes running from across the room and says to me \"That's why I don't fucking help people.\" My bf tells me this all the time, I'm glad he wasn't there to witness this.", "summary": "tried to be nice by telling someone they had TP stuck to their shoe only to then have it thrown on top of my shoe."}
{"id": "t3_4ypxy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22m] has been telling his coworkers he's baking the goodies he asks me [20f] to make for their weekly potluck.", "post": "It was really off-putting to find out and I told him I didn't like that he did that. He laughed and told me I was being immature. \n\nI know it's childish of me to want secondhand glory from people I don't know and that I'm baking for him, not to impress strangers, so it shouldn't matter what he does with them. But it bothers me! I've been annoyed all day whenever he points out a recipe he thinks I should use for next week. \n\nI used to bake to express affection (and maybe part of me liked that he took them to work and got compliments) but now I'm resenting the thought of making him something.", "summary": "I don't want to be boyfriend's ghost baker anymore. I don't know how to move past my resentment and moodiness when he brings up recipes."}
{"id": "t3_2l9jll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24] and I [M/25] have broken up (temporarily?)", "post": "After a (overall great) relationship of 3,5 years my girlfriend and I have broken up. However we had our  (serious) issues on which I won't elaborate and after a lot of tears we decided to break up. We have promised each other to give it another try after some time to start over clean. Because we love each other tremendously (still mutual) but the issues caused confusion. We don't really know what to do or what to feel.\n\nThe thing is, I am not sure how to deal with it. We said that we'll keep in touch but I feel like texting a lot won't do any good. What would you do? Say nothing to the other person and just a while wait to start with a slate? What would you do with possible worries that the other person will not be interested anymore?", "summary": "how to cope with a possible temporarily break up?"}
{"id": "t3_4iufzy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my [30M] friends don't like my girlfriend [28F]", "post": "Throwaway as my girlfriend knows my reddit username.\n\nI've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about five years now. She sometimes finds social situations quite taxing, especially recently, and while she tries to be friendly and sociable can say things which come across as rude or tactless. I feel that our friends often find her difficult to talk to, and that she struggles to engage in and maintain conversations with them, even after all this time. \n\nRecently some of our friends have been quite snappy with her. I'm concerned that she's starting to grate on people, and I really don't want to be in a situation where I have to choose between my girlfriend and my friends. They're allowed to not like her of course, but what's bothering me about the situation is that they feel it's OK to be openly hostile to her. Is this a warning sign I'm just being blind to? Is it even a situation I need to get involved with? If some people have a legitimate problem with her, wouldn't it be best to resolve it with them herself? \n\nI'm slightly embarrassed to write this next bit, but it is worth mentioning. All this hostility is coming from other women - my male friends are either fine, not bothered, or just better at hiding it. Two of the women involved have made inappropriate comments to me in the past. But this can't just come down to good old fashioned jealousy...right?", "summary": "Female friends acting aggressively to girlfriend of 5 years. Warning sign or jealousy?"}
{"id": "t3_1q4cra", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend(29) and I(m28) work together. Need perspective on her flirting with another co-worker.", "post": "We started dating a couple of months ago, and it is progressing into a more serious relationship. Everything is going great so far, and I trust her. Recently she has been revealing to me that another male co-worker has been openly \"hitting\" on her, and she has shown no indication of stopping it. This person does not yet know of our relationship together and is also married himself. We've spoken about this before, and we both thought it would be a good idea for her to bring up his wife in their conversations at work because he has never mentioned her. She has not yet done this. I want to brush this off as harmless flirting and nothing more, but a part of me thinks that this is a potential red flag. What do you think?", "summary": "Somebody flirts with my GF daily at work, she does nothing to stop it. Red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_1wiloi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Legal action against a restaurant (CT, USA)", "post": "Hi all.\n\nI've been serving for maybe a over a year.\n\nI was called to help one night at this restaurant in New Haven, CT some on 12/14/13. I have yet to receive a dollar from that shift, both hourly salary and tips. \n\nI've check with them consistently and today I learn they did not simply had me on the payroll, nor will they give me a W2 form. I was offered to cash out my salary, but I did not take the money due to being scared I could get screwed over with the rest of the tips. \n\nManagement told me the other servers should have my share of that night. I am afraid I am being screwed over. I refused to take the money and left. \n\nWhat should I do now?", "summary": "management claims waitstaff takes care of tips, hence refusing to pay what I earn that night."}
{"id": "t3_wfw3a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This might not be the right place for this, but r/answers and r/askscience weren't right either so I'm going for it. I'm interested in going to college, I love biology but what career could I have in that area?", "post": "I studied DNA and microbiology a lot in high school. I even attended a \"science camp\" of sorts at Winthrop University in North Carolina. We focused a lot on DNA, cloning, and the application of biology in things like farming and other industries. It fascinated me. I was good at it. I planned on studying more in college after I graduated, but I never went to college. I joined the military instead. Now I am out of the military due to an injury to my hips/back. I work at a dog daycare, and I love it, but I would love to use my GI Bill and go to school. Why not? It's free. I have looked at the website of the school I plan to attend, but I can't seem to find any programs that fit what I'm looking for and I'm not even sure what kind of careers I could have in that field. I DO NOT want to teach.", "summary": "I love biology but not sure what career I want. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4lchgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] I'm having issues because he slept with another girl while we were broken up.", "post": "Yes, I know I should just get over it but I can't and don't know why.\n\nWe met in high school and were each other's first everything and we really loved each other. He was leaving for college and we both decided we should just end the relationship on good terms.\n\nWe recently got back into contact and met up and got back together and we are both happy. He asked if I was with anyone else and I was honest I was with one guy but it only lasted a week.\n\nI asked him the same and he said yes that he was with another girl and they had a fwb situation. After we finished talking I felt sick I keep thinking about what him and her did and it's getting to me.\n\nWhat can I do to stop feeling like this?", "summary": "my boyfriend was with another girl while we were broken up and I'm having a hard time accepting it."}
{"id": "t3_4tbqen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16m) need advice about my mother (41f) and alcoholic father (40m).", "post": "My father drinks and regularly gets drunk and my mother is basically done with it.  She just spoke to me saying she might be leaving him and asked me how I felt about it, who I would want to stay with and that stuff. I think I should make it clear that she has been telling him that she isn't going to deal with his drinking forever and that he needs to either stop drinking or she would leave, he always said he could cut back and handle it, but obviously can't. She doesn't feel like he would be willing to leave if she told him to, so i don't think that is an option (I think they both own the house).\n\n We are probably middle class people, my dad makes much more money than my mom does so if she decided to leave him and go somewhere else I probably wouldn't go with her even though I like her a lot more, uprooting my life and living with her just wouldn't be worth it to me considering I will hopefully be moving out within a couple years. \n\nI'm asking for advice for mainly my mom. She hasn't completely made up her mind about leaving him because of my brother (18m), sister (14f), and myself. Is there anything she can do at this point to save their marriage, and if not what advice would you give her for moving forward?", "summary": "Dad is an alcoholic and my mom might be divorcing him, any advice for my mother?"}
{"id": "t3_4vb12p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33F] and SO [36M] have been together 18yrs and got into a little passive aggressive argument over a FB post tonight", "post": "Earlier today I posted on fb: \"Anyone have a wall I can bang my head in to repeatedly? Mine are starting to wear thin.\" This was meant to simply convey frustrations/stress. I received the typical friendly, supportive comments, however, one person commented \"how about my headboard?\". My SO says that I brought this on myself with a post that sounded sexual in nature...It never crossed my mind that it could've been interpreted as sexual and I'm a little aggravated that he seems to think the reference to banging one's head against a wall is anything other than stress related banter. Am I in the wrong here?", "summary": "Fought about a questionable fb post and can't seem to see eye to eye on the matter."}
{"id": "t3_2pbtz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (F/21) just found out he (M/30) lied to me about his name.", "post": "We met online through usernames almost 4 months ago. I was explaining to someone that I can't explain why, but I just trust him and we have a very healthy relationship built on trust and communication. \n\nI decided to look him up just to double check and lo and behold I find him. Under a completely different name. His real name. \n\nI feel betrayed and heartbroken because we really connected. We just had a skype christmas date where he wore reindeer antlers and I wore a snowman hat and we talked for six hours straight. On average, everyday we talk for 6+ hours. \n\nI think he created the fake name from the start, not knowing that we would continue our relationship and didn't know how to get out of it. Do I accept that? If I confront him about it and he apologizes do I accept that? Should I? I can't imagine being without him but this is a huge twist that I am completely shocked to find.", "summary": "He lied to me about his name and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ajptf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [26 M], together 1.5 years, broke up for a week then got back together. Am I being a silly jealous girl?", "post": "My boyfriend and I split up for a week then decided we both wanted to be together. When we were together I had this gut feeling he had added this waitress on fb who also went to one of his shows (he's a musician). He brought her up while we were at the restaurant saying she gave his band a tip and came to their show. When he didn't try to say hi to her or her to him, even though she walked by several times, I found it kind of suspicious. I believe he sent her the friend request....but can't prove it, and didn't accuse him of it...just a feeling. I would joke about him having a crush on her ....and he would deny it obviously, but I'm not stupid, I know when a female is attractive. I get it... \n\nI saw he liked a picture on her fb of her in a bikini. Now, technically we were single, so I can't be mad....but now that we are together, I'm feeling insecure... wondering if we didn't get back together right away pretty much if he would pursue her...or if he is interested in her in general. Since we've been back together for about a week now, he seems pretty private with his phone....which he never really was before.\n\nDo you think I'm being silly? Do you think I should be worried? Am I just being jealous?\n\nAlso, social media sucks....and it ruins relationships. What do you think?", "summary": "boyfriend and I split up then got back together. Saw he liked this girls picture on fb of her in a bikini, someone I felt he had a crush on but wouldn't admit it to me.... I'm having trouble getting over insecurities or thinking I have a reason to be worried. Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1z9gxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] getting mixed signals from [21 F]. Asking for advices", "post": "Hi,\n\nI am getting mixed signals from a girl and am currently wondering what I should do.\n\nTwo weeks ago, my school hosted a big prom. I went with some friends and met a nice girl at a friend's flat before the party. During the party, we were having nice time, we end up mixing lingual fluids. However, I never went that fast with a girl, so I got pretty anxious and stepped back a little. Nothing really hard for her : I went smoking, came back to dance, she wasn't there, I did not specifically try to find her back quickly and then the prom is over, each of us getting home. I just did not try to push things further.\n\nI was going with friends on vacation during one week, so not so much contact, we may have chatted twice really quick. \n\nSince I came back, I asked her if she wanted to have a drink, she said that she would, however she was not available during week evenings. As she went to vacation during last weekend, no possiblity here.\n\nLast night, she was invited at the same party as me at a friend flat. During this party, we both enjoyed the party but nothing couple related. We were having drinking games, conversations with the group, but no mention of the prom night, no close contact, nothing (I did not push for it either, could be my mistake too).\n\nDuring these two weeks, she did not really start conversation, so I'm feeling she could not be interested.\n\nI'm seeking advices from external people because I cannot decide if I should still push things a little by asking her out ? Or should I just not insist and let her make a step ?", "summary": "Made out with a girl at a party, she acts really passive, should I stop pushing things or not ?"}
{"id": "t3_10d70j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My house was robbed by a neighbor (juvenile) and I am raging so hard right now. What do I do?", "post": "A neighbor robbed my house a few months ago ($5000 in cash/items total). He robbed a few other house in town, attempted robbery on almost all of the houses on my block alone, broke into a neighbor's car, stole a gun and robbed one of his classmates too and was caught. He went to juvenile detention or something, apparently, but is out now. I never received info from the courts about any of his sentencing other than he is paying me restitution in the amount of my insurance deductible.\n\nAs a result of the robbery, I've had my homeowners insurance go up A SHITTON. I've had to install a security system, etc. I'm constantly in fear of my car an property being vandalized, and of course being robbed again when I am out at work.\n\nHe lives two houses away. We see each other's houses. He is having a birthday party right now with his family. They are laughing and having a good time and I am filled with absolute rage. I hear them I see them.\n\nI imagine myself shooting all of them, and shooting myself. I imagine setting their house on fire. \n\nJustice I don't feel has been served. In my victim report I asked for an apology letter and an explanation of what was precisely done with the items that were stolen, especially sentimental things and jewelry that had my FUCKING name engraved in it. The judge, the DA, the local police, etc all say no evidence recovered. Why isn't anyone asking him about what he did with it? Why are there no answers? I had all of my personal identification papers stolen. Why the fuck was he not charged with identity fraud? Where did my papers go?\n\nI can't move, I just moved to this neighborhood and can't afford to move again right now. Every time I see him, the wound is opened again.", "summary": "I have to live next to the piece of shit that robbed me. My privacy was  completely shattered and I have no closure. The juvenile court, victim services, and local police, etc. seem to not care."}
{"id": "t3_13dluv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What is the point of a schedule, if it isn't followed?", "post": "I work for a corporate chain dental office that is EXTREMELY busy. We are all (front staff, assistants, doctors etc.) are all overworked and underpaid. To be honest, I don't know if the doctors are underpaid, but that is besides the point. The point is, we have a god damn appointment book for a reason. When you waltz in 2 hours late for your appointment, without calling ahead to let us know, and expect to be seen, it drives me absolutely insane. How rude can you be? You MISSED your timeslot, we have now moved on to the next patients. But because the company is corporate owned, and they all sit in their nice offices and look at numbers, I am now allowed to tell you to fuck off and reschedule. I now have to squeeze you in to an already overbooked schedule. And now you're going to bitch about WAIT TIME? Sir, I don't know if you have noticed, but we have a full house here, and we are now treating you as a walk-in, meaning that all the patients that were here on time for their appointments have priority over you. \n\nWhile we are on the topic of wait time, if you don't want to be at the dentist all day, maybe you should 1. not bring 5 children in at the same time 2. brush your kids teeth so they don't come in needing five fillings and four ppy/ssc's (the silver crowns that kids have). Ma'am, I know you have been here for three hours already, but you took an hour to do your paperwork, and while you were taking forever, more patients signed in, and they finished their paperwork in about 10 minutes. Which means their charts were posted before yours, so they got started first. MEANING you and your 5 kids are now behind them in line. Oh, you want to reschedule them to see the children's specialist? Sure, I can do that. Did I mention he generally has about 80 patients scheduled in a day? No, you didn't misunderstand me, I said EIGHTY. There will be absolutely noooooo wait time on that day either.", "summary": "Show up for your appointments on time, and don't complain about wait time when you bring your entire family."}
{"id": "t3_18sr1k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you do anything with an attractive person you just met if you found out they were technically related to you?", "post": "This question is based on a real scenario I have come upon. Basically, I just met this girl, but it turns out she is the half-sister of my adopted cousin (we're not hillbillys, i swear). We somehow went 20 years without ever meeting, probably because we were never in much contact with that part of the family. She was kind of flirty with me, and I couldn't tell if she was hinting at something or just being sociable. If she was not technically within the family tree, I would be all over that. But I don't know if just being very vaguely related by law makes it off limits. And honestly, I don't even know if we actually are related. Reddit, please help me.", "summary": "Just met my adopted cousins half-sister for the first time, is she off limits? I swear I'm not a hillbilly."}
{"id": "t3_2ipl6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR boyfriend has great job offer even further away. What do we do?", "post": "I (24 F) have been in a LDR with my BF (24 M) for almost two years. I've been in Canada the whole time but halfway through he moved to the states for school about a 5 hour drive away. We see each other about once a month. It's tough but we've decided it's worth the effort to make it work.\n\nHe's now interviewing for jobs. He's in software so there's a ton of stuff out there, especially in the San Francisco area. He's got a great and lucrative offer there and a great but not as high paying offer in the same city as me (which overall has less opportunity in software compared to San Francisco).\n\nI'm in school for public relations, and going to finish this year. Obviously my prospects aren't as good as his.\n\nWe're both struggling with what to do. We want to live in the same city. Does he take the job in the states and risk me not being able to get a visa or take the safer (probably less exciting) option here? We might get married as a last resort but neither of us wants to do the green card marriage.\n\nI guess this is a question about him but we're trying to figure this out together.", "summary": "should long distance BF take lucrative job that's further away or one that's in my city but lower pay/excitement?"}
{"id": "t3_30s5dj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F/19] with my SO [22/M] of 1.5 years-what's the most sensitive way to bring up his weight gain?", "post": "My boyfriend was extremely fit and muscular when I met him. Due to an injury he sustained in the fall and lack of exercise in the summer, he's gained at least 25 lbs.\n\nSo with all the other posts I've read on this topic, the advice is usually to be active together, start cooking together, etc. the issue with this is he can't do very many active things because of his injury and he can't get surgery to fix it for several more months. We could try cooking together, except we have opposite schedules, I'm a vegetarian he is not, various confounding factors. \n\nSo I guess the solution is to have a conversation about my losing attraction and maybe how he should change his eating habits? I suppose we could start doing low impact exercise, he has mentioned swimming. I just don't know if it's worth issuing an ultimatum, but it's terrible not being attracted to him anymore and I feel really shallow. Any other ideas on how I can bring this up/how we can face it is a couple?", "summary": "my boyfriend has gained a lot of weight and it is affecting my attraction to him-how do I convey this in a sensitive way?"}
{"id": "t3_3ep404", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by parking in a handicapped parking space.", "post": "So this happened about 20 min ago. I work at a gas station that's connected to a grocery store, the gas station is on the other side of the parking lot and we dont have a convienent store. (No Drinks or snacks, or cash) We only have 2 parking spaces that are right by the little hut area. (Where people usually pay) One is a handicapped and one is a regular. Well the morning associate usually parks in the regular parking spot and when the afternoon person comes in they park in the handicapped one for about 2 min max. The morning person then takes off, and the afternoon one moves their car. We could park in the grocery store parking lot, but theres a big problem with carts hitting the cars. Sooooooooo today i come into work, and this elderly lady is filling up her giant rv. Didnt think much about it, smile at her while im walking into the hut where my coworker greets me. We talking about work related things, and I notice the elderly lady walking back from my truck, she comes knocking on the hut door, i gladly open the door and she yells \"Thats a $250 dollar fine!\" Okay maam, Im just waiting for my coworker to lea- \"Dont want to hear excuses!\" She then walks back to her rv.And my coworker continues catching me up on work related things. About 30 seconds go by and comes running back threating to call citizens on patrol and the police to write me a ticket. I try to explain again and it just goes down hill with this grandma. My coworker get mad, and tries to explain and they go at it for a good 2 min. I finally say just drop it and go move your car that way i can move mine. She says shes talking to a manager. Ended up moving my truck, with a evil old lady glaring at me. Watch her drive off and of course she goes to the grocery store.(Where my manager is located) 99% chance I'll get a coaching and might be fired.", "summary": "Parked in a handicapped for 2 min, got in a verbal argument with a grandma, might get fired."}
{"id": "t3_429ym8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) am trying to move past my boyfriend (22M) cheating. Advice?", "post": "I found out about this about 3 weeks ago. Here's the story. There's plenty more details, but this is what I think is important.\n\nMe and my boyfriend of over a year had been fighting on a Wednesday night, it was particularly nasty due to a bout of depression on my side. But after sleeping on it we have always been good in the morning. I was under the impression that this was the case on Thursday.\n\nApparently he thought we were still fighting and on the verge of breaking up. I went home for the weekend (we're in college) and he figured we would break up as soon as I got back. So in his mind we were as good as done.\n\nI guess he went on Tinder looking for someone to talk to just so he could feel wanted and not alone. What was supposed to be a walk around the block turned into him kissing her and then making out in a bush for 10 minutes. Just kissing, I know, but **** it still hurts.\n\nHe says it was awful and he regretted it as soon as it was over. And he's had 2 months to think about it and try to make up for it without me even knowing about it. He's explained why and told me everything I wanted to know. I only found out because I saw messages between them on Facebook.\n\nBefore this happened, we were talking about getting engaged, and it's come up again since I found out because we both still want to be together, I'm just having a really hard time moving past what happened and learning to trust him again.\n\nI never expected this from him, it was the one thing he swore would never happen and I trusted him 100%. Now he says it will absolutely never happen again, but every time I think about what happened I feel sick. What can I do to feel better, or should I even be trying to make things with him work?", "summary": "My boyfriend of over a year cheated on me a couple months ago and I just found out and am struggling to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_4d6s1x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How can I pay for medical school?", "post": "Wall of text incoming:\n\nCurrent senior in high school here. Working on college applications and trying to get financial aid and such. My dream is to go to college, get a bachelors, move on to medical school and become a neurosurgeon. Unfortunately, I have no clue how I'm going to pay for it. Neurosurgery is upwards of 10+ years in med school including residency and fellowship, plus 4 years for a bachelor's. That's a lot of money. My parents have refused to pay any money towards my college and because they make $80-100K per year I am given very little financial aid. I realize that I could go to community college for free for two years and do all kinds of penny pinching but I want to enjoy college and go someplace that I want to. Right now I've got 6 colleges in the Pacific Northwest that I dream of going to. Lowest I can get is currently $25K a year with scholarships (WSU). After that I would like to go to med school in New England. Is there any way I'd be able to pay for all of this? I know that neurosurgeons make quite a bit but with America's current healthcare system (so I've heard) reducing their income significantly I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to pay off loans. Thanks for your help!\n\nSidenote: I've spoken to the army and they're only able to give ~$60K that expires in 4 years for school which I don't believe is worth throwing 4 years off my life away and running the risk of getting killed is worth.", "summary": "How can I pay for med school?"}
{"id": "t3_2afhlr", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Making the most of limited time", "post": "Picking up running again post-baby. My plan was to do c25k then straight into b10k. I was running ~4 miles three or four times a week before pregnancy, so this seemed reasonable. I'm now in week 8 of c25k and because I am slow (average 12.5 min/mile) I just don't have the time to increase my distance past 5K. My new plan is to set my run timer for 35 min three times a week, not worry about the distance, and try for a 10k next year. \nSo my question is: how do I make the most of my precious running time? My goals are 1) fitness, 2) weight loss, and 3) increasing my pace. My neighborhood provides a nice variety of runs, from nearly flat with long slow incline and declines, to slightly steeper long hills with a steep 30 ft at the top, to rolling hills. My thought was to do each type of run once a week, but I wanted the advice of more experienced runners. Given my goals, what is the best combination?", "summary": "3x 35min runs per week. what terrain is best for making the most the time."}
{"id": "t3_uwnpe", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What are some deal breakers that you have? Are they set in stone or do you have exceptions?", "post": "I'm a little jaded from my last relationship (me - f25, him m26)...so I can't tell if I'm hesitant on a new relationship because I'm jaded or because of \"deal breakers\" - I dated the last guy for over a year, and things ended when he said he didn't really love me anymore, so I said there was no point continuing the relationship. We've been broken up for almost 3 months now, so I've had time to get over it.\n\nAnyway, this new guy I'm seeing is a musician (deal breaker for me, as I've dated a few musicians, and my latest ex is a musician [lots of touring, shows, and generally self-absorbed])...I get along great with this guy, and he has a job, and music is more of a hobby, so I let it slide. However, the more we talk, the more it seems like he wants to pursue music. \n\nSecondly, I'm going to school, and plan on being able to provide for myself and my possible future children, but it would be nice if the person I'm with could help provide as well if necessary, and this guy I'm with dropped out of school after two years...he's contemplating going back, but again, it's unsure.\n\nThirdly, and this is completely superficial of me and is by no means a deal breaker, but for some reason it's bugging me (I think I'm just looking for reasons to not be with him)....but he wrote me, not really a love note, but a mushy note nonetheless, and he wrote \"your\" instead of \"you're\"....\n\nI really like this guy (m25, btw) and we get along really well. I'm letting things slide because I think I'm just jaded after my last relationship, but I'm taking things slowly just to make sure.", "summary": "New guy I'm dating has a few \"deal breaker\" qualities; letting them slide because I'm probably jaded after last relationship. What are your deal breakers?"}
{"id": "t3_2sjxqz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering the phone in my fake Punjabi accent.", "post": "I work customer service for an online retailer. All day people call me and want either a tracking number or want to complain about their order being late. So in my desperate attempt to create some sort of entertainment for myself at this abysmal job I may have just put my position here in jeopardy. \nThe company is small. Very small. It is me and the owner. He often leaves for hours a day and thats when the time wasting begins (like right now Im at work). Sometimes I answer the phone with my fake Punjabi accent. NOTE: I am a young white male living in the US, but in this voice I sound like Apu from the Simpson's. It sounds awful but people (here in the US) hear an Indian accent on a customer service line and hang up the phone. This works to my advantage sometimes and keeps me from getting too busy on the phone lines.\nI get a call and I take his whole order but copy down some part of the address wrong. Boss is processing order and calls him back and the customer tells him how glad he is to hear an American accent over the phone. He tells him about the Indian guy (me) and then my boss gets the red ass. He told me how poor of a job I have been doing and can never mess around with customers on the phone again, and blah blah blah. \nI actually wouldn't even mind getting fired, I just don't have the stones to quit. So I might do it again.", "summary": "answered the phone in fake indian accent. Customer talked to boss. I am only employee at company. Boss is pissed cause I like to have fun with customers."}
{"id": "t3_rk5fl", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Monument Ave 10k gave my bib and timing chip to the wrong runner. What should I do?", "post": "A week ago when I looked up my bib number on the Monument Avenue 10k website, I was surprised to find that another runner had the same first and last name as me.  My name is not particularly common.  Since she's 11 years younger than me and was in a starting wave with an expected finish seven minutes slower than mine, my only thought at the time was, \"I'd better beat her.\"\n\nToday at packet pickup my bib number wasn't there.  The volunteers insisted that they couldn't possibly have handed my bib number to the other runner, but considering that they initially tried to hand me a completely different runner's bib clearly the volunteers are not carefully inspecting everything.  \n\nWorse, when I went to pick up my race shirt (for which I had paid to extra to upgrade to a technical shirt) it turns out they had given away that too!  \n\nI'm now registered under another number, and at least I got to stay in my seeded starting wave.  I also put up a fight until I got my shirt.\n\nBut I'm still ticked off.  The other runner with my name was not in one of the seeded waves.  \n\nNow I'm concerned that her result will be linked to my RaceIt account and could possibly keep me from qualifying for a seeded wave next year.  \n\nAnd dammit, as someone who didn't take up running until age 30 I was **proud** of my not particularly fast seeded wave, and I'm annoyed that this other girl didn't realize that suddenly she moved up seven minutes in expected finish time and 11 years in age.\n\nPlus she had to know she didn't pay the extra $20 for the technical shirt.  \n\nRunnit, what if anything should I do?", "summary": "Race gave my timing chip to another runner, what now?"}
{"id": "t3_172olx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "going backwards in terms of us doing more than kissing?", "post": "20/m 19/f. Known her for a while, been hanging out as more than just friends recently.\n\nThe first couple times we hung out we ended up doing more than kissing and by the third time went all the way to mutual oral. (this has happened twice). Then she told me she liked me two nights ago after we went to play pool (billards). Then she comes over last night and we watched a movie. The whole time she was insisting we actually watched the movie and would hardly let me kiss her. Basically as soon as the movie was over she say \"I got to go because I got class tomorrow\" (it was like 930pm at night, so not late). \n\nSo she leaves but now I don't get it. If she actually liked me why would she not want to do anything more than kiss now? She was even texting me until 1230 in the morning about stuff", "summary": "did more than kissing, now we hang out twice in a row w/o doing anything more than kissing but she's telling me she likes me. I've told her I like her too and I like hanging out with her. Any ideas what's going on? Is she trying to see if I **actually** like her and don't just want her for sex? (I don't, let's be clear)"}
{"id": "t3_13jz52", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I cannot STAND when people say \"y'all\" on the internet", "post": "I've asked a few friends about it and none of them seem to think there is anything thing wrong here. I feel like these people walk up to me shake my hand and go \"Greetings, I'm from the South\". I'm from the Boston area and I don't go around saying things like \"I ride my cah to Woostah in the mornin\". Then when the people add something like \"ok hun\" to the end of the sentence I feel like screaming \"FUCK IF THIS WERE REAL LIFE I WOULD BE THINKING REALLY HARD ABOUT SCREAMING AT YOU BUT I REALLY WOULDN'T I'D JUST WAIT FOR YOU TO FINISH TALKING\". As soon as someone says y'all I immedately assume they own at least one cowboy hat or spend their time waddling around the local WalMart. To bring up another stereotype I also assume they will be bad with grammar so when they go through the effort to add the apostraphe and make it \"y'all\" I'm like \"YOU'RE ALREADY SAYING SOMETHING STUPID LIKE Y'ALL JUST SAY FUCKING YALL EVERYBODY(mostly me) ALREADY ASSUMES YOU HAVE A LOW IQ ANYWAYS\". This probably has some grammatical errors which I hope don't get picked apart because its late and after all this I think its time to go to bed.", "summary": "FUCK Y'ALL and I'm kind of an asshole"}
{"id": "t3_yw0ro", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Unexpected Accomplishment", "post": "Wanted to share this with someone, and thought this would be the best place to do it.  I am now a 20 year old junior in college, but I have this pair of pants that I bought when I was a freshman. I fell in love with these pants when I saw them in the secondhand store, and figured that they would be perfect to wear to football games since they were garnet cords ( btw I go to U of South Carolina. GO COCKS!). Anyway, the only problem is that they were pretty small on me and were basically the pants version on a corset around my waist. It was so bad that at one point I used a paper clip as a button extender. \n\nSince this past March, I have started a new body weight workout regiment thanks to /r/bodyweightfitness and cut out all sugary drinks, sweet tea being the hardest, and most fast food from my diet. I have been getting comments about how different I look lately, but I didn't really believe it until today. Today I grabbed some clothes from home to bring back to school with me and I of course grabbed the faithful garnet cords. When I got back to my apartment I got curious and decided to try them on. Much to my surprise, not only do they fit, I'm going to need to wear a belt with them! \nI have been trying to lose my gut since high school and I have finally found something that works. Since I don't have a scale I can't really measure my progress, but fitting into those pants was proof enough.", "summary": "The proof is in my pants."}
{"id": "t3_kpdvv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What event happened that you thought was totally strange/inappropriate yet didn't say anything because everyone else thought nothing of it? Me first.", "post": "When I was in 8th grade, my church youth group went on a weekend trip to the mountains. I should note my church was totally ordinary, not one of those evangelical snake venom drinking deals.\n\nOne night the youth leaders said they had a surprise for us and we went on a hike up onto the top of this high hill. We stood on top of the hill, looking out at the stars, and our youth pastor said a few words. Then in the distance, on another hill maybe a quarter mile away, we noticed a fire start. It quickly grew large, but it wasn't just a regular bonfire. It was taking a shape. After a moment the fire finished spreading over its shape. It was a cross. Some of the other chaperones had lit. A cross. On fire.\n\nEveryone was oooing and ahhhing, but I was taken aback. I clearly remember thinking \"This is what mom would call inappropriate.\" Yet it seemed I was the only one, kid or adult, who thought burning a cross was weird. Another kid excitedly pointed out that the cars on the road in the valley below were slowing and stopping, that they were in awe. And I thought, \"They're stopping because there's a CROSS BURNING IN THEIR TOWN.\"\n\nThen the youth pastor brought out his guitar and we started *singing.* Sang for like a half-hour, until the cross fire finally died away. Kids were sad that it was over. I just wanted to get the hell out of there.", "summary": "My church re-enacted a scene from Mississippi Burning and sang Kumbayah"}
{"id": "t3_2tfip7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by punching myself in the balls", "post": "About an hour ago, I left my desk at work to head out to pick up my lunch. the water cooler room is on the way out, and my water bottle was empty, so i brought my water bottle (a hard reusable plastic - eco friendly) with me to pass by the rec-room and leave it there. this way, i wouldn't have to make a separate trip to fill it up.\n\nWell, it slipped out of my hands - and as i was fast like a ninja, i instinctively grabbed for it. I caught it, but unfortunately by the time I made contact with it, gravity had taken it down to right in front of my crotch. The speed with which I made the grab resulted in my crushing the bottle into my nuts. i saw stars, but noone was around to see. Some heavy, deep breaths and i managed to stay upright. Still hurts though. Quite a punch. That hard plastic is no joke.only upside is, i finally have something to post in this sub.", "summary": "accidentally punched myself in the balls trying to catch a falling water bottle."}
{"id": "t3_o75pm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst birthday story?", "post": "Today is my real life cakeday, and it is so far turnign out to be exceptionally unpleasant.  For the past few days I've been sick with hand foot mouth disease, which I contracted from my daughter while I was taking care of her.  If you've never had it as an adult, I can assure you it sucks.  \nI've progressed to the point where I have energy again and I'm not constantly achy, but my throat still hurts when I swallow, but my hands and feet are literally covered in blisters that make it difficult to do almost anything.  Typing this is actually one of the most difficult things I have done today.   The blisters on my face on the other hand, burst with yellow pus.  It is extremely uncomfortable, and looks super gross.  \nMy wife finally took me to the doctor who told me that the hand foot mouth stuff is going away, but my face now has some other bacterial infection so I got a prescription for that.  My wife went to Target to get the prescription filled an hour ago, and they still haven't gotten it done because apparently they have the world's worst pharmacy.\nSo here I sit, in pain, at my house with my dog while my wife and child are off trying to get me medicine.  I haven't even eaten anything today.  The worst part of it is that after four days of being sick, all i want is to hold my wife and kiss her, and I can't because I don't want to pass this to her.  So reddit, I know there are people out there with worse stories than mine, so let's hear them.", "summary": "I'm having a crappy birthday and want you all to feel sorry for by sharing your crappy birthday stories."}
{"id": "t3_514czf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] found out my boyfriend [24 M] of a year, was also in another relationship", "post": "Throwaway for the same reasons as everyone else. \n\nI'll keep this fairly short as I can. I found out yesterday that my boyfriend (LDR) of a year has been in a relationship with another girl for the past 6 months. I have been uncomfortable about one of his friends for many months now and things never seemed to change or get better despite him always telling me he loved me and he was all mine. Low and behold she actually messaged me asking me who I was and what was going on between me and ***her*** boyfriend. \n\nWe exchanged a few messages, she told me he was currently at hers and that he had already cheated on her once before with someone else. Not long after I receive a message from him saying he was truly sorry and has been with her for a while (even though he always promised me nothing was going on) and didn't know how to break up with me and that they were talking about everything. I replied saying we should talk. He said he'd call me when he returned home but as of yet, haven't heard anything.\n\nIt is definitely over. I don't care if they stay together but I've never been so betrayed. Currently I feel disgusting and like I was used and emotionally dragged along for the ride. We were together only earlier this week and he acted completely normal. I can't believe how many lies and cover ups there have been over the last 6 months. I invested so much time, energy, commitment and love into this relationship and it has been taken and completely disregarded. He also owes me money.\n\nI guess my questions are; does anyone have any advice for how to deal with all the feelings I have and learn to trust people again and how should I go about getting my money returned to me?", "summary": "My boyfriend of a year was in another relationship for the past 6 months. Everything he has said to me has been a lie. How do I deal with feeling so betrayed and get the money he owes me back?"}
{"id": "t3_2giybe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [20F] with boyfriend [23] of 3 years - starting to get wondering eyes.", "post": "I love my boyfriend to SHREDS. \nBut I can't help but feel that I'm missing out when I'm at uni parties and things, I have thoughts about other guys...and I've told my boyfriend that but we haven't found a solution.\n\nHe is studying law and dedicates so much of his time to his study and the rest of his time to working, whilst I admire his amazing work ethic, it leaves us with only a few hours to hang out a week which usually involve him re-reading his textbooks or sleeping. Its not a sign that he's disinterested in me, thats just how he operates. Since this is the case, I think the lack of physical contact throughout the week is the root of these thoughts.\n\nI don't want to leave him...but I do need some advice on making this kind of thinking go away. We share a great relationship so any ideas we'll be willing to talk about.", "summary": "want to stop having thoughts of other guys."}
{"id": "t3_4iddpw", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Overly excited dog when outside, or around people/dogs", "post": "Hi guys!\n\nMe and my girlfriend have a 1 year old female Cairn terrier. She knows basic obedience commands (sit, stay, come, heel, etc.) and does these commands pretty well when we are inside our apartment.\n\nThe problem comes when we take her outside to go to the bathroom or to take a walk. There are plenty of people / animals around our apartment and she gets crazy excited when she sees anyone. If there is no one outside she does decently well, but still isn't very responsive to our commands. \n\nWe've tried taking her favorite toys and her favorite treats, but she still is not interested in them. The only way we can get her to get a little bit of focus on us is to completely leave the situation with her.", "summary": "We really love our dog and want to take her on nice walks and meet other dogs but she just gets way too excited to the point of not responding to our commands."}
{"id": "t3_4l2wls", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel guilty about what I masturbated over when I was 12", "post": "f/18\n\nThe fact that this happened is constantly playing on my conscience, even though this happened when I was like 12. It's the kind of thing I would never admit to anyone irl because it's so messed up and I hate that it happened. I've had some pretty deep-rooted fantasies and fetishes, and I knew I was into the whole bondage and domination thing when I was like 10 and realised the idea of being tied up really excited me, so I'd say I was sexually aware of what arouses me from relatively early on.\n\nWhen I was like 12, I masturbated to a video of a goldfish being attacked by piranhas. Just now I watched one such video back and it was horrific and I hate myself for the fact I did that. I think it was the idea of being trapped and not having an escape from pain, but in hindsight it seems like the most twisted thing to derive sexual arousal from.\n\nHonestly, I'm not really sure where to go from this. I felt like I needed to admit this somewhere. I've been looking through other reddit posts along the lines of \"what's the worst thing you've masturbated to\" to ease conscience - there were the usual answers like relatives' underwear and female game characters but there were no answers that made me feel better about what I did.\n\nIf anyone has any advice or anything that could possibly make me feel like less of an awful human being, please do let me know. I really felt like I needed to tell somebody this but obviously it's not the sort of thing to divulge irl.", "summary": "masturbated to a video of a goldfish being eaten by piranhas when I was 12, the guilt is wreaking havoc on my conscience, any thoughts/advice welcome"}
{"id": "t3_42bxjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my LDR gf[19F] ~4months. Does not want to voice chat.", "post": "Using a throwaway for obvious reasons. Names also changed.\n\nSo I met this girl, let's call her Sarah, on an online game a few months back, and we really hit it off. At first it started with just chatting then we found that we got along really well, so I asked her out kind of on a whim. We added eachother on skype and spend a lot of time just chatting and mostly spending time with eachother.\n\nWe've shared pictures and as most people are, I was skeptical of her so I reverse google searched her picture which showed no matching results, so I figured she was real enough. I went with it and we get along pretty well. I really like this girl but I only have one problem and it's the fact that she does not want to talk. I would understand if it was a face-to-face call but not wanting to talk to your boyfriend? I've brought it up with Sarah a few times but she always dodges the issue with a very convenient excuse and saying she isn't ready to talk yet. \n\nWe've even spoken of meeting up and such, which would be quite difficult considering we live thousands of kilometers apart. But I'm starting to doubt our relationship which is unfortunate because I really do like her. Has anyone else had this problem with their ldr? Am I being selfish for wanting to talk to my girlfriend after 4 months? I really need some insight.", "summary": "LDR gf of 4 months doesn't want to talk on skype. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1l2bfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] slept with my ex's [23f] bff [22f] not knowing she had just started dating my best friend [21m]", "post": "I went out with my ex for 3 years and while it was emotionally a good relationship, she was extremely religious and refused to have sex before marriage. Call it idealism or stupidity, but I went along with it but obviously man cannot live on dry humping alone. Finally, she got into two equally good grad programs, one in our city and one across the state and she chose to go across the state and broke up with me. \n\nI didn't do no contact, (stupid) and she kept saying how she still loved me, blah blah blah. \n\nShe also asked her equally super religious (like, she talks about wanting to be a nun) best friend to hang out with me, so I wouldn't become reclusive as I do when I'm upset. So her best friend and I would go do kinda hipster things in the city that we both liked and it soon became a weekly outing. All the while, my ex would call me every few days and tell me about her days and her work, etc. it felt like we were in a long distance relationship. Minus the phone sex of course. \n\nOne day her best friend invited me to a party at her college. Everything was normal until we lost track of time and the trains stopped running. So I stayed at her apartment nearby. Neither of us were drunk. I feel like I should say that. Long story short, after some playful banter and sabatoging of an air mattress, we had sex. \n\nThe next morning, she looks really regretful, which makes me feel like shit, and she begs me not to tell my ex. \n\nFine, whatever. A few days later, I'm hanging out with a few friends and someone mentions that MY best friend and my ex's best friend were out at a movie. Yeah, turns out that they had started going out like a month ago. \n\nAnd check this out, my ex's best friend is feeding my best friend that same line, \"oh, I want to wait until marriage to have sex\". \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Ultra religious, no sex before marriage girls. Ex broke up with me but still acts like we're bffs. Slept with ex's best friend not knowing my best friend was dating her. I feel like Truman when he learned about the bomb."}
{"id": "t3_dpwky", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, did my family just get scammed? Mystery charge on my partents phone bill from Pathway Profits Inc.", "post": "My mom just called me saying her AT&T bill had a charge of 14.95 from Pathway Profits Inc 4 ED E-commerce on 9/25/2010. She called up the customer support number provided (866-641-7680) and after arguing for half an hour that she didn't sign up for their service, they said they'll send her a refund check, but not charge back the account. The odd thing is they said my email account was used when the charge was made, but I see nothing from that company in my inbox suggesting a confirmation.\n\nI googled the name, but came up with nothing. Not until I searched by their support number (866-641-7680) did I get relevant links. First hit was to the [Better Business Bureau] followed by a link to their site [pathwayprofits] The BBB gave them a rating of C for 6 complaints filed against the business since being incorporated in September 2008 in Tampa, Florida. \n\nI went to the pathwayprofits site and was a bit confused as to what they were selling. There's just a brief description that they sell internet business tools at a \"ridiculously low price of $19.99/month!\" and no credit card needed, instead they charge your phone bill. Below that there's a basic signup form that requires name, address, email, and phone number. Seems all that they verify before charing your phone is your birth date. \n\nI'm not sure if they actually verify anything with AT&T to make sure the charge is allowed, but my birth date is available to my friends on facebook. I don't think they use that for verification though since nothing on my parents AT&T account would have me or my information associated with it. \n\nI didn't get any relevant hits when searching for pathwayprofits+scam, so I'm not sure if it is a scam, or just a ridiculous business that allows anyone to enter a phone number and have it charged. Another odd thing is that the amount billed did not match their stated monthly charge nor any of the values set in their online resources page. \n\nSo reddit, is this a scam and should my parents (and me) be worried?", "summary": "Parents phone bill charged 14.95 for Pathway Profits Inc 4 ED E-commerce without anyone signing up for whatever services they offer."}
{"id": "t3_dbvmf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I am on the verge of my first meaningful relationship...WHAT THE F*#K DO I DO!?!?!??!", "post": "Right, I am 22, male, and have never been in a relationship before, of any kind. So an average redditor I suppose... Sorry.  \n  \nBut seriously, I am in love with this girl, I never thought anything would happen with her because she is the sister of two of my good friends, but I feel as if that is all about to change. We had coffee the other day, and we ended up sitting and talking for 4 hours outside of this coffee shop, I have never done that with anyone, let alone a girl.  \n  \nThe problem is that I have no idea what I should do now. I have never made a move on a girl, and to put it lightly, I'm fucking terrified. Please for the love of god any advice is more than appreciated.", "summary": "HELP!!!"}
{"id": "t3_1bcful", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m18] fucked up.", "post": "Burner account. I [18m]Got dumped about 3 months ago after a 1.5 year relationship [17f]. Basically I recently told one of her best friends [17f] that I thought she (the friend) was cute, and I'd like to get to know her better. I posted this through one of those anonymous twitter confession pages. She (thinking it was a friend just trying to boost her self esteem) challenged anonymous me to reveal myself. I did. She flipped. Now I'm afraid it's going to end up extremely embarrassing as she has been venting to friends, and now I realize it was inappropriate and I regret doing it. What do I do?", "summary": "I made a comment to an Ex's good friend I shouldn't have and now regret it. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_37t9om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22F] be a better older sibling for my two younger brothers [19M & 17M]? Began close, drifted apart, now looking to mend our relationship.", "post": "When we were younger we were all quite close - family trips and being in the same elementary school really helped. However, once I reached high school I began to drift from them due to various reasons: abusive boyfriend, depression, and \"quitting\" being Catholic. Both my parents and brothers are devout and go to church every week, and my brothers are also altar servers.\n\nAlso, I was (and am) quite introverted and keep my emotions and thoughts to myself, which I am working on improving. These reasons combined with our age gap (4 years between me and them vs 2 years between them) and gender gap didn't improve anything. I feel pretty shitty because I'm supposed to be the older one: confident, caring, perfect.\n\nSome things which I am going to implement over the summer:\n\n* talk to them more! Ask them how their day went, how school is, what projects they're working on, what tv shows they like.\n\n* ask them to join you on outdoor adventures like hiking or going to the electronics store\n\n* don't be so guarded around them - be silly like I am around my close friends\n\nAny other suggestions or anecdotes would be greatly appreciated! I often feel left out of my family because of the religion issue and because my parents favour my brothers, so it's hard for me to come out of my shell.", "summary": "looking to improve my relationship between myself and my younger brothers"}
{"id": "t3_2t7dmr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf[25] caught me looking at porn and wants me[M31] to stop.", "post": "She wants me to be obsessed with her the way she claims to be with me. I don't think I can change this about myself. We're both people with very high sex drives. She wants me to limit myself to once a week and thinks she's competing with these 'other women'. I know it'd be a lie if I said I would do that. I really don't want to lie about something I think is a part of me.\n\nIf I didn't have a computer I'd use magazines, if I didn't have magazines I'd probably draw a woman and use that. She gets very angry if she even thinks I'm checking out another woman, which I try not to be obvious about. She says she's miserable thinking about it.\nShould I just lie? I can't actually stop. I started jerking it to the chadwicks catalog for christ sakes. The only thing porn has done is made jerking off more interesting.", "summary": "GF wants me to stop looking at porn so much, I don't think I can or should really have to."}
{"id": "t3_3xpp9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When, exactly, should I (35/f) tell my brother (40/m) he needs to get his shit together?", "post": "My older brother and I are now pretty close.  We didn't used to be, but he moved away (to BigCity, about a 3 hour flight away from our hometown, where I still live) and that absence has made the heart grow fonder.  He's overall a good guy, but has trouble finishing stuff he starts.  These past few years, he was completing his PhD and is supposed to be wrapping that up this semester.  \n\nHe's been dating this girl for about 2 or 3 years, who is also, coincidentally from our hometown.  Recently, his GF got a transfer for work back to hometown, and Brother is supposedly moving down with her.  I say supposedly because, even though brother has been crashing on my couch for two weeks, he hasn't even put an application in on any apartments with GF, hasn't applied to any jobs, hasn't taken steps to complete PhD requirements or move his stuff from BigCity.  \n\nNow GF is upset that Brother has made such little progress and is threatening to break up with Brother.  I both feel bad for him and am super annoyed.  Basically, he sleeps on my couch, borrows my car all day when I'm at work, and goes over to family's house to help them out with childcare and housework, and hang out with Aunts/Uncles he hasn't seen in a few years.  I am annoyed he has prioritized doing this over 1. getting all the details of completing his PhD worked out 2. finding a job in this city -- he has no money or savings 3. finding an apartment or housing arrangement.  \n\nI'm debating whether I should ask \"what is your exit strategy?\" now or just wait until after the holidays?  My concern is that I think GF is seriously going to break up with him if he doesn't step on it.  She's feeling like he is delaying the search because he doesn't take their relationship seriously.", "summary": "My older brother is indefinitely crashing with me while he \"looks\" for a job and apartment, should I light a fire under his ass now or wait until after Xmas??"}
{"id": "t3_16e9z4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [F, 24] isn't sure if she has time for me anymore [M, 24]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about four months, and we got serious very quick. We said \"I love you\" after a month and attested to each other that we had never felt so in love with any person. We talked about marriage, but it wasn't weird because we both really BELIEVED it would happen. I meant it when I said I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. \n\nShe told me she wasn't needy, but then became, well ... needy. I run a radio station, so I have a very busy job, and when I wouldn't respond to her texts after a while, she would get upset and feel like I didn't care about her as much. She has a significant social media following and felt like I was \"using her\" for her industry connections (she's a producer for a TV network). This went on for a month, and I honestly tried to pay more attention to her - it's admittedly a problem I have when I'm in a relationship with someone. I get comfortable and don't feel I have to try as hard to keep up the romance and conversation. \n\nAfter too long, she made a concious decision, I guess to get back at me, that SHE would focus on her work instead of me. She made me her no. 2 priority, and now she works 12-14 days. We already live an hour apart, so making time to see each other has been nearly impossible. And, when we ARE together, all she talks about is how she should be at work and how much stuff she has to do. \n\nShe has admitted to me that her career is the most important thing to her. To me, she is the most important thing. I want to be with her, and I want us to strike a balance between work and our relationship, but she is getting hopeless about it. She doesn't think we can get back to where we once were. \n\nWe're having a conversation about it tonight, and I'm worried she'll break up with me because she will resent me forever if \"ruin her career aspirations\" or whatever. I just want her to WANT to make time for me. Any advice?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I got serious very quick and both work a lot. Struggling to make time for each other and pursue careers, verging on breaking up a very loving relationship. "}
{"id": "t3_3dlkq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[breakups] I [18m] want to end things with my [16f] female but don't know when to do it", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for ~2.5 years. We just got back from a mini vacation with her family and, while with her, came to realise some other qualities between the two of us that I had noticed before, but never really put together. We have broken up in the past, but only for a day or two. I don't see us together in the long run. \n\nI'm leaving for college in about a month - I want to end things now, but would that be douchey? I don't want to continue hanging out with her and \"lead her on\" any further. She took the break up well the first time, so hopefully it will be similar the second time around. \n\nShe wants to hang out tomorrow then go to dinner.. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Am in a confusing situation and am leaving for college soon. Advice? "}
{"id": "t3_z22q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] need advice on situation with boyfriend[18].", "post": "Sorry about the vague title, I wasn't exactly sure how to word the situation. \nBasically, the other night my boyfriend brought up something he says he has been struggling with a lot lately. It was mentioned a while back but I guess I didn't realize it was as serious as it is. \nHim and I have been together for 4 months, which I understand is a short time, but we both really feel we love each other. I was his first love and the first person he had sex with. But he was not my first and so that has been something that has bothered him from the beginning of our relationship. \nThe other night he mentioned that he feels like he wishes we had of met later in life so that he could have experienced things with other girls first and then be able to commit to me. He has brought up things like taking a break where he would be able to sleep with other people but still see me, but I really don't I would be able to handle that. He says he wants to be with me, but that he needs to experience his teenage years by partying/having sex. I don't know what I should do in this situation, i'm pretty lost.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to experience sleeping with other girls but still wants to be with me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1u7u0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17M] having issues with my ex [18F] changing her mind", "post": "Me and this girl were best friends for probably a year. I had always had a little crush on her but nothing serious at all. Eventually, things happened and we both started to want more. However, before anything serious happened, she ended it with the stay friends thing. Then she wanted to try it again. Long story short, she did the same thing again after she was actually my girlfriend for a while. I gave her another chance too and the same thing happened again. She's an important person in my life that i dont want to lose but i dont know what else to do besides ignore her. She's also in 4 of my classes too so thats hard.", "summary": "I really like this girl a lot, but she keeps going back and forth between friends and dating. What do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_308kyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "There are times where I [19/F] just don't feel like loving my boyfriend [21/M].", "post": "He's my first boyfriend and I can't thank him enough for being such a loving, patient person. \n\nBefore him, I had severe intimacy issues. I didn't want a boyfriend and if any of my male friends started showing feelings toward me, I immediately felt like throwing up and running the opposite direction. One day I decided to grow up and really figure out what was making me feel this way, and decided it was insecurity. I was able to get past that internal struggle and really open myself up to love.\n\nWe're best friends and we have an incredibly affectionate relationship with one another. I've told him I loved him countless times and really do feel like I mean it when I say it, but tonight, and whenever else I'm in a really bad mood, I just don't feel that way.\n\nI rarely actually get angry but when I do, I feel like a different person. I shut down and stop caring about anyone and everyone. I don't feel like talking to him. He begins to annoy me just by opening his mouth. I don't reply to him when he tells me he loves me and I can't find it in myself to be caring. I become angry and emotionless, incredibly selfish, and the worst part is, I cannot care less that I feel this way.\n\nThis is a problem with me and not him. I don't know how I am able to just shut down so quickly and become an emotionless asshole. Maybe I have some growing up to do.", "summary": "I become emotionless when I'm in a bad mood and it hurts my boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_35jcsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's Mother's Day, and the emotions have finally hit me (24F) because the mother's I could celebrate have already passed on", "post": "This is more of a venting of sad emotions b/c I have another 2 1/2 at work, than looking for advice. Consolation, maybe. Also, this is a major struggle for me to write now.\n\nI've spent a fair portion of my day checking Facebook on and off, which is naturally covered in Happy Mother's Day things (I even posted one of my own in memory). I also went out to brunch with my boyfriend and saw plenty of happy families enjoying todays specials at XYZ restaurant, as well as at work. But it's finally hit me, and I can't take too much more of it, because I don't have a mother to call up and praise or thank in a way that I know would be understood. (I'm also 5hrs away from where I grew up/where she's buried so leaving flowers on her headstone isn't really an option.)\n \nMy mom died 2 weeks after my 20th birthday. It will have been 4yrs ago in a couple of days, and my grandmother only 16 months and 3 days after her. I was close to them both and I miss them so much every day. I wish I could call them, catch them up on my life, introduce them to my boyfriend, get their opinion on the state of my career just to hear their support, cry to them about stupid work issues, anything and everything. \n\nFewer things make me angrier than when I hear someone bad mouthing their mom (when its not an abusive relationship, mind you) because somethings not going their way, or Mom's not reacting to something in the way they were expecting and are losing their cool. I'm angry at them because I'm jealous of what they still have that I lost- each other's company- and I so desperately wish I could have just one more conversation with her, that their snipping is showing how much they undervalue just that much.", "summary": "Call your mom right now and tell her how much you love her, because not all of us can and it makes getting through Mother's Day that much harder."}
{"id": "t3_3zd44c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20] just divulged something to me [19] that happened this NYE.", "post": "Hey all.  So as a bit of a background, my SO and I have been together for a year.  She went early December overseas to visit with her family over the holiday.  About a week after she got there, she told me she was throwing a party at her house with a dozen or so of her friends for new years eve.  Cool, everyone parties and likes to have fun on nye.  Well one of her close friends who I've met brought some guy with them to this party. Everyone got drunk, and she called me just before the clock struck 12 so I could be \"with\"  her during then.  For the next few days, she's acted really distant and had been avoiding skyping and all around sounded very cryptic.  \n\nFast forward to today, after confronting her on her behavior the last few days, she confessed that she cheated on me with the guy I mentioned previously while being piss drunk.  Obviously I'm devastated. According to her, the extent of the cheating only went to kissing and him touching her breasts. I don't know if I should believe that or not though.  She told me that she spend the rest of the night crying and was really upset because of what she did. So now she's begging for my forgiveness and she's pleading for me to trust her again. She spend the better half of the night balling and trying to make it up to me. I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to.  I love this girl so much, and I'm completely devastated.  I'm just at a loss here.  I want to salvage it, but I'm afraid of being hurt again.  Help pls. Thank you", "summary": "GF got drunk at NYE party, some guy felt her up, is now begging for my forgiveness. Please read post."}
{"id": "t3_3eorjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have been interested in this girl [18 F] on my work since last year and we talk a lot but I am not sure if she is interested.", "post": "So it all started last summer when we met at work and she was this girl I did not notice to much since she is not that kind of person who you just notice at first.\n\nAnyways we talk sporadically during work and under the summer through facebook sometimes but I never got the vibe she was super interested since I had to start all conversations so I kinda dropped it. \n\nNow during spring we started talking, **a lot**. We added each other on snapchat and we basically write everyday through snap or chat and I am definetly interested. I even got the balls to just ask her if she wanted to go eat and catch a movie or something and she said yes!\n\nWe are gonna se each other next week but I am that kind of person who still don't feel good about it. Never been in a realtionship before and I can't understand signs from girls, if I ever get them and I am not sure if she likes me back or not. I am not even sure how to handle this \"dating\" thing we might get going and what to do.\n\nI am probably overthinking this and it might be obvious but I just need some output by others so what do you think? If you want more details I can add no problem.", "summary": "A girl from work I like but not sure if she likes me back. Agreed to a date after I asked her. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3vf7hw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20f] bf [21m] of 2 years doesn't take me on dates. Am I overreacting to be upset?", "post": "To clarify, he's very loving, and caring otherwise. We're both in college, same city different schools. He's very loyal, no worries about cheating etc. We're both busy, but all we really do is hang out in the context of studying at school. As students, we don't have a lot of money. I don't expect extravagant dates or expensive presents. Just any date. Free is good!!! After a long week, he will just say yes to whatever friend offers to do something on Friday. We don't go on any dates. I see him almost daily, since we study together, but that's shouldn't count since we're both just involved in our own work (different majors). \n\nI've brought this to his attention before, in a serious way, but he hasn't done anything about it. Maybe I'm too traditional, but I want HIM to plan and take me on a date. Everything we've done, I've planned it. Am i being unreasonable in being so upset over another dateless weekend? \n\nI agree wholeheartedly that we should have our own lives, obviously. But is it too much to ask to want an actual date??", "summary": "bf won't take me on dates, but will go hang out with his friends"}
{"id": "t3_1uelec", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious]Why do/don't you want physical contact when you're having an argument?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'm confused since I talked with two long time friends (women) about our needs when we are angry, especially at our partners. My needs differ very much from those of my friends (see my comment). \nI was very surprised that my friends found my reaction really, really weird. And on my turn I found it really weird to learn that they love to be cuddled by their partners when they're having a fight with their partner, because it comforts them and let them think that they can work it out together and that they still love eachother despite the anger (as I understand it). Well, I have never seen this in my life: in family we didn't fight like that and I haven't been present in other emotional fights other than my own with my partner.\n\nI wonder how common it is for people to want physical contact with the person they're fighting with. Does your need for a cuddle differ per person? And if you don't like to be cuddled during a fight, is it because you could never trust your close ones as a small child, like me, or for another reason?And do you want a cuddle especially from the person you're fighting with or would it be better/less good to get a cuddle from someone that has nothing to do with the fight?", "summary": "When fighting with somebody close and you like to be cuddle by that person then, why is that? Would it be better/less good to be cuddled by someone else than your partner? When fighting with somebody close and you don't like to be cuddle by that person then, why is that? And why would/wouldn't you want to be cuddled by anyone else at that moment?"}
{"id": "t3_jhoda", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "First NSV, I can run again!", "post": "I've been doing C25K for a while now, on week 6, though I've had to take short breaks here and there for one reason or another.  I knew I needed to add some form of weight training to my cardio, but after researching gym prices near me I knew I couldn't manage that, so after a little research I turned up the Nerd Fitness beginner bodyweight routine--I chose that one because it's the only one I could find that didn't need a pull-up bar.\n\nWell, I started, and it kicked my ass.  Supposed to do three sets?  Did half a set the first time, though I have managed to increase my reps of nearly everything each time.  Supposed to do it every other day?  I went five days in between the first two workouts, three days before the third.  I know that since I work on my feet instead of at a desk, it takes me a little longer to recover, since my rest days don't involve all that much rest.  But the worst part of it was, I couldn't run.  I was just too sore!\n\nYesterday was my third bodyweight workout, and even though I was a bit sore immediately afterward, I made myself take a half-hour walk, just because I felt like eleven days without running was too much.  I had to do *something* else.\n\nToday, I woke up...and felt fine.  I even had the energy to run again, I just got home from repeating W6D3 (a 25-minute run with no walking breaks), and though for the last minute or so I felt like my lungs might burst, I made it!", "summary": "Starting bodyweight training made me stop running; ran successfully today for the first time since."}
{"id": "t3_3bpmrn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining a year long relationship", "post": "So today I was texting my boyfriend (ex but it just feels too weird to say) and we were talking about camping. I asked him if he wanted to go and he said he couldn't. Now I wasn't mad at him but it pissed me off that I was going to be alone on our 1 year anniversary (the 4th of July). So then I was being rude to him which I feel so bad about now, and then it spiraled out of control.. He ended up leaving me and now here I am crying wishing that he would give me another chance. This kind of sucks but I just hope he will see it..", "summary": "I was a moody bitch and ruined the best thing to ever happen to me."}
{"id": "t3_3v3jij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my bf [23M] feeling insecure and anxious about relationship.", "post": "I have been dating Calvin for over 5 months, lately I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety regarding our relationship. I do have a lot of anxiety, and my SO knows about it, lately these waves of insecurity and doubt have been making me feel miserable. \n\nI don't know what to do, I'm afraid of talking about this I don't want him to judge me or think I'm crazy. I'm just really hyper aware of everything at the moment, I take comments he makes very personally, and I don't know how to stop. A part of me knows it's my anxiety bugging me and finding a way to make me feel like crap but there's another part that believes there could be something wrong. \n\nWe'll be apart for a few weeks, and the thought of him doing something to hurt me (cheating) is stuck in my head, and despite it has not happened I find myself worrying/crying over it.", "summary": "Anxiety in my relationship. Should I tell my boyfriend about how I'm feeling?"}
{"id": "t3_42caw3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my supervisor a little orick (NSFW)", "post": "Some background information: I've been single for 3 years now, and, well, haven't had sex since.\n\nI work at a grocery store, and this past week I was being taught how to order. My supervisor (fairly attractive, mid 30s I'd say) was helping to expedite the process by working ahead of me, straightening products in the freezer doors. She got pulled away for a moment, and I caught up to where she had been working. When she came back, she picked up where she had left off by squeezing in front of me, bent over to finish the lower shelves. Not a problem in itself, I'm tall, and was working on the upper shelves. However... When she squeezed past me, she brushed against my thigh. For whatever reason, I got immediately turned on and had a half chub. As I try to scan a product she decides to back up and backs right into my crotch and gets full contact with my semi-erection. Needless to say, she hurried ahead, and made sure to move faster than I was.", "summary": "Gave my female supervisor the Next - \"Too Close\" treatment, and myself slight blueballs."}
{"id": "t3_3mc3lb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/M] with my roommate [23/F], slept together last night, now I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "Throwaway account because reasons. \n\nOne year ago I moved to a new city for a new job, and because I didn't know anyone here, I had to find a roommate on Craigslist. The best option (she had a place close to my new job) was \"Kate.\" I had a female roommate in the last town I lived in, and it was fine, so I didn't think anything of it.\n\nThinks have been cool. We hang out sometimes, but also both come and go freely. She keeps things neat and is nice. She's also very attractive. Personality-wise, she's not really my type, so it was never an issue.\n\nUntil last night. She's been dating a guy, and found out last night he'd been stepping out on her, and she came home pretty devastated. I'm not on today, so I was home drinking and playing video games. She got home, I was pretty drunk, she was really upset, and one thing led to another, we ended up in bed together. It was honestly a lot of fun, but I don't want to date her and I don't want to make things weird. This morning, when she woke up, she said \"Thanks, I needed that\" and kissed me before heading back to her room. She's asleep now, and going to work this afternoon.\n\nFirst question: is this going to result in weirdness between us? I'm not a player or anything, but I bring girls back to the apartment on occasion. It's never bothered Kate before, but I don't know if that's going to be a problem now.\n\nSecond question: We're both single now. Or I think she is, but I haven't confirmed that. Like I said, this was fun. I would be interested in a RWB situation, but is that something I can possibly broach without seeming like a jerk?", "summary": "Slept with my roommate last night, don't want to pursue anything serious, but interested in hooking up again."}
{"id": "t3_1w0fcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] Asking a classmate out too soon?", "post": "Alright, so I'll make this as brief as I can. Recently (Christmas) went through a nasty breakup, where my ex flipped a switch from sweet to insane one drunken night 6 months into our relationship. Won't go into crazy detail, but it involved a lot of yelling (from her) and throwing shit into the street (from her).\n\nAs of late, I've been in a sort of distraction phase. The semester just started and I'm taking 7 classes. I'm also working two part-time jobs, hitting the gym pretty hard, and attending 3 gym classes that add up to 8 hours a week alone. I've done well at staying positive; perhaps even better than when I was dating this girl.\n\nIn any case, I've gone from plenty of free time to almost none. Inevitably, this leads to (what I feel is) no time for any sort of intimate interest or fling. However, a girl in one of my classes has, at the very least, sparked my curiosity. I have only interacted with her twice; we were grouped together in our recitation, but from that, I've seen that she's cute, easy to talk to, nice laugh/smile, blah blah. I'm interested.\n\nI don't know how to approach it. I don't know *if* I should approach it. Interest that isn't returned leads to awkward eye contact for the rest of the semester (in a class around 20 people). Plus, I'm still battling the post-breakup slump AND have around 10 hours of free time a week, most of which is dedicated to studying.\n\nWas just looking for a couple thoughts on how/if to proceed. Thanks for reading!", "summary": "Had a nasty breakup less than a month ago. I'm successfully fighting the post-breakup slump, but not sure if I'm ready, have the time, or have the confidence to ask out a cute girl in my class."}
{"id": "t3_17ta52", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the biggest cringe that has ever happened to you?", "post": "When you think back, what memory of you brings the biggest cringe to mind? I know friends and family can see this, but fuck throwaways. This was back in my teenage years(like 7 years ago but I don't remember.) when I first discovered masturbation. It was the weekend and I was home alone. When ever I need to finish, I found the nearest piece of cloth and blew my load. What piece of clothing was that? Some dirty pair of shorts that needed to be washed anyway. I probably fapped 10 times in the past 4 or so hours. My mother worked with special needs kids, and one of them was having a birthday party at the mall. There was one party room place inside of an arcade that had UV lights. You probably now know where this is going. \n     My ma came home to tell me to get ready to go. I agreed and threw on a new shirt and without realizing it, that pair of shorts. When we arrived I played the role and met the kid and their parents. After a short speech, we were allowed to free roam the place with around 20 bucks worth of quarters. After an hour, we went into this UV room where pizza and cake was available. Being 13 at the time and not knowing what secrets UV can show, I was in for a surprise. Being jacked up on Mountain Dew, I ran around just being hyper. The parents saw the horror. My millions if not billions of my future kids were covering my once beige shorts with whiteness. I mean it literally looked like bird shit covering a black car. It was that fucking obvious.     \n     My mom got the word about my jizzed shorts and was embarrassed. She took me home in a hurry and didn't say a word. I only found out about it recently this Christmas. When ma thought it would be frickin' hilarious to share it my entire family. Needless to say, a good laugh and a cherry faced me sank low in my seat.", "summary": "13 year old me wore jizzed stain shorts to a party lighted by UV lights. People knew and told my mother. 7 years later it was realized at a Christmas party to ALL of my family members."}
{"id": "t3_24epy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 M] gf [26 F] of 6 years is probably going to break up with me. If so, I want to give up on dating.", "post": "We're on a break right now, and the possibility of us getting back together is hanging by a thread.  I don't really expect us to last.  If that happens, I want to find a way to live happily and halfway normally without any romantic love life or any desire for one.  I don't expect to find anyone else, I don't want to bother looking, and I don't want to start all over again with someone else and risk wasting another half-decade of my life.  I'm just tired of all of it.\n\nAnyone have any ideas of how to achieve this?  I realize it's kind of a difficult proposition, but I'd like to see what others think.\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "How can I give up relationships like giving up smoking?"}
{"id": "t3_1t2331", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [24M] of ~2 years has a HORRIBLE temper. Help", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. He is currently living at home with his parents and little brothers to save up money for a down payment on a house (the area he lives in is extremely expensive). I absolutely love his family but his parents still treat him like a child. This causes him to have an extremely bad temper towards them and it has gotten to the point where seemingly small things  his parents say to him make him literally throw an adult temper tantrum. Things were never like this between his parents and him when he was in college approx 2 hours away, but his behavior around them and mostly their behavior towards him makes me so uncomfortable but I have no idea how to approach it or give him advice other than to move out, which he doesn't want to do at this point. \n\nJust for clarification, he's never blown up at me or anyone else (that I know of) other than his mom and dad, who are both in their late 50s.", "summary": "My boyfriends parents treat him like a child which causes him to act out. It's embarrassing and I don't know what to say to make him calm down because his parents are acting so absurd."}
{"id": "t3_1zi8oh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) can't trust my boyfriend (20M) of one year even though he has done little wrong. I'm driving myself and him crazy. Help me see the light!", "post": "My boyfriend and I were both in past relationships where our SO cheated on us and so we have a hard time with trust. However he's doing much better than me. I snoop through his phone almost every day and hate myself for it. I know it's so so wrong but I can't help myself because of the few shady things I've found in the past. I know deep down that I should trust him and that he loves me but I get sketched out so easily. Why can't I trust him? What can I do to put my mind at ease?", "summary": "I can't trust my boyfriend even though I should."}
{"id": "t3_4vj4p1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] finally expressed my feelings for a longtime friend [F21] and it went well but her friend is telling me different.", "post": "I recently expressed my feelings for a highschool friend. When I did it she told me that she wants a relationship too but currently applying to medical school applications just doesn't have the time for one. She then said that once all things settle down in the winter we could try something.        \n \nI took this as something positive cause in all honesty I expected her to friend zone me. But after talking to one of her good friends I was told she has mixed feelings about me and is interested sometimes and not at others. Her friend also told me that she is confused because she likes the game of playing games and enjoys the mystery of me and her. Her friend basically explained that what she had told me when I talked to her is different from what she truly feels. I'm confused and after confronting her about my feelings our conversations feel strained and distant.  \n\nA lot of people are telling me not to deal with her because shes just trying to string me along. I kind of agree but I do really like her. Am I being naive and too hopeful? There is a lot more detail to all of this but this is mainly the jist of whats going on.", "summary": "Expressed my feelings for a friend and what she told me is not the same what she told her good friend."}
{"id": "t3_2cjjpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeking advice for how to deal with niece [24F] who is in a relationship with a guy I suspect of being a pathological liar [31M], and she just doesn't see it.", "post": "For a lot of reasons I can't go into detail about (including he might be on reddit) I will summarize by saying I have reasons to believe this guy is closeted gay and is a serial/pathological/compulsive liar who is deceiving my niece and is now planning on moving in with her. They've been dating about 3 months; she is moonstruck over him and already has them married and in a house with a white picket fence and a couple of kids. My wife and I have not talked to her about our suspicions yet. This is the second guy she's been with who might be gay and pulling the wool over her eyes (I see a pattern here). I hate to see her get her heart broken again, but also recognize that she's an adult and can make her own decisions. Wat do, if anything? Any feedback appreciated.", "summary": "niece is with a guy who is lying and she doesn't see it. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_4pxs8c", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Family, Money and all the other \"fun\" problems! Needing some advice.", "post": "Well to start this off, as of right now I live in my grandparents in a house of a whopping 15 or more people! There is only 3 bedrooms and a basement and currently I sleep in a reclining chair (I've been sleeping for nearly 6 months or more and I think it's harming my back by a lot) but I also share one of the three bedrooms with my grandparents who are extremely loud snorers and it causes me headaches, blocking out the sound with loud music helps but still gives headaches and my grandpa snores right through all earplugs meant for blocking the snoring. At this rate I only get to sleep during the day when they're awake and I feel massive sleep deprivation that causes me to become more angry, stressed, depressed and overall upset with almost everyone no matter if they did anything or not. Sleeping pills no longer work because when I take them I feel more sensitive to the sound and end up hurting myself (e.g biting my hand or pulling at hair) due to getting angry over the situation and I have nowhere else to sleep - I'm stuck with sharing the room with my grandparents. Of course I'm an adult now but I have no job as I find it extremely hard to actually be apart from my grandma and family that I trust and have selective mutism sprinkled with autism and various other mental health issues from depression/bipolar which usually makes me hard to work with socially but enough about that as it's gotten to the point where I really want to leave and be on my own regardless of my head telling me no and that I can't make it alone but I've been meaning to ask my grandparents to help me out with rent but I'm not sure how to bring it up to them or find a job that won't have too many social interactions that I can do. Granted I do not have anything higher than a High school diploma and the jobs around where I live are usually the type that need some form of Degree from College/Uni, the perks of small towns I guess.", "summary": "I need advice on blocking out loud snoring, asking for help on rent and finding a job that would be good with somebody who can't socially interact with people for very long. And help managing symptoms like depression, anger, stress and basically all negative things in a large household so I don't end up getting upset at somebody who didn't do anything. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_52ecg8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "First Real Job and Confused About Retirement Fund", "post": "My(24/f) job I just started working at in May 2 of this year has an up to 6% match 403b retirement plan. I am so new to this so please bare with me as I just need help understanding why on Mint.com it says I lost $175 on it and just $585 was ever invested. I only put 3% of my check in so it's not much money however it seems like it lost a lot. Is this normal? The plan is a JP Morgan Smart Retirement 2045. On Ascensus, the website used to access my funds, it says The Fund is a \"fund of funds\" that invests its assets in a combination of equity, fixed income and short-term mutual funds.", "summary": "I am scared my retirement is performing bad and I don't know enough to ask HR about it."}
{"id": "t3_3or6p7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling someone their shoes were untied.", "post": "So this was a few years ago, but whatever. So I was a freshman in high school and lunch was about to end so I started walking to my next class with a group friends. I can't remember how, but we got onto the topic of me being a little bitch who wouldn't follow through on dares. Well I wanted to prove them wrong, so they gave me the dare of telling some random person their shoes were untied. I heard someone walking next to me so without looking I turned and blurted out \"Hey your shoes are untied!\". I complete the turn around, I see a girl, wearing sandals with one of the special Ed teachers. The girl looks down, looks at me, starts crying and runs away. Then I just stood there feeling like the biggest dickbag on the planet while my friends laughed their asses off.", "summary": "Was dared to tell someone their shoes were untied. Did it, turns out they were mentally retarded and wearing sandals."}
{"id": "t3_ivd5g", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What would you do in my situation? (Interracial feelings with another)", "post": "A few months ago my group of friends and I started partying with this girl (She's white and 19, I'm a black male and 19) my friend had invited with us one weekend. She had fun with us and her and I started talking. I started to develop feelings for her and asked her to be my date to my track championship after party. She agreed, we went, and we had a great time and all (this is taking place at college around late April). I didn't have the chance to tell her how I felt before school ended, on top of us ending on an unrelated bad note, so I figured any shot I had was over. \n\nHowever we texted throughout the summer, on a nightly basis even! Hope wasn't lost! But I was lacking in the confidence department when it came to women so I still had no idea if I had a shot. Eventually she invited us down to her place for a weekend at the beach (VA Beach, I live right below DC). We went and had a hell of a good time, and after a weekend of finding the courage, I decided to make my move...\n\nThe next morning when our friend(same one who introduced us) had gone to the bathroom, we hugged innocently enough, and I went in to kiss her. She pulls away telling me that we can't. Turns out she felt the same way I did, we both really liked each other!\n\nHowever it wasn't that simple. She said we couldn't date, her father wouldn't let her date outside her race. I said I was ok with that, just to know that she liked me was good enough (and it was). We shared a kiss anyway, a few steamier ones in honesty. And she agreed to let me take her out once we got back to school, to pay her back for the weekend.\n\nSo we've got a date set up even though we shouldn't, we have feelings for each other that we can't act on (officially) and we're both spending 8 months out of the year away from home and her father, do you think we should still try to pursue a relationship? What would you do, or has this ever happened to you and what did you do about it?", "summary": "Girl and I aren't allowed to be together because of race and we still both really want to date, what should we do/ what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_4klz7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] I used to be extremely creepy online and I'm afraid this might affect future relationships", "post": "Back when I was 18, I used to be tremendously creepy on Facebook. Repeatedly sending messages to the same woman over and over again. Calling her names. Being gross. It was just really, really bad.\n\nI'm 22 now and I'm quite embarrassed over my  behavior. I'm trying to become more involved with my community and what not. I sometimes wonder if my past messages will come back to light. Like, will women call me out on it eventually and say I said weird things to them? What exactly am I supposed to do when some woman starts talking? \n\nI'm so embarrassed that I said those things. I wasn't thinking right and was in a bad place emotionally during that time period. If a woman starts telling others about me, should I just man up and apologize or something? Deny it and say I got hacked? I really don't know", "summary": "Used to be creepy online towards women, don't know what to do about it if that stuff comes to light"}
{"id": "t3_26euiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 4+ years, just broke up. I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with him, and have no way to leave. What can I do?", "post": "Long story short, it was long distance and I gave up my family, friends, and everything else to come be with him. I've lived with him for two years, minus 4-5 months that I went back home last year. He just broke up with me, but I literally have no friends here, and not even another place to sleep in the house, other than right here next to him. Does anyone have any advice for where the hell to go from here? I'm at a complete loss. I left on such a bad foot with my parents and family that even if I could find the money, I don't know if they'd take me back.", "summary": "Boyfriend dumped me, but I live with him and have no resources to move out or even stay the night elsewhere."}
{"id": "t3_yd7q1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help guys!", "post": "Ok, I have really wanted to start a weight loss regimen for some time now.  I don't want to be ashamed to take my shirt off at the pool or lake anymore.  So, here is a little info about myself.  21m roughly 350lbs, 6'4\", and have a pretty hectic schedule.  I'm an EMT and just finished Paramedic school so I work 48 and 72 hour shifts and can never really tell when I will have a full hour or more to devote to working out.  The way I am always on the road at work forces me to eat out alot which, regrettably, ends up being and awful lot of fast food.  I was just wondering of you guys could help.  If I'm posting in the wrong /r please point me in the right direction.", "summary": "want help setting up weight loss regimen with hectic schedule not alway allowing work out time."}
{"id": "t3_2khjd0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Hubby made me do his diet and I got tired of it.", "post": "For 3 months I have been on a diet which is really quite strict, I basically start the day with some chicken breast and water and then an hour later I have rice cakes sometimes with low fat cheese. This diet was suggested to me by my husband who has lost a lot of weight from it and I guess it made sense to do it too.\n\nI aim for 1000-1500 calories a day which has helped me shed a lot of weight so far, of course along with weight training and cardio. \n\nThe only thing is that long term I couldn't see myself doing that diet. Although after 3 months I was happy with the results but I was really scared to change the diet in case I went wrong and all of my progress was reversed, especially with my 6month weigh in coming up. It kind of made me dread getting up in the morning because it was a drag eating steamed chicken breast every day. \n\nThis might sound weird but after I saw one of those early morning infomercials for those blenders that \"transform your life\" I was inspired to try out a blender recipe. So I got on youtube and started looking for recipes and found a few vids that I have tried and are really nice. Been using them for 2 weeks now and they havent made me put on any unwanted weight.\n\nSO I felt that I want to share my findings with you guys, maybe some will find them useful in some way if you are maybe bored with your weight loss diet as I was.\n\nThis one is the 1st video I tried:\n\n \n\nI make this one in the morning basically drink half for breakfast and the other half before bed. It tastes really nice. \n\nThis is the second one I tried, not as tasty but it did the job", "summary": "Hubbie's diet got me feelin down, but I tried a couple of recipe videos and I'm glad I did."}
{"id": "t3_2hwn6l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I may be involved with a predator and do not know what to do. I am looking for any insight or advice.", "post": "I am a 25f with a 30m. We have one small child with another on the way. We did not know eachother for long before having our first child but have been trying hard to make it work. \n\nI recently found a list of what appeared to be usernames and thought I should look into the situation further. When I came across these names I was not snooping but had an odd feeling about them... So here is when I began to snoop.\n\nI found that they are 3 young teen girls on a social website. His account on this site says that he is 18 years old and he has no friends on the site. I have found some things that suggest he has been looking at this one girls profile for over a month and was on the page as recently as yesterday. The things on this site are very PG and I have found no evidence of him trying to contact anyone.\n\nI am about to have 2 young children with this person and am not sure how to approach this. Should I confront him? How? Am I over-reacting?\n\n**bold", "summary": "Spouse and father of my children is following young girls on social networking sites. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2w9sxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] Should I (M/16) try to talk to this girl (17) I've known for a few months and figure out where we stand?", "post": "So from maybe the beginning of October to like the week before thanksgiving, I was talking to this girl, a (kinda shy) international student from France who's in America for a year. She told my sister I was cute and gave me her number before I even asked for it and we had some good convos over text, although she would occasionally not respond to me. At one point she says the likes that I text her but she's not good at answering. We share a class too, and we'd talk then a decent amount, though it was usually me initiating the conversation. Anyway, around thanksgiving we started talking less in class and I sent her two texts in the span of a week and she didn't respond to either. I figured she wasn't really interested, so I stopped making any effort to talk to her and we stopped talking.\n\nAround Valentines day at our school, you can buy these little bags of candy and attach a note and student council will deliver them. I had an extra so I decided to send one to her just to see what would happen. It didn't say anything lovey, just like \"hey I know we haven't talked in forever, but I had this and I figured I'd send it to you.\" The day it gets delivered, a thursday before a 4-day weekend, she comes up to me, hugs me, thanks me, and says she'll text me. On Saturday, I'm at a basketball game (she's on the team) and I go up to her after the game, say good job, and she hugs me again. Not too long after that, I texted her. Now it's Tuesday and she hasn't responded, though this morning I passed her in the hall and she happily said hi to me even though I kinda tried to not make eye contact.\n\nSo here's my question (and yeah ik this turned out to not be short at all):\n\n*Should I go up to her at school and ask her kind of where we stand, or would that be douchey/make me look crazy?*\n\nI can handle rejection, but not knowing is really bothering me.", "summary": "Girl hugs me, me is friendly at school, tells me she'll text me, but doesn't answer when I text her. Do I talk to her to figure out where we stand?"}
{"id": "t3_35vtdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i, [24M] balance the GOOD with the BAD in the relationship?", "post": "Important background: i am moderately active, fit, communicative, confident, well dressed, charming, assertive, thoughtful guy that is very easy to go with in the relationship, very easy to enjoy with. I don't create drama, i set good boundaries and rarely argue, yet keep things interesting by approaching my girlfriend as if every single time we meet is actually a date, showing her new things and never taking her for granted. \n\nMy fear: since the \"wave\" of the relationship with me is always pretty 75%+ without creating massive drops and then massive ups, i feel as if i could become boring to her. I would imagine having a heated argument, missing your spouse, proving your love to each other once again and jumping back up in the \"wave\" creates those special, deeper bonds that can not be created if relationship is happy all the time, you know the bonds where you go crazy, wild, ecstatic, passionate etc. Its like having your favorite meal every day and i fear she might get tired of it, no matter how delicious. There's gotta be the night time to appreciate the day, the winter to appreciate the summer, yin yang - everything in balance and too much of a good thing can be a chore as well....Right? \n\nQuestion: how do i balance the good side with the bad side? How do i insert \"bad\" side in the relationship? I am not asking whether or not i should create fake arguments, just how could i, well, bring balance to the good side. I feel uncomfortable regarding my question, but please, can somebody see the big picture here? Am i right on the matter, or should i just keep it happy happy all the time? Should i just wait for arguments to happen naturally as in most relationships?", "summary": "I am great in keeping a relationship happy happy, but how do i insert the bad side to balance it?"}
{"id": "t3_49zwit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] am a photographer who does nude & erotic content. My boyfriend [30M] is uncomfortable with it.", "post": "I'm a photographer and a big part of my work is nude and erotic content. Different people may have different ideas about it, but I actually enjoy the work very much and it's a very good business. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and even though he initially showed no problem with what I do, he has recently told me multiple times that he finds what I do to be a little incorporate and he doesn't feel comfortable with it. When I ask him what parts of my work he has trouble with, he says that he doesn't feel right when he thinks about the fact that I spend most of my day around nude people or work on their pictures. He hasn't pushed me, but has suggested more than a few times to \"expand\" my area of work and focus on more \"normal\" photography tasks.\n\nMost of my clients are either young couples (usually pregnant), young to middle aged females and working girls (to whom I give a discount to, which my boyfriend is not a fan of). It's not like I'm working with hot guys all day. I may get a few single guy clients every couple of months, and they're usually gay escorts.\n\nThis keeps getting brought up more and more regularly these days, and I try to explain each time why he shouldn't be as worried or why I can't just stop and be a \"normal\" photographer (as he puts it), but things get nowhere and he goes back to the first step just a couple of days later.", "summary": "Boyfriend is uncomfortable with the fact that I photograph nude people for a living and wants me to stop doing it."}
{"id": "t3_11i8du", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Flatlined libido? Please say I'm not the only one & should I be worried? [Possibly NSFW]", "post": "Hi loseit,\n\nI'm sorry if this isn't necessarily relevant to weight loss, but it's the only correlating change in my life. If I'm doing wrong by posting here, please feel free to scorn me.\n\nI've noticed over the past six months, whilst losing weight, that my libido has completely flatlined. I've searched everywhere for information on it or people with similar experiences only to find that weight loss has had the complete opposite effect on the majority of other people, with only breadcrumbs on information on a decreased libido.\n\nWeight loss is the only thing I can think of that could be causing this. The relationship with my boyfriend is better than ever and I still find him thoroughly attractive, I just can't find sex engaging. And it's not just the physical side, the idea is doing nothing for me either; it's like I may as well be a eunuch. The first month of this happening I thought it might just be an off month for me; but six months down the line and it's beginning to worry me considerably. Should I consider seeing my GP about it?\n\nHave any of you guys had a similar experience, or have any suggestions as to what may be causing it?", "summary": "flatlined libido since losing weight, weight loss only correlating change, could it be causing it & should I seek medical advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1gx4lm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] Is this guy (18/m) just being polite or does he like me a little bit?", "post": "So we've known about each other for a long time (I'm sort of friends with his sister), but we've never talked. But yesterday I suddenly mustered up the courage to start a conversation with him and it went well! He seemed genuinely happy and smiled and laughed and joked and complimented me. But then there were some uncomfortable pockets of time when we would be get quiet and not know what to say (I'm REALLY shy and he's pretty reserved and quiet). I've never actually seen him talk to a girl and as far as I know, he doesn't have a gf right now. I said that we should hang out sometime and he gave me his number. \nThe thing is, my friends have been saying how he's actually looked at me a few times, but I've only ever caught his glance like once. And the thing that makes it the most difficult is that after we talked yesterday, he would kind of ignore me if I walked by again. Like he would consciously look the other way if I walked by him. He's a really nice guy, I assumed he would at least acknowledge me after we talked for a good bit!! \nBut after I few hours, I remembered that I didn't actually give him my number, so I texted him it and said \"let's hang the next time you're in town\" and he replied promptly \"hey yea! i'll for sure hit you up when i'm in town next time\" \nIf any of you can interpret this, I will be so grateful. Honestly. I need to know because I don't want to have an misconceptions.", "summary": "Quiet guy opens up when I initiate conversation, but otherwise doesn't seem interested at all. Mixed signals, help me read them."}
{"id": "t3_4mif60", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17F] afraid maybe something is wrong with me, that pushes other people away? I keep thinking about doing things with others but ultimately I'm happier in my own company?", "post": "I learnt long ago that the path to contentment/happiness was to live for yourself and not for others (in a manner of speaking) so I am a fairly free spirit sort of person, I guess. I enjoy my own company, I seek out activities I know I'll enjoy, I'm generous and humble to others, I don't engage in fights or arguments, and I've learnt that I don't really need anyone else if I want to enjoy myself in my daily activities. \n\nThat being said, though, I have this weird problem where I sometimes want to do things with other people... yet when this happens I feel like it's... underwhelming? For example, if I wanted to go to the amusement park with a friend, it sounds all fun and games in my head, but on the day I feel awkward and almost like maybe I'm boring my friend, because either I can't think of much to talk about or I just don't seem to feel as free as when I do the same thing alone. I guess when you're alone you don't have to worry about keeping anyone else entertained but for me it's as though I feel like they don't enjoy these activities as much as I do. If that makes sense?\n\nAnyways... I'm happy in my own company, and I love my friends, but I can't quite seem to find a romantic partner. I don't force myself onto others, nor do I doggedly chase after a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Guys that friends have introduced me to don't really go for me, though; I can't help wonder if something is wrong with me. \n\nI'm not sure if /r/relationships is the right place to post this! But I was wondering if any of you had any advice for me or could help me with what I feel. Thank you.", "summary": "What's wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_hcsrl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Car accident medical claim advice needed", "post": "I was involved in a car accident in March (in Alabama).  I had the right of way and the other driver turned into my driver side door thinking he had a green left turn arrow.\nI was not hospitalized.  I missed five days of work and had about $600 in medical bills for a hurt knee and shoulder (total claims, not out of pocket.)  They have already paid my lost wages and out of pocket expenses.  When I asked about a pain and suffering settlement, they agreed that I was entitled and that we would discuss it after the bills were finalized.  The representative from the other driver's insurance has now asked me what figure I was thinking of for the settlement, and I am looking for advice on the answer I give her. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "How much should I ask for in a car accident pain and suffering claim?"}
{"id": "t3_260g1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M20] and my GF [F21] broke up because I was delusional.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend dated for 3 years. She was real into me and I just got off a relationship. throughout the years she has been real good to me. Always coming over and helping me with things and never stopped loving me in general. She was essentially perfect. I really never showed much effort as her because I felt if I gave her too much love, it would spoil her. I would make jokes about her and repeat things she doesnt like because I thought it was all a joke, but it ultimately affects her in the long run. I never wouldve thought she would leave me because she was loyal. Couple weeks later, she revealed she wanted to break up with me because she felt so stressed in the relationship. She lost feelings 6 months ago and hoped I would change, but never happened. I am so stupid Reddit. I didn't realize what I've been doing till it she's gone. She's gone for 2 months to work for her parents outside the city. I really want to get her back, but she tells me to move on and everything. She even tricked me she found a new boyfriend just to \"help\" me move on. I really love this girl and I'm changing all my habits that caused her to leave me. I don't know if she will take me back or anything , but i really do love her. Reddit, is there any way to get this girl back? Im scared she will find someone knew because I know anyone is better than me from the way I treated and stressed her. help?", "summary": "GF dumped me because I didnt take her words for granted, realized my mistakes, but its a bit too late"}
{"id": "t3_ww8x9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Do I make a move or wait for him to?", "post": "I recently found myself having feelings for a friend of some friends. He's 25, I'm 24. \n\nWe talk a lot when we're out during the nights. I got his number but we rarely text (he works a lot, as do I). A lot of my friends are telling me to make a move because he's kind of shy and probably won't do it himself. But I'm usually not the person to put myself out there like that because though I'm pretty confident, I'm still shy when it comes to dudes I like.\n\nOne of my other friends is telling me not to make a move at all because he's trying to mack on another girl. But every time I've seen him, I've seen no other girl. I've dropped him off alone at home a couple times. And we're pretty focused on each other when we talk (not answering texts/talking to other people/etc.)\n\nAnyway, I really like the kid. I'm just worried that he is seeing some other girl and then I'll put myself in an awkward spot if I make a move or tell him how I'm feeling. Or he's already friend-zoned me and I'll look dumb making any kind of move at all anyway.", "summary": "I like a guy. We flirt and talk a ton in person. Seems like we're into each other. One of my friends informs me that he thinks he's kind of seeing some other girl, but I've never seen her around. Do I make a move or wait for him to? I'm seeing him tonight. EEP."}
{"id": "t3_13rd5q", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My Roommates Keep Eating my Food, What can I do?", "post": "Okay, so I live on my college's residence which is set up like an apartment building. Six bedroom, two washrooms, a living room and a full kitchen. Since I've been here and have been sharing this space with what started off as five strangers, I decided to try and be welcoming. I love baking and try to bake something at least once a week. The first time I did this I made chocolate chip cookies, told them to help themselves to a cookie and left the big plate of them on the table. Ever since then, they have been helping themselves to my food and it doesn't matter where I keep it. Whether it's on my shelf in a container, in my room or in the fridge, they take almost all of it. I don't mind sharing, but please ask me before you eat almost all of something I have. For example, I baked 2 dozen peanut butter cookies last night, ate two, and there are only five left (and only two of my room mates are home!). Anyways Reddit, is there anything I can do to stop this from happening? I just don't want to seem rude. Thanks!", "summary": "My roomies take my food because I offered something once. How do I stop it without looking rude?"}
{"id": "t3_4eu7xk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M], girlfriend[18 F] dating for 9 months , she cheated on her past BF, is she cheating on me?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now and I found out about 3 months ago she cheated on her ex boyfriend whom she dated for 1.5 years.\n\nBasically, she sent a guy at our school nudes for almost an entire year during her previously relationship (snapchats, videos, facetime etc). She never told her boyfriend and to this day he is still unaware.\n\nThe reason I am posting here is because I need some advice on what to do. I broke up with her because of the fact that we're going to different universities in September (about 2 hours apart ). I found out about the cheating after we originally broke up and she kept lying about it (saying they were only friends, which turned into just her sending pics in underwear, then finally what I think is the truth?). Anyways, we ended up getting back together because we missed each other. But ever since I found out about her past, I have this thought eating away at me almost on a daily basis. Is she cheating on me? Sending other guys pics? Her past BF never knew so why should she tell me? I've asked her if she has done anything and she denies it, but I'm not sure if I believe her.\n\nI'm not sure what to do and any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you very much", "summary": "my girlfriend cheated in her past, not sure if I'm being cheated on."}
{"id": "t3_3gqx69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just need to know if I've (21F) made the right choice or not...", "post": "Hi everyone. I just recently got out of an 8 month long relationship. I know it's not too long, but it was the best eight months with him (21M). We had our ups and downs just like everyone else but we got through it all. \n\nI just graduated while he's still going to school. I moved to a different city not too far away because I'll be starting work in October. So until then, I have a lot of time to kill. However, he's really busy with summer school, work, family, and friends. He's extremely close to them and likes to hang out with them as much as he can. He tries to make time for me as well, but recently we haven't been able to see each other often. It's been coming down to maybe one day out of the week and we realize that it's only going to get worse when I start work. I just got really sad because I didn't want to depend on webcam to see my boyfriend. Back at school, we pretty much lived together so I think I got used to this idea that it's really hard for me to adjust to what it is now. \n\nOnce I start work, I know I'll be busy. We've been getting into a lot of fights recently because we don't get to see each other as often. Mostly me. This doesn't affect him as much because he is so busy and also because as long as he knows that I'm there for him and love him then he's okay with this. I wish I could think that way, but I wasn't sure if I could do this whole \"relying on Skype\" thing. We ended it last night and he was very understanding of my side. I just can't get the thought out of my head that I made a really stupid decision because I let my emotions get the best of me again. \n\nWas I stupid to end it?", "summary": "ended things with my boyfriend because of busy schedules. Not sure if I made the right choice."}
{"id": "t3_2vnoj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/m] girlfriend [19/f] has become passive-aggressive towards me due to my busy schedule. Even though she said early she was fine with it.", "post": "So using at throwaway, and I'll try to make this quick. \n\nSome backstory: I have been dating my girlfriend for around 7 months, in that time I have been focusing mostly on my schoolwork and didn't have a job. She did, and her schedule would sometimes run into our plans, oh well, it happens. We adapt.\n\nI just got a job and have to work 5 days a week, from 7:30- 11. I didn't choose this schedule, its the only time that fits with my classes.\n\nBecause of my new schedule (combined with my school/work and hers), we can only talk one hour each night after work.\n\nIt's only been a few days and she is getting angry at me, even though she told me \"we would get through it and be fine\" after I asked her.\n\nHow do I proceed?", "summary": "New schedule has cut down communication drastically, gf is angry at something out of my control. I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_4h936i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19F] randomly asks me if I [22M] want to get with one of her friends. Advice?", "post": "So I briefly dated a girl, and she broke things off with me a month ago. Basically, she was super into me and wanted a serious relationship with me, but felt like I was too distant, didn't care about her, and took her for granted. Anyways, today we were texting, and I told her that I really did like her and would be open to giving it another shot. She says that she now has a new boyfriend that she started seeing after breaking things off with me. So I tell her that it was nice knowing her, best of luck with everything, etc. \n\nA couple hours later, she texts me, \"Hey want to get with my friend\" with some pictures of her friend. Tells me that it was her idea, not her friend's. I honestly don't know what to think of this situation. Should I go for it? Is this girl fucking with me? Opinions would be great.", "summary": "Girl broke things off with me a month ago, gets new boyfriend, and randomly asks if I want to fuck her friend"}
{"id": "t3_37yyzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] was drunk texted by my ex [18 F] (3 months since breakup), saying she wants to talk to me. Now I think I might be blocked.", "post": "Backstory: Me and my ex were good friends for over two years before we started dating. We dated for around 1\u00bd months before we decided to go steady. That, however, lasted only 5 days, as she dumped me for someone else - via text.\n\nOver three months passed without much comunication (we texted for like, twice). However, **we both graduated this saturday**. We saw eachother in the graduation ceremony, but didn't say anything.\n\nIn the evening, I went partying with my friends. I had my phone shut for a long time to conserve battery, but I turned the phone on at midnight. Surprisingly, **my ex had texted** (via Whatsapp) **me, wanting to know where I was**. The club was packed, so she couldn't come there.\n\nWe texted for some time. I asked why she texted me, but she avoided the questions and threw some disoriented comments, but in the end she said **she wants to talk to me live, because she feels bad conscience**. I didn't want to leave the club, so **we agreed to talk tomorrow**.\n\nI expected her to text me early today, but she hadn't done that. I remember rereading our text around 5 hours ago, and then everything seemed normal. However, I decided to text her first 30 minutes ago, but the text didn't go through. I also recognized that I couldn't see her \"last seen\" timestamp anymore either. **I think she blocked me!** But why?\n\nI'm not sure what I should do next. It may be worth mentioning that my ex had a habit of just ignoring me when we were having troubles when we were together. I'm not even sure whether or not I'd want to restart a relationship with her. I thought I was over her before she texted me.", "summary": "My ex texted me, saying she wants to see me. Now she seems to be ignoring me, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_fcaa9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with the rampant flakiness of our society? My friends are scatterbrained and unreliable, and their flaky habits are enabled by cell phones.", "post": "It seems like I am much more reliable than all of my friends. Much, much more reliable. I only make plans I intend to keep, and I keep almost all of the plans I make. And I'm generally on time, especially if it is important to be.\n\nMost or all of my friends are not like this. Their frustrating behavior falls into two categories:\n\n* Being flaky about plans. This includes making plans and not keeping them, canceling without much notice or for stupid reasons, mismanaging their time so badly they have to cancel (usually at the last minute), double-booking with me by accident, or firmly committing to extremely vague plans that never materialize due to their vagueness.\n\n* Being difficult to contact. This includes not keeping their phone charged, turned on, or with a ringtone that is loud enough. Frequently there are plans to \"talk later today\", but the person becomes inexplicably uncontactable later.\n\nThese are my closest friends, and they do it to each other, too. It seems like they are just being unreliable and flaky. Having cell phones is great because you can plan fluidly, but this doesn't work when people don't pay attention to their phones. Cell phones allow people to be exactly available as they want to be.\n\nSo, I don't think at all that my friends acting this way is about me, but I would believe that I am making the problem worse by enabling it somehow.\n\nThis is all very frustrating. Reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Everyone is flaky nowadays, how can I train them not to be with me?"}
{"id": "t3_4zqufo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How soon is too soon for a relationship? 21F and 22M", "post": "Hiya reddit. I'm the 21F.\n\nI've recently met a chap, he's lovely, we get on really well, I've known him through mutual friends about a year but haven't spoken one on one until about 2 and a bit weeks ago.\n\nDespite having only been properly interacting for such a short period of time, we've both said that we enjoy each other's company way too much to just consider it as \"seeing each other\".\n\nSo I asked whether I introduce him as my boyfriend now. And, well, he said yep. \n\nBut I'm wanting to know if this is stupid, too impatient, impulsive?\n\nI know it will vary person to person. He makes me feel comfortable and happy and safe and warm. I see no point in beating around the bush. And I have known him for longer through mutual friends. But I'm also autistic and have no fucking clue what I'm doing.", "summary": "how soon is too soon to start a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_22xtl1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My(20/m) GF(19/f) is starting to get really jealous of other friends that I hang out with.", "post": "So, there is a little background behind this one. I am a guy who hasn't had a girlfriend in about 3 years and have had multiple one night stands with people and it's taken it's toll on me mentally. So I decided to settle down and actually talk to one of my dear friends. We talked for about a month and I wanted to take it slow and then work my way up. I slept with another one of my friends while we were talking. (we made it clear that we weren't exclusive) and then later was told by said friend about the encounter and was accused of cheating. We worked our way from that, but it's still being brought up and I'm constantly reminded of such. \n\n  Another such incident was when we declared exclusivity and we went to a fraternity party that my fraternity was hosting. I was drunk, but could still function, and one of the party goers started dancing on me and I, in my stupor, danced with her. She got insanely jealous that she wouldn't talk to me for a day or so and then we had great makeup sex.  \n\nMost recently we were talking about grease, and I set her up with a Reddit account and signed her up with a subreddit list that would help her with her crafts and inspire her with ideas, which she was thrilled with. Then the next moment when she did something cute I giggled a  bit. She immediately went defensive and said that she had self-esteem problems and play-smacked me... I think it was more to get my attention as I was brushing it off. She was serious and I was dumbfounded. \n\nI really like this girl, but some of the problems that we have, like jealousy, over exaggeration, and the drama is starting to get to me. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "My gf is a wonderful person, but has flaws that I don't know that I can deal with or am ready to deal with."}
{"id": "t3_21czh9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I M17 started as friends with benefits with (F18) she \"cheated\" on me! should i forgive her?", "post": "So i'm just going to give a short version of the story, a good friend of mine got dumped 2 weeks ago, i as the friend i am, contacted her and started comforting her.\n\n Then last weekend we went camping so she could forget about it, we had a blast, and in some way ended up fooling around inside the same sleeping bag. we decided to be friends with benefits as she felt she had kinda come over the guy but not completely ready for the dating scene.\ni've been talking to her tons since then and, we kinda developed feelings for one another, atleast she said it was mutual. she still does\n\nShe had arranged plans to hang out with some class buddies today and this guy whom has been trying to get her in bed ever since they broke up was the place she was going. last time i saw her the last thing i told her was, do not go over there he knows you are vulnerable and he just wants to use you! she told me she knew this but i could trust her, Spoiler alert i could not!\n\nwe were texting back and forth today while i was at the gym and she was there, she even saent a couple who were like; i don't want to be here i want to be with you. then the texting stopped and i feared the worst, but kept telling myself she just ran out of battery.\n\nshe called me just minutes ago saying i made a mistake, my fears were true, she said they were watching a scary movie then suddenly they were naked, and that she regretted it so bad, i just answered with an it's allright i can't control what you do! but honestly i'm kinda heart broken. \n\nalso i feel like i should sleep with another girl i know even though i know i shouldn't!\n\nshould i forgive her reddit?\n\nthank you for reading this far!", "summary": "fuck buddies developed feelings towards eachother she \"cheated\" on me!"}
{"id": "t3_15kcm9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why shouldn't (or should) I try cigarettes?", "post": "Okay so here's the deal. I have always been fascinated by smokers. Cigarette smoke reminds me of happy childhood memories, like amusement parks and the beach. Whenever I walk by a smoker, I always linger to inhale the second hand smoke. \n\nI've struggled with anxiety, depression, and my weight and the research I've found says that nicotine can help with all of that. \n\nIn the past, I've done quite a bit of partying (stupid high school teenager stuff) but never cigarettes. I've always loved how that look and smell. I am now a freshman in college, and figured... why not?", "summary": "I've done research on my own, but would appreciate some real life input on why or why not someone should smoke cigarettes."}
{"id": "t3_rglbv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What Do You Guys Think About This Idea to Fight the 9Gaggers?", "post": "Hey guys. Several comics on f7u12 have been complaining about 9Gaggers taking our \"narwhal baconing\" and I was wondering what you guys thought about this idea. We have a war against them. Someone should go on the 9Gag website, make a rage comic, and declare war on all the 9Gaggers. We could have a huge war in a video game, like, i unno, Minecraft. Also, we could make Kony2012-style videos propoganding against them. I'm not half assing this, I'm taking this to the extreme, and to the fullest I can. I'm actually sick and tired of people from 9Gag taking our content, that we Redditors spend HOURS, sometimes even DAYS working on. I maybe a bit butt hurt or whatever, but that's fine. Downvote this to oblivion, but if you're tired of it like I am, you should join my \"Alliance\". Maybe we could even try to-dare I say- reason with them? I dunno, i just wanna know what you Redditors think about this. Good idea, bad idea, or idea with potential? I'm curious as to what you, Reddit, think.\nThanks C:", "summary": "Pissed off and angry about 9Gaggers, want you guys to tell me what you think about an alliance to start a war against them, join alliance at (www.reddit.com/r/fightthe9gaggers)"}
{"id": "t3_36ubqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F] broke up after almost 3 years, hard time staying friends", "post": "We broke up for college last year and I know I had a rough time, going from constantly seeing a best friend to not even communicating. It was an understandably mutual decision as we were both going forward in life, but it still hurt a lot.\n\nAnyways after a few months of college, I thought I was done with her. Then she began drunk texting me quite often. I was civil at first then ignored them as I realized it was just hurting me and going nowhere. So I got over her again.\n\nNow that we're back for summer, she's been wanting to hang out with mutual friends as we were all close. I thought I was at peace and had gotten over her but just seeing her again ruined my day. I felt (and still feel) like I'm going through the breakup all over again. \n\nAvoiding her is out of the question since my best friends are close friends of hers as well. We were all one big happy family and now there's this awkward rift between my ex and I that is stemming from my confused feelings and was damn near palpable to my friends when we all got together today.\n\nAlso, I would never want to leave my friends, especially because of her.", "summary": "Ex and I broke up. Due to joint custody of the friends, we'll see each other more than I can handle. Feels like my heart is breaking all over again. "}
{"id": "t3_3gkeim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my bf [24M] of 7 years, caught him in an elaborate lie", "post": "A couple of months ago I found out that he lied to me. I didn't see it coming, because there was almost no indication. \n\nHe told me that he had been employed, and would be working part time every Tuesday and Thursday while he was in school. If he stayed at my place on Monday or Wednesday night he would either get dressed the next mornin or tell me that he was going to get dressed at work. This went on for a couple of months (maybe February to April). \n\nAt one point I asked him something about his coworkers and the clients at his job. I thought it was weird, because he used to always tell about people from his previous job. Whatever the story, it was pretty weak. Then there was a day where I drove through the parking lot and dismissed the fact that I didn't see his car as possibly being that it was a weird shaped parking lot or that he was at a different location that day. I was so close to finding out the truth on my own, but was so blinded. \n\nOne day I find out a person close to me has an interview at the same place. I told him about this in person. I then went home and received a text telling me that he didn't actually work there because he had missed his first day of work for whatever reason. Literally the only reason he had told me was because he had been trapped", "summary": "Bf of 7 years lied to me about employment. Told me for months that he was going to work, went so far as to wear work clothes those mornings and tell me a story about work."}
{"id": "t3_20ib79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [m21] and I [f21] just broke up, need help, I regret it.", "post": "Some background history: together for a year, both 21 years old\nSo, I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year. I initiated it. He didn't want it at all, he begged and pleaded for me to stay, putting my foot down and walking away was the hardest thing I have ever done.\n\nOur relationship started off great, but sadly almost a year into it I found out he lied about his sexual past. I understood why he lied so I let it go, but I still had some trust issues that I couldn't let go of. Some of his stories didn't always add up, I don't want to straight up say he lied about a lot of stuff but sometimes his stories just didn't make sense.\n\nHe also failed to show up to some things we had planned together, with the main excuse of 'i fell asleep', happened about 3 times, I don't want to think he cheated but sometimes my mind goes there. He was also late 99% of the time but it got really annoying when he wouldn't always give me notice if he was late and I'd be left waiting. It hurt me a lot, made me feel like I was disrespected. I did confront him about these issues, and he apologized profusely, he was in tears about it all.\n\nOf course, he knows all of this and blames himself, says that the relationship ending is all his fault and all our problems are because of him. I contributed as well, I mean, I have a bit of temper that's mostly under control and I can be really oversensitive. I don't like to point fingers and say it's all his fault, but he did a lot of damage to \nthe relationship.\n\nDespite all this, I want him back. But maybe it's for the best that we break up, perhaps. I feel like maybe all our problems could be fixed if we got back together.\n\nI just need help with how to deal with this. We spent everyday together, it feels like I lost my best friend.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I just broke up. We dated for a year. He didn't always respect me, but blames himself for everything and has tried to make up for it recently. I feel horrible, and I feel like I want him back. I don't know how to deal with this, I feel like I made a mistake. Both 21 years old if that matters."}
{"id": "t3_3m6ncc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30s M] with my friend [30s M], a girl [28] left his long term boyfriend for him, now, after 4 months, she wants to go back to her ex. He is crushed.", "post": "We all knew it this could happen. She was with her BF 6 years. She was unhappy and met my buddy. She left her BF and a couple of weeks later, started dating my friend. It has been 4 happy months for him.\n\nLast week, she had to pick up some stuff from her ex's apartment and seems like after seeing him again, she realized she still has feelings for him (easy to believe after 6 year relationship).\n\nShe told my buddy she wanted to sort out her feelings or something like that, and needed space. She even said, that if her ex is willing to try again, she would.\n\nI have been telling my bud, it is over, but he refuses to see it. he says he wants to fight for her. But I don't see the point. I asked him \"are you really ok knowing that she would only come back to you, if her ex doesn't want her anymore?\" he just said \"good question\".\n\nit has been over a week and he looks awful. doesn't eat well, barely makes it out to have a beer with us.\n\nHow can we (his friends) make him realise it is over? or is it not and I am not reading this correctly?", "summary": "Friend of mine started dating a girl who had just broken up (matter of days) with her 6 year boyfriend. After 4 months, she saw her ex again, and wants to go back to him. Friend doesn't see it is over. How can I help him realise it?"}
{"id": "t3_1yam1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bringing up the past", "post": "My (18m) girlfriend (19f) keeps bringing up the past at random moments. She deals with depression so when she feels depressed she starts to think about things and what I did always comes up. Before we started dating I said some really hurtful things that I truly regret, we were still in high school at the time. We've been friends for about 4 years and dating for 6 months\n\nSince then I have completely changed as a person and she has even said that I have and that is the reason why we dated because I apologized for everything I did just out of the blue. We then started talking became best friends and now we date. \n\nShe says really nasty and hurtful things and I've just been brushing it off and taking the abuse because once she gets everything off her chest we are fine again. But idk how long I can deal with this. I feel like if she doesn't learn to accept it and accept me as a new person then this will never work. Am I wrong in thinking this ? \n\nI don't expect her to forget about it because honestly I wouldn't be able to but is just like her to leave the past in the past so we can move on. Any help ?", "summary": "girlfriend is bringing up past wrong doings and throwing them in my face years after. Wrong doings occurred before we dated."}
{"id": "t3_nftlm", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Found a cat near my apartment complex...", "post": "Let me start by saying, I did not take it. \n\nI can't have a cat.  I actually had to give my ex's cat, Bojangles, to another Redditor a couple months back because I can't take care of another living being. \n\nAnd I can't do fleas in the house.\n\nAlso, I'm ashamed because I saw it sitting there, no collar or anything and my first thought was poor cat, should be adopted... and then karma whored.\n\nNo. Cats aren't for fucking karma whoring.\n\nAnyway, I drove past again later and the cat was still outside the same building. It's not terribly shabby looking or underfed but still the mark of a stray was on it.\n\nI went home and grabbed the only can of tuna I have in my house.  And took it back to the cat.\n\nVery skittish, it was.  Walked away from me, but didn't run.  Just kept her distance.  This time she was on the second floor of the complex and that made me wonder if indeed she was someone's cat and just an outdoors one.   (Although, it's very rare for someone to have an outdoor cat in an apartment complex.) \n\nThen I noticed next to someone's door a food bowl and water dish.  Ok, I was torn now... I feel bad because they leave her outside, but glad she's getting food.\n\nTHen I decide to knock.  \n\n\"Hello?\"\n\n\"Hi, yes, I was just wondering, is that your cat?\" (Gesturing the cat across the way.)\n\n\"Oh, it's... kinda a stray, feral. Been here for years, but I feed it every day.\"\n\n\"I noticed, and I'm thankful for that. I saw her down below and I brought this for her.  Would you?\"  (Give the can of tuna, in my hurriedness I forgot a can opener. I actually thought it was one of those self open pull top cans.)\n\n\"Of course, thank you so much!\" \n\nLittle chat and banter and she was happy. She said she'd give it\nto her right away.", "summary": "But now I have a problem. I'm fairly certain this cat has fleas.  "}
{"id": "t3_2gg4nw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The relationship between me [22M] and my GF [21] is becoming boring/stale. What to do?", "post": "After reading some other threads on this subreddit I feel like our problem isn't so serious, but I would love some tips/advice nevertheless.\n\nI've known this girl for over 6 years and has been one of my two best friends since 4 years or so. Since two months we're in a relationship. We know eachothers ins and outs, know everthing we did/do, spoken of everthing happened in our lives etc etc. The problem is, we don't have much to say to eachother anymore and running a bit out of things to do together.\n\nRecently we've watched all 4 seasons of Game of Thrones and now we're kinda figuring out what to do when we are together. A couple of days ago we agreed to go for a walk every evening. Something we both enjoy. But it doesn't fill a whole evening, let alone a whole day. Does /r/relationships have any tips/advice on how to give some new life to our relation?", "summary": "GF and me know everything of eachother. Seemingly don't have anything to say or do with eachother. Does /r/relationships have any tips/advice for us?"}
{"id": "t3_4uts6u", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need help Great Dane won't give me space, starting to hurt me", "post": "I have a Great Dane pup that is 7 months old now, (she is not pup size though). \n\nRecently she has been pushing me around, for example: she'll follow me around the house and once I turn around or try to do something she trips me. \n\nAnother thing is when I sit down somewhere she always walks over to me and starts \"playing\" with my hands (more like playful biting she doesn't realize hurts) no matter what I yell/command/or physically move away, she will follow me and continue to bully me. \n\nShe'll put her nose against my face and attempt to nip my eyes, once I move back she will just get even closer and try to nip at me again.\n\nShe knows no personal space and she's starting to hurt me. She'll just grow more stronger and I need help before she can really hurt me.", "summary": "Great Dane isn't giving me space and is starting to hurt me, please help"}
{"id": "t3_2yk64k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my ex-girlfriend [20 F] 2 1/2 years together. Have been broken up for over 2 months, but we've suddenly been reunited over a tragedy. Need some advice.", "post": "My ex and I were in a relationship for 2 1/2 years.  The relationship ended due to a mix of severe stress, the way I was acting (not like myself at all), and (I believe) her own personal issues.  We both had accomplished incredible feats together, and at such young ages, but the issues arose that were difficult for a 20 and 21 year old to manage.  I was totally convinced that this girl was the one that I was going to marry...she's incredible and my family adores her.\n\nAnyway, we hadn't spoken at all for around a month, and then tragedy struck in the form of a very shocking death that has caused so much pain and confusion on both ends.  Well, we started talking again and we've spent the past two days together, and now we'll be spending the next two together as well.  She felt like she couldn't be there for my family and I in the beginning, but I told her how much they all still love her.\n\nShe's cried in my arms so much over these past couple of days.  It's also weird, because she asked me not to make this about our relationship (actually lashed out about a week ago when the tragedy stuck -- and has since changed her entire emotional path), yet she's brought up our relationship several times.  She said she doesn't want to hurt me, and I think she's struggling.  I still feel SO much love and devotion and appreciation for this girl.  I just don't know what to do.  This tragedy is difficult enough as it is...barely bearable, actually....and this whole love situation just pulls at my heart even more. I'm focusing on my family and my own pain at this time, but it's almost impossible to wonder \"what if\".  Thank you for the advice in advance.", "summary": "Tragic situation has brought me and my ex together again, but we're not \"together\"."}
{"id": "t3_3fm5v1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my fianc\u00e9 [29M] 2yr duration, I think he's more sexist than he realizes... What do I do?", "post": "We work together in a blue collar, male- dominated environment. He had always vocalized his support for me, listens when someone says or does something sexist and I need to vent, and doesn't give me special treatment or offer to carry heavy things and the like for me.\n\nI have been so happy about that! But as the wedding date creeps nearer, he keeps saying little things here and there that bug me. For instance, we were talking with a mutual (male) friend and coworker about a funny blog called Reductress. It's female focused. Fianc\u00e9 said of it, \"It's Written by women and it's female focused, but if you can deal with that, it's really funny.\" I immediately burst out laughing as I couldn't believe what I was hearing. The male friend looked just as flabbergasted as I was. Fianc\u00e9 immediately rolled his eyes and said, \"Great, do you know how long I'm going to have to hear about this for?\" \n\nIt's been a few days, and we had a short chat about it, but I can't stop thinking that maybe there is this part of his that I just haven't seen yet. I'm not sure what to do about it. When I tried to talk to him again he rolled his eyes and just checked his phone. A huge part of who I am is standing up for women in our industry and just overall trying to live life not as 'just a girl,' and I'm afraid of what I may have gotten myself into here. What do I do?", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9 may be more sexist than he originally let on. Halp!"}
{"id": "t3_1diueb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) get irrationally anxious and stressed during/after arguments with my girlfriend (19f)... How can I work on this?", "post": "My (23M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been seeing each other for around 5 - 6 months, official for 3. We have arguments, just like any couple. My problem is that I get incredibly anxious and stressed after an argument and find it hard to function normally. For example, we had an argument last night, but we made up before bed and everything seemed okay. \n\nToday at work my anxiety is going crazy, I can't concentrate and I've completely lost my appetite. I have a history of anxiety issues, but it's never been this bad in past relationships. The thing is, I'm not entirely sure what it is that I'm worried about exactly. Maybe it's that if she's still mad at me and the argument starts up again, I can't be with her and talk to her in person and we'd have to talk through texts until I finish work. Also, the thought of possibly getting no response from said texts and being ignored might be part of the issue. I'm not worried about her doing anything stupid or cheating or anything.\n\nI know in my head that these feelings are irrational, and that arguments are a normal part of every healthy relationship, but I just can't shake these feelings. I know my girlfriend loves me and she's told me that she would never leave me, and I believe that. If anyone has any words of wisdom, that would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Get stupidly anxious and stressed after arguments with girlfriend, even when we've made up and everything's fine. Don't know how to control those feelings."}
{"id": "t3_otu4p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M-19, F-18; Introduced by mutual friend, first contact on Facebook", "post": "Backstory:\nI'm 19(M), she's 18(F), different towns, have a mutual friend that did the \"hey you guys need to meet blah blah blah\". I wanted to get her number to set up coffee date, but mutual friend suggested we become friends on FB and start there.(As much as I hate doing this and have never done so before, but she's freaking hot) So I add her, she accepts; shortly after, messages are exchanged. Small talk at first, (school, classes, I'm trying to keep it generic to leave something to talk about on first date), then I ask what's she's doing this weekend(this was last week) because I'd like to get coffee and get to know her better. At the very instant I send that, she goes offline, no big deal. My FB messaging has been acting weird anyway, so the next day I send a message telling her this and give her my phone number for a more reliable method of communication. \n\nFast forward to yesterday(two days since last message with no reply), I see that she's online, it goes something like this:\n\nMe: \"Hey! Did you get my message the other day?\"\n\nHer: \"yes, but I won't get my new phone until one day this week\"\n\nMe: \"Ok, I understand\"\n\n*offline*\n\nI took this as she would call/text when she gets a new phone, hopefully she's not just blowing me off. So, I need to know how to proceed if she actually does contact me sometime this week. I'm thinking I need to slow down and chat with her a little more before asking her for coffee, what do you guys(and girls) think?", "summary": "Initial contact on Facebook sucks dick, but, it's all I have and trying to salvage it the best I can. Advice on pacing myself if she doesn't flake?"}
{"id": "t3_40or5v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "When is it 'worth it' to switch 401k funds based on expense ratio?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI am a 28 year-old with a 401k plan through my company.  The plan is with Fidelity, and is a 2050 Retirement Portfolio fund.  The plan has an expense ratio of 0.47.  I know this isn't a bad ER, but Fidelity has many plans with a much lower ER and a similar 'risk profile', such as the S&P 500 Index Strategy fund (ER of 0.10).  Is the difference in ER worth switching over to the S&P 500 plan, or maybe a Mid Cap Equity Index Strategy (0.13 ER), or even a Non US Equity Index Strategy fund (0.17 ER)?", "summary": "I'm not sure when the ER difference is worth switching to a different fund or not."}
{"id": "t3_r5x87", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asking out a neighbor.", "post": "22M here. Six or so months ago these two girls roughly my age moved in next door and I am trying to figure out a way to ask one of them out. I've had a real conversation with her once and things seemed to go really well, but I haven't had a chance to talk to her again. The only time I can say hi is passing them on the way in or out of our apartments, and she is generally with her roommate, so getting a conversation going is difficult. \n\nSo anyway, the issue is that I would like to at least go grab a drink or something with her and get to know her. She seems really nice, smart, cute etc, so I would potentially be interested in dating her, but I need to get to know her a bit before I think about that.\n \nMy question is does anyone have any ideas of ways I can at least get another conversation going or ask her out to drinks? I was kicking around the idea of inviting both of them over and making them dinner with my roommate, but that might work better a little further down the line. I could also see if she wants to get together and study at some point.", "summary": "This girl my age lives next to me; I've talked to her once, it went well, but I haven't been able to talk to her again, I only see her in passing. Any ideas to get another conversation going or ask her out for drinks?"}
{"id": "t3_2thu7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF(F21)'s roommates (F21,F22) want me (M21) who doesn't live there to chip in on rent and utilities", "post": "*", "summary": "girlfriends roommates IMO unjustifiably want me to chip in for rent for a space I do not live in but help maintain at their request and because I like helping out my girlfriend and my's friends ."}
{"id": "t3_399h1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me give my friend [34F] advice on whether/how she should let her ex [33M] know that she's recently started dating her previous ex?", "post": "My friend doesn't post on reddit, so I offered to post on her behalf.\n\nShe broke up with with her ex (let's call him Bob) about four months ago, they had been dating for six months. While they were dating, she was still good friends with her previous ex (let's call him Joe) that she had dated for about three years. Bob and Joe were on friendly terms, and Joe had a new gf and all of them even went on some double dates.\n\nShe broke up with Bob about four months ago and he took it hard, and while they've remained on friendly terms, she's tried to create some distance between them. Meanwhile she's continued to spend time with Joe who has been a good friend all along, and who by this time had also become single again. However in the last couple of weeks she and Joe decided that they wanted to give things another shot and get back together.\n\nThe problem is that there's some overlapping social circles between everyone and essentially Bob, Joe and her are all going to be at an upcoming party.\n\nShe is really struggling with the question of whether and how she should let Bob know ahead of time that her and Joe have gotten back together?\n\nMy advice to her: most definitely. What do you guys think?\n\nNext, how should she break the news to Bob?\n\nMy advice to her: send him a text or a message, like a head's up kind of thing, short and sweet. In all likelihood he will reply and try to engage her, but I think she should ignore any of his attempts to do so.\n\nShe thought maybe she should have a conversation with Bob to let him know, but I think that's a bad idea because he will probably make it all drawn out (he can be a bit needy emotionally). It's probably going to be shitty news for him, but I don't think she should feel responsible for him or how he deals with his feelings. She feels bad for him, but I don't think she should make it her problem and I don't think that she owes him a crap ton of emotional support to help him through this. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Should my friend break the news to her somewhat emotionally needy ex that's she's now dating her previous ex, and if so how?"}
{"id": "t3_1lna3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke up with boyfriend last night.. this morning I'm second guessing my decision", "post": "I (20F) broke things off with my live-in boyfriend (20M) of over two years last night.\n\nIt had been on my mind for weeks and I decided to go through with it after talking to my parents and best friend, as well as writing it out on paper.\n\nI decided to do it for many reasons - not feeling happy, feeling held back, not feeling appreciated, & he has some personal hygiene issues, as well as problems communicating.\n\nWhen I talked to him last night I brought up everything I felt and he pretty mucb gave me the \"I am who I am and its not going to change\" (in regards to personal hygiene and me needing more help around the house - its a two way street)\n\nI decided to move out and that's what I'm supposed to be doing today, but this morning I feel terrible. I miss him and I'm second guessing my decision :( is this normal? I still love him, I know I do, I just think maybe this is for the best? I feel like I was generally happy the majority of the relationship... did I approach it wrong? Should I have just asked him again for more help around the house and to do more of my activities with me? Did we just maybe hit a rough patch and I'm dealing with it all wrong?\n\nI'm feeling like all the reasons I brought up are just excuses.. I seriously just want to cry all over again, I felt so horrible when I was telling him all this last night, I've never wanted to hurt him and it breaks my heart knowing I did... \n\nI think we agreed to try this apart thing for a couple weeks.. should I tell him if he want a to text or call me, or go for coffee or dinner I'd be open to that? Or should I just try and move on right away ?\n\nI've never broken up with anyone.. I used to think I'd be with him forever but I was starting to see maybe not.. but maybe that's just me being an irrational and crazy 20 yearold girl.. its not like he's abusive or cheats or is terrible to me.. aghhh :( :(", "summary": "broke up with live-in boyfriend of over 2 years last night.. feel terrible this morning and already second guessing my decision... I think I miss him already, & idk what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_2ndrqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M/18F] Buying a christmas present for a new girl?", "post": "I've been seeing a girl for about three weeks, I think. It's more than just a casual thing, although we haven't had 'the talk' about making it official. I feel like it's too early in the relationship to be spending money on presents, however...\n\nOur college is playing our rival this Saturday, and I really want to get her a ticket to the game. Her parents don't support her financially at all, and so I know she doesn't have money to buy a ticket. I'm not exactly rich, but my parents are amazing and help me out a lot with food and rent, so I can afford to buy a pair of tickets.", "summary": "Is it weird getting a Christmas present for a girl you've only been dating for a couple weeks?"}
{"id": "t3_2lucbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] am very confused about my acquaintance [21/M].", "post": "I have this acquaintance I met at university. I met him maybe a year ago but we started talking a few months ago. We weren't very close but I'm really attracted to him. We recently shared a hotel room for a few days because of a university related thing and it left me very confused.\n\nSo in the beginning everything was cool I guess, no weird stuff. We shared some really nice time just laying on the grass the first day. We talked about hobbies and he seemed interested in a completely unrelated hobby I have. He is also usually not a very eye contact person, but he maintained eye contact for longer than I could.\n\nBut the first morning we were there I woke up listening to him on the phone, he got really awful news (death of someone very loved). I was still half asleep and asked if he wanted a hug, so he was like \"okay\" and I just went to his bed and laid down and hugged him (in the most non-sexual way I could due to the situation). He hugged me too and stroked my hair. After a while of me going into a light sleep and waking up, he said that maybe he should get up, so I moved back to my bed. I think he just wanted me to go back because he didn't get up then. He fell asleep after a while.\n\nTwo days later he asked me for a massage because I started poking him with my feet when he was laying in bed. We were in someone else's room but when we went back he laid in my bed and I massaged his back for like half an hour. After that shared some time in bed watching tv and some time later he went back to his bed.\n\nHe also started touching me a bit (like, my shoulder or my head or so) on the last day. He didn't seem to mind when I did the same.\n\nBut on the other hand, he also made remarks about other girls we saw in the street, which I think is usually \"I'm not interested in you\".\n\nCan any of this mean something or am I reading too much into friendly gestures?", "summary": "Acquaintance does things that make me think he might be slightly interested, then does other things that make me think he's not. How should I interpret this?"}
{"id": "t3_zf9u3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you quit a job, is the employer required to pay you? If so, is there a time frame?", "post": "I know, I know- most people right now are trying to get a job.\n\nAnyway, I have the opposite problem. I quit my job on August 23rd and promptly walked myself down to USPS to send a (receipt requested) letter to notify them to send my last paycheck to my home address versus direct deposit.\n\nWell, it is now the day my direct deposit would have been received so I decided to check to make sure they received the letter. Turns out, they have refused it and it is in transit back to me.\n\nSo now I'm left scratching my head wondering if I'll even get paid for the few days I worked before I quit.\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with something like this? Are there any legal statutes on my side in this situation? [I'm in NY, if that helps...] Or do I just get shafted if they decide not to pay me? How long can they wait before they're required to pay me if they are required to do so? *AHH SO MANY QUESTIONS!", "summary": "Do I get screwed if my former employer doesn't want to pay me after I quit, or is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_j0oy3", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Using the left over slow cooker \"juice\" from to make a sauce.", "post": "So, after making some BBQ pulled chicken in the slow cooker last night, I attempted to thicken the runny left overs from the crock pot into a BBQ sauce for the chicken. They had a really nice taste to them but were runny and diluted compared what I put into there. \n\nSo the chicken recipe was :\n\n18oz or BBQ sauce (I used Stubb's)\n3/4 italian dressing\n1/2 cup brown sugar\n3 - 4 tsb or Worcestershire sauce \n5lbs of chicken thighs \n8 hours on low\n\nAfter that I took the run off and simmer it on low for approximately 30 minutes occasionally tasting and adding stuff like Mesquite seasoning, soy sauce, a pinch of salt, and garlic powder. It didnt really thicken much so at this point I added about tsp or gravy flour and it got a decent consistency. \n\nThe end result was OK, but I was wondering if anyone else has tried something like this and got good results?", "summary": "That stuff is usually delicious but too runny to be used as sauce. Got any experience into fixing it?"}
{"id": "t3_2wtmhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend of 1.5 years [18 F] are sexually active but she does not want to take the pill for fear of gaining weight.", "post": "(girlfriend) Z and myself have been sexually active for a while /w condoms and proper protection but she recently looked into getting the pill and has the paper work filled out for it and was ready to be taking it until this month, she said that she didn't want to start taking the pill and when she was going to during this cycle as we had planned she didn't (did not purchase or take). I'm upset because I don't enjoy our relations as they are currently barricaded.\n\nI tried asking Z about this and she said she was afraid of gaining 10-15 pound. I tried telling her I care about her no matter how she looks but she still does not want to try it. What should I do?", "summary": "I want her to take the pill, she wanted to too. Now she doesn't want to because of weight?"}
{"id": "t3_2anh48", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm scared! I (15m) think I'm starting to CRUSH on my friend (17m) that I've known for over a year! How should I go about this?!", "post": "It's 4 in the morning where I'm at and I'm pretty sleepy. So I apologize if this is sloppy or my writing seems bad. Also, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but whateves\n\nAnyway, here's the deal. Recently, I think I have begun to catch feelings for a friend that I've had for a little over a year now. The thing is, we're also best friends. I want something more, but I also really don't want to risk ruining a great relationship by pursuing romance. That's my main worry, because I don't know if me and her together are even possible since I can't tell if she'd feel the same way. It'd also be important to note that we slightly crushed on each other a few months after meeting, but nothing happened due to \"complications\".\n\nA friend told me to try crossing the line as to what friends would do, such as something a little flirty. Problem is, I feel kinda awkward even thinking about it since I'm so close to her. I don't know any subtle way I can find out if she'd reciprocate the feelings or if there's any interest in me on her end.\n\nI dunno how well I explained the situation considering I'm half asleep haha. But I tried. If there's any questions or anything that needs clearing up, please ask. And thanks for any advice in advance!", "summary": "I have a friend that I've known for over a year and I've started to crush on her. I don't know if she would like me back and don't wanna risk the friendship pursuing her without knowing? How do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_fs053", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Homeless at the end of the month.", "post": "Hi fellow redditors, i'm not too sure where to start. Lets just start with the basics. At the end of February i will be homeless. Ok so now that that is out of the way i can get to the details. I'm 22, in very workable condition, have an excellent view on life, and can't for the life of me get an interview. The back story, if you will, ever since i was 16 i've had jobs doing random things, like jewel osco as a stock boy, home depot as a cashier, an auto shop as a grease monkey, etc. I was doing this because i was told when i was younger to never set your scope on one thing, to find what you LIKE doing and go for that. Well what i should have also been told is make sure you hold down a job for a while so you have the experience on paper. So now here i am with the worst employment history ever and can't find a job. I have tried staffing agencies but since i live in a primarily non-citizen neighborhood those places like to hire people that they can pay under minimum wage. So what i guess im asking is to anyone who would read this, what am i to do? Are my only options to find a shelter or just live out the rest of my life on the streets? If you care to ask about family, there is none that would take me in. I'm afraid my life has become nothing more than waking up to disappointment time and time again. I'm not too sure on what i am to do, i think that i may be too clean cut and young to beg for money on the side of the road. I've tried looking for other information online but couldn't find much pertaining to my situation. If you must know i live in the near suburbs of a very large city so it's not as if the homeless resources wouldn't be around me, it's just that i don't feel like i would cut it as a bum. Please help with any information or anything you may be able say, It wouldn't go unappreciated. If you have any other questions please feel free to ask, I just don't want to give away my identity.", "summary": "I'm homeless on the 1st of March, don't know what to do or where to go."}
{"id": "t3_2mpqi7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25 M] starting to fall for a coworker [24 F] though I have a girlfriend [24 F] of a few years", "post": "So I'll try to keep this short. I've been dating my girlfriend for a few years now. It's been great so far, and there's not much I can complain about. The relationship itself is strong, there's good communication so fights aren't bad, and the sex life is good. However, it's become somewhat boring in the past year or so. There's still decent conversation but there have been long car rides with few words spoken. It hasn't been awkward but sometimes I wish things could just be a little bit more engaging. \n\nCue my coworker. We've been working together for around a year or so now. I've always thought she was kind of cute but that was about it until recently. I've gotten to get to know her in the past 6 months and we have a lot of things in common. We've hung out a bit with mutual friends/coworkers and we've gotten somewhat close. We've held hands but there's been no kissing or sex, and I don't plan on there being as long as I'm with my girlfriend. This girl is fun and exciting and someone I could see myself having a great time with. \n\nSo I'm very torn. On the one hand, I have a good relationship that could honestly end in marriage and it would be nice and complacent. On the other hand, I could take a risk and see what could happen with my coworker. I would hate to hurt my girlfriend but I also don't want to live wondering what if. Should I break up with my girlfriend or end things with my coworker?", "summary": "Relationship with current girlfriend is good but has become stale, falling for new coworker that I have a lot in common with, don't know if I should stay with girlfriend or date coworker instead."}
{"id": "t3_zsud9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I am sick to the core right now. I just found out that my best friend and my girlfriend dated awhile back, and that he still has some romantic feelings for her. What do I do? [17-19]", "post": "Using a throwaway because I don't want to be tagged or remembered or anything.\n\nSo, what happened was that I was talking to him (we became best friends after me and my girlfriend started dating for about 3 months now), and it came up that he was only telling me this because we were really good friends for a while. He told me that he and my girlfriend were dating for a long time, and their relationship ended a few (4-5) months ago. They were still very close when they broke up, and still are. I mean, it never crossed my mind, how close they were/are, but it all makes sense now. She's really close to him, and shows that she really, really cares about him. I don't know whether this is friendly, or perhaps a remnant of the past, but it's caring a good amount about him.\n\nHe told me that at first, when I started dating her, he hated me, because he was insanely jealous. Now, we're really really good friends, but he also admitted that he has romantic feelings for her still. He has a girlfriend, but I think he'd get back with her if he had the chance.\n\nMy girlfriend doesn't know he told me, or anything about it. She's oblivious.\n\nThe question is, Reddit, am I overreacting right now? If not, what do I do? Do I confront my girlfriend about it, breaking the trust of my (now) best friend? Or do I hold back and say nothing?\n\nI'll edit the post (for clarity) and respond as necessary.", "summary": "Title says most of it."}
{"id": "t3_43gr66", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] can't seem to stay out of trouble.", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3.5 years now and practically every year, we've ran into the same problem. I've always been a talkative, flirty guy and I've always gotten along well with girls, and she's caught me multiple times talking or flirting with them. One occasion was flirtatious raunchy texts to a friend, another was just finding that a girl was my #1 friend on snapchat who she had never heard of, and hanging out with a girl without telling her where I was. Despite all this I've never had any physical/sexual interaction with any of these women. \n\nI know that I'm at fault for doing this behind her back, and I partially blame it on the fact that we're both at two different schools so seeing each other is tough. I can't necessarily explain my motives in the moment, but I guess I've always seen these other girls as people who come and go, and that my future was going to be with my girlfriend. Could it be that I'm in college, which makes me more prone to do stupid things? I've always thought that once we graduated and moved in together and worked real jobs, I'd be able to put this all behind us. \n\nI'm looking for advice on how to address this problem. We are actually on a break right now because I wanted some time to really look at myself and access what I've done, and hopefully self-reflect on my mistakes. Despite what I've done I value this relationship more than anything in the world (it obv. doesn't seem like it to her), but I can't help but seek attention from other women when my girlfriend isn't around. My friends have told me that I simply take our relationship for granted, and that I don't realize how lucky I have it or how much she does for me. They've told me to write a list of things I'm thankful for my girlfriend for, and hopefully it'll open my eyes to seeing that she's better than all the other girls I talk with. I just don't know how I'm going to regain her trust back after the 3rd time.", "summary": "I'm kindof an asshole who talks to other girls behind my girlfriend's back, but I really just want her at the end of the day. How can I stop myself from getting in these situations?"}
{"id": "t3_ee92g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have spent my entire life trying to find a good Christmas gift for my mother - anything I haven't thought of?", "post": "I realize this isn't a very original question, but I've spent the better part of the last 10 holiday seasons trying to come up with a great gift for my mother and every year I am so disappointed by what I wind up giving her. \n\nIn scouring the web looking for great ideas to give your Mom, I find two things:\n\n1) This is either the easiest or the hardest person on everyone's list to shop for\n\nand\n\n2)  There are a lot of people that fall into the hardest category. \n\nMy restrictions are as follows:\n\n1) I can't spend too much on her - she would freak out if I ever spent more than about $200 dollar on her or my Dad.  That is mostly because I'm not super wealthy, but I do enjoy giving gifts and have no problem splurging a bit on the right gift for somebody.  \n\nAnd\n\n2) She's not really into the things it seems like everyone suggests getting for their mothers.  And if it's something practical given her interests and habits, she probably already has bought it for herself. \n\nSo I'm just puzzled every year and I've officially run out of ideas.", "summary": "Can anyone offer a unique idea at this point?  It's not like she won't appreciate anything I get her, I'm just tired of feeling like she's the only person in my family I can't genuinely surprise with a great gift all these years."}
{"id": "t3_3vuata", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 5 years, we handle emotions VERY differently", "post": "She's very free, emotionally expressive. Dances. Is silly. Laughs hard. Cries hard. But can get serious and wise if she needs to.\n\nI'm very cerebral. Emotionally stunted in a way really. I'm more interested in the *deconstruction* of the thing rather than experiencing the thing. When I hear a joke I want to know what makes it funny, why it's funny, how it's funny. I'm shy. I'm worried about what people think of me.\n\nOne of the issues is when the in-laws come. They butt heads a lot, very expressively. No one is mean to each other, but everyone is angry at each other. I've never experienced this behavior, I'm not judging it. My family does the same but instead with passive aggressive jabs. Because of how I grew up I can't handle my in-laws behavior. When they're angry at each other my heart and chest literally get tense. I'm sensitive, and I want to toughen up. I myself never blow up at anyone. I have angry thoughts but I always am just very agreeable. I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong here.\n\nSo how does a person strengthen or improve their capacity to handle emotions? Is it a \"letting go\"? Is it a \"courage\" thing? Do I start picking fights with people?(jk) :P", "summary": "Girlfriend and her family emotionally powerful. I grew up not expressing emotions and tip toeing around people. Very emotionally distressing to be around them. Need help how to be stronger."}
{"id": "t3_2dkdlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) might be dating a \"Good Luck Chuck\" (30M)?", "post": "If you have seen the movie Good Luck Chuck, you know what I'm talking about: any woman who sleeps with this guy Chuck would soon get married.   \n\nI've been with my boyfriend \"Chuck\" for almost a year, and just recently realized that I know of 5 of his ex-girlfriends: all of them are now either married or engaged to the person they dated right after Chuck. \n\nSome of the ex-girlfriends are from around 10 years ago, some are more recent, including his most recent girlfriend (they broke up less than 2 years ago). This is too much of a coincidence.     \n\nI asked about Chuck about it. He think it's because he's \"husband material\" for them, so when their relationship didn't work, they know exactly what to look for -- a guy as similar to him as possible. He even commented on the fiance of his most recent ex, saying that guy looks just like him, but less handsome.   \n\nThis is really weird.  On the one hand, **all I want is that my boyfriend to love me for me, not because his other options (the ex-es he clearly have a very deep connection with) are not available.** He clearly still pines for a few of them: keeps Facebook and phone connect with them; keeps a lot of souvenirs and private photos of their time together. (I didn't poke around, they sort of just lie around in his house. )  \n\nOn the other hand, it makes me want to try out the \"Good Luck Chuck\" charm: if we break up, I might meet someone whom I will marry.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Every ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend \"Chuck\" got married/ engaged to the person she dated immediately after Chuck. Shall I keep dating him?"}
{"id": "t3_4ojuo2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [30, F] smothering my bf [30, M] with cuddles?", "post": "Is it possible to smother someone? I just love him so much I am constantly loving on him, smacking his bum, hugging on him. In my eyes I am just showing affection...but I am starting to feel like I am smothering him. I feel this way because he never really does it back (unless I ask for it) and we barely ever have sex. Our relationship is great other than that and he is always willing to give me a back rub or talk to me about problems....We just never have sex and I am feeling one sided on the affection thing. Should I just back off? It's just hard because I care about him so much. How do you stop showing affection toward someone you care about?", "summary": "We never have sex, but have a decent relationship. Am I smothering him?"}
{"id": "t3_36s9em", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Should I feel guilty...", "post": "I've(30) been dating the same awesome girl(25) for something close to 2 years now and to be straight up, she's afraid of marriage and has made the statement that while she loves me, she's not sure if I'm \"it\" for her but doesn't want to break up because we have an awesome relationship and amazing times together. \n\nShe's thought about us married and says she can see it working but is still scared that she, like many others, will reach that middle point of life and fall out of love or want something different. She's also thinking that maybe because of her marriage fear and the fact that before meeting me she didn't even want a relationship, it may just take her longer to know that she wants to marry someone. Her other friends have all been dating less time than us and already know where they are going, like they want marriage or they are moving in with each other and I feel like we're just spinning our wheels. I do feel jealous of her friends relationships, even though I know we have a good thing. \n\nShe's also stated that she's moving in a year and we talked about me moving there after she's been there a few months but I feel like that's not really going happen. As such I think I've started to decide the relationship is already over and begun pulling back. I've even let my eye wander and I've debated if I shouldn't just start dating again if we aren't going anywhere but I feel really guilty.", "summary": "Not sure where my relationship is going after almost 2 years, feeling the urge to start moving on since girlfriend is afraid of commitment, though she did take a big step by even dating me.  Feeling guilty about wanting to move on."}
{"id": "t3_21cyyj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I weigh less than I thought!", "post": "About four months ago, my hubby and I moved. For six days, all we did was eat out (not my protein shakes and salads I'm used to) and sit in the car (horrible!!).\n\nWhen we settled into our new home, all we could afford was ramen and crackers and soup stuff. I just started buying produce again and I just knew I gained weight.\n\nI went into depression, thinking I had a huge battle ahead. Having no scale, I had no way to tell what my gory numbers were.\n\nThis morning, I went to the store and they had a scale near the pharmacy. I stepped up and braced myself. I was waiting to see the dreaded \"165+\" (I am 5'8, 22, F). The numbers stopped counting and GASP I weigh 148.2!!!! My GW is 140. I'm eight pounds away!!!!!!!", "summary": "I'm not as fat as I thought I was!!!"}
{"id": "t3_2fssa0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] together for 6 years, she no longer \"wants\" me", "post": "Hello guys, first post here, I'm hoping for some advice.  \nAs stated I'm a 22 year old guy. I've been together with my girlfriend for 6 years and it was the first real relationship for both of us.. first kiss, first time sex etc.  \nEverything was going fine. We fought, sorted it out multiple times and to me everything seemed fine. I still love her as much as I ever did before.\n\nBut a few weeks ago she started seeming absent. Didnt want to kiss or cuddle anymore unless i initiated it and did not want to have sex at all.  \nI accepted it for a bit, but confronted her about it a week later. She told me that she noticed it too. However she didn't know why it was that way. She says she still loves me, but explained that it turned into a more family kind of love over time.\n\nWe talked everything over, there was a lot of crying, but no real fighting and we decided to just see what happens. I'm gonna leave her alone until she decides wether she wants to break up for good or not.\n\nIs there still any hope for this relationship or should I start dealing with all this? Any tips on how to proceed are apprecciated.", "summary": "GF and I were together for 6years, she suddenly didn't want to me intimate anymore and explained her love for me is more like one of a family member. Is it over, or can we recover from that?"}
{"id": "t3_4mqe5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my coworker [20 F] stopped dating after 1 year. I am now finding it difficult to work in the same place.", "post": "Basically I started dating a woman I work with that is 9 years younger than me. I have always had a problem with dating co-workers and although I know it is not a good idea I do it anyways.\nAfter about a year she ended things by seeing someone else at work. I am not upset with this woman as I know she is young and at the beginning of her adult life but I am finding it difficult to work with her.\n\nI am a pretty lonely person even though I pretend not to be. Every day for the past year we have spoken on the phone and texted throughout the day. Now that it as ended she doesn't speak to me at all. I can't help but feel a sense of abandonment. Now, all of my insecurities have come to life and I can't help but dwell on what is wrong with me that she needed someone else.\n\nI realize that I should have not dated someone so young and that this is my own doing. The difficult part is dealing with how much none of this mattered to her and coping with the loneliness.", "summary": "dated someone at work for about a year and its now ended. How do I get over this loneliness and how can I be normal at work?"}
{"id": "t3_4x4sxx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] sister [18F] became mad when our mother [56F] wanted her to start paying rent whilst living with them because she dropped out of school.", "post": "My sister (A) quit college last semester and started working part-time (she didn't get enough shifts to work full-time). A said she wanted to take a break from school and work, and go back to school next year perhaps.\n\nThe problem is that A has no idea how to manage money, she usually spends all her wages in a few days or two weeks at the most and then has to borrow money from my parents. She doesn't seem to be spending it on clothes or food and she doesn't save any money. I know A smokes weed sometimes (she says it's not a regular thing) and our mom is worried that my sister is either buying drugs for her friends or is in debt. I know that marijuana is not the worst drug, but it is illegal where I live and the money is a larger issue anyway.\n\nEarlier this week, A asked our mom for a 420$ loan. She said that she REALLY needed the money before this weekend, which made our mom start to worry that A might have a large debt that she had to pay as soon as possible.\n\nToday, our mom told A that she (and our dad) wanted her to start paying rent whilst living with our parents, and A became really angry and won't talk to her, she had to go to work so I don't know if she will calm down or stay mad. The rent thing is something our mom has been thinking about for a long time. She decided that because A is working and not in school that she would ask her for rent, put it in a bank account and save it for A to use later, when she has a better knowledge on money managing.\n\nAll this is causing a lot of tension in the family and I feel like I'm stuck in the middle, our mom vents to me and sometimes my sister does so as well (I think she trusts me better than our parents). It makes me crazy because I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "My sister quit school and began working and is always asking our parents for large sums of money. She smokes pot sometimes and mom is afraid that she spends all her wages on weed for her and her friends. Our mom wanted her to start paying rent and she became mad."}
{"id": "t3_4jndf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24F] sister[26F] and her husband[23M] are threatening to not invite me to their wedding since I had sex with the grooms father[43M].", "post": "I should mention that this happened five years ago and I wasn't going to talk about it because it was so long ago and they weren't even dating back then, they only started going out six months later.\n\nHer husband[23M] found out recently and told her and they talked to me about it angrily and said it was super inappropriate and wasn't sure they'd be comfortable having me their since his mother will be there as well and they got together again.\n\nThey were divorced when we got together btw, there was no cheating.\n\nI don't think I did anything wrong except maybe not telling them about it but our two families weren't close back then, he was just a neighbor kid back then to me, he wasn't even a friend of the family until six months later when they started dating.\n\nI don't know what to do, am I in the wrong, should I not get an invite for what I did?", "summary": "I slept with my sister's future father-in-law five years ago before she even knew her fianc\u00e9 and she is pissed at me and doesn't want to invite me to her wedding."}
{"id": "t3_3gdcm9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my best friend [18 M/F] friends since the start of high school up to now. Courious.", "post": "So I have been friend ds with this girl for so  dry long and we have done so much together, we have both been through some bad times and each time we have stuck together keeping one another strong.\nBut recently we talk more about sexaul topics then anything else.we are very relaxed around during each other and she does not mind changing clothes in the same room or even walking around without trousers on when I am around or near.\n Everyday I wonder more and more what she looks like topless and it is driving me mad. I don't know if I should ask her or live without knowing.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2m5qeo", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm a 20 year old guy and I can't tell if this girl likes me. I also could use advice on how to ask her out.", "post": "I am a 20 year old male currently in my sophomore year at university. On Tuesdays and Thursdays I head over to the on campus burger place for lunch at roughly the same time on both days. This is also the time a very cute girl working there has her shift. Recently this girl told me that I was her favorite customer because of the way I order. I've been there plenty of times so I know exactly what to order so no one has to ask me any further questions. Now every time I see her she smiles like she's excited to see me. This last Tuesday I mentioned how I find it funny that this makes her so excited, and she laughed and tried to reassure me she wasn't making fun of me. I told her I knew she wasn't being mean and went on with my day.\n\nI understand that asking whether or not she likes me isn't very effective because there doesn't exist some overarching way women behave when signaling they like someone. I understand this could mean any number of things depending on her personality and everyone here could interpret it differently. Still, I have to ask, do you think she likes me? If you wanted to flirt with someone, is this how you would act?\n\nFinally, I wouldn't mind trying to ask her out. The problem is I don't know a good way to go about doing it. I only see her at the register, where she is surrounded by coworkers and I'm possibly not alone in line. If I were smooth I might add her number to my order (I hope that doesn't sound douchey, because I would imagine it coming across as cute and sincere). Unfortunately I'm not smooth. Any advice on how to ask her out?", "summary": "This girl who works at a restaurant I frequent likes the way I order, smiles excitedly when she sees me, and laughed while trying to reassure me she wasn't making fun of me when I brought up how funny this situation is. Does she like me? How do I ask her out when I only see her at the register?"}
{"id": "t3_306q4y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by almost wetting myself while trying to catch a bus", "post": "So I walked my girlfriend home and I was desperate for the toiler at this point it was like her parents knew me but \"I'd never been in her house\" I mean I hadn't while they've been there but never mind. Anyway I was standing there waiting for the bus and I noticed... The bus isn't coming until twenty minutes so I thought to myself, there's no point meeting her parents in her house for the first time while wanting a pee, so I decided to just hold on and wait until I get home. So fast forward twenty minutes and en u see the bus coming around the corne, and I start to almost pee myself in anticipation but no, I stand my ground and hold it in. The bus drives straight past me, the driver even meets my eye and I realise I have to run if I want to get on this bus, so there i am running to catch a bu, but to put this lightly I am not a fast person, I'm not overweight or obese but I do not run -it's always been a problem for me, this said the bus was going piss-poor slow (pun intended) and just as the bus stops my scarf comes flying off and it lands straight behind me, so I turn to pick it up as the bus leaves and I then have to do the walk of shame while busting for a pee the whole time", "summary": "I suck at catching busses and almost wet myself"}
{"id": "t3_4whz6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I (30M) approach suitors about being on being married but separated?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nMy wife (28F) and I got together pretty young, never really dated other people and had a kid really early on our relationship.  Over the years things have been good over all but we have had our struggles. \n\n The past few months have been pretty rough and we both mutually decided that we wanted to take a break from each other, figured out who we want to be as individuals and as a married couple and gave each other a chance to see other people to see what dating was like.\n\nI don't want to lead people on so I want to be able to disclose this, I just don't know how to without going into either way too much details or just sounding like some married jerk that wants a side piece.  I know not all people would be able to deal with such a complicated situation and I don't want to put anyone in a place that that they are uncomfortable with.\n\n(I put this as dating, bu I really wasn't sure if it should be this, relationships or even infidelity. Maybe all of the above?)", "summary": "I'm Ross Geller and don't know how to tell people that I am on a break."}
{"id": "t3_2o6bjl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to find new friends? Any websites?", "post": "(Male, 17) So I moved over a year ago to start at a new school. A couple of months later I became friends with the girl that is now my girlfriend, and i have been hanging out with her and her friends up until now. What bothers me is that i have made any other friends after that, and i find it difficult to find new friends. I am on good terms with people from my class, and i could sort-of call them friends, but i have never visited any of them. So is there any friend-finder websites you know of? Kind of like online dating, but instead of dating, it is people trying to find friends? (excuse my sometimes bad english, i'm not a native speaker)", "summary": "Dont have friends. want friends"}
{"id": "t3_2j8ijf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping my wife pump breastmilk", "post": "My wife, a new mom and completely new to pumping breastmilk, was unhappy with the amount she was producing.  I'm an engineer and love to tinker so my wife always calls on me whenever something isn't working.  \n\nFor those of you who don't know, moms use a pumping machine to suck booby milk straight from the nipple. The device looks like a funnel that naturally fits the contour of the breast and an attached tube provides suction.  The machine has 10 power settings, 1 being the lowest, 10 being similar to vacuum cleaner.\n\nSo, there my beautiful wife sits, the machine making its rhythmic \"whoo-too, whoo-too\" and her poor frustrated face is just pitiful.  She asks for help.  I slowly turn up the dial one number at a time, being sure it doesn't get uncomfortable.  We reach #10 and the machine is laboring with a \"Rick-POP!  Ree-POP!\"  \n\nThen, I noticed the problem.  The funnel wasn't getting a good seal on her boob because the corner of her PJs was stuck in the clear, plastic funnel on the bottom side of her breast.  I pulled the corner of the PJs out.  AND BOOB!  The machine got a good seal and immediately started yanking on her boob at vacuum cleaner power.  Her nipple was pulled nearly 4 inches into the machine.  She yelped.  I yanked the power cord.", "summary": "Try not to use the strongest setting on a breast pump, first. "}
{"id": "t3_1txv4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When to start No Contact between my [26/F] and I [26/M]", "post": "I have posted on here a few times over the past few days.\n\nfollow-up\n\nThe one thing that gets rammed into me around here is that the No Contact thing is just vital.  I really want to get to that point, but our lives are so entwined.  We live together, all our shit is mixed up, when we move it won't be down the block--but 20 miles away, we have animals together, there is a lot of confusion/changing emotions/etc.\n\nMy dad has stayed in town and extra couple of days to help out, but it's not like I have--or have been able to--just walk out the door and never talk to this person again.  I feel like there are things I need to think about and say *now*.  Whether or not she responds, they are just things I want to get off my chest.  (Some of the things I have said so far have been cathartic)  There are also questions I want to ask and answers I want.\n\nI don't feel like I can trust this person again and looking back on our relationship now, I can identify things that I feel I deserved better.  However, when I reflect on this in the future I want to be able to get closure.  I know there is never a *good* answer or even a logical explanation for what happened, but I know I won't be able to just chalk up this ending to \"well shit got fucked up\".  This is a person I *was* planning on spending my life with, someone with whom I was planning on working through \"fucked up shit\".", "summary": "Is it okay to not start No Contact from day one?  We aren't in constant contact and I don't think either of us is being badgering (at least after the first day), but I still feel like there are things I need, before no contact begins."}
{"id": "t3_2172h0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my Ex-Girlfriend [ 18F] 2-years, Angry Drunk Text", "post": "Last night I drunk anger texted my ex-girlfriend of 2 year because she was making statuses about a new guy that she had feelings for during our relationship. even though we had broken up only a month ago. In this text i called her a whore and told her to never speak to me again and to stay away from my cousin who she is friends with. \n\nI highly regret this text and I know what is said and done but I just want to find a method for her to forgive this. I DO NOT WANT HER BACK. I just regret calling her a whore. I feel terrible about this and I just want to say I am sorry but there is no way I can.", "summary": "ex and I broke up, she find someone new after a month and I got drunk and angry called her a whore and now regrets it."}
{"id": "t3_1hjx58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] just saw my boyfriend's [20M] snapchat 'bestfriends' list.", "post": "I was sending my boyfriend a snapchat and I discovered that if you select one of your friend's names on the app it shows you who their best friends are. When I saw his it was my username and one that was hisexgirlfriend.herlastname\n\nI don't know what to do or how to approach him about this. I'm not the kind of girlfriend who snoops around...I've never gone through his phone or logged on to his facebook account because I trust him. The reason I am so upset about this right now is he has told me many times how much he hates his ex and how she always treated him like shit. Also he wants me to not talk to my ex, so I stopped. But a couple times my ex tried to talk to me at all and my boyfriend found out he would get really pissed and worry that I was going to leave him.\n\nOther than this we don't have any problems, and the past 10 months we have been together have been great. I love him, but now I don't what to do.  And I can't talk to him about it right now because he is on the other end of the country until thursday night helping one of our mutual friends move.\n\nAny advice right now would be very much appreciated.", "summary": "found out my boyfriend is snapchat bestfriends with his ex who he has always told me he hated"}
{"id": "t3_3xb8rd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Left the line without popcorn", "post": "I just did this... \n\nI have tickets to the 7:40 Force Awakens.  I take the day off work and get to the theater at 3PM.  We wait several hours.  All this time the wife is talking about popcorn.  we get in and I get in the concession line.  I look down the hallway, the first time I see is 7:20. This imprints into my brain. The line creeps forward.  I look at my phone, I'm two people away, but now it's 7:20.  As slow as the line is moving, my best hope is to get there by 7:30. \n\nFuck it.  I get out of line and try to get into the 7:20 theater. Denied.  Shit, I'm reminded that the actual time of my showing is 7:40.  Dejected, I go to my theater, tell my wife.  She's pissed off.  Now I'm back in line about ten from the counter and it is 7:50.", "summary": "got confused about time for Force Awakens, leave consessions line, get back in it; miss start of movie.  Fuck!"}
{"id": "t3_34omb8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Feeling lifeless", "post": "Hello Reddit! I need some help! Some quick background: I am a 27 year old male college student that has been single for about a year now.\n\nLife has been great for me lately, yet I can't help but think how nice it would be to share this time with somebody. However, I notice that I have trouble keeping the momentum going with any of my romantic interests. Everything starts out great, only to have it all fizzle out in a relatively short time. It's really disheartening.\n\nTo put it plainly, I feel as if a wet cardboard box would rival my charisma (no offense to any cardboard boxes out there). I lack any type of \"real\" personality. In social settings I am often quiet. I'll have something to respond to occasionally, but for the most part, I'm just \"there,\" not really contributing to the discussion. My friends are hilarious. They're witty, playful, and very amiable. I'll admit I sometimes emulate them in order to just have SOMETHING. Yet I know it's not really me, and I can't keep up the charade for long.\n\nThere's this incredibly gorgeous girl who, for some reason, texted me out of the blue the other day. I was as surprised as I was happy. But of course, the conversation had died out, and the next day when I tried to reach out to her, I hardly got a response. I try to be as engaging as I can, avoiding single-answer questions and/or constant questioning that rivals an interview interrogation. Yet in the end, the communication always ends the same: a slow deterioration into eventual nothingness. I can only assume it has something to do with me.\n\nAny idea how to improve on this?", "summary": "Am boring. How to be not boring?"}
{"id": "t3_2mfylf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 F] boyfriend [21 M] fucking PEED ON ME.", "post": "We've been dating for a few months and he's honestly been really sweet and kind to me. He makes me laugh and he's very generous and caring. He's helped me out a lot and he legitimately cares about me. I'm extremely thankful for all that he's done to make sure that I'm happy and do love him a lot. \n\nBUT HE FUCKING PEED ON ME. \n\nI told him at the beginning of our relationship that watersports really gross me out and he agreed. He's never shown any indication that his sexual appetites are anything outside the realm of vanilla, so I really don't think it's a sexual thing. \n\nWe were showering together and playing around, splashing water on each other and whatnot. Well, I guess I splashed in the wrong place and he jokingly (I thought) said, \"I'll pee on you!\" I said, \"I bet you wouldn't. Go ahead.\" I looked down and he was already releasing a mighty stream of piss all down my leg. \n\nI was disgusted. It smelled disgusting. I had to wash myself for ten straight minutes until I felt clean again, and I was so pissed, I couldn't talk to him. \n\nI understand that I said \"go ahead\" in a joking manner, but he's grown-up enough to understand the difference between humor and me legitimately requesting that he pee on me. \n\nHe tried to talk to me later and apologized and I told him that I really thought that that was disgusting and immature of him. He said that he didn't think that it would make me upset and that he wants to make it right. \n\nWTF do I do? Talk to him? Let him make it up to me? Break up with him? \n\nThrowaw because I don't want any of my friends on Reddit to know my boyfriend peed on me.", "summary": "Boyfriend peed on me without my consent. Just what the fuck do I do with this?"}
{"id": "t3_2sut25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [27M] of 1.5 years, he broke up with me without telling me.", "post": "So I was with my boyfriend for over 1.5 years. On Thursday he called and said we needed to talk about us. I said I wanted to do this in person. He agreed and said we would meet up sometime this weekend. So far so good.\n\nBut then... he just ignored me. I didn't text him at all until today. I also tried to call him once, but of course he didn't pick up. I can see he's seen all my texts (7 over the course of 3 hours, in which I told him that if he didn't answer I'd go knock at his door, and a list of the stuff I want back). \n\nI asked a mutual friend of ours if she knew anything. Well, on Friday he apparently told everyone that he had broken up with me. \n\nThen I saw on my Facebook feed that he liked his ex's new profile picture and commented that she looks \"dashing\". I immediatly deleted him because I don't need to see this.\n\nWhat the hell? Do people do this? He's 27 for God's sake. It's not like we only dated for a few weeks - we were together for over a year and a half! I definitely don't want him back, but I can't believe that he would just do this to me. I feel like I don't even exist.\n\nDo I show up at his appartment unannouced? I feel like this is my only option as he's not answering any of my texts. I told him I was going, just not when. I'm afraid he would get out of the house at that time... because it's becoming obvious he isn't past the age of playing hide and seek.\n\nI am just baffled that he would do such a thing. I knew things weren't as good as they used to be, but this is just absolutely ridiculous and very much undeserved. I'm hurt.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 1.5 years is giving me the slow fade. Told mutual friends that he broke up with me when he never actually did."}
{"id": "t3_3ub2gu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am worried that I have become a burden to my LDR boyfriend [19M]. What should I do?", "post": "I'm using a throwaway account and my boyfriend's name has been changed. This has been on my mind for a couple of months and I'm hoping Reddit can help me.\n\nI met my boyfriend, Kyle, during our last semester of high school. We attended different high schools, but we lived fairly close to each other. We have had a very happy relationship, quarrels are few. However, I made the decision to attend a local college and live at home. He is attending a college 7 hours away, putting us in a LDR. My transition into college has been a struggle. I was a carefree, party girl in high school with a lot of friends. Now, I have no friends, they've all gone to different schools and no longer communicate with me. I don't believe they do this out of spite, we've just grown apart. I'm very shy and I have had trouble meeting people who I connect with at school. Kyle is the only non-relative person I have to talk to or hang out with (when he comes home to visit). This has had a huge toll on my mental health, or so I feel. I feel very lonely. I'm generally a positive, upbeat person, but this has noticeably brought down my general happy vibe. My personal problems aside, I worry that Kyle may only be sticking around to make sure I don't go off the deep end. I don't have any solid evidence of this, he is still just as loving and sweet to me as he always has been. I love him very much, but I just don't want to hold him back from having a \"full\" college experience, and I don't want him to feel like he is stuck with a depressed, friendless girlfriend. Besides this, our relationship is fine. So I'm curious as to what my options may be here. Is our relationship really fine? Should I let him go? Should I ask him how he feels about this, and how would I start that conversation? Help!", "summary": "I have no friends and I'm worried that my boyfriend is forcing himself to stick around out of the goodness of his heart."}
{"id": "t3_olftt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to build a Daft Punk helmet, can anyone help, please?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI was given a Bobbafett (is that how you spell it?) helmet during Christmas. After derping around with my friends enough, I decided to make something cool with it: A Daft Punk style helmet, with LED lights and all that jazz.\n\nI don't know if it's possible to do that using the Bobbafett helmet. And my friends didn't seem to be interested in the idea, thus I want to ask Reddit for inputs.\n\nDo you guys know where I can start from? Oh, also - I have hardly any experiences with electronics as well as craftsmanship skills. Thanks, reddit.", "summary": "Want to make Daft Punk style helmet from a Bubbafett helmet, possible or not? If yes, where should I start from? Given that I have very little experiences in electronics, crafting, etc."}
{"id": "t3_3nnwgj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "This is the story of how I inspired my friend to get a boob tattoo.", "post": "I need to share this story and I don't think /r/tattoos is really the place, so here goes.\n\nSo, I have sort of an unintelligible train of thought most of the time, but I'm pretty sure I was thinking about [this image] (pretty common for me, happens 2-3 times a week) when this dumb pun popped into my head. Naturally, I texted this to someone who I thought would appreciate it:\n\n>if i were a woman i'd get 666 tattooed on my boob and when people asked about it i'd just say \"666 the number of the breast\"\n\nStupid, right? Well, this particular friend has a bunch of tattoos and is always getting new ones, and she thought it was funny enough that when she gets her next one (already planned; sometime in the next month) she's just going to get the Beelzebub booby brand along with it.", "summary": "I spent 5 minutes coming up with \"Beelzebub booby brand;\" you can take a minute or two to read the post."}
{"id": "t3_f7ez2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to Raise Funds", "post": "I am considering joining the local legion, a great social place for retired army folk around the city I live in. I am in my 30's, and want to help out by raising cash for them: they may have to sell the hall because they don't raise much coin every month. I was wondering what kind of ideas reddit has for raising funds to help them keep their hall going? 100 seniors is the membership...oh, and me and my wife. Small town of 3500. They have a dinner and 50/50 draw every second Saturday, but only make a hundred to two hundred dollars or so after expenses (and sometimes lose cash). They sometimes rent the hall.", "summary": "looking for creative, and possibly sustainable fund raising ideas."}
{"id": "t3_4m8zg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] am trying to get back with with my [23F] ex-girlfriend, but before we do I have to talk with her mom..", "post": "About a year ago my ex girlfriend broke with me after being together for a year and a half. We had a tumultuous relationship at times, but it was pretty awesome for the most part.  She found out I had gone on webcam porn sites and was understandably furious about it. I know the mistake that I made, and in this last year apart I have grown in so many different ways, and so has she. We recently started talking again and things have been pretty great, and I'm committed to making it different this time, but her mom hates that she is talking to me again.\n\nSo tonight i am supposed to go have a \"meeting\" with her and her mom. I don't necessarily understand why her mom has the right to be in the middle of our relationship, but I am willing to do anything to prove to her how much I care and how committed I am. How can I apologize to her mom and what kind of things can I say? I want her to know how much I care about her daughter, and that the things that happened in the past won't happen again. I have a second chance now and I don't want to mess it up. Any feedback would be great. Thanks", "summary": "Ex's mom hates that we are talking again and now I have to talk to her about it and apologize. What do I say or do?"}
{"id": "t3_1gy9s9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to improve my health.", "post": "Last year I lost a bunch of weight, and like most- this year I'm well on the way to gaining it back. In an effort to lose the 25 lbs that I gained, I decided to start the same regimen I did last year by going on a several mike long walk/jog in my toe shoes. 6 miles in I notice that one of my toes starts to hurt and so I turn around and jog the 6 miles back, checking my toe for damage when I get home. It's fine, not even raw. So imagine to my surprise when I look down today, 4 days later, and see the biggest blister I've ever seen sprouting from my middle toe. Being a dumb college kid, I find my fiance's dull pocket knife and go at it. Nothing but blood and thick yellow goo. I'm now sitting at the urgent care getting it stitched up (it was under all the skin and they had to remove some, then sew) about to go on antibiotics.\nI will burn the shoes when I get home.", "summary": "running in old, \"good for you natural\" shoes caused a massive infected blister that has to be stitched up."}
{"id": "t3_396aev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17F] and I [17M] have known each other for almost a year as best friends. We both developed feelings for each other and decided we wanted to be in a relationship, but the transition from friends to boyfriend and girlfriend feels strange.", "post": "In August of 2014, I met my now-girlfriend in a class we had together. We started talking and immediately hit it off. We had so much in common, we almost instantly became close friends.\n\nSomewhat recently, we both realized we had feelings for each other that were more than as just friends.\n\nWe went on a few dates, but we were already so close we just felt like we were hanging out with a friend who we were attracted to. Eventually, we decided we wanted to become exclusive and begin a relationship with each other.\n\nNow that we are together, it feels as though nothing has changed. We were two very close friends who were attracted to each other for quite a while, and now we've just taken that extra step to begin an exclusive relationship with each other.\n\nWhat can we do to make this feel more like \"dating\" rather than just two friends who are attracted to each other spending time together?", "summary": "Was best friends with this girl, we decided to begin a relationship, now it feels as though nothing has changed and we want to make it feel more like we're \"dating\" instead of just friends who are attracted to one another."}
{"id": "t3_4u1ne3", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] How do I tell my deaf dog I love him?", "post": "My dog, Watson, is a 14 year old Sheltie who has gone almost entirely deaf while I've been away in college.     \n\nWatson's been with me since I was a young girl, and he's extremely attached to me. He's sad when I'm not here.  If I'm in the house, he needs to be in the same room as me. He learned to open doors to make sure he was never kept out of my room. We have a very special bond and I love this dog very much.     \n\nNow that he's deaf, though, I'm having trouble adjusting. I can't call his name to get his attention. I can't talk to him or compliment him. Yesterday we went to the vet and I was having a hard time calming him down (he gets anxious) since I could only pet him. When I used to talk to him his ears would go down and he would wag his tail, and I miss that. I can't even call him over to pet him if I just want to show him random affection.     \n\n**(", "summary": ") It seems really silly, I know. My whole issue is that I want to show my old dog that I love him, and I'm struggling to find replacements for the random chatter that I used to use with him.      "}
{"id": "t3_31i328", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19F] Jealous of my Boyfriend's [18M] Sister? [20F]", "post": "I know this probably sounds weird but I'm really jealous of my boyfriend's sister and I don't like how close they are together. I'm an only child and I don't really have any cousins or anything either, so I can't really comprehend the feeling of having a sibling.\n\nThey are close and he tells her personal stuff and I don't like that, at one point I tried setting like a rule that he wasn't allowed to hug her. And I know now that that was rediculous but to me I don't understand a sibling relationship. She hangs around the house in underwear sometimes like even infront of him before and that makes be absolutely pissed. And they also fight, and she says mean stuff to him and it pisses me off. I know that it's normal for siblings to fight but since I've never had that relationship with somebody I feel as if she is just some other girl. How do I get over this?", "summary": "I'm an only child and I get jealous of my boyfriend's sister"}
{"id": "t3_2u4f7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to shake my [22F] coworker [23F] off?", "post": "I started at my current job about a month before \"Andrea\". We had both just graduated college, moved to this city without knowing anyone, and were studying for the same work exam, so we became friends. Personally, we are very different people. She likes to go to church a lot and is a homebody, while I don't go to church and I go out a lot. However, she has latched onto me like a shadow. She gets upset if I plan a get together without her, and bums rides off of me to every single work event we've ever had. Normally, I don't mind sharing rides, but sometimes I have plans for after a work event that I have to cancel because I've given her a ride. One time, I invited her to our mutual friend's going away dinner after a work event and she waited until I had already given her a ride to the work event to tell me she had other plans that night, so I really needed to take her home. And yesterday, she offered a coworker a ride to our event and back home after! \n\nUnfortunately, she hasn't made many friends since moving here and gets really hurt if I plan a lunch with my mentor and don't invite her. I understand why she clings to me, but it's suffocating me at work. I can't go anywhere or do anything work related without her. \n\nHow do I shake her off? I try introducing her to new people all the time, but it's not really working.", "summary": "girl at work insists on going everywhere and doing everything with me. How do I politely get her to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1dsc6h", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "With upcoming college graduations and the painful break ups that may results here is an update to a post about my relationship that had an expiration date junior year of college", "post": "I made this post one year ago  I'm not sure if anyone will care to read this. But, I figured I'd share my story.\n\nI(now 25, still F) elected to stay in a relationship with the boy(now 22, still M). It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. He has been the perfect boyfriend and I will always love him. Being in such a great relationship has given me confidence in future relationships. Great guys really are out there. \n\nI am starting grad school 1.5 years earlier than anticipated. I move to Buffalo,NY in a year. My SO is graduating this week. He applied to the University of Buffalo, but is currently wait-listed. He has also applied to several jobs in upstate NY. I know he doesn't want to let go of what we have, and that makes our relationship even stronger. \n\nSince he still doesn't know where he is going next year, the plan to break up is still on the table. We have agreed not to do long distance. \n\nBut, realistically, I want him to see what else is out there before we settle down. Friends and family tell us we are amazing together, but what if there is an even better girl for him out there? Also, I'm his first real GF, so he has no idea what an awful relationship is like. I think everyone needs that life lesson. Lastly, if we do get married, I don't want him to resent me because he missed out on other relationships. I fear this might result in a foolish extramarital affair. \n\nTo be clear, he isn't following me to Buffalo per say, he isn't turning down something that he really wants for me. We just feel that it would be easier to have each other in a new city. Plus, we can always break up once we start new lives in Buffalo. He isn't from the city where we did our undergrads, and he always planned to leave after graduation.", "summary": "my boyfriend of 1.5 years and I are graduating from college and pursuing school/jobs in new cities. We discussed an expiration date on our relationship in May 2012. The expiration date is still looming, but he is trying to make it work. Just felt like sharing my story. Thanks for reading!"}
{"id": "t3_gljfw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Your thoughts on automatic website generators", "post": "Hi, I wanted to make a quick not for profit site and the idea is to develop education in third world nations by building classrooms. I already have good contacts for material donations and I also wanted to add financial donations through the site as well. \n\nMy goal is to improve my resume and gain some free international shipping experience and the opportunity is there. Also I want to feel all warm and fuzzy by helping out a bunch of people with better education opportunities. The main project will be funded by myself and a friend but I have one problem. I'm not tech savvy but I was looking at automatic site generators as an option. What are your thoughts reddit? If you agree with this route can you recommend a good company?\n\n I want to be able to have regular updates with pictures of classrooms and letters from kids, and a tracker for where the money is being spent and future projects and suggestions to email. The site also needs to be able to accept money, (I don't know how to do that either).", "summary": "I want to make a non-profit site and I was considering an automatic website generator"}
{"id": "t3_4nz4ob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20M) deal with my girlfriend's (19F) loneliness?", "post": "Hey reddit, \n\nI know this may seem like small issue but I love her and want to help her. \n\nI have been dating my girlfriend, Jane for around 6 months. She is a wonderful woman and I care for her dearly. \n\nMy issue is that she is very lonely when she is not with me and I feel it's unhealthy how attached she is to me. She is moved to the city I live in to study and doesn't have an awful lot of friends in my city. Which leaves me as kind of her rock in this city. We see each other on the weekends and some week nights but when she is not with me she always texts and expresses her unhappiness and loneliness. I can't see her all the time as I work during the week (I work a physical job so I am pretty exhausted in the evenings) and enjoy having \"me\" time sometimes. \n\nI always invite her out when I see friends so that she can make some new ones (she is well liked amongst my friends). I have suggested that she joins a club or start a new hobby to make friends, however she has to study a lot as she is studying a tough course which doesn't leave her much time. I have also suggested she gets a pet which she may do in the coming months. \n\nI love Jane. I just want to help her. Have you guys got any ideas to help? Or am I actually the issue and am not giving her the attention and love she needs?", "summary": "My girlfriend is lonely when she not with me, how do I help?"}
{"id": "t3_321ig7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to look impressive in yoga", "post": "Actually happened a couple nights ago, but I am still feeling it today.\n\nSo, I have been going semi-regularly to a university sponsored gym that has yoga classes. I won't say which one, but it is swarming with hot sorority girls and needless to say, they naturally go to yoga. Yoga is like a top tier white girl activity, and I am also a white girl, so I could not resist the temptation.\nAnyways, So i am in these yoga classes every week filled to the brim with girls that are hot and are super experienced in all these positions and turning themselves into pretzels, and I am not one to be out done. I can be competitive like that. \n\nThe instructor herself is a yoga master, like I think she has silly strings instead of bones, and usually towards the end of the class she will pull out these super hard  moves that no one can do. A couple nights ago she busts out this move that I had actually practiced a little because it looked fun. None of the other girls are getting it so I m thinking 'Yes, my time to shine'. \n\nThis is the pose: \n\n The instructor recommends that if we have trouble balancing (which I did) that we lean forward a bit and press back with our finger tips. 'Perfect, just the key step T have been missing' I think, and proceed to shift forward. All is dandy for about 30 seconds when I begin to tip forward and (for some reason I was at the edge of my mat) I totally eat the hard wood floor. My chin cracks down super loud in the silent studio, my teeth knock together and it hurts like a bitch. At this point half the girls are looking at me, with my face on the floor, and ass still in the air. Then the rest of me tips over and makes another loud bang. Now the whole class is looking at me sprawled out like a dumbass. I meet my teacher's gaze in the mirror and the look of pity was shameful.\n\nNow I have a big bruise under my chin, and a reputation for being as graceful as a yoga buffalo. It was still pretty funny.", "summary": "I tried to out do some bitches in yoga, and got a mouth full of wood for my trouble."}
{"id": "t3_2167i8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19F] of a few months, she won't stop talking to her ex", "post": "So before I got together with my current girlfriend she was with a guy for about two years, we got together about a week after they broke up. \n\nThings were all fine and dandy until about 3 weeks ago I found out she still talked to her ex regularly, she said they he was just asking about her family etc. I told her it made me uncomfortable and she said she would stop. \n\nA week later I found out she was still talking to him, I confronted her about it and once again she said he was just asking how she was and that she didn't like ignoring people, once again she said she would stop. \n\nThen yesterday, while I was at her house I saw her check her Facebook messenger and saw that she was still talking to him, she doesn't know I've seen it and I don't know what to do, I've asked her multiple times to stop and she seems to have just completely ignored me.", "summary": "Girlfriend won't stop talking to her ex, despite her telling me she wouldn't talk to him anymore"}
{"id": "t3_34weg6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling a notoriously bad prime minister an NBA player", "post": "Blah Blah few weeks ago not today Blah Blah...\n\nPicture the scene, it's an early morning in a history class, my brain is still in a half functioning state. My teach standing up front asks \n\n'And who said, 'There shall be peace in our time''\n\nEnter yours truly, the dumbass, whose hand shoots up 'Yeah I goth this, no one else knows but *I* do.  So she calls on me and with all my might I cry out\n\n\"WILT CHAMBERLAIN!\"\n\nYes...Wilt Chamberlain, the 7'1\" Black NBA player, not Neville chamberlain, a human who looks more like a Prune than any other human in history has.", "summary": "Said one of Hitler's 'friends' slept with 20,000 women"}
{"id": "t3_419zcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [30M] of 4 years and I [27F] don't agree on whether to pay for future kids' college", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage and kids lately, and one issue keeps coming up. I want to pay for my future children to get a good education at a good college, whether public or private. My parents financially supported me throughout my entire undergraduate and graduate education, and I had no debts while entering the workforce. It is a goal of mine to do the same for my children, because I think education is necessary in this country and because I will probably have the financial wherewithal to do it. I don't want to have kids that I can't support to the very end of their education.\n\nMy boyfriend, on the other hand, does not want to pay a penny into his kids' college fund. His parents didn't help him with school, and he made it through by the skin of his teeth (and federal grants). He has both undergraduate and graduate debt up to his eyeballs, but is on a program that will make that debt manageable for the next 20 years.\n\nI never qualified for financial aid of any kind when I was going through college, and my kids will definitely not qualify either. I make a little less than six figures, and my boyfriend makes 300k+. It seems unfair that I'll be the only one saving for our children's college while he blows through money just on himself. He wants four kids, but I refuse to have that many if I can't send them all to college!\n\nHow can I open up a conversation about this without sounding like I'm accusing him of being selfish? Or am I being unreasonable wanting my boyfriend to pay for his children's college when I'm the only one with this goal?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't want to pay for future kids' college. I do. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_ukcd8", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My brother fooled around with our cousin's cousin...", "post": "This past weekend my cousin was getting married. My brother is relatively lonely. Well, we started drinking an excess amount of maker's mark and just so happened to be sitting at the same table as our cousin's cousins. Towards the end of the night I went outside to get another drink from the bar and noticed them coming back and knew immediately something happened. The party ends and we all get back on the bus to go to the hotel. If it was not for my brother puking all over the bus, more would have pursued and things would be much more awkward. I'm the only one who knows they made out, and can't stop laughing about it. \n\nI thought you guys might like the story. Have a good one...", "summary": "My brother made out with our cousin's cousin. He ended up puking all over the place and fortunately didn't sleep with her."}
{"id": "t3_ncgyj", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "New puppy, have a few questions about aggression", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nWe adopted a lab cross from the SPCA a couple of weeks ago named Dexter. He is approx 2.5 months old and is a good dog for the most part except for a few things. We have started clicker training with him and although it's working, it's pretty slow going\n\n1. He bites constantly; I understand he's still teething but he bites my gf's knees and feet almost all the time. He also bites me but not as much as her. How can we curb that?\n\n2. He barks a lot. In the house, outside, on walks, everywhere; we're considering a muzzle and/or one of those citronella collars to stop it, but I'm worried that's just stopping the problem and not training him.\n\nAny advice would be a big help!\n\n**<", "summary": ">New puppy bites and barks excessively"}
{"id": "t3_3c07va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my unofficial gf [20 F] 3 months, transferring to another college 1 hour away, we both have a heavy work load. Really want this, but she's thinking logically for the both of us? idk what to do?", "post": "She's not my unoffiical gf. TBH, I don't know what she is. \n\nShe's super smart and transferring to one of the best schools in the world.\n\nI'm not stupid but she's on another level. Dated a lot but never had a real relationship.\n\nShe wants me to focus on transferring, which I am. I'll have to take two of the highest Math Classes, entire physics, and advanced programming in c++ & java. \n\nSeeing her won't be much of an issue. Probably we get to see her 3 weekends a month at the most. Maybe one weekend at the least.\n\nI don't know how to tell her what she means. She said she'll decide towards the end of august. I want an answer now, so I can get over her sooner.", "summary": "only girl I've ever truly liked. She's thinking logically for the both of us. Both of us have lots of school work. idk what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_28x662", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by over estimating how much a rat can pee", "post": "Background info: When I was around 5 years old, I had a rat named bob and he lived in one of those little glass aquarium/cages.  There is only one  bathroom that I could use back then (the other is attached to my parents room).  I also had no concept of how much small animals peed. \n\nOne day my parents were having a party, and they said they weren't going to force me to mingle with their friends.  During the party I was hiding in my room when I realized I really had to pee, but I didn't want to make it known that I was home by going to the bathroom.  I ended up holding my pee for far too long and finally made a run for it, but there was someone in there.  Whoever was in the bathroom must have been having some problems because they were there for a really long time.  Meanwhile my bladder was about to burst, so I ran back into my room frantic, saw the glass aquarium and let loose.  Bob immediately sought out shelter on top of his little house while his aquarium filled with over an inch of pee.  \n\nAfter I peed in his cage I panicked, but then realized I had a perfect scapegoat... the rat.  I gathered up my courage, ran upstairs and told my mom that Bob had an accident in his cage.  She was confused but came down to my room, along with a bunch of her friends.  As soon as everyone walked in and saw bob swimming around in an inch of pee I confidently said \"I think Bob peed\".  Everyone was able to come to the conclusion that that I was the one who peed in the aquarium and burst out laughing, I was absolutely mortified at the time.", "summary": "I peed in a rat aquarium, then blamed it on the rat... got caught in my lie by a group of people and was mortified."}
{"id": "t3_3epul0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's been 3 years and I [25 M] still haven't gotten over her, when will it happen?", "post": "Nothing has changed, I haven't talked to her for a long time, she's history, yet I think about her every day. I don't do it out of my own will, it just sort of happens on its own. I have gone on dates with plenty of girls ever since, but I still can't get her out of my head. She seemed perfect in every way. We broke up because of the distance and because I found out she cheated on me due to the distance. I know that doesn't make her perfect but somebody explain how I am supposed to get over her then cause it's been 3 years and counting and no matter how negatively I think about it and remind my brain of why I should be happy that I'm no longer with her, my heart keeps wanting to be with her and it's driving me insane.", "summary": "I haven't gotten over my ex 3 years after we broke up. I'm thinking at this point I never will."}
{"id": "t3_3lqtlz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (26M) can't help but feel jealous that my gf (25F) of almost 2 years used to have threesomes with her ex husband but will not with me.", "post": "So my gf and I have been dating for a few years now and she had brought up the fact that she's had multiple threesomes with her ex husband both mff and mfm she has said she didn't really enjoy the mff that much because she felt insecure about stretch marks...etc but she really enjoyed the mfm threesome a lot. Every couple of months I bring up the idea of us having a mff threesome and she completely shuts the idea down saying she's not comfortable enough to do that and doesn't want to share me and couldn't stand seeing another woman please me or get me off. My question is am I wrong to feel jealous about the fact that she would do these things with her ex but not me? I've tried explaining to her that it makes me feel like I'm second best, and I think being with someone long term that those people should give each other their best everything including sexually but I don't feel like I get that and she says it will never happen.", "summary": "my gf won't do things with me that she did with her ex because \"she's not like that anymore\""}
{"id": "t3_3xscj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] just started a new job in a new city after leaving my old town due to addiction issues. Now fear I have stuffed up this chance at a fresh start.", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nI work in financial services (think investment). I'm a young, high achiever. I recently moved to one of the top firms following a 2 month 'holiday' where I left my old town and got clean off cocaine.\n\nBusiness in my old town ran on coke, absolutely everyone was doing it, and I was doing it daily. It was very hard to come off of it but I went home to my home town and spent some time with friends and family and got clean.\n\nI moved to my new posting about 2 weeks ago and all was going well. Until the Christmas Party. After I was already quite boozed up someone brought out a bunch of coke. Everyone was doing it and I stupidly partook. \n\nWhen I am on cocaine I don't behave like me at all. Long story short I was a mess and went home with one of the VPs. \n\nNow I'm mortified and feel totally hopeless not only about my new company (which was meant to represent a fresh start for me), but about the future and also about facing work after this.\n\nHas anyone been through anything similar? I am an idiot and don't know how to deal with this.", "summary": "Left old job/town due to coke problem, get clean, arrive at new job in new town and within 2 weeks find myself in a mortifying situation involving coke. Not sure how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_yqrfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (40) of one 8 months invites me (36) to go to a party but I'm unsure if he really wants me to be there.", "post": "Edited because i put the word one by mistake in the title and i cant remove it.\n\nWe've been dating eight months. We are both divorced and I was with my ex for 15 years so I really am clueless about how relationships and daring works. Lately we spend almost every weekend together, usually on Thursday he will ask what my plans are despite the fact we are usually together. I said I don't have any plans this weekend, and I asked him if he had any and he said he was invited to a party hosted by a couple that he knows. Then he asked me if I wanted to come along. Normally he will ask, can you come with me? Or ask in a more more encouraging way. How can I ask if he actually wants me there. I know this sounds pretty pathetic but I am seriously clueless.", "summary": "how do I know when to give my boyfriend space or if he really wants to spend time with him without him thinking I'm being clingy"}
{"id": "t3_g00uz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "When the breakup really is your fault.", "post": "Throw-away, needed to vent. Talked to ex for the last time (both 20, 2yr relationship) before finals and spring break. Won't see her again. I'm transferring schools again after transferring for her.\n\nIt hurts because I can know exactly went wrong. It was my first relationship and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared when we hit problems all ltr couples do.\n\nI broke up with her briefly, then I accused her of being co-dependent and when I had to sit next to her at an even we had tickets for for months, didn't talk/be civil.\n\nShe can't forgive me and won't give me another chance. I don't deserve it anyway but I was hoping.", "summary": "I lost the girl I was going to spend my life with."}
{"id": "t3_4nkprr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with a colleague [35 M] of 5 years, I've been in love with him for the past 5 years, he is married but is like a father figure to me", "post": "Okay, so this guy is basically ten years older than me and is happily married, and they had a baby just a couple of years ago.\n\nWe started university the same year, 5 years ago. He has a previous career, and I came in fresh from high school. Maybe meeting such a mature man left an impression on my young mind, but this attraction I've had to him I haven't been able shake off since.\n\nTo me, it is so comforting to know that he even exists. My dad died the past year, and was generally a terrible father figure up until the day he died. He was an alcoholic, had been retired my entire life due to health reasons, was emotionally abusive, sexist and intolerant of people different from him.\n\nSometimes I feel like subconsciously I want this colleague as a father figure, and sometimes I have confided in him with things I wouldn't tell everyone.\n\nI feel like he is my rock, and even seeing him at university fills me warm fuzzy feelings. So often I feel like I just want to go and hug him and never let go. But that would be inappropriate.\n\nHe always says hi to me, and somehow that is enough. But I am very, very much in love with him. I feel like other men could hardly compare.\n\nIt makes me happy to have him around, though I know I could never have him. But I do entertain the thought in my mind sometimes.\n\nI've had a hard time with getting a boyfriend. Right now I feel like there is some guy who has an interest in me, and I kinda like him as well. He just so happens to look quite a lot like 35 M colleague over here. But he is not the same person, of course. He is not as kind, he does not carry himself with the same amount of grace and respect.\n\nHow could anyone ever compare to this perfect man, whom I adore so much?", "summary": "I'm in love with a married man, whom I consider to be a perfect man and a father figure of sorts. I am in the lookout for a boyfriend, but I feel like this may interfere with my ability to form a healthy relationship. Even if I can never have him, he feels like the number 1 for me, and no one could compare."}
{"id": "t3_1rl2nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am in the middle of a really weird situation with two of my friends [19F][19M].", "post": "So recently my friend (the other guy) and I seem to have a crush on the same girl (our other friend). I know I have a crush on the girl, and he has told me and badically everyone aloud that he has a crush on her too. The thing that makes this situation weird(er) is that this girl has a very long distance boyfriend, and you can tell things aren't working out. \n\nThe three of us have been hanging out a lot lately and we usually watch movies all night/into the morning and she will sit in between both of us and we all share one big blanket. The thing is, that while watching these movies she has been wrapping her foot around mine/playing light footsy and putting her hand on my leg, under the blanket.\n\nThis last night/morning however when she put her foot and hand in the same places, I reciprocated and put my hand on her leg/over her arm. Ever so slowly, we gradually ended up holding hands, like two people normally would, tightly intertwined. Obviously this is a weird scenario, but upon unlocking hands to get up or shift positions or change movies, we would end up holding hands again and again.\n\nI didn't think the situation couldn't get anymore confusing or weird, but now we bring the other guy friend into the picture. He is a very arrogant and chauvinistic kind of guy, always flaunting his muscles and bragging about girls he gets with and what not. The thing is, periodically he will put his arm behind her, lying it on the back of the futon we share, and then gradually moving it to around her shoulder or waist. Take note that this is not her boyfriend (and neither am I) and she might honestly see it as friendly, even though that sounds absurd. \n\nSo yeah, that's my situation. Please don't lecture me on boyfriend/girlfriend ettiquette, I get it already. I just need advice/opinions.", "summary": "my friend and I are \"competing\" for the same friend of ours. She has a boyfriend, but has been holding my hand/playing footsy with me during movies."}
{"id": "t3_1sm7nf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31M] just found out I have genital herpes. The girl [32F] I've been seeing for 2 months has become distant since I've told her.", "post": "I had something that seemed like a genital herpes outbreak early in the year. I was not able to see a doctor at the time, but later my doctor blood tested me for herpes which came back negative. It was a huge relief but he warned sometimes a blood test can show negative up to 12 months after the initial infection.\n\nAbout 2 months ago I started seeing a girl, and I was honest with her that I'd had a scare, and although I tested negative it was still a possibility I had it. She said she was fine with it and we began a sexual relationship. We used condoms and Valtrex as protection just to be sure.\n\nLast week I tested positive. I told her the news and despite reassuring me when I spoke to her that it was fine, she has since become distant and unresponsive. Her messages have gone from multiple playful messages every day and sweet 'goodnight' texts to bare communication every other day. She has canceled two evenings we planned together and seems reluctant to make new plans. \n\nThis is the happiest I've ever been with a girl, she's amazing and we have an incredible connection which I know she feels too. We have each spoken of the intensity of our attraction to each other, and have had such intense and frequent sex we laughed about how we're going to die of exhaustion if we spend too much time together. Before last week I saw a long and happy future with this amazing woman but now I fear I'm going to lose her over this.\n\nI don't know what to do. Dozens of articles point to the fact that with proper precautions the rate of transmission is almost zero. The evidence suggests she has less chance of catching from me than from another guy who's status is unknown and is not taking preventative medication, but at the moment we're not even communicating enough for me to tell her that.\n\nHow do I re-establish communication so we can at least talk about this? How can I help her see that this doesn't have to be the end of our relationship?", "summary": "I just found out I got herpes from my ex-gf. The amazing girl I've been seeing has become very distant since I told her."}
{"id": "t3_te5n7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most embarrassing thing you've been involved in that you're glad happened?", "post": "Around the end of my junior year of high school my friends and I took the SAT.  After, we all met up at a deli/super market place that has really good sandwiches and what not.  I got a whole muffaletta and of course ate the whole thing.  It was a really big sandwich and I used to have a really bad stomach.  Once I stopped drinking Gatorade, the horrid diarrhea ended. Anyway, after we ate I went back to my best friends house to hang out.  We'll call him Poo Poo. I walk in and see Poo Poo and say, \"Listen to this.\" See, the thing was I had to pass gas.  But I forgot about all the factors involved in my day, namely Gatorade and the whole muffaletta.  Well no noise came out, but something did. My entire face changed from excitement about the opportunity to make Poo Poo laugh, to shock and horror at what I knew just happened.  Ensuing conversation:\n\nTrixthadog: \"Dude I just shit my pants.\"\nPoo Poo: \"What?\"\nTrixthadog: \"Dude...I just shit my pants!\"\n\nI shouldn't have exclaimed my second \"shit pants\" because his father who happened to have been outside the house, heard me.  Needless to say, that story spread like wildfire. The type of butt wild fire that can only occur from a giant Muffaletta.    I had to throw away my boxers, and I had a spot of \"fire\" on my white shoes.  This spot on my new pair of clean white shoes really begged for people to ask what happened for some reason.  Since I knew Poo Poo would never keep the story under wraps, I had no choice but to be honest.  It has gotten tons of laughter and I'll always remember the embarrassment I felt when Poo Poo's dad made his surprise entry.", "summary": "Diarheaa, Wildfire, Embarrassment, Reflection"}
{"id": "t3_t0drc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, what was your most embarrassing moment to do with your body?", "post": "When I was around 12, for our P.E group, we all had to do the high jump as part of our olympic topic. I was average at best at this, and I had a weird run. When I say weird, it was kind of like I was running with a boner. All the time. So I was getting ready for the high jump, there were around 7 or so people left. I was getting really into it, I was pumped. Today would be the day I kicked there asses, the day that I became BETTER at P.E. \n\nSo about five minutes later, my turn rolls around. I was last but one to go. The other kids were cheering me on. I was gunna destroy it. Well, I didnt get anywhere near it. I slipped on one of the plastic cones, (they were in the direction of a path we had to run across, as you may know you have to run at an angle for the high jump) and hit my foot on the soft mat we had to land on. I broke my ankle. Yep, broke it. I was on crutches for a while and when I got back to school, that was the top of the gossip list. People sometimes still go on about it today. Needless to say, I am oh so careful when doing the High jump now.", "summary": "Doing High Jump in our P.E topic, slipped on plastic cone, hurt ankle and broke it on a soft mat."}
{"id": "t3_42auyv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/f] am a 'side chick' to a [19/m]. Need advice.", "post": "So this guy has been going out with his gf [18/f] for a couple of years now and he's never cheated on her before. I move in to uni and on the very first night we have sex. This was a few months back and it's still going on now. Yes I know it's wrong and I'm not here to hear you tell me this - I just want any advice as to what he's thinking? \nHe has told me in the past that he wants to stay with his gf but then a couple of days later he'll want sex with me again. He sees her very regularly, so it isn't distance. I don't understand what he thinks about this whole situation at all. Any insight would be brilliant.", "summary": "why do some guys in committed relationships feel the need to get a girl on the side?"}
{"id": "t3_283h4d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my dad catch me, masturbating to youtube videos (NSFW)", "post": "This happened just a couple of minutes ago. I was kinda bored and it was almost time for bed. So i thought why not get a last session before going to sleep ? Whats the worst that could happen ?!?! \n\nI started browsing through some Youtube video's. And saw this a thumbnail of a girl in tight lycra pants. The fapping commenced, after a few minutes of doing the deed i hear someone going down the stairs. And i think \" Oh it's just my brother going downstairs for a drink\" (He never comes to my room). But to my surprise it was actually my dad going upstairs towards my room !! My pants were down to my ankles. I hear the door open and see its my dad. I had no time to react because nothing was infront of my door to block, anyone from coming in. \n\nAs i look at my father's expression..... just pure disappointment and he quickly closed the door. \n\nI don't really go along with my dad, so this makes it even more akward.\n\nI think it's time to move out of the house....", "summary": "My dad caught me butt naked, fapping towards explicit Youtube videos."}
{"id": "t3_1ke7m9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [m/21] going to hang out with a girl [20/f] who I had/have a crush on since High School..we were friends in HS, but I haven't seen her in a few years and I want things to go a different route.", "post": "Hey reddit, so as the title says I've known this girl for a good number of years. We're both in college in the same city but different schools. I haven't seen her in about 3 years since HS, and I always had a big crush on her. We we're good friends in HS as I was an ugly pimply duckling. But I have now grown and do look a lot different (better wise). \n\nI recently texted her to hang out and she's responded willingly and wants to meet up to hang out. I don't want this to seem as I just want to be friends but I don't want to full on get on her either, just play it cool for now. So I'm more confident now conversation wise, and interesting wise but what subjects should I avoid that seem \"friend zone\" friendly, and what should I avoid that says let's be friends.\n\nI haven't been single in about two and a half years and have been alone for about two months now so i'm pretty new to this game. Thanks for all yer help!", "summary": "Texted an old HS crush to hang out. She said yes. Need advice on how to approach the hangout w/o getting friend zoned like I did in HS."}
{"id": "t3_3pp2oa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] just learn to accept myself at my current weight and put myself out there?", "post": "Dear r/relationships,\n\nThis is a hard thing for me to write. I'm 24 years old and I've been in just one relationship. I've always let my weight hold me back, because I was/am convinced that due to my weight, guys wouldn't be interested in me. But more than that, I'm uncomfortable in my skin, too. \n\nI see what people on Reddit say and in the real world about fat women, especially ones who say they have an illness. I actually have an endocrine and an autoimmune disorder that greatly reduces my resting metabolic rate, and eating like a normal girl my age actually leads me to gain weight. Luckily for my health, I'm not obese or anything, but I AM overweight and I don't lose weight like any other normal girl unless I'm at a super deficit. I won't make excuses because if I was able to hold strong on eating much less than I'm used to/everyone else, hormones willing, I could probably do it. But I feel so bummed when I see people talking about how lazy fat women are, such as: oh haha, suuuure she has an \"illness,\" can't she just stick to a 1500 (or whatever #) calorie diet?\n\nI'm working on it and haven't given up on keeping on trying to lose weight. But I'm holding myself back *now.* After internalizing a lot of comments like the ones above, I'm too afraid to flirt with guys in person or to put myself up on a dating website, even though I logically know it's ridiculous. I'm worried about guys or girls snickering behind my back. Despite the fact that tons of people who aren't skinny have normal relationships, and I never think that when I see bigger girls dating or flirting! I just don't know how to get myself out of that mindset. \n\nIt's putting my life on hold, too. I want to be able to date and experience relationships, but I have no idea how to come to terms with my weight as it is **now.** \n\nAdvice? Similar situations out there? Suggestions?", "summary": "I'm an overweight girl and I've always held myself back from flirting or dating because I'm uncomfortable in my body as it is and I'm scared of how people might react. What is a good way to get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_3728zm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [25M] of a year is beginning to treat me [22F] more like a friend rather than a GF. Should I just break up with him?", "post": "My boyfriend is not a great communicator and it's gotten worse. He's gradually began to become less affectionate, at this point I feel like another one of his friends rather than his SO. \n\nHes become less invested in our relationship and I feel like sometimes he couldn't care less about communicating with me on a regular basis. He used to be so infatuated with me and used to love talking to me but now I am not sure if he is just getting bored. I really don't know if I should still be with him or break up, any suggestions would help.", "summary": "Bf gradually becoming less affectionate and less invested in our relationship; not sure if I should stay with him or not."}
{"id": "t3_1t9oh0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 /F] I met my male friend through work 8 years ago I left the company I kept in touch with him Now hes gone distant [37 M/]", "post": "THE BEGINING i was working for a company eight years ago now, i met a  guy who i became friends with, nothing happened between us but we kept in touch when i left the company i was working for at the time, we stayed friends via text email because of the distance between us seeing one another when we could, has far has i know he's single and happy, i added him as a friend on a networking site, iv'e met a new guy things are going well, i spoke to him a while ago he said \" he was going to block my post out because he spoke to me a while ago in a  inappropriate way and didn't want to feel like he was a bad guy\" he didn't want to see my post i felt confused by this, i didn't want things to go bad between us\n\nsince my last chat with him he's become distant with me iv'e tried texting extra to see if he's ok he's not answered me back his post still comes up on my wall, i want him to be happy, i don't understand why he's acting this way with me.", "summary": "where still friends on this networking site i thought by know he would have unfriended me by now he's not i'm guessing he's fallen out with me  i don't know what to do, he's not talking to me at all any advise would be good i feel its all negative i don't know what to do to put things right between us."}
{"id": "t3_2bciju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/M] just landed a job in my field and haven't get started working and got a problem", "post": "I just recently accepted a new job in the IT field I have been trying to get into ever since I finished school. I am really excited and cannot wait to start in two weeks. I have already started to fill out the necessary paper work that needs to be done for the job.\n\nFor details, I am 25/M and have been with my girlfriend 26/F for about three years now. Everything is going famtastic on that front.\n\nNow today I get a phone call from a mysterious number. I answer it and it is my girlfriends exboyfriend. Mind you, I have never talkedn met or have any clue what went on between him and my crurrent girlfriend. He informs me who he is and that he works at the company I got accepted at as a manager position. He goes on to tell me how he would like for me to \"step away from the position\" and how he \"doesn't want to see me there to be honest\". Now I have to say he was rather calm and stable during this phone call. There was no yelling or insults. He did go on about how he is sure \"you're a nice guy and all\" but he just does not want me to work there or see me. He was suggesting I renig on the offer letter I got and insisted he has connections to help me get a job in the industry elsewhere.\n\nI mean, I have never once talked to this guy and neither has my girlfriend (I already talked to her about this). How should I handle this situation? Should I tell HR? I mean, howd he get my contact infortmation? When I look online I can see who my manager is for the position and it is certainly not him. Should I just go to the job and leave this be? Any advice would be nice!\n\nOh, and this guy is around his 30's/M.", "summary": "My girlfriends ex works at the company I got a job at. Tried to coerce and almost threatened me to not accept the job. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1etws0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My alcoholic father/boss(M66) is unable to accept me (M26) as an adult. It's on the verge of ending our relationship.", "post": "My father(M66) started three companies and has been running them with varying levels of success for 30 years. We've recently become unprofitable due to a number of failures of his management, mostly detail oriented oversight roles. \n\nHe can't let his work go to me(M26) and my team. We've made the plans we've put them in action and even are now seeing positive results, but he still treats me like a child that can't wipe his own ass. He insists on chastizing me unlike anyone else in the organization and cannot admit that anything I do is correct, despite the financial turnaround. Despite the bright future, I hesitate to stay due to his treatment of me. \n\nOn top of this, he's in an unhappy marriage and he is blackout drunk nightly by 8pm. \n\nI'd like to have a relationship with him and get him help but all efforts to do so have been spurned with cancelled plans and avoidance.\n\nWhat can I do to help him to perceive me as an adult?", "summary": "control freak father treats me like a child."}
{"id": "t3_3kim56", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's [24m] friend [24f] is getting married - I [23f] am not invited. How do I handle this without overreacting?", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have been living together for the past 3 years. We live a couple of hours away from our hometown, as we both moved to the city for job opportunities/university. \n\nAt the start of the year my boyfriend's good friend, let's call her Emily, got engaged. We were so happy for her and both attended her engagement party (with a present I picked out). While I am not especially close with Emily I have met her many times, I was at her 21st, have been to her and her fiance's house and we have always gotten along well. \n\nYesterday my bf received a call from Emily and she told him that I would not be invited to the wedding, as the guest list was getting too large and expensive, as well as the fact she doesn't see me often. While I understand that weddings are expensive and guest lists must be a huge pain, I also feel incredibly insulted that she has decided to cut me out. \n\nI know that other plus ones have definitely been invited, and while I know that I don't see Emily very often the reason for that is my bf doesn't see her very often, as we live 2 hours away.  \n\nMy bf is very non-confrontational, and while he is also upset that I cannot go I do not believe he would even think to not attend the wedding, even though he will know very few people there. But I feel like after 5 years, our relationship warrants a plus one to a wedding, and to not invite me is insulting and dismissive of our very serious relationship. \n\nI am really hurt by this, as I thought we were also friends by association, or at least friendly. Is it an overreaction/too controlling to ask him to consider not attending? How do I manage the hurt feelings?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 5 years has a friend getting married - she has specifically not invited me. How should I handle the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2t1veh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being horny", "post": "So this didn't happen today, but over summer.\nI was over at my girlfriends house, it was the middle of the day but we were drunk and laying in bed watching a movie or something. One thing led to another and her hand goes down my pants. I take them off and she starts giving me a handjob while making out with me. I tried to push her head down so she would start giving me head, but at the same time she was moving her head down, so her face slammed into my face and cut my cheek open. I yelled and she started crying. She had chipped off a piece of her tooth into my face. I was bleeding everywhere. She was crying and I asked where the first aid kit or something was, and she showed me, but she was crying too hard to help me so I had to fucking bandage myself and clean myself up while I was gushing blood. I finally got everything looking good and I made my girlfriend drive me home. There was only one little problem. I forgot she was drunk. She was swerving everywhere. All I could think was \"oh god I really hope she doesn't crash damn it I just wanted some head.\" We finally got back alright though, even though we almost got in a head on collision. But we were in one piece. I then got out and said thanks and never talked to her again.", "summary": "Wanted head, got it, just not where I expected."}
{"id": "t3_3vvkws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with [20s? M] won't leave me alone when I eat lunch.", "post": "So I'm a bit of an introvert, my classes really tire me out so lunch time is sacred to me for just eating alone and reading in the library cafe. It really is the highlight of my day between school and my night shift at work.\n\nThis guy, who I'll name after the hat he wears \"Fedora\" will not take the hint to leave me the fuck alone. He has approached me multiple times to talk about himself and basically try and ask me to hang out later. I've tried to be nice to him and tell him that I have a busy schedule so I don't have time for friends. He insists that I'm just being mean to him, I'm just rejecting him because I have a boyfriend, I must need to company because I'm eating alone.. etc etc.\n\nHe usually diverts the conversation back to talking about himself again. I'm not trying to be mean but I think he might be different in some way because he cannot grasp the clear signs that I am uncomfortable talking to him and all my hints that I am busy and need this conversation to end. I don't know what else to do. He keeps alluding to me being mean by me wanting to eat my lunch in peace.", "summary": "This guy won't stop talking to me on my lunch break and I need advice of how to tell him to beat it, kick rocks etc in a nice way if possible."}
{"id": "t3_2okkpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] left my parents after it came out that my dad [50s] molested my sister years ago. Now his dad is dying. Not sure what to do about the funeral.", "post": "Pretty much the title. When I was in my teens/early 20's, my dad and sister had a very bizarre relationship which led me to believe that they sexual together. So a couple months ago when my sister finally came out and said that he molested her, I believed her totally. My mom -- who was and still is with my dad, not believing that he did anything to my sister -- was caring for my kids a lot at the time, and I removed them from their household, telling her that it was time for me to start spending more time with the kids. I told her at the time that it just wasn't the best time to discuss how I felt about what happened with my sister and dad, and that another time would be best. I've only seen my mom a couple time since then, but she does text me often. Before, I was at their house pretty much every day. We haven't spoken about it again. I haven't seen my dad since, and I think I told him something along the lines of, \"Yeah, it's just not the best time to talk about it.\", and I left. \n\nMy dad's dad may be dying now. We were not especially close, I'd met him a couple dozen times I'd say. I don't want to go the funeral, because I don't want to see my dad. I feel really bad about how that looks to his family, and especially to my grandma. I believe none (or few) know about the accusations made by my sister, so it would just look like I skipped it for no reason. I also would like to just go see my grandpa's funeral, but I feel like that's the wrong choice. I'd really prefer to just never see my dad again. I have so much hate for him when I don't see him, and I'd rather just not pull all of that up again. I've also only been to 1 funeral before, so I'm not sure how funeral/attendance etiquette goes.", "summary": "A couple months ago my sister came out that my dad molested her years ago. I stopped talking to my dad. Now his dad may be dying. I feel bad about probably missing the funeral. Meh."}
{"id": "t3_gmmvo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your worst spider encounter stories?", "post": "When I was in the third grade, my family moved to a small town called Palatka, Florida.  It's near Jacksonville.\n\nWe briefly rented a house while my parents found a more permanent residence.  Upon moving out of the rental house, my dad was going to move a tarp that our boat had been under, but hadn't been used since moving into our new home and being there for a few months.\n\nHe yanked the tarp, and just kind of laid it down on the ground.  Everything seemed normal until I saw a rather big spider crawling around on the edge of the boat, and I kind of said, \"Dad, look out, it's a big spider!\"\n\nDad swats the spider, which was about the size of his very large hands.  Spider goes splat.  Gross, but all seemed well.\n\nThen I looked down at the tarp.  The tarp was moving.  It was pulsating.  I pointed it out to dad, who walked over and flipped to the other side.\n\nUpon doing so, I nearly died from sheer horror.\n\nThere were hundreds, maybe even thousands of spiders under the tarp that my dad had been handling with general ease and disregard.\n\nat least half of them were as big as the one he had just killed.  They began to spread across the ground, like a scene out of Arachnophobia. My entire family was now darting across the yard, except for my dad, who was now laughing at us and stomping on spiders.  From there everything kind of fades out, but I distinctly remember having to flee from large spiders throughout the house for the next several days as we were moving furniture out.\n\nI fucking hated that house.  Fuck spiders.", "summary": "my family and I were nearly eaten by a spider swarm."}
{"id": "t3_d5x4f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can't meet anyone in college -- what to do?", "post": "I'm a second year student in university (west coast of US).  Long story short, I had a close group of friends in secondary school, and anyone new I ever met would be in a class.  Lectures / non regular seating have made the process of meeting people nearly impossible for me.\n\nFirst year, I met one or two people, other than my roommate.  I joined one or two clubs, but stopped going because they weren't for me.  Went through the rest of the year, met a couple people in my workshop classes (I'm an engineer, and at second year, lecture classes pretty much dominate), but never ended up ever hanging out with any of them.  \n\nThis year I am in a single dorm room.  Many of you might frown on that choice given my situation, but I prefer my living quarters to be private (at least my bedroom).  I'm not even a week into classes yet, and I feel like a complete fucking misfit.  I have absolutely no idea how to meet people.  I am not at all confident with approaching anyone.  \n\nMy days involve:\n\nClasses\nReading (my own interests: human behavior, finance, some select works of fiction)\n1-2 hours of television / gaming / computer\n1 hour of meditation\n1-2 hours of lifting / cardio / something related\nBed\nRepeat\n\nI'll admit, I enjoy my alone time.  I enjoy learning new things on my own (hence the reading).  But I essentially fall into severe self-pity modes almost daily that completely impairs my productivity.  I'm essentially a social outcast where I'm at. I present myself well:  I shave, comb my hair, shower once / twice a day, wear decent clothes.  I don't sit in my room all day, I try to go out and do things in public, but, as stated, the thought of ever approaching someone scares the fuck out of me, especially in light of the fact that I cannot do small talk. \n\nI haven't been on a date or anything of similar function in almost three years.  I actually haven't talked to many women at all since my senior year of high school, and even then it was minimal.", "summary": "I'm a sophomore at college. I'm stuck in certain conditioned paradigms of thinking, and I can't meet anyone at one of the easiest places to meet people, during one of the easiest time to meet new people (first week of classes).   I've never had this issue before, and it is pushing me into a state of depression of sorts."}
{"id": "t3_qx7ao", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your advice. Is the possibility of friends worth staying at a University that I can't really afford?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I need some help with a life choice. I have the choice of transferring to the local university in my home town for second year, or staying at the university I'm currently at. The only thing is, I don't really like it here at my current university and the main thing keeping me here is the possibility of friends. By that I mean that I have friends, but they're kind of shitty. I'm wondering if I should just transfer to the one in my home town, save a ton of money (otherwise I have to pay for everything with government loans) and be lonely, or stay with the current university, be in debt and have some friends/ acquaintances.", "summary": "Can I justify being in debt because I'm afraid of being lonely? I could really use some advice! :("}
{"id": "t3_17ml7f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] completely infatuated and deluded into thinking I can get with a [19F] friend. I need help.", "post": "I'll keep the story short.\n\nI like a girl. We met when I was 19 and her 18, same interests, same hobbies, I felt a connection. I asked her out and she said no, our friendship continued to grow.\n\nI began flirting with another girl, who was a lot more attractive than the first, but didnt have as much in common with me. She asked me out. We dated for a month or so and I ended things because I still had feelings for the first girl.\n\nMet another girl, she was prettier than the first and we had a bit in common. We hung out a bit, but I stopped things because I still had feelings for the first girl\n\nNow, a new girl who I find very attractive is flirting with me and I've been flirting back. Today she hinted about going out and I just laughed it off because I still have no real feelings for any other girl beside the first.\n\nSome things to keep in mind:\n\nI have feelings for all these girls and im attracted to all of them, but whereas I get bored of the others, the first girl completely captures my attention and I find myself thinking about her A LOT.\n\nI know for 100% fact that the first girl has no romantic feelings for me, and yet I cant stop thinking about her at all. When she talks about boys she likes, i find myself getting jealous, even though I pretend that I dont care.\n\nLastly, I rather go the rest of my life without a real relationship than end our friendship completely.\n\nCan anyone please help me, because I cant stop feeling like such a fucking cunt every time i see this girl or a girl that might like me. I really appreciate any advice.", "summary": "I want her, cant get her, not happy with anyone else."}
{"id": "t3_29ztrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dealing with my girlfriend's sexual past", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months next week, but were friends before we dated - known her for almost 10 months now. We are both 21 years old [M/F] and in college. \n\n The other night, she asked why I had never asked about how many people she'd had sex with before me. I honestly didn't want to know. The number was 6 and I was the 7th... I lost my virginity to this girl. She feels really awful about how high that number is. \n\nThe number was more than I was expecting (she'd had several boyfriends from high school up till several months before we started dating). \n\nI know that was the past and I don't hate her for it. I appreciate her being honest with me. But it just bugs me and eats away at me a little.\n\nIs that normal to have feelings like this or am I just overreacting and need to let it be water under the bridge and just forget about it as she is with me now?\n\nI would really appreciate any advice, \n\nThank you", "summary": "Gf told me she had quite a few sexual partners before me, how to handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_2be62y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Snapchat vs. Relationship.", "post": "Alright Reddit, I need your help, I don't know what to do anymore. Back-story: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 years now and have had a pretty good relationship so far. My boyfriend has NEVER been jealous of me and I seem to be the crazy one sometimes (with reason). \n\nLong story short I have kind of had an issue with this girl for a while now only because I know my boyfriend has a really big crush on her and he has basically admitted that also. \"But nothing will ever happen.\" \"It's the chase that's fun.\" \"You are way more important that anyone else in this world and in the end it wouldn't be worth it in the end because then I wouldn't have you.\" I truly believe that he hasn't cheated on me ever and I want to believe everything that he is saying is true but it's SO hard to believe him when this gal is one of his \"best friends\" on snap chat. I have never seen any of the snaps from her and he only seems to look at them when I am conveniently away from him. I have talked to him about her before and how much he hides it and why it bothers me and he told me he understood where I am coming from and that there is \"nothing\" going on. I am dying to see what she snaps him late at night but I know he will notice. It's one of those situations where there could be something going on or it could be absolutely nothing at all and he just knows it makes me uncomfortable so he avoids responding to her when I am nearby.\n\n It's one of those things I lose sleep over and consumes my mind. I want to ask him about it again but if it is nothing at all I am going to look even more psychotic than I already do. So do I risk telling him about it again? Or do I need to just let it go and get over it. \n\nMight I add she is a long time family friend and is never going away and will always be around...", "summary": "My bf is snap-chatting this girl all the time, it could be something I should be worried about but it could be nothing at all. Do I risk looking like an idiot by confronting him, if it isn't something?"}
{"id": "t3_3ugmr6", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I think I might be underpaid.", "post": "A few months ago I got hired by a smallish machine shop (50 employees). It was through a temp service and I'm pretty certain the temp service did nothing to argue for a higher pay rate based on my education and previous experience (BA in ID, Cert in Solidworks, Experience in MasterCam work and lathe).\n\nFast-forward In 3 month's I've done the following: (wording maybe weird, pasted from a work email)\n\n\u00b7 87 dimensioned and filed part drawings\n\n-Drawings combine both supplier call-outs and in-house company specific annotation\n\n-Call-outs also include both tap and drilled hole features\n\n\u00b7 84 dimensioned parts\n\n -4 of the assemblies requiring 50 mates and 161 features\n\n-12 requiring a multi-plane axis \u2013 specific to the Compression Bearing design\n\n-3 of 3 the multi-plane surfaces I've modeled so far and formated have run according to supplier specifics (before I got there I have no idea how they milled this one particular feature... its a combination of 3Dspline and equally divided control points... kinda of a art, keeping surface to remain flat)\n\u00b7 75+ in-house revisions based on company specific machine and manufacturing requirements (estimation based on \"save\" count)\n\nI'm also the back up MasterCam guy if the other quits because me and the production manager are the only guys who know the program\n\nBUT... I love what I do. And my boss/owner drivers the most piece of krap vehicle I've ever scene. Also the company just bought a EDM wire machine I've been drooling over. But, I make a little over minumum wage", "summary": "Created and maintain company parts library, responsible for key feature in company wide part design, and I make a few bucks more than minimum wage"}
{"id": "t3_4tdkge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my really close friend [23 F] really trust each other but things aren't working out right.", "post": "This is hard for me to explain because I'm not even sure how I should.\n\nThere is a girl I work with (not saying her real name, let's call her Megan.) Megan trusts me with almost everything she needs to tell someone. The same goes for me, I trust her with almost everything going on in my life. \n\nThe problem that I have is that gaining her trust, I've developed this huge bag of feelings for her. She's shown me that she cares about me quite more then usual recently. Today, she came to me and told me how she is now with someone new. She told me not to tell anyone, but at that moment, I needed to tell her how I really felt which was extremely hard for me to do. \n\nI thought she would get mad. I told her exactly how I felt, and to my surprise she wasn't mad at me at all. In fact, she was extremely happy that I told her that and that I trust her enough to even say it to her. \n\nShe gave me a big smile, but it also leaves me with the fact that she's with someone else now and I cannot do anything about my crush that has developed.\n\nI honestly have no clue how to approach this, we are still extremely close it just feels as now I can't be as close as I used to be before she got with this new person.", "summary": "Am I overreacting to a dumb situation? Is there anything else I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_grdyw", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "On Sleep.", "post": "There are twenty-four hours in each day. Most of us are unconscious for approximately eight of these, engaged in vivid hallucination, memory collation and muscle repair. How we spend the remaining sixteen is the main focus of this /r/.\n\nLet's talk about that first eight. A few years ago, polyphasic sleep became a bit of an online fad in the corners of the internet that I frequented. It was based on the idea that by splitting your sleep into several sessions each day, you could reduce the absolute quantity of sleep required. The internet is now littered with the corpses of failed polyphasic sleep blogs, documenting attempts that almost inevitably fail. I remember only 3 successful blogs in the whole time I followed it: Steve Palvina's, some blogger by the the handle of \"Puredoxyk\" and a third that escapes me at the moment.\n\nMost people who tried polyphasic sleep attempted an absurdly aggressive scheme where a 20 minute nap is taken every four hours, for a total of two hours unconscious each day. Even if it did work (and I'm dubious, especially given that even if the mental benefits of sleep could be provided, I can't see how it would accelerate the physical repair process), there's an extremely uncomfortable period of heavy sleep deprivation involved in the transition (if there is actually a working schedule to transition to). I tried a few times, and I know that I can't maintain that schedule long enough to achieve the purported effects.\n\nQuestions, then: Has anyone here done self-experimentation with respect to sleep? I'm interested in hearing about ways to increase the quality of sleep and possibly reduce the absolute quantity required, even if a total of two hours each day is unrealistic. I'm especially interested in reports from active people, who need sleep for muscle repair and growth.", "summary": "Reading the final paragraph is probably enough."}
{"id": "t3_3dh738", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "The things below got me in trouble again", "post": "Hello legal side of reddit. Obvious throw away. \nI put myself in a stupid situation that I obviously deserve but I'm wondering if I should be freaking out as much as I am.\nBasically I was on a popular anonymous social network app. I asked someone for nudes who was obviously 17, and they had me send them $10 with a popular internet based money system. Stupid me used my real email and they got my name. They found my facebook, which led them to my town (which was supposed to be completely private) and are basically saying they'll go to the police if I don't send them the rest of the money in my account. \nLet it be known that they didn't actually send any pictures, but stupid me did send money.\nIt also turns out that I was speaking to them through the same app but on a different message. They must have two accounts, but I'm sure it was the same person because they gave me the same email address in both messages. I called them out but they denied it. They also claimed to be 18 in the other message. Are they just running a scam to get my money?", "summary": "Asked someone who was obviously a year under age for a nude and gave them $10 over the internet. They got my name and my facebook and are extorting me for money. Am I as screwed as I think I am?"}
{"id": "t3_2nboks", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Dog fell into elevator shaft (faulty door), complex claims to look..didn't, dog found alive a week later, complex now being difficult about paying the vet bill..how do I approach this?!", "post": "Monday November 11th our dog escaped out of her harness as the elevator went up. We ended up on the 3rd floor and the dog ended up outside the elevator on level 1 where the door opened and the dog fell into the elevator shaft about 30 feet...fracturing her pelvis and messing up he hips as well. We asked the complex to check the elevator shaft and they claimed to have looked 3 separate times with no sight of the dog. \n\nA week later, the following Monday another resident heard whining and there was the dog in the elevator shaft with less than a foot to live under. We told them they need to pay for the vet bill and they agreed and are now being difficult. The phone calls of them claiming they looked are recorded by the complex...what can we do?!", "summary": "dog falls into elevator shaft, complex claims to look 3 times, dog found week later alive with fractured pelvis. Complex agrees to pay vet bill, now being difficult. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3xmz72", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and might lose my job.", "post": "First time poster here! This actually happened this past Friday and I've been sat wallowing in my own misery ever since, figured I'd get it off my chest!\n\nSo I started a new job a couple of months ago, moved to a completely new city, don't know the area, don't know anybody. So at the moment work encompasses my entire life, which is fine because I actually love my job! Apparently though my manager has concerns that I'm not fitting in and that I'm not happy which couldn't be further from the truth, I'm just not a naturally enthusiastic person. \n\nSo my two month review comes around and she discusses these concerns with me, some of which we've talked about before and some of which I disagree with. She had typed up two pages of comments which left me feeling like I had to defend myself. She asked me to write down any comments I had in a little box at the end............long story short I end up using the box and another two pages stapled onto the form to completely refute all of the comments she made, all in the hopes that we would have another chance to talk them over.\n\nWell, that talk never came. About an hour after I'm called into HR and was told that I had been suspended pending a review in the middle of the week. The result of which could be me losing a job I love, being stuck with rent I can't afford and bills I cannot pay. If I keep my job, I may have also completed fucked up the relationship with my manager who I actually think is really nice. \n\nLooks like Santa has a big present in his sleigh for me this year......Unemployment.", "summary": "Wrote a two page essay to my manager on why her review about me was wrong. Got suspended......might be fired. "}
{"id": "t3_2hq3yz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to strangers.", "post": "So this actually happened about a week ago, but I'm just now getting around to posting it.  I used to date this girl lets call her Britney.  We broke up and went our own ways, but we still talk now and again.  Well I was out bar hopping and saw a girl that I thought that I recognized from Britney's facebook.  Lets call her Ashley.  I wanted to know how Britney was doing so I tried to walk up to her.  She sped up and me thinking that maybe she was in a hurry sped up after her.  She looked over her shoulder.  I waved, but thought she didn't see me.  It was pretty dark after all. I finally caught up and said something like \"hey is your name Ashley?\"  She turned around and gave me a face full of mace.  Needless to say, I was exceedingly sad.  It wasn't till afterword that I noticed the creepiness of what I was doing XD.", "summary": "Trying to catch up to strangers to talk in the dark is not a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_1fq4ji", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest/most illegal thing you've seen on a flight?", "post": "I took a cross-Atlantic flight I took where two drunk college girls ran amok for most of the ~10 hour flight. They were hardly ever in their seats despite being asked multiple times. They were talking super loud to random people who obviously wanted to have nothing to do with them. In general, they made the flight miserable for everyone on the plane.\n\nOnce on the ground, the captain told everyone to stay seated so law enforcement agents could board the aircraft. The cops went straight to the girls who up until they were being cuffed, had no idea that the law was coming for them. When they were led out several people applauded.\n\nAs people were deplaning, they were being held in the jet way, crying their eyes out and begging people to defend them. I didn't see a single person acknowledge their existence as they walked by.", "summary": "Saw some annoying drunk girls get arrested after a flight for being stupid drunks while in the air."}
{"id": "t3_eq7oa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriends's grandmother is pissing me off. How can I cope?", "post": "Not sure what to do about this anymore. Been with gf for 5 years. We have a 1 year old. Unfortunately due to economic reasons, we've all had to move in with my gf's grandmother while we job hunt and save for a place of our own. This woman hates me. I have no idea why, there's never been a concrete reason given to anyone. My family isn't perfect, I don't have regular contact with most of them because of this, but I still love them, they're my family. She hates them too. She knows little pieces of their past problems, but nothing totally.\n\n The past 5 months, I've had to endure little jabs, little comments, shit she says that just gets under your skin and ticks away like a fucking time bomb. Few weeks ago, my mother contacted me and asked if she could get something sent there so I could give it to her as she was in between places. I said fine, it's just one piece of mail. Today it came and dear sweet granny said \"why is it coming here?\" \"Well, it was just one piece of mail and she needed it, won't happen again. She just doesn't have a...\" \"She doesn't have a return address? How pathetic.\" I just about fucking snapped on her, but we don't really have another option of places to live right now. Reddit, I need advice on how to keep my sanity in this place, around this woman. I can't have a conversation with her. I can't be here when my gf isn't. Its too awkward. What the fuck can I do? Murder not an option but has been fantasized about greatly.", "summary": "gf's grandmother is a bitch and I have to put up with her until we find our own place. How can I deal with the stress in the meantime?"}
{"id": "t3_3d47kl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I consider breaking up due to long term compatibility?", "post": "Im 22 (male) and my girlfriend is 21. We met last year at college and we were both seniors, we've been going out for 7 months. Things are going really well so far, we both love each other and I couldn't be happier, except for one thing. Im not sure if were compatible together long term. She see's herself living in a warm climate in the future, and I like it here in the northeast. She wants to live in the country at one point in the future and I like the suburbs. She isn't sure she wants her own kids (maybe adopt) and I think I want my own kids in the future. She doesn't see herself living in one place her whole life, and I have a family job I might need to not move far away from. I love her and am really happy, but should I end things sooner rather than later and be even more emotionally invested?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are really happy now. But are complete opposites in where we see ourselves in the future. Should I end it before we get more invested?"}
{"id": "t3_21ibde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [21 F] of 1 1/2 months, having issues with trusting her", "post": "I know it is early on in this but I really love this girl, I want things to work out, but I need some advice. We've been around each other since October, and things heated up around January. We have had a great sex life so far, have even taken a couple of small trips that went very well, and I am very happy with things.\n\nBut I also have a concern regarding our relationship. When we first met she had a BF of 5 years, and gradually I heard her talking about being unhappy so I moved in and started talking to her a little more. We really sparked, and we had one make out session while they were dating, but kept things under control. They broke up, and we started talking more and more, and I thought she was done with him. \n\nBut then we started hanging out and I noticed they still texted each other, and was ok with it at that point. Once we started dating though I felt I had a right to ask that she not see him any more. Up to that point she was upfront about them spending time together still, but claimed she just wants to be friends still, but I just can't help but think something is wrong with it. I confronted her about it and since she hasn't directly said she has been with him, but I know they text from time to time, and it really is starting to bug me. Can I say that I want it to stop completely? She already told me she is afraid of an ultimatum about it (and I'm not the type to dangle our relationship over her head), but I want it to stop.", "summary": "My GF still talks to her ex and I'm not sure if she just needs time or I need to make it known how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_2vj5ar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20 [M] 19 [F] Its going downhill after 14 months. I need Urgent help.", "post": "I'll try to make this short.\n\nI'm currently with a women, whome I've been with for 14 months, she has taken my 2 year old under her wing when we have him (Different relationship with 50/50 care). She lives with me and my parents, her parents live roughly an hour away and the town we live in, she knows barely anyone.\n\nLately thing have been.. different... when i use to wake up, i would love to wake up beside her and she loved being with me and my son. Lately though, she has been different, here is a list of things.\n\n1. She spends almost all her time on her phone on facebook messaging people when we're around eachother.\n\n2. She complains when i have my son and he has a bad nights sleep because she doesn't get to sleep much (He's in a bed in our room for now).\n\n3. She doesn't trust me to go anywhere on my own (She has verbally said that to me)\n\n4. She doesn't like me talking to anyone.\n\n5. I had a few friends before the relationship. Now no one comes near me, and she's always talking bad about them.\n\nHonestly, i use to love waking up and spending my time with here. Now i try my best to avoid interaction. I keep telling myself i need to leave her so that i can be happy, but i worry that my Son will miss her. I also don't just want to kick her out on the street with no where to go.", "summary": "Partner \"Adopts\" my son, I've lost all my friends and don't feel that i love her but i don't want her to have no where to go."}
{"id": "t3_hqerd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the sickest, most fucked up thing that's ever happened to you?", "post": "I've got bad writers block, so feed me some ideas. 4chan is meh, I find reddit to be more believable and real.\n\nI'll start with one of mine.\n\n**1.** Circumcised at the age of five. This was due to a penile infection for the majority of my childhood years, which resulted in much dickhurt. When the surgery happened, I had no anesthetic for the stitches to be taken out. I remember it to this day. Blood encrusted wire being pulled out of my ween-woo. The doctor had a crooked smile when he was pulling the shit out. My parents bought me pokemon blue after the procedure. It made mostly everything better. As long as I didn't move around, I wouldn't get dickhurt.", "summary": "Surgical wire dragged through my dick by a creepy fucking doctor when I was five yrs old."}
{"id": "t3_36g4si", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [25F] of 4 years wants me [26M] to commute 2 hours to work everyday for a year.", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for four years now and unfortunately it has always been a long-distance relationship due to our schooling/training. Usually we have been about two hours apart which has worked well so far but over the past year I have been halfway across the country for my final year of training. We've managed to stay close my visiting as often as we can and skyping nearly every day. \n\nFortunately, I have finished my training and managed to obtain a job back where I'm from (CT). Unfortunately, she is starting her yearlong residency and ended up in Maine. Our initial plan was for us to live apart for one more year since she will only be in Maine for that long and visit each other on weekends like we used to. \n\nHer latest idea is for both of us to live together in Massachusetts, while each of us commutes 2 hours (without traffic) to and from work. We've discussed the benefits and weaknesses of the plan at length and we've come to a disagreement: she believes the long commute will be worth it, while I believe it will be a huge strain on our quality of life and we should wait.\n\nI am trying to understand her point of view and have not completely shut down the idea. I can understand her frustration because we've had to put off living together for a couple of years now due to unforeseen circumstances, but I wonder what the harm is in waiting just one more year for her to finish her training and have greater geographic freedom for us to find a job in a similar area. Am I wrong in asking her to wait yet again?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for four years and she wants to live together even though it means commuting 2 hours to and from work for the both of us. I believe it will be okay to wait one more year to live together, but she disagrees. Looking for advice on how to approach the situation."}
{"id": "t3_2olp90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 2 years relationship, we have a child with 6 months, i cheated and i can't handle it anymore.", "post": "We are on a relationship with almost 3 years, it was always a long distance relationship, so we see each other only on the weekends. We found out that she was pregnant in december of the last year. \n\nIn the middle of this, i met a girl, she was 18 years old and we fell in love. I got really dizzy in this situation, with a pregnant girlfriend and in love with other girl... She didn't knew about the pregnancy, we had one night of love. (no sex)\n\nAfter this, in march, i telled her about the pregnancy, we lost our contact, we didn't talked to each other anymore; We got drama classes together, with no personal contact.\n\nI didn't tell my girlfriend about her, and in july our child was born, i decided to keep hiding the past from her. Then she found out what i did with some facebook chat histories. She didn't broke up with me, but she didn't trusted me anymore. \n\nI promised that i would do as much effort for her and our child, so we're still together, but our relationship is getting worser everyday. Meeting just on the weekends and with no confidence.\n\nI'm still in love with the other girl, and she still loving me. I don't want to stay on my broken relationship, but i can't break up because we have a little and beautiful girl that we love too much. \n\nIn one hand i want to stay with her because a break up would bring so much problems to our child and our family. In other hand, i don't love her and can't handle our relationship anymore.\n\nI think is just a matter of time to the break up.\n\nWhat should i do reddit?\n\n(Sorry for the mistakes in the text, english isn't my native language.)", "summary": "We have a child, cheated my GF, i'm in love with the other girl, can't break up because it involves our child."}
{"id": "t3_vzuym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was passed over for a well deserved promotion recently, Reddit, how should I quit?", "post": "I have worked at this company for almost 2 years now and can fill in for 90% of the people there. I am a fast learner and have excelled at every task given to me. I am always early to work, and rarely miss a day. I have an upbeat attitude and I don't complain when the work gets piled up on me (from other lazy workers). \n\nI unfortunately can't specify what company it is that I work for, sorry. I have been told that I was the next in line to become a tech. I was supposed to replace a woman working there who is leaving in 2 months. I even got a dollar raise to keep me happy. \n\nWithout a word, a new employee was hired and I found out that she is going to be the next tech!  I understand the company can do whatever it wants, but to me, it feels like a slap in the face. I am embarrassed to show my face there now because it feels like I'm a huge loser. \n\nI am thinking of just not showing up and turning off my phone, but I'd like some ideas from you creative people.", "summary": "I was passed over for promotion and I want to quit in a grand way."}
{"id": "t3_2qcd67", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by checking my neice into a dishwasher/granite counter.", "post": "this happened 4 hours ago. \n\nhad some family and friends over for christmas eve festivities. we had just finished eating supper, so my niece(8 y.o.) and i hastily ran to the tree to shake all the presents under it with our names on them and guess what we think they are (im  a 26 y.o. married man trying to teach my niece \"bad\" things i did as a child). while doing this she got really excited and kept asking at the other parents when we could open them. she got the response of \"in twenty minutes\" so being an adult with a smartphone. i set a timer. at the end of the twenty minutes we both ran into the kitchen where we proclaimed that the twenty minutes were up and that it was time for presents! she then turned to me and yelled \"belly blump!\". so i obliged the child.(i am 5'11'' 240lbs) maybe a little excited myself, thus sending her flying into the dishwasher and counter. i quickly picked her up and sat her on a stool and apologized.\n\nonly thing hurt on her was a scrape to the ankle.\nim not ready for children.", "summary": "got too excited about presents, belly bumped an 8y.o. into a counter. bad uncle."}
{"id": "t3_zmx49", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "dear Reddit, I need help!", "post": "I am currently living in a duplex with three roommates, they're all messy and hate cleaning, and I hate living in a messy house, but refuse to clean up after everyone because I am not their mother. At the end of October, our lease is up here and we're not planning on staying. They're suggesting moving into another place, I'd go along only because I can't afford my own place. Either my name will go on the lease, or my boyfriends. What are some good rules I could put in place to make sure the house actually stays decently clean? I already offered to do dishes everyday if everyone rinses their own dishes first lol.\n\nAny ideas would be appreciated, try to be serious and actually helpful rather than sarcastic and unhelpful (I know I'll probably get both types anyways)", "summary": "rules to put in place for roommates so our house stays as clean as possible."}
{"id": "t3_3cw1dh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] feel unwanted by those around me.", "post": "20M college student. In Jr high and high school I was pretty socially awkward, but over time I've gotten significantly more comfortable around people and have gotten better at interacting with them. I have a great girlfriend and a few wonderful friends who I've expressed my feelings to.\n\nI feel like people don't want me around. I don't have people asking me to do things often, and there's a lack of reciprocation with invitations to do things. \n\nNow, I figure it's because I'm not fun to be around or something. That's an easy answer, right? Or I figure I can ask those who do want me around what the deal is. Neither, seemingly.\n\nI make a big effort to be loving and engaged with people, and people always compliment me on that. Those close to me tell me that others speak highly of me and say they want me around, but said people never reach out to me directly. Despite my best efforts, to most people I'm a friend of convenience and an afterthought. Someone to make them feel good about themselves (another thing people compliment me on) without having to give anything back.\n\nIn public, I'm this cool, collected, happy go lucky/gentle and loving/etc person based on what the situation calls for. My insecurities and (infrequent) negative emotions are something I reveal to a select few.\n\nI know this is an or snapshot of my life, but its late and I have some post vacation back to reality blues and I just wanted to write down my thoughts in a place that others could offer their perspectives. Any and all perspectives are appreciated.", "summary": "disconnect in how people talk about me vs reach out to me. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I'm doing wrong or what's going on? It perplexes me and those who love me are unable to offer insight."}
{"id": "t3_3gmb22", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying on pants", "post": "Throw away for reasons.\n\nThis technically happened yesterday. Anyways, last week I was running and I fell and hurt my knee pretty bad. I put medicine on it and a band-aid and we were all good. \n\nYesterday I went to work with my mom to try on clothes for school. That morning I noticed my band-aid was looking gross so I took it off. The wound was nasty looking green, so I decided to let it air out a bit.\n\nFast forward to later when I'm trying on pants. At this point I've tried on about five pairs and none of them are working very well for me. I get another pair, a different brand from the others, and put it on. I feel something wet near my knee, and I assume it's like the watery stuff that sometimes comes out, you know? \n\nNope. I take the pants off and the inside of the pants are covered in blood near the knee area. Luckily it didn't bleed through to the outside, but I was still mortified. Didn't tell anyone, and I feel bad for the poor person who buys those pants... Not that bad of a FU, but again, I was mortified.", "summary": "I was an adventurer like you, but then I took an arrow in the knee... and ruined a pair of pants."}
{"id": "t3_2a3nsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my Boyfriend [26M] of over 2 years are discussing moving in together. Anxiety and Doubts. Wanting an outside opinion.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been in a committed relationship for just over 2 years. He is honestly one of the best people I know; very considerate, hard worker, goal-setter, funny, etc. We get along great. \n\nIn January of this year, I woke up suddenly to the fear that I don't love him, completely out of the blue. I never thought that before, no incident happened, no abuse, nothing that would bring up that doubt. Since then I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. My doctor believes this is an anxiety disorder that has pitched itself on my relationship. \n\nI cannot stop these thoughts. Even when I'm feeling good, the fear of the thoughts intrude my good mood and bring me down again. Basically, I'm terrified most of the time that this doubt is real, even though I don't want it to be. More than anything I want this to work, but it's like my mind will not let me be content. It has really affected my general behaviour, as well as my relationship, as most of the time I feel guilt for not being able to \"feel\" the love like I used to, even though I'm sure it's there. I think I would be lost without him.\n\nSkip ahead to two days ago, we started discussing us moving in together. This is not the first time it's been brought up, but it is the more serious of the conversations we've had. The thing is, I'm scared. I'm scared of a financial commitment, I'm afraid that I'm lying to myself (even though I tell myself on a daily basis that it's the anxiety speaking).  \n\nI should also that this is the first long-term relationship I've been in, so I really don't know how you're supposed to feel in a long-term relationship. \n\nSo, Lovers of reddit, I guess I'm asking if this is normal, or if anyone has experience with a situation with this. If there is one thing I know, it's that I don't want to lose him, but I'm not sure how to navigate this.", "summary": "I have doubts about my LTR due to anxiety and am unsure if I should commit to moving in together. What's your opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_2p23p0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [18F] texted me [17M] and my girlfriend [17F] saw. Now she's suspicious and sending me one word/ letter texts. What can I do to assure her that she's doesn't have anything to worry about?", "post": "The conversation between my ex and I was just a friendly exchange. She told me that a girl on her volleyball team asked her if she knew who I was. We sent a couple texts back and forth, then we ended up talking about how things are going and it was just nice to talk to her. \n\n     Now for the part about me messing up. I took a screenshot of my messages, showing my girlfriend's contact name because I put some hearts next to it.. Yes I know such cheesy typical high school shit. But she saw that my ex had texted me and started to sound annoyed with me. Now, don't get me wrong here, she has a Right to be suspicious. But after I told her how the conversation between my ex and I started. She starts sending me 'K'.. and all those great one letter/ word responses. \n\n     After we talked about our conversation, I also brought up my band. This is really all leading up to how she sent me off tonight, with one great text. Anyways, I told her that the guys thought we were practicing tomorrow, but we scheduled a date after school. So she kept saying oh if you want to practice I'm totally okay with that. But I'm thinking, let's not play this game. So I told her that I didn't want to practice and we already had plans so that's that. I thought it was all fine and she was over the ex girlfriend thing but then she sent this: \"Between the band thing and your ex... I think I'll sleep now. Night.\"\n\n     So I'm asking, am I over thinking the text that my girlfriend sent? Or what should I do to prove to my girlfriend that she doesn't have anything to worry about? I'm sorry for brining this teenage bullshit to this sub but I feel like I really need help.", "summary": "My girlfriend saw that my ex texted me. Now she's sending me one word/ letter answers. What should I do to assure her that she doesn't have anything to worry about?"}
{"id": "t3_2afonq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] and her [17 F], 7 months, feel like her depression is making us fade away.", "post": "Hello reddit!\n\nTo keep it short, here it is. My girlfriend is really depressive from time to time. She takes pills for her mood. Recently, she told me she dreamt of an old crush and said they were having romantic sessions. She also told me she isn't trustworthy because she broke up a friendship between her and her best friend because of different highschools. She's a good person tho and she told me she wouldn't cheat me or leave me without a valid reason. But because of her depression, she has quick mood swings in which she can change her opinion about things pretty fast. And, nevertheless, her period makes it even worse. And we get to moments where she'd leave me because of some random reasons.\n\nI got to know her really good, and she is yet the only person that understands my feelings, which is really important for me as I'm pretty much a social outcast, like her. I'm commited to her, in the sense that I wouldn't let her go, because we need each other's compassion and love.\n\nWhat can I do further on to keep her happy and keep her close to me? Or should I take another path? And before you reply, please explain your answer.", "summary": "Girlfriend is really depressive, what should I do? Stay close to her or take another path?"}
{"id": "t3_18l1uk", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reentering higher education", "post": "There are a lot of details with minimal relevance, so I'll try and keep this short:\n\nUntil I caved under the weight of crippling social anxiety and ADHD, I was a gifted student and loved education. I left school and worked a full time job in customer service for five years. I've gotten help and learned to cope with my mental health issues. I have a good life. \n\nIf I returned to my old school, the highest GPA I could graduate with would be 2.5. Is it possible (in the US) to move forward in spite of my prior scholastic failings?\n\nThe only options I'm seeing are non-traditional. Harvard Extension School looks very promising. My biggest concern is the asterisk that will sit next to my degree on every application and resume.", "summary": "Crap college transcript. What options do I have for moving forward with school?"}
{"id": "t3_1hm098", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It feels like one step forward, two steps back.", "post": "It's been a couple months now, I've been on dates, I dropped almost 20 pounds, I've made new friends, I've posted all of my frustrations, I've gotten feedback and made some major life changes. I have a whole new life. I'm enlisting in the military and will likely be leaving by the start of 2014. It's a great opportunity for me and I couldn't be more excited.\n\nHowever, I [24/f] may have drank a whole bottle of wine a few nights back and texted him [29/m] about the fact that I'm enlisting and want to get some closure and get together and talk before I leave. I didn't expect a reply, I actually forgot about it until two days later, when he replied.\n\n\"Sure, we could get together. Don't know when I'm free.\" My heart dropped in to my stomach, and I realized that despite the fact that I had convinced myself I didn't miss him, and was able to maintain NC for almost a month, I missed him and really did want to see him. So I replied and told him texting him was a mistake, I had been drunk. Then I followed up with a text clarifying, telling him that I meant that I had decided, after our last conversation, to let go. He didn't respond.\n\nBecause apparently I am a crazy person, rather than accepting that he really was unwilling to talk to me, I texted him today, a day after his response and my two responses, asking him what it was that I did that made him hate me so much that he couldn't respond to a text. I mean really, I may have been the one to walk away, but that was after he cheated with multiple people, lied to me constantly, almost made me cry in front of his roommate, and many, many other things. I walked away for my own good, not because I didn't love him or want to be with him.\n\nI can't figure out what it is that's made him so emotionally numb to me--how he could go from telling me he wanted to be with me, spending 10 months with me, all of that, to refusing to speak to me. I just don't understand. And now it's all I'm thinking about again.", "summary": "I done fucked up. Broke NC, now it's all back in my head."}
{"id": "t3_3ec9n5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/F] feel like I may need to choose between two guys [18/M] [18/M], but I don't know how soon or how to choose.", "post": "I've basically developed feelings for two guys that I'm friends with and they both have feelings for me as well. They both live about 30 minutes away with me so distance is actually an issue with both of them. Due to distance we haven't been to meet up much.\n\nGuy A and I hung out once about 3 weeks ago and everything went well and we even kissed. He told me he wasn't sure if he would be ready for a relationship but he could also see one in the future. He let me know he liked me though. Guy A is actually going to be going to college in a couple of months so he'll be living about an hour and a half away from me. We tend to joke around a lot but things tend to get sexual often.\n\nGuy B and I have been talking for about 2-3 months (so I've known him longer) now and he just let me know last night that he had feelings for me but didn't want to intervene between Guy A and I. We've had plans to meet up for a while now, it's just the distance factor that's messing it all up. Guy B tends to want to listen to my rants and he's also really supportive when it comes to my passions.\n\nWhen it comes to experience, Guy A has done everything while Guy B hasn't done anything. And I'm honestly fine with either.\n\nI talk to both guy A and guy B every day, and feel like I can talk about anything with either of them. Maybe I'm not at the point where I have to \"choose\" either really, but I kinda feel bad flirting with both of them. What do I do?", "summary": "I have feelings for two guys who both have feelings for me, not really sure what I do at this point. Both are great guys and I'd be lucky to be with either."}
{"id": "t3_3lpdis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] ex [16 F] of a couple of months has changed into a boring person", "post": "I was alwasy a shier guy, I never had many friends, but with the ones I had I was able to have a great time. Even in school I was able to make fun of myself or make jokes.\n\nBut then I started dating one of my classmates. I know this was a mistake, she was over controlling, she made me feel bad for \"acting childish\" if I made a joke , she didn't want me to talk about my hobbies because they were not ineteresting to her, she did't want me hang out with my friends...\n\nSo I broke up with her after 3 months of dating about a month and a half ago, during holidays. I had a fine rest of the summer. But as the school started, some weird depression and anxiety hit me. I realised I had nothing to talk about, even with my best friend and in school I just sit silently. \n\nI want to believe that I've got over the relationship, but I still feel like I have not. Even some people told me that while I was dating her I was a boring guy doing everything as she told me. I am getting super anxious that my friends won't like me anymore because she changed me forever, that I am not good enough for people around me because they want to hang out around funny people etc.", "summary": "My ex would make me feel bad for being myself, now I worry that people hate the person I've become."}
{"id": "t3_1shjgw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my first date [22 F], What happened?", "post": "So I had this great first date, where we had proper conversation, laughed, drank and ended it at her place.\n\nSince, I was only in city for the weekend I have been texting her and we scheduled a date when I am in the city again. Which would be soon, just waiting for my car to be fixed up. I even added her on FB, which is really rare for me.\n\nNow the problem is, I haven't heard from her in a week. Last text from her was on 4/12. Sent her a text on 5th and 8th. She also deleted me from FB.\nI understand this much attachment early on is not good but i want to know more about her and spend time together. She maybe looking for new job or just be busy for Christmas. Obviously if its something i did, i haven't figured it out cause the texts were just about how her day was etc.\n\nWhat are my options ladies?\n\n* Should I give her one more text on the birthday 11/12 and tell her how I feel and want to hear back from her? Sounds pretty desperate and push her away, but if you agree on this how should i approach it?\n\n* Leave her (which would be painful but hey that's life)\n\n* Get a second date ASAP (Could plan a trip to the city coming weekend)", "summary": "Went out on a first date, had sex, exchanged texts. Haven't heard back from a week. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1b9e2o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of Reddit, how would you like someone to respond to you after expressing a complaint?", "post": "I will probably get downvoted to hell for the apparent misogyny in this post.\n\nI have found in my experience that when my male friends, family, and coworkers express a concern or a complaint about their life, family, workplace, health, whatsoever, they like to hear the listener express sympathy and offer a solution to the problem.  \"Gee, that's a good idea.  I'll try that, thanks.\"  *I help problem solve their situation and we find a way to make things better for all involved.*\n\nI have found in my experience that when my female riends, family, and coworkers express a concern or a complaint about their life, family, workplace, health, whatsoever, they either dismiss an offer of a amelioratory suggestion or get outright offended at the proffered solution.  It seems that women like to voice their complaints and have the listener respond with \"oh, I'm sorry to hear that\", or just a nod.   *They don't want their situation to improve.  They want to vocalize their concerns and be validated by someone who listens.", "summary": "What is the right phrase to use when a female friend complains to you about her boyfriend, her boss, her roommates, her parents, her phone, etc.?"}
{"id": "t3_43c3o1", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Moving with 3 year old out of her grandparents home.", "post": "My now wife and I moved into her parents house 4 years ago when we found out we were expecting a child. The original plan was to save up enough money to get a better place for the three of us. Well being young and stupid, we wracked up more debt then we had planned and ended up staying far longer than anticipated. Fast forward to now,  we finally got a place of our own and we will be all settled in tomorrow night. Our daughter has lived with her grandparents around her whole life and I am terrified of how this transition will be for her. If anyone has some advice I would really appreciate it!", "summary": "daughter born while living with in laws. Been here 3 years. Moving out tomorrow. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2xzq0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] went to a glitter dance party and bought some home so now there is a glitter in my SO [30M] apartment. He is pissed about this and feels his personal space has been disrespected.", "post": "So me and my SO have known each other for about a year and been in a \"relationship\" for 3 to 4 months. Friday night we went to a dance party called glitther. They had an amazing photographer doing glitter photos so of course i poor glitter all over my chest and begin posing for the camera. Later that night we get to his place. I get naked shake the glitter off onto him a bit transfer glitter to couch and my surroundings. In the mist of this he is taking pics of my breast cover in glitter, he is taking pictures of me naked in glitter. I shower, we go to bed, sex time, and now its time for me to go home. He says he asked me to clean up the glitter which i do not remember and I replied  \"its not a big deal just vacuum it up\". 100% sounds like something i would say but again i dont remember it and he apparently only said it one time and never pressed the issue. Now 4 days later i call him he is annoyed their is glitter in his living room in the couch and other places. Plus his vaccum has been broken for a month. He feels disrespected, he hates the glitter everywhere. He is spending time he rather not spent cleaning up the glitter. All understanble but...... he is trying to make this into me just being 100% inconsiderate of his time and space. I never ment for this mess to annoy him, and if he would have really looked me in the eyes and said you need to get this all up before you leave i would have. I have no problem cleaning up after myself and at the time i didnt think he'd be this upset and deep down i was like a couple runs of the vaccum and he will be good to go. Forgetting his vaccum is broken.He seems to not even want to speak to me and i feel he is also upset i feel he is overreacting. Should i be more sympathetic or is he being a bit dramatic? Is glitter that bad. I mean he wasnt complaining when he was taking them glitter titty pics.", "summary": "SO is pissed he has glitter all over his apartment and says he asked me to clean it up before i left which i dont remember and now feels his time and space have been disrespected. I simply feel its just glitter. Should i be more sympathetic or is he being a little too sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_k5055", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "He's crazy about me, but I have my eye on another guy...I dont want to lead him on.", "post": "I have a good guy friend that really likes me. (Lets call him Bob)We hang out, text, talk on the phone at times, etc...and he keeps asking me out. I told  him no because I didnt wanna get involved in a relationship right now. But lately I've had feelings develop for another guy who feels the same towards me (lets call him Chuck)....and him and I might get together. I know I said I didnt wanna be in a relationship right now, but I feel Chuck and I could go somewhere with what we have more so than Bob and I, who I dont really have feelings for like that anyways.\nSo my question is..how do I not lead on Bob? What can I do to avoid hurting him? \n\n(By the way, we're all High School age.)", "summary": "I dont want to lead my guy friend on because I have feelings for another guy."}
{"id": "t3_2ktgdy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to \"secretly\" snap a pic of a man with a huge eyebrow in the bus", "post": "I really believe this is one of the most akward moments in my life.\nSo as i enter the line bus with my friends,as we do everyday to get home,we notice a guy with a HUGE eyebrow.Well I couldn't resist taking a picture and in the rush of taking the picture i forgot that i had the shutter sound and the flash on,so as i hit the volume button(iPhone),not only it sounded loud as fuck,but with the flash made some people turn around and look directly at me including the eyebrow guy.So here i am standing with my phone in my hands and people looking at me,my friends dying of laughter and then the eyebrow guy knew that i tried to sneak a pic of his huge eyebrow so he kept staring at me angry and after a lil while he angrily asked me to delete the photo.", "summary": "I tried to sneak a pic of a guy with a huge eyebrow,he understood me and he told me to delete the photo"}
{"id": "t3_lgc1s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the weirdest phone call you have ever received?", "post": "Mine happened about 45 minutes ago.  A guy that I was stationed with in the Navy, in Hawaii, 7 years ago called me.  I've kept the same cell phone number for the past ten years or so, so it's not completely crazy that someone would still have it.  The first words out of his mouth were not \"Hey!  How have you been?!\" but rather, \"Hey, uh, I was stationed with you, remember? Well, I need sixty dollars or I'm going to jail for six months.\"  \n\n  He then went on to tell me that he had been involved in a hit and run and leaving the scene, and that he was sixty dollars away from coming up with all of the cash that he needed for the fines.\n\nI'm a nice person and all, but geez, seven years and the first time you contact me is to tell me a sob story about going to jail!  I should probably mention that he has a pretty bad Oxy habit that he started while he was in the Navy, and sounded ridiculously strung out on the phone.  So, not to surprising I guess.  \n\n  I told him that I didn't have any money to lend him and he hung up quickly.", "summary": "A guy I was in the Navy with 7 years ago calls me and asks me to Western Union him $60 so he won't go to jail for a hit and run.  When I told him nope, he hung up."}
{"id": "t3_1b30t2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: Had a bad day, until something surprising cheered me up.", "post": "Pardon my French, but today fucking sucked. I won't go into details but basically at the end of the day, I am left feeling dejected and unwanted. So I decided to head to bed early and as a complete routine action, I took my clothes off to get into my pajamas. I did so in front of the mirror, and all of a sudden I realized that I wasn't that upset anymore. Starring back at me was this girl with a HOT BOD - a feeling of joy and pride hit me. It reminded me that this was something good in my life, the fact that I am healthy and fit. \n\nLooking in the mirror never really had any bad effects on me, but it certainly never made me feel HAPPY. It is usually a routine part of my day that I fly through as if it didn't matter. Taking 5 minutes to look at my body in the mirror and admire my hard work over the last 6 months gave me an instant reason to live.", "summary": "Looked in a mirror, and all of a sudden realized how far I've come. Cheered me up from a bad day."}
{"id": "t3_hkcfa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when your dog bites you?", "post": "I adopted a six month old dog, I have had him for 3.5 months, and he's in the early stages of training.  He has never shown food or toy aggression before, in fact I make it a point to wiggle my fingers in his food bowl or add a treat when he eats to curb just this situation.  \n\nTonight he was chewing on a ball with a biscuit inside, nothing out of the ordinary.  He had chewed off some bits of the ball and to make sure he didn't swallow them I reached to remove the rubber bits.  That's when he snapped and bit.  I have a pretty good bruise, but he didn't rip my flesh open.  Considering the strength of his teeth I'd say I got off lightly.  I admit reaching for a toy a dog is enjoying is a dicey business, but as I said before he has never shown toy/food aggression with me.  \n\nThere was no warning growl, just the snap and bite.  The boyfriend came out of the back room and much drama ensued with a total dog freak out (snarling, baring of teeth, growling) as he took the dog by the collar to the time out kennel.  We kept the dog in the penalty box for fifteen minutes then calmly let him out, gave him some ice to chew on, gave him a few commands (sit, down, watch me) and praise.  \n\nIs this an appropriate punishment?  I'm wondering after this incident am I royally screwed and now he'll be toy/food aggressive from now on? I'd really love to hear other stories from reddit dog owners on how you guys have dealt with your own dog aggression issues.", "summary": "My dog bit me in a first time show of toy/food aggression, I gave him a time out, did I handle it correctly?  Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2u5xdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] 3 months together, can't tell how invested he is in the relationship", "post": "We both are full time grad students, and it is difficult to spend much time together during the week. I feel I try to be with him as much as possible, but I am not sure he is doing the same. The relationship is somewhat new, so I don't want to become all annoying and seem so needy. We were friends before we got together, so I know he is very private with his personal life and that he likes to have his own time. I am even suprised we got together at all considering how much he likes his independance. \nI fully trust him, he is very honest and I am in no way afraid he is interested in anyone else or that he is cheating or any of that. \nI like him so much, but I have no idea how he feels about me at this point. He says he misses me when I'm not around and he is great with me when we are together on the weekends, but I don't know. I'm just afraid I end up liking him too much or completely fall in love with him, and one day he just calls it quits.  \nI had a long term relationship end terribly a year ago, and I would just hate having to go through it again.", "summary": "New reltionship; really like him, an dI'm afraid he might not be as invested as I am in the relationship. Should I wait to see what happens? is it too soon to worry about stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_2h8wmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend won't have sex with me because he cheated on his ex.", "post": "Backstory: I'm a 20 year old female, and the guy I'm seeing is 24. Let's call him Alex. \n\nAlex and I have been seeing each other for about a month, so I'm not completely invested but just enough to make this hard on me.  \n\nDuring this time we've rarely talked about his past. He's an introvert so I didn't think anything was odd about this, I figured he needed time. He knows everything I've been through in my past relationships seeing as I am an open book. \n\nI had just recently got out of something that ended pretty badly, and I wanted to take things slow. As far as I knew, he hadn't been in a relationship in quite some time. Wrong. \n\nFast forward to last night, were lying in bed about to get down to it, (This is the first time we'd be sleeping together) and he can't get up it. I had just given him head so he told me needed like 10 minutes. Makes sense. 15 minutes goes by and nothing. \n\nI'm totally annoyed at this point because I feel like he isn't even trying. I roll over and start browsing reddit and he says to me, \"I have to tell you something, and it's really hard for me to say\" \n\nI was excepting ED but what I got was way worse. He basically explains to me that he felt really guilty about cheating on his girlfriend,  and he was hoping that I would help snap out of it, but he started to like me. But he can't have sex with me because he still feels really guilty. Turns out this happened only two months ago - so pretty recently. \n\nAt this point I'm obviously furious because he's called me a failed rebound in fancy words. I'm struggling to get dressed and get the hell out of there, but I'm also listening to his explanation.\n\nAnd now I have no idea what to do. He says he wants to keep seeing me, but he just can't have sex with me until he figures why he cheated, to make sure it never happens again.\n\nHelp.", "summary": "found out my boyfriend cheated on his ex, and can't have sex until he figures out why"}
{"id": "t3_3b32qb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [m/18] want to break up with my girlfriend[f/18] but there is one huge obstacle in the way.", "post": "So have been together for eight months and I still love her its just our time to end. This sucks I don't know what to do. Anyway there is a guy that I am sort of friends with but he is in my larger group of friends and he is in love with my GF. \n\nI think that if I break up with her HE is going to ask her out and she might say yes. This would devastate me I mean it would literally put me into a depression. Is there anyway I can ask her to not do this when we break up? \n\nI know this might sound messed up, but i do sincerely still love and care about her. Its just that the spark is gone and I am not sure what to do. \n\nWe are seniors in high school and were going to break up for college anyway.", "summary": "Want to break up with my girlfriend but concerned that she is going to start dating an semi-friend of mine and that would kill me. How do I ask her to not do that?"}
{"id": "t3_4551vu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] attitude towards women makes it almost impossible to date. How do I change?", "post": "Before I get called a misyoginist let me give a bit of background. I was the nice kid in hs who was very trusting of others, waited a whole year to ask his crush out to get shut down. Many more things happened after that affected my hesitant attitudes in all things involving long term relationships. I was raised around mostly women and I am a very emotional guy.There was once a pattern of women constantly telling me \"you're too emotional\" which I have been working through. Now my issue is that I tend to dismiss anything positive about a girl I meet even if it seems as if we had a great time. I have become emotionally distant to the point of not caring a bit about women I have slept with for months. This is obviously not healthy and I want to take steps to change that. About 9 months ago I met a girl who was so amazing in my eyes. The best way I could describe it was that we discussed topics from history to culture for hours on the phone and it was some of the best times I have had. I usually get bored after a minute on the phone wih other girls and rather text. Anyway she ghosted me after a couple weeks  without any reason.I know it could have been the way I acted in our last date since I was being very sexually suggestive even though she clearly expressed it was too early. The thing is I wanted something real with her but I was telling myself how she was not the best I could do physically and all those other things. How do I become a more respectful guy when it comes to dating? I sometimes act like a jerk and act careless while I know a part of me doesn't feel good about that behavior.", "summary": "I am emotionally distant towards women and force myself to see the negative in everything they do. How do I become more respectful towards women and improve my dating life?"}
{"id": "t3_3e7ek3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/M] suspect my GF [21/F] wants to break up with me. Help me find the words to say to prevent it.", "post": "I would never expect myself to post here without a throwaway, but here it goes.\n\nI've been with her for over 2 years now, and things have slowly been on the decline since I've had something traumatic happen to me that has made me fall into a pretty deep depression. Ever since, I've just been such a bummer. I started to nitpick her more and other stuff, and I didn't even notice it. Whatever emotions I was going through kind of made me think nothing of what I was doing. Things became a cycle of me doing shit, then me bottling it up when she calls me out on it, then me thinking it was actually her who's misunderstanding something. It becomes a terrible, bottled up, he-said she-said, and no problems get fixed.\n\nEssentially, I was becoming a selfish douche and I didn't see it. Up until last week (last time we talked in person), I was still blaming her for a lot of stuff still, thinking that what I've been doing isn't that bad at all. Right now, we're on a break, but we're supposed to see each other this weekend and see if something is still possible.\n\nAfter talking to various people about my faults, I've come to realize that I've been such a douche. I can understand why she would rather hang out with friends rather than me (Heck, I don't think I'd want to hang out with me with what I've heard). \n\nSure, I'd love to tell her all this like I've put it here, but the problem is the whole part about the cycle. We do have a lot of problems to sort out, and sometimes we do, but then things go back to the shitter. This cycle has happened a lot of times. Now that I understand a few more things, I feel like we can break the cycle now, but I need to tell her all this stuff in a way that would get her to possibly give me another chance (out of like 7 chances; this girl is a keeper).\n\nSo, how do I word this stuff in a way where I actually mean it this time?", "summary": "Depression made me a giant selfish douche, driving girlfriend away, help me put the right words together to keep her."}
{"id": "t3_wl1w9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure if I should try to advise my younger brother", "post": "Not sure if this is the right subreddit to post it in, I'll gladly move it if there's a better place.\n\nI'm 16M he's 12M, we don't see each other a lot because of school and sports so we aren't exactly close. He was in a 'relationship' a couple of months ago and apparently took it harshly when she broke up with him. Now recently he left his email logged in and his most recent mail was a conversation with his 'ex' and he was spouting some pretty over the top stuff like \"can't stand to be without you\" \"I'd do anything for you\" etc.\n\nSo I understand that he's being a stupid middle schooler and middle schoolers are stupid, its not like I wasn't like that and didn't regret stuff I said/did back in middle school hell even freshman year of high school. So part of me wants to just let him figure it out on his own and have some regrets but get through it.\n\nOn the other hand though, I was wondering if I should try to be a good big brother and give him some advice. I certainly would have appreciated some honest advice when I was in middle school, and I think it could help him out. So moral of the story I don't really know what to do.", "summary": "Little brother is being a dumb middle schooler, not sure if/how I should advise him or let him say dumb things and sort out his mistakes"}
{"id": "t3_3xmpp0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [23/M] girlfriend [22/F] as well as my parents and extended family are refusing to talk to me because of the way I acted under stress at Christmas dinner.", "post": "Like I said, I was under stress so please try not to judge. I think my girlfriend is going to break up with me and it doesn't help that my family is ignoring me right now. \n\nSo I was having Christmas dinner with my parents and aunts and uncles and my little sister who is 11. She and her friends saw Star Wars TFA when it came out, which was something I didn't get to do thanks to work. I have yet to see it which was why I wasn't in a good mood during this event. My uncle who is also a die hard Star Wars fan asked her what she thought of the movie. She said it was great and let out A HUGE FUCKING SPOILER. I couldn't believe it! I laid into her and said \"What the fuck Suzie?? You can't just say that you fucking cunt!\" Then I slapped her. Like, literally open hand slapped her across her face and it knocked her out of her chair. She ran away while everyone at the table told me to get the hell out. I've been trying to apologize but my family just won't listen to reason. This movie was super important to me and she ruined it. Not even my girlfriend is speaking to me. How can I fix this?", "summary": "May have hit my younger sister. Family refuses to speak to me."}
{"id": "t3_3wqzvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A romantic comedy come true: My (17/M) crush (17/F) likes my best friend (17/M).", "post": "Hey, I'm a 17 year old guy, what's new? I'm stuck in a stupidest mess right now, and my whole heart and mind hurts like crazy. \n\nRecently, I've been getting to know more and more about a girl (17) I've basically crushed on since I was 13. We were getting to know each other better and better, and we made fun of each other from time to time. Getting nearer and nearer to Christmas, I thought it'd be great to get her something. So I started chatting with her on Facebook, until late into 2am in the morning, when she told me about how she had feelings for someone. I, of course, being really curious, asked about it. I took me an hour before she was willing to tell me. Tell me the heart wrenching fact that she liked my best friend (also 17).\n\n Now, I was always curious about their relationship. They were close friends, closest two friends of opposite gender can be without being lovers. They went out together, snapped like crazy to each other (so many streaks), and all that jazz. At one point, even I thought they were cute together. However, when I found out that she liked my best friend, my heart sank. 6 months, she told me, that she felt this way for him. 6 months, I've been in the dark, thinking about ways we could get together. But all this time, her heart was with him. She seemed really torn, she didn't want to ruin their amazing friendship, and yet wanted to get together with him. She asked me to find out if he liked her or not. She said it was critical to find out if she should give up on this possible relationship, or go for it. This entire time too, before knowing what she was talking about, I gave her advice, suggesting to her to take the risk. I still really like her, and giving up on this is not really an option to me. What do I do reddit?", "summary": "Crush likes best friend, wants me to ask best friend if he likes her or not, and go on from there. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1d94v7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] I don't if i should approach the girl [21/f] I met in a party", "post": "So I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years about a month and a half ago, for several reasons. And after that i started going to the parties in my university to have fun and get over the loneliness that came after the breakup. This past friday I went to another party, and started dancing and chatting with a girl i've known for a couple of years (who i always thought was awesome, we've much in common) and we started dancing/drinking together, the more we danced, the closer we were getting from eachother, until at a certain point we started kissing, it felt weird, but nice. We kept on kissing and dancing intimately until her friend (who she had gone to the party with) said she was leaving, and with that this girl said she'd leave too, she grabbed my hand and I accompanied her and waited til she caught a taxi and left.\n\n After that I didn't feel like going back to the party, so i went back home. Once i was home she texted me to make sure I made back home alright, and we said good night to each other. That was the last time I talked to her so far.\n\nI haven't been able to get her out of my head since, and considered the possibility of us dating, I came to the conclusion that i want to try to make this happen. But I'm still a bit afraid that i'm feeling this because i'm not used to being alone, I told myself it wasn't the case, but i'm relatively inexperienced in relationships.\n\nSo at this point I want to know whether it's a good idea to contact her and tell her what i feel, or should I just continue to act like it never happened (very hard to, since she's a friend of my sister's, and this wasn't the first time we partied together). If possible i'd like to know how to approach a person in these circumstances.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl I've known for years at a party, about a month after i ended my 3-year long relationship, need to know what to make of this"}
{"id": "t3_rxgg7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate doesn't wash his hands. Ever.", "post": "Been sharing a bathroom with this guy since moving in in September, always noticed he never had soap next to his sink. I asked him a while back, he told me 'I use the little bottle by your sink.' Good enough for me, I let it go. But he has had some... stomach issues this past week and has been making bathroom trips all night when the house is silent. One time he goes, I hear a flush, then door opens and he leaves. I found it odd, so I listened the next few times (weird, I know), and never heard the sink. Not even once. \n\nSo I hid the soap in my room, taking it with me to the bathroom, thinking to myself 'OK he's either going to ask where the soap is, break out a bar of soap for himself, or he isn't washing his hands.' Two days of him not saying anything later, I confront him, asking how he washes his hands. He tells me the same story about using my soap, at which point I tell him it hasn't been in the bathroom for the last two days. He struggles for an excuse for a second, settling on calling me a liar, saying I must have just taken it out of the bathroom at that moment. We go back and forth for a bit, I ask him straight up when the last time he washed his hands was, he told me, and I shit you not, 'I took a shower yesterday...', so I told him he has to be washing his hands, especially since he's sick. He tells me to stop acting like his mother and locks me out of his room.", "summary": "Roommate doesn't wash hands, proved it, he got mad at me for acting like his mom."}
{"id": "t3_36gli5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 21 [M] and currently dating 20[f] for about a month ,but falling for my best friend of 1year 20[f] and have no clue what to do.", "post": "Well I've been dating this girl named Charolette for about a month and a half everything is going fine. We don't argue , she's nice and overall a great person. I met her at a bar and we hit it off really well. I've met her parents and their great people , but the relationship is getting dull. \n\nHere's where Debby comes in. I've known her for about a year now and she's amazing. She's cute , funny and always keeps things interesting. Lately all I can think about is her and I think I'm starting to fall in love with her. \n\nHere's a huge issue she broke up with her ex whose a complete ass , however she's contemplating getting back with him or not. I just want to tell her how I feel , but I'm not sure how to approach specially since I'm already dating somebody else. \n\nI met Charolette at a bar. I've met her family and hit it off really well with them. She one of the nicest people you'd ever meet , but lately it seems the relationship is getting dull and I don't know how long its going to last. \n\nWhile Jessy I've been up thinking about her all night we speak all the time and never have a dull moment. I really think I'm starting to fall for her , but I'm not sure if she feels the same. To be honest I think I had a small little crush on her from the beginning. She makes me feel special a type of way nobody else can. We spend hours together and have share far more similar hobbies than my current GF.", "summary": "Dating my gf for a month and now I'm starting to fall for my best friend what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bvgwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with the girl from the play [??F]", "post": "My little brother was performing in a play last night so I went to go watch him perform.  While there, there was a girl in the cast who was absolutely stunning.   It was a pretty small community theater, so the seats were fairly close to the stage, and (this could be wishful thinking) she made eye contact with me and smiled.  I smiled back.\n\nHowever, we weren't able to stay very long after the show as my little brother is only 9 and my mom needed to take him home to put him to bed, so I didn't get a chance to talk to her after the show (I was my mom and little brother's ride home).  I got her name from the play bill that was passed out, and found her on facebook but I just want to make sure I'm not being a total creep by messaging her.\n\nAlso what the hell would I say?  I've been trying to put myself out there (so to speak) more recently and don't want to shy away from talking to a girl that I think is cute, but I have also been single for a few years (gym, lawyer etc.) so don't really know if messaging her is kosher.", "summary": "Saw a cute girl at a play, want to message her on facebook, don't know if it's creepy or not."}
{"id": "t3_rqlg7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did anyone go to prom and regret it? Did anyone not go and regret it?", "post": "THIS SENTENCE IS SARCASTIC --->It has come to a point in my life where I have to make a VERY important, life altering decision of whether on not to attend prom. As of right now, I am not going to this grand show of fancy-ness and instead plan on sitting in my room eating ice cream with lots of hot fudge and pretzels on top while watching Stargate. My friends do not approve of my decision and have been pleading for me to join them. I already have a (free!) dress, but there's so many other costs such as tickets and fancy things my group wants to do. I might also add that I am not very close to very many people at my school. Also, I'll be the only one in my group without a date. I went with my friend's owl figurine for Homecoming and he wasn't a very good dancer.", "summary": "Should I attend prom or stay in my room, eat ice cream, and watch Stargate? It is expensive despite my dress being free. Also I am dateless and owl figurines can't dance. Will I actually regret not going to the overrated event? "}
{"id": "t3_1gk94t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am just pissed/sad that I can't play an instrument.", "post": "A quick thing about me, most stuff I pick up I can do and become really good at it, and soon, beat the people who taught me. I did this with auto mechanics, gaming, education, driving, just SO MANY things. However, for some DAMN reason I can not pick up and play an instrument. The guitar felt like a toy. My hands were all over the strings. Got pissed and went to bass. I was able to play a bit of it a heck of a lot better than guitar, enough to accurately walk the strings a bit. Still, I had a hard time being able to slap and pluck, so I got mad and dropped it. I wanted to learn the drums, but while practicing on household items I was not able to create seperate rythms with each limb, so it has put me off. I have always wanted to be able to do some form of art. Poetry and writing was difficult, I can not draw to save my life and music is all the same. Any advice would be great, I just want to be able to PLAY.", "summary": "I am shit at every instrument I have tried but still want to play something. Sad because I can not. Need advice or reccomendations."}
{"id": "t3_1a9udf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I quit my sucky hellish job now that I have a much better job offer?", "post": "I AM SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW!\n\nLong have I dreamed of the moment I tell my douche boss to take his job and shove it....long have I imagined him breaking into tears and begging me to stay while I non-chalantly brush his arms from around my ankle. A dream I know, but it might become reality! I carry alot of idiots and brown nosers and slackers in my company, and they get all the raises and I get the shaft, so I know I will be missed...Im sure my boss will now offer me a better salary ( since he wont think Im bluffing anymore), but I want to go out WITH A BANG! Help me scheme Reddit, live your dreams vicariously (sp?) through me ( keep in mind jail is not an option :P)", "summary": "How would you quit your despised job now that you have a better one?"}
{"id": "t3_3ltx7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am shorter than my girlfriend [22F] when she wears heels and she refuses to wear anything but heels.", "post": "Alright, so this is going to sound super petty but I think it looks weird when a girl is taller than the guy she's with. Normally it's never a problem for me. I'm 5'10\" and the girls I've dated always happened to be around 5'3\"-5'6\". This girl I'm dating now though, is 5'8\". It wasn't a problem when we first met because she was wearing flats and I was wearing boots, so I didn't even think about it.\n\nNow that we're dating, she constantly wants to wear heels anytime we go anywhere. Now she's towering over me and I hate it. When we first went out I didn't want to start off on the wrong foot so I didn't say anything except for just \"Wow. You're tall. Alrighty then.\" And now it's been two months and she's still doing it. I've spoken to her about it, saying that I hate how it makes us look and she keeps saying it's fine and that I'm being stupid for thinking it looks bad. What do.", "summary": "Girlfriend wears high heels. I don't like her being taller than me. I feel de-feeted. Looking for a sole-ution."}
{"id": "t3_4i1esq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have gone on a few casual dates with a girl [20F], but I think I missed the physical attraction window", "post": "So first off, I know I'm 20 and asking for basic level relationship advice. My first girlfriend was in 9th grade and that lasted for 5 years so I have no experience dating or flirting beyond the middle school level. \n\nThis girl and I get along really well, and I got her number because we went to high school together and were starting this last semester at the same school (only person I knew). We signed up for one class together too \n\nWe've done a movie, a few study sessions that were mostly an hour of studying and 3 hours of just talking, and an exploration of an abandoned hospital 40 minutes from our city.\n\nWe connect really well, but I guess I kind of forgot about the physical side because I was just focused on talking to her. Now it seems like an odd time to start the light physical stuff because we haven't done any of that yet. I don't know if that would make her think I'm uninterested either. \n\nDid I miss the window?", "summary": "Haven't been physical with girl I've been dating. Too late?"}
{"id": "t3_2eg8v2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking an incriminating picture of myself as a prank", "post": "SO this happened a few weeks ago, like most other TIFU's. I went with some friends into one of my good friend's dorm. His roommate wasn't there, but his guitar was. I asked him if I could look at it, and he was cool with it, so I got it out. It was a nice guitar so I asked if I could take a picture with it so I had him take pictures while I posed. I took a few regular ones then decided, \"hey, I should send him a picture of me looking like I was going to smash his guitar, just for teh lolz\". That's where I screwed up. The picture went fine, sure, but I sent the roommate the wrong picture on accident. I meant to send him one with me looking like a rockstar...not smashing his guitar. He gets pissed and threatened to call the University Police on me if I'm ever in his dorm hall. Period. I'm currently doing my utmost to avoid him for the next few weeks so he doesn't attack me.", "summary": "I took my friend's roomate's guitar, took a picture looking like I was going to smash it, sent it to him by accident, and he proceeded to flip a shit like no other."}
{"id": "t3_2oj90y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/f] I am absolutely terrified of my boyfriend's (16/m) mother.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are 7 months strong now and have been massively in love since we started dating. The one thing I feel is putting a huge strain on us is that I absolutely refuse to go to his house and I'm not sure if I'd be welcome. His mom is not at all a loving parent to him, and she hasn't exactly been a gracious host to me.\n\nThe last time I went over was August. It was his birthday and he only had me over - the only present he got from his parents was a nice set of gaming headphones. This will be relevant in a moment. His 12 year old brother just wouldn't leave us alone, all we wanted to do was watch AHS and cuddle and make out a little bit. Brother goes downstairs and apparently cries to his mom, mom comes up and starts screaming at both of us because he comes and cries to her constantly since we don't want him up there with us. Never once had his brother or mom ever told us how upsetting this was to him. He never showed any signs of it either - just the typical 12 year old whining as he left.\n\nAfter she was done screaming, I was crying a little bit (can't stand being yelled at) and boyfriend was trying to console me. His mom took away his headphones as punishment and would have kept them for who knows how long, but his dad ended up putting them in his room for him later. Keep in mind this was his birthday. All he wanted was for us to hang out. No cake, no celebration, no expensive presents. \n\nAfter that, I had absolutely no desire to ever return to his house. I love him a lot, but his mother terrifies me and makes me incredibly anxious. He mostly comes over here if we don't go to see a movie or something (pretty much the only thing she'll allow, we aren't allowed to hang out in many places) which I'm surprised she's even still letting him do. She seemed to like me fine before this but I haven't seen or spoken to her in 4 months. Boyfriend doesn't mind me not going to his house, but I feel like it's unfair.", "summary": "bf's mom started screaming at us the last time I was over on bf's birthday because we upset his little brother and I haven't wanted to go back since."}
{"id": "t3_1gyah7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] need advice on how to leave my [21F] girlfriend. She doesn't love me anymore.", "post": "I'm not a good writer so all of this will be very confusing:\n\nI am madly and hopelessly in love with my girlfriend. After 16 months of being together, she sees her ex, kisses him, and realizes she doesn't love me anymore.\n\nWe met at the same college right after she had her heard broken by her ex[24]. I fell for her right away, but she resisted me for months. She was still very in love with her ex, but started hooking up with me because there was so much sexual tension between us. We started having sex, and I lost my virginity to her. She had had partners before me.\n\nShe resisted anything serious with me, while continuing to hook up with me for months. She has always been extremely bothered by my younger age, my family which she doesn't like, and me having no money. She comes from a wealthy background, and I do not.\n\nWe are from different states, so when summer came along, a 4 month long distance relationship truly heightened her feelings for me and she became committed to me as I had always been committed to her.\n\nI had the best year of my life being in a happy relationship with her.\n\nShe continues to have an underlying worry about not liking my family and that I will not ever have enough money to be in a long term and future relationship to support her lifestyle.\n\nAfter a happy year together, we run into her ex. By this point we had been together for well over a year. It appeared to me that she had gotten over him.\n\nHe messages her on facebook and asks to meet up. I do not want her to, but she sees him, kisses him, and decides she does not love me.\n\nI go from having the love of my life and my best friend to someone who never wants to be with me again.\n\nWe still constantly communicate but I know I need to stop talking to her and leave her.\n\nI've forgiven her for kissing the ex, and want to stay her friend with hopes of us being together again, but know that is not good for me.\n\nHow can I move on? I feel like I'll never love anyone the same way again.", "summary": "I'm madly in love with my girlfriend. She doesn't like me and is openly in love with her ex! I don't want to leave her, but know I need to. How can I move on and leave her, and lose my best friend and love?"}
{"id": "t3_2y36wa", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Company won't budge on vacation to keep me on board, says it's because of a possible EEO violation... (also maybe just looking for any advice)", "post": "I have a great job, but I am underpaid... I decided to pursue other options and I got an offer for about 15% more than I currently make, in addition to the pay increase I'd have an extra two weeks of vacation.\n\nsome background: I started my current job in October and I really love it, have taken on lots of responsibilities, and become my boss's go to person for almost everything.  The 'team lead' has not really stepped up or excelled, I was hired on as an analyst (just doing production) but have taken on almost all of what should have been his responsibilities, including training all of our new hires (fifteen of them, a sixteenth on Monday), troubleshooting any technical issues, answering production questions, as well as an array of other things.\n\nI now have an offer from the prime contractor, that my current company is sub-contracted under, everything is better; money, benefits, vacation, retirement plan, etc.  My boss tried to get the owners to match the salary and vacation to keep me on board, they came close to the salary, but wouldn't budge on vacation, which is very important to me, saying \"it could be seen as an EEO violation and we could be sued\"..\n\nIs there anything that would not allow a company to give someone more vacation than is in their handbook/policy.  I can't imagine there is...\n\nI am still just not 100% sure that I want to leave... I have been a huge part in putting this team together, I have trained everyone, using my own training documentation, I wrote up most of the technical documentation... and I love my boss, and when I told her about my offer, she seemed genuinely sad that I was considering leaving, and she has been very supportive since I told her, saying \"I hope you decide to stay, but [other company's] benefits are way better and I would completely understand if you left\"", "summary": "First world problem... can't decide between a better offer/more job security, or a substantial raise and a job I really love where I have a ton of responsibilities (albeit unofficially, as none of them are in my job description)"}
{"id": "t3_uuf1p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the weirdest backstory to a scratch bruise or other injury?", "post": "I don't have anything really weird but I do have a few stories:\nWhen I was little me and my friend were playing oranges and lemons (British rhyme where you run around to the rhyme.) Anyways, we were coming into the centre when we bumped into eachover, nothing strange about that.\n\nThe strange thing was that I got a little bruise on my forehead while my friend got a huge bump. I mean this bump was BIG. Unlucky for me the person on first aid was the meanest woman (I prefer to call her molerat-squishedface-manwoman but that's offensive to molerat-squishedface-manwomans.) \n\nSo she slapped an ice pack on my friends head and told me to quit crying and sent me off to my lesson, I was six years old by the way. But hey atleast I got a new nickname, torpedo head.", "summary": "chronicles of torpedo head, a deadly encounter with molerat-squishedface-manwoman."}
{"id": "t3_26fchi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] wanted \"rough stuff\" with her [22] but it didn't matter because it was a false relationship according to her.", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nThis never became a topic of conversation. She said she needed to talk one night, and instead of waiting the next day I asked if I could see her. She said yes, I met with her, and we talked. As it turns out, she was a lesbian the entire time, and was just trying to convince herself that she wasn't. I still love her. I really do. But I know that doesn't mean much. Now that we're split, I'm glad that she can look for what she really wants. But either way, I'm incredibly devastated and hurt tremendously. I don't know what to do. Thanks to who responded to my original post. It really helped.", "summary": "Lady was lesbian, thanks to those who tried to help."}
{"id": "t3_169oeb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How do I stop hating running?", "post": "I am an avid lifter, and I work out on average 5-6 days a week but I can't seem to get on a regular running schedule. I dread running, I think it's the most boring thing on the planet and I can't get myself to run anything over 2 miles without convincing myself to quit and say, \"I'll just run tomorrow.\" How do I get past this mental block and start loving it like some many others? Is it because I think to much while running about the run? Or is it because I just need to get stronger will? If so how do you do it? Or distract yourself while running?", "summary": "How do I make myself love running?"}
{"id": "t3_2pxra7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending like I was going to \"forcefully open the elevator\" at a black keys concert.", "post": "Ok. So I'm at a black keys concert. The elevator to the \"lounge\" Was the slowest goddamn elevator I've ever seen. After waiting a solid 5 minutes (this place is 4 stories tall) for the elevator, I \"pretend\" to open the doors by hand. As soon as I apply the slightest amount of pressure, the elevator reaches our floor. The \"force\" i applied caused the doors to open 2 inches. And that's it! They stay open juuust  wide enough for the people to see which asshole did it. Fml. I'm standing there in disbelief. I push the up/down buttons in hopes that it would spark something in the elevator. Nope. Nothing. They BOTH lit up! I try to close the elevator doors. Negative ghostrider! Pattern is full. I resort to ACTUALLY trying to open the elevator by hand. And I gain another 4 inches. My wife is MORTIFIED. I feel like the biggest asshat. I can't recall a time I've felt so low. At this point I'm contemplating just leaving. Fuck it! These people don't know me, when all of a sudden the doors FLY open. A good 3-4 minutes of the people being stuck on the elevator created some pretty shitty, well deserved looks. I step into the elevator and hear the attendant say \"I'll ll have to tell them that just happened\"", "summary": "pretended to open an elevator by hand. Caused it to stall with about half a dozen people in it. Felt like a schmuck."}
{"id": "t3_4bohqu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my ex [27 M] 6 months, he has dates lined up and I am broken hearted.", "post": "My ex and I dated for just under 6 months until he broke up with me because he had doubts about us and didn't feel in love. He was about to leave on a month and a half work trip and felt \"too guilty\" coming back at 7.5 months while feeling the same doubts. He told me to treat it like a break up even though he did possibly see potential for us getting back together in the future. But he thought it best if I was able to explore my dating options while he was away and we would see where his feelings were when he came back.\n\nWe've texted everyday while he was gone, with him telling me occasionally that he was really looking forward to seeing me when he gets back. He comes back this weekend and today he told me he has two okcupid dates lined up for the next week. I am devastated. He responded by telling me \"I know. I'm sorry. These things could end up being nothing and awkward. Just putting in a little effort.\"\n\nI want to be his friend, but I am very emotional about this news. I wanted to get back together more. I feel rejected all over again. I loved him and I wanted to figure things out with him, to focus on strengthening our connection. I don't know where to go from here", "summary": "I wanted to get back together and work on things, he is moving on and dating other people. I want to be friends, but I'm hurt. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_30uukx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being more awake?", "post": "This actually happened a couple of minutes ago...shocker right?\n\nLittle background- I always go home after class on mondays because its in the morning and is taxing as hell. \n\nSo im taking my nap and wake up around 2. Now in my hibernation i got a couple text from my friend and me being the intellectual i am, decided i would ask him to go to the gym with me because body image. Anyways she ask me to come to our old high school to say hi to some of our teachers, i say yes and unknowingly grab a shirt with a huge weed leaf on it, now i dont smoke weed but this shirt was 2 bucks and comfy as hell.\nNote: To anyone who doesn't know school policy you cant wear any drug related apparel. \n\nSo i go there say hi to my teachers and was about to leave when i start getting chewed out by a random teacher. I just stand there and apologize over and over but she was unrelenting and told me to turn my shirt inside out and leave. Now, me being the genius i am i said \"oh sorry i didn't know, ill just take my shirt and leave it off\" so i would have just a beater on...well i fucked up harder cause this teacher started to chew me out even more. Apparently muscle shirts aren't aloud anymore. At this point after apologizing a million times i started to get straight pissed. I took my shirt of and just walked away. Now what really angered me, is that some students were talking and said that people wear this type of stuff all the time and never get yelled at. \n\nSo i left with my friend in tow and then she starts to chew me out because her little brother was with us and she thought he would be associated with me and get in trouble from now on. So me being the pissed brown hulk i am said fuck it come to the gym if you want but im done hearing this shit and left. \n\nSo here i am at the gym trying to break the basketball rim with LaVine type dunks.", "summary": "Drugs (apparel) are bad mmm'kay"}
{"id": "t3_48o6u6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "25 y/o looking for advice if a career change is a smart idea", "post": "Hey! I'll give you the low down. I'm 26 years old and have worked in the construction trades since graduating high school. Due to personal circumstances I have lost the complete love and support of my family and friends. \nSo I need to move and restart. Trouble is I have gone on a large trip before my problems began and I'm broke. I currently have $400 in the bank and roughly $6000 in debt. \nThis is where I'm unsure, I have a job offer for a large corporate company in sales. They really want me. They claim there sales people make 3-5 sales a week with a $450 commission per sale. This is great money for me, but it's commission so it's not guaranteed that I'll make those sales. \nLike I say I have no choice I have to move and start over. Do I pursue this career change? Is it even possible in my current financial position? Of should I try and find work in the trades making less but potentially have more regular work.\nSorry long rant, I'm really not good at these decisions and especially now that I'm being forced into this.", "summary": "forces out of home. I have $400 and $6000 debt. Do I take well paying commission job (already offered me) or stick to what I know and try qnd find work?"}
{"id": "t3_3u8yzw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Unpaid Balance from 4-Year-Old Internet Acct Went to Collections; I Never Even Knew. Now What?", "post": "4 years ago, I moved out of state and closed out my various accounts (internet, power, water, etc.). To my knowledge, everything was paid off--particularly because everything was on auto-bill!\n\nHowever, by some \"luck,\" I've been enrolled in the ProtectMyID service after an unrelated data beach. Today it pinged me with an alert: a collections firm in Montana was seeking a debt from me. I called their listed number and learned they wanted $23 for an unpaid final bill from Comcast in 2011 at my old address.\n\nNow, figuring all that was straightened out years ago, I asked the collections agency guy to email me the details while I called Comcast. According to their rep, they do show a $13 unpaid final bill, but don't have access to actual account info (e.g., autopay, notices, etc.), and that they'll have to escalate to another team who won't call back for a week or so.\n\nIn the interim, I don't know what to do. I had mail forwarding service for six months after I moved to my new address, my phone number didn't change, and my email address didn't change. Nevermind that my autopay apparently didn't work at Comcast--how did they never even *attempt* to contact me over the course of 4 years!", "summary": "and Question: For some reason, my autopay didn't pay my final bill on an old cable account in 2011. They did not contact me in the interim. They sent me to collections this week."}
{"id": "t3_2zniua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2 years are having the same conversation over and over about our long distance relationship", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons, but my girlfriend and I live around 5 hours from each other and have been maintaining our relationship pretty well for around 7 months since it becoming long distance (temporary, for Uni). \n\nHowever for about 3-4 months, she seems completely disinterested when it comes to anything sexual (Skype or even just talking etc) and says that she's too tired or can't be bothered.\n\nAm I just being selfish because I want to be more sexual with her in any way i can?\n\n(She says that because im not there she doesn't feel at all sexual)\n\nWe've talked about it over and over and there seems to be no compromise, and i'm not sure what to do.\n\n(Don't post much so sorry if formatting etc is wrong :L)", "summary": "Long distance relationship, lacking sexual contact of any sort?"}
{"id": "t3_47q8bc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need advice negotiating promotion", "post": "Hi All,\nNot sure if this is the right sub.\nI'm currently a junior engineer who is getting promoted to an engineer. With the promotion I am getting a salary increase of 8 percent. However I have colleagues that were at my same level a few years back and got promoted for a 15% raise. I know for a fact that I performed better than one of them at yearly reviews so I'm dumbfounded as to why I'm getting a lower raise. How should I approach this with my manager? I don't want to throw the other engineer under the bus.", "summary": "Getting promoted and get less of a raise than a colleague. How to approach manager."}
{"id": "t3_35sj32", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21M) allowed my friend for 7 years [21 M] to use a store credit card for a purchase he promised to pay back, 6 months later goes no contact", "post": "There really isn't much I can do. In November of 2014 I allowed my friend to use my store credit card for a purchase of $500. There was a 6 month promotion of no interest, however the transaction had to be paid off within the 6 month period, or interest would be accumulated. Now that it's May 2015, the payment is supposed to be paid off. My friend has now gone dark for nearly 2 weeks, not calling me, texting me, or replying to any of my social media messages. This month I had to make the minimum payment myself, something he promised I didn't have to do.\n\nI feel stupid and hurt. My friend paid me the monthly payments required every month, insisting that he will pay it off without a problem. My current balance is a little over $300. I want to note that he's a Muslim, and he always said that it's against his religion to owe people money. Of course thinking back it was stupid of me to do this, but he's my friend for so many years, and he's done good favors for me in the past so I knew I could trust him. I don't know what to do now, nor do I know if he ever plans to contact me or pay me. \n\nI wouldn't even be that upset if he said he didn't have the money now, just him disappearing on me hurts more than I thought it would, mainly because I feel cheated. I feel like I'm being a little emotional here, but I've never had this type of thing happen to me before, so I apologize if I come off soft. I guess the point of me posting this is, What can I do now?", "summary": "Allowed my friend of 7 years to use a store credit card, with him promising me he'd pay me back within the 6 month promotional period of no interest. The 6th month is here, and he's gone dark on me. I feel cheated from a friendship, and in debt under my name."}
{"id": "t3_5333ia", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(GA/WI) Questions on Paternity/Contacting Biological Father", "post": "Hello all - I'll try to be brief.\n\nI live in Georgia. Thirteen years ago (when I was 17) I reached out to the man my mother has always stated is my biological father (I also happen to look identical to him...scary identical). His work address was readily findable online (I wanted to contact him at work, because I didn't want to jeopardize his existing family dynamic) and I wrote him a letter by certified mail, letting him know I existed and that there was a chance I could be his biological son (he resides in Wisconsin). I also sent pictures of myself to show him how it was fairly obvious from an aesthetic stand point that I was his. In response he called my mom (whose work information was also readily searchable online) to verify that she thought I was his. She said yes, and also made clear that I wasn't looking for money or anything just to let him know I exist. He ceded that I was probably his son, and they hung up. \n\nA few weeks later I received a letter in the mail from a law office stating that I was to no longer have any direct contact with the man I had written the letter to and that any future attempts at communication must go through the law office. I was upset. In my haste and hurt I threw away the letter, deciding then that I would never have a reason to reach out to him. \n\nNow I'm 30. I'm older and a little wiser and I'd like to try to reestablish that contact even if it is only through the lawyer (for medical history purposes, etc. etc.). \n\nMy question: I no longer have that law office's information. How would I go about reestablishing contact without legal repercussions? At this point, could I face legal consequences if I call his office and say \"what was that law office again?\"? I don't want to step on his toes, and I'm not trying to get sued - so I'd like to know if I could be held legally liable if I just shot him an email or called asking for the info for the law offices that previously sent a letter to me.", "summary": "if someone sends you a letter from their lawyer saying all future contact must go through said lawyer, but then you lose that lawyer'sinformation, what are your legal options to try to reestablish contact?"}
{"id": "t3_1ahwb3", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Unexplained weight lose in dog, poor appetite, decreased energy.", "post": "13 yo miniature dachshund\nDX with Cushings about 1yr ago\nDX with hypothyroidism about 4 months ago\n\nHas had decreased appetite, sleeps significantly more than previously, and has gone for 9.7 lbs down to 8.5 in one month.\n\nHe is getting very thin, ribs are starting to show, spine has been visible from a couple months.\n\nHas been into the vet at least monthly, with calls to the vet weekly.\n\nFood we've tried:\n\n* Hills A/D - Lost interest.\n\n* Tuna with ground up dog food in it - Lost interest in that.\n* Small amount of cottage cheese in with dog food - not very interested.\n\n* He eats a little boiled hamburger, but will only eat once a day, despite multiple offerings.\n\nHe recently had blood in his stool as well (this morning, nothing since, this has happened before and resolved on its own).\n\nVet has repeated Cortisol, T4, and TSH to ensure that he is not having an Addisonian reaction, and that his thyroid levels are normal. Liver panel was normal, kidney function is normal, metabolic panel is normal, heart is healthy. Vet said that other than the weight, he is in excellent condition for a dog his age.\n\nAny ideas?  I have a suspicion that it may be Exocrine Pancreatic insufficiency, will discuss with the vet tomorrow and suggest a trypsin-like immuno-reactivity assay.\nVet seems out of ideas, if he has no suggested course, I will seek an second opinion from another vet.\n\nAny vet students, or vets on here that may be able to chime in?", "summary": "Wiener dog is starting to look like a slim jim"}
{"id": "t3_hfkug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does one gracefully end a FWB-type of situation?", "post": "I am a 25/f and have been seeing a 26/m for approximately the last five to six weeks. \n\nWe met through a physical fitness class. Of course, in the beginning, he seemed interested in me and asked a lot of questions. Having gone through a dry spell, things progressed rapidly and we've had sex 1-2 times a week since. We text each other on a semi-frequent basis (once or twice to many times a day). We never really clarified the type of relationship we've had, but I have an inkling that he is not interested in anything serious. \n\nThe sex is great, he's really open minded, and I'm having fun. However, I've never been one to have a casual fling and I miss having that deeper connection. I would rather end things before I start to develop any more \"feelings\" toward him. The problem is that because of our interests we will likely run in to each other again. \n\nI feel like my options are: A. Avoid him, he will get the hint eventually, but risk having to explain later B. Tell him that I can no longer continue our rendezvous because I can't handle an NSA relationship, but risk putting him on the spot and overall awkwardness C. Continue the relationship, but risk being hurt later on.", "summary": "I want out of a FWB relationship because I want to connect with someone other than just sex. "}
{"id": "t3_4anqpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [23 F] 8 months, told my GF's best friends new BF that she made my GF cheat months ago, they are all mad", "post": "I'll be adding updated below. 8 months ago, I started dating my GF. A week after that, she went on a trip to Vegas that she had been planning for a year with her best friend.\n\nMy GF's best friend was single and slept with at least 2 or 3 guys from what I heard. My GF admitted to making out with 1 guy, likely trickle truth about 3 months after it happened. She explained that her best friend tried to get her to do more. After this holiday, the girls got in a fight and just made up and started talking last weekend.\n\nI met the best friends new BF last weekend. He was mad at her already that night. We talked about how the girls never got along after Vegas. When I  brought it up, he was upset how his GF slept with random dudes \"who does that?! No self respect\" and I said that my GF made out with a guy while we are dating. He ended up yelling at his GF \"You made your best friend cheat on her BF?!\"\n\nSo the best friend is now mad at my GF and my GF is mad at me for \"bringing vegas up\". The 2 girls are almost twin personalities. I'm actually glad this blew up into a fight and they are both in trouble, they are getting exactly what should come to them. Cheating is never right. My GF is mad that I brought it up, almost like I cheated on her and I'm the wrong one.", "summary": "My GF's best friend's boyfriend is mad that his GF made my GF cheat on me. What should I be saying to calm the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2ukd58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 2 years has been questioning what love is and how we know what's best.", "post": "We've been dating for 2 years, and at first glance we are very healthy together: we try new things and enjoy many things together, we trust each other completely, know when to drop unreasonable fights, etc. But she is questioning (and I understand where she is coming from) how do we know what's best for us, and what a lasting love should feel like, as we are young and inexperienced with other people. \n\nShe claims that she sees other couples and sees how excited they look together, and I think comparing is a bad idea. However, one thing I'm doing that's detrimental is not talking much. I'm not much for conversation with anyone, and it definitely distances me from people in my life, including my girlfriend. Both of these problems can certainly be worked upon and are not challenges that can't be overcome. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is do we stay in it, oblivious about how good/bad we have it, or do we have something that is worth staying in? Redditors who have found/figured out how to have a happy long term relationship, what do you find works?", "summary": "young couple is reaching 2 years of dating, don't know if it's great or mediocre or bad."}
{"id": "t3_dlogl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to do approach a random stranger with the intent of forming a friendship and/or relationship?", "post": "This sounds like a much more socially inept question than I hope it is, but I'm a bit at a loss here. Normally I think I do pretty well with making friends, asking girls out, etc, but I'm hitting a road block here. There's this girl in a class I have only once a week whom seems a lot like someone I would want to be friends with, and is pretty damn cute to boot, so I certainly wouldn't mind more either. \n\nThe problem is, the class doesn't really have any opportunities for socialization, so I'm a bit unsure how to just go up and strike up a conversation out of the blue. I want to approach her more in in a friendly way rather than asking out on a date, because honestly I'd be totally content to just have her in my life as a friend. I know she knows my name, which actually surprised me since I hadn't told her or ever really introduced myself and I don't know how she managed to figure it out. Hopefully that means she's taken an interest in me as well. So how the hell do I approach her under this context? I don't want to seem weird and like I'm trying too hard, but this is a short class that I don't have often, so wasting time wont work. We're both 20ish and in college (obviously).", "summary": "I've suddenly become totally socially inept and need to know how to strike up a conversation with a total stranger out of the blue."}
{"id": "t3_l116o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can I become more news/politics/econ savvy?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI am a 20yo girls who has little understanding in what is going on in America and the world. I do not have a TV to watch the news regularly, and if I did, I do not care to hear about the drama between what one pop celebrity did to another pop celebrity. I also am not interested in becoming depressed over dogs being skinned alive and mothers abusing their children. I do not understand political terms and I understand economic terms even less (talk to me like I'm 5!). Given these things, I hate that I don't know about London's protests, what is actually being done to legalize marijuana, and what the OWS are standing in for. So, Reddit, I ask you: how can I become involved with the most important things that are going on in the world without wasting my time and taking up 3hrs a day.\nI leave my fate in your hands.\n\nSincerely,\nBitchesloveplazas", "summary": "What are the best ways/techniques/easy things to do that keep me updated with the world?"}
{"id": "t3_4cxqjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [17M] have to keep my relationship alive? GF [17F]", "post": "We have been dating for almost 5 months but we have been best friends since we were 3. Her mother appreciates me a lot and at some points of our friendship we liked each other.\n \nNow, after Easter holidays, I feel that it's not the same anymore. She ignores my in the school without saying me hello neither. She speaks so rude to me and just text me to explain stories about her day but without being interested in mine. \n\nI still love her as much as before holidays but I don't know if I have to try to keep this relationship alive. She have said that nothing is going wrong and that we are fine but I'm not sure at all.\nI know that I'm too young to post this but I'm feeling sad.\n\nIf you can advise my In would appreciate it.", "summary": "My girlfriend ignores me and i don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2iwnj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] girlfriend [16 F] of a little over a month seems to be very...I don't know how to put it", "post": "I have noticed that my girlfriend seems to be pretty protective, maybe a better way to put it is sensitive. My friends and I \"painted up\" for a school event and a classmate of mine (female) put two handprints on my ass, to me this is no big deal at all. When my girlfriend found out though....she was pissed. I didnt understand it but I apologized and tried to act like i got what she meant but i had no idea why she was so upset. To me it was no big deal AT ALL.\n\nShe's gotten really upset before over me being close with some girls and I don't know if I'm way to insensitive or if maybe she's just pretty protective. This isn't really an issue moving forward but I just want to understand why she'd get so upset, when i did it I didn't even think twice. It was just to show school spirit. This relationship took some effort to get going and I really want to try to make ir", "summary": "Am I being narrow minded or insensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_3w5si5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 32M was kisses by a girl at the bar and liked it. I'm big on being open with my 30F girlfriend of two and a half years, need advise on how to tell her", "post": "Girlfriend and I have had intimacy issues for some time (~1.5 years) and it's causing other strains within the relationship. In short, she's not meeting my needs and never initiates sex or intimate engagements.  We've tried everything, from trying to work through it ourselves, to counseling, to me just faking it to keep us going. Bottom line, I feel like I'm not getting the intimacy I need and know we are at a point where she is staying elsewhere.  (I blamed myself for the longest time but after counseling I've come to realize if I'm going to stay things aren't going to change)\n\nAs for the question in the title. \n\nI was out the other night and was just chatting with friends and a few of their friends that I didn't know. A couple of the girls, who knew I was taken, were starting to get a little too aggressive with their advances.  Night goes on, I try to keep my space but stay with the group and continue to have fun.  as I'm about to leave one of the girls grabs my phone, sees the photo of my girlfriend as the wallpaper,  comments in disgust and proceeds to put her number in my phone.  She continues to try her advances and ends up kissing me pretty aggressively.  I guess (I know) I kissed back. I liked it, I liked the passion, the persistence, the whole feeling of being wanted. \n\nI need to tell my girlfriend. She's coming over in the next couple of days to figure out our next steps I resolving our intimacy issues.  I wouldn't be able to move on with our relationship feeling like I'm hiding this.  My question is, do you agree I should tell her and if so, how should I tell her?  Do I include how this random kiss made me feel? I want to to emphasize how painful our intimacy issues have been and that I feel like I was \"driven\" to this but I'm concerned that it won't be productive, sound like a dumb excuse and will just hurt her.  I'm lost, want to be honest.  Help!", "summary": "kissed a girl, want to be honest with girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_cxen4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think I'm ready to switch back to a Windows 7 laptop after switching to OSX 4 years ago. Thoughts?", "post": "So heres the lowdown:\n\nI own a 2006 15-inch Macbook pro. It survived four years of college and the abuse that entails wonderfully. However, It's age is starting to show and I will be starting a new job soon and think it's time to upgrade. I looked into the price of a new Macbook pro 15 inch with all the features I would want (500 gb HD, at least 4 but maybe more gigs of RAM) and it's like $2700.\n\nI bootcamped my mac and installed Windows 7, and it makes me think \"Hey, maybe I could save a whole bunch of money and get an even faster laptop!\" So with that thought, what are some windows machines that are comparable or better in terms of speed?\n\nThe last thing is design. The macbook pro is beautiful and works well. Are there any windows machines that can match that level of design and quality?\n\nNB: I will also use it for some gaming, so something that can play all the latest stuff is a big plus.", "summary": "Want a windows laptop that has a design as nice as a macbook pro, but is faster and cheaper. And can play SC2 with all the options on high =)"}
{"id": "t3_4cdl8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 1 year. How do I go about evaluating whether we're a good fit in the longterm?", "post": "This is my first relationship, and my girlfriend is one of the kindest, sweetest people I've ever met. That being said, there a some huge differences between us that really make me question whether this relationship can work in the long run. \n\nFirst, and probably most significant, difference is religious beliefs. I come from a very religious family, but have been an atheist for quite some time and have really come to despise organized religion. She considers herself a Christian, and I worry about things like how we will raise children with such drastically different beliefs. She is committed to waiting until marriage to have sex, while I have always been pretty adamant that I need to have sex before committing to marry someone. It's something that's been someone of a struggle for me to accept for the last year. \n\nAlso, as bad as it sounds, I feel like there's a difference in work ethic and attitude between us. She's perfectly content to lounge around with her cats for hours, but I get antsy and feel like I have to be doing something productive almost all the time. It makes me wonder how her work ethic will be when we have a house or kids to take care of. \n\nAm I petty or shallow for having these thoughts? How do I figure out what things I can compromise on or settle for, and what things I can't?", "summary": "How do you evaluate whether to compromise or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1mtkuu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[32M] am oversenstive. I'm pushing my gf[31F] of over a year away.", "post": "Quick backstory. I've been divorced for 2 years. I dated a few women, but about a year and a half ago, I met an amazing woman. She was recently divorced, and I'm the first guy she's dated. She was married at a young age and didn't get to experience traditional college life, etc.\n\nOur relationship has been great. We've talked about long-term commitment to each other, and we've helped each other with our respective baggage. \n\nHere's the issue; I'm oversensitive. I work out of town and am only around for about 2 weeks out of the month. We've been in constant contact (multiple ims/texts/phone calls per day) since the beginning of our relationship. Lately, she's been a pretty busy, and our 'constant' contact has tapered a bit. I understand; she's busy as well as our relationship has grown past the 'puppy-love' stage. The thing is, I can't help but feel I'm losing her. \n\nI have rejection issues. I was tossed to the curb before, and it hurt. \n\nYesterday, I came back into town. I saw her briefly over a quick dinner and we went on our respective ways. Today, she had an event after work, and I was looking forward to her getting out so we could meet up. The thing is, after her event, she called and said she was going to a co-worker's house for drinks with a group. This hurt me. I told her it would hurt me because I wanted to see her. I guess I expected to see her or for her to want to see me. When she chose drinking with friends over me, it hurt.\n\nI don't want to feel this way. It is perfectly acceptable for her to have drinks with friends. I trust her and don't see a problem with it except for the feeling of rejection it gives me.\n\nHow can I overcome this?", "summary": "I'm oversensitive and feel hurt when my gf doesn't pay as much attention to me as I expect."}
{"id": "t3_1xo7y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my unexpected breakup with my girlfriend [17F] of 5 months because of parents views", "post": "so I recently moved within the last year to a new location. I started my senior year and almost immediately hit it off with a girl I met shortly after. We got along perfectly and had so much in common and spent time together multiple times a week. We came to really trust each other after 5 months and started dating.\n\nThe problem with us dating though, is that she is a muslim and her family is very religious. I am not and her views never bothered me but because of the way things were we had to keep it a secret from everyone. It was great, we still spent time together, got physical and started getting closer and more into each other.\n\nThis all lasted a few months until one day her parents saw a message on her phone from me and found out about us. They made her break it off, of course, leaving me feeling completely heart broken. \n\nI felt that maybe I had no reason to worry and she must still like me right? Well, ever since then, she has become extremely distant painfully so taking into account how close we were and how abrupt everything ended. She never calls or texts and she keeps saying we're still friends and didn't want it to end, but everything feels very dead. I want to have some hope of salvaging this, hopefully by figuring something out but she seems like she suddenly stopped caring. \n\nI know for a fact she didn't lie (after hearing from her parents) but I wonder why could have gone wrong, and how do I make things okay again? It's a really painful and I'm getting very depressed ever since this incident happened and I'm worried about having no social life for the rest of the 6 months I will be living here. I just need help understanding how to approach this situation. She seems so happy and cheery and social and on top of the world whenever I see her in public, while I'm trying not to break down. Thanks for any advice!", "summary": "Girlfriend's muslim parents made us break up; girl becomes very distant after being very close. I want to fix things."}
{"id": "t3_2x7xgd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a glass", "post": "So, today Inwas having cooking classes as per usual at school. Now, because ingredients are limited and the room isn't very big, we are all put into groups of usually 4 or so people. So, after we cooked our sad excuses or food, we were washing up the dishes. Whatever we made that day sticks in my mind as being something spicy, so whilst the other members of the group were washing our dishes, I got a glass from a cupboard, poured myself some water, and drank until the burn had subsided. Now here comes th FU. Not wanting to physically carry this glass back to the sink ( god knows why I didn't want to, it's only like 10 steps away) I decided to throw the motherfucking glass into the sink full of water. Yep, glass+industrial sink=broken glass. I have no idea what went though my mind at the moment. But after pulling broken glass out of the pipe (yep, it fell through the drain), and re-washing all our dishes, I got off with a pretty light talking to.", "summary": "Threw a glass cup into a metal sink, thought it wouldn't shatter cos bubbles."}
{"id": "t3_32186g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/F] am leaving my boyfriend of three years [25/M] and I am overcome with guilt.", "post": "Long story short, the breakup has been a long time coming. I'm no longer in love, I feel I have zero autonomy, I'm no longer sexually attracted to him, I don't have the same long term goals as he does, and he has no time due to his career choice to work out our issues. I'm tired of pulling the weight for both of us, and I want to leave. \n\nHe's aware of how I feel, I've told him on many occasions over the past week and a half or so, but I don't think he has any clue how serious I am, and that I've already put in motion the steps to leaving him for real. \n\nI've been searching for a place to move to so when I \"pull the plug\" I won't be stuck in a hostile environment, or left to figure it out last minute. I'm looking at a roommate situation on Sunday, and if I like it, I think I'm going to take the opportunity. But, now I'm left with crippling guilt.\n\nI don't know if there's a way, but if I could segue this information to him somehow, I know it would be easier on both of us.", "summary": "I'm leaving my boyfriend, and I'm crippled with guilt. I want to figure out a way to segue him into understanding that I'm leaving, so I don't drop it on him like an atom bomb and then leave him to clean up the mess--alone."}
{"id": "t3_1qhczq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New Winner\u2026(day one)", "post": "Well as the title states I'm new here. I've read the guidelines and everything but i am unsure on what diet and stuff to do. I am a nine-teen year old college student. I weigh roughly 245 lbs give or take and I am around 5'10. i am very uncomfortable with my body, with my chest being the most uncomfortable part i have. I'm not weak, in fact i want to gain even more muscle and become stronger. i want to look good but not sculpted. can someone help me, i know this is asking for a lot but i want a list of do's and don't's its easier for me to say no if i have an objective command. also I'm sorry for not posting this in a day one thread i tried to find one..", "summary": "I'm fat and i need advice on how to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_2b3b5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [23M] of over 4 years, he has a female friend who makes me uncomfortable and I'm not sure if I should be upset by her.", "post": "My boyfriend has a manager at work/female friend who makes me uncomfortable. He has known her for less than a year, but used to talk about her often. He admitted once that he found her attractive, which is fine, I don't expect him to live with blinders on. He used to talk about her almost every day, always inane things, but it was all the time. He stopped after I told him how much it bothered me.\n\nHe insisted on visiting her in the hospital multiple times when she had a medical issue, I went with him once and she gushed about how wonderful he said I was and how great it was to meet me. She seems like a genuinely nice girl, has a bf of her own etc etc. They text occasionally and are fb friends, she and I are fb friends as well. He is constantly liking her posts and pictures, but rarely notices my posts. He has other female friends that he doesn't contact nearly as often. She also went way out of her way to get him promoted at work, which was nice of her, but I also found kind of odd.\n\nPart of me thinks worrying at all is silly, I have no evidence of anything really fishy. But their friendship still makes me uncomfortable in a huge way. I don't believe he would ever ever cheat on me, but I wonder a lot about emotional infidelity", "summary": "Boyfriend has a female friend who makes me uncomfortable, should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2gycyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am not sure about my current relationship with my [17F] Girlfriend of 6 months", "post": "I have been going out with her for 6 months, she is my first serious girlfriend, and i'm her first serious boyfriend. At this point I am aware that I will not be spending my whole life with her. i feel like at 6 months we should have moved on emotionally in our relationship, which we have not.\n\nLast night I got drunk, and got to the crying stage because I do not feel 100% in this relationship, and i'm not sure what is wrong, but it is. The waters are muddied by the fact that she is the first person I have been sexual with (we did not have sex, but did 'everything but'). I don't want her to feel like I have taken advantage of her.\n\nI am also moving out of my hometown (where she also lives) for uni to a city an hour on the bus away tomorrow. I'm not sure if this is being caused by this large change in my life.\n\nShe is a great person, and I do still like her- i'm just not sure if this is worth pursuing any further.\n\nI have largely written this to write something, I just have no idea what the fuck to do except be depressed while packing.", "summary": "not sure if this girl is the one, should I end it now because of this doubt?"}
{"id": "t3_1kv5s8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF (23F) just started medical school and I (23M) need some advice from the elders", "post": "Dear Relationship advice.\n\nI am in need of advice from people who have been through this. I've scoured the web for medical school relationships/dating as well as some of the other posts on reddit regarding this.\n\nThe key points seem to be communication, setting expectations, and being able to be understanding of (in my case) GF's insane schedule. \n\nI realize transitionary periods are tough for any setting but the problems are that:\n\n- She's the independent one in the relationship. I'm much more talkative and extroverted, and thus often bring up issues I have with the relationship.\n\n- Because I initiate these kinds of conversations, she gets annoyed and thinks I'm needy that I need to talk about the relationship all the time. I dont need to convince her otherwise, but this annoys.\n\n- Most of the issues are that she's quite reserved and introverted. When she's busy, its worse. I have a hard time setting expectations and communicating when she clams up. Know any good methods?\n\n- Many people have advised that I be there for her, even through the neglect-like feeilng because thats why people in love do. And I am. I've given her plenty of space (we talk for ten minutes at the end of the day) and thats it. I let her see her friends because I think thats important, and if she needs to study, I respect that. But to me, this doesnt seem like a relationship but rather unrequited love. She takes because she has the circumstances to but she doesnt give. I want to assertively tell her she needs to put in some effort but not pressure her. \n\nSo my question is 2 parted: \n1. Anyone have any good methods to bringing up these talks with their reserved/introverted SOs?\n2. We've been dating a year and she has a lot of clammy days where shell be very reserved. Its just her personality. While I'm okay with it, small talk at the end of the day for ten minutes is not my definition of a relationship.", "summary": "Reserved GF has been in med school for two weeks and I feel like im dating a brick wall."}
{"id": "t3_2f3b4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F16) suddenly lost all emotion for my boyfriend (M18)? Please help?", "post": "One day when I was at my boyfriend's house, we were getting really intimate when suddenly, BAM! All my emotions for him just suddenly went numb. It made me very upset. I don't know what to do. I went to school counselling for it, but they didn't help very much... This happened 4-3-14 and it hasn't really been the same since.\n\nI've been with him since 7-21-13. He and I have had a happy relationship, always working through everything. I just don't know how to handle this. I occasionally freak out when I think I have feelings for one of my friends. The feelings go away though. Yes, I have talked to him about it, but it's hard for him to understand what it is. I recently have been feeling some emotion towards him, which is good. It's just not like it was when we started dating, you know?\n\nDoes anyone know what I'm going through who can help? Did I just come out of the honeymoon phase? And I know I can't control my feelings, but I'd just like to know what happened with my emotions. Thanks to anyone who answers.", "summary": "Suddenly got numb feelings for my boyfriend, tried explaining how I felt, neither of us understand it, got really stressed about it, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3q3ss0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my friend [33 F] had sex tonight, but. . .", "post": "We didn't finish.\n\nI'm actually about a month out of a year long relationship. I'm over my ex, and that's not the issue, but I wanted to stay single. I told her from the beginning that I wanted to remain single for a little while. That said, we would flirt, grab, and kiss. Tonight, we went to dinner, and came back to my place. She moves to my bedroom. I didn't want to be there, but I stayed.\n\nWe continued on to have sex, and as I was on top of her, I realized what was actually happening, and I was no longer aroused. I didn't want to be with her. I didn't want to be with anyone. I rolled over, and played it off like I was nervous, but truth be told, I just didn't want to be with her. We talked about it for a little bit, and I reiterated that I didn't want a relationship, and it wasn't fair to her, and she eventually got dressed and left. She basically said she liked me, and she wasn't expecting anything, but I still get the sense she was expecting a relationship out of it. She may have sex *on a whim*, but I can't. She said she's not going to *deal with the awkwardness of what just happened*.\n\nShould I feel guilty? Did I lead her on? I made it very clear from day one that I wasn't looking for a relationship right now, but I was still flirty, and we had some fun times outside of having sex.\n\nI can't help but feel like a dog about it.", "summary": "My friend and I had awkward sex. Should I feel guilty?"}
{"id": "t3_3619fd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of just over 2 years, insecure about my past experiences? Also a personal issue of mine?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years now. Every once in a while, something about my past will come up and she'll start making claims about how I must have enjoyed everything I did during a depressive phase where I was pretty careless. She is a bit more conservative in ways, and was raised in a neighborhood where she didn't really have a chance to explore or even consider dating. She's always been a bit more responsible than all her peers.\n\nI had a bit of a depressive phase where I was quite alone and such and wanted to find a way out and slowly did. For some reason, all the things I did back then (persuing a girl and failing, girls having a \"crush\" on me, me writing crappy poetry for one of these girls, etc..) This spanned from 12 years ago until about 4 years ago when I finally started to go out of my comfort zone...as if that matters much. She also seems to be upset about how I lived in a very secluded area (small town) with a lot of people marrying right out of high school, where I clearly didn't fit in--possibly where some of my issues stemmed from in the first place, back then.\n\nThe main issue with myself in this situation, I think, is that I would rather forget about the past and focus on doing even better for myself and those in my life, while she is reminded of something about my past and gets upset about it and won't let it go. I can get pretty defensive about my past, because I don't want to be reminded and I don't want her to feel bad about it--but I end up defending myself as she makes it sound like I enjoyed those several years of me being extremely unhappy, and is jealous of it for some reason. She sees a therapist once a week, but refuses to bring this issue up even after admitting it is an issue. \n\nMe getting defensive about this can't be healthy either, and i'd like to get some perspective to this if I could.\n\nI'll clarify any of the above if necessary. I would just like some perspective.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Girlfriend knows of some past stories from a depressed/careless time that I'd like to forget about and she gets jealous/upset about not having experienced the same \"fun\" times, not able to let it go."}
{"id": "t3_3j3wxj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [24F] Indian boyfriend [32M] asked his mom about a possible interracial relationship. She is not for it. What can I do?", "post": "I'm 25, Filipina. My boyfriend is 32, Indian. We have been dating for about a year now and we have agreed that it is time for us to think about settling down and starting a family. Our problem is that his Mom is not really open to him having a love marriage again (he is divorced, his ex is Indian, it was a love marriage) AND added to that, I'm not Indian.\n\nHe has opened the topic to his mom, about a possibility of having someone in his life, she kinda got the idea that there is one already. She said that if she answers now, it will be a NO. She asked him to give her a week, until this weekend, to think about it.\n\nI'm going crazy, I don't know what to do. We have already agreed that if his parents are not going to be happy with this, we will break up. I don't want to break up, I love him so much and I know that he feels the same way. I really just wish that we can do something to convince her.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Non-Indian girl with Indian boyfriend. Indian parents are not happy. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_11b7ap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst fitness/nutrition advice you've ever been given?", "post": "I think the worst fitness advice I've ever heard came when I started trying to lose weight and get in shape.  Every nutritionist says that the key to losing weight is to have fewer calories in than calories out, which is a perfectly logical notion.  I didn't start hardcore calorie counting, but I did check the nutrition information when it was available.  I was running late for work one morning, so I picked up a chicken sandwich and a single-serving bag of kettle chips at a gas station on my way in.  As I was eating lunch, I noticed that the chips, despite being less than 1/3 the weight of the sandwich, had more calories, and the fat calories were almost triple that of the sandwich.\n\nUpon mentioning how annoying this was in passing on Facebook, a girl I know said, verbatim: \"Who cares anyway. *(sic)* The key to weight loss truly lies in increasing movement and heart rate. Do you see how much body builders or athletes eat???? How many calories a day they have?? Its insane!\"\n\nI facepalmed so hard I think I cured my carpal tunnel.", "summary": "I got told that it didn't matter how much I eat, as long as I exercise, because professional athletes and body builders eat tons and are still fit."}
{"id": "t3_s6qk5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your most horrible/hilarious sex stories?", "post": "I'll go first.\n\nI was having sex with my ex boyfriend, missionary style, and we were getting really into it. My dog was asleep on the foot of the bed, but she usually paid no attention to us so we weren't concerned.\nThings just keep getting more heated and more heated when suddenly my ex yells \"OH, FUCK!!!\", and his cock went entirely limp inside of me. \n\"What?!\" I asked frantically, thinking he was having a heart attack.\n\"Your dog just licked my asshole!!!\"\n\nI couldn't stop laughing until I realized the condom had come off in me and we had to fish it out.", "summary": "Dog licked my partner's asshole during sex, his cock became floppy like an over-ripe banana and we lost the condom in my cavernous lady bits."}
{"id": "t3_3y9f23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my SO [29M] of 1 year, he doesn't want to spend NYE with me.", "post": "Hi Reddit, just looking for some advice here as I don't know whether I'm being irrational and stupid or whether how I'm feeling right now is normal! Also I created this account specifically to post - I'm normally just a lurker.\n\nSo a couple of days ago I find out that, despite previously telling me we would spend NYE together, my SO has made plans to celebrate in a different city. I was pretty upset about this - we both work a lot and its rare to have any time together so I really wanted us to spend the holiday with each other. He has said I am welcome to join him, but I won't know anyone at this party apart from him (he is going to an event at a venue of his that is closing down that evening). He also has a habit of wandering off at parties, which is usually not an issue as we have a lot of mutual friends but in this scenario I would most likely be stuck in a corner on my own.\n\nIt's not really about NYE itself; I have friends I can see, but I'm really disappointed and hurt that a) he doesn't seem to care as much about spending time with me as I do with him and b) that he won't recognise how upset I am about this. I know I'm going to resent him whether I go with him or stay here and that thought alone is making me miserable. I guess I just want to know if I'm overreacting or not? He says it isn't about him not wanting to see me for NYE but to me it certainly feels that way. I'm so upset I can't sleep :(", "summary": "SO is spending NYE in a different city, doesn't understand that I am upset because I wanted to spend the holiday with him."}
{"id": "t3_2b794g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my GF [16 F] of 9 months, disagree about how much we should be texting.", "post": "Hello reddit. I am a introvert person and I used to just use my phone for basic texting like: at what time do we meet, when is dinner and so on. Then I got my Gf (Frequent texter that talks about everything). I love her and the time I spend with her in person (3/4 times per week) is great. *", "summary": "How can I tell my girlfriend that we should text less in a good way."}
{"id": "t3_14tpn9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How to get over your first relationship? Female, 15", "post": "My first boyfriend of about 6 months and I broke up because we had conflicting schedules and couldn't see each other much. It was mutual. But he started to ignore me and hang out with another girl, which wasn't really a problem because I thought, \"Hey he's just making new friends or something.\" He talks to the girl 24/7 now, just like we used to, and he completely ignores me.\n\nSo I figured,\"Well, he's moved on, so I guess it's time for me to move on also.\" The thing is, we broke up back in August. **4 WHOLE MONTHS AGO.** I've still yet to get over him. Sometimes I'll think I'm fine, but then I'll see something that reminds me of him and get really depressed. Since this was my first relationship, I have no clue how to deal with that depressed feeling.", "summary": "I have no clue how to get over my first relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3ewyde", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Miami, boats and sharks. Need advice", "post": "EDIT: Anytime I mention \"rubber boat\" I mean this kind of boat: \n\nHello r/Miami! I'm coming to Miami in August for the whole month!\nI'd love to rent a rubber boat / motorboat / water motor, to explore a bit. However, I have a few concerns:\n\n1) In Europe we enjoy small boats such as motorboats etc. as they allow us to explore all the caves / inlet and bays around which we cannot reach from land / swimming whatever. Is enjoyable to rent a motorboat in Miami? I know there is a long beach, and I was wondering whether it actually makes any sense at all to rent a boat.\n\n2) I've never been to the ocean. It may be completely stereotypical, tough I still want to ask: is there any danger of having sharks / other animals around? Both close to the beach and further, if I will rent a boat.\n\n3) I'm especially interested in rubber boats. How much should I expect to pay for a one day rent? I was planning of renting a small one, of let's say 4-5 mt max.", "summary": "Is it dangerous / expensive / worth to rent a rubber boat in Miami beach?"}
{"id": "t3_151kgw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you know about Domestic violence and immigration? I'm in urgent need of help.", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I'm hoping to get as much people as possible to see this and I believe it still fits with the rules on the sidebar. \n\nBasically I general advice or people I can contact to receive information about getting a family who is being abused by their step-father out of the house and taking safe haven into mine. Problem is, they have just come to America and therefore have a pending green card. The couple has just gotten married in the united states(although they lived together for several years in their home country) and the wife and her kids still have their green cards pending. \n\nThere's so many questions I have and I really want to get them out of that house after hearing the horror stories but I want to make sure that it doesn't jeopardize their chances of having a life in america.\n\nWe are consulting a lawyer this weekend but I was hoping someone could point me towards something beneficial before then.", "summary": "Need any information on helping a family who is being abused but can't escape due to the abuser being the only one with citizenship."}
{"id": "t3_3nnsir", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a fake name with an escort.", "post": "It's been a long time since I've been laid. Like, going on 12 months. Lots of overtime, not much money, depression, excuses yadda-yadda-yadda. So I decide that I need to end the drought by any means neccesary.\n\nAfter some escort browsing (which is a lot like looking through a catalogue, turns out), I pick one that does outcalls. I spend the next few hours cleaning up, and start messaging. I put down a fake name and use a throwaway email generator. I use the name Dan.\n\nTurns out Dan is also my upstairs neighbour's name.\n\nI give specific instructions to text me when she gets here, and to go to the side door. I hear a lot of door bells and people arriving, turns out the folks upstairs are having a party. Then I hear a lot of confused talking. Then shouting. Turns out the escort slipped in with them and was trying to flirt with Dan. Unlike me who was slipping into absolutely nothing.", "summary": "Can't even get laid by paying for it. Accidentally sent an escort to a married man's dinner party."}
{"id": "t3_1d91ip", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Why am I being downvoted?", "post": "I have no clue where to put this, but I'm mad as hell and I need to vent. Someone made a scumbag cop post in /r/adviceanimals about how their friend was arrested for walking home drunk rather than driving. I thought it might be interesting and at the the very least relevant that you are actually putting yourself in more danger by walking home rather than driving home. I didn't put a source, because I thought it was common knowledge, and not that unbelievable. The community had a different opinion, however and promptly downvoted me. I also got people telling me it was stupid and there is no way it was true. I replied to a few of these with a source. Snapping back at a few of the people calling me stupid. One person who called me stupid said he didn't mean that I was stupid just that drunk driving puts other people at risk. I think whatever but I'll go ahead and apologize. Somehow that post gets downvoted as well. Why the fuck am I getting downvoted for apologizing. I don't really even care for an answer I'm just pissed at the community here.", "summary": "got downvoted for stating facts, giving a source for the fact and even apologizing."}
{"id": "t3_pinpn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Australian here, Telstra is skimping my money with false mathematics, let me know what you think/think i should do? [First Post]", "post": "Here's my rant.\n\nOkay, so my problem is Internet Usage Allowance related. The info: I have 500Gb of internet usage per month on my plan, after this usage is used i get slowed to a mere 256Kbps. I am slowed at the moment because they say I've gone over the limit. When they calculated this they said i had used 506,000Mb cause they convert it to Mb for totalling purposes. They said that 506,000Mb is over 500Gb because by their conversion there is 1000Mb in 1Gb, they even had the nerve to tell me to Google it and that's what i would learn. Now, i know my conversions, and my maths and i even Googled it just to humor myself. Resulting in the well known fact that there is 1024Mb in 1Gb. So using common knowledge, 500Gb is 512,000Mb. 506,000Mb IS NOT ABOVE 512,000Mb. So i believe that they've skimped me out of a full 12,000Mb of faster usage. Everyone I've talked to over the phone in both the Technical Support and Billing sections have actually not known anything about the mathematics behind terms they use EVERY SINGLE DAY. Now, I am far from well off monetarily so when i am paying for something like this, I do want to receive what i am paying for.", "summary": "Telstra is saying there is 1000Mb in 1Gb (They told me to google it) when they calculate my usage, which is factually, scientifically and mathematically not true (there is 1024, you should google it :) ). How do i talk to someone capable of fixing this lie they have told me? How do i make them give me what i'm paying for?"}
{"id": "t3_2hhxbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] was recently completely dropped by my now ex-gf [21F]. Need advice. Don't know what to do.", "post": "Okay, so my ex and I had been dating for about three or so months. Everything was going great; we hung out and talked all the time. She always told me how happy she was with me and how glad she was that I was in her life. \n\nThen all of a sudden (a couple of weeks ago) things got confusing. \n\nAll was going well, she had just let me know about how truly happy I made her. Then, she asked to hangout the next day because she \"missed me\" and I planned on doing so...next day rolls around and I text her to see when she wants to hangout...no response. I call her the next day to see if she's okay because it's not like her to not text me back for an entire day or blow off plans with me...no answer. \n\nA week later, I'm thinking she's just pushing me out and ignoring me. So, I dump her through text (since I know she will read it). I said that I hoped she was okay, but I can't continue to waste my time and energy on someone who will ignore me like that after all that she said just days before. \n\nShe didn't respond and she still hasn't spoken to me.\n\nShe didn't block me from any social media and still follows me on twitter, etc..so I don't know if she's really trying to shut me out of her life or what.\n\nI've never had to get over a relationship like this. I still just have so many unanswered questions that are just driving me crazy. \n\nWhat should I do? Any insight into what's going on? Anything at all? I need help.", "summary": "My ex completely shut me out for no reason and I'm looking for insight into what happened."}
{"id": "t3_1mf3xo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18F] just broke up with my first boyfriend [18M] of 2 years. I need help :(", "post": "So after 2 years of constant fighting, its over. I broke up with him over him constantly lying to me about little things, but texted him in a moment of drunken weakness and asked to get back together. He said yes, then went out, got drunk with friends and texted me this afternoon and said something along the lines of 'no, I dont want to get back together since I don't love you and I haven't for the last few months. I'm too good for you etc etc' despite the fact we were still sleeping together the last few months. \nI feel empty right now. Empty, a little bit relieved, angry (duh) and somewhat offended. Oh, and I miss him. Of course, all my friends are telling me how I could do so much better but I'm scared one day a wall of emotion will just hit me and bowl me over. I really don't want it to and have a breakdown in the middle of the supermarket (Or worse, Uni). Any tips on how to survive?", "summary": "No one will ever love me anymoreeeeeeeeeeeee :'("}
{"id": "t3_1u5jlm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] found out my bf [19M] of 6 months is meeting up with his ex behind my back", "post": "Back story:\n\nBefore he dated me, he had been with this girl for around 3 years. They broke it off 3-4 months before he started seeing me because the long-distance thing just wasn't working (she lives on the opposite side of the country).\n\nThere has been constant tension in our relationship because she calls him pretty much every day, wanting to talk for long periods of time (I remember once it went over an hour), and she gets mad at him when he doesn't pick up her calls for a few days or ignores her. \n\nIt's been driving me nuts forever and when I confronted him about it he told me that they were best friends for 3 years and he couldn't just cut her off, which I understand. I just don't think they need to be talking that much. \n\nThe problem is, while I trust him when he says he is over her and has 0 romantic interest in her, I don't think she's over him. After they broke up, the never stopped talking on the phone every day and I don't think she had a chance to move on. \n\nAnyway, my bf is currently in another country and will be coming back in mid January and I was planning to pick him up from the airport. Today he mentioned that his family might have pushed back his flight because they wanted to spend more time with him. When I checked his email to get the flight numbers I found out that he actually scheduled a long layover near where she lives. \n\nWhat I also discovered was a chain of emails of them planning this whole thing that ended with her saying \"I'm so excited to see you love\".\n\nI don't know what to do--I feel sick. Why hasn't he told me about this? Why didn't he correct her? How do I confront him? I didn't mean to stumble upon this but I'm honestly at a loss right now. Should I trust him?", "summary": "bf is meeting with his ex who is still in love with him and he didn't tell me about it"}
{"id": "t3_dq0oe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "18 year old Female: FIRST DATE", "post": "Firstly, this is a throwaway account of course. I have several friends who are also redditors who would rip on me if they heard this\u2026 anyway\u2026\nI'm an 18 year old female who has recently been asked on a date. My FIRST date. (I've never even kissed a guy either!)\nI met the guy a few months ago, and really liked him. He asked me out, and I said yes. Now, that all seems nice and simple, but WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?\nI'm terrible at making small talk, I'll be completely distracted by his attractiveness, and I've never been on a date before! It is a dinner date, and it's a pretty big deal to me. I already like the guy a lot, he's really polite and kind, and we have a bunch of the same interests, but aside from talking about them, how can I make the date less awkward?\nThis is truly my first date, not that I'm a sheltered freak/weirdo or something (well, I AM a redditor) I've just never been asked out\u2026\nI'm nervous as hell. Help please\u2026 any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "18 year old female's first date, needs advice."}
{"id": "t3_48pvc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend (27/M) is stupid crazy for me but I (23/F) just want to be friends.", "post": "Hi there,\n\nthe title pretty much sums up my issue but I'll go into some more detail below.\n\nMe and Bro have been friends for around 5 years since university. We get along really well and can talk for hours and hours about pretty much everything. I think of him as my best friend. Honestly I don't have many people that I feel close to:/\n\nThe trouble started about 2ish years ago when Bro confessed that he had had feelings for me since the first time he met me and that he wanted to have a more serious relationship. I didn't feel the same way. I just wanted to stay friends. \n\nWe decided to try and keep hanging out as friends. I thought eventually he'd find some other girl and forget about me. Nope. \nWhenever we chat (especially when we have some drinks together) he says random things, telling me how cute I am or how he wants to take me on a trip somewhere. He remembers everything I say. If I mention a cute plushy or poster that I like, he'll buy it in secret and give it to me as a birthday present. He's told me more than once that I'm one of the only people he truly cares about... \n\nI don't know what to do. I've already tried cutting contact because I felt uncomfortable about our relationship and when I explained that his comments make me uncomfortable, that the presents he gives make me feel uncomfortable, he was alright for a few months but now the comments are back. I'm not fucking interested. \n\nHe seems to have it in his head that if he sticks around long enough I'll just give up and run into his arms. I have told him many times word-for-word that I am absolutely not interested. \n\nIs there a way for us to stay friends? What should I do?", "summary": "unrequited love blah blah leave me alone"}
{"id": "t3_2s8cq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like she's being unfair, am I wrong?", "post": "So a brief little run down I(25/M) have been with my fiancee(F/23) for almost 6 years now, all of which we have lived here at my home with my mom(66) and my son, we had a child together last November, sweetest baby ever, anyway. She's upset cause she wants a place of her own and doesn't want to live with my mom anymore. I work with my mom and she's currently training me to take over her dog grooming business. My fiancee has no job at the moment, but is looking for a job in her field of study, she's a registered Nurses assistant. We can't move out for obvious reasons, so i proposed a deal to her, we stay here until I take over the business and she gets a job in nursing. \n\nShe's not happy here cause my mom does interfere with raising my son, and I've told her before to stop and she has tried, shes just a very persistent person. My fiancee has also said to me that I'm not romantic enough, she would like me to plan an entire day together and shit like that. Well about 5 days ago she left because she was angry over all this and told me she would be back today, she needed some time apart, which I understand everyone does right? Well today i told her if she's not coming home she needs to take the baby for the night cause I have to work in the morning, expecting her to say she will be home today, she said \"Yeah I guess so\". I lost it, I didn't flip out with anger, i was just more upset than anything, I miss her so much and I just want things back to the way they were.\n\nI had a nightcap planned for after the kids go to bed for a couple funny movies to watch and blah blah, well her response to that is, \"Oh, i expected more than that\". I just think she's being completely unreasonable and I am trying, I know I'm not a romantic guy but I'm really trying, any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated. If I missed anything please feel free to point anything out I'm willing to do anything to get what we had back....", "summary": "My fiancee is unhappy living with my mom, but she has no job and I'm being trained by my mom to take over a business. Also feel she doesn't appreciate things or anything I do isn't good enough for her."}
{"id": "t3_40jcun", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my girlfriend David Bowie died.", "post": "So today is my girlfriend's birthday. We spent the weekend going out to a very nice restaurant and I helped organize some of her friends to meet her at a bar so she could hang out with them while I tagged along. Now, she wakes up at about 5 am every morning to get ready for work while I sleep in a little more being I go in at varying times. Today, her birthday, I woke up at about 5:25 am. While she is still in the bathroom and I am trying to adjust to some sort of light I go on reddit. On reddit, there is obviously the news that David Bowie dies and in my half-asleep state all of my brain power switches to thinking about that and forget it's her birthday. So, when she finally comes back into her bedroom I spurt out, \"Hmm did you see that David Bowie died?\" Not thinking anything of it I riddle off a line from Space Oddity and mention how it's sad. About 5 minutes later when she is about to leave and kiss me goodbye I wish her a happy birthday. She doesn't seem super ecstatic about it so I get out of bed, give her a hug and wish her happy birthday again as well as a best of luck at work. \n\nI continue to carry on my morning, we are texting normally, I tell her about a dream I had of us where we were snowboarding then at a bar and how it was a nice dream to have on her birthday. Well...... That seemed to set off some emotional trigger because she gets super pissed about how I mentioned David Bowie dying instead of wishing her a happy birthday, even though the second thing out of my mouth was just that and we spent the entire weekend celebrating it. It has now been over 10 hours and she is still pissed at me and doesn't want to see me. I bought some flowers and a lottery ticket for her to see if that works at all being saying sorry a bunch of times only made it worse. Oh well I tried.", "summary": "Told my girlfriend David Bowie died, should have wished her a happy birthday first."}
{"id": "t3_1henu5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend[20m] told other girl we were on a break when we are not, girl sends me[18f] the texts and I don't know what to do. (Text pic inside)", "post": "I left for a trip to Ohio today and everything was swell. I was traveling and I get a text from a girl I know talks to my boyfriend a lot. She seemed kind of sketchy but my boyfriend assured me they were just friends even though I saw the flirty texts between them. \n\nI told him multiple times that I don't like that they text all the time because it seemed like something more, but he assured me nothing was going on.  So anyway I get a text from her today asking if me and my boyfriend and I are on a break and I said of course not! Then she sends me this  ( white is him, blue is her) \n\nI am dumbfounded. I knew he was being weird with this girl but I had no idea to this extent. He always deleted the texts they had, so I never knew. Her feelings are hurt, and mine are too. He's begging for my forgiveness saying that hell change and what not , but I don't know what to do. We've been together an entire year coming up next week, and he's giving me all kinda of excuses.", "summary": "boyfriend told other girl that we were on a break when we're not and invited her to a party, while I'm on vacation."}
{"id": "t3_3cbjr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31 M] friend [31 F] took my ex-wife's side during our divorce, now wants to be pals...", "post": "Had a semi-rough divorce a while back. We had a bunch of mutual friends. Ellie was a friend of my ex-wife's, but also a friend of mine. We were very close, but when the divorce came down (wife left me, took kids, etc, after an affair and marriage breakdown), I asked Ellie to stay in touch. She flatly told me she wouldn't until things blew over. \n\nThings....blew over, and she wants to be in touch now. She wants our kids to play together, hang out, all that stuff. Just like old times! But man, what's a friend? She wasn't there during the worst times, even though they were hard. She had a chance to show exactly what kind of person she was, and she absolutely revealed it. I feel like I can't talk to her again, although I'm badly in need of friendship for myself and my daughter at this point.", "summary": "Friend from way back didn't talk to me for a month during divorce proceedings. Wants to be friends now."}
{"id": "t3_2djudj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21M] don't know if I want to be with her[22F] but have things holding me back.", "post": "Hello everyone so I am a 21 year old guy currently living with my 20 year old girlfriend. We are sort of fresh. Only dating around 7 months. We also share a phone plan.\nAnyways now that you have a little back-story. It seems as if I only want to be together as to not go through the hardship of break up, 1: Emotional, crying, angry. 2: Don't have enough money to pay for rent and shit by myself. 3: She is on the lease so if she doesn't want to go she doesn't have to which would be even worse.\nI feel like I should be fooling around and getting out there for myself. I do have feelings for her but I just feel like there's more.\n\nI feel like I shouldn't feel MARRIED. I can't hang out with friends, I can't talk to anyone outside of my gender, I can't have friends over that she doesn't approve of, She gets pissed if I even jerk off.\n\nI'm just nervous that if I end it that I will regret it and come crawling back. I'm very stressed about this issue because if we break up, she has no where to go, which I know I shouldn't care about but it's something to think about. What about her phone?\n\nI'm just in a bad situation. Girls are texting me wanting to spend the night and play video games and drink, chill but I can't because of...yeah.\nI just need some insight...", "summary": "Don't know if I want to be with GF anymore because I want to experience other women and life but don't have anyone to split bills with and don't want to go through a painful experience."}
{"id": "t3_2qf77a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] feels weird dating other people after a breakup of 2.5 years.", "post": "So i have this feeling that is a little strange after our breakup. A little back story, the relationship was about 2.5 years and it felt like we clicked very well and did a lot of things together. Never really had any arguments or anything like that. It seemed like a really good relationship, we supported each other and made each other better and all that wholesome stuff. She was my first long term girlfriend that really did anything with me and it felt good to be with her. She wanted to see who else was out there in terms of guys so that was the reason for the breakup. I have not really contacted her at all besides her texting me to catch up a bit. Things ended about 2 months ago by the way.\n\nAlright so on to what i am feeling, so i feel like i am still kind of dating her even though we are not talking besides a hello once or twice a month. I feel like i have to ask for permission from her to date other people even though i know that i don't and she is dating someone else already as well. I just can't really shake that feeling that i am suppose to be with her still and it just feels kind of wrong in a way to actually date and do other things with a different girl. I feel like i am cheating but i know that i am not since we are split up. I have been doing lots of things by myself as well like a job change and school and working on myself as well. Does anyone else have this feeling after a long term relationship and maybe how to get over that feeling? Just hard to grasp what to do in this situation. Thanks", "summary": "Broke up with GF (for sure over), feel like i am cheating even though i am not because we are broken up, suggestions to get over this feeling."}
{"id": "t3_1mx3ah", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while sharing a moment with my SO in a public park.", "post": "Last night we had parked in a park near a friends house and walked to a party there. Afterwords, we came back to the car and decided to get hot and heavy.\n\nRight in the middle of it all, two police cars pull up, and knock on the windows. We both were really surprised and didn't know how to react. We got a 15 minute interrogation about drugs being a problem in parks like these, and got asked if we knew anything about them being dealt or done around here. Then they informed us that we were breaking public lewdness laws. \n\nThey let us go with nothing but the embarrassing speech, but we are both still in hysterics about the whole thing.", "summary": "Fucked up by fucking in a fucking park."}
{"id": "t3_1nd5qh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I(19m) being unfair to my girlfriend and asking too much from her (19f)?", "post": "Okay so I've been in a long distance relationship for about a month now. This girl has talked to me through some stuff and I think she really cares about me. She told me that she was falling for me and it was scaring her. Now she came up this weekend to see me and her friend for her friends birthday friday and she ended up spending three nights with me and tonight she is spending it with her friend. Last night I spent the night taking care of her because she was vomiting from drinking to much. Tonight there was a party and the whole time she was kind of pushing me away because she thought I was doing too much pda. I got a little too drunk myself and she drove me back home, but I texted her saying about how alone I'm feeling right now and she'd rather be with her friend. I feel selfish because I know she should see her friend, but it's hard being with someone straight for three days and then being alone all of a sudden. Am I asking to much from her or is it understandable?", "summary": "I don't get to see my girlfriend often, and I really needed her tonight but she wasn't exactly there for me."}
{"id": "t3_2npeto", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "why does my dog randomly freak out during walks?", "post": "We are still working on walking, but he's gotten so much better. Only pulls about 15-20% of the time, normally when there is another dog/squirrel/animal/poop whatever. \n\nHOWEVER sometimes he will just randomly freak the hell out. He will bite and grab the leash, growl, and tug and pull like a crazed maniac. Normally saying \"no\" about anything else will get him to stop and at least look at me. Not when he's doing this. He's completely non-responsive and won't even settle down for treats. Jumping all over the place and growling. \n\nWhat do I do when he does this!? I know pulling probably doesn't make it any better but I don't know what else to do. I normally stand there in one spot saying \"no\". He's never bitten me during this but it could easily happen. \n\nIt happened today and I could not get him to stop or let go of the leash. He's a 60 pit/boxer mix and strong as hell. Finally I had enough and grabbed his harness and pulled him up into a position where he couldn't move and repeatedly said no, then put him on the shortest leash grip possible and went the fuck home. \n\nI tried playing \"tug of war\" with him once about a month ago but he growled during that and I haven't done it since, because I don't want to encourage that behavior. \n\nDo you think he's just playing? What is the best way to stop this? I already treat him when he's being good and calm but I have no idea what triggers it! Two times I can remember it has happened in a field and in a park, so two big open spaces. I guess I just need to avoid open areas? \n\n***he's also only 8 months old", "summary": "Dog will freak out during walks and bite/tug on the leash while growling. What's his problem? How to avoid?"}
{"id": "t3_23hphn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's (25m) birthday is coming...me (25f) would rather not him have a vagina in his face at the strip club", "post": "I'm bi I'm fine with going to the strip club with my boyfriend, don't mind if he has boobs rubbed in his face. I like going to the strip club with him. But the last time we went the stripper straight up put her pussy in his face.  I would not like that to happen again. He's pissed that I don't want that to happen. \n\nHow do I not make that happen. Already asked if I could pay the stripper 20 not to put her pussy in his face. He said if I'm going to act like that not to come. \n\nWhat should I do?  I will be pissed and not want anything to do with him if that happens but I don't want to ruin his name night at the same time?", "summary": "don't want a stripper putting her vagina in his face. Don't want to ruin his night in the process"}
{"id": "t3_13yug9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my sister is 23 and pregnant with her second child. She's six weeks along with a guy she's been with for two months. I don't think she should carry to term. What things should you feel horrible for feeling, but don't?", "post": "My sister has a daughter who recently turned three. She had this child with a married man, and he has never seen my niece. My parents are the one who support my niece. \n\nMy parents are young (42 and 49), so it's not an age issue. The problem is that my sister takes absolutely no responsibility for her daughter. Her money goes towards herself, or whatever guy she is seeing at the time. My sister lives with my parents, and her room smells of spoiled milk, and boxes and trash are piled almost to the ceiling. \n\nThe entire house has been like this ever since my younger sister and I have gone off to college, as we are no longer home to take care of the housework while my mother takes care of my niece. When my sister comes home from work, she will immediately go out, not coming home until one in the morning, long after her daughter has gone to bed.\n\nMy older sister has always been very messy, and refuses to help with any housework. Now that she is pregnant again, I can only see this getting worse. My niece can't even sleep in her own bed or her mother's, as both are filled with stuff from all over the house. My dad leaves for work at 5:30 in the morning, and doesn't return until around 7:30/8:00.\n\nThe baby daddy is her age, but he is very child-like,  and thinks it's easy to raise a child, and that working a part-time job will take care of everything.\n\nMy parents have raised their own children for over twenty years, they were excited to finally have time to themselves, but are now having to raise two more children for another 18 years. I think it's selfish of my sister to make my parents raise her current child, and for her to expect them to raise her upcoming child.\n\nI do not want her to carry this baby to term, and I don't feel bad for having this belief. My parents do not deserve to raise their grandchildren and be responsible for my sisters mistakes.", "summary": "My sister has a child she puts off to my parents, and is now having another one and will do just the same. I don't think she should carry the baby to term."}
{"id": "t3_10jza1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/F and 26/M] We'd love to build our lives together. Our careers are getting in the way. Thoughts? How do we make compromise work?", "post": "Hi everyone.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, and we've talked about where we think we're going with this relationship. It feels like when it comes to our personal lives, we're on the same page: we love each other, the sex is tops, and we have similar conceptions of an ideal family life (and what it costs). With the exception of my nuttily over-protective father, our friends and families have been supportive.\n\nHere's the 'but' that you know is coming. Both of us are very career-minded individuals. Because we're both young (and the job market isn't pretty), we're careful about making serious decisions that could affect our careers. When you see the difficulties that many of our friends have gone through, we're thankful that we're each financially independent and stable. I guess it's also honest to say that we'd both like to 'make it' in our respective fields, or at least try. We've both worked so hard and love what we do, why jeopardize all that?\n\nThis is where it gets tricky. We're doing very different things and working in very different cities/circumstances... and the opportunities for him where I am are slim and vice versa. Career-wise, both of us are much better off staying where we are now. \"Following\" each other to the other end of the earth is romantic, but who follows who? Who gives up what? \n\nI love this man a great deal, but if we decide to take this to the next level (either by living together or an engagement) I'm concerned about its impact on my professional goals. In a nutshell, I'm wary of ending up resentful of having to give up on filling my potential. He's doing well at work; I couldn't ask him to give up all that he's got going for him either. What do?", "summary": "One of us will have to pick up and move. Thoughts on how to decide? Assuage my fears?"}
{"id": "t3_1c8sf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can you be in an amazing relationship with someone but not trust them 100%?", "post": "I (f23) love my boyfriend (f22) and we have been dating since highschool. We have a great relationship, very compatible, great communication. \n\nBut for whatever reason, I cannot trust him that he won't cheat on me.\n\nNow, before jumping down my throat, I know this is a very warped view of things. I don't know why I think this: logically, it makes no sense. I am a confident lady, so I know it's not some back-up defense mechanism for my insecurities. I know him awful well to know that his morals go against every thought of cheating. Not to mention I know he loves me an awful lot and wouldn't want to ruin anything we have.\n\nDespite these things, I still keep caution. I'm not sure if it's rational, but I think of it as a human error that people can potentially make, whether they love a person a whole lot or not. I've seen that scenario occur way too many times. \n\nNow, I understand the notion of, \"you can't have a good relationship without trust\" but we have a perfect relationship in any other way. I haven't even told him that I don't trust him because well... that just sounds terrible. But whenever he hangs out with a lady friend late at night, or if there is alcohol involved... I tread with caution. I don't want him to cheat, but I feel vulnerable when I know he is a situation where he definitely could and it could jeopardize everything we've built together. It's not an insecurity thing, because I firmly believe he is more attracted to me than his lady friends, but impulses can be made.\n\nI don't know what I'm trying to get across: is this a shitty view? I have faith in him not to cheat but I'm afraid of temptations he might be put in. Does this view make me a bad girlfriend? How do I even start having this conversation with him, without making him angry?\n\nLet me have it, I suppose. I need some good advice and perspectives that I haven't heard before.", "summary": "I don't trust my boyfriend to not cheat on me. It's not based off insecurities but rather I just think its part of human error. Not sure if this makes me a bad girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_3gfirj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] BF [26M] has been posting his friends bikini pics in NSFW subs. Am I right to be creeped out?", "post": "I'm normally very open with our relationship...jerk off to porn all day, jerk of to scantily clad pics of your college crush. IDC, I would be a hypocrite if I told him not to. We've been together for three years I didn't expect this to bother me. Something about saving these pictures and posting them on reddit crosses a line though.\n\n1. The jealousy. I'm a little jealous that he thinks about this chick enough to post her photos on another website for people to jerk of too. He already fb creeps on her all the time...this too?\n\n2. The lack of respect he is showing for this girl. It's not like she's some random hot girl he found a picture of, this is someone he's known for a few years, maybe they even hooked up. It seems like some immature desperate reaching for some power over her.", "summary": "RN I'm pretty creeped out by my bf but probably won't mention anything unless it becomes a habit. Am I being too sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_3mv73a", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Call me worthless? Let's see how much your dignity's worth, eh?", "post": "This happened a while ago. Now, I was \"hanging out\" (read: being repeatedly cut off and talked over and all that jazz) with my friends, in between classes N all that, and I find an opportunity to actually chime in to the topic when one of my friends, let's call him \"Asshole\", shuts me down and says something along the lines of \"Shut up, no one gives a shit about you.\"\n\n \n Now, he knows that it really, *really*, pisses me off when I am knowingly ignored (for no reason, mind you), but I decide to stay quiet until we get back to class. Now lucky for me, Asshole sits in the front row, also right in front of me, so I get my bottle and pour some water into his seat, enough so it'd be unnoticeable if you're not paying attention, but also enough to stain his pants. The teacher walks in, and we sit down when Asshole suddenly jumps up from his seat, his wet ass shown to the public, and quietly goes to the bathroom to pick up some toilet paper so he could wipe the chair for any water left. As he's checking the chair for any more goodies, we make eye contact. He knows it's me but he doesn't make a fuss. Petty revenge achieved.", "summary": "Asshole friend tells me to shut up cos I'm worthless. I soak his pants in front of class and the teacher. "}
{"id": "t3_2f6ald", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend [17 F], she used to have a crush on me, now I can't get her to feel the same.", "post": "I've had a lot of love dissapointments on the time being, however for some time I've had this friend who had a crush on me. She always used to be there to make me smile when I felt down, and it's the only person on earth who opens me a conversation any time I get into messenger just seconds after I get online; however I was friendzonign her cuz she was somewhat younger than I. In the very bottom, I felt I liked her too, but decided not to care much about it.\n\nAfter some time and talking to my other female friends, I decided to try and show her I have feelings for her too. However it seems that when I try to get close to her, she acts the other way arroud with me. \n\nLike, we like to get online and play videogames together, but when I started flirting with her, she'd rather go play with other friends that me. I also feel now she has a crush on a transgender friend of us, since she's straight and she's been calling her a \"him\" no matter what, and tries to be with her all the time since she says \"he\" is funny. She had problems with me in the past so it seems now my trans friend is trying to seduce her acting as a guy just to have a little revenge on me.\n\nAnd indeed, now I feel things have turned for me. She still gets happy when I'm there, but now I'm the one trying to show her how I feel, however she's now trying to ignore all of that.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3dxnme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19f) can't get hold of my friend (21m) and we are meant to have plans.", "post": "I had been seeing (read: sleeping with) one of my friends for a few months before we finished uni for the summer and we decided to keep meeting up over summer as we were both having a good time and enjoy spending time together. We decided this after a lot of discussion so it felt sincere, but both agreed we don't want an ldr so would keep things casual. \n\nHowever, it's been a month and a half and we still don't really have solid plans to meet up. He was very enthusiastic to start with but now he is really unavailable.. he has already cancelled previous plans. We are meant to have plans this weekend with a few of his friends but I haven't booked any tickets or anything because he hasn't confirmed them. I tried to call him this weekend but he hasn't so much as texted me in response. This is pretty usual as sometimes either of us can take a day or two to respond. But I need to know what's happening at the weekend! I don't want to be weird and naggy but I feel like he's being quite rude. I would just write it off and ignore him but I will have to see him again when I go back to uni and I don't want things to be weird. So yeah, what's the best course of action? Wait for a response? And if I do get one do I tell him how annoyed I am? It's an odd situation because we are just casual, but as a friend this behaviour would be very rude too!", "summary": "the guy I'm seeing is ignoring my calls when we have plans and I'm very confused."}
{"id": "t3_k37uz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to get a girlfriend for a lonesome man?", "post": "I am 20, have had 1 shitty relationship that was based on pure luck. I have been a lonely man ever since. My attempts in flirting have been awkward situations. 7 rejectons in a row. crash n burn! I am trying to re-build my life as all my past friends have died to drugs or sex and i hate the job i have, I am chubby, but i jog 6 miles daily. Sitll living off the parent's teat till i move out in a few years. i am happy but still so lonely. I want a girl and just to relax and enjoy life. I mean, look ladies and gentleman, its friday, and I am here alone! This is madness! What can i do, help me friends.", "summary": "lonely man looking for love but does not know how too"}
{"id": "t3_jwit8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your most bizarre encounter with a stranger where no words were exchanged? I'll start...", "post": "Back in high school, my friend and I were in the drive-thru at Mcdonald's during a particularly busy lunch hour. The line was about 15 cars long and we were smack dab in the middle. A 40-something man climbed into his parked truck (perpendicularly adjacent to our car) and began to back up towards our side. After passing through the \"comfort bubble\" around our car, my friend tapped his horn to alert the man, who proceeded to lay on his horn back at us, apparently believing we were blocking him. He continued to back up *even further*, forcing my friend to honk his horn again (we were in the middle of a drive-through line with nowhere to move). The man laid on his horn again and finally stopped. After the line progressed, and the car behind us allowed the man through, he pulled abeam with our car, carefully unwrapped the cheeseburger he purchased (the entirety of his purchase!) and hurled it onto my friend's windshield, before peeling out and leaving the parking lot. My friend chuckled and turned on his wipers, smearing mustard and ketchup across his beater windshield like a condiment rainbow.", "summary": "In a fit of misdirected rage, an older man hurled his Mcdonald's cheeseburger from his car window onto our windshield while we waited in line at the drive-thru. The cheeseburger was the only thing he had ordered."}
{"id": "t3_28q5hg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] My [20F] girlfriend has been texting an ex who made quite a few intense advances, I don't have a clue what to do.", "post": "Hey, feeling confused, kinda betrayed and just generally shit. I don't snoop much but I was just fucking about on my girlfriend's phone and wondered what was up, I saw that she'd been texting someone who was apparently an ex.\n\nShe was confiding quite a lot in him which felt odd, as I looked back I kept feeling sicker and sicker, I saw that he had been making lots of overtly sexual comments and eventually tried to initiate sexting, she rebuffed him but apologised for doing so. They said goodnight but it seems like they're going to continue their friendship. I know I shouldn't have snooped but I don't know what to do, she's away, and I don't trust this guy even slightly now, I understand being friends with an ex, though I don't personally keep in touch with mine, but this is all too much.\n\nI feel shitty for snooping, but I just don't know what to do about it, I can barely eat and I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. Please help me dudes. I'm at a loss.", "summary": "I'm a dick, I snoop, GF recieves sexting advances via text but apologises for not being able to follow through with them, feel betrayed and generally shitty"}
{"id": "t3_39qwib", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Twice", "post": "These FU's actually happened today. Fu 1:\n\nI'm working out in the garage and I eventually end up using my punching bag. So I use it for about 10 minutes before heading out. So I take off the gloves but for some reason still unknown to me I try to hit the bag throwing an overhand right. My knuckle hits a nearby bookcase, the pain is very intense and I know now that I broke my knuckles.\n\nFU 2: Due to my Fu I ended up in a hospital waiting room. To pass the time I was listening to a podcast called PKA (r/PKA to check it out) and this show is definitely R rated. This week their sponsor was a robot blowjob machine and they were talking about this. But it wasn't enough for just me to hear this because I had to share it with the world . I dropped my phone and my headphones fell out as one of the hosts was talking about something along the lines of how much he 'loves to f*** his robot p***' . Safe to say that got me some odd looks.\n\nManaged to squeeze two FU's in one day . Not my best life achievement", "summary": "Punched a bookcase, broke my knuckle. Dropped my phone in the waiting room, earned me some odd looks."}
{"id": "t3_q86ba", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First date with a long-time friend, Advice needed.", "post": "I (22 M) have bagged myself a date with a long-time friend on mine. The situation is that she knows I like her a lot and she had never really seen me in that way but is willing to give it ago and see how it goes and see if sparks fly.\n\nBackground i've known and been good friends with her for 5 years now. She is quite shy when it comes to relationships or anything along those lines so I already know I have to take things slow which is fine by me I just need some advice to help me not mess it up.", "summary": "Going on a date with a long-time friend need advice for the date."}
{"id": "t3_36znwv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting excited over a large selection of candy", "post": "Alright, this happened last night. Sorry if I'm vague, first time posting and not sure how strict the rules are. \n\nI'll start off saying I am a white male and I live in a predominately black neighborhood. Honestly I couldn't care less, we all get along and are pretty good friends. So my brother (in town visiting) and I go to a grocery store that I haven't been to before for a beer run (heard of a good sale) and of course we stop in the candy aisle. Now this store had the largest selection of candy I'd ever seen. I mean they had more varieties of Snickers (my fav) than I even knew existed. *did you know dark chocolate snickers exist?* Sooo I see them and exclaim to my brother \"Look at all these Snickers!\"..... \n\nPeople heard it and misheard it (say it to yourself if you don't get it). One particular family got extremely upset and wouldn't listen when I tried to explain myself. They called over the manager and everyone was yelling at me (I'm a very non-confrontational guy, so is my brother). For some reason, the manager wouldn't take us to an office or anything, we all we're just standing in the aisle.\n \nLuckily, one of my neighbors heard the commotion and backed me up and pretty much dissolved the situation. However, since the manager \"couldn't prove that there was a miscommunication\" he scanned my ID and now I'm banned from that store and didn't get cheap beer or interesting candy.", "summary": "Said something that sounded like a racial slur, got banned from access to special candy."}
{"id": "t3_3641nw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] got black-out drunk 6 months ago. Yesterday, I remembered portions of the night that I forgot - I may have cheated on my girlfriend.", "post": "First off, let me acknowledge that I'm a piece of shit. I've been dating the most amazing girl for the last year. About 6 months ago, I had a night out with 6 of my closest friends. I invited my girlfriend, Sara, however she wanted to spend the night in. I tried tequila shots for the first time that night and took far too many. I blame nobody but myself for this. I got to the bar and ran into a bunch of my classmates. Among them was Joan (45F).\n\nAbout 14 months ago, before I met my girlfriend, I ran into Joan at the bar once. We danced and made out, nothing more. Since then she's been flirty, however I've always kept things professional (medical program, necessary to network). When I ran into my classmates, one of them bought me a beer. My other friend bought me a shot. After that, I don't remember much. Yesterday I was talking about that night with a friend, and I suddenly remembered dancing with Joan. I don't remember how, where, or anything else. Now I'm not sure if I actually did dance with her that night or not. I know I didn't kiss her - that much I remember for sure. That being said, my girlfriend and I made it clear it's not okay to dance with other people. I broke that trust (I think - I actually don't completely remember still). I'm thinking that maybe I'm mixing that night up with another before I dated Sara, however I can't be sure.\n\nNow I'm sitting here angry at myself. I don't know if this happened that night, or if I'm remembering it from a time before I met my girlfriend. I take full responsibility of this and I definitely need to tell my girlfriend. I have no idea how to, though. \"Sara, I may or may not have danced with another girl 6 months ago. I can't remember.\" Where do I go from here?", "summary": "I overdid it and got black-out drunk. Ran into classmate at the bar. Lastnight, I remember that I may have danced with her at the bar that night, however I'm still not sure. How do I tell my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2x7b4p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wanting my SO to brush his teeth with Oreo cream.", "post": "So this happened in the morning and i'm STILL gagging. Alright a little background: my SO and i have a thing where we'd prank each other. Small ones, nothing too harmful.\n\nYesterday after procuring a huge value pack carton of double-stuffed Oreos (thinking it could last me half a year), i decided instead on wasting it for some good clean fun.\n\nWe've all seen those toothpaste replacing Oreo stuffing type pranks, but i wanted to mix it up a bit. Very gleefully, i started collecting half a toothpaste tube's worth of Oreo cream to stuff it in a half-emptied one. \n\nYeah okay midway through i realized it was pretty dumb, because it was to get a workable amount of Oreo cream for a (delicious) prank. Don't even get me started on the stuffing cream into tube process. At that point i realized it was not worth the effort for something that isn't even so much of a prank than a surprise treat. But whatever, the job was done at last.\n\nSo my SECOND mistake was getting smashed with him that night at a party and collapsing in bed. We both didn't even bother brushing our teeth. Shit. Alright usually my SO wakes before me. But nope, turned out i woke up first after a solid 8 hours, but still groggy from yesterday night.\n\nWoke up, forgot all about Oreos, did the whole wash up routine, SOMEWHERE my subconscious was screaming that the toothpaste consistency felt off. But nope, on my toothbrush the cream went.\n\nYou'd think the worst that could happen was that a mouthful of Oreos. Which can be pretty sweet first thing in the morning. But yeah, turns out ants love Oreos as much as we do. \n\nBy the time i'd smash the toothbrush into my mouth and did a couple of strokes before tasting and remembering my failed prank and whipped out the toothbrush, there was a fine ground paste of ants-infused Oreo cream all over it... AND INSIDE MY MOUTH.\n\nStill gagging.", "summary": "Wanted to prank SO by replacing toothpaste with Oreo, ended up murdering ants by grinding them against my teeth in an ocean of sweet cream."}
{"id": "t3_4gooqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34M] with my girlfriend [31F] of 2 months. She's pregnant and wants us to keep the baby.", "post": "Met my girlfriend on OKCupid in February and had our first date on 25th February. Things then moved really fast and with me staying at her place 5 night out of 7 most weeks. \n\nWe became so comfortable so quickly, that she gave me a key before 6 weeks had passed, though she later admitted she mistakingly thought we had been dating much longer.\n\nYesterday she was very quiet and appeared to be visibly worried and holding something in. After a little questioning she finally admitted she was pregnant.\n\nNeither of us are religious, and I don't believe that life begins at conception, so my first instinct was that we should probably abort this unplanned pregnancy; however, it is her body and I felt the choice was predominantly hers to make, so told her I would fully support what ever decision she made. \n\nShe has decided she wants to keep the baby and I'm trying to act really supportive and reassure her that everything will be okay, but inside I'm petrified and suddenly feel very trapped.\n\nShe went to the doctor today who confirmed she's around 4 weeks, and scheduled a 12 week scan. She doesn't want us to tell anyone until 12 weeks as due to an existing medical condition there is a slightly higher than normal chance of miscarriage; however, I could really do with some advice/reassurance so I'm turning to you guys instead. \n\nI really don't feel ready for any of this and also really worried this situation will make me resent my girlfriend and ruin our relationship. At the same time I was raised by a single mother and always vowed to never be an absentee father. I'm so confused right now, but trying to act calm for her and be reassuring, but can tell she's worried about me and the situation we found ourselves in.\n\nHelp!", "summary": "Found out girlfriend of 2 months accidentally became pregnant around one month after we first met. She wants to keep the baby, and I'm secretly freaked out whilst trying to act supportive."}
{"id": "t3_1ih2j3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] accidentally called my GF[17/F] of 10 months by my Ex's name while Skyping", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for about 10 months now. We've had our ups and downs and as of recent we've been fine. About 2 or 3 months ago we had a rather big issue where I hadn't told the majority of the truth a few months  before and it almost destroyed our relationship. We worked it out and I haven't lied to her since.\n\n**I messed up**\n\nNow tonight we were Skyping and we were getting to the part of night where we always devolve into talking about the things we want to do over the weekend. She was explaining how she was going to be my nurse (I'm rather sick right now) and how she'd make me feel all better. And then said something along the lines of \"Of course, Ms. [Ex's last name].\"\n\nAt this moment I know I messed up and she knew it too. There was no way I could recover and I wasn't going to try and hide it. She just said \"Honey, you're sick and you need to go to sleep.\" I said I was sorry, but what can I do... I wasn't intentional in the least bit...\n\nShe keeps venting to twitter and it is making me nervous.. After what my ex did to my life, my SO really has really helped me get past that all.\n\n**Info about my ex**\n\nMy ex and I dated for about 4-5 months and it ended a year and a half ago. She ended up dragging me around for about a total of a year (the summer before we started dating till probably last May or June when I told her to fuck off and leave me alone), cheating on me, tried to get me to help her cheat once, and tried to keep me in her life by playing up the death of her father. We had a sexual relationship that was not good at all (she used me). During my current relationship (this is when we went public and let people know) she tried to cause problems for my SO and even tried to accuse me of hitting her and assaulting her.\n\nIn short, I hate my ex and I really wish that I could just ignore that that part of my life ever happened.", "summary": "Accidentally called my gf by my ex's name while naughty skyping."}
{"id": "t3_gu4sn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend dumped me. Depressed and thinking about sex. What's so special about the first time?", "post": "I'm in high school, with about one year left until graduation. My girlfriend of two years dumped me last night, and I'm just feeling crushed. She's left me for one of her older friends. She wasn't my first girlfriend or first crush or anything, but I really loved her, she was perfect in my eyes.\n\nSo amid all this thinking about what happened, I feel really bad about losing her... But on top of this, I'm coming to the realization that I'm never going to have sex with her. I was really looking forward to that, because I was just coming out of my sexual shell, so to speak, and so was she. Well, we've gotten pretty touchy-feely in the past, but there hasn't been any penetration of any sort. We were kind of looking forward to it... I wanted her to be my first, and she thought the same about me. \n\nBut now she's gone.\n\nAnd she's with someone else, who will probably have sex with her soon, if they haven't already.\n\nAnd this has me thinking, what's so special about having sex with her? Why is it that I wanted so bad to have my first time with *her*, and not anyone else? And why did I want to be her first sexual experience? I feel bad knowing that I'm not going to be her first. I can't even look at her anymore. I probably won't have sex until college now, because I just know I'll never get over her until then. Why did I wait so long for sex, only to lose my opportunity to have it? \n\nI'm not trying to bash waiting until marriage or religion or cultural norms or anything, but I just want everyone's opinion. Was your first time with someone special? Am I a bad person for feeling contempt towards her because she's had sex with someone else and not me her first time? No, she's not tainted or anything, but I just can't go back to that now, even if she wanted to, because I feel terrible knowing *his* hands were all over her. She was my special woman. And I lost her.", "summary": "relationship with a girl I really loved is over, we never had sex but planned on being each others' first, now I feel bad for not having sex and now someone else has had sex with her. Discuss the significance of the first sexual experience between two people in love, or your first sexual experience. Was it with someone truly special to you? Did you wait a long time for it? Any regrets, any meaningfulness, any feelings or lessons at all that you took away from that first time? And am I a bad person for not wanting to see her anymore because she's had sex with someone else and being each others' first as we had hoped?"}
{"id": "t3_2w2buj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know if I [22M] should continue relationship with my Ex [21F]", "post": "So I'll just give a little background to help understand the situation now.\nThis girl, my ex, [21F] was my first girlfriend from high school, lost my virginity to her, spent 3 years as really good friends from junior year to after high school. After high school she was having personal issues and decided to move out of her house and away from her family. About a month after she moved away she got pregnant from some older guy, late 20s I think. I was broken and stopped talking to her for about a year.\n\nFast forward to recently, shes actually a single mom now and the father has been long gone for awhile. She's had another relationship that's come and gone within a few months. Well, on my birthday she starts talking to me through Facebook and we catch up a little. The messages turn into texts and calls about the good days before she moved away and how she misses me and everything.\n\nI've really matured since I last saw her 2-3 years ago and have no hard feelings but I also don't love her like I did in high school because I've met many other girls and experienced more. I told her this early before we started talking more that I don't want any relationships I'm just looking to have fun and enjoy life and if she still wanted to talk to me she can. She didn't take it too well, but the next day she seemed to get over it and decided I was still worth talking to I guess.\n\nEven more recently, she just invited me up to stay a few nights with her and I said OK. After she invited me though she started asking what I thought about marrying her in the future!! I totally deflected the question and didnt give a straight answer because I know there is no way I would marry this girl now after what shes done to me in the past and we barely even started talking again a month ago. She's a really attractive girl and I'm still attracted to her, and she and I both know what's going to happen if I go up there, but I don't think she understands what I said in the beginning about no relationships. I'm confused now what to do with this whole thing..", "summary": "My ex [21F] from high school that has a kid now wants me to come up for a weekend. I said yes and then she started asking what I thought about her as a future wife?!"}
{"id": "t3_2njm6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24M] Things may be getting serious with this [20F] girl. I need advice for telling her about my cold sores.", "post": "So this girl and I have been hanging out a lot recently. After a few weeks of hanging out and one actual date (which didn't end in a kiss), we've begun to show signs of liking each other, e.g. holding hands, arms around each other, and...a few kisses.\n\nI should preface this by saying I know the ideal time to tell a partner about oral herpes is before any of this happens. The only reason I haven't done it yet is because all our displays of affection have happened organically and in the moment. We haven't even really discussed our relationship it all. We just sort of *are* this way when we're around each other.\n\nAt this point, I know I want to be exclusive with this girl, and I'm fairly sure she feels the same way. I need to tell her about my cold sores though, and I want to do it the next time I see her.\n\nThe only problem is our next planned thing is a study date. We're both very focused students, and talking about relationships and herpes doesn't seem to fit into that context. However, I really don't want to wait any longer to have this discussion.\n\nSo here are the options I've considered, and I'd love for some feedback and suggestions on which to choose:\n\n* Bring it up out of the blue.\n\n* Try to direct conversation toward relationships, somehow mention that I have oral herpes.\n\n* Do one of the first two options, but wait until after finals when we go on our next date.\n\nThe actual discussion isn't too worrisome to me. I've told previous girlfriends about it, but I can't really remember how I managed to bring it up.", "summary": "Had a few in-the-moment kisses, but haven't had the opportunity to discuss my oral herpes. Do I bring it up randomly, or direct conversation toward it?"}
{"id": "t3_kqq2u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how would you costume a 19th century Fisherman, \u00e0 la Captain Nemo?", "post": "I'm putting together a pretty good costume idea for Halloween this year that involves a not-so-period-perfect 1850's fisherman.  I've done some research and I've decided to stray away from the actual period clothing.  Its difficult to find leather shoes and britches- petticoat or otherwise.  \n\nHere's what I'm planning on:\n\n- Wool coat, preferably a pea coat\n- Thigh waders\n- Turtleneck\n- Stocking cap\n- slacks, thick cotton\n- worn wooden tobacco pipe\n\nTake in to account I don't have any of these items on hand and I'm working with a reasonable budget.  From that list, do you think its possible to convey a \"swarthy fisherman persona\"?  Is there something you would do differently?\n\nIts rare that I would put this much advanced planning in to costume but I've had the idea all year.", "summary": "From the list above, could I pull of a quasi historical fisherman's costume? What would you add, do differently?"}
{"id": "t3_4ihyj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M], ugly and single, I'm obsessed with dating beautiful women and that's severely diminishing my opportunities for having a relationship", "post": "I'm ugly (I'm not here to discuss that, that's something I accepted during my late teen years and has been confirmed by multiple people). I'm mostly socially functioning but since I have SAD, I'm a little awkward when I'm dating. Also, I'm nerdy. For some reason, I'm obsessed with dating women that are beautiful, obviously that has diminished my chances for having a relationship. \n\nI worked on my anxiety early in my 20s until now, with therapy and medication for a little while and somewhat I managed to date women, I had a lot of ONS and casual sex encounters in FWB fashion. I had only one long lasting relationship (it wasn't really long lasting, only long lasting for my standards, it lasted 1.5 years and it ended because she was not mentally stable). The price I pay for dating those women is that while they're beautiful, they're not very intellectually stimulating and/or they have mental issues. \n\nTo be honest, I always found all the energy that you have to invest in having a relationship too demanding, but lastly I've been feeling empty. I want to connect with someone at an emotional and intellectual level. I've been programmed by society to like only beautiful women, and I want it stop. The only thing that would be a real deal breaker would be obesity, but besides that I want to put personality, intellect and emotional bonding first. I want to date ugly people.\n\nAre there exercises or practices that I can apply to desensitize myself about ugliness? How can I re-program myself about changing my priorities about women and dating?", "summary": "I'm ugly and always cared about dating only beautiful women and that lowered considerably my chances of having a relationship. I want to date ugly women and I don't know how!"}
{"id": "t3_25pxwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[25/f] cheated on me[25/m] a year ago, with a coworker.. Going back to work with him?", "post": "So, about a year ago my girlfriend of about a year(2 years now) and I were having some issues. It was mostly financial issues we had been going through, it just made a lot of situations pretty tense. Up until this point we were inseparable, she dropped the love bomb first, talked about wanting to marry me, we moved in together really quick(too quick?) etc. Then she got a new job, and started making friends with the guys there. \n\nOver the course of the next few months I noticed her friendship with one particular guy was progressing oddly. She'd stay after work to hang out with everyone for hours. It ended up with me being invited to some of the hang outs, just to meet her new friends. Well, eventually my paranoia about them proved right. She dumped me and slept with him within a week. Literally the morning after she cheated, she came to my house and picked me up to go get coffee... She told me everything(we were broken up, I don't understand this, still...) and said it was a mistake. He played her. As soon as he got in her pants he completely cut her off.\n\nShe obviously came running back to me, and me in my weakened pathetic state agreed to take her back. I didn't like them being in the same work environment, but it didn't last long as she was promoted and transferred out.. Things between us were rocky, but steadily improved.\n\nANYWAYS, to the point, it's been about a year since all that happened and her career has progressed a lot. She's now a manager; corporate had been sending her to places all throughout our area to train and work, but today I found out her new permanent place is at her old store, where this dude still is at. It makes me uncomfortable and I don't really know what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me a year ago with a coworker, I got over it, she ended up transferring to a new store for training, etc. Now she's been transferred back to her old store with this old fling. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4sjvba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, M[17], am always comparing myself to F[17] whom with I cheat on my girlfriend with a year ago", "post": "This is a weird situation.  []\n\nSo me [M17] and my girlfriend [F17] have been going out for a year and 6 months now. We have always been happy together and well suited and the only major hitch we ever had is that I slept with another girl last summer (please let me explain as this situation needs serious contextualisation)...\n\nSummer 2014 aged 15 I met a girl (lets call her Anna) the same age as me. Anna and I got off every now and again and eventually we went out for maybe 5 or 6 months.\n\nWinter 2014 everything was becoming too much and so to get out of the relationship I had sex with another girl who was one year above me (she was 17 I think at this point). Anna is now out of the picture as far as I am concerned\n\nSpring 2015 I asked out my current girlfriend (both of us aged 16) and things were very good for both of us.\n\nSummer 2015 my girlfriend went on holiday. I went to a party and got completely shitfaced and ended up sleeping with Anna (likely to get back at me for cheating on her). Went on a break with girlfriend and had to work very hard to get her back.\n\nSummer 2015-Present: Anna now goes to my school and is in my biology class. She is a girl who goes out a lot and does a lot of drugs, she has slowly but surely slipped further and further behind as I excelled as one of the best in the class. She too has a boyfriend in the same year (17) however I think that he is far too good for her and that is what has gotten me thinking about how often I compare myself to her.\n\nIn conclusion: why is it that I compare this girl to myself and constantly want to be better than her? My girlfriend notices it also and finds it weird and so do I.\n\nAny help would be massively appreciated.", "summary": "M(17) always in competition to be better than the girl F[17] I cheat with on my current girlfriend one year ago."}
{"id": "t3_4a3b6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of two years, losing virginity?", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. We met in high school and are each other's first everything: date, kiss, relationship, etc. Unfortunately due to long-distance (we went to different colleges after hs graduation) and a few other factors, I'm feeling it's time to bring the relationship to an end. I do still very much love and care for him, but it just isn't built to last. I'm waiting until the next time we see each other (in a few weeks) to break it off (because I think it's better to do it in person).\n\nThe issue is this: we are both still virgins in the PIV sense, and though the relationship will be ending soon, I want to and am ready to lose my virginity. So I want to do it with someone I trust/someone who knows my body well. Is it okay to ask this of him? And if so, when should I bring it up? I don't want to simply have sex and then tell him it's over, because that would feel like I'm using him (and I don't think we'll have the opportunity in such a short amount of time anyway). But I don't know if he'll understand my intentions after the fact - meaning I don't want to wait years before finding someone else I'll feel comfortable enough to have sex with, but I don't know if in the time after we break up, it'll be safe to have sex without him thinking there's a possibility of relationship. \n\nMy reasoning is purely \"you are an extremely good friend of mine and we both know each other's bodies well enough that I think it will be healthy and beneficial for us to experience this event together before going out into the adult world alone.\" He's already expressed before in conversation that if we ever separated, he'd want to remain friends. At the same time, I'm not sure how he'd react to my suggestion. Knowing him as well as I do, he'd probably think it's a good idea, but I don't want to accidentally hurt him. So, advice?", "summary": "Breaking up with boyfriend but still want to lose my virginity to him. Not sure if/how I should bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_2nqob4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] 5 Months, I'm a breakup virgin, need some advice on how to tell her I still have feelings for her without sounding clingy.", "post": "I've been dating this QT 3.14 for a while now, who is by the way, wayyyy out of my league. Anyway, for the past week she hasn't really wanted to make plans and won't talk to me unless I talk to her first. When it is just her and I together, we are like best friends, but when there are other people around she barley acknowledges my existence. I really like this girl.\n\nAnyway, today I asked her if she wanted to hang out, and she said she was going to a VB game on campus, and she had extra tickets if I wanted to go. So when we get there I find out there are only 3 tickets (we went with another couple) so I just bought my own ticket, not a big deal. At the game and on the way home, she didn't say one word to me unless I talked to her. When she dropped me off there was no kiss goodbye or even a hug, and then she texted me asking if I had plans the next day, saying that we need to talk, which is never a good sign.\n\nSo tomorrow I'm picking her up at 11 and were are going to talk (about what I don't know, she wouldn't tell me). This is the first girl that I really care about, and I don't want it to end. I'm asking for some advice on what to say when I pick her up at her house, what to say when she breaks up with me, if I should tell her how I feel, ect. thanks :/", "summary": "Girl I'm in love with is going to break up with me. Need some serious advice"}
{"id": "t3_2pitrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23F) with this guy (25M) that I've been seeing for about 2 weeks.. is it too clingy to ask about New Years Eve plans this early on?", "post": "I met this guy online and we had been texting for a few months. We finally went out for the first time about 2 weeks ago. We've only gone on 2 dates - but both of them have lasted 6+ hours. We both have acknowledged that we're really surprised with how well we've clicked with one another, and that we both really like each other. We've texted every single day the past two weeks and have plans to get together again this upcoming weekend.\n\nWith New Years Eve just around the corner, naturally I'm thinking about plans. It would be really nice to spend time with him and have a nice midnight kiss, but I also don't wanna come across too strong and make him think I'm like assuming we're a couple or assuming that we'd automatically spend the holiday together. I'd also be perfectly content just getting together with my girlfriends - but I don't wanna make plans with them and then later have him come forward suggesting that we do something together.\n\nShould I even bring it up or just assume that it's too early?", "summary": "Been on 2 really great dates with this guy I've been talking to online for a few months, both us have acknowledged that we really like each other and really clicked, not sure if it's too early to ask about New Years plans?"}
{"id": "t3_3ctd5r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did she [25F] really love me [25M] ??", "post": "We were best friends for many many years. Recently, she came to my town to attend a month long course. We hang out almost everyday. \n\nAs time passed by, our boundaries may have passed. We went to parks, movies, museums together. We started to hold hands while walking in the park. We hugged each other often. We had great moments. Sometimes, she would even call me \"honey\".\n\nFinally, we went for a clubbing night as she insisted since she never been there before. In the heat of the moment, we kissed. That's where the problem started.\n\nI freaked out and might have said that I didn't want to get things serious. (My stupidity of course). She took it hard. She went cold on me from that day onwards.\n\nA week later, she told me she is seeing someone else and we should be just friends. I freaked out and confessed to her that I have feelings for her. She said she might have feelings for me too but no longer due to what I had said. (Double mistake)\n\nDramas continued and I went No Contact. Today she posted on FB that she had lost a best friend and why people can't just stay as friends?\n\nThe worse thing is this new guy, shes seeing, was a friend of mine (a bastard to me now). Everything seems chaotic. She is going back to her home town in next two weeks or so and won't come back soon. Whats the point in seeing someone new anyway?", "summary": "Did she really love me? Does she still have feelings for me? Is this new guy shes seeing a rebound?"}
{"id": "t3_371a6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] girlfriend of 1 year [24 F] is pregnant we're planning on terminating it. I won't be there for the procedure. How can I support her from miles away?", "post": "I'll keep this brief. My girlfriend and I had unprotected sex for the first time a few weeks ago (she doesn't use the pill because a friend had a stroke or something because of it), and despite using plan b the next day, she got pregnant. The no condom thing was something that happened in the heat of the moment because we didn't have one by us, and I figured we would just get plan b the next day so it was ok.\n\nRegardless, she got pregnant (WTF are the chances of that) and we've opted for an abortion. The only problem is that I've gone to another city for work-related stuff and I won't be able to be there with her on the day she's getting her abortion. The stress of the whole thing is obviously getting to her, and I've been talking to her as much as I can to try to at least help with her mood. But I feel awful because she has to go through this procedure on her own (local friends can't help and family can't know) and I can't even be there and feel so helpless.\n\nIt's a shitty thing to happen and I just want to make it as easy as possible on her. I'm also afraid she might resent me for this.", "summary": "How can I best support my girlfriend who's getting an abortion while I'm in another city?"}
{"id": "t3_2jwaq5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need some advice on how to talk to my (M28) new GF (F28) about her feelings for me and her expectations for our new relationship.", "post": "Hello all, I've not been using Reddit for long so bear with me.  I'm still getting the hang of it.  I've seen some good advice being handed out so hopefully you can all help me out.\n\nI've (M28) been dating a really cool girl (F28) for the last couple of months and things seem to be going pretty good.  We've been taking it slow as shes come out of a really rough relationship and thats cool with me.  She's \n\nI'm getting to the point though where I would really like to know how she feels about me and where she sees our new relationship going.  The problem is I don't really know how to approach the subject.\n\nOne half of me thinks the best way to go is to sit down with her and just ask what I've written above.\n\nThe other half says thats a really bad idea and seems really clingy and to let things go on as they are for a while longer and see what develops in time.\n\nI know I've got quite strong feelings for her that have been developing over the last couple of weeks and the last thing I want to do is put her off by piling too much pressure onto her.  I would really like something good to come from this.\n\nRelationships are all about communication and we certainly need to talk about what we want from one another.  I just don't know if the timing is right or not.  Any advice on how to best handle this situation?", "summary": "How to talk to my new GF about our relationship and how she feels about me?"}
{"id": "t3_1275s8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In a relationship with a pot addict", "post": "Okay, here it goes. I've (30 F) been dating this guy (29 M) for 10 months and we live together. He's amazing in every way. We love each other and share the same values.  We have talked about marriage and kids. Even gone so far as to plan a date for next summer and told close friends. He's successful, intelligent, and ambitious. The problem is he is addicted to pot. He disclosed this early in the relationship but I honestly thought, \"how bad can it be?\" He owns his own business and has a Ph. D. He told me he'd been using it to combat depression and anxiety for about 10 years. He stated that he wanted to use it in a balance and would eventually evolve. He told me over and over he doesn't want to do it everyday. \n\nFor a while he maintained a balance. Now, 10 months in and he's using it everyday and in the morning. Even if it's medicinal (which I'm not convinced of) he's abusing it. He declined to engage in healthier activities to combat depression and anxiety like exercise and meditation. I've told him I NEED a balance and don't care if he uses it a couple times a week but not every day or in the morning. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and know well the cycle of addiction. He knows how much it bothers me and he's basically told me that I accept him just the way he is or break up with him (although he admits I'm not asking for much). \n\nI knew I was taking a risk when he told me he was addicted to pot early in the relationship. I'm responsible for putting myself in this situation. I'm really uncomfortable with his inability to control his use. I'm just curious if anyone else has gone through something similar. All my hope and dreams are connected to him. He is my match in every way except this. I'm at a loss\u2026", "summary": "I'm in love with someone who's addicted to weed and don't know what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_3qbfwi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waiting my turn and being the asshole I am.", "post": "So this happened Throughout the day and just now.\n\nIt started this morning/begin afternoon when I took 7 euros from my family piggy bank. We are allowed to take money from it if we say it.\n\nSo I overslept cause I went to bed at like 5.30 am after watching the latest Walking Dead episode. So I woke up at like 12am, 3-4hours late for school. Before I left I took 7 euros from the piggy bank without saying so cause I didn't think about it.\n\nSo today was fine, I bought some cigarretes cause of the addict I am. Had a long school day, my day was great. Until I came home. So I came home to a full with rage, like literally. FULL WITH RAGE dad and mom, asking if I was the one taking the money. So I was like \"F*ck.\". They're mad. I better stay quiet and find out why and say I didn't. My brother also said he didn't. So after a long and full with anger discussion. My brother decided he didn't want to be a part from it anymore. I just kept my mouth shut waiting till it was my turn to say I was the one that took it. I was like almost saying I did it. But before I had the chance my brother and dad went into a physical fight. My dad was threatening to pack his stuff and leave. Cause he doesn't trust us anymore. He said he felt like he was our slave. \n\nSo yeah my brother left the house, keeping his head low. Taking a chill. I went upstairs with a fucking heartbeat of one thousand. My father went for a drive and my mother is sitting downstairs.\n\nI completely fucked this shit up. **I know that I should've said it earlier and all that stuff. You guys don't have to tell me I was a f*cking asshole in this situation(or whatever). I know I am.** Just thought sharing it for you guys, the ones that like reading fuckups.\n\nI'll probably come clean tomorrow after I got my funeral ready.", "summary": "I nicely waited my turn and right as I wanted to speak, my dad and brother got in a fight cause of a situation I caused.. I am an asshole..."}
{"id": "t3_2g95md", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Probably will be nothing but I'm a little freaked.", "post": "I took River to the vet this afternoon for vomiting more than once this morning (about 5-6 times i think). Vet said she has tapeworms, prescribed her flea medication and tape worm medication and gave her a shot for nausea. She was still okay this morning even with the vomiting, but now since we've been back home she hasn't moved much, is drooling excessively from the mouth, won't eat, won't drink, and just kind of sits upright and stares into the blue until she gets tired and lays down curled up. I'm going to call tomorrow if the drooling doesn't stop. It's getting way out of hand. So much so that for her to stay inside I'm going to be wiping her mouth with a towel all night.", "summary": "any ideas why River might be drooling like this and being really lethargic after taking her to the vet for vomiting and tapeworms? She wasn't doing either of those things before the medication."}
{"id": "t3_18n2uk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M20] be concerned that my girlfriend [F21] is hanging out with another guy?", "post": "Together for 1 year and 2 months. This guy went to our university until he dropped out but now that he no longer goes there he is texting my girlfriend (even when she \"ignores\" him w.e that means because I think she responds to him a few days later... which is not ignoring) asking her to hang out. She asked me if its okay, and I felt like it's not for me to say because I don't own her and she can do w.e she wants. So she said she's going to see him this monday and I said okay very unenthusiastically. Lately I've been feeling like our relationship isn't all that great because I'm concerned that she has no ambitions in life (doesn't try in school; at least that's how I feel) and is more dependent than I would like her to be (swallows mouthwash because she coughed and calls me because she's concerned she's gonna die or something). That was a bit off topic but yeah... should I be concerned? Should I start getting other chicks' numbers as a precaution and hang out with them since she's hanging out with other guys?", "summary": "Guy texts my girlfriend to hang out, she says she \"ignored him\" but doesn't know how to say no. So now she's seeing him on monday. Should I care and find other girls to hang out with too?"}
{"id": "t3_41j5ot", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speaking a foreign language", "post": "A bit of background:  My girlfriend's dad is a very conservative guy, swearing is forbidden in their house etc etc \u2026you get the picture.  He was born in Zimbabwe and grew up in South Africa and so he speaks Afrikaans.\n\nOne of my favourite bands is a South African band and on this ill-fated day I had discovered one of their songs that I'd never heard before.  The title of the song was \"Fok Julle Naaiers\" (which is Afrikaans).  I was curious to know what the name meant in English.  I went to my GF's house after college, which I don't do very often and thought it would be a good way to strike up a conversation with him, as I'm still quite awkward around him.  I don't know any Afrikaans but figured 'Fok' was 'fuck' so, being the tactical future-son-in-law that I am, I left that bit out.  As we were eating dinner I remembered the song and asked \"Sir, what does 'Julle Naaier' mean?\"  The second the words left my mouth he went bright red.  He just sat there for a minute, not saying a word, staring off into space and then quickly got up and went to his upstairs.  We sat there for a few seconds a bit dazed and confused.  At this point I remembered that Google Translate exists and whipped out my phone.  To my horror it turns out that 'Julle Naaier' means 'you motherfucker'. I left their house about 10 minutes later and I probably won't be invited back there anytime soon.", "summary": "said \"you motherfucker\" to my girlfriends very conservative dad"}
{"id": "t3_4kql83", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[help] Breeder ghosted me, I don't know what to do! [x-post puppy 101]", "post": "Just looking for advice from you all. \nI have been carefully planning and choosing getting a golden retriever puppy for several months. We spoke to several breeders, but ended up going with one that we got personal recommendations for from people we know. \nShe has been nice, but admittedly slow to respond to emails thus far. She accepted our several hundred dollar deposit and said we were \"about the seventh\" deposit and she thought there would be about 10 puppies. I last spoke to her about 4 weeks ago. \nSo the puppies due date was Friday. I emailed her last Wednesday asking for an update now and/or when pups are born. We are majorly planning for this (ie requesting vacation from work etc) and need to know a. We are definitely getting a puppy and b. When we can take him/her home. \nSo, I have not gotten a response to my email, so I called her last night. No answer. Left a message. Still have not gotten an email or call back. \n\nShould I be freaking out? Do you think she's just busy? I'm seriously over here having palpitations over this. Am I being overly aggressive? This lady has my money and heart strings in her hand!", "summary": "breeder has several hundred dollar deposit. Pups due 4 days ago. No response by email or phone. What do I do??"}
{"id": "t3_3zhrk7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Employer paying nearly half of salary as a bonus - is this safe?", "post": "Hey there,\n\nSo I recently received an offer from a company and the total pay comes out to 75k a year but the owner did something strange to avoid paying the recruiter a large amount.  Instead of a base rate of 75, the base pay was written as 40k and annually I will be given bonuses that add up to 35K (written out completely in the contract).  This was to keep the recruiters fee from being very large but I'm curious if this can come back to hurt me in any way.  The owner claimed it will be tacked on to each bi-weekly paycheck.  Will this be taxed the same way my regular pay is?  Do  I need to watch out for anything when filing my taxes in April?  I tried looking for more information but this doesn't seem like a very common issue.", "summary": "company is paying half my salary as bonuses on paychecks, is this bad?"}
{"id": "t3_11rfcw", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Help seeking answers.", "post": "Ok, the story goes, we were dating and were in a semi-LDR for 2 years. Long distance during school, not so much when we were home for the summer/winter breaks. Last summer we, or at least I felt that our relationship was a strong as ever. Then we went back to school. A few short weeks later she calls out of no where and breaks up with me, for no reason other than \"I cant do this.\" It destroyed me. For the last 3 weeks Ive been a mess and I feel like I need a real answer. But how can I just contact her out of the blue and demand answers without being a total jackass. Is it even possible?", "summary": "Was in a LDR-type thing for two years, she calls out of the blue and breaks with with no real reason. How can I find out why?"}
{"id": "t3_2sf6nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my boyfriend's [38M] children [4/7M/F], I'm moving in with them. How do I build a solid relationship?", "post": "As the title says, I'm moving in with my boyfriend and his two young children, who he has for half the week. We've been together for three years and while I've met them plenty of times, we've taken it really slowly so that nothing was too overwhelming or confusing for them.\n\nHow do I go about forming good relationships with them? Do I try to spend all my time with them? Do I back off and let them come to me? Any advice from people who have experience in similar situations would be great. I love my boyfriend and so by default I love his children - I would love for them to love me back.", "summary": "How do I make children like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3bvg6q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the wrong towel", "post": "So minor fuck up today. I'm a girl and I cut my own hair. A few days ago I took a shower and decided I could use a haircut. So I cut my hair and use my towel to wipe off my shoulders and such of hair. Well I have a few towels I use that I rotate use when I take showers and this morning I grabbed the same towel I used a few days ago. I don't know why I hung it back up I just did. So I'm drying myself off and I look down and I'm covered in hair clippings and now I'm itchy.", "summary": "accidentally used an old towel that had hair clippings in it results in itchiness"}
{"id": "t3_leojw", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I need help deciding on my class schedule!", "post": "Background:\n\nI'm planning my class schedule for my last semester of college. I'm double majoring so I have to take two capstone (senior thesis) classes, and two other freshman level courses (it really does pay off to get those harder classes out of the way first). I work an easy desk job on campus where I can work 10-20 per week and I'll probably be an SI (think TA) for a freshman philosophy class as well as heavily involved with student organizations.\n\nMy question:\n\nIf I want I can have classes on Mondays and Wednesdays only. I've never done this; have you? Do you recommend this? Thanks for the help!", "summary": "Should I have classes on Mondays & Wednesdays only, or not?"}
{"id": "t3_zhljz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this friend zoned? Possible second chance? [M19][F19]", "post": "I'm going to keep it short and summarize. So I can get to the main point. We've been friends for about 2 years. So about February I told this girl how I really felt about her and asked her out. She responded with \"yes\" she just had to figure some stuff out and have some time. So 2 months later in April I asked her again and she said yes. Only about a month later she said she felt like we were still just friends and nothing more. We decided to give it a little time but ended up breaking up about a month and a half later. \nWere still friends. Whenever we hang out though we flirt like the entire time. I'm not one to flirt much either. I actually never flirted with her before we went out and during. Now that we are broke up I just find the urge to flirt with me. Then she just flirts back doesn't try to push me away or anything.\nI asked her if she was ok with me flirting with her that much and she said she enjoys it. I asked her if she still liked me at all and she said yes to that. She says she just want to be really flirty best friends. All our friends tell me we seem so happy together.", "summary": "So went out with this girl, broke up, still flirt like crazy and still has feelings for me. Any advice to get her back? Get another chance?"}
{"id": "t3_wbi0f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get rid of the weird? How has reddit dealt with their personal 'weird'?", "post": "So I've taken a lot of advice from reddit to get out of my shell and meet people and stop being alone. I've hit the gym and lost 40 pounds (so far), cut my hair from 12 inches (and donated it) to 1 and a half inches, I got a new job that I like and have made friends (kind of) with everybody there, deleted facebook, lawyered up (I was a research assistant for one and she is now a great source for recommendations), and have tried to become interesting by learning how to play guitar and bass (more for me, less for others), and have finished taking a third year of French (each year consists of 3 classes), speak Spanish already and am done with my major in college. I have dropped friendships that were draining and made time for better ones, but still no progress on the relationship front with females. It seems that once people get to know me, I'm just rather weird. How can I get rid of this weird, or can I? I'm still a virgin at 22, which is not a great problem, but failing at interpersonal relationships with the opposite sex is.", "summary": "Hit the gym, deleted facebook, lawyered up, got a great job, hanging with new people, have not switched to a credit union, tried to become interesting, cut my hair, but cannot blend into normal society."}
{"id": "t3_2yijkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird that Me [21 M] with my [21 F] FWB are 'best friend' level of closeness? Anyone ever been in this situation?", "post": "Anyone ever had this type of dynamic before? We have expressed that we don't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now and want to have non-committed, non-exclusive fun because we aren't in a place where a relationship would make sense.\n\nWe are so emotionally close that we can share things with each other that we aren't able to share with anyone else, and we have cried to each other several times and didn't even feel weird.\n\nIf you've been in this situation before, how did it end? I really hope I don't lose this girl out of my life. If it matters, we started as flirty friends before we started hooking up, then we got really close during the time we have been hooking up. Our hooking up definitely takes backseat to our friendship. We both hook up with multiple people, but our hookup is the only one of substance with deep emotional intimacy.", "summary": "My FWB and I are extremely close. We don't want a relationship and our feelings aren't romantic and we both hook up with others, but we acknowledge that we are special to each other in a way no one else is and we've never felt this way before. How weird is this? Will I end up losing my friend over this?"}
{"id": "t3_2e71tr", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I didn't know there were people like this", "post": "I want to keep this short since from where I live it's past midnight and I'm trying to fight insomnia.\n\nToday (or rather yesterday) I was working, teaching swimming 1 on 1, when 2 young girls approached me and my student and started harassing us. Now this was a private pool in a private condominium. We were in a very good socio economic area (in a 3rd world country you tend to be very aware of these things) but these 2 kids were absolute trash.\n\nThey were shouting, mocking, drinking alcohol while in the pool and ignoring staff (who were too scared to intervene as their parents seemed to be intimidating residents or something) and top it all off, I was toldthey were 12 years old. Things are a bit different in my country, I can't simply report this to the police.\n\nThey harassed and heckled us despite kindly telling them to just leave us alone. I eventually told the staff to contact their parents and also rid them of the pool premises as they were breaking a number of rules.\n\nI told my student I wouldn't be charging her for today as we weren't able to fully make use of our time (I know I am soft and unprofessional). \n\nSO ANYWAY, thing is, for some reason it's bothering me. I came across these rich obnoxious girls who have no consideration for the people around them. I am angry because these people just take what they want and most of the time they get it, and they live at the expense of other people. I am sad because these girls are going the wrong way in life apparently without anybody to guide them and probably have problems to begin with. I am jealous because I feel I live too passively, I am too scared of what other people think, and suffer from frequent social unease, especially in contrast to these two.\n\nYeah I'm losing sleep over such a small and insignificant interaction.", "summary": "was accosted by rich drunk 12 year olds, feel ambivalent over the whole thing"}
{"id": "t3_3beci5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] feel sad and empty almost every time I part with my girlfriend [24F]", "post": "Me and my girlfriend, who I love very very much, have now been dating for slightly more than three months and are currently in a situation where we are only able to meet on weekends. Almost every time we spend the weekend together, I feel very sad and empty after parting with her. \n\nI only feel like this after spending a significant portion of the weekend together with her. For example, if we only meet for a single day, I usually do not feel like this. It typically only occurs when I've met her on both Friday, Saturday, and Sunday or if we've spent the night together. Usually the longer time we've spent together the worse I feel when we part.\n\nI can't really figure out the reason why I am feeling like this. During the week I enjoy the work I do and I am able to talk to her every day, so it's not like she is my only source of happiness that I am forced to be separated from. Furthermore, I am not worried at all about breaking up so I am very aware that there will be many more awesome weekends together with her. \n\nI also do not think that she feels like this, which makes it hard for me to talk to her about it. I feel like it would be very emasculating to tell her that I almost always want to cry after parting with her and I am afraid that she might worry about it as I cannot give a clear reason as to why I feel like this.", "summary": "The longer time I spend with my amazing and loving girlfriend, the sadder I feel when we part. The relationship is going very strong and I have no reason to think that I might not be able to see her again. Why am I feeling like this?"}
{"id": "t3_2r9xmt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do you stay sane without anyone significant in your life?", "post": "I live alone in a small town without any friends or family. The crowd at the only bar is not a good group to get mixed up with and all the girls in town have pretty well been with the entire town so you dont want to touch that.\n\nIm used to spending time alone, from the time i leave work until i walk in the next day i never hear from anyone and usually im really good about finding something to do to pass the time or i just sit and stare at the wall/ceiling for hours. Yet this extended break from work for Christmas and New Years has really hit me hard. It also does not help that most of the last two weeks i have also been snowed in so just getting out to just get away hasn't been possible.\nOnce i started talking to myself an unhealthy amount I decided its time to find something new to do. So what do you do to stay sane?", "summary": "I'm tired of talking to myself and need ideas on how to stay sane."}
{"id": "t3_2nssou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F], maid of honor for my engaged friend[26F], how do I support her and not compromise my sanity/our friendship?", "post": "My friend has been engaged for almost two years. In the initial flurry of activity after her engagement, she asked me to be her maid of honor and I happily agreed. She had planned on having an 18 month engagement with her fiance (they wanted to get married in the summer and 6 months was not enough time to plan). \n\nUnfortunately, her fiance's father was battling cancer and passed away this past spring. While he was ill, my friend and her fiance went through a rough patch (some emotional cheating on his part, trust issues, his grief, financial problems etc.) and they decided to postpone the wedding by a year. \n\nThrough all of this, I have tried to be there for her, lending advice and a listening ear when she needs it. There was a period of time where I did pull away slightly -- but mainly because every time we talked it was about her issues with her fiance or some other drama in her life (her parents also were divorced in the year leading up to her engagement) and it was starting to weigh on me emotionally, not to mention that I wasn't getting much out of our friendship at that time. \n\nWe now live in different cities across the country from one another. She even lives about 8 hours away from her fiance at the moment, who is planning to relocate to her city about a month before their wedding. \n\nHer approach to wedding planning has been virtually non-existent, which has me both anxious and kind of frustrated. Not to mention that I feel as though her relationship with her fiance has been (and perhaps still is) on shaky ground. I want to support her decision to marry him, help her plan her wedding and be there for her through what should be a really exciting time. I'm going to need to book time off of work to attend her wedding, and likely the festivities in the week before. \n\nSo, reddit, what I'm asking is -- how do I, as her maid of honor, delicately ask my friend if she's actually getting married without offending or upsetting her?", "summary": "Am maid of honor for a friend who isn't really planning her wedding, how do I ask her if she's actually getting married?"}
{"id": "t3_vcxoi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How can I keep the stress from undoing my progress?", "post": "Hello, Loseit!\n\nI'm a poor college kid with a job as a sales associate. After returning home from school, I cannot seem to get my stuff together at work. I've made several major blunders and, according to my manager, I have every reason to worry about keeping my job. This, of course, has caused a snowball effect and it's getting worse at work. All I can think is how much I cannot lose my job and what will happen to me.\n\nMeanwhile, my stomach just wants to eat everything. I want cake and I want ice cream, and I just want to say, \"Forget it, I wouldn't know how to be thin and healthy if I tried.\" Tomorrow, I'm supposed to be waking up at 5:45 in the morning to have time to do my c25k run (week 3 has me running three minutes straight... it's so hard for me), and I'm just struggling for motivation. \n\nHow do I stop this before it begins? I haven't made any huge mistakes. My day is still under my calorie goal, but I'm sore and lethargic. I'm not sure I can convince myself to get up tomorrow.", "summary": "How do you handle it when stress is determined to ruin your goals? I'm about to cave."}
{"id": "t3_3f432j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(23f) with (24m) how to deal with commitment issues?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. He's been hurt in past relationships and he is afraid to commit further with me. He hasn't told me he loves me yet and I have not met his family. He is reluctant on even planning a holiday together. We spend about 90% of our time together. He says he cares about me, he's just not ready to take that next step. He's a good guy and I know he's scared because of how his last relationship went. How do I get him to realize it isn't scary and I'm not going to hurt him if he lets me in? Or is this a lost cause? How long should I wait, if at all? Has anyone else had a similar experience?", "summary": "help with boyfriends commitment issues"}
{"id": "t3_1f94rq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "22f likes sex more then fiance 25m. Preparing for therapy... HELP!!!", "post": "My fiance's mom came up this weekend for his birthday Monday (25M). He let me give him a hand job while his mom and brother were drifting off to sleep in our living room (with the bedroom door open), and the whole weekend when they weren't looking he would grab at me(22f). Come Monday when his mom and brother left, I thought for sure I was going to get some... But he said \"I just want to hold you.\" Don't get me wrong, I am a cuddle bug, but that was not what I was wanting. Then he says \"we'll do it tomorrow.\" And surprise!!!! nothing. (This happens all the time. I get semi-regular sex once a month, we've been together for 3 years.)\n I've been advised to go to therapy with him, and we're planning on premarital therapy anyways. I've only been to see a therapist once, but I didn't have a good therapist, and resulted in a negative experience. But has anyone gone to therapy for a similar reason? What was it like? What did they have you do?", "summary": "I like sex more then he does. Preparing to seek therapy. Wanting to hear from people who've gone for a similar reason, to know what its like, and what they had you do."}
{"id": "t3_2ts2b0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading Reddit @ work.", "post": "So, I work for a large international insurance companies Claims call centre. It was a slow day so i though I'd pass some time on the interwebs and as I invariably do, i found myself on Reddit. I found my way into the Jokes subreddit (which I generally DON'T find very funny) then this happens: Started to read the joke, ( this one actually, read the setup then my phone rings: \"Thank You for calling so-and-so insurance brokers how can I help you?\"\n\"Yes, my name is Mr. So-and-so and I'd like to file a claim\"\n-now generally (customer service friends I know you know what I am talking about) when asked a question people will dive into this whole long story about their whole lives, which of course is irrelevant in most cases, so I am guilty of tuning out the nonsense and actively listening for key words.\nSo I ask \"What kind of claim would you like to make?\" -auto pilot on, back to reddit to read the punch line of the joke and as i read it I BURST OUT laughing....1 second after the man told me his wife had just passed away this morning...... SMH", "summary": "Today I laughed at a man when he told me his wife had died."}
{"id": "t3_1k88i3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it normal to not kiss your SO for the first few weeks of dating?", "post": "I have this friend who is pretty depressed about the whole girls and dating situation. It just so happens that this girl (we all work at the same place) was really interested in him so I set them up. He was so excited he asked her out right away and she said yes. Now they have been on quite a few dates and now have been dating three weeks, and I've recently found out they have never kissed or even held hands yet. Apparently the girl will turn away and such. I told him to demand why she wont kiss him and all she said was \"oops didn't notice i'll make it up to you next time\" ... she still wont kiss him. Any ideas reddit so I can help my friend out?", "summary": "his gf refuses to kiss him or hold his hand, been dating three weeks."}
{"id": "t3_2upvz5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for assuming that we are exclusively dating", "post": "Reddit, last night I completely fucked my lifeup for assuming that my partner and I were exclusive. I found out that he has slept with over 8 women while we were 'together'. The confrontation happened last night when I found hair rubberbands on his bed (definitely not mine); I asked how many girls he has brought home while we were seeing each other; and yea, was completely shattered by his answer. I was hurt and upset that apparently he didn't like me enough to just want to be with me but I am also infuriated with the fact that he might have STDs now for not using condoms. FUCK.", "summary": "Never assume you're exclusive even though you both like each other. For sure STDs!"}
{"id": "t3_y83bw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice needed, Reddit: boyfriend with Asperger's (updated)", "post": "I posted this the other day, but I don't know. Something happened, so I'm trying again. Sorry.\n\nSo, as the title says: we met almost 5 months ago now, and it was pretty much holycrapiwanttospendeverysinglewakingmomentwithyou at first sight. We've both been extremely busy this summer, so we haven't seen each other much the past 2-3 months, but I'd say everything is still pretty dandy. Neither of us are very clingy or attention-seeking, and we're quite happy to go a week or more at a time without talking - it just means we have more things to talk about when we next speak. It's very comfortable, and I wouldn't want it any other way.\n\nHe was diagnosed with Asperger's (wikipedia for the unaware) when he was quite young, but it's apparently a very mild form and most people don't even realise he has it. I didn't notice anything was wrong until he told me about it. He is genuinely the sweetest, most caring guy you will ever meet - he is loyal, trustworthy, funny and incredibly smart. However, he does have a lot of problems with things like expressing himself, asking questions, anxiety attacks and focusing in a conversation. They're small problems, but I know that he worries a lot about little things and he won't tell anyone about it because he doesn't really know how to - and it's breaking my heart. All I want to do is help him and make him feel better, but ninety percent of the time, I don't know what's going on in his head, and I want to see things from his perspective so that I'll be able to empathise with him and do whatever I can to help. Currently, I just don't know if the things I am doing or saying are helping him or just making things worse.\n\nI've never known anyone with either Asperger's or any kind of autism, and I want to learn how to be the best girlfriend that I can be. I want to learn how to make him happy, I want to learn how to help. Hello, Reddit.", "summary": "any stories/advice to share regarding near ones and dear ones with Asperger's or autism? Any dos and don'ts?"}
{"id": "t3_24l2s7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Obsessing on Coworker. Help!", "post": "I (33F) have this coworker (25M) who I've been secretly in love with  for almost 2 years now. At first, he had a girlfriend, and now he doesn't. We don't even talk that much compared to my other coworkers, but there's definitely a pretty intense attraction on both ends. I am just frustrated with waiting and waiting for anything at all to happen. I obsess about him every day, except maybe on the weekends, when I don't see him. He is very shy, probably more shy than I. I haven't liked someone like this since I was 16, and I barely even know him, but he seems perfect in every way to me. Not only fit, and handsome, but quite intelligent. I have trouble finding men like this. \n\nThe thing is I know \"I shouldn't pee where I sleep\" whole tidbit, but I can't seem to stop obsessing on this and I just hate it. I guess I have to stop hoping, and just let it happen as it may, if at all. I don't ask guys out. I'm old-fashioned that way. \n\nAny advice for me? I'm not desperate for a date. I am very happy being single, but this whole infatuation has got me sprung.", "summary": "Obsessing on coworker. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_4lw2nl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] lost a power play to my hopefully ex boyfriend [25M] when I tried to break it off.", "post": "Hi everyone. I need advice on how to proceed in my situation and how to do it in a way that will be clear, effective, and will not hurt him. \n\nI have been dating this man since he was 16 and I was 14 (nearly 9 years). Some major life events happened where I needed a lot of emotional support that I didn't get from him and for the past 3 years or so, I've been unhappy with our relationship but very reluctant to let go of my best friend. \n\nI decided that I need to be an individual and branch out, not to mention that I'm going to grad school soon. So I broke up with him this weekend and I stayed with my family so he could figure out new living arrangements and the like. He said that he wanted to discuss the break up and I've been working on being more adult about my feelings so I agreed. During the discussion, he said that he did not want to give up without a fight and suggested counseling and spending more time together. I didn't have much choice it felt like but to agree. \n\nNow I'm in the situation from hell where he won't stop following me around and being extremely present and got upset when I slept in the living room last night. It's way worse than it was and I can't take it anymore. \n\nNow I just want to finalize the break up and move on but I don't know how to do it in a way that he won't be extra hurt.", "summary": "I tried breaking up with my long term boyfriend but he rejected it and is now super clingy and is upset that I need space. I need help breaking up with him for good."}
{"id": "t3_4cooqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my SO [19M] drew pictures of how we feel, he drew a dog on a leash.", "post": "Alright well, title practically says it all. We were fighting about something stupid for a few days and I was upset a lot and he didn't seem to care. I decided that maybe I should go on pinterest and look up couples therapy... I found like, a daycare problem-solving technique where you draw your feelings. I thought *ok, this should be good, he won't mind this.* He drew a dog (him) on a leash held by me... I honestly don't think I'm very controlling of him as he seems to make his own decisions and piss me off sometimes. I don't tell him what to do or who to be or drag him along. I'm not exactly sure what this means. He captioned it with: \"I love you, I am following.\" I don't want him to feel like he's being controlled and pushed around because I'm really not aggressive and he stands up for himself. \n\nWe've been together for a year and a half and have nice dates and good conversations but sometimes when we get mad at each other he just goes to bed and ignores it so it never gets solved and I am always upset. **SO** is it possible that I am pulling him too much for a resolution after these falling outs?", "summary": "my boyfriend feels like I drag him around on a leash, but he still loves me. should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_294fc8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by outing finding out someone's username.", "post": "A little backstory, my brother has been missing since 2007. We have had police, fbi, and private investigators looking for him. He was all I had growing up between households. Our parents were divorced and we swapped between different parents/step parents our whole life. We had a good bond. Well a couple days ago I was browsing this subreddit and saw a comment that reminded me of a memory we shared so, I sent the reddit or (deleted) a personal message. The message just stated my brothers name (Jarrod) with a question mark at the end. A few hours later he responded \"fuck you how did you know that\". So I said that I was his brother and that I had been searching for him for a long time, tried a few other messages to no avail. Finally today I sent him a message to just Google his name (Jarrod (no personal info so I removed last name )). And so I waited.... and waited. I got distracted so I let a few hours slip by. I finally checked back and I had a message that said \"shit\", but it was from [deleted], and so was the other post. And now I'm just sitting here wondering what the fuck i did wrong.", "summary": "Outed someone's username, he told me to go fuck myself, I told him to go Google himself, then he shit and disappeared."}
{"id": "t3_3xf2ro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my ex [22F] just trying to ease her guilt, and use me [21M] as a backup plan?", "post": "I was here a few days ago, and asked about an email I received from my ex. Well, I received another one, and want to hear some feedback. It said: \n\n>*my name*, I'm just saying that I'm not completely closed off to the idea of us being together ever again. I am saying that we are probably different than we were when we were eighteen, or different people than we were last year. We should just sit down and talk about what has been happening in our lives and stuff, and get to know each other again, as who we are as people now. You know? To me, I feel that would be our wisest decision. It can't hurt us anymore than the past has hurt us. We cannot ignore what happened, however, we need to fix the animosity between us from the differences we have yet to reconcile. You're a great guy, and I care about you... Even if we had never talked again, where you were in life mattered to me...and it still DOES matter to me.\n>Sincerely, *her name*\n\nShe hurt me really bad. She's actually dumped me twice in total, she came back after a few months and we got back together. Stayed together for 2+ more years. I don't really know if I should respond, and feel like my ex is just trying to ease her guilt. I also feel like the biggest backup plan ever because she seemingly only reaches out to me when she's single/lonely. The frustrating part is that SHE dumped ME! I've been NC, and have been trying to move on, but can't when I keep hearing from her like this. I also don't want to be \"friends\" with her because I'm not over her yet.", "summary": "Ex emailed me again, it's been 10+ months since she dumped me for the second time, she's pushing for us to start talking again, but seems to only want to be friends. I can't be \"just friends\" with her, and have told her this multiple times before."}
{"id": "t3_25imex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my crush [19 F] I need advice on how to go about getting to know my crush.", "post": "forgive me for the formatting as this is my first post on this sub.\n\nSo I saw this girl at my college and I was immediately attracted to her\n\nbeing the chicken I was I didn't want to talk to her  but my friends \n\ninsisted.\n\nSo I introduced myself and asked if she wanted to get some coffee later, \n\nshe said yes but she was with her friends and they said they were gonna \n\nget some coffee later that day. So I asked her for her number but she \n\nsaid she would be at school every day.\n\nI didn't take offense because shes probably is defensive about her \n\nnumber(especially since I had just met her). So a few days go buy and I \n\nsee her again so I greet her and ask if she had time to get soem coffee \n\nbut I caught her before she went to class. \n\nYesterday I see her and I decide to make small talk and ask her how her \n\nday is going, etc... The whole time shes giggling and smiling. I couldn't \n\ntell if this was good or she was laughing cause of how obvious it was I \n\nwas into her. I say good bye and I go off to class\n\nToday I see her and I ask her if she has time to grab some coffee or \n\nsomething before her next class but again I caught her at the wrong \n\ntime and she had to go to class in a few minutes. So I decide to ask for \n\nher Facebook rather than her number.\n\nSo she types away her facebook email into my facebook app and she \n\nsends herself a friend request from my phone. She hasn't responded to \n\nthe request yet so I'm not sure what to think of that.\n\nI can't tell if shes interested or I'm just paranoid. I'm trying to figure out \n\nas to how I should approach the situation. Should I keep trying to talk to \n\nher?", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl I barely know but I want to get to know her more."}
{"id": "t3_33zv8c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being horny after my girlfriend was \"finished\"", "post": "(NSFW)\nOkay so some back story: I'm a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend is also 17 and doesn't like to have sex when there is people in the house, she also doesn't like to be adventurous so there is no hope of having it outside or anything like that\u2026 so as you can tell we don't have sex a lot, maybe once every week and a half so when sexy time comes around it's kind of special. She does, however, allow things that aren't sex to happen when there is people in my house so fingering and blowjobs aren't completely off limit, however, she finds doing those thing to me boring but I like to make her feel good so I am usually the one who does more things to her\u2026 with that being said I was in the mood for some stuff so I started playing with her boobs and I could tell she was getting turned on\u2026 fast forward 10 minutes and we're playing with each other and I really want to have sex or get something done to me so that I'm not sexually frustrated until she goes home\u2026 anyway, I rub her until she is done and all is good and then she has to pee so she goes to the toilet\u2026 this is where my fuck up comes in\u2026 I knew she was going to be about 4 or 5 minutes because she pees slowly or some shit and I decide that now is the perfect time to make myself a little less sexually frustrated\u2026 a few minutes pass and I'm close to finishing (like really close) and I get to the point of no return just as I hear her walking towards my bedroom\u2026 I panic, sperm goes all over my bed and on my clothes and I panic and try to cover myself up in the blanket and hope she doesn't realise what I'd just done\u2026 she climbs in to bed next to me and we cuddle IN A POOL OF MY OWN SEMEN for about two hours until she goes home\u2026 yes reddit, I didn't tell my girlfriend what I had just done and we laid in my semen for 2 whole hours\u2026 I'm an idiot", "summary": "Getting touchy with the girlfriend, she finishes, goes to bathroom and I ejaculate all over my bed sheets, she then comes back and we lay in my semen for two whole hours without her realising\u2026"}
{"id": "t3_rdewk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was recently diagnosed with Celiac Disease and I'm emotionally having a hard time with it. Any fellow breadless Redditors out there?", "post": "I've had food and airborne allergies my entire life. I've also been lactose intolerant. However, my allergies have intensified as I've gotten older, so I got checked out. I was diagnosed with Celiac disease and put on a gluten free diet. I feel leaps and bounds better on the diet, and lost a ton of water weight within the first week (an entire dress size worth). It's tricky making sure I don't eat any sauces with wheat snuck in them, but overall it's not too hard to find things to eat since I really enjoy fresh fruit, veggies, and meat. \n\nHowever, the hardest part for me is actually the emotional part of it. I feel a huge sense of loss. It's not so much that I'm craving bread (though I would like a normal pasta for sure), it's that I've been eating these foods my whole life. My mom used to make my sister and I tricolor noodles and chicken nuggets for lunch when we were little. I remember making pancakes for my first very serious boyfriend. I always loved getting a takeout meatball sub and carrying the hot paper bag back to the office, filled with anticipation for the bounty of awesome coming my way. \n\nI recently graduated, lost my fiance, and moved within a short span of time (around 6 months). I feel like the loss of wheat, strangely, has been a bit of a tipping point. I'm having a hard time with my sense of identity and feeling hopeful. What can I do to feel more normal?", "summary": "I have Celiac disease, feel sad about the loss of that part of my life, what can I do to feel better?"}
{"id": "t3_3qx8q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25 M] told my girlfriend[21 F] we should split. She cried, and I caved in and took her back. Now how shall we continue? [Relationship]", "post": "[Previous Thread](\n\nThe thoughts of there being no spark in my R/S kept weighting in on my mind, leaving me thinking again and again: Is she the right one? As said, my gf is too accommodating, quiet and docile.\n\nI went out on a simple dinner date with another girl(no touching), and I was blew away by how much fun we had, chatting and giggling and talking about every damn aspect of our lives! That's when I decided it's a big world out there, and I should start going out with someone who I can truly feel alive with.\n\nNote that I do really, really like my gf. I care for her. I want to kiss her and hug her. But I find it hard to communicate at times due to how shy she is. Her lack of initiative and interests in life besides work is something I dislike. **I can see us dating happily for a year, but I cannot see myself marrying her 15 years down the road.** I decided to break up, because she deserves someone who can love her, not someone who decides to keep her around for a while, then toss her for someone better.\n\nI took her to a park, and told her I felt we weren't compatible - that she is awesome and wonderful and caring, but I just wasn't the right man for her. She cried, and told me how important I was to her, and how disappointed she was that I was giving up in just a few short months. No matter how I degraded myself, told her of my family problems, of my nerdy interests, of my poor-paying job etc... **she insisted she didn't cared for any of those, and that she wanted me for who I was.**\n\nNow, how the hell do you find someone like that?\n\nShe wanted another go at this relationship, and I caved. I told her we would work this out together and start anew.\n\nI want to find a way to love her. To find the sparks with this woman. To know that I can be with her for life.\n\nHow do I begin?", "summary": "Tried to break up with GF whom I thought I was incompatible with. She cried and asked for another chance, and I caved. Now I dunno how to continue."}
{"id": "t3_4zydpn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Nebraska) I was hammered and got tossed out of a bar last weekend.", "post": "I got hammered for someone's birthday last weekend shots kept coming and I rarely drink. I blacked out I don't remember any of this.\n\nSupposedly I had a verbal argument with the bartender and the doorguy ended up dragging me out of the bar by the neck. I know i was an idiot for getting so drunk. \n\nNow I'm fairly certain i have an injury to my hyoid bone in my neck, I can feel how far in the right side goes compared to my left. And it hurts to swallow. \n\nI set an appointment, but its through the VA so i have to wait. \n\nIf there is an actual injury can I sue the guy? \n\nFor what its worth my friends said they didn't see me do anything then all of a sudden i was put into a headlock from behind. They had no idea why. \n\nWhen i went back to the bar the next day to get my card (they threw it out) the bartender was the one that said what happened. Of course I believe them, why else would that have happened?", "summary": "Got drunk, doorguy choked me out, now i think my hyoid bone is broken or at least something around it. Wondering if I can pursue any legal action. "}
{"id": "t3_3yyrdh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "In love with me ex girlfriend.", "post": "I've never been such a pitiful ex until this girl. it's messed up because I only really had a thing with her for a few months. We haven't been a thing for about a month now but I still feel crazy in to her. It's partially my fault because I still hang out with her, which is kind of painful because we literally get along like we are still together except of course nothing physical. But we literally are going out and doing crazy adventurous fun things like we used to. I asked her an embarrassing amount of times if she was really not in to me anymore and she made it clear she wasn't. But what the actual fuck, you hang out with me on Christmas Eve night, talk to me on the phone for an hour on Christmas Day, and don't feel the slightest thing for me? When we were together it was a really intense few months, on the first date we hung out from 7pm until 5am. We had a metric fuck ton in common which really made me fall for her. It's hard to find a girl to go riding motor cycles with. I really don't think I can find that intelligent and fun of a girl for a long time. It sucks because she's a beautiful girl and I can see pretty much every guy try to talk to her when we are together. I feel like I love and hate this girl. She doesn't care about me like that anymore and she wouldn't even call me her boyfriend when we were together so I guess we are just on different levels completely. Fuccckkkkk my life. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "in love with my ex."}
{"id": "t3_2119pn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] Feels like he may have blown it with [20F] girl of his dreams.", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI've been thinking about an event for the past 24 hours; it's even kept me from sleeping. Here recently I took a vacation with some friends and we met up with some cute ladies from out school. I was meeting one for the first time and after ten minutes of chitter-chatter I realized she was the love of my life. I had been in and out of the dating pool for a while and had yet to ever meet a woman that made me  fall in love, but never one so quickly. It's almost as everything clicked. \n\nShe hung out in our group the whole week. I turned everything up, was very nice, and made people laugh constantly. I've never tried this hard. Ever. I never made a move, usually I will, but I was scared stiff not wanting to blow it. \n\nWe ended up on the beach. All of the sudden she got right next to me and leaned her head against my arm. I instantly went blank. I didn't say anything. A few seconds later she made the response I'm cold. So naturally I take my jacked off and give it to her. Right after I gave her my jacket I recieved a high priority phone call and drifted off for a second to chat. \n\nWe later went back up to their room and I never made another move. I stayed for a while, but she seemed distant and ended up spending the rest of the time in her room without even coming out very often. \n\nDid I blow this? If so what now. I don't even have her number, it was just a given we would hang out with that group each day. It has me in a terrible depressed mood. The words \"She makes me want to be a better man\" come to mind when I even think of her.", "summary": "She learned on me. I didn't make a move. She said he was cold. Gave her my jacket. The group went up to her apartment. She didn't come out of the room and felt distant. I never made a move. Did she make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_2d27j1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Being at different universities looks like it's going to cause trouble for me (m19) and my girlfriend (f19).", "post": "We've been together for almost a year, and when we're with each other we're like two peas in a pod, almost no arguing whatsoever. When we're away from each other, that's when the problems started. I went travelling for 2 months, and she absolutely hated that. She's had a problem with being left ever since her father died 3 years ago, so me leaving to go travelling wasn't good. We argued a lot whilst I was away, but when I got back it was fine.\n\nShe's always mentioned how hard it would be when I'm at university, and I know it will be. I've been on a gap year for the past year, and she's been at a local university. But in September I'm moving to a university about 3 hours away.\n\nShe's always telling me why I would want to move away from her, and that I didn't even try to get a university closer. I've told her I couldn't get into the one she goes to, and there wasn't any good ones close to her, which is true. I'm going to study Geology, which has a lot of field trips during holiday time which will be even more of a problem for seeing her. She says I should have done Criminology or something like that, as I'm more interested in that than Geology, and I'll do better at that. Which is probably true, but I know Geology is a much better degree, albeit harder, with a lot more job prospects. \n\nI don't know what to say to her. If I tell her I couldn't get in to her university, she says I can I just need to try. If I tell her we should break up, we both just get upset. If I tell her I don't want to move university before I've even started, she'll say why don't I love her. \n\nI know it sounds harsh, but this is my University degree, which is a lot more important in the future. I love my girlfriend, I really do, she means the world to me and despite all my flaws she still loves me and tells me I mean the world to her, but I just don't know what will happen when university starts.", "summary": "Moving away from my girlfriend to university, which is probably going to cause a lot of problems between us."}
{"id": "t3_1zobhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my chem tutor [26 M] 4mo, Originally Clicked, now mixed signals", "post": "I'm a zoology major and been seeing a chem tutor for this semester due to already failing the course once and having to retake it. I have been crushing pretty hard on my chem tutor, he originally seemed to show reciprocation. His wording and actions pretty much confirmed to me that he liked me. But I figured neither of us would never do anything until I was done with the semester and he was no longer my tutor. Now it seems like the spark has died out, and he seems pretty distracted or not interested. I don't know if this is just me over reacting or him sincerely not interested anymore. \n\nI told him I would be around during the summer courses to take some other labs; he said he would be willing to tutor me during the summer informally for my next level bio courses. Since then he hasn't put in any effort to show interest. Has he just resigned to the fact that 'hey, she'll be here for awhile so no rush' or just figured that I he could go get some other girl?\n\nI am not very good at flirting with guys as it is, and am pretty skittish. I know I am pretty but get super scared and intimidated if I know he likes me back. I am fine during our session and we talk a lot about other things than just chem (he's brought up relationships with me before and accuses me of being too distracting), but in public I am not any good (passing or during group study/tutoring sessions) I just don't know if I maybe didn't follow through with enough awkward waves and smiles and now he thinks I am not interested. He just started showing a lack of interest this week, we have another 1:1 next week but when I asked to set it up he seemed kinda like he didn't want to. I did this during the end of the group study session so maybe he is taking my cues and keeping it out of public? Normally he seems excited when I ask for the 1:1 sessions.", "summary": "Crushing on a tutor who was reciprocating until recently. Don't know if he got bored or I didn't show enough interest."}
{"id": "t3_2xm112", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "2 pairs of shoes or a new phone?", "post": "Hi guys, so I've been saving up since Christmas and I now have $300 and, being a junior in highschool, I don't have bills to pay so I spend my money on more materialistic things. I'm a bit of a sneakerhead and I've been looking at these two pairs of shoes that I love that I can get with my money (keep in mind I already have about 13 pairs of shoes). Yesterday, however, I saw where I can pay $250 and trade in my phone and begin the $25 a month cycle again but with a new phone. Right now I have an S5 with a horribly broken camera and it has lost its waterproofing. I'm also a bit of a gadget fan so new phones are always on my mind. I could wait until January and get a new phone and not pay the $250 but I really want one now.", "summary": "Buy 2 pairs of shoes I love for $285 or pay $250 and get a new phone (or wait til January). Thanks guys!"}
{"id": "t3_4azeng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my still talking/G/F [25 F] 3 months. I made a small mistake now she's ghosting me. What to do?", "post": "She did something last night that I found unsettling and bothered me. And then she got mad at me for getting mad... I kinda broke up with her for a minute? Like a \"fine.. fuck this, whatever bye\" kind of moment. \n\nI texted her back within like 15 minutes and apologized, said I didn't mean that and I was just hurting, and asked if we could talk it through.\n\nWell we did. We talked it through but she wouldn't let go of the fact that I \"broke up with her\", and says she's very worried now because what if I do the same to her in the future when we are closer...\n\nGuys I like this girl. I tried to re-assure her with like 5 LONG text messages that I was just heated and made a mistake, and that in the future I wouldn't handle a argument  like that again. She was kindaaaa receptive? Like \"I wanna believe you.. I really want to be with you in a LTR since... but you really scared me with that shit...\"\n\nThat was like... a day and a half ago.\n\nI texted her twice since.\n\nThe next morning after I apologized again (I don't think it was necessary, but I'm trying to make a effort). She didn't reply. \n\nThen this morning I gave her one more text about two hours ago which she ignored again.\n\nShe's in Florida for spring break. I'm not gonna start getting it in my head she's totally pissed at me and out fucking around but... \n\nStarting to sweat it. Would kinda just like to know either way.. and that was what my last text was to her basically \"are we still a thing?\" but a little longer...\n\nI can't reach out again can I? At this point I've sent 3 text and one call that has been ignored.\n\n - Last text I got from her: \"I wanna believe you.. I really want to be with you in a LTR since... but you really scared me with that shit.", "summary": "Overreacted during a fight and \"kinda\" broke it off for like 10 minutes. Apologized right away, let her know I didn't mean it. For the first time she started talking about having a future together but my little break up really scared her off, etc. Now she is ghosting me for like 40 hours at this point. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_wx3tu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something that you don't remember, but have to pretend you do?", "post": "My entire childhood.\n\nBefore you start, I am a 21 year old man, and when I was 12 years old, my parents got a divorce. As typical, for any kid going through this, I was put into counseling, which I hated. I thought I was too smart to need it (straight A's, gifted classes, taking high school classes in 7th grade). I would either sit in silence during the hour long session, or walk out and refuse to re-enter. \n\nI have memory issues now, most of my childhood is completely blank, the rest a blur. Nobody knows about it, as it doesn't come up much, but it gets to me almost every day. My grandparent's took me on a trip to Egypt when I was around that age (I don't know how old I was, but it was around the time of the divorce, I'm not sure if it was before or after) and I honestly don't remember anything about it. I've seen pictures and heard stories, and I play along, but none of it is sincere memory. My parents often relish in the time before the divorce, going to disneyland and such, but I don't remember any of it. I've never told anyone just how bad it really is, my sister knows a little bit, but that's really it. \n\nWhenever someone is telling stories of my childhood, I listen closely, because I'm learning about the kid I was. Damn, I wasn't expecting to start crying while typing this. I guess I'll end it here.", "summary": "Something that happens to most kids nowadays happened to me, but I've blocked out just about everything leading up to it."}
{"id": "t3_1ccvx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should my girlfriend [F18] and I [M18] try to stay together in college?", "post": "Me [M18] and my girlfriend [F18] are going to school 3 hours away from each other next year. We both badly want to stay together and love each other very much. We have been going out for over a year and plan to visit each other about once a month (no more than that, at least at first, so we can settle in at our respective universities). We have rarely (if ever) fought and communicate any issues we have with our relationship. I want us both to enjoy college and make friends. It is also worth noting neither of us parties much and we prefer to just hang out with groups.", "summary": "Is it possible to make it through undergrad in a Long Distance Relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_354syi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 2 years, he won't brush his teeth", "post": "I began dating my boyfriend in high school, but I didn't realize he has a dental hygiene problem until I started spending more nights with him in college. Every night I observe him eating dinner or even worse, a bag of candy, and climbing straight into bed. Then, in the morning, he gets up and goes straight to class without even going into the bathroom. I feel like this is such a dumb thing to take issue with, but it seriously disgusts me and is getting in the way of my desire to kiss him.\n\nI've discussed this with him multiple times, and I hate doing it every time because I would not enjoy someone telling me my breath stinks. I'll gently tell him that he needs to go brush his teeth before we get intimate if he hasn't that morning or the night before. Then he grumbles, \"Fine, I'll brush my teeth *twice* a day, *every* day,\" mocking me. But I got sick of reminding him twice a day every day so I cut back, and he's back to his old habits. He doesn't always sleep over, so for all I know he never brushes his teeth at all.\n\nOccasionally, I'll ask him, hey are you still brushing your teeth every day? And he'll either stay silent or say \"yes\" defensively, which makes me feel like he's lying to me. Not to mention the fact that I feel deceived the whole time I dated him in high school. I've told him I feel like his lack of hygiene is disrespectful to me. All that results in is him agreeing to change his habits in an annoyed tone and then not changing anything.", "summary": "Boyfriend won't brush his teeth despite constant reminders. How do I get him to see this is a significant issue?"}
{"id": "t3_h0vt5", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Anyone have problems with a vet that jumps to the \"surgery\" conclusion without really examining your pet?", "post": "So we just got back from the vet. We took our 10-month old Plott Hound/Boxer pup in because he seems to have a fluid sac behind his right elbow. It hasn't caused him any pain but it's been there for almost 2 weeks and when we called the vet's office to ask about it, the nurse suggested we bring him in to get it looked at. She warned me that our regular vet wasn't in today and we would be seeing another vet. I can't get off work next week and I figured anyone taking the place of our awesome vet would be just as awesome.\n\nWe go in, the guy takes one look at our dog, doesn't touch him once and says \"Oh yeah, that's a hygroma. You'll need to have that surgically drained. We'll have to put him out, drain it, then he'll have to have drainage tubes in for the next week. Oh, and you'll have to keep him completely inactive for 2 weeks.\" Our dog has a hard time holding still for 5 minutes... there's no way he's going to go more than a day without running and playing without heavy sedatives. At this point, we were like, \"uh ok, well if the swelling doesn't go down in a week we'll bring him back in.\" Cool, $54, have a nice day.\n\nI got home and did some searching about [hygromas] The accepted treatment seems to be \"make sure they stop damaging the area, put heat on it, take him back to the vet for correction if it gets really big.\" A lot of sites say that surgery is rarely done and, if it is, it's done when the dog is older and the hygroma has gotten large and/or infected. So we're going to make sure he has a lot of padded areas to rest and we'll put heat on it. We'll even take him to see our regular vet before too long to get his opinion.\n\nI guess I'm just irked that the vet jumped immediately to expensive surgery without even really examining the dog or discussing with us what would happen if we don't get surgery. Has anyone else had a similar experience?", "summary": "Our dog has a common condition that shouldn't require surgery, but the substitute vet we went to jumped immediately to surgery as the answer."}
{"id": "t3_1tir68", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My crush [20/f] is moving to Paris for a year. Did I do the right thing?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old guy, and I just got out of a relationship about 3 months ago.  \n\nNow I have developed a pretty big crush on my ex's best friend Stacey.\n \nStacey is currently on-and-off with a good friend of mine (David), and she seems really into him.\n \nThey are on-and-off because he dumped her to get back with his ex, and it didn't work out.\n \nShe is going on an exchange to Paris for 5 months. She has said a few times that she doesn't want to start a relationship before she leaves. \nBut she also got pretty upset when David dumped her to get back with his ex.  I agree it's a pretty bad situation to be in.\n\nLast night there was a big ice storm, power was out, roads were dangerous and we had been drinking. \n \nI offered for her to sleep on my couch, and we ended up talking for hours after everyone had left.\n \n\nShe ends up sleeping in my bed with me, but I didn't make a move on her since I thought it was the right thing to do.\n \nI have really strong feelings for her, and didn't want to spoil it with a meaningless fuck.\n \nAnd I also wasn't sure if she would have similar feelings for me, since she seems interested in my friend David.", "summary": "I had the chance to sleep with my crush last night.  She is moving away so I decided not to make a move."}
{"id": "t3_1qiocz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my SO [20 M], I feel the relationship has an end date, should I let it go on?", "post": "Sorry, this is going to be a bit rambling, I'm just typing out my thoughts.\n\nWe've been together for a year, although it's been long distance since June, since he's studying abroad right now.\n\nWe're both juniors in college, and although we haven't discussed it, I can tell we have very different life plans.  I know he wants to get a job and live in a suburban community, and I want to go to grad school and be a professor, which is a very unpredictable lifestyle for where I will end up living.   I don't think this relationship will last beyond college.\n\nAlthough this is less of an issue, I also sort of feel like I'm missing out on a lot of fun by being in a relationship in college.  I know that people do the experience differently, but I've been reminiscing about my freshman year a lot and it was fun.\n\nI've always been a little hesitant about this relationship too, I'm not sure why. I'm a little afraid of commitment, I guess. He's been sending me postcards from abroad, and at first they were great and I would feel awesome when I got them, but I just got one today that he wrote for our anniversary, and I couldn't bring myself to finish reading it.\n\nShould I stay? I go in and out of feeling that I love him, and I really don't want to lose the friendship (it may also be difficult to reconcile friend groups and classes, since we share a major).", "summary": "Relationship not going to last after college, should I stay in it?"}
{"id": "t3_42vfq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am in the same friendship groups as my ex's [15F]'s boyfriend. Sad thing is I like the guy.", "post": "This girl, let's call her Kim, was with me last year, but I was basically forced to break up with her because her dad wouldn't let her see me and it killed me and I couldn't take it any more.\n\nAfter about half a year, *right when I start to have feelings for her again*, I find out she's going out with one of my closest (at the time) friends[16M]. to make it even worse, before I started having feelings for her again, **I specifically asked said friend,** let's call him Jimmy, **if he was into her**, cos I wouldn't want to cockblock if my mate is into the same girl, y'know. Jimmy said no, and that i needed to move on. Asshat.\n\nAt first I was on an emotional rollercoaster, but then I was prepraed to forgive Jimmy, cos I really looked up to and respected the guy, for doing this to me. I talked to him, and **he made it clear that he didn't even want to be friends with me!** This guy had been one of my friends that I could rely on, confide in, and he *didn't even want to be friends* this whole time?!?\n\nAny thought of forgiveness had just rocketed out the window, and I was MAD. Took me a good month to get over the girl, Kim.\n\nAnyway, Jimmy and I have pretty much all the same friends so when our group are together its like a rubber band with two positive magnets on it. We just don't make eye contact. This really upsets me because as a Christian I desperately want to make up with him, I really like the guy...\n\nDo you guys think I should try to be on good terms with Kim and Jimmy (Pardon the 8Mile references), or should I distance myself from them so they don't hurt me further?", "summary": "close friend screwed me over by going for my crush and explicitly ending our friendship, should I try to be on good terms with them or ditch?"}
{"id": "t3_3lkvbu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being honest.", "post": "So I work at a business where there are multiple cashiers at any given time and they each have their own cash bank to use for transactions. One day I began to count my cash and noticed that I was a good bit over my issued amount of $500. I kinda freaked out so instinctively I emailed my superiors and dropped the cash into our safe. I didn't think too much of it, but then I thought well someone else must be short. I asked my shiftmates about their cash and they were both fine so the other possibility was the shift after me. Shift changes at my job can be sloppy and the girl who comes in after me tends to be late so I'm in a rush to leave as it is. Sure enough I ask her and she lets me know that she was short by an amount pretty close to what I was over. \n\nMystery solved. Everything's good. Right?\n\nWrong. \n\nThe next day we both get called into our superiors office and we both get questioned about the money and they think that I'm covering for her for some stupid reason. I mean don't get me wrong the girl is great but I have no reason to do anything for her. I just don't get it. At this point I'm just wishing I had never bothered to count my cash. I really don't wanna get in trouble at work for something so silly. Now I'm just waiting to see if we get written up for it which would be really unfortunate because I just applied for a promotion.", "summary": "was honest about cash at work, now I'm being questioned and kinda scared to get in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_vi1xw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What has been your worst experience at a K-Mart store? Here's mine.", "post": "I don't care for their store much to begin with but due to location and selection I stop by once or twice month. I went looking for some hardware but didn't end up finding what I wanted. Took to browsing the aisles because I didn't want to have made a wasted trip.\n\n$3 for a pair of training mitts/gloves (originally $26). I also spot a similar set of youth/adult boxing gloves for the same price. I double check the clearance tags to make sure I have the right items for the sale and take both boxes to check-out. This is where the fun begins.\n\nTraining mitts ring up no problem but when she rings up the gloves the total jumps to $28 instead of $6. I point this out and they call back a price check. Comes back over the radio that the price rung up is the correct price. I decline to buy the full priced gloves and just buy the mitts. After I finish my purchase I return to the aisle to double check the sale tags and they've been removed. I was pissed at this point but really, what could I do? Walked out with my purchase got a good deal and was cheated out of another.", "summary": "discounted item rang up full price, sale tag removed from shelf before having chance to verify myself. Fuck you K-mart."}
{"id": "t3_4c51ak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28 F] Fiances [29 M] friend [30 M]winked at me and I giggled, whos in the wrong?", "post": "hey guys\n\nI was at a wedding with my fiance and his friends yesterday. One of my fiances friends came in with a new hair cut and I told my fiance I really liked it - later last night I was talking to the friend about girls and flirting and he said hes good at winking and winked at me - i giggled. I couldnt help it but just at that moment my fiance walked past and now hes so angry at me. He says he feels ashamed and that that sort of giggle should be reserved for just him. I apologized but that only made it worse because it was basically admitting i liked it. Can someone help me make this right??", "summary": "Fiances friend winked at me, i liked it and now fiance is mad"}
{"id": "t3_2w71yt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 5 years, broke up with me a couple days ago", "post": "I came to this sub in order to give myself a peace of mind. \n\nWhat I've been feeling lately is a lot of unfairness. Problems within a relationship that long need to be resolved in an appropriate fashion. I keep feeling as though that breaks up in a long term relationship should be a mutual agreement. It should never feel as though the decision is up to the other person. Letting one person decide the fate of a long term relationship doesn't feel right to me. We should work on at least finding a reason why we both feel as though the relationship should end. If that conclusion doesn't arrive then it only proves that we still need to work the relationship.\n\nI suppose a little backstory is needed to make sense of this. The problem we've been having was I had let her down multiple times when she needed me. Of course I feel horrible about it, disappointing people I care about is one of my worst fears. She feels as though it has happened too often in a short period of time. After the last time it happened, I've been genuinely trying my best to never let her down. \n\nUnfortunately it's been difficult for her to move past it. As a result, she felt like giving up because the relationship isn't worth it if she can't stop thinking about the problem. Essentially it was too late for me to do anything about it. It just doesn't feel fair to me that this problem, that I've been working hard to fix, is what's keeping us from mending our relationship together. So it feels as though the decision of whether a 5 year relationship stays or goes is up to her only. I'm just shocked that we broke up over something like this and in such a short period of time of us dealing with the problem.", "summary": "The decision to break up was completely her own while we did nothing to convince myself of a reason to agree with her. It doesn't feel right to handle the situation like that when it's such a long term relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1xsasf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Sexual harassment complaint filed against my partner and no one will give him any information about it. What will happen now? [Ohio]", "post": "My partner went into work the other day and they immediately pulled him aside and told him he was being suspended pending investigation. They gave him papers, told him he had been accused of sexual harassment, and told him he could not step foot into the store again, for at least as long as the investigation.   They treated him like he should know what he did, acted like he did something heinous and wrong, yet never told him what it was that he was accused of.\n\nShouldn't they have told him what he supposedly did?  Isn't he supposed to be allowed to dispute it?  They gave him the number to a Union representative, but that person never called back.  So he went into the actual Union office this morning, but they just filed some papers and told him to wait for a phone call from them....   But he doesn't even know what he's fighting against!   We don't know what to do.  We can't afford for him to be out of work like this... and sexual harassment charges will haunt him forever, and potentially screw up his whole working career.  I just don't understand why someone would do this...  It has blown all of us away... What do we do??", "summary": "My partner was suspended from his job and told he can't come back while they're investigating, but that is all he was told. Are they allowed to do that?"}
{"id": "t3_36ukki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21m) worrying my fianc\u00e9's (19f) new job. Always busy with phone calls and meetings. She recently got a job working at a gym from 4pm-1am. Now has two jobs.", "post": "Im worried we won't have anytime to spend together.  In fact I know we won't have anytime together.  We have an 8 month old baby.  I work full time and she soon will be working all these extra hours with her first job (network marketing) and i don't even know if thats gonna work.  She's already been on her phone all the time trying to get people to sign up under her.  I don't even know if its going to work out.  \n\nWe decided after a big fight we would work on our relationship but since then all she seems to be interested in is her work.  She says she needs to go all out for 6 months trying to get people to sign up.  \n\nNow she recently got a job at Golds Gym cleaning restrooms and what not.  Now i know the only time we will have is in the mornings.  We both have Wednesday off but she is using that time to go to her meetings at her other job.  \n\nIt seems she won't be able to spend that much time around us.  She has her mother watching my son, which isn't a problem for me but i always thought it would be her watching him not someone else.  \n\nShe says she's doing this for our son but i know she likes going to the meeting because there are a bunch of people there pumping each other up to get sales/sign ups.", "summary": "Girlfriend working two jobs.  Im afraid she will be to distant from her family and more dedicated to her work life.  Am i worrying for nothing.  Am i just going to have to wait this out for the 6 months?  "}
{"id": "t3_4e0mf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] family doesn't respect my privacy at all or allow me to have any \"me\" time.", "post": "Okay, this is an embarrassing one.\n\nMy family are really religious Catholics, I am too in a way I guess, but not as hardcore as them.  I have 2 older sisters, my mom, my dad, and me, living in one house together. Its hectic, its loud. There's no sense of privacy.\n\nBasically, my issue is around my own \"personal\" time if you know what I mean, where I like to \"focus\" on myself.  My room doesn't have a lock, and one family member or another is always barging in.  I've nearly been caught so many times, I consider myself quite lucky it hasn't happened yet.\n\nI asked my parents to let me put a lock on my door many times, they are like \"no way, what do you even need it for?\"\n\nI can't say \"cause I don't want you to barge in when I'm fapping\" cause that would make them freak the fuck out I'm guessing.  As I said, they are super religious Catholics.  My mom once caught me browsing porn on the internet when I was 13 and humiliated me so badly, making me confess to the priest and confess to my entire family that I've done a grave sin and all that, and she made me read the bible continuously for days, writing out bits from the bible over and over again to memorise it, hoping that will make me get over my \"temptation\" to watch porn ever again.\n\nSadly it didn't work and here I am, but I seriously need some kind of outlet route and my family isn't giving me any space.  I can't get them to respect the idea I might need some privacy occasionally and don't like people bursting in randomly without knocking.\n\nAny ideas what I can do?", "summary": "Live in hectic noisy house with mom, dad and 2 older sisters.  None of them respect my privacy at all and are constantly barging in, not allowing me any \"me time\".  They are also really religious Catholics so I'd be in deep shit if I ever get caught or explain it to them."}
{"id": "t3_18pvrf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going tobogganing and breaking my tailbone", "post": "So a buddy and I decide to go tobogganing and build a jump. I am the first to try this jump and I landed right on my tailbone. I'm not sure if it's broken but it sure feels that way. Also when I hit the ground I thought shitting my pants was a real possibility, fortunately that wasn't the outcome. the pain can be described like the equivalent to getting kicked in the balls but for your ass. I can't find a comfortable position yet because sitting is definitely out of the question. I'm hoping the pain subsides after a long night sleep.", "summary": "broke my ass and realized tobogganing is for kids."}
{"id": "t3_2sqfbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] cheated on my [19F] girlfriend of one year and 2 months, with mutual friend when I got really drunk one night.", "post": "We went out for drinks with another friend and both got so drunk we both blacked out for a bit. During the night i woke up to her next to me and started to make out with and then to have sex with her, i remember thinking she was my girlfriend. She says she didn't remember but I kind of remember it happening but im positive we did because my junk smelled. My girlfriend and I are our first everything I love her to death and the guilt is killing me. Need help because I don't want to lose her. Also were both in college and i would say a very mature couple and that we communicate everything to each other.", "summary": "Got drunk and had sex with a friend and I wish I never did."}
{"id": "t3_2hhatv", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Second cat AND feral cat challenge all at once!", "post": "So yesterday I go on my back patio and there are 3 little kittens there. I had been debating on getting a second kitten, and these ones look old enough (4-5 weeks) so I caught one and brought it inside. She's obviously feral by how scared she is. She keeps hiding and shaking and won't eat so far. I did manage to catch her a few times, and she's actually really complacent. When I catch her and pet her, she's totally cool with it. I even gave her a bath without any hassle! So she is very chill, but very scared still. My older kitty (6 mo) is not pleased with the cat. She has been hissing at it. She sniffed her a few times but for the most part she's acting very territorial. So I would appreciate any advice on socializing feral kittens, AND socializing the kitten with my older cat! I've read up enough to realize that I should keep the kitten in a seperate small space for a little while and spoon feed her.", "summary": "Took in feral kitten, sweet but very scared, and my older cat is not getting along with her. Need advice for handling all this. "}
{"id": "t3_4fpxh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my husband [23 M], unhappy in relationship because my husband is not passionate.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for a year.  Before we got married we had multiple deep conversations, did a lot of things together, sex life was great (usually 4-5 times a week) but ever since we got married/moved in together, everything has gone down hill.  \n\nAny time that I am passionate about anything, he shuts down completely.  He refuses to talk to me if I show an ounce of passion/sadness/frustration in my voice.  He states that I need to talk to him in a \"friendly voice\" even if it's something that I am upset about.  \n\nFor example, we got a new puppy and the dog is still being crate trained/house trained.  I don't like that he yanks on the dogs leash when he is walking him or wanting him to go outside, because I believe it teaches the puppy to only respond to that behavior.  I have asked him multiple times (politely) to stop doing this, he says he will and then he continues the behavior.  I've asked about 10 different times, so the last time I brought it up I was really upset about it and started crying (probably overreacting but I really love my dog).  He sat on the couch and wouldn't even look at me.  I finally just went upstairs and when I came back down and asked him about why he wasn't responding to me he said \"I'm not going to talk to you if you can't talk to me in a nicer tone\"\n\nThis is just one example, but there are dozens of others that have ended in the exact same way, or with him just sighing and rolling his eyes at me.\n\nOn top of that, we have sex about once a month and only when I'm super drunk (because he is not emotionally available and I've completely lost interest).  I have tried to talk to him about it and again he sits in silence and refuses to talk to me.\n\nI think this is bull shit... Am I crazy for thinking this?  Has my husband just completely checked out of our relationship?  \n\nI'm hoping someone else has gone through something similar and can give me some advice.", "summary": "My husband is not passionate about our relationship and ignores me when I try to talk to him.  Does this mean he has checked out of our relationship?  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_epck3", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Family cat has diabetes. Care to share your experiences? My parents may put him down - :'(", "post": "\u00a3500 for the initial treatment and then \u00a3500 per year. 2 injections a day\nmeaning that he could never be left on his own. My parents aren't really\nfor it on both the cost and time as well as putting him through the\ninjections. But I'm sure the cost thing isn't really an issue for them - \u00a3500 isn't much - but having to inject him twice a day doesnt sound good, either for them or him, and I'm pretty sure that's more the reasoning.\n\nI'm not quite sure how I feel about them not wanting to do it, however I can understand all the reasons.\n\nCan anyone with a diabetic cat give me their experiences with looking after one?", "summary": "Cat has diabetes, parents will probably put them down, looking to convince otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_53frqf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "People with neurological disorders that affect motor skills, what do you do to maintain independence?", "post": "First time poster hoping this is in the right place, also using a throwaway in hopes of unbiased, honest answers. \n\nI've recently been going through MS testing, after my motor skills increasingly began to slip. The first MRI showed I did have legions throughout my brain which led into further testing. I'm nowhere near any final diagnosis, but being young I obviously went through all the thoughts of what my life might be someday and the lack of control I may have over my body.\n\nHowever, this experience mixed with my degree recently got me involved with a great opportunity working with a hospital to find a way to offer more independence for patients and hopefully extend to home. \n\nThey are currently focusing on epilepsy and the dangers of the bathroom. Their epilepsy patients don't generally get to shower because of the risks, and when they do get to use the bathroom it is always supervised, incase there is a seizure, to try and prevent as much injury as possible when falling in that environment. \n\nI would like to find a way for these patients and others to maintain that very important independence, but still be safe. \n\nI was told I could extend this to other neurological disorders like multiple sclerosis, cerebral palsy, Parkinson's, or anything that may cause involuntary motions or loss of consciousness. \n\nSo to anyone that has or knows someone with conditions like these, what do you do to keep that independence and safely use the bathroom (toilet, shower, sink) on your own? Have you made any modifications? Are there any warning signs for your particular condition that you use to judge when it's safe to be in that environment alone? Even if you haven't found a good solution, what is your current experience like and what do you wish could change?", "summary": "How do you safely use the bathroom with epilepsy or neurological disorders that cause involuntary movements?"}
{"id": "t3_2wvlyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M-22] My ex-[F-19] is dropping off some of my stuff later tonight, should I be pleasant? [Personal Issues]", "post": "We've been broken up a while, 9 months or so, haven't seen one another in 4 months. I'd be lying if I said I didn't care about her, but she hurt me and lied to my face numerous times. Things have moved on and now I'm not sure if I should be pleasant any more, I've been nothing but polite the entire time we've known/dated one another. And I'm not sure if I'm obliged to be polite anymore, either I am to be the bigger person, or I'm not and take a jab at her hoping she feels bad about things.", "summary": "Ex is giving me my crap back, should I be the bigger person or try and make her feel some kind of guilt for hurting me?"}
{"id": "t3_fyjoy", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Help cleaning a pot that we burned mango in ... ?", "post": "So, my wife and I make baby food for our 9 mo. old son, often by chopping and steaming vegetables and fruit on the stove using a steamer basket inside a saucepan.  A few nights ago, we had a 2 quart Calphalon saucepan (I'm only telling you the brand because I'm concerned about damaging the finish somehow) boiling with the steamer basket inside, full of chopped mango.  We got distracted, left it on far too long, and the bottom of the saucepan is now covered in a an awful-smelling black tar.  I've soaked the pan; soaked it with soap; tried to boil water in the pan to loosen the gunk ... I've gotten some off.  But I'm getting worn out trying and it still looks like hell.  Any ideas?  Any help is much appreciated!", "summary": "burned mango in the bottom of a saucepan.  Can't get the tar off.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_50aktz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend/employee has problems with debt collectors and she lied to me. How do I help her?", "post": "I [F/25] have been working with one girl [f/21] (let's call her A) for around 10 months now. We work in a small project that has 4 workers and we all have become friends. I am also the main person responsible for this project.\n\nAbout a month ago I received a call on my work phone from a lady and she asked me to give her A's contacts. Of course I don't give around my co-workers contacts just like that, so I asked why. Turns out she is a debt collector and she has had problems with reaching A - she is never picking up her phone. I explained that A cannot be reached through this phone and they should try her personal phone again, I did ask for her phone and promised to give it to A.\n\nLater that day I spoke to A, handed her the number. A seemed shocked and told she has no idea why they would call.\n\nFew days later I met A, asked about the debt collector and she told that she took care of it. A explained that she and her sister had switched phone providers and they had mixed up something there and made extra bill which of course was not paid as they stoped using their homepage. And she told that everything is ok.\n\nSo today I received one more call from the debt collector asking again for A. She spoke rudly to me and asked if I gave her message to A - from this I understand that A had lied to me about calling her and making everything ok and she does have problems with them.\n\nA is really nice friend and awesome worker and I don't want to be too insensitive talking with her about this problem, especially since it is none of my business. But then again I don't want this debt collector calling my work phone every other day from different numbers and asking for her over and over again. \nHow do I approach her? I believe that no mater how huge debt she is into, it won't go away by ignoring it. I want her to start solving it but I am afraid of overstepping my boundaries.", "summary": "Friend/employee/co-worker has some kind of problems with debt collector and they keep calling me asking for her. How do I approach her and persuade her to take control of this problem and start solving it without being too rude and pushy?"}
{"id": "t3_15sxur", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Individually Insured US Redditors: Have you found in your state that  ObamaCare has, in fact, enabled you to be insured at the same rate as others in your demographic regardless of per-existing conditions?", "post": "I am a 32 year old female PA resident. I pay my share of taxes and am an independent contractor. I've been trying to get health insurance for about a year and a half. I'm usually quoted around $150-200, but when I am approved, the rate is over $600/ month. This rate is justified because I was treated for heartburn, diagnosed as pre-ulcers (I forget the medical term, but this is how my doctor described my condition to me). I have since been treating my condition holistically and have managed to control the symptoms, so I haven't been medically treated for this in almost 3 years. I can't afford the rate and have been going without health insurance. Can anyone sympathize with my story?", "summary": "I have heartburn and can't afford insurance as a result."}
{"id": "t3_4d0wvs", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Should I ask her friend what she thinks of me?", "post": "Ok so pretty much, I've (M19) had a crush on this girl(F19) since grade 9, but we've never talked until recently. and the reason for that is we've had way to talk since we've never had a class together or any other means of talking, and I thought it would be weird to just start messaging her on fb out of the blue. \n\nWe've both never been in a relationship, I haven't cuz I've liked her for all this time, but idk why she hasn't lol.  \n\nI'm in first year university now, and this semester I found out I have the same class with her. I sit beside her ever class, and i have a great time talking to her for the short amount of time I get before class & during when the prof takes breaks. Recently, we went to a classical music concert (it's a music class) & we both had a great time! \n\nBut now it's the final week of classes coming up and I'm panicking about not having an opportunity to talk to her anymore, so I was thinking about asking her friend what she thinks of me. I honestly can't tell if she's into me or not. \n\nI don't expect the friend to give an honest response because they obviously wouldn't want to disclose what they've been told in confidence, but I'm interested in seeing what they'd say nonetheless. \n\nI was wondering if this is a good idea? Have any of you guys been asked by someone what I want to ask my crush's friend & how did you respond?", "summary": "have had a crush on a girl for 4 years, should I ask her friend what she thinks of me?"}
{"id": "t3_3wxtjp", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Newborn Addicted to Night Nurse...", "post": "My son (2nd child) was born 5 weeks ago.  My wife and I also have a 2.5 YO daughter.  We did not get a night nurse when our daughter was born.  When our son was born, we were encouraged to get a night nurse to help out.  At first it was great.  Now, however, we are scaling back on the nurse and she is only there 3 nights a week.  Our newborn sleeps for 2-4 hours at a time when the night nurse is there.  On the nights when the nurse is not there, he does not sleep.  Maybe for 30-60 minutes, but only if he is being held AND walked around.  I spent from midnight-2am walking around the first floor of my house trying to get him to sleep.  He's not hungry, we feed him plenty (gained 2.5lbs in first month), but he will not sleep.  As soon as we put him down in the bassinet (or even sit down while holding him) he starts to wake up and cry.  We have even tried driving him around to get him to sleep.  He falls asleep in the car, then, as soon as he is back in the house (not even out of the car carrier) he wakes up.  It's like he has some crazy spider-sense.  Has anyone had similar experiences?  Like I said, its ONLY on the nights where the night nurse is not there, so my wife insists he is addicted to her.  Our daughter was colicky, and that was rough, but at least she eventually fell asleep.  This is a whole new level of difficult.  I know the answer is probably \"that sucks but it'll pass,\" but does anyone have any advice for getting overtired newborns to sleep?", "summary": "newborn sleeps great when night nurse is there, but does not sleep on nights she is not.  Any tips for getting overtired newborns to sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_2doxzs", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need advice with the corner I feel like my wife is backing me into", "post": "My wife and I have been married for a little over a year and we've been together for about 6 years. In the past two years, I've gotten a much better job, worked my ass off, been promoted, and we've been able to enhance our lifestyle as a result. My wife has in the last two years worked a dead end job that she claims to hate. She was recently promoted (big promotion) so we got her the new car she wanted. Now she wants to go back to school.\n\nBecause she's unhappy with her career, she wants to go back to school to get a masters degree. Ultimately she wants to be a city planner or a city manager. However, in order for her to do this, we have to make some changes in our lifestyle. Things like: live in a much cheaper place, sell things we don't need to drum of some cash, start biking/public trans, etc. Tonight she asked me if I'd consider selling my car (she can't/won't learn to drive stick) and cut back on our expenses so she can do this. I don't really want to budge on this and here's why:\n\nShe isn't going to make more money. In my mind, if spending all this money on a better degree doesn't net you anything (aside from maybe greater job satisfaction), it's not worth it. We can't afford to have a family now, so things aren't going to get any better.\n\nI don't want to sell my car. I've been working my ass off to get where I am and I don't want to compromise on something that I really love (driving) so that we can afford to have her go back to school.\n\nShe occasionally says things like \"I want to run a bed and breakfast\" which makes me feel like she doesn't know what she wants to do and this will just lead to more dissatisfaction.\n\nI brought up the financials and she got pissed off because she felt I was being selfish because I was focusing on the money. It quickly escalated into a yelling/pissing contest and got us no where.\n\nBasically, I'm lost. I don't know what to do or how to handle this situation. Please help.", "summary": "Wife wants to go back to school to get a similar-paying job and is asking for us to compromise on things in order for her to be able to."}
{"id": "t3_4oj25g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] have a crush on my classmate [soon to be 18F]. I maybe had some chance to get her, but I destroyed that chance today.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships!\n\n[Here's] the original post.\n\nToday I gathered the courage to ask her to a date. The first time I had a chance I was waay to worried, the second time I actually did it. She said that she doesn't have some free time, and I said that then at a later time. I think at this point any kind of logical thinking just turned off in my brain.\n\nLet me explain. She said that she doesn't have free time and I thought she said that to make me leave her alone. After that I talked with a friend while she was going back to school to tell her friends that she's leaving. After she left the school I did the worst thing I could do. Seriously, I don't know what made me do this. I started following her, to be more exact stalking her. I could've just asked if I could walked with her, but noo brain is stupid today, so I stalked her. I don't know when, but she noticed me. And she is a smart girl so she turned left where she didn't had to actually turn left and just waited at the corner and I came rushing to the corner, because I didn't wanted to lose sight of her, and when I saw her just standing there I immideatly turned back but it was waay to late.\n\nShe walked up to me and told me (in the most serious sound ever) to never ever do this again. She told me that she is going to his father's workplace (which I was sure about earlier, but as I said, my brain is incredibly stupid today). I was only able to apologize at that point.\n\nRight now I'm just crushed about how could I be such an idiot to just make my chances with her to absolutely zero.\n\nI know, apologizing is the right thing to do, and I'll do it on Monday, but do I have any chance or I can start looking for an other girl if I can?", "summary": "I asked her out to a date, she said that she doesn't have free time today, my stupid brain thought that she said that to leave her alone. So I stalked her, she noticed me and told me to never ever do this again. I was only able to apologize at that point. On Monday I'll meet with her because of school, and I'll apologize to her, but do I have any chance with her or I should just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_4i3w4e", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Trash Hit'n'Run", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nMy dog is a 2 year old duck tolling retriever and boy, does he love the grossest stuff. Used tampons, old bandaids, waxy q-tips...you name it, he's probably had it in his mouth at some point.\n\nI looked through old posts a bit but I didn't see anything that really addressed his behavior specifically. He gets into the trash, regardless of if I'm home or not or if someone is standing right next to him. I know you're not supposed to chase your dog because then it turns into a game, but sometimes he'll get his paws on something he *really* shouldn't be chewing on (certain thrown out foods, things that can break into sharp pieces, etc) and it seems like the potential threat to his health outweighs the \"chase game\" dog thought process.\n\nI figure it has to do with impulse control at least somewhat, so I've been doing training that addresses that, but it doesn't seem to have helped with this specific issue.\n\nHe's a fairly high-energy dog, but nowhere near what you'd usually see from his breed (his litter's temperaments were all super chill). I get him out on several walks a day of various lengths and he has plenty of toys (I don't give him anything stuffed or fabric-covered though because he shreds that shit all over the place) ranging from bones to balls to Kongs.\n\nAs much as I'd love to replace every trash can in the house with ones with locking lids, that's not really in my budget at the moment. He's in his crate when no one's home for the most part (unless it's for a short-ish period of time, usually no longer than an hour). He actually used to shred whatever mat we'd put in there when he was younger, so we replaced that with a large sheet that gets wrapped around the removable base (it's a wire crate) so that he's not laying on the plastic but he's not able to dig at it until it comes up. That may be related? It seems like a one-part shredding problem and a one-part impulse control/testing boundaries problem.", "summary": "my dog is nasty and gets all the gross shit out of the trash what do"}
{"id": "t3_11iza8", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I've fixed my Pokemon pooping problem.  Here's how.", "post": "I accidentally conditioned my self to need to take a poop every time I play pokemon.  Original post here: [I think I may have conditioned myself to poop every time I play Pokemon.](\n\nI may have solved that problem:  instead of playing pokemon on the the john, I now browse Reddit.  Some might see this as a problem, however, I see it as a benefit.  \n\nBecause browsing Reddit now makes me need to take a massive dump, I only restrict my Reddit browsing to times when I can afford to take a dump.  Productivity ensues and I get more cash, which turns into more beer.  Win win for me!", "summary": "fuck off lazy bastard, read the post."}
{"id": "t3_3yjp10", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I[27f] do with the boxes of xmas presents amazon delivered from my ex[37m]?", "post": "I left my abusive ex-boyfriend for the second and last time two months ago. I've gone no contact with him, don't associate with mutual friends who remained friends with him, and even stopped speaking with most of my family when they believed the lies he told them about my mental health and supported his attempts to have me involuntarily committed.\n\nWhen I returned from my holiday trip yesterday there was a pile of amazon boxes waiting for me. All nicely wrapped with gift tags naming me and my immediate family, and a long letter saying no matter what happened or happens he will always consider us family and he hopes we'll celebrate next year. The gift tags on my boxes all had notes about how much he still loves me and wants us to be together again.\n\nI've got no problem throwing away or donating the gifts he got for me. I haven't even opened them and don't want to. He left me with permanent physical injuries, he gets no future role in my life.\n\nWhat do I do with the gifts he sent to my family? It feels wrong to not give them out, or to donate them without mentioning it at all. And how do I make it clear to him not to do this again? I want to say something to him about how inappropriate and manipulative it was. But I also think it would probably be better not to say anything at all. He did it to open a line of communication, right? I don't want him to think it worked.", "summary": "Abusive ex sent christmas presents to me and my family. Going to toss or donate mine. What do I do about it all?"}
{"id": "t3_2zidql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Male(22) dating female(18), I've never dated younger and she's never dated. Always felt comfortable in relationships but her inexperience is making me feel uneasy as I don't know how to ease her into the ways of being in one.", "post": "So I just recently started seeing a very beautiful, but young girl. She's never had a boyfriend and it shows. I'm completely fine with it but its been so long and I've been in so many relationships I forget how it feels to have everything be your first. \n\nIm just trying to figure out what the best way would be to ease her into the water so to say. I've let her control the pace of things so far as I thought that that would be what's best.\n\nIf you could offer any advice, or think of what you would tell your younger, inexperienced self about how to handle things with an equally inexperienced girlfriend, what would you say?", "summary": "inexperienced gf, need help on how to make her feel comfortable with expressing her affection"}
{"id": "t3_2un2un", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why am I overreacting about my girlfriend's new diet?", "post": "I'm a 27 year old male.   My girlfriend is 25, and we've been together for nearly a year.   Recently,  due to health reasons,  she's decided to eliminate red meat and chicken from her diet.   She doesn't eat much of it anyway, and she has made it crystal clear that she will never ask me to do the same.   However,  ever since she told me,  I've had this knot in my stomach.   Apart from the fact that this might affect our marriage years from now,  I have no reason to be upset.  So why do I feel so bad?   Am I simply overreacting,  afraid of change,  or something else?", "summary": "Girlfriend is going vegetarian and I'm freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_gfeuk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "19/m/Am--how have you dealt with heartbreak?", "post": "I dated a girl second semester senior year. We fell very deeply in love. I'd been in several long-term relationships before/ said I love you to two girls (family devastation had forced me to be very mature at an early age). This was her first relationship. We went to college 1000 miles apart, tried to make it work but when she visited several weeks ago, we talked and came to the conclusion that we couldn't make it work (mostly my decision). I'm still in love with her. Tonight she said, \"you knew me\" and used past tense several times throughout the conversation. I'd told her to \"get over me\" a week and a half ago. But tonight, I just got hit by how much I've truly lost. I had genuinely thought I would marry this girl over a long, long period of time. I don't know how to deal with the loss. I know there are other girls/ I should distract myself/ I should just take it one day at a time/ I'm young. But when you know, you know. It is love and we fit together perfectly. Despite the seven month separation/ HUGE growth this year, we're still in sync. So RA, what should I do? I'm lost and confused and I want to tell her how I feel but don't want to hinder her moving past me. I want her to be happy. I'm a child scared shitless dealing with a relationship that is far, far past my age/ independence/ maturity level.", "summary": "golden retrievers make great companions at the circus."}
{"id": "t3_s21xh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Christian friend has an answer for everything, need help", "post": "My best friend is an intelligent person. He is also a theist, a Christian one. He claims that Christianity in the correct sense, should only be looked at as far as the new testament is concerned: the coming of Jesus; he claims the bible from this view is the most lenient text and just overall promotes the belief in Christ and to be a good person, to question everything (even ones own Christian beliefs), and much more. I'm the ignorant one, because by not believing in something, then why live at all? I just dont think I should believe in something without evidence, but apparently the evidence for Jesus Christ and eye witness accounts is \"enough\" for him to believe. I never get anywhere in our arguments so I'm looking for some help. I haven't read the bible.", "summary": "What is the new testament all about? Because apparently that is the only thing that applies to Christianity and there is nothing outrageous in it, just preaching of love and theism."}
{"id": "t3_2tkkup", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My SO's mother treats us like young teenagers, and I'm sick of it!", "post": "We've been dating for 1 year now, we are both 20 years old and are in college. I always go out of my way to be helpful whenever I am at her house, whether its helping with dinner, cleaning or even taking out the trash. Her mother is always very friendly and lovely to me whenever she sees me, big hugs and kisses everytime I come over. We bought her lovely presents for birthdays and christmas, and have cooked dinner for the entire family a number of times.\n\nDespite all of my efforts to be the best I can possibly be for both my SO and all of *our* efforts to be the best for her family, her mother insists on treating us both as teens who are not ready for simple things like sleeping in the same bed.\n\nI'm typing this out as I lie on the couch in my SO's house, because her mother demanded that we do ***not*** share a room, let alone a bed. She is not even allowed to stay at my apartment that I live in for college, (so much so that after missing the last bus back home at night, her mother demanded that she gets a taxi back home, something that would have cost upwards of $60). It frustrates us so much, when we see my housemates have their SO's stay over numerous nights in a row and we cant even spend a day together without worrying about sleeping arrangements for that night. It's especially frustrating to me due to the fact that my parents loosened their grip on me from 16 onwards, so much so that I would be able to leave for the day to another city 3 hours away and only send a text message to let them know where I was. They trusted me, and I respected that trust.\n\nWe just want to function like a normal couple. We don't want to have to lie in order to simply spend a night together or tip toe our way around when her mother is around. It makes us feel like teenagers dating for the first time. I love her, I just want to sleep beside her and wake up next to her each morning, but I cant, because of whatever backwards thought process her mother has.", "summary": "SO's mother refuses to let us sleep together and all around act like a normal couple. It's starting to annoy me (to put it lightly)"}
{"id": "t3_3q8qcz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Don't know what to do about my relationship right now", "post": "Hey guys.. So me and my girlfriend have been going out almost ten months now. She told me her friends constantly tell her to break up with me, saying she can do better. This of course upsets me, but i barely ever talk to her friends. They talk to her, but if im around, they wont.\n   She said something about seeing me too much and wanting to spend her time with friends. This made me feel like she should spend time with her friends instead of me, they seemed more important to her. Telling her this hurt her, and she has been upset. \n    Now, we live across the street from each other, and she works on weekends. I havent had her come over in two weeks, and we used to sleep together on skype, and she no longer \"wants to\". So in my opinion, if she has no plans, she might as well come over my house, she has no hobbies or sports or anything. She texts me all the time and has assured me that she loves me, even when i started to doubt. She gets upset at me for silly things sometimes and we bicker quite a bit. I love her a ton and dont want her to go, and she said loves me too.", "summary": "I feel like shes pushing me away but when i tell her that it hurts her."}
{"id": "t3_4ox6of", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19m) girlfriend (19f) went through my Facebook messages and saw that I had asked my ex if she as okay and \"doesn't trust me anymore\".", "post": "Typing on my iPhone so bear with me\n\nMy girlfriend of 6 months recently logged onto my computer to do school work while I was at work. She went to Facebook earlier that morning and saw that I was logged in and she said she had a \"gut feeling\" that I was lying to her about who I was talking to regularly. My ex goes to the same college as me coincidently and I had recently asked if she was okay after she showed up for school with a black eye. The conversation I had with her was very cut and dry and nothing that would raise an alarm. My girlfriend was FURIOUS. Claiming that \"she knows girls that do this\". But the problem I'm having is that when I mention something about her talking to this friend she has at school constantly texting her at all hours of the night she gets even more pissed because I \"should trust her\"..\n\nI don't fucking get it. I need help. \n\nPart of the reason I broke up with my previous ex was because I hate feeling watched over, or constantly under surveillance, when I tried describing how I felt to my current girlfriend she was even more mad claiming that I \"shouldn't compare her to my ex\". But they both did the exact thing just differently...\n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "Girlfriend went though my messages on Facebook and no longer \"trusts me\" because I didn't tell her I asked my ex if she was okay"}
{"id": "t3_2pa5ux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 6 months, I broke up with her and she's taking it ridiculously hard.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend had been going out since the summer, and we definitely had some amazing times together. Once the summer ended I moved off for college while she went to college in our home city.\nI came home every weekend and for a while it was fantastic but slowly it became harder as I became busier in college and I began to settle into my new life in an amazing city while she was stuck at home living with her parents. We started fighting more and more and it mostly came from the distance between us.\n\nAbout two or three weeks ago I decided it was time to end things as if I didn't I'd only be putting off the inevitable. I couldn't stay with her thinking the whole time about how I was going to end up breaking up her as it was too much of a weight it was on my conscience. When we broke up it was hard for me but she took it in a horrible way. I could keep busy up at college but for her she didn't have the same opportunity.\n\nSince then she's been blaming it all on herself and constantly been thinking about me even though it is clearly my fault that this happened. If I were to get back with her, as she's asked for, I know this would just repeat itself but it's so so hard for me to see someone that I once cared for deeply be so hurt.", "summary": "Girlfriend took the break-up terribly and although I want her to be happy I don't know if I can make things work."}
{"id": "t3_14d1tc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "struggle: a different variation of something we all go through", "post": "So i made it through the whole first year of college struggling. I didn't fail out by any means, but i made the minimum GPA that i needed (2.7 for certain organizations) and was just feeling ill all the time. In the summer i found out that I had diabetes (explains the illness) and struggled with the next semester going into school. I'm basically a year behind in my major, and not that i'm against student loans but i can only take out so much and with two younger sisters headed to college soon, my parents only have so much money for our college funds and with as much as i'm able to work I'm still gonna struggle gettin minimal debt outta college. On top of it all, I told myself at a young age that I never wanted a \"real\" job. If you want to cut to the chase I either was hoping to be a pro skateboarder/rockstar/some-rediculous-not-real-job you could think of. writing/playing music is my passion and i'd love nothing more than to make a living on the festival circut traveling/touring the world. Problem is, there's a hundred million kids or so out there with the same passion and way too much competition to make something original and cool these days. I mean, twenty years from now, there will be rockstars out there, living the life I wanna live. I just don't have the confidence in myself right now to really give it my all and pursue what i really want to do because I feel it's illogical. I think the reason i feel it's illogical is because I always seem to fall one step short of my goals, I never quite get to where I want to be, and waste my time disregarding everything else but I want to be able to do the things that I want to do, I don't want to settle for less.", "summary": "new to this subreddit, thought it might help me to write out everything that's bugging me in my mind. I didn't post this for reddit, but for me."}
{"id": "t3_5588en", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (30F) with my SO [30M] 12 years; expecting a child and he thinks its okay to have a \"roadie\".", "post": "My SO and I have been together for 12 years and he has been in his current profession for 8, going on 9 years. He works as a LEO. \n\nAs a LEO, friendships are important since they rely heavily on one another to ensure that they all come home at the end of the day. \n\nBecause of this, he has regular gatherings, either after shift or after an event, where they will get together, have a couple of drinks and 'shoot the shit'. And then he will drive home.  \n\nIt has recently come out that he, and his work buddies, will have a 'roadie', on their way to/from an event or work. A roadie is drinking a beer (or another alcoholic drink) WHILE driving. \n\nI do not condone drinking and driving. I get having a glass of wine or a beer with a MEAL and then driving, but I do not agree with having more than 1 and/or having a drink without substantial food. \n\nI have told him this on MANY occasions, and his response to me is always \"I know my limit\", \"I won't get in trouble\", \"do you think I would do anything to jeopardize my career\"?  \n\nI tell him by drinking and driving in any capacity he is jeopardizing his career and his (as well as others) lives. I also tell him that he is not above the law and what he is doing is hypocritical. \n\nI'm at my wits end because not only is this behavior dangerous, but we have a child due in December, and he is knowingly making these stupid decisions that are so easily avoidable. \n\nI don't know what to say or how to get through to him. Help please!", "summary": "How do I get my SO to see that having an alcoholic drink, WHILE DRIVING, is wrong."}
{"id": "t3_2fasbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Etiquette when asking someone who kinda works with you? [25m] her [20s f]", "post": "I work in a field where we work at job sites all over the state, doing repairs and renovations. At a particular job site I met someone who I would like to ask out, she is going to be the assistant manager of the store once it opens. I feel skeevy asking her out while we are still working on finishing up her store, potential conflict of interests and all that.\n\nMy company is finishing up work Friday, and I doubt I'll run into her again after that. The only means of contact would be asking her boss (she's super nice) but that also seems odd. What to do?\n\nObligatory: I wrote this on my phone so there are bound to be typos and formatting issues.", "summary": "Ethics/logistics make asking a girl out (un)necessarily difficult"}
{"id": "t3_mcdn8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I hint to my gay brother that it's alright, he can come clean with me?", "post": "I've always known my brother is gay.  Tried talking to him about once, but it went rather terribly.  It was my fault, he was too young (only 14 at the time) and I shouldn't have crossed that line.  He's an introvert, and an extremely nice guy so I was afraid going into high school, he'd have people trample all over him and bully him so I wanted to discuss ways to handle that.  Anyway, he denied it of course. \n\nFlash forward about 4 years later, I found out from one of my cousins who's around his age, that he came out to them.  Gotta admit, I was a little bit hurt, but also elated!  It means that he had come to terms with it himself instead of being in denial.  We come from a pretty traditional Vietnamese family, and he loves to make my parents happy so I was always afraid he'd live in a lie and be unhappy because of it and I don't want that. \n\nNow my question is, I want him to be able to feel free to come out to me.  To talk to me about this so I can be that person in his life for him to lean on if he ever wants to come out to anyone else.  Even just help him hide his boyfriends if need be!  I just want to be his sister.  I know I can't force him, but I love him and I want him to be able to be free and honest with me.  How do I hint at this?  Or do I just leave this alone and let him do it on his time?  Due to the first conversation we had going so terribly, I'm quite afraid to approach the subject again even though he's 20 now.  Any advice or experiences of your own is appreciated!", "summary": "Brother is gay, tried to talk to him about before, he denied it.  Found he came out to my cousins, now I want him to know he's free to come out with me"}
{"id": "t3_fp2pl", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I successfully side stepped my boss from hell's attempt to fire me and it feels really good.", "post": "Ive been working a second job as a bartender at this brew pub for the past 5 months or so. I knew that it was not going to be a very good fit after the first week or so. Poor management, shitty product, low pay. But it was some extra cash so I stuck it out.\n\nOver the past few months my attitude regarding the gig just got worse and worse. This was compounded by the crazy bulldog Kitchen Manager/General Manager (same person, if you can believe that) belittling me in front of other staff and customers.\n\nLast night after I was closing up, the assistant manager informed me that \"we need to have a talk.\" Of course those are usually never good word to hear from your boss, however, I had just received another job offer and was planning on quitting anyway.\n\nHer: \"We need to talk\"\n\nMe: \"Yes we do. I am going to have to put in my 2 weeks.\"\n\nHer: *blinking* 5 second pause \"We are going to terminate your employment\"\n\nMe: \"Well I guess I beat you to it. Can I have my money?\"\n\nI took my pay, said goodbye and left the building. I had thought about rage quitting many times, had fantasies about how I would tell off the GM. The disappointment in her eyes was worth holding out.\n\nOn to better things.", "summary": "Pulled off the \"you can't fire me because I quit\" and walked out like a boss."}
{"id": "t3_1n5j2p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to the teacher after the class", "post": "She's a musician and I'd like to get back into singing/choir, so I stayed after class to get some advice on the matter. A few minutes of chitchat later, her TA shows up, and I gather they have some kind of meeting scheduled so I try to leave, but she includes him (let's call him A) in the conversation. At some point in the conversation, the teacher mentions that I'm a bit quieter/more mature than the others. This conversation unfolds.\n\nMe: \"I don't know, I'm 4 years older than the girls I hang out with, maybe that has something to do with it. I feel ooold ~\" (I was, of course, kidding, and it was very obvious).\nA: \"Oh yeah, definitely. You're sooo mature, right?\"\n\nHe has this kind of... I don't know, kidding/not kidding tone that I just can't figure out. So I just don't mind it and continue, trying to justify myself.\n\nMe: \"Not at all. It's normal that we're not all on the same page, after all. Sometimes I just don't feel like I'm living the same reality, but the same goes for them, I guess. At times I just nod and smile, listening to them, because I have nothing pertinent to say.\"\nA: \"Oh, so you just shut up and judge them, is that it?\"\n\nAt that point I have no idea how to react. Seeing how I'm confused, taken aback by his comment, he insists that it's a joke. But the thing is, I did not mean what I said as something mean, just that it's normal that I don't relate THAT much with a daddy's girl that has her studies paid and still lives with her parents and sisters, while I live in an appartment with my boyfriend and mostly pay my own stuff. Of course maybe I was a bit clumsy in the way I said it, I don't know, but I suddenly left the class, just saying a quick \"bye\". \n\nAnd now I feel like a condescending prick. I haven't stopped thinking about it since noon.", "summary": "I wanted to talk to my musician teacher about some singing classes, ended up being accused by a TA of being 'soo mature' and of looking down on my peers."}
{"id": "t3_2c8cmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] with the girl I'm seeing [25F], she likes me too much and it's scaring me.", "post": "Hi all,\nI had a break up from a 3 year relationship in February, and before that was a 2.5 year relationship. Since then I've been having fun being single, and gave OkCupid a go. I've been enjoying the short-term dates.\n\nHowever one girl (Daisy) (25F) sort of stuck around a bit longer than I would have liked, but she's fun to hang out with, and had this happened in a year's time of being single, I would have made her my girlfriend. But I'm not ready to settle down again. I want to keep it casual. I would have no problem if she was sleeping with other guys. However my friend says she refers to me as her boyfriend and seems to genuinely think that.\n\nHowever when I try talking to her about maybe slowing this down, she gets upset and she doesn't seem to understand what I'm saying and thinks I don't like her. I want to continue seeing her but casually.\n\nHow can I go about doing this?", "summary": "I want to go back to casual dating, seem to accidently gotten into a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_qsyjm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors: What do you consider self-defense must-haves?", "post": "Context: I'm a woman, one who does quite a bit of walking around my city. It's not an especially high-crime kind of place, and having lived in scarier climes, there's no significant fear on my part of being assaulted. I take the typical common sense precautions of walking in well-lit, high-traffic areas, etc, etc. That said, in the past month I've been followed for over a mile by a man I passed one evening -- he said some offensive things, and it was away we go until I ducked into a restaurant where the staff knew me. There have been a couple of people since then who made comments as I was walking by, and this morning, a man stopped to ask for the time before invading my personal space close enough to kiss, then started stroking my arm. I went shouty on him -- forgetting cultural and societal gender bullshit for a moment, what makes it okay for *anyone* to get up in *any* stranger's face and then start touching them? How is that acceptable? -- and his response was 'girl, I'm sorry, you just remind me of my girlfriend', then some nasty compliments that I guess I was supposed to like.\n\nSo my point here is that I am tired of dealing with this behavior. I'll be calling my local police station today to ask them what are acceptable types of equipment I can carry (pepper spray, et al), but I also wanted to hear some opinions from others' personal experience. It's not my intent to shiv some poor schmuck and let him bleed out on the pavement, mind; I just feel like at this point, it's time to be better prepared than steel-toed boots, a fistful of keys, and a willingness to punch.\n\nAnd just to nip the inevitable in the bud: No, there has been no 'dressing like a [insert your preferred term here]', no inviting of attention. It's just been a handful of people who think it's okay to be an asshole. (Protip: It's not.)", "summary": "Dudes have been creepy bastards. I'm looking into how one can be prepared In Case Of Emergency. Would v much enjoy others' feedback."}
{"id": "t3_4kcivj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [25M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 5+ years. I feel she has zero sexual desire towards me.", "post": "My girlfriend is one of  the sweetest,  most gentle people you will ever meet, but she rarely, if ever,  initiates physical contact and it's killing me.  \n\nWe've been going out together for 5+ years.  She's a bit shy and a little geeky, but extremely genuine and caring.  However it's at the point where she will shy away from any sexual physical contact.  She'll hug me, or kiss me,  but in a reserved, almost platonic way.  \n\nIt feels like she's just putting up with it when it gets to anything remotely sexual.  Often she'll ask me to stop some physical contact (for example,  nibbling her ear,  kissing her neck, stroking her breasts etc), even though she says it feels good,  she won't give me an actual  reason as to why she doesn't want it.  \n\nWe do have sex occasionally and when it happens,  she definitely does enjoy it. But it's never in the spur of the moment, doesn't respond to foreplay, and it feels like she's never turned on \n\nI've talked to her about it, but she won't say much beyond telling me she's shy/reserved etc. I've explained how I feel many times.  We've been dating for more than 5 years and I've never really felt like she's sexually attracted to me.  \n\nI've asked her straight up if there's anyone else,  and she says there isn't.  I believe her.  She's definitely not someone who would cheat on me.  \n\nI've asked her if she's physically attracted to me,  and she says she is.\n\nI've talked to her about splitting up,  but it breaks her heart when I bring it up. She says she wants to be with me forever.", "summary": "what do I do? Long term girlfriend shows no sexual desire towards me,  but wants to stay with me."}
{"id": "t3_4c9ru0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bribing a police officer", "post": "I'm currently living in Ghana and moved here two months ago.  This happened on my very first day here. \n\nAs an American in Africa for the first time i was excited but also confused.  The national language is English but it cant be quite difficult to understand at first.  Anyways i was at the mall with a few Ghanaians who were showing me around.  I bought a pack of cigarrettes and told them i would be right back.  I stepped outside for a smoke.  Two hits into the cigarette, a man starts yelling a waving his arms at me.  I walk towards him still smoking. He says follow me and sits me down on a bench (he had a security uniform).  He grabbed my cig and told me im not allowed to smoke and that i should pay him.  I didnt think smoking was illegal so i told him no.  His friend gets up and comes back with a fully loaded police officer carrying an ak-47. He sits down with his gun in his lap pointed my way and says he is going to take me to the station. I protested.  I said i didnt know, im sorry, blah blah blah, wont happen again. He says too bad were going.  This goes on for what feels like forever. Im alone, with no phone to call anyone and no idea where im at, i really dont want to go to the station.  Finally the guy next to me nudges me and whispers \"just make this go away\". I catch his drift and offer him 40ghc (10$) to lef me go. He says one hundred.  I say 60. He doesnt budge so i end up paying 100ghc and got the fuck out.  I went back to my new friends and told them.  They were kind of pissed and said i gave them way too much and should have offered 2ghc or 5ghc.  They went up to the officer and yelled in his face. I never saw anything like.  The officer said some shit. And eventually after incoherent shouting the officer gave 40ghc back meaninh i onlu payed 60. My friends told me after to get the officers number in case i ever get into any shit so he could help.", "summary": "I bribed a cop too much..."}
{"id": "t3_5478y5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] parents [MF50s] are putting me down. Debating to cut them out of my life for a while. Help!", "post": "My parents help me pay for school. And I am grateful they also babysit my son. What I do not appreciate is when they tell me to grow up and that I do not have common sense to be a mother. I nearly cried earlier today when I heard my mom bring me down. My parents feel that I should visit them and clean amd help yet demand I commit to my motherly duties while cooking and cleaning for them. I feel like they own me since they pay for my education. I love helping but not if they are rude when it is uncalled for. I really do not live a double life (e.g. party while parenting). I only go to my college classes and straight home to care for my son after I pick him from daycare (or a sitter or my parents' house).\n\nToday was enough. Now I'm debating how to approach this. I'm a parent, college, I clean my home and cook for my 1y. Can I cut off contact with parents for a short while?", "summary": "Parents are helping me pay for school. But are acting rude in my effforts as a single mom. They babysit my son but I want to cut them out of our lives asap."}
{"id": "t3_3wg32b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [25 F] says I'm[26 M] sweet, but not romantic. She's unable to articulate the difference, I didn't realize there was a difference, and I'd like to work on this.", "post": "I like to do nice stuff for my girlfriend - bring her flowers, cook her dinner, take her out on movie or shopping dates or whatever. Anyways, we were having a discussion one day, and she mentioned that I'm not romantic. I countered by listing those things (flowers, cooking, bringing her a coffee when she's having a bad day at work, whatever), which she said was \"sweet\", but not \"romantic\". I honestly didn't realize there was a difference!\n\nI told her I'd like to be more romantic for her, but she couldn't explain to me what the difference is. Maybe one of you can help me!", "summary": "My girlfriend said I'm sweet but not romantic, but couldn't tell me what the difference was. Please help clear this up for me!"}
{"id": "t3_4l9jm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my bro-friend [23M] of a few years, keeps trying to get me to have sex with someone and never speak to them again.", "post": "I'm going to keep this short and to the point.\n\nI've been single for about 5 months now, and i've generally been getting sexually frustrated. My friend (Who is well meaning, but generally oblivious) Keeps insisting i should be making moves on girls, trying to have sex with them, then never speaking to them again. This is mostly what he did in college, and thinks there's no major problems with it.\n\nThing is, if i was to have sex with anyone, i'd 100% want to make sure that im in 1 of 2 scenarios.\n\n1. The sex is strictly for sex. No strings attached. I don't feel like leaving emotional baggage with someone who i have no emotional attraction too and just want to fuck.\n\n2. I get into a serious relationship before having sex with them, or at the very least see myself having some sort of relationship with the person beyond just having sex with them.\n\nHe wants to help me out and get me a sex life again, but his methods seem a bit aggressive for me. (It doesn't help that i'm pretty passive when it comes to this type of stuff, i'm not Anti-social, but i won't make moves if it carries some sort of risk)\n\nAnyway, he's offered to get me hooked up with friends/coworkers, but i feel like he's going to force me into a poor situation. Do i just tell him i don't think he's offering what i need right now?\n\nBeyond that, what do i do about getting myself out of this hole i'm in right now? I feel super unmotivated to get into any sort of relationship with anyone and i don't know what to do about it, but i really want a sex life. (This is sort of where the conversation stemmed from.)", "summary": "Friend keeps trying to get me laid, but through douchebag methods. Want a relationship, but feeling unmotivated to pursue anything. Don't know what to do with myself to sort out this slump im in."}
{"id": "t3_1yvfkf", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "5 inches is not enough space", "post": "Important info: So this guy at my school is a total asshole. He talks and acts like a cowboy, constantly brags about his two old shitty trucks and his job on the ranch and always hits on girls much much younger than him. I'll call him cowboy. \n\nSo today, I get to school and park in my regular spot that I have parked in everyday since September. Later on a get a text from my friend saying \" cowboy literally parked 5 inches away from your car\". My car is relatively new, so obviously I don't want it getting door dinged. So, I go outside to investigate and see that cowboy indeed had back his car in beside mine with only about 4 inches between us, 2 inches at the mirrors. \n\nI decided to get my lip chap, and write Fuck You nice and big on his windshield. The -27'C weather will make that fun for him to clean off!", "summary": "Asshole parks really close to me, so I write fuck you on his windshield in lip chap."}
{"id": "t3_ivfq3", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Can anyone give me some travel tips/help for a trip to France?", "post": "Hey everyone!\n\nMy boyfriend is going to be staying in France for school this year - and I would like to visit him at some point. I go to school as well so my only free times would be during either a Winter or Spring Break (End Of December to Mid January, and Mid March respectively)\n\nI've been looking around at plane tickets (Man, I forget how pricey the taxes make all this.) And was curious if there would be any cheaper alternatives to getting to France. (IE: Fly into another area, and ride in/fly from there to make air fare cheaper?) I don't know much about international flights or any tips to them. (I've never been on one.)\n\nSo I don't know if anyone has any tips or places I can start looking to find alternative (primarily cheaper) ways to travel in that direction.\n\nI guess if I have to go a certain way or I can't really get around the price, then that's what I'd have to do - but I figure since I'm new at this I may be missing out on something I can be doing better, so even if you have some advice/resources/tips!", "summary": "Recap"}
{"id": "t3_2wptpc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] have been with my boyfriend [33M] for about 10 months now. I have a way higher sex drive than he does and I'm not quite sure how to deal with that.", "post": "I hope I'm posting this in the right sub and am also hoping this isn't a dumb question, but I'm pretty new to relationships in general.\n\n I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. It started out long distance and we recently got together. We discovered that my sex drive is way higher than his and don't know how to deal with it. He just doesn't have the energy to even have sex 4 times a week, whereas I could go 4 times a day. I love him and don't want to leave him just for this, but I'm at a loss as for what to do.", "summary": "I need more sex. He doesn't. help!"}
{"id": "t3_2p5nn8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching Madder Red", "post": "If you don't know what Madder Red is, it's this song by Yeasayer and in the video there's like...a singing lump of cancer and it's her pet. The cancer lump is dying and coughing blood, and it makes me CRY SO MUCH.\n\nBlinded by tears, I tried to stumble to the bathroom, walked into the door frame, knocked off and stepped on my glasses, slipped on them and busted my ass.\n\nThe frames are all skewed (but not BROKE, thank jeebus), there's a big red mark on my forehead, my ass hurts and I don't know what I'm going to tell J (my SO), because I probably need professional frame repair.", "summary": "A super sad pet cancer lump breaks my heart, glasses, face and ass."}
{"id": "t3_2gbd3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with the new guy I'm dating [20M] 3 weeks - How can I keep from being clingy with a new guy?", "post": "He and I met online almost a few weeks ago, and we had our first date last week. We went out for a ride on his motorcycle, came back and watched a movie while cuddling and holding hands. We really hit it off!\nWhen we first started talking, we would usually talk for a little bit every day. We still make some sort of contact every day whether it be on snapchat or a text. I always respond to a text right when I get it, while he will sometimes take several hours to respond which could be because he's busy. I never send double texts asking why he isn't replying. When I'm seeing a new guy, I tend to focus all my attention on them for the first month, and in the past, that has scared guys away. I don't want to ruin it with this guy too.'\n\nI've heard that I need to purposely wait for him to text first so that he can feel he's chasing me, or that I need to wait several hours to reply so I don't seem clingy, but guys don't like for girls to play games. This guy is on the shy side too sometimes, and I'm not, so I don't want to scare him off.", "summary": "How can I make sure he knows I'm interested, but not come off as clingy?"}
{"id": "t3_1zs0gv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18) breaks up with me (19). Should I still be friends with her?", "post": "A few days following my birthday (a date which she barely noticed), my girlfriend broke up with me because she felt like we had more of a \"close friend\" relationship. She never seemed to show that anything was wrong for months, and all of a sudden she drops this bomb. It's annoying because I believe one of the main reasons why it is a \"friendship\" rather than a relationship is because she didn't want to do anything a bit more intimate than just snuggling and a quick kiss. And this was during the time where we were really into each other. I never acted like a pig or disrespected her. I respected her space, cared about her feelings, gave her occasional gifts, helped her, and supported her through rough times. Now, after 9 months, she decides to dump me out of nowhere without any discussion. I tried to discuss it with her and see if we could work it out or try to get a better understanding but she just responds with \"well, that's the way it is.\" After this, I was really pissed off and then the next day, she is texting me really friendly messages and almost acting like this whole thing never happened and begging that we still be friends because I apparently \"mean a lot to her.\" What should I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me abruptly and harshly. Should I still be friends with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1lpmnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24/M) at an official loss of what to do, when is it time to pull the plug? (23/F)", "post": "We have been seeing each other since February, official since July. She is still processing a lot of past relationship things which causes her to overreact when it comes to smaller things (Me forgetting specific times for hanging out, changes of plans, playing the blame game, etc). I feel like every other week we are arguing/debating/talking about how she feels.\n\nI know that she may not be ready for the type of relationship that I want, and I've brought that up, and she is too afraid to lose me rather than us taking a step back so she can work on herself. She literally feels as if us taking any sort of break would mean me leaving her forever. \n\nI feel like our maturity levels are very different, but I always feel like she is worth the wait and frustration. But that brings me to the point I have been at before, and am at now...\n\n>How long do you wait for another person to get through their personal hang ups? When does potential start **just** being potential and not progress? \n\nI am having the hardest time trying to figure it out myself, because this is the first relationship that I have earnestly, and honestly, tried at so I don't know if I'm grasping sand or not trying hard enough. I don't want to hurt her, but I feel as if I'm slowly losing my sanity.", "summary": "GF(23) has personal and past relationship issues she is still struggling to get over. I care about her deeply, but don't know how long I can keep waiting on her. It breaks my heart to say that, but there is nothing I can do/say to change her mind and I feel like I am reaching my brink "}
{"id": "t3_11bnak", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How Do I Ask a Girl That I Like That is in a Different \"Group\"?", "post": "Hi!  I am in high school and I the school is a very group defined high school.  There are so many groups and I am in the weird one with the very eccentric people.  Some other examples are the jock group and the group that just rules over everyone else.  Everyone in it is a jerk and they think that they are so much better than everyone else.  Well....... I happen to like a girl that is somewhat associated with that group.  She is like about half way between in and out.  But the people in that group (mostly the males) are somewhat attracted to her (she is quite attractive, I don't blame them).  I think that in the back of their minds they would like to date her in one way or another.  They have a great chance of getting with her and in fact, one of them has already done it, but that was a while ago.  I, on the other hand, do not have a very good chance with a girl like that associated with people like that.  They trample all over me, and just because I listen to weird music or am interested in drugs, doesn't mean that they are better than me.  I really want to make a relationship happen with this girl, but I really do not know how to approach her.  She would not appreciate some of my humor or choices that I make and I think that I am too weird for her, yet I am really attracted to her.  I hate the people in the group that she is in and I do not want to deal with them if it means I get to date her.  They would think that it was the weirdest thing ever to see me and her together as a couple.  I am the socially anxious jerk that doesn't like to talk to anyone while she is the social butterfly that everyone likes, including me.  I just need some advice on how to approach her and how to deal with all of the jerks involved with her.", "summary": "There is a girl that I like.  She is somewhat associated with a group that I really loathe.  I have no idea on how to approach her without dealing with those kinds of people.  I think that I am too weird for her and that people would find it really strange if we dated."}
{"id": "t3_52suuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F 19] college roommate [F 19] is making me very uncomfortable in our room", "post": "My roommate and I just moved in to school about a month ago and we got along great. One night after drinking I was complaining that my feet hurt so she offered a foot massage which I gladly accepted. Since then, she's been offering them A LOT and repeatedly makes comments about my feet. I let her rub my feet when she asks because if I say no, she insists like crazy until I just give in.\nThen the other night, we came back from a party where we drank way too much and I swear I woke up in the middle of the night to her with my feet in her mouth. I barely remember it but it was still so weird.\n\nWhat do I even do? Do I tell someone she's been bothering me? Or do I tell her?", "summary": "Roommate keeps touching my feet and I want her to stop."}
{"id": "t3_1hblus", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to ask out a girl (17) in europe.", "post": "Hi I'm an 18-year old male and I like this girl. I live in the Netherlands, and there isn't really much of a dating culture here like there is in America, I don't know of many people my age 'dating.'\n\nWell anyways, I met this girl at a party and we had a few small conversations at school after that. Summer holiday is coming close and I don't think I'll see her again before that, I don't have her number but I do have her on Facebook.\n\nAre there any people also from Europe who can give some tips on how to 'ask her out?' She seems very interesting and I want to get to know her better without coming off as a creep. Also what should we then do? I'm not sure what coffeeshops are because here in the Netherlands that means something completely different and isn't the ideal first date location I imagine :p\n\nSo yeah,", "summary": "I want to get to know this girl more but I'm not sure how to meet up with here"}
{"id": "t3_50bwja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband [27m] complains constantly about everything. I [25f] can't take it anymore.", "post": "My husband of four years just started a new job a few weeks ago that looked like his dream job while he was interviewing, but turned out to not be so great. From the first hour of day 1, he's complained constantly about it. I've tried to be positive, tried to encourage focusing on the good, tried straight up telling him to stop. Nothing helps.\n\nThe thing is, he complains about everything. He complained about his old job the whole time he was there, he complains about our son [1m], he complains about anything and everything - at home, in public, to people's faces, whatever. I can't handle it anymore. Most of the time, he seems to only communicate in complaints. I also really don't want our son to grow up learning to complain so much. My FIL complains quite a bit as well, though not quite as much. When I bring it up (usually nicely), he freaks out and gets mad at me for attacking him, and throws it back on me for complaining about his complaints. He seems to expect me to be constantly positive in order to be allowed to all for a little positivity from him. I don't want him to never complain, but his constant negativity is so draining. \n\nI get that he's stressed with the new job, and he doesn't know anyone, and it's not what he expected, but I highly doubt the complaining would be any less if it had been what he expected.\nI really don't want to divorce over this, but I'm so frustrated. How do I help him be more positive?", "summary": "husband complains constantly, I hate it, how do I help it stop?"}
{"id": "t3_3ou4cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy I [19/f] have been dating [21/m] has other relationships \u2013 online.", "post": "I have been dating this guy for only a month. He is lovely, sensitive, shy etc. But he has some issues with women I think. He was in love with someone a while ago and she really broke his heart. He's never gotten over her I don't think. And I think it makes him really anxious around girls, around me at least. His hands are always shaking when we are on a date.\n\nAnyway. So one day I googled his name. I dunno I was bored. And I found his blog, it was the first link. And he is active on it and.. is kind of in these relationships with girls online. Most of them he just likes their pics and stuff. \n\nBut one of them he is like in some sort of online relationship with? Not a committed thing but they send each other these long public messages, they act like they are best friends but also sexy stuff. But she lives on the other side of the world and in one post she says something which shows they have never met in person. \n\nI don't really know what to do here. Like it seems weird to tell him he has stop contacting this girl and all these other girls on his blog or whatever cos that's online? I mean it's not real, is it? Like I didn't really feel threatened by these \"relationships\" because I am real and in his life and he is crazy about me. \n\nBut then my friend said I should tell him to stop contacting them because it's cheating. There's no evidence he's contacted the main girl since he's been dating me, though. But then I thought maybe I should say something about the whole history and how it makes me uncomfortable.\n\nBut then I got scared because I mean technically he has \"dated\" this girl a lot longer than he's known me, so maybe he feels more committed to her! I am kind of scared he is in love with this online girl. I dunno it's all so weird! Should I talk to him about it?", "summary": "guy I'm seeing has an online girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_4t8v0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] have been dating my gf [17 F] for 3 years, and I don't know if I should be happy with it", "post": "DISCLAIMER- I'll try to explain it best I can, I suck at explaining things.\n\nI have been dating my current gf from my freshman year of HS, and moving into my senior year I feel like this relationship is keeping me from growing as a person in a way. I don't have any experience with other girls, and have always been restricted when it comes to social interaction with girls because of my GF. \n\nI feel like as a 17 y/o male, I should be free to do what I want, and not feel like I am in a constricted relationship. I believe it is having negative effects on me, and I think later on in life I will regret not being freer during my best years/early adulthood.\n\nDespite this, I am happy with my girlfriend, I just don't know if I could be happier. Or how happy I should/could be. Idealistically I want an open relationship, but my gf isn't down for that, as expected. \n\nI talked to her about this yesterday, and she was pretty mad about what I was saying, understandably. I just don't know what to do, break up with her and live freer, or stick it through because I have something most people would love to have. I constantly feel urges to cheat, and have cheated, and who knows about the future. But I don't want to leave her.\n\nI hope that makes sense. I basically just need to know if how I feel is justified, or if it's hormones or something. I'm maturing and feeling this way is really fucking with me.", "summary": "Feel like I should break up with gf of 3 years to mature/experience more with life and other girls while I'm still young, DESPITE being happy with this girl. Stay with her or leave?"}
{"id": "t3_4d9nv1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing a prank on April fools", "post": "this is my first reddit post, and as you can tell from the title, it didn't happen today. Anyways, so every Friday at my school there is club practice for badminton, and this Friday just so happen to be April fools. so i planned to prank my friend by adding salt in her water bottle and wait to see her reaction when she gets thirsty. I learn from my other friend that she is i the locker room changing, so I sneak into the gym and poured two packets of salt into her water bottle and casually walked away. And this is where the fuck up happens, it turns out that she has her water bottle with her and the water bottle with the salt added belongs to this random girl in the club. When i noticed, it had been too late, i became friends with this girl as well, and she said the water literally tasted like sweat.", "summary": "tried to prank friend by putting salt in her water bottle, but got the wrong water bottle and pranked a stranger by accident."}
{"id": "t3_ng951", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have been seeing and old friend's sister for a while. He doesn't know, Am I handling this right.", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nNever quite been in an askreddit situation until now but I think this is a good time to start. I'm 25 years old and I have been seeing a high school friend's, Let's call him Jack, 20 year old sister,call her Jill, for over a year now. Jill and I haven't really hidden it from anyone around us but somehow I am almost positive he has no idea about us. Everyone is worried to tell him because he's very protective. We've never really hung out around him specifically because we were concerned by his possible reaction.\n\nI was fairly close friends with Jack in high school but since then other than a few random parties or something we haven't really spoken very much. He brought Jill to a party well over a year ago and we hit it off. We have so much in common it's scary and she's everything I would look for in a long-term relationship except the brother approval snag.\n\nTonight I was rolling(used ecstasy) for the first time and it caused me to kind of sit and evaluate relationships with people around me. I am generally an introverted person and very caged with emotion, despite feeling very strongly. I realized how I really feel about this relationship and came to the conclusion I needed to tell him. \n\nWe maintain several mutual friends that we are both close with so I am trying to be tactful. I sent him a text message a few minutes ago and was looking for feedback if I am handling this right. Also, anything you guys think I should talk about him with when he gets in touch with me?\n\nText: Hey Jack, It's mks7800. I know we haven't spoken in a long time but I think we are overdue to talk about a few things. Let me know when you're free on Aim/Facebook/Phone/out for a drink and I'll let you know about a few things.\n\nI appreciate if anyone reads this. Any advice on this somewhat sticky situation is very much appreciated.\n\n-mks7800", "summary": "I have been seeing my old friend's sister and it seems he's the only one that has no idea, He deserves to know."}
{"id": "t3_3izc5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (20m) shaved his beard and I'm (19f) having trouble being attracted to him?", "post": "I know this sounds extremely shallow of me but I can't get over it. All I've known him with for our relationship is having a beard. Not a super big one or anything but it's always been there. \n\nHe shaved it all off today for a job, and he looks like he's 16. He's just simply not very attractive without it. I hate how it looks. And it's not like he can just grow it back, because this job doesn't allow facial hair so he can't grow it back until he gets a new job and that might be a very long time. \n\nHas anyone else had this experience? I love him and I'll continue to but I don't always want to not find him attractive. If anyone has any advice, it would help. And to those who are just going to call me a shallow prick, please, don't. I'm sure you've had moments like these where a change in your SO's appearance has disappointed you.", "summary": "boyfriend shaved his beard for a job and he's not really attractive to me anymore. I want to get past this because he'll probably be beardless for a while."}
{"id": "t3_13bytg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been lost as a child, or lost a child? If so, what is the story?", "post": "I got lost twice. Once when I was about 4 at the county fair where I wanted to walk through the western swinging doors at a restaurant a second time. I waited for my family to walk out, then I walked back in and walked out again where my family was no where to be found. My family didn't notice I was missing because I am the second youngest out of 6 children and we were rushing to a show. I decided to sit down thinking they would come back but didn't. Two cops found me sitting there, one put me on their shoulders and we walked around till we found them. About 20 minutes later we found my panicked family and missed the show and went home.\n\nThe second time I was 7 and we were in Nevada at a hotel on vacation with my whole family, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. We were walking through the casino so that we could go to our favorite restaurant about 45 minutes away. I stopped to tie my shoe, and as I looked up, my family was gone. I raced around and couldn't find them anywhere. A man cleaning asked if I was lost and I told him yes. He took me to the police station in the hotel and my parents were paged over and over again, but no one came. About an hour later, The hotel received a call asking if they had seen me and they assured them I was safe with the police. Apparently my family had gone down an escalator that I missed and had made it all the way to the restaurant, had ordered, and not until the appetizers came, my grandma asked where I was and everyone looked around in panic. My uncle and dad picked me up, and we went to the restaurant to finish dinner. After the second time I got lost, my parents considered a leash.", "summary": "Got lost at county fair at age 4, and also got left at a hotel at age 7"}
{"id": "t3_4yx902", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [27F] send my estranged father [59M] an email to wish him happy birthday?", "post": "I haven't seen my dad in about four years, and in the years before that contact with him gradually tapered off to nothing.\n\nAround about the time I left home I saw him less and less (he works away which contributed to this). He would say he was too busy to visit and would only come when persuaded by my mum.\n\nI got into the habit of trying to be \"the best daughter I could be\" in the hope that he'd want to see me the next time. It was obvious though that he didn't want to and I didn't push it. My mum and dad seperated, and got divorced last year. In court, my dad ignored me which I found upsetting.\n\nI think about him every day and I wonder why he doesn't want to see me or my daughter who he only saw a handful of times. I'm not sure where he lives but I have an email address, I've often thought about making contact. It's his 60th birthday this year and I thought it might be a good beginning point.\n\nAny thoughts and advice appreciated, thanks.", "summary": "Haven't seen my dad in years, should I contact him?"}
{"id": "t3_3s29fe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend (26M)and I can't decide where to spend the holidays. Thoughts?", "post": "My boyfriend and I were in a LDR. This is the first holiday season we've had since living together. I want to spend the holidays with my family. He wants to spend them with his. The problem is, he wants to spend both holidays with his family to avoid them getting upset. I believe we should be able to spend both with my family because we never see them. \n\nInviting one family to go see another was already tried. It didn't work. \n\n-I have three much younger siblings (1, 4, 9). My boyfriend is the youngest. \n\n-We live in a house on the same property as his family. My family lives almost two hours away. \n\n-I only see my extended family a few times a year. They will be at both holidays. My boyfriend's extended family will not. It's just his parents and brother who lives in the same house as us. \n\n-His mother picks fights with me all the time and bullies me. My boyfriend always complains saying he wished his family was as welcoming as mine. \n\n-This could be the last holiday season I spend with my great-grandmother. \n\nHe looks at it as... \n\n-His parents only have him and his brother. \n\n-His parents only have about another 10 years to go. \n\n-He's spent every holiday for the last 26 years with them. He doesn't want to break tradition. \n\nHe did say he's open to splitting the holidays, but he'd want to do Christmas here with his family. I sincerely believe Christmas should be spent with mine for the sake of my siblings?", "summary": "Not sure where to spend holidays. Just read my bullet points. "}
{"id": "t3_4afhwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 MF] with my Girlfriend [21 M/F] 1.5 years: cheated on me with my best friend but im not mad?", "post": "Me and my ex wronged each other alot, I did things, then she got with my bestfriend.. yet I still feel some sort of loyalty to her.. even though she hates me. I don't mean romantically, just in general. I'd never want anything bad to happen to her or anything like that.. in the end I just want her to be happy. From everything I've seen I should hate her but I seriously can't bring myself to.. I seriously don't understand these feelings. I've accepted that I will never kiss hug or even see her again but they still linger..", "summary": "ex cheated on me with best friend, why dont i hate her?"}
{"id": "t3_2sfrun", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I struggled at my university due to mental health issues and was dismissed. I want to start over. Advice?", "post": "I started at my university in September of the last academic year. I was headstrong and went in with 90 credits, or an AA degree I received through Washington State's Running Start Program (free college education in high school). So I loaded up on classes my first quarter, and the following quarters, all while working a full time job. This here was my mistake I now, and realized my second quarter in but I had no choice but to work. \n\nThat second quarter I started developing insomnia due to previous drug habits (\"just\" weed...) and depression as well, and battled with this, a full time job, and full time school. I just went downhill from here. GPA dropped, and I got put onto academic probation for two quarters and finally this fall I was dismissed... \n\nI sit here now with a plan to hike the Pacific Crest Trail, a life changing experience hopefully, and start anew at another college. I am working 60 hours a week to save money, and have began to deal with all of the problems that I pushed aside for too long. I no longer smoke weed, have begun to exercise more again, and also have begun to see a psychologist.\n\nBut the big question now is what do I do next? I have my hopeful college already picked out (Humbolt State University if anyone is wondering), but how can I \"start over\" credit wist, and is it difficult to do. I have almost 150 credits currently including my AA but my GPA is terrible, and will probably get me nowhere. The obvious first step is to enroll in a community college but how will other colleges view my credits? I have so many more questions but I will save them for later", "summary": "I was dismissed from my university as a I battled with depression, full time jobs, and full time school and I want to start over. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3oxshb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23F] does nude modeling and I [22M] can't decide how I feel about it", "post": "This is a fairly new relationship, we've been together about a month. She had shared some of her photographs with me prior to dating (clothed but seductive natured) and now that we're together she has shared with me more of her photographer's portfolio with nude pictures and some sexual FF photos, but was sure to specify that there is no porn involved.\n I cannot decide how I feel about my serious girlfriend taking off her clothes for others to see (call it In The Name Of Art or whatever, I don't know shit about modeling). I'll never be the type to tell anyone to stop doing what makes them happy, and she seems to really enjoy what she does. Some of said pictures featuring her are displayed publicly on the photographers site as well. I'm pretty open minded, but maybe I'm too territorial or insecure over this?", "summary": "it's easy to find my pictures of my girlfriend on the internet. Do I accept this and learn to love what she does as much as she does?"}
{"id": "t3_x1psq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I unreasonable?", "post": "My boyfriend and I (I am 17 and he's 20, we've been dating for about a year and a half) were hanging out and he had plans to hang out with a friend of his (who is a girl, 19) later and he wanted to hang out with me before and after he hung out with her. He's taken me to hang out with his friends before but today he specifically said he didn't want me there and that he wants to hang out with her alone.\n\n is it unreasonable for me to be \nmad at this? I'm not saying he should never hang out with his friends without me around, girl or guy, I just don't think he should go out of his and my way to make sure I'm not there. he left me at hastings and I'm waiting for them to be done hanging out right now.", "summary": "My boyfriend left me at a bookstore for an hour to go hang out with his friend (F) for an hour so he can hang out with me before and after but doesn't want me there. Should I be mad at this?"}
{"id": "t3_1m3ymu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I need to end my relationship to move forward in my life.", "post": "I'm an 18 yo. guy and she's an 18 yo. girl and we've been together for about 5 months now and things have been going perfectly. Never any fights things were going well together etc. But...I feel as though she is holding me back. She smokes a lot of pot and because of this I have been too. I have been missing opportunities to hang out with college friends and haven't been putting all the time I should be into homework. I just feel like I'm missing out on life. Like I need to get outta there bruh. Like I need to go talk to other girls and reconnect with all my friends and stop getting stoned with this girl 24/7. She really likes me though and would be crushed if it was over and also she has a ton of stuff of mine at her house and vice versa and I'm just not sure how to go about any of this. This is my first serious relationship and I feel like I need to end it soon. I was wondering if anyone could help me out with some advice.", "summary": "think girlfriend is no good for me anymore. Not sure what choice to make and how to go about it if I decide to end things."}
{"id": "t3_3ubj3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help, Me [27 M/] falling for my friend [23 F] friend of 2 months. She's already taken.", "post": "I moved to china to study at the start of September. A month in I meet this pretty girl great english and great personality. We click really well and hang out a lot going to eat together etc. So I start to like her a lot and want to get with her then one day she mentions a boyfriend who is at a nearby university. I told her that I liked her and that's why I had hanged out with her so much. We talk and accept her request that we are just good friends.\n\nThing is it isn't so easy. I been trying to see other girls but never seem to click like I did with her and always end up comparing. I need some advice on how to get rid of the attraction to her.", "summary": "how do I stop liking my unavailable friend? "}
{"id": "t3_1ntpjg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Hi, me again! I am wondering how best to make myself a better person?", "post": "A bit about me!\n\nI have Intermittent Explosive Disorder (google it if you wish), Manic Depression, Paranoid Schizophrenia and a few heavily sadistic tendencies.....\n\nIt makes it hard to hold down a relationship because even the smallest thing, for example, someone telling me I am too drunk (after only one or two weak drinks, they usually pass it off as \"oh you're just smashed, get over yourself\") horrible example I know.... But it is the best I can think of right now.\n\nI have chronic insomnia so I don't sleep very much, when I do it is usually in the middle hours of the morning, which causes me to be a bit snarky when I wake up, sadly nothing I've tried has helped with this except alcohol, which fuels my IED and manic depression, so it's a vicious cycle.\n\nI have a fair few other diagnosed problems but they don't hassle me very much during day to day life, if you could offer a life choice or something that would be great!\n\nI'm a gamer/budding artist/aspiring author, so I don't get out much, as I have no friends to go hang out with and I live on a farm 30km away from anyone I could talk to......\n\nI'm a bit chubby because I drink too many fluids and don't exercise enough, as I don't usually wake up till about lunch time and then have to do a bunch of stuff that gets in the way of wanting to work out, as does not having the drive to do it, I have never been pushed to do anything but further my intellectuality in life, which is finally showing it's head and stopping me from doing anything other than that.\n\nI am a really hairy guy and it fuels my social anxiety as I feel like everyone judges me when they see my chest hair poking out of my shirt as I am only 18. This problem causes me to sweat more than most people and I have a very high natural body temperature, to the point I can't sleep with more than boxers on because it causes me to sweat profusely in my sleep.", "summary": "I'm basically chewbacca and want to build my confidence and make myself more approachable."}
{"id": "t3_52fnbo", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Univerrsity is not challenging, help!", "post": "I'll start by giving some background information; I'm a 22 year old guy, who went to a game art school where I eventually got the opportunity to work for a big game studio as my internship, but after I graduated they didn't hire me.\n\n Here's me thinking that to pursue concept art further I should try to look at design from a different angle. I proceeded to go to a product design university, but it turns out to be very easy. I really like a challenge. \n\nall we've done the past few weeks is stick some cut up pieces of cardboard onto each other and call it a project. This is sucking the life out of me, and to be honest I wish I never made this decision. I'd like to pursue concept art further but I'm unsure if I should try something different, or just start freelancing and following web lessons.\n\nAlternatively I could try to live through a year, and then do something else, but in that situation I need incentive to keep doing something that bores me deeply. I'll add that I'll have to pay for this year regardless, and I can't switch right now, because everything has already started. Please help.", "summary": "My new school is so easy that I feel depressed, should I try something different, or start working?"}
{"id": "t3_3d9xnr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my wallet at my brother", "post": "So this is my first real post on Reddit after almost two years of lurking, and it just so happens that this fuck-up actually happened today, about 20 minutes ago, here we goooooooooooo!\n\nSo i was throwing random shit at my brother, cause why not? He's a little shit sometimes and deserves to have shit thrown at him. So first time I threw a pizza cutter cover at him, and like used the momentum to propel it off of the actual cutter, I missed and the fucker threw it back at me, this meant war.\n\nNext i had a more devious plan, I took the cutter and cut the pizza that was lunch, then I said \"Get up here your pizza is ready\"\n\nThe little shit gets up from his seat, I whip out my wallet and get ready to throw, when he looks up from his phone I throw it, aiming for his body.\n\nThis would have all been fine had I actually aimed where I wanted to, instead my arm went further up and in the split second I could see my wallet arc towards the mantle above the fireplace, I knew shit was about to get REAL.\n\nThat thing flew, fast, surprisingly fast. It hit a framed picture (of me ironically enough,) and that thing just fell like a rock. It hit the fireplace and the glass part in front of the picture shattered, and it got glass all over the fucking place. \n\nI cleaned up the mess but I'm still trying to make sure no glass is just around for my dog to eat and cut his intestines open with, nobody wants that shit and i know that he'll fucking do it too. \n\nI just got off the phone with my mom explaining the situation, she laughed at me and called me a dumbass, good thing i have nonchalant parents, although I'm fairly certain my dad would have been less cool with it than my mom. What a time to be alive.", "summary": "Wallet thrown at shithead brother, hit and shattered the glass part of a picture frame instead, I am dumbass confirmed"}
{"id": "t3_1k6gz6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking grapefruit juice", "post": "I was sitting at my desk earlier this afternoon, redditing away, with a nice, tall glass of grapefruit juice on the little pullout-table thing that my desk has. It was sitting on my right side. \n\nNow, for this to make sense, you need to know that my room is pretty small, and when I am sitting at my desk, my back is usually against the edge of my bed. A couple feet to my right, also against the edge of my bed on the floor, is my netbook.\n\nNow, I am sure that you can all see where this is going by now, but as I absentmindedly reached for my glass of juice without looking at it (hey, it was an interesting post, ok?) I instead knocked it over with my wrist, and it spilled all over my floor, and my netbook. \n\nI quickly realized what had happened and picked up the glass, but the damage was done. I picked up the netbook and immediately wiped off the bottom (it was sitting with the bottom up for whatever reason), set it aside, and cleaned up the rest of the spill. \n\nAfter that was done, I looked up a youtube video on how to tear down the netbook and did so, wiping what I could and blowing off the rest with canned air. Once I was sure it was dry, I screwed it all back together, and in a very stressful moment, turned it on. Luckily, it works fine again, no harm done.", "summary": "Knocked over grapefruit juice onto netbook, had to completely tear it down and dry it, works fine now."}
{"id": "t3_2yp2o9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pocket dialing the police", "post": "So as I was making my way to school this morning I received a call from an unknown number. I hesitantly answered my phone as I don't like taking calls from people who withhold their number. A woman started to talk to me, telling me that I had phoned the police and asked if everything was alright, to which I replied yes and that I may have pocket dialed them. The person then proceeded to ask for my postcode, which I believed to be a bit of a strange thing to ask for. Thinking it may have been as scam I replied with ''I don't see why that is necessary''. She then began to insist that she had to take it, which is when I promptly hung up as I believed that it was definitely a scam to get me to give out personal details. \n\nI thought nothing of this as I continued on with my day and traveled to school. When I was on my phone around 2 hours later, I looked in horror at my call log as I saw that I had in fact made an outgoing call to 999 (the UK emergency service number to any who may not know). So I had refused to give information and had hung up on someone from the police. Now I am concerned at what is going to happen to me and if the police will pursue this any further. Honestly I still have no idea why they would need my postcode, would also be grateful if anyone could give me any insight on that.", "summary": "Accidentally phoned the 999 they called back, didn't believe it was them and hung up, now worried"}
{"id": "t3_34gsiy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blindly reaching for my drink.", "post": "I have had a cold for the last couple of days, and I found a bottle of that spray numbing agent that I got back when I had strep throat, the spray nozzle of the bottle was all clogged and crusty, so I opened the lid and made sure I only took a small sip.\nSo here's where the fuck up comes in reddit. a few hours later I was sitting at my computer desk watching some netflix, and I blindly reach below me for my bottle of Gatorade, lift it to my lips, and take a large swig.\nYou've probably guessed by now that what I took a swig of was not my Gatorade, but instead the numbing agent.\nMy throat now feels like there's blood running down the sides of it and I cannot get the shitty taste of Mint Berry out of my mouth.", "summary": "took a gulp of numbing agent instead of Gatorade, RIP throat"}
{"id": "t3_o0p9r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just poured a beer into a glass, and as I did, it turned into beer slush. What the fuck just happened?", "post": "Context: I wanted to drink a nice cool beer, but I noticed that my all my alcohol was sitting in the middle of the living room. Naturally, I wanted to quickly chill my beer (for immediate consumption) so I threw a couple bottles in the freezer, and a couple more in the fridge. Well, I managed to forget about the two freezer bottles for a while, but when I took them out, they were thankfully unfrozen. I mean, these beers were confirmed for liquid tier. Anywho, I crack open one bottle, and as I pour it into my glass (and it poured just like any other beer would; it was not frozen in any sense of the word), it began to pile onto itself, and slowly turned into a beer slurpee. It had the exact texture of any slushy I've consumed previously. Can anyone explain what happened?", "summary": "I just watched as liquid beer was morph-poured into some sort of beer slushy; lol wut?"}
{"id": "t3_2pf10b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BF [23M] 1.5 yrs - how can I be the best GF I can be?", "post": "My boyfriend Lucas (23M) and I (24F) have been together for about a year and a half. Before that, we were good friends.\n\nFor years, Lucas has struggled with depression. He has dreams for the future, but often doubts himself and his ability to accomplish these goals. \n\nAt the start of our relationship, I had no doubts about our ability to help each other along, as we did when we were friends. Lucas made a lot of positive changes in the first few months of dating. In turn, he helped me through my own problems and always had a sympathetic ear. \n\nNowadays, I'm concerned that he is not getting the same encouragement out of our relationship that I do. I have tried time and again to give support, to ask him how he wants support, only to be asked to be patient and to not blame myself. It distresses me to think that there's only so much I can do to help. \n\nAnother worry is that his uncertain timeline will hamper our relationship \u2013 or (more importantly) vice versa. He balks at conversations about the future, citing a very understandable need to get his own affairs in order before he makes a big commitment to someone else. I respect his wish, but, deep down, I know I'm a little hurt by it. \n\nI just want to hear him say that he *someday* hopes to make these types of commitments \u2013 that's exactly the sort of assurance I'd need to continue supporting him in this relationship and feel like I'm making the right choice. Without that assurance, I just feel like white noise, distracting him and adding to his list of stressors. \n\nLately, I've been thinking of asking him to take the next six months to really make an earnest effort to take control of his life and change the things that are unsatisfactory to him. He has taken some steps in this direction recently, so I have some reason to hope this is doable. But I also worry something that sounds so much like an ultimatum will just add to his list of stressors.", "summary": "How can I best help Lucas and his struggle with depression? He is so important to me and I want him to feel like he is my equal in this relationship, deserving of the same attention and care he gives to me. Is it better to stay the course, to issue some sort of request for improvement, or \u2013 worst-case scenario \u2013 step away and allow him the space he might need to succeed?"}
{"id": "t3_22b28y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] needing to vent about this breakup", "post": "To the girl who has already moved on,\n\nremember how I said, that \n\nthe happy memories we had will be worth this pain,\n\nthat whatever happens happens,\n\nthat we could never last...\n\nand this was what we planned. \n\nBut now that you left me girl,\n\nwith a lie that you were not in love with me\n\nanymore,\n\nI'm the only one who wanted to change that plan.\n\nNow I've been sitting still for days listening to nothing\n\nbut 60's love jazz... imagining us dancing together,\n\nin that birthday dress you wore when we met, \n\nand doing nothing else because nothing else\n\nbrings me joy at the moment.\n\nIt will past, you'll be fine. \n\nYou say. They say. Even I say.\n\nBut that fact doesn't do much to ease these dreams\n\nabout you, or this constant ache in my heart.\n\nSuch a fool I had been for not treating you right, \n\nsuch a fool I am. \n\nWriting is so hard to do now... whenever I put\n\npen to paper I'm dwelling on you...\n\nthe girl who has already moved on.", "summary": "day two of breakup, this is just everything else I wanted to say to her."}
{"id": "t3_25c5s5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/F] almost cheated and don't know what to do (LDR)", "post": "I'm a 24 year old girl in a committed long distance relationship of a year and a half. My boyfriend is on the other side of the country, but will be moving to be close to me in a few months. Last night, I got super drunk at a campus event and ended up walking back with a guy friend. He was drunk too, and came inside and we were just hanging out and watching TV. I don't really remember most of what happened because I was super drunk, but I think we almost started making out. He stopped and asked if I still was dating my boyfriend.. and I am, so luckily we stopped. Nothing really happened besides a lot of cuddling and flirting, but I feel like I had completely no idea what I was doing and if he hadn't said anything, I'm worried we might have hooked up.  HELP... the question is, should I tell my boyfriend? I don't have a lot of friends out at school here, and this is one of my only guy friends, so I don't want him to hate him forever. There's also a chance this would cause irreparable damage in my relationship. Did I cheat? Do I tell him? SOS Reddit", "summary": "I'm in a long distance relationship, got super drunk, and almost hooked up with a friend. Do I tell?"}
{"id": "t3_4erwby", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [23F] BF [28M] is responding to silent treatment with more silent treatment", "post": "I'm bad about using the silent treatment. It's not that I'm trying to \"punish\", I just really have no idea how to communicate what's bothering me and don't feel comfortable expressing it. \n\nMy boyfriend usually just goes on about things as normal and eventually I get over it or talk about it. This time, however, he's responding with the silent treatment as well. Now I feel even more uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to break us out of this, it's been 4 days now. We live together and are sharing a car at the moment so it's really awkward to not communicate. Id try just opening up dialogue but I really have no idea how to express to him why I'm hurt, so it'd be pointless. Any advice before we just silently split apart?", "summary": "We're both being silent to one another, I have no idea how to break the silence. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2fvbps", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I[17/M] broke up with my gf[16/F], and I regret it and want to be back with her.", "post": "So I broke up with her because, at the time, I felt like I didn't really value our relationship since we hadn't spent that much time together recently, and we have already taken a one week break from each other during which I didn't miss her.\n\n When I broke up with her a week ago, I left the option on the table for us to get back together after volleyball season is over in a month, and she said maybe to that. But to be honest, I'm not sure if I can wait that long to ask her back out. What should I do?", "summary": "I broke up with my gf and now I want to be with her again, but I don't know how to go about it. Help, please."}
{"id": "t3_14ps9t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So sorry, far away girl.", "post": "Well let me begin by saying that I know she won't read this, but I hope that in saying it to a few thousand strangers on the internet will help with the guilt. About 3 or 4 years ago I met a girl through through Myspace. She lived roughly a thousand miles away, but we were both interested in a band and that's how we found one another. Anyway we started talking online and became friends and soon exchanged phone numbers. We would text quite a bit and became really close and eventually we became a \"couple\" I guess you could say. Now here's where I start to feel really shitty. I never told anyone about her because I felt a bit lame for having a long distance girlfriend whom I'd never met. My social life started to improve and I started to text my \"girlfriend\" less and less because, well, I had real-live girls that were starting to show interest in me. I completely cut off this girl. Told her my phone was broken, told her I needed breaks from the computer and that's why I wasn't responding, I shut her out completely. I was a 16 year old boy who figured that I could just cut her out of my life and since nothing bad happened to me I didn't care. I wouldn't respond to her texts or answer any of her phone calls, I just moved on with my life like it had never happened. Now I feel so badly about the whole thing. I have no way that I could contact her, and she sure as shit wouldn't want me to, but I want to apologize for stringing her along and for not being a big enough person to end it properly. I wish she could've met me a few years later, I wish she could have known a better me. \n\nAs a perfect punishment from the universe I've now been left and cut off by a girlfriend that I loved very dearly and I finally understand the impact of my actions. Feeling this way sucks big reindeer dicks, and if my 16 year old idiot brain had known what my 20 year old idiot brain knows now I would have never done it. Sorry kb.", "summary": "I was a shithead."}
{"id": "t3_xukbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend gets blowjob everyday and plenty of sex...but..", "post": "Throwaway account here.\nBackground: F24. M25. together for a year.\n\nAlright, here is the story, my boyfriend and I are givers, there is no shortage of orgasms in this house. He gets blown everyday, and mostly twice a day, and sex a minimum of 4 times a week. Here is my issue. I get home from work today and open the computer and what do i see... porn.. but, this porn is women masturbating with vibrators and dildos.. Now.. usually this wouldn't be a big deal, though i must admit that i thought i did more than enough i understand that him jerking off has nothing to do with me, thats not my problem. My problem resides in the fact that he always comes out with these phrases \"Women... with those toys, who needs men\", always making me feel like if i owned one of these it would make him feel useless and less of man.\n\n I find it highly hypocritical that he jerks off to the same thing that he tells me frustrates him. Oh.. did i say that i found this porn on my work computer at home? i don't even know where to begin with that one, thats a seperate issue. I find myself very frustrated at the moment, am i crazy? How do i even bring this up? should i just leave the porn page on so when he opens the computer its right there and he has to address it? he comes home in a few hours.. any advice would be helpful...", "summary": "! My boyfriend jerks off to what he tells me he hates"}
{"id": "t3_4ig4bi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mother's Day today, and I [30F] don't know how to feel about it or acknowledge it with my Mother [58F]", "post": "I am 99% sure that my mother has some sort of personality/ psychological disorder, but is not officially diagnosed, because she believes it's all just hocus pocus. I know this because of the years of abuse and her not acknowledging it, denying it, and her altered memories of what she has said and done to me.\n\nHer abuse (Mostly psychological and emotional) towards me was gone unnoticed (and still not acknowledged by my father who is an enabler), because it was easily masked as her \"loving me too much\". Let's just say, I had to be a certain way for her to love - and anything other than that image has been a \"sacrifice\" for her to adjust to. I was manipulated into being a certain way, and when I fought back and I was known as a \"rebellious person\".\n\nSo basically, for the past year I haven't talked to my mum properly after a fight. I still talk just to keep her off my back and to prevent a meltdown from her (request from Enabler father). She denied the abuse when she was forced to confront (some) of it, and \"apologised\" for me misunderstanding and remembering things wrong.\n \n\nThis Mother's day, I have a mother, but I feel betrayed by her and don't feel close to her.  I remember the good things and the loving times we had and it makes me cry today. I know that if she feels she still can manipulate me, she would be sending me hints about how she sees everyones' Mother's tributes on FB and how lucky those Mothers' are. \n\nI imagine the relationship we could have had, or I imagined we had when I was justifying the emotional abuse. I keep seeing all of my friends sharing pictures and memories of their mum, and it makes me feel sick and angry inside. Or maybe I'm feeling guilty? I don't know what I'm feeling...\n\nI'm mourning a relationship with my mother, that I'm not sure I ever had, because I can't trust the good times, or trust that she ever loved who I was.", "summary": "I'm mourning a relationship with my mother. Eventhough she is still alive, I have a very superficial relationship with her and I don't trust anything she feels towards me because of our past. Feeling sad because it's Mother's Day."}
{"id": "t3_4sx5sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She (24F) has been leading me for 2 months, should I (25M) confront her?", "post": "Broke up with her, she begged me back, I took her back. after a few weeks she said she needed \"space\". I'm thinking she needs time to heal. turns out shes been having 3sums and fucking other guys while telling me she wants to get back together. I found out via a concern mutual friend. We were together 3 years. I'm not sad, hurt or depressed. I'm glad to have closure, but now I don't know what to do. Should I fuck with her like shes fucked with me? Should I just kick her out of MY apartment?? Advice please", "summary": "MEf has been fucking with me for months. Need advice on how to precede."}
{"id": "t3_1er0l2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(27M) Having erection issue with girlfriend (22f).. Would this be a deal breaker to you? And how would you like to be told about it?", "post": "Backstory: I (27M) am currently seeing a 22F. So I've been seeing my partner for about 3-4 months now and I've been having trouble maintaining my erections, I have actually been using an old supply of Viagra pretty much every time we have had sex (Because yep it's not the first time it's happened to me, it happened with my previous partner too).. Everytime I've tried without Viagra I've failed to maintain my erection.\n\nNow she doesn't know I've been using Viagra and I'm scared to bring it up with her.. In case she thinks I don't find her attractive or something along those lines because it's the complete opposite, she's stunning, or she's more experience so Im afraid she will be turned off by the whole thing since she's younger (I'm 27 and shes 22) and more experience, and most likely hasn't come across this before with her other partners.. And it makes me feel inadequate / less of a man for it..\n\nI've had blood tests from the doctors and my testosterone levels and everything are fine. So it seems the problem is all mental and in my head.\n\nSo how do I go about explaining this to my girlfriend without scaring her off and thinking it's something wrong with her?!", "summary": "Having trouble maintaining erections with new-ish girlfriend without Viagra (And also my previous partner).. How do I explain my problem to her without hopefully losing her and the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_yno19", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Need help phrasing a breakup - he's a friend, but the situation is slightly complicated.", "post": "So I [F25] was seeing this guy [M25] for about a month or two a few months ago, and then decided to just be friends - I had been getting over a pretty big breakup, and he didn't want to rush into anything anyway. Fast forward a while, and we had started talking again, but we didn't date because I was helping out a male friend of mine and letting him move in with me. I understood why that would make him uncomfortable, and we still stayed friends. I started dating somebody else, as he had made it clear we weren't going to date while I was living with my male roommate [27]. \n\nHowever, out of nowhere he asked me out on a date...I'm not serious or exclusive with the new guy [28], so I said yes...we only had one date, and after that I told him I didn't really feel like it was a date, and it felt like we were still just friends. \n\nLast week we were hanging out as friends, and he basically told me he loves me. He even asked me to move across the country with him (he recently told me that he decided he was going to move in two months for his career).\n\nI've done the long distance thing, and I don't want to do it again. So obviously I can use that as a scapegoat, but I also don't want to lead him on - I just don't see him like that. Even though he's only a few months younger than me, he seems a few years behind me. So how do I make it clear without breaking his heart (which I feel I already have...). He's very sweet and a great friend, just not somebody I would date (even though he is gorgeous) - I just feel like we're at different maturity and intellectual levels. Other than that, he is really great though. Do I say that? Would that hurt his feelings even more?", "summary": "Guy I'm friends with expressed his love for me and wants me to do long distance/move with him. How do I let him down gently?"}
{"id": "t3_2r0nun", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17M] having every girl I end up getting close with, accidentally stolen by my best-friend [17 M]", "post": "For the past two years, me and my friend have been close as fuck. We like the same music, we play the same games and we both have similar interests. The main difference is he is the hot, mysterious guy who smokes and I'm his tag-along shadow. \n\nFor longer than I can remember, I will start talking to a girl - I will get close to them and start to think something worthwhile is going to come out of it. Then they meet him. It's not his fault, and to be fair to him he doesn't flirt with them or try to steal with them and if he knows I had a thing with them, or I liked them or I dated them has always backed off and told them no. \n\nI don't know what I can do about it, last night at a new years party I had a girl I had been seeing end things with me. I was wondering if she had a reason, and said she just wasn't ready for a relationship and was hoping we could be friends. Today she send my best friend a text saying how much she enjoyed last night, wanted to spend more time with him and implied a sexual interest. \n\nHe straight up told me, and apologized/said he wasn't interested in her. But this isn't the first time it's happened, like I said. Girl's love him, and I could have met them that night, been friends with them for months or even been dating them only for them to want him over me upon meeting him. \n\nI don't know what to do, he is a great friend and like a brother to me but I can't help but constantly feel inferior to him whenever I become interested in someone.", "summary": "My best-friend is better than me, and is having a serious impact on me having any chance with girls I meet. "}
{"id": "t3_4jlyei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend(24f) says that I(21m) don't show that I love her.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months now and things have been going well. We both have pretty busy schedules so we only see each other about once a week for only a few hours. However, we text just about all day everyday when we aren't together.\n\nThe problem I am facing is that I love her very much but she says that when we are together it doesn't seem like it. I understand where her concerns come from because I'm not very affectionate towards her. I don't really kiss her a lot or touch her too much or ask her to take pictures together or anything like that. I do go above and beyond for holidays and things like that but she is the type of woman that doesn't focus on material things she just wants to know she matters. She pursue's me a lot. I want to do all of these things for her and show her that she is with a man that loves her with all of his heart but I just don't know how.\n\nI just got back from a 5 week vacation and I haven't seen her in about a month I miss her like crazy and she misses me also. I'm going to see her this weekend and the problem I am having is I am worried that when I get around her I will get cold feet again and although I want to be affectionate and give her the world I feel like I will just disappoint her. How do I overcome this and just love my girlfriend the way she deserves?", "summary": "How do I learn to show my girlfriend the affection and attention she deserves?"}
{"id": "t3_30c1i5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What can I do to make sure she likes me during a movie date?", "post": "I'm friends with this girl And we've known each other for a few years. We've suddenly spent more time together in the last year so we already know each other extremely well. We're great friends and we've each had our share of flirting with each other. We would hold hands randomly when doing work at school, hug every once in a while, and when I buy drinks out of the vending machine she will always snag it from me and take a sip (lol). We've got a ton in common so I never get awkward silent moment with her. She even told me a few weeks ago that if she HAD to date someone in our class it would either be me or some other guy (but then she took it back to the other guy and said she wouldn't date him for reasons I won't go into detail. So looks like it's just me). So this tells me she likes me on some level. I'm going to see a movie with her sometime next week. We didn't settle this as a date, we just both wanted to see this movie so we decided to go together. What I'm thinking of doing during the movie (and I know I'm gonna be brave and do it, I'll be fine with whatever happens cause I know we will still be friends) is attempt to hold her hand at say, a romantic part in the movie or just whenever it feels right. I think if I did this she would know I'm interested in being more than friends.\n\nDoes anyone have tips for me on what else I can do to make sure she likes me or at least knows what my intentions are during this movie night?", "summary": "me and this girl are great friends and I'm seeing a movie with her sometime next week. I'm gonna try to hold her hand during the movie so she knows my intentions and I'm wondering if anyone has input on what else I can do to make sure she likes me or at least knows what I'm here for."}
{"id": "t3_36g2zf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29m] and Common Law GF [29F] Fight over anything and everything. Really need some advice . Willing to answer any questions as best I can", "post": "I really need some advice. We have been together for over 5 years , I love this person and have long term plans. Many of our finances are linked, we have a baby boy who is amazing , but we argue every single day at least once , and there is never a resolution . \n\nFor example I could be doing dishes and can't hear her from the other room so she screams for me , when I go see what she needs she will say something like thanks for making me yell and now I woke the baby. I usually tell her I had water running I'm banging some dishes and I simply didn't hear her. If I ask her to repeat herself so I know what she wants she tells me never mind , or forget it . \n\nWhen I try to explain my mindset or my emotions she gets overwhelmed, cries , curses at me and basically Shuts me out till she has calmed down, makes me leave her alone. We are fine till something else goes wrong and we are right back in the same place . I really don't know if I'm thinking clearly enough because this person has treated me great this whole relationship but I feel like she never trusts me with anything. If her day isn't perfect she takes it out on me. \n\nShe is very indecisive, and gets \"Hangry\" which is angry when hungry. I could go on for awhile but I just need to know what my options are. \n\nIf anyone experiences anything similar, should I try to make it work ? Is it really me ? Or her? I feel as though I have made large strides in maturity since University where I was plagued by horrible Girlfriends who never gave a shit about me . \n\nAsk questions and I can answer them as best as I can. I hope real answers outweigh the trolls.", "summary": "Girfriend and I fight over everything , been together 5 years should Call it quits or make it work ?"}
{"id": "t3_4hdu3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 7 months yelled at her", "post": "Sorry for my bad english. \n\nSo this happened 2 days ago me and my girlfriend was having a argument about how she slept in the same bed as another guy with consulting me beforehand. She has done this once before and she knew i wasn't fine with her doing it. We were talking about it and i said how i felt she discrespected me and that i felt betrayed she tried to tell me it won't happen again and that stuff. Then it all just snapped for me i screamed her say something like this \"YOU SAID THAT THE LAST TIME YOURE A FUCKING LIAR\" and some other names. I do regret doing this and i don't know how to proceed i have ignored her for 2 days now and dunno what to do", "summary": "Screamed at my girlfriend after finding out she slept in the same bed as a guy without telling"}
{"id": "t3_18o0yk", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Think I[20m] am falling for her[22f] again.", "post": "So this girl and I went out for three months but we broke up(my fault, i fucked up). I moved on or at least I though I had. Thing is, she is now dating one of my best friends and now I am developing feelings again. Every time I hang out with both of them, I start to feel insanely jealous of my buddy. Normally, I would just distance myself from the situation but this is one of my really good friends and I hang out with him all the time. Could this just be a case of \"the grass is always greener on the other side\"? I just don't know what I should do.\n\n***[", "summary": "] Dated for 3 months, broke up, she is now dating best freind, i am devoloping feelings again.***"}
{"id": "t3_29j16p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Finding a job in Japan", "post": "I currently live in Ishikawa, Japan and work at an Eikaiwa (English conversation school) as a teacher. While I love the teaching, the job leaves much to be desired and I want to find a new job in Japan when my contract ends in December. I really don't want to switch to a different Eikaiwa, as I'm pretty sure the conditions will be about the same. I also would really prefer to stay in Ishikawa, preferably around Kanazawa as that's where I am currently living, have friends, and am dating someone. The job itself doesn't really matter, but, if I had my druthers, I would really like to teach at a real Japanese school. As I mentioned before, I really love the teaching part of my current job, I just dislike the other, non-teaching aspects.\nCredentials: Before coming to Japan, I got a 60 hour TEFL certification online. I majored in Linguistics and wrote my thesis on phonotactic pattern acquisition which is strongly related to language acquisition. My Japanese is getting better (I studied for a year in college and have ramped up my study time recently), but I'm not very conversational. I have a 3-year VISA for work in education.\nI'm really not sure where to start, so I came to Reddit for any helpful suggestions. My current plan is, whether or not I find a job, I will stay in Japan at least a couple of months after my contract ends. I have quite a bit of money saved up and can live comfortably in my current town for quite some time without a job. Obviously, I would prefer a job.", "summary": "I live in Japan and am looking for a new job, preferably in teaching. What's a good place to start?"}
{"id": "t3_1qkkfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am a terrible communicator with my bf [M24] and it causes a lot of problems, wtf is wrong with me", "post": "we have been together for 2 years and our relationship is good, except for my part when it comes to communicating. it's like i don't know how to talk normally to people, and it only happens when i'm mad or upset. i fall into this \"silent treatment\" thing that i don't want to do but if we have some kind of argument (doesn't happen often) i either can't think of anything to say, or i do, but can't get the words out and i end up just staring at the wall and my boyfriend gets even more mad because i won't talk and it makes me feel like shit. it's the only thing that i could see completely fucking the relationship and he keeps expecting me to stop pulling this shit and i never do and he keeps giving me chances, and for once i want to actually have a normal discussion when we're having issues, not just draw a blank and make him feel like i don't care enough to muster up some words. he goes out of town for work 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off and this issue usually only comes up when he's gone because we only have the phone to talk. \n\nit should be known that before him i was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a manipulative douchebag off and on for 4 years that may have something to do with it. other than that there is nothing psychological i can think of that can explain my lack of communication.", "summary": "i suck at communicating with my boyfriend and have no idea how to fix it or be better at it"}
{"id": "t3_3d28yr", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Trying to get my ex-gf out of my apartment..", "post": "Okay some background information here... I rent an apartment in the state of Florida with my now ex-gf and her 3 year old son. Hers or his name is no where on the lease since I was trying to help her get her own place (she has bad credit and eviction history )..\n\nAnyways so past month we've been going through stuff in general usually about bills (I've been working full time for past couple years now and pay majority of bills most of the time.). She did pay rent only one time since we've been here since she got fired from another job, and has only worked a total of 3 or less months since we've been together (about a year and some change)\n\nSorry if this is all combined and confusing I can answer specific questions if asked but I'm just trying to find best way to get her out of this place... I've already moved most of my personal belongings (mainly my valuable ones) out of the apartment in fear she's going to damage them while I'm at work during the week (she has damaged doors, walls and most recently today through soda all over me and my computer). \n\nWe've had couple confrontations where she has put her hands on me like slaps and ripping my shirt and try my best to restrain her but fear she's going to claim that I have hit her. I don't know what to do guys/gals I'm scared even to go to sleep tonight in fear she might try something ... Idk I do love her overall and enjoy spending time with her and her kid but it just seems like her priorities aren't right and she's too much of a loose cannon.. trying not to get the police heavily into this situation since I don't want her to lose what she does have left...", "summary": "trying to get my exgf out of my apartment asap legally..."}
{"id": "t3_kax6a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I just overheard a plot for a murder or something like it and am unsure what to do.", "post": "I was going to the bathroom and my shower has one of those vents that opens up to outside.  In my apartment building, the vent leads to the back porch where I step out now and then for a smoke, and I have about an 8 inch wide by 5 inch tall window I can look out of and hear things pretty clearly.  While going to the bathroom, I could overhear a scruffy voice, maybe a guy in his late 40's or so, talking to 2 younger kids about his time in jail.  I was pretty much intrigued at this point, so I decided to start eavesdropping on the conversation.  He explains to them what it's like in jail and talks about how they have to wear red jumpsuits and things like that.  Conversation progresses and most of it is hard to hear, but I start picking up on things that weird me out.  Like saying, \"How would we split up the 40mil?\"  \"You might lose your father, but I lost my mother so I can sympathize.\"  Talking about \"taking care of\" something.  Before they left, one of the younger people disappeared for a few seconds, there was silence, and then when he returned I could hear what sounded like guns cocking and taking out the clips and putting them back in, and the older guy said, \"Careful with that.\"  They left, and I sat in the bathroom just kind of shaken and unsure what I had just overheard.  I just moved to this neighborhood and the people in my building are kind of strange and I'm not sure if I'm in the best location.  Maybe I'm just paranoid, but I can't imagine anything \"innocent\" about what they were discussing.", "summary": "People talking outside on the porch about \"taking care of\" something, talks of dividing large amounts of money, talks of prison, and what sounded like guns cocking.  Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_37eu41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am still in love with my ex [24M], six months after the breakup. Should I dump my current bf [23M] because of this?", "post": "My ex, Alex, and I were together two years. We broke up last November because he lied to me about a number of things I wont go into. Four months ago I started dating a new guy, Peter. Peter is great. He's honest, funny, sweet, and we get along amazingly. He has already told me that he is in love with me, though I did not say it back.\n\nThe problem is, I am still so in love with Alex. Alex and I are not in contact but I think about him all the time. He's the first one I want to tell when I have big news. He's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about when I go to sleep. I find myself comparing Peter to Alex all the time (in my head) and wishing Alex was still my bf. I miss him so much my heart hurts.\n\nI'm wondering, is this something I just need to wait to pass or is it a sign I should end things with Peter? I want to do right by him. He's a great person and doesn't deserve to be strung along. But I don't know if harboring love for an ex is normal or a sign I'm not ready to move on. \n\nI'm about to go over to Peter's house tonight and am planning on breaking it off. But I have so many doubts. Please help!!", "summary": "In a great new relationship but still in love with ex. Is this normal or a sign to end it?"}
{"id": "t3_2lesp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 M] wife [29 F] seems to enjoy watching my jealousy", "post": "So she had an emotional connection to some guy a few years ago. She wasn't in love but loved his attention, and he used that to try to get laid. We got past it. But we were at a Halloween party this weekend and this guy friend of hers hit on her. I didn't even see it but she told me about it.\n\nThis wasn't the first time it happened. He'll say shit to her around me or in front of me. He once tried to make a move but she stopped that. He's the SO of her friend. \n\nSo she had always told me it was nothing, ignore him, he's an idiot. She has reassured me because of what happened before, which almost ended us.\n\nBut this time she tells me how hot it was to see me react. She said I tensed up and she could see how angry I was. I hadn't even noticed. I mean yeah the guy makes me angry and tense, but I didn't hear that. \n\nBut more than that it shows me that my wife actually seems to like me being mad or jealous about this. I didn't know that. So what the hell is that about? What do I do about it?", "summary": "My wife seems to enjoy when I react with jealousy to her being hit on. Why and what do I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3buqem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my boyfriend [32M] found list of all the things he didn't like about his ex", "post": "We have been together for 8 months.  I was looking at recipes he has in his kitchen for something to make for dinner.  They are just scraps of paper recipes and magazine cut outs.  In the middle of all these recipes is this list on a post-it - it's a list of negative things about his ex girlfriend.  He must have forgotten it was there. \n\nIt has things on it to refer to her like \"selfish, dramatic, self-centered, terrible table manners, terrible mother, not very girly\" ect.  It also has physical things on it that he didn't like \"fat arms, strange legs, smelly, hairy ass\".  He never talks about her in this way to me, he always tries to sound respectful about her. I've seen her picture, she looks quite pretty to me! Her arms don't look any fatter than mine! \n\nIt's really unnerved me -  I guess because I feel if he could write this list about her, whats to stop him writing one about me?  You trust your partner with all the things that might not be perfect about yourself. The idea that someone would take physical flaws I cannot change and use them as reasons not to be with me -  this makes me uncomfortable.  \n\nWhat to do?  Is this a red flag? Shall I tell him I found it and ask about it?", "summary": "Found list of all the things bf didn't like about his ex in a bunch of recipes.  List including physical flaws.  Made me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_d7443", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thoughts or opinions on a 19 year old girl dating a 31 year old guy. , more inside", "post": "I found out that a person close to me ( family member) is dating her 31 year old coworker and hiding it from the rest of her family. She started her  summer job there about  1 month ago and i learned today that she was dating the guy there through a friend of mine who also works there. 1 month in and she is already dating someone even though she is the most honest person ever, she hasnt told anyone about this. Should i be concerned and tell her parents/ i learned from them that she goes home late ( 2-4am) claiming she was out with her friends. What is your opinion? is it safe? Should i be concerned about her? What about the age difference.?  Does this show she is immature and making stupid decisions? Please respond.", "summary": "Shes 19, starting college and dating a guy 12 years older than her."}
{"id": "t3_mxauf", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Welcome home, Roxy!", "post": "[Roxanne catching some Z's and wearing her fashionable snuggie to keep her warm](\n\nEarlier this week, my doggy Roxy was diagnosed with [IVDD, Inter-Vertebral Disc Disease] which resulted in a herniated disc that left her back legs and tail paralyzed. She had her surgery on Tuesday to decompress her spine, bring the swelling down and to repair the ruptured disc. Even with the surgery, it is uncertain if Roxy will ever feel her back legs and tail again. The next week should show possible signs of any function returning.\n\nThis evening I was able to bring her home and I am so happy she is getting some rest. Her brother Leroy was excited to see her (I let them be re-acquainted for a few moments with the barrier of her kennel in between them), but for the next 4-6 weeks, Roxy is in my room sans her brother so that she can be solitarily confined and kept quiet and comfortable in her crate to rest.\n\nToday starts a path of giving my little girl a routine of daily physical therapy to keep the tone and muscle in her back legs, expressing her bladder 3-4 times a day since she cannot urinate on her own, and making sure she is laying in dry and sanitary bedding. As time goes on, we will see what happens with Roxy's nerves and feeling in her legs, but the best thing to do is take it a day at a time. Best of all, I'm already confident that I am a pro at loving the shit out of her :) I absolutely adore this baby girl! I know the first few days are going to be rough, but it will only get better from here on out! I'm so glad my Roxy is home!", "summary": "my dog's first day home after spinal surgery. She is resting comfortably and today mark's the day I help her to start getting better!"}
{"id": "t3_4v9xpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [17 M] of 6 years. I feel like I'm being used", "post": "Basically last year he was going through some personal stuff and we stopped talking. This year we start becoming friends again and I don't like losing friends so I do a lot to keep him happy (offering to throw a party, enter him in raffles for things he wants, offering to invite people I don't like to said party). Other than asking to hang out I have only asked him to do one thing which is text his friend that I like one of her friends as I am shy and I feel like if she acts a different way i could ask her out and not embarrassed myseld. This year I also told my friends, him included about my depression and how I'm now getting help. This was something I was too embarrassed to talk about for years. \n\nFast forward to last week when I was going to throw the party. He texts me that someone else is throwing a party and a lot of people would go to that and not come to mine and that I should postpone. I was pissed at him because he worded it in a way that sounded like he was blowing me off for someone he doesn't know very well. \n\nThe next day he realizes I'm pissed (I assume another friend told him) and he texts me saying there was miss communication. I tell him how I feel like I'm used and his only response is that I'm lying about the whole thing because he isn't using me. I finish that conversation and basically blow it away and tell him he can't say \"what I am feeling is false\". \n\nThe next few days he ignores me and we start casually talking a few days later. I'm still pissed about it and I don't know how to bring it up with him that won't make him pissed causing me to lose a friend and a chance at some happiness with a girl I like. How do I approach this delicately? Thank you", "summary": "feel used by friend. When I told him he accused me of lying"}
{"id": "t3_1l9m6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[35/M] Trust issues with my serious girlfriend [25/F] of 9 months. Please advise.", "post": "Hello all. I'm 35 years old and divorced after ten years of marriage. My marriage ended on good terms, and my wife was never unfaithful or did anything else that violated my trust.  Fast forward to last January.\n\nI met a 25 year old girl from Eastern Europe and we began seeing one another. Over the first few months, we had the conversations about prior relationships, partners, etc. My gf had had two other \"serious\" relationships, one of  which lasted on and off for six years. The other only two. During our talks she told me (after I asked) that she had cheated on her six year relationship on two occaisions. Once was a one night stand, the other was an entire Summer when she was in the US on a work visa the first time. \n\nShe explained that the first time was a mistake and she really regretted it immediately after, and that she was 18 and just did something stupid.  The other,  I have more of a problem with. She basically carried on a relationship behind this dude's back. After the summer, she never contacted the summer fling again, and they parted ways. \n\nNow we're together and I can't help but think \"if she did it to him....why not me?\" and it's really effecting my relationship. Little things like her running late or not answering when I call key my suspicions. We love each other and we're talking about marriage, but this is really bothering me. I've tried to explain my feelings to her and she says that \"it's different now, I'm a different person, our relationship is all I need, etc\". But the thoughts linger. \n\nShe is a great girl, and I can see a future with her, but my lack of trust (for something that didn't happen to me) is a stumbling block for me. Please help.", "summary": "GF cheated on past boyfriend, causes me to distrust."}
{"id": "t3_4vkffi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why is my now ex-boyfriend [21 M] so upset about our breakup and asking me [19 F] if we can stay friends when he was the one that chose to end things?", "post": "We had been together for almost 9 months. I know that's not a long time but we were living together for almost all of it. \nAnyway, things had been rough lately, so I proposed some solutions. Still it was hard for me to get him to have any sort of conversation with me, because he claimed he saw no benefit in \"just upsetting me\", so he wouldn't say what was on his mind. And then I thought breaking up would be a waste because I still loved him, but gave him the option to end it if he wanted. \nOf course, he chose to end it without 'putting up a fight for us', to word it that way. And now he's the one all upset and asking if we can stay friends. Why does he care if he couldn't bring himself to try and keep us together?\nIs that even fair of him to ask? Will staying friends ever be possible if I still love him and want things to be normal?", "summary": "If my boyfriend was the one who chose to end things between us, why is he so upset about it and insistent that we remain friends?"}
{"id": "t3_4czlki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (33F)just found out my fianc\u00e9 (26M) has no one to invite to our wedding. Together 3years.", "post": "Sorry for any spelling mistakes or grammar. I've been crying for the past hour... So here goes.. We're starting to plan our wedding and I find out that my fianc\u00e9 won't have anyone to invite to the wedding.\n\nI had my sister over to help me start planning our wedding.  Well when we got to the guest list, I'm list all my family and friends. The list was getting pretty long. So, my sister asked my fianc\u00e9 for names, and he stated flatly that he didn't have any one to invite. I know that his mom left when he was you and his dad passed, but I figured there would be aunts and uncles.. But he says he hasn't seen or heard from any of them since he was a kid and wouldn't even know how to contact them. Plus, it'd be weird he says he doesn't know them at all..\n\nI asked him about a few of his old friends he used to hang out with. And he said he didn't want to talk about it. When I finally pried the answer out of him, he said his friends didn't like me, and so they stopped invite him to hang out.. So they drifted a part and haven't talked in years. So yea there it is... He has no friends because he chose me...\n\nsorry for if this is rambling. I'm so angry at myself I don't know  how I missed him not ever hanging out with anyone. I guess when he'd go off riding he went alone. \n\nHe left an hour ago to go ride his motorcycle to clear his mind.. He seemed upset.. I hope he comes back... I'm here heart broken.", "summary": "Fiance won't have anyone for his side of the wedding party. Doesn't have any friends. and I seem to be the reason.."}
{"id": "t3_iedo1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the deal with some atheists on reddit and their hate towards religious people?", "post": "Before we start..let me say that I do believe in God..I however am not part of any religious institution what so ever.\n\nI am not a dumb ass...I know that dinosaurs were created by god and were roaming the planet 5000 years ago (Kidding..calm down..I am joking)\n\nSeriously...some of the atheists on reddit have such little tolerance for those who believe in religion..it baffles me.\n\nI read a story on reddit of this woman who broke up with her soon to be husband or something because when he was around his family..he was too \"religious-y\"\n\nI know plenty of people irl who don't believe in any religion (myself included)..but they're not assholes like some of the atheists on reddit.\n\nA lot of people here will preach that \"Christians\" (because they never attack other religions) are intolerable assholes filled with hatred.\n\nYou know what I see?\n\nI see someone who hates Christianity...not an atheist.\n\nI think people should deal with their childhood issues before stating that they have a certain belief and way before deciding to attack someone else's beliefs.\n\nI browsed 4chan for about 3 years...and the people there are more educated than most of these so called \"atheists\"", "summary": "OP believes in God but not in any religion. OP accepts that other people have other points of views. OP thinks that some of the \"atheists\" on reddit are just foreveralones with some serious childhood issues. OP is asking why they don't attack other religions aside from Christianity and why can't they do what they preach (tolerance towards others)"}
{"id": "t3_2e1lxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] met a girl online and messed up by blowing up her phone.", "post": "So I tried the whole online dating thing online and started talking to a girl who seems really great. Pretty, nice, and funny. I was finally able to get her number and we were texting for a whole day and ended that with a call at the end of the night. \n\nThe next day goes pretty well and we end up texting again for most of the day. Suddenly it stops and she hasn't responded to any of my texts or calls. Should I give up or give her some space. I really want to get to know her more, but am worried I scared her away.", "summary": "Met girl online and blew up her phone. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1e8fv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32m] feel like I am getting backstabbed by my friend [30m] over my GF [30f] of six years", "post": "I have a complicated relationship with my girlfriend, though this post is only indirectly about her. We have been together on and off for six years. We broke up multiple times because of her trust issues (She had a pretty hard childhood, went through a nasty divorce fight etc., that left some scars) - well I broke it up multiple times because I coulnd't go on like it was. We have no children so there is not much that keeps us from just walking away if we'd really want to. I've had plenty of offers from other Girls and some affairs in the times we weren't together, but I always ended up coming back to this one girl in the end.\n\nNeedless to say, some of my friends think I am nuts for trying and constantly advise me to just let the relationship take it's natural course and let it die already.\n\nFast forward to today, I find out that a friend I have known for ages (like 15 years) is flirting with my girlfriends sister [32f] (she has a boyfriend) and happened to mention to her that he thinks me and my girlfriend shouldn't be together and that he doesn't like her. It's true - she never made any steps towards being especially caring towards my friends. It's bound to happen. But I feel strange about this guy talking behind my back. Tell me guys, what would you do if you found out about this?", "summary": "Friend who doesn't like my GF tells her sister we shouldn't be together"}
{"id": "t3_48rczz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend(m25) has stopped being affectionate to me (f22)", "post": "We met almost two months ago and have  been dating a month. In the beginning, he'd always hug me or kiss me. He always had his arm around me when we were watching tv or a movie.\n\nBecause he doesn't do this anymore, I'm afraid to touch him. He told me before we were dating that he's not very touchy feely but when he hugged me, kissed me, held my hand and what not, I was just happy he was doing that. \n\nWe've talked about it before and we agreed that he would try and find a happy medium. I said I'd try and see things from his pov, which he immediately shot down saying it was easier said than done. That was a week ago.  \n\nHe does work graveyard and sleeps during the day, but is still really tired. He won't come snuggle with me the times I've stayed over while he's gone to work and come back. Said it was because he didn't want to wake me. \n\nHe also has a 3 year old son who Ive met twice. He's a great kid, super cute and I'm beginning to think \"I have a fan\".  I don't know what his policy with pda around his son is and again, I'm afraid to even hug him.", "summary": "why would he just stop being affectionate out of the blue?"}
{"id": "t3_2sczy1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Worried my friend is getting ahead of herself/getting her hopes up....", "post": "Long story short:\n\n-Friend reconnects with a guy she met a couple summers ago.  Sounds like a bit of a dork (in a good way)\n\n-She asks him if he wants to meet up in city on Valentines Day for a date. Guy says yes, is meeting is family there for dinner\n\n-She sends me a text message along the lines of \"so looking forward to finally getting laid on valentines day\" and \"already making a playlist for us to make out to\"\n\nI'd really like for this to work out and see her happy, but she showed me a few texts and I didn't feel like the interest was mutual.  Given, I have zero track record and I'm usually very cautious (so who am I to talk...), but I just don't want her to get hurt or feel let down.  She tends to come on strongly to people, and I think some might feel a little off put by this. I'm worried that maybe this guy got these texts from a girl he knew 2 years ago and was like \"eh, sure...!\" to get her to shut up?\nI mean, I wasn't there, nor am I her, nor the guy, nor anybody who is entitled to make determinations, but as I said above I don't want to see her get hurt.\n\nShould I say anything?  I want to be supportive and yesterday I was very excited for her (still am) but didn't let on to any of my concerns.", "summary": "Friend reaches out via text to guy she knew 2 years ago, asks him on a date for Valentines Day, seems to be expecting to get laid/have intense make out session.  Worried she might be expecting much, but don't want to put my nose where it doesn't belong"}
{"id": "t3_37oxyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out the man I love is one of the biggest Scumbags alive! What now?", "post": "My SO and I were together for almost a year and a half. He's 28 and I'm (f) almost 23. We broke up about a month ago but have continued sleeping with each other and talking. I genuinely thought we would get back together soon. \n\nToday I found out that he is not at all who I thought he was. He tried to get my best friend to sleep with him and send him nudes. Meanwhile texting me about coming over for sex. After all of this happened, while venting to some friends and family, I discover that he has texted several of my friends and family over the last 4 weeks asking if they can still be friends even though we had a \"falling out.\" \n\nHe has since then stopped answering any of my calls or texts and deleted me and several friends on all social media accounts. He told me once during our relationship that he cheated on an ex with her good friend, while his gf was asleep in the other room. He said it was the worst thing he'd ever done and immediately felt horrible about it and had to come clean to her. He seemed really remorseful about it. But this time, he won't even talk to me. Let alone own up to it. \n\nHe's been drinking a lot lately and I'm pissed off but concerned as this behavior is so far off from his norm.  What should I do? I feel like I need to confront him but I don't even know where to begin.", "summary": "SO and I broke up and he has since been trying to make friends with my friends and family. Today he tried to get my best friend to sleep with him and send nudes. He won't respond to me at all and he may be/is a functioning alcoholic. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_vwm37", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Messy situation.. would love some advice.", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nI recently graduated from University (M, 21), and had been with her since first year ( she's 22)..So we'd been together 2 years and 3 months.\n\nI panicked at the end of this term, it being our last term... and felt trapped and unsure about the future. That unsurity led to us breaking up, with me stating that I didn't love her as much anymore and I couldn't continue the relationship if i wasn't honouring her love.\nFast forward a few weeks.. and fuelled by alcohol and abandon, I slept with a mutual friend of ours (without her currently knowing). However, after sleeping with this other female a couple of times I felt physically sick.\n\nNow a month down the line, I feel terrible. I can't do anything without it reminding me of my ex, and I feel disgusted in myself for ever treating her badly by sleeping with this mutual friend. Add to that the guilt of playing with this mutual friends feelings..\n\nI want my Ex back... but what should I do? Should I be straight and tell her that I slept with this other girl. I think in a way being with someone else made me realise how much I had loved her.. but that's incredibly selfish and I feel horrible for that.\nDon't know how to approach it.. would love some advice.", "summary": "Broke up with ex because I didn't think I loved her anymore and was scared about the future (panic), slept with a mutual friend and now am filled with loathing and regret."}
{"id": "t3_11jjni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends wife wants to have sex with me.", "post": "Im 24/m and my friend is 24/m his wife 22/f? doesnt matter really. My friend and me were super close in highschool then kind of had a falling out right afterwords and we both joined the military at the sametime got shipped out to different places and i came back first. Weve been distant and had little to no contact for about 6 years. Our friendship has seemed to have gotten stale but i always chalked it up to growing older and both being in the military.\n\nBefore we left for the military he found a girl got married and has had 2 kids since then. I met his wife at the same time and weve chatted once and awhile when my buddy was around for family events and whatnot no big deal.\n\nIve heard a few rumors about my friend actually being bi/gay and using this girl and the kids to look like a nuclear family, of which i ignore because its just a rumor. She txtd me earlier today and told me the whole story and i kind of just stayed quiet didnt interupt and let her talk.\nHes been increasingly distant and she thinks he cheats on her and he keeps gay porn on his computer and blah blah blah. She then goes on the tell me he puts her down so she wont leave him saying \"youll never find somebody as good as me\". After some more conversation she admits she wants to end it but doesnt know how and how shes cheated on him before because shes alone so often. Then she asks me if she is \"doable\" and send me a sexy pic.\n\nNow: I want to bang her but i really probably shouldnt lol\nTo bang or not to bang isnt the main question, she needs to end her shitty relationship whether its with my friend or not.\nIn any case how should i go about it?", "summary": "! Old friends' wife has marital problems, wants my nuts, what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_pzjqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's an irrational/silly fear - that you know you shouldn't be afraid of - that you've carried with you from childhood to adulthood?", "post": "So I figured that you all might need an example, so I'll go first:\n\nLast night I had trouble sleeping and I found myself lost in deep thought about this and that. While trying to doze, I realized that my toes were out from underneath my covers and dangling over the edge of my bed. This sparked a fear in me, a fear that some great unknown would be totally capable of pulling me out from the comfort of my cozy cocoon and off to some terrifying nowhere. What made it weirder was the fact that I was only scared as long as my feet/toes were out from underneath the covers. It was as if my comforter was some sort of force field, which just adds to the silliness of the whole thing. Anyways, I immediately proceeded to pull my feet back within the boundaries of my mattress and tucked them safely under the covers which immediately made me feel more comfortable and secure.\n\nI'm twenty-four, I'm a grown ass man, I know that there are no monsters under my bed, and I know that there's nothing that goes bump in the night that's going to come along and disturb me - aside from the kicks my girlfriend dishes out in her sleep while laying in bed next to me. That's not the point. The point was that a fear that I had long ago discarded from my childhood came rearing its head last night. It got me to thinking about whether anyone else has any interesting fears like this from their childhood that they find still haunt them occasionally in adulthood.", "summary": "My toes were out from under the covers and dangling from the edge of the bed last night. I got scared and thought something was going to come along and attack me."}
{"id": "t3_4gklvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] ex's [25M] mom [40'sF] shared a \"On This Day\" memory of my ex, his brother and myself on Facebook. His new girlfriend [20's?F] blew up on me.", "post": "I'll keep this short.\n\nMy ex, Ross and I broke up over a year ago now. We started growing apart and wanted different things out of life. We have kept things civil, kept each other on social media but we don't talk, unless we see each other in public. I have decided to stay single until I finish my masters, but he now has a new girlfriend, Krystal. \n\nI was very close with Ross's family. I still have them all on Facebook but we don't talk unless it's to wish each other a Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday, etc. Only a handful of times a year out of respect for Ross. They do \"like\" my posts, especially his mother. I asked Ross if he would rather I unfriend them, but he says he's cool with it and not to worry.\n\nThe other day, I received a notification from Ross's mom. She shared a \"memory\" with me in it; it was of myself, Ross and his younger brother when we were on vacation three years ago. His mom wrote \"Miss the beach! Can't wait for summer!\"\n\nI thought it was a little weird and awkward to say the least, but I didn't say anything. A few hours later, I received a Facebook message from Krystal, saying:\n\n\"u/throwxyz22, I don't know why you feel the need to still keep tabs on Ross's family, but you need to back off. Accept the fact that he is MY boyfriend and please remove yourself as his friend as well as the rest of the family's. I have replaced you and you serve no purpose to be in their lives anymore. Grow up and get over yourself.\"\n\nI haven't even responded, but I am so confused. I have met Krystal once when I bumped into them grocery shopping. Ross introduced us and we exchanged pleasantries; she seemed really kind.\n\nWhat do I say? Do I say anything to Ross or his mother? Talk to Krystal herself? I didn't even share the post! I'm so confused.", "summary": "My ex's mom shared a Facebook memory that included my ex, his brother and myself. His girlfriend sent me an angry Facebook message telling me to get over them."}
{"id": "t3_1pdses", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do I gracefully quit my job?", "post": "I am a university student who stupidly bit off more than I can chew this semester. I have a full course load and decided to take on 2 part time jobs this semester to help pay the bills. \nOne of my jobs is only 7.5 hours a week (minimum wage), but I don't feel like I can handle it anymore. I underestimated my course load and I have 3 huge deadlines in the next 4 weeks. The only reason I took this particular job was because I wanted to gain some experience in a laboratory setting (which I have since learned I don't like). On top of it all, I know I cannot accomplish what my supervisors are hoping I can do. There is also only 6 more weeks on my contract. \nI have never quit at anything before and this goes against my personal work ethic entirely, but I want to resign before I get too far behind in my schoolwork and screw up my last semester of university! \n\nWhat would be the best way to go about quitting? Advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Need to quit one of my part time jobs, but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3aksm8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] Having Issues with my BF [28M] Regarding Criticizing Other Women", "post": "I have been dating my BF for the past six months and things have been going well for the most part. I have recently started feeling a bit insecure about our relationship status, as a few things have started to bother me:\n\n1) He doesn't show me affection in public (kissing, holding hands, etc); although he is more than happy to do so in private. For example, if I come over to his house and his roommate it gone, he will kiss me at the door. If the roommate is home, no kisses and maybe a half hug.\n\n2) He talks about things in the future like we're not going to be together. I was thinking about traveling and he was telling me how the guys in foreign countries would sweep me off my feet and I'd have a great time.\n\nHe is a great guy; he is kind to me, he listens to the things I say (I know because he remembers details later), and I feel that he cares about me.\n\nMy struggle is that I had a complete breakdown at dinner tonight after we had a debate about whether or not women were coordinated (he insisted most women are completely uncoordinated) and then he later went on a rant about how the average woman thinks she's so hot and in reality they are \"fat\" (his words) and overall not worth what they think they are. \n\nI told him what he said offended me and hurt my feelings, and he insisted that I'm not an average woman and he's just making generalizations about most women.\n\nMy issue is that this kind of talk and this kind of thinking rattles me. I've heard this from ex's in the past, and in my mind, I'm just wondering when I'm the one he's going to start criticizing. \n\nI'm looking for advice on how to best explain my perspective to him and/or advice on whether or not it's worth it to try to iron out. Is this a common male rant and I'm overreacting, or am I justified in feeling hurt by what he said?", "summary": "BF of six months went on a rant against \"the average woman\" at dinner, and it really hurt my feelings. He insisted that I am not the average woman, but it didn't make me feel any better. Is his behavior acceptable or not? Is there an explanation for why he might have such a negative perspective on women?"}
{"id": "t3_1jxj9s", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I can't stand my girlfriend.", "post": "Everything she does just gets on my last fucking nerve. \n\nThe way she talks.\nHow she's so insecure.\nHow she's so jealous.\nHow she's keeping me from my friends.\nHow she's keeping me from fun.\nHow she won't leave me alone.\nHow she breathes in my face after sex.\nHow she expects texts every 5 seconds. \nHow she deletes girls numbers from my phone and unfollows people on my twitter/Instagram.\n\nThe list could go on forever because lately literally everything she does or has ever done is literally driving me nuts. \n\nI know what you're think... \"Dude.. Just dump her?\" But it's not that simple. I've probably broken up with this girl like 5 times already and we would always get back together. I've gotten close with her family and her parents actually like me... But I know they're fed up with me breaking their daughter's heart... So if I do dump her.. I know that they'd never let me live it down. \n\nPlus, having someone to have sex with whenever I want is nice... But the sex doesn't satisfy me like it did before. We had some good times together and for the past 9 months of my life, I was with her every possible chance I got (that part was her decision not mine) I'd literally kill for some fucking time to myself. \n\nIdk what to do. There's plenty of reasons to dump her but there's also plenty of reasons to stay with her. \n\nP.S. I noticed its fucking painful telling this girl I love her. I feel like those words are impossible to say out loud anymore. \n\nFeedback?", "summary": "Boyfriend bitches about girlfriend and will probably never do anything to fix the problems. "}
{"id": "t3_2q90wq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing basic phrases", "post": "TIFU because i just realized. A few months ago I meet very interesting girl in one of my classes. After a few weeks I decided I would try to befriend her (in a non romantic way) , so I asked her to come over for a movie. My roommates and I were having a bunch of our friends over that night anyways so I figured I'd include her. She declined and After that she got awkward and didn't talk to me much. This was months ago.\n\nI just read that normal people understand \"come over for a movie\" as \"sex\", especially between the other gender. And apparently coffee also means sex. And also \"wanna see my room/apartment\". Unrelated but I have turned down \"coffee\" and various house tours quite a few times. \n\nThere needs to be a manual for people like me.", "summary": "scared away my friend because I don't know modern slangs."}
{"id": "t3_1a36pu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a 23f who is more physically attracted to my 25m coworker than my 25m boyfriend. Is our relationship doomed?", "post": "I am a 23f in a 3 year relationship with my 25m boyfriend. I love my SO, we have similar personalities and we have a ton of fun together doing everything from staying in and playing video games to going out drinking together. We have a great relationship and he's everything I would want in a man as far as personality goes. Over these past 3 years though I've somewhat lost my physical attraction from him though. We still have sex about once a week, but he isn't the same man I fantasize about anymore.\n\nNow here is where it gets more complicated. I have a 25m coworker at my job who has been working at my job for just over a year. I'm not sure what clicked, but  about a month ago (nothing happened then between my SO and I) I've realized I've grown physically attracted to him over time to the point now that I keep catching myself thinking about him. I know it's mutual too as of a month ago because we spend quite a bit of time together talking on a messenger service at work (yes, I acknowledge I'm an idiot for taking this long to notice). Although it may be his aim, I am not interested in pursuing a relationship or any physical contact with him though (although I do have guilty thoughts about what could be).\n\nI plan to cut off contact via the online messenger so I don't have an opportunity to speak with him privately at the very least. But still, I'm most worried what this means for my relationship. Because I have physical urges for someone other than my bf does this mean that our relationship is doomed? Is it more fair to my boyfriend since I'm not physically attracted to him anymore that I break things off? Or, is there a way to regain physical attraction for my boyfriend?", "summary": "I'm a 23f that is attracted to my 25m coworker, does this mean my relationship with my 25m boyfriend that love but am not as physically attracted to is doomed?"}
{"id": "t3_3z7acw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Save for grad school or pay down existing student loans?", "post": "My wife is applying for grad schools right now and with her previous grades and work experience, I'd be surprised if she didn't get in. She is looking at MHA programs (Master of Healthcare Administration). It's basically the same as an MBA, but with a concentration in healthcare. She currently works in healthcare management, but has more or less found the ceiling as far as her earnings and advancement go with her current undergrad degree. She has asked and her employer will not pay for any portion of her graduate education.\n\nHere's where things get a little more complicated, she still has about $20,000 left on her undergrad loans at 4.875%. She may have to take loans out for grad school, but we can probably swing most of the cost out of pocket if we slice our budget down pretty drastically. We've paid about $12,000 in the last year toward her loans.\n\nMy question is, would it be better to continue aggressively paying down her current loans (at a rate of about $1,000 per month as we have been right now) or to pay the minimum on the loans (about $200) per month, and put the rest into a savings account for grad school costs? Obviously the savings account will accrue less interest than the loans will cost (1% savings interest vs. 4.875% interest on the loans), but I don't know what kind of rates she'd get on new loans if we'd need them to pay for grad school.\n\nIf she starts in the fall of 2016 we'd be able to save about $8,000-$10,000 depending on what our tax refund looks like this year. That would cover about 1/5 of the cost right off the bat, but I don't know which is going to be the better option.\n\nSome other stats, we're both in our early 30s, no kids, own our home (with mortgage), own our car (paid off, reliable), no credit card debit, no debt other than mortgage and student loans, 6-8 month emergency fund is fully stocked, household income of $135,000 per year.", "summary": "Wife is considering grad school, already has $20,000 in student loans. We can save money and pay for a chunk of school right away, will reduce additional loans we'd have to take out. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_yu3ct", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got asked to come round at 3am, when I got there, she was having sex already. Why do I feel like shit?", "post": "I have never experienced this before nor have any of my friends, although its not the type of thing you tell people. At 2:30am ish a girl I had hooked up with previously asked me to come round to hang out so I said I would be there in 20min as I was already out. When I got there in 20min she answered the door in a duvet with nothing on underneath, she started apologising saying I could still sleep on the couch if I still wanted to stay over and we could do something in the morning as she was sleeping already. Confused I said \"sure\" and proceeded to sleep on the couch for which she gave me a blanket. She then said she had to do something quickly and popped off to her room. I then heard her apologising to someone in her room. I already knew that she must have been having sex with someone but held out because she invited me only 20min ago. She walked back into the lounge and as I already heard her and confirmed my suspicion I got up and proceeded to leave. She just sat on the edge of the couch and hung her head in shame as I proceeded to walk all the way home to clear my thoughts. Thoughts are not clear yet which is why I am writing this. I don't even know If its my fault or not even though it obviously isn't . I don't even know if this is a shitty enough thing for a douchebag to do to someone.", "summary": "feel shitty because girl asked me to come round and started having sex before I got there."}
{"id": "t3_2zjk9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26M] get unreasonably agitated with my parents [50s] when I visit.", "post": "My parents and I live a few hundred miles apart typically, as I'm in grad school in a different city. By all accounts, we have a good relationship: while they were overbearing during my teenage years (and I, obviously, was a typical teenager), we get along perfectly fine otherwise.\n\nThe strange thing, though, is that during my current week-long visit to see them, I really can't stand being around them. Every little quirk of theirs annoys the crap out of me. I spent stretches internally fuming or offended about some small comment they made. I even see my socks missing and start wondering if they did something stupid like throw it away only to catch myself and realize that I put my socks somewhere else. I get that adult children sometimes chafe at the prospect of living under their parents' roofs, but this seems like a rather extreme version of it.\n\nThe good thing so far is that I'm self aware enough to know that they aren't really doing anything wrong, and that my brain is on some weird easily-offended/annoyed-overdrive, so I've managed to check any potential outbursts. But that means that I basically sit around the house quiet and not talking, and they're starting to notice/wonder why. Also worth noting that this is the second or third time I've felt this way.\n\nAnyone else get like this? Anyone manage to \"fix\" this?", "summary": "I'm get in an extremely agitated state of mind when I visit my parents, and they're starting to notice. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1m9hd2", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "No check mailbox? No birthday present.", "post": "In 2005 I mailed I sister a birthday card with a check inside. I called her a week later, as she didn't tell me she got it. Nope. Didn't have it.\n\nRemember: in 2005 electronic payments for credit cards and e-banking didn't really exist.\n\nMy sister also has the following:\n\n1. A mailbox down the street (tract housing often has a bank of mailboxes instead of putting in a mailbox or mail slot for each house).\n\n2. People breaking into mailboxes.\n\n3. A severe case of laziness\n\n4. An idiot husband who loses everything. All the time. Phone, wallet, keys, bills, tax forms, and even minutiae such as screwdrivers, household fans (even though they are large), underwear. You get the drift. \n\n5. A fairly lucrative job. \n\n6. A lot of personal debt and a house underwater. \n\nMy sister blamed her husband for either not getting the mail or losing it in the house. What, you can't stop at the mailbox that is 300 feet from your house and get the mail? Are you that lazy? You pass by it every day to and from work. You must not be that concerned with credit card fraud. \n\nI was so pissed. I was earning very little money at the time, but I took the time and thoughtfulness to celebrate her birthday. And this is what happens?\n\nI called the bank and voided the check. \n\nWhen she asked me about the money the next week I said, \"I guess you'd better find that check because I'm not writing two checks.\"", "summary": "Sister didn't care about her birthday present - I revoked it."}
{"id": "t3_32durf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting in my friends storage container", "post": "Soo this happened like 9 years ago when I was like 9nish. \n\nI was walking home from school because I missed the bus, and I had to take a shit. For some reason I did not want to use the school bathrooms because I shat my pants in grade 2 (awesome logic?). Anyway it was a long walk about 2km+, I was walking up the hill towards my house but I couldn't hold it anymore so I went inside a building and I went to the corner took off my pants and underwear and I took a major shit. There was a clear. plastic box beside me, I saw some sort of cloth, I took it and wiped my ass with it. I pulled my pants and underwear backup and went home, few months later we go past the building and go inside and he tells me it's his storage container.", "summary": "I took a hot steamy shit in my best friends storage container."}
{"id": "t3_2zbd8p", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Lost the excitement for college", "post": "I'm a freshman this year and I have just kind of lost the excitement for college. I rushed a fraternity last semester and did marching band which both took up so much time and I payed more attention to that than I did to school, thus leaving me with a 1.4 gpa. I lost my academic scholarship due to that and, if I don't get a 3.5 this semester so I have a yearly gpa of a 2.5, I will lose the remainder of my scholarships and grants and won't be able to afford to stay in school. My major is Innovation and Entrepreneurship and I'm minoring in Film making; two degrees that I don't entirely need a degree to do what I want with my life. College has been expected of me my entire life (if I graduate, I will be the first person on my dad's side of the family to finish college and my mom's side of the family is filled with scholars so there is a lot of pressure riding on me.) At first, dropping out repulsed me and I swore I would try my hardest and I have been. But I'm starting to wonder I'd it's worth all the effort I'm putting in and the time in giving up. I'm developing a business plan for a small business that I would like to start that would allow me to travel and then get an associates degree in general business through online courses. I've been thinking and praying about that a lot and it really seems like a more fun option and it's what I could really have fun doing until I either decide to settle down or get tired and want to move on to the next thing. I really don't want to leave any of my friends that I've made behind or leave the frat I'm in, but I just have lost the passion for college and really want to just get started with my life. What do you recommend? Am I just going through a stupid, rebellious phase that I will regret later in life? Or am I making valid points? I just want to know what y'all think. Thanks all!", "summary": "Freshman this year has to get good grades this semester to afford to stay in but lost the drive for it and, instead, wants to start his own business while doing online classes for an associates degree."}
{"id": "t3_4b8fo6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30M) girlfriend (31F) didn't come home last night. Not sure what to do.", "post": "So I know. Ditch Facebook (already did a long time ago) hire a lawyer and hit the gym. I get it so let's skip that bullshit. She \"slept\" at a friend'S house last night. I have my thoughts, possibly more paranoid than need be. But She was supposedly staying at a friends house who just broke up with her live in boyfriend. I've little proof but I'm pretty sure she is seeing someone else and slept at his house and, though true, the other other story is just a coverup. What do I do? We rent a house together. We Have two cats that I adore dearly. I don't know what to do. Like I said I've no proof but my instinct says she's wasn't m where she said she was. We've been together four years. I can't afford to live alone but if I move back in with my parents I will probably kill myself (and I'm not being hyperbolic). No things haven't been great between her and I the past couple months but nothing to warrant her cheating. I don't know what to do! Fuck.", "summary": "Girlfriend might have cheated but I'm not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_4gq2dx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] roommate [20F] is dropped out of school, meets and bangs Tinder guys every day/night, and is very unmotivated. I need some suggestions on how to deal with another year and a half of living with her.", "post": "I've had her as a roommate for about a year now. We got along pretty well until about a few months ago. Ever since she broke up with her long term bf about 5 months ago, she got addicted to Tinder and meets guys, bring them over to our apartment, sleeps with them, and showers with them in the bathroom I have to share with her. This has been worse lately because it's a different guy everyday. She dropped out of her first semester in community college and doesn't get much hours at work so all she ever does is meet random Tinder dudes, bring them over to our apartment, bang them, and repeat. She's making her own life choices so I don't have anything to say about it but I'm a little disgusted by it and thus, I don't want anything to do with her. However, we resigned the lease for next year about a month ago and I have a feeling it's going to get worse and worse. I can't stand looking at her or having a conversation with her because it's always about guys and how much drama she has in her life. I'm about to graduate college and am studious so we have nothing in common. I'm also a little scared that maybe ONE of the guys that she will bring over in the future will turn out to be a psycho and do something to her or maybe even me. She barely knows them and you never know what kind of guys you're dealing with. \n\nI might be over reacting and just getting pissed at her because she isn't living her life according to me but I just want to find a way where I don't have to worry about her and a random dude banging in the shower, being loud, leaving the kitchen messy, and having a very unmotivated person around me. Should I even confront her about this or should I just keep ignoring her and her choices and try my best to never be home? Should I tell her how she's making poor choices from sleeping with random guys every night to dropping out of freaking community college? Should I find a different apartment?", "summary": "Roommate has been making poor choices and I don't want anything to do with her but I signed a lease for another year and I can't even handle being around her for a second. Need suggestions on how to keep peace."}
{"id": "t3_koguj", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Please help! I need advice on starting a running club at a NYC public high school.", "post": "I work at a high school on the lower east side of Manhattan. I guess its kind of a typical urban high school in terms of student body. The school is real small (~400 kids in 9-12) and with all of the budget cuts that the NYC public school system has gone through, we don't have many extracurricular activities in terms of sports. Our gym program, while giving them enough credits to graduate, isn't the most rigorous program out there either.\n\nLast year when I told my students I was training for a marathon a bunch of them got interested and asked me to start a running club at school. It sounded like a great idea, but it was May and the year was just about over.\n\nThis year, on the first day of school, I was approached by students again who want to do it. I think its an amazing idea and I want to do it. It would be so great to take the students (many of whom have never even ran a mile) out into the city to go for runs and help them start to make healthier decisions about their lives (bacon and cream cheese bagels in the morning have GOT to stop). It is my goal to get them ready to run some short races (5k or 10k) in the spring, so they have a goal to work towards.\n\nThe only problem is that I have never ran as part of a cross country or track team, and I have never been coached. I'm just a guy who likes to run. I have no idea how to coach other people to run or create programs to get them comfortable with running. While I do have full support from the administration and many of the teachers at the school, I will have no budget for anything. Does anyone have any advice or resources on how to do this? I'm willing to do some reading on the subject if that's necessary. \n\nAnyone who can offer some help on the matter, thanks so much. When this gets off the ground, I'll keep everyone updated with how the \"team\" is doing. Hopefully by spring I'll have some great photos from races that we've done.", "summary": "I was asked by my students to start a running club, I run a lot but I don't know how to coach runners. I need any advice/resources to make this happen so we can run a 5 or 10k in the spring."}
{"id": "t3_gl78r", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Little dog scared of big dogs (with a twist)", "post": "I have a 2.5 year old Pembroke Welsh Corgi. She's small for her breed. She pretty much stopped growing at 5 mo (when I got her) and she's only about 17 pounds. \n\nShe is terrified of SOME mid to large sized dogs. 9 times of 10 she'll approach a bigger dog, they'll turn to sniff her and she'll FREAK out. Yelping, crying, squealing, running away....you'd think she had been bit. After she recovers she'll proceed to bark and bark at the offending dog for no reason. Today she freaked out when a slightly larger Sheltie sniffed her. \n\nThe twist is that we have several friends with BIG dogs that she doesn't display the same tendencies with. We have a friend with a 100+ pound German Shepard she loves to chase and another friend with a Great Dane mix who she also chases and gets along with. \n\nI've had her play with Boxers, Golden Retrievers, etc....I thought it might be the other dog's temperament (I thought it was only super excited dogs), but the Sheltie today was super gentle and very scared and timid of my dog's erratic behavior. \n\nI can't for the life of me understand it....or figure out how to train her out of it since it seems very random with some dogs. I mean she really can cry wolf and scream and whines like her life depends on it...anyone have any thoughts?", "summary": "My little dog is scared shitless of SOME big dogs, but other big dogs she loves and plays with just fine. (not breed specific)"}
{"id": "t3_2caszn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] boyfriend [27 M] has only come once in his life..ever.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months and have recently started having sex (it was my first time, but not his). \n\nI spent this past weekend at his place and we had sex on several occasions, but he never came. It was only after one of those times that he told me he has only ever come once in his life (this includes during any type of sex OR masturbation). \n\nHe has no problem getting an erection and keeping it up for long periods of time. He mentioned that used to try masturbating to porn, but stopped because he couldn't bring himself to come. The only time he did come was during sex with his ex girlfriend (using a condom) which was a long term relationship. \n\nHe has assured me that it is nothing I am doing wrong, but that this has been a reoccurring issue for him. He also said that he thinks it might be a mental block/performance anxiety in wanting to please me so badly.\n\nI've asked him to try not to worry so much about my own pleasure, but to focus more on himself, but it hasn't worked so far (though he did mention that the last time we had sex before I left was the most pleasurable for him and that he felt close to coming). \n\nHe has also suggested that we try different types of condoms as the ones we are using are a bit snug according to him; though I think this may help a little, I don't believe it fully explains the issue.\n\nI really care about him and want him to enjoy sex as much as possible. I am inexperienced and am trying to figure things out so any advice, anecdotes, thoughts, suggestions, etc. would be much appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend has only ever come once in his life and I want to help, but am not sure how to do that."}
{"id": "t3_y0xen", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone NOT LIKE Gabby Douglas, \"THE Olympic Champion?\"", "post": "First off, congrats to her. America loves underdog stories and someone who was known as an \"ok-average\" gymnast a few months ago to win the most coveted all-around is a great story and she does deserve all the attention and endorsements coming her way.\n\nBut has anyone seen her in interviews or heard what she's been saying? \n\nI first noticed something weird when she failed to medal in the individual events afterwards and attributed it to her lack of focus. \nHer words, \"'I'm definitely not going to lie. It was definitely hard to regain your focus. You're like, \"Yes, I'm the Olympic champion. I'm a world champion\"\n\nJust odd that she'd call herself THE olympic champion and sort of blow off the other events some of which her TEAMMATES did amazing in and won. \n\nCompared to Aly Raisman who was ectastic with her 1st bronze, Gabby just seems....bratty. \n\nOf course, I understand these are teenage girls and that can be expected. But it's just you see beautiful people like Aly then you see people like Gabby, who answers interview questions directed at her teammates b/c well, she is THE olympic champion and the focus, even if it isn't, should always be on her. Duh.", "summary": "Gabby seems like a brat and a diva which I guess is ok for THE olympic champion."}
{"id": "t3_ptu4h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, who in your neighborhood to you envy, think is \"cool\", or want to be like when you are older.", "post": "I walk around my neighborhood quite often and there is always one guy I notice and am jealous of. \n\nHe is always sitting on his porch, starting at about 6:15AM, smoking a pipe, drinking coffee or beer (sometimes both), and reading. Last night, I saw his wife come out and tell him dinner was ready and it was at that moment that I decided retirement is right for me. \n\nHe also walks his dog a lot throughout the day. He is the man and also some what intimidating since I will have zero balls to talk to him.\n\nDo you have people like this in your neighborhood?", "summary": "Awesome old guy who sits on his porch all day smoking a pipe, drinking beer or coffee, and reading. 6:30 AM - 9:00 PM or too cold (so it seems)."}
{"id": "t3_2lh8s5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] can't get away from abusive ex boyfriend. [17M]", "post": "I apologize in advance, because I am on Mobile. \n\nI dated, let's call him john, for almost 2 years. Our relationship started out so happy reddit.. I fell so fast and so hard for him, it being my first relationship. He treated me great, bought me gifts, took my virginity. \n\nWe broke up March of this year because he wanted to explore other relationships, and I was completely devastated. I had never felt so sad and alone, so I desperately tried to keep him in my life. I did all of his homework on top of mine, I bought him expensive gifts and treated him better then I treated myself.. And eventually he came back around and then it all started. He knew he I would do anything to keep him in my life.. He would yell at me and throw things at me, and call me a whore and a slut and a bitch. And I took it, because I thought that's how you treated the person you loved, as I was abused as a child. I stuck around and gave him arm and limb. I gave up my life and happiness for someone who didn't care about me. And I realize that now.\n\nIt never stopped, he openly slept with people and bragged about it. He bragged about all the girls he talked to, and then when it fell through he'd come back and tell me he loved me and wanted to marry me.. These past few months have been horrific.. I have never been so sad and depressed I feel like shit about my life, because he degrades it in every way. I've tried to kill myself over him. \n\nHe won't talk to me unless He needs something, I still do his homework I still do everything for him, and he doesn't care and I want out now.. I've tried NC but I break every time he asks me to do another homework assignment. I'm attached to someone who doesn't love me.. I'm terrified to be alone. He doesn't let me have friends he doesn't let me do anything.. I created this situation for myself and I don't know how to get out.", "summary": "I wanted abusive ex to stay with me so I did things for him, he's gotten abusive and has almost hit me, and I don't know how to leave now. I'm scared reddit."}
{"id": "t3_1puj18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [M21] maximize the sexiness of this situation with her [F21]?", "post": "I'm expecting a 'booty call' in a few weeks and am looking for exciting ways to approach it.\n\n**Quick background**: girl, M, and I met about 6 months ago at (where else?) a party, hit it off,  and have been enamored by each other ever since.  She recently ended a 3 month relationship that was doomed from the start and after taking some months to recover, we've gone on two casual dates (outside our social get-togethers) in the midst of our busy schedules. \n\n**Situation**: Now given our work and school lives, the scenario will, for better or worse, result in me driving to her place in the late evening, chatting mindlessly and drinking for a bit, perhaps putting a movie on, and then going to business once we can't wait any longer.  Nothing too hot-and-heavy, at the very most, second-base material.\n\nBut I want to try something special.  What would people recommend?  \n\nBecause our sexual tension is **palpable**, I was wondering if the moment we meet inside her place, I immediately go in for the kiss - a passionate, but brief one.  A sort of 'preview' kiss that personifies the struggle to contain that tension (*ugh* that reads like bad fan fiction).\n\nAny smooth suggestions to make things more memorable?", "summary": "Going to have (at most) second-base sexy time with new female friend, how do I avoid the cliche?"}
{"id": "t3_1utjyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] have a problem?", "post": "My concern is that always that whenever I get emotionally involved with a girl, it gets harder and harder to have sex, not because she doesn't turn me on or anything like that, but the fact that I consider the act of sex a bit artificial and awkward. I have always had BIG crushes on girls and could never manage to hook up with them when I was younger. Now I think I have gotten used to going out and having one night stands, but that is not what I want to do the rest of my life. \n\nI hope I explained myself properly. I just want to know what you think is wrong with me.", "summary": "I find sex awkward and kind of a \"work\" I must do in order to be in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_vz2mv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I feel responsible for my ex's life decisions, should I?", "post": "So about 5 year I dated a girl while I was in collage, things were great and she was a really nice girl. She seemed to have her life set out, finishing collage, getting a job, settling down, etc. \n\nFast forward 2 years and things arnt going to good anymore, we argue alot, mainly becuase she slowly began to stop me seeing friends, so I do what any sane man does, break up with her.\n\nIm not a dick about it, but I tell her my true feelings, and at the time the break seems fairly well taken, aside from tears (from both of us mind).\n\nAnyway, after the innitial couple days, it must have sunk in more and she takes the break up hard in the end. After a month of skipping classes she drops out of collage to get a job waitrissing, while moving in with her new boyfriend. According to her friends she has started smoking, drinking heavily, and doing drugs.\n\nOf course I dont have any say in what she does, and everyone goes on benders from time to time. Its not until I find out shes pregnant, at the age of 18/19, that I start feeling like this all happened becuase of me.\n\nIf I had never broken up with her she would have finish collage, and would probobly be alot better of than she is now. To this day I still feel responsible.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend, her life went to shit, she is now 23 with a 4 year old kid, waitressing with her fianc\u00e9 that she hates. Is it my fault?"}
{"id": "t3_2bskjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] blew it.", "post": "About two months ago I started hanging out with a girl [15F]. After the first couple of times we hungout she was grabbing my hands to hold them, cuddling me while we watched TV, made a picture of us her background. \n\nOn Tuesday a mutual friend asked why I hadn't made any moves yet and I told her \"I'm not looking for anything.\" And she said \"you dont have to date her.\" To which I repeated, \"I'm not looking for *anything*.\"\n\nI guess this got back to her because the last time we hungout it was very awkward, with long silences. She hasn't talked to me since (that was on Wednesday, whereas we'd talk 24/7 before) and I saw this morning she had posted a picture that said \"I guess I'm just looking for something more\" on Instagram. \n\nI liked it as a note that I got her *subtle* hints that she doesn't want to be involved with me anymore. (Looking back that might have been a mistake)\n\nI blew it. I know I did. Should I have been more open about just wanting a friendship? I just liked having someone to talk to.", "summary": "wanted a friendship, she wanted more, no more friendship. Advice on how to avoid in the future."}
{"id": "t3_18aopv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm going into my first year of university in two weeks. I've also been very antisocial the last few years. How do I make this the best year possible?", "post": "Hi AskReddit!\n\nBeen lurking here for a while now, and thought I'd posit a question that's been worrying me lately.\n\nJust a little bit of context:\nI live in Sydney, Australia, and took a gap year after graduating high school (unsure if there is an equivalent of a gap year for those living in other countries, but it's basically an optional year off before university/college starts here in Oz).\nNow, I intended that gap year to be a year to get some more work at my part time job and save a little cash, but due to some unforeseen circumstances (girlfriend dumping me, the tremendous power of my laziness/procrastination), the year quickly turned into me being a hermit and staying home, moping about.\n\nNow, having grown accustomed to the life of the hermit, I'm tremendously nervous about entering university; the whole social aspect, in particular, is incredibly frightening to me.\n\nI want to be more social, expand my knowledge/experience, be more engaging as a person, get out of the house more, and get back into the dating game.\n\nAny tips Reddit?", "summary": "Hermit for a year, and finally going into first year of university/college. I want to have a better year than my last. How can I achieve this?"}
{"id": "t3_1vtevf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (21F) dumped me a few days ago. I (21F) am currently fluctuating between seething anger and depression-like apathy. How do I get on with my life ASAP?", "post": "Not much to say. Almost 2 year relationship down the drain. I got dumped on Friday and I felt almost fine for the entire weekend, but yesterday/today I was bouncing around between being furious and not giving a single fuck. I spent the whole weekend doing whatever I wanted to do so I could feel better, and I exercise 40-60 minutes daily. I'm eating healthy foods and getting enough sleep.\n\nI already got rid of everything my ex ever gave to me, and I deleted all pictures/social media stuff. I will not be contacting her ever again, or any of our mutual friends for at least a few months. I guess I just don't know what else I can do to move on. I know some of this shit takes time, but I would like to do anything else that might help while I wait because I hate the overload of angry emotions and the complete lack of feeling that I'm dealing with right now.\n\nAlso, my boobs have been hurting badly since the breakup. Hormones? Vengeful breasts? Why me, boobies?", "summary": "Dumped. I'm angry or apathetic depending on the time of day. What else can I do to forget everything?"}
{"id": "t3_3j8w23", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Crack/sugar prank yielded positive drug test", "post": "My old high school friend, who is an idiot, decided to pull a fake drug prank. He knew there were going to be dorm room inspections and laid out lines of sugar, baggies of sugar and sprinkled sugar all over his room. The RA being an employee is obviously required to report any suspected drug possession to cops. Cops come and lo and behold the sugar is positive as cocaine. They cart him off to jail for a day and he qualifies to waive bond and has a court date for next week. I have no doubt they will simply retest it and realize it's sugar. It's more likely the cops just wanted to teach a dumb kid a lesson. However, my friend, being the dumb kid he is, tends to want to take cops to court and is considering trying to take them to court for the false arrest (which I'm sure the judge would dismiss). My main concern is whether the police or DA's office or some such body could turn around and charge him with anything. I don't think false report or criminal mischief works in this situation, but are there any laws that punish people for pulling pranks that cause others to call the police on false claims?", "summary": "Friend pulled stupid prank by laying out lines of sugar during dorm inspection. Sugar tests positive for cocaine, he goes to jail. Will probably not be charged in trial. Are there any laws they can use to charge people for pranks? "}
{"id": "t3_2q82wt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Yes/No: I'm [16/M] planning on kissing someone [16/F] on NYE who is still brand-new in my life", "post": "Teenage problems, y'know?\n\nI reconnected with a girl at a party last Friday. She's essentially brand-new in my life; we went to middle school together but we were in different circles so we never ever talked. We really clicked at this party & haven't stopped talking to each other since.\n\nShe's never had her first kiss. We're heading into the city on New Year's Eve for the celebrations, where I'm most likely going to kiss her at midnight.\n\nThis is the best opportunity to make her first kiss special & memorable, but the only issue is the impulsiveness of it all, considering we'll have known each other for under two weeks.\n\nWe'll be attending the same school next semester, and she's in the social group of my best friends at that school, so depending on her reaction, this could make or break my experience at this school. HS is extremely superficial so I don't want to have a bad reputation going into it.\n\nYour thoughts?", "summary": "should I kiss someone on NYE whom I just met?"}
{"id": "t3_3elx77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] and friend [27M] started to kind of date. I'm scared that he's taking advantage of me...", "post": "Hello, I'm a 18 y/o student and I met this guy who is my sisters colleague a few weeks ago. He's a doctor and expressed an interest in me a few months ago when he saw a picture of me and my sister. She never told me because she thinks he's a \"man-whore\" and wanted to protect me. \nI don't see a problem whit a young, good looking and successful man sleeping with some women and not wanting to commit to a serious relationship. Whatever floats your boat, right?\nMy sister met with some of her friends from the hospital (she's a nurse) in a cafe and he appeared out of nowhere. He started to flirt whit me and wanted to go somewhere after we were done eating to which my sister insisted to come along. I thought he wanted to seduce my her by being nice to her little sister. I was wrong. He flirted with me, touched my hand, asked me questions and after we were done cruising around in his car he wanted to have my number. My sister reluctantly agreed and let me give it to him. We have been texting non stop ever since. We went out a couple of times and he's been incredibly nice to me. \nWe went to his apartment once and made out etc. we didn't have sex but we kind of plan to this week. \nBut I'm afraid that he's just using me and won't even look at me once we had sex. Though I found out that he asked for advice from a mutual fried of his and my sisters about how to approach me and if she thought that the age gap was weird and so on. \nWhat go you guys think? Should I wait until I'm really sure or just let him go? \n\nNote: English is not my first language and I'm on my mobile so excuse any mistakes.", "summary": "I [18F] met a doctor [27M]. Known to be sleeping around with various girls, scared that he just wants sex and nothing more..."}
{"id": "t3_pzwcm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "in a few days i'm going to be homeless..", "post": "i live in chicago, il. i work at a failing bar and cannot find bettor work (or worse work even) my paychecks after child support leave me with about $80 per month and the tips i make as a bar back are enough to pay for my food. i made a little of $7000 over the course of last year. despite my begging pleas, my ex, who makes around $40k refused to let me claim our son as my dependent. i ended up getting just enough back on my tax return to catch me up a little on my rent, but i'm still about 1 & 1/2 months behind and march rent coming is up. i don't know what to do. i can't find work on my days off whether it be knocking on doors or sending emails via several job websites & craigslist. i'm a fairly intelligent person so it is excruciating to not be able to find work at least in a warehouse doing grunt work if not something that requires something of the intelligence level i am capable of.\n\nmy finances caused me to be unable to see my son on my weekend with him a month ago. this last weekend when i went to pick him up ( i was barely able to scrounge up enough cash to rent a zipcar), he didn't recognize me. (he's only 1 & 1/2) he started crying and hiding his face. it was the worst feeling in the world. \n\ncan someone please help me find if there are systems in chicago that help pay rent to people who just aren't making enough money? my internet and phone have been shut off. i think the electricity is next. i'm desperate and i feel that my last resort is to sell my bike, computer,  & camera (my only real possesions of value) in hopes to get another month of living at my apartment.", "summary": "i'm negative in the bank and i'm going to get kicked out of my apartment leaving me with nowhere to stay and unable to see my son who lives 90 miles away. please help me with whatever advice/suggestions you can, reddit. (*please understand* i'm not looking for handouts, just some help in what i can do for my immediate situation. i.e. emergency governement/state funding or *anything* that i can do to help myself in this situation, etc.)"}
{"id": "t3_nvjae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Saw problems in marriage. Suggested to wife we fix problems. She ignored. I left. Now she wants to work on things. I said no. Did I do the right thing?", "post": "Ok, so here's our story. I've known my wife for almost 9 years. We started as friends with benefits between 2003-2005 on and off and got serious in 2005. Our relationship was always rocky to a point but never was totally unbearable. We went to therapy when things got to a certain point, and things would get better temporarily, but then go right back to the way they were.\n\nAfter a while we stopped going to therapy due to varying circumstances. Within the last 15 months things have been getting progressively worse. When they were getting really bad I told her she was treating me bad and we should go back to therapy. My words went in one ear and out the other. In October things got physical between us and I was arrested for Domestic Violence. I spent a night in jail and separated from my wife when I got out. Right after we separated, that's when she says she realized all the wrong that she did, and now wanted to work on things.\n\nAt first I thought too little too late, but a part of me said what the hell? Maybe this could work. When I tried to interject emotions back into things, whether it was through hugging, kissing, just saying I love you, sex, etc., I always got the same feeling: My heart wasn't going to be in it. So I told her I didn't want to work on things anymore. She believes it's out of anger, still believes I'm going to come back to her, and still tries to talk to me about it and be physical about it. It was to the point where she was trying to kiss me and take my pants down, which I really didn't want her doing. She just can't let go, and won't truly let me go so easy.\n\nSo I ask, did I do the right thing by walking away? Don't get me wrong, I will always love her and she will always hold a special place in my heart because she gave me 2 wonderful children, but my heart just isn't in working it out with her.", "summary": "Known wife 9 years. I saw problems. Suggested we fix. She ignored. I left. Then she said she wanted to fix things. I said no. Was I right?"}
{"id": "t3_2shb65", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] am a friend (I think) of hers [19/f], but I want to be more than friends", "post": "I've known a girl for about a year and a half. She was sweet as sugar, sharp as a tack, and witty like Oscar Wilde, not to mention beautiful. We go to the same college, have been in some of the same classes for three semesters, but that's about it. We are friends, don't get me wrong--she has helped me through problems and I've lent an ear to her as well--but we don't see each other much outside of class. I became enthralled after seeing her in a play. I was so taken. I was sitting next to her mother, very nice lady by the way. She mentioned who her daughter was, and I was visibly elated. \n\nBut I can't stop thinking about her, and can't help but think others are too. I think she's single, and I want to get to know her better, but I'm afraid to make a move, and if I don't make a move, someone else will, and I'll be stuck in the friend-zone for life. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I want to progress as well. Help!", "summary": "I like a spectacular girl a lot, but I don't want to lose her as a friend if I go forward"}
{"id": "t3_23ibzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my [20 F] 2 years, should I do no contact now or wait till she leaves...", "post": "I'm not sure what to do, we broke up recently while she was away on vacation but while she was away she messaged me that she might regret it but isn't so sure. Wanted to talk about things when she got back.  and now that she's coming back she wants to still \"see each other \" just not make it so serious.\n\nThat is until she goes away again in a few months time with a one way flight. \n\nI love her so much and want to keep this relationship but it looks like there will be an expiry date to it.   \n\nShould I just call it quits then?  is this something worth fighting for? I don't want us to end in bad terms, maybe there will be something in the future who knows.\n\nMaybe someone with a similar experience can enlighten me how it went with them if they continued it till their SO left and how it was after?", "summary": "gf of 2 years went on vacation we broke while she was away. Messaged me while she was away that she might regret that. And has come back recently and wants to see each other till she pretty much leaves for good.   Should I just end this now and no contact or stay till she leaves?"}
{"id": "t3_2zfxle", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "29m and 18f...18f about to graduate high school. How bad is this?", "post": "Okay, so I'm 29, no degree, make like 36k a year, aside from a car virtually no debt.  However, I've found that women my own age have ZERO interest in dating me.  They hear 36k and no degree and they're gone faster than I can say the military interrupted my path.  I have a baby face as well, most people think I'm 22 or 23.  Younger girls go nuts over me, women my own age avoid me like the plague.  I will get my degree in a few years, but I don't want to start looking for a relationship a few years from now.  At 32 or 33 years old most of the women my age will be divorcees with kids and what not.  Some people say age is just a number, go for it, others say it's super creepy.  I just feel like I don't have much of a choice sometimes.", "summary": "I feel like i'm forced to be alone or date women much younger"}
{"id": "t3_3vyd5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19f) and friend (19m) keep fighting over the dumbest things, is it my fault?", "post": "Update:  Well he didn't take it too well and deleted me off Skype and steam so I guess that ends that. \n\nSorry it's kinda long. \n\nSo I've known my friend \"John\" for a few weeks and we immediately became really close. We would play video games together and just hang out and talk for hours. We also started watching game of thrones together. Unfortunately he moved to a different state recently to go back to college. We still play video games and skype all the time. \n\nMy problem is that lately he's been getting upset with me for watching streams on twitch (I love watching streams and I've made some really close friends on a couple channels) rather than playing video games with him or watch game of thrones. \n\nAfter fighting with me for the majority of yesterday about it, I just gave in and watched game of thrones with him. It's kind of hard to coordinate videos so the timing can be a bit off, and this never seemed to bother him before but he made a huge deal out of it last night. It was really late for me and I was really tired and I just wanted to finish watching the episode and go to bed, but he kept having me pause the video so we could be at the same time. After like 10 minutes of this I just gave up and said I would mute my mic so he wouldn't hear my computer. He got upset with me and left. I tried to get him to talk to me about why he was upset but he just wouldn't tell me so I gave up and went to bed. \n\nHe's still mad at me and I have no idea why he keeps getting upset with me over this stuff. Am I just being insensitive?", "summary": "friend keeps getting mad at me for stuff and I don't understand why"}
{"id": "t3_44dwno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19 M] not sure if girl [18 F] likes me", "post": "We started off as friends about a year ago in college. A few months after I confessed my feelings and she said that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship. So I took it as a rejection and moved on. However, a few weeks before I told her this, she reacted in a very strange way upon hearing news that I would be quitting the club we were both in; she came down to my dorm and started crying hysterically. This really confused me.\n\nFast forward about almost a year later. I'm taking a year off from school but decide to visit my friends at school. I started texting her again a few weeks prior. So I also meet up with her at one point. We go together (just the two of us) for ice cream, and I decide to pay for the entire thing. She says she will pay next time. I notice that she put on noticeable makeup, which I perceive as a good sign as she doesn't usually wear it. Conversation is flowing, and she is laughing regularly. \n\nUpon her suggestion, we decide to visit some other mutual friends in their dorm. We all hang out for a bit, and I go to dinner with some other friends. I come back later that evening, and upon hearing I'm back in the dorms, she comes over. But she's dressed in her pajamas. So at this point, I'm thinking, she's way too comfortable with me if she isn't concerned about her being seen in her pajamas.\n\nNext day I leave, so I don't get to see her again. I continue to text her though.\n\nI'm not really sure where I stand with her. She's already rejected me once, but our recent interactions have gotten more flirty. There's a lot more I haven't mentioned, but these are the main points.", "summary": "Girl wears makeup to one-on-one meetup but then comes in pajamas to group meetup later that same day."}
{"id": "t3_2uqrvh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does this sound like im asking them out??", "post": "So there is this guy i work with at the radio station once a week for about an hour and a half, and he is cute and everything but i'm not looking to date anyone right now, and I just wanna hang out with him as friends. However I wanna ask him if he wants to go hang out at the gardens or at a park where there are swings and stuff but I'm a bit nervous because I'm scared if i do that he might think i'm hitting on him and he'll be like lol no see ya, byeeee. I don't know, even though I think he's cute I think just being friends with him right now would be a good thing haha. What do you think?", "summary": "If I ask a guy I see semi casually through work to hang out at the park with me will he think I'm hitting on him?"}
{"id": "t3_2nha4n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of 2 years. Our sex life has died.", "post": "SOOO back in Dec 2013 my bf deleted all of his porn.  Which I didn't even know he had.  Then in Jan I got pregnant with my second child.  (The first one gave me EXTREME stretch marks which always made me self conscious) Well in March our sex life died.  I'd get completely naked and try to seduce him only to get rejected.  Even after I had our baby he didn't even want bjs.  I offered.  So now I am just thinking he was unattracted to my body in the first place and the porn was what fueled his libido.  I don't think he is cheating on me.  I just think everything died because he chooses to look at my disfigured body instead of watching porn, that I don't arouse him because of my flaws.  He has always said they don't bother him but me being insecure I don't buy it.  He also says he's stressed and tired and the baby and blah blah blah.  So what do you guys think?", "summary": "when boyfriend stopped watching porn we stopped having sex regularly.  i think its me."}
{"id": "t3_j93mg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I've gained over 60 pounds in the last three years.  It starts coming off today.  But I'll probably need some guidance/motivation to help me along.", "post": "Around three years ago, I was in pretty decent shape (for me).  I'm a 6'1\"/M.  [I weighed around 175]  I had been heavy throughout most of my life, but had just gone through a divorce, battled off a terrible depression, and was working an extremely physical job.  I was pretty pleased with the progress I had made, and all of the attention I was getting wasn't bad either.  At around this time, I got into a great and healthy relationship, stopped smoking (I was over a pack a day), and got a better (albeit less physical) job.  Things were looking up.\n\nFast forward three years.  Still not smoking, still in the same great relationship, but I've gained around 60~65 pounds.  I just weighed myself today, and [I'm 240 pounds!]  You can probably tell from the picture that I'm very disappointed in myself.  \n\nHere's what I know I've been doing wrong:\n\n* Little to no exercise.\n* Beer, Fast Food, Restaurants have been my main food groups.\n* Overeating.  I've pretty much been gorging myself until I'm too full to eat another bite.  It's sick, I know.\n\nWe recently bought a grill, and I love it.  I also own a bicycle.  I'm trying to phase out beer in favor of red wine.  And carbs... sweet, delicious carbs.  I'm going to try to keep them to a minimum.\n\nI guess what I'm looking for is support.  Anyone whose been in my position with a story to tell would be helpful.  Any kind of fitness routine I could adopt, or good eating habits.  I just got MyFitnessPal for my phone, and have logged my first item (a cup of coffee).", "summary": "[Gained a bunch of weight.  Looking to LOSEIT!]"}
{"id": "t3_19ot1e", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So...", "post": "I guess this is where I'm admitting I'm kind of a fuck up.\n\nMy best friend, L, got together with this really nice, cool girl, K. They were damn near perfect for each other. But, she wanted to take a break because things were moving too fast, and she still kind of had feelings for her ex-boyfriend. \n\nWell, my best friend, I think as a coping mechanism, basically said everything he could to get over her and not get hurt, resulting in him saying things like it was a mistake to date you, yada yada. \n\nAnd then he got with her friend, M.\n\nI was like, whatever, his relationships tend to be short, and I just don't want to deal with any fallout from this at the moment, because I've got plenty of my own problems to deal with. But I still talked to K, because it seemed like a waste to let that friendship fall through.\n\nSo I guess at some point L and M hooked up. Whoopty-doo, good for him. I mentioned it to K, she had said to let me know if it happened and I figured it would be between us that I told her. But I guess not. That shit spread in school faster than a wild fire and goddamnit why can't I just tell people things without it fucking exploding in my face?\n\nL's not mad, which I think is a fucking blessing, 'cause I was super scared I'd lose his trust, but he wants me to stop talking to K completely.\n\nBut I don't know if I want to. She's just in a bad place and I want to help her, I guess, I feel obliged, but, God. I really shouldn't have to deal with this.", "summary": "stupid highschool bullshit and i fucked up, as is apropo for the rest of my life"}
{"id": "t3_2cuf0i", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Guy in neighborhood appears to be calling the cops every time I drive by.", "post": "So I recently moved into a house. For the past couple weeks I have been moving stuff with my car and checking mail at my old apartment. I drive through a certain neighborhood and a couple backroads to get to my old apartment, since I have stuff in my car and I want to go slow.  \n  \nAlright, I have a cold air intake on my car, naturally that makes it sound louder and more aggressive. I have never sped excessively, but I will agree that I did indeed go over the speed limit of 25mph (who wouldn't?). I have never endangered anyone, either.  \n  \nThe dude in question has a house near a stop sign, which I have never ran. Every time I drive by there he stops what he's doing and takes his phone out while staring at me. I even saw a cop driving into the neighborhood a few days back. He did it again today so now I am going to ask Reddit if he can possibly do anything. I am almost 100% positive that a cop must see a crime being committed or have some sort of evidence to do anything about it. I want to make it clear that I do indeed know how to deal with cops and I know my rights. I have considered getting out of my car and confronting him since I have no problem doing that kind of stuff, but I haven't since he is clearly retarded (/s). What should I do about him?  \n  \nAnyway,", "summary": "random dude calling cops every time I drive by, never did anything wrong, what should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1d0p00", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Going on a date but my friend just managed to put me off! (22F, 20M)", "post": "I got chatting with this guy in a bar about a week ago and he asked for my number. He seemed really nice and knows a few of my friends, so I agreed to go for a drink with him soon.\n\nI just told my friend that I'm meeting up with him tomorrow and she laughed and mentioned that he was being quite clingy while I was chatting to a (male) acquaintance outside the bar; apparently he said that there \"wasn't much point in him being there\" (presumably he thought I was 'interested' in the acquaintance).\n\nWe've been texting and he seems really genuine and nice...I was looking forward to seeing him until my friend said that, but now I feel all weird and put off! I don't know how to stop feeling awkward about it.\n\nAny advice on how to forget about my friend's input would be great; as much as I love her, I wish she hadn't said it! I never go on dates (since I got out of a six year relationship a year ago) and I don't want to end up with a bad experience because I went into it with a weird mindset.", "summary": "Going out with a guy tomorrow but my friend just said something to put me off him. How do I forget about what she said?"}
{"id": "t3_4nzz1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) just broke up with my now ex (19M) after an 8 month relationship, but I still have to go to class with him. He isn't taking it well, how do I handle it?", "post": "So i just broke up with a guy Id been with for 8 months. We met in college and have always had all our classes together. Its a private culinary program with small classes and we are graded in our labs by how well we work together.\n\nI broke up with him because I knew we had different plans after school making us basically a dead end relationship. After realizing this I decided to end it. He doesn't understand why we cant cross that bridge when we get to it, but I honestly don't want to. I want someone who's plans match or work with mine and his didn't. \n\nSo now we're on a two week break, I broke up with him the first day so we would have two weeks to come to terms with it. He called me today and he has a \"I don't care what you say we WILL end up together\" attitude.\n\nI love this free, independent, living my own life thing. I'm also a very good student and so is he but I'm afraid of this affecting that this next quarter. What can/should I do to help this? Any help is appreciated!", "summary": "Ex isn't taking the breakup well, We have hands on cooking classes together graded on teamwork. How do I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_3tgls5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my wife [31 F] of two years refuses to split our left over money now that she got a salaried job", "post": "For the past two years my wife had a job that paid her kinda shitty and was not salary but hourly with no vacation so because of this I made up by paying more on the bills and stuff like that so that she didn't have to run out of money paying since she made a lot less then me. \n\nNow she got a salaried job where she make 70k and I make 63k. So I told her we should pay all the bills (cable, electric, rent, etc) from one account then split up the left over money 50/50 so neither feels cheated of the money they have left over to spend at the end of the month. She refuses and said that it's not fair and that we should split the bills and then have whatever we have left over. So I told her fine then you pay more then me like I have been doing which she also refused to do. \n\nSo basically my wife is refusing to split the finances now that she is making money and being greedy. What is a good way to convey how I feel and is it right that I feel this is unfair for her to do that?", "summary": "Used to pay more got the bills now that wife gets paid more she refuses to evenly split the money."}
{"id": "t3_3cudju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I'm [33F] on week four of no contact following my breakup with my cheating bf [34M] - not any easier.", "post": "Original post: \n\nHi all, some of you asked for an update so here it is. I'm on week four of no contact with the ex. I've definitely gone through every emotion out there but keep finding myself sad. I'm going to the gym, hanging out with friends, and generally trying to be good to myself. Just looking for a little support or words of encouragement because I didn't expect it to be this hard a month into the breakup. You were all so kind to me the last time when I was new - guess I'm hoping for more of the same. That's right, I want to lean on my fellow redditors a bit :)\n\nI miss him a lot even though he broke my trust. I keep having weak moments where I want to reach out and tell him I miss him but I squash them every time. When will they go away?", "summary": "Broke up with my cheating boyfriend. I know I made the right move but am still hurting. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4wxf3c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being too stoked for lunch", "post": "This just happened right now. I came home from work and was about to make lunch. Well I thought chicken with barbecue sauce would hit the spot. In order to find the right size bowl I had to open the cupboard...I'll admit I'm not the most graceful person. I open the cupboard door and reach for an amber glass bowl. It's been in my family for decades and we use for everything. As I reach for the bowl it slips through my fingers smacking across the counter and landing on the glass top stove. It no sooner hits the stove landing sideways cracking down the center as pieces flew in every direction. All I could do was stand there shocked. There were shards of glass everywhere they looked like big chunks of glitter. I carefully picked up the now halved bowl so I could see where the crack slithered through. I cleaned up the shards of glass on the stovetop but kept the halves of amber glass. I feel bad now because that was my mom's favorite bowl and it's irreplaceable:(", "summary": "I knocked a glass bowl out of the cupboard and it smashed on the glass stovetop."}
{"id": "t3_2109jp", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Revenge is a dish served smiling", "post": "I work at a not-so-fancy breakfast place in Canada. A couple of weeks ago, I served a young (late teens) couple at about 2 in the am. He was sober, yet managed to be more obnoxious and loud than any of the drunks around him. They both ordered, they both ate it all and in the end he decided his food was apparently awful. Whatever, if he wants to be a jerk and get a free meal, I really don't care. \n\nWhat really ticked me off was that as his girlfriend was paying for her meal (which he had also mentioned she should get for free even though there was nothing wrong with hers) he began complaining about those \"damn immigrant cooks\" that shouldn't work there and don't know how to cook bacon at a \"Canadian owned and run restaurant\" (its not. Our slogan is \"America's diner...\") I might also mention that while I don't have an accent, it's obvious that my background is not Caucasian. All of this really, really pissed me off, but the anger didn't really set in until the douche was halfway out the door. Besides, my manager (also an immigrant) was right behind me and his girlfriend was clearly embarrassed so I let it go, promising myself if I ever saw this asshat again I would get my sweet revenge. \n\nSkip forward to last weekend, guess who is back in my serving section! Acting just as obnoxious too (what a surprise). He gets a burger and a salad this time. Now I'm all giddy because while the cook makes his burger, I get to put together his salad. I've actually never messed around with peoples food before, and there are cameras around so i wanted to be careful. I didn't want to just spit in it because ew and stereotypes so I opted for a slightly more creative and positively more disgusting approach of mixing in delicious, fresh squeezed table rag juices in with his ceasar. At 3 in the morning on a Saturday night, you can imagine what those rag buckets look like. I have never been so pleased to see someone enjoy their meal like he did that night. No complaints that time!\n\nI also rubbed my unwashed hand all up in the ice of his coke refill. It was glorious.", "summary": "if you're gonna demand free food, don't be a racist about it. Or else dirt."}
{"id": "t3_2xit84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex-gf [20 F] of 2 months, I still feel responsible for her happiness.", "post": "Me and my ex were together for about 6 months, and we ended on good terms (We had been friends for a year prior to starting to see each other). We stayed in contact, and I have tried to scale back talking to her recently because I feel like it is best way for us to move on. However we still have mutual friends, and occasionally cross paths, when she finds out I've slept with someone she becomes upset and angry at me. I want to stay friends with her, but her behaviour seems unreasonable, and I really would prefer not to cut off contact with someone I have known for over a year.\n\nShe will sometimes make comments about people she's kissed, and to be honest I don't really care although I would prefer if it wasn't rubbed in my face. I want her to move on and be happy, like I'm trying to do, but I don't think its right that I feel like i'm committing a betrayal by doing this.\n\nDoes anyone have advice or even experience with a similar situation?", "summary": "Ex still gets upset at me, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mwqvg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [24M] am attracted to a female [24F] work colleague, but I'm not sure what to do next.", "post": "Okay, so here's the info I've got:\n\n* We work on separate departments, but talk a fair amount\n\n* I know she's single\n\n* I have no idea if she likes me as more than a friend\n\n* I'm very socially awkward, so just straight up asking her out isn't going to work\n\n* We've been out socially, but only as part of a larger group\n\n* We share a lot of common interests\n\n* I've learnt through a friend that she's very picky, but \"not in the way you'd think\"\n\n* Physically, I look like a train wreck, but I'm working to improve it\n\n* My last relationship ended when I was 17 and the last time I got intimate with a girl was at 18 (thanks, freshers week)\n\n* Linked with the point above, I have this feeling that the world of dating has evolved around me", "summary": "I'm a mess but there's this girl I like. Help me, /r/dating_advice, you're my only hope"}
{"id": "t3_1kxwwa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27m] unhappy in my relationship [28f]. Work it out? Write it off? Must decide soon.", "post": "First, I want to say that this may well be biased, and if it is, I want to know if you feel that way reading it.  I don't care who is right, I just want to be happy--\n\nI'm not sure how to even approach this, but I'm unhappy in my relationship.  We have been together for over a year, and it has been up and down.  Most of our arguments stem from her being negative and me asking her not to act this way.  She is self-deprecating, standoffish, and has low self-esteem.  She has no friends other than me and I feel like she gets highly possessive when I want to spend time with anyone else. (Every friday evening I go out with my little brother to play a card game for 2-3 hours, but other than that we spend all our free time together.  I always get shit about it, even though I invite her along.  Every weekend we see a movie, go to the park, have lunch or dinner out, and sometimes go shopping/etc.)\n\nI do feel that we have very good communication, which is something I try to emphasize whenever we get in arguments, but I'm growing tired of feeling like the bad guy when I believe I'm doing what I can do be the best SO I can be.\n\nTo complicate things, we share an apartment with my little brother (19) and although she initially was fine with the idea, she doesn't like it now(average teenager issues), and I can't financially afford to live without her unless I take at least the next semester off from school.  Tuition is due next Friday.\n\nThere is a wall of text I could write, but I don't know what information is pertinent.  I just want to be happy, and I feel like she is at times a weight dragging me down, despite our best efforts to stay afloat.  I know she is trying, and I know I am trying, but I feel like maybe it just isn't enough.\n\nThanks for reading and for any advice.", "summary": "unhappy and need to decide whether to break it off or keep trying by next week."}
{"id": "t3_e0f7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you choose a girl to ask out?", "post": "So, I'm a newbie at this dating game, having never asked a girl out, etc. And as a freshman in college, I realize there's still quite a bit of time out there, but this seems to be a fundamental stumbling block I'm running into, and I would appreciate your advice, Reddit.\n\nI've been a lurker around subreddits like this for quite a while, and feel like I have a rough grip on many of the general concepts that are common themes: the necessity of eye contact and smiles to single someone out, confidence to initiate, and touch to escalate.\n\nBut in my case I get stuck at the first step. While I'm in engineering, more than a tad awkward, and probably not the best looking of guys (A short skinny long-haired ginger), I've managed to come into contact with a non-trivial number of girls that I would consider dateable. However, in initial, or follow-up interactions with any of them, I cannot for the life of me discern if they have any interest whatsoever. I've recently got numbers from a few of them, so should I just take a flying leap, take one or a few out to coffee or lunch, or should I maintain a holding pattern until I run into a girl that I can tell has some level of interest?\n\nIt's only been on very rare occasions (quite possibly one) in my life that I've had girls express much of any interest in me, even looking back on my life with my (only slightly) more mature eyes, so I need an idea of what needs to happen.", "summary": "What level of reciprocity do you look for before asking a girl out?"}
{"id": "t3_1m8ibi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I (25m) push things to fast?", "post": "We (25m/25f) had three weeks to get things rolling. She broke up with her boyfriend befor and started hanging out with me and texting flirty stuff. After the three weeks I had to leave town. I wanted her to be clear about my intentions and told her that I like her.\n\nShe rejected me because of the drama with her ex and told me that she isn't available for something new right now. I told her I'm fine with it. We never met up again and I was gone. I stopped texting her immedieatly and tried to forget her. Yesterday she initiated texting again and told me she bought a book I spoke about and hopes I arrived well... \n\nI'm starting to think that I was a little bit forward. She is obviously thinking about me. And I dont have the feeling to be friendzoned. But I'm not sure about that. How should I keep the conversation going? Or should I get out?", "summary": "She rejected me but keeps texting"}
{"id": "t3_4jug0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F20) recently started fighting with my sister (18) more and more and I don't understand why", "post": "Let me start this off by saying my sister and I have NEVER fought. We were both homeschooled from K-12th grade and are best friends. I call her my soulmate all the time and I truly feel that I only know love exists because of how much I love her (corny as fuck but completely true). \n\nShe used to be very introverted and kept to herself a lot, whereas I've always been the opposite- more outgoing, more friends, etc. Within the past year or so, she started working at a theme park, made a lot of friends, and she's become more of a social butterfly than I ever was. And Ive recently gotten out of a long-term relationship, so I'm kind of keeping to myself right now. \n\nSince things have changed for both of us, we seem to bicker more. And we've NEVER EVER fought. The thought of even disagreeing on a sandwich would've make me cry a year ago. And now, I won't lie, she kind of pisses me off sometimes. And that fucking breaks my damn heart because I'm not exactly sure what's happening. I don't know if maybe coming out of a relationship is making me more sensitive? I just feel like she's 18 and so into her friends and social life and I'm on the back burner. And I don't want to fight with her.", "summary": "recently started fighting with my sister and it's very out of character for us"}
{"id": "t3_y5uj9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most interesting theory/hidden truth about a movie, television show, piece of literature, etc. that you have discovered? I'll start...", "post": "Ok, so we've all seen Pulp Fiction, right? Right. And if you have not yet seen this film, I highly suggest you stop right here as to not spoil your awaiting viewer experience. Instead, I would propose that get off Reddit, step outside for some fresh air, and take some time for yourself to reflect on what it really is you are doing with your life. \n\nAnyways, so we all know about the briefcase. The brief case that Jules (Samuel L. Jackson) and Vincent (John Travolta) go to retrieve from the younger fellows in some apartment for their boss Marsellus Wallace (Ving Rhames). Well, Tarantino (director, duh), never shows what is in this briefcase, a briefcase that is so important that people are murdered because of it. The only clue, or the only clue I noticed, was when Vincent opened it, the briefcase gave off a \"golden glare\". Furthermore, being the intuitive and highly socially inadequate type cat that I am, I did a little investigating. I was then that I discovered a theory that blew my mind. \n\nIn a relatively early scene in the movie, the one where Butch (Bruce Willis) meets with Marsellus in the bar, there is a shot of the back of Marcellus's head. This shot blatantly shows viewers a band aid on the back of Marcellus's head...Ok, so what? Apparently, in bible somewheres, idfk where, it says that when the devil takes your soul, he does so from the back of your head...kind of interesting right?\n\nAnother intriguing observation is from the actual scene where Vince and Jules are in the apartment. Before Vince opens the case, there is another blatant shot that focuses on the 3-number code to access the contents of the briefcase. And what do you know? The code is 666. Also, if you study Vince's reaction to viewing the contents of the briefcase, you'll see that something in that case throws him off his game.", "summary": "In conclusion, regarding the mysterious briefcase in the movie Pulp Fiction, the theory is that Marcellus Wallace lost his soul to the devil and it is trapped inside the briefcase. The younger guys in the apartment are satan's minions (I know, this part is a little hard to believe) who are sent to make a deal with Marcellus for his soul to be returned to him."}
{"id": "t3_36sa1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22/F] really unhappy with my boyfriend [22/M] of 9 months. How to get the spark back?", "post": "*read my other reddits*\n\nWhen we started dating, he was this macho man that did a lot of adventurous things with me. 9 month after everything is different. His mother was diagnosed with cancer so naturally he had to spend more time with her. *see reddit why we have problems about this* \n\nWhenever we see each other, it just feels different. Whenever he kisses me, I don't feel happy. Whenever he hugs me, I don't feel the warmth. Whenever he looks at me, it just doesn't feel like he loves me. Everything feels forced. & I don't know if it is because he's hurting about his mother, or because he is just plain lying to me. \n\nIn all honesty, I just want to run far away from him because I know he won't even notice if I was gone. I think he would be more happy. I feel so lonely, and I really want to talk to him, but he's too sensitive and he doesn't know how to listen. \n\nWhen I told him, \"You're taking me for granted\" instead of saying, how babe, can we work it out, he said, \"Really? after all the things I've done for you?\" \n\nI just just so unhappy with him. I don't know what else to do to make it work. He changed a lot- he acts so negative, sensitive, and has a lot of mood swings, he also gained weight, which I don't mind, but his attitude about it really sucks, he has become so insecure about it..", "summary": "I am so unhappy with our relationship, I feel like we are drifting apart. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yvxem", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just disgusted.", "post": "I'm so fucking tired of hearing all about this drug culture bullshit. Oh yeah let's just legalize everything and let people do what they want, if they want to do crack let'em, if they want to do heroin then more power to them, are you fucking people insane. I agree that we shouldn't just throw people in jail for that kind of shit but mandatory rehab should be the only other option. It's fucking retarded. I have seen what drugs like heroin do to people, I almost lost my sister to that shit. And don't even get me started on fucking weed people, guess what dumbasses if you claim you can stop anytime but you don't want to because it feels so good, you are dependent. Stop pushing that shit on other people it's fucking annoying. And yes you can get addicted to weed and yes you can go through withdrawal from it. That shit is disgusting and gives me migraines. \"Well you just haven't found the right kind of weed\" yeah right fuck off I have tried plenty. That and it made me paranoid as fuck which does not in any way help with my anxiety disorder. No it's not a fucking cure all and while it may help a lot of people it's not the part that gets you high that helps (THC) it's the CDB which won't get you high at all. Personally I don't want them to legalize it where I live because I don't want to smell that shit, just thinking of it gets me headaches.", "summary": "fuck drugs I have enough problems as is without having to deal with this shit."}
{"id": "t3_4mqkkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (33F) daughter (7F) is picking up inappropriate behaviors from her father's (33M) new fianc\u00e9e's (27F) family.", "post": "So my ex and I have been divorced for about four years. We share 50-50 custody and generally, we've coparented together very well during this time, and have had minimal differences in philosophy and what's appropriate behavior for our kids. But he's recently engaged to a woman (who has three kids of her own from previous relationships) and now...not so much. \n\nMost of the things that have kind of made me go O.o are minor things, but tonight at dinner my 7 year old daughter suggested we take a shot. After the record scratched in my brain, I asked her what she meant and then proceeded to describe the process of taking a shot of alcohol. I asked her where she learned about that, and she mentioned that Mamaw (fianc\u00e9e's grandmother) was taking shots of apple juice from actual shot glasses with her and her future stepsisters (who are 10 and 6). And then later on in the evening, she demonstrated how she'd learned to twerk, and then started talking about how she needed to get some thong underwear. \n\nI had a conversation with my daughter about how all those things are inappropriate for a child of her age, and regardless of what her father might allow that kind of thing was not okay in my house. But I'm not sure how to bring it up with my ex--I feel like I should just to get it out there, and I also feel like before this new relationship he'd have had the same problem I did with his SEVEN YEAR OLD acting like this. But now...his fianc\u00e9e can do no wrong and he will totally just be all, not your time, not your concern.  I'm worried that if I say anything to him, it won't accomplish anything at all but put him on edge and I'm trying to tread lightly with concerns about his new relationship and  not to rock the boat until I absolutely have to in all this. \n\nShould I maybe just pocket this incident and see where it goes, reinforcing what's appropriate with my daughter when she's with me and then see what happens later? Does that seem too hands off?", "summary": "ex husband's new fianc\u00e9e's family is exposing my daughter to age-inappropriate behaviors and I'm not sure if/how I should approach him about it."}
{"id": "t3_1gwsax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 F] life with [28 M] boyfriend is so wonderful, I have become constantly worried about him dying", "post": "I have lived through a lot, have had many other relationships, a lot of enjoyable solitude...and ever since I have been with \"M\" (3 years) I  feel completely happy and at peace. We fell in love so hard with each other that we moved in together only a few months into our relationship (something that neither one of us thought we'd do with someone).\n\nOur bond is so strong that the only thing that will break it is death. The past few weeks, I have become worried sick about that happening. I don't bug or cry to him about it, since there isn't anything he can do about it. I just tell him I love him and to be safe (he's an ironworker). This feeling developed after listening to his \"close-calls\" from his new, poorly managed jobsite.\n\nI know he's smart and won't do anything stupid to get himself killed....it's everyone else in the world I don't trust. Car and workplace accidents happen. Can you please give me some advice on how to deal with my new fears? I am such a laid-back lady, I have never felt this way before.", "summary": "Need some advice on how to deal with the pit of fear in me that my partner will just die unexpectedly in an accident***"}
{"id": "t3_4nxzqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 3 years 7 months. Am I a horrible son for wanting to spend Christmas with her instead of my family [60M/48F/28F]?", "post": "My girlfriend [22F] and I have been with each other for 3 years 8 months and are just about to move into a new apartment after living with my parents [60M/48F] for the past year after graduating university.\n\nThis year my girlfriend has told me that she would like to spend Christmas with me. I think it's a great idea and I really want to - but it would mean not being able to spend it with my family. Am I a horrible son for wanting this?\n\nChristmas in my family - specifically mother - is a contentious subject. My older sister, now 28, spent Christmas with her boyfriend at the time after a fall out with my mother and my mother didn't speak to her for at least a year after that, and the relationship has been rocky since then for the past eight years. To my family - mainly mother - Christmas is a time that you spend with family, and only family. Boyfriends/Girlfriends etc. are not included.\n\nAm I a horrible son for wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriend? I worry that if I do, my relationship with my parents will strain in the same way that my sister's did. I know that my father will be disappointed but my mother will be completely unbearable.\n\nI have offered that my girlfriend and I could do Christmas together, in our new flat, on our own, just as a day to ourselves, and then visit family for the rest of the holiday period. \n\nReddit, how can I make Christmas a happy holiday for everybody?", "summary": "I want to spend Christmas with girlfriend - my parents won't be happy - am I a horrible son for wanting this?"}
{"id": "t3_3urlx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21/M) got blackout drunk Friday night and upset a girl (28/F) I've recently started seeing and now she won't talk to me", "post": "Edit: should be 18/F not 28/F in the title \n\nSo I was out Friday night and a girl I've started seeing recently came and met me in the club. She was a little annoyed from the get go because I didn't have any signal and she kept messaging me to go and meet her outside before finally coming in.\n\nAfter meeting her I remember literally nothing, according to my friends me and her left together and went back home to mine.\n\nI wake up on my own but see her watch is on my bedside table and that I messaged her at 4.30am \"sorry for being such a prick last night, I do really like you\". \n\nSo I message her \"Why aren't you at mine?\" And she replies \"what you don't remember?\"\n\nI send her a message saying if I did anything wrong I really am sorry etc, but she doesn't reply. I leave it until Saturday night then message her asking her to please talk to me and telling her that her watch is still at mine.\n\nIt's Sunday night and still no response. I didn't message her today in case she wanted time without me bothering her\n\nShould I message her tomorrow? What sort of thing should I say? I have literally no recollection of what I did but I want her to know I'm sorry. I don't get drunk enough that I can't remember the night before so I have no clue how I got into such a state, my friends all said I seemed fine and I didn't spend that much money.\n\nI don't really know how I can make things right because I don't know what went wrong... I feel bad for her though because I must've done something really shitty", "summary": "got blackout drunk, went home with a girl I've been seeing, she ends up leaving at 4am because I must've been acting like a dick and now she won't speak to me. Need to know how to approach the situation"}
{"id": "t3_1zwpmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] have been having dreams of infidelity. How can I stop them?", "post": "It started about a month ago, but I keep dreaming of being with one of my coworkers. I have been in a happy relationship for 3 years, so I don't understand why I've been having these dreams. The dreams are more vivid than anything I've ever had before. It's like starting a new relationship all over again - with the butterflies in the stomach, and the shyness at taking that first kiss, etc. When I'm with my SO, I have brief moments of remembering these dreams, and I feel awful that my dreams have me cheating on him. \n\nMy coworker in real life is good looking, but that's about it. The worst part is that he has shown himself several times in the past to be a complete asshole, and I know that any time I talk with him, he has some stupid arrogant quip to respond to everything I have to say. I would hate to have to deal with him every day outside of work, so needless to say, these dreams are absolutely awful once I wake up. I dream that he's sweet and he makes me happy, but when I'm awake, I realize that it's my current SO, but now it keeps bugging me in the waking world of what is going on in my dreams. I feel like it's affecting my relationship, since these dreams have been so vivid that I feel like I actually cheated on him. Help? :(", "summary": "I've been having crazy-vivid dreams of being in love with a complete asshole that I work with. Dream world, he's awesome. Waking world, he's a total dick that I can't stand to be around, and I feel like I've cheated on my current SO. Is there any advice on how to get over these dreams, or this feeling?"}
{"id": "t3_f0n6w", "subreddit": "self", "title": "New job with a side of personality conflict(Day 1)", "post": "I have been hired on for a brand new storefront of this decently sized business. The type of business isn't really important to this question but... Let me get to it.\n\nThis one female(I am a male) around the age of 20 or so is making my spider sense tingle in regards that her and myself will get in stupid petty conflicts. She comes off catty and full of ego. \n\nI'm a more laid back person but can be quite social,funny, and quirky at times.  The event that sticks in my mind so well was that the entire new team of hire-ons were having a discussion about how to deal with the front of house(but the company refers it to FOH). I made a side comment of how i'll call it \"Foh\" (think of it rhyming with snow). Anyway, she quickly snapped off with a \"Uhhh no, I dont think soooo\".  \n\nMind you she is at the same pay-scale as myself and has no direct authority over me. But I found this to be quite profound as a first impression.", "summary": "How do I deal with a female at my new job that I'm positive will be an attention craving bitch and it will bug the fuck out of me. I don't want to be confrontational but I don't want to play it so reserved that she will try to walk all over me(Granted if this were to happen I can come off as a huge dick but i'd rather not lose my job)"}
{"id": "t3_sg2cw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I messed things up with a friend of mine and I want to fix it", "post": "1) I met this guy through my work and we chatted a few times. He has a girlfriend, but I never expressed interest in him untill after he expressed interest in me. We were never super close but he's a cool guy. We hung out at his apartment a few times and he acted pretty weird. I guess he felt guilty about hanging out with me while he had a girlfriend but it was all plutanic! So on New Years I fucked up and texted him something flirty and stupid and he called me the next day really mad. We stopped talking after that. I appologized like 2 months later over text but he still ignors me and all that.", "summary": "I flirted with a boy who had a girlfriend and now we cant be friends."}
{"id": "t3_252o2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M]: I am really bad at casual physical contact... please help!", "post": "This problem has plagued me all my off. I just carry myself in a stiff, awkward, kind of clumsy way and I'm bad when it comes to physical touch. \n\nSitting next to someone on a couch? My shoulders are hunched, my hands are clasped, my muscles tense like a puma ready to strike!\n\nSomeone goes to pat me on the back or touch my shoulder? I instinctively dodge out of the way. \n\nHugs? Initially met with a fighting stance before I finally loosen up. \n\nThis has been a problem in every serious romantic relationship I've ever had (I've had five serious relationships total). I hear things like: \"Do you not like me? Are you embarrassed to be seen with me?\" \n\nTo make up for it, I have to be very conscious of touch, which is also awkward. I can't just naturally hold a girl's hand. I feel like my body language is saying in a robotic way: \"I am going to hold your hand now.\" Same with putting my arm around my sweetie or whatever. \n\nHere's the thing: I like to touch, and I like being touched! In my brain I have no qualms with it at all and love physical contact. You know how some people hate it? Not me! Love it. But my body and brain do not agree on this, somehow.\n\nI'm in the very early stages of a new relationship and I don't want this to be a problem. I don't want her to think I'm a weirdo because I'm bad at hand holding in public. I want to get over this somehow... ehhhh help?", "summary": "I'm super awkward when it comes to touching/being touched, even though mentally I don't have any hangups with it."}
{"id": "t3_131vh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend of two years [27m] and I [23f] got into such a serious fight today, cops came to the door.  Help.", "post": "We've been together for two years.  Living together for the better part of one.  We've had our share of fights - our share of really bad fights.  Hours long, screaming, him blocking me into a room and not letting me out, me then patently ignoring him.  The biggest part of the bad stuff is the fact that for the whole first year, his ex was still on his phone plan, still way more part of the picture than I felt comfortable with - he would have me be quiet when she called so she wouldn't know he was at my place and be hurt, etc - and when I complained about these things, he basically dismissed my problems and I didn't feel like I could do anything about it.  He convinced me that I was wrong, even though I felt sure I was being fucked, and I didn't have the confidence to leave.\n\nAfter the first year he changed heart, but I've remained bitter.  He claims that during the first year I was seeing things wrong and, even though he admits he made mistakes, he said if I had just listened to him, things wouldn't have gotten so awful to start.  I don't know.  We go back and forth between everything being utterly wonderful - when things are good, we are each other's world.  When things are bad, we scuffle physically, put holes in the wall, give each other bruises - and tonight it all got all the more real when a policewoman came to the door and said next time this happened, someone would get arrested.  I don't really have any friends, I know I'm co-dependent, I'm terrified to leave, and to top it all off,  I really do love him - but I can't keep doing this.  I am double-majoring and planning on going to graduate school and I don't have the time or the energy, and it's breaking my fucking heart.  He wants to just start over again, but my feelings will always be tinted by the way he treated me in the first year (a perception he says is somewhat mistaken).", "summary": "boyfriend and I really love each other but have serious fights due to a lot of shit in the past.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_xox12", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Fixing high credit utilization on one account", "post": "So this is based on my understanding of how credit scores view credit utilization which is: a) credit utilization is highest balance over some historical period divided by current limit b) % utilization is considered on each account separately.\n\nNot understanding how credit scores were computed some years ago, I asked my credit card company to stop raising my credit limit, which they had done occasionally. Now I switched from using two cards to one, and of course have more expenses. As a result I'm now at about 50% utilization (balance paid in full every month). I'm afraid this will hurt me if I attempt to refinance. I could start dividing expenses between cards, but that won't fix the historical consideration.", "summary": "Can I (and should I) ask Chase if they'll raise my limit without doing a hard pull."}
{"id": "t3_1fhus7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feel like I'm wasting time.", "post": "I'm a 23 year old male on summer vacation after my third shitty year of college. When I say shitty I mean that I've been skating by, failing a handful of classes, and convincing my counselor to give me more chances. I've done so horribly because I've been an alcoholic for all of that time. Today is my 43rd day without a drink and that is something I feel great about physically and emotionally. There is certainly more clarity in my mind than there has been.\n\nHowever I've just been terribly unproductive and bored. I feel like I'm having a quarter-life crisis. I'm clear enough to see that I should be doing something meaningful and helpful for the world but too stuck in my old ways to make a change. There are so many things I want to do but never manage to get started. I want to volunteer, get a job, meet new people, go out and have fun. It's been especially hard to do the last two things since I've stopped drinking. Most of my friends are home for the summer while I still live on campus which is pretty desolate. I don't have a Facebook so it's hard to link up with the leftovers and I'm okay with that because Facebook just isn't worth it.", "summary": "I don't want to look back in 10 years and be filled with regret over all the things I could have accomplished."}
{"id": "t3_1f62ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (15 M) friend (16 M) screwed me over with a girl we both like (17 F).", "post": "I (15 M) know I'm a bit young, but I liked this girl (17 F) and my friend (16 M) did too. I have been friends with both of them for around a year. So my friend went to his Junior Prom with this girl which was what sparked his interest in her. \n\nI was walking with the girl and about to ask her out when my friend came and interrupted us. My friend and I kept trying to get each other to leave because coincidentally, we were both gonna ask her out on that day.\n\nThe girl had to go and my friend got angry at me. We both revealed that we were going to ask this girl out on that day and he asked if he could ask her out first. He told me to \"just let him have this one\" even though he was the taller, more attractive guy. \n\nI said fine and he went on a date with her. The day after, he told me that if I had asked her out first, she would have said yes and we would have had a date. \n\nI also know that the age difference is kind of important in school, but to me this girl is pretty amazing.\n\nWhat should I do, and what can I do?", "summary": "friend screwed me over with a girl and i dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_50cjj3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my SO [21 M] have been together on and off (mostly on) for two year, things are great but I constantly think about breaking up with him.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now. I've broken things off with him twice due to a dead bedroom and feeling unappreciated. He has a dry/sarcastic sense of humor that can come off as being pretty mean. I was quick to end things because I swore to myself that I would not be like my mother and let men walk all over me. \n\nWe have be patching things up for the past 2-3 months and everything has been great! But, I constantly think about breaking up with him even though I want to be with him. We have different view in life when it comes to traveling, moving to new places, and wanting to do fun things so this can be a little off putting for me but I feel like that isn't a good enough reason to end things a third time. I truly do love him and want to be with him but can't shake the wanting to break up feeling.\n  \n\nIs there a way I can change this feeling? Or, any advice to help it?", "summary": "Things are great between my SO and I but I can't stop thinking about breaking up with him. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_41zqte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible for me (21F) to ask my very religious roommate (18F) for time alone with my boyfriend (21M)?", "post": "Okay, so I don't have a lot of friends.  It's always been difficult for me to make connections with new people, and other than my boyfriend I have zero close friends.  This leads to me receiving a random roommate every year.  \n\nI was abroad last semester, and returned to my home campus and was matched with my current roommate, we'll call her Rosie.  Rosie is very sweet, fun, and doesn't have a lot of friends either.  She's a freshman and I'm a junior, but we've gotten to be quite close in the last month.  I'm establishing all this to say that she's not just a random roommate, but someone I consider a friend.  \n\nRosie is religious (recently converted to Catholicism) and has never dated.  She knows and likes my boyfriend, Kyle, but they've only interacted a couple times.  Rosie is always in the room, usually studying.  She doesn't go to the dining hall and she isn't in any clubs or activities, so if she's not in class she's right here in the room.\n\nMy boyfriend (we've been together 3 years) and I arranged our intimate time around her schedule.  The only time she's in class and we aren't is early Friday morning for one hour, so that's when he comes over and we cuddle/have sex.  This is the only alone time we get, so I value it greatly.  \n\nRosie told me that on Fridays, her class is no longer mandatory so she doesn't think she'll go at that time anymore.  This leaves me with zero time alone with my boyfriend, which is a dismal prospect.  Rosie thinks Kyle and I are abstinent, and seeing as this is my first positive roommate experience ever, I don't want this to spoil her impression of me.\n\nIs there a way to ask for a little alone time without coming across as creepy or immoral?", "summary": "My young, naive, religious roommate and I are close friends, but I want a little time alone with my boyfriend and don't know how to tell her without it spoiling her impression of me."}
{"id": "t3_3w6kif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22 M] let a good friend [22 F] of 1 1/2 years who broke up with her boyfriend know that I'm not interested in a relationship without ruining our friendship?", "post": "Throwaway because another friend knows my Reddit username. \n\nFor some starting context, she had a boyfriend when she became friends with me and the rest of our group due to common interests. (At this point, our group has 5 guys and 3 girls.) I'm assuming that their relationship became rocky at some point, because she starts complaining about stuff her boyfriend does to us and said she was considering breaking up with him. She stopped hanging out with us because she said it was making her boyfriend feel weird, though she did keep in touch online. A month later, she was hanging out with us again, after she broke up with her boyfriend when she discovered he was cheating on her.\n\nFast forward a bit. Still good friends as always, but she's starting to address more talk to me. More eye contact. Laughs at what I say more. She starts inviting me - and just me - to hang out more (nothing big, play some co-op games or do a favor for her.) Quite a bit more touchy with me. Recently, she hugged me and took a big sniff and asked what I put on to smell so good (I didn't put anything on, in fact, I was a little sweaty after running to not be late.) Stuff like that.\n\nI don't know if she's definitely trying to give a hint or not, but I really just want to be friends with her. Not that she's not attractive, but I got to know her under the pretext of not expecting a relationship, and I really see her as too close a friend for me to feel confortable with anything else and would rather not ruin our friendship. What should I do to keep our friendship if she does want something more?", "summary": "Friend, who had a boyfriend when she joined our group, has problems with boyfriend, breaks up with him, starts acting more flirty towards me. How to just stay good friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3seost", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend [32M] of 5 years have agreed x isn't cheating, is this x or y", "post": "In the last year or so (dunno really) my boyfriend and II were joking around and came up with the idea that if someone is willing to give either of us oral sex/\"hand\" sex (???) without us reciprocating, kissing, etc, then it's not cheating and we can enjoy it guilt free. I liked the idea and brought it up later asking if he was actually cool with it. He was pretty amused and said of course because he thinks he's more likely to find a willing participant than I am. But he said it wouldn't bother him.\n\nSo last week a guy and I went out to dinner as friends (we both go out with whoever we want) and then went back to his place for cappuccino. He sat very close to me and began rubbing my back and shoulders. It ended up that he was rubbing me through my tights and kissing my neck. I never let him kiss my face and told him \"Okay but no kissing\", which he laughed at but respected. I never touched him sexually or romantically, never kissed him, never reciprocated. I think this falls into our not-cheating understanding but I am curious what you guys think. \n\nMy boyfriend and I also agreed we do not want to know if we do end up getting this \"free\" oral/hands sex so I don't really want to discuss it unless it sou ds really off to you guys. Also before it's brought up - I am going to talk to my male friend tomorrow when I see him and explain the situation with my boyfriend. I didn't consider at the time that it wasn't fair to my friend to not explain before/when things got heated. I really only thought of it after.", "summary": "Is what happened cheating, in your opinion, considering the agreement I have with my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_4y7ois", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and girlfriend [19 F] of 2 months live a 2-3 flight from each other, how to make things work?", "post": "There's this girl that I had met on a graduation trip to Mexico about a year ago. She lives in Winnipeg and I live in Ottawa. We really connected. We had dinner together several nights, I stayed over in her room, we went clubbing, just in general we had a really good time in each other's company. But things just didn't work out and we both found someone else.\n\nBoth of our relationships have recently fallen through. And we've been supporting each other and talking a lot. We both have really strong feelings for each other and we miss each other a lot. We're basically together right now but we haven't seen each other since Mexico.\n\nThe only issue is that I'm studying engineering in university right now and I'm working my way towards a degree. I just don't have the money to pay for a flight to Winnipeg and keep this kind of relationship going, especially since my family has a lot of financial issues going on right now. I've never had a long distance relationship before and I'm really dying to see her again.\n\nAny suggestions on being able to make this work?", "summary": "girlfriend lives a 2-3 flight from me; first long distance relationship and no money for flights. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1kryps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22M) and her (21F) broke up when it got stale for a while. Can this be fixed?", "post": "Throwaway 'cause I'm paranoid she'll see this and get angry.\n\nMy ex and I broke up a about a month ago after several arguments. Our sex life, which had once been the stuff of legends, had become non-existent for the last month or so and we kept betting into rows when left alone. \n\nI wanted to give us space to miss each other, so we broke up and stayed close, but when the time became too long I tried to inquire after what we're doing and she seemed to just want infinite time to get over her personal issues and stress, which were supposedly to blame. \n\nIn the end, after I believe I pressed too much, she said that she wanted to officially break up as she's not romantically attracted to me anymore, although she loves me and would like to stay as close as possible in the future. It's now been nearly a month we haven't been speaking because she thinks it's \"too soon\" and doesn't want to \"get my hopes up that this might work out\" as even if she does have feelings for me in the future, she won't try anything because we \"can't communicate\"\n\n... but I miss her company so much it hurts every day. Is there any way I can try to get her to listen to me, to maybe help her see that this could be worked out? We've been through so much together over our nearly 3 year relationship, I've helped her through some really rough patches in life which made us bond so much and grow together (and separately) as people, but we still have so much growing and living together to do, I think it's a shame to just call it quits at that...\n\nAny ideas? Thanks", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up because she's not romantically attracted to me ATM, and doesn't know if she will be again. What can I do to help fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3ky4i5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] need help breaking up with my GF [25F]", "post": "Hi r/relationships,\n\nI'm a 25 year's old guy, and I've been with my GF for about 6 months.\n\nLong story short: everything is going well between us and I can see that she is starting to fall in love with me, but I just met someone else who I want to date. So I need to break up with her... But I have 2 problems:\n\n1. I never broke up with a girl before, so I have no idea what I'm supposed to say...\n2. I guess it's better to tell her face to face, but it takes her about 1h30 to get to my place (and I can't go to hers). So it seems mean to make her come just to break up with her.\n\nIf you have any advice on how handle this \"the right way\", I'm interested. Thanks!", "summary": "How do I break up with my GF of 6 months?"}
{"id": "t3_3dzsmy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining a guy's audition.", "post": "I'm directing a web series and we are currently casting the show.\n\nI got there a little early and went to the washroom at this casting call before we start. It was 2 stalls and one was occupied so I went to the second one. It was un-flushed. So I flushed it. \n\nIt immediately started overflowing.\n\nThen I realized it was starting to run over into the second stall. So I start screaming \"You gotta get outta there. You gotta get out of there!\" To my unsuspecting neighbour.\n\nThe guy didn't respond. He just quietly lifted his feet.\n\nI left him there, stranded on the toilet - marooned on a porcelain island in an ocean of terrible.\n\nOf course, he was our first audition.", "summary": "I flushed a toilet that overflowed into the next stall ruining another guy's day."}
{"id": "t3_3drobi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 3 months, has randomly stopped talking to me. I am at a loss of what to do. (she is traveling)", "post": "Ok so some background on our relationship I started dating my girlfriend we will call her Claire toward the end of April (we had been friends for a while before that). \n\nAnyways our relationship was going amazingly well up until the start of this month. Claire and I spent almost every day together up until she left for vacation in the middle of June. During our relationship we fell in love with each other.\n\nAnyways when Claire first left she would text me every day many many times and I did the same. Our messages were always nice and the typical \"I miss you\" or \"I love you\" just so we knew we were thinking about each other. Then at the beginning of this month she just stopped. I could tell something had happened. I asked her about it. She said I can't talk to you about it until I get back but she also said she didnt want to break up. Pretty much the end of the discussion. She called me the next day and was completely normal on the phone so I figured everything was ok.\n\nHowever clearly it wasnt. Claire has barely talked to me since then and we have only briefly spoken on the phone once since last time she called me. I texted her the other night and she said I dont want to talk until I come back. She will be back late next weekend, but I am going insane. I have barely slept in a week. I dont know what to do. I just want things to go back to the way they were before she left.\n\nPlease give some advice.", "summary": "Girlfriend has been traveling for about a month and randomly stopped responding to messages and calls. She said she doesnt want to talk until she gets back. I just want things to be the way they were before she left for her trip."}
{"id": "t3_1hf6tw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My brother [33] lost his license. He asked me [27] to drive him to work. I agreed. But he won't let me drive his car, now that mine failed inspection.", "post": "My brother was in a serious accident and totalled his car after a night of intense drinking. He could have easily lost his life but walked away with a few scratches. He lost his license for 2 months after working through it with a lawyer, fines, penalties and ARD and all that goes along with a DWI.\n\nI recently accepted a full time position in the same city as where my brother's job is located. He asked me to take him to work and I had been for this first month with nearly zero issues. My car was due for inspection and it failed the inspection and needs $ in repairs that I don't have. I am working on a trade in deal but haven't had time to actually get a solution. \n\nSo my car didn't pass inspection. I told my brother that a few days ago. This morning I told him again and he flips out when I say we have to take his car.\n\nHe flys off the handle and asks my sister to drive his car and him to work. I ask him why I can't drive his car and my sister can and he gave me the bullshit excuse of I'm not on his policy and my sister is. I said that's not true I am covered under your policy the moment you give me permission and the keys to drive. He still insisted that I was in the wrong and I was causing him the problem not him by losing his license in the first place. \n\nI texted him that I am covered when he gives me permission to drive and he texted back: \"Well guess what I am not given you permission to drive my car. End of story have a good day! \"\n\nI think he is being purposely unreasonable. I have a perfect driving record and there is no reason for him to deny me permission and grant it to my sister. He is now forcing me\nTo drive my un-inspected car, the very thing I was trying to\navoid in the first place. He clearly is embarrassed by losing his license and doesn't want to take responsibility for his mistake even still, now 6 months later.", "summary": "My brother lost his license. He has a new Nissan Altima and he refuses to let me drive it to take him to work."}
{"id": "t3_1c1gxh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Older generations of reddit, for someone like me who has no idea what I want to do with my life, can you give any advice as to what I and others in the same situation should do?", "post": "Hey guys, I just want to give a little information about me. I'm a junior in high school, play sports (football and track), decently smart with around a 3.6 G.P.A., got a 26 on my ACT (probably going to retake it). I don't really do much anymore because of track and work taking up most of my time and high school drama stuff so I had some time to think. The original plan I had was to go to one of the colleges in my state that had the navy ROTC, go to med school somewhere, serve in the navy around 6 or 7 years, then get a job and live a decent life... but now... I have no idea what I want to do. The more I thought about it the less sure I am of going to med school. The navy and ROTC is for sure, but I have no desire to be anything specific. How do I choose if nothing is interesting anymore? How did all of you?  There is just nothing appealing towards anything that I could think of, and how do you decide between all of options available? Do I have a lot of time to figure this out or no? Has anyone else been through this? I have no idea who to talk to about this so I figured hopefully some redditors would be able to give some good advice.", "summary": "Original plans for the future are in question. How do I decide what to do if nothing is interesting?"}
{"id": "t3_3b3w3o", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My brother has been stealing from me", "post": "Hi everyone. I was looking to get some advice on my situation and hopefully you guys can give me some ideas. Anyway, here goes. \n\nMy fourteen year old brother has been stealing from myself and my other family members for the past year. A month or so ago, he pretended that someone robbed our house, and stole all of the cash I had in my wallet, as well as an expensive ring my boyfriend gave me.\n Now you're probably wondering how I know it's him. For starters, this incident happened precisely after my father and I left the house that morning. True, a robber could have been watching us, but the timing was just odd. Second, nothing of his was stolen. He had plenty of things that a thief would have taken since his room is right next to mine, but only I (and my parents) were missing anything. \n\nThird, his \"girlfriend\" came over today and she was wearing my ring. The same exact ring. There's no way in hell he could have afforded it because he's a kid, and her parents are not the type of people who would spend that money on her. \n\nMy parents know the truth, and they also believe that he was the one who stole from us that day. But it never ended there, he continues to steal anything we leave laying around the house, including my mother's debit card, which my mom was smart enough to cancel before he could make charges. When I try to talk to her about this and about how she should be doing something, she pretty much just says \"well, what do you want me to do about it?\"\nI've purchased a lock for my door and don't leave my room without locking it up, so hopefully this will solve the temporary problem. But long term, what do I do? Deal with it until I move out, confront him, etc.", "summary": "Brother steals from me and other family members. Aside from locking my bedroom, what do I do? Should I confront him if I know he's doing it?"}
{"id": "t3_ss9wt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I got behind on student loans after my deferment period ended [x-post r/askreddit]", "post": "I'm not sure where to turn for advice on something such as this, so I come to you reddit!\n\nI went to college for two years fresh out of high school. I took out some student loans through Sallie Mae. I ultimately ended up dropping out and working for a couple of years. I went back to school and took out more student loans through Fed Loan Servicing. None of these are \"private\" student loans. I ultimately owe somewhere in the neighborhood of $20,000 in student loan debt between Sallie mae and Fed Loan Servicing.\n\nNone of that's really a big deal. I didn't end up completing my degree but I'm in a field where it's not really an issue anymore. I'm making great money without it.\n\nNow for the problem; After my last quarter in college (before dropping out again), my deferment period ended (6 months after dropping out of course). At the time, I was going through a rough patch financially and mentally. I ended up letting my student loans get about 3 months past due. Once I realized how late they were, I immediately called them and told them about my situation. They allowed me to go on a forbearance period until I got things straight. I didn't know it at the time, but they had reported these late payments to the credit agencies (since they weren't consolidated, 7 late payments were reported). I just called Sallie Mae and they said that there is nothing that they can do to remove this from my credit even if I were to pay it off in full right now. They said it will take 7-10 years for it to automatically fall off.\n\nNeedless to say, this has completely wrecked my credit. Is there anything that I can do about this? I'm in good standing with them now and looking to pay these off completely in the next couple of years. I also have a couple of credit cards, a car loan, and have lived in several apartments (all of which have never been more than a little late rarely). I know that this is entirely my fault. I'm just wondering what my best course of action would be to rebuild my credit.", "summary": "I'm an idiot and let my student loans get 60+ days past due. Despite being in good standing with them now, they say it will take 7-10 years for this to drop off of my credit."}
{"id": "t3_2sect1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(17/m) recently been in contact with ex girlfriend (17/f)", "post": "My ex and I have been talking lately. She's been not texting mutual friends of mine but still talking to me. We've been talking great. \n\nOne major issue is that she never texts anyone first for some odd reason. While we were dating I realized this. Even her best friends text her first. So we've been texting G since last Thursday and then last night we were talking till 2 am. She told my friend Justin who I was on facetime with that she was going to bed at 12am. Meanwhile we both knew she was still talking to me. \n\nThat made me happy. However she fell asleep mid text. Now that she's awake she used to text me in the morning if she fell asleep when we were together because I used to joke with her that she was such a princess who never texted anyone first so she began to do it for me to prove she isn't haha.\n\nAnyways she fell asleep on me last night but it sucks that she hasn't text me because it's not how it used to be. Now she's a nonstop phone user in school so the only way we would make contact would be if I talked to her. That's how it was before we started dating a year ago. \n\nI'm trying to work my way up to meeting in person and it was going well. We don't go to the same school so it's difficult. My issue is if I text her first am I coming off as too much. At first this was normal but now since I'm get ex I'm worried I will.", "summary": "ex and I have been talking. I'm trying to work up to meeting in person. Do I come off as too much of I text her again after she fell asleep on me if this was normal at one point. We go to different schools. Texts and phone calls are the only way of contact until arranging a meet up"}
{"id": "t3_360b8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27] is fed-up with my [23 F] drunken antics", "post": "I just wrote and re-wrote the longest wall of text but it comes down to this.  I got very, very blacked out.  I said some heinous things and acted like an insane person to my boyfriend of 4 months.  He wanted to take a few days off from seeing me, but agreed to have dinner tomorrow night.  What can I say to show a sincere apology when I honestly have no recollection of what went down that night?", "summary": "I got drunk and mean and I want it to go away"}
{"id": "t3_36ri7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has anyone successfully stayed friends after a breakup?", "post": "I [22M] broke up with my girlfriend [21F] of 1.5 years a bit over a month ago.  We decided that we want to try and stay friends, so we still talk semi-regularly on Facebook.  It's all very platonic; no pet-names, no talk of how we love and miss each other.  If we see a link that we think the other person would like, we send it.  We'll tell the other person some stuff about our day.  And to me, it seems to be working.  I'm much less devastated than I was a month ago and I do think about her a little less.  I know it goes contrary to a lot of people's advice, but has anyone ever successfully stayed friends after a breakup?", "summary": "Can exes be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1lvplw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How many Americans would have to refuse to pay taxes to effectively protest military action in Syria?", "post": "Between the government's hypocritical treatment of whistleblowers, intrusive domestic surveillance, failures of oversight, various fiascoes in the Department of Justice (ineffective \"War on Drugs\" prosecutions, botching of Project Gunrunner with the ATF, aggressive targeting of journalists, etc), one of the most unproductive Congresses in decades, and the usual partisan infighting, grandstanding and military-cooperate masturbation, I no longer feel any sense of representation, affiliation, or allegiance to the Federal government. Military action in Syria on shaky-at-best grounds is the last straw for me.\n\nI want to stop paying taxes. But given my small income, this would ultimately be a ceremonial gesture that gets me fined or jailed to no avail. My question is, is there a critical mass of citizens whose refusal to pay tax would result in an inability of the government to effectively prosecute for and/or seize the withheld tax, and would this be an effective form of protest? Does such action have historical precedent?\n\nI should point out that I am not opposed to tax. Were I to participate in such a coordinated protest, I would (and would advocate to others) give what money I would have paid in tax directly to public services, to fund education, infrastructure, healthcare, etc. and would inform the IRS I had done so.\n\nI am open to being told I am naive and uninformed, but I want to be explained why. If \"the government has always been this ___\", I think this is deadly apathy we need to do something, and I will gladly \"march around your City Hall\" and \"write to your representative\" but let's not pretend that will get us out of another unwinnable, uninformed, unaffordable war.", "summary": "I feel supporting the government with taxes would be immoral. I would rather directly support public services, research and education. Would enough people taking this action be an effective form of protest, and does protest by mass tax refusal have precedent?"}
{"id": "t3_3ci9p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [49 F] with my [55 M] since age 15 boy friend who I think is lying to me", "post": "First time on reddit, please forgive mistakes here.\n\nJohn only comes home a few times a week.  Claims to be working.  For the last two months leaves on Friday night about 10 pm and doesn't come back until sat or sun afternoon. Claims to be falling asleep in his vehicle.  Invited a female \"friend\" to a fireworks display saturday night.  Came home and dropped off the four wheeler he took the display and left and came back sunday afternoon.  Says he invites lots of people and doesn't have a girlfriend on the side.  John has a profile on a dating site and claims it is for friends.  He has not taken phone calls on the weekends for two months now.  He claims he does not get them.  I think he  just ignores them.  Will not respond to texts. Comes in Monday and talks like nothing has happened.    What would you suggest I do?  I have tried asking him directly what he wants and he just ignores me.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 30+ years is ignoring texts and calls and taking female \"friends\" to functions and on motorcycle rides  and is on a dating site looking for female \"friends\"   Trying to make me think I am crazy for questioning.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3tpim7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] ldr bf[22m] of 4 years, sent me his recent photographs. I can't help but FEEL inferior about how'd I look next to him, now that he is turning into a 'fine young man' and I am still struggling to reduce my weight.", "post": "I am in an LDR with my bf for last four ets and we have met at least once a month, sometimes more than that. He has graduated now and I am at my final year at university.\n\nI have a bad family history and ever since he came into my life, things never felt so good.\n\nHowever, mg on-off depression has given me serious issues, and one of that is my weight gain.\n\nI had an athletic figure once. Post 2011, there have been issues at house that broke me. I couldn't not afford medical help so I would talkto my school counselor. She was really helpful.\n\nAlso, I have this extreme complex about my photos. I just don't like being photographed at all. I hate it so much and it has started as a fight issue in my relationship.\n\nMy bf is an introvert but, he somehow enjoys his life in his own way. He has a nice family. We have taken pics together but somehou, looking at them makes me hate myself a lot. He understands me and thinks that it's normal but I think it's not. I want to change that, but I am so into it that I avoid group photos so much that everyone in my class knows that I am always going to avoid any photos.\n\nNow, he just sent me his pics and man, he looks amazing... I have shared him mine too, but not as par with his at all \n\nI feel so inferior. I have been trying to reduce weight for years now, I gave up eating sweets, sugar, soda and religiously follow a healthy diet, a balanced diet wih regular exercise and I don't understand what am I doing wrong.\n\nShit hit the fan today and I cried at our Skype talk. I too want to be a good looking girl, a photogenic girl and I feel like shit now.", "summary": "BF sends me his recent photographs, can't help but FEEL inferior as he looks like a fine young man and I am still fat and not so good looking."}
{"id": "t3_3osb7z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [35 F] 6 months, Starting to feel like a burden.", "post": "I really don't feel like going into this whole detailed thing about my love life, so I'll try to sum it up the best way I can. Basically I have been in this relationship for 6 months now and it's starting to feel like the person is tired of me. I like I add too much stress to her life. We always seem to argue because she doesn't like the way I feel about my current situations in life like work, family,etc. She doesn't outright say it, but by her actions I am starting to feel like she's just tired of me. I know because I've been here before. My last relationship before this was 3 years before this one and that ended terribly.\n\nI'm just starting to feel like that maybe I'm the type of person who can really benefit from a relationship. I just hate people feeling like I'm high maintenance. Like if I'm not happy then they have failed at their job. It's not that, life is stressful; and everyday I work towards making sure that one day I'll be successful. I even told her if I'm stressed it's not with you, it's with my own goal not being accomplished. Nothing at home. She already sleeps on the couch and acts like she doesn't want to be around me anyone. When my ex did this I found out she was cheating shortly after.\n\nI'm not a needy person. I was content with being alone. She always wants to throw in my face that she does a lot for me but I never ASKED her to do anything other then just be there.I didn't even rush this she did. Not saying I didn't want a relationship but the main reason I felt comfortable on my own is because I didn't feel like I was being a burden on anyone else. I hate feeling like this. At this point I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "I just feel like a burden in relationships. Starting to think I'm probably better off alone."}
{"id": "t3_rgp1x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the closest you've come to dying in an explosion?", "post": "When I was about seven a friend and I were hanging around in my house when the world starts to shake violently. I had just come back from California, and I had even had a little 4.0, but this was not like anything I had ever experienced before or after; it was one big, quick quake that shook things off the shelf. But this was West Virginia, and I knew earthquakes were not the norm here. But when it stopped, I figured it was just one big quirk.\n\nIt wasn't. Fast forward a little bit, you know, enough for all the ambulance and fire trucks to come rolling up the neighborhood hill. Something happened a few blocks away, but we didn't know what. Then my mom gets a call; it's my brother. He had been on his paper route with a friend. They had ducked into her house for a quick break before going out to continue. They had just left the house and were a few houses down the street when it EXPLODED into a ball of fire. A freak gasoline explosion. It was duplex, and the guy on the other side had been incinerated alive, but lived long enough to die en-route to the hospital. On the news coverage all his friend's toys had been strewn about in the trees. I'll never forget that scene, and wonder if it could have been my brother intead. If they had stayed inside a minute longer, they would have died. If she had not broken the rules and gone with my brother on the paper route, his friend DEFINITELY would have died that day.", "summary": "paper routes save lives, and shit goes down in West Virginia."}
{"id": "t3_32b1zn", "subreddit": "books", "title": "The Witcher novel translations?", "post": "I fell in love with the series a few years ago, and was keen to read all of the books before the next and final game came out next month, but tragically found out that not all of the books have been translated yet. I found one or two fan translations that were just way too poorly written for me to enjoy, with incorrect grammar, and spelling, so just gave up and went on to read other books while i waited for the official translations. I loved the books not only because of the story and amazing universe, but because the (english versions) were so amazingly well written, and fantastic reading experiences. But now I think I might just try to suck it up and read the remaining books that fans have translated anyway, because I'm just too curious to know what happens next.", "summary": "Is there anyone out there that might be able to help me find, or know where I might be able to find the best fan translated versions of The Tower of the Swallow, The Lady of the Lake, and Storm Season online?"}
{"id": "t3_fiaoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends after breakup... what do I owe her?", "post": "Hey r/relationships, first post here and looking for some advice. 22M.\n\nI was recently with a girl 19F for about a year. Had some really great times and some really horrible times. I definitely wasn't perfect, had some jealousy issues early on, but we got through that. About 9 months into our relationship she started losing interest and acting cold toward me. Then she went away for a couple months and broke up with me, but for some reason I held on and tried to keep it together blah blah blah. When she got back we were sort of together for some months but a couple weeks ago we decided to stop sleeping together and be just friends.\n\nI'd really like to keep the friendship going because she is really cool. At this point I'm fine being single and I'm not really interested in another relationship yet. She says the same about herself. I would be jealous if she met someone else, but I feel like I'd get over it in time. But I have an ex who keeps calling me, interested in some no-strings-attached fun, and I'm starting to feel like I want to give that a try since I'm single anyways.\n\nSleeping with that particular ex would probably destroy her if she found out, I know that (she had expressed jealousy about that ex when we were together). But do I owe it to her to not do it? My gut says I don't owe it to her since we're done, but maybe I should just wait a while first (some sort of breakup courtesy time)?\n\nAnd do I even have to tell her about it? I feel like if I'm obligated to tell her, I wouldn't do it because I just couldn't bear to break her heart like that. But I am single and not sexually responsible to her, so is it any of her business? I've been very clear with her that I'm not sexually responsible to her and don't want to hurt her. Some people have told me that for the friendship after breakup thing to work, you have to lie about future partners for a while anyways, to manage jealousy. \n\nWhat say you r/relationships?", "summary": "Broke up with girl but still friends. Want to sleep with an ex for fun, would that make me a jerk? Should I even tell her if I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2342vg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22My GF (22F) gave her number to a guy who asked her out.", "post": "We've been together for 5 years and have more recently (past year or so) have gotten better with communication. \n\nThis past March she tells me she met a guy at a bus stop who talked to her (she said they got along well) and asked her out on the spot. I could tell she felt flattered and although I felt a tiny bit of jealousy I was glad she told me. \n\nNow fast forward to today. We have an open communication policy and have access to each others phones and laptops for trust reasons. She's said she doesn't delete texts so that I can't see them, but when I checked her phone I noticed she took a screenshot of her short convo with this guy. Basically she stated that she was was the girl he met and that she was taken. Sounds good so far to me, but then she says at the end, \"but if something changes I'll let you know.\" \n\nThere's only two more texts between them after that, but that single line is really irking me. One, she said she didn't contact him after meeting him and wouldn't. Two, she gives this false idea that she's being honest with me when she's obviously withholding information. Just the other day I asked her neutrally if there's anything she's been hiding from me that she wants to tell me. \n\nI should also add that my gf has mental health issues and I try not to get her overly upset, but this is something that's bothering me. I'm ok with her making friends, but that last line just makes me feel like she has backups. She gets mad when I make friends with girls b/c she thinks that I'm making backups for our relationship but it just seems she always takes things way farther than I ever have.", "summary": "GF met a stranger and texted him. Text almost seemed innocent except for the fact that she would \"let him know if something changes\" in regards to our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_19p17c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18f]My boyfriend[20m] watches gay porn and I have lost my sex drive.", "post": "I really don't know what to think or do, I'm quite confused. One day while him and I were just laying around, I told him to search up video on Google, and he typed in \"F\" and a search term came up. It read \"First time gay anal sex\". I was quick to brush it off to avoid him the embarrassment but he started turning red and quickly said \"I told you I was bi.. I sometimes jack off to gay stuff.\" I just kind of said, \"Okay, whatever.\" I didn't want him to talk about it until he was ready. He took his phone and took a minute or two to delete history.\n\nSo about after a week, I asked him about his sexual preferences and he said that it was a phase and he's never looked at a guy like that. He told me a lot of guys watch gay porn sometimes but I'm really not too sure about that. My best friend tells me that it's not something a lot of guys do, but I don't know. Is it?\n\nI'm also having problems with my sex drive. Every time we're done having sex, I feel *so* gross and uncomfortable. I have a mini panic attack I guess. With him, the feeling is so intense though. (It's happened a lot with him and past relationships. I was raped at 15 but I don't know if that has anything to do with it...) I get sick and feel like I have to throw up and cry. So we haven't had sex in a while, and he says he's not frustrated but I can feel that he is, I know he is. He kind of got.. annoyed the other day when I didn't want to have sex. I don't know. But I just don't want to have sex anymore. Feeling aroused grosses me out. /: What can I do about that? I don't want to have sex but I feel obligated to because it's crucial to a relationship. I'm just really confused.", "summary": "Boyfriend watches gay porn and I don't know wether to believe that it's a phase or if he's hiding something and sex has always been weird with me but I don't want to have sex anymore because it makes me feel greatly uncomfortable. "}
{"id": "t3_32qxuu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By leaving the grocery store", "post": "An official this happened 8 years ago.\n\nOne fine day i was in Sweden visiting family for the summer. Not knowing any Swedish words besides \"Tack\" (Thank you), i completely relied on my family to keep me alive. They decided to go grocery shopping, keep in mind, i was like 10 at the time. It was a really big store, like costco x2, and i was getting very bored of playing brick breaker on my flip phone. So i asked my Aunt if i can have the keys to go back to the car and take a nap. She handed the keys and i was on my way, all good and dandy. I walked to the front where all the cashiers were, and assumed the push door that looked a bit bulkier than normal push doors was the exit, completely forgetting i came in through an automatic sliding door. So i ended up pushing the fire exit open, all the alarms and lights started going off, and the cashiers were looking at me like i was a retard. They all kept saying \"Stang Dorren\" (Shut the door) (sorry for my awful swedish) but 10 year old illiterate me didnt know what the fuck they were saying, so i just walked out the door, and it shut behind me, and my aunt comes running at me laughing and tells me i just walked out the fire exit. The manager then proceeds to come to me and tell me i am no longer allowed in the store, and my aunt cant stop laughing, but manages to explain hat im from america and i dont understand a word of swedish. The exit sign in sweden is green with a man walking toward a box, so naturally i assumed this was the normal exit. In america, we have red/green signs that say EXIT. So i would have looked for that for a fire exit.", "summary": "wanted to take a nap, set off a fire alarm instead."}
{"id": "t3_3312r2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] and [SV]: Down 30lbs (new flair!) and starting to see progress in the gym!", "post": "Well I'm as excited as a little kid!  I'm down 30lbs, which is almost a third of the way to my goal of 100lbs.  I'm M/37 SW:301 CW:271 GW: 199lbs.  I've been limiting myself to ~1500kcal per day, doing a lot more walking, and hitting the gym at least three times per week.  I finally hit an hour on the elliptical trainer last night and am seeing progress with bench and curl.  One thing that I've learned is that when you're fat, everyday is leg day!  I'll have to start actual lower body strength training soon, but for the taking the stairs at work is having a huge impact.\n\n[Here] are some pictures of where I'm at now.  I'm not comfortable enough yet for full torso/gut progress pics, maybe in another 20-30lbs.  I'm just pumped that my arms, while not nearly as defined and big as when I got out of the Army, are starting to see some progress!", "summary": "Still a long way to go, but at least I'm starting to see some improvements!"}
{"id": "t3_3cqyd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of three months - I like her, but I don't how to keep the relationship going.", "post": "My girlfriend (26/f] and I [23/m] have been dating for 3 months. We have a lot fun together, share a lot of common interests, all that jazz. But I can't seem to commit 100% to this relationship. I have three theories 1) because there's a good chance she'll have to leave the country in a year or less, and I'm not ready for long distance. I can't help but feel this relationship has no future. 2) She is the 'every relationship should be your last' kind of girl and is 110% committed. I'm feeling scared because I'm not where she is. I'm not a very emotional person with below average EQ, but to her once in a relationship you should be all over each other always. 3) Maybe this is just how I am and I am incapable of anymore. Because I really feel like I'm trying. But I just can't seem to do the right things.\n\nOf course it could also be all three.\n\nI really like her, she really is great, and I want her to be happy. But my lack of effort/commitment hurts her and because she so committed and invested I feel like I'm wasting her time. She thinks I'm just immature and afraid of responsibilities and commitment. Should I break it off with her to save her anymore heartbreak?\n\nIf so when should I do it? Its a stressful time for her. She is being kick out of her apartment in 3 days, and has not found a home yet.", "summary": "Can't seem to commit, can't see future with relationship. What should I do? Actually when I type it out like that the answer seems quite clear. But I'd still like to hear some opinions.T"}
{"id": "t3_3lgfc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] caught my mom [48F] sleeping with a dude [30'sM] who isn't my dad [50M]", "post": "Gross/horrible situation here. I will say for starters that I always felt like my parents had a strong marriage because some will assuredly ask about that.\n\nI came home from college for the weekend and ended up getting there sooner than I expected. I have a key to the house and let myself in and shouted to my mom to let her know that I was there. For context, my mom stays at home and my dad works.\n\nI heard some commotion from upstairs and started to go investigate but on my way up some random guy comes out of the bedroom and rushes past me. I just about shit myself at this point (he could have been a burglar or something, for all I knew) and started crying after he rushed out the door. \n\nThen, my mom comes out of the bedroom (in a robe) and starts to comfort me saying that \"it's all right, nothing's wrong\" and stuff like that. I am like beyond shocked right now and ask if she knew who that was, because at this point I am primarily concerned for her safety. She sighed and said something like \"I guess I can't get around telling you, huh?\" with this sort of wan smile on her face.\n\nShe told me that my dad had a cuckold fetish and liked to her sleep with other men. I would have never expected this because it seems like they are very loyal to each other. I also couldn't imagine my mom cheating so blatantly. Like, what? But then she said, \"yeah, don't tell your dad about it because he would die of  embarrassment if anyone, no less his daughter, knew about it.\"\n\nSo, I am in a totally weird mental space right now (not only from seeing my mom bang some dude, AUGH) and I'm not sure whether to tell my dad or not. It seems equally unlikely to me that my dad would be a cuckold and that my mom would be such a blatant cheater and nonchalant liar. What should I do?", "summary": "Caught my mom banging some guy other than my dad, my first thought is to tell him but my mom says it's not a big deal because it's for his cuckolding fetish. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1akp5m", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (M22) can't bring myself to break-up with my SO (F22) despite moments of clarity.", "post": "My SO and I have been dating since high school (over 5 years). We went to the same college, but she graduated early and moved about 1.5 hours away for a job. We've always had things to work on, but this last year has caused me much more stress than it has helped me.\n\nWhen we got together, she was ambitious and had an extremely positive outlook on life, but lately (esp. since midway since college) she has turned extremely pessimistic and has seemingly lost her ambition. I'm realizing the problem is that she has serious control issues. In high school should basically knew where her life was heading (college) and felt in control leading to an amiable demeanor. As college started, and esp. at her new job she is learning that you can't be in control of everything and it is getting to her.\n\nThis has caused her to lose (break-up?) with friend who she could no longer hang out with at her whim and who were developing other relationships that made her extremely jealous. She also skipped applying for graduate school last year and this year. I confronted her about it because I believed she was putting them off so that she could feel like she had made the decision to not go rather than risk not getting in; she admitted it.\n\nWe had a big discussion because she often will insinuate that I don't really care about her or don't want to be around her and make me feel guilty so that she can control me. I got sick of it and pointed it out. She admitted she had issues and is now seeing a therapist, but that was a few months ago, and I see no change.\n\nI want to be getting something positive out of my relationship and I often don't. I also know she is controlling, which can be emotionally abusive. I will sometimes resolve to break-up with her, but I can never bring myself to do it. The few times she is happy is when she sees me, and I can't bring myself to destroy that.\n\nDo I need to just man up and do it? Am I overreacting? Anyone been in similar situations that has any advice?", "summary": "SO is extremely controlling and guilts me into doing things, but I can't bring myself to break-up with her."}
{"id": "t3_d81wy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is 23 too old to fit in well at a university as a freshman?", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm currently 22 but will be 23 when/if I begin classes next year.  After high school, I went to a great engineering university, then dropped out after 3 weeks.  Next semester, I enrolled at a community college and dropped out after 5 weeks.  Then, I trained at a tech school and guess what?  Dropped out.     \n\nI've grown up since then, I know I can man up and stick with it now.  I don't want to miss out on the college experience or miss out on a solid career.  These past 4 years of non-educationism has allowed me to raise my confidence and gain a grasp of what I want in life (yay growing up).     \n\nSo, what I'm worried about is being a creepy older guy in the freshman class.  I know 23 isn't that old at all, but I'll be in the ranks of 18 year olds for just about every class.  I thought of lying about my age to my classmates, as I look about 17 or 18, but that would just contribute the creepiness factor when my true age is discovered.  I know I really want to start college life, but I'd like the great experience I've already thrown away 4 years ago, I know it's kind of selfish.  What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Threw away college opportunities 4 years ago, enrolling next year, don't want to be a creep."}
{"id": "t3_1taikt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my girlfriend [17] of 11 months have some possible trust issues. Would love some help.", "post": "Things have been going pretty great. Then she saw me talking to another girl who I have been friends with for years. I talk to her a lot. I have since she helped me out through a difficult time in my life. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of a year and a half, and I brought her a cookie. And my girlfriend got really upset about it. \n\nShe went off on me about how I treat her like my girlfriend. I don't. Not being overconfident, but I'm a damn good boyfriend. I'm always there for her. Bring flowers on cue. I go get whatever she wants whenever she wants it. Spent $200 on Christmas presents for her already. And she doesn't trust me and my friend together at school.\n\nI really care about her, but I'm going to college in a couple months and she won't be there with me. So my question is are there actual trust issues? Or is the girlfriend always right? I don't know. I don't know what to do or how to react.", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't trust me with my friend in public places and I'm confused on how to react."}
{"id": "t3_2u7xui", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Advice/Suggestions on best cat collars?", "post": "I bought a collar when I adopted Lola at the beginning of July, and she's probably worn it for a total of one day since then. Any time I put it on her, I come around and find a collarless kitty wandering around 5 minutes later.\n\nI'm not sure if it's because the collar itself is too easily removable, or if it's because I'm not putting it on tight enough(?) ...\n\nShe's indoors so it hasn't been a huge deal, but I'm moving to an apartment within a house this weekend, and because she's a \"door dasher\", I'm a little concerned she'll make a run for the yard. In the past when she's run out the door it's only been down an apartment building hallway - nowhere for her to run. But with the move, there are many places to go :(\n\nOh, and she IS microchipped, but I want the collar as a back-up so that people will know immediately that she belongs to someone and isn't just a stray.", "summary": "Are there any collars fellow cat owners can recommend? I want something that will stay on, but can come off with reasonable force if she gets stuck or there's an emergency."}
{"id": "t3_fjtks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do YOU deja vu?", "post": "It never really occurred to me that others experience ~*~deja vu~*~ differently. Recently I brought it up with some friends to see if their experience was similar, and I seemed to be the odd one out. Do you just get the feeling of being in the same place again, or is there more to it?\n  \n   \nWhen I get the feeling of having been in the same spot before, I also get flashes of what events will possibly happen within the next 30 seconds-1 minute. They are usually a little stressful and bad things, but something I have no control of. Such as someone arriving, a phone call about bad news, etc. I always rush around and try to fix the bad thing but it's basically me running around double checking things that could be on fire lol.\n  \n \nUsually, these events do not come true. Sometimes they will but it will seem coincidental as the events are always mundane. However one time it ALL came true, for about 2 minutes. The people I was with, where each person walked to, the furniture in the store I had not been in (so I had no idea there really was a round red bed in the center of the room.) Even I was part of the foreseen events, and I wanted to see if it would keep going so I followed my own vision. It ended about 15 seconds after that and it freaked me out. In an awesome way. To quote myself in an earlier post:", "summary": "I saw the future and it was quite insignificant :|"}
{"id": "t3_xebej", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] was seriously emotionally hurt by [17/f]. Story inside, really need help on what to do.", "post": "Hi /r/relationship_advice.\n\nSo here's the story: I had been dating this girl for a little while (let's call her Michelle, because that's her name). She was really amazing. I never had one dull moment with her. She told me she just wanted to be friends after my prom, so I thought it was over between us. But after this, she starts seeing me a ton more, introducing me to all her friends, family, everyone. \n\nSo after a month of this, I bought us tickets to go see a concert at the local county fair. She and I both went together. At the concert, we ran into a ton of her friends. After the concert, she ditched me for her friends, leaving me with no ride home.\n\nSo, we got into an argument over the phone the day after and she claims I ditched her. After some nasty stuff was said, she hung up on me. We haven't spoken since, and it's been a month.\n\nSo now that it has been a month, I want to just talk to her again. But I don't know what to say, or even where to begin.", "summary": "Like a girl a lot, really miss her, haven't talked in a month after huge fight, want to know how to start."}
{"id": "t3_2ye81l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Question about porn on mobile", "post": "Ok, I honestly have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn. At least in general. But the other day I opened his phone to erase a bad photo he'd taken of me. When I opened the gallery (android phone), porn started playing. Given that I wasn't trying to snoop, I quickly closed the app and put it away. At first I just thought it was funny (I've seriously told him I don't get why people care about browser history - it's just porn), but later I was confused why I would find porn *there*. My question is, do people actually download porn on androids or was that probably a recording of an ex? Like I said, watch all the porn you want, but I'm uncomfortable with someone watching old videos of an ex. I think it's different when it's someone he knows. Especially given the situation of who the ex probably is - his hot ex-wife who packed her things and moved in with her new boyfriend while he was deployed a year ago. If he's watching videos of her he's probably not over her emotionally or physically. And I think that's a recipe for disaster.", "summary": "do guys ever download porn on mobile, or would a video in the gallery be a personal recording? "}
{"id": "t3_3b3f0u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to wrap my jacket around my bike's handlebars.", "post": "This happened my freshman year of college, which was 7 years ago now. So yeah, it's not today -- read the rules.  \n\nAnyway, I rode my bike to school a lot back then because I lacked money and I liked the exercise, but I often bit off more than I could chew by trying to haul **everything** I needed for school on my bike. My bag was constantly loaded with books, papers, food, gym clothes, etc.  \n\nSo here I am on a gorgeous fall afternoon, riding my bike home from school. It was one of those days where it's stupid cold in the morning and then stupid hot in the afternoon because weather. So I take my jacket off ... while I'm riding my bike. I don't know what to do with it so I just try to wrap it around my handlebars ... because I'm just a genius, apparently.  \n\nA string from the jacket dangles down, gets caught between the spokes and proceeds to pull the entire jacket down with it and it gets lodged in wheel. It was probably the most effective brake I've ever used because that bad boy came to a dead stop within about .25 seconds. I proceed to fly head first over the handlebars with all of my belongings scattering around the street right on the main road in front of the main campus. Everyone is watching. The centrifugal force of the bike was still great enough to also send the bike end over end and land on top of me.  \n\nSo there I was on my second week of college with my clothes ripped up, my bike on top of me, my papers and books scattered everywhere, and my pride significantly damaged.  \n\nOh, and I wasn't wearing a helmet, because nobody looks cool wearing a helmet.", "summary": "Got rekt trying to ride my bike home from school during my freshman year of college."}
{"id": "t3_2rgoy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my ___ [25 F] Broke a Promise During a Break Up.", "post": "I broke a promise to my girlfriend during our break up, it was a confusing time and we got in a lot of fights, I basically told my dad about an event in her past due to frustration and venting (we weren't communicating at all during the time).  I didn't understand my girlfriend at the time and I needed answers. And we got back together . \n\nMy dad is a former pastor and current minister, and he's former military with secrets in his head for days. He's also a personality genius and the guy I tell everything to, he's essentially like a diary.  So he will never tell a soul what I told him.  And he accepts her.\n\nMy question is this, I love this girl, I want to make her my wife, by far the most amazing woman I have ever met. We discuss marriage every single day and kids.  Do I tell her that my dad knows about her past?  Or do I just move forward in the relationship, and let her live in an ignorant bliss, because I don't think she wants to know these details.\n\nI'm 100% sure my dad won't tell a soul, we are that close, but I want to know if this is a healthy secret to keep.  I don't want her to be burdened by the fact that my dad knows this stuff about her.\n\nI've spoken with a lot of people about this issue, and most people conclude that this is one I need to take to the grave, that knowing won't do her any good.\n\nThanks guys!  I love this girl, and I want to make it work no matter what. Even if I have to carry this burden for the rest of my life.", "summary": "Told my dad about my girlfriend's past during our break up due to venting, frustration and confusion.  Want to know if I should even burden her with this information."}
{"id": "t3_24lgg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] has been dragged into my friend and his GF's [27 M/F] of 18 months breakup and they're both being shitty", "post": "My good friend has recently broken up with his GF of 18 months. I honestly think this was a good thing for both of them, as they didn't have good communication, nor did they empathize with each other towards the end. Now they're trying to get everything finished with and break for good, but she needs to get her stuff.\n\nShe has moved back to her hometown, so I don't need to worry about playing sides afterwards, as I truly like them both. She is however coming back to town to get her stuff and they unfortunately need to coordinate that. They've both asked me for help as they can't stop being assholes to one another. I don't want any part of this, but fear that if I don't at least help her pack while he's at work, there is going to be broken things and then this is going to be dragged out even longer. \n\nHelp me reddit, I want no part of this, but I also want this to be done ASAP! Do I help them, or do I just nope the hell on out of there and say that it's none of my business?", "summary": "Friends broke up, both are being shitty to each other and they want me to act as a go between until she can get her stuff on Monday. Do I help or butt the fuck out?"}
{"id": "t3_3elxul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] Husband [26M] called me an ethnic slur.", "post": "I'm White Hispanic. My maternal grandmother immigrated to the US from Mexico as a little girl. (This is relevant.)\n\nA few days ago my husband called me his \"sweaty little wetback\" in the shower. Having a bit of a temper (also relevant in a bit) I snapped back that he was a \"pasty ass cracker\". \n\nI don't normally have any prejudice against white people, I just wanted to show him how hateful slurs can be, but of course he just laughed it off. And then of course I felt bad even though he wasn't offended in the slightest.\n\nI got out of the shower hurt and confused. Why would he call me that? Is that how he sees me? A \"wetback\"?\n\nCue existential crisis over the course of the next three days: Do I even really count as Hispanic though? I mean my grandfather and father are %100 white. But I'm not white either because my grandmother *literally* came from Mexico!\n\nSuddenly, everything I did I saw in the context of my ethnicity. Was I acting too Hispanic? Was I not being Hispanic enough? \n\nFinally, I exploded in a ball of confused emotion. I tried to be calm and rational and even started with an \"I statement\":\n\n It really hurt my feelings being called a wetback. *Cue tears and snot fountain* And I've tried to talk to you about it, but you just say it was just a joke, but it *wasn't* just a joke to me, it really hurt! And I feel like all you see is my skin...\n\nAt which point he interrupted me by putting our arms next to each other and saying how he had no idea it hurt me *that* bad and it was stupid and he shouldn't have said it. \n\nBut I'm still hurting and feeling a little alone.", "summary": "My husband called me an ethnic slur. It sort of made me question everything about my identity. Has anyone else experienced this kind of thing in an interracial or interethnic relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4yga9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "2 years ago I [32f] paid my brother's [26m] girlfriend's [23] way on a trip that she cheated on him during. They've since reconciled and he's asking me to pay for another trip for them.", "post": "They've been together off and on for 4 years. Two years into their relationship my brother was sent to Barcelona on a business trip. She complained about being jealous of him and wishing they could afford to take her too. \n\nMy brother and I had recently reconciled over a falling out concerning her behavior. I offered to pay her way as a gesture of goodwill and they accepted. \n\nIt was a business trip for my brother so he was gone about 6-8 hours a day for 5 of the 7 days they were there. During this time she cheated on him multiple times, including with one of his coworkers. \n\nHe found out on the trip, they broke up, and the fallout was terrible. I legitimately hate her for what she did to him *after* the breakup. I was not charitable when people asked me what happened. \n\nAbout a year later he took her back. I have refused to apologize for the things I said to and about her while they were broken up but am no longer actively hostile to her. \n\nShe feels she deserves an apology and wants me to start inviting her to my events again. I flatly told my brother this isn't happening. \n\nHe's suggested as a compromise I should buy them airfare tickets because they want to take a real couples' getaway to make up for the past. I think it's ludicrous he would even ask. She doesn't deserve TWO paid holidays for being a massive cheater! I have no desire to encourage my brother's relationship with her! \n\nNow he's upset that I'm being unsupportive and feels not giving them thousands of dollars is the same as trying to break them up. \n\nShe's making snarky pointed comments about the whole thing and it's getting real hard to keep biting my tongue.", "summary": "brother wants me to pay for romantic trip with cheating girlfriend to \"apologize\" for telling people the truth about what happened during the last trip I paid her way on. I'm not giving her a dime, what's the quickest way to get this to blow over?"}
{"id": "t3_4n2atn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (35m) with wife(35f) will only show intimacy interest in sex if we're trying for a 2nd child.", "post": "Wife and I have been together for more than 10 years, have a 3yr old together and she is really keen to have another baby. However we do not have an intimate or physical relationship which is extremely frustrating especially when she talks non stop about a 2nd kid and at that time of the month is more than happy to pretend to be seductive and interested.\n\nWe might kiss goodbye for the day, maybe a hug in bed yet she is quite happy to avoid kissing, hugging or showing affection especially around the house because she is worried that it might lead to sex.\n\nI have brought this up numerous times and I've had different answers or excuses each time. Most recently it was we're not teenagers. \n\nShe has brought up issues from her past that she would like to seek help about. However this has been on the to do list for quite a number of years now and even though she has seen help a number of times this has never been important enough to resolve bring up during sessions.\n\nWhen we do have sex it's often exactly the same every single time and once a month. Her aim throughout is to always get it over and done with as quickly as possible.\n\nI don't want to feel like the only way to for us to have any intimacy is to try for a 2nd baby, only to have it evaporate the second she's pregnant.", "summary": "wife is only interested in sex if we're going to try for a second baby"}
{"id": "t3_ztnl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F/25] worried that boyfriend [M/40] is going through possible midlife crises", "post": "My boyfriend is going through a sort of midlife crises, or at the very least a big life let down. \n\nA few short details: I'm using a throwaway in case he browses reddit. We've been together about a year and a half. If you're wondering about the age difference, I've always been attracted to older men and I've had people constantly telling me I'm \"mature for my age\" for as far back as I can remember.  He has been trying to get his job to transfer him to my state (I live in Washington, he in Oregon) even before he met me. His company strung him along for a year or more and even paid to fly him to WA and interview him and months later, they finally just told him that it wouldn't happen ever, he felt quite crushed when told. There is also some family drama going on that is hurting him quite a bit and normal life annoyances like car trouble and he has just generally been feeling down when he is usually very up-beat. \n\nI want to help and support him without bruising his ego and I know this is a challenging problem given our distance. I've been trying to support him without babying him (I feel that wouldn't help the situation) but I'm just worried he's not getting better. I know it will take time, I just want to be there for him as much as I can. This is also my first time posting something like this, so if I get the formatting wrong, I apologize. Any advice would be welcome, thank you!", "summary": "Boyfriend may be going through a possible midlife crises or at the very least, a difficult time. How can I help him without bruising his ego?"}
{"id": "t3_1hr1na", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Jerk Gets His Comeuppance", "post": "About 15 years ago when I was still in high school I had a platonic friend who had an absolute dick of a boyfriend.  I worked with him at a grocery store.  He was always intimidating and controlling her.  He was always keeping her from going out with her friends, calling her 20 times a day and yelling at her if she didn't pick up within 5 seconds, yelling at her in public, and just being an overall prick to her.  She would tell me about these things in school, sometimes while sobbing, and as much as I wanted to kick the shit out of him, she would never let me. I have no idea why, but at the time, she really thought she loved him.\n\nThe revenge:\n\nOne night at the store, me and the prick were restocking the soda section.  I was standing by the pallet of 2 liters and tossing them to him underhand one at a time and he was catching them and putting them on the shelf.  After a few minutes of this, as he was putting a bottle on the shelf, I threw a bottle overhand right at his face.  When he turned around, it hit him right in the mouth.  He looked at me stunned for a second and spat out a bunch of blood.  I told him, \"I'm sorry, I thought you were ready\".  He ended up having to get 3 stitches on the inside of his mouth.  He never did figure out I did it on purpose.", "summary": "Prick treats his girlfriend like shit, gets a 2 liter bottle of soda thrown at his face."}
{"id": "t3_438op7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] Should I ask out a girl even if I'm leaving the country for a while?", "post": "Hello! I have this dilemma that I was hoping you could help me figure out. Basically I have fallen for a girl. We both study at the same university and we both are single and I feel like she is also really intrested in me. I was thinking about asking her out for this weekend but I will leave this country for exchange studies next week. I will be gone for 5 months, but I feel like I really want to go out with her. Should I wait until I come back and risk that I won't feel the same when I come back or should I just ask her out and hope for the best?", "summary": "Should I ask a girl out even if I leave the country for five months next week?"}
{"id": "t3_2ze69e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28m] want to know if my girlfriend[28f] was a Jersey Chaser", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for two years now. We have had a solid relationship thus far, however recent discoveries has started to lead me to question my girlfriend's past. \n\nWith my girlfriend I always knew she was really into school spirit, her fb has lots of pictures of her at games. The thing which made me worry was when her friend Jess came over and we were all talking. My girlfriend started dropping names, and some flirty stories started to be shared. It also made a lot of sense because she didn't have a serious boyfriend as she said until after college. Furthermore, when I talked to her about it the next day she started getting really defensive, and I could tell she was hiding something. \n\nFor me, the person who I marry is someone who I have vetted really well and frankly speaking I don't want to marry a girl that was a Jersey Chaser. My girlfriend's current actions have been pretty damning, but I don't want to throw away a two year relationship on suspicion. I really want to get to the bottom of this, but I don't how. All of my conversation attempts have been deflected, or with her laughing at me telling me that I am crazy, or most recently her getting really angry saying that I am an asshole for accusing her of being a whore. \n\nI don't know what to do at this point. I honestly had been planning on proposing to her over our trip this summer, but now I don't feel comfortable about this relationship at all. Really would like to hear advice from some of the older guys on this subreddit. \n\nThanks,", "summary": "found some signs that led me to believe my girlfriend was a jersey chaser, I want to be for sure, but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3wt1gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] ex gf [21F] of 2 years had sex with 2 other guys soon after we broke up, now she is behaving like we're still together, don't know what to do", "post": "It's been almost 2 months since we broke up. We still live together in a shared student house. Within a week or two after breaking up she has unprotected sex with a guy she met on tinder after a first date. I found out by seeing the morning after pill  in her bag whilst looking for something to help her, since she came home too drunk to look after herself after a night out. \n\nAt first I denied to myself that she had actually done it because I love her and it is out of her character but once I admitted it to myself I confronted her a few days later. I did this because she slept with me (unprotected also) and acted all lovey on the night she was drunk. She went bright red and seemed very apologetic, she said she thought I was doing the same and wanted to get over me because she thought there was no chance of us getting back together.\n\nA few weeks later whilst we were out together in town having a few drinks and chatting, she tells me about how she gave a guy a blowjob after their first date. She frames it in a way to try and say how I'm better than the other guys but to me it just came off as disrespectful and manipulative to tell me that.\n\nNow she has been acting like we're together and being affectionate, getting annoyed if I don't reply to her texts. I love her so much and I don't think she's messing around with other guys anymore however I can't tell if this was a moment of madness or an indicator of who she is deep down. To make matters worse we still live in the same house and will have to for the next 6 months. Should I try to be friendly with her? Should I eventually give her another chance? How would I get over her when we still live together?", "summary": "Ex GF messed around with other guys after we broke up, came running back to me. I love her, we still live together and I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2l48ts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother [26M] and his girlfriend [26F] are on a \"break.\" Should I [25F] intervene?", "post": "My brother has been dating his girlfriend for two years, and they're pretty serious. They live together and he has told me that he wants to marry her.\n\nBut my brother was kind of slutty when we were in school, so the idea of settling down terrifies him a little. His girlfriend is very lovely and not rushing him at all, and he is genuinely in love with her. \n\nBut two weeks ago, he made some comment about not wanting to have kids (which was a lie because he has wanted kids since we were in high school). He was just freaking out about being domestic or whatever. His girlfriend probably knew he was lying but the argument snowballed and she decided that she was done with his commitment-phobic shit. So she kicked him out and he has been sleeping on our couch for a week now.\n\nHis place with his girlfriend is under both their names, so it doesn't make financial sense for him to just drop hundreds of dollars on a new apartment when he's still technically paying rent. If they decide to break up for good, they'll both have to move out because neither of them can afford their apartment on their own.\n\nHe's being ridiculously moopy, whining about how much he loves/misses her, and generally annoying the shit out of me. I understand that it might be the end of a 2-year relationship but the whole thing was his fault and if he wants to get back with her he needs to go talk to her and sort his shit out. Honestly I think his girlfriend intended this to be a reality check and a wake-up call rather than a breakup. \n\nI would love to kick him in the ass and tell him to make up his mind and grow the hell up, but my boyfriend has been bonding with my brother and says that we need to give him more time.\n\n_______", "summary": "My brother has been crashing at our place since he and his girlfriend got into a fight. Do I push him or leave him alone?"}
{"id": "t3_3ofuf0", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running and sleep", "post": "Hey. So I had a quick questions I was hoping you guys might be able to help me with. \n\nI started running about two months ago. Nothing crazy. I'm still pretty damn slow, but things are progressing nicely. I've been doing a running/jogging combo and logging around 15 miles a week. \n\nMy sleep situation is out of control. I understand that as I'm expending more energy, I'll need more sleep, but this is ridiculous. \n\nI've never been a big sleeper. 6 hours a night is a lot for me. I usually do anywhere between 4 and 5 hours.The last two months I've been consistently sleeping 8.5 to 9 hours a night; last night I slept 10.5! And while it sounds great and I'm sure my body needs it, I've literally doubled my sleeping time. I'm also losing 5 hours a day.\n\nSo. Is this normal? Is it going to last forever or just a temporary things as my body adjusts to running? I do also plan to up my milage starting at the end of the month. If I'm going to start sleeping 12 hours a night after that, I think I'll reconsider. Ha!\n\nThanks for any help loves!", "summary": "Running makes me double the amount of sleep I get at night. Normal? Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_23sini", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally exploiting a glitch on Facebook (note: only minor fuck-up)", "post": "So, I've just finished my work for a group presentation for school. Great. I want to share my findings with everyone else. Since I didn't have their e-mails, I decided to just create a group on FB and post it there. Create the group. Submit.\n\n\"We encountered a problem. Please try again later.\"\n\nSo, over the next 10 minutes or so, I'm ferociously clicking on that button, trying to make the request go through. Then I get a notification.\n\n\"[Group member] likes your post in [group].\"\n\nThat was them liking the \"[OP] founded [group]\" post. You see, as it turns out, all of those times I've been clicking, the request HAS gone through. So I now have an ungodly number of groups on Facebook, and I'm probably going to spend more time deleting all of them than I am doing my actual homework.", "summary": "Created an uncountable number of groups on Facebook by clicking when I was getting an error message."}
{"id": "t3_50upr2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/F] My fiance [32/M] has an income that is 3x mine and says I don't contribute enough and I make excuses for not being more financially successful. I am offended. Am I overreacting?", "post": "My fiance worked hard to get a Bachelor's degree in Engineering and has a six-figure income (over 3x mine).  He also is obsessed with saving money, so he has impressive emergency funds for if things go badly and retirement funds.\n\nI have been dating him for 2.5 years and living with him for over one year.\n\nWhen I was younger, I decided to get a Bachelor's degree in Psychology because I enjoyed studying it.  Unlike his family, my parents did not talk to me about picking a degree where you were confident you could get a high-paying, stable job.  Now that I am struggling and making $35,000 a year, I am trying to turn my life around and go back to school for something more lucrative that also interests me.\n\nHe keeps telling me that my lack of financial success is mainly due to \"excuses\" I make.  These comments from him are unsolicited- and even if I sat around all day complaining about my situation, I still think they come across as rude.  He does not acknowledge the very different life circumstances we had. He also says I don't contribute enough in general, and someone like me with a Bachelor's degree and no kids should be doing better in life.\n\nAm I taking this too personally? I get the sense that he thinks I am not good enough for him.", "summary": "My fiance makes six figures, I don't, and he says I don't contribute enough and I make excuses for my situation.  Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_4p1npx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (53F) am a real estate agent and just found out that my daughter (26F) is not using me as an agent to find her home. I'm angry and hurt. Do I have a right to be?", "post": "I've been in real estate for about 2 years, and before that I worked in property management so I'm pretty experienced in these things. I know that my daughter and her husband have been contemplating buying a house, which I've been urging her to do for years now. I'm happy for them! I thought it would be a great bonding experience for us, not to mention the perks she could get by using me as her agent. But today she sat me down and told me that her and her husband were in the market looking for a house BUT they will be using a different agent. \n\nI'm devastated. I asked her how could she betray me like this, and she said that she did not want to mix business with family, and that she and her husband did not want me knowing personal details about their finances. I kept prodding further and she told me that I'm just too new at this and she wanted an experienced Real Estate agent to help her make this decision. That broke my heart even further and I quickly rushed out before I started crying. She feels awful and has been texting/calling to apologize, but I'm so hurt. She is my daughter, how could she not want to use me as an agent? Plus, this would help further my career by adding another sale under my belt, so I feel sad that she wouldn't even consider using me. Do I have a right to be angry? My friends say they'd be hurt too, and they feel like she's wrong. So I come here to ask you all because my son recommended I try it. Thoughts?", "summary": "daughter is buying a house, is not using me as her real Estate agent. I feel deeply betrayed and angry at her."}
{"id": "t3_4it8lg", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Coughing fits where I can't breathe, ultimately vomit", "post": "Age: 26\nSex: Female\nHeight: 168cm/5'6\"\n\nWeight: 58kg/130lb\n\nRace: Caucasian\n\nDuration of complaint: 2 days so far this time, but it can last up to a month\n\nLocation (Geographic and on body): USA (travelling, based in Australia), chest/throat\n\nAny existing relevant medical issues (if any): None\n\nCurrent medications (if any): Ibuprofen (for headaches from coughing fits), sudafed, cough syrup, shit tonnes of cough lozenges\n\nI got a cold on Saturday. I would say with about half the colds I get, especially the bad ones, I tend to get this issue once the cold has passed: I'll be almost perfectly fine (maybe a slight persistent cough), when suddenly, the breath will catch really sharply in my throat, I lose the ability to inhale/talk/anything, and I enter this really rough coughing fit that lasts up to fifteen minutes, always makes me gag/retch really loudly, and occasionally ends in throwing up. I come away from it with a pounding headache and tears streaming down my face. I don't ever get any warning that it's about to happen, so I literally have to walk away mid-sentence sometimes to go cough/retch/vomit in a nearby bathroom (if I'm lucky).\n\nI've been to the doctor about this a couple of times before, and have always been told it's nasal drip. It seems a little excessive to be that to me, though? I had eight individual events today. I even had to get the taxi driver to pull over at one point because I was getting one of the coughing fits (fortunately, my friend was with me and knew from my wild gesturing what I was asking for).\n\nI'm terrified of giving an important presentation on Thursday, because I'm scared I'll suddenly need to run off the stage coughing and retching. In the past, this symptom has lasted for up to a month after the cold has passed.\n\nWhat can I do about this? What does it sound like? It makes life hell because I'm always moments from horribly embarrassing myself.", "summary": "after a cold has passed, I have a lingering symptom (sometimes up to a month) where I will suddenly stop being able to breathe and start coughing/retching/vomiting for up to fifteen minutes - seems to severe to be a nasal drip, so what do you think this might be?"}
{"id": "t3_1t17ns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] have been unable to get over my ex-fiancee [23 F] and I'm losing my mind over it", "post": "Like the title says, I'm still hopelessly in love with my ex and I'm about to lose my mind if I cant get over her soon. A little backstory, we were long distance for the whole relationship but that didn't stop us from being completely in love with each other. After a little less than a year together I proposed and she said yes but things werent as good as they shouldve been and we ended up breaking up shortly thereafter. \n\nFastfoward to the present and here I am over 6 months later and I still love this girl more than anything. When we first broke up we still talked some but then we went no contact when she got another boyfriend. Problem being is I can't keep myself from contacting her. We still enjoy talking to each other (she's admited this to me) and each time we talk it feels just like the old times to me. Recently she broke up with her boyfriend so I took the opportunity to try and ask her back and see if we can't make things work. She said essentially said no and obviously I was heartbroken. So here I am, 6 months from being broken up with my ex and I'm still in love with her. In those six months Ive done the whole work out, make new friends, find new hobbies, etc routine but no matter what she is still on my mind day in and day out. I know being firm about no contact will help but sometimes I just cant help myself sending her a message asking about whatever is on my mind. I need something to help me get over her. Its effecting me in getting into trying to start something with someone else because she is always on my mind. its even effecting my mood on a daily basis. unfortunately I know her reddit name and the things she posts occasionally rips my heart out and essentially ruins me. I'm to the point where I feel no escape from this hell.", "summary": "I'm still in love with ex-fiancee and I dont know what the fuck to do to finally get past her"}
{"id": "t3_iuvf6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I need help on how to start my first ever relationship.", "post": "I am a 20-year-old male who just finished his second year of college. For the entire year, there was a very wonderful lass (same age, same year) in one of my classes. Literally, from the first day of class, I had rather admired her. We went through most of the year with some casual conversations, jokes, etc., but never really hung out/went out or anything like that. On the rare occasion that we interacted, things went really well.\nRight as the summer began, she confessed to wanting to be \"better friends,\" and she made it seem very urgent. The kicker is that I live in texas, and she lives in illinois. From that point in the summer, we have somewhat frequently communicated by electronic means, and from what I can tell, chemistry is running pretty well. But in an electronic format, it's hard to tell.\nTo put it frankly, I like her. And from the urgency with which she wanted to talk to me implies that it may be mutual. But again, the distance is the killer here.\nHere's another killer: I am 20 years old and have never been in any form of relationship, so I really don't know what to do. I am great friends with a lot of girls, but have never had any form of....\"action,\" as they call it. Which many people find very surprising. I have never felt this way about a girl before, and I legitimately want something to happen, and feel as if it could go a long way.\nSo here is my question to you: What actions should I take when we return to campus?", "summary": "I'm on summer break from college, have no dating experience, and want to take it to the next level with a girl from said college that I have been starting to get to know. We live apart, but will live very close during the school year."}
{"id": "t3_48t3vi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my BF [21M] for 3 years, he wants me to be more \"detached\" and less sensitive. Am I too emotional?", "post": "So my BF and I are two opposite ends of a magnet, yet we are very deeply in love. However, we do fight over very trivial things that blow up into big fights that can lead to silent treatment and cold wars, due to our differences in temperament and sensitivity.\n\nLet me give you an example. He's logical to the point of frustrating me out. Whenever we fight and I cry, he tells me to accept the truth and grow strong. He doesn't comfort me or hold me. He expects no-nonsense. But I'm not in a training dojo, is it really fair for me not to expect a little TLC?\n\nAlso, he says the darndest meanest things. He says I'm too sensitive and I need to be more detached, which makes me feel hurt but I do think that's good for my own sake, but I feel I can't give my all if I hold back my feelings. Girls out there, how would you all deal with this?\n\nHe both have our own hobbies- I love watching dancing videos and dance in general, he enjoys gaming, we both support each other but don't overtly express interest in each other hobbies. That is fine, but there was one time he made me really angry because he said that a particular female friend understood him and that I \"didn't.\" He said, \"it's the truth, you don't understand because you don't game?\" and just stares at me blankly while I get all upset. Then when I teared up, he doesn't apologize or comfort me he just gets defensive and retorts whatever grievances I have with logical, emotionless statements.\n\nTo all the logical ladies and gentlemen out there, it seems like I'm overreacting, but that sentence just makes you feel blocked off, trust me. He didn't even understand or try to make me feel better, he gets irked that I would even get hurt by that comment.", "summary": "We are complete opposites- he's confident, logical and rational whereas I'm sensitive and always worrying about his and my feelings. He wants me to be more detached, but I feel I can't love with all my heart if I do."}
{"id": "t3_3csqwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 3 years [22 F] is planning a surprise trip for us to rekindle our relationship, but I [23 M] may have ruined it already..", "post": "My gf and I have been going through a lot of tough changes, and have grown distant because of them. I love her a whole lot, and we're committed to trying to reignite our passion for each other. Her idea was to plan a surprise trip for the both of us, and I decided that I wanted to keep it a surprise until riiiight before we go.\n\nTrouble is, I saw the trip destination in a rental car insurance description that she sent me :( I'm BEYOND excited for this trip, but I know she's put a lot of hard work into it and I kind of wanted to give her the satisfaction of the reveal right before we leave.\n\nSorry if this is a stupid question to ask, but I just wondered if I should bring it up to her or not because of the nature of our trip, and what it might mean to her to have kept it such a great surprise. I guess it's equally a surprise for me to keep now, too..", "summary": "I found out the surprise destination for our romantic getaway, do I tell her now, or keep the surprise?? I'm super excited either way."}
{"id": "t3_k5nl5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your favourite way to travel? Where is your favourite? Why?", "post": "(hurr, i'll start lolz)\n\nI absolutely LOVE driving on road trips through mountains and generally through anywhere I haven't been. I drove from Victoria, BC, all the way down to Palm Springs, CA during spring break. Going through Siskiyou Summit (Southern Oregon - Northern California, McDonalds is more expensive right when you leave the mountains going north :( ) and all of that area is just amazing. Even when the I-5 is closed, stopping at a rest stop and relaxing, I don't know what it is about it but it's tons of fun and gives me a sense of adventure. We luckily reserved a hotel in Buttonwillow, just north of the mountains north of LA which were closed until the next day. Driving back was smooth up until the Northern California mountains where it was closed for anyone that didn't have chains and we had to go on a little adventure looking for chains in the nearby city, going to 3 different Les Schwabs, a Costco, and a Sears, and having to put the chains on while sick with numb hands. Not a good feeling at all.", "summary": "It's not long but enjoyed the drive down and up from Palm Springs than the actual destination."}
{"id": "t3_2qoa6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My own submissive reaction to this person, who likes to control conversations and makes exaggerated claims.", "post": "Hi\n\nI have to start by saying I (51M) won't be able to change this person (roughly 50F). She is my friend's wife. I guess that's an awful way to describe her but it is simply the case she married my friend (51M).\n\nShe seems very outgoing and she seems to like taking control of conversations. I am introvert by nature, I've often received the result of INTP in personality tests.\n\nI'm unemployed and receiving unemployment benefits. I graduated with my business degree last year and I'm still looking for a proper job (I have been working part time on and off but its not stable). Last night, when I was meeting up with both of them, she seriously told me I should use my rent money to \"buy a house\" instead. She tried to make it sound plausible as she once described a situation where she knew a person could've let her \"buy their house on instalments\" but they had to move (or something like that) so they couldn't do it.\n\nAside from thinking this was a totally ridiculous suggestion (me, on unemployment benefits, buying a house on \"instalments\") I later found myself thinking I was being too polite in my response. To be fair they only recently got married and are freshly back from their honeymoon. But this isn't the first time I've thought her recommendations were less than feasible and that she exaggerates things.\n\nI'm suspecting she's trying to make up for \"empty nest syndrome\" as her son has grown up and moved out. But I do have a habit of bottling up my anger and having it burst out in a rage. I don't want that to happen here. I'm thinking, though, that if I try to cut her off while making these exaggerated claims that she will get offended and do some passive aggressive thing. But this situation can't go on or I probably will lose my temper at some point.\n\nLike I said, I can't change her. But I have to find an appropriate response to her. I have my friendship with my friend to think about.", "summary": "Friend's wife makes exaggerate claims when giving advice and she likes to control conversations. I can't change her but I need to act appropriately before I lose my temper with her."}
{"id": "t3_44ss3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] is unsure of how to react to cancelled dates from my [26 F] new relationship", "post": "So I met a girl online. We've been out twice and had great conversations both times. Each time dinner lasted about 3 hours. \n\nAfter our second date I felt very confident that she was into me so I asked her out for last Friday. She accepted.\n\nShe then txt'd me on Thursday that she had a dental issue pop up and needed to go into the dentist Fri after work. All evening Fri she txt'd me about her dental issues (so it wasn't like she was on a date with someone else). She said that she would make it up to me and that we would go out this week.\n\nWe txt'd during the weekend and this morning I asked her when she had free time during the week. She said that this week was tough since she has a lot of assignments due (she works as a full time teacher and goes to grad school on-line). But that next week would probably be good.\n\nShe seems genuine but \"cancelling\" twice feels kinda like a brush off. She deleted her dating profile though and mentioned to me at the last dinner that I was the only guy that she met online that she was willing to go out with a second time. Which sounds good right? Also she initiates txts...it's not just me.\n\nAny ideas of how I can figure out if I'm being slowly brushed off or maybe I just need to chill and realize that this girl has a crazy schedule and doesn't have a lot of free time?", "summary": "girl canceled on me twice, can't decide whether she's brushing me off or is genuinely busy."}
{"id": "t3_vc3dc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "(SV)/(NSV) I reached my goal weight today, and I managed to keep my boobs! 20F", "post": "I know 14lbs might not seem like a lot, and may seem excessive to some, but I went down from 139lbs to 125lbs. I am 5'3\", so 139lbs is on the higher end of the healthy BMI range for me, but it was nowhere near where it was good for my body, and I looked and felt unhealthy.\n\nWhen I got to college, I went from starving at home, eating nothing but school lunch to having a meal plan and gorging myself every day. I've always been busty too, and I was afraid that if I lost the weight I would lose my breast size.\n\nI made a resolution anyway for New Years to get down to 125lbs. I stopped getting second portions, switched to diet soda and black coffee (I like my caffeine), and stopped eating dessert. I started working out more and actually went to the gym. I have been doing massive amounts of pushups and other upper body exercises to help tone my arms and chest. \n\nI look and feel better than I have ever felt in the past. I know that some of you are facing much more difficult challenges than I, but I lurked every day and gained inspiration from all of your posts. Thank you all!", "summary": "Got off my ass and lost all the weight I had gained, and became a lot healthier in the process."}
{"id": "t3_37xi5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M23] grabbing coffee with ex [F22]. Not sure how to proceed.", "post": "Long story short, broke up with my ex gf last year. I broke it off because we both got busy and we weren't really spending time together or having a sexual relationship.\n\nEven though i broke up with her, I never stopped missing her. I tried a few times after to reconcile with her but it went nowhere. I talked to her recently and she was responsive. She agreed to grab coffee but had to cancel due to being insanely busy with work. I told her to get back to me when her schedule allowed it.\n\nShe canceled about 10 days ago and I haven't heard from her since. Is it worth reaching out or should I leave the ball in her court?", "summary": "Reconnected with an ex and agreed to meet up. She cancels over a week ago and hasn't rescheduled since. Is it worth reaching out or should I leave it be?"}
{"id": "t3_3y2crl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29F] ex-boyfriend [32M] just dropped by with gifts", "post": "We broke up recently because of a fight (he dumped me) and have maintained low contact since. There was one time that I went out with him and his family while we were broken up and we acted like a couple but he pulled away the next day and started acting cold towards me. Confusing, but what can I do?\n\nI sent him a book and a letter detailing my realizations after the breakup (and my wanting to try building a new relationship with him, only if he's willing), which he received yesterday. He said he'll get to reading my letter this weekend. \n\nToday, he dropped by with a gift basket for my mom and his gifts for me (his folks also got me a gift, too). It was a quick visit and he kissed me on the lips good-bye. Pulled him in for a hug because I missed him and I asked how he was doing. He said he was ok and then left in a hurry because he had to head to dinner.\n\nI'm pretty bummed to be dumped before the holidays because Christmas is always hard for me (my emotionally and physically abusive dad cancelled Christmas when I was a kid), it being just me and my mom. Our Christmas dinner is leftover pizza and pasta, that kind of depressing.\n\nAnyway: what is the meaning of all this? Is he just being nice? He didn't even have to get me a gift, but maybe he did cos he knew I was getting him one? (I ordered it before the breakup, it arrived in the country 2 days ago but the post office is closed).", "summary": "BF dumped me, I'm getting mixed signals?"}
{"id": "t3_2yco3l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unintentionally stealing", "post": "So this happened when I was about 7 - 9 years old I think, I was with my mom in this toy store and I saw this deck of cards with a Pokemon theme printed on them so I got all excited and grabbed a deck, I mean who wouldn't want a deck of cards with pikachu, charmander, bulbasaur and squirtle as the aces?. Now I still had the deck in my hand when I saw another amazing toy (which I don't remember what exactly, must've been a dildo or some shit) which completely grabbed my attention that I even forgot that the deck was still in my hand, so then I unintentionally placed the deck in my pocket then proceeded to the next toy. Fast forward 30 seconds, this staff walked up to me then began questioning me about emptying my pockets. So of course I began getting nervous since I didn't know what was happening, when I reached my hand inside my pocket I felt it, I felt the deck of cards and I was thinking \"shit I'm screwed\" then my mom shows up and I tried to play it cool saying \"ow I was just bringing this to my mom\" who surprisingly bought my story and my deck. I still cringe to this day whenever I pass that store.", "summary": "unintentionally tried to still a deck, but was caught being a dick instead."}
{"id": "t3_2ryj5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my friend [18 F] one year, I like her but I don't know what she thinks of me", "post": "(A little back story: I am currently a freshman in college and she is a senior at high school and we met while on the same team in high school last school year. I am currently back at home for winter break. My sexuality is currently in question, but that's not the problem that I have right now.)\n\nFor a while now I've had feelings for her that are a little more than what normal friends would have. Before I left for college we were extremely close. We were hanging out a lot, and she was telling me a lot about her family life that she hasn't really told anyone else, so I felt extremely close to her. However also during these months we also had a couple of incidents where she lied to my face and we fought about it, but eventually made up. One of the last nights we had together before I left for school we were drinking and we eventually ended up at her house and spooned on her bed for a while, but we did nothing more than that. \n\nSince that incident I don't know if she thinks of me as a friend, or something more than that. \n\nFast forward a couple of months and I go home from school and I hear that she has a thing with some guy in her grade.\nI just feel completely left in the dust. I had and still have a lot feelings for her, but I feel like I have nothing in return. I feel like she doesn't even remember what happened and it pisses me off. \nNone of my friends like her because she lies to my face and other reasons, so I have no one to really talk to about her. I've tried to forget about her but whenever I slowly get there she either snap chats me or messages me and I end up at square one again.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Unsure about my sexuality. Got mixed readings from her. She seems to have forgotten. Don't know what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_41ms29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and GF [18 F], both of our first relationship. I have questions, hopefully you guys can help?", "post": "Hey everyone, I will just get right to it. Me and a girl have liked eachother for a long time, recently we have started dating and really like eachother. We feel comfortable around eachother and have very good chemistry, but this is our first relationship so we are taking it nice and slow to enjoy every part.\n\nI have some questions that I was hoping you could help me with:\n   \n1. How often do people message eachother? She really likes talking to me but she is a bit on the shy side so she never messages first. I casually brought it up and she said she loves when I message her, but by now I assumed she would be ok messaging first. We also prefer talking in person a lot more.\n\n2. We are both naturally a bit awkward, but neither of us have a problem with it because we understand. I am just wondering if that will get better with time, and what I can do to help?\n\n3. She is not used to physical contact because shes never done this before, so after 3 dates we have just started to hold hands when walking. I naturally am more comfortable with physical contact, so we established that there is no rush and she will initiate (or let me know shes ready) for any advances of contact (kissing, cuddling, sitting close when watching movies, etc). I am completely fine with this but want to know if I should still try initiating small things like sitting closer to her. She is pretty shy so it is hard for me to tell if she is embarrassed to do something or is legitimately not comfortable yet. I'm thinking it would be best to ask first no matter what, but then it puts her in the position of having to say no if shes uncomfortable.\n\n4.  Any other tips or advice for a couple newbies in a relationship?", "summary": "Should I always message first, how can we be less awkward, how to approach physical contact?"}
{"id": "t3_2nlo9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] called my [21F] girlfriend a cunt during an argument and she slapped me. Are we emotionally immature people?", "post": "We got into a huge argument where I snapped and impulsively called her a cunt. She slapped me mediumly across the face and it stung. Are we emotionally immature people who should not date or really need to feel shame/get hung up on this? We have made up since then and I have apologized a dozen times over and so has she and we have done great since, it has been 2-3 weeks since. It has sat on my mind because it bothers me how people judge other couples in relationships when something like this happens. If this were a recurrent event/theme in our relationship then we should probably break up but this is not the case in the least. Please help to give me clarity/perspective on this and if this is legitimately something I should be concerned about and trip on/change my life views for, thanks. I just feel like I'll get judged for this and my girlfriend will be considered emotionally immature.", "summary": "I called my gf a cunt and she slapped me. Are we shitty people"}
{"id": "t3_14jr9k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/f] My boyfriend (26/m) is stuck in his own misery and doesn't want to come out of it, how can I help?", "post": "I love my boyfriend and I care deeply about him.\n\nBut I am so sick about his attitude.\n\nI know he has a rough time: Family member is very sick, his parents are on the brick of divorce and the business his father has built (and he hoped to inherit) is not running well.\n\nIt is a very hard time and I understand this completely. But what he doesn't understand is, that you can't just stay at home for months after months and just bawl your eyes out.\n\nI have been through a lot of shit, too. You bawl your eyes out for a few days and then you have to face it. The fucking world does not stop revolving because you are sad. And no matter how nice or drastic I talk with him about this topic, he just doesn't want to change **anything**.\n\nIf I take the nice, caring and loving approach he doesn't really listen to me, just the occasional \"yeah, yeah\" but tries to drop the topic immediately. If I take the radical approach and tell him that if he wants that the situation gets better you have to get your ass up, he gets angry/cries, says he can't talk about it and hangs up. (I am currently not in the same location than he is)\n\nI told him to build his own life. Stand on his own feet and stop relying on his parents but nothing *ever* happens. He doesn't want to listen to me. He wants everything to be fine again without him doing a thing!\nHe goes out and drinks a lot and smokes a lot to **forget the pain**. But after 6 months all I can see is a man who can't man the fuck up!\n\nI know I sound very bitchy but I am exhausted, too. \n\nI even said to him, that if nothing helps he has to seek professional help to help him go through this hard time but he started to cry again and hung up one me again.\n\nI don't know how to help him anymore.", "summary": "boyfriend stays at home for 6 months to cry about how his life sucks, doesn't accept my help."}
{"id": "t3_g1tvm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "This is the title to an interesting and confused entry of a redditor.", "post": "Hey there\n\nHere's my predicament: I am just starting out at a new school, usual thing no friends, only my thoughts.  But there's this guy in a few of my classes, he's cute you know the typical. His friend tried to coax him into asking me out at one point by saying \"You're gay he's gay. Ask him out, you never know\".  I was most definitely interested, as was he but I couldn't bring my wits to the surface and ask him out. Neither could he, it's the end of my second week at this school and so far I've tried to give him my phone  number through his friend that tried setting us up. But I wrote on the note 'Keep it', meaning keep it so you can give it to him later. But she thought I was asking her out. Apart from that there was the awkward moment when walking down a passage and he was there, and I shyly side stepped him and kept walking. I think he thought I was being rude because he said 'Fuck you cunt' as I walked away. Which hurt to say the least. \nIs there reason for me to be hung up on him like this?", "summary": "Read it you lazy person I spent my soul typing this."}
{"id": "t3_1wqzmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28/M] was going to move to be with my girlfriend [26/F] again. Instead we're likely breaking up.", "post": "I first started going out with my girlfriend nearly 2 years ago. Neither of us have real outgoing personalities; we're both bookish nerdy types who never really got with anyone before.  It was the first proper relationship for both of us.\n\nThings had their ups and downs \u2013 we had great times together, although occasionally we might fight about things (I'd sometimes be too stressed with work, she had a low libido and sometimes either of us could be distant and quiet). We'd work on things but sometimes it felt like things were going in circles. We've fought bad enough before for her to say she wants to break up, but then we'd patch things up again.\n\nAbout 7 months ago, she got a new job in another country. We were doing the long distance thing, which was hard at times. We went from seeing each other a few times a week to once every 4 or 5 weeks.   I stayed because I was finishing a college course. That's finished now, and I was looking at jobs near where she was. However, last night she told me that I shouldn't be moving over just for her, as we both know we have had trouble. \n\nThis led to a fight \u2013 she said she doesn't know if this relationship will get better. And we're talking a break from talking to each other now.\nI don't know what to do next. I do love her and I know she still cares for me, but I don't want to keep fighting like this. I still want to be with her, but I can't keep being the only one making an effort in the relationship. \nI'm scared of what happens if we break up; both of us are likely to end up alone and not with anyone ever again. I worry about how she will cope.\n\nHas anyone any advice?", "summary": "Long distance, and we're taking a break. I dont know if i should move near her or not."}
{"id": "t3_1zfitu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [21M] 3 years, how do I do with being apart? Miss him...", "post": "We've been together for years and have been inseparable. We don't live together but we've never had to go long periods apart and we have talked to each other and seen each other every day since day 1. Now our circumstances have changed and I'm finding it hard. How do I deal with the separation and missing him so much? \n\nHe's very much a part of my life and is basically my other half. The positive thing I'm taking away from this however is that I feel like we appreciate each other a lot more than ever.\n\nWe're also each other's firsts so that also makes it more difficult as I've never experienced this before!", "summary": "Life circumstances have changed. I miss my boyfriend. Hard to deal with because I've never been in this situation before."}
{"id": "t3_40vfog", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading TIFU in the restroom", "post": "I was in the restroom on my phone reading TIFU, the one with a person interviewing a prospect who came two hours earlier and used a notepad with something along the lines of \"Let's go out on a date, beautiful.' unbeknownst to the interviewer as it was on the opposite side. I started laughing, and yep you guessed it my phone went up in the air and fell into the toilet full of piss. At least I didn't take a crap. :/ I immediately turned it off and when I pulled it out of the toilet, the silent notification was buzzing on and off. I then dried it and used a chlorox wipe to clean my case and phone. I haven't turned it on and on another positive note, I tried to peek into where the sim card is where there is a liquid damage litmus paper and it was not glowing pink to the best of my knowledge.", "summary": "read TIFU in bathroom, laughed phone fell into toiled full of piss and now you guys laugh at me :("}
{"id": "t3_2qc3sy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Laid off a week before Christmas, meeting my wife's foreign family for the first time...", "post": "Just need to vent.\n\nI was laid off last week. Pretty awful. \n\nSo a little back story. I send my parents $1,000 a month to keep their house. They had a business and went out of business. They've got about $45,000 left in debt that I am trying to help them with. In addition to that, my wife had medical issues and I'm paying paying off $10,000 left of that. \n\nHer parents came to New York (read, the US) for the first time to visit us. I promised them the trip of a life time, a road trip starting here across the country. In their culture it's the younger man that is meant to take care of everything money wise, and never say no pretty much.\n\nThen last week I got laid off. Totally unexpected as I had just received a raise a month earlier. So now rent is due, $2,000 and I'm paying that just fine with our savings. However I've promised them this amazing trip and when I say I'm not too sure it's going to happen because of what happened all drama breaks lose. Her father says to her (not to me) that a man should never let people know they have money issues and he's disappointed. So I've got that shit resting on my shoulders now. They've been fighting all day, and I just went to pawn my laptop, guitar and gold cross necklace my grandfather gave me to try and make this trip happen. I don't know what I'm doing, I feel like my life is spiraling out of control. My chest hurts from the stress, and I don't know where to go from here.", "summary": "fuck."}
{"id": "t3_3fco2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] got hit on by a guy while we were on holiday. He asked for her email and she gave it to him, without mentioning that she has a boyfriend [me 23M]. How would you react?", "post": "So it's really not a complicated story. We were working together abroad (we didn't meet on holiday, we went on a working/holiday trip together). This guy was your classic music geek, and without being rude I wasn't and am not the slightest bit threatened by her and him. He lives in another country and she clearly had no interest in him in any romantic form.\n\nMy question is more based on the president set. Basically, she was friendly to him and he played her some music (in front of a lot of people they didn't hang out alone). Then he requested to meet her and she went down and he asked if they could stay in touch and if he could have her email. She told him she was leaving the country soon but didn't mention having a boyfriend and gave him her email. I understand she sees it as no issue as she has no interest in him whatsoever but to me it sets a bad tone and she's kind of inviting interest, and I guess my main concern is someone at home would do it and she'd react the same way. How would you feel about all this and would you do the same to your partner?", "summary": "A 'geeky' guy asked my girlfriend for her number/email, she gave him her email without mentioning she had a boyfriend. Would you see that as a big deal or as her simply trying to be nice? How would you react?"}
{"id": "t3_21keqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] I find my bf [20 m] flirting with multiple girls on FB", "post": "A year ago, he left his FB open on his computer while at work. There have been a few times before I noticed minor things that made me question what he was doing on there all the time. When he always left the room he wouldn't let me go anywhere near his computer. So without regret I looked through his messages only to find he was pming multiple girls not just one. They consisted of flirting. I felt betrayed and lost my trust with him so I had to confront him. He sat there and cried asking if there was anything he could do to make it up, and saying he would never do it again. So my mistake I gave him another chance. Things got better over time and I gained some of my trust back for him, and I learned to forgive him. We are in a long distance relationship now, and we manage to see each other every 3 months while he finishes school. Over time i noticed that he was acting funny, not really listening to what I say, he rarely calls me anymore, and sometimes I sit there wondering if it's really worth it all the hard work i've put in this relationship. I went on his fb out of curiosity (you can bash me all you want for this but i couldn't help it) I really shouldn't have to, and I guess deep down I never really got over it. Only to find that he is still flirting. He acts like a completely different person while doing this and some of the things he says. He evens asks for pictures of these girls he is talking to. Being in a long distance I don't know how to confront him about it this time. What can I do or am I overreacting? I just don't want to be that crazy gf.", "summary": "caught bf flirting with girls on FB, a year later found him doing it again except we are in a long distance relationship now. How do I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_47jays", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21 M] has cancer, and I [20 F] am not sure what to do. Please help.", "post": "The issue here involves more than just cancer. My boyfriend, Eli, has stage II lymphoma, along with other health problems. He was supposed to die at the age of 16, but he's still alive. I met him at work and we got close pretty fast. \n\nI would never leave someone over the fact that they have cancer. However, he does not talk to me very often. Sometimes, we go days without texting. Sometimes, we go weeks without seeing each other. He says he's always busy with friends or family, and it makes me feel like he doesn't want to see me. \n\nIt makes me really sad to know that he has such a limited time, but he doesn't seem to want to spend it with me. That might be selfish, and I hate myself for being upset by this. \n\nI will always be there to support him, but I guess what I'm asking is if we'd make better friends?", "summary": "My boyfriend has cancer, so I'm afraid to leave. But I go long periods of time without seeing or talking to him."}
{"id": "t3_28tl6b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] broke up with my bf [25m] a couple days ago and I'm not sure if I'm being rational about paying him back for lunches", "post": "Before we broke up, I was having money problems and couldn't split our lunch bills. He probably bought me 4 or 5 lunches, but I said I would get him back once I got paid. Ironically, I got paid the day after we broke up. I really want to pay him back, but I don't think it would be healthy to go on 4 or 5 lunches with him, and I also don't think he would accept a gift card to Chipotle from me. I'm seriously considering sending him an anonymous gift card card in the mail. Is this creepy or irrational?", "summary": "Is it creepy to send an anonymous gift card in the mail to your ex?"}
{"id": "t3_3g6sz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] Completely Uninterested in Relationships", "post": "In march or so my relationship with a 9 year g/f ended. It was pretty messy. She admitted to using me for money for the past 2-3  years and didn't love me, she pretended and lied continously to me. I believe it, I don't think she was saying that just to hurt me. She isn't able to form emotional bonds with people, I always thought I was different and special but I was just lying to myself, hoping that I was special. The evidence is there, it fits, it makes sense that she's like this I just don't feel like going into it for the sake of this post. Just assume that this is fact, because it is. \n\nAll of what I know are based on evidence and her own words words, there is no conjecture on my part. There were plenty of red flags, but with rose tinted glasses...\n\nAnyway, that wasn't my only relationship and in the past I've always had a period where I'm not interested in dating after a relationship ends but that always fades. In this case, it hasn't and it seems worse than normal. I'm not interested in any relationships, instead I've focused on improving my career which seems like a safe bet. I don't feel like I can trust people anymore, and yes, I acknowledge that not everyone is like that but I don't feel that the risk is worth it.\n\nI'm not interested in sex at all, looking at women (or men, but I am straight for the record) doesn't do anything for me. I've tried masturbating and there's no enjoyment, it's a phsyical release sure, but it seems more like a chore than anything. The idea of a relationship just seems so stupid and repulsive. I feel perfectly fine with the idea of never getting involved with someone else again but logically this seems wrong. \n\nHave I suddenly turned asexual? Is this just a phase? Has anyone been through anything similar?", "summary": "Terrible relationship ends, no longer have any desire for women/people/relationships"}
{"id": "t3_2l8a7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of two years have been fighting about holiday arrangements.", "post": "Whenever it comes to seeing each other's family for the holidays, things have always gone smoothly. Most of my family lives out of town. His family lives out of town as well. Somehow, we always arrange to see each other's family during the holidays. This year, he is living 400 miles away from me due to graduate school. His family lives between the city he is living in and the city I live in.\n\nAbout a month ago, my boyfriend got a dog. Because of this, he has decided that he cannot visit my family with me because he cannot bring the dog with him (my family is allergic,) and doesn't want to have anyone but his mother watch the dog while we visit my family. She has only committed to watching the dog one night because if the dog has issues being away from my SO, she doesn't want to deal with it.\n\nBecause of the ridiculous amount of driving it would be to take the dog to his family's place then to visit my family then pick the dog back up (not knowing how long he would actually be able to visit my family in case the dog does't do well without him and his mother says no bueno,) he's decided that for neither Thanksgiving or Christmas he will be able to visit my family. His mother already made plans for Thanksgiving for him to be there Thanksgiving day and their traditions of Christmas Eve are set in stone.\n\nI feel like there is no compromise. I understand that the dog is his responsibility, however, I feel as though the dog's importance has taken lead over my feelings of importance I have for us spending time with MY family (I ALWAYS make time to see his family whenever applicable.) We hardly get to see my family--maybe twice a year when they visit the city I live in and he is in town.", "summary": "Why do I feel like the dog has taken importance over me? I am upset that the dog interferes with him seeing my family."}
{"id": "t3_30v7hw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (28M) am currently looking for ways to spice up my sex life with my (26F) wife any ideas", "post": "okay me and my wife have been married for under a year now and i am currently looking for ways to spice up our sex life we have sex 2 to 4 times a day and over 5 times a day on the weekends we are both so in love and so happy with eachother we are both very compatible in every sense and i cant wait to grow old with her but dont get me wrong sex with her is amazing but i feel like i want more. i have been with her for four years i lost my virginity to her i love everything about her but our sex life needs something more like more adventure in it any ideas people", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2t3uki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am struggling with the idea that I (M 22) may never have sex with my partner (F 27). Any advice?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and have recently been talking about getting engaged, but there is one serious issue that is making me think twice, and I need some advice.\n\nMy girlfriend was married to a guy she met years ago. They were young, stupid, and not really in love but they felt it's what \"God wanted for them.\" So they did it, unhappily, and got a divorce a year or two after.\n\nThe problem I have with it is they never had sex. Any time he wanted to have sex, she always refused and instead made him do things with her. Essentially, she used him for sex without ever returning the satisfaction.\n\nAdditional details about her include being diagnosed with narcissism, depression, and currently seeing a therapist about those two things. Anything in life often has to revolve around her. Sex is definitely one of those things.\n\nShe has gone through that before and realizes that I will not go into a marriage without a sexual relationship being there. I truly believe that she wants it, I just don't know if it's going to happen and in the back of my mind there's the idea that I will never have sex with this woman. And that is frightening, to be honest.\n\nEvery fight we get into seems to be about intimacy.\n\nIs there any advice you have? Counseling is something we've discussed many times but quite frankly we don't have the money right now.", "summary": "I'm afraid my girlfriend will never have sex with me, and if you have any advice or thoughts I would greatly appreciate it."}
{"id": "t3_vcmcz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I loved her but it was too late...", "post": "We're in manhattan. She's 25 and I'm 31. I have commitment issues and broke up w/ her twice. The first time was after four months and the second was another one. I tried reconciling a third time and she said no. And that's when it happened... I was absolutely floored and overwhelmed w/ emotions - my chest and heart hurt and I thought about her continuously. Why did I realize ONLY THEN that I loved her?\n\nMy situation is eerily similar to [how Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson describes a broken heart](\n> Human beings are not always aware of what they are feeling. Like animals, they may not be able to put their feelings into words. This does not mean they have no feelings. Sigmund Freud once speculated that a man could be in love with a woman for six years and not know it until many years later. Such a man, with all the goodwill in the world, could not have verbalized what he did not know. He had the feelings, but he did not know about them.\n\nI'm seeing a psychologist. It's nice to have someone to talk to even though I don't have any *obvious* psychological disorders.", "summary": "I realized I was in love w/ her after I broke up w/ her... twice. And now I'm overcome w/ grief. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_1yepw9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Don't know where to start", "post": "Hey /r/loseit! I have lurked for awhile and every post is helpful and inspiring but I haven't been able to find a post that is relate-able to me. Pretty much, I am in an unhappy place when it comes to my health and body. \nA little about me:\n27 years old and a new dad. I am 6' and 212lbs. My highest weight being 220, lowest being 185. My diet, like my weight, has been on and off, up and down. I tried a couple of things like weight watchers, paleo, clean eating. In terms of fitness, I have tried crossfit (which I loved), insanity, and hiking, all that have been interrupted to bad timing with other life situations (moving, new job, marriage, a child) where my health was put on the back\nburner.  \nI really want to lose weight and get defined along with a healthy lifestyle, especially now that my daughter is here. I am frustrated because I just don't know where to start. \nAny help is appreciated.", "summary": "M/6'/212 want to lose weight, get defined, and have a healthy lifestyle for my daughter. Need advice on where to start and what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2blzjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28 M] Living At Home, Avoiding Dating. Am I Wasting Opportunities?", "post": "I want to first apologize if this isn't the appropriate place for this. In the last 2 years I've essentially sabotaged myself in arenas of both dating and friendships as I feel like I'm not in a place to entertain either. I feel like the audience I would find here would be the most competent and well versed in the subject.\n\n**Brief Background**\n\nUnemployment, Health Issues, Debt, Etc. in my family has kept me living at home since I was 20. One of my parents became disabled in that period and I left college and spent a majority of my 20's working to help support a family.\n\nIn the last 2 years, things have gotten better. We moved, got better employment, health of my family members has improved.\n\nReturning to school hasn't made my financial situation any easier, but while I am back in college, work, and have hobbies, I still live at home. I feel like a certain stigma comes along with the situation I'm in, and because of it, I avoid both dating and even making friends. I turn down social outings, ignore flirting, and have blown off overt sexual advances.\n\nI have a plan I'm working towards, but it's going to take time. I let go of someone because of my situation and it's really bothered me. As much as I want to get out there, I feel like I'm not worthy or in a position to do so. So I've let a lot of opportunities slip by, and I don't know if I should be doing so.", "summary": "I've been living in a bubble, and at home with my parents. I'm afraid to date because of the stigma of being in my late 20's and living at home. I've avoided dating / forming relationships because of it, am I right in doing so until I get myself more stable in life? Even if that takes more time to accomplish?"}
{"id": "t3_2w3n1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [31/M] of 5 years wants to vacation without me [34/F] and our baby", "post": "My husband has some good friends who live far away, and he rarely gets to see them. They were talking about having a camping trip or a guys weekend this spring, which I was totally cool with. However, my husband's family has a home in another country (a swanky tropical island resort destination), and he wants to bring his friends there for a week or so instead. \n\nHe said he'd be fine with me doing the same thing, but I know he would feel hurt and left out too. I feel like it's unfair because he knows I can deal with the baby for a week while he's off having fun. However, I don't think HE would be able to handle the baby if I wanted to go off doing the same thing. \n\nHe's a great husband and father, selfless, works very hard to support his family, and deserves a break. I WANT him to see his friends. I just can't believe he wants to do it this way. Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Husband wants to leave me and baby behind while he has a tropical island vacation with his bros."}
{"id": "t3_18aasu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [15/f] am suffering from jealousy of my boyfriend (16/m)", "post": "So my bf and I have been together for a year and a half, and things have been pretty awesome. But lately I haven't been able to shake this feeling, well, multiple feelings I suppose. One of them is jealousy. He has all the things I wish that I could have... friends, talent, charisma, good looks, the whole sha-bang. He has girls hitting on him left and right, he's in the school play, he's lead guitar in our band (I'm the bassist), he has at LEAST 3 friends who he trusts and hangs out with regularly. Hell, he goes on ski trips and up north with them and shit. I haven't gotten to see him outside of school in a few weeks, and it's really frustrating because he's the only friend that I have who I see outside of school (I really barely have any friends in school). It doesn't help that our parents are weird cause we're \"dating\" so we always have to be supervised, all that bull. Talking to him is getting harder and harder because I'm so hung up on wanting him to stop making stupid jokes and just have a conversation- and when we are having a conversation, usually he's talking about some part of his social life, which also frustrates me a lot. It's not his fault that we haven't hung out in awhile, it's not his fault that I don't have any goddamn friends, but he just gets all weird when I get mad that he's making idiotic jokes when I'm just trying to TALK to him. I'm not even being bitchy in the first place, then he makes a joke about his cat or a chicken or something and I get really angry. Usually I just bury my hands in my face to keep from bitching out, but he knows something's wrong. How do I explain my issue to him without offending him/seeming like a total bitch?", "summary": "I'm a total loser and my boyfriend's really popular, and I'm having trouble coping with jealousy of it."}
{"id": "t3_2s4mno", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What's the best way to ask a friend about a threesome? (20s M, F, F) [nsfw]", "post": "I really want to have a threesome. They seem like they could be lots of fun. Personally, I'd be into either MMF or FFM, but my fiance is 100% not up for MMF. I brought this up with him a few months ago, and he said that he was into it too. So, the next challenge was finding someone we'd both want to have sex with.\n\nI've never identified as bi, but I've kissed a few women, and I'm definitely attracted to some. After some discussion, we settled on a friend that we're both attracted to, but I'm not sure how to bring this up. If she's not into it, I don't want it to be awkward afterwards. My fiance has hung out with her more than I have, because I've been a complete hermit for the past 6 months trying to finish up grad school, but I feel like I would rather be approached by the girl if it were me.\n\nThis is definitely something we both want, but I know that a lot of women probably wouldn't be interested in being the third, and I really don't want her to feel like the \"third wheel.\" We aren't interested in any kind of poly relationship, but it seems stupid to have a threesome if you aren't all committed to making it enjoyable for everyone.\n\nHonestly, I think her pleasure would be more important to me than mine or my fiance's, and I'm definitely ok with them kissing/penetration. I wouldn't want to ruin the fun with crazy rules like \"no touching the man you're in a threesome with.\" If she's into it, would it be weird to sit down and talk about what she likes and is interested in? I wouldn't want it to seem like an interrogation lol.\n\nMost approaches we've come up with involve drunkenly joking about threesomes (in general) and seeing how she reacts.\n\nAbout us: We're all in our 20s, fiance and I have been together for 2.5 years, and we've known our friend (who is single) the entire time", "summary": "best way to approach a (female) friend for an FFM threesome"}
{"id": "t3_3a6rjt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling an all nighter and drink a load of caffeine before an exam", "post": "Some context, this happened a week ago, I never drink caffeine, none at all, and I had a Maths exam for my GCSEs (UK, age group 15-16).\n\nSo night before an exam, and I quickly give up on studying and in my panic I decide that tomorrow will never come if I don't go to sleep, hence spend another 9 hours on Reddit (reading TIFU because I foresaw irony). I also spent a lot of the time determining how much caffeine is safe for me to consume, not safe but not fatal.\n\nMorning come I drink 8 cups of tea and glug 5 energy drinks on the way to school. To be clear, I NEVER drink caffeine, so about half an hour later, I am high AF. I come in early so the Maths  room (where a last minute revision class is to be held) is open for cleaning. After about 30 pushups, I was found in the room by a few students blasting a song by Tiny Tim ('Tiptoe through the tulips' I think, but I'm not sure, the song from Insidious), shaking uncontrollably, and covered in playing cards and pencil shavings.\n\nAfter the room filled up, I proceeded to attack a student, massage a student and piss in a women's bathroom with zero shame.\n\nCome exam, I'm still shaking uncontrollably, I break 3 pens and get laughed at by the invigilators. That exam didn't go great.", "summary": "Caffeine + creepy music + pushups = FU"}
{"id": "t3_40xvra", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Dispute with my landlord before moving in, need help!", "post": "Hi, so I applied to move into a flat a while back, signed the lease, paid the deposit and application fee, and was just waiting on references. My bank (HSBC) took 4 weeks to produce one as initially they were only giving statements and were not producing the reference in the form the landlord wanted. They finally produced it this week and my landlord said i can move in on the weekend. However, he says that as it has taken 4 weeks, he wants me to share the cost of the rent for the past 4 weeks before I move in. Is this okay to do? He had not passed over they keys or allowed me to move in until the bank had produced the reference, which was held up on no fault of my own. He is refusing to allow me to pay rent from just my moving in day. Can I get some advice on whether he is being fair or if there is something I can do?! Thanks! (I live in the UK if that is relevant at all)", "summary": "Took 4 weeks for the bank to produce a reference for my landlord so I can move in. Landlord wants me to pay half of the rent for those 4 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_2fnj3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my ex [21/M] of 2 years broke up, wondering if it's possible/advisable to stay friends?", "post": "my boyfriend broke up with me recently, for a bunch of reasons that I've still not figured out what's true or not. Anyway, I wasn't going to talk to him, until I realized we share the same friends (most of whom don't even know we've broken up) \n\nHe went out without me and all his friends were asking where I was and trying to cheering up and even suggested if I were there he'd feel better. Obviously not knowing the situation.\n\nI'm wondering if it's possible to be friends with an ex when going out to events such as clubbing and events? I'm split about it. On one part I'm scared it's going to break my heart over and over. But on the other hand I don't want to lose all my friends or him in my life completely.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_zhqgt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] She's (16/f). Hard break up :/", "post": "She was my best friend and first person I loved. I'm 18, she was 16, we never had sex. Or kissed for that matter. She wanted to keep it at holding hands/physical flirting, even though she I could tell by her signs that she really liked me. She even told me she loved me with no prompt from me. \n\nWe've been growing apart as I've gone to college, and I poured my heart out to her, really deep stuff about how much I love her and how much I want to try to keep things going. She ignored it, so when she finally replied the next day (I knew she had seen it when i sent it) with a single heart, I told her that I knew she saw it when I sent it and that I was done. \n\nShe was immature, this kind of thing had happened before. I told her that if she didn't want to try (she was the one who had stopped talking to me, I went to great lengths to try not to let anything change), I wasn't going to either. So she gets pissed and tells me how she doesn't even care, how it was all such a joke. \nI was nothing but the perfect guy as far as I know, I was fine with not even kissing. I wrote her sweet things so often, I told her how she was perfect and really devoted myself to her. \n\nWe weren't even a real couple - she would tell me about how cute other guys were or about how she was going to this party where people just hook up. We just loved each other, but she didn't want a real relationship because she knew I was leaving. Also, she smokes and drinks, which breaks my heart because she's such a sweet girl. \n\nWe were best friends, and now that's gone. Her last words to me were \"This is such a joke. Have a nice life.\" I know it was puppy love, but she really was a perfect girl besides being a little immature. I'm just feeling real down, guys. What do I do to really get over her? \n\nI know this was written horribly, please forgive me. I'm a little shaken. I hope someone makes it this far, lol.", "summary": "best friend and first love told me to \"have a nice life\". What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1pzjsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakups] Me [16 M] with my first girlfriend of 2 years [16 F] broke up for good need help.", "post": "First breakup started in the summer right after our 2 year. She asked was smoking weed the entire relationship. I couldn't hide it from her and said yes. She then proceeded to say the entire relationship was just a lie and fake. I kept telling her even though i smoked you were always my first priority. She said if i quit now there still would be a chance. I said okay and i still did it. I fucked up i know. we broke up again and then got back together a 3rd time.\n\nThe 3rd time back together i was set on gaining her trust. I wanted to make her happy and i loved her alot. I started catching on because she was acting weird and her text messages were all one replied i confronted her about it and said that i know you aren't into the relationship.\n\nShe told me that the feelings for me were gone and just liked being alone and independent because she wanted to be happy. I understood and agreed to break up once and for all. I know im still young but im so devastated. I feel like shit and regret everything i did. It was my fault. I asked her if there would be any possible way to get back together in the future and she said \"I dont think so, It depends\" she assured she won't be getting back into a new relationship anytime soon but i don't know, i miss her and just want to hold her and cuddle. I'm so lost. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 years broke up with for good. Don't know what to do. Was all my fault and don't know how to cope with it."}
{"id": "t3_2uu4om", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] Uncomfortable with my GF [18/f] speaking to her former interest, am I wrong?", "post": "Basically, my girlfriend of one and a half years has started talking to her 'friend' again. She told me one night many months ago that she wanted to fuck him really badly a year or so earlier, and that after much pestering from him she gave into his requests and sent him a bunch of nudes. I'm fine with things that happened in the past but that's not where this ends. About three months ago while I was in possession of her phone I betrayed my own values and decided to snoop around on her phone. Turns out, she'd been talking to him and he'd been questioning her about her sex life and telling her that he still jerks it to her photos and sent her a few racy pictures all the while she just played along and answered/responded to it all. I came clean to her that I had snooped because I'm not one to lie about these things, and after I talked to her she told her friend that she didn't want to talk like that again. Fast forward to right now, and she's started talking to this guy again and he's beginning to appear on her tumblr/twitter/facebook. I feel very uncomfortable with this, am I in the wrong for feeling like this or should I just trust her? This is really testing me.", "summary": "Girlfriend is talking to her former sexual interest that she said she won't talk to in a sexual way anymore, but I feel uncomfortable given their history."}
{"id": "t3_mgi7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One of my boss' foster kids said some racist shit, he didn't know I was in earshot. Should I confront him?", "post": "So I work for a family that has a couple of foster kids. I am a full time mentor/tutor to one of the kids. His older brother went in his room and started harassing him as older bros are wont to do, but this time he kept calling him \"jewish\" in a really negative way like \"don't be jewish. you're such a jew wow i can't believe you're so jewish\" etc. I didn't exactly hear what they were talking about but...\n\nI'm Jewish. So are they, as it turns out, they just aren't practicing at all. And given that they are foster kids, they've been raised to do Christmas and all that other stuff. \n\nI don't think the kid heard me, as he knows I am Jewish and I am a lot bigger than he is and do martial arts. He's also really timid around me usually. Should I confront him?", "summary": "kid said some racist shit thinking I wouldn't hear. should I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_4kzsrp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 5 months, I said I loved him, he didn't reciprocate, am I wasting my time?", "post": "He's the first guy I've dated in 8-9 years.  Things were pretty slow to start but I've been feeling the urge to say it for a little bit now.  I really did think he might feel the same way, but when I said it, I got an \"Well that was unexpected.\" followed by him telling me that he likes me a lot but doesn't know me well enough.  \n\nObviously that hurt.  We don't really seem like a \"real\" couple to me sometimes.  Like he's not all that affectionate towards me, it seems like I'm always initiating sex, I'll go down on him but I can't remember the last time he returned the favor.  We do a lot of stuff together and talk every day, but sometimes he doesn't really feel like a boyfriend.\n\nThe day after I said it I told him I felt like an idiot and he told me not to.  I wrote up some of my thoughts (really short, in bullet form) and gave it to him, but he didn't even say anything about it.\n\nI'm just wondering if I'm wasting my time with this.  I like him a lot but if it's not going anywhere and he doesn't feel that strongly about me, then what's the point?  Should I wait it out longer or move on?", "summary": "Told my bf I love him, he didn't reciprocate, now I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_35wosw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[40 F] 13 year old son[13 M] peed his pants in the car", "post": "I'm a single mother raising two boys. One is 18, ready to go off to college. The other is a 13 year old boy, and i'm beginning to get a little worried. I went to the tanning salon and to run errands the other day, I took my youngest with me. He usually waits in the car for me to go tan, but this time there was a wait so I came back to the car to read a book while I waited. It took about ten minutes, then i went back inside to tan. \n\nThe tan took about 20 minutes. When I came back, he told me he had peed his pants! Not only was there a tanning salon 15ft from the car, but there was a fast food place right next to it. I left the keys in the car for him, so he could have easily locked it and went to use the restroom somewhere. Instead he sat there and peed himself.\n\nHe hasn't wet the bed for years, and this has never happened before. I'm worried that when my oldest goes off to college, I cant leave my youngest home alone without thinking he may kill himself.\n\nIs there something I have done wrong as a parent here? What should I do in this situation?", "summary": "My son peed his pants because he might be too shy, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3pqh3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and [16 F] What are we?", "post": "So me and this girl have been talking for about 5-6 weeks, we started talking casual online and eventually we we're talking dirty, we met up yesterday and we had sex, we talked about whether we we're dating or not right after and we both agreed we were.\n\nProblem is, now she's changed her mind and instead wants to say that we are exclusive and seeing each other, I don't really understand what the change of label is.\n\nI have been very clear that I want to date and we have talked about it a couple of times, she says that she really likes me but we haven't taken the next step.\nShe said she doesn't care about people knowing about us, and we have kissed in public at her school so it's not about her being embarrassed to be with me or anything", "summary": "Talked, fcked, what are we"}
{"id": "t3_309j7b", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Career woman - I can't anymore", "post": "So sorry if this sounds to trivial. But I am reaching my wit's end since some months. Ever since the day I graduated, I have been working, nonstop. Well I had my vacation of course, but never anything close to a good, long, break. \n\nSimply because it was never possible to do that. And probably never will be until I bite the dust. I am working in a very hectic lawfirm with a chaotic organisation and a lot of stress inducing work on a daily basis. It is what I had wanted to do, after climbing the career latter like a hungry mouse looking for the cheese. I want no children and I surely want no marriage, so what's left for me as a girl in the world, is work, work, work. \n\nIt is not very rewarding, safe for the salary but even that is not really doing a thing for me, cause being +30 and having no partner with a second salary still makes you not being able to afford big stuff (well not here in this country either way). So I go home after work, so exhausted that I literally feel like throwing up, hang on the couch, do the internet. Have you ever have that feeling? Of running in a cage like some friggen Hamster from 8am to 6pm?\n\nIt's just such a joy-ridden, vicious circle with no clear and risk-free way out that I wonder when or how long it will take, until I snap. Or if I am exaggerating, and that stuff is as it is, and that I just need to soldier through it some 27 more years. The thought makes me want to curl up and cry. \n\nYet what should I do? Risk a lower salary with a job that is slightly more quiet? It seems to be the solution that would irk me most tbh, cause I'm not lazy at all. \n\nI'm just...stressed. And can't see anything atm. Thanks for reading me.", "summary": "Working is like being a hamster forever. It never ends ever."}
{"id": "t3_2pbinz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) and GF (25F) are LDR, finishing our studies, want to talk about our future. What is especially important or often forgotten?", "post": "We are in an LDR. We met each other in summer, spent 2 months together before I went abroad for my studies. I will finish my studies within 6 months if everything goes as planned.\n\nThis week we came to the conclusion that we should talk about the future (she brought it up, along with some subjects earlier about how many kids I would want, how I think about marriage, etc).. I postponed it until we get back together in person, she agreed.\n\nSo, we know we should talk about our studyplans, travelplans, where we would like to live, what are career plans are, or even how many kids we want (we agreed to 3). It's too soon to think about kids, but atleast that's another thing we agreed on. Also, we want to determine when we can close the distancegap and finally be together!\n\nWhat do we especially need to pay attention to, and what should we especially not forget?", "summary": "What is important in our talk about the future? What do we need to cover, to which detail?"}
{"id": "t3_2aex6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (30/M) with my embarrassing condition- how do you tell someone?", "post": "here goes nothing- I'm a bedwetter. I have been all my life. I've been to docs, therapists, hypnotists, etc. Nothing has improved the situation. It happens most nights and I use diapers to avoid making a bad situation even worse.\n\nI've never had a relationship that lasted more than a few months. I tried being upfront and the ladies bolt. I tried waiting until we get to know each other better and I'm told that it's still a deal-breaker. I haven't pursued a relationship in over 2 years because the last time was particularly upsetting.\n\nWhat's the best way to share my most embarrassing secret? When in a relationship should I bring this up? If this is a medical issue and not a fetish thing, why should it matter? I'm frustrated and would love some insight.", "summary": "Life-long bedwetter who needs advice on when/how to tell my partner"}
{"id": "t3_10wps8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever done something ridiculously moronic just because you weren't paying attention?", "post": "This isn't life changing or profound or anything, but it was big in terms of the *\"holy crap, I can't believe I was such a moron\"* factor.\n\nWhen I worked in a DIY store I was trained on a paint mix machine. You know, one of those ones where there are like 25 colours in them; customers choose a shade and how much they want, and the computer tells you what can to use and how many shots of certain colours make up their choice.\n\nSo the pager on my belt goes...someone is waiting at the machine. I go over, and it's a couple with two young boys, who wanted some godawful yellow hue made up. So I type in the colour code, and select a 1 litre tin, put it under the nozzles and start adding paint.\n\nI'll say this now. I'm not a dumbass. I even skipped a year in school and have just finished university. But after the first couple of shades, the tin is getting a bit full. I notice this, but because I am listening to a machine I reason it cannot possibly be wrong! Can it?\n\nWell as it turns out, I'm a fucking tool, and I was mixing the recipe for 2 litres of paint in a 1 litre paint tin. The gentleman even commented at one juncture that it was looking a bit too near to the brim - but I assured him like some total ass that it would be okay as it was worked out by the clever paint robot. As it turned out I got yellow on my hands, all over my black uniform, on the floor...and here's the best bit. Their two kids started getting in on the act. Before long, it looked like a preschool production of The Simpsons was happening in aisle 11.\n\nLike I said, not a huge mistake. But for the my sheer **\"herp derp infallible paint robot herpy derpy doo\"** idiocy in front of these good people who just wanted some paint for their kitchen...so fucking embarrassing.", "summary": "turned a couple of kids yellow"}
{"id": "t3_1ydix3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I am an absolutely clueless student wondering what to do with $40,000 sitting in his bank account. (CA)", "post": "Hi Personal Finance!\n\nFirst thing you should know about me is that I am a student with 2 and half years before I graduate from medical school, and so I will have zero income until then. Second thing you should know is that the government has granted me more student loans than I actually need, which is a significant reason that I have $40,000 in my bank account in the first place. They usually grant me with around $20,000 each year ($1000 of it is pardoned), whereas my school fees cost $12,000 a year. I am also extremely lucky that my parents have been kind enough to provide room, board and food for me throughout my entire education. I will have to begin paying off my loans in September 2016, at which point I will be owing approximately $104,000 in total (accrued from both my undergraduate and medical studies).\n\nThe problem is that I am completely clueless when it comes to investments. Something tells me that I shouldn't just let this money stagnate for the next 2 and a half years. Would you guys be able to offer some advice on what I should be doing to make the most out of it at this moment in time? Should I be putting it into mutual funds, stocks, or what not? Investing is probably the area of life that I am least knowledgeable about, and I would greatly appreciate if anybody could shed a little light on what wise investing entails.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "$40,000 in account, what's the smartest thing I should be doing with it, with the context that I will have to be begin repaying $100K in student loans in 2 and half years?"}
{"id": "t3_2fimt1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26/m) broke up with my girlfriend (21/f) today, now I realize she has given me oral herpes. Don't know how to go on now, feel like I should go back to her.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I broke up today. It came from me mentioning that I was no longer in to the relationship, and I couldn't give her what she wanted.\n\nNow, I've discovered a cold sore on my lip (she had them as well, I never did.) I am assuming I got them from her, and now I'm scared. How can I date from now on? Isn't that off putting?\n\nNow I just want to go back to her, because I know it will never be an issue having them if I'm dating her, but for other girls it could be a huge issue...", "summary": "Broke up, now have oral herpes, afraid to move on and date."}
{"id": "t3_2nd7n6", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Rabies: Am I infected?", "post": "31, male, no current health problems.\n\nI have been camping in Greece, and was followed by some abandoned puppies. I had some really light scratches on my hand from breaking sticks for a fire. The following morning these three pups came and climbed all over me and as I pushed them off they were licking my hand. \n\nOne hour later, as I am packing to leave, I poured some water for them, and realised that one of these pups could not drink well, and it foamed at the mouth. \n\nI washed and within another hour I had used medical alcohol on my hand. \n\nIt was three and a half days ago. I spent yesterday in vain navigating Athens, and today I went to the hospital. The doctor seemed to not comprehend the severity of a man without symptoms. He did pointless tests such as blood pressure and with a stethoscope. \n\n\"You have no symptoms\" he said. I was refused the vaccine. He tried to reassure me that I could go to the ER if I felt photophobia or other symptoms. I hate to be that guy who second-guesses the doc, but the vaccine only works before symptoms occur, after which it is an incurable fatal condition (amirite?).", "summary": "Rabid dog licked my hand which may have had light scratches. I washed it, but only after one hour when I noticed the dog's symptoms. Hospital doc refused to vaccinate me. "}
{"id": "t3_1ndm2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know how to tell my [M/17] best friend I have feelings for her [F/19]?", "post": "I've been friends with this girl since my freshman year in high school four years ago.  About two years ago, I realized I've started growing feelings for her. Between then and now, I've pretty much only been talking to her over Skype, I hung out with her once at her house like the last week of summer.  \n\nLast week, she had said she had a dream that got her thinking that she might have feelings for me.  She's a great friend and person and i really like her, but I don't know how to tell her how I feel about her.  Any help?", "summary": "How do I tell my best girl friend for 4 years that I have feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_3isxzb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/m] feel myself becoming more anxious, controlling, and irrationally worried about my gf's [24/f] actions and developing social life. How do I stop my destructive thought patterns before it wrecks my relationship? And what would be examples of real red flags that I should actually worry about?", "post": "It's time for me to put the brakes on myself. I am becoming a controlling asshole. My gf and I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years and if I don't put a stop to the root of the problem that causes my anxiety and irrational thought patterns, our relationship will be toast. My gf has never given me a real reason to worry and I feel like my brain is causing me to make up hypothetical situations to worry about. I am probably way overly reliant on her as my source of happiness and I need to figure out how to change that too.\n\nHere are some examples of the behaviors of my gf and the following irrational thoughts I have:\n\n1. Gf wants to have a drink with a female coworker. I worry if she will drink too much and not come home.\n\n2. Gf wants to go to salsa dancing. I worry about her finding a better or more attractive guy, or getting taken advantage of.\n\n3. Gf wants to have a sleepover at a newly made female best friend's house. I worry that she will forget about me, drink too much.\n\nI trust my gf and I know my worry is useless and destructive to the relationship. My plans so far are to find a therapist, but I'm having a hard time doing so. I've always been very socially undeveloped and anxious. I know close to nothing about what a legitimate worry or a legitimate red flag is, therefore my tendency is to treat yellow and even lime green flags like red flags.", "summary": "My anxiety is going to kill my relationship if I don't stop, and I don't know how to chill the fuck out, but am totally willing to do whatever it takes to calm down. And I have no idea what a real red flag would actually look like because I've been treating most all flags as red flags."}
{"id": "t3_g07e0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Crushing on a total stranger I see everywhere", "post": "M/21/gay over here. \n\nSo a few months ago I took notice to this one guy I see on campus a lot, though always in passing. One day my friend and I were scrolling through an invite list on facebook to a pretty large (gay) party (that no one actually cared about, i.e. no one went) and I recognized the face in one of the profile pictures on the invite list. Turns out it was this guy. I thought he was pretty cute from his profile, but there wasn't really anything to work with, so it just kind of faded throughout the semester. \n\nFast forward to this semester, and a friend, who was aware of my little crush, tells me out of the blue one day that this guy started work as a campus tour guide with him, though they never have the opportunity to interact. After that I noticed that I also have a class adjacent to this guy at the same time, so I see him two to three times a week when we're both walking into our classrooms. I also ended up seeing him at this bar I go to every now and then a few weeks ago, but I was rather inebriated, and he clearly wasn't, so I decided it was against my better judgment to say anything to him.\n\nBasically, I don't have the balls to talk to him because we're never really in the same space for more than a few seconds at a time. We do have a few mutual fb friends, though I don't know many of them personally -- they're just some gay folk that I happen to know through the gay social web at my university. My university's in a college town, so it's likely to run into the same person everywhere. I feel totally creepy because I probably am, but I can't really avoid seeing this guy on campus. I figure I should try to talk to him once or something, but I'm not sure how to go about it...advice?", "summary": "I have a crush on a stranger I see everywhere and have vague friend connections with, but don't necessarily have the right opportunities/balls to talk to him. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_skj31", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your worst bug stories..I'll start", "post": "a few years ago during a really hot summer night a Friend and I were chilling around the house when we realized my front door was open and my mom was yelling that [giant mosquitoes] (craneflys - we have tons of these where I live) were invading the house... there was dozens of them flocking in the door..\n\nwe quickly grabbed the giant fly swatters and went to work which was pretty fun actually.. the battle ended up outside and we worked out way into the garden where these guys were crowding..\n\njust then my friend sees a spiders nest under a patch of bushes on the garden stone and next to it was a big fat slug/maggot/caterpillar... a giant blob of a creature.. without hesitation my friend winds up....**complete outstreteched reach and windmills his arm sending the flyswatter at mach speed against this thing** just as I yell \"NO\"\n\npiles of guts like a oozing tube of toothpaste spray directly at me through the spiders nest/cobweb and in my face/mouth... covering 2/3rds of my face and nothing else... My friend dies of laughter and I'm yelling and spitting running through the house straight to the shower..", "summary": "friend atomic-slaps slug guts and spider babies in my face/mouth"}
{"id": "t3_gy56y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you talk about yourself without feeling egotistical at a job interview?", "post": "I can't do it. They ask \"So tell me about yourself?\" and I buckle. \n\nIn my head I'm thinking: \"I don't want to sound conceited\", so the words that come out of me aren't very flattering, even though I'm qualified for the jobs I'm applying to and interviews I'm getting.\n\nI understand they want to know more about who they might potentially hire and it's a fair question, but I think this is the main reason I haven't got a job yet after 3 interviews: I find it extremely difficult to sell myself. \n\nEven though I think I've analyzed the problem, I still need help with the solution.\n\nHALP.", "summary": "How do I tell my brain it's OK to tell people that I just met for the first time good things about myself without feeling like a douche?"}
{"id": "t3_ujkqa", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My son has been a little terror lately!", "post": "My 2 1/2 yr old son and I recently moved far away from all of our friends and family and because of this he's been really acting out. He's been throwing crazy fits for no reason, throwing hard, heavy toys at me, basically doing everything that I tell him not to. I understand that he's in the \"terrible two's\", but it's gotten so much worse since we moved and he isn't responding to the punishments that used to work. Between all of the stress that comes with moving and him acting out like he does, I've been getting migraines every other day. If someone could help a mother out, I would kiss the ground you walk on.", "summary": "My 2 1/2 yr old son is being a little terror and is causing me to get horrible migraines. I've tried all I can think of but I would love some helpful ideas."}
{"id": "t3_z7d6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [19/f] and I [19/m] have decided to go on a break. Any advice?", "post": "Quick back story:\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for just over three and a half years. We've always been really close and could work through our problems without too much difficulty.\n\nThis time last year, we both got into University. We're at different ones and are about a four hour train journey apart. It was hard at first, but over the year we got used to the long distance, and the relationship worked for us.\n\nFast forward to this summer: things have taken a really bad turn. She's seemed very distant, so much so that she won't even hold my hand. We've barely seen each other this summer, and on the occasions we have, it's felt really awkward. \n\nAfter keeping it locked up, we've had a serious discussion about it over the last couple of days. She says that she feels that we've grown apart and that she's not sure how she loves me any more. I asked if there was anyone else, to which she said there wasn't. After lengthy discussions, I asked if we would be better off as just friends. It seemed that the conversation was going that way until all of a sudden she says 'But... I don't want us to end'\n\nAfter many tears and after exhausting every possibility I can think of, I asked if it would be best if we went on a break. She agreed, and said that there's not much else we can do, as long as I was okay with it and it would help me too. I don't feel like I need a break, but I want to give her the space she clearly needs. I still love her dearly and want to make sure she's happy. \n\nI'm finding it hard right now; I know we were both young when we got together and that things change, especially at such a crucial stage of our lives, but even though we've grown apart, it doesn't mean that I don't still love her. Any advice would be appreciated so much right now.", "summary": "GF of 3 and a half years and I went on a break because she is unsure of feelings. She doesn't want us to end and I still love her. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1orwyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Its over. But i [28/M] still love her [26/F] and dont think i'll ever find anyone better than her.", "post": "We've been going out nearly 2 1/2 years now. 28m 26f. Both of us virgins, and it was the first proper relationship for both of us. In that time we've never had sex at all. We tried so much, but it never happened - we could never get on the same wavelength. She was uncomfortable with being intimate with anyone and used to tense up when things would head that way, which killed the mood. In the last few weeks she went off the pill cause there was no point. She said she thinks i dont want her round anymore. \n\nI do love her though, and would be almost willing to accept that we'd never properly have sex. She was amazing to be with, and i dont think i'l ever find anyone better than her ever again. (my dating record before her was awful and im scared of getting back into the single life again).\nIt also is coming at a really awkward time as well - I'm finishing my job and we were talking about moving away somewhere together. All the future plans i thought of are ruined now.\nI just dont know what to do next.", "summary": "I cant see me finding love ever again."}
{"id": "t3_1qvedr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "For the love of God, please help me [25m] get over this woman [25f] (ex post from /r/relationship_advice)", "post": "I feel it still when I see her. It's still the strongest desire I've ever felt, but it's now mixed with resentment. I resent that she chose him over me. I resent that someone else gets to touch the pale skin that she promises gets dark under the Texas sun. I resent that she looks at him with those almond-shaped eyes with the black-coffee irides and black eyelashes the same way that she looked at me. And I resent that she no longer looks at me like she wants to pull my soul from my body and thank it for keeping her company. I try to resent her. I want to resent her because she chose wrong, but I can't because I still want to wake up to her sprawled next to me. I still want to roll out of bed exhausted and make her a cappuccino with extra milk because she doesn't like them strong.\n\nIt's been a year. Any advice that would help me move on would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "think I still love her"}
{"id": "t3_sel5i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I emailed my professor last night at 2am while running a 103.5 fever. The result was not pretty. What are your horrible email faux pas?", "post": "I've been sick with strep for the past four days and decided to sleep in through my 8am biology class. I went on with my day, went to a class later, but at about 1am I started running a fever and managed to convince myself that I had slept in through my biology class earlier that day. I was freaking the fuck out because every test is a 1/5 of my average.\n\nI email him, begging him for mercy, making up a bad story that I went to the hospital and can get a note and I just sound so pathetic. An hour later, the fever goes down, and shit, I realize there was no biology test at all. I go back, re-read my email and send him a second telling him I'm an idiot with a fever. I got a reply back this morning but decided to delete the emails. I'd rather not know.", "summary": "I sent an insane email to my bio professor about a missed test that never occurred. "}
{"id": "t3_3y7f2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] can't stand my sister's [20F] girlfriend [20F] of 1.5 years", "post": "Since about two weeks ago, my sister has been kindly letting me stay at her house since my university is on Winter Break and thus all on-campus housing is closed. Mind you, my sister lives with a couple other roommates, one of which is her girlfriend. This was the first time I got to meet my sister's girlfriend, let's call her Natalie. I'm generally very open in accepting people, but Natalie is every thing I don't like in a person. I won't get into the things I don't like about her, but just know she and I don't like each other.\n\nHow should I go about bringing this up with my sister? Should I even mention it to her? They've been dating for a year and a half (they say they love each other), so my sister's probably not going to be all too fond of my opinion. My sister and I have been really close our entire life, but I feel like telling her this would create a really negative atmosphere in our relationship. The only reason I want to bring it up, however, is that (in the future) if my sister wants to meet up (we hardly ever see each other since we live very far away) I honestly might opt out just because I wouldn't want to see Natalie.\n\nI don't know what to do. Should I bring it up online after I've returned to the university? Should I hold my tongue? I'm really not sure how to proceed.\n\nIf you need any more information, feel free to ask.", "summary": "I don't like my sister's girlfriend. At all. How should I go about talking this to her?"}
{"id": "t3_y9tdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20m) at my girlfriend's (20f) phone without her knowing, I feel terrible, should I tell her about it.", "post": "(me 20m, her 20f been dating for 2.5 years)\n\nThis is both our first relationship, and I'll admit I'm a jealous boyfriend I do my best to try and stop it but I just am. Lately my girlfriend has been getting really close to one of her guy friends from school and I'm suspicious of his intentions. He's pretty much the only person who texts my girlfriend other than me (I knew this already, my girlfriend is pretty introverted and doesn't have many friends, so I feel really badly about this)\n\nI noticed that he was texting her more and more often. I was doing homework in the living room while my girlfriend was in the shower and her phone kept going off with texts from this guy. I let my paranoia get the best of me and I looked through the conversations that she was having with this guy. It was all pretty tame stuff.\n\nIt was just that he's been texting her way more often than me, and it's off putting to me that they're always having a conversation when me and my girlfriend are home together.\n\nI feel really badly about this. Should I tell her that I did this and how insecure I'm feeling about this guy who's always texting her? I don't think I even expected there to be anything there, I just wanted to know what he could possibly be texting her about all the time.\nI'll be honest I'm kind of under the impression that most guys have less than straight forward intentions when being friends with a girl.\nI know I'm being a shitty boyfriend, I'm jealous and insecure, I'm sorry. I just need advice on how to deal with this in the best way possible.", "summary": "went through my girlfriend's phone because her guy friend was texting her a lot, I feel terrible about it. Should I tell her what I did?"}
{"id": "t3_2ksdp4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a black eye by a potato", "post": "At my old job I worked in a factory that produced french fries. We were dealing with fresh products and it was easier for the company to pay us to work overnight then to have us clean everything every night. So we worked in 12 hour shifts from 6:30-6:30, every shift for up to 60 hours a week. Working that much you're bound to want to goof off, especially if its your fifth in a row.\n\nNow, we had a machine that filtered out potatoes based on size/shape so the factory wouldn't run out. Each product that was being produced had two separate conveyor belts that would balance between the sizes of potatoes so the factory wouldn't run out. \n\nThe machine was imperfect however and constantly had to be monitored to make sure it wouldn't overflow one conveyor belt. Otherwise only one machine would be running and we would get yelled at. At one point the belt overflowed so badly the other machine wouldn't run for about a half hour. We didn't want to get in shit so we set out to balance it.\n\nWe started hand bombing potatoes from the one conveyor belt to the other. People were throwing them over their shoulders and generally potatoes were going everywhere without being controlled. We finally got the belts balanced and set off to go back and finish our job. I jokingly tell a co-worker that if he wanted to try to hit me he should have tried harder because he missed most of the time. \n\nThe fuck up: We started lobbing potatoes at each other but very lightly until I taunted him again. He whipped a potato at me intending to miss but I ended up dodging into it and had to hide for the rest of the shift. The worst part is that the fucking potato didn't even break! I didn't want to get in trouble for goofing off on the shift. Later on I still got in trouble but I wouldn't have if it wasn't for the basket or the stapler incident.", "summary": "Taunted a co-worker and learned the hard way that I am not Neo."}
{"id": "t3_1tvzwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] GF [20 F] of three years buys presents for other guys, including someone I don't like, but never have for me. Is this normal?", "post": "Basically, gf of three years, in first year 3-4 months in she liked a guy and he liked her as well. She was practically bursting with excitement every time she went out with him. He kissed her, she apologized to me, and told me that she told him not to do stuff blabla and they continued to hang out and they still talk, much to my displeasure, which I **have** told her about, clearly.\n\n\"Well, I only hang out with him because I want free stuff.\" Which, from what I know of her, is complete bullshit. She would never hang out with a person just for 'free stuff.'\n\nAlso, on an unrelated note, she does **opposite** of whatever I tell her to. She says she likes doing that and watching my reaction. If I tell her not to do something particular, or not to repeat some line/word because I have a headache and that particular word bothers me, she'd go on repeating it. Once the discussion of cheating came up and she asked \"What would you do?\" Me: I don't know. Her: \"Well it's not like you will do something y'know?\"\n\nSo, I recently started noticing something. She regularly buys presents for other people (Basically includes a couple friends I'm fine with, but a few guy 'friends' as well.) Okay, now, I'm fine with her having guy friends but it kinda bothers me when it's Christmas eve and she'd go hang out with some dude and then proceeds to buy him gifts when I know she's short on money and always complains about money...just...not me. Ever.\n\nI bought her her favourite quill-pen and painting kit because she wanted it for a long while, even hinted about it.\n\nI'm out of my wits on this. So...is the solution what I think it is or is there some salvaging the relationship?", "summary": "GF does BS things, buys things for other people, and is being generally not-nice person"}
{"id": "t3_24nliq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is affirmative action needed in the United States?", "post": "**Serious answers please**\n\nAffirmative action benefits select racial/ethnic minorities in the college admissions process over others, particularly those of African, Native American or Latino descent. Affirmative action is intended to promote the opportunities of defined minority groups within a society to give them equal access to that of the privileged majority population and is justified by helping compensate for past discrimination and exploitation.\n\nHanding out diplomas on a gilded platter doesn't seem like the solution to socio-economically disadvantaged groups in the US. It benefits a select few and reinforces negative stigma in all racial groups ( [Check your privilege] ). It would be more effective to rehaul public education ( **NOT** the Common Core!) starting ground up. (Since the synaptic density within the human brain is greatest during elementary and junior high schooling years,  [See critical periods] younger students haven't formed misconceptions about what they can or cannot do, and are more receptive to learning.) \n\nI have been told (in lieu of my own disappointing college results, and [Kwasi Enin's] very impressive ones) that future success depends more on invested efforts rather than the institution that one attends. Following that logic, AA should have negligible effects on a student's career path and success.\n\nWhy, should one student be privileged to pursue education at a top institution that denies another student of comparable academic merit based on different ethno-racial origins?\n\n* **I am not trying to detract from Kwasi's academic merits.**\n* **Yes the careers of many prominent individuals, like our President, have been made possible by AA. I don't begrudge that. But the success of a few will not improve the lives of many.", "summary": "I think AA is objectively unfair and the wrong approach to making amends for past abuses by the government to certain racial and ethnic minorities. "}
{"id": "t3_2b10if", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend[20 M] is extremely philosophical and pessimistic since we've been in a temporary LDR and he's alone", "post": "We've been friends for two years and in a relationship for several months. \n\nDo to the semester ending and us both going to different places to work before school starts up again we've been doing somewhat of a long distance thing. \n\nHe feels very alone and is beating himself up emotionally all the time. He's thinking way too much about things he has no control over and is overall a real downer to talk to. \n\nIt's hard because when we're together in person we click perfectly and he's the best boyfriend anyone could ask for. But when we text or skype this summer he's just been in a very bad place. \n\nHow do I help him get through this from a distance? I don't know what to say or do that could possibly begin to make him feel better.", "summary": "How do you help someone who is possibly depressed from a distance?"}
{"id": "t3_3kxn67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I got my first job(22M) using connections. I feel guilty. Should i quit?", "post": "Thank you for reading my post. i would like to ask you sorry for my grammar. \n\n1.5 years ago, a few months before my graduation, a friend of my father called me and asked me if i would be interested to work in <Insert the name of a mutlinational service firm>. Apparently, he knew the head of the firm that told him they were hiring people. I told him that would be my dream and pretty soon, after i passed an interview, i was hired along with 5 more people.\n\nThe problem, now, is that my father is a famous person in my country. As a result, i feel that everybody, in my office, thinks that i don't deserve that position, i was hired because of my father and i stole the job from someone that needs it and deserves it more than me. The feeling is magnified by the fact that i am the youngest inside the office, i am the only one that havent finished his military obligations (Going to the military for some months, is obligatory in my country and a necessary step in order to proceed with my career, within the firm) and the high unemployment rate of my country.\n\nI feel guilty. Nonone has ever questioned my ability, in front me but i feel that they are doing it behind me.\n\nShould i quit? \nAny feedback would be appreciated. Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Should i quit the job that i got using connections ?"}
{"id": "t3_26v946", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 F] boyfriend [38 M] is in a band with his ex wife [31 F]", "post": "We've been dating for over two years, been living together for more than a year. Our relationship very healthy, and the only thing we ever fight about is the fact that he is in a band with his ex wife. They don't have kids together or anything, and I didn't think their musical project was going to last this long and I'm getting very impatient. I hate that she is in his and my life in this way. I have been very accepting and accommodating thus far but I feel as though if he continues to be in a band with her I don't know if I can stay, but it's hard because I feel like we have a real connection. We've talked about it and he seems to want to continue being in a band with her, and I have not wanted to press the issue because I don't want to jeopardize things unnecessarily. Getting pretty fed up though.", "summary": "boyfriend in band with ex wife, no kids, it's weird and I'm sick of this shit."}
{"id": "t3_4qp4jl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) am in love with surgeon(37M) at hospital where I work.", "post": "After I graduated high school I immidiately entered a nursings assisatant training program. I didnt have the money for college.  I was 19 when Dr. Smith started working at the hospital.  He's an attractive guy and is in really good shape.  He's really funny and charismatic at times and is the most skilled doc at the hospital, but sometimes he can be so arrogant.  For example, at times he wont even acknowledge people when they say hello to him.  Also, there have been times where people have tried to sit with him in the cafeteria and he has said\"uh uh uh doctors only\".  He also has a policy where when he is talking in the OR to the anesthesilogist (theyre just chatting) that none of the nurses or techs cannot speak unless spoken to.  However, he does do a lot of work for the poor so overall I think he is a good guy.  I developed a crush on him shortly after I started working here.  I just hoped it would go away, but it did not.  After almost two years I really think I love him.  He is always on my mind  I have been told I'm very attractive by other people so I'm not sure if I should go for him.  Should I ask him out (I'm a good cook)?  How do I get his attention?", "summary": "In love with surgeon how do I get his atttention/ ask him out?"}
{"id": "t3_20sj4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (31/m) have two aunts who are trying to assume a place in my life that I don't want to give them.", "post": "I'm 31 and lead kind of a turbulent life. Right now mom is dying of cancer. Two of her sisters, neither of whom I've ever been close to, have recently been trying to assume maternal roles in my life, doing things like calling me up to check up on me and basically try to give me me unsolicited and unwanted advice about things that aren't really any of their business. So far I haven't had the heart to tell them that I'm not really interested in them and certainly don't see them as mentors. I overheard one of them tell my mom that they want to \"take over the mother role\" in my life for her after she's gone. Even if they mean well, I find this ridiculous since I'm thirty fucking one and not in need of a mother figure anymore, and wouldn't seek one in either of them if I was. I want to shut this down and would actually rather not talk to them at all since it isn't my style to rekindle relationships with blood relatives whom I've never been close to just because they happen to be blood. How should I handle this without hurting them?", "summary": "I'm 30 and my aunts think I'm 12, how do I politely drive the point home that they're not my real mom?"}
{"id": "t3_34xmwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my on again/off again GF [28F] short, female advice?", "post": "So! long story short i Have been off and on (mostly on) for 4 years with the love of my life. Recently we're moving back towards on but because of her fear of commitment, we're promising to slow it down and just take it a day at time.\n\nThis is a change because the first two years we talked about marriage, our kids names, lived together, the whole 9. But i think as it got more and more real it got more and more scary?\nWe're working on her letting her guard down and really tackling some of the things that puts her in 'flight' mode. I love her completely, and want to do what i can to show her i'm by her side no matter what... I'm just wondering if there are any woman on here who can relate, and what people have done for them to help them bring those walls down?", "summary": "trying to work on girlfriends trust issues, anyone got advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3hcfye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my ex-gf [27 F] dated for 1 year, 3 years ago. Met Again.", "post": "Three years  ago after our break up, we decided to meet for a drink and catch up. That was last week. Our evening at pub turned into the night,  and dinner and 4 drinks later,  we decided to continue  proceedings at my place. \n\n*I learned that I was her last boyfriend (due to her school, a year old illness  -nothing too serious and she is recovered now), while I had relationships, with the last 2 year long one ending a few months ago.\n\n* At my place, I tried to escalate , but she rebuffed and we continue to talk like two mature adults.  Since it was too late for her to go home, I offered to stay on the couch and she did. In the morning we had breakfast together and then went separate ways. Overall I enjoyed her company a lot and now considering giving another shot, assuming she wants it. \n\n* She didn't display much of affection and was cold when it came to any physical stuff. Understandable.  \n\n* I don't think she is a completely against us try again, but she was aloof and apprehensive, as she didn't want to give in. I don't know. I didn't ask her straightforward to try again ( but hinted a few times)\n\n* At some point during the evening, I suggested to have dinner with her mom (jokingly), something we'd done a few times before break up.  Two days ago, she e-mailed me, \"My mom says that she's open to having lunch with you. Hope you're having a good day! :)\"\n\nNow I am confused, while I don't mind having dinner with her and her mom, I don't want to confuse a poor lady. If she wants try dating again  then sure, but otherwise, it's just doesnt sound right to me.\n\nAnyway,  I don't know what to do. Please advise.", "summary": "dates 3 years ago for a year. Broke up. Last weekend went for drinks. Now I want a relationship with her."}
{"id": "t3_tw3st", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Two years ago I discovered hummus, this year I discovered Greek Yogurt - how did I not know about these until recently? What else am I missing out on?!", "post": "This is my first post to loseit. I've recently got married, am about to finish grad school and am looking to make some serious life changes. I have maintained a healthy weight for most of my life (i'M 25, 5'7, 145lbs), but have recently gained 21lbs and now stand at 166. \n\nI have never had very healthy eating habits - I've always had a sweet tooth with zero self control, and it's only recently that I've begun to pay the piper for my bad habits. I want to nip this weight gain before it gets any worse. \n\nI've cut out all pasta, most bread and other carbs (except for the occasional mashed potatoes) and have started eating mostly vegetables, green tea and fruit. Two of my BIGGEST finds were (as mentioned in the title), hummus and greek yogurt. \n\nI mix hummus with tuna, use it for veggie dip, spread it on crackers when I have cravings for chips - it's basically my go-to food for when I would have had chips and dip. I only ever have 2 tablespoons at a time but it's very filling and kills any cravings. \n\nGreek yogurt I use as a topping/mix to get my calcium and protein. I especially like mixing it with berries and oatmeal or adding some chopped walnuts. It's 100 cals for 1/2 a cup and the honey flavored version I enjoy kills any cravings for sweets.\n\nI'm willing to try anything and I'm looking forward to sharing my progress with you lovely people :) Please reply with your favorite foods.", "summary": "What are some awesome foods that helped you replace unhealthy favorites?"}
{"id": "t3_zsvet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am sick to the core right now. I just found out that my best friend and my girlfriend dated awhile back, and that he still has some romantic feelings for her. What do I do?", "post": "Using a throwaway because I don't want to be tagged or remembered or anything. (x-post from /r/relationships )\n\nSo, what happened was that I was talking to him (we became best friends after me and my girlfriend started dating for about 3 months now), and it came up that he was only telling me this because we were really good friends for a while. He told me that he and my girlfriend were dating for a long time, and their relationship ended a few (4-5) months ago. They were still very close when they broke up, and still are. I mean, it never crossed my mind, how close they were/are, but it all makes sense now. She's really close to him, and shows that she really, really cares about him. I don't know whether this is friendly, or perhaps a remnant of the past, but it's caring a good amount about him.\n\nHe told me that at first, when I started dating her, he hated me, because he was insanely jealous. Now, we're really really good friends, but he also admitted that he has romantic feelings for her still. He has a girlfriend, but I think he'd get back with her if he had the chance.\n\nMy girlfriend doesn't know he told me, or anything about it. She's oblivious.\n\nThe question is, Reddit, am I overreacting right now? If not, what do I do? Do I confront my girlfriend about it, breaking the trust of my (now) best friend? Or do I hold back and say nothing?\n\nI'll edit the post (for clarity) and respond as necessary.", "summary": "Title says most of it."}
{"id": "t3_2ne8p5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting it was 2 days before thanksgiving", "post": "As a college freshman, my professors like to fuck me over. So, naturally I have classes up until 4 pm on Wednesday evening. This came as no surprise to me- I knew it would happen before my professor laughed and said \"you guys better be here on Wednesday, we have an important lecture ahead of us.\" \n\nThis morning as I'm getting ready for class as usual, a really great song gets stuck in my head. I'm pretty lucky to have an 11 am class, so by the time this song is in my head, my entire floor is basically gone to their respective classes. I pull out my phone and blast the song. Now here's the thing: I'm not a good singer but I love to sing. I've accepted this fact and only sing when driving or knowingly alone. So being knowingly alone, I start jamming out. I mean I'm belting these lyrics like I want to break all the windows in the dorm. \nAs 10:50 approaches, I turn off the music and walk out of my room, only to be surrounded by all the upperclassmen on my floor hanging out and laughing in the hallway. \nGreat. Their teachers must not hate them, because they didn't have to get up for morning classes the week of Thanksgiving.", "summary": "forgot it was the week of thanksgiving, have bad voice, sang out loud for entire floor"}
{"id": "t3_42diiu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21/m) with my girlfriend (20/f). Is this a red flag or is it just me being anxious?", "post": "So I've been with this girl for a few months and our relationship is great. While we're in person we're both affectionate and we agree on most core issues. We both think communication is important and we vocalize any questions or issues we have. i honestly feel that we have great potential and we really enjoy spending time together. We live 5 minutes apart so we see each other often. \n\nFor some background, like most people I've been hurt in relationships. Between that and some issues in childhood, I have anxiety. It can get bad at times but I'm working through it on my own. Sometimes I worry about being abandoned but I can talk myself down and I'll feel fine. I know these anxious thoughts are irrational and there isn't a point in getting my girlfriend involved because she hasn't done anything for me to worry about. I don't want to appear clingy or needy so I'll keep this to myself most of the time because it's a me problem and not a her problem. When I do mention anxiety to her, she is very supportive and comforting. \n\nHowever I'm having trouble rationalizing a few thoughts I'm having and I don't know how I should feel.\n\nShe's best friends with a guy (we'll say sam). Theyve been friends for a long time and before me and her started dating, they were FWB for a month or two. He developed feelings for her (he said he was in love with her) so she cut off the FWB and remained friends with him. \n\nFrom the beginning of our relationship the texting dynamic has been slow and bland for the most part. Occasionally it picks up but for the most part we text 10 messages total throughout the day. \n\nThe problem: they are always texting when she's with me but when she's with him the texting is even more infrequent than usual. Now her and I spend a majority of our time together and she rarely sees him. I think I may be reading too far into this but it causes a bit of anxiety because in my mind it shows a little bias. After all, it's just texting. The amount and quality of time we spend together shows me where we stand Help me put this into perspective?", "summary": "I'm worried about how much my girlfriend texts her friend compared to how much she's texts me."}
{"id": "t3_2yswyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [24M] and my girlfriend [23F] wants to start talking to her ex regularly, what would you do? Help!", "post": "So here's my story/question. Things are good between me and my girlfriend, we've been together almost a year but there's one big issue. She had a boyfriend about 7 years ago. They broke up then 2 years later met up and had sex but according to her haven't spoken since.\n\nFrom the time they started dating until now her ex has always spoken to her mum because his family life is messed up and he talks to her for advice.\n\nRecently a few things happened, on New Year's Day her mum invited her ex over to her house and he spent the day there with my girlfriend and her family. Not long after that he turned up at her house (to apparently talk to her mum) drunk and ended up staying the night. My girlfriend wasn't there at the time so that wasn't a big issue although I did find it weird.\n\nThen 2 weeks later when I was with my girlfriend she got 2 phonecalls from him late at night, the next day she asked why he phoned and he said it was an accident. All of this was weird but by my judgement my girlfriend hadn't done anything wrong.\n\nThis is where it hits the next level. Along with further family issues her ex is also now going to hosptial for surgery of some sort, this prompted my ex to message him saying good luck etc. I told her id find it really weird and would not be ok with her talking to him regularly at all. She said it wouldn't be weird if it progressed and they spoke a bit more and she checked in on him randomly from now on by text.\n\nShe knows I hate the idea of that but I'm worried about making a big deal of it so haven't said much other than id really be against it a few times. Bearing in mind he's slept at her house, they have history and he's clearly looking for people to be dependent on what would you do? It's making me really uncomfortable and I can't get it off my mind. She insists it's innocent and has no romantic level to it whatsoever.", "summary": "my girlfriends ex from a long time ago is close to her mum, now my girlfriend wants to start talking to him too because she feels bad for him. He's shown up at their house a few times and is unstable. She knows I hate the idea of it but doesn't seem to care. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_wla3b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How does dating work in my situation? Story and Tl:dr.", "post": "I am a 16 year old guy, I've never once dated a girl before. \nThe problem is: I don't have time, I guess?\nMy parents don't want me to date; I come home from school late after practice; as soon as I come home I start my homework which takes me the whole night to finish due to the AP courses and my lack of smart.\n\nI don't work, and don't have a car of my own. I can't leave the house because one parent is home at all times. Also my brothers are bored pricks that don't leave me alone.", "summary": "I'm 16, no car, no job, and I'm not allowed out of the house. How can I date a girl?"}
{"id": "t3_tr6au", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm having a problem with my best friend. Please help!", "post": "My best friend recently started dating this girl. They are really good for each other and I'm glad he finally found an awesome girl. He is an awesome guy, and based on his ex (a monstrosity of a human being- a waste of intelligence if you ask me) he really deserves to have this girl. I'm good friends with the girl so even when I'm a third wheel I feel included. But here is where my problem is. \nWhenever I'm with him, he treats me like he always has. We joke, we kid, we argue different viewpoints of stupid crap- what friends usually do. \nBut, when he is with her, he is CONSTANTLY putting me down, belittling me, and just trying to Make me feel inferior in every way. Im not sure what to make of this. \nHas this happened to anyone else? How did you handle it?", "summary": "my friend got a girlfriend and he is a dick to me whenever I'm around them no matter the location. Is this something I induced or what?"}
{"id": "t3_2ibyvm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I 26/f be suspicious if my boyfriend 28/m invites a new girl at our school to hang out with him one on one?", "post": "My boyfriend and I go to school together, he made friends with one of the girls in the incoming class. He asked her to go paddle boarding with him but did not invite me or anyone else (even though I paddleboard too). He says he did not invite me because our friend has my paddleboard locked up at his house (because my boyfriend was borrowing it and had forgot it there) and he knew that I wouldn't be able to get it since that friend is out of town. \n\nHe could tell that I was jealous so we talked about it and he did say that they have chemistry and that if he were not with me he would probably hang out with her. But he said that he doesn't mean that in a sexual way but that he has chemistry with all of his friends, including the male ones. He says he is committed to me and he is very serious about me, that he made it clear to her that he has a girlfriend. But then the other day she texted him and I saw the way he smiled and seemed so happy.\n\nAm I wrong to feel that it is strange for him to be making an effort to hang out with this other, new girl? Am I just being jealous? Or is he crossing boundaries? I really want to be a good girlfriend and I want to handle this well. I do want to show him I trust him but I also don't know where I should set the line between what is appropriate in terms of friendships with the opposite sex. I personally would be more comfortable if he only hung out with her in group settings but I don't know if that is too controlling of me to ask him that.\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "Should I be suspicious if my boyfriend has an instant connection with a new girl at our school and invited her to hang out one on one or should I be more trusting? Is it controlling if I ask him to only hang out with her in group settings?"}
{"id": "t3_syr07", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do I know when to quit?", "post": "My boyfriend (M20) and I(F18) have been in a relationship for approximately two years, however we took a three month break because of a disagreement. During those three months, there was no contact between us whatsoever. I ended the break by calling him and we talked about the argument and agreed that while it was mostly my fault he did have a part in it. We've been back together for three months now, and understandably there have been some obstacles. Specifically, he seems to be unsure as to whether or not he wants to label our relatonship or call me his girlfriend (I understand this completely). We pretty much just picked up where we left off (re: dates, activites, intimacy, etc) though we agreed to abstain from saying \"I love you\" until we were sure we meant it. He frequently becomes upset and gives me the silent treatment, seemingly out of the blue, and is generally unable to effectively communicate what is bothering him. I work extremely hard to reassure him that I still like him and want him around (recently bought him concert tickets and admission to a comic book convention for us both), and it seems as though I'm the only one making any effort to progress. It bothers me when he ignores me. This past weekend, he agreed to spend some time with me before I worked on Friday afternoon, but never answered his phone when I called or text messaged him. I haven't heard from him at all since Thursday afternoon (it's Sunday evening at time of writing this), when we went on a date and made plans to hangout the next day. I'm not sure whether to bother pursuing this person who I care about deeply, or to let them alone and risk the relationship.", "summary": "Significant Other sends mixed signals re: interest in me. I actively pursue them, but am frustrated with lack of communication and effort on their part. I am sick of being ignored. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_177o49", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Been harboring this anger for 7 years and still can't get over it.", "post": "In high school, there was this kid who started hanging out with my group. He idolized the most popular guy in the group, but that guy continually abused this kid. I even saw him slap this kid in the mouth.\n\nAt that point, I began standing up for him, defending him, and even trying to make him feel more like a part of the group. I never did anything to this kid, never even laughed at a joke about him or nothing.\n\nEventually, he left the group and found a place he fit in better. After high school, I made a big mistake in life and got arrested. It was in the paper and stuff and pretty much shamed me in this small town.\n\nAfter a while, I found out that this kid that I stood up for in high school was leading a charge in destroying my character even further. He was making mocking photos of me, writing disgusting untrue stuff about me, even started a facebook group call, \"Do you remember when [my name] got arrested?!\"\n\nHe doesn't live in my town anymore, but I could contact him online if I tried hard enough.\n\nI can't believe that he would do this to me without ever even talking to me personally. Especially after stepping up to be the ONLY person who would protect him at the time.\n\nNow, all of this stopped about 4 years ago (after going on for 3), but I still can't let it go. I'm not typically an angry person, but I cannot let go of this anger and I have no idea what to do to get past it. It hurt me very deeply.", "summary": "The kid I protected from bullies in school lead a vicious charge to destroy my character (3 years of mocking and attacks) after I got arrested for something personal. He never gave me the benefit of the doubt or even talked to me beforehand. I'm so hurt and angry at him, but I can't confront him and I don't know what else to do."}
{"id": "t3_2snbae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he avoinding introducing me to his patents?", "post": "I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 27, we've been dating for 10 months now. I have yet to meet the parents, and it does bother me because I feel like that is an important part about being with some one you care about and love. I want him to meet my family and show him off so much but every time there is an opportunity he avoids it. I consider myself a well rounded woman, I support myself, I was brought up in a great family environment and I'm the girl you want to show off to your mom.\n\nI've come to terms and realized that maybe he isn't ready, but what really did it for me was what happened on thsnksgiving.  My family went to spend thanksgiving in another state to be with another part of my family. With my work schedule, I couldn't go. I communicated with him that I didn't have plans for thanksgiving. Thanksgiving day rolls around and I still get no invite to go to his parents with him. We stayed at his place the night before so thanksgiving morning we left from his place and headed to my place to hang out till he had to go to his parents. His parents live in the same town I do, and on our way he had to drop off food that he made for the dinner. I thought for sure this was it, this is my opportunity to meet them. We pull up to the house and he tells me \"I'll be right back\". Takes the food out and doesn't even invite me in.  I was hurt .  We hung out at my place till he had to go to his parents for dinners.", "summary": "boyfriend won't introduce me to his parents. I was family less on thanksgiving had no thanksgiving dinner, and still didn't invite me to have dinner with his parents"}
{"id": "t3_4zb16u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [24M] - he wants me to lose weight but I'm already fairly skinny", "post": "I met my boyfriend in college, we've been together 2.5 years. He's a really great guy and I love him a lot, but a couple things lately have been making me nervous about him and the state of our relationship and this is one example.\n\nWhen I was in college I played tennis, so I was always lean. I was never rail thin - blame those Latina genes - but I was skinny definitely. Of course there were days I felt fat like everyone does and I did gain some weight my freshman year, but my heaviest was 125 at 5'7 which is perfectly healthy in my opinion and the opinion of my doctors.\n\nWell fast forward to this year where were both out of college. We were lucky enough to get jobs in the same city so we're staying together and not long distance. Well obviously I didn't go pro in tennis and I've been not doing as much exercise lately, instead I've been making up for it by eating carefully and watching my portion intake. Work is stressful though I won't deny it and I've become more sedentary. I'm about 130 at 5'7 right now and less muscular than I used to be, and yes I don't have a perfectly flat stomach anymore. So my boyfriends been making underhanded comments whenever I eat - \"do you really need that babe\" \"you've already eaten a lot of calories today\" - that sort of thing. Well excuse me for wanting some pasta once in a while I don't think it has to be a crime, especially when it's whole wheat pasta that I put into a freakin' salad!\n\nAnyways he came out with it and said he's been getting less attracted to me due to my weight gain. I was maybe 115 when I left college so yes I've gained 15 pounds in the last year. but I don't feel unhealthy or fat. To be fair my boyfriend is very fit and I know he cares about fitness ... but I'm not fat or ugly and I dont think I've had such a drastic weight gain. Am I in the wrong here? Should I make more of an effort to lose weight?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to lose weight but I'm 130 at 5'7. What do I say/do?"}
{"id": "t3_18ftlm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "19 [m] I think I've been friendzoned on Valentines day, by my Valentine 19[f] tips?", "post": "I finally got the balls to ask my dream girl out on valentines day. We've known each other since primary school. (I'm currently second year at uni) She replied that It was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for her, she was so pleased....a few minutes pass & she isn't sure she feels the same way about it as me, and will still come out but just doesn't want to mess about my feelings because I'm \"the nicest guy ever\" She was really surprised that I actually did it, and she rambles on in the messages.\n\nSo guys, what should I do on this frienzoned date ? Should I try impress her, or just go have a fun night out ( whilst most likely feeling like shit ) any tips ?", "summary": "friendzoned on a date that hasn't happened"}
{"id": "t3_13ryk1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of reddit: How do you prefer your partners pubic hair?", "post": "I recently went to a bachelorette party and while playing a drinking game of \"never have I ever\", one of the questions was \"never have I ever shaved off all my pubic hair\". Which then lead a bunch of mid-twenty year old women to discuss our preferences for shaving our own pubic hair. I was generally shocked about how different we all were (never shaved, full shave, landing strip, Brazilian, etc). It's lead me to think about it for the past few weeks, do men really have a large preference in how women take care of their hair down there?", "summary": "bunch of girls got drunk and talked about their pubic hair and now I'm curious what the consensus of men prefer."}
{"id": "t3_m3nkx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have I been taxed correctly/ can I claim it back?", "post": "I was working part time in an absolute shit-hole for just under 4 weeks to get a little bit of my own money while at uni. I left on the fourth week because I wanted to do some filming which would count as work experience for my course at the weekend but was supposed to work both Saturday and Sunday, I felt like a dick but I quit. So i've received all my pay slips and got my P45 today which says I earned \u00a3374 while I was there and was taxed \u00a374. Is this right? Am I supposed to be taxed while in full time education?", "summary": "Worked for a month but had to quit, earned \u00a3374 and was taxed \u00a374 is this right can I claim it back?"}
{"id": "t3_q1do0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anybody know the story I'm talking about? (description)", "post": "The mysteries thread got me thinking, and I remember reading a horror/reality-type story called something like \"The 600 keepers of madness\" (Don't quote me on that). It was basically a list of a bunch of people (or entities) in asylums that kept keys or something along those lines, and for each one person, you would have to go to the asylum or hospital, ask the receptionist, and she would take you to some desolate hallway where there would be a keeper. Also, while you were there, you had to do some task, like never open your eyes. All of the keepers had names like \"Keeper of Light\" or \"Keeper of Blood\" or something. Any info would help.", "summary": "Horror story with various \"keepers\" of the underworld(?), and you had to do a specific task to get through each one."}
{"id": "t3_m1clp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My son purposely vomits when we put him to sleep...", "post": "Title pretty much explains it. It has happened 4 of the last 5 nights. He is two years old. He is fine until we get done singing songs and begin leaving the room. Once outside his door you can hear him start to scream, then start to gag himself by just holding his mouth wide open, then he pukes.\n\nWe have tried an array of approaches. I have tried disciplining him, even just getting loud to show him the severity of what is happening. We have tried ignoring it all together, cleaning it quickly and returning him to bed to show him that even if he gets sick he is still going to bed. The only night he did not get sick my wife was at work and it was just me and him. He started to cry and I talked to him, made him part of the process. I asked if he wanted his music on, if he wanted his fan on, he said yes/no and I left the room. He started to cry and I back tracked and just asked him did he want his music on, did he want his fan on, he answered again and was good. So last night I tried this approach again. We tried to make him part of the process. We didn't back track when he started crying, that was the only difference. Once again he got sick.\n\nI am stumped here. Any help would be great. I really just hate seeing the little guy get sick. Knowing he does it on purpose is frustrating but seeing him get sick is heart breaking.\n\nI will be working all day so I will not be available to answer any questions but I will read the comments when I get home. If you have any questions I will try to answer them by 6PM Central Time.", "summary": "My son gets sick on purpose when we try to put him to sleep. What can I do to stop this?"}
{"id": "t3_2a3ufo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17,f) don't know if I want to breakup with him (20,m) or if we just need some space.", "post": "We've had a really, really rocky relationship... Mostly my fault. We began dating almost two years ago, I freaked out and broke up with him last summer, and have missed him since. I don't know exactly what it is I'm fearing... We got back together a month ago, after much begging on my part. And I feel terrible. Because I think I am going to do it again. I feel miserable all the time, nauseous, tightness in my chest, just flat out depressed. I begged for him back when I learned he was getting close to another girl. I feel horrible. I should have never meddled. But I can't understand why I feel this way...\n\nI don't know if it's just because I text him from the moment we wake to the moment we go to sleep, and I just need space or... Am I not in love with him? I am so confused. I really don't know what to do. I have told him I need some time to myself, but I don't know how much time, and I am terrified of telling him that I'm not happy anymore...\n\nI think I am going to see a professional... But I can't until I get back from vacation, which I am leaving for in 4 days.. I don't know if I can talk to him, or what. I am so confused and heartbroken and angry at myself. I don't understand why I feel this. :(", "summary": "Can't tell if I am an awful person, or just need to sort out my own mental issues.."}
{"id": "t3_2u20j0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a teacher for an extra 0.37 points", "post": "So, the first semester just ended at my school, and in one of my classes I was 0.37 points away from getting an A. This is equal to 0.05%. I sent an email to the teacher yesterday explaining the situation, and asking if she would be nice enough to grant me the extra points. She responded with a very cryptic \"Students earn grades, teachers don't give them\". This morning, I went in to talk to her again, and try to get the points. What I didn't know was that she had had a very strenuous chemotherapy treatment the previous day. She appeared very stressed, and when I asked her again she went off on a rant. In this rant she accused me of being a sexist and trying to take advantage of her because she was female, told me that I wasn't an A student, didn't put effort into anything in my life, and threatened to rescind some of the recommendations she had written for me, and not write anymore recommendations for me.", "summary": "I asked a teacher for 0.05% extra credit, got accused of being a sexist, and now won't get college recommendation letters."}
{"id": "t3_u8tt7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When bad people die honorably", "post": "Shortly after the Afghanistan war broke out, a fellow I went to high school with signed up after graduating. A year later he was killed by a taliban sniper. Our hometown gave him a heroes death and still commemorates him to this day.\n\nBeing a year ahead of me, I truly don't believe this guy deserved such an honorable status. In high school, he never took a thing serious, got a girl pregnant on accident, picked on anyone and everyone, and floated his way through school. He joined the military because a newly acquired felony (drunk driving) and bad GPA kept him from college and the marketplace. Is it bad that I don't feel much remorse for the guy?", "summary": "Hometown jackass dies in war and recognized as a hero. Am I the true jackass for not caring?"}
{"id": "t3_36im9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i accept my BFF's boyfriend when he's a complete douche", "post": "My best friend and roommate is in a long term relationship with an abusive both verbally and physically man. They have a long sorted history many of which is negative. We've recently moved in together because she needed to get away from. In this time they have fought and almost broken up so many times.\n\nI have now developed an anger and resentment towards him but her as well. I hate seeing how bad he treats her and she goes running back like nothing happened. It makes me physically sick to see the cycle of abuse espeically when it comes around to the honeymoon phase. I don't know how to put distance between us so it doesn't effect my life. I'm in a very happy healthy relationship myself and she has said she wants the same but she doens't let go of this idiot.\n\nI don't want to have war going on between him and I or make her choose but I refuse to be around him it's gotten so bad. I want her to be happy but I don't see how he can truly make her happy when 80% of the time she's crying on my shoulder. She expects me to not have an opinion or feelings when this crap is thrown in my face all the time. When she's stressed I'm stressed etc maybe were too close but I just want to live in peace and am not sure how.\n\nHelp!", "summary": "How do i get over my anger at my BFF's abusive boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_1fzq13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] boyfriend's [24m] parents keep leaving the gas on all day with no windows open then leaving the house, how can he make them stop?", "post": "Today my boyfriend went home after seeing me and the house was full of gas with their two dogs and two cats shut inside, no windows open.\n\nThey've done this a few times before, leaving the gas on (no flame just gas) then going to work or even on holiday/vacation. He's told them to fucking check but they kind of shrug and don't think it's a big deal. How can he impress on them that this is a fucking serious thing? \n\nUnfortunately he doesn't really care about leaving to live elsewhere unless he gets to live on his own in a nice flat with no loud neighbors within walking distance of his job (lol), and he'll need a mortgage for that which he can't get yet because of his work contract, so he can't just up and leave, which I think he should.\n\nHelp out Reddit, I don't want to see on the news one day that my boyfriend died in a gas explosion along with all their animal friends because of stupidity!", "summary": "my boyfriend's parents keep leaving the gas on all day when they aren't home, starting to fear for his life, they don't really care, he can't leave. How can he make them listen to reason?!"}
{"id": "t3_231loi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need Advice- Possible fraud but not seeing it through one credit reporting agency", "post": "I've recently decided to start house hunting, so naturally I put a few calls and emails out to talk to banks and such about what kind of mortgage I would be able to get.  The first and only person I was able to talk to today was a loan officer from a larger company who right away asked me the standard background questions and pulled up my credit report.  Here is where it gets confusing- She starts asking me about a mortgage I already have, a few credit cards, another home loan...none of which I know of.  She also see's a student loan and credit card that are in my name.  Naturally I was concerned so I looked up my credit report thru equifax but found none of these? I only found the accounts that i new of on the report- no mortgages, credit cards etc? How would this loan officer see these accounts and not me? I called Chase and the could find no mortgage connected to me, but if these are on a credit report this will blow up my debt to income and screw me right now.  Is it possible one credit agency doesnt have things that others do? I'm going to call equifax to dig some more but I wanted to know if anyone had experienced anything like this?", "summary": "Loan officer says she says multiple accounts on my report that i dont know of, but I can't find them on any reports? What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_35ovgv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Got stood up. Said some things. Can I make amends for this?", "post": "Small novel coming up, bare with me here.\n\nSo this girl and I met, talked for a week and things went wonderful. We had expressed a great interest in each other and set up a date a couple days ago. We agreed for 12. She also lives in the city, an hour away from where I do. I commute to work there, and plan on moving there myself, so the distance was nothing to me. The day of, I texted her asking if we were still on because I had this funny feeling that something was up. \n\nShe responds an hour afterwards saying she just woke up and was going to get in the shower. I had errands I had to run, so no big deal. Well 2 1/2 hours later I heard nothing, and was by this point embarrassed and pissed I wasted my time waiting on her, so I asked if we were still on or did I need to head home.\n\nShe said that she was doing something else and spaced it but that we'd hangout soon. I've been stood up, and quite a bit, and needless to say I let my temper get the best of me. I asked her if she was interested because if not I wasn't going to bother her, and play games (Unfortunately that's happened to me a lot).\n\nShe said she was, but was at a weird point in her life, and wanted to get used to the city first, because she had moved there not too long ago. I asked weird how. I ment that totally non hostile, however thanks to texting, I think it came off that way. She responded, and I could tell she was pissed. Seeing that I lost my temper, I sent her a text explaining exactly that, and that I don't have the best track record with women and get stood up a lot, and apologized for coming off hostile.\n\nI never got a response, and yesterday she liked some of my facebook activity, so I texted her and got nothing. All of my friends have said I had every right to be pissed, but I never intended to lash out like I did. It's embarrassing I did that, but it happened. \n\nMy question is how can I fix this, or at least make amends for my actions?", "summary": "Got stood up, and lashed out. Feels like an idiot and wants to make amends."}
{"id": "t3_3jtt9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] going to prom next year with my friend [17 M] he wants to treat it like a date, I just want to have fun.", "post": "Written this on my phone, so the formatting may be weird.\n\nOk so some history, my sister is two years younger then me and I've made close personal friendships with a lot of her friends, we grew up with different legal guardians, so I'm from a different part of the island (P.R) I got to spend weekends, summers and holidays with her and our friends, we went to different schools, I had alot of issues at high school (learning disabilities, not getting special ed for years at a time, bad grades etc) and ended up in a government program for drop outs and kids who were candidates for dropping out of school. I finished high school in a year, but never got to have senior prom.\n\nNow on to the situation. My sister being as awesome as she is and knowing me, knew I've always wanted to go to prom, so she asked one of our friends (who most likely would be going to prom alone) if he would take me, and he said yes. So she told me and I'm totally happy to be going to prom. But... me and him sort of have some history. In four years we become friends, I considered him my best friend for a long time, I was his first kiss, me and a friend if his dated, he's been completely supportive with my relationship and I with his, we stoped being best friends at some point and just normal friends, I went to college (well culinary arts school) and I'll be 20 by the time I actually go to the prom, this feels a little awkward for me, also my friend wants to treat prom like a date, he's had feelings for me in the pass, but I just didn't feel the same way, and he knows I don't, I already skipped out on a lot of teenager stuff, and don't want prom to be one of them, I also don't want to ruin his prom by friendzoning him and sorta feel like he is taking advantage.", "summary": "going to prom with ex-best friend who has feelings for me and wants to treat it like a date! How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_3i8spc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my [23 F] one night stand, trying to turn it into a friends with benefits situation", "post": "I'm sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, just felt like this was the best place to try.\n\nThis past Friday I went to a friends school event at a club.  This is nothing new to me, I am currently in the process of graduating, my friend still has a few years left.  We go to each others social events all the time, and as a result I know quite a few of his good friends and have partied with them on numerous occasions.\n\nThis time was a little different though.  I honestly can't remember how it started as I was pretty drunk, but one of his friends (F, who I've known for over a year now) and I started talking at the club and apparently hit it off in a way we haven't before.  We ended up leaving together, wandered the city for 2 hours flirting and making out, ended up cabbing back to my place for a one night stand, she slept over, banged again in the morning, then I drove her home.  Due to various reasons and outside circumstances, we both decided to keep that night a secret to everyone else.\n\nNow, I had a ton of fun that night, and I'm fairly certain she did as well.  There was little to no awkwardness throughout the night and next morning, it just seemed natural.  We both understood what was happening, both had the same expectations.  My question is, would it be wrong for me to attempt to turn this into a friends with benefits situation?  Reason I ask is, I've never had a FwB, nor do I know how they usually start.  She had to start back up at school today, and I was thinking of just sending her a simple message like \"BTW, if you ever feel like you need to relieve some stress from school, you can always send me a message\".", "summary": "Had one night stand, want to turn it into a FwB situation, how?"}
{"id": "t3_38y5h8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] crush's [21F] boyfriend [23M] cheated on her. What do I do?", "post": "I've become really close friend's with this girl, let's call her Sheila. I have realised over the past couple of week's that I really like Sheila and that I want to be more than just friends but she has a boyfriend who I'm also good friends with. I came to the conclusion to keep it a secret that I liked her so that I didn't possibly sabotage their relationship/ruin my friendship with her.\n\nWhile I was on a night out with her boyfriend and some others, he went off out of the club with another girl and spent a long time kissing with her. The next morning he felt awful about what he had done and really regretted it. He said that if he had done more than kissing that he would tell her what had happened but didn't want her to break up with him. I don't know if he is telling the truth about this or not though. He has asked everyone on the night out to keep it a secret from Sheila and I'm pretty sure everyone else will.\n\nI don't think he's the best person for her and lots of her friends have said the same to me also but no one has ever told her this. He has a history of sleeping with girls in a relationship and being unfaithful.\n\nI think Sheila deserves to know about what happened but I know he and the rest of the group, who I'm really good friends with, will know it's me if I do. Should I give him a deadline to tell her by and if he doesn't tell her myself? I think he knows that I like her also so would this come across as me strong-arming him into breaking up with her so I could ask her out?\n\nI really don't know what to do...", "summary": "I really like this girl, her boyfriend kissed another girl on a night out and feels awful about it. He asked me to keep it a secret from her. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4b8zz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (23) thinks I (21 F) should be spending money on things I don't need when I can't afford it", "post": "We are currently in a long distance relationship but will be moving in together once I graduate and get a job in the area. I am in a lot of debt from unpaid internships but my part-time minimum wage job isn't making a huge dent in it. My parents are also not in the financial position to help at all. \n\nI've had so many financial set backs and I don't want to rely on him in the future because we want to be equals so I want to also put aside money for an apartment together. I've been struggling to save up to buy a plane ticket to see him for his birthday and now he's mad at me because I can't buy $150 worth of concert tickets for the summer that just went on sale. \n\nMy boyfriend and I come from pretty different financial backgrounds, he's very much upper or upper middle class while I come from a lower-middle class family. He's explained that he can't ever remember price being a problem when deciding to visit family or get concert tickets but I can't remember it not being a problem, especially after my dad lost his second job. He says that if I keep having these problems and can't do things he wants to do with him he thinks it could pull us apart. I don't know what to do, there's just no way I can afford to do all of this without taking out another credit card which will ruin my already bad credit even more which he judges me for.", "summary": "I'm too broke to do the things my boyfriend wants to do and he doesn't believe/understand."}
{"id": "t3_3n3gmy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally stripping during a webcam conference call", "post": "This happened about a month ago. A group of friends and I decided to start filming a short film about discouraging bullying in teenagers. We'd made a few films in the past and we've learned that \"when in doubt, start a conference call\". So I get a call from a friend in the middle of watching TV that says \"*friend* needs help with the script, get on Hangouts\" and I pull up my laptop and I join them. The webcams are all off at this point.\n30 minutes in, I decide that I'm hungry, I'll just mute the mic and run off and grab something to eat. Of course I made instant ramen. I come back with the ramen and they're discussing the shot list, which is part of my job. So I unmute the mic, turn the webcam on, start talking about the shot list, and put the ramen in my lap and start talking.\nThat was a bad idea. I squeezed the ramen too hard and the boiling hot water spilled all over my legs.\nI yelped and shoved the laptop onto the ottoman my legs were just resting on and frantically took off my pants. I was in pajamas at the time, and my underwear came off with my pants. I threw the pants off to the side and stood there in nothing but a tanktop, breathing heavily and trying to assess the situation. I decided to examine what damage the sofa had done and bent over to look into it and under it and started picking noodles up off the floor. I did this for about a minute before looking up and realizing that seven other people were watching me via my webcam. And because I'm an idiot, I stared into that webcam for a good few seconds trying to remember if I'd turned it on or not. Then I shut the lid. Some of my crew claim that they have pictures of the incident. I hope to god they don't.", "summary": "I performed various acts in the nude unaware that my webcam was on."}
{"id": "t3_4o80f5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking about my graduate research in public", "post": "I'm a PhD student in Chemical engineering and doing research on gas hydrates. I do research using high pressure reactors. This morning I was taking the bus to work and mentioned on the phone to someone how we collect our high pressure samples using [sample cylinders] Except... we commonly use the term \"sample bomb\"... And I said that on the phone... \n\nI got a few eyes on me but nothing too alarming until i got off the bus about 15 minutes later and 2 police officers were waiting for me. They asked me a bunch of questions and I tried to explain how a sample bomb isn't actually a bomb... They even made a few calls to corroborate what I was telling them before letting me go...", "summary": "Almost got arrested for using the research related term \"sample bomb\" in public."}
{"id": "t3_1f97f1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[NSFW] Do girls like to give or receive?", "post": "So I was talking with a few friends and through bromantic immaturity the conversation turned to BJs. I confessed I didn't fully see what the hoopla was about with them. I certainly wouldn't turn one down, but they weren't also my first choice on the menu. To my surprise, my friends seemed to agree. \n\nNow, I've also always really enjoyed oral on a girl (probably by fav.) and an ex seemed to really enjoy performing oral more so than receiving it. Is this a trend? Are girls and guys similar in that they'd rather be a giver than a taker?", "summary": "Girls, eat or suck. Which?"}
{"id": "t3_2ip8fr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "IMPATIENCE.", "post": "AHHHHHHH.\n\nThat is how my brain feels, guys n' gals. I know I am being ridiculous. Well, the logical part of me knows. The illogical part says, \"Hey, no results? Might as well eat a cheesecake.\"\n\nI don't even *like* cheesecake.\n\nI'm a little over a week into my journey (Getting Healthy Take #....Infinity?). I think it's impatience and inconsistency that's gotten to me every time. I don't expect to see results yet. I'm just grumpy that I don't expect it. I'm very impatient to start seeing results and being happy with and proud of myself.\n\nHas anyone else dealt with this? What did you do, just suck it up? \n\nSigh.", "summary": "My impatience sabotages my efforts to lose weight. Help."}
{"id": "t3_4pps9x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by learning why J\u00e4gerbombs are served as shots", "post": "This evening I planned to go out tonight and meet a few mates for Pres prior to going clubbing. At the time I thought it would've been a great idea to make my own drinks with the alcohol that we have at home. I ended up grabbing the J\u00e4germeister and the cans of RedBull and thought it would be a great idea to dump them into a massive bottle; big mistake. I take these drinks and meet up with my friends but which most of them have already finished their Pres so then I decided it would be a brilliant idea to down the bottle full of J\u00e4gerbomb to get myself smashed. This is where I learned my lesson as I am wide awake sitting on my computer typing this FU up at 7AM at home.", "summary": "Downed a whole bottle of jager bombs which lead to me staying up all night."}
{"id": "t3_1g8yox", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "i [24M] am in a bit of a predicament with new [23F] date", "post": "For the past month or so I've been dating a lady [23F] and we've been going to bars, having dinner etc. She introduced me to a few of her friends and one of them looked rather familiar but I couldn't place her at the time. The night went on fine and her friend mentioned I looked familiar and asked me about a local bar and that's when I finally remembered her. About 2 years ago I had drunkenly had a threesome with this girl. She had radically changed her look within the past years and became friends with the girl I am now dating. I answered her question by saying i don't frequent that bar (we're on a college campus) and just left it at that.\n\nWell, tonight I received a text from my date (while she is at the bar with her friends, threesome girl included) asking if I had a threesome with her friend. I have no idea how to respond to that. Of course I did have one, but it was over 2 years ago and was one of the most awkward times I've ever experienced\n.\nNow the girl I'm dating is a bit religious and generally reserved when it comes to sex and the like. I would like to continue dating her, so honesty would be the best idea, but I'm unsure as to how to admit to it without sounding like a dick, as it is not something I'm particularly proud of.\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "Had a threesome with a girl 2 years ago, found out she's good friends with the the girl I'm currently dating and she (date) just asked me about it. Unsure of how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3cnpzw", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Alcohol - No theory just facts", "post": "Hi Loseit,\n\nHope all is well and weight lossy,\n\nI have been doing a bit of an experiment around drinking for the last two weeks by staying in a defecit of 100 cals a day and drinking around 150-250 cals of alcohol a day.\n\nI have measured my self and weighed myself,\n\nLast week I lost weight, this week it's gone up, I have lost size around my belly though.\n\nInstead of posting that lean gains link and theorising I was hoping we could have a thread about numbers, anyone gained weight or not lost weight while drinking in a decent defecit?\n\nAnyone lose considerable weight drinking 200-330 cals of booze a day?\n\nWhat I have noticed is I can eat perfectly if I can drink, if I don't drink then I eat some bad stuff, I seem to have to do one bad thing. I need to pick one to lose the weight I think.\n\nSo I know the way the body approaches alcohol and that may make calorie counting irrelevant, I just want to hear facts as in people gaining weight while in a deficit and drinking or not losing or vice versa.\n\nI have yo yod a lot myself, I was 17 stone, got to 14, went back up to 15, got down to 12 and a half, now back up to 14.\n\nWhen I lose weight I'm usually binge drinking in the weekends, I wnat to be a moderate drinker and drink a few a night and spread out my bad habit, but if people have found drinking in a defecit pointless I'll cut it out for a few months.", "summary": "Have you lost weight drinking up to 300 cals of booze a day for months on end while in a defecit of around 1000 cals a day?"}
{"id": "t3_4dim21", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[RANT] Envelope fail", "post": "I'm a more formal person than the average Joe (from my own experiences and being told I'm extremely reserved) and have always loved the formality of an inner and outer envelope. My mother, who raised me to breathe Emily Post, said an inner envelope was unnecessary because it was pointless and an additional expense. Obviously, I feel otherwise, so I secretly order a really pretty pink inner envelope for $.23 an envelope.  Well, they arrived, and they match our invitations perfectly. Everything was perfect until I tried to put them in the boring white envelope. NOPE! They are the same freaking size, and I can't fit the one inside the other. So now I have to order actual outer envelopes if I want to use my really pretty, matched perfectly, pink inner envelopes. Not the end of the world, but a pain.", "summary": "check measurements on EVERYTHING before ordering ANYTHING!"}
{"id": "t3_1y6zx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 7 months, we have slightly different libidos and I need words of guidance.", "post": "Hello r/relationships,\n\nI have a girlfriend who I love dearly, who I get along with well, and who treats me right. However, I always want sex more than her and it's frustrating (cliche post, I know). \n\nI would consider myself hyper-sexual: I would have sex three times a day with her if I could; I need nothing more than vaginal sex, but I'd love surprise blowjobs and to eat her out. She prefers it once every two days, and sometimes once a day, and it's strictly vaginal. That's ok with me, though! Not everyone is crazed with desire. Of course, when we began dating, we had it every time we saw each other, a couple of times each visit. However, my sexual advances are being turned down with increasing frequency. It's frustrating because I'd love to fuck her brains out every time we're in a bed together, and my hands prefer to exist on her body over anywhere else.\n---   \nI love this girl, and I see a great long term relationship with her. However, I won't commit to a relationship in which I have to supress my sexual needs. I have always been very sexual and I get upset and angry when I'm turned down once or twice in a row. I'm usually ok with handling my sex drive, but I don't want to train myself to not have sex in order to have a better relationship. That's just not what I want. I need a bunny, you know? \n\nMy question to you is this: Is it realistic or feasible to expect a partner to have a similar sex drive? Will I ever find a girl who will want me twice a day for the next ten years? Should I re-evaluate my relationship since I'm sexually unsatisfied?", "summary": "I am HL, she is LL, am I asking to much or should I get out?"}
{"id": "t3_1i4mxe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife and I have to make a difficult decision in the morning, and could use insight.", "post": "She was involved in a not at fault accident a few months ago. She received an insurance check for 2,000. After taking her car (2005 Ford Focus) to the dealership and having an appraiser take a second look, they claim the car is \"totaled\" and are offering 3,000 in addition to the first 2. \n\nHer family has basically talked her into NOT buying a new car, and instead using the original check to get the car fixed anyway, seeing as we're really in no position to take on a car payment. I'm leaning towards finding a decent ride and biting the bullet. A couple friends agree.", "summary": "Take 2,000 and fix busted up 2005 car, or take 5,000 and be stuck with car payments?"}
{"id": "t3_2q44ud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17 M], this girl [17 F] I like stopped texting me for the past 3-4 days...?", "post": "I don't know what really happened, I've tried everything. I texted her, waited 2 days, texted her again multiple times, tried calling her, no response. IDK, I know I'm fucking desperate and clingy, I know she's probably fucking busy, or maybe her phone service got cut off, or some shit. I just don't know, in person, we see each other, she still says hi to me in a nice way. I just DON'T understand at all?!?! We met 2 weeks ago, texted for like a week straight, I took her to the movies, paid for her ticket, hugged her, walked her home. All I wanted to do today was tell her I want to move on and be more than friends. Regardless of rejection, she won't even text me back. I don't fucking know what's going on.", "summary": "Girl stopped texting me, still says hi to me in person, I don't know what's happening..."}
{"id": "t3_4d85sn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28m] am the first Indian guy my girlfriend[28f] has dated....... a bit worried", "post": "I found my girlfriend through a friend, and we have been together for six months now. Things are good in that we both have similar backgrounds and our parents both like us so in Indian relationships that's a huge plus. \n\nAnd I guess things are moving really fast along which makes me a bit nervous. In Indian culture people usually get married and engaged pretty quickly so its not odd for our families. \n\nThe reason why I am posting here today though is that through talking to my girlfriend and some of her friends. I don't think she has ever dated another Indian guy before. In fact ever guy she dated before me was a White dude, and from what one of her friends said that my girlfriend had a \"blonde fetish.\" When we were out with her friends one of them made a joke that ___( my gf's name) would be the last person to end up with a Brown guy.\"\n\nI know that it was all said to be fun but it really is getting at me a bit. The fact that she waited till she was 28 to date a Brown guy, and how quickly this relationship is going. If she didn't introduce me to her family so fast, we could have dated normally like  she did with her past relationships but she didn't. Plus I heard from some of the guys I know about stories. \n\nI am not a millionaire by any stretch of the word, but I do well for myself. I do have some fears going into this marriage and I don't know where to really go from here since things are in motion. Ideally I would like to get to know her better maybe 3-5 years, before we tie the knot but I don't know how that would be feasible.", "summary": "girlfriend wants to get married right away, but every guy she dated before me was a White guy. It definitely  gets at me a bit."}
{"id": "t3_1myokf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] asked [22 F] on a second date, she cancelled. Where to from here?", "post": "So after a good first date I asked her out again a week later, just over to mine, watch a film, pretty relaxed and casual compared to the first date, she said yes and sounded enthusiastic.  \n\nI text her that day to see if she was still on for watching a film later at my place. She said yes and would give me a txt before she called over.  \n\nA couple of hours pass and then I get a little paragraph of a txt to the effect of - She'd been in a terrible mood all day. She felt she wouldn't be good company for the night, that it was for my own good and that she'll have to rain check. I simply replied 'No problem' and left it at that.  \n\nI feel her reason for cancelling is pretty valid and I haven't questioned it. But my question is, where do I go from here?  Do I contact her and try rearrange or do I just leave it and wait for her to make contact with me?", "summary": "Girl cancelled date, not sure whether to contact her to rearrange or wait for her to contact me to rearrange? "}
{"id": "t3_v4fwu", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I'm curious about what routines you guys might do to prevent injuries.", "post": "A little background: I ran cross country back in high school, until I had so many problems with my hip that it just wasn't worth possibly injuring myself any further. I had/have bursitis and eventually developed a stress fracture my junior year. My race times were so slow by that point that the coaches didn't give me a second thought, so I never really learned much in the way of how to improve my running and preventing running-related injuries.\n\nFast forward 7 years later: I've finally gotten myself to a place where I can properly pace myself and am actually excited to run every day. I've improved my time and distance so much in the past few weeks, I've never been more proud of myself! But NOW, I'm starting to notice various aches and pains. Nothing serious, yet..\n\nI stretch before and after each run, usually for a good ten minutes at the very least (in addition to practicing yoga around 2-3 times a week). I had some serious shin splints about two months ago, to the point where I took about two weeks off while icing regularly. I remember back in my cross country/track days, the varsity girls would stand in garbage cans filled with ice up to their hips after practice for about 10-15 minutes or so.", "summary": "I'm really just wondering if there's anything that you might do regularly to prevent/heal injuries!"}
{"id": "t3_384ne2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20F] extreme jealousy problems with boyfriend [20M] liking other girls social media pics. How do I deal with this?", "post": "I'm aware that I am a jealous person and I am trying to fix it. Lately, I have been trying to view him liking other girls pictures as not a big deal, but I can't help but get extremely jealous when he likes pictures of pretty girls. They are all pictures of girls he knows but is not necessarily friends with (some friends, some acquaintances) and none are super racy but there are some selfies/clubbing pictures. Every time I see it happen, I can't help but wonder if he is attracted to them... then I spiral into anxiety and jealousy. Am I making a big deal out of nothing or should I talk to him about it? If I am being overly-jealous, how can I deal with the shitty feelings?", "summary": "jealousy about boyfriend liking other girl's pics... to be jealous or no?"}
{"id": "t3_rwai5", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Good airline mile rewards cards?", "post": "I will be travelling to S. Korea this summer and I want to use this chance to rack up reward miles with an air line company because I love to travel.  Are there any air line reward cards out there that are your favorite because of....?  \n\nAlso I'm a 21 year old college kid with average credit, I just got my first credit card two months ago and it has a limit of $300/mo (I always 0 out my balance when it's due).  My plane ticket is going to cost me at least $1,500 and I'm not even sure if air line mile reward cards exists for people in my similar position.  Advice?", "summary": "I'm young with average credit and very little history.  How earn reward miles from my upcoming flight this summer?"}
{"id": "t3_2jqg33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my depressed giflfriend [21 F] of 3 years, she has been having suicidal thoughts lately but never acted out. How can I help?", "post": "My girlfriend Natalie has been depressed and having panic attacks for the past couple of years. It took her a while to confide in me but I encouraged her to go see her doctor. Now she has been on a SSRI for a few months and goes back to see her doctor once a month. \n\nLast week she was feeling really down and just slept a lot when she had three midterms to study for. She told me she didn't care about school anymore, which is out of character because she has always been an overachiever. She told me in tears how there was no point in staying in this world but she would not do something stupid because she knows it is her depression and she is not thinking right at this time. Natalie has always been really logical and copes well with her moods but this really scared me. She is feeling better now but I can't stop worrying. Should I have called 911?\n\nI don't live with her. We go to the same school but study different subjects so between work (part time) and school, we don't see each other too often. Maybe five times a month. I do text her everyday though. I want to be there for her but she insists on handling this on her own as she doesn't want to be a burden to me. I don't see her as a burden but I cannot always be physically there when she is having a bad day.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "girlfriend contemplated suicide and only told me. What can I do to help?"}
{"id": "t3_47zif0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I(20m) do the right thing?", "post": "So it began last semester when I met her(21) and we became good friends for 6 months , then I asked her out a month ago. We're both in community college, but this is my last semester and her 2nd semester. \nIn my life, I've moved 7 times and been to 4 high schools. My coping mechanism has always been to distance myself with friends and others when I found out I was moving because it hurt a lot when I had actually left. It helped to move on and yesterday, I broke up with her due to this same reason because I'm unsure whether or not I'm staying in state. I didn't want to break up at all, but thought it was good in the long term because if we both got too attached, it would hurt and it actually does when I think about it. She's made me a better person and I've been happy whenever I'm with her. I did this two weeks ago too because I've feared getting hurt a lot, but she changed my mind. I told her those thoughts stayed in my mind and that I would try, but after two weeks, it hurt too much to continue. I can't go back because I'm sure I would end up hurting her again. Did I do the right thing or am I just being really selfish?", "summary": "I'm graduating and probably transferring out of state this semester. Moved around a lot through life, so I just distance myself in order to move on. Been in relationship for a month. Broke up 2 weeks ago and now did it again because it hurts a lot to think about it. Did I do the right thing?"}
{"id": "t3_4uk85h", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Wore brothers boxers, have rash.", "post": "Okay so I'm 19, was frantically searching for a pair of clean underwear before a date. I couldn't find any of my own so I grabbed my brothers boxer briefs. I didn't think it would be a big deal as they were fresh out of the wash and I'm like 100% sure he's a virgin he's only 13 and never leaves the house. So anyway date went well had fun but didn't get laid :(. Woke up with a rash in between my right thigh and scrotum. It isn't immediately painful it just feels like I went swimming in salt water for 12 hours straight. The area is slightly red but not enough I would notice a problem if there wasn't slight pain when walking. \nAnyway what is this likely to be and how badly did I fuck up?", "summary": "Didn't get laid got a rash anyway fuck my life"}
{"id": "t3_205mwm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (19F) Stay or Go?", "post": "My boyfriend (19M) of almost two years recently went behind my back and joined a frat after telling me (19F) earlier in the year that I could not join a sorority. (We both attend the same college). I feel that he is being shady and hypocritical, but he says that he will include me in everything and tell me everything now. I am also not much of a fan of frats now and I don't know if I can trust him. He says he loves me and I'm his number one priority. However, I am just not sure if it is worth it at this point.", "summary": "Don't know if I can trust my bf anymore especially in a frat. Should I Stay or Go?"}
{"id": "t3_1q9ij8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 1 year, Wants a break and might be cheating", "post": "Recently we have been going through a rough patch and she says she doesn't feel the way she used to about me, she has cheated on me with her bestfriend[F] once before and she is with her at my girlfriends house right now with nobody else home.\n\nShe said that if we don't have a one month break then she doesn't know what else we can do to make it work, she wants to be classified as single for the one month however says she will not do anything with anyone else which seems very suspicious.\n\nI personally feel that emotionally we had a rough patch before and felt disconnected from her myself so maybe we should just break up?\nIll be 18 in one month so i'm looking forward to clubbing and meeting new girls anyway so breaking up is probably the way to go. \n\nHowever my girlfriend hosts party's for me and close friends about once every two months and I wouldn't really want to see her but maybe we should stay as friends so that it doesn't become awkward for my best friends that would like to go to these party's?\n\nAny advice will be gladly accepted, thanks", "summary": "Girlfriend possibly cheating wants a break in which she will most likely cheat, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_36sumh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by snooping around in someone else's cellphone.", "post": "This wasn't today; it was a few weeks ago. I still cringe whenever I think about it, though.\n  A bit of backstory: I'm a Junior in High School. Though I'm usually a pretty good kid, sometimes I do things that are beyond moronic. My history teacher was absent because of some sort of family emergency, so they sent in a Sub to fill his place. She's one of those people that takes control a little too seriously, but overall, she's not too bad. It just so happens, however, that she has the exact same cell phone as my best friend (who we'll call Hannah). These phones have the same make, same model, even the same color (dark red). I think you can see where this is going. Now for the FU. \n   I walked into class and saw a dark red phone, which I though was Hannah's, charging on an empty table near the teacher's desk. My other friend, who we'll call Chris, decided it would be \"fun\" to go through Hannah's phone, just to snoop around a bit. I know. I'm an asshole. We started going though the messages and pictures, at which point I felt the shadow of an angry adult hanging over me. I look up slowly and there is practically steam coming out of this woman's ears. \"Why the Hell are you going through my phone?!\" My stomach dropped and my throat got a little choked up. At this point, Chris was already out of the room. I mean, he high-tailed it out of there and left my sorry ass in the dust. \"Um, um, um, this isn't your phone!\" was the only thing I could spit out of my imbecilic mouth. Turns out, Hannah was also absent that day, so there was no way that I could even try to redeem myself by showing the Sub that I made a mistake. Instead, I was sent to the office, given 2 days of Lunch Detention, and the Sub thinks I'm a creepy little shit. Oh well. Life goes on.", "summary": "I mistook my Substitute Teacher's phone for my best friend's phone, got caught going through it, and payed the sour consequences."}
{"id": "t3_10ajyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dad [M/48] threatened to beat me [F/17] up. What do I do now?", "post": "After me and my dad had an arguement over something stupid we didn't speak for 6 weeks. Then after a hostile phone call from him I went round to see him, while I was there he told me he was going to beat me up and he made me feel really scared as he lives in a bedsit and was stood by the only door so I was trapped.\nBut he didn't beat me up, he calmed down and we spoke but know I don't feel safe when I'm alone with my dad and I've only seen him since twice, and I only go as I know I have to or I think he's go round to my mums house, where I live, and do something stupid.\nI want to stop seeing him but as soon as I think about it I remember having a really happy childhood with him and the fact that he was a really good dad.\nSo basically I don't know whether I should keep seeing him or not. And if I plan to never speak to him again I'll need to get my personal belongongs out of his house and I have no idea how I'd do that.\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "After my relationship breaking down with my dad he threatened to beat me up, I don't know if I should try to fix the relationship or stop seeing him, which means I would have to get my belongings from his house before I broke the news. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_52w8mr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By running against an electricity closet inside my AirBnB apartment and getting a concussion.", "post": "This happened two days ago but I couldn't post it due to my head hurting too much. \n\nI'm in Florence currently and the apartment I'm staying in is not made for tall people. I'm not even that tall (6ft\"1). So here comes the Fuck up. \n\nThere are two rooms in my apartment and my gf was chilling in the second bed room, for which you need to go down steps to get to. However there is a electricity closet sticking out so if you're taller than 5ft\"9 you will bump your head. \n\nSo I'm sitting in one bed room and suddenly my gf screams like there is something wrong. So naturally the concerned bf that I am jumps up and starts running towards here. In the moment I did not care or think about this ridiculous electricity closet sticking out that's made of FUCKING STONE. Not wood, nope, STONE. So as I'm running at Bolt speed I look down to prepare to run down the steps and literally hit my head at full speed against the closet, do a flip, and fall down the stairs. \n\nNext thing I know I'm in the hospital and getting a CT scan.", "summary": "ran in my apartment against a electricity closet cuz I thought my gf was dying and now have a concussion. "}
{"id": "t3_2t3gy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it the right time for me [20/m] to ask her [19/f] out? Lots of nervous energy and could use some tips!", "post": "Throwaway just in case she uses reddit :P\n\n3 months ago I ended a relationship of about a full year. This being said, my game is a bit dusty right now but am ready to use it again. So here's a little back story to my situation:\n\nI'm the president of a club at my University. Girl I don't know joins up and comes every meeting, so we get fairly well acquainted. However, for most of the time being, I was dating another girl. As my last relationship was coming to a conclusion, I began realizing I was developing romantic feelings for the new girl. However, I didn't want to act on them until I was entirely over my previous girlfriend. I decided I was ready about two weeks ago, and since have gotten her phone number and made an excuse to stop by her dorm room to \"drop off\" something for the club, which ended up turning into us talking for 20 some minutes. I've gotten a few emails which came off slightly flirtatious (complete with smiley faces) but that might just be wishful thinking on my part. I'm not 100% positive she's into me, but I'm definitely into her.\n\nAt this point, would it be appropriate for me to call her up and ask her out to dinner this weekend? Is that coming on too strong? Also, any tips on what I should wear on a first date or where I should take her would also be appreciated. I just figured I'd wear khakis and a button down shirt and pick her up and take her out to a casual-ish restaurant like Cheddars or maybe slightly nicer.\n\nThank you so much for reading and taking the time to respond, I really appreciate it.", "summary": "Wanna ask out this new girl, but wondering if it's the right time. Lots of nervous energy!"}
{"id": "t3_1k2pjo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brothers are ungrateful douchebags. Constantly partying, drinking, and recently drug dealing. Worried about my mom's health due to said douchebags.", "post": "I'm not exactly an avid poster, and hardly a lurker on reddit, but I seriously need some advice here. Currently my 2 younger brothers both nearly 16, have been seriously getting on my last nerves, and my parents especially. They disregard any form of authority, and they are just getting worse and worse and of recently I learned that apparently they've been getting into shit like drug dealing.\n\nSo at this moment, my family is in near shambles, parents looking at a divorce, recently lost a lot of money trying to keep afloat the family business, dealing with a decent amount of debt, and currently dealing with a suing employee. My father is completely useless at shit like this and my mom is doing what she can to keep this slowly breaking family together for at least another 2 years so they will be 18 and leaving.\n\nNow I'm asking reddit for help because honestly, I can't take it anymore, and my mom is quite literally (and I don't mean figuratively literal) dying from the stress. She's been to doctors about her problem, and is getting the same answers to what's causing them. I'm not saying that I'm not the cause of any of her stress, but I am saying that I'm pretty much the only one in our entire family that is trying to help her, even if only a little.", "summary": "Family is breaking, mom is working herself to death, douchebag brothers are getting worse and worse. I just want to know what I can do to help, because I'm lost..."}
{"id": "t3_31jlue", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by picking up my drunk, abandoned girlfriend from a convention party downtown", "post": "This happened late enough that it was today.\n\nMy girlfriend decided to go out partying with her friends for a local con, since she had the next day off of work.  I stayed home to let her have some fun with her friends and told her to call if she needed anything.\n\n2 AM rolls around and I'm passed out on the couch after a relaxing evening of Game Grumps and F5'ing Amazon's Amiibo pages, when all of the sudden I get a call.  My girlfriend is downtown, all of her friends are gone, and Lyft and Uber aren't working; the buses are done for the night, so she's effectively stranded.  \"Not a problem, honey, I'll come and get you.\"\n\nWhen I get her, she's very drunk; the kind of drunk that when you smell it on her breath, you kind of feel like you just had a shot yourself.\n\nShe decides she wants to horseplay when we get home.  As soon as we hit the bed, she starts up.  We have a little game where we'll start making out, and one of us will all the sudden start licking the other person's face; the winner is the person who doesn't give in.  I make the complete and utter mistake of making the first move.  Because, you see, usually, she taps out after the first 3 or 4 licks to her chin and nose.  \n\nBut, she's blasted.  Which means, she doesn't give a fuck.  So, she starts going all out, giving huge, wet, slobbery 90-pound-dog licks to every inch of my face, arms, and neck.  Forgetting that our roommate is asleep, I start yelling out \"No, please no!  I don't want to tonight!  No, not there!  I don't want it!  Please, please stop!\" like I'm being taken against my will.\n\nBy then end of it, I'm covered in saliva and leftover lipstick, and my roommate probably thinks I'm being sexually assaulted by my blitzed girlfriend.  \n\nAnd, then she passes out with a huge smile on her face.", "summary": "Drunk girlfriend decided she wanted it dirty, slobbered all over me, wasn't what I was hoping for."}
{"id": "t3_11j6ad", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get my live-in landlord to change his rules without causing tension?", "post": "So, this person is exceptionally difficult. There are a bunch of annoying rules he's imposed post-me moving in, he's probably the stingiest person I've ever met, and he's decided that it's acceptable for the heat to be at 5\u00baC when no one's home, 10\u00baC when sleeping, and 15\u00baC when someone's home and awake (41, 50, and 59\u00baF, respectively) thus resulting in me being fucking freezing always. I checked the landlord tenant act, and it says it needs to be at least 20\u00baC (68\u00baF) from September through June. The most annoying part about it is that he goes about telling me the rules with a \"that's the way things are\" attitude, and like, I understand it's his house, but I'm paying rent, damnit. And a third of utilities.", "summary": "I'm a pussy and don't want my stingy live in landlord to be pissed off for having to obey the law."}
{"id": "t3_35yo0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my gf [26 F] is losing the chemistry in the bedroom. Is this a sign that we should both move on?", "post": "Throwaway here.\n\nSo i've been with this woman for just about four years. The sex in the first year was good but ever since then, it's been slowly declining. \n\nI don't know what it is but i feel like i'm not sexually attracted to her anymore. We have sex now about once a week. Sometimes it's once every two weeks. When we have sex, there's no kissing, oral play involved. I just go in and finish. \n\nI've talked to some friends about this and they suggest try new things but the thing is, i feel like no matter what 'new things' we try, i don't even want to try it. I feel like I want to sexually desire other woman. I know it sounds bad but you can clearly tell the bedroom is dead and i don't know what to do.\n\nOutside of the bedroom, we're fine. We have fun, laughs, talks, and etc. But I don't think we're both sexually into each other anymore. \n\nA few questions i have.\n\n1. Is this a clear sign that we both should move on? \n\n2. Do any of you redditors also have this issue after being with someone for so long? \n\n3. Is it even possible to be sexually attracted to someone for 10+ years? This is my first long term relationship, i've never dated anyone for longer than 8 months. I don't know if it's just me or not but that sexual fire burnt out after the first year. I haven't been with anyone else this long enough to compare sexually.", "summary": "sexual fire is burnt out in my relationship. not sure what to do anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3gufzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend is acting upset, but won't talk to me about it.", "post": "26M and 25F.\n\nWe live together, and usually everything is great. We along well, go on dates usually every week, drink with our friends on the weekend and never fight. The past two days she's been distant and answers me in like, five word sentences. It's something that happens every once in a while, but I'm tired of it now and am looking for advice on what the fuck is the problem and how to get her to tell me.\n\nI've asked every time she starts acting like this if there's anything wrong, if there's anything I can do. She usually responds with \"No, it's fine.\"\n\nHelp.", "summary": "girlfriend won't tell me what the problem is, when there's clearly a problem."}
{"id": "t3_4r5t6p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I need some help with my ex. 20M", "post": "I'd like to start off by saying that I'm deeply troubled by my recent breakup. I was introduced to a girl at work about a year, she left for her own personal reasons 3 weeks after I started so I assumed I would never really get a chance to get to know her. But after she left she kept in contact with me. I ended up hanging out with herself and her previous boyfriend a bit, maybe 3-4 times a month. We lost contact for about 2 months then she texted me out of the blue wanting to hang out. We went for drinks, I found out she was single. 2 more dates and we were dating. After about a month things got serious, I'm a virgin but I'm practiced with mouth/hands. Although I found out that I'm extremely anxious to sex, to the point where I couldn't maintain an erection for it. This discovery I felt acted as a catalyst to our break-up after a month and a half of the best days of my life. I did lie about my virginity to my partner and told her after we had broken up but she said before it was the fact that I was an overly affectionate person and she was not and that she had doubts from the beginning but never talked/worked them out with me. She wants to still maintain a friendship afterwards but I really feel like it's just salt in the wound for me. I don't know if I should become friends again, cut her out of my life completely or maybe try to fight for her. It's been a very stressful and hurtful two weeks for me. Hopefully I can get some advice.", "summary": "Should I stay in contact/ignore/fight for my ex?"}
{"id": "t3_c69zz", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Friend being blackmailed with stolen nude pics, need advice.", "post": "Hey reddit, I made a throwaway account for this one. I am in need of your advice.\n\nHere's the story: A friend of mine, lets call her Erica, has had her share of bad relationships in the past. Recently (about 6 months ago), she got together with a guy, lets call him Stan, and after a few months decided that Stan wasn't right for her, so she left him. Stan was pretty broken hearted, and made a big scene in public the day they broke up, calling her names loudly etc.\n\nFast forward to a couple days ago. I notice Erica is pretty scarce on the internets (she's usually on almost everyday, and I talk to her on Facebook, msn etc) and she hasn't been calling either. I text her to ask her if everything is ok, and she tell's me that she got back together with Stan.\n\nI ask her why, because I know that she didn't like him any more and it's unlikely that she would get back together with him, and she then tells me that Stan obtained some pics of her and her ex-boyfriend (Who she was with before Stan), and threatened her to send them to everyone she knows and basically ruin her life if she doesn't be his girlfriend. He says that someone 'anonymously emailed them to him', but I don't buy that. She agreed to be with him hoping that she could probably get a chance to delete the pictures or convince him to delete them.\n\nThis guy is a complete nutcase, and is holding basically keeping her in a relationship under duress. She doesn't want to be with him, but she doesn't want her life ruined by him sending her pics of her having sex with her ex-bf (not even him!) to all her friends and family. I'd like to help her out, but I honestly feel like this guy is holding all the trump cards, and there isn't much Erica or I, or anyone else can do until he decides to let her go, or delete the pictures.", "summary": "My friend's psycho ex-bf threatened to send nudes of her to her friends and family if she doesn't get back together with him, and she is now in a relationship she doesn't want to be in, and can't leave because he will ruin her life."}
{"id": "t3_1xf4c5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can a [25 f] manage to stop letting herself be pushed around professionally and personally?", "post": "I am a 25 year old female. Whether it's my family upbringing (I was taught to be extremely deferential adults, including them, even if someone was being very rude or abusive.) I was taught to \"be nice\" or \"keep your mouth shut\" or \"don't create trouble.\" \n\nI have found this attitude is crippling me emotionally. When people are abusive towards me, I say nothing, and then feel extremely guilty, hurt, and upset, and my impulse is to apologize or try to prove myself, even if I am clearly in the right.\n\nI recently had two instances of which I feel this is getting out of control. Someone in my industry recently was I appropriately abusive to me, and I told my friend about it, and she was enraged and wanted to confront the person (who she also knows). But me? I cried over it, felt guilty, and then even was halfway through an \"explanation\" email to the person before I stopped myself. \n\nSimilarly, I was dealing with a personal issue with a friend who had been quite mean to me, and I was trying to smooth it over so we can at least e civil, and she is resisting (actually, she's just ignoring me). I feel incredibly sad about it, when really, I should be indignant.\n\nThis is a pattern of how I interact with people. I don't stand up for myself, and even if I manage to occasionally, the minute the other person is upset I feel awful and just want to resolve things ASAP, even if it means apologizing. This is legitimately taking a toll on me as I am constantly upset or feeling guilt/anxiety. \n\nHow can I deal with this? I have a therapist, btw, but just talking it out doesn't seem to help.", "summary": "I am a total doormat. It is messing up my life."}
{"id": "t3_2j3gn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24f] broke up with my live in BF[27m] and I just want to know if I made the right call", "post": "We've been through quite a bit in the <1 year we've been dating. But that doesn't matter I guess.\n\nLast night we were out with a couple friends doing karaoke. He showed me on Facebook that one of his exes had gotten married and I asked him if he dated her after we had dated (we dated when I was sixteen) and he said no. A couple minutes later he mentioned how he had had sex with her, and I pointed out how he had always said I was his second sexual encounter. He quickly changed his story and said he dated and had sex with her after we dated. I dropped the issue.\n\nWhen we were driving home I told him the I was upset that he was dishonest with me, especially when I don't really care if he's been with other chicks. His response was to say that I was drunk and didn't know what I was talking about and that he didn't want to have this discussion. I tried to communicate that I was ready to drop the issue if he would just admit that he lied and tell me why he thought it was necessary but he just kept saying that he didn't and it was all in my head because I was drunk. So I told him that if he couldn't be honest when he was caught in so obvious a lie, that I couldn't be with him. It turned into a yelling match and he stayed with a mutual friend, but he's back now.\n\nI guess I just need reassurance that it's not ridiculous that I would expect him to confess to lying when he obviously got caught. The reason I broke up with him wasn't the lying, it was the yelling at me and trying to bully me into submitting which I'm not cool with.", "summary": "bf lied to me and then yelled at me when I pointed out that I noticed. I broke up with him. Justified?"}
{"id": "t3_37orqc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to unclog the pool's filter.", "post": "We have an above-ground pool in the backyard and there are many trees around it. Last weekend my dad told me to take out the filter and empty it so the pump wouldn't get clogged.\n\nWell... I forgot to do it for a few days and we just so happened to have a couple of rainstorms that bumped the water level above the limit for the pump. The pool was filled by leaves, branches and other stuff that fell from the trees and coupled with the high water level and my mishap, the pump died because it was overflooded by water while it's hoses were clogged by leaves.\n\nNow, my dad is furious and I feel incredibly awful. A new pump costs about 200$ and this is not counting the hoses that exploded from the pressure and the various other parts that might be broken.", "summary": "I forgot to unclog the pool's filter after a few rainstorms, the pump burned out and I have a big repair bill coming..."}
{"id": "t3_105ne2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I found out that my girlfriend has been sending pics of herself in the nude to my best friend. What should I do??", "post": "My friend was over today and we were just chilling out like usual. I noticed a picture of someone familiar on his phone but no matter how many times I inquired as to who it was he still wouldn't tell me. He got up to use the restroom and, as he did, his phone fell from his pocket without him noticing. Being the curious person I am I picked up the phone to see who it was and, to my horror, it was a nude picture of my girlfriend. He got out of the restroom and I promptly yelled at him to get the fuck out of my house. He ran out and seemed pretty confused. I confronted my GF about it. She keeps denying that she sent it. I saw the picture with my own eyes. I even checked and made sure it was from her number! I know worse things have happened but I'm pretty upset about this and I was wondering if anyone might have advice.", "summary": "Found a recent picture of my girlfriend's tits on my friend's phone. She says she didn't ever send one but I found evidence that shows that she did. What should I do??"}
{"id": "t3_yhu4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19] GF [18] has allegedly made out with another guy [20].", "post": "My [19] girlfriend [18] of ~6 months allegedly made out with another guy [20] (friend of hers), while I was on a longer out of town vacation. It supposedly happened in the guy's car after he drove her home from a party.\n\nAfter the incident we were both in town for around one week. We met regularly and I couldn't detect any abnormal behaviour. She went on a vacation to another country and two weeks after her departure I heard it through rumours which were told by several friends of mine, which they in turn heard from people who allegedly heard it directly from my gf and the guy.\n\nMy first reaction was to ask both of them.\n\nI called her and she instantly denied everything, broke down in tears and told me that she loved me and she would never do anything to sabotage our relationship because I am her first real love. Later, she admitted that the guy was a little bit pushy (whatever that means).\n\nThe guy also denied everything.\n\nUltimately, it is a word against word situation and I don't know what to do. On the one hand I don't want to lose her over a stupid rumour, on the other hand I don't want to be cheated on behind my back.\n\nIs there any possibility for me to find out the truth? Or if there isn't how would you fellow redditors solve this issue?", "summary": "GF allegedly made out with a guy, while I was out of town. I heard rumours and confronted them. They both denied it and now I don't know whom to trust."}
{"id": "t3_2imejr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[19F] Won't have sex with me[18M]", "post": "Hey /r/relationships, I think I'm gonna lose my mind. It's been around two years with my girlfriend whom I met in highschool and she refuses to have sex with me. I mean oral sex, feeling up, anything. She does a moderate sex drive and I can turn her on, but she refuses to do anything other than make out.\n\nI honestly love her, but it's making me lose my mind and made me do things I regret(Exchanging pictures). I just don't know what to do, her position seems to be final and I just can't see myself without her. I tried to think about the thought without her and I just couldn't see it; I'm worried that she would find someone else and then end up having sex with them(I know im pathetic). \n\nHer reasoning for not having sex is due to her religion; she comes from very religious parents, but her siblings are the exact opposite of her. The furthest we've ever gone is me rubbing the outside of her underwear and her giving me a hand job for a minute, then later crying about it to me because she felt \"guilty\". \n\nReddit I dont know what to do. I really dont. I can't see myself without this girl, but she's so prude and it's stressing me out and making me insane.", "summary": "Christian girlfriend of two years refuses to have sex, love her and can't see myself without her, but can't stand not having sex."}
{"id": "t3_35ybxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] I think my (21M) girlfriend (24F) cheated on me.", "post": "Hey guys, here to give you an update on how the story worked out in the end. \n\nOP: \n\nSince our break up about a month ago, we haven't really spoken but my ex still insists on speaking to my mother and making her feel bad for her which then on return comes back onto me.\n\nBeing a caring guy (and an idiot!) I decided to go bring her food and give her some company since she said she was feeling depressed, lost, etc. Surprise though! When I was at the bottom of her road, I see her talking to a guy while she was wearing the skimpiest clothes (I didn't even know she owned) talking to a guy and then got into his car. Another surprise! It's the guy I thought she was cheating on me with, so at least I was right on that.\nI felt sick to my stomach after and when I confronted her about it, her instinct told her to lie \"what? must've been a different girl? not me.\" until she came clean right after, I just told her that there's no need for our lives to be linked anymore so I asked if she could stop speaking to my mother. That's when, she starts threatening of telling my family all of my secrets if I tell her not to speak to my mum again.\n\nAny advice for a guy trying to move on but with a crazy ex?", "summary": "ex is still my ex but find out my suspicions were correct and she won't stop talking to my mum."}
{"id": "t3_1440ze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] have trouble expressing anger towards my girlfriend [20f] of 3 years. Reddit, how do you show you're upset or mad at your SO?", "post": "I feel as if I'm having trouble in this area and it is causing some minor to significant damage to my relationship. I just hate fighting, I hate conflict. So I usually avoid it. One of the ways I avoid conflict is just not expressing when something bugs me. I just choose not to. I thought it only disturbed me but my girlfriend recently mentioned to me that it bothers her as well. She stated that it makes her feel as if she has a lot of power in the relationship which she does not want. She wants it even and I agree with her. And I know what the problem is but I just don't know exactly how to do it. How do you show your SO something is bothering you or that you are mad at them?", "summary": "How do you express anger towards your SO? Not hatred but just things, events, actions etc. that bother you that he or she may do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hqiqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/F] am having anxiety issues about my relationship with my[28/M]boyfriend", "post": "So, I have been dating my boyfriend a little over a year, and lately I have been having a lot of anxiety about our relationship. I come from a very rough background, so I have a hard time trusting and opening up to people.\n\nMy boyfriend is a really good guy, but I am always scared that I am not good enough, or that he is cheating, even though he gives me no reason to believe so. I have been kind of being a bitch to him and distant lately because of my self esteem issues. \n\nI am madly in love with my boyfriend and he means the world to me, but I am afraid I am scaring him away and I don't know how to stop. Please give me advice.", "summary": "having anxiety/ scared of the future/relationship issues"}
{"id": "t3_1vyz2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [19F] wants to break up with me [20M], how to handle it to prevent/ so she'll want to get back together?", "post": "My girlfriend of 1.7 years recently studied abroad for a few weeks (both college students), and it seemed all was well beforehand, but she made little to no effort to keep in contact with me, and got close to another guy.\nI have access to her facebook, which she doesn't know about, and she had a conversation recently with her friend about her problems with me and she seems pretty set on breaking up with me. She also confirmed my suspicions about \"getting close to someone else.\"\nHer main issue is that she thinks she's growing and I'm not (although I've recently demonstrated an extreme will to change). Anyway, I feel that her judgment is clouded by trying to compare our relationship to a completely unrealistic scenario. She doesn't seem to be 100% on breaking up with me yet, but we're going to have a talk when we get back to school.\nNow what I want to know is, how should I handle the situation to prevent a breakup? Should I agree with all her points? Should I dispute them? Should I make her feel bad? Because there's a lot of things I could say that would make her feel guilty. I'd hate to play that way, but if that's what it takes... :\\\nIf that doesn't work out, I'm really open to the possibility of getting back together, and want to take that into consideration when dealing with the breakup.", "summary": "Gf drifted away while abroad, want to know how the best way to handle the breakup conversation in my favor."}
{"id": "t3_cpjts", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most creative replacement of toilet paper that you've ever used?", "post": "Since toilet paper roll configuration is decidedly a hot topic these days, I thought I'd share something in the same vein.\n\nI was studying abroad a number of years ago with a few mates from school.  Each of us were living with a different host family for the duration of our stay.  \n\nUpon meeting up with one friend at a pub one evening, he recounted an experience that he had in the bathroom earlier in the day.  He mentioned that he ran out of toilet paper while atop the throne and started to panic when he noticed that there were no rolls to be found in the obvious locations.  \n\nHis host family had young kids who often ran around the house, sometimes straight into his room, so heading out to his room in hopes of uncovering a cache of toilet paper, or some other fibrous material, was not an option.\n\nHe saw a half-used box of cotton swabs on a shelf within reach.  *Lightbulb*.  Apparently it takes roughly 150 double-ended cotton swabs to do a reasonable job, but don't flush very well.", "summary": "disgusting amounts of cotton swabs can in fact be used as a TP replacement"}
{"id": "t3_25tm73", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] should i start a fwb situation with this guy?", "post": "Hi, first post, but I've been lurking around reddit forever. I need to know whether or not its a bad idea to start FWB with an ex.\n\nWe dated for about 3.5 months, but it was hardly a serious relationship, despite being exclusive and calling each other bf/gf. I wasn't (an am not) emotionally connected to him, even though we lost our virginities to each other (and that was really just because we were both EXTREMELY horny, but I don't regret it by any means). We had a lot of sex and it was great-but that felt like all we did and when we tried to do other stuff (like go out on real dates) it was not \"bad\" but it wasn't fun either. We really just like each other as friends, and not even as close friends (throughout the \"relationship\" and before/after I have had closer emotional relationships with other guys). \n\nLong story short, we've been \"broken up\" for two weeks but on amicable terms. Now that my AP tests are over and its almost summer (where he'll be in Michigan and I'll be abroad for a while) I really want to start up FWB with him. I know if I offered he'd definitely take it up, and I am super horny and hate not having someone to call up when I am. My friends think it'll be a bad idea and that its not \"healthy\" to just have sex with someone, but I mean I've already tried dating him and neither of us enjoyed the \"relationshipy\" aspect of it, so I figure why not?", "summary": "Dated a guy for a few months, not emotionally connected at all, think he's nice but really hot and good at sex. Do I FWB with him?"}
{"id": "t3_13cdv1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What particularly random things or people have changed your life Reddit? My story inside", "post": "When I was 26 I had just broken up with my girlfriend of 4 years because I was cheated on and I was in the verge of getting laid off from work. A month  later while driving back from work I decided to off myself soon as I got home. My packet of cigarettes fell under the seat so I pulled over to look for it. Under my seat I found and old scratched CD that my father made when I was 15. On the cover it said \"I love you, Dad\". There was only 1 song on that CD, Let It Be by Beatles. A hurricane of tears came out of my eyes while listening to it, and I believe that was the moment that truly changed my life.", "summary": "My father and The Beatles saved my life."}
{"id": "t3_fpmh3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone please explain to me in simple, passive language why what the republicans are doing in Wisconsin is so bad?", "post": "First off, I am a liberal moderate who's almost always voted democrat. I am liberal on social issues, but financially conservative. My ideal government would provide many public services but always fund them through taxation.\n\nThat being said, I admit I am not very well-educated on government budgets, finances, collective bargaining, or basically anything going on in WI. However, from what I understand, the republicans are proposing to lower/limit the growth of public sector wages to make it equal with that of equivalent private sector jobs. \n\nFor example, NPR informed me that current WI law provides every state employee with a guaranteed 2% annual pay raise. Doesn't that sound a bit unreasonable to any of you? My company isn't offering ANY pay raises to anyone, in an attempt to make sure people keep their jobs. To me, that sounds like a good way to keep budgets in the black.\n\nFinally, on unions - I understand we have them to thank for the 5 day workweek, 8 hour day, and absence of child labor. But haven't we as a nation advanced well past that? My impression now (again, not well educated so please inform me if I'm wrong) is that unions try to guarantee the best work environments and pension programs for their members, leaving us with some over-the-top pensions like those of auto workers, some of whom to my understanding receive for the rest of their lives the same salary they made during their last year of employment.", "summary": "I've gotten so disoriented by all the extremist language that I'm having a hard time understanding the fundamentals of what's going on in Wisconsin and why the Republican proposals are so bad when it seems like they  just want to balance the budget. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_40ccam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my girlfriend [18F] 2 months, I dont understand girls.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend dated for a little over 2 months and we were crushing on each other for 2 months before we got together.\n\n  So she broke up with telling me she wasn't ready for a relationship not telling me what went wrong. So I went no contact over break and thought about the relationship realized I was insecure and petty about basic stuff and I felt that pushed her away. \n\n   School comes around again after a month and me and my friend notice she keeps glancing at me during one of our classes (We have 4 together) and would laugh at all of my jokes. But when I try to make eye contact she would look at me then the ground and kept repeating the process. \n\n    This goes on for a few more days until I go up to her and ask if she wants to talk, she said yes. So we only talk for about 3 minutes and during that time she was always glancing not really paying attention, so I ask her if she wanted to talk later and she said yes. \n\n   So I text her a day later and ask if she wanted to go to a park to talk, but she said \"I dont think thats a good idea.\" I ask her why and she just says she doesn't feel comfortable doing that and honestly doesn't really want to talk. \n\n   I apologize for me acting insecure and petty and told her it was a big mistake and I'm sorry. She responds by saying she doesn't want to continue a relationship and doesn't feel its healthy.\n\n   How should I act around her during school and get over her while seeing her for more than half the day almost everyday?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, gives me mixed signals, and doesn't want to talk about the breakup."}
{"id": "t3_46xsfb", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] 7mo boxer puppy potties outside and let's us know when he needs to go out to poop, but still pees inside without warning.", "post": "Looking for advice and anecdotes. Monty is a 7mo neutered boxer. He pees outside in large quantities when we take him out on the leash (no yard). He hasn't had any poop accidents in months, and those were diarrhea related to food sensitivity (which we've since resolved). He eats a mix of prescription diet I/D and fresh pet chicken formula. He's been behaving so we've been leaving him out of the crate with his sister during the day and he NEVER has an accident while unsupervised. \n\nMy dog training scripture always taught not to get angry at a dog for accidental elimination that you can't correct straightaway so as to not encourage hiding to eliminate. \n\nWell, now Monty will pee without warning, often shortly after being brought outside where he successfully pees without fail, every time. He'll be sure to pee in the house where we are in view, so he's not hiding to pee. It's so frustrating because he can hold it all night, though sometimes cries if he really NEEDS to go out, and we'll take him and avoid an issue. It seems like he says \"oh, I feel that my bladder is a little full, let me just fix that right here\". \n\nI plan to follow up with the vet after this weekend's event: Monty fell asleep in our bed and got up in the night so my SO moved him into his crate where he promptly peed, which he hasn't done since he was 4 months old. I'm worried this is more than just learning to hold it, perhaps he actually can't? \n\nLooking for your thoughts and advice on fixing the issue. I've spent more money on nature's miracle than food these last few months...", "summary": "puppy CAN hold bladder, like when we aren't home and he's in his crate. But eliminates in home within view of us without warning and often immediately after eating (like we'd not even be able to get the leash on him immediately) even if he just went outside and peed there, which he does without fail when he take him out."}
{"id": "t3_4gwg23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/M] Do people truly have fully random preferences or should I suspect that there's something wrong with me if all I get is rejection?", "post": "I want to believe that there's nothing wrong with me. That my crushes simply have random preferences that, due to bad luck, do not line up with me.\n\nBut it's much easier to believe something more self-deprecating. Perhaps I have a hidden mommy-complex or something weirder.\n\nAll I know is that all my crushes have been quite similar to a certain (on the shallow side) depth, and none of them have been interested.\n\nI realize that it could be difficult to answer since none of you know me personally. You can safely assume that I'm a normal and decent fellow. I don't have horns, scaly skin, lidless eyes, or waist-long nose hairs.\n\nI have had some admirers. I noticed a few on my own, most were relayed to me through friends. None of them were similar to any of my crushes.\n\nI'm terrified that there's something intrinsic to the people I fall for that correlates with their preferences excluding people like myself.\n\n:[", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_2dq19a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] was recently dumped by my girlfriend [18 F] of 6 months, she keeps saying she still wants me in her life, but never attempts to talk to me.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I are both going to college this year, and a little into the summer she decided she wanted to break up. She claimed it was because we weren't seeing each other as much as before, and that it would be easier this way, seeing as we decided we were going to be too far away in college for our relationship to work. \n\nIt was hard for me, but I understood. She made a point of telling me that she wanted to stay friends, and that she would be upset if we didn't. The first couple weeks we didn't talk. Then I ran into her and she barely spoke to me. I then texted her saying that I was confused. She said she thought I needed space, and that if I didn't she would love to be friends. So I told her I wanted to be friends too, and that I didn't need space anymore. Regardless of this she almost never initiated conversation. I have tried to talk to her a couple more times since then but she just seems uninterested. Is it time for me to just give up on being friends?", "summary": "Girlfriend says she still wants me in her life but doesn't ever attempt to make contact. Should I give up on being friends?"}
{"id": "t3_39jxgh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] need advice on whether or not to end relationship", "post": "So here goes...I'm a 22 yr M and I've been w/ my GF (22 yr) for about 3 years now. We met in high school and then went to different colleges after. She went to a school about 150 miles away from our hometown. After our first year of school we decided to get together. She's my first actual relationship, i'm not her first bf.\n\nSo it started off strong and we fell in love very fast. I would visit her atleast 2 a month for the first year and then it slowed to once a month because I moved farther away from our hometown. We always said it's only temporary because we will move in with each other after we graduate. Well now she's graduating and moving back home and I am doing one more year of undergraduate so moving in with each other isn't an option. We might have these plans of still seeing each other on the weekends now that she'll be closer. She wants to go to grad school, but doesn't know where. I want to go to grad school too, but also don't know where I'm going. We've been talking and are unsure of what to do. I honestly don't know if I can continue this. I love her and I know she loves me. I feel like it is better to break up and go our seperate ways, but I can't stomach her being hurt. And honestly when I don't want to leave her because I feel like she is a big part of me.\n\nSo what do you think I should do? Do you think I am just scared of the future? Am I just scared of breaking up because it's my first relationship?", "summary": "Should I break up with girlfriend of 3 years because of distance?"}
{"id": "t3_higq9", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Neurotic dog is having fly-biting issues. Can anyone help?", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nThis is [Finnegan] He's a 3-year-old border-collie/retriever mix of some sort, and he's a tad bit neurotic. We had some issues with him earlier in the year because he was chasing shadows (we live pretty far north, and sunlight hasn't been very prevalent since October). We got him to stop by redirecting his attention, but since then a new problem has come up.\n\nWhen we're inside the house, Finn will turn his head quickly around and bite at the air, grumble and bark. There's nothing back there, of course, but he's making himself (and us) insane. He's not aggressive, and I'm not worried about him hurting anyone, but I'm afraid it's indicative of something worse.\n\nImportant note: we know how much energy border-collies have, so we get Finn a lot of exercise. He goes running a few miles a day with my wife, plus two to three 20-minute walks a day, and some days we'll go to the park to run and fetch sticks. He never fly-bites outside, and otherwise he's completely healthy. Can anyone help us get him back to normal? Thanks!", "summary": "Our otherwise healthy and exercised dog is [fly-biting] and I'd like to help him stop."}
{"id": "t3_u31ds", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question of apartment etiquette", "post": "I have been living with a couple of friends now for almost a year. We have decided to split ways and I'm planing on getting a single bedroom place. Our lease is up at the end of June which is when we plan on moving out. So naturally I've been scoping out a few areas to live, and yesterday I came across a unit that is really cheap and has just been built. The problem is that they want the whole place rented out by June first. So if I wanted the place I need to move on this right away. The predicament that comes up here is that I have a good chunk of the furniture in my current place and all of the bills are in my name, and I really don't want to leave my roommates high and dry on furniture. But this lease is an incredible offer and I know I can't pass it up. My question is how do I approach this situation? Do I sign the lease and just not move in for a month, or do I let them know I have found a new place and want to move out sooner?", "summary": "Found a great deal on a new apartment, but they want it rented out a month before my lease is up with my current 2 roommates, do I leave with my crap earlier and just pay rent on both or do I stay at my current place for the month?"}
{"id": "t3_24j07m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] love my girlfriend [27 F] but find myself thinking about other women sexually", "post": "I want to start with the fact that I do love my girlfriend. We have so much in common and she truly makes me happy. But I find myself thinking about sleeping with other women more and more often. We don't have sex too often because she doesn't feel comfortable in her body.\n\nShes not fat by any stretch of the word. But I think me being in better shape than her makes her uncomfortable during sex. So we have sex once every few weeks. I don't want to cheat, I never have, but I can feel the urges getting stronger and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Only have sex a few times a month and find myself thinking about other women, even though I love my girlfriend very much."}
{"id": "t3_1tihki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M] not sure if she's [18 F] actually interested or just leading me on", "post": "So I met this girl a few months ago at a mutual friend's party and we seemed to hit it off well enough. We exchanged numbers, and text nearly every day since then. We have similar interests, similar circles of friends, similar taste in music, etc. \n\nBut a few weeks ago, she starts begging off. Always has a reason to not come to things, texting me back sporadically despite being one of those glued-to-the-phone types. But every few days I think I'm going to just give up on making a relationship here, she texts me and it's all smileys and 'how's your day going?? :)' And when she is able to make it to whatever party, she 'had a great time, would love to do it again, thanks for the invite'.\n\nThis back and forth is really confusing, I'd like to go on a date but I can't even tell if she wants to talk to me let alone date. Somebody please help me out here, maybe I'm missing something but I don't know how to proceed.", "summary": "I don't know if this girl is actually interested, or just being polite, and what I should do about it"}
{"id": "t3_15mb2l", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Bought my first masturbator toy... is that odd?", "post": "First of all... not sure if this is in the right subreddit. Potentially NSFW.\n\nThrow away account due to friends knowing about my primary account and don't want them to think I am a freak :)\n\nI'll start with a brief background... I am a male and grew up going to a very, very (stress on the very) catholic elementary, middle and high school. Certainly, masturbation was highly looked down upon. This school was pretty secluded from the real world. After finishing 9th grade, the school fell into debt and was forced to close down. Upon arriving at a far less catholic school, I discovered the art and the beauty of masturbation. Since then I have been doing the mundane, and typical masturbation techniques. \n\nAfter finishing my first semester at college, my thrill for risk has increased all around, one of the areas included masturbation. \n\nAs of about 30 minutes ago, I ordered a pocket pussy. I was kinda interested and decided to go for it. Is that strange? I've been raised to think masturbation alone is morally wrong (currently, I couldn't give two fucks if it is or not) but there is still that thought in the back of my mind... \n\nI realize this makes me sound like a weirdo. And frankly, I don't care if it does make me weird, I just wanna know for sure if it does or not... if that makes sense.", "summary": "Raised to think masturbation is immensely wrong, bought a masturbatory sex toy. Does the act of buying one make me weird?"}
{"id": "t3_3n5msb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By buying roses to ask a girl to homecoming.", "post": "So last night I decided i need to get my shit and line and ask a girl to homecoming. I planned out everything to ask her and go to bed. The next morning i ask my mom to take me to our local Fred Meyer's to get a bouquet of flowers, only to find out that Fred Meyer's doesn't open till 7:00. So i wait in the parking lot for 15 minutes and we go in and get the roses. After all of that is said and done I get to school go, go put my backpack in my classroom, and go to meet her in the halls. Only to find her getting asked by another guy, with a card and some coffee. She says yes, turns around and sees me with the roses. I felt so embarrassed and I felt crushed all day and ended up giving them to a friend. Fuck school dances. Fuck them all.", "summary": "bought roses for a girl to ask her to homecoming, only to come out and see her getting asked by another guy. Most crushing day of my life ever."}
{"id": "t3_esrwt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help Challenging a grade based on stupid human error.", "post": "I just looked up my grades for my previous quarter in school and realized I failed a course.  I was certain I was going to pass it and I start to look at what is wrong, and then I find I have a missing grade where my final assignment (worth a lot of points) should be.  After a little more poking about I find the following e-mail:\n\"Sorry I wasn't in class this morning, my roomate hadn't realised I was back from the weekend and turned off my alarm.\nAttached is my final music theory assignment.  Please let me know if you want a printed copy (on any media, within reason, of your choosing) and when you'd like it.  If just this attachement is enough, also let me know.\nSorry about this mixup, see you in class Wednesday.\"\nSadly, I found this message still sitting in my drafts box.  I figured it was because that day (just after finishing the e-mail) the fire alarm in my dorm building went off and I didn't hit send.\nMy question is this: do you think I have any hope of challenging this grade based on this incident?  If so, how would I go about it (contact professor, or department head, or dean)? If not, why do you think not.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "didn't send e-mail with final assignment on accident due to fire alarm resulting in failed class.  is this sufficient grounds for a challenge to the grade?"}
{"id": "t3_yvx45", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any rat people out there? My rat is super sick, anything I can do?", "post": "I was away for two weeks on training, and my rats were with family. I got back, and one is wheezing and sick. The only emergency center near me won't see him, because they don't see small animals. So I call back in a frenzy, and they give me the number of a vet that I might be able to get ahold of.\n\nI took him to this vet, after crying outside of their office, and they saw him right away.\n\nThey took an x-ray and sure enough it's pneumonia. He was on oxygen for a half hour, then give a shot of a steroid, and a shot of baytril. She sent baytril and a doxy suspension home with me and said to go ahead and give him some doxy so I did.\n\nLong story short, my boyfriend and I broke up right when I get home, and I just got back from that ordeal, and my rat has dried blood on his mouth and hands, and is super lethargic.\n\nIs there ANYTHING I can do? It's unlikely that he will make it til the morning, and he looks like he's going to die.", "summary": "rat has blood around mouth and paws AFTER the emergency vet trip, what do I do??"}
{"id": "t3_l0tr9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to you talk to \"the on that got away\"", "post": "My story isn't too great but it's important to me and I'm sure their are others who really need some help. \nI knew a girl back in high school who was great. By great I mean fuckin great! She loved everything I loved, same movies, same sense of humor, same awkward demeanor. she introduced me to all this great music that I listen to all the time, she changed who I am as a person. Well my ex girlfriend was not having any of that and would be all flirtatious with me in front of my new found lady. She would try to hold my hand, jump into my arms, give me bday gifts. She acted like we were dating again. This did not go over well with the girl I wanted to be with which is completely understandable. But she stuck around for a good amount of time until she just couldnt handle it any more. \nShe said she was sorry but we couldn't be together. I acted like a coward and told her not to speak to me. We haven't spoken since. That is the single greatest regret of my life. I think about this girl almost everyday and it kills me inside knowing she was driven away from me and I helped to make her leave. \nI want to know how to start talking to her again. I'm sure there are tons of stories like this but if not, please just help me.", "summary": "loved a girl, told her not to talk to me, she's done a damn fine job of that. "}
{"id": "t3_3k0y33", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting hit by a parked car.", "post": "This morning I started my commute to work just like a normal day. Hopped on my bike, headed down towards Main St. to follow the bike trail. I've been feeling pretty bummy and unmotivated lately, so I was feeling good getting some exercise and not being lazy on the couch. My mind just starts to drift as I get halfway through Main Street. I notice my favorite coffee shop and start to think how I'd love to stop there before actually getting to the bike trail. As I'm approaching, suddenly a fast movement catches my eye about 2 yards away from me: a car door being flung open as I'm doing at least 15 mph, heading straight for it. I try to dodge quickly to the left, to no avail. The door clips my tire, my bike stops aggressively. I, on the other hand, do not stop. All of it happened really fast, so I don't know my exact trajectory. I do know my leg got caught on my bike, restarting moment of the bike. I do know my bike was above me at least once in all this, as I find myself crashing to my shoulder with it on top of me. My shoe even flew off from all this. I was actually pretty proud at this moment, because I knew it could have gone very wrong in a split-second if I would have hit my head. Several people rush over to see if I'm okay. As far as I knew I was, just very shocked. The driver and door-opener runs over and expresses his guilt as he helped me get myself and bike over to the sidewalk. End up sitting there and shaking it off, kinda beat up. The guys ends up giving me a ride home after. I knew immediately I was going to be okay because nothing broke, but damn am I sore. I've never had anything like that happen, nor have I seen it happen to anyone else. This is the kind of stuff you see in movies.", "summary": "biking to work, guy opens car door, which I proceed to flip over. Luckily, just bruised/scraped up and sore. Put it on here so you guys could laugh at me with me."}
{"id": "t3_2gr8ov", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bankruptcy and Joint Accounts", "post": "I was discharged from/with Chapter 7 Bankruptcy in November of last year. Though I was (and still am) married at the time, my husband's accounts were NOT included in my bankruptcy as he had no open accounts and was in another country awaiting a visa. He came back to the US that same month - last November - and opened a bank account with Wells Fargo (checking and savings).\n\nI am HORRIBLE at saving money. I get $1 and I spend $5. In order to curb this, we were recently looking at adding me onto his account and closing my account with PNC (which I had before BK). However, Wells Fargo \"could not\" add me to his account, claiming there was a pop-up that would not allow them to add me. We tried at two different WF branches. One (banker?) went so far as to tell me \"we can't add you - it's for your husband's protection.\"\n\nI pulled my credit reports and found nothing that would be out of the ordinary, other than the bankruptcy. I don't owe anyone money, in the 15 years I've had bank accounts and credit cards I have never ONCE been late on a payment. I simply do not understand why my husband and I can't do something as simple as get a joint account - I have a steady income, no debts (other than student loan and car), no delinquency, etc etc. What gives?", "summary": "husband and I can't get a joint account because of my discharged bankruptcy. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_13pwlo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Suspecting my 32yo boyfriend of 5 years of lying to me 24f) again. Have no one to talk to about it. Advice or comments would be helpful.", "post": "Without going into pages worth of detail, I caught my boyfriend of 5 years (we've been talking about marriage for the past couple years) lying to me about money issues last christmas. I had pretty good proof of it but wasn't sure. He has always been open about his emails and told me his password a while back. I signed in and snooped. I feel so guilty for doing it, but I had to know the truth. but I found the proof. He admitted to it. I also suspected at the time he was not working when he says he was - people seen him drive right past his work, there were lots of days his job didn't \"need him there\" so he would be home, his work \"lost\" his paychecks for about a month, then when he did get one it practically all went towards what he says he owed for income tax the next day, etc. He denied lying about that to the point I was telling him to get out unless he fessed up. He insisted he was not lying and that he loved me and was sorry for lying about the money, but was telling the truth about this. \n\nFor the past year now I've had an extremely hard time trusting what he says. Yesterday I learned of another *possible* lie he's been telling me about doing mechanic work for a friend for money. He's also been jobless for a year, saying he's been dropping off resumes but no one calls him for interviews. In the back of my mind I think he's not getting a job because he didn't file his income tax return last year, and anything he would make would be taken out as a result.  \n\nI love him, and I do believe he loves me too (he tells me multiple times a day, shows it in many ways as well). I honestly don't think he would ever cheat on me, but I just have such a hard time trusting what he says when it comes to everyday-stuff. What do I do, or say? Or am I just overreacting since there is no suspicion of cheating?", "summary": "Found boyfriend lying a year ago about money and (possibly) job, suspect he's doing it again. Honestly don't believe he would ever cheat (have been talking about marriage the past couple years, tells/shows me he loves me all the time). Having a hard time trusting what he says though."}
{"id": "t3_qjjx3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was robbed today...advice/help?  Not sure what to do...", "post": "So I came home from work today to find a window in my house broken and the place was a disaster.  Robbers had broken in and taken everything they could get their hands on.  Anything not stolen was broken.  They even stole all of our food and toiletries.  Long story short, I had to go buy enough food and supplies to last me until next payday.  After the cost of the electronics taken and the food and general supplies they stole, I am out nearly $1,500 and I can't pay my rent.\n\nI'm not sure what to do.  My roommate and I are both small young-ish girls and now they know that no men live in the house.  I am terrified and broke.  Here's a weird part....they left all the alcohol, but ate the pizza straight out of the fridge.  And they took things from my underwear drawer.\n\nI didn't have renters insurance because I am an idiot and thought it unnecessary.  Any advice, reddit?  I'm afraid that on top of the robbery I'm going to get evicted for not being able to make rent. :(", "summary": "I am a petite woman with a female roommate.  House was broken into and concernedbecause of money and safety."}
{"id": "t3_360pip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34F] with my husband [32M] of 8 yrs are doing well, but I'm crushing hard on someone else", "post": "I've been with my husband for 8 years. He's wonderful and I love him very much. But as these things go, I've developed a huge crush on a mutual friend of ours [32M]. This friend and I have a lot in common and he weirdly even looks a bit like my husband. \n\nIt hasn't gone far. When I see him, my stomach is full of butterflies. When we all go out together, there's a lot of laughing anyways but I can't help myself with flirty looks and sex eyes and oh god. I know how I sound. The other night I had an intense sex dream involving a threesome with him and my husband and it's practically changed my personality. I have a great but intense career, we have 2 kids, I like fairly subdued hobbies but now all of the above is interjected with memories of this sex dream that practically make me cream myself right there. It led to me confessing to my friend over text that he's my \"married lady crush\" and he responded instantly with \"back at you babe.\" Of course now I am consumed. \n\nMy husband and I have talked about opening our relationship in the past. At one point, very intensely. He was into it then, but I worried he was only doing it because it was my idea and so I didn't want to do anything that we might regret. We were in a more intense place then though too. I know this is a question for poly folks, but I don't want to be limited to only \"go poly\" answers. I know my crush and his partner are in an open relationship and our friend group is fairly open and lefty and free love kind of folks. \n\nShould I confess this to my husband? Should I bring up opening the relationship again? I'm not sure I could actually go through with getting it on with someone who isn't my partner, I'm from a really traditional background, but oh my god, the urges. I know it's fine to crush and not do anything, but it's at the boiling point.", "summary": "Typical boring/bored married mom can't keep her focus due to sexxing up a friend in her imagination all day. Repressed sexuality and a potentially put off husband prevent any moving forward. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_1x7ezr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women/Poets of Reddit, would it be weird to write a poem about a girl you strongly like?", "post": "This might get a little long so bear with me. I had an assignment to  write a poem in my English class. I was feeling a little blue because I found out my crush doesn't date guys down here only from New York where she's from. I can see why as the guys she dated were from NY but are total douchebags. As I was brainstorming ideas to write about, I decided to make the poem about my feelings for her. I titled it \"Alien (Her Heart's In New York)\". I wrote about how we were both strangers from different places, so that made us alike. I wrote that maybe if she knew more about me she could give me a chance. It's basically about liking someone who's heart and soul are in another place. My teacher gave me a 100% grade and also said it was beautiful and full of so much emotion. She wants me to enter this poetry contest using it, but I feel like my crush should see it before anyone else since it's about her. But I'm too shy to even say more than a few words to her but I like her so much since at least August when I first saw her. Should I show her? Would she like it? Do girls like romantic stuff like this? Serious answers are greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I wrote a love poem about a girl I like and was debating if it would be weird to give it to her so she knows exactly how I feel. And was also wondering if girls like that sort of thing."}
{"id": "t3_36wmn2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not skipping leg day.", "post": "This FU started last night but is ongoing.\n\nI have recently started working out and I've been making decent progress, but I have always skipped leg day figuring I'll get to it when I get a bit more lean first.\n\nWell, last night I decided to do leg workouts.  I went until I couldn't lift myself up again.  Fast forward to today and I'm in pain.  LOTS of pain.\n\nAs I'm sitting at work massaging my leg it dawns on me that I'm supposed to help my buddy move into his new house today.  Fuck.  I can barely lift myself, let alone a dresser.  \n\nIf that isn't bad enough, I'm also going to an all day outdoor music festival on Sunday.  That's another 10 hours of using these sore tree trunks I call legs.", "summary": "didn't skip leg day, super sore legs, probably going to get crushed by a dresser."}
{"id": "t3_35076b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an \"entitled, sarcastic cunt\"", "post": "Obligatory \"this actually happened today\" (because it really did but whatever)\n\nToday my high school's baseball team played a game at a local minor league baseball stadium. The stadium's about 20 minutes away from my house, and to get to it I had to drive on this road with some fast-food restaurants on either side of the road. After the game (my school lost 7-5) I was driving on this street, and I saw a woman pulling out of the Wendy's on the right side of the road. Since everyone was going kind of slow because of a traffic light, I let this woman turn onto the street in front of me. Usually when I do this the person I let turn will wave or smile at me to show their appreciation. This woman didn't even acknowledge me.\n\nNow for the fuckup: I had all of the windows on my car rolled down because it was warm outside and I was playing music at a decently high volume (not high enough for others outside of the car to hear it). After the woman turned without acknowledging me, I sarcastically said \"you're welcome\". Apparently, she heard it. At the red light, she stopped her car, put it in park, got out of the car, and made a beeline for my driver-side window. She then looks at me and says \"don't disrespect me you entitled, sarcastic cunt. Turn that shit (my music) down\" in this condescending, self-superior voice. She probably said it this way because although I'm 17, I look like a 13-year old (how-old.net said so). I started laughing, not a \"holy shit this is hilarious\" laugh, but a \"is this bitch fucking serious?\" laugh. As she angrily stormed back to her car I wanted to say \"sorry mom!\" or something else snarky and sarcastic but I was still laughing in shock.", "summary": "Let a woman turn onto a street in front of me, she didn't say thank you, I sarcastically said \"you're welcome\", she called me an \"entitled, sarcastic cunt\"."}
{"id": "t3_1vslqf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm fairly positive a girl is interested in me but I don't know how to approach her since I never see her anymore.", "post": "I'm [20/m] and she's [19/f]. We went to high school together and had a couple of friends in common but we never really talked. For the past two months I feel like she's been trying to send me signals by always liking my instagram pictures and favoriting my tweets. We go to different colleges but live in the same city, so I really haven't seen her in person in a long time. I've never been in a relationship or even tried to flirt with a girl or anything like that before... I don't know how I can approach w/o weirding-her out.", "summary": "how do i approach a girl that i think is interested in me, but I never see her in person."}
{"id": "t3_eaemk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's a good song that describes this situation?", "post": "I am really into this girl, like, really into her. She is awesome to just about every level I am, but I know she won't go for me (in all likeliness).\n\nI'm trying to get over it so I'm not stuck on this one person. While dwelling on it I decided to try and find a song that kinda described the situation. I tried 'Just a Dream' and while it is good, I'd like something else maybe a bit closer to my situation (if at all possible). I figured Reddit might be able to help out since I have seen it help out for so man other situations.\n\nI'm tired of liking people that don't feel the same way back and feel that music can help me get over it. For reference, I'm 21 yrs, in college.", "summary": "I like this girl that I can't be with. What's a good song that describes this?"}
{"id": "t3_2o1ibr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I still love you but I shouldn't", "post": "2 days ago you said we needed to talk and I wasnt sure why because things were going well.\n\nLast night you told me you werent sure you wanted to be with me anymore. The reasons you gave me were that I dont let you listen to your music in my car (which I do) even though you never give my music a chance.\n\nReason 2 is that I always keep your daughter away from my cats which also you do just as much as me.\n\nReason 3 is that you are sick of me twlling your 3 year old daughter to stop doing things when certainly ahe shouldnt be. Even after I take her to day care, drive her to kids events when you cant, buy her food and feed her, play with her when you are gone, and cuddle with her when you cant. \n\nYou say you remember all the nice things I do for you but it doesnt show at all because you only tell me the few bad things that happened. \n\nNow we have a year lease signed and have bought all sorts of stuff for our apartment and many gifts for each others families for the holidays and you decide now to tell me you arent sure you want to be with me. \n\nThis hurts me so badly because you never told me these things were bothering you and this came out of nowhere with no real reason for it.\n\nNow were on a break and you are leaving me hanging and hoping that you decide we can be together. Im in love with you and it hurts so bad to think it might all go away.\n\nSo in anticipation of the impending separation.....fuck you for toying with me and leaving me hanging. But I still love you.", "summary": "Gf chose now to want to break up after 5 months of no major problems and for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_3damim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] broke up with my bf [23M] of 3 years who cheated on me with a mutual friend [20F]. How do I get over it?", "post": "So yesterday I finally got the courage to break up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I found out on Thursday that he cheated on me, after I dragged it out of him over the phone. He was planning on telling me in person the next day when he was planning on visiting (we were long distance).  \n\u00a0\n\nHe cheated on me with a mutual friend, and I cannot stop thinking about it. All day my thoughts are consumed with sadness, anger, and occasionally dumb revenge plots. The worst part is that he has feelings for this girl, and I know that some day I'll have to confront the possibility of them being together. I was about to move in with this guy, and I had so much planned with him. I just don't understand why he chose to do this to me. We share many friends, all of whom think he's total scum for what he did. Still waiting for the girl he cheated with to apologize, though I'm not holding my breath. \n\n\u00a0\n \nI love(d) him so much, and I hate him for how he ended things. I feel like he ruined all of our beautiful plans, and I thought he was so so much better than this. We had a pretty wonderful relationship until this happened, and we were going to close the distance so soon. How do I stop dwelling on this and move forward with my life? I'm usually such a happy person, but this has truly destroyed my trust for people. I'll also undoubtedly see him in the future, and I have no idea how to act.", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me with a mutual friend and I broke up with him. How do I move forward, especially with the fact that he's probably going to end up with the other girl?"}
{"id": "t3_11uzov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if he[m/23] is interested in me[f/22]", "post": "Any and all advice would be great. There is this guy[m/23] that I[f/22] work with for two years now. We have great chemistry and have become what people at work call \"very close\". Everytime I see or think of him I get \"butterflies\" which is a feeling that I haven't had in my past relationships. This guy seems to just understand me and he knows how to handle my moods (up or down) without me even saying to him how I feel in that moment. We flirt or bug/tease each other whenever we get a chance, which is a fair amount. \n\nRecently he has been asking me about previous guy friends that I have in my life and what my relationship is to them\u2026 all of which are only strictly friends. This would come up out of no where and I wonder why he is asking. He has noticed how I look at him as he has made a comment about it and we can be quite touchy with each other in a playful way. I have no idea what he thinks of me or if he has any interest in me at all. All he has admitted to me is that he does care about me. We text each other every night for many many months now. \n\nAlso, very recently he told me that he plans to be engaged to his gf sometime in the future and that he can't see himself with anyone else, which was very hard for me to hear. I don't know what to read from all this. Does he just see me as a friend? Does he have feelings for me? Here is where it gets complicated\u2026 \n\nWe are both in a relationship with other people. I've been in a relationship for over a year and he has been in his relationship for a couple of years. When I first met him I thought these feelings for him would go away since he has a gf; therefore, I went into a relationship with someone else, plus at this time I hardly knew this guy. However, these feelings never went away and that is what I feel horrible about.", "summary": "Now I'm torn\u2026 Do guys text, hang out and flirt with girls that they see only as a friend with no other interest at all?"}
{"id": "t3_2keokr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] Recently single, need help letting [17/m] know that I'm not interested in a serious relationship right now.", "post": "So a bit of context; a little over a month ago my boyfriend of three years ended our relationship because he needed more time to himself. I was upset at first, despite us still being on good terms and communicating in a healthy way, however now I am feeling fairly at peace that the chapter of my live involving him is over. \n\nJumping forward to now, there is a guy I go to school with who has made it very clear that he's interested in me, and not in the casual hookup kind of way. While I appreciate how sweet he has been to me, I'm not interested in a serious relationship or any relationship for that matter at the moment and I'm not sure how to tell him without hurting his feelings. Any advice?", "summary": "Need help explaining that I'm not looking for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2u5i31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] 'girlfriend' [21 F] of four months just told me about her arranged marriage.", "post": "My girlfriends birthday is in a week and while trying to figure out her address to mail her a gift she told me that she has been engaged for a long time. Since she lived in kuwait i suspected as much but its still a shock. She has never met the guy but since its part of her culture I understand.\n\nI want to be supportive but at the same time I don't want to lose her. at the same time we have a small group of friends in FFXIV ,an MMO, and we built a a guild together. Im afraid that this will cause a rift in our guild.", "summary": "Girlfriend was hiding engagement. Want to support her but don't want to lose her or our friends"}
{"id": "t3_1uszkh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (34M) has 2 dogs, I (28F) have one. I'm going insane with so many dogs around....", "post": "I love dogs, I really do, but I have realized that more than one is just too much for me.  We have been dating for 9 months now, and are getting to a point where I want to spend more time with him, staying over more often, etc.  At this point we usually only sleep together one night a week cause of the hassle of all 3 dogs being in my apartment (he has a roommate with a large dog, so his apt just doesn't work).  We talk about moving in together, but I feel like I need to be more comfortable being around him more often before I will be ready for that.  But then the dogs have to be around more often as well.  \n\nWhen they are all over, I feel like I'm constantly worrying about what they are doing, and where they are, and do they need to go out, etc etc.  Plus, one of his seems to pee somewhere in my apt every time she comes over.  And she just annoys me cause she is kinda needy and high energy, while the other 2 will just lay down and relax.  Also, I'm a little particular with my place and things and can't stand his dogs on the couch (although mine is) and the hair that is covering my apartment after they are gone.  I can't imagine living with them and having to somehow deal with it.\n\nPart of me feels like there is NO WAY I could move in with him AND the dogs.  But they are part of the package, just as my dog is.  And although his dogs are older, I feel like an awful person to say that we'll wait until he doesn't have 2.... plus, that could be years and I don't really wanna put my life on hold.  \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation?  What did you do?  How did you get to a point where it didn't give you great anxiety to be around them all and not focus on it???\n\nThanks reddit!!", "summary": "Boyfriend has 2 dogs, I have one.  All 3 together is just too much for me and I don't know what to do to stop the anxiety that hits me each time!"}
{"id": "t3_2q6etz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28M] Have been abusive, not sure what to do and literature gives no hope. Been with Fiancee [23F] 6 months and had 3 physical incidents, many verbal.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm concerned for my and my fiancee's safety.  We have very violent arguments which escalate in to shouting name calling and physical violence.  I have pulled her hair a few times and pushed her down.  She has pulled out a Knife and is prone to self mutilation which terrifies me (but does not constitute her attacking me, so it's not the same kind of abuse?)\n\nWe both come from neglectful, broken homes and are expecting a child.  I want to be a father like the one I never had, but all of the advice online for people who have problems controlling their emotions essentially amount to a death sentence.  Counseling is not even recommended, I should be locked up.\n\nI wish I had never been born at this point and am looking for an honest answer because I care and want to be a good person, but have a genuine defect that I can't seem to manage.  \n\nDoes anybody know of resources where people actually CARE to help, rather than shame?  I have nobody to turn to in life and am looking for any way to improve.  I owe it to myself, fiancee, and baby to be the best partner I can be and I realize I have issues I can't handle alone.  I can't take them out on the people I love, and have to do better in the future.", "summary": "I feel as though I am on a slippery slope losing control in terms of anger and need a place to turn to for genuine help."}
{"id": "t3_f2qq0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I leave my home?", "post": "Throw away account.\n\nI'm sitting in a home that I bought for 99,900 in 2007.  It's a nice (but small) house. \n\nRight now houses around me are going for anywhere between 65,000 and 94,000.\n\nSince my wife and I have separated and I decided to divorce her. I have been considering taking some time off work to move my shit into storage and start over.\n\nI didn't put money down, 30 year 6% mortgage so I still owe a little over 94k.\n\nThis mortgage has been slightly choking me but I could do a 15 year refinance at 4% and only pay around $100 more a month and get some equity a bit quicker while I fix the place up and try to sell it.", "summary": "Anyone just take the plunge and start over and have some advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2coi83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [27/m] care less about first date \"failures\"?", "post": "Earlier this year, I [27/m] joined a couple of dating sites and have gone out with a number of really nice girls. I think I've always been relatively picky when it comes to dating, however, and have thus probably only pursued a second date with 25% of them. As you'd expect, some have said yes, others no.\n\nFor whatever reason, when a girl turns me down for a second date, I often spend 3 or 4 weeks replaying the date in my head or considering what I could/should have said differently. This is obviously a huge waste of brainpower seeing as we probably spent a whopping 90 minutes together. I don't sit around and mope for days on end (and I'll go on other dates while previous ones play out in my head), but rather these thoughts might keep me up for a few hours at night or my mind will drift to these \"failures\" while at work.\n\nIn short, the correlation between time spent with these girls and time I think about the date is obviously way off so any suggestions would be much appreciated.", "summary": "How can I put first dates that don't lead to second ones behind me much quicker?"}
{"id": "t3_duxam", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone actually have a RATIONAL argument against the TSA body scanners?", "post": "I'm sure I'll get downvoted, as the hivemind has clearly stated our position on this subject, but with all the talk I really haven't seen one **rational** argument against the scanners, and maybe there are some and I would like to hear them so I can willfully join the hivemind.  \n  \nHere's what I seen so far as the argument against them:\n\n* **They infringe on our civil liberties and are an invasion of privacy.** You are choosing to go on a plane.  Nobody forces you.  This isn't an illegal search on the side of the street or in your home, plus you have always been subject to search before getting on a plane.  Flying is a privilege folks. \n* **They expose you to radiation.** A lot of people had said this, but my research shows that the radiation level is less than what you get up in the air anyway.  I'd like to see reputable sources that say otherwise.\n* **The pictures are not distorted.** I looked up every picture and youtube I could find trying to find an example that looked anything closely resembling a actual naked body.  They all look like x-rays to the skin surface to me.  If there are reputable sources that say otherwise, please enlighten me.\n* **They save the pictures.** So what?  You think all of sudden they are going to be posted to the internet and emailed to your coworkers? I mean really.  If somehow a body scan image of you surfaced in the public you should be ecstatic because you are going to get a shit ton of money.\n* **They are unnecessary and do not make us safer.** Okay. So what if they don't?  They don't make it any less safer do they?  At a minimum they at least give some people a little piece of mind, even if unwarranted.\n\nSo reddit, what is the real deal here?  Is everyone really that uncomfortable with their body that they would rather not fly then to have some stranger see a nakedish picture of them?", "summary": "I don't see the big deal with the body scanners and all the arguments seem to be irrational to me.  "}
{"id": "t3_219gbv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help with myself M(20) student pursuing a relationship with F(19) mother of one.", "post": "I preface this wall of text with a  warning: I am completely garbage at interpreting my own feelings, as such I have  had many relationships in trouble because of it. That being said here we go\n\nThere's this girl which I will  call M. She is by far the most beautiful girl that has ever shown interest in me. We have  always had a thing since grade school but for one reason or another I always turned away from her, mostly because she was far out of my social circle and my  friends would not have approved. Now I'm a 3rd year university student  working a fulltime job and I'm wondering about such thing as an actual adult  relationship that ive never had before. And me and M start getting close again. \n\nSince highschool we have taken vastly different paths. Myself being a full time student and worker, and her a full time mother* who, at least from what she's told me, spends her free time having a lot of sex with different guys. And that is whatever. Sexual freedom is fine and I couldn't hold things like that against her. However, this girl goes ahead and tells me she loves me, has always loved me, and  if given the chance she would pick me over all others.\n\n*In regards to her child, she says she understands I am not in a place in my life to be a father figure and she wouldn't force that on me. \n\n I don't think myself as unconfident. I've  come along way since high school that department, but i can objectively state that I'm not much to look at, I'm slightly overweight and I'm average in the sack. The only things going for me are my personality and my money(30k a year as a student)  before you suggest it, I don't believe she wants my money I've offered cash( about tree fiddy)  which she refuses. \n\nNow that you have a rather lengthy backstory the question is can someone has never experienced love trust this beautiful little sexual deviant enough to let her inside my heart and can she truly understand I'm not a place in my life right now to take care of a kid? Or will this become an issue down the road?", "summary": "Male(20) catches feelings for female(19). Send help."}
{"id": "t3_1we4q2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Data center tech job with a large company or NOC tech for a smaller company?", "post": "I need help in deciding what is the best career path for me. I recent got my Security+, and perfect score on my CCNA certificate. After going through the Cisco academy at school, I loved working with routers and switches. That was what I was heavily exposed to and really enjoyed it. And so my career path would naturally to become a Network Engineer.\n\nI've just been offered a job at a data center with a huge company that deals with cloud infrastructure and will be working with maintaining and troubleshooting the servers. The company is growing fast and think there is a lot of room to grow within. This job is $18/h for a dayshift job. There will be a minimum of an hour commute each way on top of traffic.\n\nI also have an interview tomorrow with another company to be a NOC tech. Not to sound cocky or over confident but I believe I have a good chance of getting the job. The NOC is a small part of a private company. I feel there might not be as much room to grow within. The pay is $26/h for weekend shift, Friday, Saturday, Sunday from 6pm to 7am. Commute would be around 30 mins and I wouldn't have to worry about traffic hours.\n\nThe obvious choice would to go with company B if I land the interview tomorrow because of the pay and distance. But for those of you who are Network Engineers, what was your career path like? I have no experience but have a degree in mathematics and my two certifications.\n\nIs it worth it to gamble and accept the smaller pay with company A but be exposed to more things and more possibilities?\nOr go with the obvious choice for a couple years and then look for another job later on for more growth?\n\nDo you prefer sticking to one company for your career or jump around?\n\nAlso, how long do typical companies give you time to decide? Are they able to retract their offer if I don't respond quick enough?", "summary": "choose a big company with lower pay but more opportunities or more pay with a smaller company with less room to grow within?"}
{"id": "t3_45ndxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] have a crush on a girl [20F] but she might be dating someone?", "post": "I am really confused right now. I haven't been with my ex-girlfriend for several months and I think I am ready to be with someone again. One of my co-workers that I've been friends with has really started to interest me. She quit recently to go to an internship for the semester about an hour away. We are both in tech related fields so I sometimes get \"help\" from her with programming over Skype or IM. She says she has been bored so on the weekends she has been coming home. Last week she went to see a movie at the theater I work at with coworkers Steve and Erica. She paid for food for the three of them with her card. Well today she came in again to see a movie, this time just with Steve. They bought one popcorn and one drink this time, and I'm assuming they shared it.  \nI want to ask her to go with me to this car show that she told me she might go to next weekend, but I'm worried she is dating Steve and might even ask if he could come which would be super awkward. I've asked around and no one knows if they are dating or just friends. She does seem to be friends with a lot of boys. It just seems weird to me because Steve is 17 and a junior in high school and she is 20 (almost 21) and in her 2nd year of college.  \n  \nShould I go ahead and ask her if she wants to go to the car show next weekend? She has so much in common with me and she is super fun to hangout with. I thought about waiting for the new schedule to come out in a few days to see if Steve is working that day.", "summary": "Should I ask out this girl to hangout when she might be seeing someone?"}
{"id": "t3_2h211c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not sitting across from my GF", "post": "This fuck-up actually happened yesterday:\nMy GF's parents decided they wanted to meet me before I took their daughter on an actual date, and so I agreed to meet them at a restaurant. Now, I am a teenage male, and do not have a license, so I was picked up by her brother and his wife, along with her. They are headed to a restaurant in town, and when we get there and walk in, I realize that her family is a bunch of rednecks. As in they are full-blown stereotypical ones, complete with cowboy hat, boots, etc. She and her brother/his wife didn't seem hickish at all, so I was a bit surprised. Nothing wrong with them being rednecks though, they were good people. They had just brought EVERYONE to meet me. So, I walk in, shake everyone's hand and introduce myself. As I'm about to sit down, my GF asks whether or not I want to sit beside or across from her. I choose to sit beside her, and her mom takes the seat next to me, that way she could initiate conversation and learn a bit more about me. Cue me making small talk for a few minutes, and then our food arrives. After my plate is placed in front of me, I hear her mother sneeze. *And then it happens.* I feel wet droplets hit my (exposed) arm. Cue me sitting still for about 5 seconds, just staring straight ahead, not saying a word. I'd like to think that my food was saliva free, but I doubt it. *Shudder.* I didn't tell my GF, and don't plan to, especially since she was already nervous about me meeting her family anyway. I really regretted not sitting across from her...", "summary": "Didn't sit across from GF at dinner, mother ends up spraying me and my food in saliva."}
{"id": "t3_52o801", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25 M] not having sex with my [25F] GF, 4 years together, last 6 months, but having sex dreams of other girls", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for over 4 years, lately in the last 6 months or so we've been slowly having less and less sex and I'm starting to find myself less and less attracted to her.\n\nI get depressed thinking about the situation, because I know I love her but also miss getting with other girls, I've always enjoyed the act of pursuing a girl more than being with one, but I know my current girlfriend is everything I want. I just am usually not sexually attracted to her and I think we both use being tired / busy as an excuse not to have sex. \n\nI don't know if I'm starting to treat her as a best friend and not a sexual partner, I get anxious even thinking about bringing this up to her and the thought of breaking up with her. \n\nI've been taking average amounts of codeine every night to deal with this and other stuff in life (it shuts my brain off, and is something I've used in the past but now has gotten worse), I've been using it for about 6 months of us living together, I don't know if this could be linked to not being sexually attracted to her.\n\nThe last 2 nights I've had dreams about 2 other girls that I pursued and got with, but was later rejected / left by, so they are the girls I've always wanted to get back with for one last fling. I also have been getting sexually attracted by strangers and have also been jerking off every now and then when she isn't home. I have found myself getting sexually attracted to girls that look nothing like her.\n\n \nI don't know what to do, I want to be with her, but also want to be with other girls, I know this is something that you have to sacrifice for a relationship that is worth it and I believe this one is. But I'm worried that if we've stopped having sex so much and I'm not finding myself sexually attracted to her that this will cause more problems the longer the relationship goes and that I will hurt her more by not doing something about this now", "summary": "Been with girlfriend for 4 years, have stopped having sex being sexually attracted to her"}
{"id": "t3_3b67o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I expecting too much?", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nI'm a 25 yo dude who recently broke up with another dude because he wasn't suggesting things for us to do or making an effort for us to spend time alone together getting to know each other.\n\nHe did not seem interested in asking me questions about my background or the things i am currently going through e.g depression/anxiety. \n\nHe is 18 and was the one who wanted to make our relationship official, but was doing none of the above. Was I expecting too much?\n\nWe had been 'dating' for 2 months. I had been single and for a long time prior to this due to ongoing mental health issues. My libido had suffered because of this but it was there in flashes when I felt secure and trusted him. A good example of this is when we both went out for dinner, had a lovely walk home and then spent time playing co-op video games together. I was very turned on by this. \n\nHe didn't broach the subject of sex at all unless I mentioned it first and I had insisted he communicates his preferences or concerns with me to no avail.", "summary": "I'm 25 and my 18 yo ex wanted to be in a relationship with me but did not communicate with me well. Was I expecting too much?"}
{"id": "t3_oumer", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I tell my boss I'll be actively pursuing other career opportunities if I don't get the transfer I want?", "post": "This more of a work politics/ HR question.\n\nI work in a silicon valley software company that has been reluctant with employee's transferring to another dept. I've been told by several senior colleagues that they succeeded in a transfer, by finding another company, getting an offer letter from them and then threaten quitting before getting the transfer they wanted.\n\nI'm planning on transferring to another sub-department. Doing something else, but I'll be under the same VP and Director. I'm pretty essential in my current role and I know there will be resistance from my direct manager in this move. I talked to the other manager I want to work for and she's accepting me with open arms.\n\nWhat I'm concerned with is that my direct manager may be able to stop the transfer. If this happens I want to tell him that I will be \"actively pursuing other career opportunities\" to scare him a bit. But I won't have another job lined up. The major reason I'm telling him this is to bluff him. \n\nThere is 0 chance I'll be fired. I'm too essential to his team for him to let me go and we are understaffed. It takes about 1-2 years of on-the-job training to do what I do and about 2-3 years to to do what I do at my level.\n\nIs this a bad idea to bluff my Manager? and Why?", "summary": "I want to transfer to another job, but I may have to bluff quitting to get it."}
{"id": "t3_3cmshr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27M] girlfriend [23F] doesn't see a future with us together but wants to stay in the relationship", "post": "We've been together for a year.\n\nThe other night, we had a small argument.  It was fairly minor, but somehow we transitioned to talking about how long we can see each other staying together.\n\nShe says that she probably doesn't see much of a future with us.  I told her that if we don't have a future together then it would be best if we split.\n\nWe weren't in a terribly bad mood or anything when we brought up the subject.  But I wanted to be honest.  I feel like we're just wasting each other's time if we're just going to ultimately break up.\n\nShe started crying, telling me she didn't want to let go of me just yet.\n\nI'm not sure what to do.  We *are* having fun.  It's been a good year together with her.  But I guess we just want different things.  I'm not sure what to do.  I could hope that she'll change her mind later down the road.  Or I could move on and find someone who does see a future with us together.", "summary": "Girlfriend admitted she doesn't see much of a future with us together but wants to stay together."}
{"id": "t3_2yv2m1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help. My sister has one failed company, one struggling company, and she wants to start another.", "post": "I have never posted on this sub before but I need help.\nMy sister - let's call her M - has always had bigger dreams than she can afford and often makes dumb decisions, being blinded by the idea of success.  \n * M once opened a business bank account and put my name on it - when the business failed I had debtors come after me and my credit rating was shot.  \n * My parents ended up having to bail M out of debt on that business and now she owes them about $40,000.\n * M borrowed money from the bank to start another business which does well enough to pay some staff and most of her bills, but not enough to pay herself (yet she works 12 hours a day) or our parents back (parents have to help with her work bills).\n * M has farm animals that she isn't properly able to care for due to her work, but she doesn't want to give them away or sell them so they too cost her money she doesn't have.\n * M currently lives with my parents because she can't afford to live by herself.\n\nM is finally starting to consider selling her current business but she already wants to run another one. She wants to get the new business ready to go before she even puts her business on the market. The set up costs are close to $1million, yet she has barely $100 to her name and won't make a lot of money from the sale (potentially any as she'll have to repay the bank's loan and she *should* pay our parents back\u2026 she won't).\nTrying to talk to M about our concerns only has her flying off the handles, but if we try to help her she is immediately validated and continues planning, without any realistic views of costs.\nOur parents are preparing to retire and have had to accept the fact that M will never be able to repay them, but they would like to know she'll be ok and able to manage on her own. Their health is also not good and this situation causes them a lot of stress.", "summary": "sister has big dreams, zero money. Wants to start yet another business with unrealistic plans."}
{"id": "t3_36xlfb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My step dad has kicked me and my 14 year old brother out, 6 months after receiving $50,000 from our mothers death", "post": "The following has taken place in Texas, USA\n\nSo to give a bit of back story, my mother died last September and we received $50k from her life insurance. It was to assist the family and help my little brother be able to finish high school. I was working before she had passed but has lost the job. My mother told me I didn't have to pay rent until I found a new job. Now my step dad has changed all the locks to the house due to me not repaying the rent from those months that I was unemployed. While he has bought himself a truck(probably was needed as we had no vehicle) and goes to the bar every other day and doesn't look for a job. And now, 6 months later only about 20k remains. He is not allowing me to get any of my stuff and I'm pretty much just sleeping at my SO's house, and he has all my clothes and computer. \n\nMy brother was kicked out for a separate reason. He was dating a girl who was around his age, and the phone he has allows him to text through his computer, which he utilized after his screen broke, but then one day he found messages where our step dad was sexting his girlfriend as him. Pissed, he called him a bitch and then our step dad choked him out and held him down. My little brother after getting away grabbed his shit and left to a friends house and he was told not to come back or he'd call the cops. My little brother then comes back two days later for some clothes, my step dad calls the cops and says my little brother assaulted him, cop says he can't do anything but calls me to pick him up and he leaves with our older brother out of state. I don't want anything to do with our former step-dad. I'm just wondering what I could do and if he can legally hold my stuff there, and its bugging me that's he is sitting there living off money that was to put my brother through high school and help us out.\n\nIs there anything I can do, should I get the police involved. The \"rent\" I owed him is nowhere in writing and was just a verbal agreement", "summary": "step dad kicked me and 14 year old brother out and is living off our mothers life insurance that was supposed to help my brother go through high school."}
{"id": "t3_3sb54z", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "PetSmart Adoption Weekend", "post": "So... PetSmart is having a national adoption event this weekend.  I was this close: >< to getting a special needs cat last weekend (she had that shaky kitty syndrome and no balance) but I think this weekend I might get a companion for my current fur ball, Squeaky.\n\nSqueaky has been alone for about 12 years (I had adopted two cats, but the other one was bat-shit crazy and wouldn't stop spraying my house, unnecessary factoid,) and I'm not sure how he'll take it.\n\nI've read a lot, a LOT! about introducing new cats, but would love some input from you folks about introducing a new cat to a really well settled in cat.\n\nIf it matters, I'll most likely get an older cat as I appreciate their mellow demeanor.", "summary": "may be getting a new (older) cat this weekend and would appreciate any feedback on getting my current (senior-ish) cat acquainted with the newbie."}
{"id": "t3_4ahjxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-Romantic] Me(19/M) has had a crush on a co-worker (19?/F), and after telling her she said she wasn't interested in a relationship. Should I still try to be friends?", "post": "This started after last thanks giving when I ( I wasn't really sure of this at the time ) had developed a crush on lets call her Molly. I hadn't been in a relationship up until then so I was really confused about the whole thing. This only got more complicated when a friend of mine lets say Ruby told me she had a crush on me. So somehow i went from 0-2 in two days and was completely terrified.  I talked more with Ruby and we ended up dating for the next month. I think I convinced myself i didn't have feeling for Molly and was a little guilty of not liking Ruby back.  I dont regret it though, it was the most influential month of my life and it made me a much better person.  Ruby decided that we weren't meant for each other and the break up destroyed me for a couple months after but I came to see it too, and we haven't talked since.  I lost alot of friends through her and have been more lonely then ever before.  Molly and I hadn't seen each other  in a while as our shifts hadn't overlapped at all, but she walked into the office one day and all of my old feelings came back at once like a semi truck to the face. I finally was able to tell her and we are getting to be better friends she doesn't want a relationship. I sometimes find it hard not to talk to her but I don't want to lose another friend so soon.", "summary": "I want to be friends with my crush even though she doesn't want a relationship, but I dont want to lose anymore friends. "}
{"id": "t3_uuiuf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He told me he slept with her a while back. She's moving back into town. (F22, M23, 7 months)", "post": "They'd been friends since they were both fourteen, and after having been sexually solitary and thus frustrated for quite a while, they had sex. Then, more than half a year later he met me, and now we've been together for seven months. She has lived out of town for a while, and is now moving back - with her boyfriend.  \n\nWhat is the problem, you ask? I want to handle this. I want to NOT be the stupid, jealous girlfriend (that I currently am). I want to NOT ask questions when he's been hanging out with her, I want to NOT make him feel he can't be her friend. There is no problem in their relationship, and he never had feelings for her. Much in the same way I have slept with some of my friends, and still manage to stay friends with them, even though I have exactly no sexual desire for them. Only difference is that I had the balls/stupidity to flat out ask him if anything had ever happened between them (since he mentioned her like three times during our relationship and always described her as annoying or kinda stupid and I realized there was something in their past, etc.)", "summary": "Currently I am StupidJealous Girlfriend. I don't want to be, because I have no reason to, and being stupid/jealous is very hypocritical considering my own sexual endeavours. **HOW DO I ACHIEVE THIS?**  "}
{"id": "t3_fdz44", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is a vow of silence a good idea?", "post": "At school it seems mostly people just spam garbage, and nothing worthwhile ever even gets said, and im asked to give opinions on things that are mundane, or worse end up refraining from even saying what i mean as the sentiment would definitely lost, misunderstood (most likely in a way reflecting the todays poor culture of youth)*, mocked, or just have no faith in the point of talking. \n\nIm not anti-social, and i enjoy talking, whether its something intelligible or not, just the monotony of banal conversation recently has drawn me towards the idea of a vow of silence, just for a week, to re-evaluate speech.\n\nis this naive, or well placed?\n\n*what i mean by this is that anything that could be seen as overtly controversial or progressive being taken immediately negatively by the outstanding number of prima-donnas in my school to create some melodrama, a good example would be a perfectly point about race, or disability  being automatically misconstrued as racist, or \"harsh\" or anything on sexuality being \"messed up\" ect. - this as a whole is another interesting point of discussion.\n\nYour thoughts?", "summary": "bitches need to stfu"}
{"id": "t3_2j72go", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my window open", "post": "This happened this past August. \n\n* A bit of backstory, I occasionally forget my house key, so sometimes I have to get into the house via my bedroom window. Over the years this has caused the window frame to become a bit bent and the screen for the window no longer fits in its spot.\n\nDuring the summer, it gets quite hot and humid where I live, so I leave my bedroom window open for basically the entire summer. As someone who gets freaked out by bugs, my screen not fitting really made me worried about bugs coming into my room when I was sleeping, so I decided to duct tape my screen onto the window and, surprisingly, it worked fine.\n\nFast forward a couple of weeks. It's around 2 am and I'm to bed after a night of gaming. I'm super tired and just want to flop into my bed and doze off, but when I walk into my room what do I see?\n\nBugs.\n\n**Everywhere.**\n\nAll over my bed, pillow, blanket, desk, shelves. Pretty much my room had like 6 bugs per square foot of my room, and they're not just little bugs, they're big. Like, really fucking big.\n\nI immediately start freaking out and wondering how this all happened when I see my window, and the lack of a screen on it. The duct tape gave in and the screen had fallen off, and I had also left my light on, so my room was a fucking beacon calling for these guys.\n\nThus begins a a terrifying hour long hunt for all the bugs in my room, while I'm also trying to stay quiet and hold in my childish screams as to not to wake up my mom or brother.\n\nI didn't manage to get them all, because some flew away and I couldn't find them, so that night I slept in fear with my entire body covered to keep me safe from the evils that were in my room. \n\nNeedless to say, I always keep my window closed now.", "summary": "went to go to sleep and found a bunch of bugs gangbanging in my bed and had to crash the party"}
{"id": "t3_1kxghr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29m] think I've forgotten how to date/get a relationship started", "post": "Ever since I've been old enough to drink, I've enjoyed drinking. It started as social drinking, then over time turned into heavy drinking, and about six months ago I admitted to myself (and others) I'm an alcoholic and I quit. I had a hiccup along the way but I've been sober for three months now and feeling great - as in, 'I'm on top of the world and nothing can stop me' great. \n\nOver the past few years I was basically in a long term relationship with alcohol. I had a few relationships with women along the way, but in each case I wasn't the one initiating things and they never lasted because I was more interested in booze. \n\nNow that the fog has lifted and clarity has returned to my brain, I'm finding myself interested in women again. Only problem is, I feel completely and utterly lost. \n\nIn particular, I've reconnected with an old friend [27f]. We were never super close (always saw each other in a group setting) but in the past couple months we've hung out a few times, just the two of us. It's been great, however, I have no sense of how things are and how things are going - truthfully, I don't even know if she thinks of our outings as dates, or just a couple friends hanging out. \n\nI feel so stupid even asking this, but how the hell do I figure this out? Do I just ask her straight up if we're dating? Ask her on an obvious date? What?\n\nI'm not lacking any confidence, I'm just lacking the ability to figure this shit out - I'd rather not approach it the wrong way, ya know?", "summary": "haven't initiated a relationship in quite some time, am completely lost now"}
{"id": "t3_1xtfjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] confused about guy [21M], LD-FBW for a year :s", "post": "I'll try and keep this short. I'm just so confused about this situation! I really really like this guy, more than anyone before. We met at a party and slept together but we both felt we clicked really well and kept in touch despite being long distance unless I am seeing friends near him. We text quite often but sometimes take long breaks (like a few weeks sometimes) when he doesn't reply to a text of mine. Whenever we're in the same place we try and meet up. I feel like we have a great dynamic/bond when we're together and I kind of want to take it further but it's hard at this stage to say anything and I don't want to be pushy, I like that he thinks I'm easygoing!\n\nSometimes he is really sweet and he introduced me to some of his friends and talked about visiting me (it's a couple of hours and we're both really busy normally). But I feel if he wanted to date me he would have said so, and I don't get why he sometimes goes AWOL. I used to do it too but since I started to really like him I want to talk regularly I guess. \n\nBasically I don't understand why we keep this going if it's just nothing? What shall I do? Do I have to ask?", "summary": "long-term undefined 'thing' with a guy who lives a few hours away. When we meet up it's great but I don't know if the reason we've never discussed being 'more' is because he doesn't want to...  I am getting fed up of not knowing but I don't want to push him (away)."}
{"id": "t3_4m87nz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "MA - Condo trust members the trust's procedure to put up a fence, now I think they broke the city's rules as well.", "post": "Hello,\nI am part of a small condo association for an old building. We have trustees who broke the trust's procedure and put up a fence on some of the property. Off the bat, they broke the rules because in our trust docs it states that all trustees must sign off on any change. The fence went up last May and they definetly didn't get permission. So we're looking into that.\n\nNow what happens is another section of fence needs to be replaced. We as trustees get all the proper permission from the other trustees (for now ignoring the illegal fence issue cause we need to fix this section first, its falling down) but in the process we find out that our city has a law saying any fencing project no matter the size requires a permit. we went to city hall to get the permit for the current project and were curious to know if the trustees who put up the illegal fence also got a permit. It turns out they did NOT get a permit.", "summary": "If i believe i can prove that trustees of my condo association put up a fence against city laws, i.e. did not get permits. who do i contact? Lawyer, the city? "}
{"id": "t3_2m0t9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Girlfriend [19F] of 2 months, is close friends with many guys and one is obsessed with her", "post": "So her and I have been together for 2 months, we've known each other for longer but only got close a few months prior to getting together. The relationship has been going well, but I've been starting to notice how close she's been getting to a few other guys, most just friends but one guy asked her (she tells me) that he wanted to be \"friends with benefits\" with her (prior to us dating) and she didn't give a clear answer when I asked what her answer was. So I asked her again recently and she changed the topic. \n\nAnother guy is totally obsessed with her, he's been out to get her even before we were close and after a few times of her rejecting him he hasn't seemed to go away. She was recently invited to his party and I wasn't and from what I've heard he was all over her that night and she didn't really move him away.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated into what I should do regarding the issues.", "summary": "girlfriend of 2 months is close to many guys, one wants friends with benefits another is obsessed with her"}
{"id": "t3_yaews", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] I have a fetish and my boyfriend (29/m) thinks they're signs of mental issues...", "post": "So I'm in a serious relationship with my SO (about to move together to a new state), and while I definitely love and want to be with him I'm afraid our sex life is going to be damaged by my kink. I have a spanking fetish, have had it as long as I can remember, but before I could even bring it up to my partner we got on the topic of fetishes and he stated his strong opinion pretty quickly. He seems to think they're more like mental disturbances than sexual preferences. \n\nAt first I thought I could deal with that, after all our sex life was pretty great, lots of chemistry and intensity. I even get a smack on the ass once in a while, but it's not nearly enough I'm finding out. On one hand I love him, and in the mean time can deal with this silently, but I'm afraid later the urges will just get worse and I'll have no outlet. \n\nAny advice, redditors, on what to do about this situation? I've explained that I don't think fetishes are mental disturbances and he knows I have friends that engage in BDSM, but because of his opinion on the whole matter I haven't told him about mine. \n\nthanks in advance!", "summary": "Kinky girlfriend who needs a spanking, dealing with boyfriend who thinks fetishes are mentally fucked."}
{"id": "t3_2az3s4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking the bathroom stall door properly", "post": "So today I was taking my mid-morning shit at work. It seems that in my hurry to drop trou I only half locked the stall door. A few minutes later the next needy patron entered the bathroom and eagerly jiggled the doors to find an empty stall. \n\nOnce he got to mine he jiggled and the half-assed lock gave in and the door opened to reveal me wiping my ass. He saw *everything* in the split second before I could react and slam the door closed again. \n\nI'm just hoping he ignores what happened and doesn't attempt to make eye contact anytime soon.", "summary": "Took shit, failed to lock door, everything was revealed."}
{"id": "t3_11mq2o", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "After 2 years, here's the real story", "post": "I was 17 and in a terrible relationship with a guy, let's call him Noah. Noah was heavy into drugs and on a terrible path. After getting clean myself the previous year, I was getting really tired of the name calling, screaming, door slamming fights Noah and I would get into. I was afraid for him, who wouldn't be? He was spiraling out of control and I didn't know what to do. Everyday I woke up, I'd dread seeing him and I'd postpone calling him. I was terrified of a midnight call delivering bad news. \nI wasn't the only one afraid for him. His best friend, let's say Sam, was constantly trying to get him back on the right track. The more Noah used, the more concerned we became. Sam and I spent a lot of time together trying to figure out how to get Noah to understand the consequences of his actions. \nIf I hadn't been so blinded with concern, I would've noticed that I was falling in love with Sam. All of the feelings of neglect and concern led up to one moment when Sam and I kissed. Just once. The guilt drive us crazy but we couldn't deny how we felt. We talked and decided that we couldn't tell Noah and I would wait until Noah was in a safer state to end the relationship. \nWe tried to stay away from each other to make it easier on everyone. \nOne night I got a call from Noah. Sam had been in an accident, he was in the hospital. I had planned on visiting in the morning but Noah became jealous and angry and forbade it. That wasn't going to stop me. On my way to the hospital, Sam passed away. We never got our time, we never got our chance. \nI called Noah, broke up with him, expressed my condolences for his loss and said I wouldn't be attending the funeral. \nThat was two years ago and I haven't spoken about Sam since the day he died. \nI miss him and I'll never forget how selfless he was to protect his friend.", "summary": "Fell in love with my boyfriend's best friend but stayed in the relationship. Best friend died suddenly and haven't spoken of him since."}
{"id": "t3_1irzrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) am having an issue with my girlfriend's (19f) lack of interest in doing anything.", "post": "I'm visiting her for 22 days, we've been together for a year and a half, we've been doing the long distance thing for about a year now. I got caught with the idea of having a girlfriend that nothing else really mattered. Now after staying her for just over 10 days, I see some things that really need addressing that could arise as a problem in the future. \n\nShe doesn't do much with her time. She has a job and is going to go to school and that's great, but i would really love it if she had a hobby, something that she would really enjoy, something besides going on pinterest or facebook for half the day. She sleeps alot, has depression (she's taking meds for them) and is genuinely a low energy person, unless she has her coffee. \n\nI love her to death but I hate seeing her like this. She doesn't have many good friends, and by good friends i mean friends that she hangs out with on a consistent basis. Whenever I mention for us or her to try something new, be it games, riding bikes, reading books, drawing...anything besides what she usually does she creates an excuse not to do it. \n\nI'm not sure what to do now and if this is how she's going to be then I don't want to keep this relationship going but I know that she would be absolutely devastated if i broke things off.\n\nAdvice?? Thanks\n\nApologies for grammar.", "summary": "My girlfriend of 1.5 years is turning out to be somebody that I don't want to marry due to her lack of energy and interest in trying new things but i don't want to break things off until i've tried everything. I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_1kltvg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Started a new job at a super conservative company, got yelled at for a (very tasteful) joke. How can I preserve my rep at this place?", "post": "Redditors,\n\nI recently started a job at one of the largest, most conservative companies in the US. I've been there for two weeks and all it has been was training. Everyone's been nervous and I've been trying to keep it light amongst myself and the trainees. Everyone(including the trainer) was responding well and enjoying themselves despite the dry material.\n\nA couple of days ago at lunch my soon to be supervisor(post training) walked by. I just said to him \"Oh man, it's Josh.. I don't know about this guy as my supervisor\" in an obviously sarcastic \"just messin' with ya\" tone. He didn't respond and the other trainee next to me said something to the effect of \"ohh, denied. Typical supervisor.\" Long story short the supervisors came in and gave us a lecture on keeping it professional, which was immediately followed by my trainer lecturing me on the fact that \"This isn't best buy, you can't talk to your supervisor like that.\" \n\nWhile I probably shouldn't have made the joke, I tried to explain that I in no way meant for it to be negative or offensive but was just talked over. \n\nLong story short, I'm worried that this will harm my rep at the company as being \"the immature jokester.\" I worked very hard for this job and I don't want to let something like this color the perception the supervisors have of me.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "Made a joke at new job that wasn't meant to be disrespectful but it was taken as such. How can I keep from being looked at as \"unprofessional and immature?\""}
{"id": "t3_1udqit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22f] boyfriend [21m] wants to sleep with other women.", "post": "I came out of lurking to ask this one. Two days ago I found out my boyfriend wants to sleep with other women. I was at his place and went to use his computer. His gmail was open and I saw a conversation he had on gchat with his friend.\n\nHe was basically complaining that he loves me and finds me attractive but he wants to sleep with other women as well. He went on about how great he thought I was and that he was still attracted to me, but he couldn't help wanting to sleep with other women he found attractive, but he wants to be in a relationship with me. From the conversation I gathered he hasn't cheated on me, but I feel like it's inevitable. \n\nI don't even know how to confront him about it because I invaded his privacy and that's the only reason I found out. I really love him, but I can't help but wonder when he'll just go and sleep with someone behind my back.", "summary": "Found out boyfriend loves me, but also wants to sleep with other women. Found out by accidentally reading his gchat conversations."}
{"id": "t3_3fjuvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] dealing with breakup with my [17F] 1.5 year GF", "post": "So my girlfriend from over a year dumped me a couple of days ago and it's been crazy ever since. I haven't seen her yet; she told me, through texting, that we needed to speak when I was back in the country. We're still in contact but that is, partly, what makes this so difficult to me.\n\nShe's not only my (ex)girlfriend, also one of my best friends. We met online but we grew towards each other real quick. I'm so used to text with her all day and just talk about what's going on. \"Yo, I'm getting a milkshake. What are you up to?\". Those kind of conversations.\n\nI'm having a hard time trying to keep my emotions \"in line\" and not being a complete mess because of what happened. I've just confessed to her that I feel sorry for the things I blame myself for: taking her for granted as in: not texting spontanously but just waiting for her to take open the conversation. There are some other things as well, as not getting her \"hints\" that the relationship was slowly falling apart and sometimes accidently being condescending to her. I was just not realising that the things I say were hurtful to her.\n\nThe point I'm trying to make is that although I know that it's better of without each other, because of the little things that happen and cause big trouble, I'm having a hard time to comprehend that the breakup is happening and my lover and good friend are no longer mine. \n\nDo you guys have some solid advice on what I should do to make this a little easier for me? I'm going to talk to her in a couple of days (basically discussing how we're going to do this: no contact, slight contact, maybe a break?) and I'm worried that I might f*ck that up.", "summary": "what can I do to clear my head a little, although I'm going to see her in a few days and need to get it off my chest to her as well? "}
{"id": "t3_2sad0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22 F] and I [22 M] of 6 months argue about sex.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I, who live with each other, just had a huge argument over the frequency of sex and the reason for the decline. I felt like there was a decline in sex and I just wanted to know if I was doing something wrong so I could get her in the mood. \n\nShe was denying me more and more to the point where I almost wanted to stop trying because I already knew it wasnt going to happen. It turned into a huge fight with it ending with the answer \"Its not as exciting as it used to be\".\n\nThen she said \"If you dont think I dont want to have sex with you now, then what do you think this will do to us?\" I want to really stay with this girl because we have a lot of previous history and we love each other dearly. We apologized to each other after the fight and everything seemed ok, but I think this will definitely affect our sexual relationship. \n\nIs there a way to go back or fix this, or did I just really mess everything up and complicate our relationship?", "summary": "How do we recover after an intense argument about sex?"}
{"id": "t3_1kva19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex(BF?)(26m) want to take things slow with me (28f). What does that mean?", "post": "Me and my SO were together for just over a year and we broke up about 3 months ago. I realized during our time apart that he was my everything and I wanted to make a go of it. He rebounded by dating another girl, and that upset me quite a bit. He broke up with her and came over to talk to me. He told me that he was just dating her to keep himself busy and that there was no emotional investment. I believe him. It was a very emotional reunion with tears from both of us. I told him I wanted to work things out and he told me he doesn't want to rush into anything. He said he wants to take it very slowly. What does that mean? Should I not contact him and wait for him to ask me out to places? I really want to make it work this time. \n\nAnother thing was, I text him and said \"Can you try not to date other people if we decide to work it out slowly? I can't take it emotionally and I don't want to compete.\" and he text back saying \"Yes, I'll try.\" What does the \"I'll try\" mean? I wanted to say something but I didn't want to push anything because of the progress we were making.", "summary": "Broke up with SO. Now he says he wants to move \"very slowly\". Not sure what actions I should take."}
{"id": "t3_1f810t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to get (and keep) the attention of a heterosexual bf?", "post": "Dear Redditors,\n\n  Now now, this is in AskReddit for the advice of all, not just those browsing the 'relationships' section.  So please, give me a chance for your well-rounded honesty?\n  \nBackground info: 22 (F) dating 24 (M) for over a year, living together for the last 1/2 year.  BF and I still very much in love, but truth is I'm clingy and don't know how to give him space and I think it's driving him nuts - so much so that he's leaning towards living separately (but still wanting to be together).  I've also noticed he's slowly starting to take me for granted.  For example, I do all our laundry.  I ALWAYS put out.  Most of the time we do something he wants (because if we dare do something I want he'll generally whine about it).  He'll usually ask me to make him something (though early in the relationship, he cooked for me a lot of the time).  And really I just let this happen because I (1) want him to be happy (2) want to spend whatever time I can with him.\n\n  And though we see each other every day (because we obviously live with each other), it just doesn't seem like enough.  Mainly because he'll be playing video games or reading a book or something, when I'd rather just do something with him and solely him.  Hence, clingy behavior ensues.\n\nSo, questions:\nA) Are others of you out there experiencing this, or have experienced this?  Either from his perspective or mine?  \nB) If you have experienced this at one point or another, what did you do/what happened/what would you recommend as a result?\nC) I'm encouraged by him to do my own thing, but when I do do my own thing...he wants to know aallll about it...almost as if he really doesn't want me to do my own thing...WHAT DOES THIS MEAN AND WHY ARE MEN SO WEIRD AND ROUND-ABOUT?\n\nThanks for you all your help.", "summary": "sick of not getting boyfriend's full attention and would like advice"}
{"id": "t3_3dada2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] lost a lot of weight before I started dating my [27 F] girlfriend and I'm having a very difficult time keeping the weight off.", "post": "Throwaway\n\nFirst, I want to say that I love this girl more than I've loved any girl before. She's amazing and makes me feel loved in ways that I've never felt before.\n\nI used to weigh over 300 pounds and right as I hit my 100 pound loss mile stone, I began to date her. I, naturally, put on some weight as I was suddenly going out to eat all the time and taking her on dates. We both lost the weight we gained but it was like pulling teeth with her. Every time I wanted to eat something healthy or every time I suggested we go to the gym it was always meant with resistance and guilt trips.\n\nNow, here I am again feeling a little heavier than I would like to be but trying to lose weight with this girl I love in my life is an exceedingly daunting task. I've always been an overweight man and because of this, I've always had self esteem issues. I can feel these issues creeping back up in my psyche the tighter my clothes get and I've spoken to her about this before. She's always very supportive and apologetic because she knows it can be difficult when you have a significant other who isn't exactly helping but that mindset only lasts about a week and she's back to whining about not eating calorie loaded food or how I'm always trying to go to the gym\n\nAs an aside, my girlfriend is the most beautiful girl I've ever been with and I will always find her attractive but I've seen pictures of her back before she had put on a little weight and those pictures knock my goddamn socks off. She was unreal back then and I would love for us to both get healthy and sexy together but it's always such a struggle.\n\nI very much do not like how I've been looking or feeling these days. I've tried to be straightforward. I've tried to be nonchalant. I've come at her with a heavy heart. I've come at her upset before. What do I do? What do I say?", "summary": "I'm overweight and am finding it almost impossible to lose weight in my current relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4vlowd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (37F) am having issues with my husband (35M) together two years, married 1.", "post": "We discussed housework things prior to getting married but after we got married and moved into our place together that all changed. He expects me to do all the cleaning, cooking and shopping on my own. His deal is that I work 4 days a week while he works 5, except that with my commute I still work more than he does. \n\nThis all came to a head this last weekend and he threw a tantrum when I asked him to sweep, mop and vacuum the house. I lost it and blew up at him. I talked to him about how I don't feel that it's fair for him to expect me to do all of that and I thought it was disrespectful of him to throw a tantrum over having to help. I discussed doing a chore chart, which he agreed to. But in discussing things more, he only agreed to it so that I would shut up basically. He feels that the 4 hours he spends washing the car every other weekend more than covers his share of chores. I'm beyond mad about this. How can I get him to help?", "summary": "husband won't help with chores, believes washing the car for 4 hours is his share of helping with household chores."}
{"id": "t3_3ffvyh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my nephew pick his own tie dye colors.", "post": "Forenote: The purpose of this post is to highlight the humor in the irony created by an embarrassing situation. I hope this forum is not considered the correct venue to debate the merits (or lack thereof) of a symbol.\n\nAt the end of June/beginning of July, I started a tie dye project and made around 90 shirts. My nephew (11) stayed over for the July 4 weekend and I thought it would be fun for him to design 2 shirts for himself since he'd shown interest and helped me with some of the other shirts. \n\nHe selected two designs, a bullseye and an X. He picked out the colors. From yellow to red for the bullseye to mimic a sun. And I guess he wanted to channel US Independence day on the X by picking (from inside to outside) blue, red, pink, orange and yellow. \n\nI was almost as excited as him (if not more) excited to see how it turned out! I waited almost a week to give the dye time to really set. I washed out the X first since it had darker colors so the color would be more distinct from each other. And, ummm... it didn't look right. I had made such a high volume of shirts that it was  financially impossible to use freshly mixed dye for each color with each project, so some colors of the dye lost vibrancy before they were used. For the X, this meant that the red and blue were well distinguished, but the pink, orange and yellow looked like a gradation of the red. \n\nSo, basically, we accidentally created a *confederate flag*. This is about 3 weeks after the murders of Clementa Pickney and the other 8 church members killed by Dylann Roof in Charleston, SC, less than 5 hours away. Also, did I mention my nephew is black?\n\nI had my more easy-going husband check to make sure my normally over-analytical nature hadn't overridden my common sense. He confirmed that, yes, this resembled the flag closely. My nephew now has one tie dye shirt with a sun pattern and another with red and blue fish scales with the hint of a blue X in the middle (I re-dyed it).", "summary": "I let my nephew pick the tie dye colors for his X design shirt and it accidentally came out looking like a confederate flag."}
{"id": "t3_4lvbjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] Am I creepy?", "post": "I (male btw) was reading a thread last night about age gaps in relationships and there was a lot of negativity about men over the age of 30 dating women in their early to mid 20s. The consensus seemed to be that such men were seen as either immature, manipulative, creepy, losers, predatory or a combination thereof. \n\nI'm a 29 year old man who will be starting university in a couple of years; I'm starting so late in life because most of my childhood, all of my adolescence and half my 20s were taken over by severe depression and social anxiety meaning I just couldn't have a normal life and missed out on what most people do at that age. I'm out of that place now and getting back on track but I am and always will be 15 years behind my peers; essentially I feel that I am an 18 year old in terms of where I am in life if not in actual years. \n\nGoing to university I want to get involved with life again and that may include dating; but the people who are at the same stage in life as me are also people who are much younger whereas the people who are the same age are far ahead of me. I don't really put any stock in age gaps, I've always felt that if two people are adults and both want to be in a relationship then that's their business. But reading that thread (and others) I'm worried that I'm destined to be seen as either the creepy old guy or the 30+ loser, or both because of the circumstances I find myself in.\n\nAm I just going to be seen as creepy/immature, am I in fact creepy/immature?", "summary": "Behind in life due to past mh issues, am I creepy for thinking about dating early to mid 20s women when I'm 30+?"}
{"id": "t3_311tqv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP & TIFU by for seeing my great grandmother's death", "post": "Just a little background for you guys, my great grandma was 103 when this happened 3 years ago. 3 years ago today, April 1st was also on a Sunday, and at that time I attended a youth church group regularly.\n\nNow for the story. My best friend and I had been planning on hanging out all week after church. However, because it was April fools day, and me being the devious fool I am, decided to prank him. I texted him that morning saying that we couldn't hang out because my great grandmother had died, completely forgetting that his dad was preaching that day. When I get to church I'm instantly surrounded by pretty much everyone there offering their condolences, which I decide to go along with in an attempt to really get my friend. Well about halfway through the sermon the pastor calls me up on stage to talk about what happened and stuff like that. Well at this point I was sick of the joke so I walk up on stage, grab the mic and say \"I really don't know what to say other than... APRIL FOOLS\" expecting a big laugh. It took about 2 seconds for people to digest that the entire thing had been a joke and another 3 for the pastor to come up and rush me off the stage under the accusing eyes of all my fellow churchgoers. But the story doesn't end here. After church we went to my friends house and were hanging out and having a good time. At around 4 my parents called their home phone and said they needed to talk to me. Unknown to me at that time, my great grandma had been pretty sick and wasn't expected to live much longer. Well I get on the phone with my parents and they tell me that she passed away earlier that day. My response was \"nice try with the April fools joke, but I already used it\" then hang up the phone. My parents then drove over, picked me up and took me home and explained that it wasn't a joke, and she was actually dead.", "summary": "Tried pranking my best friend in church, end up getting accused by the entire church. End up predicting my great grandmother's death later that day."}
{"id": "t3_14nf39", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Does this sound like a communication problem to you?", "post": "I [f19] have been in a relationship with my boyfriend [m24] for a year and some change now.\n\nWe spent most days together up until I started college, three hours away. So now, we only see each other on major holidays. He works from 9 hours a day, 5 days a week, and he'll text me when he can (very small conversation). After 9pm, I hardly hear from him at all. And on his days off, forget it. We don't call or Skype or anything of the sort.\n\nHowever, he won't brush me off if I'm the one calling him. Eventually he'll say, \"Can I call you later?\" (which he never actually does), and the fact that he's not the one making an effort makes me feel like the clingy, whiny girlfriend we all know and love. It also makes me feel like he has a higher interest than calling me once a week, even if it's just to say goodnight.\n\nThere have been times when I point it out to him and I'll explain to him in all seriousness how I feel about the situation, and he'll sound apologetic, and he'll call me the next night, and for a day, things are hunky-dory. The following day, we slip into the same pattern. \n\nThere was even one point when I jokingly claimed that I would not accept texts anymore. And then I didn't hear from him for almost 3 days.\n\nAm I looking too far into this? Am I overreacting here, or is this actually an issue? What can I do to fix this? I'd love to hear similar stories.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and I hardly ever hear from him."}
{"id": "t3_i8shw", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Dangerous Motivation?", "post": "So I've been a nice, healthy weight for some time now (been down about 70 lbs for a few years give or take a few fluctuations), but I've been having a very hard time staying motivated lately (due to many issues, not contentment... I still have some ways to go). Today, after my run, I was thinking about just calling it a day without weight training. I then found some pics of my old self... the one who battled childhood obesity, depression, etc and was filled with a kind of rage. I ended up working out much harder.\n\nSo my question is: Is this a dangerous motivation? ... Or is there even such a thing as dangerous motivation? I want to be healthy and fit, but I don't want to end up like Ben Stiller in 'Heavyweights'.... or even worse, Ben Stiller in 'Dodgeball'.", "summary": "I don't want to end up like Ben Stiller."}
{"id": "t3_2xeh1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18 M) want to get back with her (18 F) but might have messed up royally", "post": "I was going out with a girl ( let's call her eve) for a couple of months before breaking up with her by text ( I know I'm a shit person). It was my first proper relationship and we were good friends before so we got along well. However after the \" honeymoon period \" I had a lot to think about and broke up with her. Looking back at it I realised that this girl was more important than anything else. She brought good into my life and I think I love her. \n\nI heard through the grapevine that she might still like me but you can never trust that. I also heard that she likes my best friend. We have the same group of friends so see each other a lot and get along ok. Also we are going to Israel with school in the summer and are in the same group, me and her not my friend.\n \nSo reddit I'm asking you to help me on how to get this beautiful girl back", "summary": "broke up with girl over text realised I love her and now need to get her back"}
{"id": "t3_1kxwf6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey /r/LoseIt! I am down 15lbs thanks to your help and was looking for some advice on my calorie intake.", "post": "Hi everyone! Let me start out by saying I love this sub! It is very inspiring and gives hope to those that are trying to slim down. Nothing better than seeing fellow redditors win the battle of the bulge!\n\nSo I am posting today to get some advice on my caloric intake, but first a little background info about my progress. I currently weigh 275 (5'9\") and I am gradually losing weight while putting on some decent muscle as well. I finally found a cardio exercise that I enjoy in the elliptical. I usually put in 30-45 minutes, 4-5 times a week. I also lift about 40 minutes, sporadically, when I have time.\n\nI have been using the LoseIt app to track my progress and my intake and I gotta say, it is very helpful. I am starting to get nervous that I may not be taking in enough calories, according to the app, to maintain a healthy state.\n\nAccording to the LoseIt app I can consume about 2300 calories a day and be within budget to reach my goal of 220lbs. I have gotten used to changing my diet from the abomination it was before, but now I usually only consume between 1200-1700 calories a day. I feel pretty normal consuming this amount of calories per day and do not have the urge to binge.\n\nI just wanted some feedback on whether this is healthy or if I should be getting closer to my 2300cal/day budget. Any feed back would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "summary": "Fat guy wondering if he should consume daily calories closer to his budget or if it is healthy to keep aiming low."}
{"id": "t3_26rle8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M18] girlfriend [16] of two years keeps talking to a invasive friend [M18]", "post": "My girlfriend of two years, we'll call her Sally, has a friend, we'll call him Dave, who is very invasive in our relationship. From the time I started dating Sally I knew that Dave liked her an intense amount, and he constantly attempted to break us up, despite my requests for him to move on with his life and love endeavors. \n\nWhile I have repeatedly asked her to stop talking to him, and I have asked him to move on... Nothing changes. Am I being selfish here?\n\nAs well, it seems that when Sally and I have a fight she goes to Dave to tell him about it, and afterwards he will harrass me to the point of desiring a restraining order. Dave is clearly an emotionally unstable individual who has been chasing after Sally for quite a while. Yet, Sally only allows this behavior and says I'm selfish when I attempt to reach into the situation. \n\nFor an example of how the situation goes... Sally and I were fighting on the phone about something obviously not worth fighting over, and she begins texting while we are on the phone. I later discovered that she was texting Dave about the disagreement. Fast forward about two hours after we have both apologized and moved on, I get a message from Dave that is threatening and calling me a selfish dick. \n\nI desperately need advice on how to approach this situation.", "summary": "Girlfriend won't stop talking to a guy who repeatedly tries to break us up!"}
{"id": "t3_1omuhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32/F] with my bf [38/m] 9 months never spends holidays with me.", "post": "My boyfriend finds a way to not be with me every single damn holiday. Tonight he told me he's going back home for thanksgiving(where he is from). His immediate family all live close to us. I'm frustrated by this because he can't even ask what I'm doing for the holidays or if I would like to come along before setting his plans with his friends.\n\nI don't want to come off as pushy but I am sick of spending all my holidays alone or with my folks! And why does he not ask what I have planned? Does this indicate he doesn't care and doesn't want to spend the time with me? How do I bring this up without being whiny?", "summary": "How do I get included in his holidays?"}
{"id": "t3_343gbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have a hard time socializing outside of work or school environments, what are things I can do to make friends?", "post": "I'm a shy person normally. I don't really talk much and I'm even quieter when the conversation involves more than two people (myself included). The only times I seem to open up are during work and school, at which point it turns around and I become way more outspoken and friendly. The only problem is that it's commonly not very appropriate to try to make friends in these environments.\n\nI've tried other social environments and activities, but nothing seems to do anything for me. It always feels like I'm just there to talk to people except that there's nothing for me to say to anyone. I have no problem with this at work or school since usually a topic and motive are provided. \n\nI also have hit rock bottom in confidence. I quickly lose interest if there isn't something for me to accomplish besides socializing because I'm usually of the mindset that I'm not going to accomplish much whenever I socialize. I've pretty much have lost interest and desire to be somewhere exclusively for socializing because it would be time better spent doing activities that I am much more likely to get something out of.", "summary": "I only have good communication skills when it's required of me and I find that those situations don't line up with most appropriate social environments, so I need suggestions for what I can do to meet people."}
{"id": "t3_13ovxp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Three weeks on from first breakup(24m)", "post": "I've posted before about what happened in the relationship. We both screwed up, probably because it was both our first relationship. I'm realizing more and more that WE screwed up though, not just me. We couldn't communicate effectively. I was afraid of commitment, and she didn't attempt to understand that or ask about it. I never even got out the words \"I love you\".  And I did, just I never could say it.\n\n I hadn't grown up enough for her, I think. I still live at home and use a family car. She had moved out and had just purchased her first car.  No questions were asked about our future, no plans for it made outright. And we never really talked about it.\n\nI think we could have a future together if we could have gone into this better. If we had a more typical beginning, instead of being forced together through friends. If we had both had a little more experience at managing a relationship. If we had talked more about what was wrong. I hope that we can try again in the future, after we've both had space and been able to move on.\n\nThanksgiving was hard without her. It felt like someone was missing. My family has been great throughout, and so have my friends. My support network has really helped me through the worst parts.\n\nI've learned a lot from this relationship. It's caused me to be much more introspective than I usually am. I just bought my first real car. I've been concentrating in my classes much more. I've reigned back on the video game habit. I've started hanging out with my wonderful friends more.  I'm going to the gym again. \n\nThis breakup is helping me become a better, more mature person. I'm thankful for that. And thankful for the times we had together.\n\nThanks for reading, Just needed to write down some thoughts.", "summary": "Introspective, trying to mature as a person. Bought a car, best retail therapy ever. It gets better, slowly but surely."}
{"id": "t3_ritj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to figure out an appropriate way of asking my BF to move out w/ me", "post": "Info: Me, 20f, him, 22m, dating for six months.\n\nI currently live with my brother (22) and another roommate (18) and due to unforeseen events, we're giving our one month notice as of April 1. I've been hounding Craigslist for the past week or so, calling, making appointments, etc. for a 2 or 3br place, but secretly have been also looking at 1br, fantasizing about sharing it with my boyfriend after he graduates university.\n\nWe're taking a trip together in about a month so there is a definitive level of commitment there, but I feel like it may be too big of a step to take. At the same time, it makes sense and I would love to live with him, especially if I'm going to school in the fall while he works full-time (we'll see significantly less of each other).\n\nI don't want to bring it up because I'm scared he'll freak out over the suggestion but it's something that's definitely lingering in the back of my mind.", "summary": "Want to move out with bf of six months, worried he'll be scared by the commitment"}
{"id": "t3_3n8c5z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to check out a lot of customers.", "post": "I work as a hostess at a small local restaurant in my town. I've had the job for about a month now, but this fuck up happened my second week at the job. \nI came in to work after a tiring day at school on a Friday night. The restaurant is most busy on Friday nights and the weekends. There was one other hostess working with me that night. I was at the cash register, the other hostess, who was training me, had left to seat a group of people. There was suddenly a long line of people waiting to be cashed out. I had never worked the cash register by myself at this point since I was still training. I did it anyway as I didn't want to leave these people waiting and I pretty much had the steps down.\nThe amount of people had left me flustered and nervous though. I finally got to the last people in line. I swiped their card, and this is where I fuck up. Instead of entering the amount on their bill like I'm supposed to, I entered the ticket number without thinking. Before confirming it though I realized my mistake and clicked clear, but I didn't look up to make sure it had actually cleared. Then I entered the actual price of their bill. I click confirm. Then I finally see how much I charged them. Over 70,000 fucking dollars. Their bill was about $22. The ticket number hadn't cleared and I had just added their bill onto it. I panicked and ran to find my trainer. She refunded it, and voided the ticket. Their was a problem with the bank that the manager had to sort out after that. Everything was fine after that and the customers weren't even mad, just kinda shocked the transaction went through. I still felt horrible though.", "summary": "Started a new job, was flustered while working cash register and accidentally charged someone over $70,000."}
{"id": "t3_35qr9u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by failing a drug test", "post": "So this just happened: \n\nI live in Indiana, and I had a drug test this afternoon for a summer job. Now, I'm not a frequent pot smoker, I only smoke when there are vacation breaks (I'm currently a sophomore in college), so the last times I smoked were spring break (a lot) and Easter. My parents don't know that I smoke on occasion, and God forbid they found out. I was never planning on them finding out, so I planned for a urine test in advance, so no drugs for me since Easter. I walk in to the drug test place, and boom, hair test. I hadn't cut my hair in a while, I think the last time was before spring break. I've been trying to cope with a positive result, and I don't see a lot of good ways to break my pot use to my parents.", "summary": "smoked pot, could've passed a piss test but instead got a hair test and now I'm fucked."}
{"id": "t3_3stie4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Cited for walking dog offleash in Ca! Help!", "post": "Self explanatory title. I was walking my dog offleash on a path in a park out of range of traffic/sidewalks/people. Park ranger rolls up, gets out of the car, asks for my ID. Cites me, never gives me his name. \n\nUnbeknownst to me, my city has begun cracking down on offleash dog walking. There have been no signs in this park stating all dogs must be on leashes, the ranger keeps stating there are signs at the opposite end of the trail from which I came. 3 miles down. On the end where I was, there are no signs. I took photos on my walk back. \n\nWhat I have learned from friends is the local newspaper recently posted that offleash citations are running $500 now. I do not have $200 to spare. $500 is a joke. I clearly missed this article. I have every intention of going to the court date, I'm not entirely sure what to go off of. Since last night I have learned that local law states that dogs must be on leash in every part of town, no exemption for the dog park. The city doesn't even recognize the dog park. My boyfriend thinks I can use that as a means of leveling with the judge.", "summary": "please help me get this potentially $500 off leash citation thrown out!"}
{"id": "t3_1frwkx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (F16) have shared feelings with my best friend (M16) but really don't want to mess up our friendship...", "post": "I'm sure you guys have seen this a lot and I know how cheesy the 'best friend who has been there all along' thing is, but I'm not really sure what to do and I REALLY don't want to mess up my relationship with this guy.\n\nSo, my best male friend for years now (I think like 8 years) and I have always had a bit of a mixed relationship. He has wanted more with me on and off but I have always been hesitant. I really value our friendship and don't want to mess it up if/when we break it off, and also I have never had a real relationship and I don't want my first to go badly, especially with someone I already care about so much. I do want more with him, I'm just not sure how much more or in what level of commitment.\n\nHe has told one of our close mutual friends that he really does want something more with me but that he doesn't want to make a move unless he is sure I feel the same way.\n\nJust to make it all more complicated, we have all of the same friends and if we broke up it would cause a really big social issue among our group.\n\nAny stories of similar problems or advice would be awesome.", "summary": "I have feelings for my best male friend and he for me but I really don't want to mess up our relationship; what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_l898m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "when looking at websites who offer \"high income, part time, work from home\" kinda stuff, how can I tell if its legit?", "post": "Ive been looking for jobs today, and i found this one, that is particularly interesting for me. that being said, they have sent me an email after i sent them my resume, and in the \"job description\" area, it says;\n\nWork plan\n1. our customer/buyer from your region make a payment to your account\n2. withdraw money from your account and send it to our customer service office\n3. make financial statement on payment\n4. receive 5% for every transaction immediately + $1600 per month. (you will get an 800$ every two weeks after the first transaction. the salary will be sent to you via bank account) plus 5% of each payment processing operation. you will receive this percentage every day after payment reception. you will receive 5% from every transaction. you will receive transfers from $500 to $3000 (an average of 3-5 transfers a week.)", "summary": "i think the company is a fake, and there is some kind of hidden scam that i am not savvy to, ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_4h87c9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my gf [23F] of 3 months said her ex's had bigger penis' (nsfw)", "post": "So my gf said her ex's had bigger junk than I. She said she thinks im better than them and she loves me but literally didn't understand why I was so hurt to here that. She went on to say that \"I'm good in bed, but not as good as them\".\n\nShe said I wanted to be honest, would you rather I lie? To which I said YES. She then got mad at me for \"making a big deal\" out of her statements. My dick is 6 inches so I'm not exactly small and she said I'm not small either but I still feel bad I can't make her feel as good :(", "summary": "GF Said her ex's had bigger dicks, she is from a different culture and may not understand why its upsetting"}
{"id": "t3_35evb1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Big Debt After Separation", "post": "I am more of a lurker than anything, but I am having a lot of personal problems and I know you guys are awesome when it comes to personal finance. A bit of background guys. I am currently splitting from my wife because she wanted me to support her entire family including people I never even met. I tried for a while because I really loved her and it was my first long term relationship. I am now left with a massive debt because I am stupid. So here is how it breaks down:\n\nCredit Card Loan 1: $14,500 @ 11% \nA quick note on this debt is that I did a lot of cash advances and I get hit with cash advance fees every month on top of interest. I think it's like $140 a month. Where my minimum payment is $290.\n\nCredit Card Loan 2: $7300 @ 28%\n\nCredit Card Loan 3: $2100 @18.99%\n\nCredit Card Loan 4: $1500 @ 0% for 10 More Months\n\nMedical Bill 1: $2800 @ 0% for 1 year. The payment is $240 a month.\n\nCar Payment: $345 per Month. $16,000 total loan at 0.9%\n\nRent: $1000 per Month\n\nStudent Loan: $38,000 @ 5%. This is currently differed because I am in graduate school.  \n\nUtilities: $250 per month.\n\nGas: $200 per month. This might go up because prices keep going up. \n\nFood: $200 per month. I buy in bulk during specials. \n\nI currently make $63,000 as a software engineer. This really becomes $3100 per month take home.\n\nI tried to get a loan for about $25,000 to consolidate everything, but I was denied. I did get approved for a loan of $10,000 @ 20.99%, but I was not sure if I should take it. I just want to start all over financially and I have learned a ton. \n\nThe questions I have are. Should I take the $10,000 loan? What should I pay first? What is the best strategy here?", "summary": "I am stupid and got into debt trying to make my ex-wife happy. "}
{"id": "t3_gzbwo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get my cat to stop drooling?", "post": "Here is my cat: \n\nShe's so cute and I just want to cuddle her but she drools A LOT. \nIt's disgusting. \n\nWhenever you stroke her and she purrs, out comes this fountain of drool. It dribbles down her face and gets everywhere.\nAnd then she malts so her fur gets stuck to the drool which is even worse.\n\nSo is there any way to get a cat to stop drooling?", "summary": "My cat drools a lot, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2lsled", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 5 months who doesn't want to do anything besides kissing.", "post": "I have known my girlfriend for 5 months (I knew her 2 years before). Our first kiss was on our second date (4 months ago), and since then, we haven't done anything further physically. \n\nWhen we talk about these issues, she just says that she doesn't understand why anyone would want to go further and her needs are just kissing and cuddling. I consider physical intimacy very important, so I am left frustrated. I know many people will say to give her time, but I feel 5 months is a long time without advancing the relationship, and I'm not sure if this will change. Help!", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want to go past kissing and it is frustrating"}
{"id": "t3_ye0k3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Fed up and scared [25 F].", "post": "So here's the deal.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years.  It was extremely volatile for the majority of the relationship.  He was abusive, both physically, mentally and emotionally.  I broke it off with him for about 6 months.  He \"saw the light\" and finally went for therapy and got on antidepressants.  But the problem is that he still has explosive anger, and any time I bring up his mood shifts and irritability he denies it and it just causes a huge fight.  We've come close to breaking up again and again.  I don't hold a grudge against him (anymore) for the past abuse.  He hasn't laid a finger on me for over a year, except one altercation over our dog (he ripped him out of my arms and held his arm against my throat when he was \"leaving me for good\" during a fight).  Everything is always MY fault.  It always gets turned around to be my fault.  And on top of it, we live with my parents because of my medical issues and we couldn't afford our apartment.  I don't feel taken care of.  I don't feel safe that he'll be able to ever provide for me/our family (if we have one).  He easily manipulates every conversation to point the finger back at me.  I don't know how else to get through to him.  How do I make him hear me?", "summary": "Past abusive boyfriend that has gotten help still has mood shifts, and manipulates every argument to be my fault."}
{"id": "t3_2w5bh0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "26M Can't seem to have a relationship last more than a few months.", "post": "Advice givers of Reddit,\n\nI am at a sort of personal conundrum in my life where I can't seem to find a girl I can be in a relationship that lasts longer than 4 or 5 months at the most.\n\nBackground:\nI was really studious in school and sort of reserved for the vast majority of my time in school. Part of this was that I felt like I needed to do well so that I could be successful  career-wise and the other part was I was always chubby with a serious case of social anxiety.  I opened up more in college, but was stuck in the, \"Oh, he's a good guy,\" trap oftentimes with anyone I was interested in. \n\nAfter college, I focused on getting my weight under control. I lost 60+ lbs and gained some confidence because of it. With this added confidence, albeit still very limited since I still don't feel attractive, I was able to actually date. Which brings me to my predicament...\n\nAll the pseudo relationships I have had after college have not last very long. Sometimes it is a mutual reasoning that it isn't a good fit. However, most of the time I either get freaked out by staying with whoever I am dating, or they end things with me for whatever reason. I almost wonder why they have not broken up with me most of the time. What's frustrating for me is that everyone I know that is my age is either in a long-term relationship or getting married and I have been perpetually single. \n\nI guess it's worth mentioning that I have been relying on free dating services like OKCupid to find girls to date. Since I work and don't like to breach work and personal life boundaries, I don't really know how else to meet women. I don't want to the whole bare thing and the only other place I really frequent is the gym -- which I feel would be an annoying place for women to be approached.", "summary": "Former fat, now skinny. Did some online dating after losing weight, but cannot seem to have a serious relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4og9eq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Bought a custom engagement ring with no refunds, then our relationship fell apart", "post": "Hello. I recently bought a custom engagement ring from Etsy that I picked out with my SO of over 3 years. It's a beautiful ring but to keep a modest pricetag, we opted for cheaper stones in it. Buying it custom like this means there are no refunds on the purchase, however.\n\nSoon after I received the ring, things started going rapidly downhill. I think my SO did a lot of reflecting and came to the conclusion that we're not right for each other as I find it hard to be emotionally available and she tries her damnedest to make that emotional connection. She is unable to forgive me for the changes I have not been making for her in recent months to strengthen our relationship and help her through hard times.\n\nThings seem incredibly bleak, and I am considering looking into options to resell the ring or attempt to get a partial refund. I'm wondering if anyone might know where I could start; the ring is brand new and I am not interested in pawning it off at some shitty shop for much less than what I paid for it. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Bought a beautiful ring with no refund policy, looking for the best option to resell it or get somewhere near my money's worth."}
{"id": "t3_4rjq5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My coworker [22 M] and I [21 F] have been hooking up consistently for almost three years.", "post": "Not a very interesting story, but it's been confusing enough for me to post, and I don't know where to go from here. My coworker and I have been hooking up consistently for about three years now, even when we would be somewhat seeing or interested in other people (though haven't dated anyone else.) We've never really talked about it, but we're really close and spend time hanging out together (going hiking, going to parties, etc.) but we've never considered dating (at least I haven't.) \n\nThe other night we were walking home from a party and things got heated and then he stopped and said that we should talk soon and that he was \"thinking of me differently.\" We haven't talked about it sense but yesterday while we were leaving work he said \"I love you,\" while we were saying goodbye and hugged me for an unusual amount of time, and that was somewhat atypical though it didn't seem super serious. I'm just really confused because this has been happening for so long but when we're around each other it's like nothing has really changed. Not sure what to make of that night or what to expect.", "summary": "My coworker and I have been hooking up for years but the other night he said he's been thinking of me differently, don't know how to read that."}
{"id": "t3_3nmvbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend Alice [19 F] of over a year, mixed feelings about a threesome.", "post": "My girlfriends friend stayed the night with us after a party and for whatever reason we slept in the same bed. In the morning my girlfriend's friend, Jane, and I decided to mess with my girlfriend. After a while it stopped being a joke and it turned into a threesome.\n\nMy girlfriend was the focus for most of it but not all of it. After we finished we spent the rest of the day together and everything was fine until my girlfriend started getting mixed feelings about it.\n\nShe now thinks that I might leave her for someone else. I don't know how to fix this and I don't understand why she is upset now because she was the one that turned it into a threesome after Jane and I fucked with her.", "summary": "I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her friend and now my girlfriend is afraid I might leave her. I want advice on how to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_2p8izu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23/f with my 23M of 4.5 years - reinvesting in the relationship", "post": "I think we have gotten too comfortable with each other, and have started taking each other for granted. I want more out of the relationship, but don't yet know what \"more\" means.\n\nFor instance, my biggest issue lately is that I come to his apartment everyday, even after a 16 hour workday, and I've been feeling like we just sit, chill, and play on the computer, or watch TV. We talk some but I feel lately he'll just prefer to devote his attention to the electronics. I feel trapped often times at his apartment and like I'm wasting time. I've brought this up to him but acknowledge I haven't been able to consistently articulate what Id rather be doing. Once or twice a week well go out to dinner, which I appreciate, but he doesn't understand why this isn't \"enough\"\n\nI know one of his biggest issues is our lack of intimacy and PV intercourse. I have very low libido and a lot of pain down there in the last two years and it's slowly devolved to just a lot of me giving him oral sex. Lubes (KY, medical jelly, and Astro) have caused me to feel turned off even more. \n\nWe are both willing to work on things, but aren't sure where to start", "summary": "I want (and hope he wants) more out of the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3frmyq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M/22] girlfriend [F/22] will periodically decide to not speak to me. What?", "post": "So this has happened before, but happened worse the other night. I come home from work to see my girlfriend of three years... and everything is going fine. We were planning to go out to see some friends, and then suddenly these friends cancelled on us. This made me pretty frustrated, because I was already getting ready to go/was tired from work earlier. Suddenly, my girlfriend just refused to talk to me. \n\n\"What's wrong?\" I asked.\n\nShe just looks slowly at me and says nothing. \n\n\"Is everything ok?\"\n\nShe just stares at me for a solid three minutes, completely silent. This goes on for about half an hour, with me trying to talk to her and her saying absolutely nothing. I'm getting pretty tired at this point, so I say this:\n\n\"Look, I am incredibly tired and having a hard time staying awake. If you want to have a conversation, I am up for it and have made it clear that I am up for it for the past half hour. If you refuse to engage though, I'm probably going to fall asleep.\"\n\nShe stares at me for another few minutes, and sure enough... I crash. \n\nThe next morning, she's even angrier at me. \n\n\"How could you sleep knowing that I'm upset? It's like you don't even care and didn't even try.\" (That's a direct quote).\n\nThis behavior is kind of alarming to me. When she gets upset (turns out she was angry that I got frustrated about not going out with our friends... because I was more disappointed to not be seeing them than I was to be seeing her), she completely shuts down and wants me to do everything. She won't even tell me why she's upset, leaving me to guess what's wrong... because I \"should know what the problem is.\"\n\nDoes anyone else's SO do this? I'm starting to question the longevity of this relationship if she can't even talk to me about these things. I have rarely been so annoyed in my life than when she just sat there staring at me for half an hour.", "summary": "My gf won't talk about what is upsetting her and instead just stares at me like she hates me until I figure it out. I would never do this to her... is this healthy behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_1h5c8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[18F] am very insecure, don't want it to effect my SO[21M]", "post": "I was bullied in high school and ever since I have had major self esteem issues. I have been with my SO for 6 months and I've been having more and more dreams about him cheating on me, which makes me feel worse about myself that even in my dreams I can't keep him. .-. I really really like him and I don't want this to effect our relationship. What do I do to make my self esteem better? :l\n\n---\nWell I went to my schools dean and got an appointment with the schools shrink July 11th 9am I'm looking forward to getting this all behind me. c :", "summary": "I'm[18F] am very insecure due to getting bullied, I don't want it to effect my SO[21M] Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1rd95a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22 F] loves me, but I [22 M] don't feel the same. I don't want to end up hurting her", "post": "We have been dating for about a month and a half, and at first it was her idea to keep it very casual. I agreed, because I had never been in a serious relationship before and I wasn't sure what to expect with one. But after a few weeks she was already telling me she was falling for me, and soon she would flat out tell me how much she loved me.\n\nI honestly care about her, and I like her a lot, but I know I don't love her and I feel like an asshole for it. When she says it I just try and act like it's not a big deal and that it doesn't bother me, but at this point I don't know what to say anymore. She makes me feel overwhelmed and smothered by how much she is depending on me.\n\nI know the relationship can't last much longer, but she is going through a really shitty time in her life right now and I don't want to add to it. She broke up with her last boyfriend of one year about a week before we started dating, she is changing jobs, and adjusting to living on her own in a new place.\n\nWe don't really fight much and we get along great, but our personalities are just too different for each other. She tells me how much more caring I am than her last boyfriends, which I think is why she feels like she loves me, but I feel sure I'll never feel the same way about her.\n\nI don't know what I should do, should I simply tell her? Should I break up with her? I want to try and talk out my feelings but I know how she feels already, and if I tell her how I feel I'll crush her.", "summary": "GF loves me, I don't love her, don't want to hurt her. Read the post, it's not that long."}
{"id": "t3_44m7ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [27 F] break up with my bf [27 M] of 10 years", "post": "Hi All. I'm in a tricky spot in my relationship and could do with some advice.\n\nI've been with my bf for almost 11 years now, since we were both in high school. I never really thought that was a bad thing as we've both changed a lot over the years, but we've been through it all together.\n\nI've had a tough past year - mild depression, but I have my good days also. But instead of supporting me and helping me through this my bf seems to have had enough of me being upset and him having to listen to it. I've had doubts about our relationship for around 6 months - and I've told him this. But every time I mention that I don't feel appreciated he turns it back on me and tells me its my fault, or its all in my head. I'm not asking for the world, but just normal stuff any bf should do for their girlfriend. For example I received no presents for birthday or xmas, he can't keep up with paying for the flat we share, he never organises holidays or dinners or time for us, and he has a tendency to be busy on days that are important for me.\n\nI want more from my relationship with him, and if he could do those things I'd be happy. But how can I continue if he no longer listens to how I feel? I really don't want to be without him, but I'm not willing to stay with him and continue to be unhappy. I mean how hard can it be to buy your other half a present even something small - and not end up attacking me when I mention it.", "summary": "How can I fix my issues with my bf when he won't listen anymore. Is is time to just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_3zpjcl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] started dating [24 F] the last couple weeks, how to go about things?", "post": "Will try to keep this brief,\n\nI recently started to date this girl over the holidays and things so far have clicked really well, maybe too well (if that's such a thing). We had both come out of relationships around 4 months ago, however she had been on more dates than I had before we met. I hadn't dated since the break up because I knew I wasn't ready and to be honest, was a little hesitant/anxious about dating again. After all I'd just been in a 3 year relationship.\n\nSo after meeting in a bar we arranged for another date a week later. We went out for drinks and the conversation kept flowing all night, till we were the only ones left in the bar. I probably shouldn't have, but I offered for her to come back to mine, to which she agreed. The sex was great and I dropped her off home later the next day. She sent me a nice message saying she really enjoyed the date and would like to meet up again. We then saw each other for the next 3 days, hanging out, dinner and coffee.\n\nI'm liking the way things are but I'm also conscious of moving to quick or being too needy. I've probably initiated contact more than she has but we've had long text conversations asking each other stuff. I'm away on vacation next week which I think will be a good mini break and hopefully may make our hearts grow fonder of each other, who know's.\n\nAm I looking a little too deep into this? I want to obviously play it cool but I'm not some loose cannon who will be texting 2/3 girls just to keep myself occupied. I really like this girl and I hope we can build the trust together to see where things go. She's already hinted about visiting Europe and said \"if I play my cards right\" I could go with.", "summary": "Met a girl through online dating, hitting it off well but don't want to scare her off moving too fast."}
{"id": "t3_42lfn9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sticking my laptop in a avocado.", "post": "As the title suggests, I fucked up today.\n\nFirst we have to go a few days back, when I bought some groceries and a avocado. Put them in my backpack because I forgot a grocery-bag(Is that a word?). When I got home I got everything out except the avocado which I completely forgot about. Fast forward the weekend. And this awesome monday morning I started to pack my bag. Put my laptop in. And go to college. When I got there I unpacked my bag and well... As you can probably guess by now. My laptop had punctured the avocado and about 20% of the avocado was inside my USB ports/SD card reader. Emergency to the toilet it was. And now the green is  at least not visible from the out side!\n\nIt may not be the biggest fuck up ever. But since my USB sticks now come out green. I thought i'd share.", "summary": "My laptop now turns usb sticks green."}
{"id": "t3_e5drc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I hire reliable people for my small business?", "post": "I just turned 19, and I've owned a series of small businesses, these are not brick and mortar companies though. These are a ton of low cost companies thats only costs are the employees wages, and domain fees. Typically I pay $10 an hour but its usually out of commission, as they get paid when they complete a job.\n\nThe problem is, even though my hometown is where my businesses are for, I cannot find people to work for me. I can't trust people that I haven't met because my companies require me to trust them so I can pay them.\n\nFor example, I own a lawn care service. I call someone up, tell them to mow/weed this guys lawn, and pay him 15 bucks. \n\nTwice now someones accepted the job, and screwed up. Two different  people lied about the job being done. I still paid them anyway, and I lost two clients.\n\nAll of my highschool friends are out of the city, and unable to help me, meanwhile I'm away too and unable to manage the local areas.\nI did try and ask a few highschoolers, but turns out they'd rather smoke weed than get cash.\n\nI have been having no workers for the companies for a good half year, and I realized I could lease the company to another individual. I could at least generate income if someone does the work. But as of now, its getting ridiculous. People would rather do nothing, than make 10 bucks an hour.", "summary": "I have no employees for my company nor any means of any local support, wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_4tedyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26M] panicking about my first girlfriend [22F] because i don't know what love is..", "post": "I started seeing this girl about 4 months ago, and it went really well, it was really slow and easy and now we are celebrating about 2 months as a couple.\nShe is my first girlfriend, i had sex for the first time with her.\nI know she loves me very much but i cant really understand what i feel for her.\n\nI like to spend time with her (we had some short vacations together that where really nice), i like to see her, and i like to be intimate with her.\nBut i dont know if i like being with her just because its the first time that i feel that kind of affection towards me, or if what i feel is just a reflection of her love for me or if what i feel is real.\nI dont know if i'm really in love or if i'm just acting the part.\n\nI have no intention to leave her because she brings me so much joy, but i would like to know if this is real or if i'm just wasting everybody's time...", "summary": "never had a girlfriend before, i cant understand if i love her or if i just like being loved."}
{"id": "t3_1qvvot", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College graduates of Reddit, did you even get a job/career in your major? Do you even want one in your major?", "post": "Just thinking about my life, but I want to see how college graduates get on in their life post-college. \n\n5th year senior in web design/graphic design major and I realized I'm not good at this at all last year, and changing my major to anything would mean an extra 2 years and added 5k loans per year. No passion or motivation for it and I continue to fall short behind my professors expectations, a C student somehow. I even considered dropping out but that's would be idiotic at this point. But I figured I should graduate in May even though I know I'm not good enough for a job or even a internship. I just want to find a stable job at all now, regardless what it is, to be able live not paycheck to paycheck for the rest of my life.", "summary": "asked so I could compare my life to yours."}
{"id": "t3_1f6r7p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [24/f] regain independence from him [27/m]", "post": "There are so many things I can't say without him yelling for no reason. I want him to talk to me like he did before...\nHe pays for my life, I have no family to go to, no friends that weren't his first.\nI used to have dreams about what I wanted to do in life but they were never good enough for him and he'd yell at me for aiming low. \nIt sounds like an emotionally abusive relationship but how can that be if my real emotions left me years ago. I grew up with an emotionally and physically abusive family and my father thinks he can still tell me what to do and guilt trip me from thousands of miles away. \nI don't have the courage to stick up for myself or the means to take care of myself but I feel the last bit of possible happiness being sucked out of my soul.", "summary": "Been with my bf so long, I've lost all of my independence and courage to stick up for myself, and I have no way to take care of myself if I left..."}
{"id": "t3_4fan32", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Taste-Testing McDonalds Dipping Sauce", "post": "So first off this didn't happen today this actually happened about 5 years ago. I was interstate visiting cousins and was spending a lot of time playing and watching them play games. They liked to stay up really late so eating dinner at about 9pm was normal for us.\n\nSo it was off to McDonalds for dinner. I stayed at home and my cousins came back with Burgers, fries, chicken nuggets, and of course dipping sauce.\n\nAfter eating I leave the room and come back about 15 minutes later. My cousin leaves for a second and I see the McDonalds dipping sauce almost full, the label said \"sweet and sour\" so I decide to have a taste. Worst decision ever...\n\nJust after I taste it I think to myself \"wow this doesn't really taste like anything\" then my cousin comes back and says \"I hope you didn't just try that?\" I said \"yeah I did, but I didn't double dip, sorry\". He is pissing himself laughing then he says \"thats my phlegm you fucking idiot\". I almost puked... To this day I still don't know what sweet and sour dipping sauce from McDonalds tastes like.", "summary": "taste tested cousins phlegm instead of dipping sauce."}
{"id": "t3_1iu4s9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Finally got myself down to the gym", "post": "Brief stats: Male, 5,7, 27 years old and starting weight of 205lbs (weighed this morning). Started this year full of ambitions and goals that I was going to achieve.  Needless to say I have accomplished absolutely NONE of them. Lukcily though, I haven't really gained any weight, and have actually dropped about 5lbs through just luck. \n\nAfter planning and researching and having stints using MyFitnessPal and calorie counting for a couple of days, a couple of walks here and there I have FINALLY got off my stupid lazy ass and been to the gym properly and done some proper exercise.\n\nI only did 30 minutes, I'm in terrible shape fitness wise. 10 minutes on the treadmill (very brisk walk on an incline and a minute or so of jogging), 10 on the crosstrainer and 10 on the bike. Not a great amount. I was sweaty. I was fairly tired. But, I did it.\n\nBest part? I'm going tomorrow as well. I'm keeping it up. This year isn't over, and I can reach my target weight by Christmas. \n\nWorst part? I'm kicking myself for not just doing it already and being there already. For anyone else umming and aahing about doing it, just go. It isn't that bad, you will feel fantastic after going.", "summary": "Finally went to the gym after slacking on my new year's resolutions. Feels good."}
{"id": "t3_27wcaw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [f/24/5'1\"/130lbs] am starting to become sexual uninterested in my boyfriend [m/27/5'7\"ish/>200lbs] because of his weight gain.. How do I talk to him about this?", "post": "Firstly, let me say that I love this man more than words can explain, and I do not want to break up with him. Our personalities are perfect for each other and he treats me better than I have ever been treated before. He makes me laugh everyday and makes me feel special. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. \n\nHe drinks at least 4 beers every day (more often or not he will drink more) and doesn't work out. He doesn't like vegetables and prefers junk food. He LOVES to snack, and quite frankly, he just eats way too much. He doesn't want to go to the gym, I already asked him. He lacks motivation and I just do not know what to do at this point. When we have sex it's so difficult to enjoy it because his gut gets in the way and I don't like looking at it. His belly sticks out so much it looks like he is pregnant. When we first started dating a year and a half ago he was smaller and I was fine with his weight at that point. I do not know exactly how much weight he has gained, but if I had to guess I would say 40-50 lbs. He is unhealthy and I am greatly concerned about his health and well being. I just wish I could do something to help him see how serious of a problem this is so he can change for the better..\n\nHas anyone had a talk with their SO about them losing weight? How did it go? What did you say?\n\nHas anyone been the person who was confronted about your weight? How did you feel? What did your SO say that hurt/helped you?", "summary": "My boyfriend is overweight and becoming unattractive to me and I would like advise on how to talk to him about it."}
{"id": "t3_3fz1lt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the \"secret word.\"", "post": "So this fuck-up starts because I was hungry. I went to this little Italian place to get a sandwich. \n\nThis place has a secret word every couple days that gets you a dollar off your sandwich, and I decided to look it up. The secret word was \"fashion.\" \n\nI didn't really know how to say the word, like should I go up and just shove all my food on the table and lean in close to whisper, \"Fashion.\" like I'm hailing hydra? I decided to just ask and see if she knew. So I head up to the desk, put my stuff on the table and go, \"Does the word 'fashion' mean anything to you?\" And she gives me a look of just shock, but that quickly turns to her saying, \"Yes, that's the word to get $1 off.\" \n\nSo I paid, took my food, and left. It wasn't until I reached my car and sat down that I realized that I probably ruined this poor girls self-esteem.", "summary": "Today's secret word was, offensive."}
{"id": "t3_52o8au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (23M) is asking me (21F) about an open relationship, and we're doing long distance. Don't know how to feel?", "post": "My boyfriend and I (21 F) have been dating for 2.5 years, and he recently moved away (5 hour plane ride away). We see each other every few months, and will be long distance for a couple years.\nHe keeps asking if we can do an open relationship. I know he loves me loads, but the distance is taking more of a toll on him than me, sex wise. We've never been with other people before, just each other. I don't think I could stand the thought of him with someone else, so I don't think it's a good idea. But it may be good for him to be able to get it out of his system and both explore?\nI am afraid of my jealousy taking over. Has anyone else been in this position? Is it a bad idea and will break our relationship up if we do it?", "summary": "my boyfriend wants an open relationship, but I think i'll be too jealous"}
{"id": "t3_tp9q7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my brother eloped today and announced his marriage on facebook before telling anyone in our family. Is it wrong to feel shocked and hurt by this? How would you feel?", "post": "*Let me preface this by saying I feel like a dickwad just posting this, because I know he's a redditor, and might see it. But this is a throwaway, and I've seen so many AskReddits with really great advice because it's an anonymous forum, so there's no reason to placate or give biased opinions or advice (since y'all don't know me).* \n\nI thought that I had a pretty good relationship with my brother. We talk fairly often, I always tell him I love him and basically feel comfortable telling him anything about my life, and always encourage the same from him. \n\nToday, I got a panicked message from my mother asking me if I knew anything about a changed relationship status on facebook. At first, I was like, 'oh silly mom, people do that all the time on facebook, it doesn't mean anything.' But I clicked through to his page, and there was a 'marriage' event on the timeline with a giant picture on his timeline of him kissing his S.O., and a bunch of sincere 'congratulations' comments.\n\nEventually he called me back (after I left a few voicemails, a FB message, and an email asking WTF?) and we talked (and I cried and I yelled) about it, and yes, it's true. Apparently he's been secretly engaged for almost 6 months, and decided to get married today, and then announce it on facebook before telling a single member of his family.\n\nI feel guilty about feeling rejected and hurt by this, because I know I should just be happy for him, and I feel like I'm making it about me. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Is there a right thing to do here? How would/did you feel? Any comments or advice is much welcome, because I'm at a loss for the right way to deal with this whole situation.", "summary": "Thought I had a close relationship with my brother, he eloped and announced it on FB before telling the family, I have mixed emotions and am looking for any sort of feedback reddit can offer."}
{"id": "t3_27ope4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my crush/friend[25F] met on an exchange, tell her my feelings before we leave?", "post": "Situation:\n\nSo we are both college students on an exchange in an East-Asian country, both from (different) western countries. The exchange has lasted for 4 months now and the end is near for both of us. \n\nShe has a boyfriend in another city in the same Asian country, but doesn't like to talk about him and she sees their relationship as 'disposable'. Still, the fact that she has a boyfriend refrained me from flirting with her or telling her about my feelings for her.\n\nI had a small crush on her since we met, but we became close friends pretty fast and told each other our histories and personal thoughts. As I got to know her, my feelings for her grew, but it's obvious she doesn't have the same feelings for me. \n\nMy feelings for her have gotten to the point that it's hard to keep inside anymore, I just want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time I think she will be upset if she hears I had a crush on her all the time. I want to make it clear to her in a way that showes her that I do appreciate our friendship.\n\nSo my question is:\n\nAs I won't see her ever again after this semester anyway, shall I tell her about my feelings for her, or do I need to keep them for myself? I prefer to tell her, but that might be just selfish/to relieve myself.", "summary": "Have a heavy crush on a girl I met on an exchange, became close friends, I want to tell her about my feelings before we leave, but should I do that, even though she has a boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1ujlj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] cannot stop thinking about my friend's girlfriend [18F].", "post": "When I first met her, she was dating my other friend and she came into my friend group's Skype calls for playing PC games (/r/pcmasterrace). I started to like her a little and when they broke up I made my move, but they immediately got back together. I thought it too awkward to try again after they broke up a second time, considering that would be a douche move on my friend. But then she started to date another guy who happens to be another friend of mine who then came into our Skype calls with his brother. So I missed my chance. \n\nI drifted away from her after I got into another relationship at college while she was still in HS, but only recently have my feelings risen back. I can't say for sure if she feels anything towards me, but she has been placing her hand on me a lot, leaning on me, inviting me over for food, etc. I don't know if those are signs, or just because she's so goddamn nice. I can't get a good read.\n\nFor the past 5 days it has been really bad, to the point of headaches and my nights being filled with thoughts of her. I've known this girl for about 2 or 3 years now and she is absolutely perfect. The only issue is she's been dating my friend for over a year and a half. \n\nI can't stop thinking about her. We've been hanging out quite a bit recently. We've been shopping and skiing together, gone to an NFL game, and texted back and forth a ton. We're going skiing again Wednesday and to a hockey game on Thursday (although we are going to the game with her boyfriend). The guy she's dating isn't a scumbag, and really don't want to come out of this hurting anyone. I have never wanted to bring harm to anyone really, but I just can't get over her.\n\nShould I tell her my feelings on our next ski date? I've been replaying this scenario over and over in my head and it seems like it could be a freaking scripted movie. But maybe it will help release the pressure that's been building up inside me for this girl. Thoughts?", "summary": "I am really really really really really interested in my friend's girlfriend who I've liked for 3 years. Should I tell her, or keep waiting and hope they break up?"}
{"id": "t3_2n80a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do breakups always bring out the worst in people?", "post": "So I'm (F/25) fairly fresh out of a relationship that was pretty tumultuous, but I thought we (F/23) had a pretty amicable split although we aren't speaking. But apparently I was wrong, because I creeped on a few social media outlets (I was still following my SO, to be fair, as they said it'd be stupid if we unfollowed each other). My fault, I know. I'm not looking anymore. I've since unfollowed their accounts. \n\nThe thing is that a lot of hurtful remarks have been made about me, both directly and indirectly. It kind of caught me off guard because I do still love them, and I thought they still loved me as well (as a person). I've literally never been in a breakup where this occurred and it's just mind-boggling to me.\n\nI'm not ready to write them off as a shitty person, so I'm asking: This thing happens, right? It's just surprising because she was the one who wanted to leave the relationship.  I know I've done my fair share of questionable things so I'm trying not to take it too personally, but it does hurt, especially as I was still following them and they knew that. I'm just having difficulty not internalizing all of it. I've always refrained from referencing them on my blog or making any comments because I know they still look and it could possibly hurt, and that's the last thing I want to do.\n\nI'd like some insight, and I would also like to hear from others about how they've reacted during rough breakups, and how you felt afterwards.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "My ex is taking potshots at me on social media and I'm not sure what to think."}
{"id": "t3_3nel0s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [18F] asking for trouble if I pursue dating a [36M]?", "post": "I'm a freshman Biology major in the Pre-Physician assisting program at my local college, and so far I'm doing pretty well (all A's and a B). It was in a study group that I met the only other person in the Pre-Physician Assisting program, we'll call him Matt, and the only problem being that he is nearly 20 years older than me. I really like him, more than I have ever liked any other guy. He is literally everything I am looking for in a guy, but I know it is debatable whether or not my mother would approve, and I know my estranged father's side of the family absolutely would not (but really I couldn't care less what they think).\n\nAt the beginning of the semester he showed great interest in pursuing a relationship with me, but he is no cradle robber, actually it was only when he learned how young I actually was that he kinda stepped back (which I can understand, I do look far closer to my late twenties than 18). However, as more people drop from our course, we are spending a lot more time together as lab partners, study buddies, and just working together to make sure we keep our grades high. \n\nWe keep getting closer and closer, and I will admit that though he has always been extremely respectful to me, there has been a lot of flirting on both of our parts. I know he would probably agree to go out with me if I made it clear that I don't care about the age gap, which on a personal level I don't, but would the fallout from my family be too much strain on the relationship? Ultimately do you think I should go for it, test run the relationship in secrete, or not risk screwing up our friendship? Also, are there any unforeseen circumstances that you think I'm not considering?", "summary": "I like a guy and he likes me, but he is nearly twenty years older. Do you think I should go for it or will the age gap cause too many problems?"}
{"id": "t3_3rqcn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "4 year relationship down the drain. Me [21 M] got left by my GF [21 F]", "post": "My GF of 4 years left me last week.  We met in highschool, went to the same college, then transferred to a different college together.  We lived together for 2 years, then because of a criminal record i had to live elsewhere for a year.  I started shooting heroin, and went to rehab.  \n\n...\n\nShe left me when i started shooting dope, but took me back when i went to rehab.  Now, with 6 months clean, she leaves me again.  I'm living at a halfway house right now, and i'm still going to college (the same one as her).  \n\n...\n\nShe says i've been distant.  She said theres some other guy, who she specified she is just friends with.  He gives her \"the attention she deserves.\"  (Note: she doesn't seem like the cheating type.  Took a year of us being friends before she let me take her virginity.)\n\n...\n\nShe does like to drink, but she's not your typical party girl.  She gets great grades and wants a future.  In my eyes, she's perfect.  Ever since she broke up with me, i've been pretty emotional.  I've been surrounding myself with my friends to try to cope.\n\n...\n\nWhen i asked her if we have a future together, she said \"probably.\"  This has been destroying any chance of me getting over her, because i'm hanging on to a shred of hope that we can get back together.  I'm fat, so i really feel like i can't do any better than her.  She's way out of my league.  I really want her back.\n\n...", "summary": "GF of 4 years left me because i was being distant, and she says she just wants to focus on school and friends right now.  When asked if we have a future together, she said \"probably.\"  I really want her back, what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2cbhxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my soon - to - be ex[21M] : Abusing the dog possibly on drugs ?", "post": "Hey, an update from my first post \n\nWell, he convinced me we could make it work and he still wanted \n\nto be with me. I obviously was so happy and willing to wait. Come \n\nto find out he slept with a 26 year old the day after. So I called it, \n\nsaid I wanted a divorce. Things have been civil so far and I let him \n\npick up our 1 year old daughter to see her. Yesterday he picked \n\nher up and was supposed to keep her until friday morning. Well \n\ninstead he brought her back tonight saying he had to work. Again I \n\nfind out it's because of this other woman. Then I find out that he \n\nbeat the shit out of my dog, it's really awful what he did and he \n\ntraumatized his sister. I can't take my dog back because there is \n\nno place for him where I'm staying, I'm calling animal control in the \n\nmorning. All this combined, I called and told him I was worried \n\nabout his temper and how it might affect our daughter, and how \n\ndisgusting it was that he sent her home so his \"girlfriend\" could \n\ncome over. I've heard some here - say that he's been looking like \n\nshit lately and the girl he's hanging around looks like a druggie, \n\nthat with his temper, I'm worried he might be doing drugs.", "summary": "My ex is having violent out bursts, beat my dog and sent his daughter away for his girlfriend, thinking of revoking his custody in need of advice."}
{"id": "t3_46y6it", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my BF [26 M] of 3 years, my Bf is a trump supporter", "post": "Using a throwaway because my bf also reddits. My bf and I have been dating for about 3 years now, we met at work (my internship) and he was in the same department as me. \n\nWe got closer over time and eventually when I went to get a new job we decided to stay in touch. After I graduated we hit it off one night and decided to date each other and we have been dating for 3 years since.\n\nWe never talked to much about politics he seemed pretty open minded when I talked about sanders so I never brought it up much. Last night I was upset that Hilary beat sanders pretty badly, but my bf seemed oddly happy when I asked him why he said he enjoyed that trump won SC.\n\nI was shocked! mainly because my bf of 3 years openly admitted to supporting a racist fascist neo nazi REPUBLICAN. I asked him why and his view was that no other candidate wanted to work on illegal immigration and that he would keep \"illegals\" out. Thats right he called them illegals not human beings or refugees but illegals.\n\nI dont know what to do reddit my bf literally is supporting someone who thinks putting muslims and mexicans in FEMA death camps is a good thing and is likely to be the next hitler if he got elected.\n\nShould I break up? do I argue and change his mind?", "summary": "boyfriend is a fascist"}
{"id": "t3_ql76s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What approach should you take when you ask a girl if she is interested in you and she says that she is still thinking?", "post": "A little background: \n\nI met this girl online, we are both fairly introverted (her more so, romantically) and have focused on topics such as music, our shared major, and everything under the sun (we actually have a lot in common). She tends to stray away from romantic questions though, but her general body language suggests that she is interested. We've gone on 3 dates so far, and I have yet to make a move and kiss her (it just hasn't felt right yet). I joked with her, through text, this morning about having a dream about her, but she didn't respond to it.  So instead we talked about other things through the day. Later, I asked her about it and she seemed like she didn't know what I was talking about, so I went through the self humiliating process of explaining it to her, which she said things like \"oh cool :)\" Anyway, I joked that she was into me...and she said that she was still thinking about it. What are some clever ways to approach the situation? Any general advice?", "summary": "I flirted in an awkward way with a girl I went out with a few times, I think she likes me, but when asked about it (through a joke) she said she was still thinking. I'm hoping that you guys might have similar experiences or a clever way to approach this so I don't continue being the socially awkward penguin that we all know and love."}
{"id": "t3_2bjj0v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not understanding a common idiom", "post": "Another this-didnt-happen-today-but-ill-share-anyway TIFU.  I was in college and visiting my girlfriend at the time's family.  I had met them a few times before and I guess they thought I was fine and/or tolerable enough to be dating their daughter.  Anyway were out to dinner with her parents and siblings and we're ordering food.  We each make our rounds ordering.  By the time its my girlfriend's turn, I notice she didn't ask to have her sauce on the side (the restaurant usually overdoes it and it kind ruins the sandwich).  So I perk up and go \"hey, don't forget to get the sauce on the side!\"  She's happy I saved her sandwich from certain doom and thanks me.. So I say \"I just know you hate when they over do it with the sauce.\" she says how she's happy I listen to her and pay attention to that stuff. I now look great in front of her family.. until..  \n\nUntil I decide to say \"its not that I listen.. Its just that I know you, like, in the biblical sense.\"  Dead. Silence.  It could have stopped there, but I thought they either didnt get the joke or didnt hear it. so I reiterate while doing this kind of weird hand gesture to seem all mystical and ominous: \"you know, I know you... biblically..\"   The blank stares continue until she pipes up with \"Why are you talking about this..? do you know what youre saying??\" and I explain \"well yeah, to know someone biblically is to be so in tune with their soul and spirit you automatically know whats good for them... right?\" Wrong. Her brother just snorts and everyone is clearly holding back laughing at me to be nice.. she just leans in and goes \"I'll explain what you did later.\"  2 hrs later back home, she explains what it really means and that I just told her entire family we're having sex.  Still feel like a dumbass to this day...", "summary": "I told my old girlfriend's family that I know her in the biblical sense thinking it just meant to know someone well.  I was more than wrong."}
{"id": "t3_e6e2u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm At My Wits End", "post": "Here's the situation. I live in a house that my husband and I are buying. My best friend lives with us and pays rent. He has lived with me for many years, even before my husband and I were together. We generally all get along. The problem is my best friend's cat. I've found a new home for my cat because his cat was terrrorizing it. My best friend has told me straight up that he will move out if I ask him to get rid of the cat. But the cat has destroyed my couches (not declawed) among many other pieces of furniture, and shits and vomits in our floor every day. He goes in the litter box AND he shits in the front dining room, the office, the kitchen, whereever he pleases. The problem is, with the economy the way it is, we cannot afford to live in our house if my best friend moves out. So its like we are being held hostage by this cats behavior. My best friend refuses to do anything about it. Every day he has a new excuse. He calls the shitting \"accidents\" when it is clearly just a behavior problem that we've accepted for over 3 years now and will not go away. I've bought the spray that you spray where you don't want the cat to go, it doesn't work. We've tried to lock the cat in my best friends bedroom, he gets out. Not to mention the fact that my best friends' girlfriend's puppy is now living with us and has pissed and shit so much on our futon in the guest room that it is ruined. But that's another subject. What do I do? I am so close to just moving into an apartment and waiting for the house to be foreclosed on - but my husband doesn't want to do that.", "summary": "My roommates cat is terrible and he won't get rid of it, and I can't afford for him to move out."}
{"id": "t3_rse32", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do people think of New England?", "post": "A while ago, there was a survey done on what made up America called [inAmerica] Basically, people throughout the US were to submit various pictures and stories that made up their lives to help define America. About a year later, there were thousands of submissions from all across the US, and a few from other countries. Except for a giant blank spot in the northeast. Not a single submission from New England. Things were said, comments were made, and it made me rather curious. When you think about New England, what do you think? It would help to know what state/region/country you're from too.", "summary": "When you think of New England and New Englanders, what do you think about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1vl4mz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] have finally decided to quit trying to make things work with my ex [25F] of 3.5 years.", "post": "My GF broke up with me almost 5 months ago now when she found out that I was getting naked pics from other girls (don't lecture me on how this is wrong, I know it was a terrible thing to do)... I've been trying to make things work out with her since then but have finally come to the decision that things will not work out. She still thinks that any time there are girls around that I am trying to fuck them, posted all over facebook about what I did (subsequently both of our families found out in more detail than they are comfortable with), and has fucked a few guys (along with joining tinder) since we broke up. \n\nShe keeps me around like I'm some back up option, we hang out, we have sex, but I can't get any of the contact that I crave from her, she wont hug me, wont let me cuddle her, wont kiss me, says she doesn't love me anymore. I told her today that I decided that it is not fair that she is able to fuck other people and I can't, she tried responding with \"You got yourself in to this situation.\" I told her that I'm done trying to work on this since I am obviously an emotional crutch for her as she doesn't have many friends.\n\nI have been receiving plenty of interest from other girls who can give me what I want physically and emotionally and have definitely decided that it is over. She keeps trying to guilt me and make me feel bad. I'm fucking over it. I need some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing. I still love her but can't live a life where I'm option B and she is holding shit over my head at all times.", "summary": "GF broke up w/ me, I've been trying to make it work, finally decided to say fuck it and move on... need some reassurance that this is a good decision."}
{"id": "t3_25oa5f", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Public domain - question for upcoming gamejam", "post": "The [Public Domain Jam] is starting soon. In essence, developers have a week to create games based on public domain works and submit them as entries to the competition.\n\nThe competitors entries will be hosted on and distributed via US based servers.\n\nThe rules (currently) state that you can use work that is public domain in YOUR country. \n\nThere are a lot of works that are public domain elsewhere in the world, but not in the US. (I was going to use Animal Farm by George Orwell for example...public domain in Australia and New Zealand, but not in the US)\n\nI've advised the organizer that there may be an issue here, so I'd better make sure I get this right.\n\nI've suggested that the rules be changed so that the competition abide by US law, which will implicitly mean that only published works from before 1923 are allowed to be used.\n\nSo, are the following assumptions correct??\n\n1) Content hosted on US servers is subject to US law.\n\n2) If I were to submit an entry that is based on work that is public domain in my country, but is still under copyright in the US, someone(?) may be infringing copyright? (Who though?)\n\nI'm not organizing the game jam btw, I'm actually looking to compete :)", "summary": "Convoluted post - Am I correct in assuming that hosting potentially copyright infringing work on a US based server is a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_50iu26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [22M] a bad person, or wrong, for wanting to stop talking to a friend [23F]?", "post": "Hi, I'm a recent college graduate, and I've always sort of had trouble with women in general, when it comes to relationships. Recently, I met a girl at a party and we started to talk a lot. We ended up hooking up more than once at my place, and kept talking a lot, which made me think something more may be possible. She's moving to get a job about 40 minutes away from me as well.\n\nWe've been talking for a few months at this point, and I wanted to ask if she was interested in being more than friends, like sort of officially (because we had only hooked up at this point, not really dating). I've been rejected for asking this question before, so I held off, but pretty stupidly a few nights ago I told her what was on my mind via drunk text. She told me she's not interested in that right now, which is totally fine, but she wants to keep talking and seeing each other as friends.\n\nMy problem is, is it terrible for me to say I don't want to talk to her? I know myself pretty well, and when I \"catch feelings\" they don't really go away for a while. I think it would be hard for me to talk to and see her as a friend when I still have feelings for her. Any advice for dealing with a situation like this in general would be great, as it's happened before and it probably will again to be honest. Just to say though, it's not like this happens with all my girl friends, didn't want to give that impression. Thanks for any advice in advance.", "summary": "Need help dealing with unwanted feelings and what to do with them. Should I keep talking to someone I have feelings for but isn't reciprocated?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhopx", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Picking a college", "post": "So I have decided to choose between University of Washington, Texas A&M, and University of Wisconsin-Madison. I live in Hawaii so I am not really able to travel to these colleges to check them out, however, I have been the UW because I have family in Washington. I can't decide between those three options, they each are great schools and look like a lot of fun. I plan on majoring in Computer Science and getting a ROTC scholarship. So if anyone can give me some insight to each of these three schools, I want a school that I can have fun in (I know that's a little dependent on myself), I want a school that has a good CS department, and I want a school that has a good ROTC program. Any insight to these schools?", "summary": "UW(U-dub), Texas A&M, UW-Madison, college life at each?"}
{"id": "t3_4lwqel", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [21/f] stop giving my boyfriend [18/m] the silent treatment?", "post": "I know this is a stupid question. I just started dating this guy and we've been together about a month and a half now. The first few weeks were nice, honeymoon phase seemed in full swing. He was frequently talking to me and we would occasionally go out during the week to hang out, eat, etc. Now fast forward I feel like I'm going down the same rut I've had with previous boyfriends only this time instead of it taking a year or a few months it's happened in a few weeks. Conversations are dull or nonexistant, the most I ever talk to him is when it's about work. I hardly see him whether its on skype or in person (I saw him twice in the last week and they were both because of my initiative). \n\nI already am aware of the fact this is bothering me and its making me upset. So I spoke to him expressing that I felt disconnected from him and unimportant. But at the same time I told him I understand it's good to relax and enjoy the day without each other. I'm not trying to see him and speak to him 24/7 but I can hardly get him to be present without me planning or saying hey I want to be with you or talk to you. \n\nI haven't seen much of a change since talking to him about it and it's beginning to upset me. I've been somewhat ignoring him and giving him short answers when I talk to him but I know that's not the right way to deal with the situation. Given that the relationship is so new I don't want to be pushy but at the same time I feel like I'm being so passive. Like I let people get away with treating me how I hate being treated because I don't want them to dislike me or think I'm clingy. Yet I walk away from the situation feeling extremely lonely in regards to romantic relationships. I have friends and family members that I speak to on a daily basis and hobbies I enjoy on my own and a fullish time job. And when I'm not doing either of those things I try to brighten his day or plan something. And that aspect I feel I'm not getting back from him anymore.", "summary": "What should I do about a bf who doesn't seem to be putting any effort into our relationship? And how do I stop getting upset over it? How do continue to act nice and do nice things for him even though I actually feel irritated with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3psi3q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my toast out of the toaster with my trusty fork", "post": "[Obligatory this didnt happen now it happened a few years back]\n\nOk so its about8/9 at night and my mam refuses to cook me anything to eat, which is probably fair i had already eaten that day but i was quite hungry, so she told me to go make toast in the toaster, which i did without hesitation [me loves me some toast].\n\nSo all's well and good coming to the end of the toasting process, keep in mind im a ridiculously picky eater so if my toast is in anyway brown or burnt, I wont eat it. I didnt want to take it all out because then i would mess it up, I just wanted to see how it was doing. I was compltely unaware that you are very likely to die by putting metal in the toaster and I wasnt risking burning my pinky so I did what any logical 12 year old does in this situation. Shanked my toaster with a fork to see if it was burnt. Needless to say after the toaster exploded and my houses power was out for 37 hours, my toast was burned and I was very disappointed. Everytime my family comes around for dinner I am reminded of this moment of sheer genius from my past...", "summary": "Was hungry, tried to make toast, shanked an electrical appliance with a metal fork, nearly killed myself, burnt my toast."}
{"id": "t3_1eyk92", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just started a business. Not sure how to split share of company with my partner.", "post": "About a year ago, I had an idea for a website. I hired a developer who was pretty slow and crappy so I was looking from someone to replace him.\n\nAt the same time, an old roommate moved back to town who is a designer/developer who has the same passion for the city we live in (it's a lifestyle website). So it seemed like a natural fit - I handle the content and social media, and he the back-end and whatever else (he's not a native English speaker so he can't help with the content much).\n\nAt that time, I told him I was looking for a partner and, if he was putting in the same amount of work, was willing to go in 50/50 with him.\n\nThis was in October last year. We finally launched the site about a month ago and it's been going quite well. Here's where it gets a little complicated:\n\nI have a full time job but I can work on the website for 5-6 hours a day as I don't have a particularly active social life. He is the opposite, goes out all the time, girls, booze, etc. \n\nI know he works on the website in his spare time (he also has a part time job) but I feel like most of the time, he only works when we're having a meeting. Even then, sometimes it seems like I'm managing him more than he manages himself. For me, it's our baby.\n\nHe has said that he will start to spend \"most of his time on it\" after he finished some current projects.\n\nToday I met with one of our editors who asked if we were looking for a business partner. Dude has great connections and business experience so I told him I'd talk to my partner.\n\nTo even have this conversation, I think we need to determine our shares of the business before discussing the addition of another partner. I'm just not exactly sure how to go about it. \n\nShould I be honest about my feelings and tell him that I don't feel like he's putting in 50% worth? He's a bit sensitive and this is an awkward conversation so just looking for some advice about how to raise these issues with him.", "summary": "Started a business with a friend with the understanding we would split it 50/50. He's not living up to his end thus far and I'm not sure how to talk to him about it."}
{"id": "t3_21hal6", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Need help finding the perfect promise ring for my girlfriend.", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit to post something like this but i am looking to find a promise ring for my girlfriend who i love so much. Now she isn't traditional, she wouldn't want me to get a big expensive one from one of the main jewelers.\n\nShe is really into nature and recycle so if there is a jeweler who makes rings out of recycled materials, or uses some kind of all natural or eco friendly method of making their products that'd be perfect. Her favorite color is green too so maybe emeralds?\n\nAny help and advice is greatly appreciated, thanks so much! =)", "summary": "need help finding a unique promise ring possibly buy a jeweler who uses eco friendly methods of creation or recycled materials."}
{"id": "t3_1s0t4d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, how do you deal with problems in the workplace? [Serious]", "post": "A little background: I recently got my very first full time office job about 8 months ago. I work in a small team of 5 people. My position however, has had a very high turnover rate. \n\nI sit in a pretty excluded area. This is not by choice, but just how our office works. We all work in an open cubicle type area, where 4 of my co workers all work within close proximity. I am on the other side of the space, working by myself. If i want to talk to one of my co-workers, i have to raise my voice or walk over to talk to them. The only time anyone really talks to me, is when they need me to do something. \n\nI believe this might be the origin of my issues at work. I feel quite lonely, and have the suspicion that no one really likes me or even cares to get to know me. I've tried to put myself out there...but i am worried of judgement, rejection and annoying my co-workers. I cannot move desks, its just not possible. So i genuinely wanted to know if anyone had ideas on what i can do to improve my daily experience at my job, and how i can create positive work relationships with my co-workers. \n\n[", "summary": "] how can i not feel lonely and excluded at work when my desk is so far away from my co-workers?"}
{"id": "t3_2p4g0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am developing feelings a girl [17 F] who has been pursued by an acquaintance for the past year.", "post": "I'll preface this by saying that we are in high school, so it's not very serious.\n\nStill, I'm starting to like this girl who I've been talking to more and more. The problem is that an acquaintance of mine (he's a pretty cool guy, I respect him) has been unsuccessfully pursuing her for over a year. They went on one date, but she broke it off after that. They still talk as friends, but I know the dude is into her and still trying to make something happen.\n\nHe has no idea that I feel this way, and neither does anyone else, really.\n\nMy question is: is it OK for me to ask her to the upcoming prom? I feel like it would really hurt the dude.\n\nAlso, I'm sorry if this sounds conceited - but I think that she'd very much prefer me.", "summary": "Is it OK to ask out a girl who is being unsuccessfully pursued by a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_11viyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Family member (18) pretending to shoot people, don't like it one bit, am I over reacting to think its unacceptable? if not, how you explain it to family?", "post": "I have a family member (cousin) who is almost 18 who I recently saw and had some \"altercations\" with because of the way he treated other people with his temper. I've seen him multiple times shoot his father, mother, brother, grandmother, and girlfriend with an unloaded air-soft gun, at one point I had it and called the police because he threatened to shoot his girlfriend between the eyes, shoved his mother down to the ground and got in his grandmothers face. I had it with his shit and called the police to him (for more reasons than just the gun thing, it was physical too.), which after words really didn't seem to help much, as neither did me trying to talk to him, but as I was leaving, he made a remark that he'd never talk to me again and pointed the air soft gun at me \"pretending\" to shoot me, I told him that if he ever did that again to me or anyone else with me present I would be pointing a real gun with real bullets back at him until he was dealt with accordingly by either me or the police. I was thinking about it today and said something to the family who he does it to, but they seem to blow it off, because he's had a fucked up life to say the least; his farther was absent in jail half his life - he feels a banded by his own mother and family, and I guess they think he's only \"playing\", I'm not totally sure if I'm over thinking being concerned with this behavior and he's just acting out emotions or if this could truly be a problem. How would I go about explaining to family in great detail - beyond that of which they can just rub off that this indeed is an emotional problem?", "summary": "I beg you to read the entire post, but cousin shoots people with a fake air soft gun, am I crazy for being concerned with it or his he crazy for doing it?"}
{"id": "t3_19ivsi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(Ca) Hey Personal Finance - getting manulife one mortgage - need help with ledger system", "post": "Hey!\nSo i have recently tranfered my mortgage to a manulife one style account (basically it's a large loan that encompasses everything and you pay less interest because all of your \"Savings\" and other monies are working toward lowering your debt...just a short description..i'm not looking for advice on this type of mortgage).\n\nThe struggle is, now that all the money is in one big pot, my wife and i want to have seperate \"Accounts\" notated on a spreadsheet that have automatic \"payments\" that go into them.  So, on pay day my pay goes on to the spreadsheet automatically (i have looked for HOURS On google to see how to do this, and i just can't), then gets cut up to \"house payment\" \"car\" \"savings' accounts etc.  So, at the end of the month we can adjust the numbers to \"Real\" (ie/ if we have a car repair that comes out of the car account, we can see we had 4000 in there, and change it to reflect the spending, similar to moving the money from the account in a traditional money setting) but we dont want to fiddle with putting in paychecks and redirecting account money every couple of weeks.\n\nI hope i'm making sense.", "summary": "an easy spreadsheet formula (or not easy, just easy to understand and implement) to have automatic payments and automatic redirection of those payments - preferably on a spreadsheet but i'm open to other forms of tracking."}
{"id": "t3_40dgdi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[30F] 30K in debt and struggling to manage. CAN", "post": "Hello Everyone!  \nAfter getting my first full-time employment in 2012 I continued a downward spiral of spending money. This was also due to a deadbeat boyfriend who sucked the money out of me(whole other story, I'm an idiot I know) This involves three credit cards in the past 3 years(2k,2k,5k), 1 Car loan(Currently at 15k), student loans(currently at 6k), on top of this I pay 400 rent, 100 phone bill monthly, 320 for insurance and my other expenses (dog, personal, food, gas). Trust me guys, I'm not one of those buys designer hand bags and high end stuff kinda girls, any additional money I tend to have I throw on one of my debts.  \n  \nI am currently making about 3k monthly, and although I try to keep afloat with my finances it is VERY hard with little to no support. Now tax season is coming up and I'm sure I will be owing money to the government for my pay bracket.  \n  \nMy lease is up and I am now also having to move to a new property, which looks to be around 800-1000 monthly. I have consolidated my credit card debt, which is making it easier to make my credit card monthly payments (as it is now one big payment instead of three separate ones).\nMy credit score is in the dumps, I'm struggling to make ends meet and if getting a part time job on the side was an idea I wish it was. I currently work a gaveyard 10 hour shift. By the time I get home and get a subsequent amount of sleep I have about 2-4 hours of down time which I tend to spend taking my dog out and doing what I need to around my place.  \n  \nAny advice is great guys, or ideas? I don't know at this point.", "summary": "Broke 24F, struggling to pay the bills asking for help in regards to paying off debts."}
{"id": "t3_49ui1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M], not sure how to deal with \"guilt tripping\" in a relationship with my bf [22M]", "post": "Hey everyone.\n\nI'm [20M] in a first-time relationship (with a partner [22M] who also never dated for long). We've been together for about 70 days, and I've started experiencing the notorious \"guilt trip\"-- when during a problem discussion past issues get brought up.\n\nI just wanna be clear it's completely my fault-- the issue in question is my not listening/disregarding his choices, and the past situations being brought up are of course of the same nature (it's a bad habit I have and am working on eliminating).\n\nAnyway, I quickly found out that when addressing past issues when they come up during an argument I  find myself in a minefield. \nDepending on how I \"remember\" them; I risk sounding too defensive, accusing, justifying myself, dismissive, etc.\n\nSo I was curious; Is this something that you'd address as a couple? \nBecause every time you bring a past experience up--you change it a little bit and it gets reconsolidated back into memory a bit different. My worry is that since those things come up mostly during arguments; over time it'd make past issues seem worse than they were. \n\nDo you make an agreement not to bring the past up during arguments? How would you enforce that rule without seeming to want to change the subject?\n\nDo you do maintenance on your relationship history? Bringing it up at times either lightheartedly to laugh at it, or to show improvement? (in the case it's a reoccurring misbehavior, as with my experience)\n\nI could imagine it becoming a huge issue as time goes on. \n~~Am I overthinking this?~~ Overthink this with me!", "summary": "How to/do you manage guilt tripping?"}
{"id": "t3_245k9p", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Any agencies that help those with depression/anxiety?", "post": "Are there any agencies that help people who have mental illnesses with assistance in finding work. I want to work again because I know it would be helpful for me but at the same time my anxiety/depression is creating a mess for me. I'm not on disability but I am in therapy and I feel like I have to choose either therapy or work. I want to find something part time that I can at least move me towards a career but I'm having a hard time really finding any real motivation to keep at it. \n\nI need help finding the job, thinking once I get started things might get better. I would of course love it if the employer knew about the depression/anxiety so that I can continue therapy and can get some leeway as I get acclimated again.", "summary": "any places in the US that provide job finding assistance or placement for those who suffer with anxiety/depression. I'm not on disability nor do I want to apply. I know i can beat this shit but I need some help finding a job and being able to get back on my feet. I really can only work part time now, but could use help finding that job."}
{"id": "t3_edgvm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Natural remedies to get rid of fleas?", "post": "Hey there reddit. My dog is prone to seizures and is currently on meds to keep them under control. I've been taking him to this new dog park and while he has a great time there, he is now covered in fleas. I have given him flea baths as well as some hertz flea medication. Unfortunately these have caused him to have a couple seizures so I've obviously discontinued use. Still need to find a way to get rid of these fleas though because he's still itchy and miserable. Thought someone here might have some brilliant method of dealing with just this type of thing. Thanks reddit.", "summary": "Dog has seizures when use flea meds so need alternate way of getting rid of his fleas."}
{"id": "t3_2cm8z9", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "7 days, first time solo, where to go?", "post": "I have two questions really...\n\nI have **7 days at the end of this month to go wherever**, it is quite short notice i know, so im sure the cost may go up slightly (to get there).\n\nFirst of all, **where would be a good place to go for a week like that?** I really want to go to SE asia, but 7 days isn't long for that. Although, it is very unlikely i will have free time like this again for quite a while.\n\nI've been to most european countries but never alone, i've never been to asia or anywhere else other than the US. \n\nMy second question is about the fact that im not very popular where i am. I have problems making new friends, i find it very difficult and am still working on figuring out why (it appears the friends i do have, have no interest in me also, hence the only way to travel is solo). \n\nAnyway, to cut to the point, i am not great at making new friends it seems so i am afraid i would fall into the same trap in another country. Of course, that'd ruin it all and make me as lonely as i already am. **Is it likely that i will meet anyone, given im not great at talking to random people?** Ideally, people i would like to know throughout the future too.\n\nI'm not bad socially, it is just with new people that i struggle unless introduced, then i am fine.\n\nI get nowhere here, though, so i have to go somewhere or make some change to be happier.\n\nand some", "summary": "Budget: ~\u00a31k on flights, then enough of a budget to not worry about spending. difficult to give an exact value as i do not know the cost of these countries"}
{"id": "t3_4jdwx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] father [52M] keeps subtly bringing up the idea of divorcing my mother [52F]. Not sure how to deal with this.", "post": "My mother and I have a rocky relationship. For example she ruined my graduation, is nasty and ungrateful to my dad and sister (who both still live at home), and plays the martyr a lot. I really don't like her.\n\nI moved across the country for college four years ago and didn't plan on moving back because of my family. My dad first made a joke about divorcing my mom about six months ago, when they were arguing about whether they should sell the house my sister and I grew up in. She wanted to move away from the city, he wanted to move into the city, and I guess they got into a big fight.\n\nHe then brought it up again when my mom got a dog against my dad's wishes. She said that now that she's an empty nester, she deserves the dog, and didn't care what my dad thought. I was especially pissed at her because she got the same breed as my dog who died a year ago after I specifically asked her not to.\n\nThis weekend was my graduation. My mom and I had a huge fight about something that I tried to keep between us but she made it apparent to the rest of my family who flew out to visit me. My dad was talking me out of a panic attack for the majority of dinner, and he brought up divorcing my mom again. I kind of pressed a little bit saying \"I don't want you to stay in a marriage if you're unhappy\" and he said \"sometimes it's better to just not rock the boat.\" I left it at that.\n\nI might be biased right now because I'm really really upset with my mom to the point where I'm weighing cutting her out of my life, but these comments by my dad are kind of eating away at me. What should I do about this? I don't want my dad to be unhappy but he seems to be flirting with the idea of divorce.", "summary": "I dislike my mom. My dad keeps floating the idea of divorce in very small and subtle ways. I don't want to encourage him because of my biases. I also don't want him to stay married if he's unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_yqhin", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something your best-friend has done that almost made you cry?", "post": "I'll share mine first.\n\nMy friend and I met in the 4th grade, and would hang out almost every single weekend. But Freshman year in high school, we both got more friends, so we stopped hanging out so much, then Junior year we almost never saw each other. It wasn't until our Senior year that we really talked again, and it was when I would have CoD (Call of Duty) nights at my house (pretty much we just played Halo all night but the name stuck). So, when it came time to decide where to apply for colleges, I applied in Florida, and he applied at Georgia Southern; we both got accepted. I soon realized that I wouldn't be able to pay for the college I got into, so I applied to the community college and got in there. I thought this was going to be where our stories stopped and the narrator quit; that he would move in to college, and we would probably not see each other again. I was wrong. A week before it was time for him to move into his dorm room, he showed up my door, un-announced, to say goodbye to me and my family. It took everything I had not to cry in front of them all (though it's not working now, as I'm actually letting tears roll down my face while typing this). It was at that moment when I realized, even though we never really talked much in high school, my best friend was still my best friend.\n\n***fast forwarding a bit***\nI sent him a message yesterday to see how things were going, and he's doing alright, I just hope that when he comes up to visit, we get the chance to hang out.\n\nSo Reddit, what is something your best friend has done that almost made you cry?", "summary": "Fuck you"}
{"id": "t3_ql8od", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need really specific car accident advice...", "post": "Alright. So basically, about a month ago, I was driving my car while I was very tired and crashed into a few parked cars. I hit one slightly damaging the car, but then totaled the second truck that I hit, along with my own for that matter. The damage that was done to the truck was something along the lines of 7k, but the car is a 1994 Ford Ranger with around 300k miles on it, so it's worth $1000 on a good day( according to blue book). I wasn't insured, and my license was suspended as well. I stayed after and we agreed to settle this outside of insurance, but i'm pretty sure he is not insured either. He definitely doesn't have collision, since he would have gone through his insurance by now. I told him i'd help get him a new car, or make payments towards a new one, to the extent that I can. Keep in mind, I'm a broke college student, that works part time and have my own financial obligations such as rent etc. So, I visited him today, bringing $200 with me as part of my promise to help pay for his vehicle, but now he's trying to raise the price of how much I owe him. We agreed that it'd be 1500ish, or just a new truck if I can find one etc. So this is where my actual question begins. He keeps, atleast in my opinion, trying to bluff me by threatening to go to court and have me pay even more than what we're agreeing. I'm debating just calling his bluff, and saying fuck you lets go to court. Since I literally have nothing to offer and the court will probably see that, also since the car's value is so low it'll probably cost him more money than anything. oh, and there was no accident report. \nI want to help this guy, since I genuinely feel bad, but I also just want this mess behind me so I can get on with my life.", "summary": "Should I let this (probably) uninsured driver take me to court and settle it or would that make this whole thing even more of a nightmare for me?"}
{"id": "t3_4aeqku", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a bonfire on cement", "post": "My boyfriend and my dog and I were having a bonfire in the backyard. There's a nice cemented area with a firepit in the middle of it and benches around it. Now, this fire pit has gotten a ton of use, and it's gotten to the point where the bottom of it has melted through. We decided for this bonfire, we'd just move the fire pit out of the way and have the fire on the cement with metal from the fire pit surrounding the perimeter. \n\nWell we get about two hours into our bonfire, and my boyfriend is standing about a foot away from the fire with his back turned towards it, and I got up to refill our dog's water bowl. As I'm walking away I hear a full explosion. I turn and I see the entire cemented area and benches surrounded by fire and embers. I then see my boyfriend run out of the fire with embers all over the back of his shirt, and I see my dog running away from where he was sitting under the benches. My boyfriend stops drops and rolls in the grass and I'm chasing after my dog trying to make sure he's okay and to keep him away from the area because the entire cemented area and benches has flaming logs all over it. \n\nFor a few moments I was convinced we would be spending the night in the hospital, but we got really really lucky and everyone was fine. We were extremely lucky that my dog was under one of the benches and protected from falling flaming debris, and also that my boyfriend had his back to the fire and escaped with only a ruined shirt and pants. \n\nSo what happened? After a some panicking and some puppy wrangling, we were able to assess the situation. In case you weren't aware, cement expands when overheated. Basically the cement over expanded, shattered, shot up, and caused the entire bonfire to shoot up as well. We feel pretty stupid about what we let happen.", "summary": "The moral of the story is that cement explodes when overheated. Don't have a bonfire on it. Also make sure your fire extinguishers work."}
{"id": "t3_14is0h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girls of reddit, is it bad to give my gf a non-diamond ring for christmas, if we've already talked about getting engaged?", "post": "Ok so, I really wanted to get something special for my gf for xmas this year and last night I bought her blue-topaz ring. But, I've been thinking all day that she might get really excited before opening it, thinking its an engagement ring, and then be super disappointed. We've talked about getting engaged and we both agree that its defiantly going to happen, just not right now, since we're both still in school - she's working on her phd and I just started a 2 year college program in Sept. The plan, in my head, is to propose the day before I graduate, but I really like the ring I bought her and it would look awesome on her, I just dont want her to get the feel-bads after opening it. Top it off with her best friend got engaged last week (lucky me).\n\nwhat do you think I should do? I really love this girl and I can't wait until we get married and have kids, its just not the right time to actually get engaged, mainly because this ring was like 1/4 of the price of an engagement ring and that's all I can afford right now. The other option is to return the ring and get her a necklace, but she doesn't really wear those often. Help.", "summary": "got my girl a ring for xmas, worried she'll think its an engagement ring before opening it and get crushed."}
{"id": "t3_4wxk3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [36M] have called my GF [36F] of 6 months by my ex's name 3 times.", "post": "I was with my ex for four years and we broke up last February/March.  I don't have MUCH contact with her, but she did leave some stuff in my house and I've contacted her whenever I've run into it.  It was a tumultuous relationship, I honestly have zero interest in my ex, and I am planning to propose to my current GF shortly.  Their names are similar, and it has usually happened when I was frustrated, never during times of intimacy...just when I'm calling her from another room or frustrated with her or something like that.\n\nI know it hurts her feelings and I want to stop doing it.  Any tips?  Has anyone done this themselves?", "summary": "Flubbing the name hurts her feelings"}
{"id": "t3_1r7fvs", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Smoking weed and triggering a pot dependent person", "post": "So I live in a home of people with mental illness run by a program in our county that provides services to people living with a mental illness.\n\nI got talking to one of my roommates (Eric). He was a ex major pothead and a heavy drinker, he goes to dual diagnose (Having a mental illness and a substance abuse problem) 3 times a week. Whenever the subject of drugs or weed comes up he always says, \"man I cant be around that shit, I go crazy and it triggers me\". My other roommate offered me a bowl in is car driving to the smoke shop, we both got high and I bought some., we smoked a cigarette to try to get rid of the smell, we walk into the house and he can smell it. so he leaves and seems upset. I feel quite bad about it setting him off. Then I had the audacity to go smoke a J a couple hours latter, I got high and walked around the town waiting for the smell to leave, I brought a can of deodorant with me to help, I was walking around for a good 45 min, I come back, go into my room and went back out 10 min later to find the hallway were is room was at smelled bud hardcore, he comes out and takes two big sniffs and closed his door.\n\nI am concerned about my housing situation too, one of the rules is to not come under the influence and he might tell the housing manager, even though he did not know which one of us was high we might just get a slap on the wrist if anything.", "summary": "I got high with my one of my roommates we came back to the house smelling of weed and my other roommate has substance abuse problems and smelt weed when we walked by. and I feel really shitting."}
{"id": "t3_3lksti", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by creating a huge soapy mess.", "post": "So I recently moved into my college dorm and, somehow, the shampoo in my bag leaked all over some of my clothes. My parents, who were helping me move in, told me that it shouldn't be a problem to just wash them normally since shampoo doesn't damage clothes.\n\nSo here I am, two days later, finally getting around to washing the hamper full of shampoo-soaked clothing. Now some of you probably can see where this is going. I threw them into the washing machine in the laundry room and left. I came back after it finished and the washing machine is filled with foam! I didn't realize that the shampoo and water would create this huge mess. I put another cycle on the machine and left, hoping that more water would solve the problem, but alas nothing changed! Luckily, no one was around, so I grabbed some garbage bags, stuffed my soapy clothes in them, and fled to my room, leaving behind the shell of a soapy abomination inside one of the machines. Currently sitting with a pile of soapy clothes in my bathroom trying to figure out what to do with them.", "summary": "Put shampoo-covered clothes in the laundry, caused a soapy mess in my university's laundry room."}
{"id": "t3_2ti8xe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 M) am upset over dreams I've been having. In them, I am cheating on my (20 F) on my girlfriend.", "post": "This has happened not once, but twice. Two nights in a row now, last night and the night before (posting at 6:50 AM but I haven't actually slept yet). Anyway, last night I dreamt I had sex with a former coworker of mine. I haven't seen her in a year and we never dated or anything, I just had a crush on her in the past. I didn't think much of it. Now, in my first dream I was having a threesome with a good friend of my cousin who I've met a few times....and my (biological) cousin. I don't know how much of a factor this is, but back in my horny preteen days I touched her boobs when she was asleep (reason for the throwaway). This was probably 6 or 7 years ago, and it was stupid. Yet at the same time, I still to this day fantasize about her occasionally and would probably have sex with her if she ever initiated with me (and if I were single of course). But I wouldn't be posting here if I had no regret over these dreams, or any intent on acting out anything that happened. Even though I know there's not a way to control them, I feel guilty as all hell. I love my girlfriend. I would never cheat on her. I haven't seen her in 2 weeks and I'm dying to see her as soon as I can, as I'm busy with work and being back in school for the spring semester. I want to hold her and tell her how much I love her and I want to make sweet sweet love to her. Is this lack of sex a contributing factor to these dreams? To many these are empty words but I assure you these dreams are just dreams...right? Is this sexual desire I have for these girls including my cousin just a desire that I need not worry about, is it because I haven't seen my girlfriend in about 2 weeks due to conflicting schedules and bad weather and her being sick? I apologize for a wall of text.", "summary": "Haven't seen my girlfriend in 2 weeks and I've had 2 nights in a row filled with dreams where I'm cheating on her with different girls. I love her and only want her. What should I do/not do?"}
{"id": "t3_2snzlg", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Bit of an introvert guy talking to extrovert girls how do I make things easier? M18", "post": "I meet girls all the time, Im no player or one night stand guy. Ive been around girls who are extroverts meaning they feel lost with being one person, always are moving from topic to topic, wanting alot of attention and are always busy.  Im more of an introvert. I am a bit shy, let others talk, be myself and is a bit more quiet. How can I make things easier so when talking to extroverts, things are more even in a sense that the conversation or time is not awkward? I know treat females the same as males, but there are still some differences", "summary": "Extroverts and extra attention problems"}
{"id": "t3_1dbf75", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "The first contact!", "post": "G,day.\n\nSo here's the deal, I met this Girl on Saturday night at a friends birthday. Nothing out of the ordinary just some simple drinks down at our local.\n\nThe birthday girl introduces me and we get talking. Later in the night Lock Out is happening so we kinda part ways after spending ~45mins talking just about how she know people etc and chatted about favorite tv shows etc.\n\nUnfortunate i didn't get her number because i have never had the opportunity to close the deal... \n\nSo near this pub lives my friend who was also at the party, so i took her home (nothing sexy happened) just dropping her off and she informs me that I am an idiot for not getting that girls number because apprantly i was talked up by my friend (who i dropped home) and was also informed that she was hell keen on me.\n\nSo this leads em to the next day, the friend i dropped off got the girls number for me and she also has mine. I have given it the 48hr rule before messaging her. Today is 48hrs after meeting her.\n\nMy question is, how should i approach this? what should i say to make sure i can stay outside of the 'friendzone'?", "summary": "21 yo boy meets 21 yo girl; nervous about messaging her, please help!"}
{"id": "t3_d5e07", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where can I find out about new independent films?", "post": "So, I have recently taken a job as a manager at a small theater that plays bargain and independent films.  However, the current owners refuse to play independents on the basis that they are never any good.  Now, this theater is run by a not-for-profit and the director does not really have the time to devote to this type of thing that is necessary so I have tried to take upon myself as many duties as I can.  They have relied upon a booking agent in the past but this guy seems unable or unwilling to get us films that we might actually make money on (i.e. girl who played with fire/winters bone/the kids are alright).  Short of getting these \"big name\" independents I am unsure of how to handle this.  We have many long time customers who are very angry at our lack of \"quality\" cinema and, much to my annoyance, have been showing movies like shrek 4 (4 weeks) and Karate kid (2 weeks) instead of the movies our theater promotes itself with to the public.", "summary": "Trying to figure out what to do with a small cinema that won't get independent films."}
{"id": "t3_1k4rpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[15F]exgirlfriend broke up with me [17M] she said i was \"too attached\"", "post": "hey guys im new here but i would like to know more about relationships\n\nso i recently got dumped by my girlfriend she said i was too attached to her. shes out of the country at the moment but when she was here everything seemed alright. i would pick her up from school (i am also a student) i would buy her food bring her on dates we would watch movies and text/call all night we would make each other food and pretty much i was willing to do anything and everything for her because i did love her and maybe i still do. so i really did not see this coming especially with everything she had said to me \"i love you\", \"you have me\",\"ill always be here\". i know i am pretty young but this was my first girlfriend (that ive waited a long time to find) and she made me really happy so i would like to know another persons thoughts on this. (i have asked my friends but they all tell me different opinions\" so was i really too attached?", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me for what seemed to be at a random time because i was too attached"}
{"id": "t3_ensgx", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Dermatology v. Homeopathy", "post": "Basically I've been seeing a dermatologist for about a year and a half.\nAcne is not too bad, very rarely wear makeup, am trying to decide if it's worth my money/time to be taking acne medicine (antibiotic pills and a gel liquid in a tube) when the stuff's expensive and a bit of a hassel for it to not even be working extremely well.\nBy now I'm convinced my face won't get \"better\" or \"worse\" no matter what quack of a doctor I'm getting brainwashed by.\nNot to mention after all this time I don't know what it's doing to my body in the long run.", "summary": "Don't want to waste money or time on unnatural, unnecessary substances for a merely vain cause."}
{"id": "t3_1pw5si", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M23] tell my friend [23F] (again) about how I feel for her?", "post": "We're attending the same school and have recently become really good friends - she invites me over for dinner, we go bowling together and so forth. \n\nAt first I was somewhat surprised of the enthusiasm she showed when I first asked her about doing things, then I later learned that her relationship with her boyfriend of 1,5yrs had for the last few months kind of 'evened out', if you will.\n\nI was and am still attracted to her and thinks she's a fantastic person. I've already let her know about the situation and she's told me then that she was really unsure of what to do. \nOn one hand she's really fond of her BF and doesn't want to end what they have because it's safe and that she doesn't have a 'valid' reason for breaking up. \nOn the other hand she's told me that if she'd been single the choice would've been easy.\n\nNow, they've been abroad together for a few days and they just got back. I don't know if the trip strengthened their bond, but what I do know is that I'm still quite fond of her and in my head I'm sort of imagining that she /really/ wants to be with me instead.\n\nSo, I don't want our friendship to end, but as it is now I think it's difficult being together when what I really want is to perhaps have more than a friendship.\n\nWhat should I tell her and what should I do? I'm afraid to sacrifice our good friendship if I tell her how it is, at the same time I'm having a hard time always being doubtful wether or not she wants to be more than friends. Even though she hasn't directly said so, I feel as if all the attention she's giving me is serving as a clear indicator.", "summary": "I like her, she has a boyfriend, she gives me a lot of attention but doesn't know what she wants (I think). What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4k11gq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28/M] broke up with my gf [26/F] a year ago, but I wish we could be friends so bad", "post": "There were deep problems in our relationship that made it clear that I had to end our relationship of a year and a half. But she wasn't only my girlfriend. She was my best friend. I loved her personality. She's so funny and has the best taste. She's cool and intelligent without being pretentious. And we would make each other laugh all the time. We had incredible inside jokes, and could act like idiots around each other. I miss all of those things.\n\nWhen we broke up, she said that I could no longer be in her life in any way. She was still deeply in love, and said that the only way for her to heal was to cut me off completely. She blocked me on all social media, and we haven't spoken one word since.\n\nI have thought about reaching out to her, but each time that idea pops up, I realize it would be probably be cruel to contact her. Like, she has to go through her own healing process, and it would be messed up to potentially interrupt that process for purely selfish reasons (because I wish I could have her in my life as a friend).\n\nHowever, my friends are still friends with her on facebook/instagram, and they have told me that she seems to have moved on and be doing great. I actually saw a post that she made on twitter once that said that she had officially \"moved on.\" This is really beautiful news, and I am so happy for her. Granted, that is just social media and you can't assume that that is an exact representation of how she feels.\n\nHowever, do you think that it would be wrong to reach out to her? Like all I want is for her to know that if she wants me in her life as a friend, that I would like to be her friend.\n\nWould really appreciate anyone's advice/insights. Thank you.", "summary": "Broke up with my gf, she cut me off completely, and I miss her friendship so much. Can I contact her?"}
{"id": "t3_1xhzgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [21F] of a year and a half; we're an interracial couple (I'm white and she's black)....what's the best way to deal with racism?", "post": "Hey everyone, my GF and I have been dating for over a year now, and have already seen alot of racism/weird looks/rude comments towards us since we are an interracial couple (we met in Florida). It's never bothered us...we accept that this is common in the South. Neither of our families have EVER had any issues with it, and every single one of our close friends are completely supportive of our relationship. We have great plans for the future together!\n\nThat being said, we've recently had to go long-distance, since I've just commissioned into the military and will be at training for the next year and a half. I'm down in Texas, and meeting some of the other guys in my training class has been a little rough....mainly some subtle racist remarks/comments (they don't know my GF is black, and some of these guys are from the really redneck South); but if anything really ignorant is said in front of me, I'm not sure how I should handle it. \n\nPart of me would like to just tear them a new one, right then and there, and make it very clear not to cross that line....but another part of me says that it might be better to just calmly, respectfully ask them to watch what they say in front of me, in hopes that it changes their mind. \n\nI've got to be able to work with these guys in training for awhile, so I don't think burning bridges this early is a very good idea...but at the same time I have this innate urge to get pissed off when they say ignorant comments.\n\nAnyone have similar experiences or advice to give on this?", "summary": "Interracial couple, long distance relationship, how do I deal with racists that I have to work with?"}
{"id": "t3_1ntfte", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] dating [28/m] for almost 6 years. Move in together or get married?", "post": "Been living with my boyfriend in his parent's basement for a few years since I'm in grad school & he doesn't make enough for us to move out yet. I'm graduating in May and once I get a job, it's basically either get our own place together or get married, we won't have enough to do both right away (we both want a traditional wedding, not a courthouse/vegas type). We've been dating for 6 years and it's beginning to really get to me that we aren't married yet, but living with his parents is getting completely annoying. Anyone been in this situation before? Is one choice smarter/more beneficial than the other?", "summary": "dating boyfriend for 6 years, need advice on whether to get married or move out of parents basement in the next year. Can only afford 1 option"}
{"id": "t3_4yypul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with him [31M] dating a month, I'm moving.", "post": "Throwaway for reasons.\n\nSo for the past year, I have just been floating around doing nothing much with my life. I pay my bills, go to work, come home, that's it. I broke up with my fiance of 5 years last year, and since then have felt kind of sluggish, depressed and alone. \n\nIn the last two months, I made the decision to pack up and move. This is not unusual for me, I move around a fair bit and will usually give a months notice before going. I was planning on leaving in November, but as of yet haven't put notice in at work or the real estate. \n\nBecause I was planning to leave, I decided to have some kind of last hurrah at home. I started going out a lot, reconnecting with my old friends whom I had pushed away during the break-up, and forcing my depressed butt out of the house. \n\nI started looking after myself again, got back into my old hobbies, and even started keeping the house clean.\n\nA month ago now, I met a guy, and it was meant to be just a one night thing. However, one night turned into a second, turned into a third, turned into meeting his room-mates, friends, and going out on dates. \n\nI told him I was leaving, and we made the decision to just do whatever we can with the time we had left together.\n\nUnfortunately, we have both admitted to falling for each other and we can now acknowledge that me leaving is going to suck for both of us. \n\nI am now considering staying. I feel like I've been in a fog since the breakup and I'm now able to have my own fun again. Life has never been better.\n\nI'm not leaving for some great opportunity, nor any real reason, would it be stupid to stay?", "summary": "meant to be moving, fell for someone, considering staying."}
{"id": "t3_2ehuu0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Charles Schwab vs Vangaurd Target Retirement", "post": "Long story short - I recently started investing into a Roth IRA account. To be specific a Target Retirement Fund that will mature over time as I grow closer to retirement age. Due to a recommendation from a coworker, I opened up the account through Charles Schwab and have already transferred an invested $3,000 into the Target Fund. \n\nHowever, I've since learned that Vanguard has an identical account as the one I chose through Schwab, and the fee's are less and the YTD returns are more. Here are the number differences:\n\n*Charles Schwab 2055 (SWORX) Net Expense Ration 0.73% / YTD Earnings 2.97%\n \n\n*Vanguard 2055 (VFFVX) Fees & Expenses 0.18% / YTD Earnings 6.95%  \n\nMy question is - how easy is it to switch from one fund to the other, and is it even worth the hassle?", "summary": "Got a Schwab Target fund instead of Vanguard for IRA, but the Vanguard has better year to date returns and less fees associated with the fund. How do I switch, and is it even worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_230g73", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 18/m asked 18/f to prom she said yes. We've been friendly for a while should I make a move?", "post": "There is this really amazing woman I've been friends with for maybe 2 or so years now. She's a valedictorian, she's beautiful, has just the absolutely perfect personality etc. We became friends through my ex-girlfriend whom I dated on and off for three years. We became a little more talkative and bonded over our \"radical\" politics and mutual friends over the past few months. She is still in high school and I graduated after 1st semester to start a business. Yesterday I asked her to prom in a cool fashion IMO and she said yes. I'm really interested in her but I don't think I'm smart enough for her. We are both going to separate colleges (obviously she is going to an amazing school and I am going to a state school), and I don't know if she is interested in any kind of relationship (casual, flirty, serious, sexual, I have no clue) or not, she's hard to read and her friends don't really have a clue either. She is pretty much the only person I confide in because I know she won't say anything. We don't really hang out much so whenever I see her I have a shitload of things to tell her because my 1st world life is fucked up and I'm worried it could be seen as pathetic, I don't know if she sees it like that though. Anyway, I am going to meet her for ice cream today to talk about prom. \n\nOnto the point. After prom it seems to be a commonly occurring theme to engage in some sort of sexual activity. I've never had sex with anybody unless I had been dating them for quite some time because I am not interested in just hooking up, but with her I think I could because she's sooo fucking cool and I've known her for a long time. Do you guys think it could ruin our friendship to hook up after prom?", "summary": "Should I hook up with the woman I tell all of my secrets to?"}
{"id": "t3_23v3oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m 24] just received a message from an ex [F 21] and would like some advice on how to proceed", "post": "Hi r/relationships, I'm back and still love all of you. \n\nSo, we broke up a while ago (about a month) and haven't talked since. The reason we broke up was basically she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship and I saw that she was being immature. We were only getting serious for less than a month, so no big deal, I went n/c because that's how I do breakups.\n\nI really don't care about the circumstances surrounding our breakup at all. It was a pretty good break, **I made the decision to split.** I really liked her, we got an no really well and had a lot of great chemistry, but I thought it was better for me: **I was looking for a commitment, she wasn't.** I want to focus on advice about the interaction moving forward. \n\nYesterday she Facebook messaged me saying \"I hope you're doing well.\" I haven't technically looked at it yet, so to her it's still unread. \n\n**My question is: what should I say back?** \n\nI would like her to be a part of my life again. I'm not sure I want to date her, because I doubt she's changed dramatically in a month, but who knows? I'd like the chance to find out. \n\nSo, what do I say? How do I let her know that it's OK to talk to me? That I want to let her back into my life? \n\nAlso, as a bonus question, *why do you think she messaged me?* lonely? Misses me? Basic courtesy?", "summary": "Was seeing girl, broke up with girl because we were looking for different things from the relationship, she messaged me and now I want help with what to say back. "}
{"id": "t3_h5iuc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is binary a limitation in modern computing?", "post": "I got into a friendly debate with a fellow student yesterday about the limitations of modern computing, when he brought up the idea that binary is an inherent limitation.  His feeling was that a base n (s.t. n > 2) numbering system would yield gains in processing speed, and maybe even transcend the realm of computable problems, akin to how quantum computing could transcend P into BQP.  My feeling was that binary wasn't used just to limit the signal-to-noise ratio, but for it's ease of computation (bitwise operations, XOR, AND, OR, etc.).  While I can definitely see how information transmission throughput would see some serious gains, since you would transmit fewer base 10 digits than base 2 bits, for example. But I'm not totally convinced that processing speeds would be any better.  And if so, why haven't I heard more about research into moving into a base n system.  Even qubits use two states (quantum binary digits).  Does anyone have any concrete thoughts on this?", "summary": "I'm curious if binary limits the kinds of problems we can solve."}
{"id": "t3_4ny8qk", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Help with neighbor's dog", "post": "I wasn't sure where to post this so feel free to to point me toward the right subreddit if is doesn't belong here.\n\nAnyway, I'd like to ask for help with an issue we've been having with one of our neighbors' dog.\n\nWe live next door to a house that's been divided into apartments. Its the only house like that on our street since all the other ones are one family homes. Because of this I don't who the dog belongs to.\n\nOur problem is that the dog howls and cries and basically makes constant noise when it's left alone. It happens often enough where we're sick of it. Honestly, it sounds as if the dog is in pain or sounds like it's being beaten but this only happens when it's alone so we know it's not being abused. I have no problems with dogs at all but we can't deny that it's gotten really f-in annoying, especially since our window is right next to where the dog spends all its time howling. It's never at consistent times either. There's been days where I've been woken up to the howling, and days like today where it happens all day long (I've timed it and so far the dog's been howling for almost three hours).\n\nI would go over there and talk to them but as I said, I don't know who's dog it is and I'm not a fan of confrontation. I've thought about leaving an anonymous note, asking them to somehow fix it but I was wondering if this was the way to go or if I should do something else.\n\nI'll appreciate any advice regardless.", "summary": "neighbor's dog howls for hours at a time and need help with how to make it stop"}
{"id": "t3_4mkux6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Getting Herpes and Destroying My Phone", "post": "Basically after helping my father to build an amazing, quality hand-built dock on our vacation home's canal-seawall; I nefariously sneaked away to smoke a pipe with an old hippie who did work there regularly. This was against my better judgement, and I would later find I would eat my words \"that was just what I needed!\" as I passed the pipe that was chalked black with what could only be years of dank marijuana. And dank it was... Fast forward to Today and I'm racking my mind as to what finally gave me Herpes Simplex, and then it comes to me; it's the same reason my phone was in my pocket when I fell into said canal, and has to buy a new phone for $287: TO SMOKE WEED!\n\nas a growing adult; you now when it's a sign you should stop doing something for a while and grow a little!", "summary": "Adult male, father doesn't like weed, smoked weed with hippie worker at vacation home, fell in canal with phone when getting number from hippie, realized his dirty pipe gave me herpes."}
{"id": "t3_wrr7f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I found out my wife was having an affair for the last three months. Instead of leaving her, I've started my own affair. I'll take any advice or criticisms you have, reddit.", "post": "Some background: We've been married for a little over four years and had our first child in November. We were married very young (I'm only 26, she's 24) and never dated many other people. \n\nI found out she was cheating on me with a guy from work when I went to pay our cell phone bill. There were hundreds of texts between them in that month, and when I checked her phone there was nothing there... a friend of mine is a PI so I had him do me a favor and follow her after work, and much to my dismay he provided the evidence I needed. \n\nNow, here's where I fucked up. Instead of confronting her or filing for divorce, I turned to a female friend for advice. I honestly did not have feelings for this girl before this situation so I thought it would be safe to ask her how to proceed. She is a therapist who specializes in marriage counseling, so I thought she could help. \n\nAfter a couple months we started to get close, until one night we had a few too many glasses of wine and it just happened. We did not have intercourse, but did nearly everything but. Since then we've met on a few occasions just for the lust. \n\nShould I even bother trying to save this marriage? Or have we both already made our choice?", "summary": "wife cheated, I cheated back. Are we done?"}
{"id": "t3_3ac2em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23/M] listen to my girlfriend [22/F] of 2 Months instead of fixing problems?", "post": "I cannot do relationships over texts, it's always been a weakness of mine, and that's why I don't really look for long distance relationships. But I've recently met this girl and we've been dating for about two months, but she's overseas for a little bit, and we usually keep in touch every day, whether it be Skype, WhatsApp, SnapChat, etc.\n\nBut recently I've noticed that if she's stressed out or she needs to vent, I tend to want to give a solution to all her problems she comes into, and I'm not usually like this. When in person, I'm usually a good listener and when she needs to vent I'm there, you know console her, or just hold her. But now that she's overseas, being together is out of the question, and Skyping is not always possible so, we tend to message each other a lot.\n\nThis has become a strain on the relationship recently, and I was wondering how do you guys recommend me helping her vent and console her through text.", "summary": "I can't console or help my girlfriend vent over text, I suck at texting, how do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_3xvk4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] dead fiance's mom [51f] is being distant from my daughter [1f] because she reminds her of her son", "post": "My fianc\u00e9, David, was killed in a car accident last year. We had been together for 2.5 years and lived together, so his parents Jane and Tom knew me well and liked me. We stayed in touch regularly and supported each other in dealing with David's death, which really helped me get through the grief process.\n\nTwo months after David died, I found out I was about four months pregnant. I didn't show many signs of pregnancy and assumed my missed periods were due to the stress from the grief. I was thrilled, as were Jane and Tom, as David and I had always talked about having kids one day and I had been really upset that we'd never get that chance.\n\nJane and Tom were really supportive throughout the pregnancy and I had my daughter Hannah in September. Everything worked well for a while, with them looking after her a couple of times a week and coming to visit me at home. But recently (over the past couple of months) Jane has been kind of blowing us off and not visiting me much and finding excuses not to be around when I take Hannah to their house. When I finally asked Tom about it last week, he admitted that as Hannah grows up and looks more and more like her dad (she inherited all of his coloring etc), Jane is struggling with missing David.\n\nJane still loves Hannah and wants to be around her and feels really bad that it's affecting her like this because obviously it's not her fault. But being reminded of David all the time is getting to be too much for her.\n\nHow can me and Tom help her? Thanks in advance for any advice.", "summary": "my daughter looks a lot like my fianc\u00e9 who died last year. This is making his mom find it painful to be around her."}
{"id": "t3_snc8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A cute girl who helped me at Verizon put her number in my phone. Is this standard practice or something more?", "post": "I joined the Coast Guard recently, so I decided to get off of my parents family plan and start my own individual plan with Verizon. I went to the Verizon store with my mom and was helped by a rather attractive young lady. My mom upgraded to an iPhone, while i took her old phone onto my own plan. This was a rather lengthy process, during which I talked to the young lady about a variety of topics, she recently graduated from Penn State and has been living in the area (SF bay area) since November, we talked about the coast guard and which types of cell phones she prefers. She smiled at me a few times and laughed, she kept brushing her hair, and she called me \"my friend\" a few times. Towards the end of the exchange once my new phone(my mom's old phone) had been activated, she called my phone with her personal phone. I was trying to work up the courage to ask her for her number and I was planning on doing it before I walked out of the store, but my mom and one of her coworkers were standing right there when it was time to go. I'm not sure if this standard practice to call newly activated phones to make sure they work or if she was trying to give me her number? When I was leaving she gave my mom her card she shook both of our hands, I smiled at her and said it was nice to meet her. I'm 23 years old, the only girlfriend I've ever had (who I had been with over 6 years) left me while I was in boot camp, I need this, but I'm not sure If it would be weird to call her. Anybody who works at a cell phone store know if this is standard practice or not? Any advice or encouragement is highly appreciated.", "summary": "Girl who helped me at Verizon called my phone with her phone after my phone was just activated. Do they always do this or was she giving me her number?"}
{"id": "t3_1kaq9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(17m) first gf(18) of 3 months just broke up with me, I'm not sure why.", "post": "So my first gf and I have been dating for a little over 3 months, today she broke up with me over text and I'm not sure why. \n\nSo she has been gone in vacation for a little over 3 weeks and she has been, according to her, super busy. Since she was busy she hasn't called me the whole time so the only communication we've had has been the occasional text. \n\nThis morning she texted me saying \"she wanted to break up, it's not my fault, and I'm an amazing guy\". She also said that she thinks that we would make better friends. When I further inquired why she wanted to break up she said that in the whole relationship she hasn't felt a spark. This is where I'm calling bullshit, before she left for vacation we were having a great time. We would have 2-3 dates a week, we were going to baseball games (she loves babseball), bowling with our friends, and going to the occasional movie. Even when we weren't on dates we were hanging out, having dinner at each other's houses and all together having a good time. I never caught a single hint that she wasn't enjoying herself, and on top of all that, she would write me multiple love notes which she would \"pour her heart into\" and she would tell me every night that she loved me. \n\nShe told me that she didn't feel a spark the whole time and that she didn't want to say anything because she didn't want to hurt my feelings. But I was doing everything I could to make her happy, and I almost never saw her upset throughout the whole relationship. I was never rude or disrespectful or abusive in any way. \n\nSo reddit, did I do something wrong? Does this sound like she was pretending the whole relationship? Because it doesn't sound like that to me. \n\nI going to see her In a couple of days and I intend on further inquiring what is going on. \n\nNote: I don't know how big of a difference this makes but I do know she is on her period right now.", "summary": "my first girlfriend is dumping me after what I thought was the perfect start to and amazing relationship and I'm not sure why"}
{"id": "t3_4uyady", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] cheated on my ex [21 M] and now I'm scared future boyfriends will never trust me", "post": "Some background to start off: I was dating this guy Marshall for almost two years. At the time I thought I was happy with him but as time went on I realized he was really emotionally abusive and manipulative. He would forbid me from talking to certain friends, tell me what I could and couldn't wear, stuff like that. A little over six months ago I grew really depressed, I was bulimic and was just filled with self-hate. Sometimes I would make myself feel better by flirting with guys in class. I know, it was really messed up. I ended up sleeping with a guy I used to know in high school at a party we both ended up at. \n\nAfter that, it was a really big wake up call for me. I started going to therapy, started trying to treat myself and my body better, and I feel like I've come a long way in trying not to seek validation from boys' attention. However, I never told my then-boyfriend that I had cheated on him. \n\nNow, we have broken up for unrelated reasons (mostly the control issues mentioned above, but it was a complicated breakup for both of us.) I'm slowly working back to a mindset where I feel comfortable pursuing a new relationship, but I'm nervous that any partner I have in the future is going to have a hard time trusting me. I want to be honest with my future SOs, I don't want to hide the bad things I've done because I feel like that's just a recipe for disaster. \n\nSo, reddit, do you guys have any advice for me? I really am trying to be a better person and I want to be the best partner possible for whoever might come along in the future. How can I best achieve that?", "summary": "I cheated on my ex boyfriend, how do I not let that information sabatoge all of my future relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_rhhgy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, your thoughts please on email encryption?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI work in human rights and if my emails could be read it could get the people I work with into a great deal of trouble. It has been suggested that encrypting our emails would make things a lot safer. Obviously there is hushmail and in addition one could use PGP with our existing (google apps) email.\n\nHowever I've also been told that the bad guys (or at least their friends in the Chinese army) have access to some pretty powerful tools and if someone really wants to read your email encryption won't save you. Moreover encryption draws attention to the email as containing something worth hiding. Therefore, the logic goes, your best bet is to not draw attention to yourself by encrypting and hope the bad guys will miss your email in the general flood.\n\nI guess what would be really helpful to know would be how an intelligence expert working for the bad guys would set about trying to read my email. Would they target my machine (in which case I imagine something like TOR would help) or my email account (in which case I guess its just a matter of changing your password a lot and making it hard to guess) or is it somehow intercepted in transit (in which case I guess the whole encryption/non-encryption debate is most key).\n\nAny thoughts gratefully received.", "summary": "Does encrypting emails make them more secure from someone truly dedicated, or just draw attention to them?"}
{"id": "t3_3pp2h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (22f) get over certain anxieties from a previously abusive relationship?", "post": "Background: From when I was 19 to 21 I lived with this guy thought I was going to marry him turns out he was batshit crazy and it only took me a year to realize he was severely psychologically abusing me. He was manipulative, he would try to frame me having some sort of affair by doing things like moving stuff around our apartment, asking me questions sometimes the same ones to see if my answers would change, just a general zero trust black hole soul crushing relationship. \n\nI've been out of this situation and no contact for over a year now. I am stuck now though with certain things that trigger anxiety to me and no matter how much I reassure myself I'm wrong, in the heat of the moment I can't help but feel the paranoid thoughts that go along with the trigger are completely true even though I know they aren't. Triggers I've realized so far, if I can't find something or if something got moved I sincerely feel like someone moved it or hid it from me just to fuck with me. I never accuse anyone because I know it's not true. Another one that I see being more of a problem, if I tell someone something, for example that I'm not feeling well, I get really anxious that that person doesn't believe me and they continue to ask questions to determine whether I'm being truthful or not. I have another trigger that is also an obvious backlash of my abusive relationship, I just don't know how to be normal again and am so scared these things are going to affect future relationships.", "summary": "abusive relationship left me with anxiety triggers that I don't want. Will they ever fade or is this how my brain is going to be rewired forever?"}
{"id": "t3_vkbyq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] Am I being selfish?", "post": "First, I'll give you a little bit of background on myself and this relationship: I am 22, my boyfriend is 23, and we have been dating for just over a year now. Things have gotten pretty serious and this is definitely something that we can both see being long-term. I have just graduated college and am not looking to stay where I am now for much longer. Wherever I go, of course I would want him to come with me.\n\nHowever, the problem is that he is currently living at home with his mother. But it's not a \"hasn't-flown-the-nest\" type situation, he is living there because she is legally blind and is very dependent on him financially and for tasks around the house. I love his mom, and this didn't bother me at all during the first months of our relationship. However, it's now becoming a problem because I'm at a place in my life where I will need to leave, while he is stuck here. Neither of them have made serious plans or talked that much about the living situation...sometimes I feel like he never had/will have a chance to live his life for himself because of this. I've talked to him about this, and it also upsets him. Sometimes I feel like his mom doesn't understand, and just expected him to live with her forever. But every time he tries to bring it up with her, she gets really offended. Even outside of us having a future together, this breaks my heart. \n\nWhat am I supposed to do here? Am I being selfish by being so upset by this situation? It's not like she can help it! This just bums me out so badly, and it's made me less enthusiastic about the relationship and more impatient with his mom. It's like I know that there's a good chance that this will bring an end to our relationship (I can't do long-distance, and even if we did, what if we got married? That would just make the situation weirder), so I feel like this is all for nothing.", "summary": "Boyfriend is living with his disabled mother, putting a strain on our relationship. What happens if I move across the country and he has to stay with her?"}
{"id": "t3_4fmkv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of three years, how do I help her not feel inadequate because I watch porn?", "post": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] had a really hard time accepting that I watch porn. She says she's OK with me doing it and that she would never ask me to stop, but that it does hurt her. \n\nShe's never found anyone else sexually attractive and for her I think our physical bond is just as strong as our emotional one and shouldn't be broken in the same way. She feels that me fantasising about sex with someone else shows dissatisfaction in our relationship just as much as me fantasising about wanting to be romantic with someone else would. \n\nI've tried explaining to her that for me the emotional connection is so much deeper and that lust is fleeting and meaningless and she's also tried watching porn but she just doesn't find other people sexually attractive and gets nothing out of it, so she can't  understand why I need that when for her I'm perfectly enough. \n\nAlthough she's trying to accept this about me I don't want her to just pretend it's not happening and continue to feel inadequate. How do I help her see that she's good enough and to separate my lust for other girls and for her, because to me they're different things, but she can't see that?", "summary": "how do I help my girlfriend u sweats d my sexual attraction to others?"}
{"id": "t3_1g6yuu", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Shoes for Training Vs. Shoes for Race Day", "post": "hey reddit runners, looking for some opinion on how to approach training shoes. I've always only had one pair of shoes for all of my runs, for everything from sprints, to training runs, to long distance races. \n\nI recently got a new pair of the Nike Flyknit Racers, and I absolutely love them. however, I've been hearing around that I shouldn't be using them for my week to week training and should save them for race day as that is what they were designed for.\n\nMy thoughts are that if you train in a different shoe than you run your races in, then your foot will have to switch to a different sole/arch/support than what it has been used to during training, which I feel like would be a problematic adjustment for the body/foot on race day. \n\nAm I totally wrong here, or is there a proper way to select a separate shoe for training so I can save my flyknits for race day?", "summary": "Is it necessary to have a separate shoe for training purposes, as well as one for racing?"}
{"id": "t3_36x8lg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (27F) a dick to kick out my roommate? (28F)", "post": "hello everyone!\n\nso i have lived at my 3 bedroom place for 4 years, cycling through different roomies every year. Im a little tired of living with 2 other people and am considering splitting this place with just one of my current roommates whom i get along with really well. I have looked into moving and i cant find anything with as good a deal as my current place. I also plan on getting a dog soon and it's very hard to find a place that allows that, mine currently does.\n\nanyway, my other roommate isn't a bad person but i just really don't want to live with her again. she has a little OCD in her, needing things to be a certain way and often moving my things around without telling me. she's also lost/broken some of my stuff without telling me either. I've talked to her about it and its gotten better but i still just find her presence very annoying and i dont want to live with her another year. Its not just the behaviors, its her as a person.\n\nmy question is, do i have the right to \"kick her out?\" Part of me feels like I do, since I have been here 4 years, all the furniture/dishes/cookware/everything is mine, and I am currently the leaseholder. On the other hand, if shes been paying rent this whole year, i guess she has the right to stay if she wants regardless of what i want.\n\nThoughts? Whats the best way to approach this with her?", "summary": "thinking of telling one of my roommates that i plan on splitting my 3 bedroom place with just one other person. do i have that right since i am the leaseholder and have lived here 4 years?"}
{"id": "t3_i919z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In an emotionally abusive relationship. Need advice on getting out.", "post": "I'm a female in my 30s, in a relationship with a woman who is emotionally abusive. I've wanted to gtfo for a long time, but my credit is shot and I'd have very little cash to take with me when I go.\n\nMy family would probably let me stay with them for a while but I'd only want to do this as a last resort because I'm worried the ex would harass them if she knew I was there. I'd rather make a clean break and ensure that I no longer have contact with her.\n\nI would want to relocate if possible but I realize that this would put me in a dicey situation, looking for a job while paying for a place to live with rapidly dwindling funds.\n\nSo I need some advice:\n\n- If I leave, what steps can I take to avoid ending up homeless and needing to live with my family?\n\n- If I end up homeless and for some reason can't live with my family (doubt this would happen but I want to be prepared) what can I do to avoid getting raped, attacked, etc?\n\n- What sorts of jobs should I search for that wouldn't take long to get? Are there any? I'd want to secure an income ASAP even if it's minimum wage.\n\nI guess those are my biggest concerns. I'd be very grateful for any advice.", "summary": "I'm in a bad financial situation but want to leave and cut ties with my emotionally abusive significant other. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_51cpqp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] Almost got over ex-gf [22F] of 3 years. I need one last bit of advice: how do I get over the feeling of failure?", "post": "Hi. I've identified the specific reason why I can't get over my break-up. I'd like some insight on it. \n\nI'm a 25 year old male that's been pining over my first long term relationship for the past year now. We've dated for 3 years and the break-up still feels like yesterday for me. I was dumped. Within a few months I've cut contact, removed all reminders, joined the gym, deleted her social media, got new friends, jobs, hobbies, all of that.\n\nI'm much better than I was initially but there's one last issue I want to resolve. Although I don't keel over in depression anymore, I still can't help but think of her and have nightmares about her. I think I've identified the reason but I don't know the solution. For some context, she left me and instantly married my then-best friend who stabbed me in the back. I was considering proposing to her as well.\n\nAfter scrambling my brain for months to try and figure out why I still think about her *(because I have zero desire to want to date or sleep with her anymore)* I think it's because I'm taking it as a failure. Personally, I don't take failure very well. When images of her and my then-best friend pop into my mind, I get the SAME feeling I get when I lose a football game or fail an important college exam. I get this feeling everyday and it sucks.\n\nI had an honest evaluation with myself and I conclude that I feel like an inadequate person because I was tossed aside for something else. In addition, I also feel like a fool because in hindsight it was clear that he was making moves on her and it was clear that she was getting closer and closer to him. \n\nReddit, what are your thoughts? \n\nThank you for reading.", "summary": "My 3 year relationship with my gf that I wanted to marry ended because she was unhappy with me. She left me for my then-best friend that was flirting with her behind my back and instantly married him. I feel inadequate, a fool, and like I 'lost,' and I can't get over it. I'm feeling much better but this is still holding me back from moving on. How do I get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_2wvf2f", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help with controlling my diet", "post": "I'm a chef and I work around food all the time, in particular rice, since I make sushi at the moment. So for the most part when I do eat at work it's carbs, either rice or a bagel or the likes of that. I have cut out drinking red bull at work and have moved to only drinking ice water with lemon in it. I find it hard to not eat the rice, because it's there and the overall cost of it is pretty much nothing. We are doing a healthy eating challenge at work as well to eat more fruits and vegetables in our normal diets. But I've stalled with my weight loss at this point, last year I was 317 and I started taking my adderall again to help with my ADD and focus at work. The adderall has suppressed my appetite and makes me crave water, so I've dropped down to 281 since then and I haven't been able to make it past that point. My goal is to be at 250 or under, but how do I get there? I want to be healthy to set a good example for my kids and to help them maintain a healthy weight as well.\n\nTypical meals:\n\nBreakfast - An orange, apple or greek yogurt (If I eat breakfast at all)\nLunch - 2 plain bagels (if I eat)\nDinner - Leaner protiens (dark chicken or pork) and vegetable, I don't make many carbs for us, if I do it's jasmine rice or whole grains like farrow or quinoa.\n\nMy biggest problem is I'm trying to remove all sodas from my diet completely, thats my biggest downfall, should I just switch to unsweetened teas? Or do I run into other health issues with those?", "summary": "Chef with poor eating habits needs to establish a stable diet"}
{"id": "t3_dfs1r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So reddit, what are your recurring dreams?", "post": "One I had last night that I've had a few times involves me being a star in It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. The only problem is, even though I keep being told to watch it I've never actually seen a full episode. Of course, since I've never seen a full episode I have NO IDEA who I play in the show. \n\nLast night's dream took place at my house and I basically ran around the place trying to find out who I played, I tried to look up my IMDB profile but something kept stopping me. Kept asking people for a look at the script, they said I wouldn't need it. \n\nBasically I ran around, frantically searching for SOMEONE who would tell me what part I played in the show. Of course, I never found out. It'd be nice to know..", "summary": "I'm a cast member on It's Alway Sunny, but having never watched the show don't know who I play, frantic search for info on my character."}
{"id": "t3_4fuvhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/f] am confused about this triangle relationship I have with 2 guys [22/m] and [24/m].", "post": "So I met these 2 guys, Brian and Jacob, at work around the same time. Brian and Jacob are friends (I don't know how good of friends) and they both seemed pretty friendly with me when I first started talking to them. \n\nI started talking with Brian more and actually ended up casually dating him over the last month or so. And also about a month ago Brian left our work. So I wasn't sure if Brian told Jacob about us but soon after we started talking there was this time at work when I went to secretly meet him and Jacob was there, that's when I asked Brian if he told Jacob about us and he said yes.\n\nFast forward to like a month later. I was talking with Jacob at work for awhile and he was asking me a lot of questions about me like what I like to do and whatnot, and then he asked me for my number and asked if we could maybe chill sometime. \n\nTHAT confused the crap out of me because I mean... is he just trying to ask to hang out as friends? But if he knows that his friend Brian liked me then... that's kind of weird. So WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? \n\nThen today I ended up talking with Jacob for a bit and this was how the convo went:\n\nHim: So what's going on with you and Brian are you guys dating now?\n\nMe: Nahh its just nothing\n\nHim: Oh okay cause I mean I haven't talked to him in awhile but he told me he wanted to date you. Did you not like him or something?\n\nMe: Uhh... my life is just complicated right now and he and I are very different.\n\nSo... why did he ask me for my number?? Was it a friendly gesture or is he into me?", "summary": "Confused if this guy asked for my number and to chill as a friendly gesture or something more."}
{"id": "t3_3w6sst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my LDR Boyfriend [18M] 2yrs, unable to rebuild trust after he lied to me.", "post": "This is really a personal problem, and I don't know where else to seek advice/vent/etc too. Also using a throwaway because he knows my Reddit account. \n\nSome pretext: I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. We met online, and we were each others firsts. We only get to see each other about 3 times a year, because of that we have Skype sex pretty frequently. Pretty soon after we began having Skype sex, he was interested in receiving nudes and so was I. I was really hesitant to send them, so I asked him if it would be easier to live without porn or me, and he chose the latter. So I agreed to send nudes on the terms that he would stop looking at internet porn, because to me being in a long distance relationship I'm **EXTREMELY** uncomfortable being \"porn\" (I hope that makes sense!)\n\nAnyways, we were talking and I had asked when the last time he used porn was, because we had been talking about how long we've been together, it was just a random question. And to my dismay he respond \"A week... week and a half ago?\" and my blood just ran cold. And I asked if he remembered how I felt about porn, and he responded by saying I was at work. He also mentioned how he didn't tell me about it because he knew it would upset me, and that I should have sent him more pictures. \n\nSo like a normal 19 year old girls, I've spent the past 3 days being heartbroken and trying to convince myself that porn isn't a reason to break up a 2 year relationship, but I still feel like I've been cheating on. I told him that I felt betrayed and he just said it wouldn't happen again, unfortunately I don't believe it at all.\n\nWhat do I do? I love him, but he lied to me, and broke my trust. Is there a way to rebuild trust?\n\nSorry for the wall of text, I just don't know what else to do.", "summary": "Boyfriend promises not to look at porn as long as I am sending him nudes, lied about watching porn, and I don't know how to rebuild trust."}
{"id": "t3_kju57", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Parents gave me two weeks to Cut my hair or move out of their house.", "post": "They want me to get a better job, more specifically, a full time job. I have been working part time at Best Buy for almost 2 years now and I really enjoy working there as well as the people I work with. While I do need to get a new job or somehow manage to get full time at Best Buy (which is fucking unlikely) my parents seen to think that I need to cut my hair to a \"normal\" length in order to procure a good job. I say bullshit. While I may need to trim the facial hair, I do not think its fair to make me cut my hair. So I don't know what to do about this. I really can't afford to move out as it is pretty expensive where I live. I should also point out that I pay for my own car insurance and I somewhat pay rent to live at my parents. (I say somewhat because its only $300 dollars a month, which would be close to double if not more somewhere else.) So reddit I ask you, wtf do I do.", "summary": "Fuck you read that shit. It really isn't that long. "}
{"id": "t3_29hgpf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months, don't know how to own up to addictions.", "post": "I can't think of the last day I didn't have a drink.  This is true for the past ten or so years of my life.  I regularly use whatever drugs I can get my hands on, which for the past two years has been cocaine for the most part. \n\nMy girlfriend is a sweet girl with a history of alky boyfriends who have cheated on her.  I am not a cheater, instead following the model that if you're going to have extra-relationship relations, it needs to be discussed and up-front.\n\nI am however, a hiding-in-plainsight alcoholic drug addict.  I've done every drug under the sun; weird shit most people have never heard of; with a $400/mth habit running the gamut of neurotransmitter inhibitors sought-after for their recreational worth. My room is currently full of bottles and cans, usually partaken in combination with said drugs. \n\nThe flip side is that I'm a caring, ambitious and detail-oriented dude with a good job that I keep it together for.  \n\nShe and I party sometimes - we'll do some blow or take some m, and everything seems as if this is normal, consenting adult, makes enough money to indulge kind of shit. \n\nIt is, in the context of the relationship. \n\nOutside, I'll find an excuse to go home, get messed up, and not go over to her place where I A: already essentially live 90% of the time and B: am moving in shortly. \n\nHow do I broach the subject that I'm drastically less perfect than may seem on the surface, without scaring her away in lieu of her past experiences with boyfriends that have not only had addiction, but also infidelity issues?", "summary": "I am an alcoholic, a drug addict, and moving in with my relatively new girlfriend in August."}
{"id": "t3_2996z4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I have no idea what I'm doing", "post": "For the first time in my adult life I'm using exercise regularly to lose weight. I'm going to 3-4 bootcamp style workout classes a week and walking an average of 10 miles a week. I'm consuming <1000 calories on most days and sticking to proteins + fruits and veggies, low carb. \n\nAnd the fucking scale hates it. In the past I've been a pro at dropping weight, 4-5 lbs in the first week then a steady 2 lbs a week after that. I'm on week 2 and the scale has gone down 3 lbs then up 4. I know, I know, this is normal and it's only been two weeks. But... I feel completely lost when it comes to losing weight with the amount of activity I'm incorporating, and want to know how to do it right. \n\nSome background: I'm female, 33, 5'8\", and current 180 (size 10-12). I put on 20 lbs over the past year and need it gone. I can't fit into any of my summer vacation clothes, and we have our vacation planned in 6 weeks (FUCK). I absolutely am not going out and buying a bathing suit that looks like one my mother would wear. \n\nPart of me wonders if I should just eliminate the workouts and strictly diet, since that's worked at slimming me down quickly before. But... I don't want to be stupid about this. If my routine will get me back down to a size 6, but the scale just won't tell me what I want to see, fine, screw you scale, I don't care. On the other hand, if I'm just building up muscle and inexplicably not burning enough fat to drop dress sizes .... then what, I just have some extra strength with a layer of blubber on top? Should I stop the bootcamps and just do straight cardio?", "summary": "I need to drop 15-20lbs in 6 weeks and dieting usually works REALLY well. Now I'm working out too and my weight isn't budging."}
{"id": "t3_xsrsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can you be sure your boyfriend wants to be with you?", "post": "I have been dating this guy for about 5 months (I've known him for 5 years). We've been close since we were teenagers but we're just now dating in our 20s. We have this amazing connection, one that I cannot compare to anything. I'm actually moving to the city he is moving to so we can be together and go to college. Recently I discovered that he constantly checks out other women online on facebook and other sites and he told his friend that I would \"cramp his style\" if I lived in the same city as him. I noticed a website he left up on his computer about finding singles in the town he is moving to. WTF? \n\nHe just seems distracted these days and isn't as romantic as he used to be. I know he is under a lot of stress with college and whatnot.. Sometimes he can be really sweet and fun to be around. It's so hard to read him. \n\nAnyways.. What should I do? I really love this guy, he treats me so well, and I would hate to lose him because of his immaturity. I'm really confused right now :/ I'm afraid of being cheated on because my last boyfriend did that to me.. How can I bring up this issue without making him mad? I'm all about having good communication in a relationship. Any tips for me would be lovely!", "summary": "Certain behavior that my boyfriend exhibits makes me think that he isn't into me anymore. How can you be sure that is the case and when to break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_1no8ax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [28M] of 2 years, considering break up, feeling smothered", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for two years, we have always had ups and downs but it has been a constant work in progress. It has seemed like we were constantly moving forward until recently. Now I find myself having the same arguments over and over again, explaining the same basic concepts of love and relationships over and over again. \n\nOn top of the stalemate in progress towards a consistently rewarding relationship, I feel like I am being smothered by his need to feel loved and needed. He wants to be with me every free moment of every day. I never get a moment to breathe and just be me. \n\nWe currently share a two bedroom apartment and are in this lease for the next year. We have a slightly open relationship, where we have boundaries set up that we both agreed to and we stay open and honest with each other about our goings on with others. Still I feel this may be the leading cause for his clinginess, despite his claim that he is perfectly fine with our discussed limits.\n\nI have told him my feelings and discussed the need for \"me-time\" over and over but every time it comes time for me to do something on my own, he throws a temper tantrum and guilt trips me with his health and happiness. He says he cant sleep without me, so I can't stay out late without him. \n\nI know this isn't the type of relationship I want to be in, but he is the sweetest guy I have ever been with and I don't think he is truly trying to make me unhappy. I know he loves me and he is a good person, I just don't know if that is worth spending another two years fighting to get some air.", "summary": "My boyfriend is smothering me with his need to be with me at every moment."}
{"id": "t3_1bc7tv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "YIFU on an escalator", "post": "I'm going to a convention in Nashville right now. Yesterday, I was coming from the third floor of the hotel to go to the convention, which is held underground. \n \nI was on my way down from the third floor without a hitch. On my way down from the second floor, I realized that the escalator was broken. I was with a friend at this time, and we started to walk down the escalator-stairs, when about halfway down, things were going really slow. We were clearing steps at about the rate of one every four seconds. \n \nI thought some girls were looking at a phone and fucking around instead of moving, so I said \"Some people need to fucking move. It's time to go along.\"\n \nAfter the two girls got off the escalators, one of the girls pulled out the crutches she had under her arm and gave it to the other girl, who needed help going down the stairs. \n \nThe girl was mentally challenged and had a problem with walking upright by herself.", "summary": "On way down from an escalator. Told a crippled girl to hurry the fuck up."}
{"id": "t3_11np4v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm stuck in a rut at 21 and don't know how to move forward.. Could anyone give me advice on how to get out of it?", "post": "I'm a 21 (m) Student studying in Australia and am currently going through a quarter-life crisis i guess.. Ever since i moved here my life has gonne into the dumps and I cant seem to pick myself up. I would say what triggered it was the severe acne i suffered just as i moved here, it broke me. I lost all that was going for me, and above all things my confidence. I'm wasting my days procrastinating, scared of stuff that hasn't happend yet and might not even happen. I'm in my last year of Uni and am dropping my grade average like an atom bomb because of this. I try to get out but i always end up back where i started. I know this probably doesn't explain much, but the words just aren't coming out right. I need help and I have looked for it in many places.. So i figured why not ask Reddit as well. Does anyone have any advice?", "summary": "I lost my confidence and am failing classes.. Could anyone give me advice on how to get my shit together?"}
{"id": "t3_wwwro", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just endured he most painful Shit of my life, thanks to some fried chicken. What is your most memorable poop story?", "post": "So this is what's up. Today my family set out on a road trip to Basalt, Colorado to climb mountains and such. On the way through Nebraska today, we stopped at a McDonalds for lunch. I saw the new Spicy Chicken McBites, and thought hey looked good so I bought the largest size, \"Sharable\". I devoured the delicious things like puffcorn, brought them down with \"Yoohoo\" chocolate drink, and then fell into a deep sleep. Just now, past midnight in our Hotel where we are resting until departure at 5 am, I started feel major bowel pains and the feeling of a possible massive shit coming, so I sprinted to the restroom just as my asshole began to swell and burst with glorious amounts of diarrhea. Then he spraying began. It was like a volcanoe erupting, spewing the liquid all over the sides of the toilet until the porcelain edges were nearly completely engulfed in the remains of my fried-shit lunch. After 3 mintes of spewing out everything I could and releasing the most horrifying stench known to man, the burning began. My asshole began to burn with he passion of a thousand suns from the remaining spices of the chicken. My pain is agonizing, my ass dying in the inferno of burning chicken inside my bowels. This has lasted for nearly 2 hours until now, where I lie, typing this post and wishing I had never gotten McDonalds Spicy Chicken McBites.", "summary": "Never buy Mcdonald's Spicy Chicken McBites."}
{"id": "t3_2z1k0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My marriage [8 years] is falling apart thanks to clinical depression.The illness hit me [31m] out of nowhere, and as much as I try not to be, I am a different person now. I'm so afraid that my wife [30f] will slip away...", "post": "I put my wife through hell when I experienced my first hypomanic episode. I can tell you with sincerity that I was not the same person while under that spell. Because of this we separated for a few months. when the mania evaporated, it was replaced by a paralyzing bout of major depression, and it hasn't gone away. \n\nSome very serious things have happened since then, and thanks to my wife being amazing, we are back together. \n\nBut the problem is, depression isn't just about being sad, it functionally changes you. I feel numb to most emotions, such as excitement, passion, and love. This is obviously creating an enormous chasm between me and the love of my life. \n\nThis is just so hard. I hate being this way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "depression has turned me into an emotionless zombie. My marriage is suffering as a result"}
{"id": "t3_3a81a3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my SO [22 M], what he says and how he acts are completely different.", "post": "I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and I've never felt such a great connection with anyone. We are so comfortable around each other, very compatible, always have fun together, get along very well, etc. He tells me how much he likes me, takes me out on dates, even took me home to meet his family and friends. \n\nOne day, seemingly out of no where he tells me that he doesn't want a girl in his life. I asked if I did anything wrong, or if there was anything he didn't like about our relationship and he said no. \n\nWe have such a great connection that I know he feels too. I am at a loss of what to do, he is so amazing and I don't want him to be the one that got away.\n\nI have talked to him and told him all of this, and his response is that he just doesn't want a girl right now. I don't want to act crazy but I feel like that is such a bullshit excuse.", "summary": "SO suddenly broke it off with me when our relationship was going great and won't give me a viable reason."}
{"id": "t3_4l8j0z", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Appeal for Financial Aid", "post": "I was an incoming freshman for Fall 2015 with like 35-40 credits transferred in that I took in High School.\n\nDue to my own faults, I did not make SAP that fall semester and finished with a .4 GPA. The following semester (Spring 2016) I did better (but still needs improvement) finishing with all passes and like a 2.2 GPA but due to me failing the majority of my classes that Fall I did not meet the SAP requirement for passing 67% of my classes.\n\nWould someone be able to look at my appeal and critique it for me? \n\nHere is a general overview:\n\n#1: Review your entire academic history for non-passing grades such as E, X, I and W. Write a statement explaining why you did not make SAP\n\nA: (Summarized not full text) I wrote about how my college experience from High School and that going to community college 2-3 days a week was much different than going to a University 5 days a week. How that from poor choices such as not attending class and playing video games when I should have been studying I did not make SAP and failed a majority of my classes.\n\n#2: Write a statement about what has changed, including resources you have or will use to become successful.\n\nA: I wrote about how in the Spring semester I did much better meeting all SAP requirements for the semester, and that I can still do better. I also wrote about how I utilized the Tutoring centers as well as studying with other students that are also in the class. I wanted to point out that I have proved I am fully capable and that the first semester was a mistake and that I have  learned my lesson. I wrote about how I plan to continue utilizing the tutoring center more often as the goal this Fall is a 2.5 or higher. \n\nIf I don't get Financial Aid I will be unable to attend and I don't have a job yet that allows me to start making payments on my loans yet, so if my appeal doesn't get accepted I have no idea what to do. I didn't put that in there due to the fact I did not want to seem desperate but should I? Would it have a chance at pulling at the emotions of the person handling the appeal?", "summary": "IF you would be willing to look at my appeal please let me know. Or if you have general advice pleas let me know."}
{"id": "t3_1gnw16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23/F] with my boyfriend [25/M] of 5 years, He needs constant attention driving me nuts.", "post": "My boyfriend needs constant attention and it's driving me up a wall. He is constantly talking, touching, or standing right next to me. \n\nI'll be checking my email and I notice he is standing directly behind me.\n\nI'll be cooking food and he grabs at my arms and stomach and just rubs my skin.\n\nIf I'm not paying attention to him he will make weird sounds just so that I look at him. He has nothing to say he just makes the sounds so that I give him attention. \n\nWhen I walk by he always grabs at my limbs and body and pulls on them. \n\nWhen I take a nap he comes in and lays on top of me. \n\nHe also just talks constantly even when he really has nothing to say. And when he runs out of things to say he just starts making sounds. \n\nI realize he is trying to be affectionate but I feel like I'm dating a toddler. His constant need for attention is driving me nuts. \n\nAlso I do give him my undivided attention a lot of the day and love talking with him when he needs to vent or has something to actually say. \n\nI have told him that I need alone time sometimes and that I can't always be right next to him. This made him upset and he went and pouted for a couple hours.", "summary": "Boyfriend needs constant attention and it's making me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_i2mu3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not sure if first date went alright or not..", "post": "M23, her F20\nMet her online, first night we were supposed to go out she ended up missing it (she had a legit excuse, was really apologetic, we rescheduled). 2nd night the place we were supposed to meet closed early and we ended up just missing each other, wandering around the same area but not seeing each other. So we rescheduled again.\nWe went to a cigar bar, talked for a while, then went for a walk, checked out a couple of interesting shops.\n\nConversation went well but there were a few dead spots, but I know that we're both the laconic type, so I don't know if that's necessarily a bad thing.\nShe also seems like the type who isn't flirtatious at all, so it was hard to really get a read on her, but she was smiling the whole time..\n\nNo \"Hey let's do it again sometime\" at the end of the date.", "summary": "first date, we're both quiet types, it went \"alright\""}
{"id": "t3_2lk5g3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] live-in girlfriend [22 F] is backing out of our \"deal\" for Thanksgiving", "post": "Katie and I have been dating for almost 2 years.  We moved in together last January.  Things have been kind of up and down but we always seem to work things out.\n\nLast year, I spent the whole Thanksgiving with her family and we decided that this year she would spend the whole Thanksgiving with my family.  I reminded her of that deal about a month ago and it took her a moment to remember.  After remembering, she seemed very hesitant to continue with what we had agreed upon.  I explained it was only fair that we did it this way.  Next year, we can split up the day... My family in the early afternoon and her family in the evening.  She reluctantly agreed to it again.\n\nThen this past weekend, I talked to her about it again.  I said to her, \"I don't want you to be there if you, truly in your heart, don't want to be there.  It would be unfair to both of us.  So you decide what you want to do.  I will be so happy if you chose to be with me.  If you don't, honestly, I will be pretty upset.  You will be hurting me.  With that said, choose what you want to do in your heart.  I really want you to be happy on that day.\"\n\nSo now my question...  I feel like I have been getting let down by this girl constantly.  She's always choosing her family above me.  I know we aren't married but we have a serious relationship, potentially working towards marriage.  Now is the time when I want to be put first, ahead of anyone else.  I did it last year for her, now it's her turn.  \n\nIs it wrong of me to consider breaking up with her over this?  If she doesn't spend Thanksgiving with my family, should I break up with her?  What if she spends half with me then half with her family?  She's getting exactly what she wants.  But she's not sacrificing anything for me.\n\nWhat would you do?", "summary": "GF was suppose to spend Thanksgiving with my family.  Now she might not.  I feel like I'm never #1.  Should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_su2kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I blow off what he said or take it as a warning?", "post": "Me (28), Boyfriend (24). Dating for two years (long distance for over a year) This morning he decided to sleep in and go to work late which he has never done before. He calls me every morning at a particular time and I was very concerned when I didn't hear from him. I tried calling and sending him messages. Eventually, he responds and tells me I'm really overreacting.\n\nI apologize and tell him I was concerned and that my response was probably due to feeling really insecure lately (been having a tough time recently) He blows up and starts saying that we're fooling ourselves believing we're in love with each other. That no healthy relationship has these hiccups. That things have always been wrong.\n\nI replied that I disagree, that we love each other, and we had a bad morning due to my behavior. I apologized. He forgave me. We have spoken since this morning and I suppose he's over it.\n\nThe problem is that his statement about us fooling ourselves about being in love has not left me. If I was feeling insecure before, it has ramped up to astronomical numbers. Now I'm convinced that's how he really feels, that we're fooling ourselves into believing we're in love. I don't feel that way at all, it has never crossed my mind. \n\nI want to approach him and ask him about the statement but I need to deliver it in a non-accusatory way. Maybe it was something said in the heat of the moment but it was really upsetting and I can't let it go. Can anyone give me advice on how I can ask him about this without pissing him off?", "summary": "While having an argument, boyfriend says we are tricking ourselves into believing we're really in love with each other. Can't let it go. How do I approach him? Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_1fgexd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do I [28/F] make the move and live with my [29/m] boyfriend?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been friends for a couple of years, supported each other through quite a bit, and have been dating for a few months. We end up seeing each other once a week because we live an hour away and my schedule has been crap for so long. Between grand school and working 2nd shift every weekend, one day week is what we usually average out to.\n\nHe has his own house, a good job, and would love for me to live with him. My job doesn't pay all that much, but it does allow me some financial independence. I've been living with my parents for the past couple of years because my internship schedule+school schedule has made it very difficult to hold down full time work (plus, I saved like 20k by doing it).\n\nAll signs point to moving in with him, but I'm worried that it might take me awhile to find work. My biggest concern would be if in 4-5 months from now,  I don't have a job and my student loans start coming in. I have some money saved away, so I could probably pay for 3-4 months of payments. I've been applying to a bunch of jobs in the area, but no nibbles yet. There is also the pride factor because I would feel guilty having him fully support me, but I also realize I would do the same for him and it would be great for our relationship.", "summary": "not sure if i should move into my boyfriend's place until i find a job or if i should just go for it so we can spend more time together."}
{"id": "t3_45hebu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do (/should) I [27 F] ask my fuck buddy if hes [28 M] married without sounding like a creepo?", "post": "I have a fuck buddy of 3 months and things have been sketchy for awhile but im just now putting two and two together. We NEVER go to his house to fuck, its always mine. He leaves right after (I have no problem with it but its kinda eh), he says that he lives with his parents but has a well paying job (hes not working at target or anything) and had this job since he graduated college at 23 (he also went to a USC which is a really nice school). There aren't any full body photos of him so I cant see his ring (if he has one). Should I just flat out ask him if he's married or wait for him to tell me?", "summary": "I think FWB is married, I don't want things to get ugly. How should I ask him if hes married? (if I even should)"}
{"id": "t3_14362v", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Youtube Revenge", "post": "This was during February/March of 2012.\n\nI had previously won an online contest of $100 for a game called Starcraft 2 back in August to my PayPal. Having only spent half of my winnings, I decided to purchase Modern Warfare 3 on Steam. However, the game cost $60, instead of the usual $50 of many other games, so I was $10 short. \n\nI really wanted to play MW3, though. So, I googled on how to get it for cheaper, and found an old forum I used to visit. Apparently, there was a person selling the game for $25. I messaged him, and he messaged back, and a deal was negotiated. We exchanged messages for a while, as he was taking a while getting a cd-key for me. I, stupidly \"gifted\" the money instead of purchasing it as he was getting the key for me, since I was pretty new to PayPal. Then randomly, he logged off. The whole process was around two hours I believe.\n\nHaving not seen him on for a few days, I concluded that I got scammed. Whatever, I thought. It was only $25. I was surprised that a person went through such great lengths to con a mere $25. Anyways, after that, I brainstormed ways of trying to get revenge. He stupidly put his \"IGN\" as his Skype name (Program I used to message him), and it wasn't a common one either so it was incredibly simple to find all his other accounts (youtube, steam, etc). \n\nWhen I went to his Youtube channel, I came up with a master plan, and decided to use a \"dislike bot\" to dislike his videos. He seemed to be an avid Youtuber, since he uploaded around one video a week.\n\nI managed to get 90+ dislikes on each of his videos.... He stopped posting videos as frequently after that... even though he was still active on his channel. (Latest Activity thing on Youtube)", "summary": "Scammed $25 trying to buy a game, found scammer's YouTube and dislike botted all of his videos."}
{"id": "t3_1is16p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21/f) My boyfriend [22/m] doesn't seem to understand that his method of giving advice/responding to someone else's error can be upsetting and demeaning.", "post": "Whenever anyone does anything wrong (myself, his close friends, etc.), it usually goes something like this: 1. loud groan, or exasperated huffing; 2. clenching knuckles, or throwing whatever object he has to the ground; 3. total and blatant frustration in asking something like, \"Why did you do that?\" or \"Why didn't you...?\"; 4. Never to me, but often to others, sneering insults about their decision. (Sometimes he won't even say a word. He'll just act really \"fed up.\" )\nHe doesn't seem to understand that, whenever he acts this way, the loudest statement is his reaction, not the advice he has to give. I know he just wants to help people, and I appreciate that...yet he's utterly convinced that his reaction is effective and acceptable. He's expressed that the rest of us (who prefer not to be treated like a dog that just pissed on the carpet) don't actually respond to his advice whenever he does it in a \"nice\" way. \nI want to help him understand that it upsets me when he responds that way. That he can simply ask, \"Why did you do this?\" or \"Why didn't you do this?\" without all the dramatic body language and noises.  His friends seem to respond in one of two ways: they either get over it, or they stop doing that particular activity with him. I want to reiterate, though, that this habit of his is completely uncharacteristic of his personality: he's sweet, attentive, and takes huge consideration of my feelings. He's the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, without question. We must have fought over this a half dozen times...please be honest, am I just being overly sensitive? Do I need to just get over it, or stand firm that what he's doing is simply not nice?", "summary": "Whenever someone does something wrong, and my boyfriend wants to inform someone of their error, he is aggressive, rude, and gets visibly/obviously exasperated and frustrated."}
{"id": "t3_3cj0ci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my [22 F] gf of 2 year, her weight and eating disorder are making me doubt our future together", "post": "I met this girl 2 years ago and she was about 200lbs when we met. I didn't mind it because I was naive and thought it's easy to lose weight based on what she told me. She has a history of depression and eating disorder and been obese all her life (I didn't know these things until 6 months into our relationship). She has been trying different diets and exercise routines but nothing seems to work. Despite all her efforts, she just can't stay away from unhealthy food. I recently told her that her eating disorder is getting in the way of our relationship and she should just stay away from unhealthy food and I'm finding her less attractive but she accuses me of being controlling. I also found out yesterday that she has a fetish for guys of the same background as me: speak language X and come from countries in region Y.\n\nOther than those things, she's a wonderful person but as my attraction for her is waning, it's getting harder to be supportive and to not eye other women. I just want her to be healthy and to get in shape.", "summary": "My gf keeps gaining weight and promises to lose it but she can't control her eating disorder. I don't find her attractive anymore but want to change that."}
{"id": "t3_1s399v", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help, I'm having a \"mid-midlife crisis\".", "post": "I'm currently in my third year at a respected American university where I'm majoring in Business Economics and Finance. Next semester I will be studying abroad in Spain, taking Spanish language and culture classes as well as business classes. \n\nI can't stand my major specific classes. I have no interest in either and have no plans to get a job in either field after school. Only now am I realizing that I'm wasting an opportunity to study something that interests me. I picked them because they are safe and I wanted to avoid getting out of college and living with my parents (something my two older sisters are doing). I've considered dropping out multiple times but my parents have convinced me to stay because I'm on scholarship and if I leave now I'll lose my financial aid and never be able to return.\n\nIf I go abroad it will solidify my major choice. If I stay here I'd have three semesters to complete a new major curriculum, which is daunting. I want the experience of going abroad and I'd be embarrassed to tell people I'm not going after weeks of hyping it up. However, I'm terrified about the long term implications of the trip. I don't want to graduate school with a skill that I never want to use.", "summary": "Should I keep my boring business major and have fun or should I challenge myself with a new major I'm passionate about?"}
{"id": "t3_2x5s0t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending to be Australian", "post": "This fuck up happened last weekend. \n\n I have been doing accents since I was 10(24 now)and become extremely good at Australian. Good enough to trick Brits and even a few Aussie's. I'm hangin out with a few mates pre-gaming and I decide I'm going to be Australian at the club tonight. They agree to go along with it and we come up with a back story of how we all met. \n\nWere at the club and everything is going great nobody suspects a thing. People are cracking jokes and trying to get me to use my best American accent. I play along and they think it's hilarious. I go up to grab another drink and this girl says to me, \"Hey my friend thinks you're cute, and keeps talking about you. Go so hi to her.\" I look over at her friend and she is stunning. At this point I'm thinking she's probably just interested in meeting an Australian guy. So I approach her still in character and she had no idea that I was \"Australian.\" We immediately hit it off and by the end of the night she was looking at nothing but my eyes. \n\nI ended up going home with her and had lots of amazing sex, that night and in the morning. After, she drives me home and we talk. I'm still using my fake accent because I don't know what else to do. Let me tell you, it was a long ass ride. I for sure thought I'd be discovered. She tells me how she's never done anything like this before and she just started trusting men again after a horrible experience.  She didn't say what, but she didn't have to. we talked about other things and it hit me, I actually like this girl. And i know she really like me.\n\nShe drops me off at \"my mates place\" and kisses me goodbye. We've been talking ever day since and I don't know how to tell her the truth. I feel bad deceiving her, but I'd I tell her I don't think she'd see me again.", "summary": "pretended to be Australian,  hot girl took me home, end up liking hot girl, feel like a dick. Haven't told her the truth."}
{"id": "t3_1gd196", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Just \"deleted\" her from my life. I actually feel much better.", "post": "The constant reminder of her via Facebook, instagram and the like was preventing me from finding any peace. I mean how can you forget someone when they are top on the FB chat list all the time?\n\nIt was an 9 month relationship of pure bliss, but for some reason she bailed. Told me I was perfect yada yada. Only guy to make her Orgasm/biggest guy. I was completely blindsided by it, she assured me there was no one else. I believe her about that. Its her last year at Uni and she had a lot on the plate, understandable. But I really only saw her on the weekends. I guess I wont understand.", "summary": "Do you find it easier to just outright remove them digitally from your life? If not, how do you do it?"}
{"id": "t3_3we2xu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] really like a girl [17 F] in my class and don't know how to get to know her better.", "post": "I really like a girl who has been in multiple classes that we both have seemed to enjoy. I have barely talked to her, most recently to ask about some homework. I want to get her phone number and talk with her more, but I am not sure on how I should do this. I get nervous whenever I think about going over to talk with her and I'm unsure on what exactly to say.\n\nWhenever I speak with other girls I don't feel so nervous, but with her I do. Is it best for me to just walk up to her and admit to finding her attractive and ask for her number? Or is it better for me to just ask her casually? Thanks for any help!", "summary": "I find a girl in my class really attractive but don't know how to best talk with/get her phone number."}
{"id": "t3_2hac99", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30/M] afraid she's [25/F] pushing me away...", "post": "I've been in a relationship with an absolutely wonderful girl for the past six months, but we've never lived in the same city before. I live in Tallahassee and she used to live in Orlando; she's now in Myrtle Beach.\n\nWe first started talking to each other via the Internet back in March for about a week. Admittedly, I wasn't looking for a relationship, but after I made the 4-hour drive down south to see her, we became crazy about one another and I wanted to be hers exclusively.\n\nWe'd constantly text each other back and forth and have Skype dates almost every night for several months until her parents convinced her to move back up north (out of state) to live with and take care of her grandmother in her old age. Right now, she's almost twice the distance away and I have yet to be able to visit her.\n\nFor the last few weeks of her time in Orlando, she would go out a lot to say goodbye to all of her friends, so our Skype dates became further and further apart. Admittedly, I was saddened (and very jealous) by the decrease in conversation, but I wanted her to enjoy her final days in the place she called home. I visited her one last time to meet her parents before they hauled her off to South Carolina, and it was a nice experience.\n\nAs of right now, she's in Myrtle Beach, her home town, where she's miserable. Our Skype dates are still less frequent than they used to be, but they're wonderful when they happen. She still tells me that she loves me and that I'm perfect for her, but I feel as though she's trying to push me away or get me to break up with her.\n\nWe've talked about us moving away together as soon as my lease is up, but I still can't shake the feeling that she's just placating me for the time being.", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend seems to be pushing me away; what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3n6xpo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [45M] of 1 year invited me [45F] to a concert that I'm not into. Do I fess up, or manage my attitude and go?", "post": "We've been having a fantastic year and we overlap a lot of interests, one of which is seeing live music. We've seen probably 30 shows in the past year and while we aren't perfectly matched musically I have always found something to like in everything and of course loved it all overall. \n\nHowever now he brought up a concert that he wants to see, and I'm just not too into this particular artist. They happen to turn me off musically, for whatever reason. I'd never go near them if it weren't for him. It's a bit inconvenient to get to for his other friends (requires an overnight) (sex in hotel rooms, yay!) If I do go, unless I can somehow manage my attitude about it, I'll be pretending to like it, or else just not be my usual bubbly self.\n\nSo is it better for the long-term health of this relationship to fess up and say yeah, not too into them? Or is it better to cover it up and go because my honey wants to go, and just enjoy that he enjoys them? I mean, it's hardly a hardship to go out to a show, but I don't want to lie, and I'm afraid if I let it show that I don't like them, it will affect his enjoyment.\n\nI am curious what you all would do. I can see both sides. If you want to stay long-term with someone, that means doing things for them to promote their happiness, especially something like this that isn't really that hard to do. However, it feels like lying and I don't like that feeling.", "summary": "Do I go to a show I don't like and pretend to enjoy it for my bf's sake, or fess up beforehand?"}
{"id": "t3_2ros49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 21 F] with my BF [ 21 M] of three months, he's going two states away for grad school, want to make this work and what to expect.", "post": "I'll try to make this quick as possible. Sorry if this is in the wrong forum. \n\nFor some context, my boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. We've known each other for about 5 years and have known each other since high school. During that time we both lived an hour's drive from each other and he has moved another 4 hours for college. However, we kept in contact with each other a lot, through texts/social media/video games, etc. We talk almost every night and even if the distance sucks, it's awesome knowing that we had a crush on each other for the past year. He's my first at everything, I'm his second girlfriend but his first in everything as well. He makes the effort to drive to my place, and I plan to reciprocate this semester once I have some cash saved up. \n\nAs of right now, I'm still in college for another few years due to some transferring/impacted classes. He's graduating this spring, and is likely going to Washington state for grad school. He has had his eye on a school there since before we started going out, so I had that thought in the back of my mind for a while. \n\nAnyways, we've discussed about what would happen if he does get accepted to Washington state and what our dating life would be like. We both want to finish school but we know our workload would interfere with that, so our feelings are pretty much mutual if the break up were to happen. However, both of us are very committed to each other and making this work.\n\nAnybody here previously/is in a similar situation? \n\nWhat were your experiences? \n\nWhat were the outcome? \n\nWhat made it work/didn't make it work?\n\nI hate to sound like a pessimist but I want to prepare myself for the worst.", "summary": "Boyfriend might move 2 states away, increased LDR. We agreed to stay committed to each other but if it doesn't work, we decided to mutually break up in the future. What should I expect?"}
{"id": "t3_1knnkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] with my wife [25F] of 6 years, are on the verge of divorce. We both cheated on each other (no sex). Need advice!", "post": "We are both financially dependent on each other and we have 3 dogs. \n\nWhile drunk she made out with one of her friends (that I hate). \n\nWhile drunk I groped one of her best friends. \n\nI know we married young but I want to make it work. \n\nShe has not decided if she wants to make it work. \n\nShe has feelings for the other guy.\n\n I asked if she is more interested in him than me. She said it's different.\n\nI feel that my wife and I are even now.\n\n I am willing to put my pride aside, not beat the shit out of the other guy, and start the marriage over.\n\n I want to renew our vows and try again.\n\nPlease help. What should I do?", "summary": "Wife and I cheated on each other (no sex). Should we work it out?"}
{"id": "t3_24gc28", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Guangzhou, China - Worth a 2/3 Day Stopover?", "post": "I'm heading home from the UK (to Australia) for Christmas this year, and want to try and work in a 2/3 day stopover somewhere on the way. Last time we did Dubai, which was great fun. This time, I'm considering taking a flight via Guangzhou in China and checking out the sites for a couple of days before my connecting flight.\n\nI'm wondering whether anyone who's been might be able to give me a heads up on whether or not it's worth it? E.g. we've stopped over in Incheon, Korea before and there was very, very little to do. Keen to avoid that kind of situation again.\n\nAlso - I think Australian citizens are one of the 50-odd nationalities who are granted 72 hours of visa-free travel in China so long as they have an onward flight scheduled - but feel free to pull me up on this if I'm wrong!", "summary": "Is Guangzhou, China worth a 2/3 day visit en route to Australia?"}
{"id": "t3_4gmlbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] Friend [21F] Flirts With My Boyfriend [21M]", "post": "I'm having issues with my boyfriend (of 6 months) and my friend (of 2 years). I'm more of the quiet shy type, and my friend is more into partying and stuff like that. I met this guy about 8 months ago and we started dating 2 months after that, at first we both had met him at just friends and she was kind of flirting with him. Once I started dating him I assumed that she would stop doing it, but if anything now she's doing it MORE. She talks to him in a flirtatious sorta tone and sends him random selfies on snapchat all the time, she makes sexual comments in front of him and then tries to say she's just joking. Like she asked him (through text) if he'd have sex with her if he wasn't dating me, I confronted her about this and she said she was just kidding around. It makes me so angry and I don't want to be like that overprotective gf or whatever (she's said that I am before when I confronted her about making sexual comments to him) so I don't know what to do. He doesn't flirt back with her and he seems visibly uncomfortable with the way she talks to him sometimes but I don't know what to say to her, she's kind of just that way with guys in general though. Like she's outgoing and flirty so I don't know if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing or if she's totally crossing the line. What's your opinion?", "summary": "My friend is an outgoing person and is generally quite flirty with guys, once I started dating my bf she didn't stop being flirty with him. She has even asked him if he'd have sex with her if we weren't together, it makes me really angry. I don't know what to say to her and I don't want to seem like that crazy gf."}
{"id": "t3_zdrgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "At crossroads. How should I approach this?", "post": "My male friend and I (M/22, F/19) are extremely close to making our relationship official. We were best friends, then FWB, and now together unofficially. We both had hesitation to get into a relationship, but since being together I have never been happier. We have the same occurring issues that keep stopping us from making it official and he wants to talk about it tomorrow.I really want to make it official, but I feel like it could go either way. He had a very bad home life and his parents marriage is horrible. He was also previously engaged and it took him a very long time to move on from his ex. I know that he is scared of getting hurt and scared of copying his parents relationship. He keeps saying that he's uncertain if we would work out and he wants to make sure before we make it official. We work well together and I think we have a good shot. How do I approach this? I don't want to pressure him but I do want to work through this and let him know how I feel.", "summary": "How do we work past our trust issues? How do I approach the issues with his parents and ex finance?"}
{"id": "t3_4m7qqg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my Girlfriend [15 F] of ~5 weeks, she has horrible tooth pain and has no dental insurance, how can I help her?", "post": "She is a very self conscious person and is quite embarrassed by how bad her teeth are, and she told me about her issue and I feel horribly knowing she is in pain. She also admits to being scared of dentist needles and hasn't been to one since she was 5.\n\nThe thing is, she is in pain, she told me last night she ate too much and her gums were sore from it. I talked to her about it and she said she has really bad cavities and might even need a root canal at this point, the thing is her insurance company has spent the last 5 months or so puttering around transferring her information to a new dental office.\n\nI feel horribly about this entire situation and I am scared for her health, should I try to get my family to help pay for her dental needs and then pay them back in a couple months when I can work, or should I let her family deal with it?\n\nTo add really quickly she hasn't talked to her father about it, again due to fear of the dentist, but her stepmother knows about the issue and is trying to help her. She isn't exactly from a very rich home but she isn't extremely poor, but enough to the point where trying to pay for dentistry straight up could break bank.", "summary": "Girlfriend is scared of/can't get insurance to pay for dental work, should I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_34qkxe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[PI] I [32/M] have some mental issues I need some advice on so I can be successful at dating again.", "post": "OK, so I'm an wreck and I don't know how to fix it. I have all sorts of issues and I don't know where or how to get over them.  \n\n1) I'm nice to a fault. \n\n2) I care so much about other peoples happiness that sacrifice mine, constantly.\n\n3) I'm terrified of rejection so I don't date any sensible women that way I know it'll end.\n\n4) When I do date someone I find it extremely hard to become emotionally attached to them. I feel like I'm just going through the motions of a relationship and I'm unhappy but I stay because I make them happy.\n\n5) I live with the \"would rather be single\" attitude because I demand that I pay for everything but I can't afford to do so. I've overdrafted my bank account to stop a girl from buying me dinner.\n\n6) I'm extremely shy when it comes to approaching (or just talking to) women I am interested in.  I can talk to anyone like a friend except women I'm interested in.\n\nI'm sure there is more. This is just off the top of my head.\n\nI'm a 32 year old man and live my life like I'm still in college. I want to get past all this and find a real connection but I feel like I have to get over these hurdles.", "summary": "My head is messed up and I don't want it to be any more. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3mntjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 3 years, when do I break up with him and move out", "post": "I have my reasons for breaking up with him and we have tried talking through some of them. However, I have come to realize I just have to end it. Details here (if you want them): \n\nThe hard part is that he is out of town and has been for months, I was originally fine with waiting a month for him to come back. He should have been home already. Now he isn't getting back for another month and I am ready to start moving on. \n\nI am now seriously debating at least moving out before he comes back and maybe ending the relationship too. I originally was going to wait so I would feel like I gave him a fair chance and so I/we could end it in person. \n\nThinking on it now, it will be a thousand times harder to move out once he is back since he probably won't have work and will be around constantly. I have a feeling I might not be able to get the guts to move out once he is back because old habits die hard and what not. I also do not want to feel guilty about this because I know it is the right thing to do for me to be happier and healthier. \n\nBasically any suggestions/comments/encouragement would be awesome.", "summary": "I can't decide if I should move out before he gets back or after, either way I will break up with him."}
{"id": "t3_34c1c6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing on the back of my pants", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nAs I am typing this I am sitting on the toilet contemplating my next move . So a little background , I recently switched jobs and started this week in another company . Now I am the type of guy who likes to take 10-15 min shit break twice a day at office . Helps me relax and think about things . So I continued the same tradition in my new office and as usuall unzipped my pants and took out my mobile opened reddit and started to pee at first. Now my dick was lil straight and to my horror the pee was coming straight out of the toilet onto my pants . It was about 3 sec before I realized this . And my pants is wet . \n\nI am unsure as to what to do . I am wearing casuals and my t shirt is long enough to cover the wet area. Should I walk out like nothing happened and continue with my day or should I just get to my desk pack my shit and gtfo from office . I don wanna be that guy who's smelly. Help me out reddit.", "summary": "pissed on my pants in office not sure what to do next"}
{"id": "t3_1o8bjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] just called her [20F] and now feel like I've made no progress. Together 15 months, ended a month ago.", "post": "I sent her a text about an hour ago and then called her just now. Left a short voicemail saying how I value her friendship and advice and that if she wanted to call or see me she could. It was pleasant but I don't think I sounded desperate. \n\nI really do feel right now that I miss her as a person more than missing the relationship. I do love her still without a doubt, but just want her to have some part in my life still. \n\nI hate that I called her. We had like 3 weeks of complete no contact. Now I have 0. \n\nLooking for advice to get through it and start no contact again. I've noticed random thoughts in my head again about showing up at her school (3.5 hours away) to talk. I haven't had those thoughts in weeks.", "summary": "broke nc by calling my ex. Now feel lost and upset that I did it."}
{"id": "t3_1u3u6n", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Should I be stressing out about the 5k+ debt I will be taking on?", "post": "A little background first. I went to school at a community college for 2 years without having to take out loans because I was eligible for federal grant money. \n\nHowever, as I am going to a 4-year college now (I start Jan 6), the cost of attendance is obviously higher, and so I will have to accept the $5,500 in loans (federal direct, subsidized) to be able to attend. Now I know that people will say this isn't a lot of money, and I know there are people thousands of dollars higher in debt, but this is a lot of money for me. Should I be stressing out too much about this?\n\nI have about two years left until I graduate with my B.A. I'm going to a college that doesn't have a major system, and I don't know how much money I'm going to be making after college right away. I do, however, know what job I want to get into that I would be qualified for after college--teaching English overseas. However, this requires that I save up some money to pay for the initial flight and setting-up a living situation before the job, but I can't do this if I'm paying my debt, right? I really want to continue my education, and I've worked hard to get where I am right now, but I can't help but fear the four-figures of debt that I will be incurring. Any thoughts?", "summary": "2 years in college under my belt. First time taking out a loan, $5,500 fed direct subsidized. Don't plan on making lots of money right after college (not until months after.)"}
{"id": "t3_382t0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F26) Best Friend (F26) of 15 years told me some worrying things about her BF(M24) last year. Now she's upset I don't like him.", "post": "Last summer my friend J broke down and admitted to me her boyfriend was using panic attacks as an excuse to get her to stay with him and not go out and see her friends. She told me he put all his stresses on her, even when she was just as stressed, and expected her to deal with it. When she would try and leave to see us for pre planned events, he'd make excuses or at worst have a \"panic attack\" so she wouldn't leave. She also let me know how much he complains how she works so much (she's in law school) and he will never see her (sees her at least 3-4 times a week). On top of that she confided that he would not introduce her to his family. She set out some weird red flags. \n\nI told her this sounds like the beginning of emotional abuse. We talked for the night and a few days later she told me everything was fine. Now I haven't seen her boyfriend since last August. \n\nA few days ago she told me she hates how she feels hostility towards her boyfriend. He's great and they just had one incident. She tells me how nice he's tried to be to me. I apologized that she felt I was hostile. I try very very hard not to be, but I'm sure that that \"incident\" last summer colours every interaction we have. I told her she is still very negative about how she talks about him, but she just came back telling me how amazing he is.\n\nI understand I need to make an effort here, but what is the best way to do so when I'm still concerned for her? I don't want to lose the friendship, especially if this relationship is toxic. Can you help me make the right choice to be a better friend, while still looking out for her?", "summary": "friend told me about her boyfriend, sounds emotionally abusive. How do we continue?"}
{"id": "t3_2odihs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17F] My Boyfriend Beat Me, What Should I Do?", "post": "My boyfriend confronted me about cheating on him and I deny it, Then he asked if he can see my phone, I said no, He was like well what do you have to hide? i said i'm not hiding anything, He said then you'd let me to see, so I did and he read some texts, I started saying sorry and asked if he'd still consider staying with me. \n\nHe said no, he still loves me but would have a hard time ever trusting me again. that made me upset so I sorta knocked over his moms urn, And He called me a cheating slut, then out of anger I like kinda dug my nails into his arm and started slapping him, Then he pushed me, i started crying, He apologized so I thought he might stay with me.\n\nI asked again and he said no, so I said you don't have a choice, you're staying with me or else I'll press charges, Then he said to leave and never try talking to him ever again. I still want to stay together but he doesn't want to give me a chance :/\n\nI didn't even really mean to cheat sort of, I just move from Colombia to America only two years ago and girls at school are mean to me so I kinda slept with a few other guys during our relationship sorta. How do you think I can make him to stay with me? What is your opinion of this? Is he over reacting? I'm 17 and he's 15 btw", "summary": "My boyfriend confronted me about cheating and I denied it, he asked to see my phone, I let him, he read some texts, I started saying sorry, He said he'll never trust me again, I got upset, and he called me a slut and pushed me"}
{"id": "t3_2z76jt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21F) with my ex (23M), he's come back into my life.", "post": "Me and Scott (fake name) dated on and off for about 2 years a few years ago. It ended really badly and we didn't talk for a long time afterwards. After a few months he messaged me and apologised for everything that happened, we started talking again. We have both recently became single and we talk constantly. \n\nOur relationship was amazing and the only problem we had was that I was still living with my parents and they didn't let me see him or allow him to come over. It was their house and I was living under their roof so I explained this to Scott and he got very upset that we wouldn't be able to see each other as much as he would have liked. This caused a lot of strain on our relationship and we broke up for good when I couldn't deal with it anymore.\n\nSince then we have dated other people and grown up as individuals a lot. \n\nTo the current situation, he has always been a little different from everyone else. He talks and acts differently to a lot of my friends and it sometimes gets on my nerves. He is very old fashioned and is very gentleman like, which is great but sometimes I just get so over it and want him to act normal. This is only sometimes though, he is truly a great person and I love his quirks and personality. \nI'm also worried about my parents, they think he is bad for me and that I deserve better, a lot of people think this because of how different he is but he has never treated me wrong. \n\nIt looks like something could start between us again soon, I just maybe need some assurance when talking to my parents and friends about this and advice on how to handle getting back with an ex?", "summary": "my ex and I might get back together, sometimes he's weird, how do I deal?"}
{"id": "t3_2o97p5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Emotionally distant from family, has led me to be emotionally distant from everyone.", "post": "It's a long story, but basically there are a couple factors that've contributed to my emotional distance from my family. I used to be very emotionally open with women, and I suppose I overcompensated with them in regards to my feeling of needing love and affection. Then my ex girlfriend hurt me really badly and I've never really opened my heart since.\n\nIt's beginning to be a problem since I really don't feel like I want to get to know anybody or make any friends or get close to anyone.\n\nShould I see a counselor, or are there any practical things I could do? I tried seeing a counselor at my school but she didn't really help me all that much.", "summary": "Emotionally distant. I feel like I don't really like anyone, or want to get to know anyone. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_j2sso", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having to choose between two high schools, need advice.", "post": "I'm a going to be in 10th grade next month but i have to choose between two high schools. I'm really determined to pursue a career in animation/arts and went to a very good public high school with a after school arts program where I have a four hour art class every day. I thought this was helpful and would help out getting into an art university. The second high school is a charter school (Media Arts is the focus) and is project based learning. I thought this would help me because i'm not very strong in my academics but have read reviews the school wasn't very strong with math (which is the class i've struggled with most all my life) and am worried i won't be prepared for college classes. I'm very well adjusted (socially at least) to the high school i went to last year but am not sure what will be better. People i've talked to say either high school i choose will be good, but i am terrified that i will not make a good choice. I feel terrified this decision may alter my future either in a good way or bad way, I'm not sure. I've always struggled with academics and i have depression, so this situation makes me extremely stressed out. I know if i choose the new school i will leave my friends but i tell myself friends shouldn't impact my decision at all. I'm sorry if this is just plain stupid, but i don't know how to decide. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to make a decision, or make it easier.", "summary": "have to choose between two high school, need advice, help, anything at all will be helpful (even if that is telling me that this is idiotic high school bullshit) "}
{"id": "t3_yhwn9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Heartache, lost and confused", "post": "I [21] saw my ex-girlfriend/best friend [21] of almost three years yesterday. This was the first time I've seen her in about eight months (we live on opposite ends of the state). Now this is a girl that I never got over and am still completely in love with. We dated for about five months and then I broke up with her because I was scared of falling in love and was to selfish to admit just how much I cared about her. \nTime passed and I realized just how fucking much she means to me. I tried to forget about her by sleeping around, dating other girls,and just doing everything in my power to push her out of my mind. I saw her this past weekend because she came down for a mutual friends wedding (which we went to together) and realized that I am completely lost without her and can't imagine her not being in my life. \nShe has a boyfriend at the moment, and if that wasn't hard enough, he doesn't treat her with respect or the love she deserves (and I know that I could treat her so much better.) Anyway, we had a long talk about it this weekend, and apparently she still loves me just as much as I love her, but we both suck at long distance relationships and she wants to see if things eventually work out between herself and this guy; but she admitted that if they don't, she isn't gonna try dating anyone else and will just wait till we can be together. \nShe left this morning and I have been a complete wreck ever since. I just miss her so damn much and am so scared of losing her. I feel so lost and don't know what to do anymore. How do I get through this?", "summary": "Fell in love; broke up; still in love; tried to replace her, couldn't; she's dating someone else; saw her yesterday; fell apart."}
{"id": "t3_274xqm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Looking for advice on my house. When do I stop paying?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. My wife and I Bought the house in 2007 at the time it was valued ~135,000, we bought it for 126,900 at 6.25%. We have been wanting to move for the last 4 years but after 2008 we have of course been underwater. Last year I spent most of the year trying to sell the house as it looked like the market was improving a little. \n\nWhat I didn't know is houses in my particular subdivision were slowly being bought out and turned into rentals. This combined with foreclosures made it so FHA will no longer approve loans for the neighborhood. At this point after talking to multiple people it became clear my only real options were to do a short sale or get foreclosed on myself. (If anyone has any other suggestions or paths please say so)\n\nWe have been waiting for Wells Fargo to approve the short sale since December. Our finances are draining monthly, even if we could afford it we no longer want to live here as it doesn't feel safe anymore. We have had the house broken into and things stolen, as well as a car stolen out of the driveway, packages taken, mail tampered with, dog poop smeared on the side of our truck... the house is valued at 75,000 now, we still owe 107,000.", "summary": "House worth 75k now, still owe 107. Saving down to $5000 and getting lower each month. When should I just stop paying, or what other options might I have since we don't want to keep living here?"}
{"id": "t3_2yo80o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flooding a pet shop", "post": "Obligatory mention that this happened a few years ago.\n\nI was working a big pet shop - at any one time we had about 100 hamsters, 40 rabbits, 40 guinea pigs, rats, gerbils, etc. - and had worked 11 days straight, many of which were 14 hour shifts.\n\nAt the end of the work day I was taking home a rabbit that needed to be syringe-fed to stop it dying. Typically I forgot the syringe, and while the shop alarm timer was going I ran to the back, grabbed one from the cupboard, and tried to rinse it off.\n\nThe nearest sink was the one we used for cleaning out the animals, so it was permanently clogged with sawdust and hay and shit. On top of that the cold tap sometimes simply didn't run, even when turned up full.\n\nSo, I ran the tap, and nothing happened. Tired and in a hurry, I left that tap and used a different sink before rushing out.\n\nI spent the night nursing the rabbit and trying to make it not die.\n\nIn the morning I get a phone call at 5am telling me to get to work as quickly as possible. I pull up in a taxi and find water pouring out of the front doors.\n\nInside, dead animals are floating down the aisles in several feet of water. Hamsters have pooled in little clumps like spent teabags, while the corpses of rabbits and guinea pigs bumped around our ankles.\n\nWhen I left the tap on there had been no water flowing. But shortly after I left it started gushing into the blocked sink and quickly flooded the entire shop.\n\nAt least 200 animals drowned. It caused thousands of pounds worth of damage.\n\nI never confessed to my boss that it was my fault.\n\nThe only animal that survived was the sick rabbit I needed the syringe for in the first place.", "summary": "I accidentally flooded a pet shop and murdered hundreds of cute, furry animals."}
{"id": "t3_2dhhtx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing baggy trousers", "post": "I'm sitting down at a Chinese takeaway, happily waiting for my food, and notice that the buttons on my trousers had come undone because my trousers are way to big for me. I stand up to button my trousers back up, and midway through I'm caught staring right at a newspaper. Normally this wouldn't be too bad, but this newspaper was on page 3. The lady who took my order had just returned from whatever she was doing, to find me - stood there, buttoning my trousers after what looked like a quick jerk off by the till, aided by the fake tits on page 3. there was genuinely no way to explain, so eye contact was avoided during the next 10 minutes spent waiting for my order. I've never seen a face so shocked.", "summary": "got caught buttoning trousers up after they popped out due to trouser size - which looked like a page 3 wank-fest at a Chinese takeaway."}
{"id": "t3_1hvhce", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Couple of NSV's over the weekend :) Made the wall at my gym, TWICE!", "post": "Hey look, it's that guy Daniel who posts on loseit all the time.\n\n[Here is my cakeday post from a few days ago](\n\nI went to the gym over the weekend and found myself very proud to not see 1 NSV, but 2!\n\n[The first:](\n(I am Daniel I)\n\nWe have a wall at our gym where depending on how often you come in per month, your name gets put up on the wall. I haven't made the wall since February.. so I am proud to say I am back on track with my consistency again!\n\n[The Second](\nThey asked me for my progress pictures, and put them up in the MAIN OFFICE of the gym. Where everyone goes in to sign up. I am feeling so incredibly humbled! \n\nJust wanted to share <3", "summary": "on how i achieved my goals"}
{"id": "t3_hzm89", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, do you think looking at cam-whore girls is wrong if you have a girlfriend?", "post": "My girlfriend asked me what I look at when I masturbate. I told her I either click on a few videos on redtube or youporn, or I go to livejasmin or cam4 and watch the cam chat girls. She was ok with watching traditional porn, but when i mentioned that I go to camming websites, she was saddened. I read an askreddit post about communicating with girls on /r/gonewild, and that most people thought this was worse than simply viewing porn, since you can private message the girls on gonewild, and possibly chat with them. The reason I watch cam girls is because the traditional 'porn' look is pretty gross IMO. I find normal/amateur girls more attractive than girls with fake tits and way too much makeup. In any event, I told her (and I plan to stick to this) that I will refrain from visiting camming websites.\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Girlfriend is upset that I view cam girl sites when masturbating, but I only go there because 'porn' girls are ugly IMO."}
{"id": "t3_53fmon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] Is it possible to become friends with your personal dominatrix?", "post": "Met a dominatrix online. Went to her house and her friend was with her. We both live in campus housing. They are going to dominate me together, may even have more women join in. I have to pay 50 bucks. Was thinking of giving them each a personal painting I made, I'm an artist.\n\nI'm REALLY excited.\n\nHowever, nervous and sad. Because this is BUSINESS for her. She isn't going to be touching me sexually really. I am paying her to do this. So once it is over, what happens next? And I'm really attracted to her friend who is going to partake as well.\nI guess, I want to be friends with them? Is that possible? Can I become friends with her or not? It feels weird. I actually just sent both of them a friend request on facebook and they both accepted it...at the same time practically.\nI just feel sad, because once the session is over. Then, well, can I ever talk to them again? The one girl is in my class and I will be seeing her again on Tuesday. What could I possibly say to her? How can I be her friend? Can subs be friends with their mistresses? I feel like they already look down on me or something. They haven't contacted since our meeting. I don't know. They just feel kind of cold, above me.", "summary": "Want to be friends with my dominatrix and her friend, dunno if that is possible or not because they look down on me?"}
{"id": "t3_498n54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [27 F] 5 years, she cheated tried to make things right but then stopped.", "post": "Me and my wife (Holly) have been together for 5 great years but it feels wasted now.\n\nWe have a daughter who I love to death and she's the best thing to ever happen to me. \n\n4 months before our daughter was born she cheated with our neighbor for 3 weeks. I was crushed I confronted her and demanded a DNA test after the baby was born. I did two actually just to be sure.\n\nShe was trying to make things right while she was pregnant but now after the baby was born it got harder.\n\nShe was still trying but on top of trying to fix our marriage we had a new born so we were tired most of the time. Its gotten a bit better now but nothing was ever really fixed.\n\nI still don't trust her and sometimes don't want to be around her. I feel like I've already checked out and have a wandering eye but I stop myself because I don't want to fall down to her level.\n\nI realized a week ago why I've stayed for so long and really it's because of my daughter. When I look at my wife I don't feel anything I don't feel that special bond your supposed to feel for the mother of your child.\n\nShe thinks we are all better now and that I've moved on from that. But I haven't and honestly I've grown to truly hate her and resent her for everything. When she touches me it feels gross.\n\nI guess I'm just venting now I have no clue what to do in a situation like this.", "summary": "my wife cheated and tried to make things right but I've grown to hate her."}
{"id": "t3_309j1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My girlfriend is a slob.", "post": "We've been living together for eight months now, and the situation is only getting worse. Every single room in the house is filled with piles of her stuff and mountains of dirty clothes.\n\nWhen I try to clean up, she accuses me if being a passive aggressive, control freak that moves her stuff in order to sabotage her. Yes, I move her stuff, but only because I am afraid we'll get rats.\n\nHer car is always full of garbage and clothes. I routinely clean it out, only to find moldy lunch containers (yes I pack her lunches too)\n\nWe both work full time, she has the \"tougher job\" where I work mostly from home (50/50). \n\nIt's extremely frustrating to be home all day and be unable to clean. Even the basement is filled to the brim with boxes and boxes of crap she has been hoarding her entire life but can't give up because they're \"memories\" of her childhood.\n\nYet they're not packed away boxes, they're scattered all through the basement and overflowing with junk.\n\nPicture a garbage dump and you get the general idea of what our place looks like. Before we moved in together, my place was always organized, clothes went into a hamper and dirty dishes were done and put away.\n\nShe never cleans, does not care about living in squalor, nor does she seem at all apologetic when I am forced to clean moldy containers (that I gag my way through).\n\nBut I'm the bad guy for wanting to break up with her.\n\nI'm sick of living with an invalid, but I still care about her and her well being. I've also never broken someone's heart before and I feel really bad about having to let her go. No matter what level of mess there is, she always has an excuse!! I'm ashamed whenever someone comes over. If I was a friend coming over, I'd be mortified. Should I call it quits?", "summary": "girlfriend treats our place like her own personal garbage dump. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2kijly", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of reddit, what are the best mens dress shoes for back pain relief?", "post": "I tried an Internet search, but the results were not very helpful and many seemed bias, so I was hoping some guys here would have personal experience they could offer. My boyfriend has chronic lower back pain and unfortunately spends long hours on his feet at work (veterinarian). His sister recently bought him a pair of Cole Haan shoes in hopes they would help his back, but he hasn't noticed a difference. I would like to buy him a new pair of dress shoes that will help his back, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "looking for nice dress shoes for veterinarian BF to help his lower back pain"}
{"id": "t3_1neqf1", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Housetraining never seems to stick!", "post": "I have adopted a very sweet rescue named Judge. She's about three, I think, and has been with us (me and my boyfriend) since February this year. All in all, she has some anxiety issues that we have made HUGE strides on (she used to cower and shake around men and now she'll run up to say Hi!), but despite that she still has a lot of housetraining issues. When my boyfriend and I leave for work we put her in the office and she doesn't have an accident during the entire time (usually 5-9 hours). But when I'm home, even if she's been out recently, she will pee on the couch or bed. Any time she can access something soft (thank god we don't have carpeting!) she'll pee. I don't get it\u2014she will have been outside and then an hour later will climb up onto the couch for a piss. It's gotten to the point that it's hard to stay on top of it. The obvious advice is to not let her out of my sight, but realistically when I'm home I can't keep an eye on her 24/7 and I don't want to keep her separate from us all the time. As far as correction goes, I never seem to catch her, so I hate yelling at her after the fact. We use Nature's Own, but the smell just seems to saturate everything\u2026 it would be easier if it were on the floor. Over the past month she must've peed on the bed three or four times. Help! If someone has any advice or maybe insight into why she's doing this or a new approach I would appreciate it. I feel like despite effort, I don't seem to get anywhere.", "summary": "My dog pees everywhere on the bed and couch even when she shouldn't have to relieve herself."}
{"id": "t3_25ht2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) am wondering if I should be upset about my GF(21F) inviting questionable people to her event **update**", "post": "Link above.\n\nWent out with my girlfriend last night, decided to tell her that I had a problem with her inviting a guy who a week or two before we started dating (we were FWB) she had kissed one of them (at this same event, which she lied to me about after he asked her out on a date). She told me she didn't tell me coz she thought it would cause more drama.\n\nThe other guy who she invited is friends with the other and he was trying to punch me and fight me because she liked me and not her friend. She claims he apologized and was very sorry about that night.\n\nShe said that I should be happy that she invited me and that it would have been worse if she didn't invite the two guys who I have a problem with because it would have caused too much drama in the group. She says they are very nice guys but are dicks when they are drunk.\n\nI don't wanna be the guy who has a problem with her hanging out with guys but he is the one person I have a problem with and she knows that.\n\nWhat do I say/do?\n\nHow should I feel about this? I need an outsiders point of view!", "summary": "Girlfriend invited questionable guys to an event where at the exact event she is going to is the one where she kissed a guy (before we were together but were FWB) and lied about it. The other guy tried to fight be but apparently is a good guy."}
{"id": "t3_3qidqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my EX [23M] of 2 weeks. Tinder Advice. How to cut ties?", "post": "Hi reddit, Need advice\nSo my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago now\u2026 In a half sad half rage fuelled whim I decided to download tinder and see where that took me. Talked to quite a few people some nice and genuine people and a few horn dogs as well. Started talking to a few guys and went on a couple of coffee dates and such, nothing crazy. Anyways, realized now that I still love my ex and think about him all the time and going on these dates are actually pretty emotionally draining because breakup is still super fresh\u2026 its not that they are weird people, the conversation is good and they seem nice and genuine. So, my question: How do I break it off with these tinder guys without coming across as a total flake?\n\n1) Fall off the face of the earth and not respond to texts. \n\n2) Say I'm just not into it \n\n3) Be honest and just say they seem like cool people but Im newly single and downloading tinder was a mistake in the first place. \n\n4) follow through with rage/sadness fuelled whim and keep going on dates and maybe I won't think about my ex the entire time we are having a conversation\u2026\n\nother suggestions welcome!!", "summary": "How to cut ties with tinder dudes and not seem like a flake."}
{"id": "t3_zogq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (23M) chase my girlfriend (21F) across the country?", "post": "We went to college on the west coast together and got together just over 11 months ago. We slowly crept up into a relationship status and we love each other very much. I graduated in May and moved back home to Hawaii. We agreed to continue the relationship because the distance isn't THAT bad (she's actually from Asia, so half the ticket cost going home).\n\nShe'll be graduating in December, and our plan was to have her come live with me in Hawaii. But here's the thing: her mom called recently and told her that she is having a difficult time in Asia and wants to move to New York with her (they both have dual citizenship). The mother owns property in Jersey just overlooking New York, so rent will not be an issue. They both welcome me to join them, except that I can't sleep with my girlfriend in the same bed, kiss/hug her in public, or be left alone with her in the house (crazy Asian mothers :X).\n\nFor myself, I just recently got hired with a one year commitment so the earliest I could move to them would be September 2013, and I would have to restart all of my networking that I've done/will do in the next year. I love my girlfriend and I want to be with her... but I understand her mother is very important to her and I have family of my own in Hawaii... we're both relatively stressed about this... as the months pass and start to approach December. Her mom does not want to move to Hawaii, or anywhere else other than her apartment in New Jersey. We talk about this problem, a lot. We feel that our careers and our families are pulling each other apart.\n\nI know ultimately we'll both have to make a decision, but I feel the pressure is all on me. Should I continue this relationship? Should I focus on my career? The women in Hawaii are very friendly, gorgeous and beautiful, but I've fallen in love with my girlfriend. We're definitely not going to get married until I'm 30 (promise I made to myself). Please let me know your thoughts reddit, I'm completely lost and the stress is overwhelming!!", "summary": "Girlfriend most likely will move to New Jersey after graduation from a west coast university. I have a 1 year commitment with my job in Hawaii. Should I continue the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4sfk1b", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Advice for replying to interviewer/decoding this email!", "post": "Hey all! I finished a 3rd and final interview at a company yesterday and received the following email from my interviewer:  \n\n---\n\nDear lostinmistranslation,\n\nHope you didn't have a trouble going back home last night.\n\nWe made a decision. Will you be able to come again within a few days?\n\nLet me know.  \n\n---   \n\nBackground: I'm an expat in a country where English is not the language of communication. The job I applied for will use English and the local language.  \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this email; is it bad form to press for a more exact answer on what the decision is? While I find it psychotic to think they'd ask me back to their office just to offer me condolences on not getting the job, I also don't want to be presumptuous and assume I got it. \n\nIt's also a 2 hour commute one way into the city for me to get to their offices and they know this, so I definitely don't want to go all that way if they're just going to say sorry to me.", "summary": "how reply, what write??"}
{"id": "t3_hsmg1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the best way to get back at my friend?", "post": "I know you guys love revenge so here's your shot.\n\nLast night my friends and I were out drinking at one of our friend's house watching the NBA finals. The game ended and we decided to go to whataburger for a midnight snack. After a while we noticed our friend, let's call him Frank, hadn't shown up yet. I sent him a text and he sent one back saying that he had hit a fire hydrant, got arrested for dwi, and the police were taking the phone away after he sent the message to me. Now mind you we me and our other friend who was with me at the time were properly inebriated and legitimately worried for Frank since he had just gotten a MIP a few weeks ago. We started calling him, hoping that he was joking about the whole thing, but he never picked up. At this point we thought for sure he had actually been arrested. Finally he picked up and laughed at us for falling for his joke. Anyways, now it's my turn to get him back, so show me your worst (best?) Reddit!", "summary": "Friend tricks drunken me into thinking he was arrested for DWI. Help me get revenge."}
{"id": "t3_1atjsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a South East Asian [F]emale Muslim [24] who's white boyfriend [27] wants her to wear a hijab during sex, but I'm not even READY for my parents to know I'm dating him, let alone sex. Help?", "post": "Ok Reddit, so I (24) met an awesome guy (27) about 3 years ago that I recently started dating. We've always kind of had feelings for each other, but never acted until recently and we've been dating for about 3 months. He's a really great guy: he's smart, funny, ambitious and cute, but there's one problem:\n\nHe's much more sexually experienced than me and he says he's really kinky. I however, haven't gone past giving my ex boyfriend (who was my only boyfriend) oral sex and I already feel guilty about that because of my religious views: I go to mosque quite frequently and I'm an active member of my community in that respect. I am more of a moderate though (no hijab or anything like that OUTSIDE of the mosque, and it's a source of contention with my parents who are conservative and who I live with) and I don't observe the much more conservative parts of the religion. Anyways, when me and my boyfriend were making out a month ago, he started feeling me up and we wound up hooking up (no sex though). He said he fantasized about having sex with me while I wore a hijab (even though I don't wear one!) \n\nWe were hooking up recently and he brought it up again and I got quite upset and left his place. He texted me asking what was wrong and I told him that his fantasy offended me. He then turned it back around on me because I don't wear a hijab at all and that I'm not even observing half of what I go to Mosque for and that I might as well have sex with him anyways. I felt used afterwards and ashamed.\n\nAdd to all of this the fact that my parents are pressuring me into finding someone to marry (someone that's not white) and are catching on to the fact that I spend a lot of time with this guy and I feel so trapped.", "summary": "Muslim girl starts dating guy from outside of her religion who thinks it's kinky for him to have sex with me and disrespect my religion having me do so in a religious symbol. Seriously considering breaking it off. Parents might be catching on to me dating a guy outside of our community and I currently live with them. "}
{"id": "t3_28gtbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) am more emotional that gf (19F). How do I act?", "post": "We've been together for 5 months now, and I'd initiate most of the contact between us. She's really passionate about the relationship and I can tell that she enjoys being around me, but sometimes it's like she's not interested at all.\n\nObviously I've been suppressing this and forcing myself to text her less and so on, but should I just tell her frankly how I feel?\n\nIt's her first relationship, so I've been assuming she's not used to the concept, which explains the way she acts. Am I wrong?\n\nI would've told her how I feel ages ago, but she mentioned that she turned this guy down before we started dating because he \"needed too much attention\". Should that affect my actions?", "summary": "I (19M) more emotional than gf (19F), 5 months, always initiate contact, she's passionate in person, seems bored sometimes, first relationship, do I tell her hoe I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_2gkkab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] best friend [20M] just broke up with his [20F] girlfriend of ten months.", "post": "So, my best friend came to me yesterday visibly disturbed and he said that he needed to talk to me immediately. He then told me that he felt like it was time that he and his girlfriend (a mutual friend of mine) broke up. His reasoning was that they had too many differing interests and that when they were together she only wanted to do what she wanted to do and not what he wanted to do. No kind of compromising ever worked apparently. They also decided to wait until marriage to have sex, but in the last few months they had been pushing boundaries and heading down a road where it was inevitable that they were going to fall. He told me that he was going to wait one more week to do it, but then he had an emotional breakdown and I knew that it was going to happen. So last night he went to her and made it official. I can tell that it's killing him. I've never been in this kind of a situation before. I'm not really sure what to do. I don't want to completely drop her off, but he's my bro and best friend. How can I help keep him sane and get through this?", "summary": "My best friend and his girlfriend broke up and I'm not sure how to help him in this situation."}
{"id": "t3_2zlw45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/M] Had Sex With Woman [30/F] For First Time After Dating 2 Months. Now Seems Uncomfortable/Distant.", "post": "I [30M] have been dating this woman [30F] for 2 months.  Going into it, she told me she wanted to go slow as she had bad previous relationships.  Just to clarify the title, neither of us were virgins. \n\nAnyways the other night she starts texting me at 8PM wanting to come over to watch a movie.  Fine.  She arrives a 9PM and immediately wants to have a drink.  Ok. While we are getting comfortable on the couch she makes sure my hand ends up on her inner thigh and breast.  Sounds good. Long story short, we end up hooking up for the first time.\n\nShe had to get up early in the morning so she wanted to go home and invited me.  She was pretty buzzed but and I wasn't so I drove her car back to her house.  As soon as we arrive, she asks me to make her a drink while she changes.  We end up hooking up 2 more times and would have hooked up again had I not run out of condoms.  She did want to go again because she was on birth control but I shut that down.\n\nAnyways.  She realizes her housekeeper is coming in the morning and wanted to take me home.  Fine, I had spent the night before but whatever makes her comfortable.  She seemed like she had sobered up so fine to drive.  Drops me off at home and drives home.\n\nAnyways, the next day I was playfully texting her and she seems upset/distant.  She was upset because I gave her a hickey (she has sensitive skin which I didn't know. Certainly not my intent. This isn't high school) which is understandable and I apologized.  Aside from that, she just seems cold/distant and less playful since then.  She seems upset in the fact that maybe she shouldn't have been driving but took responsibility for that.\n\nAny advise other than giving a little space?  I certainly don't want to give the appearance that I am cutting out now that I got sex.", "summary": "Woman came over (her idea) to have sex.  Did.  Now acting distant/cold."}
{"id": "t3_4zk5ha", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] I am getting a new puppy in 30 days. Is it ok to have the puppy around my in-law's golden retreivers that are not vaccinated?", "post": "My fiancee and I rent her parent's guest house. We have one dog (lemon borador) and her parents have 2 golden retrievers. Her parents do not vaccinate their dogs. Her mom is one of those insane people that think vaccination poisons you and causes birth defects and autism (she also didn't vaccinate her children, but luckily there is nothing wrong with her daughter haha). Anyways, will it be safe to have our 8 week old scottish collie around their dogs? My main concern is with parvo obviously, but her dogs are relatively healthy and do not really come into contact with other dogs since they are kept at home all the time and never taken out. Can a dog carry parvo without suffering from it? Or Am i being too cautious and shouldn't worry about anything since neither of the dogs have any health issues?", "summary": "getting a scottish collie puppy in 30 days, live with 3 other dogs. 2 of them do not get vaccinations. Should i keep the puppy away from them until it's last round of vaccinations?"}
{"id": "t3_lgy6x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the grossest thing you've ever done? I'll start...", "post": "Okay, I have never told anyone this before, but when I was little (about 4th grade) I was in class, and my teacher had a plastic bag. Inside the plastic bag contained owl droppings warped in aluminum foil (for disection), and my teacher called them our \"treats\" (the class had no idea what they were at the time). Because she said treats, my brain thought \"oh okay, this is food\". So I receive the \"treat\", open the aluminum packaging, and fucking took a bite out of it. I thought it tasted weird, and it was crunchy (due to the mice bones) and spit it out before almost anyone noticed. it blew over, thank god.", "summary": "I ate owl vomit."}
{"id": "t3_3orren", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] cut off friend [18 F] of 4 years, because she lied.", "post": "I recently basically told my friend of 4 years to fuck off and never talk to me again. It's a weird situation, so here it is.\n\nI was friends with this girl for 4 years, I was dating a different girl for the last two years of our friendship. My ex broke up with me this past spring and I started hanging out with my friend a lot more. She said that I meant a lot to her, and I am the closest person in her life.\n\nWe hung out a lot together this summer, and in the past month, we developed feelings for each other. She told me she was falling for me, and I was falling for her as well. We decided to try dating, we kissed, fooled around, and were happy.\n\nAfter two weeks she started acting weird, so I just decided to call off the relationship and just be friends, just trying to get things back to the way they were. Everything was going fine being friends again until two days ago. She started texting my best friend and sent him nudes, also saying she never cared for me and never liked me. Well, my buddy told me everything that she said to him. I texted her saying it was a bummer that she lied to me. I blocked her on facebook, deleted her number, and told her to have a nice life.\n\nDid I over react? Honestly, I feel like I was played. It just didn't feel like a 2 way relationship after the past month. I felt like I was just keeping her company until she found someone better.", "summary": "Girl that was a friend said she had feelings for me, we dated for two weeks, broke up, then she sent nudes to best friend and told him she never cared for me."}
{"id": "t3_2zjdz2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently telling a dirty joke to my teacher", "post": "So this happened this afternoon at school. \n\nMy friend and I went to our club meeting. So we tell jokes to each other a lot. As we were setting up, he put down something next to the spot I was working and I decided to annoy him. I leaned down into his ear and whispered, \"FCK ME DADDY.\" Well, as the titles implies, that wasn't my friend... it was my teacher. He just gets up and stares at me. We're just standing there stearing at each other. Eventually he goes away but that was probably the most awkward moment I have ever had with a teacher. Probably.", "summary": "just read it, it's not even that long /(#-#)/"}
{"id": "t3_497wf2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 f] with my ex [20 M] working on repairing our relationship...should I tell him I had sex with someone while we were broken up?", "post": "My partner of 6 years left me about 4 months ago to go explore with a girl from work. He started giving me breadcrumbs about a month ago, and two weeks ago we started talking again. He and that girl severed ties and he claims he learned from his mistakes, has apologized over and over again, and says he wants to work on regaining my trust.\n\nAbout a month and a half post break up I started seeing this guy on Tinder. Just casual dates, he got out of a relationship the same time I did, so we weren't looking for anything committed. The dates, companionship, and sex were awesome but I soon realized that I wasn't over my ex and things started to fizzle out. They didn't end on a bad note or anything, but they just ended. And then my ex came back into the picture.\nI want a relationship rich with honesty, but I don't even know if this is something worth disclosing to my ex. He also has a tendency to be a slut shamer so that also fuels my hesitation. But I also don't want it to come out later on and have him feel like I was lying to him.", "summary": "Should I tell my ex that I slept with someone while we were broken up?"}
{"id": "t3_1y0h9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] many past heartbreaks are causing problems now.", "post": "Well, I don't really know how in-depth I want to go with this, but basically, I've never had any successes at relationships of any sort. Middle/High school (The period in which I assume most people figure this sort of stuff out) for me, mostly involved getting lead on by multiple girls. The last one, during 11th grade was particularly brutal, and after that I basically gave upon finding love. \n\nBefore heading off to university this past year, I decided to do a complete makeover: lost a bunch of weight, developed a fashion sense, started taking better care of my appearance. Came to university to find myself rather inexperienced and hopeless when it came to flirting/seduction. This has caused me to blow several chances I've had come my way. I suspect the root cause is the fact that I can't get it into my head that people might actually like me\n\nI even found a girl who managed to push past all my nonsense, but I freaked out at getting close to someone and pushed her away (rather harshly) and now she probably has no desire to talk to me. Kinda despondent at this point in time. What should I do? Anything to help my confidence or whatever it is that's causing me to be such an idiot.", "summary": "Many past heartbreaks = Zero abilities with talking to girls now. What can I do to fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3h3dzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] just learned my parents are separating, need advice", "post": "I just received a call from my mom, she told me that she is breaking up with my dad. They have been married for almost twenty years. \n\nMy parents have quite different personalities. While my mom is very active and outgoing, my dad is rather introverted. That's why she wasn't happy anymore. My dad was fine living their everyday lives while my mom had to take initiave for everything (going out, vacation, ...).\n\nI was at work when she called me. While I was fine at first, I now have so many crushing thoughts roaming in my head. No more christmas as a family. When i graduate university, they will not be proud of me as my parents, but as two seperated instances in my life. My future children will never have them together as grandparents. I'm holding back tears while writing this.\n\nHow can i cope with this pain? I'm sure my mother will do fine, she is a strong person. But I'm worried that my father might do something drastic, become an alcoholic or even kill himself. He does not have any hobbies nor many friends or relatives to support him but me. I'm scared, I feel helpless and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My parents are seperating after almost twenty years of marriage. I don't know how to cope with this and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_38dj9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my significant other [22 F] not sure how to move forwards with our relationship", "post": "Three weeks ago I met an amazing young woman at a wedding. We immediately clicked on quite a few levels and we had a lot of fun at the wedding and reception. I ended the night getting her number and we ended up having lunch the next day.\n\nUnfortunately we live four hours apart so at the end of the afternoon i had to make the long drive home. Over the next few weeks we Skyped most evenings and last weekend she visited me for the weekend. Overall I feel like things are going really well between us so far but there are two problems.\n\nFirst, about five months ago her boyfriend died in an accident and she is clearly still hung up on it. Several times she has clearly been shaken up by that and she has lingering feelings. I can't even begin to imagine what she's going through with that and I do my best to comfort her. She's clearly willing to open up to me in every way, but this is still definitely something she has going on.\n\nSecond, if things go forwards its going to be long distance. We live four hours apart. I'm in graduate school, she's in medical school so we're both pretty busy. There are definitely a lot of challenges there for both of us because we both want to succeed at what we're doing.\n\nI'm looking for any advice going forwards. She and I have talked about our future but she was very tentative about it. I told her I want to leave most of that in her court since she knows how I feel and she has some serious things to work through.", "summary": "I met an amazing girl at a wedding a few weeks ago and we immediately clicked but she has some serious baggage and its probably going to be long distance. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3js8rd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [27F] and I [29M] can't decide where we should settle down", "post": "My gf and I are Singaporeans, and we are now both in Japan for work. We've dated for the last 4 years, and we are perfect for each other. Except one thing.\n\nI love Japan. I love the culture, the cleanliness, the people, and everything about it here. I want to work here, settle down here, and it's my dream to raise my kids here. My gf and I have lived in Japan for the last 2 years, and as far as I know, she's enjoying herself here too. We plan to get married here soon, and I want us to stay here indefinitely. I see Japan as a much better place to raise a kid, as the education system is broader, unlike Singapore's which focuses on academics and is highly stressful. \n\nHowever, she doesn't share my dream. She wants to go back to Singapore, because she doesn't want to abandon her friends and family. She mopes whenever she misses a friend's birthday or family event back home. From my point of view, we won't miss much if we take regular trips back to Singapore, but she claims it is the daily face-to-face interactions she crave. \n\nShe thought that spending 2 years here with me would be enough for me, and that we will return to Singapore after getting married here. On the other hand, I thought that spending 2 years here together can convince her that it can work out in Japan in the long run, and that we can settle here after getting married.\n\nWe've talked about this for the last 3 years and both of us have refused to give in, and we have kicked this can down the road this whole time. We plan to get married in Japan at the end of the month, mainly because I want a Japanese marriage certificate. Furthermore, our companies are sending us back to Singapore in November, so this can't be delayed any longer. Must one of us give in to make it work? We really are perfect for each other and we both probably wouldn't find someone else better than we are for each other. I want to marry her and Japan, while she wants to marry me and Singapore. What we really know is that we want to be together. What should we do..", "summary": "We're getting married soon and either I have to give up on my dreams or she has to abandon her friends and family."}
{"id": "t3_30brrr", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Smothering Dog", "post": "My one year old lab/coonhound mix male puppy has this really odd habit of climbing on me, even though he is (at this point) pretty large. He climbs up on my lap, or behind me on the couch, or lays behind my head when I'm in bed and then presses his neck or chin on my face and just lays there. He doesn't move and presses down on my face, full weight. Even when I laugh or try to move,  he just lays there. He will do it for minutes and minutes at a time.\n\nHe noses his way under my head if I am laying and forces my head on top of his. He will lay his entire chest across my face. The result is adorable, but I am curious why he does this. He doesn't do it to my boyfriend who lives with me at all.\n\nI have read a couple different things (dominance, scent swapping, comforting, etc. ) I wanted to see what you guys thought?", "summary": "My large one year old puppy smothers my face with his chin/neck and I want to know why."}
{"id": "t3_28djss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my Fiancee [25M] of 4 years, we've had a rough 12 months and I would like to make it up to him somehow. <3", "post": "My Fiancee and I have been through a hard year. We moved into our own apartment together in a new city with new jobs and no friends living close by. We've been on the verge of splitting up and I've underestimated him time after time. This is my turning point.\n\nI've been a pretty shit partner in the past. Due to my anxiety issues I constantly worry and try to control everything in my life to make it perfect. I've put my partner through some ordeals when I've been out of control, crazy and have asked too much of him. He's always been 100% supportive of me and genuinely loves me unconditionally. He does his best for me (even if seemingly at the time I'm saying it's not enough) and I really want to do something special for him just to let him know I appreciate him more than anything and am thankful for everything he's put up with from me.\n\nI am a very romantic person but lack inspiration and imagination. I want to do something for him that isn't cheesy but that really lets him know that he's my soul mate and the most perfect person in the world to me. (jesus I feel like I'm gonna burst into tears)", "summary": "Taken my partner for granted and I want to make a gesture to him just to say 'thanks for everything, I love you so much'."}
{"id": "t3_1loyhq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is just going in for the kiss the best route? Me (21m) and her (21f) have been doing this for a year now.", "post": "I know this is very childish.\n\nWe've known each other for a year and a half and have been mutually interested for at least a year. A year of seeing each other at least once a week and a year of talking, being alone together, hanging outside of work (I know the troubles of dating coworkers) together, and building a flirtatious interaction. But honestly we're both to chicken to make a defining move. Mainly because being alone isn't as often and predictable as I'd like. Even though I have a feeling that one or more coworkers knows about this; and I actually suspect every female coworker knows.\n\nI feel like I should plan the perfect date and go out with her a few times on structured dates, but honestly all I want to do is build a moment and get her close enough to get the physical out of the way. What do the women reading this think?", "summary": "Plan the perfect date or just make a confident move?"}
{"id": "t3_1c67fj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have been struggling with decision of breaking up with my long term, long(ish) distance girlfriend [22f]", "post": "I have been dating a great girl for almost 3 years now. She lives about an hour and a half away, and we see each other every other weekend, usually visiting each other's colleges. We also spend large chunks of our college breaks together.\n\nA while ago it clicked to me that there are too many differences in our interests for this to be something I want for the rest of my life. I love her and spending time together is great, but I think I owe it to both of us to come clear.  I don't want to spend all of our time watching movies and netflix together. There are other things we do, but I don't think that our future interests match enough for it to be viable.\n\nWe are both graduating soon and she is looking to move away from home, while I plan on staying at mine. She is applying for jobs that would start in the fall (teacher), and I don't want to be an influence in where she goes if I don't think it will work. \n\nThis has been eating me inside and I have been failing to acknowledge it because I have no idea how to approach it. The relationship has no problems and I know she doesn't know what I'm going through. She would be blindsided. I need to tell her, but how? Every time we visit each other it is planned. I feel the best way to break up with someone is face to face (especially after 3 years). But I don't want to show up to her doorstep and drop this on her. And she gets so excited to see me when I visit, I can't show up to her college with nothing packed and tell her. \n\nI'm at a complete loss and I think I will make it worse on her the longer I wait. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Healthy 3 year relationship with girl 1.5 hours away, realized that we are not compatible long term. No idea how to approach telling her"}
{"id": "t3_39fppw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] Friends[17 M] have started to give me shit because of a Career choice i made.", "post": "I have been friends with these dudes(5 of them) since middle school.All of us were in the same Spanish and bio class until the first year of high school.\n\nThere is this guy lets call him (DAVE) who always had my back no mater what.But then there's the other guy lets call him (Mr ignorance).\n\nRecently both us got into an accident where he snitched on me and told the cops i was the one driving whereas he was the one driving,Both of were not intoxicated btw.He was hurt badly with half his face full of stitches,whereas i escaped unhurt.After that he has started acting weird.I tried to ignore him as much as i could,wont pickup his calls,wont reply to text's etc.\n\nThing is this dude has now started to make meme's and post captions relating to a Career choice i made,i wasn't selected into a specific university/college thus i decided to take a gap and appear for the entrance exam again next year to get into a field i want to make my Career in(Computer science,game dev).\n\nQuick Background :- Mr ignorance has always acted weird after seeing other's happy,He was pissed at himself when he saw my game library and my pc,when i got my bike,when this other friend who is part of our wolf pack lets call him (Catdude) got himself two cure Kittens,a projected i did got an A.One could see in Mr ignorance's eyes how much he hated other's success or happiness.He once tried to rip my expensive mechanical keyboard's key cap,and when i confronted him about this he claims to have removed it accidentally while playing.Which is know is impossible being a nerd. \n\nThis is i want to confront this dude for once,put a full stop to this.I am fed up of him with all those meme's .\n\nI have considered ddosing him and other options but that would be kinda illegal.", "summary": "A so called friend hate's me for no reason,has started cyberbullying need to put an end to it,confront him about it."}
{"id": "t3_4ccjix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32M] wife [27F] hates the extra work time I put in. I think it's a way smaller deal than she does.", "post": "So I'm [32M] trying to basically start up my small company. It's been incorporated for a few years now but only until this year has it had any real profit. I firmly believe that businesses are very hard and I consider this recent, if small, sucess quite a milestone.\n\nWhen my wife [27F] and I first started dating she said she was so proud of me for having my own business, even if it wasn't really sucessful, and that she would absolutely support me throughout. I had (and still have) a day job as well, but she didn't seem to mind me spending extra time at work - either at the office or in the business - back then.\n\nWe now have a young (~1.5y) daughter, and I feel I have adjusted accordingly. While I keep spending time towards my business, I have cut back on hours at my day job to the bare minimum. When we are together, as a family, I try not to get bothered by work - however at times I have said to her \"while I'm home today, I will be working\", as needed for the business. But I do feel my company is essential for us - my day job is \"safe\" but won't help us much when I retire, she doesn't work anymore since the baby came and so we need all the extra money we can get, and to be thinking long term moneywise.\n\nRecently it's been a huge problem for her. For instance, last week I had to attend a longish meeting (4+ hours) in the evening, and she was upset the next morning (I arrived after they were asleep). It has caused huge arguments between us, because they way I see it, I'm working for them and I feel like I'm trying hard not to be singlemindedly focused on work and neglecting them. But it seems for her my efforts are not enough.", "summary": "My wife seems to think I work too much and I'm neglecting my family. I feel indignant because I have made conscious efforts to prevent it, and circumstances demand I work \"more than bare minimum.\""}
{"id": "t3_pbnz9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lot's of \"acts of kindness\" posts here, but what act of kindness have you *received* from another person that made your day?", "post": "To me:\n\nI'm outside of a pub, really upset and feeling shitty. I go to light a cigarette, and I realize I've got none left. So, of course, I ask to bum one off of someone else who's also come out for a cig. Conversation:\n\nMe: Hi, can I bum a cig? I'm all out.\n\nHer: No, I'm all out of cigarettes to give right now. You came sort of at the wrong moment; I've been giving them out all night. \n\n*She lights a cig from a pack about a quarter full*\n\nHer: But I'll tell you what. I'll give you two.\n\n*She hands me a dollar and walks away, saying something along the lines of:* \"I won't have enough cigs to last me tomorrow evening if I gave you one tonight.\"\n\nI say \"thank you,* but I don't think she heard me. A pack where I was at the time is about $10, the average pack holding 20 cigs. It was cool and sort of offbeat.", "summary": "girl gives me a dollar when I asked for one cigarette."}
{"id": "t3_xz8c9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help!  Myfitnesspal Plateau Issues", "post": "I am a 23 (in a couple weeks) year old female weighing 221 lbs (~100kg) standing about 5'9\" (1.75m).\n\nI started myfitnesspal about a year ago or so... I lost 15 lbs/6.8kg almost right away and was really pleased but I have hit a plateau I just CANNOT get over.  I gain and lose the same 5 lbs over and over again.  Then I quit counting seriously for about a month, had a wake-up call, and it's time to lose those 5 lbs over again! \n\nMy only problem is this plateau.  Currently I have myfitnesspal's goal set to 1560 Cal (based on the how much do you weigh/how much do you want to lose thing they do) and don't closely follow the specific nutrient break-down.  I do make a conscious effort to chose either veggies or protein-rich snacks (light cheese, greek yogurt) during the day.  The only thing is these more-filling things are more calories!!\n\nI am on w3d2 of C25K and loving it, plus I try to get some weightlifting in 2x/week so I am doing a pretty good job staying active.", "summary": "Should I lower the calorie limit on the app? If so, what are your tips for filling meals (breakfasts in particular) and snacks that are fast/easy to pack?  I have a lot of trouble feeling full even on the 1560 Cal.  Thanks for any advice!"}
{"id": "t3_2xi7h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16F] I get Bullied at School", "post": "Hi, I have pretty severe problems at school with bullying. Everyone makes fun of me and stuff, and there is a group of girls in particular that bully me. They started bullying me after once I was walking at lunch and they were smoking weed, I told the principle and they got in trouble, they found out I told and then they started bullying me. I am from Colombia, I have been living in Canada for two years. They make fun of my accent and say I'm illegal immigrant, they say a lot racist stuff about me and it makes me very upset. I have a boyfriend I've been dating for 6 months, and he is younger than me (only by one year, he is fourteen turning fifteen this year) and those girls make fun of me for that too they say I'm slut and pedo and stuff like that, they also make fun of me for being underweight, they say I'm anorexic and that I put finger down my throat to make myself to throw up to stay skinny. All the stuff they say about me makes me depressed.\n\nI'm very shy and I am afraid to stand up to them, they have like sit next to me in the cafeteria when i was eating alone and they sat with me pretending to be friends with me in a sarcastic way and it made me feel really awkward and they said are you going to go to the bathroom and throw your food up after, I started crying and stuff. They always say mean stuff and I'm afraid to speak up for myself, I have started crying right in front of them even. Then they make fun of me even more for crying. I don't know how to deal with it and I want the bullying to stop.", "summary": "My family have move to Canada and girls at school bully me and say racist things.."}
{"id": "t3_3b1jlj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By smoking pot outside", "post": "Long time reader, outcoming poster. Today, my friend were staying at a nice hotel. 11 rolls around and we roll some joints. The hotel is relatively secluded, so we felt safe smoking outside. My friend and I start downing the joint, and this white car pulls in right in front of us. The dude gets out of the car slowly, and approaches us. He tells us we have the right idea, and tells us this story about his recent diet. He then grabs a bag of cookies, and gives them to us. He then walks off into the hotel. I start talking, loudly, about how lucky it was we smoked pot tonight. Then, the driver's side door opens on the black car in front of us, and an old man comes out with this disgusted look. He then just backed away to the hotel, and walked off.", "summary": "Don't yell about smoking pot :\\"}
{"id": "t3_20ogcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] think my SO [40F] of a year isn't over her ex of 16 years who she still visits.", "post": "This is my first real relationship and I'm constantly second guessing everything about it. I love her very much but I fear that I lack the tools required for this relationship to succeed. I already have trust issues that root from my mother being a compulsive liar. Now I want to trust her when she tells me that she doesn't want to be with her ex anymore but I don't know if I can. \n\nShe was with her ex for 16 years and raised his children. They have a vehicle loan together, she still has mail going to his home, and hasn't taken all of her belongings yet either. She still texts him often but will act surprised that he's texting her if I'm wary of it happening.\n\nAm I wrong to think that it's just a matter of time before she rekindles things with her ex?", "summary": "My SO still talks to and visits her ex of 16 years , who she also shares financials with. I'm worried about our future. Need some kind of advice."}
{"id": "t3_2jl92i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25] M just found out my father [55] M is having an affair with my mother 50 [F]", "post": "I've come here asking for some advice. I just found out that my father is cheating on my mother. This all started roughly 5 years ago when my father caught my mother cheating on him. Then in retaliation my father cheated back with this lady. So they worked threw it but ever since this occurred the marriage hasn't been the same.\n\nFast forward to today, my sister has the family locator app and located my father who was at the ladies house from the previous affair and my mother is currently away on a trip with my sister. My mother has been suffering from anxiety as well so I am scared of I tell her she will have a nervous break down. She also comes back from her trip in 6 days. So reddit I'm completely lost and i and not sure what to do. I really could use some advice and I don't want to see my family fall apart.", "summary": "My father is having an affair on my mother whose currently on vacation. I am not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1cz0nh", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "TIA? Seizure? Try your hand at online diagnosis.", "post": "Hello r/dogs.\n\nThis afternoon as I let our two dogs (1 foster, 1 ours) into the house, I noticed that our foster dog (8-10 year old lab) was hunkered down on the ground and shaking.\n\nHe was able to shuffle inside (1 meter) and which point he stopped. Left side (front and back legs) were shaking (shiver shaking, not seizure shaking). Normally he does not let me touch him anywhere but his face and neck. As he lay there I was able to do a rapid body assessment (trying to find blood, broken bones, pulse).\n\nEverything checked out - except this dog that normally bites me when I touch his back or legs is meekly letting me touch him and shaking like he's freezing. Also he's got tears streaming from his right eye and he's panting and drooling far more than normal.\n\nWithin 5 minutes of discovering him on the deck like this, he was able to stand, and 5 minutes after being able to stand he's bouncing around the house like nothing ever happened.\n\nI called my local vet, spoke with the Vet tech at the front desk.\nShe advised me to monitor him, and if it happens again, bring him in.\nThe rescue is also comfortable with this approach.\nHe's spent the remainder of the afternoon doing his normal behaviour and not having any deficits that I can observe.\n\nPersonally I think this may have been a small stroke (transient ischemic attack).", "summary": "Has anyone had a dog that has had a TIA?"}
{"id": "t3_unbid", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "25f How do you have the \"what are we\" conversation?", "post": "So I started talking with this guy, 23, for about a month or so (we met online). He was always trying me to meet up with him and eventually we did. We had two meetings, a week apart before I went to his apartment to hang out and we made out (one of which he paid for).\n\nAfter this happened, I kinda of tested the waters with a \"what are you looking for\" question and he said \"just feeling it out\". I thought, whatever, this is going nowhere.\n\nA week later, we slept together and for the past two weeks or so, we've seen each other a couple times a week, all resulting in sex. We also text like crazy and flirt and what not. We had an intense text convo about what we like sexually.\n\nYesterday he asked me to stay the night, but I couldn't because I had work in the morning (or else I would have). He also started calling me cute nicknames and really focusing on pleasuring me more.\n\nSince the sex has been super awesome and I really like him and he is suuuuper cute, I want to know if we can be a relationship. I told him somewhat recently that I would like to figure out what is going on. I'm not going to be hurt if its just a sex thing but I wouldn't be mad if he wanted to be more serious.\n\nI am going on a business trip soon and I won't be able to see him so I'd like to know what is up. I've not met any of his friends, minus his roommate and he hasn't met any of my friends. He has invited me to group things with his social circle though but we have opposite work schedules (I work days, he works nights).", "summary": "I like a younger guy. Known him 2ish-3 months, 1 month has been \"dating like\". Said he wants to know how its going, but I want to have the talk because my feelings are stronger now."}
{"id": "t3_3z21q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(21m) and one of my closest friends (21f) have become interested in each other. She's not single", "post": "So I've always been absolutely disgusted by the concept of cheating. But recently this girl who I've been friends with since 3rd grade told me she's regretted not being in a relationship with me while we were both in high school. I like her, she likes me.\n\nShe's also in a long term relationship, with a guy I know fairly well.\nShould I just tell her I won't get emotionally invested until she decides what she's going to do about her bf? It's not fair to her, and especially not to him to act like we are.\n\nIf we dated it would be 2 hours long distance, not much is going to change that. I'm just looking for an outlet to talk to people about this.", "summary": "a very long lasting friendship has suddenly become something more, but the girl has a bf. If we dated it would be long distance. I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_48xks7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] am being shunned by my former high school friends, and I don't know why", "post": "This has been apparent to me for a long time, but I never realized how much it bothered me until now. \n\nSo, I had a great friend circle back then. I used to think until this recent embargo on me that we were close. Frankly, I can't figure out why I'm being excluded. And yes, I am being very much purposely excluded. Like, they seem to be determined to collectively pretend I never existed. I am not invited whenever they get back together anymore, nobody reciprocates when I try to get in touch etc. They apparently all arranged to have a party thrown for the fucking school bully but none of them wished me on my birthday.", "summary": "Old friends are purposely leaving me out."}
{"id": "t3_1qh5gd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, when is the right time to tell someone you love them? Is it strange if the woman says it first?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I am using a throw away because my SO is a Redditor.\n\nSo, I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 3 months. We are both very busy and career-driven people, but we eat dinner together every night and spend every night together. (We have not slept separately in over 2 months). He makes me insanely happy; he is my best friend in a lot of ways, and I feel like we are the perfect complements to each other in a lot of ways. \n\nFor the last couple of weeks I have wanted to tell my SO that I love him, but I am afraid for several reasons. \n\n1) It may be \"too soon.\" \n\n2) I feel vulnerable.\n\n3) I actually haven't told someone I love them since my last LTR (which was two years ago). \n\n4) I have never said it first, and part of me thinks that it might be because I was brought up to believe that men should say it first.\n\nNow, I feel that he loves me too. The way he looks at me, how thoughtful he is, the little things he does for me, all leads me to believe that he loves me too. I've met all of his significant family members, I've met all of his friends, we dressed up in a couples costume for Halloween, etc. But on some level I do not really know because he has not said it.\n\nI guess I just want to know if it's strange that I am so scared, and if you all felt that it was too soon to tell him how I feel. How do you feel about women saying it first?", "summary": "When is the right time to say you love someone? Should I (a female) be afraid to say it first?"}
{"id": "t3_4r84rq", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I read the wiki and more and I'm still confused: Traditional or Roth IRA?", "post": "I'm 30 years old, single, and make $28,000/yr gross. I have an employer-matched 457(b) plan through Fidelity to which I contribute 10% (they match up to 6%). I also have a Traditional IRA through Principal that I opened a year ago when I rolled over a 403(b) valued at roughly $10k from a previous employer. I contribute $100 a month to that, which I pay from my checking account when I get paid. \n\nI'm wanting to roll my Principal IRA into a Fidelity IRA. I'm planning on applying for their Rewards Visa in the next year or so. (No, I will not carry a balance on this card!)\n\nMy question is, if I'm contributing to my IRA from my checking account after taxes, wouldn't a Roth IRA be a better choice? Especially considering the amount I'm contributing is probably on the low end. Otherwise, I'm being taxed on my IRA when I'm withdrawing 40 years from now, which is kind of like paying taxes on the same money twice - isn't it? When I rolled my old 403(b) into a traditional IRA I was pretty much following the advice of the Prinicpal financial advisor because I had no idea what I was doing, but I'd like not to be ignorant about this. When I roll my Principal IRA into a new Fidelity account should I go for a Roth instead?", "summary": "read the wiki, still confused - Traditional or Roth?"}
{"id": "t3_15jyet", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My Daughter made me feel like an asshole today. Reddit, when have your kids made you feel bad by doing somerhing good?", "post": "Today I went with my SO and our three year old to get our car washed. There were two benches, and my SO and daughter sat at one. I went to go sit next to our little one, and she said, \"No, don't sit here.\"\n\nHurt, I sat next to my SO and started loudly playing our girl's favorite game on my phone. When she came over to play, I said, \"no, you weren't nice.\"\n\nMy fiance\u00e9 then said, \"why did you tell daddy not to sit here?\" Our little one says, \"cause this is the girl's bench. The boy's bench is over there.\" Then my SO said, \"do you love daddy?\" And then our girl said, \"of course I love daddy.\" I felt like an asshole and let her play with my phone immediately.", "summary": "our little girl made me feel like an asshole by trying to play a game with me and I didn't realize it."}
{"id": "t3_323ogr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to get my message across to this girl?", "post": "I'm no first-time poster or lurker here, but I know the first objection you have to this post is that it should belong in /r/relationships or /r/seduction. While I'd almost agree, I lurk both and don't really feel that they'd give me the answer I need whereas you might.\n\nSo I've been friends with a girl for about 1 1/2 years, and we talk all the time both irl and over text. Over the past couple months, her best friend has started dating one of my friends, and so to not third-wheel all of her best friend's dates(they do almost everything together), she's been inviting me on double-date-ish scenarios. This has occurred in the last two weeks.\n\nTuesday before last I asked her to hang out with me, and we ended up just talking for 3 or so hours and hanging out around town. On Monday we did the same kind of thing, except I implemented  lots of kino(physicality) to which she was pretty receptive. That and other things lead me to believe she's interested. \n\nProblem: she hasn't had her first relationship and she's looking for something meaningful/lasting. I can't be that, because I'm graduating soon and I'll be leaving to college in the fall.", "summary": "starts here"}
{"id": "t3_4bvclx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] not sure what to do with my wife [29 F] after my emotional affair", "post": "I know I suck already. As my throwaway name shows.\n\nI've been in an emotional affair for about six months now. My wife and I have been married for only one year but have been together for about nine years before that. We've cohabited for about five years and only waited to \"make it official\" until we had the money to do so. Our marriage is comfortable and supportive, but ultimately, we haven't been very close for several years \u2014 we tend to have separate interests and don't open up personally anymore. Date nights often involve going to dinner and running out of things to talk about. I feel like marriage was a mistake.\n\nAs for the affair, she lives in a different city and only visits occasionally. For some time it looked like she would be moving here, but now that's not the case. The affair is emotional \u2014 we talk, we support each other; no sexting, no dirty pictures, nothing like that. We shared one kiss when she was in town last and that is the extent of our physical relationship. We both talked about doing what was needed to be together, but she has an offer she can't refuse for her career and I encouraged her to pursue it. I am further in my career and am not in a position where I could move.\n\nThe affair is over. And I am very aware of the fact that my marriage is clearly not working either. I know I've been cheating, and if I were in my wife's position, I would probably not want to be with me after that. I don't know how to go about repairing that relationship or if it's repairable.", "summary": "Ended an emotional affair and don't know if/how to go back to being involved in my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_1zm9n0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my ex[27 M], need help/advice on going NC", "post": "Okay, so I'm going to try and shorten the story as much so I don't wall o' text you guys.\n\nMy ex and I have been separated for a little over two years, we were dating for 4. After the fact, people told me that he was emotionally abusive, though I never saw it. But he did have a major effect on my self confidence and the way I handle things, I admit that.\n\nI've been with my new guy for... about 5 months? Something like that. (If you remember at all, I posted about having intimacy issues early on in this relationship - I can safely say that is fully resolved.) \n\nHere's my problem, my SO would like me to go full NC with my ex, as he believes he's toxic. I somewhat agree, but I'm having a hard time blocking him from everything. I'm not sure what it is, fear or something else.\n\nI know what the right thing to do is. I should go NC with my ex, as he's clearly a terrible person (he tried to kill his new girlfriend a month back).\n\nI'm just having trouble doing it.", "summary": "I should go NC with my ex, but I need a push to do it."}
{"id": "t3_3hq2nk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Forgot to pay 2nd mortgage, 30 days before refinance", "post": "I have a 5.25 fixed rate, and really want to refi and cash out to move on from a very difficult and bad chapter in my life.  I did have a few 30 day \"lates\" 2 years ago because divorce.  \n\nI have been working with a loan officer and pulled credit back in January.   He said I should be good with 24 months of on-time payments.  I pay online every month, and have been religious about this. I am not sure how I missed paying my 2nd mortgage in July, it is only $250.00.  \n\nI have been grooming my credit carefully with a growing credit line and paying off everything monthly. My mid score was 639, just a whisker too low to refi. \n\nSo yesterday I got a letter in the mail from BOA that they were going to start foreclosure. I was shocked, as I have been paying on time, every time for 23 months.  yes, 23 months!!!!! \n\nIt's not like I didn't have the money. It was a stupid mistake, I must have gotten distracted when I was logged into the website and only paid one. \n\nAnyway, as soon as I got the letter I called BOA and paid, a whole 20 days after the end of July.  They said they could not forgive the 30 day late since it happened and was my fault.   \n\nSo here is my question.... am I f'd for refi? for how long?   I have seen a few posts about credit repair services, does anyone have experience with them?  Help me /r/personalfinance, you are my only hope!", "summary": "30 day late just before refinance. now what?"}
{"id": "t3_1666yt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex bf [26/m] sent me naked pics of me [28/f], I'm afraid he will make them public. Need advice.", "post": "I'm a girl (28) and now I'm dating a 37 guy. On October 2011 I ended a relationship with this other guy, let's call him Richard (26), we used to have a long distance relationship which lasted for a year and a half, he came to live to my country but things got messy, he was jealous and I used to work 24/7 and didn't have time for him, so he ended the relationship and we last met on 2012 New Year's Eve, where we said horrible things to never talk again. He went back to his country, only to find out that once I cheated on him by hacking my mail. I found out it was him because Richard sent screenshots of my conversations to a friend he thought I was dating (with a fake account).\n\nOn this New Year's eve I got this text message: \"Hey girl, some naked pictures of you are out there on the Internet, check your mail. Btw, nice tits\". I was on a trip with my new BF having the time of my life, and asked him for his smart phone to check my mail. When I saw the fake account, where they sent the texts from, I knew it was Richard. Then I saw the pictures, they show only my boobs, he covered my face with Photoshop or something. The \"anonimous\" message was \"Look what I found, be careful, ok?\" and nothing else. I didn't answer the mail, so today I got another text message from the same server that said \"Hey, nice pictures of you\". \n\nBy knowing this guy, I can tell he is really jealous from my new relationship and on New Year's eve he remembered our last and horrible fight. Please, don't judge me and help me, I really don't know what to do or how to react, he got those pics from when we used to have cybersex, but I never thought he would try to do something to me. Richard thinks I didn't notice that it's him, what can I do?", "summary": "Ex long distance boyfriend saved naked pictures of me while cybering long time ago, got jealous of my new relationship and wants to make them public. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3lsq6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18M] girlfriend[18F] of 2 months started acting very distant and I don't know what to do", "post": "So untill last week everything was just great and going so well, like really the best month of my life. We were seeing eachother daily and she was so caring and would always want to be with me and stay around me.\n\nBut now something has changed. All of a sudden, she started acting like she doesn't even want to be near me anymore. Before school started, she said we will go at her place after school and chill or stuff like that, but now that school actually started not only that she didn't invite me anywhere, but everytime I ask her out she said she doesn't want to and stuff like that. \n\nSo I decided to ask what's wrong and she said that she found out something about her past that she can't tell anyone and that she feels like staying home in bed all day. Ok so I tried to understand that and be supportive, but she just acts like we aren't even togheter anymore and I don't understand why.\n\nFor example even when we see eachother at school, she only kisses me when we see eachother and when we leave, she doesn't call me at all to see me or ask what I'm doing and I just don't know what to do. Also, didn't have sex in like 2 weeks.\n\nI just don't know how to approach this..I was thinking of talking to her but I did that before and asked if she wants to take a break or something, but all she keeps saying is \"I don't even know what I feel right now\" and is avoiding the subject.\n\nI don't know what to do about this. Should I ask her again? Should I be more supportive? Should I buy her flowers or something and tell her how much I still love her?  Should I just wait some time?\nOr is there something better to do?", "summary": "Girlfriend got distant and I need help in finding out what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_wqx69", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I become more sociable/talkative?", "post": "So reddit, for the last 4-5 years I've been socially digressing.  I've spent the majority of days alone in my room.  I've basically have no friends at all at this point.  It's been years since I've been invited to go anywhere with any of them.  I've never been too talkative in my life, but now I can't seem to communicate with anyone.  I even have trouble talking with my family.  If I ever do go out and do anyhting, I always end up sitting there silently.  I've had past relationship end because of this, which hurts.  I have a current realtionship with a girl I really like thats starting to not go so well because of this.  My problem is that I can never think of anything to say.  I don't know how to start a converstation, and if I happen to get one going, I find it very challenging to keep it going.  She's starting to think that I don't care, but that couldn't be farther from the truth, I just can't find anything to say to anybody to save my life.  What I want to know is basically, how to be more talkative.  How to get conversations started, how to keep them going, how to always have something to say.  I see people that talk no-stop, how do they do it?  Why is it such a challenge for me?  Please help me find a solution or give me some tips.  I desperately need them.", "summary": "I can't carry a converstaion on with anyone, and it's ruining my relationship.  Please help."}
{"id": "t3_rms7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should i leave without telling her anything?", "post": "Thanks for taking your time to check this out. I tried r/relationships with no luck\n\nSo theres this girl that I've just been in love with for years now and whenever i confront her with these feeling she always tells me that shes not good in relationships and that shes going to hurt me (i know red flag1). I brush it off and just alright. Whenever i try to just drop all communication in one way through her or my own accordance, we begin to talk again. \nI go to school about 5-6 hours away driving and i came down for spring break. We made plans to hang out and stuff but when i came down we only met once. I thought we would hang out more and so I went and did something stupid and got her a piece of jewelery (nothing fancy) that i attached a note to confessing everything from how i feel for her and how i would be willing ot try to make a long-distance thing work to ultimately asking her out kinda. 2 days later i apologized about it without any contact from her because i thought it weirded her out and asked to hang out as friends. Turns out she hadn't been where i dropped it off since i last saw her and i offered to pick it up and she said no it was fine she'll pick it up. I havent talked to her since. Its been like 2 days since we've last talked and i leave tomorrow. \n\nI don't know if i should talk to her because i feel like if she had anything to say than i would've heard from her. I don't know if i should confront her, ask for anything back or just leave to leave without saying a word like some cool love lost bandito. \n\nI know i fucked up doing this with no reciprocation and i did this because we have some history and some good history too but that's in the past. Ive talked to friends and they just say to act cold and not give a fuck outwardly and ive been trying its just hard. Im just confused on what to do this moment in time.", "summary": "Down for school break, was supposed to kick it with girl i have feeling for and didn't besides once. gave her a necklace earlier this week. havent heard from her since i believe shes got it. Don't know wether to try to contact her or just dip. "}
{"id": "t3_2k1jrn", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help, I'm 24 and Need a Car", "post": "Hey guys I am looking for some advice here, \n\nI was in an accident yesterday and my car is most likely totaled, airbags deployed. I am fine (thankfully) but now I need to replace my car. I was driving a 2009 lancer that was given to me by my parents. I am guessing I will be getting around 5k from the insurance company as the trade in value was right around 6.5K.  \n\nI commute close to 70 miles each day for work so i would like something with good gas mileage but I live in Chicago and park on the street so I don't want to have to worry to much about dings and scrapes. My plan was to buy a new more expensive car in ~2-3 years when I have my own place and somewhere safe to park my car. \n\nI have a full time job where I make 65K pre tax with ~5k in bonus at the end of the year. I have no debt other than credit card bills for everyday expenses which i pay in full. I have roughly 5K in my checking account, and 16K in my savings. I also own a motorcycle which I will most likely be selling now so that is another 5.5K. I have roughly 40K invested for retirement/ down payment on a house.\n\nI liked my car, but wasn't in love with it, I hated the cheapness of the ride, and all of the plastic in the interrior. I would like something that isn't as cheap considering how much time i will be spending in it, but i am unsure if it will be a waste considering my plan from before. I don't have as much time as I would like to research so I am turning here. Any idea what price range I should be looking at? any recommendation on cars I should be looking at?", "summary": "Car accident, need to replace my car, help me pick and not screw myself."}
{"id": "t3_1n385z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakup] My husband [M23] and I [F23] are separated and getting a divorce; Not sure how to get a divorce because we are in a different state now than when we got married.", "post": "Both my husband and I are 23, we got married about a year ago due to me pressuring him...and I have felt guilty for about the last six months. \n\nAfter having a long talk, we both decided that we would like a no-fault divorce (from what we understand, we don't qualify for an annulment), but we aren't sure about what we need to do now. We got married in Florida, but are now residing in Missouri...and we've only been in Missouri for three weeks. After a Google search, I read that we'd have to be separated for two years and living in Missouri for at least 90 days. \n\nNeither of us really intend on going back to Florida, so where are we supposed to fill out our divorce paperwork? And are we really expected to be separated longer than we were married? We don't want to resort to using lawyers and having a nasty breakup, just want to fill out some paperwork, apologize to each other, and just continue on with our lives since we didn't have any children or buy a house or anything.", "summary": "Young couple got married too early and are looking to have a no-fault divorce. Currently residing in a different state, so not sure of what paperwork we need to fill out, and are hoping to avoid using lawyers."}
{"id": "t3_47nruy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27/f] want to know: how do you meet/date people who actually want to be with you?", "post": "I'm 27/f and have had two real relationships.  I don't like dating (i.e., auditioning physical relationships with people I barely know) and have had virtually no smaller relationships in between.  Both those relationships started as friendships for about six months, morphed into dating on their initiative (first for less than a month, second for about 8 months), and then we broke up but stayed really good friends for at least a year afterward before either drifting apart or forcibly ending contact.  I'm about to do the latter with the second guy this weekend.  With the second guy we relapsed a few times in that year which has run me through a roller coaster.  The first guy was about three-four years ago.\n\nThe really good friends thing is what kills me.  These were both people with whom there was strong chemistry, strong physical intimacy, strong friendship/respect/shared values/compatible interests/compatible intellect/make each other laugh like crazy, and real affection.  In both cases, we worked through some significant life turning points together that were pretty bonding.  I'm being a little on the clinical side for brevity, but in other words: the makings of what I would consider a great relationship.  They didn't want to date me anymore (despite obviously being attracted to me) but wanted to stay really good friends (like, among both of ours top-3 closest friends at the time I'd say).  Both of these guys are sensitive, monogamous, only date one person at a time, don't really date casually, looking to have a family guys. I didn't feel like I wanted to marry them, but I didn't feel like I specifically couldn't do that, and thought there was a lot more good stuff left to live through together.", "summary": "I seem to have a knack for finding guys who think I'm *almost* the bees-knees, but not quite, while I think they're pretty great. What should I do differently?"}
{"id": "t3_2309td", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] and my wife [25F] are in a dry spell. Having trouble coping with my PG-rated marriage.", "post": "We've been married 4.5 years so far. Both each other's first. I'm relatively normal as far as upbringing, struggle with mild depression at times. She has reproductive/hormonal medical issues, currently being treated, Also a history of childhood sexual abuse, but she's extraordinarily strong and has coped with this very well.\n\nLast time we were intimate was in December 2013. Before that, October 2013. Before that, June or August 2013. Been gradually slowing down since we were married. Aside from the sex we're mostly fine, relationship-wise. She says it's likely due to her medication, and medical conditions. I can accept that. \n\nMy problem is that it's starting to affect my well-being. I'm depressed and anxious often. I'm losing emotional connection and distancing myself. My advances are pathetic and hopeless, and just make her feel worse for saying no.\n\nI often feel like she doesn't consider me attractive although she says she does.  It doesn't help that she's openly said she thinks \"naked men are gross\" (meaning to me she doesn't like penises, which I can also understand considering her history). I have let her know this hurts me, and she hasn't mentioned it again, but I keep thinking \"honey, how would you feel if I said 'breasts are disgusting!' Except yours, yours are great.\" It's playing on my mind a lot lately.\n\nI need some advice on getting through this. I don't want to be driven by my sexual needs. Masturbating/porn doesn't help, it just makes me crave the real thing more and I personally think it's disgusting and selfish. I don't know if I want advice or commiseration here, but it's to the point I'm considering looking into some kind of drug to \"neuter\" my sex drive for the time being.", "summary": "We haven't been intimate for a while due to medical (and possibly emotional) issues. Need some advice in how to cope and not go insane and maintain a good relationship with my wife while we work it out."}
{"id": "t3_4kdjnq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Diagnosed with mental and personality disorders and completely lost. Could use some advice.", "post": "I'm 19 years old (will be 20 in October) and was primarily diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and avoidant personality disorder.\nI believe there's more to it, but I'm in the middle of changing psychiatrists so still waiting for the other's diagnosis. \nI live in Cairo, Egypt. Currently finishing my first year in the Canadian international college in Cairo (it's rubbish), majoring in Mass Communication. (This is not the major I wanted.)\nI wanted to go to med school, but since my father wouldn't pay for any supplementary classes (which are a must in my country. Teachers in high school explain nothing assuming that you're already learning outside) I ended up with bad grades. (62% but med school takes from 98%)\nI had a businessman funding my scholarship for the first year but I lost it (even though my GPA is 3.7) and I have no idea how I'll continue.\nI've been thinking about dropping out since I hate that college and the major.\nIt's making my depression even worse, but \"arguably\" helping with the AvPD. I thought about dropping out. Maybe spend the next three years working on my art projects (I'm an artist and wanted to be a film director and writer) and study sciences (biology, physics, chemistry.., etc.) so it would be easier when I take those courses to apply as a mature student in a med school.\nI also have no idea how I'll do that since it means I have to leave this country. I really want to, but I can't see any options.", "summary": "I'm in a college that I hate studying a major that I also hate and thinking about dropping out. I've been told that that's not reasonable, but I'm sick of it."}
{"id": "t3_2p49hb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I found info on my bio-dad. Should I tell the rest of my family?", "post": "So when I was about 3 my dad divorced my mom. I lived with him for a bit when I was about 14/15, and haven't talked to him since (10 years). My grandparents (who I just started talking to again this year) haven't heard from him since the beginning of this year (2014)\n\nI haven't talked to him in about 10 years (no big deal here, don't really care). But I know my grandparents want to talk to him. I did a bit of snooping around to find what I could on him, and I found something, definitely about him.\n\nSee comments for a snippet of the document. He's wanted at large for incest and rape of a minor. (Presumably his step daughter).\n\nNow the $1mil question - do I tell my grandparents what I found? I don't know if it's my job to do so. Also, they don't use computers, so I'd have to call them and tell them.\n\nIf this is a bit vague, my apologies. I can't give out specifics.", "summary": "found document that states bio dad is at large; tell family?"}
{"id": "t3_53undv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "MY [18] friend thinks we are dating but I [18] dont want to.", "post": "so. Me and my friend we will call her Ava , hooked up over the summer before we went away to different colleges. Recently I visited her again and we hooked up a few more times. She thinks i want to date her despite telling her no in many ways. the last time we talked about it she said if i don't say yes it will break her heart. Ava is really special to me as a friend but I don't have feelings for her but I do not know what to do about this because I know if I say it again she will either ignore my answer or hate me and I 'want to loose her as a friend.", "summary": "girl thinks we are dating but we aren't and despite me rejecting her advances continues to assume we are."}
{"id": "t3_3ah7o8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being a gentlemen", "post": "Throwaway, people know my main. This happened yesterday. Alright, so I'm at my friends house, and he's got a really hot sister about one year older than me. I do have fantasies about participating in intercourse with her. We're both over 18 if you were wondering, she's 21 I'm 20. So basically my friend has to go pick up his father, leaving just me and her in the house. Turns out she's wanted the D for a while. She talks sexy and is wearing a shirt and leggings. I thought, 'this is my chance' then I remembered my friend, and how I would be betraying him, so I declined and said 'I can't *bleep* is my friend' and that was that. Only once I get home I realised I fucked up and coulda banged her. Goodbye fantasy.", "summary": "OP was about to get some from dream girl, OP (pussyed?) out"}
{"id": "t3_ld8fd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest coincidence you've ever been personally connected to?", "post": "We can all probably go looking on the internet for wild coincidences (the [life and death] of Thomas Midgley Jr. perhaps?), but I'm talking about the totally nuts things we've seen ourselves or have been a part of in some way. Here's mine:\n\nMy parents are connected in a way that astounds me every time I remember it. We discovered about 8 or so years ago that my mom's adoptive mom (my mom never knew her birth parents) had a cousin who grew up best friends with my dad's mom. We learned this when my mom went to visit this cousin in order to learn how to make Czech pastries called [kolaches] We already knew that this cousin lived in the same town as my dad's family, but the specific connection caught us off guard. The cousin even still had a chair that she and my dad's mom carved their initials into as a \"BFF\" kind of gesture. Also, my parents were born on the same day two years apart. But that really pales in comparison to the other fact.", "summary": "My mom's adoptive mom's cousin grew up as a best friend of my dad's mom."}
{"id": "t3_11q52f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25M] I was drunk and embarassed my girlfriend, help", "post": "I got drunk and said something along the lines of \"I'm going to fucking dump my girlfriend if she keeps up smoking.\" We were tailgating and many people heard this. Afterwards, she wanted to leave and I was drunk and pissed off and drove away with her in the car. I acted extremely childish and she is clearly upset. This was two weeks ago and now she brings it up. She is clearly upset. I asked her if she wants to break up and she said \"no, I just need time to get over it.\" She is now questioning if I act like child all the time. \n\nI don't know what to do now. I feel absolutely terrible and embarrassed. I didn't even realize I said this.", "summary": "I was a drunk asshole and embarrassed myself and my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2xf5sk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shaving my beard in the shower for the first time", "post": "After getting a haircut, I always take a shower and then shave. I kept reading how great shaving in the shower was, so I figured why not? I took a nice hot long shower, and then started shaving while my shampoo was still in my hair... Of course, a bit of shampoo gets in my eye, right when I was shaving where my adam's apple is. Great, blood. So I continue, this takes much longer than I anticipated since my beard had grown and it took so many passes, plus no mirroir did not help. Shit, my shaving blade says it's at the end of it's life and it is true, starting to irritate my skin, so I take my time and be careful. Double shit, no more hot water, quickly shave but drop the blade on my toe and wash the shampoo in the damn cold...\n\nFinally I get out of the shower in a rush, take another blade and finish the job properly. I take a nice nap, but I awaken with pain in my lower stomach, I investigate. My urethra is all swollen up, and I see the reason right away, a tiny hair was embedded in the inside of the hole. I carefully take it out while crying a little.\n\nAnd then I had to go pee...........\n\nA few hours later, I am now able to walk", "summary": "Shaved in shower. My urethra got infected because of a hair from my shaving. And then I had to go pee"}
{"id": "t3_1qi8ik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my friend [27M] of couple months, should I be excited?", "post": "So, made a new friend a couple months ago. Been getting to know this guy pretty well and have really been enjoying spending time with him. From the beginning, he made it clear he wasn't looking for a relationship (with anybody) due to an anticipated career change that could take him out of the state. I think that's fine since I'm not really looking for a relationship either. \n\nWe've progressively been spending more and more time together the last few weeks and I've been comfortable enough to open up about some pretty difficult stuff to him. This man makes me laugh so hard. He's incredibly intelligent, we pretty much finish each others' sentences, and he's the first guy to come along who has invested time in genuinely becoming my friend without trying to get in my pants shortly after. \n\nHe recently invited me to come to his family's Thanksgiving AND Christmas dinners. Along with this, there was mention of \"wanting to stay in the area\" as far as new job/career. He messages me on a daily basis and would have gladly come over for the fourth night in a row tonight to hang out had I not been completely exhausted. \n\nI'm struggling because 1.) I'm starting to like this guy, a lot 2.) this whole being friends first thing is foreign territory to me 3.) what if talking to him results in him not feeling mutually?  I'm feeling my self-sabotage kicking in. \n\nShould I take the invitations for the holidays and behavior as a hint that he might be feeling something more than a friendship? I don't want to blow this. He's absolutely amazing. \n\nPeople, I secretly do a happy dance every time he gets turned down for jobs out of state or that are far away because that means I get to spend a little more time with him before he goes away for good. I want the best for him though, no matter wherever life takes him. \n\nI know I need to talk to him, but I don't know how to even begin the conversation. I've never been in a situation like this before. Help!  Any advice would be welcome.", "summary": "Met an amazing guy who turned into an amazing friend and now I want to open my heart up to him, but I'm scared."}
{"id": "t3_34b591", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] know that a friend [22F] has been cheating on her boyfriend [23M] of 2 years", "post": "I say friend, but we are more just acquaintances. She is my girlfriend's roommate, and I rarely speak to her, much less her boyfriend. He's been working as a firefighter in his hometown this past year as she has been finishing up school. They plan on getting married some day, so i would consider a fairly serious relationship. She's always struck me as a shy, but very caring person. However I've found out that she's been sleeping with a friend of hers regularly over the past few months. Their relationship is in no way my business, but infidelity disgusts me; I would want someone to tell me if I were in the boyfriend's shoes. Do I keep my mouth shut, or do I tell him?", "summary": "Girlfriend's roommate is cheating on her boyfriend. Do I speak up?"}
{"id": "t3_1pilji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [14 F] 3 months, She's young but I cared a lot about her?", "post": "This is my first post so if you need any more information please ask, I could really use some help.\n\nSo basically my brother has had his girlfriend for 4 years, and her sister (wasn't gf at the time), my brother and my brothers girlfriend and I went to a concert, my brother always joked around about how her and I would get together and I was always a bit disgusted about thought since she was so young..\n\nbut when I met her... it felt like she was the one... she was literally the exact same as me. so we went on a few dates and I tend to have really bad trust issues, but trusted her very quickly.\n\nwhile we were dating everything was going perfect except for the fact that I was kinda losing the bond between my brother and she was losing the bond between her sister, and also the week before that I told her I went to a halloween party because I wanted the relationship to be completely honest, and told her I didn't do anything and told her I'm sorry and I won't do it again. \n\nthen basically it all got really weird and confusing..\n\na few days after the party incident she invited me to go with my brother, his gf and her to get icecream but I passed up on the invitation basically because I didn't have money at the time and didn't want people paying for me, then the morning after that night she calls me and tells me she wants to break up with me because we're apparently at different stages of our life.. which is pretty obvious noticing the age gap?\n\nthis breakup happened a week ago and I'm wondering what I should do.. I haven't talked to her since and I want to still be friends with her but it ended off with me saying something along the lines of \"well have a nice life, and I don't want the sweater back so keep it or throw it in the garbage\"... should I send her a message or will she message me? and how can I get over her? I'm very sad every time I think of her.", "summary": "I dated my brothers girlfriends sister, then she broke it off in a strange manner but I still want to be friends with her? how can I?"}
{"id": "t3_dpzsw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why you stopped liking Reddit after the Digg influx", "post": "I've noticed more and more comments on reddit complaining about how they're now quitting because they don't like what Reddit has become after the Digg influx.\n\nBut really very little has changed. I don't see much difference in the type of content getting to the frontpage, its still the usual cat pictures and recycled 4chan memes and fight the power type posts (except now with rare circle jerk ex-digger post about how much he loves reddit now).\n\nI think what really irks these people is that now Reddit is on top. Digg used to be the dominating force in news aggregation but now that they've completely jumped the shark Reddit has become by far the dominant player in this business.\n\nA lot of people here feel the need to fight a stronger power, they want to feel weaker but despite that they still 'bravely' post stories about police brutality or dastardly Republicans. \n\nThe idea of David and Goliath is strongly ingrained in many peoples minds here. Now that Reddit is no longer in the shadow of Digg the whole atmosphere of the site has changed for people with this mindset. The site itself hasn't changed at all, the content is more or less the same as it ever was, except now holier than thou 'I'm better than you because I use the more niche product' userbase can no longer cling onto that, they are the mainstream whether they like it or not.", "summary": "the only reason people have decided to hate reddit now after the digg influx is because now reddit is on top of social news aggregation communities which has deprived these people of the self righteous mentality of being non-mainstream and fighting the power (i.e. Digg) because they now are both the mainstream and the power."}
{"id": "t3_1fzxlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just moved across the country with girlfriend and we are having problems (both f/19)", "post": "I just moved to where my girlfriend (we have been together for 13 months, have known each other for 3 years) is from a month ago. I am from the total opposite end of the country. Ever since we moved here we have gotten into 3 really bad fights after drinking. This is a new issue. We had never ever fought when we were drunk before moving and we only have bad fights when drunk. It's so bizarre. I just have no idea why it's so weird. Is it perhaps the move or stress or something deeper?.. We drank ALL the time last summer and had no problems.\n\nAlso I have none of my own friends here. She wants to be alone with her friends and connect with other people which is 100% okay with me its just hard because I have to stay at home and not do anything. I'm not 21 yet so I can't go out to bars and stuff and meet people. I definitely don't wish to make her feel as if she has to stay home just because I don't have any friends that's stupid.\n\nAny ideas/input?", "summary": "Problems after moving"}
{"id": "t3_37odc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/f] and boyfriend [21/m] do not really spend time together anymore. It's upsetting me and he doesn't understand", "post": "Okay.. So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We live together because his mom kicked him out and he had no where to go. I enjoy living with him and hasn't been to stressful. However, recently he got a salary position. He works 6 days a week with his only day off being Sunday. For the past month and for 1 more month I've been working every single day. I cannot take Sundays off because almost half my paycheck comes from working Sundays. \n\nThis is becoming an issue. We are both working so much to save up to get our own apartment or small house. When he gets home at night he is understandably tired. All I really want is to have a conversation with him or go out and do something, but the very little time we see each other during the day is usually consumed by him being on his phone constantly. He is obsessed with his car and all he does is watch videos and look at posts about it. Half the time when I try to talk to him while he is \"zoning out\" looking at car stuff, he doesn't even respond to what I've said, just ignores me. \n\nMaybe I am being irrational or overreacting but it really bothers me. I have talked to him multiple times about how it makes me feel when he chooses his phone over me. He says it's his relaxing time and I completely understand.. But he's on there for hours. It hasn't really changed. I don't think it's too much to ask just to spend some time together without the phone bullshit. I'm really reconsidering the relationship because I'm wondering if I would just be better off being alone than being with someone that makes me feel alone. \n\nI really don't know what to do. I don't want to break up over something that could be fixable because I really do love him. Am I being irrational here?", "summary": "bf and I work a lot, don't have much time to hang out. Any time we have a chance to hang out he chooses to be on his phone instead and ignores what I say. I'm getting frustrated and sad. Don't know if I'm being irrational here"}
{"id": "t3_33w0rv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I read these mixed signals from my ex (20/f) who re-initiated conversation with me (24/m) after a breakup where I was at fault?", "post": "Ex Girlfriend who I want to get back with:\n\nWeek Ago = Randomly texts me inviting me to go on a trip with her this summer\n\nWe start texting and have quick phone calls throughout the day\n\nShe randomly texted me saying \"Let's have a kid\" after all of our conversations were really platonic. \n\nFew days ago = She texts me telling me that she's depressed and she hates herself and her life and how she hasn't been happy in months (Since we broke up)\n\nNext day = Few texts / quick phone call (She worked all day)\n\nHowever, the last 2 days I haven't heard ANYTHING from her.  No calls no texts.  \n\nShe initiated the reconnect about a week or so ago, things have been going Well.  She broke down, I was there for her.  \n\nI'm mentally torn between if this is the time to:\n\nA) Confess how I feel about her.  Basically write her some heartfelt genuine letter letting her know that I love her and \"Win\" her back. \n\nB) Just continue to give her space\n\nI don't want to be \"That Guy\" who sends the 4th straight text when none of the previous ones have been returned...but I got all excited thinking that I'm going to get my girl back and now I'm left wondering what's going on.  \n\nIf anyone of my friends were in this situation I'd instantly tell them to back off... but I just think this situation is different because she initiated conversation with me...and confessed to this overwhelming depression... I don't know\n\nAdvice", "summary": "I fuck up.  We break up.  6 months later she starts talking to me, invites me on a trip, then confesses to being so unhappy...then silent treatment."}
{"id": "t3_x8qv9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What did you do after graduating from college with a BS degree (Neuroscience / Biology / Biochem / etc)?", "post": "I've been a member for a while but only started actively lurking posting a few days ago. One of the posts I found was about a average annual income of redditors (or something like that). I was highly discouraged by the amount of people that said they graduated with a bachelor's in science and were making a lot less than others with a degree in (let's say) Engineering. \n\nI was wondering if anyone was successful in getting a decent job right out of college. I know that this is usually not the case and most people go to Graduate school. I was also wondering what people had specialized in or went to graduate school for. Thank you for your answers... :)", "summary": "if you graduated with a science Bachelor's what are you doing now? (Job/Graduate School) "}
{"id": "t3_4ds6nc", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] Apartment potty struggle, rudeness from stupid people.", "post": "So let me be clear about the apartment rules. Dogs may go to the bathroom anywhere except main entrances by the doors or if there is a sign for grass rehabilitation. This was sent out in a mass email to all residents. \n\nNo problem for me, I respect rules.\n\nOther neighbors seem to think that \"No! Your dog can only go where there are poop trashcans!!\" \n\nAt first I didn't realize that this is what that lady was saying when she asked me \"is that a dog potty spot?\" I was like... \"yeah? sometimes... \" and then it hit me, she was accusing me of breaking the rules and being rude to me because my dog was peeing on a corner of grass... in the middle of the parking lot! Not near an entrance and no sign that said do not let pets on!\n\nUGH! She was gone before I could talk back to her and tell her what the damn rules are and how I am not breaking them. If her or anyone else asks me that crap again I plan to show them the email, which they probably didn't bother to read, and tell them to mind their own business.", "summary": "I know the damn potty rules and you don't so mind your own damn business"}
{"id": "t3_20bvjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In-laws gave my SO & I a loan for a house but how do we pay them back now that they insist it is a gift?", "post": "I wonder what you guys would do in this situation.\n\nWe bought a house this January with 15% down. We had enough to put 20% down but it would have wiped out our Emergency Fund, so we decided to put 15% down and just make extra payments (good thing, too, because the first weekend we moved in we had a major storm that damaged our gutters and had to replace those right away!). Well, between extra payments, a tax return, and a bonus, we're able to get to 20% equity probably by July (that way we won't be paying PMI).\n\nMy in-laws gave us $14k officially as a gift but with the understanding that we would pay them back. There was some controversy with my FIL initially not wanting to give us the money and my MIL got angry and they fought about it and yadda yadda yadda, but we ended up with the money.\n\nWe think we'll be able to have the $14k saved up by next summer.\nHowever, now they are both insisting it is a gift and we shouldn't pay them back. My FIL is also an insurance salesman and paid our first year of homeowners insurance. And then they sent us a $1,000 gift card for furniture.\n\nI want to pay this money back. I feel like we agreed it was a loan and we have the means to pay them back. How do I handle this? Do I just send them a cashier's check once we have the money? Do I put it in a CD in their names? :/\n\nI just don't feel good converting this money into a \"gift\" since it wasn't supposed to be a gift. What would you do in this situation?\n\nMy SO talked to his parents about this and they just said \"no no no, qwicksilfer is in grad school and you might get laid off. You're young and you need this money!\" Together, we earn well over $100k. We're doing great. We don't need this money, we only needed it as a security blanket when we bought the house. But we have since replenished the security blanket.", "summary": "In laws gave us money as a \"loan\" and now insist it is a gift. I don't feel good about the money as a gift. How do we resolve this issue?"}
{"id": "t3_2vdjkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Personal issues]I(M27) spent a wonderful day with an old friend(30F). Confused about my emotions.", "post": "As the title states - I spent a day with an old friend of mine, we did a lot of things and talked for hours about everything.\n\nDuring one of these activities, a movie, I did something, I thought, was a little more than just friendly. She had her drink in a cup holder on the opposite side of the chair from me. Without saying anything, I leaned over, slowly, and took ity form the cup holder, took a sip and put it back, again, slowly. She said something and I turned to her, our faces were maybe half an inch apart and we just hovered there for, maybe, 5-10 seconds. Felt like an eternity. \n\nAt this point I felt something, I felt nervous as hell and for no apparent reason, it was that giddy feeling you get on a good date. But we are just old friends enjoying a day together, what gives?\n\nAnd here's the kicker - about 12 years ago we were a couple. We were together for a little under a year. I have another randezvous with her today and we have a party we are going to on Saturday. Not together, we are both invited, but we figured out, that we are going to the same thing. Can someone help me sort trough this mess? After my last relationship I feel scared. \n\nThere is another thing I have to mention - I'm home for vacation. I live  about 2000 miles away, so this can't really go anywhere.", "summary": "Met with an old friend I had history with LONG time ago. Felt a spark,don't know how to approach and/or manage the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1gnrxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [25F] of 3 years is/was possibly trying to hook up with another man behind my [31/M] back", "post": "Our relationship has been long distance mostly (150 miles between her and my respective homes and workplaces), so we've been seeing each other mostly on weekends and holidays.\nIt's been going extremely well, I love hear dearly, she says it's mutual - and I always believed her, still do - , so naturally we were/are thinking about starting the process of living together in the next months to take the next big step.\n\nLately, we had our first big differences (mostly concerning our future life, most of those were misunderstandings), which we worked out and going strong now.\n\nThe big damper was when I found snippets of a conversation of her with another guy from a time briefly before we had our big talk.\nThose snippets are from him, so I don't have the full picture, but from the texts, I suppose she was talking to him that her relationship is hitting a rough patch and she might be interested in him.\nWhich would be a huge betrayal in my eyes!\n\nShe tried to tell me about problems she had with our relationship many weeks before the talk and I definitely did not read the signs very well and did not take them serious enough, but for me, this would still in no way excuse such a betrayal.\nIt looks like she told him that she is back to being fully committed to our relationship, cause his the last snippet was something along the lines of \"whatever, I can't change that anyways\", but still, she has not told me about all this.\nI gave her one or two big chance to come clean to me in a basic conversation about trust, unfortunately she did not take them.\nI feel extremely hurt about this, but I want the full picture, so that I know what exactly I would have to forgive. \n\nWhat do I do about it?\nTry to forget about it and be glad that she chose our relationship over him and work on making this relationship better than ever? (I am not sure I can do that)\nOr confront her about all this? How?", "summary": "hit a rough patch in our relationship, worked it out, but I found out that she was already considering another option/guy, no idea if/how I should confront her about it"}
{"id": "t3_2q7gaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27/M) have been with my girlfriend (24/F) for 3 years. I recently started having mutual feelings for a work colleague (22/F). What to do?", "post": "A bit of background:\nI met my girlfriend during a hard time in my life when my Dad had terminal cancer and she has helped me through everything including his passing. We have been together for 3 years now and have had a very strong relationship up to now. We both get on with each others family's and I couldn't ask for a more caring and considerate SO. \n\nI have never had strong feelings for anyone else before now and I know that she is so in love with me that she would never even look at anyone else.\n\nShe has recently been talking about buying our first house together and getting engaged, however I have been putting these conversations off as I don't feel ready for the commitment.\n\nThe issue:\nI have recently started working very closely with a new colleague (22/F). She is engaged to her SO (24/M) of 6 years, however I know she has cheated on him before and they had a break in their relationship because of this.\n\nI initially found her attractive and we have always got on really well, including a bit of mild flirting but I never thought anything of this. However on a recent works night out after a couple of drinks she admitted to me that she actually had romantic feelings for me and I realised that I felt the same. \n\nSince then I can't stop thinking about her and feel as if my feelings for her are only growing stronger. We haven't acted on these feelings, but when sober we have both openly discussed the situation and agreed that if it weren't for the fact that we both have SO's then we would definitely get together.\n\nI am really confused about what the best thing to do is. Neither of us have discussed it with our SO's and it has made me question my current relationship, however we're both worried that we are in too deep with our current partners to risk acting on our feelings.\n\nWhat to do??", "summary": "Work colleague and I have both admitted to having feelings for each other despite both being in long term relationships."}
{"id": "t3_1sluw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] find it impossible to take things slowly.", "post": "I recently started seeing a guy who has hung out in my group of friends for a few years. We've really only hung out in social situations or at his house. Since we started seeing each other we barely talk during the week and only see each other on weekends.\n\nI'm pretty confused by this considering I've pretty much rushed into a lot of my previous relationships. Not really sure if this is \"taking it slow\" or he's just not that into me. I feel like we're not getting to know each other better but I don't want to force or rush things.", "summary": "I've been seeing a guy for about two months and we've kind of reached a standstill. How long should I wait to see if he takes the next step, or am I wasting my time?"}
{"id": "t3_3fov4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [m/24] of 3 years had a double life\u2014cheated on me [f/24] for almost 2 years with another \"girlfriend\"", "post": "I just need some \"anonymous\" words of wisdom / advice on how to move on from this trauma. \n\nI found out 2 days ago my bf of 3 years cheated on me with another girl \u2014 for nearly 2 years \u2014\u00a0who was also his gf. Why do people do this? I dumped him on the spot, and despite having red flags about certain things, he was always communicating with him and saw me regularly, would always deny going behind my back, and try to remind me he's faithful. \n\nI never got the answers I wanted from him; he refused to answer them stating it was \"pointless\" now because I won't believe what he says, and I won't get back with him. He admitted to having a \"double life,\" and I just can't understand why/how someone would want to invest so much time, lie to someone's face, go out of their way to meet/talk/call their \"gf 1\" and then continue screwing them over. He also didn't have much remorse/guilt and barely apologized or begged for my forgiveness. \n\nI'm writing here because I just wanna know how people recover from this and how regularly this happens to other people.", "summary": "Reeling in from finding out my [now] ex-boyfriend had a double life with two girlfriends \u2014\u00a0was cheating on me for almost 2 years of my 3 +1/2-year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_v2wg7", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How to move on when nothing was wrong but the timing?", "post": "Me and my ex started dating about 4 1/2 months ago (Me 20F Him 25M). We dove in immediately and ended up in a relationship pretty quick. He lost his job in our city and can't find another one, so he had to move back home, 6 hours away. We agreed that long distance wouldn't work, since it was so early on in the relationship. He left a week ago today.\n\nBut I have no idea how to get over him. He was the first guy that I ever loved. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the relationship but the timing. I feel like I'm always going to have the \"what if?\" question hanging over my head, and I can't imagine finding anyone more perfect for me than he was. He was my best friend in the city I live in, and now he's gone. I know r/breakups is a big fan of no contact, but I can't imagine not talking to him, just because he's become such a good friend. I don't know how to move on, and frankly, I don't know if I even want to yet.", "summary": "How to get over someone when everything was perfect but the timing?"}
{"id": "t3_1cz8xq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is the way I want to propose to my girlfriend too far-fetched?", "post": "Hello all! Long time redditor here, but my girlfriend is as well so I've created a new account since she sometimes uses mine. I am trying to plan the perfect wedding proposal. [\"Home\" by Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros] is kind of \"our song\" if you will; I know that's a puketastically cheesy thing to say, but I don't really care. We are going to Bonnaroo together this year, and the lineup happens to include Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros. For those of you who aren't familiar with the song (and chose to ignore the handy dandy link), the bridge is dialogue back and forth between the (male and female) lead singers about how they were falling in love and whatnot. My vision of the perfect proposal would be getting in contact with the band so that when they get to that part of the song I can walk out on stage and ask for her hand in marriage from there.\n\nWe've already talked about getting married and both want to, so I'm not afraid of her saying no and subsequently being embarrassed in front of a big crowd. Is it selfish of me to want to inconvenience the band in such a way though? I like to think that I'm a fairly normal guy, but they have no idea of knowing if I'm some crazy dude or not. I sent an email via their website's contact page about a month and a half ago, but never got a reply. I followed up two weeks ago but still, nothing. I'm a realist, so I know that there's a pretty good possibility they won't be cool with it. However, I've also seen a video of Eddie Vedder holding up a Pearl Jam concert so he can play a song for one guy's proposal just because the dude wrote him a letter. So stranger things have happened.", "summary": "I want to propose to my girlfriend in the middle of \"Home\" when Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros play it at Bonnaroo."}
{"id": "t3_1miur8", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "[advice] Asking to meet for coffee - how do I do this without being annoying?", "post": "This weekend I was at a beer festival and met a successful professional freelance videographer. We casually talked about what he does/what I want to do for a good 15 minutes, and he gave me his business card. I told him I'm super interested in production and would LOVE to buy him coffee and learn more about the industry. He said \"awesome, send me an email!\" & even told me he could potentially let me come on set and see what it's like. Then we went our separate ways and I drank a lot of beer. Naturally I came home, crept all over his reel and everything and forced myself to wait until I was sober to email him. So here I am 2 days later writing my email!\n\nI did a google search for \"tips for asking someone to coffee\" and every single result said to never use the phrase \"pick your brain\", literally the exact phrase that I was about to type... So my question is: what do I say in this email? I don't want to be the annoying college senior asking for a bunch of advice, but I would love to learn more about what he does and how he got into it. I have roughly a million questions I'd love to ask him. Advice?\n\nALSO I am a 21 year old girl and he's like a 28 year old dude. I don't want to give off the wrong idea at all (don't think this SHOULD be an issue, but you never know.)", "summary": "Need to know how to ask someone (that I already met) to coffee without being annoying."}
{"id": "t3_316frn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP & TIFU by not sending my friend her birthday present.", "post": "Sorry if this isnt a TIP. \n\nSo my friend, she wanted a birthday present. I said sure, okay. However, she's living in Ireland for a few months. I thought I would just buy the present and give it to her when she gets back. A belated surprise, so I don't have to buy two gifts. \n\nTwo weeks later, she sends me an angry email about not sending her a birthday present. I was surprised that she would be this angry so, I decided I would send it through mail to make it up. But the prices for international mail is HIGH! I didnt know what to do, so stupidly I lied to her and told her I sent it and it would come in a couple of weeks. I thought by that time, I would have made enough money to send it right? \n\nWrong. My dad went to ER because he now has kidney stones, my mom is also in the hospital for her back pains and I have no money right now. \n\nNow, I'm forging an email and tracking number for the package to tell her that the package was mishandled and is now on its way back to me. I am literally not done TIFU-ing. I have no idea how to escape from this fuck up though. I am also wracking my head over how to make company email because a gmail is going to be a really bad forgery. \n\n*sigh*\n\nGuys, dont be like me. I wish I could tell her the truth, but she already cut ties with me as friends twice because of things like this. So, I can't fuck this up too.", "summary": "Birthdays are a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_1zf3hb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my bf [23 M] duration, I think that I am incapable of a healthy relationship", "post": "I'm really scared that I am unable to have a healthy relationship. It's not that I intentionally hurt my partners, it's just that I break up with them and then come back to them frequently. Today my most recent boyfriend ended things. We were both hysterically crying and said that we loved each other but he said he couldn't take the break ups anymore. I really do love him \nI am scared of myself and scared that I may never know what it is like to have a normal, healthy relationship. But most of all, I am so so sorry for putting him through all this and I don't want to hurt him anymore. I've broken up with him too many times. It's not fair. I'm not in control of myself or any future selves.", "summary": "I break up and come back until they leave me."}
{"id": "t3_t94xk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I found out a good friend of mine is being cheated on, but I'm not sure if I should tell him. Advice please.", "post": "So like the title says, this week I found out that my friend has been cheated on. His name is R (18M) and his girlfriend is S(18F). The two of them have been dating since the 9th grade, so over 3 years now. I recently heard a friend of S who I am also friends with mention it, and I pressed her for details. Me and S friend are the only ones who know, other than S. I found out S has cheated on R at least three times since they started dating. Twice with the same guy, and once with a different guy. S apparently feels bad about this, and said she would never do it again to my mutual friend. But she's cheated on him 3 times, its likely she will do it again (In my mind, anyways).\n\nThe problem is that I don't know if I should tell R. He's been super stressed lately. He's taking a full course load at school (he has a 90+ average), has a job and his dad is really sick and can't take care of himself. R is in love with S, and if he found out I'm not sure what he would do. I know for sure that he would stop functioning for awhile, and probably start failing school and skipping work. Also, I'm not supposed to know, and I don't know if its my place to butt into their relationship.\n\nSo reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Close friends girlfriend cheated on him, 3 times. Close friend doesn't know. I found out, but I'm not supposed to know. Close friend is to stressed to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1c64ux", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is My Therapist Wrong?", "post": "I don't want to retype my whole situation. You can see it in my history of posts if you're curious.\n\nMy wife and I have been having a lot of problems that last few years, and decided to see a therapist. We've had 2 meetings. The first one was with my wife and I together, and then the 2nd was separate.\n\nToday was the separate meetings. My wife went first, (for an hour) and then me.\n\nBy the end of my meeting with the therapist, she was pretty much implying that I was going to get divorced. She seemed like she already decided that I need to learn to cope with the loss of my wife.\n\nIs that normal? Even if our marriage may be in a big hole--- is it normal for a therapist to give up on fixing it so fast? I mean, my wife basically says she doesn't want to be together, and wants to be free from marriage. She says it's not my fault at all. She just doesn't want to be committed to anything. She doesn't want any responsibility. She feels overwhelmed by it, even though I do NOTHING to cause this. My wife tells me she loves me everyday, and goes out of her way to do great things for me. But, she has this weird feeling of entrapment even though she probably has THE MOST freedom in a marriage. She goes and hangs out with guy friends, (that I trust-- and I trust her too) does whatever she wants and I never complain, or say a word.\n\nWouldn't a therapist spend some more time analyzing WHY she feels that way, and if there's something more to the problem before telling me that I'm probably just going to lose my wife?\n\nIt wasn't the greatest way to start my day.", "summary": "Therapist says to get over my wife on 2nd visit"}
{"id": "t3_3cd243", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By penetrating my ear", "post": "This is my first post so I shall try my best to entertain you all.\n\nThis happened around 20 mins ago. Still sitting with a tissue in my ear.\n\nSo it was rather late at night and I was just browsing through Reddit for the strangest of things when I thought I'd listen to some music. I got my Playlist and I started to play my tunes. Little did I know I still had my volume at full from the other day when I was chilling with my friends. Not prepared for this event I jumped out of my bed. My whole family was sleeping and I had to make it stop, you think that I'd just turn the volume down but no, I grabbed my ear phones and went to plug them in, now I'm normally used to using more force than needed to plug these in so I was ready to push hard (Hehehe.) Strangely enough this whole event wasn't enough to wake me up as I sat on my bed quickly and shoved my earphone plug into my ear. Now let me tell you, nothing. And I mean NOTHING comes close to the pain I just felt (Except for when you bite on Tinfoil.) You know how when you were younger and your mother would clean your ears with the Q-Tips and it would hurt like Hell when she pushed too hard? Yeah, like that but amplified by one million. I instantly spazzed out from the pain and ripped the plug out of my ear. My parents ran in to witness me lying on the floor with a bloody ear and my music still blasting out. Needless to say I got a good scolding and now have a fucked up ear... FML.\n\nStay safe, always check your volume.", "summary": "Decided to listen to music without earphones and ended up penetrating my ear."}
{"id": "t3_3h5tld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [18F] get over my ex-boyfriend [18M] as fast as possible?", "post": "My ex-boyfriend and I dated for 8 months. We were each other's first relationship, first love... and now first breakup. We actually have been planning the breakup for the last several months since neither once of us want to be in a long-distance relationship once we start college. \n\nWe broke up on Wednesday and have agreed not to talk to each other for a long long time. It was actually not a great relationship (lots of fights) and I had considered breaking up with him several times, but not being able to talk to him is harder than I thought it would be. Since we have been planning the breakup for so long, I've completely accepted it and I know we won't ever get back together. I just want to stop missing him.\n\nI know the typical thing to do after a break up is to think about old memories and listen to sad songs and generally just give yourself a little while to dwell on it. But every time I do this I just start feeling lonely and sad, so I've been pushing all thoughts of the breakup out of my mind. I guess it's like I'm pretending that the relationship never existed. But I want to be completely 100% over him as soon as I can and I don't know if this is the healthiest way to get there. I have no desire to wallow or grieve, but should I force myself to? What is the best way?", "summary": "He and I just broke up, I want to get over him by not thinking about him for a while. First breakup, not sure how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_2238of", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on current situation", "post": "So the situation is: I'm 19 f and live in a dorm, the guy is 19m in the same dorm. I stay the night every night he's in his dorm. We are currently not in a relationship but do occasionally have sex. This has been going on for about 8 months. Lately sex has been very seldom. Anyway he bodybuilds and I know he has high standards for women. That i don't meet physically.Sometimes when he talks about others he'll say something along the lines of I would never date a girl who.. Then names something he knows I'm insecure about. Pretty much lately I've been feeling pretty used and insignificant. Should I just give up on trying to have a relationship with him or keep trying?", "summary": "guy has been distant and inconsiderate. Should I stay or leave?"}
{"id": "t3_2u33h8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a former Canadian Prime Minister to the wrong board meeting.", "post": "For the next few days I'm temp-ing for the usual receptionist while she is off on holiday. Today, there is animportant board meeting happening so important people have been coming through the office since 8am and one of these people I was told to take **SPECIAL** care of is a former Canadian Prime Minister from the 80s. \n\nSure enough, he arrived, I cordially welcomed him to our office, and directed him to our main boardroom...only to have some colleagues come out later on and tell me that they think he's in the wrong meeting but doesn't realize it yet. Thankfully, the situation was resolved fairly easily after a bit of scrambling but my co-workers are having quite the laugh at my mix-up.", "summary": "I HAD ONE JOB..."}
{"id": "t3_18lh4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking (21M) of breaking up with (19F) gf but scared to because of suicidal issues with her.", "post": "So, me and my girlfriend have had many ups and down the past 6 months. The problem is she is a pathological liar. She lies about everything. It was so bad that I asked her if she was drinking (i could obviously smell it) and she said no, and not 2 minutes later I saw her in her car slamming a pint with some guy I never even met before. She lies about what shes doing and I catch her all the time. She even blocked me on facebook and I found it (i had a suspission) and saw she was hanging out with an ex and posted about how excited she was to be doing so and I asked before telling her I found it and she said absolutely not. I have tried to break it off before but she is such a depressed person and cuts herself. I can honestly say I do not want to be in such a shit relationship but I still care about her and dont want her to kill herself (she said she would if i broke up with her). She says that I am her one true love and we are meant to spend our lives together. After the last fight she deleted her facebook and changed her number because I didn't trust her for obvious reasons (I didnt ask her to she just did) and promises me that she changed. Im not sure if I should just end it and cut contact or give her one final chance to see if she actually changed.", "summary": "confused if i should stay or should go after girlfriend repeatedly lied to me but said she changed for good now. Also shes suicidal and depressed and cuts herself when shes unhappy so Im scared she will hurt herself."}
{"id": "t3_4e93yk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a worksheet for my students", "post": "I teach English as a second language in a Korean high school. I made a comic strip worksheet about a \"crazy chef.\" It was intended to help students make very unique, speculative conditional sentences (If I added chocolate to bibimbap, then it could be a dessert meal).  I named him \"Chef MiChin\" after I translated \"crazy\" from English to Korean (\ubbf8\uce5c). Unfortunately, in Korea, the word for crazy has a far more negative connotation than it does in the US. It's more on par with how Americans see the word \"retarded.\" Whoops. (P.s. I've apologized and changed him to \"Chef Loco.\")", "summary": "I made a comic strip for my high school students starring \"Chef Retard.\""}
{"id": "t3_4bj59m", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "At home work outs with my psychotic downstairs neighbour? Non jumping stationary cardio alternatives?", "post": "Hi r/loseit! I just started my weight loss (CW:220 GW:175) journey a few days ago and have been doing some at home work outs to get some courage up before I head to the gym. I live in a really old building on the top floor and my neighbour downstairs is psychotic. He'll bang on the ceiling at 2pm on a Sunday if I'm cleaning.\n\nI started doing Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred which is a lot of fun, but requires jumping/skipping which has sent my downstairs neighbour into an absolute frenzy. I always work out around 6PM. Not even quiet hours!\n\nI don't wear shoes, and work out on TWO STACKED YOGA MATS and he still complains!\n\nLong story short, does anyone have any cardio suggestions which are akin to jumping jacks, butt kicks etc that don't require jumping?", "summary": "Looking for cardio alternatives that don't require jumping as my downstairs neighbour will never stop complaining about the noise even if it were silent."}
{"id": "t3_2u7uv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [26 F] 4 months, she treats me like a king but I find her entirely unattractive.", "post": "Hello relationships.\n\nI've had some shit relationships in the past but finally found a girl who treats me with the kind of love and respect I've always desired.\n\nProblem is I find her to be incredibly unattractive. She isn't the ugliest girl in the world, but she simply isn't someone I wish to be intimate with - I have multiple other options and as I approach my 30s I find my options growing steadily greater.\n\nMy current GF is a lovely person, she has a heart of gold and perhaps is one of the nicest people I will ever likely meet in my life. On those grounds alone I am contemplating sucking it up and accepting that in reality a good person is probably worth more than a pornstar who would think nothing of divorcing me in a few years time.\n\nThat all said, I find her naked form almost unbearable to look at. Anyone have similar experience with feelings of repugnance with their SO?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Don't want to take my SO to pound town, but want to indulge in her love."}
{"id": "t3_1fy1wn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Didn't punch a guy back", "post": "So the other night, I was chilling in the car with a couple of my friends on a street a block away from my house. We were just talking when this car pulls up next to us. \n\nIn the car were several, clearly drunk, guys and they start talking to us claiming we trashed their neighborhood. Obviously we're just like wtf and we're trying to talk to the guy when his friend from behind him gets out of the car and confronts me. Then as we're talking, he just sucker punches me. Now, I have a pretty short temper and have gotten into fights before but for some reason, it didn't really make me mad (maybe because the punch wasn't really much?). \n\nI actually smirked and we just said fuck it and we left. My friends asked why I didn't do anything and I really didn't know. Now I can't tell if I really don't care or if I'm just a pussy. What is it? Am I just being a bitch or am I \"maturing\"?", "summary": "some motherfucker punched me, I didn't punch him back, can't tell if I'm some zen master or if I'm just a pussy"}
{"id": "t3_27x9ty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] of 6 months, I want to break up but I fear the worst", "post": "This girl and I began dating in December and we've been together since then. It's almost been six months now. There's no problems in the relationship but I've been thinking a lot about breaking up with her. \n\nShe's a great gal and we get along really nicely, but I just don't want to be in a relationship anymore. \n\nI've been considering how I can go about telling her but I don't know how to properly do it. She's my first girlfriend and I'm her first boyfriend. In school we're part of the ap program and we have all our classes together and will definitely have the same classes next year in grade twelve as well. That's the problem. \n\nI care a lot about this girl and the last thing I want to do is hurt her anymore than what breaking up. I'm worried that if we break up she will drop the ap program and I don't want to see her throw away all her progress. \n\nShe's part of my group of friends and in my group there are three couples including myself and her. I have heard from the other couples that they would drop the program entirely to avoid seeing their ex for the entire year. So not only am I afraid she'll drop the program, but I'm worried the group of friends will seriously be affected. \n\nThe school year is almost done and I plan on doing it over the summer break to giver both of us recovery time so we can hang out with our own friends and not be forced to see each other daily. As she is my first girlfriend I'm completely lost on how to go about this. Your opinions would be  greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I wanna break up with her because I simply no longer want to be in a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing and there are significant side effects"}
{"id": "t3_2bauks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my Dating Partner [39 F] 5 weeks, At what point are we \"exclusive\"?", "post": "We've seen each other a grand total of 6 times. Things are, physically, going slowly (i have no issue with that), but emotionally i believe im considerably more invested than her.\n\nI attempted an \"exclusive\" talk earlier in the relationship, the outcome of which was that i explained i tended to only focus on 1 dating partner at a time, and while freaked out at the heaviness this early in the relationship, she admitted thats how she tended to work as well, but otherwise was very non-commital.\n\nFast forward to now, and i know a) she still regularly uses dating apps, although for what purpose i am unsure, ive seen no evidence of her seeing anyone else, so i assume just chat/amusement, but still, could be looking. b) when one of the people we were talking to in the pub asked if i was \"her fella\" it was a straight no, i was just a friend (5th date) c) in one of our in depth chats she said she was happy single, not missing anything and in no rush to look for anything.... \n\non the other side of things we have: 1) ive met her best friend and others people in her life and get on well with them 2) shes shown my picture to her family (i can only assume thats not something you do with a new friend?) and 3) we still talk on a daily basis and arrange to see each other at least weekly, if not more....\n\nNow the issue is i have the offer of another date, movies round someones house for the evening/night. And i feel like its wrong if i do go, and stupid if i dont go. Girl i am dating has made it clear in her words were not technically a couple, yet at the same time i feel like more than just a friend.\n\nMorally, am i wrong to go on a date with someone else?", "summary": "dating\" someone but not a couple, is it wrong to go on a date with someone else"}
{"id": "t3_3ydpha", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "16M don't really know what i'm looking for", "post": "Its gonna be pretty long to explain my situation. Sorry.\nSo i'm a junior in high school and by nature I am very quiet and talk only with really close friends. I'm not afraid of talking for long periods of time but small talk absolutely kills me. I've been labelled as a strong silent type by some people due to my build, personality, and the fact that (according to my peers) my normal face looks like my serious or pissed off face. I dont really get it personally but thats just what i've heard from other perspective\n. Anyways, lately i've been hanging out with my classmates more often via my more sociable friend. My classmates afterwards said i'm actually quite funny once they got to know me. Since I had gotten to talk to more people I ended up becoming quite friendly with them. \nSkipping over some details this eventually led to me buying some christmas presents for some people. In return, one girl gave me a Christmas card with a very long winded and thoughtful response on how I was a very caring person, and that i'm appreciated by many folks, etc. (This girl is taken by the way, just quite nice). But the card struck some particular cord and it made me realize that I had been missing out on a lot of happiness with my peers, including a serious relationship. I realized that I wanted someone to share this kind of happiness all the time with. \nTo sum it all up I don't know exactly what i'm looking for, all I know is that i'm looking for somebody to be happy with where previously I had been quite distant and isolated. Is there any way I could turn my natural personality into strengths? And is there a certain way to narrow down exaclty what i'm looking for? If you need more info just ask", "summary": "I was previously distant from my classmates and now after spending time with them I feel happy and want to share it with somebody, except I don't know who, or how to go about doing so."}
{"id": "t3_mwfg7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So...what are the kids listening to these days???", "post": "I am djing a winter dance for a local high school next week. The girl I am working with is supposed to provide me with a list of songs/artists they would like to hear, but as it's a week away and I am empty-handed, I turn to you Reddit! \n\nI don't have cable so MTV is out (not that they play videos anyway), I don't listen to the radio, and even if I did, I suspect I would get about 10 songs as they tend to play the same songs over and over. I play mostly house and techno in a club/lounge setting so even Top 40 is off my radar. I'm checking out iTunes lists, but I feel like I may be missing some things.\n\nOutside of the obvious Lady Gaga and Katy Perry, what are the kids listening to these days? I humbly ask Reddit to help an old lady out! I want to make sure these kids enjoy their dance.", "summary": "I'm old and want to know what the cool kids are listening to these days!"}
{"id": "t3_2xnc2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26 M] Is it even worth further pursuing something with someone [25 F] who already agitates me a bit?", "post": "We've been dating for a little under two months now and it was fantastic at first. After the first date she point-blank stated she really enjoyed the date and liked me, I didn't say it but I felt the same and we kissed. Maybe this doesn't mean much to most here but I rarely kiss on the first. \n\nSince then though, I've just picked up on little things she does that I just hate. I hate how she'll use her phone when we eat together. I hate how she'll text me implying she wants to do some impromptu outing for the night then taking hours to respond back after which it's far too late to actually get together. I hate how she does that really odd bragging thing about how she does most of the driving since we've started dating. This is only because she usually comes to my place as I own it and live alone.\n\nI really wanted to make this work because the dozen dates before her were underwhelming but jeeez.", "summary": "Two months dating, she does a bunch of annoying things."}
{"id": "t3_nz2y3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to keep the cat we are fostering?", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I are currently fostering a kitten (it lives with us while we nurse her back to health; she has a kitty cold).  \nWe both love cats, but our feelings differ in that he was raised with cats in his household, and I was not.\n\nAnyway, we've been living together for a couple of years now and we talked about getting a cat.  He'd always push for getting a kitty ASAP but I'd always give vague answers like \"now's not a good time\", etc.\nSo this christmas, I finally conceded to the pressure and we got a kitty.\n\nNow I am miserable.  I have allergies that aren't at all life-threatening but incredibly discomforting (itchy eyes, sinus congestion), and we live in a studio apartment (one room).  My allergies don't get too bad as long as I avoid the cat (which is hard to do).  I'm assuming everyone knows the level of energy kittens have, which in turn is part of the reason I haven't slept a full night since we got her.  This wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't starting my final semester of college next week (I'm in an intensive program, so I get very stressed).\n\nThe only real solutions I can think of are getting rid of the cat, or moving out.  My boyfriend said that if I move out, we'd have to break up and he'd move back home because he couldn't afford to stay in our current apartment.  So that means that if I want to move out, I have to pay rent at my new apartment and the current apartment; I haven't done a budget yet so I'm not sure if this is feasible.", "summary": "If I can't afford to pay rent at two separate apartments, am I an asshole for asking my boyfriend to give up the cat?"}
{"id": "t3_2nl7cb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: I ruined Thanksgiving :(", "post": "This morning I put the turkey in the oven to heat up, we don't make our own, an hour later I went to take it out. The stove top was full of things already so why not put it on the table less than 2ft away, apparently this was a horrible idea. So, with hands on the pan with which the turkey was cooked in, I make the trek to the table; to my surprise a wild computer chair appears and I *try* to move around it, but I then trip over one of the legs causing the oh-so-tender-turkey to fall to pieces. I stare at it in shock before I realize I need to pick it up. Due to it's tenderness I can't pick it up without it shredding.  \n Aftermath:", "summary": "Took turkey out the oven and I dropped it."}
{"id": "t3_4zowso", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What would stop you unfriending your ex boyfriend on Facebook?", "post": "Good afternoon ladies. Something I can't wrap my head around is why my ex girlfriend hasn't unfriended me on Facebook. \n\nWe split up about a month ago, due to the relationship being too stressful on her, and as such she is flat out ignoring me. What I don't understand is why she hasn't unfriended me, surely it's better just to cut all ties. \n\nNow I appreciate this could be a childish and petty post to most people but this was my first relationship and first love so understanding the situation would help me personally. For the sake of the rules, I'm a 22 year old guy.", "summary": "don't understand why my ex girlfriend hasn't unfriended me on Facebook."}
{"id": "t3_3nxq3v", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Academic Probation", "post": "Hey Reddit, so as the title would suggest I am currently on academic probation. Pretty much what this means is that if I don't get my act together they have the power to kick me out of the university. The program I'm in is very challenging and taking a difficult course load with this added stress is really starting to get to me. I know this is what I want to do with my life and it terrifies me that I may not get the chance due to a couple of mistakes. I feel like if I do fail out that I will be letting everyone around me down as well as myself. I do work hard, but with how previous semesters have gone I have no confidence in my work. I don't really know where I'm going with this, I guess at the base of it I just want to be successful in my endeavors and am terrified of looking like a screw up. Thanks for listening.", "summary": "On academic probation, scared of getting kicked out and looking like a failure."}
{"id": "t3_33df8h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting email passwords and having facebooked hacked", "post": "Okay!  So, first post here but last night I was trying to go onto facebook too show my boyfriend some cool art my sister does.\nWeird.  I'm signed out.  Someone changed my passwords on my facebook, nbd, I don't use it like crazy.  That is until I realised what email they used too get my facebook password.\n\nLittle bit of background info time.\nWhen I was 13 I dated this dude for 3 months.  He was obessed.He found my password for my original email account I was using after I broke up with him. He proceeded to say a bunch of mean things, changed my password, and told my boyfriend (the one I had at the time) that I never wanted to see him again.  \n\nSo I went through the hassle of making a new email address and changing my password and  just relocating my internet things.  after that it was going well\n\nI also had some nude photos of me.  Sent those to my new email address, just to have them (understand I was underage). \n\n Turned out, I misspelled my new email address without noticing.  So any time I tried to sign in, I couldn't.  So I just let that one sit, connected to my facebook. Whatelse can you do?  8 years later, someone gets into that email address and changes my facebook password.  So, I guess there could be nudes of a young me out there, for realz.  :/", "summary": "Someone got onto my facebook through an email I never use. I forgot how to spell that email address and the password. Last thing I did on it was send all these underage nude photos of myself too it."}
{"id": "t3_4s4spi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am convinced that I will be lonely forever.", "post": "Hi everyone, I'd love to hear your feedback and suggestions on this issue. \n\nI'm not trying to be dramatic or anything; I legitimately believe that I will never find a boyfriend. \n\nI am 18 years old, have a retail job, and am taking a break from college over the summer. I have friends I go out with and I'm pretty social. I don't think I'm super hot but I've always been told I'm pretty and I've been hit on a lot so it's not that I'm hideous. I am 5'8 and about 130lb so not super fat or super skinny. I don't have a horrible personality either. I'm openminded, have a good sense of humor, and I'm nice. Obviously, I'm not perfect by any means but ya know what I mean.\n\n I'm just really not sure why I can't seem to find a boyfriend. I want someone to spend time with, and obviously I'm looking for the physical part of a relationship as well. I am into older guys (like...30-45 years old), is this an issue?\n\n I'm not sure where I'm going with this but I'd really like some input on my situation because it's actually becoming a big problem to me even though I never thought it would. Thank you so much in advance.", "summary": "I'm really starting to believe that I'll never find a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_3meeig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14M] wondering on how to and when to start something with this girl in my class [14F]", "post": "So this cute girl sits next to me in french and quite near me in Geography. So we talk pretty often and for some reason she laughs quite often during out conversations even thought I'm not trying to make her laugh.\n\nShe's not usually crowded by friends so I find that to be a good opportunity to talk to her some more. We have known each other for 3 weeks now and I want to ask her out sometime. The only thing is when and how should i ask her out? \n\nI was planning on waiting for one more month or two to ask her out. Is that too fast or is that too long? And when I do ask her out I planned on bringing her to the movies at a mall then we can do some shopping.", "summary": "Known this girl for 3 weeks wondering how long more i should wait to ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_40ikys", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Can Stopping Flonase Cause Anxiety?", "post": "I've had horrible anxiety the last two days, coincidentally at the same time I stopped taking Flonase for a few days, has anyone had an issue with Flonase withdrawal after stopping taking it?\n\nI've taken it for about a year and a half and it's worked pretty well but I stopped taking it 2 days ago because I'm concerned about the number of steroids I take for things like leaky gut, thyroid etc.  I have Hashimoto's so that the reason why I'm concerned here.\n\nDetails on the anxiety - last night, after a pretty low stress day, I started feeling very upset out of the blue. When I went to bed I had insomnia, but quickly got very panicky feeling and started shaking. My feet started tingling and I eventually started crying hysterically. It lasted almost all night (I got about 2-3 hours sleep) and felt better in the morning, but it resumed again this morning to a lesser degree.\n\nI have an appointment with my endocrinologist tomorrow morning to discuss my thyroid but curious if the Flonase might have something to do with it. \n\nI've done some digging w/ Google and see a lot of people have issues with using Flonase but not finding much about people who suddenly stop taking it having an issue.\n\n* Age - 37\n* Sex - M\n* Height - 6'3\" \n* Weight - 250\n* Race - W\n* Duration of complaint - 2 days\n* Location (Geographic and on body) - NY / All over my body", "summary": "I see a lot of people have anxiety issues taking Flonase, but I never did until I stopped. Curious if there are withdrawal effects from it?"}
{"id": "t3_paxb2", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Hey wise ones: I want to reach out to an ex-girlfriend. Is this....STUPID? (self.dating_advice)", "post": "Short story / first world problem: We were friends for several years. She was 22 and just off the end of an LTR when we dated rather intensely and blissfully for half a year. (I'm a guy, 7 yrs older). Tons in common, we traveled together, birds and sunshine blah blah blah. Then one day she broke it off out of the blue with no explanation (in an email....yeah). Heart = broked. Bad. Never really saw her ever again.\n\nThe most charitable thing I would guess (for myself anyway) was it was too soon after this long term thing she had (the dude had proposed). It certainly wasn't my breakfast (I make good fucking breakfast, yo).\n\n2 1/2 years have passed. Have dated a few others for a time. I'm talking to like 5 girls on OK Stupid. But no one else gets me like that. Still think about her all the time; have run into her in this big city a few times, pleasantly. I can't shake tha feelin. I should note I have almost no idea what is going on with her now...\n\nWhat is the right thing to do?", "summary": "Sam Cooke's version of \"Bring it on Home to Me\""}
{"id": "t3_2mchjf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing my high school to be shut down", "post": "Story time:\nMe and my buddy were in our graduating year, and had just finished our last exam for the year. We are walking by the av room when out of nowhere , I get an extravagent idea. Let's fuck up ms . Davis's classroom!(she was the cunt drama teacher who hated me personally) so we go in, he roots through her desk and throws shit around the room. While he is causing a rukus I grab the fire extinguisher and go to the top of the stairs, running down to the lower floor spraying the hydrant franticly around the room. I set it down and we peace out and go downstairs. Out of nowhere the fire alarms go of. Yup, the shit went in the vents and set of the alarms, thus causing everyone to evacuate. 3 fire trucks showed up and exams for the remainder of the day were cancelled. Turns out we had a bunch of that white shit in our backs. A teacher saw as we were leaving. And decided to call the cops. They came to my house and took us to the station. We were charged with mischef. And yes this really happened", "summary": "fucked up by spraying fire extinguisher causing fire alarm to go off, causing exams to be cancelled . Got charged for mischef . All because of my cunt drama teacher"}
{"id": "t3_2nbi90", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Anxiety Attacks?", "post": "I am a 19 year old male and have been experiencing what I can only call  anxiety attacks. It first occurred this past summer when I was with a group of my friend's friends. I didn't know them very well so I was a little shy. We all went into one of the guys dorm rooms to drink and I suddenly felt sick to my stomach. It further escalated into me feeling, chills, nausea and light headed. This surprised me and I figured it was something I ate or the alcohol but it had never happened before. A couple weeks later it happened when I was on a date. We had been out before and it was our third time out. Suddenly whilst eating I got the same feeling in my stomach! I excused my self and went to the bathroom which then AGAIN escalated into the same nauseous panic attack. Now I was really confused because later on I couldn't think what had happened or why it happened. Then it happened today. Out of no where. I was with my best friend getting a burger and as he was bringing the tray over I felt the same feeling come through my body! It escalated exactly the same why and then subsided the same way. It's happened a few other odd times without such strong symptoms but definitely the same problem. I'm asking anyone how and why they think this may be happening to me. I've never felt nervous around new people or been socially awkward. I'd actually consider my self an outgoing person. The main issue with this seems to be with food. As it seems to happen mostly when I am eating or about to eat and causes an immediate loss of appetite. I've tried taking my mind of it or trying to calm myself down (deep breathing, relaxing etc.) but nothing seems to work. It almost feels like I have to go through the whole episode before I can return to normal. I can't pin point what might trigger this as I thought it may be around new people or places I am uncomfortable but it happened with my best friend who I am very comfortable with. Any advice or links to what this might be would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "What I guess is an anxiety attack makes me feel sick to my stomach and light headed usually in situations where food is involved."}
{"id": "t3_yukc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hi me and my GF are both 19 and i think shes the girl of my dreams, please help the relationship last", "post": "We've been going out for about 6 months now and she is so perfect for me that im pretty sure i want to spend most of/the rest of my life with her. we've already discussed moving in together which we'll be doing after i finish my college course in march next year, mostly due to us both being broke teenagers.\n\nWhat can i do to make sure it lasts? It already seems impossible for something to come between us and make us split up but i love her like crazy and i know she loves me back just as much, so i dont want to take any chances. anything is helpful, thanks in advance", "summary": "I love this girl and i want to keep loving her"}
{"id": "t3_1izi8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (21/M) tell my girlfriend that she's (21/F) being a downer?", "post": "Length of relationship: 3 years\n\nMy girlfriend hasn't always been like this. She has always had a bit of a problem with depression, anxiety and stress, but lately its becoming an every day thing. Everyone else is doing something to piss her off, she's always making the wrong decisions and fucking this up, things like that. She has also been pretty stressed out about transferring schools, and makes comments nearly daily about how she's just going to drop out of school. \n\nI try to console her as much as possible, but no matter what I say she generally doesn't listen to my advice and continues on with her tirade about her life sucks and how she should \"just move away from this life and start a new one.\" I gotta be honest, it's pretty tiring hearing how horrible her life is, and it's starting to become a pretty big turnoff. She is also seeing a therapist who has said she needs more therapy.  \n\nMy question is, how do I talk to my girlfriend about this in a way she will listen?", "summary": "Girlfriend has been complaining about her life and she's been taking me down with her. How do I talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_23me7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [25 M] together for four years, he's about to propose but I just told him I wanted to break up. Just cold feet, or should I be gone for good?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, and that whole time it's seemed like we have a near-perfect relationship - we're best friends who are in love, we can talk to each other about anything, we resolve arguments reasonably and there's no jealousy issues. And for my boyfriend's part, he's a great guy - he motivates me and believes in me, makes me laugh, is ambitious and talented, and I'm certain he would do everything to take care of me and not hurt me. But I just broke up with him, and I'm not sure what's right anymore.\n\nWe're in the process of closing on a house in both our names - closing is next week. I know he's planning to propose within that time period.\n \nSo a few days ago, I was talking with him hypothetically about how things would be different if we weren't together, and that sometimes I wonder about other possibilities. He got all serious and asked me, 'you've brought this up a few times in the last month and a half - do you want to break up?' My initial reaction was no, of course not - but it's bred this doubt in me that wouldn't go away. I have so many friends that dated guys for a long time and then broke up with them because they were 'curious.' And I haven't dated many other guys besides my boyfriend. I've told him before that I wish we'd gotten this serious maybe a year or two from now. And this morning, I had this heavy feeling in my stomach, and convinced myself that I didn't love him 'the right way,' or at least as much as he loves me. So I broke up with him.\n\nI know I'm in love with him, and we're best friends too. So why can't I escape the thought that he might not be 'the one'? Everything would be so perfect if only I could expel this doubt. And as much as I've tried to deny it, it's been there a long time - though it was so small and easily pushed aside until our conversation the other day.", "summary": "He's completely ready to commit, but I freaked out and dumped him - cold feet, or should I leave him based on a 'feeling'?"}
{"id": "t3_3tkq8c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(CAN) May be coming into a sizeable inheritance from my grandmother over $100k, can my family touch it or am I free to use it for school?", "post": "Hello all,\n\nLast week my grandmother passed away after years of parkinsons disease so I'm happy the suffering is over, it came to bear though that there could be a sizeable amount in an old bank account she opened in my name back in 1990, it's a savings account with 4.3% interest on it, no idea how much is in it but on average deposits were weekly $10-$100, I want to know if my mother or aunt [her daughters] will have ANY claim to this as it was left to me in the will, I want to use the money there for schooling if possible but my mother and aunt are spenders, they see money, they blow it.", "summary": "sizeable inheritance from deceased grandmother coming end of month, can my family touch it"}
{"id": "t3_3q8co6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 6 months, afraid I don't feel the same anymore", "post": "I met my boyfriend when I lived abroad, 2 months before I was scheduled to leave. It was amazing. We instantly fell in love with each other and were inseparable for the first two months while we lived in the same city. I've never fallen in love with someone so quickly, and even now I know that he's a great match for me. Our sex life was the best I've ever had, and it hasn't lost that passion despite our being separated now. We have plans to live together as soon as we're done with school and to someday get married.\n\nThe problem is, whenever we're apart I start getting really anxious about our relationship. I haven't noticed any specific problems or incompatibilities, but I definitely don't feel as in love with him as I once was, and hearing him talk about our future together with such certainty makes me uncomfortable. I noticed how muted my feelings for him had become a couple months ago, and I think this has lead to increased anxiety about falling out of love with him. Whenever he talks about our future kids or us as an elderly couple, I get a weird sense of panic that usually carries over for the rest of the day. It happens pretty frequently and I hate it.\n\nI want to love him as steadfastly as he loves me. I'm hoping this is just an early case of transitioning from lust to a stable companionship, hastened by our switch to being long distance. I want to have the future we've talked about, but thinking about it or even my anxiety surrounding it makes me so distressed. I don't want him to know how uneasy I feel; it would crush him.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar or could give me some advice on how to get out of my head. Thanks bunches.", "summary": "loss of the \"in love\" feeling makes me so anxious, any advice to stop worrying?"}
{"id": "t3_3c0uzb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a new tube for my bike at a bike shop", "post": "Semi misleading title is misleading\n\nFirst time changing out a tube on my road bike, and figured 'well, I need to go get the bike tubes from the store, so I might as well use one of the 'free change of tubes' while I'm at it.  \n\nBuy new tube, have them swap it out.  They pump to pressure to test.  Yay, I can go home and ride now.\n\nDriving home, the little one is hungry, so we stop at PDQ to eat.  I crack the sunroof to keep the car from getting too hot while we're eating.\n\nCome back out an hour later, and the Florida sun has decided that, despite my efforts to keep the car cool, I'm go to go ahead and pop that new tube...and screw up the tire bead while I'm at it.\n\nSo...here I am at home.  I've swapped out the new tube, twice at home (the first replacement I think i pinched in the tire and screwed that one up).  The second tube is on, and the tire is back on and seeming to hold, despite the bead being less that optimal, looking online for new tires as I'd hate to get xx miles away from home and have the bead fail.\n\nProtip - next time, decrease pressure in tires if they're inside your bike while riding home in your car.", "summary": "replaced bike tube and Florida heat decided the new tube needed to die."}
{"id": "t3_2soe8p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationships [18 M] Poured heart out to ex [18 F] got rejected", "post": "I dated a girl in highschool for 2 years but during those years I got kicked out of my house moved in with my sister and basically dropped out of school. When we started dating I would go to her house and stay till 4 in the morning and walk across town home but as I got kicked out and moved in with my sister I became more distanced and would ask her to come to my place. She would come willingly because she loved me but I barely went to her place after I moved and whenever she was over I would spend most of the time on the computer and she would wanna do things but I was too lazy. In the end I broke up with her because I thought I was happier without her its been about 3 months since then but we would text often and now I want to change my mistakes and get her back so last night I poured my heart out to her and she seemed unaffected by it and wanted me to stop because she's seeing someone but as far as she told me they're not even dating. Is there anything I can do or did I lose her forever? Sorry first real post and I hated English class", "summary": "Dated a girl for 2 years broke up because I thought I was happy without her just to understand how much she did for me and nothing in return poured heart out to her and she rejected it."}
{"id": "t3_4bpwx9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Leaving My Laptop On The Ground", "post": "I'm a big gamer and was staying at my girlfriends house which i rarely do due to distance and we are currently both sick right now, so i brought my laptop to her house so i can play this game i just got, black desert and watch movies/twitch streams.\n\nI put my laptop on the ground near her tv with an hdmi cable in it to her tv, using a wireless mouse to navigate the internet, little did i expect what was to come.\n\nI fell asleep around 10pm due to my sickness which is early to me, and awoke around 8am to a glug glug noise coming from the wall, as i was laying there i was thinking to myself that i didn't know there was a hot water cylinder in her wardrobe, i looked over and see the room is ankle deep in water, and my laptop screen poking out of the water like [this.](\n\nNeedless to say, i do not think my laptop will work anymore, and if anybody is wondering my gf's stuff is fine, everything in her room happened to be above the zone of destruction, luckily for her.", "summary": "Left laptop on the ground at my gf's house, woke up in morning to a flooded house and a drowning laptop"}
{"id": "t3_3jvfv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F 25] recently divorced, getting into hooking up/dating. So confused!", "post": "After 5.5 years of marriage and being cheated on, we finally finalized the divorce and I moved away. He is literally my entire adult existence. We began dating shortly before I turned 19, got married after shorlty after. He began cheating on me about half way through the marriage, but I felt stuck and like I had no where to go (plus, being in college, I couldn't afford to break any leases or move out).\n\nI am now in a new city and have been going out and making friends. I had my first \"hook up\" type thing Friday night. We didn't have sex because I am definitely not ready for that. I let him know I don't want anything serious, he is cool with it. \n\nProblem: I actually really like his friend. Both the hookup and his friend gave me their numbers and expressed interest (at separate times), but the friend is out of town for the week. \n\nHow do I go about this? Can I just be casual with both? How do I have a hook up? I don't know what the pot hook up protocol is. And the hook up seems to be mildly clingy.", "summary": "Recently divorced and new to \"hooking up\" and dating. I don't know how to do this. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2j6vi5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by nicknaming a co-worker.", "post": "So here's some background before I start my terrible fuck up story. I work in a warehouse and Mondays are always extremely busy because of all the material that gets delivered to us on that day. My co-worker who is named Gary,is usually the one handling the receiving on that day. Over the past month he has been taking Mondays off and that resulted in me and another co-worker having to cover for him, on top of our regular duties. This Monday he shows up and I decided to nickname him Garfield. If you are not familiar with Garfield, he is a cat from a comic strip that is lazy and really hates Mondays. So I call him Garfield the whole day. He asks me why I call him that and I say it's because you always take Mondays off, so you must be lazy and hate them like Garfield does. His face gets very serious and he proceeds to tell me that he has been taking Mondays off because his mother has cancer and he is her only child that lives in the same state as her and can take her to her appointments because she is too ill from all the chemo treatments that she has been getting for ovarian cancer. Now I feel like shit and am contemplating on whether I should show up tomorrow or just quit.", "summary": "Mondays are busy. Co-worker named Gary has been gone the last 4 Mondays. I think he is lazy and hates Mondays. Nickname him Garfield. Call him that all day. He tells me he has been taking his mother to chemo treatments all those Mondays. I feel like shit and want to quit."}
{"id": "t3_1no26q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20M) is by definition, a pothead. I (20f) am not. Am I overreacting?", "post": "We have been dating for 8 months. We have a pretty good relationship. No real arguments until now. \nLets start out by saying im not against pot. I do not know why im having such an issue with this so bare with me kind of long explanation.\n\nMy boyfriend, about a month ago crashed my car. He wasnt high, I was with him. So we decided to pay for a new car together and call it ours. I was fine with that. I told him all I care about is him not having weed in the car or drive high. The reason id because the car is under my nsme. He agreed. Everytime he takes the car I remind him not to have weed in the car. Keep in mind, we've had the car less than a week now.\n\nNow he keeps getting mad I keep reminding him. I told him why I keep reminding him . A while ago I asked him not to smoke one day because for 2 whole weeks whenever I saw him, he would be high. He was incredibly high when I saw him. To me that was him choosing weed over me. I had explained to him why I asked him that and explained why I was upset.\n\nNow I do not know if I am being over bearing. But most times I do not see him rejecting a high. Ive had to wait for him for about an hour while he got high with his friends after work even though we can only see eachother after work. He has 2 jobs. I have a fulltime job and go to school. To me thats choosing weed but he doesnt think so. Now he gets mad because according to him im jumping to conclusions because of one mistake.\n\nSo I need to know, am I being irrational? Tell me the honest harsh truth.\nSorry I typed this on my phone.", "summary": "I think boyfriend chooses weed over me. He gets mad because keep telling him not to smoke in the car, he gets mad. We cannot see eye to eye. Am I overacting or is playing victim?"}
{"id": "t3_2l9n4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] being cut out by ExGF [25 F] 3 years, is it really the best option?", "post": "Long story short, things between my Ex and I got messed up. Our conversation went to shit, we had a number of issues that needed to be hashed out, but I was emotionally unavailable for a while due to many complications in every other facet of life (work, living situation, mental health). So while spending a number of months sorting out some personal issues, things between my SO and I took a big hit. Everything came off the rails. \n\nAs everything came off the rails we finally started talking again, but she felt that it was all too late. She can't risk going back to the way things were. I know there's still a lot of love between us, and we've both been hurting for a while. She's never been the best communicator and I usually needed to be the one to take the charge there, but I didn't, and now she's completely erased me.  \n\nWithin a week of breaking up I learned she was going out with a variety of guys, and a week after that she completely cut me out. 3 years, a couple of rough spots, but mostly a really amazing relationship between the 2 of us. I've slipped up, and she's slipped up. But that's part of a relationship, no? If you really want it you have to work for it, through the good and bad. \n\nI know we're both still plenty young, but I'm still sitting here thinking that she could have been my partner for life. I still want to get her back, but the way she's reacted to everything most recently is really shocking. I did not ever see our relationship going this way. \n\nNot really sure what I'm asking, or what kind of answer I'm even looking for. Any insight would be appreciated. \n\nThanks", "summary": "Communication broke down, finally started talking well again, and she decides she wants me out of her life completely. Has blocked me from all forms of communication, and is dating serially just 2 week after our breakup. It's hitting me hard, and very unexpected."}
{"id": "t3_1ivmre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24/F] just broke up with my SO[29/M], 3 yr relationship:I keep hanging out with him still and I don't know if its the right thing to do.", "post": "I love to still spend time with my ex, I feel like a couple weeks apart fixed a bunch of our issues. He still loves me %100 and doesn't care if we are official or not he just wants to spend time with me.\n\nI love how I feel more free now to do what I want and not have him down my throat 24/7 I sort of come and go as I please instead of how we used to spend every waking moment together.\n\nThe thing is, I want to go somewhere in life. I want to go back to school and travel and become a better person. He is a 29/m pizza delivery boy/pot dealer/amateur programmer who I undeniably have fun with but I worry about the stability of these jobs. And I think if he did have a better job and some more money I would be on board with giving the relationship another go.\n\nSo am I shallow for wanting a partner with more financial stability even though I myself haven't reached it yet(I am still living with my parents and going to school)?\nShould I completely separate myself from him to give him a better chance(he is free to do as he pleases with other girls) with a partner who might be more accepting?\n\nI feel guilt but not sure why since he is free to do what he wants and so am I. But I feel like he is still putting too much gravity on what it is we are doing right now. He knows I don't feel as strongly as him.\n\nI just don't want to be a shitty person just happy.", "summary": "Am I selfish for wanting my ex to have more ambition/better financial stability before I devote myself to him and is it ok to hang out with him when I know he is still emotionally invested(however free to see other people) and I am just enjoying my time until I leave for school?"}
{"id": "t3_2pr78p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal to completely lose attraction to someone after you've had sex with them?! (25/m, 23/f)", "post": "I'm a 23/f and am not at all interested in a relationship at after getting out of a LTR a few months ago. I met Sam (25/m) through mutual friends. He is actually my best friend's boyfriend's best friend, so he's closely enmeshed in my social group and we see each other a lot when hanging with mutual friends. \n\nAfter a night out drinking, Sam and I started talking more and realized we had a lot in common and exchanged numbers. We have been texting back and forth together every day for a while and I really enjoy talking to him.\n\nHe kissed me after a night out with mutual friends a few weeks ago and things have escalated from there. I'm not not attracted to him, but he's I'm not exactly super into him, either, so after not having sex since my last relationship, I went with it. I should say here that I have never had sex outside a relationship, so I didn't know if this feeling of being sort of disconnected was just the lack of emotional connection.\n\nLong story short, we had sex. It was awkward and horrible and I seriously regret it. Since then, though, it seems like I'm disgusted by him. The thought of even kissing him seems gross. Beyond that, even, when we're talking, it seems like everything he does annoys or infuriates me. It's like I don't even remotely feel mentally or physically attracted to him at all anymore. I have no idea what happened, but he's been getting really upset, saying he feels gross because less than a week after I sleep with him, I want nothing to do with him. It's making things even more awkward.\n\n How do I handle the extreme awkwardness of this situation now?", "summary": "I [23/f] have never had casual sex - casually had sex with a friend of mine and now I can't stand the sight of him and everything he does annoys me. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_30sb6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] feel like I've lost touch with my long distance girlfriend [19F] of 10 months and think its time to end it.", "post": "I met my current girlfriend when I was studying in a different state. We started dating in May. At the beginning of this year, I moved back home, about a 2 hour flight away from where I was studying beforehand. \n\nRecently, I've found myself not attracted to her, more or less annoyed by her, avoiding her texts and calls. I feel like the relationship isn't working at a long distance level. I want to end the relationship. She says she still loves me, needs me etc. but I just don't feel the same way about her.\n\nShes coming to visit in two weeks time, for about a week. I'm pretty much the only reason shes coming to my city. I want to end it ASAP but feel like I should wait until she's here.", "summary": "Currently 10 month long relationship"}
{"id": "t3_205l52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20 M) breaking up with my girlfriend (22) after we have been dating for almost five years", "post": "I have made the decision that we have to breakup because I no longer love her.  She was my first real relationship and you can tell by our ages it started in high school.  This is no doubt going to be painful because I still do care about her.  We told each other that we loved each other 2 or 3 years ago and now, it seems to have faded.  I am planning on ending it with her in a few hours and I am unsure how to go about it.  I know that we cannot be together while I don't love her and she loves me for this would cause her great pain and delay the inevitable.  I still care about her and enjoy spending time with her but I no longer feel what I believed love was.  This becomes more complicated because we work at the same establishment and there will most likely be some fallout.  Ideally I would still like to be her friend after this is over but I really don't know what to expect.  My mind has been racing all day and I cannot think straight in anticipation of this.  The last thing I want to do is hurt her but there is probably no way around it.  I'm planning on telling her that I care about her but no longer love her and that we cannot be together any longer but I'm not sure what else I could say.  We currently are not fighting and are on very good terms which is why this will come as a shock to her.  If anyone has any advice, I would very much appreciate it.", "summary": "I'm breaking up with girlfriend of 5 years and am unsure how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_27ezts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 /F] with my boyfriend [28 /M] 1 year, wondering if I'm in the wrong for being uncomfortable with his relationship with ex", "post": "We've been together for close to a year now, living together for a couple of months. Most everything is pretty great, we're very compatible and I want nothing more than to make this relationship work out.\n\nA little while ago, we had an issue where I found out he was planning on meeting up with his ex girlfriend when she came to town. He didn't end up doing it, but from what he said, it's only because she was in a different area and he wouldn't be able to do it without me finding out. We reconciled and moved past it, but he lost a bit of my trust in that. \n\nHe's always kept up casual communication with several of his exes, and it wasn't a big deal. But I started feeling a little suspicious, and I ended up going through his stuff. I know, I know, that's a breach of privacy and whatnot, but he still hadn't regained my trust back. I found out he'd been having extensive conversations with a different ex of his, and a lot of the conversation consisted of talking about how they missed each other and were thinking about each other, and she's been trying to get him to hang out with her (he doesn't because he knows I'd find out), and that made me pretty uncomfortable. It's obvious she still has strong feelings for him, I'm not sure about his feelings for her. I tried to get over it, but then I found out he was deleting all of those conversations when he got a chance. Now I know he's still talking to her regularly (when he's at work), but I don't know what they're saying. \n\nI've decided it's time to actually talk to him about it, because it's really starting to bug me. \n\nI just need to see some outside opinions on whether his behavior is okay or not, and if I should just get over it. I love him and I'm happy with him otherwise, and want to do whatever I need to make this work.", "summary": "Boyfriend's relationship with ex who still has feelings for him makes me uncomfortable, am I in the wrong to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_1koxhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "very nervous 17M - need some advice on how to build up to a relationship", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I was looking for some help. Essentially, I was on a school trip recently, and started talking to someone from my class I'd barely spoken to before on the last day. \n\nWe ended up waiting a while in the airport so I spent a good few hours talking to her, and it turns out I like her quite a lot. She laughed at a lot of my jokes, we talked a lot, and she hugged me at the end of the trip; I wanted to follow it up, but I got nervous and she ended up going on a four week holiday.\n\nSo now she's back, and I spoke to her the other day; i think she finds me quite funny, but I'm really not that much of a looker, and I'm incredibly shy (I tend to be a pretty anxious person, although I'm fairly certain it's nothing as serious as SA). It's worth noting (as you've probably been able to tell) I've never been in a relationship before. \n\nBasically, I wanted some advice on how to work up to asking her out, and what I should do when I actually do. How does one move from casually talking to someone to relationshipping? This is all new to me and I'm very scared of fucking it up, especially because I think I might have a shot. Any help would be really appreciated - thanks!", "summary": "talked to a girl on a trip, found out I like her. She's just got back off a long holiday, and I need to know how to build up to asking her out."}
{"id": "t3_3rkml5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] [17 F] got asked to prom by a guy[18 M] who may want to get me drunk and take advantage of me", "post": "Link to the original question: \n\nHey all :) Some of you helped me out a while back, so I'm here to give you a short update! \n\nThe night started off pretty great with Jake being super cool and all. We went to dinner with some of our friends, got a shared ride, and all that fun stuff. We got to the dance and danced for a while, and he didn't do or say anything creepy. His friend, lets call him Paul since I have no idea who he is, showed up and said something in his ear, and Jake told me that there was a party and we were going. I said no, mostly because I am not comfortable with going to a stranger's party filled with people I don't know. Jake tried to convince me to go, and I kept saying no, until he was really upset. I told him I don't mind him going, and he got pretty mad. He said that I was boring and everyone fucks on prom night so I should too, which was pretty random since sex wasn't even on the table, and that I was making him look bad. He tried to pull my arm but a group of girls next to us told him he needs to leave, and he did. \n\nSo overall, it was an okay night. It sucks I couldn't hang out with Jake all night, but I did meet some pretty cool girls who let me hang out with them the rest of the night! Overall, it was pretty fun, and I didn't die or get pigs blood dumped on me by John Travolta!", "summary": "Jake was an ass, but people are nice"}
{"id": "t3_2pbxb5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "The cognitive dissonance of being an introvert. How can it be resolved?", "post": "Shy. Reserved. Quiet. I've been called all of these things, and for the most part they are not wrong. I highly value alone time and socializing is frequently a chore. I have genuine interest in people but prefer to keep small talk to a minimum. I'm terse, but not ornery - people often tell me I'm one of the few at work who is smiling.\nHere's where the problem arises. I have very few friends, I don't get invited anywhere, and I am pleasantly surprised when someone manages to remember my birthday. It would seem nobody is interested in me.\n\nI've given this some thought. Perhaps my taciturn nature is giving the impression that I want to be alone? By saying little, everyone hears \"Isn't there someone else you could annoy?\" I can see reservedness being mistaken for aloofness. This is certainly not my intent.\nThe alternative is forcing myself to be outgoing and conversational, something that simply doesn't feel natural. Putting on that facade feels almost like lying to everyone I meet. If I were to make friends as Gregarious-Gamma-tron, would they still like the real me?", "summary": "How does one be sociable and popular as a quiet homebody?"}
{"id": "t3_2h8gku", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading TIFU", "post": "TIFU by reading TIFU. So yesterday I was at the ER reading TIFU. I had the flu. There were a few people in the ER and I was reading TIFU to pass the time. I started laughing so hard I shot a snot rocket. Out of embarrassment I looked around to see who noticed. About that time someone started crappie flopping on the floor in a wild seizure. I felt like shit but could not get what I had just read out of my mind. I continued to laugh. The people around me started yelling at me. I just ran out of the ER. Now I feel like an asshole. I'm pretty sure I'm going to hell.", "summary": "I went to the ER only to reserve a condo in hell."}
{"id": "t3_y4g1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF suddenly decides to stop all intimacy [17M/17F]", "post": "So me (male 17) and my gf (17) of 6 months have been rather happy. She's Christian and I'm atheist. She believes in everything the bible says and lives according to the bible. She didn't want to have premarital sex, but only because she didn't want to have a divorce and end up like her divorced parents, which I respected, and partly agreed with because I knew I wouldn't be ready to have sex anytime soon. \n\nShe recently went on a weeklong Christian Camp to Hume Lake, CA. Prior to this we were very happy. She and I would cuddle and sometimes make out, and do some stuff, everything below the waist was over clothes. \n\nWhen she returned from camp, she came to the decision that she didnt want to make out any more. She said that everything that can possibly be resulting in sex should be between one man and one woman that are married. \n\nIt's not only that I have a problem with her suddenly stopping, but that she is choosing to live to please God, when she should be living to please herself. I told her that it's not even worth living if you aren't living for yourself. \n\nWhat should I do? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Christian girlfriend changes mind after coming back from camp"}
{"id": "t3_1o5zar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am in love with my best friend's lover [21 F], help me!!!", "post": "My best friend and her have been on and off for the last 18 months. I have had feelings for her since I first met her, but could never act on it as they were together during that time. One week they are together, the next they're not.\n\nDuring the previous summer, when everybody was home from Uni, she invited me stay at her family home and then confessed that she has feelings for me too. For the next month we might as well have been a married couple!! It was the happiest time of my life and I'm pretty sure she was happy too.\n\nBut since we've been back to Uni, she claims to have broken up with my friend. But she spends more time with him and judging from my friend's reaction (no one in our group of friends have any idea what happened) he clearly thinks they are still together.\n\nI'm pretty sure they are still sleeping together, even if they are not \"a couple\". I confronted her about this, but she tells me to stop talking about it. Only last week, we spend an amazing couple of hours together and I'm nearly 100% sure she feels the same way about me.\n\nI'm just scared she's going to tell me one day, that we were a mistake, and that she is going to give it another go with my friend. Am I being a crazy paranoid controll freak? Or the scumbag who slept with his best friend's gf? There is no one in the world that I care more about than her, and this whole situation had made me loss weight, become a recluse and downright depressive.\n\nI just hope the reddit community can help in whatever way possible.", "summary": "Slept with my friend's gf, madly in love with her, but I'm scared she's screwing me over"}
{"id": "t3_13ggec", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [28/m] losing my girlfriend [24/f], and need help.", "post": "**", "summary": "Girlfriend is pulling away, but says she is still in love and attracted to me. "}
{"id": "t3_pzx17", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do you find things beautiful?", "post": "Today I was walking to my car and noticed that the car beside it had been remote-started as well. I peeked over and it was a Toyota whatever (I could care less about cars) and commented to myself *nice car*.\n\nI don't know quite how to describe it, but my mind flummoxed. What is so nice about the car? That it clearly cost a lot of money? That it was new? That dark interiors are sexy? I mean really, why do I care?\n\nThen I remembered a recent trip to the MET, where nothing strikes me as beautiful, but that I am required by the social whim of society to be entranced by certain pieces. I even had been pointing things out as beautiful that I frankly could give a shit less about, all in the name of this feeling like \"that's how everyone thinks\".\n\nI won't lie, I'm hoping that I'll get a sea of answers on this, if nothing else then to give a reason to the feeling that I get when I think of two people in love, which is the only thing I really find beautiful.", "summary": "So reddit, what do **you** find beautiful, and why?"}
{"id": "t3_2iehfn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU that makes me lock every bathroom I go into (Ft. My grandma)", "post": "Years ago, I was 13. A little weird and it was known that I jerked off by my mom and grandmother (at least).\n\nI went to the bathroom and had to poop. I've always had pretty long arms for my short stature so I when I sat on the toilet, I'd reach anything within my wingspan and read it (especially since I had a pretty low level phone and no contacts that wanted to talk to me). I'd usually go to read things with hard names to see if I could pronounce the ingredients. Toothpaste. Medicine. Rubbing alcohol bottles. Anything. \n\nThe only thing in my reach was the original scent, huge bottle of Jergen's lotion right by the sink. I read down the bottle. The company's claim to making smooth skin a priority. With the bottle in my hand and jeans around my ankles, I hear the bathroom doorknob twist.\n\nMy 72 year old grandmother opens the door and sees me. I looked back at her like nothing was wrong, looked back at the lotion bottle and turned back to see the horror on her face. \n\n\"Nana, it's not what you...\"\nHer black, Georgia accent cut me off.\n\"I know what you were doing.\" And then she left.\n\nI finished using the bathroom and got out of the bathroom 2 minutes later. I went to her and tried my hardest to explain what she saw. After that, I can't go in a bathroom, even if it's to brush my teeth, without locking the door.", "summary": "I was reading a bottle of lotion while pooping and my grandmother walked in and to this day, believes I was jerking off"}
{"id": "t3_322qrv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my friend laugh too hard.", "post": "First off, a weeaboo is someone who is not Japanese and is overly obsessed with Japanese culture and anime, if you didn't know.\n\nWe were sitting there one afternoon eating shitty school lunches, which included mashed potatoes (this will be important later). I had known that my friend (we'll call him John) watched anime in the past, so jokingly I said to him in a strange voice \"you're a weeaboo!\" He still had food in his mouth, and started laughing really hard. My other friends and I started laughing too, because of how hard John was laughing. Then all of a sudden some spit came out of his mouth, and that just made us laugh more. Then snot came out of his nose. By the point we realized this was not snot or spit, he was puking mashed potatoes all over his plate through both his nose and mouth. Somehow the whole lunchroom found out quickly, and basically everyone saw it happening. The 9th-and-11th grade principle came running over, and escorted him out of the lunchroom. He got to go home early, though I felt bad for him since it was probably embarrassing. Luckily, he wasn't mad at me for any of it.", "summary": "I made my friend laugh so hard that he puked mashed potatoes through his nose and mouth while everyone watched."}
{"id": "t3_1a35q3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU (About three years ago) by beating up a friend in front of a foreign exchange student.", "post": "A few years ago, my school ran a foreign exchange program, some students from a fairly wealthy suburb of Barcelona came to stay with families where I live for a week and we went over there later on in the year. The student I was paired with was a quiet kid who seemed really shy. (Understandable in a foreign country where no-one speaks your first language.) \n\nA few days into the week, me and a friend were having an argument. I have a hard time remembering the cause but I know it was something very petty. So I'm walking to school with this terrified Spanish kid, when my friend catches up with us. Insults are swapped and this guy  is getting more and more nervous. This confrontation ends with the friend punching me. Now, I am not a strong guy by any means, but i pretty much flip out and (in a move I'm pretty sure I got off assassins creed) I punch him in the gut so he doubles over, and kick him in the face. All the while, the exchange student is looking at me like I just shot his dog. We walk into school and all I can think to say to him is: \"Sorry about that.\" \n\nBottom line, he had to stay for the rest of the week in my house, (he looked upon me with the utmost terror.) And later on that year I had to go to his. His parents and teachers were the nicest people ever. But the looks they gave me when they thought I wasn't looking.", "summary": "Beat up a friend, traumatized a Spanish exchange student."}
{"id": "t3_4fjr17", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by adding more nose hair into my nose...", "post": "I purchased an electric nostril groomer a few months ago to deal with the jungle that is my nose hair.  Great investment overall, works like a charm!\n\nBefore jumping in the shower this morning, to my delight, I noticed a little water icon on the side of the groomer.  I took this to mean that it was safe to use in the shower.  Brilliant - I'll save time!  I then proceeded to trim and wash all at once.  As I went about my business, I began to notice that an awful lot of hair was coming out of my nose, yet at the same time, my nose was starting to feel stuffy.  It was only then that I realized that the water icon actually meant cleaning mode.  My groomer was expelling all of the months worth of nostril hair that had gather right back into my nose.", "summary": "I'm Greek."}
{"id": "t3_4b1btf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making popcorn.", "post": "I am currently on a marathon Borderlands session, and decided about half an hour ago to make some popcorn. \n\n*Part 1 of the fuck-up happens here*\n\nI had a stray, unmarked bag of kettlecorn that looked identical to the bags of normal popcorn.  Now normally, this wouldn't be considered too much of a fuck-up, *buuuuuut*, microwave kettlecorn burns much easier and creates more gas when popped.  I threw the popcorn in the microwave and retrieved a bowl for what I was assuming was buttery deliciousness.  I snagged the false-prophet of popcorn out of the microwave and opened it right in front of my face. \n\nAll of the excess hot gas exited at extreme speeds right into my nostrils. I dropped the bag and spewed a string of profanity into the ether. With my eyes watering, I walked outside and tore apart the bag with stunning ferocity. I then popped a bag of non-go-fuck-yourself popcorn and ate it with the butthurt of a thousand suns.  \n\nWhenever I go to belch now I feel the burn in my nostrils.", "summary": "Microwave kettlecorn is the bane of my existence now."}
{"id": "t3_1b8rjh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I accepted a job at McDonalds, but I have an interview scheduled for Target?", "post": "Hi there! To get this straight, I accepted the interview before getting hired at McDonalds. I just got hired yesterday and filled out tons of paper work, did the online course for my food handlers card, and they even gave me shoes.\nLater on today is the interview for Target. The interview is for a backroom position which I was told would start at 4AM. I was going to call and let them know I accepted a job offer and that I was sorry for wasting their time and thanks anyway. You know, all that good stuff. But mom is being really bitchy and mad that I want to cancel. \nWhat do I do? I really need a job that will be flexible with me since I am a student and have orthodontists appointments from time to time. This is also my first job. It would be super rude, I think, to go to Target when I already have a job and if my mom ends up trying to get me to take that job instead that would look horrible on my part letting down McDonalds.\nTo make it worse my mom sent over my grandma to also yell at me and talk to me about how \"shitty\" McDonalds is and how badly they treat their their employees. \nWhy can't they just be happy that I'm getting a job. \n\nI know, I suck at writing.", "summary": "I got hired at McDonalds yesterday, but have an interview today at target. Mom is pissed and still wants me to go to the Target one. I dont think turning back on my commitment to McDo aids would be a good thing. What do I do?!?"}
{"id": "t3_1nyycx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M28] just ran into my ex[F28] who broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I feel like all of my progress went down the drain. Need advice.", "post": "I realize I posted this during the dead hours, and it will probably be ignored, but any advice is greatly appreciated.  So my ex broke up with me earlier last Month, who I was with for 5 months for what she said was her depression but later learned she was hooking up with her ex immediately after we split... and we share a lot of the same mutual friends. I ran into her tonight and it definitely stung a bit.\n\nI tried being the bigger man and told her I didn't want things to be weird every time we run into each other (she acted really weird at first) and then we started talking. I made it seem like I was over everything but really, I'm not. I was hurting on the inside and am hurt tonight.\n\nI feel like all the progress I made has been lost, and I couldn't even make a move on any of the cute girls who were also at the party (even though all I wanna do is just rebound). The one girl who I tried rebounding with was there and she was all over me, but she is going through some emotional difficulties and is very clingy right now so I didn't pursue.\n\nReddit, it kills me that she's so over everything and me, and I'm still here hurting. I dated a lot of girls, but she was the first I loved in a long time (and she told me the same). How do I get over this especially when I will inevitably run into her (there's no avoiding this without me becoming a hermit) and we share the same friends?", "summary": "I ran into my ex, who left me for another dude.  Feels bad man, I feel like I lost all of my progress, and I am going to see her a decent amount unless I become a hermit.  I took the higher road, but I feel like shit"}
{"id": "t3_3huvyt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting all over my uncle and aunts bathroom", "post": "So, this fuck up actually happened almost 4 years ago (I know, shocker). I was 13 years old at the time (male) in Dominican Republic for my sisters wedding, and staying at my cousins house until then. It's a small house with only 1 bathroom.\n\nNow, on to the fuck up. On my 2nd day there, we ate rice with beans and shrimp. I distinctly remember not liking the look of the shrimp, but I didn't make much of it. So, I ate lunch and went on with my day. Then about 2 and a half hours later, I had to take a shit right then right there, so I got up and made my way to the (again) only bathroom in the house. I was there for about 30 minutes, my aunt even checking up on me to see if I was fine. Turns out I got food poisoning.\n\nWhen I thought I was done, I got up to put my clothes back on. And right when I stood up, all the food that I'd eaten for the past month (and I can not stress that enough) came rushing out of me. Most of it got on the floor and toilet. I managed to clean some up, but when I go out of the bathroom to get something to clean with, my uncle rushes in because he was apparently waiting for me. I can still remember the look of horror on his face when he saw the aftermath.\n\nSince then, they've always joked about it, but understood that I had food poisoning. So yeah, Reddit. That was my fuck up.", "summary": "Went to my aunt and uncles house, got food poisoning, shit all over their bathroom."}
{"id": "t3_2jnrfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] saw a text message on my father's[57M] phone and I want to ask him about it", "post": "My father has been divorced from mother for over a decade. My father has been in a good, seemingly incredibly healthy LTR for over four years now with a woman he's clearly crazy about. \n\nYesterday I was getting into the car with my father. It was night and very dark. He received a text message and his vision isn't great so he held his backlight phone out in front of him to read it. \n\nI glanced over and read the message. Probably shouldn't have. \n\nIt was from a woman how is close friends with my father and his girlfriend. The message essentially said that she's sorry today was such a \"sad day\" and that my dad's girlfriend \"really does love you[my father]\".\n\nNow, I'm pretty conflicted. My father and I are pretty close, but he's kind of a stoic guy with other males and especially with me. I want to ask if everything alright, because if the text is as big a deal as my glimpse made me feel like it was than I know he's torn up inside. He's an extremely committed sort of person and not good ending relationships. He doesn't have male friends to fall back on and vent with either. \n\nSo, my question is should I ask him what's up or should I just let him tell me in his own time or never if it's just a spat and things blow over?", "summary": "Saw text message on my father's phone. Message raised questions about how he's doing right now. I don't want to get into his business, but I aslo don't want him dealing with something stressful internally without some support. Should I ask him about it or mind my own business and pray it's nothing."}
{"id": "t3_4w4hsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18M] worried about my [18F] gf moving off to uni without me", "post": "Now as im sure this situation has happened with at least a few of my fellow redditors it is here i turn to ask for help.\n\nOkay so a bit of backstory, i was dating a girl i knew from school for close to a year before i met my current gf (who was one of her friends) after ending what became a horrid relationship i started dating my current girlfriend, who has had a history of abusive boyfriends, one of whom she still messages on a near daily basis,sometimes still being borderline abusive/rude and cruel to her, ive tried to ask her to stop and to try and show her the negative effect he is having on her life but with no results, she just \"wants to help him\", even though he is the reason for her nightmares, anxiety and self harm .We have been extremely happy over the 4 months we have been dating. \n\nIn September she will be going to a university around 50 miles from where i live, and as we both have jobs its going to make things difficult to see each other, because of this I'm worried about both her ex and other people around her, as she is sometimes too nice for her own good and occasionally flirts back (harmlessly) with guys, even people who randomly add her on Facebook that neither of us know.\n\n And so i am asking for whatever help i can get, on how to try and deal with the ex, who has both mentally and physically abused her, to the random people on facebook and snapchat. I am worried as \ni can genuinely see myself with her for the rest of my life, but dont know if because of those people it will be a reality. So my question is what should i do? Try and confront her over the ex? Or just let it play out?", "summary": "GF is moving away, worried about her and abusive ex bf."}
{"id": "t3_4rcabe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] with a crush on a long distance girl [18F] but I don't know how to manage my feelings.", "post": "Hey redditors of r/relationships.\n\nI got to know a girl on a party who is a photo model for several clothing brands (Frenchconnection) and make-up/beauty brand (Gemey Maybelline), and I got a HUGE crush on her. I got the chance to enter in talks with her and It did go well for a month, a lot of back and forth messages with her and me (even when she had to do a lot of travelling for her job she always answered me or texted me).\n\n2 weeks ago she started seriously talking to me about a relationship with her (She did all the job some could say..), and I was super happy about that. But she started talking about the possibility that our relationship would be based on the fact that she'll never be around (always travelling in USA/Germany/Spain) so we couldn't see each other or maybe few days on Summer.. and It pains me off. I'm not the kind of guy that likes not seeing my GF for a long time. But I love her a f..king lot.\n\nMy brain tells me to let her leave her dream, to let her be a good photo model and win it all, but my heart wishes she stays around me and be with me.\n\nFor some background story about me : I'm a baker (and french lol), I work 65 to 70 hours/week (and it's night shifts, I'm starting at 1 am and finishing at 12am or 1pm, depending of how much works needs to be done), but I can squeeze some time for a GF/Wife easily, it doesn't scares me. And I don't have that much experience on relationships, only got the chance to be with few girls so that's why I'm kinda fearing the long distance relationship.\n\nIf any redditors got any tips on that subject or want to talk about it, feel free.\n\nSorry for my english in advance, It's my second language and I'm not mastering it :)", "summary": "Got a crush on a beautiful and lovely girl, but she's always on the other side of the globe."}
{"id": "t3_fyshp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me think of 8-5 minute workouts I could do in an office.", "post": "Hey reddit, my coworkers and I have a deal going on to see who can lose the most weight. 1 got on the adkins diet and the other was a long distance runner so he is going to run 4 mi a day. I plan on losing my weight by limiting myself to 2,000 calories and doing 8 5 minute workouts everyday. On my days off I plan on working on cardio but at work I thought, what the heck. Why not use the downtime to trim my belly.\n\nAll I could think about doing is push-ups and sit-ups. And trust me I dont want a lecture on why doing 100 push ups a day would be a bad idea, so help me mix it up a bit. \n\nI will dedicate 5 minutes of every work hour to do each set.", "summary": "I need 8-5 minute workout ideas to do in an office space environment. Push ups and Sit ups is all I got so far."}
{"id": "t3_u1ns5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Tomorrow's the big day. Anyone got race strategies for me?", "post": "**BACKSTORY:** I'm a not-so-talented freshman high school runner (brand new to the subreddit), who's run all three seasons (XC, Indoor, and Outdoor). At the beginning of cross country, I ran a 7:15 mile. By the middle of indoor, I ran a 6:23! I went out for a month at the end of indoor with a bad hip, and came back for outdoor, starting off the season with a 3:10 800. I continued running the 800 for the entire season, and last week ran a 2:47.6. I haven't run the mile since indoor, and tomorrow I'm running it with the hopes of breaking 6 minutes. Sadly, after my race last week, the hip problems returned, and running is painful. I'm hoping to trudge through tomorrow. Tonight, I'm preparing with an early night to sleep, a big bowl (or two, or four) of pasta, and a lot of water. I want to know if anyone has a good strategy.", "summary": "I want to break 6 minutes in my mile."}
{"id": "t3_2saasa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making myself feel like a pedophile.", "post": "To be more specific, this was last night, so more or less LNIFU.\n\nIt was a college friends 18th birthday party. Technically she was still a senior in high school, but she was taking college courses at the same time. So I decided to bring some beers, being that I'm the cool friend who is over 21. (Super responsible!)\n\nSo I get there, meet some awesome people, have a beer or two...or three. The next thing I know I'm really hitting it off with this girl (We will call her L). I've never been the type of guy to really hit it off with the ladies, so I'm fucking baby town frolics at this point.\n\nAfter talking for 15 or so minutes she mentions her older brother is this guy at the party named (B), who is crazy chill guy; I met him earlier on in the party. So after laughing and joking together for what seemed like hours, we kinda start to make out. (You have to understand, I'm a 21 year old virgin who has really only hugged girls before hand)\n\n So I'm crazy happy at this point, we stop at pretty much the macking session. Don't want to get too serious when we had just met. The party is starting to die down at this point, my ride wants to leave, so I get everyones number and head out. \n\nDuring the ride home I'm still thinking about sweet sweet L. About the amazing time we had together, about the feeling of her lips on mine... Then it fucking hits me! Her OLDER brother is B. He is 19! I ask my ride more about her....she is 16 years old...\n\nI fell in love with a minor....really fucking glad we stopped at the make out sesh.", "summary": "I made out with a 16 year old girl and fucking enjoyed every second of it."}
{"id": "t3_23m5lb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] I'm going to prom with a \"friend\" (16/f)", "post": "So I have been friends with the girl for most of our lives. For a while now we have been texting almost every day. Eventually I got the courage to ask her to the prom. But I messed up and were going as \"friends\". The prom is 2 weeks away and the weekend before, Our family's are spending the weekend together. I will be staying at her house. Its obvious that we both like each other but I don't know when I should make it official to ask her to be my girlfriend. Before this weekend, during prom, after prom? I also travel A LOT and I live a hour away from her. So when should I ask her and how should I present it?", "summary": "Going to prom as \"friends\". When should I make us not friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2wrna3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (17F) told him (18M) that I liked him, no response?", "post": "I have been hanging out with this guy for a little over a month now, and he confessed to my friend that he liked me. Friday night he invited me to a concert, and even paid for my ticket. Afterwards I told him I had a really good time & he said we should hangout again soon. I knew I needed to tell him how I felt about him, since he thought I only hung out with him because I felt bad. So later that night I texted him saying that I liked him. It is now Sunday morning and I have not heard any responses. I don't understand, because he really liked me, and wanted validation that I liked him. Why would he not respond at all? Should I just text him and ignore it? Also, he doesn't go to my school so I only see him on weekends.", "summary": "he really liked me so I confessed my feelings for him, and I got no response."}
{"id": "t3_3iatzj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am wondering how to tell if you're in love.", "post": "I am currently married and only had one other really serious relationship before my husband [21M]. I know I loved my ex [21M]. But it was one of those unhealthy, crazy, screaming at each other one minute and being crazy in love the next, kind of relationships. My relationship with my husband on the other hand, is very tame. We almost never fight. But I'm concerned that the lack of fighting is also tied to a lack of passion. Don't get me wrong, I don't think you have to fight to be in love....I guess what I'm saying is, I'm not sure I know how to recognize love when it doesn't come in a \"crazy\" package. I'm just not sure I really LOVE my husband or if I just love the fact that he loves me and that I'm not crying every two days about a break up or a fight like I was with my ex. \n\nHow do you differentiate loving someone from loving that someone loves you? Is feeling safe around them love? Is passion a necessary ingredient for love? I suppose I should also mention that I think I still have feelings for my ex, but I have no desire to go back to him because the relationship just isn't right and we are not suited to each other, and I know that. Does this necessarily mean that I don't love my husband if I still have feelings for someone else, even feelings I don't want to act on?", "summary": "Tell me how you know you love someone."}
{"id": "t3_2l65o9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long term boyfriend [20 M] of three and a half years just told me [20 F] he's not ready for a serious relationship right now.", "post": "First time posting so I hope I don't mess this up!\n\n Just a bit of background info, my boyfriend and I have been in a LDR relationship for some time but this has always worked for us. We have been together for three and a half years and we met when we were sixteen.\n\nOkay so yesterday I met up with my boyfriend for a little date. About a couple hours into it he asks me to sit down and says we need to talk. It was a long and tearful conversation but essentially what he was saying was that he's not in the right place for a serious relationship. He also said he wants to break up with me in case we don't last, which he said would mean that he would have \"wasted his university experience\". \n\nSo basically what I got from that was that he wants to sleep around. However, he also started talking about how he doesn't want to lose me as a friend, that he feels like he can only be his true self around me. After some probing from me I find out that he wants to be friends with benefits.\n\nI agreed to think about this even though I know that continuing to sleep with him while he is also sleeping with other girls would probably make me feel jealous. Since then he has continued to message me as normal, absolutely nothing has changed in our messages, they're still kind of flirty (which I know is because I kind of agreed to the friends with benefits thing).\n\nI guess what I want to know is how I should proceed from here. I don't want to lose him as a friend because we do get on well and make each other laugh. But at the same time I know that remaining friends is going to make it hard for me to move on. Also does the friends with benefits proposal mean that there is hope or is he just trying to have the best of both worlds?\n\nThanks in advance for any advice you can give me", "summary": "Long term boyfriend suddenly tells me he wants to see other people but that he wants to remain friends (with benefits)."}
{"id": "t3_ipkqj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Blu-Ray recorder in another region", "post": "Hi Reddit!,\n\nI have a Blu-Ray HDD recorded that I have purchased here in Japan, and am wondering what the chances of it working in Australia would be? [here is the model for those interested (all in Japanese)](\n\nI understand that as a DVD/Blu-Ray player, it should be fine, as it is compatible with both PAL and NTSC discs, and unlocking it won't be an issue anyway I wouldn't assume. The problem I am expecting to face is whether or not it will be able to successfully pickup the 'TV guide' (free to air only) in Australia to allow recording at specific times. I am sure the tuner inside the device would be NTSC, as it is a Japanese domestic product, however I have been reading that if you connect it straight to the TV via RCA cables, this may get around the problem.\n\nA little background on the TV it will be connected to - it is a HD plasma TV, and the signals for the TV are received from an antenna in the roof directly to it (we do not have cable TV at the house in Australia).\n\nI am sure I have left something out, so if I did, please let me know.", "summary": "Will I be able to use the Blu-Ray HDD recorder I bought in Japan to record and watch TV shows in Australia."}
{"id": "t3_1t4e3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(21M) with ex (21F) of 6 years. Can someone explain the concept of falling out of love to me?", "post": "We were in a fairly long relationship. I was her first \"real\" boyfriend. But she told me recently that she just didn't love me the same way anymore. She said I am so smart, funny, nice, caring, etc. She said she still loves me but it is different now. I countered with the facts that we haven't been arguing, we've been working through what few problems we had, we've been going out more, having fun and different experiences. She said all that was true but she just wasn't happy as she thought she should be.\n\nI don't understand the concept of falling out of love with someone. Especially if things are going good, how do those feelings fade? Can someone explain it to me.", "summary": "how do you fall out of love with someone?"}
{"id": "t3_av14i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most disappointing thing that has happened to you?", "post": "So I've had depression for sometime now, bunch of terrible things happened just destroyed my life. So this girl messaged me on facebook asking to hang out. So I go over, we watch a movie together until about 2 am. So it's late and she asks if I want to sleep over, obviously I say yes. She offers her bed or the couch, and ask if her bed is big enough for both of us, she says yes. Anyways we end up making out an cuddling all night, and was probably the happiest I have ever been. I start to think, \"hey maybe my life will be better, I'm going to ask her out tomorrow. Damn this feels good, life isn't so bad\"\n\nThe next day she messages me saying she doesn't want a relationship, and to forget about last night. Her friend showed me a text from this girl saying \"he's such a loser, he'd like any girl\"\n\nNeedless to say it brought back the depression and probably the biggest disappointment of my life.", "summary": "Some girl brought my hopes and then brought them back down."}
{"id": "t3_3cttc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could I [16F] get back together with my boyfriend [17F] after our breakup?", "post": "So I was recently dumped by a guy that I only dated for one month, but we really hit it off. He broke up with me because he said the spark died, and our mutual friend told me that he had said he was worried about the long distance over the summer, as I'm out of state. We texted, even though he apparently hates texting, and he told my friend that he felt like we were just texting like friends, hence the spark dying. We broke up on a good note, and agreed to stay friends.\n\nI'm thinking that he just didn't want to have a texting relationship, because even though he said it wasn't just the distance and he though the spark died, we had our first kiss only five days before. Is it possible for us to get back together when I get back?", "summary": "Could we get back together after the 'spark died,' most likely because of distance?"}
{"id": "t3_sxhtf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out girlfriend was/is abused by father; seeking advice.", "post": "I'm male, 18; girlfriend is also 18. Dating for 7 months. Both college students living away from home, met in college, clicked, and are dating.\n\nAfter a little while of dating, she confided in me that her father regularly drunkenly hit her throughout high school (before we dated), and made her feel like shit psychologically and physically. This led to notable issues with self-esteem, general jumpiness at touching, and fear of trusting.\n\nApparently this abuse culminated in sexual contact - drunken, angrily \"groping\" her breasts. She had a lot of trouble confiding this, and I assured her that I was glad she was being open and that I'm here for her no matter what.\n\nAssuming this was over because of college was incorrect; apparently he is still drunk and verbally mean, and physically aggressive (not hitting, but rough) when she goes home over breaks. This also led to another similar sexual incident more recently. She had trouble telling me about this one, which concerns me, and she claims that she deserved it and wants to pretend it never happened.\n\nShe is afraid of him/to go home (but is going to live at home over the summer), but more importantly, she is afraid to ruin her family. I suspect her father is treating her mother similarly, but I don't know and she doesn't either. My thought is everyone would be better off with the father out of the picture, but I'm not going to say that to her. She loves him sober, and claims he's another person when drunk.\n\nI gave her advice to take preventative measures (avoid scenarios where something may happen), talk to her father (she was intimidated by this), talk to her mother (apparently a firm NO from her), and a counselor (she is hesitant). \n\nDoes anyone have similar stories or ideas of what I and she can do to end this? especially without 'ruining' her family. Thank you very much for reading", "summary": "what can I or my girlfriend do to end her father's drunken abuse without ruining her family?"}
{"id": "t3_2nc1ps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F/21] boyfriend's [M/20] parents don't like me because I come from a \"broken home\". What do I say to them?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for about a month now. His parents are very over protective, he is their first born and I am his first relationship so they are also adjusting to all these new changes.\n\nAbout a week ago his mother asked him to tell her about my family. I think she was trying to grab at straws in an attempt to find something she likes about me. He briefly told how my parents are divorced, my mother does not work and I live with neither of them when not in school. Apparently this did not sit well with her and concerned her. As he put it.\n\nI'm so upset because my parents marital status and my past home life is something I cannot control and yet am being judged for. I just want her to like me.\n\nIn the next few months I will be visiting his family for the first time. What should I say if they ask about my home life or what my mother does? In all actuality, my mother and I woke up one morning to my father leaving. After that she was over taken by depression, turning to alcohol and hard drugs, quit her job and now relies on welfare, food stamps and alimony. I moved out when I was 15 because it was not a good environment for me. I am since in college but over the breaks live with a family friend who was nice enough to rent a room to me. But..I don't really want to tell this to his family. What should I say if they ask me questions? What if they ask how my mother is supporting herself?", "summary": "My [F/21] boyfriend's [M/20] parents don't like me because I come from a \"broken home\". What do I say to them?"}
{"id": "t3_1c91os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M 23) want to bring back some of the \"new relationship\" feel into my LTR with my GF (22)", "post": "Hi all. I went out with my girlfriend of 6 years and a friend and his new girlfriend last night. Afterwards my girlfriend told me presumingly as a result of seeing our friend and his new girlfriend that she sometimes misses that \"new relationship feel\" we had all those years ago and would like to bring some of that excitement and spontaneity back. \n\nI understand completely where she is coming from though I do not necessarily feel that way myself. We have an amazing relationship, very open and communicative and very fulfilling sexually and otherwise, but we know each other so well and are so comfortable around each other that I think sometimes this may inhibit some of the spontaneous romanticism that my girlfriend wants. \n\nWe are two very different people and while she is rather adventurous,extroverted and more than happy to go out and have completely new experiences and try new things I'm more reserved, introverted and tend to be more comfortable with the familiar. \n\nWhat I'm asking is how can I \"date\" and continue to surprise my long term partner. I'm definitely willing to try things outside my comfort zone but she is very aware of when I'm having a good time and when I'd just much rather be at home and I think this makes her feel bad.", "summary": "Want to bring back some of the surprise mystery and adventure of a new relationship into a relationship of 6 years"}
{"id": "t3_1b26c0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do we really need to TALK about it?(M27,F22)", "post": "So after being together for almost 3 years, we broke up.. for one main reason which was that I hadn't been working in a while. We continued living together while I searched for a job. After a couple of weeks we slowly started getting close, sitting closer on the couch and sleeping together again. Now I've been working a full time job, we have been going out to do fun things together, and we've been closer than ever. He holds me on the couch and I get kisses before bed and before work and everything is excellent. We are looking for a new apartment together in April, and we are very happy. Only difference is we dont say I love you.\n\nI remembered telling him when we broke up and were kinda working on things, that I wanted to have a real good talk once I was working and stuff, about fixing things.. But it feels fixed. In my heart, I feel like hes back. Everything feels like it used too..\n\nSo really, do we even need to have a talk? Or can these things kinda resolve themselves after the problem is solved, which it is.", "summary": "Broke up because I wasn't working, I am working FT and we are back to normal, do we NEED to have a talk? Or can I assume the best?"}
{"id": "t3_27a3gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my now ex [22 M] Long term just broke up, I have next to no feelings about it.", "post": "I'll explain the no feelings thing. He recently started berating me, calling me names like slut, whore user and told my friends to make sure I don't \"slut out\" while clubbing one night. there's more but I wont go on. He broke up with me today, we've been living together to it's going to be rough.\n\nI admitted I need a job (I suffer from agoraphobia, I don't know where to start or how), my attitude has been bad but I've been sick and dealing with three separate tooth aches. Doesn't help that he's been keylogging me or taking my phone off me and yelling at me for menial conversations with my friends.\n\nMy heart tells me I should be crying, cuddling my cat and really upset but my mind is telling me I'm tired....\nI feel like at this point he's threatened to leave me if I couldn't get a job I just don't care any more, leave, get out and let me get on with my life, Is this normal?", "summary": "BF left me, thinks I'm a using slut, never been unfaithful, don't care anymore"}
{"id": "t3_4le696", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Recently laid off, really debating on chasing my dream.", "post": "So I recently just got fired from my job, and I'm trying to figure out what the best decision is for myself. I'm 25, no kids, no mortgage, and have a college degree. The only vice I have at this point is student loans.\n\nMy dream for the longest time has been to move the west coast, SoCal in particular. I've lived in the Midwest my whole life, and want a change of scenery and try something new. I just have this voice in the back of head that says to go now, because you likely won't get a better shot at this anytime later.\n\nIs there anyone here that has had a similar experience or any advice about \"taking the risk\" to leave it all behind and start a new life? I would love to hear your story.", "summary": "Just got fired, little to no obligations, want to relocate to California and start fresh."}
{"id": "t3_3vcu83", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU from being tired while on a crowded bus", "post": "So I had got onto a bus at around 5:00 pm. I had gotten no sleep the night before and had to do overtime for work, so I was dead tired. At last I was going home on the bus, but to my luck there were no seats. Oh boy. So I'm standing while holding onto one of the poles, then my tired body said fuck this, and soon enough i was sleeping. I wake up with myself dropping low, still hanging on to the pole like I'm a stripper. Everyone on the bus is looking at me like I'm crazy. I hear a little girl(who pretty much had front row seats) say mommy look at the man. I tried so hard to hide my embarrassment, i just closed my eyes and hoped the bus ride would be short, i wish. I did it again. Dropped my ass down low like i was desperate for dollar bills. This happened for 30 minutes, each drop happened every 3 minutes. I regret not sleeping.", "summary": "Was tired. Got on a crowded bus with no seats. Fell asleep standing up. Kept waking up dropping down low on the ground like a stripper"}
{"id": "t3_3ivodk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [26m] and new friend [23f], just want to be friends, don't want to lead her on. what should i do/say?", "post": "I am currently going through a separation with my gf of 5 years. We are both unsure of things, but have talked here and there and there is a possibility of us getting back together. This was a mutual split and the story behind this is much too long and somewhat unrelated.\n\nNow, 4 or so weeks after my ex and I separated, I met someone else - Jen. Jen and I have hung out a few times, but I consider her only a friend. We have similar senses of humor. We talked for awhile and I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime- she said yes. We haven't done anything fancy, just watch tv and whatnot. I mostly just need friends which is why I approached her in the first place. I'm getting the impression that she thinks I am looking to be more than friends despite the fact we haven't been physical and I don't say flirtatious comments to her. I hate to have to tell this girl that I am not looking for someone like that because MAYBE she isn't either, which might be awkward.\n\nAny suggestions? I like hanging out with her, but there isn't attraction (at least on my end). What can I say to her to just make sure that, before we continue hanging out, she knows my intentions?", "summary": "new girl I'm hanging out with, I just want to stay friends and I want to make sure she knows this, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_30iz3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Drifted from friends (M/F) of 15 years after they separated...how to rebuild relationship with both (separately), 8 years later.", "post": "I am 42 M\nMy friend is 40 M\nHis ex of 8 years is 42 F\n\nI Had a best friend for 15 years, we are both males. He had the same GF for those 15 years. The three of us hung out together for the duration of that time. Mostly it was him and I, or the three of us, but only on a handful of occasions did the GF and I hang out, and it was always mutually platonic.  They married briefly right at the end (for a week) and then separated.\n\nThey broke up and we all drifted apart.\n\nEight years later, I coincidentally bump into each of them, separately, and now have a friendship with both. They haven't/aren't, speaking and will not be doing so in the future.\n\nWe (myself and friends' ex GF) have developed feelings for one another just recently, and I'm overwhelmed by it, given our history and the possible pain I may cause my friend.", "summary": "Fell in love with friends ex of 15 years 8 years after they separated, looking for friendly advice"}
{"id": "t3_17edgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (M25) deal with all of my friends (M/F, 20-25) unilaterally doubting the wisdom of liking a girl (F20) I've been best friends with for months?", "post": "Known her for about a year and a half now, asked her out once a year ago, gotten much better friends recently.\n\nI trust my friends and appreciate their viewpoints and opinions and I'm just worried sick that ill make a huge mistake. My friendship with her is completely different than any if them, guys and girls-- I identify with her nearly 100% and feel like she \"gets\" me more than anyone else on the deeper, important things in life. I'm on the same page with my friends, but I feel like I'm coming from the same place as this girl.\n\nBut we spend 99% of our time laughing and goofing off together, and the serious stuff just weaves itself in naturally and seamlessly and I freaking like it. I can. Not. Feel stressed around her. She's crazy, but she's the exact kind of crazy I am and it is like a breath of fresh air, and I love it.\n\nThings that I think are funny that my friends never have, but I guess they think I'm just laughing with her because she is completely smoking cute.\n\nSo I feel like she represents a whole side of my personality I've never known anyone else to represent.\n\nI'm just friends with this girl, but this is what's been holding me back from trying anything at all. I am willing to just go for it despite my friends' wishes-- they've specifically said they would trust me but be secretly relieved if it didn't work out.\n\nMy therapist says that's what's most important-- that I'm comfortable. I agree-- I can be happy independent of them, but should I even want to try to bring them around and explain to them how I feel about it all? But I feel so apprehensive, like I'm leaving my friends (who I love and respect!) behind and kind of giving them the vibe that I don't care about them. I do, but there's nothing they might not like about this girl that I don't see as one of my own main problems anyway. They're hardly deal breakers for me.", "summary": "Am I making a stupid decision? Should I just respectfully ignore my friends' advice? Should I stay in the middle of the spectrum forever?"}
{"id": "t3_2r9kp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 M] interested in a painfully shy woman [20 F] and don't know what to do", "post": "Hey everyone!\n\nLast summer, I buddied up with her because she looked like she needed friends, but now that I'm interested, it's weird.  The group is also awkward, with lots of gossip.  I'm the only single guy who will directly go up to girls or try to talk to everyone.\n\nShe gives lots of negative signs when I talk to her.  Sometimes she starts out excited to talk and then shies away, but she usually gives a quick response and leaves.  **I tried texting a couple times, but she responded immediately with short, conversation-killing messages.**  This week, I invited her to a small group thing (us + another couple she's comfortable with + maybe more from the group) and she just said, \"I can't, sorry.\" and left.  There's more, but it's all like this.\n\n**However, she told me that she could be extroverted with close friends, but took forever to open up to people due to horrible social anxiety.**  She positions herself in \"talking range\" of me and watches me a lot, in an increasingly jumpy way.  If I say something in a group or take my phone out, she'll jump, look at me, and then quickly stare off into space.  Sometimes if I go up to people near her and her girlfriends, as soon as I arrive, she'll turn and step out towards me, and then snap back.\n\nI have more examples, but they're similar.  How can I get to know her better?  Is she even interested?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Unsure how to talk to a shy woman, as she doesn't seem to want to talk/text, but watches me a lot."}
{"id": "t3_kt1nv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "RFID Questions for a newb.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nVery very new to the whole RFID thing. I have an idea for a new application for RFID technology in the field of Visual Effects for feature film. I was hoping anyone would be willing to answer a couple of small (probably simple) questions.\n\nTo begin, I will explain the problem. One major part of the visual effects industry is the digital recreation of the movement of a camera. For any particular shot that an artist is working on, they are usually given a digital representation of the camera move in 3d space (this includes rotation, translation, etc.). There are specific pieces of software that analyze the movement of objects in a particular shot, and using some spacial calculations, extrapolates a \"camera solve\" that closely replicates the way the camera moved when the shot was actually captured. The problem is, these softwares and camera solves can be very difficult, time consuming, and not always totally accurate.\n\nWhat I am trying to do is develop a system that can be applied to any camera on set to automatically record the camera's movements, giving a 100% accurate representation of that movement (much like motion capture technology).\n\nThe reason I cannot use motion capture technology to solve this problem is that the equipment and setup required is rather bulky, which is something I want to avoid.\n\nMy question is: could I use an RFID tag with a series of receivers to triangulate the position of a camera in real time? The triangulation would have to be extremely accurate (less than an inch error).\n\nIf yes, how would I go about setting up this system?\n\nOnce the data is collected, how would that be transfered into usable digital data?\n\nThanks in advanced for any help!", "summary": "can I use an RFID tag and a few receivers to triangulate the exact position of that tag in real time? How?"}
{"id": "t3_frvux", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Italy to Finland via train (/ferry) - just a few travel questions.", "post": "I'm leaving March 8th for Rome and will spend approximately 11 days traveling by train (mostly) up to Helsinki, Finland for my brother's wedding.  I will be staying mostly, well... anywhere I can lay my head :)  and carrying everything in my backpack.  We've worked out all our major stops (Rome, Florence, Venice, Munich, Prague, Berlin, Copenhagen, Stockholm, and finally Helsinki).  My biggest question is whether I should change all my money over to euros?  Or some of the local currency?  Traveler's checks?  Any advice would be greatly appreciated!  Also, for visiting major tourist attractions like the Vatican etc. should I make reservations ahead of time?  Or would it be equally effective to work those things out as we go?", "summary": "2 weeks all over Europe, do I change my money to euros?  Do I pre-book tours?"}
{"id": "t3_1s05s4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30M] husband doesn't want to participate in Christmas with my [27F] family because it makes him uncomfortable, and I'm annoyed", "post": "My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now and he's spent multiple Christmases with my family. He did not grow up celebrating Christmas (he was raised Jewish) and is now Atheist so he feels like he should be able to opt out of participating with my family. Let me be clear that my family is not religious by any means. We do not go to church and Christmas for us is about spending time with each other as a family and eating good food. The most religious thing that goes on is my mom puts out a small nativity scene that has been in her family for years. \n\nI asked my husband when he would like to go with my mom and brothers to look for our Christmas tree. He told me he doesn't want to come and I asked him if he meant tonight or in general and he said in general. He said he really doesn't see the big deal about him opting out of the Holiday all together. Meaning that he won't be with us when we eat our traditional Christmas Eve and Christmas meal. He doesn't see why I could be upset about this, but for me it is something we have to go through every year and I wish he would just be an adult, suck it up, and deal with it. There are plenty of times we do things we aren't thrilled about just to make the other person happy and I feel this should be one of those times. \n\nAm I completely in the wrong?", "summary": "husband doesnt want to do Christmas with my family because it offends him, I think he should suck it up and participate since it's 1 day. Am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_u3dh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am so confused.", "post": "So, tomorrow I am going in a group of 20 people(all high school kids, male and female- I am a 15 year old female) to Disneyland. My boyfriend (male 14) found out a few days ago he needs a ride there, & there were three possible car choices for him to pick from-mine, his friend's(male 15) , and our other friend's(female 15). \n\nToday I told him he HAD to make his decision or else he would have no ride, and in the end he decided on picking to go in the car of my friend(the 15 year old female) that I honestly don't consider as a friend at all, but I have to tolerate. The reason he decided this is because it would be \"too awkward\" to go in my car.\n\nI'm trying to talk to him about it and explain to him why I don't like our \"friend\"-who absolutely despises me and tries to make my life miserable, but he doesn't seem to understand. I have no idea how to react to this and I feel a little betrayed and really hurt that he'd rather be with someone I dislike than with the person he cares about. If anyone has a way to cheer me up or any advice, that'd be great. I don't understand any of this.", "summary": "My boyfriend made a decision that went against me and I feel hurt. I have no idea how to feel about this."}
{"id": "t3_38gjkv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible that she [F20] has real feelings for me [M20] or is she just showing her appreciation for my heroism?", "post": "This girl and I have been good friends for about 2 years now. She has been in a relationship pretty much the whole time I've known her. A couple of months ago there was a lull where she broke up with her ex and had been single for a month or so. So about 2 months ago, I told her how I felt. She said she didn't feel the same way without hesitation.\n\n5 days ago I went over to her apartment and when I was outside her door I could hear arguing. I have my own key, and I was worried so I just walked in. Long story short: her ex was hitting her, we fought and he left.\n\nAfter it happened I felt really sick and ended up going to the hospital. One of my kidneys was pretty badly damaged, so I've had to stay at the hospital for monitoring, just in case I needed emergency surgery. Anyway, ever since I've been here she's been visiting me a lot. She keeps saying that I \"saved her life.\" We had sex the night after it happened, and we've kissed a lot. She keeps cuddling with me, which is amazing.\n\nBut my question is, could these be real feelings on her part? I am in love with her, that hasn't changed. But I don't want to get hurt.", "summary": "Is it possible that she [F20] has real feelings for me [M20] or is she just showing her appreciation for my heroism?"}
{"id": "t3_3bmsov", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smearing ink on my face and having my entire class laugh at me", "post": "This happened around 4 years ago. I was sitting in class, minding my own business as I usually did. One thing to note, I was a day dreamer. Class would have discussions and I'd be somewhere else entirely. Butting into the last minute just to ask \"what's happening?\". \n\nSo I had this 0.1mm pen I had found and kept in my pencil case. The pen would basically ejaculate ink without its cap on. Unfortunately, today the cap had fallen off in my pencil case and spilled on everything. I ruffled through my pencil case for some reason, noticed my calculator was covered in ink. Up to this point, I was scratching my head and touching everything around me. This one kid sitting opposite from me (he was a total mega douche) looked at me and felt that he had to let out the biggest 'hah' he could muster up whilst pointing at my direction, leading to the entire class looking at me. \n\nAs usual I looked around and thought.. \"what?\" looked to my right, my friend is pointing at his forehead whilst looking at me and probably thinking \"you done fucked up again bud\". Looked at the teacher, she smirked, laughed for a little and said \"apocapoca... Just go to the bathroom\". I walked out with the class laughing at me. Used my phone to see that my forehead was full of ink. Washed myself up. Walked into class, continued the lesson. Later that day I found out from my friend that the same asshole who started the laughing charade in my class had told everyone in his other subject about the event. I was mortified, eventually, I think everyone from my entire grade found out. Everyone was talking shit about me, and worse, not in front of me but behind my back. Lived with that embarrassment throughout my final year of school. To top it off, that wasn't the most embarrassing thing to happen to me, but that's for another time. Needles to say, I never had a single date through highschool. I think one or two girls might have had a crush on me but were too embarrassed to say anything. My experience with HS Sucked major balls.", "summary": "pen ejaculate on my face, highschool Sucked major megasized hulk balls"}
{"id": "t3_3u7lsy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19F) friend (19F) played a cruel 'prank' on me and someone else", "post": "My friend Bethany (not actual name) was texting an acquaintance of ours. I see him frequently around the college campus and we occasionally talk but that's the extent of our interactions. \n\nAnyway, she told me that he confessed that he likes me. I didn't know this so it was a surprise. She then told me that she thought it was funny to say that I coincidentally had a \"surprise date\" planned for Friday night. That's a lie. I don't have feelings for him and didn't plan anything. \n\nShe told me he was excited and asked her lots of questions. This isn't even my fault and I feel so awful! I got pissed at her for putting me in this situation. She said that it's just a harmless prank and that he's stupid for believing her. She gave him my number and he's been texting me ever since. \n\nWhat the hell do I do? How can I tell him that I have NOTHING planned for Friday and my friend just pranked him? I am seriously contemplating whether I should play along and actually go on a date with him. I just feel so bad for him :(", "summary": "My friend told a guy that I planned on going on a date with him. I never planned anything at all. How do I get out of this situation without completely crushing him?"}
{"id": "t3_13jywe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex contacting dilemma", "post": "I (23/f) left my first love (same age) when I was 19. It was long distance, we were both co-dependent and not trusting of each other. I think in the end we were both smothering each other. But i broke it off two years in. First kiss, first sex first everything. I never gave him closure.\n\nFast forward and I have been in a wonderful relationship for almost two years. I couldn't be happier. The problem is, and I know this sounds strange, but I keep having dreams (that do not correspond to any feelings in my normal life) in which I meet and have conversations and make amends with my first love - maybe like 3 times a week for the past couple months.\n\nDo I ignore these dreams? With knowing that a \"fuck off\" or no response might occur should I reach out to my ex On positive terms? Not for a fuck, or a mind fuck or anything similar. Just to make amends. Or am I crazy?", "summary": "am in a committed relationship, having intense dreams of ex- should i contact to make amends (regardless of outcome) to an ex that I gave no closure."}
{"id": "t3_2fdll5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/29) had fallen in love with my 'wife' (F/25) **Update**", "post": "Previous post: \n\nHey Reddit! I first of all would like to apologize for not keeping you guys updated--I've honestly just been pretty occupied with life lately and last night I had trouble sleeping. I was just browsing the internet when an article came up about reddit and I thought, I wonder how those nice people are doing. Then I signed in an realized that a lot of you really care about how my life is going with Cass.\n\nThe answer is pretty well now. Things got tough for a while when her ex was released from prison last year, though. She was so afraid that he'd contact her...until he did. I remember that night like it was five minutes ago. Somebody rang our doorbell and the oldest son answered. He asked for Cass. She told the boys to go upstairs and gave me a look and I knew. But she didn't look scared. The bastard apologized and begged for forgiveness and asked for a second chance. She was so brave. I wanted to kill him but she told him no and asked him to leave. He did, and he tried to contact her a few more times before we got an order of protection against him. Last I heard he moved upstate to live with his dad, or something. Around this time her brother Joe also got into a really bad car accident and ended up having to move in with us for a while. He's a great guy and one of my best friends, so we didn't mind, but it was a stressful time.\n\nAbout seven (or eight?) months ago we finally, ahem. Consummated our marriage I guess you can say. The boys are doing great and are really happy. Cass got a pretty good job (although I think she's working too much overtime!) and loves it. We're expecting our first child in February and couldn't be more excited. You could say that life is pretty good. I'll be around for another few hours if you guys have any questions.", "summary": "Things were bad. Now they're pretty damn awesome."}
{"id": "t3_gvatd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do Reddit?", "post": "So this is quite possibly the most convoluted situation I have ever found myself in. I recently discovered that my partner has a secret online persona which they use to engage in online relationships. These range from innocuous to cybersexual/planning to meet. My partner claims this is all innocent and simply a means of escape, I however feel deeply hurt.  My partner feels betrayed as well because a mutual friend sent me the screen shots of the aforementioned evidence. This I agree was a violation on their part of his trust. However I feel like there was a much deeper violation of my trust when for the entirety of our relationship this has been occurring. I don't want to lose my best friend if this is something I should view as innocent but I also don't want to play the victim again.", "summary": "My partner has been carrying on relationships of varying degrees online for our entire relationship. Would you leave someone for cheating online?"}
{"id": "t3_yct9m", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [17] recently broke up with my girlfriend [17] of a year and a half. Why do I feel so terrible?", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago and at the time, I didn't feel better or worse. The next day however, I felt completely terrible and sad. Basically everyday is an on or off situation, being that I am either entirely saddened by me ending it, or I am relieved that I did. For the times that I am sad, all I can remember of her is the good times we shared and how much we knew each other, but the reason I ended the relationship is because she had some anger issues and would cause unnecessary fights and other problems that i just couldn't deal with. If she ever got angry, not related to me in whatever aspect, she would take it out on me. I would do nothing to instigate it, but it would still happen. So my question to you, Reddit, is why do I feel so sad about ending it, even though it is what I wanted, and what can I do to make the pain go away?", "summary": "I ended the relationship with girlfriend of 1.5 years because of her anger issues, yet I feel sad I did. Why do I feel this way and What can I do to stop the grief?"}
{"id": "t3_1jv3zp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I did the right thing... Why do I feel so guilty still? [20f] [19m][18f]", "post": "So my [20f] senior year of high school two years ago there was this guy a grade below me that I kind of liked but he had a girlfriend so I left them alone, well he started hitting on me and me being the stupid 18 year old I was, I actually thought he liked me but I told him \"I don't get involved with guys who have girlfriends\" so the next day he told me that they actually broke up and later that night we hooked up. I was stupid, I know. WELL turned out they didn't break up and he lied to get in my pants. I was so embarrassed and felt so bad that I kept quiet about it for two years.\n\nFor the past two years whenever I hear about them two, I get sick and just feel so horrible. She's really a sweet girl, and deserves better than him. Something in me triggered today and I knew I had to tell her what happened because they've been dating for four years now and she still didn't know! I told her everything, how he pestered me for a month what happened and around the time it happened. I even told her about how I have a couple of friends that he attempted to do the same thing to but they were smarter. I told her I understand if she hates me, but I just needed to tell her. She told me that she doesn't hate me and it isn't my fault, she thanked me for telling her too. Since then though, he has been blowing up my phone saying \"things were going so perfect and then this happened!\", \"I've never loved someone as much as I love her, this was a mistake I made two years ago and she's leaving me for it!\" and just trying to make me feel really guilty I guess. I feel so horrible for some reason... Did I make the right choice? What do I do to make sure this doesn't blow up in my face?", "summary": "I hooked up with a guy who I thought was single but had a girlfriend, two years later told her what happened and now the boyfriend is blowing up my phone telling me that he just lost the love of his life because of me. I feel horrible."}
{"id": "t3_228zav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 f ], boyfriend [33 m] approx 1 year, just found out his dad has stage four cancer. Mother lost to cancer in 2012. I feel sick. How can I best support him?", "post": "It's stage four prostate cancer. He lost his mother suddenly in 2012 and is still having a pretty hard time with it, especially when he drinks - his favorite coping mechanism. I seriously feel like throwing up, this is going to hit him so hard. I'm currently at work and will see him for he first time since he found out tonight after bar time when I get done. \n\nI'm so worried he will cope by drinking excessively, or worse, getting in his car after. His other favorite thing to do is shut me out. He is absolutely terrible about expressing emotions. Again, they tend to come out when he's drunk, and negatively, especially with me. I think because I'm the first woman who's been close to him since his mother died. \n\nEither way I cannot relate to this at all, thankfully my family is all healthy. I'm just trying to figure out how to support him. Talk to him? Wait for him to talk to me? If I wait he might never talk to me about it. I'm  heartbroken for him and don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "boyfriend just found out his father has stage four prostate cancer. He is still grieving from losing his mother to cancer in 2012 and copes with alcohol and tends to shut me out about stuff like this."}
{"id": "t3_smgan", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Might be moving to a brand new place, any advice?", "post": "I was born in Oxford, England. I lived there until I was 7 and then I moved to South Carolina, to a very rural area. It was obviously a huge culture shock to me at the time, and rather traumatic. I am nearly 17 now and my mom told me I will be moving to Madison, Wisconsin this Summer so she can persue her 'career'. \nSo basically she told me I will be moving to a brand new city for my senior year of highschool. I'm pretty tore up about this right now, considering most of my life I have lived in rural shit-hole South Carolina and now I will be moving to a major city hundreds of miles away. What should I expect? What should I do when I move there? All advice is welcome.", "summary": "I'm moving this Summer for my Senior year of highschool, what the hell is moving like?"}
{"id": "t3_o8ine", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "In serious need of help!!-Minni Aussie Shepard", "post": "I am at my wits end... I don't know what to do.. I have asked vets, consulted manuals but I am at a loss.. \n\nHere is the short of it.. My Mini Aussie Shepard 7/10 times Pees whenever I enter the room/pet him/give him a treat. and I don't think it's out of excitement...  It's like eh knows he is doing something wrong and gets very upset about it because when it does happen he sulks his head and just starts kicking/scratching his ear kind of like a nervous twitch.. I take him out every 3-4 hours.. Very regularly and he eliminates every time..  Besides my house getting destroyed and smelling like urine he seams to be generally depressed and it's really upsetting me..\n\nMy g/f is more often home with him.. she is a Grad student and works from home where I work IT 30-miles away.. I bring him with me to the office sometimes though..and I try and play.. train him.. but he always just starts peeing.. and sometimes he will run a way while peeing leaving a dotted trail... I took him to the vet.. I was afraid of a bladder issue/ Diabetes... After a full work up/blood work.. Clean bill of health.. they say the breeder's son (who was male) might not of been so \"Friendly\" to him.. and now hes generally not trusting of males..  Is there any advice/any one know what may be the cause?", "summary": "Mini Aussie pees every time I do anything with him and generally looks very upset/depressed when it's just me and him and I don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_13mtpb", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "We've broken up because I cheated. I regret it. Where do I stand on it?", "post": "I'm 20, she's 18. We've been together for almost a year, until...\n\nI cheated on her (drunkenly made out with a girl at a party), and I immediately regretted it. When she found out she broke up with me. We are both going through a tough time. I'm trying to at least forgive *myself* for it, trying to accept that I may never get to see her again because of something that is my fault and my fault alone. And she's obviously feeling terrible.\n\nI don't want to see her like that, I never wanted to hurt her, it was selfish, stupid and an impulse thing... I'm not proud of it. But when I see how terrible she's feeling from tweets and stuff, I want to say something, anything that will make her feel better. Ideally I guess I want her to forgive me, but I know how out of the question that is, and I haven't convinced myself I even deserve it.\n\nLadies, if you were on her situation, what would you like to hear from me? Or would any contact be a bad thing? I am completely lost in this, and buried in regret.\n\nShould I just accept that this relationship is done and try to move on?", "summary": "I cheated regret it, we broke up. Can I contact her at all? If yes what do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_3m68d3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21f) boyfriend (20m) of 2 years forgets to spend time with me. (Gaming)", "post": "So here is the predicament, my bf and I are both obsessed with the same video game (Destiny) and during the summer we pretty much worked, gamed, eat, and slept...kinda. But now school is back in and I am starting my way to nursing school. Along with the start of school came the new DLC for the game. I have been buried in homework and that has obviously stunted my progress in the game and here is the problem. Normally getting home means turning on the consoles and gaming together but he is pretty advanced (he reached the level cap within 5 days) and I cannot keep up. This means that he goes off with his buddies and I don't exist if I'm not in the same game world/chat. I offer to maybe go out to eat, catch a movie or something but he is obsessed with completing new parts of the game. What should I do? He games every second he is at home.  My homework keeps me busy sometimes 3-4 hours a night and after I don't always want to sit down for another 2 before I go to bed. What should I do and how should I go about it? It's a touchy subject, he's a super gamer and I am a casual.", "summary": "My bf ignores me even when we are playing the same video game because he is more advanced. My studies are more important to me than playing video games. I miss spending time and talking to him."}
{"id": "t3_1zuq9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] wanting to get over feelings for best friend [17M].", "post": "My friend and I met when we were 13. We didn't begin to be good friends until junior year started (last August). We hang out on the weekends, text everyday, and share a few classes with each other. Initially, I didn't harbor feelings for him and would give him dating advice. He is very self-conscious around girls he likes, which leads me to believe he doesn't see me in that way since he is so open with me. I guess in all the time we've spent together and the chemistry we have as friends has led to me growing feelings for him. Whenever we sit in my car in the mornings before school listening to music, I have been having this urge to just kiss him.\n\nThis could potentially be threatening to our friendship and I wish I could stop myself from liking him. Any advice? What do I do? The last thing I want to do is lose him as a friend.", "summary": "I like my good friend, don't think he feels the same way. How can I get over this without ruining our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_3hglv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with date [23 M], went on a date, he hasn't texted me, I keep thinking about him", "post": "Met a guy on an app, he goes to my university but is in the law school. We had an amazing amazing amazing date, where we sat for five hours just talking, he spent 70 dollars on drinks for us. I felt like we connected really well, and at the end of the date while he was walking me home he kissed me multiple times and it was great, then said we'd go out again in September when he's back from a 3 weeks trip to see family abroad. I texted him the next morning saying I had a great time, and he said he did too, and a joke about the next time we meet, I texted him back something funny, and no response, havent heard from him since and im assuming already away. What's the deal? Did he like me? Will he text me in September?", "summary": "Met a guy and had literally the best connection with someone I've had in a year or two, he hasn't contacted me, don't know if I should wait until he's back or already move on."}
{"id": "t3_19xknu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22] m and I [19] f got into a fight and now he says he doesn't love me anymore.", "post": "We have known each other since I was 13. We got together when I was 16. We've always had a great relationship. Last night he was talking about this girl  [19] f and I got a little suspicious so I snooped. I confronted him about the flirty chat that was going on and claimed he didn't have feelings for her. I had a breakdown and he sat there staring at me blank faced and I told him he acts like he doesn't care. He just got up and left and took a shower.\n\nWhen he got out of the shower he still seemed angry so I left him alone. Eventually he went to bed and I went with him. He got up and went to the couch. He kept moving around so I asked him what was wrong and he kept repeating with every. Single. Question I asked \"I don't know\" \n\nI asked him about our relationship and again \"I dont know\"\n\nEventually he told me he is really sad about his life. I finally got it out of him. He told me he wasn't sure if he was in love with me anymore.\n\nI packed up my stuff and left. When he dropped me off he hugged me and kissed me on the lips. I asked him, again are you still in love with me? And he replied with \"I still love you but I'm\nNot in love with you\"\n\nAnyways fast forward to today and I texted him asking to come over to talk. He said he would but he talked to his mom first and now he is not coming until tomorrow.\n\nRight now I'm halfway across the city from my work I do not have my own vehichle. I have no bed. I can't afford a place of my own. I'm at a loss.\n\nReddit. Help. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't love me anymore but needs time to think while I am halfway across the city and unable to get to work in less than two hours."}
{"id": "t3_4deua4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [26/F] get over a man [36/M] who's way out of my league?", "post": "I'm 26/F and have a huge crush on my family doctor...he's around 35, handsome, friendly, cute British accent. Obviously he's out of my league because he's successful, educated, intelligent, probably rich etc. Anyway i'm just sad i can't have him...today i saw him and told him i was going to stay in another country for a few months and he was happy about it, so it obviously means he doesn't feel the same.\n\nI feel bad because i put on make-up and tried to look pretty. He did say i looked happier and \"brighter\" than usual but he didn't say i looked pretty or anything. Also he has a silver ring on the ring finger of his right hand, does that mean he's married? He's Indian but grew up in the UK, and then moved here to Canada.", "summary": "Man i want is too good for me, so i need to get over him"}
{"id": "t3_2rd679", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) don't know if she's (21f) interested or not", "post": "So I met this girl on Tinder about 3 weeks ago and we ended up meeting at a restaurant later that week and walking around the town. I feel like we got along pretty well and I became interested. \n\nWe're both in college so we went home for the winter break and during that time we texted. We developed a pattern where we text for 2 days and then she doesn't reply at the end of the 2nd day stopping the conversation. Sometimes we'll both take an hour reply and sometimes we'll reply right away. The thing is I initiate every time and I feel way more into it than she does a lot of the time. She does help keep the conversation going though, I noticed. Also, the texts are playful in nature some of the time, but not in a flirty way. I've tried flirting with her like twice and she doesn't really reciprocate, except for one time she texted something flirty when she was drunk. She does send snapchats every once in a while as well, but not frequently.\n\nMy question is if she's replying and knows that I'm interested is it safe to assume she is too or could she just be acting friendly? Also we're both going to be in our college town this week so if I asked her out to dinner and she said yes would that verify that she is interested?", "summary": "Been texting a girl but have trouble telling if she's just friendly or interested"}
{"id": "t3_27xqoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] can't get into close relationships with people.", "post": "I'm not the type to feel strong empathy for other people. I can feel negative emotions well enough. I used to be easily overwhelmed by them and I still occasionally struggle with them especially around my parents. I guess I haven't completely forgiven them for the things they've done and I still see them as the source of my inability to really trust and feel love\u2014 platonic or otherwise. I don't consciously make this decision, but I can feel it in my emotions and actions. When I start getting close to someone I somehow lose interest or start distancing myself from them. It's like I no longer have anything to say or talk about with them. Then one day we catch up again but the cycle repeats itself.\n\nWith my friends, I envy seeing them connect with each other while I feel like an outsider. I can feel happy and I can laugh with them wholeheartedly, but there lacks a genuine feeling of connection for me. I think part of is from my own uncertainty and struggling with trusting that my company is really wanted. I feel like have nothing to bring to the table. I'm not naturally funny or creative. Sure, I have my moments, but how many countless times have I failed? I'd like to say I can be described at my best as chill, sarcastic, and the kid that loves to laugh, but old habits are hard to break and I still get caught up in trying that my best is rarely seen. I'm beginning to question if this connection really even exists. After all, I'm basing this on what I felt on MDMA, but MDMA is also what has helped me progress so far. Am I approaching things the wrong way? Is this connection an elusive dragon that I will never find? If it's not then what am I looking for? After all these years, I still don't know what a real friend is and it's a bit disappointing.", "summary": "Can't create close relationships. What does it mean to have a real friend?"}
{"id": "t3_1295nr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what would you do if: someone ditched out on splitting the cost of something with you, and left you to pay the whole amount on your own.", "post": "I was in a wedding this weekend. Congratulations to my best friend Zack and his new wife Molly! :D The parties were great, the food was awesome. The band at the end rocked the house. We were all supposed to go to a hotel together after the reception for an after party. Which we did. I had made an agreement with another person in the wedding party to split the cost of the hotel room between us. I had also ridden to the wedding and events with this same person. He had agreed over text to pay for 1/2 the room so I made the reservation. I would not have done this as I cannot afford it on my own. We get to the hotel, I check in. Give him room keys and we all proceed to have a blast. He never comes back to the room. In fact he leaves all together with out paying his half and leaving me 45 min from my home with no ride back to the city. Doesn't return my calls or texts. I'm pissed because we made an agreement and he left me high and dry. He is a mutual friend because we are both close with the groom. I'm more hurt than anything, I feel like this was extremely disrespectful and basically says \" I don't give a fuck about you\". I am unsure how to go about getting his half of the room fee's because in my mind I feel he owes it to me, we made an agreement. I don't want to put my other friend in a weird position and I don't want to cause any ill will. But I really feel he did me dirty and I'm really upset. Any suggestions guys?", "summary": "Friend ditched me, leaving me with payment of the hotel room and no ride home. How do I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_4ggz5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17F]cannot deal with my mother[50'sF] anymore and is planning to leave. How do I take my first steps?", "post": "I've always stalked r/relationships for a while on how to deal with certain things, but I never knew that I would be posting here myself\n\nI live with my mom for the longest time. My dad was mostly unavailable for most of my life, so my mom had to raise me as a single parent. We used to be very close to each other, but for the longest while, I started to notice on how controlling she started to become. \n\nFor one thing she would always try to put me down for whatever things I did, like comparing me to my friends, family members, etc. \n\nShe would also call me a failure and too stupid to know anything. \n\nShe would often gaslight me and pretend that I was being over dramatic. \n\nAt one point when I was diagnosed with depression she stopped letting go to my therapist and decided that I was faking my depression. \n\n She treats me like this because I'm not the smartest student. Because of the way she treated me, my depression got very bad and I dropped my grades. I am ashamed to say this but I'm currently failing latin, french, and chem; however I\"m trying to take tutoring so I can pass on to senior year. \n\nOn to the point. Recently, I had to stay after school for study hall, so that children can improve their grades by doing homework. My mom basically said that I'm holding the school back and that I will cause the school to close down because I'm very stupid. She also said that I'm a waste of space and money and why she bothered raising me if I'm to grow up a failure and work at a minimum wage job. She would take me out of school so that she can save her money on things that she would want, and basically kick me outta the house.\n\nSo I finally decided that I have to leave her but I don't know what to do", "summary": "Mom is very abusive and narcissistic, I don't know how to leave or what I should do. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_10bx4q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today, I accidentally sharted in public, and was 5 minutes away from the closest bathroom. Reddit, what embarrassing things have you accidentally done?", "post": "Not a throwaway because I don't have shame about this, shit happens..literally.\n\nSo last night I had a bowl of cereal. The milk's expiration date was 9/23 so I assumed I would be fine. However, within minutes of consuming the bowl I suffered a violent reaction in the form of anal leakage. After an hour of said traumatic expulsions on the ivory throne, I call it at night. \n\nThis morning I woke up around 8 and immediately continued the next round. After a few minutes or so, I felt completely tapped out so I proceeded along with my morning routine. Within 10 minutes or so I feel another twinge in my stomach and go for round 4. By this point it's about 8:20 or so, and I'm meeting up with some colleagues at 8:45 for a morning workout. I decided to wait it out for 15 minutes or so, and after waiting the allotted time period without any adverse reaction, I head out.\n\nI drive up to the trail where we do a warm up run. So far, so good. However, half way into the trail, I feel a rumbling in my stomach. Suddenly...I shart. Not a very big shart, mind you, but a shart nonetheless. I can feel that anal leakage seeping through my boxers. The problem is, at this point, at the exact half way point of our run, I really have no choice but to just ride of the clinging sensation and finish, so I can get to the bathroom and wipe my ass. Thankfully no one noticed (good thing I decided to wear the dark blue shorts today) and there were no more bad surprises for the rest of the work out.\n\nOh and, it's 10pm right now..and I'm still wearing the same pair of boxers/shorts. Just thought I'd throw that in for the \"ew\" factor.", "summary": "I sharted halfway on a trail, had no choice but to finish running to attend to the leak."}
{"id": "t3_1h76q5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] just got out of a long relationship and want to ask a friend [21F] on a date... need advice.", "post": "I just got out of a long-distance relationship ridden with trust issues and ending with some infidelity.  I'm about to start my PhD this fall, and I want my biggest focus right now to be on my career.  However, there is one thing that I believe doing will be very good for me.\n\nThere is a friend of mine who I've been interested in off and on for ages, but could never get the timing right and have the courage to make a move.  I think that right now with very little to lose and me not expecting anything to really come out of it might be the best time to take a chance and give myself a little confidence moving forward.\n\nThe problem that I face is that I don't know what sort of date you'd take someone on that you already know well, but wish to make a good impression on.  Obviously, taking her to a movie is out of the question because it's such a friend thing to do already, but aside from that, I haven't really eliminated any other ideas, nor do I feel great about any idea yet.  There are a few live music venues/bars in the area I could take her to, as well as decent restaurants, plentiful parks, and a minor league baseball team.  Any suggestions?", "summary": "Just got out of a relationship and want to ask a friend who has been a long time crush of mine on a date.  Looking for suggestions for something that makes it clear that it's a date, but doesn't come off too strong.  I'm not expecting anything much to come of it, just want to take her on a date."}
{"id": "t3_zkr6p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do I do?", "post": "I dated a girl for 4 years who cheated on me mid way through the relationship with my \"friend\" who is a marine. We just broke up a month ago and she has basically been slutting it up. I live in a small town and I hear about everything she is doing. I can't hang out with my friends because she has been around them. The marine is back and my friends only want to hang out with him since gone all of the time and the marine wants to be with my slut of an exgirlfriend. While we were dating she was very controlling and crazy. It was my first relationship so I put in 110% and really didn't know better. I'm embarrassed to have dated her and I'm embarrassed to hear about all the things she is doing now. I'm not sure how to get over it. I live with my parents and I can't even look them in the eye. I've left myself with no friends. I dont drink, I mean I'm 21 and I've been trying to get into it for the social aspect but it's not really for me. What should I do?", "summary": "I'm a socially awkward guy that lives at home without many friends and a slutty ex gf - How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_41td7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21/f and my boyfriend 23/m are having respect issues.", "post": "So, this probably gets asked alot, but I was on facebook the other day and the 2nd post I see is a comment my boyfriend made on one of his friends pictures, which is a girl. He wrote a comment with a \"jaw drop\" emoticon, and than a new comment saying how he would have used the whistle emoticon if there was one. I got annoyed and asked him why he feels he needs to give this girl validation. He says he just like giving compliments to his friends. This girl lives in a different town and i've never even heard of her, so it's not like he was under any obligation to say anything on top of other guys that already commented. I told him about this and he got annoyed that I could even see that \" I have him on \"Close friends\" he doesn't know that\" but just that made me upset, just because you think I can't see it does not mean you should do it. Anyway he think's i'm being insecure and need to get over it, when in reality i'm just upset because I feel if he respected me he would not do those things and instead just labels me as insecure. Are my feelings valid or am I just being petty?", "summary": "My 21/f boyfriend 23/m commented on a girl's photo on facebook, I got pissed off, he told me I was insecure and needed to get over it. Not insecure, I just feel like if he respected me, he would not do it."}
{"id": "t3_3glr2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating: I really like a guy I've gone out twice with but not sure if worth pursuing. I can't read him.", "post": "So I met this guy on Tinder, and he's the only guy I've agreed to go out with from that app. He is about 9 years older than me (he's in his mid 30's). \n\nWe went out on our first date and it was great! we were literally out for about 7 hours until the bars were closing and we had to leave. He asked me a few times if I would want to see him again, and I said yes, so we set up to meet again the next week. Once again, it went really well. \n\nWe share the same passion and we can speak about almost anything. He spoke about things we can do \"next time\" and mentioned things like \"date 4' and \"date 11\".\n\nWe don't really text each other between dates, even when we do, it's very short messages. He's not very responsive over texts so I don't text him much. \n\nIt's been 2 weeks since our 2nd date, and I'm unsure if I should ask him out or wait to see if he does. I don't want to ask him out if he's not interested in me.  \n\nI'm usually quite good at reading when a guy is into me, but I've only dated men around my age, so I'm not sure how older men date. Because his actions seem different from the usual guys, who text quite abit, but when we meet, he's very affectionate and says things like \"It's nice to end my week with you\" and \"did you think about me during the week?\" \n\nOh and another thing that happened is that we got intimate on both dates, although I wasnt planning to, and it's something I've never done before. \n\nI NEVER sleep with guys on the first date. But I feel connected and comfortable. I wonder if sleeping with him so fast also could have ruined the chances of us getting to know each other more?\n\nI'm reaaally confused as of if I should just forget it or try. I do like him, not enough to want to jump into a relationship with him, but enough to want to see him and get to know him more. Help?", "summary": "met a guy on Tinder, had 2 amazing dates but no sign of date 3 for two weeks. Confused to whether I should pursue him or not."}
{"id": "t3_2ue7xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the best I (25/f) can do, visiting my grandma (79/f) who is in a deep depression, refusing to eat or talk, saying she wants to go now.", "post": "My grandma is 79 and has led a very tough life. In the past 10 years she has had two strokes, two heart attacks, breast cancer, multiple hospitalisations for kidney failure and most recently a hospitalisation for pneumonia. \n\nShe is now back at home but during her most recent hospitalisation she became deeply depressed. She has stopped eating, stopped washing, and does not want to speak to people who visit her.  She has signed a do not resuscitate will which means she will receive no knew medication other than pain killers. She seems to think this is the end for her. Obviously my family are struggling to come to terms with this and have been trying to get her eating, taking medicine etc. \n\nI am going to visit her today. I am expecting it to be a fairly upsetting visit and possibly ( but hopefully not) my last. It's going to be hard seeing her like this but I have very little experience dealing with depression and even less with people near to the end of their lives. \n\nI am looking for advice on how to be there for my grandma today during our visit. How do I support her and be there for her? I want it to be an enjoyable visit for both of us as I'm so worried this is goodbye but I don't want to force her to do anything - I really am unsure of how to handle depression.", "summary": "my grandma is in a deep depression and nearing the end of her life. Today may be my last visit, how can I make it the most positive experience I can for the both of us. "}
{"id": "t3_4z1nt5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend hit his gf last night", "post": "So me(22) and my buddy(also 22) go out drinking last night. Him and his gf have been fighting nonstop since their son was born in may. She always threatens to leave him and take the kid when their fights escalate and when I was rooming with them she would always cut him down. Shes a smart girl and can be way manipulative while he isn't the smartest guy and has anger issues. \n\nMe and him were talking about all of this last night and he says he wants to leave because of everything above but doesn't want to lose his son. I tell him that they need to have a serious conversation about all of the things that are going on for the sake of thier family. I also suggest counseling. \n\nI woke up about an hour ago to some missed calls from friend and when i call him back he says he's packing his clothes. They got into it and it got physical, thats all he said. Hes on the way over and me and him are gonna talk about it. \n\nWhat do I suggest for this guy? I want him to be happy but if he hit her I don't think they can be together. From experience I've learned that if you hit your SO  once its gonna happen again, and I dont want that. Also I dont want him to be with someone who treats him like dogshit and has no plans of growing as a person. Suggestions?", "summary": "Friend is in a toxic relationship and may have hit his gf, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2s3n8n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20F] am incredibly afraid of my new boyfriend [19M] losing interest", "post": "So I'm not sure if this is normal thing with new relationships, but I am having incredible anxiety about my new boyfriend losing interest and leaving me. I have been in two relationships in my life. The first relationship lasted 6 years and ended with him cheating on me, and the second relationship lasted a month with him completely losing interest in me.\n\nI am having such a tough time dealing with this fear and I'm imagining the same thing happening again like my second relationship. The dude in my most recent ended relationship moved extremely fast and I believe that he idealized me from the Start. He would tell me I'm perfect and would claim to love everything about me. When we finally were official I noticed him pulling away and after a month he ended things. The thing is is that he was so incredibly into me and claimed to have loved me 2 weeks into the relationship.\n\nWith this new relationship, it seems as though everything is going perfect. I did notice some of the same patterns as the last relationship and I do think he might be idealizing me as well. This just provides me with more anxiety because I'm predicting the same thing happening. Im always over analyzing my new SO's actions and wondering if he's losing interest yet. I'm so afraid and I'm not sure what to do.\n\nAm I making this all up in my head or should I be worried? Please help.", "summary": "I'm freaking out about my new relationship ending like my last one, with losing interest fast"}
{"id": "t3_1d8uh9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] says that I [23M] cannot watch porn, but she says it's OK for her to read Fifty Shades of Grey.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and she has always maintained that she does not approve of me watching porn. Recently she told me she has started reading Fifty Shades of Grey and has been getting \"worked up\" when reading it. I told her that I thought it was hypocritical of her considering how adamant she is that I don't watch porn, to which her response was \"I think reading is different to watching.\" I pressed her for more of a reason and she said that \"physically staring at other women is different to reading about sex\". Personally I feel like this is a huge double standard when the bottom line is both are used for the same outcome, but I'd like to get some second opinions.", "summary": "My girlfriend think's it's fine for her to get off to Fifty Shades of Grey but not for me to get off to porn."}
{"id": "t3_2k9zv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24 M) and So (24 F) haven't had sex for over 6 months.", "post": "Me and my gf have been together for over 6 years, within the last 2 years our sex lives has plummeted. During that time we have both gained weight (I don't think we find each other attractive at the minute) and have been working opposing shifts for that time. She is always exhausted when coming back from work, I have always been the one to initiate sex, however I feel guilty if she is always tired. \n\nTo compensate I've just been fapping 2-3 times a day to internet porn. Which I have begun to realise is a quick solution to a long term problem. The annoying thing is we really connect and still enjoy kissing, hugging and spooning but the passion has faded. \n\nReally I'm looking for any advice from anyone who has been through something similar and how to pull through it.", "summary": "me and my long term partner haven't had sex for 6 months, I've been fapping to compensate, we are both exhausted after work, how can we change?"}
{"id": "t3_3t17g4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my bf [26M] of 1-1/2 year breaking up", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI am going through a break up with SO of a year and a half. We moved out of state together and really enjoyed ourselves for about 6 months. The rest of the time has been a lot of arguing and bickering over very mundane things. \n\nIn the recent few months I have realized my boyfriend has become somebody very very negative, controlling and overzealous. Last fight was because a co worker texted me something work related and he wanted to read the whole conversation. Another arguement was due to the fact that I ordered another beer without asking him if I could? \n\nHe also calls me names AKA lazy, self absorbed, dramatic, bitch, dumbass ect when we fight and has broken a glass door and punched or kicked holes in our walls. He has never hit me but the behavior is very scary. He also comes from an affluent family and he told me things like \"you're poor\" or \"you need me\" when I have threatened to leave our house.\n\nI know he loves me and I do care about him deeply, but I feel we are just making each other very negative and miserable. It's so exhausting yet it hurts to so much to fathom being without him.\n\nDo people like this change? Do I run for the hills and cut my losses or try to wait it out and hope things will turn around? I'm feeling very sad and any advice would be beneficial. Thank you.", "summary": "Feeling hopeless and down about break up but ultimately think it might be the best decision for both of us. Boyfriend has anger issues/verbally abusive. Do people like this change?"}
{"id": "t3_2g7yaa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(26/f) No longer attracted to boyfriend (27/m). Keep waiting, or break it off and remain friends?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and for the past few months I just haven't been attracted to him. It's gotten to the point where I don't even like snuggling with him most of the time and I usually feel like I'm just waiting for sex to be over when it does happen. I have a pretty high libido and don't think that's the issue since I still masturbate frequently and fantasize about other people. He is still 100% into me, it almost seems like he's even more attracted to me than ever.\n\nWhen we first started dating, the attraction was definitely mutual, but I'm having a hard time remembering what turned me on about him. Now he just seems more like a relative or platonic friend. The problem is, this is the best relationship I've ever been in in every other way. We get along great and have similar interests, and literally everyone who knows us can't stop talking about what a perfect couple we are. I used to love hearing that, but now I just feel kind of sick because I know there's this huge issue. \n\nI've tried to identify things that might have led to this change. Obviously moving out of the initial honeymoon phase is going to lead to a decreased level of attraction, but it shouldn't be this extreme. My boyfriend has had some mounting health issues lately - he has back problems that have gotten worse, and some sort of digestive issues. This has caused him to come off as sort of weak and mopey a lot of the time, which isn't exactly attractive. Again, I don't feel like these issues should cause such a dramatic change in my feelings. \n\nI feel like if we broke up, we would remain close friends since we get along so well. Right now, that is appealing to me since that's basically how I feel towards him. I would really prefer to fix the attraction issue though, since we work so well in a relationship otherwise. I also know it would absolutely destroy him if I ended things, since he is head over heels for me. I honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are perfect for each other, but I've recently stopped feeling sexually attracted toward him in any way and don't know if I should wait and hope the attraction comes back, or end things and move forward as friends."}
{"id": "t3_2lhvvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it healthy to take a week long \"break\" to have some space during a rough patch in a relationship in order to think about your feelings?", "post": "[18M] My girlfriend [18F] and I have been dating for a year and a half. We've had a lot of discussion about if we're right for each other, if we love each other, and if we have a future together. \nShe is my first real girlfriend, first person to have sex with, etc. Part of me wants to marry this girl and raise a family some day, another part wants to see what its like to be with other girls and thinks I'm naive for thinking we can last. \nWe broke up a few weeks ago only to get back together the next day. Today we decided to take a week break and see where our heads are at then. Is this normal, or is it just another sign we should break up?", "summary": "Girlfriend of year and a half and i hit a rough patch. Taking a weeklong break to see how we feel. Is it a sign to just end it?"}
{"id": "t3_2zvyu4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I am 20 years old and just Dropped out of community college. Currently working at a retail position. Need some advice on what to do with my life.", "post": "I am a full time student working part time as a cashier in retail. I live with my parents and my step father wants me to leave the house but my mom convinces him to let me stay because of school. I've never been good in school, this was my 2nd quarter and I just failed miserably out of laziness. School just makes me wanna kill myself; so in the half part of the quarter I basically stopped going to classes and didn't bother with Homework, Tests or Quizzes. My parents have no knowledge of this. \n\nI have financial aid that basically covers the entire tuition and leave a little extra in my pocket for books, so basically I am paying nothing to go to college. But now Financial Aid is going to be cancelled and I believe I have to pay them back the partial amount.\n\nI know, I should've just waited until the end of the quarter and then should've taken the next quarter off instead. I was just really depressed and stressed out about my future that I just made it allot worse for myself.\n\nNow for my financial situation. As I said, I work in retail as simply a cashier, but my store manager have offered me a position as a part time supervisor/coordinator. I took it and it's starting this April 5th, it will be paying $3 more than my current pay. I am pretty good with customer service but I don't like working in retail. I want to go into an IT field, I really love computers and pretty good with them too.\n\nSo the problem is that my Step father is not gonna like that I am not going to school and will try to kick me out of the house. My mom will certainly not gonna let that happen, she will even leave him for me if she has to, but I don't wanna make her go through all that.\n\nWhat should I do? What options do I have?", "summary": "Dropped out of college out of laziness/stress, Got a higher position at a retail job, Want to work at IT field. parents will definitely have a fight over the fact that I dropped out of school. Any Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1sn57t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M23] received a message from a girl[22] that I started seeing least 2 weeks. I don't know what to make of it.", "post": "OK so I have been talking to this girl, and I was a bit confused with what was going on between the two of us. We have been on 3 dates. I asked her what she is looking for yesterday while we were getting some coffee and she said she didn't know. I didn't press on cause she said she was in a bad mood that day. Today I wake up to this message on Facebook. Now I am more confused. Yes this girl is a bit quirky and Russian. She had mentioned before that she hasn't dated anyone in a while. \n\n\"I realized that I'm a creature of habit when it comes to the big bad world of dating. So typically, if there's mutual interest, the man usually says \"I like you, but I'm just looking for sex\" or \"I like you and I want to see where things go\" or \"I like you, but I'm also interested in other women as well\" and all that jazz. At that point the ball is in my court and I can decide if it's something I'm interested in. In this case, I don't know what I would be interested in lol. I can tell you though, what I will regret is opening up in any sense blindsided. As far as what I want goes, when there's two or more people involved, it's a very diplomatic process with me; I prefer to evaluate a situation and compromise. It's a bit tedious and perhaps even annoying, but that's how I roll. Passing the ball to you.\"", "summary": "I need a translator on a message I received from someone I just started dating."}
{"id": "t3_sr603", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, someone just robbed my family, and we think we know who. What can we do?", "post": "My parents have two houses and a garage. One house they live in, the garage is next door (my dad is a mechanic, so the garage is very large, the size of our house, and not attached to the house), and the house next to it is my great grandmother's, which they've bought and are rebuilding.\n\nOne of the guys who was paid to work on the house ended up being a scumbag. Ever since they hired him, they've heard terrible things; he does a lot of drugs, he steals, and sells the stuff to fund his habit. He's told my dad multiple times about missing work because he was \"sick\" (on drugs or crashing). He owes my dad work, or money he was paid to do the work. He recently asked my dad to borrow a piece of equipment to work on someone else's house. My dad said no, not until he did the worked he owed him. This was a few days ago, and now today they realized probably $5k worth of tools were stolen, and the doors broken so they could easily re-enter to get more. The guy conveniently hasn't spoken to us since the spat.\n\nThe police said this guy usually goes and offloads his goods in Baltimore (an hour and a half away) for drugs, but in typical [1] /r/Bad_Cop_No_Donut fashion, they're unconcerned and claim there's little they can do. They have no grounds to search his home.\n\nThey've installed cameras, and are afraid to leave the house. What can they do?", "summary": "Parents were robbed, we believe we know who, police say there's little they can do. How can we make the system work the way it should?"}
{"id": "t3_gz6tr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help me get over a long-lasting addiction", "post": "I want to ask Reddit how to get over my nail-biting addiction/problem. It's been around 12 years since it started and no matter what my family or friends try, I seem to get back around to it. Some of the methods they tried: \n-nail polish \n-punishment/reward (when I was a kid, my mom would check my nails every week and she would trim them accordingly; if I bit them, she'd punish me)\n-Friends would watch and check if I bit my nails. If so, they'd slap my hand\n\nI have also had some moments where I would stop for a good month or so. However, I would come back to it and the brutal cycle would start all over again. I usually bite my nails when I'm not doing anything with my hands (i.e movie, waiting, class, etc...) and when I get nervous, but it still happens out of these parameters. \n\nSo Reddit, if anyone has had this problem or know any way to help me, I'll be glad to take any advice!", "summary": "I've been biting my nails for 12 years and really want to get over it. HELP!!"}
{"id": "t3_lm9aj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any interesting hospital stories?", "post": "Yay for a hospital story.. My cousin and I were being fucking retarded and were punching each other and kicking each other. I hid behind the island in our kitchen and she came up behind me and kicked my hip. It hurt a bit, but I got over it. FOUR DAYS LATER I guess I bruised my hip muscle and apparently I also cut myself and got a Staph infection in my blood (I guess you can get it even through a paper cut?) and it went right to that bruised hip muscle and I couldn't even walk. I went to the doctor and he didn't know what the fuck was wrong with me, so we had blood work done and my white cell count was normal. Well, shit. I started having leg spasms and once my fever reached 103.2, I went to the Emergency Department and was admitted to the hospital. Oh, and I had more blood work done later, and it turns out the inflammation in my hip was like 210 instead of a normal 5 or below or something.  It took them like three days to figure out I had an abscess (lol puss pocket thing) in my right hip muscle and they had to drain it with a needle. They drained 1 cc of puss and after I was so sore I couldn't move but FUCKING PHYSICAL THERAPY THE NEXT DAY MADE ME. I had to use a walker, and I could barely fucking move the wheels an inch.  I had to learn to walk again, and after another day and a half of the walker they put me on crutches. The disease lady wanted me to stay for 2 weeks, but fuck that, I had a concert to go to in like eight days. Four days of crutches (finally back at home) and some pain killers later, I was walking okay I guess but I still can't do a fucking sit up right yet and after running I can't walk that great.", "summary": "Cousin and I were being retarded, I bruised my hip muscle, got a Staph infection, and an abscess later I'm good now! Yay for walls of text!"}
{"id": "t3_436bph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [26F] report my [32 F] friend's blog bc of suicidal threats?", "post": "My old friend is going through a really hard time. Her blog posts lately have been very dark and depressing. \n\nWhile blogs can be a place to vent, she mentions that \"no one would miss me\" and she feels \"dead inside\"\n\nI have reached out to her, saying she can talk to me if she needs to, and I care about her, but she has not responded.\n\nI am considering reporting her blog to the blog's staff, which I can do anonymously. The staff will review the request and send her a message with crisis hotlines.\n\nI cannot physically visit or check on her because I live in a different country. \n\nMy question is, should I? Am I overstepping boundaries here? Does it matter? I'm worried she will feel betrayed or something.", "summary": "Friend is depressed and making death threats. I have reached out to her to help. My next step is reporting her blog as a suicide threat so the website's staff will send her a message with crisis hotlines. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_jtivf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I dump nice guy for being apathetic about life?", "post": "**Pros:** This guy treats me well, is very understanding and is very accepting of me and my baggage. We have good physical chemistry, and lots in common (same music tastes, desire to travel, similar pasts).  \n**Cons:** He is not very enthusiastic about getting out and doing things. He complains about things that I really don't think matter at all. He can be very negative/ contrarian. While I am flattered that he seems to enjoy just cuddling with me and doing nothing, I am super restless and feel like it is a huge chore to get him enthused into doing things.  \n\n**Example**: \nMe: Would you like to go for a bike ride this week?\nHim: Yes, BUT... I have no bike and my roomate's mountain bike is not good for riding in the city. \nMe: What about the bike in your hall?\nHim: Only the back brakes work and I have an irrational fear of flipping over my handlebars and hurting myself because this happened to me 10 years ago.\n\nThis conversation drags on, with him shooting down any possible solution that would allow him to go biking\n\nMe: *no longer feeling excited about biking*  :(\n\n* In general, he is content being boring and I am not, therefore I have to choose and plan activities if I want to do them. \n\n*  It is very draining for me to try getting him excited about the activities I really care about. \n\n*  It usually ends up with me a) not doing what I really want to and b) feeling depressed (because I'm sensitive to other people's emotions and have trouble motivating myself around people who drag their feet)", "summary": "Should I break with up an otherwise nice guy 'cause he's not into my activities and I'm very sensitive to his negativity?"}
{"id": "t3_1q2ku0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm not sure if I should continue with my major.", "post": "I'm currently a Junior and I really disliked being a MechE so I changed classes in the beginning to those that Electrical Engineers. While I completely enjoy SOME of my classes, I've never had such a hard time before. I am legitimately worried about my GPA.\n\nI have friends that are Electrical Engineers that are taking the upper level classes because I'm a semester behind but I can still graduate on time. They are telling me that several of their classes are seriously kicking their asses. I'm scared. I am doing about what they are doing in the classes I'm taking now but I don't have the GPA that they have. They have a few points higher but a good amount.", "summary": "Not sure if I should continue my major if the classes Im taking now are kicking my ass. I enjoy them [Some] but I don't like failing either. I want to make it a goal to graduate with a 3.3 GPA but that goal seems impossible if I continue this path."}
{"id": "t3_2cdsoe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost kissing a girl that I have liked for a long time but ended up running away at the last second", "post": "So today it was one of my coworkers' last day at work, and everyone was sad to see her go. She was very pretty and everyone liked her/enjoyed her company. Now I am an average looking guy, nowhere in her league but since I was the first guy she met when she joined the company, we naturally became friends. I haven't really been in a serious relationship in a while, so I didn't really advance towards her, mostly I just treated her as a friend. We both liked each other and would go out for lunch together at least twice a week. She would flirt with me occasionally, but I never acted like I was interested (even though I totally was) so anyways, today was her last day, since she was moving, so she was packing her stuff in her cubicle by herself. I came into her cube to say goodbye for one last time, and when I walked in we started talking about general stuff like where she was going and whatnot. After a few minutes, she said \"I'm really going to miss you chumawumba, and I want to have a memorable last moment.\" \n\nBefore I knew it her eyes were closed and her lips were puckered up; she was about to give me what would have been the best kiss ever. Right before her lips touched mines, I went into panic-mode and ran out of her cubicle and into a closet, wondering what the fuck just happened. TIFU.", "summary": "hot girl out of my league almost kissed me but I hid in a closet"}
{"id": "t3_1j617j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's the 2 year anniversary of me (25F) and my boyfriend (28M). Is it wrong that I'm upset because I got nothing?", "post": "He's someone that I love very much and we've talked about marriage several times and we know that it's down the horizon. In the beginning of the relationship, he wooed me with flowers and cute cheesy things (leave me love-notes in random places) etc. Recently, he seems to have stopped doing that. \n\nTwo months ago was my birthday, while he did take me out for dinner (same place we go for every special occasion), I was slightly disappointed that I didn't get a card, and the fact that he didn't put effort into doing anything special. But I didn't make a big deal out of it because we did get dinner and that was that. I did express to him nicely that I'd love to receive a card. He told me he would get me one, but he still hasn't after two months, so I've just let it slide.\n\nIt was his birthday couple weeks ago. I got him a pretty cool present (an inflatable raft), a birthday card and a cake. I didn't do it so that I would expect something in return, but I just wanted to show him that I put effort in doing things like this because I love him and want him to feel special. \n\nTwo days ago was our anniversary. Even though I've expressed before how much I love cards. I got nothing. No special dinners or flowers. This time, I was rather upset that he didn't put any effort into it, even though I have clearly communicated it already. He said he's got no time, which I call BS, since he has time for video games, movies and basketball. He got mad at me for being a spoiled brat.\n\nAm I wrong here? I just want to feel special as a girl on the special occasions. I know it's not right to compare with other relationships, but it does suck a bit when I see other girls getting flowers and presents from their boyfriends.\n\nDon't get me wrong, he's usually a really nice bf and treats me with respect. He does tell me he loves me all the time and our relationship is generally really good. I just wish he responds differently on these special occasions.", "summary": "Boyfriend did nothing for our 2 year anniversary, despite me communicating clearly that I wanted a card. He said he has no time but I think it's just the matter of priorities. How else can I communicate it to him?"}
{"id": "t3_s3hhh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Quiting the job hunt to join the service and pick up some skills. Thoughts?", "post": "I've been on the job junt since Jan of last year when I returned from a stint teaching abroad post B.A. I had a rocky beginning, struggling to pick up even a menial big box store gig. I then found some per diem policy research work to carry me through the second half of the year. At the beginning of 2012 I picked up a state funded tutoring contract and a day job from hell--I mean teaching at a Job Corps. Throughout this entire time I have been striking out at dreamish jobs, and have found my career path trending strongly toward education; a thing I have found that I have lost passion for.\n\nLately I have been considering joing the Air Force or Coast Guard as a means to pick up a skill set that is applicable to the real world, or at the very least, have a solid job and escape from student loan debt through the GI Bill. \n\nHave you or anyone you know joined a military service for convictions other than those of 'national duty'? Did it work out? or did you wind up feeling trapped after a year or two? Did you obtain a solid skill set or remain in the service for an extended period of time?", "summary": "What happened to you or someone you know that dropped out of the job race and joined an armed service for the work?"}
{"id": "t3_3n8ez4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 /F] with my boyfriend [19 M/] 2 months, need to fix communication issues?!", "post": "So me and my boyfriend are uni kids, been dating for 2 months and I think I've already hit a boulder. Due to conflicting schedules, we only meet once a week at uni because there's only one day we're both available. Otherwise we don't see each other. He doesn't ever text, message or call in for the days we are apart. Every time it has to be me that initiates the conversation on the phone and its frustrating. So I'm planning to talk about it with him next week when I see him again. But how do I approach this topic? Do I go straight up or what? Need some solid advice for this!", "summary": "We have communication issues. How do I address it to my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2qkqu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Saw something I WISH I hadn't on family friend (65M)'s phone.", "post": "So at a dinner we decided to google some lyrics on Terry's(65M) phone after his wife leads a sing-along and not everyone can join. \nHe begins texting some strange number that answers your query, so I think I'll be helpful and use safari and google to show him how to get an immediate answer as he is not the most technologically adept.\n\nProblem is, the first thing that pops up on Terry's browser is a bright red font declaring 'COME DOGGING'  and what is obviously a site used solely for dogging practises. I had enough time to remember the url (it's legit) and he seemed visibly shaken after I hurriedly exited the browser and pretended to see nothing.\n\nMy question is; should I tell anyone about this or not tell a soul? \nWe aren't particularly close, just good family friends. But it would absolutely crush me to know I was potentially allowing his wife to be exposed to his risky behaviour in regards to STIs...", "summary": "found dogging site on family friend's husbands phone, feel torn about saying anything or keeping my mouth zipped. What should/can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wqfkm", "subreddit": "college", "title": "How many attempts can you make to transfer?", "post": "I am trying to transfer to UMass Amherst, and for this semester, I got absolutely terrible professors(Class average for every test = 60~50%. Professors do not scale the grades or drop any test grades *despite* the outrageous class average.) for two of my courses, and those two are the only courses that are important because it's the courses that my major needs.\n\nI believe my gpa will be rather poor. However, I know I can do much, **much** better next semester, but UMass Amherst only takes applications until somewhere around April, and I think unfinished semester grades don't get taken into account.\n\nAs a result, they will see my transcript only up to this semester, which will reflect quite poorly unfortunately.\n\nI know I can do much better next semester. I am going to try for Fall 2016 over this winter break, and if I ever get rejected, I would like to know if I can apply right away again after the next semester ends and apply for maybe Spring 2017 semester.", "summary": "Everything I said above just talks about my situation. My question is how frequently can you attempt to apply for transfer?"}
{"id": "t3_vb4xe", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "\"hunt me down\" <- am I reading too much into this?", "post": "I'm 18 male and I graduated from high school in may. I got a yearbook like all seniors are supposed to do, got some notes in it, yada yada yada. Never really read them. I've always sucked at reading social cues, so that maybe my problem.\n\nA few weeks ago my dad was looking through it and finds one of the notes from a girl (18yo) I am friends with, lets call her Herpina, and will be going to the same college. I had a very small crush on her a while back. She is very sweet and nice, smart, hilarious, good looking. Never really thought about it. Well the rest of the note doesn't matter but the very last line said \"hunt me down next year\". \n\nMy dad's first reaction was to say that I should pursue it. Not entirely understanding, I ask what he's talking about, he showed me it and acts like its basically an open invitation for me. I say he is reading to much into it. I don't really believe him, but I am kinda curious.\n\nSo basically what I'm asking is: are my dad and I rewarding too much into it?", "summary": "get a note from a girl that says \"hunt me down next year\". Dad thinks its an invitation, I'm not sure. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_47b4ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] husband [28M] has been turning down sex every time I've initiated lately. I caught him masturbating.", "post": "We've been together for 4 years and have struggled with his porn addiction throughout.  He's been on /r/nofap for a few months but has not completed a month without looking at porn.  I've only said no to sex like 5 or 6 times in our whole relationship (including when I was pregnant). I regularly try to initiate, and am super happy when he does.  But tonight I caught him masturbating on the toilet after 4 days of saying no to me.  I know this is a tiny amount compared to some people, but I'm so hurt.  If I confront him he'll just beg forgiveness and then vaguely insinuate I should be ok with how much sex we are having already.", "summary": "husband would rather wank than have sex.  It's been a problem."}
{"id": "t3_4hlryf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] don't want to invite Tim [20 M] and Chadwick [21 M] to my party, but they're part of \"the friend group.\"", "post": "Hi, I'm a college student and I was surrounded with my classmates/friends yesterday, as usual. I made the stupid mistake of bringing up my scavenger party to everyone; I just casually asked if everyone would actually go if I had one to gauge interest. It's a sports type scavenger hunt with activities and prizes but it's pretty nerdy and not a lot of people like it. Now that I actually think of it, I would not like everyone to go, especially not Tim and Chadwick. However, they're friends with the people (Austin, Nathaniel) that I want to have over. Tim and Chad are nice people but they rub me the wrong way (it's hard to explain but they just make me really uncomfortable) and I'd only want certain people there. \n\nIs there any win-win way or do I have to invite Tim and Chadwick so I can have Austin and Nathaniel over?", "summary": "Having a scavenger party and I only want to invite certain people"}
{"id": "t3_s3et2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I go for it even though my time is running out?", "post": "So basically there's this girl in my class whom I'm attracted to and I think that there is a chance that we could end up being a couple, but there seems to be a few things that can prevent that from happening. \n1. I've heard rumors that she is in an arranged marriage (Her family is Middle Eastern; Haven't confirmed this from her, as she is private and most likely wouldn't want to say anything on the matter) 2. We have a few months left before she goes back home for a couple months and then will be going off to college (I'm only a Junior), and I most likely won't see her ever again unless we end up going to the same college 2 years from now, which does seem likely as we plan on going to the same school. 3. It seems that she's been hurt by a previous guy from what she has told me, and she's told me she hates most guys at are school. My question is: Should I try to start a relationship with her? A lot of people might say hell yeah live life to the fullest and all, which I totally want to do. I just don't know if she feels the same and I'm also looking for a serious relationship, and a few months isn't enough time to do as such. Thanks for reading! :)", "summary": "people: I like a girl who might be in an arranged marriage and I only have a couple months left with her. Should I go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_4nhruu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [23 F] 3 years, planned a romantic dinner, followed by proposal; things didn't go as planned. Feel dissappointed", "post": "We started dating in college and have been dating for 3 years. Last week was actually our 3rd year anniversary. Since it was on a weekday and we couldn't manage to get a leave, we just celebrated on Saturday. \n\nI planned for a breakfast, then to go to a park to have a picnic, spend the whole day together, just the two of us. I made a reservation for dinner at a fancy place and my plan was to propose after dinner at home(we live together). We've spoken about getting married before and both of us are definitely on the same page.\n\nNow my plan was that I'd drop subtle hints during the dinner, but not propose there. Then when we came back home, I'd keep a letter on the bed where I wrote about how I feel about her, and want to spend the rest of my life with her. Then when she'd finish reading, I'd go down on one knee and propose. I thought this was the best way as both of us are kinda private and have talked about not wanting to propose/ be asked in public.\n\nHowever, at the park, I was overshadowed by another couple. There was an Indian couple (forgot to say my gf is Indian, I'm white). The man also proposed to his (now) fiance. He had bollywood music playing in the background(didn't even occur to me) and made a very heartfelt speech and then their friends came outta nowhere and they all danced while the guy sang for her! It was an amazing proposal! I mean, even I would have accepted if I was the girl! My gf was in tears because the whole thing was so romantic.\n\nI felt like I couldn't propose to her after THAT! And now I feel like if I ask her, she'll think it's only because of them. I want her to feel special and loved, not like it was half-assed. And I'm kinda mad(but not really) at that couple for taking this away from us.", "summary": "Was planning to propose to the love of my life, was over shadowed by strangers."}
{"id": "t3_2rts28", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Convincing My Friends That I Was Moving To Canada.", "post": "So this happened over the course of an hour ago.\n\nA little backstory, my friends and I have known each other for a while now, some longer than others. I live in a military town where everyone tends to move around, so it isn't uncommon to hear about someone leaving. The thing is is that my family is pretty rooted here, my mom is a hospital worker that has worked here for 20+ years, and we have no intention of leaving.\n\nNow for the fuck up.\n\nNow while we have no intention of leaving, we do need to leave our home. Our landlord has decided that she wants to move back, and so we are preparing to leave. Now I had this great idea to tell my friends that my mom had gotten a new job at a hospital in Toronto. Now take into account that I live in central California, so Toronto is a ways away. So I asked my best friend to help me convince them, and well it kind of got out of hand...\nMy friends obviously care about me, for they immediately started calling, most of them crying.\nI still haven't told them that I'm moving down the block...", "summary": "Convinced friends I'm moving to Canada, made them cry. Not actually leaving."}
{"id": "t3_4a8ikd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling out \"ALLAHU AKBAR\" in school.", "post": "Last Thursday I was given the ultimate dare by my friends - let's call them X and Z. Both of them instructed me to walk into the middle of the middle of the hall and yell out \"Allahu Akbar\" at the top of my lungs. I did it twice that day.\n\nThe first time I did it I made sure there were no staff around. Then I walked into the middle of the hall and yelled it out. Everyone laughed while X and Z instructed me to do it again; I promised them I would do it on the second lunch break.\n\nCut to the second lunch break.\n\nHalfway through the break, they reminded me to do it. Again, I made sure there were no staff around before I yelled it out, this time louder than last time.\n\nThis is where the fuck-up happens.\n\nAfter I said it I saw a teacher. He was JUST out of my line of sight.\n\n\"Fuck!\" I thought. There's no way I'm gonna escape this.\n\n\"What have you succeeded in by doing that?\" he says.\n\n\"Um, offending several people?\" I reply.\n\n\"Yes. Yes, you did. Now I'm going to have to inform the principal about this. You do know that, correct?\"\n\nIt was at this moment that I knew I could weave my way out of the situation by just ratting on X and Z.\n\nLuckily it worked. Unluckily they don't want to talk to me ever again.", "summary": "Acted like a suicide bomber in school, lost two friends in the process."}
{"id": "t3_2j2bpu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Cant register car, outstanding parking tickets", "post": "Im in ohio\n\nBasically i have 1000 dollars in parking tickets while i was in the hospital and missed the court date to contest them and now they say i cant do anything about it now they are in collections. I dont have the money to pay them off.\n\nMy car died and i need a new one, but the dmv wont let me register a new car until i pay off the tickets.\n\nI have another car. Just not registered.\n\nI was wondering if my dad could put the car in his name and then i get some kind of non owners insurance to drive it.\n\nHowever, i thought when you register a car in your name at the dmv you had to also provide proof of insurance in your name as well.\nMy dads insurance wont allow other people to drive his cars under his plan for some reason.\n\nSo i was wondering how i could drive the car with my non owners insurance with the car registered with his insurance, or is there someway for him to register the car without hia insurance since he will not be driving it.", "summary": "Cant register car in my name due to outstanding tickets. Dad insurance wont let me drive his cars. Can i have him register a car in his name and use my non owners insurance without his insurance getting their panties in a wad."}
{"id": "t3_3fpca3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of ~8 months are going long distance", "post": "Long story short she graduated and is moving on to a very good graduate program for her, I have a year left in undergrad and may end up closer to her for my graduate degree.\n\nWe both feel ready for this, we've been a few hours apart this summer and it hasn't been too bad but the day after we visit is always rough. We get to see each other about twice a month, but that will go down to maybe once a month after she moves. We get along really, really well and I could see myself going the long run with her because of this.\n\nBUT, going from a 2 hour drive to either a 7 hour drive or one hour flight is a big change for us. I've never done long distance and neither has she, not to this extent at least. For the first few months of the relationship we actually were able to see each other every day, and we spent a lot of nights at each others places. The plan is to talk every night like we have this summer and to try to get together at least once a month, but we could both use some advice to keep this strong or to know when it's time to end it. So what tips are there for a couple going long distance to stay together, or to identify when things go in the crapper?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are going long(er) distance, any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_hhufj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to just... start over?", "post": "For your sake, I won't divulge *why* I want to do this, but for a while now I've been really thinking about just up and moving from my home town and possibly even the state. I know some kids my age (22) have done this, but they've all had connections. Someone to stay with while they got their shit together. I don't have that anywhere, which is ideal actually. I don't want to go anywhere where someone knows me. A complete fresh start, and not in a depressing way... I want my one bedroom apartment, my dog named Wags that I'll rescue from a shelter and my miniscule job that pays minimum wage.\n\nI've got a little bit of money saved up. Definitely enough to put towards a shitty apartment and feed myself for a while, but I just don't know what my first move would be... I'm assuming my best route would be craigslist would be pretty helpful, but would a landlord trust to rent to someone who the haven't met or has seen the apartment? Would anyone hire someone to stretch pizzas that the interviewed only on the phone? Do I have to reregister my car or take a new road test to have a valid license? If there's something I haven't thought of, I'd like to know...\n\nBlah.", "summary": "looking to start my life over. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2pz3d3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She says her newfound independence means we may need a break...", "post": "Hey all. I'm crazy confused and would appreciate any help I could get. Never posted before, but I figured it couldn't hurt!\n\nOkay gf (22) and I (M 23) have been dating for 3 years. We've done long distance a couple times for summer breaks in college. But now we have graduated and she is pursuing grad school and I am working pretty far away.\n\nWe have had almost zero problems in our relationship. Everything has been going fine. We haven't been doing great the last 2-3 staying in touch as we both had major exams for a long time.\n\nOut of the blue my gf called me and said that she has really grown during our time apart. More confident, more independent, and happier. She says that she doesn't miss me ALL the time like she used to. (which I think is healthy)\n\nShe says that she still loves me but wonder what a break would do for her. She doesn't want to see other people. She just wonders if it would help her grow even more. And she worries that this independence she is feeling is a sign of us growing apart. \n\nI'm trying to be supportive, she has always been shy and quiet. I am so happy she feels more confident, but I just don't know what else to say. I would love some help! Much appreciated!", "summary": "Our long distance has caused GF to feel more independent and happy. She is worried this is a sign of us growing apart. Possible 'break' incoming?"}
{"id": "t3_vm0yp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Redditers that have worked in restaurants, what is something you wish you would have known before taking the job?", "post": "I've never worked at a restaurant before and have an interview for a host or back-waiter position in a few days. The place is doing a \"reverse interview\" however, and will be evaluating me on the questions that I come up with to ask them. They said that no topic is off limits and no subject is too far. I've come up with a few questions so far but was wondering if Reddit could share some of its vast wisdom.\n\n1. How long have you worked here/been in the industry?\n-I would imagine that if he/she is interviewing me they have probably worked there for a while. But I think it's a good starter/set up question.\n\n2. What is the first thing you do when you get off work?\n-This is to gauge how stressful, relative to their years of experience, the work environment is day to day.\n\n3. What is the etiquette/relationship between the kitchen and wait staff?\n-This is to avoid pissing off the kitchen. At all costs, I want to be on their good side.\n\n4. How does one move up the ranks (bus boy to waiter to bartender etc.) and how long does it take?\n-Eventually, maybe in a year or so, I'd like to bartend. \n\n5. When are the busiest hours and how many people usually come through on a busy night?\n-This is to basically test the \"weeds\".\n\nThat's about all I have so far. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!", "summary": "Never worked in restaurant, have a \"reverse interview\", looking for things I should ask/know about a place before I work there."}
{"id": "t3_4zqlx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am getting checked out a lot by girls on the street - should I try and pursure something", "post": "Throwaway because this sounds kind of cheesy and I don't want my age known on my main.\n\nWhenever I feel down, I take a hike through the many streets of Amsterdam and hit the various bars for beer and chocomel, having small talk with the various denizens of the city (don't really know them but we chat for shits and giggles).\n\nI'm not exactly a male model, but neither am I a very ugly dude - I haven't exactly been wanted by any girls that I like in my school, but for some reason every time I go out on a walk I become a headturner for some uncanny reason. Today alone I think about thirty or so hot girls actually made eye contact and gave me a genuine smile.\n\nSo, should I try approaching them, or is that some creepy taboo?", "summary": "Title says it all."}
{"id": "t3_v02m5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi reddit, will you help support a small business? its easy!", "post": "Yo reddit, long time lurker here. I work for a mobile APP company for kids, with streaming TV shows and games (think netflix for kids, plus games :D). Anyways, we're in this sort of drive sponsored by Chase called Mission: Small Business. Basically, each business puts their product on this site, and the businesses that collect 250 votes by June 30th are eligible for a $250,000 grant! Each of the 250 vote getters is analyzed by business experts, and those deemed with a successful model and in the most need receive the grant! \n\nOnly 12 companies get chosen so its pretty stiff competition (like 250 are estimated to make it), but we could really use the exposure regardless!\n\nTo vote, simply go to this site \nand log in with your facebook. They don't pull any of your information or anything like that (one of our IT guys checked) so dont stress. Once you're there search \"mobile mum\" in the search bar, and vote! Aaand you're done! If you happen to be from Texas or if you just want to support other businesses, you can search by city.\n\nFor those who do vote for us, hit me up on twitter (@Mobile_mum) if you're interested in a free month subscription as our thanks for your support. Keep in mind you'd really probably only be interested if you have kids, but if you do it is a really good product. My Aunt says its a godsend.\n\nThanks for reading if you made this far, and thanks for your support!", "summary": "go:  Log in with your FB, vote \"mobile mum\""}
{"id": "t3_3je2im", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [overly attached 24M] need someone to tell me to move on", "post": "So, about two months ago I met this girl online. We talked for about a week and decided to meet up. We met up, spent an afternoon together and it was lovely. I'm not sure I can imagine how a first date could've gone much better. This was confirmed by the fact that I got a text not even 30 minutes after we separated telling me how much she loved meeting me. \n\nThis all seems great, right? Now, to the problem. She doesn't live in the same country as I do, but visits 1-2 times a year. Due to conflicting travel schedules this was the only time we had the chance to see each other before she flew back. Since then, we have been chatting and snapchatting sporadically. However, after the first week or two it has been pretty clear that the interest is mostly on my end. Like any reasonable person would do in this situation, she has returned to her daily life moved on. To her, I'm most likely just a friend she may contact whenever she visits my country.\n\nThe problem is that I seemingly can't. I think the reason for this is that I'm not exactly used to getting attention, and especially not from someone as beautiful as this girl. Previously, I've had a bit of bad luck in this area, with a few cases of unrequited love. Now that I got a taste of what it feels like to just maybe have some mutual interest, I can't quite let it go. I can't stop thinking about what could've/would've been, had she lived here.\n\nI know it's unreasonable and illogical of me to get this attached to someone I've met only once in my life. I know it'd be wiser for my emotional and mental health to just stop contacting her altogether and move on, but I just can't seem to do it. Normally I don't have a problem with moving on, but in this case I really need someone to hit me in the face with the truth and tell me it's a lost cause.", "summary": "overly attached to girl I went on date with, tell me to move on."}
{"id": "t3_3rofq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need [M/29] advice on how to support a girl [F/30] I fell very hard for", "post": "Recently moved back to a city I moved away from 3 years ago, and met this beautiful girl at a softball tournament. Turns out she was just separated and going through a divorce, but that didn't stop us from talking daily and going on outings together. After 2 months she gave me her apartment keys, and we started seeing each other more and more. She just started her CPA program, and is incredibly stressed and busy now. I totally get this, and have to go back to school myself soon. The problem is she is INCREDIBLY independent. After she confessed how hard she was falling for me over the weekend, I get a text yesterday saying she won't be available until the end of December. Obviously I'm hurt...but how do I not ruin anything by asking her about times we can be together or talk. I just feel like I'm walking on eggshells to not stress her anymore. Any advice would help a lot!", "summary": "Met girl if my dreams. She's in school and suddenly says we can't see each other. How do I support her or say it doesn't matter to me until she's done?"}
{"id": "t3_3j5m24", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I lost my cat a while ago to cancer and am still having trouble getting over it.", "post": "I'm not going to make this long, but I moved around a lot as a kid and never really could get the hang of holding onto friends after a move. Eventually I became really introverted and spent all my time with my cats (they're twins :)). When they were eight years old, the brother cat died of a cancer called Hermangiosarcoma. He looked really sick. I helped him every way I could, I slept with him, I spent all day with him when I wasn't at school, I ate with him, I helped him go to the bathroom towards the end. He couldn't move around that well, It looked like everything hurt. His entire stomach was bruised, and the bruises were only spreading. He and his sister were my best friends. Two weeks after the diagnosis he died. I hate myself, I put him down. More accurately, my parents put him down. But the entire time I was resisting the urge to take him and run away, run somewhere he didn't have to die, I still hate myself for letting him be put down. I still believe that there was something we could have done. We didn't give him chemo or surgery, everyone said it was a lost cause. But there was no \"it\", there was only \"he\". My kitty. And I let him die. Don't say it's not my fault, I know that. I just regret not trying to save him. I prayed every night, even after he died I continued to pray for a long time. I kept thinking that as I passed our room I would see him sleeping under the table where he always was. I don't believe in god anymore. If there is a god, I hate him. I would rather go to whatever version of hell exists than spend any amount of time close to a god that lets a boy watch his best friend slowly hemorrhage in front of him. I can't stop thinking about how sweet he was and how he didn't deserve to die. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over this?\n\nWow, I said I would keep it short, I guess I lied.", "summary": "my cat died and I still cry about it every day."}
{"id": "t3_2w842r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] meeting my 1/2 Brother [~15] for the first time", "post": "**Backstory**\n\nMy dad left ~16 years ago. I have never meet him. He was a raging alcoholic and cocaine addict when he left and seems to have cleaned up his act. My grandma may have cancer so my mom contacted my dad so they could have their goodbyes should worse come to worse and my grandma die suddenly. Turns out I have a half brother whom we'll call John. I want to meet John but I don't want to meet my dad. \n\nOne of my 2 sisters has already met with my dad and the other is planning to this weekend. I have no intentions of meeting him. They both have John's number and didn't give it to me. I haven't asked for it but I didn't know they had it until this morning when my mom let it slip by mistake.\n\nI plan on asking for John's number and calling him. I assume he know's I exist because my sister's have his number and I'm assuming they have contacted him. I just don't know what I would say to him so start a conversation. I know I should start out with the, \"Hi, John. I'm Mickey_Done, your long lost brother. How are you?\" I just don't know where to go from there.", "summary": "What should I say to John when I call him, past, \"Hi, John. I'm Mickey_Done, your long lost brother. How are you?\""}
{"id": "t3_qwndp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible for the 'spark' to come back over time?", "post": "Hi! So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a relatively short period of time - since January (3 months). We met at New Years Eve and everything went pretty quickly from there. Huge chemistry from the start, both physical and mental. I'm 2 years older (21) than him (19), have a steady job and an apartment, he's a freshman in law school and lives with his parents. \n\nEverything was super exciting 'til about a week ago, when our schedules became stressful and we didn't get a chance to see each other every day, we still wrote and texted frequently. Now, I feel like the spark is gone. I have been completely void of emotion and it's come to a point where his messages are becoming annoying and I don't even miss him anymore. This might seem as a temporary thing, but I'm a pretty private person to start with. \n\nIs it normal for me not to miss a person this close to me? Can the feelings just disappear that suddenly? Is it possible that the feelings might come back? I don't want to hurt him, but at this point, I feel like I don't have another choice but to let him go, because I'm not that into him anymore.", "summary": "Haven't seen my boyfriend some time and now I don't even want to talk to him. Complete apathy."}
{"id": "t3_1g0zpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my [51F Mom] and [25F Sister] duration, My sister is ignoring her family (what's left of it). Can you PLEASE help? (X-Post from /r/advice)", "post": "* Painting a picture:\n\nWe don't really speak to our extended family anymore. They do/did lots of drugs, are extremely rude and disrespectful at group gatherings, my cousin hit on my girlfriend a family reunion, etc...\n\nWhat's so upsetting about all of this is that my immediate family (mom, sister, and myself) have been extremely close all of our lives. We have never abandoned each other since my extended family has taught us how not to be. My mom is devastated as she is going through empty nest syndrome already with my sister leaving within the last year.\n\n* Current situation:\n\nMy sister hasn't spoken to my mom or myself in over 2 months. I'm very upset and worried for her (she was molested as a child by a fellow church member -- we're all atheists now except my mom) because of her past. I've always been her big brother. I've always been there for her and so has my mom. \n\n* What I think:\n\nMy sister seems to be upset because I was laid off work and am currently relying on unemployment to make ends meet and that my mom MIGHT lose her job because her union doesn't seem to want to represent the workers that are being mistreated (my mom stands up for herself and her co-workers as opposed to many others). I'm currently working a side business that is beginning to generate enough revenue to make my full-time job in the near future and the possibility that my mom will get fired is relatively low. \n\nThese tiny bumps in the road, that we all seem to go through, seem to devastate her.I know my sister is really stressed and worried for us, but simply not communicating with your family (my sister didn't even bother to call my mom on Mother's day) is not the way to go. Reddit, how can I fix this!! I'm a guy. Tell me what to do and I'll do it! Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.", "summary": "My sister hasn't communicated with either my mom or myself (her brother) in over 2 months. I know she is physically safe, but I very much worry about her well-being and this is tearing my mom apart."}
{"id": "t3_42tn1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [22m] have a chance with [22f]?", "post": "Hello! Long time-lurker, first time submitter (Throwaway because you know why), this isn't as exciting or drama filled as the posts that keep bringing me back, but I'd really appreciate some help with this.\n\nSo in september 2013 I met (let's call her) Brody through college in a module we were both taking, we worked together in a few group settings and we got along well and kept in touch, although we couldn't work together for college or hang out much as our schedules were polar opposites. \n\nBut we tried to keep in touch and stayed friendly. I wanted to ask her out, but she had a long-distance boyfriend a few hours away, so I put that thought out of my head. Until a few weeks back, when one of my best mates (let's call him) Corey admitted to me that he made-out with Brody on a night out recently. This obviously caught me off guard.\n\nNow I'm 90% certain she's single, but she's quiet about it and I wouldn't be able to tell without asking her. Now I'm left wondering if I have a chance with her. Another issue is I have Asperger's which makes the whole relationship thing fairly hard for me (Never had a girlfriend, and the two times I was close ended in disaster), so reading body language and picking up social hints isn't something that comes easy to me. (Although I am miles better than I was even a few months ago)\n\nSo here's where I need your help. I'd like to get advice how to figure out if she's single or not without seeming nosey, and if she is, any tips for getting the confidence to ask her out or figuring out if she's into me or not.", "summary": "I'm not sure if my friend is single, and I'm looking for advice for asking her out as someone who's not very good at that sort of thing"}
{"id": "t3_1qvtof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 6 months, just broke up with me and I don't know what to do", "post": "I work an engineering job making a decent salary, I contribute to my 401k, IRA, and also have a savings account in hopes that someday I will be able to buy a house.  My girlfriend works in a sales position with commission and does not make very much money.  \n\nWe've lived together for about 4 months and our main point of argument is that she doesn't have any long-term plans for the future.  She doesn't save any money and won't commit to going back to college to learn a new skill and get a 9-5 job that provides stable income.\n\nI've been pretty much paying for everything and today I told her how stressed out it was making me that she wouldn't even try to think about our future.  It was probably the 4th time I've said this during our relationship and she basically called it off.  \n\nI just spent the last hour crying and begging her to stay telling her I was wrong and that I would try harder at work to cover both of us in the future but she still moved everything out of my apt and left.\n\nI don't know what to do.  Should I try to get her back or move on?", "summary": "my gf and I fight about money, I tell her that she needs to think about the future and get a stable job and she breaks up with me"}
{"id": "t3_hy60q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your craziest college story?", "post": "Beginning of sophomore year, my friend was dating a really hot asian porn star. Let's call her K. I was dating a cute asian girl (V), and K was very attracted to V (K was Bi). One night, when we were really drunk and indulging in some party favors, the idea of a foursome came up. K and V started making out and got naked. My buddy and I were in our underwear about to get involved. We've got dubstep blasting too loud to hear anything going on in the rest of the house (say what you want about the genre, it's great poundtown music). \n\nSuddenly, two cops walk into my room. They look at the two naked girls making out on my bed, and ask my friend and I to step into the living room with them. Apparently my housemates had been playing music w/ the front door open past the noise ordinance, and when the cops showed up they all bailed (claimed not to live there). \n\nSo my friend and I are sitting there, in our underwear, kind of laughing at the fact that these two cops have to go around busting people having way more fun than them. They even asked us if the girls were both 18. I just laughed and asked if they remembered college. Neither of them had gone. They write me a $100 ticket and leave. We go back to the room and both girls are passed out. I was mad at my roommates for bailing, and I never had a foursome with a porn star, but the ticket was worth the story.", "summary": "Cops walked in on me and a friend enjoying some girl-on-girl action."}
{"id": "t3_2ti1ib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] My [15 F] girlfriend of 10 months's parents want to put her on birth control", "post": "I recently learned that my girlfriend's parents want to put her on birth control, and I really just don't know what to think. I know that they just don't want to risk her getting pregnant, and I don't really have any problems with it, I'm just really nervous about it. We've talked about sex before, but we both decided that it was better to wait. At least until we both feel emotionally ready to, and is certainly not something we want to do anytime soon.\n\nI know this isn't really a problem, I've just been really distracted by it and been really nervous about it, and thought you all might provide some clarity.", "summary": "Girlfriend's parents planning on putting her on birth control, I'm really nervous and don't know what to do or think."}
{"id": "t3_33nmoj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading my boyfriend's texts", "post": "So me and my bf are wine tasting with some friends (yes this wasn't today but in January) and we are all gathered around an outdoor fire pit. Him and I are sitting on this bench that seats two and are pretty close.  I trust him, but I'm also a girl and super curious with little self control so I look over at a certain point and see that he's on his screen that shows all your messages, and the top one is \"Jyes, H\". \n\nNow I have a pretty common girls name, and my last initial is in no way H.  So first thought in my head is \"Who the F is this chica texting my bf?\".  I'm not very good at hiding my emotions and so he can tell almost immediately that I'm not happy about something, finally I ask him who that girl is on his phone. He looks shocked and denies it, which sparks more anger in me.  \n\nUntil he pulls out his phone and shows me his messages. It was a group text from me and his roommate, who is in his name as last initial, roommates name (ie: H, Roommate).  So the group list showed up as Jyes, H.  Luckily we both laughed it off and he still teases me about it.", "summary": "Saw a text from another girl on BFs phone, turns out it was me."}
{"id": "t3_3xdmvj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Letting former co-workers know about job openings, my former employer doesn't like it.", "post": "I resigned from a shop about 2 months ago. I left for better working conditions and more pay and on good terms (submitted letter of resignation and gave 3 weeks notice). Since I have been at my new shop it has got me in touch with multiple new employers, who because of my work ethic ask me if I know anyone that they could hire top work for them. \n\nSeveral of the guys I used to work with have been seeking better opportunities for many the same reasons I did. I have been in contact with them and gotten them connected to some of the ppl looking to hire. One is a really good friend and definitely leaving, he also happens to be a crucial part of his current employers operation and losing him will hurt them. Today he told me that his supervisor made some comments about how he heard I was trying to convince other ppl to leave and that my former head boss the owner of the company had told the supervisor to tell me to stop.  They still don't know that my friend is leaving and possibly two others. \n\nSo,", "summary": "Can I get into any kind of legal trouble for helping former co-workers get jobs other places?"}
{"id": "t3_3trmi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF[21F] since 5 years, she drove drunk", "post": "Im pretty drunk as well right now so excuse my errors. \n\nMy girlfriend of five years lives in another town and she is a typical \"good girl\", meaning that I am the one who usually gets the shit because I did something wrong while drunk. However tonight she told me she drove home while drunk from a party and I got quite mad. \n\nI do know how to handle situations when I get mad so told her that it is not ok and that we should take more tomorrow when we are both sober. \n\nHowever I *really* hate when people drive drunk, like I have called people on reddit \"the scum of the earth\" or something like that for driving drunk. \n\nI don't really know what to say to her to make her realise the seriousness of the situation. She told me she drank 1 j\u00e4ger shot, a red bull vodka and a cider which is way over the legal limit where I'm from. Like ofc I'm not gonna break up with her over something like this but it has never been her doing something stupid before, always me, so I don't know how to handle it.", "summary": "Gf drove drunk, wat do"}
{"id": "t3_i0duj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when someone hated dies?", "post": "So my girlfriend's dad is just about dead. Long story short, he was a parapalegic alcoholic who had a seizure. It turns out he was bleeding out internally from his liver and would have, at best, ended up a vegetable, so they decided to pull the plug today.\n\nNow heres where it gets complicated. He was pretty much hated by my girlfriend and her immediate family. He and her mom where going through a divorce due to his alcoholism, verbal/ emotional abuse of the family and his cheating on my girlfriend's mother. He was never a good father to my girlfriend or her brother and over the past year has been mentally deteriorating. Always the narcissist, he was slipping further into psychosis and living in an assisted living home, although partially because of his handicap.\n\nSo the question is, what do I do now? If he was loved, this situation would be almost easier for everyone as they would know how to act. My gf's 17 yo brother is pretty torn up about the situation. I know I need to be there for support but I can't comfort them by saying what a good guy he was, he lived a good life, etc. because we all know that isn't true.", "summary": "How does one comfort family members of a deceased asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_3117s9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl (19f) and I(20m) are good friends, but we occasionally make out when we're drunk and I'm falling for her", "post": "Hi. So I met this girl about a year ago through mutual friends. We are great friends and we have a lot in common. Couple of months ago, we got drunk and I slept the night at her place and we made out for the first time. At that time we were friends so it created an awkward tension for awhile. Once we got over that awkwardness we went on being friends like usual. Fast forward a couple of months and now we made out a couple more times and I'm starting to catch the feels for her. We never talk about what happened and we just go on like we never made out. I think she likes me and I know for a fact that she knows that I like her. She's a great person and she makes me really happy. I just don't want to lose her as a friend if I do the \"talk\". I need some advice because I don't know what to do next", "summary": "made out couples times, I'm falling for her and I don't want to ruin the friendship we created."}
{"id": "t3_44htj9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(M/25) Relationships always seem to end in depression.", "post": "I have been dating a 20 year old female for a little over 2 years. The past few months have been somewhat droopy. This is what actually happened with my last relationship to around year 3. I feel as though my relationships always come to a depressing feeling. I have very little to no drive for my relationship. Currently, I have a lot of things on my plate. I am trying to nail down a permanent job, finish a diversion program, move out of my parents, buy a new car, keep my health in check, coach basketball, all while trying to maintain a relationship. I don't really feel down when I'm around all of these other things. The relationship feels down. She's a beautiful person. We had such a great connection and we could be goofy and fun together, but it just isn't feeling right anymore, like I'd rather have my alone time than spend it with her. Maybe I've become too busy and focusing on myself. Should I let go?", "summary": "Relationships seem to always end in depression. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_3amctc", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Help! My daughter refuses to poop.", "post": "My daughter will be 3 a couple of months, we're kind of potty training but not forcing anything because I feel like she will be ready when she's ready and there's no point in getting frustrated, forcing things she's just not ready for.  \n\nThe problem is that the girl refuses to poop. I feel like I need to stress that she is not constipated, when she finally does do the deed it's not hard, it's a formed stool, but is definitely soft. It's like, when she feels the urge to poop, she just completely tenses up and holds her butt cheeks together, literally just stopping it from coming out. When I check her diaper or her potty there will be a tiny bit of, I dunno, poop juice? (Yeah, \"poop juice\" makes me giggle like a 10 yr. old ) \nSo it's like the poop is trying to come out, she just forces it back up. I know this has to make her tummy feel horrible and I'm sure it's not really good for her, but I am running out of things to do. \n\nI've tried putting her on the potty, sitting next to me, alone in the bathroom (but I'm right outside the door if she needs me) I've tried leaving her in her diaper, even walking around with no diaper, and nothing seems to make a difference. I've tried just letting her be, I've tried helping her, i really just have no idea what to do and I'm going insane because it will be like four days since she pooped. She will wake up in the night crying because the poop is trying to come out and she stops it again. \n\nI've called a nurse and though i tell them many times she is not constipated, they just keep recommending things for constipation, which i do try as well. \n\nHas anyone else had this problem? Ant advice? I feel like this has to make her feel like crap, and it stresses us all out because it will be days of her running and \"hiding\" and stopping her poop.", "summary": "daughter holds her poop in, drives us all insane."}
{"id": "t3_13fzsb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm 24 and my short-term memory and concentration has declined -sharply- in the past year or two. Is it a normal, universal mid-20's thing? Is this just me? Does it have to do with being out of school?", "post": "I've always had a really good memory and a good ability to focus. This last year or two, I feel like it's gone to shit. I can't think clearly like I used to, I have trouble focusing, and I sometimes can't remember stuff.\n\nI still seem to be able to learn things - I'm cramming my brain full of abstract algebra right now - so it's not like I'm completely hopeless. But there's definitely a problem with me holding things in short term memory. Sometimes it's like, I'll forget what you just said within seconds.\n\nIs this normal and do other people notice it too? I know your memory dulls a bit as you get older, but I didn't think it'd suddenly get this bad in such a short time span. I figured it'd be a slow taper type thing. I'm currently in a high-stress position, but I've been in high-stress positions before and never had this issue. Maybe it has to do with being out of school?\n\nAnd for the inevitable \"see a doctor\" posts: I'm already headed to see a neurologist about it, but I'm curious if other people my age (24) are experiencing the same thing, or if anyone overcame it somehow.\n\nAnd also for the inevitable \"sleep good, eat good, exercise more, meditate, etc\" posts - I already do many of those things and am always looking to continue to better myself, but I wasn't exactly a saint in college either and never felt like this.", "summary": "is it normal to suddenly develop a terrible memory in your mid-twenties?"}
{"id": "t3_vqszr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Still in love with ex boyfriend.", "post": "I'm a 19-year old female, who dated an 18-year old guy for about 6 months. \nWe broke up a 2 months ago, because he said \"he didn't feel comfortable around me, in the same way as when he's with his friends\". Also, he said when you're in a relationsship, you're supposed to be best friends, which we weren't. He also mentioned, that he didn't feel he could support me the way a boyfriend should be able to.\n \nWe agreed to still be friends, and I admitted, that I still loved him, and he said he loved me too. A week after, he texted me telling me, that he had been to a psychologist, and he had a depression.\n \nWe've met up a few times since, but never talked about feelings. But lately, he's hardly ever contacted me, it's just me, who starts the conversation over text or skype, and it's only me, who takes the initiative to meet up. \nI know, he's not at his very best, and that's probably why he hardly ever contacts me. \n\nBut recently I've become unsure, if I should continue contacting him. Do you think it's worth it? Should I talk about how I feel? Or should wait until he feels better?", "summary": "My ex has a depression, I'm still in love with him, but I'm unsure of his feelings. Therefore, I'm totally blank on what to do. :-("}
{"id": "t3_46txrt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Girl I'm interested has already asked someone out to go to prom and got rejected", "post": "I've been knowing this girl for 3 years now and we have been maintaining a decent friendship. Neither of us made moves on each other because she had strict parents and I wasn't very interested in relationships. \n\nRecently, we started to talk a lot of more than we used to and also we started to have occasional calls. During a call last night, a topic about prom was brought up and she told me that she got rejected from someone last year. I jokingly asked her (but she might have taken it seriously) if she wanted to go to prom with me and I wouldn't reject her then she gave me a positive response, but not so black and white.", "summary": "When a girl asks someone out to prom, does that usually mean that she has a crush on that person? And would it be likely for her to go back to that person if the guy she asked out to prom decides to change his mind and accepts her offer?"}
{"id": "t3_1qiosw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 6 months, I think he doesn't want to be with me anymore but is too scared to say it.", "post": "It might be important to note that this is mine and his first relationship. Over the past months, we have slowly been getting further and further apart. We would always text each other and talk about things that would be of interest to us but now that has almost completely stopped. I have also been going through a bit of stress because I got fired from my job recently and I told him that. That was the first time he saw me at my lowest. Usually, I would be really cheerful and I think it surprised him, making him look at me a different way. I just don't know what to do with this relationship anymore and it has been on my mind for a while. I could be overreacting about this all, but I just need some advice.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore and isn't able to break up with me"}
{"id": "t3_gq441", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Didn't go to Ex's going away party. Called me out on it next day.", "post": "Hey everyone, I've posted a few times now regarding my current pursuits and my ex. \n\n**The relationship** We had a great relationship, but she broke up with me because she couldn't wait for me to figure out what I want in life. Or a \"Plan\" as she loves to call it. I understand that she deserves someone who has such a plan in life but I'm only 21 (m); she's 23(f). The other big factor is that she's moving away (New Mexico) and we currently live in Canada. After we broke up I took many steps to better myself and all that good stuff. Two months later, here I am feeling great and even looking great, alot of self confidence again. \n\n**The problem** She had a going away party last night and well I honestly did not feel that if I were to say good bye to her it wouldn't be in a setting that involved alcohol and lots of people. Besides I'm more concern that this could reverse all the good that I've done for myself. I'm actually over her but I was worried that she would find a hole in my armor. I just received a text \"Thanks for coming to my farewell party lol.\" I'm not sure on how to respond to her, I want to tell her that the last 2 months without contact did great for me and I didn't feel that last night would've been good for either of us. Also that if we were to say good bye perhaps going for coffee or something less extravagant if you will. So what do you all think? What would be the best steps to take in this matter?\n\nI apologize if there isn't enough information I'll edit more in if anyone would like to know more.", "summary": "Avoided Ex's going away party, she called me out on it. Not sure on how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_2rsbpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [40M] will be escorting son [12M] and his friend [12M] to their sports tournament. How to split the hotel costs with the friend's family?", "post": "My son has a baseball tournament out of state that we'll be flying to. His best friend Adam is also on the team. Adam's parents are not able to travel to the tournament, so I have offered to bring him along with my son and me. Adam is a good kid, and we all get along well. His parents gratefully accepted offer, and have offered to share costs.\n\nSo it will be me, my son, and Adam in the hotel room. Money is very tight for all involved, but our families are on good terms, and they will likely pay whatever I ask. (I know, if money is tight then why the hell are we flying around the country to play baseball...that's a topic for another day.)\n\nMy question: Would you ask Adam's parents for **one-third** of the cost of the room (Adam will be one of three people in the room), or **half** the cost of the room (Adam will be one of two kids needing escort to the tournament), or **no cost** of the room (since I would be going anyway)?\n\nTo be clear, this is not a family vacation to which we're inviting Adam as a guest. In that case I probably wouldn't ask for any money. It is literally just me escorting the kids. My wife, and my other kids are not coming. The boys will play a few games over a couple days, then we'll come home. Adam's folks will supply him with meal money, plane ticket, etc.", "summary": "How should we split the cost of a hotel when I'm escorting someone else's kid to a sports tournament? It will be me, my son, and his teammate in the room."}
{"id": "t3_2q1rgx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my Boyfriend [27 M] 6 months, He's over-gifting for holidays. What do I do?", "post": "So our relationship has been great so far (for six months) but I came over a couple days ago and discovered a massive pile of wrapped presents. I mean, we're talking at least 15 things.... all for me.\n\nI know it sounds horrible to be upset about this but here's why it raised red flags for me:\n\nOne, I'm terrified of him using this pile of presents to manipulate me into \"loving\" him/doing chores for him (due to past trauma with other relationships)\n\nTwo, he makes more than me (about 3 times as much) but this is still gonna be putting a big dent in his finances (since I've gotten a few hints as to what is inside a few of them) and I am uncomfortable with potentially allowing him to be in financial distress for a stupid holiday. Should I refuse anything that is ridiculously expensive and can be returned?\n\nThree, I'm only getting him a few things and most of them cost very little (but have a lot of time and love invested into them), so I'm going to feel horribly inadequate when we open presents. Since seeing the pile I keep asking him if number/cost/quality of presents represents love to him and he either gets quiet or deflects\n\nFour, he made the following comment: \"I just want you to have something to remember me by if you break up with me before next holiday\" (He is super insecure, but this was.... ridiculous)", "summary": "How to handle receiving too many presents from new BF?"}
{"id": "t3_erf06", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My girlfriends family is slowly dying away from her, I don't know how to comfort her anymore.", "post": "In the past 5 months she has been to three funerals. She's only 18 and eventhough she's a really strong person, it's too much for her to handle.\nWe keep a long distance relationship so I can't go to her and comfort her in person, only via MSN for now.\n\nJust 30 minutes ago her grandmother passed, she doesn't know what to do with herself and she guilts herself for what happened.\nShe got 20.000 DKK (danish currency) as a christmas present from her grandmother in the mail minutes after she had found out her grandmother passed.\nShe guilts herself with the fact that when she visited her grandma yesterday, she said \"Good night, I will see you tomorrow\" but never did.\n\nI'm running out of words to tell her, help me please.", "summary": "Long distance relationship girlfriend has had a lot of family members taken away from her, don't know what to tell her anymore that will make her feel better."}
{"id": "t3_f9kfv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm afraid my lack of self worth is going to wreck a potential relationship with someone I'm really into, does Reddit have any advice?", "post": "Information: I'm 17, male, gay, 5'9, caucasian and I look like this:\n\nI'm having an issue. I've met an amazing person, and I think we could have an equally amazing relationship together, but I'm terrified I'm going to mess things up, and it's making me irrational.\n\nI don't know if any other Redditors have experienced this, but whenever I meet someone that I internally place some sort of importance onto, I develop this inferiority complex where I become extremely self conscious and I lose my self worth. For instance, we were at the mall when we met the first time in person, and the entire time I just over thought all my conversation and I was boring. I wasn't me, I'm generally a fairly social person, I'm outgoing and generous and I have a big sense of humour, and I'd say I come off as intelligent in most cases, but all of that disappeared. \n\nMy greatest fear isn't that he's not going to be perfect for me; my greatest fear is that he is perfect for me and because of my lack of self worth he's never going to see the real me and things won't work out.\n\nHe's amazing, but do any other Redditors have any advice on how to be more self confident and develop some self worth? Because I'm terrified of being me, but I know that if I hide who I am and I wind up in a relationship with him I'm not going to be the real me and neither of us will be happy.", "summary": "I'm worried that my self consciousness and lack of self worth is going to wreck my relationship with someone. "}
{"id": "t3_1v8q9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How much should I [17 F] trust my BF [17 M] of 3 months, with the texts I send him?", "post": "We don't go to the same school, but I know guys talk. I haven't sent him any pictures because I know better than that. I know we're going to break up eventually, and I know he's not destined to be my only partner forever.\n\nTonight he asked me to do stuff on cam for him; I said no. Then he asked for some pics; I said no. And the funny thing is, he said he'd never ask for pics OR try to pressure me into it. He didn't exactly\npressure me, but he definitely seemed to think I would budge easily.\n\nI already said I'd give him oral soon. We're giving each other our virginities next month. And I've been really open with him, and so has he.\n\nBut when it comes to dirty texting, even just with writing, I can just picture him going to school tomorrow and bragging to his friends. I trust him, but I don't trust guys. He's my first boyfriend, but I've also heard a lot from other people and I just don't want to do anything stupid.", "summary": "We're both seniors in HS. Boyfriend wants dirty text messages. I shouldn't trust him to keep things private, right?"}
{"id": "t3_4otfjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [28F] end a long-term, on/off relationship with my boyfriend [29M] of 9 years after moving 1000+ miles to be closer to him?", "post": "I posted a few days ago in a really low state - not knowing whether I should leave my boyfriend after all we have been through. \n[Link to original post. ] (\n\nI now realize it's best I move on. He gets angry when I make plans with other people, and decide not to sit around at home with him watching sports. At the same time, he likes to make me feel bad about myself by not acknowledging things that are important to me, e.g. my family and my birthday. \n\nI'm scared that I won't ever find anyone else I feel so comfortable around. Still, it is better to be alone than in bad company. \n\nI am freaked out that I'm in a situation I can't get myself out of. I know that in a few months, he's going to come back crying and begging for forgiveness like he always does. I'm in the same city now, so things are going to be unlike they've ever been before.\n\nWhat is the best way to end a long-term relationship \u2013 especially when you live in the same smallish city as that person? I've never been through this before - so all advice is welcome. \n\nPlease note that despite the fact I moved across the country to be closer to him - I absolutely love, love my new job (dream job) and the area. I'm starting to make friends here, and feel pretty happy. Moving back to my original city is not what I want to do to end this relationship.", "summary": "I decided to move closer to my boyfriend a couple months ago. He is incredibly mean to me, and while I keep wishing he will change, I can see that he won't. I need to end the relationship, but I don't know how after I've made this huge life change."}
{"id": "t3_1kffow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] can't get over commitment issues with my SO [23M]", "post": "I have been dating this guy for seven months. I have never been one to commit to anything, and it's resulted in the downfall of many a relationship.\nThis guy is different though. He's the first person that I can see a future with. My family loves him; his family loves me. Friends and relatives have all told me that he is the one and to hang on to him, which I fully intended to.\nRecently, I have found myself falling back into old ways. Dating longer than six months causes immense anxiety, which results in a wandering eye. I don't cheat, but suddenly every other guy seems 1000x more attractive than they should.\nIs there a good way of getting over the anxiety so I can make it work with him? I should also mention that if he and I break up, there is no chance of \"just friends\" and no chance he'll wait for me to get my shit together.", "summary": "Commitment issues are causing thoughts of breaking up"}
{"id": "t3_3on546", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "unique situation with girl in class; originally posted in TIFU", "post": "Recently I have lost a little confidence in myself because of a bad break up and a move to a new town. I am going to sound like a douche bag for a second but stay with me, trying to give other users the full picture. I am a charismatic, charming, and decently good-looking 26 year old male college student. How do I know that? I have been with a lot of quality girls over the years (some relationships, some a few-night stands). I have never had trouble making friends, etc.  I take a class with one girl in particular who I identified from day one as my type. My type is natural beauties, slightly on the hippie side with brains. I cannot stand dumb, material girls (or people in general). One friday night I hit this girl up for some smoke and she tells me to come over whenever. I did some laundry, cleaned up and voila, two hours later im ready to go. I get to her place, she takes me back to her room, we listen to some albums, smoke a joint and talked about our lives-where we came from, our families, etc. I have never been really great at picking up vibes other than if a girl is irritated. At this point its almost 2 am. I decided it was a critical moment, either ask if she wanted me to stay or take the reigns and say I was going home (quit while I'm ahead). I chose the latter. Over the weekend I was busy so we didnt talk. Today (Tuesday) comes around and we had class. I asked her if she wanted to come to my place wednesday after class and she said definitely. So I guess my question is do I go for it this time? Its worth mentioning she is several years younger than I am (can count the difference on one hand). Also I am not looking for another relationship, just a chick to kill time with for the next couple of months; I get the impression she is the same way in light of our conversations. Preferably seeking like-girls advice.", "summary": "went to girls house, wasnt sure if she was feeling it, went home after a little while feeling like a fucked up"}
{"id": "t3_2l024r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to checking if superglue was dry with my fingers", "post": "One of belts is starting to fall apart, and I hate sewing, so I figured I'd buy some superglue and glue it together. I'm very lazy, so instead of reading the pack to figure out how it takes to set, 10 minutes after applying glue, I figured I'd just lightly pat it to see if it was dry. Okay, the right side felt pretty solid, so I go in to pat the left. And now my fingers stuck. I think the glue is really close to setting, because while I take a few seconds to figure out how to properly remove it, my finger is already solidly attached to my belt. \n\nBeing the genius that I am, I I tried to use my thumb nail (I'm a female) to scratch it off. Three seconds later, that's stuck too. So, the next thing I try to do, is to lick it off. God knows what propelled me to do that, but before i know it, my tongue is attached to two finger pads (my forefinger and my thumb) which is attached to my belt. I still haven't figured out how to fix it, and I've typed all this with just my right hand. I'm considering trying to use an exacto knife to just cut through the glue. Just you wait for the \"TIFU as I tried to cut through superglue, and now I'm missing the tip of my tongue.\"", "summary": "Superglued my belt, two fingers, and my tongue together. I'm a genius, no?"}
{"id": "t3_1jw2ff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23/f) best friend (23/m) is dating a psychopath (25/f)", "post": "My best friend of 10 years recently started dating a girl who's completely psychotic. She talked about marriage and kids right off the bat. Had a shrine of him before they even dated. And I thought she was over the top. However, she doesn't mistreat him. And honestly, best friend or not, he was happy so it was none of my business. I just thought she was very weird. But never said anything. She seemed controlling, but wasn't cheating or abusing him in any way so I literally never said anything about her.\n\nSo, I get a phone call yesterday and he's in a panic. Doesn't tell me much, tells me to come over when she leaves for work. I go over and he whips out a used condom in a wrapper. He told me that he always checks his condoms after to make sure there's no tears. He's very responsible and somewhat OCD so I didn't find that odd at all. He said there wasn't any leaking, TMI at this point. But then he says how he noticed in the wrapper (not the condom), there was a pinhole. \n\nI automatically assume she did it. And he got very offended. I didn't want to inspect the condom (gross), but it was apparent that it was completely intact. However, the wrapper definitely had a small pinhole near the center of it. He thinks it was a fluke. Maybe it got there while he was taking it out. Which I know is complete BS. But he won't believe me. He brought it up with her. She played dumb. And said even if there was a pinhole, no way she'd get pregnant from that.\n\nSo, where do I go from here? I don't want to intrude, but I'm pretty damn sure she put that there. And also, since the condom was completely intact (no leakage), should he insist she take a plan B? Or suggest it? Basically, if there's nothing leaking, is there still a chance she can get pregnant? They've been dating like 2 months!", "summary": "Best friend is dating a girl who I always thought was off. Found a pinhole in the condom wrapper. Doesn't believe she did it. I think she did. Plan B after pill?"}
{"id": "t3_1lis77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl i'm seeing [19] asked me [23] to her place to cook dinner for me. But the logistics are complicated. What do I do?", "post": "Hey guys, so she asked me to her place for a third (actual, we've seen each other more than this) date. She's going to cook me dinner. But, she lives with her parents, as do I. Obviously there's always the thought of getting a bit physical with this sort of date but not when her family's there, surely? And I can't drive yet and she lives far away from my house so I don't know how this would even work, since I don't know how i'd get home and it'd be really bad to stay the night (which is likely not even an option available anyway). Plus, she's not the sort of girl who would do this as we haven't even made out yet and she says she wouldn't be ready for that just yet. How does this sort of date work, what should I do and how should I play this? Should I assume she wants to be a little more serious (I'd be comfortable with it)?", "summary": "dinner date at her/parent's place. What should I know?"}
{"id": "t3_1nd2ly", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How should I approach my employer to let them know they are violating the FLSA?", "post": "I recently started a job as a server at a pretty nice restaurant. It would be GREAT money, except that the employer is keeping all the tips. I've been doing my research, and I have learned that they cannot do this. Even if they pay minimum wage or greater, I am considered a tipped employee because I make more than $30 a month in tips. \n\nI need to figure out how to best approach the owners about this. I want to be able to keep my tips. That's what makes serving worth it. I just don't want to anger them or have them find a reason to fire me after I do this. \n\nAny advice on how to bring this up and argue my case, without bringing about any bitterness in the workplace?", "summary": "Employer keeping tips, legally not allowed. How do I convince them to change their ways without hurting any feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_4odnya", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drawing a Hitler-smiley in school", "post": "So this FU happened years ago when I was in 7th grade.\n\nApparantly, our old, hateful physics teacher had a great night and did not know what to do with us. So she was kind enough to let us play \"Guess what I'm drawing\" on the blackboard, one student at a time.\nWhen lesson was as good as over, I finally decided to draw something funny, too. When I approached the board, my teacher, who absolutely hated me, gave me the usual death stare and told me to pack my stuff since the class is over every moment. I thought it doesn't matter, most of the people had already left the room and I just wanted a friend to guess what I'm drawing. So I stepped to the blackboard and began to draw a mouth, like this ) with a little square right above \u25a0).\n\nOf course, my friend instantly knew what I was drawing and shouted the answer out loudly. We both grinned, but my teacher turned into Hulk himself. She was not giving me the death stare anymore, her eyes were turning dark red instead and her furious stare would make both Lucifer and Hades beg for their lives. Her demonic shouting filled the class room and I thought my time to leave this world had come. She then proceeded her hate speech in a rant about what I had done and how unbelievable illegal this was in front of all of my class mates who have already gathered in the room again. She said she would be going to inform my class teacher and f-ing report me to the police. \n\nAlthough I was almost 100% sure the police would not give a shit about some student drawing a freaking smiley with a Hitler-mustache, I was *quite* shocked and prepared myself to be in a lot of drama soon.\nFortunately, it turned out I never heard something from her again concerning this incident, she did not even tell my parents or class teacher. Maybe she reconsidered what she had said and realized it might have been *a bit* harsh.\n\nMy physics grade, however, turned out to be the worst one I've ever had and almost made me repeat class.", "summary": "Drew smiley with a Hitler-mustache on the board in 7th grade, teacher almost killed me and threatened to report me to the police"}
{"id": "t3_4eds9i", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Dental Hygiene Dating Dilemma!", "post": "Hello. I'm posting this for a friend since she has no idea how to use Reddit, and my advice was insufficient to get her to go through with this!\n\nHere we go: I work as a dental hygienist (30F). I had a (33M) patient last week that I felt I really clicked with conversationally. I was too chicken to pursue it at that moment. We live in the same building and discovered that we have a mutual friend. \n\nShould I just wait it out and hope to run into him, or take action, like sending him a message on Facebook? Keep in mind, I really am trying to keep the creep level to a minimum. Also, is this ethical considering that he was a patient of mine, but I technically \"knew\" him through a mutual friend? Thanks!", "summary": "I am a dental hygienist, met a guy & want to ask him out. Ethical? How do I do this? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_2cd82x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24m dating 19m. She pulls sudden 180?", "post": "Me 24m, she's 19f virgin, nothing sexual besides heavy flirting, kissing, and cuddling.\n\nSo I met a girl on OKC and we've been dating for about a month. She was extremely into me ( always texting me and inviting me to stuff) up until last week. She pretty much pulled a 180. She came over on Sat and left stayed only 40 minutes, stopped texting, refused any attempt to hang out, started ignoring my texts, and reactivated her OKC account.\n\nI figured she was fading, so after waiting a couple days I text her today \"Hey XXXX everything okay? What's with the radio silence?\n\nShe responds a couple of hours layer with \"Hey, I don't know my head's not in the right place right now.\"\n\nHow should I proceed here?", "summary": "Been dating a girl for a month and goes cold turkey with no explanation. Move on,"}
{"id": "t3_4fqnc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my friend has been a bad friend recently (16 F)", "post": "Hey reddit! Need some help with this --- My best (?) friend has been kind of a shitty friend recently. (Both 16 F) She never asks to hang out anymore, only responds to my texts like half the time, stuff like that. One time is not a big deal, but this has been going on for about 2 months. The weird thing is though, she is still super nice and fun to hang out with in person. Just confused though, we used to be close friends. Today I snapped her telling her that I had just scheduled my drive test appointment (kind of a big deal you know?) and she opened it and didn't respond. All my other friends took the time to respond to me and I had several conversations with them, and she just didn't respond at all. I'm there for her when she has news, good or bad, and she doesn't seem to be that way for me anymore. Should I tell her that it's kind of made me upset that she hasn't been that good of a friend lately, or just accept we're growing apart?", "summary": "Friend has been not a good friend recently"}
{"id": "t3_4qbk41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have never been someone's best friend, and it has clouded my view on friendship. Is it ever right to just give up?", "post": "Never, not even once, has someone considered me their best friend who they love to be around and actually care about. \n\nSo basically, that means at this point in my life, I don't really even have friends, because I know it's just going to end like all of my other friendships. I tried joining a sorority, joining clubs on campus, offering to hang out with others, but it all ends up in the same place...me sitting in my room every weekend by myself, or me hanging out with my boyfriend, technically my only friend.\n\nNow I know it may seem like not a big deal because I have a boyfriend to rely on when I want to hang out with someone, it sucks that I don't have any female friends to hang out with. \n\nBack to my first point, which was no one ever considering me their best friend. I've always been the one left out of people's plans. I've always been the one who coincidentally just so happens to be the one people ask to take the group picture. I've never had anyone (besides my boyfriend) who cared enough about me to want to know what is going on in my life, no one to go to when I'm in pain.\n\nThis whole life of being \"replaceable\" and \"forgettable\" has led me to almost hate friendship. I've tried to buy friends over, I've had friends treat me like a pushover, I've had friends who I thought were my best friend flat out talk about me behind my back.\n\nI'm about to give up hope on friendship and just consider myself one of the many people who just doesn't have friends, even though that's the last thing I want...\n\nIs it right in my situation to just forget about making friends and just be satisfied with having a boyfriend?", "summary": "I have no friends besides my boyfriend and I am beginning to think this is the way my life was meant to play out. Is it right to give up on making friends, even if you really want them?"}
{"id": "t3_3oxhpo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I [18M] do about this \"relationship\" with on&off girlfriend [18F]", "post": "A little info: I was \"friendzoned\" for years but finally got the girl and feel like I love her, but she is always on and off about her feelings, she talks to a lot of guys ('as friends') which I have learned to accept over time, but sometimes its flirting. She flirts a lot with everyone. \n\nThe relationship - perfect to me, and to her she loves it for a while, then she starts to see me as a friend again and doesn't feel like she wants to be in a relationship. We end it, then both of us go crawling back to each other, she's usually the one who initiates contact again usually when we agree to stop speaking for a while.\n\nWe are currently in an on/off relationship and I need your advice as to whether I should just try persevere and keep chasing the relationship, or whether I should move on.", "summary": "Girlfriend loves relationship for 3 weeks, PMS, hates it. Agree to stop speaking and last a few weeks, start dating again. Should I give up"}
{"id": "t3_1zlipt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my friend [19F] I met recently, I feel like I missed the bus", "post": "Some context. Last Friday I went to coffee with a girl I met on OkCupid. She is the first person I've connected with though that site. Anyway afternoon coffee turned into dinner, and then hanging out till late at night with my friends, some of which she knew. (In college so late is more like 1-2ish) \n\n------------------------\nSo I walked her to the street to wait for a shuttle to pick her up (I was in no condition to drive, but not really drunk) So I really wanted to kiss her, but I froze. And after I left every one of my friends asked why I didn't, or mentioned that she was doing \"the leg thing\" (A side question. What is that?) \n\n-----------------------------\nSo now here is my issue. I have her number. And I really want to tell her that not kissing her right there I feel was a huge mistake. I have two things stopping me though. #1 I really don't want to come of the wrong way to this great girl I just met. #2 Though an off the cuff comment during coffee I said I'd give her a ride to Tampa (We both are going there by chance Spring break) to be friendly if her shuttle fell through. And guess what? The shuttle canceled and being a friendly man of my word I'm not going to just cancel on her. \n----------------------------------------------------\n\nSo my fear is if I tell her, and she takes it the wrong way, then I just made the most awkward 8 hour car ride possible. So I'm here asking for an opinion on all this, because thinking about it drives me nuts.\n\np.s. two other relevant points. I was willing to trust her with my offer because one of my close friends has known her since middle school. Also a third person who is part of my spring break group will also be ridding with me.", "summary": "I didn't kiss on the first date, and want to tell her how i wanted to, but not have the most awkward 8 hour drive ever"}
{"id": "t3_phx9f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you take the settlement?", "post": "Hi Reddit - I was involved in an auto accident about six months ago.  Not a real bad one, but it did over $3,000 damage to my car and over $5,000 in medical bills.  I was rear-ended by someone who was rear-ended. The two other cars, I believe, were totaled. On the police report, the person at fault indicated he hit us because he was \"attempting to put his seat belt on\".\n\nI am now called about two to three times a day from the insurance company to settle - they want to give me \"$1,500 to put in my pocket\". \n\nI do feel it is a little low, as right after the accident I had an incredibly sore neck - almost as if I couldn't keep my head up.  I was extremely inconvenienced.  I don't have any sequelae other than a weird painless, yet very annoying grinding sound I hear in my neck when I turn my head since the accident.\n\nMy questions are, should I just take the settlement and get it over with?  Should I hire an attorney?  Attempt to negotiate on my own?  Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "I was involved in an accident that cost $5000 in medical bills, $3000 in car repairs. The insurance company is offering me $1500 to settle.  Is it enough?"}
{"id": "t3_vzcam", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I am a [29/m], I have been dating my [32/f] girlfriend for 8 months. I just learned she screwed someone else and am unsure of what to do. UPDATE", "post": "Original post: \n\nWell, what can I say... It was tough but I dumped her yesterday.  I know I should feel good, (and i feel better today compared to yesterday) but I still feel kind of bad.  I heard from her house-mates that she really cleaned her room (one showed me a few pictures after I told them I didn't believe it, but goddamn she really did it).  I guess that what makes me feel bad is she took what I said to heart and started doing something about it.  She told me that she did love me the night I confronted her about the cheating, but I know things are better this way.  She says I snapped her out of her depressive funk, but I cant accept what she did to me as something someone does when they love you.  Thank you for the help reddit.", "summary": "I broke it off finally...Its all over, but I feel kinda shitty about it. thanks for the support reddit, I know I did the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_3b293m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being concerned", "post": "This actually happened a few months back but whatever\n\nBeing a reasonably hygienic person, I tend to shower from time to time. So on this gloriously rainy and generally disgusting day in Ireland I decided to wash myself before heading to bed, my girlfriend decided she was going to clean our room a bit while I was in the shower which was great.\n\nFast forward to me being in the shower, soaping it up, having a real good time, when suddenly I hear the most ghastly and terrifying wail I have ever heard in my life. What the fuck is after happening? Images of the wardrobe after falling on my girlfriend flashing through my mind.  I immediately jump out of the shower and hurry to the bedroom (almost slipping) and barge into the room, face alight with worry & concern, boobs bouncing with urgency, shouting \"ARE YOU OK? WHAT HAPPENED?\". My girlfriend turns to me, utterly confused \n\nGf : \"What?\"\nMe: \"I thought I heard you scream. Are you ok?\"\nGf: \"Yeah I'm fine, I was just singing.\"\n\nJust singing.\n\nWe stand silent for a moment allowing what had just happened to soak in, maintaining eye contact. Soapy bubbles dripping from my hair down my body. Mutually embarrassed and equally amused we laugh it off and I return to the shower.", "summary": "Thought something horrible had happened to my girlfriend and ran to her to see if she was ok while completely naked. She had been singing."}
{"id": "t3_1r7lvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my gf [18 F] 2 months, need help with my short temper", "post": "I've been dating this girl for two months and I have to say I've had a lot of fun with her. I met her just at the start of college through mutual friends and we really hit it off from the get go. Every day we spend hours together and she is truly like a best friend. However, one thing that keeps happening is small arguments over sort of trivial things. \n\nThese usually go in the routine of she does / says something that I don't like and I get sort of irritated with her and don't say anything, but then she drags it out of me and we end up bickering about it.\n\nThe arguments never really last more than 15 minutes or so, but a couple of times she's ended up crying and I really don't like that. We've talked about how these happen too often, but I don't really know how to stop them. I've tried to have a conversation with her about doing things to make them stop, but we didn't really come up with anything. \n\nTonight we had another one of these arguments and she pretty much told me they need to stop. We make each other really happy, but I just am unsure of how to get over my minor grievances before they turn into a debacle. I'd really love some advice from people who have been here.", "summary": "Trying to find way to handle petty anger issues before I lose a girl I care a lot about."}
{"id": "t3_37v8v8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] slept with my ex after not seeing her for 9 months [19F]", "post": "I havent seen my ex since last july when we broke up. We talked a few times through facebook since them. As of recently, we have been talking more. I ask her if she wants to catch up soon, and she says yes. My parents also happen to be away this weekend, so I invited her over. \n\nWe wound up talking for hours about college, life, we also smoked a considerable amount of weed. So, we were watching netflix and I notice out of the corner of my eye that she keeps staring at me. Finally I look at her and then yeah, what happened is history.\n\nWe cuddled for a while and talked more, it just felt like nothing really changed since we broke up, like those feelings were still there almost and that we both knew it. She even said she doesnt understand why she keeps ending up in the same place (with me), we've known each other since we were 12. I just dont even know what to make of this, because were hanging out again tonight.", "summary": "Slept with my ex girlfriend, we clicked and its like the feelings never left. Dont know what to make of this"}
{"id": "t3_lnxt8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We are hosting an exchange student. Have we made a huge mistake?", "post": "My husband and I have wanted to travel to South Korea since we visited and fell in love with the country 5 years ago. We have slowly been saving up money and plan to move there soon. We decided to get a Korean exchange student because we thought it would be a mutually beneficial experience. We wanted to teach someone English and have them help with our Korean. We were so excited to have this connection with the country and the culture through a student that would become part of our family. \n\nUnfortunately it didn't quite work out that way. This student has been here for 2 months and he is driving us both insane. He is 15 years old and thinks everything he says is right and we are wrong. He won't listen to anything we want to teach him because he thinks he has all the answers. Overall he is just so weird that we believe he might be somewhat Autistic. He is obsessed with boxing and is constantly punching the air in the house. We will be talking to him and he just starts this imaginary fighting like its completely normal. He interrupts every conversation we have and doesn't listen to the answers to his questions. When we change the subject he will just keep interjecting the previous subject we were talking about. He is always sitting by himself alone in the dark...doing nothing. Before anyone asks, I really don't think this is a language barrier because our Korean is very good. We can always translate if we aren't understanding each other.\n\nWe have tried many different ways of talking to him to help solve all these issues. We have tried being more direct with him by telling him to stop punching the air, tried to let him know when we are changing the subject. We have tried to explain ourselves better in different ways but nothing seems to work. \n\nWhat can/should we do? We cannot just send this poor student home because we don't like him! But its put a real damper in our household. My husband is more patient but I am now actively avoiding him, I leave the room when he starts on one of his tangents. I know this isn't fair to him so I could really use some advice. AMA!", "summary": "Our exchange student might be Autistic, he has no conversation skills which prevents us from having a relationship with him, he is just generally too weird. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3mmbtx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slapping a blind kid.", "post": "Throwaway because I'm an asshole.\n\nSo I was on the bus the other day on my way home from work. I notice there is a large group of kids on the bus, ranging in age from 6-15. They are being loud and obnoxious, and I try to avoid sitting by them, but most of the seats on the bus are taken. I sit behind two younger kids. \n\nI recline my chair as far as it will go and try to relax, as I've had a long day at work. Suddenly, I feel a hand grabbing my knee. I open my eyes and see that the kid in front of me is reaching his hand in between the seats and touching me. He chuckles, as he says, \"What is that?\" I gently brush his hand off, assuming the kid just made a mistake. He's a little guy, maybe 6 or 7 years old.\n\nI continue to close my eyes and relax, when he grabs my knee again. Okay, I think to myself, this little shithead never learned to keep his hands to himself. So I start flicking his arm. \"OUCH!\" he exclaims, pulling his arm back in. He sticks his arm back towards me, so I start slapping his hand. Not ridiculously hard, but it wasn't a love tap. I continue to flick and slap his arm and hand as he continues to stick them through the gap between the seats.\n\nThe time has come for this large group of kids to get off the bus at the stop. FINALLY. I notice an adult stand up, who I assumed to be the chaperone, and yell, \"Okay kids it's our stop!\" All the kids stand up, and pull out blind walking sticks and put their other hand on the shoulders of the kids in front of them. It hits me.... This poor kid that I've been flicking and slapping is blind! He had no idea what the hell was going on, he was just exploring his environment by feel. I am going to hell!", "summary": "a blind kid was exploring his surroundings when he happened to touch my leg, I think he is some shithead kid, so I start flicking and slapping his arm. I am an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_dlar6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I lost all my friends and can't approach girls now.  I need help.  I'm in SLC, Utah (Female advice would be nice too).", "post": "So, I will try to keep this short.  I am 22 and about to graduate college.  I had one friend, who I used to be friends with benefits with.  However, we both agreed to just be friends now.  But, recently she found a new fwb and is saying I have to hang out with him if I am to hang out with her again.  I have done this with another fwb of hers, and long of the short I'm not putting up with that again.  Basically, I'm a fifth wheel and she is way different around them than with just friends.  It's just ackward and no fun.\n\nAnyways, this leads to my issue.  I have worked myself up to asking a girl for her number last week.  I have made a lot of progress, and started out with \"hi\" a month ago.  Anyways, I did most of the stuff with my friend.  But now she has ditched me in a way.  \n\nSo now I'm in this predicament where I would like a friend to be with when I approach girl, but now don't have anyone (we did other things to together, but for the girl thing it was helpful).  \n\nAlso, I really don't have a lot of ways to make friends now.  Yes I'm in college, but I don't have time for clubs.  I really have no connections at all to go to parties.  I don't really know how to make friends.\n\nI don't know what help I'm really looking for.  I guess a friend in an area would be helpful.  IDK.", "summary": "Basically, I lost my only friend recently.  Also, that was the friend who helped me along to asking for a girls number.  Now I'm left with no friend and would like to practice approaching girls more, but with a friend.  I guess I'm just looking for some help."}
{"id": "t3_16epse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Said 'Three special words' to my girlfriend [22F], didn't say it back...but didn't respond badly. My [23M] next move any body??", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for nearly a year now and I love her. She is awesome in pretty much every way...I wanted to say 'the words' but she's a bit scared of commitment (I'm her first 'proper boyfriend' she's had in a while, if not ever) so kind of nervous about it...But about 2 months ago I said it...just out right, kinda out of the blue as were relaxing at mine - 'I Love You...'. \n\nAs I said, she didn't respond badly, she paused kind of shocked and turned to me and gave me a passionate kiss; and it was great and that was that!... Now I'm a bit confused, I still love her and want to say this to her (not too much obviously, but when the thought crosses my mind y'know!) but has left me feeling awkward about it as she's not said it back? Should I carry on saying it regardless? Or do the 'moment' again? Or wait till she says it to me?......obviously considered the reasons why she hasn't said it back, which could be a bit saddening, but its not like the relationship is slowing down in anyway?", "summary": "Been going out nearly a year, said 'I love you', she responds with a passionate kiss but no reply. Do I keep saying it regardless? Wait for her to say? Or do it as another 'moment'"}
{"id": "t3_2vo5ar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21 M] meet my (recently) ex girlfriend [22 F] for coffee tomorrow? [x-post /r/BIFU]", "post": "Long story short: we've been in a kind of shitty relationship (about 1 year) that ended five days ago. She basically told me she doesn't love me anymore, and still has unresolved feelings for a (completely unavailable) high school crush. Tearful breakup ensued, anger, depression, bargaining, all that horribly unstable jazz. I've been trying my hardest to cope with the loss of companionship, even though every objective part of my brain tells me I did the right thing.\n\nTwo days ago, she contacted me asking to see how I'm doing. I replied and told her that I wasn't ready to start up a conversation again, that I need more time to recuperate. Yesterday I contacted her wondering how she was doing, and briefly asked if she wanted to sit down for coffee tomorrow afternoon (two days later). She said yes, and the plan was made.\n\nI originally felt like this tiny, desperate, lonely part of me was hoping to get her back, and now I'm trying to override that and admit that I had my reasons to leave too. I wanted to talk to her to \"clear the air\" - make sure that the breakup (and the feelings behind them) was real and not as exaggerated as a late night and two glasses of wine can make it.\n\nI sincerely want to be friends with her someday. She's a cool person but I definitely don't want to date her again (says the objective/rational part of my brain).\n\nHere's my question: I'm fully aware that there's a light at the end of the tunnel (even if there are times I lose sight of it). Would talking to her so soon be counter-productive to both my feelings and our friendship?", "summary": "Broke up five days ago, texted her in a moment of weakness/bargaining to go for coffee tomorrow. I want to be friends again, but would this be doing more harm than good?"}
{"id": "t3_4i46ez", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Is this a good plan?", "post": "Hey guys, I posted awhile back about which Astronomy school I should try to go for and I need to know if this is a good plan that I've laid out.\n\nI'm going to go to CC for a year or two because the tuition is so cheap and my job will pay for most of it, (Chipotle is a great company), and after that shop around the schools in Ohio that have the best Physics program for the best price. I've heard that where you get your undergrad means pretty much nothing to anyone and grad school is where it really counts.\n\nI'm not trying to plan ahead to what school I'm going to transfer to mainly because I don't see a point in planning more than 2 years in advance if I don't even know what school I want to transfer to.\n\nIs this a decent plan do you think?", "summary": "I want to be an Astronomer and I'm starting with 1-2 years at CC and then transferring to the school with the best Physics program, then doing grad school, is this an okay plan?"}
{"id": "t3_vehrk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is behavior genetic in humans?", "post": "A few of my siblings and I were adopted. My mother had two kids, she later adopted me when I was an infant. She adopted four more children (all siblings) later. They were 2-5 when they were adopted. They went through a few foster homes before they ended up with my mom. Fast forward to present day, My mother's two biological children are doing pretty well for themselves. They went to college, have nice jobs. My other four siblings aren't (jail, drug dealing, and such). I'm doing okay, just started college and I have a decent job. I'm the youngest and I have a completely different outlook on everything. How did we all turn out so different?", "summary": "Several kids, some adopted some not, turned out completely different. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_2im38r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I tell him that I love him, without coming off as weird? (29/f&27m)", "post": "I met him on okc in August. We are basically official without being officially official, if you can understand that. I just went through something very traumatic and he has been there for me through the entire ordeal. I love him for it. Not IN love with him yet, but I love him for being the most amazing man I have ever met. \n\nI want to tell him. I want to express myself to him and tell him how I feel. I don't want to come off as crazy or clingy, but I feel compelled to tell him and I want to know that he is the most important person in my life. Can I do this without coming off crazy? I'm sorry if this all seems like a scrambled mess, but I have so many feelings running through me right now. Should I wait to tell him until I'm actually IN love? I just don't want to chase him away, which I don't think would happen since he is such a supportive, awesome guy. But you never know. Please help.", "summary": "I love my guy and I want to tell him without coming off as a clingy nut."}
{"id": "t3_50fnqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Me (20M) talking to this girl (19F), I've known for a month", "post": "So I've known this girl for a month, right? She started working where I work, and once I started actually speaking to her, we hit it off pretty well. I started developing feelings for her (I'm too romantic for my own good), but I never felt this way about other girls before, even past crushes. I told her how I felt about her because I was getting mixed signals, and I had suspicions that she was flirting with one of my closer friends at work (who has said before he isn't interested in her, so I doubt that's the case), and we talked over the phone. Basically, she said she had feelings for me too, but it was too early to really \"date,\" said we needed to get to know each other better. Which I completely agree with. In an attempt to somewhat speed up this process, I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime tomorrow after work, under the basis of \"getting to know each other better\" (I literally said that to her). And she said it was a good idea. Problem is, I don't know what to do. I'm thinking about getting dinner with her, since it'd be around 5 pm by the time we both get off work, and I want to have a quick shower and closet change. Also, I don't want to get awkward, as I'm not the best in more serious situations like this. But I don't want to come across as too casual or carefree, I don't want to look like an uncaring douche.", "summary": "I want to get to know this girl better, but I don't know whether taking her out to dinner is the best option. Any advice/help/wisdom from someone more experienced is greatly appreciated. This would be my first time pursuing a romantic interest."}
{"id": "t3_ivp20", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I paying too much for college? What can I do?", "post": "This is a post asking for advice.\n\nSo I'm paying $30,000 per year for my Pharmacy School. I have a total of six years to go through. I believe my student loans have an interest rate of 8%.\n\nSo as soon as I'm done with pharmacy school, I will be about $200,000 in debt.\n\nI've read and asked around. It seems this isn't fucking normal. I read that the average student loan debt is $24,000.\n\nWhy the fuck am I paying so much? I received a scholarship and grant that totals about $16,000. However, I received no financial aid despite my dad being drowned in credit card debt.\n\nThis isn't fucking reasonable to ask of a family with one employed parent. My brother also attends pharmacy school and he has to pay as much as I do. Deducting both of our tuition fees from our only working parent's income leaves our net gain in the negative.\n\nAm I doing something wrong? Because almost everyone else I ask is paying much less (even if they're going to the same school or other private schools). What can I do about this? Am I able to appeal to financial aid/FAFSA or whatever?", "summary": "I'm getting $200,000 worth of student loan debt. What the fuck can I do about this if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_2koerz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Im(24/m)with a long term girlfriend(23/f) and I think im falling for another girl(24/f). Any advice.", "post": "Ive been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now. I love her a lot and she is my best friend.  We live together (and dog) and even at the stage of discussing getting engaged I want to be with her for life.  I know im young but have had a few relationships and sexuals encounters in my life and this one was different and I knew it was special. \n\nHowever recently a new collegue at work has started and whenever she is near I warm up inside and get butterfly's and we have instantly hit it off and today she gave me a hug and im sure I went bright red and I dont get this feeling with my girlfriend.  I thought it was something differrnt but im not too sure anymore and think im falling for her. Any advice or pearls of wisdom would do nicely.", "summary": "have a longterm girlfriend think im falling for another woman."}
{"id": "t3_ldlov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most \"Did that just really happen?\" moment?  I'll start.", "post": "I took a trip to Philly to get my belongings from my mother's house (long story.) While out partying with my friend Brad, we realize we have no money left for a hotel room. Brad had a friend that lived nearby, so we headed to his house, and promptly passed out on the couch. The next morning, I looked frantically for my keys. We tore the entire house apart trying to find them, before finally waking his friend and asking him if he had seen them. He grunted and passed back out. I went to my car to get my AAA card, hoping they would be able to help. I found my car door wide open, keys in the ignition. An entire bag of panties and bras was missing. As I'm pulling my \"WTF\" face, Brad comes flying out of the house with a handful of my delicates. He had gone in to try to wake his friend again, and had instead seen him through the window, digging in the backyard. Crazy dude had grabbed my keys, went for a joyride to buy more drugs, then stolen my bras and panties. He decided the best course of action so as not to be caught was to BURY MY PANTIES IN THE BACKYARD! Brad grabbed what he could, and ran for his life, all the while crazy junkie guy is screaming for his \"treasure.\" WTF.", "summary": "Crazy junkie tries to bury my panties in his backyard."}
{"id": "t3_52iqxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [24m] is expecting me to drop everything and go to the funeral for a friend's [20F] whose boyfriend [20M] suddenly passed away", "post": "*throwaway because people in real life know my actual account* \n\nMy boyfriend's one friend who've I only met a handful of times boyfriend suddenly passed away at 20 last week due to cardiac arrest during wrestling practice. It's heartbreaking and devestating to me, and it's made me reflect a lot on my own relationship. My boyfriend's friend is super sweet and I enjoy hanging out with her. I had  never met her boyfriend as they were only dating a few months before he passed away. I feel deeply terrible for my boyfriend's friend and I'm going to attend the wake on Thursday evening but my boyfriend seems to expect me to be taking off of work for the funeral whenever it is. \n\nThis isn't his lifelong friend. She and him met when we first started dating and didn't really become friends until less than a year ago. While I feel terrible, I can't drop my life to go to the funeral if its during work hours. This isn't mentioning that the funeral is 45 minutes away from where I live so it's not like it takes 10 minutes total to travel. I'm not sure how to approach this without him getting mad at me because it seems important to him. Help?", "summary": "a friend of my boyfriend's boyfriend passed away and my BF is expecting me to go to the funeral. I only met his friend a couple of times and I never met her boyfriend and I can't get off of work to go especially for someone I'm not even close to. How should I approach?"}
{"id": "t3_11vryr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Yeah i dunno", "post": "Hey reddit so I just realized how fucked I am. Im 19 and i have been over weight my whole life. I drink and smoke daily and I dont have a job. Im a bum who lives at home and does not do anything. My life has so many opportunities that I need to approach but, I can never find the enthusiasm that is needed to fulfill the task. Even my friends are tripped out by me and we never really seem to fully get along. I know how serious my weight is and how i need to take care of that matter first. so I am officially going on a diet from tonight and this will have to also include no alcohol or smoking. Im really excited to start this clensing period of my life. Peace out reddit", "summary": "Im too lazy and I need to get on with my life and Im gonna start now"}
{"id": "t3_bfaar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Charming musicians of Reddit: what is the best song you could play for your significant other?", "post": "Hola reddit. first, I haven't been a redditor too long but I love it here. Keep it up! \n\nAnyways, I think I would get some good responses to this question.. it can be a crush, boyfriend or girlfriend, spouse, anyone you would want to play for. What is the most beautiful chord progression you've heard? What lyrics will make him/her melt? Is it true everything sounds more romantic when played acoustic? :P\n\nMore background on me specifically: I've played guitar for ~7 years, also know basic piano. Just got really interested in the drums and have been teaching myself over the past 2 years. My girlfriend's taste is different from mine- she likes a lot of mainstream pop/punk but is still a big fan of music in general and loves seeing me play. We're in a long distance relationship and I said I would play more music for her when I see her next (early May). I have always always wanted to play 'Sugarcube' by Yo La Tengo.", "summary": "you have a loving, receptive audience + instrument. What do you play?"}
{"id": "t3_3wes4m", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My position at my company was just eliminated. How do I go about taking care of myself until I graduate from college in May, and where should I be looking for a job? Who is going to hire someone for 5-6 months? Internships? I'm lost here, doing this alone.", "post": "I was just let go from a company due to the position being eliminated during corporate restructure. I was a Helpdesk/NOC technician, and am going to be graduating with my bachelor's in computer science in May at the end of spring semester next year. \n\nI was told I have recommendations there if I need them, and I've already completed my application for unemployment. \n\nI've got finals next week, but intend on sharpening my resume tonight and submitting resumes in between studying, or after finals. I'm a good student (3.0 GPA), but have not worked in industry for software development yet, which is what I was intending on transferring to at the company that just let me go.\n\nI feel like I'm covering all of the bases, but I have nobody to go to that's been through this, nor do I know if I'm doing things right. I could use any and all advice on this, whether it be about budgeting, what kind of jobs I should be looking for, or common misconceptions/oversights in this situation. Thanks to everyone for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "laid off, too much time between now and graduation to just wait it out, don't know how to prioritize. Pls help."}
{"id": "t3_20my7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] feel like I am cheating on my girlfriend [19 F] with another girl [19 F]. I feel terrible about it.", "post": "Edit: I told my friend that we needed to take a step back and just be friends. Not sure how she will respond yet. I feel like an asshole, but my conscience feels a little bit better already. Hopefully things work out, but I got myself into this and I know that any fallout is my own doing. Thanks again for the advice, and have a nice week.\n\nHello r/relationships.\n\nI am in a long distance relationship. I have been dating the girl for over a year. Recently, one of my really good friends started texting me more. We get along very well, and it made me really happy that I had another person to talk to. She also lives pretty far away, but slightly closer.\n\nEverything was going well, and my friend and I were joking around like usual. Then she tells me that she loves me in a more than a friend type of way. I honestly feel the same way, but I feel that way about my girlfriend, too. I don't feel like I'm in love with them, but they are definitely more to me than just best friends.\n\nI don't know what I should do. I don't want to hurt either of them, and I don't want to lose either of them. I've never been in a situation like this. I feel really guilty, even though nothing has actually happened. It feels like I have two girlfriends now, which wasn't my intention at all. I guess I'm mostly venting and hoping for some advice. Or for someone to tell me I'm a bad guy or something. Sorry for rambling.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I am basically in two long distance relationships, and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_10ag9t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23/m falling for my friend's fling 28/f", "post": "So, it start's off with my friend who has issues actually leaving his ex girlfriend.  He has had many flings behind this ex's back, many of them just tell him to leave them alone, but I had liked this girl, and being the red blooded american male that doesn't talk about his feelings to his friends, I don't say anything.  So him and my crush start seeing each other, and from my knowledge I don't think they have done anything together except maybe kiss.  He now lives about an hour away to be closer to his ex, and I have been hanging out with my crush a lot and just hear all this torment he is putting her through.  Recently, I have told her how I felt, and that he is being shitty(she doesn't think I know about them, they kept it secret because of work)  and just I wanted to see if there is anything more I could do, without being that asshole who throws his friend under the bus.", "summary": "my friend keeps dragging my crush through emotional shit, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4a3z3t", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "BCC job applications?", "post": "Hello /r/jobs!\n\nI would like to ask for your opinion on sending open applications en masse as blind carbon copy emails. In short, as an employer, would you take offence at receiving a job application as a blind carbon copy and would it significantly impact my chances of landing a job?\n\nInsight on my situation - I'm a 24 year old Croatian architect planning to quit my current job and emigrate. Due to the specific nature of my industry, potential workplaces in the countries I'm considering (Austria, Germany, Switzerland, Denmark, Norway and Sweden) are, on average, relatively small (10-30 employees) and very numerous. I've researched potential workplaces and rated them in a spreadsheet - it currently contains cca 800 firms. Given that I'm young and a somewhat inexperienced foreigner as seen from the eyes of my potential employers, I believe that I would need to send a large amount of applications in order to have a chance of finding a firm that would be interested in employing me.\n\nTypical applications for positions in architecture firms already include an elaborate portfolio showcasing your previous work and a thought-out and designed CV and cover letter. I will no doubt invest a considerable amount of time perfecting those. What I'm considering is sending those via a bcc open application to firms who: a) are not in the top 50 of my list and b) are not currently advertising an open position I could fill. To those companies I plan to send individual applications, but still need to send to the others because, realistically, I'm not going to get a position easily.", "summary": "Are BCC open applications a faux pas?"}
{"id": "t3_2olaqg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF[21 F] of 8 months, I lost the woman I love Friday.", "post": "It hurts, it hurts so bad.  Thanksgiving weekend, things could not have been better.  She spent three days at my house.  She is in between leases and doesnt have enough money to get another place, so we were discussing moving in together.  Talked about it for over a month.  Last weekend she deicded she would like to move in with me.\n\nI was overjoyed to be honest, maybe irrationally so.  The idea of seeing her more often sounded great.\n\nOn Thursday I send her a text just saying hi how are you.  She says oh hey im moving in with my dad.\n\nI don't know what happened but I felt blindsided.  I had no idea things were going to be changed, and I wasnt even involved in the discussion.  It just felt hurtful somehow.\n\nI got mad, I got mean, I said how can you play with someones emotions like that?  We had a fight, I tried calling but she wouldnt speak to me.\n\nFriday she calls me and says she cant be with me anymore, and that all of the sudden she is moving to colorado because of her depression (which is an ongoing issue that was hard for me to deal with).\n\nI got mad again of course, we fought, names were called, no way to salvage things, she even calls my mom.\n\nI am so hurt, I loved her, its over.  She was the best girl I have ever been with.  \n\nI just needed to vent, havent eaten in three days.  I dont know how im even supposed to make myself function at work tomorrow.\n\nLess than four hours of breaking up she was on Okcupid.", "summary": "Broke up with gf, am crushed."}
{"id": "t3_1js8ov", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend/roommate [24F] thinks I'm [25F] too pretty for my boyfriend [28M].", "post": "My bestfriend [24f] and I [25f] have been friends for 10 years. We have had our ups and downs, but have had each others best interests in heart for a solid 4 years. When my ex husband and I divorced, she was there for me 100 percent. That was two and a half years ago. I have dated multiple people since my ex but the guy I am dating now [28m] is different. Him and I have been dating solidly for a month exclusively. I am very happy with the relationship and where it's going. He is an attractive man and very in shape. I am also very in shape and have been told I am very pretty. \nMy friend has recently been telling me that she thinks that I am too pretty for him. A mutual friend told me he saw me with a more attractive man than my boyfriend. I ddon't think this is the case but how do I keep others (mainly my roommate) from telling me things like this?", "summary": "My roommate [24f] thinks I [25f] should be dating a more attractive man. How do I keep her from saying these things to me."}
{"id": "t3_2t70np", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Sick of my job, but can't move anywhere", "post": "I graduated in June 2012 with a BS in Biochemistry but my GPA is not competitive enough (3.0) for any respectable Grad program or Medical School. Because one of my family members worked for a huge biotech company, He was able to get me work there . The department that I currently work for is very labor intensive (Lifting heavy ass boxes /crates) and dangerous due to biological and chemical exposure and I'm barely getting 40K a year. I've been stuck there for two years in a very low position compared to my peers at work and every time there's an opening, that I know I'm very qualified for, in other departments they always hire the temps or people outside. Many co-workers of mine have told me that my supervisor knows that I'm way too overqualified for this position, yet he does not want to let go of me because I'm a \"business need.\"\n\n I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be stuck here in my current department forever because the work load takes it's toll on your body, and many previous employees have suffered severe injuries at work. I want to stay in the company because of the benefits (Medical/Dental/Vision/Stock/401K) but I want to move to another department (preferably R&D or Quality Control). I think I might have pissed off HR or my boss but I'm not too sure because it seems like they never even look at my application every time there's an opening for other positions. Oh yeah I forgot to mention that my boss is a complete douche lord scumbag and he does not give two shits about the health and safety of his employees. I know damn well I work my ass off and I'm always willing to learn, also my attitude is very positive at work and I never complain about any of this shit to anyone. \n\nI just wanted to vent but I appreciate any advice from you guys. Also sorry for any spelling and grammar mistakes, I'm currently on my 30 minute break.", "summary": "Hate my current dead end job and I'm stuck here. Cant move to other departments. I hate my boss. Would like to stay in the company because of benefits."}
{"id": "t3_4mkty1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25m] girlfriend [23f] of ~2 years wants to move in together but I don't", "post": "Hi reddit. On a throwaway because, you know, anonymity and stuff, and tbh I think some people I talk to on my main would get on me for asking advice here. I have changed a few details because I'm pretty open about my life on my main but the major stuff is all here.\n\nSo anyways, I've been with my girlfriend for going on two years now -- anniversary's next month. She has been bringing up lately the idea of moving in together, and it's not something I'm ready to do.\n\nI think it makes sense to move in together when it's time for us to start a family. That's something we both want eventually, but it's not a good time right now. I'm in finance and I know I'll be established in my career in a couple years, but I don't feel totally confident now in supporting a kid, so that has to go on hold. I told her this and been really firm about it. Also, when it first came up when we were talking about expectations and stuff, she was fine with not living together until we started trying to have a kid.\n\nBut now, she is saying she really wants to live together and thinks it makes sense. Usually, when we talk about something and I'm firm, that's the end of it, but she's really pushing on this. Also she's been saying stuff about how she doesn't like how our conversations go, and I'm worried. It's making me question some things but things have been very good overall and I see a future with her.\n\nSo, that brings me to why I'm here: what do I do?  How do I talk to her about this? What I usually do doesn't seem to be working.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to move in, I don't until it's time to start a family, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_y391g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got an idea from a post a couple days ago, i'm looking to buy things.", "post": "So i have some money, not alot or too little but enough for some cool unique things. I know that there are alot of talented artistic quirky people out there on this site and i want to see what you have. There is no contest, no winners and it doesnt matter how many upvotes you get on your item, i'll look at them all when i get the chance. I like art, clothes (male nomad wear especially) [like this] sculptures, smoking equipment, music, and cool furniture. Just picture me as someone you can advertise your wares to and you'll know they'll be looking to buy odds and ends...\n\nLook forward to peoples replies.", "summary": "I want to buy cool unique items off fellow Redditors."}
{"id": "t3_38znnp", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How can I leave my country and settle elsewhere?", "post": "I didn't want to post this and bother anyone, but I'm completely fed up with my country (India) and want to leave it and settle elsewhere, in a better country. Sadly, my country is going downhill in terms of progress and there's no scope of it improving anytime in near future. People here are highly conservative, are obsessed with their culture, are racist, sexists, lack entrepreneurial spirit and are hypocrites. \n\nFurthermore the aesthetics here are awful, here's a post about it:  \n\nI'm been working day and night online and have been earning more than any salaried individual here. Do I get any respect for that? Nope, People just fail to realize that one can be an entrepreneur and earn a living. And banks deny any loans to a self employed person, right away (I needed one for my business).\n\nThere's no scope of running a business here, and so I registered my company in US some years ago and have been working through it from India. \n\nNow to the point, I want to leave this country and settle in a developed country (preferably US/Canada) but both of those require an outsider to get a job there to get a work visa (and eventually citizenship). There's no way a self employed person could get a visa. Though, I've an awesome portfolio and would get a job easily but that doesn't make sense. I never wanted to do a job in the first place, and I'm earning better than from any job.\n\nI'm really upset regarding this issue. Any suggestions would be appreciated.", "summary": "I'm a self employed person (Online Marketer) and want to settle in a developed country (preferably US/Canada), but there's no way to get a visa for the same."}
{"id": "t3_nnowq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Letter", "post": "So my current gf(23) I'm (21)(we have been dating 2 months) just got a gift that was bought 6 months ago from her ex while they were still dating, that gift came with a letter. Initially she was hiding the letter from me but I got it out of her to tell me that there was a letter, which was also written 6 months ago also while they were still together. Now being the jealous guy that I am, I want to know what was written in that letter, she won't show me because it was meant for her. \nAm I in the wrong here for wanting to know what the letter says or does she have a point. I think shes hiding something from me, but she did tell me the \"main\" points of the letter according to her.", "summary": "GF got a letter from a ex am I in the wrong for wanting to read it"}
{"id": "t3_32ousl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Thank you.", "post": "A week ago tomorrow, I came on here at my wits end asking for help in making the biggest change of my life: losing weight. I had come to a point where I couldn't BS myself anymore.\n\nThis past week, with the help of all the wonderful people who responded to me, has been such an eye opener. I spent less at the grocery store buying good food than I did buying junk. I have brand new eyes, now. I see how the grease and junk made me feel.\n\nI've been logging everything, looking up nutritional information before I go anywhere to eat for social functions, and have been finding that I love some new things. My SO even followed suit, and is eating better with me.\n\nIt hasn't been without temptation, though. My job likes to bring donuts, and pizza for our meetings, but thanks to some granola bars and some deep breathing, I was able to resist.\n\nSo thank you. Thank you for believing in me, for being so kind to a complete stranger, and for giving me advice I could really use. I'm nowhere close to where I need to be, and I know I just started, but this has been the longest I've ever stuck to something. This is the first time I've realized how much will power I actually have. And most importantly, this is the first time I'm really, truly proud of myself. And you guys helped me accomplish that.", "summary": "you guys are amazing."}
{"id": "t3_3hh7tj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling hard for a woman in Alaska", "post": "This wasn't today, but probably like 3 weeks ago.\n\nI have this friend, Jessica. Jessica and I went to the same gym for months, and she's in the same circle of friends. For months, I didn't really talk to her, just pleasantries here and there. About 1.5 months ago, I found out she will be going to Alaska for a 1 year work program. And in that month, as our circle of friends dwindled, I got to know Jessica better and better, platonically. It began with a casual dinner after a workout, then lunch, and eventually we became regular workout buddies. One week before she left, we threw a goodbye party for her, and we really hit it off. So much so that several friends told me that we were cute together. The following morning, I couldn't get over the fact that *that* was the last time I was going to see her. So, we ended up hanging out three more times in the last week before she left, and they were the best dates I've ever had, because I didn't have to try. We just walked and talked. It was so natural and easy and fun! ...and then she left.\n\nOh, and *then* our mutual friend (in the circle) tells me that she's been crushing on me for a while now, and that she felt the same way about our first \"date\".", "summary": "I fell fast and hard for an amazing woman, who just left for Alaska for 1 year. P.S. I don't live in Alaska."}
{"id": "t3_2geu4y", "subreddit": "college", "title": "So... What does one do when they're unhappy with their decision to transfer?", "post": "Hey everyone... First post on reddit, so please forgive me if I make any mistakes. Anyway, basically what I'm looking for is any words of wisdom, or to hear from someone in a similar position. Or tips on how to deal with any of it, any insight is appreciated.\n\nI went to school for a year and a half at one place, then went to cc for a semester, and then came here. I swore up and down that this is what I wanted to do, so my parents agreed and boom, here I am 12 hours from home. I'm doing pretty well in my classes, but I just hate being so far from my family because we are so close. I feel pretty badly about spending so much money on out of state tuition as well, even though my family can afford it. It's a great school and I like it here, but life just isn't the same with my family so far away.", "summary": "Transferred to a far away school not expecting to miss my family so much and feeling bad about spending so much on tuition."}
{"id": "t3_3q3xzm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She[17F] won't date me[17M] because I'm black", "post": "Disclaimer: First post here, I'm sorry if it's not that coherent, things haven't been going well for me.\n\nAnyways.\n\nShe's a girl that I've always liked. We go to the same high school and are both in 12th grade. Sophomore year I gave her a valentines card with some chocolates and other gushy things. That same night she texted me she wasn't sure if she felt the same way about me.\n\nFast forward to this year, we're best friends (at least she sees me as her best friend, I still like her). I complement her and flirt a little with no results. After a rough Friday I texted her and asked her if she wanted me to give up on seeing her as anything more than a friend. \n\nShe replied, saying that her parents would be \"washy\" about us dating and that her aunts, uncles, etc. would definitely be against us dating. The reason being is that she's white, and I'm black. She said that it was so hard for her to tell me. As if it wasn't hard enough to \n\nThat devastated me and I told her to enjoy her night and deleted her # immediately. In my mind, she took her family's side and defended their racism. Ironically, when I said that I was wondering what was wrong with me, she said nothing and that I \"shouldn't anybody hold me back.\"", "summary": "She wouldn't date me because I'm black. I want nothing to do with her now and have unfriended her, deleted her #, photos of us, etc. Am I wrong for doing/wanting this? I don't think I will forgive her, or keep her as a friend, but there's something in me that hopes she doesn't realize the damage she's done and that she'd change. But hope has done nothing for me besides inflict pain"}
{"id": "t3_13rg41", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you help me protect my job & machine from a nefarious technology department?", "post": "Hi there, Reddit.  This is a throwaway account so as to remain anonymous.  I've got a situation at work:  I was brought in 8 months ago to empower employees with technology (being vague on purpose) and have the support of the CEO & board.  We'd like employees to have greater access to technology, nearly open access to the web, the ability to install/unistall programs as they please, etc. so that they can be more creative & efficient.  The tech department\n (around a dozen or so techs) is led by a very controlling & irrational person who has little interest in giving away any power.  Thus, tech requests go mostly unmet, feet are dragged, and obstacles are always put up in the way so that most employees are demoralized and afraid to implement anything in order to avoid any contact with them.  The process of requesting any support is so onerous, that people just give up.  I and a few others are working to change it and, as I said, the leadership has our backs (they know they have dropped the ball a bit and are a bit intimidated by his complete ownership of the tech situation at the office).  While I'm not super qualified to take them on, it's fallen to me to form a committee to deal with this and we're starting to make some progress.  My main concern right now is that I've gotten wind that the head f tech and a few of his staff have been playing around with some black-ops kind of ideas to throw at me:  mainly planting stuff on my company laptop to \"discover\" at a latter date.  I've taken to keep it with me at all tiles when I'm at the office but can't always do that.  Plus, who knows what they can push over the network?  I have no administrator access and can't get it for some time.  I'm scared they're gonna pull something.  Any ideas on how to protect myself & machine from this?  Any way to monito a Windows 7 laptop without admin privileges to see if anything's been place on the hard drive?  I want to be successful and feel like a lot of people are depending on me.  Any suggestions would be hugely helpful. Thanks.", "summary": "Concerned that tyrannical tech guys will frame me by placing bad stuff on my computer.  Any defensive plays?"}
{"id": "t3_11j6lg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating during times of emotional stress", "post": "I'm 18, a freshman in college. I met this girl who is a senior, through Mock Trial and we started talking and for the past week have texted everyday for about two weeks now. I have gone and studied with her and a mutual friend at her place where she made dinner, then this past Thursday I went to her place again and we cuddled on her bed for four hours watching friends and talking.\n\nMy main issue here is that right now I am going through an investigation that I violated a Sexual Misconduct Policy (shitty in of itself). My family has advised me to not tell anybody, and I haven't. However, my lady friend is a sweetheart and is being extremely supportive even without knowing what I'm going through.\n\nI'm away from my family, so their support is welcome but not the same, and my college friends have been acting normally which helps get my mind off my troubles. However with the girl, when we cuddled she told me of why she transferred (sexual assault) to make me comfortable to tell her what was going on, but I didn't. Although to reciprocate a bit I did tell her of my social troubles through my lifetime. \n\nI don't want to get too emotionally involved with her, but her being so supportive and what has already been exchanged between us makes that difficult. I know that before when I've been too intense too early with a girl that things ended really quickly, and I don't want that happening again. \n\nOne thing I'm starting this week is texting less because I find that I'm overall happier when I am checking my phone less. I think that may help for me to worry less about being emotionally invested, as well as give me more of a chance to prove my feelings for her rather than text them.\n\nI know one plan of action would be to just let her be a friend and not think about \"dating\", although I do not know how to follow that plan.", "summary": "Going through tough emotional time, and getting involved with a girl."}
{"id": "t3_rowlp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest thing you have eaten?", "post": "I'll start. I was at a pretty restaurant and decided to choose a starter called \"sweetmeats\" from the menu. I was blissfully ignorant that this item was, in fact, not literally meat which is sweet. The dish was served and I proceeded to stuff my face. It was around the third mouthful that I realised that the texture was a bit weird for something I considered meat. On consultation with the others at the table it soon became apparent that the word \"sweetmeats\" is actually a euphemism for hormone producing gland of an animal (in this case a lamb). I tried to finish my plate of breaded testicles but my heart wasn't in it.", "summary": "The sweetmeats are a lie."}
{"id": "t3_3ct0u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BFF [21 F] who was broken up with a few months ago but can't seem to get over her douchey ex.", "post": "I love my bff and she is an awesome person. I'm usually really good with advice and helping friends out, but I'm at the end of my wits with her and I don't know how I can help her out.\n\nHer boyfriend broke up with her around mid-May of this year. They had dated for almost a year and he was her first true love. At first I didn't mind him, but the longer she dated him I realized that he was completely selfish and saw my friend as someone who will do anything for him. He mooched off of her completely and rarely displayed interest in anything that she cared about unless he thought it would get him laid. He ended up getting a full time job and still she paid all of the bills and even put gas into his car. It was an awful situation and she could not see how selfish he was because she was so blinded by the love she felt for him. \n\nWell, now, they are \"broken up\" but she can't seem to get over him. They still hang out (sometimes just for sex -- she's convinced that he will date her again) and do things that will make him happy. She's bought him massages and is driving an hour away to take him to a video game competition that she found and encouraged him to enter in. It's extremely unhealthy and she admits knowing that he is being selfish and that she hates that he doesn't pay attention to her. However, she keeps going back to him time and time again. \n\nAs a best friend, it's really hard for me to sit back and watch her struggle with this and not know what to do to help her. I've tried to point out where he is being selfish, encourage her to cut communications for a trial period to see how she feels after not talking to him for a while, attend therapy to address some obvious self esteem issues, and even tried to take her out to meet other guys so that she could see that other guys will want her and treat her well. However, nothing seems to help. What can I do to help her?", "summary": "My bff can't get over her douchebag of an ex boyfriend and is still allowing him to mooch off of her with false hopes that he might date her again some day."}
{"id": "t3_4cdxbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Curious about my [21M] girlfriend's [22F] sex life with her ex, should I just stop thinking about it?", "post": "I've been in a relationship (my first) with an amazing girl for the past 6 months. The relationship moved pretty fast, and we ended up losing our virginities to each other after the first month of dating. I'd say we're very much in love, and are super supportive of eachother. If things stay this well I can see us together for a long time.\n\nThis is my first relationship and her second - she dated a guy (28M) for a year when she was 18. During the first few weeks of us dating she would mention things about him casually, but after the first month she hasn't mentioned him at all. \n\nHowever, something has been bothering me, and I'm not sure if I'm just being an idiot: how was she together with him for a year and they didn't have sex, while we started having sex after she knew me for just a month? It's something that's been sitting at the back of my mind, and while it doesn't bother me that much it's still there. Should I just force myself to stop thinking about it, or is it something that is reasonable to think about? \n\nI am a little curious about if they had a sexual relationship at all - were they physical? Did they give each other oral? I feel like I just want a complete sense of who she was before we got together, if that makes sense. My opinion of her is not going to change based on what answer she gives me, but part of me really wants to know for a sense of \"completeness,\" if that makes sense. Am I completely out of line here? Should I try to just push all of these thoughts out of my mind? Or is this something I should ask her? How would I even bring it up?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I lost our virginities to each other, but she dated a guy for a year before. I'm curious about if they did anything sexual, am I being completely insecure or should I talk to her about this? How would I even bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_y0ehg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Recommended A Girl A Game", "post": "Ok, I'm in a computer store and I'm looking at the game section of it.\nI see this really hot girl looking for games. I strike up a conversation with her and we hit it off. Thing's are going good and we start talking about what games we like.\nShe said she likes Portal 2, Skyrim etc. From the conversation I could tell she was a real gamer girl and not some slut who's trying to make a pass.\n\nWe start talking a bit more about our personal lives. So Since us being in a computer store (thus not a dedicated game store) they had a limited selection, so I just picked something at random and handed it to her. She shrugged and walked off without saying a word. \nConfused I look at the game I recommended her. [FUCKING Street Cleaning Simulator](", "summary": "met a fucking hot gamer chick at a computer store, accidental handed her Street Cleaning Simulator, she ditches me"}
{"id": "t3_1wzqsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] 3 months, she collects dolls?! WTF?", "post": "Just like the subject says, I went over to my girlfriend's apartment for the first time.  While she was showing me around she showed me the study briefly, and there was a shelf full of dolls.  WTF?  \n\nShe never said anything about this before, so when I saw the dolls, I said, \"Oh... so these are yours?\"  She said yes and explained that she collects them, that she changes their clothes seasonally, sets up scenes with them, and has even taken them to different places to photograph them.  I acted like it was fine or whatever, but I was definitely weirded out. Is she 27 or 2?\n\nReddit, is this a red flag?  She's seemed normal up until now, but what kind of adult woman dresses up dolls and takes them out in public for tea parties or whatever?  Advice for figuring out what her deal is and whether this is a harmless (if bizarre as fuck) hobby or something to be creeped out by would be appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend collects dolls and seems to play with them like a little girl would.  Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_p8vis", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your most favorite vomit story? I'll go first.", "post": "Alright, in fifth grade in Texas I was feeling incredibly sick. It was horrible. I got up every time I felt like I was gonna be sick to run to the bathroom and try to throw up. Sadly, it never worked. \n\nSo by the time I got back from my fifth bathroom trip in one hour, my teacher got fed up with it. She told me to stay where I am - no more bathroom trips. I guess she thought I was trying to skip out on learning how to use a semi-colon. So we were sitting in our rows. \n\nNow, I'm a pretty tall girl. Always have been. Even in fifth grade. So, because of my height, I had to sit in the back of the middle row. And there I sat. \n\nMy stomach started churning, my throat clenched, and I started tasting metal. \nOh no. \nI didn't have permission to go to the bathroom. \n\nI slap my hands over my mouth so I wouldn't puke on the person in front of me. \nSadly, though, I was a fifth grader and didn't realize that it would have to go somewhere. \nAnd if it can't go back and it can't go forward, then that only meant it would go out the sides. \nIt spewed out to the left and the right, hitting the two people directly on my left and right and then the kids who were sitting in front of them.\nEVERYONE ran as far away from me as possible. \n\nNow that's not all. \nThree years later in eighth grade I was talking to this guy. \nAll the sudden his eyes widen and he asks me \"Did you go to [So and so] Elementary?\" \nI nod slowly.\n \"I think you threw up on me.\"\nOh no.", "summary": "Vomited on four people in elementary school. It \"blew\"."}
{"id": "t3_1tnqs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] Just asked girl [19F] if she wants to hang out. Question?", "post": "Hey, Last week I just asked a girl if she wants to hang out/go out during this break and I have been reading a lot of responds that people give if they do not want to, and Is not sure about the responds she gave me. Should I ask again for later date or no?\n\nI asked her out for a drink/eat/hangout this break when she is available/free if she is interested\n\nHer response: Ahh, that sounds like fun. Hmm, it would be kind of hard to arrange something since it's kind of a busy time for me, considering all of the family events and such.\n\nSo is this a \"just a bad timing\" reason or an \"i dont really want to go out with you\" excuse?\n\nThank You, And Merry Christmas and have a safe rest of your break :D.", "summary": "Asked Girl out, got response, want to know if its an excuse or actually want to hang when free"}
{"id": "t3_1ef8e5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors of Western NY, is a move to the Rochester area right for me?", "post": "I am happy to comment and add information as you ask for it (less the intimate details of my exact geographical location), and encourage references where you feel you can offer any. \nJust a little background on myself, to help you get familiar with my situation, and maybe try to sympathize:\n\nI am a 21 year old college student living south of the Mason-Dixon. I have attended two different universities as of now, and have just ended my third year (it will take at least one extra semester for me to graduate due to a number of major changes, and the current degree I'm seeking isn't anything I plan to use. Fuck me, right?). I'm not happy at my current uni for a variety of academic and social reasons, and have considered applying to RIT to finish my schooling. My pull for this is that if I finish my last year of undergrad in the state I plan on attending grad school in, I won't be paying out of state tuition. \n\nGrad school is kind of an \"IF\" though, as my career goals lay with training thoroughbred racehorses and getting a well rounded education with different aspects of farm operations (breeding, foaling, medical treatment, etc.). Finding a place / places to work in this field around the Rochester area is a vital part of the decision I would make to move to the area. If I can't work with horses, I can't make the move. \n\nOther areas of concern as I weigh the pros and cons of such a life change are finances, the fact that I know very few to no people there, and complete unfamiliarity with the area. \n\nWhy do I want to leave where I am now? The place I've called home and spent the last 11 years of my life? Plainly- I hate it. The people, the economy, the school. I feel like an outsider in my own hometown. And though I'm not exactly spiritual, I've felt the Empire State has been calling to me for a long time. I just don't know if it's the right choice for the path I want to take.", "summary": "I hate my life where I'm living now, and feel like I'll never get ahead here. I'm thinking about moving to NY. Good idea or bad for an aspiring equestrian who needs to finish school?"}
{"id": "t3_2iksy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] have a confusing situation with one of my best friends [23F]", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief. I met my friend [24 F] about a year ago and since then we have become super close. Originally, I did not have feelings for her. I bet you can see where this is going: as we spent more and more time together I began to fall for her pretty hard. We would have lunch/dinner dates and go back to place alone and talk all night. \n\neventually it was too much to bear so I let her know my feelings. She said she loved me as a friend but didn't want to peruse a relationship. Fine, I can do that. However, after my confession she began to blend the barrier of our friendship. She would invite me over to watch a movie and ask me to cuddle with her in her bed. She began talking to me everyday and showing way more physical affection. I finally asked her again what was going on and she said that while she returns feelings for me she doesn't want to risk our friendship. \n\nI feel like I know the solution to this but with emotions everything is so confusing. Why would she begin to return affection after my admission of feelings? Should I cut contact with her? I'm afraid to lose her friendship.", "summary": "I fell for my best friend, told her, she turned me down but got way more physical."}
{"id": "t3_15639i", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV im not eating the entire fridge", "post": "I know I am stronger than this, I need to be....  Right now I am in a bad place, I can smell the pancakes my mom cooked and I have some leftover pizza in the fridge, I have been fighting the urge to devour everything.  I know I eat to comfort myself and I am stopping this...\n\nSo you may ask why, for anyone who has read my stuff you know I had a bad year and today just added on to this.  Lets recap....\n\nI lost my job of 5+ years in February, my wife's parent were ill so she wanted to move 1500 miles to go help them out.  We decide to uproot everything and move down there.  Before the move, my dog was diagnosed with cancer and given a month to live.  I had to put him down 2 weeks before we moved.  6 weeks after we move my wife passes away, I then move 1500 miles back thus why a 38 year old guy is crashing at his moms house.\n\nI make a vow to change my life for the better.  I was getting out and enjoying life, meeting new people, losing weight and I thought that this year in hell would end on a high note, I even met an amazing woman recently.\n\nThat brings me to today, 5 days before christmas I lose a second job in one year.  I am stressed out beyond belief and I just want to run to that comfort food but I am not.  I am stronger than this, I just don't know how strong I am before I break.  The only thing holding me together is an amazing woman I met and hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel.", "summary": "worst year in my life just got worse and I stopped myself from eating everything in sight."}
{"id": "t3_3rnkkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] younger sister [23F] has taken the exact same path as me since HS and it's stressing me out. Should this affect my career choice?", "post": "One of my sisters has chosen the exact same path as me as far as school and career are concerned since high school. I don't know why it bothers me, but it seriously does. Over the course of four years, she picked the exact same electives that I had taken in HS, in the order that I took them. When I was in college, I was shocked to hear that she had chosen the exact same major as me. It's a professional major, so it's quite a specific and unique field. She asks for my notes and has tried to duplicate my college projects. \n\nI don't know why but it seriously bothers me. Part of me feels that she's not giving me the space and independence I want to have as an individual within the family (Edit for clarity: independence in the sense that I can make independent decisions, without factoring in another family member). She also tends to want to engage in technical conversations, which I do not want to do. I feel unable to make any major career decisions without factoring her in at this point. I am currently applying to graduate school programs, and part of my rationale for choosing the program that I have chosen is the fact that she probably won't be going in this direction. I don't like the field very much", "summary": "I feel that my sister, in making the same decisions that I have since high school, is taking away from my sense of privacy and independence."}
{"id": "t3_48kqqw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Money-pit Car is Dying, Still a Year's Worth of Payments Owed. PLEASE HELP!", "post": "I'm a 26 year old, broke college student working full-time to support myself. My car's a 2006 VW Passat 2.0T (in case you were wondering); I financed the car for $10k almost 3 years ago. Since then, I've dropped $2k on a timing belt and chain that were about to snap (car currently has 100k miles on it), my catalytic converter recently went out (another $1k to fix), my brake booster box just went bad (I don't even know how much this will cost), and now my car is shifting weird. I've always been good about keeping up with routine maintenance, but this is getting ridiculous!! I'm convinced this car is a lemon. I want to get a cheap beater car when my income tax refund comes back, but I don't know what to do since I still owe payments on this car (a year's worth..about $2k)? Are there any options? I'm not going to let the car get repo'd, but I'd rather not be paying payments on a car that I can't even drive. My one-way work commute is 30 miles from my apartment, so I really need my vehicle right now. I have a good bike to get me to work if I really have trouble and am in decent shape, but 60 miles is a huge haul every day. Should I throw more money into this crap car? Should I pay the car off with my tax refund? Should I get a beater car with my tax money and continue paying payments on an undriveable car? That really seems like my only option right now.", "summary": "My car is a lemon. The transmission is going bad and I still owe money on it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2oooqf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How big of a problem do I [29M] have on my hands with an overly attached [30F]?", "post": "We've been going out for 2 weeks. Sex is the best I ever had. However, she wants to message me all the time and talk about how good we are together.\n\nI had been on a dry spell for a couple of years, so the first week I played along. And our dating life went as follows:\n\n**1st date:** We had a spark right away and no gaming was necessary. We do foreplay on the theater.\n\n**2nd date:** She demands exclusivity, got uber mad when she saw *Tinder* message popup on my phone.\n\n**3rd date:** Sex on a motel, great sex.\n\n**4th date:** More sex on a motel.\n\n**5th date:** Movie & sex on a motel.\n\n**6th date:** Sex on a motel.\n\n**7th date:** Sex on a motel.\n\n*All in the span of two weeks.*\n\nIt's like, everything she talks about is how good we are together, how she wants to become my girlfriend (I told her I'd give it a month before doing that), and how she considers herself mine forever and ever.\n\nShe has very few friends, seems a bit forever alone type of person and freaks out if I take too long to message her or don't call her princess, by freakout she sends a message saying I'm acting weird.\n\nI'm feeling overwhelmed and guilty because I played along and told her a lot of bullshit to get laid and keep getting laid (I agreed to exclusivity and told her I planned on making her my girlfriend soon). I do like her a lot, I never had someone like me this much, and I find her deadly attractive.\n\nShe says things in the sack like: \"Do you like how it feels? Good, because it's yours forever\".\n\nHow can I break it to her that we should slow down without her freaking out?\n\nShe says her last relationship was 4 years ago. I'm beginning to understand why.", "summary": "Overly attached girl, don't know how to respond. How can I break it to her to be less overly attached and slow things down?"}
{"id": "t3_rd4wc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most traumatizing thing you have ever witnessed?", "post": "When I was about 11 I went to my neighbors front yard to play ball, she had her pit-bull dog out side with us..\n\nI passed the ball to her and she passed the ball back, we were playing and laughing together..\n\nOut of no where her dog jumps up and starts attacking her face! I didn't know what to do so I started screaming for her dad, he got the dog off of her and I almost fainted.\n\nHer nose was all chewed up and most of it was hanging off buy pieces of skin. \n\nShe had to have surgery and her nose has never looked the same.\nI will never ever trust a pit bull  after hearing how horrible they are and witnessing  it for myself.", "summary": "Witnessed a Pit-bull chew apart my neighbors nose."}
{"id": "t3_4toa14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M 32 Still a Virgin Due to Injury, Need Advice", "post": "So long story short, when I was 17 I was in an accident and broke my neck (C2, C3, C4 vertebrae). Thankfully, I did not end up being paralysed completely, but a lingering affect was that I was numb throughout most of my body. After rehab and what not within  a year I could walk, run, etc, but was numb in most of my body (sort of like pins and needles). And because of this, I was lacking sensation which prevented me from dating.\n\n After years of physio therapy and rehab, I am now back to getting erections again (seriously the happiest day of my life). However, because I took myself out of the dating game for pretty much my entire life, I feel so lost. I also because of this I dealt with some depression and put on a ton of weight (went from 190 to 370). Ive dropped a ton of weight (now 270) and now have boners but feel so lost. I want to date and experience all that, but how do I explain this to women? Throughout college and my 20s I turned down a few potential partners because of embarrassment, but now that physically im in good shape. I have no fucking clue what to do, how to bring this up without sounding awkward. I dont know how else to describe it, but I literally feel like im starting from scratch. \n\nAny advice would be greatful", "summary": "Neck injury led to partial paralysis, lack of boners and no dating experience. Now have erections again and absolutely lost"}
{"id": "t3_35tadd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] might be breaking up with my [24F] of one year; she may have access to my money, what are some things i should do before hand incase she decides to go crazy.", "post": "We've been kinda rebubbling to this point where I try to tell her its not working, but then she cries and we somehow patch it back together and laugh for a few days. And then we're right back to me feebly trying to tell her this just isn't working for me. Long story short I think she's lying to me, about everything.\n\nAnd I feel a really explosive breakup coming up. Shes been acting kinda weird and desperate, because I've eluded to us breaking up so many times.\n\nWhat can I do to protect myself from theft (my money has been disapearing lately), blackmail (she has nudes of me, which is *oops* at worst I guess) and pregnancy scam (we don't use condoms, but she did say she got the depo provera shot, she said..)", "summary": "pre breakup checklist of personal safety?"}
{"id": "t3_qlvfj", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Help Me Get Back On My Feet", "post": "This a rather stream of consciousness post, so please bear with me for my occasional rambling and diversions.\n\nThe crux of the matter is this, I want to get back on my feet and start running again, but I'm not sure how to do it exactly. \n\nMy history is as follows:\n\n- 2006/2007: I ran fairly regularly, represented my school at plenty of competitions. This is when I found my love for running.\n\n- 2008/2009: I sustained foot injuries during my National Service that was only diagnosed in 2009 to be plantar fasciitis. Went for physio and the works, to no avail.\n\n- Mid-2010: I went for surgery on both feet to try and cure it, but it didn't work either.\n\n- Late-2011: Decided to live with the feet pain, and started training for a half-marathon, only to injure my ITB during the race itself. \n\n- A few weeks back: Got permission from my physio and doctor to start running again. I started doing some light runs, but often will get knee pains.\n\nRight now, there's a school cross country run I would most desperately love to take part in. It's a short 4.8km route, but the problem is that it's in slightly over 2 weeks time. And the problem now is that I'm not sure how to go about training for it, or if I shouldn't even take part.\n\nHopefully, someone here would have had a similar problem, and give me some advice. \n\nI'm also considering changing running styles, to a more minimalist one, in hopes of reducing any further injury, but I'm not sure if that would be optimal either. \n\nHelp me, Reddit, you're my only hope.", "summary": "Injured myself, want to start running, but not sure where to begin now."}
{"id": "t3_1we3bs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've [28/F] have broken up with my married boyfriend [32/M] because it's just too difficult. Feel awful please help, don't judge.", "post": "I have a married boyfriend, yes, it's a bad situation. I'm lying to everyone, so that they don't know we're involved, and he's obviously lying to his wife. He's not happy with her, and he wants to be with me. I believe him when he says that, and he doesn't want to just out right tell her as he doesn't want to hurt her any more than is necessary or inevitable.\n\nI'm not looking for judgement on the affair situation, it's awful and I can't do it any more, I don't know his wife, so my miserable-ness is mostly selfish; that I have to share him, and be treated like I'm second best and that I'm expected to wait until he's ready.\n\n We've broken up, I'm struggling with the situation and the only option available to me is to remove myself from it. I've told him that I want to be with him, but only once his situation is sorted. \n\nHe's really upset and I feel awful about that. I feel slightly better, as though a weight has been lifted but sad and miserable because I do think we could have a future together and I really love him. \n\nDo I stick to my guns and stay broken up even though it's making me miserable, or should I continue the \"affair\" knowing that he'll break up with her eventually? \n\nI know there'll be a lot of people jumping to the conclusion that he'll cheat on me, and it may sound naive to you but I believe that he won't. That he really loves me and that this could be it. Every situation is different and just because you were cheated on, or you cheated doesn't mean my situation is the same as yours.", "summary": "broke up with my boyfriend as I can't be \"the other woman\" anymore. Feel awful. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1cyyzi", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I accept your hours of sleep as compensation for doing the dishes", "post": "I don't know how, but it seems that every roommate that's not on here posting about how bad their roommates are, are bad roommates. \n\nI have two. Well, they're generally nice guys, but they're lazy as fuck and can't comprehend the shared space. One of them cooks just about every meal he eats. He also doesn't wash just about every dish he uses. And when he does, it's not really washed. The other one thinks that soap is IN the tap water so he just sprays stuff and puts it on the sink to dry. I've made several efforts to call attention to this device I found in the middle of a crop circle on a distant planet in the future called a *DISHWASHER* but these fucks don't understand it. \n\nAnyway, I always fill the dishwasher up and run it. I also always empty it. This happens once a week, sometimes twice. I usually give it a day after it has run to give my roommates a chance to take the initiative. They never do.\n\nSo, I began waking up at 6:30 a.m. My first task of the day has been to do the dishwasher. **Not** on my task list is to do this quietly. I've almost broken a couple of dishes by just not giving a fuck how much noise I make (i.e. *trying* to make as much noise as I can, i.e. playing basketball with the silverware when putting it in the drawer). I've done this 4 times so far. On the third time, one of my roommates came out - squinty eyed and word slurring (from having just woken up - that's not a race joke) - and asked me what the fuck I was doing. I said \"the dishwasher\". He wanted to know why I was doing it so God-forsaken early. I replied \"because this is when I want to do it. If you don't want it done at 6:30 in the morning, then do it yourself\". \n\nGuess who did the dishwasher this evening? Hint: it wasn't me.", "summary": "Roommates refuse to cooperate with dishwasher duties, so I started doing it at 6:30 a.m. until they finally got the picture and did it themselves, the ingrates."}
{"id": "t3_yjyq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] broke up with [20F] and feeling bad about it", "post": "Hey all. backstory is [here](\nI went through with it and broke up with my gf, now ex, last night. At first I felt great and relieved. We were together for 1.5 years. Now I just feel absolute guilt at hurting her and I keep thinking that maybe I made a mistake. None of my friends are really talking to me right now, and I don't want to bother them with my relationship issues. I've bothered them enough over the past few months. I'm totally spaced out all day.\n\nAnyway, what do I do? I sent a few texts to her letting her know I'm sorry that I hurt her and that I still have a lot of respect for her. I want to shrug this off. I know there are good reasons why I left her, but I think that we had a great relationship.\n\nAt the same time, I want to be friends with my ex after emotions have passed. She told me she will never talk to me again, and she doesnt keep contact with any of her exs.\n\nwhat do i do reddit? This was the most significant relationship I've ever had. I know you guys have gone through this before. What do i do?", "summary": "how do i get over the breakup? I feel really bad. Can I still be friends with her after?"}
{"id": "t3_33gat4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[Advice] New Dieter. Male, 26, 5'5\". SW: 272. CW: 267. Gonna just come out and say it: DIARRHEA", "post": "Alright, so before this diet, the last few years have consisted of a daily routine of  processed meats (eggs and tons of bacon, sausage, etc.) for breakfast, fast food for lunch and dinner (I'm talking the works, burgers, sandwiches, nachos, greasy and cheesy burritos and pizza) and always with 28-40oz of Coke/Pepsi/Mountain Dew to wash it down. Yeah I ate veggies and fruits, sparingly. Never drank water really.\n\nFast Forward to April 15th, last week. Decided I'm sick of feeling tired and gross all the time. Gonna download MFP and track! \n\nHealthy cereals, egg whites and turkey bacon, measured portions, vegetable mixes, lean 97-99% fat free meats like turkey, and skim milk, cutting back on cheese and using light condiments, and also tons of fruit.\n\nAlso, 8-14 glasses of water a day.\n\n**Diarrhea**. Almost *every* day since I started. Today i shat almost pure liquid.\n\n**Is this something I should be worried about, or is it just the drastic diet change?** I'm eating about 1300-1600 calories a day and filling full and satisfied, probably from drinking 2 glasses of water before each meal (down from the 2500-3000+ I used to eat). Is my body adjusting or is this a problem? What do you guys think? Thanks for your time people!", "summary": "New Dieter from Complete Junk Food and Crap to Healthy Eating and drinking tons of water, but daily diarrhea. Normal? My body adjusting? Or should I rush to the hospital?"}
{"id": "t3_3umyj3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting home before curfew [NSFW]", "post": "So this happened last weekend and it didn't occur to me until now to post it here, but anyways...\nSo I recently got off my probational license which means that I don't have to follow an 11 pm curfew anymore while driving. Ready to experience my newly found freedom, my friends decided a movie night would be fun, just the eight of us. \nWe watch a couple movies, and halfway through the night, my dad texts me and says, \"Be sure to be home at midnight.\"\nSo sure, no problem. We finish a couple more movies, and I decide that I'm starting to get tired, and should get going. My friends all agree that it was getting late, and this was only around 11:30. My friends aren't really night people, but I digress.\nIt takes me 10 minutes to get home, and I see that none of the lights are on, but all the cars are accounted for. There's no glow of the television coming from the window of my parent's room, so I figure they just had a couple glasses of wine with their friends and went to bed. \nBoy was I wrong.\nI walk into the house, and I pass by my parents' room on the way to grab a drink before I head to bed. Then I realize I heard the bed squeaking. And grunting. And moaning.\nYay for curfew.", "summary": "Went home, got to experience walking in on my parents. They didn't stop."}
{"id": "t3_27lu19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with [24 F] duration,we had a drunken kis on my 22 birthday.", "post": "I turned 22 on the 22nd of May and I went to a local bar with some of my aunts and a few cousins. One of my aunts invited two of coworkers with her. I know one of them decently and the other it was the first time meeting. It was getting towards later in the evening around 11ish\nmy cousin was asking people what they wanted and I motioned towards one of my aunts friends in a joking way. My cousin told her and than maybe about 10 mins later she came and we made out it was a my first kiss ever and i was pretty buzzed so it took me a while to kind of realize what was happening. After that we didn't really say anything the next morning. I was wondering if there was a way to move past that or is that kind of a bad start to things?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_32ouek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25m i have bottled up emotions since teens now that my mother recently died. Everything is coming up and out", "post": "Dear reddit,\n\nMy mother died last week and i did my utmost to give her a propper buriel.\nShe died while i was in transit flight from abroad to where my parents live. \nWhen i burried my mother all my bottled emotions came out. All the pain, suffering, loss of many dear friends, a loss my ex gf who was also a friend to my mother And saddnes and regrets of many years since my teens.\n\nThe pain that my mother side of the family knew that my mother was in the hospital for two weeks and didnt tell my father (divorced) or my brother or me. They kept it a secret basicly. Then lie about it when a friend of mine that was working in the hospital told me.\n\nSuffering well long story short i was homeless for few years when studying abroad. I struggled alone but i kept fighting till i got on my legs back with a stable life now\n\nI broke up with my ex gf of nine years but for my own insecurity. I still love her to death and my heart aches and my mind is every second on her. I have disapointed her and i regret the things i have done wrong to her.\n\nMy mother also died on a day that i burried my best friend that died by jumping infront of a train.\n\nWhat saddnes me the most is that i had a mother that i would love her and still get hate from her. She hated me many time because of the divorce tell i shouldnt excisted or everything i did was wrong choice.\nmy regret i couldnt make my mother proud.\nmyself proud...\n\nReddit i can start to see while writting this what my issues are.\nBut the pain is overwhelming. Any words of advise from the wise?", "summary": "since my mother died all 13 years of bottled emotion coming out. How do i manage"}
{"id": "t3_2vh6li", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I tell my FWB [F 30] that I [M 25] don't want to be in a relationship with her unless she loses weight?", "post": "I've been friends with her since I started college at 21 and we are both seniors now and we have been FWB since the last 4 years on and off. Well she came over earlier in the week and talked to me about possibly dating and maybe having it turn into something long-term. The thing is, the way she has been, I never would think of her as someone I'd want to date. She isn't that fat (I would guess 160 lbs, 5'7'') but I date women that are more active and into physical activities that I like to do (mountain bike, jogging, swimming).\n\nPart of doing these types of things also gets you in shape. I would wish she would at least get a little more fit. I just don't want her to get the basic notion that I don't want to be with a fat chick. So, how should I talk to her about this, I had never had to deal with this kind of talk before and have no idea how I would bring it up.", "summary": "FWB wants to date, I think she is a nice fuck, but she's a little on the heavier side for me to want to date. How do I bring up the subject?"}
{"id": "t3_4vpa3q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23/f) husband (25/m) and I are not allowed to sleep in the same room", "post": "My dad is Jewish but he hates religion. Therefore I've always wondered why he made my husband (then bf) and I sleep separately. He maintained that it wasn't a religious issue, he just felt uncomfortable with it.\n\nMy mom thought it was ducked up (they're divorced) and called him about it. I just let it go.\n\nHowever, my husband and I decided to finally visit my dad after like a year, and he still wants us to sleep in different rooms! I find it really weird that my dad is this invested in my sex life. Is this a red flag?\n\nI don't get this at all.", "summary": "my dad is making me and my husband sleep in separate rooms while visiting."}
{"id": "t3_fcc57", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "Just made an account, so I'm fairly new here. I've got a question for you, Reddit: First to say, i love my boyfriend very much, but there is just one thing i can't get over. He absolutely does not want to get his driver's license. I've got mine for over 10 years and i love being independent, and i would like to see him take some responsibility. For example: When we are on a holiday, we sometimes like to rent a car, but i do all the driving. I've tried asking him what would he do if something happened and i had to be rushed to the hospital. His answer; i'd call a cab or an ambulance. Ok, what if i'm stuck somewhere and need to be picked up? He'd call a cab or a friend.\n\nReddit tell me to stop being a nagging girlfriend or help me tell him to man up..", "summary": "Boyfriend does not want to get his drivers lisence, because he doesn't need it. What about responsibilities?"}
{"id": "t3_hb0n4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't think my parents understand college. What do I do?", "post": "Here's the story:\n\nI live at home and commute to college (I have several reasons for doing this, so please don't just suggest moving out). I'm majoring in IT (if that makes a difference), and I'm taking it very seriously and working very hard at it. This past year I've made dean's list two quarters in a row (we use the quarter system), and I'm possibly going to make it again this quarter (all with 4.0s, btw). In short, I'm working my ass off because I really care about my education. I'm paying for college myself as well; my parents pay for the insurance on my car, I pay for gas and the car payment. While I don't have a job right now, I'm planning on getting a co-op over the summer (if no co-op, regular job then). I haven't had a job this year during school because I know I wouldn't be able to keep up a job AND keep up my grades at the same time (I'm also not in a relationship, for the same reason. I don't handle distractions well).\n\nSo, knowing all that, my problem is that my parents seem to think my at-home responsibilities shouldn't change much. For example, yesterday I had an extremely long day of classes and practical exams, pretty stressful. I finally get home, pull in the driveway, and my mom says \"Hey, go get changed and help me with the yard work!\" Now, I'll admit, I hate yard work, but I also had that \"Are you kidding me?\" feeling. Again, this type of thing happens all the time, that was just one recent example. I have plenty of responsibilities of my own, and I don't have time to do much else. I get home somewhat late every day from school, and have a bunch of projects and homework assignments to work on. Plus, I'd like some relaxation time. I don't want to go through a stressful day of school, just to get home and have to have a stressful evening of house work.", "summary": "I'm ridiculously busy with school, and my parents are making it worse."}
{"id": "t3_16slpa", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20M] Girl is scared... need advice please", "post": "I started messaging a girl on a website and we had a rather long conversation over the \"IM\". We both have the same interests and hobbies and it seems like she is interested in me.\n\nIn her profile it says she is terrified of online dating. I really wanted her phone # to call her/text her to setup a date, but since she wrote that in her profile I told her to only give me it once she is comfortable. \n\nShe responded with this: \n\n >... I've really enjoyed messaging with you so far, I'm just nervous about giving out my phone # to people, I haven't given it to anyone on here yet. I'm probably just paranoid, the whole catfishing thing (did you hear about Manti Te'O?? Crazy!) has done me in haha. I'm sure I'll come around though!\"\n\nHow do I respond to this? I don't want to seem clingy because I'm not, and I don't want to seem desperate either.  \n\nNeed help with this one please", "summary": "girl is scared of online dating, won't give me her # because she is afraid"}
{"id": "t3_37qagd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24M with my SO 23F of 1 month, feeling annoyed at her for exchanging texts with her old F buddy. Am I over reacting?", "post": "I will try to keep it short. Met a girl online, we really hit it off. We have been dating for a little over a month now. We've hung out every night with the exception of 2-3 nights since we met. \n\nWe have not officially entered a relationship as we have not had \"the talk\". But I've met her brothers,sister and most of her friends. She has also met a lot of my friends.\n\nLast night I had to pull an all nighter for a big presentation at work this morning and could not hang out with her. She texted me saying how much she missed me. Followed by how an old fuck buddy of her's was trying to convince her to go to his place......for you know what. From the sounds of it they were exchanging texts back and forth and he was trying really hard. But she wasn't interested in sleeping with him.\n\nNow I really appreciate her honesty. But I also feel pissed as to why she kept exchanging texts with him and why not just tell him that she is seeing someone and end it there.\n\nThis event hasn't settled well with me and I want to bring it up when I see her tonight. Is it worth bringing it up or should I let it slide? Also, what is the best way I can talk about this without being confrontational?", "summary": "Dating a girl seriously for a month. Her fuck buddy was trying to convince her to go over last night. I am hurt why she didn't stop him in his tracks by telling him that she is dating someone? Is this normal behavior? Should I talk to her about this or let it slide?"}
{"id": "t3_11szc0", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "3 year old likes to pretend to get in trouble - suggestions?", "post": "One of the kids that I nanny, a 3 year old girl, started to pretend that she is doing things to get in trouble and get time outs.  For example, she will pretend to throw something and then tell me to put her in time out or hold a doll and pretend its scissors (something she isn't allowed to have) and tell me to take it off of her.  \n\nI know that pretend is an important part of her cognetive development, but should I go along with these senarios?  Will it turn the \"time out\" system into a game and undermine discipline? Or will it help her internalize her limits?", "summary": "will pretending to take time outs make them less effective?"}
{"id": "t3_34hlrr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (27M) tell my girlfriend (27F) that I'm uncomfortable with her new exercising habits?", "post": "Hey all. I don't know who to go to for advice, so I'm really hoping this sub can help me. I've been with my girlfriend for eight years. For as long as I've known her, she's had self-esteem issues, and she's really started to tackle them this year by going to the gym / taking yoga classes a lot. I'm proud of the effort she's putting in, but I feel she's started drifting away and prioritizing her workouts over spending time with me. \n\nI've told her all throughout our relationship that I will always exercise with her if she needs, and we have started doing aerobics and whatnot at my house maybe once or twice a week after I get off work, but she will still attend classes almost nightly. \n\nWhich also something that upsets me, that her classes are going later into the evening (7-9PM). I've never attended classes with her, I am insecure and uncomfortable about her schedule, and the feeling is just getting worse as weeks go by. I don't have any reason to think she's cheating on me or seeing someone else, but I just don't know anymore. \n\nWhat makes matters worse is that I've recently started working full-time and she's part-time, so I don't see her as often anymore, but she doesn't seem to acknowledge that I have less time to see her. I just don't know how to approach this subject with her. Everytime I do, she gets defensive, shuts down, and we end up not speaking for days. How do I explain all this to her in a civilized way? Thanks for your time and help.", "summary": "Girlfriend prioritizes working out to spending time with me and I don't know how to explain my feelings to her."}
{"id": "t3_19m4yh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23, f) am really in love with this guy (27, m). But I'm afraid to love because I was hurt so badly.", "post": "The guy I'm asking about is the perfect guy for me. We've been dating for three years, and I'm still crazy about him. He's my best friend and we understand each other so well. I've never met anyone else I could see myself growing old with.\n\nThe relationship I had before him, was a bit different. There was enormous sexual attraction, and he said things that were ridiculously untrue, such as wanting to marry me, what our kids would be like, what our lives would be like, etc. I gave my heart and soul to that relationship. I really saw us together forever. Yet, I was always wary of him for some reason I couldn't comprehend. I felt I wasn't enough for him, wasn't religious enough, or quite good enough in some way. but lovely statements from him always cemented my superficial feelings. My ex actually broke up with me twice, once because I wasn't the same religion as him, and the second time because he didn't feel in love with me any more (or as I saw it, the end of the honeymoon phase) We stayed intimate, until he met someone new. I felt terrible for a very long time, nearly a year after our last break up. \n\nEventually I got over it, and met this amazing guy I really care for and want to be with. I mean, if there's such thing as soul mates, he's mine. I want us both to be happy. The problem is, I can't stop thinking that he's just going to leave me. Now, I'm not an insecure person. In fact anyone who's met me would say the exact opposite, I love entertaining people and often point out my own flaws. Yet I have nightmares of my boyfriend meeting someone new, or cheating on me.\n\nI don't know what my problem is. I already know I love him, but I almost think I'm looking for any reason not to. \n\nI guess I don't think I'm good enough to be loved. Does anyone understand? I would never hurt my boyfriend for anything in the world, and if it leads to that, I'd rather let him go so he can find real happiness.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend, but feel bitter because of past experiences."}
{"id": "t3_1apjnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M20) has more or less lost his sex drive and I (M19) don't know what to do...", "post": "So the title is a bit misleading... He's not my boyfriend, but its more serious than just FWB.  We've been together since last May, but took a 2 month break last summer (due to long distance) so we've been together for 9-11 months. Anyway, he seems to have recently lost his sex drive. We haven't had sex in about a month and I don't know what to do. Even when I try making out with him he either doesn't seem into it or participates for a bit and then just wants to sit there with me holding him. I have a very high sex drive, and I'm getting increasingly frustrated that my only release is masturbation (which is happening sometimes twice a day at this point, because it provides some release but doesn't really leave me fulfilled). We've talked about this a bit but it seems like nothing's changed since then. What should I do?", "summary": "the guy I'm with has lost his sex drive, I'm becoming increasingly horny/frustrated. We've talked but nothing really changed. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_r7xzc", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I want to help my mom get back into nursing. Any CNA's willing to share some info?", "post": "My mom has been unemployed for a few months after moving to our new area (closer to my stepdad's job). Unfortunately, the jobs here are far and few because it's a small town.\n\nIt's tearing me up seeing her willing to settle for low-end jobs just to get a paycheck. She's been a manager at multiple non-profit stores, elementary school teacher assistant, and worked for nursing homes/hospitals when she was younger.\n\nToday, I've been nudging her toward going back for CNA training because it's something she enjoys but hasn't done in a long time.\n\nMy problem is that I don't know which CNA training programs are legit and which don't provide state recognized certification.\n\nIs there a database, job site, organization, or third-party that specifically focuses on ensuring the CNA training is legit?\n\nI'm willing to help pay for her costs because I want to give back for all that she's done for me.\n\nAny CNA's out there willing to lend a minute or two of your time to share what she could expect in training and what's needed in the field?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I want to get my mom back into nursing; she needs CNA training."}
{"id": "t3_54hbla", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to clean up old grease.", "post": "So last night I made hamburgers. Pretty normal night for the family. Today I've moved into the clean up phase because...lazy. I put the grease covered skillet onto the range burner on low. Plan on dumping it into my nasty bucket. I know 5 minuted is adequate. My(6year old) daughter asked me to supervise her \"band\" made of a motley crew of children's toys. This is where it starts. She asked me to teach her 7 nation army of white stripes (love her most for our shared interest) I go into it and lose track of time. 15 minutes later I'm greeted by smoke alarms due to lost time. Wasn't smoke....fire. Lost part of my kitchen. There was fire and smoke everywhere. It could've been worse thank (insert religious fellow here) but now I have a blackened, smoke flavored(scented) home and I guess...I should be happy I still have a roof, but damn...dat kitchen doe.", "summary": "ignored burning animal flesh, may have more work than needed. "}
{"id": "t3_3kkzjy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "California. My mom's husband of 10 years is cheating on her. He doesn't know that she knows. I want to help her, but I'm not 100% sure where to start. (x-post from /r/cheating)", "post": "Like the title says, my mom's husband is cheating on her. I'm furious. My mom is such a caring, sweet person and she deserves so much better than this. \n\nShe overheard a phone conversation of him talking to the other woman, and last weekend while she was out of town at my place for couple of days he had someone over to their home for an extended period of time (someone had used things in her kitchen he never/doesn't know how to use, and he washed the bed sheets on their bed which she says is completely strange and something he has never done before). There is substantial evidence and we are sure this is happening, I just need help with what to do next. \n\nHis family is pretty wealthy and I know his parents would hire a good lawyer so I want to make sure she has solid evidence and it isn't just her word against his. I feel like we should gather evidence that he is cheating that she can take to a divorce lawyer, so I was considering buying some small cameras to set up in her home and having her come to my place for a couple of days to see if I can catch him in the act on camera. \n\nRight now my mom feels trapped because she is being supported financially by her husband and is on his health insurance. She has a mild form of epilepsy which sometimes interferes with her daily life and the amount she is able to work. She does have a job, but would have trouble supporting herself without her husband and I want to make sure she gets taken care of after this. I would greatly appreciate any advice on what to do next from anyone who has been in a similar situation, or any legal advice anyone could offer. Thanks in advance, guys.", "summary": "Looking for advice on helping my mom get out of her relationship with her cheating husband, without being financially screwed."}
{"id": "t3_4ee0ya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20m] and my girlfriend [18f] of five months broke up today. We want to remain friends, or at least be cordial. Tips on how to do this?", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nSo, as I said, my girlfriend and I broke up today (I initiated) after five months. Things have been rocky for us recently, and I really don't have time to be in a relationship right now. We seemed to feel differently about the future for us as a couple, so it seemed like ending it was the right thing.\n\nAll things considered, I think the breakup went smoothly. She was upset, but after we talked for a while she seemed to have the same general feeling that I did (and do) \u2013 that things weren't working. Maybe she didn't want to break up but she seemed empathetic to how I was feeling.\n\nWe both go to the same small college. We have different friend groups, but over the past five months she has bonded with my friends, and I've bonded with hers, though to a lesser extent. We still care about each other, and both feel that, at least after a bit of time to be on our own again, we'd like to remain friends. \n\nI don't know that we'll hang out *that* much, but our friend groups run in similar circles, and it's no doubt we'll run into each other. I'd like it to be at least cordial, and I'm sure she would too. \n\nA few questions I have (feel free to answer questions I haven't asked):\n\n* How do I handle things when discussing the breakup with my friends?\n\n* What are good ground rules about contact that allow us to keep in touch but also set boundaries?\n\n* Any big no-nos? (seemingly obvious or not)\n\nI would love and appreciate any and all wisdom on this, as it's pretty new territory for me.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, but mutually want to stay friends. Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_3hovhm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's actions have me in tears at least a few times a month [28f][31m]", "post": "Not in the way you'd think. We've been together a little under a year.\n\nMy previous relationship was hard on me. Constantly being pushed away. Being called needy for wanting to see him a handful of times a month. Being told I was the kind of woman who needed a man to save her. He never paid my bills or gave me any kind of support so those statements made no sense to me. But damn did they hurt. \n\nWith my current SO... It's so different. He makes time to talk to me every day despite his 80 hrs a week work schedule. He tells me he loves me constantly. He genuinely gets excited when he sees me. He holds my hand when we go out and he sees me getting anxious. He fixes up my apartment when I'm at work. He invites my sister to join us for dinner so he can get to know her. \n\nAnd so I cry. I've cried so many times, I've lost count. It was like that post from a few days or weeks ago about someone's gf who cried when her cat rolled around in spilled spaghetti. \n\nI'm afraid he's going to eventually think I'm crazy. I don't know how to deal with it all.", "summary": "My boyfriend treats me amazingly and so I cry. How do I stop before I scare him away?"}
{"id": "t3_ta67j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know the Nazis were terrible and all but...", "post": "I know the Nazis were terrible and all but how do they compare to other occupying military's through history? Sometimes I feel like we have been encouraged to hate them for obvious reasons. But at the same time I wonder how brutal they are compared to other regimes.\n\nI think to fairly compare them we should only look at the 'normal soldiers.' From what I heard the SS is mostly responsible for carrying out the Holocaust. Yet in movies and pop culture it seems like regardless of what kind of infantry/soldier/position the German guy is in he's always raping and pillaging.", "summary": "Have we been born into a Nazi hating culture where they aren't so different from most historical armies or were they really as bad as we make them out to be?"}
{"id": "t3_ilzxn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does my 22 year old friend actually need health insurance?", "post": "My friend has been without health insurance now for about a year.  Her mom lost her job that was previously providing health insurance, and she's been without any insurance since that.\n\nThe thing is, she's now entirely independent of her parents, and so is not being supported by them in anyway.  She's enrolled in school right now, and works part-time, and so really doesn't have very much money, and basically no assets.\n\nI've been trying to convince her for a few months now that she really needs to get health insurance, and she's continued to not get health insurance.  I went and grabbed quotes for her, and talked to the school to see if they have a low-income health plan.\n\nAs I've been severely unsuccessful at convincing her to get health insurance these past few months, I've now begun to wonder if she actually needs it.  The insurance that she could realistically afford would only cover her for major injuries, and in that case I believe the hospital would be required to treat her.  As she has effectively no assets and is independent from her parents, there's nothing that she can lose if she can't afford to pay bills.\n\nSo, yeah... should I continue to try to convince her to get health insurance, or is it really probably okay if she doesn't have any coverage?  She's been entirely healthy up to this point.", "summary": "22 year old friend has no interest in getting health insurance.  Does she need it?"}
{"id": "t3_32za6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A guy (20) who was interested in me (19F) suddenly isn't anymore, and I think I know why.", "post": "Sometime over the last year I realized that I really did not have a social life. I'd spend most free nights alone watching tv, which I thought I was okay with, but I have come to realize that I'm the sort of person that likes to socialize/be around people more often than not. Another consequence of being a loner for a long time is that while I have a facebook, there are pretty much no pictures or posts on it (this is important later). \nSo I made the effort over the past few months to talk to people more and make plans, and as a result I met a cute guy. He seemed really into me. We spent two days in a row together, went out for lunch, talked about our lives, etc. Then he started flirting more openly with me and suggesting that we go on more dates and spend more time together. It was sometime right after this that he sent me a friend request on facebook which I accepted, and then right after that, all talking between us pretty much stopped. When I texted him a couple days later he responded with short texts, and we haven't talked for a while. So I know this could be for a lot of reasons, but I have a feeling that he lost interest because of my lack of presence on social media. I'm 19, so everyone my age has hundreds of pictures on facebook with many friends. Someone having barely any pictures I guess seems off. I guess I just wanted to post this to see if there is any truth to this. I'm extremely new to dating and I don't know if this kind of thing matters, and I guess I just want some input from other people. I really liked this guy and I'd be pretty annoyed if this was something about me that made me seem strange or unlikeable to other people. At least then I could proactively fix it, either by trying to have more of a presence on social media or deleting it altogether.", "summary": "I'm new to dating and think that people might be getting turned off by the fact that I barely have a social media presence."}
{"id": "t3_3i0zky", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I encountered a spring-loaded door.", "post": "Whether this door was spring-loaded or not, that's what we're going with because that's how it behaved.  I walk into an airport bathroom at the perfect time.  A single stall is open and awaits me.  Nice.  I enter the stall and close the door. Wait, no I don't.  This door easily closes until about a foot of space is left between the door and the lock.  This can't stop me.  I shove it closed and slide the lock into place on the first try. Boom, I'm a wizard.  I do my business and proceed to try to open the door.  Now, there is a lot of pressure on the lock and its impossible to slide it unlocked.  I press up against the door and punch the lock open.  It works! Huzzah!  Only thing is, the hanger for coats and whatnot flings at my like a wild emu and jabs my skull.  I clasp my wound, let out a mighty \"FUCK\" and now have a giant bruise on my noggin.  Don't trust doors that don't close.", "summary": "Shitty door lunges at skull"}
{"id": "t3_2zp3bc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Not-Romantic) [F22] How do I convince my parents [M52] [F51] to let me medically withdraw from classes?", "post": "I should start off by saying that a medical withdrawal is not limited to physical ailments, and that my ailments are depression, PTSD (not military), anxiety and all-around lack of motivation. \n\nOut of all the things that I am involved in, university has been the most stressful thing in my life and I have been telling my mother this for years. I know that I need a break and need to come back much later when I am more mature and in control of my life. I am already seeking help via counseling and psychiatric help. I work out and am starting to eat healthy. I would say I am progressing. But I am not progressing at the rate I need to do well in school this semester. The Dean of Students recommended that I withdraw from the semester, and I believe he is right. \n\nMy parents are avidly against it. And I know, \"You are 22, you should be independent by now\" but my parents pay for everything. I know they will be so upset because student loans hurt and this will be a waste of money (a big heavy waste). I am overwhelmed with guilt and stress over it. \n\nI should also include my parents value education above anything else. When I used to get in trouble as a child, a punishment would be a well-written apology or an essay. When I got a dog as a 19 year old, I had to do a significant study and present it to them. Education is everything to them. The dinner table was not for \"silly day-to-day conversation\", it was politics and philosophy. I am interested in education, but this depression is debilitating.\n\nI should also say that while we are very close, my father is a very logical person; mental health is lost on him. He is one of those people who doesn't understand why I would cry over losing a friend or cry at all. So when I try to explain depression, he sees it as a chemical imbalance, so if I am on medicine the problem is with me being lazy or not trying hard enough.", "summary": "My GPA can't afford this semester, My mental health can't afford it either. My parents do not understand where I am coming from, how can I convince them?"}
{"id": "t3_14chwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "income difference between [24m] and [26f] issue", "post": "we have been together for 1 year\ni think i am at the point of thinking about marriage i'll keep this short as possible here's the problem, i really feel comfortable if she signs a Pre-up\n\nhow do i start this conversation and what should i say ? i will assume before i proposal... but then it kind of kills the surprise...\n\nme salary : 80k per year ,3 house ( w mortgage ) (rental property) and about 47k in savings and retirement account\n\nher : 30k in salary\n\ni work really hard for what i have, and it wasn't from inheritance i have no problem paying for everything really.... but if it doesn't work out and we part ways for whatever reason.....", "summary": "how to bring up Pre-up in the smoothest way"}
{"id": "t3_4ziotj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my girlfriend [29 F] changes her mind/mood constantly, what do I [28 M] should do?", "post": "Hello,\n\nI met my girlfriend two months again, she is a nice and lovely person. But there is something I'm not able to understand. She's basically so moody and changes her mind completely between a day and night.\n\nI'll give some examples: When we have sex, she says it's amazing. The next day, she is being mad at me because we had sex. She says it's too much for her. \n\nShe blocked me on whatsapp around 5 times now. She wanted to finish the relationship, but every time she goes back and unblock me. She says she misses me.\n\nThis has happened few days ago: We were back from Vacation (we don't live together). In the airport she told me that she loves me and wishes to see me again. Then, she arrived home, first thing she did was to say good bye by saying we are not fit together. We should ended it.\n\nYesterday, she called me and said we should meet again. I'm really at loss here, what should I do? Is that a normal behavior? \n \nIf you ask me why I'm still with her? It's because I do love her really. I feel her love. She has a beautiful personality when she is relaxed and happy. But then, I don't know what happens to her.", "summary": "My girlfriend changes her mind constantly and I don't know what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4p7ib2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] have a crush on a good friend [19F], worried about whether or not I should say anything...", "post": "Alright, this is silly shit but its eating me up inside.\n\nBack in February, I befriended an awesome group of people. We all share interests, all of them are incredibly friendly, and I feel very welcomed by them. Our ages vary, but all of us are 17-19. Problem is, I think I have a crush on one of these people.\n\nThis person is 19 and in college. They are Biologically female, but prefer to remain androgynous (most members of the group maintain this) which Im totally fine with, and identify them as such. There are a number of factors here that make me unsure about whether or not this is something that I should pursue, such as....\n\n- They are 2 years older then me\n- I'm worried that this would cause a rift in the friend group\n- I have never dated anybody before\n- I don't know if this person is the kind of person who likes to date people\n\nThese factors have all kept me silent. I mainly worried about how the group would react to this situation. We are all very close friends that tend to shun the sillier sides of being teenagers. I dont know whether or not that includes dating.\n\nI like this person because they are kind, funny, and we share enough interests that we have a rapport, but can still have interesting and surprising conversations.\n\nI'm not sure if they have any feelings for me. I know that they see me as a good friend. At one point they commented on how I had alot of interesting friends. I responded by saying \" Yeah, theyre interesting but I love all of them\". Afterwards they said that they loved me. I have no idea if that was the platonic-family-buddy-buddy kind of love that I had used to refer to my friends or if they meant something more by that.\n\nSo, does any of this sound like the basis for something meaningful? I'm absolutely lost as to how I should handle situations like this. \n\nOh, and it should be noted that this relationship would be considered perfectly legal in the state we live in, due to Romeo and Juliet laws.", "summary": "I like a really close friend that's 2 years older than me and I'm worried that trying to start a relationship might lead to me losing some good friends."}
{"id": "t3_1jpjwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My boyfriend (24/m) logged into my (23/f) social media accounts without telling me & watched my activity. How do I handle this?", "post": "So here is the story: \n\nI (23f) have been with my boyfriend (24/m) for 2 years now. We have had some rocky issues currently but we have been trying to build our trust. \n\nI am currently using my social media to promote a product of mine and I've been in contact with a lot of people recently over social media. Absolutely nothing inappropriate has been said. \n\nWell, I found out today my boyfriend has been logging into my social media accounts WITHOUT telling me and has been monitoring my activity. I don't even know how he got my password! \n\nI told him a few days ago I think giving each other our passwords isn't healthy and it won't help us build that trust we need. \n\nWell, he found something along my conversations he didn't like (it was to another girl... Like I said, not inappropriate like flirting or whatever). He's SO mad at me about it... And he isn't even acknowledging what he did was wrong. \n\nHe calls me a liar and said he had to know the truth (seriously... What he found was a mistake in wording to this lady and it sounded like I was single). \n\nI have no idea how to go about this. I can't get one word in without being called a liar. I can't express how incredibly hurt/upset I am because he is upset at his findings. \n\nDo I have a right to be upset about him going thru my social media accounts behind my back, or should I be more willing to let him in like that? I seriously have no idea how I'm going to handle this", "summary": "Found out my boyfriend has been secretly logging into my social media behind my back and is trying to dig for things. He won't talk about what he did but rather what he found. Not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_yl3bc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been embarrassed by something your friends did in public?", "post": "I wandered into a McDonalds with my grandparents on a whim. Gran ordered two coffees and three ice-creams (one in a cup, two in a cone). A few seconds after ordering, my grandpa decides he doesn't want coffee after all! Instead of simply not drinking the $1 cup of joe, my gran asked the friendly register lady for a refund. There is a mix-up in communication and after a few minutes of fiddling with the register, the manager gives my gran a $1.07 refund for one of the ice creams, not the coffee. At this point there is a family in line behind us, but do my grandparents move? nope! They stand right in front of the register until our order comes, which they find is missing an ice cream and has an extra coffee. They call the manager back to redo the refund. After a bit more fiddling, he gives us the ice cream and takes away a coffee. I'm ready to get the hell out of there at this point because the family behind us is tapping their feet impatiently. I grab the coffee and 2/3 ice creams and sit down. My gran grabs the last ice cream, which was a cone because I had her cup-of-ice-cream at the table. She thinks they made another mistake and forcefully asks them to put the vanilla treat into a cup! They do, exasperated with my gran at this point. When she comes back to the table she realizes we now have two ice creams in cups and only one cone (which I'm happily munching on!). She once again cuts to the front of the line and asks for spoons and another cone, not a cup of ice cream. This really pissed me off. My grandparents were completely oblivious to the fact they were wasting everyone's time, they were only focused on themselves. So, when have you wished you could crawl under a rock in shame because of the inconsiderate things your family or friends have done?", "summary": "My gran wasted 20 minutes at a McDonalds trying to order coffee and ice cream while the family behind us waited impatiently."}
{"id": "t3_2592v7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking my own piss.", "post": "Worst way to start my day. It was 6 AM in the morning when I got an urge to take a piss. But being the lazy fucker I am, I took an empty bottle from my bedside table and filled it up to brim. \n\nNow after dozing off and waking up after a while, I get thirsty. I also keep a water bottle on my bedside table but guess which one I pick up? That's right, barely awake, and without looking at the table, I picked up a bottle full of my own piss and started drinking it without any hesitation. It was only after swallowing a good bit of my own piss and having my mouth full of it did I realize the grave misfortune I had brought on myself. Spat all of it out only later on having to clean it up.", "summary": "pissed in a bottle to drink later on."}
{"id": "t3_1djser", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just wanted to get this off my chest - regarding people and hitting animals with vehicles", "post": "Preface: I am an animal person. I always have been. My parents raised me to respect all living things. I also have 2 cats of my own now so this really hit home hard.\n\nToday I was on my way to work as normal. When I got to the I57 North ramp I saw something black on the left side of the ramp and once I got closer I realized it was a cat. I couldn't see if there was a collar or anything but I started to feel sad and sick to my stomach. I've seen animals on the road before (deer, raccoons, possums, etc) but we've been desensitized to them since they are just \"wild animals\". But this one got to me...\n\nAll of a sudden all these thoughts came with the feelings. I started realizing that someone not only hit them (probably on accident) but then kept going. The cat could have been still alive after getting hit and slowly died or maybe it was instaneous. Either way the fact that the cat was laying there, dead, on the on ramp meant that the person just kept about their business. Then I started thinking about what if that was someones pet? What if that was one of my cats? Why didn't the person stop and at the least move the animal to the grass so it could have some dignity in passing?\n\nAre we all really that busy with our individual lives that the life of another living thing is not worth 5 minutes of our time to show some fucking respect and sympathy? I tried to pull over with the intention of moving it off the road but I was promptly greeted with people honking at me to move. Everyone is only concerned with themselves nowadays and can't be \"bothered\" with helping other people and creatures. With all this technology and money is it really worth it when we have given up what makes us human? It's been really eye opening for me and next time I am in this situation I am stopping my vehicle and moving the animal if I can.", "summary": "I'm not putting one. Have some respect and read."}
{"id": "t3_ln3r3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "gay sauna halloween party ideas", "post": "Reddit- i ama gay sauna employee who has been tasked with the burden of creating a costume and carving a pumpkin for said party this thursday. Ill set the scene: 40+ guys, most of them had no idea we were even throwing a halloween party now have had one poured all over them when they were trying to have sex with someone other than their wives.. Sauna employees, wearing even less than they do normally (jock strap&flip flops is the uniform..) I know cherub with a fig leaf is taken, which pisses me off as that was MY idea. And that I cant just pretend im Venus and have my hand over my dick all night.", "summary": "Need costume ideas for gay sauna boy."}
{"id": "t3_3dazdq", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit Card question because Costco is ending partnership with Amex", "post": "With Costco ending its partnership with AMEX I was wondering what my options are in relation to the types of cards and I and what will happen the account I have with Amex.\n\nI have the following cards. I have autopay set up and pay them in full each month.\n\n*  Amex \u2013 Costco\n*  Visa \u2013 Amazon\n*  MasterCard \u2013 USAA\n\nI spend the most money at Costco, so I need some type of card I can use at Costco for cashback purposes. If MasterCard is going to be getting Costco it seems to me my best option would be to switch my USAA MasterCard to USAA's new 1.5% cashback card and use that for all Costco purchases. I don't spend much on gas or restaurants so losing the 3% on gas and 2% at restaurants isn't a big deal compared to the .5% increase on all other spending.\n\nMy question is what happens to my credit score/account when my Amex is no longer in service with Costco and would it make sense to simply transition over to a no fee Amex card? then I could use the Amex for those higher cashback services such as grocery stores/gas?.", "summary": "should I switch to the USAA 1.5% card use that at Costco and not get the new Costco card? Then switch my Amex to a different no fee Amex such as everyday blue to keep that account open?"}
{"id": "t3_40j5hf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Protein Shakes as a Meal Replacement", "post": "I'm a 30 something male that's been losing weight at a good pace for the last 200+ days, and one of the things I've done as part of that is replacing breakfast and lunch on days I work with protein shakes.  I saw my doctor last week to get checked out as I was pretty sure with all the weight I've lost, how much I've been working out, and how I've avoid foods high in fat, cholesterol or sodium that I would be able to come off the medications I'm on for cholesterol and blood pressure.  I was right and that felt great, but it turns out there's a reason you shouldn't use protein shakes as meal replacements.  I'm in \"Acute Renal Failure\", in other words my kidneys are not functioning correctly.  My doctor directly attributes the problem to the protein shakes.  When my doctor called to tell me the results of the lab work, the very first thing she ask was I taking any protein supplements, so apparently this isn't that uncommon.  I drink 72 oz of water a day and the protein shakes didn't contain creatine, but looking back now they did contain all everything the body needs naturally synthesis it.  My creatinine levels are way up, and I've been doing a lot of reading on the relationship between various amino acids, creatine and creatinine as I'd like to understand just how I screwed myself up.  My doctor has given me a list of all the things I need to avoid as they are hard on the kidneys, and wants me to increase my water intake up to a gallon a day.  She says everything should heal up in a couple of months if I do that.  In the meantime, I'm feeling pretty stupid.", "summary": "Drunk protein shakes for breakfast and lunch every weekday for over half a year and now my kidneys are failing"}
{"id": "t3_2c9uhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18 F] decided to end things with me [21 M] after three years, but she's not certain she should have. Does getting back together ever work?", "post": "Earlier this week, my girlfriend of three years broke up with me. She said that it felt like our relationship was going downhill for a while and she felt like it wasn't working.\n\nI felt like she ended things too suddenly and we talked back and forth after she ended things and she agrees she may have done it prematurely and in a way regrets ending it the way she did. However, she feels that her initial concerns about the relationship are still valid and we've settled on calling it a break while she tries to figure things out and think about things carefully. \n\nI've never been a believer in getting back together with someone because I feel like the problems that caused the break-up will still be there and my one experience with getting back together with someone ended miserably. \n\nBut with this relationship, I felt like our problems could be fixed if we simply communicated more with each other. It felt like we simply forgot the importance of regular communication and lost our way for a bit. She's also an amazing girl who's basically everything I've ever wanted in a partner and I still feel very strongly about her and miss her every day. For basically all of our relationship except the last few months, I was extremely happy to be with her and I know she was too. I don't want to accept that it's over.\n\nIn this situation, I don't know what to do. Does getting back together with someone generally work out? Is it more or less likely that getting back together will work out if it happens within a short time from the break up?", "summary": "Girlfriend of three years ended things but afterwards, is not sure she made the right decision as it may have been decided without thinking it through enough. Lack of communication was likely at fault. Is it worth trying to get back together and does getting back together with an ex generally work out?"}
{"id": "t3_4q5vfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am the reason my twin was attacked by my ex [16F]. I am to scared to come clean to my family because I cheated and lied to her", "post": "So long story short I have a identical twin and we live in California. I cheated on my ex girlfriend and she found out. Yes I know I am a massive piece of shit, I get it enough from my friends. My brother works and I don't and today he was working. I don't know why my ex thought I did but somehow she found out where my brother worked and thought it was me. \n\nMy brother came home from work early today and I heard my sister say \" Oh my god what happend to you\". I walked into the kitchen and my two sisters were swarming my brother. My sisters are 19&20 female and they are both home from college visiting. \n\nHe told them some crazy chick attacked him at the mall. He told them she was screaming something about a girl called Riley. Riley is the girl I had sex with. She got some good shots in on him she cut him below his eye. I don't know if he was at work when it happened or where he was. All I know is that it's my fault. \n\nAll I know is that my brother is on the couch with my sisters and they are cuddling up next to him. He has sworn to them he did not do anything to this girl. They believe him because he has always been honest with them. \n\nDo I tell them about this or do I take it to the grave? my sisters will hate me forever. I don't know what to do", "summary": "My ex attacked my brother thinking it was me because I cheated on her."}
{"id": "t3_3a1el2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21F/19M, 10mo) First (possible) breakup. It sucks.", "post": "Hey. My boyfriend and I have been arguing on and off for the past month... mostly him being angry with me, for things as simple as getting a higher score (English not his first lang.), putting my hand up to answer questions (not something you do in this culture), \"bossing\" him around when we work on projects etc. Mainly stuff revolving around school, where we take classes together.  I compromised; don't put up my hand as much, and don't show him my marks. He admitted to being childish and would work on it.\n\nWe had the biggest argument last night, completely out of the blue. He kept on accusing me of being rude to make him angry, or being arrogant and bossy. I said \"I'm sorry, I didn't intend for you to feel that way.\" then explained to him my thought process during those moments. A lot of the stuff that made him angry was just him over-thinking and imagination. \n\nI understand that couples fight all the time, and its important for a relationship sometimes. But for arguing about petty things, name calling (bossy), accusations, having to be right, and be in control.... I'm just fed up with it. How he deals with these arguements, he never tries to come up with a solution with me. He just points fingers and vents. \n\nYesterday was the last straw. He said that I am the type person he hates the most when we are at school. I'm not going to tolerate being treated like this. After arguing for hours, I told him that I need space to think about the relationship. We haven't spoken in a day..... \n\nI really loved him. I still do. But he hurts me.... and I love myself too. \n\nCan anyone tell me their break up stories to make me feel not so alone?", "summary": "Arguing with boyfriend, are in 'break' mode currently, I might break up with him because of how he treats me. Stories? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_14hq31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Torn between two men, possibly screwed up with one of them", "post": "Back in high school I was with this guy [M20 now] for a year before he broke up with me. Fast forward to college where I meet my current SO [M26]. We've been together for 2 years including a 6 month break.\n\nA few months ago, months after my current SO and I got back together, my high school ex asked for me back. I politely declined. Quite recently he's got a new girlfriend that he's really into.\n\nOver the past few months a lot of things has been happening with my SO and has resulted in him living with some parents of a friend's. He hasn't had a job or a car in a while. I love him so much, but I think there's someone better out there for me.\n\nI wish I could go back in time and except my high school ex's invitation. And I think I've screwed things up with him permanently.", "summary": "said no to old ex, regret it. kept my current SO, regret it."}
{"id": "t3_yjhnq", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Should I tell my ex about my depression? She keeps contacting me wondering how I'm doing. I was depressed before the split up.", "post": "I was depressed all last year, I did some things that I'm not proud of because I was in a really dark place. I almost cut myself during a fight, I got angry, I punched a wall once, I thought about killing myself a lot. I talked and did some things that really scared my girlfriend. We knew each other for 6 years, we dated for 2.\n\nMy girlfriend left me when I was really just gone at the end of last semester. I just ignored everything to help me study, because otherwise I would have failed. \n\nAnyway, I didn't even remember some of the stuff I did until recently, and have now only realized how depressed I really was. I've moved home for now, and I've gotten help, I'm now on medication and getting therapy. I haven't told her anything.\n\nI have her blocked on facebook and everything, but I know she's been checking up on me somehow or another. She started dating someone else soon after we broke up. I tried to talk to her about everything that happened just so I could remember it, so I could get better. She told me to stop calling her. \n\nThen a few weeks a go I got a haircut and posted it on my facebook. I know she doesn't socialize much so she'd have had to intentionally log off her facebook to see my account at all. She's been putting effort into checking on me, there were a few other times where she did things that constitute creeping on me. She's been asking my friends how I'm doing, though I don't think they've said anything. Anyway she texted me about it and has been asking other questions.\n\nShe doesn't know about the depression outside of just seeing how I was acting in general, I feel like an explanation might be in order. At least for me to have some peace of mind. We've known each other for years and this is just really strange, it's been months and I'm still not over it. I feel like a failure and I miss her so much.", "summary": "My depression led to the end of my relationship, my ex has been \"checking up\" on me. She doesn't know what's wrong with me and I want to tell her just so I feel like there's closure."}
{"id": "t3_27gbjn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "18M Need advice on asking a girl out, or maybe even if I should", "post": "So there's a girl (I'm in high school) I've been talking to for a while who's pretty unique. Usually I can get a decent read on a person's character and personality, but not with her. She just seems to operate differently and it makes me a little bit self conscious about things I would normally consider automatic signals of interest. She snapchats me, messages, or texts me on a daily basis, and she went to prom with me but we never asserted whether it was as friends or not, she hasn't \"friendzoned\" me yet, and so I've decided just to ask her out. I was wondering if you could give me advice on the situation? What's a good first date idea that is casual enough to have no pressure but cute enough to be obviously a date? Is it possible she thinks nothing of the amount of time we spend talking?\nSorry it was longwinded,", "summary": "I talk to a girl a lot, she's very different from other girls I know, I want to know a good way to ask her out and  a chill thing we could do together"}
{"id": "t3_2797ny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [ 18 F] of 2 months, we're having some weird talk", "post": "Hi reddit! \n\nSo i got a girlfriend, and we are really fine, but there's a thing that bothers us. \n\nWe were talking today about ex's, and her previous ex cheated on her, and it crushed her, in pieces, as you can understand and its was around more or less 4/5 months. They didn't talked since then, but they are at same school. What bothers me, its that, she feels sad about what he did too her, and i know, its a disgusting thing to do. But i told her to talk with him, tell him the thing that she always wanted too say, but never had the courage to do. Is there something i should do? If so, advice me please.", "summary": "We are really fine, and she doesn't like him, she promised me, swearing by his death grandfather. "}
{"id": "t3_1vj7yk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to approach a girl you don't know?", "post": "I'm a senior in high school. The girl I have a crush on is two years younger than me and I really do not know her. I had a minor crush on her last year and then that faded when I started seeing a girl, that thing ended quickly, in five or so months. I started getting a crush on her again over the summer, when volleyball practice started as she was on the JV team (I was on varsity). Since the girls practiced at a different time than us and their games were opposite from us (we were away when they were home), I never had a chance to talk to her. I see her every few days at school, but she's usually with a friend and such. I believe she's one of the \"popular\" girls in her grade and I'm the guy equivalent of \"popular\" in my grade, but she doesn't go to parties or hang out with upperclassmen, so I can't get introduced. I know a club she's in and it's too late to join it since it's like a student government/debate club.\n\nWe don't have any classes in common since I'm two years older than her. Her main group of friends is large, and I have this sort of approaching anxiety and just can't approach her (I get nervous even when I'm walking past her). I'm relatively extroverted and good at conversing with people, so that's not the problem. I kind of know two of her close friends as they used to ride my bus, but I don't talk to them often. I've largely spent the last summer and the past four months of school focusing on having fun with friends and academics; I wasn't really worrying or caring much about relationships and dating. But now I realize that the end of senior year is approaching quickly and that I'd like to get to know and perhaps date this girl. What should I do, reddit? Thanks a ton, I truly appreciate the help!'", "summary": "Like girl two years younger than me. Can't join the clubs she's in, kinda know two from her large group of girlfriends, she's popular in her grade, she played JV Volleyball, I played varsity, senior year is coming to a close quickly."}
{"id": "t3_r3ckr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's something you did when you were a kid that you only now realize is extremely mean or inconsiderate? (possibly nsfw)", "post": "When I was about 16 I played on a traveling baseball team.  At one particular tournament over the summer, we stayed in college dormitories.  The teams were separated on different floors so each team had their own communal bathroom.  My team, comprised of about 25 kids who had been recently exposed to the wonders of the 'all you can eat' style college dining hall, decided to all take our morning dumps in one toilet, without flushing. I was unlucky enough to be one of the last to use the toilet.  Unfortunately, since this was a time before cell phones were so prevalent, no pictures were taken and you'll just have to take my word that the shit spewed a solid 6 inches over the seat and I had to pop a squat over the heaping mess.  When we got back later that day, the shit was gone. There was no way all that dookie made it down the toilet.  Now all I can think about is the poor janitor, probably making a measly hourly wage, who, in all likelihood, had to scoop shit between stalls flushing scoop by scoop or had to carry the shit out in a dripping garbage bag.", "summary": "25 over fed teenagers pooped in a toilet without flushing resulting in a bad day for one poor janitor."}
{"id": "t3_m0hrj", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Need very quick advice: Is Zanzibar a \"must-see\" destination?", "post": "I'm an American who was planning on visiting my girlfriend stationed in Zambia (Lusaka), then fly to Dar + Zanzibar for a 5-day tropical vacation + quick whirlwind 2-day safari.  Plans are for next week, except I just learned that the airlines from Zambia->Zanzibar had their license revoked, in the past few days, and it's ~$500 more to rebook on a different carrier.\n\nSo, I have the option of staying in Zambia and saving ~$900 in flights alone, possibly more on hotels if we chose to stay in Lusaka.  \n\nI suppose my question is, for those who have been to Zanzibar, am I missing out significantly if I forego Zanzibar? How \"replaceable\" is Zanzibar as a tropical destination with other places within reasonable flying distance of the West Coast of the US (eg. Caribbean, Hawaii, other islands in the Pacific ocean)?  We would probably use the extra money we save for a nicer/longer safari in Lusaka, maybe go rafting near Victoria Falls, any other suggestions?", "summary": "As a tropical destination, how much of a \"once-in-a-lifetime\" experience is Zanzibar vs other tropical destinations?"}
{"id": "t3_2mn7no", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by greeting Captain America", "post": "I went to Disneyland in Anaheim. A tad of background:  I haven't been there in a while and I discovered the new exhibit featuring Captain America. Now first I saw the other exhibit called *Thor: Treasures of Asgard* which has props, swords actually used in the film that you can check out. After you look at the props Thor does a brief \"show\" and does a meet and greet with photo op, if you like.  \n\nSo after seeing the Thor exhibit, I get in line for the Captain America exhibit. We wait in line for what felt like 25 minutes. At the end of the line you turn a corner then you can see the exhibit. After all that waiting, we turn the corner, and we see it's just Captain America and a photographer. My buddy and I thought we were waiting all that time to see movie props, costumes from the movie, etc.! In a New York minute they call us over to take a picture. We did not want a picture with Capt. America.  I felt like saying, \"uhhh, there's no movie props?\" I was shocked, surprised, and trying not to laugh all at once, and my buddy was too.  \n\n We greet Capt. America while trying to hide our surprise and save some face, but all he said the whole time was \"how's it going?\" like four times with little expression on his face! It was like he was stoned or something. I was at a loss for words and all I could muster was, \"my friend is visiting from out of state.\" That usually gets the character to say something different, but Capt. America answered, \"oh, how's it going?\" Before I left I saluted him military style like I saw in some photos of the Capt. He just looked at me with a blank expression!  \n\nAs soon as we left the room, we started cracking up at our mistake. We also kept discussing why the Capt. almost couldn't think coherently. We thought the Capt. showed up to work either stoned, exhausted, or maybe he perceived our mistake. I kept laughing about it all afternoon.", "summary": "I wait in line forever to see movie props & costumes from Capt. America, and it ends up being only a photo and greet with Capt. America who was either stoned or exhausted."}
{"id": "t3_204gmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] 7 months. I'm getting end-of-university nervousness", "post": "I was friends with my GF for 2 years at University and always had a crush on her, we finally got together over Summer after I became single and have been very happy for 7 months. I'm now in my last couple of months at University and I'm starting to have doubts over my relationship. I love my GF more than anything but I'm worried that I haven't had any time single since I came to Uni. \n\nI'm concerned that if I break up with her I'll massively regret it but if I stay with her, I think I'll regret not taking a chance to play the field. Can anyone provide any advice on what to do?", "summary": "Been with GF for 7 months, getting towards end of Uni, worried I'm wasting my best chance in life to mess around."}
{"id": "t3_3ce0ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my SO [21 M]- How do I kindly express that I need my space without hurting his feelings?", "post": "My SO and I have been together for a couple months. In the beginning of our relationship, I was very clear that I can't commit to being someone's 'full-time girlfriend' in the sense that I can't hang out every day (or other day) because I need to focus on my career, school, hobbies, and friendships. I am a full time student and hold a part time job, which takes up ~50 hrs/week. I'm also the kind of person that needs alone time for reflection and decompression.\n\nRight now I'm in school and I see him once/twice a week, and he usually ends up spending the night. I'm completely ok with seeing him this often, I feel like if I spent more time with him I would feel overwhelmed and it would wear our relationship thin. He on the other hand would probably see me every day if given the chance. And I am so flattered and I think he is so sweet! But that's just not me. \n\nHere's the problem- Eventually I'll be on summer break and I'll have a lot more free time. I really wanted to use this time to read and work on some art projects. Even now, when I tell him I can't hangout because I'm busy doing homework he is almost relentless in asking if he can still come see me. I know it's because he likes me but it's driving me a little crazy that he can't get the hint and I have to tell him 'No\" outright. Our time together is limited to one or two days a week and I prefer that because it's more special and enjoyable, but I think this is causing him to be clingy when we are together and needy when we aren't. \n\nHow do I tell him I need space without offending him or pushing him away? He really is a great guy and I want this relationship to work but the balance of power is so uneven right now that I am pulling away. I fear the clinginess will ruin this relationship for me, and if he can't adapt it won't work out.", "summary": "I see my SO once/twice a week, which I am ok with but he is not. How do I talk to him about my need for alone time & space without pushing him away? When is a good time to bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_24inzk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I continue with College or start working?", "post": "Before I begin, I am attempting to write this for a second time, trying to fully express what I can do with my life. I would greatly appreciate any type of input on this matter.\n\nBackground info: \nI am 21 years old, currently enrolled at a local community college and already have earned an Associates degree in Applied Science, mainly focusing on Electrical Engineering (EE), but the program is considered as Electrical Engineering Technology (EET) in my Community College.\nAs I was completing the program and looked onto continue to a 4-year college, I was not accepted into that College, due to not fulfilling a requirement of completing and passing Pre-Calc.\nLast year, overall I had two poor semesters as I failed Pre-Calc twice and lowered my GPA. I am taking Pre-Calc for the third time, and am beginning to feel as I wasted my last two years and money, took out student loan. Also, I quit my part-time retail job I was going nowhere with in Jan 2014.\n\nCurrent position: \nIf I pass, I could re-apply to the 4-year College as a transfer student, but as an EET Major and would have to take additional courses to finish as an EE Major.\nOr stop going to College find a job related to my field, I remember a company visiting with our class providing career information.\nAnother option I thought about is to change my career goals, and perhaps continue College in Computer Science (CS) or learn how to Program, I've always had interest in computers and technology.\n\nMy last option would be to enlist in the military, as I always had in the back of my mind since High School.\nI just feel that for my age I should know what I want to do with my life, and almost be finished with school and start working. I am afraid of the social stigma of not having a Bachelors degree in a promising field and what disappointment I most likely cause to my parents.", "summary": "21, unemployed, have associates in Applied science but focused in EET, contemplating on not continuing with College to begin working, or to finish no matter what, feel like I dont know what my calling is."}
{"id": "t3_31xm1k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by eating a pot brownie", "post": "So yesterday I bought a pot brownie from a friend for 5$. I ate half of it around 12:05 and wasn't feeling much of anything by 12:45 so I ate the rest of it. \n\nI was driving home and it started kicking in right before I got home at 4. I thought maybe I just am one of those people who can't get very high from weed. Well I sat down to watch TV and I realized I was higher than I thought when I laughed at every commercial, funny or not, uncontrollably. \n\nWell after an hour of this I realize my grandpa will be home from work soon so I should go sleep and it will go away. This is about 5. Well I didn't fall asleep so much as have the weirdest visions of my eye getting cut and searing through my head, then weird geometric patterns and spinning and all kind's of weird shit. Then my grandma calls me out to eat dinner and I wake up from whatever state I was in and go to the kitchen. \n\nI can tell things aren't right as my depth perception is messed up and everything is slow motion. I eat and immediately after try to run to my room but my grandma wanted to talk. I decided to go pee first since I hadn't for hours. I go in the bathroom and realize my eyes are completely shot, my grandma tells me I look stoned, so I say I feel like I have the flu and go to bed. I have a terrible migraine all night long and barely sleep. I'm waiting right now for my grandma to get home and I just hope she doesn't drug test me.", "summary": "I ate a pot brownie, got fucked up and waiting to get kicked out of my house."}
{"id": "t3_3enye3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BF [24M] almost 7yrs, took me to get my ring finger measured- I got excited, just discussed, not going to happen for another 2 years.", "post": "Hi all\n\nI have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. We currently do not live together but are together a lot during the week and most weekends if I am not working (I work shifts).\n\nWe have spoken a lot about where we want our relationship to go - get engaged, buy a house, get married and then start a family.\n\nBack a few months ago we were out shopping and he took me into a jewellery shop and asked the shop assistant to measure my ring finger. This took me by surprise as I'd always assumed I'd not really know when he was planning on popping the question.\n\nHowever I was discussing with him earlier today what kind of timescale he is looking at for us living together (knowing that I/we wanted to be engaged before buying a house) and he said he can see us buying a house by the end of 2016/2017.\n\nThis took me by surprise as I really didn't think it would be that far away and it has me worrying.\n\nOne thing I have not mentioned is due to surgery complications in the past it is very unlikely I will be able to conceive naturally and will have to go through the IVF process to hopefully fall pregnant and my consultant has been pushing me to start trying for a baby for years but that isn't really possible without being married due to my families beliefs. Which he is fully aware of.\n\nHow do I discuss this with him and try to bring the date forward?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "BF of 7 years takes me for ring measurement, just found out not going to happen for another 2yrs-added time constraints due to fertility issues."}
{"id": "t3_3m4hob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [28 F/] of 1.5 years humiliated me at a party [29 M]", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for about a year and a half. We met through mutual friends and we got along together great right away. Anyway, the relationship was still going strong until an incident at a party one of her friends threw last Saturday.\n\nHer friend is a few years younger so this was a lot like a house party and a slightly younger crowd than me. At the party my gf got very drunk and kind of forgot about me.\n\nShe danced with a few other guys and it was pretty sexual, I saw their hands all over her and I'm pretty sure I saw her make out with one of them at one point in the night and that was when I left the party and went home.\n\nI fell asleep pretty quickly so i have no idea when she came home but the next morning she made me a special breakfast and apologised a lot for last night. I didn't know what to think so I said I needed some time and I've been crashing at a friend's place the last few days.\n\nShe's never done anything like this before and she seemed sincerely sorry and she was also very drunk at the time, so I don't know if I should break things off or not. I want to forgive her, but I don't know if I can trust her anymore. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Gf got drunk, danced sexually with other men, but seems sincerely sorry"}
{"id": "t3_39dur9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] just found out I have herpes and told my BF [29M] of 2 months", "post": "Throwaway, of course.\n\nI noticed some bumps down there and decided to get it checked out by my lady doctor. After a blood test, she told me I have HSV 1 (normally oral, but mine is genital) that I could have gotten any time in the past. I freaked out about it for a few days and just told my pretty new boyfriend about it tonight, when we were together in person. I was SO NERVOUS, almost cried, but told him all the info I know from researching like crazy since I found out.\n\nHe was understandably shocked, asked me how I found out (thought I had ingrown hairs that didn't go away), if I know who gave it to me (nope), etc. etc. And then I told him to do some research himself and take a while to figure out how he feels about it, and he went home. I encouraged him to get tested himself, too. It seems like he really has no idea how to feel about it, since he didn't have much to say and only hugged me before leaving.\n\nI have no reason to think I got it from him (unless he didn't know he had it). He's given me no reason not to trust him about STIs/cheating/whatever. In fact, I'm more scared of passing it on to him if he wasn't a carrier in the first place. My doctor gave me so much info about how so many people have it and don't have symptoms and never know it. She says since it's type 1, I probably won't even have frequent outbreaks.\n\nI've been a nervous wreck the last hour since he left and I'm terrified he's going to think less of me or think the risk is too high to keep seeing me. I like him so much and I want to be able to work around it, but I'm so scared he's going to reject me. How do I go about this after dropping what seems like a huge bomb? I don't want to freak him out even more, since I've read a lot of other threads on here and it seems like a really manageable thing, but I don't want to down play that it's serious and gonna be around forever for me now.", "summary": "I have herpes, freaking out about what my bf thinks after telling him tonight. What do I do from here?"}
{"id": "t3_g957a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your celebrity encounter fails?", "post": "Mine. the other day I was at the viewing of Your Highness at MSU. Danny Mcbrides new movie. Well we waited in line but was unable to get in due to the lack of room they decide to designate for this event. So me and my friends leave. On our way out Danny Mcbride walks in and shoots us the winking gun and a \"Whats going on guys?\". We just say \"how's it going\". Not fully realizing that it is him. After we do though instead of asking for a picture or something we badger him with various lines from his tv show and movies.", "summary": "Saw/had a great chance to meet Kenny Powers but instead badgered him."}
{"id": "t3_22bbey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/M] on a 'break' with my girlfriend [21/F].", "post": "We always have the best time when we're together but her ex boyfriend is still in the picture and is causing problems. Everything about her is perfect except for the fact that she might still be hung up on him. Fair enough, we got into things too quickly maybe after she broke up with him but ...how can I salvage this? I feel like she doesn't appreciate me enough but she knows this. There was a lot of crying & hugging last night. In the five months that we've been going out, there hasn't been two days where we haven't seen each other, and not a single day where we haven't chatted on facebook or the phone or via text. But this break I said no seeing each other or talking for a week. Is this wise? She also isn't going to see or talk to her ex. I just don't know what else to do, I was almost going to break up with her last night but just couldn't ...it fucking sucks, in every respect she is out of my league, she's the most beautiful woman ever and our sexual chemistry is amazing and I'm thinking of breaking up with her and it hurts like nothing else. Any advice is welcome. I dunno, could relationship counseling help?", "summary": "We're on a break because that was the only option besides breaking up with her that I felt I had. What to do about the ex?"}
{"id": "t3_2wl0yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] and my boyfriend [26 M] have a boring relationship. need some advice.", "post": "made a throw away account to get some advice.\n\nmy boyfriend and I have been together 7 years. we recently had a son and I have a daughter from a previous relationship. we've had a more than stellar run of a relationship but over the past year my attraction to him has been declining. \n\nfor the first 4 years of our relationship he was on his best behavior. perfect stand up guy. and it was like once he knew that I was thoroughly in love with him he started to not exert as much effort and it's been waning ever since.\n\nat the end of the day our relationship is not bad. very lackluster and very routine. we use to have mind blowingly good sex. and for 6 years it was always improving until I got pregnant. my sex drive dropped to a zero. there's no fire left in our relationship.\n\ndo I feel like I'll be with him forever? no. I've always pictured myself being a solitary person and I'm completely 100 percent fine with that. should I stay until I just can't do it anymore? is it something that's fixable? \n\nsome of you are probably thinking, 'well if your relationship isn't bad then who cares.' or 'there's no significant problem' I guess I'm just at a point where I think there's more to life. I'm not happy. we don't share the same interests. he's a home body, Im more active and getting him to participate and not be a Debbie downer is like pulling teeth. \n\nI want to hear your 2 cents.", "summary": "boring, routine relationship. should I stay or go?"}
{"id": "t3_1w95j8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my long distance boyfriend [20 M] of over 2.5 years, How do I get that overly romantic side out of him every once in a while?", "post": "In the earlier parts of our relationship he was soo incredibly romantic and I know everyone goes through that honeymoon phase and then the  huge cheesy love messages eventually tone down.\n\nThe thing is looking back even a year or so into our relationship he would still drop in extremely sweet and romantic notes.  Now it seems like that is a thing of the past. \n\nDon't get me wrong I know he loves me and that's part of my dilemma.  I feel silly wanting these things because I already know he feels them, but at the same time I loved the feeling of being wooed early on.  I loved being told I was beautiful and the best thing in the world.  Now I get I love you's, you look cute and :*kissy faces which are nice, but I miss the occasional surprise message with all the romance. (Not to mention those things are really nice for someone in a LDR)\n\nHow can I get that back occasionally without sounding needy or dumb?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I love each other, been dating so long that a lot of the old romantic notes/texts are a thing of the past. I miss it on occasion."}
{"id": "t3_405s5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [26M] become friends with people with higher social capital?", "post": "This has happened several times in the past year, and I wanted to get some advice. I've met a couple of people in the past who I thought were quite interesting people and I thought it would be cool to be friends with them. But it never felt right to try and take initiative. For starters, these people were way too cool for me; they were quite social and popular people with busy schedules and lots of existing friends. On the other hand, I have very few friends, am not as outgoing, and my social schedule is generally pretty open (e.g. when I am making plans, I rarely have to check my calender for conflicts). Also, I feel that when meeting someone new, the impact it has on me is far greater than it has on the other person. For instance, since I meet very few new people, I remember pretty well the conversations I have with people, whereas I am sure they were just making small talk with me and probably forgot about me the minute the conversation ended. Finally, I don't want to come across as weird-- I am scared that they would think \"wow really I am never going to hang out with this person he's so lame and boring, is he joking?\"\n\nOne of my goals for this year is to make more friends, hence why I am asking for advice on this issue.", "summary": "socially inept person seeking advice for how to take initiative to make friends without feeling like a creep or a loser."}
{"id": "t3_4qzf9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M) left my dog with my sister (23F) for the night. Didn't like what I saw when I picked dog up, sister says i'm pretentious", "post": "I left my 11 month old dog with my sister for the night of Canada day so she wouldn't have to be kennelled all day and night. I knew my sister would probably be out for a bit and that some people would be partying at her house. At the time I thought it wouldn't bother me.\n\nThe next morning I go in the back door. I knock on my sisters room door. She's not there, another friend slept in her bed. I grab my things and go look for my pup.\n\nMy dog was laying in the middle of the living room. There are two people passed out on the couches and one on the floor. The room is trashed and there are bongs and beer bottles all over the place.\n\nThe gross state of things as well as the fact that my sister wasn't even home bothered me. I start having ideas of young people blowing weed into her face or feeding her beer. Later that night I messaged her and asked \"Those kids didn't do anything weird with Milly, did they?\"\n\nMy sister freaked out. Calling me pretentious, telling me that i'm an asshole and this is why I have relationship issues. (I don't get very close to many people very easily like she does)\n\nI try to keep the conversation civil, but she refuses to even acknowledge that my worry could even be a reasonable response to what I saw. She claims things like \"one of those \"kids\" is in law school\". Maybe Milly was in fine hands and I really didn't understand context. I don't know if I can trust my sister to take care of my dog anymore if she this aggressively refuses to acknowledge that my concern is a legitimate one.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? Isn't it understandable that such a scenario would draw assumptions about the environment that may not be ideal for the safety of my dog? Was using the term \"kids\" really such a pretentious way of describing the situation that it should overshadow my initial concern?\n\nI'm not gonna lie, I don't like the kind of people my sister hangs out with, but that's nothing to do with the voice I concerned", "summary": "My sister left my dog with a bunch of drunk strangers. I called them kids and she's pissed that i'm so pretentious for saying so"}
{"id": "t3_36sljj", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[BREEDS] Wanting to get another dog, what breed?", "post": "I currently have a 65 lb GSD/rottie/husky mix, I also had a 20 lb bichon but he passed away last year. It's been a while but I think I'm ready to get a new dog. I live in an apartment but I'm not working or in college for the next year, after the year I'll be gone 9-12 for classes then be home the rest of the day so the dogs are rarely left alone. My GSD mix is very well trained, friendly and loves to play so I would like a small but sturdy dog possibly around 20-30 lbs. Also a dog that is easy to train would be great because I love to clicker train and do obedience. Any amount of drooling, barking, shedding is fine, I also have enough money for any grooming, vet care, etc the dog needs. Also even though I'm in an apartment I have a large park right behind me with plenty of fenced in areas and I usually take my dogs everywhere to visit family, etc(so a dog that's also good with children/other animals would be good too). The breed I've been thinking of getting is a Corgi but I want to see what other breeds people suggest or if they think a corgi would be the right fit.", "summary": "Good with other pets/children, great at obedience training, small but sturdy to play with gsd mix, fine with shedding/barking, will get plenty of exercise and rarely be left alone."}
{"id": "t3_vee7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] thinks my boyfriend [20/m] has feelings for a girl he works with.. I think.", "post": "Some background: I'm 19, my boyfriend is 20, and we have been dating for a little over two years. Of our two year relationship it has been long distance for about 18 months (not consecutive), since we went to separate colleges.\n\nNow, I trust my boyfriend. A LDR is tough and we wouldn't have lasted two years without complete trust, however I'm starting to become nervous about this new girl he works with.\n\nMy boyfriend works at a pool and has a co-worker who I'll call Katie for the sake of anonymity. Basically, I have a gut feeling that he might have feelings for this girl. The first time he mentioned her was a week ago and the result of me asking him who had drawn all over the sidewalk with chalk. He said \"Oh, it was Katie\". Call me crazy, but the way he said her name made me stop for a second. You know how by simply saying someone's name, a person can show their fondness for someone? That's the way he said her name.\n\nLast night, we were hanging out with some of his friends and he brought her up twice. One of the times was her talking about a previous job, and another was a conversation that definitely sounded like they were flirting. Basically, she offered him a piece of her banana, he made a blowjob joke (immature, I know), and he thought he was really funny. By the way he told the story, it sounded like they were both flirting. \n\nAm I crazy? Is this woman's intuition, or am I just making a problem out of nothing? I realize that flirting is harmless, but as he's starting to bring her up more in front of me, I'm getting kind of worried.", "summary": "my boyfriend is bringing up a girl he works with more and more and the way he talks about her makes me think he has feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_1hsbe9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm an 18M about to meet an 18F crush at a summer camp. Advice?", "post": "I'm headed off to a summer camp next week, where I'll most likely meet a girl I now have a big crush on. I met her last year and got her phone numer, so we talked a little but I stopped texting because I'm dumb and figured she probably wasn't interested, lived over an hour away, and was most likely headed to a different school for college. Now the camp is about to start again and I just found out we are actually headed to the same college!\n\n I'm super excited to see her again, but I'm afraid there will be awkwardness between us because we stopped talking (again, i'm *really* stupid) and also because i'm naturally quiet around people i'm not familiar with. \n\nSo, my question is; What can I do to make sure my interest in her is clearly communicated considering my past encounters with her?", "summary": "I'm meeting a crush I haven't talked to in almost a year at a summer camp, how can I keep this from being awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_46ctwf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I owe more on my car than it's worth-- what do I do?", "post": "To keep it short and sweet-- I bought a 2011 Toyota Corolla LE in August of 2014. I had just graduated college and desperately needed a car before graduate school. I didn't have much money saved up at the time so I didn't put down any money. Between the price of the car, a 4-year/100,000 mile warranty, and the interest, the car will end up costing me around 20k total. Currently I owe around 15k, but the car is only worth 10k according to Kelley Blue Book. What do I do? I owe significantly more on my car than it's worth, so I considered selling it or trading it in and taking a hit because all debt is bad (Dave Ramsey, anyone?) But I don't know if that's the smartest/best thing to do.", "summary": "I owe 5k more on my car than it's currently worth. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_258yml", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/f] worried that I'm giving up passion for stability with [31/m] boyfriend", "post": "I've always been a highly sexual type of gal. Always very open and adventurous. And always have had shitty relationships. Began dating the complete opposite of what I always go for and have been with him for 2 years. He's a complete square in every sense of the word. He's extremely logical. He's emotionally stable, provides for me financially, and supports any endeavors I choose in life. We're great friends and always have a good time together but when it comes to sex it's just a fiasco. \nThe foreplay is almost nonexistent. He refuses to go down on me. Very vanilla sex. I mean, I like vanilla but damn I want some chocolate cherry swirl sometimes! We NEVER talk about past relationships so I find it difficult to connect with him. I have no idea what he likes and he has no idea what I like. I feel like if I try new things all he'll think about is where I learned it from. There have been times where I'll put on sexy lingerie, tell him I want to have sex, and sit there for hours while he plays league of legends. \nI'm really starting to resent him for this and am at a complete lack of what to do. I've tried talking to him but he just shuts down like a child and will start playing video games or browse his computer.  \nAm I the crazy one here? Is it worth giving up a passionate sex life for the emotional and financial stability he gives me?", "summary": "When it comes to sex I like all the flavors and my boyfriend likes vanilla."}
{"id": "t3_3vdamd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(US) Urgent! Lost wallet with social security number (not the card itself). Took (some) appropriate measures, but would like second opinions and advice", "post": "Sorry if I'm violating any rules on this subreddit; this is my first time using reddit itself, so once again I apologize.\n\nAs you can tell from the title, this is pretty urgent; I lost my wallet earlier in a college lecture hall. Didn't contain any cash, I cancelled the debit card as soon as I realized I lost it - but I had my college ID, US Passport Card and a slip of paper with my SSN on it. I've filed for fraud alert through Experian and Equifax online, and Trans Union by phone (although they request that I mail a form, even after I gave them my info). I'm hesitating on filing for Innovis; I know they're important as well, but to be frank, I'm scared of what may happen to my credit score. I'm heading to the local precinct to file a report as soon as I finish posting. I'd just like to know, then, what am I at risk for - and what are the chances of identity theft/ credit fraud?\n\nAs to why I had written my SSN down; I wrote it years ago and just never took it out, in fact I even forgot it was in there.", "summary": "Lost wallet with SSN on post-it (not the card itself); filed fraud alert w/ the Big 3 and a report with the police. What other measures I should take and what are the chances of fraud/ ID theft?"}
{"id": "t3_1xvej4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] do not get along with my boyfriends friend [22M] he is always interrupting my life", "post": "My boyfriend's friend, M, is an asshole. A few months back he basically told me I was a shitty person and I was disturbing him. Of course instead of letting me know he didn't like what I was saying he just stopped stowing up to group dinners that we  have every week. He finally comes out and tells me this. The end result of that was I play nice in public and he doesn't disrespect me by calling me names in the middle of dinner\n\nMy boyfriend has a twin who had M over. My boyfriend and I were watching a movie and having a romantic night. M just invites himself to sit down during our movie and talk to my boyfriend. After he left the room my boyfriend and I were just talking and M yells down comments to us about our conversation.  \n\nFF to today. A mentor of mine invited a few of us to dinner this weekend. He verbally told all he wanted to come. M had a birthday dinner with my boyfriend and their friends and someone probably mentioned that they were going for wings this weekend. He was not invited though we go to wings once a week as our group dinner. \n\n\"(restaurant) is a private event. Sorry about that!\" <---good idea?\n\nI don't know how to handle myself around this guy. He's 22 and he cannot seem to respect my relationship with my boyfriend or me. I really want to tell him off and let him know he was not invited. If he does end up going I will say something to piss him off because I cannot not keep my mouth shut.", "summary": "this guy started a fight with me and since then has been a jerk. He just invited himself to a group dinner which he did not receive an invitation to. Call him out?"}
{"id": "t3_2sh42o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my Possible Crush/Friend [14F] of a few weeks is upset with someone, what should I say?", "post": "Emily and myself were at a swim practice.  We were working out with the team, talking and laughing occasionally, when coach writes up a very difficult set on the board.  It starts out fine, but since Emily has shoulder problems, she gets out periodically to stretch.  \n\n  Coach has a history of not really putting himself in Emily's shoes when it comes to understanding her limitations.  He talks to her at the end of practice about \"not putting in enough effort\" and \"taking too many breaks.\"  This, obviously, was very upsetting to her.  I am at a distance getting ready to leave, while she walks to the door talking to her friend about what happened.\n\n  *Here's the tough part,* on the way out I just WALKED BY while she talked to her friend without saying anything.  Didn't stop to listen or ask if she was ok.  Kicking myself for not stopping, but I don't even know what I would have said if I did.\n\n  \n  My question is, what do I say now!?  I have the option to text her now or tomorrow.  If I do, I can ask if she's ok, but she'll remember I totally ignored her before.  I just don't want to loose a friendship here, she's really an all around inspiring, kind, and great person I'd love to know better.", "summary": "Emily is upset at coach after swim practice, I don't ask if she's ok, she leaves upset.  I don't know what to say to comfort/encourage her via text, or even if I should say anything."}
{"id": "t3_2g2z2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to turn down a guy [40ish/M] nicely?", "post": "I (27F) was at a work event last night (a high society champagne party hosted by my magazine - I'm a section editor) and had to make my rounds \"hosting\" by greeting and schmoozing with clients and guests. Business cards were freely exchanged since it was a networking thing.\n\nI got chatted up by an older (40s) guy who happened to be a close friend of my CEO and publisher and is managing director of one of the biggest banks in the country and a pretty big patron of our title, and he was clearly hitting on me. I felt very uncomfortable but I didn't want to seem rude to an important guest, plus he wasn't rude or sleazy, so I kept conversation professional, handed him my name card and ended my interaction after 5-10 minutes.\n\nThis morning he texted me complimenting me on my appearance and asked if I had recovered from last night's party. I replied after 3 hours thanking him for attending our event. Then he asked me to go out with him tonight. I haven't replied.\n\nThere's no way I'm going out with him because I'm in a committed, loving relationship. I'm not even remotely attracted to him. However, I hate turning people down. I've never been very popular with boys so I don't have much experience rejecting guys.\n\nIs there a nice way to turn down his offer without hurting his feelings, and still allow me to remain friendly and professional?", "summary": "Important client asked me out, I'm already attached, how to turn him down without risking professional relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1jja6s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can HSV-1 (herpes via kissing) cause urinary pain like HSV-2 can?", "post": "Throwaway account. Here's the details. They're quite juicy. \n\nI was in a nightclub the other night and a random girl came up to me and started making out with me (wait a second, I'm not as lucky as you think). I was such in shock I didn't do anything. It lasted for about 5-8 seconds and stopped when she told me she needed a smoke outside and left me. Today (48 hours later), I've felt the worst pain urinating I've ever had in my entire life. All we did was make out, is it possible that I can have urinary pain from HSV-1 or is that urinary pain just from something else?", "summary": "can I get urinary pain from receiving HSV-1 via making out with a girl? I'm not sure if I have herpes or not."}
{"id": "t3_snou9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think I'm experiencing professional burnout from months of workplace bullying/stress. I'm 18, what can I do to save my job?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I'm an 18 year old Australian that works in web development.\n\nThere are deadlines every week, but I started to get really stressed when workplace bullying started at the beginning of the year.\n\nIt's been an intense battle, but I think it's a time of peace at the moment.\n\nI've had stress attacks, trouble sleeping, depression, anxiety, etc...\n\nI've recieved my second warning letter from work; and the entire letter is utter bullshit. I sent an email back, defending myself, basically saying it's bullshit in a nice way.\n\nWhat can I do to get back into the \"flow\"? I'm about a week and a half behind on every project. My work are the sort of people that freak out if I'm even a few hours behind.\n\nFor the last week and a half, I have sat in my office, doing absolutely nothing. I just stare at the blank screen, grow bored, and google something.\n\nI thought that I was apathetic, and lazy in the beginning, but I think it's professional burnout. I just don't care anymore about anything. I've neglected my social life, spend all of my spare time writing letters to counter work's warning letters, and had trouble sleeping.", "summary": "I do nothing at work all day, I think it's related to months of workplace stress. I'm 18, I want to work happily."}
{"id": "t3_npgdc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need helps with devising hints for my GF to figure out her gift...", "post": "One of the gifts I got my GF for Xmas was a new video card for her computer(She is a gamer.) she had a shitty card before and had to play all her games on low. 2 weeks ago I installed the new card for her went into her games and cranked all her graphics to high. \n\nUnfortunately since then she hasn't touched Skyrim and only plays CIV V which even though I cranked the graphics she didn't notice.\nNow since she has yet to figure this out I want to devise a series of riddles/hints that she needs to go through in order to find out what her gift is. Unfortunately I keep drawing blanks on what hints/riddles I can use.\n\nI figured reddit could help me out in devising this so post any suggestions you may think of. Thanks!", "summary": "Got GF video card for Xmas, need to devise hints/riddles that she needs to solve to figure out what she got."}
{"id": "t3_4t0t3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] am a part of a \"love square\" with two boys [18 M] and a girl [18 F] from my class.", "post": "Hey everybody! So, recently I became a part of a \"love square\" with two boys and one girl in my class. \n\nThe first guy is basically somebody that I have had a crush on for about 2 years and I have always felt like it was mutual, but we are both really really shy so nothing ever happened and I doubt it ever will. The thing is, that I literally feel butterflies in my stomach every time I see him smile or every time we speak. He went to England for a year and I still couldn't stop thinking about him no matter how hard I tried.\n\nThe other guy is somebody I have known for 12 years. Recently, he asked me out on a date and it was pretty great, I just don't really know how I feel, because it's completely different from the first guy. I think I still see him as a friend. On the other hand, he's everything I look for in a guy. He's smart, funny, caring, really cute and everything, but I just don't feel the \"spark\". But I'm 18 and still a virgin and I think that it would be great to lose it with somebody so nice and somebody I like as a person. Anyway, I am coming over to his place next week to have a F.R.I.E.N.D.S marathon, so I don't know if I should start looking at him that way or not. \n\nThen there is this girl, my good friend. She once told me, a few months before I found out he liked me, that she really likes the second guy. She told me they went on a date and then they stopped writing to each other and she was really upset. I really don't want to hurt her feelings but this is the first time I might have a chance with somebody that fulfills my expectations and nothing is obviously going to happen with the first guy.", "summary": "So there is guy I like a lot, a guy that likes me a lot and a girl that likes the guy that likes me. Should I go out with him? Should I believe in miracles between me and the first guy? Or should I just be a forever alone as always and die a virgin?"}
{"id": "t3_12yirg", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for insight : How do you estimate the cost of life in another country ?", "post": "So basicly, I'm French. \n\nIn France, we have about 20% charges on the \"brut\" salary, which then gives us the real remuneration. For example, if your remuneration is **30k\u20ac/year**, that will make you **24k\u20ac/year real remuneration** (or 2k/month).\n\nHowever, I've recently obtained a job interview for what could be a dream job in the gaming industry in **Ireland**.\n\nSo obviously one of the first questions I had to myself was : \n\nWell, how can I know what will the life cost in another country ? That way I would know better what to ask as a salary during my job interview.\n\nOther than that, there is a lot of information to be found (like the cost of a flat, the taxes, etc) and I have only 2 days to get everything.", "summary": "I have a dream job opportunity in Ireland but I cannot estimate correctly the cost of life in another country and thus be sure of what to ask as a salary."}
{"id": "t3_z8ey4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would honestly like to attempt the 'no-fap' September...how can I provide proof!?", "post": "the no-fap september is new to me...who the fuck decided this!?\n\nbut thinking about it yesterday (successfully fap-free) i was wondering how i could convince reddit that i was fap free? clearly, a 24/7 monitor system is nearly out of the question...i have a large house and who's to say i dont leave and do it in a public bathroom or whatever. also, in the unlikeliness that i bring home a lady friend for some sexy time, i'd feel morally wrong asking (or not asking :P ) permission to have her being broadcast on the interwebs. \n\nafterthought: even if it takes more time to set up a fap-free zone where everyone can feel assured that i did in fact not fap, i'd be willing to extend that into October to get the full effect of one month with no fap. \n\nthoughts?", "summary": "want to no-fap september and prove it...how?"}
{"id": "t3_hnjsq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worried about getting thrown out of my apartment, anything I can do?", "post": "I've been in my apartment on a 12 month lease for about 4 months. It's my first place out of college and I really like it. In like the second month I got a call from my landlord that I had gotten complaints about noise. I am a pretty laid back guy, don't blast music and just come home from work mostly and hang out so I was a bit confused. I asked her to be more specific about what was noisy etc, she said she didn't know but I apologize and it was no big deal. \n\nFast forward to memorial day weekend. I had some friends over to pre-game and then we walked to a bar so we could just walk home. We got shit faced. When we got back I passed out in bed but apparently everyone else kept partying. I woke up the next morning, apartment trashed, bathroom covered in shit, literally, and my friends tell me the cops came on a noise complaint.\n\nI wrote a note on my door apologizing to my neighbors and explaining that it was my guests and it will never happen again, blah blah, and I also wrote my landlord an email but I'm kind of freaking out.\n\nI am worried I will get thrown out because it's not my first complaint and they must have been really fucking obnoxious to get the cops called. Is there anything I can do to make this right or to remedy the situation?", "summary": "got the cops called on me and it's my second noise complaint in my relatively new apartment, worried about being evicted."}
{"id": "t3_3zbsre", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing my hands after work.", "post": "I work in the produce department of a larger grocery store in my area.  I was filling my tables yesterday and right before I left I had to fill jalepenos because they were on sale.  I stock them and head for the house.  Well as I'm driving home my eye was kinda itchy so I rubbed it, suddenly my eye starts to sting.  I'm talking to my mom on the phone and she tells me to wash it out.  I run to the sink and wash my hands then start splashing water into my eye.  Apparently water does the same for the sting in your eye as your mouth and it intensified it.  I had to just stand there and wait for it to pass because I can't put milk or bread in my eye.", "summary": "always wash your hands."}
{"id": "t3_1pfpd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anniversary this weekend. What romantic things can I (20f) do for/with my boyfriend (21m)?", "post": "This Saturday is my first anniversary (yay!). My boyfriend isn't crazy into the whole romance thing, but I really enjoy it. However, he lacks creativity, so I'm usually the romantic one (which is fine with me)\n\nI'm cooking dinner for him, and we're spending all of Saturday together, just the two of us. I could really use some advice on something special the two of us can do. What romantic things do you recommend? Absolutely any suggestions are welcome. I don't want to limit you to think solely of sex, but what are some romantic things to do in the bedroom?\n  \nJust saying, neither of us has experienced an anniversary with a SO before.", "summary": "What are romantic ways to spend an anniversary?"}
{"id": "t3_3aznfc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By making a neighbor believe their deceased pet rabbit turned into a zombie", "post": "This actually happened to my old teacher, let's call her Susan (she told this story during a break, and I'll never forget it). Susan wakes up every morning around 5 AM to let her dogs out and drink a cup of coffee. Susan lives on a farm and has two Labradors. At around 5:30AM, Susan went to the sliding door to let the dogs back in when she noticed her black lab had come up to the door with a dead rabbit in it's mouth.\n\nSusan panicked, as she knew her neighbors had pet rabbits that they kept outside in a pen. Her mind began racing with thoughts of how she could cover this up, or even come clean about the now lifeless rabbit. Being that it was 5:30AM, and her neighbors were most likely still sleeping, she did the unthinkable- she snuck over to the neighbors yard and placed the dead rabbit back into the cage with his brothers and sisters.\n\nWhen she pulled in from work that afternoon, her neighbor was outside. To Susan's surprise, the neighbor looked more confused than angry. Just as she was about to confess, her neighbor spoke out:\n\n\"The craziest thing happened this morning. I went out to feed/give water to the rabbits and was stunned to find that Fluffy, who died a few days ago, was in the cage. After he passed, I buried him in the backyard, and now, a few days later, he's back in his cage... I do not know how this could have happened!\"\nSusan, whom at this point wanted to bust out laughing, did the unthinkable once again- she said she had no clue how that could have happened, and went about her evening.", "summary": "My ex-teacher made her neighbor believe she has a zombie rabbit."}
{"id": "t3_3sig66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] having trust issues with my GF's [22F] family, what do I do?", "post": "My girlfriend and I live together in a two bedroom apartment near the college that we both attend. Her family is big, with 9 kids, and very poor. They all grew up in a very small town and have what I would consider a \"small town mentality\". They're uneducated, ignorant, and seem helpless when they're not in their small hometown. Many of them are perfectly nice, but it's quite difficult to hold a conversation with anyone in her family; I can't relate to them at all (which can be difficult, as you might imagine).\n\nMy main issue with them is trust. Once in a while she'll have one of her sisters come and stay in our extra bedroom, which is fine. My issue is that I feel worried leaving them here alone, or with a key to get in when I'm not around. I come from a family that's well-off, and I have a lot of rather nice things in my apartment. I don't *think* that anyone in her family would steal from us, but I also wouldn't be surprised if they did, or invited someone over who did. They aren't street-smart at all, which is a whole different issue.\n\nHow do I deal with this? Am I wrong to worry when one of my GF's sibling is staying here? I don't want to mention it to my girlfriend, as it would probably make her feel ashamed of her background, or mad that I don't trust her family.", "summary": "My GF lives with me and comes from a poor small-town family. I'm afraid my nice stuff might get stolen when they stay the night at our apartment."}
{"id": "t3_3l4kt4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NJ, USA] Concerning a merit bonus for an employee who is leaving the company. Not sure if this is a matter of law or only company policy.", "post": "I've been working as a permanent full time employee (first shift) for a large corporate chain for several years and recently received a much better full time job offer at a different company. I accepted the offer and put in two weeks notice at my current job. This was only a few days ago, so I have not yet switched over to the new job.  \n\nHere's where it gets complicated. Around the same time I got the offer (but before I put in my notice), my current employer congratulated me on a job well done and told me I'd be receiving a merit bonus at the end of the month. There are no attached obligations stated; it is a reward for past work.  \n\nI was concerned that I may lose the bonus if I leave the company before receiving the bonus, since my two weeks notice ends a few days before the bonus is set to arrive. So I asked my manager (who has always been fair to me) what I should do about this. He informed me that company policy states that yes, in order to receive the bonus I do have to be currently employed on the day it is deposited.  \nHe was understanding enough to allow me to extend my notice another week and burn the candle at both ends; I'd continue working for the company as a part time second shift worker during my first week at the new job (which is first shift).  \nI was blown away by this willingness to help, obviously. However he seemed a bit apprehensive about how the corporate payroll department may react and he advised me to work as many hours as possible (preferably 30 or more) during that final week.  \n\nSo I guess my question is.. is this entirely up to the company or is there any legal protection here? Is it possible/legal for some HR guy to notice that it's my final week and just cancel the bonus to save the company some money?  \nAs long as I remain employed when the bonus arrives, does my part time/full time status matter? Does working more than 30, 40 hours help me at all?", "summary": "When an employee is selected for a merit bonus, is there *any* legal obligation whatsoever or can the company freely revoke it when they see that the employee intends to leave the company?"}
{"id": "t3_2cp03k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing everyone my \"goodies\"", "post": "Well, this past weekend a group of friends and I went up to a buddy's cabin for drinking, boating and shenanigan's of the sort. One day, my girlfriends and I decide to blow up this massive 8-person floating party island and just drink, gossip and soak up the sun. The bikini top I decided to wear was made of light pink cotton; BIG MISTAKE! As soon as I decided to jump into the water the bikini top became completely see-through and I was part of a one-man-wet-tshirt contest! My best friend mentioned to me that she could see through my top, but me being as intoxicated as I was, I decided that she was over-reacting and it probably wasn't that bad. At this time a few other party-goers on other boats decide to come over to our floating island because, lets face it, a group of drunk 20-yr-old girls on a raft seems like a good group to hang out with. I was so hammered at this point I completely forgot about my see-through top and was laying out across the party raft, not leaving much to the imagination. After more and more people started mentioning the slutiness of my outfit, I finally realized how transparent my top actually was. I managed to crawl my way onto my buddy's boat, cover myself with a towel and tried not to attract anymore attention.", "summary": "wore a cotton bikini and gave everyone a free show."}
{"id": "t3_3xlhyg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU be going on TIFU NSFW", "post": "This just happened 30 minutes ago. Today started out like any other day. Woke up slightly hungover from the night before and feel a rumble in my tummy. Its the Beer Shits kicking in. \n\nI head to the bathroom and let it rip. During this time, Im browsing reddit, specifically TIFU about the girl who went to the gyno and was bald spread eagle in front of her dad. I laughed to myself and wonder when I will be able to post a TIFU of my own. \n\nWell, the man upstairs or God must have heard me because once I decided to place my phone down to wipe my ass, the phone decides to slip out of my hand, and fall straight between my legs right into the beer shit filled toilet.\n\n So I use my bare hand to grab my smeared shit phone and throw it into the bathtub. Will have to dispose of phone now. It was a Galaxy S3. I've been waiting for new android to come out but I guess I'll have to choose it earlier than I thought.", "summary": "Browsed TIFU, Received TIFU."}
{"id": "t3_4ymhrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50 M] with my gf [30 F] duration. I'm not right for her, but she doesn't see that.", "post": "I've been married.  She's a virgin Christian waiting for marriage.  I'm...not.  We've dated a couple years.  I've been clear that I don't want children and don't really want to be married again.  I think she's hoping I'll change my mind.\n\nWe've almost broken up several times, but keep wanting to be together and are compatible in most ways.  I truly love her; I know she loves me.  I love being with her and all the things we do together.\n\nBut I feel like I'm ruining her life if I don't break up with her.  She's told me multiple times that she knows I am \"the one\" for her and wouldn't want anyone else if we broke up.  *I* know that isn't true, but I don't know that she sees that from where she is in life now.\nI wish we never started dating, but I wouldn't miss what we've had for anything.\n\nThis is truly tearing me apart, and I want to end this as gently and caringly as possible.  I've been going around in my mind about this for months.\n\nSo, Reddit, how do you tell the woman you love that you don't want to marry her?", "summary": "She loves me desperately.  I love her too.  I can't marry her.  How do I tell her without hurting her too much?"}
{"id": "t3_we88h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: What is the oddest encounter you had with a girlfriend's friend?", "post": "When ever I hang out with a girlfriend in their separate circle of friends it is usually pretty awkward picking up on their inside jokes or gauging their comfort levels with various conversation topics.\n\nRecently I was traveling across the country with my girlfriend and we stopped to talk to many of her friends and mine along the way. We meet up with one of her friends that is always obsessing over guys, and then complaining about how she cannot find Mr. Perfect.\n\nShe goes on to talk about how she met a guy that slept with her and then she stole his underwear. She went on to say that every time she is in the bathroom it is like their smells come together as one. We were sitting at a restaurant and as soon as the waiter leaves us she lifts up her dress to show that in fact she is wearing the underwear right that second. I about died.", "summary": "Her friend was bragging about how she slept with a guy and stole his underwear so she could let their scents mingle."}
{"id": "t3_hhp72", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do your parents think their is such a thing as too much fun?", "post": "I am a senior in high school who is done with classes and exams.  I got into U Miami, with a two year scholarship. I also got into their honors program (for a more rigorous curriculum).  I go out with friends maybe once a week, and play varsity tennis, as well as do martial arts and have taken music lessons (for the past ten years).  I do all this stuff not because my parents are pushing me to do so, but because I love what I do.  I am also an EMT, and am aspiring to become a doctor.  \n\nHowever, it's the summer, and even though I will work two jobs on the weekdays (camp counselor/tennis instructor during the day and pharmacy at night) my parents deny me the pleasure of doing things I like on the weekends. \n\nBut let me say this, my parents are Indian.  So make the assumption that they are uber conservative and a little fundie.  I've already told my parents I don't believe in God and that people should have faith in humanity instead.  I respect everything they do, knowing they are hard working, peaceful citizens.  Not to mention supportive parents. \n\nMy parents never understand why I find researching==>watching==>discussing big questions in life fun.  I usually do this stuff via movies and music.  I think it's great to focus on the ethical questions that rack my brain and examine and understand the many mindsets of the people on earth. \nAND I also love playing me some video games.  Mostly puzzle games and nintendo franchises, but I like how they can push my imagination to its limit. \n\nI tried showing my parents videogames today as I've done many times before (Portal 2, to be exact) and they flipped out and told me to go read, as I was 'clearly' wasting my life. The day before I wasn't allowed to sleep over my friends house because we had family business to take care of (we didn't do anything today). How can I make them understand that there is always room for fun if you have fulfilled your self-understood duty as an individual?", "summary": "The main problem is that I CAN'T enjoy myself ever because there is always the feeling in my head that my parents will find some excuse to call my 'having fun' a stupid passtime.  I can understand where they are coming from, as I am not the perfect child, but I feel a little too overwhelmed by their constant patrolling over my daily activities.  "}
{"id": "t3_u62xz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Asking Reddit for help to get my dying father's book published/printed.", "post": "About two months ago my father was diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma in his lungs. The doctors discovered it when he was complaining of back pains. This isn't the first time they discovered it. About two years ago they found it in his arm and removed it. The doctors thought it hadn't spread to his lymph nodes but obviously they were wrong. \n\nBesides the melanoma in his lungs, they also found two tumors on his spine and one on his brain. They proceeded with radiation on the two tumors because he was at risk of being paralyzed. When the tumors where shrunk down they were going to do treatment to fight the melanoma. The first day of treatment they ran a MRI on his tumors to check them out. Turns out the tumor on his brain had gotten larger. He is in the process of doing radiation to treat the tumor. I traveled from school this weekend to see him and just found out that his health as weaken him so much that he broke his arm and they are not going to treat the melanoma because the treatment would hurt him more than help. Last night, I found out that the doctors are giving him 6 months to live.\n\nMy father has been working on a novel for\u2026I believe 10 years or so. He finally finished a year ago and always talked about the hopes of getting the novel published. With everything that is going on I was hoping to find someone on reddit that could help me with this process. I don't give a crap about royalties or anything of that sort. I don't care if the book gets into stores or anything. I just want to be able to have 6 prints to give to the family. \n\nI know what you are thinking. Oh, OP could be some starving writer making up a story to get his stuff out there. One, I would NEVER lie about something like this, especially about my father. Two, like I stated, I couldn't care less about the money. \n\nIf you need proof and you have a suggestion of what to do, I can do my best. I'll be at the hospital today with my brother, mother, nieces and nephew but I'll try to check this as much as possible. \n\nThanks,\nEveryone", "summary": "My dad has 6 months to live. I need help publishing or printing his novel."}
{"id": "t3_127j52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could my [F/19] friendship with my best friend [M/19] ruin my relationship with my boyfriend [18]?", "post": "I [F/19] have been dating my boyfriend [18] for ten months now, and I made it very clear to him that the majority of my friends were male. I have always been a tomboy, so when it come to hanging out with people I choose to go with the guys. Therefore my best friend for the past 5 years is a guy [19], and we hang out a lot and I tell him almost everything. I should also mention my best friend does not have a girlfriend. \n\nIn the beginning of my boyfriend and my relationship I told him about my best friend and made it clear that we were only just friends. My boyfriend said he was fine with that, and was not worried. This semester though my boyfriend and I are going to different schools, so instead of seeing him everyday I see my best friend who goes to the same school as I do. \n\nSo lately when I tell my boyfriend about things that happen when my best friend and I hang out, my boyfriend becomes distant. I would never leave him for my best friend, but I'm scared he thinks that I will. \n\nCould my friendship ruin my relationship, and what can I do to make my boyfriend feel better?", "summary": "My [F/19] best friend is male [19], and I'm afraid that my boyfriend [18] of ten months doesn't like our friendship. My bf says he doesn't mind, but he has been acting very odd when I talk about my best friend around him. "}
{"id": "t3_4khmv8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by handling cramps the wrong way.", "post": "So this just happened this very morning.\n\nI was peacefully sleeping on my bed at around 6 A.M , when i slowly began to wake up. Naturally, I move my limbs slowly as the morning light reaches my eyes.\n\nUnfortunately, i moved my legs a bit, and a overwhelmingly painful cramp that makes you think you are dying type of cramp sparked on the back of my lower right leg.\n\nTo make matters worse, I literally lost my mind and immediately stood up from my bed to try and not feel the pain (standing up really relieves my cramp).\n\nFast forward 8 seconds later and I'm hearing ringing inside my ears and I'm losing vision, and i'm forced back to bed with my leg still aching.\n\nA few moments later I began to feel my heart becoming heavier and I was literally exhausted from that cramp moment. When I finally woke up I hardly could move without feeling my heart aching.\n\nAs I'm typing this, the best thing I can do is just stand in front of my PC screen and hope that tomorrow I'll feel better than now. I've discarded any plans to go out today as well, don't want to put my heart into working.", "summary": "Had cramp on my leg, suddenly woke up to relieve it, now I'm stunned for the day with my heart feeling heavy."}
{"id": "t3_2vqic8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [19F] isn't affectionate after month apart and month of heavy coursework.", "post": "Background info, we've been together for about 5 months but we broke up for about 2 days near the end of winter break because she wasn't making the effort to see me more than a couple of hours once a week despite us being 40 minutes apart. We got back together and have had only one big problem when she told her roommate's and her friend group I didn't want to hang out with them (which I told her in confidence, and I kind of have trust issues).\n\nWe don't have sex, which isn't a big problem because her family is very conservative and I have a low sex drive (believe it or not, it's true), but today she missed her period and told me \"we can never have sex, I would be paranoid all the time\", which is kind of a big disappointment, even if it was half a joke. \n\nAll this is okay, though, except that I initiate all intimacy which is reciprocated half the time and results in me getting pushed away the other half. I've asked her why she does this and she was very surprised and cried a little and said she didn't realize she did it, but now we're falling into the same routine. We both have massive amounts of work each day, but it's been weeks now since she's really been into it. This sucks.\n\nAny advice? Criticism? Am I dumb or right to be concerned and frustrated? If this sounds a little callous and uncaring, I apologize because I care for her a huge amount and thought I loved her for a while until around the 4 month mark, which I thought was because I was no longer \"infatuated\". Is that possible or silly? I just want perspective and maybe to get this all off my chest.", "summary": "Confused and depressed about where my relationship is now compared to how it was a couple months ago"}
{"id": "t3_1j8szy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19 F] broke up with me [20 M] about a month and a half ago. And I don't know if she wants to get back together or not now.", "post": "My ex and I started dating early last semester and as far as I know were wonderful together. We never argued or anything and always got along great. She herself said, as she was breaking up with me, that she never had any problems and our relationship was fun and great when we were at school. I had to move back home for the summer since I did not have a place to live near my school until the start of next semester.\n\nFast forward a few months into the summer and after keeping the relationship alive through phone calls mostly and a few visits she says its not working and wants to end it but we both decide to stay friends.\n\nAfter not really talking to her for about a week or two she starts calling me literally almost everyday and we talk anywhere from 30 minutes to two hours. Eventually she said I should come visit her and our other friends since I hadn't in awhile. I did and we hung out for awhile. One thing I should add is that while two hour conversations aren't normal for her, calling someone while she is driving is. Which is when a lot, though not all, of our conversations happen. Also I am pretty much the only person she ever calls. \n\nI can add minor details of what happened when I visited I guess if needed but it was mostly a normal visit and anything that I think may have been a sign for her wanting to get back together probably wasn't.\n\nAnyways so what do you guys think. Does it sound like she does or not?", "summary": "Ex breaks up with me and then calls me nearly everyday since and ask me to come visit her."}
{"id": "t3_39fn4l", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "(x-post from r/advice) How do I ask for a raise if I feel like all odds are against me?", "post": "Hello! I need advice on how to ask for a raise and I know there are a million other posts about this, but there some peculiar circumstances about my situation.\n\nBasically I'm 23 and have been a customer support manager for 3 yrs with my company.\n\nI feel like I have all odds against me, and here's why:\nI used to be hourly and when I asked how to bill them for my overtime, my bosses basically punished me by switching me to salary. However, I received no raise and they didn't pay me for my freaking 10hrs.\n\n-our CEO has said \"everyone is replaceable\"\n\n-I left college midway through my bachelors and our CEO once said that I shouldn't earn $35k because I don't have a degree.\n\nNow I know that I should have examples of how I've helped the company profit, lead projects, etc. However, being just a customer support rep, my projects are a bit limited. I do know that I rock at my job and everyone aside from our CEO (don't know his opinion) has a high opinion of me. I have also been there longest aside from the founders.\n\nI'll also mention that my boss is the Director of CRM but I would be asking for a raise from the CEO.\n\nI make $35k but according to GlassDoor.com, CRM's in my area in my industry make $40k+.", "summary": "I have almost all odds against me and need advice for asking for a raise."}
{"id": "t3_2b1tfz", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Scolded at the dog park for leash pulling.", "post": "As I was walking to the dog park, my dog (Still a puppy) tried to pull on the leash. I kept him on a short leash and stopped walking. Whenever he tries to pull forward I stop and the walk doesn't continue until he comes back and the leash loosens.   \n  \nA woman saw me standing there not letting him pull and scolded me telling me I was doing it wrong and I'm going to end up with an aggressive dog if I continue to do that.   \n  \nI explained I didn't know how her dog was and that children had just walked by and I don't want him pulling or jumping on people. She insisted that I was treating my dog poorly and turning him into an aggressive dog. The ONLY aggression he shows is towards food. (new development...halp)\n\nI also had an arm in front of his chest when I was trying to get his harness off because he was jumping and incredibly excited to be at the park, she told me that would make him aggressive as well.\n\nAny truth to any of that?", "summary": "Random woman told me having a dog on a short leash makes dogs aggressive and to let them pull and don't hold a dog when taking a leash off because it too makes them aggressive. Truth to it?"}
{"id": "t3_4kpmdi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure if I [23/m] should break up with my GF [22/f] of 2 years", "post": "So i've been with my GF for about 2\u00bd years, and things haven't been going so good for the last 8 months. When things went really down hill, I got drunk and cheated on her, which we have been working on for 6 months now. Things are starting to look better, but we still argue every other time we are together. I'm just really fed up with the arguing, which I have been telling, not just saying I would break up about it. So it has reached this point where I'm really confused whether I should stay with her or not. I really like her company, and I enjoy being together, but all the arguing is really suffocating me. Its like we spent hours misunderstanding each other, and then hours arguing over some simple points.", "summary": "Arguing a lot with girlfriend, dont know if I should break up the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4ygn5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Opinion on (20F) never dating anyone?", "post": "I'm 20 years old and I've never dated anyone.  It kind of hurts me when people say, \"Wow, really? You haven't even kissed anyone?\" \n\nAnd the answer is no. Never kissed. Never loved and never have been loved. \n\nI don't think I could handle a relationship. I'd love to be with someone but I don't think anyone views me in that way. I've never had a guy even look at me in that way. \n\nThis might sound weird but I don't want to be a burden to someone? No one wants to date someone with daddy issues, and I have a few. I just don't think I can provide what other people deserve. I know what you're thinking, \"oh she sounds depressed\", nope just being honest! \n\nIt kinda makes me sad to see happy couples. I love that they're together don't get me wrong, but I envy it. No one thinks of me in that sense. I've always just been the good friend.\n\nWhat do you guys/gals think? Would you honestly date someone that had \"daddy issues\"? Any hope for me?", "summary": "not trying to be a sob story. Don't think I'm relationship material because of emotional issues and or people not looking at me that way"}
{"id": "t3_w1nq3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I bruised the head of my weiner... advice needed.", "post": "So I am seeing one girl who I would like to make THE girlfriend. She went away for family stuff, but is back tomorrow. I had a good night with a newer friend last night, and well, she bruised it solid... got pretty rough.\n\nThe soon-to-be girlfriend and I have plans for both tomorrow and Friday. Shit.\n\nSo, what's the smart way to navigate this?\n\nShould I cancel on her, and find some crazy excuse to delay sex until I'm healed up?\n\nOr should I just be honest about the situation? My fear is she will be hurt that I would fuck somebody else (she shouldn't be), but also I fear she would not want to be around a bruised johnson.", "summary": "Bruised my schlong. How to handle it with other women?"}
{"id": "t3_3l3qkr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend [23M] of a year and a half doesn't say \"I love you\" during sex.", "post": "First reddit post EVER here, so bear with me.\n\n My boyfriend and I have a fantastic relationship. We live together, are very open and communicative in our relationship and have a lot of fun together. He is not a quiet or shy guy in the least, and we say \"I love you\" frequently, but the few times I've ever muttered \"I love you\" during sex, he has never verbally responded. \n\nAny thoughts on this? Like I said, we have a great relationship so this isn't really keeping me up at night but I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem. Maybe he associates the act itself with love anyway and feels like saying it would be redundant? I've kind of stopped saying it during sex at all for fear of making him uncomfortable.", "summary": "My boyfriend has never said \"I love you\" during sex. I have a few times, but he never verbally responds."}
{"id": "t3_14fads", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As a 16yr old, what should I get my grandparents for Christmas?", "post": "I lived with my grandparents for the first 13 years of my life; they mean A LOT to me. I started working at Bestbuy this past October and have gotten quite a good amount of money accumulated in my bank account. I decided it was time that I gave back to the people that helped raise me. \n\nI have already bought my mother an electronic picture frame, still working on an idea for my dad but I'm completely stumped for my grandparents. After living with them for 13 years and now they have moved away across the country I tend to miss them a lot and I know they miss me even more. I want to really surprise them this Christmas with a nice gift but I'm stumped. I know you are all going to say \"Wow if you love them so much you should know what to get them\" but hey, I'm only 16 and I know there are redditors out there with a lot more experience at giving than receiving.", "summary": "version: Need a gift idea for my grandparents that I care very much about. Price isn't THAT much of an issue here, I'm willing to spend all I got if it means I can get one kick-ass gift for my amazing Nana and Baba :)."}
{"id": "t3_1ywzyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24/f) and my problem with overtexting", "post": "Hi reddit. I'm a longtime lurker, first time poster. So I have a problem. I have this tendency to overtext. Always with someone with whom I have a romantic interest in. Like a lot of other young people my age, I have tried online dating. Now, this is always fine at first. The problem doesn't start until we exchange phone numbers and begin to text. I tend to start to kind of panic after the person has not responded to my text within an hour. This leads to me sending them a barrage of text messages until they either ignore me altogether or tell me that they're no longer interested. Now, I am well aware of the fact that this is a problem and I NEED TO STOP. The problem is, I don't know how. I just get so anxious and I become convinced that I must have said or done something that makes it so that the person is no interested in me. I have anxiety issues, I know that. I guess that I'm just really looking for advice on what others do when they have this urge to text someone. How do you get yourself to stop?\n\nI just feel like I've destroyed so many potential relationships with this. Not to mention the fact that it's also destroyed existing relationships that I've had. Honestly, this is a problem. And I feel so stupid about it all. I really need to stop.", "summary": "Start flirting with someone that I like, then we start to exchange text messages and I overtext and scare them away."}
{"id": "t3_1ranmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Opened up a can of worms that I shouldn't have", "post": "So I(17m)been friends with this gir(19f)l for about 3 years and at one point it got serious but it wasn't long lived. Now this girl is beautiful really is but she is the most needy most constant center of attention that I can't handle it. I want us to be Friends but no more and she has diabietes and she is 110 but cried for a day cause she gained 3 pounds.I know I'm sounding insensetive but Its to much now.\n\n She is constantly going to the hospital because she might die and its a lot of stress on me every time. And I've told her hey I just am not looking for a relationship but she doesn't get it. So about a year ago she left moved and we kept in touch but I we stopped talking around 6 months ago, and I immediatly thought the worst.\n\n But now we are in touch again and I honestly wished we werent. I feel horrible to say this but its the truth and I feel that because of her shitty home situation she needs someone and I feel obligated to be that person as much as I don't want to as we speak I'm talking to her.", "summary": "Again this girl whom I really don't want to know is back in my life and I was stupid enough to bring her in. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_gtbzf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "TIR my roommate is a bad human and so I vent.", "post": "Background: I'm a liberal dude living with an uncaring dude in San Francisco.\n\nMy roommate and/or his girlfriend don't recycle in my apartment, despite keeping a recycling bin next to the trash can.  About two weeks ago I found an un-rinsed Prego jar in our garbage.  This prompted me to text him about it.  I am passive-aggressive.\n\nDerp: \"Do you guys not recycle? I can get a bigger bin if that's a problem.\"\n\nRoommate: [no reply ever]\n\nOne week later, I found an un-rinsed can of refried beans in the trash.  Three nights ago I found a *half-full* can of Diet Coke in there.\n\nI was feeling inspired (high) so I took out a pencil and some markers and drew this bad boy:\n\nI got really into it, which was refreshing for me because I haven't drawn anything with inspiration in a long while.  Added in Wall-E because he's a boss.\n\nI came home today to find my roommate cleaning in the kitchen, and to my mild-surprise, my piece of art was missing.\n\nDerp: \"Are you serious?\"\n\nRoommate: \"What?\"\n\nDerp: \"My drawing.  Where is my drawing?\"\n\nRoommate: \"That was a really douchy thing to do, man.  First you text about it, and now you do this?\"\n\nDerp: \"WHAT THE F---!  WHERE IS IT?!\"\n\nRoommate: \"There (motions to recycling bin)\"\n\nI went digging into the recycling bin in front of him, then into the trash to find it crumbled in a ball at the bottom (tossed out bits of trash here and there for flair).\n\nDerp: \"I AM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW!\"\nRoommate: \"yeah well i'm pi...\"\nDerp: \"I DREW THIS!\"\n\nStorm to room.  Exit stage.\n\nI'm going to look for a new place.  I've lost all respect for this dude.  Questions?  Comments?  Thanks for reading!", "summary": "My roommate and/or his girlfriend don't recycle, so I crafted an eco-friendly drawing to place over our recycling bin and my roommate threw it away and told me I was a douche."}
{"id": "t3_1f1wth", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog attacks other dogs when the other dog is touched... advice?", "post": "I have a 4 year old (recently neutered) male french bulldog that I rescued 3 months ago from a questionable breeding operation where he was used as a stud. Overall he is a very good dog, but we are having some dog aggression issues. We are able to walk past most dogs rather nonchalantly, and he doesn't lunge, bark or growl at other dogs. When he meets other (well behaved) dogs the first few seconds typically go really well. He will usually either sniff the other dog or just stand there rather rigid. He will lunge aggressively at other \"unbalanced\" dogs, but doesn't react to calm and well behaved dogs. We live downtown in a large city, so we encounter many dogs on every walk. \n\nOur big problem is that, when meeting other dogs on the street, if anyone tries to touch him or the other dog he will lunge and snap at the other dog in an aggressive way. This is even more of an issue because he is really cute so the other dog owner often tries to touch him while he is meeting their dog. If no one touches either dog then the meeting will often be completely uneventful. \n\nHe has yet to actually do any damage but it has made me wary of allowing him to meet other dogs. I also worry that people in the neighbourhood will think he is vicious (which he is not at all). He is very good with people and has never shown any aggressive or dominant behaviour towards a person. He is walked 4 times a day, so I don't think a lack of exercise is the issue.\n\nDoes anyone have any insight as to why he may be doing this? Any advice on how to stop him from doing this?", "summary": "french bulldog tries to attack other dogs if anyone touches him or the other dog while they are meeting"}
{"id": "t3_2jxtt0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because I had a boogie", "post": "Happen last night. I just drop this wonderful beautiful girl at home, but I must confess what happen during dinner. We were having a great time. Laughing and playing around. She was just as immature as I am. We were telling stupid jokes and all and when the waiter came by to delivery our food she mention the he looks like a gyarados from pokemon and I lost it. \n\nNow for the record I just got over a cold and my nose was a bit stuffy and I took some cold medicine which in turn dried my nose up. I felt the boogers were loose but I didn't blow my nose like a normal human being. With that said that hard laughter became my down fall. I felt this booger leave my nose and hit her French onion soup. The terror I felt when I saw the splash. The horror when I notice she didn't see it. The relief that I was in the cool. The panic of telling her what just happened. The disgust I felt when I watched her eat the soup. The fuck I gave afterwards because I cannot tell her what happened. I pretended nothing happen and continue our date. \n\nAt the end of the night she wanted a kiss. I told her I still felt the affects of my cold and said we will kick it another time. \n\nI will not be calling her again. Woe is me.", "summary": "I had a date with this amazing woman. She mad me laugh so for that a booger flew into her soup. Too scared to tell her. Watch her eat it all and will not be seeing her again."}
{"id": "t3_41my41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] have been asked to rent out a room to a [25 M] co-worker", "post": "A lot goes into this, but I'm gonna try to keep it short. *I don't really want a roommate, and 100% enjoy my freedom around my house*, but I'm a pretty generous, selfless guy nonetheless.\n\n* The guy was brought in with about half-dozen guys that are in a sober/recovery house. Some state-mandated, some voluntary. They have like a mandatory work-release thing, I guess. They're day-to-day and help out around the manufacturing plant. Great people, trying to recover.\n* The guy doesn't have any possessions (and probably money) to his name. (I have to check on a car.) \n* A manager liked this one guy, and wants to extend a full-time offer to him. I guess the manager likes his experience, work ethic, and attitude. (We've found a couple guys over the years that we've done this with.)\n* He would have to drop out of the program (he was voluntary) if he accepted.\n* If he accepted, it was suggested that I offer a bedroom in my 3/2 bachelor pad to him for a little while, until he gets on his feet.\n\nI would give the shirt off my back to anyone, but I'm struggling with this one. I'd be *less* hesitant letting a hobo/homeless (I know they are different) have the room! :(\n\n2 fears:\n\n* The job doesn't work out for whatever reason. Do I kick him out? Roommate agreement calls out he has to work at [employer]?\n\n* The job does work out, but he can't get his own apartment (either gross income wise, credit, background check, etc). Do I kick him out? Onto the street? What would coworkers think?", "summary": "Should I rent out a room to a co-worker trying to get back on his feet?"}
{"id": "t3_ykaqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ME [22m] and my ex [21f] just had a consensual break up but is it to soon to move on?", "post": "Our relationship lasted about a year and a half. We have had our up and downs, just like any relationship. We have decided to breakup because we know it would happen eventually down the road. The main reasons for the break up were religious beliefs. I am an atheist while she belongs to the christian faith. She is not a devout christian, however it has come into play before in our relationship. We are just young adults but we have talked about if we were to start a family how would the upbringing of kids be conducted (I was not thinking about popping the question at any point in time).\n\n Also she is a ballet dancer which means once she is out of school she will be moving all over the place and we both did not want to do long distance. We have had our share of long distance with summer vacation from school and things of the sort. None of these long distance occurrences helped the relationship.\n\nSo after breaking up only two days ago, I am feeling lonely. The void the breakup has left is hard to fill and I know with time everything will get better. I have a main concern. At what point is it alright for me to be with another girl? I don't really need sex. I am looking for someone I can start to really bond with on a personal level and even intimately be with even if that is just cuddling. I feel like it would help fill the void temporarily and it could lead to another good relationship. \n\nI am worried though if I do this I will be disrespecting my ex. I still love her a lot and we both have agreed to keep talking and attempt to have dinner with each other once a week. Yes this seem very odd but we know we cannot be together in the long run but we have built such a great relationship it is hard to just cut things off. We still mean a lot to each other and will always try to support one another.", "summary": "My girlfriend[21] and I[22m] just had a very consensual breakup. We both plan on remaining very good friends for as long as we possibly can. However, the breakup has left a huge void in my life. Is it alright to fill this void by seeing other woman so soon?"}
{"id": "t3_348z2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 F] with my friends older brother [16 M] caught me in an embarassing situation in his room?", "post": "Yesterday after school I was hanging out at my friends place, and she was taking a shower. I usually get really bored when im by myself. Her brother wasnt at home, think he was at football practise, and his room door was unlocked, so I was curious and went inside. \n\nWhile I was checking out his room I noticed his dirty clothes were all over the floor. I dont know what came over me but I was thinking I really liked the smell, grabbed some of his tshirts and boxers and took a smell. I think I was too busy doing that I didnt hear him coming through the front door, and he caught me.\n\nIt was so embarassing I literally wanted to disappear. I tried to say sorry but I think I was digging the myself even deeper. At first he was really confused but then he was smirking and raising his eyebrow the more uncomfortable I got. He was like, \"youre a naughty girl arent you\", and I was like \"please dont tell anyone about this im so sorry\", and after what felt like minutes he said \"alright, sure\" and I felt so relieved.\n\nBasically Ive been avoiding him since then. What should I do?", "summary": "Friends brother caught me smelling his clothes in his room, was so embarassing"}
{"id": "t3_1h0s3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16m] went on a double date today. She left early(will explain in text box) she hasn't responded to my texts. What do I do?", "post": "By texts i dont mean a mass sending of texts just 2 texts.We went to the mall today to just walk and get something to eat, we held hands hugged and were really playful. She was with her friend who was with my brother and for some reason her friend brought her little sister.\n\nHer sister had to leave early for a surgery(what I was told and if I remember correctly she told me that her friend's sister had to go to the doctor) and she said she'd be back but she called me and said they have to go too for support. \n\nNow it's understandable that my date had to go as well because her friend was the ride. I texted her after she left saying it was fine I understand. \n\nShe asked if we were leaving the mall I said yes and she said \"oh ok\"\nNow she isn't a enthusiastic texter and always texts short and breif messages. I texted back saying \"I enjoyed the time we had spent together though and I hope we can do it again.\" \n\nShe said yeah me too and then I texted back and she never answered. It's 12 am here and that was at 3pm. She's probably busy but I have a habit of fucking things up so Im just worried that it may be finished. Should I attempt to text her again in the morning or early afternoon? What should i take from this? Sorry for the long post.", "summary": "went on a double date, she left early with her ride because of a doctors apt. We texted for about 5 minutes then she never responded."}
{"id": "t3_4mphau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] really wants to talk with my ex [20F] after dating for 4 years, and she decided that she wanted to take a break", "post": "So my girlfriend and I had been dating for 4 years and some. We have never had any real issues before. Then about 2 weeks ago she decided that she wanted to take a break. One of the biggest reasons for the break is that this relationship was the only experience that both of us had, and she wants some other experience so she knows what she wants. Since then I have been non-stop thinking about her and I also get anxiety whenever I see a photo of her, a tweet by her, etc. \n\nOne of the most challenging things about this break has been not talking to her at all. I have been talking to this girl for over 4 years of my life and to be cut off and not able to talk to her has been awful. One piece of advice I would like to receive is that should I wait for her to contact me? Since she was the one who initiated this or should I try contacting her? If so how long should I wait before doing so? We also go to same college (we decided to go to the same college not because of each other but for our personal goals). We also live near each other but she has the job for the summer which requires her to live near her job which is about 100 miles away. \n\nAlso for those of you who may have been in similar scenarios, do you think she may feel the same way?", "summary": "Should I wait for her to contact me after initiating the break or should I contact her?"}
{"id": "t3_3gp0hl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M], still an undergraduate student but it's tough dating people who already graduated and are working.", "post": "So I'm 25, and I'm still an undergraduate student, about to be a senior. I took 3 years off because something happened in my life when I was 18. I don't regret it and I'm happy where I am right now in life.\n\nFirst I want to say that I am Indian, and I'm particularly interested in dating Indian girls mostly. However, where I'm from(San Francisco), like 99% of them expect a lot from a man and need them to be particularly stable when it comes to jobs and salaries. Most would look down at a guy who is still an undergraduate student and doesn't even have a job yet. Like literally all my friends have jobs now and are doing great things(engineers/doctors) while I'm still fairly behind in life.\n\nSo my question is this, what can I do to help myself here with my dating life? I have seen girls straight up ignore me once they found out I'm still an undergraduate. It's a shitty feeling but I can't do anything about it. Is there something I can do to help my cause? I'm doing well in school and I'm looking forward to graduating and joining the workforce but this dating life is just kind of a bitch for me, and it kind of always has been.\n\nAny guidance would be appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Still in undergrad at 25. Lowers my social value and thus girls don't want me. Need advice on how I can tackle this matter."}
{"id": "t3_23y84c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22 M] asked my GF [21 F] if it is alright if I ask her for blow jobs...", "post": "So after seeing a meme about girls on their periods giving their SO blow jobs to satisfy them while they can't have sex I laughed at the idea because my gf would never do such a thing. Currently we are long distance but we see each other for a few weeks a few times a year. So I asked her if it would be okay if on occasion I asked her for a bj, which she rarely gives in the first place. I didn't even mention the period thing.\n \n\nShe ignored my question and told me something about her sexually that isn't relevant to the conversation. We talked for a little bit while I was still wondering why she didn't answer me and so I asked her about ignoring me earlier in the conversation as she was getting off the phone. She blew up at me telling me she pretended I hadn't said that because the question is \"off-putting\" and I am making sex into something of a trade or commodity. I didn't intend to do that at all and obviously anything we do sexual is a personal thing between us so for her to say this hurt me. I told her that a simple no at the time of the question would have sufficed and she told me that if I didn't want to talk about it I shouldn't have asked.\n\nI felt like she made me out to look stupid in front of 'us' and now I don't really believe that she has ever wanted to do anything sexually to please me. We rarely ever get to spend time together so it's not like this is a question i'm going to be asking all the time. At this point however it's something I would never ask. I don't know how to tell her that this has made me very suspicious of her and if she loves me for selfish reasons or what.\n\nAm I being childish or is she because I know it's one of us?", "summary": "Asked my gf if I can ask her for bj when I feel like it she blew up at me and made me feel insecure."}
{"id": "t3_3xmwzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23 F] kind of been hooking up with a guy [23 M] 1 month, having trouble reading his intentions", "post": "A month ago I met a guy and we immediately hit it off. We do have a lot of shared interests, but we ended up hooking up the first week and the sexual chemistry is like nothing I've ever felt before. Now every time we hang out we have sex and I was ok with a purely sexual relationship at first, but some of his actions have got me second guessing myself. \n\nHe insists I stay the night, he likes to cuddle the entire time we sleep and for hours after we wake up, he always kisses me goodbye and randomly when we hang out (sometimes just on my head or hand), he always responds to my texts promptly and he sends me snap chats throughout the day while we are at work to wish me a good day. Hanging out is usually watching movies and playing video games with or without his friends. At the same time he rarely initiates texting, his texts are mostly one word, and we haven't been on a \"real\" date. \n\nI was content with letting this ride out in whatever direction it may since I was having fun, but when I left this morning I found a piece of a condom wrapper on a table in his room that wasn't the kind we have ever used. We haven't really had a talk about being exclusive and we've only been seeing each other for a month so I'm not upset with the idea that he is having sex with other people, but it really got me thinking about where the relationship is going. \n\nI'm not sure if it's too soon to have the talk, but I feel like we should since we are sleeping together. All of the (very few) other relationships I have been in were much more straightforward so I have never been in a situation like this. I really do like him a lot, I need some advice. What would I even say?", "summary": "I started hooking up with a new guy, found evidence that he was hooking up with other people too, and I don't know if/how to have the \"where is this going\" talk. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3svxhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17 f) boyfriend (18 m) for two months is choking me but not literally I NEED SPACE", "post": "So hi, I have a problem or maybe I'm making a big deal about this but whatever... so I have boyfriend, we've been together for 2 months only and to me he's just amazing and he taught me things like mature stuff, he's 18 and I'm only 17 but he's really experienced and nice and cool and beautiful and every other thing else but...\n\nSo I broke up(?) I don't know if thats the right term but yeah, I broke up with my bestfriend because she told me the guy was a bad influence on me and after that its like everything she says was against him and I was so angry so I told her that our friendship was over. And I don't have any friends now except for my boyfriend's bestfriend which is a guy and yeah so everything in my life now is linked with him and we're not fighting or anything its just that I feel like I can't breathe anymore, I need space, but as I said everything in my life now is connected to him. I love him but I need something to myself... its my fault in the first place, I let him own me but now he's becoming a bit strict and wants me to stay by him always and I'm choking, I can't breathe.", "summary": "my boyfriend (18 m) for two months is changing, becoming more strict and his strictness is choking me, i need space, but everything i have is linked to him"}
{"id": "t3_e6qnm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was injured and am now pretty much confined to a bed, can you suggest ways to pass the time?", "post": "Some back story: On a trip home on an airplane (my first trip) I was injured pretty bad getting transferred back into my wheelchair.  There was an ambulance, EMT's, the ER and a nurse that only resembled George Clooney until the drugs wore off.  There is a pretty big recovery time and surgery scheduled in a week.  After resigning from my jobs I'm stuck in bed at my parents watching daytime TV, surfing Reddit and eating pizza rolls being bored out of mind.  \n\nSo what I'm doing is trying to find games I can play with one hand since my one arm works.  Can Reddit recommend any?  I dominated Plants vs. Zombies pretty quick, WoW is pretty hard and unfortunately League of Legends is impossible which I used to play a lot.  I started Magic the Gathering Online but either my cards suck or I do, making it so-so.  But it's slow paced and is all clicking which is pretty great.  I'm looking for more stuff like that.  \n\nOhh, any TV shows too.  I've heard good things about Dr. Who but I don't know which version.  I've burned through my Simpsons seasons and Southpark.  \n\nAmy suggestions on killing time would be appreciated!  Thanks.", "summary": "Crippled guy gets crppleder and needs help killing time.  "}
{"id": "t3_sonj9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got my first car and someone runs a red light probably totals it, how does insurance work to cover it?", "post": "I am a little embarrassed to ask but I have never been in an auto accident before.\n\nI was making a left turn on a green light and then some idiot runs his red light, hits the car next to me so hard they spin out in front of my car barely missing it he still has momentum after hitting the first car and then hits my car.\n\nSo I call my insurance company and ask them several questions that they can't answer like \"Will my rates go up its my first accident and it wasn't my fault?\" They don't know so I ask \"Is my car going to be fixed or will I get a new one if its totalled?\" They don't know. So now I am stressed as hell because me and my wife really need a car and that was the first car I ever bought because I can barely afford a car!\n\nHas anyone gone through this or does anyone know what is gonna happen next?", "summary": "Idiot ran a red light, hit me, insurance company won't answer my questions. WTF happens next?"}
{"id": "t3_1nvbsw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] I need an opinion on how to handle my roommates chipping in for the house [22,22,23M]", "post": "About six weeks ago I bought a moderately priced couch for our family room under the assumption that others would also contribute to furnishing our house (ie. chairs, tables, etc.), and so far no one else has chipped in. I understand that money is tight, but I feel that I got a little boned. It's frequently used by all. \n\nThe issue I'm now having is that I want to move my couch into my room, as it would fit perfectly and make the space much more comfortable.  I've been somewhat distant with them lately, sometimes butting heads over petty issues, and I don't want to make it seem like I'd be moving it out of spite (although I do feel underappreciated).  And if I move it, there will be no real furniture in our family room, and they will definitly get pissed off. I don't want to damage our already shakey friendship.\n\nI don't have the money to buy another couch or whatever, so I don't know what to do. Any advice? Should I take it into my room until they contribute something?", "summary": "Is it wrong to move our only piece of furniture (that I bought) out of the family room and into my room?"}
{"id": "t3_17c1le", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] Boyfriend (21/m) thinks I'm not sexually attracted to him?", "post": "Hi,\n\nMy sex life with my boyfriend is a bit lackluster. We are both in school and we don't end up having free time until very late at night, by the time we are free, I no longer have the energy to have sex. \n\nI know that he doesn't like it, but we are very serious with each other and he's able to look past that. I am making an effort to change that and be more aware of our needs. However, he accues me of not being sexually attracted to him because I'm not aroused whenever I see him. He tells me that he is aroused whenever he sees me and probably expects me to do so in return. \n\nI'm not sure how to respond to that. But I told him that I am turned on a bit differently - by his touch in private. For example, I can't be turned on in a public setting because I'm not comfortable. This is how I truly feel. \n\nHe's a great person, we have tons of fun together and we enjoy cuddling very much. Whenever we do have sex once in awhile, we have a great time. It is just that, for whatever reason (maybe birth control), I am not often in the mood for sex. But is it really necessary to be turned on 24/7 whenever I'm with him? \n\nThank you!", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks I am not sexually attracted to him because I don't get a lady-boner whenever I see him, thus contributing to bad sex life."}
{"id": "t3_zff02", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Looking to lose 35+ lbs in two months.", "post": "**Background**\n\nI'm a 16 year old 6'3 male that weighs currently at 200 lbs.  I would say I'm pretty muscular.  My ultimate goal is to weigh less than 170 lbs and progress into my dream of parkour.  I'm pretty comfortable with my body as it is but like any person wants, I want to be fit.  I have all these muscles and they are just shrouded by my fat!  I would like some tips on how to lose weight fairly quickly while toning my body.\n[For Science] **Sorry about the pic.  It doesn't show my whole body but it was the only picture I had on hand at short notice!**\n\n*Here is what my life is day by day*\n\nI usually wake up, shower, usual hygiene procedures.  I grab a 90 calorie breakfast bar and book it out to school.  I get to school and grab a Diet Orange Crush (those things are so good) and sit in class for 3 hours.  I then get to my real school (I go to an institute for the first half of the day) and grab another snack bar and ~4 skittles.  After a couple of hours I go to lunch and usually pick 1 entr\u00e9e, chocolate milk and 2 fruits.  I then get home after more classes and either grab another snack and sit on my ass for a few hours.  After that I go and bike/workout for 1 hour and eat dinner.  Again, I sit on my ass and chill out for the rest of the night and proceed to eat snacks every few hours.\n\nHow could I change that lifestyle to lose weight quickly?  I'm already thinking of doing ~100 push-ups in the middle of the ass-sitting and snack consuming frenzy.  What could I eat/not eat to help me?  Any tips would be amazing, loseit!", "summary": "I want to lose weight quickly.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2c23bw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] cannot sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend [23M] and we are suppose to be moving in together permanently! Is there anything I can do to make sure I don't become a sleep deprived monster?", "post": "After little over a year of dating, I am moving to the East coast with my boyfriend (we are both working for the same industry) and officially moving in with him! I love him very much and I can't wait to start this chapter of my life with him.\n\nOf course, there is one fatal flaw to all of this: I cannot sleep with anyone in my bed with me. I am a veeery light sleeper. If anything moves in my room such as a cat, the blinds move, the door wiggles, I will wake up, no matter how deep of sleep I am in. Even though it sucks, I guess the silver lining here is I'll notice if there is a serial killer in my room before they kill me.\n\nThis leaves the problem of not being able to sleep when my boyfriend is in the room! He snores and moves around a lot, leaving me pretty sleep deprived in the morning. And when I don't get sleep a day or two in a row, I really am not a nice person to be around.\n\nIs there anything I can do to mediate this until I get used to having him sleeping next to me? Any tips for light sleepers who sleep with a partner? Or should we just cut out the middle man and get separate beds in different rooms? Any advice or tips would be appreciated.", "summary": "I cannot sleep with my SO in the room. Any advice or tips?"}
{"id": "t3_cn19o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, Help me appear older? I'm 21 (female) and I look 16.", "post": "Reddit, I need some advice. \n\nI'm a 21 year old female and I look like I'm 16/17. I can't stand it! I still get carded for R rated movies. And while I know that looking young will benefit me when I'm older, I want to look my own age.  \n\nI think it may have a lot to do with the way dress/present myself. So my question is, what types of things should I wear? How the heck to I make myself appear older? I see girls that are actually 17 years old and they look like they are 24! And when I try to dress a little more sexy (when I go out, not to work obviously) I feel like I just look like a 17 year old tramp.  \n\nSome other information; I'm petite (5'5' and 100 pounds), I have tattoos and piercings, and just so you have a visual here are three photos of me...\n\nWithout glasses   \n\nWith glasses   \n\nKind of a body shot", "summary": "I'm 21 (will be 22 in November) but look 16/17. I want to look more mature and sexy and less cute. Advice on how to appear older?"}
{"id": "t3_1k5hb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] think I hold too much value in sex. I think he [19M] doesn't hold enough. Help.", "post": "I really need to just get this out there and  hopefully get some understanding or advice out of this.\n\nOkay, I'm a virgin. Usually proud of it. Been saving myself for a boy I really care about etc. Recently I started dating this guy though and I'm just kind of lost with how I feel about it all. We both have different views on the matter. He says sex has different meaning to him depending on who its with. He says with me it would be a way to make the relationship more intimate but when I first said I wasn't going to give him sex he suggested he should have casual sex with others while staying with me.\n\nThis confuses me so much because I agree, it'd make the relationship more intimate but then if he'd have such casual sex with other girls just because I wasnt ready then how is it special at all? I feel like I'm not worth waiting for for him. Then at the same time I realise he still has his needs and I feel like a bitch for refusing him sex (from me or others). \n\nNow I get to the point where I just want to stop putting sex on this pedestal but at the same time I don't want it to mean nothing either. The fact that he's just so casual about it kind of tears me up and is something I'm working really hard to get past. \n\nThen there's the added factor (even though I know it shouldn't be a factor) that I still live wih my fairly religious parents and they believe I should wait until marriage. I feel like having sex with someone while living under their roof would be very disrespectful and betray their trust. Plus they always look so highly on me and I don't want them to be disappointed in me.\n\nI don't want to end up overthinking it for too long and then regret not experiencing what I could while I could but at the same time I don't want to regret having sex if I'm not ready.\n\nI apologise for the length and I doubt this makes much sense but I really needed somewhere to explain my feelings.\n\nAlso, should I crosspost this to /r/sex/ or no?", "summary": "I want to have sex but I don't. I feel like sex is too special to me and not special enough to him. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_40qhb4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] My Girlfriend (20/F) still talks about her ex and wants to be his friend. I'm starting to get annoyed by it.", "post": "So, my girlfriend (4 months together) keeps talking about her ex. Every time we see each other (or at least it feels like every time) she brings him up. Whether it be because he's liked her Instagram picture, he's sent her a Snapchat (everything he and she posts on their stories they also send to each other) or he's just done something she brings it up. \n\nI'm cool with them being friends and stuff, but earlier tonight I was with her and she brought him up because he posted to Snapchat, I sighed and started looking through my phone. Probably not the best way but it is what it is. Anyway she noticed and said 'It's fine, we're friends and that's all. We went out just before Christmas to get some shopping for his family and I finally realised that I don't like him like that anymore.' I dropped it and we went back to watching the movie - I didn't want an argument or anything. My problem here is she didn't tell me she was going into town with him (I'm fine with her seeing him, but I'd like to be told) but she kept saying she had no money to come see me but still managed to pay for the bus into town to see him.\n\nI'm torn on what to do. I love her, but I just don't feel like she's over him. He was her first (and only, before me) proper boyfriend and she mentioned that she never thinks she'll get over it fully because of that. I remember my first girlfriend and the only way I got over that was by blocking her for just over a month after around a month of just non stop thinking of her. Afterwards, I unblocked her, we haven't spoke but she's not in my mind anymore. I still have the memories but they're not there unless I think about them .\n\nI don't mind them being friends, but she talks about him way too much for my liking and I'm really not sure how to proceed or tell her how I feel without sounding like a dick and potentially sounding like I want to break up their friendship.", "summary": "Girlfriend still talks about her ex boyfriend too much for my liking. She still wants to be his friend. Not sure how to bring it up and deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_gzd32", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is a royal douche bag", "post": "Im tired of his bullshit, hes loud at all hours he complains like a little bitch he is the very definition of douche bag in a twig like body, he thinks hes better than everyone else and best of all according to him nothing is his fault and he is perfect in every way shape and form. Even better still he claims to be religious with super christian morals and shit, which hes not. I've sat idlely by and have somehow prevented myself from saying or doing anything, but today was the last straw. I dont want to physically harm him, or seek revenge, i just want him to get whats coming to him. Any suggestions on what i should do are welcomed.\nMore info upon request. \nThanks", "summary": "I hate my roommate and i want to get him back anyway i can for all the shit he's put me through."}
{"id": "t3_ueoz3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to get a tattoo but I want to do it right. What should I know? Where should I go? Any other tips?", "post": "I don't know any more about tattoos than the average person, and although I know of a couple places in my area (Twin Cities, MN) I wanted to ask you guys a few things.\n\nWhat should I know? By this I mean just general things people should know when wanting to get a tattoo. Price range? (I know it depends.) Good/bad colors? (I'm white, about average skin tone.) Cliche tattoos? (Common ones most don't know about... or something.) What are the best/worse or most/least painful places to get them? I'm not sure what else, just tattoo stuff I should know.\n\nWhere should I go? What are some methods of knowing if a place is good or not? What are some red flags I should look for? If you know the Twin Cities, what would you recommend?\n\nFor other tips, I'm looking for pretty much anything. Should I bring a friend or go solo? (I'm a guy). Should I shower beforehand? Any short-term or long-term care tips that I should know of? What are some relatively unknown hacks?\n\nAnother thing I'm curious of is how to go about a design. Basically, I want something with the [German] and [Irish] coat of arms intertwined somehow (something classy but modern) and the letter J above or below the German coat of arms and the letter M above or below the Irish coat of arms in some sort of script. Are there any websites or places I could mess with ideas?\n\nI'm also leaning towards my left shoulder blade for location, so big enough to fill that area but not be gigantic.", "summary": "Want to get a tattoo, left shoulder blade, German/Irish theme (heritage). Where should I go? What should I know? Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_2sh5bs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am worried about my long distance girlfriend [16 F] possibly having cheated on me", "post": "So I met this girl when I was hanging out with my cousin, about 5 hours away. We really hit it off, and she seems like a really sweet level-headed girl. After spending some time together there, and continued texting over the past month and a half we've gotten very close, and have decided to be in a relationship, as I visit there area every once in awhile, and I plan to attend college in the area, in about 6 months.\n\nSo, anyways, today she said she was upset because her friend was angry with her. I asked why, and she explained that her friend was angry because she attended a party a few weeks ago, and her friends boyfriend was there, and I guess they're in the same friend group. So anyway, she lives near the party, and walks home, but apparently her friends boyfriend was extremely drunk, and had nowhere to stay, and no way to get home, and she let him sleep on her couch (parents were gone). That seems pretty suspect to me, but then again, I definitely have trust issues, which is why I came to get the perspective of others.\n\nI guess I'm really confused, because if she had cheated, I'm not sure she'd want to tell me this story, unless the guilt was eating at her and this was her way of getting it slightly off her chest, without admitting the whole thing. She says nothing happened, and he passed out on her couch, but if that were true why would her friend be upset with her? She's a really sweet girl as far as I can tell, and I think she was just trying to help a friend, but I do have nagging questions. I think it'd be extremely out of character for her to not only cheat on me, but with her friends boyfriend, but then again, I've heard crazier stories coming out of nowhere on r/relationships. I guess there is no way to know for sure, and I have to either take her word for it, or not, but I guess I'd just like another view on it.", "summary": "Long Distance girlfriend let her friends boyfriend crash on her couch after a party, as he was too intoxicated to get home, her friend is angry with her for this, should I be too? This seems out of character, but does it sound like she's cheated, or has r/relationships jaded me?"}
{"id": "t3_3rvuaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my husband [33M] 5yrs, should i stay or go", "post": "this morning my husband had one of his emotional break downs. it woke up our kids and i kept asking him to stop crying and yelling but he wouldn't.\nin the past when he does this I try to hold him and calm him down. this time I had no sympathy. i am worried about our kids every time he does this. he also breaks things and yells ALOT if he's upset.\n\nthis time he was upset because he thinks im leaving. im thinking about it... and i have thought about this before.. i think that im just not good for him or something because he cannot control himself or his emotions.\n\nhe is a veteran 4 yrs out and we have been the VA to try to get him help. he doesn't think that his outbursts are hurtful to our kids.\n\ni think i could force him to go back to the VA but if he thinks what he is doing is OK then he will never change. \n\nmy question is.. when i look back on our patterns and relationship.. how fair is it to add up EVERYTHING that has ever happened to us? Should i only look at the past 6 months and make a decision based on that? we have two kids 4 & 1", "summary": "how much crazy should i put up with before i throw in the towel?"}
{"id": "t3_ulj88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a girl in love with a married woman. How to forget about her and move on?", "post": "This is going to sound so clich\u00e9d but I am desperate so here goes nothing...  I am a 23F, and I fell really hard for another woman (\"C\") who is twice my age, married with children. \"C\" and I felt a deep and immediate connection, but she viewed me more as one of her children, whereas I felt quite differently...  Maybe it was infatuation on my part, so my feelings would lessen over time? No, 3 years later and I still feel this way. \"C\" is the most beautiful person in the world, yet other people do not see it (aside from her husband I guess...)  I overheard some guys saying that she has an annoying laugh, but whenever I hear it, it makes me so happy I could cry. I get chills when she says my name.\n\nI love her so much, all I really want is for her to live a happy life with her husband (he better treat her right or else!). At first I tried to avoid her, but she sensed my awkwardness and fragility, so she tried to be friendly and act as a mentor/mother figure towards me. I thought maybe this friendship thing could work out, but it is true that you can't just be friends... I recently received an award, \"C\" wanted to give me a hug, and I nearly fainted when I felt her embrace. And as soon as I was out of sight I burst into tears, sobbing uncontrollably.\n\n\"C\" has shown me such kindness, but she has no idea what I have felt all this time, and she can never know. If she could just say or do something mean or cruel, then I could think less or her. But she will never do that. So I need to break this off once and for all. Honestly I think the only way is for me to meet someone else, but how do I do that? I have never been in a serious relationship before, so \"dating\" and the \"bar scene\" is extremely foreign to me. I really don't know where to start and I need help from people who know how to do this stuff. Thank you so much for your help!", "summary": "I need to forget about someone because there is no hope of a future with this person. How to meet someone for a **meaningful** relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_h0zmj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm starting to grow out of the \"t-shirt and cargo shorts\" look...", "post": "Pretty much I'm looking for a new style but I literally have no idea what exactly to wear. Also I'm looking for a hair style that'll go along with the new suggested style.\n\nI'm not into polos, sports jackets, or sweater scarfs, but I do like a classy look such as a button up with a vest and jeans.\n\nI don't want this to be confused with \"DRESS ME LIKE YOU, REDDIT!\" in that I'm not looking for people to tell me what to wear based on what they think looks good on themselves but I'm more along the lines of looking for what Redditors think I would look good in outside of just a t-shirt.\n\n This sadly is about the only picture I have where there isn't 3 or 4 other people in it that are impossible to crop out.", "summary": "Any suggestions for a new style/hair style with pics would be helpful."}
{"id": "t3_1bk9fo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] break up with someone [27M] I've met once?", "post": "So I met him on OkC, and we chatted online and through text for a about a month. I met him, and he seemed pretty good, got along, etc.\nLater that night he kissed me a few times, but then afterwards I got the strong impression he thinks we're in a relationship. It was a bit too much for me so later that night I texted and asked if we could slow things down, that I wanted to know him before committing to anything.\n\nSince then I've been thinking about it. I didn't feel anything when he kissed me, and wasn't keen on the hugs. At the end of the date he was starting to irritate me a little bit. I think I just like him platonically. How do I end this?", "summary": "Met a guy from Okc, not keen, I think he thinks we're dating"}
{"id": "t3_32r0sw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19f) boyfriend (21m) of 3 years, consoling to his ex that I don't like...", "post": "So earlier this week I've reminded him he cannot speak to his ex ( something came up where we talked about how she talked bad about us and has yet to forgive me) this probably contributed to the fact that he is now decided to message her because he is upset ( he never told me he was upset). I feel I am right in the fact that I don't want my SO talking or befriending the person who has called me and him whores and other very horrible names.\n\nHe messaged her asking if she ever felt like she just needed to get away from everyone and that's how he feels right now. I don't know how to approach this or even how to react to this and some outside advice might be helpful.\nAs far as I know he doesn't speak to her at all ( she is now his best friends girlfriend) and as far as I know he doesn't like her.", "summary": "Boyfriend is consoling to his ex whom I do not like and thought that he didn't like."}
{"id": "t3_3sa98h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] let a friend [17F] copy me during a test for one question, got it wrong, leading to both of us getting it wrong. She is pissed and blames me entirely for the mark she lost", "post": "Had a math test few weeks ago. The hardest, final question gave a huge mark. Although we are all separated, I gave a friend some help when she silently called for me. She glanced at it for a couple of seconds, then copied the working out, etc. She looked very pleased when she finished copying, even though it was IMPLIED that I cannot be 100% correct.\n\nAnyways, we were handed the test back just last week. I had an error in the working out, which led to the wrong final answer. This was not a careless error, in fact it was that the working out itself had the wrong method, leading to a whole lot of the mark (if I recall correctly) lost. My friend told me that I was \"useless\" for answering it incorrectly, and cost her her grade. Most of us are decent, and she got a slightly lower overall grade than me, but it was still satisfactory. Every time she would see me from that day, she would ignore me and constantly remind me of the test if I did decide to talk to her about it. I laughed it off and told her she was overreacting (along with my other friends), but now I am actaully concerned, considering it's been a few days.\n\nShould I just ignore it? I'm really not sure what I should do at this point. She does overreact sometimes, but not to this extent.", "summary": "Helped friend out during test, both of us got that specific question wrong. She is very mad and claimed that it cost her a huge mark (which it did). Still won't let go after four? school days."}
{"id": "t3_32mmkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend (16M) started to ignore and just disregard and berate everything that I say after he got in my (16M) high school soccer team.", "post": "We've been hanging out with each other since we met in 9th grade last year. He was actually a great friend when we met. However, like the title says, his demeanor towards only me changed for the worse. Other people from our circle of friends, including the ones from our team, haven't really changed or have changed for the better. What do I do? \n\nThe thing is, I would totally understand if he was just trying to fit in with the team. But, when we happen to be left alone at the lunch table, he just puts earphones on or he puts his backpack on the table to separate us. I have no qualms about ending the friendship, but I would like to keep as many friends as I want.", "summary": "Friend gets into soccer team. Starts a acting like an enormous douche nozzle."}
{"id": "t3_3qpd3a", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Just fucking reset the router will you?", "post": "This tea shop has the perfect position between my place and the bus stop, so I come there for a takeaway almost every day. Tea is great, service is not terrible, except for the afternoon shift server.  \nConstantly giving me dirty looks for taking time to choose? I don't care. Give me the opened straw? Fine, I'll get another myself.   \nBut today I sat in to write an email. Wi-Fi limited, fucking Windows 10. I was the only one in the shop so politely I asked her to reset the router. She sent a glare, \"nope, you must've had the password wrong\". Well shit.  \nGiving up on the little prick, I went on my phone and to tplinklogin.net, it was a blind shot but I got it anyway. Username 'admin', password 'admin'. Lazy people make the world easier eh? I changed the SSID to roughly 'NoonShiftWaitressHasShitAttitude'. Still the same password but I also changed the router's name so they'll have a harder time changing the public ssid back. Can't wait for tea time tomorrow, I still haven't got to try 2 flavors there.", "summary": "op changed tea shop Wi-Fi name to server review because revenge.  "}
{"id": "t3_31jm70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23m] and my friend[23f] had drunk sex and now she won't talk to me", "post": "So friday evening I went to the local brewery to have a few\n\ndrinks. An hour later, my friend decided to join me. We've\n\nknown each other since 7th grade and I love her to death. \n\nBasically, I like her a lot but I have a feeling she doesn't \n\nfeel the same. I've told her before but she just seemed to \n\nshrug it off. Anyway, we got pretty drunk at the brewery \n\nand our friends took us home. I was in no shape to drive \n\nso she insisted I stay at her house again(I've slept there \n\nbefore but nothing happened). I was so drunk I don't even \n\nremember getting in my car, much less going inside her \n\nhouse. I know that I fell asleep as soon I laid on her bed \n\nsince my friend who helped me took a picture of me \n\nasleep. Idk how long after that, but I suddenly felt something really warm on top of me. I was starting to \n\nwake up until she grabbed my crotch and aggressively \n\ntold me to take my pants off. It went from there but the \n\nnext day she told me she didn't know what happened. She \n\nsaid she doesn't remember having sex, which I think is bs. \n\nShe kept saying how she trusted me and how upset she \n\nwas even though she initiated it. Now she barely talks to \n\nme and I'm wondering if our friendship was really affected \n\nby this. Any advice?", "summary": "Me and my friend had drunk sex and now I'm worried about our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_2txnaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF[24 F] broke up because she's in love with someone else.", "post": "It was always a rocky relationship - on and off over about 3 years. Some of it long distance.\n\nI tried to be open to her but she always seemed pre-occupied with her own problems. It seemed like a one-way street - always about her, never anything about me.\n\nMy beloved dog had surgery, and was posted on FB. She didn't say anything. Now I know why.\n\nShe was seeing somebody else. Infatuated for 6 - 12 months with somebody else. \"Emotionally attached\" to him she calls it. \n\nI'm left holding the can. Empty. Lonely. Sad. Cant even be friends given the anger, and its really \"my fault if we cant be friends\".\n\nI'm depressed. I know I will eventually get through this, but the pain right now hurts.", "summary": "She cheated. Doesn't want me."}
{"id": "t3_24e0ih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] am really sensitive and clingy in my relationship with my girlfriend. [20F] how can I help myself?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now. The first 3 months were great, there were no problems. Now however, I guess after the honeymoon stage, I am becoming way more clingy and sensitive with my girlfriend. I am constantly worried about what she's up to and I feel like if our conversations aren't \"good\" that there's something wrong. \n\nToday we were together and she said that she couldn't go out for coffee later because she had a lot of homework. (We are both in college) I feel like that if she asked me to coffee, I would say yes even if I had to push some things around. \n\nI feel like I make her my first priority while I'm not her number one priority. \n\nEverything that's negative in our relationship can make me sad and it can even be something little. How can I help my self before it really affects our relationship? I really like her and I want to be with her. I have no intentions of breaking up. I am just tired of feeling sad.", "summary": "I am sensitive and clingy and I feel like I'm not my girlfriends first priority while I am her first. How can I help my self to save our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1t5i8y", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Frustrated -- Need help losing weight after years of trying and yo-yoing", "post": "Throwaway here.\n\nI'm someone who's generally on top of everything, except for my health. I've been trying to lose weight for the past two years (all my life really, but only very seriously these past two years). I feel stuck. I'm an undergraduate and each semester I put on 15 pounds (on a 5'4\" female 175lbs). Over long vacation breaks I am able to lose 10-15 pounds. But when I get back to school I put them back on. I've just finished my fifth semester, my fifth cycle of this yo-yo.\n\nI've tried various things recommended in this subreddit, from low-carb to paleo to keto to trying to just eat \"healthy.\" I've calorie counted and I've not calorie counted. I've read Michael Pollan and spent time educating myself on nutrition. I've run six miles weekly, I've done zumba, I've done weightlifting. (I've been able to maintain exercise habits for months, so it's not a commitment issue.) I've read the FAQ many many times and follow /r/fitness /r/xxfitness /r/progresspics /r/getmotivated among many others.\n\nFor me, what's tough is the diet. I get major disassociation when I'm in the dining halls of my college (swipe-in buffet style). I'll suddenly find myself with a second plate of food I didn't intend to eat, and I can't stop myself from eating that second plate. I find myself eating things I don't even enjoy, and I can't stop myself when I'm in this process. I feel like the thoughts running inside my head are so different from right before and right after I'm in the buffet-style cafeterias. I binge eat when I'm stressed or depressed which is often during university but not often during vacations. When I cooked for myself this past summer, I was much better at limiting my intake and successfully lost weight.\n\nI can't stop re-gaining weight and it makes me feel lazy, useless, and a failure. Reddit, am I stuck a hopeless loser (gainer)?", "summary": "Keep gaining weight during school, tried a lot of things and feel stuck, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4h0l7m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving through a puddle.", "post": "Driving home from college today I encountered a stretch of wet pavement on an other wise dry street. Now, it had not rained this morning so I was a bit puzzled. I remembered however that the town's DPW was right off to the side of the street (the opposite side I'm traveling on). So I figured the water must be hose runoff, from the DPW washing their trucks or whatever. Given the  position of the sun, the water looked like it was just wet pavement, and I made the split second decision to not slow down. So I keep traveling at about 40mph on to what I perceived as just being wet pavement, oblivious to an old woman walking a baby carriage on the side of the road, right next to this wet pavement. As I,m driving by her I feel my car slow down, and the steering wheel isn't responding.  \n\nI realize that I'm coasting: I've driven into quite a large puddle, going pretty fast. My car stays straight, but kicks up an impressive wall of water.Time slows. It is in this moment I notice the old lady with the baby carriage, infant inside. It all happened in slow motion, as I watch the wall of water I had so ignorantly created fly towards this old woman and her young grandchild. The lady had an absolute look of horror on her face as the water soaks her and her grandchild. As I continue driving past them and out of the puddle, my eyes are glued to my rear view mirror. Watching her check the soaking wet baby carriage, I feel like the meanest, dirtiest, most careless person in the world. I turn my eyes back towards the road, certain I had just guaranteed myself a spot in Hell.", "summary": "Splashed water on an old lady and a baby by not being a careful driver."}
{"id": "t3_2lxm4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF [24M] of 2 years just broke up with me [26F], life is falling apart and I need someone to talk to", "post": "Earlier today my boyfriend of 2 years broke up, he says he no longer has any feelings for me.\n\nI did see it coming, a little bit, but I denied it and convinced myself I was imagining it so it took me by surprise.\n\nI feel horrible and I can't escape it, I need to talk to someone but He's the one I would go with things like this. \nI can't sleep and I can't eat and I feel like I'm going to throw up.\n\nMy life was a mess even before this, I started my own company little less than a year ago and it's going downhill.\n\nI don't know if I'll be able to pay my rent. If I work 24/7 I might make it, but I'm so tired and stressed out.\n\nI'm also voluntering for a student organization and have undertaken a huge responsibility this year that also demands my time.\n\nI can't back down from that without fucking everyone I know over.\n\nBefore the breakup I was barely keeping it together but I had my boyfriend for support (though I never told him just how badly things were going).\nNow I have nothing but a thousand things to deal with, and my motivation to do anything at all is completely gone.\n\nI'm worried about my future social life, we both moved here from far off, met at the university and started our studies at the same time so ALL our friends are mutual.\n\nI want to just go underground and hide and do nothing but I have no time to process this. I have so many things I have to deal with and I'm so tired.\n\nI know it gets better, I've been here before, but I can't handle this alone", "summary": "BF just broke up, life falling apart, have no one to talk to."}
{"id": "t3_bghf9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where can I find some tasteful porn?", "post": "Okay, this is my situation:\n\nI am dating a 20 year old girl (I'm 19) who has never had sex before.  I have had a past relationship where I did all things sexual for the first time, so I am not a virgin but my new girlfriend is.  She trusts me very much and is very open minded and is a lot of fun and we have had lots of oral sex with each other but she is scared to have sex because she doesn't want to get pregnant.  Her and I will go talk to her doctor about birth control, but that is beside the point.  \n\nHer and I were talking and she was saying how she is embarrassed that she is inexperienced and doesn't know much about being sexual.  I told her that maybe she should watch a porno (she has never watched porn before...) and she said, to my pleasant surprise, that she would love to watch 'a porno' with me, and we can try some of the things that we see!  I know that it would be easy to find any kind of porn in 2 seconds but I am not looking for regular garbage porn, because most porn involves a stupid story line with terrible acting, lots of foul language (e.g. \"yeah fuck my ass\") and then the guy jizzes all over the girl's face.  I think these things would really turn her off and would not be interesting to her (for her first time).  \n\nI am looking for a porn that is not so foul, but something at least mildly tasteful.  I think the biggest thing I'm trying to avoid is foul language because I think it would be the biggest turn off for her.", "summary": "I need to find some porn that isn't foul and degrading to women"}
{"id": "t3_hnl72", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Questionable 13 yr olds", "post": "I have a 13 yr old son, who is on again/off again with this little girlfriend he's had for about a year.  I can tell this girl is headed in the wrong direction.  She \"goes with\" my son for a month or so, then switches to one of his good friends.  I have also heard from one of my other children, who is one year younger, that this girl has done \"gross stuff\" with another boy, and asked yet another one if he wanted to try it.  I'm beginning to think this girl may be sexually active.   My son has also told me that, yes, she has tried some stuff, but he's trying to help her not be like that.  I don't want to freak out over this, because I know that could possibly make him want to be around her more, but damn.  It's not his job to \"fix\" this little girl.  Should I give her mother a call?  I can't imagine how I would react if someone called me with info on my daughter like that.  I really have no idea what do do in this situation.  Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "My 13 year old son is hanging around a really fast little girl, and I'm tripping."}
{"id": "t3_483end", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] Me [24 M] and my SO [22/F] have been getting in fights every day for the past week over really petty stuff.", "post": "We've been together for about a year and 2 months now, we usually get together really well but this past week has been really bad. \n\nIt seems like every single day something that would otherwise be really petty gets turned into an inflated argument. She got sick on Monday, and has been in a salty mood since then. \n\nLast night, for example, we went to the symphony and wanted to do dinner first. The place we went to had a 50 minute wait and the show started in about an hour and a half, which made her start on about how every place was going to be like this and how I needed to find somehwere to go. We ended up finding a place, but then at the symphony we go to grab a drink at the bar. The bartender asks me what I want for a whiskey drink and I say 'whatever's cheapest'. She gets embarrased and storms off, later arguing with me about how I'm not being classy and sophisticated. \n\nThese are just a few examples of stuff we've argued about this week and I'm literally at my wits end. I can't take another day of walking on egg shells around her and I'm not sure what to do about it. We talked briefly last night where I told her that I was just trying to go out and have a good time, but she wanted me to ' take the lead' and be more 'sophisticated' in settings like the one we were in.", "summary": "SO and I have been arguing about petty stuff all weak, I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do to normalize relations."}
{"id": "t3_30bnsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of over a year, want to try an open relationship", "post": "We have been dating for over a year. We are each others' \"firsts\". We are confident about a future together. But we are both inevitably curious about what sex and physical involvement feels like with other people. \n\nWe want to try opening up the relationship to physical/sexual aspects with other people. We love each other very much. We have a timeline for how long this would last (months at the most, and also during a transition period for us because of geographical reasons).\n\nIf we have explicit rules and completely open and honest communication could we make this work? We are very analytic people, and have tried to think about the situation from every angle. After the \"open period\" is over we would go back to just sex with each other and continue on as always. We would also still be in a relationship with each other during this time period, but sexually involved with others as well.\n\nBasically I'm just looking for input on how to make this work as well as it can. As far as I am concerned right now, he is my forever. But that doesn't mean I'm not sexually curious. He is curious as well. We are also interested in engaging with people of  the same sex.\n\nP.S. Don't tell me I don't love him enough. The one person I told in person, a close friend, accused both of us of not loving each other enough and looking for loopholes. We are committed to each other long term. We just want a short sexual exploratory period as well. She said it wasn't \"normal\" but I think every relationship is different. We are unconventional. But crazy in love.", "summary": "How can we make an open relationship work?"}
{"id": "t3_z8faq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25m, 25f] Is it ever possible that the classic \"I don't want to be in a relationship right now, I need to find myself\" line isn't always the death sentence it seems to be? [Brief]", "post": "I've seen too many walls of text here. So short and bittersweet:\n\nI met a girl who is currently 9 months removed from back to back relationships that spanned the last ten years. She said she doesn't want to be dependent on a man right now and needs to find out who she really is for a while. She also said she does like me and we talk/text about 4 hours a day, everyday, for 5 months. Some physical intimacy, but not intercourse has happened, though we have discussed it. Somewhere between FWB and no labels right now.\n\nI like this girl far and away more than I've liked anyone my whole life. But what she said sounds like what 99% percent of the time means no real in-depth relationship will ever exist. At least when most gals say it. So, should I give her time (willing to wait) or give up?", "summary": "Doesn't want a relationship, though not much has changed. Known 5 months. Give up, or not?"}
{"id": "t3_ryolb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reason enough to break things off?", "post": "Try to keep this short. My SO came home from work a few hours ago, we got into a fight over something silly and he called me a cunt. Not in a joking way. We've been together for 7 months now and known each other for about a year beforehand. I'm 22F and he's 24M. \n\nIn the past he has said other degrading things to me but I ignore them and tell myself that he does it in the heat of the moment when he gets angry but now I feel like I've had enough. \n\nRedditors, is it right for me to feel this way? His anger shouldn't give him a reason for him to say these things right? I've grown up in a verbally abusive household and the last thing I want is to end up with someone who's also going to verbally abuse me whether it be when he's angry or not.", "summary": "SO called me a cunt while we were arguing, I'm thinking about breaking it off - don't want to spend my life with someone verbally abusive. Thoughts/advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1snxjs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Antidepressant Side Effects during Exam Week! What should I do?", "post": "So, about two months ago I was prescribed wellbutrin XL 150mg to combat moderate/severe depression. At first it was working great. I felt my mood lift up and I had lots of energy for the first time in over a year and a half, but then just recently (about a week and half ago) I started to suffer what I believe was an allergic reaction. I got a rash, incessant pounding headaches, fever, hot/cold flashes, sweats, nausia, sudden fatigue, and indigestion. Since I was on the lowest dose 150mg, and had only been on it for a couple months I looked up the half-life and found it is around 24-25hours from a source online. I did the math and figured that it should run its course in a few days. This week was the beginning of my exams in university. I am in electrical Engineering and due to the depression I suffered all last year, my GPA dropped from 3.4/4.0 in both my first two years, to 1.95 in my third year because I could find any drive or will to go to class, study, or pretty much live in any semblance of a normal healthy life. This put me on Academic Probation and my school has a policy that if one is put on Academic Probation, one must redo all courses which I either withdrew from, failed, or got a D/D+ in. This amounted to 5/10 of my courses from last year. This year I have been trying to redo these courses and I have been progressing better, but I have still been suffering from depression albeit in a more mild way. I have missed many assignments and quizzes due to lack of will and a depressed state. If I do not get a C- in my courses my school will kick me out for minimum one year before I can reapply. I love engineering, but the depression has made it so hard! Now, with the recent side effects I cannot study, or retain information and can hardly remember basic facts anymore(confusion is a common side effect). I don't know what to do and I need help! Please someone, give me some advice on how to proceed....", "summary": "Depression ruined my previous year, I have to redo courses, now my meds are acting up in the most crucial time(Exams). If I don't do well, I get kicked out of school and cannot reapply for minimum one year."}
{"id": "t3_36k55l", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Willpower] I can't convince myself to do anything!!!!!!!", "post": "I'm very depressed recently because i've been beating myself up over my mistakes/failures.  \n-I signed up for the gym and started a diet.  Gym lasted 3 weeks, diet lasted 1.5 months.  \n\n-I received a large income tax check and told myself i'd put X amount in savings and not touch it.\n\n-I told myself that when my wife got her promotion to full-time we'd start saving money again, and not be broke all the time(I have <5$ to my name right now.  -450$ in bank)\n\n-I told myself that i'd spend less time on the computer/reddit and more time with my family.\n\n-Told myself I was going to learn Java programming\n\nThe advice I need is:  How do I build will-power?  These are all things that I really want but I just...can't.  I need help and i'm finally admitting that these things are all my fault, and not the banks, not my wife's, not work's, but MY fault.  \n\nI've come to terms that my problems are self-caused and i'm ready to start the repair/rebuilding process.   What are some baby steps I can take?  Not necessarily for my goals per say, but for my OWN will-power.", "summary": "i'm a lazy fuck who gives up when shit gets hard.  How do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_33bab9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My[21/F] boyfriend[21/M] won't stop bragging about this achievements.", "post": "We're both University students, and he had coordinated a fantastic cultural show this year at the beginning of February.  He also designed shirts for all the people who helped out, and the shirt also looked great.  He did an incredible job at planning the show and making the shirts, and I am super proud of him.  However, its been almost 3 months now, and he still brings it up at least once a day on how awesome his show was.  He'll even interrupt people when the conversation topic is remotely related to talk about how great his show was.  I would compliment and praise him on his performance every time, but lately, I've started to get really irritated with him and I would think to myself, \"does he really need to bring the attention back to him, even though the conversation is barely related?\"  \n\nEarlier, I spoke to him about it and said that he should stop bringing up the show and shirts so much.  Him constantly bringing it up is getting irritating.  But immediately he got angry and upset with me, saying that he lets me talk about things that make me happy, why can't I let him talk about the things that make him happy.  I think he took it at a personal attack or that I'm not proud of him, but I really am, both the show and tshirts were great.\n\nI don't know if I should have brought it up or just continued to let him.  I had planned the same show the year before, so maybe I was just resenting out of jealousy.  But he also does the same thing about his new job.  He currently works at a large software company while also attending school, and whenever anyone brings up the topic of job, he has to tell everyone that he works at this said software company. \n\nI'm wondering if his actions are normal and that I'm in the wrong for calling him out, or if it's not and he's trying too hard to boast or fish for compliments.", "summary": "Boyfriend planned a fantastic show in February, but three months later, he is still talking about it everyday.  He got mad at me for calling him out.  Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_1lqnij", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Low confidence & not much of a social life, looking for help on getting out there and meeting girls?", "post": "Hi Everyone!\n\nI guess a little info about me first would help things, I'm male, 19 and from Essex in England. I left college last year and I'm now in full time work, so my weeks are taken up by that, Monday to Friday 8-6 every day. \n\nObviously that means that during the week I don't get out much as I'm either too tired, or I can't stay out that late as I have to be up for work the next morning. So my evenings are usually just me playing my Xbox with a few friends online, which occasionally is fine, but not every day.\n\nI try and get out at the weekends, I have a car so I can drive to almost anywhere, but I don't have too many friends. I find it hard to trust people so I only have those that I do trust close to me, usually me and one friend go out most weekends, just shopping or for a drive etc.,\n\nMy problem is, I haven't had a girlfriend in way over a year, and as I don't get out a lot, I don't see myself meeting anyone. I suffer from low confidence and I am quite shy so it's difficult for me to be brave enough to meet new people. I know that I have a lot of time to live my life and find someone, but I think this is what I want at the moment and is an outlet for me other than work. Gives me something more to live for.\n\nI'd just like people's tips on getting out there and meeting people, doesn't even have to be just women, even new friends would be great. I'm willing to listen and try what people say. \n\nI've been told that I'm generally decent looking and I try to take care of myself and my appearance (can provide photos if needed). So I think if anyone has any tips on gaining confidence and what to do to meet people it'd be great :)", "summary": "Low confidence, want tips on meeting new people."}
{"id": "t3_2bhnkd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Want to move family possibly overseas, any advice?", "post": "My wife and I have been casually talking about moving our family overseas (to Europe from USA) for some time now. We have two young daughters (age 2 and 6 months) so we figured if we relocated while they were still young it would give them more time to adapt.\n\nBiggest questions are: how do we transport our belongings in a cheap-ish way? We plan on selling off a sizable portion of our things prior, but as far as furniture and large items are concerned, best method for moving those.\n\nSecond, finding employment. What are the chances of me landing a job before we move? Are there restrictions on companies hiring foreigners? \n\nWe've given ourselves a two year timeline to really organize everything and make some concrete plans. I was just wondering if anyone here has done this before and had some success tips. Or, if anyone knows of some specific resources I could look into.", "summary": "moving family to Europe from US...how do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_39dx80", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex[F 21] has doubts about us. Me[M 22]", "post": "Hi! To keep it short. \n\n.\nMy ex and I broke up a few weeks ago, after it came to surface that she had doubts about us. \n\n.\nShe says that she can easily see us married and with kids when we are 40, but can't seem to picture the in between years. She says a big part of her wants to fight for our relationship, but a small part keeps nagging her with doubts. I am her first everything. She says she doesn't believe that \"a first boyfriend being the love of her life\" could ever happen to her. **Can anyone better explain what she is not saying, if anything at all? Maybe other things that may be on her mind?\nAnd finally, can anyone explain this all to me a in layman's terms, so I can better understand all this chaos? Thanks!**\n\nFeel free to share similar stories!\n\nWe had a great relationship. We are pretty much the same person. Last thing she said was that I am everything she pictured a perfect boyfriend to be (good listener, deep conversations, laughing at her jokes even when she's told it a million times, spontaneous, understands her, she feels most comfortable with me, can be her self, etc...) and that she doesn't understand why she has doubts, but that she hates herself for it.\n\nI have initiated no contact, and she is going abroad for the summer. \nShe still wants to be friends, but obviously that isn't an option because I am still hurt by it. We'll see how it goes when I am completely over her. \n\nThanks for the read :)", "summary": "Broke up with my ex girlfriend. She says she has doubts."}
{"id": "t3_3iyil5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my Wife [27F] for 5 years, she doesn't want children, I do. Stay or leave?", "post": "It started about about two year ago, her sister has children and after looking after them a couple of times small comments would be made about how good life was without children. \n\nAbout a year ago these comments escalated, and I confronted her about it after a period of childish behaviour on my part. I started giving up on our relationship and we weren't intimate, I didn't speak to her and everything was \"fine\". After a couple of months of this we started talking and we decided that we where at a crossroad in our relationship and went to a couples therapist and she found out after two sessions what we basically already knew, she doesn't want kids and I want and recommended that we part ways because I would most likely blame her for giving up my dream of having my own family.\n\nI'm seriously thinking about just going with it, and giving up on thoughts of having children. Has anyone here been through the same? We work very well together other than this one thing really, but it's such a huge one thing.", "summary": "The title sums it up, would also like to hear from people who stayed or left in a similar situation."}
{"id": "t3_j7qrm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girls of Reddit: Do you ever feel offended when you are part of a group that's referred to as \"Guys\"?", "post": "A lot of times, where I work, I am the only girl in a group of people, meetings, social gatherings, work softball games, and someone will say something and refer to the group as \"guys\"\n\nExample: Was at a meeting and it ended so the man leading it said \"Ok guys, we'll see you all next week.\"\n\nI never notice this but a lot of the times whomever would say \"guys\" would correct themselves and tack on \"and girls.\"  \n\nI feel as if the term \"guys\" when speaking to a group of mixed genders is fine.  I don't find offense in it all all because I think for most people \"guys\" has turned more into a term just to describe a group of people not just males specifically.  What do you think?", "summary": "People who refer to groups of mixed gender refer to everyone as \"guys\" offensive or not?"}
{"id": "t3_42uf1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [25, F] of 7 years left me [24, M] and I don't know how to cope or start over...", "post": "I fucked up and drank too much and was being irresponsible.  When I wasn't drinking, we had fun and laughed and loved and were great friends as well as lovers.  We were very compatible.  But eventually addiction destroyed that and now I'm having an impossible time moving forward.  \n\nI want to believe she'll take me back one day, but when I look back on all the bad, I feel that may not be the case.  I miss her, but I know I need to move on to better myself.  Any advice?  Also, I'm terrified of her dating anyone else because I know it will happen eventually.  But this was my true companion.  Idk.  This sucks.", "summary": "I fucked up a good thing, how get over and stop feel?"}
{"id": "t3_20ibto", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing my hands", "post": "Technically it was yesterday, but whatever.\n\nI was getting ready to go to football (Gaelic) training and was still carrying a slight knock/niggle to my hamstring that was bothering me. No problem, I thought. A combination of Deep heat and Tiger Balm rub would sort out that pesky hamstring.\n\nI applied a decent coating onto my thigh and threw the rest of my gear into a bag and got ready to go. But first I decided to go for a bathroom break. After I drew my meat sword and did the deed, I tucked everything back into my thermal shorts and headed for the door.\n\nLittle did I know, my torment was just about to begin.\n\nIn the car journey to training, I began to experience a tingling sensation on my thigh. No problem, I thought, that's just the Deepheat and Tiger Balm kicking in. Soon it spread up to my nether regions and the tingling became stronger.\n\nBy the time I was out on the pitch, my balls felt like they were slowly burning, but with a strange tingling accompanying said burning sensation.\n\nWithout a doubt, the most pain/damage I've ever inflicted upon my boys, and that's saying a lot for someone who spent a lot of nights alone browsing the darker areas of the internet.", "summary": "Goodness, gracious, great balls of fire!"}
{"id": "t3_53hxsg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] love my GF [18 F] of 9 months, and I know she loves me, but she has severe emotional problems.", "post": "My GF absolutely loves me. She wants to see me every chance we get, she constantly texts me, and I just know she loves me. I love her too. But she has emotional problems. She feels unloved and uncared for if I do something that will limit our time together. Example: I don't care about her because I recently took a job at a haunted house so I will not be able to see her as much. She gets extremely upset if I don't text her back quickly enough. She jumps to see who texted me when my phone goes off, to make sure it's not another girl. I tell her that she's being unreasonable for feeling unloved, and I'm the monster calling her names because she confided her feelings in me and i'm supposed to make her feel better. Is loving someone enough to make it work?", "summary": "My GF has severe emotional problems, but we love each other. Is loving each other enough to make a relationship work for the long run?"}
{"id": "t3_50z8e7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [19f] has the libido similar to a robot. I'm [19m] struggling on what to think.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend (of 6 months) have a somewhat normal sex life. I have a out raging stupidly high libido that you'd think a 19 year old dude would have, and she has a pretty normal one, I think. I've known that this can be compatible through proper communication. What is weird is I have never initiated sex before. She can't be turned on. She says she's attracted to me, and when we do have sex I think it goes really well. When we first started dating, it used to be once a week  *on the dot*, seriously like the same day each week, same time, same place. Now, sometimes it can be a random 2 week break, nearly even 3 weeks where there is no mention of sex.  \n  \nThis is weird right? I've asked her if there's any reason why she's sporadic in these decisions and I get something similar \"We would have last night if we were home!\", then that usually feels encompassed by guilty sex that night that I am always declining at first because I want her to feel comfortable with it and feel she's just doing it for me.    \n  \nShe has never masterbated before, doesn't know how (at least that's what she's told me). She's had plenty of experience with one other long term relationship (almost abusive but she got out before anything bad) and a few shorter ones.  \n  \nShe has told me that she doesn't know what turns her on, she doesn't know how to turn herself on, and I've tried every trick in my book over the course of 6 months to help her figure that out but she isn't having any of it. Sometimes I end up a little frustrated with myself because I feel like I can't get her in the mood and when it's been almost 3 weeks. I don't know if that's a sign of me or her. Am I experiencing incompatibility, or is something that can be worked out? How will sex be later in life if I'm never able to initiate it myself with her?", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't know what turns her on, or how. She's never masterbated nor knows how but has plenty of experience with intercourse. I can't initiate sex. She has weird on/off libido."}
{"id": "t3_1sg6s2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27f] return my exBF[29M]'s things?", "post": "My ex bf and i broke up a month ago. I begged for a week, then went no contact after. Before i went nc, we had a fight on how i would return his ipad back. He wanted me to mail it, i wanted to meet up.\n\nSo now, after weeks of nc, i decided not to meet up. He was a jerk. He treated me like crap after break up and he was really mean and insulting. \n\nHe made me unfriend all his family and he unfriended our mutual friends. Even his college friend who had initially set us up. This college friend is husband of my friend.\n\nMy friends told me not to contact him and wait for him to contact me if he wants to get his ipad back. I really dont want to contact him too, but i dont want him to think that i dont want to return his ipad. My friends dont want to give him his ipad because they are pissed off at him cause they think he is immature. \n\nSo what do i do? Do i wait for him to contact me? Or should i just text him a short message asking for his address? \n\nI feel like i will lose the last of my dignity if i contact him first. Going no contact has helped me a lot because after begging i felt like i lost my pride. But im afraid that he might text me something nasty saying why dont i want to return his ipad. But i am really just waiting for him to contact me first. \n\nHe had been working abroad and just came back last week i think.", "summary": "i have his ipad. Do i contact him first to ask for his address so i can mail it to him or wait dor him to contact me."}
{"id": "t3_31co2t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend(23m) wants to take a break from relationship with me (22f) after 4 years. How do you take this the right way?", "post": "My boyfriend has been studying a lot and has been mildly depressed latels. We have a LDR but we were going to come together in one city in January.\n\nAnd now he wants to have 15 days to himself to think about things- weather or not to break up with me , and today is day one of NoContact. \n\nHow should I take this? Should I feel offended (because I do) or should I try to fix ther relationship?  Nothing major has happened. No fights, no nothing, just a decreased desire for meeting him on his side, and when I try to bring it up , he says he is tired.", "summary": "How should one take the `lets take a break` talk after 4 years? Should I protect my ego and after 15 days of him wondering weather or not he wants to be with me, should I break up with him or try to fight for the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1gnjh4", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "World of Warcraft petty revenge", "post": "If you don't have experience with World of Warcraft, this makes no sense.\n\nThe issue: I was running Looking for Raid with some friends as tank, and everything was fine. But then, the other tank would insist on taunting unnecessarily, and casting Hand of Salvation and Hand of Protection on me, in order to drop all of my threat, so he would constantly have threat.\n\nThe revenge: As a Death Knight, I have 2 taunts. I waited for both to be off cooldown, then taunted whenever he taunted, and instantly dismissed the Hand of Salvation and Protection whenever he casted them on me. \n\nThe result: I ended up having threat for the two last bosses, and solo tanked them both while the paladin tank sat around being useless, shouting obscenities.", "summary": "Annoying World of Warcraft player gets a taste of his own medicine."}
{"id": "t3_rn1x9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most assholish thing you've kept secret from others?", "post": "I'll start:\nI have blood type O negative; for those who don't know what that means, I can donate to anyone. However, I and people like me can only recieve from other O negatives. This makes my kind of blood very valuable because in hospitals, when there isn't enough time to determine a patient's blood type, they simply inject him with O negative and there is never a negative reaction (that I've heard of). \nNo one knows I have this blood type. My parents never made me do the test, for some reason; I did the test myself with a DIY kit, so no doctor knows, either. Anyone who asks gets told I have AB; the universal recipient who can only donate to other ABs. \n\nNow for the douchebaggery:\nI do this so that no one will ask me to donate blood. I know I will be badgered; I knew a guy who had O negative, but who was really nervous about blood donations. Someone found out, and he was treated horribly until he gave in.\nI tell anyone that asks that I have AB (not many have asked) because no one will ask to donate that blood, since it is almost useless as a donor. The worst part? I don't get nervous about it. I don't care about blood, or needles, or whatever. I am completely eligible. I am aware I could save lives, I know it's pretty damn douchebaggy. I just don't feel like ever doing it.\n\nI figure I'm pretty ok too, in the reverse case. If there is no time to check my blood, I'll just get O negative. If they do check, well. I'll be found out, but I guess that's a small price to pay for getting saved. In the chance that someone says I have AB and I get the wrong type, oh well. Irony.", "summary": "I hide my O negative blood type so I won't be asked to donate."}
{"id": "t3_2sno2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24/M) roomate(23/F) gave her boyfriend(23/M) a key to our suite without asking.", "post": "We've been living in a two bedroom basement suite for 5 months and get along great. She has a boyfriend of eight months tha comes around every one in a while, which is cool- he seems alright, but we've exchanged maybe a total of seven words.\n\nLast night I heard him come over when I was in bed, and unlock the door from the outside. So I'm thinking she has given him a key, without even asking, which I feel a little uncomfortable with.  \n\nIs that a normal thing form a roomate to do? Or should I confront her about it?\n\nShe technically rents the room off of me, and I rent the whole suite off my landlord. Basically everything in the place belongs to me(save a few trinkets and her desk) if that helps.", "summary": "roomate gave boyfriend a key to our place without asking"}
{"id": "t3_3zf1qn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by downing a bottle of vodka and waking up with no belongings.", "post": "As with most fuck ups this actually happened a few months back rather then today. It all begin on my second day of Uni. The night before we had started pre-drinking too late and when me and my mates arrived at the club we weren't \"giddy\" enough to enjoy it.\n\nTherefore someone had the brilliant idea to start drinking at 6pm the next day to improve upon this and leave for the club at midnight. During the evening I had been drinking pints of this watermelon/vodka concoction that a friend had created as well as consuming various other beverages. It was around 10 when I noticed my bottle of cookies and cream liquor left untouched due to it's horrific taste. However due to my new-found inebriation it started to taste amazing. So naturally I downed the bottle of that.\n\nIt is now 10pm and I don't recall any events after this. I have been told what occurs next.\n\nAt this point I was quite bubbly and a Scottish friend turned to me and says in a heavy accent. \"I dare you to drink this vodka like I do!\". His method is the classic \"Chasing method\" where he will gulp some vodka and then some coke and wait a period of time before repeating. Being the confident drunk I am I grab the bottle.\n\n (Point of information: I can open my gullet and often down drinks.)\n\nThis bottle is just over half full so probably around 600ml. I bring the bottle to my lips and 5 seconds pass by. The bottle is empty. I hit the floor a few minutes later and an ambulance is eventually called. \n\nThanks to my friend who stuck her fingers down my throat and scooped out watermelon/vodka puke and for another for lending me her bucket.\n\nI awoke the next day in hospital with no phone or wallet or key or shoes. I lied there thinking two things. \n1. This is just like the hangover. Wow. and \n2. Did I get mugged?\n\nMy parents were called and apparently came to visit my unconscious self at 4am.\nMy belongs we're kept by my friends and I spent the next day feeling very rough and ashamed.", "summary": "Downed most of a vodka bottle and woke up in hospital with no belongings."}
{"id": "t3_4a3thn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my ex-gf [21F] 6 years, been 2,5 months, cheated on me.", "post": "Hello guys,\n\nJust wanted to sort things out how i'm doing so far. I've been in a rebound relationship for a month but cutted that of soon as i realised it was just a rebound and i can't drag my problems to another relationship. \nI totally went no contact after my ex cheated on my @christmas eve. At first i had a though time, couldn't sleep, eat, train or name anything. So this one is for all you heartbroken grills and boys, time DOES heal.\nOfcourse i received some drunk texts and some texts to start a conversation, but i ignored all of them. The best thing i did was going no-contact instantly, this is also the best tip i can give for people going through infidelity. \n\nI'm really enjoying my life right now, could be some more productive though but nobody is telling me what i can or can't do. Going to cityhop this monday btw. \n\nThe only thing i haven't been able to is to see my ex in person, i avoid her at all costs as i don't know how i would react.. I honestly don't have any hatred for her but i just don't want the fresh wounds to tear open again. But i'll come to that point sooner or later i guess. Actually i sometimes have to remind that days passed by without thinking about her, that's a good thing.\n\nThe reason i post this is first of all to list things up how i'm doing so far but mostly; Reddit/r/relationships helped me for like 60% through this hard time. It helped me to read some updates what after a breakup, at first everything seems so dark and you don't think you can't heal from it. I know i'm not fully recovered and decided to let dating rest for a while, once i'm ready for it again and handled my own emotional bagage i'm going to pick up dating again. Actually it's funny girls have understanding that i'm not looking for a girlfriend but more a FWB.\n\nGoodluck to all of the heartbroken!", "summary": "Slowly recovering after a bad break-up, time DOES heal."}
{"id": "t3_2ammij", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/m] can't have arguments with my girlfriend [21/f].", "post": "We've been dating for almost a year and two months. She's not a confrontational person at all, so any interaction that has a slightly negative tone to it really bothers her. She'll get very quiet and I'll know I've hurt her (or come very close), even if it's something very small. I grew up with two older brothers, so arguing was just a part of life, and I don't see how a little argument can be such a bad thing to her. For example, today we disagreed about the offside rule while watching the world cup final, and after a few minutes she became very quiet and I felt terrible, like I'd started attacking her. We don't have many reasons to argue in the first place so it doesn't happen often, but when it does happen it always ends with me feeling like a scumbag.\n\nWe've always stressed the importance of communication in our relationship, but her reactions make it hard for me to say what I really think sometimes. I just want her to be assertive, fight back, get a little mad sometimes instead of just being hurt. Am I crazy?", "summary": "Anytime my girlfriend and I argue, she becomes hurt and I feel terrible afterwards even if the argument was tiny."}
{"id": "t3_211we9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [50F] and I [56M], married 8 years, still have trouble agreeing on what radio station to play in the car! Help!", "post": "She likes new \"country\" which I generally dislike, and I prefer classic rock, which she generally dislikes. \n\nI liked country when we were dating, but the genre has changed into something else. She says I changed, when I say the genre has changed.\n\nShe seems to think it's ok to change the station to country whenever the mood strikes, but when I change it from something that I especially dislike, she has a fit. She has a never-ending list of excuses to change it, and I have a limited list of artists (i.e. Carrie Underwood) and sub genres (country rap!) I invoke to change it.\n\nShe'll change it for a long list of artists, the first hint of static, a commercial, or she'll just make a BS excuse to change it.\n\nI try to grit my teeth as much as possible and let her listen to what she likes, but I feel she doesn't afford me the same courtesy.", "summary": "How do other couples decide/compromise/agree on what radio station to listen to in the car?"}
{"id": "t3_41qlru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (33/F) can't stop thinking about him (35/M) and I don't know what to do.", "post": "On mobile, so I apologize for any typos!\n\nSo, here is the deal. I met this guy several months ago and we really hit it off. However, we've only been seeing each other in a romantic sense for a few weeks. We haven't labelled anything yet though, but I'm not too concerned. We have AMAZING chemistry and get along super well. We also either hang out or talk every night and we even text each other throughout  the day. I just can't seem to get enough.\n\nThe problem is the in between times, I can't stop thinking about him and it's super distracting. I'm having trouble concentrating and focusing on normal stuff. I feel completely useless, because my mind is constantly wandering. What can I do to clear my head and not feel so consumed by this relationship? And I know what you're going to say and I do that plenty. Yes, we've had sex.", "summary": "I'm probably in love way too early and I feel sick and distracted. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ha1cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am about to start school with my boyfriend [18M] and I'm wondering how to bring up spending less time together", "post": "Don't get me wrong, I adore my boyfriend, let's call him S. S and I have been together for about a year, high school sweethearts of a sort. He's one of my best friends and at this point we're considering marriage. I realize we're really young and anything could happen, but I think we have some potential. We've been really lucky over the past few months in being able to spend a part of almost of every day together. I love being around him and he's a great guy. \n\nSo here's the problem. I'm going to school to become a veterinarian, which means a LOT of work. He's going to a different university in the same town, so we're at least close to each other. But honestly, at this point, school is absolutely my priority. I love S, and I definitely want to stay together, but how do I communicate that I need more time away from him to accomplish my goals?\n\nI think it's a little too harsh to tell him that he comes after school. I don't even know if that's true. Thinking about this confuses me and I don't want to harm our relationship in any way. Help!!", "summary": "I'm about to commit to a lot of schoolwork, which means less time with my SO. How to I communicate the need for more time away from him without hurting him?"}
{"id": "t3_4ixh1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] just got dumped by my girlfriend [19 F] of almost 3 years, first long term relationship breakup, how do I get used to it?", "post": "So I'm 21, and for most of my adult life I've been with my girlfriend (19), we were fine, didn't have much drama, and up until three weeks ago (apparently) looked set to have a standard future, looking at getting a house, family etc. \n\nWell today I found out she didn't feel the same way anymore, and I think it's how out of the blue this was that has made this so difficult. I didn't see it coming at all. \n\nI've been so used to being in a relationship, and got so comfortable, that this is a shock to the system. I've lost contact with friends (some were fake friends, others have got girlfriends and are currently in the honeymoon stage, we talk occasionally and meet up like nothing's changed but we're not as close as we used to be) and have a holiday booked to go away in less than two weeks.\n\nI just want to know if anyone else has been in this situation because I've never been in a relationship over 6 months before this, and now I'm single for the first time after 2 and a half years.\n\nHow do I sort my head out? I feel broken..", "summary": "GF of 2.5 years dumped me, how do I get used to being single and sort my head out?"}
{"id": "t3_1ux85b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M], my girlfriend of 4 months [20F], and my bestfriend of 3 years [20M].", "post": "So I'm fairly new to reddit and the community is great, so I found this sub today with the hopes you guys can help me out with a problem I've been dealing with lately. \n\nSo here it is: I have been together with my girlfriend for about four months now, however we have been friends for about three years (I've been wild about her the whole time, and have just recently just broke the \"curse of the friendzone\"; go me right?!). For the sake of this post remaining anonymous , we'll call her Jill. \n\nAnyways, so probably a year and a half ago I introduced Jill to a very good friend of mine (also for the whole anonymous thing we'll call him Bob) Bob. The whole length of this friendship Bob has known I've been crazy for Jill because we've talked about it many times, and the only time Jill and Bob ever really interacted in person was when I was the intermediate.\n\nThis all changed back in august however when Bob and I moved in together, now he's seeing a lot more of Jill and their friendship begins growing. Keep in mind, Bob still know I'm crazy about Jill, and Jill's starting to show sings that she's feeling the same way about me. \n\nSo now Jill and I are together, we have been since late september. She stays at the apartment all the time and honestly I feel like our relationship is great; we both agree we've never been happier. However Bob shows, at least what I pick up as obvious signs of interest in Jill. He's more excited when Jill walks into the apartment than I am, and always strikes up conversations with her; he even now texts and snapchats her more than he does me. \n\nShould I bring up my concern with either Jill or Bob? Or is this just something that would be better kept to myself and see how things play out? I'm really at a crossroads here and really would appreciate some advice or words of encouragement, especially because usually either Jill or Bob are the ones to be providing me with those comforts.", "summary": "Introduced my two best friends to each other, then started dating one of them. Now my roommate/best friend is showing signs of interest in my girlfriend and I dont know what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_1rz2f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [M29] is singing to a sold out show on Friday (2000+ people) and doesn't want me [F28] to come.", "post": "Please, tell me if I'm being unreasonable here.\n\nThere's a popular rock band in our region and they're performing in our area on Friday to a sold out show. My boyfriend went to college with a couple of the guys in the band and they've asked him to \"open\" for them on Friday. He was also asked to open for them on Saturday for a second show in a neighboring city. \n\nOriginally, he was going to decline the offer because he gets major anxiety playing in front of bigger crowds. Normally, he just plays in local bars/clubs every once in awhile for fun. He talked to the guys about being hesitant but they convinced him to do it, so now he's going through with it. He seems a lot more relaxed/comfortable with everything now. \n\nSo I was super excited for this Friday, especially since his buddies gave him a couple of tickets for front row seats (for me/friends), which were NOT cheap. However, he's asked me not to come. We've been together for over a year and I've never seen him perform. So I REALLY want to be there to support him but he refuses. He says he'll be a nervous wreck if I'm in the crowd because he'll be focused on me the entire time. \n\nI'm extremely disappointed and hurt. I don't even know what to say. I felt like this was a wonderful opportunity to finally see him perform and he's taking it away from me. My friends are still going though from the sound of it.... so I'm sure they'll record his performance but that's not the same.\n\nAm I being selfish? What can I do to put his mind at ease before Friday so that he'll let me go?", "summary": "I've been told not to come to my boyfriend's performance on Friday because he'll have anxiety issues if I'm there."}
{"id": "t3_3fhmqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my SO [20F] of 5 months, lied about my virginity and she says she doesn't trust me about \"important things\"", "post": "I had never seriously pursued relationships until one day in March at the age of 20. Due to this, when I met my SO a few weeks later, I was a virgin. Now, I was very nervous about being 20 and a virgin, so I lied about it, and said that I wasn't. However, as I realized that my SO and I were about to start a serious relationship, I told her the truth about how she was my first. I was deathly afraid of being rejected because of it.\n\nWe got past it and everything seemed to be fine. However, one night she asked me if I was messaging anyone else when I first messaged her (we met online). I told her the truth--that before I met her, I had set up a date with a mutual match from another website, but never ended up meeting her, which means my SO is the only one I've seriously dated.\n\nShe told me this makes her sad because she feels like she is second choice, or that I was being unfair, as she only chose to met me, and I was simultaneously planning to meet two women. I should mention that my plans with the other girl fell through before I ever met my SO in real life.\n\nBecause of these two issues, she has recently told me that she doesn't trust me about \"anything important\".\n\nWhat can I do to fix this, guys? My SO and I are deeply in love I trust her with my everything. She has told me that \"you are my whole life\" and that she loves me more than anything, but still she can't completely trust me and this makes her sad and \"feel bad\".", "summary": "lied to my SO at the beginning of my relationship, how can I gain back her trust?"}
{"id": "t3_2wln7u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having good dental hygiene.", "post": "This morning, while getting ready to go out for my lecture, I did my usual routine of brushing my teeth, flossing and using mouthwash.\n\nUnfortunately, this morning I managed to mess up this routine. \n\nI was able to traverse the first two tasks without incident, and so I had no reason to doubt my ability when it comes to gargling. I believe this led to my downfall.\n\nI must have been gargling with some ferocity, as I managed to get some mouthwash in my right eye. Not only did was I in considerable pain because of my now-stinging eye, the shock of it made me gulp, causing me to swallow the mouthwash - leading me to have a coughing fit.", "summary": "Turned myself into a coughing pirate."}
{"id": "t3_ztux7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex-wife still appears to have bank account registered at my address. Is this a potential problem?", "post": "Here's the skinny: got divorced 4 years ago after 8 years of marriage, 3 happy, 5 miserable. It ended after she f***ed a friend of a friend. It was good riddance to bad rubbish. We have not had any contact, direct or indirect, since. Right after the divorce she went to the UK and has remained there (I'm in the US, FWIW she's American)\n\nFor the 1st year after, I still got the occasional piece of mail for her. I would forward these to her mom, with an addendum to please update her address.\n\nA month or 2 ago, get a letter from the bank. I opened it without really looking, and it turns out to be a replacement debit card. For my ex. I think about what to do with this, and decide to just destroy the card. \n\nSo then a mutual friend advises me a day or 2 ago that she's pissing and moaning on FB that the bank have sent another card, apparently (and I quote) \"Guess where?\" So it looks like there's another debit card heading this way.\n\nMy question is, should I be a good guy and contact her to find out where to send the card and tell her to change the fucking address on her bank account? None of my friends in the UK know her actual address (that's another fishy fucking thing, word is she's in the UK having overstayed her tourist visa) so I would have to contact her or the ex-mother-in-law.\n\nCan she legally retain bank accounts at the former marital address? Is this fraudulent? Should I contact the bank or just cut up card #2 when  it arrives?", "summary": "ex of 4 years had a replacement debit card sent to my house. Twice. I'd rather not contact her, so what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rvsy3", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Need advice on what to say to her.", "post": "Hi everyone,\nNeeding some advice on this situation I am in. I 22M have had feelings for my good friend (21F) for the last ten months. We been friends for the last four years and have attended the same college and have worked at the same place as well. So last March I started having feelings for her but I was working 55 hours a week along with going to school full-time so I never told her about how I felt and thought that maybe it would go away.\n\n Then, three months later in June, after my classes were done and I had free time I told her how I felt and that I thought we would be great together. We are both down to earth, like the same things, known each other for years, study in the same field, and have multiple commonalities and the obvious chemistry. She stated that she didn't want a relationship but said that she found me attractive; but in deeper conversation she mentioned that I make her feel less significant and I'm not sure what that means.\n\nAnyways, we continued to be friends still working together, being in the same classes, and hanging out. We both quit our jobs in mid-October due to management and co-worker problems so I saw her less, but still saw each other every day in college. I finished up college in December and haven't seen her since but we have texted throughout the winter break. I still have feelings for her and it has only grown for the past ten months. I don't want to use our friendship as a tool to get a romantic relationship because it just seems to make me selfish but I do want to tell her how I feel about her. So what should I do? I want to tell her and understand the \"insignificant\" part she mentioned and move on from there and I think it's time for the truth to come out.", "summary": "\u2013  I have feelings for my good female friend that I have known for four years. I asked her out she declined but I still can't get her out of my mind since she was a big part of my life. Should I just discuss how I feel to her again after six months?"}
{"id": "t3_54pv7j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Regarding Student Loans", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster. \n\nI have a moderate student loan debt. I created two spreadsheets; one calculating the amount of time it would take to pay them off if I used my card (maxing it out a total of three times, and going over 50% of my limit for the duration of the rest of the time) which I use for little else, and which has an APR of 20.05%. The second was if I were to pay off the debt directly with the loan company, assuming the interest was about 3.76% annually (which I Googled, so that figure may be WAY off. I don't have access, currently, to my online account, so I can't check). \n\nPoint is, it would take two years LESS to pay it off with my credit card according to my (probably incorrect) calculations. \n\nMy question is: which would be better for my absolutely abysmal credit score? Either way it's going to take until at least 2028 to pay off with my current salary (I'm working poor and probably staying that way for a while). I'll be free of the last of my personally-accrued credit card debt in July if I don't choose to pay off my loans with my card (which, tbh, I'm not even sure I can do). So... any suggestions would be incredibly helpful. \n\nThanks for looking.", "summary": "Which will boost my credit score: paying off my student loans with my credit card or paying them off directly with the loan company?"}
{"id": "t3_328vwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) have a crush on a girl (16F) who knows Iike her but thinks of me as a brother.", "post": "so basically I have this crush on a girl that is in my youth group for church. the youth group and I all grew up together, but since the past year, we have gotten really close. we all hang out together and talk with one another. sometimes we go camping together. we are basically a big family. the thing is...some love has been goin around with 2 people liking each other or 2 people dating each other. like I said, I have a crush on this really cute girl who I talk to occasionally. at first i thought she was annoying, but now i just think she is really cute and very outgoing. i think what sparked my crush for her was when my mom kept telling me how cute she is and that I should marry a girl like her. before all this, she had a thing with my best friend which everyone knew about...EVEN MY MOM. she would say stuff like \"you should ask her on a date, but wait nvmd she's John's girl.\" but I guess \"John\" ended it a while ago. so she got all depressed which pretty much showed she had feelings for him but now shes ok. (a part of me still thinks she does)\n\nso ya thats the little background story. I actually told her recently that I liked her and she said \"ya im sorry I dont think of you in that way...I think of you as a brother\" which honestly does break my heart but at the same time tells me I should move on. it does irritate me a little though. But because we are such a tight nit group I am going to have to keep talking to her as if nothing happened. we only see each other twice on the weekends (fridays and sundays) and are in close proximity to each other. so its not like school where I can just completely ignore her. i understand I cannot be with her and that I should just move on...but I am wondering is there still a little hope? like will she eventually like me? is there any way out of the brotherzone? or is it just 100% impossible?", "summary": "a girl I was crazy about thinks of me as a brother. I know I should move on but is there any hope that I can get out?"}
{"id": "t3_tl65a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One of my best friends has a step-brother that may have killed someone recently. how should i go about reporting this?", "post": "**PLEASE** keep this off the frontpage! I was talking to some of my friends the other night and one of them told us about his step brother was back in town. apparently him and his drug-dealing wife are hiding out at my friend's house after the step brother and his buddy may have killed someone. the story i was told was something along the lines of \"the buddy was talking to a girl online for a while and arranged a date. buddy took step-brother along on the date for some reason and when they got there it turned out the girl was actually a gay man. so they took the rational step of beating the man to death.\" at first i had no idea how to react to this. after a few days i began thinking about it again and told someone about it and she suggested that i make an anonymous tip to the police. i believe it is the right thing to do, and i want to, but i have a few reservations about doing it. first, i have no idea if this is actually true, and i was thinking about googling news reports from step-brother's former location, but i have no idea where he used to live or even what his name is. my friend may know, but i am not sure i want him to know that i reported his step-brother for murder. i'd prefer to keep the whole thing as anonymous as possible. secondly, i am afraid of the repercussions if someone finds out i reported him, and third, i don't want to tip the police off unless i actually know for sure someone died. murder is a serious accusation and i do not want to make it lightly. what should i do??", "summary": "good friend's step-brother may have committed murder and i am not sure how to go about reporting it as i have little information on the events."}
{"id": "t3_3oay55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend group [mid 20s M&F] are tired with how a new addition dresses. Trying to solve the problem without offending friend [24M]", "post": "My SO and I are in a small friend group of two other long term couples and our single friend, Ethan. Ethan is as great guy and a very loyal friend. We met in college. He also has a thing for \"quirky\" girls. His relationships tend to burn out quickly, usually in a couple of months, and almost every time it's a relief for the rest of the friend group. For example, his last girlfriend thought it was cute to act like a cat. She would randomly knock shit off tables (even in restaurants and bars) and if anyone said anything about the mess, we were making a big deal over nothing and she couldn't help that she had cat mannerisms. It got tiresome quickly. I hope you can understand why we all greet his new relationships with a \"what are we in for now\" mentality.\n\nEthan had been dating his new girlfriend for a month when we finally met her. She seemed a little overdressed, but she was very nice and funny and seemed quite normal so we were all excited for Ethan. Then I added her on Facebook and saw her pictures. Let's just say, this girl dresses in a very over the top elaborate style, and was toning it down quite a bit when we met. It is very attention grabbing. As we've started going on more outings with all of us together, it's clear that she dresses this way very frequently. Everyone is constantly looking at her frilly dresses when we walk into casual bars, and she takes up room on the bus with her fluffy skirts. Sometimes we just want to go out and have a fun time without this girl turning heads because she dresses like a weirdo.\n\nI finally asked Ethan if she could tone down how she dresses when we were out together. He immediately got defensive and said he loved how she dressed and would not ask her to change. It seems like such a small change that would make us all feel more comfortable. I don't want to cut Ethan out of our hang outs, but we are tired of how this girl dresses. How can I approach him with this?", "summary": "My friend group is tired of our friends quirky girlfriends. How to approach?"}
{"id": "t3_4gazto", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [22 M] met a [20 F] and we connected over both having lost a parent suddenly in high school", "post": "Has anyone ever used common grief as a way to initially connect with someone? Some people connect and meet through mutual groups, mutual interests, but has anyone met or connected initially through grief?\n\nI was on a plane for a college club trip and sat next to this cute girl. At first we didn't have much to talk about but then it came up that she had lost her dad. I almost started crying for a second because I was shocked. I lost my dad too. It turns out our experiences were similar, both lost our dads suddenly and a year apart in age. Both about 6 years ago. We talked about all the similarities and all that. How it impacted our siblings, and our moms too. The ways we dealt with it. It was nice to talk to someone with a similar experience.\n\nSo basically, I was wondering if anyone had any similar experience in connecting with someone through grief. If so do you have any tips in general? Or tips on transitioning from a grief conversation to something lighter and more \"flirty or flirtatious\"?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Met a girl. We both connected over having lost a parent in early high school. I am interested in her romantically. Tips? How to transition conversation from grief to \"flirty\"?"}
{"id": "t3_f9ewa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Important question about CitiAssist student loan.", "post": "Hey Reddit! To get the formalities out of the way, this is just a temp account, I'm a pretty active Redditer on my main account. I don't know why I felt I had to use a temp but whatever.\n\nSo I have come to a point where I'm thinking I might have to get a student loan to supplement my scholarships for this semester. The amount is around $5000-$6000. Someone referred me to CitiAssist as a good loan and I was wondering if anyone has experience with it or any other student loans (Undergraduate in the US).\n\n*A special note, I'm an international student but my place of residency is the US and I have an SSN and all that jazz. \n\n*Getting a loan from my home country is out of the question", "summary": "International student in US looking for advice on which loan to get"}
{"id": "t3_2bq2un", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend's [M21] overly flirtatious behavior with other girls and how it causes trust issues (2 months)", "post": "While we have only been dating for two months, we have been friends for almost 2 years. He's always been really flirty, and when you're single, that's fine. But when you're in a relationship, certain behaviors kinda need to stop.\n\nIt's frustrating because I've had multiple conversations about his behavior with him and how it makes me uncomfortable and how I don't like it. For our most recent conversation, I tried telling him that when he is flirty, touchy, and says inappropriate things to other girls, it doesn't make me feel special as a girlfriend and that I'm in competition with all these other girls. He said \"oh my god, we should get a $5 pizza.\" I just feel as if there is a huge lack of respect for me in this relationship. Plus, I muster up a lot of courage to talk about my feelings to him because while he doesn't call me crazy, the tone he uses to talk to me insinuates I'm overreacting. We've had three conversations, one night (while drinking) I blew up at him in public, and then the next night, tried playing along. So I feel like I've done all I can, I just don't see how it's fair to me to compromise my feelings so he can fulfill his \"needs\" of being overly flirtatious. This has also been causing trust issues the relationship.\n\nAnother time, he was planning a trip to a different with 4 girls and I saw it on Twitter. I asked him about it and he said it was all hypothetical, but then laughed at me because he thought the whole situation was ridiculous. I then asked him how he would feel if the situation was reversed and he said it would suck.\n\nTwo questions: Am I overreacting? and What else can I do if I'm not?", "summary": "My boyfriend constantly caresses other girls, drinks with just girls when I'm not around, and then tells me \"that's who he is, and he will try to work on it, but probably won't.\""}
{"id": "t3_2hhoqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want a dog [22/f], he doesn't [22/m]. I consider this a dealbreaker. Is that wrong?", "post": "This is actually a huge issue for me. \n\nI have been with my SO for around 2 years now. We met in college and have similar goals - both don't want children, both have careers in an office setting, both have similar personalities. But, he doesn't want a dog. \n\nI have been begging for a dog for almost a year now. My old dog passed away around that time. It broke my heart and i missed having a pup best friend to take care of and hang out with. Having a dog was very important to me. He always brushed it off, like, \"oh, we're young, a dog is the last thing we need right now!\" or something like that. He would always say, \"some day!\"\n\nBut recently, hes admitted to me he doesn't want a dog. He doesn't want to live with one, or take care of one. He said if i were to get a dog it won't be while we're living together. \n\nWhen i expressed that that's an issue for me, he said something along the lines of, \"You're going to break up with me for a dog we don't even have?\" He thought he was being funny and didn't get that i was hurt and upset. \n\nSometimes i think, \"Wow, he doesn't love me enough to just appease my need for a dog that won't even be his?\" But then i think that could be put back on me too: \"Wow, she doesn't love him enough to give up a dog? She loves dogs more than she loves him?\"\n\nPlease help me with this. I have tried a million times to persuade him to get a dog (we have plenty of time/space) but it's not what he wants. Having a dog is very very important to me, but i can't imagine breaking up with the man i thought i would marry because of it...", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't want a dog, and i do - very, very much. I can't imagine leaving the love of my life for a dog, but honestly, that's how important to me this is. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_4dgrfe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost killing myself (accidentally)", "post": "Obligatory \"this didn't happen today\" opening. This happened when I was maybe 10 years old. Back then, my front yard had two huge trees, one of which had split in a nice \"Y\" low enough that us kids could climb. Eventually my step father at the time decided to put ladders up to the split and a rope to swing from. You would climb up the tree, grab the rope, step your foot onto the loop and swing away. This made our summer days great. Well one day, I was riding around the driveway on my bike. I was excited because my cousins were coming over. As I'm riding around, I think it's a good idea to ride in the grass between the house and the trees. I do this a few times, and nobody is watching to yell at me to stop so I just have at it. Now back to this rope. It has a loop but if I'm going to be honest here it looks a lot like a noose. So as I'm riding in the grass, I'm headed straight for that noose. I think nothing of it. The chances of my head going through that loop are just too slim. But it does. I duck my head in such a way that it goes right around my neck as I'm riding my bike. Well of course, I'm fucked. The bike goes flying from my hands and I'm nearly horizontal by this point. On the way back on the swing, my body just drags across the grass like a rag doll. It gets better. My aunt with my cousins in the back seat had just pulled up into our drive way and saw the whole thing. Not only that but my mother just glanced outside to catch me mid air and choking. They were all horrified but I assured them I was okay. Since then both trees have been chopped down(sadly).", "summary": "younger me rode a bike toward a noose and nearly hung myself"}
{"id": "t3_ktk76", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I decided I don't want to become a Graphic Designer anymore.", "post": "Hi reddit. Long time lurker first time poster! Anyway to get to business I have graduated high school but I'm attended an extra semester while I work. I've been planning on becoming a Graphic Designer because I seem to be pretty good at it. It started as a hobby and then I took the courses at my school. Well I'm not enjoying it anymore. I've come to realize that I very much enjoy designing as a hobby and not as a career path. But I'm going to college next year. And I don't know what to do. If I don't go to college I get kicked out. \n\nI don't exactly know why I am coming to you reddit. I suppose I'm sort of just lost and I know you have helped people before and so I suppose I'm looking for help too. Though I can't say I know what my real question is. I guess I'm looking for career suggestions.\n\nI guess a little about me that would help with suggestions: I'm interested in Film making and VFX. I wanted to be a scientist (particularly physicist) Since I was 4 years old, problem is I am bad with math. I also lack the courses to now pursue that career path. I also enjoy working with computers and have I'd say a fair amount of knowledge about them.\n\nSo as for suggestions just free range. If I don't think it will suit me well then I just won't consider it :)", "summary": "I don't want to be a graphic designer please give me suggestions on career paths.*"}
{"id": "t3_ioy2p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My GF and I are having an argument about \"housewife\" as a job. Can you help us?", "post": "So I am having a debate with my girlfriend and she suggested I post it on reddit and let you guys settle it for us.\n\nThe scenario (at this time purely hypothetical for us) is that there is a couple with a kid (or multiple kids), and one member of the partnership is working at a 9-5 (or more realistically an 8-5/9-6), and the other member stays home as a house(wife/husband) during that time.\n\nMy stance is this: The time spent by the housewife (or husband) while the other person is at work constitutes a job, and nothing more. My argument is that essentially a babysitter could be hired, or day care could be arranged for likely less than either person's total salary, to take care of the kid(s) during the day. Choosing to stay home is choosing to take that on as a job. Also, I don't think it would be a ridiculously high paying job comparatively. This is working under the assumption that when both parties are home, responsibilities are shared equally.\n\nHer stance is: The two are not comparable and the contributions of a housewife are very undervalued if they are compared to a typical average job/salary. \n\nSo here are a few questions:\n\n1) Can the position \"Housewife\" be considered a job, or is it too much work to fall in that category.\n\n2) How much should a housewife make?\n\nSo to set the scale, let's say the average job consisting of office drudgery has about a 30-60k salary. I also want to clarify that we're not asking what \"should\" someone make with such a job, but more what \"would\" someone make if this were a job in today's economy.", "summary": "in debate with gf: how much would \"housewife\" make if it were a job."}
{"id": "t3_4tv2us", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex-girlfriend [21 F] of seven months, I have feelings again?", "post": "To be clear: this is a throwaway account not owned by Matt Damon: I couldn't think of any other name. anyways...\nSo, for a bit of backstory, and fake names will be used...I dated this girl Sam. Great girl, sweetest ever. My parents loved her, and still do. Truly the best girl I ever dated. But I was far from the best guy. I flirted with other women, I went out on a date once, I talked to other women and tried to sleep around but never did. I cheated because I found out I wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but didn't want to lose her. It's selfish, I know. It's terrible, I know. I'm not posting this for reddit to evaluate my morals, or lack thereof. I broke up with her because I was sick of living a lie, but never told her I cheated.\nFast forward a month after we broke up. We start talking again, as friends. First time was kinda awkward and we tried casual conversation but our breakup was brought up and i just froze, second time we hung out and we had sex. Every time after that, we hang out and do friend stuff, we act like we're in a relationship (really sweet to each other and whatnot, couple stuff), and we have sex. We both are talking to other people, though, but not committed to anyone.\nLately I've been thinking about her, and what I did. I was an asshole, no doubt about it. But this girl was truly the best thing that could ever happen to me, and the nicest. Just...perfect, I can't really describe her without filling up entire books. She told me (she's a senior in college, I graduated this spring) she's strongly considering going out of state for grad school. She doesn't know this, but it kind of screwed me up a bit, because I was thinking to try and rekindle the relationship, try on a blank slate this time, and going long distance is not what I have in mind for the future. We have something going on, some kind of connection, but i'm not sure what to do now.", "summary": "Was an asshole, broke up, now realized she was the best thing to happen to me. Try to get back together, or let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_3age0e", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Advice for motivating my dad to lose weight", "post": "My dad has been obese my entire life (I'm 24yo). Throughout my life he has never openly admitted his weight problem (he is about 400-450 lbs), and has never taken an initiative to work on it. He is the only overweight person in our family, and he has no other condition causing it -- just his food intake and lack of exercise. \n\nDue to some other circumstances, I've temporarily moved back in with him (parents split about 3 years ago), and I'm watching him eat junk food, refuse to go on walks with me, and never leave the house. He works from home on his computer and the most exercise he gets is walking from his bedroom to his office. \n\nI am doing the grocery shopping while living here, and every week he puts on the list cookies, ice cream, and pies, and then puts it back on the list the next week. He's the only one who eats it. I have tried not buying them, and I get yelled at and then he will go out of his way to do the shopping himself and buy all the snacks. I have tried getting the fat-free varieties and also got yelled at. When he does go out he will stop at McDonalds and order off the dollar menu because he is very frugal despite admitting he makes enough money to live luxuriously. \n\nI bought him a Misfit Flash tracker for Christmas and encouraged him to keep track of his food intake through MyFitnessPal, and his exercise via the tracker. He also has sleep apnea issues as a result of his weight, and I told him he can track his sleep as well. Of course, he doesn't use any of it, and only wears it when I bring it up. \n\nWe are lucky enough he has not yet suffered a heart attack but it's only a matter of time, and I don't want to see my father die early when it is very preventable.\n\nSo", "summary": "how can I help my father admit he has a problem, and recognize that he has to take steps to diet and exercise?"}
{"id": "t3_1dh034", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [22M] says my boobs are too small...", "post": "Hi all,\n\nMy boyfriend [22M] and I [23F] have been dating for almost two years. Today, we were having a discussion about our relationship when I asked him if there was anything else he would like to talk about. He (hesitantly) said that he wished my boobs were bigger and asked if I would consider getting a breast augmentation. As a little background, I am a small Asian girl (5'3\", 105 lbs) with at least a proportionally-sized chest (B-C cup border) that I am not ashamed of. I am, of course, not planning on getting a breast augmentation. \n\nWhat I want to know is -- is this a normal issue that comes up in relationships? Is it normal for a boyfriend to want his gf to get bigger breasts? How do I move on and go back to normal in this relationship...?", "summary": "My boyfriend thinks my breasts are too small, wants me to get a breast augmentation. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_vxsgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do i get the most out of an older Android Tablet? Is there a way to speed it up or install faster firmware?", "post": "Ok so my brother got an old tablet from a friend that she had replaced with a newer one. My brother didn't use it much and knows i love to read and figured it would make a e-reader. It does work pretty well for that and that's pretty much all I want it for but it seems to be kind of slow and the touch screen isn't super responsive, the battery life also doesn't seem to be great. SO. it says the build number is WMT2.0.1_88 firmware version is 1.6 model number is generic, memory is 256mb. I have a 2gb micro SD card to go with it if that helps. What i mostly want to know is this: Anything i can do to speed it up a little? Get rid of anything unneeded, change settings, custom firmware? (Don't know if this is legal/frowned upon, i know there is custom firmware for", "summary": "Got a hand me down android tablet, never used a tablet before, any way to optimize it ONLY for e-reading to make it speedier and also to save battery power?"}
{"id": "t3_1bn67o", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help me talk sense into my best friend", "post": "I've been lurking here for a few months now, and thanks to you guys, I'm meeting a lot of my financial goals. I'm on Mint, I'm saving to pay off my loans, and I'm living below my means. I make under 25K right now but I'm slowly moving up!\n\nThis post is for my very stubborn friend. Let's call him Mike.\n\nMike makes 36K a year. He says he takes home around $2,500 a month after taxes. Pretty good for someone at 27. He has benefits, his car is paid off, and he doesn't even have a phone bill (all thanks to his parents).\n\nHis employer offered him a 401K plan, and Mike turned it down, his reason being \"I barely take home enough money as it is!\"\n\nI know where all of his money goes: he eats out. Twice a day. Every day. I know this because we're roommates. I cook almost every night and go out maybe twice a week. He eats out for lunch and dinner *every day.* He spends every single evening drinking at a local pub. He drops hundreds of dollars on new records. He also spends money on other, more reasonable things - he has a personal trainer and a gym membership, both of which are good ideas, as his eating habits have made him into a very - uhm, unhealthy - guy.\n\nHe seems to be host to a whole range of issues related to overindulgence, but I'm afraid that this kind of lifestyle at his age is going to very quickly eat away at some great opportunities.\n\nHow can I convince Mike to sign on with his employer's 401K plan? What other tips can I give him about his spending habits? I'm tempted to try and help him set up his own Mint account, but he is beyond stubborn - he thinks he knows it all and has everything figured out. Do folks here have experience approaching someone like my friend? Any tips you have would be much appreciated.", "summary": "My best friend's spending habits are spiraling out of control, and I want to help him figure his shit out before it's too late!"}
{"id": "t3_2uqbde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/F] with my guy [36/M] 2-3 months, recent fight led to something I did", "post": "My guy and I have known each other just shy of three months. In the beginning I really wasn't sure how to gauge the relationship because the age gap is there. I had to tread carefully, since I've found myself really liking this guy. However, past experiences has made me very guarded so feelings caught me off guard. \n\nThen there was an incident where (I'll add more if you ask) a big fight broke out between us, to the point that it basically was over? Meaning he followed his usual steps blocking someone out to end a relationship. I was so upset. Anyway, as guarded as I am, I think I may just be someone who is very naive--I called someone from my past to meet (basically as company to be distracted). Honestly, I thought the person would understand there would be nothing more than just meeting up to talk and hang out. I even went as far as explaining and pointing out exactly what I want and don't want. Stupidly I went to meet him; then even though I kept saying no,  rejecting the guy, he (I can't even write it out). So I know I put myself in that situation, but I can't help but feel so guilty for what had happened. \n\nNow things are good with my guy and things are progressing in a serious direction. How can I move forward? Complete honesty with the current guy would make him run. Help? Please be nice, because I already feel so badly about what had happen with the other guy. I'm distracted pretty much ever since.", "summary": "How to deal/what to do/think after something horrible I walked myself into?"}
{"id": "t3_130gk4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Tomorrow I have a doctors appointment to sort out a lot of ongoing *issues*. Should I also bring up my stupid rib cage and how it is seriously affecting my confidence and the rest?", "post": "So, without going too detailed, the past few years have been somewhat horrible with one thing and another (too many people dying/a bad breakup/loosing a lot of friends/work stress/family stress/money stress etc). Last weekend I kind of snapped after pretty much getting slightly crushed by someone, even though I knew that was the case. I ended up booking a doctors appointment for tomorrow morning to sort out this depression/anxiety *thing*. Something I have been putting off for a long long time, and I'm dreading it.\n\nThe main question is though, my chest/ribs whatever are stupid... as in some form of pectus excavatum (sunken chest). It seriously affects me, my confidence, the clothes I wear... everything. I don't even know how to begin to describe it. I don't even know if I want to. Should I bring this up tomorrow at the appointment? Somehow I feel I should sort one thing out at a time and try and get my life back on track/work out who the hell I am and what I am doing. I really dislike doctors, and this is the first time I have ever even talked/written about it (I'm going on 29 too soo... yeah). Any ideas/thoughts/advice/anything would be really horribly welcome here.", "summary": "Depression I should have sorted years ago, my ribs are stupid and I don't know if I should bring this up at the doctors tomorrow."}
{"id": "t3_4yxg66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] want to live in another country where I am happiest but my GF[23F] can't and it's not her fault", "post": "I've lived in several countries in my life so far, I'm originally from the UK but now live in Kenya for a work project.\n\nI should explain that I am not happy here in Kenya and after my project is done in January 2017 I want to leave. I've always found it hard to feel content in anywhere but where I used to live in Canada - there I was the happiest I've ever been and honestly, I don't think I'll ever be content anywhere else, I feel uneasy not being there and literally think of my old life there daily, compulsively.\n\nI met a Kenyan girl who I love very much, we have been togeher for 9 months. However, after recently applying for just a tourist VISA to the UK so she could visit my family and it being rejected, I feel that a life anywhere outside of Kenya, especially Canada, is unlikely, which is not her fault. She wants to live outside Kenya and knows I do too but it could take 3, 5... 10years to get her the access to where we decide to settle abroad, which is longer than I think I have patience for.\n\nI don't know what to do, while I love her, I don't think I'll be able to achieve the life I want.\n\nI find my self trying to find excuses to break up with her to \"run away\" and not feel as hurt but I fabricate these and I know it's very wrong.\n\nAm I being completely selfish, or should I maybe move on to chase the happy life I urge for in Canada?\n\nI'm genuinely so confused and it is invasively on my mind daily.", "summary": "I want to live in Canada where I am happiest but my GF is unlikely to be able to follow due to immigration restrictions and it makes me push her unfairly away and cloud my mind"}
{"id": "t3_2l29rz", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Recurring injuries - possible 'in-toeing'?", "post": "Hello!\n\nI started road running in the summer and have been progressively building it up over time. However during the past couple of months I have been suffering from a range of calf injuries on my left leg (strained soleus muscle, tibialis posterier strain/tedonitis). \n\nI've recently had a bio-mechanical assessment carried out and it would seem that I have an 'in-toeing' problem with my left foot only. I've had this pretty much all my life and sometimes whilst walking you can see it. Does anyone have experience with this? From a quick read online it seems like treatment options are limited so I am at a loss as to what to do next.\n\nI have seen a physio to treat the tibialis posterior issues but they keep coming back after long runs even after trying a range of footwear.", "summary": "I have problems with 'in-toeing' one my left foot and need some help!"}
{"id": "t3_1wn6cn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] looked through my boyfriend's [23M] internet history...", "post": "Small bit of back story. We've been together for a year and a half. We live together. I've never cheated on him, but he doesn't fully trust me and accuses me of cheating/flirting with other guys fairly frequently. He sort of does it half seriously though, but I know he actually means it. It has caused arguments in the past. \n\nI don't know why I decided to look though his history. I went on his laptop instead of my own because it was closer, and I wanted to just waste some time on the internet, and it just happened. I wasn't even looking for anything. I don't mind that he watches porn or anything, because I do too. We haven't had sex in about 2 months for various reasons, but have been intimate on a sort-of weekly basis, but this is mostly through me initiating. \n\nHe had watched about a dozen gay porn videos roughly a week ago. I'm shocked and I don't really know what to think. This was only in one 'sitting' though, and all the rest of the history was just heterosexual porn. \n\nThat's not what I'm posting this for though. The thing I found which really hurt was him frequently checking this girl's facebook. I have no idea who this girl is. He's never mentioned her before. We have pretty much all of the same friends and she lives in the area. He's not her friend on facebook. Maybe 4-5 times a week he'll check it. I don't know if it's coincidence or not, but looking at the history it seems like it's just after he's masturbated that he will look at her profile.\n\nCould anyone offer an opinion of what to make of this situation or how to move forward?", "summary": "Boyfriend frequently checks the facebook profile of a girl who is not his friend on facebook, and who I've never met/heard of. He also watched a dozen gay porn videos."}
{"id": "t3_54ptem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Step mum problems. Me (16F) her (52F)", "post": "My stepmum is from another country and has different values and rules to what my father has. They've been together for almost a decade I think. \n\nWell because my mum was neglectful, my sibling and I grew up chubby and awkward cause we didn't have many friends. \n\nWhen we first met our new mum she would always point out that we were fat. She would use those words and have no remorse. She'd call us fat and laugh at anything we did. \n\nIt caused a lot of problems for a long time and as a result we don't have a great relationship with her. \n\nAs we grew up and went through puberty, we disregarded her comments and just accepted it.\n\nIts currently just me living with my dad and stepmum. I used to work out but since I've been slacking on that and having cheat days a lot I put on weight. \n\nBehold, my stepmum starts making comments again. She calls me fat and starts saying offensive stuff like \"you look like your sibling now\" and shes calling me lazy and all that. She was being sexist the other night and said \"what if you get married? Who will do the cleaning!?\" She talks down and intimidates me a lot, and makes me feel shitty for having a mental illness and becoming slower with my chores. \n\nI tell my dad that she is making rude comments about me and then he responds with laughter and \"in her country its taken as a compliment\". \n\nWhat can I do? Whenever I try to talk back or stand up for myself she shouts over me. I'll be living here for the next 3 months so I want to be comfortable here until I leave.", "summary": "Stepmum makes harsh comments about my weight and the chores I do. Its becoming frustrating."}
{"id": "t3_3riqvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My voice gets me into trouble with women, and I really have no idea what I can do... Help?", "post": "Hey Reddit,", "summary": "Attractive voice, women think I'm a player, I'm not a player, they never accept what I say, I'm not taken seriously. Rinse and repeat."}
{"id": "t3_1kmfk3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: Put on clothing not worn in seven years.", "post": "I was going through some random storage tubs and came across the shirt that each flight designs and gets in USAF BMT. It's been almost seven years since I had seen it and thought of it as something other than an indicator of my increasing bulk. It started as a medium, though i'm sure subsequent washes shrunk it at least a bit. I decided \"what the hell\" and put it on just to see how it fit given recent weight loss. HOLY HELL IT FIT AND IS ACTUALLY COMFORTABLE. This triggered pulling out other clothing I hadn't worn and packed away in a \"i'll wear it when i stop being lazy and work out again\" procrastinating mentality. A few moments later, I was wearing a pair of jeans I bought when I was nineteen years old that were 31/30s. They were definitely snug, but fastened and not completely uncomfortable. That combined with the medium shirts I was putting on and actually comfortable in, my mind is blown.", "summary": "I tried on clothing from seven years ago and it more or less all fits."}
{"id": "t3_2wd9hd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] feel unworthy of dating [21F] who is smart, rich and does part time model job. What to do?", "post": "I met this girl during a open day PhD event. She was stunningly beautiful and also very clever doing the same subject as me so I couldn't believe my luck. At the end of the day we added each other to facebook and I felt as though next time I might ask her out. \n\nWhen I'm on my way home I begin to see her facebook pics and I quickly see that this isn't a normal person. All her pictures are of luxurious holidays and ski trips in addition to many upscale parties and such. Adding to that she seems to be working as a part time model with numerous photo shoots and she's been actually been in magazines. I do a quick google search and it confirms she is working for a top model agency.\n\nI just can't fathom how someone that beautiful could also be that smart. How am I supposed to ask her out when she's been everywhere and I've barely left my hometown once or twice.\n\nHer combination of experiences, beauty and intelligence just make me feel inadequate.", "summary": "Met insanely beautiful girl who just so happens to be real clever doing same subject as me. Later find out she's also modelling and has been to so many places around the world. I feel into intimidated to ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_czrgy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just said the dumbest thing to get sex...", "post": "I just moved to a new town and met my mid-30 something, cute red head neighbor... She comes over periodically and we watch movies, chat, she talks about her kids, jobs, etc... she lets me know that she is interested and bored and would be open to some \"company\", & I'm pretty sure she is down for a quickie and maybe friends w/benefits.. We're sitting on the couch and I'm trying to think of a clever way to ask her if she wants to get busy. I try steering the conversation with no luck... so I figure try something to the point but not too blunt and before I know it I say \" So, you wanna blow off some... energy?\"; she like \"what?\" and I think about how little sense I just made at obscurely asking her to have sex... so I figure I can't lose at this point.. \"I mean, Leno's boring wanna fuck?\" and we both start laughing and mocks me a bit as she takes her clothes off.... God, I am never gonna hear the end of this one", "summary": "before I know it I say \" So, you wanna blow off some... energy?\" - and it worked"}
{"id": "t3_15umyv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Pressure... Help!", "post": "Long story short, after my [F/24SO [M/24] proposed we decided to try an live in the US, where he is from [I'm from Canada]. We filed for the Visa, got it, and I am now in the US. We are supposed to get married within 90 days of me coming into th coutry, otherwise the Visa is revoked\n\nAt this point I don't feel comfortable going thrghh all this just yet, I feel pressured and like I'm doing it just to stay here for a while and have te ability to work.\n\nMy idea is to ostpone getting married for another year or so, that way we'll bth be a little  more steady financially and mentally] and ready to start someting new together.\n\nI don't have any kind of degree or anyting, didn't finish college. He has a Bachelor of Science in Electrical Engineering. If I stay here right now, I will have no job, and no money for at least four months. I would prefer waiting until I can save a little more money back home and come bsack with at least something to help us both out while I study!\n\nI love him! I want to marry him! I just don't know if now is the right time...", "summary": "Feeling legal pressured to get married quickly, but don't feel comfortable doing so!"}
{"id": "t3_4zwye0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am feeling lonely from a lack of platonic affection. I want to casually cuddle with a friend [16F], is that appropriate? How can I ask her?", "post": "I've recently been having a huge lack of connection with people. I have a great group of friends, and I spend enough time with them. I'm *not* looking for a romantic or sexual relationship. I have been recently, however, feeling very lonely in a subtle way that is hard to describe, but is negatively affecting my mood.\n\nWhenever I end up being physically close to some of my friends (within touching distance), I feel very warm and happy, and my mood increases a tiny bit. Also, whenever I hug any of them, my mood increases a bit more, which is what I'm often in need of. One of them [16F], a very good friend of mine, is a super touchy-feely girl and is intimate with all of her friends (both male and female). We've known each other for over four years, and we're comfortable around each other. Being close to her or hugging her is even better than the others, since she's always happy and affectionate to everyone.\n\nShe, along with a couple other of my friends, have mentioned that they enjoy cuddling very much. Cuddling is one of the best ways to get a lot of human contact, and can make anyone feel super happy, and actually improve health. I honestly think, after reading a bit about how it affects emotions, that **platonic** cuddling would help my be a happier and better person. \n\nWould it be appropriate to ask this friend to cuddle sometimes (compleatly platonic)? And if so, how I would go about doing it without sounding weird or as if I'm interested in a romantic relationship?", "summary": "Haven't had much of any platonic affection recently. I want to ask a good friend of mine to cuddle sometimes (she's said she really likes cuddling, and she's very touchy-feely). Is it appropriate to ask her? How would I do it casually?"}
{"id": "t3_41c5gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The way my [30 M/F] gay friend [30 M/F] interacts with my husband [33 M/F] of 8 years makes me uncomfortable .", "post": "Background: Me and my husband have been together for a long time and generally have no jealousy problems in either directions. \n\nA couple of months ago i made friends with a nice (gay) guy and he's been hanging out a lot with me and my husband since then. It's been great. He's generally a bit more touchy then we're used to, but slowly I started to note that the stopped that with me (which i actually appreciate) but did it more and more with my husband. Prodding, poking, putting his arm around him, playful pushing. At a few occasions, he's been getting really drunk, and was hanging around the shoulders of my husband, passing out leaned on him/in his lap. He's also started to mainly contact my husband instead of me for everything social. Im still always invited and he's sill nice and friendly. But I just feel that he's a little bit to physically friendly with a taken man. I realize I would probably not be down with a woman doing the same thing..\n\nThing is, my husband seems to really enjoy their friendship and I don't know if Im going to make things awkward by bringing this up. Im not worried that my husband might be gay, our relationship is great and I never had any reason to doubt his sexuality.  The reason It annoys me, rather then jealousy, is that i feel it's not very respectful. \n\nShould I bring this up with my husband, risking to ruin their good relationship? Bring it up with my/our friend risking to make things super awkward, or just shrug and let my husband set his own boundaries?", "summary": "My gay friend is very touchy with my husband and I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_2zfsd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have never purposely moved so slowly with a girl before. Is all of this normal? [20F]", "post": "We are both 20-year-old sophomores at the same state university. \n\nI met this girl last semester through a mutual friend. We all had the same class and began studying together. I began to really view her as someone I could see myself being with earlier this semester as I got to know her better. I invited her to a fraternity date vent which she accepted. We ended up hooking up afterwards (just making out, our mutual friend kind of interrupted us). \n\nThe event was probably the best date event of my life, by far. She was absolutely incredible. I began to spend more time with her and I still think she is as great as ever. The thing is, after years of being very into a girl from start to finish, I have almost reach an apathetic point in my life. I know I like this girl a lot and I would like to see about dating her. In fact, we have already gone on a couple of dates. It's just that, neither of us are interested in being up each other's asses. Which I really like, but it is weird to me to really only communicate with someone every so often. \n\nWe're definitely moving along very slow, and it's not like one side is initiating everything (very balanced), but I'm just not used to basically only talking about the essentials. When we are together we will spend hours with each other and have an amazing time no matter what, but when we're apart it's as if neither of us are pushing hard to make it move forward particularly fast. \n\nAnyway, I'm not really sure what I'm asking. I really just wanted someone to tell me it's normal to move pretty slow even when there is obvious interest on both sides. So... is it?", "summary": "Moving slow with girl. Obvious interest from both sides but both seem kind of apathetic... Normal?"}
{"id": "t3_4yncar", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord sent us a cease and desist letter. What do I do?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nUsing a throwaway account. Here's our situation (and sorry about a wall of text, but we really need your help):\n\nWe have been renting a townhouse from a private owner since January, and we still have four months to go on the lease. Having been homeowners in the past, we always wanted to buy a house again. In July we happened to find our dream house. Immediately after our offer got accepted, we emailed our landlord that we are moving out in mid-September and offered to put in all the leg work to help him find a suitable tenant to start a new 12-month lease in October. We tried to negotiate with him and make the transition as easy as possible for him. He had none of it. He sent us a two-sentence email back saying he does not consent to us terminating and finding him new tenants. \n\nHe then stopped answering all of our follow-up email/phone calls. So we sent him a certified letter stating that we are terminating our lease effective in October; we will advertise, show the house, and vet potential tenants; we will send him possible tenants and we would leave it to him to make the final decision for new tenants. \n\nThe day before we sent our letter, we posted an online ad for the apartment for a higher rent than we are currently paying. The house is in a very popular area and within 2 days, we already have 6 people scheduled to come look at the place. \n\nAfter we sent this letter, the landlord emailed us a cease and desist letter saying he will not permit us to post any advertisements and that we must stop any activities in regard to helping him find a new tenant. The landlord did not give a reason why we should not advertise the place. Per the tenant laws, he's supposed to mitigate damages and we are only trying to help him find potential tenants. \n\nIs it better for us to continue to advertise the place and supply him with potential tenants, or should we comply with his cease and desist letter?", "summary": "We bought a house and must terminate the lease. Landlord sent us a cease and desist letter to prevent us from helping him find a new tenant."}
{"id": "t3_2zismt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "This Is Why You Don't Want to Default On Your Student Loans", "post": "Hey /pf,\n\nMy grandmother just finally paid off her student loans, which is good news, but the means is anything but.\n\nMy grandparents went to a culinary school in 1994 and eventually had to withdraw because my grandfather had a heart attack.\n\nThe school closed the next year and when they returned, they had absolutely no idea what to do, so they let it be. The thing is, they each took out three student loans totaling $6,625 on 5/24/1993. One was subsidized and the other two unsubsidized.\n\n~\n\nThe repayment period began on 1/13/1995 and the loans defaulted on 5/13/1995. Garnishment began 12 years later, in 8/07/2007. My grandma paid $250 a month, every month since 2007. After some math, that comes to a grand total of **$28,750 for a $6,625 loan.** My grandpa is still paying his loans at $100 a month. \n\nRight now I'm trying to get their loans discharged via a permanent and total disability application. I'm doing this for my grandma even though she paid off her loans because she might be able to get a partial refund.\n\n~\n\nLearn from them, **DON'T DEFAULT ON YOUR STUDENT LOANS!", "summary": "Grandma paid over $28,750 for a $6,625 student loan.*"}
{"id": "t3_ec8uv", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Soooo, I bought a fish I knew for a fact that I shouldn't have.", "post": "I bought a 20-gallon fish tank a little while ago. My brother, two people I work with, & everyone I know who knows anything about fish told me to stay away from Cichlids & Oscars because they're aggressive. What'd I do?\n\nMy [Dinosaur Bichir] decided to eat all my [Glofish] Since they were the only colorful fish I had in my tank, I sought to find a fish too big for the Bichir to eat & colorful as well. I went to the store to find a [Green Spotted Puffer] while I was there, I spotted a [Blood Parrot Cichlid] &, against my better judgement, I adopted him as well. Now, he has taken a liking to shredding my [Bleeding Heart Tetras] Their fins are half of what they used to be, & a week ago one died. I have two [Upside-Down Catfish] who used to swim around the tank all the time, I loved them so much & now I never see them. They're always hiding in the cave because they're scared of him. I would like my tank back.\n\nIs there any advice anyone has for me? I've attempted to give him away to everyone & I don't want to kill him, but those are really my only options. He's a nice fish, just as a loner because of the fin nipping.", "summary": "Douchebag Cichlid, need to get rid of him because he's a murderer. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_cldit", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"Relationship\" advice", "post": "Hey reddit. I'm sorry to be yet another old geek in search for advice on something I've never had the balls to do, but I feel you could be the real motivation I need to walk the next few steps without tripping up. Also, obviously, this is a throwaway account.\n\nQuick story: About a year ago I decided to make several changes in my life that would make me feel better about myself. Today 35lbs lighter, in a better shape and with a \"more correct\" sense of clothing, I feel like I wanted to feel back then. Everything is going great except for one thing. I recently got really attracted to a friend of mine, and she doesn't seem like she'd refuse if I asked to go out with her. \n\nWhat I'm more afraid of is how to handle things from after I've asked her out. I have no idea how dates work or how hanging out is supposed to happen. The last girlfriend I had was 2 years ago and I met her on an online game, so hanging out was easy, we actually did it over the game and the few times we saw each other was at each other's house. (I know, it's sad)\n\nSo as a", "summary": "I'd say: What do people generally do on dates?"}
{"id": "t3_c4kie", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I am currently in Flordia and want to see some sights on the way back to Canada. Any suggestions for places to stop on the way? (More info inside)", "post": "We are currently in Melbourne, FL and would like to make our way back to Canada along the east coast. Final destination would be Toronto. I am looking at the following schedule;\n\n* Sunday (tomorrow) - Leave Melbourne for Charleston, SC\n* Monday - Leave for Richmond, VA\n* Tuesday - Leave for Montreal, QC\n* Wednesday - Party to support Canadiens in the finals\n* Thursday - Return to Toronto\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for places to visit along the way, the cities I chose were mostly random. I'm trying to keep driving down to about 6-7 hours a day. I know the Richmond to Montreal run will be longer that's why I'm looking to stay there for two days.", "summary": "Any suggestions for interesting things to see along the east coast would be appreciated. I'm trying to plan my drive back starting tomorrow."}
{"id": "t3_388i2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am not attracted to my BF [22M] of 1.5 years anymore.", "post": "I love him. More than the entire world. But I'm just not attracted to him anymore. I was never all that attracted to him and started dating him when I was 17-almost-18 and hadn't had attention from guys yet (I looked kind of weird in high school). He was the first to show me attention and because of that I sort of looked past the appearance thing. He's not ugly, but he's really skinny and unhealthy and his face just doesn't do it for me. He isn't into what I'm into sexually (he was also the first man I slept with).\n\nBut it fucking sucks because not only do I love him, but I live with him. I moved in with him 4 months ago, which I do not regret at all, but I have these constant reminders that I'm stuck. He doesn't clean up anything and when I don't clean for a day everything's repulsive. He thinks our sex life is good just because we have a lot of sex. But it's not! I have a high libido and I crave a bunch of stuff he just isn't interested in trying. Yes, I orgasm a lot, but I'm just like that. I'm kind of a nympho and generic missionary (or him making me go on top every time because he's \"tired\") is boring. I can orgasm from anything. There's a difference between an orgasm and an *orgasm*. I had no idea that that was the case until I had a lot of experience with sex, though, and figured that the way our sex went was pretty normal. And I've changed a lot since he met me. I was a kid and now I feel like a woman.\n\nAnd so many other men approach me. I know I could have a real shot at a sex life that I enjoyed if not for him. But then I hate myself for thinking that because I truly do love my boyfriend. Let me make it clear that the only reason I've been saying this stuff is because the post is focussing on the bad. Everything else about him is good. He is so wonderful and respectful and lovely and I just love him with all my heart and want him to be well. Can I make this work?", "summary": "I love everything about my boyfriend, literally everything, except the fact that I'm not sexually attracted to him"}
{"id": "t3_14o8iq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/19] How do I fix this relationship? please help [18/f]", "post": "It started with me, I said I wanted more of her, to write to me when we weren't together, to show me that she loved me. She accepted and she did for a week, she was really great, and I really lovede those couple of days. But then suddently she told me that it was too hard for her to show me that she loved me, only a week after, and that she needed to think about the relationship. I asked her to honestly tell me, if she loved me, she said yes. But she thought, maybe that wasn't enough, she needed some space, and felt that she maybe she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. So we took a week off, where we didn't see each other, only wrote to each other a little bit. I gave her a deadline to tell me what she wanted, last sunday. When it was sunday, she told me that she still wasn't sure, she needed to be away from me to see if she really would miss me, and she needed me, not to write to her. I was skeptical, but said alright. But then last night she wrote to me? I responded and she kinda got angry. I am really, terribly in love with this girl. I haven't spoken with her today, should I write to her, ask her if she wants to see me? Or should I just give it more time, and not talk to her. OR should I end the relationship?", "summary": "My girlfriend wants a break"}
{"id": "t3_14wsbm", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Free Leftovers? Nope!", "post": "So i used to work in a little store in our local mall that made flavored popcorn (you know kettle corn, caramel, etc.). Every time the mall closes we clean up the store and empty out the popcorn machines, we get stragglers who walk around and occasionally ask if they can have a free bag of popcorn, usually because they're with their friends and want to impress them with their swag.\n\nThis one day my boss and I were cleaning out and this hefty woman shuffles up to us like she owns the store. Granted, the gate was drawn down, but she still looked through the cracks at the menu as if a closed gate wasn't enough to keep her from getting what she wanted. My boss looked at here and politely asked if he could help her.\n\n\"Yeah, you guys got samples?\" she asked with an authoritative tone.\n\n\"Not at the moment, ma'am, all we have is old popcorn from the cracks.\" he responded politely.\n\n\"What? Y'all can't gimme dat?\" she asked with a huff.\n\n\"no ma'am.\"\n\nShe began to spout off about how it was *our* job to satisfy her in any means necessary, no matter what. So of course, she demanded to speak to the manager. My boss said \"i'm the manager.\" She wasn't satisfied. \"Alright then, lemme call corporate.\"\n\nMy boss handed her one of our holiday pamphlets with the store number right on the back. Granted, this is a small business, so we don't have \"corporate.\" She began to walk away as she dialed the number on the phone. Suddenly, the phone in our store rang. My boss picked it up and very politely answered it, all while staring at her with a smile. The woman turned around and gave us the meanest death glare before thundering off.\n\nWe talked about how cool that was for the rest of the night.", "summary": "Woman wanted free popcorn, couldn't get, threatened to call corporate to get us fired, so my boss gave her the number to our store to call, which he answered himself."}
{"id": "t3_1zn50z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M], can either pursue a long-time crush [21F] or get back together with ex in a guaranteed healthy relationship [20F]. Anyone else have something like this happen and how did you handle it?", "post": "Girl I currently have oneitis for made out with me last week [21F] and ex girlfriend [20F] just said she wants to get back together.  Pursue the oneitis and most likely have it fall through, or get back into a guaranteed healthy relationship?\n\nI say \"most likely have it fall through\" because we have been just friends before this happened.  I wouldn't make a move because I thought she wouldn't handle it well, and I just accepted that it was a long shot. Last weekend I said, fuck it let's see what happens, and she enthusiastically complied.  We made out that day and the day after, so I thought it was going to continue, but she has become shy since then.  Not uncommon for her, but not what I expected after what happened.\n\n[20F] And I split while she studied abroad and she didn't want to get back together when she got back.  We had a great relationship before.  Now, she all of a sudden says she regrets what she said and wants to get things back to where they were.\n\nJust looking for some insight.  I don't know how to handle this.  My gut is with my ex and my heart is with oneitis.\n\nSide note: I am most likely moving away in around 14 weeks and will not be by either of them to sustain any sort of relationship, long distance anything is currently out of the question.  Which means an actual relationship probably wont happen. Should I just step back from both of them then?  Just more confusion.", "summary": "I [21M], can either pursue a long-time crush [21F] or get back together with ex in a guaranteed healthy relationship [20F].  Anyone else have something like this happen and how did you handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_tanir", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE Think Game of Thrones Season 2 is terrible?", "post": "I would like to say that I absolutely loved the first season of Game of Thrones. It was fantastic, and followed very closely to what the book represented. The season was so powerful that I found myself looking forward to the second season, which would represent Clash of Kings. However, I currently can barely sit through a single episode without cringing every other second. There are so many discrepancies and so many integral themes or motifs that are left out. Why are they doing this? Why are they tearing apart at the portion of the audience that knows and loves the books, when they followed them so closely in the previous season?\n\nDoes anyone else feel this way?\n\nSorry if this comes out as a rant. But I can't understand why they are doing this.", "summary": "Game of Thrones followed the book closely in season 1. However, in season 2 they are ruining key character development scenes, throwing out important details, and building new ones based on poorly composed engagements. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3yozqf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] boyfriend [24 M] of 2 years is very antisocial, his friends and brother contact me instead of him because he doesn't reply, I think he's jealous.", "post": "My boyfriend has a lot of social anxiety and is pretty withdrawn around other people. I don't mind this at all, we have both always worked very well with the dynamic that I make the plans and he goes along with it for the most part. Even things that he likes to do, like going to see his favorite bands play - if I don't make the plans, he won't think to do it. I'm worried, though, as he has mentioned that since he started dating me he puts even less effort into his friendships because he has me. When we started going out I would try to get him to remember his friends by asking if he had heard from them, if he wanted to invite anyone over, etc.\n\nGradually all his friends stopped trying to text him or make plans through him because he doesn't reply to them, and when we hang out he apologizes and tells them I'm the plan-maker. They all come to me as the point of contact for any invitations, etc. But now I get the feeling that he's jealous that his friends text me. I don't have any continued dialogue with them outside of just making plans involving all of us. He has mentioned having negative feelings toward some of his friends because of it. I've tried encouraging him to hang out with them alone but he doesn't put any effort into doing so. Even his younger brother (16 years old, in high school) texts me to ask him things. \n\nI have no idea how to handle this situation. Should I worry about it? Should I let him deal with it and trust that he'll come around and do something about it if it becomes a bigger deal?", "summary": "BF has social anxiety so he leans on me to make plans with his friends, now I think he's jealous about it."}
{"id": "t3_4oox6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] dont know what i Should do about a [21 F] friend", "post": "Okay so theres this girl, we met back in 2012 before school ended, we had a schoolies trip (similar to spring break) and i invited her cause she had no where to go. Before hand we started talking and such and on the trip away to my holiday house she told me some really personal stuff (about her depression and her cutting herself, some really dark stuff) now after the trip we kept texting everyday or second day until june/july of 2013, she got a boyfriend which was fine, naturally i was jealous but i moved on. fast forward to october of 2015 I hadnt spoken to her for the entire year cause i wanted to give her space and her boyfriend kept sending me a weird vibe whenever we met. She broke up with him in ocotber/september of 2015, before my 21st in december i saw her shopping for christmas stuff and afterwards i said it was nice seeing her we should catch up sometime, she said it was nice and such (this was via text). she got me invited to a friends 21st (her best friend told me she invited me) on christmas eve of 2015 so i was super keen to go, come January 25 i ask her out to lunch, she says yes i was over the moon excited and it was a great time, she ended up positing on facebook she has a boyfriend like a day after i ask her to lunch. Come the party shes a no show and i feel crappy and such. I like this girl so much like we used to talk every day and now that she has brushed me off to the side makes me feel less than a man than anything right now, i want to tell her how i feel but every time shes invited to an event she doesnt show up and i dont want to do it via text.", "summary": "no idea on what i should do about a girl who doesnt try in a friendship/relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4le8wb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] Girlfriend [18/F] being blackmailed and manipulated by psychopathic sister.", "post": "Uh, I'm kinda not familiar with this kind of thing. I'm sorry in advance.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been serious for a while now. I know, I'm 18, it's a bit young but she's helped me through a lot of dark spots in my life, and I've done the same for her. She's the reason I get up in the morning and try to make something out of myself.\n\nHer sister moved in her house, and -- believe me, you could not BEGIN to fathom it -- she is a very needy person, and always wants my GF's attention. I'm a pretty chill boyfriend, and I have a lot of trust in our relationship. I let her spend a lot of time with her sister. And I mean, a LOT. There's points where we would only get to physically see eachother two or three times a week.\n\nThen, tonight happened. I figured that it'd be sweet to go out for a little date, get some ice cream and go dancing. About 4 hours in, her sister calls -- you can hear her screaming through the phone from across the room. To sum up a twenty minute argument, Sister accuses GF of neglecting her, calls her every other name in the book, and threatens to blackmail us if she doesn't come home.\n\nTo clarify; GF's mother thinks she's asexual. To stay vague, I assure you that it's far from the case. My GF is afraid that if her mother knew, she would try to keep us apart.\n\nI know this isn't the worst of the situations on this subreddit, but I don't know what else to do. I wanted to cuss her sister out, but I am not that kind of gentleman. Though I do have a few sizeable holes in the wall, now. (I really need to buy a punching bag.)\n\nI can't lose her. I just can't. And especially not like this.", "summary": "GF's Sister is blackmailing us to get between us and destroy our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_xpu1z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What careers do you think society wrongly values and holds above others?  I can't stand how much we value athletes...", "post": "This question comes from a bar conversation I had last night where a lot of my friends disagreed with me.  As an engineer, it marvels me how we, as a society, hold celebrities and athletes so far above all others.  \n\nIt seems to me that the people who provide services (nurses, plumbers, mechanics, maintenance workers, etc) and people who create new things (engineers, inventors, entrepreneurs, etc) provide more to society than entertainment.  I understand the value of entertainment as both an industry and a means of providing hope to everyone in the world; but how is someone who can throw football or hit a baseball worth millions of dollars per year when a teacher makes in the mid 30's?\n\nIt hits me the hardest when looking at education and seeing athletes get full ride scholarships when their education is secondary to their sports; yet people who will really bring value to society in a tangible manner by providing means and services are loaded with debt and will likely never earn in their life what professional athletes can make in a couple years.", "summary": "I hate how much value we put in some professions, what're your thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_14zgdy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Single redditors who live alone, what do you do to occupy your free time in the evenings?", "post": "Reddit, I need some advice. Hoping to keep it as short as possible, my story goes like this: I graduated with an engineering degree, moved from Seattle to a small oilfield town, in Texas, to work for a large energy (oil) corporation without knowing anyone. Worked for 6 months and then was arrested for DUI, fired, and lost everything. With the hope of getting the charge off my record and returning to work, my former manager requested I not tell anyone from work why I suddenly \"left\". That basically took me back to step 1. Time to find a job, friends, and on top of it deal with life-changing legal charges. My only friend became alcohol. While I refuse to drink and drive anymore, I buy a case of beer every night on my way home from my shitty, temporary, job and get drunk alone because there is nothing else to do. \n\nReddit, I want to know what other people do to entertain themselves who are completely alone. I feel like there are similar, like-minded, people on here that might be able to give some suggestions as to how to occupy my free time alone. \n\nThe DUI charge has been dropped and I will be returning to my career after the new year. While I am seeing someone to talk to about this with and going to AA, I feel like the grip alcohol has on me is not going to be an easy one to shake. \n\nWith that being said, thanks for reading and I will leave you with one of my favorite, but relevant, quotes...\n\n\"We had two bags of grass, seventy-five pellets of mescaline, five sheets of high powered blotter acid, a salt shaker half full of cocaine, and a whole galaxy of multi-colored uppers, downers, screamers, laughers... and also a quart of tequila, a quart of rum, a case of Budweiser, a pint of raw ether and two dozen amyls.\nNot that we needed all that for the trip, but once you get locked into a serious drug collection, the tendency is to push it as far as you can.\"", "summary": "What do you do at night?"}
{"id": "t3_330qvh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23/f) am fed up with how my boyfriend (23/m) has been treating me.", "post": "So I have a problem with my boyfriend of 2 years. \n\nSo he came home at 5:45 a.m. which he's been out all night (no kiss or anything all day). He didn't tell me where he was going or who he was with and I found out off his Facebook. I know it was wrong going through a message off his page but it popped up when I opened the internet, of course I am going to look. \n\nApparently he told me he was going to see his sister at his mom's (which he did) and wanted me to go but he pissed me off early yesterday morning so I refused. Instead I find the message to his guy friend stating that he's at a party to come hangout and is in my car. The worst part is he never told me there was a party and he wanted to know if I was interested.\n\nI wrote him tons of messages asking for my car back and that I am fed up. His excuse was I am trying to help my buddy find a job, even tho last time he told me this guys had a job, and he calls me a jerk and other things for confronting him about what's going on.\n\nHe then comes home (5:45 a.m.) I am still awake watching a movie because I couldn't sleep because i was worried about where he is and whats going on and he starts talking crap.  He was putting me down, calling me names. All because I have a attitude because of his actions. Btw it was in front of his guy friend.\n\nI need help on figuring out what to do. I just want to be done but I don't, I do love him but this has gone to far.\n\nI don't feel like he loves me the same anymore after this stunt he pulled last night/ early morning, I don't think I can trust him anymore. \n\nPlease help!!", "summary": "boyfriend goes out didn't tell me where he is going. Ends up at a party and comes home early in morning and putting me down. I don't know if I want to be in this anymore because I am starting to feel worthless."}
{"id": "t3_zr4tg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do I sympathize with my friend who is \"too pretty\"?", "post": "I have know this girl, let's call her \"Claire\" for about 5 years. Claire is drop dead *gorgeous* but she is also intelligent, kind, compassionate, and funny... But mostly pretty. She gets free anything wherever we go, guys of all ages flock to her and I've seen someone crash their bicycle while trying to check her out. \n\nAnd yes, I am jealous. I'm not ugly, but it still sucks standing next to her. I can't be mad at her for it and she is genuinely a good person. However, the attention she says is \"too much\". We have been living together now for about four months and already seen more flowers than I will ever see sent to our apartment but also some really fucking crazy guys too.\n\nWe went out last month and some guy tried to carry her out of a bar, she has had more than one restraining order and no guy wants to be just her friend, this shit goes on and on. \n\nThe reason I am asking reddit what I should do is that recently Claire (who is a model and aspiring actress) got a part time job at a store in the mall but she is now only given five hours a week because guys will come into the store only to look at her, even when she tries to do her job. And all her male coworkers don't want to be her friend and every guy's girlfriend hates her. I heard her crying last night and asked her why and that's when she told me she wishes she didn't look the way she did. She said no one likes her for her, just the way she looks.\n\nI CAN'T FEEL BAD FOR HER. I have no idea what she is going through and it is *really* pissing me off that she feels this way but also that I am being really insensitive to my friend. HOW can I fix this before I get super bitter?", "summary": "Friend is too good looking and gets unwanted attention. I'm jealous and don't feel bad."}
{"id": "t3_3z7x28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my friend [20F] of 3 years, friendship strained after living together.", "post": "My long-distance friend recently came to stay with me while she moved to my state. 2 weeks turned into a 4 months, and while a lesson in setting boundaries, things went from great to strained.\n\nShe can be moody and seems to depend on me to make decisions in our friendship. I'm someone who feels excessively responsible for other people and needs alone time to decompress from that. It might be clear how that dynamic could turn sour.\n\nWhether a side effect of the stress or just spending every day together, talking to her feels forced now. I'm almost paranoid about tension. But I'm the only person she really has here, and she needs companionship right now.\n\nI'm hoping that I just need a little time and then can push myself to talk to her like I used to until we rebuild rapport. But I'm worried that it's not a matter of time and the friendship will devolve into a burden, which isn't fair to either of us.\n\nSo:\n\n* Can anyone share their experience with successfully rebuilding a friendship? Has pushing through the discomfort until it's gone worked?\n\n* Any advice on being a supportive friend without taking on their stress?", "summary": "Lived with friend for 4 months, now our friendship's strained. Anyone got advice on getting rid of tension and finding that rapport again?***"}
{"id": "t3_1ilxl7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Hit and run at a bar, did not see but have witnesses not sure where to go from here.", "post": "Location - California\n\nLast weekend I was at a bar watching some bands play. After the bands had finished I went out to my motorcycle and found it lying on the ground with some major damage. I asked around and found out the person who hit me had Nebraska plates. I then found out that the bouncer saw what happened and knew the guy that got out of the car and was looking at the downed bike. It turns out he is a 1 man traveling band from Nebraska. The bouncer said that the guy admitted to hitting my bike, then said he was going to find me, but he never did he just grabbed his stuff and took off. I do not think he was driving the car, I think he was the passenger as he was pretty drunk.\n\nI immediately called the police when I found out and they came and took my statement but said I could do nothing without the plates of the vehicle that hit my car. I know tons of info about the guy through the internet, where he lives...etc. I really just want to get the money from his insurance to fix my bike, but I have no clue what to do from here. Can give me some constructive advice?", "summary": "My motorcycle was knocked down by a car, I know who one of the guys in the car is, but I am not sure if he was the driver, police said they needed a license plate, I need the insurance money to fix my bike, thoughts?!"}
{"id": "t3_4bl8km", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making 10 classrooms of 4th-Graders smell like marijuana.", "post": "This literally happened earlier today. My girlfriend, my roommates girlfriend and I decided to try and score some weed. We managed to find a hook up and got blazed. ( I am still pretty high) Thing was, we couldn't smoke in our apartment because of our roommates who don't really like it. We decided to smoke out on our apartments balcony. Today in our city, there was sustained 30MPH winds outside, which forced us to huddle up in a closet that  out on our balcony. After many bong rips in the closet and a few hours later we walked out to realize there are 10 classroom boxes full of fanny pacs and childrens' t-shirts for their museum field trips. Let me explain, one of our roommates works as a tour guide for a local museum, and hands out fanny pacs and t-shirts to children while he gives them their tour. He had stored them in our outside closet and didn't tell any of us. \n\nMy roommate is pretty pissed.", "summary": "Smoked pot with some friends in a storage closet full of children's fanny packs and t-shirts today, that my roommate has to take and hand out to fourth graders in a few ours. Am still pretty baked."}
{"id": "t3_12c2ad", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need some advice, Going through a rough time and I'm worried I (f/21) am going to ruin my first healthy relationship (m/24)", "post": "when we first met I had a lot of things going for me and I was very sure of myself... 3 weeks in and he told me he was falling for me and I felt the same. Then I left for school which is a few hundred miles away from him, something happened and I literally fell apart. I was working towards a goal, put everything I had in it, made a lot of sacrifices, but it didn't work out. I was heartbroken and haven't been the same since.\nI use to be the one who was sure of myself, but now... well my insecurities are sabotaging our relationship.\nshortly after, things started falling into place for him. he has worked very hard to get where he is, and I'm so proud of him... seeing him happy like this truly makes me happy too.\nit feels like we switched rolls. He liked me more then I liked him, now I feel like I like him more than he likes me. We've been together for about six months now and I'm in love with him. We haven't dropped that \"L\" bomb yet because... well he seems to get very nervous and I don't see the need to pressure him, it will happen when it happens.\nI'm not doubting how he feels about me, if he didn't care he would be long gone by now. I know I'm not the easiest person to be in a relationship with... I'm stubborn, insecure, and well... basically a little shit.\nHe knew all this going in... he knew that I would be gone 3 weeks after he met me... he knew about my troubled past... but he didn't care. He was the first person to tell me I was worth something, and actually mean it.\nSo I guess what I'm asking from you guys is just a little support. I feel like I'm going to ruin this because I'm so insecure now. I lost a big part of me and I'm struggling to find a way to fill that hole. Any advice?", "summary": "insecure girlfriend that constantly searches for a problem after I had a big loss in my life. boyfriend is starting to get frustrated (and has every right to)... I need support"}
{"id": "t3_156sxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25\\M] heard through the grapevine that my FWB [24\\F] has three more FWBs. Not sure if I want to continue", "post": "A while back I moved to a new city because I got a job there, and I visit my old town a few times per year. In my old town I have a FWB (friend with benefits) that I ocassionally hook up with. Now I'm back in my old time for Christmas and I heard through the grapevine that my FWB has had sex with 5 people since I was here in november, and that she has sex with 2 or 3 of those 5 people on a regular basis. \n\nNow I'm not really sure that I want to see her anymore. I know she is very careful with protection and checks herself for STDs after every encounter. But it still feels wrong to be a part of a harem, or whatever it would be. If it's true that I'm the 4th guy who bones her I don't know if I'm fine with that. \n\nIs it wrong of me to end my FWB arrangement with this girl because I don't want to be nr. 4? She has pursued a relationship with me in the past but I rejected her because I couldn't see a future with her, so it's not because of jelousy. If I wanted her all for myself, I could have that. But with her, I really just want sex so. Body tells me to continue, Brain tells me No.", "summary": "People in my old town are talking about my FWB, she has apperently 3 more guys that she has sex with and I don't feel comfortable being number 4. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sbv3w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18F] and my boyfriend [18M] are incredibly happy, but his parents don't like him visiting me", "post": "*important note, my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, we video call daily. \n\nWe have been together for just over two years now and I have never been happier, and he feels the same. We have, what we believe to be a great (tempted to say perfect) relationship due to our daily calls which allow us to talk a great deal. So despite living away, I still feel close. \n\nAs anyone who has ever been part of a long distance relationship will know, setting dates to meet up is really important, and that's also where the problem lies. My parents are really supportive and nice when we organise meet ups, but his, not so much, they don't show signs of disliking me, yet they don't hesitate to attempt to stop him from visiting me, giving contradictory reasons as to why he shouldn't come visit (I hope I can be taken seriously and not looked at as *the typical annoying teen*). Because of all this my boyfriend has been calling me and being really upset, because neither of us want to cut his parents out all together, but we both agree that seeing each other is more important. So basically we don't know what to do, the distance between us isn't so great that money is a problem, as students, we don't have huge time limitations either. \n\nSo I'm reaching out to anyone whose gone through anything similar, I feel so bad as it is normally the girls parents that are the problem... Any advice would be greatly appreciated... \n\nUsing a throwaway account but also one of my first times posting, so hopefully it makes reasonable sense and doesn't break any rules...", "summary": "his parents don't dislike ms, but disapprove of him visiting me."}
{"id": "t3_23r4gl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] need some advice about a girl [18F]", "post": "A few weeks ago, a friend introduced me to this girl. Spoke for like 2 minutes, she added me on Facebook after, and we had a decent conversation that night.\n\nA week later, I message her again, and yet again we have a decent conversation. \n\nI'm quite bad at reading girls via text or even in real life, but in my opinion the conversations have been pleasant. \n\nThe reason why I first went into agreeing to meeting this girl, as because I'm sorta desperate. 18 years old, never kissed a girl, never had a relationship, always had a bad luck in crushes (girl has a boyfriend, etc.)\n\nLong story short, apparently this girl finds me attractive and is willing to hook up with me in the next social outing organised in our group. I know this through the mutual friend. \n\nProblem is, I feel sorta used. I don't really want my first kiss to be just a hook-up and nothing else coming out of it (non-sexual I mean). But then again, what do I have to lose?\n\nHuge dilemma. Would like to hear people's thoughts.", "summary": "18, single, desperate, attractive girl interested, wants to hook up, I'm unsure."}
{"id": "t3_2u46fy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) totally messed up things with my boyfriend (19M) of 6 months, and he wants to end it.", "post": "So let's start off by saying we have been dating for 6 months. When we met he was very close to breaking things off with his (now ex) girlfriend at the time. They broke up, and we took an interest in each other, realized we had a connection and decided we would date. Now within those 6 months, we both made many many many mistakes. He had begun talking to his ex again about mid-October, nothing bad, but I told him I was uncomfortable with it, so he stopped. She was never brought up again until a few days after Christmas. \nThat whole previous week he was extremely jumpy anytime his phone buzzed, and when I asked him about it, I was told there is nothing he's hiding from me. I ended up being nosy (I know...not right), and went through his phone, seeing a conversation with her I became livid with him, I decided I would read through it a bit- he had said some things like asking if she would ever give him another chance, etc.., I confronted him about it. He said the holidays bring up memories and he was upset and missing her, and I can understand that. I also asked if he still had feelings for her, he tells me no, and we had a long talk about it all and he realized he hurt me and messed up. So I let them talk as friends. \n\nAfter all of this I didn't really trust him, and I became suspicious of things. He was at his friend's house and I searched his ex's address along with two of his other friends addresses to see whether he was lying or telling the truth about where he would go (we have our iphone locations on for eachother). He found out I searched their addresses (I hid it from him), and he got very upset at me. He ended up telling them what I did, and why (because I didn't trust him) and he won't tell me what they've said about it, but he did tell me there is a very real chance of us breaking up. Someone help me?!", "summary": "invaded boyfriend's privacy, found out he lied about talking to ex (twice), lost trust, did something really fucked up, and now i'm scared i'm gonna lose him."}
{"id": "t3_3h1out", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F22) am worried my boyfriend (M22) isn't attracted to me.", "post": "We've been dating for 2.5 years.\n\nFirst, I'd like to say that I KNOW snooping is wrong. I shouldn't have done it, I'm just stupidly insecure and have trust issues because I'm so insecure. \n\nWell anyway, I snooped. Not proud. What I found really worried me...boyfriend watches a ton of abusive porn, unwanted sex, etc. etc. \n\nHe looks up girls he KNOWS I'm jealous of. His high school girl friend, girls he's had crushes on. He has even been looking up MY BEST FRIEND in bikini pics. I'm crushed. I feel like his mind is more on them and like he's more attracted to them then me.  I've had worries about ALL these girls and now I find out he's creeping them on FB and even googling them... \n\nHe definietly has a type and it's light blonde with big boobs. I'm dark blonde with small boobs. I feel like he isn't even attracted  to me. That, along with his questionable taste in porn, really worries me. Ugh I never should have snooped.", "summary": "I feel like I'm not my boyfriends type. Snooped and saw he's constantly looking up his old female crushes and my best friends in bikinis. He watches violent porn with only one type of girl: blonde and big boobed and getting raped."}
{"id": "t3_13flrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20F cheated on repeatedly in past, me 22M, having issues convincing her I want her and not someone else", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nFirst, let me say.  I am totally in love with this girl.  I don't know if she's 'the one' but it's hard to imagine wanting anything else at this point in the relationship.  We've been together for 6 months, and were friends for about 6 months before that.  Our relationship is great.  We talk way too much a day, despite her being abroad in Switzerland studying and me working 8 hours a day 5 days a week.   We do have the occasional fight, but it's rarely a legitimate concern and more something caused by stress or the distance.  \n\nThere is one rather apparent issue that I'd like some help with.  She is convinced that I could do better than her and that I am settling.  She is literally the most amazing person I've met and I am lucky enough that I get to share her life with her.  I've tried everything I can think of to help her with trusting me but with matters specifically pertaining to her and how I find her beautiful or only want her she just can't believe me.  I know time is likely to be the thing that helps her with this most but she is just the best thing that's ever happened to me and I want to know if there's some way I can help her believe that.\n\nShe has had this thing lately where she wants me to sleep with someone else once while she's abroad.  This person needs to be specifically someone I find highly physically attractive (more so than her) and I need to have sex with her once to prove to myself (and my girlfriend) that I'm not hiding or denying some desire to sleep with someone else and cheat on her.\n\nI have literally no desire whatsoever and the only thing that would make me do that is if she threatened to break up with me over it.  I realize this is kind of an absurd situation, but this is a real issue for her.  I don't really feel as though I could adequately explain her situation to you guys without you experiencing it first hand but this is my attempt to do so.", "summary": "girlfriend has been cheated on many, many times in the past and I can't seem to convince her that I mean the things I say and want her, not other women."}
{"id": "t3_4s2l2e", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Does it seem like this girl might like me?", "post": "First of all, I know it's impossible to objectively have a \"yes\" or \"no\" answer for this question, but I'm just trying to get a better idea of whether or not I might have a chance with her. Without further ado:\n\nI met this girl named Lilly (not real name) at my college's freshman orientation. I never interacted with girls much in high school and I decided that I wanted to change this right away.\n\n At lunch, I sat down at a table of 5 girls and we talked about where we're from, our intended majors, movies, and stuff like that. It went well and they laughed at my attempts at humor, but they seemed to want to talk amongst themselves (just girls), so I left them alone after lunch. Two of the girls in particular (Lily is one of them) were very friendly to me, but I thought they were just being polite. \n\nLater on, I did meet some more people, and at that point I figured that I wouldn't hear from any of the girls at the table again. \n\nThe next day, I was sitting on a bench when all of the sudden I saw Lily walking over to me. I was surprised that she'd approach me given my awkwardness at the table yesterday, but she was smiling and initiated a conversation with me. We talked about animals (a common interest between us) and our plans for our majors and possible careers. \n\nJust before she left, I got the courage to ask if she wanted to exchange social media, and she said she doesn't have any but is going to create an account for the college's facebook group. We then said goodbye and that we hoped to see each other in August. Does it seem like Lily might be interested in me, or is she just being polite?", "summary": "Met girl at college orientation, talked to her and she seemed to enjoy conversation, wondering if she likes me or I'm just delusional."}
{"id": "t3_3gaggc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to flirt with a customer at work", "post": "I'm a cashier at BJs, but I'm not going to say where to protect my anonymity.\n\nSo this really cute girl and her mom got on line. I was praying to god that I'd get to ring her up, and not the person behind me. I figured if it was meant to be then she'd end up at my register. Turns out I got lucky and I noticed she was next on my register. She was wearing a shirt with a bar code on it that read \"Check Me Out\" above it. Immediately an idea on how to flirt with her sparked into my head. So after her mom handed me their membership card, I tried scanning her shirt. When it wouldn't scan (for obvious reasons) I said, half jokingly \"Oh no, you're not scanning properly. I'll have to get the item's number.\" She giggled and smiled at me. But her mother looked at me and said \"You're disgusting!\". Then she took their cart, grabbed her by the arm and went to another line. Later on a supervisor came up to me and told me they got a complaint that a customer was \"uncomfortable with the way I was talking to their daughter.\"", "summary": "Tried to flirt with a girl at work by scanning her bar code shirt. Got called disgusting by her mom and got yelled at by my supervisor."}
{"id": "t3_2o7dhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] girlfriend [24F] of 3.5 years has problems with my family.", "post": "Long time reader, but first time poster and this a throwaway account.  I have been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years and she really does not like my family.  \n\nWe had a great relationship until she moved into a condo with me that my parents own.  My parents do not live with me.   I am living there since I am a student.  \n\nBack in February, my brother decided to stay with us for a week since he was working late and I lived nearby his work.  I told her about this two weeks in advance and she was not happy about it because she felt intruded.  I was not going to say no to my only brother and besides it is my family's place.  \n\nDuring the week my brother stayed, she was out until midnight at her lady's friend apartment until I came to pick her up.  My brother sensed something was wrong, asked me about it and I told him that my girlfriend was uncomfortable having him here, so he left the next day.  I got into an argument with my girlfriend and she moved out leaving her belongings with me.  I told her it was ok for her leave her her stuff at my place, so she would not have to rent a storage closet.\n\nI talked with my mom about the situation and she basically told my girlfriend had to take everything with her.  My girlfriend felt like my mom kicked her out, but my girlfriend is the one who decided to move out, so I just did not feel like saying anything to my mom.  Also, I was angry with her and was ready to leave the relationship.  However, we decided to stay together.  After that, my girlfriend does not like my family and avoids seeing them.  \n\nSince November, my family is trying to patch things up with her, but she refuses to see them.  From time to time, she will bring this topic up and argue with me.  I have no idea to repair this problem.  Any advice will be appreciated.  I really love this girl.", "summary": "Brother decided to stay in a condo my family owns and then leaves because of girlfriend.  Argued with girlfriend, she moved out and leaves her belongings.  Mom tells her to take everything with her."}
{"id": "t3_2phv8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO's cousin (very early 20s/M) is across the country in JobCorps, alone, and he's sitting in jail.", "post": "I'm sorry, this isn't your average, every day /r/relationships post, but it just seems like the most correct place to post this.", "summary": "My SO's cousin is in jail, and I have zero idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_35wpk6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a point blank headshot on my best friends sister", "post": "True to normal form of this subreddit, This was years ago. I was 10 or so at the time. Things were nice. I had slept over at my friends house and we were playing with his amazingly extensive collection of nerf guns, my favorite being the one with the spinning barrel. Well I thought I had emptied it out in our last nerf war when we got called for breakfast. We were told to not shoot them at the table, but I brought it anyway because 10 year olds dont make good decisions. Well I sat there next to his 6 year old sister and got to wondering about how the mechanism worked and I absent mindedly clicked the trigger. There were three things i didnt know: \n\n1. i had it DIRECTLY pointed at her face, more specifically her eye\n\n2. it was cocked, which i thought it wasnt\n\n3. it had exactly one dart left, the next to be fired.\n\ni dont have to say what happened.\n\nsee the real issue here is that her dad is really touchy about eyes, what with the fact that he's an eye doctor. You know that one parent of a friend when you were a kid, that was always laid back and nice, never yelled or got mad, but because of that he was about fifteen times scarier than anyone else when he got mad? That was him to an indescribable factor in that moment.\n\nAfter i was done fearing for my life, things started to calm down. she was fine, and eventually got me back by accidentally stabbing me in the eye with an umbrella. Things have been fine for all the years since.", "summary": "BOOM! HEADSHOT"}
{"id": "t3_21n9ij", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog potty training issue. 1 1/2 years old.", "post": "I'm not entirely sure what the problem is.. She just seems to go if you're not right there to let her out. She doesn't bark for notification, she just kind of walks up and looks and you, walks to wherever she wants and goes potty.\n\nI usually have her in my room with me and she's fine. I'll take her out  every hour or two so she can go and I make sure she has enough food and water. I don't like having her out of eyesight because she does stuff like this, she'll just pee wherever she wants.\n\nWe've been letting her out at regular intervals all day long. Just 45 minutes ago if that, she was out. And we're sitting around and she just goes to the bathroom on the couch. No prior warning, just goes to the bathroom. Multiple times this has happened, and it's weeks in between accidents. I just don't understand it at all. \n\nShe's obviously not trained well enough. She knows to go to the door if she has to use the bathroom, but like I said, if you're not there within 5 seconds she pees on the floor. And there's no warning, she doesn't bark or anything. And living in this 2 story house its hard to keep track of her and do daily activities.", "summary": "dog eliminates without warning once every 2-3 weeks"}
{"id": "t3_1zoavm", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running a 12K on Saturday. Should I still go to my sports conditioning class Thursday?", "post": "Hi all, looking for some advice. I'm running a 12K on Saturday morning.  This is not a terribly long distance for me, as I've done a number of half-marathons and when I run during the week, it's generally in the 5-6 mile range.  My last training run was Tuesday and I ran 8 miles.  I usually hit an awesome sports conditioning class on Thursdays.  My legs are sometimes sore for a day or two afterwards, since squats and lunges are often involved.  I'm looking for a decent time on this 12K, and the first 3 miles is uphill, so I'm wondering if I should just skip the class.  What do you think?", "summary": "I'm running a 12K on Saturday that has a big hill.  Should I skip my sports conditioning class on Thursday and just let my legs rest?"}
{"id": "t3_3dlr10", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a guy named Dick Hammer", "post": "Today I went to meet a friend of my mom's who lives near us. I wasn't sure exactly who we were meeting but I knew it was an old family friend of some sort. Anyways we (me, my auntie, and my two little cousins) arrived at the house and were greeted by a sweet old lady. \"Hello! I'm *name unimportant*\" she said. Then, a man walked up to greet us from the kitchen. \"Hello\" he said. \"My name is Dick Hammer\" I couldn't stop myself. I very audibly laughed at this poor old man's name right in front of everyone. Immediately I tried to conceal my laughter with coughing but it was very clear that I had laughed after he introduced himself. He wasn't mad, but you could tell from the look in his eye that he was thinking \"not this shit again\". So we went down and sat at their kitchen table. He sat directly across the table from me. We talked for a few minutes and I thought my little fuck up was behind me. However, one of my little cousins asked Mr. Hammer about \"That weird bandage on his arm\". He explained that it's for chemotherapy and he has lung cancer. Very severe at his age of 84. I had to look into my lap and felt like godzilla's asshole. I looked up for a second and he was staring straight at me. Then I really fucked up. I imagined this poor guy's gravestone, in the middle of a cemetery somewhere, with \"DICK HAMMER\" etched into it in big black letters. I couldn't hold it in. I laughed again. Now everyone was staring at me. The longest awkward silence of my life followed until my auntie said, \"Well, I think we'd better get off to dinner now\" Dick Hammer replied, \"yeah, I think that's a good idea\" Oh man. I think that's my biggest fuck up yet.", "summary": "I laughed at an old guy named Dick Hammer, then found out he has terminal cancer."}
{"id": "t3_kxqjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Issues due to money.", "post": "I'm 25 with one year of grad. school to go.  She's 31 with three years of grad school to go.  We have been together for 8 months.  I have a lot of student loan debt, she has about half as much currently but will have about the same amount as me once she graduates.\n\nI'm financially responsible and budget each month.  I have no CC debt, but I do have car debt.  She does not budget, has CC debt, car debt and house debt.\n\nShe's in a much more financially vulnerable state than me -- mostly due to her refusal to budget or deal with money using \"pencil and paper\".\n\nI've told her that budgeting and managing finances is a deal breaker for me.  Her response was that \"she would do this for me, and agreed that it was a good idea for her independent of me.\"\n\nShe's only been on this budget for a month ... and so far had been doing fine, but now it's the end of the month and she takes a trip to see a friend (seven hour drive).  So she's pretty much blowing her budget.  She gets very stressed out whenever the topic of finances comes up, but has verbalized that she will try.\n\nI've made it clear that I have no wish to micro-manage her finances, and that I only want to teach her some skills, and it's her job to apply them.\n\nI feel hurt by her escapade, and feel that her words may have been hollow.  However, it has/had only been one month and I know that this learning process will require many mistakes and failures to learn from.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I'm responsible with money, she's not, but has said she'll try; Not sure how to hold her accountable or when to back off."}
{"id": "t3_51bg7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23/M. I'm thinking of getting back with my ex. Should I?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.  \n  I'm 23/M and new to Reddit. So this is my first post. I know there are capable redditors to guide me through this conundrum. The break-up happened almost 6 years ago. I ended the relationship of just 2 months because her dad had found out about us and he had called my mom and insulted her. In that rage, I ended it. After so many years, I haven't been able to find anyone post-breakup and have been feeling quite lonely. Sometimes I feel like I ended the relationship too soon without giving it a chance. But I'm too scared to get back with her again. What if it doesn't work this time too? A little background info about her, she was with me from the beginning of kindergarten and she was a really good friend of mine and she had a really helpful nature. I admired her for that. Is it just the loneliness that's making me think in such a manner or should I really get back with my ex? If she's willing to or not, is is another story. But I was thinking of giving it a try. Back then, I wasn't thinking straight and was an arrogant asshole. Any opinions would be highly appreciated.", "summary": "is getting back with my ex after a span of 6 years a good idea? I'm feeling lonely and I don't understand if it'll be worth it."}
{"id": "t3_238lp2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf watches porn and it bothers me", "post": "My boyfriend 23m watches porn I think pretty frequently. This bothers me sooooo much. It makes me 20f feel as if our sex life isn't goods enough for him. Or I'm not good enough or sexy enough or kinky enough in the bedroom. Am I being a total girl about this?  How do I accept this or talk to him about a change? I don't want suck the fun out of his life lol but I also don't want him to feel like he had to watch porn because I'm so boring and not as sexy as others.... What do I do?", "summary": "my boyfriend watches porn. Does this mean he is unhappy with our sex life?"}
{"id": "t3_1db4dj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26 F] knows there is no future but can't seem to break it off with [30 m]", "post": "Our 3 year relationship is happy and fun and we have a blast just sitting around doing nothing. I've never had this good of a time with any one. But it's obvious that there is no real future here. He's a sinking ship that I refuse to tie myself to. However, I can't seem to dump him because things are still \"good\". Any advice on how to deal with this? All my past relationship shave been dramatic and toxic at the end.. I have no idea how I can walk away from someone who still brings me so much joy. It feels like throwing away the whole bushel just because there's a few worms. (Though I know the bushel is doomed to spoil at some point). Haha, sorry for the shitty analogy.", "summary": "Relationship is happy but there is no chance to take it to the next level, how do I walk away from it while things are still so good?"}
{"id": "t3_1cvsy6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Infection...[f20, m25]", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the correct sub, if not direct me to a more appropriate one.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together a year and during our relationship I have had maybe 5+ yeast infections (l had never had one before then...). I've ent to the doc, got antibiotics/used monistat etc. They keep coming back so I've decided that maybe we had sex before the yeast was gone and he got it and keeps giving it back to me. I've asked him to go to the doctor and get antibiotics too. That way it's all cleared up on both sides. He won't. He wants ME to go the doctor and get the meds for him. He doesn't even really think he needs meds. But of course, now we're not having sex and he's mad because of it. Wtf did he expect? So my questions here are: where do I go from here if he won't go get the meds? If I'd never had one before, did he give me the first one initially (we both ended up with HPV/warts)? And how can I convince him to go the doc?", "summary": "bf and I keep giving yeast infections back and forth, I'm getting medicine and he won't. Mad I won't have sex, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2c8n6c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Two questio.ns. First time home buyer, and first opportunity at decent money...", "post": "Hey guys and gals, I guess I should start with my situation. I'm single, 26, no debt, no credit cards, and no major bills more than a cell phone.  With the potential to land a job making ~40k a year, this is more than I've made previously and the pay will go up through completing a few time goals, and skill goals set by the company to a number closer to 50k/yr within 3 years. We won't take overtime into consideration as it isn't promised. \n\nMy position is that I'm not fond of apartments, and the town I'll be living in really doesn't have any decent places in the area I want to be.  That leaves renting a house or buying one. \nmy parents always have said never buy unless you know that you will be there for at least 3 years, and given things go smoothly I won't be worried with moving but of course anything can happen. \n\nWith a net income of ~2k a month, and a down payment on a house up to 50k (savings/inheritance) but would rather not spend a vast majority of it. Maybe stick to 35k down payment. \n\nAnyways, where should I be looking roughly price wise? I'm thinking 100-140k which would, from what I can manage to research, will put my note around 750 a month or less all things included. I don't want a large house, though nice is always good. I'm thinking ~1400sq.ft. is plenty so bills shouldn't run more than a few hundred a month between tv/internet/power/water hopefully. \n\nSorry if all this is scattered!", "summary": "$2,000/month bring home, $35k down payment, how much can I look at spending???"}
{"id": "t3_1irlte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We're casually dating, but won't see each other for nearly 2 months. Should I [24F] keep in touch with him [28M] during that time?", "post": "We've been seeing each other 1-2 times a week for 2 months, non-exclusively. He's seeing others, and as am I. I'm not his primary partner, but he's mine. I rather like him, and I have told him this - he says he likes me too, but I also know that he's the kind of guy who would beat around the bush to spare someone's feelings. He's always really sweet and affectionate when we're together.  I tend to be the one to initiate contact and it feels a little one-sided, so there's definitely some confusion there as to where we stand.\n\nAnyhow, I like him and I want to continue to see him even if it's just in this casual way. Thing is, we're both on massive overlapping holidays abroad and the earliest that we'd be able to see each other again is in September. He was the one who suggested a casual thing and I'm really new to non-monogamy. Should I just send him a quick message on facebook to ask how things are going and such? Or is that taboo? Do I play it cool and not talk to him for almost 2 months?", "summary": "should I play it cool and stay out of contact for a month and a half with the guy I'm casually seeing, or do I send a quick message to see how he's doing?"}
{"id": "t3_4gxsdv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking the wrong paperwork to the DMV", "post": "Today was my drivers test. I've had a permit for five years, taken two Drivers Ed courses, and tried to schedule this dang test seven times. Every single time, I was turned away because something was wrong with my paperwork: a word or date scratched out, name typed in wrong, or just missing the paper outright.\n\nFinally, after two months since it was scheduled, my test was today. The test wasn't until four, so I spent the whole day checking and rechecking that everything was perfect. I went over everything twice with my mom, just to be certain. At three o'clock, she and I hopped into my sister's car - mine has a wonky speedometer - and drove to the DMV.\n\nWe spent an hour and half waiting for the instructor. In that time, my paperwork was processed and approved. Everyone was so kind and trying to help me relax. I was finally called for the vehicle inspection, so out we went.\n\nShe asked for the car's insurance card. I got it out and handed it to her, all while exchanging small talk. Suddenly she frowns and says it's expired. By a week. Shit. I searched for a newer one but the FIVE that were in the car were from two years ago.\n\nWe were given five minutes (they close at five and the test would take 20 minutes) to email her the correct card. Mom couldn't remember her password for the company's website and no other family member would pick up their phones.\n\nI was told the next opening wasn't until June 27th. I went out to the car to cry, and apparently another employee recognized me and explained to the instructor how many times I've been trying for this. She made an opening for me early on Tuesday morning.\n\nWhat really pissed me off was that the card was only effective for nine days... If only I had checked.", "summary": "Insurance card was expired by a week, was turned away from the DMV for the umpteenth time on the day of my test."}
{"id": "t3_3mjosv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [26 M] of two years, he wants to move 2000 miles away for a 1 year clerkship. Should we stay together?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, we're both in the same field/graduate program, except he is a year ahead of me. Great relationship, never been happier, all that good stuff. \n\nHe just got a great opportunity to go clerk for one year, 2000 miles away from home (me!). We were discussing possible logistics last night, and I came up with a balancing test to evaluate if we should stay together, LDR-style. Fundamentally, I'm against \"real\" LDRs - one hour, two hours, three hours away (by car) is fine. This would be a 29 hour car ride, or a 7 hour flight. Different time zone, all that. This is why I created the balancing test. The considerations are: (1) length of time together; (2) substance of the relationship (married, engaged, dating); (3) length of time away; and (4) the reason for leaving. \n\nMy SO doesn't want to run through the test with me, claiming that \"he loves me\" and thats enough of a reason for us to stay together while he leaves. I'm having trouble making this decision. What are your thoughts, reddit?", "summary": "boyfriend is moving away for a year, I'm uncomfortable with significant LDRs, and we're deciding what to do. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_28ce8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] 10 months, Is it selfish of me to continue on as long as i can?", "post": "We have been a great couple, very open communication and over all very happy relationship. . . Until recently, that is. School just got out and i finished my senior year and she just finished her junior year, thus we arrive at problem number 1. Im going away to college come fall, which is far from our home. To me this means that we will have to break up, because long distance just doesn't seem practical to me.\n\nThe second problem is that she is leaving for the majority of the summer to live with her mom in a state on the other side of the country. So when i originally thought we would have the entire summer together, it's more like two more weeks from now...\n\nThe third problem is she is having home problems. Her complete fuck up of a sister who has felony charges and a slue of mental disorders and instability was thrown out by their mother (on the other side of the country) to come live with her dad (who my gf lives with) where we are. This has put great strain on her; and thus on our relationship. She has become increasingly more distant with me recently, but still earnestly insists she loves me.\n\nI know it seems like there is a clearly obvious answer in all of this. But the problem is, I still love her. And in doing so, i feel like i have an obligation to be there for her and help her deal with the stress of her sister's presence and anything else. But she's so consumed with her own problems that i fear being in a relationship is too much for her at this point in time... So, in knowing all that follows: do i have the obligation to break it off now rather than drag it out for my own selfish purposes?", "summary": "do i have the obligation to break it off now rather than drag it out for my own selfish purposes?"}
{"id": "t3_2wa7c3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting I was still in school", "post": "Well Reddit, my fuck up finally happend. I wasn't sure if this is post worthy, but I feel like someone might find it funny. Sorry for mistakes I'm typing on a phone. \n\nSo, My highschool works on block squedule. This means that we have 4 periods a day each being 1 hour and 30 minutes long. So my day was going normally until 3rd period. I was talking casually to my friend about how we didn't want to go to our last period. For some reason I completly forgot that 4th period even existed. I made up the idea that 3rd period was the last period. I don't know why or how it worked out like this but it did. My idiotic mind just pushed out any thoughts of my next class. \n\nSo as the bell rang to leave class and I go to my locker being excited to leave. I pack up all my crap and walk out of school down to the bus stop. At this point I should have realized something was up considering no human was outside except me. Luckily the gods were looking down upon me at this moment to bring a simple thought to my mind. I had a pack of gum in my locker. I knew leaving it in there would mean that someone would take it. I made my way back inside to see all my classmates rushing to class.\n\nFinally I snapped back into reality and was only late by about 3 minutes. I was freaked out of how sure I was that I could go home.", "summary": "A pack of gum saved my ass."}
{"id": "t3_2874rm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Emotional cheating?", "post": "My(22/m) gf(22/m) and I have been going through a rough patch in our relationship recently. We met in college and have been together for about 2 years. I graduated and moved home about 9 months ago while she just recently graduated so we have been in a long distance relationship for that length of time.\n\nBottom line is long distance relationships are really hard. She was being her social butterfly self and meeting a bunch of people within the past few months and basically put our relationship lower on her priority list. My complaints were becoming increasingly frequent up until about two weeks ago when she started preparing for finals. This is when she got fed up with trying in our relationship. She demanded that we so talking until after she graduated, claiming that the thought of me makes her super stressed out.\n\nShe said that she can't worry about my happiness when she is under all this stress. She also does not handle stress well. This is understandable so far as to get reasons for not wanting to talk to me. But I had a gut feeling that she had another outlet on the side that she was talking to during or little period of not talking.\n\nMy suspicions were correct when I snooped(I know I'm terrible) and found that she has been talking to a guy frequently for a while. By frequently I mean right when she wants up until she goes to sleep. Their messages were nothing intimate but there was an air of flirtation. She updated him on how she was feeling throughout the day as she was always feeling like crap due to the all nighters she had to pull (he also stayed up). All of this happened when we were not taking to each other.\n\nI feel like she had been emotionally cheating on me. He was like a sit in boyfriend when I was gone. I confronted her about it and she thought I was crazy. I asked that she stopped talking to him as he made me feel very insecure and she agreed. She said that she had to pick, she would choose me over him any day.\n\nWhat is reddit's opinion on this matter? Was I overreacting our was she cheating?", "summary": "did not talk to gf for 2 weeks during period of high stress and she started taking to another guy for an uncomfortable amount. An I overreacting or was she emotionally cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_1e3qnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] tell my live-in boyfriend [22M] to stop bitching and DO SOMETHING with his life?", "post": "A little back-story:  We've been dating for about a year, and both graduated in December from Undergrad.  I've actively been searching for a job since I graduated and finally landed a full-time teller position at a bank.  I start next week.  We live in a wonderful house, are getting a dog together within the next month, and everything's going well for me.\n\nFor him, I see constant struggle.  He tells me how much he hates his two part-time jobs (driving a forklift from 5:30-9:30 PM M-F and working at a bar Th.-Sat. from 10PM-3AM), but he doesn't ever apply for anything new.  He constantly complains about being tired and dirty and how much he hates the customers at the bar and hates being out there so late, but he's only applied to about 15 jobs since January.  I've tried to talk to him, but it always ends in him saying, \"I don't know,\" and shutting down.\n\nMy brother told me recently that his company is doing a new round of entry-level hiring, starting at 40K for the first 5 months of training, then 60K once training's complete.  I told the boyfriend about it, but he just said that he likes living where we do, and even though it's a great opportunity, he doesn't want it.\n\nI don't know how to motivate him and it's driving me crazy.  He wants to sell his motorcycles, but then he doesn't ever do it.  He wants a new job, but he doesn't apply for them.  He won't accept help with any of it and I don't know what to do.  I've tried being supportive, I remind him that he CAN change his situation.  We just graduated.  This is the point in his life where he can do ANYTHING and he's just wasting it.", "summary": "My recently graduated boyfriend seems lost and won't accept help. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2c85wf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24/F] boyfriend [27/M] of 10 months pisses me off, but I don't know how to talk to him about it.", "post": "I'll start off by saying that he's an international student from Saudi Arabia; I'm an American attending the same school here in the US. He's been home visiting family for a little over a month now.\n\nIt frustrates me that he can find the time to call our roommates like, every 2 or 3 days but he hasn't called me in weeks, and he'll go a week without even a text or whatsapp message saying hi. I try to avoid being clingy, but it makes me feel very unimportant in his life.\n\nHe also has a way of making me feel like I'm stupid. I'm not, but he'll phrase things in such a way as if the answer is completely obvious and I somehow missed the answer to a painfully simple question.\n\nGenerally speaking, he's a great guy and sometimes I do feel as if he genuinely cares. But a lot of times, I feel under-appreciated. I don't know how to bring this up without sounding clingy, but in my mind, it's not too much to call once every two weeks.", "summary": "My boyfriend, who has been out of the country for a month, can make time to call our roommates every 3 days but hasn't called me in weeks. I don't know how to bring this up without sounding clingy."}
{"id": "t3_1l6f6q", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I motivate my girlfriend to study?", "post": "My girlfriend has had the entire year and the summer holidays to work on her dissertation. And she now has one final week before it has to be handed in - and she has barely worked on it.\n\nI don't want to be patronising to her, but I'd like to help motivate her to put her nose to the grindstone. If she works hard this week I'm sure she can pull something worthy of at least a passing grade (all she needs).\n\nShe's very evasive about what work she has yet to do as she doesn't like to talk about it (avoiding thinking about it as much as possible). But I've coaxed that she needs to do some certain tasks - to which I said I'd buy her some gifts if she completes them in full.\n\nCan people think of other ways to motivate her without been too intrusive and or patronising?\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions.", "summary": "motivational ideas for girlfriend to study please."}
{"id": "t3_ftkxf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend desperate for me to spend Spring Break at his house, but I can't stand his mother", "post": "We've been dating for almost two years, long distance for the entire time, see each other sporadically. We're about the same age. \n\nDue to circumstances with his mother, he must stay the entirety of spring break at his parents' in order for them to keep paying his college tuition and his car insurance(he goes to a small state school in Texas and has scholarships). I live in Oklahoma with my parents, and am starting school next fall (took a year off). \n\nLast year, I spent spring break with him, and he wants me to do it again. Problem is, his mother and I have clear-cut differences. I am a logic+empiricism atheist, and his mother is majorly into the Law of Attraction (which I believe is just an advanced for of victim-blaming). We used to have a decent relationship, but as time went on, she started to have a problem with her son growing up and being in a long term relationship. \n\nRecently, she had what I was told a stress attack (her mother is dying, but at the same time, she hates her). She called me lazy for not getting a job (the job market here is awful for someone with little to no work experience and can't lift 40 lbs), that I had the maturity of a 5 year old, that I was emotionally immature, and that I had no respect for Boyfriend. She also has a long history of offense with my comments on his Facebook status, (I am not friends with her, and he is not friends with my family) to the point of recently looking up all variations of definitions and etymologies of the word \"sarcasm\" (which I use frequently). She also says that you can only be affected by another person if you let them, which she has used to justify her verbal abuse of Boyfriend and his kid brother,\n\nToday Boyfriend told me that she has apologized for her words. He wants me to make up with his mother, and \"be nice\" to her, but I don't feel I can trust her. He wants me to stay in his house, with both me and her being nice to each other without ulterior motives.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to stay at his house during spring break, but his mother has said some awful things about me and is very neurotic. I don't think I can do it, but he does not want me staying anywhere else but his house. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2vlibf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU with flipbook animation.", "post": "This was a few years ago back in highschool.\n\nSome context: I did not know how to interact with girls in highschool. In Literature class I was drawing a stick figure moving in a book we had to read. I had a locker beside one of the hottest girls in my class.\n\nThe Fuck up: I leave literature class and go to my locker. While getting my stuff conversation happens.\n\nHot girl: \"Hey, Redcolorado. Has anyone ever told you that you look like Johnny Depp?\"\n\nMe: \" No they sure haven't.\" (Now I know I need to impress her) \"Hey look at this!\"\n\nProceed to show her my shitty flip book animation \"look at him move!\"\n\nHot girl: \"Uh yea, that's cool...\"\n\nImmediately knew I fucked up, felt awkward as shit. Closed my locker, walked away and never talked to her again.", "summary": "Tried to impress girl with flipbook animation while spaghetti flowed from my pockets."}
{"id": "t3_4b0vih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24/F] know if my boyfriend [26/M] of 5 years is my partner for life?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have had a good relationship. The last 2 years of our relationship have been long distance which has been both good and bad for us. Other than the physical longing, emotionally (at least for me) has been good... or maybe I forgot how it was to be with him often.\n\nI do think I love him but I've never really known what the definition of that was. I can picture a life with him but I have many doubts. I doubt my ability to handle living with someone forever that isn't family. \n\nI'd like to ask people in serious relationships that have led to long-term commitments, how did you know? What made you take that step? I think if he were to propose to me right now, I'd say no but I can't picture myself ever saying yes. I don't know what's holding me back. Am I falling out of love? Why can't I imagine us growing happily together? Why are all my thoughts with him so pessimistic?", "summary": "In a long-term relationship but now having commitment issues."}
{"id": "t3_2sk1uj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my husband[26 M] married 2 years, some might say nearly the perfect guy, but cycling through modes of shear panic and marital entrapment.", "post": "If been married for just over two years, now. Everything from the outside appears to be normal, loving (house, dog, no kids), both with good jobs and lots of friends surrounding us.\n\nEvery 3-4 months of so, I go through stages of wanting out of my marriage commitment. I feel an overtaking of emotion and need to escape. I will go so far as to shop apartments online and plan a budget for living alone. \n\nIt's not that I have someone else in mind, but more of a wanting to be alone. I want to live on my own where I feel as though I don't have to deal with the humdrum of marital life and a space that it mine and mine alone.\n\nThe problem is... I have no reason for feeling this way (or atleast seemingly no reason). My husband is loving, smart, funny and handsome. But I have a lingering want to live alone. And as time is ticking on the question and thoughts of children are beginning to come up more and more\n\nSo I can basically stfu and deal with whatever these emotions are or leave my husband.", "summary": "My husband is wonderful, but I have a lingering want to be on my own. Anyone else been here? Maybe the better question is how big of an asshole am I for feeling this way?"}
{"id": "t3_4zax2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24F) now ex-boyfriend (27M) says he loves me but isn't IN love with me anymore. Do we have a future?", "post": "Hey reddit\n\nBasically my boyfriend of 3+ years broke up with me under the feeling of not being in love with me anymore. He says I am his best friend, that he loves all of the little things and big things. He feels maybe he could be making a huge mistake as well. It has gone back and forth of working on our relationship to just a flat breakup for the last few weeks but now it has finally ended, and I have moved out. \n\nI should add that he is going through a lot himself in his personal life. Quite frankly he is depressed.\n\nI don't know whether I should stop trying completely. I don't think he will see what he is missing until I'm gone. But really I'm afraid that this is the end forever. I'm not ready to give us up. There was a time where we talked about marrying each other. I have read many articles on having this problem in recognizing kinds of love, and the definition of it. I looked a lot into the fact that relationships go in and out of love all of the time as people grow but that doesn't mean a break up is necessary.", "summary": "ex boyfriend ended things because he isn't in love with me anymore, I want him to see that love changes."}
{"id": "t3_3vljjc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] looking for a bit of girl advice..", "post": "Ok, let me start this off by saying that I have never been in a relationship. Earlier in my teens when it seemed like I had the opportunity to create a relationship (hindsight is a bitch) I just didn't see the point, due the overwhelming work that was piled on top of me; I just didn't have the time. Now that I have a bit more freedom (still on school to add) I feel as if I'm ready to go into one. This is all very stereotypical I know, but hear me out, this is where I'm stuck. I not sure whether this girl likes me or not. \n\nSo I sit by this girl in one of my classes, and for the most part, we just talk about school. However, whenever I crack a joke whether it be lame or not, she always laughs. Always. It could be the dumbest joke, and she would laugh. [1] Secondly, she seems always open around me. [2]. Thirdly, she agrees with everything I say as well. Again it could be dumb, but she still does. [3]\n\nKeeping those 3 points in mind, she is one of the most popular girls in the school, while I'm a computer \"geek\" or \"nerd\". I am not bullied or harassed because of this, I am nice to everyone and help them whenever I can, so everyone respects me as a person. However, that doesn't dispute the fact that I'm not that \"Cool\". I have plenty of friends, but they are the kind of friends that would spend the entire lunch time debating which superhero would be better than another hero, in a fight. \n\nAny help would be appreciated, it seems stereotypical to me, and you guys are probably bored of answering these types of questions, but any help at all would be valued.", "summary": "not sure whether a girl likes me, typical situation."}
{"id": "t3_3kzjvc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting a Lego cake at work", "post": "First post here. I'm just distraught over this, and needed to share. \n\nMy bf and I had a pretty big fight last night.  We went to bed with a little bitterness, and I had to leave early for work this morning.  \n\nI was pretty upset about the fight, but my bf, being the sweetheart he is, texted me saying he would have dinner ready for me (he had school until the evening as well).\n\nI wanted to do something special for him, so I went into a cafe which is known for their pastries, and found the perfect cake. It was a colourful Lego cake, made out of different flavoured mousse. It was my lucky day!! I took the last one there, had it boxed, and went back to work. I stored it in the staff room fridge, and even set an alarm on my cell phone so I wouldn't forget it. \n\n15 min before I was leaving, the alarm went off. I was ready to take the cake home! But I also had some cleaning up to do. (I work with kids. So a lot of materials to put away). \n\nI cleaned up, got my stuff and left with a fellow worker. We talked on the bus, just about ourselves, when it suddenly hits me. I left the cake in the fridge. To make matters worse, my next shift is on Thursday. \n\nI calmly told the coworker to have the cake, as it was untouched.  Inside, I was heartbroken. I had this wonderful cake to give to my bf to make up for last night,  but that all just went down the drain. \nI still want to cry about it.", "summary": "Bought an awesome Lego cake for bf as a make up gift. Forgot it at work. Next shift is on Thursday. Lost cause."}
{"id": "t3_f45kz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to create a website for my small business. Where should I look to hire a coder that can make this happen? Budget is currently $2,000.", "post": "I'm going to be launching my own business later this year and I need to tackle the online aspect of it. I need to create a website that acts as a portal for potential clients to input their information and make payments. The information needs to be handled securely and inputted into form documents which I can then print.\n\nDo any of you know where I can hire a coder to make this happen? I've heard horror stories regarding elance (mostly on the coder's side). I would really like to find someone who does quality work. My budget is about $2,000, subject to change as needed.", "summary": "I need to find a website programmer to make a pain in the ass website for my business. Asking for advice on where I can find one."}
{"id": "t3_2t0eqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] boss [35F] is pressuring me to hand my letter of resignation in earlier than I want to.", "post": "Hi,\n\nSo last week I told my boss that I was planning on resigning from my role in a small organisation at the end of March. My contract states that I have to provide 30 days notice before resigning, but for some reason I decided to just be honest so we can spend the next 2 months productively creating a succession plan.\n\nWe worked with someone who we knew for a while would be an ideal person to work with us many months back, and it turns out that person is probably going to be available at the end of February.\n\nNow my boss has seen this as a big opportunity to bring the person in (budget is tight, so its easier to recruit since I'm going). The law in my country says that if you give notice to leave that is longer than the required amount (e.g. if I put it in writing, I would be giving 70 days notice), my employer doesn't have to accept this and can choose to only let me work for the minimum notice period (30 days, so end of February).\n\nMy boss has indicated that to bring this other person in, she'd like me to leave earlier. I don't want to forego my paycheque in march, so I'm reluctant. Recently she has really started to pressurise me to hand my formal letter of resignation in so she can invoke the 30 day notice period.\n\nWhat can I say to her to delay this, without seeming like I don't care about her (or the company's) needs? I don't want to burn bridges, but at the same time don't want to lose a month's worth of work.\n\nWould really appreciate your help reddit. Thanks", "summary": "Boss is pressurising hand my letter of resignation in earlier than I want to. I'm reluctant but don't know how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_21cibu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] And My Best Friend [23F]", "post": "So I have this problem and I want peoples input on it. So I have this friend who is a girl we have know each other for about six months and have been super close since day one. Both of us were single and talked like every day. Three months after meeting her, she told me she liked me and me being the wimp that I am said we should just stay friends. Lol after a day of weirdness things went back to normal and we stayed best friends. Two months later she met this guy and started dating him. They were happy for about a month but soon the new relationship thing faded and she realized she really does not like him. She is still dating him but all she does is complain about him to me. We are still best friends and recently I realized I am crazy about her. I don't know what to do, I want her to leave him and go out with me but I don't want to put her in a position where she has to choose. What do you guys think? Thanks!", "summary": "both single, became best friends, she likes me, friend zone her, she gets bf, now crazy about her, lost"}
{"id": "t3_xcvhe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just accidentally ripped off a wart and it didn't hurt as much as I had expected! Reddit, what is something you've don't that went better than expected?", "post": "So I've had a wart for about a year and a half on my right index/pointer finger. I finally got fed up with OTC freeze treatments and had it frozen with liquid nitrogen at the Doctor's office. It hadn't fallen off yet but has changed significantly since last Wednesday when I had it done.\n\nToday I was pulling stuff out of my truck and accidentally caught it on a falling object and it came half way off. It stung but not that bad. I then went inside and proceeded to rip the rest off and it bled a bit. That hurt some too, but after it was done it felt like a large pressure had come off my finger. Now it just sorta aches.\n\n I am currently waiting til my next Doctor's appointment (this coming Wednesday) to have it looked at again.", "summary": "ripped a wart off by accident and now it only slightly aches."}
{"id": "t3_3gshir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [24F] thinks this comment wasn't rude. What do you guys think?", "post": "Hello, it's a silly post but i'm going to post this anyways just to prove a point to my friend. So here we go!\nI [23F] and my friend Jen [24F] went out to have a few drinks and we bump into Jen's friend whom ive met before but i never really spoke with her before, my boyfriend knew her through his group of friends. I've only heard rumors that the sister are very flirtaous. Jen's friend sat and talked to us for a little and going to haunted houses topic came up and we were saying how we all wanted to go, Jen then asked who is her friends sister going to hug cause we  all have bf but her sister. Now here's the rude part, she says she can hug MY BF.... I then told her that I would be uncomfortable about it and I would ask her sister to get off my bf. She replies \"no you won't\" while laughing. I told her again yes I will. I tried my best not to be rude about it since I barely knew her. After that night Jen told me that I'm over thinking the situation and that she wasn't rude at all in making those comments. What do you guys think?", "summary": "My friends friend, whom i dont really know thinks having her sister hang/hug onto my bf at a haunted house is okay, when i said no i'll ask her to get off my bf her replied was \"no you won't\". Do you think that was rude? I really want to know cause I find it disrespectful since I dont know her really well if at all."}
{"id": "t3_1ns0y5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Current situation involving a girl I have known for a long time.", "post": "So this is mostly just to vent and to end my feelings.  I feel like I have to tell someone I am done.  I have known this girl for over a year.  When i first met her we had a connection even though she had a boyfriend.  I did nothing but tried to be friends.  We became close.  When they broke up (due to his constant cheating) I got drunk and asked her out 2 days after (it was a mistake I know).  Fast forward a month and I go over for one of her roommates going away parties.  It was a set up to get me and her alone together so she could kiss me and tell me she like me a lot.  We set up a time to go on a date after I went to a wedding for my cousin.   During the time I was gone she got back together with her ex.  She said she was confused and didn't want to through away a 3 year relationship.  Even though I had feelings I agreed to be friends for now.  Tonight I go to a party at her house she invited me to.  I leave to go to the bars and she asks me to come back after they close.  I do.  The short of the rest of the story is a guy who is friends with one of her friends friends, ends up going to bed with her.  I have put myself out there more times than I should of and I am done.  I do not have the time or patience to wait on her to make a good decision.  I do feel bad about it but I cannot and will not keep putting my heart on the line only to see it trampled on.  It has been a long time since I have had these feelings towards someone but unrequited love is not worth it.  Sorry to be venting so much but I wont go to my close friends with this due to the fact that they do not need more drama in their lives and so far I have been drama free for 3 years.", "summary": "Girl goes back and forth between me and her ex.  When she has the chance she picks some guy she just met over me."}
{"id": "t3_qr67r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Possibly stupid question, How do they do sound in movies and TV?", "post": "Okay so heres the story, The other day i was with friends and one of them said something about how they recorded the \"voices\" in TV and Movies after they filmed them. I laughed and said no they record it with microphones strategically placed and held above the actors. Then she asked about musicals and I said no its different in musical numbers and music videos, so they can put the best singing take with the best filming take and they dont have to worry about the crazy movement and jumping ETC\n\nThen i brought this up with my sister later, thinking it was stupid that someone could go through that much of their life without knowing this. My sister then said, no they record voices after, and i said well what about the people that hold mics and everything, and she said it was so the actors knew exactly what they said, but everything would sound weird if they used that audio.\n\nHonestly I'm fucking confused, I always assumed my train of thought was correct as it seems much more practical, but honestly no one has ever told me one way or another...\nPlease explain to me reddit.", "summary": "Do they record the audio (actors talking) while they are filming or afterwards??"}
{"id": "t3_17y2hs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Huge NSV, I weigh less than my husband.", "post": "My husband is Air Force and has been TDY for a month. We had not skyped or anything so he had not seen me. over the course of the month i lost an additional 10lbs. the first day he was back he kept commenting on how good i looked which he never used to do. i guess he thought silence was better than hurting my feelings. and then last night he asked how much i weighed and i told him. he said i officially weigh less than him now and he mentioned how the \"bed was even now\". whereas before he used to lean to myside because i weighed so much more than he did. i think for most girls, feeling smaller than your SO is a big deal. so happy right now. :D", "summary": "my husband no longer rolls over into my bed sink hole. "}
{"id": "t3_1vecyh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I'm in the wrong field.", "post": "So, I'm stuck in a rut, /r/jobs, and I need your help. I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I'll gladly cross-post to the appropriate subreddit if I need to.\n\nSo, to begin, I graduated in 2010 in a regular high school. Messed around for a good two years, going on and off of retail jobs, but mostly sitting on my ass and playing video games. By the end of 2012, I decided that I needed to further my education, and looked to join the Medical field. For the longest time, I thought I was doing the right thing, and making the right choice for myself. I figured that I like talking to people, I like helping them, and the human body is pretty cool, so why not get into a career as a Medical Assistant. So, that's what I did. I now have a diploma as a Medical Assistant, and I don't want it.\n\nI ended up going to a school that did nothing but suck up my money for 10 months, as I realise now, and I now have a shitty job doing nothing but verifying patient insurances and getting harassed by both my coworkers and patients. I feel like I'm going nowhere, and I'm not learning anything. Now, I don't mind these social problems, because naturally, that's how life is. But I just wish I'd gone with my gut and went to college for IT, like I'd planned in high school.\n\nNow, this is where I turn to you for help. Ever since I could remember, I spent my life on the computer: playing video games as a kid, and as I grew up, I wanted to learn more about computers and how they worked. I really enjoy the hardware aspects of computers, and I always found fun in building things, taking them apart, learning about them, and putting them back together. (I was obsessed with Legos as a kid) Where do I even begin with working in the information technology career? Am I even looking in the right place? I feel like I'm stuck and I have no idea where to go, or what to do.", "summary": "Wasted money at a shit \"medical\" school, now have a shitty medical assistant job, and yearning to work with and learn more about computers. What do I do? Where should I start?"}
{"id": "t3_2bihu4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU cumming in my mouth, then swallowing it", "post": "This morning, while my shower was warming up, I figured I might as well choke the chicken for a little bit before getting in.\nSo I proceeded to head on over to the tubes, and found a great video.\nSo I'm going at it for a while and decide to speed it up a little so I could release my load at the same time the girl climaxed. \nMy FU is that my mouth was slightly open, I can only assume from awe at how hot the video was. When I finally came, you guessed it, my load when STRAIGHT into my mouth and to the back of my thoat. I was shocked, as this had never happened before, and accidentally swallowed.\nI can still taste it.\n\nAnd that, refit, is how TIFU", "summary": "Jerkin it to a hot vid, came in mouth, swallowed out of surprise."}
{"id": "t3_1pqntq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Gf (21) of 4 Years Blames My (23m) Mental Illness", "post": "Outside of our rather low income apartment tonight there was an argument between what was a presumably husband and wife. They are our neighbors right next door. My gf of 4 years was walking back from her car when the male in the fight said to my gf \"call the police she has a knife\" in a way that my gf could not tell the seriousness of. When my gf got inside my apartment and told me what happened, I told her we had no choice but to call 911.\n\nFor me this was a gut-wrenching decision, because I knew it would impact my ocd. For the next month plus I will constantly be worried that the couple will retaliate against us. They will be mad that we called the police (which they surely know we are responsible for). It will be the most miserable period of my life because I will constantly be worried about this.\n\nHowever, I told my gf that we should move out tomorrow and stay at a hotel until we are done with school (the middle of December). She thinks that that is ridiculous and that we have nothing to worry about. It's just my ocd. Am I right to be worried, and is she being fair to me?\n\nOther miscellaneous things that may or may not be important: Our relationship has been fairly bad the last few months as she has spiraled into a worse (diagnosed) depression. We will be moving two states away in December. I worry that the couple will retaliate against our cats. I have more than enough money to afford a hotel, and my parents would probably pay for one anyways. I love her lots.", "summary": "Had neighbors fighting. My gf was walking outside and the male neighbor mentioned that his wife \"had a knife\". We called police. I'm worried they will retaliate and think we should move out. GF says I'm overreacting and that my OCD is causing me to worry."}
{"id": "t3_4ljtka", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "eBay account hacked, not sure what to do next", "post": "Part of me loves eBay, the other half hates it. A few days ago, my eBay and Paypal accounts were both hacked. Thankfully, I got my eBay account back. The hacker listed 20 or so copies of Adobe Acrobat, of which 7 sold, two people bought one each, and one dude bought 5. Obviously, I don't have the items to actually sell, so I filed to cancel the orders. I messaged the people who bought them alerting them to the situation and that I don't have the products to sell. However, there was some internal error and I had to log in to my PayPal account in order to issue the refunds. This is where things get messy. After 3 or 4 days, I've not heard back from any of them. I can't get into my PayPal account as that was breached as well and I've not had luck getting back into it. I'm at an impasse. Should I use my own money in order to issue the refunds even though I don't have access to the nearly $600 this hacker scammed these people out of, or should I leave things as they are? I don't think I'll be able to get back into my PayPal account as the email address I used for it all those years ago has been long since lost to time (domain for host got sold).", "summary": "my eBay and PayPal accounts were hacked, hacker sold products on my account before I could get it back, order cancel requests error'd. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_34aqmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's mother [50] sends me gifts for holidays while I'm away at school. Would it be inappropriate to send her a mother's day card?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and it's long distance because I go to college out of state. For Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, my birthday even Easter his mom sends me care packages, cards, flowers, pretty much anything. I was at the store looking at mother's day cards for my mom, and I thought that since my boyfriend's mom does so much for me, I should get her one as well. My boyfriend thinks it might be a little weird because none of his past girlfriends have done anything like that before. However, I'm the only one that has really spent time talking to her in person, and we talk on Facebook a lot. Do you guys think it would be okay to get her a card?", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother does a lot of nice things for me, I want to know if it'd be weird to get her a card for Mother's Day."}
{"id": "t3_pi5xp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the scammiest salesman tactic you've experienced?", "post": "Just the day before, I got a call from a guy named Jared, referred to me by my dad. I usually take care of the secretarial shit for my dad's business.\n\nJared told me that our restaurant got picked for one of the bests in the city, and he wanted to set up an interview. He told me he has picked many candidates, and he will notify me if our restaurant gets selected. He told me the interview process was about 30 minutes long, and I just needed an internet connection to share a screen with him. I missed our first appointment because of a class, called him, he said he had no more appointment slots available but immediately. I found a computer in a hurry at the university library even though I needed to go to work.\n\nBeing published as one of the bests is a good news, so I made time for this guy, even though I'm going through midterm season. We share screens with join.me, and what he has for me is a fucking powerpoint presentation. He worked for a start-up called SinglePlatform, and was presenting me shit on how important menus are to a restaurant and the services they offer. All while he has convinced my dad that we're picked as one of the best restaurants in the city, need to go through a selection progress, and might end up paying if we are selected. I googled his company, told him about the package his company offered, called bullshit on his bullshit, and cut the session short.", "summary": "he told us we were selected for best restaurant list and wanted to interview/have candidate selection process, but was a salesperson trying to sign us up to have our menu online for $395/year"}
{"id": "t3_303w9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [22/M] just isnt My [20 F] type. How do I tell him gently?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nWe Met on tinder, but actually really connected. He was super sweet, took me stargazing, We're both physically attracted to one other, it seemed like it should work. We've only been seeing each other for a couple of weeks. No title, just dating. \n\nBut it started to fizz out. He cursed way too much around me, for my taste. His humor didn't match mine at all, He didn't laugh at my jokes, and I didn't find his as funny. He partied hard often, which just isn't my life style. \n\nAnd now he's saying things about \"The closest I'll ever get to Love at first sight was with you\" and different things like that.\n\nI don't want to hurt his ego, cause I do think he is a great guy! Just, not MY guy.", "summary": "It's just not working out between us, How do I let him down gently?"}
{"id": "t3_h0mxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20 yr old male dating a 40 yr old female..do we stand a chance?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old male who is dating a 40 year old woman. To me the relationship is awesome, but to her the age is a HUGE issue. I understand where she is coming from but in my opinion she worries what other people think WAY too much. \nWe both have an amazing time together and spend almost everyday in each others company. Where we start to hit speed bumps is when I complement her, such as call her beautiful, sexy, etc. Well before I continue, I should add that she took my virginity and thats where the problem lies. When I do complement her (and I mean every complement I say) she says that I am \"blind\" because she was my first. She brings up the acronym \"P.O.P.\" or power of pussy.\n I truly do not think the virginity thing is the case, but she just cannot get past it. Another big issue she has is that she keeps telling me that she will keep me from \"life experiences\" that I should go through but honestly I'm not a partier and if I wanted to do something I would go. I also think I need to add that she has been married in the past and was hurt badly. My thought is that she is afraid of getting hurt again so she is talking herself out of it. Any advice or comment would help me out!", "summary": "20 Yr old dating 40 yr old, she has issues that strain our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4rrhwb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mistaking a bigass blob of wasabi for a slice of avocado", "post": "This story took place literally minutes ago.  I spent the last few days wilderness backpacking a couple states away.  After a long drive home my lady and I decided to go out for some sushi.\n\nThis place is known for doing some pretty wild rolls, with all sorts of stuff piled on top.  I figured I'd give their \"uber-spider-roll\" a try.  It has the classic tempura soft-shell crab, and a bunch of other stuff... including avocado slices in a big pile. I was blissfully eating and carrying on a conversation, when I dug a quarter of a tempura crab out and stacked it with a piece of avocado that had fallen off the top of a piece.  I took the bite and noted a strong twinge of wasabi.  As I gave a second chew, it occurred to me that 1) this bite tasted particularly strongly of wasabi and, 2) I had not intentionally put any wasabi on it. As I gave a third chew, it dawned on me that the thing I believed to be a slice of avocado was the squashed-golf-ball-sized piece of wasabi for the entire order.  \n\nMy face locked up and I stifled a little gag. Time froze.\n\nFuck. Shit.  \n\nIn an attempt to get the violation off of my tongue as quickly as possible, I chewed once more and swallowed the quartered crab and nuclear waste down.  As all of the holes in my face started leaking, I couldn't help but think this was the end.  \n\nI powered through the end of the meal, and made it home to the jar of tums without any reversals.  I'm now nursing a mean stomachache and playing Fallout in the hopes that I don't start exhibiting overdose symptoms.", "summary": "Accidentally consumed a lethal dose of wasabi, survival TBD."}
{"id": "t3_3xj6zf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/F] My mother is crazy and my father is using me as a crutch", "post": "Starting about 7 years ago, my mother began to have delusions that my father was spying on her for the government and moved to CA by herself for half a year. We don't know what happened then, but she finally came back to my dad asking him for help. My dad told me all these events in secret, and promised to never let my mom know that I know about all this. She herself is a psychiatrist, and refuses to see any other psychiatrists. She gets some meds through her PCP and it helps some, she no longer has delusions (that we know of). However, in the last 5 years, she has become increasingly rigid in her thinking and habits, and constantly yells at my dad for perceived slights or listening to music or TV (which she used to love but now she hates).\n\n My dad is very introverted and stoic, and has long since given up on trying to convince my mom to see someone. He himself does not argue with her and has turned more and more to me to vent and complain. I get so depressed and upset when I hear about these things, I am an only child and these people have been my world my whole life. I have already asked my dad not to talk to me about these things, but then I feel so guilty since I know he has no one else to talk to. I am at the end of my rope. I have been longing to try to talk to my mom more frankly about her issues, but she shuts me down whenever I try. She spends the day playing sudoku and napping, almost nothing else. She tells me that she is simply content and is confident that the 'afterlife will be better'.", "summary": "My mom is a crazy psychiatrist who refuses to see other psychiatrists and mistreats my dad, so my dad feels terrible and constantly complains to me which makes me feel horrible."}
{"id": "t3_2i58qs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] feel suffocated by my boyfriend [20M] even though we don't spend a lot of time together as it is", "post": "Hey guys, so I'm a sophomore in college and I'm having problems with my boyfriend of 2 years. I'm in a really rigorous program (I was taking 12 classes at the beginning of the semester but I dropped one because it was just too much, so now I'm taking 11). Classes taking up my Mondays-Fridays 8:00am to 5:45pm and after that I have homework and practicing musical instruments.\n\nI have an amazing, faithful, loyal, wonderful boyfriend who goes to school a couple subway stops away from me, but lately I've been feeling like he's being too clingy for my liking. He has a much lighter schedule than I do (he's taking 4 classes) and always wants to hang out whenever I have free time, which is understandable. \n\nMy problem is that I want most of my (very limited) free time to be by myself and just chill without talking to or interacting with anyone. I've been suffering from depression since I was a young child, and he's aware of that as well as all my other issues (some intense emotional abuse in a previous relationship). He's very understanding about all that and I've expressed my need for \"me-time\" with him, and he said he understood, but I think he was just trying to be nice.\n\nWhen we do spend time together, for some reason that I can't figure out, I would rather act like friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm really not feeling PDA and my libido has dropped due to all the stress I'm under from school. My boyfriend is way into PDA and very touchy-feely, which I used to be, but not so much anymore. I feel like I can handle school and I can handle my boyfriend, but I can't handle both at the same time.\n\nI can't imagine breaking up with him. He's the sweetest human being I've ever met and I know I need him, I just don't always feel it. I don't know what to do, I can't tell him all this because I'm afraid it would crush him.", "summary": "For a reason I don't understand I want to spend my free time by myself, but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4r890x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25/m] slept over my house for or anniversary and it went bad.", "post": "Not that our relationship went bad. But my boyfriend moved back home because rent went up to 800 a month to which he couldn't afford with school, car payments, and a job unwilling to give him a raise. He slept over my house for our anniversary and when I took him home he asked me to stay and watch an episode of breaking bad with him - his mother came in and started calling him disrespectful and immature for not calling her throughout the day to tell her where he was or what he was doing. I asked him why he didn't tell her you were sleeping over if that's what it took to get her off his ass - his reply was that she wouldn't let him go because she doesn't believe in people sleeping together unless they're married. \n\nWhat do I do with someone who has traditional parents? I don't want to let that affect us or anything.", "summary": "boyfriend's mom flipped on him for sleeping over, he's 25, she called him immature. what do I do? I don't want it to affect us."}
{"id": "t3_17ft9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16]F boyfriend [17]M of one year forgot about me for an entire day...", "post": "Bit of background, Ive had the flu for about 4 days. The first few days he texted me, everything was fine. Then yesterday, he didn't text me at all, all day. When I texted him, he admitted to just... forgetting about me.\n\nNow, I don't demand much in the area of texting. Once a day before bed, a quick \"I love you.\" We used to talk all the time, he was like my best friend. Now... I'm lucky to even get a text between all his video games and stuff. We see each other at school for maybe 10 minutes tops. He claims \"there's nothing to talk about\".\n\nI don't know how to respond. I think about him constantly. He said hes sorry and that he loves me, I don't doubt that. I just don't know where to go from here.", "summary": "I'm sick, boyfriend of a year forgot about me for an entire day. Communication has dwindled as it is. Don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_39xyyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32 M] with [27/F] looking for advice on making a long distance relationship work", "post": "Hey guys, I've been dating this girl for 6 months now and we live 4 hours apart via car, 1 hour via plane. So far the distance doesn't seem to be causing any issues. We have great daily communication and try not to go more than 3-4 weeks without seeing one another. We both have busy schedules so its not always easy to coordinate a weekend to hang out but it seems to be working so far. We try to have the next 3 on going months planned out so we know exactly when will see one another. We always do something fun when we hang out, maximize our weekends together and growing closer and closer with each weekend. I've known her for over 7 years now but recently started taking things more serious and I would love to make this work. I was curious to know if anyone out there has some advice on making long distance work or someone who has had success with it in the past? I know some people have a much longer distance to deal with and 4 hours isn't bad at all but there still lingers a gap of not seeing one another regularly that can make it difficult. Any tips or recommendations on what you did that worked and what I should try to stay away from? Thanks in advance for your knowledge and experience.", "summary": "seeing this girl for the last 6 months, we live 4 hours apart and I'm looking for advice to make this work and not let the distance get in the way."}
{"id": "t3_2lorqh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m] A crazy girl (21/f) i talked to now wants to ruin my whole life.", "post": "So.  \n- been talking to one girl over Internet for 2 months or so  \n- at first everything went okey and we liked each other  \n- but she fell in love with me  \n- we sent pics and chat got more intimate  \n- we started sending intimate photos  \n- her ex guy got involved by messaging me.. he told me to not trust her and if i meet her I'd suffer  \n- my best friend and parents said to stop talking to her but i still had hope that everything would work  \n- she was really paranoid and jealous. Every time i went online on skype for example she made a big fight over it because she thought i was talking to girls there  \n- i didn't feel any love because it's virtual i just liked her and told stories about how nice it would be yo meet and do stuff like travel together  \n- the fights got increasingly more often and i felt really bad  \n- after last big fight i stopped talking to her and she too  \n- after a few days i just accidentally met an absolutely wonderful girl of my dreams.. and she likes me too! I was in heaven! We hanged out almost every day and did many cool things  \n- now yesterday, after 2 weeks, this previous girl comes in and starts totally threatening me! That she'll send all our talk and all the intimate pics (detailed stuff...) to her!! (and all over the social media) I spent 6 hours straight telling her the whole situation and how sorry i am from the bottom of my heart. I asked for forgiveness like a trillion times but she says no.  \n- now she might ruin my entire life and push away the girl of my dreams.  \n\n  What to do??? :(", "summary": "talked to girl online, she fell in love with me. I just liked her. I told her how good it would be to meet and do stuff together. But we fought and stopped talking. I met the most wonderful girl in real life but now the previous one came back and says she'll send all the intimate stuff to her.  "}
{"id": "t3_31hc0z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my new boss know I have a BDSM fetish", "post": "As I arrived for my shift today, ten minutes early, I decided to call my boyfriend regarding our plans for tomorrow. We are going out for cocktails, getting a hotel room and a certain class A substance, and going to town on each other's bodies. I was suggesting he get a last minute surprise hotel, which are relatively cheap and can end up being amazing.\n\nHe said \"by the way, I'm bringing the handcuffs, since they're still in my bag from last time. I don't see why not.\"\nI was having a cigarette outside my place of work, edging towards the door, and said \"maybe not the handcuffs, they're a bit much. Just bring the silk ties, they're good.\"\nHe asked me what about the whip, and I said yeah, sure, bring the whip, but I gotta go, I don't want to be late for work.\n\nHalfway through this sentence, I looked to my left, and saw my boss, innocuously smoking very close to where I had been a moment before. Having very little speech filter (particularly when not expecting to see work colleagues quite a way from the building, in the opposite direction to where we usually smoke) I had said the previous statement very, very loudly, while being only a metre or two away from him. \n\nThe first few hours of my shift were very, very awkward - perhaps just for me, since I'm praying to a god I don't believe in that he didn't know it was me - but I am sure he recognised my voice, and chose to stare at his phone in the ensuing awkward seconds in order to pretend it didn't happen. My boss is a nice guy. He mentioned nothing. That almost makes it worse.", "summary": "Loudly let my boss know that I like being tied up."}
{"id": "t3_3isy9q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Fidelity personal investment account frozen?!", "post": "When I saw the stock market crashing I figured it was finally time to start buying stocks.  I just now am at a point where I have money saved up and I have my emergency fund in check.  I opened an account online with Fidelity just because someone had suggested this to me and I had heard of them before.  I moved over $50 to make sure everything was set up correctly and then when I saw it was noted on my bank account I moved over a few hundred dollars to get started.  \n\nAs soon as all my money had cleared from my bank account I tried logging in and couldn't.  I called Fidelity and got someone on the phone trying to help me reset my password.  She eventually gets to the risk management department thinking that my account was compromised by a hacker or something.\n\nWell she comes back on the line with a horribly rude tone saying my account has been frozen because I was deemed too much of a risk and I should take my business elsewhere.\n\nI was shocked and told her I'd love to but I would need to get my money back.  She told me to try going to the bank (The fuck can they do? the money cleared already!)\n\nI called back and another person answered.  I went through the whole thing again.  They refused to give me any information with the exception of this time the guy said they would 'try' and reverse the funds or if that didn't work they would mail me a check in a few weeks.\n\nI looked into filing a fraud report at my bank but I authorized the funds.  Not really sure what I could do there.  Has this happened to anyone else?  What should I do? That's almost a months rent!", "summary": "Fidelity froze my account do to being a risk.  How do I get my funds back?"}
{"id": "t3_1ka775", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22M] had sex with my brother's[17M] girlfriend[16F] during a family holiday a month ago and they're still together, I want to be honest with my brother but I can't bring myself to do it.", "post": "I fucked up royally, I know! I'm sorry!\n\nThe story goes, I graduated college recently and before I started my new job my parents allowed me to pick a country to go on a family vacation and so we went. My little brother was allowed to bring his girlfriend, let's call her Amy. \n\nI found Amy attractive but not once did it enter my mind when I met her that I wanted to fuck her, she was way to young and I'm not a pervert I told myself, how wrong I was. During the fifth day, everone was a sleep except me and Amy who I had learn was a very nice girl, I had been drinkink quite a lot and started to let my mind and eyes roam while she talked, and she clearly noticed it and actually moved in closer and smiled and the moment she did I just went for it like a thirsty man to water. We went into my room and had sex.\n\nThe rest of the holiday was horrible and I made certain I was never alone with her again. After we got home I asked her to break up with my brother but she refused, I told her I would tell but she saw through that quite easily. My brother really likes this girl and I don't want to do even more damage to this poor kid than I already have. \n\nHe looks up to me and wants to learn the same things I do... and I'm crying a lot these days, I'm ashamed and I don't want him to see who I apparantly really am.\n\nWhat can I do? Any advice for me? Do I just let it be and hope she'll keep it to herself? Also, it was legal so that's not a problem thank Christ.", "summary": "I had sex with my brother's girlfriend and I'm not sure how I should approuch them still dating and me knowing this girl isn't completely invested in the relationship, also should I tell him what I did and risk our relationship further than I already have?"}
{"id": "t3_363onh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lonely, discontented [27 M] while my hyper busy law student [25 F] GF is off at job/school.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We've had some ups and downs in that period (one of which was documented in this forum--check my history). On the whole, our relationship has gotten warmer and more loving with time.\n\nStill, I have doubts.\n\n**She works 30-40 hrs/week and goes to law school 4x/week, until 8 or 9 PM. I work 25 hours a week and do career-building volunteering on the side.** It's been a stressful and lonely past few months; a lot of my friends in town are also coupled off, a few more have moved, and I'm still getting used to scheduling social activities. \n\nWe only see each other 2x a week. She promises that the next 3 years won't be as bad. But it's been really hard, and I don't think I really want to have our time so heavily structured by her other priorities for so long.\n\n**When we hang out, things are great.** In our days away, my doubts rear their ugly head, and I feel the strong urge to quit the relationship.\n\nIn those moments alone, I experience waves of doubt and anxiety. I'm understanding that anxiety as a suppression of deeply held doubts that I don't really see a long term future with her--in spite of our caring, sweet relationship, I've never felt as drawn to her as I think I should be, or as she deserves.  \n\nThat thought causes guilt, which causes me to second-guess the idea that this has anything to do with the relationship.\n\n**I've always felt alienated during long stretches alone, and that's not her fault.** Nor will it go away if we break up. But I'm realizing companionship is an important part of relationships for me, and I'm not getting that here.", "summary": "My girlfriend is busy with grad school. In my time alone, I feel deep doubts about our future. How do I know if that's my loneliness, or our incompatibility?"}
{"id": "t3_19j7dq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (19f) explain to my boyfriends(19m) parents that we don't need a babysitter?", "post": "I can believe I actually have to ask this.\nI've been living with my boyfriend and his family for almost 2 years now. We are both 19 and in college. We are living here to save money while we are in school. I do all of the cleaning in the house, some of the cooking, and the laundry for me and my boyfriend. I also help with groceries when I can.\nHis parents left on a vacation for a week and left his grandma as a babysitter. I even heard her on the phone saying she was babysitting the kids. Now he has a younger brother who is 15, but the 2 of us have taken care of him before for just as long and nothin bad happened. In fact it was quite successful.\nWhen the parents get back, how do I confront them about this in a way that won't jeopardize my living arrangements and my relationship with them?", "summary": "I have no polite way of telling my boyfriends parents that we are no longer children and don't need babysitters. How do I tell them without fucking myself over?"}
{"id": "t3_13tmjp", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Loves walks, hates leaving the house", "post": "My German Shepard is coming on 6 months old and I thought this problem would sort itself out once walks became a regular thing.\n\nOn advice from my breeder I didn't take him out for walks, except short ~ 2 minutes round the front garden once a week, till he was 5 months. Now I'm starting to take him out for longer (10 - 15 minute) walks more often (every other day).\n\nWhilst he's on the walk he's fine, a bit of pulling but otherwise quite happy and I've eased up on his discipline now he knows not to run onto the road and how to behave around other people. He gets plenty of time exercising in the back garden and does all of his toilet there (and I've learnt that he will pull like hell to get home to do his business).\n\nThe problem comes with taking from the house or garden out into the world. He'll sit, lie down, pull... anything but come to me whilst I'm outside tempting him to me.\n\nI've tried baiting him with food, throwing his ball, tons of praise for walking even 10 steps from the door and returning again, lead off, collar off, different door, new people to meet, doggy friends to walk with and now I'm getting wound up.\n\nI hate to resort to pulling him out, but as he gets bigger he's going to need the exercise and I won't have the time to wait 15 minutes for him to decide outside isn't so bad when he's getting a decent time walking. His behavior starts the whole walk off in the wrong way when I'm throwing balls and offering food rewards to get him to leave the house, as well as undermining my authority in his eyes.\n\nHas anyone had a similar problem and overcome it, or know of a solution I can try before this starts to define our roles when leaving the house?", "summary": "6mo Male German Shepard refuses to leave the house for walks unless baited with a mountain of treats or tricked with his favourite toys, even though he loves the walk. Looking for advice to have him follow me out without making a fuss."}
{"id": "t3_mxmii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Feelings Aren't Valid (22/Male)", "post": "We're both 22, dating about a year, and this problem has slowly developed. She has begun to develop a really negative attitude over time, and for about the last two months probably 80% of our conversations are her complaining and me trying to help her. I don't think she's genuinely unhappy, just that I've fallen into a cycle of giving her the sort of attention she wants when she does complain about things. It has become a problem though, because I'm constantly walking on egg-shells trying not to upset her, but she isn't nearly as careful. If I express when I'm upset, she acts defensively like it isn't her fault, or she turns it around into something I've done wrong. \n\nI feel like she is always wanting to be the victim, but I'm running out of sympathy. She never gives credit to the challenges of my days, and as a result I rarely talk about when I'm upset and I try to stifle most of my complaints. This is making me feel more like a therapist than a lover, and as a result my libido has plummeted. I'm not sure how to break this cycle.", "summary": "Girlfriend always complains, never listens when I complain."}
{"id": "t3_19rlyd", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog only pees at one spot", "post": "I recently adopt a 11 months old husky mix from a rescue. Everything is fine and dandy with her, except that she doesn't seem to pee. At all. This got me really worried, but luckily she found a spot at the local dog park that she likes and is willing to pee there.\n\nMy problem is that she only pees at the dog park now. The park is not open 24 hours, and my schedule does not allow me to bring her to the park all 3 times. So is there ways to tell my dog that it is okay to pee as long as we are outside?", "summary": "Dog only pees at dog park, which isn't open all the time."}
{"id": "t3_17b0r2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some help from you Reddit.. Friend need some where to stay in Shanghai.", "post": "A friend of mine needs some help.\n\nShe recently arrived in Australia in order to see a friend who'd convinced her to finally come out from France. She also took it as a chance to see my wife and I.\n\nHer friend has fallen through in so many ways and is now canceling the accommodation she promised for a week in Shanghai before returning to France. \n\nHere's the worst part. My friend is a single mother and has her beautiful two year old girl with her. She saved for ages to come here and doesn't have enough money for a hotel. The only thing she needs is a place to stay in Shanghai for the week she is there.\n\nPlease reddit if you know someone who has a bed or couch let me know. She leaves in a week!", "summary": "Friend has nowhere to stay with her daughter for a week in Shanghai. Can you help?!"}
{"id": "t3_4t1rmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] am falling for a [25F] friend. My thoughts are consuming me. Please help!", "post": "A crush of mine recently split with her long time BF. We've had a few dates. I'm trying to be as patient as I can emotionally with her. I really like this girl and I want to pursue a relationship with her. I feel like I'm obsessing over it and I can't do anything but wait until our next date. I'm trying to not message her too often, and I'm trying to fill the time with other activities, but nothing holds my interest. It's to the point where sleep is difficult. I'm looking for help coping either my thoughts and occupying my time away from her so that I don't scare her away. Help?", "summary": "Crushing hard on a girl, going insane. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_43nktx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my first (ex) girlfriend [23 F]. She just exited a serious LTR, and wants to meet for drinks.", "post": "So, some background:  We dated through high school for about a year.  I enjoyed the time and so did she, I ended up breaking it off with her when I went to University.  To my shame, we would meet up after we had broken-up to hook-up.  This continued for at least as long as we dated.  We never actually had sex, in fact and this is probably the strangest thing, we would make out, and I would take off her clothes and finger her, but was too self-conscious to let her touch me.  I enjoyed it physically, but I think I could feel her pretty much emotionally break apart as this went on.  Things did not end amicably during this period.  \n\nFast forward to today, I got a Facebook message from said girl, we'll call her Shelby.  She has just (been) broken up with (by) someone a week ago.  I'm not really sure of the details.  We talked a little bit, and I explained I was really focused on school, business and several projects, and that I wasn't interested in dating or looking for love.  She suggests we hang out, and I feel like in a bit of desperation, I've agreed to meet her tomorrow night for drinks.  \n\nI can't help but feel like I'm some sort of bandaid, and given our history, I feel like drinks will lead immediately to a hook-up relationship.  Has anyone had any good experiences with this?  I want to develop healthy relationships and I feel that if I allow this to sink into a hook-up I'm going to disqualify myself from much healthier relationships.  Advice?", "summary": "Opportunity to finally sleep with first girlfriend, but I feel that it might not be the best idea.  Questions, comments, snide remarks?"}
{"id": "t3_10p8g7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, in what ways has life just screwed you over?", "post": "Over the past week, I went around applying everywhere had a few interviews with no luck. My friends grandma heard I was Desperate looking ways to earn cash. So she called me and said she'd pay me a few bucks if I help her clean her Garage and just around her house. She payed me over all $120. I made plans to give some to my mom and hopefully afford the tools needed to fix my CPU. I happened to have dropped my cash in my living room and my little brother spent it on his friends and him self. I asked why didn't go around asking who it was first, and his reply was: Because I needed it.... So, how does Life show you that is hates you?", "summary": "Worked my ass off for money I needed, little brother wasted it in dumb crap."}
{"id": "t3_2sfr7x", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fell off the wagon again", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI normally lurk on this sub but today I messed up and just need to get it out so I can start at square one again. I'm a 23/M 5'4 and weigh about 160lbs. Before I started college I was about 135 to 140lbs which was fine for me because I was active and fit enough that playing football or any kind of sorts wouldn't leave me out of breath. Now after 3years at my desk job, I feel I can barely go up a flight of stairs before losing my breath. \n\nSo I finally decided to be in control again and starting working out and watching what I eat. So far I have been doing great but my main problem is stress eating. At the moment I cannot resolve what is currently stressing me so I will relapse and just eat everything around me. Right now I'm just looking for tips on how to battle stress eating and some encouragement to continue on the better path to a healthy lifestyle.", "summary": "keep stress eating, need help to fight it"}
{"id": "t3_13aykh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The Silent Treatment", "post": "So I am in a relationship with an older man, G. I'm early 20s, he's mid 30s, the age difference has never been an issue. After a great summer together, we decided to continue our relationship long-distance. We've kept up on skype, text, IM, and phone, and things have been going well, until the past month.\n\nLately, G has been getting into these spirals of depression, texting me drunk why I like him, that he hates himself, that he wants more out of life, etc, etc. It started happening about once a week, and on occasion twice. As much as I want to be there for him, it's absolutely draining. I am his girlfriend, not his therapist, but he refuses to even consider the notion of getting help.\n\nOn Wednesday, he texted me the usual depressed stuff, and I snapped at him. I told him that I didn't understand why he thinks this way about himself, that his negativity was bleeding into my life, and that he needs to be proactive in fixing his mood disorder. He said he was embarrassed and that he'd stop in a text he sent me at 5AM.\n\nThat was the last time I talked to him. On Thursday morning, he had created a Facebook (he previously hadn't had one) and added me on it. That's the only contact I've had with him. I pinged him on Gchat at noon, which I know he saw (he went from idle to available), and then called him last night (his phone rang and I left a message). He is clearly giving me the silent treatment. \n\nThis silent treatment has been going on for about 36 hours at this point, and I'm starting to think that he might be breaking up with me without telling it to my face. I'm not sure if I should try to contact it again, or wait it out, or what I should say to him when I talk to him. I want to be firm about him getting help, but right now he's manipulated the power in the relationship that I'm just grateful to hear from him.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "34M is giving 23W long silent treatment because she wants him to get therapy."}
{"id": "t3_4134zo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] enjoy smoking weed, and my roommate [26M] is constantly trying to make me feel bad about it.", "post": "Obviously this is in a state where pot is legal. I am a hard working construction worker and also go to classes part time. I get out of the house as much as possible for hiking, biking, camping, etc.\n\nI admit, when winter rolls in, I probably smoke more than usual because I can't do my favorite activities. But even still, I see nothing wrong with coming home from a long day and blazing some herb (trying to be cool w/ lingo).\n\n---\n\nI have three roommates, and one other smokes weed inside. Another strictly smokes outside, and sometimes I wonder if he bothers the neighbors. The 26-yo roommate harasses him about his habits too. He calls us lazy, constantly asks \"Why do you need to get high?\", and sarcastically comments \"You can quit whenever you want, eh?!\".\n\nIt's getting really fucking old. To the point where we don't want to hang out with the guy anymore. We all get along just fine otherwise, and he's basically alienating himself from the group. \n\nI'm a very courteous smoker. I use a carbon filter if I smoke in my room, and try to be quiet if it's late at night and I'm smoking in the backyard. He says I'm very good at hiding the smell, but he can \"Tell by my eyes\" when I'm high. This fucking guy is also calling me \"Lazy\" several times a week. I'm actually thinking about subletting the room and telling him he's a dick.\n\nHis dad owns the house and is one of the roommates and also smokes.", "summary": "roommate is a dick/shitty friend. Have told him to back off this subject several times. I used to drink a lot but now I very rarely do - he would have no issue if I were getting shitfaced or grinding up pills etc. What do you tell someone who won't shut up about one particular thing? Should I just stop talking to him? We all pay our fair share of rent and bills here."}
{"id": "t3_2tdy0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After all we have been through i(F19) feel like things have become so distant and forced with him (M24)", "post": "When my bf and I met a year and a half ago, I was a few weeks pregnant, failing high school, depressed, and he became my rock.  He helped me when I was going to have an abortion.  Completely supported me. Before I had the surgery I found out I had naturally miscarried.. My school took me to court because I was out so much...  I was so sick I couldn't get of bed most days..  Then when I was starting to get my life back, my mom took off to another state.  Leaving me with a guy I had known for 6 months and I still had 4 months of high school left. One of my best friends died, and he helped me through it.  My bf and I have been through so much, we have come so far.  But I feel like what we had between us is dying. He barely talks to me.  He would rather sit on his computer or xbox for hours, days on end rather than talk to me. Gets angry when I try to kiss him if he's playing  a game...  I want the man I fell in love with back.  Each day I feel closer to leaving. Staying like this is breaking my heart.", "summary": "my relationship is going Down the drain."}
{"id": "t3_317ncq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24f) mom(59) and my boyfriend's(29) mom(60?) both make me uncomfortable. Holidays are now miserable for me and something I dread. How can I improve this situation?", "post": "My mom is mentally ill and severely neglected my sister and I when we were children. My relationship with her is strained and has been co-dependent in the past. I went to therapy a couple of years ago and this immensely helped me with setting boundaries and keeping my sanity around her. Her apartment is filthy and she is missing all of her teeth and is super lonely, it is just depressing and uncomfortable and reminds me of the disorder I was raised in. She does not have a car and lives about 15 miles away, so it is much easier to go see her than it is to pick her up and bring her to my apartment. Also, I am on a very small budget and so is she, so going out to a restaurant is not feasible. \n\nMy boyfriend's mother told me I was \"dead to her\" when he and I got into an argument once, and when one of my closest friends ended a relationship with her other son (my boyfriend's brother), this woman sent her a nasty e-mail and made me read it (after she had already sent it). She is very nice and caring on the surface but these situations have shown that she is incredibly judgmental and vindictive. I am uncomfortable around her as a result.\n\nBecause of these things, I only see either of them on holidays. However, this arrangement has now made holidays very unpleasant for me. I play along, smile, and eat the food, but inside I anxiously await the end of the day. \n\nHow can I remedy this without making things worse? I literally only see these people on holidays. Completely cutting either of them out of my life would be horribly detrimental to my mom's sanity and to my relationship with my boyfriend, who is super close to his mother.", "summary": "SO's mom has been vindictive in the past and I'm unable to trust her and generally dislike her now, and my mom is mentally ill (refuses treatment) and being around her gives me anxiety. I only see them on holidays. How can I better cope with this so that my holidays are not so miserable?"}
{"id": "t3_1z0p85", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/m] dating someone [20/f] non-exclusively, what can I do to stand out from the competition?", "post": "So I've been dating this fantastic girl for a month and a half now and I really enjoy the time spent with her. We are dating non-exclusively but I'm really starting to like her, problem is I know that I'm not the only guy she is dating (It's casual so I don't have any right to complain). She still puts forth a lot of time and effort to see me, but I want to make sure I stay one step ahead of the other guy. Has anyone had any experience with casual dating like this and can offer some pointers? Is it in my interest to back off and play the hard to get game or should I pursue her more? We've talked exclusivity but she isn't ready yet, so I want to make sure next time I bring it up she has no doubts that she likes me more than the other guy.\n\nObviously she likes who she likes and I can't control that, but I feel like I could use some pointers since I've never been in this situation.", "summary": "Casually dating this girl for a while, I know she is dating someone else. What are some things I can do to stand out over the other guy?"}
{"id": "t3_3yy67r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] single after a 7 years, Afraid of Dating.", "post": "I was in a long term committed relationship with my fiancee for 7 years. I don't want to get into why that's not a thing anymore in this post, but I do have questions about getting back into the dating scene in my 30's. Most people I know in my age group are married and have kids. I'm lost.\n\n1. I am dead afraid of putting myself out there. I never thought that I'd have to be in this position again, and I have forgotten how to be single. I'm afraid that I'm coming off awkward when I'm introduced to people. And I'm afraid of sabotaging things because of it. \n\n2. As it stands, I'm looking for ways to just go on a casual dinner or activity. I'm not really ready for anything past hanging out. Sexual encounters are off the table for the time being, and I'm afraid that that's going to be an issue in the dating world.\n\n3. I don't know where to start looking. Dating websites seem sketchy. I don't mind going to the bar from time to time, but drinkings not a huge part of my life. I think that this is my biggest concern. Where do people in my position find each other?\n\nSeriously, any advice is welcome. I have spent the better part of this year alone, and I am ready to get back out in the world. I just need a little help doing it.", "summary": "I'm 34 and single, and I have no idea what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_21hudc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24/M with my crush 21/F. Was she just drunk or is she into me?", "post": "Hey so I was at a party a couple of weeks ago with some people from uni. Anyways, I was sitting next to this girl from class that I kind of have a crush on. While we were talking, she kept doing things like putting her arm around me, resting her head on my shoulder, putting her hand on my thigh, etc. She was also sitting next to one of her mates from school who was talking to her the whole night but she wasn't being touchy with him at all. I ended up walking her back to her room because she was really drunk and couldn't walk completely straight. On our way back she kept trying to hold my hand and grabbed my ass a couple times.\n\nSo my problem is when I see her at school, she's friendly enough to me, but I haven't gotten any further signals from her at all. Then again, she's not really touchy-feely or flirtatious with people in general when she's sober. I don't know if she actually has a thing for me or if she was just really drunk. Can you give me some input? Yes, I know you guys are going to tell me to just ask her, but I want to hear other perspectives before making a move.", "summary": "not sure if girl is interested or was just really drunk"}
{"id": "t3_z7xyg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hello reddit. I'm from the South and we always hold open doors/ are generally nice to each other. Are the other parts of the U.S. really not like this?", "post": "I was in Iowa and my southern accented buddy and I were at a gas station. I was in line behind him when the lady gave him incorrect change. He said she gave him an extra $10 (Instead of just taking it) and gave it back to her. She apologized profusely to him and he exited. Then I came up to pay (she was unaware that I was with him) and her coworker and her started making fun of him, saying things like \"Well ain't thait ah nice gent-til-mayen from the sou-yuth,\" and making fun of his accent. \n\nAlso while in Iowa, I was walking through the parking lot at a grocery store and held a door open for a women (something pretty much everyone does in west Alabama) and she just looked at the door for a second, then looked at me, then back at the door like it was a trap or something. Then, while in the same trip, I asked a lady where the butter was (I said please) and she grabbed her son and started to back away like I was a pedo. I don't even look weird. \n\nEven more, in the south our waitresses are as nice as can be. They always act very nice, happy, etc. At every place I went to eat in Iowa the waitress would walk up and say, \"What'll you eat?.\" Then half the time the answer would be a fast, \"We're out.\" Waitresses are so much nicer around where I live.", "summary": "Is everybody in the north so damned rude?"}
{"id": "t3_32dtlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] stopped dating [28 M] after about a month, felt horrible anxiety with him but cannot figure out why", "post": "I was dating a wonderful man for about a month, but had been talking with him more as friends for a couple months prior to that. He has so many qualities I want in a partner and I felt a good, fundamental connection with him. I found him cute and enjoyed being physical very much although I never really felt a 'head over heels' feeling for him. He completely accepted me and liked me very much. He is the first person I have dated in years and the first person in a very long time that I felt had great long term potential.\n\nVery soon after we began dating I got horrible anxiety and would think about breaking up with him constantly. I would get tightness in my chest and would think over and over that we just had to break up, although I was not certain why. It intensified as we started sleeping over with each other and then having sex. We eventually ended things after one of my anxiety episodes since we were both feeling horrible about how I would get anxious with him. \n\nI usually feel anxious in my relationships but it has never been to this extent. I'm terrified of always having that feeling of 'this isn't right' in the back of my mind with someone. I'm so sad things did not work with him. I can't figure out where these feelings came from.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone else has had these types of feelings and if you have gotten past them, and if so, how. I am already in therapy and trying to up my self care routine (meditation, exercise, yoga). I am not that young and would like to figure this out so I can be in a healthy relationship some day.", "summary": "Felt horrible anxiety while dating someone wonderful and don't know why. Want to know if anyone else has had these feelings and what they are."}
{"id": "t3_kxsce", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend found my secret journal. It contains dark angry material that sort of is about her. She confronted me.", "post": "I was going through an extremely tough emotional time some time ago and wrote out an extremely dark entry that is about her and a bunch of other anger I had in my life back then. She confronted me about it and was very upset because of the hurtful things that I wrote. I am extremely embarrassed that she read what I wrote. She says that she doesnt feel anything different towards me after reading it. However I can't shake the feeling that something is different now. I am in an extremely happy relationship and love my girlfriend very much. I only wrote it to get it out of my head. Sort of like my own kind of therapy. I didnt really plan on reading it ever again, let it alone have her read it.  Reddit, what should I do to not completely fuck up and have her think I am a raging psychopath? I dont want to ask any of my friends for obvious reasons.", "summary": "Girlfriend read my darkest most personal thoughts about our relationship in my journal. I only wrote it to get it out of my head and love her very much. I am in an extremely happy relationship. Dont really know how to move on with things as I am very ashamed/embarrassed that she read it."}
{"id": "t3_kzeae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Want to go on a 2-3 day mini vacation from NH with little-no cash. Where to?", "post": "Going by myself, because i need to get away for a few days. Im going to sleep in my car, because im not going to be spending almost any money. I live in the seacoast of NH, and Im going to be leaving next Sunday at 2pm. I need to come home Tuesday morning for work by noon. Where should I go? Any suggestions?\n\nI had the idea to  drive up to NYC, (6 hour+/- drive) although i've already been there, so maybe not... Looking for scenic places, i guess. I do, however, see the NH folliage everyday lol. Anywhere really, just needing time to get away from reality for a bit.\n\nThe only money i really want to spend, is on gas/tolls. Im going to bring food. \n\nI cannot afford this for the life of me, but Im in a rut, and I need to do something spontaneous. Im going to bring my camera. I need a small get-away.\n\nAny help reddit?", "summary": "Where can i go from southern NH for 2-3 days driving, while spending little to no money? (no hotels or food)"}
{"id": "t3_uxxoh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most painfully embarrassing way you've seen someone try to take back or talk their way out of something they've said?", "post": "Yesterday a woman accidentally dropped a box on my foot at the grocery store. She started apologizing profusely, but then she asked if I was angry. I said that I wasn't and that everything was cool, and she replied with \"well that is good, your type always seem to be angry about something.\" I stopped for a second and asked what she meant by that; she said that she didn't mean to offend, but that it was natural to assume that \"African Americans\" (I am from Idaho for fuck's sake) are usually angrier than their white counterparts.\n\nI pointed out that what she said was a tad racist. She said, \"no no, I'm not a racist, sorry if I came off that way.\" I was expecting more of an apology, but she followed it up instead with \"I just happen to know from studying evolution, that black African negroids (hand on the bible,   her actual words) have to be more aggressive because you can't make the technology that makes hunting easier. This means you have to be angrier to help you hunt better like normal Africans. See, I wasn't being racist, I just know about evolution\"\n\nI just stared blankly, which she took as a sign of being puzzled. \"You know what evolution is right?\" she said, \"It is an idea that Charles Darwin came up with, do inner-city schools teach about him?\" I abruptly walked away without saying anything else. I was afraid my angry negro death rage might get the better of me. It makes me do +10 flame damage to crackers you know. Kidding aside, it was an overwhelmingly awkward and almost painful experience. I honestly didn't think people like that existed this far into civilization.", "summary": "Lady said something kinda racist. Tried to talk her way out of it with some of the most racist shit I have ever heard in my life."}
{"id": "t3_1ee3o9", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "elevator revenge", "post": "One day I was waiting for the elevator in my building when I saw a neighbor coming from outside. I opened the front door for her as she approached, and we both stood by the elevator. I decided in my head I can quickly run to check my mail box while she would surely wait for me if the elevator arrived. (all the neighbors hate the elevator's slowness and make sure to wait for each other to check the mail as common courtesy )  As soon as I headed toward the mailbox room, she got into the elevator and left without me. For several days I haven't seen her alone, until recently. I was hanging out in the lobby and saw her coming. I opened the front door for her again and we both stood by the elevator, but, I never pressed the elevator button  (the light indicators on the elevator button don't work). So, she stood there for a while, even asking how long I've been here waiting already. I started pressing the button  vigorously as she got annoyed and took the stairs. Eventually I took the elevator to my 5th floor and heard her still climbing the stairs to her 6th floor. I stood by my door pretending to search for my keys just to see her walk by me out of breath.", "summary": "Take the elevator without me and I'll make you take the stairs next time."}
{"id": "t3_12od3q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats your best \"Fuck, i\u00b4ve been drunk....\" Story?", "post": "Yeah, i want to know your most stupid, funniest or simply best story while you\u00b4ve been drunk!\n\nI\u00b4ll start;\nIt was the Birthdayparty of a friend of mine and he lives a bit outside the city. Not far away theres a old house with an old, a bit paranoid lady in it. She has camera installed on the outside and a high fence around the house.\nAnyway, there old streetlight and if you kick them hard enough they go off for a few minutes. Also there have been street signs which you can pull out extremely easy.\n\nSo; we went a bit hammered and decided to go outside and see whats going on. We pass that house and well, one thing leaded to another and we kicked all the lights so they went off for a while.\nI turned around and theres my friend, with two cameras in his hands and a grin on his face. I still have no clue how he got those cameras..\nSomebody pulled the next Vodka and well, i\u00b4m not sure what happened than...\n\nI\u00b4ve found the cameras, a shitload of bottles, my friend, a piece of fence(?), some tomatoes and a street sign on the kitchen floor next day...\n\nAnd just to be sure; The next Weekend we put the cameras and the street signs back. My friend took the fence with him and the bottles.\nI dunno what happened to the tomatoes....", "summary": "Got hammered and found Street signs, cameras tomatoes and my friend lying in the kitchen the next day"}
{"id": "t3_4ke06u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19/M] girlfriend [22/F] leaves most of the time without telling me she's about to", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nHey, so i've been with my gf for quite sometime now. We live a bit far from each other so WE do not get to meet each day(sometimes  we don't meet for a whole week). Anyways so we mostly talk over Facebook/Viber Voice chat ect.. \n\nSo whenever I'm talking to her, she's always my priority,  I'd only focus on talking to her when she's online. But I'm sure it's not the case for her. She can leave mid conversation without telling me she has to, it was okay at first now she does this every time. I talked to her about it and she just told me that she has things to do sometimes and they were all poor reasons, I mean I could leave due to many other reasons but I just don't.. \n\nAm I being a bit more worried than I'm supposed to?", "summary": "my gf leaves mid conversation and it's annoying, talked to her about it but she's still the same. What am I supposed to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jj4cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 F] partner is having a crisis and I [23 M] don't know how to deal with it", "post": "As a background, me and my partner have been together for 4 years. Everything has been pretty good until recently. She comes from a rough background, she was put up for adoption when she was really young and when we first started dating she became part of the family.\n\nRecently she's had a major identity crisis. She's been unemployed almost the entirety of our relationship, with odd jobs like paper rounds. Her mental state and anxiety keeps her away from more permanent jobs, but we're working on that.\n\nWhile she's been at home unemployed, she gets really obsessive over certain things online. First it was Youtube, she would be so involved in Youtube personalities, and when there would be a youtuber that would come to our city (Toronto) she would want to drop everything to go see if we could meet them, and then freak out and cancel when the day would come.\n\nRecently it's been tumblr, she's caught onto tumblr since \"activist\" Suey Park took offence to Stephen Colbert and since has been following activist, feminist and sjw tumblr blogs. I'm all for her supporting certain movements, even if I don't agree with them, but it's just got to be too much.\n\nShe now proclaims to be a feminist, doesn't identify with being female anymore she is now \"xe\" as she is \"gender neutral\" and just jumps onto the biggest tumblr sjw bandwagon that's going around that day.\nEvery time I try mention it, suddenly she gets angry, claims that the \"patriarchy\" is forcing her to assume stereotypical gender roles. She has a lot of psychological problems as it is, and this just makes it worse.\n\nI love this girl, and despite her problems, I want to be around her. My family loves her, my friends love her. This is just too much, and I don't know how to go about weening her off Tumblr in a way she'll agree to.", "summary": "my partner is obsessive with tumblr which is causing our relationship to crumble. It sounds stupid, but I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3plibq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting Back to the Future 2 and my Fiance's birthday", "post": "Well, rather than today, I've had a whole month long period of fucking up. \n\nMy fiance's birthday is tomorrow. Tomorrow is also the day that Marty McFly arrives in \"the future\". Since he was a little boy, his dream has been to get a pair of Nike Air Mags for his birthday on 10/21/2015 and watch Back to the Future 2 while wearing them and reveling in his day. He's been telling me about this plan, literally, since we met four years ago. LITERALLY.\n\nIn September, he asked me to get him a pair for his birthday. Any version would do and he even recommended that I save money and just get a pair from a costume site ($99). \n\nI looked them up, bookmarked them and then promptly forgot. Forgot about the shoes, forgot about his birthday mirroring the date that McFly arrives in the future, forgot that this was his only request for his birthday in 2015. \n\nThe month of October, he's psyched himself up. He thinks that I remembered and purchased the shoes. He thinks that I'm not a total jackass who has forgotten her fiance's ONE WISH. He tells his friends about what I'm doing, unbeknownst to me, they high five and congratulate him on how badass this will be. \n\nThat puts us here, today, October fucking 20, 2015. As we leave from work together, on the West Coast, around 5pm, he turns to me as we wait at a light. \"I normally am really good at waiting,\" he says, \"but I can't wait anymore. I have to ask. Did you order them and have them delivered to the office? I haven't seen any packages arrive at home for you this month.\"\n\nIt is at this point that my stomach falls out of my butt and complete horror washes over me. I have forgotten his one request. As I think about it and apologize and scramble to find a way to get him these damn shoes before the end of the day tomorrow, I come to the sad realization that I cannot ever make this up. \n\nThere is one date ever that I could have pulled this event off.", "summary": "I forgot my fiance's one birthday wish to coincide with Back to the Future 2 and now I can never EVER make this happen again."}
{"id": "t3_iq4en", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Public trolling. Why?", "post": "I would like to preface this with this rage comic I saw earlier:\n    (I didn't make it)\n[I'm referring to the fat woman in the comic, btw. What the guy did in response is justified]\n\nI've never understood why someone would openly mock a complete stranger in public. I have never, EVER felt the urge to do something like that to someone. I've had people do it to me, too. I'll just be riding my bike or something and a car full of teenagers will just drive by mocking me or pulling up close and just going \"BOOO!\" really loudly. Where do people get the stones to do this? Why the fuck would you ever WANT to do something like this? \n\nAnd (most importantly) I ask you, reddit, do you ever do this to other people?  And How do you respond when its done to you?\n\nAlso, Is this a strictly American thing? I live in the states and have NEVER seen something like this done in Japan or Europe. People seem to respect strangers more, I guess.\n\nWhen people do it to me I just feel like a dumbass and continue on my way feeling horrible about myself for no other reason that a person considered me lowly enough to be randomly mean to me.\n\n:'(", "summary": "is being an asshole to strangers in public for no reason (see comic) an American thing? Do you do it? Has it ever been done to you? How do you respond to it?"}
{"id": "t3_1t2q1m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 17/m in a 2 year relationship (17/f). I think I'm too clingy - She says I'm not but acts like I am.", "post": "So 2 years ago my friend (girl) introduced me to a girl - we hit it off, and find each other to be very attractive. We've both had rough pasts, though hers a bit more so than mine.\n\nAnyways, at first we got along so well, we were flirty with each other, and talked as much as we could. We never wanted time apart. \nHowever recently (last few months) we constantly argue.\nThe arguments start because \"I don't know how to leave her alone.\" \nAnd this is true - I don't want to just stop talking to her. I'm a very lonely person without her. \nThese arguments happen fairly often, and have gotten worse. I know she's not uninterested in me, she still wants to be physically with me as much as possible - It's just when we aren't with each other and all we can do is text or be on the phone. \nI being a sensitive guy have brought up the fact to her that I feel like I'm too needy, or too clingy, partly because for some reason I want her to just tell me I am. She never has. \nWhen I do bring this up she says that I'm not. \nWe respect each other, and we love each other - we don't want to lose each other by any means. I can tell that she still wants to be with me. She's never been unfaithful. \nI just want to fix myself. How do I just give her time to herself and not feel so.. depressed and lonely? I've tried so many things like Drawing ( I'm a decent artist) video games, youtube videos, walks, ect. but nothing seems to get the fact that she doesn't want to talk to me out of my mind. Please help. Any advice would be so greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Have Girlfriend, wants space, I am clingy, we argue about it, cant get fact that she doesnt want to talk to me out of my mind, have no life."}
{"id": "t3_l6hl3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, is my landlord allowed to evict me? HELP", "post": "So recently, my girlfriend and I bought a dog, our lease does not allow this.  Our landlord never had visible proof that the dog belonged to us and stayed in the house.  He saw him once and may have heard a bark at some point but nothing concrete.\n\nWe are planning to move out and have arranged a new place that allows for our dog.  We have 1 1/2 months left on our current lease and our landlord (while we weren't home) posted a note (not a legal notice) on our door explaining our breach of lease and said we have 3 days to vacate or fix the default.  We've looked online and consulted a few other people that have explained that this isn't the \"legal\" process for eviction and in reality we have much longer that 3 days/36 hours.  We are planning on moving out in exactly 1 week anyway.  \n\nIs our current landlord going about the situation incorrectly and trying to take advantage of our assumed ignorance?  Can he really kick us out without a court order? Does the \"eviction notice\" have to be presented by someone other than our land lord?", "summary": "We have a dog, it's not allowed, landlord is evicting us by simply putting a typed letter with his letterhead on our front door.  Is that allowed?"}
{"id": "t3_3ncvyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] don't know how to meet people.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships,\n\nI'm not sure if this is the best place to post this, if you can think of anywhere that would be more appropriate please let me know.\n\nI was in a relationship from before I turned 16 until about 6 months ago, shortly before I turned 20. We met in high school. Now that I've been single for a little over 6 months, I'm definitely feeling ready to get out there and meet people. My issue is that I pretty much just work and go home every day.\n\nMy job is customer-facing, but unless the circumstances were perfect and someone blatantly expressed interest in me (which has never happened), it would be inappropriate for me to try to ask out a customer. I'm too young to take part in the bar scene. I'm not in college at the moment so I won't meet anyone there. \n\nMy question is simply, where can I go or what can I do to meet interesting people (girls) who may be receptive to being flirted with or asked out?\n\nI know this is a stupid question and I just have to put myself out there with girls that I see, but I feel like being in a relationship for the majority of my late adolescence and never having to worry about meeting girls has somewhat put me behind the curve as far as approaching girls, asking them out and going on dates. I have been on 3 or 4 Tinder dates but nothing has really come of them and I generally don't get many matches there.\n\nAny ideas or general advice?\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Spent all of my late teen years in a relationship which has been over for 6 months. I'm ready to meet people but don't go to college and can't take part in the bar scene. How can I organically approach and talk to girls, and what setting is best to do this in?"}
{"id": "t3_2qq2l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] had a weird fight with her [23F], dating for 1 month.", "post": "Mary and I met in class, we're both grad students, and started hanging out together right away. The second time we hung out, she asked if we were friends. I told her \"Nope. We're deciding if we want to be more than that.\" She said \"Okay,\" and after a few weeks, we started sleeping together. It was great, I was on top of the world.\n\nWe're both home for the holidays now, and we've been texting a lot. She keeps referring to me as a friend, which is weird, and every time I remind her we aren't friends. She rolls with it. Two days ago she was oddly silent all day, which isn't too worrying, she's a busy girl and I know how the holidays get. But late last night she texted me saying she had a bad day. She said she didn't know why I was the first person she thought to tell, and that she didn't know what she needed from me. I invited her to share what was on her mind, and she said \"We're not even friends, so I'm not sure what the point of this is.\" I told her I was sorry she was having such a rough day, and that we aren't friends because I see potential in her. She said \"Whatever.\" and I let the conversation stop there.\n\nThe next day around noon I texted her and said I appreciated her sharing, and I know it's hard for her, but I was upset she snapped at me. I haven't heard anything else from her.\n\nI'm so frustrated and confused. The day before the fight she was telling me how much she likes me, and now this sudden turnaround. I want to talk to her, but I'd prefer to do it face to face, which would mean waiting a few more days. Should I wait or should I call her sooner? Or do I hold off altogether and see if she contacts me?", "summary": "Things were great, she had a bad day and took it out on me, now she's ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_2dgpd7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not kissing a bunch of guys", "post": "Contextually, it is important to know I have a \"reputation\" amongst my gaming circle. It would seem it's far worse than the truth, but I had no small part in becoming the house dice tray (too many people have had a roll with me) because of a streak of bad choices which I am glad to be past.\n\nSo now I have a boyfriend from that group and he's amazing. We laugh together and talk about heavy stuff without getting weird and I think it's fair to say we are heading towards mutual weirdness. There's just one problem: I can't kiss for shit. I haven't kissed as many guys as I've done other stuff with because kissing is very intimate and because tongues gross me out, but now I have somebody I actually want to kiss and I'm terrible at it.\n\nHe didn't want to tell me, but after our first not-peck kiss he had a quick half-chuckle and I dove upon it with every ounce of insecurity in me until he told me. Even then, he said it was cute that I hadn't kissed many guys before. I'm still mortified.", "summary": "I built this horrible reputation as a raging slut, and I can't even kiss a guy properly."}
{"id": "t3_e7ini", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HERE IT GOES, OH EM GEES: DAE think that atheists (and militant at that) are just as stupid as people who are totally convinced there is a God of any kind?", "post": "I do. As a matter of fact I do not believe in any of what I call \"commercial Gods\" aka all the religion Gods, for their purpose of manipulating and keeping the masses under control is obvious. I also do not believe in any kind of magic or paranormal explanation for anything that happens in the world and I find the belief in miracles pretty fucking ridiculous, especially the miracles religion tells you have happened.\n\nThat said, as Kurt G\u00f6del has taught us, Math and Physics can explain much, but so far, and are (yet) surely out of ammo when it comes to certain questions. My standpoint is this: Sure, there can be absolutely nothing, but there can be a GSM, a giant Squid, a man with a long white beard, any fucking thing that started it all, who cares, I have found that it's for the better of my life to operate as though there is nothing\n\nI also find the militant atheists of reddit extremely annoying. I understand that in the USA this is a matter of signifcant importance as there is a kind of undeclared war between science and religion and that it leads people to become militant in order to better their lives and not have it abided by laws that come from the middle ages and are/will go there because people believe what Christianity tells them. Other than that though, you have to respect the need of people to go on with their lives calmly and in peace. I don't pick on my 90 year old grandmother because she believes in the Christian God for the very same reasons I don't pick on a stupid kid because he doesn't understand Mathematics.", "summary": "Believing that there is for sure magic is just as stupid as being convinced about answers that have not yet been given by science. The latter is still solely faith, even though it might appear otherwise. Enlisting yourself fanatically in either of the groups is overkill stupid."}
{"id": "t3_kvczm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "just need to get this off my chest", "post": "I work hard. Really hard. Mostly 18 hour days for a .com corporation I helped co-found. I'm 21, live (right now) with my parents, and have a golden retriever that I love to death and have had since a puppy for almost a year and a half now.\n\nRight now I don't like being home. I came home as it was my only option because I had dropped out of college to continue my career and work on the website full-time. I have never regretted the decision.\n\nMy friends from home are, to put in a nice way, \"unenthusiastic\" about where life is headed and do little to nothing to excel in anything. I like my friends but their life choices and habits are no longer meeting up with mine and it's becoming harder and harder to hang out. Since this is a holiday, all my friends that have gone away to college have come down too including my best friend. It seems though I no longer have any connections with her. She likes to do XYZ, I like to do ABC. It's gotten to the point where here in my hometown I have absolutely no one to talk to. No one has asked me how my site is doing, or what I'm doing, or HOW I'm doing. I'm not doing well. I'm struggling to keep my shit together because living at home is driving up the wall and I don't have enough money to move out yet and probably won't for another couple months.\n\nI'll probably be downvoted to hell for this but I just want to grow up already and no one here wants to do that. No one I talk to ever wants to just get their shit straight first and then celebrate life. Work hard, party hard. It's a forgotten concept. I have friends going to grad school because they \"miss college life\" and \"don't want to enter the real world just yet.\" Not for nothing, but I honestly believe these people need to grow up and look at where they are going. No one does though.\n\nWhen I begin to make money, I promised myself I was going to drive to California and start my life over there.", "summary": "I feel my priorities are in line but I feel like crap because none of my friends can relate to me"}
{"id": "t3_2gx0dw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not bringing in all the bags from the car", "post": "Yep, it happened today.\n  \nMy wife wanted the family to load up in the family truckster and drive 30 minutes away to hit some stores.  We went to Target, Best Buy(ok, that was for me), Old Navy, etc.\n  \nAbout 3/4 of the way through Shoptember, my body was headed to napville.  Still being the driver for our festivities, sleeping was out of the question.  So, I pressed on.\n  \nAfter driving the 30 minutes home, the couch was calling my name, but still sleep was unattainable.  I *thought* I brought in all the bags from the car, but at this point you could have told me that I met Abraham Lincoln and I wouldn't have said anything.\n  \nAs the wife starts to take inventory on her massive haul, she notices one bag missing.  She re-checks the bags, nothing.  I re-check the car, nothing.  She calls the store of the missing bag, and all they can really do is have us come in.\n  \nDuring all of this, a friend of mine came over to use the garage.  While I'm out helping him, my wife asks where one particular bag (with Christmas presents in it) is.  It just so happened to be in the garage (I put it there) with the missing bag.", "summary": "Took family shopping. Put a bag somewhere else and forgot about it. Wife thought that I forgot it. Blame game and hilarity ensued."}
{"id": "t3_x7nu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "what do I do about me feeling like I hate my friends?", "post": "alright I'm 18 and my friends are anywhere between 3 years younger and 7 years older and my question is that I hang out with my friends to be social, but often I feel like I hate them deep down, why is this?\n\nAlright I'll try to explain this better, I pretty much only hang out with my friends because I hate being by myself. My friends are kind, caring individuals, who show the same interests as me but often before I go to hang out with them I feel this dread that I'm going to be talking to them. I make fun of them and belittle them in my head when I'm alone even though this goes away when I'm with them.\n\nI don't know why I feel this way but it's not the first time I've done this. So I'm not sure what to do now because while I care about my friends, I feel like deep down I hate them", "summary": "Even though I like and care about my friends; who are awesome and considerate people (sometimes), I feel like I hate them deep down, why is this and is there anything I can do to stop it?"}
{"id": "t3_143tq8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm an academic introvert, but on two occasions couldn't help but to correct the bullsh*t coming out of a professor's mouth. Reddit, when have you been compelled to take on a teacher due to misinformation and/or unfairly biased viewpoints?", "post": "I guess it's only fair that I go first (these aren't the only times I've argued with a professor, but the ones that immediately come to mind): \n\n1. When I was a sophomore, I was taking a course on US history between WWI and WWII. One day, seemingly out of nowhere, the professor begins talking about how Muslims are more inherently violent than other religious groups. \"They have more blood on their hands than anyone else,\" \"They show a history of violence that is incomparable to all others and whose nature is still apparent today,\" etc. etc. \nDon't get me wrong - I'm not saying every Muslim is a saint or that their history is free of bloodshed. If he was going to target Muslims, then others should get their dues as well. I asked for the sources on his expressed views, what he was basing his conclusion on, and what it had to do with the course at hand. He seemed taken aback as I cited Biblical verses and atrocities committed by other religious groups until the class was over. He refused to make eye contact with me for the rest of the semester. \n\n2. When I was in a psychology course in another school, the nature vs. nurture debate was on the table. My teacher decided to then use \"pit bulls as evidence that nature is stronger than nurture. I mean, their jaws even lock. They're naturally violent. That's why they're not allowed here,\" she said. What ensued was a 15 minute Wimbledon-esque back and forth between her and I. I asked for her sources, medical proof, etc. Nothing more than \"well, I heard...\" or \"once, my neighbor was...\" I countered her on every point - with verifiable facts. My final words were, \"Why don't we stick to human psychology and leave animal physiology to someone who's familiar with it?\"", "summary": "Engaged in lengthy arguments with two professors at two different universities regarding \"inherently violent natures\" of one religious group and one dog breed. I won. Knowledge is power and they lost because of it. "}
{"id": "t3_1t28y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] keep getting upset with my boyfriend [19 M] because he's always late.", "post": "Okay, so my boyfriend is literally late to EVERYTHING.  He says he'll pick me up at 5 and usually gets to my place around 5:30.  It's so extremely frustrating because I've started to hate waiting around for him all the time.  This whole topic of being late has caused so many fights between us, and it's not getting any better.\n\nI've talked to him about it multiple times and in multiple ways and he always says he'll work on fixing it, but he just doesn't.  It kind of makes me feel like I'm not worth that kind of effort.  It's like he doesn't care if he shows up or not.\n\nWe've been together for almost two years and he's been one of those people that's always late since before we started dating.  So, do I overreact by getting mad over this?", "summary": "My boyfriend is always late, and it's starting to affect our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4qey1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] ''lover'' [19M] found out I have herpes and now the mood has changed", "post": "So I got genital herpes last year and now is the first time since then I've had an outbreak. Between that time, I've slept with this guy. It's a guy I really like, and I feel like we could be at the beginning of a relationship.\n\nNow this guy knows that I've been ill and he demanded to know (via text) why I was ill. So I told him but then he started freaking out. He was unhappy that I hadn't told him earlier, so I apologised for not telling him earlier and told him it didn't seem relevant because I hadn't had an outbreak and so it wouldn't have affected him anyway.\n\nHe's very unimpressed with me and now he's not responding to my messages. I feel upset now because it's something that's out of my control and I feel like it's now ruined my chances with him. It feels like he's now always going to see me as some kind of walking infection.\n\nWas I in the wrong to sleep with him when I had herpes and not tell him? Will I ever be able to sleep with anyone again if I have to always tell them I have herpes beforehand?", "summary": "I have herpes and the guy I'm seeing isn't replying to my messages as a result"}
{"id": "t3_mzxrn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[help] Yesterday a lady mistakenly thought that I was pregnant.", "post": "I was mortified. Also I really want to start traveling more and I hate subjecting whoever has to sit next to me to have to deal with me encroaching on their personal space. \n\nI know it's time to start caring about my body more and paying attention  to how the chices I make will affect my body. \n\nI know there are already a billion posts on r/loseit that I can read through with tons of motivation and tips, but if any of you are out there with any new stuff, I would love to read what you have to say to me.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I am fat and it's time that changes."}
{"id": "t3_3sgfq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] got fucked and chucked by her [24F] on our second date. Feeling pretty lousy.", "post": "I met her on OkCupid last weekend. We went out for coffee and had a really nice conversation for about two hours. We texted a lot over the next few days and things seemed to be going pretty well.\n  \nWe had our second date last night. We went out for dinner and  drinks and the conversation was flowing pretty smoothly. I suggested that we move on to another bar. She suggested we go back to her place and drink.\n  \nWe ended up making out on her couch and things moved to the bedroom and we had sex. Not long after we were done, she asked me to leave. She had work in the morning and I didn't, so I didn't think much of it because she needed to sleep.\n  \nThis afternoon I got the text saying she wasn't interested in pursuing things any further. Did I do something wrong? She seemed to enjoy the sex very much, so I don't think it was that. I feel so used and could use some kind words.", "summary": "Had sex on the second date and then was asked to leave. She doesn't want to pursue things further and I'm feeling pretty lousy. Could use some kind words."}
{"id": "t3_1odx7f", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Ex-gf is being bitchy", "post": "I broke up with my gf of a year after moving to a new school. Real Barbie type. Blonde, beauty pageant contestant, etc. Proceed to hook up with girl at new school, later find out she's a complete slut. Break it off with her, but we were good friends before it happened so I still feel a bit protective. Slut graduates and goes to college, and after the subject comes up with my ex I tell her the whole story. Later find out that she got the slut (who's actually not a bitch, she's pretty nice) barred from two sororities because \"she's a complete whore.\" Like she's the only one at college? Anyway, should I tell the slut whose fault it was?", "summary": "Ex is interfering with post-breakup chick she has no business interfering with, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gx86p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (m16) and my gf (f16) are having issues help!", "post": "Iv'e been with my girl friend for almost three months and its been strong for a while but then it started having arguments and me getting depressed and wanting to cut.\n\nShe gets different around me.. in the mornings and when we sleep together on Skype she is fine but right after school she gets an attitude with me\n\nWe start having arguments about little things she just told me that i wouldn't like her messages with her friends because they are all very sexual and dirty and such.. i kinda flipped out saying i'm the boyfriend, you shouldn't be doing that \n\nAnother example, Her and I got together 3 days after her break up with her one year with her ex.. and still today she misses him.. she talks about how much she misses him and wishes she can hear his voice again\n\nI just don't know what to do anymore.. I don't wanna break up with her.. but also im always getting hurt and depressed and cry.\n\nIt all makes me feel uncomfortable.", "summary": "She has been acting different and cold towrds me ever since she started talking to other guys. Not sure what to do about any of it. Its causing me depression and sadness."}
{"id": "t3_1m1waq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am not sure how to go about asking out a friend [23F]", "post": "This girl has been a friend of mine for a few years. Over the last couple of months, I've gotten a lot closer to her and talk to her much more than I used to. Whenever we hang out we always end up talking and always hit it off. \n\nI decided to ask her out but I have been a little weary of doing so. I don't want to ruin our friendship or make things awkward between us. Another issue is that I can never seem to get a moment alone with her. We're always with our group of friends and I don't want to ask her out in front of everyone. I don't find that to be fair to her. I feel like it puts her on the spot.\n\nThe most time I ever get alone with her is whenever someone decides to get up and leave for a moment but its never enough time to get anywhere.\n\nBut a few nights ago, I was talking to one of our friends. He had asked me out of the blue how things were going with myself and this girl. I hadn't told him anything about trying to get with this girl. When I asked him how he knew, he said it was very obvious. He said our body language and the way we were around each other was different than with everyone else. In addition, he said a few other people said the same exact thing. Now it is pretty much an open secret among our friends that there is something between us.\n\nI can't lie, that was great to hear from him and gave me more confidence in asking her out. But like I said earlier, getting alone with her is always an issue. \n\nSo I must ask, would texting her to ask her out be out of line? I personally feel that texting someone to ask them out is kind of low and not something that I would prefer but I just can't seem to get her alone.", "summary": "Known girl for a few years, want to ask her out, been told by friends she has mutual interest, cannot get a moment alone with her."}
{"id": "t3_2o5v3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20 F] ask my FWB [26 M] what's wrong without coming off as clingy?", "post": "Me and my FWB have been hooking up on and off for months. We both come from relationships that have *a lot* of baggage, but he was more emotionally burdened than I am. Early on we both agreed that neither of us were looking for relationships, although that has kind of changed since I've gotten to know him better and spend more time with him.\n\nThe last time I hooked up with him was a few weeks ago, and I haven't seen him since then. We were supposed to hang out last week, but I had to cancel last minute due to holiday stuff, and he hasn't really made an effort since. Even the tone and frequency of his texts has changed recently, with him not texting me as often \"just because\" or to crack a joke.\n\nMy initial reaction was to just build a bridge and get over it, and that this is probably his way of distancing himself from me and giving me a message that he's ready to move on. But knowing some personal details about how he handles stress and anxiety, I think it may be more than that and that something related to his afore-mentioned baggage may have been getting him down recently.\n\nWe're supposed to be hanging out tomorrow, going to a friend's party that we'd been planning to go to for a while. My question is, how do I ask him what's wrong and why he's been distant without coming off as clingy? If he is trying to send me a hint, I don't want to make things awkward by pressing the issue. But at the same time if something bigger is bothering him, I want to show him I care.\n\nI feel like we're kind of in limbo because we both realize we want different things out of the FWB situation, and I just want to know how to casually approach the situation as his *friend,* not the girl who is being clingy and pestering him because he doesn't text her all the time anymore.", "summary": "Haven't seen FWB in a couple weeks, and he has been texting me less and in a weirder tone. We will be going to a party together tomorrow and I want to casually ask him if something is wrong (with him or us) without coming off as a stage 5 clinger."}
{"id": "t3_1v1ntc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 3 months, says im too emotional", "post": "she says im sensitive and she likes that, and that she still loves me, but that i need to work on a few things.\n\nim very emotional and i know that but i think i do ok at giving her space, but then again, maybe not enough.\n\nshe on the other hand is not very emotional at all. she doesnt talk a ton about how she feels and keeps everything to herself mostly.\n\nwhen we talk, sometimes ill go off on a rant about how i dont like what shes doing and how she doesnt talk to me and that i miss her ..and i can tell, im starting to overreact at that point.\n\ni need advice on how to be less clingy and be ok with space, if anyone could talk to me about this thatd be great.\n\ni also have a big problem with anxiety because of when i was younger so maybe im letting that come out again which is bad. anyway, help is appreaciated.", "summary": "my gf says im too emotional. shes not very emotional at all, while i am. im working on giving her space but i need more advice.. from more experienced people too."}
{"id": "t3_29kg7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my BF [20M] of two years on and off is going off again.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been together since high school. We've broken up a couple of times and for a while during our first year in college. I was completely done with him during the time we were in college, and then like always he crawls back into my life saying how important I am to him and wins me back. \n\nThings were perfect for a couple of months and he would surprise me with visits and shower me in gifts. Eventually things would go back to normal and we would distance ourselves but he would still be super sweet and put me first. \n\nThe thing is that whenever we broke up it would be either before winter break or summer break where he would go visit his family. And so convientently his ex girlfriend lived near them too, so you could imagine why we would break up.\n\nWell he's back visiting his family for the summer. Before he left, we spent a couple weeks together and he was super nice and whenever we did discuss things he told me he wanted to get through the summer and to trust him. He's told me before that I have all of his love and he wouldn't go back to his ex if I was in the picture, but sometimes it's hard to believe him with all that we've been through.\n\nI know he's been hanging out with his ex with all of his friends and family. Their families are really close so I understand but I feel like he just isn't talking about it with me and being completely honest.\n\nWhenever I try to talk about it with him he just shuts down or tells me to stop yelling at him. He's also been distant these past couple of days and won't text me as much, doesn't call me at all, and ignores my texts.", "summary": "I am starting to give up again since I have been miserable for the past couple of days and can't handle going through the same thing again. As soon as I tell him I'm gonna leave him alone he's concerned all of a sudden. It seems like he is just messing with my head and wants to enjoy his summer and still have me after. Ive been trying to contact him so we can work through this but i feel like my efforts arnt being reciprocated. Should I stop trying, cut all contact, and move on? He means a lot to me but not enough to go through his roller coaster again."}
{"id": "t3_phymh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone here decent with computer hardware?", "post": "My computer died a while ago because of something faulty in the motherboard. Something about a \"southern bridge?\" Basically, the motherboard and my eight gigs of RAM are fried and have been for a while. The hard drive has come out unscathed, confirmed by a friend who builds computers and plugged it into his to see if my files were corrupt. So now i have all my files, pictures and music on my hard drive with no outlet to view them. \n\nToday I decided to switch the hard drive of my other computer with said hard drive and was unable to start the computer because the software had changed.\n\nThe hard drive from my crapped out computer is a Seagate Barracuda 7200, if that is important. I was running Vista on a Hewlett- Packard and I tried it in a Compaq today that runs Windows Seven.\n\nSo... Since I was born yesterday when it comes to this, any advice on what I can do to safely see my files?", "summary": "Tower bit it, have hard drive. Want to see files but can't. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_352hfy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am so damn confused about this woman 25 F", "post": "So, a while back i met this lovely woman. We chatted and i asked her out. She said she had a boyfriend so i let it be. \nAwhile back we met and she asked me out to lunch. The conversation lead to her telling me she wasn't happy in her relationship but didn't want to hurt her boyfriend by breaking up with her.\n\nWe chatted some more, it was all going well so we scheduled another lunch.\nThat time i asked her if she only sees me as a platonic friend or does she see this going further. \nNow, i should mention that i have no intention of pursuing a relationship with this woman untill shes still with her boyfriend.\nAnyway, she was surprised about my question(i guess i was too direct?) and she said she doesnt label guy's as friends or something more so fast. And that she doesnt know yet.\nShe also said that she enjoys spending time with me and we should simply hang out more.", "summary": "Don't know if this woman is into me or im just a friend."}
{"id": "t3_1k22c5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just graduated not sure what to do?", "post": "I'm currently enrolled into college, taking classes for various majors to figure out what I want to do. I haven't started yet and feel that I could do better without going. I have $5k saved up, I'm gonna have to take loans for every year so it would be about $30k-$40k of debt when I graduate. I just been informed I have got my housing straight, I need to pay the deposit by the 16th if I want to attend (on campus dorm.) I currently in the process of starting a ecommerce business. I basically wasn't ready to go to college until I got the call this afternoon. I had everything planned for my business. I was a good A/B student school is not a problem, I want the experience. But, I don't want the debt and I want to be successful. I am a very business minded person, I have been interested in stocks since I was 14. But I have never committed to them. Should I take the year off and take a chance at my business? Or go to school? I would not do both at one time since there would be no time, I need to be dedicated to my business if I want it to advance. I love the school and everything about. Also, I forgot to mention I have around 12 college credits already. And I might be able to take a coding course online, I've already partially learned C++ in high school.", "summary": "Should I continue working on my business and go next year if it fails or go to college?"}
{"id": "t3_2ifwlh", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[DRESS] Feeling inappropriate with my dress choice", "post": "I'm sorry, this is going to be part rant and part asking for advice. I'm at a loss at what to do. \n\nSo last friday I went dress shopping with my aunt and sister and I found the dress. I felt good in it, pretty, like a bride. An wohoo, it was under budget! My aunt was almost in tears, I paid a deposit since I'm still waiting for the Vera Wang dresses but just to be sure. We were all excited and went home. \n\nSo come Saturday I have lunch with my FH's family and I tell his cousin and aunt that I've already picked a dress and the aunt tells me \"Oh, great! Who's designing it?!\". Now, I forgot that my FH's family plays on another level ($$$$) and I want to pay for the dress on my own but now I'm feeling like it's not going to be...enough. Here's some pictures [of me trying on the dress] and the dress [on a mannequin] where you can see the lace cap sleeves. \n\nUgh weddit, sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "I'm a moron who can't decide if she loves a dress or needs to go above and beyond and spend thousands of dollars."}
{"id": "t3_4un2h3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [30F] constantly criticizes me [27M] but is now acting victimized because I made a comment about her weight", "post": "Been dating for a year. Relationship is good except she is something of a know it all and fancies herself a psychologist because she has an AA in that subject. She always has suggestions about how I must improve myself.\n\nShe says I need to:\n\nApply myself more in school (I have an MBA and am working on a second degree in engineering)\n\nBe more ambitious at work (I earn 95 thousand a year, she earns.... zero and lives with me. She sells some etsy drawings but she spends more (of money I earn) than she makes.\n\nChange my hair (be more professional, no more axl rose 1987 hair)\n\nChange my clothes (\"you dress like a teenager\")\n\nChange my diet (no junk food of any kind; oddly this directive only applies to me)\n\nStop punching the speedbag in my garage of my own house because she finds the sound of my workouts annoying\n\nGet more tanned because my skin is too light...\n\nShe's absolutely full of unasked suggestions for me. I don't really mind. I think she means well overall.\n\nExcept this afternoon she again criticized me for being loud in my garage jumping rope and lifting weights. I told her she should join me because \"we all could afford to tone up\"\n\nWELL!\n\nSo now she's mad and won't speak to me because supposedly I called her fat.\n\nShe's in one of the rooms of my house locked in waiting for me to apologize.\n\nWas I out of line? Seems like I've rolled with tons of her punches but now she's snowflaking on a general statement not even aimed specifically at her.\n\nI don't think saying we can all get in better shape (we as in people in the USA in general) is more mean than telling me my haircut is stupid and anachronistic.\n\nDafuq\n\nThe sex is awesome though so at least there's that.", "summary": "girlfriend thinks hinting that all of us she o mud work out more is a suggestion that she is fat."}
{"id": "t3_3be67h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shower in a hotel", "post": "So my mom, brother and I check I to a nice hotel on the way back from a trip. She takes a shower, then I do after. my Brother does and points after after that there is *poop* in the shower. Brown mush came up from the drain!! my mom calls the front desk and the person *doesnt believe her* \"What did you say??\" he replies. My mom says back \"I FOUND P O O P IN THE SHOWER.\" A cleaning man comes up to get rid of it. \"Shouldn't happen again.\" he says when he walks out the door. What??? It better never happen again in my lifetime. Disgusting.", "summary": "Family takes showers in hotel, find poop outside drain."}
{"id": "t3_2npsoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A guy I just met (27) asked me (25F) to go to this hippy dance party next Friday. I like him and want to go but I am a bad dancer.", "post": "I met this really adorable guy at a friend's place a couple weeks ago. We have a few common interests so we exchanged info and added each other to facebook. I gave him my number and we texted briefly before he asked me to go to this hippy dance party next weekend. \n\nThe thing is, I'm new to the city I live in, and I have no one to take with me, so I would be showing up alone, which is awkward and makes me feel nervous. Also, I'm a bad dancer to begin with, but they are playing music that is really hard to dance to, like an eclectic mix of psychedelic trance meets weird drums and Indigenous music...\n\nI'm definitely not a hippy, and it really isn't my scene (nor is it his, he just has friends who fit in there and like to go). I am sure he asked me to go to get to know me a little better, so it's not necessarily a date, but I'm still nervous, feel weird about showing up alone and about having to dance to music that is hard to dance to. He is attractive and I like him so far, so regardless of whether it is a date, I am still freaking out a bit. I am thinking of having a few drinks before to make it easier, but I'm still not sure that will help a lot. \n\nAny recommendations for making things less awkward?", "summary": "Guy asked me to this dance party with weird music and I suck at dancing. I have no friends to bring so I have to show up by myself and feel nervous about the whole thing even though I really do want to go."}
{"id": "t3_tq2uz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The most deeply engrained form of social predjudice.", "post": "An unspoken goal of humankind is to stray away from what is considered to be \"primitive behavior\" and yet, ironically, this behavior is witnessed on a daily basis. In a world humans widely regard as progressive and merit-based (the humans have largely eradicated some forms of instinctual prejudice racism, sexism, etc), 'attractivism', or subconscious and conscious favoring or rejecting of a being as a result of a judgment of their relatively unchanging appearance, is one of the most deeply rooted forms of social discrimination and will never (or face great difficulty) be weeded out of the system in which the humans persist. \n\nWithin the first millisecond of seeing another human being, a human consciously determines how attractive and aesthetically pleasing to the eye they appear. Among competing humans, generally those of the same sex containing the same reproductive organs, the humans will immediately compare their attractiveness as a form of competition. An individual's relative attractiveness largely defines how they are treated and perceived in the society they persist in. Generally speaking, individuals with a lesser relative attractiveness will find it more challenging to find success, reproductively and self-actually, in this system, as a result of deeply engrained instinctual drives. By the same reasoning, more attractive individuals will be given subconscious and conscious favor, and find it easier to find reproductive and self-actual success.\n\n Throughout history, different groups of humans have been fighting for causes, most widely generalized as an argument that an \"uncontrollable, unchangeable, 'born-with' trait should not define the overall success of an individual in his or her pursuit of happiness\", as is witnessed in a variety of active and passive social movements (women's suffrage, civil rights, gay rights, etc.) It appears as though there is always an oppressed group of people demanding equal treatment (as though all other humans are treated equally to begin with, and this group is excluded from such treatment). Social discrimination based on attractiveness does in fact fall under this category. Who is to say the 3's, 4's and 5's of this system will not recognize their obvious disadvantage and demand some sort of change? Will the future hold \"affirmative action\" programs for the unattractive?", "summary": "Attractiveness is the most deeply engrained form of social discimination as it stems from a rooted instinctual drive. Unattractive people are at an obvious disadvantage."}
{"id": "t3_17bz5o", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Call of douchy revenge", "post": "A little introduction: I have a friend who is generally pleasant to be with, but when it comes to Call of Duty, you better pray that god save you from his wrath. Whether he exists or not. I'm that serious. He is insanely pro as well, so you have to put up with dying every 4.6 seconds, and having to wait for him to win with the perfect trick shot, which we should all be ashamed for not being able to do. One might wonder why I play Call of Duty with him in the first place. Well, he does this thing where he sneakily invites himself over to my house, and then insists that we play Call of Duty. So hopefully you can imagine the layers upon layers of obnoxiousness that I have to put up with.\n\nSo one day we were playing splitscreen one on one, and he was doing his usual routine of ever so eloquently discussing my sexual orientation. My revenge plan was born out of how arrogant and demanding he was about how to play the goddamn game that he (surprisingly) didn't even own a copy of. \n\nThroughout the game, he constantly threw fits over cheap weapons, and how you're \"not actually supposed to use the pp2000\", and constantly boasted about every trickshot he made on me. So I waited for the right moment to carry out my plan. When it came, it was with him telling me to \"watch the killcam \"... I could tell by the look on his face that this was the greatest, most awesome trickshot he has ever done. So I watched it.\n\n 5...4...3...2...then, just as the clip started going in slow motion, which signaled that he was about to carry out his amazing trick shot, I hit the X button, and respawned. He flipped the fuck out. But I didn't care. He could insult me all he wanted, but I wasn't going to give this obnoxious, self-inviting jerk the satisfaction of watching himself kill me in the most epic way he has ever done it.", "summary": "Call of duty crazed asshole does the greatest trickshot in call of duty history, and I end the killcam before he can watch it."}
{"id": "t3_wrdio", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do about my husband's friends/family?", "post": "Explanation: I've been pregnant twice; once with our son, once I was a surrogate for my best friend.  I asked my husband both times if he was ok with it, neither of them were a surprise; pregnancy affects me badly, I get nauseous the entire 9 months, and so tired that I have a hard time moving.  \n\nBoth times my husband has subsequently had a breakdown, mostly involving the fact that I can't complete household tasks in a timely manner while I'm pregnant.  He's threatened to leave me both times, the second time he was actually chatting up his high school sweetheart too, and coming home late from work all the time.  At the same time, he was telling his friends and family that I was the one having problems, that I threatened his and our son's life, that I was depressed, that I was always putting him down.  I would never threaten either of them, and I was in actuality trying to encourage him and praise him, because I knew he had to take on more tasks and had a lot to do since I wasn't able to.\n\nSince then, not pregnant anymore, husband has since gotten his sanity back, and decided to stay.  But now his family and friends still treat me like I was the one that was nuts, when he was on his way to cheating and outright lied about me.  He says he's talked to them, but I know for a fact he hasn't told them about talking to his ex, and they still treat me like I was the one who had a breakdown.\n\nHusband and I are trying to make it work, but it's really hard dealing with his friends and family when they treat me like this.  I won't tell them about the ex, as husband has asked me not to, and I'm pretty sure it would only seem as a retribution tactic anyway.  So what do I do, Reddit?\n\nToss in the fact that now it scares me to consider having a second child with him because I'm afraid he'll go nuts again, it's quite a convoluted situation.\n\nThanks for listening, and for any advice.", "summary": "Husband went nuts and told his friends/family lies about me.  We're staying together, so how can I get them to stop treating me like I'm the insane one?"}
{"id": "t3_4cdiqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20, M] Girlfriend [19,F] basically worships me and I don't like it", "post": "My girlfriend basically agrees with anything I say. When we met and weren't dating she didn't really do this but its like she's a robot. I could tell her the sun was made of testicles and she would completely agree and say something like \"wow really? thats amazing. i had no idea\" (obviously a farfetched example but you get the point) she sends me texts all through the night about how great I am with pictures of me and whatnot. I know her real personality is not like this. What do I do to get her to stop without hurting her feelings or making her feel bad?", "summary": "girlfriend agrees with me on literally anything, i want her to have her own opinion."}
{"id": "t3_384sze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31F] problems with my SO's [26M] past relationships", "post": "Hi r/relationships.  This is a throwaway because my SO knows my account.  I've [31F] been with my SO [26M] for just under 2.5 years now and I'm starting to feel really upset about our relationship.  My SO is the sweetest guy in the world.  He's handsome, smart, passionate, and caring.  One part of our relationship bothers me though.  \n\nThroughout our relationship, we have kept things fairly low key in terms of expenses.  We go out on a date maybe once per week to just any restaurant, which I appreciate.  On special days, like birthdays, Christmas, and Valentine's Day, we exchange thoughtful gifts.  Now all of this sounds perfectly fine to me; however, I found out through mutual friends how his previous relationships were.  He would take his girlfriends out to expensive restaurants and shower them with lavish gifts, not just on special days.  Now I am absolutely not a gold digger, but this does feel off-putting, knowing what he did for his exes while putting in the bare minimum for me.\n\nWe have talked about this since I found out, and his explanation does make sense.  Back then, he first started making serious money and was not shy to use it and did not think much about saving for the future.  In his mind, he had the money, so why not use it to make his girlfriends at the time happy?  This makes sense to me, but it still does hurt.  I know it isn't rational, but I don't know if I can get over it.    How can I deal with this?", "summary": "My [31F] SO [26M] used to spend lavishly on his exes but is very conservative in his spending on me.  Not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_3d230q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] feel like I need to ditch my friend [20F] (UPDATE)", "post": "Original \n\nJust a wee update on what happened.\n\nSo I decided to tell her how frustrated I was getting with trying to find us both a place, and that it wasn't really fair. I also told her that if we were to get a place together then I don't want to pay for the extra deposit and any damage the cat does she will be paying for it, not me. She got in a huff with me but I explained that it really isn't fair on me because of her cat.\n\nShe sent me a few links to places in the next city over and I told her that I didn't want to travel all that way to uni every other day. She told me that those were the only places she could find so I told her that I'm not moving to the next city over.\n\nAnyway, the other day she phoned me telling me that it would be best to find our own separate place. We both talked about it and agreed it would be best for both of us. She's nervous about moving on her own but I told her that i would come visit and help out whenever I could so she wouldn't be lonely.\n\nI'm currently still looking for places but have been busy with finishing college and work (I finally got a job), but I'm going to contact a few landlords/letting agencies and try and get viewings sometime the end of this month.\n\nMy friend however has been struggling with finding a place. A lot of landlords don't respond when she mentions she has a cat or they tell her they don't allow pets. She got into contact with a letting agency and they said they would phone her when they find a place that allows pets, she's waited nearly a week and a half and still no phone call. But hey, it's not my problem anymore.", "summary": "I complained to the friend about struggling to find us a place. She phoned me to tell me it's best if we go our separate ways. I'm currently looking for a place and hopefully will get a viewing at the end of the month, she's struggling to find a place because of the cat."}
{"id": "t3_12ztji", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For the less social part of Reddit: What is something someone has done to make you feel \"part of the group\" and make your day?", "post": "I, personally, am not the most social person in the world. I have one or two close friends but that is it and I don't often hang out with them regardless. I am by no means socially awkward and people generally like me due to my wit and compassion. However the simple fact is sometimes I just can't stand people so I don't often get to know them outside of school; they become \"school friends\".\n\nToday I was supposed to see Skyfall with my family, but due to an after school program I had to miss it. One of my \"school friends\" who overheard and told me to come with him and a bunch of other \"school friends\" to see it later tonight. On top of that he drove me home, left, and came back to pick me up so I could get to the theater because my parents weren't going to be home in time from the theater to pick me up from the after school activity or to drop me off for the movie.\n\nReally long story short, I had an amazing time with a bunch of people I now consider actual friends. I usually don't go out with friends and just to see A FANTASTIC movie with fantastic people was great and it's all thanks to this guy who invited me. It absolutely made my day.", "summary": "I don't usually hang with people, somebody invited me to a movie with tons of people, I had a fantastic time."}
{"id": "t3_15zgan", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [26M] am going on a third date [31F] and don't know when to make a 'move'", "post": "Just a little background. I started chatting with a girl from work a little before Christmas, we ended up going out for lunch on the day itself (neither of us celebrate). Went very well and following weekend I went to her place to watch the game and then dinner out. Again, very well. She's coming to my place tomorrow for dinner, then either heading out or staying in. \n\nThe problem is my inability to sense the right time to initiate physical contact or to act on what I think is the right time. After the second date I dropped her off at her place, we said goodbye, and I'm 99.9% sure she was looking for me to make a move before she got out, but I just completely froze up.\n\nThere's definitely chemistry, I'm not getting any mixed signals so there's definite interest from her, and I'm not anticipating any type of rejection.\n\nI haven't been out 'dating' in a number of years. All my relationships in those years have resulted from hooking up with girls, and obviously they didn't last. Since those relationships were built on sex, this type of problem never came up. I'm hoping that going about this the traditional way will change the dynamic of the relationship and make it last longer.", "summary": "Been out of the 'dating' scene for a while and can't sense the right time to initiate physical contact (I.E. kissing) on a third date. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3b1du9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my dramatic but lovable coworker [50F] of 18 months, I have accepted a new position within our company. How to soften the blow?", "post": "I am a nurse for a statewide healthcare organization and I have shared an office with a woman, \"Leslie,\" for 18 months now. Leslie has worked for the company for 16 years and has been deemed \"difficult to work with\" by every close coworker she's ever had. She is small, loud-mouthed, catty, and frequently borders on unprofessional. For some reason, I've never had a problem with her! I'm quiet and don't divulge much of my personal life at work, but we talk and laugh a lot. I ignore the word garbage she spews and everybody carries on.\n\nSo, here's the issue: We work in a department of 5 people at a more remote clinic. One of our providers is retiring and I was told by a boss that my current position may or may not be in jeopardy in the future. She offered me a job in a larger department on the main campus. Now, my natural paranoia tells me that she could be lying and trying to get me to switch departments for her own reasons. Either way, this is really a much better job and I should take the easy out without question. So I am. I've accepted the new position.\n\nLeslie is going to be pissed. She has never been mad at me before, but she is going to complain to everybody who will listen and she will theorize and gossip until she's blue in the face. I feel that she is unreasonable and disgruntled and will not accept the news with grace or respect for me. She gossips with the people in the department I will be moving to. They'll know everything about me before I get there. I can't tell her the real reason that I'm taking the job, either. She will be mad that upper management isn't going to get a new doctor, etc, etc. So I'm asking for a nice white lie or an easy way to tell her to soften the blow and not give her any fuel to lose her cool about it.", "summary": "Moving to a new position within the company I work for and trying to avoid a shit storm of drama from my older, loud, unreasonable coworker who is going to call me a traitor."}
{"id": "t3_2vy2wv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my dad [57 M] Dad is verbally abusive", "post": "Hey guys,\nso me and my dad do not have the best relationship.\n\n I kind of just do my own thing, school and friends, and he does his work. I like it this way, but occasionally my dad becomes really verbally abusive and yells and insults my mom and I.\n\n I have no idea why, but randomly he gets into a bad mood and yells. \n\nWhen I was smaller he used to hit me when he got mad or throw things, but now I'm his size. He also used to hit my mom, but that was around 5 years ago. \n\nThese past two years my dad has been a little bit better, going off on my mom or me once a month, but that isn't the problem.\n\n I can handle his rants because I've heard them over and over, but sometimes I get scared.\n\n I get scared that my dad will kill me while I'm sleeping or something.\n\nHe has hit me before, and I have seen him act completely irrational when angry. If he fought me then I would probably win because I weigh more, and is his height, but I am worried that he might kill me when I'm sleeping.\n\nI feel like it's stupid of me to have this feeling. He is my dad and has raised me and my older brother. \n\nBut you hear this crazy stuff on the news almost everyday. Family shootings, stuff like that. What makes my family so different than them?\n\nWhat should I do though? \n\nI can't tell anyone because they will think my dad is insane and call the cops. I can't do anything because he is my dad after all, and he loves me but is crazy. I also need him because he provides for the family, takes me to school, does all the stereotypical dad jobs.", "summary": "My dad is cray cray and I dont know what I should do if there is anything that I can do."}
{"id": "t3_1v34cy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Awesome(ish) job with miserable commute. What do I do?", "post": "Hey, I'm 22, fresh out of college, and a good family friend was able to hook me up with a fantastic internship during college which eventually turned into a full time 9-to-5 with benefits and about twice the salary I originally thought a \"down economy\" could bring me at the entry level. Overall, I don't think I should be complaining, but there's a the major problem of the commute.\n\nI'm not sure I can express how much I hate my commute right now. I'm in Chicago, heading out to and back from the suburbs 5 times a week. Overall, a trip one way ranges from a breezy and rare 50-minute drive to a hellish, miserable 2-hour stop-and-go. On a given day, I might lose 2-4 hours just to my commute. I've been at this for a few months now and haven't had much success with either to reduce the stress. Last week, with the winter weather in full force, was a bit of a breaking point.\n\nI know I'm good enough at what I do (software development) to get a good job closer if I look, but I'm not sure if I should or how I could leave my current job without burning any bridges or making things harder in the future.", "summary": "My commute is just awful enough to warrant a change; how do I go about getting a new job properly?"}
{"id": "t3_lj6a2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need some help keeping it in perspective", "post": "I began loosing weight back in July, and really committed myself to it.  Then in early August, I was invited to participate in a weight-loss challenge, and the grand prize was a cruise.  By my initial weigh-in I'd already lost 5 pounds.  The final weigh in was scheduled for two weeks from now, and I was in the lead, having lost 18 pounds during the challenge (winner is determined on a % basis). I was motivated before this ever started, and the challenge has just helped me stay on target.  I got an email today that the challenge deadline has been extended a month.  I'm incredibly frustrated.  I know that getting healthier should be reward in itself, but I pushed my goals and worked extra hard over the last 10 weeks to meet my goal by my final weigh-in and win a muthafuckin cruise.  At my current height, it would be somewhat irresponsible and unmaintainable for me to loose more than 5 more pounds, meaning that I almost certainly won't win now.  There is at least one person who has lost the same amount as me, but it was a smaller total percentage.  \n\nAm I wrong to be annoyed at this?  Should I just be happy that I've done so well so far?", "summary": "probably won't win a cruise because a weight loss challenge deadline was extended."}
{"id": "t3_1k05fy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking of cutting contact with part of my (25F) family. Would greatly appreciate any input, advice or shared experiences.", "post": "I am thinking of cutting contact with most relatives on one parent's side of the family, except for the parent. The idea of this, however, makes me extremely sad. The relatives on this side (grandparents mostly, but also aunt) have tried to make me feel bad in a variety of situations such as: \n\nBought me things (without me asking for them, such as small Christmas gifts) and then tried to make me feel guilty (they are millionaires but would say they spent all of their money on me), promised to give me valuable things (unprompted by me) and then given them to others in front of me, lied about numerous things, relayed to others things I have told them in confidence, etc. All of these actions are always disguised as being done out of love. For example, they would make me feel bad as a kid by saying they spent their entire savings on my cheap Christmas gift because they loved me so much, but the obvious goal was to make me feel guilty. Things have recently culminated with them trying to convince me that my mother has lied about something I know to be true (as do they). They are extremely defensive and will never sit through a real conversation about these issues. Other relatives have cut them out for allegedly lying, stealing an inheritance from an ill family member, etc. \n\nAt the same time, they are extremely intelligent, have done genuinely nice things, are my blood and I can't replace them, you know? They are hurtful each time I see them, but I'm also sad at the idea of cutting them out of my life. I hate to admit this, but it has also crossed my mind that I will be losing a chance at a large inheritance. Has anyone here cut out hurtful family members and felt that they did or didn't make the right choice? Will it be freeing to cut ties with these unhealthy relationships or will I regret not having spent time with them while they were alive (they are old)?", "summary": "Should I cut out my manipulative and mean old grandparents?"}
{"id": "t3_2uzaru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 f]with my boyfriend [26 M] of 2 years. Caught him looking at a website that was not porn.", "post": "So we don't live together and I was staying over at his house. We were just lying in bed, I was kind of sleepy and he opened his tablet and a page had been left open. He quickly closed it and carried on. It didn't look like porn, we both watch porn and I'm totally okay with him watching it. This site had pictures of women with writing beside them. It looked like an escort site. I know it definitely wasn't porn, the layout was totally different and there weren't any videos. I didn't get to see the web address so I don't know for sure what it was. He thought I was half asleep so he didn't mention it at all.\n\nWe haven't had sex for a while because I've been I'll, it's been about two weeks. When we do have sex he rarely cums anymore, whereas in the beginning of our relationship that wasn't a problem. He also only wants anal sex, which I do enjoy but I feel like he isn't interested in piv sex with me anymore.\n\nI am going to talk to him about all of this, I just wanted some advice on how to approach it. Also does anyone have any idea what that site might have been? I'm really hoping it wasn't an escort site, but that's what it looked like.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is looking at escorts, also he doesn't want piv sex"}
{"id": "t3_2yfq5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF of 1 year [19/F] video chatting and texting random guy. I [21/M] think this could end badly. How do I approach this?", "post": "Here's our story: I'm a college student who also works full-time, so I'm often gone most of the day on weekdays and some weekends. She stays home taking online classes and does a little freelance work online as well, but doesn't have a lot of ambition and is a little shy. (For the record, her parents still send money to support her.)\n\nRecently she picked up League of Legends and met people through that. I was happy since she could definitely use a few new friends to keep her company in her down time, but one guy has me worried.\n\nShe started texted him and spends most of her free time chatting with him and playing games when I'm not home. It wouldn't bother me normally, but when she told me they were video chatting and it changed everything. (At least she wasn't hiding it.)\n\nVideo chatting between friends isn't an issue, but let's be honest. Guys and girls don't just video chat because they want to talk about League of Legends. This guy clearly is looking for more, despite claiming he also has a girlfriend.\n\nI've snooped because I want to know what's going on, and noticed he's starting to make flirtatious comments about her looks and joking about meeting up. (He's not local.) They're also talking about really personal things, and just generally seem to be getting \"too close\" for friends. \n\nShe hasn't said anything that would make me think she's flirting back, but it still worries me. I've read a lot of stories on here and would prefer not to end up letting this go too far.\n\nAny advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems to be headed toward a flirtatious relationship with some guy online. How do I best approach it?"}
{"id": "t3_15jmel", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A question about quitting smoking and weight gain. x-posted from r/stopsmoking", "post": "So, in briefest summary, I've been smoking 1+ pack a day for 7 years; it's been about the only constant thing in a very change-filled period of my life (moved from Louisiana to Tennessee back home to California, vegan to keto, unemployed lurch to businessy-business grown-up career) and I've been feeling recently like it's the only hurdle left in my total self makeover. Back in May is when I made the giant diet change and everything's been coming up Milhouse since then; I'm down 44 lbs., working out regularly and I've just signed up for the Run For Your Lives 5k in May 2013 to celebrate. I know that I can be a smoker and run a 5k, I just don't want to be but here's the thing... I'm not at my goal weight just yet (another 10-15 to go!) and I'm wondering about the \"quitter's gain\" that one always hears about. I'm not entirely focused on the numbers on the scale and I know that whatever change I make right now the short-term consequences will pale in comparison to the long-term benefits... still I can't help but wonder things like \"Will I bloat?\" \"Are my new not-fat-anymore pants going to stop fitting?\" \"Am I going to lose the motivation for my hour-long gym sessions 6x week?\" The stress I think I can handle, breaking habits I'm practically a pro at now. It's really incredibly shallow, but I think this is the only thing staying my hand right now. Is there any advice/insight/personal experience anyone can offer here? Did you gain weight when you quit? Did you lose it? Did your appetite change drastically?", "summary": "Any advice on not gaining weight when quitting?"}
{"id": "t3_3gjyf9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should i even go there?", "post": "The First post \n\nThe boy/man i like age 21 male , is someone who is a volunteer at my local establishment im age 23 female He is really funny, we get along like a house on fire pretty much from the get go. Ive always thought of him to be attractive but never anythig more - I thought he was gay. We've always had a bit of a flirty banter and we've spent a lot of time together (only at the establishment he volunteers and i visit as a \"young person\") \nAnyway. I recently found out he is only \"questioning\" his sexuality and has a sexual intrest in me. (He called me beautiful- d'aww.) \nThe only way we'd be able to have a relationship is if i was to become a volunteer (something i WAS going to do anyway - but this is pushing me), but i have that nigle in my head of his questioning sexuality. What would i do/how would i feel if he wanted to be with a bloke?(man) but we were together?\nShould i even go there?\nWhat if we get along really well as friends, but a relationship wouldnt work?\nIve also told him A LOT about my past.. (Which i thought i was comfortable doing because i thought he wasnt actually interested in me) which i may have not told him/held back a while if i had known\n(Though he called me beautiful after all this..) \nHELP!!! What do i do - do i try it? \"Life is too short for regrets\" or just.. Remain good ones? (Friends)", "summary": "guy who likes me might be gay but wants to persue a relation with me as long as I volunteer at the place I visit. Ive also told him too much about my life."}
{"id": "t3_2tcdng", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making tea", "post": "Like many TIFUs, this was actually a couple months back, when I was house sitting for my cousin while she went to visit her parents in the next state over. I wave her goodbye and prepare myself for a long weekend of Netflix bingeing and cheap Thai food.\n\nThe next morning I wake up super groggy and need to make some tea. Now, at my apartment, I have an old school gas stove you have to light with a match, which sounds cool, but really just means you end up burning yourself at least once a week. My cousin on the other hand, has an electric stove, which is great! No fire involved!\n\nI go take a leak and when I come back thirty seconds later, the kitchen is full of smoke and the fire alarm is screaming. I fling open the door to the balcony to let some air in and locate the source of the smoke. It was the electric, plastic-bottomed tea kettle that I had set on the hot stove.\n\nNeedless to say, I cleaned up and bought her a new kettle, but I don't think I'll be watering her plants/collecting her mail again.", "summary": "I set fire to my cousin's apartment trying to make tea."}
{"id": "t3_gpxx0", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Filming my travels without taking a whole host of electronics", "post": "Hey,\n\nThis summer I'm taking part in the Mongol Rally, and last weekend there was an organised film festival event. Now I'm not planning on entering the event next year, but I would like to put a video together for memories sake etc.\n\nHas anyone done any filming whilst travelling in remote areas? I'm not wanting to take a load of stuff like a laptop, multiple chargers, different cables and all that on the trip itself, so if anyone knows of any compact video camera's (nothing big and fancy necessary), that are of a reasonable price (I won't say cheap because if it's worth it I'll pay out a bit more anyway)?\n\nIdeally we'd plan to connect to computers in cities to create space on internal memory/memory cards, but that may not be possible in some areas (Kazak steppes for example), so being able to take some additional storage would be useful. I do have a 3TB external harddrive that I could upload onto, but the video-camera would need to be able to link into the directly without my laptop etc.", "summary": "I need a video-camera/camcorder at a reasonable price, not too flashy and with substantial memory/expandable memory."}
{"id": "t3_34lxud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] don't really know if i said the right thing to my friend [15 F]", "post": "So my friend and I met online recently and are talking on facebook a lot. Yesterday when I was sleeping (her timezone is 9 hours apart from mine) she messaged me talking about how mad she was about some family issues she was/is having. After she was done talking about it she basically said \"Well sorry for the drama, good morning, have a nice day etc.\" So when I woke up I replied to her saying: \";-; wow that sucks. i feel really bad for you (censoring name out lol), it sounds like that kinda stuff happens all the time.. wow, im sorry :\\ i understand that feeling tho... lots of drama for myself too.\ni try to remember that when i move out it will be much better. :) sometimes it just feels so far away tho.\" Later in the day she posted something saying: Sometimes we don't need advice, we just need somebody to listen. O.O I can understand if that is just a general post about her situation, but is it directed towards me? She messaged me saying goodnight, I think right after she posted that, (12:00 pm for me) but didn't say anything about what she or I said earlier. :/ I don't know if I said something wrong or not. I was trying to tell her that I felt for her and understand her situation, while allowing her to express her feelings more if that's what she wanted without crossing a privacy barrier and directly asking what else has been going on and how she felt about everything blablabla etc.. should I have?? o_O I am just so confused. I have never really been in a situation like this at all so I don't know how to respond to it. I'm not sure if she is mad/disappointed at me or not? Maybe she just didn't really have time to talk then and will later? Did my message kinda shut her out from continuing her thoughts if that was her intention? Should I explain all of this to her? Am I just super heartless/mean and am completely missing something? ;-;", "summary": "I can't tell if my friend is mad at me/disappointed in me based on my response to her current situation. Don't know if I said the right thing or if I maybe said something bad... Should I tell her this?"}
{"id": "t3_4dp6db", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Boyfriend's [22M] English Is Driving Me [21F] Crazy", "post": "I'm an American dating a guy from China. We have the most amazing time together in person, but on the days we don't see each other and must rely on phone conversations, I feel like I'm going crazy. While he can speak well in person, over the phone he has such difficulty understanding me. I repeat the same sentence many times and he continues to say \"what?\". I feel so petty being annoyed by his English, because he's so nice and all his other qualities are wonderful. I speak Chinese, but I can't speak it fluently, so we have to use English for many topics. Am I being petty and do I just need to get over my annoyance and repeat again and again, or does anyone have some other advice for me?", "summary": "Chinese boyfriend can't understand me on the phone and it's leading to a lot of frustration"}
{"id": "t3_13qtwy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm lonely but I can't stop alienating myself. (19F) Please help.", "post": "I find it difficult to enjoy other peoples' company (both online and in real life), even people that I do consider friends and have plenty in common with. I think this has been going on for four or five years and is getting progressively worse. It's putting strain on my friendships, since I do not attend birthday parties or celebrations and avoid catching up with people at all costs (even through text). I have forced myself to be social in the past, and still do on occasion, but overwhelming feelings of discomfort tend to mar the experience for me, and I try to exit the party/conversation post-haste. It makes me feel very guilty as I do like these people, but for whatever reason, communication feels like a chore to me. \n\nThe only person I genuinely enjoy the company of is my partner of 2 years (22M). We are in a long distance relationship and generally see one another every few months. We try to talk every day and I feel we have a very healthy relationship, despite the distance; however, when he goes away for work (he's in the army) or he hangs out with his friends, I find myself feeling tremendously lonely and sad. He knows about this, but I do not want him to feel as though he cannot go out because of me, or that he needs to be the one to solve this problem. We are both aware that this is my issue to solve, though he is very kind and supportive of me. \n\nI should mention the other factors at play here: I have depression for which I take medication, which helps me a great deal, and I also have social anxiety due to being overweight, which makes me uncomfortable going outside. I am currently working on the weight thing. \n\nWhat caused me to post this is my partner's looming deployment in the coming months. I am not sure how I will cope, and I do not want to put extra strain on him when he will already be in a tense and unpleasant situation.", "summary": "I find talking to people, even friends, feels like a chore when I don't want it to be."}
{"id": "t3_2osbf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if correct sub, but any advice would be greatly appreciated", "post": "I, m(26), work once a week at a restaurant/bar. There is a bartender, f(24), there who I work with/see once every few weeks. I always was interested in her but didn't spend enough time around her to try and get her number etc. \nI friended her on facebook about a month ago and she never accepted. I understand people forget to accept, I am guilty of this myself from time to time. \nLast week she was bartending while I was serving and she was being pretty flirtatious and giving me the eyes (I used to be completely oblivious to this stuff, but I think I am more aware now). \n\nI may not see her again for a few weeks or maybe more. I want to ask her to hang out sometime but have no idea how to go about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "don't know how to go about asking this co worker out. I do not have her number/facebook and rarely see her"}
{"id": "t3_2llxbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [30F] dating my [30M] for 3 years on/off. I'm terrified of commitment. Should I be alone? Help!!", "post": "I've been on the relationship cycle for over 10 years. I'm told, (as I'd never be narcissistic enough to think this), that I date a guy until they fall in love with me & dump them to move on with someone else. I've been engaged 3 times & married once ( the marriage lasted about 3 months & we had dated for around a month beforehand). Btw, by dump I mean I self sabotage my relationships. I've always been awful at breaking up with anyone, & it always ends horribly. \n\nCurrently I'm with someone who I had dated for about 2 years, broke up with for about 6 months, & then went back. I moved away from my family to try & work things out with him. To be honest, I thought of it as a last ditch effort. I love his family, I know he loves me. He's been covering my expenses since I moved, (in July).\n\nSince I moved, I've been highly depressed. I hate where I'm living, & have become so anxious I don't even want to leave the house. He's proven that he truly loves me, & I honestly don't know if I'm just unhappy with him, or just in my situation. I have dreams about leaving the situation, but I'm also screwed in a way. I have no savings, no job, (currently after being a workaholic for years), I owe him a bunch of money, we have a dog together that he has to give up if I leave, & we're supposed to go on a trip in the summer that's partially paid for. So, I just need help. \n\nAm I someone who will never find love, if I continue running away from it? I honestly feel like I'm going to be stuck on a couch the way things are going & I hate it. Any help will be great. Sorry if this came off rambling.", "summary": "Serial monogamist not sure if in love with current partner. Should I cut & run?"}
{"id": "t3_1fin9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] My Girlfriend [19F) of 8 months has just re-added her ex on facebook after having him deleted for this long...", "post": "So basically me and my girlfriend have been together ever since we met in the first week of university, we've now both gone home for the summer and she lives in a different area (we're in the UK, shes in liverpool im in manchester), about an hour ago i see on my newsfeed that she's just re-added her ex.\n\nNow they were together for around a year and a half i believe, so it's obvious that they're going to get in contact one way or another after a while... The trouble is the way she's gone about it, about a month ago i caught her talking with her ex in private messages on facebook after telling her to open her laptop so i can show her something... they said they havn't been talking long, but it just seems strange, now i wonder if she was ever going to tell me.\n\nSo now she's home for summer for around 4 months, we plan on seeing eachother every few weeks or so, however since they live close together and now shes added him again, I don't know why but it makes me...upset that they are, but I do trust her that nothing will happen between them. Do you think I should be concerned?", "summary": "University girlfriend is now home for the summer, she's now re-added her ex on facbook after she deleted him right before seeing me, feeling super uncomfortable about it, should I be worried? Not even sure what to say to her right now :S"}
{"id": "t3_2fhov1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my friend [23F] who was there for me through a difficult breakup with a crappy ex, is now dating said ex, wants to \"talk\" about it. How to decline without sounding bitter?", "post": "Without going into too much detail, my ex and I dated about a year ago and it ended poorly. A lot of things occurred after the fact and he really hurt me. I confided in this friend, who was a great support system and was aware of all the crappy stuff he did to me.\n\n I've sinced moved away and will be visiting family in my hometown this week. My \"friend\" messaged me out of the blue, not hearing from her in months that she wanted to get together for dinner and tell me something. I asked if everything was alright, and she said it was positive news and a \"very good thing!\", so I said yes, we could get together. On a gut feeling, I asked if she had met someone, and she basically told me that she's dating my ex and it's great and she wants to talk to me about it.\n\nAt this point, the wounds from the relationship are stil healing (ex and I went NC in May, finally!) I've decided it would be best for my heart to end this friendship and move on in life. How can I politely decline getting together? I don't want to sound upset, I just know what I need to do to protect myself and I want to communicate it politely before I de-friend her on Facebook.", "summary": "Friend who helped me through rough breakup wants to get together to discuss how she's now dating my ex. How do I decline politely without sounding bitter?"}
{"id": "t3_42jxma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] interested in [19F] for about a year(we work at the same place), and I don't even know if she likes girls", "post": "I don't even know how to write this...\n\nBasically her and I work at the same place, and I have a job that requires me to walk past her caf\u00e9.  I find myself going out of my way to even just catch a 5 second glimpse of her-like, really out of my way. It makes my day even if I just see her for 5 seconds, and on the days we do get to talk it leaves me re-living the conversation multiple times in my head. \n\nShe always manages to catch my gaze when I look over at the caf\u00e9, and a lot of the times I find her already looking at me when I walk past. The feeling of excitement and nervousness I get whenever I am near her makes me go crazy! We have had a few conversations on Facebook and I feel like I can talk to her for hours. \n\nNot really sure how to even approach this situation. I don't want to freak her out by saying I like her, and then ruin a potential friendship. But then I feel like I am going crazy keeping these feelings inside.", "summary": "I like this girl who works in the same place as I do, had a few conversations, not sure if I should tell her I like her or keep it to myself."}
{"id": "t3_em9t3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How many chances does a close friend deserve?", "post": "I'm meeting up with a girl who was my best friend up until she ceased communicating with me while I was abroad six months ago.  We'd been extremely close for three years, leading up to that point.  Overall, I feel she is sweet girl with a big heart who wants to do the right things in life.  She's very intelligent and can be a diligent worker.  Her upbringing was VERY messed up (physical abuse; f'd up family dynamics) and I feel that it's permeated her present day life quite negatively.  Her relationships and friendships with both friends and family are very inconsistent and volatile.  She's known to disappear on people when she's needed by them-- it's happened to me multiple times.  I've helped her get out of countless, tough situations, both professionally and personally.  She knows she can always count on me, which I used to pride myself on.... until it became a contentious aspect of our friendship.\n\nAnyway, we saw each other the other night, and she approached me and profusely apologized for not being in contact (while I was away, I seriously spent 10 days trying to get in contact with her cause I was afraid that she might have been hospitalized (this girl has health issues) only to find out through non-friends' fb photos that she was fine and alive but didn't care to respond to me).  She asked me to consider meeting with her tonight, which is the point I find myself at.\n\nThere's a lot that's happened in our history that's drawn us close together, which is why I am particularly hurt by her actions.  I really am weary of meeting with her, tonight, because I feel that I've moved on with my life and have been spending time with people that really inspire me; much different feeling than feeling like I need to support someone through their various dramas that constantly appear in their life.  I know I haven't painted the clearest picture of her, or myself I guess, but was hoping I might get some good feedback.  Cheers, Reddit!\n\nOh, and I'm a dude, if that makes any difference.", "summary": "Meeting up with my ex-best friend who bailed out of my life and wants back in."}
{"id": "t3_1g20qw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I do something wrong? Why is she being so hit and miss!", "post": "This is the same girl from a previous thread and a similar issue: \n\nBackground: She lives 3 hours away so visiting isn't an option right now but we go to the same college.\n\nTaking reddits advice I decided to lay off talking to her for a bit. After maybe 2 days she texted me asking if something was up because she hadnt heard from me. I told her \"no I've been busy.\" We got to talking into the late night and started to flirt really hard until maybe 2 am. I started to drop hints for her and she was picking them up and I thought maybe tonight I would tell her how I felt than suddenly no response. I fell asleep and at like 3:30 she responded but then ignored my response to her in the morning. I wasn't to put off considering the \"mood\" of last night had faded.\n\nI decided to just ignore her for a few days since we talked all day the last time. I texted her after a few days and got a few responses then nothing. I was annoyed since we had talked/flirted so much last time but I thought fine. I ignored her for a few more days and she texted me again to see what I was up to. We talked again to almost 4 am flirting again until I fell asleep. Once again I decided I would just ignore her for a few days but something came up on Friday that reminded me of her so I sent her a cute text and got ignored.\n\nToday I snappchatted her a photo of something we had talked about before and she responded in a flirty way. My question is what the hell is going on? Why is she ignoring my texts when then texting me the next day? Why is she staying up till 4 am flirting with me then not responding to things? Ignoring her is working to some extent but I fear its making me come off as uninterested. We've been friends for a while and texted back and forth for almost a year now and this is totally new to me. I've had a friends girlfriend read our conversations and she cant figure it out what's going on either.", "summary": "I get texts from her every few days but she has stopped responding if I text her first. Girls are confusing."}
{"id": "t3_k2wmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a girlfriend, and my best friend who I like told me she would date me the other day... What do, reddit?", "post": "I'll try to make this make as much sense as possible.\n\nThis girl and I(i'm a guy), both 17, have been bestfriends for quite a long time and we both have liked each other since we became friends, but neither of us wanted a relationship. By bestfriends I mean, we hung out almost every day this summer (literally), and we never became bored or burdened by each other. We both have talked about dating etc, but decided it would mess up the friendship and would wait until college to date if we ended up being near each other geographically. However, as of recently I acquired a girlfriend (as in in the past week). Anyway, I hang out with my bestfriend yesterday and we end up cuddling like always, but this time she was really all over me. She later tells me that night that she really likes me, and that she would date me now and all that good stuff. Now, I would totally date her, but I now have a girlfriend who I really like as well. So it sort creates a conflict... What should I do and who should I choose? Maybe I can't see something that you guys could inform me of because i'm blinded by emotions.\n\nI hope this makes sense, but thanks for any input you have, reddit.", "summary": "Got a girlfriend last week and my bestfriend tells me she wants to be in a relationship with me..."}
{"id": "t3_51vnte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend[21M] doesn't have desire to work", "post": "I Love my boyfriend more than anything in the while world.  He's loving, supportive, treats me better that anyone i have ever met, and most impotantly we are best friends.  But I am kinda worried.  My boyfriend has been dragging he feet to get a job and has only been putting out like 1 or 2 applications every month or so.  We both live at our parent's home and we agree that we want to get out and start our lives together and I'm kinda waiting on him.  He's been getting really depressed and keeps talking about how it seems pointless to work since we will never have time to do anything but sleep and pay bills.  He's also scared of getting stuck doing something he hates.  I understand that, but it scares me because I want to spend my life with him but I know I'd end up resenting him if I have to support us both.  \nMost recently he had a full blown breakdown.  He cried uncontrollably  (this is a first and I've known him for 10 years) and just kept saying he doesn't know why he can't function like a normal person and that he's scared and doesn't understand what is different with him.  It was heart breaking, and unfortunately it has made me wonder if he might have depression or anxiety.  Since we started dating a year ago I've gotten to see that he has a problem with going from \"everything's fine\" to \"what's the point of living?\" I had never thought that his hesitants to work was because he could have a chemical imbalance, but the despair I saw the other day that he has been hiding from me makes me think it could be.\nI'm not sure what I should do.  I definitely don't want to leave him. I just don't know how to help hime.  What should I do?", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't have drive to find work, possible anxiety depression"}
{"id": "t3_3vz4e4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] have this crush on this girl [18 F] who goes to my school, and getting signals that she likes me.", "post": "So there is this girl I really like that goes to my school. About a month and a half ago, I got up the courage to ask her out and got rejected. I thought that would be the end of that, but ever since I asked her out, we've been hanging out all the time. She keeps asking me to get something to eat with her or just hang out and talk. She invited me to her birthday dinner where I am apparently going to be the only guy there. I don't want to be rude and clingy by asking her out again, but I also don't want to miss an opportunity.", "summary": "Is it a bad idea to ask her out again, or should I just go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_3155bu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP my teacher.. And got CPS called on me", "post": "So this was in 7th grade and I had just gotten off of Spring Break. I was with a bunch of friends at my house jumping on my trampoline and I fucked up doing a backflip and landed on my face. I had these \"trampoline burns\" all over and they scabbed over before I got back to school. So I had all these scabs on my forehead, cheeks, and one on my nose. To make my face look even shittier, I was out wake boarding with my friends the day before and my friend and I collided and my face hit his wake board and bruised my eye, broke my nose, and made my lip bleed (which later led to a swelled lip). \n\nI get to school on Monday (April Fool's Day) and my teacher looks at me and goes, \"Oh my God KinglyJoker, what the hell happened to you?!?!\" Being a 7th grade punk kid on April Fool's who also happened to be somewhat of a class clown, I looked at her and got all teary eyed and said, \"Well, I didn't clean my room, so my daddy and mommy got mad at me and I talked back to her and she threw a clothing ironer at me\u2026\" Then the tears ensued and my teacher looked at me, sat me down, kicked out everyone else in the class, and called the police, who later came to my school and took me to the principle's office where my parents met me with hand cuffs and a river of tears running down their faces. No matter how many times I told the cops that it was a trampoline and boating accident, they never believed me. I nearly got put into a Foster Home and my parents had to have a CPS agent check in on them twice a week.", "summary": "Had a boating/trampoline accident, told teacher my parents beat me, CPS nearly took me away."}
{"id": "t3_f0l9d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Dating a guy who is shorter than me who can't seem to get over it", "post": "First-I'm 28 and about 5'8\". He's 21 and ?? Well, I'm guessing 5'2\" or 5'3\".\n\nI met this guy in October and we dated for a month, but time constraints got into the way of a relationship. Flash forward to now and we are trying to date again. We've been texting, talking, and going out a lot the last few weeks and things are great, except for one thing:\n\nHe seems to be really insecure about his height. He's always putting himself down jokingly, calling himself names, saying he doesn't understand why I'm with him, etc. I honestly don't care how tall he is. I know when we go to the bar or wherever, people look at us strange. I keep telling him how attractive I find him and that I don't mind his height. Though, frankly, I'm getting tired of stoking his ego. What can I do to just end the negativity and let him know that this disparity isn't a problem?", "summary": "I'm a girl who's significantly taller than her man and he keeps putting himself down because of it."}
{"id": "t3_4m30s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my best friend [20F], I invited her to my graduation and she said she'd be there", "post": "So I am graduating university, finally! I had some issues that prevented me from going to university after high school. I'm so excited to finally be done. I don't have many close friends, but the one friend I do have is very close to me. She's been there for me throughout the last two years of my university experience. We have always supported each other. My family is a little dysfunctional and my siblings weren't able to make it to my graduation. I invited my best friend and she said she wouldn't miss it for the world and she's so excited to see me walk across the stage.\n\nThe other day I was on facebook and I saw that this friend was interested in an event in her hometown on the same day as my graduation. I thought maybe she was just \"interested\" in it to see who was going or whatever. But then she tells me that she can't make it to my grad because there's a mandatory meeting in her hometown (4 hour drive away) that she has to be at on the day AFTER my grad so she's going to drive up before that day...\n\nThe problem is that my graduation is in the afternoon the day before her meeting, and she would have ample time to drive home after it. I feel like she is really letting me down because I really only had her to invite and she said she would make it. Now I think that she wants to go home for the event I saw that she was interested in on Facebook that occurs on the same day as my graduation. \n\nDo I have a right to be upset? Do I tell her how disappointed I am? How do I prevent resentment from forming towards her?", "summary": "Friend promised to be there for my graduation and then backed out last minute. Do I have a right to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_py2bs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do people appreciate real talent anymore in a world full of Keshas and Rebecca Blacks?", "post": "[My Friend's Performance] Hey guys. My friend called the other day and she was really upset because she has reached a point in her life where she feels like the road to her dream is coming to an end. She's been fighting through the BS of trying to make a living in the music industry for 8 years now - she has sacrificed a lot and worked extremely hard with nothing to show for it. She's met with executives at 2 major record labels that have both been impressed by her talents, but the follow up calls always consist of them hinting that she needs some sort of surgical enhancements to make it... it's sad, but that's just how the business is. She's never cared about money or fame or anything like that (few people actually make any money in the music industry, contrary to popular belief), she's just passionate about performing - it's when I see her at her happiest. This video is from one of the many contests she's been a runner up in... she's never won a contest due to them all being decided by whoever gets the most friends to watch it (so they can boost ratings/traffic). I understand there are people fighting wars and there are people dying of unfortunate diseases who are more deserving than someone who wants to sing for a living. But, it would mean the world if I could at least make her feel appreciated. She's helped me get through hard times and has a good heart (not your typical music industry personality). I want to surprise her by having her see that lots of people have at least watched her perform. Thanks, Reddit! Oh, and sorry for it being Witney, I'm sure you've heard more than enough over the past week.. this was just one of her few recorded performances I could find.", "summary": "Friend calls. She's upset and feels like a failure. Been trying to 'make it' in the music biz for 8 years with no luck. I want to make her feel appreciated by showing her that at least lots of people have seen her perform. Thank you for your help!"}
{"id": "t3_jkp92", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I received a goldfish that I do not want, what should I do with it?", "post": "So this morning I woke up, and there was a note that said \"There is a birthday present outside, here is a bucket for it.\" So I went outside and found that there was a goldfish in a bag filled with water. So I put the bag in the water to get the two waters the same temperature. I then asked my friend who gave it to me the story about it, and long story short, they won a fish at the county fair and gave it to me for my birthday. But since I don't want it, I don't know what to do with it. Any help?", "summary": "Friends gave me a fish from the county fair for my birthday, and I don't want it. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3a4jid", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Bridesmaid/Groomsmen outfit color dilemma", "post": "My bridesmaids have all started to ask me what color I want their dresses to be so that they can purchasing (I'm letting them pick style and fabric so long as they are all approximately knee length and the same color). However, I'm stuck on which color scheme to use for their outfits.\n\nOur reception is at a yacht club, so I'm fully embracing the nautical theme and we are using navy, white, and pops of coral/pink. I'm torn on whether to put the girls in navy blue dresses (with pink flowers and nude shoes) next to the boys in grey suits, or whether to put the girls in pink/coral dresses (white flowers, nude shoes) next to the boys in grey suits. FH has decided he wants the suits to be grey, so there is a small victory there!\n\nSo, weddit - thoughts? I would prefer navy dresses, but have a couple of concerns. Would navy next to grey be too dark? It's a medium grey, not the traditional light grey in the pictures that I am looking at. Will the pink help pop the hues?", "summary": "I'm indecisive :( "}
{"id": "t3_43svl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20F] Overprotective, not Comfortable with my Little Brother [14M] Dating", "post": "I'm a 20 year old girl, I have a 14 year old brother who's in his very first relationship. He's been dating this girl for 3 months, I'm quite protective of him, and he's my only male sibling so this situation of having a brother dating, is totally new to me. I have a 15 year old sister who's had a couple boyfriends, but I never felt nearly as worried about that. Is that normal? I don't mean to me sexist but I think might be just because of the opposite sex thing, I'm far more protective of him than my sister, like it sounds stupid but I just have that \"I know how girls are\" feeling, so I'm leery about his girlfriends. And I have fears of being replaced, I've always been the one he goes to for advice, to vent to, and everything. But now he has a girlfriend to confide in and I'm worried he'll want more independence from me and he won't really need me anymore.\n\nShe hasn't done anything particularly bad and there aren't really any red flags but I find myself losing sleep over it. I admittedly snoop a bit through his phone and computer to read their conversations, I feel guilty about doing so but it just puts my mind at ease knowing there's nothing bad going on. Is it okay to be this protective of him? Is how I'm feeling normal and does this sorta thing just subside with time? Is it wrong to snoop if I'm doing it with good intentions of just wanting to make sure he doesn't get hurt?", "summary": "My little brother has a girlfriend, she's his first and I'm quite protective of him. I worry about him so much and I read through some of their conversations to make sure there are no red flags. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3ffkuu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] with my GF [25F] over two years, I feel like Norbit.", "post": "I met Rasputia and I was hooked like a fish, she was pretty and very kind, had a curvy body and a lot of confidence hidden under shy demeanor. Time moved fast and we got a home together my first mistake as she was unemployed and I wanted to be macho. She liked the new arrangement, for one we had a place to live together and she loved making a home out of it. (those pictures are my favorite and what I still cling to really)\n\nThings changed midway through our first year, jealousy had reared its ugly head, not from me but her. After a while it got worse and worse, she drank more, screamed at me more, hit me more. At first I figured I deserved it, hey I'm a good catch right? Thing was after times dealing with the law and the times without her around I began to notice it made me feel good. Just to know she couldnt come near me, it brought comfort to be away from her. After some time apart(her going to jail) resulted with her living at her mothers again as her mother is now her only source of financial support she decides to play nice.\n\nWell, I guess all the drama and me being distant was enough wind of change to alert her nostrils to the scent of me possibly leaving for good. Things changed, she must have excellent resources because I never discussed leaving her to anyone other than family and that was rarely, they bring it up minimally because honestly they don't like the drama and tell me they believe I could find a little nicer. Her knowing that shows how deep her nails are driven I guess. So, things changed and she started to \"play house\" again. For a time it was awesome and then the cycle began again.", "summary": "from cuddle bunny to grizzly bear: simple tale of the common male victim"}
{"id": "t3_359lid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend (22M) in the marines just admitted to me that he wants to die in combat.", "post": "I don't even know what to say to that. All he has talked about is us moving in together when he gets back and us being happy and everything...yet he just admitted that he actually *wants* to die while he's fighting. \n\nSo, now all I can think about is that while I'm at home worrying about him, he's going to be out there running head first in to whatever comes at him so that he can die the way he wants to die? \n\nOr am I just over thinking this? I don't know what to think right now or how to feel.", "summary": "boyfriend leaves to fight over seas soon and he admitted to me that he actually wants to die in combat. Says he's always dreamt about dying like that."}
{"id": "t3_158uh0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the biggest impact ONE person has made on your life for the better? I'll start...", "post": "I'm wasting away the last few hours of work as my colleagues leave at different intervals for a Christmas break. My boss, a physician, hands me a large Christmas bonus thanking me for everything I do for her and she leaves as well. It got me thinking, when I started this job, I had plans to pursue graduate school and earn a PhD in Microbiology and become a college professor. My boss knew I truly wanted to become a physician and knew I thought I wouldn't be accepted if I applied. She worked tirelessly, extra/long-hours to refine my application, edit my essays, write letters of rec. and get her bosses to write letters. Then a couple months ago I was accepted to medical school. It is without a doubt certain that I would not have even applied, much less had been accepted, without her pushing for me. Now my entire career and life changed for the better and I will pursue my dream that I had one convinced myself was out of reach. So I ask, Reddit, do you have a similar story of someone who has individually changed the course of your life for the better?", "summary": "Boss's efforts allow me to become a doctor."}
{"id": "t3_2wxxz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17 M] not really sure how to tell someone I may have a crush on him [17 M] without things getting weird or uncomfortable?", "post": "okay so i am so far away from saying \"hey i love you\" because i've only really known him for like a week (we've been shooting the breeze on and off for maybe 2 years now? steadily approaching 3?? We originally met at a convention; doesnt really matter.) Whenever i talk to him i feel all dumb and blushy and i think i have a crush on him?\n\nThis isn't a coming out of the closet problem, we're both queer as sin, this is more of just the general \"hey i know we're kind of friends and stuff but i think i may have some kind of weird crush on you and i wanted you to know this but i dont want anything to become uncomfortable or weird with us\" kind of weird. The kind of weird everyone's had at least once if not on the regular.", "summary": "How do you deal? How do you say it without friendships being thrown in the trash?"}
{"id": "t3_3dc8c6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally being an insensitive idiot", "post": "A bit of background:I have a friend who has black hair but has like a browny fringe which we make fun of him with stuff like what hair dye do you use and stuff like that. He doesn't like it too much but he is cool about it.\n\nWell my fuck-up happened about 2 or 3 weeks ago still feel pretty guilty, it was the last week or so of school so the teachers were a lot more laid back and lenient. My maths teacher decided to tell us his story about his wife and his mother in law. And said something along the lines of \"If you want to know what your wife looks like when she is older look to the mother.\"\nSo after my math teacher told his story. Me being the genius I am yelled out to him \"Hey does your Dad have brown hair too?\" No big deal right.\nOnce those words left my mouth  I remembered, his dad left him a while ago so at the moment he doesn't have a dad... he didn't talk to me for the rest of the day.", "summary": "Think before you speak"}
{"id": "t3_1m7vxg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex-Girlfriend", "post": "So me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago, didn't talk for a while, met other people, did our own things. Then begun talking once again a couple month or so after the breakup. Made it clear we weren't getting back together... (I want to, she doesn't). Finally get pissed off, and say this is stupid, we both want different things, No matter how this pans out i don't get what i want, and you do. She half agrees, but begs for me to stay in her life. I being the dumbass that i am accept, and say on one condition, that i still have a shot at getting the relationship back. She agrees, and promises that she actually means it. Couple weeks go by, we hang out alone, decide to go on an adventure at night, end up in the woods, find rope swing by river, things get heated. blah blah. We agree that no one finds out about it, and that it doesn't change anything. Thing is... i want it to change something. I want her back, but i can't have it. The only way out is to completely cut her out of my life, and i don't want that cause she honestly is my best friend. I'm not one to go out looking for help... but this time i really need it...", "summary": "My ex is still in my life, i need her out, but can't do it without putting myself through a whole new kind of hell."}
{"id": "t3_1f3x3s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Both SV and NSV today! hoorah!", "post": "SV: Today is 40 lbs day friends! flair=updated. happy dance =completed!\n stats are 5'5 female and SW: 244 CW 203.6 GW 150ish and reevaluate. started the diet 2/1/13\n\nNSV: to celebrate i went shopping for new gym clothes, then took a walk w my puppy in the woods and then went to the gym. \n\ni may not look like a healthy person just yet, but i am practicing guys!! someday i will BE one of those people, so help me god!!\n\nwhat ive been doing: started calorie counting is probably the biggest factor. keeping it under 1200 cals a day at all costs! tbh most days im landing more like 800-1050. (LyndsayRawr on MFP if anyone is looking for a buddy). i started at the gym prob 2 months ago, and while i still fucking hate it, i make myself go. i find myself wondering if i will ever enjoy it. i usually just do a half hour on some elliptical type contraption and call it, few times a week. i just got speeched at by my health nut cousin on the importance of weights and the like so i GUESSSS i'll start that too. heh. \n\nsorry no pics, i plan to take some new ones once im sub 200, which should be a week or so!\n\nthanks so much to this subreddit. i lurk here daily, keeping my inspiration up by seeing all your support and success stories. group hug! <3", "summary": "i lost 40 lbs and i celebrated healthily. XD"}
{"id": "t3_30wb61", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Where do I go from here? [29/M leaving [28/F] After she got drunk and slept with a coworker. [x-post /r/relationships]", "post": "I don't want to write a book, and I don't want you all to have to read one.  The bottom line is I just got out of a relationship that lasted over a decade.  It was a high school sweetheart situation that I thought was going great until she got drunk and fucked a coworker.  That is the one thing I just don't think I can ever forgive even though it was only once and it meant nothing, she cut contact with him, etc.  So now I'm in my late twenties, single, having never dated other women.  I'm stable on my own (financially, etc.) am in decent shape but...\n\nI just don't even know what to do with my time, or where to go.  I've just been blowing money to keep my mind off of things.  I've never been cut this deep before, and I don't want to be with her because she's not who I thought she was, and I can't trust her again, but I find myself incapable of thinking I could find someone else.  Help.", "summary": "Cheated on after decades of dedication, starting from scratch.  How do I find someone?  How do I trust?  The dating scene (according to most) is a nightmare-scape, I never wanted to be here."}
{"id": "t3_1shyfw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [25F] overreacting to my boyfriend [32M] (of one year)'s joke?", "post": "My boyfriend (32 M) and I (25 F) have been together for nearly a year. We get along well and don't really fight, even though we've had occasional miscommunications. He plays his emotions close to the chest, which can be hard for me because I love to hear nice things from time-to-time and he just doesn't really say them much.\n\nThe other night, as we were climbing into bed, he made a \"joke.\" As he snuggled in next to me he said, *\"So, when are you gonna be more attractive?\"*\n\nI asked him to repeat what he'd said, to give him a chance to retract and just to make sure I'd heard him correctly before I got upset over it. He said it again. When I got upset about this, **he** got mad at **me** for \"not trusting him\" and that it was \"a joke.\" I asked him in what world would that joke be considered funny by anyone?\n\nHe has since apologized, but he chalks his responsibility for the incident up as his failure to recognize that I was feeling insecure.\n\nHonestly, I'm a pretty insecure person. I grew up with an emotionally and physically abusive father. I've struggled with body image issues my whole life because of the things my father used to say to me (encouraging me to be bulimic, etc.). All of this my boyfriend knows. \n\nWhen I told my mom what my boyfriend had said, she looked at me in horror and told me, \"That sounds exactly like your father!\" Which was something I had thought at the time he said it, but I did not say to him.\n\nBut just because I'm insecure, doesn't mean he's not at fault for making a joke with no other possible outcome than to hurt my feelings. \n\nAm I crazy for feeling this way? Am I overreacting? Because ever since it happened a few days ago, I can't take a shower without hearing his words echoing in my head over and over on a loop. Any tips on getting over it and moving on?", "summary": "My boyfriend \"jokingly\" asks \"When are you gonna be more attractive?\" before bed.  I can't get over it.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_12o1az", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I F(22) am dating M(21) for about 3 continuous years, five years overall, and wondering when it's appropriate to discuss the future?", "post": "We dated in for two continuous high school and broke up for my freshman year of college.  The fall after that, we got back together and have been happily together ever since.  We discuss things well, are very compatible, and we seem to want similar things out of our future lives. \n\nHowever, neither of us have very settled future plans, which is mainly why I haven't brought up what will happen after I graduate in May.  He's a year behind me in college. I'm applying to jobs in varied, varied places, some local, some not (my field does not justify the cost of graduate school at this time).  He will go to graduate school when he graduates, and is unsure of exactly where. I also realize we're both very young. \n\nHowever, we've both matured greatly over the course of our relationship.  He has qualities that I really want in my partner, and I work to make sure that I have the same. I don't want to get married right now, but I absolutely want to marry him when I do. \n\nWhile we discuss every problem that has come up, we've never discussed the future before, except in a \"Do you want to go to this concert in six months?\" way.  I'm afraid that a discussion will reveal that while he's invested in the relationship at the moment, he has never considered anything beyond that. \nDoes it seem appropriate to bring up, in a very non-pressured way, to at least see where it's going? With our ages, is it even reasonable to explore ways to stay in the area for a year or so, and see where he goes to graduate school, if there are jobs for me there?", "summary": "In a serious relationship, both young and unsure of future plans, should I bring up the possibility of the future or is it assumed that this is a serious relationship that has a necessary expiration?"}
{"id": "t3_2ss3yb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "TIFU by calling my ex", "post": "Today I (37 f) got a call from the jail. My ex step daughter (22) called me. She got arrested for a joint last night. It was only a 20 second call that said \"please help. My mom won't answer the phone anymore. I had a tail light out and I had a joint.\" I said I would try to get there (another town an hour away) but I had my son's basketball game today. Then click she was gone.\n\nSo I called her mom (my ex husband's first wife). She said she is going to get her out but bail won't get set till after 3. I thanked her and hung up. Understanding step daughter's anxiety I thought she is probably freaking out. So I thought to be pro active I would call her father (my ex husband 45 married 11 years divorced two) and tell him to tell her it was ok. \n\nBig mistake! He over reacted and called his ex wife. He stepped in and decided to become the father he never was to her growing up. I specifically told him not to say anything to anyone because I knew she would be upset if I called her father, but I thought that on the off chance she might call I should let him know what was going on.\n\nNow he has informed his whole family and there is drama everywhere. Stepdaughter was bailed out and won't speak to me now. \n\nBack story. Ex husband cheated on first wife when daughter was 4. Cheated on me to end our relationship two years ago. Daughter has stayed close with me all the time. I knew she has unresolved feelings for her father. \n\nAs it stands now her father won't speak to me because I called him and told him if she had wanted him to know she would've called him. He played victim to his family and everyone is mad at me for getting mad at him. Stepdaughter won't speak to me because she is mad at me for telling her dad. Ex wife #1 won't update me anymore I'm sure directed from daughter. \n\nHow do I fix this? I think of my Stepdaughter as good friend!", "summary": "called ex husband told him about his  arrest. Made everyone mad. Need to know how to fix."}
{"id": "t3_11902g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my gf (25, i am 25 too) of 2 years is a butterface. is that a good reason to break up with her?", "post": "i met my gf through a friend. she is the true definition of a butterface. she has an amazing, smokin hot body you thought you'd only see in victorias secret windows. but her face is truly hideous, it was disfigured in a childhood accident.\n\nwhen i first met her i decided i could still be friends with her. i learned she was nice, smart, kind, a very cool girl. a beautiful soul you might say. she seemed interested in me and i decided to go for it because i wasn't getting any other offers. i am a fat unattractive slob gamer so i don't bring in many girls.\n\nshe has been the perfect girlfriend. she is extremely attentive in every way and will do almost anything i want. but her ugly face has bothered me from day one. it's like she's almost the entire package but i can't do without the pretty face.\n\ni lurk in /r/prettygirls almost every day just to look at all the beautiful girls in the world. it makes me sad to think that i could have one of them but am stuck with a butterface instead. lately every time i look at my gf i imagine her face is one of the girls i saw on /r/prettygirls.\ni would feel like a jerk breaking up with her for this but i don't know if i can stand to look at her anymore.", "summary": "my gf is a butterface and i want a girl with a pretty face. but she's perfect otherwise. should i break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1lng2i", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Frequent international travelers of reddit, any tips on how to deal with the effects of constant travel?", "post": "My boyfriend has been traveling internationally for over 3 years now. He travels to a different location every week and a half or so- there are weeks where he is on the road for up to 3 weeks straight. Recently he has been, as I would describe, almost manic depressive; he's wide awake and full of energy and then lethargic to the point of not really responding to conversation. He tries everything he can to deal with the effects of jet lag (a healthy diet when he's home, juicing, sleep, exercise) but recently it's been too much for his body. It doesn't help that he's 6'4\" and over 200lbs. His circulation is not as good as it should be from sitting for 15 hours in cramped spaces. His job isn't ending anytime soon, in fact the travel might even be getting more intense. Any advice?", "summary": "constant jet lag from international travel making my boyfriends life (and subsequently my life) so hard."}
{"id": "t3_lhp93", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is a random act of kindness that you've either experienced or given, be it something small that few has known of, or something most have noticed? I'll share first.", "post": "This morning, whilst I was in the store before work, I was stopped by this elderly woman. She had placed her hand on my shoulder, asking me to \"wait just a moment\". I'm sure I gave her a puzzled look, and I usually get extremely tense when a stranger touches me, but I wasn't this time- I kind of thought she may just need some help or something. Anyway, after she had asked me to wait, she looked at me for a few moments, then looked me in the eyes and simply said \"smile, it'll be a good day\".  After saying that, she waddled off with her walker while I stood there confused for a moment. Then I smiled, and went on my way. Been in a wonderful mood ever since.", "summary": "An elderly woman told me to smile and it made everything better for the time being."}
{"id": "t3_2vgr3y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shower nap", "post": "This was actually about 7 months ago in early June. \n\nA few friends and myself had been camping in Colorado for the last 7 days, living off of toast and weed while driving around the state. At the end of it, I personally drove home 11 hours from Colorado Springs. The evening we returned, I made the educated decision to go to another friends birthday party. A four loko and a copious amount of beer later, my exhausted body was barely functioning. I was driven home and stumbled into the shower where I threw up on myself whilst simultaneously cleaning myself off in some vicious cycle of intoxication. After a bit I passed out for a few hours on the floor of the shower. I woke up and dragged myself into bed to sleep off a terrible hangover.\n\nThe Fuck Up:\nI was woken up by my dad yelling from the floor below. I ventured downstairs to see a large patch of our kitchen ceiling bubbled out and water leaking from it. Turns out I had shifted on top of the drain in the shower causing it to flood over the edge, leaking through to the floor below. We had to cut out a large chunk of the ceiling to repair it, costing a hefty sum and my parents disappointment.", "summary": "Got drunk, got sick, took shower nap, caused minor flood."}
{"id": "t3_hhmin", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend was approached and kissed by another Guy.", "post": "I need some guidance here fellow Redditors. \n\nI had my girlfriend call me up at 4am Sunday morning in tears telling me a guy had kissed her. After a few raged moments it came down to the fact that the Guy had been very forward on her and had harassed her during the night. It ended up with him grabbing her and going in for the kiss. Contact was obviously made yet i trust and believe my GF and her friends reports that she did not kiss back.\n\nI've consoled with my GF during the next day and i feel that things will stay on track. I dont know what to feel though. Im taking my GFs word for it all, if i didnt then i think the advice id be asking for would be about a break up.\n\nI feel angry at her not being able to defend herself against him prior to this act and that she allowed him to breach her personal space. But im just more annoyed at this jerk who had the cheek to do such things. She was more upset about it than angry which also set me back.... i would think she would be angry as being upset would show guilt. Or am i over analyzing this a little too much?\n\nHas any one experienced this before? Is this mishap a petty event in the 'hierarchy' of relationship issues? If i can realise that im just being an over emotional 24 year old then id feel a lot better.\n\n( Come a few days i might feel totally open and different about this SMALL mishap so see this post also my way of venting and getting things off the chest )\n\nThank you for any reply.", "summary": "? - Girl friend didn't kiss back, trust her word. I feel a bit lost. Am i over analysing the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4ndfh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my new bf [30 M]... everyone I know is acting like a massive jerk because he didn't go to college and doesn't have a fancy job, but he's actually more financially successful then many of those the people hating on him!!", "post": "I am having an issue with almost everyone in my life (close friends, coworkers, acquaintances, all of my family minus my sister who's a bit more understanding) about my new bf Ted. Ted is so awesome. He treats me like gold and makes so happy. Ted is not the problem here.\n\nApparently, Ted's background is. He never went to college, then started working in a city public works office (not a glamorous job) as a clerk, and has risen to be a supervisor. He makes $115k a year for crying out loud, and has a rent controlled 1bd apartment in the crazy expensive city we live in. Everyone I introduce him to raises an eyebrow at him when they hear what he does, or expresses concern that he's using me. There are a lot of high paid professionals in my city, and most of my coworkers are too. My family all have grad degrees in STEM.\n\nThe thing is, without being rude and disclosing his salary (which he never does himself), they think he's a scrub and leeching off me because of his job! I've said he manages a department and picks up the tab for dates quite often, and it's like it just doesn't register that he's doing fine. And, most infuriatingly, some of the people who look down on him the most for not being an educated professional actually make less than he does and live with a bunch of roommates!! My brother makes all kinds of passive aggressive weird comments about what Ted's tastes and interests should be like... Ted makes 20k more than him!\n\nHow do I talk to the people I care about and really convince them that I'm not being taken advantage of and am in fact dating someone very successful, who took their own path in life which is different but not intrinsically worse? I feel like I'm talking to crazy people who refuse to see that just because he isn't in an industry that requires advanced technical degrees and pays out low salaries to most workers.", "summary": "Everyone I know can eat a bag of dicks. I like my bf and want them to stop picking at me for dating a loser when he is clearly not."}
{"id": "t3_11mrv7", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "A possible new perspective for those who set goals then lose motivation quickly", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nRecently, I've realized that I  was someone who would often set goals or take up new hobbies but would lose motivation and give up because I never saw the results I wanted as quickly as I wanted. \n\nI'm trying a new way of looking at things where, rather than having goals that are outcome/results based, I can have goals that are action/habit based.\n\nFor example, rather than going 'I want to lose 5 kg', I might say 'I want to be the kind of person that goes to the gym 1 hour a day, 4 times a week'. This way, my criteria for success is something more instantaneous in terms of being in my control (going to the gym) rather than an outcome that is going to take more time. So each time I go to the gym, I can actually say I've been successful because each day I do it is a day I've been the person I said I wanted to be. I find this scenario better than checking the scales everyday and getting disappointed because weight loss hasn't happened.\n\nMy theory is that getting this 'success' feedback on a more regular basis is more motivating than hoping to see results in 2 months. Regardless of how you set the goals, it will still require the same actions. However, how you frame the goals might affect your feelings towards them and might mean the difference between sticking with it or not.\n\nI should point out that this is only something that's occurred to me recently that I'm trying out (and so far so good). Also, rather than saying this is a solution for everyone, I think that, if it works, it could be more beneficial those like me who would lose motivation we aren't seeing results as quickly as we want.\n\nAnyway, just wanted to share, in case this approach can help someone here. However, I'd love to hear any thoughts you have on the matter, especially if you have thoughts on how this approach could be improved :D", "summary": "rather than creating goals focusing solely on specific outcomes (lose weight) maybe you can try creating goals based around developing and maintains the habits you would need (gym 5 times a week) to reach the outcome you want"}
{"id": "t3_zexiv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today at work, I sold -1 cars. Reddit, what things have happened at your jobs that you just did not think were possible?", "post": "A lady came in and threw the keys to the car she bought Saturday and left. Her lawyer came in and produced a sheet signed by a judge declaring her mentally incompetent 6 months ago and her son has power of attorney in regards to money management. He wasn't present Saturday and obviously we didn't know she was bat shit crazy, because hey, how often does that happen in a dealership?  I guess she just decided it'd be great fun to buy a car randomly. \n\nShe was actually a really nice person when you came in. Today however, she seemed about 2 seconds away from beginning to froth at the mouth.", "summary": "that is how I became the first person at my dealership to sell -1 cars."}
{"id": "t3_1iz6om", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My landlord won't fix my faulty taps (and also wants to increase rent). What can I do? [UK]", "post": "My finac\u00e9 and I moved into a small flat (apartment) about 1.5 years ago. And ever since we moved in we have had problems with the taps on the bath.\n\nThe cold tap is almost useless, just dribbles warm water when it's turned all the way up. And the hot tap has recently completely broke, turning it does absolutely nothing. So now we cannot shower or even have a bath, we have to just wash as best we can using the sink, which is making us miserable.\n\nHe has had the taps replaced before (approx 8 months ago), which fixed the problem but only temporarily. The problem returned after less than 2 weeks.\n\nI contacted him on Monday (2 days ago) and he said he would have someone round on Wednesday (today) and of course no one has showed up. Now, I have known this man for a long time and I know his little games. He always says things will get sorted, but I never hear back off him. Every fucking time.\n\nSo what can I do? There is no stopcock in our flat so we cannot even do it ourselves. The stopcock is downstairs (in his shop). Please help us out.\n\nAnd on top of all this, he recently contacted us and said that he wants to increase rent by \u00a390, meaning we will be paying \u00a3590. Is this legal? His reasons were because he received a water bill that was \"quite high\" (we contribute to the water bill) and he thinks it is reasonable to make us pay more.", "summary": "Had problems with taps since we moved in 1.5 years ago. Landlord has unsuccesfully resolved this issue. We can't shower or bathe now. He also wants to increase our rent by \u00a390."}
{"id": "t3_x0nb6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom's dog was attacked by a bigger dog, and I almost shouted the other dog into pieces (Dovakhin?).  What are some things that you've done that surprised you (and possibly others that were around you)?", "post": "Some context from my story:\n\nMy mom and I were arriving home when some woman was allowing her big dog (some kind of mastiff) to defacate all over our lawn.  As we pulled into the driveway, she realized she was going to have to clean up after herself, so she asks us for a bag (real nice that she was going to just let her dog shit all over our lawn until she saw us).\n\nSomehow, one of my mom's dogs - a chihuahua - snuck out and into the front yard.  The two dogs went about their business, doing dog stuff to identify one another, when her dog began absolutely mauling my mom's.  Just beating it to all hell.\n\nI had no idea what to do, so I just let reflexes and instincts kick in.  I just let loose this ridiculous formless shout, no real words, completely incoherent.  But the damn thing was so filled with rage that the two dogs, and the lady *and* my mom were completely shocked.  Her big dog just stopped completely and stared at me.  I walked over, picked up my mom's dog - it wasn't hurt... just shaken - and headed back into the house.\n\nMore than anything, I think I surprised myself.  That dog could have definitely messed me up, but I never thought twice.\n\nThe lady gave us her information in case my mom's dog was injured, but that was pretty much the end of that little altercation.", "summary": "At a loss for what do while my mom's dog was getting mauled, I raged out and scared everything on my street."}
{"id": "t3_3dqn6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (24F) wait to have sex with a new boyfriend (27M)? I feel ready, but studies show that it's better to wait.", "post": "We met about two months ago, and we've only been on two dates. We both have children from previous relationships, and neither of us feels the need to have more. I feel such a strong connection to him, and we share almost all of the same hobbies. We both love rock climbing, and we're both very into sports. Mostly, though, we are very involved in our parenting and love our children to an unhealthy degree. Our children have not met yet, and I don't know when they will (expect another post about that one from me, maybe, or include your ideas on that in the comments). Anyway, we never seem to run out of things to talk about. I know what my deal breakers are, and he hasn't hit any of them.\n\nSo on Monday we're having our third date. I know that this date is the one on which it's more socially acceptable to have sex, but I've been reading studies and all of them conclude that couples who wait at least 4 months end up in longer, more fulfilling relationships.\n\nI know that while I feel ready, and I *really* want to have sex with him, I want more to have a happy long-term relationship with him.\n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "I very much want to have sex with a man on our third date, but I'm more interested in a long-term relationship with him. Studies are showing that waiting seems to be my best bet for a long-term relationship. I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2oqsck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] had a sexual experience with a guy [23/M] I've experimented with when I was in Middle School and I didn't like it. I don't know if I'm straight.", "post": "Pretty much I had these experiences when I was like 12 and loved it. As time passed by though, I became more interested girls and eventually had several girlfriends. My friend became a total afterthought. Then o saw him again. He invited me to movies, and the sexual tension was building up. We went to his car in a discreet location and I just wanted it really bad but the moment he put his hand down there... I froze and I did not like it. I found it repulsive. I told him to stop and he got really mad. I said sorry and I said I guess I'm straight now.\n\nHe dropped me off home and texted me repeatedly and nonstop. I find him annoying as hell, so I ignore his texts. Eventually after me not responding for 4 days and him messaging me over and over, I replied out of pity. He's inviting me to the movies again and the idea of doing something with him and the whole sexual tension building up turns me on but I just know that when he actually initiates, I'm going to lose all interest and find it disgusting. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Guy I experimented with in the past reappears. The thought of something happening turns me on but when he actually does it I lose all interest. He's inviting me to the movies and won't stop bothering me and I'm sure he will try something. The idea turns me on but I know I won't enjoy it. What do I do? Am I straight?"}
{"id": "t3_42vtcj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I try to get her back?", "post": "Without getting to specific.  I got broken up with after a four month relationship about a 1.5 months ago.\n\nLong story short, the reasoning was simple.  No other guy, she simply wasn't as into me as she felt she needed to be.  This happened on her own admission seemingly overnight.  Was 100% out of nowhere.  Seemed very spontaneous and rushed and she openly questioned whether it was right call. \n\nBeen like 7 weeks, we've talked light twice, both started by me since.  I've made no serious effort to chase her or profess my love to her in anyway since.  I mean you love them let them go right?\n\nWell I'm to the point now where I feel like I have to do something.  I've dated plenty of women, I know how the games played.  I know me chasing her or spilling my guts has about a .2% chance of working.  I've been out with other girls since, talked to, slept with etc.  But I am so absolutely crazy about this girl.  And I feel like I can't get closure knowing I didn't \"try\".\n\nHas this actually ever worked for anyone?\n\n21(f) 23(m)", "summary": "does the guy chasing the girl after she ends it ever work."}
{"id": "t3_5209lu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23F] boyfriend[25M] and I broke up and I am still unsure why.", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nI have been dating the most amazing person for over a year and a half. We never fight, and he was the first person to not be abusive to me. We seemed to be the perfect fit.\n\nSuddenly, he said he can't emotionally support me any longer. He's been incredibly busy with work and trying to take a separate direction in life, and worth our conflicting schedules it can't work out. So with much regret, he had to end it.\n\nI talked to him on several occasions in person and tried to tell him that we need each other and I can be there for him to help him through these times. He said he would sleep on it.\n\nFast forward a couple days and we meet again. I break down saying I can't be in a suspended state of not knowing and he suggested that we take a break for a while so he can sort things out mentally. Oddly enough, after much crying and comforting each other, we hooked up. Before I left his place he kissed me goodbye. We have spoken since then but it's just casual talk.\n\nHe swears there's nobody else he wants and I believe him. He says he loves me and I believe him. He says he just needs some time to himself, but I can't possibly wrap my head around the reasoning when he still acts like we are a couple when we see each other. And when he's constantly texting me and acting like everything is fine. Recently he called me by an affectionate name. \n\nI'm at my lowest point right now, seeking help from anonymous people on the Internet. It's a little embarrassing, but I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Somebody who I was in a loving relationship with broke it off suddenly and for an (what seems to me) unclear reason."}
{"id": "t3_1mg1p9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining the first kiss", "post": "So I have been casually dating this girl for a while, the first real introvert to boot.  Since she is so shy, I've been taking things slower than I normally do, only going so far as to kiss her on the cheek a few times after dropping her back off at her place.\n\nThis time was a little different, everything felt right so I leaned in for an actual kiss. Thankfully, she leans in too which is where things go wrong. Lips connect, score!  However, I start to open my mouth to make out with her as I have never had a simple peck for a first kiss. As my lips start to open, her's stay shut.  We back away and needless to say, it was awkward for both parties.", "summary": "Tried to make out on a peck."}
{"id": "t3_1n5sve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(25F) boyfriend(26M) broke up with me claiming he needed to be on his own and is seemingly already dating someone else...", "post": "My(25F) boyfriend(26M) of about a year, whom I was madly in love with, recently broke my heart and shattered my world when he broke up with me out of the blue.  We've been living together for quite a while and have a puppy together.  Until about a week prior to the breakup, he was still talking about marriage and our future together.  When he ended things two weeks ago, he said he just needed space and to be by himself.  He said he couldn't commit to a relationship and that he needed to take a personal journey but that he believed and hoped that we'd find our way back to one another.  He said all of this with tears in his eyes.  Three days after he told me this, with much conviction I might add, I discovered that he is already seeing someone else.  Not to mention the fact that they are planning to go away together in one month, on the exact vacation he and I had been planning.  I feel so lost and I don't know what to do with myself.  I can't believe he's found it so easy to move on when I believed we were so deeply in love.  In retrospect, I really wouldn't have done anything differently throughout our relationship and really do believe that I treated him with utmost love and respect.  How do you recover from such betrayal and deceit?", "summary": "boyfriend left me saying he couldn't commit and is already dating someone else just weeks later.  Unsure of how to heal from this."}
{"id": "t3_293iiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Worried my SO (24 M) of 3 years might be losing internet in me (22 F)", "post": "We have been together for over 3 years. We have had a couple big break ups but they didn't last longer than a few days and they weren't over anything too serious like cheating or anything. We even lived together for a year but I decided to live separetly until we became more financially stable. We argue about as much as any other couple but for the most part I'd say we make a pretty good couple. \n\nI am worried that he may not feel as strongly about me as he used to because he works almost 50 hours a week now and I try to set time aside for him when he has days off so that we can spend time together but he just ends up wanting to be alone after a day or so. It just bothers me because I feel like if you love someone and you've been together as long as we have you would want to spend as much time with each other, right? But it seems like he only wants to see me once or twice a week and that's it even if he has extra days off. \n\nWe talk about moving in together again and he even set a date for when he wants us to get a place. But how can he want to live with me when he doesn't want to hang out more than once a week? It just freaks me out because when we started dating we would see each other constantly and now I feel like I barely see him and he doesn't seem to mind. He even seems to get anxious if I stay at his house for more than a day. \n\nI just want to know if it's normal for guys to behave like this or if there's something wrong.", "summary": "Boyfriend (24) works 50 hours a week but when has free time instead of spending it with me (22) he mostly prefers to be alone. Wondering if I should be concerned or if I should just give him his space."}
{"id": "t3_3v24ba", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I've never celebrated my birthday up to this date, but now I feel like I have to", "post": "Hello /r/advice\n\nIn less than a month, I'm turning eighteen.\n\nI've always been that person that never celebrated his own birthday. This is because I didn't really have any friends until I got out of middle school and because I always thought my parents were embarassing.\n\nI do have some friends now, and I've been invited to several 18th birthday parties myself. However, I still do not  really want to celebrate my birthday. The house I'm living in is a mess and I wouldn't even know what to do or prepare for such a party. \n\nThe real problem is that people ask me what I'm gonna do for my birthday etc. Whenever I tell someone that I haven't planned anything, they look overly surprised and I don't know what else to say. What am I supposed to do? Is the 18th birthday really a \"must-celebrate\" and will people be mad at me if I won't do it?", "summary": "I don't want to celebrate my 18th birthday but people expect me to, and now I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2v78pj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update 2] My [18 F] mom [49 F] is pushing a debt on me. I don't know what to do.", "post": "OP: \n\nPrevious", "summary": "Argument ensued, got strangled, and kicked out. I'm at my boyfriend's. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_131pv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [16m] being selfish?", "post": "I'm currently in a relationship with a girl [16f] of just under a year. I love her profoundly, and she does the same. Things are smooth sailing in our relationship. I feel like we have great chemistry, and our communication is open and vocal. We are sexually active, and it's great as it's supported by honesty and intimacy. I have few complaints about her, and can see myself spending a lot of time with her. She's an amazing girl, that I can't deny in the slightest.\n\nSo what's the problem? \n\nWell here's where my confusion comes in. One on hand, I have this awesome girl who has grown immensely close to me. On the other, sometimes as of recent, I feel as if I'm missing out to some extent. She is my first serious girlfriend, as I was incredibly shy before meeting her. And now I feel like I've missed out talking to other girls that I might've liked. Now this sounds incredibly stupid, as I already have a person that I love and loves me back. But I can't shake this feeling I'm getting that I want to talk and meet other girls. So what I guess I'm asking is what are your opinions on what your plan of action would be in this situation.", "summary": "With GF of about a year, who I get along and love greatly, feeling as if I've missed out on other girls as she is my first serious girlfriend. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mzcga", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just need to vent.", "post": "I dated the same girl for over 3 1/2 years. We've been best friends for over 5 years and I knew she was the one. Out of the blue she just left. She went on to start hooking up with other guys. Those guys were my \"friends\" she was hooking up with. She stole all my friends cause she's always around and I can't go because I can't be around her watching it. Saturday night she invited me over at 2am and I came. She closed the door and started kissing me and telling me how much she loves me and wants me. Then we wake up sunday morning and she wants nothing to do.. I haven't eaten since saturday. I'm so depressed. I already have depression issues and no confidence in myself and she's made it worse... I just want her back even after how much she's hurt me. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend started hooking up with my friends leaving me alone and now toys with my emotions."}
{"id": "t3_3iebs8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [25M] of 3 months refuses to go down on me even though he did it frequently with his ex [24F]", "post": "My boyfriend refuses to go down on me. This isn't a problem as far as sexual satisfaction goes, he gets me off just fine during intercourse. And I go down on him because he enjoys it and I like it as well. But ever since we first got together he simply will not go down on me.\n\nA few days ago I asked him why he wouldn't and he says he doesn't enjoy it. I asked him if he has ever done it before and he told me he did it almost all the time with his ex. If I were him I probably wouldn't have mentioned that but he values honesty to an extreme. Anyway it made me really mad that he would always go down on her but never on me so I asked him why. He said in the period after his breakup but before he met me (about a year, he did a few casual hookups during that time) he realized he didn't enjoy it anymore and stopped doing it. \n\nThis isn't an issue about him leaving me sexually unsatisfied or unfulfilled. He always gets me off but never goes down on me. And I don't know if this makes me insecure or jealous or whatever but it pisses me the hell off that he would always go down on his ex but not even entertain the thought with me. I feel it's unfair that I'm willing to go down on him but he won't return the favor. I'm reluctant to give him blowjobs now since I know he will never go down on me yet he did it dozens of times for his ex.\n\nIf it's relevant, he doesn't have any communication with his ex.", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't go down on me but did it all the time for his ex. Is it wrong of me to be upset about this?"}
{"id": "t3_48awod", "subreddit": "college", "title": "How to ask for a letter of recommendation?", "post": "Technically this is not for college but for an internship with a zoo meant for college students in a related field. \n\nThe internship application requires a letter of recommendation but I'm not sure who I could ask for one. I'm fairly introverted and haven't formed close bonds with many supervisors or professors. I considered emailing the veterinarian at the animal hospital I used to work at but I haven't worked there in a couple years and the doctor and I only ever had a friendly professional relationship, we weren't ever very close. It feels wrong to suddenly years layer come asking for something from him. Although I think it would be good from him, he's a very nice man and it would 've good to have a letter from someone in the same field he internship is in.\n\nThe only other people I can think if are my band and choir directors from high school. I was in the program all four years and volunteered even years after I graduated. It would be very easy to ask them, but are the letters still beneficial outside of the field?\n\nI guess I'm asking for help on how to approach asking for the letters if recommendation in a professional way that doesn't cone off poorly. Especially in the case of the vet I haven't seen for a couple years.", "summary": "how to ask for letters of recommendation professionally?"}
{"id": "t3_1yvru5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my gf [26 F] of 3 years and wondering about equality", "post": "So my gf and I have been together for three years now and recently we have been having an ongoing argument. Some points during said argument have been harder than others but one specific point that was brought up left me seeking advice.\n\nShe says that I am selfish in the relationship because she puts me and my wants and needs above her own when thinking about me and feels like I don't reciprocate. While I think it's important for a healthy relationship for both people to consider the other persons wants and needs, I think that a good relationship should be a partnership and be equal. So while I try and think in terms of \"we\", \"us\" and \"ours\" and consider what she wants and needs, I don't think that one person should hold the others wants and needs higher than their own but rather be considerate and try and find a way in any given situation to make sure that both parties are happy. Is this way of thinking from my end hurting my relationship and should I consider changing the way I think?\n\nI want both of us to be mindful of one another but also to not neglect our own wants and needs. I hope I'm not coming across as some jerk who doesn't appreciate that his gf thinks about him because I do but I think that a relationship should be an equal partnership where both people pay attention to and are open about their own wants and needs and respectful of their SO's and try and be as equal as possible. Is that wrong?", "summary": "I think a relationship should be equal when thinking of ones self and partner. Should I change my thinking?"}
{"id": "t3_1fmsli", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (21/f) don't know what to think anymore.", "post": "So I've been dating this guy (19/m) for 2 years. He can be an amazing guy but he can also be really rude. He curses at me and sometimes talks to me like I'm a five year old. He tells me what to do constantly. When we argue he twist everything around on me and makes it my fault. He then ends up making me feel like shit for everything I \"did wrong\". He's really manipulative. He has made me cry more times than I can count. Including now. \n\nI really love this guy and can imagine him in my future, but I don't know if I can take it anymore and if I have the courage to brake it off.", "summary": "Love my boyfriend, but he can be verbally abusive."}
{"id": "t3_gn8sv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a good ISP in my area?", "post": "So, I'm currently using AT&T's DSL service as they are, as far as my dad and I are aware, the only ISP in this area. However, recently we've found there are a few smaller ISPs in the area, one of them being Sonic.net. Thing is, I'm not sure if they're good or not. And I'm even less sure of any other possible options.\n\nIf it weren't completely obvious, I want to switch from AT&T to another ISP. We've had nothing but bad service from AT&T, start to the hopefully-nearing-finish. It took them nearly 2 months to set up our internet in the first place, and they sent dozens of technicians to help us during this time. \n\nAfter setting it up, the connection is prone to random disconnections and always at the least opportune moments. Calls to tech support gets me connected with people that basically imply I'm an idiot with the way they walk me through the most basic of things. Multiple times. Like how to unplug the router.\n\nOne time, the modem was dying. This exponentially multiplied the number of disconnections and the technician they sent wouldn't believe us when we said it was the modem dying (my dad had a similar situation at his office). In the end, they switched the modem.\n\nAnd now, recently, every night the modem just starts disconnecting. This being the time I try to relax and play some online games, I find myself getting even more stressed than my day has made me already.\n\nSo, needless to say, I'm in the market for a new ISP. I'm in California bay area if that helps. I'm not sure what sorts of information I'd need to give. \n\nOr could someone give me a review on how good Sonic.net is?", "summary": "AT&T sucks. New ISP?"}
{"id": "t3_2ld4yt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By grabbing an old deep fryer.", "post": "So I'm rostered on as a security guard for one of the biggest retail stores in the world. The store had closed and all the staff were leaving. I spotted this deep fryer sitting outside by a bin and after asking about it, I found out it was the cafe's next door and they just threw it out because they got a new one. It worked fine. \n\nSo again the staff are leaving and I mention to one of them that I'm gonna grab this thing and take it home. The guy offers to bring it in the store for me, in case someone else were to take it. I say \"yeah sure\" so he walks it in all the way to the back of the store where the staff area is.\n\nNow, he puts it down and starts heading for the exit again. Theres a small trail of cooking oil on the shop floor. There's some of it on his jeans too. Fuck. He doesn't mind but I'm freaked out already. \n\nLater on the cleaners on site are taking out our own trash. I think sweet I'll see if I can get a box for the fryer. I find one, but it doesn't fit, so I try to prop the fryer up sideways. OIL GOES FUCKING EVERYWHERE! I don't understand there was none in it. Then I notice a draining system that the fryer has built in. \n\nThere is oil covering a part of the staff room. I just managed to get this thing outside, with out making anymore mess. *I'm probably gonna get fired and my company will lose their contract.*\nThe cleaners say they will be able to get it out but, I'm not so sure. \n\nFuck.", "summary": "I grabbed an old deep fryer, it had hidden oil, oil got everywhere"}
{"id": "t3_16qnck", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you disclose a method of doing something you've worked hard to perfect knowing it will help others to make what you do, thus possibly do it better?", "post": "I paint on feathers, and have come up with a way to create big canvases using feather groupings that are unlike anything I've seen other feather painters do. So, kind of a trade secret I guess and my own \"speciality\". \n\nI recently posted some of my work onto a forum specializing in birds and its received a lot of good, new attention. Obviously I wasn't the first person to come up with this great idea of posting my work there, because there are quite a few other feather artists showcasing their work. They all paint on single feathers though; some are really good, some are really crappy. Since I've posted my work, I've received several emails from said artists saying they really love my work, and asking me how to make these large formations. \n\nIf I share my secret, they'll know how to do what I do, perhaps even those who can paint do it better, thus stealing potential buisness. If I don't share what I've learned I'll look (and probably feel like) an ass. In all honesty its really not complicated and now that the idea is out there any of them can do it, too, if they just problem solved for a minute.\n\nSo, Reddit... friends... compadres...  do I share what I've learned or be a knowledge hoarder until someone breaks the code?", "summary": "Ravioli, ravioli, give me the formuloi"}
{"id": "t3_1p0tig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 F]. Known each other for 3yrs. How to ask her if she is still into that other guy.", "post": "I have been close friends with a girl for about 3 years now and she for about a year has had a crush on a guy (or just says that she does). She actually has never come near asking him out. \n\nNow, I have had a crush on said friend-that-is-a-girl for a couple of months. How would I ask said girl if she is still interested in her crush without it sounding too much like I have feelings for her (if she does have still has feelings for this other guy, I would prefer if she didn't know I had a crush on her).", "summary": "I want to ask if this girl has feelings for another guy, but don't want to seem like I'm totally in to her..."}
{"id": "t3_r7vcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My father won't let me get a job.", "post": "Me and my father have had discussions about a summer job. He is entirely against me having a full time summer job because it's my last summer in high school. He says he wants to spend time/plan family events and a job would get in the way of that. Also because I'll be working all my life.\n\nI need a job. I need the money and work experience, because I've never had it. He gets on to me for the fact I don't save my money. Granted I don't save all the time, but I believe a job would help. \n\nMe and my father fight frequently on this subject. I need the experience of a job and life. How do I have him see this?", "summary": "My father won't let me get a job because it conflicts with family things."}
{"id": "t3_3nlttk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and friendship question about helping and receiving.", "post": "Basically I have a friend who I have spent lots of time helping work on their car mechanically, and car audio projects, and a few other things, for free. They now have a motorcycle project but seem to think my time is just abundant and free.\n\nI do this type of stuff to put food on my table, but they offer me no compensation. Friends should help friends but I feel Im the only one who really puts in any investment to the friendship.\n\nSo I kinda hesitated to help on this motorcycle project.\n\nThis friend has a little business of his own, which I have given him tons of business. Knowing he taxes me on all of purchases because hes got to make some money for his efforts and time.\n\nWell he broke something on the motorcycle, something somewhat important and all hell broke loose and it somewhat blamed on me because he asked to borrow a torque wrench and I lent it to him, but he didn't have the right socket to match up so he winged it. And broke shit.\n\nPoetic justic?", "summary": "Peer loves to tax me on everything, but when my help is needed it is just assumed my time and services/tools are free."}
{"id": "t3_3mazl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my SO [24 F] of 2 years long distance circumstantial/mutual breakup. First breakup.", "post": "We met abroad in Germany 2 years ago. Having both recently graduated college on opposite coasts, we spent this summer living together after 1.5 years of distance. Daily Skype calls, short week-long visits during school vacations all to the wind; now we could have a \"real\" day-to-day relationship.\n\nAnd it was wonderful. Both worked restaurant jobs to make ends meet and our relationship grew. \n\nBut Fall is here now and I am moving overseas for a job and she is staying to continue working and getting an education. Nothing wrong with our relationship. It was pretty great. Loved each other very much and the breakup was mutual, both realizing there was no end-goal in sight to distance. \n\nBeen there, done that, neither of us were at our happiest during distance but there was always an end date when we knew we would be happy together. Decided to remember the relationship as a happy one together. Not drawn out and resentful.\n\nFirst breakup. No real questions. Maybe similar stories? Just wanted to write.", "summary": "Spent wonderful summer together with long time, long distance girlfriend. Mutually calling it off due to renewed long distance. Mutually awful."}
{"id": "t3_2n1luj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Motif Investing? Anyone have any experience?", "post": "I have recently come upon to a promotion at work. It's good, has a good salary and bonus system and with the bonuses I'm making almost 35K/yr after taxes. I'm used to, which is to say I still do, live like I'm only getting 1000/month, and so am sitting on more money than I need. With that being said, I want to start saving up tons of money, and was looking into investing. While retooling my budget on my mint app, I was turned onto a site, through advertising on mint, called motif investing. I thought it sounded legit, but I'm wary about putting a lot of money out somewhere unknown. Does anyone have any experience with that or investing in general?", "summary": "Am trying not to get swindled out of my money, but still want to learn investing."}
{"id": "t3_sxmz0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "get a side job today and get dick'd around like a fucking pro", "post": "I am unemployed and if that was not hard enough I barely scrape by as it is. I got a side job here about a week ago and everything seemed legit. Well the job was to be a sign spinner, kinda silly but it is easy money. So I went ahead and took it.\n\nWell as it went I got a sunburn from being out in the sun and that sucked, there was really no good shade spots along where i had to post. So that was and still is terrible. But the thing that really angered me was that instead of paying cash for the services rendered, i was given a personal check. \n\nNow today is Saturday and I had just enough gas to make it there and almost did not make it back to my house. So I guess i assumed i would be payed today at 7 o'clock. Well boy i was wrong. I was told by the manager to go to another store down the road since I had informed him that I needed to be payed today. \n\nOnce i get to this other store down the road. There was a very egotistical person there at the store basically bossing me around? asking me to turn lights on and off? I nearly lost my fucking mind. I am a veteran of only 3 years back and this was more than just offending. \n\nBut beyond even this kind of unprofessional conduct, i was informed by the only rational minded person there that the person bringing me a \"personal check\" went to the store i was previously at. So i wait.. The total time that passed by the point of me actually getting my check was 45mins. The only reason that i actually minded waiting other than the ego maniac chatting about how big his biceps were was, that i wished to try to cash this check so i could make it home today. Well of course it was too late, any of the ace checking services were closed and things like that.", "summary": "So all in all, i was dick'd around for around an hours time and handed of all things a personal check on a Saturday evening. Also just for the information this business was a GNC. I have no qualms about mentioning that either because I bet that clears up why there was a egocentric person working at the business. Sorry if this is a bit grammatically incorrect, my head is pounding from being dehydrated and angry."}
{"id": "t3_22upzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] have been dating for 4+ months. Today I woke up and couldn't stand anything about her.", "post": "Our relationship has not been perfect, but when things are good, they are probably as close to perfect as they can get. We started dating and on the first date started sleeping together. She hadn't dated or wanted to date anyone for five months prior and she hadn't hooked up with anyone. Last year though (her freshman year), she was known as the promiscuous one amongst her friends and constantly sought validation. She says that she took the last five months to get over her validation needs which is why it was the perfect time for us to find each other. I hadn't dated or wanted to date for five months prior also and had had one terrible hook-up. \n\nWe've gotten into one big fight, which ended with me checking myself in to a mental health clinic to help get over what we both perceived to be the problem. This showed her that I was willing to commit to change and essentially stopped a bad break up from happening. \n\nShe does things here and there that annoy me, like staring at other guys for periods of time, sometimes while they stare back. When she wants to look at someone inconspicuously, she'll flip her hair and stare in their direction. I notice it every time but I don't usually let it bother me. It usually stops quickly after it starts too, i.e. it's usually a one or two-time thing\n\nLast night though, I didn't feel like having sex with her: something we do on the regular. We'd both had busy weeks and I felt like it was a chore. I also got really turned off by her at one point.\n\nToday, all the little things that annoy me -- staring at other people in public places and flipping her hair to look around when she enters a room -- really got on my nerves. She kept doing it too, it wasn't just once or twice this time. One guy she kept glancing at for over 5 minutes. I didn't talk to her as we walked 25 minutes to campus. She commented on how quiet I was and that I look really upset. I knew however that bringing these things up would be pointless because I have before and she's gotten defensive.", "summary": "What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_eteqr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fell back into visiting an escort after a period of no sex... What is wrong with me?", "post": "To make things clear, I've never managed to get a girl to have sex with me without paying her. I'm getting really sick of this whole escort bullshit, as after a while the whole act of sex just seems disgusting and mechanical.\n\nPeople might read that I'm a guy who has only had sex with hookers and might think I'm some kind of disgusting lowlife. Maybe I am, but I think by the average person's metric, I'm a decent guy except when it comes to sex and love. Every attempt I've made to ask a girl to a date or dance or anything has been rejected, I've wasted countless amounts of money and time going to parties, doing drugs, dancing with complete strangers at clubs. It's all pointless, at the end of the day I'm still going to end up paying some immigrant who can barely explain to me that she wants me to give her $20 for a BJ in English.\n\nIt's reaching the point where I'm tired of society's bullshit. I don't want a girlfriend anymore, but at the same time I just grow angry at my own sexual desires. Having sex with escorts is an expensive habit, and I barely have any money to spend after the money I already waste on weed and other crap.\n\nLove means nothing to me. I feel like an empty shell emotionally, and I just wish my sexual desires would go away. I can't tell if I'm becoming a 'sex addict' or if I already am one. The first few times I had sex with escorts I just thought it was mindless fun with my own money, now I feel like I don't know how else to have relationships with women. I literally feel like more of a virgin than my friends who have had girlfriends before, because I haven't even kissed or held a girl's hand or anything like that. I'm absolutely ashamed to admit this kinda thing to anyone, this is my spare/throwaway account. I feel like I just want to have a normal sex life now, whatever that is.", "summary": "I'm a guy who has only had sex with hookers, how do I start changing things? "}
{"id": "t3_uoufz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for book suggestions for a home schooled girl who is being educated for a life of ignorance by her parents.", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI'm looking for book/poetry suggestions for a girl that will encourage ambition, critical, and freethinking. Her family being evangelical Christians, I'm somewhat limited in what books I can give her, as the author and content will be scrutinized. \n\nShe's in her early teens and homeschooled by parents who are primarily concerned that she is prepared to be a homemaker after the collapse of society. She's smart, and really enjoys reading, particularly books such as Little House on the Prairie, but she seems to have already been dissuaded from attending college, or aspiring to be anything but a house-wife. \n\nI'm not trying to start anything regarding homeschooling, homemaking or the like. I'm concerned that she seems to have already had any childlike ambition or pursuit of knowledge squashed. She has said things to me that lead me to believe her parents have told her college is a waste of time and money for someone who will only need to sew and cook for her family in the future.  \n\nShe is a close relative, by the way, and while she is getting a basic education in all of the state required subjects, she isn't currently aspiring to anything beyond that. \n\nThanks.", "summary": "Looking for books that will subtly undermine evangelical parent's influence that may lead to educational and social handicapping."}
{"id": "t3_2u45wn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] new girlfriend [21F] may be schizophrenic.", "post": "My girlfriend of two months acts much like an average anime obsessed, introverted millennial. We hit it off immediately from our first date, and my friends all think she's awesome.\n\nOn New Year's eve, I invited a few people over to drink in the new year. 3am rolled around and we all called I a night. We went to bed and she immediately passed out. Being the drunk idiot I was, I tried to wake her up to get some lovin' on...\n\nShe woke up and started crying, hugging her knees, and saying, \"I'm dead. I'm dead. I really should be dead. Why don't you just kill me?\" My brother had night terrors when we were little, so I figured that's what it was... I just held her and told her everything was all right and I was there. I never told her about that.\n\nA few nights ago, I had everyone over drinking again. I passed out on the couch and she stayed up... And apparently went through another one of those episodes with only my friends, clueless, thinking she might be on drugs.\n\nAfter I heard about it, I asked her if she had night terrors or sleep walked or even talked in her sleep. She said she didn't.\n\nMy friend who's in the mental health field says it looked like a schizophrenic episode... And I don't know what to do about it.", "summary": "My girlfriend has episodes when she's drunk. I honestly don't know what they are or more importantly how to approach them with her."}
{"id": "t3_2vqce4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[22 M] am sick with the flu, and my parents want me home for the weekend, My [22 F] GF of 6 months, wants to spend V-day together no matter what.", "post": "This is our first v-day together. My gf wants to spend it, and she is getting really mad at the thought that I won't be here for it. My parents really want me home (they're doctors and they really like to monitor me when I'm sick), and to be fair, I'm in no position to actually do anything. I'm pretty bedridden. I've asked her to reconsider going to dinner and watching a movie when I'm better. \n\nShe said to me that she wouldn't breakup with me, but she would be mad for a really long time. It kinda makes me feel guilty for being sick and having parents that are really overbearing. What should I do?", "summary": "I have been sick for the past couple days with the flu and severe headaches. My GF wants to spend Saturday with me for v-day. My parents want me home."}
{"id": "t3_yk8ab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell a loved one who has anxiety and anger issues that you're not happy?", "post": "So my best friend (Male 22) and I (Female 29) have been friends for 3 months. For the past 3 weeks things have been a bit shaky and I feel like I am walking on eggshells around him. I have been staying at his house for 3 days and I have been miserable the whole time. He didn't even come to bed last night, instead opting for sleeping in the lounge room, and that hurt me. I was going to talk to him about it today but he is in a very mad mood. I don't want to leave him though; he needs me.", "summary": "How do I approach my best friend who has anxiety and anger issues about me not being happy in the friendship, without angering him (too much?)"}
{"id": "t3_1x08hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my ex [20 M] of 3 1/2 years. He broke up with me because he no longer feels the same.", "post": "Just over a week ago my boyfriend broke up with me completely out of the blue. He said he doesn't love me anymore and just doesn't feel the same. I was devastated but this is the 3rd time he has broken up with me. From previous experience I knew not to cry and beg and I have barely spoken to him since. I don't regret at all getting back together with him as we had been happy together for 2 years after the last break up. I told him when we broke up that if he changes his mind about us to let me know and we could try and work it out. \n\nLast night he sent me a text at 3 in the morning saying \"Breaking NC. Miss talking to you. I keep looking at your reddit posts. We can't talk I shouldn't text... Ahhh Fuck. Just letting you know\"\n\nHis message really upset me because I can see hes taking the break up badly and I don't know what to do. I would like to get back together with him but I don't know what to make of his text last night...", "summary": "Ex boyfriend sent me a text showing he misses me, I would like to get back together but i don't know what to make of his text."}
{"id": "t3_32h84t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 3.5 years decided to take a 'break'", "post": "So basically things were not working out very well, both of us were at fault. After one day I had to drive her to work and noticed a hickey on her neck. I know that it was completely in her right as we were on a break but it was almost immediately after we had broken up and logically I understand it, but I feel absolutely horrible that it happened and I'm extremely hurt. I'm not sure if I can get over this and I need some advice as to how I can push myself to get over it, mature in regards to our relationship and generally better myself and try to get over this in the future.", "summary": "gf and i took a break, noticed she messed around with someone else, I feel shitty."}
{"id": "t3_m13vc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, i'm pissed, what should I do?", "post": "At a football game tonight, a girl from my school dumped a carton of gravel over my head in front of a ton of people for no reason, she just did it. It was embarrassing and I was pissed, but what could I do? I could've told her off, but others would of thought I was overreacting. I couldn't hit her, because she's a chick. If it had been a guy, I would have laid his ass out. So instead, I went with calling her a bitch and turning around. I had had a pretty good day so far, and this seems to have just pissed me off enough to ruin my entire day. I want revenge. I don't care if she cries or is embarrassed, I just want her to know the feeling. So Reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "girl at foot ball game dumps gravel on me. I want revenge. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ufcas", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, has there ever been a moment where you've stopped and been seriously humbled?", "post": "Couple of years ago, I was at the Royal Highland Show in Edinburgh (pretty good day out). Anyway, we'd been walking about and seen Princess Anne walking through, etc etc. Nothing special.\n\nWe were walking past the arena and there was a big black car with a British flag on the front pulling out. There was a bit of a half arsed crowd standing on one side of the exit, with absolutely no one at the other side. So we stood to see what it was all about....it was the Queen, with her window down, driving past about a meter away. And she waved at me (and it definitely was me....there was no crowd anywhere near us). I mean....the fucking queen. Wow\n\nPointless but relatively interesting story for the grandkids", "summary": "The queen waved at me"}
{"id": "t3_15n1na", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Having trouble with dad letting one year old sleep all evening.", "post": "I work part times on evenings and weekends. While I am at work my fiance let's our daughter sleep all evening so he can also sleep. I have two problems with this:\nThe first is that when I get home she wants to stay up all night. I go from working to taking care of her all hours of the night while he goes to bed. \nThe second is that I worry that she may not actually be sleeping the whole time he is.  I'm worried that he sleeps while she is awake in her crib for who knows how long. The reason this crossed my mind is because she doesn't sleep much when I am home with her in the evenings. Last night she was up very late and I decided to put her in her crib when midnight came around and let her cry it out a little. Her dad was sleeping five feet away from her and he didn't even budge or show signs of waking up while she was crying and screaming. It really scared me and now I'm afraid that may happen often when I'm at work. \nAny advice for either situation?", "summary": "my fiance let's my daughter sleep all evening while I'm at work and leaves me to be up all night with her while he goes to bed."}
{"id": "t3_tuwbo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some help dealing with something very minor. (semi-dick boyfriend alert)", "post": "Hey Reddit, I have had a brilliant relationship for a while now. But, something very minor came up just a few days ago. My girlfriend is bi-sexual.\n\nNow, I accept that. And it doesn't bother me. I mean, it's great that she trusts me. She has never really been one to hit on people or look for cheating opportunities or anything like that. And she is honestly perfect to me. I just purposed about a week ago.\n\nMy issue is two things... I feel a little paranoid, like she'll check out others girls or guys and lose interest in me... And she has a friend. That friend just said (to me) that she might be bi... She asked to experiment with my girlfriend... That was before my girlfriend \"came out\". My girlfriend said she finds the friend mildly attractive... So I worry about that as well...\n\nSo, I ask... Am I over reacting? And what should I do about this whole thing?", "summary": "Girlfriend came out bi. I'm paranoid she'll lose interest and check out others. And I am afraid that her friend will convince her too..."}
{"id": "t3_46625v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) lied to my boyfriend (m27) about why I'm not picking him up from school.", "post": "So first of all, my boyfriend doesn't have a working car and he has classes until 9 pm on tues/thurs which means I usually pick him up. \n\nI used to be ok with it, but ever since last week where he said he'd be out at 7:45 and then me getting there at 7:30 only to wait for an hour for him to get out and fall asleep in the car, I just don't feel like waiting around for him anymore. \n\nHe profusely apologized, and me reminiscing my teenage years where I had to bum rides, accepted them.\n\nAfter dropping him off at his place, I thought about it and I texted him my feelings of potential resentment given that I continuously do favors for him and think about his needs and wants but him not reciprocating in kind and asking him to do things for me. \n\nHe responded quite positively, saying that it was fair of me to ask of that and saying that he's very appreciative of my help.\n\nAnyways, fast forward a couple days later to this past weekend. He told me he was coming in with some money which has been a struggle these past months. He tells me he plans to buy a new hockey sweater that costs $150. I ask him about fixing his car, he gives me excuses such as \"It will cost a lot more to pay/fix for that.\" (Then start saving up?) \"It's been too cold outside\" (it's recently been the warmest tx winter ever) and finally \"I'm just too lazy.\" \n\nI got really upset at that. Knowing that I'm giving up my time, money (gas), and energy to pick him up and drop him off when he is too lazy to do it himself. \n\nTonight, I lied and said I was feeling sick so I can't pick him up. I wish I could've told him the truth- that I was resentful of him asking me for favors when he can't do himself one. But also, I don't wanna start a fight.\n\nAnyways, I'm not really sure how to proceed from here because I can't keep making excuses since I'm a bad liar.", "summary": "my boyfriend won't get off his butt to try and fix his car but expects me to give him rides."}
{"id": "t3_mix6i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people think they are entitled to more than everyone else when it comes to business rules/policies and in life?", "post": "Many things happen where I work (a sports complex) where this applies. \n\nTo name a few that happened today. People try to bring their bikes inside and store them when facilities are provided outside then complain they should be allowed to because they're being quick or it's \"not in anyone's way\". Others complain they should not leave collateral to hire certain equipment because they're trust worthy, why should they have to? Had one other man kick up a stink when he was told he couldn't use his video camera at an outdoor public pool.\n\nI guess what I'm asking is why do people think they're exempt from life's rules? Are people just that arrogantly stupid all the time? Do they honestly think these rules are made in spite of them or what? I want some insight into my perceived stupidity.", "summary": "Why do people think they're exempt from rules and regulations in life?"}
{"id": "t3_fbt4c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to do...(friend Issues..)[first post]", "post": "So since my bestfriend G broke up with her boyfriend E (about 6 months ago) we've been getting closer and closer. Then about 3 months ago they got back together. At first nothing changed but lately she just has been ignoring me and not caring about our friendship. Which really bothers me but I've been letting it slide. But shit has gotten really bad lately (I'll put it in list form, and I;ve been friends with her boyfriend for a while too)\n\n1. She hasn't said anything to me lately that doesn't invole E and their VERY gross and active sex life.\n\n2. They've had sex in my boyfriend J's room which is fucking nasty\n\n3. G tried to brag about the above\n\n4. E has been making fun of my boyfriend cause I haven't put out yet (I'm a virgin so it's kinda a big deal) and E is treating me like an object \n\n5. EandG only try to hang out with J because he has a car and they need rides. But never invite me along.\n\n6. If J says he can't they just stop talking to him completely.\nSo that was a very short summary of the problems I've been having..Please help (:", "summary": "MY bestfriend is being a dick now that she's back with her boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2dkb6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting back my stuff", "post": "So i just ended what I'd call my first relationship. I'm 26/M she's 27/F. We'd been going out about 3-4 months, and things just kinda dissipated slowly. We had a talk yesterday and decided to part ways pretty amicably. \n\nSince I'm new to this breakup stuff, I'm wondering about the stuff I have at her place/stuff she left at my place. It's nothing hugely sentimental, but I would like to get it back, and would like to get her her stuff too. How do people normally go about that, especially since we had such a clean break, or is it one of those things where we just inherit those things and move on?", "summary": "Broke up, how do i get my stuff back or do we just keep eachother's shit."}
{"id": "t3_t56ir", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit Cat Owners -- My cat attacked me yesterday. What should I do?", "post": "Here's the full situation: I have a frisky black cat who enjoys going out onto my screened-in porch in the evening while I watch the Daily Show. While he's out there, another cat, from the down the road, routinely wanders up to our front door and they start meowing at each other and occasionally batting at one another through the glass. Last night, I opened the door to let him back in and he was facing away from me, looking at this other cat. I called his name, he spun around, jumped at me, dug his back claws into my legs, and tried to go for my face. Thankfully, I got my hand up in time and he managed to just sink his claws into my palm instead. In a sort of automatic response, I flung him onto the ground and he hissed at me. Then I shut the door and waited for my wife to come home from her run. She retrieved the cat from the porch without incident while I disinfected my leg and hand. Is this something I should be concerned about? Can't a have cat that occasionally goes bonkers and attacks people, right? I don't know what the protocol is here.", "summary": "cat was on porch, interacting with another cat through the front door, I attempted to retrieve cat, cat went bat-shit and attacked me, wife saved the day. What's the next step?"}
{"id": "t3_ptimw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ever had a really late self realization that made total sense when you thought about it?", "post": "I was having dinner with my mother one night before starting college, and I wondered aloud to her why my reading comprehension and writing skills were off the charts but my math scores were so low, especially since I was so good at math in the past. She just looked at mr and said, \"Yeah.... You were never really that good at math. I just thought if I kept encouraging you, you would do well.\"\n\nAnd the only reason I did so well was because I actually worked harder than everyone else because I thought I was good at it.", "summary": "Troll mother informs me that I was never really good at math when I thought I was."}
{"id": "t3_f3g9m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 34, no career, massive debt/depression/anxiety, about to be homeless. Need advice...", "post": "**My current dilemma:**\n\nI've been essentially unemployed for 3 years, living off UI and a settlement. After traveling, paying off a portion of my student loans, moving, living for a year, I am down to $900. I've done some freelance SEO, branding and writing work, but both clients were monumental pains in the asses, so I (politely) stopped working for them. \n\nNow, the $900 will just cover February's rent and bills, after that I am essentially destitute. In the past, I have always managed to pull myself out of these extended fugue states by seeing a therapist. I had planned on doing this tomorrow. BUT. I was offered a commission only job with a local real estate agency and they want me to start real estate school tomorrow, for 2 weeks, 9-5. The great part is that this will save me $350 or so, and give me instant, albeit strictly commission based work. Average rental goes for well over $2k in my area so I would only need one or two deals a month to survive.  What the fuck do I do? Therapy and pray that I find a cash gig in the next two weeks or take the class? \n\nMy other option is to just give the fuck up, sublet my place and crash on my parents couch for a few months. The problem there is that I will not be able to get sliding scale therapy, I don't have a car (they live in suburbia), I'll become more withdrawn/miserable and it will be a bitch to come into the city for interviews. Any and all advice, pithy platitudes, insults are welcome. I need to figure this shit out.    \n\nAs far as careers go, I would be perfectly content to work as a small business consultant/SEO dude. I'm pretty fucking good at it. The only problem is that my freelance projects are not quite fully presentable as both clients kind of gave up. I've offered to work on them again, but haven't gotten a response.", "summary": "I had a fucked up adolescence, went to a good school for a shitty degree, in debt, fucked up the last few years. Looking for general career advice, as well as advice for this situation: I will be out of money when I pay February's rent. I need to get into therapy ASAP, but I was offered a job as a commission based real estate agent doing rentals in an expensive area. They want me to take an unpaid two week course, starting tomorrow. Should I take the job, and get my license or start therapy tomorrow and try like hell to get a cash job in the next 2 weeks?"}
{"id": "t3_40jivy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gay Porn in husbands Internet history.", "post": "First time posting on reddit folks, but I [39f] really need some advise!\n\nMy husband [35m] has 2 mobile phones.. 1 he has had for years, and rarely uses now, as he was issued with a phone for his job about 6 months ago.\n\nHe called from work yesterday and asked me to look up a contact number for him on the 'old' phone... when I did this, I noticed that the Internet browser on the phone was open on a porn site... No biggy.. some bronzed athletic woman going to town on herself with a vibrator. So I think 'meh - bloody men and their porn'!  But then... curiosity got the better of me, and I hit the history tab.  There were dozens of porn sites.... and then I noticed a few headings that seemed odd.. There was quite a collection of gay porn links on there.. not just 1 or 2 that could be explained away with pop ups from the 'hetro porn' he was watching... I'm talking about 20 -30 page links that were specifically gay porn.\n\nSo now I'm freaking out about it, and don't know what to do. We've been together for 15 years... married for 7 of those years, and have 3 beautiful young children. I know I need to talk to him about it, but don't know how to even bring it up, and I'm scared of what this could all mean. \n\nHELP!!", "summary": "Found gay porn in husbands Internet history... what do I do? How do I approach him about it?."}
{"id": "t3_15yrjs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I get paid very little. How do I communicate with my boss that I would like to be paid fairly?", "post": "My situation:\nI work for my Grandpa in inventory categorization for his store. He's always a very thrifty man and a hardened salesman in general. I don't think he understands how difficult it is working with inventory. I'm also in a third world country and I get paid little(6 bucks) compared to other accountants here(10-30 bucks). I also worked for him as a salesperson and have since gone to work in Canada for much better wages. This is only a temp job because I'm on vacation in my home country so I don't know how much bargaining power I have. I also have very flexible hours, but I can only handle like 3 hours a day before I get a headache from all the numbers. What are your suggestions to do here? Should I tell him and risk some relationship(?) or should I simply work somewhere else?", "summary": "work hard for grandpa, but he doesn't understand how difficult my job is and is only paying me a low wage despite paying other's doing similar workloads twice my wage."}
{"id": "t3_3eo2nm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I bought my first car", "post": "So I live in Colorado\n\nI'm a 17 year old lifeguard. I just bought my first car a couple weeks ago and I'm going to be spending my entire summer paying my parents back for what they put into it. Its a 1995 honda civic. The ad said it had 123k and when i got the car the odometer read 112k miles. I decided i should check the VIN number after having it for a couple weeks and it turns out that the last time emissions were tested, the car actually had 241k miles on it. So my assumption is that the seller rolled back the miles which is illegal right? One more thing is that the name on the title was a woman but a man sold it to me, and the guy had a throwaway phone. I found an address on the old registration but is it worth pursuing? The damn thing overheats and i already put 500 of work into it", "summary": "bought a car, they rolled back the miles, should i go to small claims?"}
{"id": "t3_2f0obr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my Dad [56M], how can I help him with his depression?", "post": "My dad has been depressed for a long time, but lately it's gotten worse. I can't blame him really, life has thrown a lot of shit at him and just in the last 2 months he's had to deal with his girlfriend moving out, recovering from a heart attack, and quitting smoking. On top of all of that, my dad is just sort of a melancholy person in general. He's a loner, he has no friends (his ONLY friend died a few years ago of cirrhosis), and he has a pretty negative view on life. \n\nI've tried being as supportive as possible. I've encouraged him to exercise when the cigarette cravings get bad, I try and prepare his meals when I can to keep him healthy post-heart attack, and I've been making myself available on weekends to spend time with him so that he can get out of the house. I've been trying to be more patient with him and get him to talk about his feelings since he's very resistant to going to therapy (I tried to get him to go for a year and I eventually dropped it, he has no interest). He's on anti-depressants (that took almost a year of convincing for him to even go to the doctor), but I don't know if they're helping. His girlfriend left because she couldn't take it anymore. Now he says things like \"you're the only person I have left\". It breaks my heart. \n\nI'm sort of at my wits end. I work 14-15 hours a day and I work weekends, so days off are kinda rare for me. I took today off to go to a festival with him, but he got so stressed out about paying $15 for parking that he just turned around and took us back home.I'm planning on going with friends later so I'm not missing out, but I'm disappointed that I can't even motivate him to do ANYTHING fun. \n\nI've been living with him for the past 2 years while I finish med school and I'm starting to wonder if my presence is hindering his recovery. I'm also worried that living with him is taking a toll on my mental health.", "summary": "Dad is depressed, I feel like I'm exhausting my options here"}
{"id": "t3_2ghg14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] & BF [27 M] (1.5 yrs together) are in a x-country relationship; how do we get together without destroying our balance? Someone has to make a sacrifice and we both know it won't be his pursuit of his passion.", "post": "There is no doubt we have a great relationship. Shortly after we started dating though, he let me know that he would be moving across the country in a year to pursue a life in music. I said I was open minded to a long distance relationship. Now we are in our 4th month apart and it sucks. Yes, there are some cool parts (getting independence and control of my own time) but ultimately, I'm excited for this phase to end.\n\nHow do we end it? There are two options. One, I leave my job, family, friends, and home behind and begin an adventure out there. Two, he gives up on pursuing music the way he originally had in mind (and probably with the best odds of success). The problem is, this is his life's passion and he has been planning this for years so I can't exactly get in the way now. Not to mention, I want it for him. \n\nI've been trying to forge my own adventure to look forward to out there by applying to grad school which I want to do anyways. However, I wouldn't have picked this location if it were not for him so it feels like a really grand gesture for him/our relationship. It makes me terrified that I am some silly girl throwing my life away for a boy. I want to see myself as more independent and in charge of my own life. \n\nIt feels like it boils down to feeling like I would do this for him but he would not do it in return for me. That's not the whole picture but I do feel like it is throwing off the balance in our relationship that I move for him. I've asked him what he can do for me to show me the balance is there but it's been sort of a stump-er for both of us.", "summary": "How do I leave my friends, family, home, and job behind in order to be with the person I love and still feel a sense of balance and Independence in our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_26whej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] need advice. First real crush.", "post": "Hello!  \n\nSo, first off, I would say I am a person that has never fallen in love. I've had physical encounters, but that's that.  \n\nRecently I've started picking interest in this one guy in my university. We haven't really talked much though, he always has his friends around. \n\n* It's frustrating for me because I literally could melt away any second when he smiles and his voice and just siiigh. I've even imagined myself doing things to him which is usually something that doesn't happen to me.  \n\n* He's sort of the guy in the background. Has no problem talking with his friends but usually maintains a calm expression. He's rather goodlooking, however seems to be single and doesn't seem like a ladies guy even though he always hangs around with one girl (she doesn't like me one bit, however her boyfriend is definitely someone else). I've tried talking more to him but he doesn't initiate any taking with me... (then again I seem to have a very cool/cold nontalking image? not sure...).\n\n* When I start to talk to him, he seems rather friendly though. I just don't get it. Should I think he doesn't like me? Could he just be \"shy\"? I'm not even talking relationship.  \n\n* First and foremost, I'd like to be friends with him, I really like him.  I get extremely emotional when I've had something happening that makes me think he despises me and then again I can't stop thinking of him.\n\n* Another thing... I've got many complexes, I don't have a high self-esteem and I'm not looking pretty, I'm rather... plump.  \n\nI hope this sub can help me. If I'm wrong here, please point me to a better place to put my childish worries.   \n\nAnyway, the QUESTION is: How can I try and get him out of my head? Should I somehow pursue him? How can I befriend him? Do you think he might actually not like me and be polite or could he be just shy?  \n\n-------------\n#", "summary": "I can't get a guy out of my head. I don't know what he thinks about me and talking to him is complicated. How can I try to get over him or what would you tell me to do? "}
{"id": "t3_1b930h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (23F) asked him (27M) out. Had a great time but he stopped responding. Help?", "post": "Hello all. So here is the story:\n\nI met this handsome fellow out at a bar and we ended up drunkenly making out by the end of the night. I got his number and we were texting the next few days. I asked him if he wanted to go out again and meet up. We met up and had a great date. It ended with a nice makeout but this time, not alcohol induced. \n\nHe asked if I wanted to have dinner later that week and I said yes but we never made set plans. We text on and off for the rest of the week. He went on a business trip and texted me again when he came back the day before St. Patrick's Day. He was very very cute and even called me \"babe\". I asked him if he would want to hang out for St. Patrick's Day and he said he might be able to. I call him the next day and leave a voicemail asking if he would like to meet up and that I am heading to a block party. My phone's battery ran out soon after that. \n\nThe next day I texted him asking how his weekend was celebrating and I have not received anything back since. It has been a week and a half. I am just wondering if perhaps I did something wrong. Lost interest? I came on too strong? Perhaps I don't understand men as much as I thought? ha. I am SO confused!", "summary": "Met a guy at a bar, asked him out and it went amazingly with lots of attraction. He is sweet to me but flat out stops conversation one day out of nowhere. What could be the problem?"}
{"id": "t3_q4ss5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most glorious shit you have ever taken? (NSFW?)", "post": "I was backpacking in Glacier National Park in Montana and right in the middle of a really hard 14 mile day that we had a time schedule for, I suddenly had *that* urge. Normally, shitting in the wild brings up the worst fears, especially these \"toilets\" (read: hole in the ground with boxes over them), so I went into it with only the scariest of scenarios playing out in my head.  When I sat down on the seat however, I was greeted with one of the most beautiful scenes I could ever imagine.  I was staring up at a large mountain range covered in snow with a nice meadow laying right in front of me. It made for the most glorious shitting experience in my life, and I almost want to go back just to experience it again.\n\n[This is the closest thing I could find to what it was actually like](", "summary": "Had to shit in nature, actually saw a picturesque landscape in front of me the entire time"}
{"id": "t3_3d9prx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is it ok to breakup with someone with depression?", "post": "Me (39f) with partner (39m). \nhow long do you have to stay with someone who is depressed before you can leave without being a jerk?\n\nWe met at uni, and it was great for the first decade. We were both very outgoing and adventerous. After a few years he got injured then depressed and never fully recovered. Its been about 4 years now and its just not getting any better. \n\nI , on the other had, have gained a social life and gotten in much better shape, in the last year and have made friends with someone else who i would like to pursue a relationship with. \nIs it ok to break up with my current partner even if they are really depressed?\n\nThey are no longer the person i fell in love with, so i think that if they were healthy it wouldn't be an issue me leaving. \nBut this is the only long term relationship either of us have had, and i dont think they will cope very well on their own.", "summary": "Can i leave my deprerssed partner?"}
{"id": "t3_2r102t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] Confused feelings when talking to Girls", "post": "Ok this starts off with me, I'm 16, I would consider myself to be a shy guy at least around people I barely know. Last night I was put in that situation by my guy friends with some girls. I knew them a small bit, some I talked to a tiny bit, others I wasn't even sure did they know who I was lol. \n\nThe night was uneventful for me and friend first and it ended up with the two of us and two other girls for the rest of the night, just talking (we weren't planing on doing anything with them before anyone gets any ideas) Just friendly talking, my friend goes to the same school as the girls so he knew them better. \n\nI ended up talking to one of the girls a bit and she was so nice and friendly, she's very attractive as well. I'm not much of a player so  never really try to make a move and I wasn't attracted to her at the beginning of the night but now I am somewhat. Here comes my problem.\n\nSo basically when I meet girls and talk to them for a bit I suddenly have this weird attraction, I'm not looking for a relationship or anything so how can I talk to her and not seem like I'm looking for a relationship and just be a friend to her :) (My initial idea of how I was going to write this changed halfway so I apologise if its a bit all over the place, also I'm new to Reddit)", "summary": "When I talk to girls I've just met I get extremely obsessed/attracted, I really don't want a relationship but I still want to be around them so how can I talk to them and get closer without giving the wrong signals (just want to be friends)"}
{"id": "t3_151zy3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can one earn 200-300 dollars on the side legally?  Need ideas please!", "post": "I'm 21 years old with two children.  I'm two semesters away from my Bachelor's but I could no longer afford bills+school.  I've had a hard time finding a decent job with this education, hard to do in a competitively growing field and no degree yet.  As such, I'm just broke.  Always broke.  \n\nAnyways, my car starter has been dying (Mass google searches.  I was hoping it was just the battery.  I just managed to replace it by selling plasma....I was going to do this to try and pay for the starter but...I was stuck wrong a month ago and they won't let me back for a while :(\n\nI live in the Louisville, KY area.  I'm just looking for any freaking way to earn this money.  I have a really good window AC unit (8000 BTU) and really nice wallet that was given to me as a gift worth 200 bucks.  I've been trying to sell them for fair prices on craigslist and such.  Not too much interest in an AC during this time of the year and not much interest in buying a luxury wallet.  \n\n**What can I do?!  I'm hoping someone has some awesome ideas or ways I haven't heard of.**\n\nAnd since I'm sure asking family will come up, I entered foster care at age 13 and stayed until 18.  Parental rights were terminated.  I am in and out of contact with my biological family.  I'm welcomed as family, but there is still an awkward barrier because of my absence.", "summary": "I don't have anyone to turn to in order to borrow it short term.  "}
{"id": "t3_35vjru", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being insanely rude to a teacher", "post": "I'm debating posting this, but idk maybe sharing will make me feel better. \n\nSo, this morning I was walking with 2 friends in the hall before school. We were walking pretty fast because we had to turn in assignnment before the bell, and I was totally stressin'.\n\nAhead of us there were 4 or 5 girls walking in the hallway in a line, so they're pretty much blocking the whole thing. Looking back they were probably going a reasonable pace, but recently I've had a lot of hallway rage and I was on a mission so I said something along the lines of \"Jesus, could you walk slower?!?\" Really, I should have just stopped there, because that was rude enough.\n\nWe passed them, and one of them says, \"You don't have to be rude about it!\" I really don't know why, but I just had no thought in my mind and I flipped off whoever said it without looking back. I think I might have also said \"hey fuck you\" softly. The voice then yells \"You, come here right now!\"\n\nMy first thought was *oh god i'm going to have to fight her*, but then I turned around and saw that it in fact was not a teenage girl, but a short teacher wearing casual clothes. I started to apologize and she walked me to the office and told a counselor there to \"deal with her, she just flipped me off!\" \n\nI talked to the counselor, throwing me on her mercy and saying how terribly sorry I was, she told me I was fine(I even think she thought it was funny), and said I should go find the teacher and apologize. I told the teacher over and over that I really was sorry and I thought she was one of my friends, but she didn't really accept it. I actually feel pretty bad now because she seemed pretty offended, and I was really quite an asshole.\n\nCurrent moods: guilty, embarrassed, ashamed", "summary": "Flipped off and yelled at a teacher thinking they were a teenage girl."}
{"id": "t3_3mdzs4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my fiance [26M], he just proposed and I really hate the ring he picked. What do I do? [UPDATE]", "post": "Link to the [first post](\n\nOk, so some people said to say it was catching on things and some people told me to outright tell him I didn't like it. I decided to just tell him I didn't like the style and stone and that it wasn't what I wanted. I kept it as light as that kind of discussion can be. He was disappointed I didn't like it but he said he wasn't surprised. It turns out he'd taken his 17 year old sister to help him pick out a ring and taken her word for it that this was what an engagement ring should look like. Apparently he wasn't that sure about the ugly ring in the first place.\n\nWe can return the ring and we're going to get one together. The jewellers he bought it from has said it's ok for us to get a full refund and offered to give us a small discount if we decide to pick another ring from their shop. I don't think the sister was being malicious, the ring is her style but super extravagant. She'd like it and she doesn't know me too well.", "summary": "I told him straight that I didn't like the ring. He wasn't surprised because he wasn't sure about the ring and his little sister had picked it it out. We're going ring shopping together soon. It worked out pretty damn well. :D"}
{"id": "t3_3nyd10", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Needing advice on my thesis subject.", "post": "(American studying in Europe)\n\nIt's my final year of my bachelor's degree in International Law and I've soon got to declare my thesis topic. I'm interested in two completely different subjects for my thesis and I'm not sure which to choose. The first being the legalities of indigenous sovereignty and the second being divorce law (perhaps specific to one US state, or I've considered taking it from the perspective of Islamic law/human rights violations for women). I've also toyed with the possibility of somehow combining divorce law and indigenous communities, but I've yet to be able to come up with a definitive idea on how to do that coherently.\n\nI've got to declare my thesis soon, and I've been trying to weigh the options of both and I have yet to come up with a definitive choice. I have a lot of information on indigenous sovereignty as is (100s of pages of other essays, presentations, research, as that's what I've been focusing on so far), so I wouldn't have to research much there. However, I have an increasing interest in divorce law, and I'm afraid I'll be restricting myself from graduate programs if I write on something so specific and then decide I want to specialize in something else. \n\nAnyway, I'm sure this is rambling and I'm sorry it's so long, just stressed out and looking for opinions.", "summary": "Need help deciding thesis topic. Current options are between indigenous sovereignty and divorce law. Have a ton of information on indigenous sovereignty already, but feel unsure about making a commitment to such a specific subject case I want to specialize in divorce law. Worried about my thesis affecting my options for grad schools. Ideas and thoughts? Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_2wccvl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being jealous enough.", "post": "I've been married for 10 years and have 3 wonderful boys.  \n\nA good friend was going through a divorce and my wife began to talk with him and asked me if I was OK with her being his friend as we helped support him through his divorce.  I said sure it's fine to be friends with him (I was thinking that it would be healthy for her to have friends that were guys and could give him a boost by gaining a friend.) After two weeks of her talking and texting \"friend\"  she told me that she was \"crushing\" on him a bit but she still loved me and wondered if she should stop talking to him.  I told her that I loved her, but her friendships were hers to control and that I couldn't tell her who she could or couldn't be friends with but if she was having \"crush\" feeling perhaps she should compare that to 3 children and 10 years of relationship. 3 months later I find out that apparently my wife doesn't love me and never has.  We are now separated, she has filed for divorce, taken the 3 children, and topped it off by asking me \"How long will I have to wait to date \"friend\" before people don't think I left you for him?\".", "summary": "TIFU by not being jealous and trying to control my wife."}
{"id": "t3_jldcc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why is being a republican bad?", "post": "WTF is with the incredible amount of liberal comments and threads I see ALL over this site. As a Republican I find the lack of proper research in many of these posts just ridiculous. That said I am not saying who I support as a presidential candidate because frankly I don't care to get in a silly argument. \n\nSo why is it so wrong here to be a republican and share our views? Ive seen nothing but others get downvoted into oblivion especially if anyone mention Texas. I would personally like to see more stuff about the things the current President is doing than people wasting time to copy and paste the first thing they read on their favourite news site telling them whatever they want to read.", "summary": "Why is r/politics so full of liberals just patting each others backs with often skewed facts?"}
{"id": "t3_30mwi5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my GF [21F] decided to take a break for a few months, has a break ever worked for you?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 4 years. Basically all of our college career so far and some of her high school. Lately she has been getting worried that we have been dating for so long that we are going to end up moving in and what not (marriage etc) and is afraid that this is happening at too young of an age and  because we have been with each other for so long. She said she has never really been single and wanted to experience that. As someone who had a lot of bad relationships in the past (even though I'm 22 I know haha) I liked the stability and our relationship has always been great (in our 4 years we never had any bad arguments). Anyways, I told her that I would give her a few months to figure her stuff out and then we can go from there. I didn't want to do this because I almost never hear of anyone coming back from a break and getting back together but I knew it was going to be worse if we tried to hang on.  \n  \n  Has anyone taken a break with a partner and come back together and continued to date? I am handling the situation like we are going to break up because I can only assume she is enjoying being single finally haha I wont be speaking with her for another month.", "summary": "4 year relationship, GF wants to try out being single before we move any further (since she hasn't really been single before), Has anyone ever gotten back together after a \"break\" and been fine or better"}
{"id": "t3_50hnq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] need clarification with my crush [15F]", "post": "So a couple of months before the summer holiday I started talking to a girl in my high school but she liked someone else so I thought we can still be friends. Then I said something that bothered her and she wanted us to stop talking. So we did and did not communicated over summer, but since school started it looked like things between her and the other guy did not work out so I went to her and asked her if there is any chance she would consider texting with me again. She agreed and we talked the past 2 days and the first I thought the conversation was actually going ok but yesterday sometimes it felt she was responding only because she didn't want to be mean by not talking to me. Today at school when I was leaving for the buss station with one of my classmates she was coming to the lockers with her friends and as soon as she saw us she placed herself in the middle between them.\n\nSo I was wondering if you guys can clarify this for me? Did she started talking to me again because of pitty or am I overthinking or something?", "summary": "Was talking to girl and the she wanted to stop doing it. We started texting again 2 days ago and today at school she placed herself between her friends when she passed by me."}
{"id": "t3_1lmpd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] am currently unsure whether I am officially in a relationship with a [19f].", "post": "I met a girl two thursdays ago and we've been talking ever since despite distance issues and we spent Sunday and Monday together talking, being intimate, and watching movies. We were talking about our future and I asked \"Do you want to do this? Because I really want to.\" and she said yes and she does. I felt like we had a mutual understanding of what I meant by that. But now that I look back I felt like I should have been more forward about it.\n\nI've never really been in a real relationship before so does this mean we are officially in a relationship or still talking?", "summary": "Unused to dating and used a poor choice of words so unsure whether or not me and this girl are currently in a relationship or still talking."}
{"id": "t3_2d5wfw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my gf [21 F] 15 months, I don know if she likes me anymore", "post": "We are long distance so its hard to talk, but i just went to visit her and it was fun, but its not like what it used to be.\nWe only had sex once where she seemed into it in three weeks. she says its the antidepressants shes now on. whe we used to get together she seemed more into me.\n\nive never loved any one else like this in  my life, but im worried she doesnt like me back anymore. \n\nshes my only friend too. but shes not even making an effort anymore... when i have asked her before shes like \"sure yes i like you now goodbye\".\n\nshe disappears on me half way through conversations\n\ni am isolated and have no friends so this is hellish", "summary": "how do i ask my long distance gf if she even feels anything for me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_40ljob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] of 2 years decided to go on a \"break\" due to her being miserable but not with me.", "post": "My girl friend of 2 years came over about 2 days ago saying she was miserable for the last couple of months but not as a result of anything I did. She said she does not want to break up because I still make her happy and am able to comfort her. At this point she started crying. She also went on to say she does not know why she is miserable but cited some possible reasons such as some of her friends, not all, saying we are a bad match for each other and some stress over the holidays with her mom being indifferent towards me but her general family liking me. She asked for some space and time to try to  figure it all out. I told her if she ever needs anything, even a shoulder to cry on, I am available. We hugged it out till, she stopped crying and I gave her a tissue. Neither of us wants to give up on the relationship but right now i am at a loss as what to do except give her a lot of space think on the order of going from living together to once  or twice a week seeing each other. Any suggestions on what I could possibly do?", "summary": "Girl friend comes into apartment, starts cry and saying she has been miserable  for months now but I am not the cause. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_49duf1", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(M20) Got a girls phone number for the first time, completely unsure how to proceed.", "post": "*Throwaway account cause this is kind of an embarrassing question. Sorry ahead of time if the formatting is bad I don't usually make posts.*\n\nYesterday I went to a car rally with my brother, which I was pretty hesitant towards because I'm not a person who enjoys a lot of socialization, but my brother was pretty excited for it so I agreed to go with him. \n\nAnyway, my brother met a group of people around our age and they decided to hang around with us for awhile. They had been partying the night before so they were in pretty rough shape to say the least. One of the girls in the group was wearing flats and a thin sweater, (in northern Alberta, not that warm this time of year), so I offered her my seat by the fire and a blanket. \n\nI never usually approach people to talk to them, especially when it comes to talking to women I just get too nervous, so I have very little experience when it comes to this kind of thing. But I could tell that she was interested in me, she kept glancing over at me and every time ours eyes met she would smile and look away quickly. I made what little small talk I could think of to make it as least awkward as possible, and I even managed to muster up the nerve to ask her for her number. It was a pretty big deal for me. \n\nANYWAY, my question is how do I proceed from here? My brothers told me that I should wait a few days before I text her, but I've heard that a million times before and I want to know if that is good advice or not. Do I ask her out on a date when I text her? Or do I just make casual conversation for awhile? I have little to no experience in this and I really don't wanna mess this up. I'm prepared to accept rejection if it comes but I really like this girl and I want to make my first impression count.", "summary": "I got a girls phone number for the first time, how do I proceed without seeming like the absolute noob I am?"}
{"id": "t3_3pqodf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my now ex [18F] just broke up. I messed up and it ended up pushing us apart. She still says she wants to be best friend and that she cares a lot about me?", "post": "We dated for 2 years and we got along so great and really connected and went through a lot you ups together and as you can imagine it made us really close to one another. But closer to the end of the relationship we would get pretty intimate and both went further than we ever really wanted to. It damaged the relationship and eventually ended, and that's where I'm at now. \n    I still have incredibly strong feelings for her and I didn't really want the break up. She however, says that even though she still cares a lot about me and still loves me it's not the same and more along the lines of as just a friend now. Now I feel stuck in a hard position and I don't know what to do. I've asked her if she thinks we could ever fix the relationship, but she just says right now she doesn't want one and isn't sure about the future but may be a possibility. I also asked her if she would date someone else or would be interested in this just being a break apart. Again she says she doesn't plan to date anyone else but is unsure about the future.\n   I need advice on what I should do? Should I be her friend and hope that we can get back together or should I just give up on that idea all together? We really got along so well and had such a great connection and I think deep down she still knows it but I don't want to stick around as a friend if she's gonna date other guys because I couldn't handle it. Is that messed up that I feel that way? I'm just confused on what to do next and don't really have anyone else to talk to because she's the one I could always open up to.", "summary": "it's not very long if you'd please read it the situation makes more sense."}
{"id": "t3_ett70", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Love came and left in only a few days time. Is it wrong to be mad?", "post": "I had gotten out of a semi serious ltr about 3 months back. Kinda still shaken up about it, not really trying to get back into the dating scene. I woke up on x-mas eve with the intentions of delivering packages, and I did. A girl I've known for 6 months or so broke down and kissed me, played around. The next day she came back, spent the night, called me amazing and changes her relationship status to Its complicated and makes it semi official. She met my dad on X-mas and I introduced her to the family. Not really knowing wtf is going on, and just finding out shes my best friends ex from high school, I gave her some room beginning the day after x-mas. She would call or text me and we'd chat but I left her alone for the most part as she said she preferred. The thing that throws me is shes into being submissive in the bedroom, but made me promise to keep it in the bedroom.Last night shes telling me about some drama she's going through, which seems sketch. The details changed, by the end of it I already knew what she was going to ask when she did the \"Can I ask you something?\" bit, a precursor to \"Would you hate me If i just wanted to be friends?\" I told her no, told her I saw it coming and left. She still hasn't changed the status on FB. I'm kind of let down she didn't just tell me no strings attached and all this or I wouldn't of introduced her to my elderly father. Should I be mad or just count my blessings?", "summary": "I'm a big fat vagina and I want a pat on the back because I'm butt hurt that my xmas present / week long gf turned out to be a total flake and I just walked away instead of trying to force the love. Should I man the fuck up or just walk away? New Years is tomorrow, HAYLP!"}
{"id": "t3_gibrx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do I stop myself getting so enraged?", "post": "More and more these days, I seem to find myself in a state of perpetual fury: just today, I was travelling on a train, and a kid of about 10 in front was playing on their iPhone (an iPhone!  But that's for another post...) with the volume up which was hugely irritating to everyone in the carriage.  His mum looked like a decent person, so I don't know why she thought this was appropriate.  \n\nAnyway, it got me disproportionately angry to the point where I was fantasising about smashing the phone to pieces when the mum looked away!  \n\nI seem to constantly find irritating things in even the most minor interactions, or inconsequential displays of stupidity from other people (\"grraaaaah why did idiot do that?!??\" over nothing!)  Even some friends I hadn't seen at the weekend said \"you always seem to be so angry\"", "summary": "How do you stop yourself from feeling this?  How do you ignore the petty irritations of life?"}
{"id": "t3_qvba2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "College crush is now separated - how do I approach?", "post": "(Note: This was originally posted two weeks ago - on a Friday night - and only got one response. A moderator suggested it would be okay to repost for more responses. Thanks!)\n\nMe - 27. Her - 25.\n\nI discovered yesterday that the girl who I had a crush on in college is separated from her husband. I don't know specific details - what happened, when it happened or if they're officially divorced yet - she simply described him as a \"bad egg\".\n\nI would like to pursue her but I don't want to be too aggressive if she's not ready.\n\nWe were flirty with one another in college which leads me to believe she was interested in me; but, because she had a fiance, neither of us pursued anything more than our relationship as friends and classmates.\n\nDetails that may or may not help: we haven't seen each since we graduated three years ago; we live 45 minutes apart; we text each other only now and then (less than once per month); like many others I'm terrified of rejection and therefore I have never \"put myself out there\" when pursuing a girl.\n\nI have to proceed with caution but how exactly should I pursue her? Should I be subtle or go all in?", "summary": "College crush is now separated from husband and am curious how I should pursue her."}
{"id": "t3_353ojk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with [19 F] Romantic interest messaging brother on tinder", "post": "Ok, so I think I should give some background first.\n\nIve had a crush on this girl since I met her in high school, and always assumed that i had no chance with her.  She dated a good friend of mine during those high school years but they didnt last.  We eventually ended up at the same university, and living very close to each other in residence.\n\nA few drunk conversations occured and i ended up spilling the beans about my long time crush on her.  This is when she told me that she also had similar thoughts, and had been waiting for me to start talking to her.  This scared the crap out of me because i never imagined that this was possible.\n\nWe continued to talk much more frequently and became pretty close.  At this point i didnt find myself ready for a reltionship with her, let alone anyone.  This was partly due to her relationship with my friend, but also my immaturity at the time.  After many long conversations we both agreed that our time would come and we shouldnt rush into anything.  \n\nFor the next year i kept my distance romantically, but tried to remain friends.  We drifted apart that summer, she got into a relationship, so i still kept my distance.\n\nThis is when things went downhill.  She stopped responding to my messages, but i still tried to ocasionally talk to her becasue i really cared about her.  She finally answered and told me that her current boyfriend didnt like the thought of the two of us, and that our distance was needed.  This was a crushing blow.  I couldnt stop thinking about her ever since we confessed our feelings for each other, and her responses to my messages ended.\n\nFast forward to now.\n\nI just found out that i no longer had her as a friend on facebook, and my texts would go unanswered.  This week she finally accepted my friend request, so i sent her a message (just a 'hope you are doing alright' type of message), her response was 'thanks'.  \n\nToday, my older brother told me that she had just started messaging him in tinder.", "summary": "me and highschool crush confessed our feelings for eachother, decided to wait before getting into anything, shes messaging my brother on tinder,"}
{"id": "t3_1syz2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [32 F] with my BF [30 M] 9ish months - On Tues he loved me, on Thurs \"we have no future\"", "post": "[Previous post](\n\nI miss him, but I'm trying to keep this in mind:\n\n*  He has chosen to move to a yet to be determined warmer place rather than be with me and deal with winter.\n\n*  I don't think you do that if you truly love someone.\n\n*  Therefore, on Tues and every other day that he said he loved me, he lied.\n\n*  I cannot tolerate a liar.\n\n*  I'm better off.\n\nNow I just need to convince myself of all of this.\n\nETA - Thank you to everyone who responded. You've really helped.  I'm sure I\"ll have another breakdown or twenty, but I'm feeling okay enough that I'm starting to eat again.  I have been living off of a few glasses of milk since Thurs.", "summary": "Trying to convince myself I'm better off without him."}
{"id": "t3_39kuhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 F] with my Husband[32 M] Of 7 years, How to deal with an emotional affair?", "post": "We have been together 8 years and married 7. We have three small children. We would have what seems to be the perfect marriage. Over the course of the years we drifted apart a bit due to life, kids, and stress. I always had an honesty is the best policy kind of thinking and assumed him being my best friend would be the same.\n\n Turned out we both stopped communicating our wants, needs and desires. Last Sunday was our anniversary and a few days before hand we had started communicating again. We opened up completely. At least I thought we had. I shared everything with him. The good the bad and even desires and wants I had never even voiced in my own head. I felt we had grown closer then ever and I had never been happier.\n\nFast forward to Thursday. Bear in mind the last week I always made sure to let him know that if there was anything he needed to let me know to go ahead and we would discuss it and move on. No anger or judgement. Against my better judgement I looked through his computer. I found some pictures saved on the computer from his phone. I was hurt. So I asked him what was going on. I was not prepared for the answer. Turns out he talks to other women from reddit. He thought he might cheat on me so he decided that talking over the internet would be less harmful. He formed a close relationship with this married women. They talked often when he was upset with me and about desires and fantasy. Pictures were exchanged and I feel some hard boundaries were crossed. When asked he told me everything. Problem is that he panicked and deleted his account so I couldn't see it. After a long heartfelt discussion I told him I don't want him to leave. I love him. I know we have a strong relationship. My question is how do I get back to where we were. How do we deal with the fallout? How do we regain back our trust?", "summary": "Husband cheated emotionally, how do we fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3b8zk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] in love with my best friend [18 F] 4 years, don't know what to do/not ruin friendship. Help me!", "post": "I have known my now best-friend for around four years. As soon as I met her I was drawn to her; she is the most beautiful and amazing girl I have ever met.\n\nWe instantly became close and I always wanted to be more than friends but nothing happened. We talked a lot on Facebook and over the phone whilst occasionally seeing each other at parties on weekends. Over the course of the friendship she dated one of my best friends (around three years ago) so I quickly learnt to bury my feelings.\n\nThis last academic year we were at college together and became even closer. We are very comfortable with each other and talk about sex with other people and relationship stuff e.t.c. But towards the end of the year there were a few nights where we were especially touchy/feely and my feelings came flooding back. I tried to bury them but I am finding it too hard. I decided over summer to try and distance my-self to make it easier, but, one of our mutual friends told me she slept with this guy who liked her from college, and my heart just sunk. I feel like shit.\n\nWhen I think about what I want to find in a girl, I realise everything is right in front of me when I am with her. I think she would 100% freak out if she knew I liked her, so I am petrified to tell her. I really don't want to lose her because she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, but, I don't know how much longer I can go on hiding my feelings, I have already avoided seeing her this summer so it may harm the friendship.\n\nI don't want to look back on my life and regret what I do. I am scared that I lie on my death bed and my biggest regret will be not telling her, incase she feels the same (although I am sure she doesn't). But I am equally scared to lose her as I love her as a friend.\n\nHelp me reddit!.", "summary": "Potentially in love with my best friend, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1kcjyp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "To Talk to the Ex or Not?", "post": "Hey Reddit [M], So about a month ago my Girlfriend broke up with me after we had been dating for a short time. There was one particular week in the relationship that we didnt talk much, and when we finally got a chance to talk the conversations from her end were complete cut offs, like yea and oh cool and aw thats cute. I could see the Break up coming but I had no idea why or what had gone wrong because before she was fine happy loving life and me, well at least thats how it felt?\n\n\"The break up on the day go's like this\"\n\nHer reasoning was she wasn't as committed as me, She said that it was too rushed and I suppose it was rushed and that she saw the relationship as Friends that just kiss and \". . .\",\nI told her that I wasn't going to let go so easily and she shut me down and said there is no point even trying. After she said that I just said well I'm probably too good for her and I don't know if I want to talk to her tomorrow or another day ill need some time to myself and she replied with can we still be friends, to which we said our goodbyes and we both walked off.\nSo to my question I feel as if I should talk to her for closure, I never answered her question if we can still be friends but I wanted to tell her that there's no way I am going to sit in the friendzone, I'm still open to get her back but I'm also not because I know there is no point chasing a piece of string in circles. Should I try to talk to her and apologise for being a dick saying I didn't want to talk to her and try to find out why she all of a sudden was not into me or should I just go another day thinking about her until I forget.", "summary": "Broke up with GF, The break up feels like it wasn't closed, Should I try to contact her because I feel like a dick, I think about her most days, Should I continue to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1pg10h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of almost 2 years, are having issues regarding sex and anxiety", "post": "Please help, GF and I are having some issues regarding sex and anxiety \n\nI have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, the sex was always great and even sometimes on the kinky side which was awesome! \nBut in the last few months things have changed, we barely have sex any more and if I initiate she only wants to take care of me.\nSome of the main issues are she is on the pill and feels that it is hurting her sex drive and ability to get wet, we are both university students so we are busy and we don't live together. The biggest problem she has expressed is that it started to hurt, this pain has led to her becoming very anxious about sex, even the thought of sex can put her on edge.\n Also we both feel we have become bored and want to spice things up. I want to satisfy her again. \nI really need some help, ideas, pointers, any thing?\nWe love each other very much and see this as only a bump in the road. But we both want to fix it. \nThank you!!!", "summary": "the pill, being busy, anxiety, pain, lack of spice, are all hurting sex life and it's spilling in to relationship. HELP"}
{"id": "t3_2rf9c7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24/F) with my best friend (22/F) of 18 years. We were supposed to move in together, but after months of back and forth she bailed and hasn't told me.", "post": "My best friend, we will call her Catherine, and I have been best friends for 18 years. She has been dating this guy, Josh for almost 4 years. A year ago, she brought up to him that she wanted to move in together and he said he wasn't ready. She brought it up with him at least 5 more times between January and November and he kept giving her bullshit reasons why he didn't want her to move in still, but she stayed because she figured he'd come around eventually. \n\nIn August, I was talking about how I wanted to get an apartment within the next few months. Catherine said she would be interested in living together if she didn't move in with Josh by then. This began a several month cycle of her going back and forth about wanting to get an apartment with me, which was very frustrating.\n\nIn November, Catherine and Josh talked again about moving in together. Mind you, Josh is a 30 year old man-child. He really has no redeeming qualities at all. Josh, yet again, came up with a million excuses as to why he wasn't ready. He also told her she needs to clean his house and cook for him more. So Catherine said she was just going to look for an apartment with me, so he had another year to get ready. \n\nI've been looking ever since then for apartments in our price range. I'd email her things I found online. As recently as last Wednesday, she told me I should submit applications to some apartments.  This brings us to yesterday, when Catherines sister texted me to tell me that Catherine was moving in with Josh at that very moment. Catherine still has not contacted me to tell me. \n\nI know that whenever Catherine does decide to tell me, she is going to expect me to be happy for her, but I'm not. I can't help but feel like I was used to pressure Josh into living with her. I feel like Catherine did to me exactly what Josh did to her. Am I overreacting? What should I say about the situation when she does finally tell me?", "summary": "my best friend and I were looking for and applying for apartments together.. she just moved in with her crappy boyfriend and hasn't even told me. Am I wrong to be angry?"}
{"id": "t3_222kpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [26M] has been causing me to lose my hair", "post": "Over a year ago, I got a pixie cut as an impulse and instantly regretted it. I started growing it out immediately. My boyfriend loved it though. I told him that I didn't like it and he dropped the subject and I continued to grow it out. But every time I would go for a trim to get rid of split ends, he would say things like \"Oh, maybe you should cut it all off?\" Which was fine, because, okay. Everyone has their preferences.\n\nIn the month I've noticed that despite my perfectly normal hair care regime, my hair has been very brittle and stringy, almost like wet straw or hay? Like elastic, very hair to brush out without it breaking off or thinning out. I think I've lost like 10% of my hair. \n\nI went to the doctor and my doctor told me it was probably stress, etc, to take my vitamins get more sleep and eat better. Okay. Fast forward a week, it hasn't gotten better, it's been thinning more.\n\nYesterday I noticed a very strange perfume in my boyfriend's bathroom drawer in our apartment. Where he usually keeps his perfumes. It was some cheap English brand that I've never heard of. I decided to take a whiff to see if it was men or women's perfume because the bottle looked girly and I thought \"oh my god what if he's cheating.\"\n\nI thought it smelled familiar. Couldn't place it. Realized it smelled like my shampoo. Why does my shampoo smell like this random ass perfume? I opened up my shampoo bottle, poured it out into the bathtub. It looked sort of like normal shampoo but the smell was definitely there. I also noticed clumps of something white, picked it up and sniffed it. That smelled like lavender. I searched the entire bathroom and found lavender scented Nair. Fucking Nair. In my shampoo. Hair removal cream for those of you who don't know.", "summary": "boyfriend has been lacing my shampoo with HAIR REMOVAL CREAM FOR A FUCKING MONTH (or longer???) I confronted him. He said he didn't want me to grow my hair out because he likes girls with short hair. I've been crying for ages. I feel so betrayed and cheated. Our relationship has literally been perfect besides this. I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_2023be", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Communication and other issues between me [21 F] and my boyfriend [19 M] of seven months. I feel lost.", "post": "Met my boyfriend in August of last year, hit it off right away, and immediately started dating. We fell in love with each other, and for a while, everything was great. We wanted to spend so much time together and we were very affectionate.\n\nHe's been suffering from emotional and mental issues relating to childhood abuse and has been seeking counseling. Lately, he's been run down and stressed and negative all the time. Definitely not as fun to be around as he used to be. I feel terrible for saying this, but sometimes I don't want to be around him because it's exhausting. We're constantly addressing his problems and it's making me bitter.\n\nNow he initiates whatever physical contact we engage in, and I'm reluctant to respond. It feels like the spark is gone. I feel like I'm not getting anything out of the relationship and I don't know how to fix it. Whenever I try to talk about it with him, he asks what he can do to change it, and I don't know what to tell him.\n\nI've never dated anyone for longer than three months. Usually by this point I've gotten annoyed and kicked the guy out of the picture. I consider myself to be a stable person emotionally, so it's difficult for me to deal with his emotional roller coaster rides sometimes. I feel like it's difficult for me to relate.\n\nI miss the man I fell in love with. I miss being in love and loving it. More than anything, I miss feeling like I didn't have to worry about my relationship with him.\n\nMaybe all this stuff is normal. If it is, I feel like I'm wasting your time. But it certainly doesn't feel normal. It feels awful. It's upsetting me.\n\nTo make matters worse, we're planning to take our first vacation together in a week. We're going to Disney World for the weekend. I don't know what to do.\n\nReddit, please help me.", "summary": "Having some pretty significant issues with my boyfriend, mostly involving communication and emotional distance. We've grown apart and somehow we're going on vacation together in a week and I'm afraid."}
{"id": "t3_3aoh66", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Starting Retirement Accounts while living abroad", "post": "Hello! So, I have been saving up to open an IRA account to begin my path on creating a stable financial foundation for myself. I am from the US, but live abroad in Japan for work and will be here until 2017 (at least). \n\nI finally reached my savings goal and want to open an account, so I tried to do so online, but, due to currently residing in another country, it seems I can't do so. For example, Vanguard's and Charles Schwab's website do not have a space for me to input my Japanese employer's info -- they only provide spaces to input US employer information. \n\nI reached out to Charles Schwab and the representative I talked with stated that only those who reside in the US can open an account online with them. However, he did mention that I may be able to open an account with them via mail, but he was not completely sure about that. \n\nDoes /r/personalfinance have any experience with this kind of situation? Is there a company that I can open an IRA account with in the US while living abroad? If I can't, any advice on what to do with my savings between now and moving back to the US (it is roughly $1,000)? \n\nI just really don't want to leave the money in a savings account gaining, basically, no interest for the next few years. \n\nThanks in advance for the help!", "summary": "US citizen living abroad in Japan. Trying to open a retirement account online with a US company, but cannot due to not actually residing in the US. Want to know how I can open one, if at all, and if I can't, what do you suggest I do with my $1000 savings so that it isn't just sitting in a savings account?"}
{"id": "t3_2hz5d7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30 M] jealous of how much attention my GF [33F] of 3 month pays to her ex-bf", "post": "We started dating about three months ago, and early on it was great. We did tons of stuff together, went on short little trips, great sex, always talked and texted each other about our day. \n\nBut then a month ago the both of us got extremely busy, and I'm starting to feel like we are drifting apart. I go the extra mile to make time for her, but I feel like she doesn't do the same for me. Our sex life has stopped completely because she feels like we don't have enough of a connection (because we barely see each other.) \n\nBut worst of all, I am very unhappy about her relationship with her ex. They are still very close and buddy buddy, and she has said that he is still in love with her. He recently left for vacation and she was house sitting for him. On the day that he was supposed to come back (I didn't know this at the time), she pretty much avoided me and barely texted me back. Finally, she called and said she wanted to be alone because she was concerned about our relationship. I gave her space, and she eventually came over later that night. We had a big argument and that was when I found out he had came back from vacation.\n\nShe told me she only saw him near the end of the night as she was packing her things. Later that week, I found out that she actually picked him up from the airport. I haven't confronted her about this, and I've essentially just tried to push it away.\n\nNow I am starting to feel very uneasy about their friendship, if it is even just a friendship. The both of us have been hurt by infidelity in our past, and the both of us have talked about our problems with it to each other. But this whole incident, with the fact that they're still so close, makes me uncomfortable. \n\nAm I being overly jealous and clingy? Or am I avoiding the problem?", "summary": "Both of us got busy, see less of each other, and she is very close with her ex-bf"}
{"id": "t3_2zludz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a terrible neighbor.", "post": "I have a morning routine that involves listening to podcasts while preparing and eating breakfast. Normally i stream them to my sound bar from my phone, and since my place is tiny I can listen at a comfortable volume without being a nuisance to the people living above and below me.\n\nWell this morning I queued up an episode of Snap while making some toast and I could hardly hear a thing. So I kept jacking up the volume until I could hear what was being said, except it was all muffled almost as if it were something loud penetrating the walls.\n\nTurns out I connected to the sound bar of the guy living above me (also the complex handyman). Im too embarrassed to say anything to him. I know I woke him up and it was playing loud for at least a minute before I realized my mistake.", "summary": "Today I hijacked my upstairs neighbor's stereo at 6 a.m."}
{"id": "t3_44s4zq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[19] girlfriend[17] is too overly sensitive and I keep hurting and offending her unintentionally", "post": "My girlfriend is very sensitive and very easily offended and its very hard on me. We could be joking around one moment, and the next moment she could be crying and upset. When I try and have a conversation with her about things like school, work, and shit like that, it feels like im walking on eggshells.\n\nI'll give you an example. Im away visiting my family in Toronto (I'm from just outside Ottawa) and we keep in touch by text. I do not text  or use my phone while I'm driving, so I told her \"I'm going to be driving for a little bit, but I'll text you when I get there\" and shut my phone off. 5 hours later, I turn it back on and I have 3 missed calls and 18 texts, all getting increasingly angry and more worried. \n\nAnother example is when I got a call the other day from an unknown number. It turned out to be a girl I used to see (before we met) and when I told her about it, she lashed out and started crying about how \"I was going to leave her for this other girl\"  \n\nSometimes we like to watch stand-up comedy on Netflix. She couldnt decide what to pick so I put on Jim Jeffries. She was into it at first, but as the show got more and more misogynistic, she was not laughing as much. After a certain joke around a 1/3 of the way through, she suddenly jumped out of bed, called me an asshole and ran out of the room. \n\nWe've been together over 2 years now and I love her dearly, but its just so mentally and emotionally exhausting to have to screen everything I do or say so she doesnt get offended and I often find myself apologizing for petty shit like this at least once every 2 days.", "summary": "girlfriend is too sensitive and easily offended and it sucks big time"}
{"id": "t3_3qc8d6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M], no dating experience, looking for advice with 29F", "post": "I'm [26M] entering the dating scene in USA for the first time and need advice on how to proceed.  My only other real relationship in the past was very atypical to how things work in the US.  I know a lot of advice will be that it's something I just have to learn through doing, but am afraid to be making simple mistakes / misunderstandings and possibly damaging things with this woman [29F] I like.  We had a casual lunch 'date' that seemed to go well (we talked for probably 2 hours) but she has been busy since then.  Assuming she isn't just trying to politely blow me off / fade away, I need some help on the next steps here.\n\nWhat is an appropriate second date (or first 'real' date?)  A lot of the things I would like do with her all require it not be freezing cold (which it is now), so ideas that are seasonally appropriate would be a plus.\n\nWhen is it appropriate to kiss her, hold her hand, etc?\n\nHow frequently should I be texting her, or should I be calling?  I have a habit of losing touch with friends and don't want to go silent on her, but I also am anxious I will be overcompensating and trying to talk to her too much.\n\nSome more context, we are both working professionals.  She works more hours than I do and often has work she has to bring home with her.  I have no clue how to really navigate an adult relationship with these kind of responsibilities thrown into the mix as well (previous relationship was in high school / university and was, again, atypical).  \n\nThank you for any responses.", "summary": "How do I navigate the early stages of dating without looking like a total buffoon"}
{"id": "t3_14n5va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] dated a girl [20/F] for a month. She slept with another guy. Do I bother contacting her again?", "post": "I met this girl on an online dating website. We started talking a couple months ago, and met in person one month ago.\n\nWe got along swimmingly and were seeing each other two to three times a week. Things escalated quickly. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship because she had recently gotten out of one that lasted several years. I was fine with that, and besides, we'd only been dating for a short while anyways. Regardless, what we had certainly had a relationship feel to it. The only noticeable difference was that it was not labeled as such. I didn't push her, things just wound up that way.\n\nAt the end of the month we ended up having sex and she was to sleep over at my place a few days later. The day that we were supposed to see each other again she revealed to me through text that she got drunk the night prior, slept with some guy, wasn't ready for a relationship, and that we shouldn't see each other any more. She then said we should get coffee (assuming I even wanted to see her) over the weekend so she could tell me how she felt. I ended up driving to her neighbourhood and we went for coffee that night so I could get the conversation out of the way and not spend days thinking about the whole thing.\n\nShe felt absolutely awful because not only did she really like me, but I treated her very well and she knew she hurt me. She told me her drunkenly sleeping with another guy was her way of telling herself she wasn't ready for a monogamous relationship. She wanted to be with me, but just couldn't do it. She then called me the right guy at the wrong time. I am certain she was being genuine with her words. \n\nMy dilemma is that while I was hurt by how the whole thing went down, she did explicitly say she wasn't ready for a relationship early on. I still like her a lot, and don't feel bitter about the whole situation. I was planning on giving her a wide berth and not contacting her for a few months. Is this the right thing to do? Should I even contact her again? Why or why not?", "summary": "Dated a girl for a month. Ended up feeling like a relationship without the title. She slept with another guy because she wasn't over a past relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1wqidf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F 20] suggest taking a break in my relationship [M 20]?", "post": "I have been with my SO for almost three years, I love the heck out of him, but I've also been feeling really restless. We started dating when we were both 17, which I know is young but we were good at staying mature and communicating. However, I think the fact that we started dating so young is what's making me feel restless. \n\nI don't want to break up at this point, I just want to see what life is like without seeing him all the time. We've gotten into a rut of TV and video games and I am going stir-crazy. However, I also suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder, which I fear is making me feel this way. \n\nI don't want to ruin our relationship just because I'm bored, but I also don't want to stay in the relationship if we continue on the same path of just sitting and hanging around each others' place.", "summary": "Feeling bored, how can I go about suggesting we take a break without ruining the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_36cxq7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by recognizing a girl from school", "post": "Not today, but when I was a freshman. \n\nIn our first Physics class of the semester, my friends and I go sit at the back of the lecture hall, where roughly 600 students would attend.  As we sit, I spot a girl (let's call her Megatron) who attended primary school with me and one of my friends (let's call him Goku), as she is coming into the hall way at the front.  I ask the friend next to me (let's call him UnintentionalLoser), who didn't attend the same primary school, to pass on the message to Goku that he should check it out, it is Megatron from primary school.\n\nMeanwhile, Goku is in conversation with someone, and UnintentionalLoser is just being polite, waiting for him to finish before relaying the message.  And, as Murphy dictated, Megatron strolled up all the way, past all the open chairs, and ends up sitting *right* in front of us.  This is perfectly in time with Goku finishing with his engaging conversation.\n\nMy body stopped working in the utter astonishment at how the perfect, embarrassing FU came together, just long enough for Unintentional Loser, who didn't realise that it was in fact Megatron who just sat down in front of him, to say \"Hey, Goku, pgwolvpack said you should check it out, it's Megatron from primary school\".\n\nMy freshman self-confidence took a while to recover after she flung her head around with a smirk and said \"Yes it is me\"", "summary": "To avoid embarrassment, only use a direct line of communication."}
{"id": "t3_1xj0av", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MI] Lent money to ex, can I take him to small claims? Any other options?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nI've got a bit of a financial problem with my ex-fiance. The story goes like this: I was with my ex for 2 years before we broke up. A a few months after that, he came back and was all apologetic and charming, and saying how much he's changed and blah blah blah. Seeing as I should give him a second chance, I decided to take him back. A short time after that, his car broke down and he said he needed $3000 to fix it. If he wasn't able to fix it, he would have to go live with his mom out of state. Since I wanted to repair the relationship, I gave him the money. At that time we made a verbal agreement that it was a loan and that he would pay it back in a reasonable amount of time. \nAnd this is where it gets interesting. As it usually goes, we broke up again less than a month later. And since we're not together anymore, I want my money back asap. He's offered to pay back $100-$200 a month, but I don't want to have to deal with him for the next 2+ years, and I know he can afford more. I'm pretty sure he's still interested in me and wants to prolong this as long as possible so that he can keep trying to get me back. To be honest, that makes me extremely uncomfortable. You see, he's always been very mentally intimidating and borderline abusive, and I just don't want to have to deal with it anymore. \n\nIn terms of evidence, I have many text messages referencing this \"deal\" and \"loan\", and him offering to pay me back a tiny amount per month. Also, it was a check, so there is a bank record that the money was given to him.\n\nSo I'm wondering what are my options here? Should I take him to small claims court to try to get them to force him to pay as much as he can? He's said that if I try to take him to court, he'll sue me for \"emotional distress\". Can he do that? \n\nWhat are my options here?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Lent $3000 to my ex with a verbal contract. He refuses to pay back more than $100-200 per month even though he has much more. Also he threatened to counter sue me. I have evidence against him. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4jsk4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [26F] of 6 years, need to break up with her but do not know how.", "post": "There have been a few issues that have plagued our relationship over the past year and they range from lack of trust ( i saw an exchange of texts between her and her sister discussing leaving me for another guy), lack of communication, compatibility issues and her sisters meddling into our relationship. On her birthday i planned very nice things for her including a trip to a nearby to visit a very nice restaurant, expensive perfume, Pandora rings that she wanted, pampered day out with her sisters but she cancelled on my plans in favour of a night out with her sisters. Because of these issues we went on a break for just over a month and we got back together after, however, in hindsight i think we should have just broken up then. Since we got back together things have been a lot better but i strongly feel like its time to call it quits.\n\nOn Saturday i had mastered the courage to go and see her to tell her, but when i called her to meet up she was out of town. Since then the courage I had mustered seems to have diminished somewhat and i am not sure how to proceed. I keep thinking about not wanting to hurt her and her family etc and i just don't know how i should say what i need to say to her or how to approach her as she seems so unaware or unprepared for this.", "summary": "Need to break up with girlfriend. No day seems perfect. Don't know what to say and how to approach. How do i go about things?"}
{"id": "t3_2yk56x", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Orthopedist vs . Neurologist For Back Pain?", "post": "24\nMale\n5'10\"\n145\nWhite\nA year since first injury\nLower spine\nScoliosis\nIntraosseous disc herniation at T12-L1 and L1-L2\nPosterocentral disc herniation at L5-S1, with ventral canal encroachment.\nRupture/degeneration of the interspinous ligament at L5-S1\n\nA year ago I received an MRI resulting in whats mentioned above. I was told there is no way of reversing the damage. The pain never stops, it radiates in waves through my entire lower back and into my thighs. For some reason the past week has been agonizing. Randomly woke up one morning at an 8 of 10 without even moving, pushed myself through work to find myself at one point unable to walk. \n\nYesterday I brought myself to a massage therapist who said my vertebrae are not just being pulled out of alignment but they are twisting. My sciatic pain is more accurately described as a knife in my side that won't go away. Feels more like something is out of place and won't go back, causing my entire back to be in spasm.", "summary": "Should I consult an Orthopedist or Neurologist for the injuries mentioned above? Pain has become unbearable and need some type of resolve, would greatly appreciate any advice."}
{"id": "t3_oiujd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get past my insecurities from the past?", "post": "Background:  I'm 35m married 5 years to 35f and we have a great emotional and physical relationship. However I have a lot of internal insecurities from my first wife cheating on me in my first marriage. As a younger adult I was never really jealous and was very trusting of my ex wife and it basically blew up in my face.. Looking back I realize we just got married to young and she felt like she need to experience life. Unfortunately its has scarred me and made me feel like its only a matter of time before my current wife cheats on me too. \n \nFor the most part I hide my insecurities from my wife and let them consume me internally with head games. Overall my current wife has never done anything that would make me think she wants to cheat on me purposely. However when she drinks she doesn't know when to stop and this leads to loss of self control and I've seen her so blasted she doesn't remember the next day. I'm fine with it when I'm around but she is forbidden to drink like this when I'm not around.\n \nShe has told me about crazy stuff that happened to her in her past when she was younger and I just worry she is going to unknowingly make a bad decision while drinking if she were to be out with friends.  In a few weeks she has her first trip planned to go see a girlfriend out of state and its quietly really eating at me and making me sick to my stomach. When they get together they like to really get trashed sometimes at my house.. I'm there to babysit so its not a big deal.\n\n Her girlfriend is single and quiet promiscuous and I fear that if they go out drinking she is going to put my wife in a bad situation.. I don't really want to be the jealous or overbearing husband. I want my wife to have a good time, but I don't want her to do something stupid either or be taken advantage of. I want to be free of these feelings and just not worry about the \"what ifs\"  I don't want to care or worry about it anymore.", "summary": "Ex wife cheated on me and I have worries about my current wife cheating in the future even though she has done nothing to make me think she will. Current wife has no self control when drinking and going on a trip to stay with her drinking buddy in a few weeks."}
{"id": "t3_443pd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (36M) with wife (32F) who wants/needs long phone conversations while I'm on a business trip, but I really don't like long phone talks", "post": "So my wife and I have been married about 5 years, and recently my job has required me to travel more, and for longer periods each time (up to a week for domestic trips, up to two weeks for international ones). I always knew she was a phone talker, while I really don't care for extended phone conversations. To me, a 15 minute call is fine and enjoyable, but for my wife anything less than 30 minutes and she says she feels rushed.\n\nSo on my business trips, we usually try to connect by voice in the morning as we're getting ready for the day, and in the evening as we're getting ready for bed. The evening calls, though, end up being 45 minutes or an hour or more, and to be honest at end of a long day at work I just want to zone out watching some brainless TV show or movie, not talk on the phone. When I've approached her in the past and have said I'm not really a phone talker and am just fine with shorter talks, she basically just says the opposite, that she needs these longer talks and without them she is unhappy. Don't get me wrong, I definitely want to talk to my wife, see how she's doing, but I don't want to talk to her as long as she wants to talk to me.\n\nI'm not sure how to resolve this. We're just very different people when it comes to this issue and it's causing us to fight on occasion.\n\nDo you have any advice or suggestions on how we might resolve this? Or maybe if any other Redditors have a similar experience I would definitely like to hear how you and your SO came to some understanding", "summary": "My wife wants long phone conversations while I'm on business trips. I dont enjoy long phone talks and prefer shorter ones. How can we find something that makes us both happy when I'm away for work?"}
{"id": "t3_3i3pr7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [26f] send birthday text to my now-exbf[27m] or no...?", "post": "We were together for over a year & half. I broke up with him about 3 weeks ago, after one of our fights. Started No Contact immediately. He texted me on Day 10 of no contact, basically apologizing for his mistakes, saying that he cares about me etc. We both told each other that we loved and care for one another and maybe there is even a chance for us in the future but for now we need to be apart and we left it at that. I then resumed NC again, and now it is Day 14.\nHis bday is on Saturday. He knows that I remember because before the breakup, I was making plans for his bday celebration. I'm conflicted whether I should text him \"Happy birthday\" or not. On one hand, I don't want to break NC and have to start that over again, and on the other hand, if I don't text him that day, I think it will ruin any chances of us ever getting back together in the future and he will think that I don't care about him...?", "summary": "Should I send bday text to my ex or no?"}
{"id": "t3_1pvqe2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my GF [22 F] of 6 months, she got pregnant, she wants to keep it. But I am broke and still want much to do.", "post": "Hello everyone, \n\nI need an advice, because I am in deep trouble right now.\n\nSetting: \n\n* I was always extremely paranoid about contraception, so when my condom broke for the first time in my life a month ago, I mage my girlfriend use a vaginal gel and take the pill. Turns out, I am not that lucky.\n\n* I am 23, she is 22 and she is a month pregnant.\n\n* She had an abortion from a bad relationship a year before.\n\n* She has had problems with kidneys throughout her life.\n\n* She wants to keep the child.\n\nHer family and her adore me and think that I would be a perfect father and a good husband, so everyone is ok with that. That may be the case with them, but I want to play DoTA2 and Dorf Fortress, travel, become a rock climber, get one more degree, get my business going and generally fuck around like an idiot for the next 10 years or more. \n\nHence, I have this task, how do I convince her, and everyone around me, that I am a deadbeat retard, who will only harm the child and will make the girls life miserable? This is the only way out that I can see; all other forms of persuasion and manipulation have failed. I have 1 week.\n\nI love the girl, but I know that I am still a child myself, and I do not want them to suffer because of my immaturity and because of the stupid decisions I make. She has told me herself, that every since we started going out random stuff just started happening to her every couple of days, like I invited her to a bar and we ended up in a radio studio helping the DJ, helping paramedics, spontaneous travel etc. I know that that is fun for her, but not for a child. \n\n+ Who am I kidding? I am scared as hell and I do not want this responsibility.", "summary": "How to convince a girl that I am a fuckup so that she would abort the baby and leave me?"}
{"id": "t3_1e8zun", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My parked car was hit and totaled by a guy who admitted to texting and driving. The next day his father comes by my house and said \"He's just a 25 year old kid.\"", "post": "My car was left to me by grandfather.  He bought it new in 1999 but shortly after had a stroke and couldn't drive it.  For year it just sat in his drive way.  After he died it was left to me.  I got in 2007 and it only had 14k miles on it.  Two days ago, it was parked, hit, and totaled.  \n\nThe guy didn't want insurance or cops involved. I insisted on both.  The day after the accident, the guy who hit comes by and wants to know if I would settle without going through insurance. I decline. About and hour later the guy and his dad show up, and he comes off like a politician trying to get his son a senate seat.  I still insist on going through my insurance company.\n\nThey seem rich, and I'm just a grad student, so I know I couldn't \"out lawyer\" them.   I was fine listening to their pleas of avoiding insurance until his dad delivered the titular line.  Now, I'm furious.  It's evolved in mind from dumb mistake to gross incompetence. When in the hell is a rich kid actually accountable for his/her actions?\n\nNot a big deal, in the grand scheme of things.  People in other places of the world are going to have days 1000 times worse.  But, for those looking for good old fashioned petty rage, by means, commiserate.", "summary": "People with no brains or motor skills, just business cards and money are ruining my week."}
{"id": "t3_12xnz7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having a bit of a car problem, not sure if this is the best place", "post": "I have a 2008 Nissan Versa with a keyless ignition that is stuck and will not go into the \"Lock\" position. Because of this, anyone who wants to steal my car wouldn't need a key and would just have to get the door open. The car thinks the key is present at all times, so I have to use the manual key to lock the doors when I get out and a little \"Hey jackass, you left your keys in the car.\" alarm goes off for about 10 seconds. I was wondering if anyone has encountered this before or might be able to give me a heads up on the cost to repair something like this. If this is the wrong subreddit, please point me in the right direction. Thank you.", "summary": "Keyless ignition won't go into Lock position on 2008 Nissan Versa, how much money is this going to cost me"}
{"id": "t3_2tvqb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my GF[18F] of 6 months, I am uncomfortable with the idea of her having sex with another woman.", "post": "My girlfriend has recently come out to me as being sexually attracted to women.[This is a post of hers asking for advice the other day.] We have been having sex for a few months now, and she has told me that it is nothing I am doing and that sex has never felt better than it does with me (not that she has a whole lot of experience to base that statement off).\n\n[However, as detailed in this post,](\nshe is hoping to experiment with other girls in order to discover herself. We have talked about including other girls in our relationship, but advice that she has received indicates that this is something that she needs to discover on her own; that I shouldn't initially be involved in the intimate part of this experimenting.\n\nWhile I hope she is able to discover what she's into, I can't help but have misgivings about my girlfriend having sex with another person, regardless of gender. Is this selfish of me? Should I be more open to her exploring her sexuality? I have no problem with her getting kinky with some girl while I am actively involved (or even just present) but the idea of her being secluded and sexual with another person turns my stomach.", "summary": "Girlfriend came out as bisexual, I don't feel comfortable with her having sex without me."}
{"id": "t3_2olv2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] of 1.5 years just told me she doesn't want kids in the future.", "post": "Here's the deal: I'm a family man. My family has always been really important to me and, because of that, I've always had this vision of having my own close-knit family down the road--maybe 10 years from now. I'm graduating college in a couple of weeks and I'm not in any hurry to settle down now.\n\nMy girlfriend (who has 2.5 years left in grad school) and I had a long talk about our relationship last night, in which she explained to me that, given her future profession (college professor), she doesn't feel that she'll ever be in a position to have children. She feels that having kids will hold her back from her personal ambitions, which I do think is admirable and respectable to an extent. She knows that I want children in the future and is therefore reluctant to get too serious in our relationship. In other words, she feels that these differences in values will inevitably break us apart and she's worried that if we don't work out the problem now, it will be harder once we've been living together for a while and really get serious. She also thinks that if one of us concedes and compromises, one of us will be sacrificing a lot.\n\nI really do love her and with the exception of this one big friction, we get along tremendously well. Thus, a few questions: **Is it smarter to bite the bullet and go our separate ways now, sparing ourselves of the 'inevitable' destruction down the road, or is it possible that we just enjoy ourselves for the moment and cross that bridge when we actually get there?** As far as I can tell, we both are very into each other, we're both otherwise happy in our relationship, and neither of us want to break up.", "summary": "I *really* want a family down the road. My girlfriend is *pretty sure* she won't. Given this difference, is continuing our relationship futile?"}
{"id": "t3_3vn7g2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/M] I just broke up with my first girlfriend [17/F] a few hours ago and now I feel like shit.", "post": "I had never been in a relationship before and was a virgin before I met her six months ago. I had just finished my first year of college when we first met. We talked for about a month before we decided to start dating. It became very serious very fast. I lost my virginity to her. We became incredibly smitten with one another so quickly. She told me how much she loved me and how she had never felt this way with any other guy before. I loved her too and she definitely meant/means a lot to me. She honestly made a huge impact on my life. She accepted all my flaws and I accepted hers. She made me feel less insecure and cynical. And she constantly told me how much I mattered to her. And I felt the same way towards her too, at first. \n\nEventually as things went along we started to have fights very often yet we always had these amazing moments together that outweighed having all the fights. We spent nearly every single day together. But a few months ago I told her that once I transferred to another school in about a year that I would want the relationship to end. She told me that we should at least try but I felt as though this relationship wasn't worth the effort. I increasingly became apathetic about the relationship and felt as though I was just keeping it going just to make her happy. \n\n And now just a few hours ago I came clean with all these thoughts and doubts I had about how I wasn't as emotionally invested into this relationship as much as she is, and even after I told her that she said she still wanted to keep this going. Then I just decided to end it cause I didn't want to drag this thing on when I wasn't fully committed. In that moment I felt like I was doing the right thing for the both of us, and yet right now I feel incredibly shitty. Am I supposed to feel like this, considering this is my first relationship or have I royally screwed up?", "summary": "Broke up with my first girlfriend because I wasn't as emotionally invested into the relationship as she is and now I feel incredibly shitty. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_wequw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worse thing you've ever done to a sibling?", "post": "This might have been done already.The last one was 7 months ago with 14 comments, show me your worst.\n\nWhen I was six I tried to knife my sister. We were at my churches rummage sale setting up the night before, and there was a tricycle that you could push well someone else rode. She had been taking too long on her turn when I was pushing her, and she finally got off. I go on so she could push me around. She flips it backwards so i land on my tailbone, and begins running away. Being pissed, i get up and grab the nearest thing on one of the tables. It just so happens it was a butterknife, and i was ready to hit her with it. My mom comes over, slaps the knife out of my hand and then me. She still deserved it at the time, but now it's cool.", "summary": "sister makes me fall off tricycle, i nearly stab her, mom saves the day."}
{"id": "t3_2r0755", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] want to break up with my boyfriend [19M].", "post": "We've been dating for a year now. At first I thought he was so great and the most compatible for me. After learning more about him, I can confidently say, this relationship will not last. \n\nI tried parting ways multiple times before but it didn't work because I would give in and let him back into my life.\n\nThere's nothing wrong with him. He's beautiful and sweet. He's extremely smart but I just cannot handle him anymore. He's completely selfish and he doesn't make me feel appreciated at all. I never ask him for anything ever as he does not work. I just want the things you cannot get with money and apparently I'm just wasting my time waiting for it. \n\nI've tried communicating to him and expressing my feelings but it goes into one ear and out the other. \n\nHis birthday is in 3 days and I have things planned for him but I truly know I do not want to be with him. What should I do? Should I celebrate his bday with him like nothing is wrong and then suddenly break up with him afterwards? Advice needed.", "summary": "boyfriends birthday is in 3 days but I know I do not want to be with him anymore. What should I do so that I don't completely ruin his bday?"}
{"id": "t3_shf4i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay, so here's the deal, Reddit.", "post": "I want to feel. I feel like I've always been a person that suppresses emotion and I've built up a lot of walls that keeps me from really being in touch with my emotions. I've got a lot of stuff going on right now that would normally make a person being incredibly sad and emotional (there's a chance that my mom has cancer, my grandfather just found out he has cancer in his face, my girlfriend that I absolutely love and I are going to be breaking up in a few days for reasons that I don't feel like explaining. It's a mutual break up that is going to work out for the best, but I'm going to miss the fuck out of her.) But all of that stuff has barely affected me. I feel sad, but not as sad as I should, and it's frustrating. I feel like I should be crying, but I can't. I'm tired of not being able to be as emotional as normal people can be. I can honestly say that I'm not even the least bit upset about my mom and my grandfather, and I don't even feel sympathetic. It just rolls over me and I'm just like, \"whatever.\" And I don't feel like that's right. Is there anything I can do to quit suppressing my emotions and bring them more forward so I can actually be able to quit being so numb to everything? Sorry for the long post.", "summary": "I'm tired of suppressing emotions. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_23qpr6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28F] with [33 M] of 3 years, should I stay or should I go? Hardest decision of my life.", "post": "I am from a country in Europe and moved to the US for grad school about 6 years ago. During that time I fell in love with the most amazing man. Now it's time for me to finish up my thesis and graduate. We always planned to move back to my home country when I was finished but he couldn't get a job there (not his fault, it's a tough job market). Now I don't know what to do... I love him but we also have our fair share of problems...\n\n* The good:\nHe is caring, intelligent, attractive and nice. When I have problems he is really supportive. During good times, we get along great and are very compatible with each other, do fun things with each other as well as give each other space. He has some issues with anxiety/depression, but is getting help for it and is working on himself. Everyone likes him, especially my family. I love him so much and definitely could see myself happy with him, if only it wasn't for...\n\n* The bad: The past year or so has been stressful for both of us because of school/jobs, and we have almost no sex life. I feel unwanted, he says he just doesn't feel like it. He gets stressed very often and gets pretty emotionally distant during those times, while at the same time he wants me to make him feel better (which never works). It usually ruins my mood too and then we're both sad.\nWe don't have good communication at all, we both don't really talk about things that bother us, or hold back on what we're feeling. I always feel nervous to start a talk about us.\nI really miss my family and am afraid that if I stay here with him, will never have a family (he doesn't want kids, I think... another thing that we don't really talk about).\n\nWhat makes it even more complicated is that we live together and are in a year long lease.", "summary": "Help me decide whether to stay with my loving partner in a foreign country far from my family."}
{"id": "t3_1w6327", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I didn't know I was a binge eater.", "post": "Since I started dieting I have come to a horrible realization.\n\nAs an adult my weight had been increasing and increasing, especially during the period I was unemployed and lost my house. The thing is, I always ate healthy food at normal portions. Nothing fried, no fast food, plenty of lean meats and veggies, and I rarely drank alcohol. \n\nI started counting calories two weeks ago, I've lost 2.5 lbs, and I discovered that while I'm very good with my meals (I havent had to adjust them at all), I *pound* down the chocolate with no regard at all for the calories I consume.\n\nFrozen Peppeidge Farm cake? (my fave) It would last 2 days tops.\nA batch of cookies? The dough would be half gone before I baked one pan.\nPeanut M&M's? One 12 oz bag in a day.\nWhile unemployed it was brownie batter by the bowlful.\n\nAnd I would start to freak out if I went more than a few days without an insane amount of chocolate. Calorie counting has really opened my eyes.  The first few days I was starving b/c I kept blowing my calories on junk.  \n\nNow I have a system of 1 serving of chocolate chips (that's 16 chips, btw) spread over the day, and if I have to have something sweet I go for yogurt or fruit, so at least I get other nutrients with the sugar.\n\nI just hope I don't fall off the wagon. :/", "summary": "Chocolate made me fat."}
{"id": "t3_1d1doe", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What am I supposed to do in math class?", "post": "I'm not spectacularly smart, but for some reason I understand math. I'm 15 years old, and attend a public school. Outside of school, I have studied math a bit, and have advanced to the area of calculus, more specifically partial derivatives. In this area is where it takes me a bit longer to get the process and intuition behind the problems. Anyways, I'm taking a (mandatory) pre-precalculus class. As you can imagine, I am bored out of my mind. The class is learning about composite functions, I'm learning about the applications of integrals. I get ridiculously high grades in this class, but my problem is that I have nothing to do. I am time-efficient enough to finish my homework/other projects within 20 minutes of a 90 minute class. I have literally nothing to do, and I don't want to disrespect the teacher by using electronics. What should I do? Throwaway because I'm ridiculously paranoid.", "summary": "Class is learning composite functions, I'm past Riemann sums. How can I not lose my mind?"}
{"id": "t3_3shz7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have lost feelings for my gf [21 F] of three years over the course of long distance and college.", "post": "I've been friends with my gf since freshman year of high school and started dating her my senior year. We went to different universities and have been doing long distance for over two years.\n\nI don't hate it because I'm sort of an asexual creature that only focuses on school and cross country, but my gf incessantly expresses her sadness that I can't be with her. To be honest, I don't really know how I feel, but I do know that I don't think about or miss her enough to say it's love. Our relationship feels cyclic and only surface deep. We have the same meaningless texting conversations nearly every day. I want to reciprocate her feelings, but I feel like a shell of a person. \n\nI don't have the heart to break up with her because she's convinced we will be spending our lives together after graduation. Also, when I say long distance I mean 2000 miles so I'm really only seeing her during Thanksgiving, Winter Break, one or two times during school, and also during the summer. I'm going to be heading home for Thanksgiving and I'm wondering if it's smart to end things now or ruin it for her as soon as she gets home. I don't know if I'm going to end anything, but the fact that I think about it constantly is a red flag. Clearly I don't know myself that well. Part of me thinks severe depression clouds how I feel about anything and I maybe do love her just the same.", "summary": "Long distance in college for two years. I've fallen out of love, but I don't know how to end it."}
{"id": "t3_2iohz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my roommate [22F] of 2 years, boyfriend [22M] is staying with us for free.", "post": "I live in an apartment with 2 other girls. We've lived here for 2 years now. We were all good friends before moving in together (and had also lived in a dorm together), but Ann and I were always closer than either of us were with Jen.\n\nThis past spring, Jen started dating Derek. At first, he stayed at our apartment a few nights a week, which I was totally fine with. I also have a boyfriend and stay at his apartment 2 nights per week on average (the weekend). However, over the past few months, Derek has started staying at our apartment every single night. Our apartment building has the option to pay extra each month for a parking spot, and he is currently paying that amount to keep her car there so he can drive it to work every day. He also has his own apartment with a few roommates, but they only ever go there if there's a specific reason to, like a party or something, which might be every couple weeks.\n\nSo, he is basically at our apartment all the time, even if she is not there. He does stay in her room, but it still changes the entire feel of the apartment. When we signed the lease (which is not cheap), we were agreeing to pay a certain amount to live with two people we were very close with, but now we are paying that same large amount to live with those 2 people (1 which we are much less close to now) and another person who we barely even know. \n\nIn addition to this, they act very sketchy when we are home. They sneak around to take showers and to leave the apartment. They also cook dinner in the kitchen most nights and do not acknowledge us at all if we go into the kitchen during this. Ann and I have started to keep our bedrooms doors shut most of the time. Our apartment is VERY small. There is a tiny room that all of the bedrooms, the kitchen, and the bathroom are off of. This apartment does not feel like ours anymore, and Ann and I are struggling with what to do. We do not want to create a hostile environment, but this is just unfair. Please help!", "summary": "Roommate's boyfriend essentially lives with us for free and it makes us uncomfortable. We do not want to create any animosity, but we cannot continue letting him live here without paying anything."}
{"id": "t3_f5fi5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Secular volunteer programs?", "post": "I'm interested in volunteering **internationally**. More specifically, I'm interested in working with children in impoverished areas or areas in crisis. I'm well aware there are plenty of organizations within the United States who need volunteers, but those are not what I'm looking for. The Peace Corps and UNICEF are both great organizations, but there are many restrictions within each program that I would not allow me to qualify. I have been prescribed anti-depressants since I was in middle school and have a handful of mental health diagnoses. I have a heart problem (neurocardiogenic syncope) and a stomach problem (colitis). Neither of these conditions affect my daily life with a little attention. I understand there are an unlimited amount of things that could go wrong with my conditions and personal history, but this is something I am serious about. I taught an ESL class three years ago at a rural public school in North Carolina and I fell in love with teaching and helping kids. I was more than proficient in the six months I was there. I've worked with kids my whole life and have no qualms with working through a language barrier. I can learn a new language with relative ease. **What I am asking Reddit for is suggestions for organizations that offer international volunteer programs. Additionally, feedback from fellow Redditors who have taken advantage of such programs; what were the drawbacks, the unexpected perks, hardships, etc.?** I would be more than happy to elaborate on any questions that pertain to my question. I'm not here to be told that kids in America need help just as much as anywhere else in the world and that I'm being selfish, yada yada. The reason I'm interested in this is to help others and personal growth. I cannot think of a better place to bring my question than Reddit. Thanks for reading this far, guys!", "summary": "Looking for a non-religious program that offers international volunteering. I have a history of depression and minor health problems and fully understand the risks."}
{"id": "t3_42n99z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (31/m) is generally kind and fun, but loses his temper and yells at me (32/f) and then feels bad after and apologizes. Should I stay or leave?", "post": "We've been a couple for a little over a year and it's been happening more lately. He admits to having a temper, he admits to yelling and me and saying hurtful things. I'm trying to be understanding because he hasn't been in a long-term relationship because so many women have left him and didn't give him a chance at a relationship. He's a successful man and is generally very nice and doesn't like when men are jerks to women, which is why I'm having such a problem with this one. I went to hug him today as we are very affectionate with each other, and he pushed me away and then when I asked him if it's bad to hug him, he lost his cool and started yelling at me and getting angry with me. It's funny because in the past (we live together), he would work from home and had no problem with me going down on him, but if I want to hug him, he freaks out. I don't get it. He tells me he is a jerk and he's sorry for treating me poorly but he keeps doing this and then apologizing and then tells me he'll \"work on it\" and it just happens again. I am getting to the point where I don't even want to tell him how I feel because he's going to get mad or say that I get sad about little things or that I'm exhausting. He wants to marry me but I'm afraid it won't get better. In all other aspects, he is a nice guy who has been trying to work on his consideration of other people and has become more open-minded during our relationship. Any advice? Can he change? What can I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend loses his temper and yells and I wonder if there is something I can do to make it better. And if I should stay?"}
{"id": "t3_31z0wv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Creepy guy in train (20s/m) kept staring at me (20/f) the whole time.", "post": "I was heading home from the dorms. When I took the train there was this creepy guy along with 2 other dudes and a girl that were sitting in front of me.\n\nThe said guy kept staring at me profoundly. I gave him 2-3 fast glances to see if he kept staring. You mght find this normal but, at some point even one of his friends glanced at me 3 times as in \"the hell is he looking at?\", and even the girl looked at me once (both of his friends were sitting in front of him, so they had to rotate their heads towards me), it wasn't just a \"oh I'm bored let's explore the rail train\". \n\nAnd at some point one of his friends said something like \"If she looks here again..\" then I couldn't hear anymore. \n\nMy headphones were on and I even asked someone that was sitting near if she heard anything from me.\n\nYeah I know this is a rather silly case but I was pretty freaked out, I didn't even know any of them.", "summary": "Guy kept staring at me for no reason in the train,even friends stared. What's up with that?"}
{"id": "t3_36vwsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] just found out the girl [19f] I like is bipolar. What do?", "post": "A girl and I hung out for a week. We completely fell for each other. Except 1 thing, once a day she would get pretty sad for about 1 hr and eventually I would pick her mood back up. It was very unexpected.\n\nWell, after that week she said she needs to figure herself out (she just got out of her first real relationship and sometimes says she misses her ex and sometimes says she doesn't). \n\nI was confused and got upset with her, everything she told me seemed like a lie. Then she reveals she has a bipolar disorder and she doesn't want to talk about it and that she thinks it's best if we don't talk anymore.\n\nI comforted her a little bit before I said we should try to be friends in the future but right now I'm hurt by the lies you said.\n\nShe agreed, apologized, and said her good byes.\n\nI'm going to wait a week and text her. I want her to regain her feelings for me like we had at the beginning. But I have never messed with a bipolar girl and don't know what to do. I also hope I wasn't a rebound and we actually had something.", "summary": "fell for a bipolar girl who is so hard to figure out that she doesn't even have herself figured out."}
{"id": "t3_1hlon7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] and a potential LTR [22 F] - Find out she is very inexperienced", "post": "Met this girl and went out on a date. I like her personality but it was revealed that she is very inexperienced. No relationship, no sex, and kissed via a dare.\n\nWhile I have never had a LTR myself, I have had casual hook ups and a handful of dates. I actually kissed her before finding out, and another plus, she gave tongue, although lightly but didn't shield her teeth.\n\nI'd like to get to know her more and a relationship is possible, but I don't think I could go exclusive until I know we're compatible (personally/emotionally and sexually). I would never make her do anything she wouldn't want to do. But how do you broach the subject. Usually in my past hookups, everything escalate normally, but now I'm not sure if there is something I should know. If anything, I'd love to be the one to get her to learn about her sexual side.\n\nThis reminds me of my cousin, he spent 6 months with a girl before throwing in the towel. Not sure I could hold out that long before throwing it in.\n\nThanks, maybe this belongs in r/sex", "summary": "met a girl, she has never been in a relationship or had sex, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_17x6rs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My First (Kind of Silly) NSV", "post": "I have been working very hard to lose weight and have noticed my clothes fitting a lot looser and have even been fitting into \"skinny pants\" and what not for work. I honestly have not paid it much mind until this weekend. \n\nI had a date on Friday night and I wanted to look my best for a rather handsome dude... I went to put on my favorite little black dress - too big. I tried on a clingy top - too big. I tried on the once super tight pencil skirt - too big. Pretty much all my going-out and deal-closer clothing is too big now! It is a nice problem to have I guess?", "summary": "my weight loss prevented me from being able to dress like a hoochie on date night and I instead had to wear something classy."}
{"id": "t3_zxikd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "When does hanging out become a date? [17M, 17F]", "post": "There's a girl [17F, Henceforth referred to as Amy] that goes to my school that, up until a month ago, I [17M] have only been casual acquaintances with. That changed last month however when she was trying to get people to meet up after receiving our AS results (First year of UK pre-university qualifications). Only 1 other person turned up however and they left after an hour or so. We ended up spending a good 5 hours together, which would have been more if she hadn't had to go (This included getting lunch together and a drink a bit later on). She then invited me over to her house the next week which included an hour or so in a hot tub together and totalled 6 hours over there. And then today we spent a few hours in town, which included getting lunch.\n\nNone of these have been referred to as a date at all but they certainly feel like it. She seems to like me, we have a lot in common and she has also mentioned about pretending to be my girlfriend (There's an american girl I know who goes crazy over my british accent whenever we talk on skype and Amy thinks it would be funny to make her jealous). She also didn't complain when a mutual friend said we would be good together (Actually she said nothing. Just kinda sat there awkwardly).\n\nHave they been \"unofficial\" dates? Or have they just been hanging out together?", "summary": "I am not good with the females. Halp plz!"}
{"id": "t3_3fzckn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing a car into a wall", "post": "Just happened a couple hours ago. The battery in my father's van died and no one could help us out. Anyway, we needed to move the van to other side of the street so we figured we'd just push it. The street, however, has a bit of an incline, so it slopes downward to opposite side of the street, the side we want to move the van to. My dad steers the van while I push it. Then my father tells me, \"noMoreTom, push it with all you've got!\" Obediently, I take an impulse, and with gravity is my side, that push was all that was needed. The car takes off, my dad has to let go the steering wheel, and we both witness as the car flies to the other side of the street, over the sidewalk, and crashes into a neighbors wall.", "summary": "TIL I'm superman. I pushed my dad's van through a wall."}
{"id": "t3_446pbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23/f] father [55/m] was physically aggressive towards me and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So basically my father exploded in anger and got physically aggressive towards me. He didn't actually hit me, but he was sizing up to me, towering over me and yelling in my face. He was also crashing through my bedroom door unannounced to yell at me at random intervals. \n\nWe tried to talk about this, and he basically downplayed his responsibility, kept saying 'BUT you were being really nasty to me.' I admitted that I said some rude comments towards him (nothing personal, more just being unappreciative and a bit contemptuous) and I apologised for it sincerely. \n\nI asked him if he thought it was proportionate to respond in the way he did to my comments, and he wouldn't say yes or no, he just kept throwing it back at me and emphasising how I was nasty - basically trying to imply that I pushed him to do it. Although he did say he didn't mean and wouldn't ever want to hurt me, he couldn't seem to just say that what he did was wrong and leave it at that. I could coax it out of him that it *was* wrong, but he couldn't leave it at that without deflecting blame back on to me. I know this is because he is hugely insecure, I understand why he does this from a psychological perspective, but I feel like our relationship can't go on from here without him actually showing true remorse and getting some help for his anger issues (which he never will, he is in so much denial.)\n\nCan anyone offer me any advice? I'm living with him at the moment, but shall be moving out to my own place very soon, so it's not so much a big deal now as it was before, but I still almost feel like after I move away I don't want to maintain more than a low contact relationship with him.", "summary": "Father was physically aggressive towards me; yelling in my face etc. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_252fnf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 18 M ] with my 18 [F] of 2 years are going to college. She picked schools based on my decision, and I'm having second thoughts.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have a very healthy relationship. We've always had a good time and I care about her. However, we are in the process of applying for colleges. \n\nI've known which college I wanted to go in, and what field I wanted to get into. I applied, was accepted, have scholarships for basically a free ride, the whole deal. She had no interest in this school and applied because of me. She got in. She got some money, but she is not in the same financial situation I'm in. She has a strange major, and it feels forced. \n\nI've always been quiet and too myself in highschool. I'm ready to branch out in college. I don't know of having a girlfriend will prevent that. I'm also worried that if I decide to go with her, I'll regret it and end up breaking up after the 1st semester. That would be a dick move.", "summary": "Unsure if girlfriend is making the right decision. Don't know if it's what I want either."}
{"id": "t3_qk746", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "$800 wasted on a plane ticket. What's my next move?", "post": "About 2 years ago my son and I took a flight with Aer Lingus from Frankfurt, Germany to Chicago, IL. All was fine and dandy until getting onto the flight. I purchased a ticket for my son because I did not want him sitting in my lap (kids are crazy on flights). I brought a car seat on board and was set to go. When I get onto the plane the car seat will not fit unless the arm rest was pulled up (which was odd because this seat has fit on every other flight I have ever been on). The flight attendants asked that it be removed for take off. After take off the turbulence was too high for them to give me the car seat back. Basically, to make this shorter I was never actually able to put my son in his seat. Even after we stopped to switch planes the next group of flight attendants just flat out told me I wouldn't be allowed to use it and moved the car seat to the back of the plane. Thus my son sat on my lap the entire flight (he was too young to sit on his own) and the ticket I purchased went to waste. I went through 13 hours of traveling with my son kicking and screaming because I had to hold him the entire time. Not pleasant for anyone on that flight... So naturally I asked that I be reimbursed for this ticket since it was the flight attendants who told me I would not be able to use the car seat but upon checking Aer Lingus' car seat regulations I found that mine was ok by their standards. It's been 2 years and I have only received a handful of EMAILS from them. They have no customer service number and they are avoiding me now. What is my next step? I have contacted them multiple times, both by email and snail mail. Nothing seems to be working. This was an 800 dollar ticket and I would like to see that money again. I honestly wouldn't mind receiving a credit with Aer Lingus if they would do that. Is there anything I can do that would get their attention?", "summary": "Aer Lingus wouldn't let my son sit in his seat on a flight that I paid 800 dollars for. It's been 2 years and they have avoided me and my requests for a refund for the seat I purchased. They have no customer service number, only email. How do I get their attention or file some sort of a report to see this money again?"}
{"id": "t3_2cv05s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F20) have been sleeping with a friend (M21) for a month and don't know how to ask him where we stand", "post": "we've known each other for 3 years, became friends about a year ago. i've always liked him and have always made it pretty obvious that i liked him, but he's had a girlfriend for most of the time that i've known him. a few months ago we started talking every day, and eventually i started going over to his house once or twice a week and spending the night without anything sexual happening other than cuddling.\n\none night we hooked up, i told him i didn't want to sleep with him. the next time i was over we had sex, and after that the texts stopped. i figured he wanted it to be a one time thing, so i let it be and gave him some space. we remained friendly and since we work together we still hung out together frequently with our group of friends. just when i thought everything had worked itself out, we had sex again a week ago and now i don't know what to think. another detail that may be important is that i was a virgin before him and he knew this.\n\ni guess what i'm stuck on is how to ask him what the fuck is going on without sounding like a lunatic or making things weird at work, since he's pretty reserved when it comes to things like that and seems to have a hard time expressing his feelings, if he has any for me. it used to be that i could text him any time about anything, and lately i haven't texted him in days because i get the feeling he doesn't want to hear from me.", "summary": "my dumb friend took my virginity and is giving me mixed signals. asking him how he feels about me is as delicate as open heart surgery - how to i word it?"}
{"id": "t3_d8u9w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I the only one?", "post": "Well today I was thinking about weird stuff I think about but don't tell anyone.\n\nHere are some examples?\n\nWhen in a bus passing a bus I think we are going through a portal and both buses are the bus I am on.\n\nWhen driving I imagine a person running along side the car.\n\nI try not to leave my fingerprints everywhere ... just incase.\n\nI don't touch metal in shops incase I get shocked.\n\nWhen I walk in/out a shop I'm very scared of the alarms going off for no reason.\n\nLastly before I feel too crazy;I don't like to put my face under shower water incase I drown.", "summary": "I'm crazy."}
{"id": "t3_36p8bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [21 M] of two years, I have a really HL and he only sometimes does", "post": "Ever since I was young I have always been really sexual. When I finally started having sex it became all I wanted to do. The problem is that I have issues dealing with not having it.\n\nFor example, if I meet up with my BF and we don't have sex as soon as possible, I find it hard to concentrate on what we are doing. I try to focus but my BF senses it, and then we usually have some sort of argument. I don't want to pressure him into having sex which is what it feels like he feels I'm doing when I'm not all there. \n\nMy BF just isn't in the mood sometimes, and I get that but it doesn't really make it any easier. Especially when he'll say things like \"I jacked off before I came to see you so I'm not in the mood\". That just leaves me thinking he should've thought about my needs, but I don't know how to really talk about this since I don't want to tell him what to do with his body. \n\nI love him, and I don't see him just as a sex object. It's just so much easier to do things with him if I get my fix. He's so incredible and I feel so connected with him when we have sex. \n\nHow can I talk to him about what I'm feeling without crossing boundaries, and what can I do to get over this need for sex in order to concentrate? I hate that we argue about this because we don't argue about anything else.", "summary": "When I don't have sex I find it hard to enjoy anything, I don't want to be like this because I don't want my BF to feel pressured into anything."}
{"id": "t3_118qff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "m21 asked to get back with f21", "post": "Heartbroke 6 months ago by girl, you know the drill. 21m vs 21f. Dated 2 separate times in 2 years for 6 months a piece.  Anyways, she randomly comes to me yesterday, wants to get back together, I tell her I can't waste anymore life on her, good for me! ...right?\n\n...well I don't feel very happy about it.  I don't feel better about myself, I still miss her just as much, but what option did I have?  She has already done this once (we dated, broke up, a year later wants me back, we date, we break up, she always did the breaking).", "summary": "denied returning to a girl I still really want after she's done me wrong twice in two years, but I still feel terrible.  Is there an end in sight?  I'm still not over her, I want her back so bad even though I know it's wrong."}
{"id": "t3_k9myx", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Update on my kitty, Attu.", "post": "So earlier today, my big boy Attu has a nasty run in with a beading needle. Beading needles are long (at least two inches) and super sharp. I immediately took him to the vet because I was terrified that it was lodged inside of him. They took two x-rays and said there was no swallowed needle.\n\nHere's the deal folks. My cat is usually SUPER friendly and sociable. He greets me at the door when I come home. He asks for noms when his dish is empty. He talks back to me when I ask him questions. Attu has done none of that today. All he's done since I've brought him home is crouch in corners and hide. My cat NEVER does this.\n\nWhat he has been doing: a worrisome amount of drooling, licking his lips, hacking. He seems unsteady on his feet. Seems to have a hard time getting comfortable. Generally appears to be in alot of pain...keeps his body and tail very low. Will not come when called (he always comes running!). \n\nOf course I am going to call the vet tomorrow. I was just wondering...do you think there is any possibility that the vet might have missed the needle? I haven't found it yet and I have this nagging feeling it's lodged in his throat or the roof of his mouth. \n\nI know there would be some pain from getting stabbed from a big ass needle...but I would have hoped he would have perked up by now...it's already been 12 hours. \n\nPlease give me any advice.", "summary": "My cat is not acting normally after an incident with a needle. Scared that the needle might be stuck in his throat even though a vet x-rayed him. pls2advise."}
{"id": "t3_4ap1h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] got to know this guy [22/M] online and we really hit it off. Now that I found him on facebook, there's a problem. What do I do?", "post": "Throwaway account because he's on Reddit and knows my actual Reddit name. Okay, so, we actually met on Reddit and decided to become \"pen pals\" through email. \nWe have been talking for a few weeks now, and it's amazing. Our emails are always insanely long, we never run out of things to talk about. Our personalities are incredibly similar and compatible. He's very sweet and incredibly smart. Our opinions on everything (especially relationships) really match. \nWe are both single, and considering each other as potential partner in the future (not any time super soon, it's too early). \n\nProblem is. PLEASE don't think me shallow. We have yet to see what one another looks like. We only know each other's first names. I couldn't stand the mystery, so I actually took his email that he uses, and searched the email on Facebook. There is his first name. And him. And I am not attracted to him at all, whatsoever. Physical attraction is so important in a relationship to me, and I'm incredibly bummed that I do not at all find him attractive. \n\nWhat do I do? I don't want to lead him on, and he doesn't know that I searched him through his email. We haven't talked about any serious relationship together in the future yet, so I was thinking about continuing talking to him until the subject comes up. \n\nIs there any way at all it could be NOT him? He's incredibly attractive to me in every other part, except for physical. It's awful.", "summary": "started talking to a guy I met on here. We click wonderfully. He's incredibly attractive to me in every other part, except for physical. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_23hoe0", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "First time cat owner. So many questions.", "post": "Hey,\n\nAs stated in the title, I've never owned a cat before and I've never really liked cats either. Except Stanley. He's my boyfriend's aunty's cat and he is the most cuddly cat out there. Last night aunty told me she needs to get rid of him because winter is coming up (Southern hemisphere) and her other cat who has been with her for over 15 years hates Stanley. The two cats won't stay in the house at the same time, and that's fine as long as the other is outside in summer, but aunty doesn't want the old one out when it's cold. So I said I might take him in for winter.\n\nNow, I don't know if it's a good idea having a 2.5 year old cat living in a small apartment for the next 5 months. So that's where you guys come in. Stanley is very calm, he'll nap on your lap all afternoon, but I don't know how he'll react to being locked inside. I just don't want him to go to another family.\n\nSo.. help? I just need to know if cats can adjust to apartment life, and if so, do we need to invest in a scratch pole (or just cardboard boxes), etc, etc.", "summary": "Help me become one of you, catpeople."}
{"id": "t3_kts1r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me decide on my next adventure", "post": "Alright, Reddit here's the deal, I have rashly decided I want to move.  To be honest, I'm a bit of a ramblin' man anyway so people who know me well won't be surprised really.  But, the kicker is I'm not sure where I want to go.  So, I'm hoping US redditors will try to sell me on their town and help me come to a decision.  There are a few caveats though, 1) I've already lived in a fairly extensive list of U.S. cities for 6+ mos and don't feel the need for an encore anywhere.  I'm currently in Seattle, just came from the east coast bout 8 mos ago where I was for a couple years splitting my time between DC, Baltimore, NYC, and Philly pretty evenly (had an awesome job that allowed for this but company folded) so those are out too.  Went to college in Chicago and Mpls for a couple years each so not super interested in them either.  Also, there are some financial restrictions, I'll have about 5k or so to tide me over until I find gainful employment where ever it is I end up so cities with really high cost of living might not make the cut (looking for somewhere I can rent for around $500 a mo without living in the ultra ghetto).  Moving date is Dec 1, so Reddit sell me.  Sorry about the throwaway but there are some people on Reddit I'm not ready to tell that I'm outta here.", "summary": "Ready to do some rambling (move to new U.S. city), want Reddit to decide where I end up."}
{"id": "t3_1huejx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a friend fired from work. At least it was due to her own actions, but still.", "post": "I work at a chain restaurant and lately we have had a lot of \"coupon fraud.\" Basically, this means servers steal stacks of coupons or print them from their computer under false emails (or snatch them out of local newspapers but this is more rare) and add them to all their cash checks. Since they are their \"own bank\" and don't pay the restaurant until the end of the night, those coupons that were never really used when someone gives them cash and says keep the change end up being an extra five, ten, whatever dollars in their pocket... sometimes costing us hundreds and hundreds of dollars in losses, impacting manager salaries and bonuses, and also impacting even other hourly employees who are on the upper end of the ladder trying to move up.\n\nI found out this mass coupon fraud was going on, and I \"checked in\" a friend to her shift. Not super close, but I've been to her house and drank after work and never had any problems with her. She seemed like a pretty cool chick. I had suggested we search all of the servers' books for coupons, so I was searching them all. I flipped hers open when she set it down when she walked in, and unfortunately, there was a stack of coupons in there... Which should be impossible as all coupons actually used are to be turned in at the end of the night, and any that are found are to be turned in and destroyed immediately. Basically, if you have a big stack like that, it means you are planning to steal.\n\nThere were so many witnesses that I couldn't have covered for her even if  I wished to do so. Another girl got shooed out the door, and as a 'key holder' type position, I cannot show any preferential treatment, especially if I am to be moved into management like I plan.\n\nI honestly had no idea she was one of the people stealing. She was suspended for a few days and fired today. I don't know if she will be able to even keep her apartment after this, and that's a pretty shitty feeling to know that you did to a cool person, even if they did make the choice themselves.", "summary": "Got a cool chick I had no problems with fired because she was profiting from coupon fraud. Feels bad, man."}
{"id": "t3_2b4v2v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fingering a girl in her nose.", "post": "This incident happened during the first few days of my college. Introvert in nature, I made few but good friends. Among them was a guy who was a diehard fan of Star Trek, and he made me one too. So whenever we met, we greeted each other with Vulcan salute, the popular hand gesture of Star Trek and said \"Live long and prosper.\" (Ok, I know it was too much, but those were the exciting early days of college.) \n\nSo one day, I was climbing the stairs of my college to attend the lecture and saw my friend coming down. So as usual, I greeted him with the Vulcan salute and the hand gesture. But this time, there was a cute girl climbing stairs behind me. And it was such an amazing (rather unfortunate) coincidence of precise height and the gap between my fingers that my middle finger and ring finger perfectly slid into her nostrils. I felt something gooey and slimy but still didn't see her behind me so pulled my hand. And the poor girl just tripped in front of me, trying hard not to sob. I froze over there and before I could apologize, she ran away. Luckily no one was around us except my friend who was leaning to the wall trying to support himself from his laughter. (But he, himself was enough to spread the story throughout the college.) Now, whenever that girl comes around me, we avoid eye contact.", "summary": "I fingered a girl with vulcan salute in her nose."}
{"id": "t3_30wo0r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend [19/m] is very active, I [20/f] am not... Starting to bother me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have never had to fight because everything can be handled rationally, but I don't know how to bring this up, because I know that it's irrational, but it's how I feel! He goes to the gym with his best friends almost every day. He's improving a lot, has a six-pack and can now bench his own body weight, while I have definitely gained my freshman 15 and lost the curve in my hips I was always so proud of (and he used to tell me he loved all the time). He isn't superficial at all though, despite his fitness, he just loves being active, whereas I am not athletically inclined whatsoever. I normally just maintain my bodyweight pretty well, but lately I have been so busy the last thing I want to do with my free time is work out.\n\nThe problem is, instead of lying and saying I haven't gained weight, he says \"It's no big deal\" and \"It's just because of the crappy food at school\". I tell him I haven't been the gym lately and he says \"I love you anyways, you'll get back to it when you have time\". He's completely right, and I know he's trying to be supportive, but it doesn't make a girl feel sexy to know her boyfriend acknowledges the weight but \"doesn't mind\". He still pays attention, still wants me physically, still loves me, and yet all I can think about is how he said I should just get back to the gym when I said I hated my flabbiness, which was good advice, so I know I shouldn't be hurt by it but I am!", "summary": "Boyfriend says he doesn't mind that I've gained weight instead of lying about noticing it - I know my feelings shouldn't be hurt but they are"}
{"id": "t3_3g56ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] don't want to deal with my BF's [25M] anxiety and I'm not sure how to handle it", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We actually got close and started dating when my brother, who was also his close friend, passed away last year. \n\nEver since we've been together I've known that he gets pretty bad anxiety. I used to be good at talking him down and reassuring him that everything would be OK, but lately it has just been SO exhausting. \n\nThis month is the 1 year anniversary of my brother's death and everyday he's been complaining about his anxiety. I don't experience anxiety attacks so I really don't understand what he's going through. To me, it just seems excessive. This will be an emotional month anyway, but when he calls/ texts me telling me about how he is feeling anxious, it just immediately puts me in a bad mood. It's hard enough trying to be OK with everything as it is, and his vibes are starting to rub off on me.\n\nI feel selfish being angry at him for feeling anxious, but at the same time it's incredibly frustrating have to deal with it all the time.\n\nAny advice from someone whose S/O has anxiety and how you deal with it, or someone who experiences anxiety themselves would be awesome.", "summary": "My boyfriend gets anxiety and I don't know how/ want to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_2n1oov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [24 F] 3 years on and off relationship", "post": "My girlfriend and I don't really know what to do. We've been together for a while, and are in love. At the beginning, I wasn't ready for a relationship, and I told her I might be interested in other girls. It wasn't really an open relationship, but I didn't say I was ready to commit, and we talked about that. There was an agreement to tell each other if we ever did anything with anyone else.\n\nI didn't act on that urge I had, until she put pressure on me to be with her. The next few months I kept hooking up with people, and I was insecure, and her and I kept going back and forth.\n\nEventually I felt ready, and things started going better. But I made a few little mistakes, one of which, was kissing someone else. I had gotten used to doing that, before, and I was afraid of being committed, because my heart had been broken so hard in past relationships.\n\nWhen I committed, she didn't trust me, but we stayed together, and a couple times, she acted out because she thought things were too good to be true, thought I was lying, and wanted to experience other guys, but only really wants to love me.\n\nWe got in a fight, and decided to break up, but started getting along, but there's not much trust there, from either of us. We know that we really care about each other, and we want to somehow end up together.\n\nWhat should we do?", "summary": "Been with my gf (I don't know what we are) for a while, and we broke up, because we realized some problems, mostly trust, but don't know how to fix them so that we can be together."}
{"id": "t3_3bs3mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] Just went through breakup with gf [22] of 2 years, have lived together for the last year and a half. What to expect?", "post": "Alright guys, this is my first post in /relationships so here I go. Yesterday, I broke up with my girlfriend of two years. We started dating when I was 18 and she was 20, and it was amazing. We got very serious very fast and moved in together after about 6 months. The first year of living together was great, everything was going well and we made great roommates and everything. \n\nIn the last year though, she started to develop some pretty severe dependency issues and was dealing with depression/OCD/some other stuff. She's been seeing a therapist and has medication to help, but it just ended up being too much for me. I felt like I was giving way more than I was getting, and that's just not a healthy balance. \n\nShe's going to see her parents for a week today, and I'm going to move out of our place during that time. She knows this already. She's been trying really hard to get me back, and even tried to sleep with my friend last night while I was sleeping at a friends place. She does have a history of being pretty vengeful/manipulative towards her exes, but I'm trying to make it a clean break and not stay too involved so hopefully I won't have to deal too much with that. \n\nI guess what I'm getting at, is that I'm pretty young and I've never had a relationship, or breakup, this serious before, so I'm hoping for some advice or words of wisdom on what to expect over the next few weeks as I try to adjust to being alone again. Thanks for any help you can offer!", "summary": "I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years, and we've lived together for the last year and a half. I'm pretty young and have never had a relationship this serious before. What can I expect over the next few weeks?"}
{"id": "t3_2msyl4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My SO (31m) and I (31f) separated just over a year ago. It was my decision and now I'm regretting it and want to get back together.", "post": "We separated because I was not in love with him. Don't think I ever was, but I love him. Our communication skills were very lacking and I was spending a lot of times with friends. We have two small boys and I miss being a family with the three of them. \nIn the year we've been apart our communication has gotten better and we've become good friends again. We can hang out and do the hobbies we did when we were together. I changed jobs in that time to spend more time with my kids, the house I'm renting is quite spends and he helps me out with it. \nI miss him and being a family unit. I really hurt him when I left, I know that. So, I'm not sure what to do, should I talk to him about my feelings again? Or should I just stick with the decision I made a year ago??", "summary": "split with my so a year ago and now I want to get back with him, good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1oaed5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] Attached when I shouldn't have been, and now she [23/f] has a boyfriend. She wants to stay friends. How to move on without affecting her?", "post": "I broke up with a long-term girlfriend shortly before she left overseas so that we could get some matured perspective on our relationship and future together. \n\nSkip ahead 18 months -- We very frequently kept in contact all the while that she was abroad, and she was always vocal about her affection towards me. I never had any desire to make a move towards any other women while she was gone, and I felt that I had personally gotten the perspective on our relationship that I had initially been looking for. \n\nBut now she's picked up a boyfriend abroad, and naturally there's some disconnection between us. \n\nAnyway, I'm looking to move on with my life, but she still wants us to remain close friends.\n\nI don't think it's fair that she ought to be punished for starting a relationship with somebody else, considering she was single, so I feel guilty about completely cutting communication from her -- but I personally don't want to video call her anymore like she wants, for the sake of my own feelings and attachment. \n\nHow best to move on without implicating her? \n\nFWIW: \n\n* Her and her new boyfriend don't share citizenship of each other's home countries. They'll either need to get married after ~4 months together, or live out the rest of their relationship long-distance. \n\n* I'm abroad in a separate country all together, and won't be returning home for another 12 months; giving the decision to cut all contact some extra weight.", "summary": "Cut all communication from a close friend for 12 months at least, because she's moved on and I still have feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_2n63v2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] have gone out on a couple dates with [28 M]. In person he seems so into me but I've always been the first to initiate contact via text.", "post": "Last weekend I went on a couple dates with a guy [28M] that I met at work. We seemed to really hit it off, Friday we went to 3 or 4 different places then went back to his place (in hindsight I'm kicking myself for hooking up right away). All was good. We went out again on Saturday and had fun. Sunday we did our own thing and then went out on Monday again. \n\nIn person he has been so complimentary, seems to be really impressed and interested in me. However if we were only contacting via chat or texts I would have no idea that he's interested in me. After meeting I was always the first to initiate contact (except for Monday when he messaged me asking if I'd like to get dinner). On Thursday I decided to not text him \"good morning\" or the like and he since hasn't initiated any contact.", "summary": "It's been several days since new guy I'm seeing has texted me. Should I take it as a sign?"}
{"id": "t3_w6hgd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Alright, Reddit. What's a job on the Internet my disabled aunt can do for income?", "post": "Long story short, my aunt has never worked a real day in her life and is the black sheep of our family. She has a bad case of scoliosis she got when she was 18 which resulted in multiple surgeries and the insertion of a steel rod into her back. She can't really do anything physical and she was married to my (non-blood) uncle up until about 14 years ago.\n\nAs a result, she doesn't work and has little-to-no experience. She has been living off my 84-year-old grandmother for years now and has basically drained her completely financially. She is a vegetarian and demands on organic food and expensive makeup and all kinds of pretentious bullshit. The entire family hates her for this.\n\nMy grandmother, god bless her, isn't going to be around forever and when she's gone, the jig is up. My grandmother pays for her rent, utilities, car, gas - EVERYTHING. \n\nAnd quite frankly, I've had enough.\n\nSo my question to you is this: what can my aunt do to make money on the Internet? This is not some kind of complicated launch a website and write everyday kind of thing - she just won't do it out of laziness. I am thinking something along the lines of ChaCha or even Amazon's Mechanical Turk. Basically, I want her to start bringing in SOME kind of income so that she is not living entirely off my grandmother. It will help relieve tensions in the family and will put less of a financial strain on my grandmother.\n\nSo, what do you have in mind, Reddit?", "summary": "Aunt is a deadbeat, leeches of grandmother. Need an internet-based job for her like Mechanical Turk, ChaCha, etc. for some form of income."}
{"id": "t3_25cthm", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Something to keep in mind about Trenitalia rail.", "post": "Self service tickets bought from the Trenitalia website can only be picked up at self service kiosks WITHIN ITALY. So be careful.\n\nMy story:\n\nI bought tickets to go from Spiez, Switzerland to Rome via Milan from Trenitalia. Then I found out I can only retrieve the first half of the ticket (Spiez to Milan) from self service kiosks in Italian train stations....as in, you have to be IN Italy to pick up the tickets. They were \"SMART\" tickets, the cheapest ones they offered, and labeled as self service. They won't mail them, you can't print them out, and you can't pick them up in the country you're starting your train trip from. The second half, Milan to Rome, was a print out ticket so I had no problem getting that one.\n\nI had to contact the concierge at the hotel I'll be staying at in Rome (Boscolo Palace Roma) and ask THEM to go pick up the tickets from the train station and mail them to where I'll be staying in Switzerland. Luckily I have over a month until I'll be there or I would have to pay $156 to re-purchase the tickets from Swiss Rail. And luckily the concierge at this hotel are absolute SAINTS. As well as Denise at Chalet Fontana, who is nice enough to let me have the tickets sent to her to hold onto until we get to the chalet.\n\nI even had a nice redditor on standby to receive the tickets if I could have had them mailed to her, but Trenitalia informed me no, they won't mail them.", "summary": "Check and double check train company policies on train trips involving more than one country and make sure you understand what the policies for each TYPE of train ticket are."}
{"id": "t3_1f2hzr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Can't tell if he likes me or just wants to be friends... (me, F/19 going on 20; him M/22)", "post": "So, there's a guy I've been flirting with (okay, my awful version of flirting. Not proud to be fulfilling that 'bad at flirting' stereotype geek girls seem to have been assigned, but that seems to have happened) for a bit now. He's awesome; smart, funny, talented, and really cute. He's also a really genuinely lovely person. \n\nBetween group situations, talking online every now and then, and hanging out one on one, it's been all over the map from friendly to openly flirty. He was the one who brought up hanging out over the summer, but so far (two times), I've been the one to initiate a conversation about it.\n\nEven if we're just going towards friends, it's perfectly okay, but I'd like to have some sort of clue. In part because my friend wants to set me up with a friend of hers; I'm not wild about the idea (I trust my friend and I appreciate the thought, but yeah, I'd rather pick my own guys), and it's been nice to have the 'let me see how this pans out' thing as an excuse.", "summary": "Great guy, can't figure out if it's going anywhere but friendship. Fine either way."}
{"id": "t3_2pt7tm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my Ex-Girlfriend[23 F] of five years just broke up.", "post": "My girlfriend of more than 5 years just left me for reasons. She said she needed change and in her life, and she didn't feel that she loved me anymore.\n\nNow I'm disraught, I feel shit and I don't know what do to. I had plans with her, I was sure I loved her, she was the only one that supported me in times of need. Being without her... is just wrong, to me. When I suffered from depression she was the only thing that made me not kill myself, I always thought that she didn't deserve to suffer from it.\n\n Now I don't know what to do, I just feel empty now. I have friend, but she was the only one with whom I thought I could and will ever have the relationship I wanted. I don't know, it's just too much.", "summary": "Girlfriend left me and I feel like a shit. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_49bksb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family (30f to 55m) trying to make me miserable so I don't move to Ireland. Help?", "post": "I have always wanted to live abroad. When I was in college, I spent two semesters in Ireland. My grandparents taught me German and took me to Germany every summer. I was the only grandchild to show any interest in their culture. I have seven siblings (30f to 40m). I am the youngest at 26F. \n\nI have never been really big on close-knit family gatherings. My grandmother paid for me to go to boarding school. I have travelled every summer since I turned 18. I camp, I rarely talk on the phone, and I have no kids. I have been planning to move to Germany since I was 16 and met my close friend Sabine. It is like the movie Beaches, minus one of us dying. We have been friends since I met her. She has offered to house me and I have a job lined up. \n\nThe problems started when I got a job offer and a visa. I had been saying for years \"I am moving in with Sabine.\" No one believed me until I sold my car and started downsizing. I have sold off pretty much everything and plan to buy when I get to Germany. I am living with a friend of mine in her guest room, paying rent, with only the things I am taking with me. \n\nThis caused issues because my sister is furious I didn't give her my brand new car. I sold it to someone for $20,000. I need money, not goodwill. My family thought I should give my nice furniture to my brother (35m) who lost some of his stuff in a house flood. I told them I needed to have money for new things in Germany. They told me I wouldn't be happy there, I was abandoning family, and should stay in America. \n\nSince then I have only heard negative things about my move and character. \n\nI am tired of this. I want them to stop. It makes me never want to speak to them again. It makes me want to leave the country even quicker. They are mad about everything. \n\nHow do I handle this?", "summary": "I have been working towards moving to Germany with a friend of mine, my family is now turning insane. I leave in August and I don't want to leave my relationships with my family in tatters. Some help getting them to understand they are being jerks?"}
{"id": "t3_2fualq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Disappointed in the way my life has turned out", "post": "I have almost 2 decades in an industry working under other people's professional license & reputation.  I put my ex wife through college to get her Masters and now my kids live over 7 hours away in their new situation.  The work I did have is drying up so I'm really having to hustle to meet bills and make child support, cause you know, it's based on last years taxes with no way to make a modification.\n\nI'm going no where in my life.  I have no help, all anyone wants is more of what little money I can scrape together, and the end of this years taxes are looking gloomy.", "summary": "Life sucks after supporting everyone but myself for 20 years, and now I'm trapped in the situation."}
{"id": "t3_xuwci", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, tonight I witnessed a random couple pay for an elderly couple's meal at the franchise restaurant I work at. Going through a hard time, this helped me to gain a new perspective. What is an act that has immediately given you hope or helped you through a hard time?", "post": "Lately I've been feeling pretty down about some personal things, and just had a really bad outlook on the world, however tonight my perspective was changed. I work for a franchise restaurant and we usually close around 10:30. Tonight was a pretty slow night, and there were only two tables in the whole restaurant, one across from the other. Each couple was eating, keeping to themselves, and I started cleaning getting ready to close up. I hear my name being called by my fellow server, and she says to come up front because her table would like to pay for mine. When we asked the kind couple why, they said something along the lines of, \"In order to receive kindness, your heart must give kindness.\" In reply my fellow server said, \"Bless you\" to which they replied \"we are already blessed.\" I returned to my table and spoke with the elderly couple. They said they had never even spoke to the other couple, but were very grateful. It was pretty inspiring to see something rare like this at 9:30 on a Tuesday night, and really helped to lift my spirits.", "summary": "Faith in humanity restored."}
{"id": "t3_2mutja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] broken up with boyfriend of two+ years. How do I fall out of love/ get over him?", "post": "I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago. A few days later I decided I'd made a mistake and tried to get him back but after a solid bit of candid discussion, we finally decided (about an hour ago) that we both needed to move on. Although we'll probably remain friends. \n\nThis guy was my first everything: first love, first date, first kiss, first sex...I was preoccupied with the idea of him to varying degrees for most of the last three years, I really did love him...in a \"do anything to make you happy\", \"always put myself last\" kind of way that was, in retrospect, a bit naive. But in any event, he had a huge (I mean HUGE) impact on me as I transitioned into adulthood and not surprisingly, EVERYTHING reminds me of him now.\n\nI'm naturally a VERY loyal person and with me love is really pretty permanent. I don't become disillusioned with old friends once we grow apart... I always cling on to my positive feelings for them. Which generally seems like a good trait. Except that now I have to figure out how to stop loving someone that I'm MADLY in love with, because I know if I don't I'll wind up sabotaging future possibilities/ relationships for both myself and my ex. \n\nI've heard all the basic break up advice: \"Work on yourself! Go to the gym! Do stuff you love! Socialize! Blah blah blahbittly blah...\"\nBut that stuff doesn't seem like it would help me to get over him. Not really. Not well enough that I could go on to see him as a strictly platonic friend. So my question for you, oh relationship gods of reddit: How do you fall out of love with your ex??", "summary": "Broke up after years of being very close to a guy who was my first everything... how the heck am I supposed to stop loving him so that I can start seeing him as a platonic friend and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_c2i8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out that my partner for a group paper is plagiarizing. What do I do?", "post": "I'm taking a course that has a substantial amount of group work. One of our final assignments has both paper and presentation components, which are both due in the morning. My partner was taking forever to get her portion of the paper to me, and when she sent it, it looked terrible except for a few sentences that were incredibly suspicious. I googled them and they came up word for word in the search results.\nI've rewritten the entire paper now, but I'm still not sure what I should do. If I talk to the partner but not the professor, I might get penalized if I missed something and might not graduate in a couple weeks. If I talk to the professor but not the partner, it'll seem like I'm turning her in. If I talk to both of them, I will clearly look like a jerk. My instincts say I should go to the professor for my own good, but I might be overlooking an option. Please help!", "summary": "What is the best way to deal with a plagiarizing partner for a group assignment?"}
{"id": "t3_eut9a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rather odd tax question concerning dependents", "post": "This year, I remarried and the woman I am married to has a son.  He lives with us and I treat and support him as if he was my own son.  I have also been supporting him financially for more than 6 months out of the year and know that I am allowed to claim him as a dependent. My wife and her son are both from the philippines and not yet U.S. Citizens.  Haven't even filed the adjustment yet (doing it this month) to have them changed to permanent residents.\n\nAnyway, the thing I'm wondering is if that $1000 business applies in this situation.  I'm also not sure how that benefit works.  I have a daughter from a previous marriage and I know the first year I had her, it seemed like when I added her in TurboTax, $1000 was immediately added on to the amount of my return.\n\nIs that how this is supposed to work or is it supposed to be a $1000 credit against the amount I am being taxed on?  Do you get this benefit every year?  Do you get it for each child?  Does it apply to me with my new step-son even though there has been no legal adoption or anything?", "summary": "Remarried and have a step son that I haven't legally adopted, but have supported for more than half the year.  Does the tax credit/benefit for children apply to me?"}
{"id": "t3_3xo2oy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (36M) dad (64M) is going to have a horrible Christmas. How do I improve it without him thinking I feel sorry for him?", "post": "My dad is in the ends of his second marriage. His current wife dislikes my sisters, myself and our families. I live in Washington.  He lives in Chicago. My sisters (both live in Chicago) told me about the family Christmas party that was held tonight. \nThey told me he just sat behind the bar of my uncles house (not drinking) and not talking to anyone. My dad is usually the life of the party. He's miserable. BUT I have a solution. \n\nHe could come out here for Christmas. I have 3 young kids he doesn't get to see that much.  He'd get to watch them open presents. We'd go skiing. I've already taken the week off of work. It would be perfect!  And fun!\n\nBut how do I get him out here without making him think I feel sorry about him. (Or really making him think that I know what's going on even though I do.) \n\nHe's a proud guy....", "summary": "dad is in the throes of the ends of his second marriage. Help me get him to come out here and smile instead."}
{"id": "t3_2n75ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me :[24F] dating him : [29M] for 5 months now. After 1 month, we said to each other that we both ''did'nt want a serious relation ship''. 5 months later, I realize I love him and i'm afraid to tell him. What sould I do?", "post": "We started this relationship without knowing where it would go. At a time, after 1 month, we both freaked out and told each other we were both \u00abnot searching for a serious relationship\u00bb. It was true at this time.\n\n5 months passes and slowly we began very very close, our relationship kind of changed. We are now seeing each other 2-3 days a week, he calls me just to talk, we text all day... care for each other, we have a lot of fun and we trust the other.\n\nAt this time I am very sure that my intentions changed. I have strong feelings for him, I love him but I don't know how to tell him. I am afraid of his feedback even if I think he have romantic feelings for me too.\n\nHow can I tell him?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_463342", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[30F] boss[43M] accused me of messing up something he started, how can I deal with his attitude?", "post": "He and I are software developers. He did a report for a client and then went to vacation. While on vacation I fixed his report, the report was incorrect but didn't say anything (because I think after all we're a Team). The client after all asked for one more change, I did that change without knowing exactly how things worked (and because he was still on vacation and he doesn't want to share his work with me because he's a really insecure person, he want to make sure that he's really needed in the office). All this changes were requested by my next boss in charge (my boss' boss)\n\nThat last change made by me was incorrect and by mail he told everyone that I messed up and I have to go and buy sweets to pay off for what I did\n\nI did not talk with him yet and I don't want to tell him I fixed his report first. How can I handle his catty behavior without being unprofessional? I say catty behavior because I was expecting that he can own the problem with me as a team and not writing an email scrutinizing me", "summary": "my boss acussed me of messing up something instead of trying to fix the issue in a more professional manner"}
{"id": "t3_3cxu07", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Male with significant past trauma struggling to show interested in women physically", "post": "Hey /r/AskWomen so I am a 27 year old male and I am struggling with the Physical aspects of letting a women know I am interested in her, including body language.\n\nWhen I was between 4-12 I was significantly abused by an immediate family member to the point that I was removed from the house by social services. Since then I have been through a lot of therapy and three successful long term relationships. However, because of the abuse physical contact in a relationship comes very slow to me. I have to build trust with the girl to feel comfortable touching her or having her touch me. This includes kissing and sometimes even hugging can be a little awkward with me. Once I have been dating the girl for a couple month (2-5) I am able to be physical in all aspects and I am very comfortable with only a few hiccups. \n\nThe problem really comes through when I meet a girl I am interested and we just start dating. I have a hard time showing the girl I am interested in them. Several time over the years I have had women come back to me and say \"What happened between us? I really liked you and I thought you liked me to but you never did anything?\" They usually elaborate saying they knew I was interested in them because I would always want to spend time with them and I was checking them out, but then I would never make a move and eventually they thought I just wanted to be friends and they would move on.\n\nMy question is what tips or strategies do you have to help me in the \"getting to know you stage\" show a girl I'm interested in them for sure, without disclosing too fast all the trauma I experienced as a child. The three relationships I managed to have the girl sought me and I did not have to do much work. Most women I encounter (sorry for generalization) seem to expect me to make the first moves.", "summary": "History of significant Trauma, Struggle to show a girl physically I am interested in them when first dating or meeting them."}
{"id": "t3_21mfop", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm poor and need a car, my old car is unrepairable, and I think I was swindled. Please help", "post": "To start, my car has about 180k miles on it. One day it started stalling because it couldn't idle. I took it to a local mechanic who told me I needed a new exhaust system installed for $1,500. He also ran a compression test and told me the motor was great. I paid him and it did not fix the problem, the car still stalled.\n\nI took the car to a different mechanic. They deduced that the problem was in fact the motor, and that I would basically need another motor, which would be another $2,000 that I could not afford. They discovered this using a compression test as well.\n\nSo, I'm asking for advice about what I should do. I need a car, but have about 2k total left to my name, and my income is not good, and student loans. Do I have options to actually sue the first mechanic?\n\nOtherwise, of the $1,500 I paid, $900 was for the exhaust part. Is there any way I can make this money back? Does anyone know of any resources to help me sell parts of my car that I could put towards getting another one? Thank you.", "summary": "I dumped a lot of money into a car that is not fixable and need help making some of the money back."}
{"id": "t3_2mcv3z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention while cutting my hair", "post": "I've been cutting my own hair for 7 years or so, but today is the first time I've royally fucked it up.\n\nI usually just give myself a buzzcut with a number 2 thingy on my hair clippers; my head is decently shaped, so it really suits me. Today, I accidentally did it with a number 1 though.\n\nI was about to have a shower, and I hadn't done my hair for about 3 weeks. So I put the plastic guide thingy on my clippers and cut a line right down the centre of my head. It had way more resistance than usual, so I looked in the mirror. And i could see my scalp.\n\nAfter a short freak out, I realised what the problem was. I tried doing it with the number 2, but I still had a huge patch of scalp across the front. In the end I just ended up doing my whole damn head, and it doesn't look awful... But I have resting thug face, and now I look like a South Central vato about to steal your shit (or sell you a gun) out of a bouncing Lowrider.\n\nWhat's worse is that I live in Australia; it's nearly summer, and I can feel my scalp burning.", "summary": "I wasn't paying attention and now I'm gonna save money on shampoo."}
{"id": "t3_3kcr6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/M] sort of friendzoned this girl [16/F] and need some help remedying the situation", "post": "So here's the situation:\n\nLast spring, my crush (at the time)'s best friend gave me her number. We chatted about school and life, but never expressed any feelings for one another, although did talk about past relationships. She was aware that I had a crush on her best friend, and was actually cool enough to help me out with her. I never did ask the my then-crush out though, mostly just because I was too nervous.\n\nFast forward to this fall, and the situation is still the same. This girl and I chat often, and she's trying to help me out with my crush. However, as the school year goes on, I realize that I don't really like my crush anymore - I begin to see that she is shallow and somewhat unkind. On the other hand, I realize that I have feelings for this girl that I've been talking to since last spring about another girl.\n\nHow do I turn this situation around? This girl still thinks that I'm infatuated with her best friend, and I haven't given any indication of anything else to her. We've talked about all sorts of personal stuff, and I just feel weird turning to a person with whom one of the primary focuses of our relationship was setting me up with someone else. After that, will she feel that she's only an afterthought to another attraction? She probably thinks that I see her as just a friend and feels that I'm just a friend to her too. How do I tell her how I feel?", "summary": "I now like this girl who thinks of me as a friend and tried to hook me up with her friend after months of just friendship, and want to turn the situation around."}
{"id": "t3_3ppgf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] feel like i dont deserve my boyfriend [21 M] of 4 months. I am a nymphomaniac with depression and anxiety.", "post": "I have never cheated on my boyfriend and never would (for the people who judge nymphos). My SO has depression and anxiety as well and recently hes been having break downs. But i dont know how to deal with this because im not well myself. I love him so much and feel so guilty when i imagine myself free and single as a nymphomaniac. Its not because im not happy with him its because im struggling to be well in regards to depression and it sets off my feelings of self loathing. Has anyone got any tips on how they help thier depression in relationships?", "summary": "feel guilty for being a nympho. Found the man i want to spend the rest of my life with but im suffering with depression"}
{"id": "t3_2rwhcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with boyfriend [22M] 9 months, am I wrong to be upset?", "post": "Sorry if this sounds pathetic, I just wanted a bit of perspective before I overreact and cause an argument.\n\nBasically, for the past 5 months I have lived around an hour away from my boyfriend (before that we were living in the same city). We see each other every weekend, with me traveling down to see him more often than the other way round. I'm fine with this, he lives in a nicer city and I get to visit friends.\n\nHe is in a band and has been since a year or so before we got together, it makes him really happy and that's cool. They often play gigs and I'll normally go along and watch. \n\nFor my 21st birthday, my parents said they will pay for me and him to go on holiday (this was in October). I've been waiting for him to give me dates that we can go, hopefully around March time, so I can book it and get time off work. He has come up with tonnes of dates that he is doing band stuff and still no solid date that we can go anywhere. I also asked if we could put a bit of extra money towards what my parents offered so we could go somewhere nicer, and he said he can't afford it which is fine.\n\nThis brings me to my problem: he just dropped it on me that he is going to be paying \u00a3600 to record some songs with his band in March time. I'm pretty upset by this, as it seems that the band is clearly his priority and that he can't be bothered with this holiday. The only other issue I've really had is that he didn't get me a birthday present and I know that I can be difficult to choose things for and he didn't have much money at the time so I let it go.\n\nAm I wrong to be upset? I don't want him to stop being in a band because it makes him really happy and I enjoy going to see them play, but it seems a bit worrying that he can drop this much money on something when he 'has no money' etc.\n\nSorry for the tonne of text!", "summary": "boyfriend said he has no extra money to put towards a holiday that my parents are paying for, but has just announced that he is spending \u00a3600 on recording for his band. Should I be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_16o2iy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What's the Best Way to Break News to Someone that You Know Will Upset Them?", "post": "Curious what techniques everyone uses. If it makes my question any more worthwhile, I'll post why I'm asking. \n\nI've been living at home with my parents for about 6 months, and have been living rent free. I moved home straight out of college, and got offered a job at the first interview I went to, and accepted. I've been stashing money away, which is why my parents are letting me live for free. \n\nHowever, I have a sales job, and with it, comes commission checks. I have been saving those checks separately, along with the extra money I made from working tons of OT, to buy a motorcycle. I've had one before, sold it at the end of college because I needed the cash, and said I would get another one soon. \n\nAnyway, I bought a bike, have paid for it all with cash, and just need to pick it up. \n\nHow do I tell my parents that I bought it, in a manner that will upset them the least?", "summary": "moocher son buys motorcycle, reddit makes scumbag Steve jokes."}
{"id": "t3_287zfa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My[25F] SO is going to be gone again after being way for 5 weeks.", "post": "I[25M] have been seeing my SO[25F] for about 2 years now. She recently got a job where she works off-shore for 5 weeks and gets 5 weeks off. We were both excited that she will be back for 5 weeks as of Tuesday this week. She recently texts me that she will be going back home to her parents place(6 hours away) to work for them for a bit ASAP as of Thursday of same week. That means she will be gone again for at least a month I'm assuming. Then before you know she will be off-shore again.\n\nMy questions is: How is this fair to me? I'm not really the type to wait around for people. In the past - if a girl was going away for more than a month I would break it off with them on good terms and tell them it just didn't work maybe another place, another time. This one is  'kinda' special, but this just seems like we won't be seeing each other for a very long time and I just can't. I don't want to waste my summer like this waiting for her. Should I bring this up to her?", "summary": "she was just off-shore for 5 weeks, now she's going to be gone working for her parents for another month+. If she really cared about this relationship wouldn't she make some effort to spend time on it? I dunno.."}
{"id": "t3_2zxvn5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend (19F) broke up with me (22M) of 1.5 years last Sunday after a heated argument. Still talk a lot and not much has changed other then not seeing each other.", "post": "We started talking the day of again that night, but she still wants to talk to me and doesn't want to lose me.  She states she needs time and doesn't know how long it will be but just needs a friend right now and too take time.  I graduate in May and I believe that may be the time she is aiming for because that will take the long distance strain from us when I move back home.  I know that may not be that long but just this week is killing me. \n\nTo add more we talk as if we are still together; love you, babe, gorgeous etc.  Also she really likes to talk about our future and things we want to do together.  Also I brought up a movie that comes out next month she wants to see and said she would see it with me.  Then other times she gets upset and states that I am pushing her and not giving her the time she needs.  She does not like too hear serious talk and says she wants a friend to talk to, but on the other hand we talk about things that friends wouldn't talk about.   Its just hard for me to talk this way and her say she misses me and then not want to.  \n\nI stupidly asked if I could come see her today and she got upset again saying I was pushing so fast, but its hard not to think its ok by the way we talk.  \n\nAlso I know she hasn't found someone else or trying to find someone else, I trust her on that and I know how she is.  I would just really know if someone could give me a inside look of what may be going on and what time of time frame she is looking at.  \n\nPLEASE ADVISE", "summary": "Girlfriend broke things off, still wants to talk a lot but doesn't want to get back together right now.  Overall really confusing for me."}
{"id": "t3_2f7uhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) am not sure if I'm in a relationship or not with (37m)", "post": "We met on okcupid and it's been two months of hanging out/fucking on the weekends. Anytime I ask him to do anything outside of that he says he really wants to but comes up with an excuse last minute. I recently went on okc and saw that he has been going on a lot. I confronted him about it and he said he just likes going on there sometimes to look at people or read crazy messages but he's not looking for anyone else. The rational part of me knows that's bs and he is likely looking for someone better but I also cling to things like the fact that he's the one to text me everyday, and two weeks into seeing him he asked me to be his gf (I turned him down). We have fun when were together but it doesn't feel like a real relationship bc we don't really talk about anything substantial it's mostly joking and fucking. Also I'm fat so part of me feels he just likes having sex but wouldn't want to bring me around his friends etc. also he lives with his mother and seems perfectly content with it (he makes good money and could move out) when I asked him about it he brought up moving to my town and how he already looked up the commute for work. I want to be closer with him mentally but i feel like we just skipped that part and went straight to sex. So I'm just confused how do I figure out what he wants without sounding insane?", "summary": "I don't know if I'm in a relationship or not."}
{"id": "t3_5132co", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my ex [42M] 4.5yrs, broken up for 4 months but he wont leave me alone!", "post": "So 4 months ago I split with my ex. We were together for 4.5 years but the relationship just wasn't working. He had major control and trust issues that lead to the demise of the relationship. I was getting and still am some day's 50+ phone calls a day. \n\nI ended up getting an AVO as the phone calls were just crazy and he was scaring my daughter (not his). Well he has breached the AVO many times. The other weekend (Sat night) he was following me around the local pubs. He was so drunk he could hardly walk. Well I got into one pub and he couldn't. From what I have been told he tripped and fell and smashed his head into a bench outside of the pub. I was unaware any of this happened and continued on my night out. \n\nI went to the police station the next day as I had enough of the phone calls and texting. Reported him for breaching the AVO and gave a statement to the police. \n\nMonday morning I get a text from him to tell me they were flying him to a major hospital as he had bleeding on the brain. To be honest I kinda blew it off, as by this point I had been told so many lies it was/is had to tell what is truth and what isn't. Well he wasn't lying, I am still not sure if he is in hospital or not.", "summary": "Basically I am asking how can I get him to leave me alone? I have already had 27 phone calls today and it is really beginning to take a toll on me. The cops can't do anything as he is in hospital still. I have tried asking him to stop. I have tried ignoring him. None of it is working. I just want to move on with my life"}
{"id": "t3_2df0ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18M Looking for a bit of advice with expressing my feelings", "post": "Alright, I haven't posted on here before but I've been looking at some posts and figured you guys would know best.\n\nI've been \"seeing\" this girl for a few weeks now, I text and talk to her regularly and we've had dinner a few times and a double date with my friend and his girlfriend which also happens to be a friend of this girl. Everything seems to be going great but I'm not sure if me and her are on the same page. I really like hanging out with her and talking to her and the feeling seems to be mutual. But I'm not sure if she sees me as someone who she could have a potential relationship with.\n\nI'm trying to feel it out and see if she wants something too but I just figure it out. I'm wondering if it would be a good idea to talk to her in person and just lay my feelings out there. It's been eating at me trying to figure out whether or not she would want to pursue something further. I'm not new to rejection so it wouldn't be crushing if she said no or wanted to stay friends. I guess what I'm trying to ask everyone is would it be a good idea to just tell her how I feel so I'm not wasting any more energy or nervousness wondering if she wants to pursue this.\n\nShould I just take her to lunch and tell her how I feel? I mean just tell her I really like talking to her and hanging out with her. I also don't want it to ruin any possible friendship we could have. I just don't want to keep dragging this out longer than it should be.\n\nI know this is really vague and shitty but I'm going a little crazy trying to think things through. I'm new to all this dating stuff and wanted some advice.", "summary": "Need advice on how to explain feelings to girl and figure out if feelings are mutual."}
{"id": "t3_ce1zg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a Summer Job: Cooking with No Training?", "post": "Currently I am a college student going to the University of North Texas and I have been trying to find a summer job for the past few weeks. Ive put in applications to the usual places such as Best Buy and Walmart but so far no luck with those. So the other day I decided to put in an application for Albertsons and noticed that I could apply to work in their bakery. \n\nPart of me has always loved cooking. When I was a kid I thought of becoming a chef and I am always watching cooking shows and trying to make new things. \n\nAnyways so far it seems that I probably wont be getting that job but I was wondering if any redditors have been in my situation and have found a job cooking where they train you on the job. Or if anyone has any suggestions of how to do this.\n\nP.S. Im currently a BCIS Major.", "summary": "Any ideas of how to find a job cooking as a college student with no formal training."}
{"id": "t3_4c27ea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have just lost my virginitiy with my girlfriend [22F], but the condom split. Have used pill immediately but we are both terrified... Help?", "post": "I have been doing a masters degree for the last six months, and have met the girl of my dreams. Our relationship started very shortly after the start of the course, so we have been seeing each other for the past 5 and a bit months or so. We are both quiet, hard-working science students and until meeting each other have focussed on work rather than seeking a relationship. After going out for a pretty much perfect day yesterday in the local city we headed back to hers, and ended up giving each other our virginities.  \n  \nWe used extra thick condoms because we wanted to be safe, but after being together to our horror we have found that it has split.  Neither of us have had any sleep, but a few hours ago she took the pill as soon as the pharmacy opened, 8 hours after the failure.  \n  \nShe is 26 days into her cycle and has had regular cycles for the past 4 months but we are worried that the stress of the end of this terms course (she has anxiety) has meant that ovulation is delayed, and so there is a risk of pregnancy. What do we do? Is there anything we can do? Part is the problem she is travelling 12 hours on a train today to go back to see her parents for Easter, so we had to act quickly so she didn't miss her train, otherwise we were considering the IUD.", "summary": "We lost our virginities last night but the condom split, she has taken pill but has had to travel on the train today back to her home which is twelve hours away. She is 25 days into her period, the first day of this cycle being on the first of this month. Is there anything else we can do? We are both terrified."}
{"id": "t3_4hkpcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my two best friends [17F] and [18F]. They have been dating for over a year and are going to break up soon. It's having a bigger impact on me than I let on, how do I deal with that while both being there for both of them?", "post": "My two best friends and I started becoming good friends around January of last year. They started dating each other at the beginning of February, so their relationship has always been an aspect of our friendship. One of them (18F) is in college, and the other (17F) and I are still in high school. I have individual friendships with both of them which I'm not worried about, but our friendship as a trio is also very very important to me. We have a long to do list for this summer, including baking and camping and hiking, and I don't want to lose all the plans we had.\n\nI don't think the two of them will stop being friends, the one still in high school (who is doing the breaking up) said that \"it needs to be a healthy friendship and then we can try and have a healthy relationship\" which gave me hope. Even so, I'm expecting it to be very difficult for them to be around each other, so the three of us may not spend as much time together.\n\nHow can I work to keep friendship between the three of us while also making sure that I support both of them through the breakup and what follows? Obviously I don't want to try and force them to spend time together if they don't want to, but I don't want to let this friendship just die.\n\nI also don't really want to talk too much to them about this, because they'll both be emotionally stressed enough without having to worry about me. It feels selfish to be worrying about our friendship when I know they're breaking up...", "summary": "My two best friends started dating around the time that all three of us began being friends. Now that they're breaking up, I'm afraid that the friendship between the three of us will fall apart as well. How can I try and keep it together?"}
{"id": "t3_q9l3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I fix my relationship back up?", "post": "I've been seeing this amazing girl for about 5 months now, (I'm 17, shes 18, 10 months older, not official yet) and we met when she still had a boyfriend which she continuously was trying to dump before I even met her we fell in love and I kinda gave her the final push to do it. We're both high school seniors, she's much more experienced with dating (I am more sexually), and has been in 2 1 year+ relationships. She's a very social girl, but thats a given considering shes an Aquarius. I'm a Capricorn and can be quite stubborn at times, she has her pride issues I have that.\n\nPretty much, when we're good we're absolutely amazing. We're unstoppable, love each other so much and really care for each other. However... when we're bad, things get reaaally ugly. Like I said before I'm a pretty stubborn guy and shes got her pride. \n\nEver we hit the 3 month mark, we've been getting in more and more fights, but they're all completely stupid and pointless and arouse from nothing, we both agreed that many of them could have been avoided as we both tend to overthink things completely and create problems in our head that don't actually exist(mostly me but she does it too). I think our main issue is our communication and the fact that we both come into this relationship with trust issues as we've both been pretty much cheated on before. I have a hard time opening up about issues that I have and letting her know, which I really need to work on.\n\nTHE MAIN ISSUE: We got in a huge fight the other day and almost broke up. She said I've stopped caring and I don't put in any effort into our relationship anymore. The thing is, I literally have no idea how. When she isn't being affectionate or very caring I tend to get upset and go back to my mancave, I get pretty de-motivated. I told her I've been stressing hard recently with school, my parents and her and it's hard some days to keep going forward.", "summary": "Now, what I wanna learn is how I can start being the great guy she fell in love with again. I want to learn how to be a great boyfriend because things are pretty serious and we'll soon be moving from the dating stage to an actual relationship (I think). I will gladly accept any advice, sources(books, articles etc.) as I REALLY want to make things work with her, we most definitely have long term potential and I love her so much. I'm a pretty logical guy, I think one of the problems I have is I try and figure out everything with my brain instead of listening to my heart. How did you guys learn to be good boyfriends and do all these little things? It almost feels like I grew up without ever learning any of this and I feel inadequate(but up for the challenge)"}
{"id": "t3_pcyf6", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex and 'Friend'", "post": "Hi guys!\n\nSo I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years about a month ago. The main reason was that I was going studying abroad and she wasn't supportive of me at all. Also we wouldn't see each other for a year at least as she was going travelling too. Basically she made me feel crappy for taking this study opportunity and as we are both quite young (21) I thought we could do with some time apart. We left it on ok terms and decided maybe after some time we could get back in contact/be friends.\n\nAnyway her 21st birthday was at the weekend and my best friend was at the party (Mutual friends). He told me that another mutual friend who I've known for about 7 years hooked up with my ex.\n\nNow I was trying accepting the fact that we would be moving on and meeting other people but I never expected this! I knew she would be getting with other guys but I never thought it would be my friend!\n\nI basically emailed them and told them that I thought the 2 of them would have had a bit more respect for me and a bit more class. I also told them I wanted to completely cut contact.\n\nSo guys I have 2 questions:\n\n1) Did I over react? I mean technically they are both single and can do what they want. Personally though I would never get with a friends ex just out of respect. I mean if I got with any of her friends I would feel awful and probably be ostracised by our mutual friends! Double standards?\n\n2) How do I get over this and move on as quick as possible?\n\nThanks guys", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of 4 years about a month ago and she hooked up with my friend of 7 years at the weekend. Don't know how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_l4jts", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How do I start getting used to the idea of solo travel?", "post": "I'm a (female, American) college student who hasn't had any experience doing solo travel and I want to start figuring out where to start. I live in the northeastern US so while there are a ton of options for weekend trips around here (NYC, Montreal, Boston, and Niagara Falls jump to mind) I'm not sure where to start. I don't have a ton of money right now (hooray college!) and I have school and work during the week so I'm limited with budget stuff and scheduling right now, but that's okay because I'm honestly too scared to just go somewhere really far away for a week or whatever right now. I have traveled before (been to Europe a couple of times and spent time in China last winter as well as been to various places in the US and eastern Canada) but I was always with family or a big group so I never had to do any of the planning. I also have diabetes which makes travel a little difficult because I have to plan in advance so that I can take enough medical supplies with me (so I'm not trying to get into any sort of nomadic lifestyle). Does anyone have any tips on where I should begin? Articles to read? Websites to check out? Personal stories to share?", "summary": "How did you start getting into solo travel? How do you plan it? Do you have any advice for a sheltered American college student?"}
{"id": "t3_2zpvx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] found sketchy history on my boyfriends [22m] computer", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have kind of always had a rocky relationship. We've been dating for over a year and although we both say we love each other, he will sometimes do things that lead me to believe otherwise. \n\nYesterday, I was using his laptop to email something or whatever and I quickly looked at his browser history because he has had, in the past, some sketchy things like dating profiles, etc.\n\nSo as I was looking, I noticed that 2 days ago he had gone on craigslist looking for \"w4m\" or whatever and \"milf looking for young boy\" there were other sexual ones too. Creepy things like that, definitely not appropriate for someone in a relationship to be looking at. \n\nHe's done this before and when I had confronted him he got extremely pissed that I looked at his search history. Which is completely understanding, but with his past of doing sketchy things behind my back I felt like I had a valid reason.\n\nHe told me he goes on those craigslist encounters because he thinks they're funny to look at and \"he saw it on reddit\". I called him out on his bs and he kinda brushed it off and got mad at me for going through his history.\n\nSo I guess I'm just asking for advice on what I should do. Part of me feels like I'm over reacting because i don't know if he's actually met up with anyone. But the other part is hurt because I don't understand why he needs to look this up on craigslist.", "summary": "boyfriend goes on craigslist looking for meetups"}
{"id": "t3_1vu836", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I made a huge mistake and I lost a friend", "post": "I met a girl at school and we quickly became friends because we had a lot of similarities. She had a boyfriend at that time so I wasn't trying to start anything, but I remained friends with her.\n\nOne day she told me that she wanted me to meet her boyfriend but he was in college so she said she will show me his photos on Facebook(I don't have Facebook). She lost her phone a few weeks prior so she asked me if she could take my phone and log into her Facebook. I obliged. She isn't very good with tech stuff so she forgot to log out. I forgot about it too.\n\nLater that night I got a Facebook notification on my phone then I remembered that she forgot to log out from her Facebook. I did not think too much about it and simply logged out.\nHere is where I fucked up. I got the sudden urge to check her Facebook again and maybe snoop around a bit. Fucked up, I know. So I asked her for her password and said that the app that I use asks for password when logging out(remember she isn't very tech savvy). She happily gave it to me. Man, I feel so bad. I checked her Facebook now and then for a week. Then one day I couldn't log in. In school she accused me of changing the password. But I said I didn't changed it. This was the right time to tell her the truth but I didnt. Few days later she tells me that she talked to her boyfriend and he thinks I changed the password. Now she won't talk to me. \nI know this is 100% my fault and regret it. But I can't do anything but take the blame of changing her password. The thing is I am too much of a pussy to tell her the truth that I used her Facebook. I am graduating in a few weeks and I may never see her again. But the guilt is killing me.", "summary": "Misused a friend's Facebook. Someone changed her password and she thinks I did it. I am too pussy to admit that I misused her account. She won't talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_lwz8w", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Went on a date yesterday and felt guilty the whole time.", "post": "My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. It's been a hard time but I'm starting to feel myself again. I am still in contact with him, but we are keeping it friendly and platonic. \n\nLast week, I met a really great guy and we got to talking. We got along instantly, and he asked me out. Last night he made me dinner, things were going great, but then he kissed me. I felt so overcome with guilt and sadness.\n\nI know I'm not in a relationship with my ex anymore, but it felt as though I was cheating. I might (don't yell at me for this) be holding on to a tiny bit of hope that me and my ex will get back together eventually.\n\nIs it too soon to be dating? Should I stop seeing this new guy even though he's amazing? I'm most definitely not over my ex yet. Do I have to tell him about this new guy? I really don't want to hurt anybody. \n\nVery confused!!", "summary": "Ex dumped me three weeks ago, I went on a date with a new, really great guy and felt completely guilty the whole time!"}
{"id": "t3_l5wfz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the weirdest/shocking/disturbing dream you've had?", "post": "I guess you could call them nightmares instead. Just wanted to bring this up due to a very unique dream I haven't experienced before that I had only two days ago. \n\nBasically, I was living in a post-apocalyptic zombie infested world. It sounds silly as first, but the zombies weren't the typical brain-eating, wobbly-legged creatures some expect. They just swiftly sought people out and killed them. I don't remember much about my dream, but I believe most of my family was dead, and I was somewhat relieved that they were so they wouldn't have to suffer, but that wasn't the thing that bothered me the most. Later on in my dream, I just knew I was scared and tired of trying to survive and escape, so I tried to kill myself. Who the hell knows why, but I tried slitting my wrists. It was horrible because I didn't wake up when I was slashing myself. I saw the blood spilling down my wrists and everything, but I didn't die or wake up. Flash forward a little bit and I try to kill myself again, but this time by jumping out of a building. Not sure what floor I was on, though I'm sure it wasn't too high. I didn't die or wake up again. I just saw myself bent up in this horrible position on the ground, hoping no zombies would come and that was the end of the dream.", "summary": "I kill myself twice in a dream, but don't wake up. Glad I didn't feel the pain."}
{"id": "t3_4u8f6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] think I still love my ex [23F] after she broke my heart several times.", "post": "I just can't help it. After 3 years apart, I still think / dream of her at times, and when I saw her yesterday with her boyfriend of 2 years, I felt so sad and lonely. Sometimes when we meet coincidentally, she tells me that she still loves and misses me, which I stupidly believe, and although it might be true, I don't think I can ever be with her after our history, even though I want her.\n\nYesterday, I just wanted to be with her, but when I was, I just wanted to go away. It's a recurring cycle and it's tearing me apart. I tried dating another girl, eventhough I didn't really like her. I just feel really tired of trying to forget her and feel better about myself. I'm really tired.", "summary": "still love ex after 3 yrs apart. Can't forget her."}
{"id": "t3_30nwdb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) reacted horribly when I opened up to my girlfriend (18f) and don't know what do next.", "post": "Preface: I've moved every year or so during my childhood, tending to push people away from me and keeping people at a distance. My (ex?)girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. We are leaving for separate colleges in 3 months and had planned on maintaining a long distance relationship.\n\nWithout realizing it, I allowed my girlfriend inside all of my emotional walls last Saturday by telling her some very personal things about me. She reacted in the best way I could hope for; she said she'll stay with me no matter what because we're looking at the big picture. I, on the other hand, had a very negative reaction to the events. My emotions seemed to run away, leaving me in a fugue-like state. Over the course of 3 days I pushed her away without consciously realizing what was happening. It went so far and blew up out of proportion through me creating lies to push her even further. I told her I thought I might be gay and had cheated on her with men (which couldn't be further from the truth). We broke up because she thought I was gay and needed to find myself, we were not leaving on bad terms. \n\nIt was at this point I began to realize what had happened, and the emotions I had been without for days at this point came rushing back. I told her everything and the truth, and said she needed time to think. So here I am, I don't know what the best course is at this point. Is the trust lost forever? Is this salvageable?", "summary": "wasn't ready to open up, and it went south"}
{"id": "t3_t5svu", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need tips to give my friends tonight who are going to help socialize my dog at 8pm EST...details inside", "post": "So, I've had my dog P-Nut since he was 8 weeks old. I'm just going to put this out in the open...yes, I bought him from a local store...on impulse...nearly a year ago...HOWEVER I have learned my lesson...I love my dog, he was only 100 bucks (cost of shots) and I am DEFINITELY in it to win it. He's a lab/shar-pei mix and I'm pretty sure he was weened to early when he was a puppy. He's always been anxious and rowdy. \n\nWe started doing things the wrong way out of ignorance. Someone gave me Caesar's book and I started with Dominance training...WRONG MOVE.\n\nLong story short, we're back tracking and trying to develop positive reinforcers with clicker training. When It's just me and my husband inside he's great. Sit, lay down, roll over, drop it (well, drop it most of the time), but when people are around he just wants to jump on EVERYONE. \n\nI've already signed up for an obedience class, which i'm SUPER stoked about but I'd love to start laying a good foundation before the class starts.\n\nTwo of my friends are coming over and I've recruited them for socialization training. \n\nI told them NOT to acknowledge the dog, or correct the dog, when he's jumping up and down and freaking out in the kennel. As soon as he's calm I am going to put him on a lead and affix him to a door and repeat the process. Clicker when his feet are on the ground and when he's calm. I've instructed my friends to only address him when he's calm quiet and collected....and that tonight they will only give him treats, not pet him because I'm pretty sure that might over excite him.\n\nIs there anything else I should tell them? Anything else I should do? I love my lil' nut SO MUCH and I know that he has what it takes to be a good dog!", "summary": "Trying to socialize my nutty bouncy anxty dog tonight with friends and would like some pointers!"}
{"id": "t3_30iauy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting more karma than my GF.", "post": "My gf has been a redditor for over a year now and she is always bragging about how much karma she has. I on the other would never post much on reddit. But recently I decided to start posting and see what the fuzz is all about. Well it turns out that I ended up surpassing her karma.\n\nShe was studying silently at some local starbucks just minding her own business. I thought it would be a great time to shove my karma on her face.\nI have never been so wrong in my life. \nShe started flipping s*** and ended up publicly dumping my sorry ass.", "summary": "I got more karma than my GF and ended up getting publically humiliated and dumped."}
{"id": "t3_2f04yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m20] need help with my gf [24], I think she has a lurker.", "post": "Hey so not really sure where to ask or post or to even tag etc. But basically I've been in a relationship for about 5 months but recently we had an argument, I've been suffering from severe depression, if I'm not working I'm at a councillor or a group thing, it leaves little time for us but we've been trying and its beginning to turn around. However she has had a guy who has had a crush on her for a long time. At first I didn't feel threatens he works in the same company but a different store from us, and he visits her every day his friend who she works with has been dropping hints about how much he likes her and how good they'd be together. We broke up for about two days and in that space of time he tried a move that didn't work, the immature me would like to kick him around the street but I'm trying to be grown up, my gf says I've nothing to worry about, but with the depression and everything else its really beginning to bring me down and get at me. So is there anyway I can deal with this without upsetting everyone? Please help.", "summary": "GF has a guy who constantly tries to sleep with her but is a harmless tool."}
{"id": "t3_1rl590", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[21 M] unsure if I am coming across as needy to woman I've been dating[34 F] for the past month.", "post": "To those of you who are older and have had relationships with younger men.\n\nI'm currently seeing someone who is older than me (by around 13 years) and while her sex drive matches mine, I am used to more talkative women or those who are spontaneously up for activities like watching a movie. I am not so talkative myself, but I've developed a tendency to continuously maintain contact via text and other means of communication since I am used to that being a requirement in most relationships I form.\n\nI can't help but feel that in this case\u2026 that might not be the best idea. I am constantly sending texts out of habit and getting a slower response time (around 30 mins to several hours) per text. When we are together we are fervently on each other and adore each other's company and conversation, but when it comes to texting things seem a bit slow. This is mainly on texts outside of her work schedule.\n\nPast experiences have usually tied this with ominous news... but it always ends up being harmless with this relationship.\n\nAm I just being too needy or is this just bad habituation?", "summary": "Woman I'm dating takes a while to respond to texts, not sure if I'm coming across as needy."}
{"id": "t3_2c79nn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my bf [23M] 2yr, my bf's step dad peeks at me a lot & i told him", "post": "I've been dating my current bf for about 2 years and ever since we started dating his step dad has acted like a creeper.  He's always just sitting close to me and looking at me and putting his had on my leg.  Recently I told my bf about it and I don't know why but he seems to be amused by it.  Sometimes when I'm in the shower at their house he'll just open the door or leave it cracked, or one time I was sleeping with him and he took my shirt off, then pulled the covers down so i was exposed.  I didn't realize it but while i was sleeping he opened the door and left it wide open all night, i woke up and saw it but had no idea how long it'd been open.  More things have happened like that, but it's kinda crazy to me and I don't know what to think.  The bad thing is that part of me kind of gets a bit excited and i don't know if that's totally weird or not.", "summary": "bf this it's funny that his step dad is into me, is that just a guy thing?"}
{"id": "t3_17lhut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20]M and her 20[F] had a talk and \"removed labels\" from our relationship. She is curious what being single is like; I am heartbroken", "post": "We have been going out for 4 months, moved pretty fast. I am deeply in love with her and she is in love with me. I have treated her like a princess and she has returned the favors. The sex is amazing and passionate, our personalities just \"click\". Last night we both just sat and cried though because something felt wrong- she felt like she couldn't reciprocate the good deeds I did for her and said things like \"I am too good for her\" and \"I need time\".\n\nShe previously has said to me that I am her whole world, that I am all she thinks about, and that we are the best part of eachothers day. This has come as a complete shock to me and I have no idea what to do. We are officially not boyfriend/girlfriend but the status is strange- I know she needs space but I texted her a little bit too much today and kind of seemed crazy (which I am not crazy, I am just hurt).\n\nWhat should I do? I know I can salvage this; I just don't know what to say. Do I just say nothing and give her complete space? Give her a few days? Did I already ruin it by sending her so many texts today? I asked to come talk to her again today and she said she \"just can't see me\". What is this? I can't think of a situation where I wouldn't be able to see her unless she like did something to really piss me off like cheat on me or something.", "summary": "M and F [20] perfect for eachother, great relationship, but out of nowhere it just ended and we are both lost and confused. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_25kcel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance relationship advice needed.", "post": "This girl 18(f) and I 18(m) met at this convention. It ended up me getting her facebook and we were just compatible. We clicked. We talked everyday for 9 month. Skyped atleast 4 hours everyday.\n\n She ended up kissing a guy and she told me it was then she knew how much I meant to her. But she also told me it didn't matter because we weren't together.  I was hurt but I also understood.\n\n I didn't know what to do. So I just asked her to be my girlfriend so we could be monogamous. I drove 10 hours To see her. We kept talking. We kept liking eachother. Then 3 months later she hung out with the guy who she kissed alone. She didn't tell me. And he tried to kiss her again. She is really flirty. And she declined. Am I wrong to be hurt that she didn't tell me that she was hanging out with him alone? I wouldn't have cared if she just told me. She is also going to prom with a group that she and he is a part of.", "summary": "I'm scared I might be wasting my time and effort."}
{"id": "t3_32zskx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I [23F] avoid getting snappy at my tech-challenged mother [62F]?", "post": "My mother is tech challenged, and it gets on my nerves. The thing is that she worked on computers for years (using a very specific software that ran on Windows XP [or older] computers), but now she seems almost afraid to do anything new with them. She has a laptop she uses daily to look up recipes, do online banking (including managing her investment portfolio),  and Skype family. But if she needs to do something new or remotely scary, she calls me up and asks for help (I've set up a remote desktop connection I can access from my phone or computer, so I can always see what she's seeing since she has a habit of reading the entirety of a window from top to bottom, and I get the gist better looking at it).\n\nI know part of the issue on my end is that I don't like being pulled out of something into another task. It can be as simple as a video game or studying for an exam, or as involved as a romantic anniversary trip with my partner. These calls need immediate or near-immediate (\"Honey, you know you can always call me back in 15-30 minutes if you need to finish doing something first!\") attention, and I'm pulled completely off my initial task.\n\nThen while helping her through it, I get easily exasperated because I'm two steps ahead of where she is in comprehending the situation. I know I need to have more patience, but I mostly want to get back to what I was doing and want to deal with the issue quickly. I know she wants to learn, and eventually does if the task is performed commonly enough (printing a document, for example), but she is still afraid of messing something up most of the time she calls me. For example, she can run a virus scan, but freaks out and asks what to do once it finishes, even if the report is clean. \n\nI don't know if I gave you enough info, so feel free to ask if you want more. Overall, I know its my issue, and it is taking a toll on my relationship with my mother because she feels bad for pestering me (I don't exactly hide my annoyance well).", "summary": "I get annoyed that my mom calls me for help while I'm in the middle of things and I want to be nicer to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_2offqw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting in the car with a stressed teenager", "post": "I'm shaking as I type this. I'm still scared, even though I'm at home, where it's perfectly safe.\n\nThis was foreshadowed by a college visit. When trying to turn around in a stressful situation where another car was fast-approaching, she screamed at the back seat passengers to \"shut the fuck up.\"\n\nWe were driving through a crowded city, trying to find parking so we could walk through and window shop. We turn in to a lot, and that's where the screaming begins. Earlier in the day, she had threatened to punch me for doing silly things, like a too-high voice, etc. Perfectly reasonable.\n\nWhen we got into the lot, we couldn't find a spot, and got kind of chatty. She once again told everyone to \"SHUT THE FUCK UP!\" She screamed it this time, at the top of her lungs. My heart felt heavy, but she was my ride, so I couldn't criticize. \n\nIf I have 100 parallel lives, I'm pretty sure I got out of the car and called my busy parents in at least half of them.\n\nWhen we were trying to get out of the lot, she screamed that if \"laugh[ed] one more time [she'd] fucking punch [me]!\" I'm a nervous laugher, and I'm pretty sure she knows that. She flipped off a lady who had her kid in the passenger seat. She drove over the curb instead of waiting, and kept screaming at us. My stomach tied into a knot. I think this was the point in my life where I felt the most unsafe.\n\nMy friends acted like it was a reasonable response - is it? I feel like this is going to impede my learning-how-to-drive stage. I'm going to throw up.\n\nI've been chased by drunks, but this still took the cake.", "summary": "Friend needs anger management. I need a hug. Also drive safe."}
{"id": "t3_tfmri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I get a massage from two lady friends to experiment options after relationship?", "post": "My gf and I went on a break becuase i was having a tough week with finals. She's 17 and i'm 19. I needed the time. She broke up with me during that and sexted with another dude. Not soon after that she realized that she made a huge mistake and wanted me back. Right now she's begging for me back, and wanting to do anything for my love. In the three years that we've been together, we've had a couple break ups, she's been with about 3 other dudes in text (sexting) and 1 dude in person. I have been with her and only her even between the break ups. I dont want to hurt any girl by using them as a rebound, so in a way i dont believe in them. I believe in suffering and getting over someone through counseling and friends. Not rebound sex, weed, and alcohol.\nNow she's begging for me back. \n\nThis last time kinda pissed me off though. throwing away almost 4 years over a little break for school? It wasn't a fling thing, she made it clear to me at the time that she was done and that she wanted someone else. She says that she does this cuz she felt no love through the break, well duh, we were on a break. So she looked for it in a place she knew she could get it, a scumbag dirty dating site.\n\nAnyway.. some of my lady friends want to give me a massage and give me a spa day and totally treat me \"like i deserve to be treated\". They are friends, but they aren't afraid to be extra friendly.. I dont feel comfortable with it cuz i still have feelings for my ex and with her begging for me and all. But I need to show her that i'm done standing by and being loyal even when i dont have to be.\nWhat should i do? Keep being the nice guy? or get into a situation that might get a little heated?", "summary": "Ex sexted with some asshole, ex is running back to me. I have been loyal for almost 4 years. Should i get a massage from my lady friends to show her that she doesn't control me the way she thinks she does?"}
{"id": "t3_49mkv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] am having trouble processing my past relationship with ex [28M] after finding out why we broke up", "post": "Some very brief background information, this was only my second relationship and it lasted almost 6 months before a sudden breakup.\n\nSo basically my ex and I ended our relationship a little more than a month ago.  He gave the usual cop-out excuses (not you, it's me) but we discussed things and ended things well.  But recently, about 1.5 weeks ago, I found out through friends that he had begun dating a friend of his almost immediately after we split (I'm talking a few days afterwards) and he had feelings for her throughout the time we were still dating.  Up until this point, I believed I was completely over the breakup and succeeded in moving on, but this information has made me begin questioning everything during the relationship and it feels like I'm starting from scratch and have to deal with the breakup all over again now that I know the real reason.  \n\nMy self-esteem has taken a nose-dive, and I can't stop wondering why he would have even begun dating me, who made it clear from the beginning I was looking for something serious, if he had feelings for this girl from the start.  I'm definitely not looking for advice on getting him back, since I have no interest in a person who can lie like this and break up with me so he can be free to pursue another woman.  Instead, if anyone has advice on how to let go of anger/frustration from a breakup and how to help keep away thoughts like 'I obviously did everything wrong and she must be so much better than me', I would really appreciate your thoughts.  I apologize if this comes off very teenager-like and not at all coming from a woman in her mid-20s, but this was only my second relationship and I honestly don't know how to handle things like this due to lack of experience.", "summary": "Got dumped for another girl, would like advice on processing emotions of inadequacy and betrayal"}
{"id": "t3_520pcx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Fear of my son's mother attempting to change custody due to my relationship status. TN", "post": "So I've just been awarded overnight visitation with my 6 year old son after his mother kept him away from me for two and a half years. We mediated earlier this year and we (my son and I) met twice a week for a couple hours a day to reestablish our relationship. To him it was like no time had passed, he grabbed my hand thay first day and said come on dad let's go play. I'm currently engaged to a woman that I was with before my son's mother decided to stop letting me see him. I'm afraid that now that he is staying overnight with me and I live with my fianc\u00e9e, the she is gonna attempt to take me back to court to take away what I just managed to get back. Can she do this? Would I lose my visitation again?", "summary": "just got visitation back with my son, wondering if mother can change the visitation order since I live with my fianc\u00e9e."}
{"id": "t3_3u973j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my SO [24 F] of 4 years, she is a sloppy drunk", "post": "Admittedly, we both drink more than average.  Almost every night, but only after work/school.  I only drink beer, so I can usually have quite a few before I start to feel/show it.  She drinks STRONG liquor drinks, almost straight liquor with a splash of mixer, or wine, so it doesn't take her very long to get there.  She rips through drinks quickly, too.  I've seen her polish off 1/3 handle of liquor in a few hours.\n\nWhen she is sober, she is shy and relatively quiet.  When she's drinking, she interrupts and talks over everyone.  She spills drinks all the time.  She burns holes with cigarettes and gets ash everywhere except the ashtray or out the car window.  She's always losing her belongings.  Almost every time we go out, it ends with her barely being able to walk.  I have to make her leave before either of us wants to because she falls or does something else to embarrass us.  All of our friends, mine and hers, know this about her.\n\nI love her to pieces, we rarely fight, and we want to get married some day.  We have a great relationship.  But these things are starting to get annoying.  I am afraid people are going to stop inviting us places.  I often miss out on concerts/events because she gets too drunk too early and I have to \"watch\" her or get her out of there.  She falls asleep on the couch almost every night because she doesn't know when to stop.  She has even fallen asleep on the toilet a few times.\n\nI know I have to have a conversation with her about this, otherwise I'm enabling her and it's only going to get worse.  The problem is, she is very insecure and I know she is going to hate herself and cry for days if I tell her these things.  She asks me all the time if people like her or think she's annoying, and I always tell her what she wants to hear, so as to not upset her.", "summary": "GF is a sloppy drunk and doesn't know when to cut herself off.  I worry it's starting to affect our relationship and social life.  She's too insecure for me to tell her that she's embarrassing."}
{"id": "t3_4f0t6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my gf [21F] five years+ / mental illness conflicts?", "post": "i am autistic. i have been battling with depression, anxiety, and ptsd my entire life. \n\nshe is autistic. she has been battling borderline personality disorder, anxiety, and ptsd her entire life.\n\nwe love each other. we like all the same things, we hang out well together, we have similar politics, we have great sex.\n\nbut, sometimes, i worry about the emotional part of our relationship. she's very open with her emotions and that usually results in her crying or panicking or hitting herself or doing other impulsive things with her body. she has always done this, but has only really shown me before because of her deep-seated insecurities. her responses to oversensitive behaviors ranges from screaming to crying to hitting her head on things.\n\nme, on the other hand, has very opposite things. i am hyposensitive to everything with a very slow processing speed. i need to stare and when i talk everything sounds stilted and fake. thinking about things takes time. feeling things, on the other hand, is even worse. i don't feel things besides anger, which i still capped. everything else is foreign to me. i am never relaxed, always hypervigilant, and always feeling like i need to be pressed or rolled into a box.\n\nromantically, i want to be taken care of sometimes. fucked. loved. being treated to things and given gifts and driven places and thought about. i don't feel that way. i try to do all that and more for my partner, and i love doing it, but i want my turn, too. i do my absolute hardest to accommodate my gf and everything she needs, but it feels like i'm constantly stepping on eggshells because of her. i have not been able to progress in therapy or expression of myself because of how she reacts (never badly at me, but so negatively at herself that i wind up comforting her).\n\nshe also frequently believes that she \"doesn't have it that bad\" and doesn't want to go on any medications or see a therapist. i've been trying desperately to do both of those things, but i'm also the only one who works. she's still in school. work is exhausting.", "summary": "when i am not there i am taking care of my partner instead of meeting my own needs, sensory and mentally and emotionally. how do i open up to my gf without her blowing her lid or hurting herself? how do i get my needs met without feeling guilty? am i being selfish for wanting my partner to do more for me?"}
{"id": "t3_2nbspf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [29F] was just asked to participate in what I think may be an illegal financial scheme by her friend [29F]. What would you have done?", "post": "Girlfriend (lets call her Rachel) was asked by an old friend of hers (Christine) to do her a favor. Christine is a financial planner and by all accounts a successful one. Christine asked Rachel to open a bank account in her name, saying no money would be involved, and that she just need five accounts in different names as she is \"moving segments\", whatever that means. \n\nWe both agreed this seemed unwise as its perhaps unethical or even illegal. Is she hiding earnings? Will she open a line of credit? We have no idea. \n\nRachel responded and said something to the effect of \"Im sorry I cant help but I am not comfortable having an account opened in my name, I hope you understand.\"\n\nChristine is not pleased, responded with (paraphrasing) \"theres no risk and i expected better from a friend.\"\n\nMy SO is now gutted, knows she did the right thing but cant stand hurting people, even if it is in her best interest. \n\nI guess what i'm asking is... Say something to make her feel better! We aren't being paranoid are we?", "summary": "Friend of SO may have asked her to do something illegal and is guilting her for saying no"}
{"id": "t3_1jcwg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) am having a hard time separating my desire for love and affection, with my desire for my ex-girlfriend and first love (20f).", "post": "I really don't know if this belongs here, but I'm having a hard time drawing a distinction between my ex-girlfriend and, love and affection. Being the first person to show these feelings towards me I have nothing else to go by, our relationship was riddled with holes and mistakes, and it's clear that it was never going to work, and I really don't want to be with her. But still I feel like I miss her, I feel like I need her, when really I miss love, and I need love. No matter how much I try and rationalise it in my mind, it still comes back to that. I quite literally know no different and have no other experiences to associate those feelings with.\n\nIt's really wrecking my confidence, as she's already found a new boyfriend, and they're much happier together (which I'm happy about, I don't hold any negative feelings towards them), but it's a damning reminder that there's no love, at least not the kind of love I seek.\n\nHas anyone got any advice on separating these feelings?", "summary": "Don't know the difference between love, and my relationship with my ex-girlfriend, I don't know what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_2f8ue4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (M18), her(F17) with a boyfriend but not me. I would like be her SO, im probably going hell for this", "post": "English is not my first language so please be patient with me and excuse me grammar mistakes\n\nBackground story: me and her are classmates and we work together, we both work at a restaurant where I work as a bus boy and she being a host. We knew each another over a year now and our friend relationship have gotten more in depth as days goes by. We would always go eat afterwork and have a good time together, we are both under 21 so no alcohol related, I would always make her laugh and swear to god, seeing her smile is the most beautiful things in the world. If she does not have a boyfriend, I would definitely scrap my knees for her... But I've been holding back since. She has a boyfriend they been going out for a year and her relationship with her boyfriend been doing bad lately, to the time where she question herself if she should break up with him, and she would ask me for advice via text, I been telling her to break up with him because I do not want to see her getting hurt anymore... (One time she was really disappoint at her boyfriend but still having to go work while being upsad, so I decide to buy her some flowers and a drink to cheer her up, that day was also Chinese valentines day) She's too afraid of losing this \"boyfriend\" since she got used to it, and afraid to change. \n     I don't know what to do anymore, we are both seniors in high school and she is moving to mainland (we live in Hawaii ) for college. Right now i would go to her house every Thursday for SAT tutoring, for return home together when she going work (work and my house is close by) \n\nshould I keep going for her or should I just stop since we are graduating soon? Does she notice me liking her? Prom is coming up and I really want to ask her to be my date, but since she has a boyfriend, that's a whole different story, should I ask her? Or would it be too awkward to do so?   Once again sorry for my horrible English... Thank you :)", "summary": "how should I continue my \"relationship\" with her when she have a boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_3dpbfv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am not interested in sex with my SO [24M] anymore after a fight.", "post": "A couple of weeks ago my SO failed to pull out during sex. While the withdrawal method is not as safe as other methods, being 4% effective over the course of a year with perfect use, it's our choice to make. It's worked for us for 6 years. To clarify before I go into the details, it wasn't an accident.\n\nEspecially in our case, withdrawal requires a good deal of trust. I was tied up, we're into bdsm. I didn't even know he'd came until 20 minutes after the fact. Someone was at the door, and he decided coming in me was easier than pulling out and cleaning up, by his own admission. He came, went to the door, came back, fooled around a bit more with me, and then admitted he came.\n\nHe is immensely turned on by threatening to do things I don't want done, or \"hard limits\". He frequently threatens these things during bdsm. We've had talks in the past about this, where we've communicated that the threats were idle, and he'd never actually do them. He's threatened to choke me, to take pictures, to come in me, all things on my \"hard limits\" list. But we both know it's all talk, and we play along. Until last week, where he crossed a limit.\n\nI was upset for a few days, and I got over it, sort of. Now I'm not angry, and I can still see us having a long relationship. But I don't want to have sex with him. We have had sex, but it was just normal sex and I was basically putting up with it. I can't really see myself doing bdsm stuff with him, and thinking about that actually makes me pretty angry.", "summary": "my boyfriend purposefully came in me out of convenience despite our using the withdraw method for years. It wasn't an accident and now I just don't feel like having sex with him and especially don't trust him with bdsm activities."}
{"id": "t3_qkehi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I need some artistic/gamer help, I thought I'd ask everyone here.", "post": "So, I want another tattoo, and being a gamer nerd I want it to be awesome with game symbols. However I am artistically incapable of drawing or anything like that so I need some help, also I need more ideas on what to incorporate. For an idea on the size of the space we have for this tattoo it'd be from my right shoulder down to my right elbow(Minus the space on my right shoulder for my Mandalorian Mythosaur tattoo, I'd describe how much space but I can't think of how to word it). The idea for the tattoo though is to take some of my favorite symbols from the gaming universe and make them small and have them cover the space of my arm, granted this is a very rough idea it looks good in my mind.\nRight now my ideas for symbols are:\n\n* The faction symbols for Republic and Empire from SWTOR\n\n* Paragon and Renegade symbols from Mass Effect\n\n* The FoxHound symbol(The one used for Kojima productions, the lightning looking fox, not the shield)\n\n* I'd like a Saints Row symbol but I can't seem to find one I like\n\n* An Oddworld Abe's Oddysee or Exodus would be amazing\n\n* An Elder Scrolls symbol (Thinking the Tribunal symbol or the Oblivion rune)\n\nSo... Ideas Reddit?", "summary": "I need help finding gaming symbols for my next tattoo then I need help drawing it and making it artistically into a tattoo."}
{"id": "t3_xcpdf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fishing License vs. Lottery", "post": "So the other day, I was going to get a fishing licence in California. Now, I live a state over, so I'm not clear about these rules, but I went in told her what I needed, and the woman (working in the store alone at the time) told me that her friend that had come in after me got priority, as she was buying a lottery ticket. I shrugged it off, seeing as it wouldn't take that long and I was in no hurry. Her friend left and she told me to wait so she could do something completely separate on the computer. Right as she was about to help me out, someone else came in and started looking at the little lottery ticket stand. Again, she told me that I would have to wait until she was done there. Two more people came in, I'm guessing for Lottery tickets, so I finally just gave up and went somewhere else for my license. Now, I'm curious, is it really the law or whatever that no matter what, if the lottery is that night, people buying tickets for it get priority over people already waiting to be served, or was the woman working there just a real bitch who didn't want to deal with it?", "summary": "People jumped ahead in line by cashier to buy lottery tickets, is there some law, or just some bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_1hjpm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update) How Can I[24M] get this girl [20F], and start dating her?", "post": "Original post: \n---\n\nSoooo I finally asked her out! This is what happened:\n9:30: Finally decide to do it, and decide to play some Eye of the Tiger and Black Skinhead to get me amped.\n9:31: Trim mustache, and do a shot of Mouth Wash.\n9:33: Leave and go into the hallway by her room, and decide it's time.\n9:43: Still in the hallway, and am thinking it's time to do it.\n9:53: Still in the hallway, and am thinking it's time to do it.\n10:00: Still in the hallway, and am thinking it's finally time.\n10:10: Finally go in and say \"Hey R, can we talk?\"\nR: Yeah, sure.\nMe: I'm just gonna say it, I really dig you. I think you're great. You're smart, and fantastic. Let's go out on a for real date?\" \nR: Maybe!... Can I think about it?\nMe: You sure can!\nR: Ok, well let me think about it.\nMe: Alright!\n\nWell that's it. What do you guys think? What should I do next? Also, I'm pretty sure this is the first time I've asked a girl out in person in years. So go me!", "summary": "Asked a girl I've been crushing on all summer long, and she said maybe. What do you guys think? What should I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_32htdy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sitting on a woman", "post": "Obligatory this-happened-a-few-days-ago.\n\nI was stuck in a town I'd never really been in before, so I had to take an unfamiliar train with unfamiliar stops to get home. So naturally, I enter the train, and I instantly fix my eyes upon the screen showing the different stations and where the train itself stops. While locking eyes with the screen, I simply start moving towards a seat, not really looking at it, and sitting down.\n\nImagine a guy dancing the robot, he's doing it really well. His head is locked in place, his body moving on its own.\n\nWhen I finally sit down, I hear a sort of scream, and this frail old woman squirms and yells at me. I had headphones on, so I didn't even hear her screams, and it took a while for me to register the movements. When I finally look away from the screen, I realize what happened, and I muster out a \"Sorry, screen look sorry for sit\" and run down to the other end of the train.", "summary": "I sat on an old woman and apologized in caveman speak."}
{"id": "t3_3mc24h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] have been with my girlfriend [27 F] for 1 year. She has a blog and today wrote a long post about why marriage is dumb and people shouldn't do it. I was thinking about proposing. Do I hold off?", "post": "I was at work this morning and my girlfriend posted a long piece on her blog about hoe marriage is stupid and no one in their right mind would ever want to get married when they know the divorce rate and they know how miserable it can be. \n\nShe and I have discussed marriage in the past few months and it didn't seem like anything she was opposed to. I was going to propose within the next half a year or so but now I'm wondering if that's a mistake. I know this is something we need to discuss in more detail but should I forget about the post? Just let it go? Maybe she's just exaggerating and it's not the big of a deal?\n\nIf she tells me she never wants to get married, but I like the idea of it, then is she not the right person for me? Would one out of the blue post instigate an entire break up when all else is going really well?", "summary": "Not sure how gf feels about marriage anymore. Should I wait on proposal?"}
{"id": "t3_52p5gp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Well paid job - 20 Y/O - Option to move abroad for love", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nThis is actually my first post so any advice is highly appreciated!\n\n(Context)\n\nI've lived around the world and currently working in Hong Kong, didn't go to university, zero debt, a rented apartment and a well-paid job (120K GBP P.A)\n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now and as cliche as this will all sound - she is moving to London, for a university. I would not normally consider this for anyone, but I really feel I've got a real future with her. Do you think that me, moving to London with her, is of best interest? I do know the going rate for a game-related job (I used to work mostly within the video games industry) is roughly 25-30k GBP in the London area at a good end at my age and level (and that is if I can even land the job!?)\n\nCurrently, I am not doing something I particularly love but the financials behind it are one of the main reasons I am staying, however, it is way out of the zone of where my passion lies. \n\nI am young and I really do not want to screw it all up. Has anyone ever been in this situation to help me out here? I've always been the one to say \"do what you love or don't do it at all\" but staying away from my girlfriend to stick at a high-paid job with a possibility of things disappearing in our relationship...is that really worth it?", "summary": "High-paid job, could set me up for life, however not doing what I love, have the option to move from HK to London to be with my long-term girlfriend and pursue my goals further in the VG industry. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1x8lgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, 32/f, bf 35, don't have sex. I need it. He won't give it.", "post": "Had a baby 10 months ago. Am in better shape than when I got pregnant. BF won't have sex with me anymore. I initiate and he turns me down. Says it's because he doesn't want to get me pregnant just yet. Got on BC and he still won't have sex with me. \n\nI'm in my sexual prime and need attention. I would leave him if we didn't have a baby together. I'm dying here tho. I need male attention and I'm not getting it from him. I came home early from work today and found him in his office masturbating to porn. I'm pissed because he isn't having sex with me, and is getting off to other girls. What do I do?", "summary": "BF doesn't have sex with me. Craving male attention but not ready to leave yet because we have baby together."}
{"id": "t3_16p2xw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How soon after a break up do I [21M] tell my friend [21F] that I like her?", "post": "I have a friend that I've known for about 3 years now. Over those years I feel that we've become pretty close. Unfortunately, for all the time that I knew her. She was in a relationship with another guy. That changed recently when she told me that they finally broke up. Trust me when I say I was in shock. Now it's almost been a month since they \"officially\" broke up and it's the second semester. She tells me that she went on a date 2 days ago and was currently \"casually dating\". I'm not sure if its too soon to ask for a serious relationship this early from the breakup. Thoughts please?", "summary": "What are your thoughts on when I should tell a long time friend that I like them after she's had a break up?"}
{"id": "t3_2fke59", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21f] with my boyfriend [22m] of 6 months having problems talking and seeing each other.", "post": "So basically we both have a lot going on in life and we've always lived quite far from each other so it was always hard to see one another. \n\nHowever recently (past 2 months or so) there's been a dramatic decrease in how often we text/call/see each other. To the point that I like worry if he even likes me. I've addressed this with him and he said he'd try harder, but i don't see much of an improvement. Oh and he also says of course he likes me and cares about me. \n\nI should mention that he thinks we talk/see each other enough (he's not social at all) and i'm definitely someone thats way more social and needs more communication. \n\nI can deal with less communication but the problem is I don't believe that hes very supportive or there for me. Hes very busy, has a lot going on but sometimes when somethings been important to me hes forgotten about it. It's becoming an issue. I need a relationship where the person wants to speak to me a lot and is there for me, like i would be for them. Thats just a normal relationship?! I don't know if this is something thats worth breaking up over or theres some hope. What would you do if in my shoes and any advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend shit at communication and thinking about breaking up. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_1tsqsw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] My Girlfriend [21/f] might be pregnant and I'm freaking out a bit...", "post": "Little background, we've been dating since July 2013 and doing the long distance thing (Manchester UK - Bristol UK) for about 4 months. I'm not entirely sure if I love her or not but she's the nicest girlfriend I've ever had and we haven't had any serious problems at all. And she's head over heals in love with me (apparently)\n\nWe always use protection and she started on the pill (now pills + condoms) one week ago. However, she's been getting irregular periods for a while and she's always had short ones but last night she bled a tiny bit while we were doing the do. After a short discussion about not freaking out she's booked an appointment to see a doctor tomorrow.\n\nI've just got back from work and every site I look at is saying she is probably pregnant. I wouldn't be worrying but she's an avid catholic and has flat out refused (and been a bit disgusted) by the idea of abortion if it came to that. Despite that, I will try and convince her if she is pregnant as I might want to have a kid with her someday but not now.\n\nI'm not ready to be a dad reddit, I'm in my 3rd year of University and I've got so much planned for the next few years. I'm not even sure if I want to be with her forever. This is all a bit too much and I don't know who to talk to.", "summary": "I'm not ready to be a dad and my girlfriend might be pregnant, but is seriously against abortion."}
{"id": "t3_2c92yo", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice about changing job", "post": "So I've been looking for a new job for awhile. This is mostly because **my current job is about as stable as a game of Jenga**. I'm a legal assistant at a tiny lawfirm and I get paid under the table **($900 biweekly) with no benefits**. The attorney is in trouble with the bankruptcy court for not keeping correct records, our client base has practically dried up, we are no longer allowed to file Chapter 13 Bankruptcies (which I've spent the better part of a year learning the ins and outs of) so I feel like I barely have anything to do now.\n\n**So I had an interview** last Saturday at a pretty nice Nissan dealership about 4 minutes from my new apartment (current job is about 45-60 minutes). It's for a sales job, which I've had a bad experience with as a Quill B2B door-to-door sales rep job. It pays pretty decent if not great money as the average for the dealership is about **$3,000.00 per month. It also has health insurance, vision, dental, and a 401k**. I'm only nervous because it isn't for sure what the pay is and my student loans will start in full force at the end of the year.\n\nMy uncle, who is a great salesman, thinks i'll be great at sales too because it apparently runs in our family. My Dad feels the same, but my girlfriend is on the fence about it, but she desperately wants me to get out of my current job because it's not a good place for me to be.\nI don't know what to do and need some advice from the outside. Sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, but last time I did I definitely felt tons better.", "summary": "Have a crappy clerical job but got a job offer for a sales job at a highly rated dealership and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1szqku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [38F] can't hold down a relationship. It's happening again now.", "post": "I have never been in a long-term relationship and I feel like there is this gaping hole in my life and it's eating away at me.\n\nEverything else in my life is really good.  I have a good job, a good social life and I am fit and healthy.  I have lots of great friends, I'm a likeable person with a good sense of humour and I'm reasonably attractive.  But men just never seem interested in being in a relationship with me.  \n\nIf I go on dates, it rarely gets beyond date one.  I know it's nothing I'm doing specifically wrong. I'm myself, don't do anything crazy, I just seem to get 'friend-zoned' by guys.  I've had some short relationships in the past that have lasted 6 months or so, and most of the time these have developed from friendships.\n\nI've been dating a great guy for a couple of months now but I can tell he's not really into it.  It's the first time in 4 years I've got beyond a single date with a guy, and the realisation that it's probably going to fizzle out pretty soon because he's not really into it, I am  torturing myself.  I can't help but judge myself on my failure to have a successful relationship. Feel that I'm just not good enough for a man to want to be with me.  This happens and I fall apart. I don't want to be alone.  I'm tired of being alone. And every time something like this happens I feel like my heart is getting trampled into the ground a little bit more.", "summary": "I am 38, I can't hold down a long-term relationship and I'm so lonely it hurts."}
{"id": "t3_k2kit", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got scammed out of $200 for a ticket but found the seller's contact info. What should I do??", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI just got cheated out of $200 and have some potentially helpful information. I am coming out from my lurking hole to request some SERIOUSLY needed help. Here's the story:\n\nI was looking for tickets to a sold out event on Craigslist. I responded to an add and, after a few email exchanges, I decided to meet up with the seller. I specifically asked her to bring verification because I wanted to avoid \"scammers\". (Oh the irony!)\n\nWhen we met in a public place, she had this believable story about giving the receipt to another previous buyer, in retrospect that should have been a HUGE red flag, but but for some reason I got sucked into such distracting conversation and impressive acting that I didn't look past the surface appearance of the ticket.\n\nHours later, upon discovering that I had been scammed, I tried to contact her pretending to be interested in purchasing another ticket, but that failed. Since I do not have a smart phone to read emails, she had been previously forced to call me before the meet-up, so I had her cell phone number. I paid $15 for a reverse look up, and was able to find an address for the phone under the name of whom I believe to be her mother and father.\n\nI know I should have inspected the ticket more, but something about our interaction seemed so authentic at the time. I am way too trusting of people and I feel like I am always getting screwed over by being a nice person. I'm done being nice. The concert is today and I am so upset. I want my money back and the satisfaction of her knowing how much she sucks.\n\nReddit, please help. What should/can I do??", "summary": "I got cheated out of $200 for a fake concert ticket. Doing a reverse look up of the girl's cell phone number I was able to find names (her mother and father?) and an address. What do I do??"}
{"id": "t3_2fgzxl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing game of thrones", "post": "back-story: my med school have a place with benches under-some trees for recreation purposes that day a chair was sitting in the front there for named the kings chair.\n\nIt was around around that time when the sun sit in the middle of the sky that the daunting fiasco happened i was standing among my brethren or so i thought they were,when the king decide to get up to seek a lady's heart and left his chair that when i dared to play the game of thrones and sat in the kings chair.\nAs my glorious butt-ox touch the chair i hear a slight metal ting and i decided to ignore it this was my first failure as a king,the second failure which led to my demise is when i decided to lean back and take a look at Everything the light was touching(my new kingdom) and when i least expected i fell backwards i try to do some life saving maneuvers but instead of saving me,i land on my face and hear the betrayal of my citizen laughing at my assassination attempt.", "summary": "my friend left his chair sat on it my fat ass broke it ensue public humiliation."}
{"id": "t3_2ccejy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Graduate student banking advice", "post": "I am a graduate student on Long Island. As you can imagine, I am barely scraping by and I still have ~30K in undergraduate debt and about 6.5K in credit card debt. I currently bank with Wells Fargo, but I am ready to switch to a different bank. The long and skinny of it is that I recently came into enough money to pay off my credit card debt, but it turns out that Wells Fargo will start charging me fees if I have less than $5000K in my accounts, which apparently includes the debt I owe them. I couldn't believe that they would charge me for paying them back! Plus, they have $350 of mine tied up in a savings account as a minimum balance. So I was planning on paying off my debt and closing down my Wells Fargo accounts. Then I can start fresh somewhere new, pay off my credit card every month, and start making payments towards my student loans.\n\nAs such, I'm looking for advice for a better bank for students. I'd prefer something that has no minimum balance requirements. I do use direct deposit, which I know can sometimes cancel any fees I'd have to pay.\n\nThere will never be much money in my accounts and even having $350 tied up can cause me problems. The only reason I'm reluctant to stop using Wells Fargo is that they currently have extended me $7500 in credit, which I'm unlikely to get with a new bank anytime soon. I know many people suggest joining a credit union, but as a graduate student I know I'm going to leave long island in 4 years and so I rather build a relationship with a national institution. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Graduate student with very little money. Need a new bank with no minimum balance."}
{"id": "t3_w5kpn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it wrong for me to not want to date?", "post": "To put it simply, I haven't had much luck with guys in the past and simply gave up on dating. I've recently started talking to a guy, my intention to be friends, but his to date. I feel obligated to reciprocate these feelings due to his past rejections. He lives in England and I live in Canada, and he says that he'll wait for me and that in the future, we'll be together. Personally, I feel very tied down, being only 18 and this guy having plans to get married and live together after knowing each other for about a month.\n\nIn the future, I see myself single, in an apartment by myself, going out with friends and being able to flirt away without feeling guilty that I'm \"cheating\" on this guy, even things are far from official. He says he's never felt like this with any other girl and that I'm the only one he can ever see himself with. Am I wrong for wanting independence and feeling the way I do?", "summary": "Idont want to date, but I feel like I have to."}
{"id": "t3_1emdtf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F21] need to break up with my bf [M22] of over three years, but if I do I'm scared I'd lose everyone in my life, so I don't know what to do?", "post": "Here's the back story:\n\nI started dating this guy in the first year of college and we have been in a relationship for over three years now, it is both of ours first 'real' relationship I'm F21, bf is M22.\n\nMy friends didn't like him and thought he was a bad influence (in reality he is actually just an average dude and they are a pretty conservative/sheltered group of privileged people ) as a result they resented me for choosing to still be with him and for what they saw as me choosing him over them. So all this bitchy stuff went down, and I couldn't deal with shitty highhschool-like attitudes and basically they drifted away. This wasn't an issue as bf has a group of super awesome friends that made me feel very accepted and like were great to hangout with - truley liked me + treated me as a friend and not just as a partner of their friend.\n\nSo now 3+ years on my relationship with my bf just isn't going anywhere and I think we both know that we've both done a lot of growing in the time we've been together and we are heading in different directions in life. Problem is I can't see a mutual breakup, as bf is very codependent by nature and has openly said that he never breaks up with anyone, but would wait til a relationship fizzles out to nothing before even contemplating taking active steps to ending anything. cause of this I'm left with the task of being the one to cut the cord, I think it is for both our sakes, we clearly don't have a future and are just faffing around in denial while we could be getting on with our lives.\n\nOnly problem is, now that his friends are my only friends I will be left with literally nobody and no support system once we breakup, which is a 100% terrifying thought for me. What would you do in this situation, redditors? Do you have any advice about how to go about this?", "summary": "My old friends didn't like my bf so drifted away since we started dating. Now relationship has run it's course and we need to breakup, but my only friends are his friends, so I will be left with no one. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_41xaiu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23 M] tell my girlfriend [24 F] that I'm not in love with her any more without devastating her?", "post": "We've been together for almost four years now but something in me changed, the warm secure feeling I used to get while holding her has died.\n\nWe attended different universities in the same city and moved in with each other just under a year ago. \n\nI noticed about a month ago that my feelings had begun to change and tried desperately to reignite our relationship but it's become too hard to keep up this lie.\n\nShe's still in love with me, and the last thing I want to do is hurt her but it's not fair on her for me to keep this up for much longer. She deserves better than that.\n\nThis was my first real relationship and I have no idea what I'm going to do or say. \n\nI guess what I'm asking here is for some advice, I still want to be part of her life, I love her dearly. I understand that isn't up to me however.\n\nThis is the 5th night I've had to wait until she fell asleep so I can sleep on the couch. This guilt is too much.", "summary": "I'm not in love with my girlfriend any more, and would like some advice about how best to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_jpqva", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice about this girl I just met. . .", "post": "So back story, we knew each other and, we knew a little about each other through mutual friends.  We meet and we get that indescribably immediate attraction effect.  Then our group of friends go out that night we almost immediately separate from the group find a quite corner and talk for hours.  The rest of the weekend progresses with the usual beginning relationship stuff including staying up til 5am discussing life, talking about family and our hopeful futures etc.  \n\nHere's the issue she lives pretty far away, far enough that it would be a long distance relationship and neither of us want that but I have never felt this way about another person ever.  I hate where I live and can do my job (Network Tech) in any city.  I have been thinking of moving but can't decide where, is it crazy to move where she is and try to start something real and chose my new home for the proximity to her?  Or am I just getting caught up here and getting ahead of my self?", "summary": "Met a girl, crazy about each other.  Currently hate life in current town want to move closer to her.  Good idea or am I thinking irrationally?"}
{"id": "t3_37fcgy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "So I've [30/M]been dating this girl [31/F], i think we have great chemistry but...", "post": "OK so we have been on around 5 dates or so... We have a lot of fun together and i am really liking her company. \n\nProblem is this... I have been in a lot of long term relationships etc..but i never have trouble with women, i date often, i don't get too involved if i don't think its gonna work... However, even with my success with women (in the sense of initiating and dating), as soon as i meet one i like, suddenly my logic and relaxation goes out the window and i overthink things.\n\nSo anyway...\nI am a proactive kinda guy so i initiate the date talk and  set them up. She's always down for it and excited. Always tells me I'm interesting and fun. We talk through the day, and generally its always funny and light convo..\n\nI have dated mostly younger girls... She is around the same age and i actually feel like we click a bit.\n\nSo here's the question? When do we discuss what each other wants out of this? How do i bring that up? Do i discuss exclusivity? I don't want it to always just be the fun guy who she sees once a week and not actually break into that conversation. Just over a month of dating is all we have behind us. Its nothing really but if you see a spark, follow it?\n\nWhat do you suggest?", "summary": "been dating a girl i really like, don't know how to broach the topic of more adult talks due to dating younger women who i don't really relate to. Now I'm dating an age matched girl with similar goals i don't wanna fuck it up or scare her off."}
{"id": "t3_4ne44b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by booking a busticket from ho chi minh city to hanoi", "post": "Me and my friend already travelled through whole vietnam, went to cambodia and felt like going back to hanoi to spend some months saving money by teaching english (22$/h). We looked up the prices for a flight which would have taken 2 h and cost around 60$. By coinscidence we walked into a travelagent which suggested a bustrip straight to hanoi for 40$. I travelled by bike through vietnam and never had to use a bus because i pictured it too inconvenient. The travelagent promised us a powerplug to charge our phones, a toilet and a back to back hop on hop off trip which would take 36h in total. As i am 6f and quite bulky i asked him if i would fit in one of those seats/beds which he confirmed again.\n\nAfter a 24 h bustrip, 50 mg of diazephan and a crippled back were in hoi an and have to wait another 6 hours to get on our next bus which will take another 24 hours.", "summary": "long bustrips in vietnam are shite. Spend the extra dollar and go by plane."}
{"id": "t3_3jtsum", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Advice for EVERYONE", "post": "A few years ago i lived in a diferent house, i had an neighbor who was my friend, i went to his house all the time, and an female neighbor ( Cutest, Funniest girl i've ever met) she always would go to my friend's house. Me and her created kind of an connection, we loved to talk to eachother about anything we wanted, but i've never told her that i had a crush on her. Once in a while my friend asked me while she wasn't near if i liked her, but maybe because i'm too shy i've always denied it. The next year after me and her kept talking all the time her family was about to move out of town so we lost contact,  i just got so sad because i had never told her i liked her but kind of calm because i though she wouldn't have any feelings for an guy like me. A couple of day after she moved i went to my friend's house an there he asked me again \"Did you liked her?\" i just said no again, the he says \"Too bad, she had a crush on you\"... Do i have to say anything else???? If someone ask if you like a girl you do actually like say yes...", "summary": "If someone ask if you like a girl you do actually like say yes."}
{"id": "t3_1o421n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] need courage to ask the ex [26M] the question I've been wondering for six months", "post": "My ex broke up with me a year ago after almost 2 years together. The reason behind it was a mix of his own personal issues he needed to work out. He said he always saw us getting back together, blah blah - I thought it was all BS, just part of his breakup speech. I was heartbroken, to say the least, and never got over it. I am deeply in love with him, and I know he loves me too.\n\nWe did not speak for 6 months after the breakup, which was the hardest thing I ever imagined possible. But he reached out, and for the past 6 months we have reestablished communication, but we don't really ever see each other or make plans to see one another. \n\nBut I can't keep doing this - as happy as I am just to have him back in my life and to be talking again, it's also a painful and constant reminder that we are still not together. And that's what I want, more than anything. But I keep it going to see where it leads. \n\nI'm not dating anyone and neither is he. So now I'm torn - I can straight up ask him if wants to get back together BUT potentially lose him again for the second time if he says no. It's a choice between having a definitive answer or staying in the dark with this little bit of happiness of only having a part of him in my life. \n\nSoooo...advice on how to work up the nerve to get an answer? Because I have not been able to do so after 6 months. Thanks!", "summary": "I don't have the balls to ask my ex if he wants to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_34plsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] girlfriend[22 F] of 1 year is being evicted by her parents, while I'm working away periodically.", "post": "I work away from home for 3 weeks but I come home for a week before repeating that cycle again. I stay at home with my parents during my week off, so she stays with me for that week too. This means my gf stays with her family during the 3 weeks I'm away to avoid being alone at home. \n\nFrom what she's told me (and I don't know how true this is), she's had some abusive relationships with other guys, and her father. She was forced to move out of home when she was 18 because of a big fight with her parents (apparently with her dad's hands around her neck), and has had 2 abusive relationships after. Eventually she did reconcile with her parents just after getting rid of the last guy. After she graduated last year I managed to convince her to move back home to focus on getting a professional job. \n\nRecently though her parents have been really agitated towards her, and has notified her that they are currently writing a formal letter of eviction. She's quite reluctant to tell me why that's happening so I've thought of maybe calling her dad to get his side of the story. Is it too soon to ask him now and risk my gf getting evicted earlier or should I wait til after to call?\n\nSince we've been together she's grown to be very clingy and emotional to the point where I don't want to speak to her for a while. Some days she gets absolutely hysterical during fights. Me working away has been really straining on us both emotionally too. To be honest I can barely handle my own situation of being away from family and friends, her situation is making me feel worse because I can't be of any help. I don't own my own place so I can't have her move in and she refuses to move into my parent's house (which is fair enough).", "summary": "Gf is being evicted from home. I work away from home. I can't help from where I am and also I don't have a place of my own. Want to call her parents to get their side of the story but don't want to risk gf's shit getting thrown out the house. I'm very drained physically and emotionally with her issues on top of me working away. I don't know how much longer I can handle this."}
{"id": "t3_i6a6f", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hey Reddit, I'm looking for a new audience for my books that haven't gotten much attention. Looking for new reading material or care to help a struggling artist?", "post": "Attempt at a cross post from r/books.\n\nI'm a writer. I have been for years and I can't see myself stopping anytime soon. However, in a world where it seems like everyone else is also a writer, it's hard to get any word out about my work, which I'm actually quite proud of (with some exceptions, of course). I'm having trouble getting anyone to notice me, so I figured there may be some in the Reddit community looking for new books to read. These three are primarily YA science fiction/fantasy novels.\n\nRight now I have a special promotion of sorts going on where you can get my three currently-published books, a bunch of bonus content and cover art for about three bucks total. I don't really make any money off this since the company helping me promote takes a cut; this is just to help me find a new audience (at the moment, said audience is very small).\n\n[Page with all the details] (They use bit.ly for tracking purposes supposedly)\n\n[In case you want more details](\n\nI'm still getting used to this whole self-promotion thing, but I figure it can't hurt to ask just in case. That said, I appreciate anyone taking the time to look at these, and even if you're not interested, spreading the word to anyone who might be would help immensely!", "summary": "I wrote books, here they are."}
{"id": "t3_3w0yqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21m] friends [21m] mother passed away recently. I haven't seen him in a while and wont be able to. Do I call or text to send my condolences or neither?", "post": "My friends mother passed away recently, I have not seen him in 2 months and will not have the chance to see him for another week or so. I don't want to wait that long to say anything. I did not know his mom and we are not close and don't talk often but we are friends.\n\nI feel like it is extremely impersonal to send a text over something like this. However, because we are not the closest and do not talk often I feel like it is weird if I call to say my condolences. I'm torn right now, what should I do?", "summary": "friends mom passed away a day ago, we are not the closest so I feel like a call is kind of weird but I also feel like texts are not the best for something like this. I dont want to wait a week to see him, how should I send my condolences?"}
{"id": "t3_3bn1r5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I be fired for not attending a mandatory social work outing? I have a disability that prevents me from attending these events without experiencing a great deal of stress and discomfort.", "post": "It seems that, every couple of weeks, there is some new mandatory work outing. I'm referring to off-site, paid, non-work related events that involve \"fun\", no work talk. \n\nI have always had panic disorder and agoraphobia, and I was very open about it when applying. Every time a work event comes up, my supervisor seems to be uncomfortable or upset. I'm really, really worried that my disability will get me fired. I'm an at-will employee, and while I have a disability, that can't stop her from making up another reason to fire me, right? \n\nI am really good at my job, just worried about this.", "summary": "Can I get fired for not attending mandatory social events? I have a disability and have offered to provide documentation."}
{"id": "t3_3v8pgw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting the shop I work in shut down", "post": "Tifu bu getting the shop I work at shut down and loosing the business minimum of \u00a320000 in sales.\n\nSo I fancied a day off work and as a joke told a friend that a rat had been spotted on the shop floor and for him to call environmental health and report it, the day carries on and o forget about it, I go to wall into work yesterday at 2pm to see people in white suits pulling the shelves apart, and it kicked in what had happened.\n\nWent into the back office to be told that the store was closing and most likely we will be sent home and paid for our normal shifts until the shop can be reopened, I started laughing and went into the store yard to chat to the other cashiers who worked the morning shift and had a laugh with them about the whole thing. Mo more than 10 minutes later the area manager walks in and decides that we would voluntarily close instead of it going to court so ive spent the last 14hours in store deep cleaning everything and clearing all the shelves, also I have to go into work at normal shift times to carry on cleaning, what a great idea that was.\n\nShould also point out a rat nest was found along with loads of rat droppings all around the shop", "summary": "wanted a day off work, friend called environmental health and now im going into work as normal to clean a few years build up of crap under shelving."}
{"id": "t3_1ftvrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28[M] 27[F] Found Some Old Sexts of Girlfriend. Need Advice", "post": "28[M] 27[F] one year relationship\n\nCame across some old sexts my girlfriend had sent a few guys before she met me. Most recent was a few weeks before we met. They had never met IRL, just sexted after chatting on a dating site. I was not in the picture; fine by me.\n\t\nHowever, since we started dating, she has insisted that sexting makes her feel used. I've accepted that since we met. This discovery has made me feel she doesn't value me. She's willing to do it with other guys but not me. I brought it up and she maintains her stance. What do you make of it? Am I justified in feeling this way?", "summary": "Girlfriend sexted guys before me but not me. I feel unvalued. Justified?"}
{"id": "t3_1odusp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need some advice on starting my first 'career' job and how to become good at what I do.", "post": "I'm 23 and have just finished uni. I'm hoping to do postgrad study in mental health nursing in the next few years, and have just taken a new job as a home care worker to get a foot on the ladder and get some relevant experience.\n\nI really want to do well at this job and make a good start in my post-university career. I've worked around my studies since I was 16, but it's especially important to me to be good at what I do now that I'm trying to establish a more permanent career path. I want the managers to know who I am and feel that I'm a valuable part of the team.\n\nI'd love to get some advice (especially from Redditors who are older than me or who have been in their full-time job for a few years) on how to stay focused and motivated, and integrate myself within the company.\n\nI'm a confident person but I also sometimes have a bit of trouble standing up for myself when it comes to authority figures. I was sexually harassed by a boss at a previous job a few years ago and felt too intimidated to speak up for myself. I dreaded going to work every day and it only ended because I left to go to university.\n\nI'm sure I could cope well in that situation now, but novel situations tend to throw me off and make me unsure of myself. I'm particularly concerned as in care work it's incredibly important that I don't step outside of my responsibilities as I'll be liable if anything bad happens.", "summary": "If anyone could give me any tips or pointers on starting my first 'real' job and establishing myself as a solid and competent member of my workforce, I'd really appreciate it.*"}
{"id": "t3_4a968y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [16F] of 8 months is mad because we never hang out, when really it is all her fault.", "post": "Hello, and thank you in advance for reading.\n\nMy girlfriend and I love each other very much and we're very proud we've been in a relationship for so long.\n\nAs of late, however, she's been complaining that we don't see each other as much as we used to.\n\nWhich is absolutely true, we haven't. But really this isn't my fault for several reasons.\n\nThe first reason is where she lives. She used to live, literally, a 5 minutes walk away, but since her mom has been in a car accident, she has had to live at her grandmother's house. which is 30 minutes drive away.\n\nThe second reason is her inability to plan anything. She comes from a very spontaneous family where planning is considered silly, and they enjoy living a chaotic lifestyle. This is the polar opposite of my family. We are very ordered and structured. I always try to make plans with her, but she says things like \"My family doesn't plan things, I have no idea whether or not I'll be free that day\". \n\nThen, she'll just randomly say things like \"hey, want to go out and do something\" on days that I swear she told me she was busy, and then gets upset when I don't drop everything I'm doing and interrupt everyone else's plans. She doesn't understand why I can't just leave on the drop of a hat because she really doesn't understand the concept of planning.\n\nFinally, it's her schedule. I'm literally available 6 days out of 7. I'm only busy on SOME Tuesdays. Unlike her, who has something EVERY SINGLE Monday, Wednesday, Thurday, and Friday, and usually stuff on both days of the weekend as well. Then she complains that I'm \"never available\" when really what she means to say is \"never available when I want you to be available\".\n\nIt's very upsetting when she gets angry at me when really it isn't my fault at all. I take a lot of shit from her for it, and I'm always the one who ends up apologizing even though I did nothing wrong and really the fault is on her end.", "summary": "My girlfriend gets angry at me because we can't hang out too much anymore, and I take a lot of shit for it, yet the blame is on her end."}
{"id": "t3_2njlhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How often should I hang out with my gf and her kid/", "post": "I'm 28, she's 25, and he's 5. We've been an item for 6 months.\n\nSomeone mentioned that I am spending a lot of time with the kid too soon. I understand he has no dad and I don't mind helping. I just think I still want to get to know the gf, since we barely have our alone dates.\n\nI think we hang out 2-3 times with the kid and only one time at night with the gf which is usually Fri or Sat. Those nights aren't by ourselves either, they are with a group of our friends.\n\nI don't want to tell her that I don't want to hang out with her kid, which I like but sometimes the dates are a little dull when he comes along. I do not want to hurt her feelings.\n\nAlso I need to mention, that its hard for her to get a sitter so he comes along.\n\nthe thread i made", "summary": "i think i go out too much with the gf and her kid. how can I tell her it should be less without hurting her feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2x31v3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Mom is bored and depressed with her 'routine' life. What can i do to help make her happier?", "post": "I'm 19, with a sister who's 17, and my mom is 43. My moms very depressed lately. She's bored with life and I can't blame her. Her English isn't great and since we've moved years ago she doesn't have many friends in this town. She's not interested in making any - my sister and I are like this as well. We just stick to each other.\n\nShe comes home from work, cooks dinner for our family (father is very traditional and likes a home cooked meal every night), she the watches her soap opera and goes to bed.\n\nMy mom and sister are my best friends. I love her to bits and it kills me to see her like this. The past three nights she's cried. I ask her why and she just tells me she's bored with life.\nI'm turning to you guys to give me suggestions. I know depression can't be cured with something so simple but id like to make her even a little bit happier. Any activities, places i can take her, things to do etc.\n\nWe go shopping often but she doesn't enjoy it much.\n\nSeeing her like this breaks my heart", "summary": "mom is bored with life, same routine everyday; work, come home and cook long meals (father is traditional and likes home cooked meals everyday) and then bed. She's depressed. What are some activities we can do to help make her 'happier'."}
{"id": "t3_54zgb5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "scholarship, fees and medical leave of absence?", "post": "Ive paid 2k for this semester and ive missed about a month's worth of classes due to severe anxiety. I'm going to defer a semester (this one) or take a medical leave of absence. The problem is im on scholarship. The total is 10k and i pay 5k total for 3 semesters but im paying sem by sem. What would happen to the $ i paid? Burn? I dont want to waste my parents' money. They said its okay and all that but still. Ive read through the handbooks and scholarshop t&c's. Most of the lecturers dont know shit so Theyre gonna meet up with my dad today & discuss that. I actually didnt want to get my parents involved and wanted to handle everything on my own but i guess this time its inevitable....im so proud of myself for taking matters into my own hands up till now!", "summary": "what would happen to the 2k i paid this 2nd semester when im on scholarship and the original pricing is 10k (i got 5k for all 3 semesters)"}
{"id": "t3_1v338x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is an appropriate time to drop the \"I Love You\" bomb in a new relationship?", "post": "Okay so I [F/19] recently have started dating let's call him J [M/19]. J and I have a very long history. We were best friends for 4 years and didn't admit our long overdue feelings for each other until about a month ago. We have been officially dating for about two weeks now. Ive always loved J as a friend because hes hands down been the only person there for me through everything. But I'm now at the point where I'm totally and completely falling in love with him. We recently spent the past month just being completely and utterly into each other. The difference with this relationship as opposed to others is the fact that this boy already knows everything about me, and vice versa. The only thing we have to worry about is being together. I honestly believe I love this boy, but I don't know how to go about it without making things awkward, or saying it too soon. So redditors please help me; when is an appropriate time to say I love you?", "summary": "Been best friends for years, just recently started dating. I believe I am totally in love with him. When and how can I say it?"}
{"id": "t3_1g8f3o", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Has anyone ever tried a diet like Soza (aka Bouari)?", "post": "I know it is better to diet/exercise naturally, and I've held that view for a long while, but a coworker of mine has done it for 2 months and dropped 30 lbs so I am starting to wonder if it is worth a try. \n\nI'm not sure if this subreddit welcomes this kind of topic, but I am not sure where else might be appropriate (If you can suggest somewhere please let me know!).\n\nI have been trying unsuccessfully to kick start my own weight loss naturally (I carefully watch what I eat but I don't exercise regularly) but I work very late and long hours every day, and have a lot of trouble finding the energy to get to the gym and get started. I know it sounds like an excuse, but my department is understaffed at the moment and I pour every bit of energy I have into my job during the day, and not much is left for anything else after.  I think if I had something that would help me see even a small change it might help get the push I need to start exercising again and keep losing weight without having to rely completely on everything Soza recommends.\n\nI am going in tomorrow for a free consultation to get more info. All I know right now from my coworker is that it is a few hundred bucks (depending on what plan you chose) and they can give you supplements and possibly B12 shots, as well as review a food diary with you weekly and give food plan recommendations. I am a bit uneasy about shots and putting weird things in me, but I am conflicted because my coworker seems so happy and successful with it. \n\nSorry for being a bit verbose here. If you've read this far, thank you!", "summary": "Has anyone had success or failure with the Soza clinic? Have you had B12 shots? Would I be spending money on a yoyo diet plan that would have me pack the lbs back on after I stop paying?"}
{"id": "t3_1upzfk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24,M] FWB", "post": "So i'm in a FWB situation with this girl that I've seen for a few months. When we first started hooking up, I was pretty clear that even though I wouldn't be strictly monogamous, I expected her to be. She agreed and we've had a fine relationship. I got a text from her this morning saying she had just woken up and wanted me to come over. This was at 11:30 am. I work all day and she knows. When i responded she probably texted the wrong person, she joked it off and I didn't repsond.  I suspect there is another guy, which is fine for her since she's not my gf, but I want to break this off then. I'll ask her about it either way but was just curious about what other people thought.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2voqey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (19) and I (21) of 1 month, expensive concert tickets for valentine's day?", "post": "Hey guys, kind of last minute for Valentine's Day but just want to get an opinion that isn't one of my friend's - my girlfriend and I have been dating since the start of January. We're both really into music and one of the things we bonded over was a favorite band of ours that not a lot of people listen to - they're pretty big overseas but I've only met one other person who actually listens to them. \n\nI found out they're playing out of town soon (about a 1 hour drive) and looked up tickets, it turns out they cost $50 each. Now, normally I'd be all over this, but I've been hesitant since I first found out about the concert (last week). I found out she's not spending a lot on me, instead doing something cute that's artsy and crafty for me (she's really into that kind of stuff). \n\nEssentially my main concern is I don't want her to feel bad she didn't spend as much money on me and I'm also kind of hesitant to spend this much money early on in the relationship. If the tickets were maybe $20 less expensive each I wouldn't mind as much, but spending $100 seems a little excessive in this situation. So far the majority of my friends have said go for it... but I'm still on the fence.", "summary": "Want to get girlfriend cute gift for Valentine's Day, worried it's too much too early in the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1ucbcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] found an online dating page open in my girlfriend's [27F] phone (2 months together)", "post": "We were on a date. I was checking her wifi connection in her phone, I opened her browser and found a Badoo page open, the page wasn't loaded yet. Don't know if it was a profile, chat page or a link she clicked from a spam email. I didn't know how to react. I was shocked.\n\nAll our mutual friends know about our relationship, her mother knows about me being her boyfriend, my family knows about her. I love her and she says she loves me too. We are kinda serious.\n\nI was upset. I didn't react. I just asked what the Badoo page is. She made a joke out of it and said it is a bad / naughty page (I can't translate the phrase she used exactly to English). She didn't explain what it is. She said when she wants to visit bad / naughty pages she always uses her roommate's computer.\n\nI just laugh and didn't ask anything else. I didn't want to ruin our date. I thought it might have just been a link she clicked from one of those spam emails sent to Badoo members.\n\nI haven't been in this situation. My quick decision was that even if she has visited the online page intentionally I should forgive her and don't make a big deal out of it.\n\nDid I make a mistake? What should I do now? :(", "summary": "Found an online dating page open in her phone, it wasn't loaded, acted like I don't know it and moved on. What should I do now? Should I bring it on next time? Is my love not enough for her?"}
{"id": "t3_2tcmzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [21M] Of 6 months and I am just totally mind boggled. Help.", "post": "Apologies if this is a bit of a shaky post but it's my first ever post in Reddit! Anyway, I've been in a relationship for six months and it's the first relationship I've been in that I feel respected in and that actually is healthy. I have had a past habit of picking men that like to cheat have been mentally and physically abusive which has knocked my confidence a bit. \n\nSo, my boyfriend always replies to my texts (it s a long distance relationship), he never hides anything and is one of the most intelligent people I've ever met and I feel incredibly lucky to have him in my life as he treats me so well.\n\nHowever, the problem is me. One minute I'm so happy and then the next I have a panic about the relationship and I question aspects of it and make up problems that in reality are non existent. I don't really understand why I feel so up and down about things and I don't know if it's normal to feel like this in a great relationship?! Any experiences of people or advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Had previously horrible relationships. Currently in a ration ship with a lovely man. I'm an over thinker that seems to create imaginary problems."}
{"id": "t3_3nwosb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) started dating a girl in an 'open relationship.' Unsure how to proceed.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying I have essentially zero dating experience, so I would like to see what others think of this situation.\n\nBackground: I have been dating this girl (22F) for about 1.5 months, having gone on about 6 dates in that time. I enjoy being with her, and I think she is incredibly pretty. I like her, and she has said that she really likes me as well. We have ended most dates with a kiss/makeout as we say goodnight, but nothing sexual.\n\nNow onto the confusing part. She told me recently that she is in an 'open relationship' with a guy she has been dating at the end of college (she just graduated in the spring). He cheated on her a lot, but rather than break up, they decided the easier thing was to enter an open relationship, meaning they get to see anyone they want to. She described it like a slow break up process. She meets up with him still, around once a month, maybe more. This has been going on since the beginning of the summer (isn't this a long time?).\n\nSome thoughts/concerns/questions\n\nI think we are getting close to the point where things are getting more serious. After a lot of reflection, I feel I am not comfortable bringing the relationship into a serious sexual/emotional place when she is still with this other guy (Is this a bad thing?). She has made it seem like she is very interested in being with me, but at the same time she has not broken it off. Should I stick it out and hope that she fully breaks it off with the other guy? Should I move on? Maybe it is time to have a very frank discussion with her about where she sees this going?\n\nThanks for listening.", "summary": "Girl I'm seeing says she is currently in an open relationship/in the process of breaking up. Should I wait for her to break it off fully or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3urzq9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can my boss keep my taxes? Is something shady going on?", "post": "I work for a small business in the uk which apparently outsources payroll, our payslips are printed off at our location and given to us with our cash. I thought this felt a bit shady so today I googled the company that does payroll and discovered that the registered director of that company is my boss. A couple years ago I asked for weeks how many holidays I was still due as the deadline was coming up and I was repeatedly told that they were waiting for an email from the people that did payroll to tell us...\n\nThere are also 50+ companies registered to the same address as these two with the same 4 or 5 directors on rotation with my boss being the director of a couple and the address is just a 3 bedroom house. One of the businesses is actually just one town over so I know it's legit but after having a look at the info on that business it says it was given first notice of strike off action a couple months ago.\n\nI'v worked for this family for 3 years and I'v only ever been aware of them owning the building I work in and the one in the next town which are both the same thing.\n\nWhat does all of this mean? Is there some sort of tax evasion going on or is this all just normal business dealings? Should any of this worry me?\n\nI'm mainly concerned that the taxes I'm paying aren't actually being paid and this could come back on me in the future.", "summary": "boss possibly has lots of secret companies and lies about it. Worried my taxes aren't actually being paid"}
{"id": "t3_x29h8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[21M] What is the best way to tell my crush that I have genuine feelings and I want a relationship?", "post": "I have a female friend who is a year younger than I and a lot more outgoing. We met through a mutual friend about a year ago and we have been talking through Twitter and at one time Facebook (I deleted my account.) I am attracted to her on a level I have never felt before and it is amazing. She is the first girl that I have wanted that true loving relationship with rather than just a sexual partner. I'm pretty experienced with dating and I know what being friend zoned feels like. I don't get this vibe from her at all but I can't quite be sure if she is hiding her feelings for me. \n\nI have made plans to go out with her soon and I want to make a move before she gets the impression that I have friend zoned her. My fear is strategy, because this girl is so important to me I want it to be perfect. \n\nShould I be upfront with her and say, \"Hey, I really like you and I want to give this a shot.\" or should I try a physical approach where we go out and have a good time and slowly move into the moment and let a kiss be me saying how I feel and if it fails it fails? \n\nI'll be happy to give any information to help. Thank you Reddit.", "summary": "In love and want best way to tell her. "}
{"id": "t3_15zh58", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Went Off On Teacher That Hated Me", "post": "One of the teachers in my school, who is actually an aide who only helps in English class, hates my guts. I don't know why, I don't know how, but she is always either yelling at me, insulting me, or trying to convince the English teacher (who likes me) to give me a bad grade. I am known for reading in a loud enthusiastic voice. Everyone, including the aide, has known this since school started up again. This particular day, the teacher made me read a passage from Anne Frank. I start to read, and the aide says, \"jorgethecat, read like a normal person for once! Stop making fun of it, because no one thinks you're funny.\" I could see the English teacher about to say something, but I saw red. Everyone in the room's mouth dropped, and the kicker: I am Jewish. I said that I had been picked on and made fun of during most of my school years, and continued to say how everyone appreciated me exciting the class instead of reading like a robot like you and everyone else. Her face immediately went red as a lobster, and she ran out of the room. Everytime I saw her in the hall she refused to make eye contact with me. I had a huge smile on my face the rest of the day.", "summary": "Teacher hates me, decides to bust my grill about my reading of Anne Frank, lace into her with the fact that I am in fact Jewish myself, and ruin her day."}
{"id": "t3_4ju3wa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F28] + BF [33], 5 year itch. Slap some sense into me.", "post": "I love my boyfriend. Our relationship isn't perfect, but we mesh intellectually and have similar enough life philosophies. Common points of contention: I have a significantly higher libido, and I appreciate physical aspects of a relationship far more than he does. We've talked about it a bunch of times. It's a work in progress.\n\nEnter other guy, friend of a friend [30ish?]. We have great chemistry. He's fun to be around, and when I talk to him I feel like a high school girl with a crush. He tells me he's into me. It's gotten under my skin. He makes me feel needed, which I realize my boyfriend does not, not really.\n\nI know the stock response is, stop talking to the guy and talk to your boyfriend about the issues that you have with him, which are separate from the other guy's existence. But in my gut I want to be needed, I want to be touched first, I want moments of sad, irrational love every now and then, I want the rush of lust, I want to not have to initiate physical affection 90% of the time. Not talking to the guy anymore will not solve my issue with my boyfriend, but, evidently, talking to my boyfriend doesn't solve the issue either. Give me insight, reddit!", "summary": "I have a boyfriend, and I have a crush."}
{"id": "t3_3ca6d0", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story] Misplaced my drive for success after graduating college one year ago. Need advice", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nI'm kind of stuck in a rut. Since graduating college, I've watched friends move around the country getting really exciting and good jobs. I stayed in my college town for a year after graduation, and it's starting to wear on me.\n\nWhen I graduated, I wanted to take a year off to travel and basically relax. I got a pizza delivery job and saved up to travel. I went to some great places (Mardi Gras and Cabo San Lucas) and now I'll be headed overseas to either China or Europe.\n\nAnd after that year of travel and relaxation, my plan was to start my cannabis business in Washington state with a few friends and investors.\n\nBut it's really hard for me to sit down and get my business plan written because I want to spend as much time with my friends and having fun in summer. But with that attitude I'll never get my business off the ground. basically I rack disiprine.\n\nSo Reddit, I'm wondering what ways or steps can I take to get myself motivated and separate my time between business and friends.", "summary": "I've misplaced my drive to work/succeed after graduating college, what are ways I can get back my motivation to start my business."}
{"id": "t3_19061m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (18F) am curious if I'm going in the right direction with a 19M, considering it would be long distance.", "post": "I've been talking to them for a few months now. We skype and shit. We share a lot of similar interests, which is somethings rare for me it seems (weird interests perhaps). It is great actually. But I am not sure how sexually attracted I am to them. I am to an extent sexually attracted, but it always seems to fluctuate depending on the day. We have considered one of us flying to the other, but I always get nervous that I won't find them attractive. I've voiced my concerns (without saying exactly 'their face') and they agree that we should talk more and etc and decide later. I'm worried that I'll always be like this though. :( Do you guys think this is the right thing to do? Just wait it out?", "summary": "Like a boy from faraway, not sure if I am completely sexually attracted to him. Boy says we should wait it out and see how things go. Good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3v5kia", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: trying to fix the xbox app on windows 10", "post": "So this started 2 days ago and only just finished (almost) fixing it.\n\nbit of background I'm a bit of a gamer and got windows 10 free upgrade deal with it seeing as i had minecraft pc already i got the windows 10 beta thing. \n\nThis starts with me getting a code for the beta from a mac user so a friend can have a game that we can play (long story with that so wont go into details here may do in comments) so after giving the code I try to open the xbox app in hopes of finding my friends xbox id (so we can do multiplayer) fastforward slightly, this is after me trying to force the xbox app to log out and log in again, im in a remote service session with microsoft support, they try everything from refreshing the windows store to reinstalling the xbox app nothing works so then they go to start a windows re-imaging process (basically reinstalling the os) before they get chance to do anything they get disconnected, I wait about 10-20 mins letting my net settle because wi-fi for me can be funny, nothing. I end up having to make sure they cant re-connect because I have to go to a friends to do some minecraft recording (modded minecraft not windows 10 edition).\n\nYesterday I reinstalled windows 10 from the image I made myself a few days prior, thinking that it would be the pro edition i thought nothing of it, did a few things around the house while it was installing and updating got back and realised it was the home edition, at first i thought nothing of it tried to do some modded minecraft and it ran at what felt like negative frames per second. thought something was up and found out that home couldn't give enough ram for what i was needing so i ended up reinstalling windows 7 ultimate to get it to windows 10 pro (via free upgrade thing) but that produced problems because i didnt have a product key that would work (i used to run windows loader to get the keys to work and used it to install windows 7 on friends and families machines) thankfully I found a windows 10 disc that has pro on and ended up using that.", "summary": "xbox app broke, microsoft suport made it worse, installed wrong version of windows untill i got the right one today, took 3 days to do all of it"}
{"id": "t3_2weflv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] for 3 months, I don't know if I'm happy with an innocent girl.", "post": "So I've recently started a relationship with a fellow freshman at my college and I'm just not sure if I'm happy. She's a great partner, very caring, very honest and funny, and pretty much all I could ever ask for in a girl, but there's just one setback: she's innocent. \n\nI've always kind of liked the rebellious/nofucksgiven type of girls. My last girlfriend was like that and I loved her a lot, but the problem was she seemed to not care a little *too* much. This girl I've recently started dating is religious and doesn't cuss, wants to wait for sex til marriage, and just wants to take things too slow. I am not religious whatsoever and I don't mind if someone is religious, it's just I've never pictured myself with someone who is. I've always wanted a relationship where my partner and I can be sexual toward each other but it just isn't like that with her. I know the physical aspect isn't everything, but it isn't unimportant. \n\nThere are times when I just want to be with her and think about being with her until I die, but then there are times when I just feel like being a straight up asshole towards her (not that I do). I'm very torn on whether or not to continue this relationship. I'm not sure if I should give it some more time because 3 months isn't long at all, or if I should stop wasting both of our time because this feeling won't change. All feedback is welcome. Thank you.", "summary": "My gf is very innocent and I'm attracted to bad girls.  Debating on seeing where it goes or ending it."}
{"id": "t3_1qqm6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/F] with my wild GF [17M/F] of ~5mo, am I only hurting myself?", "post": "Hey. So I've been for a while with this young girl now. We sort of live together, maybe 3/30 nights separate. We spend most of our time just the two of us. We're very active sexually, ranging from one to five times a day or sometimes all-day-long.\n\nSo everything seems to be great, right?\n\nWell here comes the catch; this hot girl who knows she's hot likes to flirt around, especially while she's drunk and she drinks a lot. She's doesn't think twice about kissing her friends or mine (no matter the gender) in front of me. She flirts with her guy friends on Facebook, even her ex... well mostly the guys flirt with her but she doesn't seem to mind and plays along.\n\nA little relief though that to any suggestions of going on a date / making physical contact with her \"friends\" she denies instantly saying she is mine and mine only.\nThis one time a dude who could die to get it with her tried to kiss her (in front of me obviously -.-) got a nice hard slap on his cheek and a finger pointing towards the door.\n\nFirst I thought she's with me for money as I am quite wealthy and I used to buy a lot of stuff to her. I stopped buying her things and made her pay her own lunch and she didn't seem to mind. On occasion she has asked me for money but the only money I gave her was a 20 loan which she paid back quickly.\n\nI really love this girl, and so does she say to me but I'm really confused. I want to keep this wild, hot and nice girl, but I fear I will end up heartbroken in the end.\n\n**Extra info:**\n- She's been diagnosed with the Bipolar disorder (a mental disorder that causes mood swings)\n- I find her really annoying after she has had a few drinks\n- She is sexually really open(?). Lesbian, Anal, Outdoor.. you name it she's got that under the belt\n- She started taking the pill so we can have more/better sex\n\nSorry for the messy post, but I find it hard to explain this.", "summary": "Hot girl making my head hurt by flirting with others while our relationship seems to be as good as it gets."}
{"id": "t3_fz3ze", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm suing a guy who rear ended me and ignored my calls and letters. Now he's calling me to try and work something out...", "post": "In November, I was rear ended while stopped in heavy traffic. Fortunately, I had my bicycle on a bike rack, which absorbed most of the impact and was destroyed. This did damage the part of the frame where the hitch is mounted as well.\n\nThe guy didn't have an insurance card but said he'd take care of everything. I took pictures of his vehicle, license plate, and driver's license and told him I'd contact him once I got estimates for the repairs.\n\nThe estimates came out to around $600. I attempted to contact him and did not get a call back. I sent a certified letter saying that if I didn't hear from him within 2 weeks, I'd sue him. He did not reply, so I filed a small claims suit against him.\n\nIf I win the case, I'll be able to request an order for his property to be seized and sold off to compensate me for damages and all court costs.\n\nLast night I received a voicemail from him asking me to call him back to work something out, because he can't afford to pay it all upfront and to please not sue him.\n\nI almost want to tell the guy to f off, because he had his chance to work this out over the last few months. Instead, he chose to ignore my calls and certified letter.\n\nSo my question for you guys is: What would you do? I don't think I trust him enough to set up a payment plan, and a part of me feels he should learn his lesson for ignoring me and for driving without insurance. He's something like 20 years old.", "summary": "Uninsured driver rear ends me, ignored my calls and letter, now wants to work something out after I filed a small claim suit against him."}
{"id": "t3_sp2c8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If I don't do it, I may look back and hate myself. If I do do it then maybe I'll regret it - Redditors help me with love advice and PLEASE SHARE stories", "post": "Hey Reddit community, I've been having a hard time understanding how love works. Yes sounds silly but it's true. Here's my scenario, I'll try keep it simple, but I desperately need any advice, stories or feedback as possible so here it is:\n\nI have been in love with my absolutely perfect boyfriend for coming up 3 years. I couldn't imagine finding any guy out there who treats and cares for me as well as he does (no offense to all the guys out there, I am sure you are all sweet as well). But for some reason I feel as if well...I'm falling out of love with him. And what is confusing and upsetting me is that he has done nothing wrong! (May I add we are not in a rut or boring we're a fun and adventurous couple/people).\n\nThis is seriously killing me. I don't want to loose him but I feel as if I need to be single and focus on myself, school and figuring out what I want to do with my life. I'm currently in university studying my second year and I've been in a fully committed relationship with him since I was in high school. He was the guy I had ALWAYS wanted to be with so why has that changed? Yes I do love him, and always will however I feel as if he loves me as much as he says he does, he'd give me some time. But saying that I know if we do \"take a break\" it would totally crush him and we would never be the same, which scares the shit out of me. We've talked about how perfect our life will end up with each other, so why am I not believing what I've once said? Ahh, I'm really bad at trying to explain this. I hope you can understand. \n\nSo Redditors, can you please help me? Share stories good or bad everything helps!", "summary": "Not sure if I'm still in love with my long term boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_ps2zt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most succesful rumor you've ever started or encountered?", "post": "we have this indian friend, we all liked him he played basketball and did other regular stuff.  But sometimes he was just the wierdest guy, and one night when he ditched us, it began.  For some i sent him a facebook message saying \"i hear you're a premature ejaculator.\"  And here we are a few months later and the entire school knows.  All the girls think its totally true and one said \"i couldn't look at him for like a week.\"  And naturally all the guys give him shit about it everyday.  And we have reason to believe the girl who just turned him down factored in the premature ejaculatory habits into her decision", "summary": "one night made up that friend was premature ejaculator, now entire school knows."}
{"id": "t3_2atpkj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slapping my physician while holding a vaccine shot", "post": "This happened about 2 years ago and i'm posting this now since i just found this subreddit.\n\nIt was a Saturday morning and i had an appointment with a new physician my mom was trying out so *this was the first time we ever came here*. So at about 10 am, my mom drove my brother and i to the office. We all walk in and we quickly check in and in no time, i'm getting my weight checked and all that shit. The real reason why we were there were to get vaccine shots we haven't gotten in years(probably less), so my brother got his shot quick and then it was my turn on the hot seat. (But before going on any further, i just need to say my brother and i have been surprise-slapboxing each other in public places for a while now before that day so i gained some fast reflexes and a lot of paranoia along the way.) The thing is, my brother was standing behind the doctor and i couldn't see him so i let my guard down for a second. I looked to my right and shortly after, i felt a slight grasp on my left arm. So without thinking and all in one motion, i flung my arm into the physician's face yelling, \"BITCHH!!\" in the most funniest yet fucked up way. Right after i quickly realized that i slapped this old Slovakian physician to her knees holding a needle in her hand, later realizing she *could've fucking stabbed herself* during the fall. Now i look around only to see my mom covering her whole face and my douche brother almost tomato red trying to hold in his laughter. I then try to relieve the situation by quickly helping her up but it didnt help at all. She was shaking really hard trying to hold up the needle to give me the shot. Then when she did, she quickly got up, said goodbye and speedwalked the fuck out of there. This was now the final realization that i totally fucked up and didnt get to say sorry because at the moment, i was shocked at myself for doing such a horrible deed.", "summary": "Slapboxing with my brother eventually caused me to bitch slap an old lady"}
{"id": "t3_48651j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] don't like to be alone and I don't know how to handle this breakup.", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nI don't really know how to or enjoy being alone. To be completely honest, I've been in one long-term relationship that failed miserably and after that I was just dating around until I found my most recent ex of 2 years.\n\nI, of course, every now and then enjoy the night in alone. But last night I realized that I enjoyed staying in with my significant other. I would much prefer that than going out and hooking up with randos.\n\nAfter this breakup, I thought to myself \"This is a great time to learn how to be alone!\" since I realized that I was jumping from relationship to dating to relationship.\n\nAnd after 1 month... Here I am, resisting the urge to download Tinder, wanting to go out on dates, needing companionship from a partner. I miss my ex, but I think my problem here is that what I really miss was his *company*. I feel depressed knowing that I don't have him there to drink with me on nights in, or someone to see the movies with.\n\nBasically, I am seeking some validation or invalidation. Is it wrong that I need someone else's company? That I don't like being alone? That maybe I *can't* be alone? That maybe it is okay to date around one month after a breakup, even though I know I am not ready for anything serious?\n\nIn regards to friends... I have friends, yes, and we occasionally all have that \"girls night out.\" But realistically speaking, almost every one of my close friends is in long-term committed relationship or marriage, and the ones that aren't, KNOW and LOVE to be by themselves. In hindsight, I go out with my girlfriends like 2x a month. That isn't enough to fill in the rest of the gaps.", "summary": "Decided I should take time to learn how to \"be alone\" since I am serial dater/relationship-ist. One month in and I am feeling depressed and lonely. How to be alone/Is it bad not wanting to be alone? Is it bad if I just want to date around casually after this breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_4qt6vt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[non-romantic] I (29F) want to introduce a talented disabled friend (mid 20sM) to a successful studio owner (30sM) who is also disabled, so he can perhaps be inspired or given opportunity. How do I go about this tactfully?", "post": "Sorry if I am not using the right terms because I don't encounter this often but I want to know how to do the right thing, or if I'm doing he right thing. I am not trying to categorise disabled people into one group. It's just I feel like maybe it's a good opportunity for my friend because it is hard enough as is..? Anyway, to the details...\n\nSo recently I met this guy at an art group who despite being disabled (i won't get into in what way, but let's just say it you put me in his condition, I wouldn't even be able to hold a pen steady, let alone draw), a very good artist and he mentioned being an animator. I treated him like everyone else. I didn't baby him or ask him constantly if he needs any help, because obviously he has it all figured out. He enjoyed his time and came to many other events that followed. \n\nAt the same time, I know an owner of a studio who has a different type of disability. He has created some amazing work and has articles written about how he didn't let anything stop him. He share those stories on Facebook and quite clearly an activist for disabled people. \n\nNow I know I should mind my own business, but I feel like it would be good to introduce them. Maybe being an activist, the owner would be more inclined to give my friend opportunities because it's hard to break into the industry as it is. Should I or shouldn't I? If I do, how should I go about it tactfully? I have never talked about disability with my friend so i don't know how I would even start to bring it up or if he is even okay with me bringing it up. Actually now that I think about it, we only just met the past few months so he is more like an acquaintance, but he's part of the art group so it's kinda like family to me... Maybe I should talk to the owner instead? Also I am not in the country since and won't be able to introduce them in person.", "summary": "my friend is an amazing disabled artist and animator, and I know a disabled animation studio owner and activist. I feel I should introduce them but I have never talked about disability with them. Should I? If I do, how do I do it tactfully?"}
{"id": "t3_36xeiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F26] have no friends and I'm getting jealous of [M23] husband's friends and acting clingy.", "post": "So yeah, pretty much the title. We've been been together for about 5 years, married for 1.5 years. I moved in with him to a small military town when we got married, and so far I haven't really been able to make friends. He just got out of the military and we have decided to stay here, but I'm getting really lonely.\n\nDon't get me wrong I try, but it just hasn't worked out for me. I've tried looking for a job but there's not a lot of opportunities here and I don't have a degree.  I've tried meeting up with people on reddit, going to parties, getting involved in the vape community, meeting my SO's buddies' wives and girlfriends but no luck. I've been here almost 2 years and I have absolutely no one I can call up to go hang out with or go to lunch. \n\nI just sit at home by myself every day, waiting for him to come home just so I can have some human interaction. Then I get irrationally sad that my husband doesn't spend all his time with me. He also plays a lot of video game and has his own friends, and I'm not sure how to deal with that.  I've been getting clingy, needy, and jealous that's he's logged into his game every other day for hours talking and laughing with his friends while I just sit alone on the couch and surf reddit. Does anyone have any advice at all? I don't want to force him not to game or have a life just because I don't have one. :/", "summary": "Husband plays lots of online games, and I have no friends. I try to put myself out there but nothing, I'm getting clingy and jealous of his friends. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1gg7j3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my girlfriend [31F] for 5 months, Am I bad at relationships because I don't text?", "post": "We are almost breaking up over this.\n\nI hate texting people. I have social anxiety, and although it is greatly progressed from my 3 years living at home in my bedroom to being a university student now, I still have some lingering issues. One of them is texting. I can't get over the feeling of when I text that I'm just being annoying. This applies to any conversation or facebook or even in real life, I just don't start conversations often because I feel like if they want to talk to me, they will talk to me.  \n\nI sound like an asshole, but I promise I am a very loving guy in real life. My girlfriend says that when I am with her, she feels so happy and content. It's just when I'm not by her side she feels alone and unhappy. I try to be with her as much as I can, but I can't be there 24/7. I have study, I have family, and to be honest, I really do value my alone time. I don't want to be calling her and texting her all the time. I promise that I show her that I love her and care about her, I just don't want to spend all my time with her. Is that normal, or should I be feeling like she does, wanting to be with her 24/7", "summary": "Love a girl, but I value my alone time as well."}
{"id": "t3_2p8eb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 F] going to study abroad for a year, don't know what to do about my relationship with GF [21 F]", "post": "I've been dating my GF for 8 months, my feelings for her are very strong, we are in love. She is graduating college this spring, I still have a year left but I will be spending it abroad. That is, next fall I will leave for Germany and I won't return until the following spring.\n\nI was talking to a friend who was in the same program I'm in and he said that he broke up with his gf before going abroad for a year, but they ended up getting back together when he returned. He said he broke up with her because he didn't want to be held back at all during his study abroad experience, not in the sense of wanting to fuck other ppl, but just that he knew he was going to be growing and changing as a person so much, he didn't want to have a girlfriend abroad to anchor him down at all.\n\nMy gf and I have agreed to stay together when I go abroad, but I'm having second thoughts after this conversation and its really eating me. I keep thinking about wanting to experience the country to the fullest, but having to be home for a skype date. Or texting with her: \"what are you up to? Oh I'm taking a train to Amsterdam for the weekend, hbu? Oh, just doing job applications in small town Massachusetts :(\" I just feel like we will both be growing in totally different directions and I can't picture that being enjoyable or healthy.\n\nAdditionally, since she will presumably be landing a job after graduation, in who knows what location, what if I return from abroad only to have our long-distance relationship continue in different areas of the united states? I don't want that.\n\nI know for a fact that if I tell her I want to break up when I go abroad it will break her. Sometimes she randomly starts crying just thinking about not being able to see me next year, and that is while we have agreed to stay together.\n\nIf anyone has had a similar experience or has any advice to offer pls let me know. I half want someone to make an argument contrary to my friend's argument to make me want to stay together when I go.", "summary": "Going abroad for a year, want to embrace my growth without being tied down, what do you guys think?"}
{"id": "t3_2ft2ov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my BF [37 M] of a year, second guessing his intentions", "post": "We have been together for a year. It was smooth sailing at first, he was perfect through and through but my jealousy and trust issues made us fight constantly. I was such a crazy gf but I was trying to work out my issues through therapy and all.\n\nFour months ago, he told me that he couldn't take it (the fighting and the snooping and crazy jealousy) anymore and that he wanted to be just friends. He said that he loved me but he was not in love with me because we were fighting constantly. It went on for a month plus. I begged him to stay because I was still in love with him. He agreed because he said I was the best thing that had ever happened to him. And so we continued fighting and making up. \n\n6 weeks ago, we found out that I was pregnant. The first night he found out, he wanted to abort the baby and asked me if I would consider it. I said I was afraid of abortion and would think about it. We had a long discussion about having children and the possibility of being stuck in a bad marriage. The next day, he said he completely changed his mind and wanted to stay together and marry me and have kids together. He proposed the week after, rock on my finger and everything.\n\nIt has been amazing, we are planning for our wedding at the end of the month.  He is super enthusiast now, takes really great care of me and kisses my belly all the time. Thing is, I just can't get over the fact that he rejected me once before, and that he initially refused to keep the baby. I kept wondering if I should leave him, but I think it would literally kill him. \n\nAm I being paranoid or is it really possible to fall back into love with someone after you fell out of it? Should I worry about his infidelity in the future? Or is this just me being a crazy jealous gf once again?", "summary": "Currently pregnant and engaged to an amazing boyfriend. Wedding is in three weeks, having second thoughts due to boyfriend initial reluctance when he first found out. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_3qjb0t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing the master key and office key", "post": "Two TIFU's. First one was 2 months ago, and one yesterday.\nWhen i got my job as a IT-Support, i received two keys. One Master key and another key to my office.\n\nHaven't you had the feeling where you were on your way home, and suddenly you search your pockets and somethings missing? \n\nYeah, after 2 months on my new job, i lost the MASTER key. (i've lost a key once, and that was when i was a kid) \n\nAnd now i just lost a key that opens up every damn thing in a massive IT company. Aaaand i haven't told my boss yet, because i havent had much use of that key, only my office key. So i went to tell the janitor guy who orders new keys, and he ordered a new one (havent gotten it until this day).\n\nSo yesterday i went out for a couple of hours, fixing stuff, and i came back stressing around because i had to catch the train after work. On the way to the metro, i put my hands into my pockets, and something is missing. My office key.\n\nThe worst part about it, is that i have NO clue whatsoever where the Master key is and how i even lost it, but the office key, i have a feeling that i might know where it is.\n\nI panicked, and called almost everybody that i have been helping if they've seen anything. Nothing has come up. Now i'm at work, lied about me losing my private keys to my co-workers and boss, and that i have to go look for them, i'm now waiting to book a car so i can go look for the key. \nJust my luck :(", "summary": "losing the 2 most important keys within 3 months of my new job, havent told my boss or co-workers yet, i'm screwed."}
{"id": "t3_mq62n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are white immigrants from South Africa (to America) considered African-Americans? Should they be?", "post": "Should anyone who comes to America to live be considered anything other than American? Or have we forgotten George Washington's words, \n\n\"Citizens, by birth or choice, of a common country, that country has a right to concentrate your affections. **The name of american, which belongs to you, in your national capacity, must always exalt the just pride of Patriotism, more than any appellation derived from local discriminations.** With slight shades of difference, you have the same religion, manners, habits, and political principles. You have in a common cause fought and triumphed together; the Independence and Liberty you possess are the work of joint counsels, and joint efforts, of common dangers, sufferings, and successes.\"\n\nI fully expect a deluge of down votes, but consider this. Why do we call ourselves Irish-American, African-American, or Italian-American, in reference to where we came from, usually many generations ago, rather than American, in reference to what we are today?\n\nHere's a slightly outdated link to a news story about this:", "summary": "First-gen South African student in America put up posters asking students to consider him for an \"African-American\" award. Chaos ensued."}
{"id": "t3_19heay", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Okay--How to help train an anxiety ridden dog aggressive dog?", "post": "Hey guys.\n\nI've posted on here before about my Australian Cattle Dog [Jamba] and his aggression issues.\n\nBackground: no aggressive behavior until after he was fixed around 6mo--since then it's been hell (He's also ALWAYS lived with another dog except for around 3 months between 8-11mo).  Lunging/poofyness/barking/super reactive.  I HAVE gotten him to be able to LIVE WITH other dogs as long as he's introduced properly, but he cannot have random dogs spring up on him either on walks or out in public.  As a result, can't take him anywhere anymore except for walks in the woods and in my neighborhood.\n\nToday: We met for a free consultation is a great trainer in our area who we were interested in working with to help Jamba.  However, on top of his flat $750 fee for just training, with his aggression fee it would be close to $1000 which is just entirely unfeasible for me right now (he didn't have payment plan options) unless Jamba and I are both going to be eating tortilla chips only for the next year.  \n\nHow would you train a dog that is reactive both on and off leash?  I'm thinking just intense obedience training where that becomes his job as opposed to him thinking his job is to \"protect mom from strange dogs\". \n\nHe said that desensitization can work SOMETIMES but that it's very difficult for that to work in some cases with high energy working dogs.  However, I have been just using desensitization and also gradual introductions with him and dogs he now lives with and dogs he's lived with in the past.  \n\nHe also noticed that Jamba is very nervous/has some pent up anxiety.  He gets pretty chompy and his brain starts going a million miles a minute.  Do you guys think I can use Kikopup's \"Capturing Calmness\" training for this or should I try a few different techniques??\n\nThanks for reading, I'm open to any suggestions/help/tips.", "summary": "ACD dog reactive/dog aggressive and has some anxiety--how to train him to be tolerant/calm/switch his job from \"protecting mommy\" to \"just focus on mommy\"?"}
{"id": "t3_3fdfxi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[Question] MFP, UP, and my plateau.", "post": "I am having issues with a plateau already. I am only five pounds in towards my goal weight, and this plateau has started AFTER I began counting calories. I have been using MFP, made sure that my stats were as accurate as possible, and even linked UP with my Moto 360. \n\nMy issue is that my work has been calling for odd hours such as 5PM to 11PM, so I will eat lunch and then catch dinner late. My 'exercise calories' seem to be rolling over to the next day. Should it be doing this? I had an occurrence when MFP would say that I had 800+ exercise calories, and it being 8AM with only 4% of my steps. Once or twice, I will eat over my daily calories, and consume some exercise calories. Could MFP be calculating these exercise calories wrongly, and my eating be unjustified? Should I never eat over my daily calories, despite what MFP says?\n\nAn album of my issue:", "summary": "Should I eat a little of my 'exercise calories'?"}
{"id": "t3_4xrzvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My coworker is a lesbian who is uncomfortable with her sexuality [23f] and our male coworkers [24-30ish] are giving her a hard time about it. How do I support her?", "post": "One of my coworkers is an adorable sweet Asian girl who joined my team about 3 months ago. We all assumed she was straight. We found out last week (though she wasn't the one who brought it up) that she prefers women and she's in a relationship with a woman right now. \n\nSome male coworkers on my team who are in their mid-20s are being immature teenage boys about it. They're not mean-spirited at all -- they have the best intentions when tease her about it (and I know they only tease her because it's not a big deal), but I can tell it makes her uncomfortable. \n\nFrom what I've judged, she seems to be still uncomfortable with her sexuality. She has a hard time sticking up for herself, and she doesn't tell the guys to knock it off. She tries laughing it off, but I know she would like them to stop. \n\nI'm a 32 year old woman and we're the only women on the team (yay tech). I'm not a manager, and I don't have any direct authority over our male coworkers. I want to ask the guys to stop, but at the same time, I don't want to be the overbearing maternal coworker who takes everything too seriously, ESPECIALLY when she herself laughs along with them and hasn't asked them to stop.  What can I do to support her?", "summary": "my coworker is a lesbian who is uncomfortable with her sexuality and our male coworkers are giving her a hard time about it. How do I support her as a 32 year old only-other-woman on the team?"}
{"id": "t3_3q45b7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I decided panties were an option ...", "post": "I have decided to stop wearing panties. Well my mom is a stay at home mom ( religious family and mothers place is at home and all that good stuff) and when I get busy with school and work she will help me with laundry and stuff. I didn't even think about their being no panties in my laundry so when I got home from work today, we were having our normal family time and my mom asked me if I didn't have the money to buy panties or if something happened and I needed help. Thankfully my sister and I are close and she made a distraction so I could come up with a bullshit excuse. Most embarrassing dinner ever.", "summary": "Mom asked if I had money for panties in front of my entire family , and my sisters new boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2hh6dj", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Anyone here ever get book lice?", "post": "So I sit down this afternoon for a reading session and I get through about two paragraphs when a tiny little yellow/white bug scurries past the line I was reading.  At first think nothing of it, squish it and keep reading.  Then I see another one, and then another....\n\nWTF?  I go online and look at some pictures of bugs that are commonly found in books, and sure enough I see a picture of the same little off white bugs called Book lice. \n\nWell it just so happens that it was my birthday on sunday and my parents had bought me a few books online.  So I grab one of those books and take a look under my desk lamp, and sure enough there was another one!  I have 70-80 ish books on my shelf and I go through them all and find about a dozen or so with book lice on them.  My book case has four shelves, found lice on books on every shelf, so I am assuming all books are contaminated.\n\nBeen doing some research on eradicating the devils, and there seem to be about three options:\n1. Lay books out in sun; hopefully drying the lice out because they are dependent on moisture\n2. Put them in zip-lock bags and store in freezer for a couple days ( there seem to be varying opinions whether or not this will kill their eggs)\n3.  Using a specific kind of bug spray that supposedly wont damage a book\n\nIt sounds like these things like dampness, moisture, humidity, etc.  I have no idea where they came from, and fortunately they don't harm people ( They aren't actually lice like you get in hair, arent technically lice at all) they are mostly just an annoyance that will continue to grow and spread without treatment. I dont know if I got them through those books I received in the mail the other day, or if it is because I live in Michigan where we have about 70-80% humidity.", "summary": "got book Lice; must eradicate "}
{"id": "t3_4xlitr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] feel that my boyfriend [25M] isn't doing his fair share of the housework. How can I make the workload more balanced?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for close to 4 years, living together for 3. The first year, we lived in the house I was renting with a bunch of roommates. At the time, I had already more or less given up on housework aside from my room and my share of dishes. It was a party house and trying to keep it nice was futile, since it was bound to be undone within a day. \n\nFast forward to year 2, when we got our own nice apartment. I'll be honest, as someone that always struggled with a messy room as a kid, I surprised myself with how much pride I began to take in my space. In the 4 years I had lived on my own, I had never had a place that was truly mine. \n\nAt first, I enjoyed tinkering about and making it spotless. I didn't mind that he didn't do as much, because he was always very appreciative and it made me feel good to make it a lovely home for him and for myself. About 4 months after we moved in, he got a decent raise and my work hours dropped. So I was working less and making half as much. I felt it was fair that continuing to do all of the housework was my way of contributing equally. \n\nA few months ago however, I got a promotion. Still, I make slightly less, but I work an equal amount and contribute equally to the bills. The extra money he makes is mainly just spending money, which I also contribute pretty equally to. When I don't have spending money of my own, I stay in. Yet still, I find myself doing 95% of the house work. He is grateful as well as apologetic about that fact, and to his credit he will usually do a chore if I ask, but in my opinion unloading the dishwasher or taking out the trash once a week is not contributing when I spend the majority of my time off doing housework.", "summary": "I feel like my boyfriend isn't doing his share of the chores. He notices and appreciates everything I do. He works very hard at a physically demanding job. But I feel the current chore situation is unfair to me. How can I get him to do his part consistently?"}
{"id": "t3_1i4sdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21F] unsure of how to interpret my BF's [28M] still active OKCupid account. Insight appreciated", "post": "**Essentials**: I have been dating this wonderful man for a year now. We met via OKC, stars aligned, laughs exchanged - lovely. He asked that we be exclusive a month or so into dating which sounded fine to me. I had already deactivated my account a week prior, as I felt pretty secure. I never thought to ask what he had done with his. About 4 or 5 months into dating, I, perhaps wrongly, did the ole Google on his username, and lo! his profile was still up and had been logged into just the day prior. I was mildly upset, but, to be fair, we had never discussed leaving the site (though I assumed, because of the whole, ya know, exclusive business, he would maybe have stopped looking?). So, the next day I casually asked if he still visited. He openly confirmed but assured me it was all just in fun. To his credit, his status **was** stated as seeing someone. I didn't want to be THAT overbearing, jealous girlfriend, so I  dropped it and resolved to have faith in that I was enough for him. \n\n**Issue**: Well, it started to eat at me, and apparently I could only remain rational for another 6 months... I'd be lying if I didn't admit to intermittently taking a remote peek to see if his profile was active. And it has been. I have no idea how frequently but enough that my heart sinks a little bit every time I notice how recent the log in date is compared to our latest \"heart to heart\" or meeting of the family or rad sex night --- activities that should strengthen a relationship, not have him seemingly running for the hills. So. I just need some perspective here. Is this ridiculous OKC just an outlet/safety blanket thing that I'm making an unnecessary mental fuss over or do I need to realize this is someone that is looking for a plan B? womp.", "summary": "BF of a year maintains OKC profile, basically... is this bizarre?"}
{"id": "t3_fop52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Being Shady To My Friends, Avoiding My Ex", "post": "Me: 25\nMy ex: 24 (I think)\nwere together: 2 years\nbroke up: 4 years ago\n\nOk, I think that gives some pretty good context to the situation.  Now, this ex of mine is a girl I've had a super hard time getting over.  I can't help but have some feelings for her even though she has treated me like crap.  So I do have some lovey dovey feelings for her, but then, I really really hate her.  Basically whenever I'm reminded of her, I get in a bad mood. \n\nThe last time we interacted was about a year ago.  We hung out a few times, exchanged texts, and eventually went on a date (that she proposed we do).  This is something I was sort of hoping or, but it turned out she was just using me to get a free ride and dinner.  It was really painful and humiliating, and made my resentment towards her even worse.  I haven't seen her since, and I know I won't be able to be in the same room as this girl without being in a super crabby face mood. \n\nNow, fastforward to today.  There is going to be a little get together tonight for my close friends, and she sort of invited herself in.  Now that she's going, I really don't want to go, but I know this is going to rub my friends the wrong way.  They don't know about the incident I had last with her, so they will think I'm a big baby for not going. \n\nI do think I am being a big baby for not going, but I know this will be a painful night to endure.  I don't know how I'm going to go about telling my friends that I'm not going to show tonight.  It's pretty shitty because some people are coming in from out of town, so it's like, yeah...\n\nSo what should I do?", "summary": "Close friends are having a get together tonight, some people are coming from out of town so I would feel really bad to skip out because my ex is there.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1qmyt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21M) SO broke up with me(F21). I don't know how to get over it.", "post": "My boyfriend broke up with me last night, a week before our one year anniversery. It was like a bomb was dropped on my head. We had a wonderful, and loving relationship. I don't have many friends to talk to about this and I'm struggling to feel supported.\n\nHe has some personal problems dealing with self hatred and work ethic. He said that it had nothing to do with our relationship, but he needed to focus on himself completely to fix these things. He told me that he had tried giving time to our relationship and himself but it is impossible.\n\nI feel so lost and alone. He was my best friend and partner. I don't know how I'm going to stop seeing him or talking to him. I don't know how to feel okay or even get over this. How do I get over this?", "summary": "I don't know how I'm going to get over my unexpected break up that had nothing to do with our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2ray4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my [28 M] boyfriend, 2 months, his laugh and humor really annoy me!!!", "post": "Hi guys, first time poster here.\n\nSo I really need some help with my situation. I'm dating this great guy. He's creative, sensitive, we share the same beliefs, loving, giving...\n\nBut we do not share the same humor, rarely do we. And he laughs at everything. It drives me nuts. It's almost socially awkward because he'll laugh when no one finds it funny.On top of that he has a very loud, obnoxious laugh. And singing voice. \n\nHard part is that he LOVES to sing and laugh! I don't know if you can tell someone to tone down their laugh. Or stop singing. Or even how to do that nicely.\n\nI seem to let it go sometimes, but it's really like nails on a chalkboard to me.\n\nIs this something that can be worked on/addressed? Or is this a deal breaker? I'm afraid if I break it off I'm not going to be able to find someone with the same depth he has. Yet my sister says it's not fair to him to think he's annoying.\n\nWould it be offensive to sensitively, kindly bring up the nervous laughter habit?\n\nI'm conflicted... help.", "summary": "How to adjust to someone's different sense humor, can I talk to him about his laughter at everything?"}
{"id": "t3_3vtk8x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "F21 Is there something wrong with me? I've been dating for months with no luck.", "post": "A little about me:\n\nFirstly, I'm demisexual and demiromantic. I tell people this upfront before we even go on the first date and people act like they understand it and say it's okay, but then they get tired of waiting to see if my feelings will develop and they leave. \n\nI'm conventionally attractive. I model, though I'm not tall enough to do anything but commercial modeling.\n\nI'm also a member of MENSA, very politically and socially active, and an avid reader, so it's not like I lack depth beyond my appearance. I've a great many interests that range from video games to fencing, comics to archery. I work in a design field and am very passionate about what I do. \n\nI'm also 21 and wholly financially independent. I've my own apartment and everything. No roommates - just me. \n\nI've only been in one relationship and I was deeply in love with him until he left me two years into it after telling me he never really loved me. We got back together briefly until I realized things were never going to get better and I ended things myself 9 months ago. It's not been easy, but I've fallen out of love with him. I do miss having a friendship with him, but I've accepted that he likely never going to be a part of my life again. \n\nSince then, I've been dating a lot but I can't connect with people the way I need to. I've met some men and women with amazing personalities, but there hasn't been any spark with any of them. I don't know if it's because I'm demi or because of something else. I feel like I have a lot to offer, but the few people I HAVE had some interest in haven't returned the sentiment.\n\nI feel stuck.", "summary": "Is it me? What can I do to get out of this rut?"}
{"id": "t3_30tx8i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Quick question) Me [20M] with my Gf[19F] wont send me texts but she does appears online several times, is this normal?", "post": "Pretty much the title. sometimes I text my recent gf(of 4 months) and usually she doesnt takes long but sometimes she gets online for a while then disconnects without replying.\n\nThe thing is,it makes me somewhat uncomfortable, should I get worried about this? Or no? I feel like she talks to other people which is ok and not bad, but when she does that I feel she is giving priority to them over me and it would make me feel weird if it was other guys.\n\nSo my question is, should I get worried? Is this normal?\n\nNote: she doesnt has any hints on her \"profile\" that suggest we are a couple", "summary": "gf doesnt replies even though she gets online, should i get worried? Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2u8pbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [26] of 2 years, he decides to leave for a trip on Valentine's Day without asking if I cared. It's too late to change and now we're fighting. Am I blowing this up?", "post": "My boyfriend (let's call him Brad) and his friends all planned a trip for a week. I was never really informed of the plans and didn't know when they were leaving. I find out they plan to leave on Valentine's day morning by overhearing their conversation...not because Brad told me. When I confronted him about it, he tells me he didn't ask me about leaving on Valentine's day because he assumed I wouldn't care. I'll admit, I have mentioned that in previous relationships, Valentine's day was never really special to me. But I guess it was more because I didn't care about the guy I was with. I love Brad. Last Valentine's day was really great and I was really looking forward to it this year. But now it's too late to make changes to their plans and I can't help but feel really upset by this. He keeps saying we can celebrate the day before, but I don't feel satisfied. It just doesn't feel the same. It's been 3 days and I still feel pretty down about it. Be honest with me, am I making too big a deal about this?", "summary": "Boyfriend is leaving Valentine's day morning on a trip and didn't ask me if I cared. It's been three days and I'm still upset about it. Am I making too big a deal about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1mjmrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23F] boyfriend [31M] of 1 year cheated while I was out of town", "post": "My boyfriend recently confessed to cheating on me while I was away on a research course for two weeks. We had been living together for 6 months at this point. I have now moved to a different city to finish my last 8 months of University. \n\nI spent a week with him after my course and he didn't tell me about his infidelity until I moved back to school (~1hr away). He called me, sputtering, that he couldn't continue to go on living with the lie and guilt of his mistake. He had \"fooled around\" with a good female friend of his. \n\nThis was extremely shocking to me because our relationship was SO GOOD. I had been cheated on in a previous relationship - a relationship that was terrible. It doesn't make sense and I never thought my current boyfriend could do this to me. \n\nI've never been this in-love with someone either. If there is such thing as \"the one\", he is mine. I can imagine us growing old together, which is something I've never imagined doing with anyone before. \n\nHe says he's never regretted anything in his life before this, that it's the biggest mistake he will ever make. He promises that he would never do this to me ever again. How do I believe him? I want to stay with him.", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated while I was away for 2 weeks. Now I've moved to a different city, how do I make it work and learn to trust him again?"}
{"id": "t3_37ppeh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [18 M] been texting [17 F] non-stop for the last few days, think she likes me but don't know how to progress", "post": "I'm a guy who has never had a date, girlfriend, or even somebody interested in me as far as i know so I have no idea what to do. I met this girl through being in the same course at college. We were put into a group for a group assignment so our group of six swapped details and planned a group meeting. In this meeting only me, the girl and her friend showed up so we pretty much just forgot about the assignment and just talked. Thanks to this I got to know her a bit and then earlier this week after the same class we got talking again. We ended up hanging out for a couple of hours before her next class where we talked about random things and had fun chatting.\n\nThat night I wanted to text her since I wouldn't see her for a week but I wasn't sure what to say and kind of left it. Luckily for me she texted me that night and we talked until late. The next day we ended up texting non-stop all day and met up for a bit when we both had classes around the same time. This was repeated for the last few days and everything seems to be going well as far as I know. I wanted to ask her out so I somehow got the guts (after typing the message and shouting at myself for five minutes to send it) to see if she wanted to do something during our study break in a couple weeks and she said yes but I'm not sure if she thought I meant it as just hanging out. I would try flirting or something but I have no idea how and anything I want to say that might mean something I'm too scared to say. I'm hoping you guys could help me with my situation as I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Texting for a few days, think she likes me but don't know how to progress as i'm new to this and have no experience with anything"}
{"id": "t3_tcoz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling insecure about boyfriends fantasy", "post": "I'm 21(f) and he's 21(m). I'm sure I just feel really insecure because it's 5am and I'm stressed with exams, but some supportive feed back would be lovely.\n\nSo we've been dating for about 8 months and I love him dearly. He is the one I want to have for the rest of my life. Anyways, we have a fairly healthy relationship. We work on trying to communicate often and in a respectful manner. Sometimes I get super emotional and really clingy but overall he has handled it extremely well. \n\nHe really wants to have a threesome. I know that I won't have one anytime soon because I'm waaay to insecure about it. I don't even like it when he looks at porn. I would still like to do it at some point just to please him, but I don't know if I will ever be emotional able to handle it. I asked him just now if he would be okay with dealing with a super upset and emotional me for a month straight to have a threesome and he said yes. I'm glad he was honest but I was somewhat peeved by his answer. I wouldn't purposely do anything to upset him or make him uncomfortable.\n\nYour thoughts on this? Do I sound sane? I'm not asking for people to say that my boyfriend is a dick, but mostly if I'm being emotionally reasonable with myself. I don't want to make him think I'll one day have a threesome with him if its never going to happen. Thanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend wants a threesome but I don't think I'm emotionally okay with it or that I ever will be. Should I feel bad about not being able to fulfill this desire for him?"}
{"id": "t3_puv9n", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Taking action to attempt a daring escape from the friendzone...", "post": "Me: 23 M. Her: 23 F. \n\nWe're both graduate students, and have been good friends for 1.5 years or so. Unfortunately I fell very hard for her. Last August we had a couple of sexual encounters, and shortly after I asked if she wanted to be in a relationship. She said yes, but the next day she decided that we would be better off as friends. She has never been in any relationship by the way.\n\nFast forward to present day, and we are very good friends, spend a lot of time together, even went to dinner on Valentine's day (split the check.) I am still crazy about her though, and part of me thinks that she wouldn't spend so much time with me if she has no interest. She is coming to my place tomorrow night to have dinner and watch a movie, and I have to do something, I can't just stand by any longer. \n\nThe question is, should I bring up the subject and try to talk it out by laying all my cards on the table? Or should I just go in for the kiss and see how the reception is? I'm leaning towards trying the kiss.", "summary": "Talk it out or just go in for a kiss?"}
{"id": "t3_34kcnf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] Mom [47 F] has a gambling problem and never wants to get into therapy or rehab.", "post": "This problem started long before I was born, and something my dad [50 M] never liked about my mom. Every day it's the same comments: \"I'll get better, I won't go to the Casino anymore.[etc.]\" \n\nRecently, my mom literally wasted ~3000 dollars into her gambling problems and keeps asking for loans, after loan and never pays back [To the point that one of them almost broke into our house just so they can have something to pay off the loan she asked for.] \n\nThis is stressful not only because she never wants to help herself, but because my parents never make **enough income** to support our lifestyle and needs. She hardly has time for us but she never works, she just likes being on the streets than being in home with us. \n\nThey've fought and divorced, and just before we came to our homecountry to see our dad again, he'd left someone who he was interested in and was overall a better person just because my mom wanted to come with us. She thought that over here she'd find jobs and let go of her addiction. She didn't. \n\nHer age also causes her to never think that logically, something about horomone balance [She never tells me everything, I hardly even know my mom.] which causes her to breakdown easily or act out of impulse.\n\nWhat caused me to finally ask this today, is that I think she pawned my Nintendo 3DS and her own phone to pay for her loans. I believe this because I can't find the Charger or the Console anywhere. That last place I left it was in the kitchen, and when I got home it wasn't anywhere. My dad thinks the same because this has happened before, but I don't know what to believe anymore.\n\nWhat can I do to help both of them? I don't trust my mom to handle her own money, and my dad is the one who literally carries all the burden while he won't let me excercise responsibilites [Find a job to support them].", "summary": "Mom's a loan shark and has gambling addiction, prefers going to the streets than staying home. Wasted 3000 dollars on her addiction, possibly pawned her own phone and my 3DS. Never looks for rehab or therapy. I don't know how to help them since they won't let me get a job."}
{"id": "t3_4s8yka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am into a girl [18F] who I just found out (from her) that has a history of cheating.", "post": "So, for the past few months I have been talking to, and now, flirting with this one girl. We became really close friends and things were looking as if at any moment we could enter a relationship. However, a few days ago we had a very deep conversation about personal flaws and mistakes we have made in the past. That was the moment that I learned about how she has cheated on other guys before.\n\nAccording to her, the first person she dated was abusive and overall horrible to her, so she cheated on him when she was an environment where he wasn't present, and subsequently their relationship ended. But, this was not an isolated incident. She also told me that when with her next SO, she cheated on him with two entirely separate guys, both whom were dating someone else at the time. \n\nMy only response when I heard all this information was \"why?\" to which she replied \"because I'm a horny mess and can't control myself\".\n\nThere are so many red flags here it's actually unbelievable. It's like some kind of crazy red flag fiesta.\n\nDespite all of that, she told me that she regrets her having cheated and realizes how awful and fucked up her actions were. Most importantly she said that she is determined to change and is actively working on improving herself and not making the same past mistakes and decisions.\n\nOn top of all that, this is a person with whom I'm more comfortable than with anyone else and I value as a friend above all else. \n\nI honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "People can do bad things, and cheating is an awful act, but is it forgivable? Should that deter me from pursuing a relationship with her, or should I be an optimist and go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_e5zr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "can reddit help my disabled mom?", "post": "I'm wondering if any redditors have been in a similar situation and might be able to help out. So my mom is disabled and has had polymyositis (a nueromuscular disease) for the last four years and has not been getting better. She's divorced and I'm away at college so there's basically nobody to help her do simple things around the house (grocery shopping, cleaning, maintainence) except for my sister, who is busy in high school. She's got stacks of bills and medical receipts that she needs to pay/send to the insurance company for reimbursement; needs help filing taxes; dire straights financially. We know that there are programs out there, but have been rejected (due to value of our house and not being on welfare or of retirement age)/given the runaround from many of them. Is there any kind of personal assistant or organization that could come to her house to apply for these programs, sort through/pay her bills, file her reimbursements, help with grocery etc.? State social worker has been useless- gives us programs, but my mom has to do all the work of filing, driving, following up (which she's incapable of doing).", "summary": "My mom is disabled and desperately needs personal assistant/home care help, we have no idea what she's eligible for or if there's any non-profits that can help."}
{"id": "t3_35jiy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/f] trying to be supportive of a friend [30/m] who's not the type to reach out for support.", "post": "This is about a specific situation, but actually I struggle with this problem with any of my friends who are not the \"reaching out\" type.\n\nSo I'm the type of person who's very vocal when I'm having a rough time. I don't lie and my first impulse is to call a friend to tell them what happened. Sometimes I become over-reliant on others, but that's a problem for a different day.\n\nAnyway, as such I struggle to identify with people who are \"not the type to reach out\" when feeling bad. I understand that sometimes these people just need time to process what has happened to them, and so they are in some sense asking for space that you should give them.\n\nBUT, I also find that these type tends to assume that you can read their minds and just know when they *really* want you to ask questions and support them... but they will never come right out and say it and would never dream of picking up the phone and saying \"help, I need you,\" no matter how badly they may actually need you.\n\nSo, how do you balance giving someone their needed space with also showing that you are there for them? (I know there's always the \"I'm here if you need me\" line, but I'm also aware that this type of person will almost never reach out and take you up on that, no matter how sincerely you mean it, even if they want you to be there for them.)", "summary": "I am not a mind-reader, help me to start reading these \"space-needing\" people's minds!! lol."}
{"id": "t3_285z8v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Killing a Slug", "post": "I was staying at my Grans as I do every Friday. Being the weekend I brought it upon myself to attempt to watch all the Monty Python movies (only made it through two) I was about midway through The Meaning of Life when I felt a bit peckish. I proceeded to make my way to the kitchen being ever so quietly as it was around 3am. After making I turned on the light, looked down and saw a huge fucking slug laying across the tile. It was about a inch wide and 5 inches long, I felt bad seeing him cower as I stepped close (I've never really felt bad for a slug before but something about seeing his little eyes cower was cute... kinda). I began thinking of ways to get rid of it. Salt was a no go, I have no idea if being dissolved hurts to a slug but I didn't want to risk it. I couldn't let him out the front door too risky I would have to walk passed my Grans room and if I were to wake her... bad things would happen. Windows have alarms which I have no idea how to turn off. So I came to the conclusion that I had to crush the poor little guy/girl. I wrapped him it toilet paper (to hopefully prevent slug goop splash) and lifted a shoe. He was wrapped up tight like a little sack of slug. I smashed the shoe down, I must have hit it at a angle because it burst in two, looked like the slug had shit all up the kitchen cabinets its head lay almost as if it was looking at me saying 'WHY!!!'. The slug goop sure was hard to scrub off, I spent about 45mins doing it. I placed the cleaning utensils in the bin. Never to be used again. The next day I woke up to find them all back out having been used to clean dishes and my Gran confused as I put them in the bin, also after looking in the mirror I found a small amount of hardened brown slug gloop in my hair. I showered immediately!", "summary": "Went to crush slug POP! guts all over the kitchen"}
{"id": "t3_1v7xwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] girlfriend [21 F] of 1 month is unable to say anything remotely negative without prodding.", "post": "I've been in a few relationships, and I've discovered that honesty and communication are paramount to success and happiness between two people.  If I ask my partner if they are happy, they should be honest. If I ask them if they think my hair looks good, they should be honest (but obviously not cruel or hurtful, but at least let me down gently!)\n\nThis issue goes beyond that however - even simple things such as asking her what her favorite wine is so we can share a bottle at dinner, asking her if she likes my new facial hair, or the shirt I picked out.  She tries SO hard to be the 'perfect' girlfriend, to please me in every scenario.\n\nShe's been in a few before, and just came out of a long one where it was a nasty breakup with a control-freak. Maybe that has to do with it, so she's insecure and wants it to last as long as possible?\n\nHow do I gently let her know that if she doesn't ever voice her opinion, it's only going to hurt the both of us in the long run? I've tried bringing it up a few times but I'm unsure if it's sunk in. I try to compliment her and let her know how happy I am every moment I get but when I approach her about why shes upset she always apologizes and makes excuses for why she's in a bad mood.\n\nI just want her to be comfortable telling me how she feels so we don't end up in a lopsided relationship that ultimately makes her break or submit to me completely.", "summary": "How do I get my girlfriend to be comfortable giving me her honest opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_2nw8pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] BF [29M] got angry with me when I wouldn't let him in the DR's room with me", "post": "We have been seeing each other for 9 months now and I am still not at a point where I am 100% comfortable with him (I'll say I am 98% there right now). \n\nOn Friday I went to my doctor because I was feeling unwell (GI issues). My BF insisted on coming to be supportive. I was a bit embarrassed to have my BF come into the room with me because I didn't want to be discussing bowel movements, gas, and other unsexy ailments with my DR while my BF was there (I know, petty, but I was just feeling like shit and really wanted to spare any extra embarrassment). I politely told my BF that I will meet him in the waiting room once I am done. He immediately said he will come into the DR's room with me. I told him I preferred he didn't, and he got unreasonably upset. He sat outside and on the drive back was silent and cold. He started ranting about how he is my other half and I should not be secretive with him etc.\n\nWho was in the wrong here? Was it unreasonable of me to ask him to wait outside? Or is he right that he should have been entitled to attend the appointment too?", "summary": "Asked BF not to attend DR's app't, BF got extremely upset and angry"}
{"id": "t3_2j4mw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Partner (f/25) of four years left me(m/25). Lonely, Lost, and Destroyed.", "post": "So  a little over four years ago i delivered pizza to a girl that i have known since freshman year of high school. The whole interaction went great so i decide to ask her to a party later that night. She said she would think about it. Well she came to that party and we where inseparable ever since. Well four years 3 months later She says she wants out. I don't know what to do. She was my only friend. We have had  Countless good times. We have been through so much pain together. And now who i thought was going to be my partner on this cosmic space ride is gone.  Devastated heart destroyed. I just don't know where to begin. I don't have anyone to talk to about this my family doesn't live near me and they are all involved in their own lives. She has a massive family and they became my family. I'm just lost and could use some advice and some feels.", "summary": "I don't know how to live solo. A little advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3aov6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] just saw my married father [56M] skyping a woman at 1AM in the garage talking about edging and calling her a \"naughty girl\"", "post": "So this just happened not ten minutes ago. I'm freaking out a little bit. I've been suspicious of him for a while, and recently there have been more and more convincing signs (him being out unaccounted for during the evenings for hours at a time, leaving in the middle of the night for hours without telling anyone, and him being up very late in the garage talking to a woman on the phone), but this is the first definitive proof I have gotten. \n\nHonestly, with the way our family life is (mom is a hopeless alcoholic who he is most certainly not attracted to anymore, and my brother [14M] and especially me being something of failures, I'm not surprised that he felt he needed an out like this.\n\nI am really just in shock and I have no idea what to do. I could confront him, talk to my mom, or pretend I don't know anything and that this didn't happen. \n\nI struggle with depression and bipolar disorder myself, and this has just hit like a very hard blow. I was on my way out to smash my bong, and trash the last of my weed, cigarettes, and alcohol (something I have been meaning to do for too long and finally summoned the courage to), when I saw him in the garage sitting in one of the cars on Skype. Listened in on the conversation for a minute or two. I can't deal with this tonight this late, and there is no way I'm going to be able to sleep sober tonight.", "summary": "Been suspicious of my dad having an affair for a little while, finally gained definitive proof by seeing him skyping a woman and discussing sexual material."}
{"id": "t3_204jxx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] taking a break?", "post": "Here's the situation\n\nMy girlfriend of 2yrs and i are doing a ldr thing while in college. we're only 4hrs away so its not so bad; i get to see her at least once a month. Anyways we have recently started talking about taking a break due to the stress of school. she says she feels guilty because shes not giving me the attention i deserve and that shes lonely (ie seeing couples and missing the physical part). the part that gets me is that she says she wants to take a break until next year when she transfers to a school ~30min away. am i rightfully feeling confused/hurt? should i move on and consider her gone? need some advice", "summary": "girlfriend wants to take a ~4month break. need advice"}
{"id": "t3_125dcx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25m started dating good friend's ex", "post": "My good friend was dating this girl for 3 years. She was his first love. It has been 7 years since they dated but they have hooked up as recently as 3 years ago. He has been dating someone for the last 2 years. He lives across the country for school but still is close with her and they hang out whenever he is back. She has dated several people since.\n\nI have been friends with her for over 10 years, never anything more until recently. She just told me he is going to go ballistic when he hears about it, and that he still sends her intimate texts when he is in town.\n\n1. Did I screw up big time here? I obviously didn't plan this, it just happened. Is it fair for him to have a girlfriend and still hold on to this girl who is probably my best friend? \n\n2. How should we break the news? Her and I are both equally close with him, who should tell? She wants to, but I kind of want to as well...", "summary": "hooked up with good friends ex. he has a gf. am I in the clear and how to break the news?"}
{"id": "t3_2pg2m2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24m] and my girlfriend [27f] are at a stand still after 5 months.", "post": "My girlfriend has recently stopped having sex with me and told me she doesn't know if this is what she wants. She told me that, even though she would reciprocate, that our long term thoughts (i.e. moving in together in a few months) were too much for her to bare. I expressed I would change and have, but she is still on the fence. For awhile there, she seemed REALLY into me, and after our argument (which was over something that turned out to be nothing) she has become a bit apprehensive and has expressed concern with moving too quickly with me, which I quickly reciprocated and understood. I did my best to express why I thought it was okay, and now, she is still doesn't know what she wants.\n\nMind you, when I leave her alone or do not talk to her, she goes out of her way to talk to me and have me hang out with her. I know there is no one else around as we both moved to the area recently and she spends too much time with me for another person.\n\nShe expressed she has moved too quickly in the past and that it has put her into crap situations.\n\nI don't really understand if I scared her by moving too quickly, or if she is just done with me. Could you guys give me some advice? Thanks.", "summary": "GF really into me, complained we moved too fast, now tells me she doesn't know what she wants. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1x2uf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 28f and 26m. Break? Break up? Not sure what to do.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years. We've lived together for 1 1/2 years. To start with, it was amazing, like everything fell into place. There were fights along the way but we worked it out. Once we moved in, we started taking each other for granted a bit. We had a few tough months but we were working on it and getting better. We had a few awful fights though, but worked it out.\n\nAt the weekend, we had a big fight. We had both been drinking. Without going into too much detail, as a result of his friend I got angry and shouted at my boyfriend. He broke up with me on the spot, saying he wouldn't take being spoken to like that any more. Anyway he actually took me home, we talked/argued for 2 1/2 hours, but then he walked out at 3am. Since he lives with me, his stuff is here, but he took a bag.\n\nHe walked out like that a couple times before but I'd call and we'd work it out. I called him in the morning and we chatted for nearly an hour. He wouldn't come home, but actually we had a nice conversation, and he did tell me he loved me (both during the fight and phone call). I told him that I would give him a few days space. So I haven't spoken to him for three days now.\n\nI've been taking my time and space to use for myself, but obviously I want to talk to him. I have decided I probably want to work on us, because I am in love with him. Do you have any advice for me regarding - when should I call him? Should I even bother to try to work it out with him? And any advice for how to do that?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Living together, boyfriend left with hardly any stuff. Not sure whether on a break or broken up, but want to try to work it out."}
{"id": "t3_183imj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/F] My boyfriend [21/M] came home bragging about flirting at the bar last night.", "post": "Last night my boyfriend of about 2 years went out drinking at a bar with some of his friends. Usually I go along with them and have a good time but I was tired and had work early the next morning. \n\nHe got home at 4:30am and woke me up wanting to tell me about how his night was. I hadn't been sleeping well so I let him go ahead seeing as he was so excited. \nHe told me there was a \"cute Swedish girl\" at the bar that his single friends wanted to hook up with. He wanted to try out the cold shoulder tactic to see if she really would become more interested in him the more he ignored her, and it seemed to really work. One of the friends left so there was just my boyfriend and one of his friends left. In the end the girl invited them back to a friend's party so they left the bar with her. He told me she was touching his arm and laughing at his jokes, but when he told her he has a girlfriend she started \"balling her eyes out\". Apparently she just threw a massive tantrum and ran outside (into a huge thunderstorm) and was yelling she didn't think he was that type of guy to lead a girl on and that he was different. After that things got a bit too weird and they left. He said (as a joke) you should be grateful to have me since a girl wanted me so badly she cried. I am a good-looking girl and get hit on all the time at bars but I would never tell him, to spare his feelings and to stay humble.\n\nPart of me is absolutely gutted about him shamelessly flirting with this girl and then coming home to brag to me about it. I'm not at all the jealous type but this hit me hard. He explained it just felt good to know he 'still had it' and that it felt good to be wanted, which I can understand I guess. I'm not sure if this was really uncalled for and rude on his part or I'm just overreacting. Can anyone shed some light on this issue for me please??", "summary": "Boyfriend came home drunk last night bragging about flirting with a cute Swedish girl saying it was just innocent fun; am I right to think this is just wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_388jkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24/F) know when or how to make our relationship (32/M) official?", "post": "Well I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month but we've been inseperable! Literally almost every free moment we get, we spend it together without even hesitating. He has three kids all under the age of 5 and has even introduced me to them already and they all absolutely adore me almost as much as I adore them!  We take them to the park and his littlest one even cries when I put her down!! \n\nHis divorce was final last year and mine was the year before that. Im ready to take the next step with him to become official \"boyfriend/girlfriend\". He already said in passing that he hates labels but doesnt mind exclusivity? I dont know what the difference is... but is it too soon? \n\nDo us \"grown-ups\" have that official boyfriend/girlfriend turning point or does it just naturally happen? Does his age make a difference? Ugh! I need answers! Everytime I'm with him I just want to blurt out \"I'm falling for you!!!\" I seriously think he's the one...", "summary": "How do I know how/when to make our relationship official?"}
{"id": "t3_3nhs32", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching Snakes on a Plane on a plane.", "post": "So yesterday, I was preparing for an overseas flight to France (part of an exhange at my school). Anyways, I was just downloading a ton of movies and decided I might as well just get Snakes on a Plane just because. What I failed to look over was the contents of this movie. So anyways, I'm on the plane, watching the movie, and all of the sudden some characters in it join the mile-high club. They were completely naked and having sex in the bathroom. Big floppy titties.  I'm like oh shit and keep watching to see what would happen. Then all of the sudden they get completely destroyed by fucking snakes and the snake even targets her left tit as a bite target. I'm like even more wtf and pause the movie to process this a little. This is where I fucked up. I remembered that I was in the middle seat, and was between two other people. I looked at the other two people (one was an old woman, the other was a man maybe in his twenties), and the old woman looks completely traumatized and starts praying or something. The man is just chuckling and sort of beckons for me to keep playing the movie (I have subtitles on, so he can still keep up with it). The old lady then refuses to look at me, and just gets up and leaves her seat, bringing her carry-on with her. About a minute later, some middle-aged man comes and sits where she was. He just kind of glares at me for a second and starts to read his book. I realized that this was probably the woman's son, and she was so freaked by the movie that she switched seats with her son just to get away from me. The younger guy next to me then just sort of laughs and beckons to keep playing the movie. The movie sucked, so did the rest of the flight. \n(Sorry about bad formatting, on mobile)", "summary": "Traumatized an old lady with snakes on a plane titties and put a snake in a man's pants ( \u0361\u00b0 \u035c\u0296 \u0361\u00b0)"}
{"id": "t3_1q7tmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and my girlfriend [22F] have been together for 5 years. Is is time to say goodbye?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 years. We have been together since high school and been living together since we left for college. When we started dating 5 years ago we had very little experience with dating other people. 2 years into the relationship we started talking about the idea of trying new things, like making out with other people when we went out and maybe trying to flirt a little bit and see how it would go. It went well, we both had our moments but no lines were crossed.\n\nA little bit later we started talking about the idea of having sex with other people together as a couple. We decided to find a couple we could trust and we have been having sex with them for almost 1.5 years now. \n\nStill our relationship seems to be very much like friendship rather than love. We live together (NYU dorm) but most days it feels like we are best friends renting together. We can fight a lot about little things but still we have strong feeling towards each other. We both have been caught flirting with other people and maybe crossing some lines. (Most people would find our arrangement weird) Still it seems to work for us most of the time.\n\nIs this relationship total bs, and are we just too afraid to admit it. I think after all this time we will always be friends. Is this relationship healthy for us or is it time to say goodbye? Can we function in a normal relationship.", "summary": "Been together for 5 years, tried a lot of \"abnormal things\", is this working?"}
{"id": "t3_4hkf82", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Do you have a book that you love, but are embarrassed to talk about?", "post": "2016 is the year of diversifying my reading life. What does this mean? Great question, I don't really know. At the end of last year I realized that I had read a lot of books (112 to be exact) but there wasn't much variety going on, I almost exclusively read history and literary fiction. I decided that was bonkers, and that I needed to expand my horizons. \n\nAs part of this, I picked up Outlander by Diana Gabaldon as a romance pick and I thought it was AMAZING. I realized that I didn't want to talk about it to the group of friends that I usually talk to about books, because I was kind of embarrassed to have loved a \"romance\" book so much (about 2 days later I got over it and talked their ears off about it). \n\nI was wondering if anyone else had been in the situation where you loved a book but were to embarrassed to admit it?", "summary": "Read Outlander, loved it, was to embarrassed to talk about my love for this book. Have any of you been in that situation, if so what was the book?"}
{"id": "t3_3nt7q5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (18 M) girlfriend (19 F) is stressed about college and I don't know what to do anymore", "post": "So I've been dating my gf for about a year and a half, but if I include on and off times then its been about three. I love her more than anything. We met in highschool, she was a grade ahead of me, and we even handled a LDR without any problem when she left for college and I was still in highschool. So fast forward to this year when I'm in my first year of college and she's in her second. She's been kinda iffy on her major choice for awhile now, but being back at school again has really amplified that feeling for her. She's basically decided on switching majors, which would also mean switching schools just due to what she is in and what she wants to switch to, which is understandably quite a stressful thing to consider, mostly time wise and money wise. This I completely understand and have been so supportive of her and her choices. And with us being at two different schools, all we can do in between visits is text for the most part. I know texting is a bitch sometimes if something else is on your mind and I would be stupid if I expected our relationship to take precedent over everything else. But I just feel like I'm dating a different person now. What used to be a very equal relationship has turned into me being the only one who shows affection anymore. She used to always say \"I miss you\", or send me SnapChats, or just generally seem excited about me. Now I hardly feel loved or wanted at all. Sometimes I even feel looked down upon, like I'll get excited about our couples Halloween costume, for example, and she'll just get super serious and say how I should be experiencing Halloween with my friends and not her. And I don't know what to do anymore. Part of me thinks I'm selfish to want her to change the way she treats me, I know she's going through so much. But the other part of me just wants to feel loved the way that I love her. She's fully aware that she's been distant, she's apologized several times. But nothing has changed. And I'm torn.", "summary": "Girlfriend stressed about major, not sure how to handle things anymore"}
{"id": "t3_4e7s84", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking a cup of tea", "post": "This was earlier on today and I'm almost in tears about it... \n\nSo basically I have a mid range gaming PC. My cousins had come over to mine and were playing Black Ops 2 on my little brothers xbox 360. My PC is located in the same room on the opposite side. I fancied playing Bioshock (the original one) again. I downloaded it on steam and installed it. At this point, I decided to make a cup of tea. This is where I screwed up. \n\nI made my tea and the cup was pretty filled up. No biggie. Took a few sips so it wouldn't overflow. I got back to my PC, turned Bioshock on and put the cup down on top of my tower. I went back into the kitchen to find something to eat. I came. back to my PC to find tea dropping all down the front, into the USB and headphone/mic ports. Turns out my 2 year old cousin kicked a football it and knocked the tea everywhere. I ran into the kitchen, grabbed a load of tea towels and kitchen roll and began furiously drying and wiping the PC. \n\nNow everytime I play on Bioshock, after every 5-10min, the game minimises thanks to the audio software popping up, telling me there is something plugged into the front jack, or something has been  unplugged from it. Windows pops up with a notification every five minutes, telling me the device in the front USB port has not been recognised - bearing in mind, nothing at all was plugged into these ports at all. \n\nLater on, my brother plugged his headset into the PC and loaded counter strike up and lo and behold, he storms out angrily after 20mins stating it won't let him play and it keeps throwing up notifications about the headphones being plugged in and unplugged. \n\nThe only consolation I had from this was that the tea cleaned the top and sides of the PC quite well! \n\nGuess it's time for a new PC case then? :(", "summary": "made a cup of tea for myself, computer drank it instead"}
{"id": "t3_1ls3om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a 26M in the friendzone with an attractive 21F.", "post": "OK so, there is a girl from my work, who has recently left to another job. She is 21 and considerably attractive. During the time when she was working with me, she was casually hanging out/hooking up with one of my workmates, and knows I am friends with him. After a few weeks things fell through between them and they are not hanging out anymore, and he is seeing a new girl instead who he likes very much.\n\nWhen I started hanging out with this girl, it was because I wanted to get to know her better and because I think she is attractive. Early on in our friendship there was an instance where one day we were hanging out and she hit me with the statement \"you know it seems like so many guys want to sleep with me, can you promise me you're not one of those guys?\". Now when she said this to me, it was pretty sudden during our conversation and I didn't have much time to react so I quickly responded with \"Of course I don't want to sleep with you.\"\n\nNow, I understand that that was a pretty dangerous/dumb/risky thing to say, at least from my point of view, but I was pretty much put on the spot and if I said otherwise I think it would have made things really awkward. I have spent a lot of time hanging out/drinking/joking around and generally having a fun time around this girl in the last few weeks, but I feel that I am being somewhat dishonest as I do feel I would like to be more than just friends with her. So basically, what should I do now? Tell her I like her more than friends, or stay in the friendzone and feel second rate to other guys.", "summary": "Friendzoned by someone I'm really into. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_otvs4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It's been a while - let's see your favorite desktop background, reddit! Does it come with a story?", "post": "I remember seeing a couple of posts on other sites years ago and I really loved the results because earning a place as a desktop background is like winning picture of the month (or year for some), so the resulting gallery was even better than just asking to see your favorite picture. Plus they're more or less sure to be high res. :)\n\nI haven't seen one on reddit before and wanted to share [mine] which I just found an [hour ago on /r/pics] and ended up changing my windows color to match. Not sure why I like the look so much but I do.\n\nIf there was a post like this recently, I'm sorry I missed it, but there are always more sweet pics to see, so bring it on.", "summary": "POST SOME DESKTOP PICS (Icons and all)"}
{"id": "t3_pryp0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you deal with giving someone else bad news?", "post": "My predicament is pretty light but I still feel bad. I am in student housing at my university, and I live in a house with 3 other guys that I kinda know but we don't hang out ever. Today, all of a sudden a buddy of mine says he and 4 other guys have got a sweet place to live and they need a 6th person. They invited me. The rent is about 200$ less per month then what I'm paying right now and I'd be living with people in my field of study (engineering) so it's good for collaboration purposes. And it also gives me the pleasure of a true student housing experience which I wanted after I left student residence in first year.\n\nBut now I feel bad about telling my landlad that I'm moving out! She even sent the renewal lease in the express mail and its sitting on my desk.\n\nI don't think I should feel bad, but I've never liked verbal confrontations of any kind. It almost feels like I'd be hurting her feelings, but my mind says that just isn't true, why should she care? I just feel like I'm *letting her down*.\n\nSo for me, this is breaking bad news to someone, and I don't know how to deal with it. Can you help me reddit?", "summary": "have to tell my nice landlady I'm moving out. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_2cm50m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am jealous of my girlfriend[21 F] when she goes out. Been together for 1 1/2 years and just recently started a long distance relationship.", "post": "I first want to start off by saying I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now. We have just started a long distance relationship because she just graduated the college that we attended together. She is a great girl, and I truly do love her.\n\nWith that being said, I get so jealous when she goes out with her friends. Some of the people I know because they went to the same school as us. I don't really tell her I am jealous because I know she would never cheat on me, but for some reason I still get so jealous. \n\nOn the other hand, she doesn't care when I go out and have fun. We have a very healthy relationship, and we talk all the time throughout the day. She doesn't mind me going out with my friends. \n\nMy question is, what is the best way to not be jealous when she goes out? Like I said, I know she would never do anything wrong, but for some reason it keeps coming up in my head. I think maybe I think about it so much is because we are now so far apart. If I was closer to her and she went out I wouldn't care at all. But me not seeing her for a month at a time seems to be getting to me, I guess.", "summary": "What is the best way to not be jealous when she goes out?"}
{"id": "t3_1f0eas", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I selfish for wanting my significant other to stop smoking?", "post": "So.\n\nI've been dating this guy for almost two years now, and we've had some pretty rocky times, but we've been doing a great job of mutually working our issues out, lately. He's smoked cigarettes for the greater part of our relationship, and for the most part I haven't minded, provided he doesn't smoke them around me and keeps their use (mostly) restricted to his breaks at work. Lately, however, he's fallen into an extremely undesirable crowd, and has started doing things like chain smoking and getting high almost every night. I know the people he hangs out with, and they are exceptionally bad influences. I've tried almost everything I can trying to express to him how much his smoking bothers me, and trying to work with him to quit (especially the weed, I have grown up in a way that weed is pretty much unacceptable to me), but every time I bring it up, he brushes it off with a simple \"I'm sorry.\" or \"I'm trying to quit.\"\nHe has done absolutely nothing in the way of trying to stop either of these habits, no matter what I say or do. It's gotten to the point where I'm ready to leave him if this progresses, though I really don't want to (I love him immensely).\nAm I being unreasonable? How do I get through to him?\nI am F17 and he's M18, if it matters. Both high school graduates.", "summary": "boyfriend of ~2 years had recently started hanging out with a horrible group of people, smoking pot and chain-smoking cigarettes and the like, which is a dealbreaker for me. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_23tfks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my [19F] girlfriend is being way too clingy which is making me [21M] resent her", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo to start off I'd like to note that I really love my long term girlfriend who is usually nothing but kind and a great person.\n\nHowever, recently she's constantly wanting us to spend all of our time together and when I want some space and have to say no, she gets upset and angry at me. I feel as if we are in two different worlds and certainly schedules, in which I'm really busy with school and work while she is free.\n\n I tried explaining to her that I barely have time as it is and I'd really appreciate personal time to relax by myself. At this she gets irritable and I feel bad for having to tell her no all the time. I try to make time but now it seems as if sometimes spending all this time with her is becoming a chore and I count the moments down until I can go home (without upsetting her) and being alone. It shouldn't be like this, but I'm starting to resent her clingyness. \n\nI care for her and wish she would just respect my busy schedule and need for personal space. How do I approach this matter yet again?\nThanks guys!", "summary": "Clingy Gf doesn't understand my busy schedule and need for alone time"}
{"id": "t3_1yt9yi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[UK] Apple accidentally sent me 2 iPod Nanos", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nA few years ago, Apple had a product recall on certain iPod Nano 1st Generations. I had one of those iPods and decided to give Apple a call to see if I could get a replacement. They said that they would send me an iPod Nano 7th Generation as they no longer have the older one.\n\nThey sent me a box to return it and I sent it off. A couple of days later, I received a 6th Generation iPod. I emailed the person dealing with the replacement and they apologised and said that they would send one out that same day.\n\nI received the new iPod a couple of days later. The same day I got a phone call arranging for someone to pick up the 6th gen.\n\nThe person who was dealing with my request at that time was ill and so someone else took over my case. When they got the 6th generation back, they sent me an email saying they had received it. I disregarded this email.\n\nAbout a week later, I received a tracking number from Apple to say that they had sent me out a new iPod. Again. About an hour after I got that email, the door rang and the other iPod was delivered.\n\nApple still haven't contacted me about this.\n\nWhat position are they / me in?", "summary": "Apple sent me 2 replacements instead of 1. Can they claim the other iPod back from me or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2ry9nw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F21] might be cheating on me [M21] or I'm just being paranoid", "post": "So I'm a 21 year old male who's been in a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend, who is also 21 years old. Everything in our relationship has been good until a few days ago when she told me that one of her friends, jane, asked her to help her find out if her boyfriend was cheating on her....so my girlfriend did help by adding Jane's boyfriend on instagram, which he then immediately direct message my girlfriend..\n\nShe then told me that she gave him her number and the texted each other and she would screen shot the conversation and send it to jane...after my girlfriend told me this I told my girlfriend I understand it was for a friend but it bothers me and she became upset at me.\n\nAfter that I started realizing she started to be on her phone more than usual as well as getting more text than usual and she always did these subtle little moments to kinda I'm just her self to the point I'm not able to see the screen. \n\nAlso today when I went over her house to pick up my backpack I had forgotten in her room I found that the big mirror that usually sits on her dresser was on the floor leaning against her bed and I found a pair of lace see through panties I had bought her awhile back, which she never puts on, laying on the floor in front of the mirror....", "summary": "girlfriend agreed to help friend. Friend suspected boyfriend flirts with other girls. My girlfriend becomes bate. Friends boyfriend flirts with my girlfriend. Afraid girlfriend still texting him. I'm thinking they started progressing. My girlfriend might have sent him naughty pictures."}
{"id": "t3_12kfzy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this all there is?", "post": "I've been dating my current girlfriend for a year and a half. We're both 22 and in a bit of a long-distance relationship. She lives about 6 hours away from me. Lately I've just been feeling... less. I don't know how to describe it. When I would think of her a year ago I would get butterflies and that whole deal. I loved her. And I still do. But things are different. And I know that that sort of infatuation does change over time into a bond that is more like... companionship I guess. But I don't know, I've never been in a relationship for this long and it just feels like we are losing our spark.\n\nWe don't have sex because she wants to wait until marriage, and I respect that. But our sex life has gotten a little stale. She doesn't give me oral really and every time she gets me off manually it feels like she is doing a chore she doesn't want to do and that really kind of hurts my feelings. I always initiate and always go down on her because I enjoy it and she does too. I dunno. She loves me and I know that but I feel like our relationship is lacking that passion we used to have. Is this all there is? Because I am feeling a little disillusioned with the whole long-term relationship right now. It isn't very fulfilling and I don't know what to do :(\n\nYour advice is very appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "Can't tell if my relationship with my girlfriend is getting stale or if we are simply moving past the infatuation phase of things. I'm not feeling satisfied or fulfilled with our relationship and I just don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1gnszg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[Nsv] tried p90x and didn't actually die!", "post": "First time reddit post ever. Been creeping on this sub for 3 weeks now. Thank you everyone who has posted! You got me out of my denial stage.\n\nF/23/276-264 . More than 10 lbs in I decided to try p90x again. I made it about 20 minutes in and had pushed myself too hard and had to pause it to throw up. Once I stopped seeing spots I got right back in and made it 5 more minutes! Then I started seeing spots and threw up again. Luckily I didn't really have anything to come out either time.\nAt that point though, I temporarily gave up. In a good way though! Instead I think I'll start with something \"easy\" like c25k before the butt kicking of p90x.\n\nThe NSV is that a couple weeks ago I would have been in the mindset to go eat something horribly fattening and give up all together. Today I'm 100% \"oops, I'll start slower, heh heh\". AND that after setting my alarm early enough for a workout before work for 2 weeks, I ACTUALLY got up and tried instead of sleeping in! That is HUGE for me!\n\nSo far I'm losing weight from the most simple explanation I've found yet. Eat less, move more. Not counting calories but being aware of them. Eating a small breakfast so that I don't binge out at lunch. Eating slower so I feel it when I'm full then STOPPING. Parking a little further out. Cutting down on soda intake. Drinking more water. When I feel hungry and it's not meal time I first have a glass of water and wait 10 minutes to make sure I wasn't just thirsty. Tiny little adjustments here and there. Something new added every couple of days. Taken from what other users have said here and molding it to something I know I can do.", "summary": "actually got up early to work out! Tried p90x and failed. However, not giving up! Starting with c25k instead. Making small changes to lose weight :)"}
{"id": "t3_h2810", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do I find my interest?", "post": "Hi guys, just got my diploma in networking (configuring cisco routers and switches) and now I'm at a crossroad as to what degree to pursue in university. (I'm 20.)\n\nI was thinking I could go for Computer Science or something similar and be exempted from a few modules or even an entire semester or two. Thing is I'm not too big a fan of math nor do I have much interest in hardware stuff, like how data is stored in a hard disk etc. I'm not too good at programming either so software is probably out.\n\nIf someone asked me what field I would like to work in I would probably say IT, but to be honest, I think the only reason why I like IT is because I spend a lot of time on the computer surfing Reddit and playing online games and what not. I haven't really found my passion for anything yet. I haven't found that one thing that really grips my interest and makes me want to learn more passionately about that particular subject. \n\nI guess the only reason why I haven't found my interest yet is because I've stuck with the computer for so long that I haven't really tried anything else, like say Art or Biology or Physics. Sure, I touched it very lightly in secondary school (I guess that would be high school over in the USA) but still no dice.\n\nRight now I could see myself continuing in the IT field, using my diploma as a starting point and going for that degree in Computer Science or something similar and getting my CCNA/CCNP certification. \n\nHowever, I think most people would agree with is that I would very much prefer to find something I could work on passionately. Something along the lines of \"If you enjoy what you do you will never work a day in your life.\" \n\nI really hope someone can suggest some field to me or some kind of way to find my interest. It doesn't have to be related to IT.", "summary": "Trying to find a field that I have an interest in and I wouldn't mind pursuing."}
{"id": "t3_20ncab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[18] and I [M19] are in a long distance relationship, and she is adamantly against an open relationship, and that's not ok with me.", "post": "The two of us are long distance. She lives on the west coast, and i live on the east. We've been together five months now. We had been close for a good amount of time before we got together, and the reason we didn't start sooner was because i had been holding back, as i didn't think that i would be able to handle a long distance relationship. So when we got together, we agreed to keep our relationship open.\n\nSome time passes, and she hooks up with someone at her school. She tells me about it, and i have no problems with it. I'm not a jealous guy, and we had agreed to be open. But when, a couple months later, i do the same with a friend of mine, she gets really upset. Turns out she's a lot more jealous and insecure than i thought. So, to prevent her from being upset, we decide to be monogamous going forward. I agree to this as a sacrifice i make for her sake.\n\nA couple months since, and it's getting hard for me, being monogamous in a long distance relationship. So i breach the subject with her, and she's not having any of it. Just flat out no. According to her, because she doesn't feel that she has the same opportunity to be with other people in her environment in the same way that i do in mine, it would feel unfair to her for us to be open. \n\nWhich i try to understand, but it feels kind of selfish. I'm not allowed to express my sexuality and fulfill my own needs just because she isn't able to do so for herself. We started this relationship with the understanding that we would be open, and maybe monogamy would be something i would be ok with if we were able to see each other regularly, but I can't deal with both a monogamous and a long distance relationship. \n\nI could use some advice.", "summary": "long distance relationship. agreed at beginning to nonmonogamy. we each hook up with someone else, i have no problem with it, she flips out. Decide to be monogamous going forward, but i feel like she's being unfair. I need either someone i can see regularly, or nonmonogamy, but not neither."}
{"id": "t3_3as9dv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] broke up with my ex [17 F] about three months ago. And after surfing online, I'm confused about my seek for monogamy", "post": "After breaking up with me ex three months ago from an intense relationship, I started going online and talking to others and just trying to find out what I really want out of love. The reason I broke up was because it was my first relationship, being young and all, and even though I loved her with a ll my heart, I felt tied down. It's the reason I avoided relationships up until now. \n\nThe problem is though, I love the thought of monogamy because there's a feeling of it which goes beyond science and the biology of primates. But yet, I find it so hard to not feel tied down. Does this make me confused, or just backward minded? Thank you!", "summary": "Confused on my monogamous belief, and what I'm really seeking in love"}
{"id": "t3_4spqjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 9 months, how to regain the emotional intimacy?", "post": "Him and I don't really spend time together throughout the week together except occasionally texting each other little things about our day. I don't think it bothers either of us because we both are pretty busy and neither of us are too clingy. However, recently he told me that he hit an \"emotional plateau\" a few months ago with me and that he doesn't feel as emotionally connected to me as he had felt with his ex. I've felt like the \"honeymoon phase\" has ended but I'm still excited to see him and I still think he's the best guy in the world. I put pressure on the situation by reacting poorly and asking if he thinks he will ever feel that way but he said he's worried he won't but he's not sure. \n\nI feel like he doesn't feel as emotionally connected with me because him and I don't really spend much time with each other. I was thinking about asking him to talk about 20 mins on the phone everyday to help him feel more connected. I already show him that I accept him, admire, and respect him. I know he's still physically attracted to me, we still share common interests, and I know he's not still hung up on his ex. So, I don't exactly know why he doesn't feel as emotionally connected to me as he did her. I don't think he really knows either. \n\nSo, I'm punching into the dark but any tips on how to build emotional intimacy in a situation like this?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't feel as emotionally connected with me as he had with his ex, what can we do to fix that? Note: he was 17, they went through way more trials then him and I did so that built a deep bond, and she never actually gave him a chance so she was really an ex-possibility not an ex-girfriend."}
{"id": "t3_20yv5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why haven't I [22F] been able to get over my ex? It's been TWO YEARS :(", "post": "It's been almost two years since my ex and I broke up. I've been NC and blocked him from all social media and literally followed every textbook rule for post-breakup. He expressed that he wanted to be friends but I said we couldn't be.\n\nIt's really frustrating because we weren't together for that long but I feel like I don't have closure yet - thinking about him or talking about anything related to him still reduces me to tears. Even though we only dated for five months it's the strongest I've ever felt about a guy (I had another long term relationship for 2 years before him). \n\nI do get quite a lot of guy attention so that's not the issue - I just haven't felt the same connection with anyone (or maybe I'm just afraid to let anyone in because it ended so terribly but I still miss him for some reason?). It feels like I'm just going through the motions. I've had crushes here and there (all which have been reciprocated!) but anytime they've gotten close I've pulled back. I'm not an insecure person either, so I don't think this is an insecurity thing. \n\nI can't figure out why I'm still so unhappy and have so much residual resentment. It ended because he cheated and I feel like I should've moved so far on by now but I haven't. \n\nAs for the best revenge is to be successful - I have been. I have an amazing job now and have taken up a couple of new hobbies which I love, and I've always been really social so my friend support / social group is really strong. I just feel so stupid because I still get the urge to contact him and make him feel sorry for screwing up so badly because I've accomplished so much and grown so much as a person since (and maybe partly because of) we ended. \n\nIs this normal? Why does he still feel like the one that got away? None of my friends have any idea - I've been acting like I'm completely over it since a month or two after we broke up.", "summary": "can't get over stupid ex despite doing everything possible"}
{"id": "t3_4epaj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have gotten to know [21F] for a few months, I think we're into each other but I can't tell. How do I slyly find out if she's single?", "post": "I joined this organization at my college and this girl was in charge of a lot of events for it. I got to know her as an acquaintance and nearly (!) a friend over the past few months. She's really wonderful and I have a huge crush on her. I know she's bisexual, but I don't know if she has a girlfriend or not. \n\nThe strangest part is, I feel like we have some kind of connection. I know it sounds weird but I know there is something between us. I feel like she's into me as well but I don't know if she's single or not. I can't tell from her Facebook whether or not she has a girlfriend, and I don't want to ask. Any advice for finding out if she's available and into me?", "summary": "I like a girl and she might like me, but she also might be taken. How do I figure this out?"}
{"id": "t3_1n18md", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Questions about official offer letters and giving notice.", "post": "I found out on Friday that I got the job I've been interviewing for. They said I would be receiving the offer letter soon. Monday I receive an email telling me the date they would like me to start (October 7) but I let them know that the start date would have to be October 8 because that would be a full two weeks for my current job. I didn't recive the letter all Monday so I call the lady I've been in contact with and tell her that I don't want to put my notice in until I've received the offer letter and that I would now have to put the notice in on Tuesday (today) and my start date would now be October 9. She said that was understandable and okay and she would email HR right away and I should expect the letter Tuesday morning. \n\nIt's really important that I give my current job a FULL two weeks otherwise I do not recieve my unused vacation time pay. \n\nWell it's almost lunch time and I still haven't received the letter!! I need to put my notice in, I feel like I've been putting this off forever. I am very confident that the job is mine, they're just super slow. We've decided on salary and my start date. I've talked to all of my future employeers and I did a day of shadowing. \n\nHowever, I still don't want to put my notice in until I have that letter. What should I do? Continue to wait until this afternoon and then call again or put my notice in without the letter?", "summary": "New job is taking forever with sending the offer letter. Not sure if I should go ahead and put notice in. "}
{"id": "t3_44uwv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "2 years together, and we never fight. I'm going crazy.", "post": "My boyfriend (26M) and I (26F) have been together for 2 years. We bought a house together, have a dog, and are on the fast track to the chicken dinner.\n\nHere's my problem... We never fight. Barely even argue. Can this actually be normal?\n\nI have always been very open, and I'm partially this way because I don't mind conflict. If he does something, I don't sit and let it stew until one day I freak out, I usually say it right away. I know this helps, but there are times I just want to have a good argument. Usually he kills it by apologizing or doing something to calm the storm. Next thing you know, it's over before it even started. And, for the most part, the issue somehow is resolved. When we first got together, I was amazed by this, but how can this still happen?\n\nAlso, he never starts anything with me. There's no way I've gone 2 years without pissing him off. When I confront him about this, he claims the things I do are never bad enough to start something. I'm afraid he's holding in everything he hates about me, and one day, he will just blow up. Is this just how guys are? \n\nAll of this is driving me nuts. So can not fighting in a serious relationship actually happen? Am I just searching for conflict? Does anyone have a relationship like this?", "summary": "We've been together 2 years and have not had that \"big fight\" or any fights for that matter. Can this actually be normal or am I just searching for conflict?"}
{"id": "t3_19l2r9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me[M23] not ruin this with her[22].", "post": "Alright so, I met this girl a few weeks ago and finally got her number, which in itself was a big deal for me. I've only known her for about a month but I called her a few days later and she came over and we hung out for a few hours at my apartment and just kind of sat there talking for a while about nothing and it was great. Then the next day a few friends were in town and I asked her if she wanted to come out with us, which she said yes to and it was great as well. So I have a feeling that she's kind of into me but I don't know how to go from let's hang out a few times to hey let's be more than this. I have a bad history of either going too slow or moving too fast with relationships and torpedoing them any hope of having a relationship, so I need to know what's the right speed to approach this/how should I approach this and avoid getting in the dreaded friend zone?", "summary": "Met a girl a few weeks ago and we hung out how do I not ruin it."}
{"id": "t3_1esmr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18F] Unable to get rid of clingy, emotionally unstable ex [20M]", "post": "I apologize that I didn't really know how to word the title.\n\nI [18F] am about to graduate high school next week, and will be moving across the country for University at the end of the summer.I had a boyfriend [20M], who is a grade older than me, from sophomore year until the beginning of this school year.\n\nHe lied, he cheated, he was a loser. And I broke up with him. It was really messy, but we ended on friendly terms. \n\nEven though he has graduated high school (barely) he hasn't moved out of his parents house, started any kind of school or held a job for more than 2 months.\n\nSince he is still in my home town we still hang out occasionally with mutual friends. And I'll admit I have been drunk/lonely and slept with him a multiple times since we broke up. I know it's pathetic and I regret it. I know this is probably the biggest cause of my problems. I still really care about him,  would even say I love him (not IN love with him) but I cannot trust him and do not want to be in a relationship.\n\nI digress, he is convinced he's changed. He wants to get together again to prove that he's grown up.\n\nHe hasn't changed- he still sits at home all day smoking pot, with no job or aspirations. I don't need that negative influence in my life moving on to university.\n\nEverytime I try and talk to him about how we can't be together, and that I will not let him control me and hurt me again he says that I don't care about him and that he has nothing else. He throws a fit and cries. Says I'm everything he could ever want and will regret it forever if he lets me go. \n\nI haven't slept with him in several months, and I try to avoid him at all costs. \n\nBasically, I need to make him understand I am not going to get back together with him but I do not want to lose him as a friend. \n\nMaybe that's impossible. Help? Advice?", "summary": "My loser ex wants to get back together, breaks down when I say no. How do I make him understand without crushing him?"}
{"id": "t3_3yzj4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M23) my friends (f 18) boyfriend (m 19) put her in hospital tonight after she broke up with him, how do I help her through the next weeks/months?", "post": "So my friend got deep in to this relationship, it was her first real boyfriend. They got intense very quickly.\n\nI didn't keep in touch with her as often as normal for a month or two, however for the past week or two we've been talking as normal. She revealed that he has hit her and controls her, I told her to leave him and I offered her all the help I could. That was about a week and a half ago.\n\nShe stayed with him and tonight when I saw her they were mid argument, she had gone to get a drink from the bar and spotted me. She told me that she was leaving him and then told me how he had taken over all her social media accounts, phone and pretty much everything he could. The hits had become more frequent too.\n\nI resisted the urge to slap him with a bottle for fear of making things far worse. She was terrified. I had to leave but I begged her to go home, she said she would, clearly it wasn't to be.\n\nI was told about 2 hours ago that he strangled her and smashed her head off of the ground until she was unconscious. When her mum arrived there were 2 ambulances and 4 police cars, he's been locked up for the night, they've documented all of her scars from previous attacks too.\n\nI've helped people in tough situations before, but not quite like this. What should I expect here on in and what, if anything, can I do?", "summary": "Friend was put in hospital by controlling abusive boyfriend, he's been locked up for the night and now I need to help her through the days to come."}
{"id": "t3_jlewg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi, Reddit. Today was my eighteenth birthday, and even though I'm a well liked, nice, fun person, none of my friends seemed to give two shits about my birthday . Why?", "post": "Even though I got the trillion Facebook notifications from all my casual friends saying \"Happy birthday!\" and \"Hope you have a great day!\" none of my really close friends even called or texted me, much less offered to hang out or even wanted to see me. My best friend of six years spent the day with her new boyfriend and my other best friends spent it either doing nothing, or being with someone else.\nI'm always really really into doing big grand gestures for my friends for their birthdays, and I would never even think about letting my friends feel lonely or upset on their special day. I always go out of my way for everyone, and then they never do the same for me. That's not to say my friends never hang out with me, in fact, they're almost always up my butt, hanging out at my house at every opportunity, or texting/calling incessantly wanting to talk because \"I'm so awesome and funny and blahblahblah\". Why is it that on the one day I wanted them to pay attention without me begging for it, they totally forgot? This sucks.", "summary": "My friends are always up my butt, but the one time I actually really want them around, they abandon me without even caring."}
{"id": "t3_36fk8t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] need advice on how to proceed with a sticky situation with my best friend/ house mate [21/f]", "post": "I have known this girl for two years and we have been housemates and the best of friends for this time. I have  very strong feelings for her but was quite certain she would only ever see me as a friend, she has previously said \"i'm not sexually attracted to you\" and has said \"no way\" when people have asked if we're together \n\nWe were out clubbing and she told my mate she fancied me, so I took and chance and we ended up doing everything but sex. I Was extremely shocked but thrilled. We had a chat the next day, I revealed that I have had feelings for her. She was totally unsure of the situation and suggested we called it quits due to not wanting to ruin the friendship and to respect others in the house, I expressed how much I wanted something to carry on and she just didn't seem to know\n\nA few  nights later she came into room extremely drunk and tried to sleep with me, I stupidly/sensibly didn't escalate to ensure we didn't as she didn't seem to know what she was doing and I didn't want to take advantage, I'm worried this might of killed the attraction and may of been my last chance.  \n\nWe again had a chat the next day and she said pretty much the same, she wants to call it quits so it doesn't mess things up. I have to talked to other housemates and they have said shes not sure what she wants, one even said shes certain we'll get together after uni but thinks we should leave it for now. We have been fine with each over for the last few days, there is some tension but its not awkward. \n\nI am not sure how to act on the whole situation, at the moment I think going to give her some space and if I feel she shows interest again I will probably act upon it but would advice on what others think I should do? The fact that we live together is going to make everything very complicated so i'm treading with caution. I know that she said she wants to call it quits but I sense that is not what shes really thinking, I'm not sure whether to push this to much now", "summary": "The whole housemate friend and situation makes everything complicated but I really want this to work out, advice please ?."}
{"id": "t3_2nc1mu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by chillin' w/ the elephant in the room", "post": "Okay, short and sweet. When I was in high school, going through the rebel phase nearly everyone does, I saw this super cool leather bracelet at my Grandma's house. So I hid it. Then, I wore it... for 6 years. If you have seen this [post] then you know what happens next. I saw this post about a month ago as most others have... it just did not occur to me until about an hour ago that the bracelet I have been wearing is oddly small, like why would anyone make a bracelet like [this?] \nAnd the worst of it all is, I've worn this around boyfriend's grandparents, around my mom; hell, I wore this to school today! AFTER seeing that post!", "summary": "geriatric c*ring wreaks havoc in general population"}
{"id": "t3_283xjh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm ready to get serious. Please help.", "post": "Hey everybody. I have recently come to the realization of how unhealthy I really am.  I'm 25 (m) 5'9 and weigh 330. For the longest time I knew I was fat but I never really thought I was at a serious level until I went to go to my doctor to talk about my asthma issues and he said that I am on the border line for sleep apnea.  This shook me a bit and started my realization process.  What really put me over the edge was when I was calling to set up an appointment with a dietician and the front desk lady got my information and asked me if I would be interested in speaking with their surgeon for weight loss surgery.  Having someone straight or put me into the category of weight loss surgery completely made me realize how much I needed to change my life around.  I really need help as I have never been informed on proper nutrition and have no idea what to do.  I have tried dieting in the past but have never been able to stick with it.  A year ago I was about this weight and started keto and lost 50 pounds in about 5 months but I wasn't  doing real keto,  just eating a bunch of meat and cheese.  I stopped because I felt like it was not a way to eat forever and have finally as of this week gained it all back. I really need some advice on how to start dieting and exercising,  good references for nutrition and exercising. I have never known how to be healthy so anything you can do to help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "M (330) 5'9. Finally realized how unhealthy I am. Completely ignorant about health and nutrition.  Any and all advice/information needed!"}
{"id": "t3_39dyvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (22M) makes me feel bad about smoking weed but denies he hates weed/drugs", "post": "Ages slightly adjusted for anonyminity, together for 9 months\n\nHey Reddit, so the title is pretty much the gist of it, but first I will add a few other relevant details, in bullet form before asking my questions\n\n- I am an occasional pot smoker, my boyfriend tried it twice and said it never did anything for him, which I think is totally fair and I never smoke in his presence or try to pressure him into smoking with me. \n\n- I also NEVER put weed ahead of necessities like my Netflix bill, phone bill birth control, or Uni tuition. I only buy it when I have disposable income. \n\n- I smoke infrequently and in fact, most of my friends don't smoke weed. \n\nBasically what I am trying to put across is that by no means am I an annoying, irresponsible stoner. However I feel like when I do bring up smoking weed, or being high, my boyfriend gets very sulky and cold. He will even make remarks about how I am a \"stoner\" and make mean comments about the friends I have that do smoke. I realize that he may just be uncomfortable with it, so now I only tell him when I have smoked out of honesty/necessity. \n\nHowever, the thing that really bothers me is when I ask him if weed makes him uncomfortable, if he hates stoners he won't be honest or talk to me about it. And sometimes he will admit it, sometimes he won't but he will never tell me why. I honestly just want some closure from him.\n\nAnother thing that I find baffling is that he is so against me smoking weed, yet he subscribes to several snapchat/periscope channels that are just girls getting high naked, and he also subscribes to r/treesgonewild here on Reddit. \n\nI guess I am just very confused and don't know how to get him to clearly communicate or how to deal with it. I feel constantly shamed and also really confused. Because he will masturbate to a girl smoking weed but treats me like a low life whenever I mention smoking.", "summary": "bf hates that I smoke weed and hates stoners, but won't admit it or explain why, I am confused by his behavior"}
{"id": "t3_4k5y00", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I have no idea what to do...", "post": "Hey Reddit I need some help with my current relationship. I have been with my wonderful girlfriend for just over three years now, she just moved across the country to live with me (active duty). I had to go home on leave for family emergency and while I was there I finally was able to see my best friend of 15 years. Now the bad part....my best friend and I have been in love with eachother every since we were kids managed to meet up at her place where we just hung out and sort of flirted. I didn't except anything to happen (never cheated before and didn't think anything like that would happen) but we ended up sleeping in the same bed because she only has one bed. We were cuddling which wasn't the best idea, we started talking and we ended up kissing which led to us having sex. We both love eachother yet I don't see it working out for us yet. I hope it does but I am completely confused as what to do and how to go about this...I feel absolutely horrible but I can not stop thinking about my best friend. Please pm me or comment anything is useful!", "summary": "Had sex with my best friend who I am in love with but I am currently in a committed relationship with someone else."}
{"id": "t3_ygran", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something your parents did behind each other's backs that benefited you?", "post": "During my winter break freshman year in college, my mom found a box of condoms in my backpack (Yes, my mother sheltered me from a LOT of things in high school. Gimme a break). She wasn't snooping. She was just helping me pack up and I forgot to hide them. She started to flip, and she called my dad down to my room, and I got a lot of ranting from my mom and dad. I had to confess to them about the three times I had sex that semester (all of which were weird and awkward because they were first-timers too). My mom is very religious, so she was steaming in anger. My dad was sorta pissed, but he seemed more passive about it. \n\nBefore I got on the train to head back to college, my dad slipped a box into my backpack. \"Do whatever you want son. I'm not gonna stop you. Just don't fuck up your GPA and don't spend too much. Enjoy your new watch.\" \n\nI didn't open up the box until a couple of days later (the box was gift-wrapped, and I didn't wanna ruin the watch if it was one). When I open it, I find a huge box of good quality Trojan condoms, much better than the cheap ones I purchased. Inside the box was a new watch too. The freshman 15 caught up to me though, so I didn't get to finish the box. But nevertheless, I gained so much respect for my dad after that.", "summary": "Dad didn't try to cockblock me in my freshman year of college. He knew the bro code."}
{"id": "t3_2n8z16", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Student about to come into a bit of money (about 50K), how to handle it given a somewhat unique situation?", "post": "Here's the basic deal: \n\n* 20 yrs old, in community college currently, planning to transfer next autumn (and take this spring off in the meantime) \n\n* Former foster youth, so school tuition is more or less totally paid for. In fact I'm *making* money off it, from the scholarship surplus. \n\n* 8K total currently between checking & savings accounts. 11K-ish in a Coverdell (that I'm trying to gain access to). Will be getting somewhere in the ballpark of 7K in April. Additionally maybe 33K from my parent's estate, honestly I have no idea how much exactly or how much tax will be taken from it. Not sure exactly when I'm going to receive that or in what form (surely they're not just going to shove a check for thousands of dollars at me? but maybe??). I'm just going with 50K in total as a very, very rough estimate. \n\n* I am employed, but it's pretty inconsistently part-time. Looking for a third job. Still, I manage to live below my means.\n\n* No debt! No student loans, no CC debt, no car, obviously no mortgage or anything, etc. etc. \n\nI'm a chronic saver, so TOTALLY BLOWING IT is not really a concern of mine. My main focus is to  get the windfall out of my face, set it aside as wisely as possible, and have security for the future. I've heard on this sub that it's never too early to save for retirement, so that's definitely something I'm interested in. But I also want to make sure I have enough in my regular savings account for emergencies, etc. \n\nAs more of a sidenote, with all this in mind, would it be feasible to do something like volunteer work over the summer? I'd feel weird not making money, but there are programs where room/board is provided. So I wouldn't be cutting into savings significantly.", "summary": "I mostly need help figuring out which retirement thing to choose, and what kind of savings method to use for the rest of the money. Not sure if investing is right for me; I'm kind of scared of that. Also not sure if I have quite enough to need a financial advisor."}
{"id": "t3_l0ms5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "would it be better to possibly offend or probably offend my inlaws?", "post": "If ever there was a first world problem this is it. To make a looong story short, my in laws are coming over for a special occasion dinner for the first time. The first time coming over, the first time I've cooked for a large group, and the first time cooking meat.  I am making the dinner and am really nervous about it since they are fairly picky. They are also the sort who could be offended if I 'go too fancy' and try too hard to make it too nice. I also don't want to get caught in the 'it looks like you didn't try very hard to make it special did you?' cross hairs of not doing enough for the occasion.\n\nMy SO says to just use the everyday plates and cutlery, don't decorate or clean up too much. These plates cost $9 for the set and have scratches on them. My instinct is to do the opposite (since it's what I would do if it were my parents coming over) and hope that by not pretending to be someone I'm not (ie NOT neurotic about the god damned plates, food and decorations) things will go smother without the pretense.\n\nBackground information (not really relevant but if you want more details read on.)\n\n   My inlaws are hoarders and the sort to not clean for people coming over, they might clear off the table to one end and eat on the other if it's a holliday. I'm not really that fastidious but my house is fairly clean in the \"public areas\" (living room, kitchen, front door) most of the time and definitely for when company is coming over. I think that being from the \"city\" they have the impression that I am stuck up and not suited to their way of life; which is more \"country\".", "summary": "my inlaws are coming over for the first time, should I make an effort (i feel) is appropriate to the occasion or follow my SO's lead and just pretend it's not a special occasion dinner and not 'clean too much or use better plates\"?"}
{"id": "t3_4cmj07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) with my (ex?) best friend (21M) of over 12 years. Any fixing this?", "post": "It's me again. I figured I'd update since my last post. It got deleted anyhow so whatever.\n\nI decided to go Seth's house and talk to him face to face. When I arrived, he answered the door and looked surprised and slightly annoyed that i was there. I asked if I could come in and he said no, it would upset Hannah and he just didn't want to talk to me anyways. Well I start off by just calling him on his bullshit and basically start telling him how bad of friend he's been to me FOR NO REASON. That's when he kind of exploded on me. He told me that for years he put up with my bullshit and my attitude and hate towards everyone and that when he finally found Hannah, he was so happy, not just for his new relationship, but for a real reason to get away from me and my \"shitty attitude\". At that point, Hannah had finally came down to see what was going on and she took one look at me and hit me. Right in the nose. She told me if I didn't get off her property in less than two minutes, she would call the police for trespassing. That she wasn't afraid of me and that I had crossed too many boundaries with her. \n\nSo I got in my car and left. Do I have any reason to try and continue to fix this? Should I call the police for her hitting me? Just all a bunch of bullshit and I didn't even do anything!", "summary": "Went to Seth's, we fought, Hannah hit me, what now?"}
{"id": "t3_53jgzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my new flame [30M]. I am planning on taking a trip to Cancun with a guy I am seeing, but worried my strict, conservative Indian parents will find out - need your help in covering my tracks", "post": "Hi Reddit - I'm seeing someone, we like each other enough to want to go away on a tropical trip together!  It should be fun except for the caveat: I live with strict Indian parents who will freak out if they find out I am going on a trip alone with a guy.  \n\nI have an elaborate lie set up for this trip (which will take place in 2 months), but need your help in figuring out if there are holes in this lie\n\n- I am planning on making a fake work flyer and saying that I am going to a summit in Atlanta (I live in New York), which will be a four day intensive workshop thing.  My parents aren't the type of people to call or text me too much (I have taken several trips with girlfriends this year), but they do like to know if I have landed from a flight (via text) and if I am safe. \n\n2) I share a family plan and my dad handles the phone bills - will they find out that I am international because of the phone bill?  I have t-mobile\n\n3) I am going to send a company flyer about this \"summit\" to our house (using a company envelope), right after I book my trip for Cancun.\n\nHow crazy do I sound right now on a scale of 1 to a million?", "summary": "Lying to parents about a trip to Cancun with someone I have been dating for 3 months.  Need help covering my tracks."}
{"id": "t3_2y2l1c", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm tired of doubting myself", "post": "There are a lot of good looking girls at my school. They all have very nice features, some are nice and some are bitchy. I don't know why but this one girl stands out among the rest, and I have never even talked to her! She has a booty the size of 2 suns, it's bodacious, its massive, but that's not all. Her face, her face is clean, no blemishes or anything. And like I said, I've never said a word to her. I have 1 class with her, so not all hope is lost. Yet I know I will never have the BALLS to even talk to her, and to be quite honest I'm not sure why. I don't have any reason to doubt myself. I'm not the most attractive person ever but I'm gonna go out on a limb and not say I'm ugly. I have a few zits (normal for teens) my hair is not always perfect. But for some reason I always have this sort of self doubt about myself that is really pissing me off lately. I'm skinny, but sort of muscular, tall, have a nice smile (straight teeth, thanks orthodontics!) and I don't smell bad, I play a sport, on varsity (which is everything at my school. Everyone is obsessed with sports), and I'm athletic . Yet I still won't ever talk to her or any girl I find attractive because I'm scared of failure I guess. Really wanted to get this off my chest maybe it will help me realize I need to start moving out of my fucking comfort zone and start meeting people. I think I need to get out and meet people, and talk to them and stop sitting so comfortably alone. Sorry for the rant.", "summary": "I rant about how I have no balls to try and spit game on women."}
{"id": "t3_ecpdb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit I feel like I've been tricked :(", "post": "This may be my first post, but I have been reading Reddit for quite a while now, maybe a month before the waffle/carrot joke :P, so I am not really spamming. I've seen people post their personal issues on Reddit so I thought I might give it a try.\n\nAnyways to get to the point, there was this audition on Youtube going on hosted by [MBC] (a Korean company), where people submit a video of them singing to audition. Out of everyone that submits, 500 videos will be chosen and then 50 out of those 500 will be chosen again to go to Korea for their second audition. The submission was from Nov10-Nov27 and voting was from Nov28-Dec3. They said in order to make it fair, they will reset the view and 'Like' count for everyone who uploaded their video early so that everyone will begin at 0 views and 0 votes(Likes). HOWEVER the voting started today and to my surprise nothing was reset... I am now competing with people who had 2,000+ views already, and me who uploaded my video the day before thanksgiving with 80 views...\n\nJust a little info, most of those people have 1,000+ views because they had spam the crap out of the comment section on the MBC Youtube channel homepage before the voting even started, telling everyone to watch their video and vote for it. The only reason I didn't do that was because I was told by MBC themselves that they would reset the counter, so I thought it would be a waste for me to be spamming for no reason. (not that I spam anyways) :)", "summary": "So Reddit I'm asking you to help me and just watch and enjoy my audition [video] :D"}
{"id": "t3_3ai4mp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not thinking about what I said before I said it (NSFW)", "post": "This happened a few minutes ago and I don't want to talk to my parents about it. So my family which consists of my parents, brother and me was watching the news on the couch and I was playing a game on my phone. An article about transgender people and support communities came up. When I looked up there was a person who was talking about it and when I looked up at my Dad and I said to him \"She will fart punch your tongue box anyday\". This was in relation to a TIFU from a few months ago that I can't find. After the article finished, my Mum then went on to interrogate me about my comment for the next 15 minutes with my brother just losing it with laughter. After I eventually told them what it meant they looked very disgusted and I went off and here I am.", "summary": "Told my Dad a transgender person would fart punch his tongue box. He was not amused."}
{"id": "t3_w8g9a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Pre-Nup: He asked me to sign... and then trouble started....", "post": "Hi,\nI'm 26/f and have been engaged to a older man for 7 years. We are finally getting married in 2 months!\n\nI always knew a pre-nup would be on the table, because I make far less than he does (I work for a nonprofit... he has a company). But, it didn't matter to me, as I don't plan on getting divored.\n\nSo, he gives me a pre-nup and the name of a lawyer to call. The lawyer looks at the pre-nup and says it is totally unfair. Basically, everything is 100% separate - no shared property, no marital property. The house, the art, furniture, etc is 100% his. I get 1/50th his net worth in alimony, spread out over 10 years. No matter how long we are married, it's a set amount. There are also some things about waving rights to his will. \n\nTo me, that wasn't so bad - after all, he paid for it all. But, the lawyer said its not right. So, I go to him, and say the lawyer said certain elements are not fair or normal. He blows up. \n\nHe said I am \"Showing my true colors\" and being entitled. I tell him I don't even want more, but we should talk about certain elements ( like some kind of tiering if we are married over 10 years). \n\nNow he is so mad he wants to call off the wedding. Words have been hurled. It's not pretty. \n\nAm I out of line? Have I ruined things? How can I make it better? Help!", "summary": "He is mad I didn't sign a prenup my lawyer said was unfair. Was I wrong, and can I make it better?"}
{"id": "t3_1zscoa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fucking up a car I already can't afford", "post": "So I'm a kid who drives a car that is *way*  too nice. After dicking around and shit I managed to acquire an off-warranty BMW 3 series with a about 100k miles on it. My parents didn't pay for the entire thing, they just loaned me money, so I still owe ~$2000 on the thing, not including little fix ups that need to be done in the spring.  \nI've had this thing for 4 months.  \nIt's a manual.  \nI **SUCK** at driving a manual.  \nSo over the course of the winter, I've beat the shit out of the clutch, and earlier today, I was backing up in the school parking lot after I entered a full row. I let the clutch slip and gassed it (I was late, okay?) in reverse, but didn't think anything of it. On my way home, I noticed the clutch slipping every time I shifted into 3rd coming out of a turn. I got nervous and fucking stalled the thing TWICE on my way home, furthering the shittery. (I haven't stalled it since the first week I got it).  \nI did some research, and most sources say a new clutch and flywheel will cost upwards of $2000.  \nI quit my job a month ago, I have $300 to my name.  My parents already are pissed because I owe them as well as my shitty grades this semester.    \nI'm so fucked.", "summary": "Don't be a spoiled ass hole and get a nice car in your teens."}
{"id": "t3_3qloro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30f] broke up with my partner of ten years [30M] because he has addiction problems and i want to have a family. Looking for tips on how to handle heart break when you still love the person.", "post": "It's the kind of situation where I just kept waiting for him to get better or gave him ultimatums that temporarily stuck . . . but he wasn't actively working on himself and I just don't want to wait around another ten years to see if he can.  \n\nBut he's my only love. We met in middle school and were on and off from the 7th grade until we graduated. We would spend every summer hooking up and acting like a couple. And then, eventually decided to be long distance for our last year of college. We've been together continuously since then and officially cohabited for around 5. In all that time, even when I was single, I've never felt much for anyone else.", "summary": "How to deal with the pain of letting go of someone you've loved your whole life? Tips for handling the pain and general life-going-to-shit part.  THanks"}
{"id": "t3_457566", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] just witnessed my friend [16F] and my youth pastor [23M] kissing in our youth room when they thought they were alone.", "post": "this is kind of an update to [this] post that no one really commented on.\n\nAnyways. I have twenty minutes before my internet shuts off and I\"m really freaking out. Please excuse any typos. Read the other post if you want background. Nothing much had happened since all those weird things. \n\nI was driving me and my boyfriend over to our church an hour early because he has band practice (he's in the youth band) and I didn't feel like going back and forth (he was already at my house). He went to go get his bass guitar from the other side of the building where he left it on Sunday and so I went upstairs into the youth room.\n\nNo one else was in the building besides us I thought. But I was walking upstairs and heard some weird noises so I was going to jump out and scare whoever was up there but I peeked through the slightly cracked door into the youth room to see who was there and my friend and my youth pastor were kissing!! Their eyes seemed to be closed and they were like 15 feet away so they didn't see my eyes against the door I think.\n\nI don't know what the heck to do. I don't have any proof and my friend and youth pastor are VERY well respected in the church and I'm not. No one is going to believe me besides my boyfriend and he doesn't know what to do either. \n\nPlease help.", "summary": "Got to youth group early today to accidentally witness my friend [16F] and youth pastor [23M] who I already suspected of having a weird, too close relationship, kissing."}
{"id": "t3_1eqnzm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is occupation choice an indicator of future relationship success? [22mf]", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and we have known each other for longer.\n\nWe both are from affluent families and I do not shun money. However, he is looking to pursue a career in investment banking. When we first met, he wanted to be an education advocate. He is loving, caring, and incredibly loyal.\n\nHowever, I am afraid if he follows through with finance he will become consumed with the culture there. While I do have a lot of friends who are in the line of work, they are also misogynistic, cheat on their gfs, and stereotypical Bateman-like behavior. Granted, a lot of people go into finance as a douche. Is it valid for me to be concerned that he will transform that way? I am having doubts about whether I should continue this relationship because of this.", "summary": "BF's new career path is making me worry about who he is. Is this an unfounded assumption?"}
{"id": "t3_nf7h1", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "What breed would suit me best?", "post": "Hello! I've seen a couple of posts like this already, and it worked for the posters so I figured I'd give it a shot. \nIn a couple of months, when I graduate from college, I'm looking to get a dog. The problem is, I'm not sure which breed would suit my lifestyle best. \n\nI'm a 20 year old caterer, which means I'm constantly in the kitchen cooking and therefore it is imperative that the dog sheds very little (I hear poodle mixes are great for this?) I tend to get up very early in the morning to go to school/work (read: 6am) so taking the dog out first thing in the morning for a short walk is no problem. I'd like a smaller breed of dog, one that doesn't do well with very long walks and prefers to cuddle rather than run around. (My boyfriend's mother's dog is just like that, you take her to the park for 20 mins a day and she gets tired  and will lay on the couch the rest of the day). I also need a dog that is somewhat smart, even tempered and easily trainable.", "summary": "need a breed that: sheds very little, doesn't need frequent grooming, is small, is smart and easily trainable, isn't very active."}
{"id": "t3_3ww7m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I 36f trust my 36m fianc\u00e9 again?", "post": "I (36F) am difficult person to be in a relationship with. I have had a couple of past relationships that have really broken me.  I have been with my fianc\u00e9 (36M) for four years and we have had our ups and downs.  I tend to push ppl away because I'm scared of getting hurt.\n\nApril 2015, I saw some text messages on my fiance's phone to another girl. before this I had absolutely no reason to believe that he was talking to someone else. We he tried lying about it at first and even gave me a wrong number when i went to block her from texting.   Eventually everything came out and he told me the truth. It was lots of text messages and several phone calls but nothing more than that.  I have asked what the phone calls were about and I was given the answer \"we just talk about random stuff\".  The text messages I saw were pretty personal and that's what killed me the most.  \n\nI want to get over it and move past it but i don't know how.   I keep asking if he's cheating on me, talking to someone else, texting other people, or doing something that could be considered cheating and all that's doing is pushing us apart. I love him with all my heart and I know that the way I treated him pushed him to talk to someone else for attention.  He swears that it was nothing more than that. I believe him.  I made it quite clear at the beginning of our relationship that I hate liars. when someone lies to me I usually just cut them off because I can't trust them anymore. Looking back I realized that I have cut off a lot of people that I love and care about because they made a mistake. I don't want to do this with him.  Its gotten to the point that when i ask him if he's doing something he gets super pissed off and it causes a shitload of other problems.  \n\nHow do i get past this?   What can we do to move forward?", "summary": "Caught fianc\u00e9 texting another girl and I need help getting over it."}
{"id": "t3_1t6ve9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/F] How to tell if a guy [22/M] is just using you for sex or actually will progress to something more in the future?", "post": "First of all, I'd like to apologize for the throwaway.\n\nMy question for you folks is as follows: How can I tell if the guy I've been 'seeing' is in this just for the sex or if eventually he may want to progress our relationship to something more?\n\nAt first it seemed quite clear to me that he was a decent guy. I met him in a bar, went home with him but he didn't try anything past the make out session. I saw him about a week later for dinner at my place after he was finished work and we had sex. I saw him again today, again just at my place, where we hung out and yes again had sex. He hasn't asked me to go somewhere public but I figured it's just because he's busy with work and I'm writing finals and it's a hard time for everyone. \n\nHe says things that make me think that he may have ideas about a realtionship in our future or at least dating. For example, there was a knock on the door today and he joked abut \"oh is that your other man, are you cheating on me?\" (When we have no spoken of being exclusive at all!) and when we talked about me being a picky eater he says \"what if I take you out and theres nothing there that you want to eat?\" There's the hinting at maybe us going on a 'proper' date.  \n\nBut then my mind got all confused later when he stated that he had never had a \"fling\" with a redhead before. So, is that what he thinks this is? Just a fling?", "summary": "Boy sending mixed messages, hoping that he's not just hanging around for the sex. Not sure what he may be thinking?"}
{"id": "t3_1nbpuo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] girlfriend of 4.5 years left me [18M], what do I do now?", "post": "First off, excuse me for my bad english (it's not my first language). \n\nMe and my ex-girlfriend started dating at a very young age, we were 14 at the time and still kids. We've had our fights in the four years, but we always managed to make it through. But in the past few months she just wasn't the same. She was saying she wanted to find herself and be alone for some time, to find out what it's like to be alone. After she broke up with me once about five months ago, we came back together. We enjoyed our holiday together and had a lot of fun. It felt like we were madly in love. \n\nBut in the past month or so, she was really different. I felt something is wrong and knew what was going to happen. So yesterday she broke up with me. I have no idea what to do or how to handle it. She was my first crush, my first love, my first everything. I'm trying not to call or send her a message but it's just so hard. \n\nI know our brake up is for the best, but I have no idea how to handle it. I do have friends, but I'm not close to them so I can't really seek help with them. All I do now is think of her. I love her very much and I care a lot about her, but I just want the best for her. I'm not trying to get her back, I just want to stop the heartache. How do I go about this? What can I do to make time fly by faster? I feel like I'm never going to meet someone who was as close to me as she was.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4.5 years broke up with me. How do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_3a8ci0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just looking for a little help. Me(24M), her (23F); I just can't seem to get over it. TLDR: I am an alcoholic and I'm sick of it.", "post": "Well, for starters, we were together for two and a half years. I will admit, I wasn't always the greatest boyfriend- I would be a little tipsy at the bar and nonchalantly flirt with other girls- judgement expected and understood. But, what really happened was when my drinking got out of control while we were still together. I had been resenting my job and doing nothing with my time, so I would drink. and drink. and drink some more.\n\nEventually she got sick of this and told me she would end it if I didn't stop. So what do I do? I hide pints of vodka around the house (we were living together for two years). I was able to play it off that I was not drunk while we sat and watched things on Netflix. Until one night, I hit it a little too hard. And she knew I was fucked. She moved back in with her parents the next day and I went on a pretty long bender. Ended up having a seizure from alcohol withdrawl and went to rehab. \n\nThe thing is, when I came out of rehab, I went right back to the booze. No hard stuff, just beer. It has been about two months. We have ran into each other and she still thinks I am sober, but she is with someone new now. And it just hurts so bad. I just don't know how to get out of this funk.", "summary": "I guess I am a pretty bad person and a liar, but I don't want to be that anymore."}
{"id": "t3_25tb5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] of 3.5 years, are having a tattoo problem", "post": "Thank you so much everyone! During my process of seeing things from a different view I sometimes come across an issue that I still see \"the old way\" and need help to see it differently. I just got off the phone with the prettiest woman in the world and told her about my epiphany - thanks to you all. It basically boils down to the fact that I would rather preserve her persona and who she really is rather than preserve her body the way I want to. She is amazing and very patient with me through this process and it made her very happy to hear my new view of things. She decided to wait until I get there to get it so that I can be there by her side and we will have that positive connection to the tattoo. That, and I may get one of my own!\n\nYou are all amazing, thank you again so much for your insight!", "summary": "Girlfriend wants a tattoo, I don't like the idea. Need help to change my view so I feel better about it or find a way to compromise."}
{"id": "t3_ydpqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17m) am feeling uncomfortable that my girlfriend (17f) smoked weed for the first time and liked it.", "post": "So my girlfriend (17f) of 3 months in highschool sometimes go to our friend's house to drink and just chill. Our friends also have weed and sometimes smoke it, which I'm totally cool with but i personally don't smoke at all. However last night my girlfriend agreed to smoke for the first time and said she kinda liked it, which made me extremely uncomfortable seeing her smoke and know that she liked it. Even though i have nothing against people smoking weed and have been with people smoking, i just somehow feel really uncomfortable knowing that she has smoked weed and i certainly hope this isn't going to be a regular thing. I want to talk to her about it, but I might seem like I'm taking charge of her life by telling her what to do and what not to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend smoked weed for first time and liked it, I don't know how to talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_50n6wm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Becoming a parent, and the finances that follow", "post": "A little history: Money is USD. My wife and I are 26/28 respectively, happily married, employed with ~80k/year income, 10k credit card debt, 35k car debt (two Jeeps, which if anyone is a Jeep owner knows those aren't an option) about 12k Student debt and have been together over 8 years. Last year I had a mentor who had 3 kids +1 in the oven convince me that having kids is easy and \"just do it.\"\nWe stopped birth control and did it, with little planning. Within 8 months we were expecting, and a (very) short 2 months after that we got the news our new addition wasn't growing anymore. Not looking for pity here, we have gotten over the miscarriage. \nFast forward to the past 7 months: Still happily married, gainfully employed etc, but since initially becoming pregnant I have become (very) anal about finances. Childcare on our area which is based on income would be about 1,100 USD a month and with our current debt situation I don't see it possible. We are cutting down on most of our expenses (coupons, buying in bulk, cutting Cable) but I am having a difficult time with being okay with trying to conceive while still in debt. For the women who are of age out there, they can probably relate with my wife and say screw the money it's time for babies. Am I out of my mind for wanting to get out of debt before we attempt to conceive?\nI understand hormones are a powerful force, and multiple people have already said to me, \"there's never a good time to have a baby.\" But I really want to elminate any kind of financial stressor before we add in a new infant stressor.", "summary": "Getting out of debt before attempting to have a child: worth it or nah?"}
{"id": "t3_2w1w8y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sexual soulmate? (21/F) and (22/M)", "post": "So, I've been hooking up with this guy for a few months and I'm really into him. He's seriously like my sexual soulmate or something, the sex is absolutely mind-blowing every single time. We don't really hang out much, but when we do, we have a lot of fun together. He's not looking for anything, and I'm cool with that but I can't imagine finding someone that I'm this sexually compatible with again. I don't want to make things weird, I really like the way things have been going, but I don't want to let him slip away, you know? What should I do, or should I do anything at all?", "summary": "having the best sex of my life, don't want him to slip away."}
{"id": "t3_v6xxj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should my wife and I buy a house or rent an apartment?", "post": "Hello!\n\nMy wife and I are leaving the military and going to school. We will be going for our Bachelor's at least, so we'll be in the area for at least six years, and really don't plan on leaving even after that. We've been away from home enough, we don't want to leave family again.\n\nSo should we buy a $100,000 or less house? We are looking at anything between $50,000-$100,000 including manufactured homes in the middle of the desert. We will have around $35,000 saved up. Or should we go for an apartment? Based on the NYT Buy v. Rent calculator, it says we should buy. Our PITI would also be around $550/mo. compared to $700/mo. with renting an apartment. Buying should be obvious in this case, correct?\n\nAs I mentioned before, we will be going to school full-time and won't have much of a salary except maybe a part-time job for each of us. We won't be using our G.I. Bill for a couple years. I know people suggest paying no more than 30% your net salary for a mortgage, but wouldn't this be an exception? The mortgage would be cheaper than rent for an apartment.\n\nThanks in advance for any help.", "summary": "$100,000 house with $550/mo PITI vs. $700/mo apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_50t8p6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not doing the dishes...", "post": "So there I was, minding my own business, eating some oreos...like ya do....watching tv....like ya do....when all of a sudden I saw a few ants. Now, I'm on a second story level so its fairly understandable that I freaked out, grabbed a rag, and went ham. Thus killing the ants, but it was merely the beginning. That night there were even more ants, and they've been swarming around the sink. I flushed em with a rag and a bit of water, but today when I woke up there was a mat of ants on the sink. I killed most and now need a bit of help making them go away, but thats a whole new story.", "summary": "Forgot to clean some dishes, ant army came and stayed"}
{"id": "t3_hyi4h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women (and men), can we talk birth control?", "post": "I'm looking for a change in anti-baby control, and have found a TON of info on the internet. But, the only thing there is it's difficult to find one place which people can come to talk about all different forms of birth control.\n\nI've tried a few different forms of pill BC, tried the NuvaRing, and am currently on the patch. Here's my evaluations:  \n-pills: hard to remember every day  \n-NuvaRing: excellent in that you only need to think about it once a month, but feels like having a supermax tampon up the cooch all the time   \n-patch: works wonderfully, only need to think about it once a week. Placement can be an issue; either it's visable, or it's in a place where it might fall off due to clothing friction.\n\nI'm thinking about switching to the shot, anyone have experience with this? Please share any and all info you wish regarding all forms of birth control!", "summary": "what are good and bad things about various forms of BC?"}
{"id": "t3_eplch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Planning trip to Hawaii in January.  Any advice, suggestions?", "post": "I've been dating a girl from Sweden who is in the U.S. as an au pair.  She was here for a year and her time is up in January.  I wanted to take her to Hawaii before she goes back but I've never been there before.\n\nShe wants to go to Oahu and see Pearl Harbor and then go to Maui to relax.  I tried to book this through a travel agency but it's been over a week and I wanted to show her tickets for Christmas.\n\nAnyone have advice on a place to get tickets that would let me start in SFO, goto Oahu, then to Maui, and finally back to SFO?  And any advice on cool places to visit while I'm there or activities to do?\n\nAny and all advice is appreciated.", "summary": "I want to make my girlfriends Christmas by doing cool stuff in Hawaii and I need your suggestions!"}
{"id": "t3_1fnykl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Am I eating to little for my size? M/6'4\"/280lbs (Food Log Pictures Inside)", "post": "My goal is to lose weight. I recently started using [MapMyRun] ( and logged my food intake. When logging my food I would make sure to create my own item of food regarding what I have eaten as to which brand and amount eaten. I have made sure that I have not missed anything out in my food log. Here is my [Food Log] \n\nI don't feel hungry or thirsty at all. Today on the 4th of June I took two [Grenade Fat Burners] One after my breakfast and one after my lunch. I plan on taking 2 a day for 6 days and see how I do.\n\nCan I sustain this level of eating and still be healthy or will it put my body in starvation mode and slow down my metabolism?", "summary": "Eating Less. Counting Calories. Don't Feel Like I'm Eating Enough *But* I Don't Feel Hungry Either. Can I Keep Doing This And Not Die?"}
{"id": "t3_41k74d", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I(16/m) talk to this girl(14/f)?", "post": "So I've been going to this church for going on 2 years already. I know a good amount of people, go to youth group, etc. There's this one super pretty girl that I'm REALLY attracted to, unlike anything I've ever experienced. From what I've heard she's absolutely perfect. I know, she's 14, but she's a mature 14. I'm good friends with her best friend's brother, so that should help. Problem is I've never talked to this girl. I hold the door for her as often as possible, and she smiles and says thank you. Walking down the hall, I look at her, and she looks at me, etc. I'm not an introvert or socially awkward, but I am a bit shy(and super nervous in this case). I've never really talked to a girl before. And I'm homeschooled. But so is her best friend and the brother I'm friends with, and I have some evidence that points to her being homeschooled as well. I probably would have been talking with her by now if it weren't for my sister; she's 14, and super clingy, and she doesn't talk to hardly anyone. She always waits for me to go anywhere at the church, stuff like that. So that's my predicament. And the friend zone is also a thing. I also wouldn't know where to begin as far as how to talk to her/what to say. Help!", "summary": "I really like this girl that I haven't met, I have some connections, I need advice on how to meet her and talk to her."}
{"id": "t3_3nkxa8", "subreddit": "books", "title": "What to do with a bad book once you've finished it?", "post": "I'm normally one to power through books once I've started, no matter how little I enjoy them. I've had some pleasant surprises with this method, but also wasted my time on some duds. This past weekend, however, I put a book down for good. I'm interested in comparative religion and was reading a book on the topic that was written by a Christian who, though biased, was bringing up some interesting points. However, there came a point when the author introduced groups who believe in Christ as well as certain fields of science, and he began spewing drivel about the field being \"theory not fact\". I couldn't handle the smugness or misinformation (I have 5 years of advanced biology education), so I quit. My first instinct was to toss the book into the recycling bin, because there's no way I want anybody else to read it and I sure as sh*t don't want it on my bookshelf. Then I felt that was maybe a bit extreme since previous sections of the book were somewhat interesting and well-presented. Donating it to a library or something feels wrong though, since it was clearly not held to high publication standards. Have any of y'all been in this situation? I've never been one to promote censoring, but I also think the misleading nature of this book makes it an unfit source of information. I'm not trying to spark a scientific debate, but I was hoping others had some experiences they might want to share.", "summary": "What to do with a poorly misleading book that I refuse to keep in my apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_177egk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out that my bf of one year cheated on me 4 months ago and has been lying about it.", "post": "I (F22) just found out that my boyfriend of a year (M24) cheated on me 4 months ago and has been lying to me about it for the entire time. Where do I go from here?\n\nOn my boyfriends birthday, I let him go out with his brother and best friend for a guys night the day before we were supposed to celebrate his birthday. The next day, he came home early, followed by his brother and friend who were supposed to celebrate with us.\n\nWe all had a couple of drinks, then I overheard his friend joking about him \"getting some\" on his birthday. I confronted my bf about it, and he admitted that he had danced with a girl at the bar. I was upset about this, but he insisted that it was only dancing and that dancing was not cheating.\n\nBeing a typical girl, I brought up the dancing incident a few times since then, and he has dismissed it as being \"just dancing\". I brought it up last night again, and said that his friend had referred to what happened as \"hooking up\" and that I didn't believe it was just dancing.\n\nAfter a long silence, I knew I was right. He admitted to having made out with this girl, and immediately regretting it. He said he was scared when he realized how serious we were getting and that he thought I might have been the one, which scared him. He said it was a phase, and that he knew he had made a huge mistake afterwards and that he was positive that I was the one, and that he was too scared of losing me to tell me.\n\nWe live together, and have a dog, and are both in this for the long run. My heart is broken into a million pieces. Where do I go from here? I can't imagine my life without him, and he says the same about me.\n\nHe is completely broken up over this, but says that it has been eating at him and he would do anything to take it back and will do anything to win my trust back.\n\nI can't live without him. Please tell me what to do.", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me and lied about it for four months. I don't know what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_4dm5xs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/m] I don't know what else to do about how she [28/f] argues with me, and how I feel so unappreciated and excluded from her life.", "post": "I'll try to summarize everything as short and as vague as possible, specific details or questions I can answer through pms.\nSo I've known her for like three years, we initially dated for like 4 months, however due to my insecurity issues she left me for like a year. During that year I tried to contact her and made the problems worse, eventually I saw the error of my ways, left her alone, and worked on myself. I hit the gym, got professional counseling, started going out more, and became a more happy person. One day she came back and we decided to try again, we dated for like 2 months until she messaged me and said she was ready to be in a relationship with me, I accepted and we've been in a relationship for about 5 months now. The issues that pop up are she refuses to tell anyone about our relationship, through FB or in person, gets mad at me for liking other girls pictures in Facebook, and excludes me from friend group trips she promises to take me on, sometimes won't text me for days, but gets mad at me for doing the same etc...\nI do not want to break up with her I honestly do love her a lot, I've tried talking to her about it, but it just seems like she changes for a week or promises to do something, but then later on she just reverts back to how she is or breaks her promises.", "summary": "need help with how to deal with angry girlfriend that seems to just want to exclude me from her life as much as possible."}
{"id": "t3_555i3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22m] and my girlfriend [23f] are great together and I love her, but I can't stop thinking about being single and having sex with other girls.", "post": "I know it's wrong. We've been together a year now and it's been fantastic for the both of us. We're both been doing so well in our careers since getting together and we're both just so full of life.\n\nBut I can't help it when im at a party and a girl start a flirting with me to have that desire to want to kiss or something else with her. I've never cheated, but at times I've felt like doing it, which makes me feel so guilty.\n\nAll my closest friends are single right now  and it doesn't help that they bring different girls home every week. I know for a fact they're not happy themselves with their lives right now, unlike myself with my girlfriend. So it confuses me why I desire their lifestyles so much.\n\nIs this a sign I should be single or is it something I'll grow out of? This is my first relationship.", "summary": "I look at other girls and want to have sex with them despite being in love with my girlfriend and my friend's casanova lifestyles don't help. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_d91dr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Advice needed on long distance relationship", "post": "I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl i've been going out with for 1 year and about 8 months. I met her here in San Francisco as I was studying and she was working. She lived south of SF but I would commute on the weekends to see her (2 hours drive each way). We did that for a little less than a year. She then moved up here to the Bay Area where we could see each other more often. She stayed up here for about 6 months but finally had to go back home, Sweden. I went and visited her for the summer (2.5 months of awesome European fun!) and now I am back at home, with my last semester of school. She is just starting medical school which means she will have to stay in Sweden for 5 years. We talk twice a day on TokBox and I also purchased a MagicJack before I went to Sweden that I left with her so she can call me whenever she wants from that to my cell. I really love this girl. I've been in a few long relationships, three 1 year relationships but this is the first school who doesn't bore me. She's driven, smart, and extremely beautiful (she is a 5'11\" athlete with beautiful eyes and a captivating smile). I want to marry her. My question to the reddit community is: What tips do you have to make this long distance relationship work? What's a better program to talk than TokBox? Is TokBox limited by the camera each user uses? I am mainly interested in figuring out ways we can communicate each day that makes us feel better, video is always much better than calling because we tend to make a lot of silly faces at each other and generally fool around on the camera. What other tips do you have? She is a very loyal girl, but she is very bright, I don't want her to get bored. I know she is in love with me but I want to do everything I can to keep her.", "summary": "I am in a long distance relationship and I want some tips on how to keep it going. I also want to know what the best video chat program/software/webapp is."}
{"id": "t3_vt8o1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Weirdest thing just happened to me.", "post": "So, the strangest thing just happened a few minutes ago. I was riding my bike home after getting out of my calculus class early, and I was nearly there when I hear a truck honk behind me. This happens fairly often on my travels to and from work and school from people I know honking to say hi to me. So I turn my head and give a quick wave but I cannot see who is in the drivers seat, so I look forward again. Then I hear a girl yell something at me so I turn again and I see that there are four people in the back of this truck and one of the girls is leaning out saying something to me. As the truck passed, the girl spit at me, missing by a large margin, and the truck speeds off. Now I am sure I had a pretty puzzled look on my face as I kept staring at them, and the girl laughs hysterically with her friends at this point and proceeds to flick me off. I quickly shrugged it off and gave a smile and a wave just to spite them for fun. Just before they turned the corner about 50 feet ahead of me or so, they all looked confused, and I don't know, I felt like I had won a small victory over some idiots with some quick passive aggressiveness. Now I feel slightly angry, but it's not that big of a deal, they were just a bunch of brats riding around being jerks.", "summary": "Got spit at and given the finger by a girl hanging out with her friends from a truck while riding my bike home, proceeded to smile and wave just to confuse and spite them."}
{"id": "t3_2j0nef", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (M20) Made out with a friend (F20) when on drugs and now I don't know what to do.", "post": "Hello! Sorry if this isn't the right place to ask, redirect me to the right place if it isn't :) Sorry about my english but its not my native language.\n\nI got to know her the first day of school since I have started university in a new country two weeks ago. \nWe went out partying three times and she was  obviously hitting on me all three nights. \n\nShe sleeps far away from the city centrum so she slept over at my place twice out of these three times , everytime she hugged me and held my hand while getting really touchy in bed. \n\nShe wants to have a serious relationship (according to her friends) but I want to not be bound since I wanna check around. \n\nNow here is the problem: 2 days ago we did speed together and we started making out. I am not very physically attracted to her so I don't want a relationship and I really really wanna keep her as friend because she's a good friend!\n\nYesterday we met up with a big group of friends and I avoided her as much as I could because I couldn't tell her, she was too wasted! \n\nI think she got the message, but I feel like I still need to explain it to her or our friendship will be awkward.\n\nDid I fuck up yesterday? How would you guys approach the talk? Should I be honest and just explain that I wanna see more people and bind myself the first month? Should I just act like nothing happened and hope the friendship is still intact? Is it a doomed friendship?", "summary": "new city** --> **make out with friend** --> **don't want more. she wants more** --> **I wanna keep friendship.**"}
{"id": "t3_snnge", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's something 'hyped up' that you've tried, but didn't really like?", "post": "Obligatory \"I'll start\":\n\n Over the few months I've been redditing, I see commonly people praising root beer, a soft drink. Fair enough, it's probably awesome, but being an upside down person (read: Australian), root beer isn't a common product.\n\n The other day I was walking through local shopping center, and one of the specialty candy/chocolate shops had a fridge full of imported drinks that aren't made and distributed here properly (Dr. Pepper / Cherry, Grape Fanta, Mtn Dew Volt, Mtn Dew Code Red, Cherry Coke + a few others), namely one of which was a Root Beer!\n\n I purchased it, along with a Mtn Dew code red (usually get Dr. Pepper but was looking for new experiences), and I was excited to try it. This could be the next big thing in my life, root beer! I may be praising this for years to come!\n I crack it open, its nice and chilled, let off that nice little bit of mist you get from cracking a can, mmm can't wait. I bring it up to my nose and have a sniff.....smells odd, not bad, just a little odd and a little bit familiar. I was intrigued, and before long had a nice big ol' swig.\n\n OMG, this taste, it's not horrible, but.....it has a strange sense of familiarity. I took a few more sips, handed the can to the girlfriend. She had the same expression. I sat there, thinking for a good minute when I realised, [Deep Heat!] This drink, tastes as if someone liquified Deep Heat, and poured it into my cola!\n\n Needless to say I wasn't too impressed, and we ended up chucking half that can away :(. It wasn't horrible, it just wasn't a taste I'd crave.\n\n On the flip side, first time trying Mtn Dew Code Red, absolutely loved it.", "summary": "root beer tastes like cola and Deep Heat. I don't like it. Mtn Dew Code Red is awesome though."}
{"id": "t3_1qs8di", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] Should I Tell People I've Never Kissed a Girl?", "post": "To begin with, I'm sorry if posting this is against the rules, as it's not really 'relationship advice', this is just the closest subreddit I could find.\n\nSo yea, I'm an 18 year old guy who has never kissed a girl etc. Without trying to sound like an asshole, I've been told that I'm a pretty good looking guy. Although introverted, I'm still pretty social, so there's no obvious reason why I wouldn't have been with a girl before.\nReally, I think it's a mixture of an all boys school, an immature phase, then an awkward phase and in the last 1-2 years just a lack of interest.\n\nBut in a few months I'm heading off to college, where I know very few people so it'll be a bit of a 'clean slate'. When the inevitable question arises at a party or talking to someone: \"How many girls have you been with\" or something along those lines, I'm not sure what I should say. I don't like to lie but is it a huge red flag to say I've never been with anyone?\n\nThanks for any help given.", "summary": "Starting afresh next year, if/when asked, should I admit I've never kissed a girl?"}
{"id": "t3_2n8q31", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Negotiating Tips Needed - Relocation (I may have to turn down my dream job!)", "post": "I posted the following comment elsewhere and was directed to this subreddit - can anyone help me with tips on renegotiating the terms of my relocation benefit?\n\nI will have to turn this job down with no help with upfront costs, would it be weird to ask to take a lower starting salary in exchange?\u00a0 Or ask for a pay advance in lieu of the relo bonus?\u00a0 I dont know where to start and dont want to start off on the wrong foot with missteps.\n\nIt's seems incredibly embarrassing to call and ask for this, I dont really want to explain my crappy financial situation to my new boss.\n\nDetails:\n\nGood: I was offered my dream job!\n\nAfter choosing to pursue my passion, and busting my ass doing election season work, my hard work has been recognized in the form of a good paying, full time year round job with a national organization working to advance progressive interests! At their HQ in a great city 2,000 miles away...\n\nBad: I will most likely have to turn it down.\n\nI wasn't offered an upfront relocation bonus, I have to pay out of pocket and get reimbursed. Because the answer on the offer was postponed multiple times, my funds dwindled during the wait and I don't have the $400 it would cost me to get there. Nor do I have a place to stay. They want me to start on December 1st.\n\nUgly: I have no emergency funds/way of taking out a loan to get me through the next 3 weeks. I left my abusive alcoholic husband in the spring, and his financial irresponsibility spiraled out of control. We had to declare bankruptcy a few months ago right before I filed for divorce. (I worked with a financial advisor and it was the only way to stop the bleeding and the fastest way to get untangled from my ex - even living apart any interaction has been emotionally abusive and hard on me.)", "summary": "I am turning down my dream job tomorrow due to lacking $400 and a place to sleep for 3 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_twh81", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Blow jobs. Am I weird for not liking them? (guy here)", "post": "Whenever I see a girl offering a guy a blowjob in a movie or on tv, the guy is always like [OMG] The general consensus around seems to be that blow jobs are gods gift to men, but my experience with them has been 'meh.' Admittedly some have been worse than others, but even the most gifted girls didn't do much for me. So fellow Redditors, am I weird or are there others out there like me who'd happily pass on a blow job?", "summary": "I think I've realized what my problem is. I'm a lesbian girl trapped in a man's body."}
{"id": "t3_3pyuiu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] don't know how to say hello or goodbye appropriatly to the other gender...", "post": "It might be silly but in general, my problem is I don't really know how to say goodbye to girls I just met. There were a few awkward situations because of that in the last couple of months and I just want to avoid them in the future.\n\nTo give you an idea of what kind of situations I mean here are a few examples:\n\nIn the summer, 2 close friends, one of them with his girlfriend, and me went to an amusement park for a day. I was the driver and when I picked up my friend and his girlfriend at his home there was the first awkward situation for this day. I 've never met his girlfriend before and this is the first thing I am unsure about... \n\nHow do I say hello to her or any girl in this situation without comming out as creepy or something like that? Do I hug her, do I shake hands or is a hello enough? \n\nThe second awkward situation happened when I drove them back his home of course. We got out of the car and I didn't know how to say goodbye to her. Was saying goodbye enough or was a hug appropriate because we all had a good day?\n\nThe same happened to me when I met the girlfriend of my other close friend for the first time. But this time it was easier for me because I noticed it was okay for her to hug/she decided to come forward to hug.", "summary": "How can I appropriatly say hello or goodbye to girl?"}
{"id": "t3_2lv34r", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can someone point me towards resources for representing myself in criminal court? (USA, Texas)", "post": "I know, it's generally said that you shouldn't represent yourself in criminal court. But...\n\nI'm having a jury trial in several months. It's a class C misdemeanor, and it's my first criminal trouble outside of a moving violation or two. I would love to hire an attorney, and I'm going to try to raise the funds for it, but at the moment I can't afford it.\n\nI truly don't believe that a jury would convict me, but I want to make the trial kind of a big deal, as it's a social injustice / abuse of power by a petty local bureaucrat kind of thing and I strongly feel the need to stand up and speak out.\n\nI want to be involved in jury selection, if that's possible; I want to subpoena a few witnesses and know the procedure of using them in court; I want to submit physical and audio evidence. And basically I need to know the entire process of being on trial.\n\nI was hoping for a NOLO book on it or something similar, but I haven't found one yet, or a comprehensive informational website.", "summary": "Where can I learn as much as possible about representing myself in a jury trial for a class C misdemeanor?"}
{"id": "t3_1cjhts", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My dad doesn't know me at all and I don't think he ever will.", "post": "My father and I have never been close and I had a long talk with my mom this morning and after we finally finished talking I brought up my Dad because he always worries about me, he thinks I will end up like his drug addict looser brother.\n\nIts easy to talk to my mom about basically everything, however, when it comes to talking to my dad about anything at all I have a major issue with keeping my composure. I realize this is a personal flaw and bring at the tender age of 20 I am finally maturing enough to try to fix some of these flaws. I guess the point of this wall of text is that I can't seem to break down the communication barrier between me and my father because of deep rooted issues between the two of us and I'm wondering if you guys at Reddit could be any help because I plan on trying to chat with him when he gets home from work tonight. It probably won't end well unless I handle the situation with the utmost delicacy.", "summary": "can't talk to my father and am mature enough to realize I need to fix this problem, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_hf1bv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A (boring) question about life changes and relocation.", "post": "I am going to try and keep this as short as possible cause in real life it's a loooong story.\n\nHere goes...4 years ago my wife and I moved from the west coast to NYC so that my wife could take a job opportunity.  It worked out very well because I happened to be in between IT gigs at that time (I was an IT Consultant).\n\nWe had a lot of fun in our new city - made some friends - worked hard and last year had our first child.\n\nFast forward to today - my wife just found out that she is going to be losing her job at the end of June which is largely due to the fact that she can no longer continue to work the amount of hours she had been putting in while trying to be a mother.\n\nThis puts us in a really difficult spot on a couple of different levels.  First and foremost being that she is going to be losing what was an exceptional salary and as anyone who knows anything about NYC knows...this town is not cheap.\n\nSo we have been kicking about the idea of moving back to the west coast.  For a lot of reasons this would make sense - all of her family this there - most of our really good close friends are there - the cost of living is better - and she knows that she has a job waiting for her there that would accommodate her needs to want to work part time.\n\nThe issue we have is that during the course of the time we have been in NYC I found a job with a company that I enjoy.\n\nI am not 100% certain (because we do have people who live and work remote) but I think if we were to pull up stakes and go back to the WC I would end up losing this job.  I don't feel like I have been here long enough to demand that they let me relocate and I am afraid to even float it past my boss out of fear that it might put me in some kind of jeopardy.\nJust curious as to what other Redditors might do in this situation.", "summary": "just spilling my personal bs all over reddit"}
{"id": "t3_1jwp5s", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [25m] have invited this girl [25] over for dinner tomorrow as a third date. Here are all the insecurities I'm experiencing as a result:", "post": "Backstory: met on the internet, went for drinks 2 weeks ago, saw Pacific Rim (great movie, btw) last weekend, went for drinks, ended up at her place (nothing really happened, some touching, I guess) stayed up all night, I had to leave, invited her for dinner later in the week. When I left we kissed. Also, I have never had a girlfriend or sex. That's probably important to mention. I'm pretty normal other than that, though, I swear.\n\nList of fears, in no particular order:\n\n* She might not like my cooking\n* I'm probably bad at kissing, and she has undoubtedly spent the last week judging me\n* Might have been too reserved last time. Don't want her to think I am uninterested, or dispassionate, or a robot\n* Might end up coming on too strong from trying to compensate\n* If sex happens, I will be paralyzed with dread.\n* What movie should I put on?\n* I think I was too engrossed in the movie last time to pay attention to her and I'd like to not do that again\n* My mind won't stop coming up with additional things to worry about\n* I don't have panic attacks, but I might be having panic attacks\n* This is all shit I should have been going through when I was 17\n* I'm probably missing a lot of info that would help people form an opinion on me and my situation.", "summary": "I'm grossly overthinking the sitch with this girl and I'm looking for some advice or soothing words to ease my worried mind."}
{"id": "t3_35ra20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17 M] tell my prom date[17 F] I have feelings for her?", "post": "So basically I asked a girl to prom around January and she said yes. I mainly asked her because I think she's very pretty, and being around her, as limited as it is, makes me very happy and I always have a good time. When I asked her to prom I never said if we were going as friends or not (a pretty big mistake, I know), and like I said I don't get to talk to her much throughout the day. We're going with a group of friends in two weeks, and I don't really know how I should tell her that I have feelings for her and want a long-term relationsip. Is that even a possibility at this point, or is all lost? If there's still hope, is this something I should bring up at prom or before?", "summary": "Have a crush on prom date and don't know if we're going as a platonic couple or something more. How do I tell her I have feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_162one", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What would you do if you could do... anything?", "post": "I have a good life. I spend each day playing video games. I don't have to work. I'm done with school. The problem? I don't *do* anything. And this isn't a recent problem; I've been living like this for years.\n\nI've tried motivating myself to do something more than spending time playing video games. My one and only New Year's resolution is to read one book a month. I used to devour books a dozen at a time! I have plenty of other interests, but I think I'm either bored with them or I've grown beyond them, because I haven't pursued any of my old \"hobbies\" in a while.\n\nI want more. I know I can get more. I don't know how to get more. What would you do to enrich your life, if you had the time?", "summary": "I don't have any \"thing\" driving my life. I'm free, and I'm bored."}
{"id": "t3_2sbjez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my ex [28 F]. Haven't talked in over a year. Inappropes to ask if she's going to a party if looking to avoid?", "post": "We had a meet-cute at a party two years ago. So many things went wrong or sideways and that's how we ended up talking--so many other things went wrong or sideways and that's how we ended up dating. Fell so fast it scared me until she told me she loved me too. Swapped keys, quit condoms, talked about when we'd have kids and when I'd propose. You know:  a serious relationship.\n\nIt didn't last. And even when she left me, I made every effort to preserve what I thought would be our friendship. It wasn't to be, and a month later she'd jumped into a relationship with a good friend of mine, and so many of the lies she'd told and infidelities she'd committed became clear. We've barely spoken since--I'm the sort of chump who still cares about everybody he's ever cared about and the (thankfully few) shitty ones still hurt. I don't like seeing her but generally I just ignore her.\n\nNext week is that party where we met two years ago. Same host. Same occasion. The hostess is a good friend and I'd love to go, but. If my ex is there with her fiance, I'd rather not see them. Not on a night when I can't help remembering how many things fell into place to create one of the cruelest jokes life will ever play on me--every contortion I put myself through to disbelieve the obvious, every time I cried, every friend I lost.\n\nIs it totally unreasonable that I ask her to tell me if she's going so I can avoid her if I have to?", "summary": "still sore about an ex from two years ago. Second anniversary of our meeting is next week--the party we met at. Is it reasonable to ask her to tell me if she's going? Not sure I can handle the reminder."}
{"id": "t3_1iq6cq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have a huge crush on my co-worker [22F]. Was I just friend-zoned?", "post": "I get along extremely well with this girl. We have the exact same sense of humour and never run out of things to talk about. \n\nI'm always really shy around girls, and was too scared to straight up ask her out. Basically there was an event in the city that we both really wanted to go to, so I casually asked if she would want to go, and she agreed. But when it came to the day, a couple of her friends showed up too. I really wanted it to just be the two of us.\n\nI still have a crush on her, but I don't want things to be weird between us at work. I'm a relationship noob and this was the first girl I ever really liked.\n\nWas I definitely friend-zoned?", "summary": "Co-worker and I were to meet up after work. Her friends showed up. Am I in the friend zone?"}
{"id": "t3_2kz26n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24F] told me [25M] that she had 5 \"fuck-buddies\" on call prior to when we started dating, and it bothers me.", "post": "My girlfriend and I live together. We have been together for 2 years. We get along pretty well. She is smart, caring, motivated and very pretty\n\nLast night I was DDing home from a Halloween party. My girlfriend was very drunk and started talking about how much she loves me, and that when we met she immediately knew that she wanted to be with me, and how crazy it was because she immediately stopped contacting her 5 \"fuck-buddies\" (yes, she used that term). She realized she had said something that bothered me but I played it off, and I don't think she knows how uncomfortable I am.\n\nI never knew much about her sexual history prior to dating me. We had talked about exes, and got tested for STDs pretty early on (just in case) but I never asked for any of the details so I had no idea that she was so promiscuous.\n\nHere's the crazy thing: I think I'm upset, primarily because I'm jealous! My girlfriend has always been pretty, popular, and outgoing. She is very charismatic and people have always loved being around her. She partied and dated through highschool, college, and after college up until meeting me. To put it simply, she has spent a lot of time playing the field.\n\nI, on the other hand, haven't really had that kind of experience. I had a painfully awkward highschool career, and a very rough first couple years of college. I've developed a lot since then (mentally, physically, and socially) but outside of a few relationships I haven't had very much casual sex.\n\nI know I should just be really happy that she chose a monogamous relationship with me over her 5 fuck-buddies, but what I really feel is like I missed out. I wish I had had the same kind of experience when I was younger.\n\nAm I completely irrational? Should I talk to my girlfriend about this or suck it up?", "summary": "My girlfriend told me she was seeing 5 \"fuck-buddies\" immediately before we started dating, and it bothers me."}
{"id": "t3_cr0a3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Two girls, One choice.", "post": "Throwaway (obviously).\n\nSo I've been dating this girl for 3 years.  I have really strong feelings for her still but over the last year or so, things have gotten stressful.  Since November we've had sex maybe 5 times.  Being a 20 year old male, my sex drive is alot higher than that.  She says that she doesn't know what's wrong, and that she'll try to figure it out, but has just been getting worse.  I just finished up at University and she's going into her 3rd year.\n\nBut last weekend at a friends house I met this girl.  I've been out of the game for a while, but thought that I was getting some good signals (touching, she always sat next to me etc.).  Fastforward to Friday night.  At another friend's house and the whole night we're talking and stuff and having a good time together.  As the night winds down me and my two friends are walking with her and her 2 friends back to her house.  My buddy managed to piss off her friend and she flipped on him.  Needless to say both groups went their separate way.\n\nI'm definitely digging this girl, and will be seeing her again at a party next weekend.  I haven't made my move because I'm dating this girl and don't want to be that guy.  I'm torn on what to do.  I want to keep this relationship, but I also want to try a bit of the single life.  What should I do?", "summary": "3 year relationship. Still have really strong feelings but wanting to try the single life again."}
{"id": "t3_z43vj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Reddit, please help me feel like i deserve the love of my life so i can muster the courage to ask her to marry me", "post": "Hello, I joined reddit not to long ago and came across this subreddit. I've read so many stories of people really losing the weight and how it improved their lives. I am 24 years old, finishing up my degree in Chemical engineering and am soon going to enter the real world, very scary!\n    I have been dating my girl friend for about 3 years now, and I am convinced that she is my soul mate. She is entering medical school next year, she is funny gorgeous, everything i could have ever dreamed for and more than i deserve. She is in great shape, she doesnt do much to stay there, just naturally so. I on the other hand am not so lucky. I am currently 230 pounds, up 40 pounds from when we first started dating. I've had some major stresses in my life between school and issues with my family (mainly because my gf is not arab like me.) \n   Anyway, my gf has a hard time being satisfied in the bedroom, and I am afraid that it is because she is not physically attracted to me. Everything else is awesome, and she has never hinted that it is a problem, she says she doesn't care about it, but I'm afraid that if i can't figure out how to satisfy her, she won't be happy, and she deserves to be.\n   Please reddit, help me get fit, so I can be the person she deserves.", "summary": "Please help me get into shape so that I can propose to the most wonderful person I know."}
{"id": "t3_1pie0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my coworker [? F] 2 months, what type of relationship do we have?", "post": "I have recently been introduced to a female coworker at my job. At first I just thought of her as just another worker, but lately I am confused about my feelings towards her. I don't really know if I like her as a potential GF, or just a better friend. Regardless, I'd like to actually spend time with her outside of the work environment.\n\nIt's important to note that I've never been in a situation like this in regards to work. I've actually thought that dating a coworker is pretty unprofessional. But once again, I'm not sure if my feelings are romantic or not. All I know is that I really enjoy the time we do have together, regardless of the setting. Also, this professional setting makes asking for her number, or anything like that really really REALLY not ok.\n\nBut realistically, I don't think I'd have any chance with her even if it was romantic. She is probably between 20 and 25, and has much more life experience than me. She has also graduated college, while I have just started. Despite all this, we are hitting it off really well. We have similar humors, and attitudes. And she seems to enjoy my company.\n\nMy main concern is figuring out what I should pursue. Do I like her romantically? Would I be happier if we were just closer friends (outside of work)? Or is she just a friendly coworker that has little interest in me in any non-work situation?", "summary": "I might have romantic feelings towards a coworker and I don't know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_3bdo77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be strange/weird if i[20M] added a girl[19 F] on facebook that i find attractive?", "post": "Im a really shy guy but lately ive been trying to get out of my \"bubble\" and try talking to people more. There is this girl I want to talk to because i find her attractive but i rarely ever see her and the only time i see her is at her, she works at a fast food restaurant. I think ive seen her like once in college but im gonna start going to a 4 year university in the fall. \n\nI dont want like stalk her at her work just so i can talk to her as that would be creepy. I know i should have talked to her when ive seen her but its usually rush hour and they get really busy so i dont want to hold up the drive through line and i was nervous. When i go and see her she smiles and blushes but doesnt talk much. I would like to add her on facebook and talk to her to get to know her more but i dont know if it would be creepy.", "summary": "im a bitch and want to talk to her through facebook."}
{"id": "t3_4oaomg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32f] mother [58f] wants me to include my brother [20m] in our Father's [60m] day plans. I don't want to ruin the day, but I really do not want him there.", "post": "I will try to be as clear as possible, but I am not the best writer.\n\nI cannot tolerate my brother. He has Asperger's, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia that he mostly refuses to take medication for. He is prone to violent outbursts, and has injured both my mother and father in the past. I believe he sexually touched my then-2 year old daughter several years ago - I called the police, took her in to Family and Children's services, counseling, but she was too young and we weren't able to prove anything.\n\nMost recently, my brother stole my dad's truck for a period of 3 days. When he finally returned it, the police refused to arrest him because apparently in Oklahoma, stealing a family member's vehicle is a civil matter(?). Anyway, my parents were able to convince him at that time to check himself into a mental health facility.\n\nHe got out about a week ago, and has been living in their home since then. My parents constantly threaten to kick him out, but never take any action on it, probably because they are afraid of him.\n\nAnyway, Sunday is Father's Day, and my mother is putting the pressure on, saying they can't just go out to dinner with me and my husband and children and not bring him. I think they are afraid of how he will react.\n\nAm I unreasonable to be firm that he is not invited? Or should I try to see things from their perspective and how poorly they may be impacted if I don't allow him to tag along?", "summary": "My brother is emotionally, physically, and potentially sexually abusive, and my mom wants me to allow him to be a part of our Father's Day plans"}
{"id": "t3_3xixv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] GF (now ex) [22F] has been cheating on me for months. We've been talking marriage. Looking for some advice.", "post": "Long story short: This girl and I have been in an on and off relationship for the past 6 years, but on seriously for the past 2.5. Recently we've been talking about our future together and seriously considering marriage.\n\nToday, I caught her in a slew of lies and learned that she's been cheating on me for the past three months and maybe longer, I didn't care to ask for specifics. I know she's been having a \"secret\" relationship with this guy since October, so I know her affair with him has been consistent. \n\nWe had passionate sex last week. I feel physically violated and disgusting. I'm getting tested for STD's next week.\n\nEmotionally I'm kind of numb to my discovery.\n\nThis is the only girl I've ever dated and ever saw myself with. \n\nI guess what I'm here to ask is, how long did it take for you to come to terms with the fact you were cheated on? How long did it take for you to feel \"normal\" again? When did you know you were comfortable to actively look for a partner/sex/relationship?\n\nI think I'm coping with alright, but I think my biggest concern is getting back into the flirting/dating game. I haven't had to win a girl over in years.", "summary": "cheated on by my first love, looking for some insight into the when people get back to \"normal\""}
{"id": "t3_2y9137", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] received Linked In request (?!) from ex [21 F] despite no contact for months. Not sure what to do, as I still miss her greatly.", "post": "Long story short: I dated this girl for several months, and we broke up when she moved to take an internship in a different city. What started as a cordial breakup ended up somewhat bitter, and she blocked me on all social media. That was the end of it. Or so I thought.\n\nA few months later I notice that she has repeatedly viewed my Linked In profile (we weren't connected), had unblocked me on Facebook, and had been asking around about me in anticipation of returning back to school. I sat on this information for a few weeks, and then shot her a text, asking her how she was doing. No response. Ok, she was just curious, I thought.\n\nThree weeks later I get a series of drunk (I'm assuming as it was ~ 11pm on Saturday) from her. Nothing forward. Just wishing me a happy birthday (and baiting me to wish her one, we have the same bday). I didn't see them at the time, and responded the following afternoon. Again, no response. I try one last time a few days later to send her a friend request on FB and a message. No response. I'm done.\n\nThat was 8 months ago. Two days ago, I receive a LinkedIn request to connect, and I'm completely perplexed for a few reasons. One, she's a nurse, I'm a copywriter, so this is not career motivated. Two, we are not connected on any social media nor does she have my email address connected to my LinkedIn, so this couldn't have been a mass send out of connections. And three, it seems like (from her profile) she has decided to settle longterm in my city after she graduates in a few months.\n\nTo this point, all I've done is accept the request. But do I initiate any connect? Let her? Or am I reading too much into this?\n\nAnd as an aside, I've dated woman in the interim. It's not like this was the only woman ever in my life. I just happened to like her more than pretty much everyone else.", "summary": "Ex reaches out on Linked-In after months of little to no contact for non-professional reasons"}
{"id": "t3_1srzvl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Serious] Me [23 F] closeted woman visiting immediate and extended family in the UK. They're homophobic, traditional, and religious. How do I deal with this?", "post": "I'm not out to my family, both immediate and extended. They're very religious, traditional, and with roots from the middle east.\n\nSome are not accepting of gay men or women whereas the others are disgusted by gay women (which I happen to be). My sister told my cousin that she's grossed out by lesbians because she worries that they'll look at her when she changes. She's said other homophobic things in the past. Although she's also speculated about me in a judgemental way a couple of years ago by saying \"are you gay?\" and \"you're not one of those, are you?\" while we were passing through the gay village.\n\nPeople from my culture (especially women) don't come out. It's more acceptable for a man to come out. So, how do I deal with this, especially since I'll be visiting them for more than a month. I'm worried about how they'll perceive me and I love their company, but it's hard at the same time because I feel like there's a barrier between us. I also worry about them asking me directly if I'm gay when I'm not even out to my own immediate family. I'm scared of how they'll respond because it's such a taboo to come out if you're of the same ethnicity as me. For some reason, it's more acceptable for men to come out then it is for women.", "summary": "I'm not out to my family, both immediate and extended. They're very religious, traditional, and with roots from the middle east. They're grossed out by lesbians, but accepting of gay men and I don't know how to deal with this. How do I make it through the month? I really enjoy their company, but it's hard to feel like I can be myself or completely comfortable without my guard up in certain aspects."}
{"id": "t3_2k4w3s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by branding my testicles.", "post": "So, like most posts here, this didn't happen today. Actually happened around 2 months ago.\n\nLet's just jump right into this. As a guy who thoroughly enjoys blowjobs, I like to make sure that my boys are nice and clean for the girlfriend who is about to spend a few minutes down there. While not necessarily in an unclean state, I like to at least freshen up. While the girlfriend was upstairs getting ready for bed I decided to clean myself up in anticipation in the bathroom like I'm preparing for the Queen's presence. Normally I would use a towel to clean off, but unfortunately they had all been taken away for laundry.\n\nKeep in mind her family is still in the house so I can't go running around looking for a towel while I'm dripping from my dangle berries. Her room is right around the corner and I know there is a small wall connected heater we use to keep the room warm in winter. Bingo! Run inside her room and get that going. At this point I've got the heater running and laying on the ground while I crouch over it to dry myself off. This particular heater has a metal plating on the cover with holes where the heat is blown through. \n\nHear her footsteps coming and shit! Not dry enough yet! Dip a little lower without knowing how close and I am until I feel the heat from hell on my testicles.. Ended up leaving a neat branding pattern on my balls of balls! \n\nStill got head.", "summary": "Washed testciles. Dried testicles over heater with metal face shield. Branded testicles. Got head."}
{"id": "t3_4fqwd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my friend [20 M] 7 years, I can tell he is depressed and feeling down lately but am unsure how to approach it.", "post": "I have a friend called \"Paul\". I've known Paul for a rather long time and I've grown to know him very well. That said when it comes to our emotions or how we feel, like a lot of men we don't dare discuss it. \n\nPauls lifestyle is a bit strange and is contributing towards his depression. Paul works in a bank 9-5 five days a week and brings in good money. He still lives at home with his parents which is not too uncommon for his age in the country where we are from. All his income goes towards video games and upgrading his PC as that's his passion. Although Paul enjoys being social and having a social life he doesn't have one as his life is work than video games rinse and repeat. \n\nHe often complains about his lack of a social life outside of me and his lack of a love life too but doesn't appear to be making any changes to his lifestyle to remidy it. This has caused him to become very bitter lately. he's more passive-aggressive, defensive and rejecting of others company preferring to be alone now. I went to school with Paul and have known him for a long time and I've slowly watched him change from a happy social person to a bitter sad and lonely one. \n\nI understand that if he wants to play video games and work and not see people outside of those two things that is his choice but it actively makes him unhappy, he's frequently upset at these video games and people around him in his life too. Due to the nature of our relationship (not talking about our feelings) I am unsure how I can help Paul take action and notice his ways. Maybe I shouldn't say anything at all and let him do as he pleases.", "summary": "Close long term friend is clearly unhappy and I am unsure how to approach him about it as we have never talked about our feelings / emotions, as well as he might get defensive."}
{"id": "t3_3ddtn4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my[20/F] best friend in an abusive relationship? If so, how can I help her?", "post": "Throaway account, my best female friend is a very sweet, loving, and caring girl, and she has been dating this guy for about 3 months and she is absolutely and completely infatuated with him. But this guy always brings her down, he has done absolutely everything wrong, he has told her that she isn't her ideal girlfriend but he still loves her anyway, she has a fascination for make-up, he tells her that he doesn't like it that much, he even cheated on her and she forgave him. He is always bringing her down, for one reason and another. I am her best friend and she tells me about an issue between them on a weekly basis, and I always tell her to dump him, that she deserves someone better, but she will not listen, and if I ever criticize him she can even get mad at me at times, I don't know what to do or how I can help her, or what can I say. Any ideas or opinions will be extremely appreciated.", "summary": "Best friend is with a guy that always brings her dow, has cheated on her, and she always forgives him. If I dare to say anything, she always defends him, and I don't know in what way I can possibly help her."}
{"id": "t3_20ief0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29f) kicked out my bf(26m) of 3 years. I regret it, it was probably for the best though.", "post": "Super long tedious story short. We have a child together, we also have ridiculously frequent arguments where we are both verbally abusive to one another. I am by no means an easy person to live with and neither is he. He is also increasingly physically abusive to me. We've separated twice in the past, this time around I had threatened to kick him out if he hit me again. He called my bluff several times. The other day was the last straw and I made good on my threat and kicked him out.\n\n I don't want our child to grow up in the mess that our relationship was.  The house is so calm without him here. I'm thinking about seeing someone to work through the feelings I have over this whole thing. \n\nI'm worried about him though, he doesn't have a cell phone so I can't call him, and he doesn't know many people where we live. \n\nThe whole shit show has my head spinning.", "summary": "I kicked my abusive bf out, I don't want all of the negativity around our kid. I'm still worried about him, but us being over is for the best."}
{"id": "t3_27xy8d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "BF [30m] broke up with me [20f] last night. Had threesome with friends [19m]", "post": "I am a 20 year old female and my on again off again SO is 30 year old male. We've been together for seven months now and we've lived together for ten months. We have an amazing sex life and we used to get along quite well. Since we've gotten evicted from our apartment it's been a bumpy ride. With all this added stress and looking for a place we've both been easily agitated. Safe to say we could of avoided a lot of break ups by just holding our tongues or taking a breath.\nOkay so fast forward to last night. We got in a disagreement and i began being to pushy. He decided to not listen and he broke it off with me. (I know this is a stupid cycle).\nI bumped into two of my guy friends and we went back to their place and kept drinking. (I already had quite a bit of hard liquor prior to bumping into them). One thing led to another and we ended up having a threesome this morning.\nSo.....since me and my SO had broken up, generally I didn't do anything wrong right? Because I feel extremely guilty and if he comes back.....should I tell him? Because I'm not good at keeping secrets and I feel like I betrayed him.....and I feel like I don't deserve him anymore. Gah what should I do??!?!?!", "summary": "Me and So of 7 months broke up last night. Bumped into two long term guy friends and had threesome with them this morning. Feeling guilty and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3sg3is", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I'm getting a kitten for Christmas *Squee* Now I need some help picking the right breed.", "post": "Hello /r/cats \n\nMy SO just surprised me by telling me I'll be getting a kitten for Christmas! He wanted to keep it a surprise but he also wants to be sure that I get the cat that I want so he thought it best to tell me in advance. Frankly, almost any cat will do since we've had a lot of different (mixed breed) cats when I was little and I loved every one of them.\n\nThe most important aspect for me is that the cat is social, I want a cat that would just cuddle and sleep on my lap all day. Now I know every cat is different, but there are breeds that are supposed to be more prone to be lap cats.\n\nThe most important for my SO is that the breed is hypoallergenic since he's pretty allergic to cats as in he'll be sneezing all day when he's been in contact with a cat or if he's in a house where cats live. Although, I fear he'll have an allergic reaction regardless of the breed since we've had a friend's Siberian cat over for a few weeks when she was on vacation. Siberians are supposed to be hypoallergenic but he was still sneezing a lot. \n\nAnother important thing is we live in a medium sized apartment with a small terrace. The cat would have to be comfortable with living indoors. \n\nIn regards to our free time, I work 10 hour shifts 4 days in a row with a guaranteed 3-day weekend and 1 hour breaks where I can eat at home. So I'd be out of the house for about 4 hours before lunch and then again for about 5 hours and free during the weekend, I think that's not too long for a cat to be alone. At the moment my SO is unemployed but the plan is he'll have a job again by the time we'll actually get the cat.\n\nIn the end I'll have to choose which cat I get but I just wanted to hear from you guys about your cats and what makes them special. Did you pick a specific breed or just a random cat from a shelter? Are you or your family allergic and how did that affect your decision to get a cat?", "summary": "SO just told me I'll be getting a kitten for Christmas and I want some inspiration for picking a breed. Conditions are:"}
{"id": "t3_15nutp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Didn't do too well over Christmas break.", "post": "Basic Info:  M 19/6'0/233 lbs (105 kg).\n\nSo around the middle of November I decided that I need to make a change in my lifestyle before my weight gets to out of hand.  I started counting calories, running with the C25k program, doing pushups, sit-ups, and other exercises.  I had been doing very well and had lost over 10 lbs going in to Christmas break.\n\nThen I go to my grandmom's house to celebrate the holidays and of course my grandmom being amazing like she is cooks really good food.  At first I promised myself that I was only going to cheat on Christmas day and I did that during the first half of the week.  After Christmas I pretty much crumbled, eating an entire large popcorn with butter all by myself when we went to the movies, eating way more than I needed too, didn't run or do any exercise for that matter, etc.\n\nI get back home and was scared to get back on the scale to see how much of my lost weight I had put back on.  I was expecting to have gained 3-4 pounds back, but it turned out that I had gained 7 lbs back.  I felt awful.  That was over half of the weight that I had worked so hard to lose.\n\nSo now I am posting here hoping to get back on track or something.  I don't know maybe I am just ranting right now because I am fairly upset.  I don't know if any of you have gone through something similar to this, but if you have I would appreciate any info or experiences you have.", "summary": "Was doing really well with weight loss, slipped a lot over Christmas break and gained back over half of the weight I had lost."}
{"id": "t3_1vokfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33M] am going out with my friend's [27M] enemy. She [29F] really screwed him over a few years ago. Should I tell him? What should I say?", "post": "A few years ago, before he and I were friends, my friend Jake was involved in a business of sorts with several people including several friends/acquaintances of mine (including Kathy). That business ended in strife and fiasco, culminating in Kathy and her (at the time) BF (also a friend of mine then), reneging on a handshake deal, forcing the others out, leaving them with no equity after years of work. That what Kathy and her BF did was wrong is not in dispute. It was awful. In the aftermath, the entire social scene in which we were all in rallied behind Jake and the others and basically exiled Kathy and her BF. At the time, I wasn't especially close to any of those involved and, though I privately disapproved of Kathy and her (at the time) BF's actions, I have maintained casual social relationships with both of them. \n\nBut Jake has become one of my closest friends. We organize events together and hang out often. He is still very much devastated by the experience with Kathy and the others. He avoids social events where either Kathy or her ex would attend. If he is at an event and they walk in, he will likely leave.\n\nIt's been 3 years now. And recently Kathy has been interested in hanging out with me. There has always been attraction between us and, frankly, I would have dated her years ago if not for the bad taste left by the failed business and because I know it would bother Jake.  Kathy and I are going on a date this week. I imagine it will go well. Meanwhile, I'm wondering what, if anything, I should say to Jake about it. And when? Should I wait til it's serious or a regular thing with her? I can't see a reconciliation between them anytime soon.  If it matters at all, Kathy would never be my primary partner so I could, conceivably keep her and Jake very easily out of each others' faces. But, if he learns about this, Jake will likely feel betrayed.", "summary": "I'm going on a date with an old friend who, a few years back, screwed over a really good friend on a business deal. What do I say to my friend, who will likely feel betrayed?"}
{"id": "t3_se4nn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Engaged and scared about marriage", "post": "Nutshell: Dated my best friend long distance for a 2 years. We are both 26 years old. Moved back the day after I proposed to her (planned). Living with her now. We fight about small things more than I'd like. We have a lot of stress right now and lately our relationship hasn't been what it was. Our parents have thousands of $$ invested in the wedding already. \n\nI feel like I might have gotten myself into a place I don't want to be. I've been unhappy the past few months. We don't have many activities in common. I don't feel like she is as nice to me as I am to her. I'm pretty adventurous and she doesn't like to do much lately, but that's probably because she's been busy with school/work/wedding.  I get knots in my stomach everytime I think about the wedding. We were best friends for years, but I don't know if I feel that way anymore. I don't know whether I am falling out of love or whether the stress of everything is just getting to us and everything will be fine after the wedding. \n\nWhenever we fight, we can't talk about things and end up emailing each other the next day to which we pretty much come to an agreement that we disagree. I do everything to try to make her happy and help out her stress, but it's not making her happy and it makes me unhappy. I want everything to be happy and perfect, but I feel like entering a marriage that's going to end in divorce if it keeps going this way. WHAT DO I DO?!?! I brought up some of these thoughts a few times and had the the ring in my hand. She asked me if I really wanted this. Am I just to scared to end it? I'm scared to lose her, but I'm also scared to get into a unhappy marriage.", "summary": "I'm engaged to get married in a few months and I'm scared I made the wrong choice."}
{"id": "t3_3e4udb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] broke up with my bf [25M] of 8 months, because I'm afraid he's using me for sex even though we are long distance.", "post": "It makes zero sense, I know. And I have a shit ton of baggage to boot (abusive dad, alcoholic mom, and was strangled and raped by an ex). \n\nJust broke up with this guy over the weekend over something minor because I'm afraid he's going to use me for sex when I go home and then dump me when I leave. He's dumped me once before because of the distance, and we got back together the next time I was in town. When I left again he said he wanted to try a second time, and we've been working at this for about 3 months now. Except, yesterday, a few weeks from seeing him again, I had a melt down and dumped him over something stupid and definitely not worth dumping someone over. \n\nI love him and now I feel like I pushed away the one man in my life who hasn't been a total let down. Maybe he's better off without my medicated craziness. I don't know.\n\nCan someone please give me some advice?", "summary": "What did I just do?"}
{"id": "t3_uzi83", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone please explain to me why the pages I  like on Facebook are complaining about being  charged?", "post": "For the past week or so I've seen bands and other sort of pages that I \"like\" on Facebook posting a message like this:\n\n>If you haven't already heard, Facebook is now requiring page owners to PAY to have their status updates read by every subscriber. If we don't, status updates only show up in less than 10% of newsfeeds, even though you have \"liked\" the page indicating you want to see posts from this page.\n\n> However, there is a way around it. Hover over the button on the page where it says \"Like\" and then make sure you are check-marked to \"Show in news feed\". It's free! And, you won't miss any updates from this page.\n\n> Please like and share with your friends!\n\nAnd it's always accompanied by the usual cry of social network justice. People freak out without really knowing what they are talking about. So I searched for any sort of official details I can find about it besides chain-mail like complaining. All I can find are [sites] that [I've] never heard of [before] bitching about the changes. I'm not seeing any trustworthy sources, just blogs quoting each other and Facebook posts.\n\nTo me this seems like another, \"Repost this or Facebook will start charging you\" type of scenario. Could Facebook be charging businesses to post? I suppose that could be true but I don't see it being as nearly as drastic as what I'm reading about. So what's the real story: chain-mail like paranoia or Facebook being dicks?", "summary": "Is Facebook charging businesses to post information to a mass audience?"}
{"id": "t3_3yo5k3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18F) Manager keeps \"forgetting\" the amount of hours I can physically work and when I am available. I feel like she is trying to trick me.", "post": "I am an 18F who is in college, so I work part time at a small local fresh market in my city. The reason why I got hired is because my mom and sister have been there for 5 years now. I was hired last may in a different department within the store. I cannot work more than 5 hours at a time due to back problems, and I made this clear within the second week of being hired. I paid $40 for a doctor's note that says I can work up to 5 hours at a time for 3-4 weeks. During the week I can only work after 4 due to school and an hour commute to get to work.\n\nOver my time being there, she always schedules me at 3 during weekdays and I have to call to remind her I can only come in at 4. She doesn't get upset but I feel like if I didn't call in she would be. She also tried to schedule me for a 6 hour shift, 7 hour shift, and an 8 hour shift over this holiday. I had to politely remind her I can't do more than 5 hours and that I would let her know when I am physically able to because I do appreciate the hours. \n\nThis has happened so many times though, how can I remind her for the 7th time that I can't do more than 5 hours? I feel like she's trying to sneak them in and hopefully I'll do them but I really can't mess up my back. \n\nI don't want to keep reminding her, I feel like she should respect the work I can do and if she isn't happy she should find someone else.", "summary": "back problems, manager keeps sneaking in 8 hour shifts when I can only do 5 (i got a doctor's note)"}
{"id": "t3_4x4vaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (31,m) told my girlfriend (28,f) a while back that I would write something lovey on Facebook. I really don't want to Now and she is upset and says she can't trust my word.", "post": "Facebook has been a problem with us for most of the relationship. I of course didn't delete any old posts from past relationships because I'm a guy and didn't even think that was a thing. She saw them and especially this over the top cutesy one I posted for my last relationships one year anniversary. At the time it felt forced but I was something that I felt like I needed to do for myself as well. I definitely regret it now. Of course my current gf saw this old post early on and now she gets upset that I don't post things about her. When we were dating for a few months she got upset and to try and call the situation I slightly heatedly said when we hit a year you will get a post too. Well the time has come and so don't want to do it. I feel bad but I don't want to force this post that is supposed to be heartfelt. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Made promise to be Facebook lovey, don't want to. Now gf is angry and hurt."}
{"id": "t3_1oetq5", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Birthday Greeting Card advice/feedback", "post": "So what I'm doing is providing links to images showing a greeting card I plan to print for my SO though I'm posting here because I'm curious what others think of the card. Essentially what would you think if you got it.\n\nThe size of the card is 6.25\" x 9\" (planning on getting a white envelope for this card, seems like the normal)\n\nI don't know if anyone has seen the show Arrested Development or not, it recently made a comeback with Netflix's assistance. Long story short she's a huge fan so I made one for her off some material from the seasons. Front of the card comes from this scene: \n\nThe style of the card is themed after the posters released for the season 4 return of the show. Here is a link to those. \n\nThis link is for the outside of the bday card\n\nThis link is for the inside of the bday card\n\nAny thoughts to critiques or feedback is appreciated. If nothing else hopefully someone will come across arrested development as a new show", "summary": "Making a custom birthday greeting card for SO, she is a loving fan of the show arrested development so I tailored one with an arrested development theme and am looking for feedback."}
{"id": "t3_1kbgc6", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "6 year old and her ear piercings", "post": "took my 6 year old to get her ears pierced on first day of summer vacation so she would have the whole summer to heal, school let out may 23rd.  \nSchool starts on Thursday so you have an idea of how long she has been healing, she's been complaining that one ear is kind of sore last week, we had been turning them twice a day and still using the rub from the store till this point, I looked at it, it looked fine so we kept on doing what we had been doing... turning them and cleaning them.  \nThe day before yesterday my 4 year old son accidentally kicked her on the ear when they were playing, later that night her ear was infected around the earring, with a slight pus pocket.  \nI didn't know what to do at that point so I took her earring out, drained the pus from her ear, covered her ear in antibiotic cream and let her have a night without her earring.  \nToday her ear looks so much better but it looked like her hole may be closing up, so I found a skinnier earring of mine (her starter needles were so thick) and put that one in, it took a bit to wedge it in but finally got it, slathered her ear in more triple antibiotic cream and gave her some tylenol?  \nShould I have left her earring out, should I have never taken it out? Really don't know if I am doing this right?", "summary": "6 year old ear got infected 2 months after pierced, need advice on how to treat  "}
{"id": "t3_1w8qdh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my mother [50F], have been arguing about video games for years. She is going too far.", "post": "I, like many other people my age, enjoy playing video games. I'm a student, and I focus on school for a good chunk of my time, and when I can, I play video games with friends online. On weekends, I often play from around 10 or 12 P.M. until 4 A.M. (at the latest). My mother doesn't like this, as she thinks it is unhealthy.\n\nLast night, she freaked out on me and took my keyboard, along with my headset, so I obviously can't play. I was playing a game that relies very heavily on voice chatting, and I was too loud. At around 4, she started going off on me for staying up so late. After taking my stuff, she told me that I am banned from using it for at least a week or two.\n\nI really enjoy the immersion and carelessness that playing video games gives me. I am in some difficult classes at school, and it often stresses me out. Video games are my escape from that stress, but she took that away for what in my opinion is a very silly reason.\n\nI need to find a way to resolve this issue, to both improve her view on the whole situation, our relationship, and for her to allow me to do this. Do any of you have ideas as to what I could do to resolve this? I am by no means unhealthy, if that matters. She has been doing things like his for around 2 years now, and I am flat out sick of it.", "summary": "My mother is too controlling over my time playing video games. I need a solution for our arguments and her punishments for silly reasons."}
{"id": "t3_2yedr5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Life is mildly exploding (but in a boring white-collar way)", "post": "I feel almost bad asking for help because really Im not in bad straights...but I'm so mentally lost right now I feel I'm at the edge of simply exploding. \n\nI have a good Masters program on my resume in interaction ux etc. (computer design) and worked for one of those shiny companies as an intern (apple/microsoft/twitter/facebook etc. trying to be anonymous so I won't say which one) \n\nI've been working for almost 2 years at a good but slightly less shiny company. In the last year things have gotten pretty bad. I'm still producing good work but my manager's incompetancy has left me so distraught I'm nearly comatose when I get home from depression. \n\nRecently things happened where I might be fired. I should fight it I think it is based on false perceptions the manager has put forth...but really I just dont' want to be here anymore. \n\nI came close to a good job out in SF but came in close but not quite....and came close to another at another shiny company but once again, close but not quite. \n\nThe fact I keep coming close but not quite is getting to me. And the firing may happen fairly soon. My sense of self is very related to doing good work....people ask what my goals in life are but really my career is might top priority? So the fact this manager has left me feelign lost for so long...\n\nBasically I should be able to get a good job. But I'm just feeling incredibly lost...I keep on applying to jobs but I don't know what I'll do if I'm fired. My family is all in areas where I wouldn't be able to find work. I'm sure if I can get to SF/NY/Seattle I can find a good UX/Design/Tech job but I don't know how to afford that first step...part of that is my fault I've been trying to pay off my student loans quickly rather than saving (I honestly didn't expect this firing, I thought I was safe for a few years).", "summary": "I'm sure I can get a job in SF if I can get there, I have a good resume, but my current job has left me so depressed I worry I'm coming off badly in communications. "}
{"id": "t3_19eisz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Caught my girlfriend talking to her Ex On Facebook, then she deleted the messages, What should I do?", "post": "I'm a 25m and she's 24f.My girlfriend has been pretty wonderful. She has always stressed the importance of high morals and empathy. I don't think she would cheat, but this has me bugged out. I was in bed with her, and she was on facebook talking to her sister, who lives in another state. I noticed in her inbox she had been talking to her ex. I asked her about it, and she seemed a little nervous and told me he messaged her out of the blue, and told me he's an asshole who lives in another state. She told me not to worry. Today she left her facebook open and I noticed she had deleted all his messages. Should this be cause for concern? Also, I want to ask her about it, but not seem like a creep who reads through her private information. Any help would be great.", "summary": "Caught my girlfriend talking to her Ex On Facebook, then she deleted the messages, What should I do?***"}
{"id": "t3_3e8vok", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Form 18 Worker's Compensation in North Carolina", "post": "So I strained my back on the job and was not able to work for a week. My employer happily sent me to a doctor and got prescribed some meds to help with the pain. A week later I received a letter in the mail asking for my medical information to be released that pertained to the injury. Also the form 18 was sent and form 25T which covers mileage and travel compensation. \n\nI'm just a part time employee about 20 hours a week, 4 hrs a day, 5 days a week. \n\nI don't want to claim the compensation. I just want them to take care of the x Ray and the doctor visit. The doctors office is like 3-4 miles down the road from my work place. And it seems they have already done that since I did not pay anything for the meds or the doctor visit. \n\nI am not looking to claim any lost wages, I was able to return to work on light duty but I just asked for the week off since I didn't feel like working the rest of the week.\n\nI will gladly release my medical information that pertains to the injury since its not that serious of a issue to me. Never been hospitalized in my life or had any health issue so I do not mind.", "summary": "Got hurt, didn't have to pay for doctor visit or the meds prescribed, I do not want to pursue anything else, do I need to fill these forms out? (Form 18 and 25T)"}
{"id": "t3_z5wpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help for my mom (54) who recently split with my dad (52)", "post": "My dad came home six months ago and told my mom and I that he was leaving after 25 years of marriage. After living in the house for another four months, which consisted of him and my mom always fighting, he moved out. To this day they still call each other, and my dad is playing mind games with my mom. He'll call and she'll be so happy, then she'll say something he doesn't like and he'll just tear her down. She still thinks they can get back together even though he's made it perfectly clear this isn't going to happen. She's constantly crying and asking me what should she do and I just don't know what to say. Reddit, how do I help her realise she has to move on, and how do I help her to do it?", "summary": "My dad is an asshole who's messing with my mom's head that she's depressed beyond belief."}
{"id": "t3_4kt4xx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] have been dating this guy [25 M] for a month, i suspect i am his rebound girl", "post": "So i'm dating this guy for a month now,and i recenlty found out that i might be his rebound girl due to a song he posted on facebook.I don't know if i should take its lyrics literally,but when i sat and thought about it i remembered him saying that he had a big crush on a girl which didn't lead into a relationship,and they cut contact a month before we met.I didn't even pay any attention to it at the time,but now i think he might not be completely over her and he might be using me to forget her.\n\nI , on the other hand , recently got out of a bad situation with a guy,but it was not a relationship and i am over him and ready to move on. I'm not sure what i was expecting from the guy i'm seeing now,i was not thinking about a relationship cause it's too soon i think,but i certainly don't know what i should do now.I am having a great time with him and before this facebook post everything was good.So should i confront him and stop seeing him,or should i say nothing and keep seeing him knowing im nothing more to him than the rebound girl?", "summary": "I found out i might be the rebound girl of the guy i have been dating for a month and i don't know how to deal with it"}
{"id": "t3_1vdlly", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/m] am considering breaking up with my GF [16/f] - problem is, she is depressed and I'm afraid of what she might try to do.", "post": "First of all this is a throwaway account, if that matters in any way. And I'm sorry if I didn't use the correct formatting.\n\nI'm really concerned for her mental well being. She admitted to me that last night she tried to drown herself because she wanted to set me free, and to set her mind free. She told me whenever I leave she starts to cry because she is alone then, and that she is afraid of losing me over her depression. She says when she is alone she can't distract herself from how she feels and that I am the only thing that makes her happy. I'm concerned, because my last girlfriend said the same thing, and that relationship ended on really bad terms. She is almost always sick lately, and her dad is not the most supportive father in the world, neither is her mom. She is on medication but I guess it isn't working. I don't know what to do Reddit. I'm concerned because if I'm the only thing she relies on it will only bring me down and affect my school work, and I'll be off to college close to home at the end of the year, so who knows what would happen then. I can't afford that. I feel almost guilty now. I don't know how to handle this, or what the proper course of action is.", "summary": "I want to break up but I'm afraid of how she might react, if I stay I'm afraid I'm ruining my own life."}
{"id": "t3_3er0oi", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How do you plan visiting wine regions?", "post": "Hey all!\n\nI'm in the process of making an itinerary for wedding trip to Germany in April. Three of the four people in my group love wine and would love to experience some of the local flavors. \n\nWe will either hit Reims, France or Moselle Valley, Germany.\n\nEven though I love wine, live in California, and have been to Europe multiple times I have yet to do any wine tastings or tours. How do you pick what to hit? Is it as simple as hitting a tourist info spot and going from there? I know some places require reservations. I'm honestly shocked that I haven't found an enotourism 101 yet. \n\nDo you have recommendations? Stories? Advice?", "summary": "How do you do wine tourism?"}
{"id": "t3_2o5hq2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by overcharging a disabled man", "post": "TIFU. I work at a vet clinic and yesterday a man came in to get x rays for his cat. For those of you who don't know x rays for a cat are around 500$. I told him the price and he was reluctant  but said he had to do what he had to do. He asked if there was a discount for disabled people (he only has one arm) and I tell him unfortunately no.\n\nHere's where I fuck up, at the time of drop off owners are only required to pay 75%, he wanted to pay this now and the rest later. I warned him the price may go up depending on how many xrays or if there are needs needed. He asks his sister to sign the paperwork for him as he only has one arm and it works be quicker and leaves.\n\nLater on, we do add charges and when he comes to pick up his pet I charge him out according to my program. The day is over and I'm looking over the sales for the day. The computer is 111$ over. I look through all the receipts and realize I never charged the poor man his 75%, I charged him the full 100% and then charged him for the remainer PLUS the meds. \n\nMy manger looks at me and makes me call him and ask for the card number to refund him right away. I call and he struggles to find the card I'm ashamed, get the card number say goodbye. I try to run it through the machine \"UNSUPPORTED CARD\". YOU'VE GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME! I call him again mortified at this point and explain, I get the right number he gets his refund.", "summary": "I over charged a disabled man's vet bill when he didn't really have the money to spend. Called him to do a over the phone refund, copied the wrong card number, had to call him back. Mortified forever more."}
{"id": "t3_k7zgv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your freshman horror story, I'll start.", "post": "Freshman year is either hit or miss, you have a good one or bad one. I've known alot of people who met their best friend as their first roommate at college. Well, I didn't. My first roommate was a rather heavy individual who PEED the bed every morning.\n\nBefore I moved on campus I was informed ahead of time who my roommate was going to be, I went out of my way to contact him before hand. He described himself as a 'Gamer' and 'Band Geek'. I thought I had hit the jackpot, as I am a Gamer nerd myself (Not really a band geek though). We talked every night before we moved in together on campus.\n\nHe was a good guy, seemed nice enough (He was alittle heavy so we couldnt have bunk beds though) -- until nighttime came around. I have a hard time sleeping with noise or smells, and my roommate both snored and had swamp ass. I couldn't sleep at all, then the best part happened. He pee'd the bed.\n\nAt first I thought it was an accident, and I wasn't about ready to bring it up because I didnt want to offend him. But every damn night the same thing happened. Finally I brought it up to him and he let me know about his condition, great. I was willing to deal with it because I was trying to be nice. As long as he cleaned daily I didn't mind...but it got worse.\n\nAfter I asked him, he got lazy and stopped cleaning his bed. The unairconditioned room's smell got thick and heavy, and I start to get ill.\n\nI shortly after complained to my Resident Hall Director and she didnt move me out until I started to cough up gross brown stuff. And he refused to move out of the two person dorm and claimed I had the problem and not him (Wonder how that worked out when he got a new roommate).\n\nSo I got put into a private room in a small dorm.\n\nThe end.", "summary": "My roommate peed the bed."}
{"id": "t3_32nwgw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my ex [18 M] together 2 years. Begged me to stay friends but is really distant.", "post": "My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We were each other's first everything. He broke it off with me saying that he was sad. Two weeks later he started dating a mutual friend and they've been together ever since. \n\nHe has continually maintained that he wants to be friends with me even if it makes his current girlfriend uncomfortable. When we first broke up he would check on me fairly often and would talk to me about how he was feeling. He was really jealous over the idea of me being with someone else. \n\nFast-forward through the summer break, we start university and the week before it starts he walks me home from a  party and chats to me in my room for hours. He told me it was really hard to let go of me while crying and apologizing for everything and begging me to be friends this year. I agreed because it seemed like he genuinely cared about me still. \n\nI had a party at my house over a month ago and he basically ignored me the entire time and bragged about how his course is going. I told him that I didn't think I could be friends just yet as it was really hard to be around him and he said it was understandable but that to definitely let him know when I could be friends.\n\nI hadn't seen him in over a month but we were both invited to a party of a mutual friend. He didn't say hi to me but talked to me for a couple of minutes at one point. I texted him the next day letting him I know that I felt as though I could be friends with him. He didn't text me back until the next day and I saw him again tonight and he said hi this time but also barely talked to me.\n\nI just don't understand why he is acting so weird and avoiding me when he was the one begging me to be friends.\n\nI'm so confused as to why he wants to maintain a friendship with me but barely talks to me when we're around people. He acts as though I'm someone he doesn't know very well and it's really strange and confusing. It's as though he doesn't want to engage in a proper conversation with me.", "summary": "ex boyfriend begged me to maintain a friendship despite discomfort of current gf. Initially agreed and then retracted the friendship. He said to let him know when I could be friends. As soon as I said I could be friends again he barely talks to me around people and practically avoids me at parties. Why is he acting like this when he desperately wanted to be friends??? It's messing with my head."}
{"id": "t3_fctrc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I will be going out and drinking this weekend. Any tips?", "post": "Background: I'm a 17 year old American high school junior. This spring will be my first time playing varsity lacrosse for my school. (I've been on JV the passed 2 years).\n\nAnyway, one of the senior captains sent out a Facebook message saying that this weekend will be the last time we can drink without having serious in-season repercussions. So he invited the whole varsity team.\n\nNow, Reddit, I've never even had a beer before but I'm excited about doing this and showing that I'm a part of the team. I told my parents that the team is having a small get together and they're fine with me going. (They don't know that there will be beer, obviously)\n\nI am driving myself so I don't think I should have too many. Any other tips you can think of?", "summary": "17 year old going drinking with the lacrosse team. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_2h43tq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with [25M], what do you do when you're a perfect match but the timing is wrong?", "post": "Sorry in advance if this is all over the place.\n\nI don't know what to do. He's told me he really likes me, we have amazing chemistry, we get along like wildfire. I haven't met someone like him in a long time. We went into this with the idea of being casual/friends with benefits but it became clear that there was way more there.\n\nHe's told me now that he can't do this because his life is busy. My life is busy too; I have my own career and I could potentially be moving overseas next year. But if something seems promising to me, I will make time for it. I've explained that relationships for me aren't a bit different, in that my field of work needs to come first and the relationship works alongside. I am fiercely loyal and I care about the people in my life deeply, but I am not clingy and not really into boyfriend/girlfriend dynamics. He's the same.\n\nI know he feels something for me. And I think he's scared. We've had a big talk about it and basically he just can't do me or whatever we have right now. I don't know why it hurts so much - we haven't known each other all that long. It shouldn't hurt this much.", "summary": "What do you do when you know somebody really likes you (and vice versa), all the components are there but the timing is wrong? And how the fuck do you get over letting go of someone this good?"}
{"id": "t3_1whrhh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24/F] and I [24/M] Don't seem to be connecting.", "post": "So we've been dating since senior year in high school and known each other longer. We're really close and live together now. But the thing is we don't spend time together anymore. She likes to play League of Legends (a video game) and spends most of her time on it if she's not at work. I too also play the game extensively, but she doesn't ever want to play with me. It's not because there's a skill gap between us either. \n\nAlso lately, she doesn't want to go out on a date or anything of sort. She does shopping by herself now and usually just goes to work, and then comes home. I've also been eating by myself lately at the dinner table, while she grabs some chips or instant noodles and takes it to the living room and plays more video games. I feel like I'm being ignored super hard right now. We haven't had a disagreement in a really long time (probably because she won't talk to me). \n\nThis has been going on for like two months now. I thought it was just that time of month... you know? But now I question myself.Now she's not free loading. She is going to work, paying her bills, and always buys groceries with her credit card and cash.\n\nI guess right now I feel like an unwanted roommate. I'm just someone living in this house, but have no major significance. I understand after a while you can get really relaxed with the people you know and live with after years. But seriously, I might say like 10 words or less to her everyday. \"Hi, Bye\" seem to be most of it.", "summary": "She doesn't want to do anything together. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_x0y7i", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Should I intentionally cross paths with my ex 3 hours from now?", "post": "I've been NC from my ex of 4 years for the past two months (despite her BS attempts at contacting me) and things have been much better for me.  I have it on good authority that she has been losing sleep lately thinking about my having moved on with another girl.  \n\nSince the breakup my roommate got me addicted to cross fit, I've lost 50lbs and have been on a tear with the ladies.  As sick as what my ex makes me (see post history, it's fucking bad) I still care for her somewhat and am not entirely over her.  She is moving out of the city at the end of this week and I want her to see the new me but must make it completely coincidental.\n\nShe gets off work at 5 p.m. and I know the route she walks to her parking garage (our jobs are very close together and I live in the neighborhood).  I'm seriously considering going for a run and crossing her path.  I'd be pleasantly polite, ask how she is doing but keep it very short and move along.\n\nIs this a good idea /r/Breakups? I want her to regret the decision she made and I want me to be on her mind and questionning her judgement.  What's the best way to insure this?\n\nThanks for advice", "summary": "Tempted to \"coincidentally\" run into my white trash whore of an ex gf so she can eat her heart out.  She is moving away this week and I want her to regret her decision."}
{"id": "t3_1p5uo1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Breakup [28 M] with my [25 F] after 2 months by being stood up and a brief text the next day. Is it worth pushing for closure?", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months.  over the last week, she started acting a little flakey, but always had an excuse for the little things that were bothering me (responding to texts late, getting called into work and not telling me, etc).\n\nYesterday, we spend the day together running up some decent charges on my credit card (lunch, dinner, movie, drinks, arcade games at the bar), and she leaves to run an errand with a friend.  Later we're talking on the phone and I ask if she wants to come over tonight.  She says that she wants to and that she'll be over in a few.  She never shows, and doesn't respond to my text asking what was up.  I spend the whole night waiting and starting to worry.\n\nThis morning I try to call to make sure everything is cool and end up leaving a voice mail. \n\nA little after lunch I get a brief text saying \"I'm not over my ex, I'm not ready for a relationship.\" And that's the last I heard from her.  I sent a text asking if she still wanted to be friends, and commented that it was okay if she wanted to break up, but at the very least I would appreciate a real answer as to why.  She never answered it.\n\nI've been trying to put it out of my head, but I can't.  It's bothering me, and I would like a better answer, I can guarantee her response was BS.  At least there's a lot more to it.  I thought yesterday was going great, and out of no where she wants a clean break, no more communication.\n\nMaybe that works for her, but I've been fixated on it ever since, and at the very least would like a real answer/closure.  Is it wrong demand one?  What would be a respectable way to go about it?\n\nAt the very least I feel better after writing this... thanks reddit.", "summary": "Seeing a girl.  Thought it was going great.  Said she wanted to hang out last night, but stood me up and ignored a call and a text.  She Breaks radio silence today to say \"I'm not ready for a relationship\" and that's it.  How do I get closure from this?!"}
{"id": "t3_2shb40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27M] fiance [27F] wants her ex girlfriend to be in our wedding party", "post": "My fiance Kristen is bisexual. She dated a woman who I'll call Laura for a year and a half before they broke up. From what I understand, they weren't friends after the break up but reconnected a year or so later and became close. I think they were in a serious relationship, but I didn't know Kristen then, so I don't really know what their relationship was like or why they broke up. They have been friends as long as I have known her, and Kristen considers Laura one of her closest friends. Laura is in a relationship and her girlfriend, Kristen, and I spend time together every once in a while. \n\nI proposed over the holidays and Kristen and I have begun the process of planning our wedding. She wants Laura to be a bridesmaid. This makes me feel really uncomfortable, especially because most people in attendance will know that Kristen and Laura dated. The thought of getting married with someone my fiance had sex with standing beside her makes me feel disgusting. When I told Kristen this, she said she understands how I feel but Laura is her best friend and it wouldn't feel right if she was out of the wedding party. She said that they broke up six years ago and their friendship is purely platonic. She also said that she thinks my feelings are irrational, but if I felt so strongly she would not ask Laura to be a bridesmaid, though it would hurt both her and Laura's feelings.\n\nNow I'm not sure what to do. I think my opinion behind this is rational and justified. But I don't want to hurt my fiance's feelings or cause a rift between her and Laura (or cause a rift between Laura and me!) What should I do?", "summary": "My fiance wants her ex girlfriend to be a bridesmaid. This doesn't sit right with me, and when I told my fiance this she said that my feelings were irrational but she wouldn't ask her ex to be a bridesmaid if that's what I really wanted. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1ijvw2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Another Update. My husband [36] walked out on me [33] on Monday after 13 years and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Here was my last update, 10 days ago, the links to the other posts are in there:\n\nThis is just another brief update. My husband yesterday asked me to start divorce proceedings using his adultery as the reason. He says I can have the house and full custody if the children because he's moving to Belgium to be with his online girlfriend.\nTo be clear, in Northern Ireland to get a divorce a married couple has to be living apart for two years (it hasn't even been three months) before a divorce can occur with consent from both people. Without consent the separation has to be five years. The exceptions to this are unreasonable behaviour or adultery-there are others but I've not sure what they are. So he can't start divorce proceedings, but I can.\n\nI'm completely amazed by this, he's throwing away his entire life for this woman he met online only 4 months ago, and has spent less than a week with in person, and that in London. He's never been to her country, her home, or met her child, yet he''s abandoning his own children to go raise someone else's. Not to mention he doesn't speak the language.\n\nAt this stage it feels like my husband has been replaced by a pod person, he so little resembles the man I married.", "summary": "My husband wants me to file for divorce on the grounds of his adultery and for me to have our home and full custody of our children so he can go live with his online girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_12y0an", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (22F) wants to live with me (27M) when we move to Austin in a few weeks.", "post": "Ok. So we've been dating about six months and known each other about a year. We started out as casual friends that has turned into more.\n\nWe love each other, and it has honestly been the best relationship of my life, so far.\n\nI have a two-year-old son from a complicated situation I won't go into that I don't get to see much, but see as much as I can. My GF has been totally okay with it so there is no drama there. Just wanted to give as much info as possible.\n\nAnyways. We're both moving to Austin soon.  As a matter of fact she actually was hired today for a position she wanted.\n\nToday, she brought up the idea of us moving in together because we both want to be near each other and it would save money.\n\nBoth of our parents would probably hate it, as they are kind of religious traditionalists, but they would probably get over it.  However, even if it's a small concern, it still is one.\n\nI have never been so happy with someone, and would love to have her next to me every night.\n\nMy questions are:: What is your advice?  Can anyone who has moved in with their SO give me advice? What should I expect and how did y'all go about the technical stuff?", "summary": "GF of six months wants to move in together. I've never been this committed to a relationship. Looking for advice and tips."}
{"id": "t3_2ym8pj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my Ex [22F] 2 years, Just broke up, I am unsure how to cope. I still love her, she still loves me (I think). But our lives don't sync well. What should I do?", "post": "We had been doing long distance, which sucked, but I thought we were coping, because she was coming back to our city for uni in September. But this month we had a distinct cooling off, as Valentine's fell to the wayside in the light of career stuff. Then tonight she called me to end it. \n\nShe still might be back in 6 months, but didn't want to do LDR anymore, so it's over. I am crushed. I can still see a future, but we would need to work towards it. Being an idiot and hopeless romantic I want to wait on her.", "summary": "GF called it off in light of an uncertain future. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1x8mes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] got dumped by my gf [25 F] of 11 months, by her account, caused by her depression.. follow up?", "post": "Using a throwaway for obvious reasons.  Me [26 M] got dumped by   my gf [25 F] of 11 months, by her account, caused by her depression.  It was pretty damn sudden, but there were signs.  When she said we should end it, I was devastated but accepting because I love her and want what is best for her.  \n\nShe hasn't been happy for months she says so I don't blame her, I posted 4 days ago in /r/depression asking for ways to help her. Anyway -\n\n   In any case, I still want to help her but I don't want to see, speak with, or even type to her for my own sanity.  I'm trying not to rationalize speaking to her directly, it's a bad idea for both of us. \n\n   My question is, is it socially acceptable to bring up the circumstances of our relationship and how it ended to one of our mutual friends, out of concern for her, without being that cliche stalker ex guy?  It's been two days, and I'm pretty devastated but she's, from what I've seen, seriously depressed and that scares the shit out of me cause I've been there.\n\nAny advice or similar experiences/insight would be helpful.  My friends tell me to drop it and she'll be fine but she's changed a lot and I'm worried for her. Blah. Sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "gf's depression ended our relationship*, and so how bad of an idea is it to tell our mutual friend how it went down so I'm sure she has support?  If ok, it's basically her friend not mine, how do approach?"}
{"id": "t3_3665ar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (25.f) best friend (25.m) has just broken up from his S/O, whats the best way to be there for him?", "post": "Hi fellow redditors,\nMy best friend has just gotten out of a very serious relationship ( they were together multiple years, lived together and he even helped raise a child with her) and they have just made the heart breaking decision to break up. there is a possibility they may get back together in the future if they sort some of their concerns out.\n\nhowever my question to you is what's the best way to be there for him without being over bearing? He's told me he doesn't really want to talk about it, which I understand, and I've told him that I'm here for him. Are there any other things you could suggest?\n\nHe's my buddy, and I want to make sure that he's getting the TLC he deserves at the moment. :)", "summary": "best way to be there for a friend after break up."}
{"id": "t3_zgrhf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I want to know if I am in the wrong or not", "post": "I rent a basement suite from a guy, and our room started smelling a little funny a couple weeks ago. Finally this past weekend we were doing a thorough cleaning and I came across some water on the bedroom floor against the wall opposite the laundry room. We then realized that this is where the smell is coming from. There was also a little bit of water on the laundry room floor (perhaps from the water tank).\n\n After moving the dresser that is along that wall, I notice that my dresser is completely wrecked and covered in a black substance. I thought this was black mold, so we informed the landlord and he came, helped pull back the carpet so it could dry, removed the baseboards etc. He then said he would take a look at it the next day. My GF and I thought it may have been black mold (neither of us has been exposed to mold/mildew so we weren't too sure) so we kept the windows open in the bedroom, kept a fan on the floor and slept on the couch. I also had to buy a brand new $200 dresser to replace the old one.\n\n After 2 nights of sleeping on the couch I talked to my landlord again and he said he would fix it the following day after work. I told him I was concerned because I thought it might have been black mold but he said it was just mildew (again I don't know the difference). I then asked if he could maybe help cover part of the dresser that got ruined and he laughed, said no, and then said \"what about the water damage\" as if it was my fault. reddit, do you think I am in the wrong here?", "summary": "Laundry room leaked into bedroom in basement I rent, wrecked my dresser, asked landlord if he would help pay for new one and now he wants me to pay for water damage."}
{"id": "t3_2asq3b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend(19f) wants to explore sexuality with women while in relationship with me (22m), I am not ok with it.", "post": "A few days ago my girlfriend brought up the topic of her making an ok cupid account to meet cool girls to be friends with and possibly have sex with if that was a thing they both wanted to do. I told her that that made  me feel incredibly uncomfortable and that I felt as if she would be cheating on me. even though she would not be having sex with men she is still having sex with another person. She said that Is ok and it won't happen. I still can't get over it though. It's been on my mind since we've talked about it. I asked her if a threesome is something that would help her explore her sexuality, She said she would like that but still may feel the need to explore with women on her own eventually and I feel incredibly sad about that. I'm just sad that she feels the need to explore sexually by herself while we are in a relationship. I would feel betrayed if it were to happen and incredibly jealous of her friendship with her \"lover\". I know she already said that It won't happen, but I can't help feeling like it's going to resurface at some point and she's going to want them even more. I also feel really crappy about saying no to her experimentation. I know I'm not ok with it, I just want her to be able to do what she has to do to feel satisfied in any aspect of her life. I don't feel like me saying no is healthy for her. My mind is running about a million miles a minute and any advice or insight from anyone with any experiences similar or not. Advice from anyone feeling the way my girlfriend does would be the most help. I want to understand what she is feeling and I can't.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to explore her bisexuality and I don't feel with her doing it alone while we are in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2k0fyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] dated for 2 years, she broke up with me saying she just wanted to be single", "post": "Albeit I know that relationships come and go and especially at my young age there is a lot left to life. I'm just really confused and need help.\n\nSo my girlfriend gave me a call and told me that after over two years she wanted to be single. Now after pouring every ounce of my love into her I was understandably hurt, but I would never force her into doing anything, and if what she wanted wasn't me then I wasn't going to try and keep her.\n\nBut then she says she wants to still talk, and i'm okay with that, but then she tells that when shes done being single she might want to get back with me. So at this point i'm even more conflicted with how I feel.\n\nBut the biggest issue is what its doing to me health wise. It's been three days since the break-up and I can't eat. I just can't stomach any food and I have lost five pounds since and i have had no energy to do anything.\n\nI just don't know what to do, obviously I want her back, but after loving her for so long only to be told she wants to be single? do I take her back if she even wants me back? And how can I manage to start eating? albeit i'm a bit out of shape and the weightless is more than welcome, i cant imagine it being healthy\n\nsorry this is my first post on reddit ever, I just need help", "summary": "my girlfriend of two years broke up with me to be single, she says she wants to be with me maybe when shes done being single, if she does do i take her back? Also food has made me sick and I cant eat and i'm losing weight fast, help?"}
{"id": "t3_4znjxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend's [28M] parents [50s M&F], having kind of a hard time because they're so nice", "post": "My boyfriend's parents are such nice people, but sometimes I find I have a hard time handling it. \n\nTomorrow is my boyfriend's birthday, so we drove an hour to see his parents and have dinner with them before we go on a weekend hiking trip tomorrow. They were so incredibly nice. They greeted me warmly, spoke kindly, bought our dinner, and basically I just enjoyed their company. They've always been really nice to me even though I've only been dating their son for about a year. We live together, and they even helped us move!\n\nBy contrast, I live 1000 miles away from my family on purpose and only see them at holidays. After meeting them and hearing about my childhood, my boyfriend says he feels I am \"neglected and abused.\" I don't have to go into details, but it ain't pretty. I am constantly belittled and shamed. \n\nIt's amazing that his parents are so nice, but it throws me off. For example, tonight at dinner his mom told me to get a soda or something. I had to ask \"Are you sure?\" like way too many times to the point where I'm sure it was weird, but I couldn't make myself stop. With my mom, this is a trick. You NEVER want a soda, even if you do. You always insist you want water. \n\nWhen we got home and my boyfriend fell asleep, I found myself just sobbing and sobbing. His mom told him that the day he was born was one of the happiest of her life. I very much doubt either of my parents would say the same. It's wonderful that his parents are so nice, but afterwards I feel awful.", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents are great, mine aren't. Reflection makes me sad."}
{"id": "t3_1lszmj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I (27m) suck at talking and am insensitive to her (27f) feelings, unintentionally. (the song)", "post": "When we started I was your dream person, but every now and then you say I'm such a mean person, crying time apart torn up hearts leave dreams worsened, now I'm lost to wonder if you're just gonna leave this person.\n\nSaying that it's too late to communicate, and that every time I'd try to communicate it always turns to hate, yet in the same hour your claims are that life's great, and I'm the most amazing person you'd ever had the chance to date, turn around twice find crystallized salt dried on your face.\n\nOh foolish fate, boosting the edge to jump, I'm fucked in the head, you're done, what have I said, I'm dumb, we sleep in a bed of crumbs, made from shattered dreams to come, so we sit it silence, well practically silence, the only escapable sound is the tears dripping from your eyelids, I can't fumble for the right thing to say I'm fully blind and guide less, too far for any advices trust me I've already tried then, overall just hoping the end won't come, just off of something as stupid of what I've said or done, when all in comparison it's my bad with good being a million to one, pondering who's right or wrong.\n\nOr if there is even a difference, when it comes down to it its two lovers different opinions, you say that you love, but wait, I know that I love, but hate, the extrapolation of what I say, twisted word shrapnel blowing up in my face, but I know with all certainty it's worth it all, every branch that I hit its still worth the fall, if only my words were better phrased when you heard them call, than you could keep your love and it wouldn't hurt at all.", "summary": "It seems no matter how good things are the bad always trumps the good in the end and now I feel like I'm unintentionally ruining a beautiful relationship, and that we both most likely need psychiatric help."}
{"id": "t3_20gf3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my now EX[23 F] just had a mutual break up but want to remain close friends.", "post": "Today my girlfriend and I (5 months) had a mutual break up. She is a nanny and always talks about children and how badly she wants one. We both know it's weird at how much younger I am but tried to cover the fact that we know in the end it wont work out due to our age gap. We decided that we still want each other in our lives as friends. This is not weird for me but I just don't want my feelings for her to get in the way of a good friendship. I don't want the same for her to be hung up over me if we hang out and do things together too often.  Is there anything that we can do to still hang out and spend time together without getting these feelings. Of course we will always care for one another and have deep feelings for each other. Some of you may say that this is a bad idea, but she is one of the most amazing women I have ever met and got to know well and we are practically the same person. Are there things we can do that won't feel like a date?", "summary": "Realized age will get in the way of a romantic relationship but want to remain close friends. Is this a good or bad thing? And after going out for 5 months any activities or things we can do that won't make us get past feelings sparked up again?"}
{"id": "t3_33flef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my friend [~21 F](who I asked out and got rejected) invites me over every now and again me [20 M] feels kind of weird about it", "post": "So I asked out this girl i had known for about a year. We were just friends for a while but the compulsion came over me and well i went for it. Anyway she says no to me, which, being fair, is her decision and while I took it as a hit but still I move on and she moves on. She is going out with this dude who is a pretty alright guy, we have different interests but hey who doesn't?\n\nSo things obviously get a little tense around this girl and we began to hangout very sparingly. Eventually she asks me to hang out with her and her boyfriend but it just feels awkward. I am the only one carrying conversation and if just becomes kind of annoying. Recently I have been just blowing off her calls so I feel like shit for doing that because it is just plain rude but at the same time I really just am uncomfortable around them. Hoe do I handle this?\n\nedt: (this is a comment I made to another redditor which I think might make things a bit more clear)\n\n\"Well she is not the manipulative type, more quirky than anything else. I think she is coming from a place of genuine interest in the friendship but it still feels weird to me. also I knew her boyfriend before they went out. I met him at work but very rarely saw him outside of it.\"", "summary": "I ask out friend I have had for a year, she says no, she invites me to hang out, the hangout is awkward. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_oucgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm stuck in the friendzone with the perfect girl. How the hell do I get out of here?", "post": "So hey, good people of Reddit, I'm Derp and I'm nineteen. She's Derpina and she's eighteen. Derpina is pretty much the most amazing girl I have ever met. \n\nShe reads comics, loves episodes 4,5,6 of Star Wars, loves LoTR and HP, can kick my ass in almost every video game we play and she is, of course, a Redditor. She won't find this as she's away on holiday with no internet for two weeks. She's intelligent, mature, incredibly witty and downright hilarious, very kind and caring. However, she's what all my friends describe as 'Damaged Goods'. She's had a really fucked up life, though she seems reasonably well-adjusted, and just recently got out of an abusive relationship. I know she has low self-esteem, though she's not one to ever talk about any of this. Her biggest downfall is that she hides all her problems. In the three years that I've known her, I've not once even seen her shed a tear. \n\nThis said, and although I'm young, I'm fairly confident that I'm in love with her. We've always been close, but almost a year and a half ago I confessed to her and she turned me down and friendzoned me, backed off for a few months before we became close again. A lot of the times people mistake us for couples, because in the past few months we've sure been acting like it. We've both had partners and stuff before, but not recently. \n\nWithout trying to sound like a dick, I know I'm fairly attractive. We love all the same things and get on so well. We can talk for hours at a time about both everything and nothing. \n\nReddit, tell me anything that you think might help me get out of this wretched place. There must be some of you out there that got out of it somehow, and there must be some girls too that can give me tips.", "summary": "read the title"}
{"id": "t3_2ip465", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] not sure if I should continue a friendship with my best guy friend [17M].", "post": "I've been friends with this guy around 3 years, but we didn't become really close until the end of this summer. I went through a rough break up in March, and he went through one in May.  \n\nWe have a similar sense of humor, so we get along pretty well, although we're both pretty opinionated so sometimes little debates turn into arguments, but we always get over it pretty quickly. \n\nSince day one he's been very clear that he's not attracted to me and isn't looking for a relationship.  I used to be interested in him, but when we started becoming close I wasn't, and a relationship wouldn't fit into my life right now. However, as time passes, he's done some things out of character, like pay me compliments saying I'm gorgeous, making plans a day ahead of time (usually they were very last minute), and most importantly getting very cuddly. \n\nWe tell each other everything, and I enjoy the mutual support, but a few days ago he asked me if I would ever want a boyfriend without the commitment of a relationship, which I answered no to. However, the cuddle factor has still been happening. \n\nMy issue is, I'm finding myself becoming attached to him. Honestly, now I like him. I know neither of us are looking for a relationship, and he's likely not interested anyway, at least not for anything with commitment. I really don't see this ending in a way that doesn't hurt my feelings. But I feel like if I cut physical contact, it'll be obvious, and things will get weird fast, and likely end with us not being close. Should I try that, or am I at the point where I have to bail on the friendship?", "summary": "Finding myself becoming attached to best guy friend who isn't interested, wondering if I should ditch the friendship before I get hurt."}
{"id": "t3_26nk5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] worry if my boyfriend [20M] of three years never shows his love for me and I dont think its there anymore, is that normal?", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend since highschool and we've worked seemingly perfectly (no fights, shave views, things in common, etc). My problem is that I can't seem to shake the feeling that he doesn't really love me anymore, let alone like me.\n\nLately, it's gotten worse because I've started to notice how unbalanced out relationship is as I praise him all the time, initiate sexy time (lol), give him massages when he's sore, always pay for dinner/movies/etc, even tie his shoes and carry his backpack if he's lazy.. really anything. Its just my way of saying I love you since Im really bad with words so I try to show it rather than say it. \n\nBut he...doesn't do anything. He never tells me why he loves me he just says he does everynight out of routine. If I'm lazy to do something he just says something like \"well sucks...\" etc. He never makes me feel truly wanted sexually and I just feel like any old friend of his he keeps because its easy. Kisses, yeah. You look pretty today, yeah. But it feels too robotic, like theres no real passion or love anymore.  \n\nOutward appreciation gradually decreased after the first 6 months. Everytime I've brought something like this up he just acts like its so obvious that he loves me dearly.. but he never shows it. \n\nI feel like I uneccesarily compare it to other peoples relationships where men buy their SOs flowers and have romantic dates planned and elaborate love letter. I used to do all these sweet things until I felt shot down with the way he half assed or didnt reciprocate. It being such a one way street sucks. \n\nI feel like its always my job to treat him like a princess and never the other way around. I just want to feel loved and appreciated equally. What do I do about it? \n\nSo do I talk to him about it again? Will it change? Is it just a guy thing? \n\nThank you for anyone who reads all this and helps me out. I really appreciate it.", "summary": "Feels like my SO doesn't really like me, despite him saying he loves me daily, he doesnt do squat to show it. Confused if it's in my head or I should I talk to him about this?"}
{"id": "t3_ewjms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit: Postal services in amsterdam are withholding my masters application. Can any local redditors help me?", "post": "dear dutch/west. european redditors:\nI recently applied to a masters program in University of Amsterdam. I sent some documents from South America to the Netherlands on dec 20, and they still haven't been delivered. The tracking system tells me 2 unsuccessful attempts were made on dec 29 and 30 (the university was closed for the holidays). A new attempt is allegedly scheduled, but too much time has already passed without any change in the tracking system and I'm running out of time.\nAny dutch redditors willing to help me? I'm desperate, as the deadline is this friday. I tried using TNT's website and calling them, but I don't speak dutch and the dutch side of the tracking doesn't seem to be working. Any kind of information will be appreciated. Of course, beer and karma are on me if anything comes out of this. Thanks a lot! \n\nDesperate redditor (long time lurker, first time poster)", "summary": "Postal services in amsterdam are withholding my masters application. Can any local redditors help me?"}
{"id": "t3_2l8u9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21M) unsure how to break up with college girlfriend (19F) as it becomes more distant (1 yr relationship)", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend over a year now, and I just feel like we have disconnected. We see each other about once a week, rarely doing anything sexual anymore, and it seems impossible ever to meet with her. \n\nShe is a very busy student who is in a ton of clubs and is pre-med so I understand why she is busy, but it's gotten to the point where I never expect her to be free. This is a super stressful semester for her, so I don't want to like break up with her right now, but I'm thinking that could be the case. I'd probably have to go home for winter break before she finished finals so it'd be unlikely that we could do it then.\n\nI was thinking of doing it soon, like a week or two from now, but have absolutely no idea of how to go about it. I think she's sensing it too because she is always stressing now how much she loves me in the few times we are together. I just feel terrible.", "summary": "gf and I becoming distant, do not know how to end relationship. I don't want her to suffer in her other work because of the breakup. "}
{"id": "t3_28yifk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/m] and my girlfriend [26/f] are breaking up. She's begging me to stay.", "post": "**Issue 1:** Things have been a bit sour for a while now due to some perceived commitment issues on my part, mostly in relation to kids, marriage and moving in.  However now that we've discussed it, she has now decided she no longer wants children/marriage but sees my priorities as more important to stay with me.  \n\n**Issue 2:** She has also been extremely insecure about a particular female friend of mine who I have no relationship history or desires for which is causing further tensions both in our relationship and personally with the friend.\n\nShe has a gap in her study schedule soon, we were considering going away together to work overseas as a bit of a 'fix' to the relationship \n  \nLately I've seen a psychologist because I've been feeling anxious, irritable and depressed.  This is something I thought I'd do to try to better myself, and the relationship.  However the psychology has just sort of made me more aware of what I want in life, and made me think I should follow my dreams to travel a lot more.  I've kinda realised I want to make my overseas work a more permanent thing, at least for the foreseeable future and considering the health of the relationship, right now I feel like leaving it behind.\n\nAnyway, a lot of pondering and discussion has had us in constant ups and downs for the past week.  I'm feeling hopeless, like I've kinda lost the energy to care about the relationship anymore.  We were about to enter yet another discussion this morning and I decided that I'd had enough and ended it right there, now she's at her parents house, yet she called me begging me to reconsider.\n\nI am feeling so clouded and emotionally exhausted after the crazy cycle of fighting and making up.\n\nI kinda think if we did the overseas thing, it'd be a good 6 months for us, but I don't know if it'll really resolve our issues or whether it's just the easier option to accept emotionally.  I also feel like I'd be doing it for her, and not really for me.", "summary": "Relationship has pretty much ended.  She wants back in so we can go and work overseas to 'fix' the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_suifx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My religious parents aren't letting me go to prom and I have a partner of a year and a half. What should I do?", "post": "I'd expect my life story to be peculiar but perhaps not so much on reddit. So for the past two years I've been secretly agnostic, pretending to pray and everything when I can/to keep up appearances. My parents are (although somewhat liberal) quite religious muslims. I've also kept my SO a secret from them of course. \n\nI told them I want to go to prom \"with the guys\" but they said they were afraid of what I'd see and hear and that I don't need any sins, so they don't want me going. Yeah. I asked twice and I've had the same response.\n\nI'm not that bothered about not going myself as I've never been a fan of large social atmospheres but my SO (as most typical teenage girls) is really excited to go. She's fully supportive of me, told me that she understands and that she'd go with the girls, but I can tell she's upset about it and is getting a tinge of jealousy when she sees her friends getting \"promposals.\" Although she's never said or expressed anything negative to me, I'm a little upset at being the cause of her ruined prom experience, knowing how important it is to her. I feel really bad. What should I do?", "summary": "Closet agnostic; muslim parents won't let me go to prom and I'm concerned about how my SO feels about it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_442px2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After a month of being broken up, I [23M] finally understand why my relationship went downhill with my ex [22F]...I want to try and fix it.", "post": "My ex and I dated for almost 3 years and she broke up with me almost a month ago. At first, I thought it came out of the blue and I was shocked. Couldn't believe it. I knew things were going downhill the last few months of the relationship so I tried really hard to make it better. Basically, I did alot of sweet and romantic things to show her how much I loved her. Went really, I guess you could say i went out of my way to make sure she was happy. I did all of this because I knew things were going downhill and i desperately wanted to make it better before it was too late.\n\nWe've talked a couple of times since ending it and I've tried to avoid the topic but I still love this girl and want to fix it. She said that she hoped one day we could get back together. \n\nI've been thinking alot over the past month and I've realized that yes I was trying to really hard to make her happy...but this was just covering up the real problems. I kind of changed from when she and I first started dating. I used to be this cool, proud leader and over time I became childish, jealous and insecure. I always started petty arguments and i couldn't handle my emotions. I could not properly communicate with her why I was upset. All this, among other things caused her to lose her feelings for me...and I get it now. I understand. She tried to give me hints and i didn't see them but now I understand. \n\nI want to talk to her and tell her all of this. Any thoughts? I want to fix this and I think she would still want to give it another try, she said she wanted to one day.", "summary": "Gf of 3 years broke up with me. I thought it came out of the blue but it wasn't. I tried to make it better by trying to make her happy and show her how much I cared. This didn't fix the underlying issues but I get it now. I want to fix this. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_32l0ed", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - Setting them free.", "post": "*This happened a while ago.*\n\n  When I was a small child, about the age of 4, my parents and siblings always loved to buy pets in our apartment complex. I wasn't a fan of that. In my eyes I thought that the pets were crying for help, wanting to escape. You can guess where this is going.\n\n  My parents bring home a couple of birds, small sized with a white belly and a long black tail. I felt extremely unhappy seeing them in cages, so i proceeded to swing open the enclosure, allowing them to fly in the house. Bad move. One of them glides straight out towards a wide open ventilation shaft in the kitchen and becomes nowhere to be seen or heard. This was the minor FU.\n  My parents scolded me, and proceeded to buy two beige-white rabbits the next week.\n\n  This is where the major FU occurs. The rabbits were in an enclosure in the balcony. When no-one notices, I proceed to open the balcony door, and swing open the enclosure yet again. I proceed to take the rabbits by the ears, and drop them from the balcony. Even writing this makes my heart sink.\n  As they plummet to their death I immediately regret my decision as I see the entire family run to the balcony.\nNot knowing what to do, my eyes watered, confessing that I wanted to set them free. Luckily my parents then taught me the principles of pets and such. However the cry of my sister still curls my blood, we shortly then all went downstairs to bury them in the shared garden.\n\nTo this day my parents and relatives make fun of my wrongdoing; to which I remain guilty of.", "summary": "I killed the family rabbits."}
{"id": "t3_22zs79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M/F] with my fianc\u00e9[23 M/F] engaged 6 months, together 2 and a half years has been distant and wants to break up.", "post": "So my fianc\u00e9, or I guess ex-fianc\u00e9 and I have dated for 2 and a half years and been engaged for 6 months. We have so many things together that it seems like more of a hassle to break up but he's sort of insistent. We have two cars, not yet paid off in both our names, three dogs which I can't take with me, and all sorts of history with one another's family. \n\nThese last few months he won't get off of his phone for 10 minutes to give me his undivided attention ad he has been snapping at me any chance he gets. There is no sign of cheating, just boredom from him. I tried to ask if he would work things out with me, but he just says that I deserve better and he doesn't think he could try.\n\nI'm just asking him to tell me that I look nice and to show some affection. I still love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but he is willing to throw it all away. Can somebody explain why he would feel this way and how I should cope? I feel like I have served my purpose in his life and now there isn't a need for me and that I'm useless.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 seems bored, says he wants space, and we've hardly spent time together in two months. We share cars and dogs together so it's more of a hassle. Refuses to fix anything, just wants out. Need advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1qsvep", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "College student struggling with drinking due to irrational fear - not abuse, but any use at all", "post": "Hi,\n\nI have a problem with alcohol. Not the problem in the sense I overuse it, but a problem in the sense I am irrationally afraid of my girlfriend or anyone close to me using it. Not even abusing it, simply using it. My parents were both heavy drinkers and there were experiences in my childhood I wish I could forget, as everyone does. \n\nI'd like to emphasize that I'm not here looking for relationship advice- it just so happens I get panic attacks and breakdown when my girlfriend goes out, a totally normal activity. I trust her to not do anything stupid, but every time she says she wants to go out I shut down. We've talked about it, and of course I cannot ask her not to do a certain activity because that would be unfair, but it hits me like a truck every time.\n\nI'm afraid that something bad will happen when she or anyone close to me goes out, but not because I don't trust them but because alcohol has always led to pain in my life. How can I get over my irrational fear? I've tried analyzing it and I understand it's not a permanent effect, it's normal, etc. etc. but every time my immediate reaction is to shut down. My only answer is to do it myself and see the effects, but that is a very large barrier to cross.", "summary": "Irrational fear of people close to me drinking originating from poor childhood experiences. Not from trust issues with respect to SO. How can I overcome my fear?"}
{"id": "t3_2tk7kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/m] am worried that my girlfriend [22/f] of 1 yr are going to break up because I don't make her feel appreciated/loved.", "post": "We have been dating for a little over a year and the past two weeks or so she has grown more distant and started hanging out more with her work friends, texting more when we are together and not making hanging out with me as much of a priority.\n\nI asked her about it and she said that I don't make her feel loved and appreciated.  I've been busier recently with a new job (working nights and she works days) as well as trying to work harder at school.  The conversation most troubled me because it seemed so final, as if it has always been an issue and there is no room to work on things.\n\nI'd like to make her more of a priority and have her feel that kind of appreciation but I worry that it is too late and she is no longer receptive. Any advice?", "summary": "My girlfriend of a year doesn't feel appreciated and is pushing away, is it too late to show her I care?"}
{"id": "t3_1d8vbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (21) and I (F20) acknowledge that we gained weight after we started dating but now he won't stop bringing up mine.", "post": "We mutually agreed that's we both have gained a slight bit of weight (roughly five-ten pounds) since we started dating in January. (We have been together three months now.) Although we both have agreed to work out together in the summer after classes end for the semester and actively pursue healthy eating, he has recently indirectly mentioned my weight numerous times. We eat a lot of meals together and he will point out I \"really need that second serving of mashed potatoes\" and other comments about the food I am eating. I have a muscular dystrophy (I did an AMA here that goes into more detail:  that alters the way my mitochondria function so I eat more to compensate for the gap in energy, but I feel like he is skipping over that fact because he used to wrestle in high school and has his own idea of weight loss regimens. Am I right to think he is going a little far with the comments he makes? Or is he right to mention my eating habits so I am aware of how I am progressing with my weight loss?", "summary": "We have acknowledged that we need to lose weight, but boyfriend (M21) indirectly points out my (F20) weight by critiquing the food I put in my mouth. Is this constructive to the weight loss process or hurtful?"}
{"id": "t3_3iwnlq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26m] and friend [23f], hung out a couple of times but I want to just stay friends, how do I not lead her on further?", "post": "I am currently going through a separation with my gf of 5 years. We are both unsure of things, but have talked here and there and there is a possibility of us getting back together. This was a mutual split and the story behind this is much too long and somewhat unrelated.\n\nNow, 4 or so weeks after my ex and I separated, I met someone else - Jen. Jen and I have hung out a few times, but I consider her only a friend. We have similar senses of humor. We talked for awhile and I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime- she said yes. We haven't done anything fancy, just watch tv and whatnot. I mostly just need friends which is why I approached her in the first place. I'm getting the impression that she thinks I am looking to be more than friends despite the fact we haven't been physical and I don't say flirtatious comments to her. I hate to have to tell this girl that I am not looking for someone like that because MAYBE she isn't either, which might be awkward.\nAny suggestions? I like hanging out with her, but there isn't attraction (at least on my end). What can I say to her to just make sure that, before we continue hanging out, she knows my intentions?\n\nI do not want her to think that I only wanted to hang out with her because of my issues with gf (this is in fact partly true, but I was really only looking for friendship).", "summary": "new girl I'm hanging out with, I just want to stay friends and I want to make sure she knows this, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gpys9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to pee in a river", "post": "I went on a trip to Texas and decided to go tubing (you sit in a donut tube and drift down a river, sounds fun right?). So I signed the injury/death waiver and hopped into the tube with my girlfriend. It was an amazing experience drifting down the river, and we saw all the wild turtles, deers, and birds hanging out. \n\nAbout 2 hours later, we drifted into a forest-y area, and that's when I needed to pee really badly. I thought about relieving myself in the tube, but I didn't want to get piss in my pants, so I tried to stand up inside my tube so that I could get some projectile motion going. Everything was going according to plan...till I suddenly lost my balance and fell into the river.\n\nI don't know how to swim and I totally forgot to ask for a life jacket. I sank immediately. I touched the bottom with my feet, but my head was about 3 feet below the surface. I couldn't float and already got some water inside my lungs. I instinctively pushed/jumped up with all the energy I had and screamed \"HELP!\"....I did this twice and sank back down with gulps of river water. Thankfully I was not in a deeper area of the river. My girlfriend swam toward me and was able to pull me up. I was brought to shore still conscious. I'm so glad I didn't drown.\n\nTo celebrate, I pee'd in the river after I recovered. And I got a huge dinner afterward because I learned that life is too short to worry about getting fat.", "summary": "Went tubing for 2+ hours and needed to pee badly. Almost drowned from trying to shoot pee into the river."}
{"id": "t3_4i04ta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationship] Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] of almost 2 years, he still doesn't love me... But I love him. How do I deal?", "post": "Hi everyone, \n\nMy boyfriend of almost 2 years, still doesn't love me. We went on a short (maybe 4 week) break about a year ago when he told me that he wasn't sure if he *actually* loved me. \n\nWhen he decided this, I told him to take 8 weeks, if he still didn't want to be with me in that time, I'd leave him alone from then on. Within 6 weeks, he messaged me telling me he wants to be with me still. But it's a year on now... and still nothing. It upsets me constantly and I'm unsure if he realises just how much even though I've expressed a few times that it is difficult for me and that it deeply bothers and hurts me that he still doesn't reciprocate those feelings. \n\nI love him, and I've never loved anyone as much as I love him before and I'm not sure I will again. We live together at the moment and I'm not sure how I could afford to live alone if need be. \n\nEvery day I worry that it will be the day that he finally breaks up with me because he realises I'm not what he wants, or something along those lines.  \n\nWhat should I do? I really don't want to leave him, but being in a loveless relationship is really wearing on me.", "summary": "Boyfriend of almost 2 years decided he doesn't actually love me after a year. Went on short break, still hasn't said the magic words. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1a9f55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21m] I am second guessing myself and my choice to break up with my GF [17f]", "post": "Don't have to read that; I was just spilling my thoughts, so I'll summarize it:\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating 3 months. She has a best friend who is a guy who she's known since she was in 5th grade. They regularly hang out with each other and continued to do so throughout our relationship. They are even going to prom together since I'm too old. I confronted her about this and she claimed that she has never liked him, and they are purely friends.\n\nOn Sunday she had a fallout with her parents, and said she wasn't able to talk, but would \"talk to me soon\". I patiently waited 2 days then....I became suspicious, because we've never gone more than 2 days without talking. So last night, I go find her tumblr, and on it, I find this\n\nI'm honestly not sure what I should do. I absolutely should not stay in this relationship, and I know it needs to end. But one of my friends said I should not jump to any conclusions. He suggests this may be a simple short-lived infatuation she has, or any number of other explanations. I know this girl fucking likes me and I feel she does NOT want to have these feelings towards her friend. He suggested I do not break up with her on this tumblr post alone. He made a good point and it made me question what I want to do.\n\nBut the logical side of me is screaming to break up with her right now. Call her, tell her what I saw, and end it. But it *does* seem way too sudden. I almost want to wait until she calls me to see what she does or does not do. I really would like to have some closure and I want to find out how long she has had these feelings, and if she cheated on me...\n\nI know I only posted this last night, but I didn't get a lot of responses. There's a lot of possible outcomes and I keep second guessing all of them and i'm clueless. I really like this girl and I'm not good at breakups so I don't know how to handle this...", "summary": "Girlfriend might be in love with another guy. I keep second guessing how/if I should break up with her. I need some reassurance. Not negativity, just realistic advice."}
{"id": "t3_1kpxhx", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Have been waiting weeks to hear back from a company I interviewed for. What should I do next?", "post": "Hi Everyone!\n\nFirst and foremost, thank you all for great content that helps the wonderful people of this sub educate themselves and eventually land jobs. I am similar to most of you (100+ applications, limited callbacks, still striving!) and have a question. \n\nI applied for a company about six weeks ago and got an email stating they wanted a phone interview (recruiter screening). After I completed the initial interview, I was passed on to the hiring manager for another phone interview. I was then asked to come in for a interview. After the interview, I asked the HR/Recruiter when I should expect to hear back about the position and was told it would be roughly 5 days. \n\nIt has now been a little over three weeks since the interview and still nothing. I have emailed the recruiter twice since then, and each time he says \"We still have not made a decision. I will know more in a week.\" The week then goes by and I hear nothing. \n\nNow, I know for a fact they were still (and probably still are) interviewing more candidates. Are they just stringing me along because they don't want to close the door on a potential candidate? Should I just take this as they are trying to get someone with better qualifications than me? \n\nI was supposed to get a response on Friday of last week and never got one. I'm not sure if I should keep going with this and do ANOTHER follow up, or if I should just take it as I was not the best fit and send a thank you letter. \n\nAny help would be great as to what my next move should be. Thanks a lot in advance.", "summary": "I interviewed nearly a month ago for a job and every week they keep saying they don't have a decision yet. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3d898e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20,F] girlfriend's best friend told me she cheated on me [21,M] in the past", "post": "We have been dating for over 3 years, without any breaks. We lost our virginity to one another, but my girlfriends best friend tells me that my girlfriend has had sex with 2 men in her life. Her best friend was drunk and doesn't remember telling me this, and denies that it is true. But part of me thinks that because she was drunk, she slipped up and is trying to cover herself. \n\nI havent said anything to my girlfriend and really dont know where to go from here. Other than this I have never has suspicion she has cheated on me, and I am very certain she was a virgin when we met.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "GF's bestfriend was drunk and told me she cheated on me"}
{"id": "t3_oisdm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I stop my parents from favoring my brother?", "post": "A little backstory... I'm 15 and my bro is 11. He is annoying as fuck. I have seen a doctor in the past to try and control my anger when around him. I try to talk to my parents about what's going on, but since I'm 4 years older, they expect more out of me. If anyone has seen \"The Hangover 2\" the part with the [shemale](/spoiler) made me brother say it was my soul mate. After a little scuffle, where no one got hurt, my mom decides to yell at me. I just walked away because I'm sick of it. I can't handle it anymore. If I talk to them, then I am given bullshit explanations. What do I do?", "summary": "My parents play favorites between my brother and I and I need to know how to stop it."}
{"id": "t3_1o0h46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my fiancee [23 F] (3 years), I can't get a job and it is throwing me off in bed - fiancee thinks I don't find her attractive anymore", "post": "Hello, I recently moved to a new city with my fiancee. I have been looking for a new job for the past five months and have been, thus far, unsuccessful getting a new job. The stresses and doubt about my selfworth have been eating at me and, recently, it has surfaced in the bedroom.\n\nI am attracted to my fiancee but as soon as we start having sex, I lose my erection. I think it's because I am doubting myself so much that I lose focus on us. It happened a couple times and my bedroom confidence is shot. I felt like, \"Well, I can't find a job right now, at least I can satisfy her.\" But now, I can't even do that.\n\nMy fiancee thinks it's because I don't find her attractive anymore. I am struggling to come to terms with the jobless situation but, in the mean time, I don't know how convince her that I find her attractive or at least make her understand why I can't keep it up.\n\nThank you for your time, readers.", "summary": "I can't get a job and it throws me off in bed...which then causes me to lose my sexual confidence so now my fiancee thinks I don't find her attractive."}
{"id": "t3_gzxo2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex-girlfriend wants me back as a friend. How to change it into friends with benefits?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nfirst some background: I had a 2 years long term relationship with this girl. During an exchange semester abroad she split up with me, fucked around and got a new boyfriend. \n\nI spend the last week sending hatred mails to her, thereby cooled gradually down and skyped to her in the end. I guess she still likes me but now she lives in a new city and has a totally new social-environment. Still, she would love to visit me. \n\nAt first i forbid her to come over until she splits up with her new boyfriend. In the course of the conversation I realized two things: First, this puts too much pressure on her and she won't do it. Second, I don't wont a long distance relationship with a girl I cannot trust. Hence, being friends is alright when benefits are included.\n\nNow we come to the problem: How to communicate that only friends with benefits would be alright for me? \nDuring our relationship-days we were pretty open about sex, often just asked if the other one feels like going for it. I guess that directly telling her that \"condition\" would put too much pressure on her again. Additionally, I guess that during her daily contact with her current boyfriend she realizes that she can't \"betray\" him. \nHence, the other option would be to let her come over, be the nice great guy she used to love and in the course of events try to escalate things. Yet, if this does not work out, I would be pretty pissed.", "summary": "Ex-Girlfriend has a new boyfriend, wants me back just as a friend. Friends with benefits is the minimum condition for me. How to communicate this?"}
{"id": "t3_vh8aq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Frequent flyers, what is the strangest/most awkward experience you have had on an airplane?", "post": "Once, while boarding a plane from NY to LA this man (must have been in his 60's) tried to block me as I sat down, signaling that I was in his seat. I calmly showed him my ticket and quickly realized he spoke no English. Once we worked out that I had the aisle and he the window (very important as I am 6' 4\") we settled down. However I knew something was bothering him. He kept muttering to himself and shifting around as if he was furious.\n\nHe attempted to talk to me angrily a few times but his English was so limited I had no clue what he was saying. Things took a turn for the worse when the flight attendants came by to serve food. Unlike the past, you now have to pay for food even on a 6-hour flight. The German man pointed to the M&M's and handed the lady his credit card. She told him that they don't accept cards, only cash, but not understanding her, the issue quickly escalated. It ended with three other flight attendants coming over to try and work it out with this man. He yelled and screamed at them, I thought they might have restrained him at one point. They even tried to give him the candy for free and he shoved it back at them. This all took place with him in the window seat yelling across me at the flight attendants in the aisle, making it even more awkward.\n\nIn the end, we found someone who could speak German and we discovered the man had Diabetes and his blood sugar was low. I spent the rest of the flight with headphones on, not looking at him for fear that he would start ranting again.", "summary": "Angry older German man yelled at the flight attendants for 15 min over candy. No one knew why he was so angry until we got someone to translate."}
{"id": "t3_1s3zrp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] Sent a stupid text to (23/f) I've been seeing", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for the past couple of weeks and up until this point it was going pretty well. We meet up quite regularly, we've made out a couple of times and we text each other every day.\n\nHowever, the last time we met when we were making out I was a little pushy when trying to kiss her (I tilted her head towards me) she kept her head stiff but I still went for the kiss. She seemed fine with it when she kissed me back.\n\nShe was texting me as normal the next day but I felt quite bad about  what happened so I sent her a text saying that I was sorry for being a bit pushy and that she should tell me if I'm doing anything she isn't happy with. She didn't respond to this text but when I sent a follow up asking if everything was ok she said she was fine.\n\nWe texted a bit after that but her messages were short and brief. I texted her the next day simply asking how her day was and I've heard nothing since.\n\nSo what happened? I'm going a little crazy here.", "summary": "Things were going well with a girl, I was pushy when kissing her, she seemed fine with it, I sent her a text apologizing anyway and I'm now getting the silent treatment."}
{"id": "t3_15yo34", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have substancial credit card debt in collections. Let it go or pay it off?", "post": "I am 25F and I screwed up big time when I got credit cards. I have $17,000+ in credit card debt in collections right now. I lost my job in late 2008, got in way over my head, then had a hurricane come in a destroy all my things right around the same time. It was a perfect storm of financial ruin. I live in Texas. Texas is a very debtor friendly state and I had to option to walk away from the credit card debt and try to keep the lights on, which is exactly what I did. \n\nSince then, I have returned to school, I am working one full time job and another part time job, and I have slowly rebuilt a solid, but still a bit shaky, foundation for myself. \n\nI have put aside $2000 for emergencies and have made sure my bills are paid on time, every time for the last year. I have no big purchases to make in the next year or so and I think this is a good time to start tackling the mound of debt I accumulated for myself in my late teens/early 20s. \n\nI am essentially starting over and looking to improve my credit standing and my financial future. My credit score at this point is in the 580s (really really really bad) and my risk grade is F. No way in hell I'm going to be buying a house or a car with financing in the near future with that kind of record and I would like to be able to do that at some point. \n\nI am also interested in saving for my retirement but as of now, I really just need to get back on solid ground. I'm still young enough that I can change my standing and really do great things for myself but it has to happen now and I would love your advice.", "summary": "I screwed up as a teen and got a bunch of credit cards. Now I'm in debt, big time. Need help  making a plan to dig myself out of a hole."}
{"id": "t3_hodcn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's reddit's opinion on this situation...", "post": "I am getting married in September.  My fiance has a 50% chance of being a carrier of Muscular Distrophy.  We get the test results back this afternoon.  However, I'd like to know what redditors would do in our situation.\n\nFor those that don't know Muscular Distrophy is a disorder in which male's muscles deteriorate over the course of their life.  In severe cases, the child could die before they are 15.  In other cases, it could be that the child will just eventually end up in a wheel chair.  The muscular distrophy that my fiance would be a carrier of, is the latter.  If you have a child that's a boy, he has a 50% chance of having it.  If you have a girl, they aren't affected by it, but they have a 50% chance of also being a carrier (like my fiance).\n\nOur options if my fiance is a carrier:\n\n1. We have kids, and hope none of them get Muscular Distrophy\n2. We don't have kids, skip the risk, and adopt instead", "summary": "My fiance may be a carrier of muscular distrophy.  If in my situation, would you not have your own kids and adopt...or have your own kids and hope none of them get it? "}
{"id": "t3_26fds9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with [34m] few months, I don't understand this man...or know how to get a definition of our relationship out of him.", "post": "Met a guy back in January and we started hanging out a lot more the past two months. He came to a party I hosted without any of our mutual friends being there and while we were talking mentioned he'd like to hang out with me more...which at the time I thought was just a friendly thing. Since then, we text more days than not and we've been together one-on-one dozen times.\n\nThese get togethers include things like him taking me to dinner, long walks, and me cooking dinner. He's shown up at my apartment to give me a ride places (a place I drive myself most of the time).\n\nIn my head, I would define our relationship as dating. We talk about a lot of personal things on a daily basis and see each other 2 or 3 times a week.  I'm definitely growing to like him more and more, but he is incredibly hard to read and I don't really know if he has the same mindset. A mutual friend recently divulged that the guy has a really rocky romantic history, which I think could explain the very slow-moving nature of our current situation.\n\nHowever, regardless of the past, I am very much a live in the present type person. I really would like to know if he likes me and is interested in potentially pursuing a relationship (I am for 100% sure) or if he's just lonely and looking for a friend. But I don't want to appear crazy while doing it (especially because his last relationship WAS a crazy, pushy, female).\n\nOther friends have weighed in on the vibe they get and no one can get a clear read on the situation.  The guy has become a really great friend and I wouldn't want to make things overly awkward with him  I just want to know what the purpose of us hanging out is...because at this point, I could cut my losses (dating relationship wise) without serious emotional pain.", "summary": "I think a guy likes me, but I don't know how to ask without appearing like a crazy person."}
{"id": "t3_2jys99", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate thinks my GF stole his chopsticks and CD", "post": "Here's the story: since last Sunday my roommate couldn't find one of his two pairs of chopsticks. Today he lost a software CD and now he thinks my GF broke into our apartment to steal them.\n\nHere's an intro to the people involved:\n\nMy roommate: He's messy, unorganized, and I highly believe that he has misplaced them somewhere. He says he sometimes gets paranoid about these things, but even for someone very suspicious and paranoid I don't think it makes sense. \n\nMy GF: She knows the password because she planned a surprise for my birthday two months ago. \n\nHow my roommate thinks of my GF: So this one time I was gonna have dinner with her and she suggested that he tag along. He declined, and while she was going to the bathroom she saw him along the way. She joked that she was upset that he refused to have dinner with us, and he took it way too personally. To this day he believes that she is actively mad at her. I told him that she was joking, because I have been with her for 9 months whereas he's only seen her around campus.\n\nCouple of weeks later, I am walking with her talking. I see my roommate and he waves us hi. I wave him back because I know him. My GF never really talked to him and have been introduced to each other a while ago, so she doens't know whether to wave or not. She doesn't and he takes that as a sign that she is angry at him for something.\n\nFor some reason he doesn't believe it when I tell him that she has no logical reason to be openly hostile with him. I try to tell him that whatever reason he has to believe that she is angry at him is all in his head. I try not to sound like a dick but he's taking it the wrong way, that I don't listen to his opinions.\n\nI don't know how to explain this to him. I am trying to put together my call log and text message history to show him that only when we are both sleeping can she come into our apartment un-noticed and take the stuff.\n\nI want to know how I can better convince him that she is not breaking into our apartment to take his stuff.", "summary": "Roommate thinks my GF is angry at him, even though they hardly have any interactions together. He is blaming her for his missing chopsticks and CD. Need a way to explain to him this is not the case."}
{"id": "t3_3kku6a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being paranoid", "post": "My partner and I were moving from a large house we shared with friends, to a small apartment in a large building - not my first choice, but we were running out of options in our price range. We hired movers, which was absurdly expensive but necessary, because all the moving help we could have recruited from our friend group had to be saved for our ex-housemates (their situation being a bit less fortunate than ours). It took longer than expected, because the moving company didn't tell the movers to expect a 4th floor walk up, but eventually everything was in the unit, papers were signed and tips passed out, door closed behind them. We sighed a sigh of relief, and went to make our bed so we could flop down on it. We went into the bedroom, started to straighten out the mattress, and then we found a live bedbug crawling on it.\n\nWe ran out of there and talked to the leasing agent right away, who (thankfully) immediately started working on getting a professional pest control operator to come deal with the problem. Didn't want to bring out anything that had been possibly contaminated, so all we left with were prescriptions, the clothes on our backs and the stuff in our pockets. We had to buy underwear and tshirts so we'd have something to wear.\n\nSo now we are staying at my partner's parents' house until the treatment plan has been implemented more thoroughly. I've dealt with bedbugs before and if you have as well, you know it's a battle to lose your paranoia after that experience, and I had won that battle, unfortunately. If I had inspected the place closely instead of going on their word that there weren't bedbugs, I might have seen one earlier, and we could have avoided moving all our stuff in and contaminating it. But now we have to deal with bedbugs and their elmination, which is a special kind of hell.", "summary": "Didn't worry, now temporarily separated from my possessions in order to keep my blood safe from theft"}
{"id": "t3_42nlgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I am ready to move on from my [26f] boyfriend [25m] of 4.5 years - I am no longer intimately satisfied", "post": "4.5 years is a long, long time. At least it is at my age. He's my best friend. But lately that's all I can see him as. It's painful even to type this as we've been through a lot.\n\nIt started after we moved in together (Dec 2013) - the sex just got, well, bad. I guess it always kind of was, to be honest - it lasts like, 30 seconds to a minute. Anyways..\n\nHe's gained a bit of weight since we started dating but he was overweight then too. Recently he asked me about engagement rings and I told him I wasn't ready for that... I don't think this is a problem that can be fixed. It's getting so bad that I just don't even want to kiss him anymore.\n\nI've also found myself to be quite attracted to a co-worker, which probably has a large role in this. But that's how I know that it's not my sex drive that's broken or something - it's that the chemistry is just no longer there between my boyfriend and I.\n\nI've been trying to leave for months now, but every time I look into his eyes it kills me. The thought of packing up all my things and going and the chance of never seeing/talking to him again... I just can't. I don't know what to do. He's my whole life but I don't see it working in the future if no part of me wants to have sex with him.\n\nI'm scared that the second he says \"don't do this\" i'm going to immediately take it back. I care about him so much. But the fact that I would be okay with being just friends... It's not fair to him to keep this up. I keep having these visions in my head of him coming home to an empty house and I just... it kills me....\n\nHow do I even have this conversation? He just comes home from work one day \"hey sorry I'm leaving you\"??? I just have no idea what to do at this point. Please help :(", "summary": "I don't know how to break up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years (due to lack of intimate feelings for him). I care about him a lot and seeing him hurt would destroy me."}
{"id": "t3_fkrbr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did this shit really just happen? And is it a common occurence?", "post": "Okay, so today my family came to visit me up at school and we went out to Ihop to eat. As we're sitting down, an elderly couple is about to pay and they find that they don't have their wallet with them. After they discuss it with their waitress for a little bit, my dad calls the waitress over and tells her to give him the bill. She says okay, then goes back over to the table and asks them if they've figured out a way to pay, not telling them that we have offered to take their bill. Again, my dad calls over the waitress and tells her that we'd handle it and to bring us the bill, but she goes back and still doesn't tell them about the offer. Eventually my dad just went over to the table himself and told them he'd pay for the bill. I just don't understand why the waitress felt that she needed to essentially prevent an elderly couple from having their meal paid for. Has this happened to anyone else?", "summary": "Went to lunch, elderly couple forgot their wallet. Dad told waitress he'd pay for them, she did nothing about it and kept trying to make them pay for it."}
{"id": "t3_u1y8i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I move back east...gf or career?", "post": "Currently in a LDR for the past 11months, i'm on the west coast she is on the east coast.  I thought things were going good, would visit her about once a month for a weekend, and would even talk about her possibly moving out here.  Recently she completely changed her tune and does not under any circumstances want to move here and insists I move to back east or she would want to end the relationship.\n\nBecause of student loans, car payments I really can't afford to have any break in employment, while I could support her on my salary she couldnt support me. I have a good job and only been working here for a year and career wise I dont know how good it would be to quit after a year and find a new job.\n\nMy thinking is kind of it would be a lot easier for her to move here and find a new job than for me to move, is that wrong? Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thanks.", "summary": "I'm better eastablished in the west, she wants me to go back east, should I?"}
{"id": "t3_27g49k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] with [19F]. Girlfriend made out with bi friend [18F]", "post": "We've been together for around a month when this happened (7 months now).\nWe were drinking at a friends house, six of us including me, my girlfriend and my bi friend, let's call her D.\nPeople were getting drunk and D asked my girlfriend if she wanted to make out. My girlfriend asked permission from me first and me being drunk and stupid, I said go for it. I reasoned I didn't want to be the one to stop her from doing what she wants.\nBut after five seconds into it, I said stop because I just couldn't watch it. They did stop and my girlfriend apologized.\nA bit after that, me and my girlfriend went to the bathroom where we drunkenly made out and got to third base for the first time.\nA bit after that, I was too hammered and the rest of them went for a KFC run while I'm passed out on a bed. I felt really bad about that kiss.\n\nA few days after that, I learned that in the car while they were getting food, they made out again. I found out through a blog post by D. I did not know how to feel. I was crushed but she was drunk. And I initially gave them permission.\n\n(Maybe it's worth noting that I liked D a year before I even met my girlfriend. We made out once a long long time ago, but nothing came out of it.)\n\nIt's been a while and our relationship has been great so far after that, but I still feel bad about it. The first kiss is definitely forgiveable, but it's the second one I have a problem with. She said sorry and that it's easy to take advantage of her when she's drunk. I feel like she blames the alcohol completely like she didn't have anything to do with it. I don't think it's okay to make out with someone when you're drunk and your boyfriend isn't there.\n\nIs it cheating? It is probably at least partly my fault cause I did give them permission.\n\nI tell her about my feelings on it but she just blames the alcohol, like she has no part on it. And did my green light transfer over to in the car?", "summary": "While drunk, girlfriend and bi friend made out and I gave them permission. 5 secs in, I change my mind and tell to stop. Later on while on a food run they make out again in the car. Cheating? Unjustified feelings? Should I just let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_3bp8c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (15M) had the most perfect date (?) with the girl (18F) I would now like to date.", "post": "Today I met with this girl my aunt wanted me to hangout with while I was on vacation in Serbia. We never talked much before that. So we went to the mall today and got some breakfast and then shot a bb gun in there. After a while of walking around we decided to see Ted 2 and bought our tickets. This is where for me it all began.\n\nWe were waiting for the movie to start and I started throwing some popcorn at her and at one point took her purse and phone as a joke. This went on for maybe 10 minutes as we laughed and she took the popcorn from me and vise versa.  We then went to see the movie and kept throwing popcorn at each other. At one point she put her phone under her and I picked her up and then put her back after it wasn't there.\n \nDuring the movie we were kind of high fiving and then I grabbed her and and held  it for a bit. The movie ended and we went to the zoo. At point she started holding my arm and I was so happy.  We went to a castle over looking the river to watch the sun set and the got coffee.  My mom called and I had to go so we took the bus back. I bought her some flowers before we got on the bus. We sat down and I had my arm around her and she was rubbing my hand. At one point we kept looking at each other and smiling. \n\nWe were approaching the last stop so I kissed her then she kissed me back. She got in her dad's car and left for the night. First is she too old for me? Second I live across the ocean and will see her only when I visit. Can we survive the distance? Third she actually likes me unlike most girls. I don't look the best and I've never kissed a girl before this but with her everything was so easy and right. What should I do?", "summary": "met most amazing girl I live across an ocean."}
{"id": "t3_2h6pzp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my roommate [21F], reasonable guest requests?", "post": "I'm not really sure how to navigate this situation with my roommate. She and I live in the same room in an apartment with 5 people, all of us are students at university. I'm good friends with her but I'm not sure how to deal with her boyfriend visiting.\n\nHe lives about 8 hours away, so they don't see each other too often. He visits on long weekends and sometimes on random other weekends during the year. He usually stays for about 5 days at a time, which I never complain about since they don't see each other much. However, the frequency of his visits and the number of days is starting to increase. He's coming here soon for about a week or so. \n\nThis is starting to get uncomfortable for me because it just feels too cramped. He's a great guy and I really like him, it's just exhausting to have him around the apartment at all hours while she's gone to work or class. And my room doesn't really feel like mine when there's always a guest sleeping in there. I'm not sure how to bring this up or what any potential solutions may be since they don't hang out often and hotels are way too expensive and inconvenient. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "Roommate/friend's boyfriend is staying over more frequently and for longer periods of time, starting to wear me down and make me uncomfortable. But they don't see each other much so I'm not sure how to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_3foa90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [35 F ] can't get past the first date when online dating", "post": "Hi everyone. So I'm 35 and I'd like to fall in love again. I've been trying to meet guys IRL but to increase my chances I've been online dating for a few months as well.\n\n In all my past relationships I met my guy in a non-romantic everyday context, so when we started dating I already knew I liked him. My problem with online dating is that it feels very artificial. I've been on a few first dates and none of them have been particularly good. Every time I feel like I'm basically making polite conversation with a stranger. There was no spark or good vibe whatsoever. Is that normal? I wonder. Maybe if I had met my exes this way there would have been no relationship at all. \nIt doesn't help that the guys were always less good-looking in person than in their picture, so there was no physical attraction either. \n\nAm I expecting too much from a first date? Should I try going on a second date? Should there be a good vibe from the beginning or at least physical attraction or is it normal not to feel any of these things? How long does it take to realize if the guy might be right for you?", "summary": "is it normal not to feel anything on a first date when online dating?"}
{"id": "t3_20jz6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance college relationship", "post": "So my man [19] of nearly one year called me [18] yesterday to basically tell me that this long distance business was taking a toll on him and he couldn't do it anymore. H goes to school in CA and I go to school in Wisconsin. I did kind of rush my decision in choosing the school I'm currently at, it wasn't one of my top choice, rather a back up as the more ideal ones didn't pan out as planned. \nEither way, I've been feeling ambivalent about staying here to begin with and then he blindsides me with this, I honestly didn't think anything was wrong. We talk on the phone every night and Skype several times a week, I know that's not the same as physically being next to them but it's the best I can do until the end of the semester. Obviously it wasn't enough for him.", "summary": "I'm basically asking advice whether or not I should pick a school closer to home to try and save our relationship. He's the only one I've been seriously romantically involved with so that might skew my logic but I really do want him to still be a part of my life."}
{"id": "t3_1ul8nv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How necessary is a bachelor's degree?", "post": "I'm a 18yo girl with good grades. (4.3 GAP on a 4.0 scale, 30 on my ACT) I love Spanish and all my language/ grammar classes, but I'm not interested in teaching. I hate seeing so many people get degrees in something they never use. I'm considering moving out and going to a community college for free, saving what money I can and trying to find a practical job with an associate's degree instead of continuing on to a 4yr university.\n\nIs this a good game-plan? Traveling and being bilingual are my two biggest interests, but I think that a job such as a physical therapists assistant would be a good option simply because the job market is high and it requires little college.\n\nI should mention that I have a job and am willing to continue working a lot, however my family has very little money, and I don't want debt from student loans. Any advice or comments would be appreciated!", "summary": "good student, want to travel, is a 4yr degree necessary or would it be better to just get an associate's degree and save up money?"}
{"id": "t3_3ractr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - Accidental No call, No Show", "post": "I started this new job \"today\" for some odd reason I legitimately thought I started Tuesday. Well turns out Tuesday is the 3rd not the second and in the E-mail I received it clearly stated that I started on the second. I only found it about today. like literally an hour ago. This guy that hired me thinks im a fucking moron. I cant begin to tell you about the heart attack im currently having. I'm thinking about pulling a George and showing up tomorrow like nothing happen. I'm also thinking about sending an e-mail apologizing for my blissful brain. Would you guys help me write out an E-mail? i do even know how to start it. I'm too nervous and im having a panick attack.", "summary": "Was supposed to start a job today. Totally thought it started tomorrow. Stayed home and hung out until i checked my e-mail and evidently I did start today. FML"}
{"id": "t3_2kf6dq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 with my ex [21 M] after a 2 year relationship, he texts me angrily", "post": "So me and my ex see each other a decent amount, but we ignore each other and try to stay away. He dumped me almost 2 months ago, and he wanted to be friends but I said we couldn't. Since then, we've talked a few times.\n\nI texted him about 4 days ago telling him \"I'm finally over you, I think we could be friends again.\" But he says he needs more time, a lot more time.\n\nFast forward to today. He leaves me a text \"I hope you're fucking happy\" and nothing else. I come to learn that he dropped a division in League of Legends (a game we used to play together, I pretty much carried him up the ranks). He was jealous that I was better than him a lot of stuff and he was super competitive. He said he was sorry and that he did it in a moment of anger.\n\nDoes that mean he still has feelings? I'm going to be honest here, I'm just waiting for him to get over his sexcapades and I'm going to try to get back with him. No, we didn't end on bad terms, and yes it was the best relationship I could even have imagined. He dumped me, but he's told a friend that he does have regrets and I know for a fact he just wanted to explore since he had never been with anyone else. Also you can give me your opinion on this, as I'm probably being stupid.", "summary": "Ex angrily messages me about irrelevant event, does that mean anything?"}
{"id": "t3_18hz0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "gf [21/f] wants to try long distance I [21/M] don't, but haven't told her I feel this way yet.", "post": "So I [21/M] graduate from college in June and have no plans whatsoever of sticking around (I live in a college town, so there's no incentive for me to stay whatsoever). I've applied to a couple grad schools and am applying to some jobs, but I don't have any idea of where I'm going or what I'm doing after graduation. \n\nMy gf of more than 2 years [21/F] isn't graduating until next year, so obviously there's guaranteed separation at this point. We haven't talked at all about what's going to happen when I leave, but she seems to be under the impression that we'll do a long distance thing and eventually reunite. My problem is that I think it'd be silly for her to move to wherever I end up purely because I'm there. I feel that we're too young to be basing our futures off of each other. Furthermore, I wouldn't be able to handle the guilt if she followed me somewhere and we ended up breaking up, I'd feel like I robbed her of her future and hopes. \n\nThe issue is that I haven't given her any clues that this is how I feel, but I think I should put it off until as late as possible so we can at least enjoy our relationship up until then. I feel like a long distance relationship will just cause us to get distant from each other, draw out our relationship, and cause it to end on a sour note (especially since there's no knowing if/when we'll be able to meet back up, might be a year, might be more, who knows). I think that it'd just be better off to basically say that we're both free to do whatever we want and if we end up meeting up somehow in the future, cool, if not, it's been fun. At very least I'd like to get a better idea of where I'm going before I make a decision or say anything to her. Am I being irrational not even wanting to try a long distance relationship? Should I talk to her sooner than later?", "summary": "I [21/M] am moving away in June, gf of 2 years [21/F] thinks we're doing long distance and will eventually reunite. I feel this is a bad idea, but want to wait to tell her so it doesn't sour relationship before I go. Should I give long distance a shot/should I talk to her sooner than later?"}
{"id": "t3_43sbpi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my girlfriend [25F] 5 years, Gave me the engagement ultimatum and I'm frustrated by it.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for five years now and she gave me the ultimatum that if I don't propose to her by next year she's ending the relationship. \n\nThe most significant thing that is preventing me from even considering proposing is her health habits. I feel horrible for this being the main reason.  \n\nIt has nothing to do witht he fact that she is now obese( I would have dumped her by now if that was the case) Its that fact that she hasn't put in enough effort to lose weight. In other words, I can't commit to her because she is doing nothing to improve her health or fitness. \n\nBack when we started dating she was a bit chubby, but nothing too bad. Over the years it has got worst to the point where I'm losing all sexual attraction towards her. She never goes to the gym, she never tries to eat healthy and she has gained a significant amount of weight (double chin and stomach flaps over her pants type of weight).\n\n I have stayed with her in the hopes that she puts the effort to make strides to living a healthier lifestyle, but her actions keep proving otherwise. She has signed up for a gym last October,  and it is February and she still hasn't step foot in the gym (not exaggerating). Today and yesterday she ate healthy dinners, but defeated that purpose when she went out for fast food. Last night she ate a  healthy tilapia dish, then her friends went out for food (3 hours later) and she accompanied them. I was surprised when she came home and had a chicken sandwich, fries, and a coke. Today she made a salad, which was followed up with nachos from another fast food restaurant 2 hours later. \n\nI managed to drop 50 pounds and consider myself fit. I run and lift daily, and I'm complimented for my figure time to time. I try to get her to just walk with me and she refuses. I just want her to put in the effort. \n\nI just want people to be impressed when I introduce her as my girlfriend, rather than the surprised look they make.", "summary": "Am I horrible for feeling this way?"}
{"id": "t3_2sfmu2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Why is PF so miserly/risk-averse?", "post": "When I think of the richest people I have ever met, they are not the sort of people who ever followed PF-style advice. The either (1) inherited wealth, or (2) are very risk-seeking.\n\nPF is very cost-focused, and that is fine. But, I think people fail to realize that many, many aspects of your own life contribute to your revenue generation. If you follow the risk-averse path of never accruing debt, choosing a safe career path, having children, driving cheap cars, etc. you are likely going to lead a comfortable life of mediocrity. \n\nAnd that is fine, but when I look around my own life, the most successful people I know take lots of risks. People who are management at my company were not employees that kept their head down and left every day at 5 -- no, they were and are actively involved in taking on new work and new responsibilities. The wealthiest people in my family tree were entrepreneurs -- those that were risk-averse did okay, but they never left anyone an inheritance. And among my friends from school -- those that were willing to risk everything are very successful. And those that weren't are just trucking in my hometown or very near it.\n\nSo what does everyone think -- is following PF advice \"giving up\" for a life of mediocre comfort?", "summary": "Risk is correlated with reward. You have to spend money to make money."}
{"id": "t3_504t1i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 18 months, having problems due to different sex drives.", "post": "Lately my girlfriend has been feeling rejected and resentful towards me because I'm often not in the mood to have sex when she tries to initiate it, and I rarely initiate sex, because....I straight up just don't like having sex. It's sweaty, it's tiring, I feel grimy afterwards, it comes with expectations, it's never as enjoyable as my boner promises it's going to be. \n\nOn the other hand, I love my girlfriend, she's a wonderful person, and the only person that I would willingly have sex with. \n\nMy question is as follows: Am I being unreasonable? Should I just suck it up and live with doing something I don't enjoy just to keep the peace?", "summary": "I don't like sex. Girlfriend is bummed out about my not reciprocating advances/never initiating sex. Should I just force myself to keep up just to keep her happy?"}
{"id": "t3_15id9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21M in a good relationship with 20F, think there might be somebody else I want to pursue, no idea what to do.", "post": "I'm currently in a healthy relationship with a girl I met at school. She's pretty smart, very nice, always laughing, very pretty, and we get along very well. We're very on the same page sexually, and although we don't have a ton of things in common, I enjoy being in this relationship with her quite a bit. We've been dating for almost 3 months now. \n\nFast forward to today, and I receive an email saying I got a message on an OkCupid account I had created about a year back and had largely forgotten about. I exchange a few messages with this girl (not flirting or anything) and it is soon very clear that this girl shares pretty much all of my interests and is enthusiastic about similar things. She sounds extremely intelligent, is very attractive, seems friendly, and most importantly seems to be happy doing the things that make me happy (introverted, prefers staying at home to going out on a friday night, likes games, movies, etc.).\n\nSo here's the problem. A part of me really wants to try it out with this girl and see what happens. I feel like it could be an amazing relationship. On the other hand, I'm terrified it won't be what I'm hoping it is and that I lose the great relationship I have right now. As bad as it may sound, I wish I could try it out with this other girl while staying in the relationship I'm in if it doesn't work out. But that's terrible. I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "In a great relationship that I don't want to lose, but very interested in another girl that I feel has the potential to be an amazing relationship. Terrified to lose what I have, and terrified to not experience what I COULD have"}
{"id": "t3_4tr3x1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 F] with my friend[13 F] for a year, I'm worried that shes going to develop an eating disorder.", "post": "Hi. So my friend has recently not been eating as much as she used to. She's at a normal weight I would say and doesn't have that much tummy. \n\nShe used to bring a roll or two to school but now she only brings apple slices and doesnt eat at recess. There has been a few instances where she says she doesnt feel hungry at all and wont eat. I don't know anything outside of school so I don't know how much she eats at home. I dont know if I am reading too much into it or not so I know I shouldn't assume things. \n\nSometimes she 'jokes' about how she doesn't eat anything anymore and I don't know what to say so I usually try to change the topic. But she's been saying so much self deprecating things as well (comments about how she wishes she was dead) that I dont know what to say.\n\nWe've also been going through eating disorders in class and watched this documentary about all the effects they have so she's not unaware of everything.\n\nWhat can I say to her when she says stuff like that? I dont know if I can change how much she eats but is there anything I could do to help her? And try not to suggest talking to someone because im not good at that and I dont think it would go down well with her.", "summary": "Friend hasnt been eating as much as she used to and im worried that it might develop into an eating disorder. How do I talk to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3r6g82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M]Ex kicked me [27F] out of our apartment.", "post": "[Original](\n\nSo about a month ago, I broke it to my then-boyfriend that I didn't think our relationship should continue. After some tears, he asked me to at least not start dating \"for a few weeks\" because he didn't think he could hear the thought of me with another guy without crying.\n\nI waited a solid month. Today I went to run some errands, which I told him about, and went on a date afterwards, which I did not tell him about. Halfway into the date he texts me asking where I am. I told him I'm on a date. He says some unpleasant things. \n\nI don't feel compelled to inform him of my whereabouts and company at all times, as I'm no longer his girlfriend and I've waited more than \"a few weeks\" to move on with my life. I get home and he tells me that I'm a horrible person and that I'm going to end up alone, and tells me to leave. I have time to grab some jeans, my laptop and some toiletries.\n\nGiven that this guy has a very violent nature, how do I go about extracting the rest of my stuff in a safe manner?", "summary": "ex kicked me out of our apartment. how do I get my stuff out without him attacking me?"}
{"id": "t3_17ilco", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [18/m] and my girlfriend [19/f] just broke up, and I can't let go..", "post": "We have bin dating for 9 month to the day we broke up, and it has only bin a short while since. I know its never easy to break up but this one just don't feel right.\n\nWell when we was together we always had fun, and a healthy sex life. But then came the 1-2 month before and she slowly started becoming less affected. We close to never kissed passionate anymore and our sex life went down the drain. And every time any thing were to happen  i always had to get it started, and many times without success. This ofc frustrated me, but i thougt to myself that she just needed some time. We later talked about it and she told me she didn't have the same feelings anymore. After while she told me that she didn't want to keep disappointing me by not returning the feelings and love i gave her. With then led to us breaking up. I know i cant force her to feel anything she don't. But is there anything i could do to make her get that feeling back. I love her very much and it just don't feel right giving up on it already. All i want is to get back together with her, she is the only thing that was going good in my life, even when she wasn't affected.\n\nI know there are other fish in the sea, and life goes on, and i'm still young. That's what every body is saying, that's not the advice i need.\n\nIgnore typos, not a good speller and English isn't my mother langue", "summary": "Me and girlfriend broke up. I'm heartbroken, and it doesn't feel right. I need to get her back but don't know how or if its possible."}
{"id": "t3_3vifmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] with my crush [19F] for 1 year", "post": "So i have a friend that i have had a crush  for a year or so, but she had a boyfriend. They were together for a year and 6 months(not sure abouth the months, but it was definitely more than a year and less than 2) and broke with him around halloween days. My sister is having her wedding next year(june 15 or so) but she needs to have the invitations list before december ends(dont know why). I want to invite my friend to the weeding, but i feel it is too soon since her breakup and i really care for her. I wanna be with her all the time, but i think  this will make her feel weird, commited, even remind her of the breakup or something, and that it'll push her away from me. I really care for her and dont want to make her feel bad or something, but i cant wait that much to invite her also.", "summary": "My crush just broke with her boyfriend a little more than a month ago, want to invite her to my sister's weeding that is next year, is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_coi1i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help with a girl I'm \"seeing\"", "post": "Wall of text (sorry):\nSo I met this girl who goes to the university I'm transferring through my cousin.  Since we started talking on facebook we have met about 5 times this summer doing very \"date-like\" activities (mini-golf, ice cream etc). The only thing is I have NO IDEA what she is thinking in terms of a relationship. She is not a very flirty person so I'm not getting signals either way from her.  Last week I went to the drive ins with her and I was planning on making some kind of move but I chickened out because once again I wasn't getting *clear* signals from her.  However, she was acting a little differently than usual.  She seemed a little more comfortable, we were making really good eye contact when talking and when we were watching the movies we were sitting right up against each other which was more than any other time we've seen each other.  So yeah...I probably should have made a move, but I didn't.  In any case I am seeing her again tomorrow and we are going to the boardwalk at a beach about an hour away.  Any advice on how to handle this whole situation? I don't want to make a failed move and risk losing her as a friend (I'm transferring schools so friends are at a premium).", "summary": "I'm seeing a girl tomorrow night who I've been hanging out with all summer, but hasn't been giving me clear signals.  I chickened out last time making a move, but I'm at a loss as to what I should do now because of the lack of signals from her. "}
{"id": "t3_3yyvjj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching YouTube at work", "post": "Some context: I valet for a hospital, specifically the employee's parking lot so if the parking lot is not full I do not do anything at all and and believe me this parking lot is never full I basically get paid to stand all day\n\nSo TIFU happened about 1 week ago. I was watching videos on my phone and bent my head down to block the sun's death ray of light from glaring the glass on my phone that was keeping me from learning how to origami in 1080p resolution and apparently some snitch ass lady reported me to human resource for sleeping on the job because she couldn't see that my eyes were open and it got around to the head of HR and even to the mothafucking director of the hospital so today my supervisor called me saying they were letting me go since the hospital doesn't want people like me working for them (just because I'm Asian) at first I thought it was a prank because I was pretty cool with most employees working there so I guessed it must have been that crazy white lady who I've seen telling everybody what to do and thinks she owns the place(she's just a receptionist)....so now as I guess I can sleep in on Monday \n\nHappy New Years!", "summary": "was watching utube at work and got reported by a crazy lady who works at the hospital for sleeping on the job and now I'm job less"}
{"id": "t3_29pwoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's my [F/21] best chance of getting him [M/26] to talk to me?", "post": "Last Saturday me and my ex broke up. We had an incredible bond with each other. But his work had been taking him out of town every week for nearly our entire 6 month relationship. \n\nAnd when he was home on the weekends he had all these family obligations so we hardly got to see each other. When he ended it he told me he loved me and kissed me goodbye... He told me that I should be with someone who could give me everything I deserve and said we would talk \"SOON.\"\n\nToday I ran into a bit of a crisis. I found this helpless baby animal and wasn't sure what to do with it. He was always good with stuff like that so I texted him and he replied immediately.\n\nAfter we were finished talking about the situation I asked if we could talk soon about us and told him that it would mean a lot to me to end things on better terms and that I also needed my apartment key back.\n\nNo reply.\n\nI'm not sure what to do... He was my first love and the guy I gave my virginity to and I know if I don't talk to him it will take me ten times longer to heal because I have questions only he can answer. \n\nWhat's the best way to handle this situation? He replied to help me but stopped texting back when I asked when we could talk. I know if I keep texting him that wouldn't be good... but if I want him to talk to me how should I handle this? \n\nI'm afraid if I wait too long it will never happen. I could just show up at his house but I want a mutually agreed upon talk.", "summary": "Ex texted me after break up but stopped texting back when I asked if we could talk about us. What's the best way to get him to talk to me? Should I just leave him be for a few weeks."}
{"id": "t3_1y1p9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my first group of friends [20s, mostly M] of several months, my feelings of rejection.", "post": "my parents were very strict growing up.  I never had friends. ever.  because of this,  I am very socially awkward and easily depressed and that has caused me to not have friends even after I moved out to college abd could go where I pleased.  \n\nfinally,  I met my boyfriend who has been very understanding and helped me very much with my depression.  his roommates (and one roommates gf) have welcomed me to their group and for the first time I have friends.  It's a new feeling for me.  one roommate I've kind of had a rocky time with,  since we are both stubborn and believe very different things,  But for the most part we get along fine.  I finally have a group of friends.  in the past two weeks,  the rocky roommate has gotten a new girl he's interested in and she's here all the time.  everyone likes her a lot (she seems nice) but I've been kinda left out since.  \n\nI'm unsure of what to do.  I know this is probably 90% in my head and 10% their actual behavior but I am getting anxiety and depression over losing the first group of people I've ever been friends with.  I suddenly feel unappreciated and ugly and unfunny and unwelcome and antisocial.  I know it's my fault but I can't understand why and I want to fix it.  for the most part,  no one has done anything to justify me THIS bad. \n\nDo any of you have some perspective or advice or books I could read that could help?", "summary": "i fear my social anxiety is going to ruin the first friendships I've ever had."}
{"id": "t3_448mdr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23F] My Boyfriend Told Me His [22M] Ex [22F] Hit Him", "post": "My boyfriend we're dating for 9 months and have strong feelings for each other, just over a week ago he opened up to me about issues in a past relationship. His girlfriend was very controlling, telling him he's not allowed to have friends of opposite sex, and has punch him and stuff like that, it really upset me and I was very empathetic with him when he told me that. I care about him a lot and I found her Instagram and where she lives, and I want to confront her. Would it be better to show up there and speak to her, or to just message her? I haven't told my boyfriend about it, but I really want to talk to her because it angers me that she'd do that to him. I'm worried if I tell him in advance then he'll not want me to do it, but I really want to talk to her. He means a lot to me, I feel kind of intimidated because I'm skinny and weak, she works out and stuff. But I really want to confront her. I've only lived in America for a few years so I'm not all that familiar with the customs here, so I think it maybe seems like I'm over reacting but I care for him a lot? I think I could get her to apologize to him, and she'll probably realize how horrible what she did is. Should I do it? What should I say to her?", "summary": "My boyfriend had an abusive girlfriend, and he opened up to me about their relationship. I found out where she lives and I want to confront her."}
{"id": "t3_yfvkq", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do I get good and angry? I am just sad, and can't move on this way. -31f-", "post": "When my ex (26m) and I broke things off for good at the end of June, after six months, he said some incredibly hurtful things to me. \n\nThe one that sticks out the most is that he said I was terrible in bed. I cannot shake the feelings of inadequacy and sadness this left me with. Even though I *know* that a) this is the equivalent of women telling their exes \"you have a small dick\", and b) he actually took it back. He admitted we had good sex. \n\nI have always been somewhat self-conscious about my oral sex skills, and this just confirmed it for me. It was like a bullet to the heart. Even after he took it back, I knew that there was truth to it. And every time I think about it, I cry. I'm crying right now.\n\nIt's this huge blow to where I felt the most inadequate that is just eating me up emotionally. I feel like I just need to get angry at him for being such a bastard (he admitted he only said it to make me angry at him). But I can't get angry. I just get really sad. I try not to think about it too much, but sometimes I think about it and get really bummed out. I just want to get pissed off and write him off for purposefully hurting me. \n\nLuckily, this isn't effecting my sex life, or my current relationship, except for secret feelings of disloyalty that I'm still so hung up on something my ex said during an otherwise routine breakup. It's really unfair to me and my new beau to be so sad about a stupid comment from an ex.\n\nI don't know if anyone can help, but I'm all for mind games I can play with myself to turn the hurt into anger or indignation. Or effective ways to deal with and let go of sadness; I'm much better at dealing with anger than with sadness.", "summary": "my ex-boyfriend told me I suck in bed; I want to be angry but my ego is so bruised it just makes me cry when I think about it. How to turn sadness --> anger?"}
{"id": "t3_486w49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] am having doubts and feel as if I'm growing apart from my high school sweetheart [17F].", "post": "We've been together for 2 years and some change. We've experienced a lot. We lost our virginities to each other, we're each others first long term relationship. We talk about the future often. About kids and places to live and travel. She's a very special girl and I really do love her . \n\n     I'm in college now, and she's still a senior in high school. It's been hard for both of us. We both get sad at times. Every time I leave her from a visit I end up crying. But it's come to the point now in which I feel as if we would both be better off without having to deal with these feelings. \n\n     Whenever we're both stressed out over something, whether it be school or work or family, it adds extra stress and negative feelings onto the other person. As her boyfriend I know I'm supposed to be there for her and all, but it's gotten to the point where my emotions have been to much to handle lately. On top of college work, it's been rough. \n\n     I need some advice. In the end, I feel as if we need to take a break, and see if seeing other people, or even taking a break from seeing anyone at the moment would be the best for both of us mentally.", "summary": "I'm in college and in a long distance relationship with my still-in-high-school gf. Constant arguing with her and stress built on top of school work is getting to be too much for me. It's gotten to the point in which I think taking a break from relationships would be best for me."}
{"id": "t3_s9zrn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever had a teacher who purposely tried to screw you over? If so, how did you deal with him/her", "post": "I believe I have one on my hands right now. My biology teacher has extreme bias towards the artistic students. He seems to be basically making Biology (a topic I love) into art (Which I suck at.) He also purposely embarrasses if I do the slightest thing wrong. We recently had a project which involved a complex graph. I had done the graph, he took off (I shit you not) THIRTY points because one of my lines was not straight. I know he isn't just an artistic freak, because these types of things happen all the time in his class with me. I asked for an explanation and he just shot down my request.", "summary": "My biology teacher screws me over because my artwork isn't good (but its a BIOLOGY CLASS)  He took off 30 points, he is purposely trying to screw me. How did you deal with a teacher like this, if you have ever had one?"}
{"id": "t3_2g21y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22F) have had a realization about my ex (22M) and was wondering if anyone has ever had the same realization.", "post": "I am having some strange feelings right now about my ex (22M) who I was with for 3 years and have been apart from since December (he broke it off btw). So we live in a college town that is pretty small so I tend to run into him what seems like a lot. \n\nThe other day some one mentioned to me that I should look into why the fact that he is in a new relationship still upsets me cause it has been awhile. So I sat down and made a list and I realized why it is such a sore subject. It was so simple to and obvious I was actually surprised. I was upset cause I thought he would of chosen me not her. I was upset cause the person I thought I knew wasn't real, he didn't exist anymore and who knows if he ever existed. The guy I loved was just an idea of who I thought he was, and sadly he wasn't that person. Cause the guy I knew would of chose me and would never have abandon me.\n\nWhen I was walking to class today I actually saw him and we exchanged a wave to each other. But this time when I saw him it felt different usually I get this knot in my stomach and wish I could just disappear and usually I want to cry. But this time it was different I just felt disappointed in him. Looking at him he wasn't the same guy that I was proud to call mine once. He was different and it was disappointing to see someone I had once swore I knew better then myself become someone that I couldn't tell you anything about. \n\nPeople change I know, but I guess you just never think the person you had loved would change on you. \n\nI wont lie I still want to talk to him more often then not cause I miss him. But it does help a little to realize that the person I want isn't there anymore so it gives me some sort of minimal closure. Has anyone experienced something like this and has it helped them move on or at least feel better?", "summary": "saw my ex and had a realization moment about why I am still upset."}
{"id": "t3_3oyl4x", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "College is slowly making me hate my passion. Any advice?", "post": "I'm currently in my third year as a mechanical engineering student, and I'm completely at the end of my rope. I have been battered by the stress of this major for so long, that it has made me cynical towards my school, lose interest in my studies, and generally learn to hate engineering. I came in to learn how to make my passion for design and problem solving into a marketable profession, yet I have so far only learned to solve physics and math problems. Almost none of my classes teach me how to actually engineer and design products for market. I just need some advice on how to stay positive, or any testimonial from someone going through the same thing. I don't want to quit as I know I love the work once I'm in the field (loved my internship work), but I just cant see myself doing this for another two years without burning out completely. Any advice?", "summary": "College is making me hate my dream profession"}
{"id": "t3_1wi6tw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm afraid of becoming involved with someone again. Personal issue", "post": "I'm a 25 year old male. For the last 4 years I've been afraid of getting involved with women.\n\nIt startes after I fell head over heals for a girl in college, for four years at school I was crazy about her but it was never returned.\nAfter we left school she seemed to be more interested in me than before, we started to see each other often after work and eventually became physical, we never had sex but there was intense forplay most times I saw her.\n\nThis lasted for about 4 months, just fooling around nothing to serious. I decided I wanted to take it further and become more involved with each other. She came over and we started to talk, I let her know I care about her a lot and she said the same, when I asked if she wanted to be my girlfriend for real she said \"I don't know\".\n\nNow at the time I was crazy about her, when I asked what she means by \"I don't know\" she just repeated it. I asked if she wanted to keep doing what we were doing and it was the same answer. After talking more it became clear we were not on the same level, I broke it off and she went home.\n\nI had a period of deep depression for a while afterwards, it hurt to not be loved back but I got through it eventually. Since then I've had one summer fling, nothing serious just a few weeks but since that I've been afraid of getting involved again.\n\nIs there anyone that might be able to relate to this and can offer some words to help?", "summary": "serious depression after shotlrt relationship where feelings were not mutual, resulted in me with a fear of comitment."}
{"id": "t3_476il4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my coworker/crush [24 F] of 1 month, Need help with phrasing", "post": "About a month ago I started a new job and was almost immediately...smitten, I guess you could say, with one of my coworkers. She and I clicked from the first time we talked. We just seem to be insanely compatible with each other (similar philosophy, similar interests, etc.) and it became apparent very quickly that the interest was mutual.\n\nWe went on one date last week that actually went really well. We saw a movie and she had to leave pretty quickly after, which at first was really disappointing, but we ended up texting almost nonstop for the next 2 days (only breaks were when either of us were on the job or sleeping).\n\nHere comes the issue and thus, the reason for my post. She told me the day after our date that she went through a kinda messy breakup not that long ago and last night she said she just wasn't ready to really date anyone yet. She was self-aware enough to note how lame her \"it's not you it's me\" explanation was. The way she explained both her feelings and her previous breakup, I am inclined to believe her.\n\nSo, right off the bat, I am totally fine with her saying she is not ready. If she is not in a good place emotionally, it would only hurt any relationship in the long run anyway. And we agreed that we both still wanted to be friends because we are so on the same wavelength.\n\nWhat I am asking for is how best to tell her that I am still interested if and when she is ever ready? Im not saying that i will \"wait for her til the end of time,\" or anything so dramatic, just that i do really like her and want her to know that i hope she gets to a good place where we could at least give it a go. I just don't know if there is a good way to put that idea into words without it coming off as obsessive or pressuring.\n\nSo yea, if anyone has a good way to approach this I'm all ears. I work with her again tomorrow, so if I don't get anything that helps by then I might just wing it.", "summary": "Crush wants to wait on possible relationship. How do I tell her I'm here when she is ready?"}
{"id": "t3_2xti6f", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "My explanation of my work gap history retracted my interview?!!?", "post": "Okay so I have a work gap which is a year. It all started when I worked as a seasonal sales at Bestbuy and I didn't get placed to part time because the department that I work at was full. Since then I haven't been looking for jobs because my dad said we might be moving out to a different state.  \n I got a phone call the other day saying that they would like for me to come in the next day for an in-person interview for I'm guessing for an AA job I applied at. But it was through a website that helps you search for jobs called OfficeTeam. The interviewer then asked what's going on with my work gap. So I said along the lines of \" My dad told my family that we might be moving to another state so I've withdrew from the job search since I don't want to work for like a month and just quit. But now my dad got a job offer to work overseas and held off on moving, so we might move in a few years or never.\"  \nAfter that the lady said I'm sorry we might not be the resources you need but we will try to help you still blah blah blah. And I said so that means I don't have to show up tomorrow? And she said yes. That was it. I guess I'm no longer considered for the position.  \nSorry for the long post I'm just dumbfounded I can't explain any more as it is the truth and I have an interview for a job at Bestbuy tomorrow and I'm not sure how to approach the work gap history. Please I need your help!!!", "summary": "Got an interview on the phone saying to come in the next day for an in-person interview, explained my work gap and then I suddenly don't have to show up for the interview.  "}
{"id": "t3_1hnbu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17M/F] with my GF [16M/F] of 2 months, great when together not communicating apart, help?", "post": "Ok first off the basic problem is that when were together it's dynamite we hit it off it goes really well yet when were apart i sometimes don't hear from her for days.\n\n Im not the type of guy who wants to text you all day just one text to let me know your not dead and that you at least you remember i exist. If i text her a question about plans she will usually answer but if i give her the choice like \"if your free this day or that txt me\" she almost never does i always have to lead plan making. \n\nIts not that shes not into me believe me guys and gals :) she says that she does not like to be on her phone a lot but i dont think what i want is to much to ask how do o fix this anyone\n\n else have a girl lile this?", "summary": "Great When Hanging out Distant until we hangout again"}
{"id": "t3_3hvtyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mum [41f] wants me [18m] to live with her after uni and get a house together.", "post": "I'm 18 and live with my mum along with my sister who is 19. My mum is divorced and receives a relatively low salary every month but does get plenty of benefits and has quite a bit in savings.\n\nI love my mum, she has literally provided me with everything I want and need (within limits ofcourse). However she has certain 'rules' that I must follow like never drinking alcohol due to previous experience and her upbringing and also no drugs. These I understand but I do not agree with so I do not follow (without her knowledge)\n\nAnyway the point is, my lovely mother who has raised me with everything I want, wants me to stay with her after uni, and into adulthood. When I start earning, she wants us to get a house together so if I ever get married my wife would have to come live with us which is really not what I want. I feel so bad for saying this as she has given me plenty throughout my childhood, she always let me go out, hardly ever said no to anything I wanted to do/get. Yet I don't really want to do this. She is a Hindu and still has a few traditional viewpoints on life, however I am an athiest. It is relatively normal in our culture for younger kids to take care of their parents after they start working and live with them, but personally I prefer to live alone; she sort of just expects me to live with her after uni?\n\nI know plenty of you may be wondering why I am worrying about this considering I have not even started uni yet, but I just need to know how to handle this now and let her know my feelings without offending her. I don't want to be stuck in a situation where I have no choice :(\n\nBy the way I have no problem in living on my own and providing for her separately, but I have no idea about how to go on having this conversation with her.", "summary": "Mum want's me to stay with her into adulthood, I don't want to but don't know how to go on about it talking to her because I feel like absolute shit."}
{"id": "t3_3vvzjb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Is this creepy?", "post": "Hi everyone. I am a first year student at university and recently I have taken a liking to this girl in one of my classes. For the past couple classes we have sat in close proximity to each other and shared some small talk. The conversations weren't anything out of the ordinary but I do believe there is something between us. Unfortunately, being the shy one that I am, I have waited until the absolute last moment to act. In doing so, it seems she has taken her exam early and left with a week left of classes. We are in two completely separate field and being in a big university I think there is a slim chance of us seeing each other again. Using a quick Facebook search I was able to find her thanks to my hall mate being a mutual friend with her and I (If not I don't believe I would have found her). So my question is, would messaging her asking for her number and a date be creepy? If not how would I go about asking?", "summary": "Might not see a girl I am interested in again after having short conversations. Would Facebook messaging her be creepy?"}
{"id": "t3_x5gtc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "High school senior giving up on science (need advice on career path)", "post": "Hey reddit, i recently acknowledged that pursuing a career in science would not work out for me, i need help deciding what other degrees i can work towards.\n \n    giving up on: geology or engineering (can't seem to get good marks in Physics/Chemistry/Biology)\n    I enjoy the sciences quite a bit, however the marks i receive in highschool (gr.12) will mean i cannot make a            \n    career out of it. I am now victory lapping grade 12 (taking it again for better marks) and don't want to take   \n    the three courses mentioned above again and do horribly. Enlighten me on my career options reddit, thankyou :) \n\n    requirements: (not really required, just to give you guys an idea of what i'm looking for, however throw them        \n    all at me)\n\n    money\n\n    outdoors/travel", "summary": "exploring career options that make good money and allow me to be outdoors and travel. (non science related)"}
{"id": "t3_1u8231", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am very indecisive about my [18M] ex boyfriend.", "post": "We dated for 2 years, but I recently (about 2 months ago) ended things after having doubts. Within the first year, he started showing qualities that I really couldn't accept (waaaay over excessive weed use, won't ever come around my family, dropped out of high school, extreme jealousy) & I constantly begged him to work on it. \nWhen some of his own family issues arose, I pushed off everything I asked him to work on, and concentrated on making only him happy. Now, a year down the road from then, I've realized how unhappy I am in the relationship. After ending things with him, he has begged for another chance, promising to do everything I always asked of him. But I feel as if it's almost too little too late, and my feelings just aren't there anymore. I'm also enjoying the freedom of being single and being able to text/talk to other guys without any guilt. (Haven't crossed the line of seeing anyone else yet, but even texting other guys on a regular basis is a weird step for me). \n\nI still tend to have twinges of feelings for my ex, feeling like I could love him again and we could fix things, almost daily. But they only last a short while and are quickly replaced by doubts. We still hang out very frequently & I am having a hard time refraining from physical contact, as is he. (Nothing sexual, just hand holding/cuddling etc).\nI know that he completely loves me, and it shatters my heart watching him break down every time I'm around. He was always 100% loyal to me, and cared about me more than anything. I want to still be there for him but I'm not sure I want to be in a relationship. \n\nDo these doubts mean I no longer love him? Do the small twinges of love that come back mean that I do still love him? Am I just stringing him along & hurting him more in the end? Should I break all contact and let him move on? Help :(", "summary": "broke up with boyfriend of 2 years when I began to have doubts in our relationship. We are each other's best friends, and he doesn't really have anyone else, am I hurting him more by sticking around, or saving him?"}
{"id": "t3_wbxt1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] Should I tell my boyfriend [19/m] that someone else is interested?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. He's really sweet and I don't want to upset him but recently someone from work (Gah! Don't they say 'Never date a coworker'?) asked me if I wanted to 'do something sometime'. I do want to be friends with this guy and he knows I have a boyfriend. We're going on a hike after work this week and I'm pretty sure he knows that it doesn't mean anything. I feel weird though. I'm definitely not going to break up with my boyfriend for this guy, even if I do break up with him eventually due to other strains, because that's a shitty reason to leave someone. Help me, reddit. I don't know where to go with this.", "summary": "I'm going hiking (alone) with some guy who asked me out while I have a boyfriend. Do I tell my boyfriend or leave him in the dark so he doesn't freak out?"}
{"id": "t3_1opcm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F, college freshman] have hangups about drug use that I can't get over. Involves a [19M] (2 months).", "post": "I'm a freshman in college, and I have issues with daily drug use. I have absolutely no problem when friends do it, but I always get uncomfortable when romantic interests use it on a daily basis.\n\nAaaand I'm right now kind of pseudo-dating a [19M] who smokes. \n\nNow, we've have a discussion about this. I told him that I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who smoked every day. He promised to only smoke on the weekends, and that he wouldn't want to jeopardize a potential relationship with me simply because he wanted to get high and play GTA.\n\nThat worked for about a week. \n\nIt's Thursday. He's high. He got high yesterday. And the day before. \n\nI don't want to be his parole officer. I don't want to feel ostracized from the person that I should be able to feel close to. But I also want to know if my feelings towards marijuana use are justified, and if I should be making more of a concerted effort to overcome them instead of immediately ruling out people just because of it. \n\nI would really, seriously appreciate any advice people could give me. I'm just kind of cranky about this whole situation right now.", "summary": "I [18F] am okay with recreational drug use but viscerally not okay with daily drug use. He promised to cut back, but that didn't work for long. How do I deal with this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4klup0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) have to work with a woman (32F) who tried to get my boyfriend (24M) to cheat on me.", "post": "So this woman named Jane tried to seduce me boyfriend (of 3 years) a year ago. We all work for the same company but in different departments. Now she's going to be working in the same department as I am. \n\nHistory, Jane was a good friend of ours. We all played volleyball together and we got this job because of her. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half before we started with this company. 2 years into the relationship, she started flirting with him and sending him nudes and basically sexting. I start work with her tmrw and I have no idea how to even act. My boss has no idea that I do not trust this woman what so ever. \n\nShould I ask to be put in a different department, look for a new job, or just suck it up and work with a woman who tried to destroy my still on going relationship.", "summary": "Working with a woman who tried to seduce my boyfriend. Don't know what to do. HELP"}
{"id": "t3_2ddcvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) feel used after a one time hookup that I had (22F)", "post": "I met a girl on Tinder. I know it's not the idea place to find a relationship but I started chatting with a girl and we really hit it off. We chatted for a few days and decided to meet of for drinks. The date went really well. Probably one of the best dates I've been on. We decided that she'd come over a couple of days later and we would hang out and watch movies. We end up hooking up, which I wasn't really even going for, she kind of pushed for it. Everything was cool after, she didn't end up staying the night but we did establish we'd see each other within a couple of days. The next day I text her and she's not really as responsive as before and says that she really enjoys hangin out with me but she doesn't want to get into anything serious right now. After this I feel like she's starting to fade. I go 3 days without hearing from her and get this today:\n\n\"Hey I'm soooo sorry I've fallen off the face of the earth! In a life plot twist, I've kind of had some personal shit go down...you're such a great guy and that's why this sucks but I don't think I'm in the right place to start hanging out with someone right now. I had a great time hanging out with you though, I'm so sorry \"\n\nI'm glad she actually responded to me but I'm having a really hard time getting over the situation. I realize she owes nothing to me and that maybe she just wanted a one time thing but it's the first time something like this has happened to me. Part of me feels used and let down. She was super cool and seemed really interested and then out of nowhere she faded off and sends me that. I'm not sure if I should let it go all together or if I should try to see how she's doing in a couple of weeks.", "summary": "had a great date. Hooked up a couple of days later. She isn't at a point in her life for anything like this right now and I feel used and hurt."}
{"id": "t3_ijcrg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Portfolio Recovery Associates: What was your experience and how did you deal with them?", "post": "Back when I was 17, my dad opened a credit card account in my name over the internet. Over the next year, he maxed out the $1000 dollar limit. I didn't know about the credit card existence for some time and when I did, I demanded my dad pay off all the debt and he said he would. He never did. This has lead to the debt being bought and me being summoned to court. I foolishly turned to my dad again to take care of it and he said he did; he lied.\n\nI'm now 21 and trying to make a life for myself. I've ceased all contact with my dad except for emailing, even then it's only about the legal issues. I found out who bought out the debt and it was none other than the PRA. I've called them to say the credit card was opened illegally and my identity was stolen, but they decided to hang up on me instead. I've heard some nasty stories about their calling practices, but luckily, I have only gotten one phone call from them and oddly it was when the woman who was handling my file was out for a lunch break.\n\nAfter a quick Google search, it's obvious these guys are bad news and a pain in the ass to work with. If anyone has had to deal with them before, what was your experience? If you succeeded on making them leave you alone, how did you do it?", "summary": "Stolen identity. Getting fucked. Don't want to be fucked. How did the other fucked stop themselves being fucked?"}
{"id": "t3_2ku63z", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "5''3, 137-140lbs. started at 163lbs and need to lose 10-15lbs more until \"goal weight\", or just general happiness: need advice about meal prep!", "post": "i've been a long-time lurker in this subreddit (and reddit, in general), and need some advice on good meal prep containers. the only ones i've been able to find at the store are the gladeware ones without any separated compartments and just one jumbo container where my food would just slosh around all the time.\n\nbasically i'm looking for containers that have compartments, are BPA free, relatively sturdy, leak-proof, and hold a moderate amount of food. \n\ni guess what i'm wondering is if any of you have preferable brands or recommend anything specifically, or have tips and tricks for general meal prep. i usually pack lunches at school but i'm usually in classes/at work from around 7:30-10/11pm and am getting frustrated with the types of food i'm able to bring because of my container situation.", "summary": "i need food prep recommendations that are sturdy, bpa-free, have separate compartments, and hold a decent amount of food. any help is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_4244ci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] broke up with my girlfriend [24 F] of 6 years and now contemplating my feelings for good friend.", "post": "Last week I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years. We had things going on and off but then at one point, we mutually felt that it was not leading anywhere and decided to call it off. \n\nObviously, I was shocked but I felt this day was going to come so I guess I had mentally prepared myself. However, whenever I felt low, I found solace in a friend, let's call her Maria, who recently has become very dear to me. Before, you judge me, let me tell you that I am an introvert and I rarely open up to someone with ease. However, it was different with her. I've known her for at 1 and a half years and we have been good friends since then. I have not had any feelings for her when I was in a relationship. In fact, she has been in 2 relationships during this time and so I have been there to help her as well. \n\nNow, I have been talking to this friend far more than what I used to before. I enjoy talking to her and we get along really well. However, I'm not sure if I am in the right mindset to have feelings for someone else cos I just got out of a long term relationship. I feel that these feelings that I have for her are temporary and might eventually subside. On other hand, I really enjoy being that phase again. Sometimes I feel she is flirting with me - the occasional touch my biceps, accidentally hold my hand while handing me something. I may be over-complicating this; I'm really not sure. Moreover, I am not sure if she has feelings for me as well? I feel it is too big of a risk to bluntly go after her as she would sense it to be a rebound and I do not want to jeopardize my friendship. \n\nSo Reddit, can you please guide me to what should I do? Could give me ideas that would hint that she's into me? Being friends with her is very easy. It's just that I feel I can be so much more.", "summary": "Got out of a long relationship and contemplating whether I'm getting into another one too fast!"}
{"id": "t3_3348ss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M] with my gf [19F] 1 year, I find it very hard to open up emotionally, and it hurts her.", "post": "I'm an extremely logical person, and I'm passionate about certain particular things: language, philosophy and literature. So much so to the point where I'm borderline neurotic (if I don't understand something fully, or if it interests me greatly, I will often not stop until I've achieved whatever I've wanted to achieve. Here's an example: I'm studying French, but I got frustrated at not understanding all the grammar, so I spent 3 days, 10 hours minimum each day, studying the entire grammar book.\n\nI'm in a long distance relationship and we talk regularly. She admitted yesterday that she doesn't feel warmth from me, I come across as quite cold to her, as I (unintentionally) direct the majority of our conversations towards my interests. Admittedly, she is more interested in me than I her, but that doesn't mean we don't feel the same way for each other.\n\nI don't have a high emotional intelligence. I'm good in social interactions, but romantically, I almost explicitly express my feelings through love, or humour.\n\nI really want to improve my emotional intelligence, but I don't know how. I want to make her feel appreciated. I would like to talk about how I feel and not just ideas, but the words don't come. To be blunt, with regards to these aspects, I'm emotionally retarded.", "summary": "I'm extremely abstract and, although willing,  I find it hard to associate with my gf on a deeper emotional level."}
{"id": "t3_4rvgmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't want to end my relationship, but I feel like I have to", "post": "so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year on august 23. We love each other a lot but we both have major family issues that have caused us to have problems in relationships. I am the type of person that wants attention and wants to give attention. Since college ended a few months ago my separation anxiety has reached an all time high. The thing is is his family issues has caused him to become very unattached in relationships and he often pushes me away. No matter how many times i bring up the fact that all I need is a few texts a day he still cannot manage when he realizes hes getting too close. Another issue I have is the fear of being cheated on because I have been before. Although I don't believe he has ever cheated on me he does things that really bother me. He posts a bunch of pictures with other girls (that are his friends and that's fine), but he cant even like my pictures. He always opens my snaps and rarely ever replies. It stupid little things, but thats why I cant understand why they cant be done. I figure this is just the kind of stuff you do in relationships and he wont. I am at the point where the little things are bothering me so much that I don't know if I can do it anymore. I love him more than I have ever loved another person, but I cant handle always feeling ignored and abandoned. I have told him multiple times that he needs to communicate or we can't be in the relationship anymore, but it only gets better for a week. When I am with him in person everything is perfect, its just the week or so away everything goes go crap and we either dont talk or i get upset and go on a rampage about how he never talk to me and needs to. Any advice, I really do not want to break up with him, but I will do what I need to to take care of myself. (BTW we are both 19, and im a girl and hes a guy)", "summary": "No communication, I need it, he doesn't want it. Should I give up or fight through?"}
{"id": "t3_3oggp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] trying to right my wrongs with past relationships and move on with my life", "post": "I was in a relationship for the past 4 years with a woman, Bess, who I felt very comfortable around and grew accustomed to the relationship I had. However, it wasn't very emotionally or physically satisfying or motivating, so about a couple months ago, I tried seeking solace in fantasies. About that time, a close long-distance family friend (non-related), Stella, told me she liked me, I began fantasizing about this illicit relationship. Around a month ago, I broke up with Bess and tried going out with Stella, but found out that my fantasies were not reality, but in the process, screwed up both relationships with these two women.\n\nWith Bess, there was the sense of emotional infidelity, and with Stella, due to the recent nature of the break-up with Bess, seemed more like a rebound relationship. Being around Bess for so long, I grew accustomed to being very physically intimate and imposed that onto Stella, who did not reciprocate and felt very insecure about the rapid progression of our relationship. Reflecting back, I now feel very scummy about the way I treated both of them.\n\nRight now I'm not looking to get back together with either of them, but I just want to bridge the gap between these two relationships. I severely f'd up... I'm trying to give them both time and space, but I want to rectify my wrongs with both Bess and Stella so I can move on from my guilt. Reflecting upon my actions, I feel very immature and indecisive, but would like to grow as a person so that I don't do stupid things of this caliber again.", "summary": "Guilty over my emotional infidelity with woman #1 and over the top physical intimacy with woman #2 strained both of these relationships. I want to rectify my wrongs so that I can forgive myself and move on."}
{"id": "t3_xfukh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do all my Prince Charmings become Gollums in the morning after sex?", "post": "Am I normal? I am a girl who is looking to settle down - therefore I am meeting lots of new people of all different nationalities and cultures, socioeconomic backgrounds, getting to know lots of interesting people on the dating scene. The problem is that after we've eliminated the not-suitable suitors and the er... current love interest and I get to the point where we are crazy attracted to each other and get down to do the woogie-boogie, everything suddenly changes and I see them in a new light the next day. \n\nExample: They turn their heads towards me, pupils dilated and smile across their face and all I can think of is 'They look and smell horrible in the morning, wtf was I thinking?' - Is this normal? (No alcohol involved!)\n\nNo, sex is not bad. No, we do not have sex too early - earliest was date 6. \n\nMaybe I should just save sex for after marriage. \n\nThoughts anyone?", "summary": "Why do all my Prince Charmings become Gollums in the morning after we make love?"}
{"id": "t3_qccq4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your view on using the word \"retarded?\"", "post": "I didn't even know it was a problem until someone gave me shit for it.\n\nI was hanging out with a friend, who at the time just came back from a retreat that taught people about social justice. I don't say the word often because I simply lost it in my everyday vocabulary, but it just slipped. So my friend stops me and begins giving me a lecture about how its \"insensitive and wrong.\" I'm not sure if she was just on a high from her retreat or if she actually does care about the use of the word; either way I flipped the shit when she started preaching to me. \n\nI don't understand why it has to be a big deal. I Google it and theres tons of sites dedicated to getting you to stop using the word. It all seems like soccer moms needing something to make themselves feel like a better person and becoming over sensitive. If you can convince me please do; just don't give me the \"it's wrong because there are people who are really retarded.\" Do we even call retarded people retarded anymore? I thought we started saying mentally challenged.", "summary": "Friend calls me out on saying retarded. What's the big deal, sticks and stones."}
{"id": "t3_2jhh9f", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Sometimes it's just hard", "post": "I've only had one girlfriend in my life. We were together for almost 7 months and I loved her. I lost my virginity to her, even though she was way younger than me and (I think) wasn't a virgin herself. She cheated and broke up with me about a year ago, and I was pretty down for a long time, specially since we had a shitty breakup and she kept being an asshole after it. Just as an example, the last time I saw her IRL and heard her voice we we're still together.\n\nThese last few months, though, I moved on. When I found out she had unfriended me on Facebook, something I meant to do if she kept popping up in the chat suggestions, I found it hilarious. I laughed and joked and was okay with it. Deleted her number, threw away stuff of hers I had lying around and generally forgot about her. This last week, though, has been tough. I was looking through pics I was tagged in on Instagram, saw one she posted when we were together and (stupidly) opened her page. The last pic she had posted was mocking those cliche poses girls take pictures in and, the thing is, she looks great on it. She was never that hot, to be honest, but that pic makes her look much better than usually and it reminded me about our time together. That very pic was an example of the kind of arrogant person she is, acting superior just for not taking pics like that, but it did bring me down again.\n\nI've been very needy lately, specially concerning women and sex, and I keep remembering our nights together and it is honestly putting me down big time. Sometimes, like now, it gets hard.\n\nI don't know if I had a point with all this but I guess I didn't so there it is - off my chest. Thanks for anyone who reads this for your attention to my petty problems.", "summary": "got over a bad breakup but loneliness sometimes gets a bit too hard and drags me down again."}
{"id": "t3_2nzcaj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Making Hot Chocolate.", "post": "When I was 10 years old, one of my best friends came over and asked me if I wanted to go to the forest with him, his little brother, and my little brother. (His brother was 8, mine was 9, and they were also best friends.) Suddenly, I had an idea: \"Hey guys! Since it's cold out (it was during the winter) you should both bring a thermos over and il give you some hot chocolate for it so we can drink it in the forest!\" \"You know what, that sounds like a GREAT idea! Il go and get mine!\" So him and his little brother left. When they came back, we filled up our 4 METAL thermos' with milk, and stuck them in the microwave for 3 minuets. When they were done, we took them out and they were still cold, so we put them back in for 5 minuets this time. 2 minuets in, my little bro screamed. I looked, and my friends little brothers thermos was on fire. My micro wave ended up stop working, and my parents came home and got so mad at me. We never fixed our microwave after that.", "summary": "Made some hot chocolate in a metal thermos, set the microwave on fire."}
{"id": "t3_33m2aw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure what she is wanting from me Me: [19M] Her: [19F]", "post": "We've been going back and forth for a few days now after she out-of-the-blue said she wanted to take my virginity. She acts very fond toward me in person, and kissed me a couple days ago.\n\nQuotation marks mark what she is saying.\n\n\"I wish we could just hang out :)\"\n\nI can't speak for russell but we can hang out whenever you want.\n\n\"No me and you:) lol\"\n\nI'll come any time you ask. :)\n\n\"Come over lol\"\n\nI'd need your address so I know how to get there.\n\n[insert a strange hour long break in communication after all those texts before were within minutes of each other]\n\n\"Lol you'd really come to\"\n\nIf you want.\n\n\"Your so sweet :)...\"\n\nWhat can I say...lol\n\n\"Lol would you leave me for Allison [weird girl we work with]\"\n\nLol no.\n\n\"I hope so lol\"\n\n\"I am alone lol just fyi\"\n\nThe thing I'm confused about is that she stalled for quite a long time after I responded to \"Come over lol\" and when she finally said something it was blowing off the \"come over\". Yet then several minutes later she says \"I am alone lol just fyi\" like that's suggestive or something. Never bothers to give me an address like I asked even though she's said before she wants me to come over to her place some time.\n\nCan someone tell me what I'm supposed to be taking from this conversation because apparently I'm too socially inept to figure it out.", "summary": "I think I'm being played. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_1u8dtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] don't know how to deal with my girlfriend[17F] of 10 months alcoholic and mentally ill brother [26M].", "post": "Basically me and my girlfriend have a great relationship that has been going on for about 10 months but recently she opened up to me about the problems her brother is having and I don't know how to react. \n\nHer brother is 26 and has been submitted to rehab/mental hospital twice for his problems which I don't know all the details about but will tell you what I do.\n\nHe has had long run problems with drug and alcohol abuse, my girlfriend having to lock her room as a child to avoid her brother stealing from her for drug money. \n\nHe clearly has mental health issues and is very depressed, since his last stint in hospital he has been arrested for lashing out violently at there father and a few nights ago there family found him at the \nhouse passed out in a pool of his own vomit, and he cried constantly for hours after they woke him and at other times since then he has started crying in front of the family.  \n\nMy girlfriend is now scared he is going to kill himself and honestly this doesn't seem to far fetched.\n\nI really just want to comfort her, make her feel like everything will be alright and make her feel safe, but my own life so far has been very comfortable and I just don't know how to deal with a situation like this.\n\nAny advice or stories from people who have been in similar situations \nwill be very well appreciated.", "summary": "My girlfriends brother is a depressed alcoholic and she is scared he will kill himself. My comfortable life has left me unprepared to deal with this kind of situation and I just want to say the right things to her."}
{"id": "t3_1pibtn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have been feeling guilty about my situation with my girlfriend [19 F] of one and a half years and can't really figure out what to do.", "post": "I am in my 3rd year of university, and this current year, because I didn't do so well in my courses last year, I have been put on academic probation for the duration of the year.\n\nWhen I told my girlfriend she was very supportive of what I told her and said that she loved me and that this didn't change how she felt about me.\n\nNow this is the kind of reaction I was hoping for, because I wanted some support, when I told my parents, there was just a lot of yelling and making me feel guilty about all of it, which I do and I understand that I fucked up, I'm trying to make amends this year by taking certain courses to be accepted back into my program.\n\nAnd so when I told my girlfriend and she was very okay with everything it was a change up to what I was used to. And she'll tell me I'm smart and that she's proud of me for trying to get back on track but I still feel extremely guilty.\n\nCause the things that are worrying me is that what if I can't get back on track and then when I'm a university drop out, she'll leave me. Or what if because of this I go nowhere in life and she chooses to stay with me and I drag her down.\n\nShe seems okay with my situation and I have yet to ask her about the \"what if\" of me not finishing my program. I've just grown up with a family that looked down on those that didn't succeed and when she did the complete opposite I was surprised and kind of like I wanted her to be upset with me.\n\nSo all I want is some kind of advice as to whether I should talk to her about it, or if I should leave it and just put more focus on school hoping that she actually is okay with it all.", "summary": "I'm on academic probabtion and just feel incredibly guilty and am really struggling to be fine with how okay she is with it."}
{"id": "t3_22c1w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Probably a pretty standard relationship advice question, but still, I need help.", "post": "So, I've (23m) just spent the last 2 hours on the phone to my girlfriend (24f) of three years. \n\nWe do have a pretty volatile relationship and have come close to breaking up quite a few times, however I've always taken these as knee jerk reactions to large arguments. Today it's different. Phone call out of the blue, saying that she doesn't think we're working. A lot of the things she want's in a relationship I'm really not good at (e.g. she's a planner, I tend to let things occur and intervene if required) \n\nWe had a civil conversation and ended up at a crossroads: A) break up now. Or B) Take a 2 weekish break and reassess there.\n\nPart of the issues in our relationship are around me generally 'not knowing' how I feel about things or where I want to head. She knows, but I don't. \n\nEssentially now she's wanting me to spend 2 weeks to think and a answer what I want out of the relationship and where I want it to go. And I'm generally shit at doing anything other than stiffle my emotions so yeahhh. Help? Where do I begin thinking?", "summary": "Have been asked to think about scary, emotional things such as 'what do you want out of this?' and 'where do you want us to go?' And I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_1zjfoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why can't I [27 M] stay in love with my long-term (4yr) [26 F], when she's perfect?", "post": "This is hard to do because even as I write I am kicking myself for even needed to put this on reddit, but I'm not sure where else to go. My GF and I started dating 4 years ago and agreed on a mutual 'break' for an undetermined time period to make sure that our next step, marraige, is the right one. We agreed that if we were to sleep with others, they couldn't be mutual friends, we had to use protection, and also follow a don't ask, don't tell policy. We separated for 2 months but she has recently moved back in.\n\n I'm just having such a hard time with how to feel. I loved being single - the chase, going to bars with the feeling of what might happen, the freedom of not checking in with anyone. But on the flipside, my GF is truly perfect. So beautiful, loving, kind, considerate, and sexy. Our sex life is incredible. She is everything I would ever want in a wife, but if I don't stay true to her and give her 100% at this point, I'll lose her.\n\n I feel like this should be so easy for me. \"She's great, she's the one\", I tell myself. But I can't help thinking of the fun flings with interesting girls (one of which I actually dated) I had while single and the amount of other girls who may have the same qualities. I'm scared that I'll always have the feeling of what may be out there, even as I have Mrs. Right waking up next to me. Overall I want to be fair to her. She deserves the world and I want to give it to her, but I'm failing.", "summary": "I wake up next to the definition of a perfect woman, but the idea of waking up next to her forever scares me incredibly. I'm wrestling with how to be fair. "}
{"id": "t3_j60wb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Calling all Vibram \"Barefoot Runners\"", "post": "Background, I ran the Indianapolis Mini Marathon in just over 2hrs in may. I felt pretty good about the time as this was my first half marathon, and had been training for months. At race end I ended up with great memories and a stress fracture on my lower right ankle. fast forward to today, softball season and golf league is now over and I desperately want to get back to running. I bought these shoes to Reinvigorate my desire to run. P.S: months leading in the half marathon I was running 8-10 miles 4 times a week, and would love to get back to running 5-6 miles 4-5 times a week with these new shoes.  So here's were you wonderful people of Runnit come in. share with me your personal experiences with the shoes, and give me some ideas about mileage build up.", "summary": "I just bought a pair of Komodo Sport Vibram Five Finger shoes, and am looking for advice on a good program to start running in with out injury."}
{"id": "t3_gs6fp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I Wait or Move On?", "post": "I visited a friend at another college and met his friend/floor mate while there. I started talking to his friend on fb, and it turned out that we had a lot in common and we got along very well. \n\nWe began talking all of the time, on gchat, skype, phone, texting. We would stay up all night long talking to each other. In a short matter of weeks, we became more comfortable with each other than anyone else. I am someone who suffers from depression, and he made me smile and gave me hope and strength. \n\nThen one day about 2 months after we met, he called me and said he didn't want a relationship while in college and that we should stop all communication between each other. I later learned it was actually his parents who had insisted he stop talking to me because they didn't want him in a relationship. \n\nShould I wait for him until we finish college (we're both in our 1st year), or just move on?", "summary": "I met this amazing guy but his parents do not want him to be in a relationship in college, so he stopped all communication between us."}
{"id": "t3_43lwpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[F19] kissed and fell in love with [M29] who is taken.", "post": "Apologies for my English and spelling, a non-native speaker on a phone here.\n\nWhen we met we immediately hit off. We like the same things and have similar personalities to a point that is crazy. We are so alike and he understands me completely even if I say so little. He is the definition of the one for me, Physically and mentally. We have known each other for quite some time now and I met his SO around the first time I met him. After that I haven't seen her often. \n\nThe tension around us is so present, flirting is just something that gradually developed. We spoke about our feeling ( that we are so similar and get along so well) and it is on both sides said that it is extraordinairy. We kissed a while ago (while being drunk, this is not an excuse, just for your interest) and it left me confused. We planned to talk about it but it hasn't happened yet. We did, though, kiss again (drunk again) and drunkenly talked about our feelings for each other. He said he loved me but because of the age difference he couldn't chose for me, eventhough he doubts his current relationship and says his gf doesn't make him feel good at all and I do make him feel good and loved. At this point I have fallen in love with him and struggle with my feelings and his betrayal towards his gf ( whom, in my opinion is a controlling bitch who doesn't let him live his life. She checks on him every second and is mad for no valid reasons. I am not the only one who thinks this and this opinion was formed before we kissed the first time). We do plan to talk but it's difficult since there is always someone else around. I am lost. What am I to do?", "summary": "fell in love with a taken man. We both have feelings for each other and kissed. I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_39msag", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[ADVICE] one night stand?", "post": "So I went to visit another state for the weekend and ended up going home with this guy...\n\nI went to the club with my female relative and when we were dancing this guy approached me. Let's call him Josh. He said let's go to yours in which I replied \"definitely not mine\" since I was staying at a relative's place for that weekend. My relative then asked me whether I want to go home with him in front of Josh - I nodded (I was so wasted that I didn't realised I was ditching her :(. Josh then told her that he would drop me home tomorrow morning.\n\nFast forward to the morning - I checked Google map of my location, it was 40 minutes away from CBD (where I was staying). I started putting on my clothes and he woke up and told me that he'll drop me home soon so I hopped back on the bed and we talked for a bit. He offered me coffee and breakfast but I refused (he told me that his mates are coming over soon when we were chatting in bed).\n\nSo the 40 minute ride back was not awkward at all - we pretty much were getting to know each other. When I was about to leave the car he asked for my phone number. He then texted me 5 hours after (probably after hanging out with his mate and nap (he told me took a nap). He said he had fun last night and to let him know the next time I'm visiting again.\n\nThis is probably the very first \"first night stand\" that I've done. What does it mean when a guy asked for my phone number? Wouldn't he just dropped me off and ran away considering I was only visiting for the weekend?\n\nDon't know the age, he told me but I can't remember...", "summary": "what does it mean when a guy drop you home and ask for your phone number after you spent a night at his place?"}
{"id": "t3_2em47t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sleeping through a final.", "post": "This happened a couple of months ago. I stayed up for 48 hours preparing for my final, and I had two finals that day. The one I was preparing for was at 8 AM. Besides I've been studying pretty hard for the course all quarter.\n\nSo I'm done preparing and at 7:15AM I close the book and tell myself I'll take a 5 minute nap before getting ready. I'm pretty confident and I set two alarms. Sleeping at 6-7AM's become quite common for me.\n\nLater I wake up, it's kinda sunny and no one else is in the room. I'm wondering why the two alarms didn't ring, but get down anyway to dress up. Casually look at my phone and FUCK-\n\n-it's 11:45AM. My exam's three hours long, so *poof!* there go my hopes of getting anything close to a C in the course, let along a B+ or an A-.\n\nI go to the professor and the TA later, and unfortunately there's little that can be done. The plus is that my professor knows that I've been doing consistently well on my tests, so he does offer one thing: he can mark my course as incomplete and it can be finished in the next quarter by taking that quarter's final under him.", "summary": "prepared for two days without a gap for my exam, then slept through it"}
{"id": "t3_l04ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Worried I might ruin everything.", "post": "So, I'm a gal and I've been with my BF for 3 years now. We're in our early 20s. I go to school and he works. We've always been really happy together, and all our friends tell us they think we're the cutest couple ever, etc. I have had little crushes on friends over the past couple of years, but nothing serious..never anything that had me even starting to consider any questionable thoughts. \nUntil now. I have a friend who I've been kind of crushing on for about a month now, and last week we spent a ton of time together. Completely innocently. These past couple of days though, he won't stop contacting me and when I saw him in person (alone) a couple times today, I definitely felt that he seems into me. He has also complimented me a lot lately and let weird things slip that sound like he's thinking of me as more than a friend. He is friends with my BF too, but not close like how I am with him. I wouldn't normally worry, this has sort of happened before, except that I find myself thinking about this guy 24/7 now. Part of me wishes he'd make a move on me. I find him seriously sexy, intelligent, kind, serious, and yet silly...I think lately I have not found my BF sexy like I used to, and I feel horrible about this. He is my best friend in the world and the thought of talking to him about this and hurting him KILLS me. This is my first real relationship, and we're young, and part of me wishes I had more time to date some other guys before dating my BF. I never felt like that until a few months ago, and I feel so guilty about it. Should I talk to my BF and come clean about my feelings? I don't want to break up with him, and I don't THINK I could ever cheat on him, but I've never been put in a position like this before. Has anyone had a similar experience? I need some advice...", "summary": "I've been in a serious relationship for 3 years, and am having some intense feelings for a friend who I think is attracted to me in return. I don't want to hurt my BF, but I'm scared that maybe I'm too young for this commitment, if this is how I'm feeling. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_12jurx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is there a gas shortage after Hurricane Sandy?", "post": "I can't figure out why there is a gas shortage after Hurricane Sandy. \n\nI've read that the extra fuel for the generators people have bought is the reason, but that doesn't seem to be the complete story given the scale of the gas shortage. Are there other reasons for the gas shortage?", "summary": "gasoline sources have dried up temporarily in addition to the distribution problems from the lack of power"}
{"id": "t3_3nlxll", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(MA) Laid off but retained as 1099. Can I collect unemployment?", "post": "So some brief background - I'm a project engineer at a small engineering consulting firm in MA. I have been with the company for 2.5 years as a salaried W-2 employee.\n\nToday I got into the office and received my letter of termination from the company. The reason for termination is that because of economic downturn and pressure from the bank to pay off a loan, they need to trim expenses in order to keep the doors open. I did see this coming, though I guess it came sooner than expected. \n\nA number of people who work at this company are 1099 employees and work on a consultancy basis. Thus I took my letter of termination and walked to my boss' office to ask how we would be moving forward - is this a complete separation of the company and myself or would I be brought on as a 1099 employee on a more part-time basis? He told me that he wants me to stay with the company on a part-time basis and that I'd be paid as a 1099. He thinks I'll be contributing roughly 20 hrs/week but it's fluid depending upon the company's finances. \n\nBecause of job loss, I'll also have to move from my current place in MA back home with parents in ME - I can't afford my place any longer.\n\nHow do I move forward? Do I file unemployment? If so, do I file it in MA or ME? Do I need to set up an LLC or an S Corp for my 1099 work? Any advice at all would be appreciated.", "summary": "Can I collect unemployment after being laid off from my W-2 job but retained by the same company for 1099 work?"}
{"id": "t3_33p4sx", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Can anyone advise me on how to not get stitches (side cramps) when running?", "post": "Hey,\nSo I love running but every since I started over a year ago I always get stitches (that's what we call it here in Ireland) or side cramps around my lower ab area on my right side usually. I'm so aware of it that I always pattern my breathing when I run so I exhale on the opposite foot of the cramp in order to keep it under control as I found this solution online. \n\nHowever, lately I just can't seem to do anything that will make it go away. The only way it stops is if I stop running and bend over to ease the cramp. Its terribly annoying because I'm enjoying my run and then I'm forced to stop and extremely frustrated because I can't seem to do anything to get it to go away.", "summary": "Always get side cramps when running, don't know how to make them stop."}
{"id": "t3_38p2x4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to take care of my sister's pets", "post": "So, my sister heads out to house-sit for a friend, and leaves me with very simple instructions to care for her fire-bellied toads:\n\n-Feed them every other day with plenty crickets\n\n-Make sure the water level doesn't get too low\n\n-Turn off the lamp at night, and turn it back on during the day\n\nEasy, right? Of course! But cue my dumbass day-to-day cycle where I don't think much of anything else besides working and then coming home on my computer. A week passes with this schedule, and my sister comes home.\n\nMy warm welcome quickly turned into extreme shock when I realized that I forgot to take care of her beloved toads; the water level dropped, and they were definitely hungry (thankfully not dead), and the light, I think, is burnt out. Our great relationship has been strained, our trust (as in, her trust of me) dwindled, and now I need to teach myself how not to be an irresponsible fuck.", "summary": "failed to do a simple task because I'm an irresponsible sponge."}
{"id": "t3_2fqgcr", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I approach this girl?", "post": "I see this girl around my dorm building(we've been here for like a week) every once and a while and I want to talk to her. The few times I've passed her I've chickened out because I didn't know what to say. Next time I want to go for it and I want to say something along the lines of \"Hey I've seen you around a couple of times and I think you're really pretty so I wanted to introduce myself 'intro here' and I was wondering if I could get your number?\"\n\n The only thing is that I dunno if it's too forward to ask her for her number right away or if that's normal. I'd make small talk but whenever I see her she looks like she's headed somewhere and I can't just interrupt her with small talk. Also sometimes I've heard it's better to give her yours instead of asking but I dunno if carrying around my number on a slip of paper specifically for her would be weird, and also I've heard other people say that giving the girl your number makes you look wimpy/like you're begging. What should I do?", "summary": "Girl in my dorm I see semi-rarely,want to make interest clear/get the digits, don't want to be a weirdo, how-do?"}
{"id": "t3_1yr9td", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need advice. Do I have an alternative to refinancing to get a co-signer off my mortgage/deed?", "post": "Looking for some advice. I bought a townhouse for my primary residence a little over a year ago (Oct. '13) and my father-in-law co-signed for the mortgage. Because my credit was poor at the time (fico around 615) the lender asked for a co-signer. He has zero financial stake in the property - I paid everything - down payment, fees, taxes, etc. I make all the monthly payments, taxes, & HOA fees too. \n\nFor his own reasons and some upcoming property and financial shuffling around that he's doing, he has been pressuring me to refinance my place and get his name off of the mortgage.\n\nI have a 30 yr. fixed rate at 4.00%. It seems like most comparable loans are currently falling somewhere between 4.25% to 4.5%, so it doesn't seem to make financial sense for me to get a new loan at a higher rate. I don't want to go for a 15 yr fixed because I can't afford a higher payment right now, and I've heard too many scary stories about adjustable rate loans to want to go there.\n\nMy credit has improved a little since then (fico now around 660) and I have hardly any debt aside from the mortgage. (I owe about 2k on a car loan and I have several credit cards but currently none have an outstanding balance.)\n\nSo my question is, do I have any other options besides refinancing? I'm (obviously) pretty green with all of this stuff and not sure what other options I might have. I've considered talking to a mortgage broker, but I was hoping for some impartial advice first from someone not trying to sell me a new loan. I'm able to provide any other relevant info as needed. And please let me know if this is not the right sub for this type of post. Thanks!", "summary": "I have a mortgage at 4% with father-in-law as co-signer. He's pressuring me to refi to get his name off the loan. Rates have gone up in the meantime and I want to know if I have options beyond refinancing."}
{"id": "t3_2bkh8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] am quiet by nature. Do I have to change to meet someone?", "post": "I don't say a lot even among friends. The only person I've felt comfortable engaging in enthusiastic conversation with is my brother.\nI am a good listener and enjoy hearing what people have to say and I will answer questions just briefly. I tend to show friendliness through favors, helping out, paying for stuff without asking for money back, that sort of stuff.\n\nHowever I'm not good at making new friends because I'm not a good conversationalist. And I've never even been on a date because I'm not good at talking to girls. I've been trying to get a date for the 2 years I've been in college and I haven't had a luck because it's against my nature to engage someone in conversation.\n\nDo I have to change the way I am to meet people (hopefully girls) or is there some way to play to my strengths and weaknesses?", "summary": "I tend to show friendliness through actions rather than words and I'm wondering if I have to change this if I actually want to get a date?"}
{"id": "t3_3nv29u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] sort of cheated on my GF [23 F] of over a year, and I'm not sure what I should say to her.", "post": "Basically, I was really stupid. I was incredibly drunk (no excuse, obviously) at a club, and while my memory of it isn't the best, basically danced with a stranger to the point where we were pretty much grinding.\n\nShe then tried to kiss me, and I said no (thank god). Shortly after that I left. \n\nI told my girlfriend about this, but shied away from being totally honest. I only said we were dancing close, didn't specify exactly how close, and when she asked if I'd had my hands on her hips I bent the truth slightly and said only momentarily when saying no to kissing her, when in reality it was also at other points a little bit.\n\nI should have obviously been totally honest, but I was scared, and now I'm not sure what to do.\n\nShould I tell her I misled her, or accept that I basically told her everything and try and move on? Any and all advice appreciated.", "summary": "Fucked up, nearly completely fucked up, and now not sure how much of my fuck up to talk about."}
{"id": "t3_24c4rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23F, why do guys choose to disappear rather than to say it directly?", "post": "This is the first time I ran into this, the guy i dated with for the first time just disappeared-without texting me back, though he asked me for the next date again and again during the whole time. \n\nI don't think the date is a perfect one, but we did had good time. He told me he likes me a lot. he said he had feelings for me at the first sight. He wanted to kiss me but I didn't want to. He asked me when would I went back to Japan, he would like to go with me and come back to the US together. He said didn't want to run either, so it looks like we agreed to make it slow and know more about the other first. \n\nBut then he stopped texting me. I texted him once and didn't get a reply. \n\nI would say he is a great and nice guy, if you are just friend with him. I mean he is not a jerk type. HOWEVER, I do feel uncomfortable and weird if someone tell you they are not interested in you by just disappeared. I prefer him to just let me know we don't match, things like that, It's fine to be sure, we are adult. \n\nSo why do guys think to dump a girl in that way is better than to say it clearly?  Is there any problems with me?  Thank you for any help..!", "summary": "why do guys choose to disappear rather than to say it directly when they are not interested in a girl?"}
{"id": "t3_10fry1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend is struggling with his entrance into adulthood. Is there anything I can do to help him?", "post": "His name is Mark. He's 19. He has no personal drive and no goals in life. He's a sophomore in college, but I'm surprised he's made it this far; his mom has paid for three semesters of college (including the summer) and he's failed all of them. He's currently on academic probation, and if he doesn't do well this semester, he's going to be kicked out of school.\n\nBut that's okay because college isn't for everyone, right? Well, things aren't that simple. Mark doesn't seem to have anything to go to. If he gets kicked out of college then he goes home to live with his mom, whom he hates, and he won't have any friends around. And this is especially a big problem because Mark is honestly very spoiled. He has never worked hard in his life. He's only had one \"real\" job, and he quit it after two weeks. His mom pays for everything he has and he has no motivation to earn things for himself.\n\nThe main reason I'm so concerned about him is that he is very emotionally immature and I think he's depressed. One thing I've noticed is that whenever he feels stressed or feels bad about himself, all he wants to do is talk. He talks about inane things just so he won't have to think about his own feelings. He also had a really bad break-up a year ago and he's still not over it. He's obsessed with finding a girlfriend, and he comes off as extremely desperate. A lot of girls around here think he's a creeper or a stalker.\n\nI honestly feel like Mark can't take care of himself, emotionally. For example, one time I pointed out to him that whenever there's an issue in his life that he really should be addressing, he starts cleaning his room really thoroughly. He obviously does it because he wants to feel like he's accomplishing something when he's really not. Mark told me that he never thought about this. How could he not know something like that about his own behavior? It's like Mark doesn't even know himself. I have observed this in many different ways.", "summary": "My friend Mark doesn't know how to handle emotions, he doesn't understand his own behavior at all, he has no personal drive and no desire to work, and he's soon going to be kicked out of school unless he gets his life in order. I want to help him but I have no idea what to do. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2br530", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU trying to get my friend drunk (nsfw?)", "post": "Some back story, one of my best friends decided to have a party at his place while his parents were out of town (he's rich so it was a nice ass house) and I told him I'd help him set it up. While we were getting everything ready he told me that he wanted to blackout tonight, I told him I'd be damned if he I didn't make sure of it. Fast forward to the party, I come around every 20 mins or so to make sure he got a shot of whatever I could get my hands on. Now this is where I fucked up. I'm a skinny ass mother fucker so I couldn't handle nearly as much as my friend  could. So I ended up absolutely shit-faced 1 1/2 hours into the party. Apparently I ended up playing a shit ton of guitar hero with some friends, hit on some girls, and then proceeded to throw up all over myself... Thankfully I'm not going to see most of those people ever again, but I had my phone in my vomit-ridden pocket. Now my phone is royally fucked.", "summary": "tried to help a friend get drunk, forgot I was a lightweight, kicked ass at guitar hero, threw up all over myself, and fucked up my phone."}
{"id": "t3_3u706h", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I've been arrested for possession of marijuana and adderal without a prescription.", "post": "I'm a 21 year-old Mechanical Engineering student and I live on campus at my school in the metro-Atlanta area. I  have been a student here for a while, now. I used to be a huge smoker a year ago when I lived off campus, found it detrimental to my status as a student, and moved back immediately. This Friday was my last day before my Thanksgiving break and I wanted to unwind for the week. I bought an 8th and threw it in my stash jar. I went to lunch earlier that day with a friend with an Addy prescription, and after talking about how difficult it was for me study and stay focused, he gave me a few pills that I never even intended on using, I just threw them in my stash jar also. A friend of mine was walking up the stairs to my apartment with another friend of mine and he was very blatantly and loudly talking about smoking. Someone in my building overheard him and called the cops on us. When the cops knocked on my door, my friend's gram, my piece and my grinder were clearly visible. They searched my stuff and found other pieces, but not my personal stash jar. Keep in mind these are campus police, and that they don't need a warrant to come in and search what is already out in the open. The cop asked me if I had any other drugs to report, and I handed over my stash jar out of absolute fear they'd find it anyway, as it wasn't very well hidden in my closet admittedly. They arrested me for possession of Addy and weed and I'm looking at a felony and a misdemeanor, getting kicked out of school, or at the very least my apartment at school, and thousands and thousands of lawyer, court and bond fees. As of right now, I have no court date, I've paid 572.00 dollars towards my bond set at $5720, have gotten in contact with a Drug and Alcohol counselor, and have been referred to a handful of lawyers by coworkers and friends. This is also my first offense and the police report given to me is riddled with evidence that shows I was polite, kind and cooperative to the arresting officers.", "summary": "got caught with weed and Addy on campus at school, I'm looking at a felony and misdemeanor. Just looking for some advice. Thank you all very much."}
{"id": "t3_rhi0x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Republican here. How can anyone vote for Democrats or Republicans!? I'm torn and disgusted with both parties and have no idea how to register.", "post": "Okay! So first time poster long time lurker. I was raised in a very religious home. I was raised to be a strong supporter of the Republican Party. My parents still are. As I continued to grow and develop my own ideas and opinions I am finding the Repubs of today to be substantially more ignorant and oblivious of what their constituents need. I feel like they play on religion to develop a following and people follow them blindly. I also thing that the Republicans who are around my age (26) are very racist and hate filled. Maybe they are just the loud, outspoken ones but they are an ignorant rude group that I hate to associate with. I am wondering why anyone follows the Republican Party anymore.\n\nIn the same regard I have a very strong opposition to associating myself with the Democratic Party. I have strong feelings on things such as abortion. I disagree that people should use abortion as a form of birth control, but I think it is an important procedure that should not be outlawed. I like the idea of state governments having more control. I like paying taxes to support things like healthcare and education, but I work in healthcare and I am not seeing the changes help anyone I care for. So I don't know that I can support this party either. \n\nI need help deciding Reddit. I need your ideas, thoughts, and knowledge to help explain to me why one party is better than another. Right now I just see corruption and no cure and I feel disheartened. How can I exercise my right to vote when no candidate seems to understand what the country needs?", "summary": "Help me understand how anyone supports the two political parties!"}
{"id": "t3_12b4fq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one deal with being stood up in this situation?", "post": "I've been courting a girl for a while now, we met through a mutual friend and we have slowly been getting to know each other for a few months now. We started out by getting coffee a few times a week and just chatting for hours on end, and by the time I actually asked her out we were pretty engaged with one another, and she agreed to go out to dinner with me. However, after I asked her out she started to distance herself from me more and more, to the point where she would ignore my texts and try to attach herself more to her friends when I was around. However, when I offered her the chance to go to a show she really wanted to see with me in town, she was very willing to go and for that night it was as if we had never tripped up in the first place. But after that show she started distancing herself from me again and by the time the day of our scheduled dinner came around, she had not talked to me for a few days. When I texted her that day asking if she was still up/ready for that night, she texted me back saying she had to think it over because she was logged back on work. I responded saying it was completely fine and to let me know if she needed/wanted anything but then later that day I ran into her hanging out with her friends. I have no idea how to interpret this situation or how to proceed with or confront her.", "summary": "The girl I asked out has been jumping between expressing affection and distancing herself from me. She cancelled our planned date the day of because of work and I caught her hanging out with friends that same day. I have no idea how to interpret/proceed with this situation"}
{"id": "t3_2jmvoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [29M] never had a mutual attraction to someone.", "post": "My \" love \" life ( for lack of a better word ) is one of the few things in my life that is consistent. That being I've never had a mutual attraction to someone. I'm comfortable with my sexuality, I know what I'm attracted to. I've just never had anything \" mutual \". I attract crazy women, jail bait, and women I'm not attracted to ( be it physical, personality, or not having a \" spark \" with said person ). When I'm attracted to someone they either want to be friends or want nothing to do with me. Yet the reverse is also true if someone is attracted to me I want nothing to do with them. I'd rather remain single my entire life then lower my standards and I see S.M.V ( Sexual Market Value ) as demeaning to say the least. The reason I won't lower my standards is simple I don't want to have sex with someone that I'm not attracted too. That's not to say I view sex as being the only thing in a relationship. I want someone I can share my passions with, my dreams my goals and be intimate with. I can't really see myself being intimate with someone if they turn me off or are sexually repulsive. All this does is leave me with unanswered questions. Like. Am I going to remain single my entire life or is their any hope for a guy that has been single as long as I have ? Is lowering my standards really the **ONLY** hope I have ? Or if I do lower my standards can I really be happy in a sexless relationship ? Like I stated I won't lower my standards but these question do bother me.", "summary": "My lack of mutual attraction is starting to get to me. And I'm wondering if this is the way I'm going to live the rest of my life being single."}
{"id": "t3_33jn6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) think I've fallen out of love with my (22M) boyfriend.", "post": "I'm not exactly sure what it is, but I don't feel very happy with him anymore. \n\nThe sex is great, we get along amazingly, and he's a pretty great boyfriend. \n\nBut recently I've just started losing interest. I'm not happy the way I was when things were beginning. We've been together for a little over 3 months, but we have known each other since 2013, we dated back then for a bit. \n\nI've just begun questioning if I'm truly happy with him. I've finally just met his parents and currently his friends are at the house (I haven't met them yet) but I'm so sick that I am laying upstairs on the bedroom. \n\nI need a little advice. I don't want to end it just because I *think* I'm unhappy. I truly love him, and I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Think I might be losing interest in my boyfriend, but don't want to make a mistake and end it without truly realizing how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_10p71r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The local fire department tried to block my wife and me in a local park parking lot.  Redditors, what defining moment in your life made you lose hope in humanity?", "post": "So my wife and I finally had the night to ourselves with the kid at a sleepover.  We drive to the local park for a romantic(ish) walk together.  When we get back to the car and try to exit the parking area from the main exit we find it blocked off for a \"Movie in the park\" night.  This parking lot has two entrances/exits so we drive to the other one to find it also blocked off...this time by a fire truck and some of the local firemen.  As I motion to them that I need to exit, they wave me back in the direction of the turnabout that leads to the blocked main exit.  Never mind that this would be something of a hazard, there were plenty of other people who had parked before this whole blockade had been put into place.  I nicely ask the fireman to let us out and the following was out discussion:\n\nMe: Sir, we need to get out of the parking lot.\nFire man (FM): Use the other exit, this one is blocked off.\nMe: You guys blocked the other exit off, too.\nFM: (gives me a blank stare for a few seconds then calls over 3 of his fellow fire fighters).\n\nIt is a good 2 or 3 minutes for them to come to the stunning conclusion that \"Hmm, this *could* be a problem\".\n\nEventually they decided it was best to let us and others out to return to our homes but I think I lost the last of my faith in humanity.  I also hope they never try this approach with a burning house.\n\n;", "summary": "Firemen blocked off the only two exits of a parking lot and had to form a council of 4 to deduce that it *may* cause a problem somehow."}
{"id": "t3_378srm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it a bad idea for me [19M] to seek out friendships with other females when dating my girlfriend [19F]?", "post": "So I'm currently in college and have been dating my girlfriend now for a little over 6 months. However, my friend group, which she is a part of, is all guys excluding two girlfriends. I'd really like to become closer friends with more girls I meet around campus but I'm afraid that will cause a lot of... jealousy maybe? with my girlfriend. I seriously solely want friendship relationships, I would never dream of cheating on my girlfriend. Is this a bad idea that can lead to trouble down the road? Also, how would I approach this without making hanging out with other girls seem like a date?\n\n**Side note, we go to the same, large school", "summary": "Bad idea to try and make more female friends when daitng?"}
{"id": "t3_2oe0o6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have no idea if this guy [23M] wants anything to do with me or not.", "post": "So I have been seeing this guy for a few months. Things started out really good and I was happy with it but things are rapidly changing. We haven't had sex in over a month but I really don't think he is having sex with other people. He just does not seem to be concerned with having sex at all. So last week when there had been no sex for a month, I freaked out a bit and told him I was done with him and that I was \"sick of being sexually frustrated.\" After realizing that I had overreacted I sent him an apology and he accepted. I said I missed him; he said it back. BUT now it's like he could care less about me and even less about having sex with me. I thought I would at least get some good make-up sex! I would be 100% okay with a purely sexual relationship but he is not interested in sex or even just being friendly to me. It is like he no longer likes me or is attracted to me but why would he say he missed me and keep replying to my texts if he didn't? Does he just want me to chase him?", "summary": "Asked him to take me back. Now he is giving me luke warm, sexless bullshit. Wtf."}
{"id": "t3_3uoq31", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the restroom in the middle of the night", "post": "This happened last night at approximately 3 am. \n\nI thought I could poop and not pee at the same time. \n\nI was wrong.  \n\nMy dong was resting on the edge of the toilet seat.\n\nI didn't want to blind myself so the lights were off. \n\nPiss fucking EVERYWHERE.\n\nI didn't even cut off the stream. I was too half asleep to process that my legs, pajamas, and floor were soaked in urine until my whole bladder was empty. \n\nI just sat there in the dark. Pissed off but too tired to do anything. I was halfway through a long deuce too and was too lazy to clinch it off and clean myself. \n\nI probably sat there for a good 30 minutes, maybe even dozed off, before I wiped the now cold urine off of everywhere.", "summary": "Tuck your penis under the toilet seat before pooping half asleep in the middle of the night."}
{"id": "t3_4llpf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tipping at the sandwich shop with my (26f) boyfriend (32m)", "post": "Hello.  I am hoping some of you can share with me your opinions about whether or not I am being unreasonable by being a bit upset after this situation.  We have been together 1 year.  \n\nSo, my boyfriend and I went to Subway and while paying, my boyfriend asked if I had any cash because he did not have enough.  I said sure and pulled five $1 bills out of my wallet.  That was all of the cash that I had.  My boyfriend then goes on to pay with his card.  The employee left and I was confused as I still had the cash in my hand.  My boyfriend said \"Let's go,\" grabbed the cash out of my hand and threw it in the tip jar.  He was very hostile and scolded me \"No! You can't take a tip back once you put it down!\"  I was not trying to take it back at all.  The service was not great.  I could not hear or understand the employee.  I would not have chosen to leave a $5 tip.\n\nWe left and he said \"If I had gotten a $5 tip when I worked at Subway, it would have made my day so that guy is going to be really happy.  Or, you can pretend that I didn't leave a tip and that means I only bought you a $2 sandwich.\"  He had a lecturing tone and added \"Now I'm never going to Subway again....\" I'm glad that that guy will appreciate the tip but it was how it was done that makes me upset.  I didn't say anything, act angry or make an issue of it.  At home, I pulled some $1 bills out of my boyfriend's jeans while doing laundry and he said \"You can keep it because I way over tipped that guy.\"\n\nIs it unreasonable to be upset about him using my money to leave such a  large tip at a fast food restaurant?  I'm not going to bring it up, just want to know how others would feel.", "summary": "My boyfriend used my money to leave a relatively large tip that was in my opinion unnecessary without my prior knowledge or permission.  He got hostile when I did not agree and suggested that since it will make the employee's day,  I have no right to be upset.  Do I have a right to be a little upset?"}
{"id": "t3_3ed9k9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I do on my F[22] first date with someone who doesn't remember me?", "post": "I was assigned the task of checking up on my friends ex who is reportedly depressed. Called him, asked him if he was alright (he was) then I asked if we could meet up because I \"needed human contact badly\", he said yes.\n\nThen a week later he called, said he wasn't quite sure how we met and if I was someone he met \"at emily's party\" (I don't know an emily, and I only met him briefly on three occasions 2 years ago), then he said it was a while since he'd taken a girl out, meaning he thinks it's a date? I'm meeting him for a drink this saturday but I think he's expecting a pretty girl, his ex was underweight and pretty, this girl from \"emily's party\" must be attractive, I'm just a girl with a plain face and meh body I wasn't expecting anything date-like at all, fuck. I've never even been on a date before I'm not dating material\n\nWhat the fuck do I do when I meet up with him? He's going to be disappointed and it's going to be awkward as fuck and I don't know how to be entertaining. A small part of me really wants this to become romantic but I know that's very unlikely and the rest of me is realistic and sad about that.", "summary": "accidental date with someone expecting someone far more attractive, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2nq8b5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I killed my dads fish", "post": "Last night I noticed the pond water in our back yard was getting kinda low so I went to top it up with water from the hose like I usually do. Only this time I forgot about the hose running because I'm an idiot and woke up this morning to find the pond overflowing and my dad's three huge goldfish dead.\n\nI feel like the biggest shitlord in the universe right now. Neither of us were very attached to the fish, they were just kind of there so I don't think my dad would be drastically upset about it, but I still don't know how to even tell him because it's just such a stupid thing that I did. I feel so shitty, just the feeling of knowing I'm responsible for somethings death is really getting to me.", "summary": "Tried to keep my dads fish alive, killed them in the process because I'm a fuck face."}
{"id": "t3_10nufe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you love about this country?  (Legitimate question to win a bet...For science)", "post": "After getting married, I now have European family members.  (Mostly Italian and Spanish.)  I keep up with them online.  We are regularly asked to move there and I always say I can't leave because I love this place too much. \n \nRecently, I was asked \"What's so great about America.\"  I may have thought about this before, but this was the first time I ever had a rebuttal style argument on the subject.  In the end it became a contest.  I was asked to list something about our country that was great and they would respond with one of their examples until someone ran out of ideas or was otherwise inarguably trumped.  \n\nI kind of wondered what Reddit would say on the subject and hoped for some more inspiration because we have a bet and the loser moves!  So I have to keep this going because my wife wouldn't mind moving and she'd probably hold me to this.  That and shit got real once I brought up the pro-America argument about women with shaved arm pits.  Thoughts?", "summary": "looking for one line responses about why America is a great place to live."}
{"id": "t3_3bgnc1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting rekt", "post": "This actually happened today. Do I get bonus points?\n\nEvery year, my housing co-op has a summer barbecue where all the kids and parents come out and have some fun.\n\nThis year, the kids all brought their super soakers. I assumed that they would all have decent aim and good enough common sense to not shoot me. I was wrong.\n\nAfter the party had started and the burgers were eaten, the kids decided to play. Of course everyone brought a water gun, so they got to having fights. \n\nAfter I got shot a couple of times, (once by accident, once on purpose) I decided to bring some protection to the (literal) party. This was my first mistake. I went back inside my house and brought out the smallest little nerf pistols I have, each with one dart loaded. \n\nI decided that the next time I got soaked, I would let loose. This was my second mistake. I was sitting down, chatting with my buddy, when one of the kids decided to get him with his Super Soaker. The kid got him, but he also got me, and so I whipped out my little nerf guns. \"Soak me one more time, and you'll be sorry\" I said. Third mistake.\n\nThe kid looked at my teensy nerf guns, and then back at his Super Soaker.\n\nHe fired. I was getting soaked. So I decided to act. I shouted, \"GET REKT\", as I shot my first nerf gun and missed. It was at that point that *all* of the kids started shooting at me. I started to panic. I got up, and started running towards safe ground (my patio). While I ran, I started shouting \"GET REKT\", as I pulled out my second nerf gun and fired in the general direction of one of the kids. I continued to shout \"GET REKT\" multiple times as I ran to my patio, still getting soaked.\n\nI must have been a miserable sight.", "summary": "Han shot first, I got soaked."}
{"id": "t3_4dde5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(m15) Met this girl(f14)who looks insanely hot in her profile pic but like a 5(rating scale) when she takes picture without preperation", "post": "So i met this girl last night and we really hit it off. we talked for ever like for 4 hours and she looked really good in her profile pic. Im not gonna cut off communication with her since she is so cool and I can definitely see her looking better in acouple of years ,but I am completely shocked at the change. I expected her to look her best in the profile pic but there is such a big change. \n\nAlso would it be rude of me to ask sometimes for her to look like her profile pic. Im thinking probably but just asking", "summary": "Girl looks completely different from her profile pic but she admits she looks way better with makeup."}
{"id": "t3_2etsnc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I opened up a Rollover IRA 18 months ago and made $2.68 in that time. Help me fix that.", "post": "I started my first adult job in 2007. When I left that job in Jan. 2013 I opened up a Vanguard Rollover IRA and dumped everything there ($11,388.66.) I guess I didn't set it up right because I looked at it this morning and in the 18 months or so have made $2.68 in returns.  It appears the money is in a Prime Money Market Fund rather than in the \"market.\"\n\nI was excited because I looked at my current employer matching 401K yesterday and have gotten a 8.37% return and wanted to see how my IRA was performing. \n\nMy current 401K is in a Vanguard Target Retirement 2045 Trust and I want to move my IRA money into the same fund but am not sure how I do that. Can I get some advice on doing that please?\n\nAlso, my wife is just finishing up grad school and started a real job a couple weeks ago at a local school district. We are planning on jacking our retirement contributions now that we aren't paying for school.  If I read that [retirement account flow chart] correctly she should be opening an IRA because she won't be getting employee matched funds. Is this correct? I obviously dropped the ball on my rollover so I want to get hers setup right.", "summary": "1- How do I move $$$ from Vanguard Money Market fund to an index?"}
{"id": "t3_2uo1ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] have a friend [30 F] who's boyfriend [29 M] has been emailing his ex about 'what ifs' and etc.", "post": "First postI have a very good friend who has trust issues from being cheated on in her past relationship. She's been dating her current boyfriend for about over a year now. She went on vacation a while back and when she returned she accidentally saw her boyfriend's email account open on the computer screen. She took a quick glance but saw the name of his ex on a few of the emails subject titles. Curiosity took a hold of her and she snooped around and read the emails. The emails were mostly about him writing about how he wished they didn't break up, talking about the past, the plans he had for her and etc. There wasn't much said on the ex's part but it was just mainly him bringing back memories and etc. \n\nI told her to talk to him about this because that's a pretty big red flag and it just seems like he isn't over his ex. She doesn't know how to bring it up to him because he's probably just going to accuse her of not trusting him and invading his privacy. She wants more opinions because she doesn't know what to do. I told her about this great community that gives awesome advice and they can definitely help so she asked me to post her story on here.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Does this just sound like innocent chatting or is there something more?", "summary": "Friend has been dating this guy for over a year. Finds out that he's been talking to his ex about what could have been and past feelings and memories. Wants to talk to him about it but doesn't want to be accused of invasion of privacy. Told her about this sub and she asked me to post her story on here."}
{"id": "t3_2inpp2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to Convince an ex (27/M) to try friends with benefits with me (24/F)?", "post": "I need advice here people. I'm 24(f) and he's 27. We were together for almost five years, until we just broke up. He was my first major boyfriend, and the first guy I ever slept with. At first my goal was to try to talk to him and see if we could make it work. I really don't think that is going to work this time. So since reforming a relationship/any kind of dating is out of the question I would like to try friends with benefits. Because that would be better than nothing. I am pretty sure he's on the fence about it, but does anyone have any advice about things I could say during our conversation to help convince him it's a good idea?", "summary": "Need advice on how to convince my very recent ex on giving friends with benefits a try, since for me that would be better than nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2vm8db", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my teacher to download more ram", "post": "So I attend a very small high school in America, less than 400 students total throughout the four grades. Because of this, my school only hires one System Admin/IT. Being very intelligent with computers I have come to help him with computer and network problems quite often. He will send me on small tasks or ones that he is unable to attend to, so he can tackle the larger problems that he was educated for. Because i fix mostly end-user stuff, most teachers know me as the student who knows all about computers and should got o me with problems rather than filling out a help desk ticket. The other information needed for this fuck up is that we have a teacher who teaches in a lab and educates students on completly software stuff. Her classes include accounting, web design, applications, financial literacy, etc.\n\nOne day as I walk into Financial Literacy class, the teacher says to me, \"I need more memory in my computer. It is really slow when opening windows and even slower the more I have open.\" Understanding this, our re-imaged Windows 7 machines have no more than 4GB, I assume she has about 4GB. Jokingly, I respond with, \"You could always download more, [downloadmoreram.com](downloadmoreram.com).\" She says, \" Yea, is it even legal?\" she responds with I assumed to be a joke... We go on with class and the rest of the day. Two periods after my Financial Literacy class, I get called to the principle's office in the middle of class. I get down there and see our System Admin/IT with the principle. I found out the teacher actually went to the website and actually downloaded memory and called our System Admin/IT as to why it wasn't increasing her memory. He breaks the news to her that it is a joke site and she is furious and notifies the principle that a student made a joke of her. The System Admin/IT and I just laughed about it like we always do with the general ignorance of teachers. But I assumed that since the teacher works with and teaches with computers that she would know the difference between hardware and software.", "summary": "told teacher to download more ram, she got furious when she found out it was a joke."}
{"id": "t3_rca5k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, am I a horrible son?", "post": "My mom just told me that we would be going skiing for a trip on spring break, and she wanted to surprise me. I am a senior in High School, and I am desperately trying to save money for college. I work 30 hours a week during the school year, and it has me exhausted 24/7, so I love any opportunity to be able to work when school is out. She did this during winter break as well, both times I have been upset and thus made her extremely sad, making me feel like a shitty son. Not only that, but I now have to ask off work, when I am currently in the running for a promotion. I love her but she doesn't get it. Am I right to be mad?", "summary": "My mom scheduled a spring break trip for me and now I have to ask off work. I to mad, she got sad, and I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_34r9c3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "27f not sure where i'm going wrong with 27m of 6 months", "post": "We dated 3 months and he dumped me. We had gotten back in contact after I'd texted that I was distracted when we dated and wanted to meet up. He agreed because wanted to give things another shot because he said he dumped me because I didn't seem interested enough when we dated the first time, like that I wasn't engaged enough during dates, never initiated plans, etc. (which was valid considering I was dating two people at once and was depressed then).\n\nNow that we've been seeing each other again for a few months, he's been distant this time. He's been unemployed for 6 months and I know he's forgetful and lazy as a result of depression. Like he'll go along with things but doesn't initiate anymore in the last month. I'm showing him I'm interested like he wanted but he's been distant. Confused because why would he be distant if I'm showing interest if that was the supposed problem?", "summary": "We dated before and he said I wasn't interested enough, yet now that I am he's not taking things to a new level. Confused..."}
{"id": "t3_22qavq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - No longer craving alcohol", "post": "I've been a pretty heavy drinking most of my adult life, it hasn't been uncommon for me to polish off a 6 pack (sometimes even a 12 pack) every night of the week.  Some nights it would be a pint or more of hard alcohol.  Often I'd find myself drinking at least 3-4 times a week.  Get off work hit the grocery story or liquor store to get my fix.  Last week I got a treadclimber and have been working on using it at least every other day.  So far I've hit 5 of the last 7 days.  Today after I finished I realized the high I felt was offsetting my urge to go get a drink.  It also doesn't hurt that I now know just how many calories are in alcohol.", "summary": "Exercise is better than AA!"}
{"id": "t3_26nacw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How could I [18 M] find a nice girl?", "post": "Hello /r/relationships,\n\nI'll give you a short background story. I'm 18 years old, I weigh around 90kg and I'm like 1,82m tall. I want to meet girls after I had to deal with privacy issues for a long time. Though, looking for a nice girl when I was younger wasn't really my intention but I'm growing up more and more and I also feel so much better not having to deal with these issues from before anymore. And that's why I want to get to know a nice girl and spend time together with her.\n\nI have to admit, there is a girl I was really interested in and that I met 2 months ago on the internet. We messaged each other daily, we phoned a few times and I was sure I would clearly be showing her that I had interest in her. Then a few days ago she told me that I'm not her type but that we get along so well and that it might still evolve into something more serious. Her and I will still meet and I admit that I was very frustrated at the beginning but I think it was wrong having contact to her only and that's why I want to change that and get to know more girls. I want to know what I could do exactly to meet girls in around my age. Like where in the city? At what time? What should I say? Obviously I'll keep looking on the internet but I'd really like to meet a girl in reality first and immidiately ask her if she would like to go out with me. I'm ready to get denied too but I'm looking forward for some conversation with girls I've never seen before.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "I want to meet girls and get to know one girl better specifically and spend time together with her after a long time of doing nothing. I think I look good and in shape to meet girls but where do I start? I'd like to meet girls in reality first but where exactly and at what time?"}
{"id": "t3_2x9yi5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Dropping below full time when dropping a class?", "post": "So unless things ship up (and believe me I am trying) I may have to withdraw from a class with a W grade before the end of March, because the chances of actually passing versus failing may be very small by that point. Its pretty much coming down to if I bomb these coming exams and quizzes there is no hope to pass, and staying in the class will kill my GPA unless I withdraw.  Since a W doesn't matter towards your GPA.\n\nHowever, the only downside I am seeing is my financial aid status dropping below full time (11 credits...). IIRC its if you drop below full time and still after 6 months. How is that counted? If I drop in March does it count March as less than half time even though its March 31st? I'll pick back up with 15 credits next semester starting August 24th.   \n\nDoes anyone have experience with this? I'd rather try to get an answer here before running to financial aid office. Much faster.  \n\nHOPEFULLY I can pull it together, all the failed exams and quizzes have been dropped so far but I can only afford 1 more bad quiz and no more bad exams. If not, I'll just take it again at a community college over the summer and transfer it, *life moves on*.", "summary": "How long can you be part time to lose financial aid?"}
{"id": "t3_1g9674", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Having trouble reading this", "post": "Alright I figure I would put this here because I am pretty stumped. Definitely looking for some female input.\n\nI (26M) met this cute girl (23F) a few weeks ago while out with a mutual friend. We really hit it off and had a lot in common. I got her number and gave a her a quick kiss. She texted me a few minutes later, said she had a great time and looked forward to getting together sometime. \n\nWe didn't end up getting together that week but texted quite a bit at work which seemed to be great.\n\nThen all of a sudden I get total silence for a few days. Usually, I would take this as a signal that she is no longer interested but when I did finally hear from her she apologized and said she had some crazy stuff going on and it wasn't just me she didn't get back to. This was great and I totally understand it.\n\nUnfortunately, this has gone on for another week or so. Every few days we text back and forth but not very extensively. I've called her a time or two and left a message I'm torn between taking it as a hint that she isn't interested and just waiting it out for another week or two so that I don't give up on someone who seemed so awesome.\n\nSo besides general advice on the situation (which is welcome), I'm hoping someone could advise me on how to stay in touch with her while I'm waiting for a week or two without annoyingly messaging her like a creep.\n\nAny thoughts?", "summary": "Met a great girl, she seemed super keen to get together, we talked and things were looking good. Then she went AWOL on me and I only get a message from her every few days. Usually, I'd give up but when I do here from her she is super keen. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_31qrvz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping my classmate", "post": "So this happened max 5 minutes ago.\n\nI was on Facebook on my phone when one of my classmates messaged me. We have an assignment due tonight at midnight (it's 8:50pm right now), and he was asking when it was due - I suppose he must have forgotten. So I told him that we have to hand in a hard copy by midnight tonight, and since he lives an hour or more drive from the uni, he said bye to go work on his assignment, as we have a percentage penalty per day overdue.\n\nMy friend and I don't particularly like this person, so I took a screenshot of the conversation to send her. So I opened up her chat head and sent the screenshot... but then I realised I didn't send it to her, but to the guy the screenshot is of. Oops.", "summary": "If you're on Facebook, you'll be bitched about."}
{"id": "t3_45e0ce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "girl [17 F] won't stop messaging me (24 M) on social media and spies on me in person.", "post": "I met this chick at a school club get-together for the super bowl. \n\nShes new to the US and I thought it would be cool to have an international friend, so we chatted at the party. She stated that she liked hiking, and since I plan hiking trips at my school I suggested for her to come to the club. This was 4 days ago.\n\nSo i got her facebook info. The next day she somehow found my intagram info and added me, I didn't think anything of it at the time. \n\nAnd the madness begins...\n\nThe next day she starts messaging me on fb messenger. Like, non stop chit chat. I went about ignoring most of her attempts to get me to talk. She would say stuff like, \"hey, just got home.\" or \"are you doing homework?....\" and I would give one word answers but still she keeps on going. Its super frustrating. She even went so far as to bug me at 1030 p.m. tonight to come and help her move one grocery bag up to her dorm... I said \"Sorry I can't\" then she got all spiteful toward me.  Keep in mind I don't know anything about her, only talked once in person at a party.\n\nI think she likes me so I want nothing to do with her anymore. On top of that she moved into my building on campus. She alerts me when my roommates are coming in and texts me when she sees me from her room. Its really creepy.\n\nI ended up blocking her on facebook.\n\nI know we will bump into each-other on campus, what should I do if she brings up the fact that I blocked her? I'm thinking about just saying \"I deactivated my facebook.\" I just don't want to be too much of a prick.", "summary": "underage girl bugging the crap out of me, borderline stalking me. Blocked her on facebook but will run into her in person due to location. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_489ama", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 25] am starting to feel like a friend's [M 31] position of power is really starting to effect how I enjoy my personal hobby", "post": "Hey all,\n\nWithout getting into too much detail, I basically do a martial art that requires me to go in every day in order to maintain my skill, and well, overall I really do love it!  \n  \nHowever over the last year, an acquaintance of mine who I was beginning to become friends with became one of the head instructors at this place. At first he really wasn't that bad, but now I'm starting to notice him just letting the power of being a martial arts instructor to his head.  \n  \n-He seems to want to demand respect  \n-when I say hi to him or anything he simply ignores me  \n-when I try to work on some stuff on the side while he's teaching he'll call me out and say how I'm a piece of shit doing dumb techniques in front of everyone. (Keep in mind the original instructor here is always fine with me doing this stuff, but when this acquaintance of mine shows up, it's all his rules).\n- I feel like he just wants everyone's attention  \n- After a tough fight I had where I broke my foot and lost he comes up to me and says \"wow you really didn't have anything on that guy huh? That's why you should listen to me.\"\n  \nI tried talking to him about this, and he seemed receptive at first, but then it turned into a thing where he was somehow expecting me to listen to his life advice, and upon refusing to do so I guess it ruffled his feathers in some way and we're back at square one.  \n  \nI sort of don't know what to do about this situation. I really enjoy the community and the camaraderie of the school I do my martial art at and there is even an event this Saturday where we're supposed to all get together, but I just don't think I can bear to go there with him being there and it's making me upset.  \n  \nAny advice on what to do here?", "summary": "New instructor at my martial arts gym is a complete asshat and it's starting to make me not want to hang out anywhere he is present. I have a friend hosting a party to watch some fights this upcoming weekend and I am unsure of what to do."}
{"id": "t3_jcprk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, which songs hold particular meaning or inspire you? I want to hear your stories!", "post": "I'll start:\n\nSo I'm sitting here leeching off McDonalds WiFi, when Never Too Late by Hedley comes on the radio. I suddenly felt nostalgia for what this song meant to me. As a stranger in a new school, this song reminded me of the times I shared with old friends. I remember the day before I left my old school, lying in the grass, talking to all my friends and reminiscing over old stories, laughing, crying, and shouting. All the meanwhile this song played over the school speakers. The memory which I held tied itself to this song, and whenever it happens to play I relive that moment, on that day.", "summary": "basically Hedley makes me relive a happy memory."}
{"id": "t3_28ep59", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Savings, investments and logic?", "post": "I have a somewhat unique situation, but am looking for some advice.\nI'm currently a 19 y/o college student with living and tuition paid. In high school/college I've accrued about $40,000, or a bit more after taxes through programming and entrepreneurship. I grew up in a household with a very very frugal engineer which has totally altered my perspective of money to feel like I need to massively hoard all my cash and make it grow. To this day, I've lived that way with the only logical investments being 100 shares of $2 Ford stock that went up to $16 a share and $5000 I put in an IRA which is spread through a couple mutual funds. \n\nCurrently, I have no car, I have no bills and I'm still pulling in about $1200-$2000 a month and literally doing nothing with it. I'm not looking to buy property, but I feel like I should be using this money toward something. What do you think?", "summary": "40k sitting in bank, what should I do with it if I have no bills."}
{"id": "t3_3qbgrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my wife[26 F] of 3 years, my aunt[60sF] just started a relationship with my wifes' mother......my mom is pissed", "post": "Ok so I never thought I'd have to post here but here I am. So a little back round. My mom and dad have never been supportive of my aunt and her \"life style choices\" as my mom calls it. However they have always been polite and nice to her at family gatherings. I constantly have to point out their bigotry but they just throw the bible in my face.\n\nOk so Last night I got a text from my mom stating that her and my dad got an email from my aunt that she is now in a relationship with my wifes mother. She was super pissed and basically told me that they will be cutting my aunt out of there lives for her \"poor choice in a mate\". I love my aunt and really love having her in my life. I feel more comfortable talking about important things with her than I do my parents so cutting her out of my life is not an option. However I don't want to estrange my parents because even though they are backwoods bigots they are still my parents and I love them very much.\n\nMy wife is struggling with it cause well, It's her mom and my mother just called her mother a \"poor choice in a mate\". So she is pissed at my mom. Which I totally understand.\n\nSo my question is. How do I defuse the situation without losing any family members? is it possible? or is it a lost cause? Clearly my mom and dad are in the wrong. I am just baffled at the whole situation. I just need some advise", "summary": "My mom and dad are not supportive of my gay aunt. She is dating my wifes mother. mom called MIL a bad choice of mate. wifes pissed. I'm baffled. how to defuse the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_39qvs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20's F] with my father [60's M]: I'm scared he may be an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I think my father may be an alcoholic, but I was hoping someone who may have experience or some knowledge about it can help me out and help me figure out what to do.\n\nMy dad has a steady job and has never had drinks at work/ work functions.  However, recently I noticed that his beer intake has grown.  He drinks about six to eight 16oz (about 96-120 oz total)  cans after he gets home from work.  He's not verbally abusive/physically abusive, but he does get hard to understand and I worry because I feel like I have to take care of him and make sure he doesn't do anything stupid like fall over/ trip and fall when he's cleaning. \n\nThe reason I'm writing this mostly is because today he drank an entire bottle of wine by himself along with 4 16oz beers, and he already asked my brother to go get him another 4 pack.  \n\nHe used to drink a lot about 10 years ago, but he stopped and then started again in the past 4-5 years.  His intake has grown tremendously, from two 8oz cans a day to now what I've described.\n\nI have anxiety, especially when it comes to things like this so I don't know what to do. If I bring it up he will get upset, but I don't know what else to do? Is he an alcoholic? Am I overreacting? Please help. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My father drinks beer everyday after work, and gets drunk on the weekends. I'm not sure if this is alcoholism, and if it is I don't know how to bring it up. I'm mostly concerned for his health."}
{"id": "t3_2kalee", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to fix my apartment building's rat problem.", "post": "For a number of reasons I'm stuck with my current apartment. Turned out that the building's entrance hall starts to smell terribly from time to time and it's been going on since the place was built.\n\nI got fed up with it and decided to find out what might be causing the stench. Went down to the basement and the place was littered with dead rats. Waste and rotting rat bodies piled right under the front entrance.\n\nDocumented everything, called the management company and threatened to call the authorities, if they don't fix it. So they did. Cleaned everything out, sealed all the windows and hatches, distributed poison, etc\u2026\n\nIt didn't fix the smell one bit, so there's some other source. And it turns out a few elderly ladies in our building were feeding stray cats, that lived in that same basement. Cats got kicked out now that it's closed off.\n\nSo naturally, I'm the worst thing that has ever happened to this Earth. The ladies are convinced I was after the cats and broke a delicate equilibrium - the building is surely going to get infested now that they're gone.\n\nThey spend all of their time on a porch out front and I can't leave the apartment without being harassed. They've been telling everybody what a horrible animal-hater I am and the fact that I live there somehow doesn't compute to them. They act surprised and agitated every time I pass by.", "summary": "Called in about rats in my building. Accidentally got cats kicked out instead. Hated by my crazy neighbours now."}
{"id": "t3_xvzm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend deletes text messages/ conversations with other guys.  Both [23]", "post": "Hi All,\n\nSo I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now and everything is going great.  She is very attractive and cool so has a lot of guy friends that she is close with/ texts a lot.  I've become okay with this, after overcoming some jealousy issues.  \n\nLast night when she was in the shower I decided to look at her text messages.  I noticed that chunks of texts were missing from the conversations that she's been having with guys that I have suspected of trying to get in her pants.  It looks like she's been deleting parts of their conversations because they simply did not make any sense. \n\nNow, is this something that I should worry about?  I don't want to confront her about it without proof because it would show that I was snooping, but the missing text really has really given me an eerie feeling.", "summary": "Girlfriend deletes chunks of text conversations with guys"}
{"id": "t3_ykvlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [25F] of 4 years takes break from relationship for 3 months. I [27M] am fed up with the arrangement. Both want to go to relationship counseling but she refuses to give up sleeping with other person while we go.", "post": "Me [27M] and my girlfriend [25F] have been together for over 4 years. Things have been rocky sometimes, but overall pretty good. She decides 3 months ago to \"take a break\" so she can figure some things out. I try to be supportive, we set boundaries, and she does her thing. Needless to say, boundaries have been broken and now I have trust issues.\n\nFast forward to last night. I have decided I am no longer interested in this \"taking a break\" state. I have been very unhappy during these last 3 months due to broken boundaries. I tell her this. Instead of breaking up, she wants to go to relationship counseling. I agree that I would give this a shot but that I require the following:\n\n- She stop sleeping with him\n- She break contact with him\n\nShe thinks this is unreasonable because I don't trust her. Her logic is that if she stops sleeping with him, I might not believe her, so she should just sleep with him. She also will not cut ties with him because he is the only person at her work that is near her age and she is friends with (NOTE: coworkers was one of those boundaries I asked for because of the complication is causes, she broke this boundary).\n\nAm I being unreasonable by asking these things?", "summary": "4yr relationship went on break. She wants to go to relationship counseling but keep sleeping with her lover while we work on things. I think it's nuts but am looking for another opinion."}
{"id": "t3_1yl737", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23 f) and my (ex) boyfriend (24 m) broke up after two years of dating. Help.", "post": "We broke up last weekend after dating for almost two years.  I know that breakups suck and are supposed to be really shitty, but I don't know how to take care of myself alone.  \n\nI have plenty of coping mechanisms (journaling, exercising, hanging out with friends and family, etc) but they aren't enough.  I went through trauma therapy last winter and he was my complete support system through that.  After that, I relied on him for almost every hardship I dealt with.  \n\nI know I can do this without him, but I don't know how to.  What are some ways to cope by myself without relying on him or on my friends, family and therapist completely?  I feel pretty helpless, hopeless, and alone.", "summary": "I don't know how to cope alone.  How do I deal with adversity by myself?"}
{"id": "t3_2o3577", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/F] My ex's (19/M) girlfriend (18/F) has hit on me several times without him knowing", "post": "Hi, Reddit. I'm in a very unusual  situation. I'll call my ex Joe for this story. I met my Joe (19) when we were both 17. I instantly fell in love and we were dating for an entire year when he left me for someone else. I was shattered. 3-4 months later they broke up, as she had cheated on him several times, with both guys and girls. Joe and I remained friends during this time and after two months we got back together. I know it was a stupid decision. \n\nWell, we dated for 2-3 months more and this girl decides to come back to him and he leaves me again (I know I shouldn't have been surprised). At this point, I decide to cut all contact with him. I go by his place when he's not there to collect part of my things and she's there. At first she just started making small talk, then she kissed me out of no where. I told her I was heterosexual and she told me she had huge crush on me, but knew Joe would be angry and asked me not tell him. Two weeks and several drunk texts later, she's hit on my numerous times and made her intentions with me very clear. I still needed to get the rest of my things though, so I went to his place and she was there. She was sober, so I didn't think I needed to worry about her coming on to me, but she kissed me AGAIN. \n  I know this is a dream for a lot of guys, but Joe would definitely be very upset if he knew about this and I'm not sure if I should tell him or not.", "summary": "Ex's gf has kissed me twice and hit on me several times and wants to get with me. My ex would be very upset at this taking place."}
{"id": "t3_1ugre9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (27F) be upset that my BF (26M) didn't get me ANYTHING for my Birthday on Christmas?", "post": "We've been together for about 6 years and living together for approx. 3 years. I've had conversations with him in the past about this so he is aware of how I feel. He knows, at the least, a card would mean a lot. I used to give him gifts/cards for Birthdays and random things I think he might enjoy. He's always thankful to receive gifts, but he's never really returned the favor. \n\nMy BF is doing very well for himself financially and buys quality Christmas gifts for his large family (sometimes hundreds of dollars on one gift). All I wanted for my Birthday (aka Christmas) was to do something low-key together. Go to Dinner. Watch a Movie. He works from Home and decides his own hours. After waiting and having him \"postpone\" things for weeks, it was already Christmas Eve. He had let the hours and days slip into weeks and a month. I realized, after all the patience and waiting, that none of the Christmas things I wanted to do for my Birthday was happening. Around 1am on Christmas Day (after a heated discussion), he decided to purchase me a 3-month subscription to Spotify. It upset me. I still feel silly having spent over an hour looking for his Christmas gift weeks earlier while he hastily clicked send in the middle of the night.\n\nWe went to his family's house for Christmas. I spend many hours wrapping gifts for his family every year. I wasn't expecting much, but while celebrating Christmas at his family's, I hoped someone would remember that it was my Birthday. I've been hanging out with his family for years now. No one remembered. Maybe he didn't tell them. Maybe they forgot. It was disappointing though. I felt like an outsider as I sat on the floor watching everyone exchange gifts on my Birthday, wishing each other Merry Christmas.\n\nOver the years, similar instances of his laziness and selfishness has left me questioning whether I want this to work or not. Am I overreacting? Am I entitled to be upset? Or should I shut up and get over it?", "summary": "My BF has not gotten me anything for my Birthday, which is on Christmas... for the past 4 of 6 years of our live-in relationship."}
{"id": "t3_23ets6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roommate's girlfriend sleeps here every night. Is it ok to ask him to stay at her house sometimes?", "post": "For the past two weeks or so my roommate's girlfriend has been here basically 24/7 (and so has he.) We live in a tiny house with thin walls and I've started feeling really uncomfortable and claustrophobic. I'm very introverted and though she seems like a sweet girl I've gotten really tired of running into her multiple times a day. \n\nI also find it annoying that they both never leave the house. They're here when I leave in the morning and when I get back they don't seem to have moved. I'm a private person and have found that I don't feel comfortable chatting to friends in the living room while they can hear from the kitchen or even having a private phone call - my bedroom is right next to his and we can both hear everything that's being said in the other room. One night I went to the bathroom off the kitchen to avoid being overheard and immediately heard him outside the door of the bathroom, cleaning the kitchen. \n\nI really don't care about asking the girlfriend to pay rent or bills. Though it's annoying that she's using everything, it's really not about that for me. It's having too many extra people in the house for me to feel comfortable. Our other roommate's boyfriend is here probably 5 nights a week too, I would say something about this but she's moving out soon so I'm not bothering. But with 5 people in our tiny house with one bathroom the last few weeks have been really uncomfortable. And before someone says I'm jealous, I have my own boyfriend who has his own place, we alternate staying at mine and his so he's not here all the time. \n\nAt this point I'm wondering whether she's still paying rent at her own place and if so if it's ok to ask them to go there more often?", "summary": "roommate's girlfriend seems to have moved in without any discussion about it."}
{"id": "t3_3fvm4r", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Being charged w/ \"Break /enter w/ intent\" I've done my research & fairly sure I can beat this. Ontario/Canada", "post": "Hi /r/legaladvice , I'm being charged with 'break and enter with intent to commit an indictable offense.'  This is my first time being charged with a criminal offense, and I cannot afford a lawyer. \n\n I've done my research and based on the circumstances, I'm reasonably sure I can beat the charge entirely, If not then certainly have dropped to a lesser charge.  \n\nI'm already pretty confident in  my defense (probably because I'm not guilty of the crime lol), though I would be a fool not to seek counsel.\n \nOne thing I'm not sure of is when/where/how to I get my disclosure from the crown? Also I have some generic questions regarding mys defense, specifically I need an attorney to advise me what parts of my planned defense I should avoid entirely, and possibly ideas for a better wording if applicable.  \n\nNote:I absolutely will be contacting legal aid to have a professional represent me, but I assume  there is always a  possibility of getting an incompetent attorney or worse.  So I would just like to be prepared with an additional opinion.  \n\nThat being said.. I was sort of hoping I could chat with someone privately (I know, I know get in line) just as I want to explain in detail the circumstances etc and don't want to be possibly identified.", "summary": "> First time being charged, though I have an interest in law. I feel this will be very simple charge to beat given the circumstances and Im basically hoping some one can A)confirm this or B) let me know if I mention anything that  should NOT be used in/as a defense in this situation."}
{"id": "t3_1ttutu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(17/m) In a great relationship with my girlfriend (17/f), but facing some issues", "post": "We are both high school seniors who will be going to college in a year. The college I am going to is about 3 1/2 hours away from the one she will be attending. She has been my only serious girlfriend up to this point, and she wants to stay together through college and then move in together. Every time I'm with her, I have so much fun. She is so great, but in the back of my mind I want to have experiences with different girls. Not sure what to do/think. I know if I break up with her, she may be gone forever, and I know that I'm really in love with this girl.", "summary": "In a great relationship with my girlfriend, but I think I want to date different people in college. Need some help!"}
{"id": "t3_2nx3h9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The moral of the story is: don't be a crazy stalking spouse.", "post": "Backstory: I recently found that my husband has been secretly sexting (real) people. We're trying to work through it all but I'm still feeling really betrayed and inadequate. I'm not entirely convinced it never got physical.... \n\nToday, he receives a text from a number not saved to his contacts while I'm next to him. He says it's a wrong number and hastily deletes it. A bit later, the same number calls him; he doesn't pick up. I memorize the number. I ask why he's not responding to it and he gets angry.\n\nI wait til he's asleep and send a simple \"hey\" from his phone to the number I committed to memory. Long story short: I figure out that it's his ex-wife and she tells him (me) that she's started cutting again. She states she needs help. I stopped texting and deleted the exchange, panicked and feeling tremendously guilty. \n\nHave been laying here mulling it over in my head. As a former cutter, I can't not do anything. She and I have never communicated, but I think I'm going to write back to her from my own number and refer her to some resources. I know that this likely means my husband will find out and this will set us back again. \n\nAny ideas on how I can get her these resources without incriminating myself?", "summary": "I crazywifestalked my husband's phone and inadvertently ended up receiving \"I started cutting again\" cries for help from his exwife..."}
{"id": "t3_yodfo", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I've moved on - why does this hurt so much? (X-Post, r/Relationships)", "post": "Hi, guys. I'll try to keep this brief, but give all the backstory I need to make myself clear.\n\nAt the beginning of December, I [19 f] broke up with my first long term boyfriend [18 m]. First kiss, first lover, first everything. We dated for almost two years. It was a very toxic relationship, he was selfish and sexist, very immature and very dominant, but I never realized it because I had never experienced anything else. Even sex with him was never anything special. We never \"made love.\" We just had sex.\n\nIn February, I met the most wonderful guy on earth. He is everything my first boyfriend wasn't, and I am head over heels madly in love with him. Every time we make love, it is passionate and loving and perfect.\n\nMy ex-boyfriend, all the while, still showed signs of not moving on, and swore up and down that he would never find anyone else for him, nor would ever want to.\n\nToday, however, I found out that my ex-boyfriend has been casually hooking up all summer with a girl we both know, whom he will be attending college with, both as freshmen. I also found out that he blocked me from Facebook, and unfollowed me on other social networking websites, seemingly unprompted.\n\nI thought I had moved on. I have no complaints about my relationship - heck - or even my life. But why does this hurt so much? Is it wrong to wish, even just a little bit, that he still hadn't moved on? I guess I just miss feeling wanted. Even from someone who treated me so awfully.\n\nAny words of advice, or similar stories?", "summary": "Moved on from toxic relationship, ex-boyfriend didn't until recently, when he started hooking up casually with a mutual friend. Why does this hurt so much?"}
{"id": "t3_1hxurf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24[F] still madly in love with ex, but content with new bf.. not sure what to do", "post": "I'll keep this short and sweet.\n\nMy ex of 3 years and I split up a while ago, and during the time apart I've never not thought about him or not missed him, even after I moved on and entered a new relationship. I'm happy with my current boyfriend, but a large part of me wants to get back with my ex (he very much wants us to have another chance, but not immediately; he wants us to keep focusing on improving ourselves and get back together when the time is 'right').\n\nI'm not sure if I should 'give up' on that relationship and move on. I'm not sure if I even can.", "summary": "I still love my ex, despite having a new relationship that makes me as happy. Can't stop thinking about wanting to be with my ex."}
{"id": "t3_2xklfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my crush [20 F] duration 2 weeks, she made out with another dude while texting me", "post": "Been texting with this girl from tinder for almost two weeks. We've grown fairly close in this time, but I haven't let myself get too invested because we haven't met yet. The reason we haven't met yet is because she is on a 'boy break,' after a bad experience with her previous partner but is ending it soon. Soon as in we have plans to meet this week. \n\nDuring our chat this morning she reveals to me she was making out with a guy on Friday night. I am upset by this for two reasons; one being she was on a 'boy break,' and two being she was drunk texting me cute things before and after it happened. \n\nI told her why I am upset by these things, and she's told me she's practically bawling over it because she told her friends she was holding out for me. \n\nI don't know if I'm over reacting by being upset because we haven't actually met yet, or if I'm valid to be upset. Is this a red flag?", "summary": "Girl I haven't met yet might be throwing up red flags already."}
{"id": "t3_2eta0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my friend [23 F] - friends for years, can't move on from a stalemate argument", "post": "I had an argument with a friend recently. \n\nWe had both been winding each other up for some time until things sort of exploded and, as in most arguments, some very mean and hurtful things were said. That's not the problem, everyone has arguments \u2013 the problem is on how we address problems.\n\nFor me, when I've had an argument with someone, in the aftermath I have a real need to talk about what happened, which in my mind is so I can feel like my side was understood and to try and understand the other person so that maybe it can be avoided in future. When she has had an argument with someone, she believes her most loving response is to just push past it and move on, I guess the logic there being trying to 'accept' what happened and not rehash old ground. So my attempts at talking about it seem like an attack to try and make her feel bad about it all over again \u2013 her attempts to just move past it seem to me as being shut down and my feelings trivialized. \n\nWe're not talking but agreed to try again in a month \u2013 however I don't know how I can do this, despite really valuing this girl in my life, because I feel like I'll just have so much bottled up I won't be able to 'move on', as I feel and have felt for days a horrible sinking in my stomach at my 'side' of the argument being waved away and called 'dramatic', and that's the problem really. I can't work or concentrate well on anything recently because I can't let that feeling go somehow. I know I need to take a deep breathe and everything, usually I'm pretty good at doing that, but this time it's really got to me. How can I talk to this girl again and remain friends without letting my pride get so much in the way?", "summary": "how do you move on from an argument when you feel like your say has been ignored?"}
{"id": "t3_4lbgh5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Advice) My (17f) boyfriend (19m) doesn't trust me?", "post": "So I've been dating my  bf   a year and a half now its long distance but we met recently and it was amazing I'm seeing him again over the summer. So a couple weeks ago we had an argument because I said something and he miss heard me and I swore up and down that I was telling the truth but still he didn't believe me it made me upset and I was. Clearly upset but still he wouldn't believe me. This happened again last week, and it really upset me but that time it was before School Be cause he usually wakes me up for school and we talk before I go in. This morning his brother came in and didn't believe me about something too and it made me feel bad and then I remembered how he never didn't believe me too which made me feel worse. I've never given him a reason to not trust me EVER and yet he didn't believe. \n\nSo I brought it up to him and he said that he only pretended to not believe me because he missed me and wanted to keep me talk??? So I said but I was clearly upset and he said ik again I just wanted you to keep talking. Then he said that he missed me even though we talk every single day I wake him up for work he wakes me up for school we talk all the time from 3pm when I wake him up to 10pm when he comes into work then he wakes me up at 6am to go to school. So how can he miss me?? This week we didn't really talk in the morning because I've been severely depressed so its been difficult for me to get out the bed or I just wanted to be alone. The thing that makes me angry is that he tried to turn it around and say that the reason why he did this was because he missed me thinking that we had that fight this week when I didn't talk to him in the morning much but \n This fight was last week. What do I do do I stay mad at him do I confront him again or do I ignore it?", "summary": "my boyfriend thought I was lying during two small fights we had even though I've never given him a reason to not trust me and I don't know if I should talk to him about it because we keep fighting."}
{"id": "t3_5143il", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Help getting two fighting cats to be friendly again", "post": "Ill start by giving you some background: I have three cats in total, two males and one female. Originally I had the female by myself but after meeting and moving in with my girlfriend she brought her male cat into the mix.\n\nFor the first couple months they were very friendly but eventually the male cat started sneaking up on the female in the litter box, and from there the fighting began.\n\nAfter months of fighting an opportunity arose to get a third cat so we did. While it didn't affect the fighting (the third cat is very sweet and gets along with the other two very well) we decided to move to a bigger place (two floors, three bedrooms) so they would have more space and hopefully fight less.\n\nOf course, this did not work as planned.\n\nNow, lately the female cat has been peeing on our couch and can't interact with bullying male cat without hissing and a fight breaking out. And the funny thing is, when we bring the cats to my parents for a week (dogsitting) the cats do not fight at all!\n\nCan anyone explain what is happening and what I can do to prevent fights, and if possible, get the cats to become friends again. Thanks for the advice!", "summary": "two formerly friendly cats fight constantly. How can I prevent fights and get them to be friendly around each other."}
{"id": "t3_1qhfpr", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Kid, your mommy is a bad driver.", "post": "Small backstory: I just started driving about 2 months ago so I'm still kind of new to it. \n\nOne night I was working at my shitty retail job but looking forward to going to a party afterwards when I got off at 11 pm. My friend picked me up but she had to do her makeup so she let me drive. So I was driving doing the speed limit (35) when a car started riding my ass and turned on their high beams and then began honking. At this point I realized they were mad because the speed limit had just turned to 40 and I was still going 35. They decided to be a dick about it so I slowed to 30 and they ride my ass even more till they got tired of the smell of my ass I guess and switched lanes to zoom off. \n\nWhen I pull up to the red light ahead who do I see beside us but Ms. Impatient. And her maybe 10 year old son. She throws her hands in the air and gives me dirty looks and shakes her head. And the whole time I'm just staring at her with a straight face. The light turns green and I speed off and cut her off. Then she changes lanes and I politely put on my blinker and change lanes in front of her. Then my turn came and I took it and she sped away with a \"fuck you!\"", "summary": "mother is a shitty driver teaching her young son to be an asshole like her."}
{"id": "t3_3bhmhh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [24M] and my girlfriend [25F] broke up recently out of the blue, she asked to brake up but was really distraught about it... What happened?", "post": "We've been dating for 4 months and we had some drama in the beginning (ex tried to intimidate her), but during our last month together everything was good. Then on a Friday after work she comes home and when I go to kiss her she stops me and says: I've been praying and I can't shake this feeling, I feel that God is telling me to call this relationship off\". She was crying, we hugged and we kissed each other's foreheads telling each other we loved each other. She asked me not to call her or text her because it would make the break up impossible for her. She grabbed her stuff and left noticeably sad (as if she got dumped). I begged her to stay... I really do care about her... What happened? Should I go after her? Or should I let her be?", "summary": "we really love each other and connect in a deep level, but she wanted to break up because she said God was warning her. She was very upset."}
{"id": "t3_44hp6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Things get weird between bf (26m) and I (24f)", "post": "To make this easy I am going to call him joe. Not his real name, obviously, and this is a throw away because I feel like it. \n\nJoe is wonderful when we're alone. Joe makes me feel safe and secure. Joe works his ass off. Joe also likes attention from women. Joe gets this attention through private means of communication, mostly facebook messaging girls that he has known since highschool. There is light flirting with the girl who lives in san fran now, doubts about relationships with the girl from our town (ex: \"I keep hoping your flirting with .e which is strange because I am in a 2 yr relationship and youre in a relationship and its strange to veer away from those\") checking up on a mutual friend going through a breakup with cheery words like \"you're drop dead gorgeous keep your head up\". \n\nWe are honest in our relationship, and open. He tells me about these things. When I am uncomfortable, I verbalize it. And thats where things go bad. He gets defensive and argues that I am being crazy.\n\nSo I take to reddit. Am I crazy? Emotions and jealousy arent really his thing and cheating is only physical. He has been cheated on before and never has cheated himself. We're the first healthy relationship he has had, and we are trying to clear some boundaries here. Thanks all if you have gotten this far!", "summary": "something about healthy boundaries"}
{"id": "t3_fm2hh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I fucked up and I want her back!", "post": "Ok so we are both 18 and in high school. We met while I was dating someone else. Me and that girl ended up breaking up after 8 months, and I quickly took my chance with this girl. This girl is beyond beautiful, cool, great personality, etc. We talked for awhile and hung out a couple times. She ended up coming over to my place for a party. I got wasted, and she barely did any. We ended up having sex, and it was her first time. Bad way for a first time right.\n\nAnyways we talked for about a month after, but ended because I ended up going to the ex. I thought I loved this girl (the ex). We dated again for another 5 months. And did not talk to the other girl at all. But of course me and the ex ended up breaking up, completely done with her now.\n\nI ended up becoming friends again with the other girl, luckily. I really want to actually have a relationship with her now. I feel so bad about taking her virginity then walking out like a cliche high school douche bag. All I want to do is give her what she deserved back when we first talked, a relationship. We have only hung out twice since I broke up with the ex. We are good friends now, but have unfortunately agreed on being 'just friends' because everyone keeps asking and talking about us.\n\nBut I secretly still want her. We went to our school dance together, but didn't hang out after. We talk all the time, mostly on facebook. She keeps playing with my head like \"Oh I want you as my valentine\" and other shit. She says she doesn't want to go out alot because she doesn't want to feel tempted to hook up. She still has feelings for me, but says she can't do it to herself again.\n\nI just want to prove I AM changed, I CAN be that guy she deserves. I really am a nice guy and want to give her the world.\n\nWhat should I do Reddit?", "summary": "I took her virginity, went back to my ex girlfriend. Now I want her back for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2c1blt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did my girlfriend cheat on me?", "post": "For the past two months my girlfriend (who I have been dating for the past year) has been studying abroad and doing a service trip in a foreign country. It's been pretty smooth sailing until yesterday. Last night my girlfriend sent me this message over facebook \"We had a thank you dinner tonight for the people who helpes while we were here which was fun but then a bunch of the girls wanted to go to a bar since its our last opportunity to do something like that so we all went but I hated it. The guys there kept grabbing me and pulling me into dance. Some like sandwhiched me inbetween them and another just brushed his fingers across my chest. It was honesetly the worst experience ive had here. Thanks for never pressuring me into anything or being forceful. I love you\" Then I sent a long and lenghty response and asking her what I could do, how to make her feel better, etc. and she responded with \"Theres nothing you can do until Im home and with you. I know im probably just paranoid and its nothing but why didn't she just tell the guys to stop? or say no to dancing? and if she wanted them to stop it would have been fairly easy to stop them in a bar full of people right? Please let me know what everyone thinks and that it is nothing and im paranoid. We are both 20 years old and have been dating for a year.", "summary": "My girlferiend has been studying abroad and went to a bar and I think she might have made an excuse for cheating on me"}
{"id": "t3_4hmj4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [24 F] of 4 years. Should I seek closure after years of no contact.", "post": "Hi reddit,  \n\nMe and my ex shared one of those big, only-a-few-times-in-your-life relationships. Unfortunately it didn't work out as most relationships don't when you go from being a teenager to a panicking semi-adult.  \n\nThe break-up was somewhat messy, but nothing insanely bad. I'm sure she regrets some things as do I.  We were both on the cusp of  change and although our ambitions and life goals had never NOT been aligned, I think the relationship itself just got too big for us. This combined with the honeymoon period puttering out eventually suffocated the whole thing.  \n\nWe've barely been in contact in two years. Pretty much not at all. I think I sent her a letter a year ago saying that even though we both got burnt, I was still happy that we had gone through the experience.  She never replied and I would've been shocked if she did.  \n\nHere's my problem. I don't think I'm completely over her and I don't know if she is either. But then again, two years is a long time and I have made some headway. I know what went wrong. What I messed up and where she messed up, but the knowledge barely gives me any comfort.  I think the thought of her scares me. Seeing and talking to her scares me like a shock of electricity, ya dig? So I think, if we'd just meet and talk maybe I'd be easier to work through it.  \n\nIt's a mess. I'd love to get advice from others who've been in my position. Does the elusive 'closure' actually exist? Do ex's get together again?  \n\nThanks.", "summary": "Does closure exist? Do ex's get together? Should I talk to her after two years of no contact. She's still in my head and life is confusing."}
{"id": "t3_1o17zx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors in a relationship: if in a dream you had the opportunity to have sex with someone other than your partner, would you?", "post": "My thought has always been this: say you and another person could have sex and you are 100% certain no one but you and that person would ever know. Most people who consider themselves faithful would decline the opportunity. Now, say the opportunity presents itself in a dream where you could have sex with another person. Most people who consider themselves faithful would say they would do it, but what's the difference?\n\nAnd please don't tell me you can't control yourself in dreams. Sure, you may not be able to run as fast as want to when you're being chased by a storm, but no one has ever claimed they dreamt they were having sex and they couldn't stop. Fun fact: Blue's Clues taught me how to control my dreams.", "summary": "I don't see much difference between \"cheating\" on someone by having sex with another person in a dream and cheating on someone by having sex with another person in real life. "}
{"id": "t3_2l7zg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [22M] been seeing a girl [21F] for 6 months. She's still hesitant to commit or be anything official. Is it time to give up?", "post": "I've been seeing this girl [21F] for 6 months, early on we still saw other people although it only happened a two times by her and once by me. Since then we've said we are exclusive but she isn't ready to be in a committed relationship and won't even promise me that she won't hook up with someone else after going out. We're really close now, I took her virginity and I think that I'm falling in love with her but she's not ready to make any commitment, although she says she thinks about it a lot. My friends say I should give her an ultimatum but that really sounds like a bad idea. Should I keep waiting or move on?", "summary": "6 Months no commitment. Give up?"}
{"id": "t3_39jvcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] Wife [23 F] of just under 1 year said that her \"love language\" is different than she had previously said.", "post": "Backstory:\n\nWhen we started getting serious about our relationship a few years ago we read the book \"The 5 Love Languages.\" She had told me that her's were \"receiving gifts\" and \"acts of service.\"  So for that past 3 years I have been showering her with gifts and doing things for her (dishes, laundry, trash, general house work) to show that I love her. She had never shown any real response to what I was doing. It seemed like she didn't care. I continued showing her how I loved her by doing these things. I would do romantic things for her like cook dinner for her and have dozens of roses everywhere in the house or buy out restaurants and fill them with candles and roses so she felt special. \n\nWhat happened tonight:\n\nShe came home from spending a week with her family saying that I don't show her that I love her and that her love languages are not  gifts and acts of service, but rather words of affirmation and me telling her how I love her. I am not a well spoken man and I have never been one. \n\nIt almost seems like she wants to end our marriage because she doesn't feel loved. She said she hates who she has become because of me. \n\nI am going to try my hardest to tell her how I feel and to encourage her. But I'm not sure if it will be enough.", "summary": "She changed her mind on how she wants me to show her affection and love. Now she wants to leave me because of it. "}
{"id": "t3_rulca", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Qatar airways screwed me, trying to fight back, need advice.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n    I need some advice on how to deal with this situation. I bought a airline ticket online 3 months prior to travel (on qatarairways.com) for myself and my wife mine was a return ticket (Detroit- India- Detroit) and my wife's was a one way ticket (India - Detroit). I used a credit card issued by a major bank in USA (one of the too big to fail banks) to purchase both the tickets. My onward journey (Detroit- India) was fine. While returning back the agent issuing the boarding pass asked me for the credit card I had purchased the ticket with. Unfortunately the bank had closed my credit card and issued me a new credit card on the same account (but different card number) a month prior to my travel and was asked to destroy my old credit card. The agent was unable to print the boarding pass for my wife but was able to print the boarding pass for me. So I was forced to purchase a new ticket at the airport for my wife almost twice the cost of the original ticket. I have been trying to deal with the customer service people at qatar airways but it is all in vain, when I call they say all refund request must be done using online form and when I do it online they ask me to contact Qatar airways office in India and when I contact the office in India they ask me to contact their ecommerce support who do not respond to the emails. I am really frustrated and not sure how to proceed. Can Reddit help?", "summary": "Qatar airways cannot print boarding pass. Made me purchase new ticket. Not refunding my money."}
{"id": "t3_1qvl2n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to tell if a co-worker likes me? (typical teenager problems.. lol)", "post": "Hello all. Feel free to downvote me to oblivion based on my title..\n\nThere is this girl that I work with. I work in this small store where everyone knows each other fairly well.. or at least knows each other in some sort of way. Anyways, fast forward a couple of months and this girl gets hired. Right off the bat, every guy is talking about her and saying how attractive and hot she is. Another few weeks past by and we're all talking and everything blah blah. So I notice this girl is looking at my at random times and smiling.. Even to the point where she would stand *really* close to me to the when there's plenty of space around us.", "summary": "don't know if girl likes me and I'm a pussy when it comes to this"}
{"id": "t3_31oa1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] having trouble figuring out [21M] crush", "post": "So I know this guy from college and we don't really hang out often cos we're in different courses. But recently I've been messaging him on facebook a lot and I feel like I'm getting mixed signals, but maybe he's just trying to be nice? \n\nI'm always the one who initiates conversations, but he'll respond in a friendly way and sometimes try to keep the conversation going. Recently I've been trying to refrain from messaging him just to see will he try to initiate, but I don't know if he's busy or doesn't notice I'm online or whatnot and just as I'm about to give up he'll like one of my pictures or status updates or something and I'll land myself right back in crazy town, crushing like a schoolgirl. \n\nIt's driving me crazy because on the one hand I wanna stop thinking about him so I can just be a normal human again instead of this crazy obsessive girl, but on the other hand I really do like him and I don't wanna just squash any chance I have with him over something that can be explained, y'know?", "summary": "I'm in super crazy crush mode and need help figuring out if it's one sided."}
{"id": "t3_2vcdo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What does it mean when he[20M] text me[20F] and then doesn't respond?", "post": "I was hooking up with a guy that I really liked. We went back to our separate universities and I hadn't heard from him at all since winter break, the last time we hooked up (about 3 weeks ago at that point). He texted me around 11am just 'hey', I got really excited and texted him 'hey!' back. And he never responded. \n\nThis happened a couple days ago so I don't think he's planning on responding at all. He's been posting snapchats of him and this one girl keeps appearing in it, so I'm just really all around confused. Can someone help me interpret this?", "summary": "old hook up texted me and never replied."}
{"id": "t3_3d5a6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [20 F] -- She wants financial security but I'm headed down the entrepreneur/business owner path", "post": "We've been together around 6 months now, everything is going beyond well, but she's realizing that she will never feel financially stable unless I have a degree. \n\nMy business is very immune to market conditions(buying/selling products) and I know that I can always move to a new product and maintain cash flow. It's risky to her to keep opening/closing businesses, where I see it as business as usual. Even if I had a bankroll and a track record, she still wouldn't feel comfortable with this.\n\nThe more we talk, it seems as though it isn't so much about the degree, but a matter of going down the beaten path. My mentality is to go where the best opportunity lies, even if it is on the off-beaten path.\n\nShe has some trouble with wanting to control the world around her, though I'm not sure if that is at play or if that's what she truly wants.\n\nWe're so incredibly in love with each other and have already talked with eachother's parents about our future potential and marriage, but this is a make or break issue we have.\n\nWe're very picky with who we date(both single for many years) and we click on so many things we didn't think it was possible to be so connected to someone.", "summary": "Despite being in love, we have a different mentality towards life. We want to spend our lives together, but this is a make/break situation and we don't know how to proceed. "}
{"id": "t3_185e7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you know a dirty secret about your close friends SO, should you keep quiet?", "post": "Hey guys.\nSo i am at a loss. I've been put in a pretty awkward position in a situation that is now effecting me and my fianc\u00e9.\n\nHere's the story...\n\nI have worked at the same place for 5 years. For most of that time I have worked side by side with a girl there. She is a few years younger than me and is pretty innocent and not very street smart. Her and I have become great friends over the years and I care a lot about her.\nI have known her boyfriend, who works with my fianc\u00e9,  for a very long time.  \n\nHer boyfriend, since I've know him, uses drugs on weekends for fun with friends. His girlfriend, my work friend, knows he has done this in the past and tells me that he hasn't done drugs since he's been with her. She always says she is so proud of him as well as herself for \"fixing\" him. Which is really not something I agree with. I learned early on that you can't change anyone if they don't want to change themselves.\n\nAnyways, here is the problem. Her boyfriend is lying to her and has been for years. He still uses drugs with his friends when they spend time apart. I know this because the other day he tried to give my fianc\u00e9 shrooms. AT WORK! I was pretty pissed. My fianc\u00e9 was taken back as well. My fianc\u00e9 said that my friends boyfriend has told him many times about using recreational drugs on the weekends. He also told him that his girlfriend has no idea.\n\nI care a great deal about my friend and am not sure what to do. The other day I felt like telling her to tell her boyfriend not to try to give drugs to my fianc\u00e9 at work. He could get fired. But at this point I'm not sure how much of this involves me or what I should do. If my fianc\u00e9 was lying to me for years about using drugs I would want someone to tell me. I just don't know that it's my place to tell her. I don't wanna be a douche and rat him out, or ruin their relationship. She loves him so much and seems so happy. What the hell should I do?", "summary": "I know that my good friends boyfriend is using drugs and has been lying to her about it for years. Should I tell her or keep out of their business?"}
{"id": "t3_yix3o", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Annuity transfer, in relation to bankruptcy?", "post": "So, my father (60) is going through a rough financial situation.  He was laid off from Kodak (Kodak is quite the sinking ship), and just last month got approved for SS disability for some major back issues he's been having.  He's going through a bankruptcy to get rid of whatever debt he has, and is trying to shortsell or foreclose the house so that he can majorly downsize.\n\nHe recently came to me asking if he could \"transfer a small annuity\" that he has into my name.  He said that his lawyers mention that this annuity effects his tax bracket (which is now based on SS fixed income) and it would majorly benefit him for medical benefit reasons. \n\nNow, I know that offloading assets to someone during a bankruptcy is majorly illegal, but this seems to be not related (can bankruptcy take an annuity anyways?).  /r/pf, his lawyer is coming to me with the details soon, but is there anything fishy about this situation?  I'd love to help my Dad out, but I don't want to get into any legal shenanigans.", "summary": "Is transferring an annuity from my father to me illegal, in the context of a bankruptcy case? "}
{"id": "t3_g9b03", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend may desperately need my support, at a stressful life changing time.", "post": "First time poster after browsing for years; I hope that I am posting in the right subreddit, please feel free to redirect before things get repetitive. I am also fully aware that audience outside of the UK may have difficulty understanding the UK academic system however in all honesty the back story is not dependent on responding to the premise. Anyway, onwards:\n\nMy girlfriend, of 4 years, suffers from performance anxiety after being bullied during her early teens (before she knew me and for the for the first year of our relationship). She got good grades at GCSE (yep, from THAT side of the pond) from grades A-C in 10 subjects. Since then she has failed all but a couple of modules in her A levels. I am not too keen on submitting exactly what her A levels are, she has been known to browse reddit on occasion, but lets say they are not easy subjects. She currently has offers from 4 universities in the UK, all requiring very low grades that reflect her AS level performance, however her school are skeptical as to whether she will meet them. I have always been supportive of my girlfriend and would never want to even discuss any alternative arrangements as I don't want to make her feel as if I am doubting her, however should things not go to plan I don't want to find myself in an awkward situation, unable to help. I am worried that she may not get into university and really just wanted to know how reddit felt, without it turning into a circlejerk on pro/anti-university. It is stressful for my girlfriend as she works so hard, gets good marks in her practice papers only to see the grades slip through her fingers when it gets to crunch time. I have offers to do Economics to 3 Top 10 Universities and can say hand on heart she has alot to offer. I will however be very busy once I start my courses in late september and will therefore not be in the best position to help her at all times. So ladies and gentlemen or reddit, I am therefore asking you your opinion and/or experience on what she should do should she not be able to get into university and, perhaps in a way more importantly, in what ways might I be as supportive as possible.", "summary": "My very able but performance anxiety suffering girlfriend may not get into university this summer and pursue her chosen career. How might I best handle the worst case scenario and what advice might you give her should she not get into university?"}
{"id": "t3_2rh6yc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I've been bed-bound for the last couple of years. I'd like to get up but don't know how.", "post": "I remember that i had just came out of a stint of constant pain that covered my body for a couple of years prior and so was really happy for a couple of months since it didnt feel like i was on fire anymore. Shortly after starting high school the life had started to hemorrhage and shortly vanished. Ever since then ive been pretty much catatonic in my bed, even when i went away for college. Its not that ive been sad about anything I normally feel nothing at all towards anything. This really screws with the main tasks of life such as college, work , or even eating since it never feels worthy of getting out of bed. i've recently discovered that drugs(cocaine, lsd, etc) are the only cure for this although they are temporary.  When I induce a high i tend to be motivated to do things, create goals,  get out of bed and live life like my peers. The problem is that drugs are expensive and their effects are very attractive and unique, i'd like a long term fix so that i can get on with life without the need of drugs.", "summary": "ive been stuck to my bed since I was ~14 and recently discovered that drugs are the only thing that makes life worth it and no longer wish to rely on them since being high(which allows me to type this) is quite expensive. I do not expect to be as emotional, or motivated as cocaine, or alcohol makes me but i'd like some semblance of that in my daily life. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_2lwdrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my Fiance [27F] of 11 years, Feeling strong romantic feelings about an old friend; confused/frustrated not sure what to make of it.", "post": "A little background: I've been with my fiance for 11 years now. We met in high school. A little after we met, she introduced me to a friend of hers(27F now), whom I had a few classes with, and become close friends with as well. Turned out that she had a crush on me back then. I always had a bit of an attraction to her, as well, but I remained faithful to my girl.\nAfter high school my girlfriend and I stayed together, we now live together and are planning on getting married (eventually). I've kept in on and off contact with the friend, helping her through life stuff, being a good friend. I see her every few months or so.\n\nLast few years, I've been finding myself thinking more and more about her (the friend). Having dreams. General thoughts about her, that kinda thing. \n\nAt this point I'm thinking about her all the time. The damnedest thing is, I still love my fiance. I would do anything for her, and I want to be with her, but I can't stop thinking about my friend.\n\nI'm losing sleep over this, and have no idea what to do/how to proceed. Can a man actually love two women? I'm just so damned confused and frustrated about the whole thing...\n\nAny words of advice would be greatly appreciated, guys.\n\nAdditionally: I've been having really strong urges to tell the friend how I've been feeling. I don't even know why. I don't even necessarily want her to feel the same way. I just feel like she needs to know. I can't explain my logic on this... Anyone who can help me make sense of these feelings would be my hero.", "summary": "I've been with my Fiance for 11 years, and I'm afraid that I'm in love with an old friend as well... I'm confused and worried and feeling guilty and not sure what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_2hqk57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26 F] When is it time to break up?", "post": "I am definitely unhappy. I have tried *so* hard to communicate openly and honestly with my boyfriend of 4 years, but we keep having miscommunication problems and many times he leaves me so hurt and hurting my self worth. I know he has mental issues (depression, mild autism and low self worth) and he is fully admitted to me he needs to work on his way of communication with me. Over the years he has made much effort and he is not the same person he was years ago. Yet I am ashamed to say it doesn't feel like its enough. I still feel under appreciated around him. \n\nHe lacks general sensitivity and is rarely in tune with my needs. I want him to pay attention to me, give me compliments every now and then, do sweet gestures for me, you know? I keep telling him very plainly that I feel under-appreciated. I go to huge lengths to keep him happy. 4 years later I am just left like I am putting more effort and energy into this relationship then he is. \n\nI know its not all his fault though. My life isn't exactly very progressive and he has told me that. I am struggling with issues of my own, particularly social anxiety and very low self esteem. I am constantly depressed and I have no doubt that drains him. Very recently I have gotten better in that department, but its hard to feel very happy in the relationship. I am just so stressed, confused and alone. I went to a psychologist and therapist for 4 years, but it did very little and left me feeling even more alone and just emptied my wallet. I don't know what's best for me. I never had any example of a healthy relationship growing up and am an only child (my parents relationship were the definition of dysfunctional, to put it short) so I don't trust my own gut instincts or anything I feel almost. I feel like if I leave, I will be left in a much worse place where I have no support left because I don't trust other people in general. I feel like they will hurt me and I will always be misunderstood due to my bad social anxiety.", "summary": "Unhappy in my 4 year relationship and don't know if my urge to break up is a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_3482gr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19M) and a coworker (22F), no relationship just yet. Too late to make a move?", "post": "So there's this girl I work with, she is 3 years older than me. She is ridiculously attractive...which is why I was surprised to hear rumors that she thought I was cute. \n\nSo when our work group was hangin out at her apartment, we were watching a movie, when everyone else left. I was about to go with them, but she invited me to stay and finish the movie. I was obviously freaking out at this point, so you can imagine how I was when she asked me to stay for ANOTHER movie after this one ended - this was about 1 AM. Because I had class the next day, I left.\n\n Later, I heard more rumors. And then her friend who I also work with put her number in my phone, because he had been told to tell me to text her. So I did, and we talked until 3 AM. So then I asked her to hang out, and she said yes...we watched a movie and got to know each other more. Still didn't make any sort of move. \n\nI asked her out on an actual date - hiking in the park - and she was very excited about it. However, on the day of the date, she asked if we could just have a boring night inside and watch movies (her exact words). I was a little bummed, but I agreed. So we watched a movie I brought, but she was on her phone the WHOLE TIME. The whole 2 hours, besides making some random chitchat every now and then. I didn't make a move, and honestly I thought it was kinda rude of her...but nonetheless, I texted her again asking her to hang out, and no reply.\n\n It's been a few days now...but I'll see her at work every week. Did I wait too long to make a move? And if so, how can I recover? I really do like this girl. Tell me what I should do :)", "summary": "Took too long to make a move, not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_gzogk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I just quit my job today and meanwhile trying to control my Warcraft 3 addiction. What should I do next?", "post": "Dear Reddit. As the title spoils I have quit my job today after 1 year and 11 months at the same job. I also uninstalled Warcraft 3 from my computer which I have been addicted to for a while.\n\nThe reason for all this is that yesterday I saw a two and a half year old photo of myself, back when I was not addicted to Warcraft and before I started this job. I looked so happy on the photo compared to now and I used the whole night wondering what had went wrong (and fapping). \n\nI used to be a healthy boy with friends and now a fat depressed boy (gained 23 kg in weight). I live a sad life where I go to class 3 times a week (A combo of economy and law studies at a university), work 2 times a week (the most depressing job ever) and use the rest of the time playing Warcraft 3 (and browsing reddit.... And I'm also fapping alot).\n\nSo today I decided to start over and quit my job and delete Warcraft 3 \n\nWhat should I do know? Anyone got some tips for how I should move on with my life? I have no friends since I started at the university. Any tips how to get any friends?\n\nSorry for the typos and the bad grammar. Feel free to ask me questions", "summary": "My life is a mess."}
{"id": "t3_146wsr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with a Friends With Benefits situation?", "post": "I (F19) have been hanging out with a guy(23) for about two months now and he is so nice and we get along wonderfully. About 3 weeks after we started hanging out, we had sex, completely spur of the moment. Now we have this friends with benefits deal going and I can't help but get feelings for him. We don't always have sex, but it has become a pretty common aspect in the relationship. Should  I move on and forget him completely? Or should I ask him about where we stand? I always feel like i'm being too clingy when I ask questions about the relationship :/", "summary": "? Should I stop being a pussy and ask him about our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_unc41", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Depressed boyfriend, because of an apartment. Need advice and input.", "post": "Alright, I thought I could handle this on my own without others advice, but it's got to the point where I need advice. Me 20f him 22m, together for a year or so.\n\nFor the past 6 months my bf had to go back to his moms due to surgery and was unable to stay at his first apartment. His mothers house is a mess and she's not willing to hear even her own family out, about how she lives. Anywho he's been getting more depressed recently and is moving out soon, however I also want to move out and he wanted to move out with me. \n\nI just got a new job about a month ago, and am getting paid this friday (ive been broke for a month now.) I have about $300 saved in my bank, and going to be getting around $1000. Which should be enough to pay the beginning fees, however he has been making me feel worthless within the past two weeks due to my check delay, making me feel that I am the reason he is unhappy.\n\n I have kept him waiting for my check long enough and he is getting really impatient and more depressed the longer he stays at his moms. However within the last two weeks, he is always depressed, making me feel horrible and most of the time we talk I end up getting really upset. Tonight we talked and he decided that if the check wasnt over 1200 it was not going to be enough, In response I told him, the first week(4 days) was training (I get paid for that) and we had memorial day off! We get onto the subject of shady jobs, and I ask, do you think all my jobs are shady, he replies with yes, especially this one. Now I feel like he doesn't appreciate the work that I do. \nI love him, and want him to get through this. I just cant do anything at the moment, and hes making me depressed as well. What can I do?", "summary": "boyfriend is upset with my paycheck being given to me a month after I started working. He thinks my job is shady and I will not have enough for the apartment, and he's depressed because he needs to move out now (moms place is unsanitary for his surgery recovery). How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_411od9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29/M) am having emotional issues in my relationship with my gf (28/f). Need advice in handling emotions and suggestions on dealing with them.", "post": "I have been struggling in my relationship with my girlfriend for about 3 months now with getting upset or frustrated over little things with her. These little things have lead to long conversations and often leads to fighting that can carry on for up to a day or two. The irony is that I feel like I'm rational when I get the emotion of being upset, angry, irritated but after realize that I may be off side. Even when I feel like it's justified, I ask myself after why I couldn't have just taken the high road and be a \"man about it\". \n\nMore recently, i.e. the last 2 weeks, it's been chaos with almost one issue a day that's at least caused some friction. We are seeing each other almost every day and I feel like that can be a huge part of it, but nevertheless I can't rationalize my thoughts after having some time to think about the emotion. These last two weeks I've started to be really hard on myself, having trouble functioning at work and suffering from being extremely down and perhaps even depressed. I know that my I'm constantly starting friction and that after I do, I feel so down because I'm telling myself that I can't be doing this if I want to be in this relationship long term. \n\nI guess I'm wondering if anyone has had to deal with constant emotion in a relationship where it would lead to friction or fighting, and how you overcame the emotion and took the high road. Geez it seems so simple when it's written down but I'm really struggling with it. I love this girl and fear that another week of this will be the end. \nDISCLAIMER: I am seeking professional help.", "summary": "I am getting upset easily and causing friction often. How do I attend to these emotions without showing them or causing any issues?? Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_26axxv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying money shot in front of my gf's parents on our first meeting NSFW (kinda)", "post": "So technically this happened about a week ago but I'm really apprehensive about posting anything on here since I know how you guys eat people alive but anyways... \n\nMy girlfriend was getting ready to graduate from college and like most normal college graduates had her family coming in from out of town to celebrate her success including her Mormon uncles and Grandfather.  So here we are on a beautiful Friday afternoon underneath the canopy, in business casual attire for present or gift distribution time.  Now the gifts were nothing out of the ordinary a kindle some gift cards etc.  After all the gifts are out her mom says, \"wait, I didn't get a picture with you and all the money\", and with out even thinking I blurted out, \"you mean the money shot?\"\n\nDaggers from entire family ,excluding clueless grandpa...\n\nNeedless to say she's now moving home a week before her lease is up with her mom picking her up personally.", "summary": "black guy says to white, mormon gf's family 'money shot'"}
{"id": "t3_jfcmo", "subreddit": "self", "title": "The Opportunity rover is functionally invincible", "post": "The Opportunity rover landed on Mars on January 25, 2004, and started its planned 3 month mission. 3 months later, with 811 meters travelled, Opportunity's mission was extended. The mission controllers decided to celebrate by driving it into a crater they had no feasible plan to get it out of.\n\n229 days later, Opportunity drove out after proving that Mars had once had liquid surface water, and probably oceans, in the past. This was after travelling 1.8 km total and exceeding its planned life by 233%. Since they apparently have no conception of \"calling it a day\", the mission controllers decided to drive it to another crater, 6 times as wide and 7.5 km away -- as in, a distance greater than the total COMBINED distance travelled by EVERY Mars rover EVER. \n\nOn its way, Opportunity examined the first meteorite found on another planet, set a Martian land-speed record (and then broke it), took the only night-time pictures of Mars' moons, and literally dug itself out of a hole. The rover, still going strong, had been on Mars for more than 10 times the original plan. To celebrate, the controllers once again drove it into a giant crater.\n\nAbout two years later, it drove out. The rover had gone about 12 km total since landing, and had been functioning for more than 4.5 years. The controllers then sent it to a third crater, this one 21 km away and 30 times larger than the last -- which is to say, they took the robot that had travelled the most ever on Mars and decided to see if they could get it to triple that distance.\n\nThey could. Opportunity got there today, 7.5 years and 33.3 km after landing. It is, of course, going to drive into it, where it's expected to find rock layers that once might have supported life. I don't know where it's going after that, but likely possibilities include Martian circumnavigation and Robot Valhalla.", "summary": "if you want a good return on your tax dollars you should give them all to JPL."}
{"id": "t3_wyywl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Minimum Wage Drones of Reddit, What Are Your Best Customer Harassment Stories?", "post": "So I'm home from university for the summer, and I work a summer job at a large music venue directing cars in the parking lots. For some reason a majority of the people that leave the venue find it acceptable to harass the employees working in the parking lot because we only make minimum wage and therefore (in their minds) we're useless. Yesterday, a 40+ year, old beer bellied ginger man, kept telling me and my co-workers he was going to go \"Aurora Colorado\" on us, because we were \"lazy fucks\" and wouldn't help him get a cab. The thing is we don't control the cabs, and the guests have to call a cab if they want one, and its completely out of our control when the cabs come. He then started to pick fights with families waiting for cabs and kept calling some dad an \"old bitch\" in front of his family, because he wouldn't join him in harassing us. This happens almost every time I work at that music venue, for some reason people think A. min wage employees control the organization they work for and everything they don't like is their fault and B. because you're a min wage employee you're worthless and therefore its ok to harass you. So reddit, what are your best customer harassment stories towards you or any of your co-workers?", "summary": "Middle aged ginger man who should know better told me and my co-worker he was going to kill us because he couldn't find a cab."}
{"id": "t3_cjn4p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my company is being shady, anyone care to give me advice on the matter?", "post": "This is a novelty account, I don't really want anyone to know where I work or any relatively personal info about me.\n\nSo, the company I work for made a mistake on our paychecks and accidentally gave some people more than they earned, and others less (overall, about a $30 mess up for everyone). Instead of fixing it on the next pay period, they cancelled our checks and made us wait **four days** for new ones to arrive. I should mention, it's a minimum wage job just about, most of my co-workers (and myself) could not afford to wait the 4 days for our checks and ended up either over drawing our accounts, borrowing money, or going without for 4 days.\n\nAlso, recently a co-worker and I received promotions with promised pay raises. We are now being told that we are still expected to perform the new responsibilities, but we will not receive our raises until 3 weeks from now. \n\nIs this pretty normal? Or should I try to find a way to make this better for everyone? Some people wanted our corporate office to offer to pay over draft fees, or give us all a bonus for going without for so long. Also, our management was pretty nonchalant about the whole thing and weren't really worried about it. Someone also told me that I should be paid retroactively for my promotion once my pay raise takes effect, since I will have been doing the new job for 3 weeks.", "summary": "My company kept our paychecks for 4 days even though we were all broke and couldn't afford it, and I'm not getting a pay raise until 3 weeks after I've already started my new position. Should I do something about all this?"}
{"id": "t3_1zw15a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [22/f] boyfriend's [26/m] bromance is out of control.", "post": "I feel like I always play second fiddle, in confrontations he will always side with roommates even in times when his roommates have stolen from me. Friends get the front seat even on dates they invited themselves to, even if they smoke and the ash flies back into the car right at my face. \n\nAlso, we're both creative and love to write and work on sci-fi story concepts together but if he uses the words \"our story\" with me it's practically guaranteed he's not talking about anything I had anything to do with -- instead it's a messy, overly-ambitious design doc he did with a roommate who hasn't lived with us or worked on it in more than a year and a half. And when I complain about him calling it 'ours' he just chastises me for not wanting to fold more of our stories into their universe so that it would become \"ours.\"\n\nI tried to approach the subject last night but went about it all wrong (criticized the doc, got annoyed when I felt like the criticisms were ignored, THEN started on what was really bothering me... I know, not great) and it ended up blowing up into a huge argument, I don't expect him to give up his friends for me but this is just ridiculous. When I finally told him how I felt he just started listing specific reasons why he treats his friends that way instead -- specific like to the day, things like stress from classes and other things that benefit from the support of a good friend. I get it, I'm not heartless. But I really wanted to talk about my feelings, not his friend's feelings. At that point volumes were raised and points were missed.", "summary": "I get jealous of my boyfriend's friends. Please help me approach this in a better way."}
{"id": "t3_o3ro9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: Do you check for photo Id's on credit card purchases? If so, have people ever gotten upset because of it?", "post": "Today, I checked out a guy and he payed with his credit card. I then proceeded to ask for his ID in which he said \"My signature is on the back of the card and when I sign it will look exactly like it.\" I thought to myself \"Anyone can look at a signature and replicate it on a electronic signature machine.\" so I proceeded to tell him that I would prefer an actual photo ID. He then stumped me with \"Visa has a merchant agreement in which if the back of my card is signed then I don't have to show you my ID.\" Touche sir. Just proceeded with the purchase and he was on his way.  But seriously, you'd think that people would be happy that you're at least checking IDs on credit cards to catch potential stolen cards. Whats your story?", "summary": "Checked out guy, asked for ID, got pissed and pulled merchant agreement card, made me feel like a douche."}
{"id": "t3_23owz5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "need advice on how to help my brother deal with the emotional toll of being burglarized by a \"friend\"", "post": "so this easter, my mother, brother, brothers gf and i visited family in canada.  it was an amazing vacation of course, everyone wants a break from their \"real\" life. anyway, we returned home 5 days later to find my brothers apartment had been broken into, turned inside out, and emptied. 55\" LG smart tv, 32\" samsung tv, ps3, wii, 2 computers, keurig, tools, jewelry(given by family members who are no longer alive) . THEY TOOK EVERYTHING. his place looked like a before scene of a security system commercial. they even took his car. this great vacation chopped down by the grime of our society. to top it all off, he suspects that his first friend he met when he moved to CT was the one who either orchestrated it, or carried out the act , which you can tell my bro doesnt truely want to admit to himself. he drove this \"friends\"  pregnant girlfriend around, dropped laundry, lent money, things friends do for friends. and this guy turns around and pulls some horrid act like this. i know my brother feels helpless and victimized because i feel that way and it wasnt even me that this happened to. he is already a person who silently suffers with mild depression because of his weight which leads him to already shy away from life. i dont want him to burrow deeper.  how can i help him pick up and carry on? or get him to help himself?* I SHOULD ADD THIS \"FRIEND\" HAS PRIOR GUN CHARGES.", "summary": "99% of my brothers possesions were stolen from him by a person he considered a friend, while he was away on vacation and i dont know how to help him. ADVICE PLEASE."}
{"id": "t3_3ofgmr", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Feel like I'm looking from the outside in with new partner...is this normal?", "post": "I love being in serious relationships, but I have never entered a relationship wholeheartedly, or completely sure of my feelings.\n\nI [23/F] am beginning a new relationship with a really wonderful guy [26M]. He is someone I can spend hours talking to about nothing or everything. He is romantic, cute, and takes very good care of me. I feel badly because I feel very \"meh\" about it. I have no complaints about him, I just feel very removed from the situation. I feel like I can tell him most things, I can be myself, I can be physically intimate with him-- but I'm not really on the ride with him. \n\nEven in my most serious relationship, I spent the first month or two feeling like I was looking from the outside in. I ended up falling head over heels for him and engaging completely, but the fact that this happens to me each time I start up with someone new is unsettling, and definitely makes it difficult for me to make decisions. I feel like I'm being shady in some way; though I am present mentally, physically, and emotionally, my heart isn't engaged as earnestly as his.\n\nI'm just wondering, do any other women have this experience in new relationships? What do you do about it?", "summary": "Dating an awesome guy I'm very interested in, but feel completely detached."}
{"id": "t3_1uc8wi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing nothing wrong.", "post": "My eBay seller fees for December totaled $12.60. Fine. My PayPal balance was upwards of $50. Surely they'll charge me $12.60 from that, right?\n\nNOPE. Today I get a letter from my bank:\n\n> On 02 JAN 14, [bank name] received and returned an EFT (Electronic Funds Transfer) item UNPAID. A fee of $25.00 was charged to your [account number] account.\n\n> The EFT item was from PAYPAL for the amount of $12.60. The item was returned for the following reason: Insufficient Funds.\n\nI also get an email from PayPal:\n\n> Hello TortoiseWrath,\n\n> You recently attempted to transfer funds from your bank account. ^^^NO ^^^I ^^^FUCKING ^^^DIDN'T\nYour bank has declined the funds transfer because your account did not have sufficient funds available. We will automatically re-attempt this transfer in 3 business days. ^^^OH ^^^GREAT ^^^THANKS ^^^JUST ^^^KEEP ^^^NOT ^^^USING ^^^MY ^^^PAYPAL ^^^BALANCE Please fund your bank account immediately to ensure this transaction can be completed.\n\nI go to my bank. Great, the bank's closed and the ATM is broken. It is the only ATM within 100 miles.\n\nI try to transfer $25 out of my PayPal account to cover both the transaction they're repeatedly trying to make and the -$5 balance they've forced upon my bank account...\n\n> This will take three to four business days.\n\nFUCK YOU. Now you're going to overdraft my account again on Monday, aren't you? Probably in the middle of the night on Monday, before the bank opens so I still won't have any money in it.\n\nNaturally, when I contact PayPal about it, they blame it on me:\n\n> Because you did not ensure your bank account balance was greater than the transaction amount, we cannot assist you in this matter. Please fund your bank account immediately.\n\nSo apparently TIFU.", "summary": "PayPal decides to charge from my bank account instead of my PayPal balance, overdrawing my account. They blame it on me. I lose $25 and will probably lose $25 more."}
{"id": "t3_i67c0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I charge my health insurance company for time wasted?  This is getting ridiculous...", "post": "I have spent upwards of probably 20+ hours in the last 6 months figuring out health bills over the phone.  For example the last hour I talked to CIGNA about my health card bill... I have this 'healthy incentives' account where I can do exercises and quizes and earn money to pay off health related bills and drugs from the pharmacy.  It is supposed to bill directly to that if I go get an operation done and there is money I was supposed to pay out of pocket.  The card is really only to be used to link that to pharmacy drugs.  Over the phone they told me to use it to pay off the rest of the bill from the anesthesiologist from an operation I had.  Since I had like $300 in there and the bill was around $100 I just called and used my card.  \n\nOf course this failed... now I have bounced to 4 people on the phone.... WTF ..... why is it so hard to run something like this?  I have a really good job and the amount of time I waste on this if I could bill them for time would be astounding... (just thinking if my company charged them per hour what we charge our clients).  Shouldn't I be allowed to bill them for time?  I can't imagine if I worked for a small business how I could even do this! This seems so unreasonable... I really would just wish they ran more efficient.... and be proud to have a job", "summary": "can I charge someone for keeping me on the phone for hours..."}
{"id": "t3_hd0gn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I was just in the OR with my sister while she had triplets by c-section [AMA]", "post": "Her water broke about 24 hours ago, but they wanted to wait as long as possible before taking the babies.  Apparently they can stay in the womb for up to a month after the water breaks.  We weren't really in emergency mode.\n\nI stayed overnight at the hospital with her so she wouldn't be alone.  Her husband started a new job just 4 months ago and doesn't have any vacation time yet.  \n\nThe doctor checked on her around 6:50 this morning, and said \"I think it's time to have these babies!\"  Her husband works in a mine and was down in the pit, so I called the office and they radioed around until they found him and then they sent a truck down just for him.\n\nThe doctor said they would try to wait for him, but he was about 45 minutes away and they didn't think the babies could wait that long.  I stood by the hospital door so when he got there I could tell him where to go, but then I realized that there was no way to he was going to make it in time and I didn't want my sister to be alone.\n\nI got suited up from head to toe:  booties, hairnet, cover-alls, and a face mask!  I stood by her head and watched the whole thing.  They had a curtain up so she couldn't see.  They are not very gentle about getting babies out of there either.  \n\nIt was the craziest, bloodiest thing I have ever seen in my entire life!  I never thought I would witness a doctor up to her elbows in someone's abdomen with blood and viscera all over the place.\n\nSorry this is so disjointed, it has been a long day!  Ask me any questions, I probably won't be very good with the technical stuff.  I also have some pics I will try to upload if there is interest.  They will be very NSFL, though.", "summary": "The wonder that is modern medicine helped my sister safely deliver triplets and I got to watch."}
{"id": "t3_32hxxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (24) admitted to flirting with another guy", "post": "I'm gonna make this concise so its faster, just let me know if more info is wanted.\n\nI've had recent relationship issues because I'm not outwardly emotional and my gf needs that kind of reassurance/attention. We're both 24, and have been together for 2 years. She recently admitted to flirting with a guy for 3 to 4 days because shes be very down about the whole situation and just liked the way she felt talking to him. She came clean and told me, which does count for something in my book. I've been in relationships before where I was left suddenly for friends I was told I didn't need to worry about, so the situation is a sore spot for me. She apologized profusely and I believe her. She mentioned that she'll stop talking to him if i want, but I don't want to be the douche that controls who my SO talks to. I'm basically looking for outside opinions cause I've been in similar situations before and its kind of eating me up inside.", "summary": "GF flirting with a guy for a few days because I'm not outwardly emotional. Wat do"}
{"id": "t3_34gnc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(26m) hiding something, from me (26f). Am I crazy?", "post": "My fiance (m26) works from home occasionally. He went to the gas station to grab an energy drink and left his work PC up with a personal convo from a member of the opposite sex. \n\nThe convo says \"the girl is finally going to bite the bullet and buy something, she'll text him about it.\" I ask about it later, because I'm curious and wanted to know. I didn't go through his phone and didn't blind side him. I just let him know that he left it open and asked what she needed to buy that she couldn't text through work?\n\nHe gets defensive right off the bat asking why I went through his things, shrugs it off saying I should just trust him, and that this is a null argument. That me not trusting him is the core issue and I should just take it as that. I said that I wasn't really okay with that and he just says well I apologize.\n\nI thought being together as partners meant we shared everything. Am I crazy for bringing it up or do I have a right to be upset?", "summary": "member of opposite sex talks to my fiance about buying an item that was not fit for work chat/needed to be discussed through text and fiance says its not my business to know."}
{"id": "t3_1fab6s", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How should I (20 M) re-establish communication with an ex (19 F) after not speaking for a year?", "post": "We dated for over a year. She was an exchange student here in the US and my family hosted her after she got kicked out of her original host family. We were best friends and then a relationship happened. We continued to date long distance after she left for about 6 months until I went to visit her in her country over Christmas break for an entire month. She decided she couldn't keep doing long distance so we decided to break it off when I left. Then I made an ass of myself when I got back and realised I still wanted to be with her. I would get drunk and send her stupid messages on facebook and skype that were either hurtful, immature, desperate, angry or a combination of these. Then we just stopped talking, she because I was a dick, and I because I was embarrassed. We haven't spoken in over a year. Now, however, she is coming back during this summer to see old friends and such and she is staying with my family, being that we hosted her, and I am living here over the summer during my university's break. I have no idea what to do. I figured it would be best to try to re-establish communication to avoid awkward moments where we just play hide and seek trying to avoid the other. But... I haven't the slightest idea how to do this. I feel like just saying \"Hey! how are you\" is too casual and not in the right place for how things were left off.", "summary": "Ex is coming to visit. Haven't spoken in a year. How do I start speaking to her again before she gets here?"}
{"id": "t3_2k37v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] and my ex [20 F] of 6 months, we broke up nearly a year ago and she messaged me yesterday.", "post": "So I had an intense relationship with a girl I worked with last year. It ended with us both leaving that place of work due to too much drama etc. When we broke up I took it hard as I was struggling with mental health issues at the time. I sent a lot of unwanted messages and things ended badly and I came across like a bit of a loser. \n\nFast forward to now and I've got my life back on track after 6 months of being totally off the rails. I travelled, got in shape and generally worked on improving myself and staying away from women. \n\nYesterday I recieved a fb message from ex asking how I was doing etc. And we had a nice chat which was basically just small talk. Then she stopped messaging all of a sudden (this was an issue when we were together) and I've heard nothing since. Now I have no desire to be back with her but I do think of her a lot as she was my first love. Just wondering why after such a bad breakup would she message me out of the blue. I'm not really fussed that she messaged me but I'm like why would you speak to me then stop an hour or two later?? \n\nI know it's not a big deal or anything but I have BPD which kicked into overdrive during the breakup and my mind races with stuff like this.", "summary": "met girl, broke up after 6 months, bad breakup, 1 year after breakup she messages me then suddenly stops."}
{"id": "t3_3tech7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20 F] break up with my boyfriend [20 M]??", "post": "I'll keep this short: my boyfriend and I started dating senior year of high school. We spent all of our time together. Now we're juniors in college and I'm not sure if I still want to be with him anymore. We've been together for almost 3 years now. Can you help me??? \n\n1. Pros: He's so loving to me. He takes care of me and is very helpful around the house (he even does my laundry). We both share a love of food and movies. He does absolutely anything I ask of him and gives me lots of hugs. \n\n2. Cons: We don't have very in-depth conversations about anything anymore. He's very insecure about himself and HAS NO CLOSE FRIENDS apart from me, meaning he's very clingy and spends ALL of his time on me. He doesn't like it when I want to travel or if I want to visit family over the weekend. He is not motivated and gets into sad moods sometimes that I can't get him out of, which in turn affects my mood. We are of different faiths and we are of different political parties. I also found that I don't like hanging out with him very much unless I get something out of it (like if I'm lonely). My boyfriend also works one small job and I usually pay for most of our expenses. \n\nAnd I don't want to have sex with him much, or make out, but he claims that those are things he needs. When I don't give in, he gets irritated, sad, and quiet. When I do give in because I want him to be happy, I feel as if I'm an object. \n\nTo those of you that broke off long term relationships: how did you figure it out?", "summary": "My boyfriend loves me, and I love him, but I'm not sure if our pros outweigh our cons. Is this the \"grass is not always greener on the other side\" argument? Or should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_3lng33", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "\"TIFU\" and got drunk and didn't listen to a 7yo", "post": "Ok this happened a good 15 years ago. \n\nA bunch of friends went to the Town of Raymond's parade. It's basically a reason to get drunk in town. \n\nMy 7yo step son wanted to go in the bounce and I knew it was only $1. I gave him $2 and off he went. \n\nHe comes to me asking me if he could buy something. \nI was plastered and said what ever you can buy with the money I gave you I don't give a fuck. \n\nHe takes off and comes back with a baby duck and a small bag of food. \nQuickly I felt I FU when I told he he could buy what ever he wanted. \nTake the duck home a build a cage to keep my dogs from killing it. \nSpend $30 for a bag of duck food and it quickly gets huge. It starts chasing my dogs and trying to nip at them. MY dogs were too scared to go into the back yard. \n\nIt then tries to chase my step son. We have a pool but this duck will not go for a swim. It started laying eggs but duck eggs are too much yolk for me. \n\nWe ended up taking the duck to a local park with a pond and other ducks.", "summary": "Didn't listen to 7yo about what he was going to buy and bought a mean ass baby duck."}
{"id": "t3_1djftx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [21M] have an absurd apprehension with new relationships.", "post": "I was involved in a lengthy relationship during my first year of college. Me [21M] and her [now21F] went to high school together, we went to prom, and began dating shortly thereafter. She broke it off with me, and I transferred to a university out of state. I'm now a senior at my university. Over the past year or so, I've begun to initiate relationships with various girls, no sex(my first girlfriend was my only sexual partner) but after a month or so of build up, I just get this intense feeling of wrongness. It's like, everything is going well and then all of the sudden, I just don't want what it is that is forming. I'm guessing it's all tied to that first relationship, but will it get better with time? Do I just need to take these budding relationships slower(aka REALLY slow) or what? Hopefully someone here can help me figure this out.", "summary": "After my first relationship, I now just can't form a new relationship, despite enjoying the company of new potential partners."}
{"id": "t3_2tsmdh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I really don't know how to handle a situation like this. Am I paranoid or is this actually weird?", "post": "I met this girl in one my playwriting courses a semester ago and then we shared another class during Jan term and really hit it off. I realize \"we really hit it off\" sounds cliche but I really mean it. We grabbed dinner after class one night and sat there talking for 5 hours. Another day we got drinks and sat around talking for 3 hours; and then on Friday we talked to a good 6 hours. I asked if she wanted to come to my apartment and talk some more, mostly because the places we were at started getting noisy. I ended up kissing her and it turned out that we had some mutual feelings for each other and just kept talking. Anyway, she ended up having to leave my apartment, but it was on really good terms and a lot of laughs. That was on Friday and I haven't heard from her. I already sent a couple nonsensical texts, but still nothing. Finally last night I got a little paranoid and just asked if everything was okay. She still hasn't responded to any of my texts and I don't want to send another one because I don't want to seem like I'm harassing her. Any advice? I'm probably crazy. Sorry if this whole thing seems sleazy or douchey, I'm really not the type that would just kiss a girl unless I felt like there was some kind of a connection.", "summary": "I had insanely long conversations with a girl from one of my classes. We ended up kissing and she left my place on good terms without the slightest hint of negativity. Now it feels like she's ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_1mti2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23F] keeps telling me about her infatuation with celebrities and I [22M] am uncomfortable with it.", "post": "My girlfriend of 2 years likes to go on and on about how much she likes certain k-pop stars. Usually, I'm okay with listening to it and I'll humor her, but it does get on my nerves at times. Sometimes, I feel like some of the things she says can be inconsiderate and hurtful, like I am lacking or not right for her (I would leave you for someone famous, I would sleep with him if he smiled at me like that, etc). \n\nSo I tried to rationally tell her that I was uncomfortable, but her rationale is that its a celebrity and as we are non-famous folk, it would never actually happen, therefore I should not be so sensitive. And then she turns it around and says that I don't have self confidence and that I should work on getting more confidence. \n\nSo, is it irrational of me to feel the way I'm feeling?", "summary": "Having trouble getting girlfriend to understand why I'm uncomfortable with her celebrity obsessions. Don't know if it's fair of me to be uncomfortable with it."}
{"id": "t3_2rvxjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30F] goes silent after successful 3rd date; past trauma is clouding my[32M] judgment.", "post": "I [32M] had a very successful third date with [30F]. I went over specifically to spend the night; had amazing sex. She seemed to really like me and vice versa. In the morning she took my hand on the way to and from breakfast, and we napped after. Later that day she texted me \"you're pretty great,\" and I responded in kind.\n\nA couple days later I noticed the conversational tone and the frequency of her texts were decreasing. Odd, but nothing to worry about, as she has a lot going on. I secured a fourth date with her.\n\nThe night before the date, after I had gone to bed, she texted to say a house guest was arriving earlier than expected, and that we'd have to postpone until she got him settled. Reading this filled me with dread, like I might not hear from her again--I can't explain why. Note that it doesn't matter to me if the house guest is a love interest of hers.\n\nThis is day 4 of not hearing from her.  I texted her yesterday to ask how things were going and got no response.\n\nI'm a very resilient person.  In a few weeks this will be just a blip on the radar, but because of personal experiences (last girlfriend died; woman in question is not aware of this), this is pretty painful for me, and this pain is clouding my ability to think rationally, or put myself in her shoes, or see how not a big deal this is.\n\nPlease help me understand.", "summary": "The woman I've started seeing has stopped talking to me since a friend came to stay with her.  It's probably going to be fine, but due to past trauma, I'm stuck and unable to process this."}
{"id": "t3_2xgxbq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hosting a surprise birthday for my ex-gf.", "post": "TIFU by hosting this rather elaborate party for my now ex-girlfriend.\n\nI had planned this like 2 weeks ahead of schedule, got her friends in on it, her brother and her parents.\n\nI told her I was going to be away for her birthday and couldn't celebrate it with her. She then would have an early birthday dinner with her family and friends. Her friends would make up an excuse and have to leave early and meet up with me in her house(her parents gave me a spare key to set up the party while they were out having dinner). Her parents would then escort her back to the house, open the doors and then SURPRISE!!! And then I would bring out a big birthday gift and cake.\n\nOn the actual day, things went horribly wrong. All the preparations were smooth. All her friends met up with me. And then the door opens and we yell SURPRISE! It wasn't her though, it was her parents without her. Apparently she needed to get something from the uni and would meet up with them in the house soon.\n\nSo we waited. And we waited. And she was 2 hours late at this point. I started getting worried so her parents called her and she was on her way back. Sure enough 10 minutes later we heard her voice.........and some other guy's voice. They burst in the door all over each other and making out. \n\nWe turn on the lights. They weren't the only surprised ones. I come out and she's mortified. \n\nIt turns out that she was planning to break up with me and she was introducing this new guy to her parents before she cut ties with me. She had been seeing him for 3 weeks and none of her friends even knew she was seeing him.\n\nNeedless to say, we broke up.", "summary": "Threw my girlfriend a big surprise party. She then surprised me with another guy and a break up."}
{"id": "t3_1n55zf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/20] feel sexually frustrated - My SO [F/21] doesn't want to communicate more about sex", "post": "Our sex life is horrible for both of us. She can't get off, I get off too quickly, our sense of attraction is disappearing, and the foreplay's become rote; no one is happy about it.\n\nBut we should be able to fix it all with communication, right?\n\nWell, that's where the problems come in.\n\nWhenever she and I try to have a conversation about it, she defaults to the position that she shouldn't have to 'give instructions' and that it's my job to figure out what works without any feedback or commentary from her. \n\nBut she stops me whenever I try anything outside of the rote formula that doesn't work in the first place.\n\nIs there any way I can make this work?", "summary": "Our sex life is bad, but my SO doesn't want to work with me to make it better."}
{"id": "t3_2gdvbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does one make friends in a community college, working a job with all older coworkers? [20/f]", "post": "I go to a community college, where no one really talks because we don't live on campus i guess. In the past 1.5 years i have made a few acquaintances from talking in class but that's pretty much it. \n\nI also work a job that is so much fun, but most of my coworkers are significantly older than me. There are girls there that are around 27, but i'm sure they don't want to hang out with someone that just got out of their teens. We hang out and talk at work, but we don't hang out outside of that. \n\nI am just looking to make some real friendships, and am lost for a way to go about this! In high school it was totally different, but now i just feel confused. Everyone seems to want to avoid each other at community college, instead of make friends. Please help!", "summary": "my group of friends moved away to college this year, leaving me alone at my community college and at a job with mostly older girls. How can i make friends and approach people in a non creepy way?"}
{"id": "t3_1dzcvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A very good friend (F16) is in a bad relationship (M18) and I(M20) feel like I should say something, but I don't know how.", "post": "I have a friend, who while young, has been the greatest friend i could ever ask for. She has always been there for me since we met. I also want to point out that I am happily in a 3 year relationship with someone (F21) , so this has nothing to do with jealous affections. \n\nShe was in a relationship with this guy about a year ago. Eventually she broke up with him because he wasn't treating her right. After breaking up with him she struggled a lot, but I helped her through it. \n\nRecently she got back together with him because he changed. Even I thought he had changed, but now I've noticed the same old shit happening again. \n\nI've witnessed borderline emotional abuse first hand, telling her that shes really nothing without him. When I told him to fuck off because she's actually amazing, she got upset at me for doing so. He constantly puts her down and sometimes she seems afraid of him. Since they got back together she has become much more shy and reserved, and sometimes he wont even let her talk. \n\nI want to approach the subject with her before this relationship becomes more abusive. He has basically picked up where it left off before, and if he does any sort of physical abuse I don't know if i'm going to be able to restrain myself from punching his elf face. \n\nShe's confided in me that he has been really pushy for sex (she's a virgin) and wont back off. When I delicatley try to point out that this is a problem, she gets upset at me for talking bad about him.", "summary": "Good friend is in a bad relationship, probably blinded by infatuation. Any attempt to talk to her about it leads to her being upset at me. I don't want to lose friendship and I don't want her to be abused. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_19vg6e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(20M) After Not Speaking For 2 Months I Got This Text Last Night.", "post": "i (20M) was dating this girl (20F) for a couple of months, nothing overly serious, but during our new years \"date\", she wasn't talking to me and this has been going on for 2 months. \nuntil last night, she texted me something along these lines; \"sorry it's been so long, i miss not talking, felt we are better as friends, you are a great guy, miss you, etc...\" \n\nwe made up and forgave each other, talked for a few hours, and now we're back as friends (which i don't mind as i have no hard feelings about what went down). our whole \"relationship\" just felt forced between our friends to get us together, so, like i said, i'm alright with the \"friend zone\" situation.\n\ni'm just curious as to what brought this sudden apology on?", "summary": "haven't talked in months, she texted first and said sorry, back as friends, but why?"}
{"id": "t3_1jdiwg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Registered for my first class for a degree in athletic training!", "post": "So last year I was a horribly depressed fat person trudging her way through a hospitality degree she didn't really like just to have a chance at a job someday. I really, really didn't like it. But hey, working at a hotel seemed like an alright job. I didn't really have any passion for anything.\n\nThen I decided to start getting fit. And you know what? I found a HUGE passion for it. I want to sing the wonders of fitness from the rooftops! I want to grab the people like I used to be by the hand and guide them through those first steps of just getting moving. I absolutely love exercise, I love getting online and learning about the newest science behind athletics, I love watching my body change and get stronger. I've never, ever felt a passion for anything like this in my life. \n\nI decided to just do it. My therapist is recommending only taking one class this semester anyway because of how depressed I got last year, so I decided now would be the perfect time. I'm going to take that introductory class and see if I like it. I might not, and I'm prepared for that, but I'm just so proud of the fact that I've become this strong, athletic person I never thought I could be. And I want to help other people discover that within themselves too.", "summary": "Former fatty who couldn't lift ten pounds or run for a minute straight is lifting 60 pounds, training for a marathon, and is going the academic route of helping other people do it too."}
{"id": "t3_3zpx6x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my friend [33 M], feel like i'm unable to help, thinking of throwing in the towel. (social anxiety)", "post": "My friend has crippling social anxiety. He has no friends and his only contacts are his father and stepmother. The harsh truth is, he's not too attractive physically and mentally. Physically, he's like a 3 and mentally he's constantly having a victim complex, complains over everything and his conversations revolve around the negative things that have happened to him.\n\nHe's never had a relationship and hasn't had friends for about 10 years. Anyone he's interacted him has eventually spurned him after learning that he is clingy.\n\nI can understand that years of rejection have made him bitter, but the only way to improve his life is to let go of that.\n\nI feel like no matter what I say to him or how many plans I make for him to help him, he will insist on letting the negativity colour his world. \n\nThe only thing that stops me from not caring is the fact that he has helped me in the past. The only problem is, i'm feeling like my attempts to help him are futile and fruitless.\n\nA while ago I sent him a long email telling him how to fix his life - to work on confidence, how to be part of communities, how to improve himself to look and feel better. He didn't listen to any of it. He essentially said 'this is who I am and you don't understand me at all.'", "summary": "Isolated friend with crippling social anxiety is stubbornly negative, I am getting frustrated and wonder if he can even be helped."}
{"id": "t3_plz6b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend hurt her kidney 10 weeks ago, and its still acting up. Should we be worried?", "post": "2,5 months ago, she fell of her horse and got hurt pretty bad. The spine/neck was ok, but she got a nasty hit to the kidney.\n The same day she went to the ER, she got an X-ray and it exposed a bleeding around one of the kidney. She was told that if she just take it easy and rest it will heal out.\n\n5 days later she did some heavy lifting at work and took a longer walk than usual. That night she had horrible agonizing pain. We went once more to the ER and did another x-ray.\n The bleeding had surrounded the kidney and had absorbed some liquid. She got prescribed some pain-killers and sent home with the same instructions: \"Take it easy\".\n\nIt did get better, and for a while now she just had the occasional bad day with some minor pains to her side. \nBut now, 9 weeks later it it still acting up with pains and today some discoloration in the urine. Slightly stronger pain.\n\nShe is worried sick. Is this 'normal'? Do kidneys take this long to heal?\nShe got another x-ray scheduled 1:st of march, but she's worried it might be something serious.\nWhat do i tell her?", "summary": "A kidney is acting like a shithead 10 weeks after injury, and im worried."}
{"id": "t3_m6o5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Considering moving in with SO. Both parents are religious and would be appalled if they found out.", "post": "Me [24] Him [26]\n\nBeen dating for a little over three years total. We broke up at 2.5 years (mutual) spent some time to ourselves to organize our priorities and got back together 8 months later. We've been talking about me moving into his house before we broke up, and now the subject is up again. Our only hesitation is our parents finding out.\n\nMy parents might be cool with it I think, but they surprise me sometimes. They've met him and are pretty set on him being part of the family one day. His parents on the other hand would probably disown him. They like me and also want us to wed (and have a million babies, ugh). \n\nThe good thing is my parents are about 700 miles away. His are about 200 miles. They rarely visit. If ever (My mom has visited twice over the past 5 years, his once). \n\nI pretty much live at his house anyways. He has a mortgage that he's struggling to pay, and I take care of the food bill each month since I'm in a lease at an apartment and can't really afford to help pay both. It would make so much sense financially and relationship-wise to make the move.\n\nWhat I need from you, reddit, is advice on how to handle this. When/if parents find out, how to handle them, possibility of judgmental friends etc. \n\nAlso, feel free to share your experiences of moving in with your SO. Any advice? Do you get sick of being around them? Any tips on how to keep the relationship spicy?", "summary": "Planning on moving in with SO. Parents are religious and might possibly disown. Advice please."}
{"id": "t3_4kvyoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [31/M] flirts way too much with me [29/F] and I catch feelings over it (on/off)", "post": "Me and my best friend (of about ten years) have a lot in common (art, spiritual practice, crass sense of humour, shared dreams). We started planning to launch a business together (maybe more than one) and also have medium-term plans to create art together. All great. \n\nMy problem is that he's way too flirtatious in general and especially with me and my feelings keep getting stirred by it (as in everytime we flirt too much I'll start catching feelings for him and then start getting jealous of him, like he was my boyfriend). \n\nBear in mind I really do love this guy and I know he loves me, we have a great friendship that I value over almost any other relationship in my life. But a lot of our interaction involves banter and teasing and I believe I'll ruin our relationship if I ever ask him explicitly to lay off the moves.", "summary": "my best friend and future business partner/bandmate is a dirty flirt and I keep catching feelings for him. How do I cut this shit off?"}
{"id": "t3_20lzks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my ex-girlfriend [21F] are trying to be friends after breaking up. Just need a little 3erd party advice.", "post": "I had been friends with my ex-girlfriend for 2 years and dated for 6 months. She studied a broad, things got complicated but overall she made some wrong moves and we broke up.\n\nNow 4 months later, we were both over each other enough to see each other again. We went out this past weekend and had a blast. We shared some deep conversation and I felt like she had regrets about causing us to break up. We ended up having sex (which is pretty casual for us) and now I am just wondering what I should be watching out for in order to stay away from trouble. I definitely don't want anything too serious but wouldn't mind dating again. I still feel I have more to learn about myself through her and don't want to do anything too dramatic either way to make things more complicated. \n\nCan friends with benefits work when people actually love the other person as a person but know they aren't made for each other? Do you feel I am walking down a slippery slope?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend and I, after 4 months to cool off, are hanging out again. Not sure if friends with benefits is a slippery slope?"}
{"id": "t3_312cbu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP my sister and made her have an asthma attack", "post": "So, the prank about pranking the brother made me remember my childhood which was like... 5 years ago.\n\nBackground: My sister (11 at the time) would jump at everything. I'd stand around the corner and just say \"boo\" - not even scary - and she would literally jump back and naturally be upset. We'd do the same, standing by her closed door and calling her out of the room. But, one day my brother and I got a bit more creative.\n\n\u00a0\n\nPrank: So, my brother had a huuuge black blanket. We were both wearing black shirts at the time and were thinking, let's fuck shit up basically. So we put on all the black clothes we had, and I threw on a darth vader mask that we had from Halloween, and made a makeshift scythe. We dimmed the lights in the living room to an eerie enough level and had our little brother, about 6 at the time, call her out. As soon as she stepped around the corner I said \"Heeeeello\" in my driest, raspiest voice possible. She. Flipped. Shit. She literally fell on he floor SOBBING. The dark entity of my brother and I slowly walked forward saying (at the same time, with the same raspy voice) \"What's wrong, you don't want to diiiie today?\" She screams at the top of her lungs \"MOMMM\" and tripping over herself as she stands up and starts running to their room.\n\nNext thing we know our dad is screaming from the room. Shiiiiet. So my brother and I take off all the shit and walk into the room. Sister is at the end of their bed having an asthma attack with our mom trying to calm her down. My brother and I hurry to explain and my parents are trying not to laugh. Honestly thought their heads would explode. \"Don't pfft do that again pfffft\" my dad manages to force out, \"Get out pffft\" - and my brother and I sure as hell did. Sister ended up okay, still shaky, but okay, and somehow we got away without punishment.", "summary": "Brother and I decided to become Death, almost murdered our sister."}
{"id": "t3_1ms35h", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost 50 pounds in three months", "post": "[Pics of Mr Sexy](\n\nMale humanoid, 5 foot 9 inches tall, starting weight: 270 pounds, current weight: 220 pounds, eyes: blue, personality: magnetic\n\nExercise: 15-30 minutes of half-assing (I have a prosthetic shoulder and I have to take it easy) P90X every day for days 1-60.  Little to no exercise for days 61-90 (everyone else in my P90X group dropped out and I blew it off).  5 pound weights, no pull ups, some pushups but only against the coffee table not the ground.\n\nDiet:  Chicken breast, turkey breast, slim fast shakes, veggies, salmon, tuna, protein powder, skim milk.  700-1200 calories a day for days 1-30.  700-1000 calories a day for days 31-60.  500-800 calories a day for days 61-90.\n\nNon-food ingestibles:  100 oz water, amphetamines, sports multivitamin, vitamin A, iron, calcium\n\nThings going for me:  Naturally awesome, former athlete, more willpower than Batman\n\nThings against me:  Prosthetic shoulder, two calcified vertebrae, three torn muscles, one tearing muscle which can't be fixed only worsened, affinity for cookies, baker wife, have to eat in restaurants four times a week, host a dinner party once a week, stay at home dad to a 2 yo son so I can only exercise at nap time and I have to taste all his food\n\nGoals:  220 was my goal weight and three months was my goal time, so mission complete on that.  I'm not the same size that I was when I met my wife 10 years ago.  Wow!  10 years erased in 3 months.  My next goal is to reach 199, my weight when I left high school.  My goal time for this was Halloween, but I don't think I'm going to make it.  We'll see.  The reason I'm doing this is that I don't want my son growing up thinking that that is how a man is supposed to look.  I only got that way because of my severe, life changing injuries.", "summary": "5'9\" prosthetic shoulder 270-220 in three months with minimal exercise and extremely low calorie intake of lean proteins, veggies, and shakes"}
{"id": "t3_3v4cna", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I may have made a colossal mistake.", "post": "Hi fellow travellers,\n\nI have a question for you experienced travellers out there. I booked my flight before I got my visa to enter the UK (I'm Australian). My visa start date is the 13th of January and I am leaving on the 11th. I must have made a mistake when applying for the Visa (as I booked flights prior so I bloody knew when I was leaving - I'm an IDIOT). Will this mean I can't leave Australia until that date? I'm going to contact UKVisas tomorrow to see if I can change the validity date to the 11th but I'm not hopeful. Will I have to re-arrange flights to suit the 13th? Cause this will mean a lost of over 1k for me.", "summary": "Visa date starts after my flight gets in. How do I go about changing visa date?"}
{"id": "t3_3vb7cn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Roommate [22 M] from this year, makes it unpleasant to be at our house", "post": "I have known him since my freshman year of college and we have been pretty good friends since then but it was not until moving in with him that I realized he is a total ass.\n\n He has no respect for my things, he ALWAYS expects something in return for anything that he does no matter how small it is and will ask. For example occasionally he will buy some sort of food or something for the whole house and then hold it over everyone's head until he receives something and on top of that he takes my food.\n\n I know he takes my food because I have caught him twice. I called him out both times and still notice things going missing. The other night I caught him taking some of my food, called him out and then kinda yelled at him, the result: I'm pissed and he does nothing. He literally does not care whatsoever. \n\nNot only this I constantly see him use my other roommates and they have noticed food go missing also. He is really just concerned with himself and does not give a shit about anyone around him.\n\n He constantly asks how he looks, goes on for hours about the most insignificant things in his day, never asks about anyone else, and on top of all that if you say anything negative to him he takes it super personally. His ego is more easily bruised then anyone I've ever met. \n\nAll this adds up to me really not liking being at our house. I stay at school for long hours and really it is mainly to avoid him. I need some advice on how to deal with someone like this and need to make it through the year because we already signed the lease until June. He does tons of other obnoxious things but I won't go too much into it. Please help!", "summary": "I have a narcissistic roommate who makes it hard to be in the house, I have to live the remainder of the school year with him, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1iv2kv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Her [24/f] busy schedule is a pain for me [25/m] to date & deal with. Help!", "post": "She's legitimately busy with a new, demanding job that makes her get up at 6 AM for work by 8:30 and home at 6ish PM, then she studies a bit for her certification exams, then she does the gym for 2 hours, and then she goes to sleep by 10 PMish.\n\nI get it, she's VERY busy compared to me where I have a normal 9 to 5 and free after. She is very appreciative of my flexibility, and I am appreciative she has fit me into her schedule.\n\nBut six dates in, it's getting to be a slight pain the ass - I'm not sure if she plays a game or not, but conversations are typically phone/text tag, it's not hugely flirty, she doesn't really have an open dialogue (hey how are you? good morning! type of messages) with me even though I'm trying to encourage it. **But when we are hanging out** she is ALL over me, it's 100% focused on me.\n\nMy issue isn't necessarily with her busyness, but I feel like I am getting \"puppeted\" around to only see her when SHE is free and it's kind of emasculating. I don't feel \"confident\" enough to say \"Hey, Wed, 8 PM, we are going line dancing, drop your shit\" (wouldn't say that, but you get my point) because she is so busy.\n\nIt's a lot of \"work\" until we are together, and I want to avoid me saying \"When are you free?\" constantly to set it up, I want to just SET it up.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Girl I went out with six times has a much busier schedule then me, basically causing a lot of text/phone tag, brief conversations, and me fitting myself into her schedule rather than it being mutual. It's fine for now, but I feel emasculated and it's getting to be a lot of work to set something up that doesn't take up too much of her time. But when we are together on a date, she' 100% focused on me and is all over me. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4a0ylp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m18) love her (f18), I'm thinking of asking her out...", "post": "But I can never find the perfect the perfect time to do it. We go to school together so we're never alone and we're both introvert-y so we see each other outside of school, we also don't have lunch together so that sucks.\n\n I was thinking about asking her out through text... is this a bad idea or should I just wait for a better moment in real life. If I should, how should I do it, should I just outright say it or try to ease into it?\n\n We've known each other for almost 3 years and I've wanted to ask her out for a really long time now.", "summary": "Should I ask my bestfriend out through text?"}
{"id": "t3_3p0z7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [17 F] 1 Month, My ex [ 22F] my ex texting me back after being no contact over 3 month", "post": "Hey guys i've been breakups with my gf over the past 3 month. Because she got another guy that she said will make her happy more than i do. I and my ex have been no contact since last 1 and a half month because i already found my new girlfriend. Starting from last week my ex contact me back saying that she just wanna be friends with me. I do ask her if i wanted to get back with her would she agreed but she said no. So i am just wondering why does she contact me back and should i leave my gf right now to get my ex back. She said that she is really lonely right now because her bf not giving a damn about her. So why does my ex text me and what do she want from me?....\n\nWhy do i leave my gf right now?. \nMe and my girlfriend have been planed to get engaged on next year . But she's a workaholic kind of girl. She is now 17 but in the morning she goes to school and at night she go to work part time at somewhere near her place. I told her that i can give her what she want but she refuse and she wanted to buy everything by herself. But then we rarely texting or call each other. maybe once a day but its only take a few minutes like 5 min and she will drop the call. We also had a fight every single day. Because i keep on disturbing her life. We are on a long distance relationship so i could'nt see her face to face. I dont even know what she's been up to. I dont know anything about her.\nShould i leave my gf to win my ex heart back?.", "summary": "Why does my ex contact me back? and should i leave my gf right now to win my ex heart back? i still love my ex so much."}
{"id": "t3_3wg5ac", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speaking my mind", "post": "Yes this happened today\n\nSo I work in a casino and one of the jobs we have to do it take people's coats and put them on a coat hanger in the cloak room which will have a number on it then come back and give them the ticket that corresponds to the hanger so we can get it them when they are ready to leave. Nice and easy right?\n\nSo when we first take coats it's important to get a look of the person you're taking it from so you don't come back and give the ticket to the wrong person.\nSo usually I just do one coat at a time because I have the memory of a gold fish and remembering people's faces is hard. So I give them nicknames for how they are dressed and stuff. \n\nSo this cute blonde gives me her coat so that was her nickname. Then her friend was this giant 7ft black girl sooooooooo I nicknamed her big black...\n\nSo I have their coats and I'm walking to the cloak room repeating in my mind 'left hand, cute blonde right hand, big black, left hand, cute blonde right hand, big black'. \n\nSo I put their coats on the hangers and get the ticket to give back to them, as I'm walking back I'm doing the same thing with a ticket in each hand 'left hand, cute blonde right hand, big black'\n\nSo I get to the girls and I'm all like \"big black\" and I smile because I'm nice, then I realised what the fuck I just did, they both look at me as if I just killed their pets, big black could probably kill me with her pinky. I then gave the other girl her ticket then got the fuck out of there.\n\nAvoided them all night and didn't hear anything from them.\n\nMy first TIFU so I apologise if I suck at stories.", "summary": "get coat, get ticket, \"big black\" , run away"}
{"id": "t3_zjlk2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hit my initial goal! My 1 year journey, (M/24/5\"10) 232-180 w/pics.", "post": "Here are the before and afters: \n\nI started at 232 lbs on December 10th 2011. I was looking at images of me and was disgusted with my self. I started using the iphone app Loseit and utalizing the /r/loseit community. After 9 months of hard work I have hit my initial goal of 180 lbs.\n\nAfter doing all this it has in turn made me more objective and after coming so far I now want to build muscle. I can't stand being soft and flabby especially after working this hard. I start my strength trainging September 10th. I'm hoping to bulk up and get toned. \n\nI hope I can be an inspiration to anyone that doesn't think it's doable. I know I didn't until I did it. \n\nWe are all capable of extraordinary things. We just need to push ourselves and do them!", "summary": "I lost 53 pounds in 9 months from hard work. Now I plan to weight train to get into super cut shape. All thanks to lose it!"}
{"id": "t3_3c64nn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] dating [21F] for over a year... Still sometimes get feelings for an ex", "post": "Okay, so I never expected to ever struggle with an issue like this. Back in high school I dated a girl for over two years (2010-2012). We had somewhat of a bad breakup right before graduation. In 2013 we started talking again and reflected upon our lives a bit. At times I may have come off a little too strongly as I sorely missed her at the time. We kind of dropped communication a few months later and we still occasionally say \"hi\" on facebook or whatever but not much really.\n\nFast forward to 2014, I have found a gracious young woman who loves me dearly - I love her dearly as well. The relationship hasn't been perfect but it has been very good for the most part. Me and my ex have moved on for all intents and purposes; me and my new girlfriend have been dating over a year and she has been dating her new boyfriend since a few weeks after mine started. Is it normal to still have feelings for an ex even with a relationship that is working out great? I don't understand why I feel like this. I feel so bad about it and am hoping to find some closure to it.", "summary": "Dated ex for over 2 years in high school, still have feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_4q6tp6", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "How much are you involving your parents (or other family) in wedding planning?", "post": "Hi Weddit! \n\nIt has been stated that I'm keeping my parents and FH's parents \"at arms length\" during wedding planning. As some background, both sets of parents have generously agreed to contribute to the wedding. Both have also offered to give us more money (which we don't want and already feel guilty about how much money we are getting). We're still looking at venues and arguably don't even have a date (favorite venue can't do our date, so we're contemplating changing the date). We're hoping to get married late December 2017 soooo no *real* planning has occurred. I'm not terribly close with my parents and my mother and I tend to disagree on things, which can get unpleasant. I get alone with future-in-laws, but I don't speak to them much unless I'm with FH. I don't want people to think I'm being cold/exclusive, but I want to be able to do what I want, as is so frequently discussed in this sub. \n\nI'm just curious how much detail people actually give their parents? Do you make decisions with your future spouse and then tell your parents what you decided or do you talk to them before decisions are made? Do you talk about price per head for every venue or do you said it's above/below/on target with the budget? Do you talk about all aspects of the wedding? \n\nThanks for your help!", "summary": "Both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding and I don't know how much I'm supposed to involve them. Admittedly, I would really like to plan this primarily with FH, but I don't want them to feel like I'm deliberately being cold."}
{"id": "t3_w7le6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex-girlfriend and I split only two months ago. She is now engaged. Not sure how to feel about this. Thoughts?", "post": "My ex and I dated for nearly two years. It was the longest relationship either of us had been in. I'm 23 and she's 20. Two months ago, I broke up with her, and now I find out, she became engaged three days ago. I planned on breaking up with her for roughly 3-4 months, before I finally built up the courage to do so. But seeing her rush into another relationship so fast, and to do something as drastic as getting engaged... Well, I'm just not sure how to feel about it. A part of me is glad I dodged a bullet because she was really clingy and bothersome, but another part of me is disappointed she could forget about me so fast. How would some of you feel, especially those who have gone through the same/similar?", "summary": "broke up with ex. 2 months later, she's hitched. dafuq?"}
{"id": "t3_1173mx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the big deal about drones?", "post": "I didn't realize there was an anti-drone \"movement\" until I was visting my former university for the first time and somone was giving a \"sidewalk lecture\" endorsed by the university, in front of the student center.  They man was saying all sorts of (what I beleive to be) nonsense.  Basically his arguement boiled down to this:\n1. Drones infringe on our right to privacy by being able to watch us without our knowing.\n2. Drone attacks are bad.\n3. Everyone (law enforcement, federal gov't) will have drones and use them to intimidate protesters and collect information against us.\n\nBasically drones would do what police helicopters and military aircraft did before.  I don't see what the issue is?  I mean, is this so important that someone needs to champion it.  Obviously there is room for concern, but I don't see a lot of sidewalk talks about education reform or child hunger.\n\nWhat do you think? Drones are just another way for the fed to become big brother, and commit acts of ruthless aggression against Pakistani civilians>?", "summary": "Guy said drones are bad, I don't think so.  What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_2mxyql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] of over 3 years, she cuddled with another guy", "post": "So my girlfriend of over 3 years told me she cuddled on the couch with her best male friend, and also said she has a crush on him. The day after they cuddled she cut off contact with him, and told him that should have never happened. \n\nThis guy and her had started snap chatting often and him and his friends hangout with her and her friends a lot, so they are in contact often. I told her a few weeks ago the snap chatting needs to be limited because there has to be boundaries with opposite sex friends. I told her she's treating him like she would treat a crush, but she denied she had feelings.\n\nThe worst part is that she didn't tell me for 5 days, and in between the time of it happening and her confessing we went to a party with the guy. I hung out with him through the night and my GF made a couple comments about how she's glad me and him are friends. \n\nThis is the first time something like this has happened. She says it never went farther than cuddling, which I'm choosing to believe. She says the reason she didn't tell me was because she knew it would be the end of us and she didn't want to lose me.\n\nOther than that she is afraid of staying with me because she feels she will regret missing out on being young since we've been together since we've both had any freedom from parents. And feels that's the reason she did this was because she wanted to experience someone else.\n\nIs there any way to make it work, I'm close to graduating and thought she was the one, or should I just cut it off now?", "summary": "GF of 3 years cuddles with guy on couch, regrets it, but has commitment issues. Should I try and make it work or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2lshwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M) want to buy a nice house and can afford to but my (28F) gf can't and wont let me pay for it.", "post": "We currently live in together in a nice apartment. Have been together 4.5 years. We both are financially stable and have jobs, but I make about five times more than she does. She is however very independent and insists on paying half of the costs of the apartment (Which she has done). \n\nI've recently been wanting more space and am tired of living in an apartment which has led me to looking for houses. I can afford to buy a house and pay for it, but with her current job she couldn't afford to pay for half of the expenses. Because of this she's against me buying a new house and says she wouldn't be able to live with me if I did because of the aforementioned financial issues. \n\nObviously I'm not going to buy a house unless she feels comfortable with it. I feel like she's being stupid and doesn't understand that we're partners and I'm completely happy paying for 100% of the house. Additionally its keeping me from being able to spend my own money how I want to.", "summary": "GF should let me buy a house and pay for it. Right? Or am I missing something."}
{"id": "t3_400ssc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(18M) refused a gift from my brother(21m) and friends because I did not want them to waste money on me. I'm not sure if I did the right thing.", "post": "So I'm gonna do a skydive on Sunday and for 180 New Zealand dollars the will make a video of this experience. I said to my family that I don't want a video of this experience and that it's to expensive for me anyway. So my brother said no worries I will fix something for you. So again I said that I don't want this video and that he should not be wasting money on something that I don't want. 5 minutes later he donated 180 New Zealand dollars as a gift from him and 5 friends. At this moment I was quite upset because he did not care about what I said and 5 minutes later I gave him te money back with a explanation why I refuse to take it. And now my brother is pissed at me for not excepting his gift. Did I do the right thing by refusing their money so that it won't be wasted or am I overreacting and let them decide what to spend their money on?", "summary": "I refused a gift from my brother and friends because I don't want them to waste their money. Not sure if I made the right decision."}
{"id": "t3_2tyw84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my boyfriend [30M] of 6 months, sad because of my jealousy and insecurity issue", "post": "We are very open about who we find attractive and I'm fine with it most of the time.. Sometimes not so much but I never show it because I don't want to seem immature and jealous.. I want to work on those issues of mine on my own.\n\nToday he sent me a video of a very hot female guitar player with huge boobs and I found myself a bit upset. \n\nI know it's only natural that other hot women turns him, and I told him that I agree that she's very hot. But deep down inside I feel a bit bad, I don't want to tell him this because I want us to remain open and honest with each other.\n\nIf I tell him it makes me upset, he will stop telling me.\n\nI want to overcome my own jealousy and insecurity, and not be sad when he opens his heart to me like that.\n\nI understand all the basics, I know I should feel lucky to be with a healthy man with a healthy appetite etc\u2026\n\nAny tips on overcoming jealousy and insecurity?", "summary": "I want an open and honest relationship where we tell each other everything, but at the same time I feel a bit bad when he tells me about being turned on by other women. What can I do to stop being sad about his natural and normal behaviour?"}
{"id": "t3_25z820", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] am in a tricky spot with my FWB/GF [F19]. I'm not sure how I can get out of this the least hurt.", "post": "Girl[19] I've[18] been involved with for about 4 months now got me in a tough spot.\n\nBasically : early this semester, she approached me for casual sex. She had just gotten out of a 4.5 year relationship with a guy she still wanted to be close friends with. The guy had plans of getting back together too, so it was obviously complicated. As for me, I'm leaving in the middle of summer to study abroad for a year. \n\nHere's what happened : FWB deal worked for about 2-3 weeks before we mutually admitted feelings for each other. (I wasn't expecting this though). We decided to exclusively see each other (including dates and other couple activities), but didn't give it a label. She, however, never told her ex about me, since he was still madly in love. She was stressed with having to keep us both happy. Obviously this wasn't ideal for me, but I was happy just being with her. \n\nFast forward to this last weekend and it finally caught up with her.  Ex came by while we were together and heard us having sex. He is supremely hurt by it, and so is she. She doesn't want him gone completely, but she also thinks I've put up with enough. She says she's gonna need some time to herself, to sort herself out.\n\nAs for me, I'm torn on what I should do. As much as it makes sense to just leave her and be saved from the trouble, I also care deeply for her, and would like her to remain in my life (no matter what form that may be). She's been incredibly distant recently, and she's admitted it will be like that because of what happened. \n\nShould I just save myself the worry and hurt and cut ties? If not, then what should I do?", "summary": "Gf/fwb with priority issues is in a state of bad hurt. How can I get out of this with the least amount of hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_1hqdks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-bf [30M] and I [26F] broke up over a year ago. We've been talking since and it's getting complicated.", "post": "My ex-bf [30M] and I [26F] were together for a little under a year before we decided to break up due to the long distance after I moved across the country for grad school. It didn't seem like something we wanted to do, but the distance proved to be too difficult for both of us to handle. The breakup was as amicable as a breakup can get.\n\nSince we've broken up we've kept in touch a bit. We've seen each other a few times (recently for 2 weeks earlier this month and a couple days last week) and our interactions have always been the same - we pretty much act like we're a couple again. We have feelings for each other, but he doesn't want to get back together if we have to do long distance again. \n\nI've now graduated school and am looking for jobs, focusing on his city, mainly because I had always planned to return but maybe also to see if things can go anywhere with him.\n\nThe complicated part is that there's another girl in the picture now. He just met her and says he's open to seeing how things go with her. I can understand that he won't stop his dating life for me because I don't live in his city; he can't wait for me to return when my return is still uncertain. \n\nQuestion is - Is it unreasonable for me to be upset with him because I feel like he led me on? I guess I thought he was excited to have me move back and wouldn't date anyone else until I did.", "summary": "my ex-bf says he still has feelings for me, but since I live across the country, he doesn't want to get back together. He met someone else that has potential (been on a couple dates) and I'm not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_xnjp0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever stolen from a friend or family member?", "post": "When I was younger I used to take quarters out of my mom's change jar to buy candy at the grocery store. I never felt too bad about that.\n\nAround the same age, I spent the night at a friend's house (friend is named Kerry), which was a bi-weekly occurrence. As usual we played his", "summary": "bold: Stole money from friend, his dad called me out on it, lied and said it was mine."}
{"id": "t3_2m5glb", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Advice on telling her I have a child already!", "post": "Alright so here's some context.\n\nI 25M have recently been using social media and means to meet new people and i matched with a lovely girl online and we exchanged numbers and have been texting for a couple days. We don't know eachother too well and that's because we haven't actually met or anything but we do text often and judging so far from that interaction we get along well.\n\nSince we don't know eachother well I haven't found right way to introduce the fact that I have a 4 year old child. She lives with her mother 300 miles away, we talk on the phone weekly and I provide plenty of monetary support and we try to see eachother for a week or so once a month.\n\nI wasn't sure the interaction with this girl I met would make it this far and now it's a realistic necessity that she knows, she is 23.", "summary": "met girl online we are hitting it off through text over last couple days, in order for us to get a little more progressed I feel that she needs to know that I have a child; because I never imagined it going this far, is why I didn't say anything up front."}
{"id": "t3_2823wp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by silencing an entire nightclub", "post": "So this was a few years ago, I was touring Europe as a DJ, and my chaperone in this particular country was also a DJ as the case usually is.  The nightclub was buzzing, I played a good headline set, and it was my chaperone's set up next.  This club had new [CDJ's] which he had not used before.\n\nHe got as far as being able to put the CD in and the song was building up.  I was busy packing my stuff away when he tapped me on the shoulder and shouted in my ear:\n\n\"*something something* eject button!\"\n\nFor the life of me I have no idea what possessed me to do it, but I pointed to the eject button, and pressed it.  The entire nightclub went silent and I basically ruined his entire set.  If you lose the vibe, you lose the crowd.", "summary": "I pressed the eject button during another DJ's set instead of pointing it out to him and silenced a packed nightclub."}
{"id": "t3_4vibrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] had a very casual and nice date with a girl [17F] and it went well. But when should I text her?", "post": "This was actually my first real date ever so I was kinda flustered but I though it went well. It was a very casual date we went to the movies made jokes during the movie (I'm sorry but I had too action movie logic is ridiculous some times). Then we went and got ice cream talked for about two hours then I dropped her off at her house. About two hours after it was over I got a notification that the girl had liked a photo of mine on Facebook... The photo was two years old. So I think i made a good impression. But I would like to know when it's OK to text her. We where in almost all the same classes last year in school. And there wasn't a lot of us in class maybe 7 or 8. So we got to be decent friends there. So we already are pretty good friends but I don't know how soon after a date I should text her.", "summary": "When should you text a girl after a date?"}
{"id": "t3_4rzzre", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I wasting my time with her? Need advice", "post": "Let me explaine my situation (Sorry if I make mistakes, english isn't my first language). So I'm a 20yo male, been dating this girl for 3-4 months and it's my first relationship. I've known her for 3 years and she has been treated like shit by her 2 other boyfriends in the past, I should also mention that she is on heavy anti anxiety meds and has depression (this will seems like an important detail)\n\nAnyway hear is why i'm asking this - everything was just perfect until about 3 weeks ago, at first the contact was constant, we would text everyday and with time it became more rational and we'ed text a bit through the week before we saw each other. This all stopped after one date where she told me the L word for the first time - one week no contact, and when i texted she replied 1 week later. The thing is, we still saw each other on a date, and she was affectionate and all, but then BAM she goes cold on me by text again but a week and a half latter we see each other again and it's all normal in person again.\n\nI have confronted her about this, asked if everything was ok but she gave me very vague answers like \"I'm the kind of person who needs to think about there problems before asking for others people's oppinions\" and \"You can talk about anything with me\" (In my head I was like : wtf, you never answer your phone and text when the planets are aligned) \n\nI should also add that I left the country for a month and a half 4 days ago (maybe that has somthing to do with her distance? but shouldn't it be the opposit?)", "summary": "My girlfriend's words contradict her actions, this could be her messed up head (or just mine) or somthing else, some advice would be lovely"}
{"id": "t3_gf06i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Pappy's 60th- Help me Reddit, you're my only hope.", "post": "Well you're not, but your help would be appreciated nonetheless.\n\nMy dad's turning 60 at the start of the Easter holidays. \n\nHe's had a rough couple of years (has only one fully functioning kidney, lost both parents- yes they were in their late 80s, but I'm guessing it doesn't get easier with age- a major heart attack and one of his brothers died recently during surgery). \n\nI know it's expected, given that I'm the fruit of his loins, but he really is my hero. He came from a rural background (and I mean FUCKING rural- no electricity in the middle of a forest in India where the majority of his siblings still are) and with no support (there was nothing his family could give- 8 kids and that) managed to become a doctor, relocate to the UK and build a life for his family. All by himself.\n\nAnyway, my mum and I were discussing what to do for his birthday seeing as it's a pretty big milestone, and he could do with cheering up since losing his brother, so we were thinking about taking him abroad for a couple of days.\n\nThe thing is, I can't think of where to look into.\n\nSo far, my ideas have been:\nBarcelona\nBlue Lagoon\n\n..and that's it.\n\nDespite being in the UK for almost 30 years, my folks only recently acquired their UK passports and so far we've checked out Paris and Rome, so other Europe-based locations would be good.\n\nHe likes 'things of interest' so just sitting on a beach probably isn't his idea of a huge amount of fun, and he's still recovering from a serious bout of gout so lots of walking's out as well.\n\nSo Reddit- any ideas? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "My pa's turning 60 after a shit couple of years. Need short break ideas to cheer him up and show him how much we love him."}
{"id": "t3_djnmk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I don't need your money, I just need your help to meet the most brilliant minds in the world.", "post": "I'm going to keep it simple.\n\nMy name is Pablo and I live in M\u00e1laga (Spain).\n\nOn October 21st, 22nd, 23rd 2010 there is going to be this congress of brilliant minds in my city. [english link here](\n\nThe tickets are 1250\u20ac / person (almost 1700$) and I don't have the money to buy it, but I really want to go, I think it's a good chance to get some good ideas from these people (Scientist, thinkers, Nobel price winners...).\n\n**BUT**\nthere is a contest where you write an idea to change the world (for better, of course), and the 21 most voted ideas gets 2 tickets.\n\nSo, a female friend of mine wrote an idea and, if her idea gets to the top, she will give me the second ticket and we will go together.\n\nCould you, please, [register here] no spam, and vote [her idea??](\n\n**THANK YOU VERY MUCH!", "summary": "Want to go to a congress of brilliant minds with a female friend, please vote [her idea] so we can go for free.(we have no money)"}
{"id": "t3_2othfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) have a friend (19/20ish F) who asked me over for dinner. Both single (she recently), is it just dinner or could this lead to more?", "post": "Hi reddit, I have the following situation, and I don't want to be rude or sound like an asshole by asking her, so I'm asking you for advice.\n\nI am a 19 yo dude, still living with my parents, and broke up the last time rougly one and a half year ago (which was also the last time I had any physical contact with girls, not counting my mother).\nFriend of mine, 19 or 20ish girl, broke up recently/is still breaking up/she's not sure either, living on her own.\nI am in my 2nd year of university, she is in her 1st year of college (different studies).\n\nSo there is this girl, a friend of mine who is also a colleague (only in the summer) of mine, and we both study in the same city (however I still live at home, 2hr drive; she lives on her own).\n\nLately (3 months back) she broke up with her then-bf, and she and I started talking from time to time, then she got anther bf, and apparently they haven't been talking for the past 5 weeks so they probably broke up as well...\n\nNow I've gone through a nasty breakup too, so I said if there's anything I could do then she should just ask, asked how she was doing, if she still managed to get through the days allright. Then she asked if I could come over for dinner somewhere next week, and I said yes of course.\n\nNow, I'm a 19yo dude, she's a 19/20 ish girl, both single, and both (at least) straight... You understand where I'm going: is it going to be just dinner and chatting, or do you think there's a reasonable possibility of me spending the night in whatever way over at her place (and should I pack a clean pair of underwear and maybe condoms just in case) ?", "summary": "19M and friend 19/20F, she invited me over for dinner. Both single, both straight: is this just going to be dinner and chatting, or could this lead to more?"}
{"id": "t3_1wolyw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Selling popular Facebook pages to political candidates/parties [USA]", "post": "I create VERY biased Facebook pages for or against political parties/candidates. I take out a bunch of very well targeted ads with very inflammatory, \"preach to the choir\" style content, and I quickly gain huge amounts of page likes, especially around elections (one page has hundreds of thousands of likes). The individual pieces of content quickly get hundreds of thousands of impressions and engagements.\n\nI want to monetize this if possible. Ideally, I'd like to build up an account and sell it to a candidate or party to use as a marketing channel for their campaign. I have no idea what sort of legal restrictions there are in terms of selling this type of thing or anything for that matter to a political organization. Is there anything I should know in advance? Any thoughts on how to reach out to these organizations in the first place?", "summary": "Is it legal to build up a popular Facebook page and then sell it to a political organization?"}
{"id": "t3_35fike", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by attempting to front flip off a yoga ball", "post": "This happened a few days ago but the FU will linger for weeks. I was bored after a very long workday and had a brief lapse in judgement. Something in me decided it would be a good bit of fun to jump up onto the yoga ball in my living room and flip forward onto the couch. What could go wrong?\n\nI get a running start and launch myself up onto the ball. My right leg lands perfectly on the top portion and balances. Unfortunately my left leg was a bit late to the party and the impact shot the yoga ball out from under me. I fly in the air and land on my back, head, and left wrist. I can feel my wrist hurting but most of my focus is on my ringing head. I try to stand and end up lying on the couch until I regain my equilibrium. After a few minutes my head feels fine, but my wrist continues to throb. I throw some ice on it and move my fingers around but there doesn't seem to be any real damage done. When the pain doesn't subside in a few hours I conclude I must have sprained it and resolve to go to the doctor. \n\nNext day I get an xray done and find out I have fractured my radius. I am getting fitted for a cast soon and will most likely be out of work for at least a month. Worst part of it? I'm a lefty.", "summary": "Tried to do a flip off a yoga ball, fractured my radius, can't work or use my dominant hand for at least a month maybe longer. Don't try this at home kids."}
{"id": "t3_15vs5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [22/f] cheats his new boyfriend [21/m] with me [21/m], but i love her.", "post": "I known her for 6 years, we never dated, we are really best friends. We meet like 5 times a month to stay together and we travelled also a lot just the two of us. But in the last 2 years all time that we meet we also have sex (at first was her idea).\n\nShe never had a boyfriend since last year so basically i was happy with the situation and so she was, i also proposed a lot of time in this years, but she answered every time with just sex for now, i don't want to break our friendship with a relation. Last year she meet a boy and started dating him, he was an idiot so she left him and we started having sex again. Now again she found a boyfriend, but she want to continue to have sex with me, also she never had with him in 3-4 months of dating.\n\nWe stayed at his boyfriend's home for the new year's eve and when we come back to my place we slept together. Basically we talked all night at bed, she told me that she want to leave his boyfriend to find another one, that if i was with her now, she would left me in 2 weeks, because she want to have sex with other people instead of me. For her we should be free to stay with other people and also continue our secret relationship, and maybe when we are tired of that (she talked about 5 years), try to stay together.\n\nI really don't know what to do, i love this girl, i suppose. What i should do, find another girl, cheat her with my friend and wait? really i don't know. i can't stay with a girl and have sex with another one, i'm not into that. Should I stop having sex with her? Or continue to convince her that we should stay together now? thanks...", "summary": "My friend doesn't want to date me but just having sex until we are older, because she wants to date other people. I love her."}
{"id": "t3_2gt3pd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a girl to get my number somewhere else", "post": "Not particularly interesting, but definitely a fuck up. This happened less than an hour ago at school.  There's this gorgeous girl in my  architecture class who I'd never really spoken to, but today we kind of hit it off and started talking. So her, her friend from high school, and myself are walking to the parking lot and she says, \"I'll text you guys if I have questions about the drawings, I don't have your number though.\". Instead of giving her my number, I said \" Oh, you can get it from Sean or Anthony.\"  Even my parents are laughing at me.", "summary": "Gorgeous girl asks for number, tell her to get it from classmate"}
{"id": "t3_1jlq55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "**Small Update** [19M] was rejected by my crush [19F] and she still wants to be friends (apparently). What do I do now?", "post": "Please read my [**previous post**] ( to get some background. \n\nThat was about three weeks ago. First week wasn't easy, but I slowly got over that. I still have some feelings for her, but I also have accepted the fact that I probably read too much into things, and/or she doesn't want a relationship now. I still feel like a prick not instigating contact for this long, but she finally contacted me first. Nothing big, but she commented on my Facebook post. It not a lot, i know, but at least I know she's not avoiding me.\n\n-----\n\nAnyway, me and the girl who introduced me to Sarah are planning on doing something this week. I figured now would be a good opportunity to contact Sarah for the first time since all that went down. That way I could ask if she wanted to do something as a group with me, the first girl, and her. And I know it would just be just friends. I'm not going to try anything such as a relationship, but she does in the future, fine. I feel like it's basically my responsibility to instigate being friends in person. Especially if that's what she wants. I know I personally miss her as just a person/friend, not just the possibility for a girlfriend. This would be a way from me to see if I can be friends with her. That way if we do things together in a group a few times, and I realize that my feelings are still too strong and I can't be just friends anymore, I can tell her that, and we shouldn't really see each other for a while (like what was said in the previous post) \n\n----\n\n Anyway, how would I initiate first text? Just ask how she is doing? I was considering saying something like \"Hey, have heard from you in a while, how have you been?\" Something like that? What do you think I should say? Yeah, I know that this makes me sound like a real pussy asking something as simple as that, but... Why not? Also, do you guys think I'm making a mistake doing this?", "summary": "crush reject me, no contact for 3 weeks. Find out she isn't avoiding me which is good. I decide to try to be friends because that way I'll know for a fact if I can handle that. Friendship is what she said she wants. Still have some residual feelings, but miss her as just a person. Not just a potential girlfriend. What do I say? And am I making a mistake?"}
{"id": "t3_49y4si", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is it a bad idea to move straight out of your parents and in with your SO?", "post": "My boyfriend (21) and I (22) have been together several years, but I go to school in Toronto and he lives in our hometown an hour and a half away. Now he's graduating and has some great job prospects out here, and we've been talking all year about moving in together - but his parents are unsure. They think he should live alone or have roommates first. The problem is, rent is expensive here, and living with me we will each save between $50-$250 a month, without being stuck in a lease. Plus, we can adjust the rent between the two of us at any point while he gets his career started since I'd already be saving so much. He's also nervous about new roommates because he's a real quiet guy who likes things clean and gets along better with females than males. With me he'd be living with two very clean female roommates he already knows well. Most of all, after having to commute to each other weekly for 8 months of the year, we'd like to be able to share more of our lives together, and we feel we're ready as a couple. But I see their point that it's an experience he may not get again. We do plan to have our whole lives together, but then again, we'll probably just end up staying at each other's places all the time anyway, and pay double the rent for it. It's his big life change, so I've left it up to him now. He says he wants to move in here, but I'm just being the paranoid girlfriend who worries if his parents have a point. Thoughts?", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents think he should experience living alone, but we want to live together after two years of long commutes, and it would be cheaper."}
{"id": "t3_1ioom0", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job ProTip: keep a written log of your accomplishments at the end of the day/week", "post": "Write down your accomplishments at your job on a regular basis.  Do it at the end of the day or end of the week.  Put as much detail as possible.  It will advance your career.\n\n**Example**: you are a cashier at a local gas station.  write down how many customers you handled (estimate), how much cash you handled, how much inventory you did, etc.  write down anything uneventful.\n\n**Example 2**: you are a sysadmin at a business.  write down the progress of all your projects. keep track of hours you worked or had to be on call.  were there any fires you had to put out?  what did you learn this week?  write it all down.  Try to put things in terms of money generated or saved.\n\nTwo reasons why this will advance your career:\n\n1. When it's time for your job review, you will have specific facts to back up claims that you are a good employee deserving of a raise or promotion.  You can say things like \"I generated $1000 in revenue this month.\" Or \"I put in 100 extra hours last month to make sure we hit a deadline.\"  If you hadn't written it down, you would have forgotten all the details and wouldn't back up your claim that you deserve a raise or promotion.\n\n2. You're resume becomes a breeze to write.  Now you have a lot of examples that demonstrates why you are an excellent employee.", "summary": "Write down your accomplishments so you can later explain to your boss why you deserve a raise or later explain to a new employer why you deserve to be hired."}
{"id": "t3_1wz103", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do with 90acres and \u00a3500k?", "post": "As the title states i am trying to come up with ideas on how to spend \u00a3500k on developing 90 acres of woodland in order to create a tourist attraction in the UK. This is for a fictional project at school, and before anyone calls this cheating, it's not, the idea is entirely secondary too the report we then write after, I'm really just more interested in what you guys would do!\n\nThere are a few constraints:\n-A very limited number of trees can be chopped down (it's an area of outstanding natural beauty)\n-The budget is not negotiable\n-The idea must be something that would attract tourists (both from the UK and elsewhere)\n-The center that is looking to develop already has, Laser Tag, Quad biking, and 4 wheel drive buggies.", "summary": "Tell me your ideas of how to spend \u00a3500k on developing 90acres of woodland to attract tourists."}
{"id": "t3_1oesvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am meeting a friend I've liked for years [20F]; I think she likes me and I have wanted to bang her since I met her", "post": "This girl and I used to be really good friends back in high school. We met about 5 years ago. I know for a fact she used to like me at some point, as I have liked her. We've had strong chemistry (I've always thought) and I've understood her. I almost thought we would date.\n\nBut girl \"B\" came along and became my girlfriend, so girl \"A\" and I didn't get together as I hoped. Then girl \"B\" and I broke up a few months ago. I haven't seen girl \"A\" for some time either.\n\nShe recently contacted me for some help for a school project because I'm one of the few that knows how to do it. She goes to school two hours away but is making the trip here for this. We get to talking, and by golly, there's still some chemistry there. I exaggerate that the project may take all day, we need to go shopping for some things, and we even included making dinner together. I wasn't expecting that, but the flow was right. \n\nRelated: I haven't had sex in almost a year, and my ex was always stubborn about it, so I hardly got to practice, and naturally we never \"improved.\" That's always been a letdown, so I cannot comfortably approach a girl knowing I can satisfy her or myself if I can get her in bed.\n\nWhen I meet my friend this weekend, I want to test to the waters. First to see if she likes me. Then boldly fish around to, at minimum, giver her a handjob. I feel like I know her well enough to go for it. I also think that me asking for the sake of asking won't hinder our current relationship. I don't see dating as one of the options; rather FWB if all goes well.\n\nOh, and I should mention: I *think* she's still a virgin; I honestly can't imagine her already having done it with someone, as she's picky.\n\nIn any case, I know what no means and when to stop.", "summary": "This girl I've liked since high school is coming into town to see me for some help in her college class. I'm hoping she still likes me enough to sexually experiment. Do you see hope in this, and how might I approach her?"}
{"id": "t3_uyghe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get my husband to talk to me again?", "post": "My husband and I have been married for 4 years now and dated for 5 before we got married, most of that 5 we lived together as well. Everything was wonderful. We talked, we did activity's together, we worked on anything we did as a team. It was great. We bought a house, had our first bundle of joy and then some time around a year or so ago... it stoped.\n\nI'm not sure what happened, but now he doesn't talk to me. He answers questions, or topic starters with \"I don't know.\" \"That's nice.\" \"What?\" ect. When I try to get him to eat dinner with us he wont. When I try to get his help on a craft I'm doing he wont help. He wont help me lift heavy things anymore unless I beg and plead or nag him for days on it. He also has stopped helping/doing any chores. \n\nThe worst part is that he will not talk to me anymore. I miss talking to him. I've told him I don't feel like he cares anymore and he just says I'm over thinking it. I have tried to get him to talk about maybe going to couples therapy ect but he ignores me when I ask. \n\nI really do not know what to do now. I am very, very unhappy. I still love him but I don't feel like he loves me anymore.", "summary": "Husband doesn't want to talk/sex/cuddle/do anything with me anymore. Help? :("}
{"id": "t3_22q1zo", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - Resisted my greatest weakness", "post": "Hey guys, so yet another NSV in a short amount of time, but I'm pretty pleased with this.\n\nI'm a college guy trying to lose weight, been overweight for years. I'm down a few and finally starting to get traction with this diet, and I faced the ultimate temptation. \n\nPizza. Wings. For free. In the student center. There was some kind of conference going on and they were just handing them out. The college-bro within me reared it's ugly head, baying like a starved dog for even a slice.\n\nSomehow I held back, and now I sit here with a plate of homemade soup, lean chicken, and some steamed corn. Don't know how I pulled it off, but I did.", "summary": "The ultimate of college temptation presented itself to me, managed to hold it together!"}
{"id": "t3_rp12z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "About the Reddit timeline...", "post": "I actually really like it! First, it was nice as a joke, but then I came around to thinking that a lot of the things in it, especially the time travel jokes, are quite funny. I hope they keep it in some way even after April fools is over.\n\nIt would be nice to use this to implement something like the internet archive, but with Reddit. By choosing a date on the time machine, you could have Reddit show only posts dating before that date, in effect recreating Reddit as it was on that day! Since all of the old posts are already stored anyway, it wouldn't be too hard to use this information to create that functionality.\n\nWouldn't this be a great new feature?", "summary": "Use time machine to show posts from before a certain date only, recreating the Reddit of that day."}
{"id": "t3_3kg7h9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] I broke up with my gf [16/f] and I regret it", "post": "I'm going to try to keep it brief but we were together for about 4 months. I broke up with her about a month ago because I was under a lot of stress with school, work, and the relationship and I just needed a break to get all of my shit together. I initially wanted to just stay friends and talk and in the future when I felt more established and content we could try again. The issue is I really hurt her and she distanced herself from me because she believes she couldn't trust me again and she didn't want to give me a second chance. I still really love her and I want to try to work things out but I don't know what to do. I've apologized and I've explained my reasoning behind the break up. I understand I hurt her and I've been giving her the space she needs. Its been about a month since we've spoken and before I stopped talking to her she would constantly get angry at me whenever I attempted to talk to her or text her. I feel really bad, I never wanted to hurt her. I wish I could tell her how sorry I am and explain that it would be different this time.", "summary": "broke up with my girlfriend to get my shit together, she was really hurt and she doesn't trust me anymore. i want to make things right"}
{"id": "t3_277opy", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Interrupt me again? Fine, I'll knock the pillow off your chair!", "post": "Backstory: My girlfriend has developed a habit of interrupting me when I'm talking with her and then continuing on like I was never interrupted. She knows this really hurts me because as a child my sisters constantly interrupted and ignored me.\n\nScene: We have a", "summary": "GF interrupts me, her pillow \"accidentally\"  fell off her chair 3 times"}
{"id": "t3_5178j2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [26M] encourage my girlfriend [27F] to eat healthy with me and be more active?", "post": "Let me just first day that I am quite attracted to my girlfriend. In the first couple years we were both a bit sedentary, and she partially blamed me for her gaining a few pounds. I would sit on the computer and play video games a lot like any guy in his twenties and didn't really advocate activity as much, so I can somehow own up to that. To be fair, she is on thyroid meds and stores belly fat easily which she is extremely self conscious over (she's been asked if she was pregnant on numerous occasions and I want her to feel confident in her body image).\n\nStill, a recent huge attraction just re-sparked with us (more so on my part because my sex drive is through the roof) that made me realize how compatible we really are. If I had to be concerned with anything it's her lack of eating homemade healthy foods with me and being more active. We work opposite schedules but when she wakes up we have a good 5-6 hours on a workday where we get to see each other.\n\nI've been on a healthy (healthier) food fix where I am eating out less and preparing my own meals and always encouraging her to participate, but she has an aversion to eating leftovers (even chicken, despite it being reheated properly). I want to make her something for work so she doesn't have to resort to fast food, or the snacks she brings to work. For what it's worth I'm a very thin guy (although not in shape, but I am working on it).\n\nWhen it comes to getting more fit, for starters I tried getting her to play Wii Fit with me. She would be on board with this for a few days but eventually fall out of it. We have a pretty decent community fitness center that she never took advantage of and I too would use it a lot more if she would do it with me. Even asking her to go on walks with me is too much because it's too hot out for her (she's the type that does not go outside a lot for this reason).\n\nI'm just afraid of her not taking care of herself and the attraction fading if this ends up affecting her sex drive. I still really want this to work. Thanks guys.", "summary": "I want to bring up healthy changes my girlfriend can make with me but she uses working odd hours as an excuse for not being active, and her picky food tastes for why she ends up getting fast food a lot. I also want to bring this up without offending her."}
{"id": "t3_2l7tvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Ex GF[19F] has started seeing my[19M] best friend, and I can't get over it.", "post": "So around three weeks ago my girlfriend of one year broke up with me out of the blue. Naturally I was heartbroken but I feel that I'd had begun to heal, and hoped that we'd be able to stay friends. \n\nI'd noticed that her and one of my best friends, who is part of the same friend group that we're all in at uni, who also lives we me, were becoming close after we broke up. I was suspicious about this, but she told me that nothing was going on and I believed her.\n\nBut then one week ago, I went over to see her and walked in on her and my friend together in bed; both were topless. I was of course devastated and incredibly angry. We talked and she cried saying how she was so sorry and that she was disgusted with herself. Turns out they'd first slept together just a week after we'd broken up, even though she knew full well that I still had feelings for her. \n\nShe told me that she'd break it off with him, but then they started seeing each other again. I spoke to her about it and she says that she has really strong feelings for him and knows what she's doing is wrong. She says she doesn't know what to do. \n\nA few days ago she said she'd break it off with me again as she can see it's hurting me. But they're still spending lots of intimate time together, like watching TV in each other's bedrooms and all that. \n\nI know that since we're no longer together I have no claim over her and cannot control what she does, but I just feel like this is so wrong and that I've been betrayed. \n\nIt's very hard to do no contact with her since we share the same close friend group. \n\nI don't know whether to talk to her about this more or not. I just want to get over her and for her to stop seeing my best friend. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My ex slept with my best friend a week after breaking up, and has now started acting like they're together."}
{"id": "t3_3z2xlr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Domestic violence, what if i retaliate?", "post": "I'm 22 years old right now, and my step dad came into our lives when I was 12. For the last 10 years, he's been an alcoholic and almost every weekend he gets drunk and threatens me or a member of my family. For the longest time, my mother had us kids convinced that this was normal. That other families deal with the same bullshit. Anyways, I found out recently that my step dad has hit my mom on several occasions, cheated on her, and the other night he went too far. I'm on vacation and when I first got here, my mother called me because my step dad was threatening her because he had this crazy idea that she's seeing another man. (Not even a small chance that this is possible) To make matters worse, he lied to her and told her that I told him she had a boyfriend. Now my mom is absolutely being manipulated by my step-dad, but there's nothing I can do because she refuses to get help. When I get back to California, I'm going to try to orchestrate a fight. He's almost always drunk, and he's pushed me/threatened me countless times. What happens if I retaliate, and completely lay him out in his own home?", "summary": "My step dad is an abusive alcoholic. If I'm in his house, he's drunk, and he pushes/lays a hand on me first, can I legally retaliate and kick his fucking ass without going to jail?"}
{"id": "t3_54yaui", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my dad was dying.", "post": "This actually happened two years ago during my summer holiday.\n\nNot sure if this fits in TIFU, as it really wasn't my fu, but I think it's a good story nonetheless.\n\nI had gotten a new job driving around grocery stores placing and sorting liquors and various drinks on the shelves. One day, I had just finished up in the first store when I got a phone message from my dad. To my surprise, the message basically said that he had been run over by a car and stabbed with a knife, and that he was now in a hospital.\n\nAt this point, I think that a psychopath has decided to kill my dad for some reason, and that he's either dying or gravely injured. I immediately call my mom, to hear if she knows anything. She hasn't gotten this message herself, and starts freaking out. She in turn calls my brother, who at the moment was working selling newspapers over the phone. He gets quite hysterical after what I heard, and basically stands up and panics. All his coworkers try to calm him down, but he is obviously super stressed because our dad has apparently been in a random freak assault incident. So now all of us think that my dad is dying, and I'm in tears.\n\nBut then my mom manages to get in touch with my dad. As it turns out, he is completely fine, and is clueless to the ongoing events. We are all relieved, and are left confused and happy.\n\nHe insisted that he hadn't written the message, and that the phone was in his pocket the entire time. I showed him them the message, as I thought it was curious that somehow the words \"stabbed with knife\", \"run over by car\" and \"hospital\" had been typed in the same message, but I got no answer.\n\nI still to this day have no idea why I got that message. I don't believe it was a joke, because that would be a pretty fucked up thing to do. Maybe autocorrect worked its magic.\n\nThe message is in Norwegian, but I'm sure there are other Norwegians here who can verify what is written.\nLink to message sent: [image](", "summary": "Dad sends me message that he's been stabbed and run over by car. Family panics. Turns out he's just fine."}
{"id": "t3_3ytv3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31/m] can't see my wife [31/f] for 2 weeks this holiday season cause the father of her kids is in town. We have been married for 3 months and are in a long distant marriage. Should I be suspicious of her cheating on me with her EX?", "post": "The kids father lives far away and hasn't seen his kids in months.   Him and his family are in town for 2 weeks for the holidays.  He wants to see his kids but while he is in town. I can't see her or the kids till he leave on Saturday. She doesn't want any drama between me and her EX so she said I can't see her.      She has been very distant this last week and doesn't respond to my texts till the next day some times.    Should I be worried that she is cheating on me with her EX? They have 2 kids together and were together for 10 years.", "summary": "Is my wife cheating on me with her EX?"}
{"id": "t3_3xrm1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [24F] gave me [22M] email address. Emailed her back, but no response for a few days", "post": "I'm 22 and working at a hospital. I got signed up for a 5 day study testing kinesthetics. The person conducting the study was a girl (maybe 24?) who was part of that lab. She's from England and studied at a prestigious university. I spoke to her from day 1 to day 5 of the study during breaks and such. \n\nWe grabbed breakfast together on day 3 and sat and spoke for a good 20 minutes. I asked her out on day 5 (Friday morning) and she gave me her email address. She explained that she would add me on whatsapp and we could work out the details, and also told me to email her my number. \n\nI emailed her with a simple \"hey it's Alex. My number is ....\" that Friday evening. She did mention that she would be out of town with friends on Sat and Sun. She still hasn't responded (Monday evening). Maybe I'm being expecting a quick response or maybe she's just busy. I'm not sure. Is this a dead end or should I wait a few more days and email her again with a more direct \"are you still interested in going out etc\"? Thank you.", "summary": "English girl gives American guy email address after asking her out, guy emails her but no response for 3 days. Wait longer or just a waste of time?"}
{"id": "t3_3pf5h3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my [27 M] boyfriend want to come with me [25 F] to my Job?", "post": "Whenever he is available and not working or going to school, he likes to come with me to work. Now this makes me uncomfortable because it would be all gravy if he came and went and did his own thing but that's not what happens. He comes, sits in the office and wants to grab my butt or kiss me (cool but what if we get caught? There are always people in and out of the office. I'm a lil uptight like that).\n\nIf I don't pay him any mind and DO MY WORK, he gets upset that I am ignoring him then he storms out of the office. Like clock work. I honestly wouldn't mind it if he didn't need constant attention, which he does.\n\nI know it hurts him when he asks if he can come with me and I come up with some vague excuse as to why he can't, but how do I tell him without hurting him that I'd like to keep my work and relationship separate (I have already tried those exact words) but it always turns into a big argument... Oh he likes to argue alot!!!! sighs", "summary": "my boyfriend likes to come with me to work but it makes me uncomfortable and in turn we fight since I can't hide it. How can I ask him to stop without hurting his feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_3sbge5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [27 F] of 10 months, said something that really shook me. Red Flag?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend were talking about our exes. Backstory she broke up with her ex 3 years ago, but they were on/off a year after that. Her ex was very abusive towards her, he would cheat on her and tell her, swear at her and he absolutely ruined her self-esteem. They were on good terms a few months before we started dating and the reason she said she stopped being friends with him because her feelings would develop for him again and she would become confused.\n\nReddit I want to talk to her about this because its scary to think that somebody that's been abused so much can still develop feelings towards that person. I'm afraid that if he comes back into the picture again her feelings can come back again and it can ruin things. What should I do? How do I approach this?", "summary": "Girlfriend said she stopped talking to abusive ex and couldn't be friends with him because she starts to develop feelings."}
{"id": "t3_4uvk7t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Just got married at 21, No debt, What should we do next? How should we prioritize?", "post": "Greetings,\n\nI'm 21, and just got married a few months ago. I don't know much of anything as far as what to do to spend less as a married couple, taxes, etc. Any tips or tax information that I might not know would be appreciated as well. I'll list out some information and goals we have. My main questions are \"What should we do next to prepare for our future and accomplish our goals? How should we prioritize?\"  Thank you for your kind responses :)\n\nOur Household income is about $125k a year and spend around 60k. Our rent is $1200/mo (at least for 6 more months until my lease ended). My old roommate agreed to leave when I got married, but I had to keep the massive apartment until my lease ends. We can either down size (pay $800-900 a month), or we'd like to buy a house if we think that makes financial sense. Houses in the area we like are around $180-220k.\n\nCurrently, I have about 30k cash in the bank, and I invested $5,500 in my roth IRA last year (first time I contributed). I can continue to contribute, and I know that we can contribute more as a married couple. We also have two cars, but I'd like to get rid of my 2008 Impala, as we don't need two cars, and that should save us some expense. If I got rid of it, I'd like to save to purchase a second (modest) car within the next two years or so (if our employment situation changes, we might need two cars).\n\nMost advice is to save 6 months of income. That seems a bit excessive at the moment, as we are barely spending more than half of what we make currently. Would six months of expenses/ \"budget\" make more sense? How should we prioritize this and home-ownership?", "summary": "Married at 21 with no debt"}
{"id": "t3_3e5g87", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by realizing I was spelling my interns name wrong this whole after reading comments in my previous TIFU posts about my intern", "post": "[This was the last thread]\n(\n\nI was reading the comments on the post me fucking up constantly with my intern and his situation with his birthday on our super long day, I realized that I had been spelling his name wrong this entire time. I've been spelling it Jeffery instead of Jeffrey. While this might seem small, I had not been able to submit intern weekly status reports into our system for the past 7 weeks. Me and my poor intern has spent the last 7 Fridays in talking with our IT Support Tech team. We assumed his ID number was glitchy, but I just been entering his name wrong this entire time. Every other intern has their reports in a nice facebook-esque profile account while mine has been putting his into a plain Staples folder. Luckily for me, hes not here this week so I'll be able to submit the last 7 at once and make his profile look nice and tidy. I'm definitely adding that he has been working through obstacles due to management into the challenges faced part of his resume.", "summary": "Jeffrey not Jeffery. Also, I'm a shit mentor."}
{"id": "t3_1mf8ls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (20/F) him (20/M) I'm getting an abortion in a few days and I really don't want to, but I know its the responsible thing to do.", "post": "First of all, please don't lecture me about birth control. Please. The only option I have is a condom. Right now I'm trying to figure out things with my GYN. But my boyfriend and I used a condom, and I wasn't aware at the time that it broke or leaked. \n\nI know this is silly, but I was okay with getting an abortion. I truly was. But then maybe the hormones kicked in. However, now I really don't want to do it. But I'm still getting it done, because I don't want to ruin my boyfriend's life or mine. I'm a student at a school which offers virtually no support if this sort of thing happens, and he works in retail. If my parents knew, they'd certainly try to force me into it. Or they would try to take control of the kid's life. They were extremely emotionally abusive to me and I'm afraid what they would say to me/the kid. I'm also afraid of myself. I have issues with depression and anger. I know that right now in my life, I wouldn't be a very good parent. But I still desperately want this kid. My boyfriend tries to be supportive, but I guess at the end of the day he doesn't get why I, a pro-choice politically liberal young woman, am having trouble with this issue.\n\nSo I guess my questions are, how do I prepare myself for walking in that clinic? How do I make sure this doesn't effect my relationship? I already feel a little bit bitter. I've been yelled at by so many people already, and he hasn't gotten shit. I know thats stupid to feel bitter about, but its like he's in a completely different world than I am. Please help.", "summary": "Aliens knocked me up, and now I'm afraid that hormones and alien juices are messing with my mind to prevent me from getting an abortion, but I will still get one (because screw aliens) and I'm afraid this is going to effect me and my boyfriend and our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3yxurt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] roommates [both 22F] are making my life a living hell.", "post": "Hello! I mostly just really need to vent, but advice is welcome and appreciated.\nOkay, so, the girls I currently live with were my best friends for years. This is my third year living with them. The first two years were fine. Slowly things have begun to turn into a nightmare. They talk about plans in front of me, they ignore me, they blame me for things I didn't do. One day, one of the roommates, let's call her Sarah, trash talked me for like 20 minutes because she didn't realize I was home and could hear everything she said. That crushed me. This girl was my best friend since grade school. \n\nI'm SO uncomfortable living with these people, but the lease ends in August and the rent is so cheap, especially for the area that I live in, that I don't want to move out. They are already spreading rumours that I am planning on moving out without finding a replacement and that I'm fucking them over. (?) I've never mentioned wanting to move out in front of them, so I have no idea where this is coming from.\n\nA few weeks ago, I asked them why they have started treating me this way, and they told me it's because I've \"changed\" and \"they can't trust me\", but didn't have any specific examples and I'm left having no idea what I did wrong. Sarah seems to be the ring leader while my other roommate, Claire, is more like the sidekick/follower. But that entire group of friends has stopped talking to me completely.\n\nSo, Reddit, what the hell do I do?", "summary": "My roommates decided that I am an enemy and I hate being home, but the rent is so cheap that I don't want to move."}
{"id": "t3_1p4gda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my SO [24M] of ~2 months, Apprehensive about meeting parents", "post": "We've been together a couple of months and everything is going swimmingly, I'm wrapped in him and couldn't be happier. \n\nSo, the other day he brought up having dinner with his family and it made me really nervous and I don't know why. The thought just makes me feel apprehensive. I don't think I'm worried about giving a bad impression, and it doesn't feel like things are moving too fast or anything, but I do feel daunted.\n\nI do get nervous meeting new people, but it's worth noting that I've met both his parents briefly in passing, so they're not complete strangers to me.\n\nHe knows exactly where I'm at and that I feel like this, and so we're holding off for now...I just wouldn't mind some other perspectives/advice/thoughts as I do actually want to meet them properly. Even some suggestions on how to make it easier or something.", "summary": "I want to meet my SO's parents but feel irrationally apprehensive about it. Looking for some advice/suggestions to make it easier."}
{"id": "t3_2vke1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20/f] nervous to open up to the guy [21/m] I've been dating about my sexual assault", "post": "I was sexually assaulted twice, and it's kind of fucked up me big time. The last time was just recently, about a month ago. \n\nI want to tell the guy I've been seeing about it, (we've been together for a little less than a month) because sometimes I get really down really randomly about it, and some nights I just cry, and I want him to know and maybe be there for me.\n\nThe only problem is I haven't told many people about it, and I don't know how, and I definitely don't want the pity and awkwardness that comes with telling people.\n\nHow do I even begin to approach this with him?", "summary": "I'm ready to tell the boy I've been seeing about my assaults, but I'm conflicted about how to bring it up"}
{"id": "t3_39bwcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25F] interested in pursuing an open relationship. Can anyone give me advice on the matter?", "post": "I have been out of a relationship for about nine months. While I miss being in a relationship and all of what goes with it, I love my single, let me do whatever I want lifestyle. My last relationship was very claustrophobic when I look back on it. As soon as I got out of the relationship, I realized how much I enjoyed my alone time. I also enjoy the company of different people. I like to learn about people.  \n\nI have given this some thought and I think an open relationship might be the best thing for me at the moment. Let me know if you think differently. And I mean an open relationship as in one SO but having fun (without feelings) with other people. \n\nSo to those who have been in an open relationship before, could you share your experiences? If you had rules, what kind of rules did you have? If it ended, what happened? Did you both bring the idea to the table? Did you seek out an open relationship? And what is your idea of an open relationship?", "summary": "I want an open relationship. Give me advice, please?"}
{"id": "t3_wbdf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Think of other women constantly especially while having sex with my girlfriend of 4 years", "post": "Hey guys I'm just seeking some relationship advice/information from people who have been in the same place as me and what did they do. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I am 24 she is 23. We live in different cities but see each other every weekend at least. Plus we both have holidays and time off. Basically I think about being with other woman constantly (even while having sex) and crave the company of other woman. I flirt with plenty of women and feel like if given the perfect opportunity I would cheat on her (basically if none of my friends would know), i know this is awful. I have felt like this before but it has gone away. She wants to settle down and move in together I am nowhere near ready for this and feel I am dragging my feet in this relationship and feel I am much more irritable around her. I love her but I know I want to be single in the near future. If I broke it off with her it would be a meltdown for her shes going through a tough time and she is so sure that we will be together forever. If I feel like this now how will it ever get better but I am mega scared to end it. Feel like a whinger but figured fellow redditors may be able to relate to this and help me out.", "summary": "Disenchanted in relationship want to have sex with other women feel. bad for girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2ntdhk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being careless while wiping", "post": "On Thursday I was having a nice midnight poop. Everything was going well, I had recently become an adult, and was doing cool adult things like reading Junky and planning the purchase and consumption of cigars and alcohol. While reading my fine novel, I felt some water on my buttcheek, which was likely pee that clung to the underside rim of the toilet seat due to surface tension and then travelled to my butt. I took some toilet paper and reached down to wipe it off, while simultaneously holding a stubborn dangler in place between my sphinctre. However, the spot was further back than I anticipated, and, foolishly underestimating my ability to multitask, I reached further back. My ability to keep the gluey turd at bay failed, and to my dismay, it dropped down right into my palm. Immediately, I reached over to the sink and proceeded to thoroughly rinse my hand with hot water. After I finished pooping and wiping I washed my hands further under scaldingly hot water. I managed to wash away most of the stench from my fingers, but the shame will always linger.", "summary": "You can scrub away the filth, but you can't scrub away the shame."}
{"id": "t3_3qdgfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24f] still heart broken over butthead ex-boyfriend [29m]", "post": "I realize that this is a question that is probably asked a million times, but it's something I'm struggling with - \n\nFor a couple years, I've been in an on and off relationship with a guy who hasn't met my needs, hasn't made me happy and spends most of his free nights getting drunk, alone. There is no rational reason that I should still be pining after him -- but here I am. He's manipulating, awkward, mean... I honestly can't think of very many reasons to be heart broken, but I am. I'm not in love with him and I don't want to be with him, but I do miss him and it hurts that he's dating other people.", "summary": "I'm a dummy who's heart broken over someone who doesn't want me/I don't even love. How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_496fyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18 M with my coworker/friend [18/F] Constant Flirting, Complimenting, even though she has a Bf", "post": "So I just started this new job at a gym about 2 months ago and theres this really pretty girl who works the front desk. We closed a few nights and got to talking and became friends. I have met her boyfriend a few times when he has come by to see her, yet she still flirts with me constantly. Im a bit of a gym rat and she has seen me workout a few times, and she mentioned that she wished her boyfriend had a body like mine. I'm just wondering what to do in this situation, because if this girl didn't have a boyfriend, I would try to date her instantly. All help is appreciated.", "summary": "hot girl in relationship constantly flirts with me, interested in her but she has a bf."}
{"id": "t3_2dthib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my fianc\u00e9 [ 30 M ] together 4 years, fianc\u00e9 ogles trashy girls on Instagram regularly", "post": "I have been with my fianc\u00e9 for four years, I have always known his previous/usual tastes were slutty, trashy looking girls and I thought being a girl from a good family with a degree I had broken the mold. One of his exes was on the reality show \"For the Love of Ray J\" to give you an example. \n\nTo cut to the chase, lately I have been walking by and happened to see him on Instagram looking at pictures of trashy girls, some of them it's not even pictures of their faces in it just straight up ass shots. Gross. This happened multiple times over the past month. When he saw that I caught him, he scrolled up fast to make it look like he was reading text, so he's obviously hiding it. I have an IG, but I don't even follow any guys let alone guys who post sexy shirtless pictures. \n\nMy issue is this... I am one of those girls that is fine with pornography, I actually watch it myself. But some of these trashy girls he follows are his exgirlfriends and girls he has slept with too. Some are also known prostitutes. It just feels different. But telling him or asking to stop doing it seems strange and I'm not even sure if he would, kinda like kids and porn he's just going to look behind my back.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 chronically likes sluts, follows them on IG and ogles. I'm uncomfortable, but don't want to infringe on basic sexual rights. What do I do? Nothing?"}
{"id": "t3_403ebo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] just got my heart stomped on by my now ex boyfriend [28M] of a year and a half. What's your advice for mending a broken heart?", "post": "It's a long story. We were distance for a year and a half and about ten months ago I asked him to move in with me. We finally settled on me flying in for the holidays to our hometown and then driving to my current city for the move today. \n\nI've never been so excited about something in my life. Two days before the move he canceled everything. He said he has been annoyed and frustrated at me lately and can't go through with the move. I've broken up with him a couple of times (usually because of his hesitation to this move) and he always begged for me to come back swearing up and down that he'd come be with me.\n\nAnyways, I need advice on how to make this hurt less. I figured I would come here because my heartbreak is nothing compared to others on this sub reddit. I'm hoping someone has something wise to say. I also really don't want to get sucked back into this again.", "summary": "How do you get over someone you loved who hurt you deeply?"}
{"id": "t3_1gjuvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19f] need some advice on what to do with my ex [24m] (x-post from r/Longdistance)", "post": "Reposting here since I would like as much advice as I can get. \n\nPrepare yourselves, this is going to be a bit long. \n\nA bit of backstory:\nBack in December my now ex SO started our relationship - he lived in Ireland and I was in the UK. He then moved to Germany in January for a few months and we still continued to happily be together while he tried to start a career. We kept visiting one another when we could and things were great. He then had a job opportunity in Korea come up and we decided to end things mutually on my last visit due to the increase of distance - we lasted a good 4-5 months being long distance. Since then, we have seen each other a few times (we have a good many mutual friends and met each other in quite a tight-knit community) and I still have very strong feelings for him and we still are trying to be friends even though its difficult controlling our feelings for one another (I know this because the last time we saw each other we slept together again).\n\nNow he's currently back in Ireland and I'm going over there soon for work reasons and have an opportunity to see him again very briefly. We've both been single now for 2 months and it has been hell for me. I want to ask him to give our relationship another shot and tell him how I really feel. I really think that we can work as a relationship again even though the distance between us is going to increase when he moves to Korea in a couple of months. \n\nDo you guys think this is a good idea?", "summary": "my ex long distance SO is moving further away, I want to give our relationship another chance. Not really too sure what I should do. Help..."}
{"id": "t3_2pmrgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "NOT quite sure if me (29 F) and my boyfriend (24 M) have a future together. Anyone in a relationship Older woman / Younger man/ who can share their stories and advices?", "post": "We have been together for almost 3 years now, and everything has been as perfect as it can be. We are perfect for each other and share a deep love.\n\nBut recently I've been worrying about the future. I've already lived abroad, studied a masters and lived by myself, but he hasnt'd done that yet, and I don't want him to lose the opportunity to do so.\n\nWhenever I tell him that, he says that he doesn't matter for those things, and that cannot wait for us living together. I also worry that by when he wants to have babies I will no longer be able to do so.\n\nIt helps me a lot to read success stories about older women with a younger boyfriend or husband, gives me hope for the future", "summary": "NOT quite sure if me (29 F) and my boyfriend (24 M) have a future together because of age difference."}
{"id": "t3_518qgr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] girlfriend [23 F] of 2 years, is upset because I've become \"so cynical\".", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nSo my girlfriend and I have been dating for just over 2 years and have been pretty damn happy until pretty recently. Having disagreements isn't new to us but in the past we solved them with ease. Recently it's become significantly more difficult. After one such disagreement, we were having a heart to heart and she confided that she thinks I've become way too cynical, and I agree with her.\n\nI'm currently working a full time government job that takes an hour commute through heavy traffic either way. On top of that I have a mandatory 3 hours of class 3 nights a week (job related). It's also been a pretty shit year with loss on both sides of our friends and family. The stress hasn't been easy to deal with and its been flaring up subconsciously. I'm often extremely cynical and critical of people, I'm tired most of the time, and a contrarian. My behavior bothers her and I'm not surprised.\n\nThe thing is, she typically acts the same way, except I used to be there to keep her grounded and positive. Now it seems I just one-up her cynicism and the dynamic isn't doing anything for our relationship. At this point I would genuinely like to go back to my happy demeanor and positive outlook but I don't know where to start. It's gotten damn hard to be the optimist all the time. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "After a lot of stress and a difficult year I've become pretty cynical of everything and its negatively affecting my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3ora7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M]wants to talk to a girl [18 F] that i get to meet everyday at the bus stop, i always make myself look busy, if i were to one day talk to her would she look at me like im a crazyboy?", "post": "basically ive been meeting her or with her friends at the bus stop, i swear everyday i tell myself TOMORROW! YOU CAN DO IT!!\nNext day in the morning and i ignore her but not by my will, its just im shy, but its really awkward for me, if a girl tells you hi and she starts 1 sentence or small conversations how do i keep up?\nshe goes in same school, same class (would that be a bad idea if shes in same class?) \nit's also something to note that im not the same ethnicity and my peoples have a very bad reputation, to describe my looks id say i have thick hair, my hairstyle is like ralph fiennes in schindler's list. My eyes seem \"worn out\" (a bit baggy, looks like im tired 24/7 or high but im not)\nI am 187 cm and medium weight, my breast are huge becuase i bench press a lot so are my arms but im not a big guy at all.\n\nnow my question is to all the ladies in the place with style and grace, if i were a guy that talks very little, of another race, and you know nothing about me other than I score good on tests, I have ignored you/seemed busy with my phone when I knew you were looking at me trying to chat, You have tried walking with me but an sms had me to stop and reply to it, making it as if I told you \"dont walk with me\" \nWhat would you do if I suddenly started being open and talking to you? im pretty sure I fucked this up.", "summary": "Im a sucka for love, I can't act around girls at all, I have ruined my chances for myself now."}
{"id": "t3_130x3t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm up for a promotion.  I will go from an hourly position to a salaried position.  I need help negotiating my salary.", "post": "I work as a waitress at a restaurant company.  It's not corporate but the company does own several restaurants and is very successful on a local level. I have about 10 years experience in the service industry and have been working for about a year and a half with this company.  Since I started working I have moved up the ranks quickly and now am a shift leader, head of training and have been captain of some banquet events where the CEO had addressed the whole company about my performance.  My boss has told me they are considering promoting me to an assistant manager position.  He told me what a typical high-low salary looks like for my position in the company and told me to ask for something in the  middle.  I make pretty good money serving tables and I want this promotion to be an increase in my pay.  In my city, the average salary for an AM is 39k.  I want 40k.  I make about 38k+ as a tipped employee.  What are some good ways to keep from going too low in negotiating my salary?  Where do I even start?  I've never had to do this before.", "summary": "I'm getting a promotion at work.  How do I keep from getting low-balled when negotiating my pay?"}
{"id": "t3_312jbu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] need to break up with my girlfriend [22/F] of six months. I'm scared.", "post": "We met through work, and I started sleeping over in her apartment within weeks, and somehow I found myself moved in within three months, mostly because of convenience. I always kept telling myself it wasn't long term, but I never manned up and ended things before they got out of control.\n\n**I feel like a monster.**\n\nI have feelings for this girl and we really get along. She's so sweet, very innocent and sometimes very lonely. We work together, though I plan to leave this job when we break up (I have two).\n\nWe occasionally have fights, mostly her getting jealous of other women in my life, or crying because I don't show her much affection. Our sex life is abysmal and we are not at all compatible, though she tells me she thinks it's \"the best.\"\n\nI get a lot of love from her, and the relationship has it's positives, but I feel like I'm stringing her along and using her. All the while I feel frustrated at the lack of time for my own hobbies, to run my business or pursue other people. That last part makes me feel monstrous.\n\nShe wants me to travel five hours out of town to visit her family and go on holidays with her in the next two weeks. I know doing it before then is the right thing to do.\n\nI'm so scared. I know I'm going to break her heart, and I feel so guilty.", "summary": "I want to break up with my girlfriend, but feel dazed, confused and scared. We live together to boot."}
{"id": "t3_3e3xhq", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Am I [23m] slut shaming my coworker [26f] for telling her that you have to expect consequences for sleeping with multiple partners around the office?", "post": "I have been accused of slut shaming one of my coworkers when she came to me for advice about her current situation where it was revealed that she is sleeping with multiple partners around the office (it's a fairly large office and there are at least 3 partners within a 3 month period). She was complaining to me that she feels frustrated that guys can do it without judgment while people seem to have a problem with her actions for doing it. The core of the issue is that she feels that once everyone found out, it fractured office friendships and made it awkward for us to go out in groups because of the different sexual tension. I'm not sure of specifics in terms of the nature of the relationships, but she has asserted that she is completely upfront about expectations and the casual nature of the sex. Even so, it's definitely clear that the office has retreated into cliques as a result of these relationships. Now I got put into the middle of it when she talked to me about everything and I said (paraphrasing) \"Just because you have complete freedom in choosing your sexual partners doesn't mean that sex comes without consequences.\"\nAm I slut shaming her as she has said to me? I feel like \"don't shit where you eat\" is an oft-told expression for a reason and while she has the complete freedom to fulfill herself sexually with whichever consenting adult she wants, I think it's a little naive and immature to expect that you can do so without fear of social consequences. Am I slut shaming her by telling her this?", "summary": "Coworker is sleeping with multiple coworkers messing with the office's social dynamic. I told her she has the freedom to sleep with whoever she wants, but sex brings consequences. Am I slut shaming her as she has accused me of?"}
{"id": "t3_47qop4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31/f) boyfriend (30/m) of a few months only likes m/f \"making love\" porn... how do I communicate my rougher sexual tastes?", "post": "I'm (31/f) in the early stages of a relationship with a guy (30/m) I met online.  He's an attractive, responsible guy that's fun to be with. Neither of us seems to be bringing baggage to the table (no kids, nasty past relationships, etc.)\n\nWithin the past few months, I've asked him questions here and there to get a sense of his sexual preferences. I recently asked him what type of porn he watches, and he explained that he prefers relatively vanilla male/female \"making love\" type porn (which is line with how he is in bed - very passionate, if a bit vanilla... lots of missionary, eye contact, etc. -- more so 'making love'). \n\nWhile I enjoy sex with him, I do also like a bit of rough play from time to time (with the man in the dominant role). I hinted at this by telling him that when I watch porn, which is rarely, I like a mix of things, including dom/sub type stuff. He kind of laughed and joked \"oh, you're a freak, hey?\". I didn't get a totally negative vibe, but I wouldn't say he was receptive to this information.\n\nOpen communication is paramount in relationships, so I know we'll chat about this again. I'm looking for a bit of guidance about how to bring up this topic again, with the ultimate goal of ensuring both of us have our sexual preferences and needs met.\n\n- What is the likelihood that a man's sexual preferences are fully aligned with his preference in porn?\n\n- Do men who prefer \"vanilla\" type sex tend to look down on women who like things a little more rough?\n\n- How do I communicate my sexual preferences without offending my boyfriend?", "summary": "I'm nervous about discussing my rougher sexual preferences with my relatively vanilla boyfriend, and looking for guidance."}
{"id": "t3_3yjqvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my bf[28 M] 4 years, use of pornography and sex life", "post": "Obvious disclaimer throwaway.\n\nMy bf and I have been together for 4 years. Our sex life is sort of lost its spark, (we have sex once a week, sometimes every two weeks and this last week, he withed sex because he was upset and wanted to \"punish\" me, because he was mad,  which was really controlling and not ok). \n\n This aside, there have been some issues that have arisen with pornography. I discovered that he was looking at camgirls and paying them. They were not private chats or private shows,  but I asked him to stop, just because it crossed a boundary,  vaguely cheating to be interacting with live girls. So, he stopped paying for live cam shows.\n\nHowever, I just discovered that he paid and downloaded a 3 videos of a camgirl (not a \"live\" show, just bootlegged/recorded versions of the live show, so he wasn't paying her to take off the clothes). BUT-- it was the same cam girl he was looking at, and paying for,in the past. A girl that I look nothing like, different race, different body type, 10 years younger than me...which makes me feel insecure. I am fine with masturbation and sexual expression, but not when it seems to be getting in the way of our own intimacy. \n\nThe real problem is, he masturbates more than we have sex. I consider myself to be an attractive, educated, well rounded, funny, pretty, and  sexual person. This is starting to make me feel undesirable, insecure and sexually powerless. I've never had these feelings before.  For some reason, he'd rather tug his own than be intimate with me. Now, I don't really feel comfortable. He's witheld sex, and then is masterbating to girls that look nothing like me. \n\n I've discussed this with him, but he gets really defensive and insists that there is nothing wrong and tells me to \"relax.\"  I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him over this issue, but it's hurting me. Advice?", "summary": "bf isn't as sexual as he used to be, masturbates  more than we are intimate, and it is effecting our relationship and my comfort level."}
{"id": "t3_18rsxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(20/M) and her(19/F) How does she feel and what should I do?", "post": "So this girl and I hadn't talked for a month because she was mad at me. \nShe kinda established already that she doesn't seem interested in dating me. \n\nLast night our friends called us over to hangout with them not knowing each other(Her and I) would be there. We hung out and our mutual guy friend tells me to take her home and that we should talk.\n\nWhen we go outside I ask her what it is that we need to talk about. She says that our friend says I was mad at her. I told her that I wasn't mad at her, and that she knows me, if I was mad at her she would know it.\nShe then says that honestly she misses me a lot and that she feels like I been neglecting her.\n\nI told her that due to the semester starting I have a lot of friends that I want to hangout and she acknowledge this as true. Because she sees me with someone all the time in campus. The other thing I told her is that I have been meeting girls because she had established she doesn't want to date me.  She stayed quiet.\n\nWe get to our friends house and as we are walking I tell her that I am sorry she feels so neglected by me. I also told her that I hadn't changed(I don't think so) and that I have never texted her first. We hadn't talked in a month because she hadn't talked to me.\nShe acknowledge she was mad at me for taking a class with her but sitting with two different girls, I told her the reason for that was that I can't stand her best friend, she is a fucking sour grape, and honestly I don't feel like taking that sourness. She stayed quiet. \n\nWe got to our friends house and watched a movie. The ride back stayed quiet, she sang quietly to some of the songs on the radio. We got to her house and she said good bye.\n\nI have oneitis for this girl, I been trying to get over it. I haven't gone out of my way to ignore her either, like how she says she feels I have. I really value this relationship and I'm not sure how to mend this.", "summary": "This girl hasn't talked to me for a month. I have done very small conversations but she says I been mad at her. Then last night happened and I am confused."}
{"id": "t3_mwvsd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I know she WAS into me, but is she still?", "post": "Okay, so I'm a 16 year old guy, not had many girlfriends in the past.\nShe's a 16 year old girl and also my best female friend.\n\nWhen we first met, she was in a relationship and I wasn't. I then got into a relationship just as she got out of her's, then I broke up with my girlfriend and she got with a new guy etc.\n\nThis has gone on for about a year and a half now, but now we're both single, and since I split up with my previous girlfriend (and a little bit before that actually) , I've really fallen for her. The problem is, since we're such close friends, I'm worried that I'm in the friend zone, and there's a fair bit of evidence to support that theory. However, a couple of my friends told me that she used to be really into me, and after looking back over our conversations and facebook messages and such from a while ago, I think they were right.\nSo here's my question: Is it likely that she would still be interested in me, if I was to ask her out, or would she reject me and our friendship ruined?", "summary": "She used to like me, but now we're close friends and I like her. What are the chances that she still likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_29uke4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27m] found a letter my gf [25] wrote to her old male friend...not sure if it's appropriate.", "post": "Back story.  We've been together for 2 years now, and seeing as it's the 4th of July, we decided to do some cleaning around the house.\n\nI was arranging the bookshelf when I found a letter that hadn't been mailed off yet.  Just began casually reading it when I realized it was a letter that she was writing to her male friend.  A little history between the two of them: they never dated, but they had some sort of a crush a few years back, that never led to anything.  They have this penpal thing where they like to write letters to each other, which I had no problem with.  This letter, however, was a bit...off.\n\nFirst off, it refers him by his pet name.  They call each other \"Prince\" and \"Princess.\"  I'm not sure if this is appropriate.  She states in the letter, \"I'm glad to know I'll always be your princess.  You'll always be prince to me.\"\n\nSecondly, it states along the lines of, \"My boyfriend makes me happy, but he's not like you and me.  Remember how you read (some book) and you were telling me how much it touched your heart?  He read it and it didn't seem to really affect him as much as it affected you and me.\"\n\nThe second part, I'm not *too* bothered by it, but I'm wondering if this is a sign of something that's to come.\n\nI pointed out the letter to her, and she said, \"Is it ok? We've been calling each other that for a long time.\"  Not wanting to really delve into it, I just said, \"Yeah, it's fine,\" and she mailed it off.\n\nNow I'm wondering if I even have any right to be...upset about it?  We used to have a very strong relationship, but due to her recent health issues, we haven't had sex or have had any time doing anything enjoyable for a while, so perhaps being in the dumps makes this worse than it is?\n\nI'm not sure, just looking for some answers, I guess.", "summary": "gf wrote a letter; she calls him by his pet name, and then compares me and him."}
{"id": "t3_hhmgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My negativity is affecting my relationship. How can I become a more positive person?", "post": "I tend speak very negatively, mainly, I complain a lot. A lot. I have always known I wasn't a particularly optimistic person, but lately I have been made aware of how much I complain and see the negative -- I am appalled at myself.\n\nThe worst part is how it is hurting my boyfriend. He is an optimist and my negativity is really starting to affect our relationship. I can be perfectly happy and having fun while complaining, but he (totally understandably) feels like I hate my life and everything about it. This, in turn, makes him feel like a bad boyfriend because I am so unhappy.\n\nI want to be a positive, upbeat person that others like to be around. I don't need to change my life, I love my life. I need to change how I see it, how I relate to it, and how I communicate that. I don't just want to not complain, I want to be more positive. Help?", "summary": "I always see the negative and complain a lot -- but I do like my life. How can I become more positive and see things in a good light?"}
{"id": "t3_13ro53", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] me and my girlfriend [16/f] of over a year never moved past friends and made a connection?", "post": "Ok, so a while back in around 8th grade this girl moved into my neighborhood. At the time, we were both in that awkward teenager phase that everyone is in middle school. \n\nEventually after knowing eachother for several years, a mutual friend (to whom we'd both professed liking the other peson) decided to play matchmaker for us because neither of us wanted to make the first move.\n\nWe've been dating for a little over a year, she's great. The problem is we've never really moved completely past the \"friends\" part. We'll hold hands and cuddle when watching a movie, hell we've even been a bit sexually active.\n\nBut the problem comes in the fact that we're really two completely different people. She's very low-key, and toned down, while I'm the type of person who gets excited about things. We get along great, and some of the times I've spent with her when we're alone have been the greatest of my life, she has a great sense of humor and humors my stupid ideas and some of the more annoying parts about my personality.\n\nPart of me wants to stay with her through high school (we've both mutually agreed that we'd break up before college), but another part of me wants to break up with her and just try dating other people since this has been both of our first relationships. \n\nThe other problem with potentially breaking up is that we're too good of friends - my closest group of friends is 4 people, on of which is this girl. I really don't want to ruin the friendship between us, and I'm also nervous about that dynamic when and if I get a different girlfriend.\n\nHave any of you been in this situation before and are able to offer any advice?", "summary": "Went from being long time friends with this girl to dating for over a year, we get along great but we're two different people and I want to try dating other people. It's made even more complicated by the fact that my closest friendgroup includes her."}
{"id": "t3_1wa296", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my wife [25 F] 6 year married, caught her sexting", "post": "am fairly young me male 25 and her also 25 well today i caught her sexting with another man to my knowledge they didnt have sex but i got to read the whole chat and pretty much sums it up to dirty sexting we been married for 6 years no kids and i think we have had a normal life right now am very nervous and shocked i did talk to her and she said she was going to have sex with him but he never picked her up so it never happened i like her honesty about it but i dont know what to do should i leave her or accept it as a mistake\n \nI just dont feel good am really really nervous i cant sleep and i cant stop thinking about it i know it will go away but right now am so lost and i need some advice\n\nI feel like getting on a bus and leave the state and start over i dont know why this urge of leaving \n\nsorry for the grammar but right now i do not care about it", "summary": "caught my wife sexting"}
{"id": "t3_zcbmp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[21m] have a date with a girl[18] in a few days, and i fear i am going to mess it up.", "post": "So just to give a quick background. Im a 21 year old un-kissed virgin (IE the average stereotypical redditor).\n\nI have been on a few dates with a couple of girls the last few months, whom i have met trough online dating. But none of them worked out and didn't go anywhere. Because i ether was to afraid to really do anything, or i panicked over the fact that i wasn't doing and just made it worse.\n\nWell, now i have another date with a girl who is without a doubt the most compatible girl i have come into contact with so far.\nSo far we have only communicated online, and this is our first time meting face to face.\n\nThe problem is that i really just don't know how to flirt. I have no problem making friends with a girl, and i have more female friends than male ones.\n\nAnd as i don't know how to flirt i fall back on treating my date like just a friend, even tough i am very attracted to her.\n\nI clearly have some boundaries that i need to break, but i just don't know how to do so without panicking.\n\nI am meeting her about 6 in the evening next Saturday, after she is done working. My plane is to take her to a restaurant if she is hungry or cafe if she is not. And go for a walk after that if she is up for it.\n\nI really don't want to mess this up like i have done in the past, so any suggestions or pointers are most welcome.\nHow can i show her that i am attracted to and build intimacy without crossing a line and making her uncomfortable?", "summary": "I have a date with a great girl in a few days, but i am terrified to mess it up like i have in the past."}
{"id": "t3_4ylrfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) just found out that my dad is not my biological father, and I don't really know what to do.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships...\n\nI went with my mother to get my driving permit today. I passed, and when they gave me my temporary permit there was a middle name that I didn't recognize. As far as I knew. I had never had a middle name, so this seriously confused me. I asked my mom about it, and suddenly she burst into tears and told me that she was pregnant with me when she met my father, and that he agreed to raise me as his own. I didn't know how to feel, but there wasn't any sense if anger, betrayal, or anything. \n\nNow my parents are divorced, but they still maintain a decent and functional relationship. Am I right in just pretending that this while thing never happened, and to just go to the DMV and have the named changed as soon as possible. I don't want to say anything to my brothers and sisters, who are both biologically my parents kids. As far as I'm concerned, the dad who raised me is my actual and only father. What should I do?", "summary": "found out today that the father that raised me with my mom isn't my biological father. I don't really care, and want to move on like nothing happened. Is that right?"}
{"id": "t3_2h2i8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my BF [28 M] of four years, saw picture of himself he never sent me", "post": "I just moved cross country to be with my boyfriend of just about four years, and a good chunk of that time we have been in a long distance relationship. We both have Facebook accounts, and although he is notorious for hating pictures taken of himself, he has never hid the fact that we're together and in a serious relationship. \n\nToday while out shopping, we were looking for something in a home store and when he got out his phone to look at a picture he had taken of the problem, I saw a picture he had taken of himself smiling and posing that I hadn't seen before and looked recent. Several minutes later, we drove back and we got in a little tiff about organizing the house. I finished my stuff, but he seemed irritated still and left to go do errands without telling me.\n\nNow, I know that I am pairing those two events together, and they likely don't need to be. However, I am very curious about why he took that picture of himself and for who- even when we were long distance I'd have to beg him relentlessly to get a photo sent so I'd remember what he looked like.", "summary": "Will talk to him later, but needed a sanity check on whether it's ok to be curious/anxious about seeing a picture of himself on his phone when he hates pictures."}
{"id": "t3_xghof", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need help comforting a girl", "post": "I've know this girl (19/f) for about 2 years now. We've been friends for the past year and half and have become close over the last 6 months. I (23/m) expressed that I had a crush on her at the beginning of that 6 months. She explained to me that she really wasn't in the right place for that, we still talked and hung out and one day she asked me if I still liked her and I didn't really know how to respond. But I told her we should talk some more and see each other more often and we have been. This last weekend we finally \"had the talk\" and we both expressed that we did indeed like each other. But I made sure that I told her I understand her situation and am not looking to rush her into anything. \n\nNow here is my question. She deals with bipolar disorder, depression and some other issues as well. I'm normally a great person to talk to, I'm okay with just listening and doing my best to be there and help. But...I've never really had to be there for someone like this. I guess I'm just looking for some tips on how to help be there for her and let her know that I'm not going to just bail on her...without repeating myself every time she is upset. I want to try and cheer her up but I don't want to change the subject and make her feel like her issues aren't important to her. And I don't want to constantly bug her and make sure she is okay...\n\nAny help would be grateful", "summary": "Starting something with a girl who deals with depression and other issues, any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1hek3m", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Assholes take my dog, then give me trouble. Just need to bitch about it.", "post": "I live in quite the rural, podunk, country stereotype town. About a month or two ago, someone's underfed dog started hanging around with me. Since the poor guy was starving, I fed him and played with him, and asked around to find the owner. Turns out it was this old drunk who had had a stroke, and he didn't really care where the dog went; so, I took him in. I got him his own collar, and I was planning to get him his rabies shots within the week. Not two days later, he shows up with a tag on his collar saying he'd gotten his shots, and a day after that, he's gone. Some assholes in the neighborhood decided to basically steal my dog. Unfortunately, my mother's boyfriend, who lives with us, decided to pretty much let it go - our landlords weren't okay with us having a pet, anyways. I was pretty sad about it, but since these people let him run around all the time, nothing had really changed. Until, you know, he attacked someone else's pet, because they refused to neuter the dog, and they never paid attention to his whereabouts. So, I see the sweetie off and on every few weeks, and tonight, I went out on a walk while on the phone. I ran into my old friend, who was with another dog, and naturally, he followed with me as I walked, occasionally running after a bird. Halfway down the road, these assholes pull up in a golf cart next to me, obviously drunk, asking angrily if I was \"messing with their dogs\" (that they never put a leash on, or in a kennel...or anything). I curtly informed them that I was simply walking, and asked if that was a crime. The owner's friend, also drunk, laughed and asked if the dogs had been bothering me. I said no. They yelled after their dogs and drove home. After I got back to my house, guess who was in my yard? That's right. My former dog. So,", "summary": "these old fat bastards decide to take something that isn't theirs, then never look after it, then get mad when it follows with me on a walk. I hope these people sleep well at night, having taken someone else's pet, neglecting to take care of it, and then harrassing them over something they didn't have control over."}
{"id": "t3_3q1tgb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [21F] tell my dad [55M] to back off?", "post": "I would like to apologize for the block of text in advance.\n\nSorry.\n\nSome background info:\nMy boyfriend [22M] and I have been dating for 4.5 years as of September 2015. My parents (Mom, Dad and Stepmother) and my little sister all really like him, and his family (mom, dad, stepmom, older brother, step-siblings) all like me. Boyfriend (we'll call him Joe) and met back in high school and go to colleges that are about 10 minutes away from each other. Right now we are living together, much to my dad's chagrin.\n\nMy dad started bugging us to get engaged since my freshman year of college (about 1.5 years into our relationship), but recently it has gotten really bad. My dad moved from California to Texas after my little sister graduated high school and every time I talk to him or go visit him over the holidays he asks me 'where this relationship is headed'. I know that he wasn't wild about me moving in with my boyfriend before getting engaged, he's a bit old fashion, but he has since accepted it. What he can't get over is that we've been dating for 4.5 years and I don't have a ring to show for it.\n\nRecently my younger (6 months) cousin, his niece, got engaged and this has made things worse.\nJoe and I have discussed getting engaged after we have both graduated, he has enough money to buy me a ring we both love, and we have our own place in the California Bay Area -so probably an apartment or a condo because houses will be too expensive for a while. He is graduating in December and I'll be graduating in May.\n\nI have told my dad on multiple occasions that I will NOT get engaged while still in college, but just ignores me or brings everything up the next day. How do I explain to my dad, who tapes episodes of Say Yes to the Dress (which I really don't watch) for me and practically dragged me into a jewelry store to look at engagement rings, that he needs to stop harassing me and that Joe and I will get engaged when we are ready?", "summary": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years and my dad won't stop bugging me about getting engaged on his timeline."}
{"id": "t3_2rjz0c", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Looking to raise the bar, need suggestions. (M18)", "post": "I used to be quiet and not really confident in myself, so I worked on that and I got it fixed so that I can at least make more effort. I know not for a fact, but that women all have a thing that makes them attracted to a male. \nI myself can cook decently \nDress properly\ndont look to be a jerk \noffer help to others \nlook to be a fun person but nice to be around \nAround females, its a bit hard for me. I be myself, but sometimes fear screwing things up because im just not good or funny. I recently met two females and as said in another post, I went a bit too far in contacting as I feared not being fun enough or not liked when they do like me. I got it resolved just im in a low state with them. I have also gotten the usual you are sweet or you are nice which is great, but its like im mr nice guy with little chance of me being noticeable. The friends will hang out with guys and other friends and im just mr nice guy with no real presence. I have come a long way and ive been happy about it, but is there anything i could do to be a bit more noticeable or the guy to hang out with or talk to? I have a decent personality and I am told I could flirt a bit more but im just looking to be more", "summary": "Looking to so called raise the bar in how im viewed and put"}
{"id": "t3_49j0b6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "151Kg > 95Kg Now I ask you for help + pics", "post": "[Pics](\n\nA year ago I had my stomach cut and sleeved via gastric sleeve operation. It has helped my weight loss in an unimaginable scale, but logically came with it's costs. One of those many costs is the physiological adjustment to steady effortles weight loss. Now I have reached a point where the weight loss has nearly stopped. Mainly due to my eating habits. I snack a lot. I snack when I'm bored. When I'm sad. When I'm pissed. Basically most of the time. I need that to stop if I'm going to reach my goal. \n\nAnd now we reach the second topic. I want to be 85 by may 23rd. If you want to know why, it is because that's the day of my graduation ceremony. Finally going to be done with highschool. Back on topic I have toughly two months and a half to reach this pillar. And we have a saying in my culture which is \"Ask the patient rather then the doctor\" which when put in context makes sense.\n\nDo please tell me how I can reach my goal by my set timeframe.", "summary": "plox read need help"}
{"id": "t3_2akh2y", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have a serious problem with spending money...", "post": "I am currently 20 years old, and have been working to earn money since I was 16. This also started a major mental issue I have had in regards to spending money. You see, before I had a job money was meant to be spent, and I sure never had a single problem going out and spending that money freely. But over the years I have gown accustom to aggressive saving, and that has over time lead to me overall having more money, and not wanting to spend my money at all. As of lately, for no good reason, I have been aggressively saving 50-70% of each paycheck, though I'm not saving for anything in particular and my day to day expenses are still very minimal. I have more money than I have ever had before, and I can't bring myself to spend it. \n\nFor example, today I needed to buy a mount for my camera, sitting at best buy I spend literally 30+ min contemplating whether or not it was worth buying, despite knowing I would need it to do what I want to do. Someone how, even with well over $2k in expendable cash (not including emergency reserves) and another paycheck coming tomorrow, I couldn't bring myself to spend $40 for this mount. I went home empty handed. \n\nThis extends to pretty much every purchase. I saved for months to buy my own motorcycle with cash rather than finance it, and despite it being the most fun thing I have ever owned, many months later I still have buyer's remorse. The first day I was so desperate to return it, that I struggled to tell myself I should keep it. My friends don't like hanging out with me as often because whenever we go out to eat or spend money, I always psych myself out over spending any of it, even if I have no shortage of it. \n\nWhat makes things weird is this all started when I started earning more money. I make a lot more than I did when I worked minimum wage, and ever sense then my lifestyle has adapted,  my saving has increased tenfold, and my spending has stayed roughly the same, but with a lot more mental consequence. \n\nReally not sure how to get out of this mental state. I want to enjoy buying things, but I simply haven't in a while.", "summary": "used to love to spend money, make more money than I did in the past, now I feel guilty with every purchase."}
{"id": "t3_1kgo81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25/F] with my Bf [20M]1.5Years Together, He is never happy to see me/always negative", "post": "My boyfriend is the dreary person i know. He has a great talent to turn any happy moment to turn that moment into the worst moment of your life/make you feel bad about something good/havent even done. Whenever i get home from work, the 1st thing out of his mouth is \"I hate you\" he constantly tells me that im fat(im 300lbs) and that if i was skinny hed be nicer to me. Im currently trying to lose weight & any of my efforts he disregards and its very discouraging. He is very insecure and is always bringing up my past relationships(very abusive ones) - (i was his 1st real gf) and makes me feel bad about my sexual past. Constantly calling me a whore, keeps asking for butt sex and other sexuall things. i love him alot and there are alot of good days but not as many as the bad. He is paranoid and accuses me of cheating even if im hanging out with my brother.(i have told him i cheated out of revenge once)", "summary": "bf is insecure and ruining my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4vvyeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] have been dating 5 years and I'm unsure if she's \"the one\"", "post": "Hey r/relationships. As the title states my gf and i have been together 5 years. we live together and have a dog. day to day things are fine but we have both noticed over the past few weeks or months it seems like we are more like room mates than in a relationship.\n\nI dont know that we are on the same page as far as future plans. we have talked about marriage and kids etc etc but i just dont have \"the feeling\" that i think i should that she is \"the one\". she is at the point where she needs more commitment (or the promise of it) or its a waste of our time. \n\nIt would be fair to say that she shows more love than i do her. in the past ive attributed that to being distracted/stressed with school and everything else but now that im out of that stage of my life im not sure. I do love her but i'm not sure if thats a result of living and being together so long or if its because she actually is the one. I'm not sure how it works but i feel like after 5 years if it was meant to be I would know. \n\nI'm probably answering my own question as I type but i just continue to go back and forth between knowing that i do love her and want the best for her and the fact that we are not on the same page and that if i had to decide today, I am not ready.", "summary": "I'm not sure if my gf of 5 years is \"the one\", and at this point a decision needs to be made one way or another."}
{"id": "t3_2rk1nn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on a Tinder date.", "post": "So obviously this didn't happen today but I've had enough time to\n lick my wounds to share this with the internet.  I'd had tinder for a couple\n weeks and hadn't messaged or replied to anyone because I'm not really \ninto internet dating but one match in particular was more insistent and \nsuggested that instead of a traditional date we just hang out with a bottle \nof whiskey in my backyard.  I conceded, she came over and after the\n bottle one thing leads to another and we end up in my bed.  \n\n\tFast forward to 4:00am when my roommate's girlfriend comes into \nmy room and tells me to \"Wake up and deal with this shit\".  In my \nwhiskey daze I completely forget about the date and put on pants and left \nmy room to investigate.  Once I was in the hallway I heard a commotion\n coming from the bathroom.  I entered to find my drunk, naked, tinder \ndate wrestling my dog in the shower.  Completely stunned, I asked \"whats\n going on?\" and she explains that my dog had been sprayed by a skunk. \n I live in big city and have never in my life seen a skunk.  So not knowing \nwhat to do, I took my dog from the girl, checked him out (he seemed fine\n other than the smell) and put him in the backyard to deal with him in the\n morning.  The tinder date didn't agree with this and launched into a drunk\n and still naked hissy fit in my kitchen.  So at this point I asked her to \nleave.  The last thing she said to me through a veil of tears was, \"You're\n never going to call me again\".", "summary": "I entered to find my drunk, naked, tinder date wrestling my dog in the shower."}
{"id": "t3_4evnsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my dog's vet [40s M] I feel attracted to him and I don't know what to do...", "post": "I feel attracted to my dog's vet. I have seen him 3-4 times in his office but the last time something clicked inside me! He seems friendly with me but that's it. He is always in a rush but last time he was more relaxed, he smiled a lot to me and I felt something between us that could be nothing at all. I don't know if he is single, basically I know nothing about him! He seems totally different from me, I am more of the artist type and he seems more serious but somehow that doesn't bother me! I don't know how to proceed without making a fool of myself...", "summary": "I like my vet but I don't know what to do about it... please help!"}
{"id": "t3_32jr13", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by taking my meds", "post": "First time poster long time lurker blah blah. Throw away because my boyfriend reads reddit all the time.\nThis also happened a few hours ago.\n\nAnyways. I'm on my phone so any formatting errors my bad.\n\nI have been borrowing my boyfriends laptop (MacBook Pro 1500$) for the last 3 weeks or so if not a month because my laptop's WiFi adapter card stopped working randomly. (He tried to fix it, but that's beside the point). Due to my financial problems I have not been able to bring it in yet. \n\nAnyways it was 11pm and I fall asleep. Note I just got my wisdom teeth taken out 4 days ago so I HAVE to have my medications. I wake up at 2:45am remembering I NEED to take my last 2 medications from the night before. \n\nI had the laptop open right next to me on sleep. Pop my first pill. Leave the water bottle open to grab the second pill. Loe and behold the water bottle tips over and spills onto the laptop and underneath. Needless to say my mom helped me but the keyboard and trackpad are done for. I'm really depressed and I don't have the kind of money to replace it.", "summary": "Went to take meds for my teeth and in the process spill water over my boyfriends expensive laptop."}
{"id": "t3_1ju2ao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] think of myself to be too emotional and I am frightening my boyfriend [17M] sometimes", "post": "So, when I read the other posts on this subreddit, my problem seems to be very minor.\n\nBut since I've started taking the pill, I get very emotional very quickly. I have always been rather empathetic, however it gets borderline ridiculous, like having to choke back tears when I see two people kissing.\n\nNow, I love my boyfriend, he is wonderful, and sometimes when he says something really nice to me I can't help but cry (out of joy). I keep telling him it's because of the pill, and that these tears are based on glee, but it makes him sad to see me cry and he can't really cope with it; I am sometimes afraid he might stop saying these things because he does not want to see me in tears.\n\nWhat's even worse, when he wants to criticize something I did that he did not like, even if he says it in a friendly way, I feel immediatly extremely guilty and start to cry as well, even if I did not want to - it is a complete overreaction to him being slightly grumpy over something, and so he feels guilty because he thinks he put it in an unfriendly way - that's really bad because he's right to tell me if he doesn't like something, I am just so eager not to anger him in any way + pill that I overreact.\n\nAny advice I can explain this to him in a way that will not make him feel bad anymore if I start to cry?", "summary": "boyfriend is sad and confused about me crying because of the pill"}
{"id": "t3_42wm31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) fianc\u00e9 (24) has been searching his ex-fianc\u00e9 on Facebook a lot.", "post": "Hey guys\n\nSo, I(22f) was on my fianc\u00e9's (24m) phone because we were at my friends house who he never met and I used his phone to find her through his Facebook and add her for him (his request). We've been together for over a year.\n\nSome background information, he was engaged just last year to some girl he claims he didn't really like but felt pressured to marry, but she cheated on him and he left her.\n\nSo I went to type in my friend's name, but his last three searches popped up in the drop down, and his ex-fiance was the first one. So out of curiosity, I opened his activity log and he has searched her over ten times, the month of January 2016, alone. He told me he had blocked her.\n\nI'm not really sure how to feel about it. I know he loves me and we are engaged, but it still makes me insecure. I don't search my exes. \n\nIs this something I should ignore or bring up?", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9 has been Facebook searching his ex fianc\u00e9 a lot over the past few months. Should I be bothered?"}
{"id": "t3_517846", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am having concerns about dating and pursuing a new relationship.", "post": "I am currently attending school at a military academy. Over the past 2 years I've faced 2 relationships that put me through the ringer from an emotional standpoint. The first [18F] lasted about 5-6 months before we dated for a week. We hooked up, but shortly after she broke it off. About a month later she was dating another guy (he goes to the same school). I fell into a bit of a depression and couldn't concentrate on school and went severely down-hill with motivation. \n\nAfter about 8 months I met another [18F] girl. She helped me get through a lot of personal issues especially when it came to family troubles. I'm not sure if it was the honeymoon phase or what but I came off as smothering. We dated for a month before she broke it off. Same situation, broke down and stopped caring about everything. I see her all the time here at school but it doesn't bother me as much anymore. Really what made me upset was the breakup and the feeling like I lost someone close to me. I felt like I was at fault and I messed up. Even though it has been about 7-8 months since the breakup I only feel like it has been a month or so since getting over it. I still have my bad days, but not nearly as bad or as often.\n\nThe dilemma I face now is I have met another [20F] who I am interested in asking out. She is older than the other two which I realise now is part of the reason why it didn't work out, but she seems to have her stuff together. Some of the concerns I have are: 1) She's lives in the same squadron as I do, and I really don't want to risk problems in squad while I live here for the next year, 2) I'm worried that due to my prior relationships, maybe I'm not mature enough for a relationship or if it doesn't go well I'll take it personally and crash again, 3) Both of us may be busy with school, I don't want to be a burden on her if it came down to it. What are your opinions? I can answer additional questions, because I know I didn't put everything.", "summary": "I had 2 failed relationships that were a major hit against me, not sure if I should pursue a relationship or stay away from it."}
{"id": "t3_2kzt8z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by paying \u00a3120 to take a dump", "post": "So this happened last week. It's about toilets so the mods wouldn't let me post until a Saturday. \n\nI fucked up by going to the loo before my client meeting last Thursday morning. I arrived at my clients offices twenty minutes before my meeting was due to start. Realising I had an almighty pre meeting nerves and coffee shit brewing, I decided to relieve myself.\n\nI went into the single toilet off of the hallway and sat down to do my business. Due to the amount of coffee I had consumed earlier I released a satisfying torrent, worthy of any man dealing with low level ibs.\n\nAfter finishing, I proceeded to start wiping. But my dear reddit I forgot to check that there was toilet paper in the loo. Panic ensued. I looked everywhere. There wasn't any paper towels or even dirty tissues in the bin. Fuck.\n\nI tried to call my colleague to help me but I had no mobile signal. And then it dawned on me. Receipts! I had receipts in my wallet. What I failed to realise was that I'd cleared out my wallet the night before. All that remained were my expenses for client meetings on the previous day. \n\nSo reddit. I did what I had to. I wiped my arse with three receipts totalling \u00a3120. I can no longer claim that money. I wiped my bum with \u00a3120.", "summary": "There was no toilet paper so I had to wipe my arse with expenses receipts totalling \u00a3120 that I now can't claim from my company."}
{"id": "t3_1xxat9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29/m] seriously disappointed my [31/f] girlfriend. Any advice?", "post": "So my girlfriend got me chocolate and a thoughtful gift today. What I had planned to do was surprise her at work with flowers and a card. In addition, tomorrow, I was going to drive 4 hours to get her a very special cake.\n\nI played it off like \"oh, I'm sorry, I didn't get you anything, I thought we were doing something tomorrow!\" Now she's VERY upset at me, said \"I thought you were going to surprise me at work or something (she works tonight and I have planned to surprise her)!\" She said,\"forget it, I want nothing, not today, not tomorrow! Leave me alone!\"\n\nWhat the hell just happened?\n\nAlso, it's her birthday on Sunday.  She's been declaring this past week her birthday week.  Since Monday, she's received a $120 mani/pedi, a $300 Nintendo Wii with 4 games, 2 dinners, 1 lunch, and 1 day of puppy watching at a shelter because she knows I'm going to get her a dog.  Also, she owes me $150, which I probably won't get back, but I don't mind.  Why does none of that already count?  Why is she so mad at me?  Also, the 4 hour cake tomorrow!", "summary": "I've given lots of gifts to my girlfriend the past week, but she thinks none of them were given today so now she's mad and wants nothing."}
{"id": "t3_12uzto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f18] need advice on my relationship with my boyfriend [m20]", "post": "We have been together for two years, and I already know what most of you are going to say about being very young and two years isn't a long time but please hear me out.\nI do love him, very much and he is the first person I have ever slept with. We recently have moved in together and since the move in I have been feeling very...unattached. Besides the fact that he treats me like a servant most days, I feel like sometimes he really doesn't think of me as anything more than shit on his shoe. \nThe past few weeks I have been hanging out with one of my good guy friends [m21] who used to have a thing for me a few years ago but it was bad timing. Now I'm feeling extremely attracted to him and I don't know what to do. I feel like it's only because I am unhappy in my relationship...but I find myself very nervous when we are together, butterflies in the stomach, accelerated breathing etc. \nGetting into a relationship with my boyfriend at 16 obviously didn't leave me much time to explore. I'm not saying I want to go around and sleep with as many guys as possible...I'm saying that part of me wants to be with my guy friend just to give it the shot we didn't get to have a few years ago. He sees how mean my boyfriend can be and it makes him angry that I let him treat me that way. \nI just don't know how to feel or react to this.", "summary": "Just moved in with boyfriend, treating me badly making me unhappy, leading to me being attracted to a guy friend."}
{"id": "t3_y0seb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am bored with life and I have no idea what to do with it. I have $20k in my pocket....what should I do?", "post": "Life has become quite Cynical to me at the moment. I am bored with life. I have no meaning, I could die tomorrow and really would not care, so be it. I am currently traveling, yet slowly and am in a set location for a few months (for free magically.....man its amazing what you can do when your a nomad) and I cant seem to spend it fast enough. I think I spend on average like $4 a day on food [locally grown organics] if that, except today when I splurged on a $5 burger and fruit smoothie. I am an expat from the US & now a solo traveler/FA for about 6 moths by choice. {some people drive me crazy....naturally. And I have this feeling that 99% of society falls in that category} So help me reddit....what can I invest in, experience, do, love, or go. Been to college and done that so don't say it. Yes my family has issues, but they have not asked me to help on their own. I am 21 and free as a bird....give me ideas please. \n\nI am looking for passion. Perhaps a good investment idea or restaurant concept. I spent $50 bucks yesterday on kickstarter, so I guess I do see a bit of hope in the world. \n\nI am looking for serious answers. AMA for clarification purposes. Please don't tell me something I already know....like the give to the poor yadda yadda yadda. I am looking for excitement. Something to be passionate about. Been to college and done that. Currently traveling. Excite me, no I will not give it to you, but maybe we could share it. \n\nBe aware, you are talking to a philosopher here. If I have heard your answer before then do not state the obvious....like the fact that you like to live under bridges. To clarify again I am a Cynic, and not a cynic.", "summary": "I have $$$ & looking for something meaningful to do with it. Please don't give me a useless/pointless/meaningless answer. AMA if you need clarification."}
{"id": "t3_3ff02c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19F] of two years. She's having a hard time opening up about her problems and concerns. Advice?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for around two years. Neither of us are very confrontational, so when a problem arises, it doesn't ever really get mentioned, but sort of just brushed under the rug. I know this isn't healthy, and we're trying to fix it now.\n\nAfter a near-breakup experience back in February, I've made sure to be better about letting her know when I have a problem, so things are ok on my end. She, on the other hand, is having a difficult time opening up, even by her own admittance. \n\nWhen she has a problem, even small, she doesn't talk about it to anyone, and puts up a front to appear okay. The problem stews in her head and worsens her mood, making her mad at every little thing I do, and making her think we're not good together. \"Familiarity breeds contempt,\" so to speak. This eventually led to her rash decision to break up with me for about a week, after which we talked things through and were happily reunited.\n\nSo we are now determined to improve on her communication to make our relationship work out, but the problem lies therein: how do we help improve her communication, which is so ingrained in her person? I've agreed to do all I can to ask her about how she's feeling and if she wants to talk, but it's mostly up to her to open up and let me know. So, is there any advice anyone can provide for helping her come out with her problems and talk about them? How can she make it easier on herself to bring up her issues?", "summary": "My girlfriend has a hard time bringing up and talking about her problems. Any advice on how to make it easier for her?"}
{"id": "t3_2pt8fb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my ex girlfriend [17 F] of two years, broke up a week ago and i really miss her", "post": "My ex and I broke up because of too many arguments. After the first year and half we were constantly arguing and we broke up and got back 3 times. This is the fourth time. We have many experiences together and many memories that are just hard to let go. I miss her so much i really want us to get back but I don't know if i should go for it or not. I know that I'm still young. But I've never felt this way towards someone. Because i miss her so much we ended up talking one day. The conversation was going fine then we started talking about us. She said the only reason she broke up is because of the constant arguments and we never seem to stop arguing, she said that she is happy because there are no more arguments but she said that she misses being with me. I feel that way too.\n\n I really want her back but i just don't know what to do. Should I go with the no contact rule? I'm afraid she will move on really quickly. Also i forgot to add that the arguments are both because of my insecurities and jealousy and her anger and not wanting to lose an argument. I just really miss her.", "summary": "Miss my girlfriend after a break up. We have broken up and gotten back several times, but i dont know if i should try to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_10t0e0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "First submission to Reddit. Lost something very personal to me and I am not sure what to do...", "post": "Hello all,\n\nAfter about a year of lurking, I have decided to submit this as my first submission ever because I am at a complete loss on what to do. Over time, I have seen Reddit come together to provide amazing advice for people in need. As my first submission to Reddit, and I am asking for your help and on how to go about trying to retrieve stolen items from my fianc\u00e9. Currently, we are living in/around Disney in Florida and are originally from Michigan... So here's the story and details:\n\nOn October 1st, my fianc\u00e9 was out with some friends and around 2am she had lost her purse in the Disney area. She was outside at the time and security attempted to help her find her purse to no avail. She went home for the night.\n\nThe next morning we called Guest Relations at Disney to find that her purse had not been lost/found. We cancelled all forms of payment and proper ID's to get them cancelled and resent to us on different accounts. A police report was also filed against the stolen purse. The value of the purse is that of a felony (things inside included and personal items).\n\nWe found that at 5:00am one of her cards were attempted to be used at a 7/11. Since then we have contacted the store and had requested surveillance to be checked. Nothing has come out of this yet and I am attempting to go to the store in person tomorrow (10/2). I am curious on how any surveillance can be used to assist police in any investigations but have no clue if they would even take the time to look into this case.\n\nI have contacted local pawn shops in town to see if anything had been seen in person comparable to the items missing. I have also checked various popular websites to see if anything had been publicly posted. Nothing has shown up yet and a whole day has gone by since.\n\nThis is about the extent of the information I have available. I'm not sure what options I have beyond everything that has already been done and am looking for dire help before too much time passes and all is lost.", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9 had her purse stolen with fraudulent attempts used on her account. I need the purse back because the value is very personal and I'm not sure what else to do."}
{"id": "t3_4ngdgi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Does she want me?", "post": "Okay so there is this girl ive been talking too alot for the past 2 months. We meet up alot in real life and just talk all the time and it's great. Recently I confessed that I really like her and would like the friendship to me more then just a friendship, she said she doesn't like me like that and she had broken up with her boyfriend 3 months ago and didn't want another relationship so soon, but she said she would love to go on a date to give it a go.\n\nLast night the subject of our conversation turned into sex and I was jokingly saying that I will become a Wizard because that's what happens when you are still a virgin after 40/50 years (I couldn't remember neither could she), afterwards I proceeded to joke om that I would be so desperate I would land up going to the red light district in Amsterdam. Then she started telling me that it's not true etc etc and she just spammed me with those grin emojis and kept saying 'Heeeeeyyy jij' (which translates into Heyyy you). I got confused and asked her what she was on about and she said 'nothing hihihi' with a blushing emoji.\n\nSo now im left confused wondering what she meant.", "summary": "I mentioned to a girl that ill be a virgin for life and she sent confusing messages back saying noooo and hihi with smirking and blushing emoji's."}
{"id": "t3_1me66a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] have to move away next summer for two years. My boyfriend [25m] of 1 1/2 years wants to get married before I leave, but he can't come with me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating 1 1/2 years and have built a very strong relationship, at this point I'm about 95% sure he's the guy I want to marry. Problem is, I'm in an intense program at school that requires that I move away next summer, ten hours away from where I live now. I'll be gone for two years. He has suggested that we get married before I leave, and to be honest I'm pretty sure I'd want to get married next summer except for this issue. He is unable to come with me because he finally got his dream job here, and leaving just isn't an option anymore. I can't ask him to give up his career in favor of mine, and he would never ask me to do the same. \n\nI love the idea of being married to him, but I want to be excited when we finally do, not dreading the fact that we'll have to be apart right after we do get married. \n\nAnother problem is that the two of us have decided to wait until marriage for sex, and if we were to wait to get married until after I graduate it would mean visiting each other would be great, but there'd be tons of temptation to do things we vowed not to do. But if  we did get married, I can't help but worry about where we would stay when visiting one another- it would make sense for both of us to have roommates to decrease our costs of living, but I don't want our married lives to be spent in houses we share with our single friends. \n\nI know I still have a few months to decide, but I know that time will come faster than I want it to. Any advice anyone can give would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm leaving next summer for two years, my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years has suggested we get married before I leave."}
{"id": "t3_2awf5t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I his cover story?", "post": "I [24 f] have been with my boyfriend [29 ] for a little over two years, we licte together in his house. The first 2 weeks of our relationship were great, and he wanted me all the time. Shortly after he started acting like a dick. He puts me down, talks to me like I'm stupid and makes fun of me to his friends or mine and even talks crap about me to his ex. \n\nWe haven't had sex in over a year and the last time we did, I had to beg for it and it lasted less than 5 mins because he said he had a headache. He's never finished during sex with me but he has no problems ejaculating with his flesh light or in the shower. \n\nHe makes fake passes at me and half heartedly grabs my boobs or ass and complains all the time about how I'm 'unresponsive'. But when I invite him to shower with me, he doesn't touch me or look at me or get hard. I can't remember the last time I saw him get hard. My friends think he's gay, and I'm not sure what to do anymore.", "summary": "My bf of 2 years doesn't seem to be physically attracted to me and my friends think he's gay and using me as a cover."}
{"id": "t3_3je9yy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Serious) I was just unknowingly filmed having sex on a webcam and think its being posted to the net. Anything I can do?", "post": "Long story short. Reply to this Craigslist ad today of a lady looking for a younger hung stud. We email back and fourth, go over to her place tonight, she answers the door in bra and panties, leads me to the bedroom and we have sex. Afterwards I see a red light coming out of this clothing hamper. Sure enough there was a web cam in there. I ask her about it and she acts aloof. I ask where the video is and she says she cant get it. She says it was just for her safety and just so she could watch it after. All i can think is to grab the web cam and leave. Turns out there was a 250 pound dude in the apartment too who took the web cam back and told me to leave. I have spoken to the cops im sure they wont be able to do much. Even if i want to go ahead with charging them, the video will be out. Im not looking for judgement, just advice. Is there anything I can do to squash this thing? Is there a way to track this video down at all to see if its being put on the net? If I find the video online somewhere is there any way to out these people or get revenge or anything? Any advice/suggestions are welcome. I know it was a stupid, promiscuous thing to do, but please hold the judgement. Thanks for reading (", "summary": "fucked something from Craigslist and i saw after that it was videotaped, is there anyway to squash the online broadcast?)"}
{"id": "t3_127wnj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "M[19] just ended a long-distance relationship with F[17]. She wants to meet up as 'friends' next week.", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend after just over a year of seeing her last night. A couple of months ago I moved to uni over 2 and a half hours away and the long distance has effectively ruined our relationship. Neither of us were happy so I decided that it would be best to end it.\n\nShe is my first true love and we've experienced everything for the first time with each other, so letting go of that was very hard. She wants to see me as 'just friends' which would mean her coming up to stay with me for 2 days next week. I feel that this is either going to make this break up even harder, or that we will end up getting back together, only for us to have to go through this pain again at a later stage.\nIs seeing each other a good idea, or should I tell her that I think it's best if we both had some space? Thank-you for any responses.", "summary": "Long distance meant relationship had to end. She now wants to see me as friends and I don't think this is a good idea. Is it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ho9sr", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You said you would be home.", "post": "One of my wife's best friends Clara had a birthday party tonight. It started at 9 PM. We live a little under an hour away and had an appointment in the same city as the party from 6-7 PM. So my wife called Clara and confirmed that we would be there earlier, probably a little after 7. Not a problem, Clara confirmed she would be home.\n\nWe got to the house around 7:40 (pit stop at Subway for dinner sandwiches) and the house is dark. Wife calls Clara and she is shopping for decorations at Target 20 minutes away. Clara giggles at the fact we are just sitting in our car and even suggests we attempt to \"break in.\" Clara is tipsy. \n\nFuck that and fuck you. Wife and I had also been to Target earlier to buy Clara presents, including 2 candles, pajama pants, Halloween candy (it is crazy how early that stuff comes out; also, Target had a freaking Christmas aisle!). We also got a bottle of Svedka and a six pack of beer to contribute to the alcohol drinking.\n\nWell as we waited for 40 minutes for tipsy ass Clara to return with some lame ass patio lights, we decided to be a bit less generous with our gift giving. We gave her the smaller candle, about half the candy, and the pajama pants. I wasn't drinking so the vodka was more of a gift to the Clara and her party-goers to enjoy. It's now in my freezer.\n\nAs the sweet smell of petty satisfaction fills my apartment air tomorrow from the candle, I will be thoroughly enjoying watching football and sipping on some very tasty cocktails.", "summary": "Wife's friend says she will be home and isn't, gets less presents."}
{"id": "t3_qy7r1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help potty training.", "post": "I have a 5 month old female boxer pup. I have no had her for about 3 months, the dog is very intelligent in the fact she knows when she has done something bad while as sometimes letting me know she needs to go out. I let her out the second I get up, and 10 minutes after she eats. I don't think she has ever went more than 3-4 hours without going outside. \n\nHowever it seems like most of the time she doesn't even try to hold it. The second she has to go she just lets go, even in front of me sometimes (for an example I was just smoking on the balcony of my apartment with her and my room mates dog, she walks in and pisses on the floor right in front of me and we just went outside to potty less than an hour and a half ago) \n\nI have tried everything I know to do. Positive and negative reinforcement. Whip her, put nose in her pee/poo (shes not a wild dog sniffing out meals so stfu about the damaging effects on the sense of smell) Praise her give her treat when she goes outside like shes supposed to. \n\nI'm just at a loss right now. I would really hate to but I'm giving her up in two weeks if she doesn't get better. I'm flat out tired of breaking my back, getting up at random hours to take her out and just really going above and beyond the line as a good dog owner here. I clean and clean and clean this damn carpet all the time and I'm sick of my home smelling worse than a dive bar's bathroom. \n\nA little background I'm a disabled vet going to college full time so I spent ALOT of time with her. I feed her science diet puppy food, and give her Eukanuba healthy extras treats. I keep her in a pin when not at the apartment.", "summary": "Dog won't become potty trained after many many different attempts."}
{"id": "t3_25ehm3", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Going for an internship this summer with a judge. Another student at the internship told me he is going to make sure he embarrasses me as much as he can so I don't get a recommendation letter. What do I do?", "post": "Going for an internship this summer with a judge. Another student at the internship told me he is going to make sure he embarrasses me as much as he can so I don't get a recommendation letter. What do I do?\n\nMy plan is just to ignore such comments and do my job. However, I'll have to be working with him for our judge. He told me he's not going to work with me and going to make sure that he tries to make himself look better with any chance he gets. He's in his late 20s and I'm 21 Admittedly, it's a competitive environment, but is this what happens?\n\nLike I said, I'm going to ignore such comments and work with him when and how I have to. I actually looked forward to working with this other student, because I've heard he knows his stuff, but after speaking to him about it I was put off.", "summary": "Instead of giving me advice to be antagonistic towards him, I want to make it  a beneficial environment so we can be friends and actually work together. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_shkqp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst case of \"second-hand awkwardness\"?", "post": "There's this little phenomenon I like to call \"second-hand awkwardness\", when something super awkward happens around you and you have no idea how to respond to it, so you basically try to either escape the situation as quickly as possible, or, if flight is not an option, then you stand your ground... and try to make yourself as inconspicuous as possible.\n\nAbout a year ago I was attending a speech by a girl who was presenting her memorized original oratory in front of the class (nearly sixty people, mind you). She walks up there and starts off with some kind of witty line, pauses, and then seems to completely lose her train of thought (the speech is memorized, so she doesn't have a script with her). She's literally standing up there for fifteen seconds in complete silence as everyone below the podium tries their best not to breathe, before she looks up and chokes out, \"could I try that one again?\" She's met with absolute silence, so she gives forced laugh and says, \"I guess that's a no,\" and then walks off the stage. Dead silence as the program coordinators scrambled to get back into gear; I can't even imagine how terrible that girl was feeling...", "summary": "I counted wall-panels for two unbelievably long minutes as a girl was forever traumatized about public speaking.*"}
{"id": "t3_pfurh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with bullying stemmed from teachers?", "post": "My High School Alma Mater has apparently been having an ongoing issue with teachers and how they treat the students.  One person in particular who's a Physical Education Teacher and the Varsity Football Coach has had many occasions and here-say from students on things he has said and done.  Most recently he was suspended for only 10 days for pushing a student **bold** 12-15 feet! **bold**.  \n\nI was wondering if anyone on reddit knew some places or agencies I or some friends with children that attend this school can contact to help with this issue.\n\n[Article] concerning the most recent issue.", "summary": "Football coach is bullying students--what can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_ur1z2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Over a week since we last contacted each other and other relationship issues.", "post": "I'm 18, male.  He's 21 and this is his first gay relationship.  He is out to all of his friends but not family.\n\nMy boyfriend who I have been with since February this year is doing research at the college we go to and hasn't made any effort to contact me this summer.  I don't want to be the nagging type, but I miss him and at least want some kind of conversation while we are apart.  I'm sure we will skype at some point, and we had even talked about me driving 6 hours down to see him for a weekend- that is if we ever get in touch. \n\nSome other background info:  I said the L word to him after only a month...he still hasn't said it back yet.  During the last week of school he made no effort to be with me, I basically did all of the work.  When I told him how I felt about everything we had hot make-up sex, but I still didn't feel great about everything.  For awhile I was considering breaking up with him.  \n\nHowever, now I miss him and couldn't imagine leaving him.  Honestly, I don't see myself with him in 5 years but at the same time I like him.", "summary": "what is wrong with our relationship? How can we fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ijgwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [30/M] doesn't want a relationship with me [25/F]. I've told him I do. He still puts more effort than I do into getting together.", "post": "I have become friends with this guy even though we used to hate each other. Also, we sleep together but that's it. Nothing romantic. He's never even told me I'm pretty, and that bothers me. I told him that last weekend and all he said was \"well I thought what we're doing is courtship/dating. So-and-so even asked me if you were my girlfriend.\"\n\n\"You said no, right?\"\n\n\"Well yeah, we're not together.\"\n\nI previously told him I didn't want to keep casually sleeping together, and he just waited it out until I changed my mind. \n\nAfter that, he wanted to go out more as if we were together. He's done this with other girls. I've heard about how they left because he didn't want a relationship. Of all the crap excuses I've heard in my lifetime, I really believe he has intimacy issues. He's never said that. It's just obvious.\n\nBut if he doesn't want me, why does he keep inviting me out places? Why doesn't he just booty call? I love hanging out and talking with him and of course I love the sex, but this is getting to be ridiculous. \n\nIt's making me feel like I'm not enough. But I really care about him and want to keep him in my life.", "summary": "Friend with benefits asks me out a lot but still makes me feel unwanted. I'd be just as happy without the 'benefits.'"}
{"id": "t3_1z0u96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my BF [23 M/F] 4 years, still love my first love?", "post": "About 4 1/2 years ago, I was in a relationship with someone I completely adored. He was all I could have ever dreamed of in a partner. I messed it up by opening up about the depth of my feelings way too early. He broke it off with me about a week later and I was devastated.\n\nFast forward 5-6 months when I meet my current boyfriend. He was nice, really funny, sexy as hell. I love him with all of my heart, he's put up with a lot of my shit. But I put up with a lot for him too because I love him. Sometimes I wonder if I just stay with him because I know these things.\n\nAfter 4 1/2 years I still have feelings for my ex. I miss him and am even envious of him and his new girlfriends relationship. I am so happy he found someone he really cares about too but it destroys me. I just dunno what to do. Are strong love/missing feelings normal for a first love this long after? It makes me re-think if my current relationship is worth it.", "summary": "Ahh dunno what to do. With my boyfriend in LTR, still in love with my ex, my \"first love.\""}
{"id": "t3_mr6xp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "And a newcomer approaches...", "post": "And is quickly defeated by himself.\n\nHey everyone.  6'0\" 230 male here who has never worked out a day in his life (that's a lie, but roll with it.)\n\nSo I've gone through my Facebook photos to old pics from my early college days (6 years ago till about 4 years ago) and I am sad to realize how much weight I put on through what many would consider an unhealthy obsession with binge drinking and bad habits.  I've decided that now, a whopping 60 pounds later, that perhaps I should attempt to make some healthy life choices.\n\nSo I started today.  Bought myself a pair of Asics running shoes and went out for what was to be a light jog/walk.  Opened up my iPhone's Nike+ GPS app and went off...  I promptly died.\n\nThe whole trip was 1.2 miles.  I jogged probably .75 of those 1.2 miles.  And I was out of breath the entire time.  \n\nBad habits I aim to stop:\n* Late night snacking\n* Related to that, staying up late (often 3-4AM)\n* Fast Food (I work retail with only a 30 minute break.  It's tough.)\n* Smoking (I quite smoking mostly, but still do when out drinking with friends)\n* Heavy drinking (Have a head start here.  Bad experience convinced me that being 24 and acting 18 isn't attractive anymore)\n* Making excuses (Will be the hardest one to quit)\n\nJust looking for anyone else who has had a similar start...  I've not the slightest idea what I am doing.  Though I'm disappointed in my result, I'm glad that I at least put forth the effort today.", "summary": "I'm fatter than I was and trying to not be anymore.  You'll be hearing more from me, I hope."}
{"id": "t3_4wkaq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] have had a lot of problems with my boyfriend [20M] and don't think we should be together anymore but am too scared to do anything.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now and have lived together a little over a year now as well. I'm going to community college so we still live with my mother and younger brother and my mom charges him rent (much less than she even charged my older siblings). He works but doesn't go to school or help me around the house. At this point it feels like an expectation for me to clean up after him all the time and he gets easily offended or upset. We have often fought about him thinking I'm lazy or don't contribute enough. I no longer feel like he is supportive of me at all and he continually talks down to me because I don't have a job at the moment and am focusing on school. I suffer from depression and anxiety which often messes with my sleeping schedule and energy. I just constantly find myself filled with anxiety afraid I'm going to upset him somehow, almost like I am walking on eggshells to keep him happy and not focusing on my own happiness. I often think about all the things i could do if we werent together without feeling guilty or afraid of him getting upset at me and feel no guilt afterwards. I just feel trapped. We met online and he moved 3 hours from home to live with me and now has a stable job (albeit at a fastfood restaurant but its still a job) and has settled in and he allows me to use his car, making it much more difficult to leave him considering he lives under my roof. He wasn't always like this, this has just been our lives the past 6 months but i don't feel like i can deal with it anymore, especially with the way he dehumanizes my family. I am too scared to break it off with him because he often punches walls and things when he gets angry (he has never physically hurt me before) and my anxiety stops me from ever saying anything to him. I rarely feel like i can stand up for myself. Is this an abusive relationship? I don't know how to go about this or what to do. I probably left a lot of details out so comment any questions and i will be happy to clarify.", "summary": "No longer happy in relationship, boyfriend constantly makes me feel miserable. Not sure if on purpose. Abusive? Should I end it? How?"}
{"id": "t3_2jkz3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] getting mixed signals from my crush [17F]", "post": "Met and started talking to this girl at my high school a few weeks ago. We only have one class together and don't see each other during the day.\n\nShe is very nice to me when we talk in person. She choses to sit right next to me, broke the \"touch barrier\" with me, compliments me frequently and etc. I have taken this to mean that she could be interested in me. I should note that I have never had any experience like this before. I am a fairly good-looking guy, but I have moderate-severe social anxiety.\n\nAnyway, I want to get to know her better and ideally would like to ask her out on a date sometime in the next couple of weeks, but she doesn't seem to be reciprocative to my approaches online. We have messaged on FB a few times, and she seems to be just as enthusiastic to be talking with me as she is in real life. None of the notorious \"one-word responses\"... Detailed responses. \n\nBut she never messages me first :/ And also I was able to get her phone number, and what alarms me the most is that she has not responded to any of my texts approaching her for casual conversation related stuff (what are your interests, future plans? etc.). I have sent two, both appropriately timed so as to not seem desperate. And I *know* that she is receiving them because she recently texted me asking about something school-related, which she could not have done without receiving something from my number first... So that rules out the possibility of a tech problem being the culprit...\n\nAny insight or ideas as to what could be going on? It kind of hurts me because I really thought we had a thing going, and I am really hesitant to try to make any more advances until she tosses the ball back :(", "summary": "Getting really strange, mixed signals from my crush, should I accept that she isn't interested in me, or continue to pursue a relationship with her?"}
{"id": "t3_339fjq", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Sharing an Anniversary", "post": "Wedding is in about a year- been thinking May 2016 since we got engaged in February. Due to bridal party members being in grad school, we are limited to the last 3 weekends, so the 14th, 21st& 28th. Originally wanted the 21st-got it in the church calendar a week ago. Find out yesterday the priest, an old family friend coming in from out of state, actually has a conflict that weekend. 28th is Memorial Day weekend, and all our families are traveling 3+ hours. Don't want to deal with booking stuff/travel on a holiday weekend. Fine, the 14th works for us and priest. Talk to my mom about this, and am reminded that the 14th is my aunt& uncles anniversary. It won't be a milestone year, and they won't be offended or anything. My main issue is a) do I have to recognize this during the ceremony/reception? And b) FIL, FH's aunt and uncle& grandparents all share an anniversary that we chose to not use. They won't be offended I don't think but it's a little rude.", "summary": "had to change our date, now it's the same as a close family members anniversary. Do we recognize them day of? We also chose to avoid a date sentimental to multiple couples in FH's family, so is that awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_3itl9a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not passing a school project", "post": "I'm a 9th grader that (I think) excels the most in Computer subject. The story started when our teacher gave us a project that we have to combine HTML pages and CSS to create a functional school website sample. We were given a LOT of time (1 month) to create it and assigned to a group with some students who also have a good knowledge in web developing. The project was working good. All links are functional, the style looks good, and I found out we have the best creations among other groups. So it means we usually come with meet-ups to my group leader in their house. Spending a lot of time that I'm not with my parents, and always saying the same reason that I'm with my friends doing our project. And which makes my parents think that I'm just wasting my time playing with friends and not doing house chores. So my parents confiscated my gadgets including my phone (which I use to encode contents while I'm inside the school) and my laptop (which I use to preview in browsers to test compatibility). And my parents doesn't trust my reason because they usually see me playing video games. Two weeks before the passing time, my group members found out that I don't have the data to include on the whole project (since I was assigned to make the 20% of the whole project). Then, I'm with my friends the whole week, encoding the contents on my classmate's computer. Even though, after that week, my parents required me to go home on the school's dismissal time and I can't join them anymore. They tried their best but haven't finished and my group mates (including my crush) are mad on me , because of me. And I felt to be very fucked up... so my parents gave back my gadgets two hours before this post. And the worst, yesterday was the deadline.\n>", "summary": "We haven't passed our Computer project because my laptop was confiscated by my parents and my group mates are mad at me."}
{"id": "t3_1fe5bw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband (23M) and I (22F) got into a huge arguement and I left the house. I regret my decision somewhat but I don't feel I am wrong. What should I do?", "post": "My husband and I have been together 6 years and today we got into a huge arguement over him inviting a friend to come live with us. \nI didn't want the friend(23m) there but my husband made a point of not leaving him in the streets. -Ok I can agree to that. No one should be left in the streets and the friend was going to pay us anyways.\nWell I had not much say in the friend staying so I gave that battle up. But where I drew the line was at him bringing his pets too. I didn't want his pets at our house and my husband agreed that it would be fine as that was my only restriction. Well he ends up asking me anyways if I'm sure that the pet can't come. I say no. Its another arguement because I feel he's pawning it off on me when we're supposed to be a couple and when we make a decision that decision is made. The answer remains no to the pets.\nThen the friend says he would be willing to put a deposit. The answer is NO . So then he says he doesn't want to live with us afterall. So I feel like my husband and I argued over him for nothing. And I'm mad at my husband for even trying to do him a favor.\nSo anyways I was so upset and I just felt so uncomfortable because I feel that my husband is going to blame me if anything happens to his friend , that I made him bring me to my moms house. I didn't speak to him the entire 30 minute ride. Didn't say when I would be back. And I already miss him dearly but I can't forgive him for putting his friend between us. I would like to go home but I don't feel I should apologize and I actually feel he owes me an apology. Part of me wants to apologize to just end this but I feel if I do I will be blamed for his friends future failures that could have been prevented if he lived with us.", "summary": "fight with husband. Want to apologize to end the fight but not be blamed for it because I don't feel it was my fault.what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4scv5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 6 months, moving in with male roommate", "post": "Redditors,\n\nAt the beginning of the relationship, my girlfriend applied for a job that would provide free housing this year while she is at college (I work in a city 3 hours away). She did not receive the position, so she found a roommate: a male roommate who is someone she went to high school with.  Since we had just started dating, I didn't really have a lot of grounds to tell her she couldn't, but she did ask me (and was incredibly nervous) prior to making a decision. \n\nNow, as school is about to begin, I find myself worrying to death over the situation. She and I love each other very much; however, my concern is that issues will arise since we are 3 hours apart. She reassures me that there is nothing to worry about, but I can't help it. \n\nWhat should I do? What should I ask her about the situation, and how can I lessen the chances of anything happening? I can see myself marrying this woman beyond a shadow of a doubt, and it would break my heart if something were to happen due to the roommate situation.", "summary": "GF moving in with a male friend from highschool and she and I are in a LDR. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_n9ilh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rape Culture: The stuff lads' mags are made of?", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI recent came across a blog post by a local Northern Irish writer, [\"Rape Culture: The Stuff Lads Mags are made of\"] It's not the best written thing in the world, but it asked a lot of (what I thought) were interesting questions on a piece of research that showed approximately 50% of the public responding to a survey, couldn't tell the difference between 'lads' mags quotes, and *quotes from convicted rapists*.\n\nI don't really subscribe to the ideology of 'Rape Culture', but this recent study does make me wonder about it. So I wanted to ask;\n\n**Men of reddit, (and I'd like to hear back from UK/NI Redditors!), do you think that the language used in 'lads mags' is dangerous???**", "summary": "version; [\"What do lads' mags and rapists have in common?\"] ... Our local writer has lifted a huge amount of material from this article, so it's a good substitute to read up on the issue."}
{"id": "t3_31i87l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27M) put myself out there yesterday. At what point do I say to myself it didn't work out and put it behind me?", "post": "As time is going on, I'm slowly starting to feel more like a creep :(. Can someone please give me a pep talk.\n\nI met this girl at a bedding and homeware shop a few months ago. I'm typically quite shy and reserved. I'm always courteous and well-mannered, especially to those in retail/service. I know, I know.. it's a difficult situation meeting someone in their work place. And I promise I've been as sensitive as I possibly could be to the fact. Maybe I misread the long off-topic conversations and the body language. All I knew is that each time I visited and she was there, I had flutters. \n\nI broke up with someone special a couple of years ago, and I've only just been feeling ready to date again. I didn't want to let her slip by. Yesterday, at the end of our last conversation I said something along the lines of -\n\n\"Hey, I really like our chats. I was wondering if you'd like to catch up for coffee sometime?\" She seemed a bit surprised but really enthusiastic (flustered??) and said \"Sure!\"\n\nSo I followed up by saying \"Let me leave you my number and that way you can think about it and message me if you're still interested. No pressure.\"\n\nAnd for a couple of hours I was really happy. So proud of myself for just being brave for 60 seconds. And then the doubts started setting in. It's been a day and half now without a response and the I'm feeling worse and worse. Right now I'm feeling like a creep who harassed this poor girl at work and all she probably wanted to do was sell some sheets and go home :(. \n\nTime to move on I think.", "summary": "I asked a girl out at her workplace - maybe not the best idea."}
{"id": "t3_2jpkl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my [20F] best way to deal with that time of the month", "post": "So ladies and gentleman, (mainly men for this question)\n\nI'm a soldier currently deployed with 4 months until I come back home (hell yeah!) but I'm curious how to handle my old lady whode been acting different lately. \n\nLately with mid terms and work she's been getting distant, I get it and have given her space. But over the past two weeks I've been put on the back burner. She'll mention that she's busy with work, school and meetings yet post pictures up of her hanging with friends. Like this week there have only been like 5 texts sent and a 4 day gap In which I finally said something and she replied \"ohh I totally forgot about you and didn't realize it's been 4 days.\" The thing is she's never done this with me for the past 5 months I've been in country (well once when she started shark week) and she also just mentioned that she started her time of the month the other day. \n\nI guess I'm asking what's the best way to handle this, I've been literally busting my ass doing 12+ work days in the hot ass sun( Middle East) yet always make time for her yet Im left Congratulations! My test week starts at 3 In the morning.here feeling like a nobody.", "summary": "Dealing with a distant gf but don't know how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_ujrl0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Waited and waited for someone to move their laundry. Didn't want to move it cause I'm a SAP. Ended up pouring laundry soap onto their already clean laundry. Even a little justified? Details inside.", "post": "So I live in an apartment, and we have shared laundry. It's a decent sized set up, 4 washers and 8 dryers. Well today I went down to do a load and all 4 are taken, one with 20-odd minutes, one with 34, and 2 that are done. I decided to wait for the person to come switch over the 2 into the dryer, because I wouldn't want someone moving my clothes IMMEDIATELY and I didn't know how long they were there. So I waited 5 minutes. 10 minutes. \n\nI was going to move it for them because I don't want to wait all night, open the washer and it's girly girly crap. I don't want to have to move it and risk them coming in and tweaking out or something. Maybe was a SAP about it, but whatever, you hear the horror stories of people freaking out on other people. So I went upstairs, waited 15 minutes, went back down and there were still there. \n\nThe one with 20-odd minutes had finished and already been switched over, I was absolutely floored at these people's lack of regard to anyone else. That's 50% of the capacity they're blatantly blocking use of. So I used the empty washer, then decided to pour some laundry soap into their already washed laundry(requiring another wash, or they just wouldn't notice, because FUCK THEM). Definitely a dick move, but I'm pissed off. Totally over reacting? Probably. So I ask you Reddit, was that a HUGE over reaction or at least a little justified? What would you have done?", "summary": "Poured laundry soap into someone's already clean laundry requiring another wash or for them to walk around in soapy clothes because they are inconsiderate of their neighbors. That's the gist. Read it for more details, it's short."}
{"id": "t3_2tatpp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] boyfriend [27M] of almost 3 years decided he wants to move 45 minutes away from our current city. I do not. What now?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have a good relationship. We've had our ups and downs but we're best friends and I can't imagine being with anyone else. \nWe started living together this past May and things have been great. We get along well and neither of us have any serious complaints. He's been working from home for the past year and is starting to get sick of it. He recently started volunteering to teach kids how to code (his profression) at a program that's in a major city about 45 minutes away. He drives there every Saturday morning and he loves the program. \nLast night we were talking about what we were going to do when our lease was up in May. I told him I love our house and the town we live in and I would like stay for another year. He very matter of factly stated \"well I'm planning on moving to X city when the lease is up. I thought you'd want to do that too.\" I explained all of our friendsand family live here who we see very often and commuting back and forth to see them would be awful. I also really just hate this specific city and have never had any interest in living there. His response was \"well just stay here. you can afford to do it if you get a roommate.\" \nMaybe I'm overreacting but that was kind of hurtful to hear. I feel like I have no say in what's happening. I told him this and he said he might end up staying here but if not he would absolutely want me to move with him.\nI feel like I'm stuck. If I don't move to a city I hate to be with him our relationship will take a step backwards and I don't even know how it would continue to work with us. I also don't want to make him stay here because I feel like he'll end up resenting me.\n\nAny advice would be extremely helpful. Thanks!", "summary": "boyfriend wants to move 45 minutes away to a city I hate. If I don't do it I feel like our relationship will end."}
{"id": "t3_tr9mc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Just need a quick reality-check.", "post": "Hey guys. I feel like I'm dealing with one of those complex emotional situations that seem SUPER obvious to someone who's uninvolved, and could use an outside opinion. It's always tricky, but I'll try to keep this as succinct as I can, and truly appreciate your time/responses. Thank you!\n\n**Background:**\nI'm a 21 year old guy. My girlfriend and I broke up in January. She's a gorgeous blonde, and I'm a computer nerd... but we hit it off and were absolutely in love. We dated for 2 1/2 years, my longest relationship by a mile. Left on very good terms, with the option of dating again in the future wide open. We're just both in our early 20's, and didn't want to mess it up... we felt married. We still love one-another, and very sporadically keep in touch. She's an extremely attractive girl, and managed to find a new guy pretty quickly. He's gorgeous, and she's pretty happy. I've had other partners since we split, but haven't dated.\n\n**The Situation:**\nA mutual friend is throwing a huge party this Saturday. It should be a good time. There will be drinks, LOTS of pretty girls, and I'd really like to go. But my ex is attending... with her new squeeze. Sometimes, I feel like if I saw them together it'd be really hard for me, and that attending would be a terrible idea. Other times, I feel like I'd be able to shake his hand, meet the guy, be polite and nice, and act like it's no biggie. Plus there will be girls to meet, and I haven't been looking very hard since we split.\n\n**The Question/", "summary": "It's been 4 months since we split. Is it time to man up, face that she's with someone, and not let her influence my attendance? Or is this just going to make things harder for me, seeing as I'm *probably* not going to hook up with anyone? "}
{"id": "t3_1k1nxn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] I have so many conflicting emotions about my relationship with my girlfriend [27/f].", "post": "**Background**\nWe've been dating two years (as of next month/September 29th, 2013). It's my longest relationship and her longest functional relationship. I love her a lot and even though we really don't have many of the same interests, we really balance each other out. I moved in with her around the 6-month point due to issues with my mom and younger sister and that's when things started to get...I don't even know. Not in the normal \"we moved in together too soon\" way. It's her dad. He has struggled with depression for years and often puts her down. It's presented as jokes, but you start to feel some sort of truth behind them after a while, you know? He also likes to hoard things. Papers, old computers, TVs, etc. Any room that isn't used regularly is filled with junk, and the house as a whole isn't cleaned regularly.\n\n**Issue**\nHer dad has guilted her into living with him until he dies. She's almost thirty and has never been independant, and has no confidence in her decision-making skills. I am now roped into this situation and have no idea what to do. I feel like I'd be making her choose between me and her dad if I said anything.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I live with her dad, who has guilted her into living with him in a semi-hoarder house until he dies. Meanwhile, I want to make a life with her."}
{"id": "t3_3vc1et", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by installing Linux over the entire Hard-disk", "post": "This happened today. I have my work computer partitioned into Windows 7 and Fedora. I don't usually use my Windows as it requires Admin access for every basic thing. I needed ubuntu for a specific purpose, so I decided to erase the Windows portion of it. So I made a bootable USB and started with the installation process. It gave me two options. Install Ubuntu alongside of Windows or install over it. I thought this would just wipe out Windows and install over it and the Fedora portion would be kept intact. So I went ahead with this. The ubuntu installation finished smoothly and I decided to head over to Fedora to access some data. \n\nThis is when I realized I had fucked up. There was no grub screen where I got to choose the OS. Ubuntu had installed over the entire har-disk. I had lost all my data that I had stored on the Fedora portion of my hard-disk. I took so much time setting that up and customise it to my liking. I had so much work related documents and an excel file containing a set of important web-addresses that I need for work that I lost. Please back-up your data before doing anything stupid.", "summary": "Erased all contents of a hard-disk while installing an OS."}
{"id": "t3_2cf8gr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving my date home", "post": "So I have a fantastic second date with this girl.  She stays over and needs me to drive her back to her place in the city. No big deal, what could go wrong?  I take out my E46 M3 and take some back roads into the city.  It's a little wet out from some rain last night but I'll just take it easier. I always drive with traction control off and have never had a problem. \n\nSo we're driving along chatting away about our time last night and I decide to take a corner a little quicker than usual.   I failed to notice that said corner rises and falls quite sharply.  So we get a little air.  Not a big deal, I do Autocross.  I got this.  Car slides a little bit.  Again not a huge deal, this is kind of fun.  I counter steer.  The car overcorrects because I'm a dumbass and forgot it was damp out.  Andddddddd we're in a full spin.  The  driver side slams the cement guard rail thing on the side of the road and we come to a stop in the grass.  I check on her and get out to assess the damage.  The driver side and my wheels are scuffed up and my rear wheel seems to be out of alignment. \n\nAfter a bit of sitting there, we decide to see if the car was drivable. It was. So we limped the car home and I took her back in my other car.  \nSo I probably fucked up my future chances with this great girl and fucked up my car because I thought I was Aryton Senna.   I am an idiot.", "summary": "Drove date home. Tried to show off in my fun car in the wet. Spin, slam cement median, limp home, awkwardly drive girl to her apt in other car. Probably fucked up any future chances with her. Fucked up my car. "}
{"id": "t3_sexur", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Please read, I really need advice! (x/post from r/self)", "post": "Okay, so here's my story: 9 years ago my boyfriend died. He had been out of contact with his family during most of the time we were together, and they lived across the country so I had no opportunity to really get to know them at all. When he died, I flew across the country to go to the funeral and I was able to meet his mother, father, and sister. I was all kinds of messed up at the time and I have since lost everything that I ever had regarding the whereabouts of his family. I have periodically searched the internet to see if I can find them, and recently his little sister opened a FB account. I really want to get in touch but I don't know what to say, and I don't want to upset the family. I should mention that his family was very gracious with me and they were thankful of my relationship with him, so I know that they don't hate me. What do I do? Do I send this girl a message? What should it say? Thank you for any insights.", "summary": "I just found my dead boyfriend's sister on FB. Should I get in touch with her? What should I say, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_3mraks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [18F] broke up with me out of nowhere. Advice?", "post": "We started dating in high school and everything between us was great: chemistry, things in common, able to talk forever, a lot of intimacy, etc. It all changed when I left for college in August in a city that is a 7 hour drive from home. While she stayed home for college, it was hard to see each other and have time to talk. \n\nAll of a sudden this morning she called and told me she didn't think that it was going to work out between us with the situation we're in right now. She wants me to be around and available, and she feels like we could have done more with the time we had together (we went on dates frequently, but nothing spectacular, as we were both busy working summer jobs). \n\nNeedless to say I am devastated. She was crying on the phone, so that made it even more heartbreaking. How do I approach this? Do I still have a chance with her? Should I even stay in contact for now?", "summary": "My gf dumped me because we live too far apart. How do I get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_157lg5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In honor of the snowpocalypse, tell us your worst travel stories", "post": "I was traveling from San Francisco to Denver, then from Denver finally to Cedar Rapids, IA on Wednesday (Dec 19th).  The original schedule had me arriving in Iowa at 11:15PM, right before the pouring rain turns into the unpassable blizzard.\n\nEverything was going to plan until I arrived at Denver.  At first it seemed like the plane would take off in time to get to Cedar Rapids.  However at the last minute, the pilot stepped out from the plane with complaints of \"earache.\"  They could not find a replacement in time therefore the flight was canceled.\n\nThe shit hit the fan at this moment.\n\nAll of us scrambled to find alternative plans.  Mine was going from Denver to Chicago, then from Chicago to Cedar Rapids.  Yet again, I arrived in Chicago finding out that the plane going to CR was canceled.  I then waited in long winding line at the customer service line until I received soul crushing news.  All flights going from Chicago to CR have been canceled or are completely full for the next 3 days.  \n\nFuck this shit.  I quickly booked a hotel in Chicago and a megabus ticket back to Iowa early Saturday morning.  (Hopefully the snow will clear by then)\n\nIf anyone in the Chicago area is free and want to hang out please PM me.", "summary": "Holiday flying sucks major monkey balls"}
{"id": "t3_3iu034", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Hate new salaried job: Can I ask about hours?", "post": "After 20 or so applications at the conclusion of college with no luck, I took the first job I got an interview with. The application was sort of a 'hail mary' considering my failures to even get an interview with any other job, and I seem to have completely neglected (or probably blocked out) pretty bad reviews on glassdoor that suggested the work/life balance at the company is tough. \n\nWell, they were right. Its a job I know I'm not invested in advancing in, and while the pay is fine for a 40 hour work week, I am underpaid for the 50 hour work week I am probably actually working. The difficulty is that there are \"teams\" within the office, and mine always stays later than everyone else. I think this is partially because we have more work, but also because I'm convinced that my boss doesn't really have a life, and so a culture of staying late has taken place in our team. I have developed pretty bad anxiety about the job and have begun looking elsewhere (though it doesn't seem like much that would be worthwhile or justifying a change for me exists right now in the city I am in). \n\nI would be interested in speaking with my boss about maybe switching teams, or asking if we are in a particularly busy season or  if these were the types of hours I can expect to have moving forward. I'm having a lot of anxiety not knowing when I can go home everyday, and knowing that I might only have 3 or 4 hours each day not devoted to work (or commuting). \n\nDoes asking about hours immediately convey that I am not a trooper for the company culture? I can't imagine it reflects well on me, but I am pretty unhappy and think I would be fine about doing work I'm not totally excited about if it were \"just a 9-5\" and I could be in and out and have a life outside of work.", "summary": "started new job, hate work-life balance, is this solvable?"}
{"id": "t3_1ib43a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [39F] trying to figure out pros/cons of legal separation vs divorce (19-year marriage) before telling my ex [39M] what I want to do", "post": "We both live in Oregon.\n\nI have read that legal separation is useful for two things: religious people who don't believe in divorce, and people who want to keep health insurance.\n\nAre there any other good reasons for a legal separation? \n\nWhat about cons (other than the obvious of not being able to remarry unless you go back to court for a divorce)? Does a legal separation result in more drama between you? Unwanted attempts to get back together? etc...\n\nAnyone here choose a legal separation/divorce and regretted it, and wished you'd chosen the other option?\n\nMy ex has no (or very little) income, is going to school, and has some emotional issues which will be a challenge for him for the foreseeable future. I have a relatively secure good income, and both teen-aged kids.  He lives 3.5 hours away and is in another romantic relationship with a woman with very little income.", "summary": "Should I or shouldn't I get divorced instead of legally separated?"}
{"id": "t3_1ow71j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did I almost get kidnapped?", "post": "I just got out of a moment that just terrified me, I'm getting it out right now because everyone's asleep and I need somebody to talk to about this. \n\nI was heading back to my dorm from a friend's apartment. I'm on my bike, just leaving the apartment complex and this Jamaican-looking (best I can describe her as, her english was a bit off too) says \"Hey mister\" I respond \"What's up?\" because I'm a little buzzed and my conversation skills are a bit shaky. She doesn't move or reply. I start to bike over there anyway feeling weird about the situation. She doesn't move one bit as I approach her. You know how you see someone and  you both move halfway towards eachother to meet in the middle? She did not do this. \nShe then asks me if I have a cell phone to use. I know many people don't have cell phones but I'm in a college town and she seemed modern, but still a little off.\nAlso keep in mind that I am a 5'5 18 year old boy. I have a muscular frame, so I don't look that small, but I'm still very scared of people bigger than me, which is a lot of people.\nSo she asks to use my phone, and thinking she may steal it, I ask her for the phone number and put it in and dial. She often reminds me how scared she is to walk at night by herself. This happens about 4 times though the interaction with eachother. \nI hand her the dialing phone and she puts it to her ear for about 2 seconds, much too short for the dial tone to even go through. She says \"Oh, they didn't answer\". The whole time she is looking though me with her eyes. Like she's possessed or something. \nShe then reminds me again that she's scared to travel alone at night. It's about 3:20 AM by the way during this. She asks me to walk her to the street light. It wasn't the direction I was going thank God. I get very scared during this and bike away in the opposite direction as fast as possible. \nWas I wrong in suspecting something was up? The whole time I was beyond frightened.", "summary": "Strange lady approached me at 3:20 AM asking me to lead her to the stop light, do people kidnap people like this?"}
{"id": "t3_f9by0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "3D experts of reddit, I need a 3D model of a city for my research. Any advice appreciated!", "post": "For investigating navigational deficits in patients with Alzheimer's disease using VR experiments, I need a 3D model of a city as a starting point. It should look as photorealistic as possible and should feature a few salient landmarks. The experiments will only investigate outdoor wayfinding and scene recognition abilities, so it's not necessary to be able to enter the buildings. I searched a lot for for suitable models, but could only come up with [this] for example - can anyone tell me if this is what I'm looking for? Would I be able to use that for street navigation experiments? I am a PhD student in CS, but did not work a lot with 3D before - so any advice on this is welcome!\n\nI can ask my mentor for funds, so if it is of good quality and costs money, that should not be a problem.\n\nFellow redditors, are there any open source 3D models of cities available that you know of?", "summary": "Need a 3D model of a city for navigation experiments involving wayfinding and scene/landmark recognition tasks. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1p2fgi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] neighbor keeps banging on ceiling and turning up music because my kids \"are too loud\" I am [23 F]", "post": "I have a 2 year old and a 6 year old. And we have lived in this 4-plex for 6 years now. Our newish neighbor keeps banging on the ceiling because of my 2 year old's running and walking through the house. He does have some pretty loud footsteps, I don't know how he makes himself sound like a giant stomping but he does. And it's almost impossible to tell a 2 year old what not to do with his own legs. \n\nIt's becoming stressful for me, to try to keep my kids quiet when they are not doing anything wrong. They're children and they're playing. Another thing she does, is blare her music when my kids are playing, and it's not just a little to drown out my kids, its wall shaking loud. Do you think I should try to make my kids be quiet, just so she's not annoyed? Or do they have a right to live? \n\nWe've lived downstairs before we moved up here, and the people that lived up here had 3 kids and they were loud, but we understood and never really bitched about the noise, unless they were up in the middle of the night partying. Both my kids go to bed at 8, so it's not like they are interrupting her sleep.", "summary": "Neighbor bitches about noise my 2 year old kid makes, is she being a bitch? Or should I try to keep my child from having fun?"}
{"id": "t3_1wxsyf", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Family is in financial trouble. Any advice on where/how my dad can get a second job?", "post": "My dad is currently looking for a second job and needs help.\n\n**Quick background story:**\nMy dad immigrated to the US in 1989 and after working as a factory worker for a year, he started his own brick-and-mortar business in New Jersey selling urban men's clothing (caps, jeans, jackets, shirts shoes, etc.). Back in the late 90's he used to make a decent living\u2026enough to put food on our table and save up a little but\u2026 nowadays times are rougher than they've ever been. He hardly gets any customers anymore and our credit card bills have been piling up for the past few years.\n\nI have never applied for blue collar jobs so my knowledge on the subject is very limited. I've tried to make cold calls on my dad's behalf but it's hard considering that I have to spend time during the day applying myself (I'm also currently looking for a job but that's another story). My dad's been taking the old-fashioned approach of looking in the wanted ads and literally showing up to random places asking for open positions\u2026 but I know that there's got to be a better way. \n\nI'm looking to see if anyone knows of any resources that my dad can use to help him find a second blue-collar job. On top of that, does anyone have any advice on what type of job my dad could even look for? My dad wants to try to become a janitor or a newspaper delivery person but again my dad has no resume or references\u2026 no technical skills or certifications\u2026 he's worked in his small clothing store his entire life. The only thing that my dad has going for him is that he is the undoubtedly the hardest working person I have ever known. For the past 20 years, he's worked 10+ hours a day/364 days a year\u2026 only taking off New Year's Day to visit my grandma and grandpa. My dad has been assaulted by robbers, ripped off by shoplifters and has literally sacrificed every weekend he has ever had\u2026 without ever complaining once.  I know that if I could just get him an interview somewhere that he'd be able to show people that he's an amazingly hard worker who'll do anything to get the job done.", "summary": "The economy has been rough and my dad's business has taken a turn for the worse. He is currently looking for a second job but the problem is\u2026 he's 50+ years old, doesn't have a college degree and can only speak broken English."}
{"id": "t3_3gv7e6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am slipping into old patterns with a long term friend and crush [24F]. Am I making the wrong call?", "post": "I met this girl, years ago on new year's eve. We hit it off. This is one of those few you meet whom you compare all the rest to. Went on some unsuccessful dates, I'd just come out of a big relationship, and hadn't really processed properly, and things slowly fell apart. We had some minor issues, but it was mostly bad timing and poor assumptions.\n\nFour years later now, we have been on again off again friends, and recently have fallen back into a pattern of long emails, sometimes several times a day, and hang out more and more often. We talk for ten hours without noticing the time go by, and we are extremely comfortable with one another.\n\nShe has had a long term romantic entanglement with a highschool sweetheart, and has only this year really moved away from it. Now I see more of her, she is again more liable for physical contact, and is sweeter than ever.\n\nShe is quite an introspective person and at the best of times liable to conceal her true feelings, she has her reasons, and I don't fault her for them, but this also constantly leaves things in a state of confusion. We're friends, but most of my female friendships don't extend to this level of intimacy, and the ones that do have clear boundaries.\n\nThis is why I'm confused. I understand that many of these things are normal for friendships, buy I can never shake the feeling we have a connection. Am I being mislead, am I simply blind, is she just trying to be my friend and I'm hopelessly complicating the situation? I can't tell anymore, and I can't really seek clarity with her because those kind of conversations are like smoking on a powder keg, and at the end of the day, I don't a row.", "summary": "old flame and longtime friend is back in my life, it confuses other relationship prospects, and I'm concerned I'll end up making a mess and hurting both of us."}
{"id": "t3_3ybdn0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Rebuilding, questions", "post": "Hi, first post. Seems to be a good bit of smarts in this sub, I'm hoping to learn and participate.\n\nI filed BK ch 13 in 2009, and was discharged last year. I have no open debt whatsoever. I've held my job for a decade. I've removed all of the dreck from my credit file, except the BK, which will drop off in 2016. CK and CS report TU at 609, and CK reports EQ at 697. I haven't requested reports elsewhere, so I have no idea what EX thinks of me.\n\nOur home is completely in my wife's name, and I pay the mortgage. For 12 years, she's been a SAHM with at $0 income.\n\nWe desire to rebuild my credit, because we'll need to either refinance our home to a lower rate, or move to another home to accommodate our growing family. Since I've never been named on a home loan, I hope to qualify for first-time homebuyer programs.\n\nWe don't plan to do anything until my BK falls off my report, so this gives me time to raise my credit score.  To that end, I just applied for a Discover IT and was denied. But then I immediately followed up with an app for a CapOne Journeys Student and was approved online for $2K. Hooray, feels good to be accepted.\n\nFirst post, first question: What's the best way for me to use this new card to build credit?", "summary": "New guy got his first CC since BK, needs advice on using it to rebuild credit."}
{"id": "t3_21vib3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When do you tell a (potential) new friend that you're already in a relationship?", "post": "For people already in a relationship, how do you make new friends?Between my [32M] introversion and moving around the country/world, I've had a hard time finding and maintaining in-person friendships (have good friends that I keep in touch with - but don't live near any of them). However, whenever I try to meet someone new (which usually starts online due to said introversion), I almost always find that me already being in a relationship is a blocker for them - even if we're just looking for something platonic.\n\nDo you not mention you're already in a relationship when you meet new people? Or does that becoming a blocker/screener in your quest to find quality friends? I'd feel disingenuous not mentioning it upfront, but it's become a severe hinderance to meeting people, so I'm curious how others handle the situation.\n\nMy last relationship was 12+ years, and after some time out I'm back in the dating game a little sooner than I expected to be, and suddenly realized I'm having a hard time meeting people now that I'm officially in a (4+ month) relationship again.", "summary": "Find it hard to meet new platonic friends when I'm already in a relationship - should I hide that fact?"}
{"id": "t3_20jy4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25m] just broke it off with my gf [27f] after 1.25 years. I don't know how to feel.", "post": "We always had problems, even during the honeymoon phase and i'm the only person who didn't see it.   Well my eyes are open now and my gf has done a lot of things to suggest that she's using me.   Such as, i won't move to NOLA for you, but i'll move to Seattle so \"I can start a new life\".   Good luck with that.   I couldn't even imagine starting a new life with her.   \n\nI feel like i'm worth less to her than a dog.   If i'm not doing exactly what she wants me to do, she's just pouty and immature about it.   If i try to be myself, she ends up mad at me so easily.  Very intolerant.   Well I'm not changing who I am just to keep her happy.   I broke it off last night and it hurts so bad, but it's also relieving.   She definitely wasn't the one.   \n\nI'm just... not sure... that i have the strength to not go back.  My brain is really good at talking me into it...", "summary": "Needed to vent about how my gf was bringing me down and using me.   Broke it off last night and unsure how i feel."}
{"id": "t3_1rxtcj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 F] go about telling my parents / family that I do not want children...?", "post": "Hi Reddit!\nThis is the first time I've posted in r/relationships...And I was hoping you guys could give me a little insight as it seems you guys have good advice.\n\nOk so, a little background first...I'm an only child and even though I'm 21, I know I do not want kids...\n\nThis is mainly because of health issues that I know I have / have had in the past that are hereditary.\nBut it is also because I just don't want kids. I don't think I'd be the best mother for various other reasons and I'm completely content to spend my life with my boyfriend, also 21, without us having children together.\n(He also doesn't want kids.)\n\nMy biggest issue and the stress I'm having is based around that I'm an only child and I know that hearing that I, my parents only kid together, don't want to have kids is going to be hard for my family, especially my Dad, to hear...\n\nSo my question is this: \nIs there any way to make this information easier for them?\nHow should I even go about telling them?\n\n(I never really talked in depth with them about having or not having kids, I've always guessed they assumed / hoped that I would have kids in the future based on how they talked about the subject when it was brought up by other family members.)\n\nAlso, if it's worth mentioning, my parents have been divorced for years and my Mom is remarried / my Dad has a girlfriend...So the two of them having another kid together is pretty impossible. Haha.", "summary": "I don't want kids and I'm an only child, how should I go about telling my parents / family, specifically my Dad, without upsetting them...?"}
{"id": "t3_2pz4gw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M] My GF [22] says her newfound independence means we may need a break...", "post": "Hey all. I'm crazy confused and would appreciate any help I could get. Never posted before, but I figured it couldn't hurt!\n\nOkay gf (22) and I (M 23) have been dating for 3 years. We've done long distance a couple times for summer breaks in college. But now we have graduated and she is pursuing grad school and I am working pretty far away.\n\nWe have had almost zero problems in our relationship. Everything has been going fine. We haven't been doing great the last 2-3 staying in touch as we both had major exams for a long time.\n\nOut of the blue my gf called me and said that she has really grown during our time apart. More confident, more independent, and happier. She says that she doesn't miss me ALL the time like she used to. (which I think is healthy)\n\nShe says that she still loves me but wonder what a break would do for her. She doesn't want to see other people. She just wonders if it would help her grow even more. And she worries that this independence she is feeling is a sign of us growing apart.\n\nI'm trying to be supportive, she has always been shy and quiet. I am so happy she feels more confident, but I just don't know what else to say. I would love some help! Much appreciated!", "summary": "Our long distance has caused GF to feel more independent and happy. She is worried this is a sign of us growing apart. Possible 'break' incoming?"}
{"id": "t3_4kf8a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my neighbor [60s M] of 1 year, he tells me that I can't park in my driveway.", "post": "So I've been living in my rental apartment for about a year. We have 4 parking spots, my downstairs neighbors have 2 spots, and my husband and I have 2 spots. The only downside is that our spots are surrounded by a wall that diagonally cuts through the driveway so our spaces are a little tighter, and my car juts out right before the actual street. \n\nToday my elderly neighbor Mr. Grumpy tells me as I am getting out of my car that I am parking illegally because I am blocking the sidewalk and also ruining his \"view\". I told him that I didn't know that was a problem because there isn't an actual sidewalk that cuts through our driveway (although there is in front of his house). \n\nI'm pretty annoyed because while technically he may be correct, there are dozens of cars on our street that park half of their car **on** the actual sidewalk. Also he waited almost a year to tell me this was an issue. I'm not sure what to do at this point. My husband said I should ignore him since it's not his property. Should I tell him if he has a problem he should call the city and have all the cars ticketed then?", "summary": "My neighbor is grumpy about where I park my car, even though my landlord said I could park there. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kb54n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it look pathetic if I [24/F] removed my ex boyfriend [26/M] from social media after 4 years?", "post": "Over 4 years ago I broke up with my lazy free loading ex boyfriend. We had dated for a year and during that time he had cheated on me with multiple women (maybe 8-10 girls?) Once finding out, I of course immediately left. After that I would still see him at mutual friends birthday parties and events. My anger towards him lingered because I would have to see his face and he would always approach me and brag about his life. I know he was trying to one-up me because he would see through social media all the things I was achieving in my personal life. This only made him more angry and he started making rumors of my new boyfriend whom I've now been with almost 4 years. \n\nAnyways, this past year I have not attended any events and have instead taken my friends out privately to lunch or dinner for their birthdays. Since my ex hasn't seen me in a year he has decided to try and one up me on social media. I honestly cannot express just how immature and spiteful this guy is. I should have deleted him off social media a long time ago, but now I feel like it will look pathetic on my part to do so.", "summary": "Would it look pathetic if I [24/F] removed my ex boyfriend [26/M] from social media after 4 years?"}
{"id": "t3_ow0rt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does one little event ever make you question why you help other people?", "post": "Bit of of a background  for this one: I was in a coffee shop with a friend and a beggar came in. He went from table to table asking for change, after a few tables he helped an old woman that was struggling with her tray of drink to her table.\nEventually he came to my table and put a note in front of me. It said \"Please help my wife is ill and I have 2 children that I can't afford to feed. Any change will help\". He didn't say anything. After seeing the guy help the old woman I thought his story was sincere and gave him some change. He then stood behind me a few moments then quickly left the coffee shop.\nHe had stolen my phone out of my jacket.\nI got angry and annoyed, not just for losing my phone the fact that he seemed so genuine and then did something so low.\nNow people say don't give to beggars, only go through proper charities. But this guy seemed so genuine.\nEver since when I see a beggar I feel disdain, when I shouldn't because some of their circumstances are genuinely unfortunate.", "summary": "Gave beggar money. Then he stole phone. Now hate everyone."}
{"id": "t3_3d7tqj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by allowing someone to bike home in the rain", "post": "Alright so this is... forever ago. I was in middle school when this happened and I've since graduated high school. This is probably lame but I feel bad now that I remember it. \n\nI have a brother 2 years younger than I so around this time he was a 5th grader around 10 years old. He and I both had different friends over to hang out for the night and his friend at the time, let'scall him carl, was an annoying little demon like you wouldn't even imagine. Long story short, backyard baseball on the ps2 gets interrupted by Carl so logically the friend of mine at the time felt like playing tough and wrestling him to the ground for you know... lulz. \n\nAfter doing that, carl is persistant as all hell. Messing with the tv and all sorts of things so I found some rca cables and essentially used them as a 3 prong whip on him which was a horrible enough idea in itself. He then proceeds to leave our house as he apparently had enough. As he leaves on his bike, a heavy thunderstorm started and it begun to pour rain but he did not come back. This kid rode 1mile+ in the pouring rain after becoming a wrestled down video display surrogate. I only now realize at 18 how horrible of a person I was. The only real F up is this realization of mine I guess.", "summary": "Brothers small obnoxious friend ruined backyard baseball and it went south for him faster than Pablo Sanchez could run the fucking bases"}
{"id": "t3_3bktrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F24] I cheated on my boyfriend [M32] of 3 years with my coworker [M29].", "post": "I had a threesome with my coworker (we'll call Travis) and a close friend of mine [F21] about two years in to my relationship with my boyfriend (we'll call Sam) and kept it a secret. \n\nAfter that, Travis and I kept drunkenly hooking up sporadically over the past year. Most of those hook ups would be after a night of drinking with our other coworkers and he'd bring me back to his house and we'd have sex. \n\nI broke it off for a couple of months and then we started up again. All the while, I never said anything to Sam.\n\nEventually, Travis and I started having a semblance of feelings for each other, he more than me (ie he would ask me out to dinner or ask me when he could properly take me out and I would leave as soon as I could or just kind of dodge the question) and so I stopped it once and for all - hooray!\n\nI still have to be on talking terms with Travis (he's a decent person and I still work with them) but he's not talking to me. Also Sam is none the wise but Sam and I are getting more serious in our relationship and I think he's the person I want to marry.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I had some drunken hookups with a coworker over the past year until it got weird. I never told my boyfriend. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ocfag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my \"friend\" [36F] of one year - the most tumultuous relationship I have ever experienced", "post": "Everything aside, I love and care for this person. That said, she has hurt me so much, lashed out, said one thing in the morning, another in the afternoon, and back to the first statement in the evening. It is a roller coaster.\n\nThe final straw seems to have happened, though it also has happened before. \n\nA mutual friend was coming up to visit, and I had offered my place to them a while ago. They seemed happy about it, so I didn't think to mention it to my friend. When I did say \"oh, so-and-so is going to crash at my place,\" it was like I had lied to her deeply. We admittedly spend a lot of time together at her place, and she said it just made more sense for him to stay there. Then she started to say I had some kind of unconscious thing going on, and was lying to myself. In my mind, I had offered a friend a place to sleep, and didn't want to back out of what I had said.\n\nUltimately I did. She told me to get out of her life, out of her space, that I was swarming around her and her life, invading her circle of friends (which she had invited me into), and it felt gross. Called me manipulative and controlling (I admit I can be controlling, and try to mitigate it as much as possible). \n\nAll of the events and hangouts that were happening this weekend, I have removed myself from (which I'm bummed about), and have had to cancel with lots of friends. I hate this. She told me she feels frightened of seeing me, and feels unsafe around me.\n\nThe last several times she has lashed out and said she wanted me out of her life I have respected it fully, not reached out, and severed ties. Then, within a week, she would reach out and want to repair things. It hurts so much, and I want the pain to stop.", "summary": "Friend got beyond mad at me, wants me out of life; why does it hurt when it is the best choice? How do I not internalize all the things said?"}
{"id": "t3_2znl16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] love her [16 F], but I'm not happy anymore.", "post": "Hello everyone. Please don't make our young age change how you view this post. Me and my girlfriend are together for 9 months now, I love her, I truly do, and I know for sure she loves me as well. This relationship started really well, had its ups and downs, but everything was going nicely, we even traveled together for three weeks. But when we got back from our trip, I found myself feeling very stressed out, and just not happy with this relationship like I used to be. She is very needy, and I end up never texting her as much as she expects, even though I try my best (I'm not very talkative). I feel like if I'm by myself at my room doing anything other than talking to her, she will feel bad and insecure. She already told me she needs my constant attention, and it seems like an attention I will never be able to give her. \n\nWe pretty much only see each other on weekends, and we don't see each other as frequently as we used to. It is very stressing and difficult to try to balance my girlfriend and my friends, I feel like I will have to end up disappointing someone. We have been discussing/fighting a lot recently, this has been the case for the past three days. On Tuesday we were talking and she suddenly complained about how I haven't asked about her day recently, which makes her feel like I'm not interested in her. Yesterday she was very stressed out about tests and such, and she ended up getting mad at me for that I guess. Today was the worst. Last week she said that \"next weekend (this weekend) I'm all hers\". With this, she meant that we were going be together for the whole weekend, I didn't understand it like that. I made plans with my friends for Friday, and today, one day before the weekend, she asks me why I didn't plan anything for tomorrow. She is now REALLY mad at me for not going out with her tomorrow. Am I that wrong for making plans with my friends for tomorrow? \n\nI love her so much, I am very afraid of losing her, but this relationship doesn't make me happy anymore, I am very stressed out.", "summary": "Girlfriend is very needy, I feel like I can't give her the attention she needs, relationship is not making me happy anymore, everything stresses me out so much... I love her and don't want to lose her, though."}
{"id": "t3_3ty3s5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] with my husband [38M] of 13 years, help in the bedroom", "post": "For the past several months my husband has been dealing with a heavy stress workload along with a not so pleasant work environment. We also have 2 young kids, so home life is not always relaxed and stress free. For the past month or so, I've noticed that his bedroom performance has been less that what it usually is. He on occasions (I'd say 2 or 3 out of 10 times) has had trouble getting or maintaining an erection. he is still as loving and as much of my partner as he ever has been. \n\nI can just tell the stress is eating away at him from how much he vents to me about it. Within the past week, he has not been able to get an erection at all, even overnight while he sleeps, he tells me. We have tried to be intimate in other ways but he is telling me how emasculated and awful and guilty he feels. \n\nI'm fairly sure this is about stress and anxiety (which he has always dealt with anxiety) from work and a stressful home life with 2 young kids that we have to both deal with since I also work full time.\n\nMy question is, are there any suggestions as to what I can do to help him ease this stress ? Would sending him sexy pictures help? I've told him sincerely that I am here for him and to not focus on the bedroom stuff- we really love each other so much and have communicated about this. In a week if things have not changed, he wants to go to the doctor about it. I'm getting him some multi vitamins and we are going to switch off evenings doing the bath and bed for the kids so that we can relax and not have to be so hectic every single night. Any help?", "summary": "Husband too stressed for sex, or is it? Need suggestions..."}
{"id": "t3_2mlph6", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Struggling in Student Teaching - Don't Know What to Do", "post": "So, essentially I'm a senior in a college. Getting my degree is Secondary Education and History. I'm currently doing my student teaching (internship) at a Middle School. Before that, I had worked a little bit a high school and found I didn't enjoy working with students that old. \n\nThe main problem is I hate student teaching. I want to quit but I know that would be a really dumb move on my part (I have less than a month left). I feel like I'm always working, worrying about money, or making lesson plans. And no matter what I do I can't seem to get any of it right. I'm trying really hard to keep up a positive attitude about the experience, but I'm starting the doubt why I'm even teaching in the first place. I love the kids (usually) but by 1-2 hours in the day I'm bored, and rather sick of the behavioral problems that pop up. \nPlus, my college keeps telling me that I need to provide more support for students but I don't know how - and really I don't think my classes are too hard. It's deficiult to create universal support for all of them anyway, some of the students don't speak English, read at a 1-2 grade level (I teach 8th), or are really bright. Plus, a lot of the students that I know are capable for the work are just lazy and trying to whine their way out of doing work. \n\n I'm starting to get really confused and stressed out about my future - which is why I've actually come to r/advice. I know after I graduate I want to teach English overseas (traveling the world has always been a dream of mine and that will help a lot). But when I come back - should I stay in the teaching field at all? I'm starting to hate going to student teaching in the morning and I feel like I won't be a good teacher when I don't enjoy the experience. But if I don't teach after I come back what is there for me to do (other than go back to college - which I can't afford and really don't want to do)?", "summary": "Having a bad time during student teaching, think teaching isn't for me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_47q6my", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my gf [18F] have been together 2 years, she's been cheating on me since the end of september.", "post": "After my gf went to college i visited her every weekend. Things got bad between us because of the distance. After 3 weeks she cheated on me. I didn't know. At this point she has slept with 5 different guys multiple times. Every couple days. She says she's become a sex addict. And that since she was upset with me it made it impossible for her to not do it. \n\nI truly love this girl. I was killing myself thinking how to break up\nWith her because she cheated but now idk if i can. I still love her even after this and i want to believe that she wasn't trying to hurt me. She says she'll go to therapy and that she won't do it anymore. She says she wants to see me every day and that would help her. \n\nEveryone on r/depression told me to break it off because it'll keep hurting me. But even now the only time i'm truly happy is when i'm with her. How do i get through this guys? I don't want to give up, i want to do everything i can for us. And i want to get her the help she needs to not have this problem. All my friends say i'll never forgive her but i've thought it through and if she can stop this and not do it again i believe i could forgive her and be happy with her. \n\nThe only other thing i've heard is to have an open relationship but i am not open to it. It would just be her cheating on me. And me taking it. I know the smart thing would be to leave her. I really know that guys. But i've decided she is worth it to me to give something a try first. Any other advice would really help me right now. I'm going to be seeing her in an hour.", "summary": "my gf says she's become a sex adict and cheated on me a lot. I want to try and make this work. I know she needs help. Everyone so far has told me to leave but i'm going to try once before i give up. Any advice on how to get her the help she needs, what i should do to help, what i shoud do/who i should talk to. Anything like that would help."}
{"id": "t3_3k377w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [23/F] Dealing with my BF's[26/m] behavior with his friends.", "post": "I have read some messages in my BF cellphone. They were from a WA Group called \"sex and food\" so I tough it was sexy food so in front of him I read the messages. But in there was no \"sexy food\" just two girls and my BF. The messages were very sexual [a lot], I did't start to cry or something like that I was just sitting there saying nothing because, I was pretty shocked.\n\nI know my boyfriend is very sexual with his friends, girls or boys, in a joking way, but when is so explicit [use your imagination] is.. heartbreaking even if it was not his intention, even if was a joke. I felt uncomfortable, and I've told him: \"Please, I know you talk like this, but I really don't like you do this with your girlfriends, even if is joke\". He went a little bit mad, because he didn't care about me reading messages, he went a little bit mad that I felt like that.\n\nI like to talk and fix things, in a good way. But I feel like I did wrong.\n If i don't care that he talks like that with his boyfriends, Am I in the right to feel bad when he does it with his girlfriends?\n\nSorry for my English. I'm not so good.", "summary": "Dealing with my BF[26/m]'s behavior with his friends"}
{"id": "t3_3jgsm9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding that Adolf Hitler was one of my inspirations", "post": "Obligatory didn't actually happen today, this happened a number of years ago when I was quite young and was yet to lose many hours of my life after having discovered reddit.\n\nBack story: In fourth grade my class was given a project which we would work on over the term then present to parents, teachers, students etc. The project was to select a significant person from history whom we were interested in or who inspired us. We then had to research this person and create a display of posters and items. Then for the final presentation we got to dress up as this person and show our displays in an expo of sorts. \n\nAnother important piece of information, with light blond hair and blue eyes I am basically Hitler's poster child and have been referred to as this by many peers.\n\nThe fu: Many of my classmates chose people such as Galileo, Einstein or Lincoln, I however in my childhood naivety chose to research a man who was not exactly known for actions which have bettered human kind. To this day I have no idea how neither my parents nor any teacher stopped me from becoming an apparent poster child for neo-Nazis. I also did not find any evidence through my research of Adolf being anything other than a courageous and powerful leader, not a single website which may have explained to me that the man who I was researching was not actually all that good of a bloke. Along came the final expo and I had to make sure that my costume was ready which involved sewing swastikas onto an old school shirt and of course the poorly drawn toothbrush moustache. I can't quite remember what I had in my display but I remember having several spare swastikas which I gave to people who were unfortunate enough to walk over to my exhibit. I remember on the day being confused why parents and teachers with younger children were hurrying them past to look at other displays and hardly anyone wanted to learn about my inspiration.", "summary": "childhood me decided that Hitler was an inspiration of mine "}
{"id": "t3_33wqth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 F] good friend [18 F] has gone and got the same tattoo design that I've wanted for years", "post": "My friend in question and I have always been interested in getting tattoos, and over the past few years have had multiple discussions about ideas of what we would get. Throughout all of these, I have always said to her about one specific tattoo I have wanted and (still am) definitely going to get. It's quite a generic design, however it has a lot of personal meaning to me. \n\nA couple of days ago, with no warning whatsoever, she showed up with the exact same design on her index finger.\n\nI was very surprised and quite upset, but when I communicated my feelings to her she got very annoyed.\n\n Her argument was that you cannot monopolise a tattoo, that it's a rather common design and that regardless of appearance tattoos have different meanings for everyone. I fully understand that, however I feel that there are an infinite number of other designs you could get to express yourself. Furthermore, even if she was absolutely dead set on this one that she could've had the respect to tell me, knowing how long I've wanted this for and how much meaning it has to me? \n\nI realise that there is nothing I can do now, considering that it's permanently on her skin, but do I have any right to be upset/annoyed?", "summary": "My friend has turned up, without warning, with the same tattoo design that she knows I have wanted for years, do I have the right to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_29cjdx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This girl", "post": "So this may not be of life threatening urgency but I feel I need to get this out anyway I can or my head is going to explode. So I'm a 17 year old male, and I think I'm starting to fall in love with this girl I've known for about 3-4 years. She recently broke up with her off-again-on-again boyfriend of 2 years, and recently has started being a lot more friendly towards me, and a lot more enthusiastic about me. (I know its a terrible way to put it but it fits surprisingly pretty well.) I know I'm probably just misreading signals or straight up imagining signals that never existed, but I can never fully push them out of my head in case they actually mean something. Normally something like this wouldn't get to me so much, if I ever start liking a girl I usually try my best, get rejected (or not, but I usually do) and move on. This time is different though, firstly because I've never felt this strongly about someone before (my heart feels like its about to burst out of my chest when I talk to her) and secondly because I know no matter how hard I try the chances of us actually getting together are so slim they're practically non-existent, and that this is going to spend weeks crushing me emotionally. I'm not asking for advice although any and all will be greatly appreciated. I'll keep this updated if it gets any kind of attention but I'm pretty new to reddit and I doubt my first post will get much notice. Thanks for reading about my teenage troubles.", "summary": "I'm falling in love with a girl I'm friends with and the knowledge that the chances of us ever happening are minuscule is crushing me."}
{"id": "t3_jxfrl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of reddit: What are some movies you love that don't pander to you?", "post": "A little backstory...\n\nA couple of weeks ago, my girlfriend and I watched \"The Devil Wears Prada.\" I was upset after that film. I thought there was a great opportunity there to talk about issues like powerful women who succeed in competitive fields, artistry, sacrifice for one's career, ambition and how it affects relationships, etc. \n\nBut instead, the filmmakers made a largely-BS Cinderella story about \"Oooh pretty clothes!\" and \"Tee-hee, we don't eat!\" and left some of the more interesting issues around modern femininity untouched.\n\nCut to last night, and we watched \"Bend It Like Beckham.\" I loved this movie. It bravely dove into issues of immigrant culture, familial expectations, female friendship, teen insecurities, and love/crushes in a way that left me feeling edified on a number of levels.\n\nLike all couples, my GF and I often debate about what movies to watch. It usually comes down to a choice between a \"guy\" movie and a \"girl\" movie. She doesn't like the guy movies because they pander to me, and I don't like the girl movies because they pander to her.\n\nSoooo... I thought I'd turn to the smart and lovely women of reddit to find more movies like \"Bend It Like Beckham\" that we can both enjoy. A movie where I'll maybe learn something interesting about what it's like to be a girl, and that'll make my girlfriend smile, too. :)\n\nAnd if you'd like to throw in some suggestions about \"guy\" movies that you like, that'd be great, too.", "summary": "please recommend some smart, well-made women's movies so my girlfriend and I can enjoy movie nights more often"}
{"id": "t3_yv71k", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Lady at roadrunner sports said \"it doesn't matter how your feet strike the ground, what matters is pronation.\"", "post": "I went to RoadRunner Sports the other day to pick out running shoes for my mom who's starting to get into running. As many running stores do, they analyze the way you run to see what kind of shoe is the best fit for you.\n\nWhile I recognize that knowing your pronation is important in making the right shoe purchase, for you to tell your customer that the technique in which you run is unimportant in comparison to the pronation of your feet seemed extremely ignorant and simplistic. Stride length, turnover, as well as overall flexibility and core strength are HUGE components of someone's running efficiency and speed. I just wanted to share it, so people on here know that even \"professional\" sales people don't necessarily know what they're talking about.", "summary": "Lady at Roadrunner sports didn't really know what she was talking about, but we all know better than that."}
{"id": "t3_yy46s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hurt..Emotionally and slightly physically..I'm Lost.", "post": "My boyfriend[22] hurts me[21]. (together for almost a year) Usually just mentally, and occasionally physically. I'm scared to leave. I don't know how to leave him without getting hurt. I need serious help. I don't know what details to share...I'm scared. I don't remember what I've posted before but I'm being 100% honest now. I'm afraid he is going to hurt me if I leave.. I drink to make it(physical/emotional abuse) hurt less. What do I do?! Help me please. I am drunk right now and he's not here at the moment...Idk when he's coming back home. I don't know where he is right now... Help someone please.\nI think I need more someone who's been there to talk to me more than people just telling me what to do. It's a hard situation right now. I've told people, but with connections he has to other people.. it could hurt more than just me by getting others involved.", "summary": "Emotionally and phsycially abusive boyfriend. I don't know how to get away without getting hurt. I'm scared, and I'm drunk as much as possible to buffer the pain."}
{"id": "t3_3u54e1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Fired From my Job (Temporary Worker)", "post": "Hello, \n\nI am from UK and i recently got a job from a recruiting company for temp jobs for halifax/bank of scotland and I couldn't make it to the job 9 miles out from where I live so i rang up and said to them that I was going to be late i was having issues with my motorcycle. Then rang once again at 3.15 to say that i cant make it up due to me having to walk down the road to a motorcycle shop 2 miles away in the rain. To be stuck for cash going to the motorcycle and not being able to afford transport to work. Start live calls in the real location So I went in to the city centre (Town) To where i walk in and told i was let go in my works lobby with no call or voice mails to save me from walking down and being embarrassed.", "summary": "Motorcycle troubles to a job training 9 miles out of my location to which i went 4 weeks before i had any issues. Rang and told them i couldnt make it spent money on motorcycle. Walked into town to get fired the next day without a verbal,written or final warning. By the trainee Line Manager. "}
{"id": "t3_vz458", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Self-discipline in 10 days: How to go from thinking to doing", "post": "This little book is worth hundreds of self help books. Its short and it delivers what it promises. Here are the main points. \n\n* Self discipline is not about forcing ourselves to do something using our will power.\n* Self discipline is like the conductor of an orchestra. It makes sure that all parts are working together and there are no inner conflicts. \n* There is a part of us that doesn't want self discipline. He calls this part \"Hyde\". Negative self talk is Hyde in action.\n* Fears are the road blocks for self discipline. Learn to recognize and accept fears. Then reduce their impact.\n\nThe author discusses how Hyde operates. Hyde's tricks are Cynicism, Negativism, Defeatism, Escapism, Delayism.\nHe then explains how the 5 types of fear works. (Fears of Failure, Success, Rejection, Mediocrity and Risk)\nFinally he gives us the strategy to deal with them.\n\n**Download E-Book** - [Download](\n\n**Buy on Amazon** - [Buy](", "summary": "Read this fucking little book. It'll bring out the true wolf in you."}
{"id": "t3_4ftgyf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Saving up for MBA - Cash or Equity", "post": "I'm 2 years into my career in finance right now, and am planning to get my MBA in 4-5 years from now. I'm most likely looking to go full time for it.\n\nI've been maxing out my 401k contributions and am purchasing stocks through our share matching plan as well. \n\nI'm not entirely sure how I'll be financing my MBA, but I know I want to have a good sum of money saved up for when I do go. I've been putting away $500/month into a savings account.  When I get a raise, I'm going to try to put even more away per month for it.  My question is, should I just leave the cash I'm saving in my savings account, or should I be putting it into the stock market?", "summary": "I'm putting away cash to be used in the 4-5 year time frame.  Should I be keeping my cash in my savings account, or should I be investing it somewhere?"}
{"id": "t3_1vestz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boss thew me under the buss? What now.", "post": "22/m. My boss is Sarah and another one is Andy who is also Sarah's boss. Today Sarah asked me to do something I shouldn't have been doing with my time. It was work related and in good nature, but was the wrong time and the wrong place. I listened to Sarah and did what she said since it was a reasonable request given the circumstances and not out of the ordinary. When Andy came in and found out he was really pissed and got mad at Sarah for having me do something I shouldn't have when there were more pressing things to be doing I wasn't aware of. Andy is in a pissed off mood the rest of the day **but doesn't talk to me about it just Sarah in private**. Fast foreword 7 hours later. \n\nThis is all old news and is settled (so it seems) I haven't even thought about it, day's moved on. Myself, Andy and his boss (head honcho) James are talking shop. Conversation goes stale and all of a sudden Andy asks me in front of his boss why I was doing what I shouldn't have been doing earlier **even though** he already knew this from talking to Sarah earlier and that I was doing what I was asked by my boss. Said it really pissed him off and shouldn't have been doing it. He knew that and the only reason I did it was because Sarah asked me, but he brought it up anyway. James then gets pissed at me. \n\nSorry I left this a bit vague I'm wiped out, but this really pissed me off. Not sure what I should do, if anything or just let it go. I feel like I got shit on for listening to my boss's what I thought was reasonable request at the time. \n\nWhat should I do? Suck it up unless it gets brought up again? Or just talk to Andy who is a great reasonable respectable guy 98 days out of 100?", "summary": "Boss 1 told me to do something I shouldn't have been doing. Boss 2 gets pissed at boss 1 and leaves me alone. I think it's settled. Boss 2 tells the big boss I fucked up in front of me throwing me under the bus getting him pissed at me."}
{"id": "t3_2j72yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 2 years, how to break up when visiting him?", "post": "I am visiting my boyfriend soon and I do not want to get into specifics but I want to break up with him. I cannot cancel this trip for other reasons, and the problem is I am staying with him. I understand that breaking up over a vacation/visiting time isn't ideal... But I really can't do this any other way. Any advice? Should I just do it before I leave and come back home? \nOr, if I cancel the trip (still not very possible), I will have to explain and tell my family why I decided to cancel, and I really want to avoid telling them and involving them. \n\nBasically, has anyone else broken up with their SO during a trip that you could not cancel and had to do it there?", "summary": "Seeing boyfriend soon, need to breakup"}
{"id": "t3_5451dp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [22 F] duration, how to convince from taking diet pills without insulting her?", "post": "As far as I know, I've never insinuated she's fat, but I've jokingly said things like \"you'll never be fat enough for me\" to change her view on what ppl consider the ideal girlfriend. She's doing buying diet pills so she can be the weight she used to be before she met me. The function of the diet pills is to curve hunger, but she says it makes her even hungrier. I've said she doesn't need to, and she can lose weight naturally while I help her. Eating healthy with almond snacks and exercise. Not that she doesn't exercise but she loves Dim Sum.", "summary": "Girlfriend bought a bunch of diet pills that I don't support, how to stop her from continuing on an unnatural path for weight loss?"}
{"id": "t3_3wawrx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a cheating piece of shit.", "post": "So, it's not exactly the cheating as in \" I cheated on my girlfriend\" kind of way, but more as in \"Dude, show me your answers!\" Way.\n\nSo a little backstory.\nI am a sophomore currently but due to a complicated few years I had lost ways to talk to others my age and got anxiety whenever I was spoken too. No, I'm not going to self diagnose, but long story short I realized that being in public school was not so much an option for me any longer.\n\nHere's the Fuck up,\nthis year (3 almost 4 months so far) I've taken the questions on my school and just posted them ( or copy and pasted into the search bar) and had found answers to the problem without reading the lesson nor the question. Now I have done this to the point where in my Geometry...I honestly have no idea what is happening any longer. I look at the questions now a days and it's just a scramble for me to understand.", "summary": "Cheated on my school work for so long, kinda fucked myself over and don't know how to do 10th Grade math at all."}
{"id": "t3_514jgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] met someone [21 F]. She has a boyfriend, and I'm inexperienced with how to not interfere.", "post": "We're both university students, and I don't have a lot of experience being more than acquaintances with people. I'm adept at being pleasant with people who I find myself around, but I have only a few close friends, and all of them are men.\n\nI met this woman in a shared class, asked her to get coffee with me, and hung out with her for a few hours following. We talked about a lot of things, and we seem to have lots in common: literature, thoughts on current events, thoughts on what's attractive in a relationship, humor, etc. We ended up hanging out the next day for an hour or two, as well, and she mentioned having an SO casually. \n\nI don't think I was flirting with her prior to this knowledge, but to be sure, I made sure not to talk about stuff that could be seen as inappropriate. We kept it to books, mostly. \n\nThe next day, a Saturday, she initiated hanging out, and we spent a few hours around town looking into bookstores and grabbing a quick bite for lunch before I had to go to work. \n\nI don't want to be presumptuous about her relationship, so even though she's mentioned a few negative things about him, I've been operating under the assumption that they have a healthy relationship. For the purposes of the advice I'm asking for, I'd like you to tell me how to proceed with that image in mind, unless there's something exceedingly obvious you see that I don't.\n\nHow should I go forward with this friendship? I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to date her, but I'm also completely capable of being her friend without doing so. My thought is that I should just continue getting to know her without straying into inappropriate territory, but I don't have experience with this sort of situation, so I'd appreciate the help.", "summary": "Met a girl, we hit it off, she's in a relationship, I'm inexperienced with these sorts of things, is continuing to befriend her the best option?"}
{"id": "t3_3l4z5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20m] girlfriend [20f] broke up with me because I said I'm attracted to my male roommate while drunk", "post": "We've been together for 6 months. It hasn't been the easiest relationship, she's working through a lot of her issues.\n\nLast night, I had about 6 drinks. I called her, we had a pretty normal conversation. However, at some point things got pretty fuzzy. I don't remember how it came up or why I said it, but I told her I'm sexually attracted to one of my male roommates. I don't even know if I am. I barely remember what else happened, but she got really upset and I think she broke up with me. She told me I hadn't been honest with her. I don't remember what else was said by either of us. We haven't been in contact since last night.\n\nI don't know what to do about this. The thing is, she's known since before we were in a relationship that I might be bisexual. Also, she is bisexual herself, so I don't know what the problem is.\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me because I got drunk and told her I'm attracted to one of my male roommates."}
{"id": "t3_1janzm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, How do you get past feelings for a previous SO? (Details in the comments)", "post": "I'm a 22M who got out of a 3+ year relationship last December and I've been working/going to school/dating to try to get my mind off my previous relationship. Despite my best efforts I still think of my previous SO and sometimes even miss her (even though I was the one that broke things off). At the time I decided that we should stop dating I was 100% sure of my decision and knew that the relationship we had was unhealthy for both of us. Still, I find myself missing the communication and friendship that we had. Right now we don't live anywhere near each other due to school and we haven't had any form of contact for the past 7 months. I know that talking to her will just open up a can of worms and make things between us even worse, so I want to know. What would you do or what have you done in your past to get on with your life?\n\nTo make things clear: I don't have any intention of ever getting back together with my ex. As I said above my decision, to end things between us, was based on the fact that our romantic relationship between us was unhealthy.", "summary": "Been out of a 3+ year relationship and still have feelings for my ex. Any ideas on how to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4ujdld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] Confused, angry and fedup.", "post": "Where do I begin. I'm a typical guy with reasonably nice grades, not strong/have muscles by any means. But not horribly looking by any means. Over my short lifetime of 17 years, I've never been able to get a girlfriend / have any relationship, and it's not the girls, it's me the common denominator.\n\nThis has happened at least 7 times within the past 2 years, I'll get to know a girl reasonably well, we have a good time together, I then try to transition from friends to more than that either by meeting up or over text and it always goes the same way, I get rejected/ignored and feel unloved and depressed and to be honest, I'm sick of it, I end up crying most nights after this, it gets to me real bad.\n\nThe most recent example is the past week when I got to spend alot of time with a girl and was even told she spoke highly of me and was a sweetheart, I then try to make the transition and nothing comes of it. Ignored, rejected again for the upteenth time and i'm really sick of this, I want to fix this, fix myself. I don't know if I can carry on being rejected and unloved.\nthrowaway account for obvious reasons", "summary": "Rejected/Ignored feeling really down in the dumps, I need fixing. This is my problem."}
{"id": "t3_e7zcl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a way to run mac programs on a pc??", "post": "I figured you guys would know. I have an 08 Sony vaio with vista (blech) and really really want to download gamesalad to create iPhone games (Its a dream, perhaps misguided, of mine to create games and this seems like an ideal first step, my brain has been racing with ideas for games since I discovered this program the other day and no bs have been drinking nyquil so I stop popping up and writing down more ideas, for example: an Italian plumber who battles a dinosaur for a blonde monarch who can't hire security!!) and it only runs on mac, so is there a way to either install the new os for mac on my piece or maybe just get a program to run that on my comp??", "summary": "can I either dl macs new os on my vaio vista laptop or run it via some emulator? "}
{"id": "t3_1s3ndn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend 17 [F] of 1 year. She is snapchatting her ex, is it right for me to ask her to stop?", "post": "I've been dating her for a year now. Me and her ex used to be alright friends, but then I started dating her. He talked a lot of shit about her all the time while they were dating and while they were broken up. They left it on bad terms, because he was a dick to her. I don't like him anymore because he hates me.\n\nAnyways, it makes me feel uncomfortable that she snapchats him, and that he is #2 on her snapchat list. I do not think she is sending him sexual snapchats. I just do not feel comfortable with her snapping someone who she fucked, and I do not like and who doesn't like me back. \n\nAm I justified in this? Should I ask her to stop snapping him?\n\nI really just need advice to see if i'm in the wrong, or if not how I should go about this situation.", "summary": "GF is snapping her ex and I don't like it"}
{"id": "t3_1wfjd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend [35F] of mine [23M] prepared for me an expensive present. I dont know if I could accept it.", "post": "A little background: I met her in a social club along with my ex-girlfriend in an adventure social club about half a year ago. As the only person who knew both myself and my ex-girlfriend, I took a chance and sought her opinion and advice when times were rough between my ex-girlfriend and I. We continued to keep in touch via text-messages often, sharing details of our private lives and problems. Even though we rarely see each other in person (largely due to my lack of participation in the social club), when we do we don't speak much. I do consider her a good friend, even though our friendship grew through an unfamiliar medium. \n\nI don't normally gift my friends gifts, but since I never got a chance to buy her a drink, I got her a Christmas present as a token of appreciation for listening to my problems. She got me something too, but due to a family emergency she had to leave the country and did not give it to me. I understand she comes from a very wealthy background and since her previous gift to me had an expiration date, she got me something else instead and sent me a picture previewing it. While still gift wrapped, the distinct logo on the wrapping paper and shape and size of the box indicates whatever inside is something very expensive.\n\nNow, at this point I'm only making assumptions, but if I'm correct, I'm not sure if I can accept it, regardless of her background and the left of time we knew each other. I knew she put some effort into picking something out for me, and should I decline, how could I do it gracefully?", "summary": "My friend prepared for me what appears to be a very expensive present. I don't know if I can accept it. Whether I accept it or not, I'm not sure how to do so, it's not something small at all."}
{"id": "t3_3fxv93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] feel like I don't know how to talk to my SO [20F] any more", "post": "So, I've been with my SO, Katie, for 5 years, going on 6 this November and I feel like I don't know how to talk to her any more. Whenever we talk lately, our conversations just end up being about how work was that day, and then that's really it. I don't think it can be attributed to anything happening in our relationship, since we haven't fought about anything in a long while and there hasn't been anything that would seem to cause any kind of distance between us.\n\nI'm not sure if it's a problem in our relationship, or if it's just me not knowing how to carry a conversation. I really want to be able to talk to her, but on the same hand I don't really know *what* to talk to her about. \n\nSo I guess what I'm asking is not only how do I talk to her, but what exactly do couples \"normally\" talk about?", "summary": "Don't know how to talk to my SO, not sure if it's a relationship problem or me not being able to talk to people.d"}
{"id": "t3_4u84da", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my crush [16 F] of a year, in a not-so-typical teenage situation.", "post": "Alright.\n\nKinda unusual situation: I'm sixteen, and I have a crush on someone who's an awesome friend, who I can't cut out of my life. After suffering for a few months, she tells me that she likes me, and boy am I ecstatic.\n\nSo I ask her if we can make it official, just amongst a few of us, that we were together. \n\nShe says she wants a relationship, but can't have one.\n\nWut\n\nAlright, why? She has a sister, and her father found out about her sister being in a relationship, and kinda shouted at the guy who was goin out with her sister.\n\nUnderstandable, but what if we kept it a secret? She answers saying that her parents WILL find out, and that it's a risk she's not willing to take. It's been like this for a month, but I knew about her emotion only last week.\n\nWe both don't seem to want to move on, but she wants me to move on. If she doesn't move on, I'll be devastated and probably kill myself, because of how miserable I feel.\n\nEmotions are kinda amplified, because this has always been a sensitive area for me, and depression does not help with that.\n\nI also don't know if this is like or love tbh.", "summary": "I like girl a LOT, she likes me a LOT as well. She wants a relationship, but \"can't\" have one because her parents'll \"kill\" her and she doesn't want to take the risk, despite offering to keep the relationship a secret."}
{"id": "t3_1vvcex", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking DXM", "post": "So I went out this afternoon to smoke a couple blunts and chill for a while. Me and my friend had been wanting to try dxm for a long time now and we thought this were the perfect opportunity as I had some in my bag from the doctors visit a couple weeks ago. Anyways we both did quite a lot and I was pretty damned nervous at first but as i eased into the trip I felt more and more at one with myself and away from my physical being. The trip was pretty dope cause i think it put a lot of things into perspective for me, since I recently got expelled and didn't really know what to do with my life.\n\nAnyways throughout the whole trip i was without my knowledge relaxing my butthole muscles and I had really loose butthole I couldn't feel for a number of hours. Now that I have sobered up my asshole really hurts and is has loose and relaxed as it's default state, I have to genuinely make an effort to return my asshole to its original tight and not painful state. Every time I do it I lose concentration after a while and it gets loose and painful again :(", "summary": "I took a bunch of dxm and now I have a loose and painful asshole"}
{"id": "t3_1a2m8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to help my friend who had licence suspended?", "post": "Hi, \n\nMy friend John (32 M) was on his way to visit me today when he was caught out by a random breath test. He had his licence suspended for 3 months and also has a court date. I feel guilty because a) he was coming to visit me and b) the alcohol in his blood would have been from yesterday when he went to a friend of his house and had whisky that I had given him as a thank you present that afternoon.\n\nHe is a fantastic guy, and this is going to cause so much headache for him in terms of being able to go to and from work etc.\n\nI am in a financial situation where I would be able to help him out and I really want to help him out somehow. This is not just because of my own guilt! I really just want to help because I am a situation where I can.\nThe problem is that he is a real gentleman and would be unlikely to willingly accept my help. He is generally not the type of person that would accept help easily. I was thinking of sending him an anonymous card with enough money to cover a taxi trip a day for 90 days. That seems a bit silly though?\n\nIs there any other way to help him out or should I just let it be?\n\nAlso just for background we dated last year. Things got complicated with my ex at the time, but me and John remain good friends.\n\nSorry if this seems like a strange question. I just don't have many friends and am not very good at knowing the right thing to do in social situations like this.", "summary": "My friend had his licence suspended. I really want to help out, but don't know how. Or if it is even appropriate?"}
{"id": "t3_xxd2r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I don't know what to do about, well, Reddit.", "post": "I don't have a PC. Well I do but it doesn't work. I'm a veteran moving to Austin to go to UT, and money is tight. So that's the set up.\n\nI love Reddit. I have a Reddit app for my phone and kindle. I also enjoy Warhammer 40k. So i go to to r/warhammer to post questions and pics. My post keep getting deleted by a mod with the same message:\nRead the sidebar, post deleted.  I don't have a sidebar on my reddit app and my browser window doesn't either. \n\nSo i message the guy, explain what's happening and ask him to please explain what the problem is. The response, not my problem don't post till you get a computer. That's pretty weak. \n\nSo can someone please explain either how to view a sidebar with an app that doesn't support sidebars or how to deal with a mod who won't be dealt with? Or what I'm doing wrong?  How in the hell do I phone-reddit?", "summary": "mod deletes my post repeatedly then refuses to explain what the problem is because I don't have a working PC."}
{"id": "t3_1u18wp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18f] just got dumped by my [18m] boyfriend. Unsure of gift protocol.", "post": "Recently my boyfriend of 3 months dumped me, pretty much out of the blue. Long story short, our relationship ended amicably despite our feelings about the relationship not being mutual (I wanted to make things work, but he wanted to just remain friends). We exchanged Christmas presents the same day we broke up. I got him a few things that matched up with his interests, and he gave me a nice bracelet. He made sure to emphasize that he bought this awhile back, presumably before he started drifting away from the relationship.\n\nThe pamphlet that came with the bracelet said that it was made of precious, authentic gemstones and is often given to another person as a declaration of \"unconditional love\". As I'm sure you can imagine, I cannot find it in my heart to keep this bracelet. Whenever I look at it, I am reminded of the love I felt (and still feel) for him, and I am also reminded that this bracelet was given to me under circumstances that no longer apply. It hurts. I'm pretty sure I'm never going to wear it for this very reason, so it'll go to waste as long as it's sitting here in my room. I want to mail it back to him.\n\nI realize it's rude to return a gift, but I just don't think it'll be good for me to keep it. As it is, I'm implementing the \"no contact\" rule so I can have time to process and move on. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I know that keeping it around will not only give me a false sense of hope, but will also deny him the chance to give the bracelet to someone truly special. I plan on sending the gift back with a letter explaining why I couldn't accept it, so hopefully he will understand why I had to do this. If possible, I'd like to do this in a way that will not harm our chances of remaining amiable acquaintances.", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend gave me a romantic gift the very same day he broke up with me. Am I wrong for wanting to send it back? What would be the least drama-filled way to send it back?"}
{"id": "t3_3rttlm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/M] don't know what to do about my Brother [24/M] and his fiance's [26/f] marijuana abuse.", "post": "Throw away because my Brother and some of his friends are redditors, and I don't really want him seeing this unless I choose to show him. \n\nMy Brother has been using for a long time, basically since he was 17 or so. It doesn't really affect our relationship too much, and he's able to hold down a job, so he seems to have that all sorted. Mostly what's concerning me is that both he and his Fiance seem to be permanently intoxicated. All hours of the day and night. One of the kickers being that he has trouble sleeping, and his Doctor has told him laying off for a little while might help. My main concern, however, that his relationship with his Fiance seems to be almost entirely defined by the fact that they smoke as much as each other. They do both love to cook, but most of the time they spend together seems to be spent getting high and watching T.V. They've been smoking ever increasing amounts since they met around 3 years ago, and I'm worried what their relationship will/would be like if one or both of them had to quit using. I don't think it's sustainable. So both my parents and I have suggested taking a break from it for 1-3 months, and seeing what happens. His response was pretty dismissive, saying he knows he can stop any time, he just doesn't want to. Should I even be concerned? Their relationship isn't really my business, except that I want him to be happy. The thing that really gets me is that if it was the same situation, except with alcohol, no one would deny there is a big problem. The way I see it, they're kind of like high functioning alcoholics. (Though obviously with weed.)", "summary": "Brother and Fiance use an ungodly amount of weed, I'm not sure what their relationship is like without it. Is there anything I can/should do?"}
{"id": "t3_jeu8r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do to change the names my parents call each other around their grandchildren?", "post": "Reddit, i could use your opinion. I am the youngest in my family, and my two older siblings have each had three kids. Over the time that they were growing up, one of them gave my parents cutsie little nicknames (like \"Meema and Peepa\", but not exactly that). Lots of people do this, many times it happens because the little child can't quite pronounce Grandma or Grandpa. Fine, except the ones my parents have sound stupid to me, and it wasn't my child that coined them.\n   Now I have a newborn, and my Mom is already referring to herself with the same stupid nickname. Am I going to have to let this one slide for the sake of sanity?", "summary": "Grandparents' nicknames are stupid."}
{"id": "t3_43v5f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] of two and a half years, broke up in December. I keep making myself sad by purposely thinking about her. Is this normal?", "post": "We broke up on December 17, 2015.  \n\nAfter the break-up, I realized just how much she meant to me.  I love her, and am still in love with her.  She's moved on (She had another guy over at her place on December 18th...)\n\nIt was tough, but I mostly got over it.  For the past 2 weeks, however, I've realized I enjoy listening to songs that remind me of her.  Songs that are related to love and such (Think Taylor Swift, 1989).  I've realized that I'm definitely not over her.  I still love her.\n\nMy question is why do I enjoy making myself sad by thinking about her?  Is this normal?  Has anyone else ever experienced this?  I find myself going out for walks just so I can listen to songs which bring back all of the old memories... Why?", "summary": "I keep listening to sad songs which remind me of my ex, who I'm still in love with.  I apparently like doing this to myself?"}
{"id": "t3_3pc2ce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20M) is better than me at everything (20F) and it's making me upset.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating 4 years.  Since we go to different colleges we've been long distance for the last 2.5 years and get by on weekly skype calls, some text messages, and occasional visits in the summers and such.  \n\nHe's always been smarter than me.  He was valedictorian in high school and I was number 5 in my class.  He goes to a very very good school whereas mine is good, but not nearly as great.  His major is extremely demanding, mine not so much.  He also has lots of friends (he's not popular but he has plenty of nerdy friends) whereas I'm more of a loner.  Whatever, that's all fine, I'm used to it.\n\nSo, I really like to write and read.  Those are probably my main hobbies and it's definitely my passion, writing fiction.  A month ago my boyfriend said he wanted to try writing a novel.  Sure, okay.  I was a bit skeptical because he considers himself a 'non-reader' and that fiction isn't worth reading, yet he wanted to write fiction.  Okay.\n\nHe sent me the first few chapters of his novel yesterday.  I cried.  They're so much better than anything I've ever written, and I've been writing for years.  He's so meh about the literary process but it comes to him so easily.  He's a math/physics major but here he is being Douglas Adams (it's a sci-fi story he's writing, I don't write sci-fi so correct me if I'm wrong).  \n\nI'm just...so jealous right now.  He's always encouraged me to write but at the same time he's never really respected my course of study and always told me I should've been a math major (I'm hopeless at math) or something.  He's not a bad guy, he's my boyfriend and all, but how do I let go of this jealousy??\n\nOh, to top it all off, he's better looking than me and we BOTH know it.", "summary": "My boyfriend is better than me at everything and the jealousy is starting to get to me."}
{"id": "t3_qdtv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Break up or open relationship?", "post": "Me-20, him 23. Dating for a year. We're both in college and we were just about to move in together this summer. Unfortunately some hidden events during our relationship are coming up. There have been four instances where he's been unfaithful. They go as follows:\n1. When we started dating he left out the fact that he was still dating his last girlfriend. \n2. He sexted with two of his exes a few months into our relationship after we had established our relationship boundaries about that sort of thing.\n3. He slept with one of his exes over our winter break from college (which I just found out about)\n4. He used his own money to recently purchase some sex toys for another ex.\n\nI'm at my wits end here. I love this guy a lot and other than those things he really is a great boyfriend. I'm asking you all if an open relationship would solve these issues or if I should just call it quits. I'm just so tired of having my trust broken again and again.\nWhat do?", "summary": "Boyfriend of a year won't stop cheating, would an open relationship get this out of his system so we can be committed later?"}
{"id": "t3_pfoy7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it okay for people with an illness to request donations from other sufferers?", "post": "**Back Story**\n\nI have a nerve disease referred to as [RSD or CRPS.] I was diagnosed at 15 and it is a pretty shitty disease. One highly touted (experimental) treatment for the disease is a [ketamine coma.]  When my case was at its most acute, my family tried to get me to Germany to receive the treatment.  They couldn't afford it. It is EXPENSIVE.\n\nA RSD/CRPS Support Page on facebook just linked to another woman's [webpage] plea for donations. Of course, I understand WHY she needs to raise the money.  \n\nHowever, is it wrong of me to think her horribly self-involved? I'm in debt over my own (non-experimental) treatments. And I do understand that not only those afflicted with CRPS are part of the support page, but they're usually friends and family of those who are.\n\nThe thing that bothered me the post was this quote from her page, **\"Please allow me the opportunity to get my life back. You are my only hope; let me be your victory!\"**\n\nSeemingly innocuous, but the first thing I thought was, \"Bitch, I want to be my own victory.\"\n\nSo tell me Reddit...am I overreacting to a suffering woman's plea for help, or was she out of line to (appear to) put her case above the rest of us?", "summary": "Sick and suffering woman asking other sick and suffering people and their families for money for her treatments. I'm upset at her audacity to do so. Who is the bitch here?"}
{"id": "t3_susjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my sister's prom is in two days and her dress has been ruined. She is extremely upset, I am trying to find a new dress, but so far I haven't had any luck. Does anyone have any ideas for a low cost, quick, but nice prom dress so her night isn't ruined?", "post": "As the title suggests, my little sister's prom dress was basically destroyed. it had been fitted, color coordinated...you know the whole shebang. When the dress maker finally shipped it out to us with the alterations it was basically in tatters. The woman who runs the shop says it must have happened in shipping, I really have no idea. All I know now is that my little sister is crying and I need to try to find a solution to her problem. \n\nWe spent almost all day out looking for dresses with no luck, dresses either did not fit her or were way too expensive for me, I already sunk a lot of money into the first dress (more than I should have in the first place), and while I'll be getting a refund my funds are now extremely limited. I'm out of ideas. I've looked into rental (slim pickings), craigslist (kind of eww, but when you're desperate you are desperate), and I'm out of conceivable options. My last chance is driving two hours out to the larger metropolitan area to hopefully find something worthwhile.\n\nI'm a guy who frankly knows next to nothing about dresses, fitting, alterations any of that jazz; and I'm pretty much the only one around to help her. (God help her...right?) I don't know if this is the right place for this or if you guys can even help me, but I'm desperate.", "summary": "I'm a guy who knows nothing about dresses, but I have to find my sister a replacement dress in two days. I have no idea where to find a suitable one"}
{"id": "t3_1gscef", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Negotating pay rise/better conditions in current job - how to do it, what tips?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI work 30 hours a week, for which I'm paid at around the going rate.\n\nI have a job on the side, which I'm allowed to do when I take holiday from my work.\n\nMy contact is up for renewal in August, and though the employer is happy with me, they'd be 'grateful' if I reduced or rescheduled my stuff-on-the-side to times that suit them better (which is pretty much impossible).\n\nI've planned a meeting with my Area Manager in July to discuss this and to try and find a solution.\n\nIdeally, I'd be very happy to stop my stuff-on-the-side, but as this would leave me around \u20ac4k a year worse off, I'd like to negotiate something better in exchange - an extra \u20ac300 a month, or something of similar value would be more than adequate.\n\nI'd appreciate tips on strategy about how to achieve this\u2026 and am sure that the kind and wise folk on self.jobs can help me in my goal!", "summary": "Looking for more money from my boss in exchange for giving up other lucrative work I do in my free time, appreciate tips on how to approach this without coming across as an arsehole (US: Asshole)"}
{"id": "t3_15omek", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(22/m) needing to break up with a Co-Worker(21/f) gently!", "post": "Long time Reddit Lurker/First time poster (who'd thunk it would be here lol). \n\nBasically as the title states but here is the back story:\n\nStarted talking to a gal from another department about 2 weeks ago (12/12/12 to be exact) and we quickly started dating. I noticed her a few months ago and always thought she was really pretty and looked sweet/innocent. We start talking, go on a few dates, and then quickly wind up in bed, a few times. So now we're dating...so she says...even changed her Facebook Relationship status too, even though I have not done the same.\n\nWell now she is getting promoted to my department making this an HR issue/something that has to be kept a secret (which it has been from the start). I've had issues in the past dating people from work that are a part of the same team and it always blows up into an HR problem! Especially if you tried to hide it for too long because someone always finds out. \n\nAside from that though I've now decided I see no future with this girl. We are completely different in ways I cannot overcome and instead of prolonging the inevitable, I'd like to end it now and save us both the trouble. \n\n*MY QUESTION:* How do I do this, without completely destroying the work environment/her perspective of me as a person?", "summary": "Started dating girl, girl joins my team at work, no longer like girl, need to breakup without work being too awkward."}
{"id": "t3_31gj7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] has just broken up with my cheating wife [26F] after 6 and a half years... Not sure what to do anymore...", "post": "So I have been with my wife for 6 and a half years, we first moved into our own place 5 years ago and we got married on the 17th of September last year. 3ish weeks ago I found out she had cheated on me... I've spent the past few weeks away from her, just talking to her trying to repair things I guess. I love her so much, with all my heart... She's listened to me and I think she's tried to decide whether or not to be with me. But tonight, it all ended.\n\nWe'd spoken last night and I'd told her we needed to try and make it work. I came back home today and she told me we would talk things through. She sat at the table across from me, a tear rolling down her cheek and told me it just couldn't work... That getting married to me was a mistake. I was understandably hurt and did something dammed stupid. I got hold of some tickets for a SOAD concert next week and tore them up. She immediately phoned the police and told them she was fearing for her safety. Now, I'm not a violent person and I rarely raise my voice to her, I had no intention of hurting her. I'm now back with my best friend and she's not talking to me.\n\nI honestly believe that there's no chance for us to work. But Reddit, I love her, I love her so fucking much. My body is just going through such turmoil right now at the thought of being without her. Even though she's cheated I just desperately want to make it work. I can't imagine being without her. She's so pretty and we share so many interests... I'm just broken I don't know what to do anymore. I've cried so much these past few weeks. She is my first love and I'm such a mess. Have any of you gone through this before? What should I do? I really think I can't do anything to make her see that she should be with me. \n\nI'm lost.", "summary": "My wife has left me after 6 and a half years, cheated on me... What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4xsps8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Honestly, I have no idea what I should be doing", "post": "I'm scared to all Hell about what I should be doing right and what I shouldn't be doing at all. I'm a 17F and I'm about to turn 18, I have a job at an ice cream shop that might be giving me carpal tunnel, screwed up my chances of getting an AA during high school due to a lot of my own insecurities and personal relationship issues, I think I'm slowly starting to lose someone who means nothing but the world to me because I'm really insecure and I just blurt sad things or mean things about myself without realizing it and I think he's getting sick of it.\n\nI've been having a lot of issues involving my depression and anxiety, it kicks in after a certain time of night and gets worse in the Spring especially but all around I am nothing but a stress ball that just keeps bouncing up and down. My hair started falling out (it's fixed now!!! three months later there are only a few strands coming out!) and i started to dissociate myself with what's going on lately. I've been trying to fix things with people who've done me wrong or I've done wrong just so I can find peace but all I'm finding is bad memories and now I have nightmares and I couldn't sleep for a few days and starting falling asleep at the wheel where I almost hit a telephone pole. \n\nI need advice. I need guidance. My counselors have tried pointing me at colleges and what path I should take but when I pursue it doesn't feel right. I don't feel right about anything.\n\nI honestly want to cry 90% of the time and he's dealt with me being like this for nearly three years.", "summary": "i feel terrible a lot and i've very insecure mostly due to a previous abusive relationship and i dug myself into a academic grave and have no idea what to do anymore and my anxiety is coming back and im pretty scared lol"}
{"id": "t3_394p7k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not lubing up", "post": "So unlike most posts here. This did happen today, and around 14 hours ago\n\nSome background: im grade 11. I play trumpet in a auditioned school jazz band (grade 10-12) and today was testing in scales. \n\nI had not touched my trumpet in over a week and was totally not ready for this I thought. However, I had oiled my valves a week before. (valves are the buttons you press for people who don't know the terms) and prepared to test in front of my teacher\n\nI play first scale. Easy\n\nSecond. Easy\n\nThird. Messed up a bit but she didn't really say much.\n\nNow the first 3 scales were memorized, and the fourth was just a reading test. \nSo i played the scale. \n\nShit. I fucked up. \n\nI asked if I could go again. She said fine.\n\nHalfway through the scale. My valve got stuck. And the noise that came out of the trumpet was the death of me.\n\nMy teacher said she would give me a zero since i can't play it. I told her my valve got stuck and if I could try again. She wasn't having any of it.\n\n\"ALL I ASK IS THAT YOU MEMORIZED 3 AND PLAY ONE HOW HARD IS THAT, PRO MUSICIANS CAN PLAY IT EASY OVER AND OVER AGAIN.\"\n\n\"Can't I play again please? Its not my fault my valve got stuck.\"\n\n\"No.\"\n\nGreat. Bye bye high class jazz band.", "summary": "Didn't lube up right before, got fucked."}
{"id": "t3_1twdzf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [29f] left my SO [28f] and feel like a terrible human being", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. I was together with her for 6 years. It was a really shitty 6 years for me. She has A LOT of psychological issues. Was unemployed, can't show love, hates to cuddle... this list goes on. Basically, I gave her everything and she improved a lot, now she is in therapy, has a job and doesn't completely freak out when someone touches her. I feel we made real progress and we both grew as humans through this relationship.\nHowever, I am moving for a job out of the country. and I know this relationship will not work out being so far apart. She is not that far to keep a relationship healthy on that distance. i don't hold it against her, I really do not. Also I tend to get really really jealous (ramains as my previous guy cheated on me and she did in the first year but never since, I am not proud of it). I am just convinced that it will not work out and when I spoke to her, she agreed. So we broke off and decided to stay good friends, since I am also her main source of trust. Now we have this awkward relationship where we discuss really really intimate things and I know she feels terrible although she plays fine (I learned to read her subtext). And I feel horrible like I left her alone and I also still love her. To make everything worse a good friend is hitting on me and thinks now is his chance. I'm sexually frustrated because I have not had sex in years (due to her condition) but I am still emotionally attached to my last SO. On top of moving, getting to the new job, finishing my degree and stuff, I kind of lost track on everything. Help?", "summary": "Had a SO with psychological issues. Worked on it together. Left her because I am moving and it is draining me. Feel like I failed her. I am a horrible friend and wife."}
{"id": "t3_2g4eon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25F] [30M] Broken up 7 months after 3.5 year relationship: Still Shattered", "post": "So, I met my ex literally the day I moved out of my mother's house. He lived in the same building as me, and we became close friends who went on sporadic dates. He was in the navy, so I was hesitant to initiate anything serious. \n\nFF 2.5 years of staying in touch and having a great time that ends in passionate kissing almost every time we hang out, despite having moved several states away. We get together. Relationship is great. Really great for about 2 years. \n\nWe had moved in together. We started having really bad money issues when a lot of career things didn't really work out. Over the course of the next 1.5 years, we both had to drop out of school to start working jobs we didn't love. We also attempted an open relationship that was ridden with jealousy. Things got tense and bad and sad and sometimes volatile. We broke up. \n\n7 months ago he moved out of our shared apartment. I've thrown myself into hobbies, the gym, friends: all of the things. My friends tell me I'm doing great--I'm passionate and gorgeous and all of these great things. I've been going on dates.\n\nBUT. I think about him all the time. I miss him all the time. Things happen in my life and I want to share them with him. I can't seem to truly believe in connecting to any of the people I've been on dates with. 7 months seems like a long time. Am I rushing myself? Do I just keep marching forward and hope more time will mend me? Is there a point at which you decide you really just want your relationship to work and try again?", "summary": "I've been doing all of the reddit break up protocol of staying busy, fit and full of hobbies--when do I get to start feeling better?"}
{"id": "t3_1jwcb1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to be more affectionate?", "post": "Long story short, a friend (f19) and I (m20) have mutual feelings that we've talked about with each other. The problem is (1) I've never been in a relationship, (2) she's unsure if what she wants is what she wants (doesn't want to risk friendship, etc.). However, she told me that I needed to show more affection as I don't show what I claim I feel. We're both busy with jobs but still manage to see each other a few times a week (just casually). College starts in a few weeks and we'll be closer then, but I don't want to wait that long. I want to make her feel special. There's been no physical contact so far (hand holding, etc.), and while I feel that's the next logical step, I'm not sure what to do. I'm nervous because I want her to be comfortable, buy at the same time I don't want to lose my chance. I just want to make her feel how she makes me feel, but just telling her that is not enough.\n\nWhat are some small or large things I can do?", "summary": "how to show more affection to a friend I'm courting"}
{"id": "t3_3nlhtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [18M] have been growing distant with my gf[21F] and I'm getting feelings for her cousin[16F].", "post": "I know guys. This is a pretty fucked up situation.\nI've been with my gf for about one year and things were going okay, but a few months ago I started losing interest because I'm feeling very unfulfilled with our communication and ambitions.\nAnd I've been contemplating breaking up with her for those few months and I'm having trouble finding the right way to do it. But a month ago she brought me to a family gathering where I met her cousin and we immediately hit it off, same taste in music, books, movies, TV, art, ideals, philosophy and ambitions. And we've been talking online almost everyday since then.\nI'm pretty sure she likes me and I know I like her a lot. And she knows that I've been going through stuff with my gf and she told me last night that she thinks that I talk to her too much when I should be talking to my gf to try to work things out and she doesn't want to be a contributing factor if I and my gf break up.\nWhich I totally understand but I'm just having trouble on what I should do now.\nI'm not happy with my current relationship and I want to break up but she is very attached to me so I can't figure out a way to let her off softly and I know if I make her heartbroken then there is no way I can continue any sort of relationship with her cousin.\nPart of me says I need to walk away from the whole thing. But I have a real connection with her cousin so I don't want to. Halp plz.", "summary": "I have a crush on my gf's cousin. I want to break up with my girlfriend for many reasons but I don't know how to do it without hurting her."}
{"id": "t3_2xfy65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30m] took my girlfriend [28f] back after her relationship with her ex failed. Now I'm having difficulty trusting her", "post": "So me and my gf (let's call her Diane) we're together for about a year a couple of years ago. Best relationship I've ever been in, immense amounts of caring, great sex, etc. The only hitch is that she kept in close touch with her ex with whom she was with for 4 years. They broke up because he was having (mental) sexual issues and thought they'd be better as friends. I let them maintain a close friendship. Then, he tells Diane he's solved his sex problems. Now, I obviously talked a lot with Diane about what would happen if her ex could be physically intimate again one day. She said they had tried for years to re-spark sex, and if it hadn't happened yet it wouldn't. Well, it did. They were back together for about a year and a half (she felt absolutely terrible about doing this to me) and just broke up because he is now unsure he wants to be married at all. Diane has said her timeline has expired and she can't keep waiting for him, so they broke up. \n\nNow Diane wants to get back together with me. I know we have always been in love, so there are very little \"second place\" type feelings. However, I am very scared that her ex will one day call her and tell her he's ready to marry her. She says she's completely committed to me at this point, but I'm terrified to deal with even a longing on her part to get back together with her ex even though she won't do that again for me. I guess it's hard because the reasons that they broke up are reversible-they still love each other and the reasons they broke up have to do with kids, marriage etc., all of which could her ex could definitely change his mind on and tell her. She does a good job of keeping him at a distance so that they're not more than friends, and I don't want to be so controlling to cut him off entirely, but I'm terrified that one day he'll want marriage and I'll have to deal with some part of my gf wanting that. She does love him very much even if they're not in love right now. How do I cope?", "summary": "how do you overcome fear of your SO's ex coming back even if they're no longer in love?"}
{"id": "t3_g3ywo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are the most memorable 70's - 80's  songs?", "post": "My mom's birthday is nexth month, and last year she commented she wanted a music player, so that's what I'm getting for here. She's not very tech-savy, so I guess an Ipod shuffle will fit quite well her needs (quick question: the largest memory for an iPod shuffle nowadays is only 2gb?), and I thought I could throw in some 70's-80's songs (her favorites) so that she could enjoy it asap without too much fiddling (I will also include some sort of \"ipod shuffle for dummies guide\" that I'll make myself, so that she can operate the device when I'm not near (we currently live 600km apart)). However, since I mostly listen to metal, classic and, strangely enough, japanese pop, I can only think of about 4 or 5 songs that my mom would probably like, so I was wandering if reddit could help me find some nice songs from that era.", "summary": "Help me find some memorable songs from the 70's and 80's for my mom's birthday."}
{"id": "t3_r59sx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I kinda just screwed it up with a girl, by saying I'm not a DJ who takes advantage of drunk chicks. what do I do?", "post": "Hey there Reddit., \n\nWell last night a group of girls and I were playing truth or dare. The girl I'm really interested in is is the group. And \"somehow\" the topic of virginity came up. I just happened to ask who still is. They said only one of the girls in the room (not the one I am interested in.) I was fine with it, but I had to speak up and say that I was still one. \n\nThey all kinda all looked at me all surprised. Because before I had moved I was a house DJ at a bar, and I would always have chicks all over the place. I told them I'm not one of those guys. I don't take advantage of girls, especially if they're drunk. \n\nI am kinda socially awkward when it comes to girls, I can never seal the deal. But when it comes when I DJ, I'm a beast! I flirt with every chick in the bar. Buy them drinks and all that. End up making out with them, but I've never slept with any of them. \n\nBut because of that, I feel like I have worked backwards with what I was trying to go at. She did kinda seem like she was turned off, but it was late. I just have a horrible feeling about it. She's a pretty calm girl, but I have heard girls often don't like being guys first, Help me out please!", "summary": "I'm a virgin DJ who doesn't take advantage of drunk chicks, because of that, I feel I turned off a chick."}
{"id": "t3_r1liw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend and I don't sleep in the same room anymore. Is this a bad sign?", "post": "Hey guys, I'm 20 and she is 21 and we've been dating for over 1 1/2 years. We've also been living together for around 9 months.\n\nFor the past few months, we've been sleeping in different rooms. It started when we first moved into our new apartment. The circulation is bad and it gets really mucky and hot in our bed and so for the first few months, she would wake up in the middle of the night and have to go sleep on the futon.\n\nAs time progressed, we tried different ways to fix the situation. The maintenance people said there was nothing wrong with our AC, and then we tried moving to another room, but it was the same problem.\n\nFinally, I bought us a King Bed which helped a little with the heat, but I've also gained weight over the few months, and my girlfriend complains that my breathing and snoring are too loud for her to sleep with. \n\nSo now she sleeps on the futon and I sleep on the bed. \n\nI am wondering if this is really unhealthy. I feel like it is and i've talked to her about it and she says that it sucks, but she needs sleep. Also, her parents haven't slept in the same room for years, so I don't think she thinks its that un-normal.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Due to heat problems and me being a noisy sleeper, GF doesn't want to sleep in same room as me. Her parents don't sleep in the same room, so she doesn't think its that weird."}
{"id": "t3_3dujg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my best friend [29 M] are losing touch and I think his troubled marriage and wife's dislike of me is to blame.", "post": "My friend and I have been close since high school. We remain tight and text/e-mail every day. However, whenever I ask him to hang out on weekends, he always has an excuse. He usually ends up staying home all weekend with his wife. His wife and I used to get along well, but she's grown distant in recent years. She seems to dislike the fact that my wife and I are moving forward in our lives, while she remains stuck in a job she hates. Therefore, she never visits and has zero contact with my wife/myself.\n\nMy friend and his wife have been married for a few years, but their relationship seems unhealthy. She has bad anxiety and depression. She hates leaving the house and socializing with other people. She seems to resent all of my buddy's friends and I'm afraid she might be the reason why we don't hang out anymore. Her anxiety and depression have gotten to the point where she constantly tells my buddy that she hates her life, wishes she could just run away, wishes she was dead, etc. I've been concerned obviously and asked my friend whether she would seriously harm herself, but he assures me that it's all just talk that happens every time she's upset. I've encouraged him to: seek therapy on his own, suggest his wife seek therapy, go to couples therapy, but she refuses to get help and he doesn't seem to want to either.\n\nI'm feeling pretty lost. I love my best friend, but we're drifting apart. I'm *fine* if his wife doesn't want to be close with me or my wife, but I don't like that my buddy is losing touch now too. I'm not sure whether she doesn't like him leaving the house to spend time with me or if he feels guilty leaving her alone at home. I *don't* think he has anything personally against me because, as I said, we still text/e-mail all the time.\n\nHow should I approach this situation with my buddy?", "summary": "My best friend has become distant. I'm wondering if his rocky marriage is affecting our friendship since his wife doesn't seem to like me/my wife."}
{"id": "t3_gtfq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Three-Girl Dilemma Please Help", "post": "Alright, so just a little bit ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years (girl A), we were both each other's first major significant other. However, before I even started dating her, I was much more interested in one of her closest friends (girl B, who I am also pretty close friends with). \n\nThe only reason I didn't go for her in the first place is because her strange demeanor. She had never been with someone before, and still hasn't really been (other than a brief stint with one of my best friends, only further complicating things.) She is straight, but generally shows little interest in dating\n\nSo I dated this girl for 2 years, broke up just as we were going off to college, and all three of us (plus my good buddy that dated girl B for a month or so) went to the same college. We are all about 19 years of age.\n\nOn top of that, another close friend of both of these girls (girl C) started hanging out with us on campus when she went to a nearby college. I ended up drunkenly hooking up with her a few times, and now she is seriously interested in me... She's a nice girl, I like her, but I'm not really interested in her like that.\n\nBut I'm stuck, all the feelings I originally had for girl B (the ones that didn't leave) have come back. I tried to get out and meet new girls, with some success, but none of them really interested me as much.\n\nSo, Reddit, what should I do? Telling B how I feel could create a lot of problems, and has no guarantee of working especially given how loyal she is to her friends, and I could lose friends too. Should I settle with girl C? Or should I drop the whole thing and just try to walk away?", "summary": "I dated a girl for two years but always liked her close friend. Now a third friend of their's wants to be with me, but I'm still obsessed with the same girl. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1sltm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] Tired of Being a People Pleaser", "post": "I've gotten better in the past couple of months, but for the most part I'm still very much a people Pleaser. I hate disappointing other people, but I'm angry and depressed.  I need to quit two jobs (I'm switching careers) and it's tearing me up inside to do it, even though my one boss takes advantage of me I'm overdue on quitting. And my other boss will be understanding cause she's awesome, but I feel bad even though I know in the long wrong these choices will make me so much happier!\n\nAny advice for someone whose tired of being a doormat?", "summary": "I'm scared of quitting because I know my bosses will be disappointed even though I really want too!!"}
{"id": "t3_550eig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) have been single for roughly 6 months and still can't move on from my last SO (20F)", "post": "So I've done all of the normal things. I pursue hobbies, I keep my brain interested in other things. I focus on school and my future, and generally have a positive outlook on that. I even try to get on tinder or be flirty with people, but nothing compares. I can't stop comparing everyone to her, and how she just filled the hole in my life. I've even kissed another girl after her, albeit a little bit drunk, and didn't have any feelings for her. I realize there is probably someone else who can fill the hole too, and I'm okay with it not being her, but shit, I still think about her every day. I relive our happiest moments in my mind and I feel happy when I zone out and pretend it's still real.\n\nI'm no longer in agony, or constant distress. It's just like there's one more wall to get by to be fully moved on and I've been stuck at it for months. There are people interested in me every now and then and I can't bring myself to have feelings for them because they just don't make me feel anything like she did, even as just a friend.", "summary": "been broken up around 6 months, taken all the steps to move on but she's still stuck in my mind."}
{"id": "t3_2qtlis", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a phone", "post": "I just got a job, got a source of income. My first job, I'm 18. I am intelligent- you can't say this without appearing pompous- for my age, and usually avoid mistakes people make. But by believing this, I thought it was true, I never make the mistakes, which was the mistake in itself. I bought a $720 phone- I won't advertise anything, or endorse any product, without receiving money- and well.. I have it. Yes, it's sitting next to me charging as I type this, mocking me. See I already had a phone, but it was 2 generations old. I'm upgrading for the sake of upgrading. My aunt talked to me about this, decision. Bringing up the marshmellow experiment, long term gratification. I myself am a psychologist enthusiast, this resonated deep within me. She's right, I am the kid who just licked the marshmallow, holy fuck. But by realizing this poor decision, as I am a college student with debt accumulating. This was a horrible choice!! I am becoming a consumer, but it doesn't stop there. Now it's a phone, then it's a smart watch charger, then god forbid an ice-cream! I'm out of control, but get this. This was a chain reaction. By realizing this, I remember about GIRL ( no name, pseudonym). She was into me, but I didn't realize it, because I was an idiot. Now, it relates to this TIFU (well, it was 2 days ago, when I bought it) But I remembered the expression every poor person uses, \"Money doesn't buy happiness\" I agree, but it makes it easier. I was buying my happiness, I realized I was buying this phone for momentarily happiness. I will need more, tomorrow. God I realized this so young, before it got bad. I need to get back with GIRL, because I have a hole in my heart. Happiness, she will fulfill my desire, leaving me sane again.", "summary": "I just got my first job, spend paycheck immediately. Thinking I was better than americans spending money, I was doing the exact same thing, driving me into debt."}
{"id": "t3_52yk5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23f] new boyfriend [21m] is rooming with my ex-fiance [21m]... send help", "post": "For anonymity, I'll refer to my new bf as Jess and my ex as Dean.\n\nDean and I were together for five years, engaged for almost three. We broke up in March somewhat amicably (I'd known it was coming but didn't process it too well). I had minimal contact with him over the summer, during which time I started seeing Jess. Now I knew as early as last February that they would be rooming together this year (they're in college) but I'm having some trouble coping.\n\nDean has also moved on, and his new girlfriend \"Lindsey\" is everything I wish I could be: petite, beautiful, fit, active, not mentally ill. Now I want to emphasize that I do not want to get back together with Dean, but spending time with him and Lindsey is.. wildly uncomfortable for me. She also seems to pity me whenever my depression acts up, which makes me want to spend even less time with them.\n\nPoint: Dean and Jess room together, and I am here maybe four days a week (usually Thur-Sun) which was fine, but Lindsey has started visiting the same days. She and Dean tend to spend alone time together and lock Jess and me out of the room. But when they do hang out with us, I become very uncomfortable and generally have to leave the room.\n\nAny advice on dealing with this? Jess and I don't go to my house because I prefer not to be there; our group of friends & the dorm used to be my \"safe space\" but now I don't know what to do.", "summary": "current boyfriend dorms with ex-fiance. Ex's new girl is always around when I come to visit and she is everything I wish I could be, physically & mentally, so being around them is hard. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_28nqxv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(21M) have a crush on my teacher (26F), seeking advice.", "post": "As the title says, i have a huge crush on my calculus teacher.\n\nThe first time i saw her i felt immediate physical attraction, but it wasn't a \"crush\" Per se. Weeks later, i realized how she's so cultured and passionate about her work, at that point, i couldn't stop thinking about her.\n\nSo far I've been very respectful whenever i talk to her, and i feel like she's trying to flirt with me.\n\n-We lock our eyes when we talk to each other (i don't do that with everyone).\n-She playfully teased me a couple of times.\n-I noticed some exaggerated hair flips as i walked into her private office to check my grades.\n-She knows pretty well the name of my two buds but always seems to \"forget\" mine.\n\nAnyway, i don't really know how to approach the situation, because even tho were both adults (I'm 21 and she's 26), she's still my teacher. I should point out that I'm not from the US so sexual harassment lawsuits are not an issue. Hell, in my country, laws of any kind are not an issue.\n\nThe semester is about to finish and i have one week to decide what to do because i don't think i will ever see her again.\n\nI don't know if i should ask her out (how should i do it?) or try to move on with my life, any words of wisdom/motivation would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I have a crush on my calculus teacher, i strongly believe that the attraction is mutual, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2920xc", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I am afraid my so might leave me because of my low libido and inability to have sex. What to do?", "post": "I am currently living in Bulgaria, but I will move by the end of the next year to Argentina to be with my girlfriend.\n\nI have panic attacks and depression. Last year I started taking Xanax, just before my gf came to visit me, around November. Everything in regards to sex was fine, then I stopped taking Xanax in January, and my sex life went out the window. I now have a problem with my erection, it's simply not as strong as it was, I can feel it, and sometimes I can't get one at all. I have a very low libido now, I do not desire sex at all, worse I am not sure of my sexuality anymore, I think I am asexual. How do I make such a huge move, when I fear that she might dump me because we can't have sex, or worse cheat on me. I don't know what to do. I went to an urologist, and he said that I am fine. Went to a therapist and she said that I just internalize my depression and anxiety this way, that I have sort of hot spots in my body that shut down when my stress levels rise, this made no sense to me, I was having great sex before and during I was taking Xanax and after I stopped, poof everything magically disappeared. I will do anything to cure myself, but I am not taking any viagra or any of those drugs, they can cause a heart attack, blindness or worse, otherwise I am willing to try anything else that is not life threatening. What can I do, should I make the move, it's freaking me out. Will I stay like this forever, no sex till the rest of my life, have I become and old man at 30...", "summary": "I think my gf will leave me because I can't have sex with her."}
{"id": "t3_2l5t3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "r/relationships, what should I [21/F] know or think about before making the final decision to move in with my boyfriend [21/M]?", "post": "So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years now, and are currently seniors in college (graduation is in May). I am moving back to our hometown where he currently lives (I live about 30 minutes away at a larger university) to go to graduate school. We talked about moving in together when I come back, but I haven't made a decision yet just because I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not.\n\nI know that, one thing that bothers me the most is his lack of cleanliness. I mean his house seriously smells, and always looks like it has been hit by a tornado of mess. It's bad. I never get too upset about it or nag him to clean it too much simply because I don't live there, it's his shit, and I'm letting him enjoy is weird foul bachelor frog pad for the time being. I'm just worried that when I move in, he will want to continue living like that and I'm going to turn into his maid...\n\nAnyhow, there are lots of other things. I really just want to hear your experiences, maybe there's something I should consider that I haven't yet?\n\nThanks <3", "summary": "Been dating for 4 years, talked about moving in together, but I want to know what I should expect before I make a decision, so tell me your story please."}
{"id": "t3_3j6505", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on college spending please", "post": "I am a 17 year old Senior in high school and am looking for advice on my financial situation for college. My parents are giving me ~65k to use for college total. I would receive the remaining amount after I graduate if I don't use all of it. I am planning on getting a degree in Computer science or Software engineering. \n\nMy options are: \nGo to U of Alabama out of state on a scholarship for ~$9k/year- $35-$40k total\n\nGo to Ohio State University for ~$25k/year- $100k total\n\nI know that Ohio State has a more reputable computer science program than Alabama but am wondering if the going $35k in debt vs. having $20k in my pocket out of college would be worth the prestige. If you were in my situation, what would you do?", "summary": "Is going to a reputable school worth the cost?"}
{"id": "t3_1awnww", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU broke my friends computer and missed my train", "post": "so on a friday night my mate and i were on our way to a party, i had a bag with me holding all our drinks and my friends computer (fucked if i knew why he brought a computer to a party). anyway we got to the platform our trains leaving from and i see the train sitting there, so i shit myself because i thought it was leaving and proceed to commando dive onto the train and break all the beers in my bag, ruining my clothes and my friends computer. My friend then casually walks in after me and asks me what the fuck i am doing. Turns out the train didnt leave for 10 minutes. However while i was trying to dry everything off the train really did leave.\nmy friend was not pleased", "summary": "leave commando dives to the professionals"}
{"id": "t3_hjjav", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Taking a trip to Europe in the fall... I may not come back this time. Any advice, Reddit?", "post": "I haven't fully decided yet whether or not I plan to stay. If I do decide to stay longer than my vacation, I don't know for how long.\n\nI traveled to Italy a few years back and fell in love with the country. This fall I plan on going to France and Switzerland, and if the mood strikes me before I make final preparations to leave, I may make plans to head back to Italy for an undetermined amount of time. \n\nA little about me: I am in my mid-twenties, a college graduate, and I live in the United States. I do not have a wife or children, but I do owe student loans which is one of the things I'm not sure how to handle if I leave. Other than that, I own a car and my meager possessions and that's it. I have been with my current employer for over 5 years but it is a profession completely unrelated to my major and I am completely fed up (bordering on miserable) with it. \n\nI do not speak any other language, but I am willing to learn and I know from experience that English is fairly common in Italy, at least enough to get by. I don't know what I would do for work (or what is really involved with a work visa) or a residence, but not really having a solid plan is part of the thrill.\n\nI need a dramatic change, but I would love advice from anyone that has done (something like) this before. Any stories? Tips? Things I'm overlooking? I know it's drastic and rash, but I feel like it could be exactly what I need. I'm young enough with few enough responsibilities to recover.", "summary": "I am thinking about taking a permanent vacation in Europe. What do I need to know? What am I overlooking?"}
{"id": "t3_1uv497", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [42 F] and my bf [48 M] of 8 months don't have matching financial goals, advice wanted.", "post": "I have been dating my bf for about 8 months now. Things are going well for the most part, except our financial goals do not seem to be exactly aligned. For example, I have always been a frugal saver, and have amassed approx $1 million dollars so far. If my investments continue do well, I would like to retire in my early-to-mid 50s and travel/volunteer.\n\nMy bf, on the other hand, has very little in the way of a nest egg other than a small military pension that barely covers the mortgage payment on his underwater house, and about $75k in a 401k. He never saw early retirement as an option, so he has been spending at his whim without much consideration for retirement savings.\n\nI wouldn't mind sharing my nest egg with my partner, but I would like him to get on the same page and work with me rather than against me. Right now, he spends a lot of money on what I consider to be frivolous & unnecessary expenses. For example, he's thinking about financing a $60,000 Ford Raptor that gets even worse mileage than his current truck. I'm a homebody who likes to stay in and watch a movie at home, whereas he likes to go out to wine & dine. He says he would like to be able to retire early and spend more quality time together before we both get too old, but whenever I try to talk about money, he becomes hostile and thinks I'm either rubbing things in his face or trying to be controlling.\n\nI know getting on the same page financially is important, and I've tried to get him to listen to Dave Ramsey, watch Susan Orman, or read some basic personal finance books that helped me (\"Your Money Or Your Life\", \"The Wealthy Barber\", etc.) but he shows little interest.\n\nIs there a good way to reconcile this difference?", "summary": "I'm a saver, my bf is not. He gets defensive when I try to talk about finances."}
{"id": "t3_yl5wv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [23M] dislikes sleeping with me [23F] in the same bed. It's starting to wear on me and make me insecure, need some advice/feedback", "post": "To start, I should clarify that by sleeping I mean the issue is with actually sleeping (not sex...though that happens too sometimes haha). Our situation is a bit unique, we live in the same house, with 2 other people, but in different rooms. We've been dating for about 6 months. When we first started dating, he would always invite me into his room and seemed to really enjoy having me stay in his bed. He'd often wake up during the night and hug/kiss me. Looking back, this was probably a sign that he wasn't sleeping very well, but it was still nice feeling wanted.\n\nFast forward a few months and he can't really stand to sleep with me. Sometimes he tries and then gets uncomfortable or hot or has some other reason and ends up leaving the bed in the middle of the night. Other times he just refuses to at all. I've never had this problem with any other boyfriend and I am unsure of how to deal with the implications. I know that it's not really personal, he just seemingly doesn't sleep well with other people and may just have sleeping problems in general. But it still just really irks me and has been grinding my emotions. I find a certain sense of security sleeping with an SO, and when I feel that he doesn't reciprocate it makes me feel very insecure. When I bring it up he usually gets irritated and doesn't seem to understand my feelings on the issue. To be clear, I understand this looks like a relatively small issue from the outside but I can't shake being hurt by it and just want some perspective. Girls, how would you deal with this situation? And guys, do you have any insight for me?", "summary": "Boyfriend used to love sleeping in the same bed with me, he no longer does. This makes me feel quite insecure and I am unsure about what to do - would like some perspective on the issue."}
{"id": "t3_palor", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Family bonding FTW", "post": "Let me preface this by telling you that I live with my sister's family and her husband is cool as fuck. \nLast night I was drinking with my sis, her husband, and our neighbors. \n\nBut, alas, I was thrown a curve ball last night. I vaguely recall him coming onto me.\nIt was subtle. Like he just alluded to the idea of getting together, I don't remember exactly, but I know the intent.\nI remember ignoring the advance, we went on being chummy as usual.\nIt's really fucked up because I appreciate him so much as a husband to my sister and a father to my niece and nephew. He's the greatest bro-in-law, but now i don't know how to feel.\nIn a sick way, I'm kind of flattered. I realize he was drunk as hell. I know that he loves my sister and their family. \nI don't really know how to feel...\nI plan on just pretending it never happened. What do you guys think?", "summary": "my bro-in-law came onto me in a drunken state and now i'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_3fj1u5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17M] Guy asked her [17F] for drinks. Any advice?", "post": "So, basically here's my situation: We have been going to the same English course for like 3 months now. At first, i didn't know her but i was determined to ask someone out. So there was this blonde and blue eyes. I tried, got rejected even before asking (what a bitch). Then, i was walking down the street with a friend of hers and just happend naturally. I asked her friend to go to Starbucks with me. Her friend got a little nervous and made up an excuse. I didn't went to SB and to my luck we saw each other two blocks ahead. I said i realized i had no money left and she laughed. My intentions were clear here. Almost died of akwardness.\n\nI took like a one month reccess and started over again. Casually, i started going to the same bus stop of this girl (i think you can kinda see my intentions here) and talking to her till her bus came. Last time i saw her we settled to go for a drinks next time we saw each other (1 day before 2 week summer recess)\n\nNow, she came back from a family trip and im seeing her next tuesday.\n\nSo, here's the problem: as you read, i didn't asked her out. We are going just for drinks or something. I think it's pretty obvious that i like her. \n\nAnyway, if things go well im planning on walking her home or something and in the end telling her something sweet like she's intelligent for e.x and that i really like her. Then, asking for hee number and a second date to the movies.\n\nWhat do you think of my \"plan\"? Any advice?\n\nPD: As you can see im kinda unconfident (maybe because i never kissed nor been in a relationship) so i you could link me media to be more confident with girls that would be great!", "summary": "Insecure guy asked her for drinks. She agreed. Im taking her to the dribks and planning on making my intetions clear at the end of the date. Also, link me content to be more confident with girls."}
{"id": "t3_1atqth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (26M) of 3.5 years has cheated on me (21F) three times. I don't know what to do.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and we are each others best friends. We live together in a 1 bed room apartment. And he's just my world. Other than him cheating on me we have a really good relationship. We can talk about anything, and I trust him with everything.\n\nHe first cheated on me within the first few months of us being together. There were some girls that he sexted before we got together that he just never stopped sexting. One day he left his email open and I saw all the pictures that he had sent from his phone to his email. I guess to save them for later. I confronted him, he apologized, and said it would never happen again. His explanation for it was that his previous girlfriend wouldn't let him watch porn so he felt like he was still retaliating. I knew we weren't super serious so I decided to forgive him and move on.\n\nAfter being together for almost 2 years he went out with about 6 of his male friends to a party. Apparently, he spent all night dancing and making out with a chick there. The next day he came clean to me about it. He said that he was really drunk and he felt guilty about it. He said that he wanted to tell me (even though I would have never found out) because I deserved to know. Still, I forgave him, and I just wanted to move past it.\n\nLast night, he told me that a week ago when he was at a bar with his friends he wound up kissing a girl. He said he doesn't know who she was, and that he was incredibly drunk, and kind of out of it.\n\nI just. I don't get it. I try so hard to understand that people make mistakes. I try to be the best girlfriend that I can. He's left me throughout the years of us being together feeling inadequate. I have to struggle with my self esteem because of the things he has done.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just. I'm at such a loss.", "summary": "Dated 3.5 years. Partner has cheated 3 times. I know I should break up but I don't know if another chance is worth it."}
{"id": "t3_1k8wo8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, what do you think could be the best city between Berlin or Sydney to do a masters?", "post": "Well, ***song reference: ***as a 25 year old young-professional-dude I don't know what to do with my life after achieve a few long term quests like, finishing Uni and working for a big advertising agency. I feel like is quite common between people like me to feel this way, after all, we didn't decide to live the life we are leading. Also, after a few years doing/working for the same goals all of us live in -call it system or society-. (this ideas can go deeper and deeper 'till realized money isn't important)\n\nI've came out with the idea of changing city, leave everything except family and do a masters in something related to advertising -so I can escape from this industry- and start over again in another place that represents a challenge. Out of routine. \n\nBut after living in London for a year, routine always comes back. That's why I feel I want to exit the system -well, we all want to fcuk it but defeating the system is only possible if I used it-. \n\nThat's what collective knowledge and understanding plays a massive role and you my fellow Redditors. As  only child I might be sponsored for one year -single mom-, so what do you think is the best city between Berlin or Sydney to start a life and possible stay there. Challenging or not I'd like to know more your perspectives of the city culture, quality of living and people and of course, good food.", "summary": "I have the opportunity to choose any city in the world to do a masters, I came out with Berlin and Sydney due to friends or migrations possibilities, as I'm 25 year old young professional with this kid-professional crisis of not knowing what to do I'm interested in arts. Any point of view is well received in moments of confusion. Thanks if you took the time to read.  "}
{"id": "t3_4gxnyx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) with friends and romantic partners (20sF/M)", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this but I feel like I don't love anyone. I care about my friends sure but I don't know if I love them. Recently I've noticed that over the past few months whenever I told people I loved them I never really felt like I did? I know that I have loved people before and whenever I said it back then I felt it, now I just feel empty when I say it. I do care about these people, I know I do but it's like I'm incapable of loving them and I don't know why. I'm currently in a relationship and I care so much about the guy I'm dating but I don't know if I actually love him. I know he loves me and sometimes it hurts because I feel like I can't give him what he gives me. I want to love him, I think he's absolutely amazing but if tomorrow he said he didn't want to talk anymore I don't think I'd be that upset about it.", "summary": "I don't think I love anyone and I don't know why?"}
{"id": "t3_j1kfb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My office has started Prank Wars. It is crucial my group wins... Ideas?", "post": "The office I work in has a group of six interns, three girls and three boys. Originally, we started playing pranks on each other when one person was out of the office. It started off simple with things like turning everything in the cubicles backwards, tilting computer screens, etc, until last week when my group (the girls) completely wrapped everything in the boy's cubicles in tinfoil and saran wrap (computer moniters, chairs, speakers, printers, pens, staplers, cups, literally everything) while they were all out of the office, so they were unable to get into their cubes the next day. They are now planning something big to get us all back (probably on Friday since all of the girls will be gone), so we need to start planning ways to retaliate. Please help us Reddit!", "summary": "We've started intern prank wars. My group struck first, completely saran wrapping the boys' cubicles. We're patiently waiting for their prank which will happen Friday, meanwhile we need to start planning our next attack."}
{"id": "t3_31v8od", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] have an unbelievable amount of sex with my [25/M] brother every weekend and it is affecting family relationships.", "post": "We have been doing this nearly every weekend since August. I go to his house on friday, get high and engage in extreme sexual activity until sunday. it's completely my fault - i pressured him to do drugs for the sole purpose of getting him to sleep with me. It has begun to affect our relationship as well as our relationship with our mother. \n\nI should also mention that our mother came by 2 weekends ago unexpectedly to drop something off while i was fully nude and dancing/shaking in front of my brother, who was on the couch and she saw me through the window. I ran into the bathroom and she just left. when i returned home, she was clearly upset and subtly let me know that my bro and i have been doing things.\n\n I know this is wrong but I genuinely enjoy everything we do. am i sick?", "summary": "seduced my brother, had regular sex, enjoyed it for months and now i think it's time to stop. how do i resist the urges and convince my mother we aren't sleeping together? should i seek help?"}
{"id": "t3_3mqtbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/22] told my \"Girlfriend\" [F/23] I lost my virginity to her after she thought I wasn't a virgin...", "post": "Hello all! It's kinda a long one but its eating me up inside. Im sorry If i don't explain it well but ill do my best and all/any advice would be greatly appreciated!          \n\nSo I met this girl online, we meet up and start kinda dating, we are really into each other and I got really nervous about losing my virginity to her. We were not really in a relationship, we would just meet up and talk and kiss and stuff. So the night it happened I had a free place and invite her over, she comes over and we do it. It really was incredible at the time...lost of kisses and cuddles and eye gazing and loads of other stuff. so i drop her off home the next morning and 2 hours later she rings me crying that her dad had a stroke and she needs to go back to poland!!!!           \n\nFast forward 2 weeks when she comes back, she lays it out that she doesn't want a relationship and she can't even touch me. We use to hold hands and stuff and when i try to, or even hug her she's so receptive. So yesterday we met up and I told her i needed to tell her something, but I bailed. She txts me last night begging me to tell her so I do and now she has completly stopped talking to me as she said she feels lied to and used. I mean she is bluntly responding to my messages, and has deleted and blocked me on Facebook. I'm so confused and don't know what to do!          \n\nI told her that my virginity meant a lot to me and i didn't just want to give it away to anyone but she didn't seem to care. Im just so confused and I feel lost and like she doesn't give a shit about my feeling and I really don't know what to do. ive never really been in a relationship and ive told her I have, cause I was too embarrassed and I think she just assumed I had sex before.       Any advice? :/", "summary": "Lost my virginity to a girl I thought I liked, after saying she doesn't want a relationship i tell her that she was my first time and now she doesn't want to talk to me.          "}
{"id": "t3_2ha5l1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking sleeping pills.", "post": "This happened on Monday but nonetheless I'm not happy about it.\n\nOn Sunday I closed for the job I work at and I was out until about 12AM. After a 12 hour shift I was extremely exhausted. And so, once I got home from said job, I decided to take a shower and take some sleeping pills, and go to sleep. Not in that order. I took the pills first, not knowing what effect they would have on me.\n\nI get into a nice hot shower and begin to feel very drowsy. About five minutes into the shower (and 15 minutes after taking the pills) I decided to just sit down in the shower and let the water wash over me for a while. No one else was home so I figured, why not? I don't remember much after that.\n\nOn Monday, I had another shift to work at 10AM. I woke up in the shower at 9:54 and realized my wrongdoing. I panicked and got to work as quick as possible, getting their six minutes after my shift was supposed to start. My boss was not happy at all, and I received a scolding despite it being my fourth day on the job. I nearly got fired but it's water under the bridge now. My manager found out what happened and actually laughed it off with me.", "summary": "took sleeping pills before getting into a hot shower, fell asleep in the shower and was late for work the next day."}
{"id": "t3_1wlxod", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I think I'm going to be jumped by two idiot drug addicts in my town. What can I do? Not talking to police unless they do something.", "post": "Hi. I recently moved out to the east coast for work without knowing anyone so i pick up weed from these scumbags. weeds my only vice so yes, i have to pick up lol. i wont go into detail, but these idiots think i stole something from them, an item that is worth literally less than ten dollars at a pawn shop. I didnt steal anything, im a grown man working a full time job who doesnt need to do crack head things like steal items to pawn off for miniscule amounts of cash.\n\nlike ive said multiple times, these guys are STUPID. since i didnt do anything, im acting as if things are normal and im supposed to pick up from them later tonight, hoping they realize a grown man with an office job doesnt need to steal an old pair of shoes. they are acting very suspicious, keep trying to get me to meet in weird places. i think they are going to try and jump me.\n\nAssuming i am not going to cancel meeting them, what can I do? If these guys try to hurt me I'm going to overreact, but to what extent can I do that without going to prison? I have about 100 pounds on both of them, they are very small. Hypothetically if one just starts hitting me, can I stab him? Id gladly tell the police that these scumbags are dealers and show them all the info they need to discredit them. I really dont want to go to jail over these lowlifes, but I WILL defend myself.", "summary": "if two drug dealers try and jump me, can I stab them? will I go to jail? Also I'm white and from a family of lawyers, they aren't. They both have arrest records and I don't have even a parking ticket."}
{"id": "t3_21akax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28/f] friend [34/f] is latching on to all my friends.... and she's super cold to me! WTF?", "post": "So a few years back I moved to a new town and tried making friends with this girl who i'd kind of already known through mutual acquaintances. I pushed to hang out a few times, but she always seemed kinda... meh toward me. That is, until a few months later when I had made like 15 interesting friends! All of a sudden she comes out of the woodwork and wants to hang out/ go to parties and such with these people (MY people)\n\nI thought it would be cool, because the more the merrier. It's been about 2 years now, and she just keeps latching (I mean, getting super close with my friends, but not me, and always posting/ commenting on their facebook shit but never mine, for example. She only ever asks me one question: how are you doing? but she doesn't mean it. It's kind of a \"oh honey, are you doing ok?\" pity question) She has never once intro'd me to anyone, but seems to feel entitled to everyone I know. She soaks up information about their personal lives and bonds on to them quickly, without including me in on any of it.\n\nI can't exclude her now that she's in the fold, obviously. But I made three AMAZING new girlfriends last week, and my immediate thought was not to introduce her to them\n\nI keep thinking she will come around and be sort of somewhat decent to me, because we have so much in common. But she's so disinterested toward me, and always makes snarky rude comments, and belittles me in slight ways. WTF girl???\n\nI get kinda pissed when my friends love her because she's so \"great\" when she doesn't take the time to be so \"great\" to me. Sometimes I wonder if she's being a dick to me on purpose, like maybe she enjoys it?\n\nAnyone have advice on how to handle this or what to do? I feel like even bringing it up will make me seem like a bitch...", "summary": "girlfriend is leapfrogging onto all my friends"}
{"id": "t3_2lsol1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] and my roommates [25/30M] don't want our fourth roommate [30F] to get a dog.", "post": "We already have cats, which is enough. We are graduate students (little to no free time and frequent 10-12 hour days), no fenced in yard, a smaller house, and she wants a large energetic and loud dog (Husky). I love dogs, but realistically we can't give it half the care and attention it deserves.  Let alone issues with getting along with our cats, training, letting it out midday, etc. \n\nShe seems set on getting a dog, despite our concerns and lack of support. We're having an official house talk tonight, but are worried she'll get a dog despite a unanimous no. What can we do? I'm going to try to let her down as easy as I can because I don't want to lose a friend, but what can we do if she ignores our concerns?", "summary": "Fourth roommate wants a dog, no one else does"}
{"id": "t3_2zvw0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] find a girl [18 F] at my workplace cute. She's leaving the job, what do i do?", "post": "My background: 0 relationship experience. Never hugged or kissed another girl before. \n\nSo i just started work a week ago(part time retail), and i met this really cute girl 3 days ago [18 F]. She have been working for a couple months already and is going to leave in a week time. That leaves me with only a week left to see/talk to her. But because we work at different shifts, i can say that the most i get to see her for, is another 3 days.\n\nAt my first day of work she totally didnt want to communicate with me at all. Our superior tried to introduce me to her and her to me. I gladly smiled at her but.. she didnt even bother to look at me or say hi. I thought i left a bad impression of myself, on her. But on my 2nd day of work, she suddenly initiated a conversation with me and we started chatted throughout work and it was really nice because i get to know her abit more. She seems happy to chat with me BUT she also chats happily with one of our male colleagues.\n\nI don't know what to do since she is leaving in a week, i really want to stay in touch with her as her friend, and continue from there, but how? I've already got her number (over here we share all our colleague's numbers.)\n\nBecause i have no experience, i dont know the DOs/DONTs.\n\nCan i tell her that she's really cute? \n\nShould i ask her out for a meal? \n\nCan i ask her how she feels about me?", "summary": "I met a girl at work, she is leaving soon, i want to stay in touch with her without being a creep because i only met her a couple days ago."}
{"id": "t3_iqvqs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Really odd sitch -- what to do now?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nMy wife and I graduated and went on honeymoon about a month and a fortnight ago. Graduating and getting wedded being a time-suck, we didn't get a chance to look for post-grad housing. While we were in the Caribbeans, being really desperate (she was terrified of homelessness...long story) we Craigslisted a place that seemed pretty good for a one-month sublet while we hunted for apartments. The CL OP made the fair-sounding point that because she was leaving for vacation for a month right when we got back, she could not hold the place unless we put down a hefty half-deposit for USD600. When we got back, we found out that it was a SENIOR HOUSING APARTMENT studio. She told us she technically isn't legally permitted to do this, but we should just tell people we are friends house-sitting for her. Given that we don't have a ton of a money, the deposit effectively locked us. What was especially unpleasant for a pair of stupid college-grad newlyweds was that the neighbors were super-nosy and clearly did not think we belonged there, which after all was a true point. It was really an unpleasant, repressive (in every possible way!) situation, not helped by its illegality. We are quiet, polite folks who didn't have people over, didn't receive mail, didn't leave a mess anywhere, etc (all things she'd prohibited -- such a sweet-looking 60 yo lady who managed to give all those instructions with a remarkably steely glint in her eyes). Unsurprisingly, we didn't get our damage deposit back despite our good behavior, but we kind of figured she wasn't the type to.\n\nWe wonder now if we have some obligation to reach authorities or otherwise publicize the incident. She NEVER MET US before making up the contract, so we could've been drug dealers from the Caribbeans (a security issue for her apartment filled with 55+!) and we also felt scammed because we had no idea that we were doing something even she knew was illegal. What options would you recommend, or should we just drop it?", "summary": "Got scammed? on CL into living in a senior housing apartment. Neighbors were pissed. We were pissed."}
{"id": "t3_3hjxzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (33f) is mad at me (35m) because I named our daughter after an adult actress", "post": "I won't say her first name but my daughter's middle name is Akira. \nMy wife loved it when she heard the idea. We made a compromise that she picked the first name and I picked the middle. She is a newborn in case anyone is wondering.\n\nShe knows I'm into adult entertainment, I have been to a couple adult cons and she doesn't mind as long I am doing a good job where I'm supposed to.\n\nShe found out when I admitted it to her and told her the reason why I chose it and she was upset and says now she wants to legally change it or remove it. Her reasoning is because it's weird and thinks I am going overboard with my porn fetish (I don't know what else to call it).\n\nIn no way I want my daughter to become an adult actress. I simply just loved the name and went with it.", "summary": "wife mad because i named our daughter after my fave porn actress Asa Akira"}
{"id": "t3_2rszsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [22 M] 8 months, I'm more often bored than not.", "post": "First things first. My relationship is a pretty good one. Two or three very minor hiccups aside, we've never fallen out or had a fight. Its my first serious relationship, and when I fell for him, I fell pretty hard. Most of the time when I'm around him, I'm head over heels and the feeling is mutual. \n\nI'm still in university, while my BF is now in a good job and works hard at it. I've never been one for going out much, so when nights in watching TV when he was exhausted after working past closing time became common, I was happy enough with the arrangement.\n\nHowever, these days, if it's not watching TV, it's surfing the internet on separate devices. When I suggest going out for a walk or to the cinema, he usually agrees at first but always forgets or is ' too tired' to go. Any suggestion that he works too hard or needs a day off is brushed off and ignored. My idea of date night was never a 4 hour marathon of old tv shows. My roommate has just started a new relationship and it just keeps reminding me how dull our relationship is at the moment.\n\nHe does cook for me and take me out on occasion to dinner. The sex is still pretty good too, although there have been one or two problems there too in recent times due to his tiredness. We are honest and open in all areas of our relationship, but I'm just afraid of bringing this up in case he misinterprets me.\n\nWhen I tried to talk with his (not six months graduated) roommate about it, he just accused me of being 'too young' to understand and I was 'too much of a college student' in the first place and should have known what I was getting into.\n\nI just want some kind of advice here, on how to stop this becoming less of a nuisance and more of a major problem. I am in no way interested in breaking up with him, but I'm afraid this might cause me to start falling out of love with him.", "summary": "I'm firmly in love with my BF, a feeling that is very much mutual. However, he has lost almost all interest in doing anything that involves going outside the door after work. I'm bored stiff with this arrangement but none of my suggestions get anywhere. It's not a major problem but I'm afraid it might become one."}
{"id": "t3_s73xk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been a suffering as a victim from my mom's problem for 13 years. What can I do?", "post": "My mom has what she calls these \"obstacles\", which is basically when she wires money to people through western union or green dot. These happen about once every 2 days, and the people request around $500 each time. I'm 15 and currently staying with a good friend of mine because of my living situation. My mom has been secretive about what this money is going towards, but my Uncle has come up with that my mom is a victim of a \"Gypsy scam\". He thought of this because my mom always says she can't explain this problem because it will jinx it, and that the money is coming back to us. She has resorted to stealing from my grandparents, taking my college funds (roughly $15,000) and works as a lap dancer. We haven't confronted her about the fact we think she's being scammed by gypsies yet, because we know she will just deny it. What can I do to convince my mom that she's being scammed, and she needs to start rebuilding our lives?", "summary": "My mom has been giving about $2,000 a week to people thinking she's making our lives better. What do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_utxj9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "SO thinks I want to leave her, how do I convince her  otherwise?", "post": "Background: I'm British, she is Thai. Prior to meeting her I had a general interest in the far east and decided I would move there at some point. I picked Japan due to accessibility, and it is not unknown that I have an interest in oriental women. \n\nWe met about 3 years ago and got on amazingly, and we still do besides one major problem; my decision I made *prior to meeting her* about moving to Japan has become a horrible negative on my relationship. She believes that I picked Japan because I want to \"marry a Japanese woman\". I have repeatedly denied this, since it simply isn't true. I have told her why I picked it, and that is why I invested a few years of my life to prepare to move there.\n\nBecause I prepared to move there I have a lot of friends from Japan, I can speak Japanese to a conversational level and a few other things, such as I understand their immigration laws, job market and a load of very useful things that would aid me moving there.\n\nAfter we got together she saw this level of preparation as a threat, she believes that I plan to move there to marry a Japanese woman, despite the fact I've *already proposed to her and she accepted*.\n\nI had a massive argument with her today for the first time in a year about it; she is still convinced of this. When I tell her that I picked Japan out of convenience, she tells me to \"Just pick another country then and we can live there\". How can she not understand that I spent two to three years of my life preparing to move, and that \"just picking another\" is not as easy as it seems? \n\nI do not understand why she is so threatened. I am perfectly happy with her, I don't have interest in other women and I just want to forfil a life goal of mine that I had since *before* I met her. I have no ulterior motives. I just want to do it; I am the kind of person that does these things.", "summary": "Is there anything i can do to convince her that I don't want to run off with a Japanese woman? "}
{"id": "t3_qool5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do I just have to man the fuck up? (Job)", "post": "Just to clarify at the beginning: My situation is not the most horrible one, I'm just asking for advice from more experienced people.\n\nSo I started at my first real job eight months ago.\nAfter the management introduced a new ERP-System, the workload was fucking huge. The new system brought so many restrictions that I couldn't handle my new customers (other huge companies) properly. \nWe had to find workarounds for nearly all of my customers.\n\nOk, this already was a lot of work. But we couldn't even change the settings of the system so I can handle my work properly in the future. This means, I have to do the workarounds until they maybe release a new version of the software.\n\nPlus, I am somebody who is scared of making mistakes or forgetting something. I can't sleep properly because I always think about what I have to do the next day or if I had forgotten to do something.\nI haven't had a free day in eight months beside weekends. I sometimes work 10 hours a day or have to come in at saturdays.\n\nI am currently looking for a new job without my employer knowing. (Already have an interview) If I leave, a lot of Know-How would be lost because I learned a ton of things in those eight months.\n\nBut I don't want that my coworkers are flooded with work when I leave, because I really like my team and my boss. It's not their fault that so many things went downhill, it's the management I'm pissed at.\n\nSo what would should I do? Just man the fuck up and hope for better times? Or leave and try my luck at a new job?", "summary": "Big Bosses fucked up, my team and I have to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_359lf3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shutting out the person I love the most [Warning: Sad]", "post": "I've had a long history of abusive boyfriends. I've been raped, pushed, hit, emotionally manipulated, the list goes on. That started when I was 14, all because I wanted to show people how I loved them and that they mattered, they weren't alone. I did this for others, because I myself didn't want to feel alone. \n\nThis year, I met a man who connected with me on such a deep level that it was almost impossible to believe. We immediately just took it and ran. No labels, no 'dating', we just did our thing, and when I did something for him (gift, chore help etc), he would do the same in return, simply because he wanted to give me equal to what I gave him. We met each other's families, everyone liked everyone. One day he told me he thought he was falling in love with me. \n\nBut I was scared. I had a history of people destroying me if I let them in too close. So I reminded him frequently of things like \"I'm polyamorous, I need freedom, etc\", all because I was so afraid. The entire time I was falling in love with him, and he was hurting from all my attempts at distance for self preservation.\nI hurt him so bad.\n\nNow that I've finally come to accept my feelings, finally felt comfortable with letting him in...I've fucked it up enough that he came to terms with just friends with benefits, and now he just doesn't want a relationship anymore at all. He just wants to be alone to work on himself.\n\nWhich I understand. I get that. But I was the one that fucked it all up with my poly and 'free spirit' bullshit. I've never loved anyone or anything more in my life, and I was so scared of that, I pushed him out the door, and he doesn't want to come back.", "summary": "Met likely one of the most important people in my life. I was scared of letting people in because of my past, so I put up walls. When I finally opened up, I realized my walls hurt him so much he just didn't want me anymore. I seriously FUCKED UP. "}
{"id": "t3_35pxv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My recent-ex (32/m) just dumped me (26/f) after 15 months. I feel the need to explain myself to him.", "post": "My ex and I had been going out for 15 months. \n\nI am very hard to get along with, hence the username. I am often called a bitch and usually drive men away within a few months. \n\nOver the last couple of months, his happiness has spiraled downward, and as I result, I have suffered from the anger and depression. \n\nHe, essentially, blamed me for ruining our relationship because I am not a naturally happy person and he doesn't make me happy. (I believe happiness should not be based solely upon the person you are with.)\n\nShould I send him a letter explaining myself, how I felt, how much I have tried throughout the relationship? I don't want to get back together with him, but I don't want him to think that I don't care about him.", "summary": "I am bitchy, it fucked up my relationship. Should I send him an email explaining my actions?"}
{"id": "t3_ufx63", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Prom date problems", "post": "So, I had my prom last night, and I had a really great time with my date. I was excited to go with her because I had a thing for here, and we were both going to the same college next fall. She was totally into me all night long. During the after party, we had some drinks, and we kissed on and off throughout the night. When were getting ready to go to sleep, I told her to come and lay down next to me on the futon, and 10 mins later she got up and said she would be right back. 20 mins past by, I was no longer tired so I got up in search of where she went. Turns out she went upstairs and was talking to one of my friends, and they ended up kissing for what my friend said was 2 seconds. I didn't see them kiss, but I did see them talking. After I saw that, I awkwardly got a call from my friend, who is also friends with the girl that I like, to open the door for her. She said she was sorry that it happened, I said that we would talk about it later. Any advice?", "summary": "My friend ended up kissing the girl I liked after we had been kissing each other on and off throughout the night."}
{"id": "t3_4f6k7s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Day 1 (again...) F/29/5'6.5/SW196.4", "post": "So, today is day 1... again. I'm getting really sick of starting \"over\". \n\nOver the past 8 years, I've gained 50 pounds. I topped out at 202 about 2 years ago. I've done and quit Weight Watchers, MFP and low carb diets, I don't know how many times over the years. I've had the gym membership, C25K, workout videos, etc. I know what I need to do, I just can't stick with it, and I'm sick of half ass \"trying\".\n\nSo that's why I'm here. Today is Day 1, again, and I'm wondering what I can do to stick with it. I'm wanting to do low carb since I can't control myself around carbs. My thing is, I don't know how to stick with it. I'm great at starting my day pumped and ready to take it on, make the lifestyle change, and lose the weight, but by the end of the day, I want pizza and beer. I don't think I've made it past 4 whole days in the past 5 years. \n\nSo r/loseit, what motivates you to keep going? Any advice on sticking with it? \n\nI'm ready to do this, but I also just really want a biscuit! WTF.", "summary": "Want to do low carb diet, can't follow through over the past 8 years, I lack motivation and determination. How do I get past day 4?"}
{"id": "t3_3mwbaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Left BF because he has feelings for his ex - was I right?", "post": "I've[29F] been dating my best friend[25M] for the last 7 months or so. I knew when we started dating that he still loved his ex gf, but I also know that you can't really help who you love. I still love one of my exes, though I would never go back to him, so I sympathize.\n\nHe was always very open and honest that he still had feelings for her, and in fact, I didn't mind him talking about her. He always said he loved me and the fact that he still loved her didn't mean anything about the two of us.\n\nLike any relationship, we experienced our shares of ups and downs but we were amazingly close, closer than I have ever been with anyone else. Things seemed to be going very well overall.\n\nWellllllll, that was all fine until a few days ago when he mentioned that if she reappeared in his life (they haven't spoken for almost two years), and asked for him back he wouldn't be able to say no.\n\nI thought about it for about a day and broke it off with him, saying that I understand that you cannot help who you love but that I never wanted to be anyone's second choice.\n\nIt really hurts though - did I do the right thing? Maybe he would have eventually gotten over her?", "summary": "Bf said he would go back to his ex, and I broke it off with him. Was I right?"}
{"id": "t3_19afgc", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Principal gets it!", "post": "So, when I was in high school my principal, Mr. C, and his administration was never too fond of the \"arts.\" My high school was a small football high school\u2026. Nuff said.\n\nI am a musical, theatrical type of person so this, in plain words, pissed me off. I ran a set crew for the middle school drama club consisting of 7 or 8 high schoolers. Basically, we would go back to the middle school, 30-45 minutes from the high school during the week after school and on weekends to help build the set for the middle school.\n\nThere were 2 days a year we needed to miss a day of school for the plays. It was for the dress rehearsal of the spring and fall play. Mr. C didn't like that at all. And always gave us a hard time, lectured us about how unimportant it was, and put on a whole shit show to illustrate his disapproval. But our parents signed release forms written so ultimately, there was nothing he could do to stop us. \n\nGRADUATED YAY\n\nSo, now I perform music in various bars throughout my hometown and surrounding area. And I have been waiting for the day Mr. C shows up in one of these bars. Last Friday. It happened. \n\nI was giddy. I changed my set list around and the third song of the first set I dedicated a song to him. \n\n\"I always love seeing my teachers from highschool out at bars. It gives me time to talk and catch up with them. And in high school there were many teachers I liked.. but as always there were certain people I DIDN'T like\" and looked right at him. \n\n\"Why you gotta be so mean\u2026 I can see you years from now in a bar\u2026 a liar, and pathetic, and alone in life\" \n\nI stared at him the ENTIRE time.\n\nAt the end of the song he threw his money down at the bartender and stormed out of the place. I called after him in the microphone \"Bye Mr. C!!\" \n\nWas deliciously vengeful.", "summary": "Principal was a complete and total asshole throughout my high school career, sang Mean by Taylor Swift at a bar he was at and announced it was for him."}
{"id": "t3_3r5tgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend's [16 F] parents are stating that they are going to forcefully remove her from school", "post": "I've never done one of these before so please bare with me. \n\nMy friend's [16 F] lives in an abusive household, to my knowledge verbal, but i do not doubt that there is physical abuse. She is forced to work two jobs and she is not allowed to quit. As a result her grades are below average (D's). Her parents continue to abuse her by calling he retarded, stupid, and a lost cause. They are pressuring her to drop out, but tonight they stated that they are going to pull her from school. She is a junior in High school and does not want to leave. \n\nI need to know if they can do this, and if not, what steps can she do to remove herself from this position. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Some quick information about laws regarding this is what I am looking for, however any help would be greatly appreciated. She lives in Illinois in the United States. I'm sorry if I'm breaking any rules by posting on behalf of somebody, but it has gotten very drastic. Please help.", "summary": "My friend's parents are deprive her of her right to a basic education against her wishes."}
{"id": "t3_vesov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I help my depressed fiance not feel so numb to things he once loved/enjoyed doing?", "post": "So, cutting to the chase, my fiance is going through a bout of depression. He suffered panic attacks, anxiety and drank too much due to stress at college and work. He's 23, we've been together for almost three years. He was put on anxiety meds and antidepressants, which he abruptly stopped taking after only a month. I know this can severely fuck up a person's chemicals, and I believe he's having rough withdrawal symptoms.\n\nAnyway, besides irritability and vomiting, he's been feeling apathetic and numb to most everything he used to love. He says he still has feelings for me, loves me, and wants to make our relationship work(we've been arguing a lot for almost a year, mostly due to all of this undiagnosed depression/drinking/anxiety), still says he's physically attracted to me, and yet, says he feels nothing emotionally when he kisses me, feels very uncomfortable with any physical affection,and  acts like he doesn't really care if I'm even around or not.\n\nHe also feels numb to something he has always, since he was little boy, wanted and been passionate about: Being a dad, and a husband, and having a family. He feels completely numb to it.\n\nHow can I help him, support him getting better, and be there for him? What can I do besides just saying, \"Hey, I'm here if you need me\"?\n\nSince he doesn't want me touching him, I can't give him hugs or hold his hand to reassure him he'll be okay, so what can I say, what little things can I do for him? Bake him something?\n\nOh, and he's got a doc appt. to get on antidepressants in a week.", "summary": "Depressed fiance feels numb to me, things he once wanted and loved, and feels no emotion to me touching/kissing him, and feels very uncomfortable with physical affection. What non-physical things can I do to help/support him/make him feel better, and less numb?***"}
{"id": "t3_2erupa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Consolidating debt, good idea?", "post": "Hi Guys,\n\nI have 5 credit cards with roughly 10k debt total. One of these cards charges me about $100 per month in finance charges as it has $6,000 on it. \n\nI have 4 other cards that have 4,000 combined. One has 1,500, one has 1,000, one has 1,100 and the last one has 400. \n\nAnyways, I'm tired of the finance charge from the biggest card and have applied for a personal loan to consolidate my debt. I was denied for my $10,000 loan and offered a $5,000 loan as they could only offer a loan for what I currently make per month. \n\nI talked to my parents and they are willing to SIGN for the loan and I'll be a co-borrower so their credit will get me the full loan. Their credit score is around 750. \n\nBefore they go into the bank, I just wanted to make sure I'm doing the right thing. I'll pay about $300 per month for 36 months for this loan. I plan on paying it off much faster but can't afford to do an 18 month loan where I get stuck with $600 per month at the minimum. \n\nAny tips for this? Is this a good idea?", "summary": "Consolidating 10k worth of debt. Parents will sign for the loan and they have near perfect credit. Good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2rfuta", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How do you track shoe prices to get better deals?", "post": "I started \"seriously\" running a few years ago (I'm a slow runner, but by \"serious,\" I mean doing it frequently and entering races). I went to Road Runner and found that the Mizuno Wave Creations were good for my feet. I used to get weird pains before, from an old injury, but they helped me feel much better after a run.\n\nAnyway, I buy a new pair each year, since I put about 300-400 miles on them in 12 months anyway, but each year I was spending like $140 because the new versions had just come out.\n\nYesterday I hit Road Runner's sale and instead of shelling out $140-160 for the newest model, I just bought a way marked down (and UGLY!) version of last year's for $60 bucks. I'm happy about this, but I was wondering if there was a happy middle, where I can spend maybe $90-100 once a current year's model is a little old but not a whole year old.", "summary": "What do you all do to find a good price on your favorite model of shoe? What time of year is the good for getting discounts on the current model?"}
{"id": "t3_1fq5yv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M/33] in love with my current GF [F/37] but can't keep thinking about my ex [F/32]. Help, please.", "post": "So, here's my dilemma:  ended a three and a half year relationship with my exgf [F/32] back in October.  Basically broke up over me keeping things from her about my children from my previous marriage while at the same time I felt she would make it difficult for me to see them and for them to spend time with their baby brother (the child we had together).  For awhile, even though we would have our arguments, we at least talked still and things seemed \"okay\" at best.  But after getting into a huge fight with her at Christmas, things went south pretty fast.\n\nThen in March I started dating my current gf[F/37] and I love her.  We have so much in common and she is great with me spending time with my kids.  Everything has been awesome since then and I want to be with her, but here lately I can't keep from longing for my ex, who I still feel love for.\n\nI'm afraid that I may have jumped too soon into getting into a relationship so soon after my breakup, but what was done is done.  I just really need help with these feelings that I am having and what I can do about them.", "summary": "Love my current GF but still hung up on my ex-gf, whom we have a child together."}
{"id": "t3_4yiw27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my friend[21 M] of 3 years, how do I ask him out?", "post": "We met online a few years ago and have met in person but mostly talk over text about fandom and daily life. We're both huge geeks for anime, musicals, games, conventions and mysteries and have discussed cosplaying together and such. \n\nI'm 95% sure we both like each other and don't want to go into too much detail about the relationship itself. I just need ideas of how to ask him out without having an anxiety attack. I thought of using shared interests but I don't know how to do so without horrible puns.\n\nHe's more outgoing when competing or performing than I am but with relationships we're both extremely awkward, which leaves us stuck hinting and joking.\n  \nRecently we've been talking about hanging out and some little hints have been made on both sides but nothing overt enough to make either of us speak up. \n\nIt's not so much a fear of rejection as it is a severe general anxiety- I'm a person who doesn't order food over the phone or ask people to group with me for projects. I can't be extremely direct unless I'm discussing philosophy or facts. \n\nAny ideas of a method that doesn't involve a miniature heart attack?", "summary": "Myself and friend too awkward to make a move. How do I ask him out without backing out?"}
{"id": "t3_21zb5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] was about to enter my first relationship, and now hope is fading. Help me stop panicking?", "post": "I was being set up with a wonderful girl by my best friends, and it was going well. She would drunk call/text me, and even when sober we hit it off quite well. After 3-4 weeks and a few double dates, I decided to text her about doing something together. Just the two of us. \n\nI first asked her if she was free on Friday, to which she responded the next morning in the affirmative. I then proposed dinner and my plans, and haven't heard anything back for 12 hours. \n\nI have no idea what will happen, nor do I believe it possible to predict. I'm just sitting here - a kissless virgin who was on the cusp of a wonderful relationship - faced with the potential of having to start all over again. And I'm terrified and on the verge of a mild panic attack.", "summary": "I know in 10 years this won't matter. I know life goes on. But I can't seem to calm down, and I'm terrified of what's to come. Any advice/perspective?"}
{"id": "t3_3vqioj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [late 20's M] with my [late 20's F] wife of 6 years. Had relationship issues a year ago and can't stop thinking about divorce.", "post": "Summary from last year\n\nI was thinking about our relationship and where we were at. I ask her how she thinks things are. We end up deciding to divorce, but she took a look at herself and things she needed to work on. I decided to stay and work things out with her. \n\nLately, I cannot stop thinking about all the events that happened last year. I have been looking at divorce more and more. I cannot get these thoughts out of my mind. We don't really have any relationship problems, but I do not think we are compatible romantically. We don't have many shared interests and don't have conversations unless it is about work or some family gossip, etc . . .\n\nPlease give me some advice. Do I start the divorce process or do I stay in the relationship that I don't feel will last much longer.", "summary": "Last year we agreed to get divorced, then decided to work it out. Lately, I can't stop thinking about telling her I want out."}
{"id": "t3_1fa9ca", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My GF(18F) broke up with me (18M) due to impending college separation. I want to get back together at some point. How should I approach this?", "post": "Things were going well for about 2 months, then she surprised me with a \"let's talk\". Afterwards, she told me she still had feelings for me and it was not at all my fault. I understand her reasons (She's pretty intelligent and very independent.), but I think if the circumstances were different we'd still be together. I'm interested in dating her again, but I don't know how to approach this goal if a long distance relationship is unavoidable. Should I wait till we both get settled into school and see where things go from there? I'd especially like to hear from someone who has reconnected with someone they've dated in high school later in life.", "summary": "My girlfriends broke up with me because she doesn't want a LDR, but still has feelings for me and I want to continue dating again within a decent time frame."}
{"id": "t3_4v9zyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[32 M] -[34 F] wife spent night at hotel, zero paper trail, spider sense tingles.", "post": "I just wrote a way more detailed version of this, but the damned mobile site just wiped it clean. Married 3 years, in relationship for 6.\n\nLong story short: wife has been caught lying about drinking while breastfeeding in the past.\n\nWe have a fight on Sunday, she goes to a hotel with our 8 week old baby, the first time this has happened.\n\nShe comes back on Monday afternoon, I can smell booze on her breath, I say nothing.\n\nA few days later, turns out she paid cash for everything and has no receipts for anything.\n\nShe never pays cash for anything. Her combination of indignance at my questions and certain other behaviors have culminated in my having a rather large basket of red flags to deal with. I have caught her slurring while denying having drinks in the past.\n\nShe swears up and down that all she did was have two beers and some nachos. I want to believe her, but I cannot bring myself to do so.\n\nThis looks, feels, quacks like a duck.\n\n I am surprised she has stuck to the story so adamantly: in my head it's either true, or the truth is worse than the exposed coverup and loss of trust. \n\nThe words \"lying scum\" were said, by me. Regardless of the truth, I shouldn't have gone there. \n\nI am currently parked a few miles away from home, after driving off, wondering what the hell is happening.\n\nsanity check?", "summary": "trust is lost, seemingly deliberate elimination of paper trail is smoking gun, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1vjt6g", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Feel like i was unlawfully arrested,held in jail, and not read any rights.What should I do?(story in comments)", "post": "This guy driving a truck in my rural neighborhood speedily ran down two of our ponies with my mother being in between both of them, so my mother was hit as well. I came down the road a few minutes later when the police had arrived, at which point I yelled \"hey mother fucker you need to watch where you're driving\" I was about 3 feet away from the cops and had made eye contact as well as paused a few seconds before saying anything. then the officers jumped on me threw me on the ground and tased me. I offered no resistance during all of this. They handcuffed me and threw me in the car. After the other officers and people had left i was taken off to jail. (still no rights)  they took my shoes and jacket from me after collecting my info and put me in a holding chamber for aprox. 8 hours before letting me post a $500 bail on disorderly conduct charges. I have a court date for February 20, 2014 and am just wondering what I should do.", "summary": "yelled at a guy who ran down my horses and got sent to jail for it."}
{"id": "t3_2wpzbi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How does flirting change as you get older?", "post": "I'm a female college freshman, who is finding herself completely lost and confused by the environment I've found in college. I'll admit that I'm pretty inexperienced, I've only had one boyfriend, and we didn't get all that far, but in high school, I definitely understood how to flirt. I never really went past flirting, but I could do it.\n\nNow in college, I'm in some upper level classes, so most of my day is spent with people at least few years older than me, and I'm confused by what flirting is. Last semester, I kinda think my TA was flirting with me, and, of course, it never went further than some innocent (what I think was) flirting, because I won't risk my 4.0 and he's not dumb enough to risk his career. He would lightly touch my back and fake call me out on things and do playful things like that, but at the same time, I'm not entirely sure he wasn't just being friendly, since he told me he had a sister about my age.  \nAnd this semester, there's this guy, who my friend and I have estimated to be in his mid-twenties, and he always sits next to me in this class and remembers to ask me about the things that I mentioned briefly a while ago. And basically I have no idea if he's just better adjusted and friendlier than most high school boys or if he's being flirty. \n\nI don't really think I need questions about these specific guys answered, I'm just trying to give examples of my confusion.", "summary": "Does flirting change as you get older? How does it change? Should I just stick to horny, more like high schoolers, freshmen boys, since clearly I have no clue at all what I'm doing?"}
{"id": "t3_1xj7e5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] with my \"Girlfriend\" [337 F] 1 month, How soon is too soon after Death/Divorce?", "post": "This is going to read like a script from Springer, but I need some kind of reality check.\n\n20 years ago, fresh out of High School, I was engaged to my Girlfriend of 3 years. Her sister got pregnant, so she moved out of state to help - long story short, we broke up after she came up pregnant (not mine). Even under the circumstances it was not a bad breakup. It was a mistake, and she didn't want to deny the father his child. We did eventually reconnect as friends, although 3,000 miles away.\n\nAn old friend returned about 6 months after the breakup, and we ended up together - Married 15 years, 2 kids, and loved each other every day. My wife passed in August after fighting breast cancer for 11 months. We had known of the outcome from the offset, so we really have been going through the morning process for over a year.\n\nFiance #1 has been a godsend for the past 5 months, keeping me out of depression and positive about life. We text 100-150 times a day, and talk on the phone or skype for hours. It has been a 2 way street - her relationship did not go as well. Married with 2 kids, but repeated affairs by her husband and living separate for the last 6 years. She finally got the divorce papers signed last month. I have been doing what I can to help her deal with the changes.\n\nWe have had conversations about this, and we are both romantically attracted to one another, even after all these years. As of last month we did decide to try again, and she will be visiting in a couple of weeks. Side note - she has been planing on returning to this area for several years, and is just working on a degree first.\n\nI am a workaholic with no personal friends, so I do not have anyone to stop me if I am going off the tracks. So redditers - am I loosing it, or does this make sense?", "summary": "Reconnecting with former fiance after death of my spouse / her divorce. Am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_2mivvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] like a friend [19 F], text her and go on walks; want to get closer, but don't know what to do", "post": "I'm a 18M and like a friend [17F]. We've known each other for nearly 11 years (growing up together) and I don't know how to get closer to her. \n\nBasically, our relationship has been little more than acquaintances until the last few weeks. We knew the other existed but that's it. \n\nOver the course of the last few weeks, I've been texting her and even though she is a little shy, but she wants to make new friends/get to know people better. She doesn't talk too much (like other girls I know), but she's got a great personality. I got her out of the house and we went on a walk. I really am not looking for anything more than getting to know her better and become tighter. \n\nWhen we talk, we talk usually chat about random things. I instigate conversations, but I'm fine with that. We ask each other random questions and respond -- some of the random ones include: what is your deepest regret? what is one thing you've always wanted to learn but never have? and so on. \n\nI want to get closer to her and I enjoy her company. I *think* she does too. At least, I *hope* she does. Even if she isn't interested in a relationship, I would love to be just good friends with her. \n\nHelp me make a move.", "summary": "Know a quiet/shy girl, text her and went on a walk, but don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_13bmlh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A few years ago, a last minute change in my normal routine narrowly saved me from being killed in a plane crash. Reddit, what are some instances when a last minute event or decision inadvertently saved your life?", "post": "When I was fifteen, my family and I were visiting our lake house for a few days. The water sits about thirty yards away from my house, and every morning right after I would get up, I would go for a swim and sit out on the beach. On this particular morning however, my mother decided to cook a large breakfast, so I stayed in and ate instead of going down to the beach. After I finished breakfast, I was about to walk down to the beach when I witnessed a single engine plane crash right in the exact spot my family and I always sit in on the beach, killing both of the occupants instantly. Had I decided to go to the beach even five minutes sooner, it probably would have killed me and anyone else in my family who came along.", "summary": "The last minute decision to wait a few minutes before going to the beach most likely saved me from being hit by a crashing airplane."}
{"id": "t3_1nu2wl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20f/m) need advice on controlling my emotions", "post": "Hi. Relationship length 3 years.\n\nI've been having a hard time dealing with my emotions when my boyfriend \"screws up\". and when I say screw up I mean he has trouble thinking things through before saying something and it ends up being misinterpreted and hurting my feelings. And it really is by accident and over something small. As in he will say something and not realise how it affects me negatively. \n\nI do let him know how it makes me feel but I always end up crying or too badly \"hurt\" that I just can't change my feelings around easily. I know he doesnt mean to hurt my feelings. I know he loves me. I just need some advice on how to not break down so easily over something so small.\n\nPlease help!!", "summary": "having trouble with getting over being sad."}
{"id": "t3_4csm9s", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Auto loan interest rate is way high, but i make enough to double down monthly payments", "post": "So i bought a nice used car for 11.5k+ tax (2009 Accord coupe v6) And they gave me a high interest rate (7.19) for being a young male. I put 3k down so  I'm close to 9k left. my monthly for 48 months is $269 with Ally. I tried paying $100 extra a month but those con artists are not applying the whole amount to the principal ! My first extra payment only 60 bucks went into the extra principal. the next like 80 went in. the rest is being applied to the finance charge.... I've called multiple times to tell them the WHOLE payment needs to be applied. they tell me because finance charge is calculated daily it gets taken out of my monthly payment. the rep told me to add my extra $100 to the monthly statement thats due near the end of the month. Is that good advice?", "summary": "instead of paying my monthly statement + $100 mid month extra payment , should i just pay a total monthly statement with the 100 dollars extra included"}
{"id": "t3_2i5mo5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having my girlfriend try to wax my balls. Pics in comments - NSFW", "post": "My girlfriend and I have an enjoyable sex life, and we enjoy making each other happy.  I'm a big fan of manscaping, and typically pluck my balls for maximum softness/mouthability. I was almost ready to start my plucking routine and we randomly started talking about waxing. I figured it might be a more efficient way to get the job done, as it takes a ton of time to finish weeding the whole yard. \n\nWe decided to swing by the supermarket and grab a waxing kit and a bottle of gin from the liquor store for added bravery. After a few drinks (me, not her), we decided to pull the trigger and transform me into a hairless wonder. I got into position on the bed and she gently applied the warm wax to my sack. I was quite pleased with the feeling! She did a small test spot close to my leg, and flooped the strip off. It hurt, but beyond a few red spots (think 40 year old virgin) it looked pretty good. With another couple of swigs I authorized another application on my actual sack. Again, lovely warm wax applied by my beautiful girlfriend, as we chatted about how fun it was to do this together. \n\nThe next part wasn't so great. As we chatted, she thought she'd band-aid me and yank it off as I was distracted. After recovering from the initial shock we looked down at my sack. It was missing at least one layer of skin. \n\nI don't want to type about my aching sack anymore, so I've included bonus pictures in the comments. You will notice the bloody spots from the first strip, and the red landing strip from the second and final attempt at de-hairing my balls. I hope I can walk tomorrow.", "summary": "Fellas, don't wax your nuts."}
{"id": "t3_21ozm9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30's F] with the guy I have been seeing [30's M] for almost two months.", "post": "I dont know what to say here, except that I was finally happy. I thought this was it, we weren't like totally on fire or in sync, but it was pretty damn close.\n\nSaw him often, the chemistry was insane. And then all of a sudden last weekend he tells me he has an interview in a different city. I know he hated our current city, its too big, too loud, too crowded and people arent friendly. I have been here for a really long time and I love the energy, ruthless or otherwise.\n\nI told him to give it some time, we just met, let me help him like this city as I do. He told me he is confused and needs time to think things out, he likes me but is not happy here.\n\nAnd then I just got one message from him after his interview. Its been 5 days but who is counting. We never talked about being exclusive. So I bit the bullet and went on a date last nite. All it did was reaffirm how much I missed and liked this guy over a short period.\n\nI messaged him and called him. No reply yet, I dont know if its a lost cause. I miss him and I cant bring myself to start dating anew. Why isnt meeting someone you instantly click with the end of it all?", "summary": "Instantly clicked with the guy I started dating. He is not happy in our current city and is thinking about moving. Have not heard from him in few days. Is this it, time to move on yet again?"}
{"id": "t3_t1wb6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's hear it, your worst/best break up story. Funny/sad/crazy, I want to hear the extreme.", "post": "Here is mine.\n\nWas married to my now (obviously)  ex wife. She had been drinking. Were both sitting on the couch watching tv. She looks over at me and says, \"remember Adam?\"  (adam is her \"gay\" best friend.) Of course I do...while you were away last weekend we slept together. \n\nI was in complete shock. She said it so non challant and out of the blue, but I knew instantly she was not joking around. So what did I do? I changed the channel and kept watching tv. I just zoned out. This pissed her off, so she left. When she came back two hours later she was shit faced. I was still on the couch watching tv. (i just did not know how to process what was going on and reddit didn't exist at that time lol) she sees me still sitting there, this pisses her off even more. So she goes to the kitchen, grabs a steak knife, and slits both of her wrists. I jump up tackle her and hold her on the ground while I call 911. Keep pressure on her wrists till they come. The entire time she is begging for me to let her die. I  honestly contemplated just walking out right then but I didn't. Cops and paramedics show up. Take her away to a psych ward. While she is there I move out all my shit. The best part, I was leaving for Iraq In a month. When the cop asked what happened I just said, I'm leaving for Iraq in a month and she just told me she cheated on me and slit her wrists. The cop looked at me and said \"dude...that sucks.\" Then turned around and shut the door and left me by myself.", "summary": "wife cheated, slit her wrists, asked me to let her die, I thought about it, she went to psych ward. I went to Iraq."}
{"id": "t3_16ripn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend made excuses when I brought up the topic of moving I together", "post": "We were laying in bed, and he said that we should limit the nights I actually sleep over to three, because he can't justify to himself my staying there five or six nights a week since I don't live there (at his flat) I keep a flat that is about 45 mins away via train.\n\nHe said it wasn't about my spending time with him, more the sleeping over part. I was a little hurt but he has a point, and I'm a reasonable person so I'm not mad, but hurt I guess.\n\nI then asked if he saw us living together in the next year or two, he got very quiet, then said that he didn't know and asked where we'd live. I pointed out his flat, and he said that wasn't possible because he's the Only approved occupier, and apparently his business pays for his flat because it is his office during the day.  The vagueness and way he said this were obvious excuses.\n\nOur relationship is going great, I really care for him and this sort of took me off guard.\n\nCould I have some guidance on this from you gals and guys? I just need some perspective from people with more life's experience.\n\n22/f 26/m 7 months", "summary": "boyfriend vague and made excuses about our moving in together in the future"}
{"id": "t3_1f9lgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26m] Found videos of [29f] girlfriend having sex with her ex. How wrong is this?", "post": "We have been in a serious relationship for about 3 years, and have lived together for about 2 and a half.  I was doing some work on our attic and stumbled upon an obviously stashed away USB stick - and I looked to see what was on it.  I found a lot of homemade porn that her and her ex had made together.  I know that I crossed a line and invaded her privacy by seeing what was on the USB stick.  But I am hurt that she would still want to keep this while dating me - she got upset at me once because I still had old vacation photos from a past relationship.\n\nFor people that have made homemade videos before: What is acceptable as far as keeping those videos when you are in a new relationship?  I was feeling insecure before this about not being as good in bed for her as her exes, and now I have hardly been able to eat because I feel so sick.  Any advice or comments are appreciated.", "summary": "My girlfriend is keeping videos of her having sex with her ex.  It hurts my feelings and I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2d7jii", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting completely slammed", "post": "This happened about 2 months ago and I just turned 19 so after many years of waiting to drink I decide that I would get drunk. I go out with some friends and we buy some beer and jagermeister we get home and eat steak and corn then start drinking after about 5 shots of jager and 3 beers I completely black out while remaining conscious I chug the rest of the jager  im writhing around on the floor at this point and I realize I have to shit right now I wriggle my way to the bathroom and literally paint the bathroom from floor to about 4 feet up the walls in shit and corn I pass out I am then dragged covered in shit into a fully carpeted basement, I awoke the next morning covered in shit and drawn on marker dicks I throw away my clothes and shower I begin to throw up and realize I am unable to keep any liquids down. My friends procede to drive me to the hospital where I am held for a day and a half being rehydrated", "summary": "got drunk painted walls with my shit got dehydrated and stayed in the hospital for a day and a half"}
{"id": "t3_o5x1h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get over this girl?", "post": "I don't want this to turn into a big thing. Long story short I met a girl on a cruise and we hit it off. Cruise ends and she moved back to the state she was from and I stayed home in Florida. We kept in contact, we've skyped, and we talk all the time. We can trust each other with anything. Were each other's best friend. Its been about 8 months since we met and in that time I've absolutely fallen for her. Neither of us are old enough to really make any huge decisions about each other considering were both still in high school. The worst part is loving this girl and knowing that we'll never be together because of the distance. I know I'm going to get over her but it kind of hurts right now. That's the personal story. I really just want to know how to get over this girl. Like I said reddit PLEASE don't make this big. A lot of people I know use browse the last thing I need is this making the front page. All I need is a little advice.", "summary": "I've fallen in love with someone I shouldn't have."}
{"id": "t3_49bngs", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Ways to quickly raise alcohol tolerance without drinking alcohol?", "post": "This might not be the best place to post this, but in about 3 weeks in visiting my friends away at college. I rarely drink at home, I used to all the time but it's been a while, so is there a way I could build my tolerance back up within the 3 weeks without drinking alcohol? I don't want to drink now because I'm training a lot right now so it wouldn't exactly be healthiest, but I also want to be able to drink the way I used to (just a few months ago) without being hammered 10 minutes into a party.", "summary": "How can I build tolerance without drinking?"}
{"id": "t3_29f84v", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I tell somebody I barely know, that her new tattoo has a massive spelling mistake?", "post": "I'm currently in a dilemma. A girl I went to high school with, who I wasn't friends with, and that I haven't spoken to since, has just had her first tattoo and posted a picture of Facebook for all to see. \nThe tattoo reads.... 'With Pain Comes Strenth' \nThe tattoo is on the side of her forearm running from the base of her hand (little finger side) to her elbow, and has a small pink butterfly at the end. \nNow she's posted this on Facebook, and it has 30 odd likes and 21 comments all saying how lovely it is etc etc. Nobody has pointed out that's she's missing a G and looks like a twat.\nMy group of friends and I, (who all went to school with her, but were never her friends) have had a massive laugh over this all day, but now I'm sooooo tempted to tell her and don't know what to do. \nThere's two reasons I want to tell her, firstly so she can get it fixed soon and doesn't look like a twat for weeks until somebody else points it out to her. \nBut secondly, and the bigger reason, for pure selfish indulgence of the drama that would occur. \nMy friends are all game for me telling her, my boyfriend, who is always Mr Good and moral is telling me no. \nSo I've turned to Reddit, what should I do? And what are the consequences either way?", "summary": "A girl I barely know has the g missing out of strength and I don't know if I should tell her for my own selfish gains"}
{"id": "t3_2nszjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [18M] of one year doesn't do anything romantic for me, or put in the same effort I do?", "post": "I know this is a trivial issue, but it's starting to affect our relationship in the sense that I've started to compare him to another friend of ours, who treats his girlfriend much differently. I don't want huge stupid displays of affection as if we were in a movie, just something, anything. I don't even want expensive things, that's not the point. I try to do romantic things for him, like leaving him cute messages around his room or texting him out the blue 'I love you', or even just buying him his favourite drink for when I meet him, but I don't get anything in return.\n\nI feel like I'm the one making all the effort in this. A few months ago, I tested this out and deliberately didn't text him (we don't live together) to see if he'd text first... Three days later with no text from him, I broke and text him, very upset about this fact. He just said that he didn't really have anything interesting to say so he didn't say anything. Does this mean he just didn't think about me at all during this time? \n\nHonestly, it upsets me and makes me feel like he doesn't really love me as much as I do him. I know this isn't true, because when we're together and alone, he's so cute and caring, it's unbelievable. I have spoken to him about this and he's just said that he's not like other guys and just doesn't think of doing these romantic little things, and gets angry that I compare him to them. I don't know what to do, I love him so much.", "summary": "My boyfriend seems to care less than I do about our relationship, and doesn't do anything romantic for me at all."}
{"id": "t3_37zfjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M] too much of a bitch to break up with my GF [21 F] of 4 years.", "post": "She was my first serious girlfriend (I was a late bloomer) and I still really like her, but Ive never had the opportunity to be single and see what else is out there.  \n\nShe cheated on me a couple years back and then told me in the fall of last year.  I thought that this would be a perfect excuse to break up with her, so I did, for all of one week.  \n\nShe would not stop messaging me, telling me how much things have changed and how much she needed me and how I was the only person she could see herself with.  She started sending me gifts and had her friends text me telling me how sorry she was and how much of a mess she's been since the break up.\n\nOf course, I could not stand to see her so upset, so I eventually caved in and am now with her again.  Since then, things have been great and I truly believe that she's changed and that it will never happen again, but I still wish I had an opportunity to be single, as I have never truly experienced it.", "summary": "I kind of want to break up with my girlfriend, but really care about her and cant stand to see her upset... what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1435ak", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In the last two weeks, my emotions have been all over the place, from ecstatic to dispirited. Reddit, what moments have you had drastic mood swings?", "post": "A little depressing, but I still would like to read your stories.\n\nI'm in my teens, male, new kid in high school. For the last few weeks, my emotions have been picked up and thrown up to the air in joy, and then slammed into the ground. \n\nSo it all started in a class, with me overhearing a conversation I now regret paying attention to. Basically this guy and girl were talking about me really poorly behind my back, and i'm not sure if they were intentionally trying to make sure I could hear them. Anyways, this girl says that she loves me, and whenever someone says that, it always screws around with your mind.\n\nSo then I don't stop thinking about it for a week, and she's just all that's on my mind. I'm riding on a cloud only I can see, and given that i'm shy and have a hard time expressing my emotions, I let it bottle up in me, making me happier because of the thought, but more sad because i'm not doing anything about it.\n\nA week later, I break down and try my best to make whatever move I could with her. I horribly screwed up, and now chances of making anything about it are slim to none, which just drove a figurative nail of pain into my head. The imaginary bottle of emotions just shattered and made an ugly mess in me, and I haven't gotten out of this saddening funk.", "summary": "Girl said she loved me, made me freak out in happiness. Confessed emotions, made me depressed."}
{"id": "t3_4fx42n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (F/24) and husband (M/28) has been married over a year and we don't have any sex!", "post": "Me (F/24) and my husband (M/28) have been married for over a year. In that time we have only had sex less then 15 times. After me asking for over a year why we don't have sex he told me I was to fat. Within that year I would try on lingerie and try to spice things up but he still turned me down and always found a reason why he wasn't in the mood. When we did have sex it only lasted two to three minutes. He didn't care to satisfy me or try anything I liked. He only wants me to do what he likes. He would watch porn and self serve himself almost everyday but would tell me he has no sex drive and he's stressed out so there for not wanting to make love. He doesn't touch me at all. There's no passion. I don't think he's sexually attracted to me at all. What should I do? Lose weight and change the way I look so he will touch me?", "summary": "My husband finds me too big to have sex with."}
{"id": "t3_5327di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (27) won't answer random questions", "post": "So when I (29F) pulled up to his apartment last night, he was approaching these two guys outside.  It looked like they were about to have a conversation as I drove into the parking garage.  The guys caught my eye because they were dressed a bit flamboyantly, slightly over the top Miami-ish.  So when I went inside, I said something along the lines as \"What did they ask you?\" Becuase I assumed he walked up because they said something to him.\n\nHe had a goofy grin on his face, one that I see when he wants to avoid answering questions.  Nothing, he said, they didn't ask me anything.  But I could tell he was lying but I didn't know why and told him as much.  He denied lying.  It was confusing to me.  I was just curious but his refusal to say anything about it made me feel odd and I was annoyed.  \n\nSo later, he clarified that they had said nothing to him but that he had sparked a convo by complimenting the car.  But it wasn't lying to me because they hadn't asked him anything.  He knew what I meant, but chose to focus on my exact wording.  This isn't the first time he has been like this.  He has lied by omission and broken my trust that way before because I hadn't asked a question specifically enough.  (We have been together two years btw.)\n\nI think he gets a kick out if withholding information, even if it isn't important.  He says he didn't tell me becuase it wasn't necessary.  What's this about?", "summary": "BF only answer questions as phrased and likes to withhold and I'm not sure why."}
{"id": "t3_2ge3wq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO of 2 years (21 F) is traveling, she went to club and danced against a guy, but tells me (21 M) it's just having fun and got mad at me for being upset", "post": "I just need some advice Relationships, am\nI being overly jealous? Some quick backstory, my SO is volunteering for a program in another country. She's made great friends with the other volunteers, but most of the guides are older men and they actively try to seduce the girls. My SO has denied all advances, but two of them keep telling her they really like and care about her. Makes me uneasy to begin with. So last night she went to a bar with her friends and then a club, and danced with one of the two guides.  I love her dearly but the thought of her even dancing like that with someone else bothers me. If I try to bring it up she gets very defensive, but understands why I feel the way I do. Were both extremely close, have been best friends for 6 years, dating for two, we've lived together for a year. I know she would never do anything that's considered cheating or would hurt me or our relationship, I just feel very off about the whole situation.", "summary": "SO is traveling, danced with/up against a guy in a club, says it meant nothing it's just having fun and being free and would never do anything to hurt our relationship but I'm jealous. Overly so?"}
{"id": "t3_nqi9r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When did you lose your Christmas innocence?", "post": "How did you find out there was no Santa?  I'll start:\n\nI was in 5th grade, (old I know).  I had a small inclination that the big guy was made up at that point, but still believed that my presents magically appeared.\nThe week before Christmas my class went to the library, where the librarian put on a slideshow about the history of Christmas.  At one point she showed us the Coca Cola Santa and talked about how that incarnation of Santa was made up by marketing departments.  Then she dropped to ball saying that we all know there's really no Santa that comes down the chimney.  My mouth dropped a little, but I was trying to be cool, so I played it off like I knew too.  I went home and had the chat with my parents...Innocence lost.", "summary": "Librarian told our whole 5th grade class Santa wasn't real."}
{"id": "t3_3l2emh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drunkenly peeing on my backpack and textbooks", "post": "Simple story that you can probably relate to. Got good and drunk as a 21st rite of passage, and managed to get home safe and sound. I crawl into bed, and from there I assume that I fell asleep. At some point, presumably, I get up (while still pretty unconscious) to pee. So I get up, take a few steps, and pee.\n\nThis isn't too bad... I didn't throw up, and this is probably all water coming out anyway. But, typically, my bagpack was lying on the ground nearby, and I woke up in the morning not only finding a wet rug but a soaked bag full of books wet an inch up.\n\nI'm lucky they don't smell profusely, but if you put your nose close then that \"new-book smell\" smells a little... off... But with the prices of textbooks, I'm going to have to keep these yellow pages as a memento for the rest of the year.", "summary": "I pissed myself and got it on $200 worth of textbooks, luckily it's not too obvious."}
{"id": "t3_3x1cgv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU taking a test", "post": "This happened on Friday but I just learned today the outcome. I had my final exam on Friday for psychology and it was a scantron based test. I filled out all of the personal information on the exam and then proceeded to take the rest of the exam. I got my grade today and learned I got a 0/65. Confused as hell I went to my teacher and asked what the deal was. She showed me my scantron and I filled out the answers on the test itself but did not bubble in any answers on the answer sheet. I asked if I could show her the test that I had the answers on but she said no since an answer key was posted.", "summary": "Double check your work and don't be a dumbass"}
{"id": "t3_52mp63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [25f] school friend [37m] wont stop making critical comments/jokes and its starting to hurt my feelings. How do I adress this without coming across as rude?", "post": "Sorry if the formatting is off, posting on mobile.\n\nI've known Brian for about 9 months as a part of my friend group in my small class. He has always been a bit negative and really observant, but lately he will not stop making rude critical comments about my personality and appearance. \n\nFor example, I am a really quiet person and was really tired yesterday, so I wasn't very talkative. All through class and lunch, Brian would not stop singleling me out and making snide comments that made me feel really self conscious. comments like:\n\n  -\t \"Boy you are alot of fun to be around\"\n  -\t \"why do we even hang out with you?\"\n  -\t \" sure are talkative arent you?\"\n\nhe made comments like this over and over again as well as calling me rude. for clarity, all of our other friends were also just sitting around quietly too, I wasnt ignoring him or anything. just was quiet and tired. \n\nThis is not the first time he has done this either, and we only started the semester a week ago.  Even though it hurt my feelings, i figured he was just joking, and said something sarcastic in return. Its becoming a daily thing and its making me uncomfortable. \n\nNot only that, but is also constantly pointing out and making fun of my physical flaws, like a few gray hairs , my zits, a chip in my teeth or not smiling enough etc. I feel like I'm under a microscope. \n\nI'm at a loss of how to deal with this. On one hand I feel like I'm being way too sensitive, and maybe he's joking, but I cant ignore how uncomfortable I am around him because of this. I just want to avoid him, but can't due to class size and my friend group. Reddit, what would you do?", "summary": "my friend is making rude comments and making me uncomfortable and I dont know what to do about it. Not sure if I'm being too sensitive."}
{"id": "t3_3y6fmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Announcing a pregnancy to in laws who have been awful and we [30 mf] are low contact with...making me want to vomit.", "post": "I'll keep it short- my in laws have treated me poorly since day one. Husband had a kid with a short term GF over 7 years ago and they broke up before he was 1. We have kiddo every weekend and some weekdays and pay CS. We are involved. His stepmom/my step MIL is frenemies with his ex because they both love to start drama, and she's always funneling the ex info. Step MIL has gone so far as to go to my parents a month before the wedding to try and cancel it because \"husband doesn't deserve a life, he left the mother of his child.\" She's been awful to me and has lots of diagnosed substance and mental issues, so it's not in my head. It's been a constant cycle of apologies and abuse and we finally went no contact with her after she \"accidentally\" sent my husband a mean text on Father's Day about him meant for his ex. We are still low contact with his dad because he's a good guy but also has a lot of diagnosed issues. He's never been talkative or warm to me but he's good to my stepson and husband. \n\nWell today he wants to go there and announce our pregnancy, we've told everyone else over a month ago and now that stepson knows he wants his dad to hear from us, otherwise they'll hear from his ex. He wants me to go over with him because they may not be family to me, but I am my husbands family and he wants me there. I'm currently typing this in the bathroom getting IBS flair ups over the thought of going there. I don't want her to touch my belly, to try and hug me, we've agreed she won't be a part of this child's life. But obviously she will hear us tell his dad and do her crazy narcissistic \"Grandma of the year\" BS. Is this the time to just sit there blank and not say anything or to let her know that she's not to be involved? How do I announce it to his dad without her thinking, as she will, that my child is a proverbial olive branch?", "summary": "how to tell NC step mother in law that she will have nothing to do with baby when we announce it to my fil? Want to support husband but also reinforce boundaries."}
{"id": "t3_3t70ao", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stabbing myself in the head.", "post": "I have had a certain routine after taking a shower for a couple of months, it will probably have to change...\nAfter I dry myself off and put my clothes on, I put the towel on my right shoulder.\nThen, I take a cotton swab and stick that into my left ear.\nNow, I go to the garage (it's inside of our house) to hang my towel (the towels always stay there until they are washed) and use it to dry my hair off on the way.\nWhen I'm done with that, I go upstairs and clean/dry my ears on the way up.\n\nNow to the FU.\nYesterday, while drying my hair off on the way to the garage, I was in a hurry and apparently wasn't careful enough, because I hit the cotton swab either with the towel or with my hand and slammed it into my ear. You can maybe imagine the pain I had during that moment, I would say it was in the top 5 of pains that I have ever experienced.\nObviously, I thought that I had just destroyed my eardrum and checked for blood. It seemed like there was none, so I was pretty relieved. \nI continued my way (with ear pain, of course), hoping, that nothing bad had happened and everything would be fine. \nDuring the evening, I noticed, that I was't able to hear very well on my left ear but still went to bed hopeful.\nToday, in school, I felt something in my ear, scratched it and found out it was dried blood. \nAlso, the ear pain didn't disappear but instead was joined by a headache. Now I don't know if I should still be hopeful or not...", "summary": "Slammed a cotton swab into my ear, the result was blood, a hearing loss and a whole lot of pain."}
{"id": "t3_4esi8j", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "How did you prepare your ring bearer and flower girl for walking down the aisle? (And yes, I may be overthinking this....)", "post": "So I have 2 flower girls (both second cousins, ages 2 and 4) and 1 ring bearer (my nephew, who is 3 and change).\n\nThe parents of my youngest flower girl are SO into the entire thing - they're practicing petal throwing, they practice walking down the aisle every week at church, they've bought multiple dresses to choose from, etc.  \n\nThe parents of the other children....are not (at least not to my knowledge). \n\nI'm also totally okay with the ring bearer and flower girls getting to the church day of wedding and not wanting to participate. They're young kids - so we're not going to force them to do something they don't want to do.\n\nHow has everyone else prepped their ring bearer? I was thinking of getting a Flower Girl or Ring Bearer book that explains what the role is, but a lot of them look corny and boring.", "summary": "Did you help teach your ring bearer and flower girl what their roles entail?"}
{"id": "t3_16ond2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it business-like for my car dealership to request to buy my car back to receive a brand new car in return? Or is this a scam?", "post": "Yesterday, I received this notice in the mail that read: \n\n\" Dear drtide4,\n\nToyota Scion of Turnersville would like to thank you for doing business with our dealership and would like to continue to earn your business. \n\nAccording to our records, you own a 2009 Toyota Corolla. Based on this information and the value of your vehicle, I would like to exchange your 2009 for a brand new Toyota or Scion with a monthly payment near or below your current payments! \n\nWe absolutely need to reach our goal to purchase approximately 2 million dollars in pre-owned inventory prior to January 31, 2013. Instead of only going to the auto auction, we would like the opportunity to purchase your Toyota Corolla\n\nPlease act fast and come to the dealership prior to January 31st and allow us the opportunity to make you an offer that you can't refuse (a visual inspection is required in order to assess the value of your Toyota Corolla).\" \n\nAre these typical of dealerships when dealing with a loyal customer? Or am I being scammed by my own dealership?", "summary": "My car dealership wants to swap my '09 Toyota Corolla for a brand new Toyota or Scion. Scam or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1o62ts", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M] Friend zoned? (serious question.)", "post": "I am not talking about the friend zone we all love to poke fun at. unreciprocated love is where my problem lies.\n\nI became friends with a girl. I had 0 interest in her romantically when we met. As hung out more and more, and began talking or seeing each other on a daily basis. As we grew closer as friends somewhere along the lines I developed feelings for her. I have 2 other girl friends that I am very close to. I have never developed feelings for either of them. So I know I was not confusing my friendship with feelings for her. \n\nI asked her out on a date, she declined. I decided to try another route. I became much more flirtatious, and physical (touching when appropriate, such as holding hands in a haunted house, or snuggling when watching a movie. small things like putting my hand on the small of her back to guide her through a door, etc.) This went on for about two weeks. Until I tried to kiss her. She again told me she was not interested in a relationship. At this point it was clear to me I needed to respect her wishes and back off. But I found I am having a really hard time putting those romantic feelings behind me and just being a friend again. \n\nIt bothers me when she does things with other men (I'm no douche control freak, even in a committed relationship I would never interfere with my mates friendships, but it still bothers me.) \n\nI told her I needed some time away, she understood and has for the most part left me alone. It's been 2 weeks now, and I still have not been able to put it behind me. She is a great friend, and has been very understanding so far. I just dont know what to do.\n\nHave any of you had this problem? Did you get over it? Did you break off the friendship? What helped you change if you were able to?\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "unreciprocated love. Ditch the friendship, or learn to cope?"}
{"id": "t3_g3kqy", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Currently unemployed - which tech certification exams are worth taking?", "post": "Background: Worked a temporary job at a large company while I was in school and right after I graduated.  That contract ended in December.  I went to school for Computer Science.  While I was working that job I learned that I liked hands on work (getting dirty with networking, tech support and general shit) more than anything else.\n\nAnyway right now I'm applying to just about anything I can.  A lot of places that spark my interest usually mention the A+ certification in the requirements.  I've heard different things about this exam from people I know and what I've read online but the fact that real jobs are requiring this exam is hard to ignore.  I've also read a lot about taking the CCNA as it will help a lot on top of my hands on experience.", "summary": "Unemployed IT grad and looking for work.  What (if any) certifications are worth taking while I'm working 0 hours a week?  Hell, they can't hurt right?"}
{"id": "t3_2rl4pr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend of three years [21M] constantly calls me [21F] a whore", "post": "Update: I DUMPED HIM. Thanks for all the advice guys! It was hard but I can live.. \n\nHey guys.. \n\nI've been with my boyfriend for three years (I'm a female and we're both 21) he lost his virginity to me but I wasn't a virgin when I met him..\n\nThe first two years were wonderful and we always felt like we're soulmates.. Thing is he thinks I'm a whore because I hooked up with a guy he hates a year before I met him.\n\nHe says his opinion of me will never change and he will punish me for it forever :( he makes jokes about this and calls me a slut/whore almost everyday whether jokingly or serious ..\n\nIt really hurts cause I thought I meant more to him but I guess I was wrong.. Anyway this makes me feel so shitty about myself that I just wanna stay in bed and feel so inferior to all the other women who are virgins.\n\nI hate it cause its like none of the things we did matter, and all he'll ever think of me is a whore.. It sucks thinking that he will respect another girl and not me simply because of a mistake which I regret deeply.. \n\nI know I can't change this cause it happened five years ago.. What can I do? I really love my boyfriend and we want to move in together soon but this is slightly annoying and he won't stop..\n\nAm I overreacting? Should I suck it up and go with it? \n\nTalking to him is useless cause we had conversations about this tons of times and he still says I'm a slut.. \n\nAny tips? :(", "summary": "I had sex with a guy a year before I met my current boyfriend and my bf says he thinks I'm a whore and his opinion won't change.."}
{"id": "t3_4nc85d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] need to make a big decision regarding moving in with my boyfriend [22M], but I am really hesitant...", "post": "So, I have been dating this really great guy for over 2 years. We met online and have been together since. It was almost serendipitous because his parents lived in the same town as mine, but we were both living in the same city for school. We hang out really often, but this summer I moved 2 hours away which put our relationship into perspective for me.\n\nAnyways, 2 years later, We had planned to move in together this September before school starts again but I do not want to make a decision that I will regret!\nI am still pretty happy to be with him, but there has always been a few things about him that make me question whether I have spent far too long in a relationship that does not serve me.\n\nMain problems are... He is 22 and has never had a job (not even part time), made a major education decision that will end up in him being in university for another 4 years (he has already been in school for 4 years with nothing to show for it), and I basically babysit him when we are together (make him snacks, get him drinks, clean up after him). I am the one that pays for dinner and snacks or whatever else we do.\n\nHis parents are paying entirely for his school, rent, food money, and spending money. I grew up with a poor single mom, and have worked for my own money since I was 16. He gets really angry when I try to ask him about getting a part time job or his plans after university.\n\nBut really, other than that everything else with him is fine. I am just SO tired of being the only one in the relationship that cares about a future sometimes. I genuinely think I love him, I just do not want to look back in 10 years and wonder why I spent so long with a guy who didn't give a fuck about my feelings. I am way too young to be this stressed over a relationship this boring. Do I cut the ties? I don't want to give him an ultimatum, but that may be my only option. I do not want to live with my 22 year old boyfriend whose parents pay for everything.", "summary": "I've been dating this guy for 2 years, we want to live together to save some money and spend more time together, but I do not actually see a future together since he has never had a job or paid for his own things. I'm tired of being frustrated all the time."}
{"id": "t3_1azldb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[27M] been dating [23F] for roughly a month. Wondering when to make it official.", "post": "Brief background. Both of us are working professionals in Boston, she will be entering law school in the fall. The past (only) three relationships I have been in were all friends who transitioned slowly into relationships, so despite my age I am relatively new to the dating song and dance. So here I am.\n\nWe met about a month ago, and we did what I suppose is the normal dating ritual. First date was dinner and drinks after work, I paid, she offered but only once. Left on a hug. Second date was a day date, but escalated to a movie, making out and staying over. Third date was very intimate in the same vein. Since then, been hanging out and just spending random free moments with each other.\n\nAnd because I'm sure the question will come up, no sex yet.\n\nShe will be going on a family vacation to England soon, and to be very honest, I have not felt this smitten in regards to a girl, ever. Not even my previous relationships. My gut wants to ask her to make it official sooner rather than later. My head is saying to wait and be patient.", "summary": "Been seeing a girl for about a month, progressed very quickly, strong feelings, when to make it official, sooner or later?"}
{"id": "t3_4y00xg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 f] recently broke up with my bf [21 m] and I think I'm going crazy", "post": "I'm so sorry I know this isn't really the place to post this, and if someone could let me know a better sub, I'll move it there. I just feel like I can't get over my bf and just hit a breaking point tonight. Basically we broke up because of distance and we both left on the terms that we still love each other and should ultimately get back together. That was about three weeks ago. We also had a deal not to talk to each other for 3 weeks, so I recently messaged him when the time was done. The thing is, when he messaged back, I realized that there was no way I could message him back as if I was normal. I don't know why, but for me this was kind of a breaking point. I guess it finally sunk in that we really broke up. Now I don't know how I should play it, should I message him back as if I'm trying have a conversation with him, or give a really short answer to cut him off? Or I guess just tell him the truth? I'm really leaning towards the last, but I don't want to come off pathetic.\n\nAdditions info: what really just pushed me over the edge was that I just had an orientation with all the people in the program I joined where I live abroad, and all the guys were such major creeps and were so gross to me. It was so demoralizing and made me realize how much I gave up in my bf. All I want is to be with him, but I know that's impossible while I'm here. I'm just so tired of all of this. I just want something stable right now, or something comforting or I don't even know.", "summary": "broke up with my bf for distance, don't know if I should talk to him, and feel really demoralized by the new people around me."}
{"id": "t3_38v1ea", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm a pretty lousy husband and need some help", "post": "Hey guys first post here hoping for some advice or any insight on what I should do.   My wife and I are married going on 5 years in October and we have 3 year old twin girls.  We just moved across country for my job which is a great thing for us because we really couldn't afford to live where we used to.  Anyway today was my wife's 27th birthday and I got her a card, flowers, took us all out to dinner and bought her some new clothes she's been wanting to get.  We rented a red box and got some wine and when we got home I put the girls to bed and got back on the couch where she had been sitting.  That's when she said so I guess we don't do presents anymore?  I just came off a horrible mother's day and I was hoping to redeem myself with a good birthday for her and I had about a month to plan it and it went to shit because I didn't get her a tangible surprise.  I seem to always do this or forget something to make special days for her failures and all I want to do is make her feel loved.  We are working on getting her a car and I was hoping to have one for her by today but that wasn't the case, and I just didn't put any other thought into getting her something to open on her birthday.   Please help me, any advice at all would be appreciated.", "summary": "shitty forgetful husband can't get special days for his wife right. Plz help."}
{"id": "t3_1pq5x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] wish she [19] couldn't make me smile", "post": "So I met this girl about a month ago and we get along really well. We've hooked up and always have a good time together, but she doesn't want a relationship. I am perfectly fine with having a purely sexual relationship with someone and have done it before.\n\nBut every time she texts me I get a stupid grin on my face and I'm realizing I could definitely have feelings for her. I don't want the sex to stop and I wouldn't want to stop seeing her altogether; in fact some of my best friendships have come out of romantic-ish beginnings.\n\nI'm not sure what to do, can I just ignore this? Anyone else who has been in this situation what advice can you give me?", "summary": "feelings are a drag"}
{"id": "t3_22prsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 24 year old male and can't keep an erection during sex, even with medicine. Help!", "post": "I have been going out with this girl for the last few months and asked her to spend the night a few nights ago. I have had issues in the past with maintaining an erection so I asked the doctor for some medicine to be prepared. I took 15 mg of Cialis before she came over. When we went to bed things started getting hot and heavy. She was rubbing her ass on me and I told her I was getting pretty hard. We made out for a while, and I was completely into the moment and thought I was enjoying it. I wasn't concerned about maintaining an erection because I thought the Cialis would take care of it. She then she asked if I had a condom. It was about this time I noticed that my erection was gone. She stimulated me directly, but I wasn't able to get a full erection again. Sex was not had, and needless to say the night ended badly. She left pretty quickly in the morning.\n\nI think I have confidence issues/performance anxiety. When I'm masturbating, I have no problem getting hard or orgasming. However, this was an issue in the past with my previous girlfriend as well. I would get hard, start having sex, and then basically fake it. I thought the issue was that I wasn't that attracted to my previous girlfriend, but this new girl is drop-dead sexy so I don't think that's it. I really don't understand what's going on with me, and how I can move past it.\n\nThe new girl blamed herself. She said she thought she just doesn't turn me on. I assured her that it wasn't her and made up an excuse saying that I thought that I had taken too much of the medicine the night before and that it had made me feel sick. I don't know if she bought it. I really like this girl, we get along amazingly, and I don't want my sexual issues to end this relationship, but I just don't know how to move forward with this. Is there any advice anyone has that might be able to help me, both with the sexual issue and how to handle this relationship in particular? I don't think I'll ever be able to have a relationship without resolving this.", "summary": "Having a hard time maintaining an erection probably because of confidence/performance anxiety, and I think it's going to kill my new relationship."}
{"id": "t3_lxnfk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HELP ME REDDITORS! YOUR MY ONLY HOPE.", "post": "I work in a small lab were I may sit 8 hours and see 2-15 patients. I am bored out of my mind and would love to have a project. I have a lot of freedom to do what I want as long as it isn't too distracting and I am present when my patients show up. I love my job but after 15 years of working in an emergency department I am used to more stimulus.\n\nPlease give me some ideas of some project or hobby that I can do while sitting at a desk, I am open to any ideas. I already read a lot and spend a lot of time on reddit. I would just like the feeling of satisfaction of completing a project of some kind or being creative. I am very open to any ideas  and will try to give you input for your ideas. I have 4 children and the last 16 years has been spent working 80-100 hrs a week. This has been the first period of time where I am financially sound and have 'nt needed to work so much, but this has severely limited me in expanding my horizons. Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Severely bored at work help me with ideas to have fun at work."}
{"id": "t3_4qjl8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21f) horrified of insects. I don't think my (29m) boyfriend quite understands my fear.", "post": "Sorry in advance for the extremely long post..So let me start off by saying my whole life I have lived in states that don't have very bad insect problems, little spiders at the most. I recently moved south west and I'm experiencing large insects constantly for pretty much the first time. \n\nYou're probably thinking this sounds ridiculous but it gets better. The house I'm currently living in is constantly having cockroach problems. Most the time they will be dead and I'll find a few of them laying in the living room or kitchen. That alone grosses me out beyond belief. We get our house sprayed but somehow they manage to get in. \n\nAbout three times in the past week I have came across live ones and I have almost gone into shock. It's gotten so bad that I'm sometimes scared to do the dishes because I fear a live cockroach will crawl on my hand or whatever it may be. Let me be clear, my boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship so that really has nothing to do with this.. Anyway, I've stressed this to my boyfriend plenty of times and I've even mentioned moving to a new house. He does show that he cares that I'm so freaked out and disgusted by the bugs and he will do anything he can to make sure they don't get in to the house, but he pretty much refuses to even think about moving. He's lived in this house for a while and I've only lived here with him for a year. He really enjoys the space of the house and the backyard which I can understand. But the bug problem is really starting to get to me and I don't think he truly understands how bad it freaks/grosses me out. \n\nAm I being petty over something so small?", "summary": "have a horrible fear of bugs, our house has been getting a lot of cockroaches and I want to move. Am I being petty?"}
{"id": "t3_421phl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my GF[25F] of 3 years, I am unsure about whether there is still a spark and she knows it. We have a talk tomorrow and I need advice", "post": "We have been together for three years now and the spark is disappearing. This weekend we have decided to have a heart to heart about all this, but I am not sure how I feel myself. When talking to her about this kind of stuff I often feel to 'guilty' to access my feelings in a way. \n\nWhat should I do?\n\nShe has noticed that lately I seem to be less interested in her and rightfully wants to talk about it. But I am not sure whether I want to break up or keep going. I know a relationship requires work, but I am not sure how much. (note this is my first serious relationship)\n\nI doubt about us quite often and have been doubting this relationship for atleast 1,5 years now. However, I always doubt everything constantly. I am not sure whether I am still in love or whether I really know what 'love' is. As a result I often miss the freedom and have some trouble being 'responsible' for someone else's mental state. \n\nShe has been going through a rough patch lately which is also effecting my doubts. How can I love her if she seems to love herself so little?\n\nI often feel guilty about all this and feel responsible for treating her well since she is such a good person. However, I also often fantasize about sex with other women. And I am unsure about our future plans, which differ quite a bit. (She wants to go back to the state she is from, I really to travel or perhaps work/live abroad)", "summary": "Relationship of three years and (still) have a lot of doubts. Also ensure whether the spark is still there. How to know whether to invest more into the relationship to save it, or to gently break it off while you both still are flexible. "}
{"id": "t3_2esm8x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m] Just broke up, losing friends, and feeling rock bottom like never before.", "post": "Some background - I have a pretty large group of friends/mutual friends. One of these friends had broken up with his girlfriend two years ago and I ended up starting dating his girlfriend. They were also friends in the same group of mutual friends. The relationship lasted about a year and ended recently when it just wasn't working out. \n\nRight now I feel like I'm in a hole that I can't crawl out of. Since dating the ex, I feel like I've drifted apart from my friends and also the old boyfriend has become closer to the mutual friends and doesn't have many nice things to say about me. Now that my girlfriend and I have split up, I feel like I've lost everything.\n\nEveryday, I see through social websites i.e. facebook all the things that everybody is doing and that I'm not really invited to. What makes it worse is that my ex is invited to hangout with them. Feeling this everyday is the worst feeling in the world.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. I feel like I fucked up dating within my group of friends and also and friend's ex gf. I feel as though everybody has a negative impression of me at this point and there's no way out for me. Its quite a large group of friends and I'm really starting to feel like its a small world.\n\nI can't stop thinking about how shitty this feels and the feeling of being excluded. I have a full time job and I work out regularly but thats not enough. I have no idea what to do at this point. I really am starting to feel like my life is over and theres no way to come back. I feel like im stuck. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "dated friends ex gf, we all share a pretty large group of mutual friends. after gf and i broke up, feel like im losing all my friends and struggling to carry on"}
{"id": "t3_4vax4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've been dating a girl for 2 months and still havent kissed her??", "post": "hey,\n\nSo my girlfriend (14F) and I (14M) have been dating for two months and we still haven't kissed... \n\nWe catch up rarely (maybe once every 2 weeks?) because we attend different schools. The last time we caught up, we had a really good opportunity but i didnt take it. All our friends had turned away and it was just us sitting together, but nothing happened and i feel like shes disappointed. Had i been in the moment again, i would have definitely gone in for it.\n\nI really want to kiss her but i just dont know whether she is comfortable with it yet. I've kissed her on the cheek and forehead but just not properly.\n\nNow a few people are noticing that we havent kissed (just recently) and started making a few jokes about it.\n\nShould i mention that i wanted to kiss her but wasnt sure whether she would like it? Is there anything i could say or should i just not mention it until i see her again (when i will most likely kiss her)? What would you (girls) rather a guy to do?\n\nIm pretty new to reddit so apologies if ive done something wrong with the formatting.\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "Should i talk to my girlfriend about kissing her?"}
{"id": "t3_2vr0bf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19 M] have completely stopped enjoying my best friend's [19 M] company", "post": "So I'm in college and I'm a little frustrated with the friends that I've made here. I was extremely close to one of them last year--we were best buddies, did everything together, life was great. \n\nThis year he started struggling with some feelings of depression and loneliness, and it pretty much turned him into something of a bipolar asshole. \n\nI tried helping him through it, recommended him counselors and such, but he refused to try anything. He became pretty socially destructive and alienated himself from another good friend. Generally speaking, he's not very pleasant to be around anymore. I didn't hang out with him for a week and definitely felt a lot more happy and relaxed.\n\nIt does suck, however, since he was my best friend--one of the best friends I've made in my life, easily the person I'm closest to in college. We still have wild adventures and lead fun college existences, but I'm generally feeling pretty sick of him and his personality. \n\nIt's actually really confusing. There are times when he's great to be around, and there are times when he's infuriating to be around. \n\nIt's hard to pinpoint a single aspect of his personality that really pisses me off. He's just generally become pretty abrasive. \n\nI've never really had to call out any of my best friends for anything, and it's doubly hard because I don't know what exactly to call him out for. It's also difficult to just avoid him since we have plenty of mutual friends, and I still occasionally like hanging out with him. \n\nSo what do I do in this situation? I don't really know what to confront him over(and he's also much, much stronger than me--I wouldn't have any issue settling things with my fists if he were my size, but this dude could rip my arms off). I could just...declare our friendship over to his face, but I don't really know if I want to do that. He's not a bad guy, I just don't like or trust him as much as I used to.", "summary": "My best buddy's become a pretty abrasive person, and while I still occasionally enjoy hanging out with him, I don't like or respect him as much as I used to. I do plan on contacting him less, but I want to know how you guys have handled similar situations."}
{"id": "t3_2vuhep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] religious coworker [20M] keeps trying to preach his religion at work.", "post": "I have a coworker who is a Jehovah's Witness. He's a good guy all around, and he and I get along well. However, over the past several weeks he has been bringing religious pamphlets to work and has continuously started up religious discussions. I'm an atheist, and when he first started in the department, and he initiated this discussion, I let him know that religion isn't my cup of tea.\n\nWell, he avoids the discussions with me for the most, but instead bugs the other guys in my department about it, and they're starting to get fed up. Occasionally he will try chatting with me about it, but i just try to change the topic to films. He enjoys movies. I don't care what his beliefs are, I get why he does it, I just don't think this is should be going on at work. I don't want to get management involved until after I approach him about it. I told the other guys I would ask him to stop, and to not get the manager involved just yet. I'm just not sure how to do it yet\n\nSo here is my question: how do I go about asking him to stop? I don't want it to come off as if I'm attacking him. I don't want him to think that I'm trying to oppress his freedom to express himself. \n\nOn the chance he doesn't cease his proselytizing,  what exactly should I say to the manager?", "summary": "coworker is super religious. Everyone in the department is fed up. How do I tactfully ask him to stop so I can avoid getting management involved?"}
{"id": "t3_1j8g51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why did he (29 / m) break nc with me (25 / f)?", "post": "Because now I do have to begin the whole procedure of getting over him, once again.\nI wish he wouldn't have.\n\nHe contacted me 2 months after we spoke for the last time. He asked for \"no communication\" anymore.\n\nHis new message refered to my last one and let me know that I did missunderstand what he has been saying.\nI then couldn't resist and asked him if he misses me. He said he does miss me from time to time, but things were going too fast and it involved too much drama.\n\nI believe him, and I do agree. I apologized for the mistakes I've made. \n\nMissing me occassionally doesn't mean shit, so I know there's nothing to hold onto.\n\nI just do not understand why he'd contact me again in the first place? Also he clearly doesn't want to talk to me anymore. He still has me on block on Facebook, and I doubt he is planning to take me off and re-add me whatsoever.\n\nWhy do something like this and break NC? This is just wrong. To every guy who is reading this, please stick to NC because it just messes with our heads.", "summary": "he broke nc, he let me know he does miss me occassionally, I do not understand why he did this, I wish he didn't, I am having a hard time with this - got to start all over again now. Ppl need to stick to NC when they wished for it in the first place"}
{"id": "t3_rp7el", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me find this for my dad?", "post": "When my dad was growing up, his father used to come home from work and would try to entertain them with different little toys and other things he would bring with him. One of the things my dad always told me was his favorite was a lightbulb that my grandpa would put into his mouth (Not the large end, mind you, but the actual part you would screw in) and somehow light it up. He would let them touch it and look at it, but they couldn't find a switch or anything that would light it up. They still have no idea how it worked and my grandpa died about 15 years ago. \n\nDoes anyone know where I can find one of these, if they exist still, or how they work?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Grandpa had a light bulb he could light up by putting the narrow end into his mouth. I'm looking for one like it."}
{"id": "t3_vwbov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom called the cops after the hadn't heard from me in four hours. What is the craziest thing your parents have ever done?", "post": "Well, basically, I am from Texas and this summer, I got an internship in downtown LA, but I am staying with a friend who lives in the suburbs. I commute three hours, by bus, to and from work every day, minimum. Roughly 6 hours of bus commuting in one of the most dangerous cities in the US drives my mom, who is thousands of miles away, completely crazy. She insists on hearing from every night after I get home, much to my chagrin. I usually don't contact her and without fail, she'll contact me and find out if I got home that way.\n\nWell, one night, after an unusually difficult and long day at the office combined with little sleep the previous few nights, I got home around 8:30pm and went straight to bed. Now, my phone is REALLY shitty and tends to turn off randomly. That night, I guess it turned off shortly after I had fallen asleep. My mother and I had spoken briefly earlier that day because she had to ask me some inconsequential question mothers tend to ask. Anyway, it had been about four or five hours when my mom started calling around 9 or 10pm, to no avail. Long story short, she panics. Worst case scenario for everyone, she calls the cops and gives them the low down and the address of the place I am staying. I wake up at around 12am to my buddy, who's house I am staying in, getting yelled at by a cop asking if \"IS my name PRESENT AT THIS LOCATION!?\" Cop busts in my room. I am in my undies and scared shitless. I have no idea what's going on. Cop screams \"ARE YOU my name!?\" I respond affirmatively, totally disoriented. He demands to see some ID. I show him drivers license and he finally just kinda smirks and is like, \"Call your mom, kid. She's worried about you\" as he walks out.\n\nI hunker back into my bed as I contemplate what just happened. I call my mom and chew her out for calling the cops. I'm 20 years old for God sakes.\n\nAnd that's that. So what's some crazy shit your parents have done?", "summary": "I am 20 years old and commute several hours to work every day. My mom, who lives thousands of miles away, insists on hearing from me when I get home every night. She didn't one night and called the cops who bust into my place scaring me completely shitless."}
{"id": "t3_3qkpc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend gives me the cold shoulder sometimes", "post": "So, my boyfriend (23M) and I (21F) have been together a little over two years now. When we first got together, like most couples, we had a LOT of sex. That lasted for probably the first year or so, then decreased to around once or twice a week. Sometimes I just don't really want to have sex, I'd just like to cuddle or sit around watching TV or playing video games. But, what kinda bugs me is if he tries to initiate sex and I'm not feeling it (deny him, saying I don't really want to right now), he gets all butt hurt and won't really talk to me for the rest of the night. He just acts really \"meh\" for lack of a better term. Is that normal? I get that he's horny but I just don't feel it sometimes. He's really affectionate in every other way, like hugging me from behind when I'm cooking, kisses me on the forehead after work, cuddles a lot, etc. It's just when I say no to sex that he gets \"meh\".  Thoughts?", "summary": "boyfriend tries initiating sex sometimes when I'm not feeling it, gives me the cold shoulder when I turn him down."}
{"id": "t3_10o53l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my grandad has cancer. How do you deal with mortality?", "post": "This is a bit of a cry for help. My grandad was diagnosed a while ago with bladder cancer, but given his incredibly poor health choices and age, it's a miracle nothing this bad appeared sooner. \n\nThe medication and radiotherapy that he is currently undergoing has slowly been chipping away at his demeanour for the past 3 months, but only when I saw him today, barely concious and in a lot of pain, trying to smile, did it suddenly hit home. I knew that I would have to deal with it at some point, but I guess I just figured I'd cross that bridge when I came to it.\n\nThis isn't my first dealing with death. When I was 7 I watched my other grandad die slowly of brain cancer. He was a man who made some wrong choices, but always with the right intention. My father also died very suddenly when I was 15, which I was also unlucky enough to witness first hand. Those two men deserve far more than this paragraph alone, but I'm trying to keep things concise. These things, amongst others, have been the cause of the past 6 years of my life being severely depressed. Recently I have come out of it, but there are times when even small things get to me.\n\nI have always had incredibly supportive friends and family, and my SO, who puts up with all my crap and stands by me through everything, but even with these things there are moments in my life where the brutality of it all pins me to the floor.", "summary": "I don't know how I'm going to deal with the death of my grandfather when it inevitably comes, even having experience with death before. What the hell should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_17cb38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my guy-friend (15m) interested in me (15f)? If so, how can I gently say no?", "post": "So the story is this.\n\nI've known this guy (Tom) since we were 11 (4 years as friends). He's a nice guy, goofy and fun to be around. We just started staying after school on Mondays in the leisure rooms where we drink tea and study, draw, exchange funny videos or gossip together. We've decided to do it every Monday, though we only done it twice before.\n\nTwo days ago it was my birthday. On that day Tom and I were walking alone down an empty hallway when he says 'You know, winstonspoke, I've been thinking.\" \n\nI turned to him and saw that he was pale, sweaty and incredibly nervous looking. My brain immediately goes to, 'oh my god? Is he asking me out?'.\n\nBut then he says 'since it's your birthday and we have tea together, I should buy you tea on the weekend as a present and we can drink it together. What kind of tea do you want?'\n\nI answered quickly, got to class and then ran to my girl friend. I told her about the encounter and how it confused me. She responded with 'Don't worry, he's just a nice guy, he does this to everyone. Tons of other girls think he has a crush on them.' \n\nNow I agree with her. Tom is a nice guy, more friendly than the other guys in our grade, girls often think that he is interested in them while he is not. But it felt different than his usual kindness.\n\nSchool ends, I talk to my other girlfriend and she says that he probably likes me. Then she asks how would I react if he did ask me out. I've decided I don't want to date him. I don't want to date at 15, nor do I find him to be pleasing in that way. He's a friend, that's all. \n\nBut I'm not even sure if he likes me that way. What do you guys think? And how should I deal with it?", "summary": "Guy friend maybe interested in me, he asked to buy me a gift for my birthday and we have tea after school every Monday. How can I say no politely without ruining our relationship as just friends for 4 years?"}
{"id": "t3_2zg306", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] short, girlfriend having random and abusive mood swings", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship now for roughly six months. The first month we were together was absolutely incredible. If I tried to find something to complain about, I wouldn't have a single idea. \n\nHowever since the second month she's had periodic and random mood swings. Sometimes she'll be the romantic, loving person she was when we first started dating, other times she'll be distant, cold, even to the point of not caring. If there were rhyme or reason to this; such as a serious fight, a complicated disagreement, or something going on in her life that'd make her more irritable, I'd understand - but her moods change on the drop of a dime, she goes from laughing to furious in under a second.\n\nFor the last few weeks she's been in one of her better moods, we've had a great time and enjoyed each other's companies in our preferred ways; watching movies together on Netflix, enjoying some literature works we both like, and just generally talking on the phone together while we took part in our individual hobbies. However tonight, because of a simple opinion I had, she turned around and made me to be a villain.\n\nI asked her to talk things out with me, and it became a barrage of unending attacks regarding how I was completely wrong for my opinion, and how even once it was resolved she was well within her right to continue to treat me horribly.\n\nAt this point I'm at a loss; I want to make things work but sometimes I feel like she's grossly unwilling to. This is only made worse by a suspicion that she'll text me in a few hours or tomorrow morning with a sweet apology. I don't want to break up with her, or lose her, but I feel as though I'm being outright abused at this point and any attempt I make to stand my ground turns me into her personal punching bag for the rest of that night.", "summary": "Girlfriend has frequent mood swings which turn her from sweet and loving into distant and abusive, and I'm at a loss as to where to take the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_5275qf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [M15] think I need new friends instead of fake friends...", "post": "If you guys know what snapchat is, one of my friends posted on his story about him and my other friends drinking and just having a great time. At school, there's usually around 8 people (including me) at lunch when we hangout. There was 6 people in his story that I saw and it really destroyed me mentally. \n\nJust seeing them having a great time and them not even mentioning a word about it just breaks my heart. I have come to suspicion that they are fake but I really can't do anything about it. I've known them for a couple years, 3 of them I've known since gr2.\n\nThe \"friend\" that posted it on snapchat, his name is \"joe\" (lets just call him that) he has invited me to his birthday party in gr6 and gr7 but not in gr8 (not sure why). Ever since then, we haven't really been friends that much and he just treats me like shit and I'm always the one starting the conversations with him. \n\nLet's get to reality here, I have 0 fucking friends. No one appreciates me, and I mean it when I say that. I knew that they weren't real but seeing them all having a great time on a saturday night while I'm home alone and they didn't even ask me, that's the last straw. I have no hobbies, I have social anxiety and depression and it's just getting worser and worser. I did have 1 friend, she's a girl, tell me that my friends are fake and she even basically said that to them. \n\nI don't even want to go to school on monday. I can't show my face. Just imagine: seeing your \"friends\" that you hangout at school, having fun on a saturday night...without you. I don't even care if they're drinking, I'm just completely sad and heartbroken that they would do that. \n\nNow, I'm just put into a more depressive state and more isolated situation. I just don't want to live anymore.", "summary": "read please"}
{"id": "t3_1r0k6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Word got out that I [M36] bought my uncle [M61] a new truck. Now I've got other relatives asking for help. Going to be an awkward Thanksgiving!?", "post": "Well, I've gotten myself into a really difficult situation and now I'm looking for a way out!\n\nMy uncle's driven the same truck for the past 10 years. He's a hardworking guy and has never asked for a handout. He did an awful lot for me growing up so I wanted to do something nice for him as a way to say thank you. I received my bonus a little early this year and decided to surprise him with a new truck. In all the years I've known him, it was the first time I've ever seen the man cry. It was awesome and I'm glad I did it. He deserved it.\n\nThree of my relatives heard that I bought my uncle a new truck, so now they're expecting me to help them out as well. Each of them have a sob story and have been regularly calling and emailing me to see how I'm doing. I'm not stupid, I know they're only being nice because they want money. The problem is, I'm not going to help them. \n\nWe have a huge family, so I know others are going to approach me as well. (They'll probably ask me face to face at Thanksgiving and/or Christmas). Awkward!\n\nImagine sitting at a huge dining room table and half of the people at table are pissed at you because you won't give them money. Not my idea of fun!\n\nWhat's the best way to handle this? It's probably inevitable but I don't want to have half of my family pissed off at me. TIA!", "summary": "Helped out my uncle, now other relatives want help as well. I have to see all of them for the holidays and I'm not sure how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_2eax1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found something on my SO's phone. What should my reaction be?", "post": "I'm m/37 with f/29. We've been together almost 6 years now. We broke up once, 3 years ago because I was scared of marriage, and almost again because I caught her texting flirtatiously with another guy. \n\nThis morning I was walking by and a notification from an app called Whisper popped up on her phone. It made me nervous so I looked, and she had created a \"whisper\" that said \"If my ex asked, I would run away with him\"... And there was a response that said\" How old are you?\". \n\nThere was nothing more, and she broke down crying and apologizing. However, I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know for a fact she would flip her lid if I did anything like this myself. She says it was just a passing fancy that she had while thinking of the past. \n\nI don't know if I should let it go, or let her go.", "summary": "my SO would apparently leave me for her ex if he asked, but denies she actually would."}
{"id": "t3_30ezhh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently assigning uniforms.", "post": "So this began on Tuesday but I realized my FU today. I am in Brazil spreading American imperalism. On Tuesday I received a shipment of T- shirts with our institution's name and logo. So I thought 'hey, I will hand out these shirts and it will be free advertisting whenever they wear the shirt'. I distrubuted the shirts accordingly amoung the Brazilians at our institute whom are currently being Americanized/Imperialized. Now this doesn't sound so bad but most of the Brazilians being exposed to the Americanization are female. About 98% attending are young Brazilian women. Today I noticed that almost all of the wore the shirt both days. I asked them if they plan to wear the shirt everyday and they said \"Yeah we want it be like an uniform\". So I didn't realize until today by handing out these shirts meant no more hot Brazilian women in skipy shirts. TIFU.", "summary": "While spreading American Imperalism I handed out shirts and now there are no more Brazilian boobs in my face."}
{"id": "t3_37og2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] dating a [30F] who says I need to open up to her. All my ex's have said similar. What am I doing wrong?", "post": "Me [30M] dating a [30F] who says I need to open up to her. All my ex's have said similar. It has been a recurring trend where women assume I am not into them when I really am. If opening up is something everyone else does in relationships I genuinely do not know what that means. I am beginning to wonder if I am just not an emotive person, but how do I make her understand that?\n\nCan anyone give an example of what they would consider their SO opening up to them?\n\nIt's not like I keep secrets or lie to them about anything, although I often keep my negative thoughts to myself. And I don't think I have much baggage in which to unload, I try to live a pretty simple life and don't stress much about other people. I more-or-less live my life as normal when in a relationship, go to movies, dinner and drinks, take a day trip to the beach, etc, and I enjoy the companionship of someone else. Her happiness is naturally important to me and I try to express it and show it by doing nice things like making dinners, taking trips, meeting her friends and family, small gifts etc. But on an emotional level I am clearly missing something.", "summary": "Women accuse me of not opening up to them in relationships. Unsure if I don't not know how to open myself up to others or am an emotionless robot doomed to be alone."}
{"id": "t3_2nrs9t", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "How many is too many?", "post": "Hi /r/cats, I'm writing to you today (and I hope this is the correct subreddit) because I am the happy owner of two indoor cats, Arya and Coco, each about a year in age. I've been having some difficulty recently with fleas (as a result of strays laying claim to my porch and the subsequent tracking of said fleas on my shoes) and am at my wits end trying to figure out how to A) save my poor cats from the fleas' tiny clutches and B) clear my house of them for good. \n\nI live in a townhouse in Miami Beach, 2 stories with ample space for the cats to stretch their limbs. I have very little \"cloth\"/no carpet in the ways of furniture (save a chair and then my own bed - the couch is leather and the other furniture is wooden) but I can't seem to eradicate the fleas. As a result, I've had to quarantine my cats in one room while I try to clean everything else and neither myself or the cats are happy with the arragement.\n\nTo toss a monkey wrench into an already stressful situation: An orange kitten has been curling up on my porch near my door for the last few days (I'd say for warmth since the last few days have been abnormally cold) and i've taken to feeding him. Now i'm strongly considering adopting him into the family (Myself, single 23 year old guy + Coco and Arya) and am not sure if 3 is too many? Will he make the flea sitatuation worse? \n\nHelp?", "summary": "Can't kill the fleas fast enough and thinking about making the duo a trio. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1bjsfj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm thinking of changing out of engineering after some bad exams and disinterest. Have you ever changed from a major you were very confident in and how did it turn out?", "post": "Longer story short,\n\nI'm a Computer Engineer (track) freshman at a decent college, and this is my second semester. Taking Physics (got a B in AP in HS), a Computer Systems course, Japanese (lived there for a bit, not an anime fan exactly), and English. So I just got back a 64 in Physics (10 point scale), 61 in Computer test I had the same day, and an 83 on an essay. Now, my folks know my last computer test was a 74 and were pretty upset, and seriously said I'd improve or transfer to an easier place. I studied my butt off or both tests, and though the Physics class average was a 70, I can't really say anything about the Computer one. It's on a mixture of Assembly and how that works in a \"LC-3\" model processor that is made to teach students.\n\nNow I want to rethink my life and switch majors, but I have close to no interest in anything in life but computers, gaming, music (I've done some small composing for indie games, not worth mentioning anywhere, and multiinstrumentalist), etc... My parents are more traditional in what I should do for a job, and being financially dependent I'm not stubborn enough to drop them or ignore their advice. Anyone else been in a similar position, I'd love to hear what you did.", "summary": "Kid can't do engineering, isn't amazing at much else and needs to switch majors or fail life."}
{"id": "t3_223ni6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to clean.", "post": "Throwaway, because I don't want this linked to me.\n\nI work at a pool. I have for years. Lately, we've had a bunch of algae growing all over the deck (the concrete area surrounding the pool). I wanted to get rid of it, haven't done that before, and scrubbing didn't seem to work too well. So yesterday I asked one of my supervisors how I might do that. He suggested that I dilute chlorine in water, pour it on the spots, and let it sit overnight. I did the first two things. Then, when I had finished, and the bucket was being used for something else, I noticed a few more spots that I missed. So I figured I'd just pour a little bit of chlorine straight from the bottle, figuring that would be fine, that he just didn't want me to use too much. I just woke up in a panic, remembering a leak in the chlorine room we had a while back that eroded some of the concrete. Now I'm dreading coming into work today, because I might've done some permanent damage to the pool deck.", "summary": "I might have accidentally done permanent, expensive damage to the deck at the pool where I work."}
{"id": "t3_2qeqnv", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Ugh, quicky wedding.", "post": "Hey Weddit!\n\nMy FH and I have been together for almost 8 years and engaged for close to 3 we talked about wedding dates when we got engaged but as we had two small children, a house and both finishing school we knew it'd be a while. Originally we were thinking this year and that didn't happen and now his sister is engaged and getting married next fall. We though this was fantastic as it meant we didn't have to worry about planning for a few more years (we both find it stressful) so we were thinking 2017 (his oldest sister was married in 2013 so it'd be two years between each). My grandmas health  recently declined and I'm not sure she'll make it another 2 years until our wedding so we were thinking of having a courthouse wedding soon and having our immediate family come then take everyone out for supper after.We still want to have a \"wedding\" eventually maybe a renewal? But when discussing more the JP is only available during certain hours and my FH can't get time off work during the week for it so it's seeming like it'll need to be at night/weekend which means renting somewhere to have the \"ceremony\" so it's turning into a wedding of sorts and we don't have the  money currently nor do we want a wedding right now. I'm just wondering if anyone has been through a similar situation or how I would approach FSIL so she understands I'm not trying to ruin her wedding by having a quicky. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions are totally welcome!", "summary": "Elderly grandmother not doing well wants to attend my wedding. FSIL has wedding planned for Nov 2015 don't want to overstep but want to get married so grandmother can be there."}
{"id": "t3_1pqqeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/M] What is wrong with me?", "post": "I don't even know where to start. I don't know if it's just me or do other people also feel this way, but I'm so afraid to make any kind of advancement towards girls. That is why I've been single for the past 24 years of my life. Having never been in a relationship for 24 years of my life. Is it normal?\n\nThere's always this mentality that i have, that I'm incomparable to any of the girls that i meet, and I'm so boring, that i couldn't possibly make any kind of impression on her. I feel so insignificant. All i do in my spare is Reddit, and video games, i do also practice on my piano when i feel like it, but that is it. I started working out a few weeks ago, and have been doing it like 3/4 times a week. I'm not fat or skinny, might say i am pretty lean, just not much muscles. I'm also generally afraid to initiate a conservation, but even when i do, it's just a few sentences then silence. I'm not desperate to be in a relationship. However, it would be nice to be in one, I'm not in a hurry to get married, i want to find a girl that suits me, not just any girl that i meet. Of course, with my personality, i would piss my pants to approach her in the first place. I do have some female friends, but they are more of an acquaintance. I have no problem making small talk, especially when the subject is interesting, i could talk til sunset. However, this is the extent of my advancement, I always stop there. I could never go past the boundary of being friends.", "summary": "Socially awkward me can't get past the stage of just being friends with girls."}
{"id": "t3_1v01ac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the difference between a friendship and a relationship? (22, M)", "post": "I realized recently that I'm not really clear on why people choose to have relationships as opposed to friendships (*aside from sex and physical intimacy - I can understand why those are appealing*). I've had one relationship in my life, and it was toxic and unhealthy, and clearly did not give me a realistic view of what a relationship should (or, could) be.\n\nI have several very close long-term friends with whom I am comfortable sharing a lot of my emotions, ideas, and thoughts with. I know that they will support me through decisions I make, and I would do the same for them. But the term for this is \"friendships\", and not \"relationships\". And it would be \"weird\" if, for instance, I said \"I love you\" to one of them.\n\nI feel that if I were to ever get into a \"relationship\", I'd feel dishonest with myself by saying things like \"I love you\"; I care about my good friends and have an emotional connection with them, so why don't I tell *them* that as well?\n\nSo I guess I'm asking, could someone try to clarify for me what people gain from being in relationships that they don't get from friendships? What makes a relationship worthy of actively expressing love but a friendship not?", "summary": "Other than sex/physics intimacy, what does a relationship give that a friendship doesn't?"}
{"id": "t3_1afcsg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've Fallen...", "post": "I wish I could send this...\n\nThe room was dark, illuminated only by the blue tint of light that lazily shine through water and glass. It was a calming and peaceful space, unknowing to the world that lay a few hundred yards away. The room filled and emptied in shifts of spouses, children, and families. But there we sat along a secluded wall, untouched by the masses that quietly passed. Side by side, her head rested on my shoulder as we sat comfortably mesmerized by the aquatic life that swam before us. It is this moment, among so many others that I revisit daily.\n\nLike a newly planted flower whose roots had yet been given the opportunity to grasp at its new dwelling, our relationship was still in shallow ground. But, it was at that instance that I was overcome with the warmth of our presence together. A connection I've not felt with anyone else before.\n\nAs time carries on, doubts and worries enter my racing mind, only subdued by the feelings experienced on that day; pushed away by the embrace of that moment in time, shared only between us. I don't know which road we will travel or the conditions that await us. Love can be as blinding and uncertain as all else in life. Regardless, I've cherish the times we've spent together; reinforcing my commitment with every new contact, and every new memory.\n\nWhile I can envision my destination, I'm walking toward it on a path void of light. I thank God for every step taken on even ground. With every new step, I hope and pray that he continue to be so kind. And the obstacles that lie ahead, become opportunities to grow as one. \n\n---\n\nShe [24F] and I [23M] have been dating for about 4 months. Wish I could be straight up and send this to her.", "summary": "hope she finds this..."}
{"id": "t3_1s3sbv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] of 2.5 years and I [21F] living togeth, sexiled", "post": "We've been loosing some of our romance. He works late (2am) and goes to bed around 5am where I go to school early and go to bed around midnight. This is an issue when my 8am alarm goes off and it wakes him up.\n\nHe's started sleeping on the couch to get better sleep. We haven't boned in like a month. Which is an issue. He's constantly horny but I'm not feeling it because we don't see each other that often anymore and I don't wake up to him and all that cheesy stuff.\n\nSo, I've barred him from sex unless he spends 2 consecutive nights sleeping in the same bed with me and on the second day he wakes up before noon. He's been sleeping in the same bed as me now, he still goes to bed ridiculously late and wakes up around 3pm but at lease I get snuggles! \n\nIs this fair/good? Am I being bossy?", "summary": "sexiled until he sleeps in our bed and wakes up on time,"}
{"id": "t3_1rl30p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] do not feel what I should be feeling for my GF [35 F]", "post": "I have been dating my GF for five months.  We have a great time together.  She is smart, attractive, and a really great person.  The problem is that I do not have any \"love\" feelings for her that I think should be there after this amount of time.  I think that she has or is falling in love with me but just has not said it yet.  I do not know if I should end things with her or wait it out in the hope of developing these feelings.  I really do like her and the time that we spend with each other, and I do not want to hurt her.  She is an amazing person.", "summary": "I have no \"love\" feelings for my GF.  Should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_4vqvxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M17] can have better conversations with my friend [F17] that my girlfriend [F17] (8-month relationship).", "post": "Whether it's politics, movies, songs, books, or any topics about life in general, I can have long conversations that last hours with my friend (we used to like each other last year, now we just pretend that didn't happen), and with my girlfriend (8 months), I can't, she doesn't like sharing her opinion on things because she feels it would ruin our relationship or I'd see her different. \n\nThis is really affecting me much more than her, as I love talking about all sorts of things, and I feel so bad about talking to my friend (who my gf hates) simply because I can enjoy talking to her way more. please help :(\n\nWhat can I do to make conversations more enjoyable with her?", "summary": "I enjoy talking to my friend more than my gf, this is causing internal conflicts within me"}
{"id": "t3_2pmf9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [25/f] understand my [24/m] boyfriend better before our child is born and we move in together.", "post": "Our situation is not ideal. We've known each other about a year and through failed birth control, ended up pregnant. However we decided to make things work together through love, communication, and understanding.\n\nBut I do not understand him. At all. Listed below are all my \"frustrations\" and things that make me uncertain if walking forward with him in this life together will work.\n\n*He's Anti-Vaccine in all regards\n\n*However, he wouldn't use a pacifier that fell on the floor, or eat something that dropped on the floor, because Germs.\n\n*He's Pro Ron Paul to the extreme\n\n*Believes the constitution is the only thing that should be considered when making governmental decisions.\n\n*Doesn't trust the government.\n\n*Refuses to get health insurance because Obama.\n\n*Refuses to get a credit card.\n\n*Doesn't believe in phone plans, contracts, leases.\n\n*Doesn't believe in credit in general, but wants to buy a house. (Doesn't understand how these two things correlate.)\n\n*Dogs are for outside only, because Dirt. (Is convinced kids don't get shit on things.)\n\n*Believes buying something from Walmart and then returning it is unethical/produces Product Loss, but wont shop at Walmart because Big Corporation/Bad Business Practices.\n\n*Hasn't been able to get a job in over 6 months, thinks government services are unnecessary and people are only poor because they don't try hard enough.\n\n*Wants to get rid of public transportation, because Low Class.\n\nThe amount I find myself biting my tongue and picking my battles increases each day. I can't wrap my head around some of his ideas. I don't know if it's because he's young. Because he didn't go to college. If he's naive to the world. The list could continue.\n\nOr maybe we're just incredibly different and I believe extremely opposite things, which is why everything he believes seems so outlandish to me.", "summary": "I can't wrap my head around the person I'm in a relationship and about to be a parent with."}
{"id": "t3_3ui9tc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feelings I [20 M] have about my first girlfriend [19 F] and our relationship of about 2 weeks, not sure I am ready", "post": "So I am in college and got my first ever girlfriend; I have hooked up with people before, also just in college, but never had a relationship.  \n\nThe weird part is I was so sure I wanted a relationship, but since we started dating suddenly I am not so sure.  I feel myself almost wanting other girls even more badly now (sort of a want-what-you-can't-have type of thing).  \n\nI'm not sure if this is a normal reaction to a first relationship or maybe I thought I was more ready and mature then I actually am.  Any thoughts?\n\n(We haven't had sex or done anything past 2nd base so could it be sexual frustration?)", "summary": "got my first girlfriend, I was sure I wanted a relationship, now I am distracted by other women, not sure if I should stick with it or whether I'm not ready for a gf."}
{"id": "t3_v89mm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Strange Prenup - Is my wife asking too much?", "post": "Hi. I was married last year to wife whom I love very much. I am over 40, she is 35.\n\nShe requested a prenup when we first started talking about kids which I eagerly agreed to as I have already saved for retirement. She agreed that anything I had before we were married should remain my separate property.\n\nWhat she asked is that if she agrees to have our children AND she ever becomes unable to work AND it is well within my means that I always agree to pay for her basic needs even if we divorce. At the top of her list of things she wants covered is healthcare followed by food and shelter and basic bills in a relatively modest way, not an excessive lifestyle, just her needs. \n\nShe is a hard working person. She's not looking for a meal ticket. She loves to work. But she has struggled developing her career over past five years or so partially due to health trouble and a move we made together. She has health concerns that are not life threatening but do impact her earnings potentially. Having kids could make this worse. \n\nI agreed to this when we first decided to marry, but now that she wants to add this to the prenup before she gets pregnant, I wonder if she's asking too much.\n\nI make over 150k+ per year and have already saved for retirement. She makes less than 50k per year and still has student loans.", "summary": "Wife wants to legally bind me to take care of her basic needs indefinitely should she ever not be able to work if she agrees to have our kids. Ok or not?"}
{"id": "t3_3ds7fv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Talking", "post": "Today at work it was a very slow day with not many customers which was surprising for a saturday (I am a dish washer). So as a joke when someone was walking by me with a very light object I would say: \"Easy there muscles\". But near the end of my shift one of my co workers who I do not know well walked by me because they had to take out the garbage and I accidentally said \"Easy there muzzles\" as if I had a lisp. I proceeded to laugh after I stood in confusion for a couple seconds as I had realized I butchered my own joke.", "summary": "I talk too much and should of been working, mispronouncing a joke and embarrassing myself."}
{"id": "t3_2eaz3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my [35M] new relationship. He just got out of a relationship-is he ready?", "post": "First off, I know everybody varies with this. I just wanted different opinions to work with.\n\nI have been on three dates with this man, and I really like him and he seems to really like me. Things are going well. He just ended a (2.5 yr) (27/f)relationship in May. She ended it-they wanted different things in the future. He said the relationship was \"headed that way\" for about the last year of dating.\n\nWe discussed about what they both wanted. That's not an issue to me.\n\nAnyways, my concern is this: Dating for a few months, then him telling me \"I'm sorry but, turns out, I'm really not ready for this/not over my ex.\"\n\nHe seems over her/okay with it now but, I want to avoid any heartache on my end.\n\nHow fast do guys USUALLY recover from a break up? They lived together, if that matters. I'm the first woman he's dated since her, if that matters. Should I avoid this/proceed with caution? I can't really proceed with caution. I can't control when and if I fall for the person. So..that doesn't really help me.", "summary": "Should I avoid this situation (dating a guy just out of an LTR)? Will it end badly?"}
{"id": "t3_4kpg26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (M25) read flirty messages from my (F23) gf and I'm afraid of the worst", "post": "I dont know where to go for advice since I dont have a lot of people to talk to but here's a shot. So my GF has been distancing herself from me the past few days. She's made some new friends online to game with recently and is staying up later than usual, one guy specifically lives not but a stone's throw away. And that one guy sent a FB messages to her saying \"I care about you\" \"I'm attractived to you\". I confronted my gf about this and she said she was feeling depressed and felt unattractive so his comments were making her feel better. I wanted to ease my mind and see the messages myself (she has done the same to me when trust was an issue) but she refused saying that is was a private massage and that What she told \" he was trying to cheer me up\" me would be enough. I got worked up from it and began gathering all my possession to leave but she still kept to her story and out of exhaustion from fighting from 4-6am", "summary": "I gave up and went to sleep with the feeling she's hiding something or I'm overreacting to her \" private massages\" so all in all what are your thoughts on this?"}
{"id": "t3_31s39u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going in dry.", "post": "So, I was getting ready to head off to sleep for the night, and as per usual was going about the things on my pre-sleep to-do list, such as brushing my teeth.\n\nAs I just finished putting the tooth-paste on to my toothbrush, I was about to run some water over it and commence the brushing of the teeth... but I had a moment of just basic clarity, where there were no thoughts and I was just doing what I was doing... and that lead me to forget to put water on my brush and just put it straight in my mouth all dry and weird.", "summary": "Was getting ready for bed, prepared toothbrush for teeth-cleaning, forgot to put water on it, went in dry, decided to make TIFU post with innuendoish title."}
{"id": "t3_104hnz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one overcome standardized test taking nerves?", "post": "Hey all,\nSo I have taken the GRE 2 times now and have ended up with shit scores.\nA little back-story: I need to have a solid Math score to get into graduate school, (somewhere around 160 if you know the scores). I am happy with my verbal score but really need to improve my math.\nHere is my problem: I took a bunch of practice test and pretty much destroyed them, missed very few questions and finished with tons of time left and felt super confident. Come test day... my brain fails me and I end up bombing it. I have recently been studying for the test again and its like before, I have a solid grasp of every math concept. How do I not repeat my last performance? Does anyone have any tips to get over this anxiety and not freeze up?", "summary": "Took GRE twice, blew it both times do to nerves. How do other redditors get over this hurdle?"}
{"id": "t3_x6boe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After spending my high school years training to be an IT professional, I had a massive change of heart and will be entering college as an English major in about a month. What's a decision you made that you never foresaw?", "post": "A little more detail: Through High School, I took vocational classes in Web Design, Graphic Design, Computer Hardware, Computer Software, Computer Troubleshooting, Computer Networking, and loads of other IT classes. I currently have a CompTia A+ certification and two Cisco Systems program completer certificates. Suffice to say, I spent a lot of time in the computer lab and had a pretty good plan worked out.\n\nThen, I took AP Literature and Composition. \n\nMy love for books and the English language was one I had acknowledged from an early age; I devoured books and consistently did well in my humanities classes. But it was always a hobby beside my \"work\", that being IT. As I progressed through my senior year, my true loves and passions began to show themselves, and I found myself at a crossroads. Pay for college and learn something to make money, or pay for college and learn something I truly loved and wanted to learn. \n\nI chose the latter, and now I am 100% set in my decision. I have one IT internship lined up and an interview for a second one(At my college) coming up soon. I'm getting a Liberal Arts degree, I know the consequences, and I am fully prepared for it because it's something I love.", "summary": "My hobby and my college education changed places."}
{"id": "t3_3dah6q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by poisoning my girlfriend", "post": "Today is my girlfiend's birthday and I thought I'd surprise her in the attempts of being romantic.\n\nI work in London so I live there during the week and come back home to Oxford during the weekends - so my girlfriend was expecting to be alone today and celebrate her birthday with me this coming Saturday. I took the day off work and drove back home at about 5 this morning, planning to make her breakfast before she woke up and to surprise her in bed. \n\nUnfortunately, after staying late at work the day before and waking up this early to have time to get back, I am completely exhausted. I let myself into my house with my key and proceed to make breakfast, and this is when the FU begins. \n\nNote, my girlfriend has coeliac disease - meaning she can't eat gluten without suffering from diarrhoea and major stomach pains. In my tiredness, as I am making her toast, I accidentally use MY gluten-riddled bread instead of her own special one. I proceed to finish breakfast and wake her up. Everything is perfect until she is halfway through it and says something about how the bread tastes different. I have a complete OH SHIT moment, and had to fess up.\n\nWe spent the rest of her birthday morning in the bathroom, with her crying from her stomach aches and me holding her hair back as she tries to throw it back up.", "summary": "tried to be romantic and gave my coecliac girlfriend gluten, ultimately ruining her birthday."}
{"id": "t3_2mjcq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 19 F] and my boyfriend [19 M] of 7 and a half months, our lives are headed in opposite directions and I don't want to get to attached and that I'm in a lost cause.", "post": "I compete in pageants also do modeling, I'm in the visual arts program. He is the best player in football for his position, in the country, and has a very high chance of making it to the nfl. We've talked about what we'd like from our relationship and that if he does get to the nfl he'd still want to be together. Now, I know we haven't been dating for a long time, but knowing that our lives are headed in completely opposite directions puts me on edge and afraid of the future. Through all the people I have dated I've never met a guy as nice as my boyfriend. I guess you could say we're both hopeless - He's also my neighbor. plus, i guess you could say hes a little socially awkward (?) cause he has trouble talking to girls (only spoke to me because i was looking at his computer screen) but thats not really a deciding factor. I do get hit on a lot but ive never felt anything towards any guy whose come up to me because i feel like i have everything i want already. Lastly, we have no secrets. I can look through his phone and fb and he doesn't care and he can do the same although we choose not to - I jokingly swipe through. There's a lot more but I don't want this to get to long.", "summary": "Would a pageant/model girl be able to keep dating a pro football player, should she keep dating him even though people say the chances of staying together are slim, will the circumstances let it work?"}
{"id": "t3_xh4ff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF and I want different futures over the next ten years. Do we have an expiration date?", "post": "My boyfriend [26m] and I [23f] have been together for two and a half years. We've had a rocky couple of months but we saw a couple's counselor and things have been going much better. I love him deeply, and have already followed him to a new city where we both had to start from the ground up. Something came out in the counseling, however, that has really been bothering me.\n\nHe said he wants to spend the next ten or more years exploring, visiting and living in various places around the US and possibly the world. His career would allow him to do this fairly easily, he's never had trouble finding a job. My problem with this is he wants to keep finding himself until he's nearly 40 - and in the meantime, I would have to follow him.\n\nI'm in school to become a psychologist. I have 2 more years for my bachelor's degree, then another 4-5 years for my PhD. THEN the who-knows-how-many years it takes to get certified and get my practice started. I can't afford to keep moving around, except maybe between my bachelor's and PhD, and between the PhD and starting my career. I have a job that I'm good at and could continue to do if we moved but it's not something I see myself doing for the rest of my life.\n\nIs there a good compromise? Are either of us being unreasonable? Are we doomed to break up over this? What can I do?", "summary": "I want to be a psychologist, my boyfriend wants to move around the world. Can we mesh these dreams?"}
{"id": "t3_3f82wj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Casual sex with coworker", "post": ">I'm female.\n>18 aka the age of consent.\n>been told I'm quite attractive.\n>still a virgin but want to change that badly.\n>super shy when it comes to sexy time things.\n>i have a fetish for guys who are older than me.\n>work in an office with lots of attractive older men.\n>there's this one guy who rounding down is 10 years older than me.\n>he's hot af.\n>i want to bone him rlly badly.\n>don't want a commitment. \n>my last day of work is this week (I'm just an intern).\n>i need to make my move THIS WEEK.\n>we flirt all the time. \n>he calls me beautiful all the time.\n>he asked for my number. \n>he's asked me if i thought he was attractive.\n>I've led him to believe that I have tons of sexual experience when in fact I have none.\n>how do I initiate sex subtly without being too forward?\n>how do I hide my lack of experience from him?", "summary": "i want to fuck my hot coworker before I leave my job. How do I initiate causal sex?"}
{"id": "t3_1zkpkc", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Flights to Korea in May", "post": "Hello r/travel,\n\nI am planning on flying to Korea this May (middle to end of the month). I have been searching various sites and gathering prices. I am wondering if anyone thinks that the flight prices will rise more than they have in the last week. I looked at flying into Tokyo (Narita) or Seoul then catching another flight to Busan (my final destination in Korea).\n\n  Details:\n\n --- Flying out of Denver (beginning 15 May)\n --- Willing to either connect in Narita or Seoul to fly to Busan or make Seoul my last airport stop and catch a bus south to Busan.", "summary": "Should I buy whatever flight will get me to Korea now or wait to see if the price drops in a few weeks? It is currently around $725 one way."}
{"id": "t3_1277zf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] been with gf [23/f] for over a year and finding I am noticing more and more things that I used to ignore", "post": "We met when we were both in 3rd year of college and hit it off right away. I am engineering student and she is in a management program. In our first 8 months we were having a great time and just having lots of fun however more recently I have noticed that there are things that didn't used to bug me that kind of do now. We don't really discuss current events or politics and economics which I am interested in and she is more of a US weekely magazine type person. I have tried bringing up topics and articles that I read however she often just doesn't want to continue the topic.I am just finding myself speaking to other girls who are more interested in topics I enjoy in my faculty and find myself attracted to them. Apart from this I don't really have any complaints to our relationship however going along with this I keep feeling that this relationship has no end, which I am not sure is a good thing or a bad thing. I realize it's comforting to know your SO is happy with your relationship however I feel there is nothing I could do apart from cheating that would make her want to break up with me. I am unsure how to proceed and don't want to lose all our mutual friends for breaking up with a girl because i'm \"bored\".", "summary": "GF been with for 1 year and am now noticing our differences in interests and find myself feeling trapped but have no real reason to be unhappy other than boredome, feeling like a jackass and my just have \"grass is greener on other side\" syndrome."}
{"id": "t3_1qgpno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [23M] dating apathy normal?", "post": "Hey I'm a 23M just living my life and trying to have fun. I got out of a difficult 1.5 year relationship about six months ago, but went NC after hooking up for a few months, four months ago.\n\nSince then I've hooked up with a few women, and have briefly dated a bunch but I've ended all of them after a few weeks at most. \n\nAlthough I'm happy being single and really enjoying my space, and freedom to devote time to friendships and work, lately I have been yearning to have a partner. \n\nI met a cute girl the Friday night. Got her number and set up a date for tomorrow night (night has been reserved but I haven't confirmed plans yet). The thing is, now I'm totally apathetic about it. I barely know her and it just seems like energy and time. What is the point? I'm not that enthusiastic about this at all, but I feel like I need to put myself out there to meet people and move on with my life. \n\nAnyway don't know what to do. Part of me wants to go on the date and see what she is like, part of me just wants to cancel or make an excuse.\n\nAnyone else feel like this? How do I get out of the apathy phase, or do I just go with it?", "summary": "Apathetic about dating, but have a desire to put myself out there and be social. Unsure of whether or not I should proceed with a date I've set up."}
{"id": "t3_21iw4p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by grabbing a falling knife", "post": "Actually happened last night at work. I was working line at the BBQ jurnt and went to grab a sausage link and the knife to slice it out of the warmer. We were busy so I got in a hurry and tried to grab both at the same time (grab the link with my left hand and grab the knife off the top tray with my right). It's kept in the warmer because it's mainly used to cut the ribs (3 and 4 bones, half slabs etc). Anyway, I'm grabbing the knife and the link and the knife slips out of my hand because my gloves are all greasy and slippery from doing bbq things. Out of instinct (and because the rib knife at my old store was always dull as fuck) I went to catch it and the blade landed right under the first knuckle on my pinky and surprise, [the knife is sharp as fuck.] I took my glove off, wrapped it in a paper towel, put another glove on and finished the order. Needless to say it stings a bit. It's pretty deep and opens back up every time I move my pinky.", "summary": "don't try to catch a falling knife"}
{"id": "t3_1sn2td", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [19m] confused on how Gf [19] doesnt like close contact.", "post": "Ok so the both of us are freshman in college, and she is my first real relationship ive been in (the first one doesnt count, long story). She grew up in a religious household, and close contact with others is completely foreign to her. Nobody hugged each other in her family, and she never saw her parents kiss. So this upbringing has caused a minor problem with our relationship, not major, but i want to see if you guys can help.\n\nShe comes over to my dorm room often, where we usually just talk and hang-out, or watch tv shows or a movie. We are usually cuddling/spooning/whatever during these times, (sex is completely off the table for her until marriage, so im trying not too make any sort of advances) and last night she completely pulled her bra off and shirt, and so I could feel around in that area while we watched the movie. About halfway through though, she told me it doesnt do anything for her at all, and she was just doing that for my benefit. She also said she doesnt really like cuddling that much, she doesnt like touching too much.\n\n So although touching her in places like that is great and all, I dont enjoy doing it if she doesnt enjoy it too. I know this is just how she is and how she was raised, and I cant change it, but I wanted to see if there could be a way to try and change her opinion on close contact. She texted me last night asking how people are supposed to feel doing these things, so it makes it even clearer to me it honestly doesnt do anything for her, and I want to find a way to fix it.", "summary": "GF lets me touch her, but she doesnt really enjoy it, which therefore makes me not even want too"}
{"id": "t3_2hl1d0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My [21/F] roommate [20/F] walked in on me post-masturbation. How do I not make this awkward?", "post": "It's about a month in in our living together. She's fairly conservative and Asian, and I'm supposed to be fairly conservative too. On the weekends she leaves town by 7 pm, and we don't regularly communicate, so around 9 I thought the coast was clear. I finish around 9:30 in a glow lying naked. Before I even realize it, the door is open and she (and the hallway) can see me in the buff. I quickly snap a blanket over me (too late!) and lie there, pretending to be asleep as she packs ands leaves, turning off the light. How should I address the issue so we can still be amicable? Did I fuck up everything? Her friends are my friends and I don't want to lose them. Should I be direct or pretend nothing happened?", "summary": "Should I leave a note, text her now, or just pretend nothing happened? Also, don't suggest asking me to hook up with her, I'm completely serious here and no pms please"}
{"id": "t3_18frri", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [20/M] and my boyfriend [30/M] are going nowhere, is this okay?", "post": "My boyfriend and I, of the last two years, have a very happy, cute, fun relationship full of good sex and laughs. We may have the occasional fight but I really can't see anything breaking us up unless I were to choose to end it. Here's the problem, we rarely talk about serious things, but his work is considering assigning him to a new project and we discussed what he finds acceptable in terms of how long he's gone.\n\nHe answered \"whatever it takes,\" which I clarified further to mean that is pretty much willing to spend 3 months at a time in a foreign country without me (at all). This hurts a little because I have refused to study abroad in college to do exactly this to him (and our relationship). I honestly thought our relationship was past this by now. \n\nIn the end, this made me really think and realize our relationship isn't going anywhere no matter how crazy we are about each other and I can't really figure out why. I can't picture myself with anyone else (and I know he feels the same) but am confused at both the problem and what I should do. Advice?", "summary": "boyfriend is willing to leave me for 3 months at a time (which doesn't really bother me) but realizing that after 2 years our relationship isn't very serious does."}
{"id": "t3_utxnd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just saw a woman massage her 20 year old, bearded son in public. What are some weird parent stories you guys have involving older children instead of young kids?", "post": "Okay, so I am staying at my grandparents' house for the weekend and my grandpa was going to go to church. Since he had nobody to go with, I volunteered to accompany him. I don't go to church much, so I didn't know the people that go to his church. \n\nWe get to the church and sit down in a pew. I was looking down because I was turning my phone on silent. Right after I finished, I look up to see a mom going ham on her son's ears and neck. She was rubbing them and massaging them. Later during the sermon, her husband started massaging her. It was just a big rub-sesh.", "summary": "Woman rubs sons skin in church."}
{"id": "t3_18zmih", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How Do I Come Out More Mature?", "post": "I did a stupid thing and dated within my friends circle. I know, I know. Lesson Learned. But now I have a new problem.\n\nThis group of friends go out for breakfast every Saturday Morning. It's become a tradition that we've come to look forward to. We go to the same delicious restaurant with fair prices, and the wait staff knows us all by name.\n\nMy ex and I continued to attend after the breakup. We looked past the awkwardness because the tradition had become so important (and fun!). But now a new obstacle has presented itself. He has acquired a new girlfriend who has no taste for my presence. Thus, he set an ultimatum for our friends circle: It's either him or me.\n\nWhat do I do? Do I continue to go with my nose high, saying that he can stay home (since this is just childish)? Or do I put my pride to work, and step back so as to avoid any of this ridiculousness? Which option would make me more mature?\n\n::", "summary": "My ex wont come to mutual friend gatherings if I'm there. Do I continue to go, or step back? Which is more mature?"}
{"id": "t3_11bvjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "r/relationships... am I[18M] an overly attached boyfriend?", "post": "We've been in a long distance relationship for about 5 months now, and it's been amazing. However, the past week or so, when we text she seems uninterested. She used to actively converse with me and it was great, but now she's just throwing one liners at me. She never really contributes to the conversation either. I constantly find myself struggling to come up with a topic to talk about because she just doesn't contribute anymore. It makes me feel like she just doesn't want to talk to me anymore, and it sucks really. Just the other day we were typing to each other on skype, when she told me she was going to do something right quick. She was \"gone\" for an hour, but was posting on a website we both go to during that time.\n\nAm I overreacting? I just really hate how it makes me feel..\n\nThanks reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 months acts like she doesn't want to talk to me, makes me feel like shit, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ufw34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF(31M) of 5yrs broke up with me(26F), I can't move on.", "post": "For the first 3yrs we lived in the same city and were very happy. I don't trust people easily, but I eventually started to let him in. I became a part of his large circle of friends and family, and care about them all as if they were my own family (my real fam isn't great).  \n   \n  \nThen he left for a 2yr grad program and I moved home to figure out a different career direction. The first year was okay, he made a huge effort to come and see me all the time, but I never got to meet his school friends. The second year got increasingly hard as he would go days without talking to me, and when I saw him we didn't have too much to talk about.  \n  \n  \nI was going through a tough time mental health-wise over the two years, and started therapy for depression. I know I was not the most fun person to be around, but I loved him more than I've ever loved anyone in my life. Same goes for his family and friends. Now they're all gone, my family provides zero support, and I have no one. He's exactly what I want in a partner, I want to be open to dating again but just can't get myself to want any other person.  \n  \n  \nThe way he handled the breakup was so out of character, he went totally off the grid and just stopped responding to me. For months I would get one or two messages from him with excuses and apologies. I endured a difficult long distance relationship for 2yrs and he dumped me at the last minute. The guy I knew would never be so cold, I don't know what the deal was, but I just want a chance to spend a few days together.  \n  \n  \nI've made a ton of progress with my depression, and I want so badly to be able to spend a couple days with him and see if there's anything there, but he won't. It's been over 6 months since the breakup and I'm still as upset as I was when it happened.", "summary": "He was the one, I'm devastated and have no one but a therapist for support. I can't imagine life without him and all of the people I became close with through him. I don't trust anyone, but I trusted him, I honestly don't think I can date again. He was my best friend; everything I wanted."}
{"id": "t3_34ktvv", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My son is a quitter - advice please", "post": "We are at a loss as to what to do. Our son is 5, 6 in June, and cannot handle failure. Part of the problem is that he has also been very bright, so things tend to come very easily to him.  We've worked to praise effort, but ability,  but he still seems to think that he should just be able to do everything on the first try.  \n\nIt has been getting worse lately. He started tae kwon doe and struggled, as he had no experience.  When he was successful,  he loved it, but if he wasn't able to do the activities, he got angry. Today, he wanted to ride his bike without training wheels. We told him it would be hard, he would crash, he would have to work at it.  He said he understood and yet as soon as it got hard, but gave up and got angry.  He refused to listen and completely shut down. \n\nAny suggestions of strategies to help? We're both frustrated and clueless as to what else to try and want to help him work through this before he gets much older and more set in his ways.", "summary": "almost 6 yo gives up when anything doesn't work the first try."}
{"id": "t3_3g4txk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not putting a lock on my phone screen", "post": "This didn't happen today but rather last night. I'm a college student on summer break so when my friends and I can get the chance to drink we do so. Last night my friends and I were drinking and I got into an argument with one of them. Let's call him Ken. This argument was about whether or not it's ethical to ever spit at someone (I know stupid) anyway Ken ends up winning everyone else over and it really pissed me off so I head to the other room and get hammered. After I'm really drunk one of my exs come the party and she brought some rum, I wanted rum, so I flirted my way to get some. After her and I down a bottle of Bacardi I blackout. So I have been told after I blacked out she starts kissing me. Now this is where we run into problems because I have a current girlfriend. Luckily I pushed off my ex and my friends separated us. Now when they are yelling at me about how I can't be going around kissing other chicks  because I have a girlfriend my phone decided it was a great time to call her. I have been having a problem with butt dials since I don't have a lock on my screen. So I have no clue what she heard but I know it was bad because I recently woke up with a pounding head and many angry and worried texts from my girlfriend.", "summary": "blacked out at a party with ex. She kissed me. My butt dialed my girlfriend "}
{"id": "t3_2w0l97", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my dick swell like a shit and getting raped NSFW NSFW NSFW", "post": "I am a horny high school guy who made this throwaway two days a go not knowing i would need it again for another life cringing moment. I MADE THE TWO BIGGEST FUCK UPS OF MY LIFE IN 3 days\n\nSo two days ago I made a pocket pussy with a tube, a plastic bag and mayonnaise. Well I put the mayonnaise filled pocket pussy under the couch after masturbating and  laid on the couch tired out and fell asleep. I think I'm dreaming and I feel like I'm getting my dick sucked or what not and I start jizzing. I look up to see my dog licking my dick with a passion. I FUCKED UP BAD. It was attracted by the mayonnaise and now I'm a highschooler whose first sexual encounter was getting raped by my dog.\n\nFUCK UP #2 \n\nI thought oh well it wasn't my dog's fault for liking mayonnaise, so fast forward two days, I make a second Pocket pussy and instead of mayonnaise, I use hair conditioner. It felt the same, but it left me smelling really fruity and what not.  I don't fall asleep though. I go about my day on Netflix and after an hour or so I need to pee. But I couldn't, I saw my dick swollen up and I couldn't pee. Ive been googling how to unswell your dick and if I had a weird reaction to the ingredients but I find nothing. I don't know why my dick is swollen and I'm not going to tell my mom to take me to the doctor because a weird conversation will ensue. Im typing this needing to pee though and I will make sure not to drink anything for the next hours or however long until my dick unswells. But i can get like 10 droplets passed every 10 seconds, so Im in the restroom acting like I have to take a long shit, and I'm typing this while sitting at my toilet. Any Help please", "summary": "don't ever make pocket pussies. You will regret it"}
{"id": "t3_32rhar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 1 year. Doesn't find me attractive but loves me.", "post": "I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year. We're both students and are both currently away from uni for our spring break.\n\nToday, I travelled to her home town to stay a few days. We were lying in bed watching a film and her phone buzzed. The phone was on my side of the bed and she asked me to read the message to her. Was a very simple message from her mum reminding her to pick up milk the next day. I just read it on the lock screen, the phone was not unlocked at this point. She asks me to reply so I unlock the phone and hit the Facebook app button. It's an oldish iPhone and doesn't have the new floaty-draggable-head Facebook app commonly found these days. I scroll down the list of friends and see the message \"$MYNAME isn't physiaclly attractive, but I love him anyway\". You know how you can see the most recent message sent/received next to people's names? The above was what displayed next to her closest friend's name. When I read it we were about to go to sleep anyway, so I didn't mention it right then as I wanted to process it first.\n\nI have no idea how to feel about this. Her parents are fairly deeply Christian (GF isn't) and as such we're in separate beds for the duration of my stay. I'm lying her at three in the morning feeling confused as fuck. I have low self esteem when it comes to my appearance. I don't know why I do, but I do. I'm not ugly, I don't dress badly, and I'm not fat. All of that said, I'm also not what you'd call \"hot\". I'm average at worst and above average at best. I'm funny and not totally stupid, I have not doubt these are the qualities my girlfriend finds most alluring. However, despite knowing that, the fact my girlfriend doesn't find me physically attractive upsets me to say the least. \n\nApologies for this poorly thought through babble, but I don't know what to think or do.", "summary": "GF says she does not find me physically attractive, but loves me all the same."}
{"id": "t3_3x9rxf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting too damn high", "post": "Last night I did a few dabs with a friend. All was fine and dandy, we were watching It's Always Sunny, I was about to go home and sleep. \n\nSuddenly I realize my heart is racing, and I check and it's up to about 140bpm, where my resting is usually around 65. I look at my friend and realize my vision is really weird and I'm having trouble controlling my movement. I look up \"seizure\" on my phone and think I'm about to go into a full-on seizure.\n\nThe reason this came to mind, of course, is that I'm on wellbutrin and one of the side effects is seizures. I've never had one, but drinking on wellbutrin (which I did) and doing other stimulants (which I have done before) while on it can raise those chances.\n\nSo I'm freaking out, my vision is weird, and I 'm shaking uncontrollably. My friend dials 911 and soon enough a bunch of firefighters are there. One of them is super suspicious of my friend, who has a bunch of paraphernalia in their room, and proceeds to tell me that the dabs I had been smoking were laced with either cocaine or meth WHICH ONLY FREAKS ME OUT MORE.\n\nSo I've been having this panic attack for a good half-hour, and they bring me to the hospital. Firefighter (who looks like Hulk Hogan) lectures me on how I \"seem like a smart girl\" and I'm \"too young to fuck up like this\". \n\nI took a pee test. Only THC in my system and it was just a really bad panic attack. Also, I left my shoes at my friend's place so my socks got wet on the way home :(", "summary": "I am the paranoid marijuana user stereotype"}
{"id": "t3_1gjak9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me: 24/m. My divorced friends M/24 F/23. Clean-up?", "post": "I'm friends with this couple that recently got divorced (about 2 months ago).  I met her fiance-at-the-time through her and I was a groomsmen in their wedding. I hang out with him more than I hang out with her, but they were usually together anyway. The girl was VERY adamant about trying to hook up with me even while they were together. I never did, even though she's a solid 8.5/10 (redhead). Now that they're divorced, I was curious if there was a time frame before I let myself get a little bit more friendly. Note: I don't necessarily want to/ have to have sex with her, but it seems like that's what she wants. She's coming down from where she lives (about 2 hours North) to come hang out in my city, as she has family here. She wanted to spend the night at my house, which I ok'd because we have a spare bedroom and they've hosted me on myriad occasions. I guess I just wanted to know if it was ok to LET something happen. My male friend had told me that he'd prefer I didn't but if I did, he didn't want to know about it. Aghhhh", "summary": "A (girl)friend of mine just recently got divorced from one of my good friends as of two months ago. She wants it, can I give it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_34k7hi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a simple joke", "post": "This fuck up actually happened today, so invisible internet points for me, I guess. \n\nThere is this kid at my school who is somewhat sensitive.  Lets call him Brad.  Not a lot of people talk to him, as he over exaggerates everything, but my group of friends and I cut him some slack and have developed a pretty good relationship with Brad as a result, until today.\n\nSo, we were at lunch today and we were talking about group projects and such, you know, the usual.  Nothing out of the ordinary yet.  All of a sudden, Brad says \"I do my best work on my own\"  Now most normal people would disregard a statement like this, but not me.\n\nRight when I heard this, my primordial teenager mind, filled with hormones, instinctively said \"Oh, like jerking off, right?\" \n\nI thought nothing of it, a harmless joke at most. I mean everybody was laughing their asses off, so it can't be that bad? Right?\n\n**WRONG** \n\nHe gets infuriated and says that I have taken this \"game\" way too far. \n\nHe goes to the other side of the cafeteria and sits in a corner, in a chair until a faculty member walks over to him and asks him whats wrong.\n\nNeedless to say, Brad ended up snitching on me and left me with a couple detentions.  Also, I am now not allowed to sit with anyone at lunch for the remainder of the year. \n\nOverall, another hilarious, yet shitty day of school.", "summary": "Pissed off a kid who couldn't take a simple joke, and ended up getting punished for it."}
{"id": "t3_lduqt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I stop feeling ashamed when I tell people I'm going to art school?", "post": "I'm currently majoring in 3d animation, focusing on 3d modeling with the ultimate goal being to work at a game developer when I graduate. I'm 1 1/2 years in and while I really enjoy what I'm doing, every time I have to tell someone I go to an art school it feels like I'm being punched in the gut. I always immediately mention I'm majoring in 3d animation, a legitimate career, with the hope that it'll stop them from picturing me as one of the more negative stereotypes of art students. \n\nI guess I'm just not the artsy type. My hobbies are much more science oriented, and I particularly love astronomy. If I ever have free time to let my mind wander, it's very rarely about anything related to art. But I love 3d modeling because it lets me take something from my imagination and create it on a computer screen, no matter how complex it may be. And there are a fair amount of paths I can take my career with it, as opposed to my other hobbies, like astronomy. But while I will feel proud to tell people I'm a 3d modeler when I get hired as one, I just feel ashamed to currently be an art student, instead of, say, an astronomy student, a physics student, a medical student, an engineering student, and so on.", "summary": "How do I overcome my shame of being an *art* student and turn it into something I'm content with being, if not proud to be? "}
{"id": "t3_4bgkx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 58F with my 30F daughter in law that is verbally abusive.", "post": "My son got married 9 months ago and he and his wife moved in with us.\n\nThe daughter in law is cordial but distant from us,, very hot and cold. Sometimes she very friendly other times remote.\n\nShe goes to her parents house very often which is understandable as must get home sick\n\nI'm very careful to give them their space and place no demands on her.  I do all the cooking shopping and cleaning etc.\n\nHowever my son and her have been fighting a lot. Every time she comes back from her mother's , they spend 2 days arguing.  I've also heard call my son names. Fat ugly  dumb etc \n\nWe live in a very large house but she has a even larger voice.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. My son seems to be coping okay but he has become distant and stays in bed weekends when she is not here.  His whole persona has changed.\n\nI've kept out of it but I did ask once why they were fighting when she played up in front of me.  He brushed it off saying she's homesick and that her mother is putting negative things in her head.\n\nThey are both planning to move out and I'm helping with their deposit but I'm not sure how to handle the situation. I had a bad mother in law so I've made sure I'm the total opposite and kept my nose out but it's so hard to bear my son getting verbally abused. Stuff like how she could married someone better looking etc\n\n Everyone argues I understand that but my son has not once called her names and when I argue with my husband we don't call each other names.  I also heard her refusing his request for marriage therapy  \n\nMy son seems to have lost perception of what's right and wrong.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1rzgnv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, which has the highest probability of bringing me happiness down the road: having kids or not having kids?", "post": "In the next few years I'm coming up on a decision that affects the rest of my life: whether to have children or not.\n\nAll of my guy friends who have children love their children, of course, but also talk non-stop about the freedom of their childless days. Days when they could go on a journey on a moment's notice as a single man or with a wife/girlfriend... take the time to pursue the things that made them happy (hobbies, interests, risks)... essentially days with less responsibility. They are rarely able to come out for birthday celebrations among friends, planned weekend getaways, involve themselves with sports teams, usually because they have the responsibility of looking after their kids.\n\nMy question is this: do you find there is a better chance of fulfillment in a life where you have kids or don't have kids?\n\nWhen I look at religion, I would consider myself a philosophical agnostic but practical atheist. I'm a scientist, so although I don't base my life decisions on the existence of an afterlife or god, I don't rule out the possiblity that there is a higher power -- even if that possiblity is infinitesimally small. Of course, if I had to bet my life on whether there existed a higher power or not, I would bet that there is not. For me, for a decision like that, it is a philosophical probability calculation of sorts. In my mind there is more proof that there is no higher power (although not with 100% certainty).\n\nSo when I apply this logic to the notion of having children, I think to myself: I can't predict the future with ultimate certainty. Given that I am immensely happy now (early 30s, long-term girlfriend), is the probability higher that living a life without children will make me happier and more fulfilled than a life without children, or higher for the contrary?", "summary": "I live my life as if there is no god, even though I'm agnostic. I'm happy now and don't know if having children will make me more happy or less happy. Should I have children?"}
{"id": "t3_10kd59", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24/M Ex 23/F is trying to talk again.", "post": "Throwaway EX is on. reddit\n\nSo here is the deal, it was an on/off again relationship for about 4 years. Had some shit go down neither of us were able to deal with like adults. Ended it about 2 years ago, haven't said a word to each other in at least a year and a half. Not a word not a FB hello nothing, zero, zilch, nada. \n\nA week ago the e-mail saying \"hi, how are you.\" Leads to the exchanging of phone numbers etc. After having a couple of conversations with her I realize I want no part of being with her. \n\nHowever I do still enjoy her company. What I need from you all is to tell me how exactly you would go about putting a EX-SO in the friend zone. \nHelp me out here people, I can't date her; WON'T date her. But I want her in my life. Make me some magic internet.", "summary": "Ex is interested in reconnecting, I'm not. I need all your best advice M/F to help me friend zone her."}
{"id": "t3_42n4b2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (31M) afraid that I have too high of a sex drive and it's causing personal problems and potentially affecting my marriage.", "post": "I feel like for around ten or fifteen years ever since I was in my teens and early 20's, I've had a really crazy sex drive.  Even after I've been married to a great wife for a long time now, I hasn't really gone away.  I'm starting to be concerned, and I'm not sure how to handle this.\n\nIt's caused so many issues for me that I'm just not comfortable with.  I feel like I'm addicted to porn more than should be normal.  Even some days when my wife and I have great sex, I'm still looking at it and masturbating hours later.  I also feel so guilty for looking at other women in some places.  I try so hard to just watch the TV while I'm at the gym, but I feel like I can't help myself from looking or fantasizing when I see other women working out.\n\nI just don't get it.  I have a very attractive wife and I should be more than fulfilled, but I just feel like I'm never really getting enough.  I just always have an appetite for more, and it consequently makes me feel so guilty too.\n\nI love my wife very much and could never bring myself to act on anything outside of what we have, which is why I feel so much guilt for always feeling like this.  I really just don't know how to make these feelings go away and feel like I could use some advice or help.", "summary": "I have a very high sex drive and appetite for sex, and it's causing problems for me personally, and I'm afraid it could cause issues in my marriage later on if I don't figure out what to do."}
{"id": "t3_ul7g2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do we faint in response to pain/physical shock? Is it a physiological response or a psychological one?", "post": "Alright so I was wondering, why is it that we faint in response to pain? At first, I thought it was just a response to excruciating pain that the mind couldn't handle (or something or other along those lines). But that didn't seem to check out entirely.\n\nSee, what got me wondering this whole thing was I remembered an instance from a few years ago. I was playing baseball, and I tried to bunt for a base hit. If you don't know, that means I hide it and square really late, to use both speed and the element of surprise to leg out a base hit. Well, the guy was throwing roughly 90 mph, and he buzzed me up and in. It was coming straight at my face, and since I squared late, I didn't have enough time to really get out of the way. Naturally, I put the bat up and blocked my face. It worked, except the ball hit directly on the middle finger of my right hand.\n\nWell as you can imagine, it wasn't pretty. My finger ballooned to the size of a hot dog wiener in about two minutes. In fact, it got so fat that the top layer of my skin split just from sheer pressure. \n\nNow while it looked disgusting, it wasn't nearly as painful as you'd expect. It was bleeding everywhere, and it did hurt, but by no means was I in this earth shattering amount of pain (I actually tried to step back in the box before I realized it was hurting about 30 seconds later). Yet while I was at the hospital, about 30-45 minutes later, I suddenly became very thirsty, my vision blurred a little bit, I started seeing stars, and I got a little jelly-legged. I didn't faint, but I was very damn near to it, and the nurse made sure to sit me down before it happened. \n\nThis story seems to kind of rule out the \"pain\" theory. There has to be something else going on. So why is it that we faint in response to pain or physical shocks?", "summary": "Finger got hit by a 90 mph fastball. I was in pain but not mind-bending pain, yet still almost fainted. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_bt4f6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, what is your best lucid dreaming experience? Do you have in advice for better dreaming?", "post": "Last night, with the help of a prescribed painkiller for a surgery I just had, I slipped instantly into a dream state upon laying down. I knew I was dreaming and I was aware of my state, but I was not fully in control. I found myself in a bar that was like a second home to me about 7 years ago, but I was wearing an open back hospital gown and dragging an IV stand around with me. There were three typically unattractive females in the bar looking at me, I didn't find them arousing and I usually don't care for white women, but since it was a dream, I thought that I ought to have a four-way, right? So in my dream, I started trying to go to sleep on a sofa that was in the bar so that I could have a dream about having a four way with these three average women. I was telling myself, this is a dream, just go over there and whip it out, but I couldn't reason with my dream-self, who kept insisting on going to sleep to try to have a lucid dream about a having a four-way with the dream girls.\n\nThen, in real life, my wife walked in the bedroom, turned on the bathroom light without closing the door and asked \"where you sleeping?\"", "summary": "How do I get better at lucid dreaming?"}
{"id": "t3_42pedl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33M] with my friend [32M] of about 10 years, He's angry with me after introducing me to his cousin", "post": "Throwaway because I don't know if those involved are on reddit. \n\nI've been friends with Julian (32) since grad school. We were very close for years, but I moved and we don't keep in touch as much as we used to. I was excited when I got an email from him saying that he was visiting my city from across the country. I offered to let him stay at my place because I have a guest room. We made plans and everything was good.\n\nTurns out he was in town to visit his cousin Violet (24) who had moved to my city about a year ago. We made plans to have dinner with her at a restaurant near my place. Dinner went really well, and I thought we all had a great time. I got along really well with Violet. We all chatted, and Violet and I talked about seeing live theatre in the area. I gave Violet my number and told her that she could always text me if she wanted to see a show because I have several friends who work in local theatre. After we had parted ways, Julian confronted me about giving my number to his cousin. Just very hostile about my intentions when I was just trying to be nice. He eventually let it drop and we went to bed.\n\nThe next day we had planned to go to a local museum and invited Violet. I was nothing but friendly the entire time but Julian watched me like a hawk. After we toured the museum I suggested we all go back to hang out at my place, but Julian was very against it. They went off together after that and the rest of the trip he seemed to purposely keep us separated. The last day I confronted him about it but he got defensive and told me to stay away from Violet. I was angry and said I could talk to anyone I wanted. We left on poor terms. \n\nDid I do something wrong? I think he acted like an asshole this trip but he seems to expect an apology from me.", "summary": "Friend got angry at me because I hung out with his cousin."}
{"id": "t3_2pzr12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (17 F) is bad at video games and get frustrated from them.", "post": "My girlfriend of a year likes video games, but the problem is she is bad at them and she gets really frustrated by it. She started playing the last of us because I (17 M) told her it had a good story. She likes the game until it gets to a shooting part (which happens a lot in the game). She tries like 3 times and then she gets me to play that part. I don't mind her getting me to play it, but once she loses and gets me to play she gets in a horrible mood. She stops talking for a while and just wants to stop playing. I wanted to play Mario kart with her. We played 6 races, some races she did OK at (like 2nd-4th place), but I always did better than her. After the 6 race we stopped and she went upstairs and went to bed (even though we have only been awake for 3 hours). Video games are a big part of my life and I would love for us to be able to play games together whether they are co-op or competitive, but after this Mario kart experience I never want to play another game with her, because it makes me feel sad and it frustrates her. She isn't only playing games for me either. When she is by herself she plays games like persona 4, miku project diva f, ect. So mostly has anyone been in this position? If you have can you give me any advice? \n\nThere are other examples, but these are the ones sticking out the most. Also she will not let me give her a handicap (I only tried once a while ago, and she refused). I'm supportive of her and I try to calm her down, but I just can't. Also if she found out I went easy on her that would make everything worse. \n\nOther than video games our relationship is perfect and I love everything about it. There is no way I'm going to break up with her over this either.", "summary": "Girlfriend is bad at video games and gets frustrated with them."}
{"id": "t3_3516jq", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Question about my cat's health?", "post": "Hi everyone,\nI have a nearly 2 year old cat who lately has been acting a little weird. Lately (last 5-7 days) she has been staying in the bathroom except to eat and drink and occasionally cuddle with me. She has also been grooming her self quite a bit more it seems, though I can't tell you exactly how much more. She is eating and drinking normally, but she is drinking more water than usual. She likes the bathroom and the bath tub as it is, but she seems to be spending a LOT more time in there lately. We also have a one year old dog, they get along pretty well, and she hasn't acted like this prior.\n\nI have a vet appointment this weekend, so I should have a better idea then, but I wondered if anyone else had any issues like this.", "summary": "Penny is:"}
{"id": "t3_3p3mc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19/F] bans me [19/M] from using social media.", "post": "First off, I probably already fucked up somehow since I've complied with her for over a year already. \n\nI was forced to delete my Instagram. Her reasoning was because I liked a girl's photo. The photo was an ordinary picture of a group of friends. They were all clothed. I told her I would not like any more photos like that anymore but that wasn't enough and she was indirectly trying to tell me to delete my Instagram. I got fed up and just did it cause I didn't want to fight. \n\nI was not that much into social media in the first place but whenever I was interested in making a profile in something like Twitter, she questions me and we eventually get into a fight. Her usual argument is, \"Is social media that important to you?\" I suppose its not that important it makes me feel like I'm missing out. I've told her that and she tells me that I'm prioritizing social media over her.\n\nThe only social media I have is Facebook and Snapchat, which is also what she has. Of course, she has full control of my Facebook. If a girl adds me on Facebook, she will question me about it. She goes as far as checking my Facebook search history. She once questioned me when she saw I searched up a girl I knew in high school.\n\nIf I were to ever tell her that I wanted to get back on Instagram or make a Twitter account for my own entertainment then we will argue about it. I need advice on what to do!", "summary": "Girlfriend is the overseer of my social media life."}
{"id": "t3_164j2y", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "women of reddit - how do you like to be contacted?", "post": "I have been lurking /r/relationships and /r/dating_advice for a while and figured it was time to make my own post about something I am involved in.\n\nI will preface by saying this matter is close to me in that me [25M] is dating a [26F] for about a month and we text / facebook message and call (but quite rarely) every couple days. \n\nMy main concern is how do you women preferred to be contacted by a guy you are dating? She is very busy as a sales rep at her gym due to the new year and \"Resolution Hours\" implemented by said gym requires employees to be in earlier / out later to keep up with all the influx of people and their resolutions (I thought this was a joke - it's not). \n\nI text her every couple a days and facebook message her once in a while (the other day was the first time she messaged me on facebook though I had texted her earlier) and I know we are into each other and I am probably 1000% over thinking this. I am just curious as to what women prefer when they are being chatted up.\n\nI don't want to call her only cause she is working (and one of the things that attracts me most to her is her work ethic) but there are times when I'll text her and never hear a response back.\n\nSo..in short...how do you prefer to be contacted by your dates (not boyfriend - aren't there yet!)", "summary": "Women - what is your preferred method of being contacted by a guy you are dating?"}
{"id": "t3_41bbg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) am confused if she (16F) actually has feelings for me or if I am just a rebound", "post": "Little back story:I met this girl during one of my classes last semester and we really hit it off, we laughed at the same thing, we understood each other's views, but at that time she was dating her boyfriend of 6 months. Even though she was dating him, I still subtly flirted with her. Now, a couple weeks later, I am switched out of the class but I me and her still keep close contact, I figured out she and her boyfriend have broken up(they've been done for like 2-3 weeks), I start flirting with her more than I use to when she was dating her ex. We snapchat each other all the time, we text alot, we walk with each other and just laugh at random shit at school. Now I am really confused because, over the time I have flirted with her, she has brought up her ex twice (once after I asked her out, and another yesterday she took out her phone to show her friend what he posted on Instagram). Me and her really get along and I don't know if I am just a rebound or if she actually has feelings for me.", "summary": "we've known each other for 6 months, really compatible with each other, she recently broke up with her bf, now I am flirting with her, she brings up boyfriend, now confused of I am just a rebound or if she actually has feelings too."}
{"id": "t3_1wb2l2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with gf [21 F] of 14 months, best break-up ever (?)", "post": "I've been a lurker for some time, but now I want to share my story with you.\n\n---\n\nThis morning, I broke up with my girlfriend of 14 months.\nI was so afraid to tell her that I don't love her anymore, but I took all my courage and knocked on her door.\nI started to babble about how much I'm sorry for doing this and that I want to end the relationship. Tears were shed and after a few minutes she turns to me and says: 'It's okay.'\n\nShe smiled at me and hold my hand to reassure me that everything's gonna be fine.\nI wasn't prepared for such a reaction and I just started to ball my eyes out for a good 10 minutes or so. She sat beside me, her hand on my shoulder and telling me that everything's gonna be okay.\n\nShe stayed calm and comforted me\u2026although I was the one breaking her heart. After half an hour, I decided to leave her alone and went home.\nI was standing in her door when she smiled at me and said: 'Hey, we can still be friends.'\n\n---\n\nBack at home I started to get a bad feeling about this and started to rethink my decision.\nI'm still sitting here in front of my computer, bewildered at what happened this morning.\n\nI don't know what to think of it...", "summary": "I [23 M] broke up with gf [21 F], she took it like a champ and in the end I was the one crying my eyes out."}
{"id": "t3_4sig98", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Advice on giving two weeks notice", "post": "Im a 16 year old and I got my first job at Chick-fil-a a couple months ago around April. I was already planning on leaving towards the start of the school year (September) but I recently learned I have to take some summer courses required for graduation which would occupy all my time until school starts, which is why I have to leave by the end of next week.\n\nI'm nervous because I think they expected me to last longer and my coworkers are just getting friendly and used to me. I think they'll understand that education comes before work, but I'm not sure how to present my notice and if they have some problems with me leaving if that would leave us on bad terms and not let me use them for future reference. \n\nI know it's only a fast food job but this is the only one I've had so far so it's really important to me that I don't screw this up. I've already written a letter thanking them and providing my last day, reason for leaving, etc. and plan on giving it today if possible. Any advice?", "summary": "help for first time quitting a job, but wanting to leave on good terms."}
{"id": "t3_3rk893", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a charity a smoke bomb.", "post": "This happened a few hours ago.\n\nOutside one of my local grocery stores today was a charity collecting money to help disabled people find jobs suitable for them. I saw this as a good cause having experience with a, now stable, person who has a mental disorder. I reached into my right pocket and pulled out a few quarters to put in the donation box (similar to those of the Salvation Army).\n\nAs I walked away I heard a person behind me say in a semi-loud tone \"What the hell?\"  I immediately turned around and was shocked to see the donation box erupting smoke from the top. At first I was wondering how the hell money catches on fire like that, then my face reddened.\n\nNervously and cautiously I proceeded to reach into the same pocket from which I pulled the donated quarters. I pulled out another coin and realized it was a special coin that made a very small explosion and released a large amount of smoke.\n\nNow you're probably wondering why the hell would I carry one of these coins around. Well, I am a street magician. I perform tricks and usually carry around a few of my magical items just in case I feel like doing one. It just so happened today I decided to carry some smoke emitting fake quarters in my pocket.\n\nBefore I was able to explain to them what was going on, someone had already called the fire and police department. I asked why the police, and they said the donations box looked like a bomb. After the two arrived I explained myself and was asked a few questions about my quarters.\n\nIn the end everyone told me that I shouldn't pull that shit, even after I explained to them it was an accident. I am now afraid to show my face in front of the store because everyone knows me as the \"guy who made a fake bomb\"\n\nI am going to go back tomorrow and explain myself further and hopefully not get any dirty looks from people.", "summary": "Accidentally donated a magic fake quarter that emits smoke everywhere to a charity in front of a store. The police were called and everyone thought I made a bomb. "}
{"id": "t3_3qoh5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Someone keeps flirting with my [23/M] girlfriend [24/F]. What do I do?", "post": "EDIT: Thank you all for being so helpful! We've talked about it and she understands and agrees that the other guy was out of the line. She'll now start to distance herself from him. I understand that it can't be immediate as they were really good friends before. I trust her and I know everything's gonna be fine then from now on.\n\nWould really want to emphasize that all inputs have helped me convey my feelings in such a way that she was not offended neither it looked like I'm pinning a crime on her.\n\nAgain. Thank you so much /r/relationships . Hope everyone do well on their's. Goodluck!\n\n------------\n\nI never thought I'd ever be in this sub. Using a throwaway account. I mostly handled it well the past instances it happened. But right now, I'm very very pissed off.\n\nI'm not sure how much detail should I tell. So if you need anything else, just ask and I'll tell.\n\nThere's this guy (let's call him Ryan). He was someone that she used to coordinate with because of work. Before I came in to her life, they were already kind of friendly (and flirty with each other).Then there I was, I confessed to her, then we're together now for more than a year.\n\nNow, Ryan might have missed his opportunity, he might have liked my girlfriend since before. Well bad for him, I'm not gonna let her go.\n\nWe have already established the fact that Ryan's flirting with her. We agreed on that, she acknowledged. But they're still talking to each other because of business. I'm fine with it being business-related and all. But Ryan keeps asking her out. Flirting with her. Telling sexual jokes and all that.\n\nI've already told my girlfriend that I hate that. And she should not talk to him anymore except for those business-related stuff. But that's not what's happening.\n\nAnyways, there.", "summary": "Ryan flirts with my girlfriend constantly. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1asp9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Married redditors...How did you KNOW your spouse was the one?", "post": "I recently got divorced and have been having a lot of mixed feelings about whether or not I'm capable of choosing the right person for me to spend the rest of my life with.\n\nI want to fall in love...I want to feel like I can't live without this person. I want to look forward to seeing them more than anything else in this world. I want to wake up and see this woman I love next to me each and every morning. I want to take that journey and start to feel again. I have been so numb for so long now that i'm afraid this feeling won't go away. But I refuse to rush it or force it with the wrong person. I want it to be 100% right. So I will wait...", "summary": "Got divorced - Want to find my true love"}
{"id": "t3_18zy4u", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I want to know if i have 3D vision", "post": "My father has always told me I don't see 3d, while I was young I had a lazy eye and had to wear a eye patch. He told me that the only way to see 3d was to develop it as a kid and I when I was little I did some test where you grab a butterfly and I failed. I've always just believed that even though he is not an eye doctor but now that I have seen two post on the front page, both about someone who just got 3D vision. Is there any way to test it, I have tried holding my hand over one eye and I don't see much of a difference, but others don't either. I guess I see a difference in 3D movies but I am not sure if that is just placebo. Is there any surefire way to test it?", "summary": "not sure if I have 3D vision, how can I know for sure?"}
{"id": "t3_139x2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [21/f] and I [20/m] might be breaking up...", "post": "I am writing this after we just had an argument about our differing beliefs. We have been going out almost two years as our anniversary is jan 30th. She is Christian and I am agnostic/athiest (in that I don't really believe in anything but I am open to something that I think is right.) \nOur argument was about something silly, whether pet psychics are real or not due to her listening to something on the burt show in the morning (she thought it was real, I told her that psychics like to ask generic questions and have the person fill in the dots). It ended up being about the fact that we are so different. She says that I am an intellectual and that she likes to be more open to things (religion, occult stuff, non-science stuff basically). I however do not feel that I am an intellectual and that I am really just rooted in the moment and not worry about other things. \nI do not have a problem with our differences, but she says that she does. So I told her what do you think we should do if we are that different, she said she doesn't know. So I told her that she is important to me and that I don't want to lose her but this relationship is a two way street and she must decide as well. She decided to head home as I live in a dorm and she is working this semester at a co-op. We agreed to meet on Sunday to talk more and make a decision about the future of the relationship. So I was wondering how I should handle this situation. \n\nShould I just end it? Or should I continue to pursue it? If this relationship is going to end, I want it to end well. I want to at least be able to talk to each other, or grab a coffee if we see each other in the future.", "summary": "gf feels that we are too different, how should I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_1111hn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there something about yourself that you or someone else should fear?", "post": "I have been wondering this for a while now. To put this into perspective, I am almost always emotionless. Everyday, 90-100% of the day, I am rather emotionless, flat-line. I actually have to put up a facade of sorts for my coworkers, friends, family, everyone, so that all of those people will not know I actually don't feel. Due to this, I find that it is incredibly easy to manipulate people to do or give whatever it is that I want. I have also come to realize that I am curious to what the feeling of murder feels like. Now this type of unemotional state that I am in most of the day has actually been something I have been used to ever since I can remember. It does not scare me that I have felt emotionless all my life, and it does not scare me that I am curious as to what it would feel like to kill somebody, because I have felt this way for years. My therapist, family, and if I told my few friends, fear what I seem to not feel. My therapist didn't want to hospitalize me, but felt that she couldn't be my therapist anymore, which I found comical.", "summary": "I am for the most part, emotionless, and I am curious about the feeling of murdering someone."}
{"id": "t3_2u8fmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel that if I [20F] and my bf [19M] don't live together it ruins our relationship.", "post": "Im right now with my bf for almost half year and i feel that i need to live with him. Everyday when im in work i dream to about after end job back to home and hug him. We love each other but for me - and for he too as he say - we spend to little time together because I'm working a lot + i have own responsibilities, hobbies and shit like that. My boyfriend only study in weekends and probably he will search a job, but he have less responsibilities than me so he have more time for everything. I thinking of live together. I have two rooms apartment and its perfect for two people. I lived once with my ex bf together and it was good, i want repeat this but my bf is opposed. Why? Only because he live with his ex gf for month and it was boring after two weeks, and he is afraid that we start fight together. What is totally ridiculous because we never fight, we have only some discussion every once in a while if something is wrong in our relationship. I feel that living together is exactly this what I need right now and if we dont live together slowly and slowly it break our relationship. Don't know what doing, yes i talked with him about this and i dont know what more arguments I can use.", "summary": "I want live with my bf but he is scary it ruins everything and im scary that not living together will break our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2zxg3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [23 M/F] 4 years, our mutual friend recently informed me that she cheated on me", "post": "The other day one of our mutual friends told me that my GF had sex with another guy roughly 3 months ago. \n\nThis friend of mine was dating my GF's best friend for about 3 months before they had lengthy and complicated breakup that finally ended about a week ago. Now that they're finished he has no reason to keep any of her dark secrets especially since we are still friends. \n\nHe heard about my GF cheating on me when he overheard a conversation that my GF and her best friend were having on speakerphone. He was in the room unbeknownst to my GF at the time. He didn't want to say anything to me because his GF (now ex) at the time threatened to break up with him if he spilled the beans. We are not the best of friends so that's understandable. His ex is also totally had him wrapped around her finger. But now he owes her nothing and I've been helping him get over this breakup so he felt compelled to tell me.  \n\nMy GF is denying this and her friend are denying this. My GF isn't angry at this accusation, just more sad about it which is a little telling. The guy who questionably banged my GF also denied this. I knew they were friends from a long time ago so I didn't think twice about them hanging out but now it all makes sense that this happened.\n\nI wish I had evidence to prove this because as of now all I have is my friend's word. My friend deleted all his convos and changed his number after his bad breakup so there's no evidence there. I trust him but I just don't know what to do and who to believe.", "summary": "Friend told me my GF cheated on me. All I have is his word and no real evidence or confessions. I want to leave her but not having evidence is making it hard."}
{"id": "t3_2vuwfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30m] want my wife [34f] to dress more sexily rather than cute. Should I stop?", "post": "My wife dresses cute and sweet all the time because in China that's what they aspire to, but she has such a great body.\n\nI have been persuading her to wear more skirts, high heels, and clothes that show off her shape. It's working a bit, but I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I do love her.\n\nI think she's sexy that's why I want to see her more sexily dressed, and be appreciated as being sexy, but I don't know if I'm being too controlling, or am I simply loving her too much. Honest help please, genuine advice needed.", "summary": "Should I stop trying to get her dressing more sexily?"}
{"id": "t3_24p5u2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] boyfriend [21 M] of 9 months is a film-maker and has got an offer to direct softcore and fetish films.", "post": "My boyfriend is going through film school, and received an offer from a friend of his to direct a bunch of No-Budget Softcore and Fetish Films. The kicker is that the friend of his, is the woman who is going to be starring in them and who he dated for 6 months back when they were in High School. When I told him I wasn't sure how I felt about it, he assured me it's \"not porn\", but just erotica, and that fetish wise, there is nothing harder than spanking, and that lots of directors started out doing this sort of gig for money, and that what he felt for her is over, and he sees her as nothing more than a friend now. He is struggling financially and it would be good for him monetary wise and even practical experience wise, but I won't lie, it makes me feel uncomfortable with the idea of him surrounded by naked women, especially considering he had a thing with one of them a while ago.\n\nAm I reading too much into this, or should I put my foot down with this?", "summary": "Filmmaker Boyfriend got an offer from a friend of his who he dated back in High School to direct a bunch of softcore and fetish films she is in."}
{"id": "t3_js8e2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Want to get to know girl to go out with her, but afraid b/ of bad past relationship. Help?", "post": "Okay, im a guy, she's a girl, and we are both mid-way-ish through high school.\n\nFirst off, first post to anything /r/relationships, and its kinda awkward for me. Please excuse any mistakes I have made.\n\nAnyway, I was at archery when a girl walked in, wanted to shoot for the first time. Being me, polite and have gone to 4 national tournaments, I helped her out a bit with the coach. She accidentally shoots my target and the coach said \"for every time you shoot his target, you own him a kiss\". She ends up owing me 2 kisses. I joke about this, we laugh, and be friendly and pick up her arrows. This continues for the rest of practice (an hour).\n\nShe then gets her friend to ask her for my phone number. I give it, as I'm not an idiot. Problem is I know nothing about her. Her name, age (assuming high school, she looks it), or even if she goes to my school or not. \n\nBecause of this, I'm a little scared. More than the usual nervousness for a kinda nerdy kid in high school. For the fact stated above, and my last relationship didn't end too well. \n\nWe went out for a year, from 8th grade to 9th. We were kinda serious, at least for the age (emotionally, not physically. She never let me \"make out\" with her :/ )but, in short, was verbally abusive. Lots of insults, most hurtful being asking for me to change my personality and then pointed to a guy with the personality she liked. Broke up with her felt great. A year later, and here we are.\n\nSo I don't want this to happen again, but I want to be in other relationship. I miss it... so much.", "summary": "Girl asked my #, gave her it. Now I want to go out with her, after I get to know here. But bad ending of last relationship and not knowing her at all are in my way."}
{"id": "t3_39gucn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting to second base", "post": "A week prior to this fuck up, I decided I would try and do flip over a chair. The flip didn't go so well, and my knee took a little bit of a hit on landing. Like I said, the flip didn't go so well, so being a guy I have to try again. Still doesn't go so well, and now my knee really hurts. I limp off and call it a loss.\n\nA week later, I'm playing a game of kickball. I'm sprinting for second base, and my friend throws the ball to get me out. I spin move to dodge it, and instead of just spinning, I spin around my knee. I now have a torn ACL.", "summary": "was a try hard  "}
{"id": "t3_16mxgu", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Hostess Vengeance", "post": "I worked as a hostess for a locally owned and operated restaurant for a little over a year in high school. The thing about this restaurant was everyone who came in considered themselves a regular (located in a small town) and as such, they all expected special treatment. The restaurant consisted of four sections: The front booths, the main dining room, the alcove and the lounge. Generally, if you tried to seat people in the front or main room they'd be pretty okay with it. Seating the alcove was a little harder and literally EVERYONE hated sitting in the lounge. It was understandable. The lounge was dark, it was generally colder than the rest of the restaurant and was decorated with shitty art. It also echoed unpleasantly in there. \nSo every time a costumer walked in I would greet them. \"Hello, how are you today?\" Most people were polite and acted like civil human beings. But every now and then I'd get an entitled prick. I would say good morning, and they'd just bark the number in their party then demand a specific section. \nOh, Hell no. Every single one of these people were placed in the lounge. They didn't like it? Too bad. We would always conveniently be out of tables in every other section. Enjoy your shitty atmosphere.", "summary": "Don't treat restaurant workers like slaves. They may be serving, but they aren't servants."}
{"id": "t3_240ft4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My friends are in a unhealthy relationship [19/f] & [19/m]. How can my group of friends make them realize this?", "post": "Both of the people in the relationships are my friends. They have been together for about 2-3 years, however since I've met them (which was about one and a half years ago) they constantly fight about stupid things. The worst is that they usually fight when we all have parties and they kinda ruin the night for us. I asked the female after one of their big fights, which was on his birthday, wether she still loved him and wanted to be together with him after all the fighting. She, of course, said yes. They sometimes \"break up\" after their fights when things get pretty ugly but they are back together and back to normal the next day. Lately things have gotten worse as she seems to have feeling for a friend of ours, which is a close friend of the male in the relationship. We have proof of texts that she has sent him insinuating her feelings. The male friend found out but the female found excuses or good explanations for them. Then they took a break for about two days because there were more texts that he didn't know about that were more obvious about her feelings. During that period of time the male friends of the guy have been telling him how she is \"toxic\" and that they are glad that they have broken up because she was basically cheating on him and lying to him. She somehow found a way to create more excuses and explanations for the contents of the texts. It is even more complicated because she has been going through depression and she is currently on meds. I believe that her depression might only come when they fight and break up. They are so dependent on each other, but I really think she is more of the problem. She might use her depression as an excuse to make him stay and make him feel bad. This is because one of my girlfriends, who is closer to her, received a text from the girl after they broke up saying she was alone, single and that everyone hated her. Now he hates all of his friends since they have criticized their relationship and his girlfriend, which I think is not fair at all.", "summary": "Couple always fighting since I met them. Now girl with depression \"cheating\" on her boyfriend via texts. He found out but she had excuses for them. Now they're back together after 2 days break up. He hates his friends for criticizing their relationship while broken up."}
{"id": "t3_53g49r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(18/M) go about asking out a girl(15/F)who already has a boyfriend(15/M)?", "post": "So I am a senior in high school and I manage for the softball team at my high school. This season has been going for about a month now, and there is a girl on the team that I really like. \n\nShe is a freshman, which I think to most people is weird that I would even go after her, but I don't really care what they think. I have always thought she was attractive, and then one day, she started to come over and talk to me, go out of her way to talk to me, and when I am talking with the other managers and she is withing earshot, I usually see her turn to listen into my conversation. She has been flirting a lot with me, but the real issue I have is that she already has a boyfriend.\n\nThey have been dating for a whopping 9 months, and in the conversations we have had, she seems to barely know him. He is a sophomore. I want to know how to approach the situation so I can come out of it without messing anything up too badly. I really do like her, and I would like to date her as she has already asked me to take her out. I don't know what to do though. Thanks guys", "summary": "I am interested in a freshman that already has a boyfriend, but I am a senior that wants to date her."}
{"id": "t3_41a0h8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] of 2.5 years, can't help but feel unsure about her", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years now, and it feels like we are getting to a point where it is time to decided if we are going to move forward with our relationship or not. \n\nI have been having mixed feelings about the situation, but am not sure if they are actual feelings or if I am just panicking about making a commitment. \n\nI feel like I have always been describing her in my head when I think about an ideal partner, but for some reason I keep thinking if there might be someone better. But I am afraid I am just having a fear of commitment and am trying to find any reason not to. \n\nAnd because of this I have been distant to her lately, and I don't have any real reason to be except for 'I sort of feel weird', which to me just feels like a cop-out. \n\nThe only real issue I can say we have, is communication. She shuts down when she is upset, and it can be difficult to get out what is actually bothering her. But that being said she has been working on it and is getting better at expressing herself. \n\nWe don't currently live together, but it is getting to that point where it is time to jump in, or go our separate ways. \n\nAm I just throwing my own personal fears onto the relationship? Or am I in a situation that I should be getting out of?", "summary": "I am worried that I am looking for problems in the relationship when there is nothing actually wrong, and I just have a fear of commitment."}
{"id": "t3_38g7ji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [16f] hasn't been talking at all lately (I'm 16m)", "post": "Ok so I made a new account because I don't really want to use my main (revealing my age makes me uncomfortable, just how I'm conditioned I guess)\n\nI go to school with this girl and in the last two months we've become pretty close. She was the one who started it- noticing me a bit too much, hanging around me in class. I played along, teasing her a lot and just having fun. Most of our talking happened through FB messenger because we didn't have many classes together. She's generally very chatty and likes to talk, and our convos would last hours usually until one of us went to bed.\n\nI decided to tell her that I liked her, she told me she liked me too, and very recently (last week) we decided that we wanted to be together.\n\nSummer vacation rolls around and she barely talks anymore. It's been maybe 6 days and we haven't had a meaningful conversation yet before we were talking a ton. The main reason I'm asking here is I'm not sure whether asking why she's been distant is the better move (is a week too short of a time to be significant?)", "summary": "she used to talk lots but hasn't for a week, should I confront?"}
{"id": "t3_3gpyfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20F) make the jump from having acquaintances to friends?", "post": "I'm 20, about to be a junior in college, going abroad next semester.  I have a boyfriend of 3 years whom I love dearly, but he's my only friend.  I have many acquaintances, whom I've met through clubs and the like, but whenever I try to spend more time with them, they never seem to want to.  \n\nI realize this is my problem, since I've never really had close friends even as a kid.  If everyone stinks check under your shoe for shit, right?  Something like that?  \n\nIs there anything I can do to make real friends?  It's gotten to the point where people talking about college being their second home really upsets me, because I have no connection to my university other than my boyfriend (who doesn't have friends either, he spends free time by himself and is happy that way).  I'm a natural extrovert but rarely has the opportunity to socialize.  To make things worse my university has a culture to it that I'm not really part of.  It's a Catholic school with a strong sports culture, and I'm neither Catholic nor into sports.  It really keeps me apart from others.  \n\nI've joined clubs, I've socialized and put myself out there, but nothing's been working.  Please help?", "summary": "I have acquaintances but no friends.  It seems like in college everyone already has their friend groups and now that I'm going abroad I'm even more scared.  I have a boyfriend, but he doesn't have friends either.  I really want a group of friends to socialize with but my requests to hang out are rarely received well.  Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1zwhtd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] began to recently speak to my new interest [19F], receiving signals but need help on clarification.", "post": "So before I go into details, let me paint the picture. I started the spring semester without any intention of looking for an SO, but the moment this girl walked into my class and sat next to me, I couldn't help but think she was attractive as hell(I'll go ahead and call her E). It was the first day of class, so the professor is explaining the syllabus and other crap, and as the professor continues, out of the corner of my eye I find E just completely looking at me and smile at one of my remarks. I make an effort to turn and talk to her but she quickly avoids eye contact and looks at her phone.\n\nFast forward to February and I decide to strike a conversation, so I decide to ask her about her running apparel, and we end up talking for bit before she says she has to go for track practice. We shake hands, exchange names and smiles and part ways. Over the next 4 weeks I don't see E because of what I think is a busy track schedule. Then this past week, on Wednesday she actually showed up to class, and I made conversation after class again. We start talking about how her recent out of state competition was, and our majors, and just exchanging laughs as I walked her to her dorm. When we arrived at her dorm, E initiated a hug and thanked me for walking with her to her dorm. As E was walking away, I decided to call out her name, and she turned around with an obvious smirk on her face, and I asked if she wanted to go to concert with me, because I had an extra ticket. E said that she would've liked to go with me, but that she already had plans for that day. We smile and go our separate ways again, only to remember that I forgot to ask for a number. I decided to go for it yesterday, but unsurprisingly, she didn't show up for class.\n\nI feel like I'm getting signals of interest from her, but I can't help but think that she is merely being polite. I also think I have a really small sample size of our one to one conversations, to act accordingly. Anybody got some input for a fellow single college student?", "summary": "Single college student who may or may not be getting signals from fellow classmate (who's athletic schedule keeps her busy), but can't seem to think of it as anything more than kindness."}
{"id": "t3_33bek8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by feeding water to my wife", "post": "So it was an evening of funny stuff and we were' binge watching the last season of 2 and a half men, I got up to get a bottle of water but there was still about 150 ml left in the current bottle, so she said she wanted some... i offered to \"feed\" it to her. So I did this cautiously as she has a terrible gag reflex... but this time she was smiling and waving her hand to pour more... but then, all of a sudden, a spray of water everywhere, soaked cushions on the couch and throw-pillows. We both erupted into hysterical laughter and she quite quickly descended into a coughing fit. But all was ok eventually, i got smacked with a pillow in the eye later on as revenge i guess - all in good fun.", "summary": "fed wife water, choked, water cannon."}
{"id": "t3_2tj9uo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have been receiving texts from my ex [25 M] every two weeks since we broke up two months ago. Do I respond/block/unfriend/whatever?", "post": "I recently broke up with my boyfriend of six months in November. I did it (I told him) because of a 500 mile distance, but really, I did it because we were fighting about 3 times a week, and I was starting to think the relationship was less than healthy. He would continually tell me I was being \"mean\" to him for asserting opinions, or, in one particular insane episode, attempted to get me to believe I had bipolarism. He talked quite a lot about being afraid of abandonment due to familial issues, and would often imply not-so-subtly that I was \"keeping him alive\" and keeping him from killing himself. So yeah. Crazy shit. I was not putting up with it anymore. \n\nThe breakup was pretty rough--he was visiting me, we broke up about a day before he had to leave, he refused all my offers to pay for a plane ticket back or a taxi and insisted he sleep on my couch despite having friends in the area, insisted on me driving an hour to the airport at 2am, which I managed to get out of by buying him a taxi, but still--and I basically told him I was uninterested in talking to him for a while. But, instead of respecting that, he's been texting me every two weeks, talking about what it was like to date me, wishing me happy holidays, etc. Just recently he texted me asking if we could \"chat,\" saying he missed me and wanted to know how I was. Am I totally insane or is this a ploy? I'm already pissed about him texting me so much, but I'm not sure what to say to him, and I feel guilty already for being the one to break up with him. I'm worried that he's going to make me feel worse, and then try to get back together with me. Really don't need that drama, but I don't know if ignoring him would be effective. Suggestions, tips, thoughts?", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend is crazy, keeps texting me, wants to talk to me over the phone. Do I tell him to fuck off, talk to him, or ignore him? Is there a good script I can use to get him to stop fucking texting me?"}
{"id": "t3_1akkf1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "should i(f/23) break up with him(m/27) because he makes me feel unwanted and ignored? been together half a year", "post": "i don't know how to feel anymore, i am not satisfied, perhaps i never really was. I knew he was extremely introverted since the beginning but i thought i could deal with it. We used to talk and communicate a lot more when we were friends, a year later we decided to try dating, and perhaps things were better off as friends. He does not have very much experience with women, so perhaps is only using me as experience though he behemently denies this and says he cares about me and finds me attractive. But lately i feel i'm the only one who contacts him and tries to make things work, we've never been intimate, kissed, he never hugs me or cuddles with me or holds my hand. In the 6 months we've been together we've only had greeting and kisses, about 5. It just feels so strange,I feel I should give him a chance because he's a great person and i don't want to hurt him, but truthfully this is hurting me a lot. He hasn't told anyone about us while most everyone on my side knows he exists, thus i can't post on his FB at all. FYI I dont want marriage or to move in with him, i like to take things slow but i just feel this is too god damned slow! we exchange texts about once every two days, but even then it's very brief if i dont make an effort to talk longer. I also only see him about once a week. Is it because he's completely shy and awkward like he says, trust me i've asked him, or just not interested in me and does not know how to be honest, i'd 1000 times prefer honesty.", "summary": "not sure if bf shy and should i keep trying or just let him down easily."}
{"id": "t3_q62t1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I recently started volunteering at a local hospital and have seen some crazy things (Story inside), so what is the craziest/most bizarre thing you have seen while volunteering at a facility?", "post": "So today I volunteered at my local hospital. The day was pretty slow, so I was assigned boring tasks. They told me to deliver ice water to the patients. Couldn't be so bad, I thought. The patients were mostly cranky old people. So I filled up cups of ice cold water and started going door to door to deliver them to each patient. First of all, the smells in each room were terrible. It smelled like dirty adult diapers everywhere. But that was nothing. I get to the last patient, who was a very large, obese woman that was lying in her bed. She had on the clothing the hospital provided her, but since she was too big the clothing didn't reach past her belly. At the time her legs were open. I took the water, and I had to go around the bed to put it on the tray. I tried to avoid looking, but it was unavoidable. I got a glimpse of a very large, very fat woman's crotch. I wasn't trained for that. Almost barfed after I left the room. So what are your crazy experiences while volunteering?", "summary": "Whilst delivering water to patients, I got a glimpse of a very large, obese woman's crotch."}
{"id": "t3_3ts48s", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "The dealership for a RV we were going to buy lied on our loan application.", "post": "This happened in Texas. Okay, so my husband and I are upgrading our 5th wheel and found a trailer we absolutely loved. The place got some shady reviews but whatever. So I get all the pictures I want, send pictures of our trailer, and we get our trade in amount. Trade in amount is good so we go look at it, we still like it and decide to go home and decide what to do. \n\nI call the sales guy the following day and tell him we want to do it, we have money to put down, where do we go from here? He tells me to go online and fill out our credit application and he will submit it then call me with the interest rate and payments. So, I write down everything true on the credit application and electronically sign it, now I'm waiting until he calls. \n\nHe calls me. We got preapproved with the lowest interest rate. Blah blah. He calls back a couple hours later and tells me that he needs me to sign the paperwork as soon as possible so they can get this in before the end of the month. I say okay and we get off the phone. He then calls back and tells me when I get the paperwork that I work at the same company my husband works for as office manager. That's cool and all but I don't work. I'm a stay at home mom. He then tells me he had to change my husband's income because they would start questioning it. I asked if this was legal or if I would get in trouble.  He laughs and says, \"no we do it all the time.\"\n\nSo, long story short he changed all of the information I sent over for the credit app. I haven't signed anything obviously and I'm not going to, but can I get in trouble somewhere for all of this? I am aware it's fraud but I didn't commit any of it.", "summary": "went to get a loan for a RV. Put all true information in my credit app I sent over. The sales man changed it before sending it to the bank. Lowered husband's income and put I had a job when I don't. Says they do it all the time."}
{"id": "t3_2m6xe3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having people in my mom's home.", "post": "Once upon a time, I decided to have some friends over during the day while my mom and sister were at school and work. I smoke and so I thought it would be a great idea to smoke a blunt inside the house. I never smoke blunts so I didn't know about the lingering smell of one. \n\nSo we were chilling and playing pool and music in the basement blowing most of the smoke out the window of course for a few hours before my mom gets home and as time went by and we realize it smells a bit around the living room area from the basement, we open up some windows for a bit before we leave. \n\nMy mom comes home from work a few hours later and calls me \"Who was in my house smoking weed?!\" (Note: She's black and pretty religious so...she's yelling) and...I pretty much end up lying to her, get caught lying and telling her she won't smell smoke in her house ever again from me.", "summary": "I got caught smoking inside my mom's house not knowing blunts linger hella long and that it supposedly smelled for 2 days with the windows open and the whole living room being frebreezed to death."}
{"id": "t3_fopii", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Getting my \"financial house\" in order", "post": "I've got to say this now: I'm know nertz about saving money and being frugal. I mean, I know about coupons and using less and such. When it comes to money though, I have no idea what I'm really doing. Especially since I'm one of those guys who like to live it up a little. Not easy when you're trying to do as much as I want to with what I have. At least, that's what I think; I have no idea what I can potentially do, and I can use some guidance.\n\nRight now I'm working full-time, taking care of me and my girlfriend with a little help. Thankfully her parents haven't asked me to help with bills or rent, but despite that I still haven't made anything in the way of savings, and I'm hoping to get a car of some sort by the end of the year. There's a lot more but could anyone help me out?", "summary": "A full-time worker, supporting two people, in need of financial help 101. HALP!!1"}
{"id": "t3_3ao6nc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17 F] My boyfriend [17] is going on a backpacking trip", "post": "I'm sure I'll be blown off because of my age, but I am having a nervous breakdown. Recently things have been exceedingly hard, and I'm having a hard time coping. My boyfriend has been there for me and is a sweetheart, we don't fight and I never have to worry about anything with him--- until now. \n\nHe's going on a two week backpack trip and I can't contact him whatsoever. For some reason, despite knowing he would never in a thousand years cheat on me, I worry he will find another girl on the trip and like her more than me. I'm trying so hard to reason with myself but I have this paralyzingly fear this trip will make him not like me. I know it's unreasonable and I'm overreacting, but I don't know what to do. This is the first time we've been apart for a long time and I miss him terribly. He said he loved me and he'd write a journal everyday about his trip like I asked him to so he'd be able to remember it. \n\nDoes anyone have any advice or can help me? I feel ashamed of myself for freaking out so badly. I feel embarrassed just writing this but I really want some help or kind words. \n\n(I'm on mobile so sorry for any spelling errors or weird words.)", "summary": "Boyfriend leaving for 2 weeks and can't talk to him, irrational fear he'll fall out of love with me."}
{"id": "t3_175v2u", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [28M] could use some advice for starting communicating with my ex-girlfriend [35F] again", "post": "My girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. I'd like to start talking to her again soon. Nothing big, probably just text her a simple \"Hey, how's are you?\"\n\nI'm open to the idea of us getting back together, so I'm a little worried about what to say when/if she replies.\n\nPresumably she will answer and then ask how I am. I don't want to say that I'm awful/heartbroken/devastated and make her feel guilty. But I don't want to say that I'm fine and make her think that I don't care.\n\nAny suggestions on how I should handle this?", "summary": "Not sure what to tell her about how I'm handling the breakup."}
{"id": "t3_4lco01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with the girl I was seeing [29 F] for three months. She broke it off because she is going through some personal issues and isn't in the right place for a relationship. How do I deal with this?", "post": "We started dating in February and things seemed to be going great. We always had great conversations, there was a lot of chemistry in the bedroom, and we spent a lot of time together, 3-5 nights a week throughout much of March and April. \nI had already met her parents before even meeting her, but she also introduced me to other family members and invited me over for a couple of family dinners as well. After about a month we had the talk and she said she wasn't ready for a relationship because of some serious personal stuff she had to deal with. I said that was fine, that we could take things slowly and that I wasn't in a rush either. She agreed and we both said we wouldn't see other people in the meantime. Nothing changed in the following weeks. \nA month later and she cancelled on a weekend away and broke things off, saying that it wasn't fair to me and that she wasn't close to being ready for a real relationship. \nI'm not sure how to deal with this. On one hand, I feel that if she really saw a future with me, she wouldn't have broken things off. On the other, I can't help but lament the timing of this whole thing, while also hoping that things can be re-kindled down the road when she is in a better place. Finally, I know I need to move on in the meantime but I'm still sad with the way things worked out. We had talked about a bunch of different plans for over the summer and now I feel like I don't have any of that to look forward to. \nShe said we could still hang out as friends. I told her I wasn't sure if I could do that, but I later said I'd like to try. Bad idea? \nAnyone been through something similar to this before? Any advice would be terrific.", "summary": "Girl I had been seeing said she needed to deal with her personal issues before considering a relationship. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_4fxsym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] had a threesome with my roommate[25 M] and his girlfriend [24 F] and now there's tension.", "post": "My roommate has been dating an old friend of mine for the past year. I've always found her attractive but due to them being involved, never done anything about it. A few weeks back, they asked me to have a threesome with them, and even though I felt weird about it, I went ahead with it. I was worried it might lead to latent feelings for her coming out, but I managed to keep a lid on them, or so it seems. \n\nHowever, my roommate now doesn't trust me, and thinks we might cheat on him. I tried to convince him that there is nothing between us, but he can't be convinced. It weird because since she used to be a good friend of mine before they met, there have been times when we've been at home watching a movie, and he walks in all suspicious, and saying he doesn't trust us.\n\nThis is hurting all of us, and I don't know what to about it. I've been friends with this girl for over 10 years, and roommates with this guy for 5, and  I don't wanna end it over a non existent thing.", "summary": "I [25 M] had a threesome with my roommate[25 M] and his girlfriend [24 F] and now there's tension."}
{"id": "t3_xi2em", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am extremely jealous and insecure and it is tearing me up. How have you gotten over your insecurities?", "post": "So, I have been with my husband 10 years, married for over 8. We are happily married, rarely fight, agree on money and parenting. The only real issue in our marriage is my jealousy. I don't get jealous over the typical things like him hanging out with girls, or whatever. I KNOW he is happy with me, attracted to me, in love with me, etc. However, when he wants to hang out with his friends, I get jealous... Like he does not want to spend time with me. My jealousy manifests itself as anger, and I find something to be angry about with him to put it off of myself. Like, if he gets drunk at his friends house and I have to go pick him up at 2 am, I make it about being irresponsible, etc. My therapist told me, and I quote, \"Back off!\" But it is just not that simple. Tonight I found out that he looked at pictures of the US swim team nude here on Reddit... and I am not mad or whatever, I get the whole men looking at pics thing is normal, etc. But I am sick to my stomach with jealousy. I know I don't look that good. I mean, I had a baby! My stomach and boobs are just destroyed from breast feeding and a c-section... Intellectually I know he is attracted, but in the back of my mind I always feel he might want better. It does not help that he is super patient and understanding, because it just makes me more aware of how unfair I am to him. I always throw a fit before he goes out with anyone, I come undone when I discover the porn, etc. He is becoming less and less patient with the whole situation (understandably). I just don't know how to \"back off.\" How have you gotten over this? My marriage is not in danger, I just think my husband deserves an easier time of things. He is too good for this shit. And I am not just hurting him, but hurting myself. I spend more time miserable than if I could just calm down. I just don't know what to do... Do I just fake it till I make it?", "summary": "I am jealous and it sucks for my husband. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_24tref", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[24/M] Based on the past I fear I already know the answer to this but here is goes, Explain \"Alrighty. I will think about it...\"", "post": "Me: Average attractive. Not unattractive. Had decent luck with women in the past. This girl I met in a driving class, to get license back you know?, snapchatted, she came to my birthday party last month, we hooked up and I  really liked her and still do. \n\nSo that morning, we both still drunk naked cuddling in bed, I asked her if she wants to date, she said yes, but go to school 2 hrs away so it didn't work out on top of the fact that we kinda skipped the whole \"getting to know each other\" steps. Tried to do that... we talked sports and the only thing she loves is hockey and i can take it or leave it...\n\nSo we had a mutual \"no hard feelings this isnt working... thing\" and when asked if she still wanted to hangout when I was back in town she said 'yes'\n\nSo today I invited her to come hang out and watch our hockey team fri night and she laughed to my txts along with interest and then said \"Alrighty. I will think about it...\" \n\nIn the past girls never get back to me on that and I don't know if that's a girl thing to see if he asks again or if it would only make me come off as needy or some other bad undesirable quality....??", "summary": "Girl says \"Yes\" she'd wanna hangout when I'm back in town, 24 hrs later says \"Alrighty. I will think about it...\" when I set a specific day and time(ish) of the day. Back story might change your answer.. idk the female brain*"}
{"id": "t3_117o5j", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Adjusting to new job, regret leaving old one", "post": "I just recently got promoted (yay) as a trainee for a job. I prefer not to say what industry it is in. To get this job I had to transfer work locations (same industry) leaving behind a lot of friends. The place I used to work at was great, I had been there 6 years. \n\nMy new work location I expected to be very similar, similar crews and routine. However I just met the crew and was totally shocked. It's completely different, what is bothering me the most is everyone is segregated to themselves. I hate the atmosphere compared to my old job. Even at lunch everyone separates. I seriously regret the transfer right now. I could have pursued the same position at my old work location but unfortunately the place is planned to shut down and I have a long career to think about.\n\nHow did you adjust to your new position? Did it take long? I could go back but that would entail being a quitter, potentially leaving me not able to pursue this position ever again, and also risking my career length as I could lose my job eventually at the old location (not likely, but not unlikely either). Has anyone ever beein in a similar situation and stayed or left, how do you feel about your choice?", "summary": "Changed work locations to be promoted, new atmosphere has got me feeling depressed. Can I adjust, or should I go back?"}
{"id": "t3_ctklh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some non-expensive ways to help deal with acne?", "post": "I feel like no matter how much I wash my face, I always get random break-outs. It's so frustrating. I'm currently 18 years old and going off to college soon. I was wondering if anyone that has dealt with acne in the past, or is currently dealing with it, could give me some advice. \n\nI take two showers (one at night, and one when I wake up)\nI wash my face every time I shower with the standard bar of soap and wash cloth.\n\nI don't think my acne is considered \"severe\"; I mainly break out in the mustache and beard/chin area. I think I have great hygiene and I take good care of my body. Is there a non expensive way to help treat my acne? Any small things I can do to add to my routine that could do wonders? Any advice would be great!", "summary": "18 year old teenager looking for some non-expensive advice to help deal with break-outs. "}
{"id": "t3_4mh2jk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my group home, they block websites for 'alternative beliefs'", "post": "So before explaining, I have to say I live in France, with all the cultural baggage about religion it implies. Religion is personal, period. This is something I intensely believe in. \n\nI've moved to the other side of the country for an internship, and live in a group home for young workers. The place is a great fit, both financially and geographically. \n\nI've noticed the web filter immediately, it was annoying, but I could always see the pages on my phone if I really wanted to. The home can have underage people, I'm not sure if they actually do, but I think that explains the web filter. \n\nWhen I arrived, I signed a form that said I have the right to parctise my religion freely (just no proselytism). So, completely normal. I didn't sign anything about agreeing to a web filter though, but they provide my internet, so I didn't think about contesting it. \n\nI'm pagan and yesterday I was searching for modern ways to worship a specific deity. One of the webpages got blocked for 'alternative beliefs', I was astonished then furious. My best friend told me how to get around it with a VPN, but the mere fact that I have to do that is infuriating for me. \n\nI can't see staff until Monday, so I have the week-end to decide how to handle it. Do I let it go, since I can get around it (though it's not a permanent solution, I will lose the VPN after summer, and I plan to stay until October)? Do I talk to them about it? If I do, how do I approach it?", "summary": "My group home is blocking 'alternate beliefs' websites, how do I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_1adm3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend might be leaving me?", "post": "I'm 15, girlfriend's nearly 16. We've been together for 5 months.\n\nPlease, I'd like to just start off with saying I'd appreciate if people could refrain from making \"teenage relationships are stupid\" comments please.\n\nLately my girlfriend has been getting angry at me over little, insignificant things. Not anything I do to her, but just things I do in general.\n\nLast night she asked me to take some pictures of something and send them to her and she got really annoyed that they were upside down. She's never really liked my writing either, but last night she got really angry at my handwriting.\n\nIt cleared up but I felt horrible, so I told her I was sorry about always making her angry, which she then said she didn't know why she always got angry.\n\nI had been tired for about half an hour and had only stayed up to get her the photos, and then this made me just want to go to sleep even more, and when I say goodnight, she just responded with:\nOP how is this going to work for much longer.\n\nWe both decided it's best to try to work through whatever this rough patch is, well, I did and she seems to think so but I don't know if she's sincere, but one thing she said really made me feel like I was going to lose her.\n\n\"I can say hurtful things to you without feeling bad half of the time and just things like that. I never get nervous around you and it feels like I've been with you forever. It feels like we're married or something which I don't like. I want to feel young and excited while I can, but it feels like that's all over now.\"\n\nI don't want to make her feel like this, she says she's happy and just sometimes gets angry but I don't want to stay with her if I just make her upset, but I also don't want to lose her. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do and I just want advice!\n\nNothing has really been wrong up until a week or two ago. I don't know why this has suddenly popped up and why she's always so angry at me for doing nothing wrong.\n\nPlease help guys. Please, I don't want to lose her.", "summary": "Girlfriend has recently started to get angry at me for little things I just generally do. (Not to her) She says our relationship isn't exciting and she feels like we're married which she doesn't want. I don't want to keep making her feel like that but I don't want to lose her."}
{"id": "t3_l597z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I back off?", "post": "I'm female, 19 and he's male, 20\n\nI met him 2 months ago, when I started University on a night out. Ever since we've been texting each other everyday and hanging out at least 2/3 times a week. I've really fallen for him but after knowing him for about a month, he randomly told me he has had a girlfriend for the past two years back home.\n\nMy head is telling me I should back off and break off any kind of relationship formed with this guy. However I've grown very attached and can't stop texting back or seeing him. We haven't kissed or done anything that would be classed as physically cheating. Emotionally, he always drops hints such as \"I could never set you up with my friends I'd be too jealous\" etc and compliments me all the time. He always starts play fighting with me and hugs me a lot.\n\nHe also recently keeps saying things like, \"hes a good boyfriend\" and how he's been cheated on before by an ex. I feel like he's trying to draw me in and then reject me?\n\nMy friend has told me I should just stay friends with him and stick it out until one day he might be single. I've also been told, that if I have any morals,  I should just back off as I'm too much of a temptation to him.", "summary": "Fallen for a guy with a girlfriend, should I GTFO?"}
{"id": "t3_1m19r5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The reason I don't want my country being involved in Syria is not that I don't want anymore war...", "post": "War isn't morally wrong all the time. Sometimes its unavoidable and sometimes you have to go to war to stop something that unjust. Both of these descriptions reference World War II.\n\nWe train young men and women to do good for their country and our allies. I don't want to stop them from doing that.\n\nBut the reason I don't want to go to war is that..... **I don't trust my government anymore!**\n\nWe were ready to fight back after 9/11/2001. But our government was deceitful and used this opportunity to spy on its own citizens and go to war with country that wasn't involved in the attack. And more and more things have been coming out that has been eroding my faith in my representatives. \n\nI'm only 25 and I just recently started to have these thoughts. If we had irrefutable evidence Assad did this to his people, I wouldn't mind a few airstrikes. BUT WE DON'T! And the people in charge are trying to rush to war without enough reason and I don't understand anyone's motivations for it. So that makes me distrust the idea that this will be just a few airstrikes. It feels so similar to Afghanistan and Iraq.", "summary": "I just don't want to be lied to"}
{"id": "t3_490big", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] am considering askin out a classmate [18-22/F] but I don't know how to do it or when or even if I should.", "post": "I have a class this semester in college in which I have been the most talkative I can be. I haven't actually been such a talkative fellow in a class since high school. Every girl in this class is in a relationship, which is fine (a little bit frustrating tbh.) \n\nOne girl who I talk to though I'm unsure about her relationship status. She is probably the person I've talked to the third most. She seems a little quiet and shy, and I don't know if this is disinterest or just shyness. I've considered asking her for her number, or if she wants to go grab a coffee or something, but I don't know how to do either. I don't know if I should do it either. What I mean is that while we've talked some I just don't know if it's enough. \n\nAlso I saw her on campus once and waved and she did nothing in return which was really embarrassing. She could've been completely brushing me off or maybe she didn't see me or is just so extremely shy she didn't want to wave back but yeah, it was very awkward for me because I thought she was looking right at me. \n\nThe only girl I've ever had a relationship with contacted me first through snapchat and I only worked up the courage to ask her out because a friend of hers told me that she'd say yes. I'm super afraid of rejection (1:3 ratio of yeses to no's) and this is why I've never been a guy who goes on dates. \n\nSo yeah, I'm attracted to her and I want to talk to her more but I don't know what to do at all. In class we were talking about restaurants we liked and one I said I liked she said she loved, I considered asking her if she wanted to go, but I didn't have the courage. Would that have been a good idea? \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Like a girl in my class, have no clue how to ask her on a date or for her number."}
{"id": "t3_35xjt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roomate[18M] leaves me[18M] to make dinner after 7:30PM, am I overreacting?", "post": "After starting uni this year, my friend and I got a place , so we didn't have to commute as much. Recently one morning he calls me while i'm at uni, and tells me that he's going to have friends over tonight, so i'm like sure w/e (can't really say no at this point, they'll be there pretty soon - and i'm not against people coming over), but then later during the day i text him what time are they coming over. He replies much later stating he's out and won't be back until near when they arrive and that he doesn't know what time they will be there. \n\nI also asked if i had to make dinner for them, which he didn't know either. Around 6pm i ask again, what's going on, and no reply. At 7:30pm he replies with \"don't worry about dinner\", and tells me they got takeaway; so now i'm just expected to make dinner for myself...  \n\nI'm just annoyed that he didn't tell me any times, he randomly replies at post-7pm and expects (a pretty hungry me) to make dinner now, after he told me nothing. I might add this is not the first time this has happened, previous scenarios include, he sits in his room and plays Lol and around 8pm i ask what about dinner, he replies with yeah, i'll just finish this LoL game, not too hungry yet (since he went to bed at 5AM) Am i over-reacting or in the wrong here?", "summary": "Roomate is having friends over, tells me nothing and expects me to make food after telling me after 7pm."}
{"id": "t3_4eollw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Kinda strange question about student debt", "post": "So my parents were co-signers on my student loans. I finished a few yrs ago with a couple different federal and state student loans to the tune of a little over $100k. Since my avg interest rate was around 11% and my parents had paid off the mortgage in their home, they took out a new mortgage at around 6%, paid off the debt, and now I pay their mortgage each month. Note: this was very generous of them and I'm very appreciative.\n\nMy question: I have a good job and make decent money. Can I take out new student loans on my own, pay off their mortgage, and continue to pay the funds off as student debt? Or would I be required to use the funds for education if I were to take out new loans? \n\nI just don't want to get screwed down the line if there is some sort of federal student debt forgiveness program (like what was just announced for student borrowers with disabilities) when I really wouldn't need a co-signer at this point, and they're really student loans in spirit (not that I would expect to be able to rationalize the situation with a bank or govt entity, but just so my thought process is clear).\n\nThanks if anybody takes the time to read.", "summary": "Wu-Tang forever"}
{"id": "t3_jjd72", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you mourn?", "post": "I lost my grandma yesterday, she let herself go after a massive stroke left her paralyzed almost 2 months ago. I am over 5,000 away from home; I tried to scrounge up money to make a trip to see her by working impossibly long hours, but I didn't make it in time. I don't have the closure of a funeral, and I can't be there for my mom and family, at least not in the immediate future (I'm 2 months shy of being able to afford the plane ticket).\n\nShe was awesome. A whimsical woman, a free spirit full of energy, love, and a thirst for adventure. I understand it is completely selfish, and a part of me is glad she finally found peace, since what little bouts of lucidity she had she dreaded the situation she was in. \n\nNow I have a ridiculous amount of grief that I don't how to channel. I am an atheist, and so was she, so any reference to being tested by a mythical being, or that this being has a greater plan will provide no comfort whatsoever. \n\nSo Reddit, how do you mourn?", "summary": "Grandma died, it caused more grief than I can handle. How do you mourn?"}
{"id": "t3_4b2by4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I lost my gf of 4 years today and I feel like a failure", "post": "I [22m] dont have some sappy unlikely story to tell like most of the posts that do well here. \n\n I think I lost my girlfriend [21f] of four years today. She was my highschool sweetheart. I used to dream of spending time cuddling with her and as luck would have it I was able to make that dream come true for the last four years. I couldn't feel more lucky. Our relationship has been great at times and it was difficult as well.\n\nThere are things that always separated us. I'm a typical young white male on reddit, athiest, liberalish, and skeptical while she is very conservative and christian. I never had a problem with that because she always seemed like such a great person and her beliefs make her who she is as a person.\n\nBut I slowly let it deteriorate over time because I seem to not give a shit about anything that matters to me. Her main complaints are that I dont shave often enough, I dont dress up to go out, and I'm not social enough to make a good impression on her friends and family even though I try. Despite some painful missteps, I'm doing better than I ever have in my career and my life so i thought that would help. But I guess I missed that my success is not what she was interested in. I think she just like me for who I was when we started dating.\n\nI'm pretty drunk right now and I don't know how to feel. But I think I'll look back at this period of my life as very formative. I'm just sad I'm going to miss out on a beautiful, smart and caring woman in my life because I cant seem to give a shit. \n\nI don't have anyone to turn to to help me through this. I am very alone. So I guess I'll turn to reddit and hope I can get some clarity on this part of my life that now seems lost.", "summary": "4 year relationship with my highschool sweetheart, seems like its coming to an end because i cant seem to give a fuck and i feel worthless and shitty and so now im posting to reddit to try to get some clarity on what ive been doing for the last 4 years and trying to make sure it doesnt happen again and how im going to get through this."}
{"id": "t3_cg0lp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible to fight to pay the bills?", "post": "If I wanted to become a professional fighter to pay the bills and work my way through college, where would be the easiest place to start? Here's my plight:\n\nI'm working my way into a rough spot on money, living as a college student holding down a fulltime-ish job to pay my car note and rent and other stuff. I'm about to move on to a full-blown university which costs 4x as much as my current community college. I'm going to have to take a ton of loans out and I'm a little scared of being $60K in debt by the time I get my B.A. or B.S., whichever route I end up going.\n\nI've reached a fun point in my quest to get into shape. I no longer get sore, even if I work out for hours, and I can run several miles comfortably. I quit smoking and started kicking my own ass this way daily and it's showing really satisfying results. I know I'm not built to be a professional-grade fighter yet, but I think it could potentially be in the cards if I can find the right place to get started.", "summary": "Anybody know much about the world of professional fighting? Any discipline works, as long as I can eventually turn it into a pay day."}
{"id": "t3_261uxd", "subreddit": "self", "title": "A few thoughts.", "post": "I've heard that one of the greatest fears is of the unknown, but when I was much younger the unknown was what drove me to discover. Anything and everything within earshot or eyesight was soaked up and provoked endless questions. \n\nAs I grew older my curiosity made me dig through books and lectures to find information to fill my head with. There would be debates, arguments, appetites for information that couldn't be quenched. I used to get furious and thirsty for discussion when there was an opinion that differed or challenged mine. Some people would say \"You've lost your mind!\" in response to an idea I'd have.\n\nOlder still and my thoughts began to waver and I realized how little I knew. I would think back on experiences I had growing up, and what may come in the future. Had I isolated myself, become too engrossed, or done things I'd like to forget?\n\nMy mind slips and I've lost a thought here and there, I notice I can't recall where I've been a few days ago. There is a picture on the wall and the name of the man there escapes. My son told me it was me when I was much younger than I am now. Everything seems to be eroding in to the unknown, and what was once my childhood fascination has become my greatest fear.", "summary": "I was just watching an episode of The West Wing where CJ Cregg has a father that is suffering from the symptoms of a brain disease and it made me want to write something."}
{"id": "t3_2p1i3o", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "A strange situation with my coworker.", "post": "So yeah this is my throwaway, since a lot of people I work with are on reddit. Here's the thing:\n\nI started a new job a few months ago. There's this girl that I work with who I thought was kind of cute, but quickly discovered she wasn't my type after a few conversations/light flirtation. I never asked for her number or to hang out outside of work, and have never given her any indication that I want to be anything other than coworkers. We never really talked about it, and I had assumed that we were coworkers who were friendly with one another. Sounds okay right?\n\nWell today I found out she has been telling people that we work with that I'm \"creepy\" \"weird\" and \"annoying\". She also seems to be under the impression that I'm stalking her, despite the fact I've never seen her outside of when we work together. Normally, I'd chalk this up to attention seeking behavior and forget about it, but people are acting strangely around me now. It is making work unpleasant, and I'm afraid it could get me in trouble and cost me my job. I'm afraid to confront her, because I don't know what she might do. She has been there a lot longer than I have, so people are more likely to believe her than me. I'm just at a loss. I really have no idea what to do here.", "summary": "Despite barely interacting with a coworker, she accuses me of being creepy and stalking her. Worried this might get me in trouble/fired."}
{"id": "t3_4me28p", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Please help me understand why my dog is acting this way!", "post": "I live in India where its common to see stray dogs and 9 months ago I found my dog Milo. She was only a puppy, barely 2 weeks old when i found her outside of my local supermarket. No one even looked at her but you could tell she was starved and looking for someone to love her. Me and my sister took her home. We showered and fed her and for the first week she was completely distant. But she slowly started opening up and eventually became a part of the family. My mom is the main caretaker now as I got busy with college and my sister went back to America. We are planning on sending Milo to America too in August so we made all preparations, including getting her spayed. This is where the problem started. The surgery went fine with no complications, however they did not have a cone to stop her from reaching the sticthes. We tried to use a muzzle but she could still get to them and she removed the stitches 2 times. After the second time we decided to make our own cone out of cardboard and it worked perfectly. She was a little out of it when we put on the cone but she quickly adjusted by the next day. After about 20 days the wound was starting to close and we decided to give her a bath. We took the cone off and she didn't seem different. HOWEVER once we put the cone back on she started acting more aggressive. She would start biting at my mom, me and the furniture. Up until now she had never shown any signs of aggression. My mom finally got fed up and started to tie her up every time she acted like this. I thought it was a little to far but it seems to work as she just barks for a little bit then goes back to chewing her towel and bed. Could anyone please help me understand why my dog is acting this way?  I've been completely flustered and frustrated these last week and don't know what to do.", "summary": "Adopted dog off of street. Got her spayed. Put on a cone. Once I took off the cone she started acting more aggressive and biting everything."}
{"id": "t3_3ewq5t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "/r/SuicideWatch", "post": "This has been bothering me and I need to let it out. If you read this, please know this was my experience and not necessarily true to what may happen in SW. \nHaving battled and mostly conquered the Black Dog (Depression), it will always be a part of me. having found SW sub on day, I thought I would check it out. After reading, lurking and minding the rules, I was brave enough to start commenting. I was in there for the sole purpose of trying to help. I am no therapist so i did tread lightly, only armed with caring and of my own experience. After a couple weeks of comments here and there, I got a nasty PM, telling me to F-off, that I was not helping... etc. I took it as a troll being a throw-away account and not mentioning anything specific. I was shocked, but thought, \"Some idiot kid thinks this is funny and didn't realize what he was doing.\" After a few weeks of sporadic commenting (especially since this sub can take its toll on the healthiest of minds) I got literally ripped apart in another PM, this time it was about a specific comment I made. The comment (part of a brief chain) was where I told the OP about the importance of his aforementioned support network of friends. I don't think the PM was from the OP... he was nice but sad and the PM was filled with a torrent of anger. Anyways, I was floored by the PM and as much as I wanted to help... in some way the words of the PM deflated the hope I had to feel I could help. I know the seriousness and gravity that every word can make in the sub. I thought I was doing ok, but as I stated above, I am no therapist so I suppose I should stay away and not risk consequences of a possible fumbled word.", "summary": "I thought I could help people, but I guess I wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_4k24w2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU trying to feed baby birds", "post": "So Today (last night) I decided that I should try to feed a piece of a worm to the robins in the nest by my front door.  The nest is in a small tree, easy to access from my stoop.  So I cut a worm and reach in the tree.  The parents bolt, as usual, and I keep reaching in.  These babies are a few weeks old, eyes open, almost fully fledged.  It turns out they can also fly a little, which scared me a lot.  \n\nSo I scared 4 birds out of their nest.  One baby only flew to the other side of my driveway, the others went up the street.  I saw a second hopping around a neighbor's yard and was able to capture it and put it under the cover of some flowers near the nest.  A third I saw a bit later, but I couldn't catch that one as it could fly a lot better than the rest.  This morning the nest is still empty and the parents are still angry with me.\n\nSo", "summary": "I scared 4 baby birds from their nest, can now only account for 3."}
{"id": "t3_4pmyo9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a vending machine a $20 bill", "post": "This happened last night.\n\nMy girlfriend and I are staying overnight at a hotel to go to Hershey Park in the morning. Both of us needed water because god knows why the air was so dry. So I got out of bed and told her I was gonna go look around for one of the vending machines to get water. I forgot I didn't have any single bills left and thought I'd be okay using my credit card.\n\nHere's where the fuck up started.\nI got to the vending machine (which was right around the corner from my room) and noticed there wasn't the conventional \"$1.00 and $5.00 bills accepted\" so I thought it'd be okay to use a $20 bill instead of my credit card I'd get dollar coins back, right?\n\nAfter I got my drink, I was tired so I had to look reaaaaal close to see that there were quarters coming out instead.\n\nGot $18.50 worth of quarters back from a vending machine. Instant regret.", "summary": "Used $20 on a vending machine thinking I was gonna get dollar coins, got $18.50 worth of quarters instead."}
{"id": "t3_16lazf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Grandmother suffered a stroke in Managua, Nicaragua. Can anyone help?", "post": "My wife's grandmother suffered a stroke in Managua, Nicaragua on Christmas Eve. We spent all day, Christmas Day, searching for tickets for her mom to visit her there and help. This is a third world country and she is in destitute poverty there. The doctor said that she requires physical therapy but her first appointment is not until February. They also said that she requires an adjustable bed. \n\nMy wife did not feel right posting this so I am doing this in order to show her that there are people out there willing to help when things like this happen. \n\nIt's a long shot, but, is there anyone in Managua that can offer us some help? We need help locating a bed for her, getting physical therapy and probably speech therapy and in general someone to look after her. \n\nSpecifically: \n1. Can anyone donate an adjustable bed? \n2. Is there anyone willing to take care of her? We are willing to pay someone to do that.", "summary": "Wife's grandmother suffered a stroke in Nicaragua. We need to get her an adjustable bed and a person to look after her. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_lx0ya", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How smart are we reddit?", "post": "After having a section in an essay I just completed for my masters of law which spoke about professionals and their use of the internet including sites such as reddit, a colleague of mine contended that there no \"smart\" people on reddit.\n\nNow I know that there are lots of smart people on reddit. I have frequently found myself in Law subreddits and science subreddits where there are so many intelligent people!!\nSo if you have letters after your name, if you have a high IQ, or you have a job which implies that you are intelligent - post it here and let us prove for all perpetuity that reddit is the smartest site on the Internet.\n\nMine are: B.A. LLB. GradDipPLT. LLM.", "summary": "Post something which proves you are smart!"}
{"id": "t3_36gbz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F]: A lot of my friends live very far away and I'm finding it hard being socially isolated.", "post": "I recently graduated from university along with some classmates I was friends with. Expectedly, they went their separate ways and now we are stuck with online correspondence. However, I have all these hobbies and things that are social and I'm going stir-crazy with no one to do them with. It makes me feel like no one cares about me, like I don't have any friends even though I know this isn't true.\n\nI feel jealous when my housemates have their friends over and the prospect of having to return to my parents' house when my lease expires near the end of June is giving me anxiety and I usually end up a little teary knowing that definitely zero people will visit me there. It's 45 minutes into the countryside from my house, which is already >1 hour travel away from my friends.\n\nWhat are some things I can do to feel a little more like I did when I was younger and enjoyed solitude & single-people activities? What are some hobbies to do alone? I'm not a very crafty/creative person. Thanks for your advice, hope this is the right subreddit.", "summary": "All my friends live an hour away and when I possibly move home, they'll live even further away. What are some things I can do alone or what are some ways I can feel less lonely?"}
{"id": "t3_i01ed", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating advice for single male Redittors, especially for you engineers out there.", "post": "Originally posted on reddit.com. Thought you folks on /r/dating_advice would probably be more interested. \n\nAs a female engineer myself, most guys I come across are engineers. They are smart, nice, and hard working - the ideal kind of bf. But when it comes to dating, they have something strikingly in common (that makes me cringe): they love to argue, and feel the need to win every single argument.\n\nMy understanding is that engineers are very competitive in nature, and they have a very strong sense of pride, which lead to this common trait. But when it comes to dating, trying to win an argument doesn't help at all, in fact, it's a huge minus. The point of your conversation during a date is not about who's right or wrong, it's about learning about each other. Believe it or not, a good listener gets more girls than someone who wins all the arguments.", "summary": "You don't need to win every argument to win her heart."}
{"id": "t3_1wx7cm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [19, M] pathetic for having such a hard time moving on from my ex [21, F]?", "post": "I've been having a ridiculously hard time moving on from my ex. We had a very unhealthy relationship, with her leaving her ex for me, and then leaving me for her ex, with numerous issues in between. But when things were good, things were incredible. She is being very closed off, although we both admit that we're still in love with each other, but that us together isn't the best thing right now.\n\nThe problem is, she has someone (her previous boyfriend of five years, now current boyfriend again) to lead her through this, while I have no one. I fell into the greatest love of my life, and to have my heart broken, and abandoned, is such a soul crushing feeling. But I really loved who I was with her, and the fact that we have to see each other at work never lets the love die. I think about her constantly, and feel so empty without her.\n\nRecently she has been pushing me away (because our talks of missing each other aren't healthy for her relationship, obviously), and although its been two months, I'm still having a really hard time moving on. The two biggest reasons are guilt (flirting with other girls feels like I'm cheating on her), and I just feel I'll never love as much as I did with her.\n\nI guess I just wanted to know if I'm pathetic for being hung onto this for so long, and if there was any advice for fixing this situation. This is all written during a moment where I am very emotional, so I can clarify if ppl have any questions.", "summary": "Having a hard time moving on due to feelings of guilt and loneliness, want to know if its normal/how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_wa7zs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question about returning back to university.", "post": "Signed up a few weeks ago. This is my first post. \n\nI (F23) attended a university for 4 years, yet never graduated. Mental, emotional, and physical stress towards the end of my senior year caused me to not return to classes. I never officially withdrew from the university, just never signed up for next semester. I proceeded to pretend I was a university graduate, but without a piece of paper to back me up.  \n\nAm wondering if any other people are in the same boat as I am; I'm feeling really lost and hopeless. I want to return and finish what I started and worked so hard for, yet came up short. I feel like I'm being left behind while all my other friends are getting well paid jobs. Feeling like a poser.", "summary": "Went to uni for 4 years, didn't graduate due to emotional stress, want to finish what I started yet don't know how to go about this."}
{"id": "t3_qm1es", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the most akward excuse you ever gave because on that especific moment you were embarrassed with something ?", "post": "Well, this happened to me a couple of weeks ago, i was riding the elevator in my work when i woman came in, i did not even notice her, i was really minding my own bussines back there...thats when things started going bad, all of sudden she asks : \"is my hair wet ? \" and i was thinking to myself, WTF?!, well, when i had a look at her hair , it was completely soaked, not only the hair, but the tshirt, and part of her pants...and then i said: yes, uhhh, its a little bit wet. ( but inside i was thinking: She was f*cking during lunchtime !!! ), as a side note, the weather was perfect ! it was like 40 C outside !.", "summary": "Girl went for a quick F. after lunch, did not dry her hair properly, got embaressed thinking that i might have noticed her hair and tshirt wet, and start talking A LOT . Sorry for my english , but i rly would like to share this story with you. Made me laugh my entire day."}
{"id": "t3_2heq0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] having sexual problems with my new girlfriend [23 F] for the past few days. Sex is hurting her, help?", "post": "So I recently met this girl and we hit it off, we've been dating for a couple weeks now and recently just started attempting to have sex. \n\nShe is REALLY tight. My dick is ~6 1/2 - 7 inches and quite girthy, and she says that sex in general is very uncomfortable and ends up hurting her.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. We've had sex since, and I went a lot slower, but she said that it was nothing but uncomfortable. Is there any way around this?\n\nShe's mentioned that she doesn't want to continue having sex if it's going to hurt this much. This may end up affecting our relationship majorly.\n\nHelp!", "summary": "Have been having sex with girlfriend of couple weeks recently, she feels really uncomfortable during the act and I end up hurting her. Is there anything i can do?"}
{"id": "t3_2d2qxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [20 F] together 3 years, fell out of love.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for 3 years and had a perfect relationship. We hung out almost everyday and truly loved each other more than anything. Recently I haven't had as much time to spend with her and she started hanging out with a friend. Then she tells me that se doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore and it isn't fair to me. \n\nAfter the break up she still texts me and wants to hang out with me but doesn't wanna get back together for that same reason. What should I do?I really care about this girl and it's killing me inside to lose her", "summary": "dated a girl for 3 years, perfect relationship, haven't hung out as often, tells me she fell out of love, we breakup, she still talks to me"}
{"id": "t3_qxv84", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I was just disappointed by the two later books in \"The Giver\" trilogy. What books in a series do you wish you never read?", "post": "After reading \"The Giver\" in 6th grade, it's always stuck with me. Once or twice a year I'll give this book a read. The ending has always struck me as powerful, because you're left with a kid who's run off and at this point has no one, dying in the snow. In his dying moments he hears music in front of him, and maybe behind him, as a sign of his ultimate sacrifice in order to bring color to the world. I've always seen it as a strong, poetic ending and I think it's shaped much of my philosophy in life. For reference sake I'm now 27.\n\nSpoiler alert. Then I had to go and read books two and three and find out that the kid from The Giver's not dead at all. He went and became leader of another dystopian future-town (that I guess has been inundated with the horrors of capitalism through the Trade Mart?)", "summary": "I wish I never read the followups to The Giver because a central character I had thought poetically died in a classic tragedy is actually alive. What do you wish you never read?"}
{"id": "t3_41ydlp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Living at home (with parents) with no commute to work, living in city with friends 25-35min commute to work??", "post": "I'm 23 went to college, travelled the world for a bit now I'm back at home living with my parents. Don't get me wrong its not like I'm living in the basement playing video games and eating pizza for all meals. I work at fun job (make a decent salary) and it is only a 10 minute commute to work to and from home. My parents house and my job are in a suburban area (Grapevine, Tx) outside the city (Fort Worth, Tx). Here is the problem. After being independent for the last 6 years, living at home... well it kind of sucks tbh. All my friends are living in the city, majority of the single girls my age are living in the city and there is just more to do there. I have chance to move into the city either alone or room with a good friend. The big issue is the commute. It could take me minimum 25 minutes to maximum 45 minutes with most likely an average of 35 minutes. Considering I've never had to really commute to a job before, I'm asking you to help me understand what a commute is like, will it really be that bad and ultimately aid in my choice of moving to the social city or staying in the family suburbs.", "summary": "Remain living at home with parents in friendless suburb only 10 minutes away form my job or move to city filled with friends but make 35 minute commute to work. "}
{"id": "t3_1tyyi7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] My [21F] GF of 7 months just told me she got her breast groped by her Sister's BF", "post": "So towards the end of of a phone call I was told by my girlfriend that she had her boob felt up by her sisters boyfriend while napping in bed with both the sis and him. She told me that she had to tell me because she felt guilty even if she had \"handled\" it by having a go at him and telling her sister what happened. It turns out the sister was asleep while this groping happened. At first i was pissed off with the sister's BF for obvious reasons and started to tell my GF that i wasn't annoyed at her because i could hear a worried tone in her voice. Then I questioned why she sounded so guilty, it turns out that she let this groping  to go on for a couple of minutes. Now my anger is directed at her too.\n\nI can clearly see she feels guilty and horrible for whats happened , i really can! but i just don't know how to react. To add to the mess we are currently long distance and we've planned for her to come and visit me tomorrow. Part of me feels like i need distance so I want to tell her not to come but at the same time I don't get to see her that often! \n\nI need some opinions and advice please on how to react to my girlfriend's confession and not so much on what to do with that asshole.", "summary": "GF got her boobs fondled by sister's BF and allowed it to happen instead of pushing him off. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rvtpb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(32m) My exgf(22f) I am thinking of breaking the N.C because I have found her, her horse.", "post": "I will try to make this brief and please be gentle.\nMy exgf cheated on me over the holidays and I kicked her out and told her not to contact me. We haven't had contact since this happened. When we started dating she told me she was forced to give up her horse and would like to know if she is still alive. Every time anything that has to do with a horse she gets emotional.  Being the nice bf I am, I started to look for her horse. fast forward to yesterday: I received an email asking if this was the horse I was looking for. After an hour long Q&A it turns out it was her horse. Do I give this information to her or not?", "summary": "exgf had to give up horse, loves her horse, I found said horse. She cheated on me, do I still give her this info?"}
{"id": "t3_2f8evh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Ex [20 F] together for 7 months, I believe she has BPD", "post": "I believe my ex has BPD. She matched much of the criteria on various sources I researched. She would always lash out but then regret it later. I felt like I was walking on egg shells around her. She always felt like I had abandoned her. One moment everything is fine, next moment she might be packing her bags and leaving my place. \n\nI was always so afraid to commit myself fully to her because I noticed her BPD tendencies really early on. Obviously, I didn't really know what I was experiencing. I very likely didn't handle things the right way.\n\nThere was no telling how unpredictable her reactions would be. She would always feel abandoned by me. Obviously there were lots of different cases of this happening, but there is one that definitely stands out. This one hurt me the most. She had been drinking a lot one night with her friends and I told her I was going to bed. I genuinely just wanted to sleep; it was late. She ofcourse took it the wrong way and got upset, thinking that I was mad at her. She sent me lots of texts immediately expressing anger. \n\nThat night, she cheated on me with a guy she met down town. She told me the next day. Her reasoning was that she felt like she was losing me and that this was the only way she could address her feelings. She said she had been \"falling hard\" for me and didn't know how to control her feelings. I forgave her. I continued to stay with her for another 4 months.\n\nI broke up with her last month. I have been dealing with regret because I essentially quit on her. I feel like I did the best thing for myself and her own growth. However, I still wonder if it could've been handled, if things could improve. Lord knows the good times were great.", "summary": "After further research, I believe my ex has BPD, she matched an overwhelming amount of the criteria; broke up with her a month ago. Should I move on or is this something that we can work things out on?"}
{"id": "t3_4zq6cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my fianc\u00e9e [26 F] 4 years, my ex-wife [37 F] won't leave us alone.", "post": "like the title says.\n\nI was with my ex-wife for 10 years but after being together for so long she said she wanted to spice things up. we tried a lot of different stuff until we both wanted something risky.\n\nshe wanted to sleep with other men while i watched, i was okay with this and liked the idea. we did this for a little while and our sex life improved it was all very hot to us.\n\nshe started getting really into it and i started to feel inadequate so i told her how i was feeling. she said we could stop and we did but my insecurities never went away and ate at me.\n\ni filed for divorce she really did try but i just didn't want to be in this marriage anymore it felt tainted. a year after the divorce i met a very beautiful woman (Nicole) i really enjoyed her company and asked her out.\n\nwe have been together for 4 years now and we are going to have our first child together. my ex-wife is pissed for some reason mostly at the fact that i said i never wanted children.\n\nI did some soul searching and realized i wanted a family and Nicole did as well. my ex is saying all sorts of things like how i wasted her time and how i just traded her for a \"younger tigher whore\" and never loved her.\n\nshe keeps sending my fianc\u00e9e nasty messages and has tried to say that i was cheating on her with my fianc\u00e9e. i don't know what to do and don't know why she is acting like this now.\n\nany idea what to do?", "summary": "My ex-wife won't leave me and my fianc\u00e9e alone and keeps sending us nasty messages. I'm not sure what to do about this."}
{"id": "t3_3ra8e3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33/F] with my girlfriend [30/F] of 2 years, broke up and she told me about her cheating without the intention of salvaging our relationship", "post": "After breaking up due to her alcoholism, we continued to hang out anyway. She ended up telling me that she'd cheated on me about 6 months earlier. She was drunk and crying about it but had no intentions of salvaging our relationship. I feel like she should have just kept that secret to herself and live with her guilt. What do you guys think? All it did was cause me more pain on top of the pain I was already in. All for no reason other than so that she could relieve herself of the guilt.  I feel like if you're a cheater and don't intend on making things right, you should leave and spare your ex the details. If you want to stay and make things right, maybe then a confession would be necessary.", "summary": "Ex cheated and told me about it. I think she should have just kept it to herself."}
{"id": "t3_2cnawm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "r/relationship I could use your opinion. ex boyfriend lives with my friend and her parents.", "post": "girl 18. boy 21. me 21 \n\nthey dated for 2 years. and were engaged. she lives with her parents and he lives with her. after the brake up she wanted to date other people. (me included) \n\nI rebuffed her saying that she needed to be single for some time to get her head straight (and so I would not be a rebound). she got a new boyfriend and broke up with him after 5 months.\n\n her ex still lives with her. he is very interested in engaging the relationship but she is not. he also hates me and tried to fight me once.     3 questions\n\n1. should I even consider going after her with her ex boyfriend still living with her? or should I just stay friends and love else where? \n\n2. is it common for an ex to live with someone for such a long time?\n\n3. I suspect that the parents want them to get back together by letting him live with them for so long. is this unjustified?", "summary": "girl brakes up 2 year relationship. gets new boyfriend brakes up with him. but still lives with her first ex."}
{"id": "t3_4s85yn", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "[Discussion] New kitten with shelter dog (x-post r/dogs)", "post": "I don't post that often so I apologize for any mistakes or errors.\nMy friend had a pair of stray cats in his yard that recently had kittens. Long story short, he ended up saving one of the kittens but is now wanting to get rid of it. I am extremely willing to take the kitten but my girlfriend is not so sure.\nI live with my girlfriend and her Scottish terrier, Moe. Moe was a shelter dog when he was younger but my girlfriend has had him for about 6 years. She believes that Moe will not ever adapt to having a kitten/cat in the house. At the shelter, he did not like being around other animals. He still barks at other dogs and cats and does not attempt to make any friends.\nWhile obviously not true for all cases, I have read stories about dogs surprisingly accepting a new cat in the house, so I was wondering if there was any way to help Moe accept a cat in our apartment. I really care about Moe a lot, but I really want to take in the cat if at all possible. Is it out of the question to think that Moe would eventually learn to like the cat, or would one of them (likely the cat) end up getting hurt?\nI want the best for both the dog and cat. I would like my girlfriend to give me a chance and let me try to get Moe used to the cat.\nAny and all comments and feedback are", "summary": "My gf doesn't want me to get a kitten because she thinks her shelter dog will go crazy from it"}
{"id": "t3_phdf1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you handle it when your SO and you have lots of different interests?", "post": "I've noticed lately that my boyfriend (25) and I (female, 24) have been together for 2 years and have different preferences about a lot of things. For example, I love music and will go to orchestra and choir concerts just to listen to the sounds. I'm pretty sure he gets bored at these events, but he does get major points for going with me and smiling through it. I love movies and get hugely annoyed when people I'm seeing them with don't pay attention (I like to hear every word and soak up everything from the film). My bf falls asleep in theaters and has confessed that he really doesn't enjoy movies because they're \"boring\".\n\nThe most recent disagreement we've had is over vacationing. He *loves* nature, as do I, but he enjoys to vacation only by camping in a hippie-like fashion. Although I'm not that extreme, I do enjoy nature and would happily travel with him in this way, and enjoy myself, too. However, I love exploring cities just as much, and my bf has told me several times that he feels vacationing in cities is \"stupid\". This hurts my feelings and upsets me slightly because in the future I would like to vacation with him to places I want to go to, too, and it bothers me that he would not enjoy these trips, because I love him and want him to be happy.\n\nIt's not a huge deal, because he is promises he will still enjoy our trips just by being with me and seeing me happy, but I'm starting to notice how we differ more and more and it just bothers me. How should I deal with it? How have you dealt with differences with your SO?", "summary": "Bf and I like to do different things, and I worry he may not enjoy himself when we do activities together if he doesn't like the activity. I also worry he'll be judging the things I like to do with him. In general, our differences bother me. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_ck2fb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I wrong?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for over four years. Both of our first 'real' relationships, lost our virginity to each other, all that good stuff. Recently we've been having some relationship troubles. Because of (her) communication problems in the past, I introduced (and she agreed to) a \"no hanging up rule\".  She had a tendency to hang up on me when she was mad. The \"rule\" prohibits hanging up until we both agree to.\n\nAs a result of these recent problems, she decided tonight that she doesn't want to talk to or see me for three days. She announced this as we were in the middle of discussing an issue on the phone. She then said she had to go and hung up, ignoring my suggestions for a compromise in which we could text each other and speak if we wanted to rather than her just setting an arbitrary date.\n\nIt should be said that one of the issues we are having right now is me feeling slightly powerless in the relationship because she basically decides when we start and end every discussion and has ignored me before.\n\nMy question is, am I wrong for being upset over this decision to not speak? Aside from breaking our \"rule\" she is not respecting my opinion and is again deciding when we speak.  I feel like I have no say in things, but I don't want to make it seem like I'm not giving her any space.", "summary": "is it ok for me to be upset because my opinions regarding communication aren't being respected in te relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ovs0t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my [24F] dating for about a month, but have been friends for 2 years. Unsure how I should go about defining the relationship.", "post": "Background: I have known this girl that I am currently dating for a little over 2 years. When I met her she was in a relationship that ended up lasting 6 years (they just ended it in July). She is a part of a group of friends that I regularly go out with almost weekly, and over the past few months she had begun to get really flirty with me.\n\nShe ended her past relationship (I stayed completely out of this situation, so it was entirely her choice) and was single for a little bit. About a month ago, at my friend's birthday party, she said that she made it goal to be the last one to leave. This was obviously to spend time with me. We talked for hours before she left, then I walked her out to her car and kissed her. She said that it was very unexpected, but also very nice. She came over the next night and we kissed again. After that, she mentioned that she wanted to talk about what our status was. We talked and decided that we were both interested in each other (and had been since we met), but that we really didn't know how we got along romantically, so we decided to date and see where things went. \n\nEver since then, we have been regularly going on dates, often seeing each other a couple of times every week and texting/calling almost every day. We send good morning and good night texts to each other pretty equally. We have escalated to sex and have done that a couple of times. She is constantly telling me that it's \"surreal\" that this could happen because of how long we've had feelings for each other. \n\nThings are going great, but I like exclusivity. I know that she is not that type of person that would probably be seeing other people and I'm definitely not wanting to see other people. How should I bring up that I want something a little more serious? Should I bring that up at about a month in? I know it's not a lot of time for dating, but we've known each other for 2 years and have been pretty good friends for that duration.\n\nThanks for your help!", "summary": "Been friends with a girl for 2+ years and dating romantically for about a month. Should I (and how should I) ask for something a little more serious?"}
{"id": "t3_48of95", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Quick unemployment question !", "post": "Hey PF , \nI have a easy question that's just confusing the hell out of me and all help would be appreciated . So, I got laid off from my job a little while ago and I signed up for unemployment benefits . I recently got my \"monetary determination\" letter in the mail , in the letter it gives me my weekly benefit anmount and max benefit anmount during my benefit year . Does this mean I'm approved ? And when should I be expecting my first deposite?  \n\nThe letter came with a couple other papers but I'm pretty sure they were just if I didn't agree with the weekly anmount or the information was wrong on how much I worked/made last year .", "summary": "do I need to take anymore action or am I set ?"}
{"id": "t3_37pkl2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my boyfriend my spare phone", "post": "My boyfriend's phone became slow off late and kept getting hung. As a nice gesture, I took my old phone which I no longer used, factory reset it and gave it to him.\n\nHe spent some 5 hours and recovered all the data to find all my old chats and pictures. We had just started dating when I used that phone and weren't exclusive so I had some pretty fucked up shit in there. It's 6 months later and I'm crazy about him and he's decided to dump me because of how vivid my \"betrayal\" is in his mind :/", "summary": "started dating a guy, was still hung up on another, talked to both initially for about a week, decided to end it with one. Fast forward six months, gave him spare phone, he recovered data of that time, dumped me for betrayal"}
{"id": "t3_2dtsxk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of one month, what do i still need to learn?", "post": "So this is my first girlfriend and we've been together for about a month, and i've known her for about as long. But it feels like i've known her for years. we haven't done anything more than kissing in terms of physicality, and i don't plan to for a long time (she agrees). I am away at university, but she stayed at a local junior college, so we have a bit of a long distance thing going. i've been moving too fast emotionally, according to her. apparently i'm acting like i've known her since we were little kids. I really wish i had so she would just be more comfortable with talking to me. but theres a lot more i need to learn and a lot more time i need to spend.\n\nanyway i know her likes and dislikes, her personal history and issues, and her beliefs. and i know this only scratches the surface but what other kinds of things do i need to know?", "summary": "what is there to learn about someone you really like?"}
{"id": "t3_3rub2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26f] I'm unsure if I should get back with ex [m24] or if I am just lonely", "post": "So its been about a month since we broke up and we've been talking regularly ever since. I broke up with him because he was overly negative, and stopped coming to my house, hanging out with my friends and showing interest in pretty much everything. \n\nIt occurred to me afterwards that he was depressed at the time and have since wondered if I made a mistake in leaving the only healthy relationship I've ever been in. My best friend only saw the bad parts of him and swayed my decision alot. I know he leans towards negativity but he was also the most supportive, understanding and sweet person I've ever been with. \n\nI have troubles speaking up for myself because I've only ever been in abusive relationships and learned that expressing my needs only turned into a fight. So I held my tongue alot with him. \n\nWe've hung out since the breakup and he seems to be doing alot better than he was. He's hanging out with friends more and seems generally more positive, and I feel attracted to him like I used to be. \n\nBut my best friend still has a negative opinion of him and I don't know if she's seeing something I'm talking myself out of seeing because I miss him. I've never had such a hard time letting go of someone before. \n\nIs this a normal part of a break up or should I give things a shot again?", "summary": "broke up with boyfriend because he was depressed/negative and best friend didn't like him. He seems better now and we still talk every day so I'm wondering if we should get back together or if I'm just lonely. He was the best boyfriend I've ever had."}
{"id": "t3_1i8asx", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Ask for an internship?", "post": "Hello, I'm a somewhat recent graduate with a business degree (major in information systems), and have little experience in the field.  I have a steady job now but not fulfilling or giving me experience that I seem to need.  I am wondering if I should just apply to company in a rather unusual way by requesting an internship that isn't listed?  Reason for this is that I like the company and have interviewed for positions but do not have the experience they desire, and I believe that if I show that I am willing to work hard for them they might bring be on full time down the road.  I figure I could go 16 months without benefits and willing to have little pay.  Thanks in advance for your input.", "summary": "Is it appropriate to request an internship that is not advertised?"}
{"id": "t3_1o1gk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] don't feel mentally stable enough to keep a relationship with my SO [19M]", "post": "As of late I haven't been myself and am very mentally self destructive. I have been together with this guy for six months but have been seeing eachother for a year. I am head over heels for him and he is for me. \n\nThe reason I do not feel mentally stable enough to be with him is because I will get into these weird moods where I don't even want anything to do the world. I get ridiculously sad and will ignore everyone and sit and stare at a wall for hours. I feel like I'm doing it purposely to him but I don't want to hurt him. I can't even explain it properly. I am just generally an ubhappy person 90% of the time and don't think I shouls destroy someone like I do myself.", "summary": "I subconsciously try to hurt my boyfriend by ignoring him and it may be a cry for attention, I don't know."}
{"id": "t3_2t8hru", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not printing out my completed benefits package during the enrollment period", "post": "The enrollment period for my company was in the fall.  I completed all the sections along with accompanying screenings/paperwork (medical/prescription, dental, vision, etc.) and forwarded the confirmation email to my personal email address.  Well, a week ago I went to the doctor's office for a regular visit and was told I am not covered.  When I asked my benefits department about it they asked that I show printed proof of my elections for 2015 or I am stuck without medical/prescription.  I checked my email to see the confirmation email did not include a copy of my election summary.  According to their records every other election I made except medical/prescription was on the date I did it in November with the med/presc having defaulted back not only to the first day during the enrollment period but to a status of \"waive coverage.\"  I asked about this and was informed that all sections default to \"waive coverage\" instead of my choice from last year...well shit\n\nUpon trying to fix an obvious mistake/clerical/electronic error my benefits department told me \"Under ERISA law, the only method to make changes to your benefits would be a family status change.\"  **Well, I called the United States Department of Labor and the company health care provider and both say this is not the case.**  The HCP said all they need is a letter from my company asking for the change.  When I informed the benefits department of what I had learned they said \"In order to allow you to make a change outside of the normal open enrollment window we would have to allow everyone in the company to make changes to their benefits anytime by amending the plan for all.\"  I think what they meant to say is under ERISA law we don't have to help you.  I am guessing there is a good reason beyond just screwing me for a zero tolerance policy and no appeals process but damn...so yeah kids remember to print everything.", "summary": "ALWAYS PRINT OUT ALL YOUR IMPORTANT PAPERS"}
{"id": "t3_3juksl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by touching boobs for the first time (Semi-NSFW)", "post": "Okay so this happened around 3 months ago.  Keep in mind I'm a guy who likes role-playing and tends to make a lot of puns. So I had been dating this girl for about a month and a bit and things were going really great. \n\nWe were alone one day and we were spooning (I was the big spoon) and I had my hands resting around her waist under her shirt. Eventually she gets an idea and says 'Hey wanna touch my boobs?' And being the horny teenager I am, I'm like 'hell yeah I do!' And thus began the moment I began to fuck up. \n\nOkay maybe it was because I was a bit nervous but for some reason as I started working my way up to her boobs I began to commentate (in David Attenborough's voice) like I was some explorer on an adventure to her boobs. \n\nAfter crossing the Grand Canyon (her belly button) I eventually got to her breasts where I said ' Wow I must have fallen and died in the Grand Canyon because it feels like I'm in heaven'.. I thought it was pretty smooth and I think she thought it was kind of cute. (Looking back she probably didn't it was pretty lame) \n\nBut it didn't last long because I was instantly back into explorer mode. \n'Hmm it looks we've reached uncharted land, I'm going to call it...Boobsville'\nAnd this is where I really started fucking up. \n'Shh I need to watch out for booby traps' I started to giggle a little bit but I kept it together.\n'Don't get too close to the natives, they might give you the Boobonic plague.' At this point I was trying so hard not to laugh I was holding back tears. \nEventually I got to her nipple, where I couldn't help but say 'Wait a second, how the hell did we end up in Nepal' and then proceeded to laugh uncontrollably to the point where I could no longer continue my boob exploration adventure. \n\nShe broke up with me the next day. I'm not sure if it was because of the boob incident but I still don't regret it and I would totally do it all over again.", "summary": "my girlfriend let me touch her boobs and I fell into a booby trap, got the boobonic plague and went to Nepal before we broke up the next day. "}
{"id": "t3_1ru4gw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (23f) handle my boyfriend's (23m) jealousy?", "post": "We've been together for 2 months and it's been really intense. We're super in love, it's like we're teenagers. He tells me I'm the first girl he's been with that he actually cares for and I believe him. It's also super obvious that he's crazy about me. He treats me really well. \n\nAs for me, it's hard to know exactly how your actions are perceived and interpreted, but I really think it's also pretty obvious that I am crazy about him. We're the couple people roll their eyes at because we're so cheesy. \n\nBut he gets jealous. He doesn't call me names or hurt me physically at all. He's just kind of... Bitchy. \"Oh sure, when HE calls, you go right away. Well go then, I'm not stopping you!\" That kind of stuff. I guess he might be jealous when he's sober, but he only ever acts on it or really shows it when he's had a few drinks. When he does, I usually just try not to antagonize him and try to show him he has nothing to worry about without really giving in too much? I try not to make a big deal out of it, because if either of us have been drinking, it would only make things worse. But it really sucks sometimes. I just want to go out and have a good time with my boyfriend without having to walk on egg shells because he might explode. \n\nHow do I handle this? I'm not blaming him, he can't help feeling this way. But I also don't want to accept it. I'm more than willing to give him time to adjust to being in a relationship, but if there's something I can do, that would make things a lot easier. Thanks!", "summary": "My boyfriend gets jealous when we go out and I would love some advice on how to handle these situations and the jealousy thing in general."}
{"id": "t3_1xd6v2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21F] Why are guys so \"all or none\" with me? How can I handle it?", "post": "Basically, all of my past relationships have ended with the guy declaring that he loves me after a week or two of dating (sometimes not even dating, we could just be talking flirtatiously, this has happened twice); OR my only two longer relationships (6 months/2 years) the guy very suddenly gets \"bored\" and flirting with other girls, promising them relationships, etc., basically cheating on me.\n\nI met a really cute, sweet, nice, and funny English boy recently. We like all of the same things, he's very thoughtful, he makes me laugh endlessly, and he's just...wonderful. However, he told me he loved me after only a week of conversation/flirting, and I'm honestly not sure what to do. \n\nI really liked him but that just made me feel... guilty. I was developing feelings for him but now I feel like I can't talk to him because I don't feel the same way, and I really don't want to string him along. \n\nHow can I stop this \"all or none\" pattern that I'm stuck in? I want to casually date someone, I want to have time to develop my feelings for someone, I want to take a long time \"falling\" in love. \n\n**DISCLAIMER:** I don't think I'm hot shit or anything. I have some pretty major character flaws just like the rest of us. I'm not super hot or anything. I have no idea why this is happening but it makes me feel terribly guilty every time that I don't reciprocate the feeling.", "summary": "Guys either tell me they love me and want to be with me forever, or they want absolutely nothing to do with me. Not sure why this is happening. I'd really like to date more casually and experiencing the actual \"fall\" of falling in love again. I don't like speeding things along, and I'm not sure what to do other than cut ties when someone tells me they're in love with me after a week. I'm nothing special, I have no clue why this happens."}
{"id": "t3_3fufrs", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Autopay Accident - How to Best Handle?", "post": "Hey all -\n\nApologies if already posted - on mobile. Have heard good things about yall. Maybe yall can help a newb in need of advice. \n\nSo, I'll jump right to it. I have multiple accounts at the moment. A \"bills\" account with checks, which is used for bills. A savings (with weekly deposits of $25 - not much but trying to save). And a \"fun money\" account through simple for spending/short term savings. \n\nI apparently left an autopay for my car payment turned on in my main bills account and it is posting as we speak. I had already paid the bill manually and didn't get any sort of reminder this autopay was happening until this evening when according to the bank it was \"too late to cancel\" and it will take them 45-90 days to refund the money. The issue is: rent will be paid this week out of my bills account and I hate to pull so much out of savings to be waiting in limbo to be repaid. Should I a) pull out money from my savings to pay for expenses and bills and keep paying extra on bills due (such as loans and credit cards) or b) reduce payment on my credit cards (from $100 over minimum balance to just minimum) for the next few months and put things as needed on them to be repaid in 45-90 days? Aiming to make the best situation happen in this rock and hard place scenario. Hope this makes some sense. It's late and I'm tired and slightly frustrated at myself. :/", "summary": "autopay error. Not enough in account. Pull from savings or pay less on bills to balance until money is refunded to account in 2-3 months?"}
{"id": "t3_54tcy8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I Have Nothing Going for Me in Life.", "post": "I'm currently a college senior and I'm expected to graduate in the next several months, and I should feel excited. I should be reminiscing about all of the great moments I've had with others, but if we're going to be honest, I can't help but look back with regret. \n\nI constantly feel as if I haven't accomplished enough. I pictured myself studying abroad in Spain, earning stellar grades, just creating a wonderful time these 4 years. But guess what? I've yet to pack my bags and step foot outside of my own country. It's sad knowing I had all of these dreams and they've never come to fruition. I don't even feel like an adult either, without a driver's license or even a job. I'm currently working hard for them, but I guess I'm not working hard enough, so I'll need to keep pushing harder. \n\nIt also sucks that I'm still single. I'll say that I believe that I have redeemable qualities, so I wouldn't go as far as saying I dislike myself, but as someone who's waited 21 years, it can get a little overtiring. I start thinking what guys think of myself, why I'm not finding anyone yet and why I was so close, but not there yet. \n\nAnd while I'm lonely without a man, I'm also lonely without anyone I'd consider my best friends. I envy those people with best friends they connect with on such a deep level. I envy those people who've had those best friends for 5, 10, 15 years. I've never had that. I don't know if I ever will, and to be honest with you, it's sad. I want that so much, but is it ever coming to me? I've had those friends before, I've had those kind of connections, but I messed it up (long story) and I regret the decisions I made. While those people have other friends to replace me, I feel like I don't have anyone. Though I do have friends, none of them are really people I'm close to and its'sad. \n\nI know I shouldn't expect to have my shit together at 21, but at least I shouldn't feel like there's nothing going for me in my life.", "summary": "I feel like there's nothing going for me in life. I don't feel like I've accomplished much; I'm still single and feel lousy about it, and I don't really have any close friends. I'm graduating this Spring but while everyone else is moving with their lives and getting it going, I feel like I'm still stuck."}
{"id": "t3_r0wpf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would you deal with this situation if you were in my shoes? (Do you live the life you want, or the life others want you to have? Does love conquer all?)", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nThis is my first post, I'd really value and appreciate your answers! \n\nI'm female, 20 years old. Born/live in Australia, both parents Lebanese.\n\nI have been dating the most amazingly fantastic creature of all time for just over a year now, though the relationship is doomed because of my parents' hate towards him (despite them never meeting face to face with him before).\n\nReasons they hate him:\n\n**1.** He's Jewish (My mother says the biggest betrayal I could ever do - EVER - to her is date him [she has never mentioned this anti-Semitism before])\n\n**2.** He's 29 (Nine years older)\n\n**3.**He's different (Mohawk, unique tastes and lifestyle, just... different)\n\nBefore he came along, I never knew I could feel this amount of love, care and admiration for someone. He is perfect in my eyes, flaws and all. I'm crazy about him, hanging out with him/kissing him/hugging him never gets old.\n\nIf I carry on with the relationship, I will be disowned by entire family. (Father already ignoring me, relationship with my mother already in shambles... I've never had a close relationship to either of them.)\n\nIf I end the relationship, I will make my parents happy and will show respect and understanding towards them, but will never know where it could have lead and will lose my best friend, will be forever devastated, (may find someone else just as good????).\n\nI am working and saving up money to move out by the end of the year because I disagree so strongly to how my parents have acted, it's just terrible living in this house.\n\nI am under an incredible amount of stress and rarely sleep well, I go to great lengths to not be in a room with my parents.\n\nThanks, I hope someone can give me some good advice, I'm really struggling to find people who can help shed light on what's the best thing to do, and so is my boyfriend.", "summary": "Would you live out the life you want i.e keep dating the person of your dreams (would love conquer all?), or do what makes your parents happy, i.e stop dating someone for them?"}
{"id": "t3_1apfpr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help... went off CKD for mental health, may be going in the opposite direction (Wall of text)", "post": "So I was on a CKD/TKD style diet for a while since I lift like crazy. I had great success and hit my low weight, and stalled. I always stall at this weight. I stayed on calories and within diet guidelines for a few weeks with no results. I realized food was causing anxiety and I was starting to get scared of carbs including healthy ones. \n\nWell, I decided that the healthiest thing to do would be to start eating carbs again and calorie count for a while. Gained weight almost immediately, and have bounced around 5-10 pounds higher than my low for a while now. I planned to go back on low carb after a break to really reset, since low-carb has always shown the best success for me.\n\nSuddenly I am binging on carbs. I'm not gaining anymore, but I lose my control as soon as I allow myself the first \"bad\" carb. I'm craving like crazy and even though I know that I don't really want something I go after it like I haven't eaten all day. I've binged to discomfort multiple times this month. This is not something I have ever had a problem with before. Today I just could not stop eating from 3pm on. I tried to eat some oatmeal with protein powder to fill up, but then I ended up with cinnamon graham sticks (like 30 of them), cinna twists, and a special K bar, just because they were there. At this point I had to teach a class and was feeling fine after, but it was my brother's birthday tonight, so I ate most of my hibachi plate and then a big slice of crazy coconut cake... This is around 3000 calories today. Maybe not huge to some of you, but I rarely hit 2400 on a heavy workout day, and today was fairly sedentary... \n\n**Question /", "summary": "I was thinking this would be a reset and then I'd hit low-carb again hard after my convention to get the last bit of weight off, but now my fiance is concerned that the low-carb may make me desire the carb binges even more. Should I go with my low carb plan, or are there any better ideas out there? "}
{"id": "t3_196ecs", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (20F) is going to a party where I will see a guy I awkwardly dated (24M).", "post": "Meet guy at party. We go on two dates. First date was...meh. Second date he tried to get laid in the most awkward way possible. Zero chemistry when kissing him too. Unsuccessful.\n\nI decide that I should wait for him to contact me again because I am NOT some slampiece he can trick into having sex with (even though he has been the ones doing the asking out instead of me putting in any effort, so I feel a bit guilty)\n\nThings end, not meant to be. But my friends know about the hilarious story about him trying to get laid. I'm worried about running him into the party and making him feel awkward. According to one of my friends he has a girlfriend now, which makes me feel guilty that I prejudged him for being a player.\n\nHow can I make it not awkward when I see him? How can I make it not awkward when my friends act like immature drunk assholes? Will my friends do this? I just want this party to not be awkward! I know we only dated twice but it just ended in such an awkward fashion.\nAnyone else have experience like this?", "summary": "Dated a guy awkwardly. Partially my fault but also his but I mostly feel guilty for some reason. Going to same party. He already has a girlfriend. How do I avoid awkward tension? How do I disperse tension if my friends decide to be drunk assholes and make things awkward? What are some scenarios I can expect?"}
{"id": "t3_2ucnjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] just started dating someone new [22F] but I can't stop thinking my ex [23F] who wants to be friends with me.", "post": "I'm not going to go into a full, detailed story on my situation because it's irrelevant to how I'm feeling. To summarize the situation, I dated a girl for 2 months and we broke up last weekend. I am aware that 2 months is not very long but I deeply care about her. We had so much in common, had similar life experiences, and got along very well. Her reason for breaking up with me was that she did not feel the same connection she felt when we started dating\u2026 fair enough. She also became far more busy with school at the end of the 2 months, and whether or not that played into the decision, I don't know, but I suppose it doesn't matter.\n\nAfter our \"breakup\" we decided to remain friends. I haven't told her this - but it's extremely hard for me because I've never cared about someone so much in such a short period of time. I still have feelings for her, even though over the last week I've tried to push them aside (and slowly they are going away\u2026 but VERY slowly). We had made plans to see a basketball game next week a month ago, and the tickets have already been purchased. As of this moment, we both plan on going\u2026 as friends. \n\nLast night, however, I went on a date with someone new. Should I have waited more than 1 week to date someone else? Probably, but it happened so nothing I can do now. We definitely do not connect on the same level I connected with my ex. My emotions are getting the best of me though and my thought process is \"keep dating this girl so the feelings for (ex's name) go away\". With that being said, the new girl is still nice, cute, funny, and overall a good person to hang around so I'd like to see where that goes.\n\nI'd just like to hear opinions of people who may have been in a similar situation with exes becoming friends but still having residual feelings.", "summary": "Broke up with ex last week. Dating new girl but still have feelings for ex."}
{"id": "t3_2k6yxg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why can't I (22 F) get over my jealousy I have over my boyfriend's (27 M) ex/mother of his son?", "post": "God, I feel like I'm ruining my relationship, over fucking Facebook likes. I'm more upset at myself than him over this, but I don't know how to stop this vicious cycle I've put myself in. \n\nA little background... we've been together a total of three years with two breaks in between. I'd rather not go into detail about those because I don't feel it's relevant. He assures me they didn't hook up and I believe him and trust him. I honestly have no reason not to. It's her I don't trust. \n\nShe's absolutely gorgeous and the mother of his child. She's also half Japanese, and of course he has a thing for Asian women. How am I supposed to compete with that? I have no confidence, I never had. I don't know how to do that. \n\nI don't trust her because she tried to get him to kiss her while we were together. Nothing happened, and he was mad that she tried that. Also, their relationship ended because she cheated on him, after a 7 year relationship and a baby at home... with his own brother. \n\nHe tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me everyday. He is singlehandedly supporting both of us while I wait to get back into school. He spent tons of money and time moving me in, across the state. I see the way he looks at me, and he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.\n\nSo what do I do? I get mad over stupid fucking facebook likes. He has like dtwo of her photos in the last couple weeks. I get upset because I feel like i can't compare to her, he gets mad at me for getting jealous, I feel worse cause he's mad, my confidence drops, etc. It turns into the dumb cycle. I don't know how to stop. It's a fucking button on a website. It literally means nothing. Why am I tearing myself up over it?", "summary": "I'm getting jealous over my boyfriend \"liking\" his ex's facebook pics. It's dumb and i want to not be upset by it. Help? :("}
{"id": "t3_1k9uz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[31M] with my girlfriend [37F]. Have been told my negativity is poisonous.", "post": "She works 3rd shift as at-home health related company. Job is visibly wearing on her. I just got a job in computing, effectively has been my starting dream job. \n\nRocky relationship as of late. I will spare these details.\n\nI have been told that my anger and negativity is poisoning relationship. A close friend who watched at recent 2 parties said she is very cutting towards me. My previous anger made me very wary in accusing this, because I would assume the worst. My anger disappeared recently, so I am reevaluating all sorts of things.\n\nThis morning's text. Im going to work at 8. She's leaving her worksite at 8.", "summary": "I am Green Text. She is gray text. Comments?"}
{"id": "t3_34jn1g", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I don't know what to do about my job situation..", "post": "I've been working for my company now for about six months.  It's retail sales, it pays decent and it has benefits.  My mother is sick, so I'm moving cross country in a few weeks.  I originally told my boss about the situation about 4 weeks ago at the beginning of April.  He understood and said he would get me transferred.\n\nFast forward to now, and they're trying to not transfer me.  I need to be done by May 14th (which would be the week ending the 16th) and then I have 80 hours of personal/vacation time which would cover me until the 31st of May.  I won't be moved into my new place until June 1st and my stuff isn't getting there until the 3rd (moving truck).  I can't start until about a week later which would be June 10th, so now they're flipping out saying I can't take that much time off. \n\nSo now I don't know what to do.  My house still needs to be packed and I work 45+ hours a week and quite frankly will all that is going on in my life I'm burnt out.  I have my job, my mom and my move all on my mind 24/7.  I can't change my timeframe, so I might lose my job.", "summary": "Moving cross country told boss promised transfer now they're saying too much time."}
{"id": "t3_3bfgch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28F) found a ball of hair in my boyfriend's (38M) apartment. 4 years LDR", "post": "Yes, so my boyfriend sends me to visit him and I appreciate it. We've been together long distance....4 years. He is however, working on looking for a job where I live. Anyway, I'm currently spending a week with him and brought my daughter along. He left for work and as I threw a blanket on the couch, I saw a ball of hair roll away. I thought, oh it's my daughter's as I just did her hair. But this hair was not mine, not hers, not his, black and gray....a ball of it. Like it came from a comb, shit I don't know. I just now it's not ours. Once before I saw one long straight hair on his stove. He said he puts his bags there and it had to of came from outside because noone has been here but me. But this *ball* of hair is bothering me and I don't know if I should say something and ruin my visit or wait. Please offer some advice.", "summary": "found a ball of hair thats not mine or his. No pets."}
{"id": "t3_1mtrkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend[20M] wants to smoke weed when I[20F] do not want him to.", "post": "We have been dating for a year and a half now, and for the first few months of our relationship he smoked weed almost daily to the point where it was kind of pathetic. He started getting in a lot of trouble with it, and wasn't paying attention to his studies anymore so I told him I didn't want him smoking anymore. He agreed and stopped.\n\nSometime six months ago though, he did it again behind my back and I found out through mutual friends. I told him that I was hurt that he kept it from me, but as long as he didn't do it again we'd be fine. He continued to do it multiple times and would straight up lie to me about it but I'd find out each and every time. We were on the verge of breaking up because I was sick of the lying but he promised me that he was done, so I gave him a day to get it all out of his system by getting high all day.\n\nNow here we are a few months later, and he's asking for my permission to smoke again. When I told him no, he's saying that it's unfair. I told him that he can smoke weed all he wants, but he'll be single. I think it's unfair to me for him to just think that he can smoke weed when he was a complete idiot about it. I'm just sick of the weed scene, and I do not want to be around it. He still thinks i'm being unfair to him, and I'm just really mad. Am I wrong for thinking that he shouldn't be smoking? What do I even do?", "summary": "boyfriend wont give up weed, I don't want to be around it."}
{"id": "t3_11qpzy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25 yr old male with massive baggage in a new relationship (was with a girl for 4 years and engaged) now with a 23 yr old for 6 months", "post": "So i was with a girl for 4+ years. We were engaged to be married when both of us freaked out and did/said things to express our freak out.\n\nwe broke it off. she rebounded and i did too. well...I thought I did. My new relationship (there was 8 months between the ex fiance and the current girlfriend) has been going on for 6 months. I am looking for something serious. She, my current girlfriend, doesnt seem to be.\n\nAlso, after about a year apart, my ex fiance and i have been seeing a lot more of each other (not by choice). things are very confusing....\n\nI still love my ex, but the idea of being in a relationship with her disgusts me. i am VERY into my current gf, but we are the most opposite of people possible.", "summary": "25yrold male with baggage doesnt know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_t3emw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who would win in a fight? Chainsaw vs. Katana?", "post": "Assuming that both were masters of their weapon, who would win a fight and how would it likely play out? My friends and I are having an argument and we've hit a bump in the rode that while a katana is infinitely faster than a chainsaw, it cannot parry a chainsaw. I for one believe that a katana could cut through the chainsaw if wielded expertly. My friends believe that the chainsaw would shatter the katana. What is the expert opinion of reddit?", "summary": "Argument with friends. Can a katana cut through a chainsaw?"}
{"id": "t3_wltwo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend of a year, stops having sex due to religion... I call BS. What do you guys think?", "post": "Gf is 21, I(Bf) am 22. We are both in school, however due to the Summer we are long distance for now. We often talk to each other on skype like almost everyday, and so her mom who is super religious of christianity decides to walk in and look at a conversation of ours on her computer where we talk about sex (we do not usually write about this stuff other than saying i love you and what not but because our sex life is good we were comfortable talking about it), she doesn't talk to me for a while, and when she does tells me everythings cool but she can't have sex with me due to her faith in God. Her faith in Christianity was also strong before but that never stopped us from having sex. Now I'm afraid that our sex life is down the drain for good, I do know I love her, but I don't want to break up with her because of this. I will have a difficult time to adjust, I asked her if it was because of her mother she changed... But she replied no, it was her belief. And if I respect that I will wait until marriage... (I do not plan to get married early, it's impossible with my insufficient funds)to have sex with her again. I'm pissed and hurt, I told her the reason I feel hurt is because she is trying to block out those intimate moments we had and that she's only trying to appease her mother. I also told her, that everything would be fine once we got back on campus because her mother will not be snooping around...She swears it isn't because of her mother and still refuses to have sex... FYI We can't even sleep on the same bed (no sex).... or have actual sex for that matter. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore due to religion after a fight with her mom figuring out I had sex with her, and now is forcing me to wait until marriage for sex. This is an impossibility."}
{"id": "t3_1ttv6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(28M), she's out traveling (27F), when should I make another move?", "post": "Met her on Halloween from a friend of a friend and we hung out through out the night with others during a bar hop. After a couple of weeks we decided to meet up again at a local pub and talked for a few hours, towards the end we went back to her place and had some absinthe I brought back from a recent trip and talked awhile longer. At the end of the night I sobered up, we hugged and headed home, didn't feel right to kiss her then.\n\nSince then she's been out traveling in Europe / Africa and periodically posting her photos on FB & Tumblr, been liking the stuff I see and we send messages now and then since the time difference rarely works for the both of us. I think there has been some further flirting (mostly in the form of gifs since we are both pretty big nerds/geeks) but I don't think I've seen anything definitive, though she us usually the first to like a post of mine or answer pretty swiftly if we chat on messenger.\n\nI do think I am starting to have feelings for her but I feel like I should wait until she returns to really say anything, it won't be much longer since I think she comes back right after New Year's. I think plotting another date is definitely in the future works but would saying anything online be a wise idea?", "summary": "She's out traveling, should I say anything online or wait till she gets back?"}
{"id": "t3_54gnlw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by knocking over a bucket", "post": "So this happened a while back at my school. Me and some friends were sitting in some really big stairs at the end of the cafeteria, but of course nature called for me so I started walking down the big steps down the stairs, and There Is a bucket in the middle of the stairs that I do not notice at first so I end up walking into the bucket, and keep in mind There was trash in the bucket, and about 200+ students sitting in the cafeteria so of course everyone looked straight towards the stairs because of the big bang the bucket fall made, and someone starts applauding. Eventuelly the whole cafeteria is applauding me while I'm Just standing There in view of everyone really awkwardly looking down at the students slowly walking towards the Edge then backing off slowly.. Eventually after what felt like ages of applause it stopped. This was the most emberassing thing and at the same time the most hillarious thing to happen to me, after a while the bucket was signed with my name on it, it even got a Facebook profile WITH MORE FRIENDS THAN ME, and even after a half year people recognize my name as \" the bucket\" every time my name is written down. Even to this Day a year later the bucket with my name on it is standing at the same spot. With my name on it and people still keep recognizing it.", "summary": "I knocked over a bucket, became a celebrity at a school for like a month altough people still recognize me as \"the bucket guy\" a year later."}
{"id": "t3_4ej7qh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Socially awkward here. When can I [18M] kiss her [18F]?", "post": "So this girl and I were set up by our older sisters. We go to different schools and live about 30 mins away from each other.\n\nWe've gone on a few dates. I hug her before and after each date. We haven't held hands or kissed yet but I want to. Obviously she likes me since she asked her sister to set her up with me. She is waiting for me to ask her to prom and has asked her sister frequently about how I plan to do it (her sister knows since she is friends with my older sister, who I have told the plan to). I'm asking her to prom this week on our next date with this super clever \"activity\" of which she has no clue.\n\nAnyways, I want to kiss her this date and hold her hand. It's gonna be about a 1 hour date and 1 hour drive time together. I'm sure that my cleverness will blow her mind. Would this be a good time to kiss her? I am planning on holding her hand walking from the car and would feel comfortable doing so. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "I was set up with a girl who I'm asking to prom and I haven't missed her yet. Can I kiss her when I ask her to prom?"}
{"id": "t3_33sy4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] Want to burn bridges with a close friend [18M], are my feelings justified and how do I go about it?", "post": "This friend has recently shown a really bad side to him. We've been friends for 5 years and become quite close in the process. However he's shown how uncaring and impulsive he is.\n\nBasically after I broke up with my ex I was not in a good state and he saw and knew. I got incredibly drunk one day and said some depressing things. It was blatantly obvious that my ex was a big factor to what I said and why I was drinking. \n\nFast forward a few weeks and my friend invites my ex and her friend round and they end up going to third base. He brags about the day to all my friends and never tells me (I arrived after this). I find out from a really close friend the next day and let the guy know how I feel. I didn't want to tear apart the social circle I was in because we've had so many memories together. He said he didn't know it would lead to anything (absolute bs) but because of the group I took it as a stupid mistake. I just told him that I'd really rather know beforehand if anything will happen and to spare me details.\n\nFast forward a month or so and he tells me he wants to talk after college. We meet and he says he's had sex with her and it may go further (probably meant relationship) and that again he didn't know it would lead to that. I was the last to know again and he only let me know because he was chastised into doing so by his other friends. He made every mistake he made last time and has clearly shown that he does not care at all for my feelings and our friendship. He never told me beforehand. \n\nWeather it destroys my main social circle or not I feel that my feelings are justified but I want some peoples opinions before I call him and burn bridges. But I'd also like to know the best way to go about doing so. I appeared too light last time but this time I want to be clear with him.", "summary": "friend went 3rd base with ex, didn't ask if it was okay. Told him to tell me beforehand if things happen. Then friend has sex with her and didn't let me know beforehand. Want to burn bridges. Should I? If so what's the best way?"}
{"id": "t3_11tc0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] almost had sex with a friend [21F], we're closer for it, but I want a relationship with her.", "post": "My friend [21F] and I [21M] have been friends since we started university together on the same course 3 years ago. Up until a month or so ago, there had been no sexual feelings between either of us, that is until alcohol was involved. \n\nWe hadn't seen each other for a few months as we were both abroad and when we got back we decided that we needed a catch up. I met up with her, we chatted and had a few drinks until eventually it was pretty late and she offered to let me stay over. However, it turned out that she had no spare bedding for the couch and said that we could sleep in her bed. This quickly led to us cuddling which led to spooning, etc.. I won't go into to much detail, but we didn't actually have sex as neither of us had a condom. We did seem to be very sexually compatible though.\n\nThe next days and weeks have been great, no awkwardness, and we've become much closer for it. Because of this, I realised that we're good friends and seem to be sexually compatible, so my mind starts ticking over, and I realise that I'm falling for her. We've talked about what happened (while she was very, very drunk) and she felt the same way and we decided to see what happens between us. \n\nThere are, unfortunately, some problems. She is incredibly busy with her sporting endevours so we only really get to see each other at uni. I do keep asking her to go out or to meet up just the two of us, but she's either busy doing uni work, training, or recovering from training for me to actually see her. So the problem is, I'm left in this limbo where she is more than a friend at this point, but not my girlfriend. We're never alone, but it's not like we never see each other. I don't know what to do, I'm pretty knew to the whole dating game so I wondered what I could do to make things work out?", "summary": "I nearly had sex with a friend, we seem to like each other but since then haven't been alone together, what can I do to make this relationship work?"}
{"id": "t3_41p2sv", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] My long haired pug and genetic mutations", "post": "My story first: \nI have a two-year-old female pug that has the gene for long hair that both the breeder and two separate vets believe to be a mutation since the gene for long hair is recessive. I got her as a gift when she was a 10 week old puppy from the daddy dog's owner who is also a friend of mine, the puppy was the negotiated 'stud fee' he got from the other breeder and he'd rather have the pup go to a proven home he could check up on then sell the pup to someone random. Now she was the first pup in a litter of six and the only one of them that started to grow a longer coat around the one month mark. It's 100% confirmed that the only dog her mother had contact with during heat was my friend's male dog so we are sure she isn't a mix. The only other option possible is that one of her ancestors on both of the parent's sides was a mix with a longer coated dog and that her parents have the long coated gene hidden for generations which is really a long shot (but still possible) since the process of registering dogs in my country is different than in the US and for a pup to get its pedigree his parents need to have been positively graded by a conformation judge so if my dog had mixed ancestors they either looked A LOT like pure pugs so they got their grades or the mix happened a long long time ago.\nMy pup Kafa (which translates to 'coffee') is a textbook pug in every way possible except for her long coat. We can also see both of her parents in her personality and appearance. She hasn't had any health issue up to this date (responsible breeding is awesome).\n\n[Here] are a few pictures of her \n\nSo my question for you guys is what are other doggy mutations you guys have come across or seen? How often or not does this happen?", "summary": "version: I have a long haired pug so let's talk about mutations"}
{"id": "t3_2204om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28M] dated a woman[28F] for a month before she went travelling abroad for up to a year. Am i wrong for wanting to date other women?", "post": "I met a woman through an online dating site. Although it was clear from the first date that she would be leaving the country in about a month (maybe for four months, maybe up to a year), we started dating. We went out as well as stayed at our places. I helped her with her travel preparations and we generally spent a lot of time together. We had sex since the beginning. We met about a dozen times, a few times over days.\n\nWe always talked about our dating as a casual thing since we knew it was time limited. While we talked like that we did spent a lot of time together in that month  and i am pretty sure we both felt like there was more going on than just casual meetups. \n\nHer last days in the country were a bit rushed and we never had a serious open talk about what is going to happen while she is away or afterwards. We were just joking about how she is never coming back at all or how i will be dating other women as soon as she is gone.   \n\nNow she is away for a few weeks. We are still in contact(but i assume it will get more sparse as time moves on). While i do think that we did more than casual dating and that we could continue into a relationship when she comes back i also think that the fact that none of us comitted to anything and she does not even know when she will be coming back leaves us both a lot of freedom. \n\nSo while i would like to continue to see her (and see where it goes) when she is back i also do not think it does make sense to wait for an unspecified amount of time for a girl that i only know for a month. I would like to keep on dating normally (because i assume she will do that too on her travels). Do you think i need to communicate this to her in some way or is it just the normal thing to do considering the situation?", "summary": "Met a woman via online dating. Dated intensively for a month before she went travelling abroad (for four months, maybe longer). We both did not commit to anything but are still in contact. I want to date other women. Am i wrong? Should i talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_2cub3b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to take life to the next level || Firing on all Cylinders", "post": "So, I'd like to think I'm not much of a slouch. My day job is managing engineers, I sometimes moonlight as a freelancer, I try my best to stay healthy and fit, I have a pretty wife and a couple good friends...  I feel like that's not too shabby.  Here's my problem:  I'm always slacking in one or two of those departments. I never seem to be able to trick my brain into utilizing my free time more effectively. I spend time surfing the net, I skip days at the gym, I neglect my friends for work, I neglect my work for friends... I think if I utilized my time better, I'd be quite an amazing person. Can anybody give me any tips on keeping motivation with ALL the things that are important to me and not just a couple?", "summary": "How do I focus more and neglect areas of my life less?"}
{"id": "t3_xuave", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bleeding during/after plane flight normal?", "post": "I'm a 24 year old male, and this isn't my first time on am airplane. I've been on airplanes 6 times prior to yesterday, and never had an issue. Yesterday I took 2 airplanes... One from NY to Atlanta, Georgia. Then again from Georgia to Guatemala. When I was boarding the 2nd plane, before it took off, 2 drops of blood fell from my nose... I pulled my head up and it went away. At the end of the 3 hour flight, when I bent over to get my carry on bag, my nose just started pouring blood quickly. My clothes were damaged, my hand was literally covered in red, and it made a scene as everyone saw what happened.Also later on that night, more than 12 hours after flight, and after 5 or so hours of sleep I bled again, but only a bit.", "summary": "bled from nose 3x during and after flights. Want to know if this is normal. I have to do flights again in a week and am slightly worried."}
{"id": "t3_3jjid8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have been seeing this girl [21F] for a few weeks. We click on dates, but never talk. Need advice.", "post": "So I met this girl on Tinder in mid July, and we've been out about once a week since then when we're both free. We've taken things pretty slow, so no sex yet, which is fine. I'm really liking this girl, and every date has gone incredibly well with both of us expressing interest in keeping this going.\n\nHowever, she doesn't talk much outside of our dates.  She takes hours to respond to messages, so we only ever get a few messages per day.  She also never initiates the conversation, with few exceptions.  She warned me pretty early on that she was bad at texting.\n\nNow that I know I want a relationship with this girl, I'd really like to talk to her more.  But I also don't want to pester her with texts.  Any advice on how to get her to talk/text more?", "summary": "Hopeful for a relationship, but we don't talk enough.  How to get her to talk more?"}
{"id": "t3_31fg47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] Girlfriend is leaving honeymoon phase and now I [22M] want out", "post": "Together for 5 months.  Dated for 2.  I've never been in a relationship longer than ~3 months while she's been a few LTRs.\n\nDuring the \"honeymoon phase\" when we made it official between us, we were extra affectionate.  We wanted to see each other every day, would text and Snapchat often, and would have sex all the time.\n\nAfter a while though, feelings faded.  Hers faster than mine.  Dates became dull.  Texts became less enthusiastic.  Pillow talk after sex would be brief.\n\nShe says she's in the comfortable stage.  Where she's secure enough in the relationship that she can be herself.\n\nI was left behind in the honeymoon phase.  I would still get excited to see her.  I miss the sweet texts of \"thinking of you\".  I miss the pillow talk after sex.\n\nShe still tells me she likes me when we're together.  It's gone from \"I really really really like you\"  to \"I like you\" though.\n\nNow I want out.  I want another honeymoon phase.  I want her to want me as much as I want her.\n\nAm I looking for too much in a relationship?  It's the first time I've been in a relationship this long.  I understand the honeymoon phase can't last forever.  Maybe I just want a more affectionate girl.  Or that I enjoy the security of knowing she likes me as much as she does.", "summary": "No longer in honeymoon phase.  I miss the affection and want to move on.  First time I've made it this far.  Not sure if I'm expecting too much from relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2jnc7q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What to do with an inheritance(UK)", "post": "So I'm sure this is a question that get's asked a lot around here (I had a look at the FAQ) but my question has some slight riders.\n\nI'm 27 years old, have a chronic health condition that is currently (Might not always, but always has so far) preventing me from working called M.E/C.F.S, and because of this am stuck living at home with my parents.\n\nA family member passed earlier this year and after tax my father & his brother are looking at a little over \u00a3250,000 each.\n\nNow as my parents are want to remind me, they're getting on a bit (70+) and I'm unable to work, so they keep repeating that 200k of that money is there to be saved and invested for my future security.\n\nNow the question I put to you is, I'm 27, I have no debts, I have 6k in savings(Which is equivilent to a years wage on the benefit I receive). What would you do with this money to try and maximise the mid-long term return?", "summary": "\u00a3200,000 to invest, no debts, mid-long term investments, longterm disability."}
{"id": "t3_2j2lgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend of 11 months[18F] I'm insanely connected to her, not sure if it's love but now we have pregnancy complications", "post": "When we found out we both decided adoption was the best route but now (2 months later) she decides she's going to keep it. She said she won't put my name on the baby's birth certificate and I don't have to be involved with the child.\n\nI don't want this. If she's going to have the baby I would hate for him /her to grow up without a father. But neither of us are in any kind of stability to raise a kid. And it's puts goals of collage on hold for a long time.\n\nI wan to be with her though. But lately I feel like we've grown apart, weather this is my fault or both of ours I have no idea. She just doesn't seem to care about any conversations I try to have. Probably because she's always tired from being pregnant but it started being like that before the pregnancy.\n\nI don't know what the fuck to do. I had more to type but I have to go into work. Please if anyone has any advice please tell me. I am at a loss.", "summary": "Girlfriend pregnant decided to keep it but I'm not ready but I don't want to leave her."}
{"id": "t3_f91k8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there many other Americans like myself who are for decriminalization of marijuana but have never used it?", "post": "This might receive more attention in r/trees but they're not the target audience so hopefully this gets noticed.\n\nI'm a college age male who might be considered to some as relatively straight-edged. I have never used any recreational drugs nor have I even smoked a single cigarette, though I do drink regularly (a few times a week). I don't think my reasons for abstaining are too important so I won't get into it here.\n\nAnyway, I've started to get the impression that the average citizen thinks everyone who is in favor of decriminalization is at least partially this way because they are interested in smoking it themselves. Regardless of how many logical arguments presented by upstanding citizens, they're always portrayed as deviants who just wants to toke phat bluntz without hasslin from the popo.\n\nI for one think legalization and regulation would be immensely beneficial to many aspects of our society but I would make no use of it if it were, and I can't imagine I'm alone in this.", "summary": "I have no interest in smoking weed and never have, but I believe it should be legal"}
{"id": "t3_y66cf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Would I (24F) be able to take out a $25,000 personal loan to help my parents out?", "post": "So a while ago, my parents lost their job as owners of a restaurant when the landlord forced them to move out so the furniture store next door could expand. For a while, it was a good break because ever since I was a little girl, I just remembered them working 7 days a week, 10 hours a day. \n\nHowever, despite having a little mini-break from working, obviously not having an income soon became a problem. Fast forward two years and now my parents are trying to re-start and open up another restaurant. However, they are about $20,000 short of getting it completed. They're considering selling their house (except the market sucks so who know how long that would even take). My mom's credit score has taken a bad dip because she's only really looked to pay the mortgage and her car bill as opposed to her other credit card bills with money being so tight. I'm considering trying to take out a personal loan to help them.\n\nBasically my question is: If I try to take out a personal loan of $25,000 would I be able to? I'm 24 but have only been working for a little over a year where I make $40,000 at my job. I believe my credit score is somewhere between 740-760. Is lendingclub.com safe? We bank with TD Bank but when I talked to someone there, it seemed I knew more about how it worked than he did. I also believed the APR was a little over 9 percent (which is a bit high but we need to find some way to borrow money). So, any suggestions or advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Parents lost their job 2 years ago. I'm trying to help them re-start their business but they are about $20,000 short. Mom has bad credit. Would I be able to take out a loan for them? I'm sorry if I seem naive but... times are just really tough. I just wish they could *finally* get this place opened and they are almost there but... not quite."}
{"id": "t3_3e1l31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with a[23 F] I've been talking to went dark. No clue why", "post": "Never met this chick in person. She messaged me on an online dating website almost two weeks ago. \n\nWe've been texting religiously everyday for the entirety of the two weeks. Our schedules just haven't worked out since she had some events going on and I was out of town.\n\nWe last chatted Saturday and the conversation casually ended with a \"let me know how your thing goes tonight\".\n\n Now, I've never been clingy - just not that type of person. We use a messaging app so I know she has seen my message on Saturday. She didn't say okay or even respond to it. Fair enough. No message on Sunday.\n\nMonday rolls around, I send a \"Hey, How's it going\". She checks the message instantly, but doesn't respond at all.\n\nThis is super-weird because we chat back and forth all day. I thought that maybe she was tired of texting through the app because she mentioned she downloaded it just for me and mentioned that I get a sim card so we could SMS. So, I thought I'd call her. I called her from my house phone (yes, I have one) and left a message. She never called back, never texted. I should also mention that she also consistently initiated the conversation, too\n\nThis is all really odd to me since we had planned on going on a date this week. I thought that maybe she is talking to someone else, too (which is fine). However, she is online on the dating site right now.\n\nCan someone make sense of this for me? I am baffled. What is my next step or should I just leave it alone and move on? I already left her a voicemail and the last thing I want is to come off clingy", "summary": "I've been chatting with a girl from online via text for two weeks everyday, abruptly stops communicating with me. Don't know why"}
{"id": "t3_p19g7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, a friend of mine played a clever joke on me. Care to help me get back?", "post": "[This](reddit.com/user/downvote_ohmygord) is the friend in question. He made an account devoted entirely to telling me \"fuck you.\" I know the perfect way to get back at him.\n\nEverywhere he goes, he sees the number 117. It has been a problem for years, kind of like the number 23 for Jim Carrey. Seriously, there have been several instances where we were simply walking through the hallways of our high school and heard a random dude with no knowledge of the problem whatsoever ask us questions like, \"Hey, what's 89 plus 27?\"\n\nI can tell that he finds his frequent and daily encounters with this number to be incredibly creepy. So here's what I need you to do:\n\nGo to his [account](reddit.com/user.downvote_ohmygord) and reply to all of his comments with \"117.\" Send him messages. Be creative. I want to see the look on his face when he loads up reddit in the morning and sees the number 117 all over his inbox.\n\nAny help you can muster would be capital. Thank you in advance to anyone who decides to assist.", "summary": "Spam [this guy](reddit.com/user/downvote_ohmygord) with the number 117. Anything you can do would be tops."}
{"id": "t3_2gx7oz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Why are you so fat? A question.", "post": "Hi Reddit! First...thanks for giving me a great place to learn about weight loss and watching your transformations gives me hope. \n\nI am a teaching assistant at a preschool for special needs students in an integrated classroom (I have typical and special needs students in one class). I have recently been placed in a new classroom. Now, I know I'm fat...this isn't a revelation but something happened to me today that I can't figure out how to deal with. A few of the students mentioned my weight and said things such as \"why is your belly so big?\" or \"You are funny looking and fat\". I can deal with this if it was someone driving by me in a car or on the internet, but these are kids I am teaching and working with everyday. I didn't know what to say because I was so embarrassed and was so happy none of the other staff members heard these comments. I guess my question is....how do you deal with this? I am mortified and almost want to quit just so I don't have to face these children again! I tried to explain to the one child that what he was saying hurt my feelings and that he made me sad, but he just thought it was funny. \nSo...what is some advice for dealing with this? My weight loss journey is slow and it will be years before this \"big belly\" is gone!", "summary": "Special needs and typical students called me fat today, not sure how to deal with the situation and I'm mortified for it to happen again in front of other staff members."}
{"id": "t3_la2hf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Communication breakdown and needless fights.  How do I stop them?", "post": "I just turned 24(m), she's 23.  Been together for over 4 months and we're very much in love and really care for each other.\n\nHowever, we have very different ways of communicating, interpreting, and articulating things.  If it helps, I'm an INTP personality and she's very likely an INFJ.  (I understand they're not perfect labels, but I believe they give relevant insight in this context).  This difference has led to many unnecessary fights, emotions and so forth.\n\nI'm the type of person that, particularly with SO's and close friends, likes to muse aloud about thoughts, philosophical beliefs, political ideologies, feelings, or anything else that happens to be in my head at any given moment.  I deeply identify with this aspect of my personality.  \n\nOn more than one occasion, my SO has displayed a significant personal or emotional reaction to my contemplations.  It's most prevalent when we happen to have a philosophical, political, or ethical disagreement.  This can lead to a complete impasse.  She leaves the room or wants to stop talking about it, avoids the subject, etc.  I feel like I haven't even explain myself, while she sees my perspective as perfectly clear.  This is completely new to me, because I'm used to intense dialogue between myself and my friends where we can debate, play devils advocate, criticize each others arguments all in good fun.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I communicate differently and get into unnecessary fights over it."}
{"id": "t3_3v838a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Feeling lost. Vent! [20F]", "post": "Hi, I'm 23, recently I've lost a lot weight (85lbs). People have been telling I look great and at work friends tell me how I'm blowing up. \n\nAlways avoided girls before in general (especially at work), until this girl at work introduced herself and offered rides. She and I had a good amount of things in commons and i definitely felt something as we first started to get to know each other. I Started to enjoy taking to her at work later even fb messaging. \nNever before tried messaging a girl to start convos but I did with her and she would engage in the conversation. Got to the point where she was stressing about a test and I tried reassuring her she will do great. She replied if your right I'll buy you lunch. \nI really thought she was interested in general and so did few friends. \n\nSo the next time we were working together I decided to ask her out. \n\nShe seemed to be in a great mood, she was trying to make sure I notice her ever chance she got in our large retail store. She came to ask for my help and it was just two of us in the back half of store with an awkward silence for a second thought to myself now or never. Told her \"I have to tell you something that might be weird\" she said \"if its weird don't say it\" \"I have to in order to get this off my chest\" I said quickly. Then just asked her if she wanted to go out sometime to which obviously she said she was too busy. \n\nI should've known she wasn't interested especially since she told me a while ago about another guy who treats her really rude after she said no to him asking her out and I was the only one starting conversations on fb. \n\nI don't hate her for saying no, it just hurts when I'm around her. What hurts more is we don't engage in conversation like we used. I don't message her fb but still talk her in person every chance I can. The worst is how her end of the store seems to treat me differently. \n\nFeels like I lost a friend even though she still offers rides and trys her best to engage in conversation", "summary": "i know i have to move on, so Now for the first time in my life I want someone who is interested in me the way i was with her. But I Have no idea how?"}
{"id": "t3_13e7qs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18m] personal/emotional issues are affecting my relationship with my gf [19f] of two years.", "post": "My girlfriend and I started dating in high school and now go to college together. But, before this year, she was a freshman and I was a senior in Hs.\n\nDuring that year of LDR, some personal issues began to creep up on me. My first girlfriend (during 8th/9th grade, lol) cheated on me multiple times (cheating = make out or kiss at that time) and I have never gotten over it. Because of this, I was *extremely* jealous when she spent that year away.\n\nI began to despise all of her guy friends until I actually met them, thinking they would try to hook up with her or something (my gf would never ever cheat, though).\n\nI hated hearing about what she was doing on the weekends, her going to dance parties, trips to the city or whatever it was. I always tried to prove myself right and her wrong and I still do this today, and I HATE it.\n\nI can't seem to trust her even though she deserves my trust. I'm always bickering with her about super small things when, in the past, we never fought. \n\nWhen we both came back to school this year (me as a freshman), we had completely different friends groups, which is a new thing for us as we always shared the same friends. She lives on the other side of the campus, and because I am involved on campus a lot and she is busy studying we don't see each other as much as we used to.\n\nI've also been battling depression for quite some time now and only recently have I sought help for it. I'm now taking Wellbutrin, an antidepressant, but I'm still depressed and am not enjoying our relationship.\n\nHer and I have talked about it, we both feel distant from each other. I thought some of my personal problems would be relieved once we were at school together, but they have not gone away. Advice?", "summary": "I'm depressed, have issues with trust and jealousy, and we both feel distant from each other. I'm the problem and I don't know how to fix myself."}
{"id": "t3_43nfen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/M] looking to date a seemingly perfect [27/F] but one small thing lingering..", "post": "**Of note, this is my first post ever on reddit so formatting, grammar, and storytelling skills might be lacking. I apologize ahead of time**\n\nOkay, so I have met what I believe is my soulmate. This woman completes me on so many levels I am hardly able to describe it. \n\nWe met just over a month ago and things have been going great. She is an independent, highly motivated individual and like minded in most every way. Everything has just happened so naturally.\n\nA possible issue, I recently just found out she smokes marijuana. I wouldn't mind necessarily, but a few things could possibly arise out of it. The problem you ask? Well, I have a young daughter and career which requires a clearance. Despite my beliefs on it, it is still illegal where we live and I don't want to risk losing my job and **most importantly** my daughter should it ever become a legal issue. There is also all the other small issues associated with pot use, such as, if you are not getting it from a dispensary you are most likely inviting some pretty shady characters into a portion of your life. Lastly, I have no clue what impressions it would make ~~if~~ when my daughter eventually finds out. I say \"when\" because I early realize kids are super smart and find out everything.\n\nJust some backstory, I have full custody of my daughter; her biological mother is non-existent and a complete drug addict. \n\nNow, this woman is not dependent and despite her use, is still able to be a fully functioning adult. She does admit she really enjoys it though. \n\nIf I asked her to stop, I have absolutely no doubt in my mind she would. But is that fair? I don't like to have to ask her to stop something which she enjoys and I really have no issue with other than the legality issues. I just don't want to be a controlling fuckwad like some guys are. This woman is very very special to me and deserves only the best. Am I over analyzing this whole situation?\n\nI intend to eventually talk to her about it and see how she feels, communication is key. I just wanted to see what the reddit world has to say and gain some different perspectives.", "summary": "Want to be with the perfect girl for me, but pot use may be an issue."}
{"id": "t3_1yizhl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why when you're drunk/intoxicated...", "post": "Why is it that when I am intoxicated(usually from alcohol) I lose many of my motor skills, however I can still do very specific things. No matter my level of intoxication I can play guitar dead on. Every fingering/Tune with perfect pitch/Sing/Never stumble \n\nBut I can stand up just after playing a song without flaw and fall into a wall.(And I *have*.) I've asked others with the assumption that I had only **thought** I did well. But even sobers around me say I don't make errors whilst this drunk. Shouldn't **ALL** motor skills be equally hindered if it's a chemical reaction?", "summary": "Why can I do specific things while drunk but not others?"}
{"id": "t3_25k57u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] casual flirting - anything more?", "post": "So me and a girl have been good friends for a while now, and we've always been quite comfortable with each other, like she'll rest her head on my shoulder, I'll put my arm around her when we're sitting together and stuff like that.\n\nI've always seen it as wholly platonic, y'know? I'm a casual guy, not really one for romance or whatever so I never really see stuff like that as any indication of romantic interest cause it's a pretty immature signal, but a while ago I was the exact same with another girl and it turned out that she had feelings for me the entire time, and she had taken the back and forth of flirting as more than just casual aspects of one another's personalities -  how I'd seen it. Long story short, I ended up upsetting her pretty badly 'cause she thought I was leading her on.\n\nAnyway, I wasn't even going to think about this too much, but we're both going away for university soon and I was wondering if I should bother finding out if the sustained flirting and cuddling meant anything, or if we had mutually accepted that it was just a normal thing. Not out of any romantic interest of my own because I don't see her that way, but out of fear of leading her on.", "summary": "Should I bother questioning the intent of casual flirting and contact out of fear of upsetting someone?"}
{"id": "t3_2u31xy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Soccer / Futball Keepers of Reddit, How Do You Protect Your Hands Besides Gloves?", "post": "I play on an indoor soccer league that runs 5v5 with a keeper each. We play on turf and boards (think hockey rink) and because of the turf and how close the shooter is, I get absolutely rocked while playing keeper. \n\nI wear decent ($100 ish) keeper gloves that have the plastic spines behind the fingers to help protect you from having your fingers overextend but even with those my pinky and ring fingers really hurt. Sometimes I take a particularly hard shot and I mess up my wrist.\n\nNormally I would tape up my two fingers together but since I am wearing gloves it prevents that and I really don't want to tape them on the outside. Any suggestions is welcomed.", "summary": "I play indoor soccer as a keeper and my hands are getting rocked! Good / proper taping or wrapping techniques is requested."}
{"id": "t3_slnzv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom once offered me her bed for potential sexy times with single ladies. Reddit, what have your parents done/offered to \"help\" you out? (Sexiness not required.)", "post": "In my late 20's, after some financial issues in L.A., I chose to move back home to Massachusetts. Having no savings or job, that meant moving back in with my mother (dad passed away a few years before), in my old room, which had a twin bed and was next to her room. \n\nOne night, a few days into living there, I was ranting about how the situation was going to negatively impact my dating life. She asked how so? I explained that not only living with my mother, but also having a twin bed, wasn't really conducive to bringing a pretty lady home. Her response?\n\n\"You can use my bed. Just call me first, in case I'm sleeping.\"\n\nI politely declined. \n\nReddit, what have your parents done/offered to \"help\" you out? (Sexiness not required.)", "summary": "Moved home. Mom offered me her bed for when I bring single ladies home."}
{"id": "t3_10597y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F,26] Mom died, hate my job, stuck living with family. I cope with weed, boyfriend[25] doesn't know. How to come clean?", "post": "We've been dating for 5 years and a half. My mom died 6 months ago and it's been harder than I can describe. I live with my family (dad, grandma (mom's side), sister with two kids) and I really want to move, but I feel like I can't do this to my family. They're mad/sad all the time. My sister argues with everyone, my grandma is old and weak, my dad... well, he lost a wife, how do you think he feels? I feel this is all too much for me, so I started smoking weed to relax. I've been doing it everyday now. I feel guilty because I haven't told my boyfriend. I don't think he knows. How should I approach this to him?", "summary": "I lost my mom and my family's messed up and I smoke weed to cope with everything. Boyfriend doesn't know and I don't know how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_nrpf9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can't stop having feelings for this guy while I know I shouldn't\u2026 What should I do?", "post": "20 year old female here. I've been friends with this guy (18 yo) for about a year now, and a couple of months ago I started to feel more than friendship. After some time I started to think that maybe he felt the same for me, but I wasn't sure.\n\nThen, on a night some weeks ago, we kissed. We spent the whole night making out, lying in each other's arms. For the record, both of us hadn't drunk at all that night. We were both stone cold sober. In the morning, out of the blue, he told me that it had been a mistake and that we should never EVER do it again. He said I was the coolest girl he knew, but that he was not capable of being in a relationship at the moment and that he didn't want to jeopardize our friendship. I told him it was fine and he shouldn't worry about it, and then left. Hurt like a bitch. After that I kept seeing him every week, as friends of course. I still felt the same way, but he didn't need to know that, right? \n\nHowever, he's acting weird lately. He says stuff about us doing sexual things and acts pretty jealous when I'm talking or even standing close to other guys. Also, I found out that he's been checking what I've been putting on my main Reddit account (yes, this one is obviously a throwaway). \n\nNow I've met this other guy. We share some interests, get along great and he seems really interested in me. But every time I think about him and ask myself if I like him, the first guy pops back in my mind again and seems to fill up every bit of space in my head.\n\nWhat should I do? I have tried to forget about guy no. 1, but it's as if something is telling me that I should hold on to him. On the other hand, I ask myself what use there would be in that. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Have feelings for some guy while I know I probably shouldn't, while some other guy seems really interested but also makes me realize that I'm not even close to getting over the first guy. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_22qbqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know if I [22F] jumped the gun on breaking up with my boyfriend [26M] of 8 months.", "post": "Just broke up with my boyfriend of eight months over long distance issues. \n\nHe is a great guy and I love being around him. He's like me in a lot of ways, and I just feel so relaxed around him. I honestly can't think of much negative to say about him.\n\nIt's been great, however, three months after we started dating, he decided to pursue finishing his bachelor's degree. I was 100% supportive of him, and this kind of cemented his decision to go back since he was worried that it would ruin a great new relationship. I knew he would be graduating in June of this year, which isn't that long of a wait, so I stuck with him. \n\nThe only real issue is that he has no idea what he's going to do when he graduates. He's going to be a fireman, and the jobs in that field are very scarce. Meaning, he'd have to take a job anywhere that would hire him. This could take him even farther away from me and I can't deal with that uncertainty. Yesterday, I asked him to make some sort of commitment to me so I know that we have some plans for the future. He just told me \"You're asking something I can't provide or guarantee at this time in my life.\" I know it was asking a lot of him, I guess I just wanted to know if he would do everything possible to try and make a future for us happen, but I know he can't.\n\nI don't know if I'm just insecure because my last relationship was a long distance one and it didn't turn out well. I was in a relationship with somebody who joined the airforce. He kept stringing me along for years before eventually leaving me for someone else.\n\nI just couldn't handle it if I waited for him just to have him move on with his life. But I'm really hurting right now wondering if I did the right thing.", "summary": "Broke off a great thing with my boyfriend due to too much uncertainty in a long distance relationship. Don't know if I jumped the gun just because I'm feeling insecure."}
{"id": "t3_4tqe34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [28F] and our house mate [23F] went on holiday overseas and a guy slept in their bed. Should I be worried?", "post": "My girlfriend and one of her best friends (who rents a second room in an apartment we all usually live in) have gone overseas on holiday for 3 weeks together. This evening on her snapchat story, my girlfriend posted a photo with all three of them lying in their hotel bed followed up by \"hungover\" type photos about 10 hours afterward.\n\nIn the photo, there was a guy from their tour group they met on holiday who was lying in between the two girls (my gf and housemate). When I asked my girlfriend if he slept there with them, she said he came back to theirs because they'd all gone out drinking and his hostel was 45 minutes away, but nothing funny happened or anything and they had a king size bed. I do trust her, but I still feel queasy just seeing that photo and knowing he slept with them in the same bed, especially in between them (the housemate is single)\n\nI have, with the age difference with myself and my girlfriend (5.5 years), been a bit immature at times in my reactions to situations and I wanted to get some outside input to try and avoid that. Is this weird? Is it reasonable if he wanted to crash there due to convenience to have him sleep on the floor/couch if available? She'd messaged a week before saying that \"this trip has made her a changed woman\" when we were messaging about something else and now with this, I just feel off. If I'm just being naive, it'd be good to have that pointed out.", "summary": "girlfriend and our housemate went overseas on holiday and on a night out drinking invited a guy from their tour group to sleep in between them in the same bed to save him getting back to his hostel. Should I be worried or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_13tmnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F33 Snooped on my BF (35) and saw something I didn't like ... what do?", "post": "Been together for over a year now. A few months ago he got a great job across the country and asked me to move with him. We have had an amazing relationship and so I quit my job and followed my heart. \n\nFast forward to now- I am currently looking for a new job and am totally dependent upon him financially as well as emotionally (I don't have a lot of new friends here just yet) I noticed a significant decline in our sex life, which at first I chalked up to his stress from moving etc. But it has continued, and if I try to talk to him about it he claims I am putting more pressure on him and thus making him want sex even less. He frequently turns me down and it makes me feel unattractive and insecure about us. And since he won't really talk to me about it I am left wondering why. \nSo I did it. I snooped through his phone and saw flirty texts to his attractive female co-worker. Talking about his trying to \"put the moves\" on her and recently even asking her after work if she wanted to go get drunk together- it didn't happen (that time) but he apparently wanted it to. I know I shouldn't have looked (and I never felt the urge to before) but having left my job/city/friends to build a life with him I guess I just needed to be sure it wasn't a mistake. I'm so terrified because I am entirely dependent upon him right now. Would he really ask me to leave my life for him and then cheat a few months later? I'm sorry but I am so upset right now and I just need an outside opinion.", "summary": "moved across the country for my boyfriend and started having relationship problems. snooped in his phone to see flirty texts to his attractive co-worker. what should I do? I feel gutted :("}
{"id": "t3_19n4zp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "**NSFW** Is our [F18 M18] relationship becoming completely focused on sex? How much is too much?", "post": "I [F18] will be the first to say that I am young and a bit naive. I gave my virginity to my boyfriend [M18] pretty early in our 8 month relationship (because I wanted to, not because he forced the issue) and since then we have been very active sexually. If we get the chance, sex every day is welcome, and I've been the one asking the most. \n\nI didn't really think this was a problem until yesterday. He came home for the day and all we did was have sex. No movies, no chatting, no leaving his bedroom. In fact, he didn't even ask if I was in the mood. Practically the minute we hit the bed he whips out a condom and that's that. Right afterward, he crashes from a lack of sleep and I head home. I felt kind of used. \n\nUsually, we do a lot more together. He likes to make big romantic gestures and take me out as much as he can, we like to watch movies together, run errands, whatever. I just like spending time with him. He's genuinely a good person, so I'm not concerned that he's only with me for the perks of having a girlfriend, I'm just wondering if we both need to reassess how we handle sex. Have we allowed it to become the focus of the relationship? How much is too much? How do I fix this?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are having a lot of sex. How do I know if it is becoming the focus of the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_x2eex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with those three little words...", "post": "I (F, 26) have been dating my boyfriend (M, 29) for three months now officially and everything has been great. I really have no complaints about this guy and have definitely been growing fonder of him with each passing day.\n\nLast night he suffered a terrible migraine. I've never actually had one myself but I've been around others when they've had them... needless to say, I went into full-blown nurture mode. In amongst the waves of nausea, cries of agony, plethora of \"thank you's\" and poppin' of pain killers escaped a sentence I truthfully did not see coming. He wrapped his arms around me, pulled me close and said \"I love you baby\".\n\nI was very surprised. Having been through some rough relationships consecutively, dating someone who was open with his feelings was beyond refreshing but there was something that caused me to pause after he said it for the first time last night. I quietly and hesitantly said it back but now, the next day, we haven't talked about it. Part of me is afraid to bring it up (fear of him taking it back?) and part of me is questioning my own feelings.  I still feel that it may be a bit early but I also strongly think my hesitance is purely motivated by self-preservation; I am in therapy for past emotional abuse/trauma so I have a very hard time trusting pretty much anyone. As an aside, he is aware of this and is well informed of my issues and supports my seeking professional help.\n\n Also, what if he was just out of it from the migraine? As an FYI, he wasn't on anything stronger than extra strength Advils. \n\nHow should I approach this? Can any guys out there offer some insight? It's truthfully the first time I've ever had a man say it first. I know there's going to be a very obvious answer to this but frankly, I just need to hear some outside perspective and maybe get some comfort that I'm not the only one who's gone through something awkward like this (no matter how badly they wanted it!).", "summary": "Boyfriend dropped the L-Bomb unexpectedly while messed up from a migraine. Awkwardly said it back and want to feel that way but am too scared from past baggage (trust issues etc but am in therapy to get help) and now we have not brought it up since. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1toylx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[34] just expelled wife f[34] from home. She cheated and lied, but somehow I still love her.", "post": "My wife of 6 years (together 13) cheated on me with a coworker over a 3 month period. I found out, she lied to me, convinced me I was crazy, and I believed her for a while.\n\nShe acted so hurt and confused that I could think that she'd do something like that. I figured it out that night due to some evidence. She said they were friends, and she was comforting him during a hard time, no physical. \n\nI believed it for a while. We had unprotected sex during this time.  We did counseling. She was still protective of her phone, I snooped, learned they were still chatting. I moved out for a month, on her request that she needed space. \n\nWe got back together, her swearing that she has seen the light, continued with marriage counseling. It went ok for a while. The sex was bad, her leaving immediately after, and not into it. She told me she loved the other man during an argument about whether to quit her job. I told her to get the fuck out, and she did. \n\nI just can't seem to break my tie to her. It is partly because this behavior is pretty much out of the blue, although we had been getting stagnant for a 4 month period or so. She is sending me regretful emails, about how she loves me. (note, she did say she loves me...but not IN love with me, when we first split.)\n\nI need to get her the fuck out of my head, but I love her so much, and I'm scared. What steps do I take?\n\n**bold", "summary": "wife cheated lied, I finally grew a backbone, but I'm weak."}
{"id": "t3_2fz5ci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my (ex?)girlfriend [17 F] 2.5-5 months, cheating or sexual harassment?", "post": "I'll be short about this.\n\nA few days ago my girlfriend called me and said she did something and that I'll want to break up with her but she couldn't tell me over the phone and had to text it to me (she sounded like she was about to cry)  We are in a long distance relationship since about 2-3 weeks ago.\n\nShe then texts me that she \"slipped\" and had done something sexual with another man.  I'll be honest our relationship was already not very healthy so it didn't really come to me as a surprise.\n\nNaturally, I break up with her.  She doesn't want to accept that we are broken up.  She calls me and keeps asking for a second chance saying that she regrets it and it was a mistake.  I am adamant about staying broken up though she is crying and refusing it.\n\nA few hours later she texts me that it was out of her control.  I ask how that's possible if she gave consent and she says she didn't.  So the situation is now very complicated.  \n\nAfter hearing this I sort of \"un-broke up\" with her and instead switched to a \"break\".  This is kinda arbitrary but whatever.  Anyway I just don't know what to do now.  I don't know what to believe.  Even if she is now telling the complete truth I don't think I would want to go back to a relationship though I would feel a sort of responsibility to.\n\nI don't know if I gave enough here for you to form an opinion but you may as well try.  You can go and look at my last post if you want more information.  You'll probably call me an idiot for not breaking up earlier honestly but that's ok.", "summary": "Girlfriend told me she cheated on me, later claims that the she didn't consent.  (Hands in pants, kissing on neck)  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ixhva", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me find this cute girl I met on Maui? [details below]", "post": "I'm on vacation and I was riding some big waves in Maui and I saw this cute girl and we started talking having fun. She had to go and I asked her if I could contact her on Facebook but I can't find her, but I do remember details that could help.\n\n**Details:**\n\n* First Name: Courtney\n* Last Name: Started with an A, sounded like she said Alison but not 100% sure\n* Just graduated\n* Approx. 18 years old\n* Brunette\n* She lives in North Dakota\n* Plans on going to Boston University (not 100% sure)\n* Single\n* She plays hockey\n* Boston Bruins fan\n* Watches mostly College Hockey", "summary": "Met a cute girl in the ocean by the name Courtney A... and need help finding her on facebook. Details above."}
{"id": "t3_j5j40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dear gamers of Reddit: How much is too much?", "post": "Hello gamers! I (20) am the devoted girlfriend of a gamer (24), and let me clarify this first: I have absolutely no problem with him gaming. (I actually prefer gamers vs. non to date.) I used to game when I was younger, so I can understand the appeal.\n\nAnyway, my boyfriend informed me last minute that he would be hosting a two week long LAN at his house. This means limited contact (except for a few messages informing me that he is still alive) and he pretty much refuses to have a phone conversation with me because he is with his bros and it is always a \"bad time\". \n\nTwo days before this, he just finished a week-long camping trip with his other (male) friends.\n\nSo my question to you is: how much time should be allotted to gaming when one has a girlfriend? Do you think it should increase/stay the same/decrease when one is attached? I understand the importance of male camaraderie, but is it unrealistic for a woman to want her boyfriend to slow down on the \"bro time\"?\n\nLadies, I would also like your thoughts.", "summary": "My boyfriend spends a lot of timing gaming and being with his guy friends. What would you consider \"too much\" time spent away/with others?"}
{"id": "t3_398wy1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting a hooker into a hotel and giving her a random roomnumber", "post": "NOTE: This happened a few months ago but just thought about sharing it here now.\nSo I was in Bruxelles on a trip with my school. We were a few classes from my grade. I lived in a room with three of my classmates, we had been there for a few days and were having a blast. The night in focus I ran down to a mini-mart for some snacks, when I returned a big black BMW was parked right infront of the entrance, and as I'm sliding my keycard to unlock the door, this plastic-filled has-been of a woman jumps out of the car and start to ramble in French. I explained I don't speak French and tried to get in before she said anything, but she walks right behind me, still talking. She finally understandood, and asked if I was the one who had called her. I just wanted to get her away from me, so without thinking I said \"It wasn't me, it was room 37\". Instantly knowing this was gonna fuck up someones night. She thanked me and jumped in the elevator. I sprinted up the stairs and into my room, and pretended nothing had happened.\nMy god the following that happened I did not see coming.\nA few minutes after I had got to my room, loud yelling started from a floor below. The room I had send the hooker to, was some from one of the other classes, and their teachers went apeshit on them, and they were send home the next day.\nI still haven't said anything, and I probably never will knowing that they had to go to special classes every sunday from then til now, and they are not allowed to come with us next year, when we go to Scotland.", "summary": "I gave a hooker a random roomnumber and they were send home and had to go to classes on sunday and were banned from the trip next year."}
{"id": "t3_v5f03", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm having a garage sale today, and in the midst of it, I had a woman offer sex for money. My wife was standing in the kitchen and I've never felt so awkward in my entire life. What are some of your similar awkward situations?", "post": "This woman and her friend had come by the garage sale earlier today and were looking around. I didn't think much of it at the time, but they came by real quick, and left in a hurry. Well when they came by my wife was inside getting more boxes packed readying them to move. So fast forward about 2-3 hours and I see one of the women standing on the corner, caddy corner from my house with a broken down vehicle parked next to her. So, being the generally nice guy I am, I asked if she needed help. She practically came running towards me and said her car had broken down around the corner and she needed gas. Well, I didn't want to hand her straight cash and said that I didn't have a gas can so unfortunately I wouldn't be able to help. Well she quickly replies \"well if you help me out I'll help you out.\" and my response was \"how could you help me?\" without blinking she says \"C'mon, you know... I'm not wearing any panties right now.\" I turned more red than a tomato, quickly remembered that I had gotten a as can a few days ago. Before going to grab it, I said to her \"well I'm not sure how my wife would feel about this...\"and she says, \"hell, she can join us...\" I quickly went and grabbed the gas can and brought back up to the driveway (anything to get her away at this point). Then she looks at me and says, I'm so sorry but I lied, my car isn't broken down, I'm just hungry and need some food. So I went in the house, told my wife the whole story and my wife grabbed her some granola bars and othe food and sent her on her way. I was so weirded out by the whole thing. My wife was laughing at how red I was and still am.", "summary": "hungry woman informed me she wasn't wearing panties and would perform sexual acts in exchange for money. My wife and I gave her food and sent her on her way. "}
{"id": "t3_25id97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] I can't seem to initiate a relationship after sex.", "post": "I'm a gay man, I don't know whether or not that matters but what they hey? I tend to meet guys online via OKC. Of all the guys I talk to I end up actually dating about 25% of them. Out of that number I never talk to 50% of those guys ever again. Those that make it through I will date for a while then eventually we have sex. My problem starts there. After the sex I lose that connection I felt when we were just hanging out. I've tried to abstain but either they make the first move (which I find insanely attractive since it's generally me that makes it.) or my libido pushes my good sense out the window and hijacks my brain.\n\nI've recently wondered if I'm just in some kind of sexual exploration phase but I decided to bring it up here just to crowd source some advice.\n\nAll gay dating advice that I've looked into online kind of just goes straight to either having pride and self confidence or what positions and safety measures should be taken in relation to sex.\n\nI just want relationship advice.", "summary": "sex, relationship destruction and REDEMPTION(maybe!?)"}
{"id": "t3_2oux0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (31M) have a friend (22F) coming over for dinner.", "post": "I (31M) have been living in China for 4 months.  I'm here because I'm passionate about languages and other cultures (I was born in the U.S. and am here studying Mandarin full time) and I'm deeply interested in Chinese language, literature, and culture.\n\nI've been in intercultural relationships before, but I have ZERO experience in Asia.\n\nI have a friend (22F) coming over for dinner this weekend.  \n\nWe met at the supermarket, where we happened to cross paths and she initiated a conversation.\n\nShe is recently returned from a year abroad in the U.S., so she speaks nearly flawless English and clearly has an interest in American culture.  \n\nI've seen her a few times already in a group setting- nothing romantic, just hanging out, visiting local landmarks, etc.  She has expressed a bit of interest in me, but I can't quite tell if it's an interest in my language and culture or a romantic interest in me personally.\n\nShe called me up tonight and asked if I we could have dinner this weekend.  I had mentioned previously that I'm an avid home cook, so I invited her over to my place.  She was happy to accept.\n\nI'm having trouble figuring out if she's simply interested in pursuing her passion for all things American, or if there's something romantic going on.  I really, really don't like making the first move in romantic situations because... reasons so I'm hoping for a bit of feedback.  Thank you for any thoughts you may have.", "summary": "31M having 22F over for dinner, not sure if it's romantic or platonic."}
{"id": "t3_2by78p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [18F] went to guy friends apartment got too drunk to remember the night and slept there.", "post": "My girlfriend got really upset one day and broke up with me. We resolved it Sunday she was just freaking out about all the changes in her life. \n\nShe broke up with me on Tuesday and we talked and I thought we resolved it to taking a break not breaking up. We were going to try to work it out. \n\nWe were talking about stuff and then she said she was going to her friend Kaylas for the night. So I let her go. The next day we went to lunch to talk and she reaked of alcohol. I asked her how much she drank and she said enough to not remember the night. \n\nI don't like that she drinks but it was fine she was with her best friend Kayla. \n\nSunday comes and she says she needs to talk to me. I go over and she is bawling and said \"I didn't actually go to Kaylas Wednesday. I went to Ryans.\"\n\nHe is 19 and lives in an apartment by himself. They worked that night together and asked her to come over to talk because she was upset. She went over and they talked and before drinking told him nothing was going to happen. Then she drank who knows how much but she doesn't remember anything after that. He swears to her nothing happened. That he slept on the couch etc. \n\nI trust her saying she didn't want anything to happen and he is just a friend. Except he has told her before he has feelings for her. \n\nShe told me even if I did do something with him we were broken up so it's not cheating. That makes me kind of fishy. \nWe talked about it and I'm pretty certain nothing happened but I can't help feel betrayed by her and hatred for him. I don't trust guys around her very much because they all try something on her. \n\nAm I in the wrong to be upset even though we were broken up? I have forgiven her and if if happens again I'm gone. But how do I cope with her still being friends with him. She talks to him all the time and I can't help but feel jealous and hatred.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, she was upset and stayed the night alone with guy friend. She got drunk and doesn't remember anything that night. Back together now can't stop feeling angry"}
{"id": "t3_3w9w22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] with my girlfriend[18 F] several months, still feel things toward my ex, even though I'm in a near perfect relationship?", "post": "So a few months ago, I got dumped on my arse pretty hard. One day, my girlfriend (of the time) stated she wasn't happy and was really horrible about it. \n\nAfter getting it out of my system and living in our family's London apartment for a month and half, I eventually started looking for another. \n\nI met an absolute angel. She is absolutely flawless in my opinion and the dynamic of our relationship as well. If we have the slightest problem, we air it out straight away. Even though it's only been a matter of months, it feels like we've been together years. She makes me feel like the luckiest guy on the planet. But there's one issue and I haven't the slightest idea what it is.\n\nI completely cut off my ex in every way. I sometimes spot her shitty bright yellow Fiat 500 about the town we live in, that's it. Yet, I sometimes miss her, even though we didn't work. She was an arsehole and completely closed-minded. Even superficially, nothing compared to my new girl. So why the fuck do I still have these unexpressable emotions from time to time? If I've found the girl of my dreams! The complete polar opposite. Someone who I can logically predict being with for many years to come?", "summary": "I've found the girl of my dreams, the polar opposite of my dreaded ex. A relationship that's going to last years, maybe even my life, based on logical evidence. But there's still unexplainable feelings? Why?!"}
{"id": "t3_1bwn9l", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Prepare for the rantings of a 19 year old girl.", "post": "As the title says, I'm a 19 year old girl. Where I am it is 2 am, I love sleep but I suck at actually doing it. I take sleeping pills, but for some reason I just don't take them. I guess I enjoy this maybe. \n\nI'm also borderlining an eating disorder. No, I'm not sickly thin. I don't \"look\" like I have problems with food. I was 189 lbs when it started in September, I am now a slimmer 162. No, I do not know where it stops. Maybe once I am dead. Who knows.\n\nThen there's this guy. Obviously there's a guy, I'm a teenage girl. It's what society has said the root of my problems would be. I like him, he likes me. He just got out of a year long relationship a few months ago, I haven't had a boyfriend in almost 2 years. I want to make it work, sometimes I think he does too. But usually I just can't tell. He is thinking of moving across the country for a few months, and doesn't want to make anything official if he's going to be gone. In all honesty, I could care less if he is gone for a few months. We already live in different cities, so it wouldn't change anything. But I would like to give it a title.\n\nAnd now I've created a wall of text no one will take the time to read, so here's my short version...", "summary": "I have an eating disorder that no one knows about but everyone continues to encourage me to lose more, I like a guy who says he likes me but I'm a confused teen who doesn't seem to get the guy."}
{"id": "t3_1ap2f1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [27F] is much too helpful, or am I [23M] just being greedy with her time?", "post": "I've recently made it official with her after a few months of dating. She has friends all the way back from high school that are a part of her life. Guys and girls alike.\n\nBut there's this one dude that irks me.\n\nThey don't spend casual time together like eating lunch or anything. He's... a bit inept. She drives him out of town so he can buy video games, or takes him to the dentist. Stuff like that, a pro-bono social worker.\n\nBut it's every fucking week. I couldn't see her *this week* because she's spread so thin as it is.\n\nI've known her for 3+ years now. But we still need to figure who we are together.\n\n*He isn't unable, if you will, I think the putz just got used to her caring for him.*\n\nDid I mention we're all in our mid to late 20's? What the hell, man. Get a car, or your fucking parents.\n\nIt isn't festering in me just yet. When something bothers me I can feel my face get warm and I clench my teeth. It hasn't got to that point, but I don't want it to get passive-aggressive with her, and then aggressive-aggressive.\n\nShe told he's recently learned to tie his shoes. *What the fuck is this*?", "summary": "How can I let this girl who I can see myself with indefinitely, that she has to let her man-child-friend flourish on his own? I'm not ready for a kid."}
{"id": "t3_3dqovz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34m] with my wife [28f] She lost weight and looks beautiful. What's my issue?", "post": "*", "summary": "My wife has always been attractive to me but now she lost weight and is attractive to others.  Why can't I just be happy with this?"}
{"id": "t3_4cmpta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] lost my best friend [30M] and I can't believe it", "post": "I already made another post 4 days ago explaining my best friend wouldn't answer texts and calls. Today I was told about his death. He was one if not THE most beautiful person I have ever met.\n\nHe has helped me through hard times, he was there for me, made me smile and laugh and hope. No matter how he felt, if I started crying he would instantly try to make me feel better. I know you hate it when I cry, but right now I can't stop. He was humble about himself and everything he did. He doubted himself, he couldn't see how awesome he is. We spent so much time together still now I regret every second I haven't spent with him.\n\nI can't believe he's gone and he'll never come back. A part of me is just quietly waiting for him to come back. I just want to wake up from this horrible nightmare and give him the tightest and longest hug ever. He didn't deserve to die, he just didn't. I wish I could swap with him but then again he said he wouldn't want to live without me and I don't want to hurt him. Now I have to live without him. I love him so much and he will always live on in my heart and memories.\n\nI don't know how to deal with this. All the things we used to do together will feel wrong, like \"I can't do this without him, he'll be sad!\". Waking up without his good morning and going to sleep without his good night will just not feel right. Knowing this hurts so awfully much.\n\nSomehow I feel like he's standing right beside me, putting his hand on my shoulder or hugging me from behind, asking me to stop crying because he's there and he'll never ever leave.\nI just don't know what to do. I don't want to let go, not of him. Why did he have to die?\n\nI will always love you.", "summary": "My best friend died. I will never forget you."}
{"id": "t3_hhaiw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does cheating ever stop?", "post": "I have to know.  Is there anyone out there who has been in relationship, where cheating has occurred, of a repetitive and heinous nature, and either gone back to, or created a new relationship with their spouse?\n\nI'm currently living separately from my partner, and stay with her on weekends.  I see this as something of a litmus test for the rest of our relationship, but am concerned that choosing not to move back in with her is driving us apart.  We have a child, who stays with me the majority of the time.\n\nI know for a fact she has been chatting with her ex.  I cannot say for certain whether anything more has occurred recently.  She still calls me her husband.  I can't tell her I love her.  Not yet.\n\nI want things to work out, but I don't know what it will take to do that, and I feel that she will explore her options, as opposed to take whatever steps she has to do, to fix things up, and start anew.  \n\nShe has never been big on saying sorry.  She has since learned to, and we have made some progress.  I can please her in the bedroom well enough, and I don't believe that's the issue.", "summary": "Do cheating spouses ever stop? Is there anyone out there who can tell me that they do?"}
{"id": "t3_36de71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend[23 M] for two years, share a hotel room with bf's mom? Awkward?", "post": "Hey guys! I just want a general opinion on this situation. I am a 22 year old graduate student who is pretty much independent and takes a lot of pride to have my independence. I have been dating a guy for two years who is the exact opposite. For the entire two years he has lived with his mother. He is an only child and adoptive. His mother has NEVER married and decided to adopt a baby in her late 40s. Their relationship is completely crazy imo. She cooks for him, does his laundry, puts his laundry away, pays for everything and anything, monitors his bank account, leases his car, sets up his doctor appointments, goes with him to his doctor appointments and even clips his fingernails and toenails. \n\nNow some things I understand because being it is not uncommon for many college students to stay at home. But it is a little much. Besides that, they get in to major fights in front of me. I have seen her nag him about the most minimal things. In return, I have also seen him tell his mom to shut up, call her a bitch, scream, yell, knock things down, and slams doors.\n\nMy boyfriend just received his A.A and will be transferring to an university three hours away. He has orientation this week and has invited me to come with him and his mother. They are going to be staying in a hotel room. I am having a sense of apprehension imagining two days of them in a hotel room together. I find it a little awkward being in a beautiful beach hotel with his mother lying in the bed next to me, watching our every move. What is your opinion?", "summary": "Boyfriend and his mother have a codependent, strained relationship. Have to stay in ONE hotel room together. Awkward or no?"}
{"id": "t3_3i0aqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy I was dating [20/M] broke up with me [19/f] after we had sex. Was it the sex?", "post": "I was dating a guy for two months. He was hesitant about sleeping with me. I think this is partly because I was quite firm turning him down at first, and secondly because has some seriously horrible stuff in his past, he was in love with an ex-girlfriend who passed away. \n\nHe started to be a little more withdrawn, like texting me hardly ever unless I texted him first, after two months but I didn't think anything of it because he was still happy to see me & he told me he was 'crazily attracted to me.' Also in our last conversation before the weekend he was texting me quite romantic stuff, saying he was looking forward to meeting my parents etc. although I never suggested he should.\n\nWe ended up sleeping together and I gave him oral and swallowed (I loved doing that and I told him so). I was a virgin before this. But the sex was not a big deal as it turns out, just fun and I didn't feel 'attached' after. He told me that night that 'I deserve someone a hundred times sweeter and better looking than him.'\n\nThe next morning he was lying in bed watching me pack (I was going home for the weekend) and he was really quiet and looked angry or sad, but he wouldn't leave til I left. I texted him later that day and he brought up meeting my parents again. He also suggested we meet up again soon. \n\nThen he didn't contact me again for three days so I asked 'what's up' and he broke up with me, saying that I was too good for him, the classic 'It's not you it's me' speech. \n\nI know this is such a silly thought and it's probably something much bigger, but was it something about the sex? I am just insecure because it was my first time and I don't know maybe I did something wrong? (I know stuff about like not using teeth for oral but I did make some gross noises...) Or maybe I was less attractive naked than he expected I would be? (I have quite small boobs :\\ )", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me after first-time sex, was it my fault?"}
{"id": "t3_3a2guj", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I know you regretted that decision", "post": "After a morning of moving hundreds of heavy cartons and being drenched in sweat (temperatures have reached 50\u00b0C or 122\u00b0F in Dubai), I had to go to the bank immediately to deposit some cheques. \n\nThere are three ATMs and all of them had 4 people each. Even though there are only four people, the ATMs are hella slow. I mean really really slow. And smack bang in the middle of ATM 2 & 3 stands a Filipino woman. \n\nI waited for ATM 2. I left a considerable amount of space between me and the person in front because of sweating earlier. One guy leaves ATM 3. So the lady jumps to ATM 3's queue. 5 Seconds after she settles into line 3, two people leaves ATM 2 for some reason. Suddenly, this bitch just cut in front of me and acted like nothing happened. \n\nI didn't feel like confronting her because I was already tired and profusely sweating. So I just moved as close to her as possible with touching her. She inched forward, I did too. I saw that she was trying her best to turn her head away from me as far as possible. She also looked like she was holding her breath. \n\nI hope she had her dose of smelly sweat and dirt.", "summary": "Bitch cuts in front of me, made her wish she didn't have a sense of smell."}
{"id": "t3_2s45rm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Separate or stay together during marriage counseling? M31, F27, married 2 years", "post": "My wife and I have had our share of ups and downs for the past 2 years we've been married.  We recently \"separated\" for 11 days, and I just returned home.  We talked a lot, and agreed we have some real issues.  Primarily, she has trust issues with me.  Since I've been home (one night) things have been great between us, when we don't directly discuss our marriage.  Even our sex life has been on a totally new level.\n\nWe are going to go through marriage counseling weekly at least.  During that period, we are entertaining her moving out to a nearby apartment while I stay in the home.  We will still be married and committed to each other, just not living together.  Is this a normal thing to do?  Is this a good thing to do?  Or would that just be the start of the end?\n\nThanks in advance, everyone!", "summary": "Is it okay for a couple to separate while they are going to marriage counseling or is that just the beginning of the end?"}
{"id": "t3_1zdqf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] and my boyfriend [28 M] of 1+ yr had a nasty, stupid fight and I feel very strange about the fact that he used my desire to marry him against me in it", "post": "A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I got in a very weird fight about something completely stupid: I'm taking a grad course that he took awhile ago, and I was doing my homework but didn't want to ask him for help because I wanted to do it on my own, and didn't want to do it at that moment; he got really pissed and told me I needed to give him the homework problem and do it right that instant, and I told him absolutely not. \n\nThe fight got really, really ugly, and I ended up having a nasty panic attack in the middle of it. \n\nWe are very close, and have been talking a lot about getting married in the future. However, during the fight he said that if I wanted to be his wife, I needed to grow up and stop being immature (about the homework thing). \n\nThis has completely changed the way I view our relationship, and, though I am still very much in love with him, something in my head has clicked and I no longer have a desire to marry him. I'm appalled that he would have used the fact that he knew I wanted to marry him against me in a fight, and I really can't get over it. \n\nI'm not sure what to do in this situation. Ideally I would like to not be upset about this, and go back to feeling the way I did before the fight. I hope I am not being petty. I know a lot of nasty stuff is said in fights that is not meant.", "summary": "my bf used the fact that I want to marry him against me in a fight, and I haven't been able to get over it."}
{"id": "t3_11ail9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you help someone with the presentation of a viewpoint you wholeheartedly disagree with? (read on)", "post": "I work as a writing consultant at my university. Usually my job rocks, I love my fellow consultants, my boss, my school even. Sometimes a student will bring a piece of writing in that makes me cringe; illiteracy is a real problem folks! It's easily masked in our day in age (thank you the internetz which will write a paper for you with a bit o'C+V plus some thesaurus.) \n\nI've been lucky I guess because in multiple years there, I did not run into this problem until just recently. A young girl (read: freshman) brought her writing in to hold an appointment with me. I sat there in disbelief while she read her work aloud because... I couldn't focus past the first paragraph. The point she was trying to make was simple: the modern day family has ruined 'family' which is only truly 'family' when laid out in the structure of father, mother, and children - in that order and hierarchy. Her ideas and 'stated facts' were so skewed, misrepresented, and blatantly incorrect that my brain just revolted. In cartoon land, it jumped out of my head and crashed through the closest window, hit the ground running and screamed the whole way home. \n\nI had to sit through a half hour appointment with her, attempting to do my job, while her dumb ass proclaimed immoralities and pushed made up statistics down my throat.", "summary": "I work with college kids on their papers, girl was an idiot who wrote about fallacies and made any modern day family who didn't fit her 'dad, mom, and children' perfect idea mold into unmoral beings who lower society's standing."}
{"id": "t3_1plb9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] trying to break up with my boyfriend [23 M] we have only been together 4 months, I need help being concise without seeming rude?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together now for four months. Our relationship started very quickly after we met one another. I believe that if I wasn't so afraid of saying \"no\" that we may not even be together now. Anyways, I am in college about an hour from where he lives. He doesn't have a job, a working car, and he still lives with his parents. Aside from the fact that I don't see a future with us because he seems to have zero ambition or goals in life I just don't have the time and energy to drive four hours to and from his place every weekend so he can stay at my apartment with me. I have actually asked for advice here before because he was flirting with other girls and kept his okcupid account while we were together and lied about it. I have been kind of waning in my feelings for him for a while now and in the past few days he has come to realize this. I need to end it once and for all without seeming harsh or leaving room for him to think we may get back together some day. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I need to break up with my boyfriend once and for all without sounding like a total bitch."}
{"id": "t3_fnyy1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Put an offer on a house, need some sound advice Reddit.", "post": "I got a loan approval through my bank at $160,000.00, saw a house on the market at $169,900.00 and basically after weeks of searching, decided this would be the house for me. My realtor and I figured we could get it with an offer of $160,000.00 because it had been on the market at the list price with no offers for nearly two months.\n\nThe seller's agent called my loan officer attempting to get me approved for higher so they could try to still sell it to me, but at list price. My realtor isn't budging and neither is my loan officer, so at this point is there anything I could do to sway the seller's mind on selling higher?", "summary": "Seller's agent is kind of a douche and wants to sell me a property at nearly 20% more than what the original buyer bought it at a few months ago."}
{"id": "t3_2avnzq", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Something a little different... I need help with a \"mini thesis\" topic!", "post": "Hi r/personalfinance!\n\nI've been lurking here for a while, and you guys are very motivating for me in terms of getting excited to graduate college, get a \"real\" job, and start saving. Meanwhile, I try to save as much as possible with my ~$300/month job. \n\nThis upcoming semester, I'm taking a class called Topics in Econometrics. I have to do a research paper of sorts, that is basically a mini thesis. I don't have to go all out and do 40 pages, or come up with my own theory, or even present it. I do, however, have to think of some sort of question or problem, collect data (I can get previously collected data from reliable sources, of course), and then analyze it in STATA and write ~10 pages on it (not bad at all). \n\nHere's where you come in! Since I've been so into personal finance lately, I was hoping to do something relating to this topic, as it ties in nicely with my field of study (economics, obviously). So, I was hoping that you guys could help me come up with a rough topic idea! I was thinking maybe something with average household debt, or retirement funds, etc. Something like that!\n\nThanks for any suggestions, stories, etc.!", "summary": "Taking Topics in Econometrics, need a research topic involving personal finance in some way that has an abundance of data available and won't be too difficult to analyze and manipulate into a decent economics-related research paper*"}
{"id": "t3_h2yp9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a chemical called Starfire (i think) I once saw on a show about inventions", "post": "After seeing another post by a fellow redditor I was reminded of this and it renewed my curiosity. There was a show when I was younger maybe late 80 early 90s on american tv about incredible inventions. There was this old man who invented this plastic/paste made from household chemicals that was extremely thermally resistant. They talked about it replacing the tiles on the pace shuttle and showed off how awesome it was by coating and egg with it and aiming a blow torch at it. I am pretty sure it was called Starfire but I cannot find a reference to it anywhere.", "summary": "there is a fireproof plastic made from household chemicals maybe called starfire, please help me find out about it."}
{"id": "t3_2iclpq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having car sex", "post": "For the first time in my life I met up with a girl on Tinder.\nWe went out for dinner at Denny's (classy) and for some reason the food didn't sit very well with me. We rush home in my car and I run in, do my business, and then return to my car. \n\nI drive us to a dark place and we begin sexytimes. Things lead to having sex in my car, which is another first for me. So we finish up and everything is all good, when I really have to go pee. I walk to a wooded area and begin peeing. As I finish up I go for one last push to get everything out, when suddenly panic washes over me, and my ass. \n\nI shit myself peeing.\n\nNow with shit smeared in my ass cheeks I have to wobble back to my car and tell the girl goodnight and all that fun stuff. I've never had the opportunity to kiss and hug a girl while simultaneously having the Ganges river flow between my legs and I can tell you, it's not fun.\n\nI've also never had to explain to my father why I'm taking a shower at 3am, so I did. I told him I ate some shitty food that then came right back out the other end.", "summary": "Shit myself peeing post-sex."}
{"id": "t3_2dqlfb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having drunk sex", "post": "So this happened a while back when my boyfriend and I decided to get drunk. We were both pretty worked up but since we didn't have a condom, he suggested anal. Although I would normally turn this down, I was too drunk and horny to care. So once we got down to business, everything seemed fine from what I can remember. Then my boyfriend stops and says I should go to the restroom. I was really confused as he carefully pulled me off his bed so I wouldn't sit back down or something and when he finally managed to do so, he told me to use the restroom again. I'm not entirely sure if I ever went to the bathroom or not.. but I do remember deciding to curl up in a ball and nap on the floor in front of his toilet.\nBut anyways, I think it was a few days later when he told me what happened because I didn't remember anything.\nHe started off by saying that the first thing he noticed was the smell. When he looks down, he sees the problem. \nI shit myself. \nHe jokes about it all the time and talks about how it apparently looked like a melted Snicker's bar between my cheeks. \nI didn't remember it at all at first but I'm ashamed to say that a lot of it came back and I will never tell my boyfriend how much I really remember.", "summary": "I had drunk anal sex which resulted in me shitting myself."}
{"id": "t3_xho0a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can't you stand about the place you live? What prevents you from moving, or why are you going to move.", "post": "What are the pros and cons of the place you live? Overall, does the good outweigh the bad, or do you plan to move?\n   \n\nI live in Seattle. Washington is a beautiful state, and if you get out of the city, the natural environment here is great. Lush, green forests, good wildlife, great berries, clean air and water. As for the city though, it just doesn't do it for me. Most of the year, it's cold, rainy and overcast. You need those things for there to be such beautiful forests but, in the city you get nothing in return. Everything is grey, and the people here have vitamin D deficiencies from lack of sunlight, which cause depression. (Seriously.) Everybody is \"fake polite,\" and they expect you to be too. You will always be told what you want to hear to avoid confrontation. It's almost as if everybody has severe social anxiety here. Everybody's extremely passive aggressive too. You see it everywhere, even in the driving, which leads me to my final point. The drivers here fucking suck. People try to be extra nice, and it usually ends up having a dangerous result. And then every once in a while someone will meet their passive aggressiveness threshold and do some way over-aggressive maneuver. I love driving so it's kind of a bummer being somewhere where everybody sucks at it. I want to move somewhere with better weather, better people, and better drivers.", "summary": "Fuck Seattle, I'm gonna move."}
{"id": "t3_wphvq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I heard that Mitt Romney might be keeping his tax returns secret as a political strategy to get the Obama campaign to waste time/effort over it and in the end might have done nothing wrong/shady.  Does Obama (as the top member of the executive branch) have access to see Mitt's tax returns?", "post": "What if Romney is not releasing his tax returns as a ploy to get the Obama campaign and media to throw a fit over it?  What if he eventually releases them to show nothing shady about them and uses this to his political advantage in saying that the Obama campaign was more focused on Mitt's past than on the \"real\" issues?\n\n**My real question is, whether or not this is the case, does Obama (as the top ranking member in the executive branch) have the authority to view Mitt Romney's tax returns?** Surely it would be some type of crime to publicly release information about those tax returns, but is he allowed to look at it to determine whether or not he should be going after Mitt on this issue?  It certainly seems very \"Watergate-ish\" but is it something legal that Obama could choose to do?", "summary": "Can Obama obtain Mitt Romeny's tax returns and use the information he finds in his political strategy?"}
{"id": "t3_mm30k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Another disgusting roommate question", "post": "Dear Reddit, \n\nI'm a college student, and my roommates are absolutely disgusting.  I live in a 4 bed/4 bath apartment, and my roommates don't keep our common areas (living room/laundry area/kitchen) clean.  I understand a dish or two in the sink, but often times the kitchen sink is unusable due to their dirty dishes literally filling it up above the faucet.  Counters occasionally have food stuck on them.  Last weekend my mother and I discovered mold growing in the bottom of their trashcan (I use a different one than them), and I've found mold in the dirty dishes the majority of the times I clean the kitchen.  Additionally, they've been stealing my food (which I've fixed by using a mini-fridge.\n\nI tried confronting them about the food stealing problem a couple weeks ago by messaging them on facebook.  While I realize this isn't the best mode of conversation, our schedules are such that we rarely encounter each other, and its difficult to get everyone together at once.  The response I got from them was a fairly confrontational \"don't talk to me on facebook and don't be passive aggressive (which I wasn't doing intentionally)\".  I brought things up to management a week or so ago and they said they would talk to them about it, but either management never talked to them or my roommates are ignoring them (which is highly possible, my roommates have no respect for our management whatsoever).\n\nWhat should I do?  It's been 2 weeks since I tried talking to my roommates, and about a week-week and a half since I talked to management.", "summary": "My roommates are disgusting and don't clean the common areas, and I've tried talking to them and management with nothing improving."}
{"id": "t3_jnjz5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend wants me to give her my new phone. Is this at all normal?", "post": "I've been dating her a long time now, and i recently got a new phone. She's very envious and keeps saying i should give it to her. I always thought she was just kidding... but today her mom told me i should give it to her because boys should want the best for their girls.\n\nMy girlfriend is crying that I wont give it to her saying any boyfriend would do it for their girlfriends. I think this is absolutely insane.", "summary": "I like to smell her vagina"}
{"id": "t3_35c24m", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cut me off in traffic? Enjoy the splash of coke on your newly washed car.", "post": "I was running to work late yesterday and was driving a bit wreck-less to make it on time. I had to cut someone off to make the merge in front of the long line. I make it but the truck behind me wasn't too happy about it. \n\nAfter five minutes of driving in a single lane, with them behind me, we finally made it out and into multiple lanes. They pull up beside me and not even a gesture to show how pissed they were at my driving. They drive up and pass me on my left, as I sigh in relief for avoiding a confrontation in which I knew I was wrong. I was sadly mistaken. \n\nI notice a 1 liter bottle of coke slowly making its way of the window and then they let me have it. A whole bottle of coke all over my newly washed car. I got what I deserved and wasn't even mad about it.", "summary": "I Drove like a dick and got a cola shower."}
{"id": "t3_y5kpo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/M] How to act with my friend [16/F] I made out with? I'll explain inside", "post": "So I have this friend, we'll call her Sophie. We talk every so often but don't really connect much and that's why I haven't had feeling for her before. She is really nice though, pretty and good to talk to but I just haven't had the chance to hang around with just the two of us.\n\nSo we went to a party, right from the start she was hugging me and flirting - she got drunk quite early and later on I was also. We layed down next to eachother, spoke for a bit then made out a couple of times. We spent the night hugging, and made out a few more times. Generally just relaxing and it was really nice. I think she was sober by the time I left, I kissed her goodnight and left. It was kindof like I was in a relationship with her that night.\n\nSo I hung out with my friends today, and she was there but refused to give me eye contact and didn't really want to continue conversation with me. I thought we could just carry on as usual but I guess she feels awkward about what happened. Now I do like her a little because of what happened, but I don't really know her well because I've never really spoke to her much.\n\nI don't know how to sort this out. I don't know whether to talk to her about it, because it could make it even worse, or just leave it and try to act normal. We have another party in a week so I atleast want to be able to speak to her.", "summary": "Spent a party with a friend, made out a few times, she acts awkward with me the next day. Should I talk to her about it or leave it?"}
{"id": "t3_398f9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25 f) dating a needy, self loathing (27 f) girl and want out. How do I end it?", "post": "I'm someone who has always identified as an alexythemic ( I don't feel or express much emotion), but I still have the basic human need to fit in and appear normal. So I began dating this girl. She seemed great at first and understanding of my need to be on my own sometimes. But as time passed, it became obvious that she is very needy, insecure, self loathing and irrational. She wants things that I can not give her, and the needy things she's pulled in the past like guilt trips, trying to isolate me from firends and family, and control all of my time, have caused resentment to build that I can't get over. I'm a non-confrontational person and I know any attempt to break up with her is going to result in waterworks and more guilt trips. I'm looking for advice on manning up and breaking it off. Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Needy, emotional girlfriend is smothering my non emotional, uncaring self and I need a way out that won't end in WW3."}
{"id": "t3_4a3ek8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking my own cum NSFW", "post": "Long time lurker, but this JUST happened like ten minutes ago and I had to share it with you.\n\nRecently I've been masturbating a lot. Like, 3-6 times a day. I don't know if it's because I'm bored or horny or what. Anyway, I pretty much always blow my load into this one shirt I have (gross, I know) and then just chuck it into my closet behind some stuff so my mom would never accidentally pick it up. My bedroom is upstairs, by the way. \n\nSo I'm sitting in the basement on my computer, scrolling through Facebook, and I notice this super cute girl from my class has recently posted some vacation pictures... one thing leads to another and soon enough I'm going at it full force. I'm just about to finish when I realize: \n\n*Fuck. My shirt is all the way upstairs.*\n\nThis train has absolutely no brakes, so I look over and see a Tim Horton's coffee cup still with about an inch or two of coffee in it.\n\n*Perfect, it won't smell and I'll just throw it out next time I go to  upstairs*. \n\n(No bathroom or garbage in my basement)\n\nSo part one of this fuck up is that I came in a coffee cup.\nThe second part that I went upstairs to pee *right* after finishing and **didn't take the cup with me.** Talk about lazy and absent minded... \n\nI'm sure you can see where this is going...\n\nTwo hours later I'm still sitting at my desk doing a bit of programming. I obliviously reach over, and (to my delight) feel that the coffee cup still has a bit of coffee in it. I take it down it in one big gulp.\n\nImmediately after I swallowed I realized what I had done.", "summary": "put too much cream in my coffee"}
{"id": "t3_4kkzrb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] need help getting myself and my mother [54 F] out of an abusive household", "post": "So, my parents never had a good relationship. Fighting, rampant alcoholism, threats and emotional abuse have been common in my household since I can remember. But today, shit hit the fan, and my dad beat the shit out of my mom. This isn't the first time they had a physical encounter but it was the first time my dad did something like this. We both can't live here anymore, but my mom depends on my dad financially. \n\nI have a full time minimum wage job so theoretically I could get an apartment with my mom. My problem is that I don't think I can support the both of us, and if this is going to work my mom needs to get a job too. However, she is an extremely bad alcoholic (she starts drinking when she wakes up) and she doesn't seem open to the idea of getting a job. I tried to explain to her that she needs to get a job so we leave, and she agreed, but I doubt her commitment.\n\nI am also a college student. I have a rough idea of what my expenses are, and I'm pretty sure I could scrape on by on my own. However, adding another person to the mix makes things a lot more complicated. I just feel very lost and I don't know what to do. I have never been truly on my own like this before.", "summary": "dad is physically abusive towards mom and we need to leave the house but money is an issue"}
{"id": "t3_wqzvd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tell me about the time you faced your worst fear and how you reacted. I'll start.", "post": "I was visiting grandparents in Japan, and they live in a very rural area, a location very unfamiliar to me, being brought up in the suburbs of Maryland. I was terrified of any sort of insect or related creature: caterpillars, spiders, crickets, slugs, you name it. Around the age of 12, I tried to convince myself that I wasn't scared of bugs, i just hated them. But years later, I had come to terms with my fear: I am fucking TERRIFIED of bugs and the sort. \n\nSo there I am brushing my teeth in the bathroom at my grandparents' house when I step on something wet. I'm barefoot, by the way. I think it's water or something, so I just slide my foot onto another section of the wooden floor to get the water off. My foot slides a little too much for having just stepped in water. I lift my foot and to my utter horror, I stepped on a god damn slug with my bare foot and smeared it all over the bottom of my foot. I screamed and fell backwards and smashed my head on the tile wall and lay there frozen. I didn't want to touch the smooshed slug on my foot to get it off, but there was still a GOD DAMN SLUG smashed on my foot. I wiped it off on the edge of the sink, and ran out of the bathroom screaming for help. I did not react very well. Now, tell me about your experiences?", "summary": "Terrified of bugs and the sort, stepped on the putrid demon's spawn known as a slug barefoot, emotional and physical damage."}
{"id": "t3_ha1g4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Blue-collar home servicemen/service installers of Reddit: got any weird work stories? Let's have 'em! I'll start...", "post": "Last year, while working as a cable TV installer and internet service tech, I had a trouble call for an internet problem at an address that was way out in the sticks. Upon arrival, I was allowed to enter through a decrepit electric driveway gate, then I had to get the owner's purple-haired mother to put their four barking, jumping dogs with muddy feet put away in the back yard. Finally, after being let inside the double-wide manufactured home built in the late 80's, the person with the problem turns out to be handicapped.\n\nHe was using a huge 60\"(?) Samsung HDTV to play XBox Live, surf the net, etc. and had a few config problems that needed to be addressed before he could get everything working they way he wanted it. \n\nHe was probably 50 years old, with long flowing white hair, weighing easily three hundred and fifty pounds, sitting in a base-model wide-body black and chrome wheelchair with the foot stirrups folded away so he could shuffle by foot or by hand as needed. He was quite visibly albino, which was interesting to see, but not the most interesting thing about him. \n\nHe must have also been asthmatic or had some other breathing problem, because there were at least ten to fifteen 4-foot tall medical oxygen tanks standing in rows against the wall in the living room. Yards and yards of clear vinyl tubing stretched across the floor in all directions. He ran the tubing over indiscriminately while we moved around his house. \n\nThe best part though, were his clothes.\n\nHe wore a blue XXXXL t-shirt and a white bath towel across his lap. And a wheelchair under his arse. That's it.\n\nI corrected his router problem and got out quick.", "summary": "I fixed a fat asthmatic tech-nerd nearly-naked albino dude in a wheelchair's internet service."}
{"id": "t3_34bf6a", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How to determine cutting progress with loose skin in the way? First time, please help!", "post": "First off, I am currently 6'3\", 200 lbs (189 cm, 90 kg).\nI began my weight loss journey at 260 (I'll never know exactly where I started, as this is where my scale maxed out. That sure was a shitty feeling.)\n\nI started with a fairly aggressive cut, and didn't ease into it at all. From day 1, I was eating 1800 calories per day, and exercising as well. As a result, I lost the weight very quickly, and now have sone loose skin to deal with.\nSo, here is my question:\n\nHow do I know when I should stop cutting? What is a healthy weight for me? This is especially difficult at someone who has been overweight since the dawn of time. I have no frame of reference. When I look in the mirror, I can't get past the loose gut.\n\nI'm starting to see some muscular definition, which is encouraging. My biceps are coming through, and I'm seeing my triceps and back definition for the first time. I'm more vascular in general. It started with my hands, feet and forearms, and it's slowly moving into my biceps and calves. Obviously at 200 lbs I'm still seeing some extra weight on my love handles, chest and stomach, but I'm not sure what a proper goal weight looks like for me. I'm not a small guy, and I originally had 200 lbs as my goal, but I've reached that and realized that I'm not where I want to be.\nI realize this is a bit of a self-indulgent ramble, but I really would appreciate any feedback. I will add pics soon, if you folks think that would help. Thanks!", "summary": "Stuck in a rut because of my gut, please help me cut."}
{"id": "t3_3g9k2r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friends [21-24 M] feel like I've outgrown them in certain aspects. Don't know how to proceed", "post": "I'm a 22 year old, about to finish my undergrad degree in mathematics, I have some friends who are older and already in the workforce. My main issue is now every time we hang out it becomes some type of pissing competition over money/jobs and what have you. \n\nI personally want to continue along in academia and get my masters (definitely) and phd (potentially). I come from a very educated background and all the successful people in my life assure me that this is what will ultimate earn me major rewards down the line (financial and job security). I've also passed 3 actuarial exams.\n\nMy main issue is that now I don't feel like my friends really respect what I'm doing. Or maybe not even that they don't respect it, they just actually think toiling away at some large corporation for 65k a year is some type of life goal to aspire to.\n\nI'd hate to look back when I'm 30 and be disappointed at just partying away my 20s and not really doing anything constructive. By the same token, I also don't want to \"leave\" my friends behind. \n\nI don't know...I really don't know what to do, any advise would be appreciated.", "summary": "I want to pursue education at a very high level before entering the workforce, friends are content being low level schmucks that give me grief over my choices."}
{"id": "t3_4reeqi", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My online friend is in love with me and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I don't use this account much but basically, I'm a kid with alot of anxiety and the things you'd expect of a teen.. I like to seek online friends to play games with and just talk to, you know? Some of my best friends are online, that's just the way I like to know people, and one of my best friends is a girl my age who we will call Kaley. Kaley and I have known each other for 4 years, when we met we were still just little kids playing Minecraft.. but lately we've been talking more and things got weird.\n\nWe've video chatted occasionally and the past few weeks she's been calling me cute and stuff and just laughing it off after (nobody had ever really complimented me before so it caught me off guard). She then proceeded to get more and more flirty and our conversations evolved from just banter to some more emotional and heavy conversations about our lives and I think my reaction to these things led her to believe I liked her too.. then yesterday she texted me one thing and hasn't been online since:\n\n\"I'm in love with you\"\n\nNow here's the thing.. It'ds not like I *dont* find her attractive, I really do and if I knew her in real life I would've been ecstatic, but we're high school students who live on different sides of the country (Texas, New Jersey), and even though I do kind of like this girl back, a real relationship just isn't possible right now, and I don't know if it's possible to go back to being friends now.\n\nI don't know how coherent this post is, I've always been really bad at putting my thoughts into words.", "summary": "A girl I know says she loves me but it wouldn't work and I just want to be friends, what do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_2hxay8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] lost attraction towards my GF[21F].", "post": "Hello, I've been in a relationship with my GF for over 2 years now. \n\nShe's smart, brilliant, and loves me deeply. She has a ton of features I like about her, but for some time I've lost attraction to her. I do get aroused when I see her naked, but a lot of the times I don't like her looks (as in meh, not dislike). \n\nI'm 22 so I don't know if my body chemistry is influencing my opinion, but I feel like I have testosterone through the roof, and I go crazy horny for random girls. Our sex is not something I really want anymore, but we do have it(quite less than before tho). \n\nOver the last half year I've felt like I don't want to be in that relationship badly a few times, and the last 'attack' came on half an hour ago, but now that it's settled I feel regular again. I'm not sure if I'm guilting myself, or actually reasoning to stay with her, and like her. \n\nI do love her, and this is my first serious relationship. Sometimes I even feel like I could marry her, but I'm still not sure she's the ultimate woman for me. Therein lies the problem. I can't imagine breaking her heart (which I'm pretty sure I would, big time). Maybe I should stay with her, and chalk this up to something else? \n\nI've tried to blame my insecurities, commitment issues, reasoning if a marriage with a girl on the side is right, remembering all the good times we had, analyzing the quote 'The grass is greener where you water it', and probably some other things, yet the doubts persist. \n\nI know the answer to this sounds maybe a little clear-cut, but as much as I sound as a shallow selfish prick(which I might be), I do love her, and I'm lost. How do you know when someone is right for you?", "summary": "Not as physically attracted to my GF, and not sure what to do with our relationship. She loves me deeply, and I don't want to break her heart."}
{"id": "t3_3v2yuk", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Group projects suck", "post": "I'm not sure if I'm in the right place, for this, if i'm not I apologize. On to the story, two weeks ago I had to miss class due because of a doctor's appointment. I missed a video streaming course, no big deal, I emailed my professor and told him why I missed and what I need to do to catch up. After 2 days he emails me back with one sentence, \"We did group work, ask your group for your assignment.\" I get in touch with my group and they tell me my job is essentially the editor of the group's collective papers and combine them into a 3 page final essay, simple enough. I tell them send me their papers by Saturday so I can have time to work on the assignment. Saturday comes around no papers, no big deal. Sunday night, still no papers, I texted my friend in the group about what was going on, he is nearly done with his I should have it by Monday. Yesterday I talked to my friend again, still working on it, in addition to my friend not helping none of the other 3 members submit anything. I wake up today, and check my email, no submissions. By this point I'm panicking, when I finally talk to the other members of the project face to face, 3 of them finally send me their papers. When I finally received the papers I had 2 hours to write 3 pages, damn impossible to do, and get a good grade. I work my ass of and get roughly half of the assignment done in time. Class rolls around, and I try to finish up before we have to present; to continue the theme of screwing me over my group volunteers 2nd. When it is finally our turn to go, I find out my group totally neglected to tell me the correct assignment. So at this point I have nothing to present, and try to make something up. I did terrible, and will probably get a bad grade. Should I try to protest this with administration? I'm thinking since the professor had zero clarity in the assignment it could get thrown out.\n\n Sorry for the wall of text and any errors I'm still upset and not thinking clearly.", "summary": "Got fucked over in a group project. Trying to fix my grade."}
{"id": "t3_44bq52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M/F] with my wife [38 M/F] 15 years, Expects me to dislike my own mother.", "post": "So my wife has never been a fan of my mother, she has really ramped up that hatred lately for very irrational reasons (facebook posts, when we travel there asking for extra time with the grandkids etc.)\n\nShe finds my mother fake and things even though she is cheery all the time it is a facade. She constantly \"shit talks\" her to me and expects I agree. \n\nIf disagree or don't agree she gets infuriated. She doesn't want to talk to my mother, thank her for gifts or anything. \n\nI can't abandon my mother from my life completely for no reason. In fact unbeknownst to my wife she just invested a bunch of money for us for retirement.\n\nI try to ask why the deep dislike and how we can remedy it, my mother senses it but doesn't bring it up as she is very conflict adverse.\n\nHow do I deal with it. My wife expects that I should hate my own mother just because she (rather irrationally) does. We live far away and my parents want to visit but my wife is saying no, or if she does she will leave and go elsewhere.", "summary": "Wife hates my mother, expects I should as well. Infuriated if I don't."}
{"id": "t3_2aob2q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take a shower at midnight", "post": "Since I'm home for the summer, I'm working a 9-5 job plus a commute. This means I have to wake up before the dew fairies themselves and if I want to not be fired I have to go to bed at a reasonable hour. \nLast night I told the 'rents that I was going to sleep around 11pm but my brain decided it'd be great to dick around on the internet for an hour instead of going to bed. So midnight rolls around and I realize I should probably shower and shave before I show up to work the next morning and send everyone running in the opposite direction. Unfortunately I have to walk right by my parents' open door to get to said shower. As I step outside my door I hear sounds I have only recently heard through my shitty headphones in the middle of the night, or whenever else I feel like it. \nSo I run into the bathroom and try to forget the sound of my parents bumping uglies and realize that if I step into the shower, they'll know that I'm not half asleep and definitely know that I heard them. So I decide fuck it, and I flush the toilet without pissing and run back to my room. I proceeded to turn on several fans to drown out any sound that might be made in a 50 mile radius and try to fall asleep with thoughts of shit I never want to think about running through my head.", "summary": "My parents still love each other, but no one at work will come near me."}
{"id": "t3_2y9ezz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my long time boyfriend [27] been together for 9years.....I can't stand him anymore", "post": "We started dating when I was 16 and he was 18. We understood each other, made each other laugh and most of all loved each other. We had our son at a young age. But we were still madly in love with each other. We bought our house a year after our son was born. We would take turns do things around the house. While we both worked our asses off at our jobs. But then a few months ago, he started working from home. Which I was excited about as I work from home as well. Out of no where he stopped doing things around the house. At first I was like 'Okay that's fine maybe he is just getting use to working from home.' But now he does nothing, I ask him to do a simple thing like put the towels in the dryer and he flips out \"That is your job.\" The other day I asked him to help shovel \" I will when none of the neighbors are out.\" Dude all of our neighbors are nice old people they aren't going to hurt you! He doesn't leave the house at all. Refuses to go to the store with me, or attend our son's school events. Wont go anywhere near my family but when his parents come over to vist I better be there or be ready for a fight. \n\nThe other night when I tried talking to him about our relationship he told me everything was my fault and how dare I blame him for anything. When I go out he calls me a lot saying that he can't trust me. \n\nEverything that he does or says drives me insane. I look at him and think of how unhappy I am. How I haven't loved this man in awhile. There have been so many times I have thought about packing up my stuff and leaving but I get scared. He is all I have ever known. I moved out of my parents home into a home with him. He is the one I use to picture growing old without now I picture myself in a nursing home by myself. But I am scared. I dont know how to do this, I don't know if I can. He use to be my everything and now I just wish he would go away.", "summary": "after 9 years I want to leave but I am scared."}
{"id": "t3_2ufe21", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my CEO snort in a meeting.", "post": "Now reddit here is a little bit of information:\nMy laugh is a funny laugh. My colleagues tries not to make me laugh too hard because they'll end up not able to contain theirs too. Why? Because I snort, and that snort induces more laughter when they hear it. It's going to be a non-stop snorting (sorry no coke) session for me (I cannot stop until I'm tired, I think it's genetics) while they hold their tummies for their dear life.\n\nLast Friday an Executive Meeting is being held at our company. I am one of those guys who get to sit in the long table and listen to the CEO's (she's a woman in her mid 40's and is very very demure) babbling and babbling about stuff when in fact he already rehearsed it in front of me earlier to check for inconsistencies.\n\nNow being the idiot that I am, I began browsing r/jokes on my phone (phones are allowed in the meeting) and something came up that made me giggle, nobody looked at me. So I guess that's a good sign. You know that feeling of built-up laughter? I managed it by faking a cough. Post after post the build-up grew, and I was starting to think of stopping then and there. But it was too late.\n\nWhen I came into this:\n\nIt backfired. I burst out laughing and then there goes the chorus of snorting that sounds like a frog gasping for air. All 20+ company heads are looking at me and I got all of them amused and laughing  in no time. By the time the CEO joins in there's no sound coming from my laughter anymore just the constant snort while gasping for air because who knew the CEO snorts while laughing too? She tried to cover her mouth to hide the snorting but it managed to come out of her so she just went with it and we all had a good time to laugh our hearts out.\n\nAfter the meeting she called me and asked me: \"DO THAT NEXT TIME AND YOU'LL GET FIRED!\"", "summary": "TIFU by making my boss step out of her comfort zone and almost fired me via phone call."}
{"id": "t3_1lasti", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I pursue a relationship with a beautiful woman 6 years older than me?", "post": "I (25/M) asked a beautiful girl (31/F) out whom I met at a bar last week and we had our first date last night. She seems like a wonderful person, and I am incredibly attracted to her. When I asked her out I thought she was about 23 or 24 since she looks really young, however, I found out last night that she is in fact 31 years old. While 31 is not old in the slightest, she is a bit older than I am, and since I've never been in this situation before, I'm feeling a bit confused. She is in the same place in life as me and is at my maturity level, thus I'm not thinking much about it. It doesn't seem to bother her as well, and she seems really into me. We're scheduled for another date tomorrow night.\n\nAm I right to assume that 6 years is not a significant age gap?", "summary": "I recently asked a beautiful woman out and was surprised to find out that she is 6 years older than me. Is a 6 year age difference that big of a deal?"}
{"id": "t3_1s39ax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My son [17 M] is dating an Asian [17 F] girl but her parents are making it difficult.", "post": "Original Post: \n\nThank you for all the responses! A quick", "summary": "After their first date was cancelled by her parents, they invite him on a group/family date. It goes well. The next day she sends him pictures of her family wedding rings."}
{"id": "t3_3vtb1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F M] ended things with my GF [17 F] of 8 months, how do you make a breakup hurt less?", "post": "I understand that 8 months is not long in the grand scheme of things, but in high school, 8 months feels like forever. I actually have a hard time remembering when I wasn't with this girl.\n\nI loved her more than anything but had to call the relationship off as I leave for university in 5 months and figured I had to rip the bandage off sooner rather than later. A month ago she also told me that she wasn't in love with me any more due to stress and circumstances as she has not been able to focus on the relationship.\n\nShe promised that she would fall back in love with me as she still had feelings for me, but it felt like shit. I thought that if she fell out of love in the first place, I wasn't the right guy for her.\n\nLast night I was texting with her and I let an \"I love you\" slip out on accident and of course she didn't reciprocate the feelings. That was the straw that broke the camel's back as it dawned on me that our relationship truly had fallen apart. I drove over to her house and collected my clothes and sat down to talk with her.\n\nI said that I loved her more than anything and I still am in love with her, but we would not work out without reciprocated feelings. I told her that this would be better for her as she can now find somebody who is less broken and who is better for her. She deserves the world and I could not give that to her.\n\nShe was crying and I was very close to that point.\n\nThe point is that we are over now and I feel rather empty. How can I get over this feeling?", "summary": "Broke up with gf, feel like shit. How can I get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_1gv8ne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[28M] girlfriend [28F] of 4 months is moving back to Korea.", "post": "We met in February. It was a long chase... took me like 5 weeks before she'd go on a date with me... normally I don't chase girls but there was something about her that just drew me in.\n\nWell long story short, we dated for a few months. She was amazing, my dream girl.\n\nShe went to visit her family in Korea for a couple of weeks... I was surprised by how much I missed her. She came home on the 19th... we hang out the next day... I had news for her... I was going to tell her that I had strong feelings for her and wanted us to move in together. She had news for me, too. \"Okay, you first!\" I tell her.\n\nShe's dropping her classes and moving back to Korea.\n\nSo yeah I'm more than a little heartbroken right now. This hurts more than other breakups because nothing even happened. Nobody cheated, nobody did anything wrong, nobody hurt the other... she's just decided to move back home. I know I'm never going to forget her and what we shared. I'll never forget how her hair felt in my hands, or how her face felt against mine, or her smooth skin, or how safe I felt with her and that soft voice she used during private moments.\n\n*The Story of Chong Kaeguri - There was a mother frog and her son. Her son always did the opposite of what she told him to do. One day she was old and dying, and knew she didn't have much time left. So she told her son, knowing he always did the opposite, \"You must not bury me on the mountain side. You must bury me on the bank of the river.\" Her son promised he would bury her on the bank of the river. In the morning the mother frog died, and her son said \"I always did the opposite of what she told me. I was a bad son, but today I will do what she asked me.\" He buried his mother on the bank of the river. But then the monsoon rains came and washed away the grave of his mother, and the little frog sat there crying. And that is why, whenever it rains, green frogs cry.", "summary": "Fell in love with this girl and now she's moving to another country, FML."}
{"id": "t3_v93hq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting a dog together", "post": "My boyfriend and I are in our early twenties. We plan on getting engaged when we have the funds. Still in school, live in separate parts of the state. We've been dating for three years.\n\nHe's moving to my town this fall to work while I'm in vet school. We're going to live together. That's already been decided. But now he wants to get a dog \"together\" (he pays) and got upset when I said I wasn't ready.\n\nGuys, I get super attached to my pets.. My dog back home is like my child, seriously. And although I don't think it would happen, if he left me and kept the dog I would just be double heartbroken. \n\nI don't have the time or money to get a dog myself, but he wants to get one and share it. Am I wrong to be nervous about this?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants dog; offended that I don't think I'm ready."}
{"id": "t3_2b6h7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] am sure that my husband [28M] of 5 years has some sort of mental illness. He refuses to get help.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for five years, together for seven. He's always had a temper and been a little whiny, but it was nothing that ever bothered me. Over the past year or so, it's gotten BAD. And his behavior is super bizarre at times. Some examples...\n\nSomething as small as him asking me to rub his feet and me saying \"in a bit\" will turn into him saying \"FINE. Get the fuck out then\". If I ask a question about anything, he says \"I don't fucking know, don't talk to me\". \n\nRecently I got up in the middle of the night to pee. When I came back, the bedroom door was shut and locked, and my pillow was outside. I was too tired to sit there and deal with that, so I got a bobbypin and picked the lock. When I got in, he said he was testing me and I failed because if I really loved him, I would have asked him to open the door.\n\nThe other day he woke me up in the middle of a nap to ask what I wanted. I asked what he meant and he just said \"WHAT DO YOU WANT. I'M SO MAD AT YOU\" and left the room.\n\nHe blames me for a lot that isn't at all my fault. If he loses something, or someone says/does something to him, it's my fault. \n\nI'm positive something is not mentally right. Stuff like I've listed above happens DAILY. I've told him before that maybe he should seek help for it, and he said if I ever asked again, he'd divorce me. He hates teachers and doctors (no clue why...he's always had issues with them) so I think that's part of the reason he won't go. \n\nIt's at the point where I feel like I need to walk on eggshells around him and it's draining me. I can't force him to do anything, but I feel like I would be a really shitty person if I left him when he's obviously in need of *something*.", "summary": "I think my husband needs psychiatric help, but he refuses. I don't know what the hell I'm supposed to do."}
{"id": "t3_4julz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20f) boyfriend (22m) was hiding a big part of his life from me, should I be upset?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 months. We go to the same university and we both live away from home during term time. I went to visit my parents for a week after I finished exams and he invited me over to stay with him for 2 weeks. \n\nI packed a bag and went to stay with him at his parents house. When I got there I realised that he lives in an enormous estate with a stable, 2 swimming pools, tennis courts, it was the biggest house i'd ever seen. I thought he was taking me to a country club or something along those lines until I found out that's his parents house.\n\nHis dad owns a huge company and has a supercar collection, I was shocked that he never even told me about any of this and we've been dating for 3 months. I feel like we were getting serious, but him not telling me, not even a hint, makes me think he's not as serious about this relationship as I am.\n\nI wasn't even mentally prepared for any of this. His parents took us out to a very fancy restaurant, it was black tie formal and I only had jeans and shirts packed. I feel completely ambushed by all of this and it would've been nice to know at least. Am I being irrational or do I have a right to feel upset?", "summary": "university boyfriend invited me to stay with his parents for a while, found out his family is insanely rich. I wasn't mentally prepared and I didn't pack appropriate clothes for anything that his parents had planned. Is he just not as serious about this long-term as I am?"}
{"id": "t3_fkj8o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Look what you did to me Valentine's Day", "post": "Throwaway account\n\nSo to give a bit of a back story: My first love (yes I am 25 years old and fell in love for the first time at the old age of 24) broke up with me this past July, one month before I moved to France (I am here for a year). His reasons for the breakup had nothing to do with my move, it was more along the lines that we were not compatible. However, the relationship was really fun and we did love one another. My heart still aches for what we had but I do not miss him specifically. \n\nI recently learned that he is in love again with someone he met at work and he is pursuing her hard. He is pulling out all the stops. (Yes, I know. I should block him, etc. Easier said than done.) It makes me really sad to know that this girl is getting the best of what he has to offer, and it seems very clear that he is head over heels in love with her and way more so than he ever was with me. It just hurts. \n\nTo top it off, I am in France with no boyfriend. It is not that I mind being single...okay, it does. But it is just that he is in love and I have no one. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and I am just feeling overall shitty. The guy I did like turned me down last week and it just feels like I will forever be alone. \n\nI know, go ahead and turn on the tiny violins for my not-really sad life. But please, broken hearts hurt and if anyone is out there who can give me some advice I would truly appreciate it. Also, if anyone wants to chat or something on Valentine's Day that would be nice. I hate that I care about Valentine's Day because it is just a greeting card holiday. But hey, I am a girl and deep down, I care very much for all the love stuff. Here are some recent pictures of me just in case you are curious:", "summary": "Feeling forever alone right now after learning my ex is madly in love. Anyone out there want to cheer up a lonely girl?"}
{"id": "t3_1x7fvo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU with ether", "post": "So this is my boss' and my TIFU. Not all my fault. \n\nIt is very cold in Wyoming right now, -35* this morning. I work on a ranch, and our work trucks are old. I got there at 8, and went to start the hay truck we use to to feed the horses with. It turned over, but wouldn't catch. My boss came out, and we worked on it for an hour, blowing warm air into the intake, and jumping it. It was just so cold there were no gas fumes to catch. Our next option was ether. We grabbed a can and tried it, but not even ether worked. \n\nWe are now two hours into our work day and absolutely nothing has been accomplished. Our extremities are very cold, and we're running out of options. My boss says he has one more idea and runs off. He returns with a big bottle of propane, with a wand attached that produced hot flames. He asked if this was safe, and I said no. I was worried he would melt something. \n\nNow my boss is ex Amish, and they have a bad habit of ignoring whatever women say. \n\nHe ignored me and held the torch to the intake while I cranked it. \n\nI went to the front of the truck, and I saw smoke drifting up. Slowly my boss became more and more agitated. He's very Christian, so his curse words consisted of \"shucks\" and \"shoot\". Then he started cursing in low German. Suddenly he started scrambling every which way. He poured a mug of water over the intake cover, and shoved snow up it. \n\nI had picked up the fire wand and I slowly dragged the propane back, holding my breath, waiting for it to explode. \n\nThank the gods, it didn't. That cold, I guess. But if it had, it would have been nasty. My new truck was parked next to it, and there was lots of hay on the bed. \n\nThe air filter is toasted(literally), nice and black. And four hours of our busy work day gone.", "summary": "flame then ether. Not the other way around."}
{"id": "t3_1v4ks1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [22F] I[24M] love has bpd...what can I do to make it work, or am I just setting myself up for pain?", "post": "I am really in love with a girl who has BPD. We aren't officially together...though we sort of act like a couple. I think it's also worth mentioning that her previous boyfriend dumped her about about 2 months ago.\n\nShe's wonderful and for the most part we get along great. The only issue is that she has BPD. A big issue. She can go from loving me one week to hardly speaking the next. She also has been prone to some really bizarre lying which is the worst part of it for me.\n\nI understand that a lot of it is the personality disorder. Can I help her get through this? Or at least manage it. I truly do love her. Is it not worth the pain? I would love to hear from people who have dated those with BPD or are in a relationship with one.", "summary": "Girl I have strong feelings for has borderline personality disorder. How can I make it work? Or is it not worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_33ahbc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (21f) learn to not feel sad when the passion dies down?", "post": "I'm the lurkiest of lurkers, so I know how helpful you all can be. :)\n\nA wee bit of background: I haven't had many good relationships. Most were semi-abusive, fwb, sad experiences. I'm not here to throw a pity party though. My point is this: my past relationships all folowed the same (and pretty normal, as far as relationships go) pattern: He is amazed and aroused beyond belief by me, treats me like a queen, then within a month, I'm barely interesting enough to initiate a conversation with, let alone spend time with.\n\nSo I completely understand that the honeymoon ending thing is normal! And logically, I'm 100% ok with that! It's just how things work, and I get it. My problem is that the honeymoon feelings don't really end for me. 4 months in, he's over the passion, but I need just as spiced up about him as I did the first day!\n\nNow onto my present relationship: it is INCREDIBLE!! :) This man is everything I could have wanted and much more than I deserve. We treat each other beautifully and he makes me feel loved every single day. \n\nHere's where I need help. We're at that point that all relationships reach where we're not jumping each others bones anymore, not initiating as much, etc. And that's totally fine with me!! at least, it is logically. But because of the way I've been treated in the past, or maybe it's just me being weird, I have a very hard time not feeling really really sad when its been a while and he still doesn't seem too interested in sexy times.\n\nThis is definitely a problem with ME and not HIM. He will never reject me if I initiate, he will always reciprocate, always do everything he possibly can to make me happy. So it's an internal problem I have. can SOMEONE please tell me how to get over these feelings of sadness when the lust dies down? Because my BF is incredible!! and He doesn't deserve to have a GF who's in a bad mood over something silly like this. I'm trying to better myself for him. :)", "summary": "I want to be a great GF for my BF. He won't ever reject my initiations, but I can tell when he's not as in the mood as I am. Which is 100% with me! But how can i get past feeling sad when his lust isn't as crazy as mine?"}
{"id": "t3_306zlx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M], I feel like I am going crazy", "post": "For some reason, I have been feeling very weird lately. I have become a very angry, mean person over the past few months. It doesn't not take much for me to get annoyed, one little thing goes wrong and I can go from being okay to extremely upset. \n\nI feel like I am never happy. I have tried forcing a smile and walking around but I just feel like I am weird smiling. I always feel like people are watching me and judging how i dress/look. It fucks with me all the time. \n\nThe reason this is all fucking with me is because my relatioship with my gf is going downhill fast. I have been mean to her on numerous occasions. She has told me that I am bipolar, and it kills me to think that she thinks this.", "summary": "I am going crazy I think"}
{"id": "t3_2z61uv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [22 F] of two years won't have sex now we live with her parents", "post": "So just after Christmas I moved in with my girlfriend and her parents to remove the long distance from our relationship. We pretty much lived together whilst at university so had a great sex life, however she just won't have sex with me while at her parents' house. \n\nI've asked her before if there's some kind of house rule about it from her parents (who are ok mostly but quite strict with her) and she tells me it's just her not having a libido. However I found out that she's used sex toys when I've not been in so I don't think it's that.\n\nIf I try bring the subject of sex up with her she goes all quiet and seems upset, I just don't understand what the problem is as her room isn't even next to her parents. \n\nHow can I talk to her about how it's making me feel without her getting upset? Hopefully we'll move out soon but I've not been able to find a job yet so could be months!", "summary": "Girlfriend won't have sex now we live with her parents and won't talk to me about it."}
{"id": "t3_518ecq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Baffled by my [19F] boyfriend's [22M] family not turning their heater on when it's cold", "post": "OK first off, this is a total non-problem for me since I don't sleep over often.  It, however, has been baffling me for a bit and I'd like some opinions.  My boyfriend complains frequently about how cold it is at home, especially at night, and describes how he sleeps with several blankets and sweats to keep warm.  I've asked him multiple times why his family doesn't just turn the heater on, but he dodges the question.  They're solidly middle class software engineers so I doubt money is a factor.  It's such a mystery to me, and if any of you know of plausible explanations I'd appreciate some insight!", "summary": "Boyfriend's family doesn't use their heater even when it's cold--WHY?!"}
{"id": "t3_t2t9m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU- My brain decided to go racist.", "post": "I was in American History class. My class is mainly black kids, and I am Hispanic.\nEveryone was talking in class and pissing me off before i gave my speech/presentation on a project i did. It some how ended up in a racial debate. A Black kid said \"Why are most blacks thought to be thief's, and gang banger?\" I answered with this (What i thought i said \"Well, its a stereotype of your race, as there are ones about mine.\") Instead i said \"Well, its a stereotype of your species...\" And right there, everyone (black) in my class stood up and started yelling call me a racist, i was trying to explain what happened. Now when ever i go into that class i don't say shit, i don't feel like getting jumped anytime soon.", "summary": "I accidentally said something racist in front of a group of black kids. (Some are pretty ghetto.)"}
{"id": "t3_11armv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] have some major trust issues and I need some advice on how to deal with my bf [23m] going out without me.", "post": "Here is some background information, I [20f] have some major deep seeded trust issues from a childhood filled with abandonment, an alcoholic parent, and many years of emotional abuse. I should probably add in that I have self esteem and confidence issues, as well. Also, I am currently in therapy for all of these problems. I have been dating my bf [23m] for 4 months now.\n\nHe has a very tight-knit group of friends that he goes to bars with one or two nights a week. I have met every single one of his friends; I like them and they like me. He tells me in detail what he does while he is out. But at least one of the nights he is out, he gets pretty hammered. I am not the kind of person to tell him what not to do (aside from the normal things like cheating and approaching other attractive girls while he is out). And I genuinely trust his sober decisions. The problem, however, is that I **do not** trust alcohol in the amount that he drinks or the other girls out at the same time. It just kills me that I can't be there to 'defend my territory'.\n\nEverything else in our relationship is wonderful. He makes me laugh and I love being around him. The sex is more than fantastic, etc. My only question is how the hell am I supposed to deal with this? And for those of you who tell me to talk to him, we communicate very well and he knows about my discomfort and it makes him happy that I can trust him enough to not tell him what to do. All I want is advice on how to make myself get over this or feel better temporarily.", "summary": "I have trust issues and need advice on how to deal with my bf going to bars frequently with his friends."}
{"id": "t3_m15mg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how can I afford a wedding?", "post": "my girlfriend, the love of my life, my partner, and I want to get married. we've spoken extensively to each other about it, and have wholeheartedly decided that it is purely because we love each other and plan to be together forever, blah blah blah.\n\nwe are not religious. we do not have extravagant dreams of a fairy tale wedding. we are down to earth, spiritual with nature to a certain degree, and want more than anything else a meaningful experience for ourselves, our families, and maybe a few close friends.\n\nwe are also on a very tight budget, and have limited free time. what are some cheap ways to procure delicious food stuffs, good alcohol, and an overall good time, on the cheap? pot luck? byob? any ideas are welcome.", "summary": "my gf and I want to get married whilst pinching pennies, how do we do it?"}
{"id": "t3_40689t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(30f) wondering if I want kids someday, is nearly driving me crazy.", "post": "I'm 30 years old, and in a 7-month  relationship with someone that I don't even know I'll end up with. He has a 4 year old daughter, and I do love her, but at the same time I like time to myself.   I feel so selfish when he has her (1 day a week), and I want to go do my own thing. At the same time, I honestly can't think of anything better to do with my time, and I feel like my life is \"missing something\" by not having a family. I think that having a family would be a great blessing.\n\nI found out a few months ago, that it may be hard for me to have children, which is why I think its been on my mind so much. Especially with wondering if I'm even with the right man at this point (I'd like to have kids sooner than later, if at all)\nI'm starting to see a counselor because on top of this stress, i also suffer from SAD. \n\nCan anyone offer any kind words of advice? What is wrong with me?", "summary": "I love the idea of having time to myself, but am honestly miserable and feel so alone, like something is really missing in my life. I'm so unhappy without a family and it's kind of driving me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_20nm1q", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: pushed through the pain and went hiking!", "post": "I started eating paleo last year, which has really helped me lose weight and keep it off. Part of the reason I switched to a paleo diet is because I have severe, chronic sciatica, and I wanted to see if going on an anti-inflammatory diet would help. It totally did! The pain was still there, but on a smaller scale, and I lost like forty pounds!\n\nUnfortunately, I fell off the wagon over the holidays, gained some weight back (I've lost most of it again since March 1), and my sciatica has returned full force. I am so sick of living with sciatica, and I decided not to let it control me anymore.\n\nSo I went hiking on Saturday! I made it about twenty minutes (not counting two breaks for sitting/photos) before decided to turn back, and then I made it another ten minutes before I felt like my legs were filled with broken glass that also happened to be on fire. Thankfully, my pain hasn't been any worse than normal since then.\n\nI used to take things like hiking and shopping and just standing around for granted, and I vowed that if my sciatica went away, I would get more active and enjoy doing all of those things. Then I decided I didn't need to wait. :)", "summary": "have sciatica, went hiking anyway, totally worth it"}
{"id": "t3_wx4t6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF goes out late with ex-sex partners, not ok with it", "post": "Me (26), Her (27) - So my GF of 8 months has a few guy friends with questionable pasts. One guy is a fuckbuddy she used to work with, another is some guy she claims she \"barely slept with\" before me.\n\nAnyway - she goes out with them to bars and clubs and stays out drinking until 2 and 3 in the morning. Last night she didn't answer any of my texts and basically left me to wonder when the fuck she was heading home and in what condition.\n\nThis was with a guy I haven't met. He's single and texts her all the time. It drives me nuts. We had a fight about this months ago and nearly broke up over it. I said I would try to 'get over it' and trust her but really? She's admitted to cheating on past boyfriends. This one guy tried to have a relationship with here RIGHT before me, and I have serious doubts he's over the rejection. \n\nAm I being ridiculous and controlling here or would other guys be ok with this? Would you be ok with your GF hanging out this late with ex sex partners? Do you really believe if *I* were doing this with other women she'd be ok with it? She claims she would be, but since I don't have any ex friends I can't exactly call her on it.", "summary": "GF still hangs out with ex partners late into the night, I'm worried"}
{"id": "t3_1wkllm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "how do you deal with hypocrites?", "post": "boyfriend [m32] gets mad if I[f25] have guy friends..\nbut he's allowed to have girl friends.\n\nyesterday, i brought over a friend i went to school with. who is litterally just a friend.. and im pretty sure neither of us are harboring any feelings towards each other..\n\nmy boyfriend fully believes that guys and girls cannot be friends. atleast in my case.. cause he can have girl friends.. he's even lived with one once.. while we were going out.\nof course i was upset about that.. but he was like.. \"im just helping her out\".. so i dealt with it..\n\nbut the one time i bring over a friend.. he gets upset.. hes like.. \"i dont remember inviting that guy here why did u bring him here..\"\n\ni said whats wrong with that.. you bring your friends over..\n\nim pretty sure its just cause hes a guy..\nif i brought a girl friend over he wouldnt be like this..\n\nunfortunately im one of those chicks who have more guy friends than girl friends..\n\none time i was hanging with some friends late one time, and decided to stay over cause it was getting late, called him to let him know..\nnext day he was upset cause he found out there were guys there too.\nit was me, my friend emily, and a couple guys.\n(promise did not cheat - literally just friends hanging out)\n\nbut.... this one time he crashed at this girls house too.. with a couple.\nso it was him, this girl, and this couple. he didnt even call me to let me know what was going on.. so he stayed the night, didnt call..\nbut thats okay for him, cause his phone \"died and he got high and passed out\". so its okay for him.. but not okay for me.\n\nwhatt??", "summary": "boyfriend isnt being fair. also, im not allowed to have friends who are guys."}
{"id": "t3_123w59", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19f] My boyfriend [21m] just told me he's transgender.", "post": "(I know I should probably be referring to him as 'she' rather than 'he,' but for the sake of clarity I'm going to stick to male pronouns.)\n\nWe've only been dating for about 3 months, but we really like each other, and things have been going really well. But about a week ago he told me that there was something really important that he needed to tell me; he's actually a transgender woman, and he's been taking hormones to start transitioning.\n\nNow its not that I'm disgusted by him now or anything, I think we could probably continue the way we have been and be perfectly happy, for now. But my problem is that I'm pretty sure that I'm completely straight, and I can't see myself being attracted to him once he starts living as a female...\n\nSo my question is, do you think it would be better to continue the relationship for now, in the hopes that maybe I actually will still be attracted to him in the future, or would it just be better to break up before we get any more attached? Part of me really wants to give it a try on the off chance that it'll work out, but I don't know if I can be in a relationship where I'm pretty sure there's no long-term potential...", "summary": "My boyfriend is actually my girlfriend. Should I give it a try anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_3p1tba", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Became a human chair", "post": "Lurker for a while, first post. This was way back in 7th grade, going about my regular day as a pretty nerdy guy who never really talked to girls. However, I had noticed who the most popular and hottest girl in school was. She never really looked my way, but I still felt like I had a chance. For now, let's call her Sam.\n\nI have always been able to do a \"trick\" where I sit like I'm on a chair, but it's on a wall. People would often be surprised by it, as if they've never seen it before. One day, during the after-lunch period where everyone goes outside, but it wasn't quite recess. I was just hanging out by the door, waiting for the bell to ring, in full chair position, when Sam and a group of popular people come up to me and start asking me if i'll move if they do something. I respond that it depends, and then, out of nowhere, Sam comes over and sits on me, as if i was a chair. I know what most people would say, which is \"Don't move and she'll be into you\", but my stupid mind immediately went and stood up, almost letting her fall. Got called out for it many times during that year.", "summary": "acted like a chair, got sat on by hot girl, stood up and let her fall."}
{"id": "t3_2syf3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 M] planning on meeting up with this girl [20 F] but need help picking the location of first date?", "post": "Like a lot of people, I use Tinder pretty casually just to pass the time. Once in awhile, I'll come across someone who stands out and who is witty, fun talk to talk to, and just cool in general. That happened 3 weeks when I started talking to this girl.\n\nOver the past 3 weeks, we've communicated a lot through text and have talked a few times on the phone for a few hours at a time. I always look forward to talking to her and it's apparent that we click really well. \n\nThe next logical step I feel is to meet up and see what happens. I know she wants to and if all goes well, we'll meet up later this week. \n\nIt really has to be this week because she is still a student and is going abroad for the semester (leaving within the next 2 weeks and coming back mid-May) so we have a tight \"meet up\" window to work with. My thinking was, if we go out on let's say Thursday of this week and things go well, we could go out on a second date this coming weekend and establish a little bit of a foundation/familiarity with one another before she leaves.\n\nThose issues aside, my main concern right now is where to meet up with her. I'm used to dating girls right around my age (+/- 1 year) so I'm used to meeting up for a drink because it's casual and easy to have some good conversation. However, because she's under 21, that is off the table. I'm also not a coffee/tea drinker and we'd most likely be meeting sometime in the evening. I just need a place where we both can be heard and she can feel comfortable. \n\nAny suggestions based on personal experience would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Have been talking to this girl for 3 weeks via text/phone calls. She leaves to go abroad in <2 weeks so now is really my only opportunity to meet up with her. Since she is under 21, I can't meet up for drinks with her, like I'd normally do. Need ideas on possible first date places"}
{"id": "t3_2xtc1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 M] boyfriend doesn't really have a plan for his life yet and I'm [32 F] not sure what to do.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 months. He lives with his cousin's family. His cousin is in the military and is deployed, so he helps out his cousin's wife by watching her 4 kids and in exchange, lives there for reduced rent. He works retail part time too. Well, the cousin and his family got orders to move in June. I'm concerned because my boyfriend doesn't have a plan for what he's going to do when they leave. He doesn't make much money and we live in a very expensive city. He says he wants to go back to school and that he wants a better job, and he's applied a few places, but he seems to spend his days hanging out with the kids, playing video games, getting high, and sometimes working. \n\nI work a full-time job, have my own place with a mortgage, no kids, a degree; I have my shit together (generally). I would like to have kids in the next two to five years. Its very important to me. But to do that, I need a partner who can bring in some income that's on par with mine. Right now, I make about 3x more than he does. \n\nI asked him what his plan for the next few months was and he said that he wanted to go to school. But more than that, he wants to take it one day at a time. In short, he doesn't have a plan. He's not looking for places to live (I offered my place as a short-term solution, but I feel like he should still make an effort to find his own place). He's looking around for a better job, but I don't see much effort there either. I love this guy, I love his family, but I don't want to find myself in June, almost 33 and still without a plan on if I'm on my way to having a family or not. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I want kids in the next 2-5 years. He is semi-failing to launch. Help."}
{"id": "t3_exqvu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would it be acceptable to get my dad's dogs spayed without telling him?", "post": "My dad has three beagle dogs.  He's always had beagles as he is a fairly avid rabbit hunter.  The problem is he has never gotten any of his dogs spayed/neutered.  I've tried to talk to him time after time about how he should do it but he refuses.  He frequently uses some bullshit argument about how he doesn't like how it changes their personalities.  Trying to convince him that it should be done is impossible.  \n\nRecently one of his dog's had [puppies]  There were four and he's managed to find a home for one of them.  He plans on keeping one himself but there are still two without homes.  They turn 8 weeks old today.  He keeps trying to post on craigslist and wonders why he gets flagged every time.\n\nHe basically breeds dogs.  He doesn't do it every time they're in heat but once is too many as far as I'm concerned.  I picked my two dogs up from the pound and have tried to tell him that's there are always plenty of beagles there he could adopt instead of breeding the ones he has.  Again, he can't be reasoned with.  \n\nSo the only way I see anything changing is to get the two females he has spayed.  I figure this could be done and he wouldn't ever really notice.  If I got the male neutered, which I would like to do as well, it would be fairly noticeable.  I'm wondering if this would be advisable at all.  \n\nI don't live with him but I live close enough that I have access to the dogs.  There's also a matter of me being broke at the moment but I'd like to look into getting it done when it does become an option financially.  Both dogs are somewhere between 2-4 years old and I know he has intentions to breed them again in the future.  Why?  Because he's a dumbfuck.", "summary": "basically, the title."}
{"id": "t3_13xa36", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, has a family member ever dated someone you have already had sex with but you've been unable to tell them out of shame?", "post": "When I was 18, I was fond of going down to the local RSA (returned services association) to play darts and drink huge quantities of cheap beer with all the old timers. One night I got talking to this woman in her mid-forties who keep paying for my drinks after I had run out of cash. \n\nI of course ended up completely off my face so she kindly offered to let me stay on her couch for the night. We got back to her place and she continued plying me with rum and bourbon and before I knew it we were in her bed with her thighs wrapped around my head. \n\nI must have passed out after this as I woke up in the morning alone in her bed in a huge pool of my own piss. While trying to sneak out the front door without her noticing I walked past a kid of about 12 years old on the couch who demanded to know who I was. This of course brought my unfortunate partner from the night before (his Mum) out of the kitchen and she proceeded to give me the dirtiest get-the-fuck-out-of-my-house-before-I-stab-you-look so I scarpered out of there and walked the 10kms home reeking of piss.\n\nSeveral months later I'm hanging out with my Dad on the weekend and he tells me he wants to introduce me to someone special. A short drive from his house, we pull into a very familiar driveway and he introduces me to his new girlfriend who also happened to be (and still is) the most embarrassing and traumatic one night stand I've ever had in my life.\n\nHe broke up with her after a few months but I was too mortified to tell him until a couple of years ago.", "summary": "Me (18) takes home a woman (40s) has terrible sex with her and pisses in her bed. Several months later my Dad starts dating her and has no idea."}
{"id": "t3_2525fu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend (Both of us 16m) of two years doesn't actual support anything that I do.", "post": "My best friend and I are both apart of a lot of music programs in my school. (Percussion) He is better,  and more popular, but I'm involved in a lot more than he is. Any who, whenever I tryout for something,  sign up for something,  or have to preform something in school or out he always doubts me and never thinks that I can accomplish it. And when I do he's just like ohh cool. \n\nYesterday,  we got papers for band placements, as in leaders and such. And I thought I would tryout this year, and you need 5 signatures from other people in  your class to get it. So i signed his paper for VP, and I ask him to sign mine for junior representative,  and he said he wont because he doesn't think that im fit for the job. There is no job, they dont actually do anything,  but I was actually kinda offended that he wouldnt sign it. Hes probably the least emotional person I know, but I want to talk to him about it, not about signatures but why he wouldn't sign it. He does this with everything that i do and im getting kinda tired of it.  What should I do Reddit?", "summary": "Best friend of two years doesn't actually believe that I can to anything productive."}
{"id": "t3_35977g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 M] with my crush [13 F] and my friend [13 M] duration, short-description", "post": "We all are seventh graders at a relatively small school, and we all are 13. My friend, lets call him \"John\" (Male; been friends for about half a year). Knows who I like, lets call my crush \"Isabella\" (Female; I have been liking her for about two weeks). John doesn't likes someone, and knows who I like. He was flirting with Isabella a couple of times.\n\nI am really nervous and I don't know what to do. I talked to my crush a lot, and we are kind of in the friend zone. I think Isabella likes John. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My friend is flirting with my crush (and know who she is). I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3q6woz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by comparing someone to Hitler at a Jewish wedding.", "post": "Okay so this actually happened last night, but still in the last 24 hours. Although I wish it wasn't, this story is 100% real.\n\nSo I attended my boyfriend's boss's Jewish wedding last night. It had an open bar, lots of dancing - pretty much a good time was had by all. At one point my boyfriend left me alone, so I did what anyone else would do surrounded by a bunch of people they don't know: hop on Reddit. I read the article on the philosophy of killing baby Hitler, which talks a little about how depriving the Nazi party of such a charismatic leader could have been enough to nip WWII in the bud. My boyfriend returns and I get up to dance, still pondering Hitler's infamous charisma.\n\nLet me mention here that the company my SO works for is all Russian guys, save him and this other guy, who we'll call Phil, because that's his name. Now Phil doesn't really fit in with everyone else (as a young, tattooed, black kid he stands out in a room full of Russian Jews) but is literally one of the most charming people I've ever met. He's dancing with grandma, playing with the kids, flirting with the ladies and everyone's eating it up. He's just one of those \"it-factor\" people; EVERYONE loves Phil.\n\nAnyways, we get done dancing the Hora (I think that's what the chair dance is called?) and my boyfriend asks if I want to go down to the hotel's lobby and smoke a cigarette. We're both laughing about how enthusiastic Phil was during the chair dance as we approach the elevator. We stand there with a group of older guests waiting for the elevator, talking about Phil when I say, \"Phil is so charismatic... like he has a Hitler level of charisma.\" It was like fucking slow motion as I turn to see all these old Jewish people just staring at me in disbelief. My boyfriend mouths *what the fuck* and I decide there's no way in hell I'm going to ride the elevator 15 floors with these people. I turn around and book it as fast as my stilettos would take me to the bathroom and hid.", "summary": "Went to a wedding. Reddit made me think about Hitler. Compared someone to Hitler positively in front of a bunch of old Jewish people."}
{"id": "t3_3chl0a", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "slightly late paying speeding ticket HELP!", "post": "So i got a speeding ticket in Georgia back in May and today was my scheduled court date. I live far away from Georgia and was just passing through as part of a road trip. I knew i had to pay buy July 7 online, but i got the date confused because of the long holiday weekend (i thought today was monday). My scheduled court time was 2PM and i remembered and paid online around 5:15PM. I called the clerks office immediately but they were already closed. I'm going to call first thing tomorrow but the anxiety is driving me crazy! What is going going to happen to me? Am I going to be ok since i paid on the same date?", "summary": "Court appearance for ticket was 2PM and i paid around 5 online. Worried about repercussions."}
{"id": "t3_4wty8g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18M] have known for my best friend[18F] for about two years and I think I liked her. But I don't know how or if I should approach her about it.", "post": "I guess some back story about how our friendship is. We met about a year ago in our algebra 2 class and we sorta worked up our friendship throughout the year (I was a huge introvert who basically had no friends and hardly talked to anyone in school) it started off with her asking for my help in the class since she had trouble understanding what exactly the teacher was saying, so I basically played as her tutor for the entire year and then we started hanging out outside of school that summer and got to know each other really well.  like we found out that we were born in the same hospital only a week apart (she calls me a baby since she's older and I call her a grandma since she played a grandma for acting) I got to know her family and her mother recently came out and told me that out of all of her friends I was her favorite. (I tend to help them around doing lawnwork since her dad isn't around that often as he travels for work)  honestly at first I was just happy to have made a great friend but as I hung out with her more I noticed all the great things about her. She has a fantastic personality and is incredibly fun to be around, she's beautiful, can act,sing, play piano, and is a amazing artist. We're kind of opposites in the way that she's really loud and outgoing but I'm really quiet and am a bit less engaging then her.I really like her but I'm not sure if I should ask her out, mainly because I'm a little scared that if I do it might change the way we act around eachother and I don't really want that.", "summary": "me and my friend know eachother pretty well and I like her but I'm not sure how to ask her or if I even should."}
{"id": "t3_40zq72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with guy I'm dating [21 M] 3 months, doesn't want anything serious but actions confusing", "post": "He said he is not looking for anything serious. He's only been single after two year relationship since May 2015. Said relationships are 'draining'. \nWe hang out once a week. I wish it to be more. \nHe only ever really comes to mine when he is \"free\". Never any real urgency about wanting to see me when we could after work. It's always gotta be when we both aren't working the next day so he can stay over. I wouldn't mind going to his house for a dinner? \n\nWe do dates like hikes, museums etc\nWe have sex. \nHe texts me every night asking how my day was. \nThis usually follows with a \"I miss you\" text from him. \n\nHe's met my friends and I'm thinking I haven't met his. \nDo I need to back off a bit in this regard? Stop showing him off as if he were my boyfriend?\n\nHe's never actually said \"I like you\". \nI have once. \n\nI wanna let my guard down and get close to him but I can't help feel I'm just something he is using to pass the time by. Which will crush me. \n\nI have so much fun with him and when he leaves I'm left wondering when I'll see him again. I want a relationship where plans are made as we say goodbye.", "summary": "Is this guy interested? Doesn't want s relationship but sends mixed messages. I'm falling for him and want more but I don't think he does? Not sure how to ha she this going forward. "}
{"id": "t3_3lxuh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my new boyfriend [35 M] of 2 months deciding whether or not this is a good idea?", "post": "So i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago and its been going really well, we have the same tastes in things, Similar interests all the stuff that should be going well is. \n\nI really care about him and we've both vocalised this to one another. Not quite love but its quite intense. \n\nHowever, i can't get this feeling out of the back of my head that maybe 35 is a bit ambitious for me. Am i choosing a man that i can't really have anything int he future with because of the age gap? \n\nWe talk about going travelling and meeting his mum in his home country. We even went on a trip this weekend and we had a great time. \n\nThe discussion came up this weekend that after he finishes his degree in summer 2016 that he MIGHT go and work in an abroad country. The problem is I still have 2 more years of my degree to do. \n\nFrom what he is saying, he is keen on something long term, but when he talks about moving for work, i seem to find it a little strange. He said that if we are attached we would make it work, we would come and see each other, but I'm going to be in my final year of my degree, working only 10 hours a week on minimum wage, i can't really afford or have the time to go and see him. \n\nI would feel like I'm missing out on my own social circles. \n\nObviously, i can't hold a grown man back from what he wants to do and i have no intention to, but is there really any point in me in putting effort into something that may eventually end? \n\nAnd am i really just kidding myself on thinking I can actually have a relationship with someone 13 years my senior? Has anyone else achieved this successfuly? Do I have an future with him in the long run or am i just being too hopeful?", "summary": "Bf of 13 years senior MIGHT be leaving at end of his degree. Is there any point in me putting effort into a relationship that may end? Do i really have a foreseeable future with a 35 year old guy?"}
{"id": "t3_10z770", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[m 20's] Unskilled Dater, took advice to wait a while to respond to texts.", "post": "Male, in my 20's, living on the west coast (US). I've been dating girls for the last year or two. Before that, no experience with it. I've been looking for a first girlfriend, a relationship.\n\nI've gained a lot of confidence since I first started, frankly I'm great during a date. I'm funny, a nice guy, very, very late-bloomer; my weakest area, however, is communication via text/phone. I always get a little clingy, respond a little too quickly, get nervous/anxious when I don't receive a text within an hour or two of sending one. I've seen 10 or so girls, none for more than a couple months (most I would have been happy to go longer with).\n\nI've been seeing a new girl recently, a few weird things I haven't dealt with before, but I like her, and have taken a friends advice... *don't text back.* Or at least, don't text back for an hour or more after she sends them and...\n\n**It works.** I feel like a dick, not responding when I see the texts, putting it off, but I feel a little less anxious knowing that the ball is in my court. She sends plenty of texts, somewhat affectionate over them, things that I never got from most other girls I've dated and communicated frequently and timely with.\n\nThe only piece that he's advised that I have yet to use has been to not broach a date, to wait and let her ask for one. This seems really off to me; generally, I thought if a guy didn't ask the girl out then she'd figure he wasn't interested and move on, or that she's never asked a guy before and won't think to. My friend says this isn't the case, that it's the opposite. So far, he's been very, very correct with his advice.", "summary": "Guy that usually responds to texts as soon as he sees them is advised to put long gaps in-between received texts and responses, it works very well. Same adviser says to not ask the girl out, wait for her to ask. Guy isn't sure if she'll think he's lost interest and move on."}
{"id": "t3_2ui1j8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex-girlfriend [18 F] together 10 months, apart 4, she and her new boyfriend just broke up and I want to date her again.\"", "post": "Me and my girlfriend broke up 4 months ago because she was feeling taken for granted and became enamored by this other guy. They finally broke up.\n\nWhen me and my girlfriend broke up I played it very cool. I know what my feelings for her are, they're very strong. We still hang out together maybe once a week, once every two weeks and are still friends. Her boyfriend broke up with her tonight and I want her back. What should I do?\n\nShe's very adamant about never getting back with exes, and she still remembers why we broke up. I won't ever take her for granted again, but she doesn't know that.", "summary": "My ex is single again and I want her back. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ic7uv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have been seeing [M24] for 4 months, should I be patient?", "post": "There's the cliche \"This thing happened to me once\" that everyone uses as an excuse to fuck up a seemless relationship. \n\nBase story is: I met this guy online and in the first date thought we hit it off. There was the connection like we were friends forever and haven't seen each other in awhile. We go on a couple of dates and eventually sleep together. \n\nWe see each other once a week or so for about 4 months, and then he finally tells me that I took his virginity. Now as a disclaimer, I don't have a problem with that. But my thoughts immediately go to terrible things such as, \"He may have just used me to lose his virginity or I'm just his way is gaining experience\".\n\nNow I've dated the kind of guy who after 6 months just casually said, \"I think it's time to look for new fuck buddies\". And was completely blown away. Or who asks me to come over to hang out, and makes me sneak away because his girlfriend shows up.\n\nI'm not trying to put labels on a good thing, but I'd like to know that we are in the same boat and not one of us with our feet in the water. He says that, yes, he does hope to gain experience with me, but he says were just getting to know each other. Obviously, but that doesn't answer my question. He says he's not ready for a relationship but wanted to continue to see me. Should I give him more time or an I just wasting my own?", "summary": "I don't think we are on the same page. Should I bail?"}
{"id": "t3_32humu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by punching my dad in the nuts", "post": "This is actually probably more like 21 years ago. We used to have a pool in our backyard and I remember my dad had us all in the pool swimming since we were really young. We'd play fight and all that stuff.\n\nOne time I swam underneath my dad between his legs and punched up, hitting him in the nuts as hard as a 5 year old could. Granted it was through water as well so it probably wasn't THAT hard.\n\nThis is the first memory I have of realizing getting hit there hurts.  My dad grabbed me by my ankle and swung me up out of the water telling me not to \"Ever do that again!!\" \n\nKarma came around when my younger brother found out not to hit people there when he drop kicked me in the nuts shortly after.", "summary": "Swam underneath my dad punched him in the balls."}
{"id": "t3_4q95hu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/21] feel very insecure after finding photos of my boyfriend's ex partners [M/26] on his laptop?", "post": "We've been together nearly a year. \n\nI realise this sounds silly, but I'm a fairly insecure person to begin with. I know I'm not unattractive - far from it - nevertheless, its still the reason that I've waited to have sex and only did so a few months ago with my current boyfriend. I still have difficulty opening up. I've suffered with eating disorders while growing up and although I've recovered, I still find myself constantly doubting myself (although I'm working on it).\n\nAnyways, my laptop broke so I've been using his second laptop and found a few explicit photos of different partners he's had. He said he completely forgot about it, which I doubt considering he was going through all of his photos a couple of months ago and showing me some of the hilarious ones. By doing that, he would inevitably come across them, but I've chosen to ignore that.\nSince seeing them though, I've begun to feel very uncomfortable with myself and/or around him as I no longer feel 'secure' with myself. I realise these are my own issues to deal with and not his, however, I just find it a bit insensitive and feel completely inadequate.", "summary": "Boyfriend has nude photos of his ex girlfriends/partners on his laptop. I feel hurt and inadequate and find myself constantly comparing myself. Am I wrong or overreacting in feeling this way?"}
{"id": "t3_nw3hp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stuck between two friend zones, I need your help", "post": "Okay so let me just get to the point...\n\nFor quite a while now I've been friends with this really attractive girl, I don't really have feelings for her at all. Let's just call her Dana. Anyway, we used to chat quite a lot on Facebook, hang out a lot, text each other frequently, you know the whole shabang. I guess you could say I friendzoned her. I'd say we were almost the best of friends if not the best of friends. Dana literally told me everything and I told her everything. It wasn't up until recently I \"re-met\" a girl from my childhood whom I really liked and still like.\n\nLet's call this girl Rachel. So of course I got to know Rachel and we soon became pretty good friends. I find Rachel really attractive but in this case I started liking her. She would tweet/text/FB msg/talk/etc. at me and vice-versa. I have a very good feeling that I'm stuck in the friendzone with her but this time I did not put her there. I believe she put me there. \n\nAnyway, Rachel and Dana are friends but it's one of those girl-friendships where they act like they like each other on the outside but they do not on the inside. I found this out from a couple of my other lady-friends. Recently though I've been talking to Rachel and right when that happened, Dana stopped talking to me. I feel like the reason is because I like Rachel and because I'm talking to Rachel but I am not for sure on this and I do not want to ask Dana's friends because you know how many women are with gossip and things so I don't want to bring anything up/cause problems. I recently though tried messaging her on Facebook, texting her, etc and to no avail. She would log-off FB right there, ignore my texts and that just left me stranded so to speak. \n\nI really don't know what to do because they're both really attractive women but I really like Rachel and Dana is one of my best friends but she recently stopped talking to me coincidentally when I started talking to Rachel a lot. Please reddit, help me out!", "summary": "I friendzoned a girl who is attracted to me and a girl I like friendzoned me. The one I friendzoned has stopped talking to me and I really don't know what I should do because I believe it has to do with the girl that I like/recently started talking to"}
{"id": "t3_2bia9i", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Help! Need advice for accepting job offer!", "post": "Hi r/jobs! Need some quick advice on a job offer i received for a contractor role. I recently went through an IT talent acquisition firm and got placed with a client of theirs and did well. The firm reached out to me and said they would want me to start as soon as possible, i told them i had to have a 2-3 week time frame to start with them. However, i wanted to actually start a month ~ 4 weeks from now to take some time off as i have been working for a year straight without any PTO so a small getaway would be nice. I told the firm that I am waiting for another job opportunity, which is true, but they havent gotten back to me as far as an interview. So he said that they wanted to know when I can start if I take the job or not otherwise they would have to start looking for other candidates. What can I tell the firm that I want to start 4 weeks from now? Will they blow me off if I delay it any longer especially after how fast they wanted me to start? They were OK with me doing 3 weeks as I told them, but a week longer would it matter?", "summary": "Got a job offer, need advice on what to tell recruiting firm my start date."}
{"id": "t3_38909k", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, I need some advice on a career change", "post": "So, I have been working as an Executive Assistant to the CEO of a Health/Life Insurance Company for about 4 years and I'm not happy about it. I really would like to get involved in the film/media industry. I graduated from college with a B.S in Mass Communications and I really truly want to work in this industry but I feel like I missed the boat. I took my current job because I was just out of college and needed a job asap and it was during the recession and I was scared to leave it once I got it. Now I feel as if I'm stuck but I really want to follow this passion. Any advice  would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.", "summary": "Want to get back into working in the film industry but have been out of the field for a few years as an EA in another field. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_4huou7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help! My [19F] brother [18M] is acting like an asshole, he hit my arm really hard and bruised it because of an argument over some fucking stupid video games.", "post": "My friend was coming over for the afternoon earlier today, and we were bored so the two of us asked my brother if we could play on his old playstation 3.  He said no, and he was being really stubborn and selfish about it, he said because the last time we let him play, we didn't put the cd's back in the proper cases and one of them got scratched.  I told him we were sorry, it wouldn't happen again, and we'd be extra careful.  He kept saying no and we got into a big argument and he said some mean things about me and my friend while she was there.\n\nShe left, and I was so pissed off at him, when he wasn't around, I probably over reacted and went and deleted all his saved data on his ps3.  Sure, I shouldn't have done that and maybe I overreacted, but he was being an asshole.\n\nHe found out and he got soooo so mad.  At first it was funny but then I realised he was seriously angry and he punched me so hard right in my arm.  I've been crying all day, my arm still hurts, its swollen and green.  I told our parents, they told me I shouldn't have messed around on his console, they didn't even tell him off or anything.  Please help, he feels no remorse at all, he's such an asshole and he physically hurt his own sister over some fucking stupid games!!  He won't even apologise, what can I do to help him understand how much he hurt me and get him to apologise so he doesn't do it again?", "summary": "Brother went into a rage over some fucking stupid video games and punched me really hard on my arm, its turned green and swollen and I've been crying all day from the pain.  He won't even apologise and thinks he's done nothing wrong, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_bblnk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've failed at IT, should I do interior design? If so, HOW? (Career advice)", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI've been working on getting into Information Technology for all my working life (about five years). It's what I've always wanted to do, but it really seems that I'll never manage despite it being my passion. I started a distance education course to get a bachelor of tech, but haven't managed to keep going on it due to various life things (job being crap, not having/making enough time, motivation fail).\n\nNow that I'm out of work, I've been trying to find a job. I've worked in call centers, and will kill myself if I have to do it any more. I've done a lot of support, and am naturally pretty good with computers. I just can't get a start.\n\nSo now, I think I've pretty much given up. I think I have to do something else (have been out of work for three months, and the partner can't support me anymore.)\n\nDone some \"career prospecting\" questionnaires online, and one of the things that keeps coming back is interior design/decorating. I don't know if I have a flair for it, but I enjoy it, and think that my idea of what \"works\" and doesn't is pretty good. I've managed to decorate our  apartment nicely, and people seem impressed by it. I've talked a lot about it, watch all sorts of interior design shows, and have defined ideas about what is \"right\" and \"wrong\". I've discussed it with friends, and it seems pretty attractive to me. So, I'm thinking that's a possibility.\n\nI've been wondering about it for a while, and now I have a chance to do it.\n\nSo, should I give it a whack, or should I continue trying to get into IT which seems thankless and impossible? If I should, how do I go about it? Take some courses, look online, or just present ideas to people?", "summary": "Trying to get into IT, and failing. Having an early midlife crisis. Should I do interior design, if so, how do I get started?"}
{"id": "t3_dhxjx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My family is middle class and my girlfriend's is upper class (>$250,000 from one parent). She thinks her Dad is taxed too much and I say too little, which causes heated arguments.", "post": "She says her Dad worked hard to get where he is and she thinks is overtaxed. The most recent argument was over the tax her Dad would have to pay if he sold his house (3.8% on every dollar which exceeds a $500K home sale). She says if he put money into building the house then why should he be taxed when he sells it. She believes that there should be a flat tax since whoever makes more would still be paying more money.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some websites, statistics, or anything which can help me show her that he is NOT being overtaxed and that his tax money is needed to keep our society going. She is not socially conservative and she DID vote for Obama.", "summary": "= How can I win this argument?"}
{"id": "t3_2mixf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [25M] dumped me [23F] by just never talking to me ever again - dealing with abandonment.", "post": "\"Ethan\" and I knew each other for about 10 years. Have always been pretty good friends, and he's always expressed interest and I always shrugged it off; because I liked just being his friend.\nWe didn't always keep constant contact. We'd go months without talking but then pick back up and get dinner and begin catching up all over again.\n\nLast year about this time, he was in Afghanistan working as a civilian for the Air Force. While he was there, his ex had been seeing other people and dumped him. He reached out to me via Facebook  and just like normal, we picked things back up. Caught up, spoke about our current relationships.\n\nBut this time, we bonded a whole lot more. We grew to have more of a romantic relationship. It was really great. We made plans for when he came home and when he did, in about February, we made things official. We were a couple. But he had gotten a job across the country. So we continued in a LDR.\n\nHe flew me out twice between the months of March and April. (I couldn't afford to pay for flights myself, he offered and I accepted.)\nWe talked a lot about me moving out with him and I really wanted to, though I was afraid and weary. \n\nI was HAPPY, happier than I had been in months. However, towards the end and in my last visit, I sensed that he was not. He would tell me he wasn't happy being away from his friends and family, he was depressed.\n\nFinally he just cut all contact at once in June, making the actual relationship being about 4 months. He didn't reply to my texts, didn't answer my calls. Nothing. That's how I was dumped.\nHe unfriended me on all social media.\n\nIt's been 6 months and I've never felt so depressed and abandoned ever. I'm not myself. I sit and mope around alone often. Sometimes I still find myself crying.\n\nI don't know how to get over this. \nI need help. What can I do? What advice would you give to someone who has experienced something like this?", "summary": "friend for 10 years, finally become romantically involved in LDR for 4 months but then he cuts all contact. I feel desperate for closure and reasoning. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_3i5r7o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by messing with my brother", "post": "So my identical twin brother is kind of an asshole, and he always has to get me back for what ever shit I pull, but it's usually something harmless like putting plastic wrap over the toilet seat to block my pooh, or getting me to eat stale food or some shit like that. \n\nThe reason for a throwaway of what went wrong this time, is because my brother knows my username and is waiting for me to admit defeat this time which I never do.\n\nIt all started Friday morning before we drove to school, and he had his usual bowl of cereal like he always does. He hates soy milk, but we have it in our house because I am lactose intolerant. He hadn't poured his milk yet, he had to pee and asked me to pour his milk, but surprise surprise it wasn't milk. Soy milk. He noticed right away, gagged, and glared at me. He didn't speak to me again until yesterday, and I thought nothing of it. \n\nRemember when I said he likes to get me back? Well, this time he took it a bit too far. I woke up on Saturday, drove to my girlfriend's house, or at least tried to, but my car battery was dead. I figured I should go ask my brother, and he was still asleep. So I decided fuck it and just walked the two miles, which doesn't sound so bad, but it was pouring rain. \n\nLater, I got home and just had a normal day after that. But then this morning comes, and my brother tells me that he left the light on in my car all night so the battery would run out knowing it would rain. So a little soy milk made me walk in the rain. What's next? Is he gonna fucking slash my tires?", "summary": "Made my brother eat cereal with soy milk, had to walk 2 miles in rain."}
{"id": "t3_4dx433", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18f] my boyfriend [18M] just broke down in front of me and I have no idea what to do", "post": "So guy's please I am desperate for help and it's urgent because I am legitimately worried for my BF mental state. \n\nA little back story, My boyfriends parents (his mom and step dad) have always been really tough on him, they would tell him his grades are not good enough, he is not preforming well enough at sport and always comparing him to his step sister and treating her like a god compared to him. \n\nTwo nights ago, He phoned me and he sounded like he was holding in tears. He asked me if he could stay at my place for 3 weeks, normally I asked why. \n\nHe said that the family is going on vacation without him and how his mom kept apologising to him because they did not have enough money to take him with. \n\nI said yes and just 30 minutes ago, my boyfriend broke down. He was crying saying he does not understand what is wrong with him, what did he do that was so wrong etc. \n\nHe just sat here and he is devastated, I don't think it's just the vacation. I think it's everything that has built up to this point and I have no idea what to do", "summary": "My boyfriend had a breakdown about the way his family \" treats him\" and I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3vt4xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) feel incredibly uncomfortable around and hated by my dad and stepmom (52M-50F), should I move on?", "post": "link to the first post:", "summary": "Parents say i ruined Christmas by trying to avoid the tension they caused."}
{"id": "t3_2au4ci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] with [19F], 3 months (5 years), she is distant and I feel conflicted.", "post": "We've been friends for 5 years, and after being apart for 2, she recently came back to my hometown and we met up and hit it off. She admitted she had had a crush on me the whole time, and I her. Things were hot, wet and wild until the first time we had sex. It all went downhill from there.\n\nShe had to leave for Quebec to deal with her mother's affairs after her passing, and was very worried. So far we're 1 month into the relationship, and she's too anxious and depressed to be intimate before she leaves (2 weeks). She's gone for a month.\n\nUpon her return, she is quite cold. When I see her a few days after shhe gets back, she refuses to kiss me, saying \"after leaving for a while I get nervous\". I abide this, and try and work up to it. She is not receptive.\n\nShe admits, a week later, that she has been feeling very anxious about going to school, since it's somewhere in Quebec where she doesn't know anyone. She says \"I'll just distance myself from people so it won't hurt to be gone\". I explain why this isn't healthy, and she won't have it. She is very anxious and depressed at this point.\n\nIt's been a week of her abandoning dates and being outright cold. I have been in her shoes, oh god I have, so I know that this is really hard, but I feel abused and neglected. I want to talk to her - I've been trying to - but she's been very difficult to talk to. I don't think I can do this, but I feel I owe it to her to not leave her in a time like this.\n\nI'm simply lost. It's worth noting that we've been very close friends since we were young teenagers, and she's always been a bit unstable - and so have I. I know she isn't long-term relationship material, but I still want to make this work. She's my first real girlfriend, while she has had several boyfriends.", "summary": "She's going through a hard time and is incredibly distant. I want to help and support her, but I feel like I've been neglected."}
{"id": "t3_2j1up9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[27M] interested in a girl[25F] who thinks that I'm still in a long term relationship with[25F].", "post": "I was in a 4 year relationship and now I'm single. A different girl I have crush on (and I also get the feeling she might be interested in me) still knows that I'm in that relationship. We work sort of in the same place so we do see each other regularly. I'm planning to flirt with her to see if she respondes positively and then ask her out. But if she thinks I'm still in a relationship she will probably think I'm a douche cheating on my gf (which I'm not). How do I let her know that I'm single? Should I tell her directly? I think that would be seen as weird and will also compromise me.\nI thought about the FB \"I'm single\" thing but I think it's cheesy.\n\nHas anybody been in the same position?\n\nP.S. I pondered the \"The don't crap where you eat\" saying, but this girl is too amazing to go by this rule.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4e45oj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] mother [51F] moves my things even though she knows it sets off my mental illnesses", "post": "Long-time lurker, first-time poster!\n\nBasically, I have a cornucopia of diagnosed anxiety disorders (GAD, agoraphobia, panic disorder, OCD) which I'm currently medicated for and have been dealing with exceptionally well. My mam has been amazing aiding my recovery: exposing me to going outside, helping me through panic attacks etc. The only issue is her complete lack of boundaries in relation to my property.\n\nWhen I first started suffering from panic attacks, when I was 11, it was triggered by mam moving my belongings whilst cleaning and then lying about it. I asked her to please let me clean my own room, which she wouldn't agree to. \n\nAs I grew up and my mental condition worsened, her behaviour escalated: she would sneak into my room when I would go to sleep and clean. At first, I thought maybe I was imagining it, but then numerous friends and a boyfriend informed me they'd woken up to her cleaning and moving my possessions when they'd slept over. I told her this had to stop, it was affecting my illness and she promised to not do it again. She did.\n\nWe'd have this conversation every week until I moved out at 19. She then started letting herself into my flat with the spare key and cleaning/moving stuff when I was sleeping, even though I begged her to stop doing it. Every time I'd find things in the wrong place I'd end up having a panic attack, hiding in my bed for a few days and getting stuck in the house.\n\nI'm currently renting a flat off her, as I'm too poor to afford my own place and it's much cheaper this way. The behaviour has continued even though I've reiterated that it's a huge problem and has a major impact on my functioning. She's cried and swore that she'll stop but never has. I've asked her to see a doctor or a therapist but she refuses, saying it's not a compulsion to clean but rather she just 'forgets' about my mental health issues. \n\nI absolutely adore my mam to bits, we're amazingly close, but I just don't have any idea how to deal with this situation! Any advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "crazy daughter can't keep her arguably more crazy mother from moving her things, resulting in more crazy"}
{"id": "t3_2kwn3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (21M) does not want to trick or treat with me (20F) to play games with a friend online for the 6th year in a row for Halloween.", "post": "I bought kigurumis(onesies) for my bf and I from kigurumi-shop online.  They usually cost $50-70 depending on deals. I bought a korilakkuma bear one and I really wanted to buy him the rilakkuma one so we could match but he's too embarrassed to wear it anyways. He gets easily embarrassed about a LOT of things. So I just bought him the dinosaur which he would rather wear. \n\nNow he is just wanting to stay at home to play games with a friend that he's spent Halloween with for 6 years straight. He has never met this guy in person and just this past year he finally saw a picture of him but they're best of friends. \n\n This is my third year with my SO and finally this year my parents approve of our relationship (after complicated religious arranged marriage issues). I want him to come outside for once and trick or treat with me and my two sisters who will be wearing a pig and koala onesie. \nHe doesn't think its fun to do these cool holiday events and isn't a big fan of candy. He would rather play games all day every day if he could. I'm not that big on games so to me he's kind of boring and lazy. But he will do things for me every now and then.. I just want to share this new experience with him. He did this to me last year too.\n\nShould I just let him be? Is it wrong for me to take him away from his friend whom he has known for 6 years vs me of 3 years?", "summary": "My bf would rather play games with a friend for Halloween for the 6th year in a row. I want him to trick or treat with me. Is that wrong/too much to ask for?"}
{"id": "t3_2zmxsr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Unsure if company is a scam or not. Should I proceed?", "post": "I've been job hunting quite a bit lately and have been running into quite a few fraudulent companies trying to elicit personal information from me for what I suspect is identity theft. Anyways, today I received an email from another company offering me a job. My warning bells were ringing so I shot them off an email asking for more details. They sent this in response:\nDear (fullyoperational),\n\nWe offer you a kind of Internet job (work from home) - every time you will get all the instructions by email and by phone. Your task will be to receive payments from our customers by Email Money Transfer and send these payments to our Representatives in Europe by MoneyGram (5% of every transaction - this is your commission, you will keep 5% and 95% you should send to our Representative by MoneyGram, 95% includes the charges). The thing is there is not such system as Interac e-transfer in Europe, that's why we need a person in Canada who will be responsible for receiving payments from our Canadian customers by Interac e-transfer.\nYou  will  not  have to contact the customers, every time you will get all the  instructions by email from our company.\nUsually each transaction will be around $1000-$1500, you will get 1-3 such transactions per day.\nDuring the probationary period (first 1 week) you will get 5% of every transaction. After the probationary period you will get $300 a week plus 5% of every transaction on top.\nThe salary (approximately $2700 - $3200 per month) will be sent to you by Interac e-transfer.\n\nKind Regards,\nX\nat company X\n\nNow the company name and website is legitimate, but this whole things sounds exceedingly fishy. What can I do to figure out if this is a scam or not?", "summary": "Company offers me a job, it involves moving money around from Europe and NA. Sounds like a scam, probably is, but want to be sure."}
{"id": "t3_2t7qni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [27 F] of 8 months, conflicted about how I feel after all these months.", "post": "So I've been with my girlfriend, we'll call Ashley, for about 8 months. We met naturally in a bar and hit it off from day 1. Our sex life is spectacular, and I don't have one complaint about how she treats me. Her personality is wonderful. \n\nMy problem with Ashley is her lack of self ambition. When we first started dating, she got laid off from her job soon after. She has been unemployed since then. She has been super picky about any job position she picks. Every time I bring it up with her she tends to get emotional then I feel like a jerk even though I'm trying to pressure her to motivate her. I'm not an asshole by any means,  I'm clear and direct in what I want from her. \n\nAlso, I am a exercise-nut and have expressed to her that I desire my partner to have some desire to exercise close to a daily routine as well. Ashley has a pair of running shoes that are old and her only excuse for not exercising (for the majority of the time we have been dating) is that she needs new shoes, and instead of buying new shoes she'll just spend her money on weed. (Trait of lethargy perhaps?)\n\nTo top it off, she doesn't have a college degree and hasn't pursued one in a serious manner since graduating highschool (shes 27 remember). I am about to start my upper division coursework and have expressed that is very important to her successful future to obtain a degree. I had to pressure her almost every day to go out and get shit done so she could be enrolled for the Spring Semester. If i had not pushed her like I did we would be waiting for her to register until the Fall semester. \n\nIt just feels like that at times she lacks ambition and drive in her own life. It is very conflicting since she has a wonderful personality and treats me perfectly. She has expressed I am the man of her dreams and she wants to spend forever with me. But how do I convey that she likes ambition (my notion of what the problem is) to her so that she will finally get some drive in her life? I don't want to leave her but I am leaving all options open.", "summary": "Girlfriend who treats me perfectly lacks drive in her own life and it is starting to bug me pretty bad. "}
{"id": "t3_rgtwm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, let's reminisce. Tell me about the greatest times you've ever had with your closest friends.", "post": "One of the greatest times I ever had with my friends happened last May. It was the Friday of finals week, and we had decided to blow off some steam. We live in Milwaukee, so at 5 pm we took the bus down to take a local brewery's tour. Much to our surprise, we discovered that this was a $7 all-you-can-drink tour. Game on. So there we sat, for a few hours, making friends with the brewers and drinking pint after pint. \n\nEventually, it was time to stumble home. After a short bit of walking, we stumbled upon some train tracks and decided to follow them. We climbed all the bridges that crossed the river, and eventually we walked into an industrial wasteland. After climbing over a fence, we broke down a door to an abandoned factory that sat against the river and explored. Climbing ladders, examining old equipment, looking through tunnels, you name it. In our drunken state, we made some poor decisions that we could have gotten in trouble for, but it made for an awesome time. We finally stumbled out of the factory, dusted ourselves off, and walked to a restaurant that serves some of Milwaukee's best burgers.", "summary": "Got drunk at a brewery tour, went to abandoned factory, ate burgers. "}
{"id": "t3_50rw9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] don't know what I have with my friend [18 M]", "post": "Hi reddit,\nthis is my first seek for help, so don't be too cruel. English is not my mother language.\n\nSo it began 3 weeks ago \u2013 I met a young guy (18) who I feel in love with after a short time. He invited me for dinner, told me he would miss me and we had the best sex I have ever had.\nThen we began mentioning each other on Facebook (on pictures related to love). For example \u2013 he mentioned me on a picture on which was written: \"the world without you is boring\".\n\nHe has sent me screenshots where he is mentioning me to other girls (\"I can't do that, I have a girlfriend\"). So I wrote him that we were being obvious and we should make it official sometime but he said he wouldn't want to say it on Whatsapp.\n\nI was looking forward to seeing him soon because I would tell him about my love.\n\nSo yesterday we were lying on the couch and I was trying to begin talking about love. I was mentioning the pictures he has sent to me and I said \"do we want to make it official?\". He looked at me for quite some time (well it felt like it was some time) and he said \"no it would be too exhausting, too many people would be asking. Besides you are my little dirty secret and my affair.\"\nThat hurt like a punch in my stomach. I didn't know what to do, so I just went showering and thought about what just happened. Should I kick him out with all his stuff? (he already has his stuff in my appartement)\nHe still refers me as his girlfriend and that he is very happy to have me.\n\nSo reddit\u2026 Do you understand that kind of behaviour? I don't understand what's happening\u2026 I thought we were in love for a short time.", "summary": "I met a guy and he doesn't want to make it official. I ask myself why."}
{"id": "t3_2j0tqd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting too drunk and scream vomiting.", "post": "So this was last night. I went to a friends party and proceeded to make a sorry attempt to drink away my life problems by drinking more booze than a human being should. Now I am the type of person who is very afraid of bothering people, so when I inevitably started to feel sick, I decided the best place to vomit would be behind my friends shed outside, so I laid down in the cold, wet grass and vomited on myself and the grass. I thought no one would notice I was feeling sick and therefore wouldn't be a bother to anyone, which was idiotic. I'm guessing one of my other friends realized that I was missing and went looking for me and found me laying in my own vomit behind a shed shivering and soaked. He went and got my other friends, who saw me shivering, crying, laying in vomit, and pretty much in the most pathetic state imaginable.They coaxed me into standing and tried helping me back to the house, but I got sick on the way and collapsed in his backyard. Take two, this time I got to the bathroom, and began scream vomiting (aka [liquid scream] I was forced into my sober friends car and driven home where I stumbled to my room and passed out. I was the only person to get this drunk at the get together, and now think that all my friends are judging the fuck out of me. Oh, and now I have a cold.", "summary": "Got very drunk, laid in cold grass, scream vomited, now have a cold and friends think i'm pathetic."}
{"id": "t3_qrnk9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Half Marathon Help Please !", "post": "I am (attempting) to run the Charlottesville Half Marathon ( my first race) on April 7th. Always played team sports (lax) but now post college have been working on running.  My longest run thus far has been 8 miles, last weekend. I added 2 miles last week because I have been behind schedule and was planning to do the same today (run 10 miles).\n\n The week prior to the 8 mile run  I had to skip a week of training due to illness. Today I am supposed to do another long distance run but I am feeling achy and fatigued. \n\nDo I do the run and take it easy? Should I rest? Am I totally fucked for running this race with all these training interruptions? Would appreciate reddit's expert advice! \n\nAlso, this is the program I have been using:", "summary": "My training schedule has been fucked due to unforeseen circumstances, can I still pull it together for this race? Also, I'm feeling achy and fatigued today. Bad idea to take an easy long distance run?"}
{"id": "t3_1zimv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21 F] boyfriend [21 M] of 6 months, has been losing his hair. He's going through a lot of emotional problems because of it.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both Juniors in college.\n\nHe's been experiencing hair loss since he was 18. Since we've started dating, this issue has come up in bits in pieces to where I'm away of the problem, and how insecure it makes him feel. I try to reassure him, and generally just never bring it up. If he mentions it, I tell him I love him whether he has hair or not, how attractive i find him, etc etc. Up until now, it's usually worked out fine; he realizes he shouldn't stress, and we go on to what we were doing.\n\nWell, recently we had brought up the issue of graduation and I mentioned some new grad schools i was considering. He got upset, but this somehow eventually led to him breaking down and bringing up that he had lost more hair in the shower that morning. We talked, and he admitted it's a big self-esteem thing for him, which of course makes sense. We discussed him seeing a dermatologist, but he's researched before, and I now have too, and it seems all he can do is just accept it, since the medication has sexual side effects, which is not something he (or I for that matter) can accept.\n\nSo, he'll make an appointment with a dermatologist once spring break is over, but I'm starting to get worried about how to help him. I really have no idea what to do or say. I try and reassure him, but it seems like such a personal problem that, no matter how much I say he looks great, the fact that he's only 21 and losing his hair is tough.  He has no bald spots, but it's thinning, and that enough is bad.\n\nWhat can I do? Should I just not bring up this and make it a taboo topic? Should I talk to him more about it? Or just do as I am now and accept that that's all I can do? Thank you. I've never seen him that upset before, and it's really made me start worrying.\n\n___", "summary": "Boyfriend is losing his hair. Huge hit to his self-esteem and has taken over his thoughts. Can I do anything?"}
{"id": "t3_lvo5x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm dating someone I don't find attractive", "post": "Reddit I need your advice. Lately I've been getting lonely, and depressed. Someone gave me a lot of attention and liked me. I decided to date her. She's a very nice girl, likes video games and what not. She even goes out of her way to play my video games and spend time with me.\n\nThere is however something in the back of my mind that's bothering me. I don't find her attractive. Is that okay? Will I eventually be able to look past that? I don't wanna be shallow, and I really like her personality. Lately she been talking about having sex. We would both loose our virginity. I'm a guy I don't care. But I'm not sure if it's right to take someone's virginity when I question if the relationship will last.", "summary": "Dating girl I don't find attractive. Can it still work? Is it right to have sex with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1mfh99", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend (f) who wants to fuck my other best friend (m) is now friends with his wife.", "post": "One of my(f) best friends is a guy, who's married and has two kids. This is a strictly platonic relationship- I cannot stress this enough. We have a professional relationship but also each others drinking buddy. I brought him around a few of my friends and they all love him. My other best friend (f) REALLY likes him and would fuck him any day of the week- but he's married and he would never cheat on his wife. \nHim and I talk a lot and I recently had to go through unnecessary bullshit drama with his wife because she accused me of being a slut and fucking him. You know how that goes- drama drama drama. Long story short she fucking hates me. Fuck her. \nLast night he and his wife end up running Into the other friends at a local event- I was not there but the other girl who wants to fuck him was. Well turns out she Introduces herself to her and claims that she \"understands\" her dilemma. (The drama/jealousy bullshit between him and I) They hang out all night and now all the sudden they are all fucking best friends. \nShe's the one who wants to fuck him. I'm the one who's close friends with him and I can't even hang out with him without being accused of fucking him. Needless to say I'm pissed.", "summary": "I can't hang out with my best friend without his wife thinking we are fucking. My (f) best friend DOES want to fuck him and now she's friends with his wife. Wtf."}
{"id": "t3_227b8v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best place to put emergency fund to maximize interest?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I'm financially satisfied in the second year of my post-masters job. I'm using this time to have fun and build savings for my future. \n\nNot sure if it matters, but here are my details:\n\n29 y/o American female, 51K/year salary\n\nTake-home pay (after taxes/12% to 403b): About $2600/month\n\nRent/Utilities: $800\nStudent loan: $515 (after consolidation & income-based repayment)\nFood/groceries: $500 (I'm a foodie and enjoy restaurants and cooking)\nTo emergency fund: $550\nThe remaining $235 is other/discretionary spending. (the usual: movies, fun, the occasional taxi, phone).\n\nI personally think my finances are in good order, and though I have a lot of student loan debt (just under 70k at 6.5%) I'm a candidate for the public service forgiveness program, which will forgive my remaining balance after 10 years.\n\nI also have about 2K in a mutual fund that I hope to add to later; that isn't my focus right now.\n\nSo, my question is about my emergency fund. I currently have $9K in a savings account, which is where my $550 goes each month. My interest rate is .01% which is basically nothing. I know I should fix this, or my money will lose value as I'm actively saving. So, what should I do?", "summary": "I have $550 that I put into my emergency savings each month. My interest rate with my bank is incredibly low. Where should I put this money to keep it safe and maximize my interest rate?"}
{"id": "t3_40ewz4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] am engaged to my fianc\u00e9 [30 F]. I got drunk at an office function when a co-worker [26 F] and I...", "post": "This story isn't about me: I'm actually asking how to navigate a conversation like this emotionally, practically, and intelligently with a friend/colleague - really.\n\n\u00a0\n\nHe and I are roughly the same age so when he told me...\n\n* at an office party's **after-party** (that I did not attend)\n* he became black out drunk\n* and the next morning was told he got handsy with (and seemed to have kissed) another co-worker in a corner of the bar\n\n... I did not know how to respond.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI struggle with the *\"being drunk is never an excuse\"* POV because I too have done regretful, though reparable, things while very drunk. I also cannot fully side with or against the *\"when you're drunk, you're uninhibited, and your true self comes out\"* offense/defense.\n\n\u00a0\n\nWhat is /r/relationships stance on doing things you wouldn't do sober but did when you were [very] drunk?", "summary": "Friend got SUPER drunk at an office party and cheated on his fianc\u00e9. I don't know what to say but would like to hear your take on the subject."}
{"id": "t3_4ngi2y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By eating a sparkler", "post": "So this wasn't today, but on Tuesday evening while drinking in a bar I work at.\n\nI'd had many drinks over the course of the previous 5 hours and in pretty good spirits. This changed very quickly when sparklers that are used in fishbowls/cocktails were revealed. I instantly saw it as a good idea to light one, and put it out in my mouth, like you would with a match. No idea why I would think this would be a good idea, and no idea why I thought I wouldn't be badly hurt.\n\nMy girlfriend pulls out her phone, begins videoing and lights the sparkler. Luckily at this point for some reason I didn't go directly in to my mouth and on to my tongue, I actually caught my lip and part of the sparkler broke off in to my mouth and seemed to get stuck to the inside of my lip. I panicked and tried to grab it out of my mouth as nothing else felt it was working quickly enough. Eventually most of it came out but some remained which fizzled out.\n\nI carried on with my beer and had a couple more and went home.\n\nThe next day was pretty painful, I was sort of ok eating but my face was really numb on the right side and my lip was extremely swollen. \n\nThe video got posted on facebook, it was shared a few times and I got a lot of comments telling me how stupid I am (obviously). I was looking forward to it blowing over and people forgetting it had happened. Which it did, until yesterday a colleague decided to upload the picture to Imgur then one of my colleagues shared it on reddit. Other people then posted it in other subreddits and one of them gained quite a lot of traction, to the point where I was on front page of Imgur and it had been viewed over 1.25 million times. \n\nThere's constant jokes at work about it, I've had many people contacting me, I've replied to a few questions on both Reddit and Imgur and it doesn't seem to be going away!\n\nAs of right now, the swelling has gone, I have 2nd degree burns which are reasonably painful but I can eat fine and I have hopefully learned a lesson.", "summary": "Ate lit sparkler, was not a smart idea."}
{"id": "t3_18qa46", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Delayed petty revenge, fifty years to be exact.", "post": "When I was a student in the 1960s, I had a teacher which we will call Mrs Jackass. Mrs Jackass was the reason I never saw bright light in my school years ever. She was shouting at me always for no reason e.g dropping a pencil onto the floor during a test. But this was the last straw that broke the camels back. One day, I had a bleeding nose and went to get a tissue. She hit me with the cane for bleeding in class and I never got that tissue. Now I'm a waitress in a restaurant and Mrs Jackass steps in to order some Steak with Chips. I took down her order and went on to get this really old and musty steak. I asked the cook to cook it and he did. She was about eighty and recognised me after a few minutes. She gives me \"the stare\" as I hand over her food. Long story short, she left her plate half eaten and gave a big tip. Best delayed revenge ever.", "summary": "Bitchy Teacher gives me a hard time in school, fifty years later I give her the worst steak I can give her :)"}
{"id": "t3_346fma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] 2 years, excitement is gone", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years and have lived together since we met (College halls). He's a great guy and I honestly have very little to complain about.\n\nThe issue lies where I just don't find 'us' exciting anymore. It's not the sex, it's just the relationship as a whole. Everything is repetitive and bland, and I really just don't know what to do about it. \n\nWe are going on holiday in a few months and are also living with each other for another year which makes matters somewhat more difficult.\n\nI know he is absolutely besotted by me and it makes me feel like a terrible person but I'm torn between letting him know or just riding it out. Either way we have no way out of a contract with an apartment, just the 2 of us. \n\nI have approached the subject of breaking up before and I'm normally told that \"If we break up, I can't be friends with you\" or he starts crying.\n\nI have no real reason as to why I don't feel the same, I think it's just what has happened over the time we've spent together and I know he wouldn't accept that. He is possessive and would most likely think that if I was breaking up with him, it would be for someone else, which is absolutely not the case.\n\nEssentially I'm looking for advice on the next steps and if need be, how to go about ending things on good enough terms to spend the next year in close proximity. I don't want to have to keep lying and making things worse for the both of us in the long run. I want to stay friends with him.", "summary": "My boyfriend loves me but I don't feel the same anymore, we're living with each other for another year. Help."}
{"id": "t3_zto1x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can reddit be the anti-facebook?", "post": "Fb's valuation distills to its 'stickiness' (via photos, games etc) and huge data, leading to incredibly targeted advertising on a massive scale. Reddit has great stickiness, is experiencing great traffic and also possesses huge data. This has the potential to lead to incredible targeted advertising (e.g. Zegna advertises for their Bay area stores on r/mfa for users who post to /r/sanfrancisco). The basic difference between Fb and Reddit is anonymity. One has real users, the other is generally masked by internet anonymity. But would not a user with the cloak of anonymity show more honest search/buying intent (like google)? I know a lot of friends who 'like' consumer stuff on Fb, only because they want to look cool.", "summary": "Can Reddit be the next Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_1hop0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[15/M] Dad[47/M] is cheating on Mum[45/F]", "post": "Well, I don't really know where to start. We found out a week ago. My dad was at work but he had left his phone at home. A message came through. My sister just read it out of curiosity. We then found messages sent from a random mobile phone number to his saying things like \"meet me here/pub\" or \"can't meet you today at 12\", \"want a massage? ;P\".\nWe then phoned the number and a woman picked it up. We didn't ask her anything, and put the phone down. We then began adding things up. He had been acting suspisciously for a while now. He would coem back from work and change then go back out. He was getting new clothes, being more aggressive, etc. \nI've never had a good relationship with him. (He abused my mother a lot and said I wasn't his child). He forced her to have an abortion, he is such a piece of shit. I absoloutly hate his guts. Anyway, my sister told my mum today and she phoned him. She said \"come home straight, I know what your doing\".\nHis response was to say \"OK\" and he cut the phone off. I seriously want to plant my fist into his fat head. He tries to keep us under his thumb. I stand up for myself and my family now and he hates it. He says I \"talk too much\" and \"disrespect him\". \nMy mum just puts up with him, she hardly stands up to him. I just don't know what to do. He makes all the money (my mum has a low wage) so we rely on him. I want a good education etc. but probably won't be able to afford it. I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "dad cheating, told my mum today. Both coming back from work soon. Don't know what will happen. We rely on his money."}
{"id": "t3_ly17i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to do about a lying roommate?", "post": "I have two roommates both of which are friends of mine and currently one roommate and I are pissed. Our other roommate made an agreement with our landlord that she can have sugar gliders as long as they don't mate because he doesn't want babies. Well she had 3 to begin with but 2 of them were evil so she sold them, which you're not supposed to do cause separating groups is a bad idea and now she's trying to get them back which is problem number 1.\n\nThat is a minor problem compared to what's going on now. She bought two new gliders a male and a female that are siblings and she told us that siblings won't mate. My other roommate and I did some research and aside from finding out that she hasn't been properly caring for the original one she's had for over a year we also saw that males and females will mate even if related. We also found out that she told her boyfriend that she plans on mating and selling the babies which brings up all kinds of legal issues that don't really concern me. The thing that worries me is the fact that our landlord said no babies and she should know that.\n\nI don't know what to do about this how should I go about confronting her? I've never really had to deal with a situation like this before because this is my first semester away at school and with roommates.", "summary": "Roommate bought sugar gliders told me because they were siblings they wouldn't mate. I found out she lied and I'm super pissed because our landlord said no babies."}
{"id": "t3_3xyjys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (19M) gets really offended when I (19F) turn him down for sex", "post": "So where to start.\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and he is my best friend. Over the 5 years, usually everytime we hangout, we have sex or do something sexual. As the years went by and I got older, my libido seemed to drop.\n\nWhenever I am not in the mood to do anything sexual, my SO takes it to a different level. He gets really offended and doesn't understand how I am \"not in the mood.\" We had a huge fight yesterday because he was upset I blew him, and didn't want to be intimate with him. He wants us both to be together and says he wants to \"share his body and soul with me,\" so that is why he gets upset. He gets quiet and \"pissy,\" and flat out thinks there must be something going on with me that I'm not sexually in the mood every time that he is.\n\nHe thinks I'm not attracted to him but that's literally impossible when we are intimate 2-3 other times that we hangout. He gets extremely butthurt and it turns into a type of argument because he just doesn't understand how I am not in the mood. He takes it so personal when it has nothing to do with him. He thinks that I should try and lose a little weight (I have definitely let myself go over the years,) because he thinks that if I do that, I'll be more confident and have a better feel for myself and won't feel like crap about myself. He is right about that, but I don't know if that'll do anything to my sex drive?\n\nAny advice that someone could give me ? Someone that has maybe dealt with a SO that gets offended very easily to rejection?", "summary": "Boyfriend gets offended very easily to sexual rejection"}
{"id": "t3_3mi9pu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Breaking my lease, parents are encouraging me just to leave and not pay up?", "post": "Hello again, fellow redditors. Let me try this again;\n\nAbout a month ago I posted a thread about my (now ex-) boyfriend who was not making good on his half of the rent: \n\nWell, we've broken up and he's moved out. Unfortunately, mine is the name on the lease and I can't afford living there alone. After much debate and much encouragement from my family to move back home, I spoke to my leasing office the other day and notified them of my early termination. They told me the stipulates of an early termination, where I live in FLA, were that I was liable for the next (3) months rent (60 days notice, and then one month's rent in addition for early termination). They handed me a paper acknowledging the early termination and the rent I was liable for. I signed it. I know I fucked up.\n\nMy parents are now telling me to hand in my keys ASAP and leave, without paying anything. They say they know this means my credit will take a hit, but they are willing to cosign for me on whatever I need. They're adamant that I don't have to pay this money. They say all this regardless of knowing that I've now signed paperwork.\n\nI'm terrified. I'm 20 and I'm about to absolutely ruin my credit and rental history. Are my parents as baseless in this as I almost feel they are--or are they right? I know this will all go to collections, and I plan on paying at least something up in order to salvage at least some of my credit, but am I making the worst mistake possible here by listening to my parents?", "summary": "parents think I should just ditch my apartment without paying anything, confused as to whether I should listen."}
{"id": "t3_44k7cy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(18) just broke up with my girlfriend (17) of 2.5 years", "post": "She's been questioning her sexuality and its been rough for the past 2-3 weeks. We've been through so much already. Spent my entire high school career with her. \n\nI was there with her through her eating disorder. Her parents nearly divorcing. Her recovery from her eating disorder. We lost our virginity to each other. I have to see her everyday at work.\n\n I've already been going through a bout of depression and am going to get on antidepressants but not for another 3 weeks. Right now, I feel absolutely terrible  but I know the next days/weeks are going to be hell. Its like everything reminds me of her. To help her with her disorder, we became vegetarians. So, even the way I eat reminds me of her. \n\nShe said she wants to talk about it in person Monday, but I don't even know if I can stay alive that long feeling like this. I just need to vent.", "summary": "Broke up with sexuality confused girlfriend. Feels very bad. "}
{"id": "t3_1dy4yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] husband [24M] will not stop using drugs and I don't know what else to do.", "post": "We have been together for almost 8 years, married for 4. We have a 4 year old daughter. When we first met he lied and said he didn't smoke or drink. Come to find out he is a pot head. He smokes marijuana regularly and I've asked him to stop multiple times. He promises he will every time but then he is back to his old ways. He has gotten to the point of smoking in the next room when he should be watching our daughter. I've caught him smoking in the shower and with weed in the car. He doesn't think of how his actions can affect our family and is only thinking of himself. I don't know what to do because I've gave him multiple opportunities to change and he keeps resorting to smoking. I need a responsible father for my daughter and I do not see a future with someone who uses drugs. What should I do?", "summary": "My husband will not stop smoking pot and I can't put up with it anymore. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3vxr75", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "A warning for those of you who bought the Gilt Wedding Paper Divas voucher", "post": "Don't make the same mistake I did! I bought the $200 WPD voucher on Gilt City for $100. I wanted to use it to get my save the dates, as well as my invitations. I went ahead and ordered the STDs, but was going to do the invites a week later after I had finalized some things. Stupidly I assumed I would be able to use the voucher code twice, just like any other gift card. However, it's a one time use only code. So I just bought $100 of save the dates and wasted the other $100. I noticed that WPD just went ahead and charged me the full $200 on my order anyways, I'm assuming so that they get the full amount of money, despite the fact that I didn't order $200 worth of materials. I contacted customer service and they wouldn't do anything. I may push again, because it really angers me that my original order total was $104, and they listed it as $200 once the order went through.\n\nI'm kind of pissed, but it's my own fault for not reading the fine print. I just figured I would warn all of you so that you don't make the same mistake!\n\nAdditionally, for those thinking about buying the WPD Gilt City offers, shop around a bit first. I wish I had, because I actually don't think WPD is that good of a deal, even with the half off.", "summary": "you can only use the voucher for one transaction."}
{"id": "t3_13ihfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [28M] said that I [26F] call him other names during sex. I don't even know how this is possible.", "post": "I [26F] ]don't think of him [28M] in terms of his name or names during sex. We have been together for 11 months. I call him baby or babe. He's really upset. Apparently this happened back in April too. That time, we were both so stoned that I accepted the possibility of that happening, but he wouldn't accept that possibility that he may have imagined it. We almost broke up because of that.\n\nNow, he's telling me that I keep calling him other guys' names. I don't know what to do. I'm so paranoid now and that fear *may* cause me to accidentally call him something else b/c now I'm just so worried about it. I'm too terrified to even want to know what I'm calling him.\n\nHas anyone ever had a similar problem like this? What's the best way to go about it.", "summary": "SO claims I've been calling him other men's names in bed."}
{"id": "t3_21yxmp", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Moving back in with my parents and I'm not in school. What are some ways I can still make positive progress in my life?", "post": "I'm a single 21 year old male, and wanting change in my life. I live in a house with a bunch of my friends, but a lot of the time I feel empty. So I've decided to move back home, pay off some credit card debt with the extra money I'd normally be spending on rent, and overall try to better myself.\n\nBesides knowing I need this change, I'm honestly clueless as to what to do. I don't particularly like my job and have been looking to find a new one. I'm not in school, and somewhat purposefully missed the registration for the new quarter. I'm a little directionless (but that really isn't news for me). I feel like this is a huge opportunity to reinvent myself a bit.", "summary": "Starting over. I want to be a better, happier person. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_cpafv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In trouble for shooting a tree in Washington state.  Need some advice finding legal help.", "post": "Next Tuesday I have to go to court for a misdemeanor charge of shooting unauthorized targets in the state of Washington.  I won't provide any specifics about whether I did or did not shoot a tree, but being a relatively poor 20-something I could use some advice seeking legal counsel.\n\nDuring the arraignment I was referred by the judge to the Skagit County Office of Assigned Counsel for a public defender.  I'm going down there tomorrow to see if I qualify.  Last week I got a consultation from a private criminal attorney ($2000 for him to defend me, and that's after a $500 break) and was informed that my situation isn't as bad as I think it is, so I'm breathing a little easier now.  What I'm worried about is that the public defender will either A) be unreachable due to work overload, or B) tell me to accept the fine (first offense is a fine of $10 to $500) and move on.\n\nOption A will leave me with precious little time to communicate before my trial, and option B will leave me with a misdemeanor on my criminal record which will likely totally screw any chance I have of getting into the Navy in 6 months (since I already have a few parking and expired tabs tickets.)\n\nHas anybody had any experience with public defenders in Washington?  Would you recommend using a public defender or should I try to find a way to pay for the private attorney?\n\nSecond question.  I've been told by two people now (my dad and my roommate) that I can apply to the University of Washington law school for aid since law students are required to do 60 hours of public service.  I don't know how to get in contact with them, and their [website] does not show any options for criminal cases.\n\nHas anybody ever dealt with or been defended in a criminal case (misdemeanor or otherwise) by a law student?  If so, what was your experience and would you recommend it?\n\nI don't want to ask for legal advice here because I know that can attorneys in trouble, I just want to know a little bit more about my options before I jump in and flail around helplessly.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Need options for defending myself against a misdemeanor charge in Washington state which could prevent me from entering the Navy."}
{"id": "t3_mplmy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Was I being a dick for moving his bag on the bus?", "post": "So today I got on the bus in the morning, and all the seats were taken except one and there were a few people sitting.\n\nAnyway my friend was sitting in the back and I wanted to go sit back with him, and there was a seat open except some kid in my grade that I didn't know had his bag on the seat. \n\nAs I walked to the back, the kid with the bag makes good eye contact with me and sees me coming, and people only come to the back of the bus to sit since its terrible to stand. He doesn't move his bag, and then my friend motioned him to move it as I was walking back. He didn't...\n\nSo when I got back there I just picked it up and threw it on the ground. \n\nKid was your average highschool kid, spiked hair in the front, lacoste shoes, american eagle jeans, hoodie (in winter, its cold I live in canada) and AM shirt.\n\nyeah the kid didn't say anything because I gave him a death stare.", "summary": "through a kids backpack on the floor after he didn't move it for me on the bus. Gave him death stare and he said nothing. "}
{"id": "t3_kn4mj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "[HIRING] Mystery Shoppers for international locations (list in comments)", "post": "Would you like to eat for free, have a drink on us, receive a free souvenir, *and* be paid $20 USD for doing so? We are in need of mystery shoppers to evaluate international restaurant franchises in *multiple international locations (see below)*. **We will pay you to eat and drink for free!\n**\n\n**MORE INFO:**\nAs a Mystery Shopper you will answer a list of 125 questions (mostly yes/no questions), as well as writing a short paragraph summarizing your experience. \n\nYou can perform the evaluation during lunch or dinner, and you can even bring a friend (like a boss), and *we'll pay for their meal too!*\n\nSubmit your evaluation online and. . . ***profit!***\n\nThis is a great gig for someone who needs a little extra income. College students are welcome to apply. \nAre you travelling to any of these areas in the near future? Save money and earn extra cash while on vacation by mystery shopping! \n\n***For more information, please contact: smavis@freemangroup.org***\n\nLOCATIONS:\nCopenhagen\nAmsterdam\nBarcelona\nPrague\nLake Tahoe\nPunta Cana\nHurghada\nSharm El Sheikh\nSt. Maarten\nFukuoka\nTokyo\nRoppongi\nOsaka\nMalta\nKrakow\nWarsaw\nBucharest\nSaipan\n\nNOTE: Know someone who would be perfect for this assignment? **We also pay referral bonuses!** Just email us their contact information and once they complete their first shopping assignment, you get paid too! *(Not to mention all of the R/L karma you'll score!)", "summary": "Eat, Drink, and get stuff for free, plus get paid $20USD to do it."}
{"id": "t3_2kcdou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Bf [28 M] 2 months, Purposely Ignoring me", "post": "I'm not gonna make this a long post since there isn't really much to say about this tbh unless you want backstory, but I'll add that upon request.\n\nBasically this is what happened. My day was absolute shit. So, I decide to go see my bf (who works at a mall) and see what's up and talk and hopefully feel a little bit better. \n\nSo before I leave, I text him \"Hey :)\". No response. So, I decide to go anyways since that means he's probably working. So I get there, and I don't see him. I'm like \"huh, maybe he's on break and his phone is dead.\"\n\nSo, I walk outside and what do I see? Him walking back from break, staring at his phone. Which means he was ignoring me on purpose. I really don't know what to do since I really like this guy but like, that really really pisses me off. I still haven't heard from him since the day before that, so idk what's going on.\n\nI plan on going to talk to him tomorrow IN PERSON about this to see what's going on.\n\nMy brain tells me to dump him cuz it's really frustrating me, but my heart likes him a lot. What do I do?", "summary": "Caught my BF purposely ignoring me, been going on for the past few days. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nwt8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: 33m, am I in love or obsessed?", "post": "Here's my original post from a couple of weeks ago:  \n\nSo things haven't changed.  I'm still in a relationship for now, but somethings have come up.  We had a talk last week where I admitted to her that all I think about with her is sex.  How whenever we get home all I want to do is have sex with her and then just do nothing else.  She asked me if I could be there for her emotionally, and I froze up.  I wanted to tell her no and tell her that I don't think we're going to work, but I didn't really plan on how I would say it, so I just said I would try to be there for her emotionally.  Since I don't really have any other place to stay yet, I chickened out...\n\nWell, this past Saturday we ended up going to see 'Don Jon', and there were things in the movie that I realized I was doing (if you haven't seen it, I'll try not to spoil it for you).  The main thing I brought from it was that I don't \"lose\" myself in sex with her, but all I want to do is have sex with her.  This is selfishness on my part, but I know that with her all I want to do is the physical act.  I also realized that I would only go out with her on dates because I could count on us having sex when we we got home.  This isn't healthy, and I know it.\n\nSo, now I'm at a point that I need to sit down with her and tell her my feelings, but in a way that is respectful.  I know she's going to be upset, mainly since our last breakup was so messy (mainly my fault), but I know it has to be done.  Guess I'm not too worried about her kicking me out other than fact that at the moment I would be homeless, but I can get past that issue somehow.  Guess I'm just needing some tips and advice on how to do this as respectful as possible.", "summary": "Realized I'm only back with my gf for sex and not out of true love, but want to end it in a dignified manner were we could at least still be friends."}
{"id": "t3_35e14e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By saying thoughts outloud", "post": "So I was in my history class yesterday where we talk about recent events and such relatively often. This class we were talking about the new all gender/gender neutral bathroom our school had just put in (highschool).\n\nSo the conversation starts moving along and we get to the topic of what's next in the bathroom world. One of my friends who browses 4Chan and Reddit relatively often brings up the 'kin'. Those people who believe they are, or actually are in their opinion, cats or attackhelicopters, whatever.\n\nMy teacher then mentions that there is a person in our school who believes herself a cat, and on the topic of washrooms he continues on. \n\n\"What are we going to have to do if we get more like her?\" That is the innocent question that my teacher poses to the class. Then, with the topics of cats on my mind think, *'Get some litter boxes'*\n\nThat's when I realised I fucked up. I had instead of thinking it, said that out loud so that the entire class can hear. My teacher takes it with a straight face, my class goes wild laughing. I am now labelled as a terrible person.", "summary": "Talked about washrooms, said my thoughts outloud."}
{"id": "t3_1thwbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have my own insecurities about my fiancee [25M] cheating. Was I wrong to make a fake e-mail account and e-mail him asking for anonymous NSA fun?", "post": "I come from an abusive family full of cheaters.\n\nThese past stigmas have scarred me and warped me into thinking my love might cheat on me.\n\nHe has cheated in the past with his previous partner. But says he never would with me.\n\nI CANNOT bring this up to him, because he will think I don't trust him and that my memories are an excuse.\n\nHe will never know the e-mail came from me. His response will either reassure me or validate my fears.\n\nWas I wrong to test him?\n\nI have been driven to depression because of these thoughts, I need to ease my fears and move on with life.", "summary": "I sent a fake e-mail asking for discreet sex to my fiancee to test if he is faithful"}
{"id": "t3_24ofsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my (ex) boyfriend [29M] He gave my 9 month old kitten to his sister (14f) for her \"Birthday.\" Angry when I went and got her back.", "post": "I will keep this a bit short. I am furious and hurt. \n\nMy boyfriend gave my kitten to his youngest sister while I was out of town. I decided to surprise David (boyfriend) by swinging by his mother's house during his sister's birthday. I brought her a gift and I really wanted these people to like me. David and I talked about marriage, though he had not proposed yet. \n\nThere I saw my cat in his sister's arms. I took the mom aside and told her that that was *my* cat, I had proof, showed her my instagram, videos I had on my phone. \n\nThe mom got upset and offered to buy the cat from me. I told her I didn't want another cat, I like that cat. So I had to be the jerk who took a kitten away from a 14 year old girl on her birthday. \n\nI broke up with my boyfriend, told him to get his shit later because I was too furious. \n\nSo now I have about 12 people from his family calling about how selfish I was, how I should have just let her have the kitten, I am a bitch. \n\nMy ex has apologized, but I told him no. I just feel really hurt. Was I wrong? I mean, it was my cat. And he lied. \n\nI am just really frustrated right now.", "summary": "Boyfriend gave my cat to his sister. I had to take it back."}
{"id": "t3_15244y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/18] want to get back with my Ex but she [F/19] does not want to", "post": "At the end of August I broke up with my girlfriend of three years. I thought it was mutual but she was really upset and started in a way harass me. I got a new phone number and blocked her from everything. About a month of not talking to her, her friend asked me to re add her on Facebook so we could talk. I did and she apologized but at that point I didn't have any desire to be with her again. However since we started talking we started to hangout a lot more (I commute to college and she is the only close friend near where I live). Well we got close again and started going on dates and even hooking up and now I have those same old feelings. She said she loves me back but doesn't want a relationship right now. She said she would still be committed to me and that in the future we could try and work things out. We still talk everyday and hangout a few times a week but I just don't really know how to stop feeling so depressed about it.", "summary": "I want to get back with my ex, but she doesn't want to. How can I get over it this while still being friends"}
{"id": "t3_4eixg7", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Rant] What do you do about guests inviting other people... right in front of you?", "post": "My wedding is 15 months away and already this has happened to me TWICE. Once was my MOH's mother with her parents.... we are all pretty close and I know them about as well as I knew my (now deceased) grandparents, which is to say, slightly. They congratulated me, told me they always thought FH & I made a lovely couple, and MOH's mom was like \"THEY CAN COME, RIGHT?\". I didn't know what to say! And if you've ever had two octogenarians staring at you all happy, expecting you to say yes then you'll know what I went through!\n\nThe other is my mentor from work. There is not much of an age difference between us (~7 years) and I informally asked her and her husband if they thought they might be able to come (we're 3000 miles from my venue, they have 5 kids, it requires advanced planning). We work closely with another woman (50s) who is very sweet, but whom I was not planning to invite. We were in a meeting the other day and mentor starts telling her that she & DH are going and that she hopes this lady is too. The woman said, \"well I hope I'm invited! I would love to come! I'll start planning the trip\"!\n\nI know we're not mailing invitations for ages yet, and in a few months I will be moving to the city where my venue is, so it's not like I will see this woman again (although she does text me frequently). And MOH's grandparents are sweet and it's honestly fine if they come. But at this rate my wedding is going to be double the size that I wanted. I was prepared for the whole +1 stuff (a friend already told me he hoped he'd be dating someone by then, I don't really want to give him a +1 especially for someone I've never met, but I figured we'd deal with it down the road). But that's more the kind of thing I thought I'd have to deal with. Not on-the-spot invitations given by others.", "summary": "How do I take back control of my own guest list??"}
{"id": "t3_2kdp0e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU at the Apple Store by being lazy and drunk.", "post": "This happened today, but first as always, some backstory. About 3 weeks ago, I was very drunk. When you drink a lot of beer, naturally you have to pee, a lot. Well after going to bed that night, I had to pee again very badly. I was too tired/too drunk to go down the stairs to the bathroom and decided to empty my bladder into some empty beer cans, and set them on my desk. In my drunken and sleepy daze, I knocked over one of the beer cans full of urine. I rushed to clean it up, not realizing that some of it had trickled into my MacBook Pro. Fast forward three weeks to last night. I decide to download OS X Yosemite on my MacBook. All of the sudden my MacBook freezes. So I turn it off and on again. It doesn't start up. So the next day, which is today, I take my MacBook into the Apple Store telling them that OS X Yosemite wrecked my computer. The technician takes the case off of my MacBook and my heart and stomach sank as the unmistakable stench of urine enveloped the area between us. He didn't say anything and I blamed it on my dog. I'm currently waiting in the mall for them to determine if my MacBook is water damaged.", "summary": "Got drunk, peed into a beer can"}
{"id": "t3_uxobv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should we colonize outer space, just like colonizing America?", "post": "We have spread across Earth. Wiped out part of a race to get across America and spread it out in full. We went to colonize America in the first place for religion freedom. Now must we espace Earth, do advance humans with our knowledge of technology, and be without the religious/moral limits that society imposes on advances technology. \n\nAmerica is split with many different majority groups. Liberals and Republicans are waging war against each other and cause filibusters all the time to prevent advancement in any area (Whether it be corporation domination, Gay marriage, NASA, school funding, etc). The constitution is now symbolized as an ancient text which we now have to \"interpret\" and infer what it means. We must start new. The structure of the constitution cannot hold the massive population, and culture diversity, of this nation together. Too many conflicting views that are interpreting  the constitution into different meanings.\n\nSolution: we have to start fresh with a new colonization of space, moon, or whatever. What do you suggest we do to prevent the overpopulation of earth, and/or the perplexing counter views of America?", "summary": "America is based off of old, out-of-date ideals that can't be applied to massive country. Colonize Space to rebel of Earth's limits to progress humanity?"}
{"id": "t3_di1yh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Redditor crush, advice?", "post": "About a month ago, I think, I started crushing on this redditor. He's a nice guy, likes the same things as I, and doesn't seem unattractive, though I don't think pictures are good indicators of attractiveness. He doesn't have a girlfriend- almost makes me wonder what's wrong with him, if an awesome guy such as himself doesn't have a girlfriend! Haha.\n\nProblems are as follows.\n\nLeast importantly of these is that I wouldn't want to burden him with whatever emotional baggage I haven't taken care of myself. He might not like me anyways, I'm lazy and such.\n\nMore important things: age/2 + 7 puts me a few years short of the rule of thumb for acceptable age; I'm over 5 years younger than him. I wouldn't be surprised in the least if he found it a bit unsettling. I consider myself quite mature for my age, but I'm sure any immature person would say the same.\n\nHe also lives on another continent, and I think that'd be the most impossible part. Could such a relationship be sustained? I wouldn't want to force him to ignore possibilities around him.\n\nSome suggestions I've gotten from friends have been not planning and PMing him, striking up a conversation and see what happens. Perhaps she's right, and it shouldn't be taken so seriously. Another friend has told me to become friends and, hm, hope he falls for me, I think it was.\n\nDo I become friends with him and hope he falls for me, or hope my crush fades, or either/both? Do I just message/PM him and start talking, and see what happens? Do I tell him flat-out? Do I tell him, and say nothing will come of it and such, but that I just wanted to tell him what a great guy he is, and not to despair terribly about getting a girlfriend?\n\nAsking yourselves how you'd want it to go if it were you would answer my question best, perhaps. I'd like to see people's different ideas on this. Or if they all have the same idea, haha.\n\nAlso, is it impolite to watch people's user pages for new comments?", "summary": "Female has a cross-continent crush on male redditor a few years too old for her, following the rule of thumb. Advice pl0x."}
{"id": "t3_1z4a9c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/M] I drunkenly confessed my feelings for a good friend [22/F] of mine that is currently in a relationship with someone else.", "post": "A little back story: She is roommates with one of my best friends, Katie, and I was able to meet through her. She, lets say her name is Sarah, has been with her boyfriend on and off for the past four years, so as long as I've known her she has basically been in a relationship. Although she has been with someone, there has been explicit sexual tension between the two of us for the past year and a half. I have been told by Katie that she has feelings for me and has talked about how she could see herself with me, and that she would be with me if she was single. \n\nDuring this weekend I drunkenly told her how I've felt about her, I told her that if she was single I would try to date her. She was pretty chill about the whole situation and didn't tell me how she really felt, but just let me say what I was thinking. Since it occurred she hasn't been weird or standoffish, nothing has really changed between the two of us. \n\nWith all of that being said, I would never do anything with her while she has a boy friend, I'd never want to put her in that position and truthfully, I really like her boyfriend. But I guess my question is, how should I deal with it? Should I bring it up to her and talk about it or should I just let things play out and hope that she breaks up with her boyfriend and make a move that way?", "summary": "Drunkenly confessed my love for a good friend, should I bring it up or should I let things just run it's course?"}
{"id": "t3_ujeqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, does anyone know how to get rid of food allergies?", "post": "As the title says I want to get rid of a food allergy. I'm unfortunately allergic to EVERY SINGLE fruit and vegetable and I want to get rid of this allergy. Because of it I have to take a ridiculous amount of vitamin supplements that I don't think even work and they got annoying a long time ago. It would be amazing if someone knew how to get rid of them. The symptoms I get vary but are usually swelling around the mouth and throat area and I kinda can't breathe. Keep in mind that I am a somewhat healthy female with a bit of an iron deficiency problem.", "summary": "Anyone know how to get rid of food allergies???"}
{"id": "t3_14rk5r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate (19M) has an online relationship (19-20ish F) that seems incredibly sketchy to me. Should I be concerned for his well-being?", "post": "My roommate is in dire straits right now; he's possibly dying of an unknown stomach illness. On top of that, he's incredibly depressed and sleeps all day at really strange times, so he's essentially hitting his midlife crisis at age 20. Out of seemingly nowhere, he starts talking to this girl that he met somewhere online (no idea where) who lives several states away.\n\nHe's showed me a couple of pictures of her. I've also seen his ex-fiance (who broke up with him about a year ago after falsely accusing him of cheating on her). This chick is a Ferrari compared to his ex-fiance. Now he's paying for a ticket for her to come see him, when he has no income, on top of buying her clothes and shit. They've talked on the phone a lot, so I don't know what to think.\n\nShould I be concerned for him possibly getting scammed/taken advantage of? Or am I just paranoid?", "summary": "Roommate is in online relationship with girl that seems way out of his league, and is making questionable decisions"}
{"id": "t3_2b43mb", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "First child and other issues", "post": "Hi,\n\nMy wife and I have a somewhat strained relationship due to my behaviour in the past. I grew up in an abusive household; no respectable father figure, mother always at work. I am in my mid 20s, and in my early 20s I acted out in an effort to cope with the abuse my sisters and I had gone through.\n\nMy acting out hurt my relationship with my wife but roughly two years ago I started getting help and turning things around. There is still a lot of pain between us and we are trying to make things better.\n\nIn April, we had a little girl. I work overseas and took vacation time to be there for the birth, but have been back overseas since. In mid August, I will be back home permanently and both my wife and I and will be going to school full time (her for a PhD in psychology and myself for a Bachelors in IT), while I also try to work part time.\n\nWe own a house and it is mostly paid off, I have the GI Bill and she makes roughly the same through her PhD Program. \n\nI have no idea how to be a good father and I've struggled with being a decent husband. I want to be a great rolemodel and give our family all the things I never had, such as financial security, a safe home, and a loving father and husband.", "summary": "How can I be a good father to our daughter?"}
{"id": "t3_1h1kps", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Where to find my golden parachute, or how to not step into another job puddle.", "post": "I graduated from a midwestern state school with a political science degree in 2010, I did well in my field, had an internship at the State House, and later worked late last year as an intern/finance assistant on a political campaign. Since then, i've been reaching towards a year at my current job, as a server at a \"fine dining\" restaurant here in a small midwestern town. \n\nI'm subscribed to a jobsthatareleft job server, and check my email and keep up on my resume, but I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm trying to stay with my current job for at least a year, so I look like a steady employee post grad (as I've managed a coffee shop for half a year, but made no money, so left for the internship/serving positions) and I do like my job. \n\nBut that's part of the problem. I can make more in three shifts at this job than I find at most any of these jobs even remotely anywhere near my field/passions, etc. \n\nI don't want to serve for the rest of my life (I'm almost 30) and would like to do something I'm passionate about, but I can't do a whole lot in this town, especially as a career in anything even remotely related to this. \n\nI have no qualms about moving pretty much anywhere, but I don't really know where to start with something I can actually hang my hat on, so to say.", "summary": "College grad, passionate about my field, currently making more serving than I would in a lot of so called \"real jobs\"...want to move, but don't know where to start anymore."}
{"id": "t3_289bwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wake up lost... 26(m)", "post": "I was dating a goddess of a woman for 2 and a half years. We have been separated for 4 months now but only just recently stopped comunicating. We were/are like  best friends. \n\n When I sleep I dream about her. I wake up and reach for her and she is not there. I have poems and songs inspired by both our love and her abscence. I cannot go ten minutes without thinking about her and I am starting to wonder what is real. I am having trouble even accepting that I exist. Am I already dead or dreaming. I Don't know... so lonely and heart broken.  \n\nWhat is strangest to me is that I am still loving life and enjoying every day to its fullest. But no other in intimacy has felt right. I can't even lay next to a female or cuddle without losing it. I am so lost right now. I have lost my best friend. Feelings are dumb. Help please...", "summary": "I feel like I am a character the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind"}
{"id": "t3_2odscn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Wife [26 F] 5years, Wife pregnant and going to school 1k miles away. What do?", "post": "I have been working full time for the past three years while my wife has been studying / taking tests to become an actuary. Recently she was accepted to a ivy league schools graduate program.\n\nShe was accepted to other schools around the area I work, but we saw this as a great opportunity, because the state we live in and the actuary profession do not really go hand in hand. (Great the course is designed to be finished in 1 and a half years... I can go visit during this time yada yada everything will turn out fine.)\n\nFast forward - she is pregnant... Half planned half not... We were trying for a baby, but than she got accepted and plans changed a little... But now...\n\nWe want to keep the child... Ideas have been tossed around about me leaving my job and our house (25 years left on the mortgage) to move to the new city to find a job and help out the wife. I could find a job with similar pay, but city's cost of living is horrendous.... Not to mention I have no idea what our health insurance would do (provided through my job currently) would be.\n\nOther scenarios involve me going on 2 weeks vacation during the pregnancy every month or so to help out... But then when the kid is born, what would I do? She starts in January and has an apartment already.\n\nI've opted for the ladder, but being a guy I think this may be a more selfish move... Need help and a different perspective... Both parents sides would be willing to help in this situation if possible....\nOur relationship is fine, we love each other and are willing to do what is necessary...", "summary": "Wife going to school 1k miles away and is pregnant, have job and house, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_kf3jr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on post-university military with regards to medical school.", "post": "I am a senior in college with a major in Molecular and Cellular Biology and a minor in Chemistry and in the Pre-Medicine program. I had gotten an email from someone in the Navy saying that if I joined the military, they would pay for my medical school. This was the email: \n\nIf you plan to attend medical, dental, optometry, or PA school in the fall; you should consider our scholarship.\n\nOur scholarship pays your full tuition, books, and fees; pays you a monthly stipend of $2088; and a $20K sign-on bonus.\n\n[End email]\n\nI know this is a mass, essentially-spam email, but I figure there has to be some truth.  I have great respect for the military, and would love to be able to help soldiers and see parts of the world I probably wouldn't see.\n\nJust wondering what Reddit's thoughts were on this. I have no medical field history in my family so I am basically doing this on my own (as in I don't have anybody to guide me through what to do).", "summary": "I've been thinking about enlisting post-undergrad so they'll pay for my medical school. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3p89q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] grandpa [78M] smells really horrible and my family doesn't know how to deal with it.", "post": "My grandpa was diagnosed with diabetes a few years ago. Just around that time, my family and I noticed he started to smell bad. Not just old, unwashed man smell. Like hold-your-breath-because-something-is-dead-and-rotting-and-I'm-going-to-gag smell. Some family members say it smells like shit and I think it smells like a fungal or bacterial infection.\n\nNo matter what it is, we are all extremely uncomfortable with it. We don't know how to broach the topic with him because he is old and stubborn and it is extremely awkward to say it to his face. He is a good grandpa and didn't smell before a few years ago but the smell is so bad now that we don't want to be near him.\n\nMy aunt tried to get my grandma (who is apparently immune to the odor) to mention the smelliness to him in case the problem was related to personal hygiene. My grandma said that when she mentioned the smell to my grandpa he just said that if it was so bad then maybe he should just kill himself. His reaction was so distressing to my grandma she has been afraid to bring it up again at the risk of making him depressed.\n\nWe don't really know what to do. We are all greatly bothered by the smell but we are also concerned about a possible underlying medical problem that could be causing it. My grandparents are somewhat secretive about their health so we don't know if my grandpa's doctor is even aware that the smell is persistent.\n\nDoes anyone have advice for handling something like this? Does anyone know if it is possible/legal to contact my grandpa's doctor to have him look into possible causes? This whole situation makes me sad because I am about to have a baby myself and I worry my kids will never want to get to know their stinky great grandpa.", "summary": "My grandpa smells REALLY bad and no one in the family knows how to tell him or get the problem fixed. How can we solve this problem without making him feel horrible?"}
{"id": "t3_28io7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Ex Gf [20 M/F] and girl I met abroad [21 F], 3+ years relationship, broke up with GF abroad and now realized I messed up.", "post": "So My GF and I of 3 years were both studying abroad at the same time in different locations. We had a really good relationship but for the past year she had not been putting in same amount of effort and things had become stale (sex life, gifts, etc). I go abroad and start to realize that I was putting in much more. There was another girl on the trip who had a bf of multiple years and I flocked towards here because of my flirtatious personality I thought it would be the safest bet. She fell for me and dumped her bf and I was infatuated with being wanted that feelings started to arise for me as well. I had planned on seeing my gf 4 weeks into the program and the night before I go she tells me she likes me and is dumping her bf. I go see my gf feel really guilty get blacked out drunk and then we fight and break up. Get back to where I was studying and start hooking up (no sex) with the other girl for about a week until I realized I fucked up. I started being distant until she called me out and said she just wanted to have fun for last 2 weeks and no strings attached. I planned on coming back home and being single for a while cause I never have been before. After coming back the other girl has been very adamant that she does not want the study abroad thing to end and I saw my ex and all the feelings came back and I realized it was the fantasy bubble of abroad that made me feel all of these things. She said she was pretty much over it and just needed time but still loved me, now all her friends are telling her I cheated (i didnt) and she freaked out on me. What do i do?", "summary": "Broke up with gf of 4+ years for a diff girl while abroad now that im back I realized I messed up and want her back. She wanted me back but now she isnt sure."}
{"id": "t3_416ck5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I start dating?", "post": "Seriously. I'm a 19 year old heterosexual male. My first year of college. I want to start dating. To be honest: I am afraid. It's not like I have never asked a girl out. I definitely have and they have all lead to disappointment. Homecoming, prom, snow dance, harry potter, and every marvel movie ever...it makes me cringe just thinking about the girls in high school that I asked out and the look of not disgust, no, worse than disgust: Apologetic. I've lost a lot of confidence from my experiences so far.\n\nI literally don't know where to start. \n\nThis is Reddit so be honest: Should I try to date someone who is the same race as me? Is it going to be awkward because I'm mixed Indian-Caucasian with no culture? The reason I ask is because I've never actually met another mixed Indian person and most full-Indians I know don't date. Where do you even meet dates? How do I explain that I'm a virgin or when should that even come up? My friends told me I should avoid people in the same social group because of the friend zone. I'm so clueless. I had to google friend zone. I'm built short and skinny. I look like a 15 year old. I've been told by friends that I have a \"possibly homosexual feel about me.\"", "summary": "I don't wanna die alone with my dog."}
{"id": "t3_3nqna3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by creating real poison with my fake poison", "post": "First time here, not sure if this counts, but I'll give it a go.\n\nLast year my wife and I had a very simple Halloween prop. A large glass hug with skull and crossbones plastered across the front. Not to waste the opportunity I told her to fill it with green liquid so that it looked like poison.\n\nCool. Halloween is done and all the decorations go back in a box. Why the green Powerade was not emptied from the hug can only be attributed to incredible energy efficiency.....or being lazy in layman's terms. \n\nOctober comes around this year (as it does every year...) and I am sent to go spelunking in the basement for decorations. Wo and behold I find the old jug, only this time it's not all green. At the bottom of the hug are these blueberry sized blackish purplish things. They look furry. \n\nThere, that's what they look like. \n\nAnyway I'm a guy so I think \"hey cool, I have some science experiment on my hands, I need to know more.\" Didn't think twice (barely thought once), I popped the jug open and took a sniff. \n\nIt was.... Rank. Just fetid. My eyes were watering, I scrambled to my work bench for any other scent to replace this one. Rubber cement? Excellent! Take a whiff of that. It won't go away. \n\nAt this point I am light-headed so I sit down. Hard. I try to stand back up but I flop on the ground. That's where my wife found me five minutes later.\n\nNot sure what exactly we cultivated in the jug, but it sure as hell wasn't a sports drink anymore.", "summary": "I am an idiot and sniffed Powerade that had been fermenting for a year."}
{"id": "t3_xtf1t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have reason to believe my dad is cheating on my mom.  Should I bring this up to my mom?  Or should I let it be?", "post": "Some background:  My mom and dad haven't ever been on the best of terms.  My mom isn't exactly the best mom ever.  She has her phases where she worries insistently on an issue (example: she felt itchy so she though there were bed bugs, went to several doctors, got medications, replaced all the beds, had the house fumigated).  She can be very irrational and blames everyone but herself for the trouble (usually my dad or me).\n\nToday, my mom called me.  She seemed very angry.  Apparently my dad told her he was \"going to work\" (putting on work clothes and grabbing his work things).  Things seemed kind of fishy so my mom drove down to his work place and he wasn't there.  When she asked the manager where he was he said he wouldn't be working until Wed.  This isn't the first time he's done this.  He's done this before.  My mom suspects it's a gambling issue (my dad plays cards with his friends).  But I know something my mom doesn't know.  \n\nWhile checking my phone plan online I noticed my dad opened a new line to the family plan.  It looks like it's been open since May 2012.  I suspected this might be a backup phone for him but looking at the call history on this new phone it looks like it's been used to call him phone number many times.  There are other numbers on the list.\n\nI don't really want to share it with my mom just yet.  I was contemplating investigating some more maybe putting a gps tracker on his phone and checking where he really is when he's \"working\".  I was considering calling this mysterious phone number but I'll probably have to use a pay phone or call from my skype.  Maybe pretend to be a telemarketer or an att rep?  Or am I being too paranoid?  Should I just let this issue go?", "summary": "Dad lies about going to work.  I find new phone line on family plan.  Mysterious phone number being used to call my dad's.  Mom suspects gambling.  I suspect worst."}
{"id": "t3_3y9q3o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By pulling a prank and a close friend", "post": "This didn't actually happen today,but it's been one of the memories that haunts me every single night.\n\nAfter a day of school,I would walk with my close childhood friend.We seem to stay at the same class as always,ever since preschool and primary school.Being the asshole I was,I decided to play a \"prank\" on him.Never did I know that,that was the last pranked I ever pulled.\n\nI am from Singapore,and the majority of us Singaporeans live in flats,which are usually 13 stories high.And everytime I walked with him,he would be the first one to reach home.I would wait for him to get on the lift,wait for it to reach a few floors,and then force the door open from the first floor,causing the lift to get stuck.\n\nAnd I ran home.\n\nThe next day,I would brace myself from getting a punch from him,as most of my pranks would'nt go that far.Turns out he snitched on the teacher.\"OP!YOU HEARTLESS PERSON!Why did you do it?\"\n\nI just did the smooth talk and told them it was a prank(its just a prank bro)\n\n\"You call that a prank?A pregnant lady fainted in the lift.You p*g!\"\n\nThe whole class was looking at me,as I wasn't the type.My cover was blown.Luckily,my parents didn't get any calls......I just apologized.The teacher was pretty chill about that,even though he was pretty fierce.My friend was doing the thumbs-up sign.Guess I deserved that....\n\nAnd that pregnant woman?\n\nNever seen her.Yet...", "summary": "I played a prank on a close friend of mine and indirectly made a pregnant woman almost miscarry."}
{"id": "t3_4qd3ng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (16F) Mom (42F) blamed me for her failed marriage. Now she's trying to talk to me again.", "post": "Background info: My parents (42F and 50M) are divorced. I live with my dad full time. \n\nMom and I got into a heated argument about college. She claimed she didn't have the money to have me and my 3 sisters in college at the same time. My mom makes good money, she's a surgeon and my dad's a well respected and busy lawyer. I got really heated & careless and said that I didn't ask to be born and maybe she should've been more responsible with birth control. She then said that she and my dad only got married because of me and I'm the reason for her failed marriage. \n\nI believe her because it makes sense. My older sister (19) has a different dad than me. I was at my parents wedding when I was 6 months old. \n\nI haven't spoken to my mom since but I heard from my dad she wants to talk to me. What do I do? I'm incredibly angry and hurt.", "summary": "Mom got upset with me and told me she only married my dad because she got pregnant with me. It makes sense, and she's trying to reach out to me again."}
{"id": "t3_pnpax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So reddit, there's this girl...", "post": "This is what I get for being a gentlemanly, classy guy.\n\nAt my college the gender ratio is about 7:1 (guys:girls) and so what happens a lot is that a girl will draw an inordinate amount of attention. This leads to guys (desperate because of the awful ratio) to be generally creepy and stalker-like. So my dilemma is that I, being one of the non creepers, have started attracting girls that want a guy that doesn't creep on them.\n\nSpecific occurrence: At the beggining of this semester while I was at the school's dining hall, this girl (that I know) comes up to me and pretty much demands my phone number and gives me her's. I didn't think this was too strange, but my friends who were eating with me said it was pretty obviously a \"Let's get together.\" move by her. Over the next couple of days she sent me mundane texts in a flirty fashion, smiley faces that didn't belong, over blown care about my feelings for being interrupted etc. \n\n This morning during my chem 2 lecture one a girl that I know in an ok way, who, on many previous occasions (we work on homework together and have had classes in the past together) said she HATED when people touched her (in any way). So this morning she said she wasn't feeling well and demanded that I feel up her Lymph nodes in her neck. This story doesn't properly portray the amount of aggressiveness that I am feeling from her. \n\nWould I mind getting to know her better? No, I think she is nice. \n\nI am freaking out about how she is going about it. YES!\n\nHoly mother of god, I have had girls come onto me before, but never from this direction, and it is starting to put me off.", "summary": "There is this girl after me (she likes me), but she is coming on *WAY* too hard, how do I make her calm down?"}
{"id": "t3_17b0mn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Anniversary of father's death, had a rough day.", "post": "Hello, loseit.\n\nSo, like the title says, today was the 9 year anniversary of my father's death. He died of a heart attack in his early 50s. I am 25 currently. Knowing that being overweight likely contributed to my father's early death, I have long been trying to commit myself to getting into shape.\n\nI've been doing really good lately, and have passed 5 pounds lost (not a lot, but better take it slow than keep gaining!). Today, though, without consciously realizing I was doing it, I just kept eating. It wasn't like a day long binge, but I had heavier than normal food for lunch (Chick-Fil-A) and heavier than normal food for dinner (lasagna with friends) followed with coffee (Starbucks after lunch and K-cup with sweet creamer after dinner) and several cookies a friend made for the dinner deal.  I know this is a psychological thing, so I'm just counting it as a cheat day and moving on, but damn if it doesn't feel shitty to work against the goal I made because of the very event that is leading me to eat emotionally.\n\nThis post is basically just me venting. I am learning to change my lifestyle, and I need a new way to deal with this particular psychological trauma. Food was always something special to me and my father, but it wasn't healthy food. We would make cookies or brownies together, then eat most of what we'd made. One day of poor eating habits won't set me back too far on my goals, but I'm afraid the one day will turn into a lot more than that if I don't acknowledge the issue and deal with it. So tomorrow, I will eat healthfully as I have been learning to do, and do the weightlifting I put off today. From there I will return to my routine.\n\nLoseit, now that my rant is over, what are some things you do that don't involve food to console yourselves on days when you are grieving? My fiance suggested that we give to a charity in his name to help turn the day to a positive direction and a celebration of my father's life rather than moping and being depressed all day, which I like, but I am looking for extra ideas.", "summary": "Anniversary of father's death, consoled myself with food subconsciously. Acknowledging the issue and seeking advice for better options."}
{"id": "t3_3z7fwx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] can't seem to get people who I consider to be friends [21-35 M/F] to hang out or follow through on plans.", "post": "I'm not really sure if there's a better sub to post about this, but I looked around for about 20 minutes before deciding on /r/relationships.\n\nI can't seem to get many people to follow through on plans with me, and if it happens, about half the people that were going to join me cancel within a couple hours of meeting up. \n\nFor example, I had a birthday party about a week ago, invited around 50 people ranging from high school friends to co-workers, and I think about 30 people said they were coming on the initial invite. Numbers started dwindling down over the course of time leading up to the party, and I think it was around 18 the day of. Subtract 6 people who texted me saying some variation of \"Something came up\", and I've got 12 people coming. I'm not saying that life doesn't happen, it's just that with other people's events, that doesn't happen as much.\n\nAnyways, party starts and I think 7 people ended up coming, plus some people I hadn't even invited, bringing it up to 10.\n\nThen on New Year's Eve I had made plans with people to go down to a local bar and celebrate. They all found other plans an hour before we were supposed to meet up.\n\nI do get anxious once in awhile, and I am depressed, so maybe I'm reading too much into a common occurrence. Just wanna know what I can do to change that. Am I supposed to have to convince people to hang out with me? Is it possible they're only friends with me because they feel like they have to be or something? People tell me a lot of the time that they enjoy spending time with me, that I'm funny and kind, which makes it even more confusing. Maybe I just have incredibly bad timing?", "summary": "Friends tend to bail on me whenever I make plans. How do I stop that from happening?"}
{"id": "t3_27n7zz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Crush [16 F] no, Been talking alot, i grew really fond of her. After a looong time i really gathered the courage to ask her, and i was 100% i had finally found the girl... She sent me a snap with herself and her boyfriend..", "post": "So, as the title said.\n\nI have never felt this big rush of emotions, i really do not know how to react..\n\nI have been rejected before but not with someone i actually liked this much, its like we.. its like, both of us had really unique interests (like mountain climbing and such). and we had all these in common... we could talk for hours about these things..\n\nI don't really know how to react, what to do.. i am feeling a mix of mostly sadness and anger.. suddenly everything feels out of place and i just want to go to sleep and forget everyone and everything.\n\nDo you guys have any suggestion on what i can do? to get over or it or simply forget?\n\nThanks in advance in means alot..", "summary": "Liked a girl alot, thought she liked me (it really seemed so). got a pic with herself and her boyfriend, rollercoaster of emotions.. no idea what to do.."}
{"id": "t3_3n2k9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(25) Unable to make female friends... :(", "post": "Hey guys... So I was wondering if I could have some input as to why other women don't like me and why it is so difficult for me to find female friends. \n\nFor starters, I am quite introverted (but very friendly) and spend most of my time working, being active (yoga / running), playing video games and reading / writing. I love comedy and make people laugh. Some people have stated I am intimidating but I started wearing lighter clothes & lightened my hair (I used to wear lots of black and have dark hair) to seem more approachable... still nothing. \n\nI have a great job, make really good money - more than most people I know but I don't talk about it or show off - and have always had a boyfriend. I am pretty, not movie star pretty but nice normal girl pretty and I am kind - something which the only friends I have ever made always took advantage of. \n\nHere is the thing: other women act like I'm a freak. When they find out I don't have social media (I think it's mostly an outlet for vanity and I would rather focus on my own life than waste time seeing how hard people try to make themselves look good - I never tell people that though!) they reject me. \n\nI also don't watch reality tv which makes me feel completely left out of most conversations. I don't give a shit about lululemon or those other brand names and I have NEVER drank anything from Starbucks. \n\nI feel so alone because I have rarely met anyone else like me and I feel like all of the other girls have always criticized me for being the black sheep and often find mean ways to put me down for no reason. I try to be friendly - give compliments - smile... nothing. Please help me guys :( (Sorry it is so long!)", "summary": "I think I am a normal nice person but other women don't like me and I don't have any friends. Why? Any advice? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_32ct51", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by checking out my flower beds", "post": "This just happened 20 minutes ago, so it's actually a TODAY if fucked up.\n\n\u00a0\n\nTwenty minutes ago I went outside to put a piece of mail in the mail box ...when I noticed some of our spring flowers had popped up.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI decided to walk over to our flower beds and started to smell not the odor of beautiful spring flowers...but dog shit.  I looked around and saw the offending large turd.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI don't own a dog.  And someone had the audacity to let their dog shit near our flower beds and then LEFT IT!  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI was pissed off...so I went inside to tell my husband.  He comes out and says oh yeah I see it!  This is where the fuck up happens.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI realize he isn't looking at the turd I found.  He is looking at a very squished turd.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI stepped in dog shit.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nIn my front yard near my flower beds.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI hate people.", "summary": "April showers bring May flowers and dog shit."}
{"id": "t3_tzicn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Scraped knee", "post": "Hello again guys, quick question.\n\nBackground: Went out and had some drinks came back home, missed a step outside and fell ~5 steps landing on my knee (concrete). When I awoke the next day I did the best I could with what I had (beach house) to clean the injury.\n\nThat was 4 days ago, my scrape is healing pretty quickly, already about 30% smaller from the original wound, BUT since Day 1 I've been having this white-yellow discharge from the scrape. It produces at an accelerated rate when I shower, I try to place a paper towel over it and press lightly to lift some of it off. From what I gathered, it's not smelly, which means it's not infected. It is a little red around the outside, but I figured I'd check in with you guys to double check.", "summary": "Scraped knee, healing quickly, still white-yellow discharge. Little bit of red surrounding the scrape, but not sensitive. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_umbys", "subreddit": "running", "title": "A Question about Running with Mono...", "post": "I am currently running cross country for my college and I'm going into my Senior year. Up until last season, I was around 26:30-27:00 for most 8k's. I was pretty happy with my performance and felt that I was doing pretty well. However, last season several things happened. First of all, the summer before last season I trained a lot more (I'm talking about running 150-200 miles more in a summer). Furthermore, we had a new coach last season. While our new coach's program was very lacking it wasn't too much different as our previous coach wasn't the best either. The one difference I noticed was that I felt exhausted for every race. Anyway, last season, my fastest 8k time was about 29:30 at the beginning of the season. It went downhill from there. Needless to say, my confidence was crushed and I pretty much began to resent running.\n\nWell, I continued running and trained for a half marathon in the spring (our school doesn't have a track program). Without doing an extensive amount of training (never did a run longer than 10 miles during training), I was able to run a 1:25 half. I thought this was decent, it was 6 minutes off my half PR that I set 2 years ago (1:19).\n\nContinuing, I took a couple weeks off then went to see my doctor for a yearly physical. I told my doctor about how weak I had been feeling and they ran some blood work to find out that I had mono (this was in late May). I had the anti-bodies for mono so I no longer had the illness. I took this with a grain of salt. On one hand I felt that this could have explained a lot. However, on the other hand I didn't want to just make an excuse for poor performance. Last week i got back into training and ran a local race to get 18:20 in a 5k (that's about 2 minutes off my PR).", "summary": "Start Here - Basically what I want to know is - Is it safe to say that Mono caused me to run horrific times? Should I place all the blame on Mono and look up from here? Or is some of the blame also on me? Finally, is there any chance that I can train and be back in the 26's (for an 8k)?"}
{"id": "t3_3clvx4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I rejected my good friend [F/20] 3 years ago. However I've [M/20] developed feelings for her again although she's got a boyfriend", "post": "This girl was literally crazy about me 3 years ago, we dated but at the time I wasnt ready for a relationship at 17 so I dropped the lets be friends bomb on her. Even today and after I shot her down we still get on so well! She took the rejection pretty hard and it made me feel guilty but we always remained in each others lives and our friendship has always been strong. \n\nAbout 3 months after I shot her down, she got a boyfriend, who she's still with today. However after going for a catch up with her at our local pub she doesn't see her relationship lasting that much longer. She was a little tipsy at the pub and she was saying things such as \"oh you love me really, we're just meant to be. And she was really flirty\" after I revealed I had the same intentions as her by wanting to travel the world and pretty much do the same things. She's always there for me no matter what, through thick & thin. I've started developing feelings for her again although she has a boyfriend. How do I approach this?", "summary": "Shot a girl down 3 years ago, now I'm regretting it, she also has a boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2uorv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This girl [F/18] and I [M/18] will have gone out on 4 or 5 dates by Valentine's day (also my birthday) and I'm wondering if it would be appropriate to get her a gift at that point.", "post": "I'm very, very new to this dating thing. Assuming things continue to go as well as they did for the first several weeks we talked, and the first couple of dates we went on, we'll probably be \"official\" at that point. But, like, is that still too soon to give something heartfelt to her? She says she pretty much only wears bracelets in terms of jewelry so I was thinking about maybe making one for her or finding an antique one or, I dunno, something cute like that? But I don't wanna seem like a weirdo. Or just. I dunno. Self confidence is one of my weak points so I'm always unsure of myself in these kind of things. I don't want to get her something and then find out she wasn't as serious as I was and then it's all weird and awkward.\n\nAm I vastly over thinking this? I really, really like this girl and I think she likes me back but we're both really shy and nervous so it's really hard to gauge how she feels.", "summary": "VALENTINE'S DAY IS HARD."}
{"id": "t3_wsngn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After thinking about my past relationships, what is the most immoral thing you have done to get with someone?", "post": "I'll start: Some time long ago, in the days where I had game, I met a girl who I thought was the bees knees. Let me tell you something, she was a solid 10; smart, pretty, loved kids and adored animals. One day when I was fixating on her I got the bright idea to steal her dog and return it to her for extra brownie points. Once the night had come where I was going to unfurl my dastardly deed, I drove over to her neighborhood and parked just out of sight. When I thought all the boys and girls had gone to bed I ran as fast as I could and snatched that dog quicker then they could turn on the lights. With my new little buddy we hopped in the car and drove, unbeknownst to me this dog was afraid of cars and hopped out of the window doing 40, I never looked back out of guilt. I never talked to er from then on", "summary": "stole a girls dog, jumped out of my window and I'm not sure what exactly happened to it."}
{"id": "t3_42b9q6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Australian Law) Picatinny Lasers/Weapon Sights", "post": "Hi!\n\nI have looked everywhere possible, including official government sites regarding lasers and other military/force-using weapon attachments and for the life of me I cannot figure out what is legal or not.\n\nThe first issue:\nNSW Law regarding lasers must be under 1mW and you apparently have to have a permit, or a reason to have one in public. **I do not intend to be in public with these at all, and it's purely for personal and fun use, not for HvZ.**(until I find a non-potentially blinding laser for HvZ/nerf events.) \n\nHowever, I think this law mainly applies to handheld/keychain lasers. Picatinny ones are for weapons/small arms, and thus in a (sort of) separate category to handheld ones, even though they can be handheld with ease. \n\nThe second issue:\nImporting lasers, regardless of their use weither weapon or handheld, can be subject to confiscation and a fine of 5,500$+ AUD, even though it may be 'legal' to own.\n\nThe first issue is solved by adequate knowledge of the law which I cannot seem to find and confirm (i do not fancy getting a fine because some guy on ebay said it was okay) \n\nThe second issue is solved by domestic purchase. \n\nThese, and any other future picatinny weapon accessories are not and will never be used on a real firearm, and are intended soley for  NERF toys. \n\nCould I please get some confirmation on what I can and cannot do? as well as laws regarding use, possession, etc of anything related?", "summary": "Want to get a >1mW picatinny laser sight but not sure if it's legal to import or own in NSW Australia and can't find any solid information regarding such."}
{"id": "t3_2rbc1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I allowed to be angry?", "post": "Forgive the poor structure, on mobile.\n\nI'm 22m and my recent (2months or so) ex girlfriend 20f of 1year is having dinner with my mother tomorrow. I found out through my sister and I'm a tad uncomfortable with it. \n\nI think it shows a fair bit of disrespect and disloyalty on my mums behalf. \n\nThe ex girlfriend messaged me last week that \"she's going to be in both my mum and my sisters life for a long time so (I) need to get used to her being around\". Mum and sister can't seem to understand how manipulative she's being because they don't see the side of her I do. \n\nAm i justified in being angry? Also, I bought a packet of cigarettes today for the first time in a while, so that's an excellent side effect of the stress.", "summary": "ex girlfriend is using my mum and sister to stay in my life."}
{"id": "t3_24qsfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [25M] wants to have a threesome with me [23F] and another woman, need advice/tips.", "post": "I have known my SO since I was 16 and he was 18. There was always chemistry between us but it seemed like when one of us was free the other wasnt and vice versa. We finally ended up dating when I was 20. Things have been spectacular between us ever since. We are living together, we are going to school full-time, and we have an awesome kid. I know this sounds so cliche and cheesy but it feels like we're soul mates.\n\nAnywho, so he and I have always been pretty open and truthful about things like if we see an attractive person or if someone is hitting on one of us or something like that. We actually almost make it like a game when we go out to the grocery, etc. to try and find MILFs haha. We are also very open sexually with each other and like to try different things. So my SO has brought up trying a threesome (with another girl) quite a number of times. Sometimes he says it seriously and sometimes its jokingly although he would be totally for it if I agreed to then.\n\nI am not sure how I would feel about it. I would probably identify myself as pansexual and I have been involved sexually with females so being with a girl isn't the issue. In fact, I have actually already had a threesome with my SO back when he was dating his ex (I was 17) and it ended up turning things sour with their relationship. Granted, their relationship was pretty messed up at that point already. My main concern is that I don't want to mess up our relationship somehow by having a threesome. Just sexually speaking, I am totally down for it though.\n\nSo Reddit any suggestions? Anyone experienced anything similar? Any tips on how to make a threesome work when in a long term relationship?", "summary": "my SO wants to have a threesome and I don't know if I want to because I don't want it to negatively affect the relationship. "}
{"id": "t3_r7vp7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I Risk it? (x-post from r/ferrets)", "post": "I don't know what it is but lately I've really wanted a pet, this is very odd because one of my roommates already has two cats and my other roommate has a dog. Last night I was up late researching pets that do well in apartments, at first I was thinking of a turtle but after reading everything you have to do for them I wasn't feeling it. For the longest time I had a prejudice about ferrets (my mom told me growing up that they smell like death) but after doing my homework I really want one. So in one night I was able to find a foster care place near me, set up a reasonable amount of time to where I could ferret proof my place, raise money, and to make sure I really want a ferret and this isn't just a passing thing (I don't think this is a passing thing, I've never been this crazy about wanting a pet before). I already had ideas about where I could put the cage and everything. I was talking to one of my roommates about it today and she mentioned that our apartment doesn't allow \"exotic pets\"... I go on their website to check and she was right. Furthermore turns out there is a two pet limit as well so we're already breaking that rule. I want to know, do you think it would be worth it to sneak in a ferret? Also do you think I would be able to keep the apartment staff from knowing about the ferret... Wow I did not mean for this post to get so long", "summary": "I really want a ferret, have everything planned, turns out my apartment doesn't allow ferrets and we already have one too many pets per their rules as is... should I risk having a ferret and just keeping it hidden on the super rare occasion that staff shows up?"}
{"id": "t3_4a15re", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Can ZzzQuil be used as a substitute for Benadryl?", "post": "I've recently started taking some new medications (Gabapentin, 300 mg 2x a day, and trazadone 50 mg once a day at bedtime) that seem to have the side effect of making me itch like crazy (I also get the sensation that I have bugs crawling on me all of the time, which certainly doesn't help). Fortunately, I see my PCP in a week, and can then speak to her about having, at the very least, the Gabapentin changed to another medication for chronic pain, because after everything I've read, it more than the trazadone seems to be the culprit (in;b4 withdrawal advice, I promise I have read all about it and will speak to my doctor about how to safely come off of it. Fortunately, I'll only have been taking a relatively low dose for about two weeks at that point).\n\nAnyway. Because I'm itching so much, I have been scratching to the point where I'm tearing skin, or leaving those blood-blister-type bruises. Even my Curel Itch Defense lotion, which works wonders on my legs during the winter when it's dry, doesn't help. I have the topical Benadryl cream, but it didn't help much at all. I am completely out of the oral Benadryl, and because of how this medication effects me, I don't trust myself to drive out to the store.\n\nI do, however, have ZzzQuil at home. I know that both ZzzQuil and Benadryl have the same active ingredient (diphenhydramine hcl) in the same strength (I believe it's 25 mg off the top of my head). Even though it's listed as 'sleep aid' on one, and 'antihistamine' on the other... Will ZzzQuil work as a temporary quick fix in place of Benadryl? How exactly does diphenhydramine hcl work?", "summary": "Can ZzzQuil be a substitute for Benadryl (in the antihistamine sense) because they both have diphenhydramine hcl as the active ingredient?"}
{"id": "t3_238z95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 2.5 years together. He's not certain I'm what he wants long term.", "post": "To begin with: Im Canadian, he's Australian. I met him while travelling there. We hit it off, I stayed 2 years there and now he's over here with me. But...\n\nHe hates Canada, hates his job, misses his friends and family etc. I'm being as supportive as I can, but he's not doing much to help himself (aka, going out more often, finding new jobs etc.).\n\nI thought he was going to be the one I married, we always got along so well. But lately, due to all the stress were going through (him with everything Canadian, me with my high stress job/needing to support him when I get home), things have been rocky for a few months. \n\nIn October he's due to return home. I brought it up to him that in order for me to uproot my life again to return to Australia, I need a commitment from him. I need to know that he sees us probably getting married and starting a family before I'm 30 (as having kids after 30 can be harder for women and my family has already had some childbearing issues). He said he always thought 30-35 for kids and whatnot, which feels a little late to me\nHe told me, as things are now, he doesnt see me in his future. He says the way things have been for 6-8 months havent been fantastic. (6 of those months were in Canada). Of couse this breaks my heart because I thought he was the one for me. Advice on how to approach this? I'm scared to lose him because he doesn't feel comfortable committing with my life goals/dreams.", "summary": "Foreign boyfriend of 2.5 years wants to return home (has no intention of staying in my country). But in order to compel me to uproot my life for him, I need a commitment from him that he's uncomfortable with (marriage and kids within 5 years). How to approach this situation? We're both very stressed and tense bcause of this conversation we just had."}
{"id": "t3_tkxjq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My best friend clearly cheated on her boyfriend last night within the 20 minutes she was away from him. How do I approach this situation and ask her about it?", "post": "My best friend still constantly talks to her ex. He will drive a half hour to buy her cigarettes and alcohol if she doesn't have the money so he can see her. Well, last night this happened and her current boyfriend was at my house. When she got back after about 20-30 minutes (which should have only been 10 at the most) she went straight into the bathroom and rinsed out her mouth. I also noticed that her shirt was not straight and a bit off her shoulder. I need to confront her about this, I just don't know how.", "summary": "how do I ask my best friend if she cheated on her boyfriend last night without being a complete bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_4fnstu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My girlfriend had a breakdown and didn't tell me", "post": "So I'm a teen with an amazing gf. We get along well, our families don't hate the other person, and we help keep each other sane. Well, I have this one class that is the same as her (Oh yeah, also she's a grade above me) but in a different period. In this class, every student is assigned a laptop to use during class. We just so happened to choose the same number. Today she left behind an image from FMA: Brotherhood to remind me of her (She's been obsessed with it lately) and I went snooping in her history to see if she left anything else. She left her email open. Now, I trust her 100%. I'd be heartbroken if she was doing things behind my back, but she'd never do such a thing. This isn't my concern. I, as the  overtly curious person that I am, went looking around in her email for a certain thing I'd seen before that no one should have, that I won't mention here. I looked in one of her email folders and saw a few things she sent to herself, some of them bringing to light a whole new issue altogether, but this post is about what else I found. I found some chat transcripts between her and someone from  [Oregon Youthline] talking about her having a serious breakdown caused by her \"Aunt.\" I won't give too much detail right here because she knows I use reddit sometimes, but what I will say is her \"aunt\" isn't her aunt, but I know exactly who she means. In the chats she tells \"Alex\" that she was feeling horribly depressed and had a breakdown after her \"aunt\" turned a minor conflict over chores into a serious issue. She said her \"aunt\" blamed her for her fighting with her \"uncle\" and their marital problems. This was back at the beginning of the school year. She doesn't act like anything is going on right now, but should I be worried?", "summary": "My gf went to a teen crisis hotline and I never knew anything was going on"}
{"id": "t3_2d5biu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Me [21 M] with my crush [18 F], Should I ask her out, again?", "post": "I asked this girl who I work with out on a date; it was only a simple coffee/drink date and happily she said yes. But that arrangement never happened as she was busy, so I thought I would plan in advance and ask her on Facebook. I asked her on Facebook after having a nice chat but she ignored my message about the coffee date, so I didn't want to be annoying any more so I just stopped asking after that.\n\nBut I went out out last night and a couple of people who we were hanging around with noticed she might be interested in me, and told me to buy her a drink. But sadly they told me this when I was leaving so I never got the chance to buy her a drink and confront her again.", "summary": "Asked a girl out she said yes nothing happened. Asked her again she ignored me. Went out last night, people think she likes me."}
{"id": "t3_1ng5bi", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My roommate and I (both 19f) are both lost; Thinking of finishing up this year and moving", "post": "Here's the deal: both my roommate and I have absolutely no idea what to do in life. Not even a clue. We both feel so stuck here, we've grown up in Michigan and can't stand it. We don't want to waste any more money at college without growing a little first and discovering ourselves (typical college kids, right?) and have been thinking of moving out of state, preferably to Cali. I know, I've researched, Cali is EXPENSIVE. However, I feel that given the time to find decent jobs before moving out there and living with her aunt in Fresno while we save up more money and find a good place to live, we would be able to make it work. Whatever happens, whether it ends up being a mistake or not, I think it would be a good life experience to get out of state and, if you will, start over. Please don't comment saying it's a terrible idea, stay in college and finish your degree, etc. etc. All I know is I am miserable here, I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life, and I want a change. Maybe I'll get out and not feel any different, but that's on me. I just need some advice.", "summary": "Roomie and I want to move out of Michigan to Cali, we hate it here and are done wasting our money in college because we have no clue what we want to do. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2c8z5v", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "How to stop alley cat from using my backyard as hunting ground (mice, birds)", "post": "I live in downtown Washington DC at a house with a small fenced in backyard, which is a rarity in this mostly urban area. There are a couple of neighborhood cats that roam the alley but within the past two weeks there is a new face that has made its home in my backyard. I this cat in my yard 4-5 times a day in a hunting stance and scare her away when I can. Over the past ten days she has killed at least 15 mice and a couple of birds in my backyard, placing them in piles at my doorstep to rot in the hot sun. The smell and abundance of flies this attracts is not cool with me.\n\nHow do I humanely teach this cat to stay out of my backyard without spending money on automatic sprinklers or ultrasonic noise machines? Keep in mind that I don't always catch her in the act, so it has to be something that keeps her out of the yard entirely rather than just when she sees me. I was considering either a high volume water gun or a low powered airsoft gun may do the trick, but I'm not sure if these would be enough to deter the cats entirely.", "summary": "An alley cat is making piles of dead animals in my backyard, and I want recommendations on how to permanently scare her off of my property."}
{"id": "t3_2zzvm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24f with 24m for 3 years and I think this is more of a vent.", "post": "I found out my boyfriend is contacting others and putting himself,made an ad, out under craigslist casual encounters. He says it's a just what he uses to jerk off. He's having conversations with these women and exchanging photos. I have had someone do this before but they actually were just cheating on me. So, I don't know how to feel after finding out he's doing it \"just for fun\". I'm torn between believing him and losing trust in him all together, only because he has never lied to me before.\n\n This makes me sad because I feel like I'm not good enough now. Not because he jerks off to it but because he's conversing with them as if there's intention to hang out or meet them. I dunno what to do.....just accept it?", "summary": "Found out boyfriend talks and exchanges info with other women online. He says it's just a fetish but I don't feel comfortable with it and wouldn't ask him to stop because I get fetishes. However, I don't know if I trust it."}
{"id": "t3_48sgts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [25 M] of a year and a halfs brother and his girlfriend [both 23] don't like me", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and his brother and his brothers girlfriend still don't like me. I'm naturally a very shy person, and I take awhile to open up to people. In the beginning I tried really hard to be talkative with them, even though I wasn't comfortable, and I thought I was doing a good job. They live a few blocks away and they have a big golden retrevoer dog, so I would spend a lot of time petting him when we would go over, and they started to get offended that I was too quiet. \n\nThey accuse me of not even liking my boyfriend, and of paying too much attention to other guys, and they've even accused me of stealing from them. All for no reason and with no context, I feel like they're just trying to find excuses to not like me. Being shy has always been an issue for me, and I really did try to make a conscious effort when I was around them in the beginning to talk more. Like I said, they live a few blocks away, so we used to go over there almost every week, and now they never invite us over and they never invite us to hang out when all of our friends are getting together. It's been over a year and they still don't like me. I want me and my boyfriend to start being included again, I feel bad because it's my fault they don't want to hang out with either of us just because I'm around. They say that my boyfriends just blind To it all and can't see how I am, when they are the ones who made quick judgments because I was shy. \n\nI also really miss their dog, and I want to start seeing him again haha\n\n Should I just not care what they think and not let it bug me anymore?", "summary": "My boyfriends brother and girlfriend don't like me even after a year and a half of dating because I was too shy in the beginning. Should I stop caring and not let it bug me?"}
{"id": "t3_4cxtte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] told me [21F] to tell my ex and good friend [21M] he could not come to my party after I invited him", "post": "Please forgive poor English, I am Italian \n\nI turned 21 last week and had a party at my place last week Friday.  Myself and My ex have always been really close, the break up was not bad. We mutually agreed that we are not good for each other in a romantic relationship. \n\nWe see each other every now and then and are on good terms. I had invited him to the party and the day of the party, my current boyfriend started to throw a fit about how he did not want him here. \n\nWe got into a argument, and he won by saying \" if you love me, you will tell him he can't be here\" even though it's my parent's house and my party. I said I would, and I am still hating myself for this I forgot to phone him and tell him. \n\nPeople started arriving around 9 pm, and I saw him arrive and my heart just sank. I asked him if he could come for a walk with me, I explained to him the situation, he said whatever, see you at uni  handed me money for a gift and left. \n\nDid I do the right thing? because partners are suppose to support each other, but at the same time I feel really guilty.", "summary": "Told my ex he could not come to my party, after I invited him because my boyfriend wanted me to."}
{"id": "t3_4wdcil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] can't understand my [19M] boyfriend's sociableness ,what should i do ?", "post": "First of all,i'm sorry if i misspell words or something as English is not my language but i really hope you will understand what i'm trying to say\n\nSo,i'm with my boyfriend for 1 year now and he is a very friendly and sociable kind and i'm very unsociable,i have no friends and i don't want,anything more than 2 people around me feels overwhelming as hell:/ And he is the total opposite.He can't live without friends,he likes people around him etc\n\nAnyway the problem is now he wants some time only with his friends (he usually takes me with him..) and i know it's allright to let him go out with them sometimes ,but i just't can't understand this.I'm not jelous , it just makes me sad to know that he does things without me,it makes me nervous and unimportant.And i know this is not normal but i just can't cope with this feelings:/ I didn't say anything to him about this as i know it's not his fault and he has nothing to do\n\nWhat should i do to get over this?I don't want to ruin this realtionship becuase of this thing,but also i hate feeling this way...please i need some help", "summary": "I'm anti-social ,my boyfriend is very sociable and i can't keep up with him,this makes me nervous and sad,i need advices pelase"}
{"id": "t3_3tqqbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my [17 F] of 2 years broke up. She wants space. How do I get her back?", "post": "We were dating for 2 years and we had no problems in our relationship. I left during the summer to visit family in the mid-west during that time I started to lose feelings for her for unknown reasons. I broke up with her 3 or 4 days before her birthday in september like a fucking asshole over skype.\n\nI saw her again once school started back up and immediately started regretting my decisions. We eventually got back together and went to the homecoming dance and were together for about a 3 week period until she told me the day after homecoming that we should really take a break and focus on our friendship and that she needs space.\n\nIt has been 3 months that I have been over clingy with her and trying to give her that space but I haven't because she was the only person I could talk to about my problems and I just get in moods where she is all I can think about. But within the last 3 or 4 weeks I have been giving her some space.\n\nShe still occasionally tells me that she loves me and I say it back. But a couple days ago I said I love you through text and she told me to not say that, I then asked why and she said \"because we are not in a relationship.\"\n\nI haven't seen her in about 2 weeks. What should I do to attempt to get her back or have her want to talk to me? Do any of you know from experience if the giving space thing works? How should I try talking to her again? She has a Christmas party every year with about 25 friends always and I am in her friend group. Should I try making moves with her there?", "summary": "I broke my girlfriends heart and am trying to get back with her but she said to give her some space for now. Does the space thing work and how do I get back with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2j5d3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M 28) with my friend (F 21) Her dog just passed away and I'm unsure about how to cheer her up.", "post": "Hello everyone, thank you for your time. I recently made friends with this girl. In the past few months I've become terribly fond of her. I take her out semi-regularly in some pretty elaborate dates. These dates are for the most part non-romantic although I do have feelings for her. At any rate, her dog recently died and she's been feeling pretty down about it. The dog passed away back in her hometown on the east coast while we are in California so she didn't get to be there for the dog's death or its last days. I've never become too attached to a pet so it's been hard to relate. My question is: short of giving her a new puppy (which i won't do) what sort of things could I do for her to cheer her up?", "summary": "My friend's childhood pet died and I'm unsure on how to cheer her up."}
{"id": "t3_37gdnj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] I [20F] just broke up with my boyfriend [19M] for things he did 5 years ago.", "post": "When he was 14/15 he often slept over his friend's house, who happened to be where his crushed lived as well (13F) as long as her younger sister (11/12F).\n\nHe was a very lonely and desparate boy. He never had any kind of relationship with another girl. He crushed really hard on the two of them, more so the older one.\n\nSometimes at the sleepover, he'd go into their rooms while they were alseep and watch them and think horny things. He'd gently place his hand on their butts and thighs over their pajama pants (no skin on skin) and would rub himself and then leave to finish masturbating. They never found out or caught him. He plans on confessing very soon.\n\nLike I mentioned it's been 5 years or so. I feel like I shouldn't be this distraught over what happened when he was a dumb teenager. I wholeheartedly believe that it was just a dumb hormonal thing he did. And God knows he hates himself for it. Our relationship is everything I could have asked for. I still love him with every ounce of my being and I feel horrible. I don't know how I should have reacted. I need advice & someone to yell at me. I have never felt this horrible in my life. He is the love of my life, the guy I want to marry. Our relationship makes me so damn happy.", "summary": "I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 and a half years over something creepy he did 5 years ago."}
{"id": "t3_1bx9p3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone is using my real email address as their fake email address when he fills out forms and doesn't want to be spammed. I just now figured out that persons REAL address. How could I (humorously rather than maliciously) get him to stop?", "post": "my gmail address is firstname.lastname@gmail.com, just like everyone else. Google doesn't care about the . in the email address, and this guy is using firstnamelastname@gmail.com as his 'fake' email so he doesn't get spam. I finally got emailed by someone who knew him personally and was able to get her to give me his REAL gmail address. \n\nThis guy has been using my email for over a year on pretty much anything he didn't want to get emailed about. I get tons of spam, both C1@Lis & v1Agr4 and actual marketing emails from real companies. \n\nI want to get this guy to stop, but I want to mess with him a bit first because he's been a pain in my ass for too long. I've reached out to his family members to get him to stop and it hasn't. \n\nWhat can I do to get him back. I don't want to ruin this guys life, but I would like to it be as hilarious as possible. \n\nDo you guys have any ideas?\n\n.....", "summary": "guy is using my real email address as his dummy email and won't stop."}
{"id": "t3_1un2yv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] possibly dating a [28F] single mother of 1. Any tips, advice, or etc.", "post": "So I am single guy 24 years old, no kids myself. Somehow I got roped into talking to my friend's girlfriend's sister. Now I have always told myself that I would not date a single mother, at least at this point in my life. And not even sure if I want kids of my own, definitely not any time soon. \n\nBut here I am. I have been talking to herea lot and she seems really cool. She is really attractive too. Part of me says don't get involved because she has a young daughter but on the other hand I would hate to pass on something that could turn out great. What are your guys thoughts on a situation like this.", "summary": "Worth dating a single mother when I am still pretty young?"}
{"id": "t3_xswmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! Sibling Rivalry: five years apart and cannot get along.", "post": "I am a male 22 and my brother is 17. I came out to California to visit my parents and younger brother for 12 days and after day three I'm already getting on the plane and flying back home. The problem is that I cannot get along with my younger brother and it drives my parents to the point where they cannot stand me being there any longer. I call my brother fat and tease him about being lazy which makes my parents fire back at me and tell me to stop. I try to do my best to avoid this topic but for some reason feel compelled to verbally attack him. Can anyone who may have been or is in a similar situation give me some advice on how to improve my relationship with my younger brother. I see him rarely now and just need to stop this all together.", "summary": "Verbally harass my younger brother to the point where I am no longer welcome to stay at my parents house while visiting the family."}
{"id": "t3_2jbege", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] GF just asked me [28 M] for time. We've been together for the last 5.5 years", "post": "Yesterday, my GF asked me for some time, and we will not be seeing each other/texting/calling/whatever for a week and a half.\n\nShe entered school last August to do a Master, but since like a week or two she was very very distant, not responding to my texts, or doing it with monosylabics. But when we saw each other everything seemed to be just normal.\n\nShe denied everything, but I know she became close with a classmate of her, she just states that she's clueless about her investigation, her path on life, our relationship and what not. And I think at the end of that period, she'll dump me.\n\nI spent the whole night awake, thinking, crying and what not, and I have a long day ahead. Any advice or words will be helpful", "summary": "Inminent break up. Please advice."}
{"id": "t3_1257sn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it ok for a doctor to not prescribe painkillers after surgery?", "post": "my girlfriends mom's retinas just detached. i guess she's genetically predisposed to them detaching as she gets older (my gf is just thrilled to find out she has these genes too).\n\nshe's been in for a checkup or surgery every other day for about two weeks. i know she's had at least three procedures because i've seen her fresh out of surgery three times. her doctor has not prescribed **anything** for pain, which seems like a pretty fucking important thing after getting needles in her eyes. she has gotten prescriptions for a couple different eyedrops, so i know she's gotten *some* kind of prescription from him, but they are not for pain.\n\nam i alone in thinking this is kind of barbaric? this is 2012 we shouldn't have to tough it out after surgery anymore. the more i think about it, the more it sounds negligent on the doctors part, regardless of her comfort i'm sure the added stress would hinder her recovery.", "summary": "is it negligent for a doctor to not prescribe painkillers after multiple (serious) eye surgeries?"}
{"id": "t3_51771z", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Is having some rockabilly elements in your wedding a bad idea if it's not your everyday style?", "post": "Hi everyone! \n\nI'm really starting to want a rockabilly themed wedding. I don't personally have that as my every day style but I've always admired it. \n\nBut to really get into the nitty gritty of my dilemma, I'll need to explain a little. My FH and I are huge fans of music and is one of the things that really brought us together when we first started dating.  I have a huge collection of vinyls and have some vinyl themed decor in our house so I thought it would be cute and personal of us to have some vinyl record decor at our wedding. Here are some examples I liked: [1] & [2.] I Also really liked the idea of having concert tickets for [save the dates] and having [CD's that look like vinyls] (which we would put our favorite songs on) and use them for [wedding invitations] \n\nBut here is where the rockabilly stuff comes in. Since I thought the overall look of rockabilly goes well with the whole music/vinyl theme and my interest in the[ red,black, and white wedding color scheme] I thought it would look really cool to have my bridesmaids wear these [dresses.] ( I also thought these [fake tattoos] I found on Pinterest were also a super cute idea for favors and would further the rockabilly theme. \n\nThe other thing is that I'm not really interested in a rockabilly type wedding dress. The look I'm trying to find is more modern but still has that vintage kind of feel such as this [dress.] However, I was thinking of having that kind of [hairstyle.] \n\nAnd to top it all off I'm not going to be playing rockabilly music. The music I'm interested in having is pretty eclectic. The songs are from each decade ranging from 1950's to today's hits. \n\nI'm worried everything doesn't seem to work well together and I'm pulling my inspiration from too many ideas. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I want to use vinyl records for decor. I want a red,black, and white wedding. I want my bridesmaids to wear [this] ( but I want to wear [this.] ( Also, virtually no rockabilly music will be played. Bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1fcuob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [29M] isnt as sexual as i am [20F]", "post": "So my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now and i am starting to realize that we have different desires when it comes to our sex life. I prefer to have sex multiple times a day and while he claims he always wants to have sex, he is content to only initiate once per day. I also prefer biting, scratching, hair pulling, choking, type of sex while he claims to enjoy it, his face tells otherwise. Whenever i act on these urges i feel extremely embarrassed afterwards because its obvious he isnt as aroused by it as i am. I have expressed my concern to him many times and he has assured me that he just isnt good at expressing himself. Should i just accept the fact that we are different and attempt to subdue my urges? Is it possible that due to our gap in age that he has matured passed the \"sex crazed\" phase? Or maybe he doesnt enjoy having sex with me and he is just trying not to hurt my feelings?", "summary": "My boyfriend doesnt act like he enjoys sex with me and it makes me feel ashamed of my desires."}
{"id": "t3_fxpy3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Your Strangest Trust Game?", "post": "I was up all night in downtown Toronto waiting for a 7am flight to Cancun, Mexico.  I was just chilling in 24 hour diners and cafes.  \n\n5 am rolls around, and I needed to get some cash for my trip (I had about 50$ American, no credit card, and just a debit card.).  I put my debit card into the bank machine, and the contraption EATS IT!  I was struck with panic.  I didn't have enough money to even make it to the airport.   I stood there for a couple of minutes pressing every damn button and trying to use any possible force to get the card out too.  (BTW I had put my pin # in it, and the screen was frozen on the withdraw page) \n\nA random guy passes by and is talking on his cell phone, and comes to use the machines too.  He ends his call.  I talk to him with a crazed voice, explaining my situation, and if I could use his phone.  I call the emergency number, and the operator tells me that I can deposit my money into this random guy's account!?  \n\nI am flabbergasted.  He keeps asking me if I am homeless.   \n\nLong story short, I deposited a huge sum of money into his account.  He didn't run away with it.  He gave it to me.  We gave each other the strangest look, and both said \"This is the strangest trust game I have ever had!\"", "summary": "Flight left to Mexico at 7am, needed cash, only had debit card.  Machine eats card.  Random stranger lets me deposit my money into his bank account.  Gives it to me.  Trust."}
{"id": "t3_10rhdw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm supposed to graduate from college this semester but I'm missing one credit.  What should I do?", "post": "As the title says, I'm supposed to graduate with a degree in Economics after this semester, but as I transferred to this University 2 years ago, I am supposed to have 60 institutional credits.  Due to me being incompetent and missing the fact that I was supposed to take an extra credit this semester, I will only have 59/60.  \n\nI have started applying for jobs already, but I have a mediocre GPA and am currently trying to expand my repertoire to make myself more marketable (I started taking some computer science classes this semester).  Now I have two options.  1, I could probably get into a 1 credit drum class and fulfill my requirement for this semester.  2, I can wait another semester and take another full load (taking 18 now so I would probably do the same next semester) and hopefully boost my GPA and would have much more math and computer science under my belt for graduation.  I already have a decent amount of math (taken calculus up to Diff Eq and probability, as well as all econometrics courses offered).\n\nWhat would you guys recommend?", "summary": "need one credit to graduate, should I try to get into a drum class and fulfill it this semester or take a full load of math/comp sci next semester to be more marketable?"}
{"id": "t3_n8gl9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your most memorable high school moment/story? I'll start.", "post": "A friend of mine ran into class and on the top of his lungs yelled, \"EVERYONE! THERE'S A GIANT MAMMOTH SHIT IN THE WASHROOM\" and then darted back out. Naturally, my response was \"wtf? A mammoth sized shit? No way, this definitely needs to be checked out.\" Before my teacher could say otherwise I ran out the door and to the boy's washroom.  \n\nThere was a lineup snaking across the hallway when I arrived. The teachers even gathered to witness this monstrosity. The anticipation was killing me. After hearing several, \"it's so huge\" \"wow, how did that come out of someone's ass?\" comments, I knew this was going to be good. \n\nWhat I saw was a Guinness book world record size shit. This thing was at least 3 feet in length and around eight inches in diameter. It was as if King Kong himself had taken a shit. We stood there perplexed, wondering how such a shit was possible. The best part was that it couldn't be flushed. So our janitor had to haul out this massive one piece dyno-core shit and burn it outside in a remote part of the track and field. Needless to say the story spread like wild fire and the shit became known as \"The Log.\"", "summary": "A Massive King Kong size shit was discovered in the bathroom of my  former high school and to the amusement of students and teachers it became known as \"The Log\""}
{"id": "t3_334cnv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my ___ [16 F] 6months , Am I stupid? Or reason for concern", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now, and I know I have some strong feelings of jealousy whenever she even says hi to her make friends to be honest. But recently I found out that she sends a lot of kisses in texts to other guys, she's only responding to what they send her but it did bother me. I found out that she also put \"love ya\" In response to a guy that messaged \"love you\" to her I know that they're not great friends but she says she never really showed him the time of day. I'm just wondering if she's polite or... Flirting, if a lad sends 10 kisses. So will she. But she never meets them and maybe I'm just insecure. Opinions?", "summary": "Polite or Flirtatious? Over jealousy?"}
{"id": "t3_o0fpx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why?", "post": "Now a logical response to the question \"Why?\" is: \"Why what?\" But really...ask yourself...Why what? It's the English language, yes, but Why language?\n\nA lot of redditors maybe be annoyed at me placing this question here...but quite honestly a subreddit doesn't exist that could contain it. Also I wanted the possible participation of a large audience.\n\nMy question is: Why?\n\nTo elaborate... I would like some perspective, not just that, but unique perspective. It's up to you how you interpret this. \n\nI am placing this here because it doesn't belong in [/r/atheism](/r/atheism) it doesn't belong in [/r/askscience](/r/askscience) or anywhere else for that matter... (maybe you'll understand my reasoning when you read my opinion)\n\nTo me the question \"Why?\" creates an abstraction of inherited super questions. If you follow the cascade of raised propositions, I believe you always end up with: Why are we here? or Why Universe? \n\nIf you're religious I believe you may think you have an answer for this, if so please! Say!\nElse please tell me Why? where does your curiosity lead you? What question do you pose that you cannot answer?", "summary": "Ask yourself \"Why?\""}
{"id": "t3_18olzt", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travel Advice Needed From Dog Owning Travelers", "post": "I originally posted this in /r/dogs but I thought this sub might be a better place for it. My question is: My girlfriend and I are hoping to adopt a dog next summer. Both of us have wanted to get a dog for many years now and next year we will finally have the opportunity to do so. However, both of us also love to travel and would like to spend some time in Southeast Asia/Australia/South America, before we get too old to do some of the more physically demanding things that we enjoy. We aren't the type of people who would feel right just dumping our dog on a sitter for a couple of weeks/months. So our question is basically what are our options? Does anybody have any experience traveling abroad with their dogs (particularly in less developed countries)? What options worked for you? How did you find dog friendly airlines/hotels/campgrounds/places to visit? How did you negotiate various culture's views on dogs as pets?\n\nAll we have been able to come up with so far is that we either choose traveling or we choose the dog. I feel like there has to be some sort of middle ground here.\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Hoping to get a dog next year but also want to travel abroad (Asia/South America/ Australia) in the near future and need advice on making traveling with my dog work."}
{"id": "t3_4l4nvb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my ex crush [27 M] accidentally stalked him on Linked In. What do I do now?", "post": "There's a guy who works in the same building as me but for a different company. He would flirt with me a lot for a few months until I stopped paying attention to him cause I realized I wasn't into him. I didn't know his name or anything about him.\n\nLast night I was on Linked in which I hardly ever use just to update my job status. And then I started looking around people's profiles with my profile viewing notifications on (where people can see that I've viewed their profiles). And then as I was looking through profiles of people and I found his company and then his profile. And obviously i was curious and went on and looked until I realized that people can see profile visualizations on linked in and changed the settings 10 minutes later to anonymous. Now I'm scared that he might get notified about it and it's going to be so awkward cause I see him a lot and I don't even think we've got any common connections. We never spoke but I noticed his friends giving me looks a few days back and somehow I find that pretty strange as well.\n\nThis is going to look so awkward if he sees it. I don't want him to think that I still have a crush on him. I don't even like him but it's just curiosity since he's been flirting with me for so long. Also is it possible for him to see it if I've turned off profile view notifications 10 minutes later?", "summary": "Accidentally came across the profile of some guy I was flirting with on linked in and went onto it. I don't like him anymore and don't want him to know I've looked at it. The profile view notification was on for 10 minutes until I turned it to anonymous but Linked In sends updates usually when someone views your profile and I'm scared he might've seen it in the update. Do you think it is possible for him to have seen it?"}
{"id": "t3_37vtdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25F] friend[27M] offended my boyfriend[23M] and now my boyfriend wants me to get rid of friend.", "post": "Let me start out by asking for complete unbiased opinions. The two people that are involved in this were born and raised into different cultural environments.\n\nI am in a LDR with a man from California and I live in NYC. I am also black and he is white. I don't act ghetto but I have a lot of friends who were raised in the ghetto. Some of them joke around very aggressively but I am ok with this. They overall do not treat me like crap. \n\nOne day while I was on Facebook, me and a girlfriend were joking poking fun at a guy friend and his new girlfriend. The guy ended up saying something along the lines of \"mind your own business and worry about your cali azz ni**ga :)\"\n\nI knew he was just playing around but my boyfriend saw the post and was furious. He said he was insulted and demanded that I get rid of this friend. Im on the fence about it so im looking for second opinions. I've had this friend for 6 years and I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years.", "summary": "friend called my boyfriend a niga jokingly. Boyfriend got offended and demanded me to get rid of friend"}
{"id": "t3_199x5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if friend of mine [F21] have ended the friendship with me [M23]", "post": "We've been friends going on 4 years. So she doesn't reply to me as often anymore. However, thinking back she may have been busy the past 2 days she's not been as responsive. I texted her this:\n\n**Last night:**\n\nMe: Have you written me off? :)\n\nMe: Nevermind. I was being an idiot, you usually tell me when you're upset or w/e.\n\n**(next day, no response)**\n\nMe: I'm really sorry about last night. I was just being an idiot. I was j/w if we can be friends again.\n\nMe: Hey?\n\nHer: I'M AT WORK! \n\nMe: Ok, sorry, I really hope everything can be okay again.\n\n(A few hours later)\n\nMe: I'm sorry about earlier, can we please be friends again?\n\n(A few hours later, she plays something on words with friends, I send this message on Words)\n\nMe: Hey, are you getting my texts?\n\nHer: Yea, but I'm disregarding them.\n\nMe: Oh.. but why? Are you doing it because they were stupid, or are you actually pissed off at me.\n\nHer: UGH! Stop being so fucking stupid!!\n\nI didn't reply after that...\n\nThing is, I can't fucking read minds. I still don't know if she's upset with me, and that's why she's ignoring, or am I the one being stupid and overly paranoid. \n\nHindsight 20/20: I was being stupid. I meant, afterall, she trusted me enough to trip mushrooms with me last week (She only trips with people who are trustable and that she truly likes as a person). Also, we haven't gotten into any altercations. However, I might have ruined the friendship from being neurotic. What should I do?", "summary": "In a very annoying way, asked friend if she was mad and no longer wants to be friends. Thinking back, she did like me and were friends. But what if my neurotic questioning ruined the friendship. How can I fix? Is it even broken? If so, how bad?"}
{"id": "t3_4n9az8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (24F) being a bad support/kid?", "post": "My parents and I have a pretty good relationship. We disagree on a few things but at the end of the day they always love and support me. We bicker over dumb stuff and of course there are just a few topics we just avoid, but I think we have a pretty common adult relationship. I would honestly say as a whole unit we're close. I've lived in Washington for 2 years and haven't lived at home since I was 18. \nAfter my dads long battle with depression, my parents decided that the family needed a move and a change for a fresh start. They agreed that it would be to our home town-but instead of all moving together my dad would leave first and secure a job and A YEAR later my mother and 3 brothers would join him. I think that if they as a couple have decided this is what's best for them I support it. \nIt's been about a month since the initial dad move happened.....and my dad is doing very well (I think this was a great move for his mental health) but my mom is just SO stressed out. \nThey love me and are very supportive of my independence (they joke about me coming home and I know they would love it, but they are always asking where I'm off to next and giving exotic suggestions) but I guess I just feel like as the oldest and after all of the support they haven't given me I should be there helping my mom. She's on her own trying to raise three boys. That's hard! They haven't said anything about it, they haven't asked me and I honestly think they could literally be drowning and they still wouldn't. I just don't know if I'm guilting myself or I really am being crappy.", "summary": "my parents are separated and I feel like I should move home to help my mom"}
{"id": "t3_1mteb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [24M] just told me[23M] that he just started dating my ex-girlfriend [22F] .. I don't know how to deal with this.", "post": "I apologize if my post has mistakes.. I'm a bit emotional right now.\n\nIn the beginning of this summer, I was dumped by my now current ex-girlfriend. Although for a while, I was really depressed about it, I eventually got over it for the most part. We're both in the same circle of friends and I pretty much had to man up and face it since it's not like I could avoid her and I figured it would be best for everyone if I accepted the fact that we're just friends now.\n\nMy best friend though out college is also in the same group of friends so we're all pretty tightly knit. But today, he sat me down and he just started saying sorry. He told me that he always liked my ex since they met but obviously I started dating her. They started hanging out a lot in the past few months and now he told me that they are now dating.\n\nHe said that if I never want to speak to him again then he'd understand cause that's what he would do too if he was me.. So I just walked out. Fearing what I might do.\n\nI just feel so betrayed right now because he was someone I could always turn to for anything and now I feel like I got stabbed in the back. And the worst part is because we're in the same large circle of friends, it's not like I can avoid them since we all hang out with each other.\n\nI just don't know what to do.", "summary": "My best friend is now dating my current ex and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_gwjy3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did fire ants make me allergic to detergent?", "post": "So I'm allergic to fire ants, apparently. I'd been bitten twice before, but never had any real problems, other than a sudden outburst of profanity. I've never had an allergic reaction to anything else, either. Not food, not medicine, not even pollen. Wednesday (4/20), I stepped on an ant mound, got two bites, and ended up in a clinic with hives all over my body and face, and with a lump in my throat. Hurray, systemic reaction. They gave me some steroids (and evidently I'm super-sensitive to those, too) plus I get a fancy new epipen to carry with me when I go camping. Went home, felt better, was fine until today.\n\nNow this morning I woke up with brand new hives all over my thighs and arms. Those faded, and now I've got them on my legs and back. Basically, where my clothing presses against my skin when I sit on the couch like a fatass. WTF. Am I now allergic to detergent, or cotton, or couches? Is this a recurring reaction to the fire ants, or can having a severe allergic reaction trigger other allergies? I'll also accept \"you're just a hypochondriac, take some Benadryl, and get over it, you idiot.\"", "summary": "Can having one allergy attack trigger new allergies? Tell me your horror stories."}
{"id": "t3_3tq70q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rocking out too hard to some Foo Fighters.", "post": "This happened last night at a bar with some friends. \n\nWe were enjoying a typical Friday night. Pregamed the bars with some brews and wine, BS'd and what not. Went to one of the Friday night bars in town, which is within walking distance of about 3 other bars that are always packed on Fridays. We were getting ready to leave the first bar, our group of about 5 standing by the door waiting for my girlfriend to come back from the restroom. I hear, very faintly, Dave Grohl's beautiful voice through the chaos of a packed bar. He's saying \"I've got another confession to make!\" If you've heard this song (and who hasn't?), you know there's no instrumentals going on while Dave belts out the opening line.  Then, there's some faint guitar in the background, but not enough to really hear over a noisy bar scene. But then, oh then, there's the magnificent \"I needed somewhere to hang my head\" and the full instrumental \"drop.\" Basically, it's a classic headbanging moment. Which is where I fucked up..\n\nBecause nobody but me heard the song, I was the only one to react to this part, headbanging rather intensely. One headbang is all it took. Next thing I know, it feels like somebody stabbed me in the eye with a hot steak knife. I clutch my face and turn around, run into the wall, and just scream. \n\nTurns out, I handbanged right into my friends hand, specifically, her thumb, who happened to be raising it at that exact moment. Now it looks like I got punched square in the eye because it's black and blue and there's a cut underneath it. I've had to explain to everyone who has seen me today that I rocked out a little too hard to the Foo. \n\nWhich is kind of badass in it's own right.", "summary": "Heard \"Best of You\" by the Foo Fighters through a noisy crowd, got excited, headbanged my eye right into my friends thumb."}
{"id": "t3_33hnl6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my phone in my pocket", "post": "So, like many posts on this sub, this FU didn't happen today.  It actually happened a few months ago over the summer.\n\nSo, I was on a double date with my girlfriend and another couple with whom we're friends.  We decided to go to a waterpark for fun that day.  I live in the midwest so our summers are very humid so a waterpark was the perfect way to beat the heat.  So we arrive and, in the parking lot, my girlfriend asks if I wanted to put my phone in her purse so I wouldn't forget.  I assured her I wouldn't forget, and that I would tuck it into my shoe (I know, probably not the most ideal place to begin with) once we got into the park itself and prepared to get in the water.\n\nAs you can probably imagine at this point, I forgot to put the phone in my shoe.  Our first stop was the lazy river.  We went two laps around, which took about 30 minutes.  Shortly after we exited the river, my hand brushed against my side.  \"What the fuck is that?\" I thought to myself.  I reached into the pocket of my swim trunks to find my cell phone, soaked.  I tried turning it on (because in a moment like that, you're hoping for the best).  It didn't come on, obviously.\n\nMy girlfriend and the other couple felt terrible.  I was a bit depressed for about five minutes until I accepted that it was my own stupidity and, partially, stubbornness that caused my phone to get soaked.  When I got home, I tried the whole phone in the rice technique.  In case you were wondering, that solution only works when your phone is almost immediately taken out of the water.  I ended up having to spend $650 outright the next day on a new iPhone.  Needless to say, I check, double-check, and triple-check my pockets before entering water anymore.", "summary": "Left phone in swim trunk pocket. Killed it."}
{"id": "t3_3mwqsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19[M] confessed to 17[F] and she likes me back but", "post": "So I recently confessed my feelings to a close friend of mine and she reciprocated. I felt great. A few days later she tells me that she isn't ready for a relationship and she wants to scope things out and see where she stands, probably because she just finished high school, I completely understand.\n\nI was told that there is a possibility of dating, but not right now. So I backed off for a bit and gave her some space and now she's inviting me to hangout, watch movies together etc. I'm confused on what to do because I'm getting mixed signals, I asked her again and she says she's not ready yet and doesn't want to hurt me but every time we meet up together we get closer. \n\nI'm just confused on what to next, keep pursuing or just take a step back and when she's ready ?", "summary": "confessed feelings for friend, she reciprocated but doesn't want to be in a relationship, but giving signs she does want to. So I'm  confused on what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_15t0cy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My LDR boyfriend[20] wants me[19] to move in with him, but I don't think I'm ready for it. Help?", "post": "Me, 19, and my boyfriend, 20, have been together for 3 months this past December. We met online, for clarification. We kinda rushed into things, but I wasn't really very concerned about that. I fell in love with him very easily and fast, and I still am madly in love with him. We've had problems every now and then, like any relationship, especially a long distance one. I won't say where we both live, because he has a Reddit account, and I truly just do not want him to see this unless I talk to him about it.\n\nHe's trying to get a job, basically to get me to be with him. I want to be with him, but I truly feel like it's sorta early in the relationship, and I don't want to hurt him by telling him that. My biggest fear is losing him, and I feel like this is one of those things I could lose him over. He has made a complete difference in my life, and I don't know what I'd do without him. But, while I feel very, very close to him, I just feel like we could know each other better before I live with him. \n\nMy parents don't really approve of the relationship. They don't believe people I meet over the internet are really trustworthy. I understand completely. They're my parents, and I am still living with them, they have a right to be concerned and whatnot, but I would also really like their complete and total approval of this relationship before I go anywhere at all.\n\nAs I type this all out, I'm confiding in my best friend, telling her exactly how I feel, she's trying to help me and such, and my boyfriend is talking to his cousin about getting a job.\n\nSo, Reddit, please help me, how should I tell him this without the possibility of losing him?", "summary": "LDR boyfriend wants me to move in with him but I don't think it's the right time to"}
{"id": "t3_2fk6ov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend's male coworkers are trying to sleep with her", "post": "My girlfriend [26] works with 3 males and 2 females coworkers. She started the job about two years ago. After six months in she started chatting (whatsapp) with coworkers A LOT. Every night. I became restless when I got the feeling she's saying good night to one of them before going to bed.\n\nSince that whole thing started she's also become very jealous of my female friends. That's weird because we were already 4 years together and it was never a problem. The thing is I feel like she's trying to say \"you have female friends and I'm allowed to have male friends\" all of a sudden. Suddenly they're all young and hot and us being friends is suspicious and I can't really enjoy my friendships anymore. I've also never said anything about her male friends. Never. Now it's this huge problem in our relationship.\n\nThe whole office go to get drinks sometimes and I'm never invited even if I directly ask or say I'd be out in the same place so I can meet her coworkers. She thinks it's a bad idea. She's always dressed really sexy when she goes out with them. She's generally hot and has sexy clothes but I can see she's giving it an extra push. She comes home late and never talks about what they did.\n\nI lost my phone recently and had to use hers to write a few messages..... aaaand I used the opportunity to check who are the people she's writing with all the time. I felt horrible but I just had to do it. It's just one guy and the last thing they wrote about is him asking her if their other coworkers are making jokes about them being together. She says they are not and he remarks that one of the other coworkers is probably hot for her because he's bugging him about it.\n\nI'm fucking devastated. I trust her. But if she's spending 8 hours with this guy everyday I have a really bad feeling about this. Why can't those fucking douchebags leave people's girlfriends alone. She's changed since she started this job. I can't decide if it's normal that far in the relationship or if there's something going on there.\n\nAnyhelp?", "summary": "coworkers are trying to sleep with my girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_mdvks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the point of the reddit \"friend\" button?", "post": "When you look at someone else's profile (for lack of a better word), you can click a \"friend\" button. But what the hell does it do? I can't find a friends list. I can't find a \"message all friends\" option. I don't see reddit notifying me of links posted by people I've added as friends. Also, does it function like Facebook where someone has to accept my friend request, or is it more of a Twitter follower thing? Does it function at all? My friend Oliver found out I used reddit and friended me but I received no notification. There's nothing about it in the FAQ. Is this seriously an unimplemented widget?", "summary": "fuck friends"}
{"id": "t3_32o8q2", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I (23M) need some hookup advice with someone (32F) I met online.", "post": "I'm the guy in this case, by the way. I met this girl online about a month or so ago and we've been talking about meeting up and hooking up because it turned out that she lives just a couple hours from me. It's strictly sexual, as she has a daughter and I'm too young to want that kind of responsibility at the moment. The meet up is this weekend. I have a hotel room booked for Friday and Saturday nights, and the plan is for us to spend most of Saturday together.\n\nSince it's been getting closer, I've been getting more excited, while she's expressed some nervousness. I've asked if there's anything I can do to alleviate her nervousness and haven't gotten much response on that front. She alternates between saying that she's nervous and that she'll be fine and not to worry. I've repeatedly told her that if she wants to back out and not have sex, then I'll understand. And I will. While the plan was made for a strictly sexual encounter, I understand that I'm not owed sex, or anything like that. I just wish that I knew of a way to help her with her nervousness, even if it means that I'm going to be in a hotel room by myself for two days straight.\n\nSo, now I turn to you. Is there anyone who's been on the female end of this? Could you possibly share your experience and maybe what was/could have been said or done to make you feel easier? I offered to meet her some place neutral and talk and maybe get a bite to eat, but that was rejected, so I'm out of ideas. Like I said before, if she doesn't want to do this, it's fine, but I'd hate for nerves to be the only reason for it.", "summary": "Planning on random sex with random girl. Want to make her feel less nervous about it."}
{"id": "t3_1jvrsi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - More Energy!! Also a question about Cardio", "post": "So I've been working out with a friend of mine in the mornings and I realized today that I have way more energy than I had before. This also comes from having stopped for a few months and putting 10-15 pounds back on from the original 20 that I lost :( . Normally I would groggily wake up, possibly take a shower(at least 3 a week), randomly grab some clothes and stumble to my car. I would sleep as close to time to leave as possible. Even being late some days due to rushing.\n\nNow my normal routine is wake up, go work out, come home and grab a shower, make breakfast and then leave. I didn't realize how much of a change I had made until I finished my breakfast today and looked up at the clock. I still had almost 15 minutes before I needed to leave. I was also cleaning the kitchen while I was cooking, something that I have never done before, and it felt GREAT!!! I love all the new energy and the happier outlook, and this is just the begining of my journey!!\n\nNow to my question about cardio, what do you guys find to be the most effective for very heavy people, I'm talking 350+(though hopefully not for long! :D). I was looking at possibly starting to swim because I've heard that it is a really good all-body workout, plus it is very low pressure on the joints. The only thing is I like having a rough estimate on calories burned that I get from the elliptical/bike/treadmill. What are your guys' thoughts and suggestions?", "summary": "So much energy after just a week of workouts! Can fat people swim well??"}
{"id": "t3_21t22s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do... I (18 m) feel my girlfriend (18f) is losing hope in me.", "post": "Its been about 2 years and be and my girlfriend have been going really strong. But recently things have changed....it was just spring break where I live and she had a chance to go back to her home town without me. So throught this week its only been texting. But what happen in the week is what is scaring me. On wensday of last week she told me she has been at her ex's house all day but not to worry cause They didnt do anything....wich of course made me worry more...but in all after the visit she has barley wanted to talk to me...gets mad when I talk to her...wont say love you as often...we finally fought today about or feelings...and I asked if she still loved me...she said yes but she said she was Bleh...I asked if you liked someone else too or cheated and she said maybe....but wont tell me...she says she didnt cheat but wont day anything about liking someone else...what do i do....Ive been told to just end it...but I cant find it in my Heart to do it...help me guys..", "summary": "im afraid me and my gf are losing eachother."}
{"id": "t3_32b7z8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] 2 years, Graduation", "post": "My boyfriend just told me he doesn't know if we will survive staying together this summer. \nHe says he needs to focus on his job and the stock market because he wants to start earning money to move out and do what he loves. Which is traveling and he needs lots of money to do that. \n\nHe doesn't really want to get into university even though he applied. We both would be going to universities in the same city so it wouldn't be a long distance thing.\n\nHe thinks since we won't see each other at all during the summer, we can get over each other faster. So if we break up it won't hurt as bad.\n\nI plan on going just because I don't think I'm good enough to rely solely on the stock market right now.\n\nI guess what I'm wondering is, are we just delaying a break up? Are just faking this relationship even though we know it'll end?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_128lf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't Stop Lying", "post": "I'm 22 and my gf's 21.  We've been dating for around two years now.  Throughout our relationship, she's caught me telling various white lies, nothing major, but it's always upset her.  In the beginning it wasn't as serious and didn't really matter but now that we've been together this long it often causes problems when I'm caught.  I love my gf but I can't seem to be honest about little, silly things and I often get caught.  I want her to trust me but I can't seem to be totally honest.  Does anyone else have this problem?  What should I do?", "summary": "!  I have a serious gf whom I can't stop telling white lies to.  I need help."}
{"id": "t3_e2qek", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unplugging yourself, anyone successfully achieved this?", "post": "So, as I sit here at 2:29am I've decided to confront something that has worried me for quite some time, but I've been ignorant of it. I'm on the computer far more than I should be, when confronted with my computer I am distracted, unable to rest, and much to the dismay of my social life, concentration levels and my development. The habitual logging on to reddit, the habitual checking of my email and the unnecessary neglect of my friends and peers have thus far seemed unassailable. \n\nI'm characterized by a strong, regrettable sense of introversion, so I've found myself gravitating to the internet more than I have with friends, but I feel I'm missing the core tenants of growing up, I feel I have whittled my childhood away. I'm 17, I've never drank, and I spend most of my time alone. Socially speaking, I feel this is pretty abnormal. \n\nAnd I find the internet intruding on even the most simple of tasks, I find myself unable to read 20 pages without checking to see if I have reddit mail or skimming an article.\n\nSo, reddit, has anyone broken these habits? Has anyone found themselves going from 'Forever alone' to a beacon of friendship. I have few friends, so it's fairly impossible to be surrounded by them all the time, and I find it terribly hard to make friends. I want to reclaim the small amount of time I have left that can be dedicated to listlessness. Soon, I turn 18. I'll be doing this alone. I'm despondent and long for more friends. \n\nSo yeah,", "summary": "Anyone ever go from 'forever alone' to being affluent in friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1u2yyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] have been debating breaking up with my SO [20 F] of 3 years", "post": "i just really don't want to hurt her and i want her to be happy and i don't want to keep dragging her along with somebody that isn't 100% into the relationship. \n\nIs it normal to feel like this, i mean somedays i feel like i'll spend the rest of my life with her and then some (like today) i feel like i need to end things ASAP and let her go before her feelings become even deeper.\n\nI do love her and i don't know whats wrong with me im just not happy with her even though shes more than i could wish for.\n\nDoes this relationship sound like it needs to be ended or is this uncertanty and back and forth of emotion and committment normal?", "summary": "I don't want to drag GF of 3yrs further on in a relationship with somebody that isn't always 100% committed to our future. should i end it or wait it out?"}
{"id": "t3_ivcic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone help me figure out if the guy I'm dating is disinterested, immature, or both?", "post": "I'm 28, and I've just started dating a 21 year old guy.  On our third date, before we had sex for the first time, I told him that I'm not looking for a serious relationship and don't really have time for one, but I'd like it if we could see each other casually. He seemed cool with it, and we had a great night. He kept telling me how sexy I was and gazing into my eyes while we were doing it, which I took to mean he liked it. The next morning, we had sex again, he made me coffee, and we watched a movie and cuddled before I left that afternoon.  Incidentally, we also had another hardcore makeout session at the door which could have very easily turned into another round of banging.  \nHe texted me a couple nights later that I had left a couple beers at his house, and I said he could keep them. I didn't hear back from him, so I texted him on the next day to see if he'd like to make plans for later in the week. Two days later, I get a text saying his phone had died so he wasn't sure when I had sent the text, but he would like to get together. I told him I had already made plans (true), but maybe some other time. Now it is almost a day later, and he hasn't responded.  Do you think I should just delete him from my phone and move on?  He seemed like a nice kid, but unless he is no longer interested or seeing someone else, I can't imagine why he would be so unresponsive.", "summary": "Was seeing this guy (7 years younger), casual relationship, had one night of great sex, cuddled in the morning, now he is rather uncommunicative. WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_lw15u", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Opinion is on strangers and photos of your kid", "post": "Trick or' treating with my daughter, one duplex middle aged man asks to take our picture -- thinking nothing of it I let him; no candy (I'm a bit miffed that I didn't say, uhh not comfortable with that)... Later on I started to think something is wrong. Asked the wife and she requested i go ask him to delete it.\n\nWent back asked him to remove it. He dodged by knocking on the door by his and asking for some candy. I said \"I'm not interested in candy, I'd just like you to remove the photo\". He started to protest \"you can't come in my house\". I replied \"I don`t need to come in, i just want to see you delete the photo\" , but his neighbour (turned out to be his mom) said \"no if he asks you to delete it you must\". He invited me in, talked to a guy he called his brother \"I need the camera, i have to delete the picture of the little girl\". I mentioned that i needed to see him delete it and his brother brought the camera over and showed me it being deleted. All this amidsts protests of \"what kind of guy do you think i am\", and my assurances that it was just that i didnt feel comfortable. Brother says ignore him he is drunk.\n\nSo as far as i know it is deleted (could be other copies obviously). I`m a bit freaked that there is now a man near my house that wanted to take a photo of my kid (I was in the picture). I hate being paranoid, and (i think) i remember reading that pedophilia is very rare, and much more feared then warrented (compaired to say driving in a car). \n\nFunny thing is i found his protests damning. Then i thought about it and if he had been really easy and willing then that might have also been damning. Any opinions?", "summary": "strange man took photo of me and my kid on halloween, i got paranoid and asked him to remove it, under protest he did. Still a bit freaked and looking for opinions."}
{"id": "t3_3cbfn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (24f) of 5 years, danced with her ex at a wedding whilst I (25m) was away - am I justified in being pissed off about it?", "post": "So a few weeks ago, one of my GF's school friends got married. My GF and I were both invited, but I was travelling for work that weekend and couldn't make it, so my GF went alone.\n\nGiven that it was one of my GF's friends from high school getting married, there were many of her friends from school there, including, it seems, one of her ex's.\n\nShe's told me about this particular ex, and even though I've not met him he sounds like a douche. A real \"lady's man\", player type.  He is single. Their break up resulted in huge residual feelings on her part. I suspect they linger to this day on some level.\n\nA few days ago, she tells me she danced with him at the reception.\n\nI may be way out of line, and feel free to tell me if I am, but I am a little bit upset to hear that she danced with him. She kind of pussy-footed around telling me, probably because she expected that I'd react something like this. We've been together for almost five years. I've never had reason to feel this way before. For the most part, we're very happy and very good together. I'm normally pretty cool about things, she has really good guy friends (like, known her from birth pretty much) that I know would never try anything. I'm not sure if they were there, but if they were surely she could've danced with one of them? If she had, I wouldn't mind so much.\n\nAs far as I know at this point nothing else happened (I don't believe she's capable of actual infidelity). I've not expressed my feelings about this to her at this point, I kind of just glossed over her answer but I suspect that she knows I'm upset about something. \n\nBefore I bring it up with her, can I ask:\n\n(a) Am I justified in being upset about this?\n\n(b) If yes, what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend dances with her ex at a wedding whilst I'm away. Am I justified in being pissed off?"}
{"id": "t3_3hjhc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17/F] has pretty severe anxiety/depression/OCD. I'm (18/M) worried that having to counsel her daily is putting a strain on our relationship. (1.5 years)", "post": "My girlfriend has pretty severe anxiety and depression, and was recently diagnosed with a form of OCD, called OCT (Obsessive Compulsive Traits) which basically means she has some symptoms of OCD, but not enough to be complete OCD.\n\nShe has a really intense fear of death, that is triggered multiple times a day and because of this I find myself transforming from a boyfriend into a counsellor. Because I'm not a counsellor, nor have I done training, I find that I can only help to a point and can't help but beat myself up when I can't make her feel better. I understand how complex and complicated mental illness can be, as I've also been diagnosed with Depression, anxiety, and PTSD.\n\nWhen I'm feeling down I immediately feel guilty as I know that me being upset will effect my girlfriend, and exacerbate her illnesses.\n\nI'm worried that having to counsel my girlfriend so often, and now being scared of having her aid me when I am upset is putting a strain on our relationship. I truly love my girlfriend, and we communicate really well, but I have no idea how to communicate something like this to her without hurting her.", "summary": "Girlfriend has severe mental illness, as do I. I find myself counselling her often, whilst being scared of asking for help. How do I communicate this?"}
{"id": "t3_46rnap", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for cumming on my wall for four years [Reuploaded] (NSFW)", "post": "Like most posts this didn't happen today, it happened over a 4 year time period when I was in highschool.\n\nIn highschool I had a couch shaped bed that had a small slit where the \"back of the couch\" and the bed met. I decided that it would be a good idea to instead of cleaning up my white cream after a personal session, to simply blow my load through this slit and onto the wall next to my bed. I yanked my chain 2-3 times a day and it was beautiful to be able to splooge in the slit in my bed and then go on with my day. That slit became a beautiful, beautiful canvas and my spunk was its sticky paint. The fuck up itself didn't happen until it was time for me to move to college.\n\nBefore, I moved out my mom thought it would be a good idea to get rid of my bed and tidy up my room. I went up to my room with my mom and she pushed my bed away from the wall. What she uncovered was unimaginable. My wall looked like a jackson pollock painting was fucked by Lexington Steele. Thick orange residue was covering the wall and a great concentration of it was right in the middle of the wall where I most often shot off my load.\n\nMy mother was horrified.\n\nShe made me get hot soapy water and two brillo pads. My mother and I scrubbed all of my babies off the wall without saying a word. We had to scrub so hard that the paint behind the gunk was also rubbed off. It took us about 2 hours to scrub it all off because of the sheer volume of jizz that had accumulated overtime.\n\nThankfully, my mom assumed that one of my drunk buddies blacked out and puked behind my bed. It was thick enough and orange enough that it wasn't hard to see why she wouldn't assume it was her son's love juice.\n\nI now have acquired a jizz rag, but goddammit do I miss that wonderful slit", "summary": "came on my wall for 4 years, washed off the thick residue with my mom and the shame with a bottle of Jack"}
{"id": "t3_17ejq4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] New to this LDR thing, and me and my GF [20/F] seem to not have much to talk about when texting back and forth.", "post": "As the title suggests I [21/M] I have joined the club, and am in a newly long distance relationship with my girlfriend [20/F] of 11 months. We met during college and we have become so close and in love, that it feels that I've known her for years. She recently moved back to her home state originally to change schools for mental health reasons. She lost many of her friends in the second year of school, along with possibly being bi-polar (still getting diagnosed) she had been fairly depresive and mood swingy. So she decided to go to the school that her bestfriend is going to, but she had a depressive episode and has decided to take the semester off. Funds dont really allow her to come back to be with me so we are doing the long distance relationship thing (its not that far, 6 hours by car). I also have a history of depression, and have been feeling the effects of seasonal depression and am missing her a lot. She left about 2 weeks ago, and have been texting each other to keep in contact as any couple would do. But because we both have been down real conversations have been non existant. It doesnt go much longer then a few words per text (from both of us, I try and spice it but its hard), and isnt anything close to a real conversation. We were the couple that was always together, and now it feels like we hardly talk, and its real hard on me. I doubt that I'm going to get any real help by posting this but I dont know what else to do.", "summary": "LDR, texting conversations lacking things like verbs and nouns and other words."}
{"id": "t3_1i86qd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Making my own net worth app. How should I think about inflation?", "post": "So I am writing my own personal finance app to pull in data about my stock portfolio and show me my performance and returns with certain amounts of money, over different time periods, etc.  For some reason Quicken requires a lot of babysitting and isn't very effective at doing this.  My question is regarding inflation.  I understand that many financial models you compare nominal returns against inflation to show real returns.  In my instance, using a national inflation number would be something of a misnomer because I'm only evaluating my own returns.  At first I thought it would be beneficial for me to at least use the CPI number for my specific urban area.  Okay. Thinking about it further, I could easily go over my own credit card statement, look over the stores in my neighborhood, my own rent, my own costs of childcare, etc. and build my own basket of consumer items and create a super personalized inflation rate.  This model ignores the effect inflation has on my choices generally, if I am priced out of other markets: baseball games, moving to a new house, that would have an effect on my quality of life but not be reflected in my model.\n\nDigressing from that I though perhaps it may be best to ignore inflation.  The app is designed to measure returns and, unlike Congress or the Federal Reserve, I have no control over inflation and am highly unlikely to leave the United States to avoid inflation.  Perhaps I should just study nominal returns and let inflation do what it may!", "summary": "what number would you use to measure inflation effects on your individual life?"}
{"id": "t3_47v1kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it fair for me (28f) to ask my couch surfing mom (59f) for more rent money after I lost my job?", "post": "In December, my mom left my dad and moved into my one bedroom apartment. She is living on the sleeper sofa. \n\nMy bills are about 1100 a month. Rent is $800 with ~60 in utilities. \n\nUnfortunately, due to anxiety and depression and just being kind of pathetic I guess, I lost my job at the end of January. For the same reasons, I haven't found a job yet and it's unlikely that I will find another salaried position, or at least anything over the >35k I would need to stay here. \n\nMy mom has barely any money but just got a job bringing home 1400 I think? She hasn't started receiving alimony from my father and a lot of her money is going towards her divorce lawyer.\n\nShe has bought a lot of our food. She can't budget food since she never had to, and I know she's been spending way more than she should. Which isn't even fair to me because there is never any food in the fridge. \n\nHowever, since Dec I have received one check from her - for $300. My dad found that I lost my job and he's given me about $1000, but I have a weird relationship with him and he's a little manipulative about money so I can't ask him. \n\nIs it fair to ask my mom for more money? Originally she was going to pay me only a little as my previous salary more than covered my bills. And I figured I owed it to her since I lived at home for a year after a breakup. But that was supposed to be like $300 a month, not once. \n\nI've been too chicken to file for unemployment (the thought of HR telling my ex-boss and him telling my old friends from the job is too much and I've cried a lot about it). So I need get my shit together and get a job, but that's another story.", "summary": "My mom is broke and living on my couch, she was supposed to pay me a little per month to help, however I lost my well-paying job and depression is hindering my employability. She's buying \"food\" but spending too much and I really need more money. Is it fair to ask her to chip in more even though her being here is helping me emotionally?"}
{"id": "t3_4jmbxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my roommate's GF [?? F] - she has started messing with my stuff and trying to usurp my storage space.", "post": "I know this is kinda petty compared to the other shit going on in peoples lives here.   It is just that I'm socially awkward and don't know how to deal with things like this.\n\nMy roommate's GF stays over about 3-4 nights a week.   My roommate and I share a bathroom and have a closet where we keep our stuff.  He has two shelves, I have two shelves.  (and another shelf where we keep common stuff like TP and cleaners)  She started leaving stuff on one of my shelves.\n\nNo big deal, whatever.   But then more stuff.  More and more stuff.   This morning, I find that all the stuff I had in a basket on that shelf had been dumped out onto my other shelf and my basket was filled with her ever-growing collection of shit.\n\nThis infuriated me, though I kinda tend to overreact to things like this.   Anyway, I put all of her stuff in a box, moved it to the common shelf and reclaimed my basket.\n\nMy question is whether I should confront them about this or just leave it like this?    I feel if I don't I'm being passive aggressive.   I also feel this should be nipped in the bud.  The problem is she's gone and probably won't be back until Thursday.   I think I should confront them together, but maybe I should just talk to my roommate?   \n\nI don't know.", "summary": "Roommate's GF is trying to take over some of my storage space."}
{"id": "t3_4oeirw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I (28M) was fired today. Not sure how to go about unemployment.", "post": "So I was fired today. It wasn't completely out of the blue as I knew I made a big error last week. I owned up to my mistake and everything seemed ok. This week so far my boss has acted completely normal to me. About 2 hours into work today I got a call to go down to HR. I started panicking but figured they would just do some sort of coaching thing or what have you but instead I was terminated. They are paying me for 2 weeks and reimbursing me for my unused vacation days. I don't have a large savings (roughly 2,500) and with those payments I'll get another 3,600. I went and filed for unemployment already. But I am so embarrassed with myself. What else should I be doing? Obviously I've already started looking for jobs online but all the positions I am qualified for are positions I've held in the past or just like the position I was just fired from. Does it look weird if I am applying for the same exact position just with a different company?\n\nI worked there for roughly 3 years in the same position. HR said if contacted all they will do is confirm the dates of employment. Prior to working there I worked for another company in the same field for roughly 3 years doing something similar. \n\nI currently have a house with mortgage payments of roughly $680 a month.  Electric for the next couple months will be $120ish.  Water is usually $50ish.  Cell phone is $110.  Internet $35.  I was making roughly $48k a year before taxes and insurance and 401k.   I have a girlfriend which we've talked about her moving in with me and sharing expenses.  My girlfriend is an attorney and makes pretty decent money but I don't want her to foot all the bills.  She's also trying to get a new job and has her final interview next week.", "summary": "Fired today for error I made last week. Not sure how to move forward.  Is it weird to apply for the same position just with a different company?  If not, what justification do you give?  How should I start saving money?"}
{"id": "t3_tkop6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do some people have a inferior ability to form personal relationships with other people?", "post": "I have always felt that I don't form personal relationships with people like everyone else does. I have been reminded of this lately as I just graduated college and am saying goodbye to all the great friends I have had for the last few years. Lots of people cry and say they will miss each other while I say goodbye with indifference. The truth is, even though someone is my best friend, I know I will not miss him when he leaves tomorrow, and I feel bad about this.\n\nI have always had a hard time meeting new friends, and an indifference towards whether or not I have any. I recover from failed relationships very quickly (almost instantly) and don't miss my family members even when I have been gone at college for months. I think this is part of the reason I ended up leaving my religion too, as I never felt like I had a \"relationship\" with god even though I tried really hard to. Also, I don't feel like I really \"care\" about other people the way it seems others do. While I care for humanity as a whole, it is difficult for me to care for individual people.\n\nI guess my question is do people have a genetic predisposition towards relationship-forming? Does it have to do with how we're raised (nature vs. nurture)? Is there something I can do to improve my ability to form deep, meaningful relationships?", "summary": "Am I genetically predisposed to not be able to form personal relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_20odf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/F] with my boyfriend [27/M] of almost one year, seems to have aggressive sleeping activity, but only after drinking - Have you dealt with this?", "post": "Let me state outright, my boyfriend is not an alcoholic. On the occasions that he does over indulge - he acts and behaves appropriately with me and others. My only frustration (for me) seem to be after he is fast asleep. \n\nAfter an evening of overindulgence, his sleep patters and sleep activity significantly affect my quality sleep time. After about 30 minutes, once we've gone to bed, begins roughly 3-4 hours of \n\n-heavy tossing and turning\n-blanket stealing\n-pillow stealing\n-he becomes a bed HOG\n-leg kicking\n-tossing/flinging his leg(s) and arm(s) over me\n-he will try to cuddle up with me by hugging me (kinda tightly)\n-he will occasionally get out of bed\n-attempt to leave the room\n-get out of bed to lay on the floor\n-fling himself back onto the bed...\n\nall while seeming to continue to sleep quite comfortably. I on the other hand, get nearly no sleep. He does not wake himself up during any of this. He remembers none of it, and barely believes me when I recall my evening of dealing with his aggressive sleeping.\n\nHe will wake up and is responsive when he does and will do what I ask - 'get back in bed', 'pick the covers up off the floor', etc... but then its right back to sleep and the same sleep aggressiveness.\n\nHave you dealt with this? My current technique is to sleep at my house/sleep on the couch or ask him to be more thoughtful of his alcohol intake on those nights when one of us plans to stay over. Are those my only options? Suggestions? Have you experienced similar sleep behavior with another person?", "summary": "Boyfriend is an aggressive sleeper after overindulging in alcohol, this completely interrupts my quality sleep time. Have you dealt with this?"}
{"id": "t3_32xgai", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't have any empathy after I injure myself working for you, guess I'll follow the doctors advice to the letter", "post": "First i will apologize iin advance for formatting since I am on mobile.    \n  \n  \nSo 2 months ago to the date I injured myself at work twice in the same week. As a result I've spent 4 weeks off work and have been seeing a physiotherapist daily since.  Now it's bad enough when you imply I am faking it and I should suck it up in conversations even thought the m ore serious of the 2 accidents was caught on camera. So company policy is heartless and 4 day after being out on leave my private insurance will be cut since I'm no longer working. Dick move but I can live with that. But once I do come back to work and you write me up because I'm not smiling and looking happy.(I don't know about you guys but happy and smiling is probably not even in the top 50 words I would use to des rube someone in constant pain.) Then you threaten to dock me the time I spend icing my injuries from my pay and complain that working 3 hour shifts to accommodate my physio is a problem and mention you won't be able to give me hours if I can't do 4 hour shifts. That's when we have a real problem.  \n  \n  \nDoes it surprise when after my last doctors visit I have a medical note saying I can only work 3 hour shifts 3 times a week. And another stating I have to ice each injury for 15 minutes every 90 minutes. So I guess I now have to punch in and Ice myself for 30 minutes work for 90 minutes then reapply ice for another 30 minutes then work the last 30 minutes. That's so much better than when all I asked for was to ice myself half way through my shift.", "summary": "Injured at work. Boss threatens to dock pay for applying Ice. Now has to pay for applying ice twice during shift."}
{"id": "t3_ucqec", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the best prank you've ever pulled or had pulled on you?", "post": "I'll start with one that was pulled on me today. Currently in Italy and I wanted to go a club later this evening to flirt with gorgeous Italian girls, needless to say I should of known this would backfire. However, I asked a man how to say \"You are beautiful\" in italian and he told me \"Vendisi\"\n\nWell I went to the club and approaches a beautiful woman and said \"Vendisi\" in which she glared at me and stormed off. Confused, I tried again, in which the next woman started screaming at me in Italian, the bouncers came over, they exchanged words and I was thrown out of the bar. \n\nI was confused and so upon returning to the hotel I asked the person at the front desk what I did wrong. Apparently \"Vendisi\" means \"For sale\" and I asked it in a tone that seemed more a question. In other words I accidentally just asked beautiful women if they were prostitutes and for sale...", "summary": "Accidentally asked women in another language if they were for sale and got kicked out of a bar for soliciting sex."}
{"id": "t3_1esuyl", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Advice needed on domestic flights within India", "post": "I'll be in India for about 10 days (5 days in Delhi and 5 days in Mumbai). I have flights in and out of India but I haven't gotten flights between the two cities. \n\nI know I'm going to have two bags to check in and a carry on (going to another country afterwards) and I don't know if I'll be able to cram everything into one check in. \n\nI've done some research and most domestic flights within India only allow one check in bag and anything else costs an arm and a leg. Does anyone have advice on this or know of any exceptions?", "summary": "Do you know of any airlines/exceptions on the one check in bag only rule with domestic India flights?"}
{"id": "t3_ghi8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm in 9th grade now, and I've been wondering this for a while. Am I right or stupid?", "post": "I don't get why school insist on teaching us the same stuff in history every year.  When ever I ask they just say \"The past history is what made us who we are today\".  But I always wondered what does that make todays news?  Something for our great, great, great grand children to learn about, teaching them what made their future country what it is?  Why can't we learn about things going on in Libya, things in Egypt, things going on now that is molding us today.  Not the same old stuff that molded us into who we are.  I want to learn about the present to help make a better future, not learn about the past that made us a better present.  I want to know why these revolutions are happening now, not why the French revolted hundreds of years ago.  They say were learning about the past to make a better future, then why the hell is there more revolutions?  Are our great, great, great grandchildren going to learn about Libya and Egypt so they can make a better future while another revolution is happening?  Is my rant stupid or am I making any sense?", "summary": "Why are we learning about the past revolutions to help make a better future when there is multiple happening now and learning about the past obviously hasn't been working out well?"}
{"id": "t3_2wcwob", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not changing the place holder text on my Girlfriends website", "post": "Hello, this is my first TIFU here and I know it's not the best but here we go!\n\nSo my girlfriend recently transfered to a new school and she is trying to fit in with the new class mates and teachers.\nHer IT teacher asks if anyone is interested in composing a team to build and present a web site at the nation wide IT contest. The contest starts regional and goes national and has multiple categories (web design, web apps, programming, multimedia, etc.)\n\nShe has no knowledge and asks me (a programmer) to help her out with it and teach her a few things.\n\n---\n\nI make a website and give her some basic knowledge on how everything works, she is happy I am happy.\n\nI build the website in a day and show it off, it works ok, not much to talk about.\n\nI have 3 placeholder buttons, one is a to google, the other two have POOP and PISS written on them.\n\nWell, she copies the website's directory folder to her flash drive and goes to school, I too go to school.\n\nShe calls me up 1 hour before the end of my class we talk a little, she is all cool but wants to talk (ok?).\n\n---\nI go home and she tells me that she presented the website today and asked me what kind of silly stuff I wrote on the website.\n\nMy answer: Just HTML 5 and CSS 3 honey...why?\nGF: Think again...\nMe: *the think machine un-jams* OW SHIT! I FORGOT I SWEAR I FORGOT\n*home violence insues* (not really)", "summary": "TIFU by leaving 2 buttons that read POOP and PISS on my GFs website that she presented to her teacher."}
{"id": "t3_18f2f4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is there a way of contacting this girl [22F] without being either a creepy stalker or a pathetic guy [23M] waiting for doomsday?", "post": "(throwaway) \n\nTo make long story short, I went to a party with a friend of mine and met a gorgeous girl. We looked at each other, smiled, started talking and spent almost the whole night together, finding out how much do we have in common, touching, smoking, drinking and ending up as one of the last couples on the dance floor.\n\nJudging from my experience, I'd say we really hit it off.\n\nGoing home the same subway line, I thought I would have a lot of time to ask her for a date / give me some kind of contact / etc., but my drunk friend decided to spend the whole journey trying to persuade her to come to our place and sleep with me, which was both funny and embarrassing at the same moment (I didn't want to do it, because I already knew she was not \"that kind\" of a girl as we didn't make out that night, although there was some lip contact while french smoking). We laughed it off and I almost telepathically killed him, however, she already had to exit the train, so she gave me a strong, 5 sec hug, kissed me on cheek and jumped off.\n\nNow, skipping the part when I'm an idiot being stunned and not able to use the 5 sec hug to ask for a surname, as we talked a lot, I know she studies at the same Uni and I was able to find her surname (yes, I successfully extracted her first name during the course of the evening) using school's contact directory (they surprisingly allow us to query the whole students' database, so I used the first name and her major as criteria) and look her up on FB.\n\nDo I message her when I get back to Uni (I'm out of town for a week right now), or just lay low and wait till we meet on campus / another similiar event, considering we share the same music / bar taste and the city is not that big?\n\nThe first option seems a bit creepy, the second a bit fantastical.", "summary": "Met a girl, had a great evening, wasn't able to get her contact info due to stupid circumstances, looked her up on FB. Do I message her?"}
{"id": "t3_2axg50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my 3 month duration with [16F] relationship failing, I must save it.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and while many would say it's way too fast, I love her, and I've told her, and she said it back. But I'm unsure if she ever meant it. Just got off the phone with her today, she isn't sure if she can stay in the relationship. It is calm, so far, on good terms, and I'm gonna meet with her in the morning (11:00 pm right now, seeing her at 9:00) and discuss it further. She says it's unfair that she hasn't had much time to see me, and it has caused her to be unsure of how she feels. I understand, and so far, I'm very upset but also calm. I want to do everything I can to save our relationship, but I don't know how. We have agreed not to make a final decision until I return from holidays on the 28th, as that'll give us both the time we need to consider it, as well as a chance to do so in a stress free situation.", "summary": "How do I save my relationship? We're discussing whether we should break up in 10 hours."}
{"id": "t3_33gqrh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting about someone to another person while that certain someone was next to me.", "post": "OK so um to start things off I am a closeted Bi guy and at work a bunch of new people started and one of the guys that started is super cute (literally fell from heaven cute), he has this weird accent too I can't tell where its from and it just suits him so much and I just can't stop staring at him.\n\nSo on one of his first few days he was told by someone higher up (don't want to mention names) to come stand behind me (dream come true) and observe what I was doing to get a better understanding how things work around here. He was quiet didn't say a word. Then he went back to the person who told him to come observe me and went about starting at work.\n\nNow this is where the fuck up happens so I get to the lunch room on my break I see him there he says hi and starts to converse with me about work and what not. So I sit next to him talk here and there the T.V was on and he was sitting on a 90degree angle to me hard to explain but he was right next to me. So he starts watching whats on T.V I whip out my phone and start TXTing one of my other friends who knows I am bi I was just like 'This new guy at work is super cute and I wish he was bi/gay blah blah blah' (Txting my wildest fantasy story out to my friend). So I finish sending the TXT and look up and see his lips moving while looking at my phone. Thought to my self oh fuck I fucked up big time even though he shouldn't be invading my privacy. Anyway he instantly looked away and didn't talk to me any further I assume he knew it was about him. I also don't have the balls to ask.", "summary": "I txtd my wildest fantasy about someone to another person while that someone was next to me. "}
{"id": "t3_2hysxb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not trimming my bush, and yes *that* bush", "post": "So this happened last week.\n\nSome background: I just graduated college last spring as an engineer. My gf graduated at the same time. My gf was in a sorority, but I was not in a fraternity. My gf has some friends from her sorority who are still in college but are not the brightest out there.\n\nLast week while I was playing video games after work, my gf comes in and tells me one of the aforementioned friends is showing up for some help with calculus. I said OK while not thinking to much of it. About an hour later the girl shows upa and I help her with her homework for about another hour or so when my gf stops us to eat dinner.\n\nDuring dinner the conversation between them (I was eating silently not really paying attention) turns to our (gf and myself) sex life. Sex has not been a big deal between us. We have been dating for three years, and while having had many passionate moments which were enjoyed on both sides, it has not been the priority in our lives.\n\nThe sorority girl finds this interesting and assumes it is my fault. The last time we \"did the deed\" was about a month and half ago on her birthday. Since then, I had not bothered to trim or shave down below.\n\nMy gf and the girl soon begin to get frisky from all the sex talk and are starting to get it on. \n\nSkip ahead 45 minutes (that which is in the middle I shall leave to your imagination; hint: we had a threesome), the sorority girl now thinks (and my gf is turning to her side) that my bush \"seriously diminished the overall quality of the sex.\" To which I respond they didn't give me a heads up or anything to prepare; it just sort of went down. \n\nSo now my gf doesn't like our sex anymore because of that threesome.", "summary": "had a threesome with gf and gf's friend while having a wicked nasty bush, gf no long wants to have sex because of this negative experience..."}
{"id": "t3_egbkr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would You Write an Anonymous Letter About Your Secrets to a Perfectly Good Stranger to be Pieced Together for an Art Show?", "post": "Redditors, I have an inquiry here of great meaning to me.  To give a few background notes, I am an art student who has an obsession with the unspoken aspects of our existence.  It has been the theme of my work (some performance pieces) and I would like it to be an exposition for my final show at the end of the year.  \n\nI know that everyone has things, no matter how relegable they seem to PostSecret content, that they just can't tell other people.  Things about themselves, their thoughts, unexpressed hurt (or even the beauty they perceive in little things that they feel others would belittle them for even having thought it); anything.  I am asking if I could recruit the help of the Reddit community in the form of anonymous letters to me about these things.  I'm not sure how I would manage this yet, I'd suppose I'd have to get a P.O. Box or something of that sort.  But this is not PostScecret and I am not going to sort through them for the ones that are most marketable.  They will all be arranged together and hung as aspect of my final show.  (I would like to note that I do not attend an unknown institution, so it is not as if the things you write to me will be hanging in the unfrequented space of some tiny art school in a backwoods Nebraska town.  I would very much like it if I could have some feedback on how many would be interested in this.\n\nLet me be the friend to your Charlie?  (if you get the reference)", "summary": "Would you be interested in writing a letter about your unspoken and unexpressed thoughts and emotions to a complete stranger as a part of her art show?"}
{"id": "t3_mn1hr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any ideas on what this tick sound could be? Any personal experiences with it?", "post": "Ok so when I was a child there was this tick sounds in my room, it would randomly start when I was playing or something.. tick ... tick.. tick .. tick tick TICK TICK TICK. It would start slow then get louder and more aggressive. When I would get up to go look for where the sound was coming from it would stop. Sometimes it would even stop when I would turn to face where it was coming from. I forgot about this. Then years later when I moved in with my bf at the time. It started again when we were in bed. It was the same; it would start slow get faster, stop when you move or talk. It would drive my bf crazy. He took everything out of the bookshelves trying to find it. But you could never pin point where it was coming from. And it would always stop when you try to find it. As soon as your almost asleep again.. tick ..tick.. tick. TICK TICK TICK. Sometimes we would just yell at it to shut up. Sometimes it was like it was right next to us in the air. This was a few years ago. Now I have it in my room again. Does anybody else have this tick, and know what the hell it is? I have no idea.", "summary": "I have a tick sound in my room which moves around and stops when I try to find it, Does anyone know what this is?"}
{"id": "t3_2fs0f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 9 months are having problems with my family because we're different religions.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now, and we're needing some advice from maybe someone who has been in our position before. Long story short, I'm Christian and he's Muslim. Our families have been \"okay\" with it up until the last couple weeks. \n\nMy brother (who is a pastor from the south) has told us that he doesn't want my BF around his family anymore cause my BF is Muslim. No other reason than that. My brother said my BF is a great and wonderful guy but since he's Muslim he can't be around my brothers family (his wife and kid). \n\nMy parents, who have been pretty okay with it, kinda came down hard on me today. Out of the blue, my dad who was our biggest supporter said that he can't support our relationship anymore, that i'm turning my back on my family if i choose to stay with him, and that it's only because he's Muslim. My parents really do like my BF, but it's just the religion thing. \n\nMy BF and I are just kinda lost. Not sure what to do or say to my parents and brother. His family is much more open. I don't live with my parents if that makes a difference. Thank you for ANY advice!", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are different religions, having problems with my family. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_4hvfx9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My college has failed to get my student account in order, preventing me from registering from classes for 6+ months.", "post": "Location: Salt Lake County, Utah\n\nStarting in November of 2015 I noticed that there was a hold on my account, of which I could not specifically identify, that prevented me from registering for the spring semester of 2016.  I contacted my correct school officials who assured me that they would get this resolved in a timely manner, and would contact me later, letting me know that it has been resolved.  A week goes by without any contact from the school so I give them a call to see what is going on, and they told me that everything was fixed and I should be able to register.  Later that evening I attempt to register and the same mysterious hold is still on my account, preventing me from getting into the classes I need to take. I contact them again over and over throughout December as I am frantically trying to get this in order so I can take my classes in the Spring of 2016.  After many emails, numerous hours spent waiting, both on and off the phone, THE ISSUE NEVER GOT RESOLVED.  Since this mysterious hold on my account never got removed, I wasn't able to sign up for my classes and had to take the semester off.  When I tried to contact the head academic advisor, who I had spoken with multiple times, to ask her how this is acceptable for an educational institution to essentially \"drop the ball\" on getting my account fixed, I never got a reply to my email and I never got any of my phone calls returned.  Fast forward to March of 2016, I set up an academic advising appointment to hopefully get this issue resolved.  I went into the appointment, explained the issue, and they explained what was wrong with the account.  I submitted a form that was supposed to update my account information within the next 24 hours, which would allow me to then register for classes.  After 24 hours, I still was unable to register due to the \"mysterious hold\" on my account.  From March to today, May 4th, I have been given the same run around that I was receiving back in November/December by the school as I attempted to contact them and get this issue resolved.  This is now getting to a point where I might not be able to register for classes in the summer now.", "summary": "My college has negligently handled my account information for the last 6+ months preventing me from not only registering for one semester, but now potentially another.  I've been nothing but cooperative and been willing to work with them to get this issue resolved, and after 6+ months it is still an ongoing issue.  This has made me put my life on hold as it has also put me behind on my educational progress.  "}
{"id": "t3_48zurb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By nearly paralyzing myself", "post": "While this fuck up didn't occur today, I have finally found a community to share my stupidity with. \n\nSeveral months ago I decided to join the gym in an attempt to get in shape before my 30s(I'm 26 now) and my body no longer wants to cooperate.  Over the course of trying to find a routine that worked for me I had observed several people using the roll out ab wheel. Looks easy enough I thought foolishly. So, on a slow day at the gym I found a quiet spot in the yoga room and decided to attempt ab roll outs. \nThere was one problem, and so began my fuck up, I couldn't recall if the people I observed started the exercise in a standing position or on their knees. After deciding starting on my knees sounded too easy I chose to the standing position. With my back against the wall, I bent over with the roll out wheel at my feet and began to slowly roll forward. Only then did I realize my core couldn't support my weight and as I hurriedly rolled onto my face I heard my entire spine crack. It sounded like someone ran their hand from key to key along the length of a piano. I laid face down with my arms outstretched still clutching the roll wheel wondering if I had just become a paraplegic. After a minute or two of lying there I wiggled my toes and let out an embarrassed chuckle because by now more people had trickled into the yoga room. Although I am not paralyzed, every time I step off the curb too hard I feel jolts of pain in my spine as if someone is tazing me.", "summary": "I tried to use ab roll out wheel and cracked my spine from tailbone to my neck and thought I became a paraplegic"}
{"id": "t3_2l8ewm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my Girlfriend[22F] of 2 years, she doesn't want to tell guys about me.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and we both care about each other very much, we're also both each other's first serious relationship and are long distance right now ( the long distance subreddit is no help, just pictures of people at the airport ). We both play a lot of video games and have made friends within these games. since its the gaming community as you would guess most are males. She doesn't have that many friends because she is constantly moving as she just graduated undergrad and will be going to med school in the near future. So she really enjoys that she has made friends online.\n\nEnough back story basically she doesn't want to tell her guy friends online (and i assume in real life in the future.) about me for fear they will no longer talk to her because she has a bf. I've told her how i understand she wants more friends but that I do not want her having friends like that so it's a good thing to get rid of them. I'm not crazy in wanting her to do this right? would like any advice or messages to her explaining it from another perspective because i will be showing her this. Thank you in advance for any help", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want to lose guy friends by telling them she has a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2a09kg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] cant get ex girlfriend [17/F] to leave me alone", "post": "Long story short I was her first serious bf and took her virginity. Since that night we had sex twice and I realized I have no feelings for her. So I broke it off and now shes become a psycho who texts me 100 times/day, and sometimes comes to my house uninvited (I pretend im not there...)\n\nI realize shes hurt but I couldnt have stated it clearer that I want nothing to do witg her. I had to block some of her friends on FB because they wouldnt stop messaging me. She also spread rumors about me, that I do drugs and my family is poor etc which is total bs\n\nI think at this point I have to get a restraining order but im not sure I want to go that far.", "summary": "crazy ex gf wont leave me alone, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1gzbfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I tell if he wants to settle down with me or just settle down?", "post": "I've [21F] been seeing this guy [28] for almost 8 months now. It's been great, we get along well and the sex is awesome. When we first started seeing each other, we both didn't want anything serious so we decided that we'll remain FWB. We decided on that because both our circumstances at this time won't allow us to accomodate a healthy functional relationship, so trying to maintain one would create more stress than it would help. \n\nAnyway, we're not exclusive to this day but we have expressed strong feelings for one another. He has grown to be an important part of my life, and seeing him adds to my day in a good way. Lately, he's been talking about wanting to settle down, and how he feels it's time for him to do so. He talks about how weird it is that he aww's at cute babies now, and how much he wants one in the near future. We had a pregnancy scare about two months back, we talked previously about what we'd do if such a thing occurred and we both agreed to an abortion, but when things got kinda serious he said that he would've wanted to keep it had I turned out pregnant.\n\nHe talks about wanting to take our relationship to the next level. I can't do that because the circumstances that were 8 months ago still stand, but will be gone in a year or two. I really like this guy, but I'm not sure if he's into settling down because of me or because he thinks it's time for him to do so.", "summary": "28M & 21F, FWB for 8 moths that developed strong feelings towards each other. Neither wanted anything serious at the beginning, but now he wants us to turn into a serious relationship. Does he want that because of me or because he thinks it's time for him to settle down?"}
{"id": "t3_27gx1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 17/M struggling to work out what to do with 17/F friend", "post": "My very close friend has been dating one of my other close (but not as close) friends of five years for nearly a year now. she has told me that things between them aren't really working (not happy but not unhappy) and that she has liked someone else for nearly 4 years and thinks that she would be much happier with them. I am at least 90% sure that that person is me and she was recently asking me for advice on whether or not to break up with current boyfriend to pursue other person.\n\nhere's where it gets kinda messy. I am going on an overseas holiday with some of my friends (current boyfriend included) at the end of the year to celebrate graduating. I don't see things being very enjoyable for anyone if she breaks up with him to be with me before then, but, that is a long time to be in a relationship where there isnt really a point. \n\nAlso, our school Formal is in a little over two months and things have been being finalized for a while. I told her to think about it until afterwards otherwise things could get difficult (tables/limos/etc.) and not to break up with one person to pursue another. \n\nI think that I could see us together but I'm not sure. Please help, I'm way out of my depth here and have no idea what to do.", "summary": "i think my friend A wants to break up with another friend B to be with me when me when im going on a holiday with friend B soon"}
{"id": "t3_2r665y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [16m] in love with my best friend [16f]", "post": "First off I'd like to start by saying that this is my first post here so my apologies if it isn't clear or any other issues I will gladly elaborate on anything if needed. Although I am young I am mature for my age and if you could please read and comment on this post with an open mind and try to keep the \"you're still in high school\" to a minimum I would appreciate that as well!\n\nI'm in love with my best friend, all my friends are fed up with her, because they think I'm wasting my time, all her friends think we would be amazing together but none the less they can't make her see it.\n\nWe hang out a lot and we always make each other laugh and brighten our day... I've seen her get used by almost every guy she's ever gotten semi serious with. Even though she's a beautiful girl inside and out she seems to attract assholes who just want sex. We both want a long term relationship.\n\nShe has honestly changed my life, I think about her all day everyday, I'm a better person because she's made me try to improve, sometimes I lay in bed and just cry because I feel so hopeless but I can't bring myself to give up because she is the perfect girl for me, you know that girl that you imagine when you close your eyes and think about the perfect girl? The girl you think you will probably never meet because someone like that probably doesn't exist? That's her to me..\n\nThe frustration and confusion is so unreal I can't even explain it, it's the most painful thing i've ever experienced, when you want something so bad you would do anything for it, but you can't have it.\n\nI'm too embarrassed by the fact that I'm in love with someone who doesn't see me as anything more then a friend to tell anyone. She knows I'm interested in more but I don't think she understands that these feelings are never going to leave me no matter how much she says \"we should stay friends\" I'm not going to be able to settle with that.", "summary": "I'd rather you read the post but if you absolutely cannot! Basically I am in love with my best friend but she doesn't think we should be more then friends."}
{"id": "t3_1g0k94", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[24/m] Starting to date again... how to deal with issues from being sexually abused when I was younger?", "post": "So to begin, when I was about 11, there was a summer in which I was abused by an older neighbor. For the most part it wasn't really something that weighed on my mind much at all throughout my teen years but I had enough going on that I didn't really do any dating in high school. In college though I quickly got a girlfriend, the first real relationship for either of us. Long story short, we \"dated\" for a little over two years but it mainly consisted of just hanging out watching tv in each other's arms. Our first kiss didn't happen like a year and a half in and physically things got no further. It was incredibly frustrating to me to not make a move or even express myself that our break-up happened over Facebook. It ended without me ever telling her what happened to me back then. \n\nI've done no dating since then but I've just started trying to get back into it. I've had a few first dates and one second date, with things not progressing for the typical reasons. But what's been on my mind a lot more now is what will happen if a date DOES lead to a serious relationship. I don't want to keep this thing hidden from someone I love like I did last time, but I don't want to feel like I'm using it as a crutch for not showing affection or advancing physically or whatever. \n\nDoes anyone have any advice they could offer? To anyone who either was in this position or their SO was, when in the relationship did it come up?", "summary": "Sexually abused when I was 11. No relationship til college. Never progressed beyond kissing, never told her about my past. Want to be more open if I get into another serious relationship but I have zero clue beyond that vague goal."}
{"id": "t3_3mizch", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "In a music group thing. Is it appropriate to converse with the ladies there in hopes of something more? [More information inside]", "post": "I joined the choir truthfully because I wanted to sing better and because I wanted to meet girls. Everything I do is mostly male-centric. All my hobbies are 95-100% just males doing them so I hoped that the choir was a good way to meet some girls. \n\nAnyway the thing that stops me from talking with them is that the choir is partitioned into 4 parts. They are as follows: \n\n* Alto\n* Tenor\n* Soprano\n* Bass. \n\nI'm in the bass section because generally men have lower voices. [My voice is supposedly baritone if you're interesting.] \n\nAnyway the lady i'm interested in starting a conversation with is in the alto because women generally have higher voices so they're placed there. \n\nI thought about speaking with her but she might think it is weird that somebody in bass section would speak with a person in alto because what reason would somebody have to talk to somebody in another section ? It wouldn't make sense.. Well I guess in my mind anyway. I don't even know her and then I go talk to her even though my section is literally across the room. She could be thinking \"Wait why is this person talking to me specifically? Why can't he befriend his bass friends instead?\" \n\nSo there's my situation. What should I do? I've read here on /r/askwomen that they don't like getting approached in gyms, libraries, coffee, groceries, etc.. \n\nI have no idea if women even like getting approached in the choir or perhaps it's one of those places where you aren't allowed to ask a girl on a date because it's one of the forbidden places (gym, libraries, coffee house, grocery store, etc..) \n\nIs it appropriate?", "summary": "In the choir, I like a girl on a \"hey this girl is cute \" kind of level but she's (her section is alto) not in my section. Is it bad to talk to her if my section (bass) is half way across the room? If you were this girl, would you think i'm a creeper? "}
{"id": "t3_129k7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] shocked me [22F] last night, what should I do?", "post": "My boyfriend of almost 4 years now told me last night that he *\"doesn't even think about hugging and kissing me\"* when spending time with me. I always have to initiate kissing, hugging, and sex. This really frightens me. \n\nI get the occasional good morning, good night, and goodbye pecks from him, but I would like him to initiate other times of the day.\n\nI love him very much, but we always fight about this same argument. I keep hoping that it will get better, but he is always so distant. I told him that what he said frightened me, and he said that is how he is. Should I wait it out, to see if we can work this out, or should I end it and stop dragging this out?", "summary": "Boyfriend says he he doesn't even think about kissing (being intimate). Should I walk away or stay?"}
{"id": "t3_296urw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) think my girlfriend (17F) is being selfish.", "post": "been with my girl for like 2 years now. I really enjoy her and we have a lot of fun. She's kind of nerdy, but I like her that way. She cosplays a couple times a year and it's pretty cool to watch her make and sew her own costumes from scratch and then wear them. It's impressive.\n\nWell, I have this awesome punk band I am apart of. We have been getting a lot of gigs this summer and have been having a lot of fun with it. So, we have a show in July on Sunday. My gf knew this. It falls on the Sunday of one of her conventions, but she agreed to only go on Friday and Saturday and then go with us to our gig (about 45 minutes away.) She preordered her ticket. Well, then we got a second invite for another show that same weekend, but on the Friday and we all agreed to it, and when I told her, she was very upset and reminded me that it was the weekend of the con. I had forgotten, but I asked if she could go with us and just go on Saturday, but she told me no, that she still wanted to go to her con. The gig is in the evening, so she said she'd go earlier on Friday and leave by early afternoon and just meet us at the gig, but I think thats unnecessary gas being wasted.\n\nI know she's preordered and she put a lot of work into her costume, but I think it's a little selfish that she won't give Friday up, she has all day Saturday to go to the convention.\n\nHow can I convince her to not go on Friday?", "summary": "girlfriend won't give up one day a convention to come see my band, how do i convince her to do it anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_xb4d0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "To all the legal advisors or police officers on Reddit, is it possible to have my name removed from the police records for something small and stupid that I actually didn't do?", "post": "First, I should mention that I live in ON, Canada.\n\nBasically me and my friend were waiting for the bus yesterday evening and the terminal was deserted. We found some tiny pebble sized glass all over the floor and decided that it would be fun to just try to pick some up and shoot some in the garbage can beside the bus stop while waiting. (Childish, I know but we were bored) After shooting a couple of shards into the garbage can my friend proceeds to tell me he's going to throw a shard of glass at the bus shelter to break it (as a joke because we all knew it was impossible) and then he throws it and it just bounces off as expected. Meanwhile there our bus comes and picks us up but doesn't leave the bus terminal. We were curious about why we weren't leaving yet when we should have been on schedule but it turns out that our bus driver secretly called the police and then held us on that bus without us knowing.\n\nIn the end the police came, told us that we would have gotten ticketed $150 for attempting to damage public property, but he also acknowledge we didn't really do harm and weren't actually trying to destroy the bus shelter. My friend was the one that threw the piece of glass at the bus shelter and I was merely throwing rocks into the garbage can, but I also got my name taken down and put into police records.\n\nIs there anything I can do to get my name off? I just hate knowing that I was noted for something I never did.", "summary": "Friend throws one pebble sized glass shard at a bus shelter, police come and accuse us of attempting to break public property (based off of what the witness bus driver who called the police says) while I was just throwing rocks into a garbage can. He asked me for my identification and told me that they will have my name on record and that if I get caught doing something again I will be fined or possibly sent to prison. Can I have my name removed from the records? This was also a first time offense for me."}
{"id": "t3_4ffz34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] boyfriend [19 M] of a little over a week said \"I love you\"", "post": "So this is my first serious relationship and his first relationship ever. We've known each other for a little over 2 years and became best friends in that time.\n\nSomewhere in that time he developed feelings for me, which I kept trying to ignore because I didn't return them. That went on for more than a year. But, 2 months ago I realized I liked him back. Things escalated and he's been my boyfriend for a little over a week.\n\nYesterday though, we were hanging out in my house, making out. I stopped to look at him for a while and smiled, he looked at me for a moment and said \"I love you\" quietly and kissed me again after  few seconds. I smiled, kissed back and left it there. It felt genuine.\n\nNow, I didn't want to make a big fuzz about it because he is still one of my best friends and I guess I get where he's coming from (the fact that he has had feeling for me for more than a year). But I don't know what to do. We've talked and texted since then as if nothing ever happened. Do I keep ignoring it? Hope he doesn't repeat it until its appropiate? God forbid, address it?\n\nI want to leave it clear, though. I've not been happier in a long time and my feelings are really strong for him. But I don't know if I can say it yet.", "summary": "My best friend of 2 years became my boyfriend a week ago, said \"I love you\" to me yesterday, and now I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_52tdsy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "A guy who likes me and a guy who likes me", "post": "I like this one guy, (I'm a girl in hs), I think he likes me back, we always look at each other when we see each other, he was pretty nice to me last year, and from what I can tell, he seems pretty similar to me personalitywise, but with normal differences. Let's call him Boy A.\n\nI just realized that one of my classmates/acquaintances/almostfriendbutibarelyknowhim seems to like me too. I'm pretty bad at realizing things at first, but I had a revelation. He is Boy B.\n\nBoy B is not really my type, and I just want to be friends with him. Too tall, etc.\n\nI liked Boy A since last year, and when I decide I like someone, I want to pursue them, and only them. He is really attractive, and is nice, but doesn't act overly chivalrous like Boy B.\n\nThis is really like two questions in one, but my questions are\n\n\u2022Boy B is my almost friend, and I want to stay friends with him, but I don't want to hurt his feelings, what should I do, he just recently started flirting with me.\n\n\u2022Boy A is someone I really like, and want to get to know better, but he isn't in any of my classes, I switch 2 hours of school in second semester, so I might be in one of his classes later, how should I go about this?\n\n(Note: this is at a pretty small school, so most people know each other)\n\nBoy A is kind of introverted, and I feel like he might have a NT personality type, so he is less outgoing with the flirting and stuff, but we did have a few nice interactions", "summary": "I don't know how to talk to the guy I like (who I think likes me back), and my friend who likes me isn't my type, but he just started flirting with me, but I still want to be his friend"}
{"id": "t3_451qeo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By slamming balls into my face.", "post": "Okay so here is some background information.  I'm an overweight college student who is visiting home soon and want to better myself and surprise my family a little bit. My parents are really scared that I will go away to school and not take care of myself so i made a pact with myself that i will change for the better and not waste my life away munching on junk and playing xbox. Anyway on to the fuck up.\nI'm downstairs in our little dorm gym. Its basically a few treadmills, medicine balls, and some weights. So i start out on the treadmill to get my cardio in for the day. Afterwards i wanted to do some core workouts. so i grab the handy dandy medicine ball and remember a workout from my high school days where i would overhead slam the medicine ball repeatedly. Now back in high school these suckers barely bounced. The basically just hit the floor and stayed there. So being the meatball I am i slam the 12 pound medicine ball with the force of 100 gladiators and that sucker bounced back so fast I thought i just got right hooked by Mike Tyson. Now I'm bleeding everywhere from my nose and mouth. My teeth feel like they're gonna pop right out and i busted the shit out of my lip. 0/10 Do not try at home.                                                                     \nHeres a lip photo:", "summary": "Medicine balls were created by Mike Tyson to carry on his legacy."}
{"id": "t3_1djd7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (22m) in the wrong with my SO (24f)?", "post": "The past three nights we've been at each other. We text and sometimes talk on the phone for a while during the day. AT night we always talk or skype later at night. She either goes to the gym or has shows with her mom. I would like to talk or skype with her at a reasonable time. I feel bad asking this of her because she just lost her dad in December and spends a lot of time with her mom.\n\nSo, first night  it all starts and I get bummed because we were going to skype and it totally didnt happen. I addressed it to her and I thought maybe we would the next night. Again, there was no time for me. Tonight, i assumed she would have tried to make some time and talk or skype with me at a reasonable time. I was wrong yet again. \n\nSo now she is mad and im just lost. I'm not sure if I should be sorry or stand my ground. Im curious if you guys could give me some insight? Am I in the wrong for blowing this up and being stubborn? \n\nSorry for any typos and formatting/rules. First time posting here.", "summary": "Girlfriend not making time for me at night and causing an issue."}
{"id": "t3_29tbqk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Several agreements, good or bad?", "post": "My bf [19M] and I [19F] have been dating for a year now and are planning on getting married at the end of this year. \n\nWe've been having a long distance relationship for about six months now since he joined the Navy and I moved to another country (we want to get married to start building a life together). \n\nWe have different lifestyles than what we used to six months ago, he goes out a lot more often than he used too and I drink liquor a lot more than I used to in USA since it was illegal for my age, I don't get drunk, just tipsy.\n\nOur different lifestyles have caused a lot of arguments but we always end up making an agreement on what's tolerable on topics such as going out with friends, making time for the relationship, being loving and caring (he has a hard time with those since we're not physically together), etc. \n\nWe've agreed on me not drinking too much, him being more loving and caring according to my definition, according to him is to be respectful, honest, loyal, nice and I agree but I'd also like him to be more sweet from now and then. And right now we're trying to make an agreement on how much time he can spend with his friends on weekends since he wants to spend 12 hours on Saturday and Sunday while text me and talk to me for around 4 to 6 hours, going out that often and for that long just doesn't seem right to me. \n\nWe've made a lot of agreements like those lately, I can't even count them, I don't think is more than a dozen though. The question is should I take all this several agreements as a good sign that we can agree and over come our differences or as a bad sign since they're too many?", "summary": "Several agreements, good or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_rz5uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO's friend died, now friends family is..", "post": "GF/SO (16) and me (17). Been together 8 months.\n\n.\n\nA couple of months ago my SO's close friend died (i'll call him M), and a week after she made her first visit over there to pay her respects. She had never met this guy, but he was hitting on her for about a month prior to him dying - SO said no and ignored everything from him. He told his family about my SO, but never mentioning she has a BF. She's told me she told them she has a BF, but then one of them posts on her FB wall - \"future wife of M\" with a picture of my SO next to his grave.\n\nToday she tells me, she has agreed to let his family pay half her tuition - but the catch being she has to visit 2 or more times a month (alone). SO told me that they have money to spare, they don't need it so they want to pay half her tuition..\n\nShe also mentioned as shes the \"closest\" friend, she is now like a daughter to them. She's spent the last week over there at their place.\n\nI really have no idea what to think about this..", "summary": "SO's friend died, SO agreed to let friends family pay half her tuition if she visits 2+ times a month."}
{"id": "t3_3qsfzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my SO [25 F], I have seen some of her exes and they are significantly more attractive, hard to believe when she says I am cute/hot/sexy.", "post": "Hey, this is my first time posting to this sub.  I have recently (3-4) months started seeing a new girl, and everything is great.  We communicate well, have fun together and really get along, and have a very satisfying and healthy sex life.  I am very attracted to her physically and mentally, and feel she is too.\n\nThe only problem is, I have seen pictures of her exes, and they are VERY attractive.  It has made it hard for me to accept when she says I am cute/hot/sexy because I don't really compare in my mind...it has really hurt my self-confidence and I don't really know how to get past this.\n\nI'm not saying this is a deal breaker or anything close, not even an issue besides that I kinda just don't feel attractive anymore.  Someone please give me any advice or reassurance.", "summary": "Girlfriend has some very attractive exes and it's hurt my self confidence.  I wanna believe she thinks im \"sexy\" but its making it hard."}
{"id": "t3_1u9ofx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have trouble developing non-sexual relationships with men", "post": "I've been working on myself a lot the past year. I've had a few very short lived relationships, but they've all involved sex. I have some male friends, but I find it really difficult to become close with men in any other way.\n\nIt makes friendships difficult obviously. I have a difficult history with my dad. We didn't talk for a few years and when I was younger he was very angry most of the time and most of my memories involve him yelling. There was a nasty divorce and I went through a pretty crazy party period. \n\nNow, I'm trying to get myself together and be better. I'm more active, I'm clean and I'm more comfortable with myself but I realized that I still have a lot of the same bad habits I've always had.\n\nI rush the physical part of the relationships. I've even let sex get between me and a really amazing friend of mine (23 m) who I knew had feelings for me. \n\nWe hung out over the holidays and I completely manipulated the situation so that he approach me. We talked all night and hooked up and he was amazingly sweet, but he isn't the type of person to hook up with anyone. I have no intention of pursuing a relationship outside being friends, which I've told him.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. I've let sex get in the way of friendships before and it's gotten me in situations with men that were super negative and had bad repercussions. \n\nI don't like this and I've taken time off dating before to try and work with my boundaries more but I don't know if that's the right way to fix this. I've been working on it for a really long time. Anyone out there have tips on how to work this out?", "summary": "I have boundary issues. I want to break this cycle of hurting friendships with sex. How do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_cr0lq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What gets you up on Monday morning?", "post": "Hi Reddit, my first post here. So my question is \"What drags your sorry ass out of bed on a Monday morning?\" Do you look forward to a new week? New things to do, people to meet etc? Are there people out there who love their jobs and can't wait to rush back in and get stuck into things? Is it even possible to really live like that?\nI only ask since a while ago I was excited for the new opportunities a fresh week would bring. Now though my girl has left me and I'm stuck in a PhD that doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I didn't sign on for a shit life but am I stuck with what I have?", "summary": "Do you get a hard-on for your life?\""}
{"id": "t3_2kftoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm thinking about divorce.", "post": "I [26F] have been with my husband[29M] for almost 9 years now, married for 4. In the last 2 years I have had serious second thoughts about being with my husband forever. He is a really great guy, very responsible and he wants children but right now at I don't really want that. I want to travel and party and have fun but he's not really in to that at all. I've also had problems with attraction. He's is around 250lbs and I'm just honestly not attracted to him at all. Lately since I have been going out with friends he has been jealous and it has caused a lot of fights. I kinda just feel done with it all. I care about him but I feel like the love has gone and I don't know if it will ever come back. I get annoyed easily at him and really don't have any desire to spend time with him. Is there any hope? Should I just accept it and try to end this as amicably as possible?", "summary": "I've lost the love and attraction to my husband, should I just throw in the towel? All we do is fight."}
{"id": "t3_4w11vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18m]family spent an hour saying how i was the worse thing to happen to them [56m][40sf][16m]", "post": "Im sitting at taco bell right now just so i dont have to be near them.\n\nMe and my brother got had gotten into an argument over a chore what started out as a shouting match became him punching me in the head several times and me hitting him right back in the face which gave him a bloody nose . \n\nFast forward to the evening and my dad decides to have a family talk and basically spent it the whole time saying that i hated my brother and how ive always wanted to kill him . the in steps my mother who goes on to say that she doesnt know what she has done to have someone like me as a son .\n\nEverytime i tried to plead my case they would twist my words and say how i was insulting them . I know deep down im not the perfect son ive had history as a bit of trouble maker in my high school days(ditching class , hiding bad tests and some fights here and there) but never to the extent the make it out to be . iwas involved in many extracurricular activities and sports and even volunteering , im now going to be a attending a great university in september .\nI always help around the house and clean up after everyone and still they think the absolute worst of me .\n\nIm just exhausted from all of this .", "summary": "parents think im a horrible son and person"}
{"id": "t3_1kb18h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) need gift ideas for my new (24m) boyfriend", "post": "Hey everyone! I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months and his 24th birthday is coming up. Since we haven't been together for that long I don't know what an appropriate amount of money to spend is and more importantly I don't know what to buy him!\n\nWe are both students, but he has been very generous (paying for dinners etc. although I manage to pay for my own meal about half of the time haha) anyways I'll give you guys a little bit more information on him:\n\n* He is in med school\n* He *loves* coffee\n* He is picky about how he dresses so I don't feel comfortable buying him clothes\n* He lives on his own in an apartment far away from his family\n* He wants to take a trip to a town that's about a two hour bus ride away from where we live\n\nAny advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all for reading :) (Side note: I will *of course* be baking him a cake)", "summary": "Don't know what to buy/how much to spend on my boyfriend of three months for his 24th birthday"}
{"id": "t3_1tqbvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex [19F] broke up 6 months ago, broke no contact and left me feeling in a weird place", "post": "long story short we were together on and off for 4 years she broke up with me 15 times and cheated on me 3, last summer she came back from college and slept with me a few times and then said we couldn't be together cause i was an atheist and she was a firm believer since she had been going to a private christian school. i broke no contact and talked to her and the thing that stuck out most was she said her purpose was either to be with me or lead me to god and the man had to be the spiritual leader in the relationship and she couldn't have that with me, idk why but it gets to me is there something wrong with me, i mean i can't change the way i think but am i less of a man cause i couldn't give her what she needed, maybe I'm just crazy just needed to vent thanks for anyone who listened.", "summary": "talked to me ex and she said that because i wasn't a believer i couldn't give her what she wanted despite everything else makes me feel inadequate and like somethings wrong with me."}
{"id": "t3_26uuq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) am wondering - do I like her (20F) or do I just love the attention?", "post": "So I'm a 21 y/o male who is currently pursuing a STEM degree.  I have never been in a relationship, and up until recently, I haven't met ANY eligible girl whose company I enjoyed.\n\nEarlier this year, a shy girl started working where I do.  I eventually got her to open up and she's now friends with me and all of our coworkers.  She began to gravitate towards me and we recently started to text/flirt - its been going nonstop.  I'm planning on asking her out, but something crossed my mind that I can't shake off.\n\nBasically, I've never texted/flirted with other girls before.  But I often fantasize about spending time with a SO.  How do I know that I want to spend time with THIS girl - not just A girl?  I guess the first few dates could answer that question.  But...we are friends and coworkers.  I don't want to risk creating an awkward barrier between us (if things don't work out) if I don't have to.\n\nSomething else contributing to my worries is the fact that I am still looking at other girls.  I know that we haven't even gone out on a date, but I have been thinking about her/flirting with her a lot.  I would think that if I was honestly interested in a girl all my attention would be shifted towards her and no other female.  That hasn't happened (yet).  I guess something I'm afraid of is getting involved in a relationship and then dumping her to be with/gawk at someone else a week later.  I've seen guys do this, and I'm worried that I may turn out to be like them.", "summary": "Wondering if I want to spend time with this specific girl, or if I just want to fulfill my fantasies of having a SO."}
{"id": "t3_2yuzg8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] Does anyone not care anymore if things don't work out?", "post": "I've gotten to a point where if someone doesn't call me back, I'm not going to take my time and efforts to initiate conversations with them.  If they don't call me back, I won't call them back.\n\nIt's one thing if we had a falling out and were arguing and we stopped talking.  It's another when someone just vanishes cold turkey without an explanation after things were I thought, going so great, leaving me dumbfounded as to what happened.\n\n \n\nIt's not like I sit on my ass and expect someone to fall in my lap.  I actually get myself out there and give people chances who I like whenever I see the opportunity and it never works out!!! Like, wtf.  I wish there was a way where I could look into a future of how things would be had it worked out with someone I was interested in at the time who vanished.  Maybe it's for a good reason it didn't work out.", "summary": "Does this happen to anyone else where the first month someone will try his/her darned hardest to pursue you and please you and do everything to make you happy and when you finally accept they'll regularly be in your lives, that's when they suddenly vanish?"}
{"id": "t3_3nnqq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have been with fiancee [24M] for 2 years. Issue with mother in law [48?F]", "post": "Me [21F] and my fiancee [24M] have a great healthy relationship. We have been together 2 years. He has a 6 year old with another woman [23F], lets call her Angela, and he was with briefly (about a year and a half). Things didn't work out fiancee and Angela, they were never married. They do not get along to this day (holds child over his head to get her way constantly) but partial custody has been set up (every other weekend).\n\nMother in law, fiancee's mother, Barbara, is a lovely woman. We get along very well. Although, I seem to find that she loves Angela more than I. Angela is the mother of her granchild, and I am the one marrying her only son. I'm understanding of this but haven't been in this situation before and don't know how this will all work out 5, 10, 25 years down the road. I love children and get along with their son very very well, but it worries me that I will always be viewed as some second choice other woman backup plan. They purchase extravagant gifts even for Angela's other children whom she has with other men. I do not feel she would do the same if had any already.\n\nWill it be this way until we're married? Until I have children she can see everyday? Forever?", "summary": "don't know how to feel that my MIL likes the ex more than the current fiancee."}
{"id": "t3_2awmh9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] agreed and signed to move to my gf's [F 19] college town, and now that the move in date is near, I am second guessing everything.", "post": "Backstory: I have been dating my gf for over 3 years now, the last 2 have been long distance (just 3 hours).\n\nAbout 3 months ago I left my IT helpdesk job and decided I needed to go back to school for a BA in programming. Since that job was one of the major things keeping me in my town, my gf proposed me moving to her town. Since I am doing online classes, I would be able to move and live with two of her male friends that I have become good friends with.\n\nIt sounded like a great idea, new town, new friends, and only being a short walk away from her apartment. But then I started really thinking about what this all meant. \n\nThis means that I am committing to this relationship much more then I ever have, not to say that Im half-assing the relationship now. I guess I'm really scared of this big of a commitment. Now I'm second guessing everything, especially my lack of experience outside of this relationship (we have both only ever had sex with each other). \n\nOn one hand I really want to experience the thrill of a new person, but I know everyone goes through that phase and I know the real goal for me is a life long partner. \n\nI feel like its too late for a \"break\" and I already tried that idea to little avail. I love her so much and I feel like we are really great for each other. I do not want to risk our 3 year relationship for no reason. But what if we are just habitually together? I just want to get this nagging feeling out of my head. \n\nOh and the lease starts at my new place in her town on august fifteenth, so I have to have it figured out by then.\n\nplease help", "summary": "I signed a lease to move to my gf's town and now that the move in date is near, I am second guessing everything."}
{"id": "t3_3tdvkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Needing advice on asking girl [24 F] out before I end up screwing the pooch!", "post": "So, I am a pretty normal dude whom hasn't been in a relationship in about 4 years and very minimal dating.  So I could use some advice.  \nI have a course with a pretty perceptive and beautiful girl who I sit by.  She is pretty tight.  Throughout the class the atmosphere is rather dull, but I usually find myself talking to her when the moment is right.\n(Thanks Cialis ;)  \nWe have some fairly thought provoking conversations and we do have lot in common; thats not too unique in graduate school or maybe it is.\n\nI have been meaning to ask her out after class, but she darts out of there before I get a chance; I also get very anxious about asking a girl out in a public setting.  \nAny advice on what or how to ask her do to something casual in such a public setting? Or to you know, not ask her out at all? Ladies can you help?\n\nAlso, we only have two more classes before the semester is up.", "summary": "Average guy likes attractive girl.  Advice on asking her out."}
{"id": "t3_34qjzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] can't get my boyfriend [25M] to tell me what he wants.", "post": "My bf and I have been on the rocks for the last few months. We've had disagreements over activities, friends, and sex.\n\nEvery time there is a problem, I try to find a good time to talk about it, and then approach my boyfriend to try to find a compromise. I try to be non-confrontational. However, I always run into the same problem: he is not a talker. He sometimes takes almost a minute or more to respond to my questions. \n\nExample: \n\nME: \"Can you tell me what your ideal sex life would be like?\"\n\nHim: *2 minutes of silence* \"I'm not sure.\"\n\nME: \"Do you want some time to think about it? Can you write it out on your own time and send it to me in the next few days?\"\n\nHim: \"No\"\n\nor\n\nME: \"Can you tell me why you don't want to spend time with me today?\"\n\nHim: \"I just want to go home.\"\n\nME: \"Is something bothering you?\"\n\nHim: \"No.\"\n\nor\n\nMe: \"Can we both agree that if we're really serious enough about this relationship that marriage has been discussed, that we should make more time for each other?\"\n\nHim: *after a 45 second pause* \"I guess\" \n\nNow, after I spend a few minutes making my case, if I get no/a one word answer, I lose my cool. I often then say insensitive things, like \"I could break up with you tonight and find a new boyfriend in a day who is better at this than you.\" I get mad, because I am 100% willing to compromise, but he won't even give me his terms. That probably doesn't make it ok to say what I say, but I'm fuming on the inside at this point. Meanwhile, he is still playing the silent type, even as I'm losing my ability to filter what I say.", "summary": "Are people who can't communicate a lost cause?"}
{"id": "t3_u7du8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] My boyfriend [21/m] wants me to cancel my vacation.", "post": "Me, F/23 with M/21. Dating for four months.\n\nI've been planning a trip to the Outer Banks with a group of old college friends for about six months (half girls, half guys, and my sister). One of the guys going is someone I've hooked up with a couple times in the past, and my boyfriend is understandably uncomfortable about it. I wouldn't be comfortable if the situation were reversed. He doesn't want me to go, and he said he didn't want to go when I invited him (after I had even gotten the group coordinator to break the trip \"rules\" and allow him to come). He says he doesn't want me drinking/hanging out with \"a bunch of guys that probably want to sleep with you,\" and he doesn't want to hang out with them either. \n\nHe compares the situation to an occasion recently when his ex-girlfriend invited him to the beach, along with a couple mutual friends which included a girl who has, multiple times, said/done inappropriate things (such as texting him that she likes/loves him). I was at work and unable to go, and I let him know that I would not be comfortable with him going without me. He didn't go.\n\nI don't necessarily think they are comparable, since I've been planning this trip since before we started dating and the beach was a spur of the moment thing. I have to pay for the trip whether I go or not. If I go on the trip, it's going to cause problems, but I've been looking forward to it all year. Am I being unreasonable? What should I do?", "summary": "My boyfriend wants me to cancel my vacation and refuses to go when I invite him. I have to pay regardless."}
{"id": "t3_1w4hol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my fiance [30F] 7 years, taking a 'break' from each other, but I have no one", "post": "We are taking a mental and physical break from each other. I am continuing to live in our house we own together but she is spending time with her sister in a different state. She is my whole life and my best friend, any time I'm upset I just talk to her about it. But now we are limiting our communication. I know she is having a hard time too but she has her sister there to talk to. \n\nI am very introverted and I don't have many friends. None that I could talk to about emotional stuff like this. And I am estranged from my parents. \n\nI've never been this alone in my life. I feel so awful I've been thinking about killing myself. I like acting like I have it all together, which hinders my communication with people that might be able to help me. But I don't want to admit that something in my life isn't perfect.\n\nSo I keep calling her sister's, and texting her, and emailing her. I know in my head it is a bad idea to keep bothering her but I just can't stop. I feel like bothering her is better than killing myself", "summary": "How do I deal with all of this uncertainty without killing myself? I'm so alone."}
{"id": "t3_3zoavm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Got a $15,000 medical bill after spending 5 hrs in a NYC hospital!", "post": "This happened a couple of days ago, but I just got the bill today. Here's the story:\n\nI [26M] had just completed my cancer treatment (4 months of chemo and 1 month of radiation) for hodgkin's lymphoma, and after getting permission from my oncologists, I visited some friends in NYC to celebrate the end of a brutal journey and a fresh start on life. After two awesome days without any problems, I woke up with acute chest pain and shortness of breath.\n\nI had no choice but to go to the ER of a nearby hospital to get examined at 8am. The doctor gave me xanax and percocet to reduce the anxiety and relieve the pain, which made me high. And then, after a series of exams including a chest xray, CT scan, blood tests, and ECGs, I was diagnosed with bilateral subsegmental pulmonary embolism (multiple blood clots in the lungs) and pericarditis (inflammation in the heart). In a twist of beautiful irony, the diagnoses are likely side-effects of the very cancer treatment I was celebrating the completion of. The doctor recommended that I stay at the hospital overnight for observation, but since I live in and am insured in Canada (not NYC), I convinced the doctor to release me at 1pm and caught the next flight back to Canada to get treated. Today (about 5 days later), the hospital in NYC sent me a $15,000 bill. WTF!!!\n\nAdditional details:\n\n* I'm a US/Canadian citizen living in Canada.\n* I'm insured in Canada through universal health care, and I have travel insurance for trips, but the travel insurance is only willing to contribute $135 for the bill.\n* In addition to the medical bill, I also incurred a $130 flight change fee to fly back home.\n* I was under the influence of narcotics when I made nearly all my decisions until I sobered out at the end (the doctor gave me percocet and xanax for the pain and anxiety).\n* I was in the ER for around 5 hours, but the hospital is claiming that I stayed overnight. [Erroneous on all counts!!](", "summary": "I (Canadian) visited friends in NYC to celebrate the completion of my cancer treatment. Woke up with acute chest pain and shortness of breath, so I went to the ER. After undergoing various examinations, I left the hospital and received a $15,000 medical bill."}
{"id": "t3_ojgkk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How have you helped a stranger in a non conventional way?", "post": "Recently I was outside a bar at a food truck waiting for a sandwich.  A couple walks by and the girl is complaining about having had hiccups forever.  Her boyfriend was doing a number of things to try and scare her.  He yelled really loud, grabbed her arm unexpectedly, and apparently nothing was working.  They stopped at the front of a nearby car, and I decided I was going to sneak up on her and try to scare her.  I was a little worried the meat heady type boyfriend might have a problem, but I was drunk and thought it would be funny.  So I snuck up on the two of them, jumped out and screamed boo.  She acted startled but I thought it seemed a little played out so I thought they had seen me.  I went back to get my sandwich and two minutes later she came running over ecstatically, thanking me for ridding her of her hiccups.  \n\nHow have you helped a stranger in a non conventional way?", "summary": "Snuck up on a stranger to help scare the hiccups away"}
{"id": "t3_35cbuv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being overweight and unattractive at the gym at night", "post": "It was yesterday actually. I was at the gym, I've been working out a lot and I'm on a 4 day split. \nI'm not entirely sure what my routine is and I was using an exercise app to follow along with what I'm doing. So it was about 10:30 and I finished in the free weight area and there were only like 10 people left in the gym, most were upstairs doing cardio and I was working the machines to finish up. I would knock out a couple sets and then check my phone and move on. \n\nI was on my second machine and this worker dude and really attractive girl walk up to me and I'm blasting my music so I don't know what there saying so I take off my headphones like an idiot and I'm like \"I've got like one more set.\"\n\nAnd apparently the girl thought that I was checking my phone between sets to take pictures of her because she was the only other person in the machine area. \n\nThe dude tells me I'm making her feel uncomfortable and to either move on to do something else or leave so she can finish her workout. \n\nI say I have every right to workout as I pay my monthly dues and if she has a problem with it she can go somewhere else. \n\n\"I have to maintain my body, you're not there yet. You can skip a day\"\n\nFeeling defeated, I left.", "summary": "Being fat and unattractive makes girl uncomfortable, she makes it known and I leave like a little bitch."}
{"id": "t3_1kzpfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(18M) girlfriend(16F) of 2 years doesn't love me the same anymore.", "post": "So I guess I'll start with a little backstory. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for two years, for he first year things went great. We were happy together, we always loved seeing each other, it was wonderful. But then I started to get distant. I just wasn't focused on the relationship causing us to not hang out a lot.\n\nThis hurt her a lot more than I ever knew. For the past like 3 months she has been really distant with me and when I try to talk to her about it it always ends in a fight. She said she is afraid to be closer to me because she is tired of being hurt. I've apologized several times to her and i beat myself up every night over it.\n\nWell now to the situation, last night we were having a perfectly normal conversation, everything was going great, and it has been that way for a few weeks so I thought everything was going great, then she randomly says that she doesn't love me like she used to. When I asked her how she loved me she just said \"I dont know but its not the same...\". I keep trying to tell her that if she just opens up to me I can make her feel better. But she refuses to open up. She hasn't broke up with me but I feel like its coming very soon. \n\nI see her on monday and I need to know what to do to win her over. The very last thing I want is to lose her.", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't love me like she used to and refuses to open up to me. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2uyydk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18M) friends(18M's) ignore my attempts to make plans.", "post": "Hey Reddit! I need some advice.. I don't know what to do at this point.. I have these friends that i freaking love to death. But recently i feel like they do not give a damn about me. This week, i tried to make plans for everyone to come and hang out. And everyone decided that yesterday was the best day to hang out at around 5 pm at my house. I begin to get ready at 4:30 and by the time 5pm rolls around I look and see that all of my friends went to the canyons without even telling me anything. What do i do am i right to be so upset? Or am i just being a baby about nothing...", "summary": "friends agree to my plans and then ignore my plans to do something without me. What do i say?"}
{"id": "t3_1rw11j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Ill try to keep this short. I am a straight 24 year old male. Due to me not knowing how to talk to girls aside from being friendly, I never so much as made out w one until 22. I was a virgin until last summer.\n\n---\n\nI wanted to lose it, of course, but I figured I had waited long enough that I might as well have my first time be w someone I actually liked rather than a random.\n\n---\n\nAnyways, I meet a 42 year old bombshell and we casually date and have sex. Aside from great sex, she was funny, smart and very affectionate. After sex wed cook dinner together and cuddle and watch TV and talk. It was wonderful. I can go on and on. We haven't been intimate since July.\n\n---\n\nShe cut off the sex because she said she fell for me, and felt uncomfortable falling for someone her nephews age. We still talk several times a week and get lunch or dinner a few times a month.\n\n---\n\nI can't stop thinking about her. I just talked to her on the phone for about 20 minutes, we laughed, and teased each other, butterflies etc. I've never been in love before, is this it?\n\n---\n\nMy head tells me we shouldnt have sex anymore, like she said, but my heart wants to. I'm 99% sure its not worth losing the friendship. She told me she can't do the fwb thing.\n\n1) what should I do?\n\n2) is this feeling common as she was my first? How should I view my feelings?", "summary": "Me 24/M might be in love with first sexual partner a 42/F"}
{"id": "t3_2jvxmm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not grabbing the remote back", "post": "This happened a few weeks ago,So I spent the night over at my families home.They don't have the remote for the basement tv where I had to sleep for the night. So I put the channel on MTV because they were showing some horror movie that night. After that my uncle took the remote back for the rest of the night. Apparently there was a 24 hour midnight marathon of Guy/Girl Code oh boy.I already dislike MTV but god this show is so cringe IMO.By the time this marathon started I was half asleep and too lazy to get up to turn the TV off.I heard this shit in my sleep for the rest of the night", "summary": "Couldn't get remote back,had to suffer through a shitty marathon of Guy/Girl Code"}
{"id": "t3_4gmndb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [23/M] of 2 years, he said no when I asked him to get me a cheap gift", "post": "Hey everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for two years and are currently doing long distance for about a year. (4000 miles apart). We only see eachother once or twice for a day at a time every couple of months. We were video chatting and I was saying how I really liked this pair of earrings I saw (only $7) and was just like \"it would be super sweet if you can give them to me as a present\" He just says no and that I can't have it. \n\nI'm just a little upset because I've never asked him for a gift before ever and we usually are 50/50 as far as dinners and other expenses. I feel like I never see him so it would have been thoughtful if he were to be happy to get it for me as it would make him happy to see me happy. If roles were reversed I would be happy to get him something, especially if it was as cheap as $7. \n\nWhat Do you guys think?", "summary": "boyfriend said no to getting me a cheap gift"}
{"id": "t3_26ceyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone help me [21/F] define this relationship [24/M]?", "post": "I've been seeing a guy for about two months and a half, for a total of around 18 dates. I think I brought up the exclusivity talk too early (around the 5th date), and when I had asked if he was looking for an exclusive thing, he replied with a sheepish, \"uh, I don't know.\" I said, \"oh, okay.\"     \n\nWe kept seeing each other, and when I had stumbled across his okcupid profile, I texted him, \"oh, you're on okc X).\" He replied really quickly, saying \"oh lol yeah but I never use it. and never had much luck with it. you?\" and I had said, \"tried it a bit in the past.\" The next day, he texted me, \"I'm not seeing anyone else, if that's what you're afraid of.\" I told him \"that's good to know. I'm not either.\"     \n\nHe hasn't been on the okc account since January, though I have also stumbled across his profile on another friend/dating site, that he does go on seemingly on a weekly basis (howaboutwe.com). He's bought me a gift recently (a soap holder that he said was my color). He's said some rather nice things like, \"You make me feel safe,\" has called being with me \"addictive,\" and told me I was pretty... \n\nI'm not really sure where we are now, and I don't really want to have that conversation with him again. I also haven't had a lot of experience with relationships (he said he hasn't either), so any outside opinions on what it seems like this thing we're doing is would be great. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Inexperienced girl has been seeing a guy for two months, and would like some outsider evaluation on what type of relationship it is."}
{"id": "t3_3tv63v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I still can't get over my girlfriend", "post": "We (M20 and F20)were in a relationship for a happy 2.5 years until she moved to a different continent for further studies. We promised each other to be together forever which didn't happen. \n\nBeing in a long distance relationship is not as easy as it seems. These type of relationships seldom do last and we knew this before she left but still we were ready to fight for it. \n\nNot looking at someone makes you crave for them more. She didn't have time to cater to my cravings and she broke up. Now it's been 6 months and she is with some other guy. I am over her partially but I don't seem to get over her completely. Now and then I miss her so much that I feel like talking to her.", "summary": "Will I ever be able to get over her? ."}
{"id": "t3_kenlr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Korean Redditors: I need your help (for my dad who has cancer)", "post": "My dad is battling cancer for the third time and the chemotherapy treatment is much more intense this time around and he's suffering through terrible nausea, vomiting, pain, and depression.  It's hard to see him like this as we still have many more long months ahead of us.  The medications are barely helping and it makes me nervous to see my dad having to take morphine and valium and the like.  I also happen to be an avid pot smoker (he doesn't know) and am aware of the therapeutic benefits of marijuana for cancer patients.  \n\nMy Korean is... OKAY.  I can speak conversationally and I read/write rather slowly.  It's been hard for me to go through Korean websites looking for information I can show my dad so that he can consider for himself if he'd like to try some weed via vaporizer.  If you are fluent in Korean, I know it shouldn't take you too long to find an article or anything I can print out and show my father.  I really would appreciate it if you could help us.", "summary": "My Korean dad has cancer, please post reliable, accurate articles discussing the benefits (and also risks) of marijuana for cancer patients."}
{"id": "t3_30hyaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] just starting to have \"normal\" dates, need tips on how to behave.", "post": "Ok. A bit weird, but bear with me, ok?\n\nI didn't had  what you would call a \"normal\" relationship for the longest time. Sure, I had lots of dates, and had relationships with women, but somehow they all ended up being sexual in its core, never really emotional in the least. This started from when I was 15 years old, and continued up to my 26 years. \nThen last year, i decided, what the hell, I need love as well. So I started to trying my hand at date, but I rally suck at it. Thing is, when you are in a hook-up date, the.... I don't know, rules, are different, and you are  actually rewarded for being a bit dirty and straight to the point. I am aware it's not like that when you wnat to start something serious, and I really don't want to be the awful guy that gives bad vibes to woman... But I literally don't know what to do. I've done a couple of dates already, but they never really went to something more serious, just friendships and such. I don't know, maybe I dont' give the \"interested\" vibe, as I'm trying to not sound overly-sexual...  \nSo, if you guys have tips on how to behave ion a first date, I would greatly appreciate it.", "summary": "Just had sexual relationships up till now, don't know how to behave on normal dates, need tips."}
{"id": "t3_qra0t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dog's ear fur is peeling off? Can you tell me what this is? (Sorry, didn't know where to post this.)", "post": "I have a boxer and she is about 8 years old. She has these spots on her ears and the fur is peeling off. I also believe she has a couple spots on her feet. My mother won't let me take her to the vet and I was wondering if Reddit knew what it might be. I'm worried about her.\n\n[Picture.](", "summary": "Vet thinks it is ringworm."}
{"id": "t3_2bynom", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not answering my phone.", "post": "A couple weeks ago I was out of town visiting a friend for her birthday. We just finished our freshman year of college, so we're all at home for the summer, but her parents were out of town, so we had her house to ourselves.\n\nOne of her other friends who is super hot, but a total dick was there. \nAt the beginning of the year, I had a crush on this dude, but like I said, he was a total ass. Anyway I'M FUCKING HAMMERED when we get back from downtown and I go to bed with this guy. Sex is one of the few times I don't have my phone by my side, so it's usually on silent. ANYWAY, I plugged it in to charge. We're about 45 minutes deep and hear a knock on the door. \n\n\"CBinNeverland, come tell the cops you're alive!\" MY MOM CALLED THE COPS BECAUSE I DIDN'T RESPOND TO HER TEXT FOR 30 MINUTES. I check my phone and there's FIFTEEN new texts and FORTY MISSED CALLS. **FORTY.** I am 19 years old, mind you. So we've all been drinking and I'm thinking \"Dammit, mom. You're paying my underage fines.\" I walk out in his t-shirt and my underwear.\n\nThe cop starts laughing when he realizes I'm **nineteen** and my mom went nuts because I didn't answer for 30 minutes. He has me call her, assure her I'm alive and leaves. But I was humiliated and pissed and my friends still think it is just the funniest thing that's ever happened to us.", "summary": "my mom freaked out because her daughter who is a college sophomore didn't answer the phone for 30 minutes and had the cops come."}
{"id": "t3_4of8i1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(17M)am gealous because my girlfriend(16F) of over 4 months is having conversation that she starts with my classmate.", "post": "I am now really down because of this. We had an argument 2 months ago about this and I told her to stay away from my classmate(he is a really bad person and always speaks really bad about her when he is with others or even with me, we've been colleagues for 10 years now and he is awful, I hate him), and I'm sick of it. \nThe problem is, today after checking her phone I realized she starts most conversation and he is mostly not answering to her immediately. \nI am not sure what to do and I am really confused and really really sad and disappointed. What should I do?", "summary": "Anxios about talking with my girlfriend about her feelings and why he speaks with one of my classmates,after having an argument 2 months prior about it."}
{"id": "t3_2d5gsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am addicted to my Italian lover [22M] | How do I forget the best I've ever had?", "post": "Oh reddit, I'm a mess.\n\nSo I met an Italian guy this summer. He is the best lover I've ever had in my life, and I can't stop thinking about him. He is super kind and intelligent. He is so giving. He cooked me dinner on multiple occassions. And the sex.... oh the sex!! I am spoiled, and I cannot even imagine dating an American after this. I am completely addicted, and I know it's unhealthy. I'm sure my obsession would probably repel him in some ways, if he knew the extent of it. What's making this worse is that I had to leave the city and go home for a few weeks. Now being away from him makes me desire him even MORE. He is only in the US for a month to learn English before he leaves to univeristy in France. He is leaving either the same day I get back to the city or the day before. I might not even see him for a long, while, if ever again. I am positive that I'm not the only woman he's seeing (which stings). I know we're not monogamously dating. I just want him too much. I'm heartbroken, and I'm struggling to get over this. \n\nI was really looking forward to coming home for WEEKS. Then I met him. Now, I'm home, and I'm miserable thinking about him and all the women who are probably all over him.", "summary": "How to forget the best you've ever had?"}
{"id": "t3_2k2x9z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost burning down my girlfriends, NEW, UNINSURED, house.", "post": "This is actually more of a Today We Fucked Up, as this happened alongside my SO. So her parents just got themselves a new house in June. They are yet to have sold their old house, and are currently paying two lots of rates/bills. For this reason they have not yet gotten insurance for the new house. \n\nAnyway, so my SO's parents were out for a walk, and so we decided to put some popcorn on. Just after we first turned on the stove, her parents came back home, so we walked outside to talk to them.\n\nAfter a nice long chat about cars and dogs, I suddenly realized. We rushed back inside almost before it was too late. We had to take the pot outside and empty it. Now, an hour later, the smell is still eye-watering even with all the doors and windows open.", "summary": "Put popcorn on, went outside, talked, almost burnt the house down."}
{"id": "t3_1kbk05", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(26/M) gettng mixed signals from her (31/F)", "post": "I met this woman about 3 months ago at a place we volunteer at. I see her fairly often at the volunteer place and sometimes see her on the train to work. I would guess we've had about 10, 12 hours of conversation through those two places. We get along well. She wants to meet my dog, and has expressed interest several times about doing it. She lives a few blocks anyway and has also offered to watch him when I travel for work. However, when I invite her to come see him, she has said she had other something else to do that day. I've said she can just let me know when a good day for her is, and she hasn't contacted me. I am very confused why she would do this? \n\nShe's also told me on a few occasions that she's single. I wonder if she thinks I am not interested since I've known her a few months now, and haven't asked her out. I don't see the point in asking her on a date if she hasn't come through on an activity she has expressed interest in.", "summary": "Girl expresses interest several times in meeting my dog, but doesn't take it when I offer"}
{"id": "t3_2th6pc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving to work", "post": "This happened about 4 months ago at my old job near the airport. \nI was driving to work happily in my new (to me) car that I bought a week ago. I was still pretty new driving stick so I was pretty \"jerky\" with my shifts. \n\nAbout the 10th minute of my drive there, I started to hear bubbles bubbling from my stomach. The light went green and I \"jerked\" the car from first gear which triggered the hot-cold feeling when you are about to let a big one go. I started to hold my ass from shitting then started to drive as fast as I can to get to work and then there was the four-way stop, the last obstacle before I get to my work's parking lot. \n\nI stalled. \n\nThere was a semi behind me and beeped for about 3 seconds while I was struggling to move the car. A little bit of my turd fell out.\nThen I finally pulled in to a spot in the parking lot.\n\nI let out a big sigh that I made it to work but that relaxed feeling wasn't a great idea after all. \n\nThat relaxation loosened my ass-muscles and all the turd came out.\n\nI had shorts in my briefs so I took those out. Found sister's makeup removing wipes in the glove compartment and wiped my ass clean and then threw the crap in the trunk.\n\nI then went to work commando.", "summary": "Drove to work in stick car, shat in pants after getting to parking lot"}
{"id": "t3_2kygt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Officially, polygamy is still illegal. I am optimistic though. I do well with girls. I had five gfs for most of this past summer. It fell apart when I had to kick one of the girls out.\n\nI kind of fell into having five gf to start with. I had a gf, but we were breaking up because of distance. I started dating a new girl, and the old gf wanted to date me. They both moved in, and we looked for a third, then a fourth but we found two. Didn't want to pick between them. So boom, five gfs in the period of six months. They all lived with me for three weeks, then I had to kick out the third. She was just in it for fun, and the rest of us were all serious to the best of my knowledge. So then I kicked out after we talked about it. Well we stayed together for two months, the four girls and I.\n\nThen one left. She left, and we all waited. She wanted to come back, I said there would be a waiting period when she returned to make sure we were all good. She was upset that she would singled out, and then didn't want to come back. That ticked off one of the girls remaining.\n\nSo now I have one gf left, but she has to move back home to help her family in December.\n\nSo I am looking for girls serious about polygamy now, because I am hooked. It was the best ever. I think five was a bit much, I only have three other window seats in my truck, so I am thinking three is great.\n\nThis mission seems impossible. I mean I am looking for three gamers that like to work their forty hours in a week, and do things as a family like snowboard.\n\nI don't care if someone doesn't believe me. I just want to know where to meet girls like this. \n\nI am currently trying dating sites. Not sure how I can make it happen.", "summary": "I can date girls easy, but I want to date 2- 3 awesome girls who are into cohabiting or nearly polygamy"}
{"id": "t3_133ylr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [m24] has been acting immature with me [f19] and I don't know how to handle it.", "post": "We have been together for 5 months now. I'm generally happy with him, we have our fights but we get over them. I love him more than anything but sometimes he just acts very immature.\n\nWe were using facetime because I'm at home studying and he's just playing games on his computer at home. I'm kind of leaning over taking notes and reading my text book so he can't fully see me. He asked me what I was doing and I told him I was studying. Because he couldn't see me I guess he felt compelled to ask multiple times and every time the answer is always the same. I' beginning to get annoyed because I'm trying to focus so I started getting an annoyed tone. I have exams in two days and I want to do well. \n\nHe then proceeds to tell me to \"take a chill pill\", and flips the camera over so I am facing the wall which is basically telling mine to see how it feels. I don't really care what he's doing and I haven't been looking up, he's doing his thing I'm doing mine, but I think him responding this way is really immature. I'm trying to study and I don't really see why he needs to be seeing what I'm doing. I'm taking notes.\n\nThis has happened a few times already and I'm somewhat annoyed by this behavior. I expect more from a 24 year old. How do I handle this?", "summary": "My boyfriend can be very immature and I don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_qzqqa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit: Dating question for you.", "post": "I was out last weekend with a bunch of friends at a local dance club. While there, I met a girl (a friend of one of our group) and we chatted for a few minutes. I then had to leave, and when I came back a while later she had left. My friend was able to get in touch with her and told her that I thought she was cute and she gave her contact info which was passed on to me. I finally got her digits and email address yesterday.\n\nI was going to call today in a short while and say something along the lines of \"It was great to meet you the other night. Would you like to have a drink with me...\" etc...\n\nMy question is this: Given that tomorrow is St. Paddy's day, how should I proceed? Should I suggest a drink tonight, tomorrow, or something on Sunday?\n\nThanks a bunch in advance Reddit!", "summary": "Got girls number through friend, and need to know what day to suggest for date."}
{"id": "t3_3pkmet", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blocking an ambulance", "post": "So I'm driving home after a really long work day. It's 9pm and there's still traffic. It's not too bad, its a two lane road and cars are moving. \n\nI come towards the intersection and it's a red light and then I hear and see the sirens. There is a third right turn only lane which is empty. Without thinking (sort of instinctively) I pull over in to the right turn only lane. \n\nI sit there all dandy like I just did something smart. This whole time I'm hearing the sirens and horns approaching. I start hearing the loud firetruck horn and its getting louder and louder. Finally after about 15 seconds, I turn around and realize that I'm the only car in this right turn only lane and I have stopped the ambulance and fire truck. I had to pull over further onto the short gravel shoulder to let the ambulance through because the line I was originally in had cars in it. I didn't see any of the emergency personnel, but I'm pretty sure they were ticked off.", "summary": "TIFU by accidentally blocking an ambulance while trying to make way for the ambulance."}
{"id": "t3_21srun", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (F33) Accept I may never have kids?", "post": "Yeah, I know many women have kids well into their 40s, but most don't. I'm almost 34 and I feel like there's no prospects in sight. I've been with a guy (37) for 4 years, but we're still not engaged. There's still no commitment. He won't even add me as a friend on Facebook, not to mention his status is still 'single'. I feel like a damn teenager here caring about stupid things like diamond rings and Facebook status, but what am I supposed to do? Date him until all my eggs are gone?\n\nI can't afford to ever freeze my eggs. I could possibly use a sperm donor if I move in with my parents... but then I'll have a kid but no man, possibly ever.\nI know the answer is to leave him, but it's almost like, why bother? I'll probably never find anyone to have kids with soon enough.\n\nI let him know when we got together that I wanted to get married and have kids... he pretended to be on the same page. Then he just kept leading me on. And I feel like it's too late now.\n\nI am so scared I will never have a kid.\n\nI don't know the point of this post. I'm just really sad. I wish men would realize exactly what they were doing when they lead women on this late in life. It's cruel.", "summary": "getting old, boyfriend of 4 years still won't commit. i feel like it's too late to start over to try to have kids."}
{"id": "t3_1mqjj0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would Reddit feel about a Reddit podcast?", "post": "I'm developing a podcast as a part of my Master's thesis in mass communications.  In media terms, Reddit represents an evolved audience in that we are capable and willing to participate in the production, distribution, and alteration of various kinds of media. I want to harness this potential by allowing the community to determine the shape and style of a podcast. \n\nWould any of you be interested in listening to and/or contributing to the production of a podcast that derives the majority of its content from things posted in various places among the Reddit community? \n\nI plan on using the podcast to discuss issues that the community has deemed important through voting, and I'd like to highlight some of the funny, poignant, heartwarming, and fascinating posts that make it onto the site like many of the TILs, ELI5s, LifeHacks, etc. However, I really want to get the community involved! \n\nI have considered interviewing highly active users, mods, and admin, but I would love to hear any and all of your ideas about how I can create something that is truly valuable to at least some of the wonderful people who enjoy Reddit as much as I do.", "summary": "I'm creating a reddit-based podcast and want your ideas on how to make it great/valuable to the Reddit community."}
{"id": "t3_1dzold", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My brother was falsely accused of assault with a deadly weapon and fleeing the scene of a crime. What are his options?", "post": "I'm just going to tell his side of the story, I wasn't there:A little while back my brother got into some sort of altercation with a couple while driving (apparently someone cut someone off and things escalated). After following him for a little while and tapping his bumper with their car a few times, they came to a red light. They got out of the car and started threatening him and trying to get him out of the car to fight. My brother tried to leave the situation but the women threw herself on to the car multiple times preventing him from leaving. Eventually he was able to get away from them.\n\nPretty soon after that we found out they were taking him to court for a hit and run. We got a lawyer and we had a witness who was able to back up my brothers story. Even the cop that was sent to the scene of the crime sympathized with my brother and if it weren't for the couples resistant arguing and yelling it probably would of gotten thrown away immediately. The woman had no injuries. \n\n We though it was going to get thrown away in the first hearing however we just recently found out he is now being tried with assault with a deadly weapon and fleeing the scene of an accident. He is freaking out, my family is freaking out (not to mention loosing a lot of money on this) and no one is really sure what is going to happen. Could he still be OK? Is there anything else we can do? What could happen to him? My brother is a good man, a PhD student and if everything happened as my brother says it did these are just two scumbags looking to take all of my families money. please help!", "summary": "my brother is being falsely accused of a hit and run."}
{"id": "t3_2y9iue", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How I lost $1k+ to the affordable care act (venting and advice for those under 30)", "post": "I signed up for my first health insurance last year through my state exchange, looking at each plan, their deductible, benefits, etc. Essentially due to my income of ~24k per year, I decided the most affordable option was to go with the catastrophic plan for $170 per month and I would receive tax credits to cover it most of it as my income wasn't high enough. Used the insurance once to get antibiotics but overall no complaints.\n\nThis year after calling the state exchange line multiple times for not receiving my 1095-A to do my taxes (they didn't know why I didn't receive one, they kept telling me to wait), I was finally put into contact with a specialist who told that I did not qualify for tax credit as catastrophic plans cannot be covered by tax credits. During the entire sign up process, I was never notified of this. No mention of it when first signing up, no mention of it when I changed my address and updated my income mid-year due to a slight raise (which they sent out a letter stating my new available tax credit), nothing. When I talked to the reps at the exchange, they told me they couldn't do anything to help me. The best they can do is \"file a complaint.\"\n\nIf I had signed up for the bronze plan (which was about $270 per month) and received tax credits, the insurance would have cost me about $90 per month and I would have had better insurance coverage.", "summary": "Catastrophic plans are not eligible for tax credits. Compare bronze plans with tax credit when shopping for insurance."}
{"id": "t3_2mo3w3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting mixed signals from 25M (I'm 24F). Dated three weeks, acquaintances for a year. Help?", "post": "Went on a few dates with him and things are going okay - it's honest, straightforward, and no games. Two of our friends are in a serious relationship so that's how we know each other. We genuinely enjoy each other's company. \n\nDate 3 rolls around, we're at his place, and he says something along the lines of \"I've been having fun being with you and I've been looking forward to seeing you all week, but I have to confess, I'm not falling in love with you.\" I'm gutted and say that \"good thing, because I was starting to fall for you\", but we mutually decide to go back to being just friends and left it at that. This was Friday night.\n\nFast forward to Monday (I cried and drank a bottle of wine to feel the rejection out, and then resolved to move on Sunday.). I get a text sending me hugs, love, and butterflies (flowery language isn't uncommon from him, but it's very lovey-dovey) which then confused the shit out of me. I replied in a friendly fashion and have resolved that he's doing all the initiating from now on. My attachment was nipped in the bud by saying what he said, but now I'm confused. I miss the days when we were straightforward and I knew what to expect. None of this 'friends on Friday' and then 'sending me love' on Monday. \n\nWhere do I go from here? Do I reset boundaries when I see him next (because that conversation isn't exactly text-appropriate) or just let him figure his shit out while I keep living my life as I did before we started seeing each other? Someone has suggested cutting him out completely (more like telling him to go fuck himself), but I really don't want that :(", "summary": "Dated for three weeks, he decided he's not falling for me while I've started to get attached so back to being friends. Getting mixed signals... what to do now?"}
{"id": "t3_51x5g2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(22/F) My boyfriend (25/M) fights selfishly", "post": "My boyfriend is amazing. Seriously. I feel so lucky to be with him 85% of the time. Until he feels hurt in any way. \n\nThen, he gets really selfish and completely disregards my feelings. When he's upset he just shuts down. He is incapable of listening to my perspective once he's upset. I believe this is genuine and not him just being stubborn, which leads to a major issue: can this work.\n\nI want it to work so badly. I love him and he's amazing in almost every way. But when we have even a small fight he shuts down. When I apologize he ignores it. When he does something that hurts me, it's because of the thing I did that hurt him, so there's no apology. I'm just afraid that (1) I'll end up not being able to take it and break up with him or (2) it'll change me into a mouse who's afraid to say anything that might lead to controversy.", "summary": "My boyfriend shuts down when he's upset and is incapable of considering how what he did/is doing hurts me."}
{"id": "t3_239put", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] miss the feeling of being in a relationship so much that it's ruining my life", "post": "I've never really been the greatest at getting girls. Ok, I'm pretty fucking terrible at it. I've had one girlfriend [31F] in my entire life, and it barely lasted a month. And that ended in November of '12. So it's been a while. My brain won't stop thinking about it, tho. I replay it over and over in my head, and it depresses me to no end. I miss her so much. Well, I know I probably don't actually miss her, I miss being someone's boyfriend. \n\nAnd it totally sucks. I think about it every day, and I lose so much sleep over it. I've thought about messaging her on Facebook so many times, but I know she won't want to talk to me. I just feel like I'm such a loser. All my friends have been in LTRs before and I'm still trying to get a girl to want to be around me for any significant period of time. I'm missing out on huge chunks of being a human being, and it's so depressing that I can hardly find it in myself to give a shit about anything these days. \n\nI know this sounds so pathetic and I know most of you will tell me to just get over it, but if nothing else, I just want to get it out there. And maybe there will be some helpful comments, so please take the time to weight in on the situation. Thank you.", "summary": "I feel so depressed about being alone and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3jvoba", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm a socially awkward [22M] who needs some help with a [26F] class mate.", "post": "I recently started a new education. On the first day I was sat next to a girl that I fell in talks with and have a lot in common with. \n___________\nFor the last week we've been sitting next to each other and hanging out in the breaks. We even walk about 10 minutes of the way home together most of the time. \n___________\nNow, here is the issue. I have some level of social anxiety and am pretty introvert in general, so its quite rare I find someone I can talk to.\nAnd we are talking about a girl in a class full of programmers. I am somewhat scared that if I wait too long I'll lose my chance.\n\nEspecially since she is a smoker and I am not, she often talks to the 1 other smoker in our class who is also showing sings of interest in her.\n___________\nSo far my only real contact with her outside of school is facebook, and we've only talked very little on there twice where I initiated, but being the coward I am I pretty much stop all communication she replies with something that isn't a direct question or topic prompt.\n___________\nBesides that, even if I decided to ask her out, I have 0 dates under my belt, and don't know the town that well despite having lived her for 3 years (yay for social anxiety!)\n___________\n\nMight well be over analyzing everything, but I kinda need some advice on what to do in general, since asking out directly might be a bit too fast since we only met a week ago. Any way I can try to show her I am interested without being too much of a creep?", "summary": "Don't want to miss my chance with a girl in my class, but I am quite socially awkward. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_15tj4f", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I misread a situation, or am I looking too much into it? (23 M) And (18-25? F)", "post": "Background:\n\nI'm a 23(M) and am clueless about most female interactions aside from platonic friendships and professional settings. Basically I'm crap at reading inbetween the lines and taking hints from females.\n\nWhenever I have had an opportunity I always backed out as I worried what other people may think, worried that I was being a 'sleaze' etc, but deep down I know it's probably a self confidence thing.\n\nHave/had low self confidence and have issues with insecurity which I am working on improving.\n\nSituaution:\n\nIn a large crowd standing very close together with strangers at a New Years Eve music festival.\n\nWhat happened:\n\nAn attractive female began bumping into me during the New Years concert. She was with a bunch of other females I assumed to be her friends, so I thought she was just a bit excited for the band / the fact it was New Years.\n\nAfter a while she started some small talk about how the band at the time wasn't that good, I reciprocated and made some light hearted jokes regarding the band.\n\nA few more minutes pass of her bumping into me while dancing, she asks if I could lift her up on my shoulders so she could see the band playing better - I oblige, not thinking much of it.\n\nAfterwards she thanked me and went in for a hug.\n\nMy friends then begin to walk away, I begin to get nervous and worry that they are leaving me; so I hug the girl again and wished her a happy New Years and said goodbye.\n\nMy analysis:\n\n- She either was interested in me and my insecurities lead me to believe she wasn't or;\n\nShe only built rapport with me so she could get on my shoulders for the final song by the band (it was the only reason anyone was waiting around for that band).\n\nQuestion:Did I misread her intentions or am I reading too much into it?", "summary": "Girl kept bumping into me at a concert, hoisted her on my shoulders. I am unsure whether or not she was interested in me or just to get a better view of the band."}
{"id": "t3_2znonl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying chicken.", "post": "This actually happened last week. My two friends and I were walking from Hendersons Chicken, and I had a jalape\u00f1o in the bag, along with my chicken. As we trekked home, the liquid from the jalape\u00f1o tore threw the bag. The jalape\u00f1o landed on the lid of my arizona tea, which I was holding in another hand. I had the bright idea to slide the jalape\u00f1o off my can and kick it into my friend who was in front. As my maniacal plan unfolded, I launched the jalape\u00f1o in the air with my foot, and the juices from the jalape\u00f1o spreaded everywhere, filling me and my friend's eyes with the burning sensation of a thousand exploding suns. And to top it all off I dropped my chicken. GG NO RE", "summary": "I try to kick a fresh jalape\u00f1o and the juices spear everywhere, including my eyes."}
{"id": "t3_1tp8bf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "19/m] I fucked up Christmas and my girlfriend [19/f] is really upset at me and I don't know what to do", "post": "My girlfriend and I got into a fight at her house, she pulled my hair and I asked her not to put her hands on me like that and then she slapped me, so I pushed her and she fell back into a shelf, and her parents rushed in and her dad punched me in the face, and then I was moved from the house to the yard where I was talked to by her dad, and they gathered all of my things and gave them to me and her dad took me home. She hasn't talked to me since I left and I am going crazy, I love this girl more than life itself and I want to be with her more than anything. This was the first time anything was physical between us and now I don't know what to do. She removed our relationship from facebook and it says single now and I don't know what to do. Everyone is telling me that I should just give it time and it will be ok, i've left her a bunch of messages and voicemails yet no response. So Reddit, please help me", "summary": "got into a fight, things got a little physical, girlfriend hasn't talked to me since it happened, wondering what is going on"}
{"id": "t3_16ivq2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21F] with [23m] looking for general 'future orientated' advice", "post": "My bf and I have been dating for three years which includes a short period of being unofficial early in the relationship because of physical and emotional health problems on my end.  When I got healthier we got back together and our relationship improved greatly as I was healthier and we were both more mature.  \n\nWe are now both in a transitional period of our lives with university ending which has my mind racing about the future.  I know I shouldn't be comparing our relationship to others and that everyone is different, but how should we as a couple be handling this? When should we be exchanging \"I love you\"s?  (I'll admit I love him completely, but he has not told me).  To address events that are more than a year in the future?  When is the right time to consider moving in together? To care whether or not we are on the same page for wanting or not wanting children?\n\nI know we are young but I like to think about these things and he doesn't.  I don't want marriage or kids anytime soon, but I'd like to know that he eventually wants them to.  When I bring up stuff like this he says he doesn't know (have you seen Lawless?  I tease him that he is as outspoken as Forrest).  This is my first relationship, so perhaps I am being na\u00efve and overzealous\u2026  \n\nWe have a great relationship and I feel very lucky, but also insecure because I do not know what to expect and fear that I will be blindsided someday with heartbreak because of my ignorance involving relationships.", "summary": "in relationship and worried we are not progressing as a healthy long-lasting relationship should"}
{"id": "t3_1n266h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Advice on situation with girl I asked out months ago to no avail and recently begun to hang out all the time with?", "post": "I 23m, asked out my friend also 23f, however she said no. Things went frosty but over the summer we began hanging out, gradually becoming for frequent to a point where we see each other every other day, do things one on one, cinema, shopping (helping choosing a gift for her father bday), lunch and drinking together all day over the last two months, is this just platonic? I mean she knows I like her, would she not be uncomfortable by that. \n\nIve no idea how to read this, I would say id be ok with just being friends but deep down that not true which might lead to an awful situation some day, for me. \n\nSo my point is should I tell her, are our meetings platonic and do you think there might be something more?\n\nI really need some advice on this r/dating_advice its driving me insane!", "summary": "asked a girl out, she said no, months later hanging out all time, is there something more?"}
{"id": "t3_4crt1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my boyfriend [37 M] of 4 years, his procrastination/productivity issues", "post": "I have a great relationship with my boyfriend, but I'm very worried about his career progress.  We both work in the kind of careers that require lots of self-motivation to get stuff done over big blocks of unstructured time (much like the life of a novelist).  I get that in creative careers productivity is not a constant, but he basically cannot get anything done unless he's on an immediate deadline.  \n\nHe has a history of procrastination excuses (ie: can't work on things unless he has big blocks of time, or unless his work area is perfectly organized, or unless he's in exactly the right mental zone).  He does have it harder than me in that he has to have a day job, but he squanders his days off from his day job. He could work fewer hours and devote more time to his real career, but he has not gotten around to it, and he has not made any work in over a year.  \n\nI tried to point out to him that he is letting so much time go by without making career progress, but it did not go very well. I can tell the topic freaks him out.  It especially frustrates me because I relate to it so much (I can imagine a year going by and being unsatisfied with my output, and my daily goal is to not let that happen).  \n\nHow can I help him?  Or is it better for me to let it go entirely so it does not become an issue between us? This is not about money: he pays his bills. This is just about me caring about him achieving his goals.", "summary": "Should I try to help my boyfriend be more productive, or should I just accept that it is his problem?"}
{"id": "t3_2wrgne", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cursing in front of my friend's mom.", "post": "So last weekend my friend's mom took me, her daughter, and another girl (SJ) to the mall. As we were driving there I was looking through my phone and texting a friend. So while I'm typing on my phone my friend, SJ, looked over my shoulder and made \"Really?\" face. This is where the fuck up begins, my friend, the daughter, told me not to curse in front of her mother, an extremely religious white woman. It was the one thing I was not supposed to do. I looked at SJ and told her, \"Shut the fuck up.\" My friend's mother turned around and stared at me in disbelief. She then pulled out a cross from her necklace and held it in front of me asking me if I thought the lord approved of my words. I began to profusely apologize to her, but the damage was done.\n\nNow fast forward to this weekend, yesterday the daughter, SJ, another friend of ours, and I were at a drill competition waiting for our turn to go into the box. As we were waiting the mother comes up to us to just chat a bit while we waited to compete. When she saw me she began to berate my language. She told me that my word choice was \"unbecoming of a lady,\" that I had a potty mouth, and was a trash talker. She said all these things repeatedly as she chatted with us. It wasn't subtle either, she would be talking to her daughter saying something like, \"So what are you going to do for lunch, are they selling food or\u2026\" and then she would look at me and say something like, \"Your trashy friend looks tired, did she wear herself out with all that potty language?\"\n\nSo yeah, that happened. I didn't mean to curse in front of my friend's mom, it just came out and I had only said one curse word. I began profusely apologizing to the mother afterwards but I'm pretty sure she disliked me now.", "summary": "Said the F word in front of an extremely religious white woman, now she thinks I'm unbecoming of a woman."}
{"id": "t3_gn68a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "An opinion would be liked about missing money from the rent", "post": "So from this date, 2 nights ago I received our money from the rent and left it on my moms drawer the afternoon after the money was received by the rent. My mom worked both mornings since and lost it on Saturday night. Me and my brother left for most of the day to an amazing race event on Saturday. Our room is separated by a laundry room which they can have access to(which is locked on a regular basis apart from laundry days), and the rest of our house is on the other side, also where my moms room is located. So far it seems like we are in an 'ok' standing with our rent, but could there be a possibility they took it while everyone was out of the house or not noticing.", "summary": "could our rent have taken their money back while the my family were out?"}
{"id": "t3_1k7aa6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently discovered me (17M) and my girlfriend (17F) have completely different life plans. Help needed.", "post": "First and for most I would just like to apologise for any grammatical errors as I am currently writing this on my mobile.\n\nAnyway recently I, a 17 year old male, who is still studying at college (UK) have discovered from casual talking with my girlfriend of 10 months that we have completely different life plans.\n\nI want to explore the world, have as much fun as possible and then hopefully move abroad to a country like USA and set up my own business and become a successful entrepreneur. Then with a sufficient bank balance, settle down with a family and hopefully have some kids.\n\nThis differs a lot from my girlfriend who wants to stay in our hometown and just have a casual job at a little shop and live close to her parents then get marries and have some kids.\n\nNow I have no intention of doing this as I really despise my hometown and i see very limited career opportunities here and i am pretty sure i won't be able to be a successful entrepreneur here.\n\nAnyway i am just a bit stuck as to whether to talk to her about my concerns or whether i should break up with her as soon as i can.\nAny advice is welcomed as i am completely stuck with what to do.\nThanks.", "summary": "I recently found out my girlfriend and I have completely different life plans and I dont know whether or not to break it up as soon as possible or just talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_corgl", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hey Reddit, Today Everything Went BTE", "post": "So I'm stuck here on campus all summer with no car. I wanted a soda really really badly and some chips. Well, I walked to the campus store, which (as usual) was closed :/\n\nI begrudgingly walked over to the change machine but did not want $20 worth in coins (all I had was a $20 bill). Just so happened that at that time, the guy that comes in like once a week to take out the money and restock the vending machines was there and there was just enough change in the machines for my $20. So now I have 20 singles and not 80 fucking quarters.", "summary": "at first I was like FFFFFUUUUU, but then I was like :D"}
{"id": "t3_4912ur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to Cope up with breakup", "post": "My boyfriend [25] and I [20] have.. Had I guess been dating for almost two years now. It was a very on and off thing. We broke up almost a month and a half ago and we got back together after 2 weeks. \nThis time things were different. He bought up his concerns and when we got together I made sure that his concerns weren't there anymore and I tried really hard to be an amazing girlfriend.\n\nI put in a lot of effort and today he got upset because I wasn't able to hang out when he was free. And he straight up said that he wasn't happy and I wasn't trying which hurt so much for so many reasons. He said we should be in an open relationship and I said I'm not going to go down that road and broke up with him. \n\nI know it's the right thing to do but idk how do deal with being single, having no one to send messages to and not having to talk to him. How do I keep myself distracted and not talk to him. I have no will power and that's why I keep going back to him. This is the only relationship ive been in. Also, my birthday is in 10 days so I would like to deal with this shit as soon as possible", "summary": "broke up with the only guy ive been with. Want to move on but dont know how. Also need help finding something i can distract myself with"}
{"id": "t3_15cird", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your most crazy experiences with homeless people?", "post": "Okay, so when I was about 14 or so, I was living in America. I had a couple friends, and we would hang out at my school and such. One day, one of my friends (His name was Micah.) suggested that him and I should go walk to a little foresty area that everyone called ''Sheep Hills.'' Sheep Hills is notorious for the amount of homeless people, and we knew it. On our way there, we saw a homeless man sitting off to the side of the trail, with a gigantic pole stretched along the back of his his neck, with bags hanging off the ends. We tried to walk past him quickly to avoid a conversation, but before we knew it, he was standing right in front of us, blocking the path. ''YOU BOYS FEELIN' ENERGIZED?'' He said, showing his yellow teeth. I looked at Micah and back at the man. Micah spoke up. ''Uh, no thanks man, I had an iced tea earlier.'' At this point the man looked displeased. ''I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT THE SWEET STUFF. I'M TALKIN' ABOUT THE REEEEAAALLL STUFF.'' He made an ''Okay'' symbol with his fingers. *Fuck. He's selling us drugs, isn't he.* He lowered the monstrous pole off his back, and unlatched a single bag. He opened the bag, and took out two cans. ''BEEF STEW!'' He pushed two cans of Beef Stew to my friend and I. This time, I thought I would chip in. ''Aw, thanks man, that's really kind, but we don't need your food.'' ''LOOK, LISTEN! WHEN A JEWISH MAN OFFERS YA SOMETHIN', YA DON'T REFUSE.'' We took the cans while the man ran away laughing his ass off. We were shitting our pants.", "summary": "A homeless man offered a friend and I Beef Stew when we thought he was offering us drugs."}
{"id": "t3_13q2lb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21f] feel like my bf [22m] already knows everything about me... now what?", "post": "We've been together for a year and a half and I have never been happier. The relationship is just as wonderful as the day we met, only better, because we have a year and a half's worth more of shared experiences. We are honest, have no trust issues, communicate well, have a great sex life, and enjoy each other's company. All in all, perfect.\n\nExcept... I realized the other day. I feel like I have nothing interesting left to tell my bf. I really feel like he knows EVERYTHING about me... we even talk about things that most people don't talk about in a relationship. I can find interesting things to tell him about each day, like stuff that I do, but once that runs out, I feel like I just have nothing to say. I suppose we might spend too much time together, and it might help to do more things apart... but I am happiest when I'm spending time with him, and we share most interests, so why not just both do stuff? I end up wishing he was there when I do stuff alone, because I know he'd like it too.\n\nAnyway,", "summary": "I feel like I've already told my boyfriend my whole life story. How do I come up with ways to keep the conversation interesting?"}
{"id": "t3_4ockvb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning an infection with a KFC towelette", "post": "Happened just this afternoon so I still feel stupid, and itchy. I had a nasty insect bite that got infected a few days ago, so i drained it and was going to disinfect it with alcohol wipe first. Since it was pretty dark out, I grabbed what i thought was a small wipe sachet, which i tore open and proceeded to wipe the wound with. First of all, it didn't smell right, second of all it started to itch. Real bad. I knew something was terribly wrong so I flash the lights on go to the sink, and the whole area is red and weeping. 10 minutes of running water later and its not much better.\n\nTurns out minor fragrant wipes aren't good for infected open sores.", "summary": "I made an infection worse by using a KFC towelette to clean it."}
{"id": "t3_2w93gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my Boyfriend [29 F] dating for almost a year, I feel upset about his insensitive reaction to my getting laied off, he says I'm wrong and should stop projecting.", "post": "I found out I got laid off this morning and expressed to my boyfriend how sad and upset I was about it. He woke up and went straight to his phone and gave me the occasional mhmm and uhuhhs as he messed around on his phone. I continued to state that I was really upset and sad about the matter and he finally put one arm as if to say \"fine you can lay on me.\" When I did that however, he didn't put his phone away or anything. Instead he used my head as a phone rest while he continued to reddit. I found the fact that he couldn't be bothered to put his phone down when I as obviously really upset for something reasonable completely insensitive. He says I'm wrong and shouldn't project how I expect people to act when they are comforting others and that's just his way to comfort. I think I should have at least had his undivided attention for a few seconds when I was as upset as I was. Am I wrong to think he's an insensitive jerk?", "summary": "got laid off from work and went to my boyfriend for comfort. He couldn't even be bothered to put his phone away for a moment during the exchange."}
{"id": "t3_51grau", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How can I become popular around girls in college?", "post": "I really want to be liked by many women, I mean, I want to build a good reputation in my college among female students as a guy girls talk about honestly and without using any manipulative tricks.\n\n I started college (my first year) last week and I want to build meaningful relationships with girls here especially that 90% of girls here are hot and smart, so I have already made changes in myself, I have a good posture and a slow confident walk, I do cool things like playing guitar and keyboard and singing, I have a flirty eye contact, I am not afraid of complimenting girls sincerely and I do it in a unique way, I can make girls laugh easily with some self deprecating or casual humour yet I never push any girl to hangout with me and I am not afraid of spending a day or two without contacting a particular girl.\n\nI know now 6 girls in my class and although I act like I mentioned, I can't feel they are attracted to me more than a friend , maybe because I didn't get to know them well or because I only chatted with them few times and on occasions (I got to know them recently), but I don't know, I sometimes feel that I have to do the chase or that I am not able to attract them like I want, is there something missing here? \n\nAlso, there is this girl that I got to know her two weeks ago but I can't feel she treat me better than other guys, and today she was getting to know new guys and I felt jealous seeing her with them, well, I always make her feel important and I am not pushy or needy to her so I don't know what is wrong, it's like we are good friends and not something more, What do you think ladies? Can you advise me? Thank you for your time.", "summary": "I want to become a guy that most of girls in college fall for yet I don't know why girls I got to know aren't attracted to me yet even though I am confident and flirty, what advice you can give me ladies to be more popular around girls?"}
{"id": "t3_3zevjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] keep coming back to past events..", "post": "Every once in a while, when things don't go well romantically, I keep getting back to this past short-term relationship I had..\nI was 21 and met a girl I really liked on a trip abroad, we were at the same hostel for only a week, but we clicked right away, she treated me different, she liked me as I liked her and it was wonderful. we went out dancing a few times that week. then came my flight back home (we live in different countries), and we talked in Facebook a few times since then. \n\nFast forward to now.. : Sometimes girls hit on me which is very flattering, but the thing is, I recently acknowledged I'm bisexual, and until now it's been very hard for me to form a good relationship because I couldn't be myself around my ex's..\n\nAnyway.. Every time relationships don't go well, I keep falling to this story, looking at her Facebook photos and wishing I stayed there, or convinced her to come with me when we were younger.. I'm not sure even what I'm asking here I just need to tell someone.. I miss the feeling of being around someone who I adore and adores me back..", "summary": "Met a girl on a trip a long time ago, now I'm sorry I didn't stay there."}
{"id": "t3_cs5yf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your grocery budget like?", "post": "So, I'm a college student (housing and utilities covered by financial aid) and this semester I'm living in a university apartment. This will be my first apartment, and the first time I'll only need to cook for one person. How much do you spend on groceries? I'm especially interested in how much single people are spending on groceries so I might have an idea of what to budget for. I make between 300 and 400 a month at my part time job. 160ish of that is my cell phone and car insurance payment. Surely there's enough left for groceries, minimal fun, and saving up to pay a huge chunk on student loans, yes?", "summary": "What are you spending on groceries in a month, and how do you stretch your money the furthest?"}
{"id": "t3_34w0p4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling the cops to help, and getting detained", "post": "So this didn't happen today, but rather yesterday. I obviously couldn't post because I was in one of those holding cells.\n\nSo I saw a crime happening. I just bought my a new video game console from a store that is walking distance from my house. I really didn't want to say anything, but I thought I should help someone out.  I saw a man break a woman's window and a holster that I'm gonna guess had a gun. I immediately whipped out my phone, and called 911. So blah blah blah and they asked me to describe the guy in case he ran. Lo and behold, he was white and was wearing all black, and surprisingly no mask.  So I describe him to them and I hang up because we were all set. The police were only a minute out.\n\nThat was the longest minute ever, because I realized that the man I described looked a lot like me. I had dark blue jeans, easily gray. I also had a black tee shirt, and am white. Also, I was holding an expensive item.\n\nThe next few minutes were a blur. The police bum rushed me and an officer tackled me as I frantically tried to explain that I was not the criminal. \n\nThey didn't believe me, and took me back to the station. I told them that if they were gonna take me to get it sorted out, then they could at least have some officers go get the real criminal.\n\nThey didn't listen, and they shoved me into a car.\n\nI was at the station for hours until they finally agreed to just check my phone and see that I was the one who called them. I suggested this hours earlier, but they didn't listen.\n\nAt least I had my new console, which I pulled an all nighter with.", "summary": "Called police to report crime, police thought I was the criminal and took me in"}
{"id": "t3_12eem1", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Craziest Breakup reason", "post": "Hello Reddit, I am a long time reader first time poster. I was dating this girl[24] me[23] for exactly 3 months. Everything in a relationship was easy and it was great. Until recently my school and work schedule became unbearable, I was not getting much sleep and I was grump easily annoyed and more insecure because we spent way less time together. She started working at a bar to make extra money. Went through the usual Bar crap ie getting hit on, late hours, and now she was grumpy, and easily annoyed.\n\nWe started getting fight over the dumbest things, very petty fights with really no substance ( mostly on my new insecurities) or dumb stuff we would say to each other out of annoyance. We were always able to overcome and be better with each other until a few days ago.\n\nShe drops a bomb on me, a close family member of hers(who is military) tells her the world as we know it is going to end soon and to be prepared. I am generally pretty open minded but i am not a sheep i will not be prepared to throw everything away(when I commit, I commit) based on hearsay. She provides me your basic conspiracy theory links,(ie youtube videos and forums posting articles,websites,and pictures) I check all of them out and only one of them provided any substance, which I of course checked out further, and debunked as its HTML source code provided easy answers that it was a sham.\n\nSo we fought, and because when i commit i commit, she didnt ask me to but if I were to believe her I would have(myself) quit school, my job and told me Handicapped father(man i care most about in the world) about it, probably to have him laugh at me viciously(hes a republican)\nI once told her I would burn down the world for her and I couldnt bring myself to blow up my life for her.(hence i guess it was an empty promise)", "summary": "We broke up because i didnt throw my life away based on her belief the world is going to end."}
{"id": "t3_39fr2l", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Enjoy your chips", "post": "hey!\n\nSo, yesterday I was at my local (small) supermarket. I didn't need much, so I didn't even bother grabbing a cart. \n\nIn fact, I only needed 6 bottles of lemonade and some chocolate. \n\nIt was fairly busy, so I started queuing up for the register when all of the sudden, another register opens up. I move to that one, as it had few people queuing up, when all of the sudden a guy squeezes in front of me with his cart. \n\nI look at his cart and it is literally filled to the brim. He looks back at me, holding my two items and then proceeds to unload on the conveyor belt (or however its called). \n\nI'm pretty annoyed at this, since it's pretty standard procedure to let someone with two items in front of you.. especially if you have 300 things in your cart yourself. However, this guy had missed the memo. \n\nAll of the sudden, while unloading his cart, his bag of (potato) chips fell to the floor, right in front of my feet. \n\nSo, what do I do? Pick them up, give them a slight crunch.. and throw them back on the conveyor belt. Crushing them a bit in the process.", "summary": "Hope you enjoy your slightly broken chips, asshole."}
{"id": "t3_xccdu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my peaceful community has been shook up by a stabbing/sexual assault down the street and I'm leading a militia of local men to meet this adversity and keep the peace. Thoughts?", "post": "Where  I live is a pretty quiet place, but we do live in a somewhat rough town. Poverty and unemployment are on the rise. My end of town has been all in all a very peaceful place, many families live here and less then 3 blocks away from my house some idiot stabbed and sexually assaulted a young woman walking home a couple of nights ago. Other locals have reciprocated my outrage and agree actions must be made. I've begun touching base with a local walk home group from the local university. My current plan A is to patrol/guard the only road pedestrians and vehicles can use to enter our end of town and offer an escort service for anyone desiring protection. I can't sit idly while the shadows creep onto my doorstep. Any thoughts regarding action or leadership would be greatly appreciated, constructive critiscism as well.", "summary": "A young woman was stabbed and sexually assaulted down the street from my house and my community will not accept this kind of violence."}
{"id": "t3_3cyqk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] child's mother [24F] won't respond to my request/demand for public visits only", "post": "[OP](\n\nAfter all the advice I got from you all and my attorneys office I emailed the ex to state that I would require public visits until we have an independent supervisor in place mutually or appointed by the court. \n\nI sent the first email Thursday night, with a follow up this morning, and just made a call to her mobile which ended in voicemail. \n\nIf she fails to respond what should I do?\n\nHer expectation is that the visit tomorrow will be at her house. But obviously I am uncomfortable with that considering she called the police on me at my own home for a \"perceived\" threat which the police apparently found baseless since they didn't make a report and left.", "summary": "notified child's mother of only doing public visits after she called police on me, she won't respond. Visit tomorrow, she expects me to be at her house, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3b9m7v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[30/f] messed up and snooped through his phone and now I am feeling like i cant' trust my new husband [31/M]", "post": "some background, im an ex-snooper. Aka after years of tormenting myself by always snooping through ex bfs phones and even current husbands, i finally \"quit\" cold turkey. I  know this may sound dumb but it was almost an addiction for me.\nLast week I had a slipup after our honeymoon (idk why..things have been going great since being married about 1 month!) I stupidly looked through my husband's phone and saw he had made a work call to a female coworker we'd had issues over in the past. (he went and got a drink w/her and didnt mention it and i felt uncomfortable, even though it was just one beer before a meeting..which I found out through snooping.)\nToday i STUPIDLY checked and saw the call has since been removed.  \nI know this is ridiculous, we just got married, etc but should I be worried?  I'm curious to the men out there-are you likely to hide things to avoid conflict?  He is very conflict adverse.  Should I be worried?  I know we are all allowed to have realtionships with coworkers etc, but seeing that it had been deleted makes me wonder if I should trust my gut..were there more calls, etc?  \n\nI won't be snooping anymore, it just ruins my day and I cant admit it to communicate about my fears but am just wondering how sketchy this seems to an outsider prespective.", "summary": "new husband seems to be removing evidence from phone of calls from a co-worker who we had issues over in the past...should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_4aziu3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a Wii U", "post": "This fuck up began yesterday and finally hatched just over an hour ago. Yesterday I went to Walmart to buy myself a Wii U because why the fuck not. After buying the U and two games, the total came out to $444. My card got declined because of the high price and I was called by one of those automated security calls informing me of the card decline. Whatever. I had to answer some security questions and verify some shit blah blah blah. Well the credit card didn't go through even after verifying my stuff. I decided to use debit instead because that didn't need verification. That purchase dropped my checking account to $33.78 because my last CC bill was fairly high. No biggie. I just payed off my last CC bill just over a week ago and I get paid next Friday. Its all good. Or so I thought. Flash forward to today. I've been seeing this woman for a few weeks now and we decided to have a lunch date today. We went to some Italian place, got some fairly pricey food and a few drinks. Now being the knight in shining armor I am, I was going to pay for the bill. Well guess what. My credit card was still locked. Apparently the card never got verified properly and I was too stupid to make sure I did it right. And my debit account only has $33 in it so I couldn't pay the $119 bill they gave us. My lady friend ended up having to pay it for me and now I'm stuck trying to contact the bank so I can get my own money back.", "summary": "I can't spend my own money"}
{"id": "t3_4keg0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my bf [33M] of two years; Almost no sexual or physical affection, very little verbal affection. How do I ask for these things without feeling pathetic?", "post": "My partner and I have been together for two years. Due to some difficulties on his end, we have not been able to have sex at all for our entire relationship. We have occasionally (less than once a month) tried to engage in some sexual activity, which always means blowjob and touching of him, and sometimes he will explore hesitantly touching me for a little while. Neither of us ever orgasm, usually just awkwardly fizzles out. Kisses are quick pecks, sometimes I try to give him a real, prolonged kiss, but I don't get the sense he enjoys it as he breaks it off quickly and never initiates kisses like that. We don't snuggle really, usually he will just pat me or drum his fingers on me. He never compliments me. I tell him all the time he is funny, sexy, handsome. When I have flat out asked him to compliment me a couple times, he's said I look \"swell\" or \"mighty fine\", last night we went to a movie and I did my hair and makeup and changed twice before deciding on wearing a new dress and heels, he said my dress felt soft, which I told myself was almost like complimenting my dress which is almost like complimenting me... \n\nHow do I ask for compliments and affection without feeling like a pathetic loser? \n\nI've been crying a lot lately over this because I'm worried I'll never feel valued or special to him again, but I hide it from him and can't bring myself to bring it up because i don't want to sound like a whiney, self-involved PMS-y girl demanding attention and compliments... Also I've always had a hard time with confrontation, and naturally am inclined to think that whatever I want isn't that big a deal and its not worth making him feel bad or uncomfortable by bringing it up, I should feel lucky that I'm dating a great guy who is stable and I should know he values his relationship with me because he asked me to move in with him. \n\nPlease advise.", "summary": "Need validation from partner, don't want to sound whiney and pathetic by asking for it."}
{"id": "t3_efws1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just shat on my Android. What do I do?", "post": "After a few days of intestinal distress, I'm still getting used to having OH FUCK I HAVE TO SHIT moments. Today was no different. As I'm rushing to the toilet, I pull down my jeans, plop down, and take a massive, apocalyptic dump. As I'm defecating, I think to myself \"My goodness, I think I'd like to reddit right about now while my colon wages battle.\" I reach for my cell phone, and, to my horror, it isn't in my back pocket. Where is my cell phone? I just had it a moment ago... Oh dear god, no. No. No, say it isn't so. I look into the toilet. The device staring angrily at me underneath my momentary pride. Reach in a grab it. (Depeche Mode's \"Reach out and touch faith?\" or Sammy Hagar's \"Reach out and take it?\") Take the battery out. Clean. Let dry. Hope for the best.\n\nIn the meantime, how do I fix this? Rice? Silica gel? If it doesn't work, does anyone have any advice on how to repair it myself? Or where the best option to repair it is? (Samsung Captivate, RIP.)", "summary": "Pooped on phone, now phone won't work. Need water damage advice."}
{"id": "t3_4xlkv8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not sleeping", "post": "So this fuck up happened a little over a month ago. I'm a junior in college and over this summer, I took a job working for my university at a 24 hour office, so my hours are all over the place, I'll work from 10 pm to noon the following day every couple days which *really* messes with my sleep schedule. At the end of a particularly bad few days where I had barely been able to sleep is where our story begins...\n\nI semi woke up to check my clock and see if it was time for work. I guess I saw the time as being an hour later than it was, cause my sleeping body decided I was late to work and half-jumped half-tumbled out of my bed (which is raised about 5 feet off the ground) and I only properly woke up when I hit the ground. So there I am, lying on my floor sobbing with none of my roommates home and without being able to see properly after losing my glasses in the fall/in the tornado wreck that is my room. Finally this one girl that I had met at work answers the phone to (what I can only presume) are the horrific sounds of me crying and not making any sense over the phone. She ran all the way across campus (she doesn't run and thought this was a pivotal plot feature for you all) and I had to sort of roll/crawl down my stairs to let her in. If you all can picture a half dead snail trying to drag itself across the floor... That's sort of what I looked like. But we finally got to the ER because my boss panicked and called an ambulance for me without even knowing what was going on. None of the nurses believed I fucked up my foot that badly falling out of bed, and they asked if I was having sex and I was like no. tears. So after a fun day lying around in the hospital we learned that I broke my foot. And sprained my ankle. \n\nNow a month and a half later, my foot still isn't healed :( and I still need crutches. But the girl that ran to me and I are friends now so woo", "summary": "didn't sleep, fell out of bed, broke my foot, no adventures for me this summer"}
{"id": "t3_2d77wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20 M] struggling to understand something and I'm feeling hopeless for future relationships.", "post": "I know this may come across as a stupid question,but I have noticed with most long term relationships there is often a period of time where they are broken up or take a break and then getting back together. Most people on r/relationships advocate not getting back together with exes as they are exes for a reason. So how are long term relationships supposed to work? How do people stay together for so long? I feel as though there is such a fine line to having a relationship that lasts a lifetime especially in today's society. I'm having doubts that I could have a successful relationship based on this train of thought. I'd really hate to think of relationships work this way. So, /r/relationships, how do long term relationships work.", "summary": "don't go back to ex + long term relationships most likely break up and get back together contradicting thoughts. How does it really work?"}
{"id": "t3_32mdc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my(F16) best friend's(M16) mom (F45) is cheating on her husband via Instagram", "post": "A little background... I've been friends with this family since I was born and my best friend has been my best friend for as long as I can remember. My dad also grew up with his dad and are best friends.\n\nI was going through my Instagram feed and went through my discover page. I follow his mom on Instagram and she knows that I follow her because she also follows me. I noticed that she liked a picture of her and some 20 something year old guy kissing. I creeped his profile and found out that it's been going on for a while. I was at first in disbelief and didn't know what to do. I ended up telling him and now he knows and has completely separated himself from his mom. \n\nNow my question is, do I tell my family? We've known them forever, but is it really our business? I feel like if we go to their house it's gonna be awkward because I know about this, and we go there often.", "summary": "Been friends with this family for a long time, found out through Instagram that the mom has been cheating on her husband for a few months, do I tell my family because of our relationship with them?"}
{"id": "t3_2e2koh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my bf [30 M] of five mths, I thinj he's cheating on me", "post": "We met on tinder. I didn't think i would be able to find somebody \"proper\" on that app and it was more of a joke when i first started it.\n\nI didn't physically meet anyone else other than him from that application and I quickly deleted it after we started our relationship.\n\nI knew he still had it on his phone but i just thought he was too lazy to get rid of it or something.\n\nHe said he was going to be gone for work for two weeks. He ignored most of my messages except when i asked him if he was coming back last week to which he said no not for another week.\nSo another week has passed and i thinj he's in town but he's MIA.\n\nI couldn't help but feel that he had changed and i felt something was off.\n\nI reinstalled tinder and i see that his profile has newly updated photos. Now i know that the application doesn't just automatically update the profile photos and you gotta select them.\n\nSo i think he's been cheating on me and he's nowhere to be seen.\n\nThis is killing me and i want to do something about it.\n\nI cried to sleep last night and i woke up early this morning because i just couldn't get the thought off my head.\n\nI don't know when i will see him again and i really want to confront him (i can't stand cheaters. He knows it and he had even told me that it's not my fault i met guys like that in the past.)\n\nI know at the latest i will see him by next week. But what should i do in the meanwhile? This is driving me nuts and I'm dying inside.", "summary": "i think my bf has been cheating on me and he's recently been very aloof. Will not be seeing him for probably another week. What can i do to not be so depressed and stop thinking about this?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhz7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Gf [16 F] 3 year relationship, Long distance relationship + strong feelings gave me reason to end the relationship - is this justification for her hate?", "post": "Recently I had to move because I was going to a better school in a different area, but\nI still had an ongoing relationship. I told her that I didnt want to see our relationship\nslowly crumble because of the distance and that the least i could do for her was let her go so she'd be able to find someone else closer to home who could actually be there for her, not just through texts or calls. She won't talk to me anymore.\n\n(I understand we're both young and obviously it would be difficult for either one of us to be mature enough to deal with the situation)\nWas my decision correct in some way? Or was I just having a moment of weakness? Is this reason enough for her to hate me?", "summary": "! - broke up with gf because i live far away now and i wanted her to be able to date someone closer to home. Was i wrong/should she hate me?"}
{"id": "t3_10pgx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22f) and my boyfriend (24) have been fighting a lot and I'm losing hope. Any stories of couples who made it after a rough patch?", "post": "Throw away account for anonymity.\nWe've been dating for a year and a half and I love him very very much, I know he loves me too. I don't know if it matters telling details but there was no cheating, just lots of arguing over stupid things and some overstepping of boundaries. Most of these arguments turns out REALLY bad. This is ruining our relationship but we want to be together so we're trying to tackle disagreements differently. \nBut to be honest I'm losing hope, I'm finding it hard not to resent him and vice versa.\n\nIs there anyone here who's been through something similar and has a better relationship now?", "summary": "BF and I have been fighting a lot, I need some successful stories to give me hope."}
{"id": "t3_2byr1t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "21M needs help!! 21F I've been talking to has gone AWOL on me", "post": "I've been talking to this amazing girl (21F) for about a month now- we've never met, a mutual friend gave me her number- and it's been going great.  Neither one of us expected anything, and she admitted that she really didn't want to start anything until after she graduated, but after talking for a week or so, she was rethinking that plan.  We talk almost non-stop, from the time we wake up until one of us falls asleep, rinse and repeat every day pretty much.   She just took a huge test for her career last week and told me that she probably wouldn't be around that day and would just text me the next day.   Skip a few days ahead and I still haven't heard from her- I figured maybe she needed a few extra days, but after multiple calls, texts, and voice-mails, still nothing.  We had been talking about finally having a first date, we are definitely into each other and want to pursue something, but I don't know what to do.   I can't just let her go, my heart is definitely set on this girl, she's incredible, and I just want to pick up where we left off.  She doesn't have a facebook or anything, but I've thought about sending her sister a message which I've written and asking her to pass it along, but I don't want to come off as overbearing.  Help reddit- what is the best thing to do?!", "summary": "talking to amazing girl, hitting it off, she stops all communication all of a sudden.  what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3xrdcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F/25] boyfriend [M/24] would rather stay up and play video games instead of coming to bed. Together 2 years.", "post": "My boyfriend and I had an evening routine where we'd watch youtube videos or movies before bed. This was our time to cuddle and be intimate. I'd eventually fall asleep and he was free to stay up as late as he pleased. \n\nBefore moving in with his room mates, I asked him if our routine would change? I asked if I'd be going to bed alone now that he was living with his buddies, who he games with. He promised our routine would stay the same.\n\nHe's been living with his room mates for under a month now and in the 7 times I have slept there, we have gone to the bedroom together once. I brought it up, asking why I am finding myself in bed, alone, at his apartment and he said it is because he doesn't have the WiFi set up and we have nothing to watch. I figured that made some bit of sense and let it go. That was 2 weeks ago. They are all broke and the Internet won't be connected for a long time.\n\nOur sex life is dead. I am used to having sex 2-3 times a night. I can count on 3 fingers the amount of times we have had sex since the move. \n\nTonight, I said I was sleeping over only if he came to the bedroom at the same time. I said I was tired of going to bed alone. I feel lonely, especially since i am a guest and the whole point of me being there is to spend time with him. I reminded him of his promise and he replied with \"I never promised you that. I'll go to bed whenever I want. Sorry.\" \n\nI can't imagine continuing to have such a dead sex life. I can't imagine having no more \"we\" time. I don't know how to ask him to compromise. I don't want to attack his video games, but I feel like they're the priority over me. What do I do?", "summary": "boyfriend stays up late every time I'm at his place and our sex life is dying. I hate the disconnection it's creating. How do I approach this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3c5tyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22/M] going to ask someone [18/F] who've I known my entire life out. When should I do it?", "post": "This girl is a close family friend. Our parents have known each other for a long time and we have always spent time with each other. I have only started seeing her in a romantic way recently though.\n\nI'm going to be starting medical school this Fall while she is starting undergrad. We are going to be in school in the same city. I've liked her for the past couple of months but choose not to do anything because she was in high school. Now that she's going into college, I want to see if she wants to go out sometime. Should I ask her now during summer or a couple months into the school year once she gets situated in?", "summary": "Ask girl who's starting college out now during summer or after she gets situated into college?"}
{"id": "t3_1m9iyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24m) sex/porn addiction ruined my 4 year relationship with my now ex (24f)", "post": "For years I've had a problem with porn addiction and also picture collecting from random girls on craigslist. Last weekend my girlfriend was on my computer and i had left my private email up that i used for these things. She went catatonic to say the least and we broke up. \n\nWe originally moved cross country together and now we're both here alone pretty much, moving in to our separate places. I've decided to finally get counseling to overcome this problem but I've been a wreck ever since the breakup. She says we need time apart and need to start over as just friends once she thinks I've had enough time to get better. \n\nIn the meantime we're going through the motions and still need to move in to our respective homes and separate our stuff. Is there a way for a relationship like this to ever be salvaged orshould i just call it quits? I love her so much that I can't just give up yet, but she has already told her parents and friends about what happened. I feel like all I can do in the meantime is work on myself and if nothing works out then I can at least say that I tried and became a better person in the end.", "summary": "my porn addiction finally came to the surface and may have ruined a long relationship"}
{"id": "t3_34jjof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F with my boss 40sF. Is this reason to go to HR? Work related.", "post": "So to make the story short. When I was hired for this position I was doing the work of another title to help them out since they were short staffed. I did that roles position for maybe a year until another girl got promoted. Then my boss suddenly said I had to start learning the roles of the job I was hired for. OK fine understood since I was getting that jobs pay.\nNow that I'm doing the work of my title she sometimes still asks me to help out with the other job. When someone is out I am their backup and I'm expected to do my own work as well. This has led to a lot of frustration and anger. I spoke to her about it and she gave me the once the new people are fully trained it will stop. But I think it's unfair I am doing two jobs at times. They hired a new girl that does my current position and she does not have to do two roles. \nI'm tired and feel annoyed I have to do two jobs when someone is out or someone needs help I'm the one she calls because we are a team. Also the two girls I work with when I am a backup are complete idiots who always mess up. Which of course my boss asks me to help clean up their mess. \nPlease help. Do I go to HR?", "summary": "boss making me do two jobs one salary. Go to HR?"}
{"id": "t3_3970cn", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "parenting etiquette?", "post": "So, I am a fairly new parent. My son is 10.5months. Anyway, I have a question about how others have would have reacted in a situation similar to an event that happened just a couple of hours ago. My spouse and I were at the children's museum with our son. At one point a young boy was bawling and did not see his parents. He was wandering near me and I asked if he was ok. He ran to me at this point and put his arms up to be picked up and comforted. This has never happened to me and my instinct was to pick up the boy and find his parents. That is what I did. Just as I picked him up and asked where his parents were, his father came rushing over. I eagerly handed him over and apologized to the father a couple times for picking up his son, even though the father did say \"thank you\" and that it wasn't a problem. In hindsight I think I should have just held his hand to help him find his parents, but the only kid who has ever cried to me with his arms outstretched is my son who I pick up without a second thought.  So how would you have reacted? Thoughts on my reaction?\nAnd does it matter that I am a woman with many tattoos and piercings?", "summary": "picked up a stranger's crying child at children's museum in an instinctual reaction from the outstretched arms, promptly found and handed child over to his father. How would you have reacted?"}
{"id": "t3_1uzwuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I (M24) do when my girlfriend (21F) gets into a weird mood?", "post": "My girlfriend is amazing we are 7 months into our relationship and we have both never felt this way (what she tells me) and I speak for myself. anyway, Things are usually always great, I am an extremely lovable person. I love to give and receive loving words and physical love.\n\nShe always gives me that love, but sometimes (and Im not sure if it is around her period, and maybe this has something to do with it) But she will not fight with me but it seems as though she is less lovable, and affectionate. (kissing me first or less, saying I love you less, etc.) when this happens she also seems like she is having less fun/or not as happy as usual (but not a point to where I think something is wrong but still not the usual). \n\nWhen this happens I start to rack my brain and think \"whats going on?\" then the next day or so she will be back to normal. What I am wondering is how I should react when this happens. I think it sounds weird to say \"why are you being less lovable?\" I ask sometimes if everything is okay she will say yes, and I dont want to annoy her by asking her a bunch of times. Is it better to give her space? give her more love? what do you think? I know a lot has to do with me NEEDING this love I try to suppress it but it still has me thinking when it happens.\n\nwhats the best way to handle or act when this happens?", "summary": "gf gets in non typical moods every once in a while, whats the best way to handle them?"}
{"id": "t3_qmt20", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm attempting to write a \"steampunk-esque\" chapter book (for readers age 8-11).  Any advise/resources for understanding the workings of organic (or at least non-electric) machinery?", "post": "I know I need to read more steampunk in general and children's chapter books in general. However, unfortunately I don't have much time for this project and would like to have a grasp of the technical.  Anything relatively comprehensive (and layperson accessible) would be wonderful as a recommended resource. Also, anyone with any ideas in general about organic machinery, I would love to hear. (For the record I would never write about anything posted here without explicit permission from the creator. Brainstorming in general rocks my world:)\n\nThis is a case where my characters are smarter than I am!  I need help!", "summary": "I could use some help understanding the engineering aspects of creating machinery from organic/unrefined resources."}
{"id": "t3_2tmr0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 F] friend [47 M/F] is in an unhealthy, maybe abusive relationship. How do I help her.", "post": "Background:\nI met my friend a year ago and we instantly clicked. She's had a troubled past, coming from an abusive home, and having been in two marriages with physically abusive men. When I met her she was recovering from her second divorce, finally living on her own with her three kids.\n\nI love her, she's quickly become a rock in my life, she's so helpful and caring. But she really, really has man issues.\n\nShe met her most recent man online. He comes from outside the country and has his own company. They got talking. He wanted to launch his product in our country, and they met up while he was here on a business trip. She insisted it was all casual. Then he offered her a job. She was out of work and money was very tight. She also seemed happy he thought she was capable. She did not get a contract but started working anyway. He then moved in with her, and so did the company inventory. From then on it got worse and worse. He yells at her and her kids. He does absolutely no work, but gets angry whenever he thinks she does not do enough. He gets angry whenever she comes to see me, he dislikes me and blames me whenever she talks back to him, saying I put ideas into her head. He pays her absolutely no money, whatever money he has goes to gambling.\n\nI'm so concerned for her. She often sits here bawling her eyes out because he picked another fight. I try to gently tell her this is not healthy. She's often said she's going to kick him out or do something about it, but then the next day she tells me they worked it out and they are making progress. And then a few days later the cycle starts again.\n\nThis shit is tearing me apart. I don't know how to help. As I said I try to gently tell her this is not good, but when I push it too much she gets kind of defensive. I just don't know how she can possibly not see what I'm seeing...", "summary": "My friend is in an unhealthy relationship. She keeps saying she will kick him out but it never happens. How do I support her the best I can."}
{"id": "t3_2widwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my BF [28 M] 1.5 years, he's a Twitter troll", "post": "I wish the title was self explanatory but if it were that easy I wouldn't be posting...\n\nThis is a serious relationship for both of us and honestly if I were ready to get married right now he would propose in a heartbeat. \n\nOne major problem that I realized is that he is a troll on Twitter. He will pick fights with strangers and say some truly awful things like calling women \"pigs\" or gay slurs like f*g. I am really mortified just writing it and until recently I kept it secret because I didn't want people I know to judge him or me for it.\n\nI absolutely confronted him a year and a half ago and told him it was disgusting and assured me it was jokes but admitted some of the language was wrong. He admits that he shoots off at the mouth but really it's Twitter... you type something out and push send.\n\nTo his credit he has gotten a lot better. It used to be a regular offense but he has gotten his act together. Last month he deleted his Twitter altogether... I was happy because I've never asked him to delete it (it's not Twitter's fault that he can't be civil on the internet... I pointed out it's something deeper but he brushes it off). I never thought of his Twitter after he deleted it but yesterday the link was in my history and I accidently double clicked on it and, what do you know, he's been posting for the last month.  \n\nHe told me when he deleted it but he didn't tell me when he started up again and - yep- there he is up to the same troll-y bullshit.\n\nThing is........... he's a wonderful boyfriend to me and my family. My parents love him and he would do anything I asked him to, he would be there for me forever, and I believe that he really loves me.\n\nI guess I just wanted some input... like if love is accepting someone for who they are and overlooking flaws like this since we are all imperfect. It just seems unrealistic that I would end a serious relationship because \"you're a troll\"... but it does hit something deeper in my core. I'm also sick of nagging him.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very loving to me and my family... is also a troll on Twitter and says some disgusting things to other people that are disturbing."}
{"id": "t3_1errlh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 18/M and I'm about to go away to college pretty far from my 18/F girlfriend", "post": "We've been dating our entire senior year of high school, and she was my best friend before that. With summer coming up, we've been avoiding talking about college because she is staying in town and I'm going pretty far away. I know she's becoming more and more upset about the fact that all of her friends are leaving and going away while she is stuck in town, and I know she's terrified of me leaving her too, but we both know that there's no way a long distance relationship would work. I don't know what to do. Inevitably, I am going to leave for college, and there's no avoiding that. My question is, how can I handle this summer in a way that doesn't leave her alone and depressed when it's over?", "summary": "Leaving for college, girlfriend is staying in town, how do I handle leaving without it ending terribly?"}
{"id": "t3_1ajxis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19m) need to figure out if my (18f) girlfriend is commited to a long term with my 'baggage'.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for three of the best years. We've never had a fight that has resulted in anything (i.e. where we couldn't sit down and talk about what's bothering us and either get things worked out or agree to disagree). Basically what I feel is a really healthy relationship. \n\nWe've always joked about being old and 'yelling at dumb kids' together, doing crazy things together when we're old, but never talked about getting married or anything of the serious things. However, over the last 4 or 5 months or so, she has been talking somewhat more seriously about the topic, to which I've obliged. \n\nHere comes my problem. I recently took a management job in a field I've been involved with for a long time. This field that I'm in gives me the opportunity to (easily within the next 8-10 years) have a 6+figure income, along with many many other benefits associated with the job. However...the lifestyle is a bit demanding. I can't get into too many details regarding it because it's somewhat on the secretive side, but I can relate it to the life of a rockstar. Basically even though I'm the only one actually 'involved' it requires commitment from spouse/family. \n\nMy fears come from how my girlfriend, while supportive of myself in this lifestyle, hasn't ever shown much involvement/desire for it. She has asked lots of questions and came along with me multiple times...but I've never seen the desire to be involved. And then when I gather myself enough to try and ask her I think of how young we both are, and I don't want to 'trap' her without letting her spread her own wings. She is only my second girlfriend and I'm her first 'serious' boyfriend. \n\nAll in all, my question is: How can I ask her if she's willing to commit to learning/being involved in my work environment, one that could easily support a family within the decade, without pushing her out of my life?", "summary": "I (19M) need to ask my girlfriend (18F) of three years if she is willing to commit to being involved in my lifestyle without ticking her off and getting dumped."}
{"id": "t3_11ueu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Questions about marriage counseling (38)", "post": "My wonderful wife of over 15 years (we are both 38) and I have decided we need to go to counseling.  We fight almost every day and it has taken it's toll on our relationship.  \n\nWhen looking for a counselor, I have noticed that there are a wide variety of credentials.  \n\n* Which specific credentials should I be looking for?\n* What questions should I ask the receptionist when calling around?\n* Do you think it is OK for me to ask the receptionist if the therapist is married, divorced, has kids and the age if the therapist?\n\nOur insurance doesn't cover marriage counseling, per se, but it does cover individual counseling.  So I am hoping we can still get therapy together under 'individual' counseling.\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks!", "summary": "Need advice on marriage counseling"}
{"id": "t3_2ulngc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] mom [37F] told me she wants to put my sister [4F] up for adoption", "post": "I apologize in advance for any mistakes. \n\nYes, there is a big age gap between my sister and I. We have different dads as well. My mom is a really amazing mom and I always looked up to her. She's had a pretty hard life, mainly because the father of my sister cheated on her during her pregnancy and she's been a single mom since. She's said that he is horrible to his other two little boys and she's too afraid to get him involved in her life to help support my sister.\n\nI respected that and have done what I can to help my mom out. I try to work as much as I can, but also babysit for my mom so she can go out and do things. I thought things had been okay but tonight she broke down and said she wished she had given my sister up for adoption because she can't handle this kind of stress anymore. I know she's under pressure, and I feel bad, but she is refusing to listen to me. I want to tell her how incredibly unfair and hurtful it is to give a child up, especially at this age, but I don't want to upset her even more.\n\nShe's looking at adoption information online, and I don't know what to say or do. Our immediate family is not supportive of us and would not take her in.\n\nI'm very hurt and confused, and knowing my mom, anything I say would make it worse. I'm too young to take care of my sister on my own.\n\nAny advice, good messages or anything helpful in general is appreciated. We're both very upset and I don't want her to do anything impulsive.", "summary": "My (single) mother is stressed and wants to put my sister up for adoption."}
{"id": "t3_3g2lbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [m23] delete my ex [23f] from my life?", "post": "So she was the first girlfriend I ever had. I didn't start dating until I was 21 but didn't get a girlfriend until I was 23. She had relationships before. We were together for 6months. She said she doesn't love me in that way anymore but she still loves me as a friend. So I'm trying to be her friend, but every time I try to talk to her she sounds like she doesn't want to talk to me. She always end the conversation like not even 10 minutes in. I feel like she doesn't care if I'm In here life anymore or not. It's just that I've never NEVER clicked with a person (man or woman) like her so I still want her as my friend but she's making it very hard. The rejection of not wanting to be in a relationship with me hurts, the fact she deleted everything off her instagram and Facebook that had to do with me hurts but I can handle that. It's that she said she still wants me in her life and then acts like she doesn't is what I can't take. What should I do? Should I tell her that? Should I just delete her from my life altogether? Help me Reddit.", "summary": "gf and me broke up, says still wants to be friends, doesn't act like it, should I drop her from my life?"}
{"id": "t3_2vz2w0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [21 F] 5 months, missed my family for nothing, does she not care?", "post": "My family is all together again for the week, I haven't seen them in months, however I really wanted to do something nice with my girlfriend for valentines.\n\nShe told me she was only working night shift on saturday, I asked her then if I missed my family for 2 days and stayed in town till tuesday morning if we could spend a nice day together on monday after she recovered on sunday. She agreed, and I booked my plane tickets.\n\nNow however she's somehow added herself to the sunday night shift as well. She's sleeping most of the day today, and will be asleep most of the day on monday. I won't see her for more than a few hours, and I missed my family for that. I feel like an idiot.\n\nI've moved and rearranged so many things, so many times for her, but she does not seem to ever want to go out of her way to see me. She's sweet and kind when we're together, and if she's free she always wants to see me.\n\nA few other flags that I always overlooked:\n\n* Goes on coffee dates with other guys because 'she doesn't have the heart to say no'\n\n* Won't put on facebook that she's in a relationship or post photos  of us\n\n*  Always turns down compliments\n\nShe says she loves me, but I'm really starting to feel neglected. Is this normal behavior for a person, or does it look like she really doesn't care?", "summary": "Girlfriend might not care about me, am I right to think this?"}
{"id": "t3_33t7rm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my date/new relationship [28F] of 1.5 months, am confused about how she feels and what's going on. what do?", "post": "Okay so. I've been dating this girl for about 1.5 months. The first month we really hit it off and we saw each other quite a few times outside of date days. we spend the night together and things were good,maybe a little fast.\n\nNow, nearly two weeks ago she tells me she's in love,.but that it makes her feel really,really scared. After doing so a week later she tells me she's having doubts about being in love but that she really likes me.\n\nThree days later she tells me she's not in love with me anymore and she's not quite sure why. We've had a conversation at that point and the conclusion was she really doesnt know why but she feels like that \"in love\" feeling is gone. She said it might be related to work stress and such but it could be not.\n\nFast forward 2 days she's flirting over whatsapp again ( we didn't lose contact) and she asks me if she can come over. I tell her she can and she tells me that she doesn't want to talk a lot about what's going on.\n\nShe comes over, we talk about stuff like we usually do, she flirts with me,i can tell she likes being around me (playing with her hair, the way she looks at me,etc) but me being weary of the sittuation i decide not to make a move. She however does decide to kiss me. we cuddle and kiss the entire night.\n\nNow, we had a short conversation about last night and what it meant and basically she's unsure. She doesn't know if she just liked the intimacy or that she's into me.\n\nWhat do / what to think?\nNote i'm really into this girl and i wouldn't mind going through some rough times if it turns out she has some issues with relationships. ( i should note, she got out of a 8 year relationship 8 months ago and been hooking up with a couple of people since because she didnt feel ready to date again, until she met me.)", "summary": "Girl tells me she's in love, a couple of days later tells me she's not but she's not sure why, comes over to my place and start flirting / kissing / cuddling with me again. What to think."}
{"id": "t3_3h8aly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (16M) Dad (52M) and his long term girlfriend (54F) don't respect me and treat me as an employee.", "post": "Using a throwaway because friends know my reddit account and this is kinda personal.  My parents have been divorced for about 5 years and live 4 hours away from each other.  My Mom (52F) and Dad have joint custody, split 60/40.  So I spend most of the school year with my Mom and almost all of the summer with my Dad.  My Dad started dating his current girlfriend Claire about 4 years ago.  For the last 3 years I have been spending almost all of my summer with my Dad at her house, which also happens to double as her farm and yoga studio.  \n\nThe issue is the consistent lack of respect and general attitude that both my Dad and especially Claire treat me with.  I give up my entire summer without seeing any of my friends to be with my Dad because I know it makes him happy.  In return I am treated as an employee, constantly being told to help out such as cutting the grass on her commercial property without pay for hours or plant crops in her commercial farm.  In return I am not treated with respect and they constantly don't give me any say.  They both know I am allergic to cats and since I have started spending summers here have gotten two cats.  I don't even have allergy medicine because Claire runs a natural foods store and just gives me homeopathic garbage from it.  \n\nAm I wrong in feeling as if this is ridiculous?  I have tried talking to them and it just ends with me being told how selfish and spoiled I am even though I put my life on hold to be here.", "summary": "My Dad and his girlfriend treat me as an employee, not a person.  If I wanted I could go to court and change the schedule to not go through it anymore, but I don't want to hurt my dad.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35v498", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Ohio) A waitress at a restaurant wrote in a tip after I signed the credit card receipt.", "post": "Hi guys, I was hoping you could give me a little advice here. \n\nI went to a restaurant with a big group and paid for the party. We got a room with food and I paid for all of that with my credit card. They added a 20% \"service charge\" so I didn't tip anymore on top of that. I signed the credit card receipt and we moved to the bar to drink a little. I covered the cost for drinks for my sister as the party was for her. I paid with the same card, but on a different transaction and a different receipt. I took my copies and signed the restaurant's copies and thought that was the end of it. Well I just received the credit card statement for this month and the charges were on there, but there was an extra fifty dollars added on to the party bill and an extra 3 added to the drinks. I contacted the restaurant and they sent me a copy of the receipt that I signed and it was clearly not my handwriting. I emailed the copy that I kept in which there was no tip and what the total should be, in my handwriting that is clearly different. I'm waiting to hear from the General Manager of the restaurant, but I wanted to get as much info as I could before then. If they don't refund me, I'm going to dispute the charge, but as I said, I want all the info I can get here. \n\nThank you for reading!", "summary": "Waitress gave herself an extra $50 tip after I signed for my credit card. What do I need to know?"}
{"id": "t3_53woyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] pregnant with my boyfriend's [27M] baby. Cannot afford the baby, but terrified of abortion due to PCOS. What if I can never conceive again?", "post": "As the title suggests, I found out today I am pregnant (not planned) with my boyfriend's baby. I told him immediately, and he offered his support regardless of my decision. From a financial point of view, I know the answer but emotionally I am a mess. \n\nA bit of background. I suffer from PCOS, and have worked hard in the last two years to better my condition as much as possible through diet and exercise. I am currently attending graduate school, which is very stressful and pays very little. My boyfriend, \"Leo\" works full time and is doing his undergrad, both of which are very stressful situations for him. Money wise, the two of us are ok, but no way could we afford a baby in this situation.\n\nWe briefly discussed that the best option is to terminate and while I know that to be the best course, I am so afraid of the consequences. One of my life dreams is to be a mother, and I thought maybe I never would be (naturally) due to my condition. Now that it has happened, I am floored. Because we are thinking of terminating, I can't talk to anyone about this so I am using this space to just vent and get my thoughts out there. \n\nHas anyone here experienced PCOS, got pregnant and terminated, and went on to have another pregnancy to term? I should note I do not know how long I am, (took the hCG test, found out today) and will be meeting with my doctor to find out more details. Is there anything I should bring up to her? I am sorry if this isn't the right place for this.", "summary": "Pregnant, suffer from PCOS and afraid to terminate though it is the best financial decision. I just need some advice, life experiences, anything. Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_2gw9vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Rejecting sex as punishment", "post": "Recently, I did something dumb. I need not explain,but it was really dumb and I (m18) confessed to my girlfriend (f16) of about 8 months. She was really bitter about it, understandably. \n\nBut she has agreed to stick it out with me and try to get over it. After we were done talking she said to me, 'you know you're not getting any for a while right?' And while I understand where she's coming from, it's left me a little uneasy because she's hurting from this as well. Redditors I ask you, is this a healthy response to my messing up, or is this going to affect us negatively in the long run?", "summary": "girlfriend refusing sex for something I did, gave it like a punishment. Feeling uneasy"}
{"id": "t3_40cp6p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking if my new place of employment had ever been robbed.", "post": "So I get a job at this small BBQ place back a few years ago, nice people, just generally all around pleasant atmosphere. It's about a week into the job and I'm past that awkward quiet stage where you don't want to annoy anyone. Genius me asks the owner one day while we are all in the back \"Has this place ever been robbed?\" I asked because I couldn't imagine anyone ever robbing such a sweet place like this. He of course says no and he hopes it never happens. I laughed and said yeah me too!\n\nNext day I walk in, everyone is freaking out, the place was robbed last night, the same night I asked if they had ever been robbed. Needless to say, I was let go and told I wasn't needed anymore.", "summary": "Asked if the place has been robbed before, gets robbed that night."}
{"id": "t3_1k04gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25m] took a business trip and finally met a coworker [32f] for the first time who I have been exchanging emails with for over a year, one problem, I've been in a relationship for the past 2 yrs", "post": "So I [25m] work in IT for a company which has two offices in the US. I have a coworker [32f] who works in our other office who I have been talking to/working with for a little over a year now. Just recently I took a business trip to the office where she works and met her for the first time and after a few times going out I feel like we really hit it off.\n\nShe took me to a baseball game one night and the next night I took her out for dinner and a movie and she showed me around her part of the city. At first I thought it was just friendly coworker stuff, but after getting back to my hotel and exchanging a few txts with her, she made it clear that she wished I could stay longer and she was having a great time. She always smiles at me and she stopped into my office quite a few times to chat as well. Bottom line, I had a great time with her that week and on top of it all, she is drop-dead gorgeous.\n\nOn the other hand, I have been in a relationship for 2 years with my girlfriend [25f] and it has gradually gotten more and more bland as time passes. We've been arguing more often and I've recently found that I would rather spend more time with my friends or by myself than with my girlfriend.This sounds really bad, and don't get me wrong she is a great person and I love her very much, she just has some qualities that I am really kind of tired of. I think this may be what is triggering my attraction to my coworker. I've already seen some of those \"qualities\" aren't present in my coworker.\n\nSo that is the situation I'm stuck in. I feel really terrible (although nothing sexual happened between my coworker and I). I'm just having trouble deciding if my current relationship has run it's course and it's time to pursue other things.\n\nAny advice or comments would be appreciated.", "summary": "finally met a coworker who have been emailing with for a while, went out with her while on business trip to her office, had an amazing time, current relationship is very bland, don't know if it is time to pursue other relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3by8d8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out my (30F) husband (35M) masterbates to pics of my friends, his former coworkers, past friends, and exes.", "post": "I found a collection of printed 8x10 photos of close ups of these girls' faces and my husband just confessed to masterbating to them. They're like Facebook photo type pics. He claims none of them are currently in his life, and are all from the past (and I believe that part). One of the girls is my friend from years ago that I had a bad falling out with, and the rest are his former acquaintances.\n\nI would much rather he use images of porn stars or celebrities as these pics make the fantasies \"real\". Am I wrong to feel totally betrayed and disgusted? He is begging for forgiveness and claims they are just fantasy pics and nothing would happen if he ever ran into these girls in person. He is genuinely sorry and devastated to have hurt me so much. He's a great guy otherwise and I don't think he's physically cheated. But I am going thru some crazy emotions right now. Should I be worried?\n\nWe've been together for 10 yrs, married for 5, and oh.. I'm 8 months pregnant.", "summary": "Found out my husband's fap material is real girls we know"}
{"id": "t3_4m8xcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [33M] and I [27F] Have been married 6 years. We have been back and forth on something the entire time and I just need to know if I am being reasonable for my own peace of mind.", "post": "Thank you all in advance for any advice. My husband and I have had this ongoing argument and while he has agreed to my terms, I want to know if I am being overly controlling on the matter. \n\nA few years ago my husband received nudes of a close friend of his against my wishes. I was furious. He has not reciprocated on this. The argument stems from the fact that I don't want him looking at women he knows personally naked. I don't mind him looking at porn and there is plenty of nakedness available online. \n\nHe thinks this is too controlling and thus broke this rule behind my back when this happened with said friend. His argument is that the masturbation is better if he knows the girl. My argument is that as his wife, I should have complete control over the sexual aspect of his life as he should with mine as my husband. (I don't mind him taking care of himself or looking at porn, it is not an issue in our relationship and it keeps us sexually healthy.)\n\nThere is nothing currently going on with his female friends and such, he has refrained at my wishes. I just want to know, am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Is it reasonable for a wife to request that her husband not see the women he knows naked (strangers/porn not in person is okay)? Or is this overly controlling behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_3tu73j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by discussing the new Hunger Games movie with my family", "post": "Movie spoilers alert\n\nI watched the Hunger Games movie last night.\nSoo.. earlier today, I was having breakfast with my sister and my mom. I was talking to my sister about how I was disappointed with the movie's ending. She hasn't watched the movie so I was explaining everything that happened. How Katniss fought so hard in the revolution, how she killed the president, and how after all she did, she just went off to leave in a meadow with Peeta. I think this were my words: \n\n\"After all she did, she just became a stay-at-home mom, I thought she'd be someone important.\"\n\nMy mom laughed awkwardly and I instantly thought: \"shit\". Because that's what my mom is, she's a stay-at-home mom, and a couple years ago she told me how sometimes she would've liked to have a job and do something more with her life. I felt like I said those words to her, and now I feel like shit.\n\nIf you guys have any ideas on what I can do/say to make her feel a bit better, that'd be great.", "summary": "Talked about the new Hunger Games movie with my mom while having breakfast. Ended up making her feel bad accidentally. I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_12j8w0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just need to vent. Bullying will not be stopped. Ever. We need to take a different approach to this than 'STOP BULLYING'...", "post": "I just need to vent. \n\nWhy can't the world realize. You can NOT stop bullying. You CAN however, teach your children and those around you not to take everything so seriously and to the heart.\n\nI am SO sick of everyone losing their shit\u2026 over the slightest joke made AT another person, instead of for them. **I got in shit for work for posting a pic of a honey boo boo comparison. They said I was a bully.** \n\n**Bullies are not going to stop bullying. Not now, not ever.** I don't mean bullies can't reform, I'm just saying there will always be a new generation of bullies to pick up the slack.\n\nKids don't realize how harsh they're being\u2026 but no matter how well they're raised\u2026 peer pressure will always make them crack\u2026 at least once\u2026 \n\nI was bullied in public school/ high school. I cried myself to sleep lots of nights. I'm not seeking pity here.. I'm just saying-I'm sure 90% of people were also bullied in a life changing way.. \n\nBut what my parents taught me.. is 'Don't listen to other people, be better than them, and you will come out as a better person'. .. Tough it out.. you'll be ok. \n\nThey  didn't baby me and say oh you poor girl here let's go talk to your teachers and get them suspended and have it result in even more bullying for you.\n\nI know social media makes it worse than when I was a kid.. But I think kids will handle bullying better if they're taught that in 5 years from now.. your public bitchfest on facebook is going to look PRETTY lame.. to everyone.. probably even your current group of friends.", "summary": "I think the parents/teachers/role models need to cool it on the 'stop bullying' campaign... And seriously consider an action plan for a 'self confidence' and 'how to properly.. and responsibly use social media' campaign"}
{"id": "t3_39u1bo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Hey everyone!\n\nI broke up with my ex approximately one month ago, some 2/3 weeks after I told her I didn\u00b4t feel the same for her anymore. I know she loved me, but we were constantly fighting, and after 3 months together, I felt we were to incompatible.\n\nThe decision to move on was unanimous, but even knowing we weren\u00b4t compatible, not meant to be together and all that, I still had the strongest attachment to her, we were great together, very supportive to eachother, caring and with great chemistry.\n\nI\u00b4ve been loyal to the No Contact rule since then, and I usually feel great or absolutely ok and moving on, but knowing about her, having a friend saying he talked to her, knowing that she will be in a particular place in a particular time, I don\u00b4t know, she seems to be my fuc*ing kryptonite, I feel sad when something like that happens, and I feel like she\u00b4s my weakness.\nBecause overall I feel ok, I\u00b4ve been busy, going out with friends, studying, going to kickboxing, planning my vacations, etc, and as soon as I feel great about myself, the simple knowledge that she talked to a friend of mine, or that she went to a party, or that she is moving on, can really put me down.\n\nEven doing the best for me and even knowing that I feel well most of the times, it seems it\u00b4s being hard to really move on. Getting to that state of not giving a fuc* about her or about what she\u00b4s doing seems to be a far thing.\n\nSorry for the long post!! Would be grateful to hear similar stories, and how did you overcame the whole thing.", "summary": "One month after breaking up, I feel well and moving on, but knowing about my ex can really put me down again"}
{"id": "t3_3s4gma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] have a communication problem with my ''boyfriend'' [19M]", "post": "We met about three months ago and started dating a while after/ have been dating since then. It started out pretty well, we talked quite a lot, and hung out pretty often. \n\nWe haven't decided that we are together yet. I asked him a while back about what we were, he kinda avoided the question, but said that he wanted a relationship with me, but he still doesn't call me his girlfriend. \n\nRecently it's been feeling like we have very bad communication. We talk, but only about other people, events, movies etc. We never ask each other questions to actually get to know each other. We rarely ever text, and when we do, his answers are always short and he never seems to make an effort to keep the conversation going. \n\nEveryone seems to think we are together, but I can't even confirm it, because he hasn't asked yet, kinda annoying. I just feel like I am getting some mixed signals I guess, not sure what to do.", "summary": "Guy I'm dating doesn't seem interested in getting to know me, getting mixed signals. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_hpwqe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you take a job with an unprofitable company?", "post": "I make a good living with a hellish commute and a lot of travel.  I have had an old acquaintance ask me to join his department at an unprofitable company.  The salary is amazing, the people in the department are great, but the organization is, while not in a \"tailspin\", definitely unprofitable and needing to correct course.  My brain says \"hey, it's good money, and you don't know the future. things could be great this time next year and you'll regret not taking the job!  and even if the company goes belly-up, you can get another job\".  My gut says \"this company has structural problems. make sure you know what you're going to do in 12 months\".  I'm at the point in my career where I need to take some risks in order to get ahead, and this seems like a promotion and risk, all at the same time.", "summary": "good opportunity, scary financials. who knows what the future holds, though?"}
{"id": "t3_2gw5fn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my wife a lesbian? Should I be concerned?", "post": "I have recently became concerned whether my wife is more attracted to women than men. I have been in a relationship with her for 10 years, but only married for 1 year. I've always known that she prefers woman on woman porn, I figured that was pretty normal.\n\nHowever, I just recently found out that she thinks about women while I am going down on her and during our sexy times, in general. She then goes on to explain that women are beautiful creatures (I agree) and there is nothing about a man that she is attracted to.\n\nDoes that mean shes not attracted to me? Is it normal for her to be so attracted to women? Do other women have the same thoughts during sex? Should I be concerned? I love my wife so much and I know she loves me, I am just concerned that she truly isn't attracted to me, because I feel that if she doesn't find me attractive, this marriage can't possibly work. She will eventually get tired of being married to someone shes not attracted to. Can anyone relate? Any comments / advice is appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "My wife thinks of women during sex and does not find men attractive. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_27bn39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [24F] of 8 yrs recently divorced me [26 M] to date her coworker. We wants to remain friends, but it's torture for me.", "post": "We were together for almost 9 years, married for 4 months.\n\nWe were high school sweethearts.  Both us never dated before we met each other at the ages of 18 (me) and 16 (her).  Things were grand for 3-4 years.  Life was extremely financially difficult, but we were still very much in love.  Then I I began drinking in secret.  Eventually I did the unspeakable and physically assaulted her on two separate occasions while black-out drunk.  She left one month after the 2nd incident to begin a serious relationship with one of her coworkers that she had been emotionally cheating with.\n\nMy ex-wife wants to remain friends, as do I - 8 years is a huge investment, and we still connect on many levels that we've not found in anyone else.  It has a brother-sister dynamic now.  But I still love her, and this is compounded by my \"reawakening\" upon quitting alcohol: I finally appreciate her as she deserves.  Yet it's much too late, and all her attention has been realigned with her coworker.\n\nShe still cares for me deeply, and recognizes me for who I am sober, but will never romantically involve herself with me again - I represent too much pain and loss.  She has forgiven me for what happened: I don't know that I ever can.  She wants to be lifelong friends, but it's torture for me: I am obsessing over her and her personality, what she's doing, how things would have been different had I admitted my addiction, our past...", "summary": "My HS sweetheart left me for another man after my drinking caused physical abuse.  We want to remain friends, but it's causing me emotional turmoil and obsession.  I don't want to lose my best friend."}
{"id": "t3_1cg03i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking about engagement but she [24f] and I [25m] live ~450km apart and will for the next 3 years.", "post": "We've been together for a little over 4 years. I know I'll end up with her, been seriously thinking about engagement for a while and she'll definitely say yes. \n\nAfter dating for 2 years, we lived together for a year. But I got into med school in a different city (about 450km away). Started in September. She has a great job that she can't leave - it's exactly in her field, she can't do it where I live. We see each other every other weekend, over the holidays, and I'll be living with her over the summer.\n\nAs a relationship, long distance has been working well for us. We are very committed and while being a med student is hectic, we speak at least twice a day. I want to get engaged, but I'm concerned this might cause emotional difficulty (not being able to be with one's fiance) and would create a looming problem of either getting married while still being long-distance (I still have 3 more years of school) or being engaged for 3 years before getting married - both of which seem like bad options.\n\nShe's the one, for sure. For sure, for sure. And once I finish school I can move back to where she lives. I want to get the timing right in a way that works for both of us.", "summary": "Know I'll end up with her. Want to get engaged but not sure because we're long distance and will be for the next 3 years."}
{"id": "t3_3jq0br", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/f] Why have I been cut off by my close friend [28/f]?", "post": "So, here's the story.  I have many friends who I may catch up with weekly, monthly, sometimes even yearly.  We all live in different areas and that's fine.  However, a few weeks ago I noticed one of my closest friends had un-friended me on Facebook.  I thought it must have been a mistake, as she was still friends with many of our mutual friends and hadn't had a \"culling\".  Plus, last time I spoke to her we were on good terms.  So I re-added her, and sent a text message.  No reply.  Then I notice that \"request sent\" had changed back to \"add friend\" again, so clearly my request was deleted.  I've sent another message but still no reply.  I asked a mutual friend and they had no idea what was going on.\n\nThe thing is, this friend is one of the kindest people I know and it's very out of character for her to cut someone off.  She regularly wants to catch up and see how things are going.  She's even vented to me in the past about friendships falling apart when she's not sure why.  So to cut me off without any reason seems very odd.  She's never done it to anyone before as far as I know, and I've known her for years.\n\nI just want some advice on why she might have done this?  The last time we talked (granted it was months ago) there was nothing wrong.  Now, she won't even respond to me.  It seems pretty extreme.  I tend to dwell on things like this and worry about what I've done and it's doing my head in.  Is there any way I can fix this, or should I just let it go?\n\nThanks for any advice, I'm really confused and sad about this.", "summary": "My close friend suddenly cut me off, with no reason nor response.  What have I done?  Can I save the friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_l1hh5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Long term girlfriend back-stabbed me and I cut ties tonight.", "post": "We dated for most of high school. Made it through our first year of college, but she found someone else. She still talked to me after that. She hooked up with my a bunch over that summer and never told him, which I felt bad for. She finally told him and he blamed me, not her. They're still together. She now says its my fault. I feel like I've been betrayed. Hard. I never had this problem, and I feel like a sucker for having to resort to reddit for help. \n\nI really don't need to drink myself to death. Alcohol and I have had rough encounters before. I really don't want to fall back into that. What the hell am I suppose to do?", "summary": "My gf hooked up with me while dating someone else and said it was my fault for allowing her to do so. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1sai6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my husband[37m] 4 months; low blows and embarrassment", "post": "Sometimes when I get too annoyed by my husbands taking a joke too far, I lash out with awful statements.  I know he's joking and its not even in front of people, just us, but I become so embarrassed/annoyed.  The last comment I made was stating that that behavior is why his last marriage failed.  He's typically very nice man and I took it too far out of anger.  We never say such nasty things to each other.  I feel awful. This is not the first time. I don't want our relationship to keep going down this road.  Is it more acceptable to just leave the room until I can bite my tongue?? This is completely unacceptable.  Has anyone else ever been through this?", "summary": "I overreacted and acted like a jerk."}
{"id": "t3_1qrlzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend sped up this relationship so fast, and now after 3 months, he's acting like we've been dating for 3 years.", "post": "My boyfriend (25/m) started our relationship with an extremely hot pursuit. I am 24/f. He was suggesting vacations and future stuff before he even asked me to be his girlfriend. He would contact me quite a lot, want to see me all the time, and do all sorts of romantic stuff for me. 1.5 months in, and he said the \"L\" word. After 2 months he talked about getting engaged in a couple of years. I tried to tell him to relax and slow it down, but he didn't quite get it. Basically, I know that he's most likely \"the one\" but I thought we could you know...pace it, since it's only been a few months.\n\nOn my birthday about a month ago, I told him I loved him. And for a week or so, things were great.  Well, he's still moving fast. Except now, he texts me less and has grown kind of complacent (isn't as romantic, etc.) He always told me in the past that he prided himself on always wanting to treat a girl amazingly. Last weekend, we were supposed to go see a concert I had been looking forward to for months. That morning, he woke up really sick (we were in bed together), and we couldn't go. He had a sinus infection, and it wasn't catching, so I asked if I could stay with him and take care of him. He made me leave (he had driven me to his place, so I had to ask a friend to come pick me up).\n\nI know that he's not ready to break up with me, but he is acting like we've been dating for years. What will it be like then in 6 months or a year from now? I talked to him about it and he said he's gotten complacent and \"this is reality now\"\n\nI feel like it's unfair, because he's been setting the pace the whole time in this relationship. Is there anything I can do? Has anyone heard of this happening?", "summary": "Boyfriend moved the relationship so fast, that the courtship was a blur and now he's acting like we've been dating for years after only 3 months."}
{"id": "t3_ekco3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is everybody who comments on Youtube so stupid?", "post": "Sorry to rant. Here is my story:\nAs a sophomore in high school, I put together a short documentary about the experiments in isolation done by Dr. Harry Harlow. [WP link if you aren't familiar] \n\nIn any case, it's only gotten about 30,000 views over three years, but the assholes have already firmly established themselves in the comments. It's incredible. After I posted an appeal for civility and grammar in the comments, I got this reply the other day:\n\"STICK YOUR CAPS, PUNCTUATION AND GRAMMAR UP YOUR ASS LOLOL, OK NOW, GOTTA GO, YA'LL FUCKING DRIVE ME CRAZY-ER\"\nI mean, I can handle some trolling, but it's like every single user is a troll. Some gems:\n\n* \"to all of u who think this is torture... us humans to sacrifice animals to the \"gods\" for the prosperity of the land, wealth, etc, not experiments to prove any theories. the aztecs used to sacrifice PEOPLE and tear their hearts out alive, then eat their hearts at ceremonies for the sake of \"greater good\". just think about the saying: \"it could've been worst\". at least now we don't ever have to do this again to prove the behaviorists theory wrong. poor monkeys, but harry wasn't a \"hitler\"\"\n\n* \"lol i'm with you, they make great footballs, or if you go to fla., go up the silver river by ocala, and take a slingshot with you,the little bastards come out like their big and bad, hit them with the slingshot and the little bastards scatter like the filfthy vermin they are. good wholesome family fun, we go every year......\"\n\n* \"yay another ignorant sadist!! You should be bred out of existence. Both of you losers represent what is wrong with the planet. \"\n\nAnyway, I closed the comments, and I'll probably never post anything to Youtube again.", "summary": "95% of commenters on Youtube are incredibly ignorant."}
{"id": "t3_14qut8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife's(26) constant negativity and self-esteem issues are getting to me.(27)", "post": "I really just need to get this out there but I'd also appreciate any advice. My wife has serious self esteem issues. She's gone to therapy for many years.\n\nBut the thing I need to get off my chest is how hard is for me to hear her say \"i'm so fat\", and similar comments. It drives me nuts. Because when I say, \"i don't think you are\", she says I am just saying that because I'm married to her.\n\nAnytime I compliment her, she gives me the same response. its only because we're married. Lately, I don't say anything because i really just want to tell her to a)shut up b) go on a diet and exercise if you feel like you are fat. (side note- she is in no way fat. She has gained probably 15-20 lbs since we started dating 9 years ago, but is in no way fat.)\n\nwhat can i do to a)boost her confidence b)keep myself from saying something i shouldn't c)reply when she insults herself \n\nThe negativity is the biggest thing eating at me.  It seems that no matter what I do, it is met with negativity.  I'm reaching my breaking point and I really don't want to.", "summary": "starting to resent my wife. help"}
{"id": "t3_4jq2w8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] SO [26F] is driving me absolutely nuts.", "post": "My SO of 1.5 years, has been driving me up the wall for along time now.\n\nShe complains, or moans or is unhappy about absolutely everything all the time and its sucking the life from me. \n\nThis dog needs eyedrops twice a day at the moment. I gave the dog eyedrops then I said \"and she'll get another one later on\" \"No\" she sharply replied, \"once I come home she will\".  So the answer was yes, but seems like the answer was no because I said it. And things like this happen all the time. \"Just round the corner isn't it?\" Will be met with a sharp \"No, just down the road\" \n\nIt is if I need to be absolutely precise with any generalisation I make or I'll be snapped at. \n\nShe is very dominant and I'm reluctant to move in because of this. Moving in together is something thats been on the cards but her house is very much 'her' house. Everything is where she wants it to be, everything is done how she wants it to be.  \n\nIf I do something helpful without asking about it she will get annoyed about some small insignificant detail about what I've done.\n\nI always worried to ask her how she wants things done because she will become exasperated about it and talk to me like I'm am idiot. I only want to do it the way she wants it done so she didn't get annoyed. However it didn't matter, if I don't ask, she gets annoyed, if I ask,she gets annoyed and there seems to be no way to get through it. \n\nShe loves her dog more than anything, she loves me but when I'm around I feel like I'm just there just because I'm meant to be. I'm bored and unhappy. I don't know how to try and address and improve the situation without her getting annoyed at me.\n\nI've said in the past that I am afraid to ask about things because she gets annoyed and she told me that I don't get afraid and that was kind of the end of that.", "summary": "gf moans, complains and is never happy with me. I don't know how to deal with my unhappiness."}
{"id": "t3_2shrsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [26M] break up with my girlfriend [28F] of one year and minimize the impact on her?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for just over a year. The relationship has been more than great. It is the best relationship I have ever been in. She is caring, loving, respectful and loyal. There isn't a thing she wouldn't do for me. Unfortunately I have issues.\n\nLately, I have been thinking about the commitment. I don't think I'm ready to be committed to someone at this stage in my life. I need a few years to get certain things out of my system. Like sleeping around, meeting and dating more people. I know this sounds terrible, but I can't be dishonest with my girlfriend. When I go out with my guy friends, all I want to do is talk to women and hook up with them. I have not cheated on my girlfriend at all, but I am concerned that eventually I may slip. She deserves better than this.\n\nHow do I go about this without totally crushing her heart? I am so upset and hurt even thinking about breaking up with her. I'm the verge of crying as I'm typing this. She has been so wonderful to me, yet I am the asshole that wants to break up.", "summary": "I'm not ready to be committed to my amazing girlfriend at this point in my life. I don't know how to tell her this without crushing her heart."}
{"id": "t3_157i1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found my friends SO asking for nudes from another girl on Instagram", "post": "Tonight I was on Instagram and one girl I follow posted a text message conversation of a guy asking her for nudes. As soon as I read it some clues (the verbage used and some bad grammar) tipped me off that it is my friends SO. I took a screen grab and asked him if it was him. He said it was. I then noticed the girl took it down from Instagram. I feel really conflicted because I know this isn't the first time he has done this in their 4 year relationship. My SO who is also this guy's friend explained it to me that it is his fetish to get nudes from girls he knows. He likes it better than porn. I guess it's probably the thrill of getting them. My friend knows he has a stash of nudes of girls he knows but I believe she thinks he just keeps his stash from before they dated. I don't think she realizes he is still doing it. At first when I found out I tried to be sympathetic of his \"fetish\" but now it is harder that I see actual proof of him doing this. It's also so close to the holidays. Does the severity of this warrant me telling my friend about her SO doing this? Or is it better to not get in the middle? I am feel this way, but I feel like my friend would tell me if the roles were reversed and it makes me feel sad and guilty. I don't want to tell her in part because it would be so drama filled and a part of me thinks she wouldn't even break up with him. Reddit, what do you think?", "summary": "found my friends SO asking for nudes from another woman on instagram"}
{"id": "t3_enwdc", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I am professional in to many fields, I guess. How should I promote myself?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I can do many different things and love to do so. I feel companies are looking for specialists rather then generalists. How should I promote myself.\n\n*  I did studio works for about 8 years, I'm good in recording, mixing and mastering audio. Some of my work went top 50 in the country I live in and other european countries. Though I never made a lot money with it.\n\n* I worked as a lighting technician for an international entertainment show for about 2 years beeing traveling with the show all over europe (each tour about 6 month - so 6 month touring - 6 month other jobs). I also did light in theatres and for small tv-productions.\n\n* For my music projects in many cases I would also do the promotion, so I am also pretty okay in graphic design and web stuff. I'm not bad in doing advertisements, posters, flyers etc...\n\n* I've been a host for various live shows and I am pretty good in that - yes I love to be on stage ;)\n\n* I lead international teams of about 10 people. Advised them technically but also made schedules etc.\n\n* I planned/supervised lighting and powersupplies for a whole conference, in 3 different locations, providing light that works both for the audience and HD broadcasting. At the conference there also was a TV show and parties - I did the light for.\n\nMy problem is: I really love all of those fields. I often get bored, if I just do one thing for more than 2 years. I am currently back at a media university to finally get a degree in the stuff I do anyway. \n\nBut when I apply somewhere it always seems like wether the potential employer doesn't believe I am able to do all that - or doesn't have a need for somebody like me.\n\nI worked as a freelancer for quite a while, but all the tax/paperwork is something I really hate. Plus advertising for my self as a \"jack of all trades\" seems hard. Especially the fields I love to work in are both technically and creative.", "summary": "I love to work in many different fields: sound, recording, light, advertismens, webstuff, technical stuff. It's hard to find anybody who has a use for my strengths."}
{"id": "t3_33zfoy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend emotionally disconnected.", "post": "I've(F22) been with the man I'm with(M31) a year. We've always had our ups and downs but here recently I've started to feel like I'm the only one trying when he gets angry. He won't (or can't) communicate how he feels and when he finally gets upset enough to say anything it's all just hateful shit I know deep down he's only saying because he's angry. \n\nI can't seem to motivate any sort of response when he's like this. I can't hurt him, I can't make him empathize with me no matter what I've tried. I tell him honestly my feelings about whatever it is. It doesn't matter because he's mad. \n\nI'm thinking about just leaving. I feel like I'm playing mental chess and I'm the only one it's hurting. He just doesn't seem invested enough to mind. Ignoring me for hours or days doesn't even phase him. I have anxiety attacks and worry sick until he feels like talking to me again. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to think maybe we honestly just have different ideas of what a relationship should be. He has a lot of past issues that it seems like I just can't help. I love him. I'm just out of ideas and tired of the constant struggle for the upper hand.", "summary": "boyfriend can't care when he's angry. i care too much. what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2khxao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] constantly find girls looking/staring at me. How do I approach them?", "post": "Ok, So a bit of a backstory here: I'm an 18 yo male who has never been in a relationship before (nothing close to one for that matter). I used to be overweight, but I thinned out around the end of senior year. Because of this, I never thought of myself as attractive and it was pretty apparent no girls did either. Now, I am a freshman in college and have thinned out a bunch. According to several female friends I'm cute/attractive now (swear to god not a humble brag,may not even be true, just setting up the question)\n\nIts apparently showing now. Everywhere on campus I seem to find girls looking at me, often more than once. Now, this could be a complete coincidence and maybe i'm making stuff up, but I swear I'm on to something here. Often times girls will catch me looking back at them and i'll sense some feeling of mutual attraction. Keep in mind, this is the first time *in my life* i've experienced this. In the past I've generally been ignored.\n\nI feel like I really should talk to some of these girls. If not for relationship interest then for just friendship at least. My problem is I have *no idea how*. I'm not an awkward person, and people say I have a pretty good presence, yet I can never think of a reason to talk to them! \n\nObviously I can't just walk up to them and be like *\"Hey I caught you staring at me wanna get coffee some time\"* right? Or can I? I'm clueless here, yall gotta help me out. I'm sure many guys have the same issue I have, so we'll all benefit from this. Thanks!", "summary": "I have never been attractive before, am now, need to talk to girls. Halp."}
{"id": "t3_1kwiag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my ex [19F] duration, We still love eachother but want to be friends. Would like outside perspective.", "post": "**duration was 1 and a half years...missed that in the title, sorry!**\n\nSo yeah, we broke up the day before yesterday. Easily the most heartbreaking thing I've ever done. Even though it was mutual and agreed to be the for the best, I've never felt more horrible.\n\nWe were just talking about the fact that our libidos were so mismatched that it was causing me a great deal of stress and depression (I wanted once a week or more, she wanted once a month at best). It wasn't the first time we'd talked about it, but this time she got very upset, and suggested a break. Not out of anger, just being reasonable. The relationship was hurting both of us at this point and she had exhausted her options for trying to fix it.\nWe both still love each other very much, but can't continue hurting eachother. So, yeah, we broke up.\n\nBut the problem is, we're also best friends and want to remain that way very much. We just want to be in each others lives. We even left open the possibility of getting back together sometime in the future, maybe if her problem gets fixed.\n\nMy issue is, we had tickets to a festival together and it's on in a week. We reason that it may be a good idea to still go, but as friends. We have to get used to it at some stage right?\n\nMy questions to you guys is this: Can these kind of friendships be healthy? Or will they just end in tears and heartbreak?", "summary": "Is it possible to still remain friends with a girl (ex) you still love and who loves you back.."}
{"id": "t3_1e4x0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f, 18) feel so guilty about cheating on my boyfriend (m, 19) with his best friend.", "post": "My friend and I have been secretly in love with each other since we met but neither one of us had said anything to each other due to being in and out of different relationships. His best friend has loved me for 3 years and I finally decided to date him a few months ago cause we were extremely close anyway. But recently, things started to heat up with the first friend. We can't help ourselves around one another and we even find ways to make some sort of physical contact even with my boyfriend around. We both feel guilty about it but I can't break up with my boyfriend yet. We don't plan on stopping our constant intense flirting though. \nShould I break up with my boyfriend even though it's not the right time?\nShould I even tell him about the cheating?", "summary": "Cheating on my boyfriend with his best friend and love of my life. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_fr99o", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How much will stopping the booze effect weight loss", "post": "So over the past two years i have put on about 60 pounds. I am 6 3 and up to 250 or 260. I was finishing up college while working full time and stopped caring about what i ate or working out. I also was drinking about a fifth of whiskey a day (1200 cals). So i got a good job right out of school and dont have a reason to lose control with my habbits. So i have stopped the drinking except on fri sat night ( i didnt think it would be easy but it was). Just started a diet, oatmeal (plain) and a pear for breakfest, what ever kind of soup for lunch, and stir fry for dinner. As well as starting to work out.\n\nAs far as my body not having to booze anymore what things should i expect if any when it comes to weight loss or other effects. (been 2 weeks since i stopped)", "summary": "stopped drinking a fifth a day what will my body go through ( been two weeks and nothing)"}
{"id": "t3_48jsg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girl I'm interested in [24 F] not sure if I should cut my losses and move on", "post": "edit: the girl, not my*\n\nSo I've recently started heading out into the dating world again after spending what seemed like eternity getting over my ex. I've been talking to this new girl off and on for the past couple of months, snapchat on the regular, etc. \n\nI finally work up the cajones to tell it to her straight, \"look I like you and I'd love to take you out on a date when I'm back in town.\" She responds wth \"LOL you crazy. We can always hang out.\" I basically tell her that I'm not fucking around here and that I am interested in taking her out on actual date. That's where I'm sitting at now and I'm not even sure how to and if i should follow up.\n\nWe've talked about dating in general and she off-handedly mentioned to me one time that she always wanted to know what it was like to be chased instead of always being the chaser. 9 out of 10 times I wouldn't have the patience to be playing these games where I get vague answers like the one she provided, but I actually really like this girl. I basically have no relationship experience outside of my ex since we were together for so long, so I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing right now.", "summary": "asked girl out on date, she replies with a vague no? not sure if she's playing hard to get or just plain disinterested"}
{"id": "t3_2w86d3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with girlfriend guys please!", "post": "So me (19M) and my girlfriend (17F) have been together for almost 3 years and I love her and care for Her and all. But I really want out. She's crazy. I can't be around my sister because she shows videos which I don't see a problem with. I can't talk to girls be around girls or watch movies with any thing in them and I mean just cleavage. It's off limits. I'm about done with it all. \n\nShe's constantly mad at me. I feel like a little kid getting in trouble over everything. I've called her mom a few times and boy she really didn't like that. But it's how I feel. I'm in college and can literally barely do anything. Her family treats me well and I work at the same company as her dad so I'm stuck guys. \n\nPlease help me! Her dad has done so much for me getting me work and even helped me keep my job after I messed up once! I don't know how to get out of this and I feel so trapped with her. I'm also too nice of a guy. I feel awful being mean to people even though I get mad at her easily. I'm\nHorrible at this stuff.", "summary": "girlfriend is crazy but family is so good to me. How do I get out?"}
{"id": "t3_22j78d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [25 F] of 11 months, lied about sexual history, didnt tell me her EX was diagnosed with herpes... I'm not angry?", "post": "Me and my GF have been going out for around 11 months. When we first got together i asked her how many partners she had in the last year. She said 1, her ex. We then had sex without a condom based on this information. She got tested a month later and had chlamydia. I never tested positive. She told me her EX must have cheated.\n\n9 months later I snooped on her and connected dots to figure out that she had another \"fling\" while things with her old BF were fizzling. Completely understandable, however she hid this from me because she thought i would \"think less of her\". This is where she got the chlamydia. I'm of the mindset that your past doesn't matter - what matters to me is that i made a decision based on a small set of information and was lied to.\n\nWhile i was snooping i also found a text from her EX (from ~2 weeks earlier; so 10 months after they broke up) telling her that he had herpes but has since had other girls she he was letting her know and possibly blaming her - she didn't even think to tell me and she didn't even think to get tested.  I was pretty upset by this and made her get tested, her test is today.\n\nAnyway - I cant help but think that i should break up with her over these two things. However, i'm honestly not \"mad\" at her. I just feel like the trust has be set back a fair bit. Is my reaction wrong/irrational? I really do love this girl, but shes also my first major relationship so I may have \"first love\" syndrome or some shit. Just looking for unbiased opinions.", "summary": "GF lied about a partner between me and her ex. Didnt tell me her ex was diagnosed with herpes after they broke up. I'm not angry, but feel that the trust is lacking on my end. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nmau7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Thinking of asking her out...", "post": "I'm trying to really gauge if she's interested or not. I think she could be and probably aren't for several reasons. We have a class together. \n\nReasons not\n\n-she shy's away at the end of class, and leaves on her own\n\n-talks about how stressed/busy she is. sounds somewhat depressed.\n\nReasons possibly\n\n-made physical contact when not necessary (arm touch)\n\n-made weird physical contact when necessary (gently grazing her whole hand slowly under mine when I passed something to her)\n\n-laughs at all my jokes, even and especially my stupid and self deprecating ones\n\n-this may be dumb but the eye contact is interesting\n\n-asked me for my phone number\n\n-made the comment \"I wish I had a boyfriend\"\n\nI really thought of her as out of my league but she started doing the these things which makes me think she may be interested. Wondering what second opinions I can get (I've been very wrong before), and if I should go for it.", "summary": "Should I ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_wzx1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family is a mess: maybe its just sibling issues, but I think its much more than that and I want to mend it.", "post": "My family: mom (50) dad (54?) older brother (23) me (19) sister (17) youngest brother (16)\n\nMy parents got divorced a few years ago, we saw countless fights and arguments while they were together and in some ways it's continued since the divorce.  But that's not the big issue.  My family is constantly fighting now (sometimes physical), none of the kids do anything thats asked, and I don't even live there most of the year (college).\n\nMy youngest brother has had a looooooot of trouble with the law and I think there is no way to turn him around, he assumes money grows on trees, doesn't believe in work, but fully believes in yelling, threatening, beating his sisters and mom.  My dad doesn't help the issue because he helps my brother with anything (he's rich).  Talking about money...my mom stayed at home for 19 years while us kids were in school.  After the economy turned she couldn't find a job, so settled at Burger King.  She works apprx 80 hours a week (shes a manager, so no overtime drats!) and because of this,  she can't be there to tell my brother what to do (he wouldn't do it anyways).  \n\nMy brother and I argue the most because I do most ofthe work around the house/yard, and he never helps.  I've had the cops straight out tell me I cannot ask him to do anything because I'm not the mom, which I understand.  I am afraid he will lead a life of crime (he's on probation from stealing a credit card).  But more importantly, him and I virtually never get along.  I'm too bitchy according to him for asking him to clean his dishes and he constantly gets on my nerves by the way he treats my mom.  I really cannot stand to be around him anymore, but I want to have this relationship repaired very bad.\n\nIs there anything I can tell my dad/brother/mom to get my brother to start helping with the house and family?  If anyone has personal experience with a troubled teen and has advice I'd be veeeerrrry grateful!!", "summary": "My brother is a VERY troubled teenager,  I am also a teenager, but with all the physical/verbal fighting, this is simply not normal.  Any advice on how to make him realize his ways are bad and make him change?"}
{"id": "t3_2kn0gp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] with [20 F] went on a first date, it went really well. She said yes to a second. Need ideas, also not sure what her saying yes to a second date means.", "post": "So I have never really dated before, usually my relationships come from geting close to someone over time and then just becoming more than firends or seomthing. I have never formally dated before, I don't really know what the rules are for dating. We went on a date, so am I not supposed to go on dates with other girls since I asked her out again (not that I want to)? She seems into me, and I'm definitley into her, but I'm not sure how to act. I don't want to seem clingy, but also want to make sure she realizes I'm still interested... \n\nI'm not really jealous, but at the same time if she goes out with other guys is that shitty todo? Or is that just part of dating?\n\nShe doesn't really text much, but when she does I get lots of smiley faces from her. Idk, I literally have no idea what I'm doing. \n\nAlso assuming we do eventually go on another date do you guys have any suggestions about something fun and creative? The first date was just dinner and ice cream. I'd like to do something alittle more creative the second time. \n\nPlease help me. I am so clueless.", "summary": "Not sure how to act around her... Never dated anyone before, need advice and date ideas."}
{"id": "t3_13dmr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] really like her [19F] but both of us are afraid of commitment.", "post": "Hi,  \nso here's the situation:  \n\nI (19M) just started studying abroad and I met this girl (19F)... We seemed to get along together very well, though we're both somewhat socially awkward around other people.  \nWe started cuddling and kissing three weeks ago. (We're both still virgins so we agreed not to have sex in the near future and I'm really glad we did. It takes a lot of pressure off.) \nThe problem is that we'll go on Christmas break for 6 weeks in two weeks time and there's no chance we're going to see each other during that period.  \n\nWhat are we going to do? Neither of us is experienced when it comes to relationships and we are still in a \"wait and see\" mode because both of us are afraid of commitment and we only have been knowing each other for two months.\nShe said she's not really comfortable with this situation - cuddling but not \"really\" being with someone.  \nShe always asks \"What do you want?\" and I never know how to respond. I think I want to be in a proper relationship with her. But I'm not entirely convinced. It might be too early. I might enjoy \"just\" the cuddling. I might not be ready for a relationship (though I don't know if I'll ever be.)  \n\nSo what should we do in the next two weeks? Should I tell her I want a relationship? Or should we wait and see what happens when we see each other again after christmas? Any advice is muchly appreciated :)\n\nI'll be back in ~6 hours and I'll reply to every comment.", "summary": "Unsure what I should do with the girl I've been cuddling with. Cristmas Break coming up and we won't see each other."}
{"id": "t3_2p57bd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my GF [21 M/F] 8 months, told me not to talk to her and is mad at me for listening", "post": "So my girlfriend and I got into a fight a couple days ago, and we've been trying to makeup since. Today she was at work and I texted her asking if she wanted to make cookies tonight or if she wanted to go to a potluck a mutual friend of ours was having. She told me not to worry about it, she will get some food with a friend and I should go to the potluck. Now, I'm leaving for a week tomorrow so I wanted to see her tonight. So I let her know I really want to see her. No response. Sometimes she can't look at her phone at work and since I needed to let the friend know if we could come to the potluck soon I decided to drive to her work (1 mile away) and ask her in person. She again tells me to just go alone.... I didnt want to get into anything in front of her coworkers... I text her that she was acting strange as I left and she replies with \"Wow. Just don't talk to me.\"\n\nAt this point I was very confused... yeah we were still weird from the fight a few days ago but that was a big response. I text her sorry for anything I said to upset her and explain that I really wanted to see her. I left for the potluck because a good friend from out of town was there. When she found out I went she was pissed. Just called her and basically it went like this:\n\nHer: \"I cant believe you went when you knew how upset I was\"\n\nMe: \"You told me not to talk to you and to go...\"\n\nHer: \"You should know me by now, you knew I was upset, you should have come seen me after work\"\n\nI dont really know what to say to this. Yes, I knew she was upset but she was mad at me and I tried to make her feel better/do something with her. She explicitly said not to talk to her?\n\nWhat should I say to her to calm her down/make things better?", "summary": "Girlfriend told me not to talk to her and to go to a potluck alone. I did reluctantly. Now she is mad because I should know her, realize how upset she was, and known that meant not to go. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35g6g4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: Are you guys fucking kidding me? [Serious]", "post": "Seriously? Every decent question that makes it to the front page of AskReddit has some \"dank-ass tree fiddy Loch Ness monster\" ending. Every OP shouldn't have to stick a fucking [Serious] tag to get actual replies. All these stupid-ass replies get fucking 4000 upvotes while the people that post actual answers get less than 300. Cmon guys! Grow the fuck up, and if you wanna make some dank memes, get the fuck out. Lets make this subreddit one of quality and actual answer. If you don't have anything serious to say, don't say anything. Just because there's no [Serious] tag doesn't mean that you're free to post a fucking Loch Ness monster stealing your tree fiddy.", "summary": "AskReddit isn't your own fucking stage."}
{"id": "t3_210f8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (30+f) and bf (30+m) together 2yr 3m. Lease is up in june want to end relationship but extremely codependent.", "post": "Im in a db situation (sex 1x amonth and its lame) ive talked to him many time and his efforts are null. He sold me a dream of a future that I feel was all part of his game. I want to end it.\n\nIm gonna jump to the last straw. This week he had a business trip. He rarely grooms his pubes but 2 days before he naired. We hardly have sex and the only time he groomed was the beginning of our relationship.  He only responds to my texts. Isnt asking about my day and didnt call me last night. I get hes busy at the convention but I also feel him nairing was opening for opportunities.  what would you think? I cant go on with having suspicions. I cant go on even having no proof of cheating. The lack of sex between us and his broken promises have depleted my self esteem.  No man may ever want me and while that does scare me I cant keep making myself crazy. I need words of encouragement.", "summary": "bf randomly nairs for a business  trip. We are in a deadbedroom (sex about 1x a month) What would you think?"}
{"id": "t3_48mrof", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [18M] probably won't be able to go to prom with my girlfriend [18F] and I'm worried", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two months now. She's a senior in high school and I'm a freshman in college. We had known each other in high school but started over the Christmas break. Our relationship is wonderful: We are perfect for each other. This problem arose just yesterday. We had talked about going to her senior prom a week before. My own senior prom last year was shit but that's another story. So I was really looking forward to going to hers (the school's cut-off age for the prom is 21 and I'll be 19 this April so I'd be good to go). She tells me the prom will be on Saturday, May 7th, and to let her know as soon as possible if I can go. I told her all my final exams would be done before then and that I'd most likely be able to go, but I'd let her know otherwise. Well late last night my economics professor posted the date of his final. And, it's on May 7th. Could the timing have not been better?\n\nSo, to summarize, I really want to go to prom with my girlfriend but I'll have a final that same day (my other finals are essays and those will be finished in late April). I was thinking I could ask if I could take the final earlier, because I'll have nothing better to do that whole week. But he'd ask for a reason why, and I don't think \"prom\" will cut it for him. I could just let my girlfriend go with.....someone else, but of course I'd really not prefer that. What's the best course of action to take here?", "summary": "Prom is same day as final exam, feel bad about asking to move exam, feel bad about telling girlfriend I can't go, feeling stuck"}
{"id": "t3_2fz4vk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am not sexually attracted to my bf [20M] of 3 years unless I think of another man. Not good.", "post": "Yep. I'm not a good person. At first, I honestly figured it was something normal, to just think about other people while having sex. Hell, I figured my BF does it all the time and it's just something that's not talked about. After some research, I realized it's really scummy and not normal at all...\n\nBack towards the beginning of our relationship, my bf and I were sex addicts, and it was great. Then of course, it started to dwindle maybe a year ago...and he'd always ask for it, and I was just never in the mood. Then I started to think about one of my male friends that I've always been very attracted to and had feelings for before my bf and I started dating. Yeah, just one specific guy. Since then, whenever my bf and I have sex, I've been much more open to it. Whenever my bf and I even make out...have sex...anything...this guy is always on my mind. I realized it's been happening for around 7 months now. I started to wonder if it was normal. And here I am now.\n\nBasically, now I know it's not cool...Go ahead and chastise me for it. But does something like this signal a deeper problem in our relationship? Are we doomed or is it something that would just fade? Should I talk to him about it (even though I'm pretty sure it would devastate him emotionally...)?", "summary": "I think about another (specific) guy when my bf and I do anything sexual, and I feel really shitty about it. If I don't I don't feel sexually attracted to him or want to have sex. It's been going on for many months now. I know it's not good...but I just don't know what this means for us, or what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_275ks5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am having trouble adjusting to a more casual relationship.", "post": "I've had 2 (relatively) serious girlfriends in the past. One for 6 months and the other for 9. I've learned enough to know that I'm more suited for relationships then casual hookups, but what's happening now seems to be in between.\n\nBasically I'm seeking advice on how to handle a more casual relationship where there's definitely mutual interest in each other, but other constraints prevent a long term relationship (Such as moving away for college soon).\n\nIf it helps we've already made out a couple of times, but when we tried to discuss where we wanted/expected this to go I only got more confused.", "summary": "Friends with benefits? I'm not used to this."}
{"id": "t3_2p3oeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Had a falling out between my friend [21M] and I [21M] after a weekend away.", "post": "As part of a joint birthday celebration between me and by best friend, we organised a weekend to Amsterdam with a few buddies. The plan was to leave Friday, depart Amsterdam Sunday and arrive back on Monday morning ready for lectures. However, I admittely cocked-up on booking the coach tickets and booked them for Monday night instead of Sunday.\n\nWe weren't aware of this until the Sunday night, when we were told of the mistake, but there was one seat left for anyone who had to go back early. Naturally we chose to stay as a group.\n\nFast forward to Monday night and we get the coach, my friend is worried about a lab session for the next day but we deduced that he'd be back in time for it. We all go our seperate ways and he gets back on time for his lab, all sorted.\n\nExcept it wasnt. I received a text that day saying that because of the cock-up he had missed an important exam worth 10% of the module, calling me a bastard. I was a bit shocked at first; this was the friend I grew up with, the one friend you'll follow to the end of the Earth, and he's shunning me because of something he forgot.\n\nI understand his predicament, I missed lectures too so I know what it's like and I took responsibility for the coach cock-up, yet I'm not entirely to blame as I'm not the one who forgot about the exam, and he had a perfect opportunity to make it back by taking the spare seat on the Sunday coach.\n\nI'm a bit confused as to what to do. I've texted him explaining the situation but because he's normally crappy at answering texts I'm not sure wherever it's normal lack of attention or deliberate ignorance. \n\nAm I in the wrong for not taking the whole blame here, or are my explanations justified in that he's partly to blame for missing the exam?\n\nWhat would be the best course of action to take? We both work together when not at uni so I'll without a doubt come into contact with him very soon.", "summary": "Friend blames me for missing important events at uni, despite forgetting it himself."}
{"id": "t3_39sfqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F15) befriended the man (M39) who is my bio dad but he doesn't know he's my dad, how can I tell him?", "post": "Ok I will try to make the long story short.  My friends and I volunteered to work a fundraiser for his restaurant two weeks ago that his wife organized.  We did a very good job and he offered to hire us if we ever need a part time job and if we ever move to live near his restaurant.\n\nI posted this once before\n\nI became friends with his wife first because she was organizing the whole event.  But now we are welcome at the restaurant all the time and they just don't charge us even if we offer to pay.  They have 3 kids and one of them is only her bio son from another man, the two little ones are his kids.  I text with her often now.  Me and my friend are going to get free piano lessons from him starting on next saturday.  I feel like we are becoming part of their family.  They really like us.\n\nHe is the most amazing man you can ever meet.  He likes everything I like and he is nice to everybody.  He really loves raising money for kids and they even have cops come to their restaurant all the time to become waiters for a day and the money goes to buying school supplies for poor kids.  Everybody seems to love him and his wife.  She even invited me and my friends to a day at the beach. \n\nThings are just moving fast.  They really like us because we volunteered for three days to work for free to raise money.  But now I'm feeling very anxious about telling him that he's my dad.  I really don't want him to hate me.  This would really crush me and I'm really scared of this happening.  I know that a dna test would have to be done but we look too much alike.  His wife even says we have the same eyes and not even his two sons have his eyes.", "summary": "I am friends with my real dad but he doesn't know he is.  I'm scared and confused how to tell him"}
{"id": "t3_ty4n9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thinking of going back to school.. How to I decide what major to pick?", "post": "Hey Reddit. Ive never been one to put my full energy into school and as a result I never did particularly well. Partly because I have a hard time figuring out what to spend four years of my life studying. (Seriously, how do I become farmer/web design/musician?) I have tons of hobbies, some of which I love to do. But I cant turn my little garden into something to support me or a family. Music has always been fun and I spend time studying music engineering in Nashville but that turned out to be a waste of time. Ive always loved computers, but I'm better at taking them apart than I am putting together a decent web design or even begin to grasp programming concepts (math was never a strong suit).\n\nDoes anyone out their have any suggestions? Go for a BS in CS and bite the bullet when it comes to math? Get the standard business degree and cross my fingers? I'm at a cross roads and I'm tired of working dead end jobs. Thanks for any help. Open to all suggestions/criticisms.", "summary": "I suck at school but I hate dead end jobs. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ovt4k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As an American, I've been considering just up and moving out of the US, preferrably UK or Australia.  Where would I be most likely be met with a warm reception as a foreigner?", "post": "I'm genuinely afraid of all the presidential candidates on the board right now, and I feel like the active persecution of atheists will become a thing.  I want to hear from the European and Aussie redditors about how well Americans are tolerated in their towns/areas.  I have no wife or kids, and my family hardly ever sees me anyways (I was in the military for the past 5 years) so me being in another country won't be anything new to them.  I've lived my entire life on decisions made on a whim without thinking too far ahead, and so far it's worked out great for me.  I'm only saying this because I don't want everyone asking what my plans are when I get there, because I have none.  Just trust me when I say this, shit ALWAYS works out for me.", "summary": "How tolerant/welcoming is your community in regards to an American just appearing one day?"}
{"id": "t3_2xj349", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my [18 F] of 14 months, she just told me she's been faking literally every orgasm. ever.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, this is a throwaway account.  \nEverything between this girl and I have been pretty solid. We get along pretty well, and rarely have major disagreements. We agree on most political/religious issues.  \nLast night, after we had dinner, she told me that she couldn't handle lying to my anymore. I had expected something a lot less serious, but that's when she hit me with the fact. \"Every orgasm you think you've given me has been fake.\"  \n\nShe then went on to describe how, as a little kid, whenever she tried to hold in her pee, she'd squeeze her legs with her hand between her legs or something to get off. Ever since then, she told me that that's the only way she's ever been able to climax. In fact, she says that it only takes her several minutes to reach orgasm with this method, and that she can do it even without taking her underwear off.  \n\nI felt really betrayed when I heard this, particularly about two things. Firstly, before this confession, she had told me that she had never masturbated before. Secondly, EVERY SINGLE INSTANCE WAS FAKE! I mean she even faked the vaginal contractions and the fluids coming out.  \n\nWhen I asked her why she did it, she claimed that she didn't want to make me feel bad, and that \"it wasn't like you were going to give me an orgasm anyways, so I faked it.\"  \n\nRather than saying something stupid and regretting it, I told her that I don't blame her or her situation, and that I needed some time to cool off. So, what the hell do I do now?", "summary": "GF of 14 months has faked every orgasm ever, because she can only climax by putting pressure on her clit. Prior to this event, I never even knew she did it."}
{"id": "t3_32n2c9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Pretty sure I just ruined my entire life. Advice welcome!", "post": "A little background before we begin...I'm from a suburban middle class family. I've always been a good student (took six APs in high school) and in general I'm a decent human being. I'm currently a student at a top liberal arts college in the US. The same college many of my family members have attended.\nThis semester I've really slacked off, skipped a bunch of classes and was just all around lazy. I figured one semester with lower grades wasn't the end of the world. Boy was I wrong.\nApparently my school has a policy that if your GPA is below a certain level, you are kicked out. My professors are essentially saying I have no opportunities to pass their classes. My mother knows I'm in deep but my father, who's paying for my education, is clueless. When he finds out it will be WW3. \nAny advice on how to proceed? How should I tell my father that I just threw my life away?", "summary": "Failing out of college, father might murder me"}
{"id": "t3_13c499", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stupid teenage relationships :'(", "post": "Hio,\n  \n\n(had to edit because reddit didnt like that I assumed people were smart) \n\nTo start things off, I met this girl when I was 16, I loved her and she loved me etc, young relationships.... things went great... got into a few arguments as to be expected from a first relationship (yeye i started old). We had a great relationship and she was very forming to me as a boy learning about who he was at the time.\n\nWe broke up when I was 18 (bot told me to tell you guys 2 years, sorry for assuming you guys can do maths), just before beginning college, reason being on my part due to her going away to another part of the country where we would be far apart, I knew we didn't handle long relationships all that well and I decided that it was best to cut things off so that she could excel at college (in part due to the points she got to registering for the college she wanted weren't good enough in part due to our relationship I assume).\n\nThe question I pose .... I'm 24 now, have had a few relationships in the meantime but I've always had feelings for her, I'm not sure if its the irrational teenager still talking within me saying that I like her or its the (supposed) adult that I am now having feelings for her.\n\nShese a rad person, I couldnt fault her for a second, but could it be jaded by my teenage self?\n\nI guess what I'm asking is, are the feelings I'm having now are remnants from what I've had for her when I was a teenager or are they genuine?\n\nI don't regret breaking up with her, I think its one of the best decisions I've ever made because she seems to be happy now and it's just been getting me down lately because I've been afraid to go into new relationships until I've confronted/rationalized my feelings for what I have for this person.", "summary": "Got into a 2 year relationshop as a 16 year old, am 24 now and have  been emo for past year + about it."}
{"id": "t3_ixpws", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out I know and was friends with two people who committed murder. Anyone else out their with some stories?", "post": "I am not going to link with because I of anonymity reasons, but here is my story. First killer was a friend of mine between the ages of maybe, 14 and 17. He went away for a while to go to a different school, came back maybe a year later. Soon after that I came home one night and the street he lived on was blocked off with police tape and all that. That night I had a dream where his dad was chasing me up a hill covered with snow. For what ever reason I some how knew it was something involving my \"friend\". He ended up inviting a girl over to his basement a few night before, got into a fight, punched her, freaked out and killed her, because he thought he was going to get into trouble for hitting her. He then chopped her body in half put it in a trunk and tired to dump her body in a river, when the cops caught him. The second friend I used to do a bunch of drugs with ended up shooting his dad, details are still vague on the case though.", "summary": "I know a dude who chopped a girl in half and another guy who shot his dad."}
{"id": "t3_3raek5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the handicap restroom stall. (NSFW)", "post": "When I use the restroom at my school, I make sure it is the best experience I can possibly get out of it. You see, my philosophy is, if you're gonna use the restroom in public, make it so it feels like you're at home. So I'm at my school library, as we speak, and just a little while ago I had to use it pretty bad. I walked into the restroom and stood there at my vast amount of available stalls. During that time, no one was in there but me, so I thought to myself, \"If I choose the one closes to the door, people can see me through the stalls slit as they walk in and smell the aroma I would give off, and also hear the bass I would be dropping. If I went to middle stalls, they're more then likely dirty.\" So I thought, the handicap stall!! Today, I'm going use the restroom like a king. With no respect for my fellow handicap colleague, I swung that stall door open, slid my jeans and underwear off. (I'm a brief type of guy!) I went full commando. The nice breeze from the ventilation was heavenly. As I comfortable sat down. I began to what only one can call, the moment of relief. At that moment, I heard the restroom door open. What seems to be only none other then a sound of a wheel chair rolling through. I froze. Embarrassment swallowed me whole. The sound grew louder and it came closer. A struggle ensued, as the gentlemen wrestled trying to get the stall open, his eyes lined up with the stall slit. I knew, he knew, that I knew, I was not handicap. I felt ashamed. I also felt violated. I couldn't yell, I couldn't even speak up to tell him to stop staring or, \"can I help you sir?\" We locked eyes, and perhaps he even saw me for what I am worth. He left moments later. I sat there hopeless, scared, humiliated. I no longer needed to use the restroom. I wiped, rose up, gather myself, and returned to my little cubicle to continue studying,... I can help but to feel my innocence is lost.", "summary": "I used the handicap stall. Took my jeans and underwear off. Dude in a wheelchair caught me in handicap stall. The end."}
{"id": "t3_4gbenz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [24F] of 3 months, Keeping a package her ex gave her.", "post": "Over the course of the last few months I have been seeing this girl that got out of a long relationship of 8 years. The guy cheated on her emotionally chatting with another woman. He has been trying to reconcile with her over the past little while I have been with her.\n\nHe gave her a package and told her not to open it unless she wants to get back together. He said if you dont want to get back return it. I know it isnt my place to tell her what to do but I know she still has it. Maybe she forgot about it... but I kinda think she would have a hard time forgetting about something like that. He has also left her roses which she dried and kept. \n\nOur relationship is great otherwise and she has told him to move on and find his own happiness. they still chat here and there though. Should I be concerned? I really dont wanna push this issue cause it may come of as a jealous nelly.", "summary": "New GF still has a package from ex that concerns me. What would you do in my situation?"}
{"id": "t3_19r23y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Seeking advice on taking action against a desision made by Kaiser", "post": "I will try to keep this concise and provide any information that may be needed.\n\nA dear friend of my wife went into cardiac arrest triggered by a blood clot about a month ago. The facilities that took her in decided to put her into a medically induced coma (sorry for having potentially incorrect terminology).\n\nThe doctors said there was basically no chance of her making it out of the coma, and if she managed to pull out would basically be a vegetable. In the weeks following the incident shes made the following milestones:\n\n* Waking up\n\n* Tracking objects in the room with her eyes\n\n* Acknowledging and noticeably recognizing people she knows (and looking at them in their eyes)\n\n* Reaching out and grabbing for loved ones\n\nKaiser has informed her mother (The friend is 26, mother is only person with power in her life) that it is in their opinion that she will not make any further significant improvements and are requesting the mother permission to transfer her to a sub-acute facility.\n\nWe have all petitioned for at the very least a second opinion on her progress, but were swiftly declined by Kaiser on all accounts.\n\nIdeally the mother would like her transferred to a rehab facility, but if there's no way to make that happen, she would like to bring her home to pass at home.\n\nKaiser has giver her one option, transfer to a specific sub-acute facility, or they will issue a \"Notice of refusal\" to her tomorrow.\nWhere can we go from here? Sorry for the length, thank you for your time.", "summary": "Kaiser wants to send a friend who just came out of a coma into a subacute facility, how can we get her sent elsewhere?"}
{"id": "t3_k40qd", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How long should I wait before I give up?", "post": "My boyfriend and i are both 17. we dated for 6 months. Long distance relationship, and 4 hours apart in the same state.\n\nTo be simple,  I told my ex boyfriend i wouldn't talk to him until he figured out what to do.  And he just said okay. I haven't spoken to him since then. (on Thursday) He broke up with my since it is LDR and doesn't see me enough ( i saw him last month), and doesn't get his license till September 7th. (I can't drive because of my sister's accident, so my parents take me. Yes. Lame.)  He doesn't know what to do. He says he loves me, but needed to be single until he got his license and could see me whenever and wherever he wanted.  So i told him i wouldn't talk to him so he think more clearly.  He says he loves me still, and doesn't want me to go after anyone or date anyone because it'll hurt, but also wants me to live my life. He also tells me that he thinks i'm beautiful and amazing. I told him i'd wait and not do anything with anyone in case he wanted to get back together, but i wanted an answer, whether it be yes or no.\n\nBut, i'm worrying he may not give me an answer or just forget about it. I've decided to wait at least until after September 7th. But what if he doesn't answer me? how long should i wait before i decide to give up just in case he doesn't? I still care about him, and would hate to give up and find someone else and find out he is upset and hurt over it but also don't want to be waiting in anxiety forever.", "summary": "I told my ex-boyfriend i wouldn't talk to him until he figured out what he wanted with me, and wanted an answer whether it was yes or no. He said, \"okay.\" but how long should i wait before giving up in case he doesn't answer me?"}
{"id": "t3_2pf0op", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My new employer disclosed my confidential info to my current employer against my wish... AZ", "post": "I currently work as a physical therapist at a small privately owned clinic. When I signed on for the job I agreed to a 8 mile non-compete clause stating that I would not work in that radius. My dream job at a well known hospital chain finally had a opening and I accepted. I quit current job and was instructed by my future manager (a former employee at the small clinic) to not disclose my future location because they have tried to use legal action against PTs who were leaving due to the clause. In the new hire paperwork, I elected to not have my new employer contact my current employer. That background company called me one day ask asked if they could call my current company to only verify current employment. During the phone conversation, I told the woman that she could, if the name of the facility that she is asking for is not disclosed and if the verification of employment without specifics was the only contact they had. Two days later my current employer emailed me stating \"hospital chain (location) contacted me asking confidential information about salary etc, would you like me to disclose or not.\" I contacted HR and I have had higher ups apologize stating they are \"investigating the issue\" I realize I should have told the background people no, but the woman assured me the only thing they say when they call is \"does employee X currently work at your facility.\" and that was the end of the conversation. I want to know what I should do? I know I cant ask legal advice but I do not want to be taken advantage from a large company with a legal staff.", "summary": "told new job's background check people to not disclose my future employer, they did. My current job can possibly initiate legal action due to a location clause for non compete. What advice do you have for my situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1u3jo1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] and my 'partner' [18F] - caught her with my best friend.", "post": "We met and hit it off the first night and this continued for just over a month and a bit, things were going good but i had noticed my best friend was spending lots of time with her like going for walks and getting coffee and lunch and he would always pay (friends would split it, if the guy is interested he would pay usually).\n\nThis went on for a while and after a night out with the group of us last week I noticed the both of them had become quite distant and rather unwilling to talk to me much. In the end, a week later at a party I stumbled across the both of them hooking up. Who should I be angry at? The girl I've known for about 6 weeks or the guy who I have been to school with and friends with for 6 years? I feel like it's more of her fault and that she initiated it but I can't help but think about the fact that he's been my friend for 6 years and did this with the girl he knows i'm seeing and am involved with.", "summary": "Best friend hooked up with girl I've been seeing for just over a month, caught them in the act, not sure who to be angry at."}
{"id": "t3_53c2b6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [26M] and my girlfriend [28F] of seven years have been engaged for a year, she wants me to convert to Judaism when we get married and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for seven years, I've known about her being Jewish since we met and I've respected everything that she and her family do when it comes to their beliefs. I attended her younger brother's bar mitzvah and I've been researching Judaism for a long time since we met. It's something that I've been really interested in considering that I've been raised in a non-religious family.\n\nFor the last year, we've been talking about various stuff about what we want at the wedding and what last name will we take and one of the main things that she wants is for me to convert to Judaism. We have been talking about this for about four years now as we have grown closer and I've learned more about her. I'll say again, I've never been religious myself, but now we've reached such an important moment in our lives that it's been brought up a lot now.\n\nI only know a few things about how the conversion process works and I've told her that I'm a little nervous about it. Getting married is a big thing, but converting to a religion is a much bigger thing that can change your life and be very overwhelming. We have visited a rabbi and I was turned down twice, but my girlfriend wants to try again as she really wants this to happen.\n\nI just don't know what to do or say about this whole thing, any advice?", "summary": "Me [26M] and my girlfriend [28F] of seven years have been engaged for a year, she wants me to convert to Judaism when we get married and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_sf44j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "US real estate/mortgage question... what can I do with my house if I need to move on short notice?", "post": "Ok, so I am not sure if I am posting in the right place but I did some searching and didn't see what I was looking for already posted. \n\nHere's the story:\nMy husband bought our condo at the peak of the market right before the bottom dropped out.  We didn't expect to stay here more than a few years but now we are going on 6-7 years because we don't really have any good options to get out.  We make decent money and wanting a bigger place/ more space isn't really a viable excuse to get help getting out of an upside down mortgage.  \n\nHere is the twist...\nThe company my husband works for has been downsizing and he is definitely at risk for losing his job so he has been looking.  Lo-and-behold, everyone interested in him is out of state.  Like 24+ hours away, so not really open for commuting.  \nIf we need to move out of state (which would probably be in under 8 weeks) for work, what can we do about our current place? \n\nA few extra notes...\n- we really don't want to foreclose (we aren't trying to screw the bank but we won't be able to afford our current mortgage here and rent in another state)\n- our home owners association does not allow renting/ subletting\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "upside down mortgage, need to move for work, don't want to foreclose, kittens and puppies and memes :-)"}
{"id": "t3_10ynqs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to move into an apartment with some of my friends but have no idea how to convince my parents. What would/did you do/say?", "post": "Dear Reddit, \n\nI am a 21-year old male who, along with two other friends, want to move into an apartment together. All three of us are still studying. One of us has already gotten permission from his parents. It would be hard but not impossible financially - I work in a pet store one day a week and me and one of my to-be roommates both study IT and there's always some way to earn money in that sector. If necessary, we also have a backup plan to earn some extra bucks that I'd rather not share here. Due to several reasons, I can't tell my parents about this. \n\nMy main motivation for wanting to move out is the fact that my parents are moving far away from where I live now, making my daily commute to and from school (with public transport) a 2 hour one instead of a fifteen minute one, plus the added downside of leaving everyone and everything I know for a small village in the figurative middle of nowhere. They also keep telling me that I am not prepared for the real world and this, to me, would be a great way to learn how to function completely or almost completely autonomously in society. \n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to convince my parents to let me go through with this. I'm inclined to do it anyway even if they don't want me to, just because I need a place where I can get away from them and it's impossible if I'm stranded kilometres from every place I know. What I would like to know most is how you would or did convince your parents to let you move out, as well as any advice for someone who's planning on moving out.", "summary": "Want to move out from my parents so that I don't have to move with them with two friends, financially feasible (living alone is, paying for my studies isn't) but I don't know how to convince my parents."}
{"id": "t3_2bb3xm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with a crush on a girl in my English class", "post": "Ok so summer semester is almost over and there's this cute girl in my literature class. I didn't really notice her until 3 or 4 weeks ago because we pretty much sit on opposite sides of the room. Anyways, I'm pretty sure I've caught her looking at me a few times, and whenever she holds the door for me she always looks at me and gives me this look. I may be imagining all this, and I suppose I did think that for the first few weeks but I'm starting to think she may have a crush on me too.\n\nThe problem is I don't even know how to approach this. I mean I guess I could just talk to her after class, but I'm terrible at cold approaches. Especially since I haven't talked to her ever before. Am I overthinking this? Or should I just let it go?", "summary": "Two shy people have crushes, but can't communicate."}
{"id": "t3_16g09w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your biggest \"OH FUCK!\" Moment?", "post": "One time when i was younger, i was masturbating under the sheets. It felt even more amazing than it ever did before. I was about to finish and i curiously looked down at it and i saw that blood was slowly dripping out of my urethra. I immediately screamed **\"WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK?!\"** (Luckily no one was home) and I got out of bed to finish up, hoping it was okay. When i finally got it out it was brown due to the mix of ejaculation and blood. I honestly thought i had a male period. But it all turns out that when i was masturbating under the sheets, my \"head\" scraped the interior side too much and it slowly cut the tip. I still have the blood stain on my old sheets.", "summary": "I came blood once."}
{"id": "t3_1kp0e5", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Pettiness on the Freeway", "post": "First time and all that...\n\nRush hour traffic is a constant nightmare on my way home and it consistently backs up heavily in one spot just before my exit. This is due to a very long and heavily used merge on lane that funnels 8-15 cars at a time into a bumper to bumper slow lane.\n\nUsually people follow what I think everyone can understand as the \"zipper\" principle while they merge, but this lane in particular causes people to act like ~~assholes~~ poops. Like I mentioned, the lane is pretty long, meaning people on the freeway often drool over the 100 feet of open space they think will shuttle them into a wormhole where there isn't still bumper to bumper traffic just up ahead. \n\nOn this given day, I had been generous to those merging on and was finally just at the point where the two lanes become one; securing my spot in the right/middle of the lane so that no one in their right mind would think sneaking though was a good idea.\n\nI check my rear view mirror and see a gold lexus SUV pull completely sideways out of traffic on the freeway and onto the on ramp lane for the precious seconds of saved time. Not being in their right mind, they attempt to squeeze past me, but stop just beside my car. I did't like this one bit and hugged the car in front of me to prevent the lexus from cutting me off as traffic moved. Once we got going another 10 feet, they were behind me. This ~~jerkoff~~ fellow driver should pay a price equal to the crime of cutting in front of those who waited patiently. \n\n*Oh no! What's this? My window sure looks dirty! I should be double quick about cleaning it, lest I not be able to see and run into someone.*\n\nI let the thousands of tiny water-bombs fly, being catapulted backwards behind my car by my wiper blades, and awaited confirmation. *3....2.....1.... Looks like a direct hit. Collateral damage minimal.*  \n\nI saw her wiper blades swipe across her windshield in the rear view mirror, grinned, and exited the freeway.", "summary": "Be patient or get a car wash slightly earlier than expected."}
{"id": "t3_v11rn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the stupidest thing someone has ever asked you?", "post": "One new years, my friends and I were sitting around the house, waiting for our parents to get the fire works out. This was around the same time my friends found out I was lactose intolerant. To this day they always give me crap for it. Anyways, my friend takes out a carton of milk, looks at me, and say \"Can I open this near you?\" We all break out laughing for a few seconds, and then there was dead silence. The same guy says \"seriously though, if I open this milk near you, will you start throwing up?\" I look at him for a couple of seconds to see if he was joking. He wasn't. After I explained to him that I am only affected when I drink milk, he says, word for word, \"Sorry, I have never been around one of your kind before!", "summary": "my friend asks if opening milk near me will make me sick because I am lactose intolerant."}
{"id": "t3_4o62zq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [31 M/F] 3.5 years, nearing engagement, can't escape the thought that she has an unrequited love interest in her best friend", "post": "My girlfriend and I are near to being engaged, however I can't shake this feeling that she has some form of love interest in her long time life mentor/best friend, who is also female. When they first met, my girlfriend was in a period of life where she'd been dating another woman for a while, and then broke it off because she felt like she would be more drawn towards being with a \"man\" for the long term. \n\nMy girlfriend seems to admire this friend more than any other person, as far as being a role model and person to learn about life from. She copies this friend's style, mannerisms, and life philosophy. There is no other person who's opinion she values as highly. This friend has a pretty aloof attitude, and is very good at presenting an \"I got this\" attitude towards life, \"I don't need anyone\" type of thing. This friend is unhappily married, w/ 2 kids. My girlfriend is always ready to jump onboard with anything her friend wants to do.\n\nWe live in a new city, and neither one of us has any deep friendships here (despite this one friend). I'm not sure if I'm just making this all up, or if there's something there. I'm not sure how to approach this with my girlfriend, as I feel like bluntly stating this would pretty much be a relationship ender. I don't really know who on earth I can talk to about this, besides anonymous internet strangers....", "summary": "Girlfriend seems overly attached to her closest friend, I'm concerned she might be maintaining an unrealized love interest."}
{"id": "t3_3gsx7m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smiling at a cute girl in the elevator", "post": "I was walking into the elevator in my apartment building on the 7th floor, as I enter I see a cute girl so I smile as I walk in (as I smile when I see any cute girl) I turn to the right to press the lobby button and as I look to the right (my blind spot) I see her big ass buff boyfriend shit gets awkward as he stares me down, still I decide to stand next to her and between him because after all, it is an elevator how much space do you have. He then moves to go hold his girls hand and then looks at me like i'm crazy (LOL) I don't know if he thought I was hitting on his girl or something but that wasn't even the case (but she was cute) we're all just standing there as we descend 7 awkward floors before we get out and part ways. The most awkward part of this all is I see this guy while i'm doing my laundry, he lives one floor above me so I often see him in the elevator when he does so now every time I see him he'll probably remember me as the guy who tried to hit on his girl.", "summary": "I smiled at a cutie while her boyfriend was next to me in an elevator. He lives one floor above me."}
{"id": "t3_43aizp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my mother[69 F] 20+ years, How do you deal with a parent that does not listen to you?", "post": "I'm not talking about family members that hear you, then ignore your advice. I mean it in the literal sense, where they only catch 2 maybe 3 words out of every 30 words you speak.\n\nI'm a 33 year old, accomplished, 100% independent man. For my entire life, my mother has treated me as if i were a 5 year old child. She'll hear one keyword out of a sentence, completely ignore the context and concepts being conveyed in the sentence, then start talking about something that's loosely related to that one word. It's literally driving me insane, and i'm about to cut all ties with her over it.\n\nFamily counseling hasn't worked, pointing it out every time it happens doesn't work, using a voice recorder and showing that she does it hasn't worked, writing instead of talking doesn't work. And the worst part is, even with undeniable proof that it's happening, she wont' even acknowledge it. I'm at wit's end with this, Does anyone have any suggestions?\n\nAlso, for context, she doesn't seem to have this problem with anyone else.", "summary": "Ongoing respect and listening problems with my mother. About to cut all ties if i can't find a way to improve the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1jwq8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out the bf (m/30) hasn't told his parents about me (f/28) after 10 months", "post": "Found out today that the boyfriend (m/30) hasn't told his parents about me (f/28) yet. Conversation pretty much ended there as I was dropping him off to pick up his car. Going to ask him about it later, but what are some reasons you would hide a serious relationship from your family? Feeling a little insecure as to what has made him keep me a secret... \n\nHis parents live within an hour from us and although he doesn't see them often he talks to his mom EVERY DAY. To me, this is a huge red flag, but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting? My family, who all live 3,000 miles away, know about him and have for a few months now.", "summary": "10 months in, boyfriend's family doesn't know about me. Red flag or overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2n3tet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am really lost with my pseudo-FWB [24M] and don't know how to progress from here...", "post": "We met on Tinder a few months ago and have been on approx. 5 dates (3 sleepovers at his place.)\n\nI feel like we've hit the point where we need to have the \"defining the relationship\" talk because everything has gone smoothly. I've met his roommates and close friends multiple times, gone on a double date, watched football games, had brunch and dinner, etc. \n\nLast time I saw him, I asked if he was sleeping with anyone else since we are only using BC pills and he said he wasn't. However, he is still active on Tinder. \n\nI think he sees us as FWB since we only occasionally text. Usually he asks how my week is going or to make plans with me. Other than that we don't text much. \n\nHe seems to enjoy my company and always includes me in activities with his friends as well, but this hasn't given me enough time to completely trust him and communicate all my feelings. At the same time, I'm going crazy and need to get all of this off my chest without shocking him with sudden serious talk.\n\nWhat is the best way to go about this? I know that I want more than FWB with him since i can't separate emotion from sex. I feel really down and worse after we hang out.", "summary": "I'm in a pseudo-FWB situation getting mixed signals from him, and I don't know how to confront him about it or where to start the conversation."}
{"id": "t3_1239qj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit. I just fucked up an interview. What's your worst interview?", "post": "So i just fucked up an interview. Set the scene. I'm trying to leave my job. Already I'm a little stressed because the company is close to mine so I had to kind of lie to get out of the office to get here. \nmistake one\n\nMultiple members of the team. Just bombarding with questions. I blank on one of the first ones and its just all down hill from there. Just not being able to think clearly, telling them absolute shit answers, and just hoping it'll end. But it won't. because its the entire team. \n\nI'm sure there are people out there that have had worse.", "summary": "I screwed up my first question in an interview and then just awkwardly made up terrible answers to everything else."}
{"id": "t3_3fyjx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my two best friends [22 F] of 3 years, I have too much of a mouth ://", "post": "I have two other best friends. One is super passionate about not talking about other people to each other. The other talks so much.\n\nThe Talker told me about a fight the two got into where Shhh girl got mad at Talker for always telling ME things. Talker complained to me and said she's about to give up on the friendship. They were supposed to meet tonight to sort things out.\n\nSo I went to Shh and asked her to be nice to Talker when they talk out their issues because Shhh always attacks people verbally and Talker is about to give up on their friendship.\n\nI told Talker I talked to Shh and now Talker is really mad at me. Soooooooooooo mad. I wish I didn't go. I just wanted their friendship to be preserved.\nI wish I didn't talk to Shhh because Talker and I are also roommates and I gotta keep peace with her. :( I think I ruined it. Talker was very mad!\n\nHow should I proceed? I said sorry and my intentions were good and I will stay out of it next time. :/", "summary": "friends fought over not talking about each other and I talked about them to each other. I feel bad."}
{"id": "t3_dosmy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "At what point do you stop pursuing the woman you love?", "post": "So I met a girl at the end of the summer, a friend of a friend. The first time I saw her, I fell in love and the feeling only gets stronger the more we got to know each other. We got to know each other pretty well over a few beers one night. About a week later I got up the gusto to ask her out on a date, she said yes and gave me her number. Since she's a friend I saw her around a few places and we hung out a bit more around each other and text each other often. Anyway, I asked her out on a date a little while after that and I didn't get a response on my phone. Later that night I checked my Facebook messages and she's sent me this long letter explaining that her life is shit right now, she's had untrustworthy boyfriends in the past, etc., and that she's just looking for \"interesting friends\" right now. So I message her back that I understand her situation blah blah blah if she ever wants to talk about it she knows how to reach me blah blah blah. So anyway it's been a couple of months since then, we hang out quite a bit, we text each other every day, it seems like we would hit it off if we started dating. Today I asked her to go to Octoberfest with myself and a few of our mutual friends. She told me that she couldn't afford it, so I offered to pay for her if she wanted to go and she refused. \n\nFuck, I barely understand what I'm typing [7].\n\nAnyway, my question is, at what point do you stop even trying to pursue a girl who seems to be vaguely interested in you, but always turns you down?", "summary": "I really like this girl. She always turns me down, but acts interested. WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_2ukhaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F], victim of abuse, with my boyfriend [26 M], never had a gf before, of one year don't know how to be in a relationship with each other.", "post": "My last relationship was an abusive marriage. Since divorcing a few years ago I've met some wonderful whom I'm totally in love with. He loves me too but we can't seem to make it work and he has broken up with me 3 times. Right now we decided to try again but go slow and be friends for a while first and stay away from sex. For him, he's never been in a relationship before me and he's struggling with it. He says its a big lifestyle change for him and that he's not sure if he's asexual or not. For me, I'm not sure how to be in a GOOD relationship since all that I know is abuse. I did alot of therapy and I know all about how to avoid abusive relationships, but I know nothing about how to have a good one. I feel like he and I love each other alot and have a chance of going the distance with each other. So how do I do that without ruining it and letting him get away?", "summary": "he's never had a girlfriend before and I'm a victim of abuse, how do we have a good relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_qkonn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't deserve your help Reddit, but I must ask anyway.", "post": "I don't know how to say this, or even where to start. I've never been able to ask for help, and I guess that is why I am where I am today.\n\nI tried for an hour to write out my back(sob) story, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I cannot and will not rely on the sympathy of others to improve my situation. \n\nAll that is relevant is that I lost someone, as countless others have, and will continue to. I was weak and responded poorly. Sabotaging my future by failing out of school, accumulating credit cards and destroying my credit, these were the actions I took to bring a means to an end.\n\nThankfully, the credit card companies stopped me after two credit cards, but by that time I had acquired 6,000 in credit card debt. And was out of school early, and beginning to pay off my 16k in school debts.\n\nFlash forward three years, to the present. I've made it through the mental/emotional strife that started everything, and there are finally things I want for myself, my future. However, I can't accomplish any of these things because of the debt I willingly accumulated for myself. \n\nI just don't know what to do, how to begin paying this off, how to get back to school. I've wasted everything i've ever been given, and it's ripping me to pieces. I am supposedly more intelligent than 99.5% of the population, and yet here I am. Why?\n\nI need to fix things, I need to contribute to this world somehow. I can't allow everything that has happened to have happened in vain.\n\nI don't deserve your help Reddit, but I must ask nonetheless.", "summary": "What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ef4q3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband (26m) told me (23f) he had given up on a friendship. I found he had deleted messages to her from his facebook.", "post": "My husband and I haven't been married long, and basically we've had a lot of issues. Shortly after we were married I found out he was flirting with girls on tinder. He deleted his tinder account and promised it would never happen again, and that it was purely for fantasy., I accepted his apology.\n\nOn about the 17th of july he told me he was no longer talking to a friend who had always made me uncomfortable, because she talked about her sex life with my husband. I was happy with that, I felt he was really acknowledging my feelings.. Tonight however I caved in and snooped: I looked at his laptop history, and found they had sent messages on facebook two days ago, which he deleted, I assume so I couldnt read them,. It's not the fact that he talked to her that is bothering me, but the fact that he deleted the conversation and never told me about it.\n\nI feel very much like I'm being taken for a ride. I hate being so nosy and feeling crazy over little things, has anyone had experience with this sort of thing?\n\nI realize I'm in the wrong for snooping, but I now feel like I can't trust my husband at all. Its probably just a case of him not wanting to upset me, but Im terrified this lie is just the icing on the cake. Do I let it go? Confront him?", "summary": "found out husband had a conversation with someone I thought was out of his life, then never told me about it."}
{"id": "t3_2os1qf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a guy with long hair", "post": "This didn't happen today, but a few months ago. But heres the quick background; I'm a 19 year old male, and have had long hair for about the past 5 years. I often wear it in what is now called the \"man-bun\", and due to that sometimes I forget how long it is, which at the time was easily past my shoulders.\n\nHeres the story - I went out with some friends to a club. I'm not usually a dancer, but I was with a girl who wanted to dance, I had a few drinks in me, so why not? A few of us get on the dance floor and are having fun, then the girl asks me to take my hair down. I don't see an issue with it so I do, and continue to dance.\n\nAnd then I felt hands around my waist, and someone grinding against me from behind. I look over my shoulder to see this guy grinding against my ass in a very sexual way, when he starts to slide his hands down to my groin. I jumped and turned around fully and it took him a few seconds to realize that no, I am not woman with a mans build, but just a dude. He turned and ran away.\n\nI guess its a fuck up on both our parts, but needless to say I don't wear my hair down while dancing anymore.", "summary": "I'm a 19 year old male with long hair, had it down while dancing with a girl, guy grabs me and grinds against my ass and start to feel me up thinking I'm a chick."}
{"id": "t3_31h5s1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by also losing my virginity, but not how you would expect.", "post": "You might expect me to say that when my girlfriend and I were having sex I had some grand embarrassing moment like going in the wrong hole, or one of the other cliches. I did not. I also did not have an allergic reaction or anything of the sort. This is a different kind of loss of virginity fuck up. \n\nVery early this morning my girlfriend and I decided to go to the next level. It was fucking awesome. However, here comes the fuck up. The sex ended, but now I find myself comparing everything I do to sex, and nothing stacks up. It'll be time to walk my dog, and I'll think \"Hey, would I rather walk my dog or have sex? Sex.\" I have a feeling I'm going to be a lot less productive from now on.", "summary": "Had sex, want more sex. All the time."}
{"id": "t3_2wn3n5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Please give me feedback after I vent.", "post": "I have flunked out of school 2x now. First one is because of drinking and second one is because of depression over losing 5 people in my life. One of which was a child that was aborted without my knowledge or being informed. The others were suicides. This lead me to not wanting to pursue my degree I was in my third year of studying (psych) and made me change schools and majors. I'm dating the most wonderful girl ever but she is an introvert while I'm an extrovert while single. I've never fallen so hard for someone nor been in a relationship with someone so long. Plus after I've been raised by my family that I need to provide and be financially secure and pay for dates, she makes more than me and loves spoiling me. I know I should be happy and content with my life but I'm stressing out over our relationship and school. Anyone got any ideas for stress relief or a way to feel like I'm important?", "summary": "school and perfect girl are causing stress."}
{"id": "t3_q8st7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lets hear your \"I sharted\" story", "post": "Shart: a small, unintended defecation that occurs when one relaxes the anal sphincter to fart (blend of \"shit\" and \"fart\".)\nHere is mine.\nWhen I was in 6th grade, my friend had his Bar Mitzvah. This consisted of a service followed by lunch and then a party later that afternoon. The lunch was great and i took a liking to these sesame asian noodles. I ate a ton of them as well as some other foods, nothing out of the ordinary. Later that Afternoon, my stomach was not feeling so hot, but I ignored it because i was to excited for the party. The party consisted of his family renting the gym at our middle school, as well as the ballroom. I got to the party early and was in the gym shooting hoops, when I had the idea of shooting a half court shot. Running start, jump, and sphperepapggpoop. I sharted myself and started freaking out. Luckily my mom had just left, and after i called her she returned and managed to get me into the school where i had and emergency earthquake kit with an extra pair of boxers.", "summary": "Shat myself taking a half court shot at my friends Bar Mitzvah party."}
{"id": "t3_4b3svu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make a friend.", "post": "So, I like I always do on a saturday decide to go out to try to make friends, get a life, a hobby something to make me less of a useless person. I picked up a card game recently and decided I could change my life through it, I started by going to my local game shop. All started out well, we played some games, shared some laughs, there where some pranks and in jokes made. After a few hours, I take a different seat and notice a mostly empty pack of crisps, so I decide someone must have left it here and because all the guys where pretty chill, I take a bite. Ten minutes later it turns out someone owned said bag of crisps, so of course I buy him a new one, sit back down and expect the misunderstanding to stop. But then I fuck up, people start casually mentioning it and it turns into a full on debate. I don't know these people but they are close friends, of course I try to argue but I realise I'm a worthless piece of junk and leave the store. I had one chance at finally turning my life around and I fuck it all up in one second. It's pretty much decided I should never come back.", "summary": "I'm a useless piece of junk that doesn't get what is too far in terms of friendship and social norms, so now I have no friends."}
{"id": "t3_w9y1d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I applied for an internal position and now they are stringing me along what should I do?", "post": "I applied for an internal position, I was the only internal candidate.  They told me that they wanted to \"get a few more cvs\" before they make their decision.  That was 4 weeks ago.  They said they'd make a decision by last week and then by today but today has come and they \"still have two people to interview\" for the position.  I am well suited to this position and have a ton of job-specific knowledge and experience that they will not get from an external candidate.  At first I was happy to wait saying \"I'd rather be chosen from a pool of good candidates rather than just being the only option\" but now I think they're taking the piss.  My wife told me I should just tell them to shove it but I think this might be a tad spiteful.  What constructive advice can you give me reddit?", "summary": "Applied for internal position, now they are stringing me along"}
{"id": "t3_37rh0j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not doing an oil change", "post": "This TIFU actually started in December and is just finishing up now.\n\nIn November my wife was in an accident and our car was written off. A week before Christmas I received the insurance check and headed off to the dealerships. I found a 2006 Subaru Legacy GT and after the usual shopping around we decided to buy it.\n\nFast forward to March and it's time for an oil change, but first my mother in law needed to borrow the car. I had a bad feeling but the oil level was fine and we hadn't even put on 2000 km. Should be fine for a few more days right? This was my fuck up.\n\nI get a call from my MIL - \"I think there's something wrong, the car made a weird growl noise and didn't have enough power to keep up with traffic so I pulled over and shut it off, now it won't start.\" Shit.\n\nGot the car towed to a shop. The verdict? Blown turbo and motor due to oil starvation. There's a tiny oil filter in the oil line to the turbo that was clogged and would have been checked The estimate, with a few other things they found? 200 dollars less than I paid for the car. I should be getting it back this week.", "summary": "Always keep things lubricated or bad things happen"}
{"id": "t3_zmj59", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/18] My girlfriend wants a break (18/f).", "post": "My girlfriend of 4years decided that she wants a break. We're both sophomores in college, 2hours a part. She said that its hard to be in love with me as I only exist in txting, however she does love me. An obvious fix is to add in phone calls/skype but whenever I ask 1 of us is busy she says she wants a break still. It's hard for her because she \"gets a lot of male attention\" and \"feels guilty because she sometimes finds herself wondering what it would be like to be with them.\" and since the break started other guys have made advances on her. she didn't know what she thinks of it. I had a long talk with one of my friends the other night and decided that I love her but don't wanna be strung along.I tried to break it off for good, she didn't like that idea and said that she wanted to work on things but still be on a break.She still says she loves me and calls me pet names while on this break though. Whats your advice?", "summary": "Long time girlfriend wants a break but wants to work on things"}
{"id": "t3_2csnec", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (23f) bf(23m) of 2 years lied to me in the beginning", "post": "I recently discovered my boyfriend lied to me at the beginning of the relationship. He claimed there was never anything between him and this friend of his. I overheard her say something halfway into the relationship, over the phone. Something you don't say to a friend. I don't think he cheated though.\n\nI was snooping on his computer, something he would possibly break up with me over. I found that he had said he met this \"awesome girl\" around the time he met her. This has left me upset and I feel betrayed. It was a post he made on here over two years ago, before I met him. But still. He lied to me.\n\nHe knows that this is an issue because my ex cheated with a girl he liked before he met me.\n\nI don't know how to ask him about it. We are about to move and I refuse to move if he won't admit that he lied\n\n____", "summary": "he lied about a friend he used to like claiming there was never anything between them. I just figured out that it was a lie. How do I bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_3pemku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (24/M) avoid the feeling of wanting to back away and cutting it off with a girl (23/F) before it gets serious?", "post": "So I've noticed that anytime things start to get serious with a girl, I tend to have the habit of cutting it off and backing away before things get serious to avoid getting hurt. \n\nIn this particular case, we've been seeing each other for about almost a month, fairly often. Both of us opened up about how we feel for each other.\n\n I think she's awesome and there's definitely some potential there, but I just start to have all these thoughts about why I should cut it off so I don't end up hurt.\n\nHow can I avoid this feeling? I never know how to distinguish if it's a 'gut feeling' or me being paranoid..", "summary": "Tend to have the feeling of wanting to cut it off with a girl before it gets serious because I'm scared of getting hurt. How can I avoid it?"}
{"id": "t3_2rt3gh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Question about a hiccup in selling my car...", "post": "I am in Montgomery County, Maryland.  I am attempting to sell my car via craigslist and have gotten many serious offers and it has come to two people.  I met with both parties today and the one offered me something better (at first) than the other.  I signed a kind of informal agreement stating that I would hold the car for a deposit of $100.  After contacting the party that offered the lower sum, they offered to beat the depositor's offer by $500!  So, my question is, if I refund the gentleman's deposit and sell to the higher bidder, what kind of legal ground am I standing on?  Will I open myself up to suit if I do so?  The title is a lien and the document was just a rough bill of sale amended to mention the deposit (I think it was printed off cars.com or autosales, or something.", "summary": "I signed an informal paper saying I'd hold my car for sale for a cash deposit, another buyer appears and offers substantially more.  I want to turn around and sell it to the highest bidder, but unsure of legal consquences."}
{"id": "t3_2aayac", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bringing salt to the airport", "post": "I'm a bit of a salt snob, but I really like this certain brand of fleur de sel, and the only place I've ever seen it is in a city half way across the country. I was there for a visit and decided to stock up by grabbing a few jars. They're in glass containers, so I didn't trust them in my checked baggage. For extra safety, I carefully wrapped them in newspaper to prevent them from breaking. As I went through security, I could see my bag going through the xray machine, and I immediately noticed three distinct black areas in my bag. Didn't think much of it. Until a security guard grabbed my arm and escorted me away from the lineup and through a door. I knew exactly what the problem was at this point and was trying to explain that I had wrapped my salt up in newspaper. He wouldn't listen to me. He told me I was being detained for having suspicious items in my bag. I tried again to explain that it was salt, and that I was already running late for my flight. He didn't respond, just walked out the room. I'm freaking out at this point because I know my flight will be boarding soon. By the time they ran the chemical analysis on my salt and deemed me to not be a threat, I'd missed my flight.", "summary": "I missed my flight because airport security thought my salt was some sinister crystalline substance. FML"}
{"id": "t3_1mvm42", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (37 F) boyfriend (33 M) (1.5 years) has been looking at Craigslist personals. Confront or not?", "post": "Throwaway because he knows I'm an avid Redditor.\n\nHe's 33 and I am 37, and have been in a relationship for 1 year 4 months, and living together for 3 months. So far everything is beyond great. He is the best guy I have ever dated: loving, trustworthy, kind, reliable, etc. We never fight and have great chemistry. I love him immensely.\n\nSo he goes out of town this weekend and I am bored and get on his computer out of pure curiosity (I know, bad.) I looked at his internet history and he hasn't erased it in over a year. (Huh?) Anyway some things I found give me pause. First is multiple searches on Craigslist for \"w4m\" and \"casual encounters,\" including searches during the time we have been living together. Secondly, I found an instance of him looking extensively at \"naughtyreviews.com/escorts\" (before we were living together, but long after we were in a committed relationship).\n\nI am scared and shocked that he is looking at Craigslist personals. Why? Is he meeting people? Or just looking/bored/horny? (I should add that we have a great sex life, why would he be looking for more?.)\n\nIt would be pretty hard for him to actually meet people because he mostly just goes to work and comes home on time, and we spend the rest of the time together.\n\nSo how should I approach this, given that I found this out through snooping? Albeit on a computer that has no password and has not had the history deleted in over a year.\n\nI am feeling that I should 'fess up and ask him directly about it. What are you doing and why? Otherwise it will burn inside me and I won't want to touch him or look at him. \n\nWhat say you?", "summary": "Snooped on live-in BF's computer and saw he was looking at Craigslist personals. How to deal?"}
{"id": "t3_4v5jgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] gf [19 F] broke up with me for someone else in my friend group.", "post": "So we broke up a few weeks ago and now she is dating someone else in my friend group. I don't know what to do. My friend group is very close and my brain is telling me to cut them both out of my life for all the pain they have caused me and because I can't take these constant reminders and seeing them together. \n\nHowever, cutting them out isn't such a simple task. Like I said my friend group is very close and I'm afraid it will tear a hole in our friend group if I delete them from my life. If everyone is hanging out and they're there, I don't think I could muster up the strength to go. I'm lost and afraid. Life is never fair is it?\n\nTime will hopefully heal this, but right now I'm devastated and a mess.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Gf broke up with me and is dating someone else in my friend group. Do I cut them out of my life?"}
{"id": "t3_3emivi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Down 75lb. Progress pic time and a couple of pars on the (not so) secret of my success!", "post": "8 images of before and after!! 75lbs down, 25lb to go.  \n\nI went vegan last February for ethical reasons. I didn't realise I was losing weight as I was only losing just under a 2lb per week. Suddenly.. none of my clothes fit me, I was walking up stairs without dread, and running for the train without getting out of breath! \n\nWent from a size 22 Australian to a size 12-14 now. \n\nAs the weight came off I could move more, and as my self esteem improved, I drank less, had more incentive to keep up with my walking and was motivated to keep on with my new plant-based diet.\n\nEt voila!", "summary": "went vegan, drank less, moved more. In my opinion.. Cutting out animal fats did it, essentially."}
{"id": "t3_1ais40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) was cheated on almost two years ago by my husband (23M) & I can't get over it.How do I deal?", "post": "So the story goes my husband(23m) cheated on me (22f) almost two years ago. August 2011. It was with a coworker(22f). He slept with her once and went out with her one time before that. I didn't know of either until he confessed to me to having sex with her,& she was the one who told me about their little date before that. I felt every feeling that comes along with being cheated on.Sad, betrayed, angry, disbelief. I chose to stay but the more time has gone by I have found myself unable to forgive. I cannot trust him when he is not within sight. I hate it. I wish I didn't know sometimes. Sometimes I act bitter towards him out of nowhere because it pops into my head. Whenever I see a girl that resembles her I get upset. I just find it very hard to believe it sometimes still. I don't know what to do. I'm not here to hear to leave him, just want some advice on how to deal I guess.", "summary": "Was cheated on, chose to stay but its still on my mind.How do I deal?"}
{"id": "t3_yjbk5", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I'm giving away some of my favorite books!", "post": "A lot of books have impacted me in really positive ways throughout my life and I thought it would be a fun idea to pass those books along to others who can hopefully receive the same benefits I did from them. This gave me the idea to give away some of my favorite books to whoever wanted them.\n\nThe 5 Books I am giving away are.\n\n- Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill\n- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey\n- Wild at Heart by John Eldredge\n- Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki\n- How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie\n\nI created a youtube video about it and am giving the books away to friends, family and strangers who comment on it, but I thought /r/books would appreciate it so I'm posting it here as well. If you want one of the books just submit a comment to the video and if I pick you I will send you a message on Youtube.", "summary": "Comment on the youtube video and I might send you a free book!"}
{"id": "t3_31uidv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my g/f [25F] together year and a half, her male 25M roommate something has go to give or I'm going to lose it(2nd update)", "post": "This will be short, sweet and to the point.\n\nShe came over and immediately started asking hypotheticals about what if she did this or would it be okay if they did that.  Then started talking about how she felt it was unfair that she had to compromise and I stopped her right there.\n\nI said she was not being forced to do anything, the choice was her's.  These are the conditions that I require to get back into our relationship if she wants to make it work.\n\nShe just goes on about how they are just friends and that she would never cheat and thinks this is highly unfair.\n\nI just told her at this point that it was obvious to me that even if she did agree to these conditions she would be doing it under protest and it would be miserable for both of us and it would just lead to another breakup down the road.\n\nShe said I was being unfair and I just told her that even if I was, it's just who I am and me trying to force myself to conform to her viewpoint would not work anymore than her trying to force herself into my view point.\n\nShe finally said that she wanted to try this and by this time I just told her no.  The fact that she had to think about it gave me pause when she said it, the fact that she tried to negotiate it down now pretty much put an end to it but ultimately the fact that she couldn't even see one thing wrong with what they were doing put the nail in the coffin for me.\n\nI get that I'm old fashioned, hell maybe I'm even a prude, but to not even try and see things from my point of view to me said she either lacked empathy or literally didn't care about my feelings at all.\n\nSo for those of you who said I was controlling let's all just agree she will be far better off without me.\n\nI know ultimately I made the right choice for me but I'm not going to lie it hurts a lot right now.", "summary": "She still wanted date nights with the other guy, I just put an end to it"}
{"id": "t3_bb9zh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hearing Problem (with music, keys)", "post": "Let's keep this short. I play several instruments, and am very familiar with keys, tones, etc. 6th sense, you know?\n\nEitherway, in the past week, I woke up one day and all the songs that I know are about a half key lower. All of them.\n\nI've tried listening to them through different sources (computer, laptop, stereo, live), through different websites, and through different interfaces (headphones, speakers, stock speakers, cars). It's all the same, and doesn't seem to be going away. It's very depressing.\n\nIf I tune an instrument, according to the tuner, I have tuned it too high by just a bit. Everything is sharp.\n\nNo trauma. I'm a pretty healthy person otherwise (that's an understatement). It wasn't after any sort of loud event. \n\nI just turned 26.", "summary": "What I KNOW to have been a G in a song for years on a CD or MP3 is now a little above an F#. My hearing is still close enough to know what something should be."}
{"id": "t3_44f9fb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my ___ [25 F] 1 year, What would you do if you find yourself still loving your ex after 4 years?", "post": "it has been 4 years since we broke up, however we never broken up directly but just through an email letter. which never made me feel that we broken up. And somehow inside i am still waiting for my partner, as she was gone to come back, i feel totally fine but i feel that i still keep missing her and time seems not too far. It seems she just went home few days ago. i have tired to make other relationships but when i am with them, i feel that i just want my ex to be here and not the other strange person that i am with now. so i couldn't make other relationships or had any passion anymore after my Ex. even though i feel my sexuality is sooooooo alive!! What would be your suggestions?", "summary": "any suggestions that you would give?!"}
{"id": "t3_290h4w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "\"You're the woman I can see myself marrying but I'm not ready for that yet.\"", "post": "My 27/m boyfriend of about 9months (plus about 2 years of sex on and off when we were in the same country) broke up with me (24/f).  \n\nHe said he's not ready for long term commitment and he's not ready for marriage. He enjoys/wants to be single and do all of the crazy things (like orgies at burning man and such) and then we can be together.\n\nHe broke up with me three months ago and I'm still totally devastated. We see each other most days because we work together, and we still act like we're in a relationship in a lot of ways like dinner and support and a lot of other things.\n\nI don't know what to do. He tells me he loves me and he wants to be with me but not right now and he wants me to go off and date/have sex with other people and he wants to do the same and then \"we can be together\"\n\nI'm so destroyed by this. I've told him in no uncertain terms that I don't want to do that. I've also told him that if I \"move on\" we're 100% done, and he'll get mad and tell me I'm being unreasonable, and cutting him out of my life is wrong, etc etc.\n\nGood god, what do I do?", "summary": "boyfriend isn't ready for long-term commitment and sees that with me, broke up with me so we could date/screw other people and then \"be together\" in a year or so and I'm devastated and don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_27vwuj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/m] and my wife[26/f] agreed on a open marriage(2 1/2 years) but she got pregnant by someone else.", "post": "I'm not sure whether I should stay or go. The other guy is married too but his wife had no idea this was going on. He went as far as asking my wife to leave me, but she declined and reminded him it was for fun only. I question whether or not he did something to one of the condoms, but regardless she is pregnant and has decided to keep it. \n\nThe reason we believe it's his is because we have tried in the past to have kids but were not successful and unsure why. We believe it was either due to my wife's weight, her marijuana use and/or me shooting blanks, but she has lost a lot of weight over the past year and a half and stopped smoking 2 months ago.\n\nShe wants both of us to be part of the baby's life, but I'm simply unsure whether I should stick around and take care of them both or leave and start a new chapter in my life. I want her to be taken care of but I don't want be taken advantage and miss out on being with someone else who would might make me even happier. \n\nWe talked about it, but I'm still thinking about what I want to do. If I stay with her, we'll raise the baby as if it were ours and the father would still be involved. The other option is we get divorced and I move on with my life, but may remain only friends.\n\nToday she is going to have her first ultrasound to check the health of the baby. I'm sure the baby is healthy.", "summary": "wife is pregnant by another guy, unsure whether to stick around"}
{"id": "t3_szrlx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Good or bad idea?", "post": "So I broke up with my ex about eight months ago when going to different colleges. We dated for about four months, but I still haven't been able to get over her. I think one of the reasons for this is because I never really got a proper breakup. It was more like a sad goodbye than anything else. Because of this, I feel like I still have a chance with her, even if it's not there. In my mind, she's still the girl of my dreams instead of the girl who broke my heart. So, what if I called her (we still keep in touch) and asked her to do me this one favor? Ask her what was wrong with the relationship and why she didn't want to stay together in college. Find a reason to realize that we weren't right for each other. And on the bright side, if she can't think of anything propose to get back together. So, reddit, is this a good or bad idea?", "summary": "Broke up with ex, want to call her to ask for a proper breakup"}
{"id": "t3_346sx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am super awkward when it comes to flirting, and often don't know when to back off. A little help would be greatly appreciated.", "post": "This is going to sound silly to most of you (it sounds silly to me too!) but I need a little help flirting. I've just come to a point where I've realized I don't always have to have the last word in a conversation, and that I can sound a little passive aggressive at times. I'm trying to work on that, but occasionally I slip up. \n\nI am also very guilty of either saying too much and sounding desperate/too forward or one of those \"I'll flirt by completely ignoring him. That will get his attention!\"\n\nNow onto the silly part: I have an itty bitty crush on someone in the office, who has only been in the office two or three weeks out of the past two months. I was thinking of sending him an email or a Snapchat message saying something along the lines of \"Hey! You've been gone so much I'm convinced you don't actually work here anymore :)\" \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I need help flirting."}
{"id": "t3_3tz7ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [20F] of one year's parents don't approve.", "post": "My girlfriend and I been together for almost a year. We're from the same hometown, but we go to separate universities. I see her maybe a weekend a month, a little bit more if either us have any sort of break.\n\nHer parents are very traditional and put immense pressure on her to excel academically and professionally, believing that happiness starts with success. I respect that, and my long term goals align with hers.\n\nHowever, they seem to have, for some reason, decided that I'm not good enough for her, that I'll distract her from achieving her potential. Thing is, they know nothing about me because they haven't met me. In fact, the last time we were home, they flat out refused to meet me, telling her she should only bring home the guy she's going to marry.\n\nWhen she and her parents call, they relentlessly (and passive-aggressively) tell her that she should \"really think about this relationship,\" citing mainly my family situation (\"how can a boy with divorced parents ever be a family man?\"), our distance, my age, and my height (what?) as reasons why it won't work out long term, and make very rude remarks about me.\n\nI don't let that bother me. I know my girlfriend and I are great together, we care deeply for each other and she is easily one of my best friends, despite the distance.\n\nWhat troubles me is that she doesn't seem to be able to stand up for herself when it comes to her parents, and it's definitely not my place to interfere. So ultimately if it comes down to it, I'm unsure if she'll be able to choose me over the pressure being put on her. She's very important to me and I don't want to lose her, but I can't help but have the feeling that we might be wasting our time.", "summary": "Girlfriend's parents keep pressuring her to \"rethink\" our relationship, not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_1it96m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Q: How do I [25/m] set up a SEVENTH date with her [24/f]?", "post": "Background: Had six dates with a girl who is very busy during the week for work. Going extremely well. Here is last week's time line:\n\n**Wednesday**: She invites me over the day before she leaves for a four day business conference. Spent a great, sensual hour together. Tell her to text me when she arrives the next day.\n\n**Thursday**: We exchanged a few texts that made her laugh, and then she let me know she arrived!\n\n**Friday**: No exchange, probably first full day of conference.\n\n**Saturday**: Midafternoon, I sent her \"Hey, hope you're getting all educated. Maybe you can teach me a thing or two ;)\" but didn't hear back.\n\n**Yesterday**: Pretty sure she had to do a 10 hour drive back with her coworkers, probably got home, unpacked, and crashed to get up 6 AM today.\n\nWe're very attracted to each other, and I'm not sure my next play. Do I let her reach out to me? Should I call or text for a date? Do I just go straight into asking about the date, or seguie with like, \"Hey, did you get back alright?\" (I'm not even certain IF the last day was yesterday).\n\nThanks for any help!", "summary": "Girl I saw day before she went to a multiday business conference, I think, came back yesterday after a ten hour drive back and a full weekend. I want to see her but can't figure how to set it up. Details and mild freakout above."}
{"id": "t3_cbcbq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on Terrible Family Situation Needed", "post": "I'm an early 20's guy with no income to speak of, some credit card debt, and no possibility of returning to the university that I attended because of financial issues.  I have two younger siblings who deserve much more than their current family situation.\n\nBackground: It was 2 years ago when my parents separated.  It was 3 years ago when my mother started looking around for other guys.  Based on her extremely erratic behavior, I have concluded that she has some sort of borderline personality disorder or chemical imbalance (she had been on anxiety pills for a long time).  She sleeps around, locks us out of the house when she's doing it, squanders her custody time with my 2 other siblings, and has no intention of listening to me or her children when we say we want her back.  To top it all off she drinks pretty heavily.\n\nRecently she went on a week trip without notifying anyone, and left me, a non-participant in any and all custody agreements, with responsibilities of my own, to care for my siblings. She also receives overage benefits from my dad which she immediately squanders on shoes, alcohol, and clothing.\n\nWe've had conflicts and she's kicking me out at the end of the month.  So there's that as well.\n\nHow can I remove them from her custody?  She has already demonstrated a complete disinterest on her \"days,\" but how do I show that to the judge when apart from things only family would see there's not much legal standing.  I want to make it better for my brother (13) and sister (16) but I have absolutely no means.", "summary": "Parents divorced.  Crazy Mother.   Getting kicked out of my home.  How can I get custody of my siblings, or rather take custody of them away from my mother?"}
{"id": "t3_3ipv4y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by beign Hangover during breakfast meeting with boss", "post": "TIFU: This happened about a week ago at night me and my buddy went out in town with a few friends, so we all went to some place where they serve food and alcohol plus happy hour when the band starts 2 for 1 drink. So I and the gang order food/booze. Me being the only guy in the house that only drinks once a week out of a house filled with other guy that drinks every other day. I drink a lot so that night I start double pounding the drinks I order and just continue all night going around the bar  area and the dance floor drinkning. I was drunk bullshiting with anyone I met. So later on in the night I get wasted lean on the counter and lay my head down aka time for some sleep. So my buddy who I came with and live with picked me up fireman carried me out to the taxi and began to drop me multiple times though out the course of getting me to the exit from his shoulders to the table then the ground ( that's how I might have gotten a big bruises on the side if my stomach or someone punched me IDK) my buddy got me to the car and we left. Next morning we had breakfast with the boss and all the guys I live with had to remind me to get up and get dressed for breakfast. It was a horrible morning for me , even my boss said \"he looks like he should still be in bed\" me sitting down barley awake everyone chuckling at me cause I'm still drunk. So were eating and I'm kind of sobering up with the food and realizing I'm eating with the boss looking like an asshat drunk even though I knew about the breakfast thing. Thought I would be scolded later ended up him not being mad or anything he said \"I've been there\"  and he had a laugh also seeing me like that.", "summary": "drunk in front of boss during breakfast meeting, didn't get in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_3g2wam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F19] mom [F50] wants to borrow money. I don't know what to do.", "post": "My mom needs $500 to pay the damages of a car accident she was in. She can't tell my dad because she's gotten in ~4 car accidents this month already, and our family is really low on money. My dad is also abusive, so if she told him, it could end badly for her. \n\nI've been working all summer to save up money for rent during the school year. My mom knows I have money, so she's asking to borrow $500, and then pay me back little by little over the next few weeks. I've spent enough time on this subreddit to know that you should never lend money with the intent of getting it back. And I've barely made enough to cover rent for the year; this $500 would totally screw me if I didn't get it back.\n\nBut I feel like maybe I could work out a deal with her. My mom has no concept of budgeting. She goes grocery shopping at least once a day, if not more often, and buys things we don't want or need. She's also addicted to cigarettes and coke (the soft drink). I feel like I could offer her a deal, where I give her the $500 now, and she has to spend $100 less each week on all these unnecessary things, and she could actually learn how to budget so money wouldn't be such a huge issue for us in the future. Her addictions cause a lot of fights, so if she could cut back, that would be an added bonus.\n\nHer only other option is to put it all on a credit card, which would end up costing more, and she still wouldn't learn how to spend less money.", "summary": "Mom needs $500. I want to lend it to her, but if she doesn't pay me back, I won't be able to pay rent. She needs to learn how to spend less money. Can I use this as a learning opportunity for her, or should I keep my money?"}
{"id": "t3_1bx8n0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to deal with parents? [17/m] gf: [16/f]", "post": "I was supposed to take my girlfriend to school this morning and This morning my girlfriends mother caught us up in her room. We hadnt done anything too bad but she was pissed and called for us down. She forced us out the door and she took her to school and I drove separate. Her parents are very conservative type for that and I don't feel like I will ever be able to step foot in that house again, maybe even her parents will make her break up with me. I really am not in this relationship for that. I really do love her and I realize that we might not end up together in the longer run of things but I still want this to work out as long as possible. I'm looking for advice on how to talk to her parents and attempt to clear this up. I never had a family that was close, and a year and a half ago I met a family that I felt extremely comfortable with. I don't want to lose something that I had. I made a stupid mistake and want to be able to be clear with this.", "summary": "Mother caught us not at school and at her house. Want to clear things up with the family."}
{"id": "t3_1g2rzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/M] GF of two years [20/F] is planning to spend more time overseas than with me.", "post": "I have been dating my current girlfriend for nearly two years, and we have had a very loving and stable relationship together. Last summer, she spent most of that time in New Orleans, and everything went mostly smoothly, but I recently pieced together her plans up until the end of 2014.\n\nShe is currently abroad in Africa, and she will be over there for most of this summer, taking a half of a month at the end to go to Europe. She will be back at school with me for the fall and spring semesters, and then she will be going back to Europe for the next summer. Afterwards, she is spending the fall semester traveling overseas as well. Overall, this adds up to 9 months at school with me, and 10.5 months out of the country.\n\nI confronted her about this today, and she simply responded that traveling was something that she had to do for herself, and that there was nothing I could do to change her mind. She requested that I join her for the Europe trips, but she knows that I am not in the financial situation to leave.\n\nAs I was first starting college, I was in a relationship that turned into a long distance one, and it did not end well, after about a year. I am terrified of the same thing happening, but I love her very much and I want to hold on.\n\nAm I overreacting? What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is planning to spend 10.5 months traveling the world, while leaving only 9 months at school with me. I want to make the relationship work, but I have no idea how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_1uxxzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to handle this tricky situation ive gotten myself into...23/f and 31/m", "post": ">ok so throwaway for obvious reasons....\n\n>Ok so I'm a 23/F and he is 31/M manager. I have a SO but the chemistry between me and (let's call him Sam) was electric from the minute we met and we obviously like each other. So within the first week, Sam had asked if I had a boyfriend, to which I replied, yes, however that same weekend he invites me over to his house to have a drink with him and his housemates. I agree, thinking that maybe he was just being friendly and nice and that while I would like to sleep with him, I wouldn't make any moves unless he initiated. Anyway long story short, he initiated and we slept together and over the next few weeks we slept together another few times. \n\n>At the start, I was thinking it would just be a casual relationship and I could use it to blow off some frustration about my current SO and live a little bit as well as Sam is great fun and provided a good release (I do love my SO very much, however I am currently feeling trapped in domestic life) at the start, going to work was fine, however now he has started playing mind games with me and I'm going insane\u2026my anxiety levels are way up and as I'm typing this I'm sitting at work feeling like I'm going to vomit. \n\n>I feel incredibly used and I was wondering, how do you get over feelings of rejection and being used? any advice on how to handle him when we work closely together?", "summary": "slept with my coworker, developed feelings, he is playing mind games and im now struggling with feeling of rejection. Also need any tips to handle working together"}
{"id": "t3_24mis6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] Interested in coworker [25/M] - advice?", "post": "I know, I know. Coworkers are off-limits. But, hey, we're in different departments, don't really intersect, and I'm planning on leaving anyway.\n\nSo, as I've just said, he's in another department. We hardly ever see each other. I've added him on Facebook and invited him out once, but it happened to be on a weekend that he spent with his family in another city. We don't really have any communication. I'm just wondering what you'd advise - how can I approach him? \n\nHe once had a language-related question (I'm the resident English speaker), so he came over to chat. He didn't really have any additional things to say after I answered his query, but he hung around awkwardly for a bit. I'm possibly reading too much into things, but I got the feeling that he wanted to talk, but as I share an office with my boss (and he with his), it didn't quite work out.", "summary": "wondering how to approach cute coworker."}
{"id": "t3_kqbyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Uncomfortable with long distance girlfriend \"going out\"", "post": "Whenever she tells me she's \"going out\" which really isn't all that often, I get a pit in my stomach. Now first of all I want you guys to realize this is my problem, not hers and I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with it personally.\n\nA little background information is necessary first of all. We're both 21 and in college and we met over OKC a few months ago. In that time she's told me about some bad experiences she's had in the past (being taken advantage of when passed out from drinking, for instance) and this stuff she's done when she's been drinking before (none of that was really all that bad). I've never been much of partier/drinker before but she has a decent amount of experience with both, though hardly any in past year or so after said bad experiences. My problem is the alcohol. I drink casually (never been drunk) but she use to drink quite a bit. \n\nNow onto the problem. Whenever she says she's \"going out\", especially to a bar, I get pretty nervous. She tells me about how guys hit on her all the time at work, in public, driving down the road, etc. and it makes me uneasy to think about all this happening when there is alcohol involved. To my knowledge she actually hasn't been drunk in quite some time but that does little to calm me. She has told me that she is (or was? idk) \"addicted to the feeling of being drunk\". It isn't that I don't trust her (she's never given me a reason not to), I just don't really trust the guys at the bars. Guys think too much with their dicks and alcohol only exacerbates things. I'm just afraid of what could happen, I guess. \n\nI'm not going to tell her I don't want her going out, cause that isn't true. I want her to be able to have fun and this is all my problem to deal with. I've tried dealing with this before on my own but to no avail. How should I go about dealing with this?", "summary": "Girlfriend sometimes goes out to bars to have a couple drinks with a girl friend of hers. Guys constantly hit on her at work, in public, etc. and I don't like the idea of her being flooded with guys with alcohol involved."}
{"id": "t3_4s8y2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] cut ties with my friend [21 F] today, she doesn't know.", "post": "I'm not sure where to start. Im a guy whos a sophmore in college. About 11 months ago I met this girl and we quickly became friends. A few months ago I started to get feelings for her and got the guts to ask her out. She said no (which sucked a lot and hurt) but we \nremained friends (She still had feelings for her ex which is why I believe she said no). Well I thought I would get over her but apparently I never did. She is back with her ex now and i think im jealous. Whenever we would hang out or grab lunch I was always ok. I even forgot I did ask her out, but as soon as she told me about her ex everything came back. I didn't really react or show any emotion and changed the subject.\n\nNow the thing that sucks is that she's a good friend, its really hard to find true friends and when it comes to that i hit the jackpot. But because i have feelings that i never got over this friendship wont last. I hate that its my fault that i have these feelings and because of me I'm gonna loose a friend. To add more to how much its gonna suck she is literally the only friend i have.\n\nI decided that i would just cut ties and never talk to her again. She sent me some text messages and i'm not going to respond. I haven't told her and will keep ignoring her texts. She has no clue now, she thinks everything is normal for the time being. The last time I saw her (yesterday) we were laughing and said see you later. No point in explaining that i still like her or just suppressing these feelings. Its not worth it. Even if i did i wouldn't know where to start. I wish i never met her it would have been so much better. I feel like i should do or say something even though it would be awkward/tough situation. I'm not sure if what im doing is right.", "summary": "Got Jealous of friend's (who i have feelings for) relationship. Ignoring her and feel like a horrible person."}
{"id": "t3_34mmqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21M]'s girlfriend [20F] is horrible to him and they won't break up", "post": "The title is the gist of it. They've been dating for over 3 years and while at first she was perfectly fine, she gradually became extremely manipulative and outright horrible to the guy. He bends over backwards to accommodate her every demand, and he's changed significantly as a person because of it. \n\nShe's broken up with him 4 or 5 times now for bullshit reasons, and the next day, every time, she says she's sorry and was wrong and she'll change; he takes her back without reservation. He's the \"love trumps all\" type of guy who thinks as long as they have that, nothing else matters.\n\nHe's one of my closest friends and it's really really hard to watch. He's often depressed lately and even when not, something's being withheld from him or he's in the middle of some conflict. We (his friends) have told him countless times how toxic this relationship is and how he'd be so much better off single or with someone else, but he just can't see it. \n\nI'm starting to think that they'll never stay broken up and end up getting married, and that's a terrifying thought. Is there anything more we, as his friends, can do? Or is this just how things are going to stay?", "summary": "Friend's girlfriend is emotionally abusive, he takes her back every time. Don't know what to tell him anymore."}
{"id": "t3_53bcbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my cool friends that I've somewhat been crushing on [17 F] a few months, need some help here", "post": "I'll try and make this quick, since its not a complex situation, I met a girl at work who was seasonal, we get friendly wanted to go the movies with me and stuff (still hasn't happened yet), started crushing on her, got a boyfriend when school started (she's a senior in high school, I'm a freshman in college), we snapchat each other everyday, etc.  Now at the moment don't know if she still has a boyfriend or not, or whether or not she has any interest in me at all.  It could be she sees me simply as a friend, or perhaps she has a thing for me as well, I really don't know.  I am trying not to assume anything since I've learned when I assume stuff, that's where I fuck things up.  So I'm gonna try and go to the movies with her sometime, I have even told her if she does not want to she does not have to go to the movies with me, but she says she'd definitely like to.", "summary": "^^^read above, just need some outside input on this, and what they think or suggestions are or anything in general, just wanted to hear some different opinions on this and see what people think is all."}
{"id": "t3_3q19lw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Revenge Grading", "post": "I am in a program that teaches 2 grades ahead, so obviously everyone is an overachiever/perfectionist. I and most of my friends are the some b's some a's some in between group, the group whose parents don't pay them for grades, who don't almost cry over a b- or a c, but are still just as smart. Anyway, there is a large problem known to us students as \"revenge grading\". Since our school encompasses general-ed and 1 grade ahead students, teachers cannot do all of the grading themselves, so they give us the work for minor or rarely major assignments to grade. but when one of us b-a students gives an A only student anything below an 85, or anything below an 88 on major assignments, they or their friends give you the worst possible grade on their next opportunity, removing the benefit of the doubt and inflicting the most damage on work that isn't just right or wrong. The teachers are almost always only willing to raise the grade by a little, so I have been given D's. The worst part is, with my ADHD, I have been stereotyped as stupid instead of just absent minded, so i get an even more negative bias than other students.", "summary": "Kid in program for smart kids gets C's from A students of equal intellect because he gave them a B"}
{"id": "t3_2ui4ye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] broke up with my boyfriend [27M] after two years. He seems completely neutral about it but he says he loves me. How can I face this?", "post": "After a two year relationship in which I gave him all my love and understanding, and he opened himself to me we broke up. We lived and faced so many things together: long distance, his depression, my anxieties, him moving to another country, me moving to another country... And now after all this the relationship seems to be to damaged to go on.\n\nWe start fighting and hurting each other too much, too frequently. We broke up, and I try to stay by his side because I feel that's the right thing to do. I admit it, I still had many expectations and hopes, but at the end a greater fight shows me we really need the distance. Thing is, he was always neutral about it. Always seemed so detached from me and the relationship and it makes me ache. He insists, he loves me and I my presence is important, but deeds tell a different story. \n\nI don't know how to move on. I feel sad because I lost him but I also feel so angry for being more invested than him. I feel upset because it's so easy for him to let me go, while I tried so had to stay by his side. I feel selfish, because I know is stupid wanting him to be sad: I love him, at the end I only want him happy. But his detachment from the relationship breaks me.", "summary": "My two year old relationship ended. He seems completely fine with the distance I need to take after the break up but he says he love me and misses me. How can I face a break up that is not hurting because is over but because it shows me how detached he is? Am I being too selfish? Help."}
{"id": "t3_kpj9z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Opinion buying a new 360", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nSo I moved recently and I can no longer connect my old (white arcade) 360 directly to my router. I was considering buying the adapter for it but that will run me at LEAST 60 bucks.\n\nSo, what I am considering doing is buying the new xbox 360 slim. I hear that it has extra USB ports, and an integrated optical output (makes it easier to connect my headset). It also of course has a wifi adaptor. So here I am, asking for your opinion. I have a 100 dollar gift card so I would have to spend 100 + 60 for Gears of War 3. What do you think I should do?", "summary": "Have old xbox 360, need wireless connect. Should I get 360 slim or not?"}
{"id": "t3_n1cwe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am now the proud owner of a cute little bluenose pitbull puppy. But reddit, I am looking to you for some guidance...", "post": "I got him yesterday, he is adorable and I am very happy with him!\n\nIt is very important to me that I train him correctly and make sure he develops to his full potential. So I am trying to figure out my plan of action for training. However I am getting tons of mixed information on how I should train him.\n\nI work a 9-5 mon-fri and my girlfriend is showing up at the house to spend about 30 minutes with him at lunch. She also has days off during the week and works weekends so he will have occasional days off from being stuck at home alone.\n\nLast night I bought a baby gate and used it to block him into a large downstairs tiled bathroom. That is where he is now.\n\n**So now my questions**\n\n*First Lets assume money doesn't matter and only this little guys comfort and development does!\n*Now that I am at work a few people told me I should crate train him, I was thinking that might be pretty crappy to be locked into a cage all day, but they say it is actually most humane for the dog.. won't he pee and such all over himself? Should I just get a huge kennel that even I could fit in comfortably? Or get a small one and upgrade it as he grows?\n*I also have a large open tile area that has a door which I could put a indoor doggy gate and doggy door so he could freely go outback and inside.. I was a little worried about security, but figured I could start with a small doggy door and then upgrade it to larger ones as he grows, at that point no one will want to try to come in anyways :)\n*When I put him to sleep last night I put his food and water in the bathroom, I think this is why he pooped and peed so much, I also left the food and water there before I went to work, should I leave him without food and water throughout the night/day and that might get him more sanitary conditions? \n\nI have more questions, but for now tell me what to do reddit. I will listen.", "summary": "I am a new puppy owner, first one, done my research, getting mixed information, feel free to give me two cents on anything about raising a 9 week old puppy."}
{"id": "t3_30rai4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] with my girlfriend [21F] of four months, relationship is really physical, wondering if I'm just a rebound", "post": "I started the relationship four months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend of five years (the last three being long distance) a month previously. We also live together, we were housemates previously.\n\nThis is going to sound ridiculous to complain about, but we've had sex every night whenever possible for the last couple of months, sometimes twice a night. Normally we don't have much to talk about, but we only seem to speak emotionally now after we have sex, other than that it's just small talk. The other night we even watched porn together at her suggestion, for some reason or other.\n\nShe was a bit of a mess when we started, after the break up, a bad argument with her best friend, and she doesn't really have many friends anyway, all are in relationships. The relationship moved *quickly*, PDA within one week of dating, sex on the second day.\n\nI'm a little concerned because she's chosing to cut off her family and whatever friends she has left to spend time with me. One of her parents has cancer and she used to love going back home to see them, she only went back one day in this year alone. \n\nI'm just concerned that she's replacing emotional intimacy and her problems with sex. I don't know, am I being silly and reading in to it?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2zlfid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my [24 F] 1yr, it seems like every month she has a \"crazy\" episode", "post": "It seems like every month something will set her off and then it spirals out of control into wild assumptions and a blow out fight.  I'm at my wits ends and need understanding.  She has anxiety issues too.\n\nAn example of this would be I didn't find something funny which then I am accused of being an asshole and never finding anything she likes funny.  From there It usually goes to wild assumptions such as me not really caring about her, or her not being good enough for me.  Sometimes it goes so far off track into things like money (I pay every bill and for food) and how she cant contribute and how that makes me upset.  I've told her numerous times that I have 0 expectations of her and that her assumptions are simply that, assumptions.\n\nI try to reason and explain the logic behind things with her and she eventually agrees that she was out of line and sees how she was in the wrong etc but every month it just comes back around.  Sometimes its the same issues sometimes its new ones but always wild assumptions.\n\nThis does not correlate to her periods.  Happens at different times of the month.\n\nI can be blunt, realistic, and very much so a logical thinker.", "summary": "Why is my gf going crazy once a month?"}
{"id": "t3_2wt1aq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend[20F] of 1+ years; she doesn't know what she wants sexually and its hurting our sex life", "post": "I'm just gonna come quick and say it. I come quickly during sex.\n\nBecause of this I am much more open and giving in sex in terms of oral and fingering. Unfortunately, my gf isn't too fond letting me do oral or fingering because she's never had a partner whose been good at it. I've done it once or twice to her but because it wasn't perfect she isn't too keen to try again.\n\nThis leads to minimal foreplay and short sex. She loves nipple play which I usually start off with. But obviously she doesn't get wet enough from only nipple play so when it comes down to actual sex, its sometimes painful for her. (and when its not I come quickly.)\n\nShe doesn't like tongue kissing either so make out sessions don't really work for turning her on. Her sex drive has always been low (2-3 times a month at best) but she hasn't been wet enough recently so everytime we try, its too painful for her to continue.\n\nWhen I ask her what she likes sexually or what I can do to her that she would like, she always says she doesn't know. I've suggested toys, (she refuses), i've even suggested eating her ass, (she smiles at the thought, but still refuses)\n\nSome extra things about us:\nShe has never had an orgasm from any of her partners or me.\nShe's the first girl i've been with so i'm a bit inexperienced.", "summary": "My girlfriend won't let me do the common foreplay things and she is obviously sexually frustated. Please give tips/advice"}
{"id": "t3_1j15vl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fondling my sisters boob", "post": "Happened a couple weeks ago during a family vacation we all took together. It was a beautiful day and a portion of the family was outside enjoying some white wine while we all sat and stood around. \n\nMy two sisters and I all live in different countries so we don't get to see each other as often as we would like to. \n\nI walk over to my oldest sister, feeling all emotional, and begin to kind of pat/squish/caress her upper arm. She has lost a lot of weight but still has some cellulite-esque consistency. As I'm doing this I get a bit lost in the conversation and my hand slowly creeps closer to her fun bags.\n\nAll of a sudden everything just kind of stops and she lets out an awkward/shocked noise. I look down and my hand is grasping part of her boob mid-squeeze before I realize what's happening. I was tenderly massaging her bewb.\n\nAwkward sensations all around my body. Family members around start to laugh, I try to play it cool and blurt out some remark about her arms and breasts and consistency.\n\nLuckily we're all very close *wink wink* *incest joke* and everyone, including myself and sister, laughed about it and never talked about it again.", "summary": "Got to first base with my sister"}
{"id": "t3_vj4b2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird that I'm attracted to my stepbrother?", "post": "I first met him when I was ten. We weren't step-siblings at the time, and I developed a huge crush on him, but I never told him how I felt. Less than a year later, his mom and my dad were married. Two years after that, I started living in the same house as my stepbrother, and it's been difficult to contain myself around him ever since. I've had other boyfriends, but I keep comparing them to him. He has no idea (I've made very sure of that), and I need to get over him otherwise it would be very awkward for our family. Any advice Reddit?\n\nNote: I'm 15 and he's 16.", "summary": "I'm in love with my stepbrother and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11e3w0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Nervous/Shy 16yr old needing advice(M)", "post": "I'm 16, and I really like this girl(16F) that's recently moved into town. My friend let-slip to her that I like her. But I have no idea if she's interested in me. When it comes to things like that, I'm terrible at it. The only real contact I have with this girl is that, she's in my Spanish class. And she lives in my neighborhood to where I give her a ride there and from school everyday. \nThis girl is VERY attractive, funny, and amazing. I'm always nervous talking around her and never know what to say/do. What can I do?", "summary": "Don't know if a girl I like is interested in me, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2nx05m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] of 4 months, are having issues with a long distance relationship.", "post": "We've been dating for 4 months, 3 of which were long distance. She's attending community college while I went away to a university that's a 3 hour drive away. I've been trying to visit as much as I can, which has turned out to be a about every three or four weeks. Lately, arguments have been occurring more often, and more intensely. When we're together, things are great, we can talk for hours, are always happy, and are generally always having a great time. We are trying to make this relationship work, but things have been getting more difficult. I'm approaching Christmas break (a month long).", "summary": "What do you think we can do to save this long distance relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3ue5rm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] keep getting \u00abghosted\u00bb by women.", "post": "Hello, I recently met a couple of women (25, 21) via Tinder in the past couple of months that I really liked and felt like we connected, but they end up cutting off contact, and I don't know why.\n\nThe first girl, we'll call Rebecca, we had good chemistry, we could talk/text each other for hours. Our first date was at a bar, we talked and got to know each other very well. Our second date was to an art museum, everything went well too. Our third date was hanging out at my place, that's when we had our first kiss, but we didn't go beyond 2nd base (her decision, and I respected that). I asked her out again, and she said she wanted to hang out again, but all of a sudden (that week)she just quit talking to me all together.\n\nThe next girl, we'll call Lexi, we had our first date at another museum, we had good chemistry, could flirt with each other, and seemed to get along great. We kissed on our first date. We hung out at my place for the second date, and just watched netflix and kissed (we didn't do anything sexual, neither one of us was in the mood as we were both tired and I still wanted to get to know her better). I asked her to go out to dinner with me (3 days after our previous date), and again, I get silence.\n\nCould anyone give me insight into why this is happening? They just stop talking to me after seemingly good dates. Obviously I would ask them why they do it, but they're clearly not into responding to me, so I won't get anywhere there. It's frustrating because I don't know what I'm doing wrong, is inviting them over to my place a bad move? IDK what I'm doing wrong.", "summary": "I keep going on dates with women and they always end up not talking to me after we go out and I get no indication as to why."}
{"id": "t3_kxtsa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys, what's the dumbest thing you ever did at work? I'll start...", "post": "I was 16, worked at a gas station pumping. All week at school we were excited because of a big party on Friday, that night rolls around and at dinner I get a call from the boss. You see he changed the schedule during the week and I was supposed to be some kind of fucking mind reader or something, never got a call... \n\nSo I gotta work the 6-3am shift.. No party.. I tell my friend to drop by and say hi, he does so with a 26oz of vodka, we don't even bother with the mix. Best memory of the night was the fact we were in the pumpers area which is a 5x5 room with a floor to ceiling stack of flats of empty pop cans, at one point it fell on us and we all fell out into the lot with a tidal wave of cans... Ffw a few hours later and a car comes in with the gas cap behind the license plate ( still odd for 1988) and I couldn't even see straight, sprayed gas all over the place.\n\nWoke at home puking in the toilet, unemployed.", "summary": "got drunk at work, got fired"}
{"id": "t3_meg06", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Diet Rant", "post": "I don't know if anyone else feels this way but I need to rant this morning so I can come to terms with how I feel and get on with my life.  I've been dieting for 4 or 5 weeks now, I'm not seeing any progress, and for the past week my mood has turned.  I'm working my ass off to keep up with my diet (1000 to 1200 calories a day), get in work out time, and stay on top of grad school (working on my PhD in chemistry).  The weather is turning into cold and rain, work sucks, and I'm frustrated with the lack of progress with the diet.  I'm not really loosing and weight.  I know there are health benefits but I have zero motivation at work (mostly due to stress at work) and trying to diet on top  of all of that is making me crazy.  Also, I really want to stress eat.  Luckily I've kept the stress eating to carrots so it isn't horrible but I'm angry that I feel the need to stress eat.  I'm determined to not give up and I'm determined to push through.  I've faltered once or twice (stupid roommate making brownies) but nothing that sent me way over my calories or anything.  Plus, my mom is having surgery, my sister is pregnant, my boss is a dick, etc, etc, etc.  The list goes on forever.  I'm trying so hard to stick to everything, keep on top of my life and my diet but I can feel myself starting to slip a little.  I wish I could just hit pause on everything to take the time to feel good again.  I know everyone has an off week and this is mine but I'm NOT giving up.  Just have to take a deep breath and keep pushing.\n\nOk end rant.  Back to chemistry, exercise (belly dancing tonight...woot!), and my positive mindset with my 125 lb goal.", "summary": "Life is a bitch and I needed to rant.  Not giving up but thanks for listening."}
{"id": "t3_3vddm2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By wanting a Movie", "post": "So this happened a few years ago. It was the holidays and my Grandma thought i should get some things for Christmas.\n\nI Get some clothes, a Game or two, and a new pair of shoes.\n\nNote, i'm not a Greedy kid. I got mainly things i needed, and a couple games.\n\nSo my Grandma had to return some movies, and like the curious little child i was, i looked around for a Movie i wanted.\n\nso she's been waiting in line to return these movies, after like, 15 minutes of waiting in line. She wants to get out of there ASAP.\n\nI ask for this Movie my Sister loves, and she says *\"I Can't buy anymore, go put it back please.\"*\n\nNah, i'm gonna keep asking for this Movie.\n\nShe get's a bit more stern with me, and tells me to put it back.\n\nOf course, i don't do that.\n\nI Keep holding the Movie until she finally Returns these movies, and when we start leaving..\n\n**I KEEP HOLDING THE MOVIE**\n\nSo i walk through the Theft Detector, and this loud beeping goes off. I Activated an Alarm by wanting this Movie.\n\nShe's FURIOUS with me, of course. and I, sadly put the movie back. She apologizes to the Cashier, and continues Outside.\n\nShe gives me this rant about how i should \"Never do that Again\" and \"How that could get me arrested\" and so on.\n\nI get dropped off back home, knowing that my Grandmother no longer trusts me to go shopping with her.", "summary": "I Kept holding a Movie through a Theft Detector and my Grandmother never takes me shopping anymore cause she doesn't trust me."}
{"id": "t3_2pe9b7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "FML Mortgage company. (rant)", "post": "Hello PF, \n\n you guys all banded together to help my retarded ass get out of debt. and it has been working great. I got married and got a raise. been digging out of debt by your advice and have doing very well, Until about 2 months ago. well as i stated i got married. Changing the wifes name on the loan should be easy. I call up my mortgage company and tell them what do i need to do to change her name. His name is Ralph. worked with him in the past no problems. he says he will get us a grant deed or whatever. a week goes by. two weeks. I call him up and he says oh its taking to long and since we screwed up lets just refi again.(the last refi was to take my Decesed grandpa off and my sister off the loan and changer her name. they did none of this) you will get 2 months of no payments like usual and then a lower mortgage payment. im thinking oh hell yeah awesome. 1 month goes by i take my mortgage payment instead of going to my house i put it towards my debt. Second month goes by Same damn thing. im like hell yeah making amazing progress. then creditkarma sends me a email that my house is in default. No mail from the mortgage company im at work and my heart just stops. i have been emailing Ralph saying Hey i haven't had any word from you. do i need to pay? whats going on? where are the documents. over the two months. he was being spoty on responses i figured he was just busy. Turns out he did not file any paperwork or do a damn thing and i just stopped paying my mortgage 2 months ago. Also me and my wife have 5 hard credit checks from the mortgage company. and now 2 delinquent payments. My credit score went from 745 to 610 in 20 days. i had to beg my boss and my wife had to dig into our emergency savings. and they payments are now back. But creditscore is still shot to shit. I'm seeking legal against them but not expecting high results. Sorry for my rant. Also got all this information on my birthday lol.", "summary": "Fuck Imortgage and Ralph. Dirty lazy rat bastard."}
{"id": "t3_4tb82n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my friends [25-30 M&F] of two years calling me a nickname I don't like", "post": "My legal first name is unique and when I began working at my company, I just used my given name to introduce myself. I never expected to be there for a long time, let alone become friends with any of my coworkers. Two years later, I am still working there and have made friends with several people. We hang out outside of work and I've met their families/significant others. \n\nI was given a nickname by a coworker, a shortened version of my name. I absolutely dislike it and never said anything. Its not a negative name, I just don't like it. I have a nickname that I've used my entire life, which I prefer, but I feel it would be incredibly awkward to bring this up now, especially to those I consider friends. \n\nI should have said something a long time ago but I am sometimes socially awkward and never volunteered the information. I've always had a difficult time with people and I suppose that not volunteering the information created a barrier I felt comfortable with at the time. Now that I have worked on my social issues with my therapist, I want that barrier gone because the nickname bothers me. I don't feel like my authentic self because of this, although I am my authentic self when I am with them. How can I ask these people to call me by the name of my choice in the least awkward way possible?", "summary": "I have a nickname I hate, how can I ask people to stop using it?"}
{"id": "t3_50ljop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] have a friend [18M] who switches between phases of treating me like I'm a lifelong friend and phases of ignoring/avoiding me. I don't understand it :(", "post": "I've known him (I'll refer to him as \"M\") for about a full year now, when I moved schools. We bonded over a shared passion for English and similar bands back then. He introduced me to all his friends and I felt so accepted, so welcome -- like I meant something to M and all his friends. In the weeks that followed, M and I got a lot closer: I went to see his band's gigs, which really surprised but really touched him a lot, too (he told me so himself - that it meant a lot to him), he invited me to parties, we caught the team home together, we paired up in class, etc. \n\nBut then there's periods of time (like, around two weeks or so - started being a thing this year) where I may as well not even exist to him. He won't sit with me in class, he doesn't initiate conversations with me unless he absolutely has to, he ignores my presence, he doesn't smile at me, when I try talking with him he'll give short, disinterested answers... And then, two weeks later, he'll be back to \"normal\", smiling at me all the time, sitting next to me, messaging me, liking my FB posts, we have conversations that make me feel like it's not our ears that are doing all the listening, but our souls instead. He'll tell me out of the blue that he likes my T-shirt, or my dress, or the essay I read to our Literature class that day, he'll walk with me to the tram before we catch it home together... I love these days. I feel like I mean something to him when he's like this. \n\nAnd then right when I feel like it's all okay again, it'll cycle back into that two-week or so period where he'll start avoiding me again, taking the train when he sees that I'm off to get the tram, keeping a distance from me in class... :(\n\nIs this normal? Why does he do this? I don't know what to think anymore and it really gets me down.", "summary": "why does my good friend either actively seek me out or actively avoid me, and why does he keep switching between the two?"}
{"id": "t3_555a0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) always thinks about his (28M) ex", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI feel like it's time to figure out something about myself. I am currently dating a man a few years older than me. Prior to dating me, he was dating his \"first love.\" (He's known her since he was a boy. He is not originally from the US. Went back one time and decided to try to work things out. She is a single mother residing overseas, couldn't come to the US, and decided it was better to break things off).\n\nHe didn't mention anything about her when we first met, but gradually brought her up. He initially said she didn't mean anything to him, but later revealed she was his world. On top of that, \"jokingly\" showed me a couple of her pictures to try to guess who she was. I also know his friends bring her up, although they know I don't know. He's apologized for that, and has said it was a joke in bad taste. I also saw a text message he sent to her saying she will always have a special place in his heart. I know we're all human, but it stung reading that.\n\nWe've been dating for a couple of months and confirms he's over her. But I'm the one trying to wrestle with everything. I keep playing things over and over in my head. Was I rebound? (He literally asked me out a few weeks after breaking up with her). How was it between them? Do I remind her of her? Am I better than her (to which he has said yes for many reasons)? Every time we argue, I always bring her up by saying he's the type of guy willing to work out with every potential decent girl, especially considering she was a single mom (our families are very conservative and this was especially frowned upon), I wonder what his mom really thought about her. I'm going to his homeland soon and I know I'm going to bump into her. I'm not sure how I will react.\n\nTo be honest, I feel like I always do this with my BFs. Trying to figure out why.", "summary": "I (24F) dating a decent guy. He (28M) dated the \"love of his life\" before me. I always think about \"them\" together: his past with her, his feelings with her, how he must have felt about her, etc. This sometimes eats me up. I've noticed this is a pattern for me with all the guys I date - I replay what things must have been like with their Xs. Trying to figure out why to break the cycle and truly enjoy my relationship with him."}
{"id": "t3_oe7od", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should my friend be more concerned about this?", "post": "Not sure where this question belongs most but I thought this was a good place to start.\n\nA friend of mine (16/f/Florida) was in gym class today and while in class was holding hands with a good friend of hers.  Upon seeing this the gym teacher called them both out into the hall and asked if they were lesbians and if they were dating.  I have talked to her about this before and she is openly bisexual, but does not consider herself a lesbian.  They both replied, somewhat confused about why he was asking, that they weren't.  The teacher, who likely thought that they were lying, insisted that he didn't care and if they wanted to be intimate they should save it until later, and most disturbingly to me said they they could use his office.  She called me afterwards to talk to me about this\n\nMy questions led to the following answers.\n1) They are not dating, and have no romantic inclinations towards eachother.\n2) They were not being disruptive in any way.\n2) This school does not prohibit or discourage public displays of affection as long as they are not overtly sexual.\n3) Heterosexual couples hold hands and kiss during school/class on a regular basis.\n3) Yes, this school is in an area where homosexual behavior is frowned upon but there are no official policies about it.\n\nShe seemed to find the incident humorous, I was more disturbed.  While certainly not the most serious incident in the world the whole thing just really irritated me.  Particularly the bit about him offering to use his office.  At the very least I don't think it was any of his business.  So I ask you, redditors, to weigh in on this.  I would be particularly interested to know about Florida school policies and whether or not others think some recourse should be taken.", "summary": "Florida gym teacher tells two girls(not dating) that they should not hold hands in public during school."}
{"id": "t3_19ji82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a (19f) with a boyfriend is a (18m), he makes it very well-known to me that he thinks I'm more attractive than him and it gets in the way of our relationship, please help.", "post": "Me and this guy have been dating for almost 2 years now. He is quite insecure and constantly tells me how I'm much more attractive he is and how I could do so much better. \n\nI love this guy and we have great chemistry but since august 2012 we needed to go through an inevitable LDR and it's been fine except for that fact that he's extremely paranoid of me going out, he's also jealous of any male friends I have and it's really bumming me out. \n\nOther than that whole deal our relationship is great and I have no intentions of leaving him, I'm just really bad at helping him with his self-esteem.", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks I'm more attractive, we're in an LDR and he gets paranoid."}
{"id": "t3_1dllnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my fwb [22M] might be falling for me [21F]", "post": "I have known him for over 3 years and he's been and on and off fwb for over 2 years. We only started having sex just over a year ago. We have sex on occasion, sometimes drunk, sometimes sober. Very affectionate. We pillow talk about a lot of things, we have established months ago that we are a fwb and that's the only time we have really talked about 'us'. Recently I stopped having sex with him because i went on a few dates with a guy i really liked, and I told him about it.. but it didn't work out. I didnt have sex with the guy i dated and told my fwb that and we stated having sex again. I say it averages about once or twice a month we bang. We would more often if it were possible, we live with our parents still. At the bar he keeps his arm around me a lot. He is VERY flirty and teases me when he is sober and even moreso when drunk. He doesn't treat other girls like the way he treats me i feel. He compliments me. He seems interested in what i'm saying and remembers things I told him forever ago. I am unsure about my feelings towards him, I do like him (I think about him quite often actually) but i feel a relationship wouldn't work out. Since we have the same group of friends it is really tricky, most of them do know or have some idea at least (its been hard to keep it a secret when u sleep in the same bed at parties).... one close mutual friend has been in love with me for three years which complicates things further. All hell would break loose. \n\nSo do you think he likes me? \n\nAnd if he were ever to say he had feelings wtf would i say?!?", "summary": "Been friends for 3 years and have same group of friends.. been fwb on and off for 2 years. His behavior is becoming more affectionate and flirty/teasing and I think he might like me. I like him but relationship would fuck up our friend group huge."}
{"id": "t3_yu0s4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was rejected by my best friend. Maybe?", "post": "I submitted a post a few weeks ago wanting help with feelings I had for a long time friend, but I deleted my account for fear that he would find it. I took the advice I was given and told him how I felt. This is how it went.\n\nI (F23) have been in love with my best friend (M23) for about 14 years. We grew up together, but he moved away about 8 years ago. We kept in touch very frequently. Only one long period of no communication due to stress in school, I guess. I recently went to go visit him and it was the first time I had seen him since he moved away. Ever since I came home, my feelings for him had been overwhelming.\n\nI broke down one evening and wrote him a very nice email, basically saying that I had feelings for him and I wanted to know how he felt. He emailed me back a week later. He told me that he wasn't very happy with the way things were going in his life right now. These are all things that I sensed when I visited him. He is just having a hard time as a recent college grad finding a job and he also has a medical issue. Nothing too serious, but I think it bothers him. Anyway, he then goes onto tell me that he really wants to focus on getting into school and because of this he, \"for the foreseeable future wants to remain friends.\" He also said that he knows this is not what I wanted to hear, but he respects me for writing him.\n\nHe's right when he said that it wasn't what I wanted to hear. I just wanted to know how he felt about me. Now all of my feelings are out on the table and his are still a mystery to me. I haven't responded to his email yet, because I am not sure what to say. I'm not sure what he meant by the \"foreseeable future.\" Is he just saying that to protect my  feelings or does he actually feel like maybe one day we could be more than just friends? Should I read between the lines and assume that it is never going to happen?", "summary": "Told my long time, long distance friend that I had feelings for him and responds saying that because of stress, for the \"foreseeable future\" that he would like to remain friends. Confused in how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_x6a7v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I have a productive talk with an oversensitive mother?", "post": "To preface I'd like to start by saying my mother is loving and kind and generous to a fault .\n However, those qualities get eclipsed by her knack for making everything about her (tears, manipulation victimization the works) \nTonight is my 24th birthday, it also marks the 5th year in a row that she drew the attention to herself  instead. This year she cried for over an hour because I didn't publicly acknowledge her today on facebook.  Yup .  * I probably would have posted something about the dinner but I was ya know, with her  at dinner .  She eventually pissed of my sister enough to leave so I ended up cutting our cake (her b day is friday) alone with my 2 year old son and husband .  \n I would like to talk to her about it but Im an asshole and need to\n approach this with like newborn kitten gloves .My siblings and I are grown and my dad seems to be getting his balls back one day at a time , I don't think she can handle the day we all start to think its easier to just not talk to her anymore, but its coming fast.\nWhat is the best way to get her to chill the fuck out?", "summary": "How do I nicely tell my mom to grow the hell up or risk more limited involvement in our lives?"}
{"id": "t3_2ll31c", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Can we keep this miracle cat?", "post": "My wife and I took a two hour road trip to see her family. On the way there, we heard a faint meow a few minutes away from our destination. After spending 5 hours with her family, we started driving home. Then we heard more meows. We pulled over, searched the car, and found a very healthy looking cat terrified underneath the hood of the car. We took her in the car and drove ourselves home.\n\nThe cat is adorable and friendly. The vet couldn't find an ID chip. We absolutely love her. BUT, my wife is extremely allergic. Is there any chance we'd be able to keep this kitty without suffering from constant allergy attacks? We've had her closed up in our study with litter, food, and the works. She seems totally happy, but meows a lot when she hears us around the house. She just wants someone to snuggle with!", "summary": "Friendly adorable cat survives 7 hours under the hood of a car. Can we keep her despite severe allergies?"}
{"id": "t3_ncj82", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I proceed with this girl?", "post": "Ok so here's the story so far.. In my school there is a girl that caught my eye about 8 months ago. Over the course of about 3 or 4 months I kept awkwardly stalking her on FB and stuff like that until I finally managed to approac her and talk to her. I think I've had a huge crush on her at that point. We had a real good conversation and she seemed like such a sweet and interesting person. Between then and now there were two huge gaps where due to schedule stuff we wouldn't see each other in school at all. So now the situation has become really awkward as I only managed to say hi to her once or twice since then and sometimes we don't say hi at all. I think she's getting the feeling that I'm kind of a creep. I decided to forget about it and I noticed that I thought about her less and less. But actually I think it's kind of a shame thinking back about how awesome she was. How should I approach her now and get conversation going again?", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl, had one great conversation with her, didn't see her for a long time, now it's become awkward to even say hi. ****"}
{"id": "t3_ocjqj", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Need to plan a trip to NYC for this weekend. Any advice?", "post": "Hey Reddit, my friend and I were going on a group trip to New York City leaving from Ottawa, Ontario at 11pm on the 12th and leaving New York at 12am the 15th. The trip, with the bus fare ($170) and two nights at Four Points hotel in Manhattan was $300. \n\nThe group trip has since been cancelled, but my friend and I have taken out the money and still want to go. I was wondering if you had any recommendations for a cheap hotel that we can stay at for two nights and 4 days. We would prefer to not stay in a hostel, as we want to feel comfortable leaving our luggage in the hotel. We are willing to spend $100 a night, but preferably less, if at all possible.\n\nAlso, any other suggestions for cheap things to do in New York are welcome. Thanks!", "summary": "looking for a cheap hotel in Manhattan area that is not a hostel."}
{"id": "t3_2ao459", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kicking the wall while asleep", "post": "So this was around 2:30am today. I was having a weird dream about a dog licking my foot and for some reason my brain decided kicking the shit out of the dog would be the best action. Well there was no dog and I kicked the shit out of the wall next to my bed leaving me with a swollen big toe and waking my roommates baby causing her to cry in the middle of the night. I went back to sleep before I found out if the baby's crying woke up the roommates. Not the worst FU but it's funny.", "summary": "Weird Dream, Kicked Wall, Swollen Toe, Crying baby"}
{"id": "t3_319k85", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I resented my brother growing up, now I feel horrible and wish I could build a relationship with him.", "post": "I was an only child until I was 12 and always wanted a sibling. I was jealous of my friends who had a live-in playmate and someone to talk to. My mum was a single parent and spent most of her time either at work or on her computer. I used to play Monopoly by myself and pretend to be someone different for each of the 'players'.\n\nMy brother was born when I was 12. I was ecstatic - finally I was getting the sibling I had always wanted and I adored that baby. By that time, however, I was old enough that instead of being an older sibling I ended up more like a second parent. Initially this was fine, I enjoyed looking after him because I had always liked babies and it was fun to see him develop.\n\nAs we got older, I was left looking after him more often. I looked after him every day after school all through my teenage years while mum was at work. I couldn't go anywhere, I couldn't stay at a friend's, I couldn't make any plans for after school because I had to get home to my brother. I wanted to be a teenager and do normal teenage things, but instead I was stuck at home looking after someone who shouldn't have been my responsibility. I resented him for that.\n\nIt made me depressed and angry, and destroyed any chance of building a loving relationship between him and I. He's 11 now and I know nothing about him. I only ever see him when I visit mum, and even then we don't talk. I still see myself as an only child, and him as one too. We didn't grow up together as siblings, we grew up as caregiver and child.\n\nI'd love to build a relationship with him, because I feel horrible when I think about the way I treated him. The way I took my anger out on him and never showed him any love. But I'm pretty sure he that's all he remembers about me, and he won't understand why it was that way.", "summary": "Was an only child wanting a sibling, got a brother when I was 12, was nothing like what I thought it be and I took that out on him. Worried that I can never form a relationship with him because of it."}
{"id": "t3_2wmk4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/F] trying to figure out how to see this guy [32/M] that I like.", "post": "There is this guy I like that works at a local hardware store. I've seen him many times, we've talked several times and get along. I've been wanting to ask him if he wants to grab a drink sometime, but I don't always see him when I am in the store. I think he works in the back storage area and not out on the floor.  And yes, I know he is there because I know the car he drives, he told me that once.  \n\nSo how can I get to see this guy? I don't want to be stalking the store! It's like how many things does a girl need to buy at a hardware store.\n\nSo guys, what's your advice?  Again, I don't want to seem like a stalker, but I do want to see this guy again at some point...soon.", "summary": "Trying to see this guy I like again, but I don't want to seem like I'm stalking the store he works at."}
{"id": "t3_2r4i49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Apparently my girlfriend feels inadequate because I'm too good to her. What the fuck.", "post": "I'm a 22 year old male, she's 21. We have been dating for just over 6 months. \n\nI'm not really asking for advice, per se. I feel as if we have a very strong relationship. \n\nI would, however, like some insight in to this mindset she has. I feel like my trying to make her happy is backfiring because she's worried about reciprocating and making sure she treats me just as well. I don't do what I do for her to get anything in return, I just love her and want to make her happy. \n\nSo what's the deal? Is this normal? Is it an insecurity thing? \n\nAlso, she says she's likely to start her period very soon, so that could also be a factor.", "summary": "I treat my girlfriend very well, it makes her feel inadequate because she doesn't feel like she does the same."}
{"id": "t3_3hdt3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [24f] sent me [30m] a new dating profile pic, and I have lost all interest. Am I wrong?", "post": "**I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to put this. If there is somewhere better, please advise! Thanks.**\n\nSo I went on a dating site and sent a bunch of questions out to pretty much everyone. I got an answer back, and from the profile pics she had, she looks not good. I didn't find her attractive, but I was getting kind of lonely, so I overlooked it. \n\nI have been texting her and we talked on the phone. She seems very interested in me after that, and we are supposed to go out soon. The problem is, she sent me an extra picture and it looks brutal. My interest level went almost down to 0. It was the straw that broke the camels back. I am honestly thinking about how to ignore her now and I don't know if I'm doing the right thing.\n\nI know its not \"right\". I know that. But my brain can't get past that picture. Its stuck. So now I don't know what to do. Should I continue on with the date? (I really don't think I want to). Should I slowly start making excuses? I don't want to hurt this girl. She is very very nice, but there has to be at least some level of attraction, right? I don't know, I just feel like a huge asshole right now. We've only really talked and texted probably 3 days. How should I go about this? I don't want her to think I am slowly not talking to her because of her looks.", "summary": "Talked to an unattractive girl on a dating site but I pushed past it, sent me another pic today after talking and texting for a few days, and the new picture is even worse. Should I break it off/ignore her/or continue talking to her? How should I go it?"}
{"id": "t3_3hrc53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm M[18], GF[17] broke it off after 7 months, not breaking ties.", "post": "We were a textbook fall head over heals for each other, i struggled with some things from her past but worked through it, it's not either of our first relationships but i feel first real true falling in love. I deal with anxiety and issue at home, and she was always supportive and there. She struggled with opening up whatsoever to me but slowly got a little better and would tell me sometimes how she felt or thought about something. She is the kind of person that if there is an issue she thinks it's the end all of the relationship but we would always figure it out and make up after and it would be better.\n\nFast forward to recently I have been struggling with anxiety alot and she has been there but is shutting me out of any of her feelings, plus her parents were going through a wierd together not together period. And she always says it doesn't affect her.\n\nSo last week she broke up with me saying she couldn't deal with it anymore, blah blah blah crying emotions she texted me later that night saying how sorry she was and how she wanted to see me. I declined but gave in a day later and we met up and had a good week of spending time together. Which I know see I should have given my self space.\n\nNow to yesterday morning, got into a heated text conversation and she wanted to meet up and I did too. I told her I didn't know what to do since she wouldn't give me any hint of anything. So she did it again and she was adamant about it and it was completely ovwr. we both left without screaming or yelling. \n\nBut now is the part I don't get, she never hinted at giving back her promise ring, very customized laptop with pics ect. removing any social media connections or relationship status' I just don't get it. I'm not going to text her anytime soon but if nothing changes I will probably in a week or so to see what's going on and why she hasn't. I know I've fucked up by not giving her space but it doesn't make sense to me.", "summary": "after breakup girlfriend doesn't break ties or gives ring back or even hints to it"}
{"id": "t3_4wk6zr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] am having confidence issues with my girlfriend [F18] of one year", "post": "So I have been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now. I have always had mild confidence issues and negative thoughts would sometimes pop in my head but knowing how much me and my gf are in love I could easily put them out of my mind and they never really bothered me. \n\nHowever a few weeks ago we had a rough patch were she said she wanted us to take a break and all though that only lasted 2 or 3 days at most before she said she missed me and things went back to normal it left me feeling a bit different.\n\nI still love her with all my heart and I can tell she genuinely missed me and loves me back but I had felt blindsided by the whole situation not even realizing anything was wrong in our relationship. Now we are back together and everything is how it used to be but now I can't help but have the negative thoughts pop into my head\n\nWhile I'm working or not distracting my mind with something else negative thoughts will pop in my head like what if something like that happens again, what if I'm being to clingy in an attempt to show her all my love, what if I'm not paying her enough attention and she feels lonely, what if she's not as happy as I think she is. \n\nAfter being blindsided by the realization that's things could be wrong even when they seem not to be in find it much much harder to blow off my negative thoughts and they will often leave me feeling gloomy throughout the day\n\nI have been considering talking to her about how I feel but I am trying my hardest to be the best I can be for her and only put positive vibes into our relationship and I'm afraid bringing this up would do the opposite. I just want to know how to regain my self confidence that I once had.", "summary": "Having confidence issues and negative thoughts after rough spot in an otherwise fantastic relationship"}
{"id": "t3_11k6og", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23] am worried she [22] will forget my birthday.", "post": "Me: 23 M\n\nHer: 22 F\n\nTogether for about 6 months.\n\nMy birthday is in roughly a week. She hasn't mentioned it. Should I be worried that she could forget it? She knows when it is, or at least, we have talked about it in the past and so I can expect that she knows. But she hasn't mentioned anything about it in the past 2 months. Should I remind her? Or should I just wait and see if she remembers? If she forgets, what should I do?\n\nSorry if this seems pedantic- it probably is. But my last GF, while not forgetting about my Bday, always had lack-luster responses about it. Not getting bday sex was the least of my worries with her. We were together for a good while, so I don't know if I should be worried about this or not or what to do.", "summary": "Do I remind gf about my bd, or hope she remembers? If she forgets, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_oyx1k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone know a manager or worker with keys to a Chuck E. Cheese (in West Michigan) that would do an after hours party for a nice chunk of change?  (Please read, it's awesome)", "post": "So hopefully this will get upvoted enough where a lot of people will see it, so my odds are better at finding this.  I am helping organize a bachelor party for my best friend in the coming months.  I don't want to say when it is in this post, nor the exact city for fear that this fellow redditor will see this and be wise to what's happening. (hence the throw away account)\n\nWhile brainstorming at a bar over delicious beer, my buddy and I have come up with a bachelor party that will consist of strippers (obviously), a clown (the worse, the better) a B or C list celebrity to show up and just sit there (partially stolen from a great Nick Swardson stand up), and 6 goats.  The goats will not be for fucking, but will just be roaming around, so when people come in they just say \"Whaaatt the fuuucckk?\" ....ALL OF THIS TAKING PLACE AT A CHUCK E. CHEESE.  I know it will be expensive, but I think I can swing it, and want to throw my best friend the most epic bachelor party ever.  I realize there are certain health code violations that will be broken, which is why I need someone who just doesn't give a fuck.  You or they will be paid for their services.  Staff does not have to be there, we will bring our own food and drink and goats and strippers.", "summary": "Need a Chuck E. Cheese to throw a stripper, clown, and goat infested bachelor party for my best friend."}
{"id": "t3_mhrlt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I overreacting?", "post": "My boyfriend is going on a trip to visit a friend who is currently overseas. She is already there, and will meet up with him when he arrives. They have been good friends since before we dated, and I found out they had a relationship (again, before I knew him). He once told me he had very strong feelings for her, second only to me. \n\nI have no problem with the visiting, but I asked that they don't share a room just the two of them. I wouldn't mind them being in a large, dorm style room, but otherwise prefer they sleep separately. She got upset and asked if he was joking, saying it was going to cost more money etc. He stuck firm (maybe because I was there) and said no. I really don't want to come between them, but I am incredibly uncomfortable with the thought of someone that's had sex with him sleeping with him. It is not a matter of trust, as he once cheated on me before, and I seriously doubt he would do it again.", "summary": "my boyfriend is going overseas to stay with an exgirlfriend (now platonic friends). I asked them to sleep in separate rooms as I wasn't comfortable with them sleeping next to each other. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_244i0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my 21 [M] fling- how to go on more dates without seeming clingy/overly-demanding?", "post": "I'm a 22 year old female and a senior in college. A week ago, I started hanging out with a friend from class who is also graduating this year. He came over and we spent 4 hours talking about everything from family and kids to human morality and religion. It was great to be able to talk with someone about substantive topics rather than the usual \"Omg how drunk were you?\" conversations that the kids at my school usually have.\n\nWe started out by just kissing and then after a few more times of seeing each other, we slept together. I saw him 4 times this past week. Is that excessive?\n\nHe's moving to Paris after graduation and I'm moving to New York so I obviously don't want a relationship out of this. On the other hand, I'm getting bored of just going out for drinks and hanging out in my room. I want to get dinners and do other things, but I don't want the guy to think that by asking for more, I'm getting clingy or expecting him to be my boyfriend. I basically just want to do more activities with him other than talking and hanging out at my house, but still want to keep things fun and casual since we only have 3 weeks left together.\n\nHow do I transition to doing dinner, movies, etc... without seeming like a stereotypical clingy girl?", "summary": "I want to do more than hang out at my house with the guy I'm seeing, but don't want to scare him into thinking I want a full-blown relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2aw5wn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my [27F] boyfriend [31M] of two years not want to marry me?", "post": "He is my first boyfriend and the only person I ever slept with.\nTo me he is the one I have always waited for. I want to spend the rest of my life with him.\n\nMy boyfriend has made it clear to me that he has never loved anyone as much as me. He tells me that to him I am the greatest woman ever.\n\nThe problem is only, whenever I bring up the question of maybe possible ever getting married, he gets very quiet, looks away and doesn't talk about it further.\n\nHe was engaged to his last girlfriend but she cheated on him and he wasn't fully happy enough with her anyway to be with her fot the rest of their life.\n\nI had absolutely no problem if he would tell me that maybe one day he could see himself getting married to me but he doesn't want to talk about marriage, yet.\n\nBut he says nothing at all. He looks away as if he can't look me in the eyes because he has doubts already about us.\nThat's my issue, I feel like he has deep doubts about our relationship and not being able to say he could imagine marrying me makes me very, well, just very sad.\n\nDo I need to be worried? Shouldn't a man who tells me he loves me so much be able to say without any binding that he can imagine to spend the rest of his life with me? Instead of looking away and not say a single word anymore when the issue comes up?", "summary": "my boyfriend of two years says he's very happy with me. Shows me he loves me but can't even say non bindingly that he can imagine to marry me one day. Which makes me think he has doubts about us."}
{"id": "t3_2acv35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[34M] I am insecure and have no self esteem but am tired of waiting for it to go away. Can I date? Female perspective?", "post": "I'm trying to do all the usual recommended things to get self confidence back but it's either not working or it's going to take a LONG time. I'm getting older, my loneliness is compounding the problems, and I'm a bit worried about the future, so I think I want to at least try to find someone. \n\nI'm pretty sure I won't be able to give it my all though, I'm obviously depressed as well and don't have much interest in anything really, at least right now. I'm kind of hoping I'd snap out of it once I talk to someone and get the urge to go on adventures again. But of course I don't know if that will happen.\n\nI've been trained that men have to be super confident before getting involved with someone. Sometimes I just think this is just the way I am, and that means I don't deserve anyone... it's kind of a bummer.\n\nI'd like to know your thoughts. Especially a woman's who has been on the opposite side, dating someone like me. Thank you. and please be honest.", "summary": "I am insecure and have no self esteem but am tired of waiting for it to go away. Can I date? Female perspective?"}
{"id": "t3_2xp1gu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19m) and (23f) have a weird flirty friendship", "post": "So I have known my friend (let's call her L) for around a year and a half now give or take a few months, and have gotten on reasonably well apart from a few random fallouts over nothing really that didn't last more than a week or so. \n\nSo I never actually noticed it until someone pointed it out to me that she flirts a bit with me and I do back though I don't realise it at all.\n\nNot long after someone pointed it out to me I realised all the things that I had missed, such as: if we on a night out, she'd always want me to come and dance with her, we'd walk to the next place together, sometimes holding hands (never though into that before as I know a few girls that do it to make them feel safe or whatever) but it was only me she would. \n\nDisclosure for this bit: I have no idea if this actually happened, though a few people have said it did. Never bought this up with her since this happened\n\nWe were out, met up with L, in a club when she got into town, APPARENTLY we kissed, though I have no recollection of this happening, and nothing has been said since. \n\nSince then, we will talk in work and it's like normal, but outside of work, I hear nothing from her anymore unless I see her. Yet we will go and get lunch together on our own if we have the same break at work.\n\nI do actually like L a lot, but I don't know what's ever going though her head. \n\nOne thing of note is she hasn't had a so in a long time for whatever reason, maybe that's why she's so evasive?", "summary": "know a girl from work, quite flirty, after apparent kiss nothing has been the same outside of work though in work it's fine. "}
{"id": "t3_obst7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my dad thinks gay people are members of a cult... What do you think?", "post": "When the new semester started, I got a new class: Adult Responsibilities. As I'm sure you can assume, we'll learn things such as managing finances, getting/keeping a job, and how to generally be an adult. There's also a small section about STDs, and, for this reason, I had to get my dad to sign a form consenting to \"Sexual Education\"(as if I've learned nothing about sex from Junior High/High school). In short, my dad did not want to sign the form. Why? When he spoke to my mom about it, I overheard(I was roughly 30 feet, and 5 walls from him. He speaks very LOUDLY) \"I'm just worried about him learning too much about that same sex marriage crap.\" What? Do you think homosexuality is a myth? Do you think gay people are part of a cult, bent on converting all human-kind to their evil ways? So there's my rant, Reddit. Not much of a rant at that, but I knew if I put it on FB, my mom would get pretty mad(she's MUCH more understanding and, well, normal). It should be noted my dad is a born-and-raised southern Baptist, good ole' farmer's boy *loud hack, followed by large amount of dip spit*. My mom is also a Christian, but being that she's a chemical engineer, she thinks more intelligently. I am Agnostic.", "summary": "Dad thinks homosexuality is similar to Charles Manson. I ranted about it. Post away."}
{"id": "t3_3jt9b0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the public restroom", "post": "Hey, a post that *actually* takes place today!\n\nSo, for about two weeks, my family and I have been vacationing in Vancouver with some relatives. Since school starts in a few days, we began driving back to our hometown today.\n\nAnyways, along the way, my siblings and I have to go and use a washroom as we've been on the road for quite a while. Anyways, it's about time we grab lunch, so we stop at the nearest McDonalds in a small town close to the highway.\n\nAnyways, here's the fuck up: I absolutely hate road trips, as I tend to get sick, dizzy, dazed, whatever the fuck. My glasses have gotten blurred, and since I'm lazy, I decided not to clean them until later since I'm not a driver.\n\nSo I head into the men's washroom, and proceed to use the urinal. However, I believe that my younger brother head into the restroom before I did, so I knocked on the stall door believing him to be on the otherside. He doesn't respond, and I grow a bit anxious as he was starting to feel a bit sick prior to our lunch/washroom break. Me, being the out-of-it buffoon I am, look through a small crevice to check if he's okay. Except it's not him. To make things worse, the kid is asian just like we are, and since I didn't have my glasses on, I didn't figure it out until it was too late. Slowly realizing this, I just wash my hands - albeit slowly so that I can apologize once he comes out. Probably shitting a second time due to his situation, he doesn't exit the stall while I'm in there. I exit in embarrassment, and just as we're about to order, the brother I thought was in the stall walks into the goddamn restaurant. I just get into the car and wait for my delicious poutine.\n\nAlso, my friends probably think I'm some sort of pedophile now, but I kept on telling them it was an accident.\n\nI would never do this. I'm not Jared from Subway. I prefer booty *my* age.", "summary": "scarred some kid in a restroom stall when i thought it was my younger brother"}
{"id": "t3_2xyjv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with a girl i like [17 F] Dont know what my next move should be", "post": "Hey everyone recently i was at this event for my school and we did this thing about put nice things in other peoples envelope to say something good about themselves.\n\n I havent had my first kiss yet and was wondering if u guys can help. This girl asked me to go for a walk with her when we had free time so i did. I liked her for some time now and have been flirting with her for quite awhile however i rarely see her since i have such a big school. \n\nAnyway long story short we talked about kissing each other and we decided not to. I got over it until i saw a message saying \"I should of kissed you\" now i assumed it was her since we talked about it and walked for about 45 minutes. So i texted her two days ago and she responded yesterday but it seemed kind of dry she said it was anonymous and that i could or could not have been her so i told her the next time it comes up im not gonna let the opportunity go. Im really confused with what to go about doing next, I always hype myself up for stuff like this but then just get let down so i dont do it often. I dont know what my next move is im pretty sure she has feelings for me but idk any advice on texting, talking, next move etc. All help is appreciated.", "summary": "I Like this girl and i think she wants to kiss me but when i txted her it was kinda dry, so idk what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_4rqz1j", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Wanting to meet long time online friends", "post": "As the title suggests I want to meet some online friends that I have been talking to for a long time. There are 2 of them that I was planning to have come to my house and stay about a week. 1 of my friends got their ticket already but the other one is having trouble trying to convince his mother that he should be able to go.\n\nHe is 19 so it's not like he's some 12 year old wanting to go by plane to some place alone. He has tried talking to her and she keeps bringing up the point \"you dont know him.\" We do know each other and have for about 7 years now and this may be our only chance left to meet up. \n\nI can understand why his mother is worried because of the situation but she seems to be pretty stubborn about discussing it. He only has a bit of time to convince her before he meets the deadline to call off for work and I was really looking for some ideas on what to do about this. We have come up with some but I think he's starting to give up which I am really hoping doesnt happen.", "summary": "Want to meet with friends but friends mom is being stubborn about it. Looking for ideas."}
{"id": "t3_xoo23", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "18 Years old guy looking for advice on how to lose weight 90 kg atm", "post": "Hello, i am 18 years old and i weigh 90 kg (180Lbs) And i am around 180 cm tall, and i would like some tips on how to lose weight, i'm mostly concerned about what to do eat and how much to eat.\nI got a bad reputation of being the guy who always eats the most, and i got many friends who are really thin without even doing anything about it, which makes me kinda jealous and i really hope that i someday can atleast lose 15 kg (30lbs) I'm currently going in a fitness center around 2 times a week but sometimes i just lack the motivation, and then i don't go at all. I'm here looking for advice on how to lose weight and how to get some motivation, mostly on what to eat though!", "summary": "18 Years Old. I Weigh too much looking for advice on what to eat to lose wight more efficiently :)"}
{"id": "t3_3i4j66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19m) mom (55f) wants me to go to a funeral for someone that i dont know, what should i do?", "post": "My (19m) mom (55f) has an aunt who just passed away whom I have not had an active relationship with and probably haven't even talked to/seen in more than 5 years. I told her that funerals make me uncomfortable, especially when I don't know the deceased that well, and that the day of the funeral (which is about 90min from home) is one of my only 2 days off until school starts. To which she basically gave me the \"it's the right thing to do and we all need to do stuff we don't want to\" shit. I know that I'm an adult and technically I don't need to go, but I still live at home because I'm a student and I know that she will try to discipline me in some way by taking something away if I don't go, she is a bit of a manipulative control freak most of the time since I've been over 12 years old probably. And I know she thinks she's looking out for my best interest most times, but in this case I feel like I shouldn't feel bad for not going and that she shouldn't try to make me feel bad or punish me.  \n\nWhat do you think I should do, currently I am just gonna \"bite the bullet\" and go but I was wondering if you guys had better advice.", "summary": "My(19m) mom (55f) wants me to go to a funeral for a person I don't really know, and she's going to punish me any way she can if I don't go, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1exx9v", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV]23 M 5'9\": 267=>225 w Pics [Oct 2012=>Now]", "post": "Hey /r/LoseIt folks. I started my second serious attempt at weight loss this fall, as I started graduate school. I started seriously Oct 1st, adding activity by living somewhere urban and close to work/school, and trying to eat a little more conscientiously (personally, I used 4 Hour Body's quasi-keto low carb diet. Hooray beans!). For the first couple months, I did daily weigh-ins as part of my morning routine, and I need to get back to that. I'm not calorie counting yet, but that and the gym are what I've kept in the back pocket for when I start gaining weight.\n\nIf you're anything like me, you occasionally get frustrated with the folks who lose 10 pounds and see a world of change. I honestly couldn't point to anything in the mirror that signalled weight loss until the last month or two. In the pictures below, I still really don't see much of a difference. But I'm down from a 42\" waist to a 38\", the scale claims that I weigh less, and friends/family make comment on it if the subject comes up. So, if you see big changes on the scale, but none in the mirror, keep at it. I know you've heard it before, I know it's a pain, but it's doing you good. You are losing weight. You are making progress. And hopefully you're trying to change your life for the healthier, not just your look for the slimmer. \n\nAnyway, here are pics:\n\n[Front Comparison \\(January 2012 to May 2013\\)](\n\n[Side Comparison \\(November 2011 to May 2013\\)](", "summary": "In month 8, have trouble seeing changes in the mirror, finally see changes now, and pics are provided. Keep at it, if you can't see changes, someone else definitely can."}
{"id": "t3_3zmtpz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [23M] confused about [22F] friend", "post": "So basically we had a going away party for one of my friends, we'll call her \"A\". Everyone got drunk (I was tipsy). Enter A's friend we'll call her \"B\". The whole night we were dancing and holding hands (She was sober apparently). B saw A get really drunk and decided we should leave, even though I didn't come with them B insisted I come. \n\nWe drop off everyone and it's me, A and B. A is extremely sick and starts vomiting everywhere so we have to drop her off at her house.  So now it's me and B alone in the car just talking about whatever. Now I have never really been interested in B and I've seen her a couple of times but never caught my eye.\n\nFast forward after A left out of state. B starts texting/snapping me on the daily and she said \"even though A left, we still better hang out\". She'll send me selfies with her dog and all that kind of stuff. After texting around , I find we have a lot of things in common.", "summary": "Should I take this as she's interested? and I know no one here is a mind reader but why would she start talking to more after her friend left (Just to get some ideas ).  "}
{"id": "t3_3etkh3", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Just got gassed and robbed on a night train in Serbia", "post": "I want to warn others planning on traveling with night trains to keep their valuables safely hidden in a secure place lika a waist-wallet underneith clothing for example! Here's what happened to me:\n\nI was traveling on a night train between Serbia and Bulgaria in a small 6-person sleeping cabin. The doors were locked and we felt really safe but still kept our belongings in (what we considered) safe places, my girlfriend tucked her purse between the bed and window-side wall under the blanket by her feet and another passenger slept with her purse under her pillow.\n\nWhen we woke up to passport control the doors were unlocked and all our bags and purses were open on the floor, emptied of valuables including phones, chargers and money, one passenger even had her wristwatch taken off!\n\nI don't have evidence that they used sleeping-gas on us but this also happened to the passengers in the next two cabins so that makes 18 people that didnt wake up to people going under their pillows and searching in their bags so I'm pretty sure they used gas. \n\nIt's worth mentioning that appart from the theft, I had a great time traveling with the night train! I met a lot of really fun backpackers and the atmosphere was great! So I would definately recomend traveling with night-trains just make sure you keep your valuables very well hidden.", "summary": "Night trains are great, loosing your stuff is not. Keep your valuables hidden."}
{"id": "t3_3ilqce", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "(27)F In need ideas on things to do after a breakup...", "post": "So, I just got out of a relationship a few days ago. I live in a place that I don't really have any friends, absolutely no family. The few friends I do have are work-related, and often our schedules don't line up or they work as many crazy hours as I do. \nI'm in the Denver area, and I'm tired of sitting at home, bored and lonely. I don't want to get involved in another relationship, I just want to find people who can become good friends of mine. I don't want to just search online (and that's really not the best way to meet people anyway) and I'm short on ideas of how to spur this into action. \nI don't go clubbing, but I do enjoy a few choice restaurants and bars. Outside of that, I enjoy being outdoors - in parks, on mountains, riding my bike - things of that nature. I love live music, as well.\nI suppose my biggest setback is that I'm not an outgoing person. I'm not the type to walk up to anybody and start a conversation. I just can't do it, no matter how hard I push myself. I have to do it in my job, and that's the only time I ever do.\nI'd like to avoid social media sites as much as possible, mostly to create genuine experiences more than anything else.\n\nI'm open to almost all ideas and suggestions! \n\nThanks for reading!", "summary": "No real friends or family within same state, need ideas on how to meet friends."}
{"id": "t3_ldc5h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How Do You Deal with a Complete Lack of Direction?", "post": "I'm a lurker.  By now I bet I've read hundreds of thousands of stories on reddit, some true some fake, some happy some sad.  Famous people doing big things, not so famous doing small things, but they're all **trying**, they're all working towards something.\n\nI'm at my wits end with no motivation, drive, or direction.  I am so confused at this (late) point in my life...I've had ideas and dreams but never the impetus to follow through with them.  Even a \"regular job\" seems extraordinary to me.\n\nI'll admit in the past decade it's gotten worse - from some kind of extreme inherent laziness to full blown depression.  I don't know why I can't work towards anything and it's driving me crazy.  I want all the things a normal person wants but I have a deep-seated inability to perform the effort required to get them.\n\nIt's been so long since I've felt \"engaged\", I don't even know what I want, what I might be good at, or how I want to be years hence - I want love and companionship and friends and success (and enough wealth to live comfortably and healthfully of course), but only in the most general sense.  I don't even have cravings for particular food any more, I just feel hungry or I don't.\n\nI know I have things to offer...I'm free of debt, truthful, well educated, kind, fairly attractive, sometimes funny, and I used to be creative...but it's like whatever combines these traits to make a *person* has drained out of me.  I'm too tired to do anything but browse the internet, play video games, and masturbate, which to be honest all involve more rote behavior than actual interest.  The best I've done in the last decade or so (I'm 30) is get one temporary job after another when my savings run out (which takes a while even with crap jobs as I never feel like buying myself anything beyond essentials.)\n\n[", "summary": "]("}
{"id": "t3_ys4qy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, what's your best experience involving real life trolling/pranking?", "post": "I'll give you mine, though it may not compare to what some of you guys have seen or done. \n\nMy friend had a dog for around 18 years, called Gunner. The day it passed away, my friend and her mum were in absolute bits over it. They had the dog cremated, and her dad, being the nice guy he was, went to pick up the ashes from the vets, or wherever they cremated dogs.\n\nWhen he got home with the ashes in a box, I was there with my friend and her mum, giving moral support or whatnot over the dogs' death. My friends' dad gentle opened the door, placed his bag down, gave a sympathetic smile, and said \"hey guys, look who's home...\" soul-crushing, right?\n\nNext thing, the dad trips, throwing the box in the air mid-trip. As he tried to catch it, the box flies open, sending a cascade of burned remains into the air and onto the cream carpeted living room. Now. I am not soul-less, and the tripping part was not funny to me. (Though I did chuckle and the misfortune) no. It was what happened after this. My friends mums' reaction of screaming, crying, hitting her husband, and reluctantly HOOVERING UP the dogs ashes, whilst in tears and swearing to kill her husband with his clumsiness. While this is happening my friend is freaking out, asking if they could keep the hoover bag as a memorial to her dog, running circles in the house. But wait, the funny part hasn't come yet.\n\nHer dad, in an almost slow-motion, turns to his bag, which is still on the floor from entering the house, gentle pulls out another, replica box, with \"Gunner\" written in gold flourishing letters on the top. He gives me a motherfucking wink, puts the box on a table next to me, and says \"let's see how long it takes her.\" And walks out.\n\nTo this day I can't work out wether that guy is fucking hilarious or a douchebag. But I can say I have never laughed harder.", "summary": "friends' dad fake spills dead dogs ashes on floor."}
{"id": "t3_1fyo5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it okay to tell my lover that it bothers me when I don't hear from him for over 24 hours?", "post": "Me: Female 31\nPartner: Male 26\nRelationship Length: 1 year 6 months\n\nI ask, because it makes me feel needy and shitty that it bothers me so much. Normally he is very attentive, loving in his words, texts me several times a day if not more, but then suddenly out of nowhere he'll take forever to text me back, his replies very short and unloving even if I am trying to show HIM love, and if I don't say anything, I won't hear from him for a day or two - sometimes more - and then all of the sudden he'll be attentive again. I HATE THIS. Mostly I hate that it even matters to me! Should it matter to me? \n\nI want to be that cool girlfriend who doesn't give a shit, especially since I do have my own life, own hobbies, tons of friends and I could care less with anyone else, yet here I am, sweating it like a fucking lovesick 12 year old girl. I hate that anyone has this sort of power over my heart.", "summary": "My lover has weird texting habits and I want to know if it should bother me as much as it does and how I can handle it."}
{"id": "t3_1esrtz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am into my friend's [20M] half-brother [22M], but my friend has feelings for me. How should I proceed?", "post": "Last week I [19F] met one of my good friend's [20M] half-brothers [22M] and we really hit it off. We have plans to go out for drinks this week (drinking age here in the UK is 18), and have been \"talking\" every day since we met (Facebook and texting). I've known my friend for nearly 3 years.\n\nThe problem, though, is that my friend has feelings for me, although he has never told me himself. Some of our mutual friends and coworkers have told me that he wants to be with me, but I have no interest in him, and I am fairly certain he is aware of this.\n\nSo right now I'm debating what to do - I feel like if I were to pursue things with the half-brother that my friend would be hurt, but I don't want to miss out on this chance to get to know someone who may turn out to be perfect for me.\n\nI'm just wondering if pursuing things with the brother would be a totally scumbag move on my part, or if anyone here has experience (good or bad) with something similar?", "summary": "going on a date with my friend's brother, but my friend has feelings for me. Am I a scumbag? How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_3vfdsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] struggling to believe I'm good enough to be in a loving relationship", "post": "I'll try to keep it brief, but it may end up as a wall of text so here it goes..\n\nI'm a 26 year old with a great job, who has traveled the world (and plans to keep doing so) and from what I'm told I'm smart, funny, pretty good looking, etc. Yet no matter how hard I try, I end up crashing and burning at potential relationships with girls I have feelings for.\n\nI've had a couple of casual things here and there that have lasted a bit, but anytime I meet someone who I have a genuine connection with I put so much pressure on myself to impress them and be the ideal guy that I end up screwing it up when something goes wrong and I become insecure that I'll lose them (and some of these crash and burns have scarred me with how ****ed up they've ended) \n\nI'm starting to lose hope I'll ever be able to be myself around any girl I really get feelings for, and even if I am they'll accept me. I've never had a relationship before and the constant failure is breaking me down. \n\nHow can I turn this around? how can I move past my failures and truly believe I'm enough and that I'll find that connection?", "summary": "Constantly get in my own head when dating, consistently fail at relationships, how can I believe in myself and believe that someday I'l find someone?"}
{"id": "t3_ygktn", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Just wanted to share our small success", "post": "so i assume most kids are a bit like ours - they love watching movies and playing video games\n\nand i assume we're like most parents - we try to limit their screen time\n\nwe've tried a rewards system where they earn game time, we've tried limiting it to an hour a day, nothing really felt right\n\nbut we have finally found a way that works and makes everyone happy...\n\nthey can play as much and watch as much as they want - but only on saturday and sunday\n\nmonday through friday they can do anything that doesn't involve a screen\n\ntoday my husband caught our 8 year old reading.. on a *saturday*. puzzles have again become a favorite. the dollhouse is getting more use than since the week after we made it\n\nthey have really learned to enjoy other forms of entertainment and im incredibly proud of them =)", "summary": "no video games or tv except for saturday and sunday, during which they can play/watch as much as they want. successful because they spend little time sitting in front of a screen by choice because theyve rediscovered books and toys"}
{"id": "t3_wckbi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do your grandparents have any interesting stories about the effects that WWI or WWII had on their families?", "post": "Today my grandma told me that during the Hyperinflation of the Weimar Republic (Germany) that my Great-great-grandpa was tricked into selling his land. He and his family owned 5-10 acres of land, around 1923, which was pretty decent for the time. One night he went to a bar and was drinking with, as my grandma described, a \"Jew\". They talked about their families and what not. My Great-great-grandpa mentioned his plot of land. The \"Jew\" then offered to buy his plot of land for a million Deutsche Mark. Now before WWI one million Deutsche Mark was worth roughly $5million today. His first thought was that this \"Jew\" must be insane and he happily accepted. So my Great-great-grandpa went home to his family and told them the great news. My Great-great-grandpa was old at the time and new little about the current economy. In 1923, roughly the time he sold his plot of land, a million Deutsche Mark just barely bought you a loaf of bread. Now just as a disclaimer, my grandma is not racist at all and wasn't blaming this on the jews, just simply the one.", "summary": "My Great-great-grandpa was tricked into selling 5-10 acres of land for a loaf of bread."}
{"id": "t3_1yufu6", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Just a thought about being motivated to prove others wrong.", "post": "I've seen and heard many photos with quotes and sayings on proving people wrong and how that's motivating to keep reaching for whatever goals. Am I the only one who is not at all motivated by this? Frankly, I do not care for what people think of me [as in judgmental and/or ignorant criticism] and don't have much interest in competition. Rather, I aim to better myself from who I was yesterday.\n\nIf I were to try and prove people wrong with their judgments of me, I'd be steering in quite a different direction rather than focusing on improving myself and what I want to do. A direction that might just be harmful to me in the long run. \n\nUltimately, I think that it is not others you should prove wrong, but the inner voice that tells you how you aren't qualified or able to do what it is you want to do. So instead of aiming to prove others wrong, where one might indeed end up proving them wrong yet see themselves on a path they never truly desired, one can look from within. \n\nWe [probably] have all faced that inner voice that questions our own abilities and drivers to get us to where we want to be. I once heard an excerpt from Ayn Rand's *Philosophy: Who Needs It* and she wrote something along the lines of: Instead of questioning and doubting your abilities and competency, simply ask yourself what steps are necessary to take and what barriers need to be overcome in order to get to where to want to go. In other words, instead of doubting yourself in relation to your goal, focus only on what needs to be done to get to your goal.\n\nIn my humble opinion, I believe this is a truer method for self-satisfaction as opposed to proving others wrong.\n\nI am by no means trying to preach. I simply feel the 'proving others wrong' motto is good with intention but not so good in implementing.", "summary": "Prove yourself wrong with your greatness, limitless effort, and potential of success rather than proving others wrong by being fueled by their negative, judgmental, and ignorant notions of you."}
{"id": "t3_2lcng8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my clingy Ex [18F] that lasted 1 month, just broke up a week ago. Don't know if break up was justified.", "post": "We are both 18 and in college, and live in the same dorm complex (not the same rooms though). I broke up with her because I felt like we went WAY too fast and she had way too much emotional attachment (there was a point at which I didn't feel attracted to her even). I didn't feel like she would change her clingy-ness much at the time.\n\nHowever, after a week of breakup, I've been reconsidering if she can change. Maybe it's just me missing her attention, or that I don't like being alone, but I'm now unsure if I overreacted about her emotional attachment and clingy-ness.\n\nWhat do you think /r/relationships? Should I reconsider the breakup or stick with my decision?", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend since I felt she was too clingy and wouldn't change. However, I now feel like she might(?) be able to change. Did I over react?"}
{"id": "t3_1y3g84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] get lost in my head and get really wishy-washy when I'm with someone I'm attracted to.", "post": "I am currently back in the dating scene after a few years of being single, and I have been seeing a guy that I really like for the past few months.\n\nWhile we have been having a great time together and I think things are going well, one thing I've noticed is that because I'm really into him (both physically and mentally), I kind of get lost in my head. I'm not sure how to explain it, but it almost gets harder to think clearly (perhaps it's additional hormones coursing through my bloodstream messing things up in my brain?). I forget silly details (like names of things I should know) and become a lot less self-confident in things like decision-making (What should we do tonight? Where should we eat dinner?). I don't really think that I'm afraid to say what I think in front of him or that I'm afraid of being judged; I just feel like there's some kind of block in my brain that's keeping me from being completely confident in myself.\n\nI am generally a very self-confident person, so this is really frustrating. I feel like it's not very representative of who I am and, based on previous relationships, I know it's not fun to be with someone who can't make decisions. I think this feeling is somewhat normal (akin to \"butterflies in one's stomach\") but I'd really like to work past it so that I can be more confident when I'm around him.\n\nI hope my explanation of what is going on makes sense. Let me know if you need any clarifications!", "summary": "I get a lot less confident when I'm around the guy I'm seeing because I'm really into him, and it causes me to forget simple things and get wishy-washy when making decisions. I'd like help working past it."}
{"id": "t3_3mbaf9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Literally running away from my problems", "post": "A few days ago, I told one of my best friends I was in love with her, fully aware that the feeling wouldn't be mutual. I thought I could handle it. I was wrong. I've deleted my facebook account and keep minimal contact with any friends now, since a lot of them are her friends as well. I ruined a perfectly good friendship, multiple friendships actually, because of my stupid feelings, and I'm not sure I'll ever be able to fix them.\n\nThe only thing keeping me sane is the thought of leaving town and never coming back. I need to get as far away from this place as possible by the end of the year. I'm prepared to sleep in my car for a few weeks if I have to, just until I can find a place to stay. \n\nI don't know if I'll tell my family I'm leaving or if I'll just quietly slip away one day. And if I do tell them, I'm not sure I'd be able to tell them why. I just know that there's nothing for me here and that I have to leave whenever I can.\n\nI just want to say I'm sorry to all of my friends. I feel terrible not talking to them about any of this, but they can't ever know when or where I'll be leaving. I either leave town and start over new or I die here.", "summary": "I'm dumb and I'm gonna run away idk read the title"}
{"id": "t3_2qzxo3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my girlfriend i kissed another girl last new years", "post": "Hello reddit, \ntoday, i fucked up big time by giving my girlfriend the worst new years eve present of all and throwing into question our whole relationship.\n\nHeres a little context:\nMe and my gf have been dating for almost 16 months, the whole time its been a relatively smooth and very productive relationship. We get along great, lots of physical attraction, the whole shebang. 1 month in I fucked another girl, felt really bad about it, told her and we were able to work through it. Every new years, my gf goes on vacation with her family, and last new years eve being at a party with some friends I gave another girl a new years eve kiss at midnight. Not thinking it was a big deal and not wanting to create drama, I never mentioned it. This whole relationship we've had pretty good communication and i've tried to always be truthful with her. Anyways, now heres the fuck up:\n\nShe calls me drunk from her vacation and everything is great as usual and we talk about a lot of things including our ideas of what love is and if i've hooked up with anybody since shes been gone (~2 weeks since we've seen each other). I haven't but said that i had been feeling very sexual and thought about fucking a girl i met last night. She then asks me to tell her a secret. In my infinite wisdom, i say last new years i pecked another girl for a midnight kiss and she instantly got really sad and angry. Now this throws the whole relationship into question for her and shes saying i should take the rest of the break off and hook up with who i want. I truly only want her, but it seems like im always doing stupid shit that makes it seem like i don't want her. Reddit wat do?", "summary": "Told my girl i gave a rando a peck last new years, she's pissed, i'm trying to fix things"}
{"id": "t3_4fqbxf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Nausea with CICO?", "post": "A little bit of background: 21 F, 5'7\", ~165. I've been \"casually\" dieting (making healthier choices & eating less) since November, but a little over a week ago I downloaded MFP and started CICO. I usually eat 1,110-1,200 calories, a little less on days when the nausea is bad. I don't know if it's relevant, but I also take a stimulant medication (prescribed by my doc) which suppresses my appetite for most of the day. \n\nSince starting CICO I've woken up incredibly nauseous every single morning. I've pretty much always had problems eating breakfast in the morning due to nausea, but it's much worse than it has been in the past, it lasts for hours. If I make myself eat breakfast before noon, I end up throwing it up (it's happened four times this week). But when I don't eat it seems like the nausea lasts well into the afternoon, making it hard to meet my caloric needs for the day. I've read it could be low blood sugar, but would that really affect me so strongly every single morning? I usually eat a snack two hours before I go to bed (10 pm). I've also read dehydration can cause it, which could be the case, but again, would it really be this bad/frequently? What can I do to stop this from happening?", "summary": "I'm nauseous most of the day since counting calories. Why? Did this happen to anyone else? What did you do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1bi8ny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] and my partner [35M] of seven years, are starting to fell the pressure to get married.", "post": "We've been together for almost seven years and we never felt the need to get married, we've bought a house together, a car, made financial decisions together and so on. We feel like a married couple, but our families and friends keep asking when we're going to get married, why we don't want to get married, want to know if we're having problems and things like that. We think marriage is really a huge thing, especially here (Italy), where getting a divorce takes at least 3 years and quite some money spending, besides that we wouldn't have problems getting married, but we talked about it and what came out of it was: if we never thought about it, there must be a reason. I'm scared we're going to rush trough it just because \"it's the right thing to do\" and it'll damage our relationship.", "summary": "Me and my partner feel the pressure to get married, I'm scared we are going to rush it to please others and it'll damage our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3u65o1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (24m) of over 1 year, has trust issues and I keep catching him snooping through my (23f) things.", "post": "On numerous occasions, I have caught my boyfriend of over a year sneaking through my things.", "summary": "boyfriend snoops my devices and lies about it when caught in the act."}
{"id": "t3_3g75p3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waking up late", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for a while and her parents were gonna be out on Friday so we were talking about me heading over and then having a few friends over. \n     Well I get up an hour late so I run to my bike and go as fast as I can to the bus station. I get on the bus, putting my bike in the rack in front, and I text her while on the bus saying I'm sorry. Now at this point I'm still half asleep and when the bus gets to the station, I run off and into her house which is about 100 meters from the bus station, totally forgetting about my bike.", "summary": "left bike on bus bc I slept in"}
{"id": "t3_2h284x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Please give me suggestions, I have to make payments on a car that quit on me last week.", "post": "Here's the situation, about two years ago I was in need of a vehicle since previous one was in an accident. So I was low on cash and found the one mentioned in my title. At the time of purchase the dealer said that in a year I could trade the vehicle in question back to them and all the money I had paid towards it would be considered a down payment on a newer car, I found that suspect. Fast forward a year later I decide not to trade because I don't want to extend the term of the contract, as I don't care for making payments and prefer to purchase cash. Fast forward another year and the car is done. The third cylinder has no compression which is necessary. Both I and my mechanic feel it would be best to get rid of the vehicle as it will take at least 1200.00 to fix and a local motor (with more miles than mine btw) will cost at least 1100.00 before labor. \nIt's a 2003 Ford focus if anyone wants to know. I plan to call the dealer and see if the offer to trade still stands, but I don't think it will. What's my best course of action?l also I still have two more years of payments.", "summary": "car shut down, still owe on it, need another but still have a payment. Any suggestions will help"}
{"id": "t3_3pe16j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] get stupidly jealous over my friend [18 F] , how do i prevent this ?", "post": "A year and a half ago i started a new 6 form , In the last year and a half i have gotten closer and closer a girl who is now my close friend , we're both really close , don't really argue , good friends . But , there's a major issue , i'm constantly jealous when i see her talking to and chilling with other people , i KNOW this is ridiculously over attached and i do not have a right to feel the way i do , but i still feel this way so no matter what i know is right , my emotions don't follow the same logic.\n\n I think that it's rooted in the fact that she's one of the very few people i'm very close to and can talk to about anything and possibly worry about losing her , i'm also aware that i like affection more so than most , while i still try to keep myself in check and never show or express my jealousy , it's still there , does anyone have any suggestions how to stop being so stupidly jealous ( currently trying to use an elastic band and negatively re-enforce myself by wearing it on my hand and pulling then releasing it which hurts like a bitch , but it isn't helping as much as I'd hope)", "summary": "How to stop being stupidly jealous when my friend hangs out with other people ?"}
{"id": "t3_31tr2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26F) fianc\u00e9 (28M) wants to get tattoos that are gruesome and offensive to me. Is there anything I can do?", "post": "I've been with my fianc\u00e9 for 3 years, engaged 6 months. I've always known he wanted two tattoo sleeves when got this certain promotion at work, and I was totally fine with that. I don't have tattoos myself but I thought it would be sexy on him.\n\nLast week he finally got the promotion, so he was showing me the portfolio and tattoo ideas of the tattoo artist he has been in contact with for the last few weeks (planning his sleeves.) My fianc\u00e9 has stated he wants a garden scene on one arm and then a dark city-scape on the other. He would leave it up to the tattoo artist to figure out how best to draw that. The artist's work is detailed and good, except his subject matter is blood, guts, gore, violence, etc. I should point out my fianc\u00e9 wants tattoos that \"look cool\", and he has no desire for tattoos because they have a special significance, meaning, symbolism, etc. to him. He simply wants \"cool art\" on his arms, which I can understand. However, these tattoo ideas are just so vulgar to me that I was grossed out, a little creeped out, and mostly just scared that the man whose arms I have to look at for the next 70+ years might be covered in images that are offensive to me. \n\nWe plan on having children at some point, I definitely wouldn't want them growing up seeing violence and blood/guts on their father's body forever. I mentioned this to my fianc\u00e9 and he said \"I like the artist's style so I would let them do his interpretation of what I want, however that looks to him.\" I feel stuck here. I don't want to control him, because it is his body, but I feel like I have some say in something like this because it is permanent and I would have to look at his arms everyday and be reminded of how intensely graphic his tattoos are. I'm scared of being turned off/freaked out for the rest of our lives together. What do I do?", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 wants to get graphic tattoos that disturb me on his arms, can I do anything about it?"}
{"id": "t3_42xhpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with [?? M] met at my workplace, he found me on facebook. Is this normal?", "post": "So basically, I [22 F] just started a job at a small casino a few weeks ago. My job is basically making sure customers are happy, cleaning and maintaining the machines. My supervisor is big on customer service and wants us to talk to all the customers that come in and have conversations with them if they are interested in talking. It's just part of the job.\n\nThere were a couple of guys that came in a week ago or so and one of them was playing a machine and the other was watching. I walked by and the one who was watching turned to me and started asking me questions about if I like my job, ect. and we just had a small conversation til they were ready to leave. I didn't think anything of it, it's just a part of my job. They left, then a minute later the guy came back in and asked me if I had a boyfriend. It caught me off guard but I told him I have a boyfriend and he was like \"oh, alright.\" and left. I'm technically single right now but I just broke up with my bf after a rocky relationship and really just want to be single right now to get myself back together.\n\nSo I went on with life for about a week and forgot all about it, then a couple days ago I got a friend request from the guy on facebook, and a notification that he had liked a picture of me from like 3 years ago. I ignored the friend request then the next day he \"poked\" me and I'm guessing he deleted the friend request and resent it bc I had a notification for a friend request which was just him again (I hadn't deleted it, I just left the request alone).\n\nI looked on his profile and he's only got one profile pic, not many friends and he hadn't posted anything since 2014. There are 3 posts from jan. 2016 all within the last 2 days, one of which is just his phone number.\n\nMy question is, should I add him? I'm kinda creeped out that he looked me up and looked through all my stuff, then suddenly started posting statuses to try to get me to talk to him, especially after I told him I wasn't interested.", "summary": "Guy came into my workplace, we had brief generic conversation. He asked if I had a BF, I said yes bc I'm not interested (just broke up with my bf, need single time). He's now stalking me on facebook. Does this seem odd to anyone else?"}
{"id": "t3_xdxvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What extremely stupid things have you said without thinking that make you go \"WTF brain\" after saying it ?", "post": "I'll start. So I work as a phone salesman, my job is to call men and advertise our clothing brand and underware to be exact. I always give the same salespitch and try to get them interested, if this doesn't work out I try to politely thank them and hang up. So I called and this old guy picks up. I give him the standard pitch after which he goes \"Sorry, but I am attenting a funeral and this is not the right time to discuss this.\" This is the first time someone has said this to me and I was a little taken aback. As usual I just threw the \"Well thank you anyways and have a nice day.\" to the end and hang up... Took me about 5 seconds to realize that I just wished an old guy probably burying a relative or possibly the wife to have a nice day.", "summary": "wished an old guy at the funeral to have a nice day over the phone before hanging up."}
{"id": "t3_uq5ub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do? (car accident question)", "post": "Well, not really an accident per say (minimum damage)(not even to care itself). I backed up maybe 9 inches and barely touched this lady's car outside my house. No damage done to the car at all. She did have a very ugly chrome Nissan license plate on the front of the car. Barely pushed the plate back to where I could have fixed it by hand... The lady stormed out of her house all mad and asked how much money I had on me at the time...and said \"I guess i won't call the insurance). I looked up the license plate on the Nissan web site and it is 50 DOLLARS! I really don't want to pay for that piece of shit. What should I do reddit??", "summary": "Barely messed up a ladies front license plate, she tried to extort me, don't want to buy a new one."}
{"id": "t3_25dpq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] Over 1 1/2 Years; Am I Wrong For Wanting To Do This?", "post": "So I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. We are madly in love. I was her first kiss and we both have each others virginity so this is a very serious relationship. We block out other people from our relationship. By this i mean i am not aloud to talk to other girls, and she isn't aloud to talk to other guys. \n\nI dated a different girl earlier in high school and wasn't really a boyfriend to her, never really treated her as a girlfriend. I was a jerk to her. Now that i've kept a GF for so long, i know the ins and outs of a relationship. Is it wrong if I want to hang out with said ex? I was just thinking maybe one time. I've talked to her before, and my GF has freaked out, my GF hates my ex. So obviously she wouldn't know about it. But another problem presumes, i haven't talked to her for about 6 months because my GF has cut off all communications I had with her. The only way i could even ask if she'd hang out with me somewhere, is for me to make a fake facebook that my GF couldn't find.", "summary": "Is it wrong for me to want to take a girl out on one date to change her view about me while already in a committed and serious relationship? GF wouldn't knw about it."}
{"id": "t3_2nqm9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Ex [22 F] are rekindling the flames", "post": "Three years ago, a relationship with a girl I loved ended due to the hardships and constant strains of a long distance relationship. We left each other as friends which lead to a summer of disaster as we (due to work) ended up spending a lot of time together.\n\nAfter that summer, we didn't see each other very much. Maybe talked once a semester, meet for coffee during breaks, nothing special. But after a recent catch up call, we kept talking. It's been three weeks now of constant communication, talking about everything we can: making plans for winter break, talking about things we used to do, family, etc. \n\nWhat has changed since three years ago is that once again we'll both be living in the same city. After I graduate in May, the chance of being in a relationship becomes a reality. And I feel like she might see that. Which comes to my problem... I become anxious.\n\nIt happened during our long distance and it's happening again. I can't seem to get her out of my head when she doesn't respond to things for awhile, which is just her, not the best texter. And I know I shouldn't worry but I do and I let my imagination get the best of me. This is something I want to solve because it'll happen with her and anyone else I fall in love with.\n\nIt could be because of our previous history in long distance or because I'm still so far away from her but I want to learn how to control myself and not become this anxiety.", "summary": "Possibly getting back together with my ex but as before, am becoming anxious about what may happen."}
{"id": "t3_2kpofs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] need advice on how to fix my friendship with her [21/F].", "post": "A few days ago, I posted [a thread] about my past situations and how to improve as a person. I talked a lot about a falling out I had with a girl I liked. Well, she ended up finding it and it was extremely embarrassing. I can't even begin to explain how it feels knowing someone you care about read all of your deep dark secrets.\n\nI haven't tried to talk to her since the incident. I wanted to take this last year of college to improve myself and hopefully have one last evening with this person before they are out of my life forever. But now I don't know if we can ever go back to being normal friends again. I am ashamed and embarrassed that she found that. I ended up deleting the account and creating this one.\n\nI'm lost. This whole situation makes me so sad, yet I feel furious at the same time. I'm angry that this blew up in my face. And I'm angry that I blew my chances with this person. It just hurts right now. I just would like to try to fix things, if I can. If I can't, then I don't know what I'll do next. Probably mope around till I get the motivation to start doing something again.", "summary": "Vented to Reddit, person found it. Extremely embarrassing and I want to fix it. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_ulv1y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Best girl - friend getting a Boyfriend, jealousy ensues...", "post": "My best friend of four years is getting a boyfriend. During those four years she and I have crossed some boundaries (although neither of us have had sex) but have always returned to being just good friends, so I've developed some strong emotional ties to her. However, there are issues with her that keep me from elevating our relationship any further. She loves me, I don't love her the same way, but still feel for her.\n\nNow she's taking interest in another guy and I'm freaking out thinking how they're going to screw each other. She and I are both virgins and I feel intense heartache whenever I think about the things they're going to do. The sex aspect of this situation is robbing me of my peace of mind. I can only think of two solutions, which are distancing myself from her to the point where I care nothing for her, or suffering for an indefinite amount of time knowing that she's getting it on with someone...", "summary": "My best friend is getting a boyfriend and I dread knowing that they could be having sex at any moment."}
{"id": "t3_30mdi4", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "[Update] Thanks to you guys, my dinner was awesome!", "post": "So I ended up having 11 people over in the end, after cancellations and whatnot, and i'm really happy (and mildly surprised) to say that it went really well. \n\nI prepped all the meat a day in advance alongside the pasta, and so I had a bunch of time to relax the day of. People came a little late, but most of them came with some sort of dish, so there was a salad and dip to munch on while I was starting the fire. I only burnt myself a little, and have about 4 lbs of meat left over (two people didn't show, and myself and some other people didn't really eat). \n\nAll in all, it was a suuper relaxed thing, we listened to the (relatively) new Kendrick Album, watched Zoolander, and had a great time. \n\nI really couldn't have done it without all of your advice! Also, I know I didn't respond to a lot of you in the main thread after I said i'd try your dishes, but that's because I actually tried to make most of those dishes, and between that and school work, my hands were kind of full. \n\n**Bonus**: I asked somebody to bring an app (because you guys suggested the yobbos help out), they made something killer, impressed a girl, and got very laid. We did that. I'm proud of us.", "summary": "You guys are great, dinner was great"}
{"id": "t3_2s5mpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] best friend [18 F] is in an abusive situation and is being distant. Am i right to be worried?", "post": "My best friend, Cara, is a freshman at a community college. She lives at home because she isn't working and the community college doesn't have a dorm. Her dad has always been verbally abusive, but lately it's gotten physical. It's only happened 3 times, but that's 3 times too many. \n\nCara has no family in the area, and since she wasn't very social in high school, she only had our main friend group, and we've scattered across the country for college/jobs/experiences, myself included. She's all alone and has nowhere to go. \n\nShe's been strong as fuck so far, but the past few days she's been being really distant and withdrawn. We talk every day, at least a few texts back and forth, but usually quite a bit. I've heard from her twice in the last two days. Now I understand giving people space, but with her dad ready to beat the shit out of her at any moment has got to have her depressed, and I'm afraid of the worst happening. Am I justified in being worried about her lack of contact?", "summary": "my best friend is stuck in an abusive home and is being distant. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_4h6mw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] need advice on how to improve communication with S/O [19/M]", "post": "My S/O and I have been together for almost half a year now. Our communciation has never been good, which I believe is especially important to have in a long-distance relationship [our situation].  The past two weeks, he has been directing his anger at me and not taking responsibility for his emotions. Not only that, but whenever I want to talk to him about my emotions or what I need from him, he sees it as me 'complaining about him' and gets upset with me for being sad. \n\nHis main concern was not feeling loved enough, which I've been trying to work on and start doing little things again to show him that I do love him. I'm starting to believe that whenever he feels loved/is happy in general, he's really open and understanding to how I'm feeling and asks me if he notices I'm down. Otherwise, if he's stressed/tired/etc., he doesn't want to hear any of it. No matter how kind or loving I am, if I get upset over any little issue [which is tough sometimes because I'm a very sensitive person emotionally], he cuts me off to tell me he needs to go, or just shuts off and doesn't talk to me about it.\n\nOverall it feels like our relationship revolves around how he feels. If he's in a good mood, he tries to be loving and understanding. If he's upset, he's ignorant of my feelings and makes me feel like I'm crazy for being upset/having feelings in general. I've tried to talk to him about how I feel several times, but nothing changes. Whenever he has a problem with something, I try to fix it. \n\nIs there any way I can be clearer in communicating what I want and need? How do I pick the 'right' time to talk to him about things? Right now it feels like there's never a right time, and like I'm not allowed to be upset in front of him because I'm always wrong with how I feel. I still want to work things out with him, but maybe I'm being too understanding.. \n\nHow do I bring it to his attention that we need to work on communicating better?", "summary": "Communication between me and S/O has never been good*; it has been getting worse and worse to the point where I feel like everything is my fault and I don't know how to fix it. Want to know what to do/say to make him see how poorly I feel about the relationship and how both of us can work on communicating better."}
{"id": "t3_3iogy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20M) Bumped into an old friend(20f) not sure if I might be crossing a line.", "post": "So I just started school in my home state and it turns out I have class with a really good friend from awhile back that ended, I would say painfully/unpleasantly.\n\nI met (20F) around middle schools and we became \"bf and gf\" (as much as that is in middle school) I like her a lot and even when we broke up we usually talked and hung out quite a bit. however one day I kinda just stopped talking to her, and even when she made quite explicit attempts to reconnect I ignored them ( this was around soph. year of high school). The reason being is that I had to change from my mother's house to my father's and he was extremely abusive. I felt like I didn't want to be around anyone one after that, I was convinced that I would hurt them and I was embarrassed about my home life. I used to be a really out-going charismatic and fun guy, but after living with my father for a short 2-3 years father's I was essentially dead inside. I could never even imagine having the time that I had had back then. thus I never tried to get back in touch. I pretty confident that I hurt her, however maybe she doesn't see it that way at all?\n\nWhen I saw her today, I said hi and gave her a hug, told her it was good to see her and got her number so we could keep in touch. However when class ended she left quickly and made no attempt to say anything. I'm not sure if it means nothing or not. I'd really like to just sit down with her and at least say sorry. I feel quite bad about it. I'd like to know how to best handle the situation, my plan was to call her and meet her for coffee around lunch sometime next week apologize and then hopefully catch up and maybe set a precedent for another meet.\nLet me know what you think, I appreciate it.", "summary": "bumped into an old friend and wondering if it would be rude to hope to become friends again because of what I did last time."}
{"id": "t3_4tu3zw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My wife wants to use all our money to buy t-bills, as it holds basically no risk, and travel. Decent idea?", "post": "We've accrued roughly liquid about ~$2.75 million between the both of us and owe no property, no debt. If we were to use all of that money to buy t-bills, assuming a ~2% return with a yearly expiry, that's about $55,000usd a year in a very safe return. Does this make theoretical sense or am I missing something?\n\nWe'll then use this money very frugally to sustain us as travel a bit and live in a few countries (mostly SE asia). \n\nIs this a decent idea? We both are pretty strongly against investing all our savings in any kinds of funds or anything that isn't as safe, very risk adverse. Don't think there is anything as safe as t-bills(?). Even investing in index funds/etc, etc. We don't want a 5% return or 7% return or etc if that means we have to up the risk. We are happy with 2%. \n(as an aside, we would just go to the bank and literally buy them there and have them hold it for us?)", "summary": "we want the safest return for our money, seems to be t-bills, want to use the interest from it very frugally abroad. Am I missing something major or something? Don't want to get blindsided."}
{"id": "t3_13p5jq", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Digital Media Major Advice", "post": "Hey, r/college,\n\nI'm in my last couple years of High School and it's time to choose a major.\n\nI've always had a passion in digital media (video editing, graphic design, Photoshop work, etc.) and am thinking about pursuing it at a collegate level. Additionally, since I was younger, I've always wanted to be a teacher, so it's likely that I'll minor in teaching and then get my teaching degree alongside a Masters degree in Digital Media at the University of Rochester once its Digital Media program gets set up.\n\nWhat do Digital Media majors generally need to be accepted into a school under that major? I'm planning to take as many digital media courses at my High School in the upcoming year, but what else should I prepare for? Will I need a portfolio, or will the school likely accept me if they see I'm eager to learn, work, and live the world of Digital Media?\n\nI do great in school grades-wise, I'm the Class President, and I participate in many extracurriculars as well.\n\nAny other advice for a student going into Digital Media or related fields is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "What do I need to be accepted into a school under a Digital Media major?"}
{"id": "t3_39l5zo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my sister's house warming gift would be real.", "post": "I recently bought a new house, and as a gift, my sister decided to buy us a nice indoor plant. You know, one of those nice tall grassy types with those big white flowers. I didn't think much of it, said thank you and my wife put it in the hallway thats near the front door so it could get some light and be seen by our guests. \n\nWe've never been the green thumb type, but I know that when a plant is flowering, that it needs a decent amount of water to survive. So every day before work, I would take a cup of water and dump it into the \"soil\" before I left for work. I would come home every night and the thing would look as dry as a bone. But the flowers stayed in bloom and the daily watering seemed to be keeping them thriving. \n\nI got home the other day from work, and to my surprise, one of the leaves started to fall off. My plant was finally started to wilt. I went to go pick up the leaf to throw it in the trash, and I realize that its a piece of frigin plastic.  I had been duped.\n\nI lift up the base of the pot, and there's a pool of nasty slimy brown water just sitting on my hardwood floor. Sealant peeled off and the floor all discolored. I immediately took the plant outside and threw it off the back deck. \n\nNow time to call the flooring guys", "summary": "Watered fake plant for a month and ruined my brand new hardwood floor."}
{"id": "t3_31m8ai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfiend [23 F] broke up with me [27 M] after a year saying there is no spark", "post": "There was no signs and she was acting completely normal until she texted me to call her saying she needed to talk. Needless to say she said she couldnt deal with it anymore and has been having these feelings for over a month. She has always told me that I was the best boyfriend she ever had and that she never felt this way about someone before. I agreed completely with her she made me feel so happy and I was actually talking about moving forward in the relationship when she finished school. I just dont know what went wrong with the relationship and if there may be a way to get back the spark with her or just move on?", "summary": "Girlfriend lost spark broke up with me, I want to know whether or not to pursue her again or move on"}
{"id": "t3_2r7t0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) boyfriend (28M) of 6 months makes everything about him.", "post": "I have been seeing my boyfriend for the past 6 months or so; he is a really sweet guy. He makes me laugh, and I care about him a lot.\n\nHowever, as we have been spending more and more time together, arguments, of course, have arisen. I have really bad anxiety about conflict in general, which has made me a doormat in previous romantic relationships/friendships, so this time I am making an effort to stand up for myself in an assertive (not aggressive) way.\n\nThe issue is, though, that my boyfriend takes many things personally. For example, he is a very sarcastic guy, and he doesn't show his vulnerable side often. So, we kiss and do the regular couple-y intimate things, but it is hard to get to know him. And that to me is an essential part of intimacy. Also, although he shows physical affection, he doesn't give me compliments or initiate \"I love you's.\" Also, he didn't initiate communication much.\n\nSo, I calmly told that I need that kind of validation in a relationship in order to feel like he cares. He immediately accuses me of calling him a piece of shit. I protested at first, but he kept insisting that all I was saying was that he is a piece of shit. Then, he got angry and walked out of the room to smoke on the balcony. He did come back and told me that he loved me.\n\nAlso, I started seeing him exclusively before we were even official. It was not a good move on my part, but he said that he'd be too hurt at the thought of my being with another guy. After we became official, I told him that I was worried that my expectations in the relationship might be off since I had been seeing him exclusively before actually committing. Again, he accused me of calling him a piece of shit.\n\nHonestly, this raised a major red flag for me. I am angry that he turned my hurt feelings into an excuse to make it all about him and how badly he feels.\n\nReddit, what do you think about this situation? Any input from those who've been in this position (or in the position of my SO)?", "summary": "Can't talk to SO about my feelings because it makes him feel bad."}
{"id": "t3_48feuu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ripping a hole on the back my thumb.", "post": "So yesterday (still within 24 hours of the incident) I was trying to drill a plug out of a 30mm thick piece of oak with a 60mm diameter plug drill on a drill press without the guidance bit (this was the biggest part of the fuck-up).\nThe drill caught the piece of oak (of course) and pulled it away from me. My left hand, which was holding the piece of oak was dragged underneath the plug drill and tore a 20mm gash on the back of second joint of my thumb, exposing the inter workings of my thumb which was very quickly followed by heavy bleeding.\nI notified by boss and he politely got me some gauss and took me to the nearest hospital.\nTwo stitches later, I have to take a least a week off work and spend ages typing up a reddit post.", "summary": "Tore hole in back of thumb, much pain, very inconvenient."}
{"id": "t3_zft1b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I Wait?", "post": "I'm a nineteen year old male and there's this girl that I work with, who's the same age as me, that I like, but the situation is kind of weird. After talking and flirting a bit and getting to know her more, I asked her if she would like to go out sometime (well not asked, I said that we should go out sometime). After I asked her out, she said she was going to think about it. Alright, I thought to myself, thinking she was going to say no, I figured that I should suck it up and move on.\n\nSo she sends me a text later saying that she doesn't have an answer for me yet and needs some time because she likes this other guy, but isn't sure if he likes her back. From what she told me, they've been hanging out for the summer, though I don't know if the guy likes her or not. I'm thinking that he doesn't because 1, obviously I don't want the other guy to get her, and 2, if nothing has happened after hanging out for the summer, maybe he only likes her as a friend.\n\nI think she likes me as well, though, since she hasn't really said no and we're pretty flirty with each other when we're at work. I know that I'm the plan b right now and I'm not going to wait around forever (I've done that before >.>), but this girl is pretty cool and I like her a bunch, so is it worth waiting a little bit more? Should I just ask her who she's going to pick, me or him?", "summary": "19 year old me likes girl, girl likes other guy but doesn't know if he likes her back. I'm girl's plan b, should I wait or just leave?"}
{"id": "t3_38rfj1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reusing plastic straws", "post": "As many TIFUs, this was not today, but many years ago when I was only 8 years old.\n\n  Some background - I was playing at a friends house with NERF guns, when out of nowhere, his brother hit the NERF gun with a ball.  I lost a tooth, and it went straight through my lip, hence I got stitches and needed to drink from straws.\n\n  It's a nice day, I'm eating my pancakes, family is around, life is great.  Until the moment I need to get my straw.  Innocent me grabs the straw, puts in my apple juice, and takes a big sip.  I felt something with a hard texture, and freaked out.  I started to scream and spit out everything. And earwig was in my straw, and I almost swallowed it.  The thing that makes this worse is that my whole family stood around and laughed, not aiding me any way.", "summary": "Insects are bad."}
{"id": "t3_3vghdb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17 M] in a 3 week relationship with my GF [17F] I'm not feeling the connection and want to end it but I learned through a friend she's bought me (very) expensive X-Mas gifts and is having some emotional trouble, what do I do?", "post": "Ok so me and (lets call her) Lily have been dating for three weeks but hanging out for awhile before that. We're young and stupid so people (including) her are acting like we're soul mates already but honestly? I'm really not feeling it, our conversations are the exact same every time (we have like 3 topics we rotate between; music she likes, cheesy pickup lines and family guy. :| ), we have no real shared interests, different outlooks on life and the things I see as cringe worthy, petty or naff she finds hilarious, important and emotional. She's a very nice person and has all the best intentions but I just don't see any real connection and she obviously does. \n\nMy plan was, obviously, to end the relationship. I've got an important week coming up next week with some University Interviews and the such and I decided I wanted it done by then, to have it out of my mind, so I was planning on doing it tomorrow. Yesterday, however, I pissed her off (turned down an offer to go hang out at hers after school because I had prior arrangements with friends, which I think is reasonable, right?) and she's been bouncing between depression and extreme niceness since.\n\nI then found out from a mutual friend that she's bought me an expensive festival ticket for Christmas AND today she's been extra, extra nice, throwing compliments at me and just told me she's bought me another present. She keeps talking about the future and I'm trying to deflect but its really hard to not accidentally reveal anything over text and stay honest. :|\n\nI really don't want to hurt her too badly but its clear to me that she's already very attached, in  a relatively brittle emotional state and she's invested a lot of money in a gift she probably won't be able to get money back on.\n\nI feel cornered and my friends are all as useless as I am, any pointers?\n\nCheers.", "summary": "Short term relationship not working out, girlfriend clearly super into it and has bought me lots of expensive gifts, how to proceed from here?"}
{"id": "t3_3ojxne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M/F] falling for my best friend [19 M/F] [non-romantic?]", "post": "I'll try to make this short and sweet by explaining all the important facts. Also, sorry if I flaired wrong. I didn't know where to put this under\n\nWe've been friends for roughly a year or so and met through an online game. We've never met because he lives in a different country, but we will see each other for the first time this Christmas break while I'm staying at my relatives house. \n\nWe talked about how we would have sex with one another if the other was sexually frustrated in our early stages of our newfound friendship. We also talked about how if we were in a relationship, I would probably turned off by his affection because he's apparently extremely affectionate. I don't know what he's in a relationship, but I did agree that I'm totally not into mush but I do feel loved and appreciate it. This was about 2 months in our friendship and at the time, my feelings for him were platonic. \n\nI plan to meet him first in person before I confess anything to him. I'm not even sure if I'll confess to him in person. All I really want to do when I meet him is to enjoy his company... in the same country.. and in the same timezone.. I don't know when we will have this opportunity again. I'm not afraid to tell him and worry that our relationship will go down in shambles. Yes, there is a possibility that it will get awkward, but I don't think it would be a big deal since we'd talk it through. If we can't get past the awkwardness, then what's done is done is it wasn't meant to be.\n\nWhat I'm nervous about is that the guys I've liked in the past have liked me first and dropped hints. This is my first time liking someone without knowing if the feeling is mutual. It doesn't help that I'm a little dense in the romance department so it takes a bit for me to catch hints... if I even catch them.\n\nNote: we both understand the difficulties that come along with being in a long distance relationship as we have both been in one.", "summary": "falling for best friend and I'm nervous because it's the first time I don't know if my feelings are being reciprocated"}
{"id": "t3_1h2iwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] with my Ex [24F] 4.5 year, still talk after 3 months we broke up, I know she is into a friend of mine", "post": "Hi all,\n\nShe / we broke up 3 months ago after 4 and half years, we had issues around misunderstandings, in the bedroom, jealousy (she cheated on me and I talked to one of my ex's). \n\nFor the past 3 months we had a rocky road, me being jealous of her, and demanding explanations about her behaviour, I became obsessive, till she told me that I was pushing her away. \n\nI decided to give her space till once day, I was on her ipod touch to check my emails, and I saw a few messages (viber / fb ) to the guys she cheated on me with, talking about this other guy that she met (I introduced her to him, nice job to myself). \nShe was telling him how she started to have feelings for this guy and how she doesn't want a relationship with him because he is leaving at the end of August and that she doesn't want to be just another 'girl'.\n\nNow, I am a friend of him, he knows our situation, I don't know if I should tell him something, because I still have very strong feelings for her. I have even joined /r/NoFap to avoid of thinking of her.", "summary": "Ex gf has feeling for a guy I introduced to her, I am jealous"}
{"id": "t3_1so915", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf [25F] of 3 years, hard to deal with constant negativity.", "post": "Hey,\n\nLately i'm having a hard time dealing with my girlfriend. She seems very unhappy, and complains alot. She had some issues with her friends, so it's understandable that she looking for emotional support with me. \n\nThe troubles started 5 months ago, since then she doesn't have the same relationship with her best friend. I recently told her, that I don't want to listen to her problems all the time, and just want to have a good time with her, like we used to. And that she has to deal with them, else she will never solve them. \n\nWe got into a fight after that, she told me, if this makes me cringe already, what if a real problem comes up!? I'm not sure...\n\nShe listened to me, but we keep getting into annoying moments, where i get irritated about her negativity. (on other subjects, or on gossiping about other people).\n\nI picked her up today to go to the store, inside she was happy. At the end she was complaining about ppl parked wrong, the cassier who was looking at other ppl and should mind her own bussines, because she is just a cassier. They added a thing to her tab that she didn't bought, ranted about that. \n\nThis was in a 40 minute time span. I'm not sure what to do anymore, i feel like i'm on the urge of ending things with her, altough she is a great girl!", "summary": "girlfriend is irritating me lately with negative emotions, feel like breaking things off, could use some advice."}
{"id": "t3_2wo4tj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling an old lady that she was going to die.", "post": "I was walking with a friend in an small shopping mall and we always enjoy to have conversations with the most WTF topics ever. We were talking about deaths in movies and i remembered the laser chamber in Resident Evil,it was in that point that the conversation fucked up, we started to talk about the most amazingly cruel way that a person can die,drown in your own mother's piss here, slowly cutted with paper until your body and mind give up there. Then a said again about the laser chamber, and how tense would be to be cutted in half so precisely that you would remain alive until you move, and just then bleed to death( at this moment i get excited and pointed both of my arms to the side to target the blank next to us,like it was someone dieing there, while i looked at my friend) and i said really loud \"You will DIE soon ,there is NOTHING you could do!\".\n\n  My friend made the most surprised face ever and when i looked to my other side i saw that an old lady (probably 80 and with a cane!) was just in front of  my arms, she looked at me  with a LOT of anger, cursed me and my ancesters, then she limped away.", "summary": "said, unintentionally, to an old lady that she would die and she cursed me."}
{"id": "t3_js5ry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "All mixed up", "post": "Alright reddit, I need someone to help me figure out why I can't get my mind to ease up. \n\nI'll start off where everything hit the fan: the beginning of college. \n\nI was with a girl for years before college, and she was great. Nothing about her was terribly wrong and we had some history as kids, so it was cute. None the less, I went off to college and she stayed back home because she still had some highschool left. We had talked about it, and with me living at college it would be too difficult to come home every weekend. Mainly due to the whole money thing. So, we break it off well until I find out she started dating my best friend literally days after we broke it off. It hurt. A lot.\n\nSo second part begins after this. I start dating a girl soon after and become quickly attached. This girl opened my eyes to certain things I hadn't really known, and I love that about new people. We had some differing opinions on smoking pot, and in general just smoking cigarettes due to my ability to just game away my stress. She however felt the need to smoke and blah blah blah. Little side note here, I was her basically true first boyfriend due to VERY strict Greek parents. So, she had a but to learn about talking things out. None the less, she was great up until the second semester began. She became distant, depressed, and a sudden claustrophobia had kicked in from absolutely no where. We tried to talk it out, and I was the most leniant i've ever been to try and keep her around, but to no avail. \n\nMy confused thoughts are this fellow relationshipers:\n*I still feel attached to girl 1. her whole family misses me, and ikes me more the better current guy(heh). \n*I still feel attached to girl 2, even though we only dated a short time and she was becoming psychologically more unstable as the days went on.", "summary": "I still have feelings for an ex I left year ago who's dating my ex best friend, and this other girl from college even though she's a bit more unstable. "}
{"id": "t3_jtpjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If you know you're not going to marry someone... is it being cruel to continue dating them?", "post": "[This is how I've been feeling lately...](\n\nBasics: \nHim: 25 Catholic\nHer: 22 Jewish\nTime together: Just about 2 years.\n\nFirst thing's first. She's been recreationally doing oxy for years, before we were dating, and to her it's not a big deal because she doesnt drink and that's the only thing she does. It's once or twice a week and the agreement was that it's only between us and small quantities, but she's broken that three times in two years and lied+hidden it from me until I found out because I pay attention to details. I'm a drinking only kind of guy and not into having a druggy/stoner for a girlfriend, so this has been a major compromise that I'm not really interested in continuing to compromise on for a full lifetime.\n\nSecond, she's not of my religion and want's the kids to be her relgion, which normally wouldn't be a big deal because it's Jew/Christian... except she literally puts 0% effort into it and tells me she doesn't believe in more than half of it. Her family only celebrates the high holidays and when they do it's just a quick mumble through the prayers as fast as possible while skipping pages just to get it over with ok done yarmulkes off lets eat. While I'm firm in what I believe in and want a solid moral support for my future kids, whether they choose to fully believe is up to them but I want basic morals taught to them.\n\nOther than this though everything is amazing, we've had a great relationship, about to hit 2 years, she's successful with her classes and I'm about to finish my pilot's license in order to start on instrument/commercial/multi-engine ratings. **But** I just can't see myself marrying this girl for a lifetime and raising kids together with her kind of background to model after.", "summary": "If I can't see myself marrying her because of those issues does it make sense to keep dating her, is it cruel to keep the relationship going when she occasionally talks about a ring and the future when I'm pretty sure I don't want that?"}
{"id": "t3_36x7vq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need some advice please", "post": "Hi all, I could really do with some advice\n\nI've also posted this to /r/relationships but its currently being moderated so I thought I'd ask here as well\n\nI'm 20 and have never has a girlfriend or anything near it so I have no idea about these things.\n\nSo college has recently ended for me and a girl in class and I started talking a few days before it ended and the day after college was over I messaged her on Facebook asking if she wanted to hang out during the summer. She replied really enthusiastically about it so we're going to explore a local town next week and go for a walk in the woods.\n\nNow my questions are, is this a date or just friends hanging out? She seems to enjoy talking to me and I find her really interesting and we share similar interests.\n\nIs there anyway I can find out if this is a date without just asking her?\n\nAlso, is there anything I should do differently if this is a date as opposed to just hanging out?\n\nI would really appreciate some advice here\n\nThanks", "summary": "Need advice regarding possible date and what to do"}
{"id": "t3_53q8u8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stepping on a bee's nest", "post": "This all  happened while i was at work today; I am employed by a utility company and often have to go to rural locations to perform maintenance on transmission towers. Around lunch time i had to take a wiz and walked towards the tree line for some shade. During my piss i started getting swarmed by mosquitoes and took a step back, apparently crunching a ground nest. This caused the hive to start stinging me all over my arms mid piss (luckily i pulled my pants up in time to avoid stings to the danger zone). I tried running back to the truck and ended up dragging the bees to my co-workers and most of them got stung pretty badly as well. my foreman was the only one in the work truck and didn't get stung so he had to drive us all the the nearest drugstore an hour away so we could all get some benadryl.", "summary": "stepped on a ground nest while taking a piss, pissed all over my pants, got all my coworkers and myself stung a bunch of times by angry bees."}
{"id": "t3_4spn5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] sister [14F] told me that she has an embarrassing problem that our parents haven't done anything for. I took her to see a doctor and parents are upset.", "post": "So last week my sister called me and asked me to come over when our parents aren't home and she has something important to tell me. I went there and she told me that it's embarrassing but basically when she goes to toilet to have number 2 it's very painful. I asked if she's talked to our parents and she said they don't believe her. She asked me to take her to the doctor. So I booked an appointment for her and took her this Monday. Luckily her issue is not as serious as it is painful and hopefully she'll be fine soon.\n\nSo somehow our parents learned and are upset that I took her to the doctor without their permission. They say this is me interfering with their parenting. That I'm old enough to make decisions for myself but not to make them for my sister. I really think this is dumb. I mean she's 14 so she can technically go to the doctor herself. She just asked me to drive her there and be there because she was a little afraid. I also think it's stupid for whatever reason to not take her to the doctor when she's not feeling well. Parents say she has a history of calling in sick for no reason and that's why they didn't believe her.\n\nSo right now she's grounded for going behind their back by involving me and I'm also banned from seeing her for a while because I went behind our parents back by taking her to the doctor without their permission. They expect me to apologize and promise that this won't happen again but really I in good conscience can't do that because if she asks me again to take her to the doctor I will. But I think they're just going to be mad at me and will ban me until I somehow tell them that I was wrong by doing that.\n\nHow I can handle it?", "summary": "I took my sister to the doctor because our parents refused to, and they're now mad at me that I did and they expect me to apologie and promise that I'll never do it again."}
{"id": "t3_3snj3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my ex[25 F] immature? I'm [22 M]", "post": "When we got together I was desperate for a relationship and a friend gave me the bad advice that she was looking for one. We got together, I found out she had a boyfriend that she was breaking up with(long relationship), we end up dating anyway, even though I noticed a few red flags I didn't bother since I was a cloud of fluffy misery and despair. After more than a month she breaks up with me (I felt bad inside but I was giving a lot of positive energy and was smiling a lot with her, genuinely I felt happy with her). So we break up because apparently she isn't ready for a new relationship, I am just too perfect and a sin so she can't be with me nor sleep with me. \n\nNow after her I was heartbroken, because of a lot of things. Thanks to a wonderful friend I was able to change my thinking a bit and turned more positive, and actually started looking and feeling good. Next thing I know I get a miles long message from her like how she saw me in the club and didn't know if it was me or not and she wanted to say hi but I disappear and so she couldn't say hi. \nI replied and we talked a bit but then she started to act like a b and answered my messages very sarcastic, and like always our discussion ends with sex talk where in the end she says she wants me really bad but can't do it because I am a sin and she couldn't allow that to herself. I stopped talking to her since then. \n\nIs it just me or does she act childish? \nShould I just ignore her the next time she sends me a message?", "summary": "My ex tells me I am perfect and that she wants to do me all night long, then changes her mind and calls me a sin and a teaser when she actually starts the topic. So should I ignore her from now on?"}
{"id": "t3_29zjqs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] have started to date [30M] and I have no idea how to tell my mum [49M]", "post": "Okay, so here's the basic jist.\n\nMe and this guy met shortly after I turned 18, the end of April, and since then we've gone out a lot and have been together sexually. We are pretty exclusive and his family are fine with my age but I have no idea how to tell my mum.\n\nSo my mum is great with the whole gay thing, so it's not like she'd be pissed because it's a guy, but more due to the fact of the 12 year age gap. My mum had a tiff when she found out my sister was dating a guy 4 years older than her so i have no idea what to do.\n\nDo I tell her? Do I wait to see if this becomes more serious? If I do wait a while how do I tell my mum about this guy?", "summary": "I'm dating a guy 12 years older and don't know how to tell my mother."}
{"id": "t3_3cow20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my new relationship [28 M] 4 weeks, \"teasing\" me about hooking up with guys while on vacation", "post": "About a month ago I met a guy, and we've been seeing each other pretty regularly ever since. We get along great, and we really enjoy our time with each other. We've kept everything pretty light, haven't spoken about anything 'relationship y'. \n\nAround 2 weeks ago I told him I was going on vacation with some girlfriends, and ever since hes made increasingly rude comments about me hooking up with guys while there. They started out being pretty harmless, but have been getting increasingly crass and rude. Today before getting out of the car I was on the verge of tears because I felt so down about myself. Every comment is spoken like a joke, and is followed up with \" come on its just a joke\". He goes on and on about it, repeating himself constantly.\n\nI really like this guy, and I'm unsure if this is salvageable, or how I should tell him these jokes are too insensitive and rude.\n\nExamples include but are not limited to;\n\n\"You should bring condoms with you so you don't bring anything back with you, if you know what I mean\"\n\n\"No ones going to find out anything, you're going to bang 3 guys minimum\"\n\nCould really use some male perspective? Or maybe a wake up call that this guy is a prick. What should I do?", "summary": "guy I'm dating is making jokes about me banging other guys on vacation"}
{"id": "t3_1yt336", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My [25 M] girlfriend [23 F] of close to 2 years, is sending videos of herself to other men. She \"tried\" to kill herself.", "post": "Here's the original [post](\n\nI decided to end it with her after reading all the responses and coming to a sound conclusion in my own thoughts.\n\nShe had said in the past that she would kill herself if our relationship ended. I didn't take her seriously, even though I knew she had actually attempted in the past over a break up. She took pills, but her ex called the police.\n\nThis is all so new to me. I didn't know this is how people reacted, but I guess I can understand. After I told her that I wanted to break up, and after her many pleas of asking for forgiveness, she got up and grabbed a knife. She leaned against a wall to apply pressure with the knife so it would cut her. This didn't do any real damage, but enough to make me restrain her.\n\nI honestly didn't know what to do. She kept looking around for shit to try and kill herself with so I just caved. I told her that I am willing to try again if she seeks therapy, so we started looking for therapists. \n\nI know this is fucked up. I know that I shouldn't have caved. This is my first relationship; my first time dealing with anything like this. I care about her and the fact that she did agree to the therapy makes me want to stay and see her through. But it's still fucked up, I know.\n\nHas anyone else gone through this? How did you deal with it? If she doesn't get therapy then I will end it, but how do I stop her from trying to kill herself if the time comes? I don't want her to die because of this. I can't trust her not drive herself into oncoming traffic if I tell her to leave. Do I call 911?", "summary": "Tried to breakup with girlfriend; she tried to kill herself. She agreed to therapy, but if she doesn't do it and I break up with her again, how do I deal with the likely possibility that she'll harm herself?"}
{"id": "t3_12wrnh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Yo Reddit, what was your children imagination based game? I'll go first.", "post": "Me and my two brothers, one was a half brother, we're very repressed as children. We could do anything we wanted but with an abusive mom we dared not to do anything. \n\nWe played a game of heroes were we were each a hero with a base element as a power; fire, water/ice, and electricity. With a virginities intact we played it well through to the age of my 17th birthday (I am the youngest). As it progressed, and through excessive amounts of cartoons, our powers became multiple and more complex; control of metal, summoning of spirits, transformation, etc. We dubbed this game \"powers\". \n\nAll through these years, from about 9-17 for me, we were bounced around foster houses and boys homes due to the child protection system and lack of supportive foster parents in Detroit, Michigan. Now, as a 20 year old college student, I write stories about our adventures into our imagination as powers children.", "summary": "I acted like a super here for 50% of my life already."}
{"id": "t3_26r9lp", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Mind your surroundings...", "post": "Was doing my weekly shopping at a local grocery store picking up single persons food items.  I've got 15-20 items but the lady in front of me has half a basket but is price-checking 2-3 items, couponing, writing a check and basically going the Olympic distance on being the longest checkout time ever.  Finally a manger opens up another lane just to serve me and the people behind me its taking that long.  \n\nI didn't have any particular place to be but it was the principle of it. *sigh*  \n\nI leave the store and do another errand before stopping at another store on the way home for fruits and veggies (freshest and best in town. Everyone shops there).  Low and behold, slowest-checkout-lady-ever is wrapping up her shopping and heading to the checkout line.  As I only had a few items, I beat her to the line by a few steps.  The cashier rings me up and I have an outdated, canceled CC in my wallet.  (I was lazy and forgot to remove it) I attempt to pay with it and take my sweet-ass time wondering why it won't work. \"*But there's money in my account! I swear!*\"  \nI easily take 5-7 minutes of this ladies time (much to her annoyance) as I finally switch cards and it works perfectly.  In her cart was icecream... I felt soft served melted vengeance was mine that day.", "summary": "Lady at grocery store checkout takes a ridiculously long time at store#1 only to have me do the same thing to her at store#2."}
{"id": "t3_exfqp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone please help me find a PA job in Los Angeles?", "post": "This is a complete shot in the dark, but I'm bordering on desperate so here goes:\n\nIf any redditors in the L.A. area need a PA, please please consider me. I'm a college grad with lots of multi-media knowhow (AVID, FinalCut, CS4) and I need steady work badly. I had a temp job with Google that lasted 2 years, and I assumed (wrongly) that it would look good enough on a resume to land me another job. I'm running on empty, I moved back home and it's clearly becoming a financial strain on my parents. I'll work infinite hours, and work hard. I'll start at the bottom and work my way through smiling. I have no ego, I have no attitude. I just want to work, earn enough to move back out, and get my life going. \nThanks to anyone who takes the time to read this.", "summary": "I'm running out of options and I need work, I'll work infinite hours, I'll be happy to do just about anything. And once I have the ability, I will plan to pay it forward to another redditor."}
{"id": "t3_y3cvt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have any interesting stories of malingering?", "post": "An old supervisor of mine has anxiety/depression and is also a closet homosexual. Needless to say he goes to see medical professionsals a lot.  I'm not going to say he's malingering on purpose but he only works 2 days a week because he isn't required to work on days he has therapy.  In my opinion he is unfit for duty and should go work somewhere he can relax a bit more and be himself.  We've talked about it and he thinks it would eliminate the source of a lot of his stresses.  However collecting a decent paycheck with full benefits and paid vacation and being 5 years from full retirement benefits he's deciding to \"hang in there\"\n\nI can't say I blame him really because  Im sure he does suffer from some OCD/anxiety and it would be really hard to be gay in our work culture but having worked for him and being friends I know there is a certain amount of embellishment.  But the fact that before his latest episode that caused him to go to therapy three times a week he would often take weeks off at a time due to issues too sensitive to question.  Admittedly I'm a little jealous and wish I could work the system in such a way.  Still I am hesitant to fully point the finger on the slight chance that it really is as bad as his medical history claims but I can't help but be skeptical.\n\n/rant", "summary": "former supervisor has plethora of mental illness and is repressed homosexual. as a result barely works but maintains 100% entitlements. I'm sort of skeptical and jealous."}
{"id": "t3_257izc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with a recently separated friend [22 F] confusion ensues.", "post": "We've been friends for half a year  and I've developed feelings for her during this time. She broke up a some months ago and I was there as a friend.  We started to talked everyday and met a few times a month. Eventually, I started giving her gifts, things I knew she would like. \n\nWe eventually had a talk and she's wanted her freedom and doesn't want to date anyone soon. To which I replied that, I understood and would be around when she's ready. Her response was fully positive.\n\nFast forward a month, we met more and I had more gifts to give. She kissed me on the cheek. We went on a date and a bit too much too fast.  We had another talk and there is a bit more distance between us now and she's didn't  say \" no \" but recently said it's unlikely she'd fall for me though she can't explain and that she wanted to warn me before anything more happens and that she would just hurt me and leave like she  has. We still talk all the time but it's different.  But I am confused, very much so.\n\nIf it was a no, then sure. I'd back off and we'd go our parts. Saying they wouldn't fall for me, and that's just a warning before more happens, all that is confusing. Should I just give more time and let things be?", "summary": "Became close to recently separated friend. She doesn't want to date yet. We get close and things go well and we get closer. We have a talk, she said she likely wont fall for me but that is just a warning before more things happen. That is confusing, it's not a No nor a Yes. "}
{"id": "t3_2dp96l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] think my supervisor [26M] has a crush on me. How can I tell and what should I do?", "post": "First of all, I need to preface that I've recently lost a lot of weight, and I'm not used to the attention I'm getting so I'm not sure whether men are being friendly or what. \n\nSo, one of my supervisors at work is this gorgeous (imo) guy that I think may have a crush on me. I've worked there around 7 months, and I've only had interactions with him recently. The first time he asked me how old I was, whether I was in a relationship or not, how long, etc. The second time, I needed some help finding something on the computer at work, and he pulled out a chair in front of him and he sat right behind me, asking me questions about my life, and somehow mentioning how arrogant people have called him. He also mentioned how another department needed my help, but he told them no and not to bother me. Also, every time I see him, he gives me this serious stare down. He doesn't look away either; he'll just hold it until I look away. No smile or anything.\n\n I'm very bad at interpreting these kinds of things, because, like I said, I've recently lost a lot of weight, and I guess I wasn't that attractive beforehand. I also find him very attractive. I really wouldn't mind sleeping with the guy, but he's my supervisor! Do you think he has a crush on me or am I just reading too much into things? If so, what should I do? Just leave it alone?", "summary": "Supervisor may have a crush on me, and I'm not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2ne07n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Discovered 40K in problems found with house. Looking for options.", "post": "Hey PF gurus,   \n\nI recently discovered major problems with my house.  The house was built in 1966 and has drains made of cast iron that have since collapsed.  The drainage has caused sub-grade erosion which has caused foundation settlement in the 2 to 3 inch range in places. I'm 2 years into a 15yr mortgage and still owe around 123k on a 137k note. The house has appraised for 145k prior to finding the issues.  My insurance is covered under the Texas Fair Plan and will not kick in for the plumbing or foundation, but gave me 5k for damages due to an above ground pipe rupture.  \n\nI am still getting estimates for replacing plumbing, repairing the foundation, and replacing the flooring (had a pipe rupture...this lead to finding all of the other  issues), but it looks like the total will be somewhere in the 40k range.  \n\nI am trying to determine what my options are for proceeding.  I can afford to fix the place up and live in it (or rent it out) for the long haul, but would like to be as smart as I can with the financial decision.  If anyone knows of any alternatives, I'd be appreciative. \n\nMy current plan is to fix the place up in as durable/yet thrifty a fashion as possible using 401k loans and cash, move into a cheap apartment and rent this sumbitch out.  Its not the ideal situation and I feel there are better investment opportunities, but I am saddled with the mortgage and a property that won't sell for what I owe. I am also cross posting to r/realestate", "summary": "found 40K worth of problems in house.  Trying to figure out my options."}
{"id": "t3_4a6hrw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Peope, friends, and classmates treat me like shit at times.", "post": "Hello, \nI'm not sure if this is the right place to put this.\nI am average in all sorts of spectrums. I am a likable, funny, intelligent and I think I am cute girl ( without sounding shallow) . I also dress well if that matters. I've noticed people treat me differently at times. Sometimes, I'll ask a question and people will look at me like I'm some type of fucking idiot or they seem annoyed. I also receive underhanded comments even when I'm minding my own business. I'm not sure what to do, IDK if I should be a sarcastic cunt to people who treat me this way or just ignore it like I have been doing. I feel shitty after interactions like I've described, I feel like a loser at times.", "summary": "I am treated like an idiot at times."}
{"id": "t3_3bn9tn", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How long will it take me to go from running ~15mpw now to a 3:45 marathon sometime in the near future?", "post": "I run casually right now but I really want to run a marathon at 3:45 someday. I ran chicago two years ago at 5:15 and I know this seems like a huge difference but that previous marathon was done on very little training (I wasn't as dedicated to training as I should've been). Now I want to make this happen and am feeling much more motivated to stick to a solid plan. \n\nI don't want to get hurt so I don't plan on trying to make this happen this year but how long do you guys think I need to base build before I can train for a race time like this? And what type of training plan worked for people that finished at this time?", "summary": "I'm a 26yo F who is currently at ~15 mpw looking to someday (ideally in the nearish future) run a 3:45 marathon, looking for advice/tips please!"}
{"id": "t3_14ymis", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So reddit, what is the best dream you ever had?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nOnce I dreamed I was in the highschool I used to go to.\nI was trapped in a classroom because I had an evil professor that was planning to take over the world. My classmates and I had to do something to stop him so I climbed out of the window (2nd floor) and used a tree to help me down. once I came down my dog was there... So I asked him to go to the police and send help. He denied but ran off. I ran back into the main entrance of the school to help my fellow classmates but once I arrived at the classroom, I noticed something was weird with the door... There was no door at all... but I couldn't pass. After a while trying to get in my dog appiered again and had a little cup of liquid with him. I asked him what it was but he didn't answer... (logic). After I drank it I felt really weird and became really dizzy. Then I noticed that everything was really small... Or I was really big, and... Green? I became the fucking Hulk and while I was breaking trough that door everyone was scared of me. The professor did try to run but when he was in the hallway I heard webs coming from a different way. Spiderman appeared and helped me out fighting this evil professor and when this was done we turned him into the police and we walked away from a nuclear explosion. \n\nThis was probably one of the best dreams of my life. eventhough I'm a grown man (32 y/o)", "summary": ">Dreamed about evil professor"}
{"id": "t3_2o82g3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] random paranoia about future spouse's sexual compatibility?", "post": "Basically I've only really had one boyfriend. He was great and we broke up a few months ago for other random reasons not important. Anyway, we never had sex or anything but when we made out and such I could just tell he is great sexually.\n\nEven both of us we just matched up really well and were into the same stuff. I know that if in the future if we were to marry (I'm saving for marriage) we would have really great sex lives and he be a great partner.\n\nBut now I'm randomly paranoid that whoever I do marry (no likely to be said ex) isn't going to be great sexually. I guess that's fine but you know.... I'd prefer to have sex. I'm just afraid I'll meet a guy who completely perfect in every way but he'll be terrible or we won't be compatible like I was with my ex.\n\nIt's not a pressing matter but I just wanted to see other people's opinions and thoughts on the matter. Anyone else feel this way, have this happen, or any advice? Thanks!", "summary": "Ex and I were sexually compatible. Now I fear my future spouse and I won't be and it'll be terrible. Random fear. Thoughts from you guys?"}
{"id": "t3_3yhpbm", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Training a dog in unpredictable situations", "post": "I'm happy to receive criticism here because  I'm sure I'm doing plenty wrong. I have a 2 year old (possibly) staffy/collie cross who is a rescue dog. When I first got her about a year ago she was a really submissive and lovely dog no big  problems.\n- she's home alone while I'm at  work \n- she's fixed \n- I walk her around an hour a day  sometimes more, not usually less\n- she gets a dog walker once a week so I can build a rapport with them.\n- she's scared of the dark and has lashed out a few times when sleeping under the blanket and being woken up and surprised\n- I've been focusing on rewarding good behaviour rather than punishing bad because when it's just us she's really well behaved\n\nThe problems are that she is jumpy when we get visitors and nothing helps much as she's just so excited. I've tried separating her, using a lead, and tried training her to go to her spot while waiting. Some visitors are good about following instructions  while helping me train her but not usually. Nothing has worked.\n\nBut lately she's also started being aggressive  towards other dogs. Its unpredictable and seems to be getting worse.  I'd like to get her recall better but when faced with people and dogs she develops selective hearing. \n\nI just don't  know  where to start because when it's just us she's  so good at recall and sit, wait and other verbal commands.  \n\nShe attacked  a dog today for no reason and if I don't get this under control I'm worried it will get worse. These all probably seem to be basic problems  but I don't know where to go from here.", "summary": "dog is generally ok with just me but randomly excitable and aggressive in abnormal situations"}
{"id": "t3_1ox18i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (24f) and I (24m) had sex after bad breakup", "post": "So my ex and I have been broken up for about 7 weeks now and have still been hanging out once in awhile. We still have weekly fights, mostly her getting angry about the situation and I apologizing for putting us in this predicament. Yesterday we hung out and talked about all of our emotions surrounding the breakup, how I'm getting help for personal issues, and how she thinks we'll never be able to work it out. Fast forward five hours and we are laying together still talking, one thing leads to another and she starts putting the moves on me and we have sex, the most intense passionate sex we've had in a long time, lots of kissing and cuddling afterwards. Anyways, this has left me confused... Why would she still wasn't sex and not a relationship? I'm starting to feel used and am thinking it might have been the best idea. Any insights our experiences are greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Ex and I had sex, I'm now confused about our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_lke3o", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Girlfriends reluctance to put in the effort to lose unhealthy weight is killing me. Please help.", "post": "I don't know where else to turn, Reddit has always been fantastic but I've never came to this subreddit before. \n\nI have a long term girlfriend who for the longest time has had an unhealthy weight, she has seen doctors and has a gym membership. but the problem is she's not willing to put in the effort, at least in regards to food, excersise helps weight loss, but doesn't the core of the problem lye in what people consume?\n\nI'm trying to be sensitive, I've never had a significant weight problem myself and I've tried talking to her about this in a tactful way, but we're meant to be traveling in less than a year, doing all sorts of physical activites and she cant even walk up a hill or set of stairs without getting exhausted.\n\nI've also always been concerned with her long term health, degrading joints and greater chance of heart disease and diabeties is worrying.\n\nNowadays when I see her eat junk food when she's not even excersising that month or whatever, makes some flimsy excuse, complains about her weight with no plan of doing anything about it, I feel like I'm watching her cut herself. It's tearing me up inside and I can't even say anything or I'll just upset her.\n\nI don't know what I want from you people here, I really can't see they're being some magic bullet or  sentance that will make her take this seriously. But I have to see if there's anything that I can do differently that might make a difference and help her finally commit to weight loss.", "summary": "just, please... read it. Trying to sum it up makes me sound like an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_2fby9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [24 M] just end things with my gf [22 F]? How do you avoid jealousy?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. She is heading off to to study abroad, and I won't see her for more than a week until roughly May.\n\nWe lived together this summer and I love her. But we also have done the long distance thing before (for about 4 months) and I found myself resenting her a bit last Spring because I saw her so infrequently, while at the same time several girls were acting flirtatious towards me.\n\nNow, I think I have gotten over that, but obviously I don't know how I will feel in a few months time. So I'm looking at my choices and...\n\n1) Stay with her. I want to do this right now, but I'm scared that January/February will roll around and I will regret not breaking things off while we both were kind of on the same page about that sort of thing (we have talked a lot and she knows that it's a possibility that I can't do LTR again)\n\n2) Break up with her now. Obviously I don't want to do this, but if I need to, better to do it now than drag things out.\n\n3) OR..\n\nHas anyone EVER downgraded an exclusive relationship to a break, and then get back together? Like, with communication, could both parties sleep with other people and still remain a couple? Or is that bound for disaster?\n\nI should mention that I tend to get a bit jealous. Is there a way I could work on this to somehow be ok with her sleeping with other people? Like any mental tricks to help overcome the jealousy? I miss talking to her so much, but I don't know if it would be healthy to keep talking to her like my gf while we are both sleeping with others (sleeping, not dating).\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "GF is studying abroad for the better part of a year, and then finishing up school. Stay with her, break up, or hope that a \"break\" works out?"}
{"id": "t3_2dp650", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking on the right side of the sidewalk.", "post": "This fuck up happened two days ago. Essentially, I got shit on.\n\nBut let's start at the beginning.\n\nIt's Wednesday. 5 o'clock strikes up on the computer display, and my shit is packed in my bag and I'm out the door faster than the pixels on the monitor can even refresh.\n\nI'm cruising down the road, cutting into deep campus. I work in a lab on a large university, and so naturally I have a bit of a walk to get to the bus loop. I've got my headphones plugged in and I'm rocking out listening to the new Spoon. I get to a stretch of road littered with construction, and proceed down the last stretch before reaching the student building and ultimately the bus loop.\n\nHere was the caveat: the sidewalk itself was narrowed, as a blue construction fence had been set up on the Eastern side, effectively leaving 3/4 of the original room. I was strolling along the sidewalk, on the right side. Because you know, North America. We walk on the right, don't we? At least that's what myself and the majority of the population think.\n\nAnyway, I digress. As I'm walking along, I see a woman heading right in my direction; however, she was on the left of the side walk and effectively would walk in to me. I think little of this, I'm still bopping my head to the music.\n\nSuddenly - collision. I had looked down for a mere few seconds and BAM, the woman just Charlie horses me like no other motherfucker. My headphones whip off, and I'm genuinely surprised at the force she used. I'm speechless.\n\n\"Watch where your fucking going, fucker.\"\n\nI blinked.\n\n\"You and the fucking patriarchy, think you own the sidewalks. Fuck off and stop appropriating misogyny.\"\n\nI just stood there with a guffawed look on my face, still quiet.\n\nShe then storms off, flipping me the bird, leaving me and my lovely headphones in shambles. I didn't think shit like this happened. I guess following standard etiquette is misogynist and offends the female rights movement.", "summary": "Walked on the right side of the sidewalk. Am apparently a shitlord."}
{"id": "t3_2iqg90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [32F] gets drunk and calls me names, usually great guy.", "post": "Been dating about a year. Usually a wonderful and supportive guy. We have great conversations about a variety of topics. Go on adventures in the world and generally is the partner I've been looking for. We understand one another and communicate well most of the time. \n\nThe downsides is that he drinks. A lot. Recently, in the past couple of months its been less frequent about two to three times a week (down from five to six previously). With the decrease in frequency he's been a lot meaner. Within the past month or so he's been using really hurtful names. Bitch and idiot are the most common. He even goes as far as to say my whole family knows I'm mean and a fuck up. Before the past month he would get drunk and accuse me of cheating or hiding things from him which was easily placated by reminding him he only felt this way because he was drunk. \n\nI'm really at wits end because I knew if a family member or fried was in this situation I'd tell them to leave but I can't seem to rationalize it in my own life. I really enjoy being with him when he's sober and he's generally pretty kind. \n\nHe works with me on some of my insecurities that most guys would just walk out on. I feel like I can't really get any better and eventually the drinking will fizzle out especially since it has started to decline recently. \n\nIs this a lost cause?", "summary": "Normally supportive boyfriend turns into a jerk when he's drunk. Lost cause?"}
{"id": "t3_1xq5tt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having issues at work, need advice how to handle it or if I am in the wrong", "post": "I was hoping this year would start off well, started working out and tried to get in better shape.\n\nThings did not go as planned. Working out let to severe chest pain, my doctor ran a bunch of tests and concluded its costochondritis, basically he does not know why I have pain. Pretty much told me to take pain reliever and rest it out. Pain would come and go, then one morning I could barely move my hand without flinching. So I took day off. Next day I came in to work but she told me to go home and rest after a while.\n\nPain gradually subsided but led way to asthma. I have not had asthma for years. Back to doctor, he gave me inhaler, was late at work. Then this week again I barely slept sunday night and told her I will be in late. I came in late around 11 and left at 5. \n\nSo yesterday she sat me down and told me how this was performance impacting and she was giving me a soft warning for the upcoming reviews. She admitted I have not missed any timelines, but cause I am hitting all of them while taking this time I must not be working upto potential. She told me maybe I should consider using my PTO and sorting out health issues.\n\nI do most of the complicated analysis at work. Anything complicated is thrown my way with a day or two deadlines. I understand I have been not in at work as much. But technically I just took a day off and was late here and there cause of appointments. What are my options here besides quitting. We get our bonus payout in a month.", "summary": "Manager gave a bad feedback as I have been sick quite a bit since beginning of this year, told me this is a soft warning."}
{"id": "t3_3eq5b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/M] so-called \"summer fling\" [19/F] is visiting her hometown and a guy there has feeling for her", "post": "So there's this girl I've met just a few weeks ago and I finally asked her to hangout one day 2 weeks ago. So we hungout for legit like 10 hours that day, did everything together and we really like each other's company. We went on a couple dates (or *hangouts*, its murky territory) since then with a lot of cuddling, kissing and opening up to each other. \n\nWe talked about our relationship and at this point we've both just kind of agreed that we should feel it out and just see where it goes -- I guess we're keeping it kinda casual right now, nothing super serious. It's only been like 2 weeks, so there's that too, but it's safe to say we're definitely really interested in one another.\n\nShe's going back to her hometown for a few weeks soon and she tells me that one of her very good guy friends told her online that he \"loved her.\" She told me that he's a good guy and all but she's not sure at all. *This worries me.* The problem is that I'm not sure if we're exclusive and if I have the right to get mad at her if she does end up making a movie with that guy from her hometown. \n\n*Not exactly sure what to do in this territory.* I mean I really like her and I dunno if we'll just be a \"summer fling\" or go even further, but the long-distance thing scares me, I don't think I could do that but that's a separate issue from this.", "summary": "Girl I've dated for a few weeks is going back to hometown for a bit. One of her guy friends told her that he \"loves her.\" I'm worried and I don't know if I have a right to be worried."}
{"id": "t3_ml3iy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brother is aggressive, secretive, disrespects parents, and becoming notorious for selling hard drugs. It's destroying my family, help?", "post": "I heard from an acquaintance that my brother is a well-known dealer. Now, he's underage (17), but he often orders weird substances over the internet, and has huge vats of substances sitting in his room, which he then boils off when he thinks we're all asleep. \n\nMy parents are probably in denial, and we're really in debt, so they don't have the energy to deal with us screwing up like this. When my mom finally worked up the nerve to approach him about it, in a very gentle way, he blew up, and starting throwing things around the house and yelling that we don't trust him. Before he stormed into his room, he spit a loogie in the hallway and told her to \"fuck off\", just to give you an example of how disrespectful and ungrateful he can be. \n\nHe has a job (which my father got him), but is a high school drop out (despite my mother making every effort to get him back, or home school him, at least). My parents pay for all his food (he won't even eat things around the house, he constantly asks us to pick up take-out on the way home, at our expense), internet, clothes, etc. He just *doesn't get anything done*, unless it's illegal junk like this. \n\nWhat would you do, reddit? We're a good, middle-class family, we all work hard, why is he so bent on making life difficult for himself? We're all at wit's end with him, but he just doesn't have the respect for us, or enough fear for the consequences (of being kicked out, or sent to juvi, etc), to even *try* to get his act together. He can get violent, arrogant, and manipulative, and he's destroying my family.", "summary": "Brother is high school drop-out making/selling hard drugs, gets violent when approached about it, and has zero respect for our own family. Help, *please*."}
{"id": "t3_496vq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [26/M] break it to possible new girlfriend [28/F] I suffer from premature ejaculation?", "post": "I've recently ended a relationship of seven years because things were not working out anymore. We lived together for almost 4 years, were incredibly comfortable with each other and knew everything there was to know about each other. \n\nAs you could guess from my post, I 'suffer' from sever premature ejaculation and I'm ashamed by it. I usually ejaculate within 10 seconds of intimacy. My previous girlfriend [29/F] and I had some tricks up our sleeves to bypass this; use Durex Performa condoms, get drunk or use Promescent. That last one I haven't really tried. I bought this moments before our relationship went downhill so didn't have the chance to try it.\n\nNow there's this woman [28/F] I'm hanging out with lately and I have the feeling there's mutual interest but we're just having fun at this point. We haven't even kissed but there's flirting going on... Now if this evolves into something more ... how should I break it to her I suffer from premature ejaculation? Let's say we have a fun night and we end up in bed and I ejaculate after only 10 seconds (or even during foreplay) the mood may be ruined...\n\nShould I just tell her beforehand and suggest to use Durex Performa/Promescent or make sure I am drunk the first time? I've been out of the game for over seven years so I don't know how this works.", "summary": "Flirting with woman after having a relationship of seven years. Not sure how she should find out about my premature ejaculation if things between us progress..."}
{"id": "t3_44yl8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's [M28] touch no longer feels good and he's lost desire for sex with me [F23]. Help!", "post": "We've been together for about two years, largely long distance with semi-monthly visits and some longer periods (2+ months) being together. We've been poly/non-monogamous the entire time, and I have another boyfriend (of 1 year now), he has some casual partners.\n\nLately, things feel very shaky between us. \nWe still appreciate and support each other a lot, and there's a lot of affection and humour and enjoying each other's presence, but there appears to be at least three problems:\n\n- He doesn't want sex with me anymore (but does still have sex with others, we're non-monogamous) - if I initiate he might have sex with me, but doesn't come or seem to enjoy it\n\n- Somehow his hugs and kisses, that used to make me feel euphoric, now often has me feeling indifferent or even annoyed sometimes, especially if I'm trying to focus on something else\n\n- He doesn't understand the depression that has crept up on me in the past 3/4 year; the idea of being sad for no particular reason or just because of a general sense of lostness is totally incomprehensible for him, and the lack of understanding feels like a wall between us. When I can't muster up any enthusiasm for any particular activity, he feels rejected and helpless.\n\nTo deal with the last point I've tried explaining the feelings I'm having (without much success) and found him some resources for how to deal with a depressed partner and understand symptoms, hoping it might sink in eventually. For the other two points, I feel completely at a loss as to how to fix it...does anyone have any advice or experiences to share about this kind of situation? It hurts quite a bit and feels very scary", "summary": "Suddenly I no longer get happy when my boyfriend touches and kisses me. He also doesn't want sex with me (specifically). What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2c9fkx", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Helping my girlfriend through a miscarriage, any advice?", "post": "Both in our early 20s, been seeing each other since March.  \n\nIt was an unplanned pregnancy (lasted about 5-6 weeks) and we've learned our lesson 100 times over now. She's great with kids and loves playing with any kid/baby and this miscarriage really hit her hard. She was adamant about keeping it and my opinion was to not. After she made her decision I supported her in any way I could. She only told a few close friends, her family still doesn't know. The miscarriage happened about 6 weeks ago and she's still really suffering from it... Can't sleep more than 3/4 hours, feels antsy whenever babies, pregnancy, etc are brought up among friends or media. I've made it clear she can talk/vent to me whenever/however works for her but she's still pretty hesitant because she doesn't think I can sympathize since I hadn't wanted to keep it originally. She's also hesitant because her past 2 relationships ended with the guy cheating on her and she's a little reluctant to talk about this with me as it may bring us closer and she's  still got a little bit of commitment issues. She's been seeing a therapist and it's been helping, has gone 3 times since it happened.\n\nAny advice on what I can do for her to help her get through this? Any experiences you've had that I could use? How can I be more supportive? I'm not looking for advice on unplanned pregnancy, what's happened has happened so please respect that. Thanks!", "summary": "In our 20s, seeing each other since March, unplanned pregnancy (5-6 weeks), miscarried, gf now having trouble sleeping, hearing about babies/pregnancy, has seen a therapist 3 times. Any advice to help her? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_4euu45", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my bike was fixed.", "post": "This happened this morning but started yesterday. I took my bike in to the shop because it wasn't shifting. I talked with the mechanic a bit and mentioned that I needed to tighten my brakes, but hadn't had the chance yet. He offered to do it for me and I agreed. I went to pick it up this morning. I rode down the block to catch the train since it was raining. As I started to reach the end of the block, I squeezed the brakes to slow down. Both of them. Next thing I knew I had slammed into the ground and my bike landed on top of me. I hurt my shoulder and knee pretty bad and got road rash on my arm. Not to mention I got soaked from the rain. I got my head hard against the cement but luckily I had the good sense to put my helmet on so I didn't get a traumatic brain injury. Remember to wear a helmet kids, if only to save yourself from your own dumbassery.", "summary": "got my brakes tightened at the shop. Squeezed them too hard and flipped my bike. Didn't die because I wore a helmet."}
{"id": "t3_18pcn8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (28M) try to encourage my girlfriend (24F) to lose weight and  be healthy?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just under a year, get along well most of the time (usual relationship issues).\n\nShe knows she has to lose weight and talks about it. Yet she still eats pretty badly, 'forgets' her gym clothes when she stays at my place, bites my head off if I say \"Hey let's work out together\" and doesn't cook for herself (relies on me).\n\nI eat healthily, work out, cook for myself and fend for myself, I even amped it up in the hope that it would inspire her or show her how easy it is.", "summary": "Any tips on how I (28) can encourage my girlfriend (24) her to lose weight and be healthier?"}
{"id": "t3_4krdmu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Laundromat ripped me off.", "post": "So this is half a fuck up, half a question which I hope this is the right place to post. It happened over a week ago, last Saturday to be exact. \n\n   I decided to do my laundry at the local Laundromat, which uses a card system. So with a $30 load, I insert my card and a $50 bill into the machine, only to find it added $1 to my card. Furious I told the girl about it (who, long side story, had actually seen me with the $50). She calls her manager, they talk, she tells me she will take my number and they will call me once the weekend is over. (claims the manager will have to check the machine for the $50)\n\n   Monday (last week) rolls around and i go there asking about my $50 and I get the same tale, this time from another associate (manager hasn't been in yet, bla bla bla). It has been a full week since then and still no call. Am I screwed? should i go and bitch at her everyday? Or should i just call it a loss and move on.", "summary": "laundromat took my $50 from a card reader and told me they would call me. Still haven't called over a week later."}
{"id": "t3_41a0o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M with my gf [29 F] little ver 3 years, not sue what to do. break up or contnue", "post": "I'm in the is relationships a littler over 3 years now, and i'm not sure what to do anymore. She's an amazing person and a great friend, but ive been finding myself asking wether or not I want to continue this or if we should go our separate ways. We've definitely had some rocky points in our relationship. She's been telling me that she doesn't feel like I am as attentive or give her the attention/ affection that she wants, and that i've been increasingly cold towards her. \n\nAdmittedly I do feel some reluctancy to continue things with her. It's gotten pretty rough with our work schedules, i work mon-fri 9-5, she works at a restaurant 5 nights a week, especially every weekened. We don't really see each other like we used to. It seems like we are fighting regularly, not every day, but maybe every week there is something, and it usually comes to us talking about being together. We've almost broken up a few times now.\n\nShe is a great person, and I think she would make an incredible partner, but I think I'm afraid of committing here. I can't tell if it's because I want this to be over, or if it's the fear of committing to a single person for the rest of my life. I'm not sure I am ready to do that yet, and it's not fair to her to keep around because we are comfortable or whatever. Feels like our break up has been looming for a little while now.\n\nI also have this fear of losing her and regretting it later. I don't know what to do anymore. This isn't getting any better, and my indecisiveness is really taking a toll on our relationship. I want her to be happy, just not sure it's with me and if I'm just preventing myself, and our relationship from being happy or if it is just over and we are dragging it out.\n\nwe've been through a lot, she has suffered with depression and biplar disorder, and I used to be jealous. It's gotten better but I believe it' definitely taken a toll on our relationship, and how we feel towards one another.", "summary": "Been in a relationship with gf for 3 years, and not sure what to do, if should break up or stay together."}
{"id": "t3_2qr7ep", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(Now ex) SO [27/m] and I [25/f] broke up due to what I think is his depression. He seems confused and I put counseling on the table.", "post": "To start, we have been together for about 4.5 years. I recently got pregnant and proceeded to have an abortion in which he was very supportive in and during. Ever winter for the past three years he has gone into this depression and we've almost broke up. After winter and we can start doing outdoor activities again, it seems as this fog lifts from him and our relationship is suddenly better.\n\nObviously, nothing is perfect and we get into fights, but his coping is horrible and he has even admitted to that. We'll get into a fight or something and he just wants to step back and not deal with it, while I on the other hand want to talk it out. But he gets pissed off if I push the subject.\n\nSince the abortion (3 weeks ago), I have been having a hard time. Blaming myself, hating myself a bit, being far more combative and picking at things between us that I normally wouldn't. And combined with this depression, has just pushed him away. About 2 nights ago, on the way back from a baby shower which I was incredibly sad during (you know, the whole baby thing and all) I just pushed to talk in the car and it came to breaking up. And we did.\n\nIt was an incredibly emotional night between that and his car battery dying while we were talking. He says he has a hard time seeing a future with me and when I asked him what he saw for his future, his response was \"Nothing good.\"\n\nHere's the thing, when things were going well in the summer and I asked he saw a wonderful future with me. We were talking about moving in together to a nice little town close to his job, started looking at apartments.\n\nI'm a wreck, and understandably so is he. Since then, we have been in almost constant contact, talking about us, being sad and just random shit. I requested couples therapy and he said he is considering it, but isn't really sure. Even if he decides against it, I feel he needs to get some therapy anyway.", "summary": "Boyfriend has what I think is seasonal depression, causing him to be unhappy with everything. Abortion, sadness, break up. He is confused and unsure, so I asked for counseling which he is considering. Sorry if this is jumbled, my mind is a little off the past couple days, if I forgot anything, please ask."}
{"id": "t3_1syrw2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22m) boyfriend thinks he might have herpes. How can I (20f) be supportive and educated about it?", "post": "Him and I only became sexually active in the past month. He has had partners before, but I have not, he's my first. He'd noticed red bumps on him a few months ago but we both have awful skin and figured it was just an irritation. He has it again, though, and thinks one of his past partners may have had it and he contracted it from her. He's going to get up with her, and get tested, but he feels awful about all of it and if he finds out he has it and could've potentially put me at risk he will be devastated.\n\nOn my end? I really couldn't care less if he does or not, as long as we're careful. How can I research more about herpes and how to be careful, and how can I be supportive without coming on strong? In other words I guess, how do you hold a relationship successfully with someone who has herpes?", "summary": "How can I be educated and supportive with my boyfriend possibly having herpes?"}
{"id": "t3_297ce5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/M] dealing with \"bro code\" guilt after a night with friend's [27/M] ex gf [27/F]", "post": "Throw away here - not sure if anyone involved are Redditors!\n\nSo these events happened about 2 weeks ago and I'm still figuring out how to deal with it.\n\nI have two friends who have been dating for about 3 years. I became friends with both of them around the same time they started dating and we're all part of a common group of friends. I think I'm slightly closer with the female involved. \n\nAbout 2 weeks ago we got together for coffee to catch up as I was out of town for about a month and we hadn't spoken in a while. During this she dropped it on me that her and my other friend had broken up about 2 weeks prior and wanted to give me the news. This was the first I had heard of it. I think it was a fairly mutual break up but I think he was dealing with it harder than her. After grabbing coffee she invited me back to her place to show me the garden and some paintings she had been working on and to have a couple of drinks. As the night went on we had a few drinks and ended up sleeping together. \n\nShe definitely initiated it and I resisted for a while but I also played my part in going along with it. Her and I are on good terms with it but I'm struggling with dealing with the guilt toward my friend. I've seen him a couple of times since then and it's been fine but I still feel pretty bad. One one hand we're both single consenting adults which is fine, but on the other hand I feel like it's just something you don't do. Especially after only 2-3 weeks after the breakup. \n\nAm I over reacting? What could I be doing to deal with this?", "summary": "Slept with friend's ex - \"too soon\"?"}
{"id": "t3_24z1x1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33m] boyfriend told me [26F] that after visiting his sister and her new baby this past weekend he now believes he does not want children", "post": "Bless you if you read the whole thing it will probably end up being long\n\nA little bit of backround, my boyfriend and I have been dating a year. When we first ever spoke of what we wanted for our futures he said he never imagined himself having kids but after meeting me he would want children with me. That I would be a great mom and I was the first girl he ever thought this way about. Awesome right?\n\nWell now his sister had a baby this past weekend and we of course went to the hospital to visit with her the baby and his brother in law. I can understand the fear men have with newborns they are so small and fragile. My bf was terrified to hold the baby, he did but said he was so uncomfortable and nervous the whole time. Now a few days later he thinks he no longer wants to have kids. That it is such a huge responsibility and he can't imagine himself leaving work for kid related issues and what a pain in the ass that would be.\n\nRight now as a women of 26 who is trying to finish school, kids are not really on my mind, for the future of course, but not the near future. He is afraid of \"stringing me along\" His words, because now he feels he doesn't want children and he knows that I do. My bf's job is super demanding of him because right now at his current place of employment other than his bosses hes running the show. He has two people under him that are constantly screwing up and have not been fired because they cannot find people to replace them.\n\nMy boyfriend is an absolute workaholic, I knew this right away. If I have to be the one who is taking kids the the doctors in the middle of the week this does not bother me, my profession will allow me to do so.\n\nI can't really figure out if he is just freaked out or had some big realization that he doesn't want them. I have no idea what to do", "summary": "boyfriend thinks he no longer wants to have kids"}
{"id": "t3_d3zfv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think its fair for me to ask my girlfriend to stop drinking if she wants me to stop smoking marijuana?", "post": "I have been smoking weed for the past few years almost daily, with a few weeks off here and there. I have had a steady job and am living comfortably with money, a car, and everything else I need. In other words, I feel I am a functioning 'pothead'. My girlfriend (of a couple weeks) is pretty opposed to me smoking marijuana and wants me to stop. Unfortunately she also has a habit (lately, at least because of summer) of going out drinking 3-5 times a week. Each time getting drunk... not completely wasted, but still too drunk to drive. Which is where I come in, I'm usually high but not drunk at all by the time we leave. Inevitably I end up driving people home. \n\nANYWAYS, do you think it'd be over the top to say something to the effect of: \"I'm opposed to you getting drunk and would like you to stop.\" ? I'm not trying to start an argument but I can't think of another way to get my point across. One idea is for me to just not drink at all when we go out, save a beer or two, and instead occasionally hit my cigarette-pipe outside unnoticed. I told her how many people have died from smoking weed and she didn't really believe me... Maybe I could educate her.\nAny advice on how to convince her I'm alright?", "summary": "New gf wants 3 year weed smoker to stop, but new gf likes to get drunk a lot. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1ln16e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[40/M] with new friend [35/F] short, new again at this guessing stuff", "post": "A hot woman ex-work colleague whom I don't know very well bought a home cake to my place for my sons birthday. She came with her young daughter. It was a random act . We are both separated. Anyway I thought the night went alright but really was not sure how she felt and so when she left I thought, oh well I'll probably never hear from her again. \n\nAnyway she text later that same night saying they had a fun time, we should do it again on a non-school night when she does not need to leave early.\n\nI am over the moon but not sure how to play it next. Of course I replied yes and she is coming over to cook dinner in few weeks time.", "summary": "Is she really interested or just being friendly nice?"}
{"id": "t3_3z1zsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22 F] log off this person's [23M] HBO Go? We hung out for a month, I've been on it for several more", "post": "Over the summer, I kissed/hung out with this guy for about a month or so. Because of what I think might have been some stuff he was working out with his ex-girlfriend, he stopped talking to me out of the blue. Or maybe he just didn't like me! That kind of thing happens sometimes! It's okay.\n\nHe left his HBOGo logged into my Apple TV at my apartment. I have been using it to watch Sex and the City and the Leftovers. I have started to feel kind of weird about it, even though it's now December -- should I log off? What if he sees my things pop up sometimes in the watch list and feels weird?\n\nWould you care?", "summary": "I like having HBOGo, but I don't like making other people feel uncomfortable. Is this a bad thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3f4w1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M/F] broke up with my gf [20 F] of four months, two months ago, went no contact, and then met her and we had sex. Now I\u00b4m questioning everything, please help?", "post": "We had a great relationship, in the sense that we were really supporting, really loving, were incredibly happy together and had an amazing sex life, even though we were constantly fighting.\n\nThe fighting usually happened over small things, and I came to realize, during my two months without *absolutely not contacting her*, that we are too different to maintain a stable relationship for too long. \nSo, long story short, we broke up because of this, and also because I was feeling I didn\u00b4t love her. I had always doubts, whether I was in love or not, whether she would remain loyal to me after spending several nights out with her friends; etc.\n\nSticking to the No contact rule was hard, but was paying off, and after 1/2 months, *I was starting to feel like I had superpowers, due to all the positive things I had been doing for me during this time*. \n\nBut, two months later, she contacted me, we ended up together and having sex. All of this in just two days. I gave in, I felt like I fuc*ed up really hard, and I did. \n\nNow I feel a mess again, and I question things a lot, like I was doing in the beginning of the breakup, for instance:\n\n- I feel I have few friends;\n- I feel I can\u00b4t do new things to help me get my mojo back again;\n- I feel like I love her, but I know we don\u00b4t work together;\n- I feel I will give in again in some time\n- I kinda feel anti-social again\n\nDo you have any advice on this? What is the best to do now? Should I answer her text messages? Should I start no contact immediately?", "summary": "After a great no contact period (2 months), I met with my ex and had sex with her; I broke up with her in the first place for not truly loving her, but having sex with her makes me want her so bad; I\u00b4m now questioning everything."}
{"id": "t3_2rwxch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26M] Girlfriend [22F] just got in a fight about me being on my phone while she's naked?", "post": "So she doesn't feel comfortable with me pointing the back of my phone at her while she is naked.  I'm just on the internet, not in the camera app, and in a normal, relaxed position (the way I was sitting, it wasn't like I was pointing it at her to make it look like I was taking a picture).\n\nI don't think it's about trust, I think she really believes that I wouldn't take a picture of her without her consent.\n\nShe believes that there is a (she admits 'less than .5%') chance of somehow a picture being taken of her and uploaded to the internet without the phone user's control.  Obviously this is theoretically possible, and I agree with her that it is possible although I think it's a muchhhh smaller chance than she thinks.  \n\nSo the fight happened because I refused initially to not point the camera at her (again, my phone is huge so it's hard not to face her and be on my phone and have it look like the camera is not pointing at her).  I put up a fight about it because I felt that her reasoning (especially if she trusts me) was ridiculous.\n\nFor what it's worth, we've been dating three years and this exact thing has never come up. I've known she's not comfortable getting an indecent picture taken especially on a cell phone, but it's never come up that I can't point a phone at her while using it while she is naked.\n\nSo should I just accept that she has this (what I think is weird) thing about phones and her naked and try to be careful about where the phone points in the future so that she is comfortable?", "summary": "GF believes the chance of pictures being remotely taken and uploaded from my phone without my control is high enough for her to not feel comfortable with me being on my phone and pointed towards her direction when she's naked."}
{"id": "t3_2yb1wq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend [27/m] makes me [24/f] feel like I'm underneath my coworkers. Help!", "post": "So, I noticed that I am being underpaid in comparison to my coworkers and I tell my boyfriend that quite often and that it's not fair. So, I tell him I'm going to look for a new job but sometimes I tell him that I'm getting the imposter syndrome and I feel so inadequate in comparison to my coworkers too. That is, I tend to ask for help and advice on projects often. So, my bf thinks I'm being too ridiculous when I tell him I'm being unpaid because he says I don't work as hard as he does. Yes, he puts in more hours than I do but we both have completely different jobs in completely different fields. I work in a field that is supposed to be really well for fixed hours versus his job and I feel like he feels belittled because he gets paid less than I do but that doesn't' make it right for him not to defend on my position against my coworkers. He keeps saying I should be grateful for having this job, etc... It makes me feel like crap and so belittling. I feel like he thinks I'm an impostor and a loser. I feel like he has no faith in me.", "summary": "Boyfriend [27/m] makes me [24/f] feel like I'm underneath my coworkers because I ask for help too much and doesn't think I should get paid the same as them. It makes me feel like crap. What should I do? "}
{"id": "t3_18k821", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A Valentine's Day Conundrum", "post": "Ages: 21 & 20\n\nM and F\n\n2 years\n\nSo me and my girl decided in advance not to get each other anything (you know where this is headed). We live apart from each other (not long distance) and we both go to school and work so were broke. Queue the fight. She says she still deserved flowers or something small delivered. I was actually clueless and kind of confused. I asked her why she didn't send me anything than? She's says its tradition that girl's get something and that it doesn't count towards our earlier agreement. It hurt me that she doesn't wanna treat me the way she wants to be treated. I would have got her something if I knew this was how she felt. Who do you guys think is in the right here?", "summary": "Is Valentine's Day a one or two way street?"}
{"id": "t3_1at84z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some successful ways to petition against a school district?", "post": "My high school has recently made a rule that will stop students from using a major parking lot. The reasons behind it are that students are taking up teachers parking spots, driving to fast in said parking lot, etc. My high school is made up of about 400 students, which about half of them drive. The parking lot they don't want us to use is located behind the school and it is the second biggest parking lot that the school has. This parking lot usually houses about 50 students at any given day and maybe 10 teachers, so it's safe to say that we were not taking the teachers parking. Since students cannot park there, it has caused the problem of finding a parking spot, which in turns is making students late to class and very upset.\n\nThe entire campus is very upset with this including the students who don't even drive. So what are a few ways that we can fight this new rule?", "summary": "Our student body needs our parking lot back."}
{"id": "t3_21e6cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my crush [20 F], she is bad for me but i like it, what should i do?", "post": "We're in college together, I like this girl a lot, but she is too much like me, in the sense that she is very skeptical about relationships. \n\nWe had a fuck buddies thing for a while, but its gone cold for a while. We still hang out all the time and are very flirty with one another, we just havent had sex in a while.\n\nI just dont know what to do with her, whether or not she is worth my time or not, because i know that we would work well together, but also i know that she could be more trouble than shes worth.", "summary": "I have feelings for a fuck buddy but she is skeptical of relationships like me."}
{"id": "t3_1f48uf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Being jealous or just setting the rules? [15F] and [16M]", "post": "So this is my first true relationship I guess you can say, and I kind of have a problem. So my girlfriend decides to go to her friends out and hang out with a group of her friends. That group has 5 people counting her. 3 Girls counting her and 2 guys. The 2 other guys have a record of having a \"crush\" on her. So she goes over to their house and they start \"messing around\" and they all begin to violently wrestle and fight over a computer to play tetris (yeah don't ask me). \n\nNow is this crossing the line? That my girlfriend is wrestling with 2 other guys that have had recent crushes on her? Am I just being jealous or is she crossing the line. She said she was sorry, and I'm really uneasy about it. She's been put as flirt before. I realize some people say \"If you can't trust them you shouldn't be with them.\" this is the first incident so far. I'm giving her a chance to prove herself, so I've pushed other peoples opinions away and given her a chance. We're fairly new by the way about 1 month which is tomorrow. Which we are spending the day together tomorrow.\n\nNow the philosophy I said to her was \"If I wrestled with other girls you wouldn't like it.\" so she agreed. Whatever she does that she wouldn't like me doing then she shouldn't be doing. Should any trust be lost?", "summary": "Girlfriend goes to a friends house. She wrestles with 2 guys who both have had recent crushes with her. What should I do? Punish? Trust issues? Any suggestions on what I should say to her later tonight?"}
{"id": "t3_1k869u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M/] broke up with my now ex-gf [23M/F] of 3 years. I have both our concert tickets that we talked about going to for months. Thinking about sending her a ticket.", "post": "I bought two tickets a few months ago for a concert that is taking place in september.  We were both incredibly excited for this show and counted down the days until we go together.  Unfortunately, shit hit the fan and it ended up in a pretty bad breakup.  It's been about a week since I have spoken to her and I just don't know what to do.  By reading through this subreddit, I have taken note that I should cut off all contact with her.  But I mean I got these two tickets which breaks my heart.  She knows I have them and she's been wanting to go for about 9 months now.  I really don't want to be the dick that screws her over to not going.  \n\n1) I miss her a lot but we both hurt each other by saying some hurtful things and yelling at each other.  What do I do?  Call back? Write a letter?\n\n2) Do I send her ticket so she can go to the concert?  \n\nIt's all so weird because I don't know what our relationship status is and I really want to give this ticket to her and wish we were back to the good old days.  But at the same time, this past argument really made things shaky on the stability of the relationship.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "broke up with girlfriend.  Have her concert ticket that we both wanted to go to for months.  Do I try to mend the relationship or just give her a ticket as a friendly gesture?"}
{"id": "t3_33bjyf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a trip to r/nosleep", "post": "I am currently writing this in my bed too afraid to turn off the light. As a long time fan of the horror genre, not too much scares me these days, but that has changed. My fuck-up started when I went on r/nosleep looking for a quick horror fix, I found my appetite satiated with [this great series of stories] and as I was searching the comments I was lead to [a nightmare.] I finished it about 45 minutes ago and I can't stop thinking about it. Now I am too terrified to step outside my bedroom and I really have to go pee. Not to mention I hear some scratching outside my door that may or may not be my cat and/or dog.", "summary": "Went to r/nosleep, will never again sleep"}
{"id": "t3_2igk0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was an asshole to my roommate. Ways to resolve? F(21)", "post": "I live in some pretty awful housing at a seasonal job. Everyone here lives in dorms. I drank too much last night (my fault), and I ended up bringing back a guy that I've been hooking up with. I brought over a couple friends, and we made food. I didn't expect anything to happen, but one friend went home and the other one passed out. \n\nOne thing led to another and me and the guy were making out on the couch in the living room. My guy friend was sleeping on the couch and it was awkward, so we moved into my room. I share a room, as does everyone else. We ended up having sex in the room and she woke up towards the end when he was about to leave and she screamed at him.\n\nI know I should NOT have done that, and I do feel really bad about it. I'm not going to blame the alcohol, I know it's my fault. I woke up this morning and straight away went to find her and I had a really sincere apology to give her but she told me she didn't want to talk to me. \n\nI do think she's being a bit hypocritical. When she was interested in a guy, I ended up sleeping at a friends house that night so that she could have the room to herself. When I came back the next morning, they hadn't had sex yet, so I went to my room to sleep. They ended up coming in and I could hear them making out/fingering as I was trying to sleep. I know they didn't have sex, but they made an equivalent amount of noise.", "summary": "I messed up and had sex with my roommate in the room. I tried to apologize but she isn't having it. I'm moving out in a week and will never see her again, but still want to make things right."}
{"id": "t3_25xxt5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by racing on electric go-karts.", "post": "Last Friday (May 16th), I went on an end of the year field trip. I went because I thought there was an actual go kart track and all. When we showed up, it was a small track for electric karts. I was slightly disappointed, but hell, I can still have fun. So I hop in the kart and wait to go. Slowly, one by one, we left the pit. The light turned green and we started to race. All was well until someone spun out and the attendant stopped the karts with the controller. Only thing is, one kart failed to stop in time and slammed into my kart. I jolted forward and thought nothing of it. Later on, I went to work and noticed a pain. I went home and told my mom, causing her to kick in to nurse mode. She told me that I have a very minor case of whiplash. So I got to lay around on over the counter pain killers and totally forgot to study for my final today. Now I'm stuck on reddit, studying for a final, and trying to block the pain out for now.", "summary": "Went go-kart racing, got rear-ended, found out I have whiplash, laid around and didn't study for final because I laid around doing nothing."}
{"id": "t3_nci8v", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Xmas Sacrifice \"Lesson\" - parental guidance required", "post": "A friend told me about a family Christmas tradition where they ask their children to give up one gift off their \"wish-list\" in exchange for putting that money towards a charity. This seemed like a great idea so I attempted it with my 5 year old daughter and it didn't go that well. Instead of letting her pick, I suggested a toy castle she wants (and already has a couple similar) and in exchange, suggested we buy a less fortunate family a goat through a charity site.\n\nIt turned out to be a far more challenging decision for her to make than I anticipated and it took lots of explaining and tears. Turns out she really wanted that castle. She finally made the right choice and reluctantly agreed. However in hindsight I feel like it was too intense of a request to ask from a 5 year old, that maybe I was too pushy and generally I feel like crap about the whole thing.  By the time she went to bed I think she was feeling good about her decision and it hasn't come up again.\n\nNow I have two choices: 1) Complete the \"lesson\", stick to my plan and just not buy it. \u00a0The charity is sending a card with a picture of the goat I was going to put under the tree for thanks. 2). \"Reward\" her kind act by still buying the castle and say its from Santa and he decided to give to her because he was \"so impressed with her generous act\".  Thus still making her extremely happy and surprised Xmas morning.\n\nNeedless to say she is getting other toys she requested Xmas morn.\n\nSuggestions?", "summary": "I asked my daughter to donate a Christmas gift so we can put that money towards charity. Now I feel guilty and wonder if I still buy the gift as a \"reward\" or stick to the \"lesson\"."}
{"id": "t3_dl9uh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit, I share the same name as the CEO of the w3 Foundation Should I send him a message from reddit?", "post": "My name is Steve Bratt, around about the same time I started using the Internet I became aware of another Steve Bratt,  I googled myself and the first results were articles about him. Steve Bratt is CEO Of the World Wide Web Foundation, founded by Tim Berners-Lee who is credited with inventing the World Wide Web. Steve was also CEO at the World Wide Web Consortium and helped put together a lot of the standards used on the web at the moment. So I couldn't help but chuckle when today i noticed our facebook profiles.\n\nHere is the link to my Profile, [\n\nAnd here is the link to the CEO of the w3's facebook bearing in mind this guy has Tim Berners-Lee on his friends list! [\n\nhehe!\n\nSo I'm wondering if I should try to add him on facebook and maybe send him a message from reddit, I'm hoping it will peak his interest just because our names are the same. Maybe I could get him to do an IAMA.\n\nSo Reddit, do you have any ideas what I should say? Does anyone have anything they want to ask?", "summary": "Reddit, I am the real Steve.Bratt not Steve.Bratt2"}
{"id": "t3_4mhzjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice [18M] regarding long term relationships", "post": "So over the past couple years i [18M] have found that im pretty good at \"getting girls\" but i dont want to keep finding women like this. \n\nI want someone who likes me more in a friendship kind of way with inamacy as a second priority. Dont get me wrong im not saying that i want to get rid of it, i just feel like a lot of women these days are just throwing themselves out there. I keep finding women that just want the man part of me and not the relationship.\n\n Im interested in learning how to find people that are more likely long term relationship material. Anybody whos married have advice?", "summary": "i can get girls easy i just cant find which ones want a serious relationship and value friendship before sex"}
{"id": "t3_4x5zco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31/f] boyfriend [35/m] is the worst at receiving gifts.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half. Best relationship of my life,  I'm happy and loved. But he is the worst about receiving gifts and I keep getting my feelings hurt.\n\nChristmas 2015 was the first real gift giving occasion we ran into. I gave a thoughtful, but inexpensive collection of gifts. He bought me an expensive tech toy. I immediately felt bad and then he just kept saying he wanted a fun toy. We bickered about it and moved on. \n\nSo we get to his birthday. I spent months trying to figure out what to get him knowing that he's super picky. I decided on the amazon echo dot because it can do lots of things and he could spend a lot of time customizing it. But he clearly wasn't impressed--it doesn't connect to his preferred apps and he doesn't already have amazon prime. He told me I could keep it for my upcoming birthday. He acknowledged his poor reaction and apologized. \n\nThis is not something worth breaking up over. But if every holiday that involves gifts is going to stress me out and ultimately end with me upset, is it even worth the effort to buy a gift? Are there couples that just don't ever exchange gifts?", "summary": "I end up with hurt feelings because my boyfriend is super picky and sucks at accepting gifts. I'm frustrated and need ideas on how to resolve this."}
{"id": "t3_22zezq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my ex [20 M] i need help.. tldr", "post": "tdlr: fianc\u00e9 left me.. desperately trying to get him back and completely miserable and depressed\n\nI'm miserable and upset.. and i just need help and advice.. \n\nmy boyfriend of over a year asked me to marry him. i said yes.. he moved, things got awkward. and then dumped me out of no where a week later for almost no reason..\n\n I'm completely heartbroken and messed up. and i severely actually need him.\n\n he basically said we can maybe get back together but idk what to do.\n\n. i honestly am ready to settle down. but i cant stand whats happening anymore. \n \n\nplease help me.. I'm desperate", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question! desperate and breaking"}
{"id": "t3_2zlv4q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being suspicious of my dish washer.", "post": "So this actually happened two nights ago. I manage a medium-sized restaurant and by the end of the night its typically just me and the dish washer left in the building. \n   Most of our dish washers are pretty good, but this one is a bit of a train wreck. We'll call him J and J got a job through our old gm that he knew through NA (narcotics anonymous). So J is a little shifty sometimes, he has a tendency to go offtrack and work late. \n   By the time I finished, he was an hour away so I jumped in to get it done faster. I ended up sending him out early so I could mop alone. I mopped, closed the restaurant, and set the alarm. \n   Driving away I usually cut through the empty Staples parking lot since its late and there's no speed bumps. Oddly, halfway through the lot, I noticed J was walking back towards the restaurant. Now, I don't think J is untrustworthy, but our alarm has gone off several times in the last month and it seemed strange that he was going back that direction. \n   So I slowly drove through the lot while watching him through my rear-view mirror. Unfortunately, since I was watching him and not the road, I didn't notice the shopping carts in front of me. \n   I drove straight into the carts while looking through my rear-view and knocked another down in front of the car. I quickly reversed and drove out of the lot. I still don't know why he was walking back to the restaurant. My car is scratched up.", "summary": "I was watching my dish washer through my rear view mirror and ran into some shopping carts."}
{"id": "t3_ctdtp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm moving 5000 miles away from home. In 3 days I will be in the Netherlands, any advice?", "post": "Well yeah, in 3 days I will be moving to the Netherlands to continue with my studies. The reason I'm moving so far away is because I live in the Dutch Caribbean, and we only get financing if we go to the Netherlands. And since there are no decent universities on the islands I don't really have a choice.\n\nI'm going to the Delft Universitu of Technology, and I'll probably be living in The Hague. It's the first time I'm moving away from home, so it's going to be a whole new experience. Luckily quite a lot of my friends are going too (basically my entire class), but I figure that without my parents around things will be very different.\n\nI've been to the Netherlands before, so I know how trains and all that stuff work, but I know nothing about living on my own, the best dishes to cook, etc. So any advice is appreciated, I need all that I can get!\n\nIn case you're wondering, I'm currently 18 and I am going to study Aeronautical Engineering. So if you happen to go to Delft, some advice regarding the school would be great too!", "summary": "Moving away from home, need advice on how to survive."}
{"id": "t3_1byfwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Things to do during sleepovers M[20] F[19]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months. We live in the same city, but a few miles apart. As we both go to different universities and have busy schedules, seeing eachother is challenging. I usually bike over to her place a couple times a week so we can spend the night together. This almost always results in us cuddling and then having sex. We then fall asleep and I leave early in the morning to go do class. We both enjoy our time together, and the sex is amazing, we both feel that we should be doing more than having sex.\n\nI am wondering if people have ideas for what we can do during these late-night sleepovers, other than sex.", "summary": "too much sex? ideas for other activities."}
{"id": "t3_53lqn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] need women's perspective.", "post": "I recently started dating a girl[23f] and she is not ready to have sex yet. We've been hanging out for about a month and I asked her out about a week ago. I don't like hooking up, so I didn't instigate anything sexual while we were going on the dates before we were dating. \n\nSince we started dating I haven't looked at porn. And that is why I need women's perspectives. Now I don't care about some old fashioned Christian morality or anything, but I would hate to hurt another person's feelings. I am very tempted to look at porn, but I can wait if I need too. \n\nI've been cheated on before and I know how much pain it causes, would you consider porn cheating? I wanna know truthfully from women what your thoughts are. \n\nIf you are a guy I don't care about your perspective at this time.", "summary": "= Porn cheating or not?"}
{"id": "t3_311ath", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/m] gf [17/f] told me something while she was mad at me that made me think about things.", "post": "So we were talking on Facebook last night and at one point in the conversation , i left my pc to go and eat while she was taking a shower. I didnit told her that i have to go and eat but  it took a while 'till i got back. She was super mad at me for the fact that i didn't told her that i will be absent a bit while she cames from the shower. K,my bad . She was playing the 'i am mad ,i will treat you with zero no love' game and then I saw that she liked this pic on fb which told \"Bad guys have good lips\" so I told her \"oh,i am a bad guy ,huh?\" And she replied so coldly \"who the fuck said that it's about YOU?\" . At that moment i was stunned. She quickly said \"it was my dads bday yesterday ,I gave him a kiss ,maybe it's about him,what?\" And i was like \"myeaah..\" And I started to act that I was hurt about what she said to develop the idea while she was apologizing about what she said and told me  \"of course it s about your lips\" . I don't know , i tend to say the truth while mad too.. Am i overreacting? She has been so apologizing to me after what she said.", "summary": "gf told me something while Mad that got me pretty suspicios . Am i overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_1all5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F21] friend just told me that I [F22] had been a bad friend during her break-up.", "post": "I'm a university student and have two close female friends, K and E. In our first year, K's long-distance boyfriend broke up with her in January. She was devastated, and E and I were there for her day and night. She talked about her ex-boyfriend every day during every conversation for around six months. Our relationship was slightly fraught because I got into a relationship just after hers broke up, and she was angry and jealous and spent a lot of time implying I was a whore, which I put up with because she was having a hard time.\n\nSometime in June that year, I suggested that it probably wasn't helping that she was constantly fixated on her ex-boyfriend, and that it might help her to move on. She said nothing at the time - time passed, things got better. We're now in our third year, E and I are in happy and stable relationships, K is not. I went to dinner with her a lot last year during which she would complain about how unfair it was that I managed to have a boyfriend and she didn't. I put up with it.\n\nToday hasn't been great for me, as I just got turned down for funding by my university for postgraduate level. We were talking about the past and she announced that she felt I'd been a shitty friend at the time for telling her to move on from her ex-boyfriend when she'd actually been depressed, and trivialised her feelings. I apologised profusely. In retrospect though, I feel quite angry about it. I suffer from depression; and suffered very badly in my second year. She was there for me one evening during a bad time, for which I was very grateful. She now says that she was angry, because she felt that she'd supported me at that time in a way I had never supported her. I don't feel that this was the case at all. \n\nShould I confront her about it, or let it slide? It seems like a strange time to be bringing up things from the past, and maybe a bit insensitive given that I have just had really quite bad news, but I feel angry that I've allowed her to treat me in this way.", "summary": "Friend said I was uncaring during her break-up, two years later. I disagree."}
{"id": "t3_2k0282", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "I need help teaching the command \"come\" and making leaving the dog park a positive experience.", "post": "Hi guys! I need your wisdom!\n\nI just adopted my 8mo german shepherd mix Marley about two months ago and training has been going pretty good with the exception of \"come,\" especially at the dog park.\n\nWhen we're not at the dog park he generally just doesn't  want to come. He knows his name but will just continue doing what he was doing. He's almost always on a leash anywhere else so just a little tug on the leash will get him to come.\n\nWhen we're at the dog park (which we go to at LEAST once a day, he will not even consider coming, he will run away when I approach him and he won't come near me for toys, sticks, etc. after researching and using some common sense I realized that he won't come because the only time he comes to me we end up leaving the park... How do I fix this and get him to come? Also, how do I make coming to me and leaving the park a less negative thing?", "summary": "dog won't come and also runs away at the dog park because he doesn't want to leave"}
{"id": "t3_2jf9ia", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and nearly got hit by a car", "post": "So I have to get two buses back from university to my house. This happened after the first bus, before the second.\n\nJust before getting off bus 1 I put my earphones in, pressed play and set off to the bus stop just down the road. Half- concentrating on where I was going, but still conscious of my surroundings, I manoeuvre the crowded path to the crossing on the road. No green man yet, but a quick glance left and a quick glance right told me the road was clear. So I set off across.\n\nJust as I get about half way I hear tyres screeching from the left, getting loud FAST. Shit. My heart skips a beat but thinks it's skipped a thousand so tries to make up for it my quadruple-speeding immediately. I suddenly sprint to the other side, and miraculously make it. Legs of jelly, forehead of sweat, I'm alive.\n\nLooking back up and down the road, the car doesn't exist. All I see is the same empty road and two guys on the other side looking at me strangely for what I had just done. That's when I realised: the screech of tyres was in my earphones. It was the song I was listening to, not a car in the real world. My head goes from sweating to beet red, and I slowly make my way to bus number two, earphones definitely out of my ears this time.", "summary": "listened to music while crossing a road. Screech made me shit a brick, turned out to be my music, not a car. Embarrassment ensued."}
{"id": "t3_prw2j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Legal Ways to get revenge on horrible neighbors?", "post": "I moved into a new house with my family and three rescue dogs about two months ago. Two days after I moved in, I received an anonymous letter saying that \"Having three dogs is far too many\" and threatening to take legal action to force me to get rid of them. Over the next few days, I met the majority of my neighbors, and all them were friendly and claimed they had nothing to do with the letter.\n\nHowever, about a week later, a complaint was filed with the city, and we found out that the complainers were a Persian couple we had never met in the house behind us. Unfortunately for them, having three dogs is perfectly legal, and the dogs are very well behaved so they don't violate any noise laws. Therefore, the city was unable to do anything without proof of incessant barking.\n\nThen this happened: I woke up at 6 AM, let the dogs outside, heard my one year old pit bull/pug mix barking and growling, which is unusual. I go outside to bring him in and calm him down, and I found the Persian man standing at the gate with a tape recorder in one hand, and throwing rocks at him with the other. Needless to say, I was beyond furious and I'm looking for any legal way to completely ruin the lives of these evil fucks. This is why I'm calling on you, the Reddit Community, to help me find legal ways to get revenge on them.", "summary": "I want to punish my horrible dog-hating neighbors."}
{"id": "t3_10bh0d", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I cease contact with a friend over an accusation of theft?", "post": "Today I got a text from a guy named Bryant who I sometimes hang out with and share many mutual friends with. The message said \"My man, I'm gonna need 40 dollars for that sweater that you took from me\" The sweater he's referring to is one that I found in my car several months ago.\n\nSeveral months ago I asked my friends if anybody had lost a sweater and Bryant mentioned that he had lost a sweater (never proven to be the one I found). I offered to return it and he declined, never bringing the issue up again.\n\nToday I responded to his message, telling him that I would look for the sweater and return it if I found it, but that I would not give him money as it is not my responsibility to keep track of his clothes. He accused me of stealing it and said that I am \"disappointing\". I replied that I wasn't looking for his approval and that reiterated that I would give him the sweater if I found it.\n\nI have blocked his facebook page and will probably avoid this guy in the future, even though he is often at my good friend's house. Is this an appropriate way to handle this?", "summary": "Dude says I owe him $40 for a sweater I found several months ago and no longer have (which may or may not be his) Should I just cease contact with him?"}
{"id": "t3_4zlky0", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "[HELP] My parents are thinking about getting rid of my 8 year old cats (who are brothers) because they have a urine problem.", "post": "When I was in the 2nd grade (I am currently a 10th grader) my mother surprised our family with two cats that were 'getting to old to be adopted'. We've had these cats for 8 years and throughout those years they've peed on anything left on the floor they can claw at. This includes but is not limited to clothing, backpacks, and blankets. My parents have put up with this (though vocally stating how much they hate them) for our sake but recently they have peed on carpeting and furniture and this is my parents' last straw. \nWe all love these cats and they're not 'bad cats' in anyway. One of them is skittish by nature but other than that and the urine problem they are loving animals who have been considered as part of the family in my eyes. These are my first cats and the only childhood pets I have left that haven't passed away. For now, my mother has banished them to the basement unless we can find a way to stop this, or else they'll go to a cat rescue where no one will adopt them. \nReddit, I'm writing this through tears, please tell me how to get them to stop, or any advice that pertains to this issue. If this helps at all, one of the cats lives half of his live outdoors and uses the bathroom out there as well, we also have two dogs that push their buttons sometimes but ultimately they get along.", "summary": "My parents are going to give my two brother cats away to a cat rescue (essentially killing them) if they don't stop pissing everywhere. PLEASE HELP!!"}
{"id": "t3_2223kf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Something happened at work. What should I do?", "post": "I work for a retail of a major corporation. I really like my job, and I take the job, my store and my fellow teammates needs seriously. We had a pretty fabulous boss, but he was supplanted by a younger, Hispanic AGM from another, local store. I think the plan was to diversify, ethnically, in an otherwise rural community. To my point..the first or second day of my new manager's first day, a customer to whom I frequently deliver put his hands on me in a way that really made me feel horrified. When I returned to the store, the client in question was waiting on hold to ask for my phone number. I told my new boss. He casually took the name/details and let me know I wouldn't deliver to that location anymore. He also urged me to keep the incident to myself. I was willing to shake it. I mean, I've definitely dealt with bigger violations in my life. Only, a few days later he made a remark that..I don't know, you judge. It was really cold this winter and I frequently wore this big, fuzzy hat from Alaska. I moved to my current location from Houston, TX; so I was inclined to bundle as best I could this winter. Anyway, I was gearing up to make a run when the new boss announced, \"You know, you complain about all the attention you get from men, then you wear that hat.\" I feel violated. My hat does not have a sign that says \"feel free to put your hands on my body.\"", "summary": "corporate lvl client touched me inappropriately. Was willing to let it go because the boss was new. New boss, later, suggested that I somehow asked for it."}
{"id": "t3_3odvn4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a bit more than caught", "post": "Hope I'm not too late time wise.\nSo I'm sure you're bored to death of posts about people getting caught \"in the act\".  My story is a bit different though.  You'll see what I mean.\nThis wasn't too long ago.  It was the late afternoon one fateful Saturday night.  I finally had some downtime and decided to use it to fulfill the most basic human desire.  I went down to the basement of my house got on my computer and started browsing for pictures.  My first mistake was wearing headphones.  They were huge noise blocking headphones that completely engulfed both ears.  When I finally found what I was looking for I slid off my pants, and began.  I heard what sounded like footsteps on carpet and assumed they were coming from upstairs.  I was terribly wrong.  A few minutes later a figure got up and walked past me.  It was my brother.\nHis face was beet red and he got out of the room as quickly as possible.  Turns out that while I was sitting there he was behind my desk building a PC.  He had a full view of my junk for a few minutes.  I'm not sure who was more embarrassed.", "summary": "My directional hearing failed me in the worst way possible"}
{"id": "t3_2f7o9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just ruined a perfectly good relationship; what do I do now?", "post": "So in a nutshell: I (m24) was in a relationship with a girl (19f) I was head over heals in love with. We got along really well and shared a lot of the same interests. She is a very alternative, free spirited girl, and I'm somewhere in between. However, we had a really strong connection between us that I have never felt with anyone else.\n\nUnfortunately, I just graduated college and was under the impression that it's time to be an \"adult\" now. I started being really critical of everything both she and I did. Whether it was spending money, the way the apartment was set up, who we hung out with, or just her opinion in general. I became fairly controlling and judgemental near the end of the relationship. To top it off, I had started my own business and I was not putting the time into the relationship. So, I was becoming quite distant and when I wasn't being distant, I was being judgemental.\n\nWhen she initiated the breakup, all I could say was \"I agree, these last few weeks have been terrible.\" About two weeks passed before I actually started to reflect on the relationship. I hated what I saw. I realized that I was not myself, I was frustrated with work and advisors and where I was in life. I didn't like myself, or I at least thought I could be better and I projected that onto her. I wasn't doing things that either of us wanted, I just felt like I *should* do these things.\n\nNow, when I look back I realize I wasn't being true to her or myself. I feel like I now know who I am and how well we can work. However, she has these memories of me being controlling and thinks that we are just too of different people. \n\nIt's been 3 months and she currently isn't ready to be friends or talk to me. (She was, then she wasn't?) I'm not sure what that means. \n\nWhat can I do? Is there such a thing as going back? What's the best way to do that?", "summary": "I lost myself for a few months. Once found, I realized I made many mistakes. "}
{"id": "t3_2quz81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22 F] let things happen, or ask for clarification with a my friend [24 M]?", "post": "I have a somewhat confusing relationship with one of my closet friends. We started out by talking in a dating sense, but never had sex (or much of a physical relationship). At the time things were pretty complex in both of our lives so after a couple of months we decided to be friends. He is now one of my best friends, about 20 months later.\n\nThe confusing part happened about 6 months ago. He started to pull away a little bit, and I was worried he thought I was leading him on. I took a week or two and debated, and decided my life had slowed down enough to give dating a shot. He asked for some time to think, and about two weeks later he told me we couldn't be friends anymore and cut off all contact. Fast forward to three months ago. I was still hurt but was moving on, and started dating a really sweet guy. A month later friend sheepishly apologized with a very short email, and said that an SO should be your best friend. I told him it wasn't fair for me to drop boyfriend for him, so we tried to maintain what was now an awkward friendship. \n\nA couple of weeks later I told friend I really did want to be with him, but I wasn't sure it was best. We got into a small argument and both agreed we only wanted to date because it felt like we *should* be together. However, that's just not true, and we both know it. This week I broke up with boyfriend because I felt guilty about my feelings for friend. I told friend it was because things had been very awkward and I wanted a normal friendship with him again. We have been texting everyday since (which is slightly more than usual for us). He leaves for vacation tonight, so we wont have contact for another week until he gets back to campus and we see each other for the first time since break started. \n\nMy questions are: how do I approach this situation, and are we both on the same page with our relationship? ie) are we working towards dating and do I need to clarify that with him?", "summary": "I am not sure where a back and forth friendship is at currently, and I don't know how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_3jvquy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24f) found flirty texts to a 'Daddy' (46m) on my bfs (25m) phone, maybe one message that hints he may be cheating", "post": "In the past few weeks I noticed my boyfriend has sort of withdrawn his phone use in front of me, he used to use it all the time so I thought it was a little odd. Then I had to make a call on it and found it had a password, no prob, I used my own.\n\nHowever the other day while my boyfriend was showering he was waiting for a call from work so he gave me the password to unlock it in case the call came in while he was showering. I ended up snooping. Typical, I know. \n\nI looked through his texts, no messages from any women or anything but there was one series of messages to a Daddy. Now I have met my boyfriend's dad and even have his number for emergency reasons, both his parents in fact. Nothing in your face but there were a few messages referring to 'Daddy' as quite handsome and 'Daddy' was complimenting my bf on his eyes. They also talked about stress relief, jacking off a lot, in a way that would seem like a general if weird convo between guys IF I didn't know how my boyfriend is when he's being flirty. Then there was one message from 'Daddy' telling my bf he has a gorgeous looking dick. \n\nI'm not sure what's going on here, is my boyfriend gay? Bi? Is he cheating? Ready to cheat? Thinking about it? I'm not even sure how I feel about all this. Just confused as fuck, if it had been a woman it would've been easy to just lose my shit over this but I had zero clue my boyfriend liked guys, so I'm way more confused than hurt, though still hurt.\n\nDon't know what to do though?", "summary": "boyfriend has a 'Daddy' he's been flirting with, one text mentions is him complimenting my bfs dick, more confused than hurt about all this crazy shit"}
{"id": "t3_4mavm1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(MA) Previous Tenant in my apartment took rent money from me, but I paid the rent, any way I can get the money back?", "post": "I took over a lease from a guy this past May that will run until December; one of his existing roommates will be staying on the lease. There was a snafu with the paperwork, so I didn't get the correct papers in and therefore didn't sign the lease until mid May. The guy asked me to pay the May rent, which was due on the first of the month, and since the rental office wouldn't accept money directly from me until my name was on the lease, I stupidly trusted him enough to write him a check (I don't know if this helps things or not, but one of the rental office employees was in the room when I wrote the check), and I know from my bank statement that he cashed it.\n\nWell, at the beginning of May, the girl who had been on the lease before I signed on got a call that the check the guy wrote to the rental office bounced and that she had fourteen days to come up with the money (the rental office sees all tenants as equally responsible for the rent).\n\nI unfortunately had other things on my plate when she mentioned this in passing in a text (she's with her parents for the summer) and didn't think too much about this until I logged into the apartment website and paid what I thought was the June rent but what turned out to be the May rent. I found this out when I called the rental office asking what was going on and was told that the issue was \"resolved\" because I had paid the May rent.\n\nBut I want the $600 that I gave to the previous tenant which ended up not going to rent! The guy has been out of the country for the last month and just returned yesterday but has not answered my texts or my facebook messages.\n\nMy question: Do I have any way to get this money back? As much as I feel better that the roommate and I will not get kicked out of the place, this guy essentially pocketed $600.", "summary": "I gave a previous tenant money to pay rent for the month that I would be taking over the lease, the check he wrote to pay the rent bounced, and I picked up the tab. Do I have a way to get the money back?"}
{"id": "t3_34dxfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking of breaking up with boyfriend M28 who doesn't want to put in more time and effort into our relationship F27.", "post": "I have a boyfriend that I love. Even with his shortcomings. Which we all have.\nBut I feel he is not devoted enough. I'd like to meet more often, chat etc. He knows this, I told him nicely etc. When we meet it's wonderful.\nHe is content with meeting once a week and if that falls through, he is not particularly upset.\n\nI feel awful because I ask him for more meeting etc and I sometimes get to the point where I sound accusative and horrible. I respect his time and commitment to his son, but I'd like to meet more often when he doesn't have the sweet little boy. No, those weeks he runs, rides his bike, meets friends...etc.\n\nAnyways, I'm fed up. But can't bring myself to break up yet. The question is: if we have a great relationship but I can't get him to invest more, shall I give up? \n\nI feel that there is a big gap between our needs. I understand he has his own life and so do I. But I was hoping for maybe an extra date when he is not parenting. Is it too much to ask for? \n\nE.g yesterday he didn't email me all evening because he was skyping someone for  four hours. I don't doubt he did, but I would have appreciated a quick email saying, hey, I'm on Skype with Jessica, talk tomorrow. Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Boyfriend is not ready to make more time for me. I feel horrible and cry every day. Thinking of ending it."}
{"id": "t3_18upqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] Mother in law [49] keeps making plans to come over and see our daughter, but ditches them.", "post": "Husband [27M] and i have known each other for around 7 years.\n\nLast year we had a child.\n\nMother in law has been getting annoyed at us because she hasn't seen our son in a while (+2 months), wants to make plans to see him, then won't show up, and won't ring to tell us that she's decided not to come, and automatically assumes that the next day she can just show up.\n\nSo i get my husband to ring her and tell her she can't come over the next day (Due to us mainly needing to go shopping) and she says \"Oh, good thing you rang me because i would've just shown up anyway.\"\n\nShe has some of our things, like kinect sensor, some of my clothes, etc.\n\nShe apparently doesn't feel \"Comfortable\" in our house for whatever reason, and wants us to travel to her house (Our car isn't working at the moment.) But we don't have the money to spend $30 in public transport + 15 - 20 on food. \n\nShe's apparently coming over today, and it's now almost 12pm.\n\nHow do i get this woman to stop being so rude?", "summary": "Mil makes plans to come and see our son, then doesn't come over, doesn't ring us to tell us she's had a change of plans, and then assumes she can just come over the next day."}
{"id": "t3_2kk9mz", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Alternatives for the cone of shame?", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nSo, yesterday I took my dog to the vet as she started showing some sort of skin issue around her right chin and cheek. The vet suspects it's some sort of fungus so she's testing her (I'll have the results in about 10 days). She gave me some specific products to wash her with and some medicine that's not too harsh for her to take until we get the results.\n\nShe asked me to have her wear the cone though, because it's a spot she can reach easily. Now, I've barely seen her scratch that area thus far, and I spend most of my day around her. But today I'm going with her to my dad's farm for a few days, which is huge and where she spends her time running around with my dad's dogs, most of the time out of sight because it's really big. And I'll be out working with him so I can't control her for a few hours. \n\nI tried the cone today as she's never worn it before and she freaked out. I also suspect the cone does not fit her quite right, as it seems ok in the neck but too heavy for her build and it kind of falls on her face. As she'll be running around without me being there I'm honestly scared it could hurt her more wearing it than not, because she can't see shit with that thing on. \n\nDo you know of any other alternatives for the cone? When she was spayed the vet got her a sort of scrub which worked perfectly, but I don't know if I can fathom something else that could keep her from scratching her face... Thanks!", "summary": "Dog needs to not scratch her face, hates the cone, will be spending a few days in a huge farm, I'll be out working during the day so am scared she might get hurt with the thing on. Do you know any alternatives?"}
{"id": "t3_1rbooh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What is the purpose of love??", "post": "Note** I just got back from draining half a 750ml of rum while driving so yeaaahhhh.\n\nWhat is the purpose of love?  I have those around me who say they love me no matter what, family is what they're called.  I also have people around me who say they worry about me.  What am I supposed to feel like though?  Am I supposed to feel love?  Am I supposed to feel worried over?  I don't understand!!\n\nWhat am I supposed to feel when people say they love me?!  I don't really feel anything right now.  What am I supposed to feel like when people say they worry about me?  Because right now all I feel is numb.\n\nAll I feel right now is numb, I don't think its the alcohol though.  I think it its an absence of emotion.  (is that possible?)  Is it possible to have an absence for a specific emotion?\n\nWhat I'm pretty much trying to say is, people say they care about me, but I don't know what I\"m supposed to feel about it.  I don't know HOW to feel about it.", "summary": "how am I supposed to feel about people who say they care about me?"}
{"id": "t3_3gy8y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "1 UPDATE: I (18M) don't feel comfortable with my girlfriend's bestfriend (20M) being presistant with my girlfriend. (18M)", "post": "Here's my last post: \n\nSo here's the update. My girlfriend and her best friend had a long talk. My girlfriend and I agreed that her best friend should stop tell her about his feelings and to tell him to get over her. She showed me the chat with him and I read it thoroughly.\n\nBasically, he said he's fine with being best friends with her and liking her romantically. Even though she tried her best to tell him to get over her, he said the only way he would be able to get over her would be to TOTALLY cut her off. Like never talk to each other again kind. The thing that both of us are worried about is that he is literally shutting himself out from all other romantic relationships because of her. He says that having them as best friends is more than he could ever want. Honestly, there are two cross roads my girlfriend can take.\n\nCease contact with him forever so he will get over her \n\nor\n\nPretend like it all never happened and for him to keep all his feelings to himself\n\nMy girlfriend chose the second choice. She knows herself that cutting him off would be the best for him but for herself, she doesn't want to cut him off. Honestly, I don't know what the right choice at all and it is currently bringing in relationship problems for my girlfriend and me.\n\nI will be able to reply to comments for about 3 hours so please give me advice.", "summary": "My girlfriend's best friend gave her an ultimatum and she decided option 2. I don't know if this is really the right choice."}
{"id": "t3_2okrob", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] - I feel like my boyfriend and my mom are competing over me, and I don't think I should have to choose.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend [20/m] for about 9 months now. Wonderful relationship. My first, his second. Natural ups and downs, but we communicate very well and with lots of love. We are both in this for the long haul. We are still young and in college, and nothing is every guaranteed, but we're both ready and willing to make this relationship work. \nI was raised by my mom. Wonderful relationship. I'm her only child. Natural ups and downs, but we communicate pretty well and with love. She does everything in her power for me to have a good and happy life, and though I'm young and in college I do my best to return the favor.\nSee a pattern? Well, mom doesn't want to lose me. She has always provided for me and wants to continue doing so, and thinks I bend to my boyfriend's whim. Boyfriend wants to take care of me as well, an early stage of forming our lives together. He thinks I need to forge some independence. I value both these sentiments equally. I love both my mom and my boyfriend with all my heart (in different ways, of course). I value both these relationships so much, but it feels as though they are encroaching on each other. I don't think that should be the case. I need to \nget back to studying.", "summary": "Don't want to choose between my mom and boyfriend. How can I make both of them, and myself happy?"}
{"id": "t3_1u4fn2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Let's talk love at first sight, everyone [30s/m] [30s/m]", "post": "Ok, here's the deal. Throwaway for reasons. I'm an early 30s gay male, and I live on the left coast. I recently went on vacation to NYC with family...and met a guy (via iPhone, natch). It was supposed to be just a hookup, but it's turning into more than that. The first time we kissed was...perfect, actually. He was easily the best lover I've ever had (and I've had a few...). We spent as much time as we could over the next few days together, and I very quickly realized that there was a lot more to this than I expected. He's said the same things. I've never felt this way before, and I've dated plenty of guys (in fact, I'm generally pretty guarded around people). I kept my bullshit-detectors up and found zero bullshit. He didn't act differently in public, in bars or when he introduced me to his friends. I was totally honest with him and I believe he was totally honest with me. I spent most of my last day there with him, and it felt totally normal, like this was the way it was supposed to be. Is this something I should pursue? Has anyone else experienced this? Can this work? Any advice?", "summary": "Met someone on vacation and kinda sorta fell in love in a few days. Is love at first sight a real thing? Has anyone experienced it?"}
{"id": "t3_4yesuz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24f] rebounded into my current relationship [21m]. I have no idea what to do about it now", "post": "Let me start off by saying I've been single for about 6 years now. My relationship skills are a bit rusty, which is probably what got me into this. \n\nI was dating a guy (not my current boyfriend, let's call him Patrick) for about 2 months starting in May. He went to the same school as me but moved back home when he graduated, about and hour and a half away from me. We would text and talk everyday and went on about 4-5 dates during this time. Then out of nowhere (to me, anyway), he tells me he's not up to do long distance and says we should just be friends. \nI'm heartbroken, of course, because I really liked this guy and thought we were actually headed somewhere. Anyway, while I was dating the previous guy, a mutual friend invited me to watch the GoT season finale with him and his friend (my current bf, let's call him Will). I thought he was cute but didn't think anything more of it because I was already interested in Patrick. \n\nFast-forward to a month or so later. I'm not dating anyone anymore. Will hears from our mutual friend that my job is hiring. He comes in to apply and also asks me on a date. After our second date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes mainly out of shock and I was still hung up on being sorta dumped by Patrick. But we've been dating for 2 weeks now and we hardly know anything about each other or talk very often (he sometimes takes a full 24 hours to reply to texts from me). I want to dump him or at least regress to just dating since we went so fast, but he hasn't dated in a while either. I don't know what to do because I don't want to hurt his feelings, make our mutual friend feel awkwardly in the middle, but I also don't feel good about this relationship.", "summary": "I don't actually know my current boyfriend all that well and I don't think I want to date him anymore. "}
{"id": "t3_uoo6f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My housemate just scared me so badly I almost had a panic attack, what's the most you've ever scared someone?", "post": "My two male housemates, let's call them Bill and Ben have been pranking each other since we've moved in together, and recently they've been starting to scare each other to see who can most out-do the other.    \n\nTonight we're going to a friends leaving party and having come home late, Bill told me they were just going to go on ahead as the party is just across the road and I'd meet them there. I was upstairs but heard the front door open and close and what I thought was both of them walking down the drive. After taking about 10 more minutes going out I went to fix my make-up in the bathroom mirror before leaving when I heard a his from the pitch-black of another bedroom. This is a tactic of theirs so it didn't scare me that one but my housemate Ben came out and said he was actually leaving. Apparently red-heads go beetroot red when frightened so I spent a little longer fixing up my makeup and then went downstairs to get my keys and shoes from the living room. Our wiring is a bit dodgy so the hall light doesn't work and as I reached for the living room lightswitch Bill (who I didn't recognise in the dark) suddenly emerged from the shadows right in front of me. I did a pretty good impression of Banshee and nearly threw the bottle of wine I was carrying before hitting my head on a cabinet and falling to the floor where I stayed and cried for about 15 minutes and couldn't breathe. I'm a total wuss.", "summary": "My housemates know how to use my fear of the dark and being in the house alone to their advantage."}
{"id": "t3_2t8gpm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I need some advice on improving my living situation and my life in general.", "post": "I graduated from highschool in 2012. I am now 20 years old (21 in June). So about 3 years ago my mom finally won custody over my sister and me after about 10 years of custody battles. The only problem is that all the years before took such a financial toll on my mom. So the past years she's basically been struggling to even be there for us at all. About 2 years ago she lost the apartment that we were living in. I had to live with my bestfriend for the last months of Highschool. My mom and sister stayed with one of her friends from the area. After Highschool we all moved in with my mom's parents. It's a mess really. I don't like going into detail on the living situation, but let's just say its very messy. I really don't like living like this although I have for the past couple of years. \n\nI have a pretty nice job at a high end computer retailer and I'm looking to continue education for a better career. The only problem is I really don't have the drive to do anything significant at the moment. What I would like to do is get my own apartment (Don't care about the size) and start again on my own. I feel like I've been dragged into a pit with the rest of my family that I cannot get out of. I just need some advice on how I can move forward.", "summary": "I have a terrible living situation at the moment. My current goals are simple: Get my own place to stay and a way to get back and forth to work. That's all I want right now."}
{"id": "t3_1soupk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Pre-op trans Boyfriend [17 M] 2 months in and I've been doubting my feelings", "post": "This is my first relationship with someone, so excuse my ignorance. But to cut to the chase, I'm in a relationship with a transgendered guy (Born with female body, transitioning to a guy once he's able to) and I am beginning to doubt my feelings for him. I have always claimed to be omnisexual/pansexual, but now that I'm not quite sure if I'm going to be attracted to my boyfriend after he has transitioned. \n\nJust recently I've been having these thoughts where I would think that I would be attracted to him so much more if he were to keep the long hair, wear dresses and be, well, female. I feel like absolute shit due to these thoughts because I feel like such an asshole. Am I just using my boyfriend and attracted to him all because of some perverted thought that I'll be getting some in the future from him? I have no idea...\n\nNow the problem I'm running into is telling my boyfriend this. Telling him that I'm afraid of losing attraction to him either because I don't like men like I think I do, or that I'm incredibly shallow. He has such strong feelings for me that I am scared I will absolutely crush his heart by doing that.\n\nNow don't get me wrong, whenever I'm with him I'm happy all the time and think how wonderful it is to stay in each others' arms for hours on end. So I don't know why I'm thinking these thoughts and feeling these feelings when I'm away from him.\n\nI'm confused, I'm doubtful, and I'm scared. Please help.", "summary": "I feel like I'm losing my feelings for my boyfriend due to the fear of not being attracted to him after he undergoes his transition to a male."}
{"id": "t3_542lya", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "For the first time in my life I'm going to tell a girl about my feelings for her, next monday. Any tips?", "post": "I'm 21 and a guy, she's 20. I've never done this, but for the first time in my life I'm feeling confident enough to do it, we enjoy each other's company way too much and I want to take it further. I've never had a girlfriend, nor even kissed a girl, but with her I'm pretty sure it will happen.\n\nMy plan is to spend some time with her next monday morning to get her in the mood, then tell her about my feelings before we say goodbye and asking her to go out with me the day after to a place I like to eat something, talk and see what happens.\nWhat do you guys think? any tips for someone who's doing this for the first time?", "summary": "First time telling a girl about my feelings for her, any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1y3bmp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my Boyfriend [ 27 M] 3 years, time to see other people?", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years (lived together for 2 years).  We've had a few ups and downs, but generally things have always been quite good between us.\n\nPrior to our relationship, I had been in several relationships, with varying degrees of length, although this is currently the longest one I've been in.  He had not dated much at all prior to our relationship (a few casual dates, and he fooled around some, but has never slept with another woman except me).\n\nAfter 3 years, things are great, but he still wonders if he missed out on dating/sleeping with other people.  He says he doesn't have anything to compare our relationship to, and wonders what it would be like with other people.  We've discussed marriage, and while we're both happy, he's worried about getting married with those questions still unanswered.\n\nI am anxious about the whole idea of him being with other people, and I worry what it will do to our relationship.  To be clear: I have no interest in dating other people, and if we do this, it will only be him seeing other people (my choice).\n\nI am interested to see if there are other people who have found themselves in similar situations and what they ultimately decided.   I'm not completely opposed to us 'taking a break' while he has this experience.  Sometimes I do feel guilty that he hasn't experienced other relationships or other women, and maybe I shouldn't hold him back from that.  But I worry that I'm too jealous for it to work, and obviously scared of getting hurt.", "summary": "boyfriend wants to date other women before we get married. Terrible idea, or worth trying?"}
{"id": "t3_4fr44o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Boyfriend's dad saw me[f 21] naked. My boyfriend [m 25] now wants me to have dinner with his parents.", "post": "My boyfriend lives with his parents right now so 90% of the time we hang out at my place or we just sit in my car parked outside of his parents house (we are in the process of finding an apartment to live together).\n\n A couple weeks ago me and him were watching movies in his room one thing led to another and we had sex in his room and I fell asleep. I tried to leave but he said it would be okay. The next morning while my boyfriend was in the shower his dad came into his room woke me up and started yelling at me and he saw me completely naked. \n\nso last week we were at his house again watching movies in his living room. His dad came in again. My boyfriend introduced us and I was super embarrassed and shy because of what happened. My boyfriend said \"sorry she is a little shy\" and his dad said \"she didn't seem so shy when I met her\". \n\nhis mom has also called me a \"bootycall\" and his dad said I have small boobs.  \n\nI'm not sure what to do. My boyfriend really wants to take me and his parents out to dinner. I tried to explain why I'm so embarrassed but he says it isn't a big deal. I've asked him if we can wait a little longer before I meet them to give me some time to not be so embarrassed but he insists that they'll love me.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. I don't think I'll ever have the courage to meet his parents after all of this. How would I even handle meeting his parents?", "summary": "boyfriend lives with parents his dad saw me naked and yelled at me. my boyfriend still insists on me having dinner with him and his parents. not sure how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_1f31bb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Possibly in love with my best friend. Help?", "post": "This wouldn't be so hard for me (22f) to handle, except I have to sit idly by and listen as he (22m) talks to our mutual friends about hooking up with other chicks and whether or not he would have a chance getting with any of them.\n\nI feel extremely used when I think about him looking for other girls, despite understanding he says we have no chance... I've tried just cutting the sex out of our friendship and looking for another guy to catch my eye, bit I've fallen to hard... \n\n I can't just say goodbye and be done with him because we've been really amazing friends far longer than I've had these feelings for him. And his friendship means more to me than my feelings for him\n\nBackground help:\n\nIn a \"fuck buddy\" relationship for about a year now.\n\nHe knows my feelings for him, ive told him flat out, and but tells me he can't allow himself to open up to another person because he can't stand another heart break.\n\nWhat else is there to do?", "summary": "what should I do if I'm in love with my best friend and he tells me he's given up on dating, but bluntly continues to look for one in front of me."}
{"id": "t3_2cjks7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [23F] of one year, dumped me for not making her feel special/validated, seeing the light...", "post": "In a nut shell, she broke up with me in her words for not making her seem special enough. I am having strong regrets of my behavior. We spoke after the breakup and I told her how much I loved her and I respect her decision and we walked away amicably on very good terms.\n\nI now realize I did neglect her and seeing how I realize she was the most important thing in my life now, I wish I would could show her this. \n\nI vowed being the dumpee to walk away without a word after our last conversation, I guess I wish she would reach out to see how I am doing or maybe to repair things. \n\nUltimately I have erased her from my life, Facebook gone, number, texts, pictures gone, I wish I wouldn't have neglected her.\n\nIs this a lost cause? My life has lot a lot of fulfillment, but I am working out, focusing on career goals, and trying to stay busy, but I had an enlightening thought process occur this weekend.", "summary": "Dumped as a result of not validating, making my gf a priority. Having regrets of my behavior."}
{"id": "t3_2hjs24", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] still not over my Ex [26 F], LTR for 6+ years, broke up a year ago", "post": "It's been a year since my GF of over 6 years broke up with me.  We met in college (I was back in school after a long detour), dated exclusively for 6 years, broke up (her idea), got back together (our idea), broke up again (her idea).  I was engagement ring shopping at the end, and though the final axe drop came as a shock, I knew there were issues.  \n\nI can recognize many of the issues we had.  I thought, at first, that we could have gone the therapy route and things would be ok, but I'm not so sure now.  In any case, I DEFINITELY wouldn't want to get back together.  She has even reached out to me recently to catch up, but I wasn't interested.  \n\nSo my question is, why can't I fully move on?  I've had a few hook-ups, but nothing repeating.  I haven't been on a single date.  I'm attractive and intelligent enough, so I figure with a bit more effort on my part I could be having drinks with a nice lady tonight.  I feel like I don't have the emotional space in my own life to let anyone else in.  Or that I'm scared of rejection again.  Or something else.      \n\nSome insight, advice, kind words, encouragement, or a slap in the face to snap me out of this would be appreciated.", "summary": "LTR broke up with me a year ago.  I'm still not over the relationship, though I may be over her.  Haven't been on a date since and can't seem to build up the initiate to change that.  Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_18w75q", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Having trouble sleeping with someone else, 1 month after break up.", "post": "I just can't ... or won't I'm not sure.\n\nI got dumped by the woman I loved with all my heart for 2 years 5 weeks ago ... ( It's was the same situation as that top post \" Fuck you \" on r/Breakups. )\n\nNow time did help, even if I still have my \" break downs \" , slowly but carefuly I'm getting better. \n\nI had sex with 3 girls since, but I could never let them stay the night, ever. I'm so used to my bed as being the bed where my ex and I spent 2 years sleeping together, it was hard enough to get my head around having sex in that bed, sleeping is way harder.\n\nI used to have a fuck buddy 3 years ago, and we kept in touch because she was my friend and I never cheated on my ex anyway. Now we saw each other not long ago, and nothing happened but tonight she asked me if she could stay over for the night.\n\nWe had planned to watch a film, smoke a little, eat some munchies. And I guessed there would be sex. But now she wants to stay over and I don't know what to do. ( We live in Paris so she had the choice of going home after the film ... ) \n\nThe idea of another girl sleeping where my ex used to be everynight is hard. After countless hours of research on the internet I still can't find any thing close to my case. I'm sure I'm not the only one in this situation ?", "summary": "I got dumped 5 weeks ago after a 2 year relationship, old friend with interest is coming over in a few hours and wants to stay the night. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with this because no one ever slept in my bed exept me and my ex. What do I do ?"}
{"id": "t3_ggg15", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Where do I stand with her?", "post": "I realize that I'm probably in the friend zone, but I can't quite tell, because occasionally I get very mixed messages, here's the situation:\n\nI (24M) dated her (23F) in college, and we've just started talking to each other again recently, after I screwed up the previous relationship by cheating on her (not proud of that). I've been going through a kind of hard time at work recently, and we had been talking about that.\n\nWhen she was upset a few days ago, she called me, because she wanted to talk to me about it, which kind of threw me off a bit. Yesterday, I tried to give her the real apology I always felt like she deserved for me screwing up before, and she said that it meant a lot to her, and then said that she was really happy to have me back in her life, then said that she was really glad that I answered when she called me, because I was the only person she wanted to talk to.\n\nHowever, despite those things, which would make me think she might be interested in a relationship, she's said a few times now that she wants to be friends. What's going on here?", "summary": "She's been calling me, and saying things that seem to indicate she's interested, but also mentioned a few times that we're friends, what does she really want?"}
{"id": "t3_3abatk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] my significant[24 F] of 8 months hid her relationship status on facebook and it's bothering me.", "post": "Me and my S/O of 8 months recently split up and got together a few days later. Before the split she had our facebook relationship status on public, but now even after getting together again she keeps it hidden.\n\nWhen I confronted her about it she initially said she was \"lazy.\" It's only a few clicks and easily accessible.\n\nThen when I pushed the issue she told me \"It's not anybodies business, but our own. Everyone knows we're together anyways and we have our profile pictures.\" Now that doesn't make sense to me cause she had it up for the rest of our relationship.\n\nWhen I pushed the issue and expressed my discomfort further she got agitated and said if I wanted to do it I could login to her facebook and do it myself, but to me it loses the meaning if I do.", "summary": "Recently got together with S/O but won't unprivate her facebook status."}
{"id": "t3_4rvbno", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Stressful workmates for a summer student", "post": "I'm currently a summer student with 2 months left of employment. I'm working on project that requires high contact for 10 hours each day with three other team mates. We are all between 21 and 28 years old.  The issue is that these people are highly crude and I find it hard to share in the things they find funny. \n\nThis morning, as #1 was making jokes about his girlfriend and how he's going to put her in line by hitting her in the face (a joke commonly made between the three of them). I didn't laugh, but he looked over at me and said, \"you laugh now but wait until you get it, just 'BOOM' straight in the eye.\" I'm assuming he was making a joke about my boyfriend hitting me. I just didn't know how to react, I know he doesn't like me, but this was too far. \n\nThe bad jokes continue as all three of them mimic someone who is mentally handicapped, and saying derogatory terms, while also pretending to be characters in movies who were mentally or physically handicapped. They think it's so funny and then call me frigid for not laughing. They also are extremely racist and just generally offensive. \n\nMy question is, do I ignore these things for two months? I can't think of any other option because I need the money for school and I can't find another job right away. im also unsure of if i am possibly being overly sensitive?", "summary": "my coworkers for two more months are being super offensive, do I say something or ignore it, and am I being too sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_4un1g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19,F] keep wanting to hurt my best friend [19,M], whom I love.", "post": "I've recently fallen in love with my best friend, but he doesn't reciprocate. We've been very close for years and I thought I would be one of the most important people to him, and I know I am, but there are others he has bigger feelings for than me and it makes me want to die. I know it sounds awful, and it IS awful, but I keep wanting to hurt him emotionally--try to prove to myself and him that I'm much more important to him, important enough to cause him as serious a wound as he did to me. \n\nThere's no need to tell me I'm being a bad friend, because I know that, and I've been keeping my distance from him for a while now because of it. The problem is, he wants me back in his life; he keeps saying he misses me, that he still cares about me no matter what. That hurts me in more ways than one: how could he still care about someone who wants to hurt him? I don't feel like I deserve that. And--although this is a part of me I hate--I can't help but ask myself, don't I matter enough to him to scar him? He's forgiven me too fast...too fast even for someone like him. I want to be back in each other's lives too, but I don't have the courage to tell him how much of a terrible person I am. I don't even know how to begin to deal with these feelings. I might need some kind of pep talk.", "summary": "I keep wanting to emotionally hurt my best friend to try to prove my worth to him and myself. How do I begin to deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_jq855", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which 'life lessons' do you use to judge the maturity level of others?", "post": "Not sure if the title is obvious enough so here's my example.\n\nLife lesson #241: Nearly everyone experiences a bad break up at some point in their life, hell some people even experience a dozen or more. In my experience you can pull yourself up, realise the other persons shitty behavior (and your own) is pretty normal in the grand scheme of things and move on with your life - or you can hold a grudge and use every available opportunity to publicly bad mouth your ex.\n\nIf I meet someone and they start whining about their ex, how bad they had it and how stupid they were to stay with him or her, I tend to judge the person telling the story rather than think anything else about the ex.\n\nSo tell me what life lessons do you use to gauge another's level of maturity? Does forgetting a question mark make them an idiot. Maybe cracking mum jokes makes them a 12 year old in your books?", "summary": "Don't whine to me about your ex or I'm going to think you're immature and hit on your mum instead."}
{"id": "t3_2kx0p0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not sure if she's been cheating on me this entire time.", "post": "So here's what's up. This girl (we'll call her Miranda), 17, and myself, 17, have been dating for over two and a half years. (3 in January)\n\n In the beginning of our relationship i had suspected Miranda of flirting, which i talked to her about and we both dismissed it as me being paranoid. The guy she was flirting with, who was previously her boyfriend, recently started talking to her again. Well, more like she has started to talk to.\n\n Anyways, with her I've always had confidence problems, no matter what it was that i accomplished. I felt i always needed to be more for Miranda, to be the best for her. \n\nAbout a week ago, i started talking to one of her friends (just a casual talk ) and she starts talking about how they both were going to movies and whatnot on a weekend that Miranda  had told me she was working. After noticing this lie, i notice more and more lies. \n\nTo be honest, i don't feel like i know who she really is. I've connected with her on a very very deep emotional level which scares me for two reasons. 1. She'll know how to hurt me if i break up with her. 2. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to find someone to connect with on that level again. \n\nI truly care for her, and i love her, or at least who I think she is. I've tried talking this through with her but it keeps getting brushed off. \n\nAny advice? Anything helps. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 years starts talking to old boyfriend, not sure if she's cheating."}
{"id": "t3_35xpp6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when i sliced my girlfriend", "post": "TIFU when I was at my girlfriends house. \n\nWe where having some fun in her room and their was a picture frame on the wall behind her. So that we didn't break it we took it down and moved it to her bed. \n\nWe then continued to play around and then I picked her up and fell backwards with the intention of having her lay on top of me on her bed. \n\nDumb arse me forgets that I had placed the picture frame in the bed only minutes before and so I land  right in the middle of it. At the same time I hear a scream. My girlfriend in an attempt to stop us stuck out her hand.\n\nThe sharp glass sliced through the tip of her finger. The finger wouldn't stop bleeding and we weren't sure how to explain things to her mother.", "summary": "Was having 'fun' with girlfriend. I Sit on photo frame. Girlfriend cuts hand trying to stop me. Blood everywhere"}
{"id": "t3_10aekn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I finally have the strength to leave an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship. Can I get some words of encouragement?", "post": "We're both 31. It's been 4 years. He is insanely jealous, controlling, and illogical when fighting. He wakes me up in the middle of the night because he went through my old high school notebooks and now thinks I'll cheat with my ex from when we were kids. That's just one example. I don't have any friends and no family support but now can finally afford an apartment on my own and just don't want to be yelled at anymore. I don't want to feel like shit anymore or be called names ever again. I can't go through life where every word I say is accused of being a lie. I wasn't allowed to leave the house without permission, even to o work and if I stayed late at work would get accused of cheating. Sometimes I think he would passively try to hurt me too, there were too many incidences of him \"accidentally\" droppings something on me or hitting/kicking me hard while supposedly sleeping. Please give encouragement and advice. I feel very excited for the future for the first time in a long time. Thanks!", "summary": "building up the strength to leave a psychopath, please give encouragement and advice."}
{"id": "t3_fw6nh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Paypal is holding my university tuition as they deem the money transfer from my mom \"suspicious\" and possibly \"money laundering\", is there anything I can do?", "post": "A bit of background. I'm an international student studying in Australia, but originally from Canada. My mom has been sending me money for my tuition via Western Union, which costs a small fortune (something like nearly $1000 to send $10,000.\n\nSo I told her to have my sister setup a paypal account for her, as sending that much from her bank account via paypal only costs $60.00. Now there was already a delay in that my sister didn't confirm the bank account, which took a week to do once she actually went to send the money. So I had to get an extension on my school fees, as this week ended up pushing me over the due date.\n\nSo today I received an email stating that the money has cleared (Hooray!), Followed by an email stating \"Your account has been limited due to Australian anti-money laundering laws\". I called Paypal and they advised me that if I scan and email in the required documentation, it will be 3 days before they even look at it. I told the customer service rep on the phone that my tuition is due on the 11th of March (that's when the extension goes to), and he said it's highly unlikely that it will be processed by then.\n\nSo it seems I may get kicked out of school and subsequently this country because Paypal is fucking with my tuition.\n\nNow I realize a money transfer from mother to son is obviously highly suspicious. But come on! Does anyone know of anyway to speed up this process?", "summary": "Paypal is witholding my tuition because they're assholes and as such I may get kicked out of school and Australia."}
{"id": "t3_hgm4w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help reddit... I had my wisdom teeth out Tuesday, dry sockets in all sockets developed Thursday, today some bastard gland on my neck is swollen like a tennis ball, everything I swallow feels like razor blades, and I'm going overseas in a week", "post": "Warning, this is a repost because I'm paranoid.  Also, I'm anatomy stupid.  I think this is a gland. Its on my neck in the area you would feel if you were checking your pulse on your carotid artery.  \n\nPlease if there are any dentists type do you know if the tonsil swelling is normal after developing dry sockets? i had the first medication applied Thursday, I'm going back Monday. On Thursday I had a fever so bad it was 89 degrees out and i was still shivering even though I had on full sleeves and pants, a coat, had a small heater blowing on me, and was under a blanket. My teeth were clattering so much it was hurting the sockets. Migraine was so bad I couldn't walk.  Since the medication my fever has reduced drastically but my throat now hurts so bad its difficult to describe. Even swallowing my own spit feels like razor blades in my throat. Gargling salt water helps a tad but even hydrocodone does not relieve this pain. I am leaving America in a week and I am scared\n\nThe reason this is freaking me out is because I can not remember having any gland or tonsil swelling ever in my life, even as a kid.  It's the weekend now so the dentist is gone till Monday :(\n\nI just need to know if this sort of thing is normal or if I should go to an ER or something?", "summary": "Wisdom teeth out tuesday, dry sockets developed, medication applied, uncontrollable crazy fever, now swollen glands.  Also my breath smells like ass "}
{"id": "t3_4i21jm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I [17/F] go for a guy [18/M] who went on a couple dead end dates with my friend's sister?", "post": "About a year ago, this guy asked my friend's sister to prom. He was interested in her, and she basically had no interest in him. She said yes, but only as friends. Even after this he clearly still had feelings for her. She didn't really have any interest in dating him, but she thought maybe she'd try going on a couple dates with him. She wasn't sure if she genuinely wasn't interested or she was just scared because she hadn't really had any relationship experience before.\n\nI know this guy because we have a class together and we sit together. He's somewhat shy, but sweet and funny. We've spent some time together, we co-led a group of kids at a volunteer event, and obviously I'm around him every day. I definitely have at least some feelings for him, and I can't really tell if he reciprocates, he's just generally a very quiet person.\n\nHim and my friend's sister went on a few dates, and as it turned out it was somewhat awkward and very very platonic. Neither of them attempted to make any move on the other, and things were generally very tense. Like, sitting down and having a pro-cons conversation about kissing eachother and then not kissing eachother tense. She plans on breaking whatever this is off with him the next time she sees him, but she doesn't even know if this will be necessary because they haven't even hung out in a month. Any interest that either of them had is dead.\n\nAs I said earlier, I kind of like this guy. Graduation is soon and we'll soon be going our separate ways, though we'll still be in the same area. Should I just give him my number, whether it turns out to be platonic or not? Or should I just steer clear?", "summary": "Have a bit of a crush on a guy who I see every day and won't be seeing soon, he went on a couple platonic dates with friend's sister, should I even bother giving him my number?"}
{"id": "t3_ppnjs", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Post breakup advice and dependency issues!", "post": "I am 30 years old (not the most mature 30 yr old i must say!) and the back story is that my relationship of 3.5 years came to an amicable end just this weekend but i'm struggling to find something good to focus on. We are still close and I care for and miss him greatly but our future plans just don't agree. I have a decent job and some confidence about my appearance but I am naturally quite shy and my social life where i live isn't great apart from a couple of people i try to see in my spare time. Most of my close friends don't live nearby and many of them have their own families now and I can't always see them as often as i would like. \n\nTo make things worse I have become increasingly and damagingly reliant on my closest friend (who i have developed strong feelings for over the past year). I work with him and while i know he cares a lot about me, he is struggling to deal with my emotions as I have a tendency to be over-sensitive/emotional and jealous if he meets other girls when he is out. I get paranoid if he can't spend time with me and I can see that I am becoming too dependant and my behaviour is obsessive. He tries to be supportive but i guess there's only so much self-pity and depressive moods a person can take because he eventually snaps at me which, surprise surprise, upsets me! \n\nI have joined a health club in the hope that exercise and possibly a bit of social contact will help things. I've also tried looking for some kind of hobbie/interest/club that takes my interest but i just don't see anything in my area that appeals to me. I guess what i would like to ask is, has anyone been through something similar and what did you do to help? Should i look into talking to a therapist about dealing with my emotions/obsessive behaviour etc? How can i salvage my friendship with my best friend?", "summary": "advice on moving forward after a breakup and stopping jealous/obsessive behaviour towards a close male friend"}
{"id": "t3_10m9xe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If I found an ex-meth head trying to restart his life and found evidence he was trying to get bath salts, what should I do?", "post": "Backstory:  Because of a very unlikely string of events someone I consider family left his email account signed into on my phone.  Of course mobile view is enabled and I found it difficult to log off.  While trying to do so I saw this email and my mind was blown.  He's going to college, trying to get his life back on track after some mistakes in high school.  I'm not directly related to him but he's considered part of my fiancee's family and thus I consider him an extension of my own family, and I stick up for family.\n\nI'm all for responsible drug use however bath salts and a lot of the other herbal products they discussed via email all have some kind of risk associated with them.  I keep thinking of him flipping out and killing one of the dogs, or ruining his college career, and me being the sole person who knew and could have done something, anything, to prevent this situation from spiralling out of control.\n\nTelling my mother-in-law is out.  He'd get kicked out and go back to the same shitty home situation as before.  My father-in-law would probably have a heart attack and it would be game over then.  For both of those reasons that idea is out.\n\nAlso, he hasn't actually ordered anything as far as I'm aware.  But those are very recent emails.  I'm just at a loss as to how to approach all of this, as I know he's a good kid and just trying to keep his nose clean and get that urge out of his system with a replacement.  I just can't help but feel that the entire string of events leading up to this moment was for this reason, so I knew and could do something about it.  The only question of course is what to do.", "summary": "Someone I consider family is considering using bath salts in the immediate future, and it could fuck up the new life he's tried to start.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_32oy3e", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(M/32) Women of Reddit: Did I marry the wrong person?", "post": "I married my wife because i got her pregnant and decided to do what i thought was the right thing.  \n\nBottom line:  My Vietnamese-American wife keeps a lot of things secret from me...stuff that would be pretty rational like her degree in computer engineering (I've never seen it in our 7 years of marriage), what her father does for income (the run a convince store in one of the poorest neighborhoods in a metro city, yet she claims he clears $10k a month solely on EBT), or even what she does all day (she claims she's on facebook all day...for the past 5 years).\n\nI'm in the military and we went to JRTC for a month.  During that month, we're able to call home every night to check in with family.  She never answered her phone for the entire time I was there, and I had to have our chaplin's wife check to make sure she was still alive.\n\nWhen I said I wanted to go to counseling for our marriage,  she said \"Yeah, I'd like you to do the laundry too sometimes\".  \n\nSex is always initiated by me...and it gives off the whole 'creepy non-consensual' vibe.  I've told her before that if she's ever in the mood to just pull me into the bedroom, I'll be good...but nothing.  Same thing for dressing in lingere...I bought two lacy negligees that are gathering a LOT of dust in our closet.  \n\nGiven the issues that I've addressed, did I make the wrong choice with my wife?  How can I convince her to be more transparent or make small changes?", "summary": "Wife keeps a LOT of secrets...did I make the wrong choice?"}
{"id": "t3_2s34og", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Buying a Car while Paying Off Student Loans (Question)", "post": "Hi, /r/personalinance. I could use your opinion on this. My car is on its last legs. It's a '99 Mazda with 190K miles on it. She's served me well, but it's about that time. I can just feel it. There's usually something big that goes wrong with it once a year, and I'm getting tired of getting it fixed. The car has been paid off in full for several years.\n\nI've just finished building up a 6 month emergency fund, pay each month's expenses with last month's income, and I've been paying off my student loans (which right now are at around 17K) while contributing employer match to my 401K. Ideally, I would like to pay for a car in full. I don't need a new car. Used is just fine by me. Something between $6K and $12K, I think, would be nice. \n\nI don't have a ton of excess money at the end of the month to save for the car, and I would usually dump all the excess into my highest interest loan anyway. So I guess my question is: What is the most efficient way to save/get a new (used) car when you are paying off student loans? I feel like the best thing to do would be spend a few months saving for a downpayment while paying the minimum on the loans (while still doing 401K match). Then once I have a downpayment, I buy a car with what would likely be a lower interest rate than my loans. Is that better than paying the min. on the loans for 6+ months in order to buy a car in full? I feel like it might be, since it spends the least amount of time paying the minimums. Am I missing something? Is there a better way? What should I do?\n\nThanks in advanced for any advice. This sub has been absolutely invaluable to me.", "summary": "What is the most efficient way to save for a cheaper mid-sized car while paying off student loans?"}
{"id": "t3_186xps", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[18/18 m/f] How do you make a smooth transition, in conversation? from online to offline?", "post": "I live in China, and go to an international high school. I met a girl recently (about a month now) and we talk all the time... online. in person I don't really have a problem talking to her but it can be really awkward. She can be kind of shy, and so can I. I know we both like each other; her friend told me she likes me and she knows I like her through the same friend. so it is not exactly openly talked about, and right now we are just friends. I think we are both have this uncomfortable boundary that we are afraid to break, and I have no idea how to do it, but online we talk for hours on end and lose complete track of time. We can't \"be ourselves\" around each other in person. How do I fix it.", "summary": "Met this girl hit it off, but we are both uncomfortable speaking to each other in person, but absolutely marvelous online. How do I get comfortable speaking to her in person?"}
{"id": "t3_4cmkhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend's[20 F] therapist [40's M] recommended that I [21 M] consume illegal drugs with gf", "post": "Hell, I'm not even sure what subreddit to put this under. I've never heard anything like this before.\n\nBasically, my gf (will call her Becca) have been together for almost 2 years. Never had any problem with intimacy over the course of our relationship. Recently, she began to attend some long needed but only recently affordable therapy. She's working with a psychiatrist and a therapist. \n\nAfter some time, the psychiatrist diagnosed her with BPD, some nasty stuff. From my understanding, there is no cure, only treatment that will help. Psychiatrist proceeded to put her on antidepressants. All cool, however, she quickly encountered a problem that the psychiatrist warned she might run into. It's become near impossible for her to actually orgasm. She can't even get it done from masturbation. \n\nGf took to the net to research and found that marijuana actually alleviates this side effect for the most part...and sure enough, it oddly enough works for her. She can orgasm now, but only while under the influence.\n\nSo now today, we're speaking to her therapist (not psychiatrist) and the issue was brought up. The therapist not only totally endorsed her use of illegal marijuana for a medical (although sexual) purpose, but proceeded to suggest that I also be under the influence any time sexual activity is taking place in order to ensure that we are \"on the same neurological spectrum during intimacy.\"\n\nI thought he was joking but he's apparently totally serious. I'm not sure what the hell to make of this, total shocker. So my question...\n\nIs this some sort of unprofessional anomaly? Are we dealing with a nut job? Is this valid advice? I can't decide whether this is something to embrace or something to report him to someone for. I can't believe I'm asking internet strangers a question like this after visiting a professional but this just sounds so bizarre.", "summary": "Girlfriend is using marijuana for \"medical\" purposes, her therapist has recommended I use marijuana with her to be on the \"same neurological spectrum during intimacy.\" Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3a1ozl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend is suffocating me.", "post": "My boyfriend (29 male) and I (23 female) have been living together for about two years now, dating for three.\nI work full time at night at a bar, and he recently went from working full time at an office job to staying home to start up his own company.\nThe problem is we live in a studio apartment and I can't seem to get away from him.\nI've suggested he go out to do work at a cafe, take a walk, or get a hobby outside of the house. He is a total homebody though and seems to have no problem staying inside all day.", "summary": "I want to relax at home but my boyfriend is constantly there."}
{"id": "t3_3thyy5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am feeling shit about myself, and though my dad want to help, he's really not", "post": "I always feel too fat. Ok, this may not be too unusual but it's starting to destroy my life; I can't focus on school work, nothing makes me happy, I can't focus on anything actually, and I keep crying for no reason. I try not to do it in front of people, but sometimes I can't stop it. \n\nIf my dad asks what is wrong, I usually can't help just saying it (I wish I could hide my feelings like some can), which ends up with my dad sort of arguing with me?\n\nI know he's trying to help, trying to appeal to the logical part of my brain, saying how I'm skinnier than my sister, my mom, my friends, that I have no reason to feel this way, that I am becoming too overwhelmed, etc. \n\nWhile I guess he's right, I feel like he's lying, and feel even worse after talking to him. I also still feel fat, so I guess there's something wrong with me.\n\nI wish he would act like I'm ok, but then I'd probably not eat for days at a time...", "summary": "I think I'm fat and my dad thinks that's bull; we disagree."}
{"id": "t3_3zbtc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] found out my brother [25 M] is having an affair with his best friend's girlfriend. [25 M and 25 F]", "post": "Some information:\nMe and my brother are sharing an appartment together. I finished school last year and started working, he quit his job 9 months ago and hasn't really looked for another job since. Despite that he has been able to pay half the rent with his savings until recently, so far I haven't pushed him to get a job. Generally spoken me and my brother go along really well.\n\nHe has known his best friend for about 13 years, the guy has also become a great friend of mine. 2 years ago his best friend got a new girlfriend and their relationship went fairly well until recently. I noticed that they weren't as attached to eachother but never really put much thought in it.\n\nWhat happened:\nMy brother went to a concert with my best friend's girlfriend a few days before New Year. Everyone knew about this and me and my brother's best friend couldn't go because of work.\n\nA few days later I thought I got a skype message on my phone and was quite shocked about what I thought I received from his best friend's girlfriend. The message included stuff about the secret relationship between my brother and her asking if I had a clue of their affair. I realised that was my brother's phone.\n\nRecently, my brother also said he was seeing a girl and that I shouldn't say anything about it to anyone to avoid questions (as it was more of a sexual relationship). He would leave the house early in the morning and arrive back late in the evening. \n\nThat didn't bother me because I always respected his privacy and was happy he found someone. After seeing that skype message I realised he is visiting his best friend's girlfriend while the guy is working. I feel really bad for the guy and lost a ton of respect for my brother and his bf's girlfriend.\n\nWhat do you guys think about this, should I not act upon it or should I talk with either my brother or his friend?", "summary": "brother is having an affair with his best friend's girlfriend while said friend is at work. He doesn't know I know about it and I'm asking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_1qwlg0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Time to finally regain control of my health - 11/18/13", "post": "Hello /r/loseit! My name is Chad, M/23 living in Pittsburgh, PA.\n\nI've finally decided to take a step in the right direction today and regain a part of my life that I have missed for a long time. When I was in high school, I was relatively athletic, but always a bigger guy. My SR year of H.S. was the best shape I have ever been in. While I was 6'5 ~285lbs, I was still running a sub 8 minute mile and I played football and basketball and had no issues.\n\nAfter going to college and going through a rough battle with my anxiety and depression (which I've conquered btw), I lost most of the muscle mass I had and everything turned to flab. I now begin my battle with my obesity  (currently 6'5 300lbs/136kg). \n\nI took the first step a month ago by quitting smoking entirely and now I'm ready to get serious about a better nutritional plan as well as an exercising routine. I will post a starting picture for reference once I'm not at work.", "summary": "I am ready to take a step in the right direction in getting healthy again."}
{"id": "t3_jld08", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Met on a dating website, he still maintains an active profile", "post": "I'm a woman in my late 20's, met a man, also late 20's, on a dating website 3 months ago. \n\nEverything is progressing nicely, we get along great, we hang out a lot, hang out with each other's friends, have met each other's parents, and are going on vacation this summer.  What's weird? He logs into his dating profile daily.  \n\nI discovered this a week ago when I logged in to change my status on my dating profile. He's logged in daily since I first noticed, and his profile still says \"single\".  We haven't talked about whether we consider ourselves \"single\" or \"committed,\" so that part doesn't bother me *too much* but we have told one another that we are not dating other people.  Why is he constantly checking that shit?", "summary": "I'm dating a guy I met on a dating website 3 months ago and he logs into his profile daily."}
{"id": "t3_36jaiv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU unleashing my dog at the beach", "post": "I did something stupid yesterday! Reddit will probably tear me apart for this but who cares it's funny. \n\nI got a dog about 9 months ago who has become my PIC. We're pretty much inseparable, he rarely leaves my side. He knows how swim due to teaching him in my pool and swimming in small ponds/lakes together and I usually just unleash him and he does great (we train obedience every other day so he listens amazingly well). I brought him to a dog friendly beach (St. George Island, FL) yesterday because I'm moving and wanted him to experience the ocean once! \n\nI'm super excited to play in the waves with him and there aren't that many people around so, fuck it, I unleash him and run with him to the water. \n\nHe gets hit by the first wave and FUCKING BOOKS IT down the shore. I stopped laughing and started running after him. \n\nUnfortunately the fact that he's the fastest dog I've ever seen combined with the fact that I run 5 miles every other day with him means that he can run.\n\nThe entire beach is cracking up laughing at me chase the dog and I'm dying because running in the sand sucks. \n\nFinally he turned around and stopped after about 2.5 miles and I caught up to him. Everyone stopped me to talk on the way back saying how funny it was to watch and that they couldn't believe how fast my dog runs. Longest walk back ever!!\n\nSo friendly reminder unleashing your dog is a stupid move (not to mention usually illegal).", "summary": "unleashed my dog at the ocean for the first time. Ended up in a 2.5mi high speed beachside sprint"}
{"id": "t3_46xgyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on ending a relationships", "post": "Hey all. I (24m) have recently been talking to a girl I met online about a month ago. We've met in person a few times and talk regularly via text. As the weeks went by and especially after this last time we met for dinner I've come to realize that through a combination of lack of time and interest on my part, I want to break it off.\n\nDo you have any advice on how to end this semi-relationship I've found myself in without either disappearing or coming off as a total asshole??\n\nThank you in advance and if I posted this in the wrong place I apologize.", "summary": "I want to end a relationship I've recently started."}
{"id": "t3_3ccz1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] want to lose some weight and get in shape, but my boyfriend [22F] is against it.", "post": "I'm not overweight, but I'm pretty much the picture of skinnyfat. I've recently started cutting down on my calorie intake (not much, just maintaining a ~300 cal deficit) and following an exercise program, looking to lose 10-15 lbs and build some muscle. I've started seeing results and I'm pretty happy. However, my boyfriend doesn't feel the same way.\n\n He noticed that I wasn't eating as much and asked me what was going on. I just told him that I wanted to lose a bit of weight and get healthier. He was really concerned and said it would be unhealthy for me to lose any weight. Now, I am 5'2 and 105 lbs, which might sound thin, but I also have 24% body fat and am extremely flabby. I could easily lose a small amount of weight without being unhealthy. However, my boyfriend said that he was worried I was developing an eating disorder.  I said I was still eating a normal amount and that it's not unhealthy for me. But he refuses to accept it.\n\nI'm wondering if he's insecure about his own attractiveness. He is a nerdy, kind of chubby guy, which is my type, but it's not what society considers ideal. I have heard about men not wanting their GF's to improve their appearance because they're afraid that they're trying to attract a hotter guy. But it could just be that he doesn't understand what I'm trying to do. Any advice on what could be going on? And how to discuss this with my boyfriend?", "summary": "I'm trying to lose a small amount of weight and start a healthier lifestyle. BF is very concerned and thinks this is unhealthy. How to get through to him?"}
{"id": "t3_3z3b5u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship without sex", "post": "I didnt really know where to post this. Im 19m and im dating a 20f. Shes a really fun person . Shes smart and really pretty, but for some reason she just doesnt turn me on . I love hanging out with her and just being together, making out is great with her, but when it comes to the bedroom theres just nothing there for me. Last time we were together she started crying because I didnt want to have sex with her and i didnt realize i might be hurting her feelings . Its not like i dont want to, she just doesn't turn me on like other girls have. Sex isnt a big deal for me, but shes so set on it everytime were together, and everytime i have to say im too tired from work or just not in the mood.", "summary": "girlfriend wants to sex, i dont. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4hd31j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Earning/Saving Money as a teen?", "post": "Hey, first of all I want to thank anyone who answers to this because it may not seem that serious or worth answering too but it is important to me. \n\n I am a 14 year old, Korean, and live in Hawaii (turning 15 in a month) and I am looking for a way to raise about 800 USD. This is to achieve my goal of building a PC. My parents will not let me get a job due to school being my job but they dont and wont give me an allowance. Anyone  have any tips or methods i can raise money? THANK YOU", "summary": "teen looking for way to make money, can't  have job"}
{"id": "t3_rcpn4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Bridesmaid Dress Shopping", "post": "so I have a history of crying quietly to myself while trying on dresses in changing rooms.... i'm sure you've all been there... you pick some clothes, go into the room and either you cannot even get the clothes up past your thighs... or you look in the mirror and are completely disgusted by what you see.. over the past two years I have fought hard to lose, so far just over forty pounds. Went from 205 to 164. (5\"7 female). \nSo last weekend I had to go bridesmaid dress shopping with my best friend and her two other bridesmaids.. i was terrified, they are all skinny petite women, comments were made like \"oh since you're the maid of honor you don't have to wear the same dress as us if it doesn't look good\". but you know what? Almost every dressed look awesome on me. it was the first time that I wasn't mortified about coming out of a changing room to show off how something looked on me. I'm starting for the first time ever, to kind of like my body... yes it's not love yet.. but hopefully in the future it will be<3\n\nSo I wanted to thank you guys for all your beautiful inspiration and courage!", "summary": "lost over 40lbs over past 2 yrs, starting to kind of like my body:)"}
{"id": "t3_om18l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would this help to end world poverty?", "post": "I noticed girls posting statuses on facebook of them claiming to go to a country for an allotted time. Upon further research, I found that the enigmatic statuses were to create awareness for breast cancer. \n\n I also discovered that similar status trends have happened in the past, such as naming their bra colour for breast cancer, and people changing their profile picture to their favourite cartoon to end child abuse.\n\nLooking at the numbers, it seems to have worked. Funding for breast cancer is in the millions every year, and I asked some people if they knew about child abuse and they told me that it was a reality. Clearly the statuses worked!\n\nNow reddit, I am asking you if we can use this technique to decimate poverty from Africa. I was thinking we should make our statuses in such a way that we mention our *favourite food* and say that we eat it on *whatever object is directly to our right*. \n\nIn my case, \"I eat sushi on my guitar\"\n\nIf we band together, we just might have enough statuses to cause an end to hunger!", "summary": "Your facebook status will save lives if = 'I eat **favourite food** on **object directly to your right**'"}
{"id": "t3_st0ft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop the relationship destroying insecurity?", "post": "I've destroyed a really amazing relationship in the past because I get so paranoid that they hate me and that I did something wrong. I don't get scared that he's cheating it's not that kind of insecurity it's the nitpicking over every second we're together and I might have done something wrong or there has to be something wrong with me insecurity.\n\nI've met someone new and I can feel that horrible anxiety coming back and I know it leads to horrible places. But I don't know how to make it stop. I'm worried about him thinking that there's something going on between my friend and I, I'm worried that he met my dad too soon (It was an accident not a plan meet the parents because we're meant to be together forever type thing. The guy stayed over and we slept too late then my dad showed up for lunch) Crazy obsessive shit. I haven't mentioned any of this to anyone not even to a friend to calm me down because I don't want it getting back to him that I'm crazy.\nAnyone know how to stop this?\n\n(details I'm 27 and he's 29, it's been going on about a month and it's been kina fast and crazy)", "summary": "I'm crazy insecure and tired of it destroying my relationships and I'm in a new one"}
{"id": "t3_qysvk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have severe rheumatoid arthritis and I just learned that I'm losing my insurance in a month. Any advice on what I can do is appreciated.", "post": "So here is the deal. I'm twenty-one and I've had polyarticular rheumatoid arthritis since I was ten. My insurance has never been fantastic - I've always had zero prescription coverage, but I got around this by taking IV medications which were considered procedures. \n\nI don't have a job, as my chronic illness has always kept me from being able to work at most jobs, so I work from home on my own business that isn't big enough yet to support affording my own health care. Until now, I've been living with my boyfriend and on my Mom's health insurance. Recently she found out that within the next month or two her position at the company will be eliminated.\n\nAt this point I really don't know what to do. I live in Oregon and it seems that I don't qualify for state health care because I'm not young/old enough and my RA has not yet progressed to the point where there is such permanent damage that I'm unable to walk - therefore I do not qualify for disability. \n\nI can't afford private insurance - living pretty much paycheck to paycheck. Medical cards have been suggested, but I don't have that kind of money up front to apply and see if it helps.\n\nWithout my medication - I'm bedridden. I literally cannot even lift a sheet off of myself, let alone shower, go to the bathroom without assistance, make myself food, run my business or anything else. \n\nAnyone have any suggestions for how to handle this or any resources I may not be aware of? I've been researching since I found out, but I'm not seeing a lot of options so far. \n\nThanks in advance for any insight you can provide.", "summary": "I tried to make it as short as possible while still giving the basic information about my situation. Please just read it. Karma and magical unicorns will reward you at some point in your future. Probably with cute cat pics."}
{"id": "t3_1wb42t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TMIFU by being a wage slave.", "post": "My first fuckup starts about two weeks ago when the polar vortex first extended it's icy grasp over southern Indiana. I am (possibly formerly) employed full-time as a delivery driver for ~~GIANT HORRIBLE PIZZA CORPORATION~~ and have been for over two years. So naturally making less than minimum wage and hearing that a -17 degree blizzard was on the way I called off work that day.\n\nMy caution earned me a week's suspension as my employer views those conditions as a completely reasonable place for people to work without hazard pay... for less than minimum wage... in their own vehicle.\n\nMy week suspension ended last week and Thursday rolls around: \"Hey Fido, good to see you! Take the new guy with you on your first delivery.\" I, of course, agree and proceed to load my first delivery of the day into my car, gather up the new guy and set off.\n\nMISTAKES THUS FAR:\n\n*Working for a corporate pizza place\n*Not having full insurance on my car\n*Failing to check the temperature conditions on Thursday\n*Attempting to train a new person instead of driving like the hunted paranoid animal delivering on ice turns you into\n*Formatting\n\nFive hundred yards from the store at a stop-sign (technically just before it) is where I found out that in -5 black ice can form in large patches... in broad daylight... at rush hour. I discovered this wonderful tidbit of information as my brakes, instead of stopping the car like they should have, merely added a miserable farting anti-lock soundtrack as I slid 20ft down the road into the back of an SUV. Effectively earning me a new TWO week period where I can't work and a $2200 repair bill.\n\nThis month I fucked up.", "summary": "Don't drop out of college."}
{"id": "t3_2iqklz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend's [22] conversations with another girl have me be a bit concerned..", "post": "My boyfriend told me [22] over the phone that a mutual female friend of ours told him \"he looks good.\" When he told me I felt weird because it came specifically from this female. In the past, my boyfriend has told me about conversations they've had when they were drunk. He told me they talked about how her boyfriend cums inside of her and then he asked her if she's taking birth control. It just felt like to me he's overly interested in her sex life and made me uncomfortable. Is this appropriate?\n\nI can't imagine having a conversation like this with another guy and asking him about his sex life with his girlfriend... I feel as though that's not appropriate and why would I care about another guy and his girlfriend's sex life. I feel as though he might have some kind of crush on her or is interested in her, but at the same time I know he loves me very much. So I'm a bit confused. \n\nAdditionally, I've been at parties with this female and she has been very touchy and flirty with another guy despite being in a relationship with someone. I guess I'm just a little worried about her making any advances towards my boyfriend.\n\nAm I overreacting? Are these kinds of conversations appropriate to have with another person when you're in a relationship? Should I be worried?", "summary": "mutual female friend of my boyfriend and I commented on how my boyfriend \"looks good\" and has had graphic conversations with him about her sex life with her boyfriend. Are these types of conversations appropriate to have when you're in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_45tr7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [30 F] of five years, unfulfilling sex life.", "post": "As it turns out, my wife and I have very different opinions of what a satisfactory sex life is.  This is a problem.  \n\nMy wife has been dealing with an anxiety disorder for years and we believe that is in pretty good control wih current medications.  We both have good careers, hobbies, good family, no crazy skeletons in our past.  We are both on our first marriage and neither of us have any kids.  My wife is smoking hot (to me anyway) and im not a bad looking guy either.\n\nIt seems that my wife is just has an exceptionallly low sex drive, where as I have a pretty high one.  In a perfect world, I would realistically want to have relations at least every day.  I know thats a bit more than *normal*.  However, my wife doesnt seem to really *want* it ever.  When we do have intimacy, she seems to enjoy it.  It is usually 2-6 week intervals between encounters.  I am 100% sure there is no infidelity at play.\n\nI cant handle it anymore.  Im losing my mind.  It sucks.  I really love my wife and will not/have not ever been unfaithful.  I just dont know what to do.  If i bring it up to her, she will eiher start crying about how she's \"not doing her wifely duties\" (fyi, telling your husband that having sex is a duty is really not what he wants to hear) or go half into a panic attack be ause she thinks i want to leave her.\n\nI know I cant go through the rest of my life like this, what am I supposed to do?", "summary": "My wife and I dont do it often enough.  I am unhappy as a result."}
{"id": "t3_33jvdo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help figuring out the signals she's sending me...Me: [19M] Her: 19[F]", "post": "We've been going back and forth for a few days now after she out-of-the-blue said she wanted to take my virginity. She acts very fond toward me in person at work, and kissed me a couple days ago.\n\nQuotation marks mark what she is saying.\n\n\"I wish we could just hang out :)\"\n\nI can't speak for russell but we can hang out whenever you want.\n\n\"No me and you:) lol\"\n\nI'll come any time you ask. :)\n\n\"Come over lol\"\n\nI'd need your address so I know how to get there.\n\n[insert a strange hour long break in communication after all those texts before were within minutes of each other]\n\n\"Lol you'd really come to\"\n\nIf you want.\n\n\"Your so sweet :)...\"\n\nWhat can I say...lol\n\n\"Lol would you leave me for Allison [weird girl we work with]\"\n\nLol no.\n\n\"I hope so lol\"\n\n\"I am alone lol just fyi\"\n\nThe thing I'm confused about is that she stalled for quite a long time after I responded to \"Come over lol\" and when she finally said something it was blowing off the \"come over\". Yet then several minutes later she says \"I am alone lol just fyi\" like that's suggestive or something.  Never bothers to give me an address like I asked even though she's said before she wants me to come over to her place some time.\n\nCan someone tell me what I'm supposed to be taking from this conversation because apparently I'm too socially inept to figure it out.", "summary": "Sounds like at first she doesn't want me over, then does want me over. What does this girl want?"}
{"id": "t3_2anzeq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/M]IAmA Business owner unsure how to approach my interior designer [25/F].", "post": "So just recently (in the last month), my business partner and I have decided to look into getting some interior design advice for our office. We  contacted an interior design company that I had a mutual connection to, and they came out to meet with us and go through what we were thinking of doing to spruce up the office.\n  \n\nAlong with the boss of the interior design company, was was one of her employees... let's call her Amy. Amy was immediately striking, both in physical appearance and personality. Confidence and happiness just radiates from her. I've been single for about 18 months now, and while I'm not actively looking to get back on the relationship bandwagon, if the right thing comes along, I would like to try and pursue it.\n  \n\nAmy and I have met up at the office on about 4 occasions now, and each time, I find myself growing more fond of her... and while our conversation has generally been quite playful, I keep reminding myself that it's a professional relationship... limiting myself from saying certain things and asking certain questions that would be considered too personal for a professional relationship... \n  \n\nHell, I don't even know if she's single. We have connected on LinkedIn and Facebook (she did the first, then I did the latter), and some minor FB stalking (as if you haven't done it!) doesn't seem to be providing me with any conclusive answers on her relationship status. The best I've got is that she MAY be in a relationship, or MAY have just come out of one in the last 6 months.\n\nSo I find myself in limbo... do I compromise our professional relationship by asking her out, or wait until we have finished working with her before asking her out when the awkwardness can be avoided completely? I've always been very particular about the girls I'm attracted to, so when one comes along that has a lot of potential, I find myself in these situations... treading on egg shells to ensure I do it right.... but I'm just stumped.\n  \n\nIrrelevant side note: I also live at the office, as it is zoned off by the city as a \"Commercial/Residential\" dwelling.", "summary": "I like my interior designer, but unsure how to approach her without potentially compromising our professional relationship."}
{"id": "t3_33h95d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (33/M) still cannot find a way out from the mental shadow of my ex (33/F).. need some serious help here", "post": "I kind of feel like an asshat putting this up, but I don't see myself getting better, not really, and that is a problem. It's been a good long time since we broke up, but here's the thing..\n\nWe have a daughter together, so that whole keeping away from your ex thing was never really going to happen. She cheated on me whilst I was watching our at that time 6 month old. Things went south very fast, and then my life imploded. I came out the other side personally better, but even after being with a number of people afterwards I can't let her go.\n\nWe messed around in the years between then and now, and I always felt like she was wanting me to.. I don't know.. make her choose me while she told me that she didn't want to. She always had a tendency to say the opposite of what she meant to see if I would just do it. I wanted her back, if not just to see my daughter all the time, but I never knew what she really wanted. Was she just toying with me because? Did she want me to make it so that I was there, any way I needed to? She's went on to have 2 more kids by 2 different people, and married this new one after 6-7 months. We were together for over 3 years. (She was married when we met) \n\nMost days, when my brain slows down, all I can see is what if's. Is it my fault that I'm not where I want right now? Or does she really hate me, not just hate me for not fighting my way back? She won't give me an answer, never has, doubtful she ever will. I was never open to this kind of relationship before so when I chose her, that was it for me. The only other person to get that engine going is long gone now too.. I don't want to keep feeling like I lost all these years to nothing and that I will not find anyone else I feel for.\n\nI didn't want to live like I do, and I don't know what to do about it. Anyone got Jennifer Lawrence's phone number?", "summary": "I'm all fucked up"}
{"id": "t3_2bzpbg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jumping onto my bed", "post": "I'm 16 years old and I live in germany. I own a tablet which I got for christmas (it's one of those relatively cheap china ones, offering great value for the price tho), usually it's resting on my bed. I had charged it up and turned it off. I was sitting on my pc, while my dog was chewing his bone and playing with my blanket. When I noticed (I was listening to music on headphones at the pc - I love listening at high volume levels), I told him to stop and he walked away. A few hours later, I wanted to watch some tv, so I grabbed my tv remote and saw my blanket and pillows stuffed together. So I leaped on my bed - feet first, to slide in nicely. Shortly after the impact I realized... where did my tablet go? I found it between the blanket and pillows - direct impact. It was dark and it was turned off, so I didn't see anything on the display. I assumed it was okay since I wasn't able to spot damage in the low light and it was in the blankets anyway. I set it aside and watched tv. The next day, I wanted to check on the news and read on reddit after getting up, so I grabbed my tablet. Holy f***, the whole thing was shattered. I had something like this on my phone once, so I thought it'd be okay to use it until I would get myself an upgrade some time - I'm not a huge tablet user and actually don't NEED one. I turned it on, and well, you can't see shit. It's all white, along with some black lines and strange flickering shit going on. Awesome, my parents are going to screw me.", "summary": "accidentally jumped on my tablet because my dog placed it under my blanket."}
{"id": "t3_3as8zy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27M] roommate [22F] has a boyfriend(?), and I just heard she slept with my other friend [25M]. What do I do?", "post": "Let's call her Annie.  Annie took over the lease after my old roommate moved to another city.  She seemed cool, clean, and polite.  She's really quiet so we never talk much other than hi and bye.  She pays the rent so I don't need much else.\n\nAnnie has her boyfriend(?) sleeping over quite often.  Let's call him Ben.  I'm not actually 100% sure Ben and Annie are dating, they could just be friends with benefits.  I never asked because I don't know either of them well, and it's none of my business, until now.\n\n****\n\nA couple weeks ago my friends and I were hanging out at a bar.  Annie also happened to be there (the bar is nearby my apartment), so we say hi and I introduced her to some of my friends.  I noticed my friend Charlie and her were chatting quite a bit.  Charlie later told me Annie is cute, and wants to know her more.  I told him, she has a boyfriend, leave it at that.\n\nFast forward to last Friday, my (other) friends and I were chatting and they noted that Charlie and Annie were hooking up.  I was flabbergasted.  Ben just slept over yesterday (Sunday).  I was confirming with my friends again and again if they're sure it's Annie, and they said yes, they saw Charlie and Annie at Charlie's apartment.\n\n****\n\nSo... I considered not minding anyone's business, but I figured I'll post here anyways for the hive mind's advice.\n\nI don't know the following, which makes it all tricky:\n\n* Are Annie and Ben dating / exclusive?\n* Does Charlie know Annie is still dating? (maybe he thought she broke up?)\n* Does Ben know anything?\n* Charlie's also my friend, not too close, but I want to make sure he's eyes open in this.", "summary": "Found out my roommate is boinking my friend.  I assume the guy sleeping over is her boyfriend, should I get involved?"}
{"id": "t3_2ovj8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How many people do you think will judge me [23m] for dating a [19f]?", "post": "Yes, it's the age-old age question, with a twist: a hint of insecurity to underscore the familiar flavours we've all come to expect from this sub.\n\nBut silliness aside, how much flak do you think I'm likely to get for this, whether to my face or behind my back? I've heard guys a year younger than me say 19 is too young, so I'm a bit worried about it.\n\nTo be clear, I see no earthly reason why maturity should be an issue. She's wrapped up three semesters of university with the most recent being spent living abroad, and I feel like I'm somewhat behind where I \"should be\" in the maturity game since I spent three years (from Grade 12 until the summer after my second year of university) being pretty much too depressed to leave my room.\n\nSo, should I ask her out?", "summary": "I'm sensitive about what people think of me and I worry that me [23m] dating a [19f] will creep people out. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_32bh3c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Talk me out of a car loan! Or better yet dont... (AUS)", "post": "Hi!\n\nI'll make this quick.\n\nIm 25 M\n\nCurrent Financials.\nI earn approx. 800/week\n\nRent: 270/wk\nFuel/Car other:40/wk\nBills (Elec, Gas, Wat, Ph, Net) : 90/wk\nThings I want: 50/wk\nThings I need: 50/wk\nSavings: 200/wk\nSpare: 105\n\nMy reasoning is I want a new car because my current one makes me... constantly suspicious and worried about the next problem that may arrise. So I get a loan for 25k with a fixed interest rate around 15% over 7 years gives me repayments of 111 bucks a week...\n\nI can see that I have fat on my budget I can trim, the updated version would be something like this...\n\nIncome 800/wk\n\nRent: 270/wk\nFuel/ Car Other : 40/wk\nBills: 85/wk\nCar Loan: 120/wk\nSavings: 150/wk\nThings I need: 50/wk\nSpare: 85\n\nThese numbers look okay to me, yet I am still not confident. So I have come to you in search of your opinion on this situation and car loans in general\n\nNOTE: by the by the car I want is a Toyota Hilux Extra Cab as new as I can afford, Id add a link if i knew how", "summary": "Do these numbers look good enough to handle a 25k loan, or is just a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3ehuvm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (M/29) decided to be friends with my ex (F/27) upon her request, and I have been very mature about it but she hasn't, I really need help!", "post": "I don't want to write a long essay so I will try to be as brief as I can, basically me and this girl we were best friends for years then we had a fallout in 2013 and we didn't talk for a year, in 2014 she contacted me telling me she had a dream of me and we end up talking and catching up before I knew it we were talking about us being more than friends and she told me she had feelings for me and I had feelings for her so we decided to give it a go, it didn't last long we had a silly fight and she broke things off with me and went back to her ex, I was hurt naturally because the fight was a silly misunderstanding nothing more but I decided to let her go since she was very unstable and I was going through some family feud, a year later she is back around and wanted to be friends with me again I decided that I will be friends with her again and I will never mention the past so I won't make her uncomfortable because I know she feels guilty about it, I decided if I am going to be friends with her I will do it for real and not hold any grudges and turn a blank page, the problem is she keep mentioning it, like how stupid she was for ruining what we almost had and how she always destroys everything that makes her happy, I don't know what to do about it really, I am sure if I tell her to stop talking about it she will get offended and I am afraid that she is mentioning this as some sort of a hint maybe to make me tell her I want her back? I am honestly confused and I don't want to destroy our friendship at this point, can anyone give me an advice?", "summary": "Friends turned More than friends, she broke it off a year later wanted us to be friends and keeps mentioning the past and blaming herself."}
{"id": "t3_20xxjb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Mechanical negligence cause car to accelerate and brakes to lock up (not braking)", "post": "I took my car to a local repair shop (EZA) about three weeks ago.\nJob was timing belt, gaskets and seals, control arm bushings and install fender liner.\n\nweek later\ncar was whistling, took it to certified honda dealership - added powersteering pump fluid. whistling was the powersteering pump being empty from bad seals , fender liner wasn't installed correctly and is now too damaged to be replaced.\n\ncut to a week later I get a call from my gf. screaming.\ncar wouldn't stop accelerating, tried brakes, brakes were locked, nuetral didnt work either. eventually she figured turn the car off.\nshe went up to an uncontrolled 90 with no brakes in traffic on the highway.\n\ntake car back to certified honda dealer - \na/c bracket holding the a/c and power steering lines was not secure and got caught in throttlebody linkage causing the throttle to be stuck fully open (acceralte non-stop). and when the throttle is wide open on a car the vaccum hoses lose pressure meaning no more power brakes\n\nwent to EZA today (didnt have the technical stuff I have here) to say wtf. they basically gave me prove it or fuck off, no way that happened. bring it back prove it then we will talk.\n\nI am really frustrated and just want someone to weigh in on this.\nI feel like I took the car to the lowest bidder and they almost killed my girlfriend. they said to bring the car back they will fix what ever needs fixing. But I dont want these guys near my car\n\nsorry for the grammar I wanted to put this up in a hurry", "summary": "took car to budget shop for major service, shotty job verified by honda dealer. car accelerates, brakes lock while gf driving. shop says yeah right but bring it in we'll look at it......I just want my money back"}
{"id": "t3_14v6rg", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Is it bad that I get so worked up looking at coworkers/coeds/colleagues' work that I actively avoid exposing myself to it?", "post": "I've never been able to quite identify why, but I've always hated being shown other students/coworkers/colleagues' work or accomplishments. As a web designer/developer, this sort of comparing/contrasting/exchanging of others' work and ideas seems to be a core concept in my field, but I've just never really enjoyed it. My friends and colleagues are constantly seeking out awesome new examples of stuff that others have posted on various 'creative'-centered sites, saying things like, \"Look how talented this guy is!\" \"Isn't their work awesome?\", but meanwhile my gut response is always to look for flaws in what I'm shown, to bring them down to earth rather than hoist them further up on a pedestal with more praise. I just don't see the point in looking at something that's much better than what I've done, since it just reminds me of how far below them I am and how much farther I have to go to catch up.\n\nI honestly wouldn't think much of it, except that I wonder if this attitude of mine may end up isolating me creatively and cause my own work to stagnate and suffer. Is this a valid concern? If so, how can I adjust my attitude towards others' work so it's not something I actively avoid?", "summary": "I wanna be the very best, like no one ever was... and if someone already did, I want them to die in a fire"}
{"id": "t3_4n6lw3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kayaking with 0 experience", "post": "I had some friends who were experienced kayakers who invited me on a trip with them. We live at Lake Berryessa in Napa ca. We had traveled down to Putah Creek and started at the bottom of a ~300 foot dam drain into the creek. This was our first mistake. I had 0 experience. I literally had gone in the water 10 minutes before and learned how to turn. So here we are thinking I am ready and we set off around the first bend. Easy enough, I had a slow current going. I can handle this I thought to myself. Then things changed, and quickly. The slow current became wild and I quickly found myself in much deeper shit than imagined, I panicked trying to avoid some trees and got turned around. Now I am going down rapids backwards with zero experience. I hit a tree that is 75% submerged so basically I hit the tippy top of a full grown underwater tree and instantly got tangled in the branches. my kayak began getting pushed under water deeper into the branches while simultaneously it began to flip upside down, so now my heads getting pushed under water and the current is pushing me to the center of the tree. Nearly drowned within 10 minutes of my first kayaking experience, I ended up hulk gripping all branches near me and climbed the tree to safety. After that I now have a semi serious fear of rapid waters.", "summary": "Kayaked backwards down rapids with no experience, hit a tree, got stuck, and eventually climbed to safety. Still kind of scared of water after that day."}
{"id": "t3_2pepdx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [25f] going to concert with a male [31m] friend I [24m] have never heard of ..", "post": "So, we're chilling and out of nowhere she gets a text from a friend of hers I don't recognize. No biggie because I don't know many of her friends, and she knows very little of my friends. \n\nShe exclaims 'oh shit, Sting is going to be in town'. I asked her if she's going and she said 'yeah, I went to a Sting concert a long time ago and my friend just asked me if I'm down to go again'. An hour later, she told me she just got her Sting ticket.\n\nWhat makes me uneasy is that she admitted (through trickle-truth) that she cheated on her ex boyfriend once, and that this friend she is going to the concert to is from the time when she used to be very promiscuous. \n\nHonestly, I don't think she has cheated on me, and I don't think she plans on cheating on me with him. Nonetheless, I am feeling uneasy. Am I right in being uncomfortable with her chilling with a guy alone? Or am I being totally unreasonable?", "summary": "guy that went to a Sting concert with my gf before I met her texts her asking to go to sting concert again. Gf agrees to go to a concert with him"}
{"id": "t3_4dsyf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and GF [21 F] of 6 months having to mutually break up due to her moving away during summer. Need general advice counting down to D-day!", "post": "Seeing this girl for about 6 months now. We genuinely get on great and would definitely be in it for the long run had it not been for her going away for 4months. It is an opportunity she couldn't turn up and I would have done the exact same.\n\nWe know we are breaking up and accept the fact. We both know that I will be with other girls and she will be with other guys during the duration she will be gone.\n\nWe will be breaking up reluctantly and mutually.\n\nI feel this is worse than a messy break up. If its messy, you can fight, hate each other and forget about it. In this case we are both reluctant, will be keeping in contact and will both be lingering on for the 4 months knowing that both of us are with other people.", "summary": "Mutually breaking up as she is moving away for 4 months. Long term relationship is out of the question. Need general advice on counting down to the day she goes away and handling the 4 months."}
{"id": "t3_23r5qv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [28/M] broke off my engagement three months ago and tried to contact my ex [28/f] and she hasn't responded.", "post": "Using a throwaway and it's a long one, so \n\nEnd of January, I broke things off with my long-time gf/fianc\u00e9 of nine months in a string of bad decisions on my part. We talked it over a few days later and decided to take a break. A few days later, I demanded we work things out and she refused, so I went into full-on panic mode and tried to OD on sleeping pills. \n\nMom took me to the ER for an evaluation and out of the blue, she showed up at the hospital. She spent the next few days with me and I was sent to the county mental health facility for 72 hours. Before I was released, we had a phone conversation in which she said she loved me, cared about me and wouldn't disappear because me getting help was crucial. \n\nFast forward to now, we have not spoken since that phone call. I mustered up the courage to ask her to meet for coffee and she has not responded. I need to know if she was just blowing smoke up my ass and has no intention of seeing things through. My paranoia has led me to believe she is already seeing someone else and a recent Facebook photo update seems to imply she is \"single and ready to mingle\". Should I expect anything from her at this point? Is it done? I am clueless.", "summary": "I broke up with my fianc\u00e9 and tried to reach out after a few months and she hasn't responded. Is it really over? "}
{"id": "t3_3dfyh4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (27F) am struggling with moving on from him (31M)", "post": "... But he's having zero issues. We've been in a relationship for almost 4 years. It really wasn't an easy period of time -- pretty much a  roller coaster that got crazier towards the end. To me, the relationship was meaningful. We were in love and both tried really hard and gave it a lot of time to work things out. Needless to say, at least for me, there was definite significant attachment and genuine care for him. Many conversations were had about marriage, children, and the future. We planned at least the next 2-3 years of work/life around each other despite the fact that we had major communication issues that were never resolved. I didn't want to waste his time because I didn't see us together forever, even though I loved him more than I've ever loved. \n\nI broke up with him one week ago and he stopped communication immediately. That part, I could understand as it's not a good idea to talk to each other so soon. What really hurt was that I found out he began online dating just a few days after (or maybe before? I don't know) things ended between us. I could not fathom how he could actively seek another woman/sex so soon, especially since I don't see myself pursuing another relationship for a long time. \nWhat was really a slap in the face was seeing a photo he posted which I took, wearing a shirt that I picked. He's looking for a girl who is interested in the exact list of activities that we enjoyed together. \nI always thought our relationship was special, even though it didn't work out. Finding out that he was so ready to move on makes me question what our relationship was to him. \nI've been mourning our break up every single day and hoping we could at least be friends. Obviously that's out the window. \n\nI try really hard to stay occupied but the thoughts pop into my head throughout the day. That I've been led on to believe this was a great love in my life that didn't work out, when really I was some girl who was easily replaced, whom he had no emotional regard for. I do want him to find  someone (or just get laid), just not this soon. Every part of me hurts.", "summary": "broke up with boyfriend one week prior, he's already trying to date. Questioning the past 4 years, what it really meant, and how can I move on from this."}
{"id": "t3_3pllpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24] girlfriend [20] is self destructing", "post": "My girlfriend is self destructing. We are both bipolar, me one, her two. We have been dating for about a year and things have been smooth as far as bipolar couples go. A little about her, in the entire time I've known her she has never missed a day at either of her jobs. She never turned down an additional shift, we always took care of herself and our needs. The last week her babies daddy who hasn't spoke to her in three years (they communicate via the grand mother of the child) started threatening her about their child and she has been self destructing ever since. She hasn't taken care of her personal needs or our needs, and more importantly our financial needs. I recently landed a great sales job and we are looking to move to Oakland but she has been calling in to work and drinking heavily which isn't like her\n\n. A few hours ago she called me and told me she was walking home drunk and I have no idea why, before she could say where she was her phone died and I'm worried. I don't know what's going on and living in a fairly tweaker infested area in worried... What do I do?  I'm in a bad place right now and I need advice.", "summary": "My bipolar girlfriend might be in trouble. I don't know what I can do"}
{"id": "t3_39iwkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [29M] of 6 months insists on keeping me [25F] a secret from people in his life", "post": "A bit of background, he's 29 years old, lives with his grandparents, works as a substitute teacher (limited income). I'm 25 years old, live on my own, have a job in the health care field and am going back to school for nursing starting this fall. Did I mention that I'm legally married? I've filed for divorce. Should be done by September since both parties agree to the terms.\n\nI'm looking for perspective. I feel I'm being the irrational one here. But here's the conflict.\n\nWe've been together for 6 months now. I love him, he loves me. We have an amazing sex life. Things are going really well... But no one in his life knows about me. It's starting to bring me down.\n\nHe says it's because he doesn't have a job, and lives at home still, and has had bad relationship drama in the past. He says that my being married does not help. He's afraid his parents will try and drive us apart because he thinks they feel he is not ready for a relationship.\n\nIn contrast, nearly everyone in my life knows about him and they approve of him. \n\nToday I cried about it in his arms. \n\nAgain, I suspect that I'm being unreasonable and that his reasons are legit, I understand the whole married part, but at the same time, I (and my friends) think his fears are irrational and that no one needs to know that I'm married. But, again, I feel I'm the one being unreasonable and I'm trying to be more understanding. \n\nI would like some perspective that can possibly help me understand his side better.", "summary": "I'm his secret girlfriend and don't like being a secret, but feel I'm being the unreasonable one."}
{"id": "t3_2i4orp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have just realised that I have my own trust/possessiveness issues. Need advice.", "post": "I had one of those moments of spontaneous realizations about myself and I don't like what I feel to be the truth..\n\nI just got out of a 3 year relationship in January/February time and it was all due to trust issues (caught her planning to cheat), and that all ended and life slowly got better as it should have. But since then I've developed noteworthy feelings for 2/3 other people, and it dawned on me how possessive and attached I got and how fast I did it. It's scary to think about even now, I don't like the idea that I obsess so much over someone who I barely even know.\n\nCurrently I have feelings for a girl [20/F] I recently started talking to, small little crush and then we went a night out with some mutual friends and my God, she was just.. asdfghjkl. I couldn't stop looking at her and smiling and all that bubbly stuff. But my self realization has shown me how clingy and obsessive I've been since we started talking. It's horrible to think I'm being this way and even though I'm aware of it I can't seem to stop thinking like this. I keep feeling like I want to talk to her 24/7, and I get a little down when she doesn't reply the way I want her too (this feels pathetic to me to be really honest).\n\nCan someone please give me advice on this? What should I do to not jeopardize my mental health or possible future relationships.", "summary": "Realized some personal issues, scared that I'll ruin myself and other with them."}
{"id": "t3_1pu4p9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I face my ultra conservative fundamentalist parents after this? (xpost /r/Advice)", "post": "I'm a 20 year old college grad with a full-time job living at home with my parents while considering career options away from home. My girlfriend of nearly 2 years lives about a 6-hour drive away. This weekend, I took a bus to her campus for a visit.\n\nBefore leaving, I packed my clothes and left my bag at home while I went to work. My mother drove me to the bus station to see me off afterwards. When I arrived to meet my girlfriend, I opened my bag to find a note taped to the side of a box of condoms. \n\nMy mom had left me a note explaining how upset she was. I don't have the paper with me, but I'll paraphrase:\n\n\"Surprise!! Yes, I guess we're both a little surprised now.\nI cannot believe you're making these kinds of choices. I am heartbroken.\nI had so hoped you could offer yourself to your future wife as a virgin.\nPremarital sex is sin and an abomination to the Lord.\nBy the way, I found these while I was packing snacks for your trip.\nHope you have a nice visit.\"\n\nBoth of my parents are incredibly conservative and radical fundamentalist Christians. My father is a deacon of their international church.\n\nAlongside my girlfriend, I wrote an email to my mother yesterday.\n\n[My email](\n[Her response](\n\nI'm not sure what to do or where to go from here. I'm arriving at the bus station nearest home in a couple of hours. Then it'll be an hour and a half ride home with mom (assuming she hasn't brought along dad?). I'm scared sick and the stress is eating away at me. Thanks in advance for advice.", "summary": "Fundamentalist mother found out her baby boy is having sex, has dealt with it passive aggressively. Going home from a trip to see girlfriend as I write this post, not sure how to deal with the situation when I get home."}
{"id": "t3_2umx6z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Crazy ex girlfriend[22/F] tricked boyfriend[22/M] into cheating on me[22/F]", "post": "I am in a long distance relationship with a guy since the past few months. We spent a few months together at a place where we met for work related reasons, and I fell head over heels in love with him and so we decided to give long distance a shot. Before me,he was in a relationship with this girl for around a year or so. She started acting crazy while they were in a relationship,but he did not know how to break up with her without her creating a huge scene. After he met me,he finally found courage to break things off with her. She made him meet her at a bar,and she made him all drunk by being her usual self. And then forcibly went to his house. There she started emotionally blackmailing him and madeout with him. He lives with two other guys,who weren't home that day. If he doesn't answer her calls,she just goes to his place unannounced. Or eats some pills or something. She has threatened him a lot of times saying that she'll kill herself and leave a note with his name blaming everything on him. She even threatened on ruining my life. I don't know what to do. I love the guy a lot, and I am ready to forgive him for cheating on me,because I know he loves me a lot. But what am I supposed to do if she makes him meet her again. She is obviously very good at playing with him. I am very scared for him.", "summary": "Crazy ex girlfriend is torturing my boyfriend and tricked him into sleeping with her."}
{"id": "t3_1zc8yj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25 M] deal with my trust issues and not let them get in the way of my relationships?", "post": "My mother has bipolar disorder and intense paranoia, and while neither I nor my siblings are bipolar we have picked up a certain amount of anxiety and issues trusting others. \n\nI am currently in a relationship (25 F, 5 months) and while it is going wonderfully I am from time to time plagued by the idea that my SO is not being sincere. Most of the time it is absolutely fine - we say that we love each other, I mean it and so does she. Occasionally though, especially when I am feeling anxious or stressed, I convince myself that she is being insincere, that she doesn't have the same depth of feeling for me that I do for her, that she's having doubts and not telling me about them. When I'm in a positive frame of mind and can view things in what I hope is a mostly objective manner, I know that she is being genuine and that we really do have a connection that could be something significant in both of our lives. I'm terrified however that my moments of weakness where I let my anxiety get the better of me will end up damaging our relationship in the long-term. \n\nDoes anyone else have experience with this? What are some methods I can try to control these feelings?", "summary": "How can I deal with trust issues and not let them ruin a great relationship, when 90% of the time I know that everything is fine?"}
{"id": "t3_s5uhk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Basset Hound Help!", "post": "Not sure if this is the right subreddit, but here goes! My neighbors have one of [these] A basset hound, which they have declared is an outside dog. I live in a residential (read 'packed') neighborhood. The poor dog has contact with his owners. He see's them only when he is fed twice a day. They have two kids that are never in the backyard playing with him, and the poor dog cry's all day long. When he isn't crying he is barking. \n\nMy concern is foremost for the dog. However I also have a professional career (bartender) where I work nights. The fact that I am not getting sleep from his loud bark sucks pretty bad for me. What sucks the most is this dog is being neglected. Now I have no intention of calling the police (who have been notified), or continuing talks with the neighbors (who do know my situation) anymore. Nothing has been resolved yet.\n\nSo redditors of /dogs, I come to you for advice. I know I would not want to spend the rest of my days in solitary confinement. I also don't want to mingle my business with the neighbors. Is there any number I can call that somebody on the other end will be willing to help this poor animal. Am I stuck having to listen to him cry every night? Any help, advice, or w/e would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!", "summary": "Basset hound neglected. Neighborhood not sleeping. Halp!"}
{"id": "t3_2ou2w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 f] never had a boyfriend", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nThe closet I've actually gotten to having a boyfriend is hooking up with someone last year during my sophomore year. All of my friends around me have boyfriends, and I haven't even gotten close with one guy yet. I've liked a lot of guys, the last guy I liked wrote his phone number on a baseball, and gave it to me; but he never text-ed me back. I liked him for about a year after that until he transferred to a different school. Ever since then, I've been trying to fill that void with numerous guys (one of the guys that I liked, I thought he liked me.. until he started getting with my friend). It's always been like this for me ever since high school. My best friend is already married (for about a year), my other best friend is going to get married. And I know plenty of girls that I know who are married and having children (I take that as a blessing, at least for me). But then again, I realize that I tend to aim too high for guys, Im attracted to athletes, but none of them seem to like me back because Im too ugly, and too awkward for them .", "summary": "never had a boyfriends, friends have boyfriends, likes athlethes, but it too unattractive for their tastes. questions why she doesnt have a boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_nfj0r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I forgot to remove anal beads from the bathroom sink when I let my coworker use my bathroom. What's the most awkward thing that happened to you while hanging out with a coworker?", "post": "Last night, my coworker gave me a ride home from the company Christmas party because my car's messed. Anyway, we were talking in the car about music and then the conversation turned to weed... so I invited him in to smoke a bowl. I'd completely forgotten that my boyfriend had washed our anal beads and left them out on the sink.\n\nAnyway, before my coworker left, he used the bathroom and there is no way he would not have seen them! I am on vacation time until next week, and I am terrified to see him at work next week.", "summary": "Coworker saw anal beads that my boyfriend left out."}
{"id": "t3_3nh5de", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help finding proper investment balance", "post": "I'm looking for some advice/opinions on how to balance my mutual funds, with particular regard to the Morningstar style box (cap size vs investment strategy). I'm 27 with about 150k in investments, high risk tolerance so I want to stay all equity. I have 4 different investment accounts where I own mutual funds (401k, Roth IRA, HSA, personal brokerage). After running some numbers, I realized that my current asset mix of mutual funds is:\n\n* 49% Large Growth\n* 26% Large Blend\n* 14% Mid Growth\n* 6% Small Blend\n* 4% Large Value\n\nObservations: I have almost no international exposure. I have 80% of my money in large cap funds with only 14% in mid-cap and 6% in small-cap. Viewed differently, I have 64% of my money in growth funds, 26% in blended funds, and a mere 4% in value funds. \n\n**First question**, what is the proper asset mix with regard to the Morningstar style box? I understand this varies based on preferences, but I think my current allocations are probably not ideal and I've had a lot of trouble even finding guidelines for this. Would this be a reasonable target mix?\n\n* 20% Large Growth\n* 10% Large Blend\n* 15% Large Value\n* 20% Mid Growth\n* 10% Mid Value\n* 20% Small Blend\n* 5% International (probably large blend)\n\n**Second question**, I'd love some tips on how to best attain the target asset mix when your money is scattered across different accounts, each offering different sets of funds? With so many different funds offered at varying expense ratios, it's hard to figure out how I would efficiently get a diversified mix within the constraint of tax efficiency and focusing on low expense ratios.", "summary": "What's a proper diversified mutual fund investment mix, and how do you attain when managing several accounts?"}
{"id": "t3_2fjeiu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [29/m] and have always been a fan of Sending Flowers. But my new GF [30/f] says she doesn't like flowers or chocolate.", "post": "Any advice on how I can still fullfil my want to surprise her at work or do something nice to show how much I care about her in a similar manner?  What I would like to do is send her flowers / chocolates or something to her work as a surprise.  I've always liked doing that with past relationships.  I enjoy it, and I enjoy how they react when it arrives and they don't expect it.  But this one is different.  And wouldn't like it.  I've never had this issue with women before.  Not saying they are all the same, but I've never had a GF that didn't like flowers or chocolate.  She's very independant / tomboyish, she likes pink, but that's about the extent of her girliness.  I'm really just at a loss of ideas.  I know this is a pretty small issue compared to a lot of other ones on here.", "summary": "Tomboyish GF doesn't like flowers or chocolate.  I want to do something along those lines as a surprise.  Any Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_3lvum8", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cats Don't Get Along - - - Help!", "post": "I'm not sure if this is where I should post this but we need help. \n\nMy boyfriend and I moved in together about a year ago. I brought my 5 year old female cat Maija into his household of 2 male cats under a year old. Maija will growl at the boys whenever she can see them. These confrontations are all non-violent. Maija will often swipe at the boys if they get too near, but most of the issue comes from constant growling and hissing when they're in the same room together. This is an ever building tension between my boyfriend and I. \n\nMaija has a few issues. She has a fused vertebrae as well as a possible muscle disease (we still aren't sure). She has very limited mobility. She's unable to clean herself, run, or even go up or down stairs. She doesn't have much movement within her neck either. She's a lovely cat on her own and will often come over to give \"hugs\" (butting her head against your leg for attention). Around me she will always be purring, but will often growl at my boyfriend if he tries to pet her like I do.\n\nThe boys are brothers and get along like peanut butter and jelly. They're always together getting into some form of mischief. \n\nI love all 3 cats to bits and would love it if they could live in harmony together. Maybe not sharing the same bed, but at least being able to stay in the same room without a confrontation. \n\nDo you guys have any ideas?", "summary": "my cats don't get along. The 5yr old impaired cat doesn't like the younger ones. Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_4ga1tv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] want to move out with my[30M] of 5 years, should I wait until I am married?", "post": "BF and I both live with our parents. I'm working for $10 an hour, and he's on his last year of college. I'm wanting to move out and live in my own place, with a man, maybe have 2 kids and a dog and have a normal life. I'm hoping to get an apartment or a townhouse that fits my budget.\n\nParents tell me that I should wait until I get married to move out, and I really fail to see why I should. Especially when divorces can get really expensive and messy, and none of us have money to get married yet anyway. I'm getting old, and I should have already been out of the house years ago.", "summary": "Am I supposed to wait until marriage to move out? Why or why not?"}
{"id": "t3_2a16cb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update to: I checked his phone found out he was texting a girl and he started shutting me out hanging up saying \"I don't know\". The girl wasn't interested in him and he blamed me!", "post": "This is the prev: \n\nSo I found out by looking through his phone they were texting. Apparently not for very long maybe a wk or so. I contacted my friend who knows the girl and asked him if he could pry for me (not for anything but closure for myself, just to put the pieces together in my head and make sense of it all) did he sleep with her was he trying to date her etc. My friend came back and told me she's not interested in him at all, and that he kept texting her and she felt bad to just not respond so she would but kept it minimal. \n\nApparent something changed because he started being really sorry to me. Said he was being stupid and etc etc. \n\nNext few days things seem good like he loves me. He was hugging and being protective over me. He felt really bad. \n\nWhat happened next is beyond belief, one of his friends who is a girl and she somehow is linked to that other girl told him that I \"warned\" the girl he was with me and to back off. \n\nWhich I didn't, but he yelled at me abused me over it called me a liar it was crazy. I have no idea what the fuck to think at this point. \n\nI  beyond shattered I feel alone and have no idea what to do.", "summary": "i need some help in any way?"}
{"id": "t3_1ad4nn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else intentionally ignore advertisements?", "post": "So, I've been noticing over the last few years that I make an intentional effort not to even look at certain in-your-face adverts, and advertisements that seem to pander to my age group to an insulting amount.  Sort of as a (probably pointless) middle finger to large corporations that try and pander to my age group (young twenties male).\n\nFor example, I mute and change tabs on YouTube whenever a commercial comes along that doesn't give me the option to skip in five seconds.  When I see commercials trying desperately hard to appeal to my tastes [(by shoving what I like down my throat)] it offends me way more than it perks my interest.\n\nI even make intentional efforts to not look (or at least not click) adverts from sites like adf.ly.  I don't mind being presented with something that might actually be useful to me (with facts not flair).  But all the gimmicks really irk me and make me regret giving them my money (for products I would have bought already, even).  I feel like I'm only funding their efforts to exploit me and other's like me.", "summary": "[I feel like advertisers think I'm completely stupid and I refuse to reward them.] (Coke is a diuretic)."}
{"id": "t3_2urzvd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to court", "post": "This happened when I was a wee lad but remembered it from a recent askreddit post. Figured I'd share here. \n\nI tagged along with my dad to court, so he could fight some sort of ticket he had gotten. Anywho I was about 7 years old at the time and had to take a massive dump, but being the curious 7 year old that I was, I didn't want to leave so I could witness how exactly this court stuff worked. Well me and my dad were on the second to last row in the courtroom waiting for my dads trial or whatever, the last row is where all the cops sit, and beside me is another guy waiting for his court sentence. Now this guy beside me had obviously been waiting for awhile as he was completely passed out. About half an hour passes waiting for my dad to plead his case, when all of a sudden my gut starts to fill up with the gas of a thousand demons. 7 year old me doesn't think twice and I release it in all it's glory. \nThe long wooden benches we were sitting on reverberated the fart 10 fold. It was so loud it stopped the court from proceeding and in the midst of all the laughter and chaos, 2 cops sitting behind me grab the guy who was passed out beside me, and toss him out of court. They had apparently thought he was the one who farted lol. \nMy dad knew it was me but told me to be proud as he said it made the judge laugh whom was apparently a hard ass. That ladies and gents is my fart story.", "summary": "Went to court, farted so loud the guy who was passed out beside me got kicked out. Halted court and made the judge laugh."}
{"id": "t3_37clpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with this guy I'm dating [20 M] for about three months, I'm not the best when in comes to dating and this seems to be stagnating need advice!", "post": "So this past semester this guy and I shared a couple of classes.  One day one we both recognized each other from Grindr (we'd never messaged each other).  We would sit by each other and talk and eventually spend a couple nights a week studying together at the library.\n\nI was the first to ask him on a real date and it went great!.  Then he asked me on one and it also went great.  However, our whatever-you-would-call-what-we-were-doing seemed to stagnate after this.  \n\nI would always to the first to text him/ask him out.  He would always respond and say yes, but never initiate it.  I stopped texting first to see if he would eventually start something up and I waited a week before breaking and texting him.\n\nI really like this guy, but I'm at a loss of what to do.  I don't know if I'm looking to deep into this.  Should I bring it up to him or just let it fizzle out like I'm scared it will.\n\nHELP!", "summary": "I'm really bad at dating.  I seem to be putting in all the effort, but I don't know if I'm just stressing myself out."}
{"id": "t3_38raks", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Trouble breathing, chest pain, neck pain, throat pain, swollen nodes, headache.", "post": "20/male/6ft1in/160pounds    \nSuburban Massachusetts so to my knowledge I haven't been exposed to any infectious diseases in the last few days. Get migraines, no medications.    \nSymptoms began this morning roughly 12 hours ago soon after waking up. Woke up, had granola and a yogurt (which recently has been causing coughing fits...Recently I've been suspicious I may be developing an allergy to yogurt...). Showered, etc... Shortness of breathe was what hit me first, leading to some chest pain that's only gotten worse. I've only been taking small breaths all day now but the pain has lingered. It feels like my lungs are compressed since I've found I can only take about a quarter breath without feeling immense chest pain. The pain is there when I don't take large/normal breaths but its tolerable. I've felt my throat tighten up and have had trouble swallowing just saliva. When I do swallow though I'm feeling pain at my sternum. My neck aches and my lymph nodes are swollen so I'm worried I've got something. Had some bone and muscle soreness which I attribute to whatever this is, I haven't been active this week. Chest pain gets worse from time to time throughout the day but sitting upright seems to help a bit.    \n    \nI generally try to brush stuff off since I live my mom's had a lot of serious health issues and it's always a contest... but I don't like not being able to breathe so i'm a bit worried and curious...", "summary": "Headache, neck ache, swollen lymph nodes, trouble swallowing. Pain and pressure on my lungs with trouble breathing. Some bone soreness around my body."}
{"id": "t3_3itj2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [20 F] coworker. Told her how I felt about her. Now what?", "post": "[Previous post here for reference.](\n\nAsked her out again. Dinner, then went to a nearby beach, we walked around a bit, looked at the waves and stuff. Blah blah.\nThen I told her I liked her. Leaving out a lot of story here, but I didn't think of anything fancy beyond the location and time of day. \n\nShe acknowledged that she started noticing that I clearly liked her during the earlier dates / times I took her out. She told me she'd never been with a guy before, and the most experience she had with guys was going to prom with a date.\n\nI asked her how she felt about this all, and she told me that she didn't know what to feel. She said she wanted to get to know me better. Point taken. I made sure that she understood that I was going to keep asking her out, and she said that would be nice.\n\nMy friend/roommate later told me that I was a fool for telling her how I felt so early, but I honestly feel like clarifying how I felt to her early on was better than her misunderstanding me. Maybe I was wrong.\n\nWell, I'm clueless as to really how to proceed. I took her home, we talked a bit more, and then I hugged her goodbye. I didn't try anything at the time, because I wasn't sure if I was ruining my chances, or what had really just happened hadn't really digested.\n\nI don't know of my next move. I haven't been rejected entirely, nor is it really a solid answer. If anything, this feels like a trial period of some sorts, which puts me in an odd place.\n\nWhat should I do? I plan to really just allow her to get to know me better through continued dates. But I've been thinking about it; maybe she isn't looking for a relationship at this time, and she was just letting me off the hook nicely by telling me \"I'll think about it.\"\n\nKeeping that in mind, should I just drop this entirely, or keep up the pace?", "summary": "Took coworker on date, told her how I feel, she told me she's never been in a relationship before, and she's not sure how she feels about me. What should a clueless guy like me do given this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2qeo0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] and my Friend [22 F] , should I and how do I, ask her out?", "post": "So here we go, I [27M] spilt up with my ex girlfriend [26 f] of 8 years, about a year ago. Like anyone who has recently split up from a long term partner, you spend a lot of time going out on the weekends and having a good time. \n\nThe general circle I tend to go out with, includes this girl [22f]. She often comes back to mine at the end of the night to continue drinking and listening to music. I have also found that when we do go out, we tend to end up alone together, talking for hours on end. I have a massive respect for this women and I new her before I spilt with ex. So the Friendship was based on us being friends not partners (if that makes sense)\n\nAll my friends keep pestering me whether somethings going on and all I tell them is that me and said female are just friends. She seems to get asked the same questions and answers the same.\n\nWhat also throws me off, is the fact she has said on few occasions, that she will introduce me to other girls etc. \n\nThe last time I was single was a long time ago so this pretty new to me and struggle to gauge advances etc.\n\nSo I am asking for some help and guidance on whether, I Should I leave it and protect the friendship? Should ask her out? And if I do choose to ask her out, how should I go about it?\n\nYour help is much appreciated and if you need any other details ask the question.\n\nThanks", "summary": "Should I, or shouldn't I?"}
{"id": "t3_2fdir8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M/] possible career jump, father [50s] encouraging it, everyone including mom[50s] hates it.", "post": "guess im looking for some outsides thoughts to this. \n\nrecently i was extended a position in I.T. security for a privatized Defense company. This position is nearly Double in pay from what i currently make, and could possibly be the biggest thing for Career over all. My father is pushing for me to take it, My mother ABSOLUTELY HATES IT, i mean hates it. my friends that ive told are trying to talk me out of it. and girlfriend of several months upfront is being supportive of any decision i make, but i know shes completely against it as well. her body language and tone of voice whenever i bring it up make obvious. \n\nthe position is a 6 month contract in Kuwait or Baghdad, the other 6 months would be spent Abu Dhabi or Dubai or i could continue into a second 6month contract in Kuwait/ Baghdad. regardless ill be out of the states for a year most likely more. \nI know its Dangerous, but it could be worth, i guess? do i risk my relationship with my family? im almost certain it would probably cost me my relationship with my gf, i mean why would she stay with me if she cant see me for upwards of a year.", "summary": "Offered a job over seas in a dangerous Country, dad says go for it, everyone else doesnt want me to.causing a rift in my personal and family life."}
{"id": "t3_4j43n9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my girlfriend [30F] moving in together with different sleep schedules", "post": "My girlfriend and I are moving in together. We have been together for a year and a half.  I am somewhat concerned about our different sleep schedules, which are work-related. She works 6AM-2:30PM and I work 8AM-5PM. Currently she gets up and goes to bed about an hour and a half before I do. That's working fine when she stays over, but I've always heard that being on the same schedule with your SO is better for your relationship. I'd love some anecdotes that can help me decide whether to start getting up at 4:30AM. I know that I find sleeping alone to be lonely, but she hasn't complained about it, so I don't know how universal that feeling is.", "summary": "Should these lesbians change to the same sleep schedule when they live together?"}
{"id": "t3_4b95de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] relationship with my parents [60+ M/F] is very poor.", "post": "I grew up in a relatively good household. I'm Asian, I'm a first-generation citizen and my parents came here to give myself and my siblings a good life. We went to good schools, and have good careers.\n\nNow that I'm older, I'm starting to realize how poor my parents are as parents. Not necessarily is there a guidebook on how to be ideal parents, but there's certain things that I think are a must. Like telling your children you love them? I haven't heard that once in my entire life from my parents. The first time I heard those words were from my first girlfriend. The other thing is that my parents only ask superficial questions like \"how is your apartment?\" and \"how is your job?\" They ask these questions and it doesn't feel like they ever try to get to know the real me, like what struggles do I face, what am I really like as a person. The superficiality of our relationship frustrates me to no end. When they visited me yesterday for the first time in months, I barely said a word and pretty much left early because I was so tired of being around them.\n\nI don't know if I'm being dramatic, if this is something that a lot of people are used to, or that I'm justified in the way I'm feeling.", "summary": "My relationship with my parents is superficial and I don't think they realize how much I resent them for this."}
{"id": "t3_1ke453", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[16M] with my girlfriend [16F] 7 months, She is moving 6 hours away roughly.", "post": "she is moving away at the end of this month, and although we may only be 16 I feel like we could have lasted a lot longer than 7 months. I guess I feel angry at the situation (because it would be selfish to be angry at her) and its hard to accept even though I have known for a fair amount of time. Sometimes I do get angry at her and I feel sic or weak in the stomach and I don't want to feel that way.\n\nThe worst part is we haven't done anything to cause this relationship to end! she is just simply moving away. I'm scared that long distance wont work and the fact that I wont be able to see her and touch her makes it harder to accept. We don't say we love each other because we both agreed we don't know what it is being 16 but we have both admitted to wanting to say it very strongly at times. The hardest part about her moving away will be having to adjust to life with out her, that thought haunts me a lot and it saddens me. I just feel like I should never have let myself feel so strongly about someone but then I hate when I think like that because really it was worth it.\n\nI don't know what I am expecting by writing this post just maybe because my girlfriend could have a chance of seeing this (even though it is very unlikely) or maybe cause I just needed to understand how I felt about the situation.", "summary": "She is moving away, although we are 16 we mean a lot to each other, I'm scared long distance wont work."}
{"id": "t3_321ng0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] really like this guy [26M] that I've started dating but I want to make sure that we aren't moving too fast emotionally.", "post": "He's an awesome guy and we've been seeing each other for maybe 2 weeks--not much time.  And it's so much fun hanging out!  I'm not bored by him at all and he's a genuinely nice guy that I'm quite attracted to.  I could see myself *really* liking him--I already like him a lot.  \n\n  That being said, he's really complimentary and I'm used to guys being more cautious about going into a relationship (hey I'm in college, they act like they're allergic to the concept), which, at this admittedly early moment, seems to be where we're going.  Our dates end up being like 8 hours of talking and hanging out.  And we see each other every day and he gives me a kiss whenever he says goodbye.  At first I thought he was moving way too fast but I really like the dude.  He's already told me he is corny.  Which is cute.  The problem is that I am a cautious individual and probably one of the least romantic people you've EVER met.  Does this generally work out between people if one isn't really demonstrative in a physical manner?  I *do* things for people I like a lot.", "summary": "Different ways of showing affection, does this cause problems for people?"}
{"id": "t3_2z3yjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 4 years [17F] Kissed and cuddled a gay man. [18M]", "post": "We have been together for 4 years. She went to a party and got very drunk, she kissed and cuddled a gay boy 17-18M. She said it was just a few pecks, and they cuddled and she enjoyed it. \n\nI am having a hardtime compartmentalizing it and deciding whether or not to fully confront her about it. I understand on one hand nothing can come of it, the boy is homosexual and has a boyfriend, that's fine.\n\nWhat makes me feel sick is trying to figure out why she would do that. It seems like she full enjoyed cuddling with him, and for me this is very intimate and seriously concerns me and its something i really only want her doing with me. \n\nMy question really is how i should approach this given that i'm obviously uncomfortable about it and she doesn't really care. OR whats a better way i can process this to make me feel more comfortable.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2umul9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [27/m] trying to convince girl [26] to trust me enough to date me - we already really like each other, that's not the problem", "post": "She has severe trust issues due to a really shitty past (being cheated on/assaulted), on top of that we're co-workers, she's had a really bad experience dating a co-worker before.\n\nNow I don't claim to be the most gentlemen of gentlemens but I would never rape or assault her and I've never even joked about such things, I'm pretty harmless. I feel like she's just run through some shitty relationships and just can't trust me because of it.\n\nShe really does like me though and I do her, we had plans to go out on a date soon-ish but she decided to break it off giving me these reasons as to why, she doesn't blame me she just has trust issues (at least that's what she says).\n\nI've tried to be super supportive and tell her I understand, unfortunately there isn't much more I could think of doing to convince her, I tried suggesting taking it slowly, dealing with problems as they arise but she just said she couldn't because of the stress.\n\nPretty heartbroken right now, I really liked this girl.", "summary": "met girl, hit it off, she has crippling trust issues"}
{"id": "t3_mmqbl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I have failed...", "post": "A few days ago I posted a thread about how I wanted to get together with my good friend who's seventeen like me, musician, hipster, etc etc. I was planning on doing something with her when I got back to the states (Reddit gave me some good tips and information). One thing that worried me was that her ex-boyfriend was coming back to town. \n\nI was informed via facebook last night that he went to surprise her at school. I was sort of playing a counseling psychologist asking how she felt and why she thought so etc, and it was all going hunky-dory until she said the words, \"and then we sort of touched hands and I'm sort of confused at the moment.\" At this point I felt a huge knot in my stomach. \n\nI sort of stopped talking to her after that part (my computer battery was dead anyway). Well, I had a hard time sleeping that night, I feel like shit right now, I feel the knot still in my stomach. What is recommended? For the last three nights I've talked to her for about an hour and a half each night, but now I really don't want to talk. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "My good friend, who I want to date, touched hands with her ex-bf after a few months of him being away at college and now I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_2zuhj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have been posting nudes online cause I felt insecure that my fiance[22M] of 4 years had nudes of other girls saved on his pc and not mine, how do I stop?", "post": "So me and my fiance always exchange nudes, I send him very sexy photos of me which he says he really loves and sometimes he sends me photos of himself, which I love too\n\n2 weeks ago I found nudes of girls (amateur pics taken from tumblr not sent to him personally) and they looked gorgeous with big beautiful boobs and flat tummies and big bums\n\nI know it's stupid to feel insecure over a PHOTO, but something in me just snapped, I felt shitty and annoyed and inadequate, and as stupid as it sounds kinda offended that he wouldn't keep my nudes saved on his computer( he keeps mine on dropbox) and keep some stranger's images there!\n\nSo I took a couple of naked photos and posted them onto gonewild (Don't bother checking this is a different account)\n\nI recieved GREAT feedback two of my photos were at the top of the page and my inbox was FLOODED with men telling me how perfect they thought I was.\n\nIt made me feel good cause I felt that these men were desiring me and thinking I'm really sexy (kinda what my fiance thinks when he looks at those other girls) and it felt so good, kinda euphoric, that someone out there would rather look at *me* and probably save *my photos* on their computer..\n\nbut now it just got out of hand and I cant stop posting.. I dont WANT to post because I feel like it's abit low and I don't really want people to see me naked (god knows what kinda creep could be wanking over those photos)\n\nI know what I did is STUPID and very lame, but I want to stop and try to build my self esteem through other ways rather than posting nudes.. does anyone have any helpful tips?\n\nThank you", "summary": "= I found nudes on my fiance's computer of beautiful girls, so I posted some photos to gonewild, now I can't stop seeking validation via posting nudes."}
{"id": "t3_fd87z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A complicated situation arises...", "post": "Ok let me start with just a little back story, M/27YRS,  I just recently got out of a long term relationship/engagement; 5+ years, we were engaged and living together. Anyways that fell apart last May, I just got a text message saying she felt out of place and she couldn't do it anymore I tried to get a solid answer but all I really got was a facebook status update saying she was single...Needless to say it hit me VERY hard I was an emotional mess that the person I dedicated everyday of my life to for 5 years just took off without any real explanation. \n\nWell anyways about 3 years ago I started a job as a graphic designer along side a very gorgeous young woman, same age as myself, but at the time I tried to keep my distance because of my engagement situation. \nWell since my break up last May Ive found myself confiding in my co-worker alot, and have actually come to realize that I have more in common with her than anyone else Ive ever met. Its to the point where we will finish each others sentences or one of us will start to say something that the other was about to say word for word. We are both very artistically inclined and she has helped me to talk out alot the mental roadblocks that have prevented me from being as creative as I'd like to be. \n\nThe other nite we worked some overtime together, pretty much 7 hours of just me and her, and things were really taking off, our conversations were really opening up and we both shared somethings that dont normally get brought up in everyday conversation. I went home that nite and found that she had posted a poem about our exploits that nite at work!  \n\nSo Ive grown pretty close to her over the past several months, but here's where the shit gets real, she's married...and so basically I have no idea what to do...Should I try to pursue her should I give it up? Im turning to you my redditors, please lend me your wisdom and let me know what you think of my situation, cuz right now, I dont know what to think...", "summary": "A married co-worker and myself are becoming very close, what do I do next??"}
{"id": "t3_2ttjzr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Late Start. Getting life back \"on track\".", "post": "BackStory:\n\n18 years old, just graduated highschool. Father tells me not to bother with college because he taking me as an apprentice for the Electrical/Mechanical Engineering firm he worked for. 3 months later he dies of a heart attack. Loong bout of depression ensues. \n\nFastforward 2/3 years. Got over depression, Got a (somewhat) steady job. Still living with mother. Used Pay and the small pell grant I qualified for to take GenEd + intro classes at a community college to get a feel for what i may/may not like to peruse as a career. Then I get in an accident which mangles my left leg. Lost the job, and put my classes on hold. Recovered after about 7 months. tried to find another job; Application process goes well but when i show up for an interview and they see me walking with a limp, I'm (more or less) deemed \"too risky to hire\", despite me saying it isnt really problem. Goes on for years. Unable to continue classes.\n\nFastforward to now, about another year (24 yrs old). Still living with mother. Had a very rough financial year, last year (lost the house we were living in for the past 7 years - and to move to an.... extremely run down part of town).  Managed to land a job a couple ago months only because a friend of mine vouched for me and noone else wanted the job.\n\nRight now, Im not happy with my current situation. I want to get myself back on track. Im just unsure how to do that.\nOne hand I've friends and family telling me to go back to and finish college. \nThe other hand has just as many friends and family saying \"a degree isnt worth the paper its printed on\", urging me to take up a practical hobby (like carpentry or coding) while you work, then looking for an internship somewhere once I'm good enough at it.", "summary": "Started working / college late due to family tragedy. several years late. Then an accident delays it even more.. little practical skills, what skills i have are not too useful."}
{"id": "t3_e6hey", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Roommate is a Drug Dealer. Help Please?", "post": "I'm a freshman in college, and I know for a fact that my room mate is dealing weed. I also know that he has access to lots of harder drugs, but I don't think he is actively dealing those as well. \n\nThis wasn't too much of an issue at first, but now its getting to the point where he often has really sketchy friends coming into the room at 2am before going out to get high. \n\nHow can I keep myself from getting in trouble when (it's going to happen eventually at this rate) he gets caught? I really don't want to turn him in because I'd rather not have all his sketchy friends pissed off at me and on top of that hes never really done any wrong to me.", "summary": "Room mate deals weed, does harder stuff as well, possibly deals it too. How do I stay on the right side of the law?"}
{"id": "t3_1genyx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [23M] never wants to do anything involving other people.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. We have had our rough spots but we love each other. I guess my problem is I have started to become tired of the arguments that happen when we are invited out. If I get invited to a friends party, he doesn't want to go because he wasn't officially invited. He doesn't like coming over to my house because he doesn't like being here when my dad and brother are home. He has mentioned he has social anxiety, but I thought it would have gotten better by now. On my birthday he didn't want to go meet my childhood friend who I haven't seen in a long time just because he didn't want to be the third wheel (which was not true).\n\nWhen we do things with other people, everything goes fine and nothing bad happens. I just don't get it. Like he would go to Disney with me, but the second I mention my friend and her boyfriend are going too, then he no longer wants to go anymore, or my dad invited us out to dinner tonight, and I said yes, because I don't have any money and its a free meal, but now my boyfriend doesn't even want to hang out with me tonight because he doesn't want to go to dinner with my dad. I feel like none of this would be a problem if I had my own place and I didn't have to do things on my dads terms, but I don't really know if this is normal. I can understand being afraid of my dad and not wanting to go hang out with him and his friends, or having to eat dinner with my family multiple times a week, I can understand that too. Its just I don't want him to never be able to do anything with my family. Like if my uncle comes in from out of town for a weekend, I would like for him to come with us, eat, do some chit chat and then leave. I don't see why its so hard for him, but at the same time I don't have social anxiety, so maybe I don't understand.\n\nAnybody able to help me in my situation?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I hang out all the time and we love each other and are best friends. The second we are going to do something with other people (such as my family or friends) then he no longer wants to hang out and would rather just go home and play video games by himself, and tells me I love him because I would rather go to dinner with family instead of spend time with him. Yet he was invited to come to dinner too and I wanted him to."}
{"id": "t3_2qp51h", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Want to apply for a job tonight, too scared to do it.", "post": "I'll be applying for a job of Community Manager tonight. It's not for a famous company which would be out of my league so I'm not too worried there. I have the feeling I'm a perfect fit for the job and it's definitely something I'm capable of handling. The thing is, I'm scared to apply.\n\nI'm currently working a dead end deskjob where I get little to no satisfaction of the work I do. I feel tired and sick most of the time and I want to make a change. I'm realy into games (not in the 16 year old \"I want to play videogames all day and nothing else\" kind of way) and a few days ago I saw this job opening of Community Manager.\n\nWhen I read the description it felt like this is all me, it's perfect. Now that I've actually finished retouching my resume and application letter I'm scared to send it out. I feel like I realy need this job and if I don't get it I'll be stuck in this rut forever. \n\nDoes anybody else have this feeling as well? I've applied for some interesting jobs before and the interviews always went great. But when it came to hiring me I never made it. So now with this job, which I realy want, I'm scared to have the same experience again.\n\nSo are there any things they definitely need to see on your resume and application letter if you're applying for Community Manager?", "summary": "Looking for some uplifting words from internet strangers so I grow the balls to keep looking for my way out."}
{"id": "t3_1szfz8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "He can be so annoying!", "post": "I love this guy with all of my heart, but sometimes I wish he would just shut up! \n\nHe tells the looonnngest stories and always follows it with \"to make a long story short\". \n\nHe tells the same stories over and over and over again. \n\nHe exaggerates his stories. I've heard him tell stories that I was part of and completely make up parts of the story to make it better. \n\nMeanwhile he doesn't care enough to listen to others talk.\n\nIf you accidentally tell him a story that he's already heard, he will interrupt you to tell you that several times and get annoyed with you. \n\nSometimes this makes me so mad that I won't even listen to him when he talks.\n\nP.S. Is there a subreddit for bitching/complaining?", "summary": "Sometimes my boyfriend annoys me so much I wanna slap him."}
{"id": "t3_3djpah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend [26M] of a few months let on that he has a foot fetish. I'm lost and don't know how to indulge this sort of thing.", "post": "I generally feel well-versed in the bedroom and confident with most things. However, I have never (knowingly) been with anyone who has had this particular fetish and I feel totally lost. \n\nWe have tried a couple times, the first time went pretty well but the second was kind of awkward. I feel like I just don't know what to do, nor what is attractive to someone with this fetish. I want to show him that I'm happy that he shared this with me, and I am interested in pursuing it. \n\nI'm looking for advice from anyone with really ANY experience or knowledge. Anything helps. Stories, instructions, suggestions. Really, anything.", "summary": "Need advice on how to please someone with a foot fetish."}
{"id": "t3_1xe6kh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23 F] been dating my boyfriend[27 M] for 7 months. I've been in a serious relationship before, but I feel like he might be the one. Am I crazy?!", "post": "Hi everyone! So I met my boyfriend on OKcupid this past summer. At first I didn't think it would last because we are so different (in our likes and dislikes), but here we are, 7 months later and thriving. \n\nHe is completely selfless and would do anything for me. He's told me that he never used to smile, and now he can't stop. I've never felt this way before about another person, it's very hard to explain-almost like I'm glowing even when I'm not with him. \n\nI talked to my sister and she said it's just because I found a good one, and my previous boyfriends were selfish individuals (to put it nicely). I'm definitely not in a hurry for marriage or children, but I keep thinking about it, because I see myself doing those sorts of things with him. Am I going crazy, or it my sister right?", "summary": "Want to make sure I'm not crazy for being such a sap!"}
{"id": "t3_30j6t9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I have big enough hands", "post": "Today I come home minding my own business when my mom told me she wanted me to put the dishes from the dishwasher away. No problem right?\n\nI was so wrong.\n\nI was putting the dishes away and I was about like 90% done when I get to the food processor (we had just got it like a few months ago and there's was one point a part of it got lost and my mom flipped shit because it couldn't be replaced until she found that part.) so I start to try to put the lid on it. took me a solid five minutes to give up so I start to get over to the counter where the base is and I drop the main thing (the bowl thing holder whatever you want to call it) thanks to what I thought was \"large\" hands.\n\nI start to look at the damage and thinking \"oh shit this is going to be bad\" so my mom starts to come downstairs wanting to know what's going on and asked what I dropped. Reluctantly I told her \"The food processor...\" out of the corner of my eye I start to see that disappointed look but I didn't dare look back and then she said \"Do you know how long it took Dad to save for that?\" \"Yes I was trying to be careful with it but it just fell out of my hands.\"\n\nShe then proceeds to sit there for a little while and then semi angrily goes upstairs and closes her door.", "summary": "thought my hands were big and they actually weren't."}
{"id": "t3_i0hp4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest thing a partner has ever said to you during sex?", "post": "I had been seeing this girl for a couple weeks, mainly just making out with the occasional heavy petting. She was rather demure at the beginning but progressively got more aggressive. At first the aggression was kinda cute: tackling me before making out, some light-medium biting/scratching, etc. Basically, nothing really out of my comfort zone. \n\nThat was, until one particular night:\n\nWe were fooling around on her bed, with me on top, kissing, when all of a sudden she pushes me away and says \"hit me.\" I'm stunned by the suggestion and my mind races a million miles a second thinking of all the negatives this could entail (i.e. her saying I beat her, or raped her, or using it to blackmail me). \n\nI reply, \"I beg your pardon?\"\n\nShe says, \"FUCKING HIT ME IN THE FACE!\"\n\nI object, and before I could utter any follow up reasoning, she, like any rational person, slaps ME in the face. I flinch, and she slaps me again, harder. At this point I'm still on top of her, staring at her, my back arched away from her and braced by my arms straddling her abdomen; I put my hand on her chest to grant myself reprieve from her slaps. She takes another swat at me, which misses, and then proceeds to grab my restraining hand with both of hers and pulls it to her throat and begins to choke herself.\n\nBy this time I'm beyond mortified at what has transpired. I ripped my arm from her grasp, got up, grabbed my clothes, and bounced out of her apartment still in my boxers, wadded up jeans and shirt in my arms. \n\nI never talked to her again, though it seems that every time I tell this story she makes a rather unexpected appearance in my life. So, if you're reading this, Skull (codename), thanks for the amazing story!", "summary": "while fooling around with a girl, said girl asked me to punch her in the face. I declined."}
{"id": "t3_2wx3hx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M] [20] need help with moving out of controlling household", "post": "Hi reddit, I could use some help.\n\nI'm 19 years old living in the Midwest. I work a fulltime job at $10/hour and attend community college for basics. I am on the verge of being kicked out of my house for not believing in my parents religion (Pentecostal) and I need help planning this out so I can not have a mental breakdown.\n\nHere are my expenses.\n\n$130/m for car payment\n$130/m for car insurance\n$75/m for phone\n$80/m for gas\n??/m for food\n\nI'm sure I'm overlooking some things but that's all I can think of at the minute.", "summary": "getting kicked out, need advice on how to make it"}
{"id": "t3_1kvsh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] seek some advice about a crush [19F] what to do next?", "post": "I've known this girl for a few years now, and when we first met we almost went out with each other. We talked often, were affectionate to each other and later down the line shared a kiss or two. For a reason I'm not sure of, we talked less as the days went by, then we just became friends.\n\nAfter a couple of years of general chat every week or so, and after moving back to where I used to live, I bumped into her at a bar, and we talked for a while and I was attracted to her again. We've talked since then via FB, now I'm thinking I should get her number and ask her out.\n\nBUT since I bumped into her, I asked her to go out on a date and she didn't give me an answer, instead asking something else. If you guys want to know what she said, I'll gladly oblige.\n\nI really like this girl. And from what signals she's given me, she likes me too, but, I'm not sure how much. I want to push for a date, but I feel asking outright will make her weird about things. How can I subtly ask her out? And how can I come up with an engaging conversation via FB chat?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I like this girl, I want to ask her out, but in an indirect way. Had past attraction, but there were some long periods without contact."}
{"id": "t3_3mo7om", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a Snapchat to my best friend", "post": "My personality is divided into two facets: flirty, drunk college me and shy, bookish high school me. Depending on my surroundings, one facet is always more prominent. My best friend from high school is very traditional and Catholic--we grew up in that sort of town--and I'm liberal and agnostic but I tend to tone that part down whenever I visit my hometown.\n\nYesterday, I was texting one of my college friends about this guy I was hooking up with and I snapped something along the lines of, \"He has a good dick and knows what to do with it ;)\". I wasn't paying attention and accidentally also sent it to the aforementioned best friend from high school who didn't even know that I've gone past first base, much less lost my v-card ages ago.\n\nCue me texting obscenities at college friend while googling 'how to delete sent Snapchats' (apparently the only solution is to delete your account). Long story short, I ended up deleting but I don't know if it worked and I'm too afraid to text her because gossip spreads like wildfire in this town.", "summary": "Drinking and Snapchat? Not even once."}
{"id": "t3_p53i7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stickers are still awesome! Right?", "post": "Hey, all. Long time lurker here (and I'll probably go back to it for months to come until I'm done here / get enough help).\nAlso, I love stickers. Like shirts, I believe stickers are a great way to express one-self.\nSo... I've been looking into stickers for my laptop to put on to show people what kind of person I am. The thing is, I have enough as is already, but I have this one big spot open for a specific sticker I can't seem to find. The specific sticker I'm talking about is more like something I want to say to the people who look at my sticker(s).\nI basically want a sticker that says, \"I encourage you to interact with me\".\nWhile I am not home or with friends, I WILL wear headphones (even if my mp3 player is dead or not. Its comforting for me to wear them. Like a pair of socks) 95% of the time. I find that discourages most people to even converse with me. I'm also a silent type until someone sparks a conversation (in which I will not shut up till we have to. I'm very open minded).", "summary": "I was wondering if there's such a sticker out there or a website where you can make custom stickers with text or maybe certain graphical images."}
{"id": "t3_z37jl", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Going to take a leave of absence from my college. Any advice?", "post": "So I have to take a leave of absence from my college due to the fact that I wasn't able to meet satisfactory academic standards. It was mainly due to the fact that I failed my math classes. Anyhow, I failed most of my classes just because I was a lazy bum. I wasn't motivated and I didn't take it seriously. I think there is something wrong with me. There's been a bunch of times where I missed classes or I wouldn't do home work just because I had no inspiration for it really. I'm not going to blame others because I really put no effort into my first year of college at all. \n\nAnyhow, I'm just ending my first year of college and I failed the math class I needed in order for me to keep going in my college. I'm also attending a Cal State University for those of you that don't know. They advised me that I should go to a community college and do my math classes there. I'm just really depressed because I really let my family down and not to mention I'm living in an apartment with a couple of friends right by the college. I have no job and I've been wasting my life away by just playing games, browsing reddit, watching shows and shit on my laptop. \n\nSo what do you guys think I should do? I'm just scared to death to tell my parents mainly... They think I'm doing well in school but I failed my first year really horribly failing so many classes and I have a pretty low gpa. The only good thing is that I'm not kicked out from the school. I can go back whenever just as long as I have those math classes done. I really don't know what to do with my lost time. I don't have a car yet so I'm stuck here not knowing what the fk to do with my life and now I hit rock bottom.", "summary": "Failed most of my classes for my first year of college and now I have to take a leave of absence. Don't know what to do and how to tell my parents. Community colleges have already started and registering is too late so I can't do anything until winter. I'm also unemployed and have no car."}
{"id": "t3_3rlu2o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my phone number to a girl in class.", "post": "Throwaway because that's what TIFU is for, right?\n\nAnyways. \n\nThis morning in my first class of the day, I saw an opportunity to sit next to this one girl I've been meaning to talk to for a while. She was always a few rows in front of me but I always had a friend to sit next to, but by chance he didn't show up today (later found out he slept through it). \n\nSo I sat down and did the usual \"Hi I'm __!\" and we started talking. We had a few things in common and it was going fairly well.\n\nUntil I thought it was going well enough to try and exchange numbers.\n\nI gave her my phone and had her type in her number so I could save it. She did. Great! \n\nNow it's my turn. She pulls out her phone and hands it to me.\n\nI fucking dropped her phone guys. The fucking worst feeling ever as she picked it up and revealed a huge crack starting from the corner and spreading all the fucking way down. It could have at least been a corner crack or something but *nooo* it's got to be the whole fucking thing because I was being punished for trying.\n\nI have a screen protector and a case. Why she didn't, I have no idea and it pisses me off but I can't blame her for ME DROPPING HER FUCKING PHONE.\n\nNot only are my chances ruined and I will never make it up to her, now I'm stuck with this fucking memory forever. I can see it now: in 5 years, I'll go to bed and suddenly remember the time I dropped that one girl's phone, and I'll cringe and cringe, but no amount of cringing will ever get rid of this memory.\n\nLooks like I'll be avoiding talking to girls for a while.", "summary": "Got a cute grill's phone number but dropped and cracked her phone when I tried giving her mine."}
{"id": "t3_2gyv3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] having trouble on my end with my relationship [22 F] questioning how much I want it and not someone else, who I have a sort of crush on. [25 F]", "post": "We've been together since May of 2012, and I love her dearly. She's comforting, kind, grounded, and responsible, but throughout our relationship I've always been frustrated by our lack of common ground regarding certain tastes and our ideas of having fun. We've been through a lot though, surgery for me last February, her studying abroad last fall, and a couple of close calls in terms of her maybe calling it off because of her \"lack of fulfillment\".\n\nThe last of these conversations happened in July when she accused me of being negative all the time, never seeming happy to be with her and sometimes doubting if we could effectively satisfy each other. It became a big cryfest where we agreed to stay together and work on things, but after that period, things have kind of gone back to how they were before. I suffer from pretty severe depression anyway, so the whole situation makes me disconnect even more, and my libido has been dead for a while because of new antidepressants, which I know frustrates her cause she gets very playful sometimes and I just resist.\n\nCompounding the problem even worse is the fact that since July I've known this girl who shares a major with me and is interested in the same bands and shows and stuff and we've now had two classes together, both of which we talk beforehand (nothing flirty or anything, just casual friend talk). But her FB says she's bi, so I dunno even know where she would stand on me anyway.\n\nIt just really sucks because sometimes I feel like the luckiest man in the world for having a secure nurturing relationship but sometimes I'm so miserable I can barely stand it, and I don't know if it's because of outside influences or the relationship itself. We've lived together since January so I'm also scared about a new living situation next year, because I feel like \nthat's added pressure onto my mind.", "summary": "GF and I have been together over 2 years, weird uncertainties have creeped up on both of our ends throughout, and I'm wondering whether or not to keep trying to make it work, or potentially pursue a girl in my class that I feel like I like a great deal. Then again, I could just be idealizing her in a weird way simply because of the grass is always greener mentality."}
{"id": "t3_3w95gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27f) am exhausted of roommates (31m) belongings everywhere.", "post": "I live in a house with 3 males. Two are fairly good at keeping their things out of the common areas. My third roommate, who has also lived in the house for 5 years, has crap everywhere. He has this thing where he likes to 'show and tell' his stuff and it stays in the living room for weeks/months till I just move it to his bedroom door. We have a full basement with two big areas, half of that is his stuff (golf clubs, old dvds, a knight statue, tools, broken tools, costumes, more dvds, tv stand he replaced, boxes of old magazines, boxes of just random shit, poker table, yoga shit, amps and guitars, drum set, fancy chairs that don't get used, etc) it's crazy. I really wish he would just organize his stuff so it is not all over the place, and the rest of us can put of stuff downstairs. I've  expressed this to him but he says he needs to get the mind set to do it and then goes smokes cigarettes and drinks coke and whiskey for hours on the porch.", "summary": "roommate has so much stuff it's crowding the house."}
{"id": "t3_kdvst", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I be cautious of coyotes?", "post": "Alright, let me give you the skinny on this calf: I've recently moved to Saskatchewan from Ontario for work. I have a pretty sweet gig and all as I get to stay in a small ranch and I don't pay a dime. There's some thicker shrubs, trees, and all that good stuff immediately surrounding the property, but outside of it is nothing but farm fields and some smaller pockets of denser trees.\n\nBeing in this house alone at night with absolutely no neighbours and rather spotty reception was pretty freaky at first as I'm used to a smaller apartment in a city of half a million people and not this large ass place with old stables and creaky things that I don't even want to begin wondering about. There was this one instance a few weeks back where a person in the late night (around 11pm) pulled up into the driveway, got out, looked in my car for a few seconds, looked around, and drove off into the night. I was pooping on all the walls.\n\nI'm in the Rural Municipality of North Battleford, and as I'm told, the municipality itself has some of the highest rates of crime per capita in Canada. Neat-o! But that aside, everything is peachy. I've started to get settled and feel pretty comfortable. However, I do hear the coyotes at night and they get pretty close to the house. Yesterday morning when I went out for a drive, one was crossing the road right when I pulled out of the driveway. And not even half an hour ago when I went into town to grab a late night snack, I see one hanging just around the end of the driveway.\n\nShould I actually consider getting an air rifle like some co-workers have suggested? Should I hire a body guard? What about building a moat?", "summary": "Am I going to be ripped to shreds?"}
{"id": "t3_3cj1px", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my girlfriend [26 F] of 1 year have a different view on drug use. Not sure how to cope.", "post": "I am a rather square guy. I've smoked weed a few times and mostly decided I'm not into it. I drink occasionally but only let myself get 'shitfaced' once or twice a year. I've never experimented with other drugs and don't want to.\n\nMy girlfriend has a history of drug use - cocaine, ecstasy, marijuana (in excess), mushrooms, acid and others but does not regularly do drugs anymore. However, every 4th of July she goes to a particularly hippie'd out music festival and gets back into her old routine with her friends for the weekend. She's topless and tripping out on acid most of the time. Her actions make me very uncomfortable.\n\nWe are honest about our actions and thoughts regarding drug use and agreeing to disagree does not sit well with her. I'm not very comfortable with her going to the festival but it is an extremely important annual tradition to her so I don't gripe about it. I smile and say 'Have fun! Be safe.' I worry about her a lot when she's there and I'm glad that there are 12 months until she goes again.\n\nMy issue is more her attitude than her drug use, actually. She tells me all the time how badly she wants me to be there. I tell her it would make me uncomfortable. She doesn't like that. Today she said she felt sad because \"we will never reach that level of depth together (being on ACID together).\"  I don't feel like I need drugs to support a relationship. Eventually she did say \"I don't want you to change but I'm sad we'll never experience it together.\"\n\nI'm being as understanding as I know how without giving up my own morals and I don't feel appreciated. I told her she is lucky that I'm not telling her not to go considering how uncomfortable it makes me. She says she'd be luckier to have a boyfriend that goes with her. Whenever I talk about drugs she gets defensive and thinks I am belittling her choices. \n\nI'm hoping for some advice on a healthy way to move forward.", "summary": "My girlfriend does drugs at a festival every year and is upset that I don't want to go."}
{"id": "t3_n8dyy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a question for the vegans and vegetarians on Reddit.", "post": "I have consumed animal products my entire life. I've seen articles and videos about skinning live animals, bear bile farms, and most recently, the Siberian Tiger Park in Harbin, China (where you can pay to feed live chickens, cows, lambs, and other animals to full-grown tigers). But these things still haven't changed my way of thinking. I want you to invite me into your mind by answering the following questions. If, as impossible as it sounds, I invented a machine that had the ability to fully clone animals. Use your imagination for this: the machine would scan, say a live chicken, and then produced hundreds of them, like an assembly line. Would it be wrong to kill and eat them? Is it because of the pain they endure? If so, what if I mutated a chick embryo so that when it develops, instead of feeling pain it would feel pleasure. Would it still be wrong to kill it?", "summary": "1. Is it wrong to kill an animal even if it was made artificially?"}
{"id": "t3_4d6nzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] am 16 weeks pregnant and I don't know how to tell my parents I am pregnant and that its not my boyfriends kid.", "post": "about a month into mine and my boyfriends relationship i cheated on him with a friend of mine after i got drunk and we didnt use a condom or anything and then about 8 or 9 weeks ago I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive and I know that the kid isn't my boyfriends (19)because we have been careful to use contraception. \n\nI have told my boyfriend what I did and he has kinda forgiven me and he said he will try and help be there for me and the kid and i know that must be real hard for him. \n\nI just need help in how to tell my parents that i am pregnant as i dont want them to figure it out for themselves and should i tell them that its not my boyfriends kid or not? I feel that they will be disappointed in me and angry especially if i tell them that its not my boyfriends but i need to tell them cause i want help and support from them. So how can I make the conversation I have with them easier.", "summary": "I (F 17) am 16 weeks pregnant and its not my boyfriends kid how do i tell my parents i am pregnant and should i tell them its not my boyfriends?"}
{"id": "t3_3xbns6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not reading the \"signs\"", "post": "So last night I took this girl, I've been crushing on for a while, on a date (we have been on other dates before but they were more just friends kind of dates, so I am kind of thinking the same thing tonight too). We have the classic dinner and a movie date. Things go well conversation flowing and lots of LOLs. After the movie (Trainwreck for those playing at home) I  ask her what she wanted to do. She replies with no hesitation \"we'll go back to your place\"\nWe go back to mine and we are watching late night TV (it is French movie) she is complaining that normal TV is shit and that nothing exciting is on. Me trying to be a good host is like, want to watch another movie, want to play a game or something...\nShe is saying no to it all. \nSo we are chatting and hanging out , its about midnight by now. But she is still complaining about being bored. \nSo after a bit of time she gets up and says she is leaving. We hug and she leaves. I think to myself \"Gees you were great. Real sociable and made some good connections there\"\nI get changed for bed my head hits the pillow and I think to myself \"FUCK!!!!! I'm an IDIOT!!!!\" and instantly realise what I missed out on", "summary": "thought I had a good date. Got girl back to mine and missed all the signs for sex."}
{"id": "t3_36dp93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] am in love with my high school friend [23f] and she's 1500 miles away. Advice?", "post": "This is a cross post from /r/longdistance but I wasn't getting any feedback and would kind of like some help quickly.\n\nBackground first.  I went to a very small high school in a rural farming community in the Midwest, and one girl, we'll call her Sarah, and I were close all four years. We never dated but did attend dances together and such but nothing serious ever happened.\n\nCollege came and we went separate ways and dated other people but still kept in touch.  After a few years in college, I joined the military and got stationed on the west coast and have been here for 1.5 years now and have about 4 years left of service.\n\nThe last time I went home, 8 months ago, Sarah and I hung-out, had a few drinks and let some feelings out and kissed.  Pretty innocent.  Over the past couple of months, however, our texts and snapchating have increased exponentially and last night while both of us were drinking, we both admitted to having strong feelings for each other.  I go home again to visit in a month. Should I wait to see her in person to let her know how much I care for her? Or should I let her know over the phone? Like, can I initiate a long distance relationship over a long distance? \n\nThis is my first post so correct me please on mistakes.", "summary": "I'm falling for an old high school friend 1500 miles away and don't know how to start things."}
{"id": "t3_gqc86", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "A bizarre dynamic emerges!", "post": "So my girlfriend and I broke up ten days ago.  Basically, we were in love, then we went on vacation together, the little things that bugged us amplified in that kind of pressure cooker environment, and a few days after we got back she said she didn't love me any more and wanted to get back with her ex.\n\nThen her ex shot her down.\n\nThen we spent the last four nights together, and have been getting lunch together, and drinks after work, and generally shooting the shit.  And fucking, in case you didn't get that from the whole four nights together thing.  She still keeps her drawer at my place full of clothes for spending nights here.\n\nAnd the way she responds to my touch, the tenderness I think I see in her face, makes me think she still feels strongly about me, but she said when we slept together on sunday night that \"this doesn't mean what you want it to mean.\"  I don't think friends with bennies spend four nights together.  I still love her, and like the idea of getting back together, but I A) don't think she wants to and B) am not ok with her wanting to be with her ex more than me even if she did want to.\n\nI still love her and am confused by all of this.  I am not interested in stopping, but I really am interested in anything anybody might have to say on the matter.", "summary": "Mountain Dew is the greatest cola ever."}
{"id": "t3_3t6tzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19f] boyfriend [19m] wants to go on overnight retreat with girls I've never met", "post": "Hi all. This is weird, but I'll give it a go.\nMy boyfriend of a year and three months wants to go on an overnight retreat with his club (co-ed, obviously). \nI am a little uncomfortable with this. \n\nFirst, he hid it from me for about a week. His excuse was that he had midterms and didn't want to stress himself out. Okay. However, then a few more days passed, he paid for the retreat, and still didn't even mention it's existence. Finally, he told me face to face, a week before the trip, that he was going and that was that. I felt as though this should have been mentioned at least when he first heard about it, if only to keep me in the loop of his life. It is odd to plan a trip without mentioning it to your s/o.\n\nNext, I have never met any of these club members.\nFinally, we have not spent very much time together recently. We are semi-long distance, living about an hour away at different universities. We have spent maybe two days together the past three weeks. \n\nI actually said he should go, even though he says he understands if I wouldn't want him to. I have not always been the most understanding person in our past. I am trying very hard to be understanding and trusting. However, I'm not sure where the line between being understanding and putting myself way to far out of my comfort zone ends/begins. \n\nPlease let me know if this is something I should be unfazed by.", "summary": "boyfriend wants to go on a retreat with his co-ed club, not sure if I should be worried for many reasons"}
{"id": "t3_qymny", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Hi there, I'm a lurker, just coming out for some advice on staying motivated while I'm exercising.", "post": "I hope it's ok to ask for advice. My problem is about staying motivated while I'm in the act of exercising. Getting myself to the point where I'm exercising isn't too hard, but doing it for prolonged periods of time is what I'm worried about.\n\nI'm 21, 5'9'' and weigh 145. I'm maybe a couple pounds overweight for my height (I think), so my goal is mostly to tone up and get more energy 'cos I'm a lazy person. I shouldn't say lazy but introverted - I like reading, drawing, playing video games. This ties into my problem because I find that I get bored very easily while working out. Not even that tired, just bored because I feel my mind going blank. I feel the need to be doing something with my brain while I am working out, and the reduced blood flow to my brain makes me feel strangely unoccupied. It almost feels like I am wasting time, even though exercise is obviously a great use of my time.\n\nI work out 30 mins tops most of the time, and most of the reading I've been doing suggests I should be doing it for an hour or two per day. I would like help on this because I am trying to build good habits. Does anyone have a similar experience? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "I need advice on how to keep myself from feeling what I imagine is a false sense of boredom while I am exercising."}
{"id": "t3_53de3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22/f] long distance boyfriend [21/m] has moved in with 6 other girls and I feel a little uncomfortable with the situation, need help on overcoming jealousy issues", "post": "To start off i understand this might be perceived as a little petty but i would really love some genuine advice on the situation.\n\nA little backstory, my current boyfriend has just started at a new University for his second degree, we have been together for 1 & half year and met during his first degree.\n\nBefore him i also had a long term relationship with my ex who upon arriving at his university, broke up with me because he wanted to sleep with his housemate. \n\nMy current boyfriend has just moved into a flat in London with 6 other girls who also attend his University although none of them know each other prior to moving in.\n\nI know it will sound horrendously petty and due to insecurities and horrible experiences i had with my ex i am extremely scared i will be jealous of my boyfriend living with 6 girls. \n\nHe is 21 whereas everyone else is 18 and there have been incidences in the past where slightly younger girls approached him because they were interested in him. \n\nI feel a little uncomfortable with the situation and although i do trust him, we will be in a long distance relationship and I don't want to be a jealous girlfriend causing problems in our relationship.\n\nSince moving in (2 days ago) he has already been somewhat distance and despite being paranoid, i feel our relationship is changing. He has become a lot less empathetic in how i'm feeling about the situation and there has already been an incident where he was in a situation where girls were express an interest in him. \n\nUltimately, i love him and he has never been unfaithful to me in the past nor has he treated me badly but i want to maintain a healthy relationship and even if there isn't anything substantial to worry about i'd like to find a way to cope with any potential jealous issues. I'd be super grateful for any advice :)", "summary": "boyfriend moved to a new university, living with 6 girls and i feel insecure and uncomfortable with the situation due to a similar experience with an ex who broke up with me as as result."}
{"id": "t3_4o5gtz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21M) girlfriend's (20F) family has just been thrown through a loop and I need advice on how to be supportive.", "post": "I will try to keep my post short since I am on my fifteen and I am on mobile.\n\nMy girlfriend (Madison) and I have been been together for two and a half years and I have known her family for about three years. She has large extended family on both her parents sides and over the past year and about a year and a half ago they took in her grandparents (Dave and Marsha on her dad's side) since they have been RVing around the country for their retirement. Before being taken in by my girlfriends family, they had a bad experience when taking a break from the road by staying at one of their son's families. They (Dan and Nicole) were not very willing to help  out and basically kicked Dave and Marsha to the curb.\n\nSix months ago Dave and Marsha wanted to start RVing again, but as time went on Dave's health started to decline. They recently came back to do tests and found out he has cancer (melanoma) and it has spread to various parts of his body. Even with treatment he is looking at one to two years.\n\nA majority of Madison's extended family is coming over to show support for Dave, including Dan, Nicole and their four kids. Essentially 6 people are moving into the house to show support for Dave with Dan and his family staying at a hotel. I know there is a lot of family drama, and I want to be there to support Madison and Dave but I don't know in what ways I can. Sorry for lack of details, just on a time crunch.", "summary": "Girlfriends grandfather has been diagnosed with cancer and everybody in the extended family is moving into one area to be there for him but there is a lot of drama. Looking for advice on how to support in the situation for both my girlfriend and her grandfather."}
{"id": "t3_2gkc00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] ending four years with [24F], we live together, how to split as cleanly as possible?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over four years. We both moved together to a new city halfway across the US about a year ago, and have been living together ever since.\n\nHer department is picking up their roots and moving to LA, and she wants to follow them (she loves the entertainment industry). I'm completely supportive because even though I want to break up, I still want her to have a happy, fulfilling life. She thinks that she will move to LA and we will do a LDR. That's absolutely the last thing I want, but I don't want to tell her that in case she decides to stay here for me (which would be the wrong choice). Furthermore, even if she would stay, I would still want to end things. We squabble all the time and have no physical intimacy - we're essentially roommates sharing a place and a bed. \n\nSo our lease is up Nov. 1, and that's the time she's thinking about moving. I'm the kind of person that gets antsy when I've made my mind up on a decision, and I need to act. I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I have finally determined it's best to end it.\n\nSo here's my question: I looked on craigslist and found a potential place I could move into by this coming Monday (9/22). Would it be terrible if I told her this weekend that I wanted to end things and then told her that she could stay in our apartment (I'd obviously still cover my portion of the rent), but I'm going to be moving into a new place on Monday? I'm thinking I could just take the essentials, and once she's ready to move we can divvy up the furniture and stuff.\n\nI want to do this in the least painful manner for her, so I appreciate any advice.", "summary": "Dating GF for four years, lived together for one year. I want to end it and have a place lined up for me to move out to next week. Is it too callous to inform her this weekend and be totally moved out by next Monday?"}
{"id": "t3_tuccm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with an asshole? What's your go-to comeback?", "post": "My boyfriend has a friend that is a HUGE asshole to me. He's a 350 pound womanizing asshole. I bring up his weight because he's CONSTANTLY saying how fat some women are and how he'd never \"do\" them (the last girl he said this about was 5'8 and 160). He always says rude things to me and I'm wondering what does reddit do to blow off a jerk? \n\nI'll give a really quick example: We were all leaving a restaurant (my bf, him, me), and my boyfriend tells me to show him my teeth. I figured I had something in my teeth. The \"friend\" laughs and says \"she's so stupid\", talking about me. I'm completely baffled at this moment and had NO idea how to respond. I need great comebacks and stories to motivate me on how to stand up to this jerk! \n\nAlso, before anyone says anything, I ask my boyfriend to NOT stand up for me unless things get ridiculous. The story I just told, he told the guy to never talk to me like that again and we just left even though we were supposed to meet at a party later. It seems like when my bf stands up for me, this guy just picks on me even more when we're alone. Mind you, I'm 21, my bf is 25, and this guy is 24. It sounds like I'm describing middle schoolers, ha. I just want to know what you guys do to deal with the jerks in your life!\n\nBackground info about the guy for potential comebacks: He's 350 pounds. He's a virgin, but acts like a badass know-it-all when it comes to sex. He's never had a real girlfriend. He thinks he's the funniest person in the world and he's NOT. His favorite website is memebase if that sums it up for you", "summary": "My boyfriend's friend is a jerk to me. I want to know good comebacks and any stories you guys have about jerks in your life to give me motivation/dialogue to stand up to him."}
{"id": "t3_4v1r2f", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have an unhealthy mental obsession", "post": "Over the past few years, I had this voice speaking in my mind - as in a part of my subconcious that suddenly tells me I need to do something, or else \"insert something bad\". I feel so restrained by it and it's really giving me stress. It randomly pops ups, as in, I can be using the toilet and suddenly I hear something saying \"you have to take out the toilet paper and put it on the counter or else you'll fail your test\" The fuck? I get paranoid and do it, just in case.\n\n\"you have to turn that tap the wall 5 times over or else your boyfriend isnt going to get the job interview\" I do it\n\n\"you have to scratch yourself 2 times on the neck or else mom's gonna get sick\" \n\nIt just keeps going - it's mundane tasks with bad consequences and I have to do it. I have to go out of my way to do it. \n\n*Walking with someone* \"You have to blink really hard and stop moving for 5 seconds or else etc...\" \n\nWhat the fuck. I don't know what to do. And obviously I tried not obeying before and of course something bad happens. If i dont do it, my chest gets all tight and I keep thinking about it and even if I'm way past the point of returning to do it, i'd still go back and do it.\n\nWhat is this, why can't i physically stop.", "summary": "A part of me is controlling me and it's so fucking stupid but i cant stop."}
{"id": "t3_3lx4s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my SO[21 M] 4 years together, I wanna break up", "post": "Long story short, thing were always heated up between us. But now he is ignoring me, he is never making time to talk to me anymore. He says he is fine with a break up, so I guess I should just let go. He accused me of dragging him down when all he does is sit on his ass in front of the computer and play games. He never bought me a flower, never took me to movies without me asking for it. I never got a chocolate from him without having to ask for it first. I do not know, I just do not think that is the way relationships work...\n\nI would be in my room crying for like months before even telling him how horrible I feel. All he does is blame back on me everything and I just accept everything, even apologize for thinking he is not a good boyfriend. He takes advantage of my BPD. It is not normal but at this point I am going crazy.I just wanna be alone again, but I am so afraid...", "summary": "I do not really know how to break up"}
{"id": "t3_3v4ag8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend [27M] just came out to me as bisexual", "post": "I need help trying to gauge my feelings. \n\nI have been dating Logan for five months. I'm just going to be blunt, a lot of people think he is gay just because a lot of his personality fits the stereotype. He himself has told me that he knows people think this about him. \n\nI never questioned him because he genuinely cares about me and our sex is amazing.\n\nHowever, last week, Logan came out to me and said he was bisexual. He has hooked up and dated boys in the past. Telling me this, he said, in no way changes how he feels about me. \n\nWhen he told me this, I felt like everything I had been so self conscious about before came to life. I already know what people think of me: that I'm an oblivious girl who is clearly dating a gay guy. \n\nAnd this is the part that's really fucking with me: I'm less attracted to him now. This is on a purely primal and sexual level (I am of course a huge gay rights supporter and all that, this has nothing to do with being homophobic) but I'm just not turned on when he touches me anymore, because my mind keeps ruminating on the fact that he's also been with other guys. \n\nIs that horrible? It's kind of like how I don't watch gay porn because it doesn't turn me on. When he tries to fuck me, I think of how he has fucked other guys, and I can't get turned on. \n\nI just don't know what to do.", "summary": "My boyfriend, who everyone thinks is gay, just came out to me as bisexual. I don't know what to do, and I am also not turned on having sex with him anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3hx7tk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] So frustrated right now.", "post": "To preface: I've been working with my dog I adopted 6 months ago on leash manners, dealing with distractions and not pulling. He's 75 lbs and pulled me down several times when I first got him. He's worlds better, but still has triggers. \n\nWalking in my neighborhood tonight I ran across one of my more eccentric neighbors, Donna. Donna has a drinking problem and we've run into her before on walks. She is sometimes in her front yard and will scream at my dog to come there, usually when she is holding one of her cats. I've explained REPEATEDLY that Jethro is cat  aggressive and usually I have to drag him away while she yells that he just wants to say hello. No, he wants to eat your cat. \n\nTonight she did it again, no cat. When I stopped and held him, she walked over to \"instruct\" me on training him. She grabbed his collar and jerked while screaming at him to sit. I removed her hand, told her I had it under control and left. \n\nShe just showed up at my back door as I was letting him out, drunker than she was when I saw her earlier.  She proceeded to go into the gate of my yard as I asked her not to and start grabbing for my dog as she is spouting C\u00e9sar Milan crap at me about being an alpha. She grabbed his collar and started yanking on him again screaming at him to sit. He sat. Shit, I would've been so scared I would have sat down too. By this time, I get down to the yard and she is all but laying on my dog, hugging him. He is clearly uncomfortable and starts barking at her as she keeps telling me, \"See? He's so happy!\"\n\nI grabbed his collar and told her to get the fuck out of my yard and to never touch or talk to my dog again. I am so furious I'm  shaking, and Jethro is clearly freaked out.", "summary": "drunk neighbor tried to tell me how to train my dog by physically assaulting and probably emotionally traumatizing my dog. I know I'm traumatized."}
{"id": "t3_14g9nf", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Introducing my excitable (read: manic) dog to a toddler?", "post": "So here's the scoop: I have a lab/basset cross who is super SUPER excitable. We are talking jumping, tail wagging so hard her whole body swings and she hits herself in the face, mouthing, licking faces, etc. (A big part of the problem is that she has no idea where her face starts and ends so she is trying to lick people's faces and instead bops them in the face with her nose or teeth.)\n\nAll of these things are problems that we are working on with long term training, and she is getting a little better, bit by bit.\n\nThe problem is that a friend of mine is coming over with her toddler in the next while and I want to make sure I handle it right. They have a teeny tiny little dog (we are talking a two-pounder here), and he jumps and is hyper, but that is a far cry from my fifty pound, toddler-face-level crazy dog.\n\nMe plan is this: Have her on a leash when they come in and let her get her crazy SOMEONE JUST CAME IN THE DOOR phase over with. Get her to sit and stay (still on the leash) and see how she reacts to the toddler being near her. If she reacts well maybe get him to pet her or something, give her some treats if she is calm and maybe CONSIDER letting her off the leash if she stays calm. I suspect that this will not be the case. I don't want her to run at him and not stop on time or something, so I am thinking she might just be restricted to being out of the room with a child gate, but she will probably sit there and cry the whole time.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice or suggestions that I may not have thought of?", "summary": "I have a CRAZY excitable dog that I would like to introduce to a toddler. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_44cxmn", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "I [18M] don't know what happened to me during class today", "post": "Age: 18\n\nSex: Male\n\nHeight: 6 foot\n\nWeight: 175\n\nRace: White\n\nDuration of complaint: About 10 minutes\n\nLocation (Geographic and on body): Head, legs\n\nAny existing relevant medical issues (if any): Keratosis Pilaris. I don't think that's relevant, but better to just say anyway.\n\nCurrent medications (if any): None\n\nToday during my chemistry lecture my professor was not there. My TA put on videos that the professor told him to put on of the effects of radioactivity like in Polygon. I was fine until they showed a solider that had PTSD getting his arm ready for dope and they showed him giving himself heroine. I'm generally ok needles (I have immediate family that is a type 1 diabetic so I see blood and needles everyday). This more than just scared or disturbed me. I started extremely sweating and took off my hoodie and put my head down on my desk as I couldn't sit up. My legs were very weak and I probably couldn't walk if I tried. Then my head started going crazy and there was a lot of yelling and talking and it seemed very real (but no one was talking during the video for real). It got very loud then went away on it's own in a couple minutes. The loud part was the worst symptom. I'm fine now, but I don't know what happened to me and if it will happen again. I can picture the heroine being injected now just like in the video and not feel bad at all.\n\nThanks for any help in advance.", "summary": "Disturbing video made me sweat, weak legs, yelling going on in head. Don't know what happened to me."}
{"id": "t3_42qmo1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Finally got diet and exercise under control. Struggling with sleep. Help?", "post": "So I've never been a great sleeper. As a kid, I would stay up half the night reading just because I loved to read so much, but then struggle to stay awake during class. It seems these are habits I haven't grown out of as an adult. Whether I'm actively trying to get to sleep or staying up to read, I can easily stay up most of the night and not fall asleep until a couple hours before I need to be awake for work - thus making my work days a struggle. This has absolutely played into my weight issues, as evidenced by my late-night bored and mindless eating when I can't sleep. My doctor told me sleep would get easier as I get fitter, but I don't think it's working. Getting to sleep seems to have only gotten worse over the last month or so while I'm actively losing weight and eating significantly better, only now instead of late-night binging, I just lay there obsessing about food for the next day. Has anyone else struggled with sleep, and even moreso when trying to get fit?", "summary": "Chronic insomniac for most of my life, and getting fit is not helping me get more sleep. In fact, I'm usually getting less sleep. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_12wp18", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "my boyfriend of 2 years (18m) and I (19f) have been broken up for 2 months, something got in the way and now he won't speak to me. reddit, i have some questions.", "post": "so my boyfriend and I were dating for 2 years and suddenly broke up 2 months ago for reasons that are not necessary to this story. we spoke every day since, talking about getting back together and working things out and giving things another chance. About a week ago, he met this girl who everyone says is nothing compared to me, and let's just say she's a little over the top crazy (no, i'm not just saying this. she literally has issues; she was in our group of friends once and showed us all that side of her) and suddenly he didn't want me anymore and has stopped speaking to me since, and hasn't answered any of my messages to him. That was literally only a little over a week ago, and they have already had sex and speak everyday as though they are seeing each other. I guess my question here for everyone is, is she just a rebound or does he actually like her and will he come crawling back?", "summary": "boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me, we spoke about getting back together but changed his mind overnight after meeting this girl who was in our group of friends once."}
{"id": "t3_28puaa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24f] worried about my boyfriend [21m] of 3 years being overly interested in coworker", "post": "Me and my boyfriend were looking through the part of facebook that shows who you've been searching and I didn't like what I saw. He has been looking up this one particular girl he works with multiple times a week for months now. He hasn't been looking up anyone else more than once in the months I looked at. He's not close to her or anything and she never posts anything (her last post was months ago) so I'm having trouble grasping the reason he's looking her up so obsessively. \n\nHe says he doesn't want to be with her or anything, that he's just more interested in her than anyone else he works with because she's quiet and mysterious. He just wants to learn more about her. This didn't make me feel better, he has people he's pretty close to that he works with and the fact that he's more interested in her than anyone else makes me uneasy. The fact that she doesn't post much makes it even weirder, he'd have seen everything there is to see the first 2 visits tops. Yet he keeps coming back. \n\nHe thinks I'm being crazy, but I feel this is weird. So basically I just want to know if this is something I should be worried about or if this is normal.", "summary": "My boyfriend has been looking up female coworker's facebook profile a lot for the past few months and says he's just really interested in her because she's quiet. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_48mj0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO of 1 year (23M) was in a near fatal motorcycle accident a few years ago. He wants to buy another bike. I (22F) am 100% against this.", "post": "Okay so I've known my boyfriend for about 3 years now and we've just celebrated our first anniversary. He was in a serious accident in 2014 in which he hit a tree at approximately 120mph. He broke dozens of bones, was in a coma for a few weeks, collapsed lung, and a host of other issues. He still is in pain daily from the accident. \n\nWe were talking the other day about his horrible parking situation at work, and was thinking about getting another bike. He says the bike parking at work is empty so he wouldn't have to get to work a full 90 minutes before he has to just to get a space in the deck. I completely understand his situation, but I know I'd be worried every single time he got on that bike. Am I overreacting?", "summary": "BF wants another bike, I think it's not a smart move."}
{"id": "t3_3vwmsl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F]: my ex-fwb coworker turned into a douche", "post": "I hooked up with a coworker. Things were fine, but he was always kind of an ass to me. It lasted a month.\n\nNow, out of the blue, he began physically avoiding me and making the situation extremely uncomfortable in our small workplace. He is not interested in even being cordial and won't meet me to return something of his.  \n\nBut fuck, I did nothing! We left our last hook up on good terms! I respect his wishes but don't know how to stop obsessing over the situation since I am confused and can't help but assume it is me or something I did. It is especially hard because I was dumped prior to this and am trying to rebuild my shaky self confidence.\n\nI realize it's kind of dumb since I need to just get over it, but someone else must have experienced this and have advice for dealing with having to see this guy everyday. It's not like either one of us is leaving here anytime soon...", "summary": "How to deal with a ex-fwb that wants to pretend I don't exist but sees me everyday?"}
{"id": "t3_os99s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Suppose I have a year off from school or college, what supplementary skill/education can I learn that may benefit me further in life?", "post": "I am a year younger than most of my high school friends. I've been slacking off for too long and now I am afraid i won't get into any of the best college here. Rather than having myself go to a college with little credibility (quality of education is not spread equally here) this year, I've been thinking to take a year off and study exclusively for college test when I study. I will have a lot of free time aside from that. What useful things can i learn that will be beneficial for my life? I've been thinking about taking a French/German course, a cooking course, and learning how to play tennis. any suggestions?", "summary": "afraid won't get any good college, may have a year off, what should i learn?"}
{"id": "t3_x674m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure how to make this not vague...one guy who likes me is trying to turn me against guy I'm dating?", "post": "Yeah...so I'm 21F, dating a guy (let's call him Bob) who has been in Russia all summer for an internship. He's originally from Belarus but has been in the US for most of his life. Before he left we had been dating about a month but things were going great. We said we'd \"pick up where we left off\" when he got back, so technically no commitment. I, however, didn't want to mess anything up so I stayed loyal. He seems to have done the same since when I asked him to be sure and get tested if needed, he said I had nothing to worry about. \n\nNow another guy (Joe), who I dated for a short period but who ultimately screwed up his chance (I am still friends with him since I enjoy talking to him), has been messing with my head. Bob tells me how much he loves Russia, doesn't want to come back except to see me. Joe says there's no way he loves Russia unless he's \"getting European pussy.\" Says a man doesn't love a place unless he's getting sex. I should add that Bob isn't always the most forward with his feelings and comments on a page with scantily dressed women on Facebook, where everyone can see. Now that he's coming back in a week, he's been more vocal about saying he misses me and can't wait to spend time with me. Joe says he's just saying those things to \"butter me up\" to ensure that my \"arms and legs will be wide open.\" \n\nBasically Joe thinks I'm being blind and disrespected. I have a tendency to defend those I'm dating. Thoughts? Slap in the face? Let me hear it. Don't worry, I plan on talking to Bob when he gets back. And I've told Joe to stop talking to me.", "summary": "Guy I'm dating is coming back from Russia. Guy I used to date thinks he's been sleeping around and lying about it. Am I being blind?"}
{"id": "t3_1e2llx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - Friday evening work drinks.", "post": "So this week my company meet a deadline. Celebrations were in order and I was late too said celebratory beverage evening due to a late running task on another project. Nedless to say, upon my arrival, I attempted to mask up for list time. Shots followed by some tasty Scotch. I ended up making a total ass of myself and am now back home thinking to myself, how on earth am I going to face these people on Monday, let alone my wife tomorrow morning. I'm totally I'm in  the shit and have the booze to blame but mostly myself. I tripped up a lady I work worth, broke something of theirs and insulted a resteraunt worker. I should have known better. I feel forgot. I'm in bed in the spare Ron. The wife is mad at me, my Co-workers have seen a dark and rarely seen side out me... I just want to hide under a rock. Btw, I have only worked there floor almost 2 months. Oh the shame.", "summary": "Got drunk, behaved like an ass."}
{"id": "t3_4rk02p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my date [26F] of 2 months, we recently 'broke up'. Could I ever establish contact with her?", "post": "Hi,\n\nso i dated a girl for 2 months and everything was fine until she told me that shes upset cause her ex has a new gf so things became weird. We wanted to remain friends but it really didnt work out. In the end it escalated because i called her out for using Tinder while still having this thing with me - i acted a bit needy .. did the usual drunk texting and in the end she dropped off a USB Stick she had from me into my mailbox and sent me \"I dropped off your USB stick\" and that was basically it. I asked her if we could talk in person but she had no interest at all to talk to me cause she said me calling her out for using Tinder + the messages over the weekend were too much. \n\nI told her that i understand and that i will delete her number and wish her all the best in life and hope that she becomes happy one day (because she was having a hard time - her ex and all that).\n\nI am sure she also deleted my number from her phone. I have written it down on a piece of paper and gave it to a friend.", "summary": "dated girl for 2 months"}
{"id": "t3_uos9b", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Little bummed out.  Denied for a 15k car loan.  Keep trying?", "post": "So I've been looking for a new car for about a year now.  Finally found one I like.  Made sure I could afford the monthly payments with generic loan calculators online.  Well today I applied online at a local credit union only to be called back an hour later saying I was declined.  Reason being I have \"too recent\" of a delinquent student loan payment.  She also said that was all she had to go by.  Well I called my student loan company.  Last time I was delinquent was in Jan of 2011 with a 30 day late payment.  Otherwise I'm completely current.  \n\nI'm a little frustrated that she said my student loans were the only type of credit she saw.  12 years ago I got a small loan for my first car and in 2009 I got a secured credit card to establish and better my credit.  I had it for 12 months and is now closed.  \n\nMy credit score in in the 680 range, I know that doesn't mean a whole lot in terms of loan approvals but I'm sure they take in some consideration.  \n\nAm I really too much of a risk for $15k?  I'm a little bummed out about this.  Should I try another credit union to seek approval?  I know my credit takes a small hit when doing this so I don't want to waste my time and credit trying multiple places looking for approval if I'm going to get the same answer.", "summary": "Thought I had a decent shot at getting a used car loan, got shot down.  Do I continue looking for approval at other credit unions/banks?"}
{"id": "t3_3jktyf", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "F (20) needs time and space to focus on herself am I (M 21) fooling myself?", "post": "Just a guy here looking for some advice.  Me and my girlfriend of more than a year broke up like 2 days ago.  She told me she needed some time and some space to focus on herself.  We are both going to be extremely busy this semester and she told me she wants to focus on school and what not, and maybe when we are less busy we can give it another shot.  Now I wasn't thrilled by this but we met up, we broke up, I told her if she ever needs anything she can call me no matter what.  I still love this girl and she loves me too.  We have still been talking since we broke up but I am confused because I don't know if I'm fooling myself by hoping that we will eventually get back together.  She keeps telling me how hard it is, and how she misses me,shes called me in tears twice already since the break up.   I guess I just want an opinion from a females perspective of what is going on here.", "summary": "Girlfriend needs time and space to focus on herself."}
{"id": "t3_1ovcg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] need help. My boyfriend [26m] will not communicate with me, and our relationship is practically over because of it.", "post": "***Important", "summary": "My boyfriend let something bother him for so long, that now he doesn't feel the same about us anymore, but he literally WILL NOT talk to me about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_2u1605", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22F] moving across the country from my boyfriend [29M] for almost a year", "post": "Met my boyfriend at the end of September, we started basically dating, even meeting family members pretty quickly but didn't officially start dating until a couple weeks ago. I'm moving across the country in a little under two weeks, for a total of about ten months. I know it seems crazy/early, but we decided to continue to be monogamous while I'm gone, and go for the long distance relationship (which I told myself I'd never do, but I cannot imagine doing anything else in this situation) \n\nWe're both pretty devastated but also excited for what a cool opportunity this will be for me. I've never considered doing something like this with a relationship, so I have no idea what I'm doing and am looking for some pointers and maybe a few wise words on LDR. I've heard the first couple months are the hardest (which makes it sound like prison..) but that's about it. \n\nWe've discussed sending letters and gifts as well as texting and skyping. I want to be able to make this work without being too much of a downer all the time. Also without being too intrusive about what he's doing (and who he's with) while I'm gone.\n\nOh and I'm leaving less than a week before valentine's day and his birthday.", "summary": "Attempting my first LDR with a new SO, looking for advice to make it work"}
{"id": "t3_etsvf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Civilization V won't give an install screen when disk is inserted into drive. What do I do?", "post": "I've used two different PC's that are able to run Civilization V, and both read the disk, yet never give me an install screen to move the process along. The demo runs fine on my PC, so I don't think the specs are an issue; especially since that has nothing to do with the installation.\n\nI'm inclined to think it is something with my disk, but before I take action, I'd like to make sure I'm not overlooking an obvious step that I have not yet taken. Please help! I've been waiting to play this game for so long =p\n\nOh yeah, and Gamestop claims that they will not except returned PC games when opened because it is easy copy the game, and then just return it....even though they're return policy explicitly states that opened games can be returned for an exact copy of that game. They told me to email the manufacturer of the game.", "summary": "Civilzation V won't let me install on either PC's I have. Gamestop won't swap it for a copy, regardless of condition and want me to email manufacturer. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_10jpgz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College redditers, are any of you feeling as though most of your credits or other requirements are for the benefit of your school rather than your future? If so what situation has made you feel this way?", "post": "In contrast, if you haven't felt that way feel free to share what your college/university has done for you that has created a major, positive change in your life. I would love to hear some pleasant stories as well.\n\n    I'll start with my own experience. At the (minor) risk of being identified I will avoid sharing too many details.  \n\n    I'm currently attending a four year university after just transferring from a two year college. I was very excited when I scored surprisingly high on a placement test for a subject directly related to my major. This later turned into a bad thing as I discovered I still owed credits for the four classes that I had tested out of (20+ credits). Other classes that I could earn these credits in are less related to the subject and are worth half the credits of the normally required classes. This means I will have to take eight classes in the subject instead of four. \n\n    I asked myself why the school did this and I could not think of how this would benefit me. I asked my adviser why and was told that's just the way it is. The school would get more money, I would attend longer, and they would be able to claim to have contributed to a larger chunk of my education. How does this help me at all? \n\n    I considered studying abroad in a place where I could earn the credits by taking more advanced classes in the subject instead. However, I was told that as a new transfer student it would be preferable (likely required but I haven't found out yet) that I have more credits at that school so I am more established there. Again I thought about why this is. I can't see how this would benefit anyone other than the university. \n\n    I know it is idealistic to think that students shouldn't have to contribute to their school in some way but we are paying for it at least.", "summary": "I have to earn credits in classes I tested out of and would have been better off coming into the school without knowing anything about what I am majoring in."}
{"id": "t3_3q5414", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26/M . How can I make dating more productive?", "post": "I try my best not to turn this into a game or objectify women.  The cold reality for me is I'm not the best with women and I likely have to go through a lot of nos on average before I get a yes (no I don't holler at anything that moves lol).  With that being said I don't like to waste time on something that's going nowhere but I'm too ignorant to see the signs.\n\nHere's a summary of my last encounter:\n\nMet girl at bar on Saturday, texted Sunday, made plans Tuesday (little to no talking Monday/Tuesday), went out had a good time, wed talked vaguely about hanging out again.  I had plans that weekend so we talked on/off and later next week made plans for the weekend.  She was busy.  Talked on the phone and texted some more and made plans to hang out on next Tuesday.  Come Tuesday she was busy again (my fault for not solidifying anything I didn't want to appear desperate).  We talk but I was busy the following weekend so next week I tried to make plans she was busy.\n\nI got the hint and said something like \"lol you got a busy schedule I've been trying to make plans so now it's your turn if you want to hangout\".  I deleted her number and never heard back.\n\nThe point is I wasted 3-4 weeks on something I could have figured out in 1.  I even shuffled plans.  Am I wrong for giving 3 chances?  I sometimes travel for work and am legitimately busy.  How long should I wait inbetween attempts as to not look desperate?  Did I handle the situation right?  Any tips to make this more efficient?  If you're going to be a 'no' I need to know so I can move on .", "summary": "Please give feedback on the above."}
{"id": "t3_2w329q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thoughts on my ex [26M] of 3 years, cheating on his current gf [19F] with me [26F] but here's the kicker.", "post": "So my ex of 3 years has cheated on his current gf with me a few times. One time she found out. They fought but are still together in a now rocky relationship. She hates me and won't let us see each other . But he still does and still cheats on her. But here's the kicker I have herpes. Neither of them do. He's putting her as risk all the time. He is ok with the fact I have it and knows the risks. But she is at risk and knew she was the first time she found out he cheated. But he continues. Any thoughts on this. To mean it seams like he doesn't  give two shits about her.  Thoughts?\n\nI don't think telling her will get any where cus she is a little crazy and will think I'm just telling lies to get her to leave him. \n\nPlease no lectures about how I should drop him like a rock because that won't be happening since we are business partners and I would loose way to much to stop working with him and please no lectures on how I should just stop sleeping with him I know this shit. \n\nI just wanna know your thoughts on whats the point of him doing this is. \n\nAlso here's a little context to give you an idea of what kind of relationship  me and him had. \nFrom the beginning  of the relationship  we where in an open relationship  and we were allowed to sleep with other people any time we wanted, so first of all I don't  care if he cheats on her. But she wants a closed relationship with him and he says he will for he but doesn't.", "summary": "I need your thoughts on why my ex would put his gf at risk for an std by cheating on her with me."}
{"id": "t3_jrzgl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some help with a friend PLEASE!", "post": "Hey guys, I need some help deciding what to do.\n\nI've been best friends with someone for over 4 years.  We used to do everything together, talk 24/7, tell each other everything etc, normal friend stuff.  Lately this past year she's kinda been drifting away from me.  We still talk alot but it feels different.  We're both Muslim and grade 12 students (kind of important to understand how I'm feeling about this). \n\nAnyways that was some background info.  Now the problem is, a mutual friend emailed me some screenshots of her convos between her and a couple of guys.  In these convos she's been talking about having sex with a number of guys. She drinks almost everyday, does an assortment of drugs and alot more things.  People have always told me bout this stuff but I never listened partly because I didn't wanna believe it. All this is against our religion and that's partly why I'm mad.  Also, she doesn't realize how this is gonna affect her future, how its gonna affect her parents, and alot more.\n\nNow my problem: I don't know how to proceed with our friendship.  She doesnt know that I know (yet).  I'm completely outraged and appalled.  I'm not sure if I should just tell her I know, and then stop being friends with her...or if I should just start ignoring her now... or if I shouldn't tell her at all and continue on like nothing's wrong (last option).  So I'm asking advice from redditors who have experience with this stuff or can give me any piece of advice at all.  \n\nI really appreciate this, and if anyone needs more info, I'll answer all questions.", "summary": "best friend went from innocent girl to whore, and I don't know what to do with our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_4qypo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [29] dating two different women. [30,35] I want to get more serious with one, so how do I tell the other without seriously hurting her feelings?", "post": "I started dating two different women recently, and after last night I have decided I want to become more serious with one woman [30] over the other. [35]\n\nThe other [35] is really into me and is a sweet woman, but I am just not the right kind of guy for her.\n\nI have seen the one [30] 3 times and the other [35] about 5 times\n\nOne issue is that I will still see the other [35] in social situations. If possible, Id like to tell her I dont want to continue seeing her without making it so hard for her that she no longer comes out because Im there.\n\nAnother issue is that the other [35] told me the last time I saw her that she has an STI. This is one of the big reasons why I no longer want to see her romantically. Call me selfish but I dont feel like there is a 100% effective way to prevent the transfer. \n\nIs this possible?", "summary": "Dating two women, want to get serious with one, want to let the other down easy"}
{"id": "t3_32e57y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] got out of the friendzone with [18 F] after a year, now what? Did I screw up?", "post": "Well guys, I got out of the friendzone today. But not in the way we all hope. I finally told her that I can't be friends with her because my feelings are too strong.\n\nI've had a major crush on her for over a year and she's been dating her boyfriend, who lives at college, for about the same amount of time. He lives almost 5 hours away so they hardly ever see eachother. During this time, I've talked to her almost all the time. We went to homecoming together, and now prom too. She's a little bit out of my league, but does these little things all the time to make me think she likes me. (One of her friends agrees with me on this) However, having gotten nowhere up until homecoming, I decided to tell her how I felt. Which led to the friend zoning of myself. She told me she really loves boyfriend and can't see us together. Now, months later, I don't know what I've been expecting. She still shows the signs of interest toward me, and rarely speaks of her boyfriend. Unable to be friends any longer, I told her we should end the friendship. Now, her friend (who thought she liked me) is mad at me and says I screwed up. What do you guys think? Where should I go from here?", "summary": "got out of friendzone, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_1waxwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with [18 F] knew each other for a week, hooked up at the end of last semester, now were both back. Help.", "post": "I met this girl at a party last semester, she ends up inviting me to stay the night at her dorm. We didnt do anything that night partly because she was too drunk, i get her number the next day and we hang out a few times during the week.\n\nFast forward to the last saturday of the semester, we go to a party, she invites me back to her dorm again and we have sex. I text her that monday, knowing she leaves on tuesday, trying to have dinner or something just so i could see her again before she leaves.\n\nShe ends up telling me that she lied about a guy she knows back home and that theyre more serious than she told me they were before and that she only had sex with me because she thought i was cute, knew i wanted to, and that the other guy had been with at least another person since she left.\n\nI didnt really think about her too much during the break but i saw her a few days ago and now i cant get her out of my head. Help me out, i cant help but think things wouldve gone differently if the semester hadnt ended. Should i start talking to her again? If so how should u go about it?", "summary": "Met a girl at a party, we hang out during the last week of fall semester, we end up hooking up the last saturday, then she tells me about a guy shes interested in back home. Now that were back i want to know if its a good idea to start talking to her again."}
{"id": "t3_479hhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/20] suspect that my [F/20] girlfriend's male best friend [M/20] has feelings for her.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend Sarah for almost a year. She has a male best friend, John, with whom she is very close, but it hasn't proved to be a problem in our relationship, so I was pretty ok with it. I don't hang out with any other girls one on one, but that's just because I'm in a major with very few females, so most of my friends are guys.\n  \nEvery time I've met John, he's seemed friendly, but he is always somewhat short with me. He constantly texts and snapchats Sarah, except when he knows she and I are together, in which case he just stops. He also doesn't seem to like being around us when we're together, because he is awkward and looks somewhat uncomfortable. In the past when we've all gone out together he has tried to subtly assert just how well he knows Sarah in a way that seems competitive/confrontational. \n\n John has been on and off with one of his previous girlfriends since the time I started dating Sarah, but he can't seem to make anything stick. Sarah says it's because he just can't get over his ex, but I suspect that he might not be able to commit to anyone else because he has feelings for Sarah.\n\nNow the kicker is that next semester Sarah is planning on getting a single person apartment that is literally directly beside John's apartment, which she is excited about because they're good friends. This makes me uncomfortable, but not because I don't trust my girlfriend. I totally trust Sarah, and she is by no means a flirty or overly sexual person anyway. It's John that I dont really trust, and I think that for whatever reason she can't see or accept that he might have feelings for her. \n\nMy girlfriend doesn't know that I feel this way about John, because I know that she firmly believes that they have a platonic relationship (she may be right), and I think she might accuse me of being jealous or possessive if i tell her. \n\nIs it wrong for me to be feeling uncomfortable about this? Am I being jealous/possessive/controlling, or do I have any legitimate reason for concern?", "summary": "Girlfriend has guy best friend that I think might have feelings for her. Am I being jealous/possessive for being concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_2d2m2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] got dumped by my [17F] girlfriend of 5 months", "post": "She broke up with me on the 3rd through text and we're in different countries right now, we'll be around each other after summer though.\nbasically i was an asshole and didn't treat her the best i could.\n\nIt's been 2 weeks of no contact, but on the 3rd august she told me \"talk to me on the 16th\". Now I don't know why she told me to contact her, but I'm not sure if I should. I've been working on myself for these 2 weeks and overall becoming a better person and trying to love myself again. Right now, I can follow my mind, and I'm sure that if I get back with her I can be the person she deserves.\n\nMy question is, should I contact her on the 16th ? Should I wait for her to contact me ? I'm at the point where I can live without her, but I still see our relationship working better around this time which is why I wanna give it a shot.", "summary": "getting my ex back, dont know if i should wait for her to contact me, she told me to contact her on the 16th but im not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3rypxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24m trying to survive my 20's as all my college friends are moving away", "post": "I've been out of school for a year now but more and more of my friends have been moving away. I do live with one of my best college friends and we hang out and stuff and we have some friends who've stuck around but I really only hang out if my roommate makes the plans. He's a social butterfly - plays in 2 bands and 2 hockey teams. I'm more introverted - I like my down time, especially on weekdays as my teaching job keeps me busy. I know for a fact I don't have that kind of energy to maintain those commitments. \n\nI know you'll just say find a hobby but I'm just not really interested in specific stuff - I kinda just like chilling not anything specific like playing hockey or music. I have a girlfriend and the relationship is great because it's not one where it drains on my free time to meet other people, I just don't know where to start. \n\nI'm kind of a contradiction - I talk for a living conversing with students but I just don't like to be the center of attention and start conversations at a bar or whatever. \n\nI live in a midsize city so finding people is no issue it's just finding stuff that I want to do within the short precious weekend time I have. \n\nAny suggestions would be awesome to get over this seemingly typical mid 20s funk. Thanks", "summary": "in my 20s but friends from colleged have moved or are moving. 1 roommate whose more social. looking for easy ways to branch out that don't involve me undertaking some big new hobby"}
{"id": "t3_4uyyky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I date someone who's moving overseas for 2 years?", "post": "So, I (22F) recently met an a guy (22M) who's in the Air Force. We've been talking for about 3 weeks now and things are going pretty smoothly. He's nice, funny, and really sweet. Although I only see him on the weekends (he has a curfew), he goes out of his way just to make me happy and does the sweetest gestures. \n\nAnyways, he's going to be stationed in Italy for 2 year within the next 3 weeks. He asked me to be his girlfriend but I'm not sure what to do. He's never had a real girl friend so I'm worried that he won't accept me for who I am but rather the idea of who I could be. Plus, long distance will be very hard because I feel like the only way long distance works is with a strong foundation and we don't have that yet. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is should I give him a chance or should I just move on since he's moving away?", "summary": "Guy is moving to Italy for 2 years in 3 weeks and we only met 3 weeks ago. Should I give him a chance or cut my losses to avoid a heart break?"}
{"id": "t3_1ocplm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [21] has a guy friend who calls her \"love\" in his txts. What am I suppose to make of that?", "post": "Backstory: i live with my gf. We've been together a little over two years. We have our problems but she likes talking about how we'll get married one day, what children we'll have etc. Everything seems healthy.\n\nLast night, I took my gfs phone and looked at her texts for an unrelated matter. A guy who she's friends ended his texts with \"love\" several times. They work at the same place and he'd go, \"see you next week love\". He also commented on her looks once saying like, \"btw you look really good today\" and she replied thanks:). The other texts are along the lines of \"I'd you leave work yet you didn't say bye\" (him) and she's like ( I thought you were gone dear. See you tomorrow\". Nothing too glaringly bad although maybe this is all bad. I've never met him but she's mentioned him before casually. Is this normal? I really don't know what to make of it. I'll talk to her about it but I don't even know how to approach it.", "summary": "Gf of two years. Has a friend at work who ends his texts to her with \"love\""}
{"id": "t3_3rd9eb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [25m] crushed, confused, and not sure what to do about her [25f]", "post": "So I've been talking with this girl at work as friends for the last 10 months. We've become pretty close, nothing seemed to escalate beyond friends. She's in a serious relationship currently. That's only relevant because of what I'm about to say. We don't and never have communicated outside work and Friday was her last day here. Monday she stopped in to drop off some keys and gave me this monster sized letter. Literally 13 pages. Basically it stated how she is deeply in love with me and doesn't want to maintain friendship past working here because she is incapable of being just friends with me. She wants to be in a relationship with me. Now she also states she doesn't know how I feel but thinks I'm only interested in her as a friend and wouldn't believe if I had feelings beyond that for her. I really want to stay in touch with her, I want to talk to her about this, I want to share how I feel about everything. But she also states that she knows I'm a smart guy and I would be perfectly capable of finding a way to get in touch with her (because we have no contact info for each other) but asks that I don't. Because she can't be with me. \n\nSo I don't know what to do. I'm hurt, frustrated, I need to talk to her about it, but I know it will make things difficult for her. I want to at least remain friends but she seems to believe that isn't possible. Not sure what to do. Do I contact her? Should I try to talk to her about remaining friends?\n\n I've been thinking about writing her a response to her letter, one that expresses how I feel about what she wrote, it would also indicate that I'm not expecting a response or asking for one. Just letting her know how I feel about everything.", "summary": "my female work best friend, who is in a serious relationship, and doesn't have my contact info and I don't have hers, wrote me a letter saying she deeply loves me on her last day of work. Also said we can't be together or be friends because she is incapable of only being friends with me and asked me to not try and contact her because it will be too hard on her. I found a way to contact her, should I ? I want to let her know how I feel about what she said, it's eating me up inside."}
{"id": "t3_1rozng", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting a three year old with my hamster.", "post": "It's a bit of a long story, but bear with me. \n\nThis Thanksgiving, after my sister's persuasion, I decided to go to her family's house, since everyone else was going to be going there. I would be there all week, and I didn't want to leave my pet hamster, Buddy, alone for the holidays, so I brought him with me all the way up to chilly Montana. \n\nMy sister's daughter (who is three) absolutely feel in love with Buddy. She'd play with him, feed him, and hug him. She'd even asked me to bring his cage into her room, which I agreed so long as she never took him out unless there was an adult to watch. \n\nNow, a few hours ago, she was put to bed while the rest of the family would be out in the family room, enjoying the later hours of this day of feasting. Her room always got cold, and when the girl woke up to use the restroom, she looked over to see my hamster shivering. \n\nLike any three year old with an astute concern for life, she decided it would be a good idea to warm Buddy up by throwing him in the microwave. Now this would be breaking the one rule I gave her, but she would see it as saving the poor hamster from the freezing temperatures of the house. \n\nSo here I am, in the family room, far from the kitchen, when I hear a ***pop*** followed by a scream. \n\nThe hamster exploded within 42 seconds of putting him in there.\n\nHis blood, gore, and fur lined the window, with the bones jutting into the plastic frame of the microwave. \n\nI've spent to past few hours cleaning up his remains. \n\nMy friends, never trust a young kid with your pets. \n\nRIP Buddy", "summary": "My niece threw my hamster into the microwave and caused him to explode. "}
{"id": "t3_3a1w4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[21/M] debating if I should tell my crush [21/F] how I feel despite knowing she's seeing someone", "post": "So here's my situation. \n\nThere's this girl I like from college. We're both friends, we sat together during every class in the semester, we sometimes go out drinking with other friends, and occasionally talk via social media (Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, etc.) I can certainly say I have a crush on her but I don't think she sees me as anything more than a friend despite some occasions where it would seem we were \"clicking\". \n\nI mulled over about confronting her and telling her but opted not to since we're both going to study abroad in an exchange program from August to January; and you guys know how long distance \"relationships\" usually workout. However, I'm just finding out she has been going out with one of her other friends (Best friend's cousin to be exact. No, I'm not a stalker) and it appears to be getting serious. \n\nThere's this party- more of a reunion really- on Friday and we're both going to and we'll be staying the night. Considering how \"hurt\" I was when I found out about the other guy, I think this is starting to be a bit more than just a crush and I feel I should let her know before it's too late. \n\nSo the question is Reddit: should I go all Jim Halpert from The Office and just let her know or am I just going to ruin things? \n\nI've already paid the price before for not telling someone how I feel about them and worst case scenario is we won't see each other anyways during the next six months.", "summary": "Crush is seeing someone else and I want to tell her how I feel before we both leave the country to study abroad."}
{"id": "t3_3pz8kz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) recently began dating a guy (30M) who has less money than me and it visibly bothers him, how do I handle?", "post": "I (26F) recently started dating a guy, 30M, let's call him James. We've been seeing each other only about a month. \n\nI really like him. He is so funny, so smart, and treats me really well. \n\nThe issue is money. He has a low paying job right now and lives paycheck to paycheck; for example an unexpected $30 bill would put his acct in the negative. In contrast I have a full time job that pays me moderately well for my experience level, and I have several grand in savings (not a huge amount but I'm proud of it), always enough food in the fridge, gas in the tank, etc. Dropping $50 on a night out once or twice a week isn't a big deal to my finances, although I am trying to cut back on that sort of thing. \n\nI don't care that he doesn't have as much money as me, but he gets weird about me paying for stuff. I feel like I can't suggest doing anything that costs money without causing him stress. Example: I stay over and when we wake up the next morning I wanna go out to breakfast. He is visibly torn between wanting to make me happy by going out and wanting to avoid a situation that costs money. I've suggested cooking breakfast together but that doesn't seem to make him happy either since we would still have to buy ingredients (he like doesn't eat on his own...). Also, sometimes I want to be able to go out to eat or to a movie or concert etc. \n\nI just want to spend time with him, and I don't mind paying for our activities. But I don't know how to discuss it without emasculating him. \n\nAs a side note, his total lack of money is hopefully temporary due to some family legal issues that happened almost a year ago that I don't wanna get into here. He's not a deadbeat so I don't want that to be the topic of discussion, i have  faith in his ambitions/ future earning potential etc.", "summary": "Dating a guy who is broke but doesn't want me to pay for things, how do I handle it to not hurt his feelings"}
{"id": "t3_1ur29o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex dumped me over a year ago and i cant get over her (UK) i need advice", "post": "hi,\nso my ex finished me over a year ago. im still in love with her\nshe was severely depressed for the 4.5 years we were together, and she told me that it was my fault when she finished me.\n\nI was depppresed when she left and even though my life has become better (new job in london, flat, car, new GF) I still feel hurt and lonely without her. I have nightmares about her every night. i wake up in tears most nights. i think of her every day. she was my soul mate.\n\ni havent had contact with her since may 2013. her last txt basially told me to fuck off\n\nwe were in love and now she doesnt love me.\nit hurts.\n\ni just need to know if anyone else has been through this. does the pain stop? I miss her so much.", "summary": "Ex dumped me over a year ago after a long relationship. life has moved on but I still love her, any advice on how to cope/get over her. does it go away?"}
{"id": "t3_ilg6s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What misconceptions have people had about you based on your race?", "post": "I'm half Mexican and half Vietnamese. The one that comes to mind for me was when one day at the library this guy came up to me and somehow knew I was Vietnamese (I don't really look it) and became to loudly tell me how he loved Vietnamese women, if I would be his girlfriend and said matter-of-factly, \"Since you're Vietnamese, you're definitely a Communist!\" and proceeded to tell me how he loved Communism and spewed horrible racial slurs at everyone how wasn't (A) Asian and (B) a Communist. People began to stare and getting upset. I told him I was American, wasn't a Communist and the way he was talking was disgusting. Yet he blabbed on. I would have left, but I REALLY needed the computer I was working on at the time and I had to defend myself and the rest of humanity from racial slurs and incorrect stereotypes. I thought it was over after that day, but it happened for the rest of the semester.", "summary": "Guy assumed I was a proud Communist and fellow racist because I was Vietnamese. I'm not."}
{"id": "t3_10bb3o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Losing faith in myself, could do with some life advice.", "post": "Throughout my life, I have prided myself in my willingness to help others, I take satisfaction in knowing that I can help people that mean so much to me, but lately I've started to question whether or not this is something within me.\n\nI suffer from depression, and know a lot of people who do so also, herein lies the issue... I feel almost as if my entire life I've never actually been helpful to anyone, I have failed those I proclaim to care about so dearly and this has caused me to lose faith in myself.\n\nI'm very well versed in the english language, an articulate motherfucker if I do say so myself, and it has become clear that all that means is I'm able to make comments that *sound* like the right thing. The reality of it is far from the case though.\n\nRecently a friend of mine tried to kill himself, I took him to hospital and he seems to have obtained very little mental health support from staff (they've sent him home with a nondescript pill to \"calm\" him). It's important here to note that about 3 weeks ago he made another attempt on his life and I found myself coddling him in the street at 5am. I felt I reassured him though at this stage, but clearly that is not the case. I feel I failed here, because he clearly still wants to cause harm to himself and therefore I have not helped him in any way.\n\nNow I'm coming to realise that this isn't the first person I have failed. A close family member, my best friend, my ex; all of these people have experienced forms of depression, anxiety, trust issues and I let every single one of them down. They still live with these problems, despite my promising to help them, and if I don't do that for them then what kind of person am I?\n\nI suffer with similar issues, so why then am I not able to help with said problems?\n\nI am not who I thought I was; I would once consider myself a good person who has brought happiness to others, but now I'm starting to feel I have instilled false hope in these people, essentially sitting by as they suffer. This is my failure.", "summary": "I feel I have failed those I love and could do with advice to amend it."}
{"id": "t3_2jwka6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] have a bad dependent personality and it's causing problems in my relationships", "post": "I have always had a dependent personality and I am the type of person who gets addicted to and/or obsessed with things very easily. I get depressed when I have to be alone or go a period of time without seeing my friends or family. \n\nRecently I started dating my first boyfriend and things were going great and I was happy until almost 2 months later when he broke up with me out of the blue (\"no emotional connection,\" he said). This nearly fucking killed me because, like I said, I had become dependent on him and I fell very fast.\n\nNow I'm starting to feel depressed again and I fucking hate it. I don't know what to do. I really need to fix my issues because I'm scared that they're going to effect my future relationships. And I always feel like I'm annoying my friends because it seems like I have to be around them all the time. \n\nWhat do I do? I'd really like to avoid any kind of medication if at all possible.", "summary": "My dependent personality causes problems in my relationships and I always feel like I'm annoying my friends because I always need to be around them. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_redql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to get over worrying that my BF might like his female friend more than me. Advice?", "post": "We're in our 20's, been together for about a year, very happy and loving 90% of the time. The problems we do have once in a while stem from both of us being easily jealous. We almost broke up a few months ago because of a male friend of mine and jealousy we thought we couldn't get passed. I listened to advice and cut my hanging out with male friends, and now I hang out with guys on rare occasions. He still asks occasionally about this or that friend- have I contacted him, etc., but for the most part I know his trust in me has grown and I feel lucky that things worked out.\n\nOn his end, he has an attractive female friend that I used to feel super insecure and jealous about. They would go out drinking, and text, and I feared that he liked her more than me. Found out she wasn't telling her BF when she hung out with my BF, which seemed sketchy. Because her boyfriend objected, they stopped drinking together and my boyfriend told me the texting was minimal, and I've been feeling happier and more secure. Might be kind of fucked up that I'd feel good about it since he said it made him sad that they were not spending as much time together, but for me getting coffee once in a while is way better than going out drinking without SO's.\n\nSo his birthday is coming up, I'm making him a gift, and he told me last night that when he visited the store she works at she told him she's making him something too. I'm over the other stuff, but I feel like her making a handmade gift is intimidating. I don't want their friendship or this gift to be an issue for me, how do I get my mind to stop thinking about it?", "summary": "How do I get over feeling jealous of my boyfriend's friendship with another girl and the handmade birthday gift she's making him?"}
{"id": "t3_d7whb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay Reddit, I know you can help me out on this one...Need help identifying a bug found on my bed.", "post": "Okay, so here's the low down. I'm on my bed loafing when this bug mother fucker crawls up my arm. I'm naturally terrified even though he can't be more than a quarter inch long, so I scoop him up with some toilet paper and set him aside (he's still alive).         \n      \nI'm mostly concerned because recently I have been having an uncomfortable rash, which my doctor told me was most likely [this] I fit all the symptoms perfectly, so I am fairly certain this is what I have.\n      \nHOWEVER, part of me still fears bed bugs being responsible for this rash... So essentially this is why I am more concerned than usual to find a bug on my bed. NOW, I took the best picture I could of it considering I only have a crappy webcam, view it [here]       \n      \nMy description? He's about 1/4 inch long, 4-6 legs (not sure because he's tiny and I'm blind), thin, narrow body, it has 2 antennas and what appears to be a tiny stinger or something of that sort at the bottom of his body.     \n           \nAlso, this is a throwaway. I don't want rashes and bugs to be associated to my main account because I'm weird like that... I'm fairly sure it isn't a bed bug, but I'm still curious to find out what he actually is... So give me your best guess, Reddit!", "summary": "Bug spotted on bed, I'm worried, 1/4 inch long, thin, antennas, brown... Help me?"}
{"id": "t3_2ip2ha", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [Male 17] don't know what to do about my ex [female 16]. She said we might get back together, but now acts like she hates me.", "post": "Edit: Throwaway for privacy\n\nWe broke up a few months back, but have managed to stay really good friends. We don't have classes together, so normally we would talk in between classes and I'd sit with her every other day at lunch. Since the beginning of school, things were going great between us. We had even, while hanging out (on a weekend) the first time since the breakup, discussed the possibility of getting back together one day. Not now. Too complicated right now, but one day. She could really see it happening and I never stopped loving her. \n\nThat was at the end of August. \n\nThings were still going great between us. We hung out whenever we could, etc. Then, about 2 weeks ago(ish), she stopped replying to my texts and snapchats and everything. I continued talking to her at school, but she seemed like she was in a rush to get away from me. At lunch, she talks mostly to her other friends. I'll interject something, and she'll laugh awkwardly, but doesn't talk to me. She's not telling me about all the books she's reading. \n\nI have no clue what happened. The day before, we were talking and laughing like usual, the next, she's ignoring me. She won't even meet my gaze. When I talk to her, she sounds like she's mad at me. When I tried talking about what's on her mind, she just kinda looks annoyed and changes subject. \n\nI have no clue what to do. She's never been one to talk about what's bothering her. Every now and then, I see her act towards me like she did before, but it's rare. Help?", "summary": "Exgf (who I stayed close friends with) who once said she could see us getting back together, and brought it up several times, now acts like she hates me, and I can't think for the life of me why."}
{"id": "t3_1jfv2d", "subreddit": "self", "title": "About to lose my best friend in 3.5 hours.", "post": "My cat has recently been diagnosed with stomach cancer, and this was only after 1 month of treating her for IBD as they can manifest as each other. She has had her ups and downs recently and I just don't know how to deal with her being put down. I just don't know how to handle or process this well, I don't know if I should be there or be with friends trying to put it away in the back of my mind. My parents will be taking her to be euthanised at 6:30 pm, and I just can't handle it. \n\nI don't want to see her on that medical table where it is all cold and medical, and would much rather remember her being warm and cozy at home, is this the wrong direction to look at this? I just wanted to get this off my mind and read what other think. Im sorry if the grammar isn't perfect and whatnot but at this point of me crying all day I don't give a fuck about grammar.", "summary": "7 y/o cat being put down. Cant handle it. unsure to be there or not"}
{"id": "t3_2qbp2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am stuck in a poisonous relationship that is slowly killing me, but not having her [20 F] around I think would hurt more", "post": "So I started seeing this girl a few months back, and I like everything about her, she is everything I could want in a partner, the only issue is that our views on what we want from a relationship are different. She wants something more short term that isn't even really a relationship, whereas I am the long term kind of guy.\n\nAt this point we are in a strange place, I want to keep seeing her but I know that one day it will have to end and I have to weigh up the damage that ending it now will do with the damage it will do later.\n\nI kind of need advice or just opinions to stop me going insane here", "summary": "Stay with her for the good feelings, or leave her  now to prevent possibly more pain later on"}
{"id": "t3_1p048i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35M] with my wife [33F] of 9 years, how can I forgive and forget everything that has happened?", "post": "Thanks for reading and please let me know if I leave necessary info out. We had a happy marriage for about 7 years when I found out she was somehow involved with another man. I was told by third parties. \n\nWhen I found out she tried very hard to destroy my self esteem. We have both had counseling but it has not helped overall and was discontinued a while back. I was able to find out that there had been other inappropriate situations, though I don't know what went on in any of them. \n\nI decided to leave a few months back. She begged me to stay and has been working hard to be a good wife. One problem is she slips up sometimes and reverts to being how she was before. \n\nShe was always very demanding and felt entitled to a better life. This was in spite of the fact that according to both my friend and hers she was treated very well. She says her feeling that her life wasn't what she wanted led her to do stupid things but she wants us stay together. \n\nShe expected things like costume balls and five star restaurants, but also for me to do blue collar work because it's \"sexy.\" But whenever she goes out I'm reminded of what she did or may have done with those men. And every time she goes off on me I'm forced to assume she can't change or won't.\n\nWhat do I need to do to forgive and forget? Does what she did matter at all and should I know the truth? Should I focus on the overall marriage or those specifics? Can she change?", "summary": "She was unhappy for a variety of reasons despite my best efforts. She wanted a better life. I found out she had been spending time with another man and had done that before as well. She wants to stay together but I am unsure how to move on together."}
{"id": "t3_5461de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy losing his virginity", "post": "Ok, so long story short I started in college, im 19, a guy and a virgin. The group I hang around with were all friends already. I'm the only (or one of the few) who is a virgin, everyone's having a lot of sex. One girl, while sitting beside a friend of mine (new friend) who are kinda going out but not official said 'oh what block are you in?' I answered and she said 'oh... I'll be calling around there later so'..\n\nI kinda feel like I should be in a relationship with someone I truely love, the other half of me just wants to bang the hot girls who are not shy about their interests. I'm at a crossroads.\n\nOn top of that, I'm horrifically inadequate. I just don't know what to say, I'm so in my head all the time. I just fuck it up. I mean my way of flirting is basically jokingly insult them. For example one girl who's very hot lets call her Elizabeth. I call her Emma constantly. The others are so suave. They just know what to say and they're so comfortable with it all.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "not sure if I should wait till I'm in a relationship. And I am also socially stupid."}
{"id": "t3_o9nr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I will be proposing to my boyfriend on Feb. 29 this year. Need help!", "post": "So, an odd tradition in my family is that on February 29th, it's acceptable for the woman to propose to the man. \n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for two years now. We know we want to get married, and have already started making plans for a joint savings account, what subdivision we'd like to live in (so my daughter can go to a good school), and setting a budget. Seemed like a month ago, everything was set in stone and he was gonna propose any day.\n\nThen life threw us a curve ball. His dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer, his car gave out, and he's really stressed from work. Since he lives with his father, all his time and effort and money is going to either them or getting his car fixed. I'm there for him, and I've done all I can do, but that doesn't mean I still don't want an official engagement.\n\nSo, instead of expecting him to spend money he doesn't have to waste right now, I've dipped into my new computer fund (over 1k cause I wanted an alienware) and I'm going to Kay tomorrow to get him a ring. It's white gold with 7 black diamonds (3/4 of a carat all together) and to put it simply, it's pimp.\n\nBut here is my conundrum: I'm not quite sure how to go about this. I want it to be special, but I don't want to take away my feminity or the romance by switching the roles. So, males of AskReddit, how would you want to be proposed to?", "summary": "I'm proposing to my boyfriend and I need suggestions about how to do it AWESOMELY."}
{"id": "t3_2m8nwn", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Hey ladies of AskWomen, I need opinions on whether I should confess something to a female friend...", "post": "Just a bit of background before I go any further. I'm 18 (male) currently, and she's 19 (not that age should matter). We've known each other for 9 years, and are about halfway through year 10 of having been friends. Now, for these past 9 years, I've been in love with her. At first I thought it was just one of those \"School-ground\" crushes that come and go, but every year, she's been there in my mind and my heart. I've tried to push it down, but it keeps coming back. \nNow, I know that I should tell her, but there's a few things holding me back. First, we've been friends for such a long time, that I don't want to end it by opening up to her. Second, there was one time where someone asked if we were a couple when we were out for a lunch, and she just laughed saying \"No.\" a fair number of times. This was a couple of years ago, but it's still there in my head. We had a few one on one moments this last summer before she left for college, and it ended with a hug that went a fair bit longer than the \"just friends\" hug that I get from a lot of my other friends. Should I proceed and tell her how I feel, or should I bottle it up?", "summary": "I've known this girl for a long time, and we're both good friends. Should I tell her how I feel, and risk ending it?"}
{"id": "t3_hb94w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Five weeks of work, no scale movement.", "post": "Hi Loseiters,\n\nI am a 5'2 120lb female, who has been trying to lose 10lbs before my vacation in July. I've been on a low carb diet and now on a keto diet, avoiding sugar, carbohydrates, and most artificial sweeteners. My husband has also been doing this. We work out 3 days per week. I do weightlifting and HIIT. My caloric intake has been about 1100 calories per day (which I don't imagine is too little for my height and small bone structure).\n\nWe have a cheat day once a week, in which we eat carbs. \n\n**Here's my problem:** I haven't lost a pound. The scale has not even BUDGED. \n\nMy husband says he thinks I'm gaining muscle. But, really? exactly the amount of fat I'm losing? For five weeks? I will admit, I feel like some muscle has been gained, but not a whole lot. \n\nI'm at a loss. And not a tangible one. Could it be that cheat days have been negating my fat loss? I don't go overboard. In fact, most cheat days, I don't even feel that hungry or really enjoy the carb-loaded foods like I used to.", "summary": "I've been dieting with one cheat day and no scale movement in either direction. WTF?!"}
{"id": "t3_4t770u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [23/F] with [27/M] ex. Ghosted him. Would love advice on this situation.", "post": "Rough relationship with my Ex. We had a slur of breakups and times getting back together. I had not contacted him for 2 months since May and ended things \"officially\" back then. As I am leaving to start graduate school in a few days I decided I needed closure from the terror that was our relationship and contacted him 6 days ago. He came running back and the abusive cycle came up all over again. He told me he loved me, would make an LDR work all of this crazy stuff and that we would eventually get married.\nMy family hates him for many reasons. He's broke my car window, hit me with a book, you name it..But boy is he a charmer and a talker that makes you believe anything. Last night I left him with I love you's and I'll marry you's on both sides, spent the night with my brother and realized I was afraid to leave him again out of fear. He sent me an I love you text and I changed my number and blocked him off everything. What do you guys think about this situation. Feel free to ask for more details.", "summary": "ghosted my ex after abusive relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3ookze", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Unsure of how to connect with girls.", "post": "I am a 21 year old male college student and have never had a serious girlfriend. It's not a problem of looks or even meeting people. Honestly, girls give me their numbers all the time and I have a nasty habit of sloppily making out with random girls on weekends (which I have made a point of not doing anymore).\n\nLately I just can't help but feel kind of lonely. I just have a problem connecting with people. I don't know how to talk to them after I've met them. I always have really shallow text conversations with the girls who I meet and it all just feels forced to me.\n\nThere's always a \"haha\" thrown in there even if nothing funny was said. I don't ever know how to initiate conversation that isn't just a  random \"Hey, what's up\" and even after I send that text I never know where to go from there. I really don't know how to show a girl that I'm interested in her without feeling like a creep.\n\nNow, there's a girl I met last week at a concert who gave me her number. We've had one or two text conversations but nothing too extensive. I've gotten to this point with a lot of girls and I always just stop talking to them because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say. I just don't know where to go from here, any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I meet a lot of girls out, they give me their number, I stop talking to them because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say."}
{"id": "t3_42t1zj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23/F] worried about my dad's [54/M] eating habits and think he may have an eating disorder.", "post": "So, for starters, my dad has been vegan since before I was born. This is not a problem -- me and my mother and sisters are vegan too. He practices it differently from me in that he refuses any processed foods and is very strict about ingredients like beetle in food dye, bone char in sugar, etc., so what he eats is already very restricted. He's always been intensely health-conscious and practices yoga and Pilates, biking, as well as doing strength training and other programs.\n\nHe often gets into specific \"fad\" diets for periods of time, which are always a bit worrying, especially considering that he's extremely thin and still expresses that he thinks he's fat.\n\nMost worryingly, he's been on a raw diet for about a year, and he's thinner than ever. And now on top of that, he's doing \"intermittent fasting,\" which means four days a week, he only eats 500 calories all day (and doesn't eat until dinner time).\n\nI've talked to him about what I think about his diet, but he's fully convinced he's being extremely healthy and this diet will increase longevity and prevent cancer. But he's bone-thin and he doesn't seem satisfied with that -- he wants to push further. I think fasting is also a spiritual practice for him, as he seems to see it as a way to test his willpower and mindfulness.\n\nFor me, it looks like orthorexia or even anorexia. I understand that intermittent fasting can be healthy for some, but he doesn't need to lose weight and simply isn't getting enough calories. I can't exactly force him to change, and anytime I bring it up, he brings up studies he's read, programs he's watched, etc., that convince him what he's doing is healthy. I'm convinced these studies and programs are more relevant for people who are overweight and need to burn fat, and that at this point he should actually be concerned about having enough fat on his body as he transitions into old age (both his mother and father have trouble with appetite and are far too thin).\n\nWhat can I do in this situation?", "summary": "my dad likes fad diets and is far too thin, now on a raw diet for a year+ and doing intermittent fasting. Won't listen to me and thinks his diet is very healthy. How can I stop this?"}
{"id": "t3_2oie9l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] Falling for my high school friend [18/f]; Don't know what to do", "post": "Some background info: I'm in college, 18, no girlfriends yet. It takes time for me to like someone enough to where I want to pursue them.  I only pursued one girl in high school. Throughout high school, I was plagued by the \"friend zone\" and my introverted nature. Needless to say, my pursuit was fruitless.\n \nRecently, I have reconnected with a friend from my class.  She goes to the same college as me now.  Back in high school we had a great relationship;  We both played on the tennis team and took most of our classes together.  I was open with her since freshman year about advice on how to pursue my crush, and I also helped her with her troubles here and there.  We kinda fell out of touch after HS but she recently contacted me.   \n \nI like this girl because i can be myself around her.  She has a very caring, optimistic, hardworking personality that i love, not to mention that she's beautiful.  Our conversations come with ease and are usually very entertaining (she makes the introvert me go away).  \n \nI'm afraid I was too caught up in my pursuit of the other girl in high school to appreciate my friend back then.  After we recently reconnected, I took her to lunch with me.  I think she got the vibe that I was interested in her so she was a bit nervous, but i think we had a great time nonetheless.  However, I texted her the next day and asked if she wanted to come study but she said that she had no time (excuse: finals/retail job), but i have found out that she has been hanging out with another friend from HS (he's not interested in women) a lot via social media.  \n \n I REALLY do like this girl and I think she may have just a hint of attraction towards me.  I really don't know what to do now; I have texted her once since then but it was strictly school stuff.  After our lunch she said she definitely wanted to play tennis after finals were over.  \n\nWhat should i do? Why did she blow me off? Advice / viewpoints welcome.", "summary": "Falling for super cool friend [18/f] from HS.  Don't know what to do. She may have blown me off. {sorry not sure how to summarize this situation}"}
{"id": "t3_342kys", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying my computer's hard drive.", "post": "Obligatory not today...\n\nI worked late the night previous and my GF woke me up early in the morning.  Being that I was already in a salty mood my GF decided it would be best to start an argument about a very important topic.  In fact, it was so important that I can't even remember what the argument was about.  In any case, I felt the only appropriate response would be to chuck what was in my hand at the time, a lighter, at the door in my apartment.  Well, due to my athletic prowess I managed to misfire completely and hit my laptop which was on the coffee table.  At first I thought I got lucky and only hit the coffee table.  It wasn't until later when I tried to boot up my computer, and failed, that I discovered a little dent next to the mousepad on my laptop.  Wouldn't you know it, the lighter hit in the perfect spot to destroy the hard drive.  As I sat there, listening to the dreaded \"click of death\", I couldn't help but think TIFU...", "summary": "Destroyed hardrive due to mild athletic retardation.  How do I fix the \"click of death\" reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_4kxil0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Confused by crush. Don't know hot to start conversation", "post": "One girl I kinda like etc etc. I have seen her fairly often around highschool (kinda small)\nWe've made awkward eyr contact a few times, but I've never talked to this girl once, she's 2 grades below m and hangs out with the \"shy\" group (might have something to do with it?)\nIve Never talked to her, I'm too shy to start a conversation, but she found my Instagram account and followed me ? Out of the blue \n\nI really wanna start a conversation (over dm, that too bad?) But don't know how to say anything without coming off as a crush or sounding mean. I also don't wanna make her feel awkward by saying \"why did you follow me\" \n\nWhat should I say? Or do?\nSorry for grammar, in mobile", "summary": "crush followed me on instagram out of the blue. Never talked to her before, wanna start a conversation over dm"}
{"id": "t3_38peed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my ex boyfriend [20 M] of 3 weeks, wants to sleep together but no sex, just sleep?", "post": "So my ex and I have a pretty long history. We started dating about two years ago, dated for about a year, broke up, got back together about 10 months later, and I recently broke up with him. He was surprised by the breakup because he said he was \"the happiest he's ever been\". We spoke about a week after the breakup and he said it was hitting him hard.\n\nAt first I thought space would be best for us, but then he started having family problems and needed a friend. I'm his closest friend in the area, so I decided his health was more important and that he needed someone to talk to. \n\nWe hung out all day on Wednesdsay, had a great time. We went canoeing, did some shopping, and made pizza together at his place. At the end of the night I was really tired and didn't want to walk home, so he told me I was welcome to sleep \"on the extra bed or in his bed\". I chose the extra bed, because I wanted to draw a line to where this was going, but why would he mention his bed? \n\nI know a lot of people are going to say because he wanted sex, but I'm 90% sure that is not the reason. I have a small history of sexual abuse, nothing like rape, but I am very uncomfortable with sex and he knows that. He's a very cuddly person so I'm also just thinking maybe he wanted some affection. He also mentioned to me that about a week ago he had sex with this rando. So I don't know how much he has moved on, or if he was just sad and horny.\n\nBasically, part of me thinks \"Don't lead him on\" and another part of me thinks \"He's just cuddly and some affection will be good for him\". But then again, how many people who are just friends sleep together? He is my only guy best friend and it doesn't help that we had a really deep bond and still do.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Hung out with my ex of three weeks all day, end of the night he offers me to stay in the extra bed or in his bed, I chose the extra bed. I can't gauge his reaction to the breakup. Is he over it and it's safe for me to show him affection in a time of need (he is having family problems), or will I most likely lead him on or make him feel even more loss? I just want to be a good friend. Thanks in advance."}
{"id": "t3_4dbhuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] girlfriend moved out without telling me [24MtF]...", "post": "I met my girlfriend two Decembers ago, and I asked her to move in after we dated for four months. The problem is that she's very independent, and that she's never lived with an SO, until me. We've lived together for about a year, and have been together for nearly 1.5 years. \n\nOur relationship isn't the best; I'm diagnosed borderline and can be quite the emotional mess sometimes. I cook for her sometimes, do the laundry, etc. She works. I know she hates that I smoke, but I also know she loves me and that our lives are better when we're around one another. We always talk about things and always tell the truth, no matter how much it hurts. It was one of the first things we promised to each other.\n\nShe hates the city I Iive in, because it's not very close to where she works, but also because this place is plain awful. She just graduated with a degree. We had discussed moving out earlier, and agreed that when the apartment lease ended this August, we would move together to another city, closer to her work.\n\nI came home today to all of her stuff missing. She explained to me that this isn't working for her, and had already rented her own apartment. She wants space for herself while I finish up in college (8 more months). Then after that, we'll \"reevaluate things\". She promises she still loves me and wishes to stay together, and that she just needs space.\n\nExcept, I'm hurt and I feel that my trust in her has been betrayed. What's to stop her from deciding that she doesn't want to keep dating me once she's living on her own? I've been through this scenario now three times with three different women. It doesn't end well; when the SO \"needs space\" it's usually a sign of a relationship that is falling apart.", "summary": "GF moved out without telling me and I feel like our relationship is rapidly coming undone. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ycgu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is the funniest thing you have seen while at school?", "post": "Mine was a t the end of the year. All the students had to take their math final in the school gym. There had to be about 400 kids in this one room. My friends and I all had the same teacher, so they way they sort it us was by teachers and we were all right next to each other. Our teacher specifically had a tradition of giving lollipops out to her students during the final exam. My friends and I are all done and just casual looking over to each other and what not.  My three friends decide to take the lollipops out of the wrappers and start eating them. Eventually this turns into them pretending to give blow jobs on the lollipops. They start making gurgling and choking sounds that someone would make while giving a blowjob. We were sitting in the middle of the gym and it was dead silent. I began to laugh hysterically over this. I realize I made the entire gym look at us and my friends and I begin to crack up. Everyone goes back to their tests and my friends decide to do there blowjobs again. I keep my head down trying to hold in the laughter. Needless to say, we all begin laughing again and everyone stares at us over some laughing and blowjob noises.", "summary": "Teacher gave out lollipops during final exam. Friends make blowjob noises in silent gym. We laugh our asses off."}
{"id": "t3_1dob4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't have a title, just venting I guess.", "post": "I've been with my wife since we were 14 years old, met her in 6th period freshman year and have been madly in love ever since.  We have never been the common couple, always using what works in every situation to make sure we were making each other happy.\n\nWe are best friends, even after 16 years together we get along great, I can honestly say that we have the best relationship I've ever even heard of.\n\nThe only downfall to our relationship and it's been like this since the beginning is sex.  I have such a strong sex drive and she has none, it is not an exaggeration, she has absolutely no sex drive.  \n\nAt the peak of our sexual relationship we probably had sex once a week, but now with our second child coming in August it has all but disappeared.  We haven't had sex since February 2nd and although it doesn't sound long, it is a lifetime for someone with my sex drive.\n\nShe knows this is an issue because regardless of the situation we have always been good at communicating.  She feels sorry that she can't match my drive but isn't willing to compromise.  \n\nSo reddit, I've seen such great advice on this site, many people helped with a simple explanation on how things might go with certain solutions and at the very least it has helped me vent but please, from a fellow redditor and just someone who is sincere in finding a solution help me out.", "summary": "Been with my wife 16 years, great relationship except for sex, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_hxle9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going from Masters Degree to Hitchhiking?", "post": "So my brother is graduating with a bachelors degree soon and wants to stay another year and a half to get his masters degree. He's recently developed this great idea that after graduating, he wants to hitchhike across the country and perform circus type tricks to make ends meet (unicycle, hacky sack, juggling, etc). He doesn't want a 9-5 job where he's tied down and just wants to go live life freely. He cited The Spartan Student as a reference as to how he can make it work ([link] To make things worse, he doesn't have plans as to what he wants to do with his masters degree in computer science. He just wants to get it because it's only another year after his bachelors.\n\nDoes anyone have any sort of experience with this type of mentality? What are the dangers of living like that? Do others think this is as dumb as I think it is?", "summary": "Brother has 2.5 years to get bachelors and masters in Comp Sci. Plans to \"live like a hobo\" afterwards, hitchhike around, and perform street tricks to get by. How dumb is he?"}
{"id": "t3_2iwwkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey guys really need advice on a situation with a coworker, (F23), (F32)", "post": "Hey guys I could really use your help. \n\nAbout two weeks ago I return to work from a hiatus, the office I work for hired a new girl lets call her Lucy. I've been getting to know Lucy and from what she has been telling me about her life, I've felt sad for her and started feeling a friendly connection. \n\nToday she seemed very upset and I asked her what's wrong. She told me what made her upset and what triggered her anger. The story that triggered her anger was very specific. She said it was even covered by the news. \n\nSo I get home and I'm bored and decided to google her story and a similar story that occurred 4 days ago pops up. I thought I wasn't looking specific enough a and so I decided to google her name. The second link was about her being arrested last year, bail remanded and her charges included being arrested for have over 500 bags of heroin, illegal guns and more drugs. Still thinking it was a coincidence I scroll through the rest of the article and Lucy's mugshot was there clear as day. \n\nHere is my dilemma. Should I tell my bosses? One part says yes we deal with money, personal client information including cc and ssn numbers and controlled medications. also that's the honest thing to do but another part days no. What if she trying to turn her life around? I don't want my conscious messing that up. She has yet to go to trial, so by legal technically she isn't guilty right? Also what if my employers already know, gave her a chance, and now I look like the busybody trying to get the new girl fired. And lastly if my employers really cared they would've done a background check right? Or at least have sense to google her. I really just don't know what to do. We work two feet from each other. If this was to continue I don't know how to be easy peasy about this.", "summary": "Coworker lied, found out something about her that can jeopardize her job."}
{"id": "t3_3bxgkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 4 months, Every time I get angry with her, she agrees with me, then tells me reasons why she's entirely justified in doing what she did.", "post": "So, I'll be having a conversation with her, and she'll throw something out there like,\n\n\"So I was sleeping in the same bed as (her gay [M 18] friend, we'll call him 'Michael' who I'm friends with), and we were cuddling and he... *blah blah blah*\" \n\nAnd I'll tell her that I'd really prefer she didn't sleep and cuddle in the same bed as any guy other than me, gay or not. It's not that I don't trust Michael (If I didn't, I'd be pissed at him...), it's that it just makes me uncomfortable to think about.\n\nAfter explaining how I feel about the situation, she'll apologize and agree with me that she shouldn't do that... all is well and good.\n\nExcept she starts justifying herself. Relentlessly. She'll tell me a laundry list of reasons why it's okay to sleep and cuddle with Michael. Such as: \n\n\"Michael and I are good friends that go way back. I do stuff like this all the time.\" (Gee, that one makes me feel better) \"There's nothing to worry about; even if Michael wasn't gay, I wouldn't be interested in him. \" (Not exactly fair to Michael, is it?) \"You look better than Michael does.\" (That means nothing to me.)\n\nNow, this behavior is causing problems because I can't tell if she legitimately agrees with me or disagrees with me, and there is literally no closure in any of our arguments. \n\nI'm more than willing and happy to reach a compromise with her. I.E.: If she makes a good case for why she can cuddle with Michael, but not sleep with him, I would consider it.  \n\nI've talked to her about it, and.. guess what.. she agrees with me, then explains why she's completely justified in doing so.\n\nI'm frustrated. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend can't agree with me without adding that she was justified in doing something that makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_4ngbty", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Seriously need some help on how to act and handle a friend.", "post": "I'm having serious issues getting a grip on my jealousy/anger in dealing with a lady friend of mine. I'll try to be as blunt as I can here. We've been flirting back and forth for about three years now, other than some heavy petting and making out, nothing else has happened. I know...three years....time to leave. The issue is that I've developed strong feeling for her in that time and don't want to just walk away. At the same time, she appears to \"flirt\" with my friends and acts quite affectionately toward one of them. I hate this, I can't stand it. I know I don't control her, we aren't a thing, and she's free to do whatever. The reason I say \"flirt\" is because I can't even tell if it *is* flirting or friendliness, my gut says it's the former...though he has a gf. \n\nIn the time we've been together, I think I've become obsessive/possessive of her, she acts differently toward me, less affectionate, and distant. However still flirty and attracted. I can't tell if I'm looking too far into everything or if things *really* are happening behind the scenes. \n\nI think the bottom line for me is, I can't stand her knowing full well how I feel while flirting with my friend *and* me. It infuriates me that she won't flat out tell me what's going on. \n\nI'm hurt and angry, I can't help but feel betrayed. I feel as if my friend has taken my place and now she just sees me as....whatever. I realize this is jealousy, but it don't know if it's unfounded or how to stop.", "summary": "I feel hurt, angry, jealous, betrayed, and confused. I'm I right to feel so, how do I stop for the sake of my sanity and our relationship with her."}
{"id": "t3_cp5yu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I know I am overreacting a bit here, but am I in the wrong?", "post": "Hey all, I browse this subreddit a lot and try to add my two cents in when I can, and now I need to vent and ask for your advice. \n\nRecently my girlfriend and I moved in together and my Mom sent us a gift card for 25 bucks to Bed, Bath, and Beyond. We never got around to going to the store because it is a little bit out of our way. \n\nToday my girlfriend texted me saying she went to Bed, Bath, and Beyond to buy a friend of hers a present for her upcoming wedding. A small present, but she then said she used the Gift Card for the purchase. \n\nThis really pissed me off. First, it was a gift from my mother for something to buy for our new apartment. Second, it's not like we can't afford to buy the gift on our own. We are both successful, so to me I thought it was really disrespectful. \n\nWe got in this huge argument and I am still really pissed at her. I just can't believe that she used something my Mom sent us for our apartment to buy something for someone else. I know it sounds petty, and it most likely is, but would any of you get pissed at this, too?", "summary": "Girlfriend used gift card from my mom to buy a present for her friend's wedding. It really pissed me off."}
{"id": "t3_342j0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update to \"I [24f] am thinking of leaving my boyfriend [25m] and moving away by myself. Am I crazy?\"", "post": "Original [here](\n\nI bought the ticket, put in my notice at work, and am just a couple of weeks away from relocating. I found a job and a place to stay on the island. \n\nEx-BF and I were going to stay together til the flight and end things on a good note, but I think having an expiration date on our relationship just made things awkward. So I ended it about a week later. I went out with a friend and we ended up kissing outside the apartment building. Ex-BF happened to exit the building at that moment from a door two feet away, to walk the dogs. It was awkward but when I got back inside I talked to him about it and he wasn't even mad. I guess that was the moment I knew I made the right choice. I wasn't expecting him to do anything crazy like fight my friend, but if there were still feelings he would have been at least upset. But there was nothing.\n\nThings are okay. I am still living with him but sleeping on the couch. We are cordial to one other and mostly just keep out of each other's way. I should feel sad but I just feel numb. I'm sure it'll hit me later. But we've been unhappy for so long that it kinda feels like we ended it a long time ago. \n\nI'm really excited to leave. I've just got two weeks left here. Thanks for all your help, you guys. I feel like I've just set down an enormous sack of potatoes that I'd had strapped to my shoulders without realizing it, haha.", "summary": "Broke up and I'm moving to Hawaii!"}
{"id": "t3_1vken1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to approach a girl you don't know at all?", "post": "I'm a senior in high school. The girl I have a crush on is two years younger than me and I really do not know her. I had a minor crush on her last year and then that faded when I started seeing a girl, that thing ended quickly, in five or so months. I started getting a crush on her again over the summer, when volleyball practice started as she was on the JV team (I was on varsity). Since the girls practiced at a different time than us and their games were opposite from us (we were away when they were home), I never had a chance to talk to her. I see her every few days at school, but she's usually with a friend and such. I believe she's one of the \"popular\" girls in her grade and I'm the guy equivalent of \"popular\" in my grade, but she doesn't go to parties or hang out with upperclassmen, so I can't get introduced. I know a club she's in and it's too late to join it since it's like a student government/debate club.\n\nWe don't have any classes in common since I'm two years older than her. Her main group of friends is large, and I have this sort of approaching anxiety and just can't approach her (I get nervous even when I'm walking past her). I'm relatively extroverted and good at conversing with people, so that's not the problem. I kind of know two of her close friends as they used to ride my bus, but I don't talk to them often. I've largely spent the last summer and the past four months of school focusing on having fun with friends and academics; I wasn't really worrying or caring much about relationships and dating. But now I realize that the end of senior year is approaching quickly and that I'd like to get to know and perhaps date this girl. What should I do, reddit? Thanks a ton, I truly appreciate the help!'", "summary": "Like girl two years younger than me. Can't join the clubs she's in, kinda know two from her large group of girlfriends, she's popular in her grade, she played JV Volleyball for our school, I played varsity, senior year is coming to a close quickly."}
{"id": "t3_e0te2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting TONS of spam calls from unknown numbers", "post": "Starting since about the second week of October, I've been getting LOTS of calls from unknown (out of state, 800, restricted, even one from a +20 international number) numbers, some of them calling 5 or more times a day. *I have not answered any of them* - most come in while I'm at work and I'm just angry and being disturbed and reject them immediately and add them to the blacklist. Maybe it's poor of me that I can't say what any of them are calling about... but given the numbers they're coming from and the lack of voicemail, it's safe to assume they're calls I do not want.\n\nIf it were just one or two numbers I'd ask them not to call back, but there's a new one almost every day. My blacklist has close to 20 numbers on it now. I thought they might stop after the elections but they haven't. Actually I got one today that finally DID leave voicemail, knowing my name and claiming they were responding to an information request from MIT. I've never been in contact with MIT in any way.\n\nTo the best of my knowledge I haven't given my number out to any new entity in recent months. I am on the Do Not Call list. I've had the number for the better part of the decade and it's normally extremely quiet except for calls from friends/family.\n\nI'm seriously considering just abandoning my number, getting a new one and then using a Google Voice number to give out to companies that require that information and putting the GV number on Do Not Disturb mode forever.", "summary": "Getting shit-ton of unwanted calls on cell, frustrated."}
{"id": "t3_26fpvb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to wipe with baby wipes and using the wrong thing on accident. (NSFW)", "post": "Around 3 in the morning me and my lady are getting frisky and by the end of sexy times I am exhausted and want to go to bed. In order to feel cleaner so I can lay down and go to sleep I go to the sink, grab some wipes and clean off my dick and balls (it was dark and we were sloppy so I got thorough). After I finished wiping up I started feeling a small tingling then I noticed that I didn't grab baby wipes. Instead I grabbed fucking Clorox Wipes and scrubbed the most sensitive parts of me with it. And that's when the burning started. My GOD did it burn. Felt like a total idiot for even having those two objects near eachother, it was so awful...", "summary": "I accidentilly clorox w/bleach-ed my junk and it was so firey and intense that I danced around wildly and wanted to cry."}
{"id": "t3_4g6ctf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to spend time with me. Is this odd, or am I overreacting?", "post": "Ok, so I have children and my girlfriend has a child. They are around the same age, and they play well together. My girlfriend lives with her parents and I live alone due to a divorce. She has her child all the time, and this doesn't bother me. I get my children regularly, and I enjoy that, but she never wants to get our kids together even though they get along fine. \n\nOnto the real issue here. We only really spend any alone time together every other weekend when she doesn't have her daughter. The only way I get to see her during the week is if I go to her parents house. We've been together six months, and I just don't understand why she wouldn't rather be at my house where it's just us. \n\nI feel like I'm on the back burner for two weeks and then I get two days with her and the cycle repeats. Occasionally she will get free time away from her daughter, and instead of trying to do anything with me, she schedules something with friends and doesn't invite me. \n\nI feel like she doesn't put in any effort. My divorce has been messy, and it has made it hard for me to understand a lot of things my girlfriend does. Therefore, I wanted to ask here if I'm completely overreacting and she's just needing her personal space, or if it is indeed odd. \n\nIn most relationships I've had, in the beginning we tried to be together as much as possible. This relationship hasn't been like that at all. I go several days without seeing her. We don't talk much. She doesn't come to hardly any family functions of mine. She doesn't invite me to anything she does unless I practically invite myself. It just seems like strange behavior to me. \n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "My girlfriend isn't making an effort on the relationship, and she only sees me when I push the subject."}
{"id": "t3_2adfmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [18/F]. She was talking to a guy that had feelings for her.", "post": "Okay so basically, one day I found out that this guy that she met before me, loves her. A couple weeks ago he basically said I love you to her but she didn't say anything back, kinda avoided it by saying don't cry and stuff to HIM because he was crying.. But she told me a week before she went to see him that i'm going to go see this guy, but at that time I didn't know that he had feelings for her. I brang it up and basically she said it was my past and that If he told me loved me sooner I wouldn't be with you. As in before we dated. Would you be concerned? \n\nI don't know if its just me that's thinking something went on the day they seen each other. She messaged right away when she got home and I did ask her about her day and what she did and stuff.", "summary": "Am I thinking too much into this situation? Am I being too protective?"}
{"id": "t3_3i8all", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] love my gf [19 F] (10 months) very much but am questioning if I want a relationship right now", "post": "My girlfriend and I met at school last year and are nearing a year together. We connect amazingly and have a healthy, working relationship and I care about her deeply. From the beginning I have feared commitment but due to our chemistry gone with the flow and things have been great.\n\nHowever my last year of college is coming up and I'm having a quarter life crisis of sorts and feel the itch to be single. While I still love her, I just feel too young to be committed and with her being my first serious relationship, want to experience dating/seeing other people too.\n\nAlong with that I feel that I am still learning about who I am and so while I realize that it is possible for people to grow together, I just feel a lot of uncertainty about myself and just don't feel that I am ready for a lifelong commitment for a long time and that I'll be able to stay committed to her until that point.\n\nAdditionally with the last year of college I want to spend as much time with friends as possible as I know that after this we will go our separate ways and things will be very different. So for right now they take priority over her.\n\nAlso with the last year of college I have no idea where the future is going to take me, if a job will take me far from home or not and whether the relationship is worth the effort at this age (she will have two years of school left)\n\nI've already expressed some of these feelings to her (not the other girls part) and she was upset but still wanted to be with me. I feel so torn because she is such a great girl and I really care about her and know that if I do go a different direction she will be absolutely crushed. And at the same time I'm not so sure that I want to let go of something so great because of my immaturity, but that may be a good enough reason for her sake.\n\nI'm seeking advice on what to do or how to sort through my feelings and make the best decision for both of us", "summary": "Entering final year of college and feeling itch to be single, despite being in a healthy relationship. Trying to decide what is best for both myself and her?"}
{"id": "t3_3rhw4q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with guy I'm dating [24 M/F], for 2 months and recently became exclusive with doesn't seem into me anymore", "post": "Hi! Using a throwaway because he uses reddit. \n\nHave been dating this guy for about 3 months. We live about 3 hours from each other, but that isn't really an issue. We've been very flexible with visiting each other. We've \"only\" been on 4 dates total, where 3 of them have been spent as entire weekends at each others apartments.\n\nIn that time period I assumed we weren't exclusive, so was dating other people and having fun. Last weekend I spent the weekend at his place, and he seemed very surprised that we weren't exclusive. We talked about it, and agreed to become exclusive, as we both like each other and want to know where it's going.\n\nThe thing is, after this weekend, he has been really unresponsive in texting and communication. He doesn't really seem to want to talk to me at all. That is fine in itself, but before we became exclusive he texted me all the time, and seemed kind of annoyed when I didn't reply. I mean, different people text differently, I get that. But just seems weird to me that he doesn't want to communicate at all in the beginning of brand new and exciting relationship. I just can't get rid of this gut feeling I have, that now that we're exclusive he lost interest in pursuing me...\n\nI have no idea how to talk to him or if I even should. I don't want to be needy or pushy, but on the other hand, I really want to know if he lost interest, so I don't waste my time and feel annoyingly insecure, because I don't know where I have him.", "summary": "Guy I recently became exclusive with doesn't seem to want to communicate. Should I confront him, wait it out or listen to my gut feeling, and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2uy05y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my mom [55 F] having conflicts with me hanging out with my friend (with benefits) late at night", "post": "Ive been living at home with my mom for the past year after graduating from college. I decided to take a class at my cc and met this guy that ive since started up a fwb with for the past few months. The problem is, we can really only hangout after midnight because he works late. We only meet up once a week.\n\nMy mother is strongly opposed to this, as she has many objections as to the time of day. I understand her safety concerns, but she also has brought up her moral objections to it. I always tell her when I am going to hangout with him and never sleep over, but she always becomes extremely upset with me and proceeds to lecture me every time.\n\nMy main question would be how do I go about reducing conflict on this matter without having to fully give up my sexy times? Id like to eventually sleep over because its easier, and I have stayed weekends with another guy I was seeing before him when I first moved home. She did not have such objections as she does with this. However, she has become heavily involved in her Christianity and church since then due to a very bad divorce.\n\nAlso, I am extremely respectful of her house and help her out immensely with my pregnant sister who cant drive right now and also lives at home. I even struck a deal with her where I go to church with her every now and then (Im atheist). Is there more I can do to make the situation better? I am job searching right now and working part time, so I cannot move out yet.", "summary": "trying to reduce conflict with my mom when trying to hangout with my friend late at night"}
{"id": "t3_348ewv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My hook-up (25M) has sores and thinks it's no big deal.", "post": "Me and Brandon started hooking up last week and we've known each other for about 6 months. \nSo it's been really amazing sexually and we've been having wonderful conversations!\n\nWell while we were talking he mentioned about how my amazing kissing caused him to get a cold sore. Surprised, I was like, \" I don't know exactly what a cold sore is, but isn't that like a herpes simplex?\" And he agreed that it was. I tried making light of it and was like \"Hey! Where was my disclosure when we started having sexy times!\" And then he's like \" Well we made out then you should've either got it right away or not be affected if you have it. :) \" \n\nSo I'm confused on how to respond.", "summary": "Hook-up admitted that he gets cold sores and I don't know how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_4uy2q4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31f] friend [29m] is crashing at our apartment", "post": "So my friend fell on some hard times and announced on our group chat (of about 6 close friends) that he would be living out of his car and needed a place to shower. I invited him to stay at my place for a while until he figures things out. Now, two days later, he writes a lengthy post to the group chat about his goals to move out of our place by end of October. October!!??? \n\nI live with my sister in a a small 2 bedroom in a high rise. I was expecting him to stay a week or two max. My friend is a bit eccentric and irresponsible, but we've been friends since we were kids. I don't know what to do, kick him out and then he's homeless? He's already getting on my nerves after two days. He's asked for house keys, calls himself our roommate, and is violating some of our standard routines (like shutting off our AC all day). What to do in this situation? I was thinking to leave it alone for a week and then give a two week deadline.", "summary": "dealing with a house crashed with long term goals"}
{"id": "t3_2s9pyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] wants to know if it's appropriate to ask out a customer [34 F].", "post": "Hello r/relationships\n\nI have a question and would love your advice.\n\nI am a company owner who is the project manager of our projects. I came across a customer on tinder on Sunday and it's got me thinking, a lot. This woman works for our most prestigious customer, they are a very well known company in this country. We've been working with them for 6 months and professionally it's gone very well, we gotten great feedback and the project was great to work on. The project over the next year is both financially significant and profile building for my company where I hire 8 other people.\n\nThe woman who's caught my eye is the project manager for the customer. We have a good professional relationship and have been quite friendly on the phone and when we meet in person, purely professional of course but we do always start every meeting with an informal chat.\n\nSo, I now know she's single, I'm single, she may see that I'm on tinder too. Is this too risky, if I ask her out am I risking jeopardising the business relationship if she says no. If she says yes and we start dating or even more in the future, is this really ever appropriate?", "summary": "I own my own company, I like the project manager who I've been professionally working with for 6 months and recently found out she's single. Should I let this pass out of the consequences of this business relationship or should I think of asking her out?"}
{"id": "t3_4m28lt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my sister in law a narcissist?", "post": "My sister in law (30f) has started exhibiting some narcissist like traits, and I'm wondering if she's a narcissist or just a bitch. Nothing huge, but things like texting my wife \"I'm having a huge problem\" and then saying \"oh nothing\" until wife presses to try and help, constant need for attention (think coloring her hair purple in a professional office setting, gets angry if people don't tell her they like it), a severe case of \"keeping up with the Joneses,\" doesn't ever ask about other people and turns every conversation back to her, etc. Is she a narcissist or just a general ugly person? How do i approach this? SIL is wife's sister.\n\nHave been married for ~3 years, behavior started in last year or so.", "summary": "sister in law is a mean person constantly in need of attention, how do I handle it"}
{"id": "t3_3yclrb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going for a walk", "post": "So this happened yesterday. \n\nI had spent the night at my mothers house on Christmas Eve and decided Christmas morning that I should go for a walk on the beach. We are having really nice weather here in the North East, about 65 degrees, so I felt it would be a great chance to do this. \n\nMy mom had woken up prior to this and was on her treadmill in the other room with the door closed. I wanted to let my mom know I was leaving. \n\nI knocked loudly, but no answer. \n\nI thought to myself \"well she must have her headphones in\" so I decided to knock louder and yell \"MOM!!!\" but still no response. \nI slowly opened the door to find my mom running on the treadmill, naked from the waist down, facing me. \n\nI promptly closed the door and walked out of the house.", "summary": "Stared into the Eye of Saruman, and it stared back."}
{"id": "t3_31sklv", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Keep my easy job and free time or go to another company and earn more/challenge myself?", "post": "I'm having a hard time deciding what to do with myself. I'm searching for a job. I'm actually expecting a formal offer this week (not to sound overly confident - the hiring manager literally said that sometimes it takes a year to find a candidate they even want to interview and the never do 2nd interviews and he spent extra time selling himself and the company). \n\nSo, here's the thing. I am spoiled at my current job. I've been here 8 years. I can work from home. I work maybe 7 1/2 hours a day on average. I get 6 weeks vacation. I live 15 minutes from work. My boss is decent. My coworkers are decent. I keep getting decent raises (3+%). --- I'm looking elsewhere because some managers I have to deal with just aren't pulling their weight and my workload and headaches with the workload are increasing significantly this year while my pay is not. My boss is trying to get me a bonus, but not a raise.  I sound whiney, but it is a pretty boring job and the challenges are from other people just not communicating in a timely manner. \n\nA new job would pay  more and be more interesting, but I would work more, have a further commute, less vacation and no working from home. I'd likely work with people I could actually befriend though (my current coworkers have kids my age).  I'd have to learn a new industry. But they offer free lunches, a gym and some team building things I don't have today. \n\nPay comparison is $60k (current) vs $70k (new)\nBenefits 6 wks PTO (current) vs 3 wks (new)\n\nI don't know what I want!!  What would you do?", "summary": "do I keep an east job with good pay and lots of free time or take a challenging/interesting job with little free time but more pay?"}
{"id": "t3_2hpb6s", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Quick question about destination weddings", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 is from England and I am from Chicago so we are not sure where to have the wedding. We are planning on getting married in the summer of 2016. His father is very sick and his family doesn't really travel, so it is pretty out of the question that they will be able to attend a wedding in the states... However, I've just graduated from college this past year and I am a little nervous about asking guests (including my friends who are also recent graduates) to fly to England for a wedding- we would probably rent out a hotel so rooms would be covered but, still, with the time difference and travel times, it would be a bit of a hassle. Has anyone had any experience as a bride or a guest at a \"destination\" wedding? Were they alright or a total pain in the ass? Our alternative is to have a small ceremony in England for his friends & family and a larger party in Chicago for ours in the states (he studied abroad at my college so he knows a fair amount of people in the states).", "summary": "etiquette on destination weddings?"}
{"id": "t3_2o63s7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] getting sick of everyone in my life. Ideas?", "post": "Hello. Lately, life is beginning to feel mundane. I love where I am in life, a student, have a decent full time job, playing lots of music and recording an album - but the people in my life are all beginning to lose my interest. I don't feel like I carry much importance to them (may not be true, but the feel is there) and I'm not exactly bent out of shape about it. My roommates especially (all 19, 21, and 22 males). They've all got their own stuff going on, and I don't expect people to be like. Catering to me or any emotional needs. \n\nThe love interests in my life enter my life and evaporate quickly, except for a select few who I'm losing interest in even being around. I guess I'm bored? I don't know. Something is not fulfilling about a romantic relationship, I can't shake the 'their doomed to end' mentality. \n\nLife just feels dull I guess, I even grow tired of myself. What might I need? Shake things up? Move? Any insight or just discussion would be appreciated.", "summary": "Life is good, but feels a little lacking in relationships, I feel myself wanting to withdraw."}
{"id": "t3_2sunnv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of a 1.5 years, my girlfriend handles conflict like a child", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for the better part of two years.  Our relationship is relaxed, loving, and for the most part, very healthy.  Most days I wake up dreaming of a lifetime with my partner.  She makes me happy and I always hope to bring the same joy to her.  When there's trouble in paradise, usually we stick our heads together and move through it, but over time an unhealthy pattern has developed.  I'm sharing in hopes of being able to see the brighter side or more positive direction to take this.\n\nOur problem - the broken record relationship issue - is communication.  I would consider myself, if anything, an over-communicator.  She tends to fall in the opposite camp.  The bigger the problem, the less she shares about it.  So much, that when something truly comes between us, she won't talk to me at all.  \n\nShe almost never addresses a problem in front of me and most of our fights (although rare) are through text.  It feels immature and slightly abusive.  The silence is held above my head and the conversation never comes.  \n\nAn example: last night she got mad at me while I was cooking.  I gave her space for a few hours.  Brought her food.  Asked her occasionally if she was ready to talk or if she just wanted me to listen.  I sat next to her in bed watching a movie 'together' until we went to bed.  We slept on opposite sides of the bed underneath different blankets.  She hasn't spoken a word to me or looked at me once this morning.  It's been about 24 hours since she spoke to me.  \n\nThe conflict? Putting marinara sauce on a fucking pizza. \n\n \nI'm trying to understand how to make this work between us.", "summary": "Whenever an issue arises between my girlfriend and I, she shuts down and cuts all communication with me."}
{"id": "t3_1881c8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19/M]need help with my new college girlfriend[19/F]desperately.", "post": "I, 19 years old, recently asked out a girl I've been hooking up with [19] for about two months. Problem is, the only reason I asked her out was because her friends told me she really was into me and was getting anxious/nervous about when I was going to ask her out. Impulsively, I asked her out. I like her enough to keep her close, but not enough to be in a relationship with her. We've been dating for only a week, but what can I say to make her understand this will be the only college experience I get, and don't want the responsibility of a girlfriend interfering?", "summary": "Don't want a girlfriend in college. How do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_rkd9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mother wouldn't let me have a shirt I ordered because she didn't like it. She threw it out.", "post": "I'm 17, still living at home obviously. I ordered [this] shirt and it arrived in the mail today. I ordered it on my debit card that had my money on it, but because the shirt said \"Fuck\" on it, it gave her grounds to take it and throw it out.\n\nShe proceeded to go on a tangent about how I'm going to take pictures in this shirt and they will get uploaded to facebook, then future jobs/colleges will look at it and then revoke any offers they gave me. I explained to her that it's within our first amendment right to wear a shirt that says \"fuck\" on it. In response, she told me to shut the fuck up and said it in a tone that mocked the shirt.\n\nLater, she somehow related the t shirt to drinking and doing drugs and how those things get uploaded to facebook. I don't have a single picture on facebook of me drinking or smoking, but somehow she justified throwing out my shirt. I understand I'm under her house and under her rules, but I can't help but feel it is wrong of her to throw out the shirt I paid for. And it's not like I'd wear this shirt to school or something.", "summary": "My mom took my shirt I ordered and payed for, and threw it out because it said the word \"fuck\" on it."}
{"id": "t3_3h0fop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/m] Struggling with Hot/Cold [23/f]", "post": "Dating this girl for almost 2 months. Hangout roughly once a week. We go out to dinner and hang out at each other's houses. Sex is great and we do it and sleep over every time we hang out; she says Im the best she's had and only one she does it with. When we're together in person, she's great - kisses me as soon as she sees me, always has her hands on me, holds my arm walking in public, she talks to me about everything in her life, etc.\n\nBut as soon as we aren't together - she completely falls off the face of the earth. Ignores 3/4 of my texts, calls. When she does answer them, texts are always communicative, calls are always invested in, etc. But she never initiates texts herself, though she used to when we first started seeing each other.\n\nA few weeks ago I got the feeling she only wanted FWB and told her, and she said that isn't what she wants. After that she didn't talk to me for about 3 days when I finally got ahold of her again and we met up again and everything was normal like nothing happened. I walk in the door and she's all over me again, we have a blast. Cooks for me, great sex, talk for hours, hang out til 5 am before staying the night, kiss goodbye etc etc etc. As soon as I leave - radio silence; going on 3 days now. I texted her last night to call me before I get headstrung but still haven't heard anything yet. \n\nWhat gives?", "summary": "Girl is great in person, but recently giving me the cold shoulder when we aren't face to face. Feel like she only wants FWB."}
{"id": "t3_45eyra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my wife [34 F] of seven years, are having a tough time figuring out what to do as a couple in every day life.", "post": "So, me and my SO have been together for seven years, married for five and we are parents to a lovely daughter who's 2 years old.\n\nMy wife told me the other day that her experience is that I never take an initiative to do something as a couple. With dysfunctional parents, all I've ever learned was to sit in separate chairs all evening to one of them went to bed - so I have basically have no idea what \"couples do\".\n\nThere are of course some key factors that needs to be kept in mind, when trying to figure something out - we can't leave in the evening since the little one is sleeping and having a babysitter is fairly rare (back to my dysfunctional parents) and something we usually pay a helpful girl to do.\n\nI asked my wife what she would like to do and I kind of get a vibe that it's really annoying that I ask this, especially since her answer was \"google it\". But that's what I did and guess what shows up; rent bikes, go hiking together, attend festivals even stuff like rock climbing, bungeejumping and sky diving is stuff I find - it just doesnt fit into my idea of \"doing everyday couple stuff together\".\n\nSo, hoping for some inspiration - what do you guys do?", "summary": "I can't figure out what to do with my wife in the evenings, while the kid is sleeping. I'd appreciate suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_3bk8i8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you think I (40/M) can find a 9 girl in her twenties which want to marry me?", "post": "All my adult life I have wanted to get married and have children, but I have always looked for a very beautiful girl (a 9 girl) much younger than me, currently, 25 y/o at most.\n\nPhysically I'm a regular guy, I have a career and an income somewhat higher than average. I guess I'm smarter than average but because of self-pressure to find a girl like this, when I find one I get nervous and totally fuck up things, which are anyway harder and harder as years pass.\n\nI'm exceptionally attentive and caring when I am with a girl when I really like her and am disposed to treating her as a total queen.\nDo you think I still have a chance or I should definitely either pick a 7 girl (which I barely can) or discard the whole idea of getting married? I have a house which is quite above average for my country.", "summary": "Am I (40/M) asking too much by expecting to find a beautiful girl in her twenties to marry?"}
{"id": "t3_2dv8kd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my SO [23 F] for 2,5 years - She wont tell me she loves me without me asking for it", "post": "I'll make it short and simple. She was the first one to say \"I love you\", and did it on a semi-regular basis in our first year together. We are very independent people and not very lovey dovey, so we only said it at special occations back then. But now she stopped saying it on her own completely. She sais it when I say it to her, and when I ask her to. \n\nBut as time went by I started saying it less and less as well, because it felt kinda weird when I was the only one saying it. We've talked about it before, and she said the reason was that she thought it was clich\u00e9 and felt cheesy saying it. (We are Norwegian, and the expression \"i love you\" is a bit more romantic than in english, and is used mostly between lovers. So it can be a bit cheesy, but mostly if you're 12 tbh)\n\nSo yesterday I confronted her, and told her I needed to hear it because it was important to me. Not often, but in situations where she felt it or thought it, she could also say it. She told me she'd try(which she has told me about various things before, without results), so I said this was not enough, I wanted her to promise she'd do it. She wouldn't, as then I could \"call her on it if she didn't\". I said that in that case she had to come up with a better explenation as to why she she wouldn't do it, because it being cheesy does not cut it. So we got into a fight and she left for school.\n\nSo, am I a needy whinging bich, or am I right to demand this? And what do I do? Keep pushing her? Drop it and tell her I'm sorry?", "summary": "SO used to tell me she loves me, now she only says it when replying to me, 'cause she thinks its cheesy. I told her I wanted her to say it more regularly, she would try but wouldn't promise. This was not enough for me, fight ensued, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_xdkge", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How much do you run in minimalist shoes?", "post": "I've read a lot of opinions on this subreddit, but what I'd like to know is specifically the mpw and your experience.\n\nI have a pair of VFFs that I used very briefly last year, then forgot them overseas when I visited my family. I'll have them again in a few days and I'm thinking about how much I should run in them.\n\nI have been running on and off for almost two years, and I never had an injury per se but I used to often get consistent pain in my shins, and sometimes calves. A couple of times it got bad enough that I had to stop for a couple of weeks. I believe it is mostly due to me getting impatient and doing too much too soon. So for the past few of months I have been a lot more disciplined and I've never had even the slightest pain issues. Currently I'm at ~40mpw. I have a midfoot strike, and I have taped and analyzed my form and I am pretty happy with it, so I'm not too worried about  injuring myself too easily in the VFFs due to improper form; but still, I feel like the compound effect of too many miles might destroy my knees/ankles/what have you regardless of form. I know in theory it shouldn't, but then again in theory, theory and practice are one and the same, which is never the case in practice :). So this is my question:", "summary": "If you run or have run in minimalist shoes/barefoot, how may mpw would you do and what is your experience with that mileage?"}
{"id": "t3_3q40kh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [29F] date my colleague [39 ] ?", "post": "(Note: I'm changing the academic field here and using equivalents)\n\nI'm a graduate student in social work and also TA in the sociology department. There is a professor (39 m) in the office next to mine. He teaches critical race theory and I've never taken a class with him. His research interests are not related to mine at all. We always end up chatting about random things and I enjoy being friendly with him. He's really nice. I'm getting a pretty strong vibe he has a thing for me. He's tried to ask me indirectly if I have a boyfriend and seems really nervous when he initiates conversations with me. He's never been creepy or acted like a predator. \n\nHe's always interacted with me as a friend or colleague, never as a student. I would like to ask him out, but I worry about two issues. 1) He is assistant head of the sociology department. 2.) It's always awkward to date your sort of colleague.", "summary": "I'm pretty sure a professor next to my office has a crush on me. The feeling is mutual. Should I date him?"}
{"id": "t3_hg0tj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have any ideas of how our school could raise money to help build an African orphanage and health clinic?", "post": "Hey Reddit.  So here's the situation:\n\nLast summer, four of my fellow school pupils went to Uganda to volunteer at an orphanage for three weeks.  They also used the visit to raise awareness in our school, and to fundraise.  We set a target of \u00a310,000 (over $16 000)\n\nSo far we have raised just over \u00a39000 ($14.5K) through things such as concerts (with school bands), non uniform days, cake sales etc\n\nDo you have any other ideas which we could use to raise that extra \u00a31000 ($1.6K)?\n\nThank you\n\nHere is a link to an article from a local newspaper for verification.  If the mods need more, I'd happily oblige", "summary": "Help us raise money for some African orphans"}
{"id": "t3_2ga2p6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [24/M] and my girlfriend [24/F] of 5 months broke up, now she texts me this...", "post": "We went out for 5 months. It was amazing. We fell for each other. Then of course problems started to arise. It was really nothing that couldn't be worked out. Eventually, we had the final fight that broke us up. Irreversible. It was her birthday and she went out with her friends. \n\n[Then she texts me this after a light chat.](\n\nI'm aching in pain and she keeps texting me about all the guys talking to her and buying her drinks. I'm stuck at work and in have no idea how to handle this. I am freaking out and panicking.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I break up. She is now texting me about people hitting on her."}
{"id": "t3_1t5awj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 10 months, I feel like I am not a priority to her and I feel like I could either tell her how I feel, or act like I don't care. I see good and bad sides to both.", "post": "My girlfriend, \"Gwendolyn\" and I live apart, each at our parents' houses. I see her about once a week for an actual date and once or twice at the gym or something. The rest of the week, Gwendolyn studies full time and works part time, I work full time and then go to the gym every evening. We are busy.\n\nSometimes, when we should see each other, Gwendolyn will be too busy for me. This hurts me because I want to see her as much as possible. I feel like there are two ways I could deal with this:\n\n1- I could say \"Gwendolyn, don't go see your friends tonight, come see me and let's have some time alone because I haven't seen you in a while and I miss you.\" I feel like it would be difficult to say this without sounding weak and unmanly. Also, I fear that sounding needy will make Gwendolyn less attracted to me.\n\n2- I could swallow my feelings and try to manipulate her into wanting to be with me more by going out to parties with other people and generally making myself unavailable. I don't like the idea of manipulating her, but I prefer that than her hanging out with me because I presented a cogent argument as to why she should. \n\nI want her to want me, as the song goes.\n\nMy fear with option 2 is that I will actually start to care about her less.\n\nI am getting conflicting reports from buddies and I am interested in reddit's esteemed opinion.\n\nThank you", "summary": "GF too busy, should complain or ignore?"}
{"id": "t3_28q8er", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Gamers, Im stuck on which RPG I should start, need help!", "post": "So, exams are finally over and Summer has started and I have a bunch of old and new RPGs I would love to play but Im stuck on what I want to start with. All these games range from the Super Nintendo to Ps3\n\nHere they are:\n____\nFire Emblem Path of Radiance\n\nZelda: Wind Waker\n\nZelda: Majoras Mask\n\nZelda: Twilight Princess\n\nSoul Sacrifice\n\nDragons Crown\n\nDanganronpa\n\nPersona 4 Golden\n\nAlundra\n\nSuper Mario RPG\n\nGrandia\n\nFinal Fantasy 8\n\nFinal Fantasy 10 Hd\n\nCastlevania: Symphony of the Night\n\nTales of Symphonia\n\nFinal Fantasy Crystal Cronicles\n\nFire Emblem Awakening\n\nZelda: Ocarina of Time 3D\n\nZelda: Link Between Worlds\n\nBravely Defauly\n\nShin Tegami Tensi 4\n\nSecret of Mana\n\nFinal Fantasy 2\n\nFinal Fantasy 3\n\nTales of Xillia\n\nNi No Kuni\n____\n\nTo the few of you that probably read this whole thing, thank you firstly, and please leave your suggestions and thoughts on these games and what I should play first.", "summary": "What should I play?"}
{"id": "t3_17kblq", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "X-Post: Who lives in a 'small town' in the USA? I'm heading out in March / April and want to visit as many as I can.", "post": "As background information: I am a photographer with a background in Sociology. I've long been fascinated by community, how it forms, how it shapes the people within and how they shape it.\n\nAs part of a long term project I'm visiting many different types of communities, from communes, to huge city tower blocks and suburban neighbourhoods. Right now I'm looking at small towns, diner culture and what seems to be an almost forgot way of life in the USA (correct me if I'm wrong)\n\nI'm looking to travel across America in March & April of this year visiting small towns, documenting life within, and ideally spending time with a resident family or individual to better understand life there.\n\nSo, I'm looking for suggestions of towns, ideally with a population under 2000 to visit. I'd prefer to spend most of my time toward the West / South West. Any ideas?", "summary": "I take pictures, I like communities, I want to take photos of small town communities, help me?"}
{"id": "t3_2a11xq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We have been dating for quite sometime but I feel I want to end it on superficial reasons?", "post": "Me [30 M] with my [28 F] of  \u2248 6 years, \n\nI know many on Reddit so I made a new account. \n\nI am having issues with my relationship. I have been with this girl for quite some time and she is amazing, however I was never totally attracted physically. We were friends but one night we took our friendship to a intimate level. We were friends with benefits for quite some time but once I had a feeling that I might lose her I committed and made it official (Girlfriend now).  I would say things to my friends she no 10 but she is the best person you want to be around. I felt like I had to make a disclaimer for her looks.\n\n Fast forward to now, we had the talk of where this relationship is going. I feel torn because I love this girl and would not want to lose her, however aren't I supposed to physically attracted to my life partner? I know looks don't last forever. The sex is awesome, the friendship is great, and we have similar life goals; but I have this weird gut feeling that this is not supposed to be and I am scared to hurt down the line. I have talked to many people and I get so many different responses. I literally think half the days I want to marry her and the other half moving on.\n\n I don't want to wake up day with her and just regret what I did? However, on the flip-side I see how hard it is to be single for my friends and its not glamorous, they get girls but I they've stated how lonely it can be. Though, sometimes I feel being alone I could get things done because I am on my own. I know people with lifelong marriages don't have perfect lives but shouldn't you feel at least 80% sure that you want to marry that person? I feel like its a flip of the coin. Am I just an idiot because the only thing that bothers me about this girl is superficial?", "summary": "I have dated this girl for some time and I am contemplating leaving the relationship on reasons that I feel are superficial."}
{"id": "t3_2iwrar", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What do I need to consider if I break up with someone I share an apartment/lease with?", "post": "I (25m) am considering breaking up with my (23f) girlfriend of 3 years. We got an apartment together in April and put both our names on the lease for 9 months. She is from another state and moved up here a year ago after she graduated. We've split both of the furniture costs and both make about the same amount of money. It would be a strain, but possible, for either of us to pay rent by ourselves. I don't want to leave her in a horrible position since she's from out of town.\n\nWhat things do I need to consider before making this decision?", "summary": "I share an apartment with someone i think Im going to break up with. She is from another state."}
{"id": "t3_39x37w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] telling my[20F] girlfriend of two years i feel uncomfortable with her all the time", "post": "So, prepare yourselves. This is a bigger little issue that has lingered throughout our relationship, here is a brief prologue. My girlfriend, lets call her Stacey,  and I have been dating since our sr year. In our last year of highschool, she would spend the night. And that summer, about three times a week. I thought that was a lot.\n\nFf two years, me living with her and moving, and we have the same issue. It is near impossible for her to say bye unless she has something planned to keep her distracted from me. Her parents know she is constantly about me, and even embarrassingly joke about it. I thought maybe it was me but..\n\nLast night, her mom was going to the store before her vacation and clearly wanted Stacey to go. Stacey didnt want to, so I offered. Her mom wasn't psyched, and a few minutes later shrugged and said \"ah I'll just go by myself.\" I knew what that meant, both her daughters didnt, and made Stacey go. The same situation has happened plenty, and because Stacey keeps our relationship private I feel her family and friends get the wrong image of me. Aggravating me more during our arguments when she says \"you sound crazy\" when she is with her friends. After reassuring with my family and friends (obvious bias, i know) that it **isnt me** when we argue, and that she sort of engages me and pushes my buttons when i get that really upset. More recently, a friends mom of hers confirmed I'm not crazy. She just doesn't listen with an open mind. That trait isnt unique to this situation either.\n\nTo be fair, she does do a lot to carry her weight. She is sweet and loving, and cares about me. I love her too. We do argue a bit better. I feel like it is because of my endorsement of her staying most of the week without saying anything about it. My issue being that it is **very** distracting, and my mom does not want her to move in, and its hard to send her home because she gets offended.", "summary": "my girlfriend wants to spend every free moment with me, and she cant live with me, so i feel like an asshole when sending her away."}
{"id": "t3_4zl4ej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [30M] takes everything I say as a personal attack. I [23F] try to be sensitive but I'm at the end of my rope.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. When we first got together, things were amazing. He was everything I wanted; funny, smart, good-looking, we had a lot of great times together, etc. Over the years, though, it has become more and more apparent how sensitive he is. \n\n*Anything* I say is a personal attack on him. If he suggests we go out for Chinese and I say I'm trying to eat less salt (history of high blood pressure in my family), he gets huffy and says I'm calling him unhealthy. No...I'd just rather not eat 3 days worth of sodium in one sitting *that* particular night. If he asks what I think of his hair style and I say I preferred it another way, he says I'm calling him unattractive and I must not like him that much. Again, not at all...I'm just not going to shower him with adoration when he asks for my true opinion. He says, \"I really think the cyclists are so interesting\" and I say, \"True, but I've always liked watching the gymnasts\"; suddenly I'm belittling him and calling his interests stupid. If he says he wants to go to the movies and I say I would rather stay in, I'm again somehow judging his wants and needs.\n\nIt's not like I say no to everything, or disagree with everything, or anything like that. But I'm not the same person as him...I'm going to have different opinions and prefer certain things. That doesn't mean I hate him or think he's dumb, I completely respect his opinions. I just don't always share them. \n\nI honestly don't know if I can continue in this relationship. I've tried talking to him about it and he denies that there is a problem. But I also hate to throw away 2 years with an otherwise great man over this. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend takes everything I say as a personal attack. I'm at the end of my rope and don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2592b1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need help asking my mom to let me leave home TOMORROW!", "post": "I'll try to keep this as concise as possible. \n\nI'm nearly 21 years old and grew up in Atlanta. All of my friends live there. I went to college in Maryland and my parents moved to Orlando. Fast forward two years and I now live at home in Orlando with a job bussing tables at a local restaurant and have no friends in this whole damn state.\n    The job is fine but they keep jerking me around with my hours. They will constantly cut me really early or tell me not to come in at all simply because they over-hired. I'm sick of it and I want a new job. The job I want is at the summer camp where I have worked for three summers and been a camper for seven. I have friends that are going back this summer and the camp director so I know I can get hired.\n    I'm supposed to take classes at a local community college this summer and the payments are due on Monday(36 hours from now), So I have to get the job by tomorrow. I don't know if I can do that so quickly. So I need to ask my Mom to let me cancel the classes so I can take the chance of getting the job (I know I will get it because the camp directors love me). This is especially difficult because tomorrow is Mother's Day!\n    My Mom loves me and wants me to stay home but her and my Dad are constantly with each other and me. None of us like each other, which is the real reason I want to leave. I don't know what to do!\n\nPlease help", "summary": "I want to leave home fore the summer to get away from my parents, but have to ask my mom tomorrow on Mother's Day."}
{"id": "t3_2ph711", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Employee Stock Questions (A combination of questions after reading a few posts)", "post": "Good Morning PF!\nAfter reading a few posts about Employee Stock Purchase Plans, I have some other questions which I have not read (Either due to scrolling too fast or just hasn't been asked).\nEveryone seems to say \"Sell immediately\"...I've logged into my etrade account, but I do not see the ability to sell. I have lost the paperwork [Thanks flooding!] about the whole thing, but is there anything I can do for that?\nOn that note, the stock has grown 10% in the last 3 months, should I still hold onto it and let it grow?\nNow, the morbid side: I was let go earlier, but they still took out the additional stock plan amount, is it still in my interest to sell if I figure out the rest?\nCan someone", "summary": "the tax implications as well?"}
{"id": "t3_3s3dih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [F23] tell my boyfriend [M24] of three years that my parents are related?", "post": "I've known for about 4 years that parents are first cousins, they didn't even tell me, I had to find out from my brother. I was really upset and I have never ever told anyone.\n\nMy parents are divorced and I haven't seen my mom in over 8 years. I do see my dad from time to time, I don't think he knows that I know I've never talked about it with him. I've just been trying to forget it myself.\n\nWhen I found out I immediatly searched for a ton of information online and whether something could be wrong with me because of it or if I ever had a child they'd be more prone to have a genetical disorder. But it seems that the chances of that happening would be the same if my parents had been unrelated. I guess that's why I haven't told my boyfriend about it. He's never met my mom, he rarely sees my dad. I didn't think that I needed to before plus I'm still really really not comfortable with it.\n\nLast night my boyfriend and I were talking about the future and starting a family one day. Now I do feel as if I have to tell him because I've been feeling guilty the entire day. \n\nHe cares about me a lot and he really does love me but I have no idea how he's going to react. But I feel if it were reversed I would like my partner to tell me all of this before we'd start a family. It wouldn't change anything for me but I would want to know. I'm just really dreading the conversation I'm about to have.\n\nI'm wondering would you ever break up with someone if they'd tell you something like this? Would this be something you wouldn't be able to get over?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are talking about starting a family. I know I should tell him that my parents are related. Would you break up with someone over this?"}
{"id": "t3_1j8wyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having jealousy issues with my gf's best friend.", "post": "So here's the story. Me (23m) and my gf (22) have been together for about 2 and a half years living together for one year. Around last winter her and a male coworker started hanging out, and long story short she developed a crush on this guy. We were in a bit of a rough place at the time I had just lost my job and in hindsight was probably dealing with some minor depression at the time so I was the most enjoyable person to be around at the time and she was having fun with this guy so I understood that. We worked to fix it I got back on track and we got a lot better, but her feelings for this guy didn't subside. She told me she wasn't sure if it was really affection for this other guy or just a hold over from him being the one that paid attention to her at the time so we made a decision thats been affecting our relationship since. I agreed to let her go on one date with the guy. So they went did the dinner and a movie thing, made out in the car (as per my begrudging agreement), and I sat at home and slowly went insane. The result of said date being that she decided that it wasn't him she liked and the whole thing was weird for her.\n\nFast forward to today, we still live together, I'm (albeit less) gainfully employed, and we just got a puppy. Everything feels a lot better than it did. Except for one thing, suddenly dude and my gf are best friends, that just doesn't sit quite right with me. I don't think of myself as the jealous type but whenever she's out with him I just sit at home and rage. She knows it makes me uncomfortable but I dont want to be the guy that asked her to get be up her best friend. I need to know if I'm overreacting or no. I don't want to be the jealous clingy boyfriend but its so hard to sit at home and know she's out with him again. So what's your take r/relationships any advice would be appreciated I want your two cents.", "summary": "I'm insanely jealous of my gf's male best friend and don't know what to do, help!"}
{"id": "t3_2j083b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] Never been in a relationship and just met a [25 F] who likes me", "post": "I never been in a real relationship before and recently met this girl online who is really into me. Things have been going well between us. We have been texting and flirting.  She wants to go out with me on a date soon. The problem being is that I have little to no experience with women. What if she questions me about past relationships or experiences with women on the date? How should I answer? I don't want her to think poorly of me since I am inexperienced. I'm afraid it will damage her perspective of me.  I've known her for about a month. My question is should I be completely honest with her or not?", "summary": "I need advice on how to answer the questions she might ask me on past girlfriends or being a virgin.."}
{"id": "t3_1n6xwl", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Really strange muscle issue [Quad]", "post": "Long story short, I went into a lengthy, run heavy workout very dehydrated which brought about expected DOMS in my quads for a few days after. It was around 2 days after this workout that I crouched down to pick something up off the floor and was met with an immediate tear/ripping feeling in my left quadricep. Strangely after wrapping it overnight, the pain all but subsided until I tried to run again a few days later and I was met with the same tearing/ripping feeling immediately. Pain goes away within a day, I rested for a week before starting doing incline treadmill and plenty of squats to re-strengthen. Eventually over three weeks of being safe and strengthening it, I got back to the point where I can run again. Here's the strange part. I can run in a straight line no problem (treadmill and neighborhood runs), but for whatever reason as soon as I go to cut while playing field sports it immediately goes to tear again. It feels like it's really deep into the muscle (not on the surface) and only gets aggravated with certain motions. I guess I'm just perplexed as to what to do, because I can go out and run a mile or two without any issue, but if I were to quick make a 90 degree cut it'll re-aggravate and bring instant pain. Strangest injury I've ever had to be honest, and with it being deep into muscle I don't know how to treat it properly. Any advice? \n\nGuess this wasn't too short", "summary": "Can run straight fine with no issue, go to make a cut and quad feels like it's tearing, brings about unbearable pain that's gone within 24 hours"}
{"id": "t3_fyugc", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, I think I might be depressed, need to know some things.", "post": "Basically, I feel like I might have depression. For the past few years, I've struggled with anxiety, both general and social for a while now. But for the past several months I've just been having trouble just feeling happy, and feel really sad every once in a while, almost debilitating. I realize I probably need help and I have an appt with a psychiatrist next week but right now I just don't know... \n\nI'm honestly afraid of telling the doc anything, I don't want to be on meds the rest of my life. I also worry about potential employers prying into my records. I'm an engineer, graduating this may with a good GPA and good experience and so I might go into the government or some contractor that works with classified projects and I don't want this to disqualify or hurt me at all. Is this a reasonable fear?\n\nI realize I should put my mental health first... but jeez I really don't know.\n\nHas anyone out there felt the same way and gone on anti-depressants? Have they actually helped you?\n\nSorry I've sort of rambled in this post...", "summary": "Think I might be depressed, I'm an engineer and might go into government or high-level stuff.... will employers look into my medical history and will getting anti-depressants hurt me? Also if you have depression and have been on antidepressants, have they helped you?"}
{"id": "t3_2iwcls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My kind-of-ex [23/M] of 8-years and I [23/F] started taking a break on my terms two days ago. Now his grandfather is dying. What to do?", "post": "I posted earlier this week about possibly taking a break with my boyfriend.  I ended up talking to him and putting things on hold two days ago.  He is still very hurt, and wants to wait for me even though I have told him I may never come back.  I lived with him an hour from my work / friends, but I have temporarily moved into my friends near my work until I get a room in two weeks.  \n\nBasically, he is taking it really hard.  I haven't seen him because I am desperately afraid of going back.  And that wouldn't solve anything.  I know I need some time to figure myself out, and I don't think I can do it with him right now.  \n\nHis grandfather has been sick for a few weeks.  Last weekend, the doctors gave him six months to a year left.  His family is super close.  And over the last 8 years, I have been to almost every family event, and am pretty close to his family.  I am almost part of the family.  \n\nHe texted me today to tell me his grandfather is going to die tonight or tomorrow.  His family lives about an hour from where I am currently staying.  He just wants me to know in case I want to say goodbye.  I desperately do, and I am going tomorrow.  I just hope I can keep the focus on his grandfather and not our relationship.\n\nReddit, do you think it is a good idea to go?  Or am I making a huge mistake?", "summary": "After 8 years I am almost a part of his family.  Now his grandfather is passing away and I want to visit him but don't know how to handle it with our recent break."}
{"id": "t3_3ghf6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Overheard my 1- year long GF [25 F] saying, not ready to \"commit more.\" But, we're going into a long distance relationship soon. [x-post r/actuallesbians]", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI'm seeking some advice. I've (23/F) been dating my gf for about a year now. It is my second serious relationship, and it is her first one. Unfortunately, I'm moving away, and we agreed to do long distance, but I'm having doubts now. I have doubts for many reasons, but the main one is that I accidentally overheard her saying that she is afraid that she is not able to commit more, and \"that there is so much to explore, but it will be hard to find someone else like [myself].\"\n\nI wish I could ask her exactly what she meant by not being able to \"commit more.\" She's unfortunately on vacation, and I also feel like it's something I shouldn't have heard, so I'm hesitant to confront her about it.\n\nI'm figuring out a way to subtly bring up the topic, and voice my concern about what she had said, because I don't want to do long distance, if there is no long term. That makes sense right?\n\nIn any case, I'm seeking some advice or suggestions as to how to bring this up to my gf while she's on vacation (Only reason why I want to do it while she's on vacation is because I'm leaving right when she gets back). OR even just let it go, and deal with it when it comes up during our long distance relationship?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "overheard my GF of 1 year, saying she's not sure if she's \"ready to commit more.\" Figuring out a way to ask her about it before we enter a long distance relationship or even if I should ask her about it."}
{"id": "t3_3tjq32", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (21M) is sad because I (21F) can't visit him and his family.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating three years. We go to college together but we live in two different states (about 5 hours drive apart, 1 hour by plane).  He's stayed over at my house for a weekend in the past.  It was a wonderful time and my parents really liked having him there.  However, I've never visited him or met his family.  He's extremely close to his family, it's a huge extended catholic family and they all really want to meet me.\n\nThe problem is, I'm not permitted to visit.  Before you all tell me \"you're an adult, your parents can't boss you around\", let me say that I come from a culture where you live with your parents well into adulthood and don't disobey them.  I love my parents, they aren't abusive, they just find it improper for me to sleep at my boyfriend's house.  Even though I'd likely be on a couch in the living room.\n\nI've tried talking to them but there's no convincing them.  So now I need to talk to my boyfriend.  His family invited me to spend some of the Christmas holidays with them (my family doesn't celebrate Christmas) and he knows the chances would be slim to none.  How do I cheer him up?  Is there a way to make sure his family doesn't hate me?", "summary": "Not permitted to visit boyfriend's family.  Need to make it up to boyfriend somehow."}
{"id": "t3_2uuird", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] feel like I have not many friends - is it normal?", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI am 23F and have always struggled to have close friends. I have a handful of 'friends' whom invite me to birthday do's, engagement parties and more weddings than I can count however I have never felt close to any of them.\n\nI've only got one girlfriend who I can message and ask if she wants to see a movie or grab a bite. The other girls I feel like I really have to try with and it is always fluff talk about work, the weather etc I hope you get the picture. I try hard to ask questions about them and get to know them better without it being weird because I already 'know' them.\n\nI feel like I'm on the outside circle. Most of them have been bridesmaids for each other as almost all are married. If I ask any of the other girls to a coffee or one-on-one I've had them cancel or say \"hey I'm really sorry I'm busy this weekend but maybe next time!\" but I try and re-schedule with them it always seems to never work out. If I invite them all out in a group however they all come but I still feel like they're all really close and I'm on the outside because they chat about people I don't know or things I'm not involved in.\n\nIt's petty but I try not to look on instagram because when I see pictures I get upset because I wasn't invited.\n\nIs there anything I can do differently? I can almost not break down the initial fluff talk and get comfortable with somebody enough to actual hang out and enjoy their company.\n\nI have realised though, my boyfriend has lots of friends yet he isn't out every weekend with them, he is maybe out once a month, my siblings aren't out all the time with their friends either.\n\nIs this normal? I feel like I'm putting pressure on myself because I don't have enough 'friends' like my friends have each other.", "summary": "I feel like I don't have many friends and think it's weird."}
{"id": "t3_29gb96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend [21 F] and a crisis of conscience.", "post": "During highschool I was best friends with two girls, K and C (as I'll call them).We got together with for a reunion of sorts 3 years ago, our first year into university. It was very apparent the C had some form of eating disorder, and was as thin as humanly possible. It frightened me, but I lived 3,000 km away and felt like there was nothing I could do. \n\nC and K were always thick as thieves, and lived together at university, so I guess it fell on K to help. She fought for C every step of the way, taking her to the doctor, checking up on her and generally being there for everything. It turns out that Cs brother had taken his own life and she did not cope well, becoming anorexic. But, with Ks help she got better (she was apparently VERY ill at one point, being admitted for severe malnutrition) and they seemed as strong as ever as friends. \n\nI recently had a wonderful sit down with K to reconnect, and she told me that C cut her out of her life two years ago, about 6 months after her recovery. It came without warning, as she deleted her off facebook, won't take her calls, nothing. With how ferociously K fought for her health, I can't help but wonder if she, C, see's K as a villain, the one forcing her to address her demons. \n\nMy point I guess is should I contact C and plead for her to allow K back into her life, or would that only aggravate the situation? It tears K, my dearest friend, up inside and she feels as if she did something wrong. I can't escape the thought that C may regret cutting out the person who loved her dearest and will wish she hadn't down the line, but I don't know if it is my place to say something. I'm just...confused and heartbroken and upset.", "summary": "My two closest friends relationship collapsed, is it my place to attempt to mend it, or would that only add to the animosity."}
{"id": "t3_2wvgpw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I don't know where my ex-boyfriend/friend(?) and I stand?", "post": "I posted this on /r/relationships, but I'm posting this on here because I've heard good things from this subreddit\n\nSo my ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost 2 years, after we were dating for 2 years. Within these 2 years, we would be friends on/off and sometimes sleep together. I've pretty much lost feeling for him, but up until recently.\n\nBefore, about a year ago, it was mutually agreed upon that we were not getting back together and that was that.\nLast month, I left for study abroad in Europe for 4 months. Since then, my ex and I have been talking every day. \nHe goes to Europe for 3 weeks every year, because both sides of grandparents live in Europe. The second 1/2 of his trip has him going to Vienna, and I've been wanting to go to Vienna for a few years now, when my ex and I started dating since he talked Vienna up so much.\n\nSo when I found out my ex boyfriend was going to Vienna, I thought I would casually bring up me coming and seeing him, since I've always wanted to come to Vienna, and it would be nice to see a familiar face. If this were a year ago or so, I know he would say no. But he seemed completely find with it and so he said yes I should come.\n\nI am currently in Vienna and have been since Saturday. We haven't been together 24/7 since he is busy with his dad and seeing his grandpa, which is fine because I'm just checking things out.\n\nBut, since I've been gone he's been really nice to me, especially since I'm not expecting him to talk to me every day since I've left home. He's slept over the past 2 nights at my hotel, and he'd 'spoon' with me, which he wouldn't have done a year ago.\n\nI know how reddit feels about exes, but please don't down vote this as I am confused on how to approach this.\n\nI want to know where he stands with me, and if I should even say anything to him?", "summary": "Not sure where my ex and I stand"}
{"id": "t3_13u96h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay, AskReddit, I need your help, and fast. A buddy I know from work is about to literally throw away her life for this shady guy she met online. I have her number. What should I do/say?", "post": "So background story: I went into my old work to ask for a job during the holidays and found out that Katie (not her real name) had left the company. When I asked why my manager asked me if I really wanted to know. I said yes, and she explained the situation. Apparently Katie had met this guy (let's call him Adam) on skype a year earlier. He's from Israel, and apparently he'd seduced her and had basically siphoned money off her by claiming that people were after him (he'd show up on skype with \"bruises\" on his face) and she'd feel so sorry for him, she'd sell her stuff and give him the money. It got to the point where she was talking about selling her car for him, because every time she didn't have money for him when he asked her, he'd cuss her out and emotionally batter her. Nothing that anyone at my work said could change her mind about this guy, she'd just deny that he had ulterior motives. Recently she'd been talking about marrying him. And apparently it's turned into a plan: She would fly to Turkey (where it's \"safe\") and they would both get married. Suddenly Adam finds a job and is magically able to come up with ticket money for Katie in just a few days. She's leaving on the 1st. \n\nWhat can I do?? This guy just screams danger - I've lived in the middle east for most of my life and I know what women's rights are like there. I have a feeling that if she leaves, she won't be coming back. \n\nIf she was still in town I'd go over and basically lay it out for her but I can't - she's back in her home state with her parents, who don't seem to really care about actually stopping her (although I heard that they're against it). I just can't stop thinking that he'll whisk her away to another country and then sell her into some prostitution ring or something. I'm not particularly close to Katie, but I have to do *something*. \n\nBut what?", "summary": "Former work colleague selling everything she owns to be with this shady character from Israel; what can I do to stop her?"}
{"id": "t3_2xfycd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/19] am gonna be meeting up with my ex [F/17] in a couple of weeks about maybe getting back together - how to approach it?", "post": "We dated for about a year, getting together while we were both in sixth form (UK, not sure of the US equivalent) and I broke it off a couple of months after leaving for university (I live away from home, about a 3 hour drive) pretty selfishly as I wanted to experience the life of a single lad at uni. After enjoying myself for a bit, I realised how much I missed her and took her for granted, you know the little things like having somebody to talk to all of the time, somebody to depend on and her in general. I isolated myself from all of my friends and eventually became depressed about the situation as I discovered she had practically wiped any existence that we even knew eachother.\n\nThen, out of nowhere we suddenly begin texting again, leaving me completely and utterly confused about where I stand with her. To make sure I didn't end up becoming depressed again, I made my feelings absolutely clear that I wanted her back and essentially issued her an ultimatum, to which she responded saying she knew what I was going through but claims a lot has happened and that I need to understand that she \"isn't saying no\".\n\nI come home for a couple of weeks at the end of March and she wants to meet up and see what happens.", "summary": "I'm still in love with this girl and I don't want to fuck up again. Please, tell me the best way to approach this and not make a twat of myself again."}
{"id": "t3_3tc01g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) went through my fiances (27F) iPad and found messages that imply she is having an affair.", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for about 4 years. Dating for a little over 2 and engaged for the rest.\n\nAbout a week ago my she spent the night at a friends house. I have been suspicous for a few months now but for some reason I decided to look at her iPad and see if there was anything obvious that night.\n\nI went straight to her Facebook and looked through her chat log. Going all the way back to early 2014 I found a number of conversations that she has had with other men. They ranged from random guys just hitting on her and her politely declining or shutting them down to a couple conversations that seemed like she was setting up romantic dates when she was going back to her home town to visit.\n\nI ended up confronting her about it and she claimed that it was all a misunderstanding. She said the random guys were just friends of her facebook friends and she didnt want to be rude to them and tell them to just go away. She said that the messages that sound like her setting up romantic dates were just her meeting old friends and that there was nothing romantic about it.\n\nWe ended up having a pretty big argument about it but we have kind of moved on. At the very least she is acting like it didnt happen. I do not know how to feel about the whole thing. She did say that the day after she almost packed her bags and left.\n\nMy best friend has strongly encouraged me to leave her. I think that logically it's the smart thing to do but every time I start to think like that something inside me screams no.\n\nI need an outside opinion... should I just end it and send her packing or should I give us another chance?", "summary": "I found suspicous messages on my fiances iPad. I accused her of cheating and she denied it. We are now acting like it never happened but I cant decide if I should just end it or give the relationship another chance."}
{"id": "t3_4akfz4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: by throwing away my receipt", "post": "This actually happened today, actually 20 minutes ago. Posting this on my friends behalf since he refuses to get a reddit account and just told me to post it.\n\nSo all of my friends are on Madden doing some ultimate team games when my friend in question decided to go to the store down the road and pick up a 20 dollar", "summary": "my friend went full retard, never go like my friend"}
{"id": "t3_2i2pry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my BF [35/M] Need advice on something I found.", "post": "Ok, to start, I know the age difference is... disconcerting. I can answer questions about that if you have any. But the reason I'm writing is; this is a new relationship, we're still figuring things out. We have been trying to take things slowly, being careful not to rush into things. He has been more than honest with me from the get-go, any and all questions he gives me quick and honest answers. He gave me the account info for his xfinity account so that I could watch tv. You know how the buttons for tv, and email are right next to each other? I accidentally clicked into his email, I went to close out of it when an email caught my eye. Sent at the beginning of the month from cams.com saying that his premium subscription was about to expire. The emails before and after were unread except this one. I assume he renewed it because he received their monthly email yesterday. \n\nI had asked him before if he looked at porn and he said yes, but not very often. Porn I am fine with as long as it doesn't interfere with our relationship, heck, I might even watch it with him. But this feels different to me, with his membership he could not only view the cams, but do private shows, chat with the girls one-on-one, etc,. And the emails were sent while we were together. We had sent pictures to each other and I thought it was interesting that he had always been very comfortable asking for certain things, but never gave it much thought; now it all makes sense. And it's left me feeling weird. I plan on talking to him about it. But I'm just not sure how to feel about this whole situation. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Found emails that suggest my bf is a \"premium subscriber\" to a camgirl website. Not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_3tqwq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19F] I hate my Brother's [15M] GF [15F]. How to Stop being Overprotective Older Sister?", "post": "My little brother has been dating this girl for almost a month now and I don't know how I feel about her. He's my only sibling and I'm very close with him, our mother passed away when we were just 12 and 8, so I've always taken care of him a lot and everything. She's his second girlfriend, and I've always been very protective of him and I have a hard time accepting the fact he's dating. I still think of him as a baby, and I know that's probably not healthy at all. How do I cope with this? I look through his phone and social media accounts sometimes and I feel guilty about it, I'm just worried about his girlfriend treating him right or not. And I don't want some other girl to be closer with him than I am. I think his girlfriend's afraid of me because I've been kind of bitchy towards her (even though I don't mean to be) Are my feelings about this normal?", "summary": "My little brother has a girlfriend and I don't like her, I go through his phone and am constantly worrying about it."}
{"id": "t3_kjwtw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend still likes her ex after a year, what do i do?", "post": "I would have posted this to r/relationships but it doesn't seem to be getting much popularity recently so i'm posting this here.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating here coming up on a year.  Like every relationship we've had our ups and downs but we've definitely had a lot more of ups then downs.  She's like my best friend and i really love her.\n\nThe downs though have been majorly because of other guys.  Not that she's actually cheating on me, but mostly spending a lot of time with guys that clearly have feelings for her as well and even when i ask her not to she continues.  But most of these have come and gone, not a huge deal.  \n\nThe problem is this though.  About a month before i started dating her.. she just had gotten out of a relationship with her first \"love\".. They were only dating three months until he practically cheated on her with his ex. At first you know i was accepting of the fact that she still liked him and had feelings because you know I've gone through that too and I understood. \n\nfast forward 11 months and she still likes her ex boyfriend.  She tells me that she does and I have asked her why she still likes him and she doesn't even know.", "summary": "My girlfriend of a year still likes her ex boy friend who was her first \"love\""}
{"id": "t3_1v1fpu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my fianc\u00e9 [38 M] 6.5 years, I really struggle with the fact he's been married before", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'm 30F and adore my 38M fianc\u00e9. We are totally crazy about each other and getting married soon.\n\nBut the one thing I've never really been able to make peace with is the fact that he has a previous marriage - he got married really young really quickly to a woman 10 years older and they had a child which he felt pressured into having.  He has told me a million times that he didn't really know what love was, what we have is infinitely better and deeper, I am the one great love of his life, and that he thought he loved her at the time but in hindsight deep down he always knew it wasn't quite right but stuck with it in the hope that it would all work out.  Their marriage was a disaster and they broke up 6 months before we met.\n\nIt seems like no matter what he does or says (everything possible to the contrary), I have this hangup that the truth is actually that he wishes it had worked out with her and I'll never compare to her.  I find it so hard knowing that he married her and had a child, and feel like that makes me less important or significant to him.  I know it's mental, I just don't know how to just let it go and believe everything he says.  I always feel like I'm second best, that it's a contest and I have to prove that I'm better/more loved than her.  I know it's likely linked to low self esteem issues - what I want to know, reddit, is those of you who are the second husband/wife, have you had similar issues, and if so, how did you overcome them?\n\nI'd also welcome people just saying I'm a giant dickwad and to stop thinking so much.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I feel second best to my fianc\u00e9's ex wife despite him telling me that it was a huge mistake and that I am the one great love of his life"}
{"id": "t3_f7ssq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, I need someone to identify this object", "post": "Hello Reddit, I will begin by assuring you that this isn't a \"please do my homework thread\".\n\nI have been tasked in a technical writing class to find and take pictures of a bridge local to my area and then writing a technical report on a specific component of the bridge. \n\nIn the link are pictures of the component, I was assured by the teacher that I could find schematics of any bridge in town and she was gracious enough to post links, sadly the only local bridge site she posted had nothing to do with bridges in the physical sense, link provided for lulz, \n\nI am simply asking someone to identify the name of the component I have pictured above so that I can start writing my document.", "summary": "What is the name of the component pictured in the album I've posted."}
{"id": "t3_27037u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my car.", "post": "I got my first car a few months ago. It's a real piece of junk but I bought it myself so I was at least a little bit proud of it. It's been having problems overheating and I have to constantly check the fluid levels and turn the engine fan on manually before I start driving.   \n  \nAfter work yesterday I forgot to turn on the fan and it started overheating. I pulled over and let it cool down before adding the rest of what I thought was antifreeze. I start driving today and made sure I had the fan running, and it starts overheating right away. I pop the hood and see what looks like boiling yogurt coming out of my radiator. Turns out I poured the last of my motor oil into my radiator reservoir. It was a 5 qt. bottle and happened to be the same color as my antifreeze. It, unsurprisingly, has not been running well and has an awful smell.", "summary": "Don't but oil in your radiator"}
{"id": "t3_12npak", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "17/m, starting to develop feelings for my gf's best friend", "post": "Hey, guys. So 6 months ago I went out on a limb to ask this girl [17] out. I wanted to get to know her better and we connected. We have a lot in common and generally get along well. But we do get into arguments fairly often, usually 2-3 a week. They always get resolved, but it's rather annoying. The thing is, I'm starting to develop feelings for her best friend [17]. I just have so much more in common with her, I find her more attractive, and I think I would have a better relationship with her.\n\nBut my girlfriend and I are really close, and she's become really attached to me. She's said that I'm one of the best things to ever happen to her, especially since her last relationship ended pretty tragically. I've already warned her that there's a good chance of us breaking up if we're together by the start of college, but I don't know what to do.\n\nShe overreacts a lot, and I know if I tell my girlfriend how I'm feeling, she won't be able to trust me anymore. And I don't think I can tell her friend because it will just put her in an awkward situation. HELP!?", "summary": "developing feelings for my girlfriend's best friend, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1aqh5a", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "How to curb dog jumping up at people?", "post": "I have a 7 month old huskie/lab that tends to jump up on people when he gets excited.  Usually when I come home from work, or if somebody else comes into the house, or if we're playing or making lots of noise, he'll jump up, paw at people, and try to nibble their hands.\n\nIn trying to maintain a \"positive training only\" philosophy, so far my strategy has been to:\n\n* ignore him or show him my back when he jumps up (except usually this just annoys him and makes him bark and chew on my pants)\n* tell him to \"get down\" when he's jumping (hit or miss, he sometimes stops but more often than not continues to jump up)\n* redirect him by telling him to sit (moderately successful, he will stop and sit most of the time but often will start jumping up again shortly after)\n* Gently deflect him to the floor with my knee (usually he takes this as \"oh, we're WRESTLING now?  Let's do this!\")\n\nMost people have suggested giving him a strong knee to the chest when he jumps at people, obviously don't want to go this route unless nothing else works.  I don't want him to get into the habit of jumping on people, especially when it starts getting muddy outside, he gains another 20 pounds, and he runs the risk of flattening a child or tackling me down the stairs.\n\nAnybody have a strategy that's worked for them?", "summary": "Dog jumps on people when he gets excited, need suggestions on how to break the habit"}
{"id": "t3_2fpjq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of 7 months, I got no trust", "post": "Well.. I love her. I'll start out by saying that but we are new in this relationship. But I cannot trust her. I dont know why. I have had girlfriends in the past but they may not have been serious. This one I actually care about. She goes out with her friends and I constantly wonder what she is doing. She had a history of drugs when she was younger and that worries me. She doesnt do them now but wants to I can tell. She is recently 21 and she has been drinking a bit, but I worry about that to. I want this to work but I dont like the drugs and drinking. Should I tell her its me or the drugs?", "summary": "I cant trust my gf and she likes to do things I dont have comfort in."}
{"id": "t3_26eu0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] broke up with my gf (now ex) [19F]. 2 Months No contact. Idk what to do", "post": "Basically, broke up with gf for 2 months (1 I posted before; been with her for longer than that before being exclusive) due to family matters - mom not liking her being in relationship. Didn't talk about what to do next because it was forced + personal problems then she went NC. \n\n(part 1)However, the way she acts in college that she still into me. Spoke to her due to this irritating confusion she said \"i've been thinking and wanted to talk to you about this, but not now. Have to sort out stuff first\" (2weeks ago, but been doing it, the sorting out bit, since breakup). - pissed me off inside (beta stuff). Day ended there. \n\n(part 2)The next week told her I wanted to talk (i was full beta before so i couldnt ask or tell her it was pissing me off waiting - 2 months NC!). didn't happen irl, but on text. I wanted answers. She couldn't provide. she's not an open person. \nToo many problems on her side. Day ended there. I gave the last text. \n\nQuestion: \n\nDid I seem too desperate? (2 months NC - come on! white knight OP went on standby). \n\nWhat should have I done? (). \n\nPredictions of outcomes? (considering what i did)\n\nWhat can I do now?", "summary": "Break up Due to family matters - mom not liking ex being in relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2eyti3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting I'm an actress and kicking the director in the nuts.", "post": "Throwaway because NDA's and privacy and stuff.\n\nSo I'm an actress. You could argue that's my first fuck-up -- not exactly a lucrative career for 99% of us. However, I recently got cast in a decently high-profile supporting role that has the chance to really give my career a boost.\n\nThere's just one problem: one of the scenes is a torture scene where my character gets tied up and, well, tortured. Think James Bond or 24. Pretty standard stuff nowadays. The problem? I was tortured and sexually assaulted in my late-teens. The scene makes me incredibly uncomfortable but I figure it was a while ago, I've overcome it, it'll be worth it for my career in the longrun, it's just acting, etc.\n\nRehearsal yesterday. Seeing the set makes me feel panicked. I'm tied up. Begin to hyperventilate. Scene begins. Cue PTSD flashbacks. I freak out and begin thrashing around, screaming. Everybody thinks I'm just acting. I forget that's what I'm doing. Eventually my bawling becomes unnerving and the director approaches me to ask if I'm okay. I instinctively bicycle kick in his direction and make contact with his nuts.\n\nNot sure if I'm fired or need additional therapy or what. All I know is that I destroyed my director, badly screwed up my wrists, and made everybody on set think I'm emotionally unstable. I also still need to do that scene...", "summary": "Forgot I'm an actress, freaked out, and kicked director in the balls due to PTSD during torture scene."}
{"id": "t3_54i7de", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I, M21 need help getting over my gf, 21, before she breaks up with me", "post": "My gf and I have been together for 5 years and for the past couple of months I've noticed she's been getting distant with me and has said she does and doesn't want to be with me. I on the other hand am 100% sure that I want to be with her. We're still together and sometimes things are great, she's very loving with me and affectionate, I love that, and other times she doesn't notice me but still tells me she loves me. I can sense her breaking up with me is imminent, but I'm not ready for this. How can I begin to prepaid my self for this? I don't want to break up with her or for us to break up, and sometimes it sees like we won't. But I want to prepare my self as best as possible. I really honestly don't know what to do and I feel horrible", "summary": "My gf of 21, in a 5 year relationship, has been very distant with me over the past months and I, M21, want to begin to prepare my self for her to breakup with me"}
{"id": "t3_1152sz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When I was a kid, my parents always kissed me on the mouth. I never thought anything of it, because it made me feel loved, and I felt safe. Is this weird or wrong? What kinds of things happened in your childhood that were perfectly normal to you then, but looking back may have been wrong, or weird?", "post": "Let me start by saying I am a girl. My parents never touched me inappropriately or anything. I feel I had a pretty happy childhood. My mom would kiss me on the lips with just a peck, likewise with my dad but he stopped when I was a teenager. My mom kept doing it until about around the time I turned 18 and started feeling weird for it. I also used to cuddle with my dad, and sometimes he would, laying next to me while I was on my back, just put his leg over me. It never got any kind of sexual or weird like that though, and I liked it back then. Like I said, I felt safe and loved and had a generally happy childhood. Today I have a good relationship with my parents. But I've always wondered.", "summary": "Parents kiss me on the lips as a kid, dad cuddled with me, had happy childhood. Started feeling weird about it and curious if it was weird or wrong all along."}
{"id": "t3_14vvrc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She said we would be together", "post": "I'm going to try to keep this brief. Thank you in advance.\n19/M. Hurt by 18/F.\nWe have known each other for a few years, and it's been on and off. I am a college student, while she lives back at home with her folks. We had been seriously talking for a few weeks, and I, the hopeless romantic, believed in her. Over Thanksgiving break, she said we would be together. I believed. I returned back to school in Boston, and for a few weeks, everything was fine. We were talking, and I believed we were progressing. Then two weeks ago, she said she didn't want to be together with me because of the distance. She drops contact. It stung, but I completely understand, I thought she just wanted some space. Today I signed on to facebook to see that she is in a relationship with some fella who goes to school in Florida.\n\nIt just fucking stings man. She cuts deep. I wanted to believe, but she just me up into ribbons. I can't believe it. \n\nWhat should I do? Any advice as to how to let her go, or what my next step should be?", "summary": "Initially said we would be together, then said she didn't want to be because of distance. Week later she drops contact and is in a relationship with a guy who lives 1,337 miles away."}
{"id": "t3_g4oo3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have been a lurker for years. Now I need education advice.", "post": "I am a 24 year old Canadian who wants to go back to university. I went for a few years right out of high school, but I didn't find a program that could keep my interest. Now, a few years later and a huge chunk of student loan debt paid back, I want to go back. This time around, I want to go for chemical engineering. I am not the greatest math student, but I am a quick study and I'm determined to get a degree in something I think would be worth it. I was wondering what reddit thinks. I'm not really sure if I should because I'm afraid to fail and afraid of sinking into debt. I hope someone taking the course or someone in the field could share something about their experience with ChE. Sorry if my question isn't clear. (sent from my phone on a work break)", "summary": "24 years old. Want to finish college with a chemical eng degree. Weaker at math than other subjects. Need advice/encouragement. (feel free to AMA you think is relevant)"}
{"id": "t3_2jupwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my \"semi-boyfriend\" [26 M] of two years is past his timeline for committing to me.", "post": "We have been dating for almost two years (with a 6 month break in between). We broke up for several reasons, the biggest one being that his parents could not accept me because of my religion ( he is Christian, I am Muslim). He left me heart broken even though I believed he is the love of my life. I have dated guys before AND after him. Anyways, six months later, we start talking and hanging out. One thing leads to another and we realize how much we do still love one another. This time, he says things will be different. He will fight for me, talk to his parents, even brought up marriage and kids. All things I have wanted with him from the start. However, because he broke my heart last time, I don't believe it until I see it. I told him that if we are to contine to see each other, he has to take steps to show that - whatever they may be. He asked for some time (2-3 weeks) and he has shown me nothing of that sorts. He even told me he would write me a letter explaining his plan of action. We are now going on week 5 starting today, and I'm getting frusturated with no action. I know giving ultimatums is discouraged but what advice do you have for me? Should I wait it out and be patient and continue investing myself in time hoping it will pay off or do I tell him to keep his distance ?", "summary": "The guy that i love asked for 2-3 weeks to make a decision regarding the plan for our future. We are now going on week 5 and he has shown no efforts. Should I wait for him or leave him?"}
{"id": "t3_3sczk7", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I failed to use a personal connection, and now I fell really bad.", "post": "So I royally f'ed up.  In October, I went with my brother to his girlfriend's Columbus day BBQ.  While we were sitting around the campfire, her neighbor stopped by who happens to work at a financial firm, and I briefly herd how he sells stocks and bonds.  \n\nI was interested but I barely knew anyone, so I didn't say anything.  But the next weekend, at my house, my brother's girlfriend was over and I asked her what he did, and if his company offered internships.  She said she would text him for me (they are really good neighbors). \n\nWell, she texted me a few days later saying that he told her if I had any questions I could email him, and he gave me the company website, but said they haven't had an intern in a while.  So I searched on their career website, but couldn't find anything.  So I assumed his company didn't have an internship program because they are a smaller firm.\n\nBut recently as I was looking for internships, I googled: \"*company name* internship\" , and found their internship page, which said the deadline had already passed.\n\nNow I feel like I wasted the good intentions of someone who had no obligation to help me, because of my procrastination / short-shortsightedness.\n\nI want to email this person to at least thank them for offering to help, which I should have done a lot earlier.  But I don't know what to say or how I can not seem ungrateful / down right lazy.", "summary": "Found a potentially valuable personal connection, didn't do enough research, deadline for internship passed, now I seem ungrateful. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4uwdne", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "ELI[22] Going into my last year or college and willing to learn", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'm going into my last year of college with 14k worth of loans, on top of the 18k I already owe.\n\nI've never handled my own finances, as my parents set up a savings fund and a college fund starting when I was very little so I trusted them, but want to start taking things into my own hands, without making too many financial errors (as I'm already in debt).  \n\nI want to learn what are the best things to invest in, what are tips to saving my money (as I often splurge on travels and nicer clothing), and just overall life tips regarding money.\n\nI know a lot of you guys are older than I am, and I'm super open-minded and willing to learn, and subsequently do, whatever it takes to guarantee a better future for myself and my family.", "summary": "What would you tell your 20 year old self to do with their money?"}
{"id": "t3_3we6r6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "am i doing this right?", "post": "Hello All!\n\ni am almost done with my first week of my weight loss journey. In the past i did drastic diets and always gained the weight back. \n\nThis time i am trying to just do low calorie and make it more of a lifestyle change. \n\nMy wife brought up some concerns i wanted to get your opinions on. As a 6'5\" 425 pound man i have set my aggresive calorie goal of 2000 a day. through meal planning i have actually been between 1600-1700 almost every day this week. I am eating chicken salads for one meal. chicken alfredo for another.... fruit and oatmeal in morning... with usually a couple fruit or soup snacks.\n\nis this too low of calories? If im not starving does that matter? I am hungry throughout the day but not starving. Yeterday i ate about 1800 because i added a tunafish sandwich and i was stuffed by dinner end.", "summary": "if im eating 1600-1800 calories a day am i goign to be on the best patch for success?"}
{"id": "t3_m05t0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Probability math problem I just accidentally stumbled upon. math whizzes please read.", "post": "I've never been good at math, but sitting here at 3:55AM, something occurred where I needed to sum up a percentage and was not able to. \n\nhere goes nothing.\n\nIf a person randomly is shown mention of their birthday (saw it circled in a calendar + it was mentioned in a tv commercial) what are the odds of that happening? I first thought 1 in 365 (around .36%?) but then i realized it was twice in a given day, which is also once in a year. the whole equation seems unsolvable to me, if you can't calculate x amount of times possible to be shown mention within a given day, it seems there aren't enough constraining factors and the problem is too irregular to calculate.", "summary": "weed"}
{"id": "t3_40ewgv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did I overreact? [22M]", "post": "Hey Everyone,\n\nI am a uni student guy who is currently single. I have been telling my roommate to try to hook me up with one of her friends that I hit it off with. She agreed to it.\n\nFast forward to last friday, my roommate tells me to go to a club to meet her friend there. I go - but I am skeptical because I despise clubs. I eventually see the friend there, and dance with her. We eventually make out and I get her phone number. The plan was that I would cab with her back to her house. \n\n**However**, in the cab on the way back, she sits in the back with a \"friend\" she came with, and they make out the whole ride back**. I had to end up sitting in that cab feeling like an idiot for a good 15 minutes. I ran into my roommate walking back (and admittedly in a rage) and told her. He unapologetically told me to get over it.** It's at that point I lost it** I ended up cussing my roomate out and telling her to F-OFF very angrily. I hated the fact that she didn't at least apologize for her friends behavior\n\nThe next day the friend apologized for what happened in the cab, and I responded that it was all cool (although I just it to be polite). I haven't spoken to my roomate in two days though. \n\nIs there anything I should do? I've contemplated apologizing but I don't think my cuss out was unjustified (I just should have said it in nicer terms).", "summary": "Roommate tries to hook me up with friend. It happens, but then friend makes out with another guy in front of me. I tell friend that I am upset, but she brushes me off and I lose it on her. Have not spoke to her since."}
{"id": "t3_39vmqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my Potential SO [20s F], A Question About HPV...", "post": "The woman who I have been talking to for the past month or so told me last night that she most likely has one of the cancer causing strains of HPV. I suspected as much from our previous conversations about her current and past medical situations.\n\n I know that it took a lot for her to tell me and she has been quite adamant that I take the time to think through the potential long term consequences. For me they are less troublesome but for my future partners they could be more serious and life threatening. \n\nI know that by my age I likely already have one form or another of HPV. I also know that the vaccine is only for men 21 or younger or 26 in some circumstances. \n\nSo reddit, what do I do with this? She seems to be an amazing person and we certainly connect quite deeply outside of the bedroom. But I am making a choice that will affect any future sexual partners that I may have. I know that we could use condoms and if a healthy sexual relationship could be protected by that, we would do exactly that. But for me I don't think it is. So ultimately it seems like I have a choice between contracting potentially serious virus or losing something with someone that I would rather not lose. \n\nI think I am leaning toward continuing my relationship with her but I would be lying if I said that it didn't weigh heavily on me. Redditors who have HPV, how does it affect your relationships? Are there any resources for prevention that I have overlooked? Am I taking this too seriously or not seriously enough?", "summary": "Amazing woman most likely has high risk strain of HPV. Want to know my options and potential consequences moving forward."}
{"id": "t3_2g17cc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17F] 7 month online girlfriend", "post": "Basically my online girlfriend and I got into a bigger fight then usual about jealousy, her playing with guys on a game we both play [league of legends] and me not being allowed to play with girls, a bit of context is she told me she is a sociopath.  [I have info to both her facebook and skype].\n\nWe fought often about this jealousy/over protective thing.\n\nA couple of days ago when we were fighting about it she said I always push her away, then said \"Well you don't have to push me away any longer\" and broke up with me, we didn't talk for a whole day then while I was at work she texted me and said \"I miss you\", and we started talking again and she told me she wanted to be close friends that still said they love eachother and all that, and when I asked her she said we're exclusive but she doesn't want to put a title on it and \"we will see what happens\".\n\nI feel lost what to do, should I break it off fully with her? is she using me as a backup plan?\n\nAlso while trying to talk to her it's seemed to be a lot more difficult to talk, like she is trying to act not interested in me.\n\nAlso our facebook status is still \"in a relationship\".\n\nALSO I SHOULD ADD: she told me she just is to stressed out right now, she has school and this and that and the breakup is \"both of our faults\" etc.", "summary": "Online girlfriend of 7 months broke up, wants to be close friends that has all the online relationship components but not to call it one, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3w8p2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my ex boyfriend[20 M] one year and eight months, I cannot remember actual abusive in relationship.", "post": "I broke up with my boyfriend on Sunday. I left him because things weren't working out and I was scared for my safety at times. One would think after leaving an abusive relationship that there would be nothing but pure happiness! But now that I'm out of it... for some reason I cannot remember ANY abuse. No mental, physical, or emotional abuse. I can only remember the happy times. And because all I remember is this nice, loving, caring man... I feel like shit for leaving him. \nThe other day I was looking through my camera roll and found a bunch of photos of me and him together but I didn't look so happy. I found pictures of bruises, scratches, and red marks on my skin. I found pictures of myself where looking into my eyes all I could see was a miserable person. And photos like that remind me that I made the right decision.\nUnfortunately, my mind wont accept that these situations ever happened. I do not understand why this is... but it's really getting to me.", "summary": "I broke up with my abusive boyfriend and now I cannot remember any form of abuse (but there is photographic proof). Therefore: I feel like a piece of shit. Why can't I remember it?"}
{"id": "t3_3z1fpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I in a position to chase her?", "post": "Dated a girl exclusively for a few months. Recently she ended it saying \"she's not crazy about me like she should be\". Clearly I was doing something right because we were sleeping together for four months. I didn't magically become too clingy or whatever, I treated her right, let her know how I felt. There were no games. And she reciprocated. Until she didn't. She didn't hide behind a wall of excuses she was real. I'm struggling to understand how it can just flip on a dime, when nothing I did shifted? But I want this girl back, wanna chase her. My heart says she's worth it my head knows life doesn't work that way. Someone talk me out of it or into it?", "summary": "what did I do wrong? Can I get her back?? Ages early 20s"}
{"id": "t3_3ebufj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "GF and I have been dating for about 10 months (she is 21, I am 26), with a good chunk of that in an LDR as she has been studying abroad. She will be moving to NYC when she finishes undergrad for her job and family in december while I live in Baltimore. I want to move to a big city in the near future, but never wanted to go to NYC because of how expensive it is. I also just started a new job a few months ago and the earliest I could move career-wise would be roughly a year from now.\n\nShe has thrown out the possibility of moving in together in NYC as a way of cutting the cost down. However, I think moving to a city I don't otherwise want to be in and immediately moving in together is generally a bad idea, especially when we have not been dating that long. But I really couldn't afford to move there on my own and I hate the idea of spending most of my money on rent.\n\nI love her, and I'd like to find a way to make things work, but I am having trouble finding a way to make moving to NYC a smart/reasonable decision. We could just delay the decision until December, but I am not sure what could change before then to make this easier.\n\nAny advice on what I should do? Am I being selfish?", "summary": "GF will be moving in a few months to a city I can't afford. She offered to move in together. I think its too soon, but can't think of another option, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_22j6de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have you ever made a relationship work after a cheating episode? [Story Included]", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nCurrently working on my relationship with my boyfriend [m22] after he admitted to cheating on me [f19]. He was a known cheater in high school, according to me sister who was in the same class as him. I don't allow someone's past to classify them, and took the chance. \n\n7 months into our relationship, he gets completely shit face at his friend's party and fucks his ex. He tells me the next day that \"he just danced with her and nothing happened.\" I broke up with him for dancing and he decides to fuck his ex again, and then once more after we made up.\n\n3 months later I get a text from his ex girlfriend that she slept with my boyfriend on three occasions. I told her I couldn't believe her unless she had proof, and decided to believe my boyfriend over her. \n\nHe tells me after a heated argument a month later that what his ex said was true. He tells me what he did disgusts him and he regrets it wholeheartedly. I end up breaking up with him. \n\n2 months after I find myself trying to fix our relationship. I still have intense feelings for him and I can see our relationship is much better than before. I'm still in progress to making it work, and I can see that he's trying extremely hard to earn my trust back.", "summary": "Has anyone ever been successful in winning their partners trust back after a cheating episode? If so, how?"}
{"id": "t3_i6glh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should i help this person? If so how?", "post": "i am a high school student, and i was surfing reddit the other day. i am fairly new to this site so i don't know every single sub-reddit, but my friend told me about the ever so fucked up r/jailbait so being foolish i went there. i was creeped out, even though the girls are my age. but i saw one photo, and it was a facebook photo of a girl that goes to my school. she is 16 and therefore under age. I found the original poster but it was just their porn account. he posted several other photos of her. I don't know if he had her permission, but i doubt it. for the record, i don't exaggerate when i say she is widely believed to be the hottest girl in our grade, and possibly the school. i am a boy who has never spoken to her and i don't want to sound creepy by saying, \"oh hey hottest girl at school, i saw some photos of you in a bikini on a porn site! maybe you should do something\". what should i do?", "summary": "there are r/jailbait pics of a girl i know and she didn't post them, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3fkwpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] am too insecure, attached to my boyfriend [24 M] and not happy", "post": "We've been dating for about six months. The relationship has been somewhat rocky throughout. We go to the same university but are both home in separate cities and our relationship has been long distance for the past couple of months The main reasons for our problems are that I am dealing with a lot of insecurities and he often feels disrespected and unheard. For example, he's taken pictures/videos of me during sex. I asked a couple weeks ago whether he took similar pictures of his exes and he said yes. I asked if he still watched them and he said he did. I tried to get more information on why he kept them and wanted to watch them and he said I was being insecure and invasive and told me the conversation was over. I kept pushing and he said \"fuck you\", told me to leave him alone, stopped talking to me for about a day. \n\nWe often have arguments like this. I'll keep pushing a subject until he gets angry and stops talking to me. Generally, these arguments stem from me feeling unattractive or otherwise insecure. He used to reassure me that he was attracted to me and loved me but now he just gets upset because he feels like his words have no impact on me. He did cheat on me early in our relationship. He doesn't consider it cheating because technically we weren't dating, but we had already agreed not to sleep with other people. I think a lot of my insecurities stem from that but I can't bring it up directly because he will get angry and shut off. \n\nWhen he stops talking to me I feel lonely and panicked. I usually text him several times, even though I know he will ignore me. I have a fulfilling life outside of him but I seem to lose sight of that and can only think about how much I miss him and am afraid of him leaving me. He feels like his space isn't being respected and he can't ask for a break. This is actually our situation right now. I'm not even sure what I did wrong but he told me I was exhausting him and never gave him space so I'm trying to do something productive other than smothering him.", "summary": "My boyfriend often gets upset with me and wants space. How do I give him space and stop being so unhealthily attached."}
{"id": "t3_2zsune", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] was called a \"girl buddy\" by a [31 F] colleague of mine, I don't know what to make of the term.", "post": "So, I like this women but do not at all fancy my chances with her for a potential romantic relationship. We talk a lot at work and have a great friendly relationship at work. \n\nYesterday, she told me that I'm like a \"girl buddy\" to her, in a light heatedly manner. I did not find it offensive but, was a little taken aback. I have absolutely no idea what the term means. Also, she mentioned the same incident (of her calling me her \"girl buddy\") later on in front of two more male colleagues of ours; this time in a teasing manner.\n\nIs it like a Friend Zone thing? Does it mean that she expects me to go out with her shopping?", "summary": "What does it mean when a 31 F old calls a 22 M her \"girl buddy\"?!"}
{"id": "t3_1i6c82", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I suck at everything.", "post": "Let's clear this up right now: I'm not good at *things*. I've never had a particular talent. In fact, it's pretty rare that I'm even mediocre at something. And yeah, this has led to a shitstorm of self-esteem issues. I'm working on it.\n\nBut it seems like no matter how hard I try, I never improve. I'm a student at a US University, and generally speaking I don't do too well in my courses. I'm constantly accused of just not working hard enough, but I don't know how it's conceivably possible for me to work harder than I already am. I've tried many different studying methods, and am constantly switching up variables in my study habits to try and find one that works, but I haven't found any particular way that will guarantee me the A's that everyone else gets with no effort at all.\n\nThis isn't only about school though. It's about everything, from cooking to music to making friends. I'm not good at any of it, and I want to get better, but whenever I ask people how, the answers are always the same. \"Try harder.\" \"Improve your work ethic.\" And when I ask how it's even possible to try harder than my hardest, I'm always told to \"figure it out yourself.\" I wouldn't be asking for help if I didn't need it. I can't just magically become better at calculus overnight by going, \"Oh, I just didn't think hard enough about it!\"\n\nTo make it worse, my loved ones have all given up on me. Maybe they're just tired of my bitching. Maybe they don't actually have answers. Maybe they just think I'm not worth the effort. Maybe I've pushed them away with my crazy, hysterical fits of self-hatred. And maybe some of them *actually* think I can figure it out on my own. Regardless of their motives, I get no help on this issue from the people I depend on most in life. It's no fault of theirs, but it doesn't make my situation any more bearable.\n\nI just want to be *good at stuff.* Like my mother and brother and father and all my other super-gifted relatives. Is that so much to ask?\n\nend pity party", "summary": "I suck at everything. Want to stop sucking at everything. No one can/will help. Stuck in loop of self-hatred because sucks to suck."}
{"id": "t3_3mjk1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 5 years: thinking of proposing but not sure about buying ring vs using her family ring.", "post": "I've started thinking more and more lately about proposing to my girlfriend but I'm stuck on what to do about a ring.  I've always assumed I would be buying a ring to propose with but my girlfriend's mom has a family engagement ring that I could use.\n\nI've been told that it's being saved for my gf or her older sister to use as an engagement ring and since I'll be the first one proposing I get to choose if I want to use it.  I'm just not sure how I feel about using a family engagement ring since it's something I've never even thought about.\n\nMy gf has told me that she doesn't care either way and I should do what I want in regards to the ring.  She isn't big on jewelry and doesn't want anything too expensive or fancy.  I'm assuming she likes the look of the family ring but I've never actually seen it for myself.\n\nOne thing that the family ring has going for it is cost.  I'm not yet in a good financial place to buy the type of ring I would want to, so if I buy one I would have to wait until I find a job in my field.  But if I go with the family ring it's free so I can just focus on the when, where, and how I want to propose.", "summary": "Trying to decide between buying an engagement ring or using my girlfriend's family engagement ring."}
{"id": "t3_36l0em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M], afraid I'll never see her [22 F] again.", "post": "So, we just graduated, but we met about 2 months ago, and just started seeing each other often over the last month. Here's my problem. A lot of times when we were hanging out we were going out to bars and getting drunk / partying. She always seemed so into me when we were drunk. We'd hold hands and slept in each others beds occasionally (never anything sexual). We did hang out a few sober times and she just never seemed super into me. But when we were drunk she'd always hold my hand and I even slept in her bed and she hugged my arm all night. But now we're both home (about an hour apart from each other) and I can't stop thinking about her. I have her number, but she doesn't have mine. She gave it to me when I asked (we were drunk so i'm sure she doesn't remember giving it to me cause she doesn't remember much from when she is drunk). Idk what to do. I just want to see her and date her.", "summary": "We met. Partied a a lot. seemed into me..."}
{"id": "t3_1dr5mk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [23M] am wondering if I should ask out the receptionist [23F] at my local gym.", "post": "Ok to start off, its been awhile since I've been in a relationship. My last one was almost 3 to 4 years ago, and after college, I went into medical school where I have absolutely no social life...or life in general :(. But this summer, I finally have some free time, 2 to 3 months and I really want to get back out there. \n\nThe matter at hand is that I've been talking to the receptionist at my local gym. By talking I mean mostly small talk and now more recently we've been cracking jokes together about each. I haven't really dropped any hints other than just being a friendly person in general, but I sort of want to get her number and ask her out. I'm not sure if this is a good idea b/c she may just be acting like this b/c its her job to be friendly to the customers. But then again, I don't really see her cracking jokes with the other ppl at the gym. My gym is pretty small too, and a lot of the times it could be relatively empty, so its pretty simple for me to strike up a conversation with her, when im leaving or coming in. I guess my question is, should I just make a move or just see how things go?", "summary": "I like the receptionist at my gym, we have friendly conversations which have gone on to joking around with each other. Should I make a move or should I just let things pan out?"}
{"id": "t3_2mo95q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl I was seeing [24F] broke things off with me[22M] because she wanted to work things out with her ex, looking for some advice.", "post": "Here's the story.  I met this girl a little over a month ago.  We immediately started seeing each other and things were going great for a while.  I ended up caring about her a great deal and really wanting something serious with her.  \n\nThen her ex showed up.  They started talking again and she decided that she wants to try working things out with him.  Okay, normal breakup I thought.  We talk about it and decide to just be friends, and a few days go by.  \n\nLast night, out of the blue, she texts me and tells me that she really misses me and can't stop thinking about me.  I say that I miss her too, and she insisted on me telling her how I feel about her.  I resisted out of respect for her and what she decided, but she kept pushing, so I asked her if she really wanted to know that, and she said yes.  \n\nI told her everything.  How much I care for her, what she means to me, how I wish I brought up all the relationship stuff earlier.  After all this, she tells me she still feels the exact same way about me, and then she says this: \"I don't want to say it, but I love you\".  I gave her some advice about trying to work things out with someone while being in love with someone else.  I ended with saying that what she does with that advice is up to her, and that she needs to do what she thinks is best.  \n\nI want to tell her that she's making a mistake, but out of respect for her I'm not going to.  I don't want to cut contact with her and she really doesn't want to cut contact with me.  I have no idea what to do at this point.", "summary": "Girl I was seeing broke things off to work things out with her ex, is now saying that she can't stop thinking about me and really misses me, that she loves me.  Looking for some advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3fvys0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Trouble getting approved for first credit card", "post": "Hi everyone! I am a 21 year old student going into my senior year of undergrad. I've never owned any credit cards, but do have one debit card that I use regularly (if that matters). I made the decision this summer to apply for a credit card so I could begin building good credit. I chose to apply for the Discover Student card. I have a handful of close friends who all have the card and are pleased with the benefits. It's my understanding that it was each of their first credit cards too. \n\nI filled out the online application and was immediately denied after submission. I called a Discover representative and explained that I was a student looking for a first credit card. I explained that I have  a stable job that pays $13/hour with 32 hours of work per week (summer hours). My parents financially support me with major expenses such as rent, so the majoring of my income goes into savings. The representative told me that since I did not have any prior credit card, I had no history that they could view in their database. For this reason, I was immediately denied. \n\nI decided to wait 6 weeks and then reconsider new options. (I didn't want to seem desperate by reapplying for a new credit card too soon). For the second card, my dad recommended a visa credit card through his company. My dad agreed to sign as my guarantor for the card. His credit score is above 800, and I was under the assumption that his great credit could negate my nonexistent history. \n\nWe applied for the card together over the phone, but a week later we were notified that I had again been denied. The reason given was that my credit score was so low, they could not possibly accept my request. I'm confused because according to Discover, my credit history could not be retrieved at all. \n\nCould anyone please shed some light on what's going on? I simply want to begin building good credit habits, but clearly I am going about the process incorrectly.", "summary": "Trying to get my first credit card, denied twice."}
{"id": "t3_359bb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] off and on for 8 years, she slept with a couple of her guy friends while we're broken up, still wants me to hang out with all of them", "post": "So me and my girlfriend's relationship has been extremely rocky for most of its duration. We've both done a lot of shitty things to each other, trust has been broken on both ends, but we still manage to forge ahead. For the most part, things are good though. We are a great team, at the end of it all.\n\nHowever, throughout our relationship, we've had a handful of breaks. The last time we broke it off, it was because I betrayed her trust with some things I did online. I take full responsibility, and understand why this may have her feeling that she doesn't owe me anything.\n\nThis last break lasted two or three months, and throughout that time she told me that she had slept with one other guy, yet wouldn't tell me who because it's \"none of my business.\" Fast forward to about a year afterward, and after a little pressure is applied, she admitted that she had fooled around with a guy friend she hangs out with fairly often. And just recently, she let it slip that she fooled around with *another* of her guy friends. However, she insists it was a long time ago, and that nothing has happened since.\n\nNow, I know I screwed things up before, and those things probably would not have happened if I hadn't. She considers these guys very close friends, and was friends with them long before anything happened intimately. For that reason, I've been cool with her continuing to hang out with them. I simply told her that I didn't want to be around them while they were together.\n\nFor whatever reason, this bothers her. She's upset that I don't want to hang out at their place and drink/party with them. I just want to hold onto some semblance of pride, and not grin like an idiot in the face of guys who she messed around with in the past. This has caused some serious tension in the relationship, and I honestly don't understand why. Am I being unreasonable? These aren't people I particularly get along with anyway, and she's more than welcome to spend as much time with them as she wants. What's the right answer here?", "summary": "Girlfriend messed around with a couple of her friends while we were on a break, is upset that I don't want to spend time around them."}
{"id": "t3_16qj35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25f) am feeling a bit flustered since my boyfriend (27) admitted that he doesn't want to get married. What should I do?", "post": "When my boyfriend and I first started dating (six years ago!) I was convinced that I was never going to get married. My boyfriend, however, was convinced that he was going to marry and live happily ever after. Well, we fell in love and have had a pretty wonderful relationship. We get along well, are on the same page about a whole bunch of the big stuff (kids, religion, politics, whathaveyou), and generally enjoy hanging out with each other.\n\nAt some point, some wires must have gotten crossed because I began to think that I would like to get married. Not because I suddenly wanted to don a white dress, but because I could see a happy life with this man. Assuming he was on the same page (as I had no reason to think that he wouldn't be), I started to accept that we would, at some point, get engaged and then married.\n\nThen the other night, he confessed that he doesn't think he wants to get married. He emphasized that he loves me and he wants to be with me (and I don't think I have any reason to not believe him), but it still feels like the floor has dropped out from underneath me. I can't help but feel a little led on. Or that I'm deficient in some important way. I'm heartbroken!\n\nI hate to admit it, but after that blow I've begun to think about what my life would be like if we did decide to part ways. I would be doing a lot of things differently if not for this relationship (which, while stable and pleasant, can feel boring and stifling at times). I want to travel and move someplace where I can achieve my big city dreams, but he seems content staying put.\n\nI honestly don't know what to think at this point. I feel a bit silly being affronted by his decision when I didn't even want to consider marriage when we first got together, but I am. I don't think I'd ever want to marry someone else, but I do think that something has to change. I almost feel as though I've already gone through a breakup. What would you do if you were in my situation?", "summary": "My boyfriend, who had previously said he wanted to marry me, decided that marriage isn't for him. He still loves me and wants to be with me, but I have other things to do too. Should I stay with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3cb3vn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I Feel Bad About Spending Money", "post": "For context:\nI have a nice sized bank account with about 20% of my money. The other 80% of my money is in investments that makes me a few hundred dollars every month from interest.\nA lot of this money came to me from a lawsuit when I was bit by a dog as a baby. Another portion of it came to me as a teenager when my mother died unexpectedly. I am a typical college student that attends a relatively inexpensive university. I currently live by myself in an apartment. I work a job that pays just a bit over minimum wage.\n\nI always feel guilty about spending money if it is something other than food. This is a problem at times because I have a huge passion for technology which can lead to expensive purchases. Whether it's computers, audio equipment, phones, video games, etc, I love tech. As for large purchases, I have one laptop that is three years old, an Xbox One purchased about a year and a half ago, one phone that is a year old, and a 60-inch Vizio television that I bought a year ago, along with a Sony RX100 M3 and a tripod that I bought a few months ago. I had incredible buyer's guilt from most of these things, especially the last two. I recently just ordered a nice couch for my apartment as the one I currently have is falling apart and came from an old roommate. This purchase is what made me write this.\n\nI believe that a large portion, but not all, of my buyer's guilt comes from fear that my friends will look at me differently for being able to afford things that they cannot right now, even though all of us attend college and will get very nice jobs after. They know my situation. But the fear is still there I guess.", "summary": "I feel bad about spending money because I don't want my friends to look at me differently, even though most of my money came to me through painful experiences. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_25k40q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] possible insight into this situation", "post": "Hey, I know the people of Reddit usually hate anything that's Facebook related, cause it is immature. Well, please, bear with me. I'm not looking for an answer so much as just insight into this situation. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are long distance. We were on a break for some time, but have recently gotten back together. We're together, but not \"official\" in the sense that public doesn't know. His friend, let's call him J, sends me a friend request the other day. \n\nI find this pretty weird, since I have never talked to him before. He seems like a guy who keeps to himself, he only has 30 or so Facebook friends. I tell my boyfriend this and he says he's surprised, it doesn't seem like something his friend would do. I was like, \"Ok...\" I denied the request and let it go. \n\nToday, he sends me another friend request, I message him \"Hey. I kind of got the vibe that you kept your profile to people you were close with. Is there something you need to tell me?\". He says \"I'm afraid so.\" I ask him to please tell me, he never replies yet. \n\nMy boyfriend texted him telling him it was wrong. He claims that his friend was being humorous with the \"I'm afraid so\" answer cause he thought I was being overly dramatic. The question is, is this behavior not weird?", "summary": "Is it normal for boyfriend's friend to add you on Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_2m15ev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend?[21 F] ?, Managed to grab my dreamgirl, but am I overthinking things?", "post": "So, I've had this girl in my life that I've essentially had a crush on since high school. During high school, I asked her to homecoming, but was rejected seeing as she wasn't going. Little bit of drama later, we became much better friends during the next year or so. Fast forward and we come to one of my last nights in the state. I visit her on my last night, and we just talk for hours pretty much. But me being inexperienced with women, my friends had told me much later on that she was hitting on me.\n\nSo, fast forward another year, and I'm back in the state. Over the past few years we've talked on and off every couple of months managing to always keep in touch. She's always seemed to have a boyfriend which is why I never made a move again. We had a lot of fun conversations and stuff with a lot of common interests which is why I liked her so much.\n\nSo come to the present. I moved back to the state we lived in previously and she moved away to a different state. Lately I'd been talking to her more and more when I realized that for the first time in a while, she didn't have a boyfriend. So, I manned up and asked her if she'd like to try a long distance relationship, she said yes. \n\nThe thing is though, I felt like it was more of a 'I know that you've liked me all this time so I guess' acceptance. So up until the end of the day that I asked her, we had our fun conversations. And now, I feel like it's been dulled. Previously she'd get back to me keeping up our fun conversations, but now it feels kind of one-sided.\n\nMy suspicion was at first that I was texting her too much, so I toned it down a bit. She does have a fairly busy job, but even at the end of the day... I tend to over think and analyze things a lot. Maybe it's me just being paranoid. But just wanted some clarification on this.", "summary": "Finally managed to grab dream girl that I've known for 4+ years, conversations feel one-sided and I still don't really feel like a \"boyfriend\" to her."}
{"id": "t3_3m39xq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non Romantic] I [15/M] need help with my friend [15/F] Mental Hospital", "post": "So, I'm kinda in a middle or an panic attack, sorry if this is unorganized.\nSo I've been a friend to this girl [Lets call her Ally] for about 9 months, and recently she stopped texting me, and stopped coming to school. I was hoping that she was just very sick and never charged her phone in this time. Though, I mentioned to a friend that she wasn't here, and he said, \"Yeah, she went to a mental hospital.\" Of course, I freaked out. Ally and I had built a very strong friendship; I consider her a sister. \"Apparently, Ally's mom pressed charges against her friends for something, and then. Ally then was admitted to a mental hospital.\" My friend didn't know much as it was a rumor.\nWhat I need advice in is how to find out what hospital shes at, and see if I can see her, if this rumor turns out to be true. I bet I can't see her if she can't have her phone, but I have to try. I praying and hoping. Please help.", "summary": "Really close friend in mental hospital, need help to find a way to figure out which hospital."}
{"id": "t3_2lzu9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] I've been taken advantage of by Friends, Family and SOs my entire life, what can I do to break the cycle?", "post": "Ever since I can remember I have always been a pushover. Always worried about what other people think or feel instead of how it effects me or makes me feel. I'm the guy who is always there helping friends or friends of friends move but don't have anyone willing to help me when its moving day.\n\nMy family frequently \"borrows\" things and never returns them. I'm the shoulder to cry on when shit hits the fan but when I'm in need everyone is awkwardly distant. I moved across the country and besides me contacting my family I don't hear from them at all.\n\nI only hear from friends when they need something from me. Friend without a car wants to hang out all the time until she gets a car then I never hear from her and shes always \"busy\". Never get responses from a friend until he needs a special order from me from my work. Meet a friend who is interested in my hobby. Take her along, show her the ropes and get her set up then once shes established she blows me off for other people in that hobby.\n\nWith several of my SOs after they left I realized they were using me to a point and once they got what they wanted or were self sufficient they were gone. One was unemployed so I paid for just about everything until the day after she got a job when she told me \"She wasn't ready or looking for any kind of relationship but we could still be friends.\" A few of them were with me because they were bored or lonely and left as soon as their situation changed.\n\nI realize that the problem probably lies just as much with me as it does with the people in my relationships. I'm told to stop being a doormat and when I try I usually just end up lonely because I have no friends or family around.\n\nWhat can I do stop getting taken advantage of with or be happy being alone? I know this may not get any response but it feels better just typing it all out.", "summary": "I'm a doormat that has a history of getting taken advantage of. How do I build healthy relationships that are give and take instead of just give?"}
{"id": "t3_1zeo25", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m]Considering rekindling things with an ex[20/f] who was unfaithful.", "post": "I would never in a lifetime even think about this, but she was a sex addict. Certified. When she was 14 she fell \"in love\" with a 20 year old who used her for years and IMO is what set off her issues. It eventually moved past just sleeping with a lot of people. Her indiscretions while with me included sleeping with one guy, attempting to with another but couldn't find a ride. Met a couple of guys on OKCupid and may or may not have with them. She had a sugar daddy that she lied about. She was on ten or more dating/fuckbuddy websites. Had several people that she would sext and cyber with occasionally. Traded nudes with lots of those guys. Among other things. She has been in therapy and institutions a few times throughout her life and it's never taken. Until now. She's been good for the better part of a year.\n\nI believe that she has been 'clean'. Although she's still friends with that pedophile mentioned above. I also know addiction first-handed. I doubt I could trust her again but she knows that and has promised full transparency. No snooping through her phone to find out if she's been fucking someone or anything. This women was/is the love of my life. Aside from these things, which were devastating, she is absolutely perfect. We were perfect. My life has been amazing since I left her and I completely got over it, but I still know that with her I was complete. She lied, cheated, made me lose my mind for awhile, but an addiction is an addiction.", "summary": "My exfiance is a sex addict who seems to be clean now. We're both convinced that we were meant for each other. Idk what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11zodi", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do you tell someone that their spouse is cheating on them?", "post": "I've been carrying this guilt around for a long time and it's time that I man up (figuratively, because I'm a chick) and I tell the wife that her husband is cheating on her. \n\nWe have known this family for a number of years. I went to school with their older daughters, and our younger sisters are best friends. \n\nA while back, our families got together for dinner and polite company. The next day, the father gets my number off of facebook and proceeds to text me for a few hours. Myself being totally innocent at the time had absolutely no idea what he was doing until he asked me if I would like to have some fun. I pointed out that he was married, to which he said \"I get bored.\" \n\nI told him that I wouldn't rat him out to his wife as long as he kept his distance and left me the hell alone. \n\nI went to work the next day, and vented to my coworkers about it. A lot of us had attended high school and knew the family as well. Turns out, this dude has gotten with more than a few girls my age. This dude has been stepping out on his wife for quite a while, and I feel like shit for telling him that I wouldn't say anything. \n\nA few months ago, he contacted me on facebook. \n\nThis obligates me to spill the beans, but how do you tell someone that their husband is a cheating asshat?\n\nWhat do, Reddit?", "summary": "Dude is porking other girls outside his marriage and propositioned me, now the guilt of not telling her is getting to me."}
{"id": "t3_3sv79t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] had an interesting experience with my high school sweetheart recently [23F]", "post": "When I was 17 in high school I started dating a girl who was a year older than me grade wise. This girl was widely considered one of the most attractive girls in the school. I've never had a girlfriend before and grew the balls to ask her out and it worked! Not only was I very much attracted to her, I found she has an awesome personality and we were like peas and carrots (Forrest Gump reference). We were very much in love until she had to move 9 hours away and things ended between us. We stayed in touch for awhile after she left but eventually grew apart due to distance. The last time I saw her we were on the beach about five years ago and we saw a shooting star together. \n\nA few month ago I saw on Facebook or something she was coming up to the area again to visit family. I thought what the heck I'll see if she'd want to hang out. And she did! It was the first time that I've seen her in five years. We were walking through a park that night and we saw a shooting star again...I thought this was crazy that we saw one again five years later and she acknowledged the significance as well. \n\nShe told me she is moving back to our area again in a few months. She's been back and forth since then taking care of business and we've been hanging out when she has been around. Each time we've hung out its been like peas and carrots again! \n\nI was just wondering what is the Reddit community's opinion on this situation and what do you make of the shooting star phenomenon? Personally I feel it's some sort of sign of fate, but I may be reading into it too much and just still have feelings for my first love. Thanks for reading!", "summary": "First love has come back into my life. Fate or not?"}
{"id": "t3_32x6c1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Waking up late.", "post": "So for once a post on here is something that actually happened today.\n\nThis morning was the worst morning ever. First: I woke up late, and seen that I didn't have very long before my bus for work was coming, so I hurried as fast as I could. Second: I rush out of the door only to realize that I locked my only keys in the house. Third: as I run to the bus stop I realized How cold it is by not having my Toque (Hat) on, and since its so cold and dry out m Nose starts bleeding. Fourth: since I had nothing to clean up with it dribbles onto my work uniform and down my face, so I run to the hotel near my bus stop I get some tissues and cover up what now looks like bar fight gone wrong. Fifth: since I was in the hotel cleaning up I missed my bus. Sixth: finally a bus comes by and I notice that I don't have my wallet... which has my bus pass, Thank god that the driver let me on. Seventh: I get to work and it my lunch break, lo and behold I don't have my lunch, but my co worker is super nice and buys me lunch (pizza). but they didn't tell me that its an extra cheese only pizza.... I'm lactose-intolerant, rest of my shift was spent helping hell take care of the burning shit drought. now here I am drinking water and sucking on an orange to try and get some kind of liquid and sugars back into my body before I pass out.", "summary": "How was your day? :)"}
{"id": "t3_2b5313", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m]How do I tell my girlfriend [25/f] that I have no relationship history?", "post": "I could probably write a (bad) book about how badly my teenage years went, ended up isolated socially and an unkissed virgin until I was almost 24. For the better part of a year I have managed to improve myself, I moved, got a better job, worked out, had a few encounters with girls. Now I have been seeing a really great girl for a couple of months and understandably she is trying to dig into my history a bit, but she has already noticed I am being a bit evasive on the subject. \n\nI have been \"pretending\" that I am a normal, outgoing, confident and social person, when really I feel like I am not. And even if you argue that I am, I have no doubts that if I tell her the entire truth she will think less of me.\n\nFrom what angle should I explain myself from, and/or in what way should I bend the truth to come out of this in the best way possible? I am even fine with fabricating complete lies if that's what it takes.", "summary": "Girlfriend want to know about my past relationships when I was an nerdy, unkissed loser until I was 24."}
{"id": "t3_3vsdca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [34F] of 15 years passed away earlier this year, does this get any easier?", "post": "My wife died in an accident earlier this year. We'd been together for 15 years, since I was 21 and she was 19. I've had so many people tell me that it gets easier, it'll get better, I will be okay but I wake up everyday and nothing, it doesn't hurt any less. The pain hasn't dulled in the slightest. It feels like everyday is worse than the last when I've heard it's supposed to be better with each passing day. \n\nAll I can think of was I never planned for this. We talked about adopting a child or two. We bought our first house together back in January, we talked about spending our Christmas in the Caribbean as we both really can't handle the cold. All I have these days is my job and every single person there treats me like a fragile toy or something. It gives me something to do though, it kills half my day so I don't spend that time bombarded with memories. \n\nThe rest of the time though, every single thing reminds me of her. My friends are completely supportive and so are my family members but it's just not helpful you know? It doesn't change the fact that the love of my life is gone. It doesn't change the fact that I don't know if I will ever love anyone the way I loved her, if at all. I know how melodramatic this sounds but it's how I feel. \n\nI don't know how to be better despite so many people saying it'll be easier. \n\nDoes it get any easier? Because it's only gotten worse for me.\n\nIn March, heaven might have gained an angel but I lost mine.", "summary": "wife passed away earlier this year, I've been stuck in a rut and it feels like I'll be here for a long time to come"}
{"id": "t3_1ppr8i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I say or do for a car sale company that is trying to fuck me over, to have them scared in to cutting the bullshit.", "post": "I went to thrifty car sales to get a car. paid $500 down and then the other $500 down. They told me the car was 48 mo at $381. Then they call me a couple days later telling me I need to sign the new contract because they \"luckily\" got my payment to go down. They tried avoiding the fact that it went from 48 months to 60 months and the payment went from 381 to 361. Do the math, that is more than a couple g's in price that it went up. I was like fuck that and decided not to get the car anymore. They charged me $600 for rental fees for 15 days that I had it, which i think is bullshit since they changed my contract in the first place, without ever letting me know that the one I signed may not be final. Now they are telling me they don't have record that I paid them the second $500 so I have to bring in a bank account statement showing them that they took the payments, so I can get the $400 back ($1000 down, they are taking $600 for rental for the $15 days, they own me $400 from the remaining).\n\nIs there anything I can say to them to make sure they don't try to fuck me over anymore? I'm fucking pissed and I'm sure there are laws they have to follow. \n\nbtw they told me not to mention to the bank that they let me take  the car with only $500 down with promise to pay the other $500 because the lender doesn't allow that. Should I threaten to let their lenders know there shady games?", "summary": "car company changed my contract for my car payment from 48 to 60 months which means the car cost went up a huge amount. decided I didn't want the car anymore so they charged me $600 of the $1000 I put down and now they are trying to avoid paying me back the $400 they own me because \"It's not in our books\". "}
{"id": "t3_34kv41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my 40M former sugar daddy for a year, no longer giving me money", "post": "I've been seeing a great guy for a year, under the pretenses that I would be his sugar baby. We quickly became great friends, chatting daily. However, a few months in, he decided he wanted to be just friends and not involve money anymore because he said he was not interested in sugaring any longer and just wanted to be friends. I liked him a lot and we have great chemistry. we  really have a fantastic time together, i love hangin out with him...he has few friends and considers me one of his closest. he even writes me sweet notes sometimes and tells me all the time he really likes me and cares for me. he's not big on sex and we don't do it often so i dont know that it was sex related, but i could be wrong. so i decided to continue the relationship without it being an arrangement.\n\nHe still pays for everything when we go out (food, movies, etc) and takes me on vacations where he pays for everything every once in a while. I was ok with not being compensated for my time because I figured he experimented with sugaring but decided he wasnt down and he seemed like he was being honest about it.\n\nhowever I found out recently that he recently activated an account on a famous sugar daddy site and is actively looking for new arrangements.\n\nI am not sure what to do. I confronted him about seeking arrangements with other women and he got mad that I brought it up and just said he was looking for friends.\n\nTo me, it seems like it doesn't make sense for me to continue spending so much time with a man without compensation, meanwhile other ladies are having actual arrangements, which is what i was looking for initially. Then again, it seems a little late to come up with arrangement terms a year later. \n\nI do really like hiim but my pride is getting the better of me. ultimately i dont know if i am being unreasonable though, he does still pay a lot for me and has always said he does not expect sex for it and doesnt even initiate it that often..", "summary": "Good friend / former sugar daddy said he didnt want to help me financially anmore because he was done with sugaring, however he is back at it on a website and is giving money to other ladies and I don't know if I should be okay with this or not."}
{"id": "t3_3ixp6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] with my friends [20-21/F], friends for a few years...what if I don't like them anymore?", "post": "I've been friends with these three girls for 2-3 years-ish. One of them (J) was my best friend before the other two (Z and Em) got involved. I introduced all of them to each other. \n\nA couple months ago, the three of them ganged up on me and told me all the reasons why I was a horrible person, as well as got involved in situations they didn't understand and were completely misinformed about. We eventually all \"made up\" I guess, but I've been annoyed ever since. all the things they accused me of are all things they themselves do...I literally can give examples and exact times. It's really annoying. But apparently I have no right to be angry about it but whatever. \n\nTonight, Z got mad at me for making a joke about her being late all the time and ignored me for hours at a party even though she knew I was really anxious at parties and in crowds. One thing they accused me of was making a big deal out of small things, but here is an exact moment when Z did the exact same thing...I didn't point it out to her, I kinda just got angry by myself but whatever. \n\nIt made me kinda realize how over these \"friendships\" I am. I'd be fine with just...cutting off ties but I hate being alone and I don't want to have 0 friends. I have other friends besides them, but still. I'm not so good at making new friends when I try. What should I do? I can't talk to them about it because I'll get yelled at for starting shit all over again.", "summary": "I hate most of my friends, what do I do??"}
{"id": "t3_34zihw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Boyfriend [M/21] struggles with alcoholism, how can I [F/22] help him?", "post": "I made an account just to post here. I am in a terrible spot in my relationship and though the wise people of reddit could help. \nI [22/F] have been with my boyfriend [21/M] for two years. I can honestly say he is the love of my life. I want to marry him and have a family someday when we're done with college. \nHowever, about 6 months in the relationship, he admitted to me about past occurrences with the law. He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse but saw our relationship as a new chance. I took this to heart and have done nothing but encourage him, like calling him just to tell him he's important or not drinking around him.\n He got arrested for drunk driving one night on his way to get me from class. I stayed with him the whole year he was on house arrest (although I spend 1/2 that on an out of state internship). Now he is on probation and thinks maybe one or two drinks is okay, even though it goes explicitly against the rules.\n I've done almost everything in my power besides breaking up with him to Give some kind of \"wake up call\" but he continues with immature behavior. What should I do to help an alcoholic who I love dearly?", "summary": "My bf struggles with alcoholism, and I've stuck with him through house arrest and probation, but he still lies about his habits. How can I help him with his addiction?"}
{"id": "t3_2l6epu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [24 F] with my bff [24 F] disrespectfully bailed on me, hasn't apologized, what does this mean!?!?", "post": "Halloween. All week I ask this girl that I've known for 10+ years what she's doing and invited her to my friend's party. At 5 pm, I text her, \"are u coming?\" she says: \"that's the plan isn't it?\"\n\nso my other girl and I go to the liqueur store and I pick her booze up, we go to her apt, where she is fake getting ready, then she starts saying weird shit that makes me believe she's about to bail like \"my bf is asking who's party we're going to\" and I start bitching at her being like \"can u not do this to me, like say you're going, make me come here, then change your mind?\"\n\nshe cuts me off, says she doesn't know what I'm talking about, leaves the room, then yells from her bedroom \"can my friend come?\" I say yes, then she spews BS about how she will meet us there. I don't even want to fight with her so I just say okay and leave.\n\nShe ignored my texts the rest of the night and she hasn't talked to me since. Am I overreacting in thinking that she doesn't give a fuck about our friendship? What do I do if she texts me?", "summary": "my bff ditched me on Halloween after she makes me scoop beer for her then ignores my texts and hasn't talked to me since"}
{"id": "t3_1g0np9", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Suggestions about stuff to see in a few European countries", "post": "I'll be going to Europe for about 2 weeks with my father, and am open to suggestions of things to see. \n\nI'm starting in Amsterdam and hopping on a train from the airport to Hamburg, then taking a train to Copenhagen, taking another train to Oslo, then another to Stockholm. Then I'm taking a boat to Helisinki, then flying from Helsinki to Amsterdam to stay for a few days then fly home. Throughout the trip I'll just be using public transportation. Accommodations are already taken care of.\n\nThe time I stay at each place is pretty free to be adjusted. Probably 2-3 days per city, depending on what there is to see. \n\nI would definitely love suggestions about stuff that is automobile or computing related, such as car shows or museums. Historical buildings are also of interest to me. Although, I'm not a fan of guided tours.\n\nIf it matters, I'm 15, so suggestions of places to drink are not useful to me yet.\n\nMy dad is a good amateur photographer, so I'll be sure to post any good pictures I get in an album once I return.", "summary": "What to see in Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Oslo, Stockholm, Helsinki."}
{"id": "t3_50fsdj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm absolutely terrified for her.", "post": "I can't even properly place how long this has been happening.\n\nMyself: 18. Chronically ill, in pain most of the time, depressed and schizoaffective. Currently out of work and out of school, because I genuinely can't get my shit together well enough -- though I'm trying to get a job and planning to start at community college soon. My parents are pretty damn good, but don't really understand everything that's going on with me and tend to get frustrated when I try to help them get it.\n\nMy SO: Also 18. Depressed and anxious at *least*, and showing serious alcoholic tendencies, but we have no idea what the \"facts\" are about her mental health. This is because her family situation is horrible. She's working part-time (as often as she possibly can) and going to college, still living at home and unable to support herself alone. Her father is one of the most disgusting piece of shit humans I've ever had the displeasure of knowing of. He's severely emotionally abusive, to both her, her mother, and her adolescent brother. No one can do shit about it because he provides for the whole family, basically.\n\nWe live several states apart from one another and have been together for a while. And it drives me absolutely up the wall knowing I can't do anything for her. Everything is too fucked up, and I'm terrified on a daily basis that something's going to go wrong -- which is lovely, considering I'm *already* paranoid.\n\nI love her more than I could even express, and honestly, our relationship is one of the best I ever had. But being forced to sit idly by while the person I love is subjected to this, is unsafe, is feeling worse and worse every day... I have no idea what to do. This is so impossible to bear.", "summary": "I'm chronically ill and my life's in vague shambles. My partner is in an abusive household she can't get out of. I'm so scared for her and there's literally nothing more I can do."}
{"id": "t3_21y8pl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What Not to Do On April Fool's Day", "post": "Don't disappear without contacting spouse, go to casino and spend a measley $20. When spouse's expectations for (a)surprise lunch date and (b)being entitled to spend the same amount for other random things are not met, the result is something like this:\n\n\"Be back in ___ minutes or i'm throwing your shit out in the yard.\" Within an hour, that becomes \"You never do anything, I'm not going to help you reach a career goal by investing the few hundred I said I would, and you have no friends because you take no initiative with anything, ever. Also, you broke my trust and always do. I've put up with this for ___ years.\" (Nutshell version.)\n\nI'll be taking initiative soon, and I assure you that it won't be a petty revenge. See ya, chump. Go be happy if I'm that much of a joykill. If you're reading this, be assured that you won't be paying those filing fees. I've got this. Happy Anniversary, honey. I'm moving out in June at the latest.", "summary": "I gambled, which apparently broke trust, was harangued about it, then divorce was threatened."}
{"id": "t3_1szzp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [30 F] tell him [32 M] I've had a crush on him for years?", "post": "At one point years ago, we went to the same school. We had a class together and I learned his name and found him online. I wanted to talk to him back then, or just send a message, but never had the nerve. So, we never actually had a conversation. School ended, I moved away, had multiple relationships and jobs... \n\nBut I never forgot him.\n\nA few times a year I would google him to see what he was doing. I found his blog which went as far back as to when we were in school together, and found out we had a lot more in common that I originally thought. If only I had known then what I know now, I definitely would have tried to talk to him. \"If I ever see him again, I'll march right up and start a conversation like a normal person!\" I've been telling myself. Yeah right, I'd probably lose my nerve again. :( \n\nI'm going to be in his city for a few days during the holidays to visit friends. There is a tiny chance that he will be at a bar at the same time that I am, but a bigger chance he won't be. I live far away now and don't go back for visits often.\n\nReddit, should I message him and confess everything? \n\nI don't want him to feel creeped out, and if he wasn't interested then I would respect that. A flat-out rejection might be just the thing to finally get him out of my head.\n\nHas anyone else ever gone through this? I've read a lot about \"limerance\" and it sounds pretty close to my situation. I don't know what else to do to get over it though.", "summary": "I've had a secret crush on this guy for years. I'll be in his city for the holidays. Should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_1dv7fz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "need help with my job search.", "post": "I am a collage university student back in my hometown looking for a summer job. I am having trouble finding a not terrible  job. More So I have a very good skill set. I am very technically minded. I am Studying electrical engineering, and have plenty of knowledge of Linux, Windows, and Mac. If i do not know something about a problem I have gained the technical knowledge to be able to Google and deduce a solution. So something technical is right up my alley, The few places I have applied to that I qualify for ( the job i really want is full time, associates degree needed) (mostly sales associate in retail) will not hire summer workers. That really is my only super strong skill set, besides patience, and being good with unfriendly people. \nI realize I will most probably have to settle, but I could really use some tips for finding summer jobs, So I don't waste my time with a company who only hires full time or part time long term.\nI could also use some help", "summary": "?"}
{"id": "t3_2956a4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I quit my new job to take a short lived opportunity?", "post": "Ok, so I will give you the run down of my current situation.\n\nI am working a night shift job a a very large international company. In terms of advancement opportunities it is an excellent company to work for long term and forge a career within. It is however, dull work which is of little interest to me, but pays well and covers all of my bills and rent with a little left over for myself and to save. \n\nHowever, I have lately been having more and more opportunities come my way which involve being paid to travel both nationally and internationally - flights, accommodation, meals, shopping all paid for plus being paid a daily rate (which is better than what my traditional workplace pays).\n\nThe problem with the latter is I don't know how often these opportunities will arise, however at the moment I have been offered three in the next 3 months, and I don't know how long they will be available to me. \n\nIt has become apparent that I can no longer juggle both my regular job and these all inclusive excursions, as I only have 4 weeks leave per year, and have already used them going on these trips. \n\nI'm not sure whether it is wise to quit my safe career job and take a chance on these opportunities while they are available to me, or whether I should do the opposite and stick with the safe moderate paying job and be unable to travel any more than 4 weeks a year for the rest of my career. \n\nI could take unpaid leave, but it is becoming such a frequent occurrence now that I am being offered these trips that I don't think my boss would allow me to continue taking so much time off. \n\nAny advice?\n\nDo I quit and live an amazing opportunistic life while I can, or do I stay and try and build a career in a safe company with moderate pay?\n\nI should mention, I am 24 and currently studying part time also, and I do not currently work in the field I am studying, although the company I work for does have a department which I could eventually transfer to.", "summary": "Current job = safe, stable career building and fair pay. "}
{"id": "t3_40fh5x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my great uncle to die", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today, this happened a few years ago. \n\nI was being young and foolish, chasing my little brother around teasing him. We had been spending the day at my Great Grandfather's house and it has gotten late in the day. My parents were separated but my mother had phoned my dad to say goodnight to my little brother (She had my little brother, my dad had me), and my great uncle made the remark \"Aww you gotta phone your mommy\". Without thinking I wittily snapped back and said **\"Why don't you phone yours\"**, and it had not hit me until a few hours later. Six years before this my Great Grandmother (his Mother) had died of liver cancer. I had accidentally told him to go die. A few years later he died of heart complications due to years of smoking.", "summary": "Told uncle to die, he died a year later."}
{"id": "t3_tvbw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't want to seem materialistic, but how do I get a gift from my BF?  Hear me out.", "post": "I've been dating this amazing guy for about 8 months now, and my birthday is coming up soon.  For Valentine's Day, I told him I wanted something from him that he put some thought into.  He doesn't have much money and is sensitive about that, so I made sure to tell him I don't care if he spends any money on it, a poem or home-made gift is perfectly fine.  He's good with his hands and is very creative, so I didn't think that was a problem.  Valentine's Day comes and he got me absolutely nothing, not even a card.  He did plan a wonderful hike for us (which we agreed upon a head of time), and felt very bad that I got him a gift and he got me nothing. We still had a great day, but I was disappointed and I think he knew it.\n\nHe says he want to plan a party for my birthday, which would be wonderful since no one but my mother has ever thrown me a party, but I would really like something I can hold to remind me of him.  How can I let him know this without hurting his feelings?  He really is a great guy and everything else is perfect.  We normally communicate extremely well but since I communicated clearly last time and didn't get anything I don't know what to do.  Let me know if there are details missing that would help.\n\nAlso: I have given him ideas in the past and he has mentioned things he wanted to make for me, some of which would have been very sweet, but he has never followed through on anything.  My Christmas present was him changing light bulbs at my apartment.\n\nRequested:  I am turning 23, he is 25.", "summary": "I want a real, physical, actual gift from my boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_qp7s2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, someone tried to steal from my apartment last night.", "post": "I had a small party last night at my apartment, with about 15 people. We were drinking and having a good time, when the one (really cute) girl got really sketchy and kinda sorta ran outta here without saying goodbye to half the people. Her excuse was she had work in the morning and was really drunk.\n\nFast forward two hours later; My friends walk back up from their car, and hand me my iPad. They said they found it in their car, had no idea how it got there, and the only other person that had access to the car was the cute girl. Through 3rd grade logic and deduction, it seems pretty obvious she stole it, got cold feet or something and left.\n\nI texted her last night and this morning, and, while at first she didn't admit to it, she gave me a really big apology about how drunk she was blah blah blah. She called me crying, saying how she really didn't want to be called a thief, and how bad she felt, and how she doesn't even really remember anything from last night when she left. She said she could've taken it, but 'honestly' doesn't remember.\n\nSo, at least I got my iPad back. The problem I'm facing now is, she's friends with a couple other friends of mine, and a good bro of mine is also trying to kinda get with her.. He won't if I don't think we can trust her though. (hence, good bro) But we're not sure if we can trust her. Should I knock this one up to stupid drunken mistakes and let her back into my house? (after hiding my shit better of course) Or is this a done deal, the girls a thief?", "summary": "girl tried to steal from me, got it back, she apologized, should I care. I like turtles."}
{"id": "t3_3ccjm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] told a girl I liked her [19F] in a drawn out, multi-step, inconclusive manner - next step?", "post": "So I had this really awkward talk with the girl I've liked for the past year now. We work in the same place so I started by asking if anyone had been asking her about us - I now regret this and I wish I'd just said I like you, let's go out some time. Instead I guess I wanted to gage her reaction and I ended up jokingly asking if she had a 'crazy crush' on me. She laughs and says 'not crazy'. A few sentences when we talk about what other people have said I say the words 'so if I did ask you out, what'd you say' to which she says 'I'd give it a go'. We kind of ended it there because we both had places we realy needed to be.\n\nToday we talked again, kind of breifly. This time I just said 'cut to the chase, d'you want to go out with me sometime' She once again said she'd give it ago but the way was kind of non-enthusiastic. I wasn't  expecting her to celebrate but the way she said it made me feel bad, I felt like it was something I was now pressuring her into after a year of being friends. Anyways, I check my phone and see my grand dad just died so said we'll leave this hear since I have to go for a few days (almost instantly because of funeral circumstances). \n\nBasically I feel like I've dragged this on in a really weird and awkward way. I think it's kind of clear that we both like each other, but she has some reservations because of her own life and I did too which was why I hadn't asked before. Basically, how would you proceed?\n\nThe way I'm thinking is over the next few days, send a few texts, give it some space for a few days or so and then when it makes sense ask her to actually do something and say let's make a date of it. That sound reasonable?", "summary": "How should I proceed having kind of established me and a girl like each other in the most mammby pampy way possible"}
{"id": "t3_338l20", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Career advice for a graduate looking to going into hospitality!", "post": "Hi redditors, so here is my situation...\n\nI am currently graduating this year but have 2 more exams to do in May. I have a job offer as a sales executive to start right now with a great salary, but I know I'm going to hate doing it. My plan is to do that for 3 months until an internship for my dream company opens up in August and then to apply there. Going from sales executive to internship, should give me a great chance of getting that internship but... There are never any guarantees right?\n\nOn the other hand, I could just finish my exams, and then start an internship in June which has been offered to me and then apply for the internship at my dream company in August. But if I don't get the internship, then I'll be jobless.", "summary": "Do I stay in a great job I hate for 3 months (whilst doing 2 school exams) and then try to go for an internship at my dream company, or do I finish my exams, do one internship then apply for another internship at my dream company?"}
{"id": "t3_340cb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] think I may be becoming bored in my one year relationship with my girlfriend [17F] and I'm not sure if I should break up with her", "post": "Our relationship has generally been really really good. We don't fight much, communication's great, we're basically in sync in pretty much every way. The only problem is that I think I'm bored.  \n   \n  \nWhy do I think I'm bored? She went away to a competition and I still enjoyed myself plenty. I spent a lot of time talking to friends and playing games with them. I feel like I should have missed talking to my girlfriend at the end of the day but I really didn't. I realized that talking to her had sorta started feeling more like something I was obligated to do rather than something that I was looking forward to.   \n    \n  \n\nTomorrow's our one year anniversary and I had this great idea for a gift. Shortly after we started dating she gave me her yearbook to sign and I took it home because I told her I wanted to write something long. I think she's forgotten I have it by now so the idea was to give it back to her with a love note written in the back. I'm sitting here with the pen and I have no idea what to write. Nothing's coming to me. Shouldn't this be easy if I love her? I've written love notes before, so this won't exactly be my first. Is there something wrong there?  \n  \nWe've kinda put a lot into this relationship. Not only the time; we also lost our virginities to each other. She's religious so that was a huge deal for her. After all we've been through I feel like boredom is a pretty weak reason to break up. So should I? Am I expecting too much out of this relationship? What should I do?", "summary": "I'm bored in my relationship. Is that as bad a reason to break up as I think it is?"}
{"id": "t3_35p9sh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] concerned about age gap with a potential girlfriend", "post": "I am an exchange student in a foreign country this year, and in the next few days i will be going out with a girl that i met recently.\nMy concern is the age difference and wonder what you guys think about it. I am 17 and will be turning 18 in 2 months, she is 16 and her birthday isnt until november. \n\nSo i am 1.5 years older than her and it makes me a bit unsure, even though when i met her i assumed she was 17/18 based on her looks.\n\nI recently read a post about some girl (15) that was going out with a guy that was like 24. I know that is totally different but just reading the stuff about how the family was very concerned etc puts me off. Because there *would* be a period of a few months where i am 18 and she is 16, and i worry about the connotations of that and what her family etc would think.", "summary": "Im 17 almost 18 and a girl i am going out with in the next few days is 16, im worried about the age gap."}
{"id": "t3_435d8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my husband [26 M] married 4 years, he cheated on me for first 3 years and I'm so lost", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 8 years, but married 4. Our first 3 years of marriage, he cheated on me several times. He slept with another woman once, but sexted/exchanged nudes with other women/a co-worker several other times. \n\nI want to be clear, I am not looking to divorce at this point, I'm just looking to see if we can reconcile things and perhaps move on from there. I have tried to hold it together for the past 3 years of knowing and I feel like I'm falling apart. My main reason for not divorcing is that we have 2 young children together and I don't think it's healthy for them to grow up in a single parent home. Plus I don't think I could ever trust any other man again, especially around my kids (due to traumatizing events in my own childhood).\n\nI am lost, I don't have many friends who understand what this feels like or know how to help. I feel emotionally dead inside, super worn out and struggling to even mother my children some days. I've started counselling but I wondered if anyone on here could offer support. What else can I do for help?", "summary": "Husband of 4 years has cheated on me for 3 of them, I am extremely worn out mentally, physically and emotionally. Have started counselling so I can be a better mother, but still don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_54gthd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 3 years. She keeps dropping hints that she expects a proposal, and I'm not ready. We have a long trip planned soon, and I know she'll be miserable there if I don't pop the question. Should I warn her before we go that it won't be happening while we're there?", "post": "We're visiting our college, which is important to both of us, for homecoming. Her whole family and my whole family will be there. She has mentioned multiple times, and had her best friend text me, that that weekend is her ideal time to be proposed to.\n\nI'm not completely ready to propose, and I know I will not be doing it in 2 weeks. I think I want to propose to her eventually, but not right now. Should I talk to her before we go so she knows exactly where I stand so she doesn't get let down when while we're there?", "summary": "Big weekend coming up, she expects proposal, it's not coming. How to warn her it won't be coming?"}
{"id": "t3_27ploc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My biggest motivator has trouble motivating herself.", "post": "Recently, I have made some major changes to my diet and exercise that have led me to lose 20 lbs. My biggest supporter through it all has been my wife. She made all the difference in my attitude towards weightloss.\n\nWhen we met 8 years ago we were both active. We loved to work out and were both at a healthy weight. As time went on and we started a family we got comfortable with ordering fast food and watching TV or movies instead of working out. Anybody who has kids knows that eating right and exercising are hard to fit in a busy 'round-the-clock schedule. So we both put on some extra weight. \n\nAbout 2 months ago, something in my head flipped and I started my weightloss journey. I can't pinpoint what turned me around but whatever it was, worked. When i began I asked my wife to join me but she politely refused and kept her current eating habits.\n\nLast night she broke down. She confided in me that she thinks she has a food addiction. She takes care of me, her children and her job, and takes very little care of herself. When she does, she indulges in her favorite foods. This causes her to be very insecure. She so badly wants to get motivated to do something about it but she doesn't feel like it's worth it. She can build confidence in anyone she talks to but she can't do it for herself. I try so hard to build her up but she has a hard time believing me because her insecurity is so deep.\n\nI love her so much and it hurts so bad to see her like this. What can I do to motivate her to become the person she once was. I only want her to be happy, I'm just at a loss on how to make that happen. Any advice will help.", "summary": "My biggest motivator has trouble motivating herself. What can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_2zctvh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24w) with my collegues at work (25-50w/m): I feel like I missed the opportunity to fit in, because I am too shy.", "post": "Excuse my English, it is not my native language. This is my first post ever on reddit, so bear with me please. \n\nI don't even know if this is the right place to post this, but I need some thoughts/advise in this matter. \n\nI am and always have been really shy but I feel like I have improved a lot over the last few years. As a teenager I was very self-conscious and always felt like an outsider. People always considered me as arrogant because I didn't talk much and was distant. \n\nIt is better now and I enjoy getting to know new people, but I have a lot of problems fitting in a group of people who already know each other well. \nI don't like talking in front of a bunch of people and I hate being the center of attention. I still am shy and that will never change. \n\nSo I have been an intern at this agency since January and the people are really nice. But I feel like I have missed my opportunity to fit in because I feel so self-conscious again! It is like high school all over again with me being the strange kid that sits in the corner silently wishing to fit in. \n\nNow the problem is that everyone seems to have come to think I am the strange silent kid who doesn't want to fit in. But thats not the case, I just feel like all the people know each other very well and I kind of am left behind because of that. \n\nI thought I am over this but it is so hard breaking out of the image that every one has become to see you in. I am the shy girl that doesn't say anything so they do not try to talk to me anymore, kind of. \nBut I am not that kind of girl, I actually are very outgoing and funny once I overcome my shyness. \n\nSo...I hope I made my situation clear, it kind of is very hard to explain. I feel a little bit pushed into a situation I don't like but I don't know how to change it. I feel really anxious as if the awkward old teenage-me is coming back.", "summary": "I am labelled as the shy awkward new girl at work and do not know how to change that."}
{"id": "t3_212t7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M18] Why do I still feel like this?", "post": "A little short story of my past relationship nearly 2 years ago now.\n\nI was 16 and my girlfriend cheated on me at parties. Several times. and I knew about each time she did them. But idiot me stayed with her thinking she'd change each time. So before every party she went to, i'd get very paranoid. Couldn't eat, nothing entertained me, became very down and of course she cheated on me, everything came out, back bf and gf (We actually never broke up until the final time she did it.) and then a couple month later we're back to square one.\n\nNow i'm with my new girlfriend of 6+ months [F17] And she is amazing. I think the world of her, she thinks the world of me, and so forth, all the gooey stuff. Sexual life is good, talking is good.\n\nSo, tomorrow, she's going to someone's 18th Party.. and it's starting again. I having no reason not to trust her. it's just.. that's what happened last time, and my heart got broke. Why do I still feel like this? I don't want to become paranoid like last time and ask her questions like \"Did any kiss/touch/etc you?\" No. nonono. I can't do that again. I have said a couple things like, make sure no boys do anything and of course she said \"no of course not\", and the all the sexy, cute stuff comes out like yours is the only one for me etc.\n\nHow can I stop feeling like this? I don't want to be feeling paranoid like this everytime she goes out to partys. It's been 2 freaking years since the last time too. My head is just a complete mess.", "summary": "Past realtionship, gf cheated multiply times at partys, got me paranoid, two years later, new gf, going to party, paranoid again for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_52l92w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I 22(M) move in with my 19(F) gf's parents and her?", "post": "I moved out of my parents house 5 years ago. Ive had roomates and finally my own place the past 2 years. Its expensive to live alone but I love the privacy and space. Now Ive had a gf the past year and a half almost. She lives at home and loves coming over and having loud sex or whatever. We can do whatever because its my private apartment, no one is comming home,  its just me.  So we can try all different types of sex moves, we can read to each other, cry with each other. No one hears us, no one is judging in the other room. We drive 3 hours round trip just to spend time with each other.\n\nAnyways she lives 1.2 hours south of me, and my job ended recently so I got a new job closer to her. Just  22 minutes away. Im looking for a place to live but since my new job starts in a week I dont have pay stubs to show a apartment company. So im considering renting a room somewhere.\n\nMy gf lives in a huge house with her parents and they have an extra room. Should I move in there? They are offering it to me. This would be untill I complete a LVN course and become a LVN so (4-5 months) then with a LVN salary I can afford to buy a condo/house and get a mortgage.\n\nSo the question is should I move in with her family temperately for 4-5 months? I love her mom and dad, they like me, I recently flew my parents over to meet her family and they like them all. Everythings good. I flew her with me to cali to meet my family. But I like my privacy and im not trying to see the family 24/7.\n\nMy other option is to rent a room in a house near my work and her for 4-600 a month. I would be happy with this option. The gf's parents offer thier room for 2-300.. its not about the money though.", "summary": "should I move in with my gf's parents and her?"}
{"id": "t3_1keejy", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Stopping my puppy from jumping on my other dogs", "post": "I have a 3.5 month old 20 lb foster failure as the newest member of my family. He is super smart and reacts well to praise as reward instead of treats. I trained him with reward and play rather than treats because I was fostering him for digestive and intestinal issues and didn't want to give him anything that would upset his fragile tummy. \nI also have two other dogs in my life, that I've also raised since they were 7 weeks old. They are a pair of 6 year old (less than 15 lbs each) mini dachshund siblings, male and female. \nAll three dogs get along well as far as playing with toys, not being jealous of \"mommy or daddy\" and things of that sort. The only issue we are having is that the pup has a bad habit of pouncing on my dachshunds, even without playing first. \n\nAs many of you know, dachshunds are notorious for having back problems, and I'm really worried that the new puppy will unintentionally hurt one or both of them. How can I get the puppy to understand that jumping on the older dogs is not allowed, but he can still play with them? (chase, tug-of-war, etc)", "summary": "Large puppy wont stop jumping on smaller, older dogs. How can I allow play, but not jumping?"}
{"id": "t3_3vh1vu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 F] scared to break up with my boyfriend[23 M] of 3 years for fear he'll sabotage my career", "post": "It's been a rough few months. We were engaged, then I caught him cheating. I should have just cut off contact there, but he's been my best friend for years, and I wasn't strong enough to leave. The trust is completely gone though, and it's just a rotten relationship at this point (weekly fights, with both our feelings hurt, huge disagreements that don't get resolved but we just decide to not touch on them again). \n\nIt's pretty clear I should leave. But, I just got my dream job at a big newspaper. It's something I've dreamt and worked for for years. He knows how much I've wanted this and I'm scared he'll do something vindictive like call them and accuse me of plagarism or some personal flaws if I try to leave. (He has a history of pulling similar things in the past which I'd attributed to depression, but obviously it was stupid to excuse it).\n\nI've been advised that even if my employer doesn't fire me/even if he doesn't provide definitive proof, it will still look bad to them that I have this sort of \"baggage\". I really, really don't want to risk this job. Should I just keep this relationship going until I've proven myself at work?", "summary": "Scared of having job prospects ruined if I break up with someone."}
{"id": "t3_3dpo6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with [21 M] not really sure what to think", "post": "I want to apologize in advance if this is in the wrong place or sounds too frivolous/needy. I'm not really sure what to think about my situation and whether I should keep talking to this guy or just let it go.\n\nA month or so ago I started talking to this guy, really nice and he seemed genuinely interested. I probably talked to him more than I talked to my best friends. We exchanged numbers, we hung out, etc. Thing is, we haven't really hung out in person much at all. Once he came over to my house and stayed for several hours, another time we went to see a movie together. That's it. Other than that, we text and snapchat a lot but that's about it. I think it's more to do with our work schedules than anything else, but it always seems like we make plans often but never really follow through with them (playing volleyball together, going swimming, getting coffee, etc.) \n\nRecently he's kind of been more distant though. He goes hours and even days without so much as opening one of my snapchats (he might update his story, snapchat other people, but doesn't even open mine). I also followed him on Twitter a while back and he never did follow me back. The thing is, he always seems genuinely interested in me in person. Despite all of this other stuff he seemed really excited to go to the movies with me, we talked a lot, it was like nothing had changed. Usually when he starts a conversation with me on snapchat or text he sounds like he genuinely wants to talk to me. But halfway through these conversations he just sort of stops responding and ignores me until he starts this whole process again. \n\nAgain, I really hope I don't sound too overly-attached or needy. I just don't have much experience with relationships (I've talked to quite a few guys but I've never actually been in a relationship with anyone, they all just stop talking to me after a few weeks) and I'm not sure if I should keep going with this guy or just move on at this point. What do you guys think I should do or say? Any advice you can give me would be really appreciated, thanks in advance.", "summary": "Getting mixed signals from this guy I've been talking to for a while, not sure if I should keep at it or just move on."}
{"id": "t3_2vox4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [F23] is involved in an emotionally abusive relationship with another [F23]. What can I do to help?", "post": "My close friend has been in a relationship for over a year with another woman. My friend has gone through a lot of stress because she just came out to her family and her partner is the first girl she has ever been with. \n\nI have tried to be open-minded about her partner, but recent events have caused me to lose my patience. Her partner has essentially decided she isn't sexually attracted to my friend anymore, and while she still wants to be in a relationship with her (because my friend is very successful career wise and has a lot of money), she is going to start sleeping with other women. When my friend says anything about being uncomfortable with the situation, her partner simply says, \"Break up with me then.\"\n\nWhat irritates me the most about all of this is that her partner has essentially brainwashed my friend into believing this relationship is healthy. She tells her that open relationships are normal in the LGBT community, and that \"straight people don't get it.\" But my friend **does not want an open relationship and is not comfortable with it**. The absolute **worst** part about all of this is that to further humiliate my friend, her partner *discusses* her sex life with her and has even brought sex partners over to my friend's house!\n\nI am at a loss on what to do. When I try to discuss it with her, she talks to me about how her friend's who are straight just don't understand. I can't believe this waste of space person exists and I want to slap her in the face. I am so concerned that if I try to intervene I will lose a friend. What on earth can I do?", "summary": "Friend is being emotionally abused by her partner who is forcing an open relationship on her and humiliating her. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_27mrqv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What changed? Did I do something wrong?", "post": "So my best friend (m20) and I(f22) have been having sex since December. When we first started our arrangement he was against it initially, but then he got really into it. We had a talk about how we felt about each other a few months ago and I told him that I had really strong feelings for him and asked him if he felt the same. He said that there were some romantic feelings there, because we have sex with each other, but that he didn't want a relationship.\n\nHe told me that if I wanted to I could end the arrangement, but he begged me not to let him go as my best friend. I decided that we still enjoyed having sex with each other and that we should continue our arrangement. However, I changed some things about it. I didn't bring up feelings anymore, I stopped us from cuddling after sex, and I stopped sleeping over the nights we didn't have sex.\n\nI've been going out of town this summer, most recently I went home for a week. When I came back I went over there to hang with him, but he seemed like he didn't want me there. He's never acted like that before so I just brushed it off as a fluke.\n\nHe's leaving for the summer in a few days, so I'm trying to see him a little more. I probably see him 2-3 nights a week, but I'll only stay 1 night for sex, which is normal for us. The other night when I went to hang out we we're playing video games and then we watched a movie. We had been drinking and so I passed out on the bed, when I woke up he wasn't there he had slept on the couch in his living room.\n\nHe was asleep when I left, so I texted him and asked him if we were okay. He said that he feels like I never go home and that we aren't dating and basically politely freaked out on me and said he needed space. I really don't understand why he would say any of that to me. I haven't insinuated that we were dating. I've respected our friendship and his feelings. I have never pressured him to change our dynamic, so my question is: what changed?", "summary": "Having sex with my best friend,  wanted a relationship but he didn't. We decided we should continue having sex. I respected his feelings by not cuddling after sex anymore and not staying over if we weren't having sex. Basically, I made sex no strings attached like he said he wanted, but NOW he wants space.  What the fuck is that about?"}
{"id": "t3_1ijha8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[27M] met this girl (24F) on fb through a friend...now sure what to take of this situation?", "post": "Ok, so last thursday i came across a post on fb where this girl commented on my friends picture.  I asked him who she was and found out she works with him.  He talked to her at work and said someone was asking about her and that he told the person to shoot her a msg.  She responded with yea sure, is he cute blah blah.  Which I passed the test to those questions.\n\nAnyways, so I msged and we talked, and i ended up getting her number.  Come next evening (friday), I ask her what her plans are for the weekend and ask to come out on sat.  She texted back and said \"i dont know you lol\".  So i figure I get to know her a little more.  we exchanged few texts on sat and sunday, and on sunday, I asked her if she would be down to go out and grab drinks and food.  HOWEVER, I didnt get any response back.  \n\nAll this time, she was pretty quick to text back, but after my last msg on sunday, I have not received any msges back.  \n\nMy friend through messenger at work, chatted with her and she asked him how old i was etc etc...small questions and he put in some work and she said \"omg perfect, I am going to msg him\" was one of the msges she sent him.  This was tuesday.  However, I still have not received anything from her.  I am a bit confused with this right now.  \n\nWhat should i do???", "summary": "I met a girl through fb, i am getting mixed signals, what can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2d9qo6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my SO [19 F] suddenly stops talking to me with no warning sometimes.", "post": "We've been really good friends for several years and harbored feelings for each other for most of that time. \nWe've been \"together\" for a few months now, and everything has been going very well. We never really fight and when we do we're able to discuss things pretty openly and calmly so we can come to a resolution.\n\nUnfortunately, we live about 8 hours away from each other. She visits her family here often and she has plans to move back home ASAP, but it's still pretty taxing. \n\nThe only real problem I have is that occasionally she will just stop talking to me. There's no warning for when it happens. The silence  typically lasts 3-5 days. It really sucks and I don't ever know what to do when it happens. I've brought it up to her before, but we never really come to any sort of resolution. \n\nIs it okay for me to be upset by this? I've had a string of very unhealthy relationships prior to this, and I've picked up a bad habit of minimizing my feelings for the sake of other people. She's done a lot for me and I don't want to make a big deal over something that I have no right being upset about.", "summary": "Long-distance girlfriend stops talking to me with no warning sometimes. Is it okay for me to be upset by this?"}
{"id": "t3_31p7lg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bringing a gun into airport customs", "post": "Obligatory: this fuck up happened about 6 years ago\n\nI was about 10 at the time, I started packing my hand luggage for the 8 hour flight to NYC. This is the crux of the story: I didn't empty the bag. So I packed everything on top: pack of cards, pens and a pad of paper, the usual stuff for a 10 yo.\n\nSkip to security at Heathrow, I put my bag through the scanner, and we're waiting for the bag to come out s they keep re-scanning it. Then a bunch of armed police with big ass guns surround us (being from the UK, this means shit is going down). My parents get moved away from me and I'm standing there with armed police on either side being made to unpack my bag, really slowly. I had no idea what was happening, as far as I was concerned there was nothing wrong. I get to the very last item, put my hand in....and feel the handle. I felt the colour drain from my face as I slowly took it out. This wasn't some crappy plastic gun either, it was a top-notch, fully metal revolver. They knew it was a toy, but had to go through procedures. Parents almost faced arrest for being so careless with what I had packed.\n\nJust to makes things worse, on the way back I was chosen for a \"random\" luggage check and my parents had put a 2L bottle of vodka in my suitcase", "summary": "Took a metal toy gun into airport customs, got surrounded by armed police and my parents almost got arrested"}
{"id": "t3_1mdw1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22/M] losing interest in my SO [21/F] of 18 months. Advice on how to handle my feelings or what to do!", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend 18 months but recently I've started to think about a life outside our relationship.  These thoughts started about a week or so ago and have only gotten stronger over the past few days.\n\nAllow me to describe the scenario:\n\n* I've found myself looking at other women the way I looked at my SO before we were together.  I'd never be unfaithful (I know from experience the pain and upset that comes with it) but I feel guilty none the less.\n \n* We're having regular sex but it feels like we are doing it for the sake of it when we're horny rather than because there is a connection (at least that's how it feels to me).  She's quite good looking so there is attraction in that sense of the word but in terms of personality I feel as though I'm tired of her, that shes annoying me or perhaps we are incompatible (this feeling comes and goes).\n \n* I've found myself making up excuses to not meet up with her or stay at her place despite the fact she lives less than an hours drive away.  She is in no way a needy partner but recently I've been finding it hard to give her the attention and affection one would usually give to a SO.\n \n* The worst part (and it kills me to say this) is when I say I love you I don't feel as though I mean it.  I feel like a lier despite the fact that I obviously care about her, just how deeply is something I struggle to define.\n\n---\n\n**Should I talk to her about how I'm feeling?  If so has /r/relationships got any tips on how to start/steer the conversation?**\n\n**Have any of you ever found yourself feeling the same or in a similar situation?  If so how did it pan over time?**\n\n**Any general tips to help myself understand how I am feeling or what I want**\n\nThanks in advance for any advice.  I feel relieved just typing that out.", "summary": "Losing interest in my girlfriend of 18 months, confused about feelings and how to handle the situation. Looking for advice!"}
{"id": "t3_2ozidz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing most of my final even though I was on campus", "post": "So today I had my last final of the semester in genetics. Most people in my class are failing but I had the chance to get an A if I got an A on the final. I was up all night studying and left my house this morning at 8 so as to not be late and give myself a chance to study a bit before the test. Now the class normally begins at 10:50 and my university does this thing where your final normally begins at the beginning of the hour your class starts rather than the normal time do I assumed my test was at 10. Flash forward to 9:55 and I'm waiting in the lobby of the bio building but there is no one else waiting. It is then that I begin to realize the test is not in fact at 10. I finally find the syllabus for the class and there in all capital letters: FINAL EXAM 9:00.", "summary": "I got to school at 8, thought my exam started at 10, figured out (at 10) that my exam actually started an hour prior and I had been sitting in the building the whole time"}
{"id": "t3_uwbr8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What are some of your craziest/most fucked up roommate stories?", "post": "Anything from crazy nights to hospital visits to waking up in three towns over. I'll start: \n\nThis happened my freshmen year (2years ago) of college. I stayed in one night to catch up on some homework/study while my roommate and some of his friends were going out drinking. 2 hours later I get a knock on my door. It was his two friends. Apparently my roommate decided to steal someone's drink which unbeknownst to him it was drugged with something. Me and his two friends were now tasked with bringing 200lbs of dead weight up stairs to the third floor in a building with no elevator without catching any attention. The night ended with him on the floor of the second floor stair case posted up with a book open and a pair of sunglasses on until the morning.", "summary": "Roommate stole drink, drugged himself. I was tasked with bringing him upstairs. Ended up on the second floor (I lived on the 3rd) in a corner with a book and sunglasses."}
{"id": "t3_xbb6m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest cultural misunderstanding you've ever gotten yourself into?", "post": "I am from the US. One of my friends is from Columbia, I've known him for a little over a year. Yesterday he asked me why I make dog noises when I learn new things. I asked for an example, the example he gave was \"Oh, wow, I didn't know that\". I responded that I do say that when I learn something new, but where does he hear a dog noise? He then explained in Columbia dogs say \"guao\" instead of woof, guao is pronounced 'wow'. We then went on to have a 30 minute conversation about the different noises animals make, like roosters say \"kikiriki\" and not cockadoodledoo.", "summary": "My friend thought I made random dog noises because in Spanish animal noises are different than in English."}
{"id": "t3_2e9l4k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading furry yaoi shota doujins at work NSFW", "post": "TIFU and only a few minutes ago.\nSo I'm developping an internal website and I'm pretty much finished with the main functionality and since it's nearly the week-end I was browsing reddit, then /r/yaoi, then I went on a well known yaoi website. \n\nI am in a office where all the desk are separating the room in half and since a few of my coworkers are away in vacations, I am the only one on my side, there is one of my screen which cab be seen from the door and the other one which is pretty much only watchable is you're right behind me. \n\nSo I was reading nice furry doujin, and I was quite happy about it, nice story, cute characters, nice ... yiff... and all of a suddent I heard a sound behind me (I don't hear much cause I'm listening to a philosophy radio show at the same time) and I turn my head and I see one of my co-worker right behind me, happly I was not on a explicit passage but I don't know since when he was on the room behind me. I just blushed like hell and switched to my code quickly, now I don't know if he saw something he shouldn't (I am in 90% male work environement where sexuality other than straight is... not well welcomed) I am afraid to watch him in the eyes now..", "summary": "Watching yiff doujin at work, collegue behind me, don't know what he exactly saw"}
{"id": "t3_1hktq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22] boyfriend [23] was just diagnosed with biopolar disorder. Looking for advice for dealing with this in the long term.", "post": "My boyfriend of one year was just diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He's been really bothered by it this past week. I told him that it didn't matter to me and that it didn't affect our relationship.\n\nBut then I really started thinking about it and am a little bit worried. We aren't living together but have plans of moving in together in a couple of months. He has episodes of really high energy occasionally and I've seen him get extremely stressed out over seemingly little things, but other than that he's never really struck me as abnormal in any way. I'm worried that things might change when we move in together.\nI'm curious as to if anyone else has experience living with an SO with bipolar disorder and if they have any advice for me.", "summary": "My [22] boyfriend [23] was just diagnosed with biopolar disorder. Looking for advice for dealing with this in the long term. "}
{"id": "t3_31rn9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24M) too jealous in this relationship. I want to leave her (25F) because I think it's the only way to be happy.", "post": "Let me start off by saying this is my first relationship. I lost my virginity to her and my first kiss, I was a late bloomer. She has some history and even after being together for 10 months I still think about it, mostly because I'm still angry she told me about it within the first week of dating without me asking, I get jealous that she got to experience other people and I didn't. Even more the fact that she hooked up with a guy 2 weeks before our first date and the fact that she was texting 3-4 other guys while we were dating. My roommate tells me I should break up with her because I don't love her, I still don't know what I feel.\n\nI have depression so I'm afraid the only reason I worry too much is cause of it and it will be the reason I end it with her. \n\nI obsess over leaving her yet when I'm faced with her I feel better, she's a friend.\nShe's the perfect match for me and she's beautiful and she's told me she wants to marry me. I don't know what I should do, I want to see other people and thinking that she got to do that and she knows I haven't, it makes me a bit mad that she wants to lock it in with me.\n\nShe's super nice and has done nothing wrong, I just get jealous too much cause she talks to other guys and I worry way too much that she has feelings for others. I'm reluctant to trust her for something she did in the past. I can't over see this. It's wrecking my mind.\n\nI need some advice, if I can't get any I will leave her sometime this week.", "summary": "I believe depression is the issue I can't be with her, but yet again it might just be me not loving her and I don't know what to do in my first relationship"}
{"id": "t3_uuo5c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can we make the charity \"Porn for Cancer\" happen?", "post": "So, I'm not sure where this goes but this was the best place I could think of.\n\nIn a drunken moment of genius I had the idea that we could take the thousands of people who post and look at nude pictures and videos and give them the chance to contribute to charity. Now, I'm not a web page designer nor am I a porn star and I want to know if Reddit can make this happen? The idea would be that people would subscribe to make a small pledge for each picture and video posted each month. Something ridiculously small like a penny a picture and five cents a video. Subscriptions could be set up for one month, three months, six months and a year at a time. All of the proceeds would go to cancer research maybe breast and prostate cancer research if you want to be specific. People would then donate new nude photos and videos each month.\n\nI dont even begin to understand how complicated this would be or pretend to know anything about how it would be done. I haven't been on Reddit for very long but I have seen some amazing things here. I have also seen a lot of boobs and some other things that I can never un-see. So, I'm just throwing this idea out there in to the one place that I think this could actually happen.", "summary": "Lets make a porn site that you can donate money and/or porn to for charity!"}
{"id": "t3_30vapy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (43m) a cheater who loved a cheater (35f) and I'm at a loss. To tell or not?", "post": "Our spouses were being emotionally unavailable to us both. Instead of fixing our respective situations we took the easy way out and started an online affair that eventually led to us meeting, then spending a long weekend together, sex, talking every day, pics, video chats, I love you's, and generally being bad people...for two years. The situation between my spouse and I deteriorated, eventually sleeping in different rooms. We found a comfort zone (and don't ask don't tell policy) that salvaged our family (kids on both sides of this). After being lied to by my cheating partner, and a lot of reflection, I decided to tell my spouse. She was not surprised and actually felt bad that the person I now love, didn't love me, which made it even worse. I know I'm a scumbag, I fucked someone else's wife (and a parent to a young child). I live with that every day and know I'm horrible. I've never cheated on anyone before, but that does not matter now, I'm a cheater. I am not a vengeful person. I've never had an ugly breakup and I can't remember ever doing anything in the name of revenge. My wife thinks her husband should be told the truth (my fellow cheater begged me not to tell him, I had not planned to, and swore she would take this secret to her grave). I don't know what to do and it's been left up to me. If I told him, it would be with my real email address or phone number, not an anonymous email. I will face the music for my horrible decisions, IF I tell him. I realize my remorse is too late, I can't help but feel I need to apologize. But I also know that he won't want to hear an apology from me and it will be meaningless. So I ask you reddit...what do I do? Tell him knowing it will crush him and possibly ruin their family or simply forget this whole mess?", "summary": "cheated with a married woman. Told my wife, do I tell her husband?"}
{"id": "t3_2vl6et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] feel greatly confused since my SO[19] of seven months, came out as non binary.", "post": "Hey there /r/relationships. I greatly respect your advice and haven't really been able to find any other similar situations on here. Also I'm sorry if I accidentally refer to my partner as a male, its a tough habit to break.\n\nSo my partner, Dylan[19], who was assigned male at birth, came out as non binary and I simply don't really know how to handle it. Dylan did this over Facebook, and I didn't really know what to feel or what it meant for us. I've always considered myself very strictly gay, so the thought that my partner would not identify as a male feels mystifying, it feels uncomfortable. Our relationship is great, and I love Dylan, but part of me just doesn't feel comfortable having a non binary partner. I hate this. Because I know Dylan is the same person they were before.\n\nDylan had told me about these feelings before, which I fully supported, because that's definitely the right thing to do, but I guess I have a few misgivings about having a non binary partner. Dylan had told me I can still call them my boyfriend, but isn't the whole point not to do that? I don't really understand my own feelings about it.  Asides from the general discomfort, which I think I might be able to get over, I feel like it's disingenuous to still call myself gay. Or at least it's hurtful to them, because doesn't that mean I still think of them as a man? In general, I just feel immensely conflicted and guilty that I'm not offering the most support, because Dylan deserves a partner that would. How normal is this? Will these uncomfortable feelings fade away in time, or is this bound to fail because I'm not 100% on board(even if I want to be)?", "summary": "My [20m] partner [19] came out as non binary and I'm not 100% sure I feel comfortable having a partner who isn't a man. I love them, but I feel conflicted and guilty that I'm not 100% comfortable with it. Is this doomed to fail?"}
{"id": "t3_3x8vgj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU, by leaving my wallet with $300 in my car.", "post": "So my wife, my daughter and myself went to a families house last night and got home pretty late. We were all really tired and ready to get home to get some sleep. My wife had just handed me my wallet before going into 7/11 to get a water and I set it down in the console not even thinking about it. We get home, I grab my sleeping daughter and 2 shopping bags and think nothing of it since I was so tired and ready to go inside to sleep. I wake up for work and couldn't remember if I left my wallet in the car or not. Check the house, nothing so I get in my car to leave for work thinking it was in there. What's strange is I didn't have to unlock my car. I remember locking the door the night before because it beeps really loud when it locks. Shit shit shit.\n\nFuck me, my wallet has been stolen. $300 that will go towards gifts and gas until next Friday when I get paid, all gone. Now I will have to sell my only possession that I love because I fucked up. Well I guess we had some good times this year ol' buddy ol' pal. Maybe I will be able to get another", "summary": "Left my wallet in my car because I'm a fucking retard when I'm tired and it got stolen. $300 gone. Thanks ~~Obama~~ brain"}
{"id": "t3_1gpkuc", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Just adopted cats, need some help?", "post": "Today I adopted two beautiful kitties (7 months old) from the humane society in my town. I was originally going to get one cat but from reading the window it said the both of them were brothers and preferred if they were together. So I obviously couldn't break them apart. \n\nI don't remember much information other than they were put into foster care since they were kittens, I am guessing very young. As well that they would be a bit feral. \n\nMy problem is that since they have been in my home the very daring and social one \"Romeo\", is hissing at his brother \"Beau\" and Beau is hiding underneath the furniture meowing loudly.\n\nI am a true believer that when you adopt an animal you can't just up and give em away or get rid of one cause' the other doesn't get along, so I want to see if any of you have some good cat advice on how I should approach the situation?\n\nIt's their first day being outside of a cage in a long time. Romeo is very social and Beau has been hiding all day, meowing, when I try to approach him he runs away and hides in a new location.\n\nThis is my first time since the last time I've had a cat was when I was a child, so it is my serious first time having two cat family members and taking care of them.\n\nThanks! Any advice helps.", "summary": "Go read it, lazy!"}
{"id": "t3_26uw8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me f 30 boyfriend m30 is this a toxic relationship..relationship 2.5 years", "post": "I really don't know where to turn. I've lost a lot of friends recently. My boyfriend recently punched me in the stomach, for no reason. We keep fighting. I do everything for him and pay for everything. He calls me names and puts me down. I've done everything financially and emotionally to support him through good and bad times. He makes fun of my weight. Whenever I make sexual comments he goes disgusting, he won't touch me unless drunk. And tomorrow is his first payday in half a year, he's inviting his friends to drink and nothing to do with me. I drive him everywhere. He also says he will back hand me, he isn't afraid to.. I'm just exhausted of crying and feeling like shit.  Is this relationship normal or toxic...\nSorry for rambling I don't even k ow how to type a post, I feel all over the place and alone.", "summary": "boyfriend of 2.5 years calls me names, makes fun of me, won't have sex with me unless drunk. I go out of Mt way to do everything emotionally and financially to support him and it's never good enough  he also punched me in the stomach recently. And keeps saying he will back hand me...is this normal"}
{"id": "t3_3e0x48", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So my girlfriend's mother seems to have a problem", "post": "I know how much Reddit just *loves* people griping about relationships, but this has been caught up in my system a while, so I need to air it out.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and while her mother seems perfectly content talking with me to my face (and being respectful), she turns into the most immature pissbaby behind my back.\n\nIt seems every time my girlfriend goes to spend time with her, she always comes back to tell me how she got on her case about something or other to do with me. Most recently, and recurring most often, is her insistence upon asking what *everyone* thinks about me coming out as bisexual.\n\nForgive me, but I don't see it being any of her damn business what other people think of it, nor why it's such a big deal to her. To make matters worse, she's never once said a word to me about it.", "summary": "Getting tired of two-faced pissbaby related to my SO"}
{"id": "t3_52yacd", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Dress length help, and what should the groom wear?", "post": "Weddit! I ordered a dress online that I really like (pretty much as close to my dream dress as I can find). However, it is TIGHT. I mean, it's form fitting/cut that way/hugs all my curves. Soooo...FH and I are big time into dancing, not pros or anything but we LOVE to boogie. So now I'm second guessing my dress choice and am considering a shorter dress so I can comfortably dance with my husband. I love the look of some of the short/tea length dresses I've seen online. \n\nHOWEVER...I would love to see my man in a fancy suit. Not a tux, necessarily, but a nice, black suit. Would this \"match\" a short wedding dress? Let's assume the dress is more formal than casual. I'd put money on the fact that he'll take his jacket off for the reception and dancing, but will we look mismatched standing together at the ceremony, me in a short dress, him in a suit? About our reception: appetizers, drinks, dessert, not a formal dinner. Opinions/personal experience, please!", "summary": "Does it look weird if the bride is in a tea/knee length but fancy dress and the groom is in a quality black suit?"}
{"id": "t3_1egd0h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I(23M) am chasing after a \"engaged\" girl(25F) who has a kid.", "post": "I just the Quotation marks because she has told me that they are no longer engaged but she still lives with him and she still wears her ring, sometimes, she did have it off when she came out with me for my friend's birthday. They don't have the best relationship as it is, from what she tells me they fight alot, and he forgot her birthday this year. Her and I have alot a fun together, talk everyday alot. We've been friends for about 6 months and recently I asked her out on a date and she told me \"You know I'm in a weird situation\" but it told her I didn't care and she agreed. I don't know how to read this situation. Am I in a no win scenario?", "summary": "I like girl who I've been friends with for a while she's engaged with a kid, but tells me their relationship is very rocky."}
{"id": "t3_1j7sqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My partner's kid is driving me crazy. Really need some advice.", "post": "I have pretty much always been neutral about children. I'm only 25 so I'm still enjoying life way too much and am too selfish right now to consider children of my own but I'm 99 per cent sure I don't want them ever. I'm not fond of them, but I don't hate all kids or anything.\n\nMy so is slightly older than me, we've been together 4 years so its pretty serious. He has a 10 year old son that lives across the country with his mother but usually once a year he will come and stay with us. This year he is here for a month and only halfway through I am at the end of my rope. He is driving me nuts. He's bossy, rude and sloppy and has no manners. He doesn't listen at all and is only happy when he's eating.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I've enjoyed the time I've spent with him in the past four years and I do love him based on the fact that he's basically family. But he's driving me crazy. I have such a guilt complex because I can't stand him being around and am sooo relieved when they leave for a few hours.\n\nI'm starting to worry how my relationship will last in the long run if I dislike spending so much time with my partners child. What if he wants to live with us someday? My boyfriend is always telling me how great I am with him etc. But I can't help but feel like a piece of shit. I can't wait until he goes home...\n\nSo, r/relationships, what would you do in my situation? My partner knows I don't like kids and don't really want any and he also doesn't want more. He doesn't know that I'm going crazy on the inside with is son here. Should I have honest? Should I suck it up for the one month a year and just hope he doesn't come to live with us for any longer? Should I get out now and let him find someone who likes his kid?", "summary": "boyfriend has a kid and I don't like being around him. What should I do."}
{"id": "t3_2w8df6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] two years, haven't spoken to gf, went on a date with another", "post": "Hi, I've been having issues and my heart is currently pounding, like someone's stabbing me and telling me what I did was wrong and oh boy do I know I did. Here goes the summary: \n\nBeen talking and seeing a girl for a year or two, first began dating in University, when we were on a trip to Germany, we grew very close, very close. \n\nTo me, she's a model, she's a woman that I would never leave and I think she's above beyond anything, truly the best being in the world to me. However, about four to five months ago, a relative of her died, I offered to come and support her, she avoided much of what I said or at least it looked like it to me but was trying to be nice about it, and I noticed it.\n\nThis was on Friday, afterwards we were talking about meeting up on Saturday but she never messaged or called. From that point on we never spoke, it's been like this for 3-4 months or maybe even a bit more but certainly less than 7 months. \n\nHowever, what hurts me the most, is that I went out to cinema with another girl, and I feel like I am being disrespectful to the woman I truly first sought out at first. \n\nReddit, what is your opinion?", "summary": "Haven't spoken to girlfriend for 5 months for weird reasons, went out with another woman, guilt is clear and I think what I'm doing is complete disrespect, wat do"}
{"id": "t3_igz7e", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I feel stuck", "post": "This is a bit complicated, and probably more than a little longwinded, but I will try to keep my situation brief.\n\n+I am currently enrolled in a science-based university program that I dislike, I'm going to be a second-year student this September, and I've never had a class that I legitimately liked.\n\n+I can't quit this program because I need the credits from the courses offered to enroll in another program that I don't care for.\n\n+I'm only enrolling into that program because it promises a job with good hours and good pay, but I have had experience with that job before from volunteering and if I really end up working at that job, I would probably hate it.\n\n+I can complain about my planned education/career path all day, but when asked what I would like to be ideally doing in the future, I can't come up with an answer. I feel as if I'm legitimately good at nothing.\n\n+I can't talk about this to my family because as soon as I start mentioning that I might want to switch programs/careers, my mom flips out. I love her and I can talk to her about anything else, but my education/career path is a no-no, apparently.", "summary": "I hate my career path but I can't think of anything else to do since I'm not really good at anything."}
{"id": "t3_135uh2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21/M) Studying abroad in Australia next semester, and I don't know how to explain to my (19/F) girlfriend why.. Any advice?", "post": "EDIT: Okay, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, we are best friends, and have never had any relationship issues. We hang out with the same group of friends, which is primarily my college buddies (not the issue), and have grown very close. I have always been an independent, social, and confident person, and I have always enjoyed my personal freedom and space. My girlfriend knows that, but recently I feel we have grown so close, there's no separation.. I have recently applied to, and been accepted for a semester program in Australia (I am currently a junior at Colorado State Univ.), I have committed to the program, and have already told her this. However, I have decided that it is best for her and I to spend some time apart for this next semester, and to casually date other people. My girlfriend is very much in love with me, and has grown attached I'm afraid, although I do love her as a person, and as a best friend, I do completely believe we need time apart, in order to mature our pallet, so to speak, for people we might want to spend our lives together.. Basically my question is how can I explain this to her, without completely breaking her heart, and let her know that I do really care about her, but also really do need time apart to pursue my own personal conquests, as well as casually and socially date other people?", "summary": "Studying abroad next semester, need time apart from my GF of 2 yrs, dont know how to explain this to her without destroying her."}
{"id": "t3_cj215", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Uhaul is making my move horrible, help!", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo I decided to rent a truck from Uhaul for my big move. I'm flying from Austin TX to Lubbock TX tonight to move my stuff and my boyfriend to Austin to our new apartment. \nI made this reservation over a month ago. I was expecting to be able to pick up the 17' Uhaul (I'm paying over $400 for...) at 9 am tomorrow, pack everything, and drive it down Sunday.\nI confirmed the reservation Wednesday and they said everything would be fine. I get a call from Uhaul today while I'm at work.\n\nThey say they don't have any 17' trailers in the area unless I want to drive 2 hours outside of Lubbock and back to pick it up. \nI do not.\n\nThey say I can have a 26' truck for the same price. We live in a two bedroom apartment, having extra space and to drive an EVEN BIGGER truck is not a plus.\nSo we say OK to the new truck because otherwise, what are we going to to do?\nThey call us back later, oh btw the truck won't be here till 5pm at the earliest.\nSo know we loose a whole day of packing. The guy told we the rental was for 3 days, that doesn't do me a lot of good when I have to be at my job Monday morning. \nSometimes I know people return trucks early....\n\nI called other rental places around town and they're out of trucks too.\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "I'm getting screwed by Uhaul, any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_dqbem", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Ideas for fillet of beef?", "post": "So it's my dad's birthday and it's been tradition for a few years now for the rest of us to just cook him an absolute slap up meal. I want to cook a whole fillet of beef, in the oven. (rather than individual steaks)\n\nSounds straightforward yes? It's not that simple.\n\nBeef wellington/en croute is out of the picture. My dad doesn't want pastry. I also due to fussy eaters cannot use the following:\n\n* black pepper (no delicious black pepper crust recipes :( )\n* mushrooms\n* garlic\n\nI know, I know. ANNOYING.\n\nsimply roasting it by itself feels a bit boring, I kind of want to put something around it, to keep it nice and moist, but I don't know what. any suggestions on what I can do with it? i'd also really like to keep it as one bit of meat, rather than cut it up.\n\nalso, what to serve it with? I was thinking new potatoes, but again.. boring.", "summary": "give me delicious fillet of beef recipes that don't use garlic, black pepper or mushrooms."}
{"id": "t3_2hsxuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have contradictory ideals in regards to my [18 F] crush who I want to ask out.", "post": "Alright, so this might just be a stupid question that I need not worry about but I'll just come right out with it. Alright, so I have been recently crushing on this girl that I have known for about 4 years. I don't see her often anymore since she goes to a different school.\n\nAnyways, I have recently been paying her visits every so often at her work contemplating whether or not I want to ask her out. Only recently have I decided I do it. So I'm mustering up the courage to call/text her and then I see a Facebook post from her along the lines of \"I am humbled constantly by god\" and some quote by a guy glorifying god. That in a sense off set my though process and made me question if I was compatible with her.\n\nLike I said before I have known her for 4 years so I do know she is a devout Christian. Now I'm not one to really care about what people give a damn about, I'm rather ambivalent about the whole thing actually so that's why I was offset by her Facebook post. I still want to ask her out but I don't know if I can make her happy by not having the same passion for something like that.\n\nSo /r/relationships I am asking you what advice would you give me in regards to how it is being in a relationship with someone who you have known for a long while and have a decent amount of stuff in common, but a vital ideal that pretty much defines a person is exactly the polar opposite of the other.", "summary": "I have been crushing on a girl I have known for for years and was thinking of asking her out. However her outright devotion to God is throwing me off a bit."}
{"id": "t3_2s8egh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [39F] has fled her own home because her boyfriend's [42M] 18-yr-old son threatened her when she asked him to move out--cops say he has squatter's rights. Advice?", "post": "A friend of mine is dating a man who has an 18-year-old son with Asberger's--they've been together three years. The guy and the son moved into her home last year. She enforces basic rules in the house, but overall she has taken this kid on trips, bought him clothes, food, supported him, you name it. Her boyfriend is \"nice\" but a total pushover--raised this kid with no boundaries, rules, respect for others. He was diagnosed with Aspergers a few years ago and holds a part-time job.\n\nOver the year, the son has threatened my friend with physical violence after an argument probably three times. He is verbally abusive on a daily basis. My friend finally decided she'd had enough and asked him to move out. Well, he called the police. The police said the kid has \"squatter's rights\" and she can't kick him out, and she has to give him 30-days notice. Ok, done. But for now, she's terrified to stay there with him. He collects knives and swords and has threatened to use them. The cops say they can't do anything unless he actually \"tries something.\" WHAT THE FUCK.\n\nSo she is crashing with me. Kicked out of her own home by this psychotic, asshole 18-year-old, and her \"boyfriend\" is just wringing his pathetic little hands and standing in the middle of it all, doing nothing.\n\nAre the cops correct here? They said even getting a lawyer won't help, and then can't remove him for 30 days. \n\nAny advice? I honestly feel like getting my 19-year-old brother and his friends to go over there and kick the shit out of him.", "summary": "My friend has fled her own home because her boyfriend's 18-yr-old son, who has threatened her verbally, won't move out. Cops say he can stay for 30 days, she's homeless until then. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2jnnb3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [24 F] 7yrs, What to do when she's upset.", "post": "Basically looking for advice from Females who get easily aggravated, what your man does, or could do that could help calm you down.\n\nToo provide a little background, for years now my GF will come home from work or an errand pissed off about something. Than something will happen at home, be it the straightener not working or her having to rush to get ready for us to go out. She'll get incredibly irritable and upset, storm around, cuss at this, \"I hate that\", stupid this and that, my clothes never fit I want to burn my hair off etc. etc.\n\nWhat in the bleeding hell can I do to help in this situation? it always ends the same way, I say something and then the anger is directed at me. Should I just find a corner and wait for the storm to pass or what? \n\nI'm so sick of getting yelled at and treated like trash. On top of that, its been 7 years, I should know how to calm her down or help her by now but I just don't know a thing.", "summary": "Girl Mad at something else, how do I calm her down?"}
{"id": "t3_4rmq27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] and my wife [32 F] disagreement about making plans", "post": "Hi,\nfirst of all, I know this whole incident will sound trivial, but my wife and I have been going back and forth with it all day, so I'm looking for either reassurance, or someone impartial to let me know if I'm looking at it wrong.\nMy wife's license expired, so I drive her to pretty much everything now. She phoned the opticians today to have an eye exam, and booked an appointment for tomorrow, then called her work and asked to change shifts (I drop her off at work each day) and didn't say anything to me about, despite the fact that I was in the same room as her.\nI asked that in future, if i'm there at the time she is making plans, if she could run something like that by me first to make sure I don't have any conflicts, (if it were the other way around, if I was told a time for an appointment, I'd say 'let me just check I can do that', then cover the phone and say something like 'are you okay to drop me off at the opticians tomorrow about 10am?', but maybe that's just me). My wife says that she shouldn't have to 'ask permission', but I really don't see it as that. I said that if her plans involve me, then it would be common courtesy to make sure it's okay with me too before going ahead with it. \nMy wife argues that if it was a problem, she'd find an alternative solution (eg. change the appointment, or get an Uber), so it doesn't matter if she runs it by me first anyway, but to me this seems rude. Am I wrong about this, or am I asking too much?", "summary": "I do the driving, so should my wife check it's not a problem for me to drop her somewhere if her original plans change?"}
{"id": "t3_qoex5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Honest question; if governments are allowed to hire military contractors, is there anything stopping an NGO from hiring them to catch a wanted war criminal?", "post": "With all the Kony business, my friends and I were talking [7] and my friend challenged me to think about how we would physically go after someone if we absolutely needed to.\n\nMy friend, lets call him mark because that's his name, pondered and asked, 'what is actually stopping us from getting on a plane with a hundred people and trying to capture him?'\n\nMy other friend, lets call him nick (not his real name), responded \"isn't that the whole reason he surrounds himself with armed child soldiers?\"\n\nMe and mark; \"Oh yeah...\"\n\nThen nick, clearly wearing the most reasonable head at the time asks, \"so, what's to stop a site like Reddit (yes they are redditors, obviously) from amassing a chunk of money like they did for the orphanage, and hire some ex SAS commando sniper team to take the guy out?\"\n\nI asked; \"Well, why doesn't a charity just do that?\"\n\n...", "summary": "So Reddit; whats to stop a charity from hiring a private military contracting company and going after war criminals? Or even just placing a bounty on a criminals head big enough to attract the \"right\" people?"}
{"id": "t3_2hfgaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [26F] of 4-5 months, don't really have anything in common, already thinking about not being with her.", "post": "Hello, this is obviously a throwaway account.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for about 4-5 months now and I'm already doubting our relationship. I'm worried that the problems I have are the result of an innate shallowness I have. I find her attractive physically but I'm finding her as a person to be unattractive.\n\nI don't consider myself to be a bastion of humanity, but I keep myself fit, I take care of myself, I work hard and I'm quite popular as a result of a lot of this. She also works very hard but doesn't really do anything else. She complains about being overweight but doesn't actively try to change that (ignoring the fact that she *isn't* overweight and I tell her likewise) and isn't particularly active socially or physically.\n\nWe also have very little in common. I'm quite nerdy and passionate about a lot of things and she just isn't really. I'm very easy going so I'm happy to cuddle up and watch whatever she wants to or talk about what she wants but there's is absolutely nothing I do she takes interest in. Again, I don't think this is at her fault, there's just very little we have in common.\n\nI enjoy her company, and the sex is amazing (even though my sex drive is much lower than her's) but I just think this sort of relationship is going no where. I feel guilty enjoying my sporting lifestyle while not spending time with her very often in the week.\n\nAm I being shallow and is this a facet of a lot of relationships? I'm quite inexperienced with relationships and my last one (1.5 years) failed again, because I started to lose respect and attraction for my partner.", "summary": "Been in a relationship for 4-5 months. Starting to lose respect and attraction for my partner because of conflicting interests and personalities. Am I being shallow? What can I do about this?"}
{"id": "t3_1m2tq0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and wrecked a BMW with my shoulder", "post": "One day, when me and my father were picking up my sister from a friends party I noticed they had a zip line. It looked awesome, but ended right over the driveway - not the hottest idea, I decided to give it a shot anyways. I checked it was all clear and I had my dad pull me about half way up the hill. I decided that was more than enough for the first time in the dark. I released and started gaining momentum, sitting on the shitiest little plastic seat in the world. I rotated to my side and admired the cool breeze of the night. I turned to face back toward the end zone just in time to see the flash of the porch light on the hood of a BMW M5 sitting right were I was going. Having had about 0 seconds to do anything, I hit the car's driver side door with my full momentum and my head whip lashed over the frame of the door.\n\nI fell off the seat and the world went momentarily black as I laid on the ground. Within seconds there was a pack of little girls screaming bloody murder, and telling everyone I was dead. I got to my feet and regained my vision. By now, the entire party was outside, staring at me and asking if I was OK. I stood and inspected the damage. As odd as it may sound, a BMW was probably the best thing I could have hit out of all the cars in the driveway. My body and the door absorbed most of the impact and my head only snapped over the top of the car, rather than hitting the window. \n\nAll in all, it turned out just fine. I left a perfect imprint of my hip, knee and shoulder in the car door. The door had to be totally replaced because I crushed the impact bar, the window mechanism and the lock. The owner was very nice about it and his insurance ended up covering it. I walked away fine, and had an awesome story. \n\nLong story short is: check where your zip line goes.", "summary": "Zip lined into a car door."}
{"id": "t3_39jdqs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17m] is it flirting?", "post": "There is a guy, let's say his name is Tin, and he is 21. The two of us have known each other for 6 years. We hang out about a week every other month and I sleep in his room.\n\nWell about 6 months ago he started staring at me a lot and hooking arms with me.\n\nMost recently this week he cocooned himself and I in a blanket together and swung me around. A little later he cuddled my arm and rested his hand above mine. And occasionally grabbing my hand. I've also had people alert me he has stared at my from behind while I'm not looking.\n\nI'll be seeing Tin in a week again since he is paying for me to travel across state to a concert with him. Should I speak to him about this? I've ascertained strong feelings for Tin.", "summary": "friend of 5 years possibly flirting? Should I let him know I like him?"}
{"id": "t3_kt7lb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HEY REDDIT! What is the most memorable punishment you've ever received?", "post": "After hearing some insane stories in English class today, I wanted to hear more stories. So come on Reddit, tell me your stories!\n\nI'll go first.\n\nWhen I was little, I took a permanent marker and doodled on my wall. Although my parents rarely flogged me, this act really pissed them off. My dad took a wooden broomstick about 4 inches in diameter, told me to bend over, and proceeded to flog me so hard the stick snapped in half. Taught me to never be an annoying little douche again.\n\nAnother one, not really a punishment, but outrageous nonetheless. I got in trouble at school in 8th grade and my parents were out of town on a business trip. When the school called home, they found out that my parents were out of town and proceeded to send me to the police station. At the police station, I was told that according to State Law, it was illegal for me to stay home alone without my parents (I was 15). Instead of letting me stay over with my relative living a state over, the  family and child services put me up for adoption and sent me to live with a foster family for 4 days until my parents came back from their business trip.\n\nBest part: my foster family was black and lived in the ghetto and was taking care of 4 other children. I was a 5'7, 120 lb Asian kid. Even the cat could beat me up. My stay was actually fun, and the family actually used an adoption grant of $200 to buy me new clothes!\n\nAnd so that's the story of how I came to love R&B and Rap. ;)", "summary": "Asian kid gets in trouble at school, sent to live w/ foster family in ghetto, bought some nice clothe$$$. "}
{"id": "t3_l17hs", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Finally found my major, I think.  How do I feel good about it?", "post": "To clarify a bit, I've been a huge major hopper over my first two years of college.  I started as pre-med biology, then went to English, then to physics--very short period--and then to computer science. My other friends have had two majors maximum, and my parents didn't go to college.  I've been taking chemistry this semester, and I LOVE IT.  I am reading books outside of class on it for fun, going through the lessons on Khan Academy, asking questions in class, and otherwise engaging with the material in a way I haven't since about eighth grade.  I really, really think chemistry is the place for me.  The thing is, I already feel like a loser for switching around so much and wasting so much of my time/money, and I'm worried the people I care about will see me as some kind of a loser if I switch *again*.  I know I shouldn't worry about what other people think, but it's easier said than done.  How do I get over wanting my friends' and parents' approval?", "summary": "After switching majors a lot, I've finally found one that fits me.  I'm worried my friends/family will disapprove if I switch again.  How do I stop wanting their approval?"}
{"id": "t3_3hdio8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] have been texting back and forth with a girl I am interested in [16 F] throughout summer.", "post": "So I met her sometime towards the end of the school year, and a week before school ended, I got her snapchat. We have been texting a while, with sometimes long breaks due to her working hard on her summer school work and taking a vacation up to Texas to visit family. I'm rather shaky on what constitutes someone showing interest in you thanks to my many rejections, but I am pretty damn sure she's interested in me.    \n\nShe has said that she hopes to go out some time, but she is a very busy person, and her parents are shaky on letting her go out with other guys. Her parents have told her that she cannot go out with me as of now because of school, which is starting in a week for both of us, but we are still able to text and possibly see each other at the bus stop. All of our texts have been nothing but casual conversations, jokes, compliments, and sweet comments that point to a possible relationship.      \n\nThis is one thing I do not want to fuck up. It is without a doubt one of the best things that's happened recently, and my life has been quite rough. What should be my next step?", "summary": "Might finally have a chance to get a girlfriend after 16 years of trying and failing. What should be my next step?"}
{"id": "t3_4vj1pn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] and I just found out that my boyfriend [26m] uses dating websites and craigslist and has our whole [6years] relationship", "post": "I just got a new notification in my E-Mail that my E-Mail was no longer the recovery E-Mail for my boyfriend's E-Mail. I guess he had made that E-Mail through my G-Mail account and just updated it. When I clicked on the link inside, I basically ended up looking around because I've always had this small inkling that he was cheating on me after suddenly password protecting everything and using a password that I didn't know for most things and this was my opportunity to kill that voice in my head that was just me being paranoid (girlfriend logic right.)\n\nSo at first it just looks like a lot of Youtube and gaming spam, but occasionally he signed up for a new dating website. I can not tell you how hard my heart sank. I proceeded to try to log into some of those accounts to see if they were still active, and none of them were (the ones I could get into,) with no messages. Eventually I started to find craigslist replies that he made with girls looking for a boyfriend. More dating websites. Blocked girls on google hangouts. This spans the entirety of our relationship (6 years.) \n\nThere is no \"proof\" that he's cheated. But I feel like this is enough? If he has cheated, and it seems like he's really made a strong attempt, with how many girls?! We just renewed our lease (we live and work together.) What do I do?", "summary": "Found out my boyfriend has been trying to hookup with girls on craiglist and dating websites. I have no idea if he actually slept with any of them."}
{"id": "t3_2qxwrs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by picking up a dead dragonfly in front of a group.", "post": "This happened actually few months ago so anyway, me and a friend was just heading back to work after lunch and was talking about random things till we spotted a dead dragonfly on the ground. Mesmerized by its beauty, we didnt realize we were walking in front of a platoon formation(we work in the military and walking in front of a formation is a fucked up thing to do) and the dead dragonfly just happens to be 15 feet in front of the formation. We got our ass chewed by one of the NCOs, made us run around our work building under the hot sun with duffel bags filled with weights then after running around it, he'll make us do sit-ups and push-ups with it. Dont remember how long that punishment lasted, all i remember was my uniform was drenched like i took a plunge in the pool. After that, i still kept the dragonfly, cause fuck it, i earned it.", "summary": "Dead dragonfly makes your day interesting."}
{"id": "t3_fp7is", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a good programming language to learn?", "post": "As it currently stands, I have no means of affording class. Instead of just waiting until such a time that I can, I'm going to try doing things for myself in the meantime, taking piano lessons, reading jazz fake books, and one of the things I want to do is get back into programming. \n\nI was an IT Intern for an electrical contracting company for about 8 months before being laid off after they closed some major contracts. My initial job was to pick up the slack, but after about a couple months of being there, they didn't have much else for me to do aside from maintaining SIM card phone lists (the company was T-Mobile at the time) and maintaining the IT office. So they put me on software analysis. First Microsoft Infopath, then a few others, and eventually they had me try out SharePoint. They wanted to use it for the company, so they set up a mock server, and I messed around in that. Once I had a good handle on that, I made some applications using VB.NET to expedite some command line functions for importing templates and other miscellaneous tasks for SharePoint. I know a fair bit of VB.NET, a tiny bit of C#.NET, but haven't used either in a couple years now, so what should I look into (re)learning, and how can I go about learning/using it?", "summary": "What programming language would be most beneficial for me to learn or at least look into with a small prior background with programming?"}
{"id": "t3_2gpu75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (18) and I (18) clash big time on one thing.", "post": "She goes out to clubs and that a lot with her friends. Obviously I don't mind but she does it a lot more than she sees me and every time she is with me she's organising another night out.\n I am a man who would rather stay in on nights and clubs are a strange situation for me because I've never really been someone to go to clubs. But she is and its been causing distances between us due to our clash of opinions. I love her to go out and enjoy herself and everything and I'm not a phyco or what not but we do clash and its really bothering me and I should add that it sometimes pushes me to the brink of depression again. That's how strongly I feel about it because it kills me that something causes conflicts between us. \nWe have been going out for nearly 2 years and we are literally so well matched. If I was pushed I'd probably say perfect. Except for this one thing. I'm wondering on what to do. I don't mind it so much that it would be a serious deal breaker right now but it is causing little issues between us. I don't even know if its jealously of her friends spending so much more time with her than me or anything.\nBTW I had slight depression about a year ago but she was the one who kept pulling me out of it. She means the world to me but this really is getting to me. \nJust need some advice from people who would like to help and maybe have been in similar situations. Thank you", "summary": "my gf and I match perfectly except on going out to clubs and getting drunk and that so much that I'm worrying that it is increasingly pushing me towards depression again"}
{"id": "t3_pf1rq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your grossest sex story? I'll start...", "post": "Throw away account, mainly because none of my friends know of this story. Also, sorry if this has recently been done before. Anyway, I was really attracted to this guy in my life. Soon I found that the attraction was mutual, and several weeks after that we found ourselves in the midst of sexual activity. He was laying on top of me and we were kissing and just enjoying one another, when a huge chunk of something fell from his head into my eye. It hurt a lot and was very distracting. We had to stop for a few minutes so that I could get the thing, whatever it was, out. It was dark, and I didn't want to spoil the moment by turning on the light, so I just got it out and continued. I thought it might have been dandruff, because this guy had a bit of it -and honestly, his dandruff didn't bother me- but when I woke up the next morning, I found live lice on my pillow. That's when I realized that what had landed in my eye...was a louse. Grossest fucking thing. Needless to say, I was a bit scarred after that. Even though he was a great guy, I couldn't see us doing it again...", "summary": "Was having sex with a guy when lice fell from his head and into my open eye..."}
{"id": "t3_1dg91q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hoping my LD boyfriend [26M] will grow into being more affectionate towards me [18F], after six months, what can I do to get a little more attention?", "post": "My boyfriend is absolutely amazing at everything that he does. He's a wonderful person and I can confidently say he's my best friend. Roughly three months ago, he moved about 1k miles away (work related). We talk daily (even if it's brief, one of us manages to call) and I've visited once. Gradually (pre-move) he became less focused on me and more so on the move. I couldn't expect anything less. Lately, it seems like environmental factors have been influencing him more frequently (forgets to call me back, fewer intimate conversations, ect.). He's easily distracted, and generally a reserved person. What can I do to help him open up to me without being overbearing?", "summary": "I'm having a shitty day and I want my LD SO to be more comforting/want to be more involved in my life, without coming across as crazy."}
{"id": "t3_2wsx3o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by visiting my gay boss after work", "post": "this TIFU happened last night. I'm a 20 year old guy who started working at a restaurant a couple of months back, and it has been great. I like the people there, the chef (my boss) is a nice guy. A few weeks back he asked me if I wanted to come over after work sometime, and I was like sure, sounds alright. Seeing he's twice as old as me and he knows I'm straight I didn't think that he would make some type of move.. back to yesterday, work was done and at around 11 pm I was at his place. Just chatting a bit, how our vacation was, couple of beers later he asked if I'm seeing a girl at the moment. That should've been a sign for me but I wasn't thinking anything of it.\n\nSuddenly he sais ''I don't care if you want it or not but im just going to give you 3 kisses\", and he proceeds to give me 3 kisses on the cheeks. I was caught a little off guard by that but he didn't go further, I sort of ignored it. 10 minutes later he suddenly, it seemed like it was out of nowhere, puts his hand on the back of my head and starts to kiss me on the lips.. I was so fucking surprised it took a second to realize what was going on as I could feel that he tried to invade me with his tongue (0.o). I pushed him off (I can't believe how nice I was about it) and said: I'm sorry but that's enough. He was sitting there with this huge smile on his face, while the only thing I could think of was what the FUCK just happened...\n\nAfter that we had a few more beers, talked a bit more and he didn't do anything weird. Went home feeling pretty damn strange. Now I know my boss is into me and I find it pretty weird.", "summary": "went to my 40 year old gay boss's place after work and he kissed me, a 20 year old straight guy."}
{"id": "t3_4ev1v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/m] have been single for 5 years. Now that I am finally completely over my high school sweetie, I don't know how to start dating again, now that I think I am ready. Help?", "post": "Some backstory: I fell crazy in love with a wonderful woman, we were friends for years before dating, the relationship lasted about a year, we remained friends for a little while but she cut the ties just last year. I don't know why, she just deleted me off every social network we shared and I let it be without question. \n\nI've been single for 5 years because I've spent the first couple years hoping for another chance which never came. I spent the last few years trying to provide my own closure and heal my proverbial wounds. \n\nNow I'm tired of being alone and lonely. I'm not butt ugly. Many people have declared their attraction to me many times, but I knew better than to lead someone on when I knew I was still repairing. \n\nI believe I am ready to find someone to fall in love with again, but the process that brought me to my previous love was a long, complicated, hurtful journey, which I'd rather not repeat. I've fought addiction, self harm, self discovery, depression and black out bipolar rages, and many other adventures.\n\n I'd prefer not to go through that dark process again, while I try accepting a new love. \n\nI've found (part of) myself, I love myself, and I am accepting of others. I am also really awkward, geeky, shy and overly Canadian. \n\nHow can I thrust myself back into the dating world and find someone who makes me feel as fantastic as I once did with my first love? Or maybe even better?", "summary": "Fell in love with an amazing person, lost that person, single 5 years since break up, now ready to date again but socially awkward and shy."}
{"id": "t3_27jn8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23f] messy friend/roommate [21f] won't get rid of her trash. What do I do?", "post": "I live with my best friend and she is the messiest person I've ever been around in my life. I didn't know it was this bad before we moved in (8 months ago), but now I know. I still love her despite her messiness, but obviously it's starting to trail into my life, which I dislike.\n\nFor the past 6 months she's been collecting beer and liquor bottles and cans in our household. Her boyfriend drinks like a fish and the 2 of them can easily put away 20 cans/bottles in a night, so on top of that happening every week, and parties .etc over 6 months, we have a shit ton of bottles in the house that have started to make their way into our shared living space, and I fucking can not stand it.\n\nI hate this, not only because it looks disgusting and like we're alcoholics (not even a quarter of those bottles/cans are mine), but it looks like we live in a trashy frat house. I'm serious, the bottles and cans are everywhere. She is keeping them because she wants to eventually bring them back to the store to get money back for the cans. I've asked her probably 5 times now to please get rid of them. I've asked nicely and she keeps saying she will, but weeks keep passing and she keeps collecting them.\n\nNow we're at the point where there's bags of cans in our living room, and bottles on the table tops, just making our house look like shit. I want to throw them all out and not care, but I don't want to cause a rift in our friendship over something so stupid and small.\n\nShe counted the bottles and cans the other day and she would likely get around $25 back for all the ones that we have in the house right now. Should I just throw them out when she's not home and give her the $25? I know how she is, and she will keep collecting them and keep making our living space look like shit, because it doesn't bother her. Messy is normal to her, so it doesn't affect her at all. This is ridiculous.", "summary": "My friend is collecting mass amounts of beer bottles and cans in order to get money back, it has been going on for months and she hasn't brought them back out of laziness. Our house now looks like shit."}
{"id": "t3_27fgxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend cheated on her husband.... Do I have an obligation to let him know?", "post": "This has been bugging me ever since I heard that a friend (29f) cheated on her husband (32M). However, everything that I've heard has been through another friend. The woman who cheated on her husband and I have known each other for about 5years so I'm not completely surprised by her actions. In the past, even when she and her now husband were dating, her guy friends would send her dick pics and that always struck me as being odd (she actually showed me the text on her phone). My friend and her husband also have a child together and a big reason to why they got married. This friend has confided in me multiple times that they been having problems in their sex life (he won't initiate/have sex with her) and that probably led to her cheating on him. \n\nThe thing that is grating is that I see pictures of the guy she cheated with hanging out with her, her husband and child almost every weekend. If I were in her husband's shoes, I would flip my shit having their kid around the other guy. BUT.... I don't have solid proof other than what was told to me so I feel iffy about saying something to him. And there's a child involved. Do I just keep my mouth shut or do I have an obligation to let him know?", "summary": "friend cheated on her husband but heard from another friend. Do I butt out and let it solve itself out or do I need to say something to the husband?"}
{"id": "t3_37lts7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [f21] is marrying a jerk [m22]", "post": "Sorry this is gonna be kinda long, but I really need some advice. I'm (f21) and have know my friend for almost 10 years. My best friend is about to marry a jerk, and above being a jerk, this guy shows all the signs of being an abuser. They've been together for about 9 months, and within that time I've seen my BFF become a totally different person. She dropped out of school to \"support him\" even though all of his living expenses are being paid for. They fight all the time, and have to \"set goals\" to spend quality time together. He says condescending things to her CONSTANTLY and her answer is always \"well, we play rough sometimes\" no, taking food out of your hands so you don't \"get fat\" is not playing rough. I've talked to her about it  multiple times, and it's like she's turned her brain off. They get married next week, and I feel so sick about it. It's not just me that sees it, her mom and other friends are all concerned.\n\n They are going be living down the street from us, and I don't want to watch her get walked all over and pretend I don't see it. I started writing her a letter to give her, which I know will end our friendship because she's made it clear that if you don't like her man, she'll cut you out. But is that the right thing? Have any of you had a similar thing happen? \n\nThere's so much more to the story, but I don't want to take up your whole day. Any thoughts would be appreciated!", "summary": "my best friend is marrying a jerk, I've never seen my friend more miserable but she's still insists on marrying him. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35sstb", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "What type of undergarments should a bride wear?", "post": "Hi all! Posting with a broad title to give info for *EVERYONE*. Please write whatever experience or knowledge you have on the topic!\n\n\u00a0For me personally, my first fitting is next week and I (desperately) need to get my undergarments. I really don't need anything fancy, but I would love something slimming that isn't hideous. Would a corset type thing be good for that? I also need a slip or at least something that covers my butt, like those little mini dress ones. I'm having a winter wedding also, so heat isn't a huge issue.\n\n\u00a0Does anyone have any \"regular\" store recommendations that have great selections? (I'm a 36B, so I'm average sized)... Any websites that have something really good and doesn't break the bank?\n\n\u00a0Thank you so much for all your help, ladies!", "summary": "Any good stores or websites for undergarments? What kinds are best for which body issues?"}
{"id": "t3_1is3hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [21M] am wondering what to do about contacting a [22 F] who regave me her number before going out of State for the remainder of this Summer", "post": "R/relationships a couple weeks ago a 22 year old college student from one of my Summer classes moved back to her homestate for the remainder of Summer who I talked to alot. We had great conversations and I asked her to get Coffee on the last day of classes in which see said yes and regave me her number during that time without me asking (my phone was stolen after the first time and then I got a new one). Unfortunately the Thursday before this past Thursday, I texted her asking her how her 4of July was around 10:30 in the morning and she never responded. Though this may sound optimistic I feel that she actually didn't even get my text because this happened one other time during the Summer session when I asked her a hw question. Do you think I should just let it go or attempt to contact her at a later time in the day and this or the upcoming week? Thanks.", "summary": "A girl regave me her number without asking but she failed to text me back after texting her around ten thirty two weeks ago."}
{"id": "t3_2h04d4", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Short Frenulum question", "post": "18 year old virgin\n\nwhen I was 16 I did a little research on the internet and discovered that I had phimosis. I stretched regularly and after a month I could retract the foreskin over the head when flaccid/erect. I then stopped masturbating for ~8 months and when I tried to masturbate again I realised that the skin had grown tighter again. I've started stretching again and I can comfortably retract the foreskin over the head, BUT any further and the frenulum turns a little white (the blood drains out) and the frenulum feels a little bit stretched. I'm still making progress with frenulum stretches but it is pretty slow.\n\nMy question for this subreddit is: How far do I need to be able to retract the foreskin to safely have sex? After doing some cursory research it seems like it only needs to be able to pass over the glans. But wouldn't that only allow for ~ an inch of penetration?", "summary": "frenulum is tight. How far does my foreskin need to be able to retract in order to have sex without tearing something? During sex, how does the frenulum avoid being pulled back and snapping after it has fully extended?"}
{"id": "t3_4cgno2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "PSA: Buying a kid's bike isn't just about the wheel size.", "post": "I thought the wheel size was the only measurement that mattered.\n\nLearned the hard way that's not the case.\n\nNo one ever talks about \"crank arm length\" -- the length of the arms that the pedals are connected to. And the length is pretty damn important. They are generally measured in millimeters, and the 170mm crank arms that came on my kid's 20\" bike are as long as those on my adult bike. (Apparently this is a thing on BMX bikes, this bike wasn't clearly billed as such)\n\nThe result is that when his feet just about each the pedals at the lowest position, his knees are practically in his chest. As an inexperienced rider this throws him way off balance.\n\nTrying to find replacements, but these aren't parts generally designed to be replaced on cheap bikes. So now it's one of those situations where attempting to save money is probably going to cost more money.", "summary": "Don't buy your kid a bike they can't sit on first. Bite the bullet and go to a store or bike shop."}
{"id": "t3_20990g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my friend [20 F] of 4 years, grown in to feelings for her, might not recriprocate", "post": "maybe i was lying to myself when even though my feelings have grown i didnt want to admit it. but today my friend said she thought my friend was hot, and it killed me. \n\nso now i have admitted it to myself, i like her. havent done for the whole friendship, just maybe a few months after spending more time with her.. we are friends but primarily just see each other in college classes.\n\nshe often makes jokes i look like ive just woken up... and when she said that about my friend it hurt me, i dont think she looks at me like im attractive to her. i dont think theres any future in this, and maybe im just pitiful but im thinking about just giving up, trying to stay friends and try to make myself realize theres no future. how do i do that?", "summary": "how do you make yourself stop liking someone"}
{"id": "t3_13t84b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I'm being manipulated by my boyfriend [both 19]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to three years now. We are both 19 years old. I'm extremely happy and satisfied in my relationship but I am starting to feel as though the feeling isn't mutal. I almost want to stop writing now because I'm so afraid it might be true. This summer I went to another state to visit my family. While I was gone my boyfriends ex messaged me saying that he was texting her and told her that he loved her.\n\n I thought this was just manipulation, because shes been after him for the entire time we've been dating. Every time she tries my boyfriend let her down a little too easy and never really stood his ground. I told him what happened and all hell broke loose. I kept catching him in lies and each time he would lie and I told him what I knew, he said I was doubting him and didnt trust him, and that we shouldnt be together if I kept it up. He finally admitted that he told her he had feelings for her, but he didnt mean it. He said he only told her that because he felt bad for using her for sex and leading her on by making her feel like he was going to marry her. I dropped the situation. He finally stood up for me to her, told her to never speak to him again. I have never been happier.\n\n Each day I fall more in love with him, and plan to move out soon so we can get married. I cant help but to feel a distance between us though. He always is carring this huge guilt and has no self worth. It feels as though I never really satisfy him or make him happy the way he makes me. I feel this is because he couldn't have the girl he always wanted, and has settled for me instead. Recently he was telling me what I've done for him and included \"You helped me stand up for myself from her manipulation.\" (She was guilt tripping him about the sex quite often according to him at least.) And I cant help to ask myself if I'm the one who's being mannipulated, and if I should ever stand up for myself.\n\nI hope this all makes sense.", "summary": "I want to marry him and he has told me he wants to marry me too, but he may be still hung up over his ex."}
{"id": "t3_52nwpx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my now ex-girlfriend [20 F] 3.5 yrs, just broke up and I'm not sure how to handle myself.", "post": "Some Backstory: Dating since junior year of high school, she moved away and we did long distance for a year. We go to the same University. Now she lives two floors beneath me.\n\nMy now ex-girlfriend and I had been dating for a solid 3.5 years when we somewhat mutually broke up. We had our troubles the last 6 months but I suppose it finally boiled over. She told me the weekend we moved back to school that she did not want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I asked what I can do to fix it and she said that the problem wasn't me. So we decided to take a no communication break for a few days but we ended at the same conclusion. I still love her very much and she says she loves me but the relationship was not working. \n\nSo here I am on the second day of being single for the first time since my junior year of high school. I have no clue how to handle myself. I don't want to feel sad. I don't want to get mad when she finds another guy. I'm very much the jealous type. I know I will see her around, quite often actually. I just need some advice as to how I approach a broken heart after a break up.\n  \n\nThank you all in advance.", "summary": "3.5 years of dating, break up, but will still see her in my building and on campus. How do I deal with my first real break up? How do I deal with being single?"}
{"id": "t3_43klu5", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] Grooming a Shih Tzu mix at home?", "post": "Hi r/dogs, \n\nOccasional lurker, first post. \n\nI adopted a Shih Tzu/Poodle mix last year. I grew up with dogs but she's my first experience with owning a small dog and a \"hair\" breed. (I'm totally hooked!) \n\nI'm considering doing her haircuts myself rather than taking her to a professional groomer. I brush her daily, bathe her when needed, trim her nails, clean and pluck her ears, and my vet offers anal gland expression services, done by the technicians. \n\nIs it reasonable to considering grooming her myself? I'm not trying to be a cheapskate or discredit groomers by saying their job is \"easy.\" I do think I could manage a simple all-over trim at home, however. \n\nWhat basic tools would you recommend for trying my hand at grooming her myself? Would it be better to try a clippers with a guard or scissoring the whole body? Does anyone else groom their hair breeds themselves, and what tips can you recommend? Or should I reserve this task for a professional?", "summary": "Considering grooming a Shih/Poo at home. Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1o0058", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Specific question: How do I [25M] ask a girl out at the dog park?", "post": "Just to give you some background, I'm completely terrible at asking someone out in person. I'm extremely socially awkward and, on top of that, tend to get panicky when I try to push a conversation beyond pleasant formalities. This is especially true for women I've just met. In the past year I've only asked one girl out in person, and she was someone I've known on friendly terms for a while (her response was that she was too busy with two jobs for any relationship at the moment).\n\nFor the past year I've been trying my luck on OkCupid. Well, no such luck has come my way there. But recently I have also started taking my parent's dog to the local dog park. I've met a few women around my age with whom I've struck up nice conversations (plus, our dogs tend to get along, which has a very romantic comedy vibe to it). On three separate occasions I've struck up pleasant conversations with apparently single women there, but as of now I've never been able to determine a way to ask them out, let alone overcome the panic at the thought of doing that.\n\nSo, is there a way I could ask a girl out whom I've just met? It need not necessarily be dog park specific. My problem is simply that, whenever I picture asking out a girl whom I've only met just then, I look like some sort of creep who's only humiliating myself. Would it be creepy to ask someone out if I've just met them? \n\nThere is a chance I could see one of these women again at some point, since we all have dogs and frequent the same dog park. But I can't be sure of that, and in the past me deferring asking a girl out until I see her again in the future has resulted in me never asking her out. Is there a decorum here don't know about? Women especially, would it be creepy if some guy you just met (at a dog park or otherwise) asks you out?", "summary": "Met several women around my age at the dog park, couldn't figure out how to ask them out, nor get the courage to do so. Need advice on how to ask a woman whom I've only just met out on a date."}
{"id": "t3_3c2yu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27] with my so [28] not sure if emotional incompatibility is a deal breaker? Your experiences please?", "post": "hi reddit, using a throwaway because obvious is obvious.\n\nMy SO and I have been together nearly 2 yrs, we live together, I Feel as if we can never see eye to eye on anything, given that we are so vastly different emotionally - like actual chalk & cheese.\n\nRelevant info - he has had a stable, loving and supportive upbringing with almost zero hardship, and I suspect he was coddled a lot as his mother still coddles him and doesn't treat him like an adult. He is sensitive, diplomatic, fair - which is why I love him, but he cannot express emotion and especially cannot express OR handle any negative displays of emotion. He shuts down, and feels nervous and scared when someone displays angst, anger, anxiety, etc.\n\nNow I am the exact opposite! Was in long term r/ships with 2 abusive partners (have since come to my senses) despite being a smart, strong willed person with in tact self esteem and the ability to stand up for myself. Also abusive father, alcoholic parents, previous drug abuse, overall shitty life, but I try in every way to make it better.\n\n I have always been overly anxious, and I have a past history of PTSD and an overactive fight or flight mechanism, I am loud and make sure I am heard, I show happiness with the same force that I show anger, sadness, glee, everything.  My partner I am discovering, cannot handle this. He has told me he no longer talks to me as he is scared of my reactions. He is scared of me being upset or angry. I feel like his most common catch phrase is \"calm down\" as he seems to think I am constantly anxious or angry or stressed when I feel normal. I feel like I am the one that needs fixing here, but he openly says anger is not normal - whereas I believe it is just as normal as happiness! Am I crazy?!? I am sooo sensitive towards him, but I don't want to be. I want to be with someone who isn't afraid to scream or cuss or cry when things don't go their way, and throw a fuckin party and tell everyone everything, when something amazing happens. \nAnyway...", "summary": "Partner thinks my emotions are too much/scary/make him nervous, I think I am normal (to a degree!) but am starting to think maybe I am actually unhealthy and emotionally unstable? Can we make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_4f6227", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having an orgy with my boyfriend, my boyfriend's best friend and his girlfriend", "post": "Background info: so my boyfriend's best friend (whom I'll refer to as J) used to have a crush on me. My boyfriend (S) and I were starting to get into each other when J told him that he had a crush on me. S told me, and I told him to tell J that I cannot be with J because I wanted him, S. J let that whole crush thing go, and he found M, whom he is with right now. \n\nThat was over 7 months ago. Recently, my boyfriend brought up the fact that he wanted to have an orgy, but he wasn't comfortable with he fucking some random guy, so he suggested J and his girlfriend M. I know them both very well at this point, and we are all in college, so...why not? \n\nWell...before the orgy started, J was all like \"no one can fuck me better than M\" and blah blah blah. That was his attitude up until we started doing things, and he was like \"you really know how to suck dick\". I'm thinking that he's just trying to make me feel more comfortable, given the fact that I'm having sex with my boyfriend's best friend. But noooooo...I start riding him and he's whispering things in my ear like \"you make me want to fuck you raw\", \"you fuck better than M\", \"this is why S loves you so much\", \"this is why S was afraid of letting you fuck some other person\", \"you make me wanna cheat on M\", \"I hate you for making me want you\", etc. \n\nThis man has officially caught feelings. I went to the bathroom after the sex session was over, and he was waiting outside the door for me when I was done. He was like \"I hate you so much, why do you have to feel so good?\" and slapped my ass as I walked away. \n\nI told my boyfriend, and he was like \"wow...never again\", but I don't know how to deal with this. We are all in his room right now, they are all sleeping except me. What do I do?", "summary": "pussy so good it made a taken man catch feelings"}
{"id": "t3_4d6unb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/24) am strangely stressed out by this girl (24) I started talking to again.", "post": "I don't know what it is. We started talking again just 3 days ago. We dated for about a month January of 2015 and have just reconnected again. \n\nThe reason as to why we broke up was because I thought that we wouldn't work sexually because she didn't like foreplay. I find that to be trivial today and feel like I was very closed minded and selfish. \n\nBut ever since we've started talking again we've hit it off without a hitch. We're already kissing and holding hands. I stayed the night with her last night and slept in her bed, but haven't had sex. Before we were going to bed I did get really stressed out because I didn't want the sex to be a problem again. I also gained 50 lbs. As well so I was a little self conscious. \n\nThe only thing I can chalk this up to is that our connection is just really intense and I'm just overwhelmed. I've been single for about 8 months now after an emotionally abusive relationship. Just wanted to throw that out there. She has been single pretty much since we dated too. \n\nI also feel like she is out of my league and that could be just my weight talking so. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks", "summary": "Just started talking to this girl I dated last year and I'm really stressed out when I'm around or think of her. Could just be an intense connection."}
{"id": "t3_1395s3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] cheated on my long distance girlfriend [21F] while drunk. Need advice...", "post": "I've been dating her for a little over 3 months but we were really close friends for several years. There was tension between us through that time but we finally started dating this summer.\n\nWe started the relationship in the same city but go to separate colleges so it's been long distance for the majority of our relationship. Normally I would never ever consider cheating, but last night I was on a barcrawl with several people in my major and at the last bar (when I was the most drunk) I somehow ended up making out with a random girl. I don't remember how it happened, who approached who or what. That's all that happened though, and I went home.\n\nI do remember feeling really bad and kept telling people \"I didn't mean to I didn't mean to\", and when I got home I told me roommate about it. The thing is... I also buttdialed my girlfriend during part of the conversation.\n\nI'm not sure if she heard anything but she hasn't talked about it. Although she hasn't talked to me really today except one text message, and this week we haven't talked much because she's been busy.\n\nI don't know what to do. Like I said I really really care about her... I don't have much experience in relationships so I don't want to come out and say I 'love' her yet but I can't imagine being with anyone else but her.\n\nSo if she didn't hear anything and doesn't know what happened, should I just keep it a secret? Should I wait some time before telling her? Or should I come clean now? She has trust issues with men in general anyway so I'm afraid telling her this would destroy everything (although I probably destroyed it anyway last night...)\n\nAnd if she did hear something what should I do?\n\nThis has been bothering me a lot today so I would be very grateful for some advice...", "summary": "Cheated on long distance girlfriend while very drunk last night, she may or may not have heard about it when I accidentally butt-dialed her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2pf3lb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] her [21 F]. Help me figure out the grey area before being exclusive", "post": "I'm curious about how y'all treat the time before being exclusive with someone.  I met someone about two weeks ago.  Had a very fun first date that ended with making-out, cuddling at a park and a snuggl'd walk home.  Two days later we have sex (it's awesome) and we've hung out a handful or so of times since then all including her staying over, having sex, cuddling, being kissy, affectionate and fun.  \n\nHowever, even though she intiatates texting with me, she has yet to ask me to hang out with her.  I've done all of the asking which is starting to annoy me, but also making wonder where we are at.\n\nI have an old FWB that I have ridiculously awesome sexual chemistry with that has been hitting me up.  I want to explore this some more, but I don't want to hurt my new friend's feelings or ruin the potential between us.\n\nIs it best to avoid the old FWB?  Should I ask my new friend where we stand?\n\nI feel like it is too soon to have that conversation and I would only be implying that I want to see other people.\n\nWhat would you do?  How do you feel about the period before being exclusive?", "summary": "Met a really awesome girl but I don't know if she wants to be exclusive.  Old FWB is hitting me up and I want to see both if it isn't going to jeopardize the chances with my new friend."}
{"id": "t3_yi83m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most obscenely rude thing that someone has done to you?", "post": "Mine is not that bad but it still is quite rude. When I was about 10 years old, I was competing at a district competition for robotics. There was a large crowd gathered around the robotics arena floor. I was really short back then (about 4' 11''), so I had a really hard time finding a spot. I was finally able to find an adequate spot and was just barely able to see anything. But after about a minute of standing there, this middle aged, 300lb Samoan guy grabs my shoulder and pushes me to the side. Apparently, he had a folding chair that was about 5 feet behind me, and was sitting there. He showed me a picture camera, it was a picture of me from the back. He shoved the camera in my face and said, \"Hey kid! You see this picture? Can you see what's wrong here? You're blocking the fucking view!\" Then he shoved me to the side and sat back down.", "summary": "Big Samoan guy was a huge dick because I was blocking the view."}
{"id": "t3_2z38we", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend? [26 M] has been giving me mixed signals about the status of our relationship [27/F].", "post": "Me and my boyfriend of about 2.5 years broke up around Thanksgiving last year. It all started because we had always talked about taking the next logical step and moving in together, I was ready and waiting for him to be \"ready\" and want it together. Then one morning he said to me that he wanted to move out on his own, but not with me. He couldn't give me any real reason, except that he was \"too young\" to settle down. He broke it off and we stopped seeing each other. I started dating other people, but he still always tried to contact me. Over the past month or two since he moved we started talking again. I've always loved him and wanted a life together, if I had to wait for him to be ready, then I was willing to sacrifice what I wanted at this point for him to be happy too.\n\nWe never officially \"got back together\". He never asked me to, and any time I brought it up he brushed me off. I didn't want to sound petty, asking why we aren't friends/adding each other on Facebook/instagram, and putting a label on it. I did find out however that he was lying to his friends about still seeing me.\n\nI'm just ready to move on at this point. I've never felt so used. Am I being unreasonable? I'm trying to be understanding and so badly wanted us to work, but he just doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself.", "summary": "I don't even know where my \"relationship\" stands at this point. Do I cut him off and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4s9ohg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my Ex-gf [24F] who dated for 6 years, recently told me that she has accepted to start dating someone after the previous week reaffirming that she still loved me.", "post": "SO my ex-gf K recently announced she met this guy D, and started dating him last Tuesday. Previously for the past three months we reconnected and started talking, dates here and there, occasionally had sex.\n\nWe've dated for 6 years and known each other for 9. We've cuddled standard \"relationship stuff then she said she wanted to see me so I let her end she sat down and told me she met this guy while visiting an old friend of hers. She seemed broken up and crying saying she felt awful but she wanted to try this with him.\n\nI don't know if its love but she's attracted to him. We're usually busy and can rarely see each other, while our parents are really fond of the other person in the the former relationship so we don't get to spend much time together.\n\nI'm happy for her but the part that annoys me is that after saying she still loves me and knows how I feel about her. She can visit him in Georgia a hour and some change away but can't visit me 25 mins away.", "summary": "EX is dismissing the relationship we have/had and in favor of being completely absorbed with this new bf."}
{"id": "t3_qvx0s", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Advice: Art or Science?", "post": "I'm a 24 y/o with a B.A. in English (a degree I completed because I love literature and language).  That said, I have a background in, and deep love of, science, particularly physics.  I've been out of school for almost two years now, and I'm ready to go back.  Actually, I've been ready for almost a year and a half now, but I can't decide what to do.\n\nDo I go back to school to study physics (I'd have to do a lot of undergrad work again to be prepared), biology (I have a very strong interest in neuro-chem--again, I'd have to return to undergrad), or should I follow a simpler route through academia, into my other interest in early medieval Norse literature, with a focus on getting into translation?\n\nObviously, none of you know me.  Just wondering what you would do.  I keep going back and forth in my head because I can make strong and totally convincing arguments for any of the above ideas.  I've been trying to decide for almost two years.  Help!", "summary": "Should I, a college grad with a B.A. in English, go back to undergrad to pursue physics/bio/the-true-nature-of-existence or just go ahead with grad school and translate viking lit?"}
{"id": "t3_kpclo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can my girlfriends ex-roommate legally come excavate dirt from her backyard?", "post": "Long story short... my gf lives in a 2 story duplex, and until recently shared the top story with a 28 year old meat head. Before she moved in, he had laid a few hundreds of dollars worth of dirt in the back yard. The downstairs neighbor, a retired schoolteacher with a green thumb, has turned the back yard into a gorgeous garden with an assortment of vegetables and flora. He had a severe falling out with the downstairs neighbor, eventually resulting in moving out about a month ago. Now, he has vowed to come back and 'return his dirt to its rightful owner' effectively mutilating the gardens. He plans on relocating the dirt to his 'new gardens' (aka huge pile of spite behind his house). \n\nWhat the fuck, right? Any of you knuckleheads have an idea how we can stop him?", "summary": "dude wants to dig up the backyard and ruin our garden. fuck that noise."}
{"id": "t3_1sq8qi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Stupid and Clumsy", "post": "I'm stupid and clumsy which almost makes me worthless as a human being. A few months ago, I was breaking up a slushie with a knife, because I'm stupid, and it slipped into my finger cutting my flexor tendon.. I'm still waiting on surgery for that. Then, last night I tripped and stepped onto a Christmas present I bought for my best friend, breaking one of the stir sticks. I went in the garage to try to find some glue to glue it back together. I picked up a can of spray paint, and took the top off with great difficulty and the little sprayer thing popped off. I don't even know why I did it, I guess I was just curious. I picked up the sprayer thing to put it back on and then the whole can exploded. It exploded all over my hands, the garage floor, the inside of the garage door, and the back end of my mom's car. I immediately ran inside and tried to wash some of it off my hands and then ran back out side with bleach and threw it on the garage floor, only on the garage floor not my mom's car. It got some of it up, but not all. I then saw that there was paint on my mom's car and mixed car wash solution and got some sponges to take off the paint. It took me about 3 hours, and I did tell her what happened and she knew I was trying to clean it up and it was an accident. (She was frustrated, but didn't yell.) Well, this morning she texted me that I took the finish off of her car by scrubbing it and it's on the garage door. She's still not yelling which almost makes it worse. I just feel like a useless human being. I do stuff like this all the time. I'm about ready to stop existing and causing so much grief.", "summary": "I accidentally exploded a can a spray paint on my my mom's car and garage and then took the finish off my mom's car trying to clean it up."}
{"id": "t3_2i20cr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with someone I've been getting romantically close to [15 F], I don't know whether to start a relationship or not...", "post": "Well, I think both of us are emotionally unstable and immature. I've never been in a relationship and she's been in a couple. She told me she wants to make my first relationship \"so real.\"\nI don't know what to do, because I know if I date her then I might get really depressed if things go wrong (I can get depressed now over really petty things that happen between us, as can she)\nI guess what I want to know is should I go through with this? Is it worth the potential pain it can bring or should I just leave it alone and get on with my life? Again, we both really like each other, it's just im not sure the both of us (espicially me) are ready.", "summary": "Me and this girl really like each other, but we both get depressed about petty shit between us really easily. Should we date and take a risk and suffer through the pain it may bring us?"}
{"id": "t3_d4vj0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any former users of NinjaVideo....", "post": "For those of you who don't know, NinjaVideo, a tv show/movie streaming website, was recently shut down by the police for copyright infringement. I was a huge fan of the site, and even joined their forum briefly before the end (a rare commitment for me). I was telling my girlfriend about NinjaVideo going down, and how they were selling stuff to make money for their legal defence. Anyway, she orders me a hoody as a suprise. About a week ago she tells me it still hasn't arrived. It was supposed to arrive on the 12th. The emails she sends to the site selling the stuff (Cafepress) bounce, and UPS can't find the package without a tracking number.\n\nWe live in Ireland, so maybe there is just some delay. I really hope so because it visibly upset her. Broke my fucking heart when she told me. I really hope this is just a mistake. Any advice reddit?", "summary": "Ordered something from NinjaVideo. Still hasn't arrived."}
{"id": "t3_3762zh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a good kid", "post": "Ok so this incident happened just today, a few hours ago. I told my parents I wanted to go back to my college city and crash at a friends place a few days before moving into my apartment. I wanted to do so because I feel a lot more productive being alone and I wanted to get back into the groove before I move in and start my new job. Instead my parents got very angry and basically accused me of abandoning them for my friend, and not thinking about their feelings. They are now broiling at me\n\nAnd here I was, trying to for the first time in my life not laze around all summer long and this is what I get for trying to be a good kid\nSigh..", "summary": "tried to be a good homework doing kid and ended up offending my parents"}
{"id": "t3_3vkxtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[32M] Ex gf is gone but I know I will miss her. Is it ok to keep feelings for her for the rest of my life?", "post": "Ex gf has been gone for about 2 months. I hurt her very badly and I know she will never, ever even consider coming near me again. But she did teach me some very valuable lessons and because of this I know I will remember her for the rest of my life.\n\nThe question is, will this affect my future relationships? Like if I still keep some photos of me and her together? Especially how this will impact my spouse if I ever actually get married. I know I won't go back and cheat or anything - it's purely an emotional thing. But I'm not sure how other people deal with it.", "summary": "Am I allowed to remember my ex even if I move on to a new relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3r06it", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I drop? (Fraternity)", "post": "Hey so just some background info, I have social anxiety and act very differently when I'm around new people, and people I'm close with. I started pledging cause I wanted to stop having this issue and meat some new people. \n\nHowever, I'm not even close with my line brothers and I'm starting to think that this process isn't even worth it. The only rea son I'm staying is for some hope of fixing my social issues. The past 2 years I've been having social anxiety issues and that's something I really want to change about myself In addition, school work is stacking up.", "summary": "Hoping to rid myself of social anxiety by joining a frat. Not working, I'm not even close with the people I'm pledging with."}
{"id": "t3_k5r6r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, it seems like both r/twoxchromosomes and r/mensrights have good points, but who's REALLY right? How do I best inform myself about the current state of gender equality?", "post": "I think that both r/mensrights and r/twoxchromosomes are great places of discussion and insight...sometimes. As a male, I appreciate a place like r/mensrights to help combat the feeling of \"men are bad\" that I get when talking to many feminists I know - but it so often devolves into circle-jerky \"WE'RE SO WRONGED!\" but except really we're not *really* in that bad of shape.\n\nOn the flipside, r/twoxchromosomes is a great place to learn more about the female condition but it can feel at times like anything contrary to the \"women have it harder than men\" attitude that TO ME seems to be the primary mindset of most feminists* is impossible to debate or find the truth in.\n\nYes, women have it bad. No doubt about that. But men don't have it easy either, especially socially. There are so many statistics bandied about, I don't know what's the truth. Where do I begin to correctly inform myself about these issues?", "summary": "How do I learn more about gender inequality, for both men and women?"}
{"id": "t3_wzika", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Guys.. I'm slowly dieing here. Need advice. 21/M 20/F", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 months, yet we have known each other for months before that. We live in the same city now but in the next couple weeks I will have to go out of town for work (~7 hours away).\n\nHere is the dilemma: The long distance is not an issue, but the real issue is that we both know that our relationship will not work out in the long run due to family compatibility issues (culture, etc). Family is very important for the both of us, so we understand that in the long run if our families aren't happy then things will be very difficult in the future.\n\nSo right now we are in a depressing gut wrenching stage where we both know I am leaving in a couple weeks, and we aren't sure what is happening after that between us. And the closer and closer this date gets the more we naturally tightly hold on to each other. It's seriously depressing. We both are kind of aware that it has to come, we would love to remain friends but obviously it's really hard to remain friends in a situation like this.\n\nFor me, I know I can deal with things over time, but what kills me is I know she'll be devastated by this. It really tears at you seeing an extremely gentle caring person potentially get hurt. Especially when she's so understanding and willing to take the hit. We have both told each other we'd just enjoy each others company and after I leave for work we'd figure it out. However obviously its still very hard. Part of me wants to say fuck the parents, lets do this. But realistically its not that easy :(\n\nAny advice in this situation? Is there something I can say/we can both do to make this easier? Anyone had any experience with a situation like this? This thing has honestly been eating away at me. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "2 months in, I have to leave for work, we both know it wont work out due to family. The closer it gets, the harder we hold on. Tears everywhere man."}
{"id": "t3_45117j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going out for dinner on my birthday", "post": "This happened few years back. I was new to the city and I used to live with two other roommates.\n\nI come back from work. No one was at home as both my roommates were out of town that day. That day was my birthday as well and the only friends I had were my roommates(I was new in that city). My friends from University gave a call to wish me, and then persuaded me to at least go get dinner outside to celebrate my birthday. I gave in and decided to go get some dinner outside (by myself). \n\nI go to the parking lot and my car is no where to be found. I learn after few frantic calls, that the HOA has a new rule, that all unregistered cars will be towed at the expense of the owner. I had bought a car two days back and was planning to go register it the next day. I go back to my apartment and call the tow company. They say it will be 200$ for it to be released from the pound. I was so pissed that this was happening on my birthday. God dammit I was about to go register it the next day.\n\nAfter the initial rage, I decide to go get that money from a nearby ATM. So that I can just get the car released from the pound and go to work directly. So I take my bike, go to the ATM and come back to my apartment. Guess what, I had left my keys inside the apartment when I left for the ATM. Yep, I was without a car and a shelter on my freaking birthday.\n\nI ended up sleeping at a colleagues couch that night.", "summary": "Went out to get dinner. Car was towed and I locked myself out of my apartment. All on my birthday."}
{"id": "t3_46b8uk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by teaching my S.O. to snowboard", "post": "This actually happened on monday but this is first day back on reddit. My roommates wanted to go snowboarding and my gf was off for Presidents Day(Silly US holiday) so we all went to our local mtns. One of my roommates and my gf had never snowboarded before so I knew we were in for a interesting day. We started on the kiddie slope it was super easy but took forever. My roommate(who knew how to board) got plowed on the first run so I could tell there were a ton of idiots out. Last run of the day we decide to go to the top and try a Medium run its really easy but just longer and we wanted a picture from up there. My S/O was getting tired and lazy and kept falling, she was getting to that give up stage all guys hate lol. She fell at a bad spot that was down a hill and before a sharp turn. I said \"Babe you have got to get up we are going to get hit here if we dont move.\"She gets up and goes about 5ft and falls again. This time I sit about 5-10 away from her and try and coach her back up. Once again I say \"We really have to move or we are going to get hit\" She complains a bit then out of the corner of my eye I see a college kid comming and he has no control. He dodged my gf and that put him right on track for me. I bracked for impact and his board went right into my arm. Soon as I felt the pain I knew it was bad. Within seconds my S/O had taken her board off and was asking if I was okay and finally I got up on my board and got out of the death zone that was that spot. Ski patrol wanted to take me down on a strecher but I went super Alpha mode and boarded down the Mtn. My gf now feels awful and walked down the whole mtn. I went to the hospital and I cracked both bones in my right arm. Joy. \n  \n###", "summary": "GF got tired and lazy snowboard, fell in bad spot. I tried to coach her to move so she doesnt get hit. I get hit and break my arm."}
{"id": "t3_2sh9ea", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Popping Questions and such!", "post": "Hello Everyone!\n\n(X-post from /r/Relationship)\n\nFirst off, I apologize if this is the wrong sub-reddit to post this to. I am not exactly very active on Reddit (first post!) so please let me know if this question is better suited elsewhere.\nAs the title states, I am going to ask my Girlfriend of almost a decade to marry me! :D\n\nMy plan is to pop the question during this trip we are going on, with a whole bunch of our friends (we are going to be in New Orleans! Say hi if you see someone proposing on Valentine's night in NOLA).\nWe've know each other since like forever and practically grew up together and I have talked to her parents & mine about this, and they are all very happy for us. Now all I need to do is get down on one knee and ask the woman of the dreams to spend the rest of our lives together.\n\nAnyway, onto the question: I am trying to plan this to be as special as possible for her. I plan to make sure there is a band of some kind (still working on that part, any ideas on this are welcome. [This] is our song) and there's going to some Floating Lanterns as well! What I need from all of you are ideas on how to make this the greatest night of her life.", "summary": "I'm going to pop (the question) & I want her to blow (her mind) :P"}
{"id": "t3_1cskpg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] I cheated on my [21/f] girlfriend of two years", "post": "This is my first time posting here, and I wouldn't be doing this unless I was desperate. I went to a party a couple of nights ago and cheated on my girlfriend, whom I loved and still love very much. I told her, in person, the following day, what I did. She cried, and it was heartbreaking to watch, but I sat there and consoled her. I didn't try and make excuses for myself, I just told her what happened. We've decided to stay together, and she said that she still loves me. She obviously hasn't forgiven me yet, and I don't expect her to. This is where I need some assistance; I hate myself. I can't stop hating myself. I've started crying out of nowhere. I tried to cut myself with my watch immediately after I cheated. I'm starting to think that I need to break up with her, because I don't deserve her whatsoever, even though we both love each other. What should I do?", "summary": "Cheated on my loving girlfriend, got back together, and I'm considering ending it because I don't deserve her."}
{"id": "t3_1jhtc8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors who have picked up and moved across the country, what advice do you have for someone who wants to do the same?", "post": "I am 22 and live in Michigan, and I am giving myself a year to save up and move to California. I took a road trip there when I was younger and loved the Pacific Coast Highway and Yosemite, and I need a change of scenery, so why not? I just don't know how to get started besides planning a route and calculating the cost of gas.\nThe rough plan right now is for me to sell my car and motorcycle next summer, buy a truck, sell all my furniture/non-essentials, pack up whats left, and head west after Labor Day. I have relatives I can stay with in Kansas and Colorado, and I will probably spend a week or two staying at my grandparents farm in Kansas since I don't see them very often. My roomate wants to join too, and he's never been to the west coast. Once I get there I want to get a job in Yosemite during the spring, but that isn't set in stone, and I'd need a job over the winter (maybe working at a resort in Lake Tahoe?) And I have an 8 year old husky, which should make finding a place to stay interesting.\nHow do I start the planning, or do I just have a few thousand dollars saved up and wing it?", "summary": "Saving money for a year, selling everything, buying a truck, and move to California with my dog and roomate. What should I know/consider/plan for?"}
{"id": "t3_38logd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking myself out of my room.", "post": "It all started with a cultural tour. Being active duty military and stationed overseas in Japan we were voluntold to partake in a tour of the local area. Fun and dandy right? \n\nI was ecstatic about the free tour of the local area. Except when I woke up five minutes before the tour starts. Luckily the meeting area was a Starbucks just outside of my room.\n\nQue the rushing, the frantic panic to dress up, and get down in time. I left my ID which is also conveniently my room key. Two more mistakes.  (Straying away from the story, the military is all about being on time and integrity. Hence \"excellence in all we do\".) \n\nRealizing I fucked up bad, I told the host that I had left my REQUIRED ID in my room, which is my room key locking myself out. \n\nI couldn't go on the tour and now I'm stuck in the Starbucks waiting until one of my supervisors picks me up and lets me into my room. I'm expecting more than just a little scolding, paperwork even.", "summary": "Locked myself out of my room, and left ID inside room. Stuck at a Starbucks and waiting for supervisor to pick me up and receive paperwork."}
{"id": "t3_3es0i5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Soooo frustrated with my coworkers right now", "post": "So I work at a vet, and I run the doggie daycare. My room for ddc is upstairs, and on weekends when our jackass boss has us overbook dogs for boarding, they use my room and my crates for boarders. They won't be able to starting next week, because weekend daycare is starting and they can't use the room for boarding, so I really hope Dr. J gets his head out of his ass and realizes that overbooking is shitty for EVERYONE (but him, of course). \n\nAaaaanyways, so this morning I got to work and went upstairs. What. The. Fuck. Dog food and shredded food trays all over the floor, shit smears in a crate, 3 separate, large smears of dried shit on the floor, and a big puddle of dried piss. WHAT. THE. FUCK. I was livid. The room was filthy, and there was no way I was doing daycare in it. I found some kennel people and asked them what the fuck, and got different answers about who said they did it and who was supposed to. Multiple people had to have come up here,  seen it fucking nasty, and just left it?? There is bleach spray, paper towels, towels, and a garbage can IN FUCKING SIGHT. \n\nI took pictures, & sent them to the kennel manager, and made one of them come up and clean my fucking room this morning like they should have and had several chances to do. It's utter fucking laziness. If it was just some food and stuff on the floor whatever, I don't mind that, but leaving poop and pee to just sit there all weekend is ridiculous. Starting next week I'll be able to take back over  cleaning my room and I can't wait. So much frustration towards my coworkers. And not all of them, because I know who has enough respect for me to do their job like they should, and who is lazy as fuck. Fuck you, Rob. Seriously, fuck you because I'm pretty sure it was you, you lazy little douchecanoe. /endrant", "summary": "Kennel staff are lazy fucks who left my room a goddamn mess and I'm pissed"}
{"id": "t3_3fjy0b", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Riding the tech wave, getting overpaid by any sensible metric. What is the best way (financially) to leverage my current situation?", "post": "Hey PF, a little background. I'm a recent grad in CS (undergraduate) and work for a large well-known tech company. Here's my approximate pay breakdown for 2015:\n\n * Base: $130,000\n * Bonus (cash & stock combined): 60,000\n * Total: ~$190,000\n\nI've heard a lot about how the tech industry is in a major bubble that can burst any moment, so I'd like to figure out how to use my current situation to make the best next career move financially and make sure I'm still on an upward trajectory even if/when the bubble bursts.  Options:\n\n * Work hard for as many promotions as possible at current job until the bubble bursts\n * Diagonal move within the tech industry to try to get as many promotions as possible until the bubble bursts (might get promoted faster, but probably wouldn't be as laid back as current situion)\n * Switch industries as soon as soon as I get my next promotion, and leverage current high pay to negotiate a senior position even though I don't have senior-position-level experience.\n\nAnyone have experience from a previous bubble who can weigh in?  Obviously there's more to work & life besides your salary, but I'll save those questions for another subreddit :)", "summary": "Tech industry is paying way more than seems reasonable right now - how can I make sure my salary keeps going up over the medium/long run even if/when the bubble bursts?"}
{"id": "t3_3c0q7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/20] just found out my friend [F/20] is dating my ex-fwb [M/22]. Should I tell her?", "post": "Last spring, I lost my virginity to and started a casual sexual relationship with a friend's friend who was in the country 5 months for work experience (Then F19/M21). The relationship continued up until around 3 weeks before he moved back to his home country, when he started to do a fade away (Not replying to messages, claiming to be busy). Around 4 weeks before he moved home, I noticed he was getting a lot closer to another friend of mine (Then F19). \n\nRecently he was back in the country, and I learned from another friend that they are in fact dating, and have been since some point last year.\n\nI don't know whether to tell my friend (Now F/20) about my relationship with the guy, as I am unsure of if they got together before or after I stopped sleeping with him. I'm worried about ruining my friendship with the female friend, or being the cause of a breakup. Should I tell her?", "summary": "friend is dating my ex-fwb. unsure of whether to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_3yfecf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by touching a basket in Michael's", "post": "BACKGROUND: This happened two hours ago and I'm still embarrassed.  For those of you who don't know, Michael's is a craft store with EVERYTHING.  I'm an 18 year old girl in college and I happen to have a boyfriend.  Parents like said boyfriend, blah blah blah.  \n\nNow onto the story...\nMy mom was excited because Michael's was having a 70% off Christmas sale and a lot of other things were marked down too.  I live in a dorm room so I went to check out baskets (oh sweet storage space).  After examining several that were cute but still out of my price range, I found a grey wicker basket with a white canvas lining.  It fit perfectly with my color scheme and I was psyched to see the price, after the discount, was $7.  I touched it and said \"I like this one\" and then turned to my mom to ask if I could get it.  \nHer jaw had gone slack and tears welled up in her eyes.  \"But you're so young,\" she said.  Confused, I looked at the basket and realised the front had \"Baby Things\" embroidered in French script.  For some reason, I thought the response, \"Oh no, I'm not pregnant yet,\" was the perfect response.  My dad, an aisle over, said \"What the fuck\" and everyone immediately looked in our vicinity.  \nAfter a few moments of mortal terror, I convinced my parents that, no, I was not pregnant and yes, I was telling the truth.  After my mom calmed down, we immediately checked out and left.  In the car they asked if I was using condoms.  Good times.  And I didn't even get a basket.", "summary": "fucked up by making my mom cry in a crafts store by telling her I was pregnant but not really"}
{"id": "t3_1dcqt2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] and having trouble dealing with a [20f] emotionally distant girlfriend of 3 months.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm posting here because I'm really at a loss on how to deal with this issue. I've been seeing this girl for 3 months now, and for the first little while I had a very hard time reading her and seeing how much she was into me. As a result I felt very insecure in the relationship for the first month or so. As things progressed, she began to show more signs of wanting me / liking me but was still acting very distant most of the time. For example, I have to initiate EVERYTHING (setting up dates, texting/facebook conversations, touching / sexual advances, etc.). It is a little strange though, as once I've initiated contact everything is very great and she always seems to enjoy my company.\n\nI really like this girl, and enjoy imagining a future with her, but I see some red flags that I find really difficult to interpret:\n\n* she has never once given me a compliment\n* I have done very many nice romantic gestures for her, but she has never ever reciprocated these\n* whenever I try to talk to her about her being distant, she instantly tries to change the subject\n* If I don't contact her for long periods of time, she doesn't seem bothered by it at all\n\nShe once explained to me that she is very emotionally reserved / guarded due to growing up with an 8 years older sister who used to make her life a living hell. I have seen signs of her opening up to me, but I am concerned that she will never truly \"let me in\". I don't know if Ill be able to continue the relationship much longer if this is the case.\n\nI want to talk to her about all this, but I'm really worried I will come across as overly attached / needy and that I can't let her be herself. I want her to be herself, but I also want to feel loved and appreciated in this relationship. What bothers me is that I've talked to a close friend of hers who says that she talks about me all the time and is really into me, but she never tells me anything like that!", "summary": "GF is very distant, and I feel very under appreciated. Will she \"let me in\" as we get to know each other better, or should I end it now?"}
{"id": "t3_2pt88o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting my housekeeper", "post": "Ok so maybe this is more of a Today My Housekeeper Fucked Up, but here's the story. I pay $150 every two weeks for a housekeeper. It's expensive but I work a lot and it's worth the money. As a Christmas bonus I set out $300 cash to give to her. I took out an extra $100 for myself and stuck it in my money jar (a secret jar in my room.) I laid the money for my housekeeper on my dresser and went about my day. I just went to give her the cash and for some reason I counted it before I gave it to her. It was short $80. I looked everywhere for the extra money. I figured it fell on the floor, I accidentally put it in my wallet, etc. I handed the money to my housekeeper and told her Merry Christmas and I still owed her $80. I told her I couldn't find $80 from the cash. She looked at me, and her eyes started watering and she told me \"I have the $80. I needed to buy presents for my kids, I'm sorry, I am so sorry.\" I told her it was ok, and I went to my cash jar to take out the extra $100 to give to her. I planned on never having her back but I guess my heart hurts for people who have to resort to stealing. I opened my jar, and lo and behold, all the money was missing. I asked her if she took it, she said yes, tried to give me all the cash back and I said, \"keep it, but please don't come back.\" Sucks. She was a great housekeeper. Except for the stealing all my cash part.", "summary": "My housekeeper didn't realize the cash I had out was for her, and she stole it. Tried to give her more money as a severance package, turns out she stole that as well."}
{"id": "t3_2x2yug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17,f) am beginning to worry about soon to be child or a friend (20's?,f) -non-romantic-", "post": "I've known these two people for almost eleven months. Guy is A and female is D, with a six year old girl, L. D is pregnant with the second child.\n\nTheir house is a complete PIGSTY. I was there about three weeks ago and nothing has changed in the whole time I've known them. The floor is sticky, they smoke indoors and never open the windows. Their kitchen is a pigsty, I saw a mouse or two in there second last time I was there.\n\nI don't care how they keep the house to be honest. The thing that worries me is that they have a kid and another on the way. I want to call child protective services on them but I just don't know if I should.\n\nThese guys are okay people. They just need to clean up their house massively or get some people to do it. I dread going there because of the mess but I just don't want this future kid growing up in these conditions.", "summary": "Their house is a mess and I'm worried about their future kid growing up in those conditions."}
{"id": "t3_2dz01q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my unofficial girlfriend [18 F] one month, she only calls to argue.", "post": "Quick backstory, met a girl, got close extremely fast, within a month we knew as much as you could know about each other in that time span. During the course of or relationship I got the vibe of her questioning what we were. She was very adamant that she didn't understand why we only hung out in the night, as in 10 o'clock or later. I'm always very busy, so I don't get a chance to see her in the day. When we were together, we were very happy, it was the most intimate experiences of my life thus far. All of a sudden her jealousy gets the best of her and we end things on bad terms. She ended it. Unwarranted jealousy, because I wasn't seeing anybody else but her. In fact, she was jealous over her gay best friend, whom I hung out with on two occasions. \n\nIt's been about 3 weeks since we ended things, and she apparently has a new man in her life with whom she feels the need to flaunt everywhere. The thing is, she still calls me. Sometimes multiple missed calls, sometimes one missed call. I never contact her. When I do answer, she acts innocent at first, then begins to argue and lash out on me. I never show anger towards her when she does this, I simply keep calm. The way things were going, it wouldn't have been crazy to say we were on the way to falling in love. And I've never been in love.\n\nThe question I have is, what's her angle in doing all of this? We've been separated for almost as long as we were together. Yet she still feels the need to lash out, not even including the fact that she's \"so happy\" with her new man. I find it odd that if she's so happy and over me, then why is she still contacting me. I just want to hear other peoples' opinions. Thanks.", "summary": "Get extremely close to a girl, see each other for a month, break things off, 3 weeks have passed and she still calls me to argue. Despite having a new man and being \"happy\"."}
{"id": "t3_2mjm6h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting caught on my phone at school.", "post": "Using a throwaway account because I have a girlfriend who browses Reddit.\nSo its recess, just chilling with my friends, about to show them this video of a fight that I managed to record. So I bust out my phone holding it up so they can all see it, at this perfect moment a teacher walks up directly to me, I turn off my phone and ask me to hand it over, sadly due to school policy this was compulsory. He looks at me and my friends and say \"what were you looking at\", I reply \"just a Facebook video\", teacher turns his back and as he is walking away says to me, \"you can have this back at the end of the day just come up to my office\"\n.\n\nThe day progresses and the end of the day comes slower than usual, immediately as the bell rang i bolted to his office and knocked on the door. He asks me to come in and hands me my phone, he then asks me to input my pass code. I look at him and say, \"sorry sir I do not feel comfortable doing that\", and turn to leave, he says \"either you do that, or you lose it for the rest of the year\". Me obviously not wanting to love my phone, input my code and pray he does not go through my history. Immediately he goes for my photos, inside I remember the night before I had a girl sending me nudes and I sending back, for some reason I was saving them, both hers and mine, anyway I had a wank and forgot to put them into my hidden folder. Well obviously a bad move, teachers goes through all of them and finds all the nudes and tells me that he can report me to the police and I can get a criminal record, but he said he wouldn't. He gave me my phone and told me to delete the photos and never have my phone out during school time again. I was shaking from both horror and laughter afterwards.", "summary": "Got caught with my phone, teacher finds nudes of me and other girls"}
{"id": "t3_1xfb1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate [22 M] and I [21 M] have been roommates for about three-weeks, he's cracking and I'm worried/concerned/scared.", "post": "I'm currently at a Top Ten School on the West coast and I moved into student housing about three weeks ago. At first my roommate seemed pretty ideal. My suitemates said he was studious and very study oriented and spent most of the last semester studying. \n\nWhen I met my roommate, (I'll refer to his as L) L seemed pretty chill. We invited each other to go eat at the dining commons and got along without any trouble. \n\nNow in addition to L who is my roommate, I share a living room, bathrooms and with seven other suitemates. Looking to make as many friends as possible, I arranged dinners and outings with my suitemates and everyone enjoyed themselves. The first week went off without a hitch and I transitioned into my new life without any trouble. \n\nIt was during the second week that L started doing some particular mannerisms. Some examples include sighing out loud and saying \"I feel so empty\" and \"What am I doing\". Other times we'll be hanging out in a large or small group and he'll try to establish a hierarchy of superiority over me. In beginning I asked if he wanted to talk but he said he didn't need to and I tried my best to be friendly but I haven't seen an improvement in his demeanor and he still insist on a certain level of aggressiveness when we're around others.\n\nShould I recommend some course of action for him or should I just do the minimal things to keep us as amicable roommates?", "summary": "My roommate is crazy and I need help dealing with him"}
{"id": "t3_2avthy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] jealousy is ruining my relationship with my SO [27 M]... or do I actually have a reason to be concerned?", "post": "My SO and I have been together almost a year. Right before we met, he had a very bad breakup with his ex. They dated and lived together for 2 years and she cheated on him multiple times. She was very manipulative, and he's actually teared up when talking about their relationship because of how much it hurt him. He basically had to uproot from the city they both lived in and move to another state because he couldn't be that close to her anymore. \n\nFast forward to now, a year later. He and his ex have reconciled their differences and talk frequently. I have never considered myself to be a jealous person, but there's something about her that makes me sick. When I see he's been on the phone with her, I just get so unbelievably upset. He tells me time and time again that it's over between them, but I just can't figure out how he could have forgiven her this fast for everything. They text frequently, g chat at work, and talk on the phone at least once a week. I've met her once, and he had to ask her permission if it was okay to bring me to a party that she would be attending.\n\nI really don't want to be a jealous and controlling girlfriend.... but I can't help but feel there's something going on that I don't know about? He always seems so excited to talk to her. He praises how funny she is and how she just totally gets him. Whenever he has a big issue, he talks to her and not me.\n\nEvery time I've mentioned this to him, he gets defensive and mentions how he just needs someone to talk to every once in a while. I talk to my roommates when I'm having a relationship problem, so why can't he talk to his friends?\n\nI feel totally stuck.", "summary": "My SO still talks frequently to his exGF, who cheated on him multiple times. Am I being crazy that this upsets me?"}
{"id": "t3_2yimm0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "trouble at work..frustrations", "post": "So I just started a new job about a month ago. Almost as soon as I started working, problems arise. In part because of my punctuality but also misunderstandings and lack of training. \nI am supposed to be at work at 9am. But for the first two weeks, I've been making it between 2-14 minutes past 9. I then get an email from my supervisor telling me I need to be on time and also how I was not clocking out when I went to class (they are letting me take one hour to go to school). I freaked out and told them that I just switched my lab at school and that I'd be on time from now on. They said I was supposed to mark it on my calendar so I knew where I was. This was something I had no idea about and apologized for it. Anyway, week three I started being on time. on Week 4 I started going back to being 2-8 minutes late. Also, one thing I had been doing was to 'vent' with my cooworkers about how I felt so stressed about working full time and attending part time classes. I also mentioned that I felt like I was being micro managed. Guess what? This came back to bite me in the ass today where my supervisor basically told me I needed to stop this 'disrupting' behavior. I explained myself that I did feel like I was being micro managed. I also mentioned that besides these issues, the person I assist at work is very happy with my job performance. \nANyway, sorry to vent, I just feel like I can't trust anyone at work and I don't have a support system there. Everyone at work has been nice to me. but now, I don't really trust people there since someone told on me. From now on, my plan is to keep to myself and be like 30 minutes early. Am I overreacting? Anyone has experienced something similar to this? I just feel like I walk on eggshells at work and I that I don't fit in. Thanks for reading..", "summary": "getting in trouble at work for my attendance and miscommunications. I feel like I don't fit in at work and feel overwhelmed about it.."}
{"id": "t3_4h82cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am having a difficult time dealing with my raging emotions, trying so hard not to let it out on my boyfriend [27M], looking for advice, subreddits, anything really.", "post": "I have always had issues with my emotions. While a lot of people treated me completely unfairly for it in the past I still knew there were things I needed to work on. After a big bump in the road in my now 3 year relationship with my boyfriend about a year ago, I have sought help and have been diagnosed with Bipolar 2. I am now on lamictal, which is a mood stabilizer that helps a LOT, but not always.\n\nI just have moments where I snap and suddenly am very angry. It is short lived most times and I'm generally aware I am being stupid but I am sometimes not able to pull myself out of it before I say something stupid. My boyfriend is incredibly understanding and doesn't take things personally. He also understands when I have moments where I get very upset to the point of crying over trivial shit.\n\nI love him but I just hate when I snap on occasion and say something mean. I'm also having trouble with anxiety. It's almost 2 AM and I can't bring myself to lay down because I feel anxious about it for no good reason. \n\nI'm anxious, at times incredibly hyperactive and needy, snippy at times, and overly emotional at little things occasionally. I am making myself sound like the worst right now, but I want to emphasize that I'm totally aware of these flaws and am able to apologize now (something I wasn't good at before) and for the most part I am not like this all the time.\n\nI HAVE gotten so much better. I am a much better and more self aware person and am happier 90% of the time. At this point, though, I feel kind of stuck. I've fixed the major major issues I've had but I feel like I can't get over these things.\n\nSo... looking for advice? I don't know of any good subreddits for advice for this sort of thing besides here. So literally any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "I'm a bipolar mess trying really hard to work on my issues so I don't hurt my boyfriend. I'm looking for advice on how to continue getting better."}
{"id": "t3_27wopb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] am worried that I annoyed my friend [23/f] to the point that she is ignoring me.", "post": "I may just being a silly insecure paranoid twat I am but I am worried about my relationship with my friend.\n\nWe text each other a lot and I have pretty bad thoughts and depression a lot and she always said she would lend an ear for it but lately I get very little replies from her. \n\nI worry that on the last night out (3 weeks ago) me, her and a few other friends had I may have said something really silly to her like \"I like you\" and maybe she is now distancing herself from me. I don't remember saying anything like that nor was I particularly drunk that night so I don't think thats the case but I am a huge fucking worrier with absolutely everything.\n\nI am also aware that a lot of stuff is happening in her life at the moment as well. Busy job, serious relationship that sort of thing so I try to tell myself she's just busy but she seems to have time for others from what I see on Facebook and stuff. I've been pretty isolated from her and my friends since I had to move back home and I rarely get to see anyone and its all rather depressing that I miss so much.\n\nSo should I really worry? I sent her a text simply asking \"How're you doing?\" in hopes she might answer something thats not just about me spewing my insecurities at her but I don't know what to do beyond that.", "summary": "Friend and I used to text alot and with regularity and now it feels like she is ignoring me and fed up with me."}
{"id": "t3_4onw7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My cousin bought me the game Life is Strange and I [21F] don't know how to tell him I can't play it.", "post": "Hi all, I need some input and creativity on how I can handle this well. My cousin bought me the game Life is Strange three months ago, and I've felt horrible because I kept procrastinating playing it. He sounds really let down every time I tell him I haven't played it yet. Well, now it's summer and I started playing. But I don't know if I can finish this game - the main antagonist is this man who drugs girls and assaults them at parties.\n\nI get really upset listening to the girls tell their stories because of my own past, and I don't want to continue playing the game. However, I don't want to tell my cousin what happened to me either. Does anyone have a good reason I can give him for why I can't play? Motion sickness won't work, he bought me Bioshock once and I actually couldn't play because of the motion, it would be so lame to use that excuse again.\n\nAlternatively, does anyone know how much more of this content this game has? Or is there a way for me to skip it?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Cousin spent money on a game for me, I've been putting it off forever, but recently found it has content that makes me very upset and uncomfortable. I don't want to play but don't want to disappoint him either. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ia4r9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [25 F] over a year: my parents hate and won't accept my gf", "post": "I have been friends with/worked with her for years. She recently went through a rough patch in her life. She was married her husband and her ended up separating. Eventually she and I became involved when I was the one that was there for her.\n\nAfter so many months I decided to take her home to meet my family. She is the first girl I've ever been sure enough about to bring home. They all got along great and seemed as though they liked her. One of our last nights, we went to drink with my sister and husband (they have a son together) and everyone passed out in the same room. By next morning in tears my gf said that the husband was touching her in her sleep while we were all in there. No one was sober enough to be aware and I believe her. I remember she tried to wake me and tell me right when it happened but i was too drunk to comprehend. She did not want to tell anyone in my family. She just wanted to leave but I thought my family would believe her so I convinced her to tell them. \n\nI was wrong . The husband had been around for years and I had just introduced her 5 days prior. They asked his side of the story but never asked her. They accused her of lying and claimed that she made it all up to get my sympathy. My mother believes she was trying to take me from the family. I'm really close to my parents and love my sister and my nephew. I want to  be there for my gf and take care of her but my family has made it clear that they hate her and don't believe her. I'm afraid to lose my family and my nephew.", "summary": "brought my girl home to meet my family but sisters husband touched her in her sleep. My Family wasn't having it. Didn't believe the accusation and now they hate her but I believe her and love her but I'm really close to my family I don't want to lose them. Is it worth staying with a girl if you're gonna lose your family"}
{"id": "t3_3d0ba9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26/F] in a stable relationship with my bf [26/M] but I'm having \"temptations\"", "post": "As of February last year, I'm in a relationship with this guy who I absolutely adore. We both have stable incomes, we have lots of common interests and we're both excited to have kids in a few years. **Things are great**.\n\nSo what's the problem? Well, it has to do with my background. This guy is the second person I've ever done... anything with. My current boyfriend and another guy I dated in college are the only two I have ever been intimate with whatsoever. This has made me think. I'm really, really really curious about what it's like to just go out and casually fuck someone (not any guy in particular). The first time I saw my boyfriend naked has got to be the most exciting moment of my life, it makes me giggle just thinking about it. \"This person is choosing to expose himself completely, just for me\". What if I could experience this feeling again?\n\nAt the same time, having casual sex with multiple partners is not anything I can imagine myself doing, ever. You could say, it's something I wish I'd experienced in the past but not something I want to experience in the future. I know it wouldn't be worth it. But I'm afraid that one day I will have some sort of age crisis and go cheat on him.\n\nBe honest with me. Am I missing out?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend. Never had casual sex and never planning to, really wondering what it's like."}
{"id": "t3_3l7p7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32/F] with my boyfriend [35 M] of 2.5 months, trying to cope with differences in drive and independence", "post": "I met what I thought was the most compatible man I had laid eyes on.  Handsome, funny, loads of similar interest, and sexual chemistry.  He is a Momma's boy and extremely dependent upon her, I didn't realize how much until just recently when he moved into his new place (she purchased) and has a very lacking job at the moment (part time stocker) even with an education.  \n\nThe problem is I had the opportunity to offer him a position well within his perceived capabilities that would offer much more than what he makes presently, albeit this position would be only temporary, as my assistant.  He had to ask his mother if this was ok, and he declined upon her dismissal of the proposal. \n\n Is it wrong of me to feel hurt and angry that he cannot take something that would benefit him greatly? \n\n I worry that it comes off as I was trying to pressure him into it, but I just cannot see the down side to the offer other than he may have to potentially stand on his own two feet.  I legitimately want the best for him no matter how the relationship turns out, and this would have potentially opened doors.  Plus the thought keeps running through my head that this will never go anywhere because of his mother interjecting and that is why his past relationships have failed. I personally have focused on career in the past and now that I want to focus on building a relationship I want to make sure any relationship I am in will succeed and cannot for the life of me figure out if my doubts are legitimate.  \n\nCan someone like this work long term?", "summary": "Momma's boy won't take good job without Mommy's permission; Is it ok to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_zpf9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What did I [27 M] do wrong to screw this up with her [22 F].", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2.5 years.  I know this will throw /r/relationships into conniption fits, but we moved in together probably a week after we started dating - we moved into my parent's house.  We lived there for like 9 months and then she declared that she didn't feel comfortable over there and wanted to be with her dog at her parent's house...so we moved over there.  Things were going great for a long time... I mean, we had our issues like any couple, but I thought we were working through them in a healthy manner.  \n\nSo yesterday, when she gets home from work, we talk and she says that she doesn't feel like she 'owns her own bedroom' anymore.  She tends to stay up late and likes top fall asleep with the TV on and hates the fan on.  I go to bed by 10 at the latest because i wake up at 4am for work and i like the fan on because her room is hot and i can't sleep when I'm warm.  Also, i sleep on the side of three bed where her containers with all her hair stuff are and she fells like she can't get to her stuff.\n\nIdk.  I'm just confused as hell.  She has been dealing with being the maid of honor at her best friend's wedding last Saturday and probably spent 20 total hours at home last week.  She also said that she feels like the newness is gone from our relationship - to which i responded, 'what do you think married life is like?'\n\nWe're not on a 'break' or anything like that, just 'I'm not living there anymore.'\n\nI don't know why i wrote this, maybe i want some advice or insight, or just another opinion on the situation.", "summary": "she asked me to move out, said i was in the way, also said that the spark is gone, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_13genj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] started dating someone I've been seeing [24f], found out she was sleeping around earlier this year.", "post": "I have been hanging out with one of my sisters friends for over a year. She asked me out a couple months ago, and I declined telling her I would like to get to know her a bit better. I told my sister, and she told me to be careful and take it slow.\n\nI told this woman last week that I liked her, since then we have been seeing each other quite often. I met her family last night, and afterwards went for a movie. We decided to make dating official.\n\nI let my sister know this morning, and learned some uncomfortable information about my now girlfriend. Apparently she was sleeping around with multiple men earlier this year, more often than not unprotected.\n\nI then asked my girlfriend why she hadnt told me. She said she knew she should have before, and it was completely her fault. That I shouldn't have had to learn this from my sister. She said that she made a lot of mistakes earlier this year. That she was a slut, and wanted to know if I wanted to break it off with her. She wanted to know before she got to work so she wouldn't be crying during her shift. I told her we would talk to her after she gets out of work.\n\nI have never been put in this position before, I feel that she should be given a chance but am unsure how to go about this respectfully. I would like to have her get tested (am even willing to get tested with her as well). Any input?", "summary": "Found out my girlfriend had been sleeping around before we started dating, I learned this from my sister, not her."}
{"id": "t3_1m5omn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What legal advice can yall give me about my situation?", "post": "Okay guys so a week or two ago i got caught and busted with less than 2 oz. of weed on me. I was taken to jail because it was on my college campus but was only given a $500 bail and was out by the next day. I have a court date in January but i am wondering... On the bottom of the paper i got that tells me the court date, what i was charged with and who my judge was going to be it had a part that said i could sign and pay a fine and it would just say im guilty. Since it was was a class b misdemeanor im asking yalls opinion. Would it be smarter to just pay the fine and take being guilty or take it to court and try to fight it. I feel that the fine would be much easier than having to spend 10 or more days in jail but am not sure because i don't know what will actually happen. One thing that i was not sure about was how it will affect my record if i have a class b misdemeanor on it? will i not be able to get jobs and will it restrict me in the future? Bottom line is i have no legal knowledge and i dont know what to do, so please guys help me out!", "summary": "i was caught with weed and am awaiting court i need legal advice."}
{"id": "t3_10ipld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25M) met someone (21F) a month ago, we hit it off great and just hit a roadblock out of nowhere. Help?", "post": "So I met this girl a month ago from an online dating site. Right from the first date we hit it off great. Things escalated at a normal speed throughout the next few weeks, we were constantly txting back and forth, etc, and all seemed well. This past week she had offered to come over to my place to make me dinner and we agreed to friday. Fast forward to friday afternoon and she suddenly seems to have flipped a switch and is all the sudden feeling undecisive about continuing to see eachother. Says her mind isnt clear. She says \"I really like you so much, but right now im so confused, gone through a lot of shit this past year, unsure if i can be anyone's gf or have a relationship at this time. But I really like you!\"\n\nWe don't get together friday night, I go see her saturday to talk and she just reiterates what she said and explains how she feels. Also explains how if we continued on things would continue to escalate and shes worried she will become too involved/tied down and miss out on her 20s. She says its up to me to either move on or we can stay friends until her mind clears... Again she reiterates that she does really like me. Also makes it clear its nothing I did and its not another dude.\n\nSince seeing her saturday I decided it was best to give her some space and havent initiated any contact with her since. She hasnt contacted me either.\n\nSO, basically im wondering how to approach this now because I do really like her as well and want to atleast fail trying instead of throwing it away. Im just worried about her losing interest or me getting demoted to friendzone. Also as much as I want to believe she was being truthful, I dont know if this is just a cop out to get out, if there is in fact another dude, if shes just having a freakout since we met online and prior to meeting we didnt know eachother IRL (this is her first time meeting someone online), etc... WHAT DO I DO?", "summary": "met girl online dating things going great for a month, she has sudden freakout in her mind about continuing on. How do I approach this now?"}
{"id": "t3_11ap7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my friend (f22) is with a horrible manipulating guy (m24?) they have 2 kids & live together. hes cheating. he uses her like a rag.", "post": "so they both have 2 kids and live together. one is 2 a girl and another is a baby boy under 1. both of them aren't very intellectual to be honest but i think he is a bit more cluey than her. he labels their relationship as an \"open relationship\" so he can go out and do what he likes with girls. \n\nwhatever money she gets from government assistance he makes her spend on food for the house and bills. she barely gets herself credit. she never goes out but he is always off somewhere on the weekends. he works as a toe truck driver, sometimes 7 nights a week.\n\nhe wont do simple stuff like change his kids or make his baby a bottle. shes told me before she looked through his facebook and its quite obvious hes cheating. the last time she told me apparently hes got some new girlfriend and they want to take the baby and move away from her. she keeps her mouth shut not to get on trouble. \n\nshe clings on to him so desperately. hes going to use her all up for sure. i haven't said anything against him. right now shes apologizing for being a shitty friend (which she hasn't) because her boyfriend is blaming her for all their relationship problems telling her she treats everyone like shit.\n\ni know it would be financially better and maybe even emotionally (not having to move back with her parents all the way across state) if they try work it out (they seem to be so up and down) but hes such as manipulating ass and he probably will leave her for some other pea brain whore. oh and they have broken up before over him cheating i believe.", "summary": "my friends with this manipulating using dick who wont even care for his kids, takes all her money and is cheating on her. its better for her and her kids if she stays with him (financially) but should i encourage her to give him the boot from now on?"}
{"id": "t3_1mf9se", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29m] had a great first date with a wonderful girl [28f]. Problem is, she's my ex's roommate.", "post": "My ex and myself are very good friends (strictly platonic). We dated for two years, nearly a decade ago, so much time has passed. We were good friends before we dated, and are even better friends afterwards. From what I can tell, there's no intentions or signals from either of us get to get back together.\n\nWe had one rough point - and this is kind of important to note...very shortly after breaking up with me, she started dating my best friend. And my entire circle of friends knew about it, but they were given explicit instructions to keep me in the dark. That circle of deception, targeted to one person...me...was something I was very angry about. We eventually patched this up, but it took several years and a long tearful cab ride together to sort things out.\n\nAnyway, back to present day - I met her roommate a few weeks ago when my ex invited me over to a BBQ, and the roommate and I had a great date tonight. If things keep progressing well, I would like to tell my ex, considering how badly I got burned beforehand in a somewhat similar situation; I feel like it's only right for her to be among the first to know. My ex and I are pretty much best friends at this point in time, but I would feel very weirded out if I ever saw her over to hang out (much less sleep with) my roommate privately in his room. I'm sure she'd feel the same way if I were there just to hang out with her roommate and not her.\n\nSo...I know the general advice is to dump the ex and never see her again, but to those rare few that are on good terms with their ex's...any advice on how I should proceed?", "summary": "My ex and I are on good terms, but is there any way I can go out with her roommate without making things weird?"}
{"id": "t3_v0lub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, advice on \"breaking the ice\"?", "post": "My parents and I went to this local restaurant after my graduation and the cute waitress that served us kept on looking and smiling at me. It was so obvious that even my parents noticed it too. \n\nI would like to ask her on a date to get to know her but the problem is that this restaurant she works in is a proper family type restaurant. The way I see it, I can't really show up again with my parents to try to talk to her, I can't really show up with friends because it isn't the sort of place 4 college freshmen would find themselves in and I can't really go alone because..well, is it just me or is that a bit strange? \n\nPlease some simple advice on what I can do?", "summary": "quick advice on how to ask a cute waitress at a very legit looking restaurant (can't really show up on my own)."}
{"id": "t3_3p1ski", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not understanding Nanny Tax Law", "post": "TIFU,  I thought nannies were 1099 employees. We just had our first baby and it was the first nanny I ever hired. Today is her last day (she is moving) and we were making sure we had everything when we realized they are paid as regular employees.. as in W-2 as in.. we should have been witholding taxes and social security and all that stuff the whole time (7 months)\n\nThis is a disaster, my wife calls me crying telling me that I have to take her last check from her to pay her social security taxes since we should have been taking them out each paycheck. We are not by any means rich. \n\nThis means when i get home in 3 hours I have to be a horrible person and not pay her and instead pay the social security that should have been deducted from her pay check every payday. This will suck leaving her last check pretty much $0.  What a sendoff. I feel like such a jerk and it was entirely unintentional due to us reading something early on and misunderstanding it.", "summary": "Should have paid nannies taxes from each paycheck, didn't now she owes $500 to the state that I have to take from her last check."}
{"id": "t3_1ycss5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my wife [24 F] of 7 years. Wife is looking to be done for good, I'm trying to fight.", "post": "We have been together for 7 years and have 2 small children (2 and 3). \n\nWe have both had issues with impulse control and stepping out of the relationship or causing distance when stress gets high, but we are the best of friends and partners when things are going well.\n\nIt feels like our biggest issue is communication, we never speak about the tension until the bomb is already going off.\n\nThere is no history of abuse or drugs. There was a social drinking problem on my end for the first few years of the relationship which caused me to be much more distant than I would like.\n\nI've been struggling with being the person I want to be for me, her, and my family since the start, but I've often failed. Relatively recently I have been succeeding in showing her how much I care and who I want to be. She seemed to appreciate these changes.\n\nWe have had several breaks over the course of our relationship where she gets space then eventually comes back, but we have never really \"started over\"\n\nWe are currently having one of these breaks, but this time it looks like it may end in divorce. I'm struggling to keep it all together for us and the kids.\n\nI don't know what to do. She doesn't want to discuss, talk about, or go to counseling. \n\nMy current game plan is to give her space, be nice and present as much as possible, and hope for the best.", "summary": "I'm trying not to let the woman I love slip away and destroy our family in the process. I don't know what to do other than give her space."}
{"id": "t3_q6i4t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I stop feeling guilty when my boyfriend wants to spend money on me?", "post": "So my boyfriend (20) and I (21 F) have been together for a year and a half. I love to do things for him. Cooking dinner, baking his favorite cookies, grabbing a few movies to watch, buy his favorite candy for him, little things that in themselves aren't extravagant but show him that I care about him very much.\n\nLately he's been getting sort of upset with me because I am not good at letting him reciprocate my actions. I always feel incredibly guilty when he spends money on me, so I stop him from doing so. I don't know why, exactly. I think it's mostly because I'm working while we're in school and he has to budget his money until he can start working again in the summer. He has bills and rent and groceries to pay for, and whenever he pays for stuff for me I just can't help but think that he could be spending that money on those things. Logically, I *know* he wouldn't be doing it if he didn't want to/if he couldn't afford it, but for some reason it still makes me feel bad. Whenever he takes me out to lunch, I can't help but think something like, \"That money could have paid for some of his electric bill.\"\n\nSo basically, how do I relax and let him treat me? Any advice at all would be appreciated. I don't want to upset him anymore and I want to stop feeling guilty.", "summary": "I feel guilty when my boyfriend spends money on me and it upsets him. Please help me relax."}
{"id": "t3_2b5f3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] asked a girl I met at work [22 F], I met her about a month go, out to get a drink and she agreed but stopped responding?", "post": "I asked out this girl I met at work about a month ago to go to drinks with me and she smiled and said yes. I told her I would get back to her with a time. I didn't outright set a time though, I just kinda talked about random stuff with her the first time we messaged.\n\n Each message she sent me was pretty long and full of smiley faces. I asked her If she was available on Wednesday and she said maybe but she needed to get her new schedule from her new job. \n\nShe got back to me to tell me that she couldn't Wednesday and she would get back to me with a better time. its been like four days now and haven't heard from her. should I message her again and what should I say?", "summary": "Girl said she would text me with a better time to go out for drinks but haven't heard from her. She seemed really interested though!"}
{"id": "t3_1w7jfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 F] got caught sneaking out with my much older friends with benefits [25 M]. My parents are devastated, please help.", "post": "I'm not going to try and rationalize what I did, but I'll give some context to this situation.\n\nMy parents have recently been going through a rough divorce - my father had been cheating, my mother used me to vent about him and his 15-years-younger, Brazilian girlfriend. I was stressed out a lot of the time because of this and had lost all respect for my father (and my mother to a large extent as well). I don't have a lot of friends I can talk to, and the stress was starting to build up. So being the genius that I am, I went and found myself a casual sex partner from my gym to relieve some of my anxiety. He is 25, but the age of consent in my country is 16 so it was *technically* legal. And yes, he is aware of my age. At the time I didn't care because he was nice and gorgeous.\n\nOur arrangement is that I would sneak out to meet with him after my family had gone to sleep. We would then drive to his house to have sex. We used protection, but all in all it was still pretty risky sexual behavior. My mother eventually caught on and confronted me about it with my father there. I told her everything - she was furious and told me she can never trust me again. \n\nI feel so lost and ashamed. This is the worst thing I've ever done. I have destroyed my mother's and father's respect for me, maybe permanently. How do I even begin to rebuild my relationship with my family?", "summary": "I started a barely legal friends-with-benefits relationship with a older man, and hid it from my parents for over a month. After breaking down and telling my mother, she tells me she wants as little to do with me as possible from now on. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3lx086", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F37) crush (M35) asked me out but...", "post": "I've (F37)had a crush on a guy (M35)for over a year. I see him at the gym almost everyday. We're both gym rats w/ the same insane schedule. I'm a bit of an introvert so I pretty much keep to myself. He never made eye contact with me save the handful of conversations we've had so I always assumed he wasn't interested. Meanwhile I reconnected with an old friend (M38)from HS and we started dating and have fallen in love and talking about a future together. Gym Crush approaches me and asked me out. I'm shocked and flattered and tell him so but I'm involved with someone. I can't get Gym Crush off my mind even though I feel happy with old friend. Is this a red flag for my current relationship?", "summary": "in a relationship have feelings for someone else. Red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_13kmco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] have a low sex drive. How do I break it to my new gf [26]? Should I? Anyone here have experience with this?", "post": "I met this girl about 1 month ago on Halloween and have seen her frequently since then and I know she wants to have sex. The problem is that I am not very driven to do so. She is a wonderful person who has a fantastic personality and she is attractive. I am 25 [M] and have had female sex partners before where this wasn't a problem. I am in good health and at a loss as to why I'm experiencing this issue.  How do I or should I even talk to her about this? Will this be hurtful to her? Anyone here have experience with this or some advice?", "summary": "Low labido, how to communicate this."}
{"id": "t3_37pm48", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not even sure if this is the right place for this... but I think I might be confused about my sexuality? [24F]", "post": "I was raised Catholic, and even though I'm not religious anymore, I definitely still deal with the Catholic guilt. I also think I have body dysmorphic disorder, as I feel extremely self-conscious about my body (even though my ex assured me that I have nothing to be ashamed of, that I'm very sexy, etc.)\n\nOk so here's the part I'm confused about: guys that I think are pretty cute and interesting to talk to, whenever it gets to the point where I should probably kiss them or make some other kind of physical move, I shut down and do nothing. In that moment I find myself doubting whether or not I am actually attracted to them or something? It's like the anxiety of taking it to the next level overrides all the other emotions. \n\nAlso it's this weird thing where I've never really learned to \"flirt\" and I think that a lot of my interactions with guys tend to skew towards friendliness rather than... flirting or whatever? So then that's like an added layer of awkwardness where there's this platonic exchange going on but we're supposed to suddenly get \"sexy\" or whatever. \n\nI didn't have a huge sex drive with my ex. He pretty much wanted it every day, whereas I was closer to once every week or two. At the beginning of our relationship I wanted it more often. We had pretty great sex overall, at least when I was sincerely in the mood. \n\nDoes any of this seem to indicate that I'm not heterosexual?", "summary": "I find myself having sort of platonic relationships with men even when I find them attractive. Hard to initiate the sexual stuff, not sure if it's insecurity/Catholic guilt or cuz I'm not straight. "}
{"id": "t3_2cpu6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] with my Mom: 32F. She decided she doesn't want to be a mom anymore. Sending me to live with my aunt.", "post": "My mom told me that she wishes she never had kids. I am 16. She has pretty much decided she cannot stand to be a mom anymore and has asked my aunt to let me attend high school where she lives. My aunt cannot have kids, so she was willing to take me. \n\nThis means I have to move 200 miles away, to a good school but not the one I grew up with. I am a junior in high school this year and it will mean I have to do all my work over again (making friends with people, getting to know teachers). Not only that, I have been in Drama for the past two years and I was supposed to be a Drama Director this year. \n\nMy mom is ruining my life with this. I feel like I will not be able to do all the things I worked for and thus put on my college report. I will be the nobody, like they will let me be class treasurer if they don't know me. I have a job here, with good hours and an understanding boss. \n\nI am not sure what to do. I have tried talking to my mom, but my dad divorced her and I have not spoken or seen him in 9 years, so she says I need to let her live her life. She signed up to go back to school, quit her job and is on student loans. She sold the car I was supposed to use to get to work and has been giving me boxes. I am supposed to move in a week, right before school starts at my aunts. \n\nI need help.", "summary": "My mom decided to send me to live with my childless aunt. It is going to ruin my chances for college."}
{"id": "t3_2l65me", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need to get back on track.", "post": "I'm a sophomore in college and feel as though I'm losing control of my life. Academically I'm doing fine but could certainly put more effort into one or two of my classes. Socially, I am completely confused as to what to do with myself. I'm in a top fraternity at my school, which means that there's always a party to go to, and there are always people drinking or smoking in the house. At this point, I'm not sure if i fit in at all with the kids in my fraternity. I'm not always interested in talking about how much I drank and how many girls I hooked up with in a night, but I'm feeling like I kind of signed up to do that when I joined the fraternity. To make matters worse, I'm not extremely outgoing, so some of my good friends have stopped talking to me at parties and other social events. I also haven't hooked up with a girl since homecoming, which makes me less interesting for some reason. Basically, I'm open to any advice that might help me enjoy my social life, approach girls, and re-ignite some of my previous friendships.", "summary": "Social life plummitting in hierarchical fraternity... quarter-life crisis."}
{"id": "t3_3eti5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (M20) worried about reprisal from soon to be ex-girlfriend (F19)", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nI have recently made my mind to break up with my current girlfriend who's attitude has become extremely clingy, controlling, and obsessive. In my mind she a bit of a nut. However, I'm worried about breaking up:\n\n1) We read about some girl who lyingly accused her ex-bf of raping her. While I thought it was absolutely terrible, she justified the accuser's actions against the ex-boyfriend. Saying the boyfriend deserved it for leading on his girlfriend. I'm afraid she may do the same. \n\n2) Her father is overprotective and equally crazy with a history of law trouble. I'm afraid of represil by him. \n\nAny tips? Advice? Thoughts?", "summary": "Worried about crazy gf."}
{"id": "t3_tdkx0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most bizarre thing a person has done to you?", "post": "About three years ago, me and my friend were having a barbecue at my house. All of a sudden we hear a lawn mower start, we rush to my front lawn and see a boy no older than 8 years old struggling to push this lawn mower twice his size over our front lawn. (I was genuinely afraid the boy was going to stumble and fall under the mower.) I look over and see his dad with his arms crossed just watching him. My friend looks at me bewildered and assumed I knew these people, which I didn't. After the boy finished mowing my lawn, the dad approached me and asked me for ten bucks for his son's service. Keep in mind, I never asked him to do this nor have I ever met this man or his son before in my life. Still bewildered I responded, \"I..no, I never asked you to mow my lawn for me. Why would you have your son mow a stranger's lawn?\" The dad was pissed off now and said \"Don't be heartless, my kid did all this hard work for you and you won't even give him 10 bucks.\" I honestly couldn't believe how ridiculous this had all become, \"Don't mow my lawn again without me asking and then charging people for it!\" I said. He retorted \"You're rude, let's go son.\" and walked away. I wish I could record my friend's face because he had the most confused look on his face, this was honestly the most bizarre thing that had ever happened to us.", "summary": "Random stranger had his son mow my lawn without me asking him too. Demanded 10 bucks for it."}
{"id": "t3_2bjn7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M 18 )decided to give girlfriend of 10 months (F 17) second chance after admitting to having feelings for another guy over text", "post": "so I've been dating this girl for ten months now, we have a lot of fun together and try to avoid drama. The only hiccups we have had in the relationship is that her mother is not too fond of me.\n\nOver the past two months we hit a pit of a rough patch, we began arguing a lot (mostly based on her mothers disinterest in me and how i should become more mature) but we have moved past that and have been doing good for the past month until yesterday when i found texts to another dude on her phone\n\nwe were hanging out and she left the room, i picked up her phone to play a game and noticed she left her messages open to this guy, i scroll up to find a message from her saying \"Listen, i know i've been in a relationship for ten months now but idk, talking to you brings up some old feelings <3\"\n\nshe caught me reading and quickly deleted the messages and begged me not to break up with her. she also tried to cover it up saying she was drunk, but i know full well that she wasn't. this really crushed my trust for her\nafter her persistence i agreed to give her a second chance, but i feel like that was a bad move and i just should have walked away, i really don't want to get fucked over in a month down the line.", "summary": "girlfriend was texting another guy saying she had feelings for him, she tried to cover it up with lies. against my better judgement i agreed to give her a second chance to regain my trust, but i feel that was a bad move and that i should of just broke up with her instead of risking more heartbreak in the future."}
{"id": "t3_16ow74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M18] Should I get married at 19?", "post": "I asked this question on ask reddit, but it didn't go well. \n\nIn my religion you can't have a relationship before marriage (like dating etc.) I don't want to go into a debate about my religion. \n\nI am engaged to a girl. We both like each other, I'm not really asking this question as to whether I *should*  marry her or not. I *am* going to marry her, but I just want an opinion as to whether getting married at 19 would be a wise choice. She is also the same age as me.\n\nI live in America, but my culture at home isn't typical American culture (white people culture? lol) as my parents were born in a different country. In our culture getting married young is very normal. My own parents were married when they were 18 and have had a successful relationship. \n\nI'm in a university and plan on becoming a medical doctor, so waiting until I finish school to get married would be quite a while. My dad said that if I ever wanted to get married young I wouldn't have to worry about anything financially, he would pay for all my bills etc. while I'm in school (my family is pretty well to do).", "summary": "No dating in my religion, engaged to a girl, currently in school, dad has agreed to pay for my schooling and financial needs if I get married in school, not sure if it would be a good idea to marry her while I'm 19"}
{"id": "t3_2q6jx6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] husband [26M] is lying to me constantly", "post": "We've been married for almost 7 months. Even while we were dating, his family has been a constant source of drama and conflict. We even went to couples counseling before we got married and the advice we were given was that we needed to establish boundaries between his family and our relationship.\n\nLately he has been lying to me about things related to his family. When they all try to make plans about things, he never tells me what's going on and I only hear the final plan once it has been decided (and then I'm the bitch because I can never attend because no one has asked me what my schedule is like). He even lied to me about his student loans, which I only discovered because I made him pull a credit report and the numbers did not match the information he had given me. And then I saw in his texts that he told his mother 'I'm telling her X, if she asks you for some reason, back me up.' \n\nLast night things came to a head, when his mother sent out an email scheduling an event saying \"after many back and forth emails.\" I had not been included on any of these back and forth emails, and my husband swore he was also excluded from the conversation. I picked up his phone, went through his texts, and found the text his mom sen him in the hours before her email, saying \"I'm sending you a separate email to discuss scheduling.\" He STILL denies lying to me, saying that what I saw wasn't what I thought, and he shouldn't have to defend himself to me. AND he's mad that I betrayed his trust and looked at his phone.\n\nWhat am I supposed to do... I feel so lost.", "summary": "There is no trust left in my marriage. My husband keeps lying to me, even when he's caught red handed. At a loss for what I'm supposed to do now."}
{"id": "t3_3cnm21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(28M) think my friend(27F) is in an abusive relationship - Not sure what to do", "post": "A friend of mine from high school texted me tonight saying that she thought she was \"haunted\" and that she was seeing figures in the night that would \"charge her\" and \"keep her (and her child) awake at night.\" She went on to say that she woke up everyday with a new bruise. I thought she was being a bit dramatic as I have known her to be sometimes. But then, she texted me a picture where it was clear that she had several bruises on her body. I think she was trying to ask for help in a way. \n\nThis isn't the first time I've suspected she was in a bad situation, just the first time that I am \"potentially\" seeing evidence. I haven't actually seen her in about four years although we live in the same city. We text occasionally but we don't have consistent communication. \n\nI know she is in a complicated relationship/marriage (I'm honestly not sure of their actual status). She has mentioned to me times where she felt threatened to the point where she would hide from him. There are other details that I can't go into that, in hindsight, are huge red flags. So I'm pretty sure that the abuse is real and ongoing. \n\nNow that I am confronted with what seems like evidence, I feel highly compelled to do something. Especially knowing that a child is involved. No, I'm not going to march over to her place and try to rescue her or anything that dramatic without knowing more of the situation. I'm really thinking what can I do to support her as a friend and point her in the direction of getting out. \n\nI don't know that involving any domestic abuse groups right now would be the right move, especially without me having talked to her about it first. I don't know how such organizations operate when it comes to anonymity. I highly doubt it be an effective move unless she was 100% committed to getting out of the relationship (which I only suspect she does, I don't know how emotionally complicated it truly is).\n\nI've dealt with some hardcore drama in my life but nothing quite as intense as this. Just need a bit of advice.", "summary": "I highly suspect that my friend is in a violently abusive relationship with the father of her child. Not sure how to help her while keeping her and myself safe."}
{"id": "t3_flxh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship Redditors: Where is the line between romantic gesture and creepy stalking?", "post": "Yesterday I Learned that I'm a creepy stalker: \n\nGetting away from my specific Forever Aloneness for a moment, I'm left wondering: where is the line between a romantic gesture and creepy stalking? I clearly lost track of it somewhere.\n\nHere's a for-instance: lets say you break up with your S.O. and a few months later you decide you want them back. I see two groups:\n\n- People who are just lonely and want to get back with anyone, and the ex starts looking better and better\n\n- People who took a look at their actions, made some corrections, and want to try to patch things up\n\nSay for the sake of argument that we're talking about the latter case, what can you do to reach out that's romantic but not creepy?", "summary": "I messed up and got all creeptastic, but I suspect there's a better way, help me find it."}
{"id": "t3_3s568u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend 19f and myself 19m have been dating for over a year now and still fight all the time, I am not sure what to do. (tough situation)", "post": "My girlfriend 19f and myself 19m have been dating for about a year and a half now. To try and make a long story short, her parents got divorced right after we met and got together so I am her only \"go to/family\" because her relationship with them has been destroyed and the parents treat her horribly now. We are both in college and do not have similar attitudes and most of our hobbies are very different. She does not get along with others very well but I can make friends with a bug. I am the dominant one in the relationship and she has been the dominant one in her past relationships so this causes problems between both of us as I'm sure you can imagine. For months now we have been fighting more than ever and it all seems to come from me not spending the amount of time she wants me to spend with her, but even when I do this we (mostly me) are only happy for a few weeks and then this process repeats. Another thing I would like to mention is that I am very focused on my future and career and I spend most of my time working, studying, taking care of any leadership positions I have, and working out. Those are my passions and I feel like it would be selfish of me not to take advantage of all the opportunities I have been given.  This relationship is very unhealthy for the both of us and I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions or advice? Please help all suggestions are welcome.", "summary": "me 19m and gf 19f have a relationship I feel is unhealthy and I am her only \"rock\". I am not happy with where we are."}
{"id": "t3_1eftdu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who knows of successful ways of earning an income from a computer at home?", "post": "let me give some background info, I go to school full time, and work 30hrs a week. My girlfriend is pregnant, and doesn't work, and can't work most jobs, not because she is pregnant, but because she has a shoulder instability problem. Basically, if she lifts anything over 5 lbs, her shoulder could fall out of socket. And it takes her most of the day to get it back in herself. So until we get that problem solved, she doesn't want to risk having that happen in a work environment. what she does do though, is a whole lot of nothing, at home, on the computer lol. We're getting by on what I make, but if she was able to contribute anything, it would help tremendously. We talked, and if she could so something from the computer, she is willing to try it. I know there are things like surveys, and get-rich-quick schemes, but is there anything that actually works?", "summary": "is there anyway to earn an income, or just extra cash, on a computer, or over the internet?"}
{"id": "t3_387n83", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wasting money and Mexican food.", "post": "This happened a few hours back during my closing shifts at work. It was just another typical day at work; greet customers and make them burritos and what not. Things were going fine until I received an order that was for pickup. This is where things went to shit... I went up to the machine and pressed the button to print out the order but nothing came out. I even tried to reprint the order, and even checked to see if the machine was out of paper. I had to call the delivery service about the issue and they ended up having to send the order to my email through my phone. I open up my email to view the order and it looks something like this:\n\n* 1 X 5. Burrito \n* 1 X 20. quesadillas \n* 1 X 25. salad \n\nI misread the order thinking that the numbers on the right where how many things of each item I had to make, but was actually its order number on the menu. So my co worker and I are scrambling to make 10 burritos, 5 burrito bowls, 20 quesadillas, and 25 salads. We managed to make everything up until the salads when the person arrives to pick up her order. Keep in mind we nearly ran out of everything trying to make this order and dealing with other customers as well.  \n\nAs I start packing the stuff, the lady freaks out and tells me that there was no way she ordered all this. After some confusion, I realize that the lady actually ordered only just nine items instead of the 20 something quesadillas and burritos. The lady pays and leaves, and now my co worker and I are left with a huge mess and over 20 quesadillas and burritos just lying on the counter! I just said fuck it, and I bought everything myself. The total came out to over $350 and I just threw it all out in the trash and gave the rest to my co worker if they wanted some.", "summary": "Misread an order and wasted $350 worth of Mexican food."}
{"id": "t3_no67h", "subreddit": "running", "title": "3 miles in 23:46; I want to get around 21 or less, but I seem to have hit a wall. Advice? (OR; unsure if this is the proper place to ask for advice and terrified of ridicule from reddit).", "post": "So, having lurked reddit for a while and been an \"active\" member since August, I am a little frightened to ask for advice here. Partially because I am uncertain if this is the correct place to ask for running advice. But mostly because I know how redditors are and I am a little insecure about my running.\n\nBUT. Time to man up. Here it goes:\n\nI've been a casual runner for some time. But I have never really taken working out or running all that seriously. However, I have been increasing the amount of times I run weekly and .... damn. It feels pretty good. \n\nI'm now interested in running a pretty fast 3 mile. I think I might try to work my way up to a half marathon some day. But for now I want to start with these little goals. I timed myself on a 3 mile today and ran a 23:46. That is fairly average for me, I usually float around 24, give or take 10 seconds. I feel like that is pretty slow compared to you more athletic types. I'd like to run at a 20-21minute 3 mile pace. So. /r/running. What can I do to improve my run time?\n\nI've heard that sprints help and I plan to implement 800yd sprints into my regimen. But other than that, I have no idea what to do.\n\n....help?", "summary": "read the title."}
{"id": "t3_3l18wz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What does it mean when a guy winks at you ?", "post": "We just recently started talking and we take the same form of transport so we met up this morning, and he was so like tense. He's usually so incredibly jokey and sarcastic with everyone else, but with me he's anything but. He's never sarcastic and he hardly makes jokes. Anyway I was writing an exam today and as I was getting off the train, he says to me \"Good luck with your exam\", I turn to look at hin and he winks at me and smiles. What does that mean ? \n\nJust btw I'm 17, so a guy winking at me is a super big deal alright !", "summary": "Guy I just started liking/talking winked at me, what does it mean"}
{"id": "t3_1mfaeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] worry that we don't have the fire we're supposed to [28M] even after a year", "post": "We love each other very much - he's my best friend and the one person I look forward to growing old with, even though we've been dating just less than a year. We are cuddly and talk about everything. Just being near him relaxes me and warms me. We have so much fun together and he makes me feel brave.\n\nBut we sit opposite each other when we eat out or have drinks, not side by side and gazing lovingly at each other. \n\nWe have sex once or twice a week, and it's usually once we're already naked in bed. \n\nWe've never once argued, maybe he treats me with kid gloves.", "summary": "We never do anything \"romantic\" or \"passionate\" and we never argue, ever. Aren't we supposed to? What's wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2x0qfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my BF [29 M] 2 years, just found out I have herpes.", "post": "I'll try to make this as short as possible... I've been seeing someone for 2 years now. Before I met him, I was dating someone who I knew had it but I had been tested multiple times while with him (for herpes) and was clean every time. The guy I'm seeing now broke up with me for a few months, and I stupidly hooked up with my ex one final time. My now bf and I got back together and we have been together for over a year since my ex and I hooked up. \n\nI suddenly had my first out break and let my current bf know right away and told him everything. I honest to God had no idea I had it, and now my world is tearing apart. Not only am I having to deal with this whole new thing that will effect me for the rest of my life because of my stupid choices, but the thought that I could have possibly given it to him, (he hasn't been tested yet and doesn't have insurance) I feel like complete shit. \n\nI just feel like I need someone to talk to, and am I terrible person for hoping he wont break up with me regardless of what happens? I have never been so crazy about someone in my life and I can't imagine not having him in my life, but I hate myself for what I have done. Please help.", "summary": "just found out I have herpes don't know if current SO does yet/Advice??"}
{"id": "t3_2bxp9q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think my friend wants to go on a date.", "post": "we've always had a flirty friendship but to me she has always felt out of my league. although the last 6 months she has started seeing guys who remind me and some of our mutual friends of me. we've gotten a lot closer in the past few months and closer still now we are both home from university for the summer. the other day she text me asking to hang out, but i was already hanging out with a mutual friend so the three of us ended up going out but i could sense that wasnt what she wanted as she was quiet the whole time. we were sat on a bench type seat outside watching the sunset and she came in close and put her head on my shoulder at one point. she has asked to hang out 'just us two' now and we are going down the beach in a few days time. im unsure what her intentions are, i do have feelings for her so may be seeing things that aren't there, as she has always told me about guys shes gone on dates with and i helped her through a difficult breakup 3 years ago which she still talks about sometimes to me now. when out drinking last weekend her best friend out of the blue asked me if i liked her to which i gave a very vague answer that could have been interpreted as yes and since then she has been asking to hang out alone, even though her friend did swear she wouldn't say anything. is this a date or is this to friends just hanging out? i've planned on highlighting how close we've gotten lately in conversation and gage where we are off her response, is that a good idea or am i pushing something that isn't there. ive spoken to two non mutual friends and the boy said go for it the girl said tread lightly. any help would be appriiacted", "summary": "a long time friend has started getting close to me and has asked to hang out alone. are we friends or is this some pre curser to a date."}
{"id": "t3_32d2sc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] of 5 months, and the very strange interaction with a credit card.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short.  Met a guy online just before Thanksgiving and we seem to have been hitting it off. We became official about a month in and it's moving slowly, which is fine with me. I saw him this Friday after work for a short date as I was volunteering that night but we both thought it would be nice if I stopped by for dinner.  We ordered pizza and went to pick it up in his car.  He paid for it. \n\nHere's the strange part. He took his credit card out of his wallet in front of the clerk. The clerk scanned his credit card and instead of passing it back to him, handed it to me. My initial plan was to take the card and give it directly back to him. I didn't think this was a big deal as the clerk made a mistake, but to him this was a HUGE issue.  He snatched the card from the clerk.  Normally he's very soft spoken and his reaction seemed a little weird/ over the top, so I said jokingly, \"I can't hold your credit card?\" \n\nI got a curt, \"No, don't touch my card. You can't have it,\" as a response, said quite loudly (I had never heard him raise his voice before) and then he was very quiet and upset until about 15 minutes before I had to leave.  The clerk even apologized about giving the card to the wrong person.\n\nI'm 30, I have a good job, I have minimal debt. I wasn't going to take/steal his card. I can't come up with a response as to why holding his card would freak him out so much. He is frugal, but I always thought it was rational (using coupons etc even though he's making 150K a year) but this seemed super over the top. I'm planning on talking with him about this on Tuesday but I want to make sure I'm not over-reacting.", "summary": "Boyfriend had an over the top reaction when the clerk accidentally handed me his credit card.  Not sure how to interpret it."}
{"id": "t3_1maegc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[28M] with my Wife [27] duration, married for 6 Months, having terrible arguments.", "post": "Where do I start? I'll just try and be concise. In July I took a Job that seemed almost too good to be true. It seemed like a great opportunity that ended almost as quickly as it began. \n\nThe day I got fired my wifes car broke down on the way from work. A week later we found out she was pregnant. Since then I have spent the last 2 months unemployed and looking for work and driving her to and from work (since we haven't had the money to get her car fixed).\n\nShe has been miserable and practically bedridden and prone to terrible mood swings. I am trying to remain practical in financial matters and I feel like she is just incredibly unrealistic regarding things like moving into a new home and buying another car. This ends up leading to just hateful fights.\n\nWe went to chuck e cheese with the kids the other day and by the end of it I was wondering if my marriage was over. \n\nI understand she is going through a lot and she is stressed and not feeling well, But It is if she feels the need to constantly attack and engage me about everything that has gone wrong in our life. All I am trying to do is get us back on our feet and some days if feels insurmountable.\n\nI like venting but honestly I would love some advice.", "summary": "Expecting child with wife and I don't know if my marriage will make it that far."}
{"id": "t3_21yizn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] end an engagement with a 21F. Details in text.", "post": "We have been together for 5 years. Engaged for 3 months. Wedding is in 2 months. She is abusive. Everyone except her mom agrees. I don't feel appreciated. I don't need judgement on who is wrong. Bottom line - I'm not happy. I found myself wanting to die last night after an argument. I sacrificed my studies and career, and I want to take my successful life back. She has no motivation and is not supportive. I feel like a selfish scumbag for wanting to end it (especially now) but the relationship is not healthy. It may be worse for her in the short term, because I am supporting her financially, but I can't keep doing it. I can't keep working and failing classes for nothing. How do I go about doing this in the classiest way possible. I don't want to hurt anyone, I just want to be happy. All advice appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "How do I end an engagement close to the wedding with as much respect as possible?*"}
{"id": "t3_1ypnbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (16m) trying to date girl (16) i have very strong feelings for.", "post": "alright so i started texting her a couple months ago when i didn't have any classes with her because i thought she was interesting girl. We turn out to have a lot in common and we think about a lot of things the same way.\n\n skip to i guess 3 weeks ago when the new school semester started and i found myself in 3 of her classes,for the past 3 weeks i have been talking to her everyday and it seems like she was enjoying my company, i then overheard a conversation she was having one day where she was talking about how she wants a boyfriend who likes all the same music as her and is intelligent and somewhat attractive. when i heard her say that i hoped she might have been talking about me because i think i fit all those requirements. i do listen to her favourite music which she said she had never met anybody who did.\n\n now skip to a couple days ago when i asked her if she wanted to come hang out at a friends house where we were drinking and stuff. she then says to me out of the blue\"You know I'm only interested in you as friend right??\" \n\ni wasn't even asking her out at that point, i dont even know why she said that but i started crying right after she said that, if i fit her picture of what she wants a boyfriend to be why can't i be it? what is wrong with me? she has said it herself that she is not very picky about boyfriends.", "summary": "i fit into what girl wants as a boyfriend, she says she is only interested in being friends."}
{"id": "t3_t5qps", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Burned the carpet! I desperately need your help Reddit!", "post": "So heres the story. My mom and I live in an apartment, and I will be going off to college in a few short months. My mom plans to move in with her fiancee once I leave for college, so we will be leaving the apartment shortly. Now, as it approaches our problem-free move-out, tragedy struck. I was smoking a hookah in my room and the charcoal fell off and onto the carpet. I tried to clean it up as best as I could and as fast as I could, but the carpet did get burned in two spots pretty close together. My concern is that now we will have to pay to apartment complex to fix the carpet, and we don't know how much that will be. Mom has already made it clear that it will be me who comes up with the money for this, but before all the shit finishes hitting the fan, I could use your help in two ways, Reddit.\n\n1) Do you think, based on the size of the burns, they will charge us to re-carpet the entire room? Or will they only charge us for the patch that is damaged that they can replace? And how much do you think each would cost?\n\n2) Is there anything I should do before they come to check out the damage (we havent told them it happened yet, just did last night) that might help it look better or not damaged at all?\n\nI appreciate any help, I'm sorry if its really long but I wanted to make sure I covered the details. Please help me out, brothers and sisters!", "summary": "accidentally burned my apartment's carpet and need to get it fixed. how much will it cost/what could I do to make it cost less/fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_379061", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F22] have developed a big crush on one of my managers [M27]. Is this asking for trouble?", "post": "I work in the service industry as a cash girl/server/bartender. I've been in all three positions for a year now and really enjoy my job. It's great while I'm a student, the hours are flexible and my coworkers are great. Especially Noah.\n\nNoah is intelligent, funny, sweet, handsome.. the list goes on and on. He's basically perfect. He's the head chef. He tends to work day shifts and spends the first few hours of his shifts doing his office work. I do our bookkeeping stuff five or so days a week, so he and I spend a lot of time together in the office. We spend a lot of the morning chatting and joking around. A few weeks ago we started a tickle war.. We're both incredibly ticklish, so we sneak up on each other and poke eachother's sides. \n\nWe've hung out outside of work a few times during staff parties. Last time was at a coworkers birthday. Noah and I spent the whole time sitting at a table in the corner chatting. There's definite chemistry and I'm 99.9% positive that he likes me back.\n\nThe trouble is that he's in a management position. He isn't my manager, but he's still in a higher position at my work. I was talking to my GM about dating coworkers and was told that dating coworkers was fine as long as it doesn't interfere with work. My GM is dating one of my coworkers who is a server there, so I don't think Noah and I dating would go against any company policy..\n\nBUT I'm still hesistant. I've seen dating in the workplace go horribly. I've avoided it for that reason. I just can't help but think about what I'm missing out on if I don't pursue this. I also don't know how make a move.. I'm used to having the other person make the first move.", "summary": "I have a crush on a manager at work and am pretty certain he likes me back. Should I go for it? How do I make a move? Do girls even make the first move?"}
{"id": "t3_1o5f1v", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm not going to tell him it was me", "post": "Hey Reddit, so a while ago a friend of mine went through a shit period. Lost his dad and was going through rough times. I made him a little bottle filled with glitter, labeled it \"magic\" and wrote him a note saying \"we all need a little magic sometimes\". He's a magician and I figured he could use some anonymous support, he got it yesterday and sent a thank you out on facebook. I don't care that other people are starting to claim it was them, I won't tell him I sent it, I'm just glad he got it. I think he needed the boost. I know this isn't a confession or a sad truth like most posts here, but I'm not good at staying quiet, so I had to get this off my chest", "summary": "sent magic to a magician"}
{"id": "t3_2zs32e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my date [25 M] have a unique obstacle. How do I make this work?", "post": "Alright, so I'll make this kind of short. \n\nI live about 50/50 between two cities 100miles apart. I have college in one and my family (with some personal business I need to be there for) in the other. I've been on break and back with my family for the duration of the break. I didn't expect to meet anyone in the short time I was down here, but behold, I'm on a date with a guy I find really cool. \n\nProblem is that I'm moving back in the next couple of days. We both had a good time and he has mentioned that he wants to stay in touch while I'm down there. He said if things would work out, he'd visit me every now and then when I'm down there. \n\nNow, I'm really interested in pursuing something with this guy. What can I do to try to make something happen while I'm in the other city? This may seem like a dumb question, but I'm willing to put a lot of effort into trying to make something blossom out of this. I've never been good at dating and I figure other people would have some input I never considered.", "summary": "I meet guy in a city I spend about 50% of my time in. We hit it off. He wants to stay in contact. How do I try to make something blossom out of this when I'm in a city 100 miles away for a month or so?"}
{"id": "t3_3pxhym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] broke up with my [21F] girlfriend of 4 years 4 months ago. Feeling I need to please someone or engage in a relationship to be happy", "post": "Let me explain, the breakup isn't the main issue. Yes we loved each other, yes we were almost family, but eventually we grew apart. I've been depressed for 3 months, but already started to slowly come out.\n\nWhat bothers me now is the feel that I'm wasting my time not being in a relationship. Everything seems less interesting, less fun. I'm constantly searching for new girls to attach myself, but I realize I'm not ready at all to engage again in something lasting, yet I desire love, companionship and intimacy.\n\nI should probably say that I have some issues with women, realted to my childhood with my obsessive-controlling mother. Always trying hard to win her approval and affection, by having good grades and behaviour, has (i belive) fucked me up in some deep ways.\n\nHave you ever felt this way after a relationship? Needing to please somebody, or have always someone 'have your back', someone to check in with, share everything. I feel I have so much love to give, but it just accumulates inside me (in my heart, not my balls).", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of 4 years."}
{"id": "t3_13ngxz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I over-reacting? what should I do?", "post": "BACKGROUND: me and my sister are artists. we draw and paint on paper/ canvases.\n\nStory: basically, we got some artwork framed at a frame shop that our mom found/knew about. well a few weeks later my sister needed one of the paintings to be without a frame for a contest. we took off the frame and lo and behold, around two inches was cut off the bottom of the canvas board\n\nthe painting did look shorter when it had a frame on it, but we didn't think much of it. it appears to me like the lady at the frame shop just had an extra frame lying around and decided it was a close enough fit and cut the bottom off the canvas board. instead of making a fitted frame for the painting, she used a pre-made one, most likely to save money or because she was lazy\n\nit is on this type of canvas\n\n \n\nAm I over reacting or does this rustle anyone else's jimmies? should I ask the woman why she would do this? I know that the painting is simply wood pulp board with colored chemicals on it, but my sister worked hard on it. I don't want to say that a painting is an artist's child, because that sounds so corny, but if you put a lot of time and effort into something, you wouldn't want a cheap woman cutting off the bottom two inches! we don't want any restitution, or anything, I'm just wondering wtf was she thinking?>_< \n\nAlso I need to get some more pieces framed, and my mom wants to use this place again, but she doesn't know about the cut canvas yet. should i tell the lady not to cut off the bottom this time? should take my business elsewhere? are there any frameshop workers out there on reddit that can provide insight?\n\nsorry if this is sprawled, I'm tired as fudge.", "summary": "cheap woman cuts off canvas and frames it. should i forget it and take my business else where? or am I being overly sentimental? "}
{"id": "t3_328k6p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Sexting on Snapchat", "post": "Like most, this is a throwaway account and this FU didn't happen today.\n\n(Also to eliminate any confusion, I am a gay guy sexting another gay guy.)\n\nTwo weeks ago, my friend introduced me to a good friend of hers, who is also gay. We first texted on Monday, and texted pretty much non-stop until Friday. \nOn Friday night, I was turning up the heat and began to flirt heavily (thanks to my friend Mary Jane). I started off sending him a shirtless picture of me... and you know how that goes.\n\nSo have sent about 6-8 pictures back and forth over snapchat, and we are texting during it making comments about each other.  Well, it's my turn and I take a pretty nice picture and send it, then return to texting him. About 5 minutes pass and he still hasn't sent me a picture back. \n\nSo I open snapchat to see if I simply missed the notification, only to realize it shows that I am the one who hasn't replied. So I take a new picture and caption \"oops, i thought I responded\".\nAlthough, I am thinking back to taking the original and why it didn't send, and then I remember that I do have a habit of accidentally pressing the \"add to story\" button rather than sending it to a person. \n\nSo I go to my story, only to be mortified that I did in fact post my spam javelin on my snapchat story for all to see. \nBut wait there's more! Not only did I post it for all to see, but 7 people did in fact see it! I was far too mortified to see who did, and quite frankly more focused on deleting it before more eyes were burned within their sockets.\n\nSo take this as a lesson to all who sext on snapchat, be very weary of the \"post to story\" button!", "summary": "Accidentally posted my yogurt slinger on my snapchat story for 5 minutes and 7 people saw it."}
{"id": "t3_3p3u3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28M] like this girl[25F~] from my office but its complicated.", "post": "So I like this girl, she's cute, good looking and innocent. She knows I like her and we exchange countless glances every day.(She sits facing me few desks away).\n\nNow I am not sure if I should approach her or even if I do I keep wondering 'what next'? She may accept me or reject me. If she rejects, it would be pretty straightforward and I'm used to it coz all the girls I asked in like last 5 years were either already in a relationship or were not interested to be in a relationship( rejected 5-6 times since my teenage finally someone said yes two years before...more about it later)\n\nNow if we do end up in a relationship that's where the things I imagine would get scary. \n\nWe both are from different backgrounds,  culturally ( and economically. I'm guessing she is on the richer side of the spectrum). I am really a commitment type. I believe the ultimate goal of any relationship should be marriage. If we're together and eventually marry, everyday would be nothing less than a date in hell. I live in a joint family and giving up my parents for love /wife is not an option. It seems impossible task. She would never get along with my folks. Previous relationship I was in had the same issue. It wasn't serious relationship from the beginning. I was curious, she was lonely after her break up. It just happened. We broke up about a year ago.\n\nNow I am really confused. I don't wanna end up someday regretting that I did not try.  Because she's worth it. Add to that she keeps herself very isolated. She has only one female friend with whom she gets along very well. I pinged her once but she wont respond. She's infallible but keeps stealing a glance at me like for every 5-10 minutes when she's not busy. We both do. But it's not going anywhere. It's even more difficult since we meet only in office. If approaching her backfires, my professional life would be at stake. Please advise.", "summary": "I like this girl very much but nothing's happening or may never happen."}
{"id": "t3_2m5qra", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/f] My boyfriend and I are both aspiring artists but I'm having a hard time respecting his (31/m) art", "post": "Maybe this would be better suited for an art-specific subreddit, because I'm afraid this will come off as pretentious or something, but I thought I'd start here to see if anyone has any advice. \n\nMy boyfriend and I both work professionally in the photography industry (separately) but we both also have our personal creative side of photography that is separate from our jobs (like fine art - stuff you'd find in a gallery). When we first met and I found his website, it kind of turned me off because I didn't really like his work. But I got to know him and we've been together for almost 2 years. \n\nSince I've known him better I kind of \"get\" his art a little better, but I still kind of cringe when I see it or he does something new. I try, as a fellow artist in the same medium (but completely different style) to give constructive criticism when it's appropriate, but mostly I am just supportive and positive enough without being emphatic. Really I think that 95% of his work just plain sucks. \n\nIt's not like he's parading around thinking he's great though, he rarely seems inspired or puts a lot of effort into anything. I try to inspire or motivate him, and encourage the things that would make his body of work more consistent and just...better...but he still just sucks.\n\nIt's kind of dragging on me because I feel like I put a lot of effort into trying to \"help\" him (he does ask for my help and doesn't get defensive when I critique, so it's not like I'm just constantly giving unsolicited disapproval) but I can't tell an artist how to do their own art. I just think he has so much wasted potential and I'm tired of being supportive and positive when he creates work that I secretly hate. Where can I go from here?", "summary": "I think my boyfriend's art sucks. I've tried to gently help him improve but I think he just sucks, and I feel bad!"}
{"id": "t3_4a2p6f", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Friend thinks I stole his stuff, advice appreciated", "post": "Little backstory. I was chilling at my friends house one night and my friend does his fair share of shady shit. So I was just there on his couch he went to take a dump. I was on my laptop the whole time zoned out to whatever was happening. \n\nHe came back 10-15 minutes later, and  went to look under his bed for where he usually hides his shady stuff. It was gone. He was looking for about 10 minutes while I was still on my computer zoned out. He then asked me, chat, did you take my shady stuff. I denied it and said I was on my laptop the whole time. I then proceeded to help him look for it. After about 30 minutes of no success he began constantly asking me to \"be honest\" and kept asking me to give it back. I let him search my pockets and laptop bag to show that I didn't have it. He kept insisting that I hid it somewhere and that I would take it afterwards and so on and so forth. After trying to convince him I didn't have it he just gave up, saying things like \"I thought you were cool bro wtf is this\". He said I could just leave and \"use his shady stuff in my house\".\n\nFast forward to when I got home, he then said he was missing his flashlight-tazer and said I took it too (It was probably misplaced while we were searching for his shady stuff). \n\nWe kept messaging eachother with him asking me why I took it and constantly saying how sentimental it was to him. \n\nThis was his theory:\n\n\"what if when i was in the bathroom you took the stuff and you ran outside and hid it in the bushes or what ever then when you came back you pretended like nothing happened and at the end when you left after i left to go to my room you went back and picked up the stuff\" (He's not native in English)\n\nI kept insisting he just misplaced it and that it would probably reappear after a while.", "summary": "Friend lost his stuff, blames me for stealing it"}
{"id": "t3_2ci2ma", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Should I change hotel accommodations this late in the game?", "post": "Hi Weddit!  I am running into problems with the hotel I have blocked for my guests.  I booked this particular hotel because it is really close to the wedding venue and very reasonably priced.  They also have a great restaurant attached where we wanted guests to gather the next morning for brunch.  However, that's where we are now running into problems.  \n\nWe were told that we would be able to reserve a space in the restaurant where all our guests could sit together, but still order brunch on their own accord.  But now we are being told that we have to order a breakfast buffet in one of their conference rooms for this to happen.  The restaurant cannot guarantee that our guests can sit together for brunch the next morning otherwise.  We are out of money for the wedding, so doing a big buffet for our guests is out of the question.  I don't know what to do.  Most of our guests are coming from out of town and brunch will be a time to gather and say our goodbyes before people head back home.  I'm contemplating looking for another hotel that either offers a continental breakfast or can make accommodations for us to sit together for brunch.  Is it too late for this? Our wedding is on the smaller side, coming up in October, and some guests have already made reservations at our current hotel.", "summary": "Hotel can't accommodate us for brunch as we were told. Thinking about looking for another hotel. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1z40n2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV and NSV] I am feeling fantastic about myself!", "post": "This summer I decided I wanted to lose weight, and ended up losing about 15 lbs. My stats: 5ft 1/2 in (the 1/2 inch is important people) tall female, 20 years old. I started the summer at 150.4 and got down to 131.6 in August. \n\nHowever, college started back up and I went back up to about 141. But this semester has been different and I'm now down to 128.8 lbs, which is officially in the normal BMI for me! \n\nI've been mostly eating paleo, but following the 80/20 philosophy where I have some non-paleo treats. And by treats I mean I usually drink on the weekends, as tends to come with being in college. In theory I try to track calories for the drinks, but that goes out the window some nights. I run 4 times a week and take a spinning class twice a week for my exercise. I've found the balance works for me!\n\nFor all my non-scale victories, I've had a string of compliments from my guy friends. I've found that people feel awkward mentioning weight loss, but if I bring it up I've gotten an enthusiastic \"You look AWESOME!\" I've even had a couple people mention how much weight I've lost and how I look good. Some of my size 6 pants are a little big now, and my bra size has gone down significantly (that's a little hard to get used to, but hey, I can deal. I guess I only had big boobs because I was chubby...). \n\nThe best NSV for me had to be when I guy I didn't know saw me, pointed at me and said, \"Hey, you are cute! You know that, right?\" And while this was at a party and he may have been a little more confident that usual, that has never happened to me. It made my night.", "summary": "Lost weight, gained some back, lost more, got called cute, and I'm a happy girl."}
{"id": "t3_bmy1q", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Procrastination fail.", "post": "I just failed the MPRE, a legal professional responsibility exam that is necessary to be admitted to the bar and to practice as an attorney. I have a chance to take the test again before seeking admission to the bar so it isn't the end of the world. However, I am crushed and scared and very angry at myself and so I thought I'd vent here where nobody cares and wrap myself up in rejection and failure and feel good and sorry for myself until, like a high fever, this misery breaks and I get back to being a mature adult and taking care of my shit like a fucking grown up. \n\nI know why I failed. It isn't because the test is skewed or because life is unfair or because I was just too busy to study. I failed because I blew off studying. Instead of just doing the difficult thing and hitting the books when I didn't want to or when it was inconvenient, I avoided it, dodged it and made excuses. And so I failed. \n\nWhat does that mean? It means that even after three years of law school, I'm still a slacking procrastinator. That's the more crucial test that I failed here; I failed at work ethic. My friend comforted me by telling me that I'm intelligent. That was nice to hear but the issue here is not that I'm not smart, it's that I'm lazy and the skill that I've failed at here isn't learning information, it's doing the shit that I don't want to do in time to assure that I'm not just another Captain McFailypants. \n\nWhich I am. I am Captain McFailypants. Now the real question is, how do I find in myself the discipline I have thusfar lacked to take this failure and instead of using it as another excuse to slack off (why bother doing anything, I'm a fucking failure,) take it as the lesson it is and use it to change. Aw, who am I kidding, right? Once a fucking failure, always a fucking failure.", "summary": "I am full of fail."}
{"id": "t3_2qihrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [20 F] tell my friend [20 M] that he needs to let go of his \"ex\"?", "post": "I have known this friend for almost a year now and we meet up often because we decided to become gym buddies. Every time we talk, whether it is in person or online, he talks about his ex-girlfriend in one way or another. If there's any kind of link between our convo and his ex \u2014 he brings her up. It's always \"my ex used to.. \" \"my ex told me.. \" from him. It's honestly have gotten so bad to the point that I want to roll my eyes whenever he brings her up. She is his first girlfriend and they broke up 2 years ago. Here's the kicker; they have never even met in person. She lives in Asia, he lives in the U.S. I tell him that the past is the past and he needs to let her go (he insists that he has, it's just that our conversation is relevant about her and he does think of her from time to time). Yet, he still talks about her ALL THE TIME. How should I tell him nicely that I am frankly tired of his anecdotes about his ex girlfriend and that he should stop? \n\nSorry for my bad English.", "summary": "Friend keeps bringing up his ex long distance girlfriend (his first girlfriend) from Asia whenever he gets the chance; I am tired and annoyed. How do I tell him to stop in the nicest way possible?"}
{"id": "t3_yd07f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am m[23] she is f[20]. Found out she lied and maybe cheating on me. Please help.", "post": "Hey this is my first time posting here so please bare with me if I am doing this incorrectly.\n\nI will keep this as short as I can.\n\nWell I've been with my girlfriend for over 4 years now. I am a student at a D1 school (very high overall rank). There have always been ups and downs in the relationship (she has fucked up a lot and has apologized repeatedly).\n\nWell anyways she always tells me shes going studying at a friends house and at starbucks or the library or volunteering etc. Well we were hanging out and she wanted to check her facebook on my phone.\n\nShe left my place and I went to the gym. I come back and am taking a dump and bring my phone with me and go on facebook, only to find out she is still signed into facebook on my phone. So I see all these photos that I've never seen. She blocked me from themmm...they are fucking party photos with her literally getting dry humped by other guys.....\n\nAlot of the photos were mobile uploads from friends and the times listed on them were pretty much all the times she would say she went \"Studying\" or went to a friends place etc.\n\nI put so much trust into her only to get this in return. I have been faithful since day fucking one.\n\nShe isn't home yet, but I have a feeling that I will be spending the night(most likely more) in jail.\n\nHelp me please. I don't know what do I do. I cant fucking control it. I haven't ever felt these kinds of emotions all piling on to me at once. For all I know she could be doing much more.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4 years left her Facebook open on my phone and I found photos of her partying and she lied to me on several occasions."}
{"id": "t3_2ymgcw", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Do I sense bitterness, my dear Tolstoy?", "post": "Just began book 9 of War and Peace.  Tolstoy is giving a bit of a sidenote of the amount of tensions going on. Not only across the continent, but amongst the armies as well.  Russian men murdering, burglaring from, and harming their fellow Russians and whatnot. He says,\n\n\"Consequently, it would only have been necessary for Metternich, Rumy\u00e1nstev, or Talleyard, between a levee and an evening party, to have taken proper pains and written a more adroit note, or for Napoleon to have written to Alexander: \"My respected Brother, I consent to restore the duchy to the Duke of Oldenburg\" - and there would have been no war.\" (p.668, Simon & Schuster, 1942; if you're curious).\n\nI just love the level of sassiness in Tolstoy as he pretty much says \"If these assholes had any level of seriousness with their power, MILLIONS of lives could have been spared.\"", "summary": "halfway through War and Peace, dying for some one to talk to about it haha"}
{"id": "t3_12mnkf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[36/m] My boyfriend (31/m) wants to have an open relationship.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for 3 years. We've been completely monogamous, and it's been the best three years of my life. We recently moved from the west coast to the east coast. He is the only person in NYC that I know. \n\nIn the past year the initial spark has waned somewhat, and we've lost a bit of the passion from our early days. He recently said he wanted to have an open relationship. Specifically there's a guy he works with that he's attracted to. They haven't done anything, but there's mutual attraction. \n\nI don't want an open relationship, but I don't want to stand in the way of what he wants. I'm afraid that if I don't go along with it, he'd either resent me, or sneak around behind my back. But I'm afraid that if I do go along with it, I'll lose him to someone else, or I won't be able to deal with his being with someone else. \n\nHe loves me. He's affectionate. We still laugh and have a great time together. I love him. But I don't know what to do. We obviously want different things. Can we make this relationship work, or is it a lost cause?", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to have an open relationship and I don't. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3m5gso", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my teacher I had HIV", "post": "Obligatory this did not happen today, but back when I was in the third grade. \n\nI had a note from my step-mom saying I had to leave school early to go to the doctor to get my Hepatitis B shot. All I had to do was hand my teacher the note, that's it, job over. Not for this eight year old! I hand the note over and proudly declare, \"Yeah, so I gotta leave early cuz I'm getting my HIV shot today\". Her mouth dropped, in what I was sure was awe over my bravery--but what I now know to be my *absolute fucking stupidity*. Calls were made home that day.", "summary": "There's a difference between Hep B and HIV, unless you're 8"}
{"id": "t3_26mn67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] broke up 2 weeks ago with my [27 M] bf of 5 years, he now says he'll change all his opinions on life for me", "post": "Ok broke up with my live in boyfriend of 5 years a couple of week ago. To summarise we were both on different life paths, from different parts of the country and both wanting to end up close to our families, plus he expressed no desire to do anything serious like get a house, marriage, children in the near future (he said he may want these in the next 10 years). I'm 26 next month and basically had a quarter life crisis, wondered what the hell I'm doing here with this guy who is really telling me I'm not worth commiting to seriously but he's happy to mull along as we are now. I need to add that I moved accross the country to try living with him last year, and so it feels like all the compromises thus far have come from me.\n\nSo I got to that stage where I couldn't carry on, I mean our relationship is 'not too bad' but I felt i needed better. I told him it was over, felt a huge relief, told myself to never let myself be so stupid in my next relationship, but by the next day he had changed his mind and wanted the exact same things as me. All the things we'd clashed on for the last 5 years were gone. \n\nI feel in my heart I can't trust that he's not just saying this to keep me. I'm worried something will come up again in a year's time that will see me in the same situation again. He says the shock of me leaving him has made him realise what he wants. It's been difficult for me to decide to break up because appart from the 'life goals' we get on well and I'm scared of missing him or making the wrong decision. But at the same time a life goal with your partner is pretty important...\n\nHas anyone been in this situation?", "summary": "I broke up with my live in boyfriend (5 yr relationship, been living together 1 year) because of recurring arguments about our future plans/life goals. The day after the break up I felt better but he said he's completelly changed all his plans and wants to do exactly the same as me. I don't want to make the wrong decision and regretting either getting back with him or leaving him behind ."}
{"id": "t3_tqop2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the pros/cons/potential pitfalls of adopting a data-only VoIP smartphone plan?", "post": "The long story short is that I want to upgrade my phone but in the long run it will cost me hundreds (perhaps thousands) of dollars to do so because I would have to give up the unlimited data plan I have right now. The desire to save money has fueled my research to find a different solution, and recently I stumbled on this article: \n\nThis article speaks to me in a lot of ways--I already have Google Voice as my primary phone number, I was hoping to upgrade to a Galaxy Nexus, and  adopting a 5GB data plan with no voice/text element would potentially save me about $15-25/mo. That said, buying a phone off contract is a much larger one-time expense compared to upgrading ($400 versus $150 with a new contract). But a new contract will end up costing me about $20 more per month for less functionality than my current contract.", "summary": "I'm very tempted to drop Verizon entirely and adopt an AT&T data plan and use VoIP to place & receive calls. Good idea? Bad idea? I don't want to jump into this without thinking it through completely."}
{"id": "t3_3496eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34 M] am not happy with my marriage of 6 years, but care for my wife [35 F].", "post": "We have a good marriage - supportive of each other, very little arguing, etc., but I feel so unfulfilled. My wife is sweet and helpful, but also very boring. She is a shallow thinker, not vain, but doesn't process things at a deep level, which really hinders our conversations. She is a huge introvert and homebody, so we rarely do anything besides Netflix - usually separately, as our entertainment tastes differ quite a bit. It's like our differences have just become exaggerated over the years to the point where I'm experiencing an overwhelming sense of loneliness (my profession makes it hard to have friends). \n\nShe also relies on me for common information that an adult should know. It often feels like I'm in a parent/child relationship, not a husband/wife relationship. This leads to me getting frustrated easily with her when I'm usually a very patient person. I find myself talking to her in tones that I never thought I would use with my wife. \n\nThe extra wrinkle is that she has health issues that are only getting worse with time. They are eventually going to make me her caregiver in the next 10 years or so. It scares me that I'll soon have nothing but her mind to connect with and we don't really connect well there. \n\nWe've been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years, but I think her health issues are getting in the way. In spite of this, we are heading to a dead bedroom situation. I find her very physically attractive, but I think all of this is just messing with me too much mentally. \n\nI just don't know what to do. I can't make her smarter. I can't make her healthy/more active. I can't make her interests change. And she can't do any of those things either. I don't want to leave her, but I can't imagine spending the rest of my life like this.", "summary": "I feel like I've made a huge mistake with who I married. We are drifting apart in so many ways. But I don't know what can be done to fix things."}
{"id": "t3_13qbdx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need help interpreting mixed signals. Am I just the backup plan?", "post": "My ex (M29) recently told me (F25) he misses me and wants me back. Having never fully gotten over him, I was excited to go out with him again. We went to dinner and had a good time, and he asked if I wanted to go out again. We made plans to get together two different times the following week, and he cancelled on me both times. Normally I would take this as rejection, but we still talk every couple days (conversations almost always initiated by him), and nearly every time he flirts, compliments me, and mentions wanting to see me, but no specific plans have been made. We're both on a dating website and have casually been dating other people, but after being blown off twice I'm starting to wonder if he's just keeping me around as his backup plan. \n\nSo should I take the initiative and ask him out again or wait for him to make a move? Or is it time to finally forget this guy and move on?", "summary": "Ex wants me back but is sending mixed signals. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ehq4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What would be the best move for myself [M/18] to make with this girl [F/18] I have feelings for?", "post": "I met this girl over a year ago and I've kind of had a thing for her although I never actively pursued as at the time I felt that that all she wanted was a platonic relationship. I was also looking to pursue another girl at the time. Fast forward to fairly recently, where we hung out and there were some flirty vibes. We hung out a few more times and the most recent time I brought her to meet some of my friends. A few days later she told me that she found one of them interesting and wanted to talk to him more. Although, I made it clear that this certain friend is known for being a player and that it probably would not be the greatest idea to mess with him. \n\nAm I better off just keeping my feelings to myself and keep it as is?", "summary": "I have some feelings for this girl I've know for a little while but I don't exactly know if it's best to keep it as is or say something."}
{"id": "t3_2wp359", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I can't get approved for a credit card. How do I build credit?", "post": "A little backstory: I'm 27. When I was in my early twenties, I opened a card with a $1,000 limit. Maxed it out and didn't pay it for a few years. I also had a checking account go to collections for being negative too long. Also, stopped attending school and didn't pay my loans for a few years. \n\nWithin the last two years, I've paid off everything on my credit report in full, with the exception of my student loans. I've made every loan payment on time for the last two years, (automatic payments) and have about $7,000 left. I bought a car and have made more than the minimum payment and have never been late. \n\nBut I still have a low credit score and am wondering how to fix it. I applied for a credit card with Discover and got denied. It says due to outstanding non-payment. I'm worried that there's something on my credit report that I missed, but I don't want to pay another $60 to check all three scores. \n\nIs this just a waiting game, or is there something I can do to build credit in the meantime? TIA", "summary": "Messed up my credit, now back on track but still can't get a credit card... How do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_1uq6z2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 11 months [15F] and I [16M] love each other more than anything, but are finding ourselves increasingly unhappy as of late. Any suggestions to keep what we have?", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since early February 2013. Everything had been so perfect with her through about November, I would say. After that, though, things have taken a downward turn. \n\nWe've both been increasingly irritable, and generally unhappy. We constantly apologize for silly things, and blame ourselves for anything that goes wrong between us. We just aren't happy, and don't have fun together, and I just want the happiness we used to have back in our relationship. I proposed it may be the depressing weather, stress from my job, or stress from work, but those just may be me making excuses to cover up a larger problem. I don't know what to do, really.\n\nI'm happy to give any details on the matter, so long as they're not exceedingly personal. Thanks, Reddit.", "summary": "My girlfriend of 11 months and I have been increasingly unhappy as of late, and I'm looking for any positive help/suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_2xryfb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by talking shit about my best friend", "post": "Today while i was at work I was venting some frustration to a coworker about another coworker who is my best friend (and love of my life). She was also working but in a completely different area, so me and my buddy were talking and i ended up venting about our personal life to him. Let fate have it, she walks in and hears part of our conversation.\nShe just confronted me about it and explained how much it hurt her to hear me talking badly about her, and I feel so badly about it. But on the other hand, its not like i could vent to her about it, and i definitely just needed someone elses opinion.", "summary": "Best friend walks into a conversation at the wrong time and hears me venting about her. I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_izn9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Affair in the friend group; what to do?", "post": "I recently learned that a long-time friend has been having an affair with the wife of a mutual friend. At this point it is out in the open and everyone knows about it. Reactions in our group of friends have ranged from extreme anger to seeming nonchalance to pretending it didn't happen. \n\nI will soon be seeing the offending parties for the first time in person since this all got out, along with some of our other friends. How should I act? \n\nPersonally, I think this is about the worst thing you can do to a friend, and the offending parties haven't convinced me they are sorry for what they did, more like sorry they got caught. I don't think I want to continue a friendship with these two, but short of everyone else in the group coming to the same decision (which seems unlikely), I'm probably going to be seeing them again on a pretty regular basis. \n\nThoughts? I'm not a violent person, and there's no chance of a massive brawl happening. I've told the cheaters that I have no real interest in seeing them, but I didn't want to not hang out with other friends just because they'll be around. Ignoring them seems kind of childish?\n\nThe worst bit is that they are both just making a lot of dumb jokes all the time over email and on the phone, presumably because they feel awkward. This makes me livid, as though they're trying to forget what they did. \n\nAny advice greatfully appreciated.", "summary": "friend had an affair with other friend's wife. Seeing them for the first time soon. How to act?"}
{"id": "t3_175ac4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I got offered a job at a strip club today (without asking for one) due to my weight loss.", "post": "I'm male, 21, single parent and accountant. \n\nAn acquaintance I first met about a year ago were hanging out with some of our mutual friends a few nights ago. When I first met him, I was pushing 210lbs. I've always had a large frame (sports in high school, genetics) but have always been able to maintain about 160lb with about 10% body fat until my son was conceived. \n\n\"Sympathy weight\" turned in to just \"getting fat\" and I got fucking tired of it. I'm now back to my High School weight; 160lbs, 11% fat index. \n\nThe only things I did were:\n\n* Portion control.\n\n* Rode my motorcycle ~2 hours every day in full gear, in the Texan summer (work commute). \n\nThat's about it. I've never been more flattered, but I turned him down. I already have a good career I'm building. I really wanted to tell someone about this, and I figured you guys (and gals) would appreciate this story. I suppose I could post a couple pics, but only if they're requested.", "summary": "used to be fit, got fat, got fit again, got an offer to be naked in public which I turned down"}
{"id": "t3_bpi6y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit i just started indoor climbing and i have one question about belaying.", "post": "My teacher taught me how to belay, and i use that technique she told me, palms down two hands always on the rope brake side, but i see other people using other techniques and i was wondering if they were just as good because the way i currently do it i find it very awkward. I went to youtube to check out the other technique and the general consensus after watching multiple belay movies, is that no one knows how to properly belay, someone always has a problem with the technique saying its unsafe in the youtube comments. Any experienced rock climbers want share the technique you use, also other tips you wish someone told you when you first started would be appreciated.", "summary": "how do you belay, and why that technique?"}
{"id": "t3_3wyw5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We [18M&18F] seem to connect. What do you think", "post": "So, we met yesterday at the University Entrance Course. She had a lot pins on her schoolbag (anime, dota 2, disney chracters, etc) so i asked her did she got those. We found out that we had a teacher in common when we were in High School (we went to different high schools). Going on with the talk i found out that she cosplays and goes to anime conventions. Wow. She is the one i've been looking for.\n\nNow, im seeing her tomorrow and i was thinking of asking her  to the start wars premiere. I'm sure she has seem the other ones. \n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Met my type (geeky and nerdy). I'll ask her to come to the Star Wars premiere with me. What do you guys think?"}
{"id": "t3_4cozx5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Are there services out there for...", "post": "So I had a bit of a self destructive streak in my early days of credit and took on lots of debt, ignored lots of creditors and was just a shitty borrower.\n\nI want to fix that.  A while ago I came to this sub and asked where to start, I was told to look at my credit report and go from there.  \n\nI did that and I'm even more overwhelmed.  I make enough money per year (80k) that I feel comfortable paying a service to help me fix all my debt.\n\nDoes anyone know where to start on that?  Do consolidation services take in defaulted private student loans as well?", "summary": "I'm looking for a service to help me manage my debt and fix my credit as well"}
{"id": "t3_eoeav", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Self-learning", "post": "I'd like to learn a skill or something technical that I could use to get a job or make a living. For a number of reasons, I think at this time college isn't for me. I'm kind of stuck at the moment, unsure about where my life is headed, very afraid, depressed a lot of the time. I often get called intelligent, and was considered so at school - an 'all rounder' - but haven't tried to cultivate this at all. As a teenager, in hindsight due to depression, I wouldn't listen in most classes, didn't foster an interest in many of the subjects. My mind has been switched off for a long time; these days I try to distract myself with reading about nothing on the internet. Anything slightly difficult and my mind wanders. At the moment I feel low in confidence in a number of ways, including about my intelligence and capability.\n\nI would really like to change this though, and even better if I was able to improve my status in life as well. I think this would give me more motivation to learn, at least to get started.", "summary": "Suggestions on something I could learn by myself to make a living."}
{"id": "t3_37v94p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys I (m18) need some serious help", "post": "I'm graduating high school next week, and that's my two month anniversary with my girlfriend (16) I know that we're young but we're really serious about our relationship, the only thing is she's very depressed, like on medicine and stuff but recently the meds haven't been working very well at all she's going to the doctor soon to get them adjusted but until then is what to do, I have serious anxiety problems and abandonment issues, we used to hang out every day until this week, now she's getting angry with me a lot and she's canceling on me every time I try to hang out, I'm sure I'm over reacting but I don't know what to do, I mean I'm scared that because of my anxiety or her depression the relationship will become ruined, we are supposed to go to an aquarium Monday so her and I can have some time a lone with each other and just have a good time, then we're supposed to go on a double date with one of her friends (f16) who is dating one of my friends (m18) to six flags, I'm just scared that I'm always bugging her because of my anxiety and I tried to talk to her about it and she became angry with me and said that I don't need to worry about her leaving me because she loves me and she means it when she says it and the difference between her and all of my ex's is that she really wants me, I have huge trust issues too and I'm scared she would cheat on me because in reality she is honestly one of the prettiest girls at my school and I'm a loser who gets made fun of, she is very protective of me though, I told her how one of my ex's told me that she was embarrassed to be with me because I wasn't as attractive as previous guys she's been with and my girlfriend got very angry about that, I know I'm jumping all around and if there are any questions please feel free to dm me or comment I just need serious help guys", "summary": "I'm scared my anxiety and abandonment issues is going to end my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_31ec1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (45M) wants me (29F) to meet his kids today...and I don't speak their language all that well. How do I do this?", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend (45M) for a few months and everything is going amazing. I'm 29F , no children, and I moved to his country for work a bit more than a year ago. I speak the local language well enough to get things done but at work it's all in English so I'm lacking practice. With him we speak English 95% of the time. \n\nHe told his two kids (daughter - 8, son - 15) about us and they want to meet me. He has split custody with his ex-wife so he has them on alternate weeks. So we are all going for lunch today. I'm worried that language will be a big issue and also that it's way too soon, especially for his daughter. \n\nI know I should be nice but not over friendly to start, no badmouthing their mom of course or acting as a mom replacement. Also planning to avoid being too 'touchy' with their dad for now as this will probably make them feel weird. What else can I do to make this go well?", "summary": "basically the title. Boyfriend (45m) wants me (29f) to meet him and his kids (8f, 15m) for lunch today. How can I best manage this since I don't speak their language so well?"}
{"id": "t3_1p02md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] feel ignored by my girlfriend [22F] on our long distance relationship", "post": "First of all, sorry about using a throwaway account, I'm trying to ommit a few tings to maintain my privacy.\n\nSo, we had our ups and downs, but in the end we always loved each other very much and we always did many things together for the 7 months we lived together. Whenever we were apart from each other we texted each other and she didn't take long to answer, it felt great, we talked about anything. Then 2 months ago I had to go abroad for a scholarship which might last 1 year and ever since then it's been hard for me to deal with a few things, which is why I came here to ask for a few opinions to see if I'm making it out to be way worse than it actually is.\n\nSince I came abroad we've been trying to keep in touch using facebook and skype, but due to the 5 hour time difference sometimes it's hard to communicate at times. This has become increasingly difficult for me to handle when I see that she never starts a conversation with me or that she's commenting on pictures and liking facebook statuses while my message has been hanging there for 1 hour without any answer.\n\nI have to admit that on two occasions I went the passive aggressive route and just decided to tell her that I'm leaving, which immediately triggered a response from her.\n\nFor quite a few times I just felt like I should just deal with it and try not to argue, which turned into ignoring her for a while until I felt calm enough to respond politely or just tell her that I don't like the way she acts.\n\nIt's been 2 months and it hasn't changed, it's starting to make me feel exhausted and I don't know if I'll be able to deal with this for much longer. \n\nThere was this one time when I almost broke up with her, which ended up on a really long conversation on skype where she could barely talk to me because she was crying but I feel like it would've been easier for me if I just ended this because I can't understand what's going on or I can't accept this behaviour which feels unusual to me.\n\nIs it just a normal thing and I'm overreacting?", "summary": "Ever since we were forced to have a long-distance relationship I feel like my girlfriend has been ignoring me on purpose and I'm not good at dealing with that"}
{"id": "t3_2xkko7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom's boyfriend [M/48] wants me to move out as soon as I turn 18. My mom [F/41] is agreeing with him. What can I do? - Update", "post": "[link to original post](\n\nOn mobile. I apologize for any mistakes. Small update for those who want it.\n\nit's been a while since I've updated. I logged in this morning to see a few messages, mostly asking if I am okay and how are things going.\n\nTo make an incredibly long story short: I am currently sleeping on a friend's couch. Mom's boyfriend kicked me out, mom didn't say/do anything. She signed away her custody of my sister and sister is now living with my grandparents. As far as I know, her and her boyfriend and his kids are still living together. I have had minimal contact with her since her boyfriend kicked me out.\n\nThings have been...okay. My friend's parents are charing me $25 a day to stay here, but money is getting tight. It's hard to save up when my only income is mostly tips. Add what little bills I now have into the mix, I really don't have a lot.\n\nGoing to try and stay here with my friend until June so I can graduate high school, then move to VA to attend, but that isn't set in stone yet. Friends parents can kick me out any time, and that worries me. Now I'm just trying to find more/better ways to make money. \nA lot of you gave me great advice, and I really appreciate it. More than most of you will know.\n\nWill update again whenever things change. Sorry this isn't much, but it is an update for you all.", "summary": "Things got crappy. Then got better. Are getting crappier now. Money is tight. Really unsure of what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1zh881", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15/F] am not sure if I should leave my current school so I can be with my friends again. [15/F]", "post": "Alright, so.. I'm in my sophomore year at a private high school. I decided to go here after finishing middle school because my local public high school isn't all that great. But, all my old friends go to the local \npublic school, including my two best ones.\n\nFor the past 1 or 2 months I've started feeling really sad and for the past week it's gotten much worse because I just feel so alone. I feel like I don't fit in and that my real friends are at the other school. I mean, I do have friends here, but not that many and I just kinda feel like a fish out of water.\n\nThe thing is, my two best friends (let's call them A and B) have grown really close since I've left. I'm afraid that by transferring to the public school I'll feel just as excluded and that I'm trying to fix something that can't be. Lately I feel like I've been drifting apart from them and I really don't want to, but I don't know what to do to fix it. I don't want to seem annoying and pester them constantly to talk.\n\nI also don't want to disappoint my mom by leaving my current school (she's been working hard to pay the tuition and really likes it here) but I don't see how I can be happy by staying. I just don't know if I'm trying to hold on to the past and if I should just move on and try to stick to this school.\n\nAny advice is really appreciated since I don't really have anyone to talk to this about.", "summary": "Not sure if I should leave my current school to go to another one, which has all my old friends."}
{"id": "t3_18l8wi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] Partner leaving the country [23/m]", "post": "I've been spending time with this guy who is only here to study, and he doesn't know if he will be leaving the country or staying another year to continue his studies. I'm studying French, and he's French and studying computer science. We are not a couple, but lately we've been connecting on a more serious level, and I'm starting to develop feelings for him that weren't there 6 months ago. \n\nThe fact that he doesn't know if he is staying in the country or not makes me hesitate to pursue this romance further. I've lived in France before, and if our romance were to last in the long-term I'm not sure if I would be willing to live in France.\n\nAlso, the fact that we're in some sort of friendship-romance limbo is confusing and frustrating as well. Lately we've been spending a lot more time together, talking for hours on end and continuing to spend time together on a frequent basis. This is one of the most organic relationships I've had where our relationship is based on conversation. However, I'm afraid and I assume he's afraid to make a move. How do I make a move? Should I platonically but intentionally touch his hand, arm, etc.? Should I tell him flat out that I start to have feelings for him?", "summary": "Current flame is not sure whether he's staying in the country or not. Do I pursue the romance despite the unstable future? How do I let him know that I am starting to see him romantically and not as a friend anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_15jq5v", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Why do you want to be successful?", "post": "This may be a stupid question to many people. I, on the other hand, struggle with this on a regular basis. I've kind of 'glided' through part of my life. I have a good job, married, and own a home. I don't make a lot of money, but we don't have any problems paying bills.\n\nPart of me is content as I am. Most of the time I don't see the point in working hard to achieve big goals. I'm not over weight, but why give up delicious food in order to lose weight? Why invest countless hours into education and skill building to earn more money? Why build social skills in order to make new friends? And why should I go out of my comfort zone when I'm pretty comfy where I'm at.", "summary": "I don't have a bad life, but I'm not motivated to achieve anything. What motivates you?"}
{"id": "t3_juk00", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever fallen in love with someone but there was no way of making it work?", "post": "For me it started when i met her at work. She was pretty much the opposite of me in almost every way, yet i couldn't help but to be attracted to her. So a couple months go by and were hanging out with some friends and she makes a move on me, I wasn't sure if she was serious or joking at the time but a few weeks later we began dating. We dated for a couple months but due to my stupidity we broke up. We remained friends and everything but we were just in completely different parts of our lives. She was 10 years older than me btw. She recently moved yet i still cant help the fact that part of me still loves her.", "summary": "she was 10 years older, i was an idiot, i still love her."}
{"id": "t3_v6kt7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did you ever have a moment when you were getting dumped when you suddenly realized 'Waitaminute... I'm actually glad this is over'", "post": "I was dating a really interesting girl. She was way smart and great fun, we shared a love of classical music and intellectual pursuit in general. She was a law student and her father was the chairman of the history department at a famous university. \n\nShe started getting distant and found less and less time to spend with me. One afternoon I got a couple of phone messages from her. The first said we were all done. The next said if I wanted to get together and talk about it, we could do that.\n\nI was kind of interested, the same way I'm interested in an autopsy. We met at a coffee shop.\n\nIn the course of our discussion I asked her how she defined 'love'. \"Do you mean romantic love?\" she asked. \"No\" I said \"in general, how do you define 'love'\"\n\n\"Well, love is two people who are in love, acting in a loving fashion\"\n\n...\n\nShe used the word being defined not just once but *twice* in her definition. This from a second year law student. I almost laughed, but more importantly, I suddenly felt no more longing for this clown.", "summary": "Girl breaking up with me opens mouth, turd falls out."}
{"id": "t3_3di75b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU at the Optometrist.", "post": "Literally just happened. \n\nMy grandmother is in the other room getting her eyeballs checked out and needs me to drive her home cuz she's going to be dilated.\n\nI'm hanging out in the waiting room browsing reddit on my phone, when the lady comes out and asks for Jack Hoffman. \n\nI died. \n\nShe said it with such a silent 'H,' and I thought she was joking, and being an extremely immature 26 year old, my first reaction was to lmao. \n\nThat's when an old man with an unfortunate name stands up and death glares me hard. Everyone is looking at me. I don't know if it was embarrassment or what, but I could not stop laughing. Mr. Hoffman stared at me the whole way to the back. \n\nI had to leave and take a breath. I've just now returned to the waiting room to provide this picture of the crowd that does not appreciate my childish sense of humor.", "summary": "Today I accidentally laughed at a man with a name usually reserved for a Moe's Tavern prank call."}
{"id": "t3_28ebna", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I talk to my boyfriend about moving in together? [24F, 29M]", "post": "My boyfriend recently bought a new house and is moving all of his friends into it. However, even though I spend 99% of our time together at his place (he doesn't want to stay at my place), he has not invited me to move in. He is away for work for 15 days a month but for the 15 days he is home I stay at his apartment exclusively.\n\nI figure if he was ready he would have asked now that he has more space, so I want to respect the fact that he isn't there yet. However, I don't want to be together for years and years while living separately, especially since I am also paying a huge amount of rent to stay in an apartment for half the year.\n\nHow can I tell him that I would like us to think about moving in together in the relatively near future? We have been dating a year (plus a handful of months long-distance) and I would hope that there is a solid plan in place by the 1.5-2 year mark.", "summary": "Ready to move in together, boyfriend doesn't seem to be. He just bought a house and it seems like a good time to see if things are heading in that direction. How do I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_18z0ui", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Feeling lost about a recent breakup", "post": "Hello. Me, 23m, met a girl, 22f, a while ago in November ish on okc. We hit it off and eventually became  exclusive in mid January. When we first started dating officially, she randomly texted me asking that I would never let her go and other statements like that. I felt like we were on the same page emotionally; we both made each other happy and it sounded like she was emotionally invested in this, and as a result, I became so too. \n\nA week ish before valentine's day, she asked to have a talk, saying that we need to take a break since she needs time to be single for a bit. As part of the back story to this, she got out of a long term relationship in June or July ish, and she claimed that she feels like we rushed too fast in this relationship. I was confused and stunned in several ways since I asked her if she was sure, several times, if she wanted to be exclusive, to which she said that she was sure and that she wanted to make things work. \n\nIt's roughly 2-3 weeks later and I'm beating myself up thinking it's my fault. I activated my okc account again, only to find her in my matches, which I thought was strange since she deactivated it for a bit when she said she wanted to be single. I realize now I sound like a crazy ex, which I probably am at this point; I'm losing sleep and stressing out over this :-/ regardless, a huge violation of trust here, but I made a fake okc account and messaged her, and eventually made the topic about me. She said she wanted out because she felt I was too emotionally attached to her to early on. \n\nReddit, im confused :-/ I feel as though it's a bit unfair for her to say things such as asking me to never let her go, and promising her that, only to have her flip it around and say that I was rushing things emotionally. What should I do? Should I ask her to talk or just end things as it is?", "summary": "i, 23m had a brief relationship with 22f. I felt that were on the same page emotionally, but she wanted to take a break to be single. I find her on okc with a smurf account and find out that she felt I was too invested too fast. Should I forget it or try to patch things up?"}
{"id": "t3_1j5kjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] broke up with my [27/M] first boyfriend. Question about Love and Frienship.", "post": "I don't know where else to go to ask for advice or support. My friends don't seem to understand what I'm going through, they're not here for me and I just spend a lot of time pretending I'm ok. Three weeks ago, I had to break up with my first SO and our relationship lasted three years. I really don't want to tell details about him, but he has too many problems he refuses to deal with and I've just gradually lost trust in him so my decision is finale. \n\nBut what I can't get over is the fact that I can't spend time with him or talk to him anymore. I know the first rule is \"no contact\" at the beginning at least, but I just can't do that. I've spent the last three years of my life sharing the smallest things with another human being and now I'm on my own? Not only did I lose a love partner, but I also lost my best friend that day. How do I deal with that? How do I stop myself from wanting to know what he's doing and how he's doing? So far, I couldn't resist calling him or texting him for more than two days in a row. And he's sweet and nice, he always picks up the phone and tells me he loves me. But I know I'm not helping him or myself. If you went through similar experiences, how did you do?", "summary": "losing your best friend at the same time of your SO is the hardest part for me."}
{"id": "t3_3tu8lp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do not know what to do on this point. [18M&18F]", "post": "High school senior here.\nSo, i met this girl at an Intercollegiate event. We got on really well, we seem to have some kind of connection (we are gonna study the same but different universities)\n\nI couldn't ask her for her number as we weren't alone at any time. But i found her on FB and Instagram.\n\nThe thing is that one of her bestfriends (another girl) is also a close friend of mine. \n\nSo, i texted my friend, hinted that i liked her friend and she seemed to get the gist of it. Then, she suggested that the 3 of us could hang out someday if i wanted. \n\nShe probably already told her.\n\nSo, what do you suggest? Any ideas on what to do and when?", "summary": "Hinted my friend that i have a crush on her best friend. She got it and wants to help?"}
{"id": "t3_1a8wxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[f23] need some tips on how to deal with my SO [m23] and his single male mentality. We've been dating for 1.5yrs.", "post": "I have a couple things that I need some advice on how to address. He has some bad habits that aren't really bad habits... if you're single. We are living together and going to college. At LEAST 3 or 4 times a month we'll be at home doing our own separate things and he'll just get up and leave the house to hang out with our other roommate or his friends without saying a single word to me! I encourage him to have is own life apart from me but I think it is self centered and disrespectful to just leave the house and stay out all night without even saying \"hey I'm going to go meet up with friends, see you later.\" I'm not trying to stop him or control him in anyway, I just want to be kept in the loop. I've brought this up before and sometimes he apologizes and says he wont do it again but he does do it again and when I bring it up again he gets very defensive. \n\nI know I am being insecure about this but when we are out together with friends, he reminisces about \"the good days\" when he was 17 and in a band doing all sorts of drugs ALL the time, drunk most of the time and bringing home girls left, right and center. I understand that he is probably exaggerating some of the stories but it hurts to hear those stories being told like those were the best days of his life and it has been all downhill from there. In my girl brain I hear, \"I wish i was single and had no responsibilities, and being with you (me) isn't what I really want\" \nThese are the 2 most prominent things that happen. There are more scenarios that add to my issues. \n\nAny advice on how to deal with this?", "summary": "My bf still has a single male attitude and I'm not sure how to address the issues without sounding like a nagging girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_54m8b2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom (40F) is mean to my dad (60sM) ever since he got hurt at work and retired.", "post": "Ever since my dad got hurt at work last year he has decided to finally retire. My mom is now the main breadwinner and constantly nags at him about being at home, \"doing nothing all day.\"\n\nIt's true, my dad doesnt do as much as he used to, but I think he's enjoying the peace and quiet and downtime. He and my mom have always provided for the family, but it was because of my dad that we've been able to buy a house and make other big expenses. I feel like now that my mom is the main breadwinner, its stressing her out but also has given her a sense of entitlement. You know how moms can be...\n\nShe'll come home and ask my dad, \"what did you do today? let me guess, nothing!\" among other digs. Its like she asks him a serious question about his day but I know she has every intention of teasing him. its just so fucking rude. Now, my dad hasnt always been a good guy, but I think he still deserves a supportive household. How do I let my mom know she's being rude and unsupportive without inciting that classic mom rage?", "summary": "my mom is rude to my dad."}
{"id": "t3_1kit1o", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "He's [19M] just not that into me [19F]?", "post": "I met a really nice guy last semester and finally got up the nerve to ask him out just as he was leaving the country for a month; he said yes to a date when he returned and we talked almost every day while he was abroad. We got really close, so much so that neither of us really consider ourselves to be single any more even though we've yet to go out.\n\nHe got back home, to a city about an hour away from mine, a little over a week ago. We each had prearranged plans so I knew I wouldn't be able to see him until this weekend at the earliest. Knowing that he lives a distance away I assume that any trip up he makes isn't going to be spontaneous. I finally got up the nerve (or lost my patience waiting) to ask him if he would like to meet tomorrow. I'm thinking that if both parties are really eager to see each other (as he has seemed to be and I am) it would happen on the first available day. WRONG.\n\nHe said he might have some other obligations (picking someone up from the airport) but he'll try, I told him not to bother. I just feel like if he really wanted to see me wouldn't he have made arrangements in his schedule to do so?\n\nWas this just an internet-summer-fling and now he's not interested? Should I just stop talking to him or should I continue to try to see him?", "summary": "I've been in an internet romance with a boy from school and now he doesn't seem to want to meet up in real life. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_235u87", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] feel like I cannot form great relationships. Only child and just got treated for anxiety/inferiority complex.", "post": "I basically am playing the field now. I learned basic social skills and made some nice acquaintances at my university. I call them acquaintances because I commute and only see them for class. \n\nI wasn't raised in a very encouraging environment. My parent's marriage has shitty communication which had a negative influence on me. \n\nI try to talk to people now but I don't get close or even replied back too (text). Really, I am just a horny dude who wants a girl but I suck at forming relationships. I quit alcohol and marijuanna because I used to heavily abuse them as coping mechanisms. Sober in University is so much fun when ya whole school is ghetto and goes to whoever has the best shit party. \n\nSo any advice? I've read books like mark manson's models and also 48 rules of power. I was hoping someone knew a book that leads to creativity for talking with someone. I met a new girl [ 21, F]  and I don't really know her well since we met last Saturday but I want to get close. \n\nDo talking to people involve saying dumb shit over texts and making retarded jokes? I used to do that when I was on weed and girls always fucking loved it.", "summary": "Sober. Problem with getting personal for women. Don't know if I am awkward and should find books on this."}
{"id": "t3_2u0fac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my GF 27/F] 3 months, how to approach my girlfriend about a lack of open communication?", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for about 3 months and she's great but, she mentioned pretty early in the relationship that she doesn't like to talk about feelings. She wasn't joking.\n\nAt her Christmas party I was tucking her in before I left and I said to her, \"I'll miss you.\" Black stare in response. I leaned down closer to her and said, \"you're wonderful.\" Same blank stare. \n\nShe's pretty affectionate when we're together making out and holding hands but she doesn't like talking about \"US\" or how I make her feel. I'd like to text her stuff like, \"Hey I miss you\" or something flirty but I'm afraid of her non response. Its gotten to the point where I feel emasculated, and it also feels unfair I'm telling her how much she means to me and she isn't returning the favor.\n\nShe's mentioned to me that her previous boyfriends have basically \"Vanished\" at a certain point in the relationship, the longest relationship she has been in was 4 months. \n\nIs this something I can bring up casually? I really want to impress on her the fact that this is something really important and she does need to tell me how I make her feel. AND COMMUNICATE!", "summary": "How should I bring up the fact to my girlfriend that I'm dating Megalodon the unfeeling woman?"}
{"id": "t3_2xku2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my boyfriend [32M] Want to say \"I love you,\" but should I wait for him to say it?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for the last 4 1/2 months. Every moment we are together, I yearn to tell him \"I love you\". I have to really control myself from uttering those words even though every time our eyes meet or I look at him, I've told those words a million times in my head!\n\nI know how I feel about him and I am sure about my feelings for him. But somehow a part of me wants to wait for him to say it first! \n\nHere are two questions:\n1. Should I just say it even though I've read tons of articles saying the man should say it first!\n\n2. I do know how he feels about me even though he hasn't expressed it in words, but, what if I am not able to hold it any longer and say it to him, but he doesn't say it back or tells me he just doesn't feel the same way?\n\n3. What if he loves me too but he is waiting for me to say it first? And what if neither of us say it because we are waiting endlessly to hear it from each other? I so want to tell him, but I want to hear it from him first! This wait is killing me!\n\nHelppppppppppp!", "summary": "Should I tell him I love him or wait for him to say it?"}
{"id": "t3_3i9ehn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (32/m) Dating someone (23/f) nearly ten years younger for the last five months.", "post": "In the beginning, I thought dating a younger person would be refreshing.  I'm (32/m) a professional and meet my current gf (23/f) at work.  My prior gf (34/f) really stressed the ultimate goal of kids and marriage.  Unfortunately, she was uneducated ( turns out a really important thing for me) and messy.  Great heart though.  My current gf, doesn't have those stresses. She is living her life.  She doesn't like partying and drinking.  In fact, she is into comic books and nerd culture.  So she is super understanding about my gaming.  We bonded over these things. On top of that,she is educated and has a great deal of common sense.  My issue now ( it's been five months) is that her age becomes very apparent in social settings.  It's almost cringe inducing when she talks about animated films when I'm talking to a colleague about stocks or work.  \n\nI am very patient so I don't react to this. It's just in my mind that she is being judged this I'm being judged.  Should I ignore these insecurities? I do love her, but this is the main issue I have thus far.  Other than her laugh... But if interested we can talk about that as well.  Any advice?", "summary": "dating a someone much younger than me.  Social setting is very awkward due to my friends or colleagues not having the same excitement over \" childish\" topics get and I can talk about.   How much should this bother me?"}
{"id": "t3_30dm2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Self-sabatoging my[26F] relationship with my BF[30M], please help!!", "post": "Basically the title explains it all. I have been with my BF for 9 months now, and we were friends for 4 years before we started dating. Things when I'm not over-thinking everything are very good - we get along super well, spend almost every night together, great sex, etc. We have talked about our lives together, our future, and what that will look like. Our biggest issue has been that I am much more affectionate than he is, and I wasn't feeling needed and desired by him. He is very sweet to me, and I believe a huge part of the problem is simply me. I have fairly bad trust issues, based on things that have happened in my college years, and I trust BF more than any guy I have dated. I know he would never ever hurt me, and every time I've gotten upset and told him how I was feeling, he always tries to go a step further and make me happy. But I feel like I am self-sabatoging this, possibly because I DO trust him so much, and that scares me so much. After my past, I am not super comfortable having so much faith in another person. But he is never going to be a fan of tons of PDA or even wanting to cuddle up on me all the time when we're alone, so how do I stop myself from reading into this?", "summary": "BF less into affection than me, makes me think he's not as \"into me\" even when I know this isn't true. How to be ok with that?"}
{"id": "t3_22l1hi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my old crush from high school [21 F] just started hanging out again.", "post": "So I recently started spending time with some old high school friends, among them is a girl I used to have a huge crush on. Within a week all of my old feelings have come rushing back. There is where the question come in, I just got out of a three year relationship and have no idea how to pursue this. \n\nShe is super hard to read and we are either two very similar people or there is something between us. I guess what I'm asking is what the fuck should I do. I don't want to do anything to jeopardize our friendship but I can't stop thinking about her.\n\n I just want to tell someone but I don't have anyone to tell. It's driving me crazy but all I know is that thinking about her when I'm lying in bed at night is the best part of my day. Thanks guys.", "summary": "Started hanging out with my old crush, no idea how to tell her how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_1teqq9", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "[Serious] Is there a way to teach my dog how to use the bathroom toilet?", "post": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I've been training my dog to go outside to bathroom for some time now, but despite the constant training to poop on command she is not getting the que it may be time to poop especially when it is pouring rain outside. \n\nI've kept a rigid schedule she usually follows but she gets really choosey and prefers to take her time. So I end up saying \"poopy potty time\" half a million times looking like a crazy person to the passer by. I am at my wits end and decided if I cant get her to make quick on her Lincoln Logs outside when I want her to, maybe I can just get her to use a toilet and not have to worry about her schedule. Of course I would take her for walks and stuff for exercise but I just am tired of standing outside in the pouring rain waiting for her to produce a chocolate brownie. \n\nShe is a very smart dog and I have taught her other things like using her left or right paw to shake, but Potty training has been a nightmare. I have trained her for months now and there seems to be zero progress on freeing any chocolate hostages upon order. So if I can't realistically get her to toss her milk duds into the porcelain throne, maybe just some additional pointers on the pooping on command thing could really help ease the frustrations with production in her chocolate factory.", "summary": "Dog refuses launch her dark submarines upon order despite repeated training, requesting possible training for evac at the torpedo bay or additional instructions for helping speed my order up for dunkin' donuts."}
{"id": "t3_3ftn6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] just told my \u00fcber-Mormon MIL [59F] that my husband [27M] watches porn, and I'm freaking out.", "post": "Background: My husband and I have been together for 2 years. We left the Mormon church last year for personal reasons, and have been trying to convince our family it wasn't because we were \"sinning\" or \"bad people.\" Also, watching porn is the same thing as cheating on your spouse in Mormonism. They bar you from performing salvation-related rituals (e.g. taking the sacrament, going to the temple, etc.) if they know you're doing it. \n\nTonight we went to dinner with my MIL, and she went on a massive homophobic rant. (\"Gays need to stop pretending to be victims, I could be a victim too if I wanted to, blah blah blah.\") We got into a (polite) debate about it, and at one point she said, \"Man, this world is just going down the drain! First gays, then porn... How would you like to walk in your husband watching porn?\" And I, like an idiot, blurted out, \"I have! Sometimes we watch it together.\" \n\nI'm such a fucking moron, and my husband's being distant. He didn't want his parents to know, because now they're going to think he left the church because he's a sinner. I've already apologized, but he's pretty annoyed. What should I do?", "summary": "Told my MIL my husband looks at porn, now he's pissed. Help? "}
{"id": "t3_2m0qq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In love with two people and confused.", "post": "I (F25) have been with my SO (M25) for about a year. We've had some rough patches, but along with the bad, there's been good. I was completely head over heels in love with him UNTIL I ran into an old \"fling\" (M27). I thought I was over him, but seeing him brought every feeling back. We ended up exchanging numbers and texted for about 3 weeks. We ended up hanging out. We had sex and snuggled. I've never cheated before and I think it's so wrong. The other guy has no idea I even have a boyfriend. I feel so dirty. I love the both of them and don't know what to do.", "summary": "Cheated on current SO with an old fling. Now confused."}
{"id": "t3_zay9a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when have you gone full retard?", "post": "Not sure if this exists already but: 404 fucks not found.\n\nI'll start...\n\nToday a guy in a clearly expensive bike and nice sport clothes told me he was sponsoring extreme bike shit and asked me if I wanted to see. He goes down the street and does this awesome trick in his bike. Comes back and gives me this rattle about a balance point or something, and I didn't pay attention. \n\nHe tells me he does this by putting stuff in his mouth (lol) that weigh about 11 ounces. Guy asks me if I want to see and I'm all like \"Yeah sure\" but I have no idea of what he's talking about. Eventually  he pretends to look for something in his pockets and says \"Crap I forgot my phone. Could I borrow yours?\" Everything seems fine to my idiotic self. Guy grabs my phone and leaves. \n\nI'm so stupid I even kept waiting for him to do some trick until he does a right turn and disappears into the streets. \n\nMother. Fucking. Brilliant. Me", "summary": "Random dude asks if he can have my phone, I hand it to him."}
{"id": "t3_2tsgcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 7 years, he does something that is ruining our relationship", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years (pretty much since high school) and we've had a great relationship. We went to school together, so we met there, and it's been really great. We fought like a normal couple at first but then we were pretty happy with each other for very long. \n\nI guess you can say we've grown up together. We started college around the same time but I've been more serious about my college career than he has (which is cool because college really isn't for every one). He has more of an entrepreneurial spirit. \n\nAnyway, recently he's been getting REALLY entrepreneurial with things that might not be legal in our state. At first it was exciting... Then I realized how much time he spent away from me. I was also very scared for anything to happen.\n\nHe knows exactly how I feel. He stopped doing it... Then he started again... I got mad and sad and all types of emotions. We got into huge fights that led us to the brink of breakups. Then he stopped again. \n\nHe says he loves me. And I know he does. I mean 7 years with someone is no joke...\n\nSo now he tells me that he's glad I'm happy but he feels as if I stopped him from being himself. He said he was proud of what he did and he wants to start again.\n\nI love this guy. So.... I'm in a pickle.\n\nPLEASE: Don't judge the entrepreneurial spirit. I've heard it before and I'm here for relationship advice.", "summary": "My boyfriend of 7 years does something for a living (Not so legal entrepreneur) that makes me uncomfortable. He's stopped doing it for me before, but now he wants to do it again because he says he doesn't want me controlling his life decisions."}
{"id": "t3_3qgawa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it her [21F] anxiety, me [21M], or something else?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 19 months now and have started living together back in June. We ran into some money issues and are both in a bit of credit debt. We have started making adjustments so we can pull ourselves out (awesome!).\n\nHowever, last night I had to come down on her hard because she barely pays the rent each month. In doing so, it turned into me raising my voice at her and fighting. She would constantly tell me to go away and stop talking about the subject matter but I was persistent to make sure she understood that bills need to come first before everything else. Granted she only needs about $400 a month which is almost all of one paycheck but we are roommates and need to split everything, which we aren't.\n\nI understand she is happy to have money finally in her life but I just want her to understand that rent and bills need to come first before personal spending. \n\nMoving on, she always gets like this when I confront her about anything money related or regarding an issue in our relationship. At least, in person. When I talk to her over texting, she can talk no problem. She tells me she has anxiety and can't do simple tasks like a normal person. She hasn't been to the doctor's to actually be diagnosed but I hope she isn't using it as an excuse for why she doesn't understand these adult things. Maybe she doesn't want to grow up? Maybe she wants me to pay for everything and save her own dough (which I came down on her for again and she just wouldn't look at me and roll her eyes).\n\nIt's stressful for me and her because it's now affecting our relationship that was perfect when we moved in together. She said moving forward she will give me the money even though she's got her credit debt (which is nowhere near as high as mine).\n\nI feel like I am trying to do the best thing for us. Am I? Your thoughts?", "summary": "Does my girlfriend really have anxiety and is preventing her from cooperating with adulthood, or does she just not want to grow up?"}
{"id": "t3_1czj4q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Alright, I know I'm a bit young (M,15), and I know this may not be the subreddit for this. But I need help.", "post": "Alright, so for a while (basically till I was 14) I was a really weird, picked on, unpopular kid. I went to a new school, changed my hairstyle, started acting differently (just puberty I guess), got involved in sports, etc. Now people like me. Not overwhelmingly, but now I have to deal with women. they've never liked me before, and now some do. There's one in particular who's acting really... uhh... different, a lot more outgoing. I'm relatively sure she likes me, and I don't want to hurt her. so, how do I tell I girl I have no interest, without hurting her?", "summary": "how do I let down a girl nicely?"}
{"id": "t3_1dnmdy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What does it feel like to love yourself for who you are no matter what your orientation is?", "post": "So this is something I've been thinking about a lot, I wanna love myself and accept who I am and how I am. I am a bit overweight but I am playing a lot of basketball since its summer time and plan on doing some swimming too to lose some weight.\nBut there are other things like I am a bit hairy and I have a sort of hump on my back so all these physical things just make me a bit insecure. I feel like life would be so much happier/different if I accepted myself, how does it feel for those of you out there who have done this? thanks!", "summary": "A bit insecure about myself due to physical limitations, how can I turn this around and what does it feel like to love yourself for who you are?"}
{"id": "t3_54q7lk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with [26 F] Less than a month Before Things Fall Apart, Not Quite Sure What to Do", "post": "Good morning, first time Redditor here. I've been lurking around on Reddit for awhile, but never really felt a need to create an account until now. I've seen some advice threads here before...And I need some advice now, and I'm hoping someone here might be able to help me.\n\nI met a girl at the beginning of the month online, and we went on a date in person the next day while I was still in town. The date went extremely well, and we started to talk every day since then. She lives four and a half hours from me.\n\nLast weekend, she came down to see me for the first time since our date, and everything was amazing (from both our perspectives, she voiced that to me). I cooked for her, we went to a theme park, and we watched sports. We kissed, we were emotionally intimate, we slept while I held her, and we just connected. She told me over and over she liked me.\n\nYesterday night, she told me that she just wants to be friends. She stressed that I am perfect and amazing and she loves how I treat her and she is attracted to me. But she says she is in a bad place at the moment thanks to her abusive ex-boyfriend (she broke it off with him and she is done with him) and family issues, and that she should have set boundaries with me but she did not from the start. She said furthermore that it wouldn't be fair for me to date a girl who couldn't commit to me, and that everything that happened was when she was \"in the moment\".\n\nI told her we could be friends. But I'm not sure honestly how to go about that at this point, and my emotions are still wrapped up in all of this. And...I know it sounds stupid, but I can't forget how we just connected looking into each other's eyes when our noses touched and it just seems to run counter to everything she told me last night.\n\nWhat should I do? How do I go about it, exactly? I want to do the right thing here, but I'm not sure what it is and how to do it.", "summary": "Met a girl, her words don't line up with her actions, What do I do from here?"}
{"id": "t3_173mlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [33f] being too impatient with my SO [29m] when it comes to kids and any sort of progress in the relationship?", "post": "I am divorced, from a 12 year relationship with my ex.  My current SO and I have been dating for just over 2 years now, and I am anxiously awaiting progress in the relationship.  I know that the age difference might have something to do with it, but he doesnt seem like he's in any hurry to take our relationship to the next level, whether it be engagement or kids.  He knew going into the relationship that my goal was to find someone to be with for the rest of my life, for someone to father my children, to grow old with.  He knew too that I didnt want to wait forever and didnt want to be 'old' having my first child after 35. I know 35 isn't old to have a child, but it is old to ME.  \n\nI don't want to rush him, but any time I bring up anything to do with our future, he changes the subject almost instantly and laughs it off.  I know if I keep bringing it up I will pester him and that could potentially end our relationship.  Being divorced already, I don't quite know if I'm really up for marriage already, but I do have the baby bug and I want nothing more than to start a family with the one I love. The marriage aspect of it can wait.  But really, how long is too long to wait?  How many years of dating/living together do I give someone without there being any progress aside from moving in together?  If the relationship ended, then it's back to the dating pool, and who knows how long that would take.  I'm not getting any younger.", "summary": "I want a baby but the relationship with my SO isn't progressing to that point.  How long is too long to be waiting for progress?  Do I give up and move on, try to find someone on the same page as me? Or wait?"}
{"id": "t3_eicv7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have officially decided to enlist in the Air Force. What is the absolute need to know?", "post": "After careful consideration and research, I have made the decision to join the Air Force. I've never been one for formal education, and the idea of being taught instead of actually learning skills/ gaining experience is not a road that I enjoy (I'm better at English/History with above average Math/Science, but not actually *good* at it). I understand the hypocritical approach in going army, but right now I feel like a 16 year old with little direction in life. I have already started a real workout routine with real steel instead of cardio (gotta love the /fitness), and a low/no carb diet (lost 30 pounds on that before, but became a stick with cardio).\n   The plan is to study my ass off for the ASVB and get a great score for a job that requires Security Clearance so I can later get a civilian job that pays well. I have read through the related and submitted thread and realize that I should NOT believe a word recruiters say, nor sign a single line without reading through it at least 5 times and even then take it home. What ever job I get I also need to make sure to get it in writing.", "summary": "Decided to join Air Force after careful consideration. Age-16. Knows about the importance of getting an EPIC ASVB score, getting in shape, and not trusting recruiters/signing, and getting things in writing. Looking for some insight on this from service members, veterans, and Redditor wisdom."}
{"id": "t3_yor2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M20/F19] Unsure of feelings between an ex that I've been seeing recently.", "post": "I never usually do these type of things but recently things have been a bit odd.\n\nMe and gf broke up a few months ago. We were together for about 8 months. She was at college and everything was pretty good but things started to drift and we ended up breaking up. I didnt really want to and I'm not sure if she did but we did. We didn't really talk to months and I was pretty much over her. Then she came back home and we ended up talking, things lead to another and we ended up casually seeing each other.\n\nThings have been okay, not amazingly good but good. We mentioned briefly about what was going on, general idea just enjoying the time together. But she is leaving soon and I'm not sure where it's going. We also did mention that we knew nothing was going to happen again, but this was a while ago and I'm not sure if this is what she wants now.\n\nThings she has been saying recently have made me think otherwise, she always seems to say nice things like she used to when we were together which she didn't really do when we first started getting back together and then past few times the way she has looked and acted towards me when we were laying together and stuff has confused me.\n\nI'm not sure if she has feelings again, or if I'm just looking into it. I dont really want to say anything yet as I could be wrong, and I'm not even sure we should get back. The long distance thing did work for some time but it was mostly her effort that lacked. But where do I go from here, we literally have like a few weeks before she goes again and I don't want to mess that up. But I am pretty sure she knows I like her and I'm pretty sure she has some feelings somewhere for me.", "summary": "Not sure about ex's feelings towards us seeing each other again, should I try do something about it."}
{"id": "t3_2j0y3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19/M] seriously confused about what I'm feeling after seeing my ex [19/F] again.", "post": "So around 8 months ago, my ex [19/F] broke up with me pretty out of the blue and i did struggle with it for a good few months, I wont lie. I thought that she was the person i I'd be with forever, sounds stupid I know. However, recently I've felt like I've got over her as best I could and things have been fine.\n\nWell recently we've started seeing each other again at social gatherings (same friend group), and shes been acting like she used to with me; flirty and touchy, and picking me out of a group of people to talk to, looking at me when jokes are made or just when theres silence. All the sort of things she did before we initially got together.\n\nNow heres where my feelings are making me confused... Its making me want to ask her out again. I know I shouldn't because these kind of things only ever end well for a few people, but my feelings are just making me so confused about whats going on and what I should do.\n\nI guess really I'm just asking for any advice that you can give me now. Or any experiences that you've had this happen to yourself and what happened. Thanks.", "summary": "I'm [19/M] confused about feelings for my ex [19/F] which are cropping up again after a few meetings with her again... Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_13dpi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] Plan to move overseas for a year. My LDR bf [26M] of 4 months want to go with me.", "post": "I am a [23F] who is graduating from college in Dec, I plan to move overseas and teach abroad in Asia (can't be specific). I have been going out with my bf [26F] for 4 months, 2 months ago he moved 600mi away and we have been able to make it work with the plan that I would move in with him once I grad. I have always been clear since we began dating that I had plans to move overseas, and I have never hid that from him. Lately when I let him know that I plan to be there by next fall he has told me that he wants to drop his **CAREER** and join me overseas teaching. I told him that I was not comfortable with him dropping his life in order to go with me. I told him that i was doing this to build my resume and in the process pay off my loans, this would be for a year. Now he's telling me that he wants to go and find a job in  Asia to go with me. Is it wrong for me to not want him to go, I dont want him to drop his life and fly all the way to the otherside of the world for a 4month relationship that who knows how long will last. This is his first relationship.\n\nIs it wrong that I dont want him to go? This is my life experience that I want to do on my own, to discover myself. I dont know how to explain that to him.", "summary": "I plan to teach abroad and my bf wants to go and I dont want him to."}
{"id": "t3_2bsu1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24/F] talk to my roomate and friend [23/F] about her weight?", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nI've lived with my good friend from college for the past two years. We moved to the big city right after graduation. While she was always larger than average - in the past year she's gained even more weight - to the point that I think she is going to have serious health problems. The best I can estimate is she's probably at 5'3 and over 250 lbs. \n\nI'm worried for her. And I want to say something. I know part of the reason she eats is because she hates / is stressed by her job. Do I have the right to say anything? To offer to help? I don't want to be viewed judging what is pretty and not or body shaming - I'm just seriously concerned about her health and want to help without ruining our relationships / making her feel uncomfortable in our home. Do I even have the right to say anything? \n\nTo complicate it, I've always been thin. I'm 5'8 120lbs. I do also go to the gym 3-4 times a week and am careful about what I eat. I'm aware that me addressing her weight could be viewed as critical or unhelpful given my body. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "My good friend and roommate has gained significant weight over the past year to the point of obesity - should I say / do something?"}
{"id": "t3_28j56y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [21m] make it up to her [19f]", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nI love my SO very much, she means so much to me. Like every relationship, we've had our ups and downs but overall I love what we have. Ok so she's the kind of girl that is afraid of your usual stuff (spiders, dark, creepy crawlies, toaster oven, blah blah.) \n\nThe other day I thought it would be funny to try and scare her put turning off the lights on the hallway and closing the door on her, keeping her in complete darkness. I don't know why I thought this would be a good idea I feel like such a fucking asshole. Of course she freaked out and started clawing at the door, screaming to please open it and that its not funny. I'm on the other side laughing like an idiot of course, until she stops screaming. I open the door and turn the light switch on and she's on the floor shaking and balling her fucking eyes out in fear. I feel so stupid, I forgot she's told me before that she's REALLY afraid of the dark. When I started holding her she just looked at me and asked me why I did that. My heart sunk. I didn't know what to do or say, I just tried holding her.\n\nAfter a bit of calming down, she was fine. A little tense but fine. I kept apologizing and she just nodded. I feel like such an ass. I realize this sounds a bit childish but come on, everybody is afraid of something. I just want to make it up to her but don't know how. She's told me that one day she'll be able to laugh at it...but seeing her like that...:(\n\nPlease help me think of a way to make it up to her", "summary": "scared SO, forgot that it's a fear of hers"}
{"id": "t3_20h0x7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [23 m] have a serious intrest in a girl[20 f] and need advice.", "post": "if i had two words to describe her, theyd be beautiful and cocky. yes, cocky. this girl is hot and knows it, and is used to guys telling her. but at the same time, has trust issues from being molested at a young age.\n\nthis factors into her attitude. she is tough, not afraid to stand up for herself, and speaks her mind loudly. shes one of the guys, and has groups of guys she hang out with. normally this would turn me off, and i would think shes crazy, but i love it. when she smiles at me, or trusts me, i feel like great.\n\n the problem is it seems like getting any kind of affection to happen would take years, unless i involve a bottle of Jack Daniels. i want to know what i can say to make her trust me, and realize im not like the  guys who hit on her constantly ( even though she knows i used to stare at her ass before  i asked for her number.) she seems a little flirty with me, but in a guarded way.", "summary": "how do i get a cocky girl to like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3rgki7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 f] snooped around fwb [27 m] apartment and found out he has lied about everything", "post": "been fwb with this guy for a few months it's getting to a point where we both have feelings for each other and he talked about wanting to be my boyfriend..  \n\nhe works nights so I often go over around 5 and leave at 11 when he leaves for work. He always offers for me to just stay the night at his apartment while he goes to work but I usually decline. This time I was pretty drunk so I just stayed the night. I woke up around 3am really wanting some water and was being nosy and saw some papers on his kitchen counter (i know i shouldn't have done this)... I read them.. \n\none was a pay stub he told me he worked for one company but the pay stub was for a different company and his name is different than the one he told me (i already suspected this because I looked up his phone number on facebook and found his profile under that name) also the name he told me isnt his middle name. I also found some papers and they were for a chemical substance abuse program and he had signatures from a parole officer. \n\nI want to ask him about it but don't want him to know I snooped around his apartment like that. He is really polite and one of the sweetest guys I have ever met he treats me like a queen and i am just really confused on what to do. should i drop him or ask or what idk what to do.", "summary": "snooped around my fwb who im considering getting serious with apartment found out he lied about his name, his job, and might be on parole. not sure what to do or whether or not to ask about it"}
{"id": "t3_1m1r3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to set up a date with a woman (25F) and I (24M) cannot find a night that she is free. What can I do?", "post": "So I went on this date a few weeks ago with this girl that I have had a crush on for small while. Everything went well, conversation flowed and we both had a great time. For the last week and a half I have been trying to set up a second date, but this girl is always busy. She just got a new job and is working a ton of hours to make ends meet. So every time I try to set up a date with this girl she has work, and every night that she isnt working she usually ends up babysitting her nieces and nephews. \n\nAll in all, I dont think she is blowing me off on purpose, but at the same time, I am starting to get tired of trying to set up this second date. She keeps saying she is interested in meeting up again. And I really do like her a lot, so I dont want to just give up as long as she says she wants a second date. So, what is something I can try to set up another date? I told her a few days ago to text me a day she is free and we can set up something then, but I haven't heard back from her yet.", "summary": "Girl is interested in a second date, but she is busy every time we try to set up another date. What can I do, if anything, to help move things along?"}
{"id": "t3_368202", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trying to be sexy for my long distance boyfriend", "post": "This happened on Tuesday but I couldn't submit it because of rule #3. At the time I wrote this I still had tears in my eyes from the embarrassment. My boyfriend and I were flirting over video call and since we haven't seen each other in a while he \"jokingly\" asks me to show my ass. While in my pajamas I position my laptop to point the camera towards my butt. I start flexing my cheeks to make him laugh when I feel an uncontrollable rumble in my bowels. It's too late, my sphincter is loose from all the movement and at the third flex I blast my ass for the world to hear. And I mean the world, the walls in my apartment are rather thin and resonated with the sound of my flatulence. So I'm certain my neighbors and suite mates in the dining room (whose conversations promptly stopped) had heard. My boyfriend, having  heard the echo of the fart off of my bedroom walls waits a few awkward moments before asking simply \"Did you really?\" I cry out with laughter and embarrassment. Now I'm scared to go outside my room for fear of my suite mates' unforgiving stares.", "summary": "Tried to be sexy, broke the sound barrier with my ass."}
{"id": "t3_3wokpk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by \"pulling an internet prank\"", "post": "Last night, I went to Safeway to grab a couple snacks for a party. It was snowy and cold out, so in the store there were a couple slick spots where people's shoes melted. I was not paying attention and was in a hurry to get home, so as I speed walked into the store, I immediately slipped on a puddle and fell the hardest and most comical way I have ever fallen in my life. It hurt like hell and knocked the wind out of me! \n\nThis is where the fuck-up begins. As I lay on the ground, and everyone in the store crowded around me, I decided that the best way to save face was the pretend that it was on purpose. After probably thirty seconds of running the numbers in my head, I stand up with a big smile and say, \"Haha! Sorry to worry you guys! It was just a prank! See? My friends over there filming for Youtube!\". I then pointed at a random person in the distance and started walking to the snack aisle. It seemed to work, and everyone dispersed. \n\nI am not in the aisle for 5 minutes before an old lady in a vest, with two security guards in tow, come over and tell me to leave. I get escorted out, my back and neck still aching, and then I am forced to wait outside for another 20 minutes while Roz from Monsters Inc lectures me about \"using public spaces to pull internet pranks\".", "summary": "Tried to save face, can no longer use the Safeway by my house"}
{"id": "t3_31oxyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gay guy falling for straight employee/friend, help!", "post": "I recently started my own nightlife business around 6 months ago at the age of 19, and my business partner suggested we hire Jonny, aged 21 to help me in running the daytime aspect of the business (stocks etc). \n\nOver the last few months, we've gotten quite close as we typically spend long days together, sometimes 6 days a week and i've started to develop feelings for him that go beyond being a friend.\n\nUnfortunately, he's a straight guy and he has a girlfriend, whom i know from college, that is younger than myself. This girl, Ellie is a completely horrible person that's both cheated on Jonny and hit him on numerous occasions, however every time i try to talk to Jonny about it, he either shuts down or defends her in some way. This kills me as i know he's not happy, and he's such a good, kind hearted person.\n\nSo in effect, this is a two pronged question: How do i deal with my feelings toward Jonny, who will obviously never have the same feelings for me, whilst also helping him to be strong and get away from his horrible undeserving girlfriend?\n\nThank you in advance for any replies, i know this post sounds like such schoolboy drama.", "summary": "How do i go about dealing with my unrequited feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_2qvtjr", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Bathing my lhasa apso", "post": "When I adopted my previous dog, he was 8 years old and was found in a garage. He lacked socialization, wasn't fixed, and generally demonstrated non-doggy behavior. I loved him to bits as he was incredibly sweet except when it came to grooming. Literally if I took him to a groomer, they would not take him back. I ran out of groomers in one town and started going a few towns over. I tried to home-bathe and clip him, but had to enlist two friends to help.\n\nHe passed away a few years ago and last Spring I adopted a lhasa apso puppy (Hudson). I have always taken Hudson to a grooming salon because of my previous experiences. He does great. The groomers love him and actually ask me to request them by name so they can take care of him again. I tried to bathe him tonight and he did swell. However, I feel like his fur is dreading/tangling. I have been combing him nonstop and taking out any tangles, but it seems to be no use. He doesn't appear to be in any pain when I detangle a strand, as he is preoccupied by his post-bath toy. Will the tangles go away on their own? Is their a doggy conditioner I should be investing in?", "summary": "washed lhasa apso for first time tonight and no matter how much I comb his hair keeps tangling. Am I doing something wrong? Are there products I should purchase?"}
{"id": "t3_30edza", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a a man with crossed eyes in his face.", "post": "This happened when I was in college but working at Lowes about 8 years ago.  \n\nI was working as a cashier at Lowe's Home Improvement. It was a regular chill day... not too busy and not too slow.  Ringing up customers. Anyways, this one customer came up to the register.  And dropped all his items to the counter and I proceeded to ring everything up. After I'm done, I finally tally his purchases and look up at him.  He looked exactly like the cross-eyed guy from Waterboy...\n\nI burst out laughing uncontrollably and he's just standing there staring at me. I apologize profusely but am STILL LAUGHING AT HIS FACE.  One of my co-workers walks in front of him and motions to me to cut it out but the scenes from Waterboy are flooding back to me and I can't stop laughing.  I felt horrible and just kept apologizing.", "summary": "laughed at a cross-eyed guy that looked like the guy from waterboy in his face."}
{"id": "t3_3pc53t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling everyone I love dating children", "post": "At a party last night, a good party, lots of fun people hanging out. A debate breaks out about birth order and date-ability. Teams start to form - second born, middle child, etc. - all with arguments about who makes the best partners. The conversation is super fun and good natured, but it's also getting really loud and opinionated. Then someone tells a horror story about dating an only-child and that starts a hate train. Apparently everyone has had bad experiences. \"They are selfish.\" \"They are attention whores.\" \"Statistically they are the worst people to date.\"\n\nAt this point I'm getting the urge to be the nay-sayer. Too much conversational momentum in one direction... someone needs to step up. Having some actually positive experiences to draw from I decided that the responsibility fell to me.\n\nI waited for just the right moment for the punch. A brief pause in all the vociferous hatred. I gathered my breath and *loudly* asserted, \"You all are crazy! I LOVE DATING ONLY CHILDREN.\"\n\nI said it so fucking loud people in the kitchen heard. It took me .0024 seconds to cringe. The group collectively wet itself laughing at me and people around who had no context for it stepped up with big stupid smiles like \"waiittt, whaaaatt??\"", "summary": "Stood up for Team Only-Child and ended up a paedophile"}
{"id": "t3_4ep0n4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think my ex might be a victim of abuse", "post": "First post here, so I'm not entirely sure if it fits. I'm sorry if it doesn't. Basically, my girlfriend recently broke up with me, and I still have pretty strong residual feelings, so I tend to think about things associated with her quite often. We also attend the same school, so I see her every day. A few nights ago, I started thinking things over, and a series of things clicked in my head at once. \n\n-She is 18 years old and has plans to attend dental school. Her brother is 24 and has no aspirations, lives with their parents, and does absolutely nothing all day\n\n-Throughout our entire relationship, I saw him maybe a couple times. He was mostly a faceless name, but was a very shady person and an asshole. \n\n-She was always extremely on-edge when he was around, and was paranoid that he would show up when there was absolutely no way he would. \n\n-She broke up with me because she had too many stressors, one of which was her brother. She refused to expand on that, however. \n\n-He has an abusive history with some of her cousins and apparently has lost friends over it.\n\n-One morning, I awoke to a huge amount of missed calls and messages at around 2 a.m. that said things like \"Please pick up,\" \"Please don't be asleep,\" \"I need you,\" etc. This is highly uncharacteristic. The next day, she refused to tell me what happened, until she eventually admitted it was her brother, but she wouldn't elaborate further no matter what. \n\nNow I very well could be wrong, but judging from what I know of her and her family, something is amiss to me. When it comes to things I hope are false, my gut usually is not incorrect. I feel like there's some form of abuse, be it sexual, emotional, or physical. \n\nI am at a loss as to what to do with this information. I can't really tell anyone since I am not functioning with concrete evidence, and I can't do much since we're no longer together. What should I do?\n\nSorry for the novel!!", "summary": "I think my ex is suffering from abuse in her own household and I'm not sure what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_4gx5gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30M] fianc\u00e9s [30F] sister [27F] is throwing us a wedding shower before our wedding. My mom thinks we are doing this to get more gifts. Are we wrong to have a party like this?", "post": "We are getting married in September and my fianc\u00e9s sister wants to throw a wedding shower for both of us. She is planning everything with the bridesmaids and groomsmen. Everyone seems to be on board and excited. My mom says we are being greedy by throwing this party. She saw the evite on my brothers computer and saw that registry information was on the invite. She thinks the only reason we are having the party is so we can get gifts for the party and the wedding. That is not the case. Are these kinds of parties common before a wedding?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9s sister is throwing a wedding shower for us. My mom thinks we are doing it to squeeze extra gifts out of people"}
{"id": "t3_24tylw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I talk to my (25m) gf (23f) about her poorly trained, creepily annoying dog and how he doesn't allow us to have personal time at her place (where we spend the majority of our time)?", "post": "Seriously. We can't lay on the couch without him throwing a temper tantrum and constantly whining. If he isn't whining he is sitting a foot away staring. And staring. And staring. If he doesn't get attention then he goes to the foot of the couch and hops on the end table and stares. Then he starts barking incessantly. He is only getting worse and she keeps allowing his terrible behavior. 1. This is a gigantic turn off to me. 2. This is really annoying. When I stay over he has to sleep in the bed. Whatever, but we can't have sex without him barking. We can't shut him out of the room without him barking and annoying her roommate. I like this girl a lot and I've made progress with the dog over a weekend, but when I go back next his behavior goes right back to what it is because she's allowing it to continue.  \n\nI don't want her to get rid of the dog or anything. In fact, I rather like it, when he isn't being an annoying little shit head. Which is frequently. I'm not sure if this belongs here or in /r/dogs, but how do I go about communicating to her that I'm not okay with her dog being this poorly trained? I know it isn't the dog's fault and I'd never ask her to get rid of it, but I'm not going to continue this relationship if the dog is going to keep us from spending quality time together when I stay at her place. I'd like to open a dialogue between us about how we can go about training the dog. Is this okay to do or should I just move on since it bothers me this much?  \n\n \nSide note: Staying at my place more frequently is not an option. Sadly. Also, I have to be honest, this is kind of a last straw sort of thing as we've had some fairly serious issues that I should have broken up with her over; instead, I chose to stay with her and work through things. I like this girl a lot, and want to fix this issue as well.", "summary": "My gf's dog is super annoying and doesn't allow us to be together or do anything remotely intimate when I'm there. The jealous bastard."}
{"id": "t3_10xdqu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Earlier today the last thought running through my head before I was hit by an Xterra was \"Did it have to be Kill Bill yellow?\" What moments have made you had to re-evaluate how you view life?", "post": "For clarity; I was riding my road bike back from work and was going across a two lane road to my apartment. Thanks to the lovely driver in my town the oncoming traffic lane was held up by a gentlemen who needed to turn but was blocked. As I went passed these cars a yellow Nissan Xterra came into view as I went around a big truck. She was trying to get to a left turn lane that didn't exist for another 15 or so yards and slammed right into my left side. She managed to brake a little and hit me in a manner where my body rolled along the hood, bounced back off and fell with the bike then flipped where I landed in the oncoming traffic lane.\nPlastic exploded everywhere and I popped right back up. Beyond some hydrogen peroxide and band-aids, an ice pack or two, I was okay. All I could think about afterwards was how my last thought as I saw her was that \"Her car just had to be Kill Bill yellow, didn't it? So a cliche yellow with blood splattered on it is how I go?\" not something more deep or family/life oriented. \nPerhaps I'm a bad person. Perhaps I live in the moment. Who's to judge?", "summary": "Got hit by Kill Bill yellow Xterra, girl made me rethink my values."}
{"id": "t3_1x8vy8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one prove one's nerdiness in a job application?", "post": "So I'm applying for this internship that involves communciating science to the public (something I'm super passionate about). And listed under \"Qualifications,\" at the very end of the list, is this:\n\n> Familiarity with sci-fi & fantasy, comic books, gaming, etc., a strong plus\n\nI think it is clear that what they're looking, for, here, is a NERD. Not necessarily someone who is all of the things listed, but who identifies with nerd culture and is comfortable communicating on the Internet. And I very much am. When I was in high school and I loved the X-Files and Star Wars, it wasn't cool for a girl to be into that stuff (or to be intelligent at all), so the Internet was a godsend. \n\nBut how does one prove their nerd cred? Collect testimonies from moderators of message boards? Submit a screenshot of my Somethingawful registration date? Discuss the technological and cultural events that led to alt.tv.x-files splitting off into alt.tv.x-files.creative, the David Duchovny Estrogen Brigade, and duchovny-1?\n\nI want to think of a clever way to address this in my application letter. It's a minor requirement, obviously, but it got me really excited about this position.", "summary": "Gotta think of a clever way to prove my nerd cred in a job app. "}
{"id": "t3_269yfb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] I had surgery on my wrist and it was done so poorly I have to have another one correcting the first surgeons mistake", "post": "I broke my wrist 2 years ago severely enough to require surgery and had to have a metal plate and 9 screws surgically attached to the bone. Unfortunately I was away at school and due to conflicts with my school schedule I had to have the procedure done in the city the school is located in with the first surgeon recommended to me by the hospital. I didn't think much of it since I assumed a surgeon is a surgeon and had to be as qualified and competent to perform the procedure as any other. After the surgery I was told the procedure went well and everything was fine, was not ordered to physical therapy and was told merely to be active with the hand and I would regain function normally. \n Fast forward two years and I have been plagued by constant pain, inflammation and reduced mobility in that wrist. I went to a hand specialist in my hometown and the surgeon (regarded as one of the best in the state) looks at my hand as is shocked. The scar looks like the incision was done by a toddler, the incision was made over the median nerve of my hand instead of next to it, X-rays reveal that the plate is not flush against the bone and is actually rubbing against my tendon and there are screws protruding into my joint. To top it all off the bone never set correctly and my distal radius is essentially backwards. So my question to you /r/legaladvice is as follows: Do I have a basis for a malpractice suit and should I pursue legal action.", "summary": "Had surgery and discover 2 years later it was done very poorly which leads to another surgery to correct the first."}
{"id": "t3_2bkjmq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "God Damn It: A Textual Interpretive Dance", "post": "Noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise noise. \n\nAnd then all the doors close and the lights turn off. And finally there is a period of time where there is quiet, an opportunity for peace. Wouldn't that be nice? It's a shame, because this is when I'm supposed to be sleeping. *Recharging my batteries* so I can get up early and join in tomorrow. But despite being immersed in nonsense, I've kept some of my wits. So I think, *fuck that*. If there is going to be a break from noise, I'm going to experience it while I'm conscious. I'm going to incorporate at least a *por*tion of my waking life into silence. So I take a goddamn walk. It doesn't matter where, I've got a backpack, and a notebook, and some god damn glowsticks I picked up at the 99cent store. It's going to be great. Between the mental fits, at least.\n\nThere is no reasoning with noise. I don't have the energy to care to explain why. Though it is interesting, in a certain light. Reason requires a connection. A common ground. You can't connect with a clashing cymbal. Maybe you could in a esoterically spiritual, Fibonacci sequence fractal-tone sort of way. In a foreign language. But then you've disconnected from your own rationality. \n\nIt's like, you've got a tree in England, which is your mind, and I've got my mind tree in Delaware. And these mind trees are capable of connecting to each other, like in Avator or something, so I uproot my mind tree and sail it to England, to try to connect with you on your own turf. Some foreign place I know nothing about. Well, I don't live there, so I eventually sail my mind tree back to Delaware and as I get closer to my own home, everything foreign deteriorates in the new atmosphere, and I'm back from my spiritual trip with nothing to show for and no progress made. The", "summary": "of this paragraph would be: I tried to explain why you can't connect with noise, but fuck it, just trust me."}
{"id": "t3_o2k1z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had a dream last night that got me thinking, would you want to survive a nuclear holocaust (or similar event) and be one of the few people left on Earth or would you rather be killed in the initial destructive event?", "post": "Last night I had a very vivid dream. In it I was at my niece's birthday party. We were in a large dining area in what seemed to be a country club or something on a hill over looking a valley. There were a lot of people I love there, some people I didn't know and a person that I am not in good standing with. As we were eating there was a gathering of large dark clouds all around us. Then a bright red glow enveloped the clouds. As the clouds moved away I saw the shockwave approaching through the valley. It was throwing trees out of the way like tumbleweeds in the dessert. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. I figured it was some sort of freak meteorological event. Because of my interest in strange weather, instead of trying to find shelter from the impending destruction I stood and watched as this shockwave travelled toward me. When it hit the building we were in I actually felt the wind get knocked out of me and got pushed back. I remember looking back at the last moment and watching my whole family -my wife, parents, siblings, nieces and nephews- vaporize. I then woke up and was completely winded. I was lying in bed and began thinking about it. If this situation were to occur would I want to go on living or would I be content to die in the initial disaster. I think if my whole family was killed I would want to be as well.", "summary": "Had dream my whole family died in explosion and I died too.   "}
{"id": "t3_3v2sem", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stepping on ants barefoot", "post": "No its not what you're thinking. I'm not a moron who jumped in an ant pile. It was just a few on the floor of my bathroom. So naturally, I tried to squish them. \n\nWell... I missed at least one. And the SOB crawled up my leg. Fast forward two hours, I'm teaching a lab and I feel an acute pain on my balls. I figure, its just a weird itch, and I can't scratch my balls in front of my class. \n\nBut it doesn't go away. \n\nSo I head to the bathroom, whip out my sack. Yep, there's an ant, biting my balls. Mother fucker.", "summary": "never underestimate ants. They are pure evil. "}
{"id": "t3_435dfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] am going to introduce my GF [23F] to my friends for the first time", "post": "Hi,\n\nThis is the first time that I feel I'm in a serious relationship. Next week it's the birthday of one of my friend (in a bar), and I plan to bring her with me. But there are 2 issues:\n\n- I have never introduced a GF to my friends, so I have no idea what the proper etiquette is in this situation.\n- My GF is from Japan, so she speaks Japanese and English, but only very little german (I live in Germany and all my friends are german). All my friends understand english, but I'm not sure how confortable they are when speaking it.\n\nSo I'm not sure how to handle this situation... Here are some questions that I have:\n\n- How do I introduce her to my friends? \"Hey, this is my GF !\"?\n- How should I handle the german/english thing? Should I only speak in English to my friends? Or translate everything to her?\n- How do I make sure that she talks to my friends? My GF is shy.\n- Etc.\n\nThanks for your help!", "summary": "any tips and tricks on how to introduce the GF to friends?"}
{"id": "t3_n3fto", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thinking about getting a SouthWest Airlines credit card, but not sure if I'll be signing my life away.", "post": "Just a brief background of myself, I'm a professional college student, meaning I finished my bachelor's a year ago and am working towards a Master's. Up til now, I've lived off off my scholarships and the one credit card from Wells Fargo when I opened my student account. Anyhow, I was planning on getting a SouthWest Airlines Visa Credit Card so I could get a free round trip to Vegas to go with some buddies, and then just have it around for extra expenses. But then it says something about 15.24% APR, and I don't what the hell that means. Anybody care to enlighten me as to if this is a good idea or not?\n\n[Southwest Airlines Rapid Rewards Card!](", "summary": "The hell is APR, and shoud I get this credit card?"}
{"id": "t3_32wxs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) flatmate (20F) and I, have a lot of issues to sort out.", "post": "I share a house with her Jane (lived with her for 8 months, 4 more months to go), my boyfriend John (together for 1 year, 8 months. Lived together for just as long) and another flatmate Rob (8 Months).  \n\nIn the freezer, where a total of 4 shelves are,  she has 2 shelves to herself. the rest 2 are shared by 3 people. Today jane stuffed a bunch of her things in one of the shelves that was ours. I have told her so many times not to do so and she still did it, when I knocked on her room and came in she said \"did I say come in?\",\n\n I went to the kitchen again and she even moved my weighting scale to put her vegetables on the top drawer. She is driving me nuts and I am upset. \n\nI think the stress of exams + her is getting to me and I dont know what to do about it. It is also negatively affecting my OCD. I really need help.\n\nNote: John and I agree she needs to move her stuff. Rob has a crush on Jane and refuses to be a part of this shit and I dont know what to do about it.", "summary": "flatmate moves my belongings and take up too much space in the freezer. I need advice on how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_2sg3go", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend aka wifey (31F) and I (23M) has been in a 11 month relationship. She has lied, cheated, and keeps stealing from me. I feel so hurt today. Please help a fellow redditor as I'm not sure what to do with this relationship :'(", "post": "I'm hurting so bad right now and am very disappointed at Lauren. Today she stole some of my prescription (again) today. As far as we have been in this relationship, she is very opportunistic when she steals from me e.g.  Money, my prescription medications, etc. At this point, I have to hide most of my valuables from her. \n\nFrom the cheating standpoint; Lauren has slept with her ex, RJ, early on in our relationship. RJ and Lauren have been dating for 12 years with an 11 year old daughter, Annie. Thing is, she doesn't generally like women and prefers having guys as friends. Also she keeps in touch with former flings post break up. I always find out or \"catch her\" after the fact as she isn't forthcoming to me. She expresses remorse to me long after an argument breaks out from this. This includes flirt text through FB, phone, pics sent, etc. \nWhat hurts me is that she tries to cover up/lie her way out of it or somehow turns it around to me. \n\nI haven't given anything less than the best of me, all of me, in this relationship. I support her and her daughter and have sacrificed alot to keep/maintain this relationship. I'm not saying I'm perfect or a saint either. I harbor these trust issues inside of me because of her past actions. However, I can proudly say I never have done anything remotely close to what she has done to me. In a way, I see myself healing her heart from her past and always push her to do the right thing and be the best she can be. \n\nTwo question(s) that concerns me:\n\n1) How should I approach her with the stealing situation? \n\n2) Is this relationship too toxic to even save?", "summary": "Girlfriend, lies, steals, cheats on me. How to approach her opportunistic stealing habit and/or is this relationship too toxic to stay in? "}
{"id": "t3_1uqrm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just graduated college [23F] and having doubts about moving to another state for my boyfriend [26M].", "post": "We just recently got back together - I've posted about the breakup with this throwaway account a few months back. \n\nAfter a three month break-up and dealing with a loss of trust (he initiated the breakup), I'm having such a hard time feeling confident about relocating for him. I love him with my entire heart and I want it to work, but all of the romance between us has gone completely out the window. Once he won me back, he has gone back to being \"comfortable\". A huge part of me feels like I can't risk moving my entire life for him to have my heart broken again. On the other hand, long-distance will not work for us.\n\nWhat should I do?/What would you do?", "summary": "I'm in love with my boyfriend but he has hurt me in the recent past. Romance seems non-existent and I'm having doubts about moving for him."}
{"id": "t3_1jla1k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone else have a fear of hearing passive aggressive, back-handed comments? What do you do to cope besides ignoring it or accepting that \"the world is sh*t\"?", "post": "Can you give your experience of hearing questions or comments put in a passive aggressive way? (Where the person did so assuming you would not understand, thinking they could get away with it for their own satisfaction to perhaps make you look dumb or boost their ego?)\n\nAny response is great but if I'm looking for specifics, I guess I want to hear from a like-minded realist who has possibly been jaded by overly sensitive people, holds back almost all wit, has to force out being nice and does a decent job at it, does not easily set up for another person to reply in a nasty passive aggressive manner, and has an exceptional sense of social behavior. And when hearing passive-aggressive replies, sometimes provides a mirror-like dose of their medicine, maybe more, where the original aggressor cannot find the words to come back, can not initiate a physical fight due to an ego that's burnt to a crisp, and walks away with their tail between their legs 100% of the time.", "summary": "I have a difficult time accepting passive aggressive, back-handed comments, and wish to find out how others cope with them."}
{"id": "t3_53i7wa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's hard for me (18/F) to comprehend that my boyfriend (19/M) loves me", "post": "So, I know he loves me, but it's just hard to realize that he actually, truly loves me. \n\nHe's literally the sweetest thing on earth. He pampers me, he works hard at his job so he can take me out and buy me things (when I ask, which isn't often.) And just other things like that. When we hug, I feel safe, happy, etc. But sometimes I get dumbfounded that someone like him could love me. \n\nI've have had past relationships with people that all ended really badly, so I think that's a contributing factor, so how can I comprehend this? Like, he's literally amazing and I get SO amazed and just in awe? I guess is the word. We've been together for 2 years, I've gotten better about it, but I still just get awestruck.", "summary": "Basically the title"}
{"id": "t3_weh79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate surfs 9gag", "post": "So i've been a redditor since November, i've never been on 9gag or 4chan (i am subscribed to the 4 chan subreddit though), I'm always on Reddit, at home, work, on my iphone, on my iPad, ect.  My roommate doesn't have an account but if i'm surfing through Reddit at home he's over my shoulder laughing right along.  Well a few days ago I was sitting and watching tv, and said roommate comes in and we start talking about bullshit, then we are on the topic of the health care, and he says, \"Oh man i can't remember the article but I read it on 9gag....\"  I didn't hear the rest of the sentence.  My heart stopped, I felt like I let my roommate down big time.  So my question is....how do I make him stop visiting 9gag? I'm really concerned and in desperate need of help.", "summary": "My roommate surfs 9gag, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_30u711", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling the wrong number", "post": "Some context: I'm a journalism student and I've been trying to get a hold of a lawyer for the past few days regarding an interview. After a few failed tries I email him telling him who I was and what I wanted the interview for and receive a reply back, asking me to call his assistant.\n\nUsing my iPhone, I click on the number in the email to call the assistant (let's call her Andrea). No answer.\n\nAn hour later I'm just about to start a class, and I hear my cell going off. The firm tried calling me back. I answer to a man asking what I was calling him for.\n\nI thought maybe this was the lawyer himself, since he and his assistant might share a number, but I tell him I'm looking for a lawyer's assistant, named Andrea.\n\nThere's a long pause... the man says, \"I used to be married to an Andrea, but she moved to Arkansas 16 years ago...\" another long pause.\n\nI immediately try to break the silence to apologizing for calling the wrong number, and I allow a split second to let the man talk again but he doesn't and I say bye and hang up.\n\nAfter I hang up, I look at the number I called. It's the area code from where I'm from, not the city I go to college in. Part of me wonders why didn't it call the area code I'm in rather than the one mine is, the other half of me mentally facepalms myself.\n\nThis poor chap was probably having a good day, enjoying a cup of coffee on the patio, reading a newspaper... but conversely from Drake, he went 100 to 0 real quick.", "summary": "called the wrong number, reminded a man he was divorced."}
{"id": "t3_25u55v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am \"sober\" and thinking about getting back into dating. Unsure of how to bring up the issue.", "post": "I also posted this in /r/askmen and got some wonderful replies there, but I figured I would try to post here too and maybe get some perspectives from people who don't frequent that sub. \n\nMy situation is kind of weird. I had a problem with pills and cocaine for a couple years, but I've been clean for 18 months (yay!). I went to rehab, got my shit together, and am doing remarkably well. That said, I say I'm \"sober\", because I'll occasionally have a glass of wine. Alcohol was never my problem, and I haven't felt the need to cut it out. My sobriety is my own business, and I have defined it how it works for me.\n\nI have some 'rules' for myself such as no hard liquor, and only one glass of wine per week and only when I\"m out at dinner. I don't keep alcohol in my home. My situation is so weird, I almost don't know if I should bring it up, but it's a big part of who I am. I'm stronger because I've overcome a few nasty addictions and I celebrate the big anniversaries of it. I don't want to hide it, but I also don't want to say that I'm sober when I'm really not.\n\nFor one, is this a major dealbreaker/red flag? I got out of a relationship 6 months ago (there's a reason they tell you not to be in a relationship during your first year of being clean), and I'm just about ready to start dating again, and don't know what to say to new guys. With my friends, there was no big speech, it was kind of just 'I used to have a problem with drugs, I don't anymore, and I can comfortably have a glass of wine because I've never abused alcohol and don't enjoy the feeling of getting drunk.' And that was the end of it. Is that appropriate to say to a new guy?\n\nI'm so stressed about this, I really don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "I'm 18 months clean from a drug problem, but I occasionally still have a glass of wine when out with my friends (no more than one glass, once a week). It works for me, it's not really anyone else's business, but what I've overcome is a big part of who I am, so I want to be able to share that. Don't know how to say it to a new guy though."}
{"id": "t3_2ewhxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [31F] is falling in love after four months together. I [31M] am not. WTF do I do?", "post": "We met a few months ago.  She was immediately enamored, but I was hesitant.  After seeing each other socially a few times and finding out we have an UNCANNY amount in common and very similar personalities we decided to start seeing each other.  In the last week she said she's falling in love with me.\n\nThough I'm 31, I'm very new to relationships.  Have been single for my entire life except for a few casual relationships so singlehood is pretty deeply ingrained at this point.  Still, I understand having to make sacrifices for a partner and am happy to do so.  And thus far she seems very content with how things are going (partially, I suspect, because it sounds like she's dated quite a few losers in her past).\n\nBut the spark just simply isn't there for me.  That empty feeling being apart for a long time...not there.  The butterflies in your stomach when you finally DO see each other...not there.  I've tried picturing us together 10-15 years from now, and can do it only if I squint.\n\nBut are these symptoms of a flawed relationship, or simply a reality of pursuing relationships later in life, absent the infatuation of youth?  I've felt those feelings before when I was a bit younger, but not here.\n\nI don't know if I want OUT of this relationship, or just to SLOW DOWN this relationship, or REVERSE, or what.  Is there anything I could say that would get my point across?  Something that isn't going to end up in someone being absolutely crushed?", "summary": "GF is falling in love, I'm not.  How to proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_31o2xj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing my fitness project at a public park", "post": "First tifu post I hope it's worthy :p\n\nSo it started out like any other day hangin out with friends and doing our project for the spring break at the park. We were assigned to take pictures of ourselves exercising and stick it on a poster board. \n\nIt was actually going great we were banging out the project like it was nothing until I decided to do some lunges halfway through the project. There I am in the middle of the playground surrounded by little children I prepared to do lunges. \n\n\"3, 2, 1, go!\" My friend says and I do a lunge. The next thing I hear is a terrifying rip. I'm pretty sure the whole playground heard it. I look down and I see a gaping hole at the exact location of my crotch. My first reaction is to scream holy shit. And if the rip didn't catch anyone's attention I'm sure that did. \n\nThe next thing I know little children are staring at me as I stretch out my shirt to cover my crotch. Keep in mind I'm only halfway through the project. So the next few pictures we ran to a secluded area and took pictures angling them to avoid my crotch. Dear god I hope I didn't steal the innocence of a couple of children...", "summary": "Lunges at the park, ripped my pants, ran away from little kids"}
{"id": "t3_rwm5l", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Well, my luck has just turned to crap.....", "post": "So I sprained my lower back once more while doing some yard work, and after finding a hobby that I was randomly good at, and can always get better.....This is not easy for me to take.   I went to a chriopractor because my back hurt more than it normally does, only for him to find out that my lumbars are out of wack, and sacral is also messed up.  I am 33yr old and have arthritis in my lower back, and hip joints.  I have never played sports, I have only mountainbikes (downhill, urban assault) for maybe 8 years through college, and after....not even that much either.     I asked about my new running, he tells me to stop, and that it's not a good idea with my hips and back they way it is.  Not happy.  Not sure if I should just lightly jog once and awhile, and do 5ks every few months, or try to strengthen my muscles and ignore him....*sigh*  he even said that my hamstrings are weak...not tight, but actually weak, and endurance running will make it worse.   *sigh", "summary": "I'm too old for my time, falling apart and was told to stop running."}
{"id": "t3_3za71e", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Classic travel mistake", "post": "Maybe this doesn't belong here, but wanted to vent since I'm angry with myself at making this classic travel mistake.   \n\nI wanted to travel to Palm Springs to visit my parents and hesitated on making the reservations Saturday.  Some of this is my own aversion to spending money even though I was going to make the purchase.  This is an issue with my personality I need to work through so I'm more decisive on financial decisions vs taking too long to think about it.  I waited till this morning and the price jumped over $250.  To add insult to injury, American was the only airline left and nickel and dimes you on seats which are remaining.  Want to get on this flight?, you'll need to pay an extra $50 for the the premium seat.   UGGG!!....  I'm not blaming anyone except my own travel inexperience and the feeling of getting fleeced.", "summary": "waited too long to book my travel and now feel like I was fleeced and blame myself."}
{"id": "t3_3z4ht8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25F] get over what my ex bf [26M] did?", "post": "Background: I have been with my ex bf for almost 5 years. Throughout this time, he has pretty much done everything to betray me that you can imagine. I've caught him cheating on me with 7 different women. He once dumped me two days after my dad passed away. He's been physically abusive to me on several occasions (which I reported, but nothing was ever done, as he didn't \"hurt me enough\").  \n\nMost recently (and shockingly the final straw) occurred over the last few days. He forgot my birthday (which was at the end of December). On NY eve, he texted me saying he fell asleep, and thats why he ignored me that evening. This AM, he sent me a picture (by mistake) of him and another girl taking a nice selfie together- obviously from last night.\n\nHe told me that he had been seeing this girl for six months. He had introduced her to his parents as his gf. I begged him for months to have me over for dinner with his parents, but he said no, as I was \"a huge bitch who his parents hated\".  He would fuck her and then come and sleep in my bed. Everything i wanted from him- to be involved with his family, to hold hands, to take pics together, to go on actual dates- he did with her. she is significantly heavier than me- apparently his dick gets hard for anything who is willing to fuck him.", "summary": "I do not want to continue in a relationship with him. But I am completely filled with anger. How do I move on from this, and not let it affect future relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_2fxpfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] can't figure out how to make it work, my SO [18 M] is selfish, but is going through a lot right now.", "post": "Okay, so my SO shows no signs of caring about me or wanting a relationship. All I hear is that they're too busy to spend extra time together. My SO says they don't know what I want from them.\nI think part of the problem must be that I don't know how else to explain what I want.\n I guess I want some form of reciprocation\u2026 To talk about us\u2026. To go on dates. To have a conversation that doesn't revolve around job/school.\nWhen I try to spark different types of conversations, they don't last. All my SO cares/thinks about is work and school.\n\nMy SO rarely does anything to show me they care. Which hurts, because I care a lot. And on top of it, my SO takes out 75% of their frustration on me.\n\nAnd after all that I still just acquiesce because I desperately want this to work out.\n \nAll I can think about is how there is a rift, and I want it gone. I just don't want to break it off, because my has said time and time again that they also want this to work. And I believe my SO, but I also feel like my SO just keeps pushing away.\n\nI understand my SO is busy, and has priorities over me. But I want to make everything better so bad... I don't know what to do. Any help you can offer Reddit?", "summary": "SO says they care, but isn't acting like it. What can I possibly do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ecgio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my best female friend [20 F]. I think I'm in love with her and I know it's a bad idea to try anything", "post": "I'll keep it as short as possible. Met her earlier this year, we hated each other at first, slowly became friends, we have the same sense of humor, can easily talk with one another, etc. I think I'm falling for her but I know that's a bad idea because I've talked to her about other girls I like and my problems with them and she's talked to me about her boy problems. We also have very differing views on things (like her hypochandrism which gets annoying after a while) or her hard vegan lifestyle (I love meat) among other things. But I guess at the heart of the matter, I like having her as a friend and I really don't want to fuck it up but I can tell that if I go for it, I'll fuck it up royally. Help?", "summary": "Am possibly in love with my female best friend. I know it's a bad idea. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2f9c2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20F] 6 months,she has been with 10 other sexual partners", "post": "I met a really great girls. She is nice, has a really good personality and really likes me. We have a lot in common. We have very similar interests.\n\n I am a little embarrassed to say this, but i lost my virginity to this girl. However, a few nights ago she told me that she has been with 10 guys and she lost her virginity as a young teen. I really like this girl, but i cant help but feel weird about that fact. I hate that i feel like that because i should only care about our future and that shes with me now. Every time i think about it i just get this awful feeling and i keep thinking about it and i just get sad and wonder if i should be with her. \n\nThe worst part is that she is self conscious about that part of her and i dont want to make her feel bad. Is there a way to get over this or is this a normal feeling?", "summary": "My new girlfriend has had a lot of sex partners and i feel bad about it. Is this normal, how can i get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_2nbtxm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] ruined a relationship with my SO [20 M]of 2 years due to depression, Is it salvageable?", "post": "Hi, made a throw away account and I never post much on reddit so sorry for terrible formatting! \n\nI and Steven had been together for 2 years and in august we moved in together in a new city to start our studies. It was going smoothly due to us being able to communicate well together and Steven is a very caring person and I appreciate him very much for all he's done to me. \n\nAbout 2 months ago I got depressed and it was very taxing on my studies and on Stevens mental state, which all culminated into a fight and him eventually calling it over the day after.  It was hard 3 days for us but we managed to patch up and remain friends. I still have trouble sleeping at night and I envy him for being able to let go so easily (heck, he even said he loved me the day before the break-up!). \n\nI know its very naive of me for hoping we can get back together, but for some reason I can't let it go \u2013 he has been such a wonderful partner and I feel so awful for steering this train into the wreck it became and I wish I could have stopped it sooner.  But what's done is done, and it's a painful and very necessary reminder that I must keep myself in check so I don't hurt others.\nWe started goofing around as friends again and we even play video games together and generally make sure to eat together, but we rarely talk on an emotional level.\n\nWe will live together for about a month more, and it seems stupid, but is he able to love me again? And if so, how do I manage to do that?\nWhat I can hope for right now is to remain good friends and maybe somewhere down the line, may it be months or years, I can have my second chance. I just don't want to hope too much, however ):  There should be room for moving on,  too\u2026", "summary": "Depression hit me, SO took it hard and broke up, we still hang out and I have 1 month to make him consider me as a potential partner again."}
{"id": "t3_1uqyqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21M) trying to figure out what pace to set with her (20F).", "post": "Over the Christmas break, I asked out a coworker who I've really grown to like. The first date wasn't bad, but wasn't amazing either. However, the second date, two weeks later, went really well, and she said she was open to the idea of another date. \n\nBecause I'm really interested in her, I want to go out with her again this weekend (our last date was on Friday), but a couple people, including my sister, say that I might be going a little bit too quickly and I should maybe wait another week, if not two. Since we are both college students and have different days off, the weekend would be our only time to go out without planning ahead by at least a week. \n\nA week in between doesn't feel like too short of a time to me, but I'm still not sure how much she may or may not be interested in me, or what type of relationship she might be looking for. I'm interested in her enough that I'm feeling just a little bit impatient and don't want to wait too long before asking her out again. I also despise playing mind games, so that rationale for waiting just doesn't seem compelling to me. \n\nWith all that said, I don't want to go too fast with this, because I know (through the work grapevine) that the last guy who she liked killed his chance with a mixture of moving a little fast and getting ahead of himself and thinking they were basically a couple after two dates (the second half of this seems to have been a bigger factor than the first half).\n\nWhat would you recommend doing? I see her four days a week with work, but we don't really get to interact for more than five or maybe ten minutes each time. Should I wait another week so that she doesn't feel like I'm coming on too strong? Or is it not really a big deal, and I can go for it? How do I wait without driving myself crazy or psyching myself out? Thanks for any input.", "summary": "I'm trying to figure out how long to wait in between the second and third dates, and avoid moving too fast. How long should I wait?"}
{"id": "t3_2izouj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] gift giving doesn't come naturally, needing advice on what is appropriate for gf [20F] of 8 months", "post": "Gift-giving isn't something that comes to me naturally, so in past relationships I've been guilty of overlooking/underthinking this important part of being a boyfriend. \n\nI'm looking for advice on what would be appropriate to get my girlfriend for Christmas (I'm trying to think ahead because in the past I haven't!). I know that ultimately it depends on the unique girl/situation, but maybe y'all could help me with guidelines?\n\nSome particulars about the relationship - she and I are both college students, we're serious (talking about our future, have said 'I love you', etc.), but definitely independent and still learning about one another. I have a fairly good income for a student and would be comfortable spending up to around $300 on a gift. I want to get her something that says 'we're serious and I really care about you' but without saying 'you're mine forever and don't forget it'. You know what I mean? She's pretty girly - likes clothes and jewelry and stuff.\n\nAgain, I know that this all comes down to the particulars of the relationship, but as someone without much experience with stuff I could really use some help with examples/guidelines about what is appropriate.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Not sure how to give gifts, looking for advice on where to start/what is normal and appropriate to give a serious gf of 8 months."}
{"id": "t3_10amk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [18] likes to call me [19] out on my demeanor.", "post": "As stated before, she's 18, and I'm 19. We've been dating for about 3 months.\n\nBut anyways, I always consider myself to be a laid back guy. I never really try to get into fights, and avoid them unless there is no other way. I'd rather make friends with the guy, or have negotiations first. It's mainly because in previous fights, I've always severely underestimated my strength. I look at it in the sense of \"Unless anyone I know, or myself, is in immediate danger, I don't really like to fight.\"\n\nTo the point, my girlfriend always like to confront people and physically challenge them, but tends to back down at the last minute, or considers herself lucky if they refuse, because she doesn't \"Know how to throw a punch.\"\n\nAfter telling me this, I offered to help her with some training, and she replies with \"I didn't think you could fight, considering you run away from them all the time.\" \n\nThis is the same girl who not only wanted me to beat the shit out of her ex, but wanted me to confront one of my best friends over something that happened over *twitter*.\n\nAm I a pussy? Or is my girlfriend crazy?", "summary": "Don't like to fight, girlfriend calls me out on it and calls me a pussy."}
{"id": "t3_1ed1r7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend (f23) loves horses. I (m27) hate horses.", "post": "I can't tell if I'm really a jerk or if I just can't see a tree through the damn forrest.\n\nMy girlfriend is a really nice chick. She's pretty, well employed, soft natured, motherly, and we've been together for 1 1/2 years, living together for one. She does all the cooking/cleaning/looking after me.\n\nShe loves horses. I can't stand them.\nShe's a vegetarian, I am a deer hunter.\n\nShe lets me go hunting whenever I want to. No complaints.\n\nShe's had horses all her life, and doesn't involve me in them because she knows I don't like them. It really upsets her.\n\nA few months ago, she'd been planning on going to a big horse show and she'd been planning it for six months. That weekend I'd completely forgotten about it. I told her the boys were going hunting and I was going to tag along. It wasn't until after the weekend I realised, I missed the show. And she wasn't able to go because I was supposed to take her.\n\nSince then, she hasn't asked me to go, ever. I feel pretty shitty about it.\n\nShe, however, has made a sincere effort to get into my hobbies. She even bought her own rifle so I could teach her how to use it. She asks questions about my hunting. All that stuff. She tries. \n\nProblem is, I can't get into her hobbies because I HATE horses.\n\nDunno what to do.", "summary": "girlfriend is amazing, but her big passion is horses. I hate horses. Dunno what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2bou6t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Back Door Roth IRA", "post": "I've been reading about investments and Roth IRAs sounded interesting. I can afford the maximum contribution on what I make part time. However, I looked at the income maximums. Because I live in NYC and am planning to go into a STEM career (something programming related, probably won't get an MS though), I know that I have a greater chance than others to be fortunate enough to pass the income limit sometime in my lifetime. Plus, a Roth IRA can be maintained until I'm 70, and a lot can happen in that time.\n\nThe income limit for married partners is higher, but I have no desire to get legally married regardless of whether I have an SO or not, and from how I understand it, the taxes only help if one partner makes significantly less than the other. Again, considering my occupation and even my current SO, I'll likely be making around the same amount as my SO, though obviously I can't be sure.\n\nI also heard about back door Roth IRAs and tried to read about them but the jargon confuses me and I don't know if there are notable differences between it and a normal Roth IRA.\n\nFor record, I'm still in undergrad, so yeah, I'm jumping the gun a bit on everything.\n\nSo", "summary": "should I start with a Back Door Roth IRA or start with a normal one then go to a back door one if I need it? What are the real differences, if any, between a Back Door one and a Roth IRA?"}
{"id": "t3_4yyh58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] found my boyfriend's [33 M] box of ex things by accident. Do I need to tell him?", "post": "I was going through some things in our storage and found a shoebox and looked into it to see what was inside (when we moved we put a bunch of our stuff into random boxes so I wasn't snooping but just checking to see if any of my stuff was in it).  \n\nI saw what was clearly his box of ex paraphernalia.  I closed it right away and put it back as I don't care if he has the stuff nor am I going to invade his privacy. \n\nHe is my only boyfriend so I don't have anything from ex's so I don't know if I should tell him I found the box. He knows I don't care about his past relationships but I don't know if others have any opinions on if it's something I should mention or just leave it (literally and figuratively) as I don't care about him having it, don't think he's hiding anything beyond standard ex things, nor did I go through it. \n\nThanks.", "summary": "Found my boyfriend's box of ex things by accident.  Do I need to tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_2vt4v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (34F) with (40M) of 13 years - Am I a horrible person for being irritated at getting flowers?", "post": "I married a man-child who never put much effort into the relationship and wouldn't even get a job until I threatened to leave him.  I almost divorced him again last summer because even though he finally got a job he was not respectful of me and was pretty unpleasant to be around.  I am getting better about sticking up for myself and not being such a doormat.  He swore he would change and he has for the most part.  \n\nI hate getting flowers with a passion.  They are expensive and I prefer gifts that are thoughtful and inexpensive.  They are just not me at all.  I have specifically asked him not to order me flowers.  I've told him what I like if he must get flowers - for example a $5-10 single fake rose or cheap flowers from Walmart.  Whenever it's discussed he tells me he just can't figure out what I like and then goes back to looking at the spreadsheet he keeps for one of his video games.  I am not a difficult person to shop for.  I know the real issue is that he's lazy and he disapproves of my interests because I am not anything like his mother.  \n\nSo anyway I got flowers and am feeling kind of sad and I'm feeling guilty for feeling sad.  I'm just kind of bummed that he has 0 interest in me as a person and I'm eagerly looking for any sign that he gives a shit after years of the man-child.  I spend many hours thinking about what he would like and I even take notes when he mentions something he would like.  I don't expect that same level of obsessiveness...but it'd be nice if I warranted the same level of effort that he puts into his video games.  Hell I'd probably be thrilled with 1/2 the effort.  \n\nETA well he got pissy when I got home for not getting them out at work and showing them off.  So the motivation for getting them is pretty obvious and what I suspected.  As usual it had nothing to do with my wants or needs.  Bleah.  I will deal with this later when I'm not so emo.", "summary": "Got flowers after I asked husband to stop buying them and I'm feeling guilty for feeling sad about it."}
{"id": "t3_4mw66r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF [25M] of 9 months refuses to be in photos with me [25F]", "post": "(I'm not actually a redditor, but my friend recommended using her account to post about my issue...)\n\nI have been seeing Daniel for about 9 months and things have been awesome. We have a lot in common, and it's always a great time when we're together. Even though it hasn't quite reached a year yet, I see things going well in the future. However, one incident from about 6 weeks ago is still bothering me and I don't know if I should bring it up, or even how.\n\nA little bit of context: Like most people my age, I'm on social media. But it also isn't that big of a deal to me & I don't spend that much time obsessing over it or posting too much. For example, if I'm on vacation, I'll post a photo or two with friends, but not necessarily document every moment for everyone. I much prefer to keep my personal life private, and especially don't post about my relationship. Daniel isn't hugely into social media either, aside from snapchat where he posts to \"his story\" pretty frequently.\n\nIn April, Daniel & I went to a local music festival together featuring a bunch of our favorite artists. I was dancing and having a good time, and pulled out my phone to take a video selfie of me dancing. Daniel was dancing behind me, and you would've thought he hit the dab with how fast he moved his face out of the frame. I was surprised, and realized that after all this time we haven't taken any photos or videos together.\n\nI'm about 99% sure that it isn't an issue of him having a side-chick or whatever. Our relationship isn't a secret, and I've spent plenty of time with his friends. This isn't even about posting it to Instagram and letting the world know about my relationship. The fact that he doesn't want to have any documentation of our relationship seems like a red flag. And frankly, it hurts.", "summary": "BF of 9 months jumped out of the frame when I was taking a video, and we've never taken a video or pic together. Is this worth bringing up, and if so, how do I go about it without sounding insecure?"}
{"id": "t3_necox", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Reading signals", "post": "I apologize in advice for sounding childish, but it's been a long time since my last relationship and I just feel insecure and lost about the potential start of new one. \n\nI was formally introduced to this guy, Alex, a couple months ago. We had a lot of mutual friends, including the person that introduced us, Brody.\n\nThe three of us started studying together and then Alex and I started studying and hanging out alone on the side. We can be really...flirty. There are instances where I feel like I'm just being teased by my boyfriend with the mocking and pet names.\n\nThen, about 2 months ago, I had a conversation with Brody. I wanted to tell him about Alex, but Brody shot the idea down when I didn't even tell him yet.\n>\"I can read you like a book. You like Alex. But I'll just break it to you early. It's not apparent (on facebook) but he has a girl he likes back home.\" \n\n(Offnote, Brody already has a boyfriend so he's not trying to sabotage anything.)\n\nI denied that this was the case, but it really stung that I had gotten my hopes up. I told myself I wouldn't look at Alex as the person I liked anymore, but rather as a friend.\n\nHis signals, however, are contradictory to what Brody says... So much so that I am pretty sure Alex doesn't have a girl...or at least, not anymore?? Brody considers Alex a good friend, but I don't know if Alex feels the same because Brody is quite...different (so they're not BEST friends).\n\nIN SHORT,\nI guess what I'm asking, r/relationship_advice, is if it's likely that Alex likes me. I'm not good at reading/understanding body language/signals/whatever.\n\nexample: Brody was driving Alex and I home one night. As I was about to call shotgun, Alex whispered to me to sit in the back with him  to make Brody feel like a chauffeur.\n>Alex: Oh hey, Brody, look, I'm holding her hand.\n\n>Me: what?\n\n>Alex: (reaches for my hand and holds it) Just play along.", "summary": "Girl is really scared to make a move on a boy she can't read."}
{"id": "t3_pnk2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I can't \"like\" girls anymore...how do I fix myself up?", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am a guy, 21 years old, smart, good looking, etc. I wasn't always \"successful*  with women...there was a time where I wasn't getting anything...but I changed that around by putting myself out there.\n\nI can say that I did get my \"heart broken\" by one girl about 1-2 years ago.\n\nI did in a way \"industrialized\" the art of **getting women to like me, and into my bed. To me it has become a simple manufacturing process**, and this is where the problem lies. I can't go back to feeling like a girl is special, unique, etc...because I truly don't believe it. It makes no sense (don't say \"well just make her special\") that's not how it works. Gold is unique because its so rare and has good conductive properties. \n\nI have developed \"methods\" or \"strategies\" to get women to feel attracted to me. As a consequence...I just have no real feelings towards any of them... I have in the past before I started considering myself a \"modern day casanova\"", "summary": "I can't feel that \"magic\" feeling anymore towards any girl...what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21gw7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M, 21] have been missing my ex [F, 18] a lot and I want to talk to her again", "post": "My ex broke up with me in January and lately I've been missing her in every sort of way. I miss being able to talk to her, I miss being able to tell her I love her, I miss how it felt to cuddle with her. I've been feeling lonely no matter who I hang out with. I don't know if I should tell her that I miss her or not. She ha texted me before that she misses me, but that was about a week after the breakup, and now I think it is too late to let her know that I miss her also.", "summary": "should I get back with my ex?"}
{"id": "t3_1kez9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] Are me[19M] and my SO[18F] falling out of love? How do we stay in love?", "post": "My SO and I started dating last October, in College, and things went...well absolutely wonderfully! She's exactly what I want in a person, and more! We had nearly everything in common and we fell in love like that. We were crazy for each other, and spent tons of time together. \n\nWe spent last year together, happy and pretty carefree. Then the summer came. We live in the same state, but over 100 miles apart. We knew it was coming, and we knew distance would be tough. But we thought we would be different, that we'd stay in love.\n\nAnd we did, for the most part. When I came and visited, she admitted that she didn't feel as strongly for me as she did when we were together. I felt the same, and we supposed that was to be expected from spending so much time apart.\n\nFor the two and a half months of summer, our lives pretty well diverged. I was working my office job while she was singing in a musical. She went to parties while I woke up at 5 every day. \n\nBut we survived the summer, and we're back at school now. It's been a little less than a week. But it's not the same. We are spending time together again (as much time as marching band camp allows), but neither of us is falling as deeply in love as we'd hoped. Once band camp finishes, classes will start, and we're worried that we'll just drift even further apart after that...\n\nSo now we're scared. Both of us still love each other, both of us still want to be together. We don't want what we have to end. Have we just fallen completely out of love? What can we do to get it back?", "summary": "SO and I fell madly in love last year, spent the summer very far apart and were less in love. Now that we're together again, we still don't feel the same as before."}
{"id": "t3_l7qru", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Finished my first book 5 years, 10 if you don't count for school assignments.  I kind of enjoyed it...", "post": "I've always been a guy who would rather watch TV and/or play video games with my alone free time.  I recently got back from a vacation on the beach.  During the hot times I spent under the cabana reading and on the plane I was reading, for the first time in about 5 years.  Anyway, my book of choice was The Fall of Giants by Ken Follett.  I thought it was great.  I finished my first book that I read on my own in just under a week.  The previous books I read were always for school assignments.  Actually my last book I read helped select this latest choice, I had to read Pillars of the Earth in one of my history classes.  The last book I read for fun was the Hobbit about 10 years ago.  I feel like i've been missing out for quite a while.  I'm now looking to get into it a bit more.  Are there any other books along these lines that are easy to get into?", "summary": "Finished my first book in 5+ years, looking for suggestions of more"}
{"id": "t3_266q9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(23M) accept that I ruined a relationship with someone great (19F) (1.5yrs). How have you dealt with improving yourself when you realize that you are the one causing your own problems?", "post": "Let's make this short and sweet.\n\nI(23M) broke up with my ex(19F) when I wasn't sure if I felt the same way about her, as she did about me. After a couple of months, I began to regret my decision and came to the realization that almost all of my problems (not just relationship problems) stem from my inability to focus, persist, commit and be secure in myself and be happy with who I am.\n\nI accept my decision. I lost somebody who truly cared about me and hurt them. We are young, time heals. We both care about each other, and feelings are still there. But for the present, we are dealing ok as acquaintances. \n\nMy question: How have you grown and developed yourself after recognizing your own faults after a breakup? I can see a negative pattern in my life and I want to break it.\n\nNot needed, but in following the rules:", "summary": "How have you developed yourself, after realizing YOU were the problem in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_tpg35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend has trust issues, can I salvage us?", "post": "My girlfriend (22F) has trust issues with me (25M), which I think stems from her having an immature way of looking at things. She looks at our issues as a her-versus-me problem rather than a relationship problem like I do.\n\nTo give an example, a long time ago we were out at a bar and she walked off with a strange guy. At the time I considered it a black and white relationship killer, but she explained herself and I took her word for it. I've forgiven and forgotten. She even makes a nice gesture to show she cares about regaining my trust by cutting off contact with her friend she walked off with.\n\nContrast this with an example of something I've done that pissed her off. We are out and some lady asks for directions, I lean forward to see around the corner and point, and my girlfriend takes this as me leaning in closer to her because I want her. I explain myself but she doesn't believe me, practically calling me a liar, prodding me to \"admit it\", telling me I broke her trust, this is why she has trust issues and so on. Telling me that I should know not to do that, that it's common sense, that other people wouldn't treat her like this. \n\nShe completely ignores my point of view, and implies I'm lying constantly. We've had a big talk, and she sees it as something I'm doing wrong, that if I loved her I would know how to behave. I see it as a fundamental lack of trust and/or communication on her part. I would love to say things have gotten better over time (we have been going out 5 months) but it seems to not be improving noticeably.\n\nAnd then there's marriage. She really wants to marry me (when she doesn't want to break up with me). She thinks marriage will improve things between us because I will prove my commitment to her. However I think that things I do to prove my commitment to her, like moving in with her, go unnoticed, and that marriage isn't going to change anything. I think that she will be fine for a month after we get engaged then the trust issues will creep back in, and worse. It needs to be fixed before we get married.", "summary": "I feel like my girlfriend's lack of trust is not improving, and when I tell her this she is defensive, blames it on me, calls me a liar and accuses me of things I haven't done or thought."}
{"id": "t3_2bv0sr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my boyfriend [27m] of 10 years are having problems.", "post": "I have been with my bf for 10 years and he finally proposed! Long story short he turned into a different person and we broke up. \n\nWe got back together and we were working through things but still arguing constantly. Then I messed up and although we never split we were pretty close to it.\n\nLots more arguing ensued and a lot of trying to score points on who hurt the other more started. I spoke to him a few days ago and said we couldn't do that to each other anymore and that we had to move past it and not cast things up anymore. He agreed and said he wants to be with me and wants to make it work.\n\nThere in lies my problem. I spent the last 10 years building a life and a future with him and then it was gone. I do not feel secure just now and he says he wants to be with me. I want more than anything to believe him but I keep getting paranoid.", "summary": "he messed up we broke up, got back together I messed up, didn't break up but I don't know how to feel secure in the relationship anymore."}
{"id": "t3_44qq2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [18 M] found out my soon to be [19 F] girlfriend so going to be moving six hours away from me.", "post": "So just to get started, no we arent dating yet. I was planning on asking her friday night if she would be interested being my valentine. \n\nWe've been texting each other for around three weeks now. I cant get her off my mind, shes all I think about and its effecting my school work. The thing is; shes moving out of state to go to a different college, so even if I do ask her out now, id only have 3-4 months with her to bond.\n\nI have no idea what to do reddit, we're going to a basketball game friday night, and technically that will be our first \"date\" if you can even call it that. Should I ask her to go see a movie or something before valentine's?", "summary": "Me and a girl have been talking for weeks and I felt like we have everything in common, but shes moving out of state to go to a different college."}
{"id": "t3_1khjnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26F] with my BF [31M] of >1 year, I have an embarrassing anxiety-related problem and I am thinking of e-mailing about it", "post": "So I have a REALLY embarrassing and uncomfortable issue related to my anxiety. My BF is trying to be understanding but I haven't been totally open about it because I can't imagine looking him in the eyes and saying what I have to say. I have never told anyone, not even a therapist. It's something I have dealt with on my own for a long time but it was always a confusing and shameful thing. I finally learned what it really is and I want to tell him but I am afraid he's going to think I'm a total weirdo.\n\nIs it so bad if I e-mail him about it instead? I can probably talk about it after, once we get home. But the thought of starting the conversation in person is terrifying. I have been in a weird funk for a couple days and he has noticed that I've been a total space cadet. He knows I have a history of anxiety and he's been asking a lot of questions to try and 'figure it out'. He's trying to help but the only thing that helped so far is learning what's really going on with me (on my own). I have an avoidant anxiety and I'm starting to pull away from our life together.", "summary": "Have a shameful and embarrassing symptom associated with my anxiety. Just learned what it really is. Have been a space cadet lately and BF is asking questions out of concern. Too ashamed to tell him to his face, but I want to tell him. Is e-mailing him to start the conversation a horrible idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3z6wjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 f] rocky relationship between parents and [29m] boyfriend. Been together for 7 months.", "post": "I'm 24 and live on my own with my 2 kids. I am a single mom but in a long distant relationship with my boyfriend who lives in Texas (he's not my girls' father). We had dated prior to this but I ended it because of the distance. He found me randomly on Facebook and we reconnected. Stronger than ever I might add. We're talking marriage and a life together, so things are pretty serious.  \n\nWell anyways, he came to meet my parents and when he came to my parents home, he lightly grabbed my moms shoulder and said his name, \"hi, how are you?\" Etc. She was immediately offended.\n\nEver since then both of my parents have made things extremely difficult. Not trying to get to know my boyfriend and even going as far to call him a pedophile just because they can't figure out why he wants to be with me. Hes 29 and lives on his own, works, and is a great man. He's great to my girls and he treats them as if they were his. \n\nMy parents think it's strange that a man from another state wants to be with a single mother, with 2 young girls. They don't get why he doesn't date where he's at. \n\nI should mention my boyfriend is a bit of an asshole, not to me or my girls. He wasn't rude or an ass to any of my family or my girls' biological dad. After the bad incident he just didn't speak around my family, just to keep the peace. \n\nWhat do you guys think?  Are they being a little crazy or over protective or just mean? My boyfriend has never given me reason to believe he would ever hurt my girls. He's a victim of abuse himself and gets upset when he hears of children being hurt etc.", "summary": "Parents don't like my long distant boyfriend. Accuse him of being a pedophile for no reason whatsoever."}
{"id": "t3_10y7we", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with a mom (45) that has so many pets that it is inhibiting her way of life.", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nMy mom (45) has upwards of 20 cats, 3 dogs, 6 ducks, 6 chickens. She takes good care of them, they're all spayed and neutered. However, she lives in a very small house (that isn't even hers) and continues to take in animals. She drives a lot during her job and often comes across stray animals and takes them in. I (24, F) love animals. I have pets of my own, but it is getting to the point where it is severely inhibiting her life. She can't go on trips, she can barely make the 30 minute drive to spend time with me. I do not like going over there anymore because it is embarrassing to bring my husband to that environment, it smells and it is just too overwhelming emotionally to me. She doesn't like to leave the house and if you do get her out of the house, she is constantly checking the clock to make sure she gets home to her animals.\n\nShe recently found a kitten in a parking lot of a business. I told her I would be happy to help find a home for it and expressed my concern regarding taking in another cat. She will not respond to me and just says, \"We'll see.\" \n\nMy mom has encountered a lot of tragedy in her life, especially in the last few years. It is very obvious she is trying to fill a void.\n\nI am working with a counselor to draft an \"intervention\" letter along with my sister. However, I am at my breaking point. It is severely affecting not only my mom's life, but the life of my family. My mom cannot move into a new house or enjoy events anymore. She is becoming more and more disconnected with reality, her life and the life of her daughters. \n\nI'm ready to cut the cord.\n\nIs there anything I can do? Has anyone else had similar experiences?", "summary": "My mom has too many pets. It is affecting our relationship severely."}
{"id": "t3_lfngz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "18 and losing hair? what kind of doctor should I go see?", "post": "Like I said, I am 18 years old and I have been losing hair for about 2 years now. It is not patchy most of the hair-loss is on the top but evenly spread out. I have been to a dermatologist and had a blood test done which said all of my numbers were in normal range but. I did some research and it turns out a blood test is not conclusive because it is compared to a set of numbers rather than your body's needs. Also there is a list of other things that could be wrong. The dermatologist didn't conclude anything and now it has gotten to the point where it is noticeable. has anyone had a similar problem at such an age? what is the most common cause at such a young age? what might it be? what kind of doctor should I see? answers to any of these questions will be appreciated very much", "summary": "I'm 18. I'm losing hair. what kind of doctor should I see?"}
{"id": "t3_541mpp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by knowing a password", "post": "This happened today. I am a middle schooler, and our 4th period teacher lets us eat lunch in our classroom. A classmate (Let's call him Greg.)had went to buy his lunch, and left his phone in the classroom to charge. Being the genius that I am, I jokingly suggested that we check Greg's search history on his iPhone because I knew his password. My friend takes me up on the offer, and I promptly shit myself, because I didn't actually know his PW. My friend picked up Greg's  phone and handed it to me, and I tried a relatively common password, 0000. And lo and behold, it worked. My friend looked for Safari, and after a minute, concludes that Greg's phone didn't have Safari. My friend got bored and started looking through Greg's texts, at which point I stated that I have nothing to do with this, and walk away. At this point, there are 3-4 people watching us. We heard the doorknob turning, so my friend hit the power button and put the phone back. But for some reason, the power button didn't work, and Greg walked in on my friend dicking with his phone. The resulting conversation is a s follows:\nGreg:What the fuck are you doing with my phone?\nMy friend:(my name) gave me the password!\nMe: I had nothing to do with this!\nGreg:Fuck you! How did you know my PW?\nMe:I don't, I guessed!I'm not the one looking through your texts!\n3-4 people around us:He did nothing.\nClassmate:I really hate him, and I still say he did nothing.\nGreg:*turns to my friend* You were looking through my texts?\nAt this point, the teacher walks in, saving us from becoming murder witnesses.\nMy friend is probably very pissed at me right now, and Greg is probably also pissed, but to a lesser degree. After the lesson is over, Greg requests me to tell my friend that if he does that again, he'll break his fucking neck.", "summary": "Pretended to know a password, had a lucky guess, lost a friend."}
{"id": "t3_39vmb3", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Sick cat should I be worried?", "post": "Hi so my cat Ellie May started out yesterday as pretty lethargic and seemed to be doing a fair bit of sleeping actually found her sleeping on the stairs yesterday which is out of character for her.  She normally sleeps on our bed or at the top of the stairs behind the banister where the dog isn't allowed.  This morning after I let her outside so she could go visit the neighbour I found a spot where she threw up at some point after we went to bed.   The neighbour came over a while later and said that Ellie was acting weird and throwing up and in pain.  So I took her to the vet after that cause I was worried and they did an x-ray and took some blood x-ray came back clean and the blood won't be analysed till sometime tomorrow.  They gave her some shots and gave me some pills for her tomorrow.  And now tonight I found her sleeping/hiding behind out bedroom door and moved her to the bed and she has gone back into hiding under the bed.  Am I over reacting or should I be worried and take her back to the pet hospital?", "summary": "Sick cat took her to the vet got sent home after a few shots and she seems much more lethargic and acting more out of character."}
{"id": "t3_48n8qi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my husband [23M] of 6 months, how do I tell him I want my own bank account?", "post": "OK so I'll be using a throwaway since I got my husband hooked on Reddit and I don't want him to know my main account.\n\nWe have been married for 6 months but we dated for years. My husband comes from an extremely religious background and we were not able to move in together until we got married. I know /r/relationships absolutely hates this but I had to respect my husband's religious beliefs. \n\nWell, when we got married, we got joint bank accounts. We make the exact same amount of money and get paid at the same time  as we work for the same company. I was extremely irresponsible with money when I was right out of high school so my husband handles most of the bills.\n\nWell, my husband has a job on the side and the money that he makes from that he puts in to a separate savings account. I don't really have a problem with this as it's his money and he is able to do with it what he wants.\n\nThe only problem is that sometimes I would like to buy something for myself, like makeup, or a new chew toy for my dog, and my husband gets extremely upset. I don't have money separate from the joint account since I only have one job. So if I want to make a purchase, I have to use our joint account. I really don't like having to \"ask permission\" to spend my own money. And let me make this clear - I don't go crazy and buy things I don't need. I also try and use coupons in combination of shopping while items are on sale. I am *very* frugal compared to how I was when I was younger.\n\nSo, I would like to talk to my husband to let him know that I want to go back to having our own bank accounts. I know he'll be upset, so I was just wondering if anyone could help me. What should I say? Are there any specific points I should bring up? My sister, who has been married for a long time, said that her and her husband had problems when they had a joint bank account and the issues got much better when they went back to having their own accounts.", "summary": "Husband and I have a joint bank account that is causing problems. How can I talk to him about getting separate accounts?"}
{"id": "t3_395qma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M26] and I [F24] are about to be long-distance and I'm scared of our future.", "post": "So I have been dating my current boyfriend for a year and a half and we are about to be long distance (3 hours away) starting mid-july. The basic plan is to be long distance until he graduates with his PhD sometime next year (probably in May). Now, I currently have a job back home and won't be making much (27k) and will be living with my parents. I have a MA degree, but I am currently trying to enter a field unrelated to that degree. Now, onee my boyfriend graduates, he said he would most likely want to get a job in St. Louis or Kansas City (a different state than I'm from). Now, I told him I'm fine with moving wherever he gets a job, but he told me yesterday he didn't plan on being engaged until after we lived together. Now, to me, that's super scary to move to a new city where I may have trouble finding a job and then not even being engaged. He also mentioned he is not worried about me finding a job and we'd figure out finances since he will most likely be making enough to cover both of us and he could \"loan\" me the money in the meantime. Now, I'm not sure what that means. \n\nI guess, this is a year from now, but I'm freaking out a bit about the idea of moving to a new state, not engaged, not being able to find a job in my field easily (I'll have a year experience in it at that point but again, the unrelated degree). Do you have any advice? He mentioned that he's serious about us and sees a future with us but also that he is scared to think about committing his whole life with marriage right now.", "summary": "Dating for a year and a half now, about to be long-distance for a year, freaking out about our future if we end up moving to a new state after he gets a job. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_35kl9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25f) Painful breakup with boyfriend (25m) of 3+ years.", "post": "Hi reddit. \n\nStill in the shock phase of this as our breakup was just yesterday, but been brewing for a long time. He's in the army and spends a lot of time away, I suffer from depression and being alone is not something I would want to do as a parent and so on, trying to raise kids alone -  I'm just not strong enough for that- as the person I am at the moment, anyway. \n\nWe have been together since uni. He's been the longest term boyfriend I've ever had and also the most gentlemanly, charming, generous and patient. \n\nHe says he loves me too and all the evidence supports it. He's always been there for me. At the end of June he's moving a considerably further distance away in the same country, still accessible but with 4 hour journey time. \n\nAnyway, I feel totally stranded as to whether this is t he  right thing for us both. I dread regretting him be the one who got away further down the line but I just don't think I'm cut out for military wife life. \n\nAlso any tips on telling friends (they always always ask me how he is any time I speak to them)  and cutting off the conversation immediately.  I don't want to have to relive telling them 30 odd times.", "summary": "long term relationship, still love each other, breakup because of uncertainty of future, what should I do? And how to tell friends?"}
{"id": "t3_qrp32", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting threatening messages from Ebay buyer, help?", "post": "My dad sold a Kindle Cover for roughly 15 bucks a while ago. It was the old, slightly defected one that sometimes causes the Kindle to turn off/lose battery. In his description, he copied some description of the item of some other site and the description turned out to be that of the new Kindle cover. So this guy buys it, sends it to his friend in Russia. Guy in Russia finds out that it's the old cover, starts complaining about how the item description is false (ok, our fault) and he wants a full compensation for the item and the shipping it cost him to send it to Russia, along with all the fees and refuses to ship the cover back, instead sending images proving that he destroyed it. He finds out we are Russian-speakers as well, starts sending us non-stop emails to our private emails. After some reluctance(we used the cover, it's definitely usable), my dad pays refunds the item. Apparently, my dad missed $1.04 in some extra fees. THIS TIME HE FINDS OUR PRIVATE HOME NUMBER AND CALLS US DIRECTLY. We did not give him our number or any permission to contact us through that number. So my dad pays him the $1.04, but PayPal took off 30 cents, and the guy only got 80 cents. This is the GOOD PART: He sends us an email threatening to send messages describing our \"wrong-doings\" to ALL OUR FACEBOOK FRIENDS AND REAL LIFE NEIGHBORS. What should we do?", "summary": "Guy from Russia buys Kindle cover, not what he wanted, we refund him, miss 24cents, he's threatening to send our facebook friends and real life neighbors a report of our \"wrongdoings\""}
{"id": "t3_4qq5sa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I feel pressured to lose my virginity because I don't want to be labeled a loser by society.", "post": "I am 17, male, and have a libido, and do most of what a regular boy my age would do. The thing is, though I lust over women and think sex would be cool or whatever, but I don't really want to make the effort to try and get some ass, and honestly don't mind, but I feel like if I don't I'll feel like a loser. I just don't want to put effort into courting someone and am pretty indifferent to sex. Do I just lose it for the sake of losing it even though I don't really want to, at least not now, or should I wait since I'm still young?", "summary": "Should I lose it or wait until I really want it if ever?"}
{"id": "t3_34pp31", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and purchased the wrong channel", "post": "Not a throwaway account cause I'm not super embarassed.\n\n\u00a0\n\nObligatory \"this didn't happen today\" but yesterday my buddy was hyping up this big \"Fight of the Century\" thing that was supposed to be going down. Like any good friend, I figured I'd front the bill on the channel and he could just pay me back for it later.\n \n\u00a0\n\nWe must have got the wrong channel though! Don't get me wrong, even though my friend got super depressed I thought it was pretty cool watching some guy run a Nascar-styled marathon, going lap for lap in what had to be the smallest track I've ever seen. They even had to put up ropes to keep the guy in the ring as he raced around! Must have not been enough excitement for regulars though, because believe it or not there was also another guy who just kind of kept punching the runner. To his credit the runner just kept blocking and running - I mean occasionally he threw a punch because who wouldn't ya know? - until he had completed so many laps I'd lost count. I did find it silly that they had to have judges at the end to declare him the winner though, I mean, he **was** the only one running the marathon...\n\n\u00a0\n\nAnyway! Seems my bud didn't find this as cool as I did, since he just sat there with a look of disappointment and kept shaking his head. I'm thinking next time I will have to be way more careful buying stuff on the TV... I doubt my bud is going to pay me back after such a screwup.", "summary": "Must have bought the wrong channel. Even though I found it kind of cool, I don't think my friend will be paying me back for it."}
{"id": "t3_1v3e3r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "25/M (bi) Am I friend-zoning my co-worker?", "post": "So, I am bi, but I'm not necessarily out to everyone. If someone asks me, I'll tell them or confirm it, but not many people ask that kind of thing so not many people know.\n\nMy co-worker found my okcupid profile, and he is bi too, and he completely changed the instant he found out. He started inviting me over to his house, asking me what I'm doing after work, being super touchy at work, making or bringing me presents, etc. Problem is, I'm not interested, he does coke and drinks way too much. If those two things didn't happen, I might have considered it, but because of that I think of him as just a good friend. \n\nThis is where I have my question: My roommate says that by not telling my co-worker exactly where he stands I'm friend-zoning him. In order for our friendship to continue I have to sit him down, acknowledge that he's into me, tell him I'm not into him, maybe even tell him why, and then the friendship can continue.\n\nI say fuck that two ways to Sunday, people aren't stupid, if this guy can't pick up the multiple MULTIPLE hints that I've dropped that I'm not into him,  that's his fucking problem, not mine. If I was down to bone, we would have boned down by now, or at the very least gone on some obvious dates. Though I feel that all communication is excellent,  the above communication just sounds torturous and horrible for both parties. Who is right?", "summary": "Co-worker wants to bone, I don't want to bone, Roommate says I'm friend-zoning, I say friend-zoning is fucking bullshit."}
{"id": "t3_2gev3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [19F] 2 months Let's be friends.", "post": "Not sure if this is the best to ask. I've know this girl for about 5 months, but we dated almost 2 months ago.\n\nIt's her first relationship. We really missed each other when I had to go on vacation with family for 2 weeks (this was about 2 weeks after we had officially started dating). We kept talking about how we could see each other and do a lot before school started again. When I came back, she had a lot of plans with friends already, so we didn't really get to go out. In this relationship of about 2 months, we only had 3 dates, where we would go out together, with 2 other occasions being out with my friends also.\n\nI felt like our relationship began to stagnate, with not much time available to go out as much during school. She broke up with me 2 days ago. She said she sees me more as a friend.\n\nI've been crying these past 2 days, I'm unsure why I am so affected. I really felt like she did like me, she treated me really well. I really regret going on vacation, we missed out a lot of time in our young relationship.\n\nOr perhaps we burnt it out, as I talked to her every single day.\n\nHelp please, it hurts, I keep thinking back, and I cry.\n\nIs there anything I can do? She still wants to really be friends, she likes my company, and yet... I'd feel really bad because I still love her, but I really like her as a best friend on top of that.", "summary": "Dating girl almost 2 months, 2 weeks into young relationship I go on vacation for 2 weeks, we talk of plans to see each other when I come back, but school starts a few days after I come back, we couldn't follow through with plans. Drifted a part a bit with only 3 dates this whole time. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3h26dt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M23] gf [F22] is going on a day trip with a male coworker, I trust her but I'm still bothered by it. Have you been in a situation like this with your SO? What do you do?", "post": "My gf is working abroad right now. I trust my gf 100% not to do anything. I'm just bothered, almost jealous, that she is going with this male coworker. \n\nShe has been to a few new cities and is exploring the surrounding areas. She was supposed to go on an overnight trip with a group but most of them bailed. So her and this coworker plan to do a day trip to a different city. \n\nShe asked me and I said its fine, I trust her after all. But in reality, I'm bothered by this. I just don't want to become a jealous, controlling partner that restricts her freedom. I have a feeling I'm just really paranoid/self conscious that I get jealous. Is this correct? \n\nI should add that this particular male coworker has invited her out to activities before (one on one).\n\nHave you been in a situation like this before? How did you handle it? What do you think I should do?", "summary": "gf is going on a day trip with a male coworker. I'm jealous and don't think I should be. Looking for insight on how to properly handle this situation."}
{"id": "t3_sp44q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How far does a 3.3 gpa take you (business degree)?", "post": "Well to be honest my CGPA is alot lower than that but the last two semesters before this one I was doing pretty well had a 3.1 and 3.6. That was my third year. I was away on an 8 month internship and am back in school to do my last two semesters and it seems like this semester may not be that great. \n\nI decided to take 6 courses instead of 5 and that will bite me in the ass as the class I decided not to drop was my toughest final and I'm sure I'll end up with a 60 in that class at best; potentially 50's. My finance course an exam I went into with a 90 I somehow received a 71 in the course (not sure wtf happened; there could have been a mistake on the final as I dont think I got a 52% on the exam - I will have to look into it but for now I'll assume I did do bad)\n\nThe other four courses, one is a pass/fail class and the other ones I'm guessing I will get 80's and high 70's in. My guess at my GPA for this semester is a 2.8 to 2.9 at best. More likely 2.9.\n\nThing is after this semester I'll be done my toughest courses and I think I can once again get a 3.6-3.7 gpa; which would raise my 4th year average to a 3.3.\n\nHere in Canada when applying to MBA schools they look at your GPA from your final two years and if I have an average of 3.3; would that be enough to get in to a decent school and what would employers think?\n\nI've got fairly decent experience through my internships and do intend to get an accounting designation (CMA) but for the time being when I do graduate will be considered average or above average? \n\nIf the school you went to means anything, I went to a fairly reputable one and will graduate with a business degree with a major in accounting.", "summary": "Will be graduating with a final two year GPA average of roughly 3.3 from a Canadian university with a bachelors degree in business. I also have 12 months of internship experience. How impressive will I be out in the real world **and** when I apply to various schools to do my MBA?"}
{"id": "t3_1gegqe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I(26f) over-reacting towards (21m)", "post": "My boyfriend slept over his uncles (who's in jail btw) girlfriends house last night. He refused to come home and this really bothered and upset me dearly. She is about 30 years old and very beautiful. He has even admitted to me about having a crush on her when he was younger (her and his uncle have been together 12+ years).\n\nWhen I suggested to him that it's weird to me, he got angry at me even suggesting such a thing, but honestly- how can I not? We have been dating since Oct. 2011 and living together since Jan. 2012. We spend majority of our time together and have probably slept apart about 5 days since the entire time we have been together. This is all so strange to me and I'm having a hard time understanding why he didn't come home last night. He hasn't even texted/called me since and I know he's awake because he had work at 930am.", "summary": "Boyfriend refused to come home last night, am I over-reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_1q9j6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20F] deal with my bf's [21 M] horrible sleeping habits?", "post": "We haven't been dating too long, a couple of months, but we both see a future together. We click insanely well, but his sleeping habits are terrible. He doesn't go to bed until 5am most nights and won't wake up until 3pm the next day. It makes it extremely hard to plan anything before 3. I work really early in the morning and have to be up by 5:30am if we end up hanging out after I get off work he usually wants to stay out late and I am just so physically exhausted by the end. On days I don't work he tells me to call him to wake him up so we can hang out. I usually wait until 12:30ish to call because I know any earlier would just not happen. I have to call multiple times to actually wake him up and it makes me feel like a crazy girlfriend even though he told me the night before to do it. I finally woke him up and he told me \"okay, i'll text you when I leave\" only to realize he went back to sleep. I'm seriously bummed that I wasted half my day off just waiting around for him. He's extremely apologetic and doesn't mean to do these things, he just doesn't actively try to fix it. He left his house now, but it's 3:30 and I've been waiting and ready for so long I don't really feel like going out.", "summary": "my boyfriend is a cat"}
{"id": "t3_112rta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I give my Gf [F/19] space and make her regret asking me [M/20]", "post": "Apologies beforehand if this is an immature question.\n\nSo my gf [19] (been together for almost 3 years), her sister [18], a friend [F/20] and me [20] are going to a music festival. I have this problem that whenever we go to places, I'm always on top of her, as in almost glued to her. She asked me if I can giver her space tomorrow so she can hang out with her sister and her friend and I said of course, because that's what a good bf does right? \n\nAnyways, I do plan on giving her space but I want to know if there is a way to make her regret saying that so she can be stuck on me. It is a little hard to put into words but I just want her to no give me space, basically. Does the \"avoid her\" trick work in this situation? I just want her to be annoying and glued to me. Apologies beforehand if this is an immature question.", "summary": "After asking for her space, I want my gf to regret it and stay next to me, how can I accomplish this?"}
{"id": "t3_hbkor", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where should I travel? I have 6-8 weeks before I start my job and need suggestions!", "post": "I just got a job a week or so ago, and I won't be starting for another 2 months or so. I'll be traveling alone, and am looking at either hostels, camping, or couchsurfing. My budget is pretty flexible, but I'd rather not do touristy things and just get a feel for some different cultures. Here are a couple details...\n\n1) Im from the US, and I'd probably rather not travel within the US. If I did, it would be a long camping/hiking trip. But Im looking at places outside of this country.\n\n2) Ive spent time in Western Europe, so I'd rather not go back there.\n\n3) I dont like \"touristy\" activities too much. I'd like to spend as much time outdoors as possible.\n\n4) I'm looking to not only see places, but more importantly understand another culture. I know this will take more than a week stop in an area, so I wouldnt be opposed to spending the duration of the time renting an apartment in a single location.\n\n5) No, Im not traveling to Libya/Syria/Egypt/Iran.\n\nIll do my best to respond to any suggestions with my input. Im really just looking for ideas, but Im set on doing something with the next 2 free months of my life. Ill definitely be traveling somewhere!\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Suggest place to travel for 8 weeks outside of US."}
{"id": "t3_3e1e61", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hate to choose", "post": "I've [22/m] been dating this girl [20/f] for 9 months now. She's amazing, and when I'm with her I'm the happiest I've been since I can remember. I feel that sense of wonder when I'm with her, like I'm a kid again and the world is full of excitement and possibilities as long as we go through it together. \n\nRecently I co-founded a startup with my team in another country. I'm here now, talking to investors and getting things in place to launch soon, and it's going well. The original plan was for me to be here for a few months until everything's ready. Only problem is that I recently realized if this is going to be successful I can't just stay for a short time. I have skills that are needed for this company to not just launch, but to be profitable. It looks like I will need to be here for at least one year, if not two.\n\nMy fear is that she can't wait that long for me. We're both very young, and I would understand if she doesn't want to waste a year or two of her life waiting for me to return. She's in college and she's brilliant, and I fear two years is too long for her if I only get to see her a few times a year as I am half way around the world working 60 hours a week. I own a significant portion of my company and once we are launched my salary is projected to be in the 6 figures. I want to be back with her, but I'm also very passionate about my company and I feel like I owe it to my team, my parents, and my career to stick it out. I know what I have to do, which is just tell her, and ask her, there's no way around that obviously. I guess my question is how should I approach it? Am I even making the right decision? Will I regret either decision down the road? Thanks, guys.", "summary": "Career or love?"}
{"id": "t3_182ua1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got 350$ stolen out of my dorm. What do I do?", "post": "So this morning I woke up at 10 am. I looked into my drawer where I had hidden 350$ under some books and whatnot. I looked everywhere and I'm certain that they are gone. Now, I know my roommate didn't do it, for several reasons. \n\nI live in a 2 story apartment style building. I know all the people on the top floor. Now on the bottom floor I don't know everyone that well. I do have a suspicion, namely of a girl who has been lurking around from time to time. Now reddit, my question is how do I ask around for who could have possibly done it? I don't want to accuse anyone and on the other hand I would like my money back as well. I reported it to the police already but that doesn't help much.\n\nReddit, what are your thoughts? What should I do? How should I ask? Or should I ask at all?", "summary": "Got 350$ stolen out of my desk in my dorm. What would you do, what do you suggest?"}
{"id": "t3_3r56b3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] had sex with my mom's[39] best friend [F35ish]", "post": "My mom met her through work and they hang out all the time. which is great since my mom is a little bit lonely at times since my dad is gone and she broke up with her boyfriend a few years ago. i still live at home because dorms suck and rent is crazy expensive where i live.\n\nMy mom asked me if i could help her friend set up wifi in her new house. no problem i thought, i would be happy to. i expected her to leave me alone to do it but she kept asking me how school was, if i had a girlfriend and if i was a virgin. it was a little bit awkward but she is pretty attractive and talking about sex with an attractive woman is so tempting so i was really into it. not to go into details that much but we had sex a few times that day and i have continued to go over to her house for sex. \n\nI feel terrible because if my mom knew she would be so embarassed but also because this woman has a husband. i have met him and i feel so ashamed when i see him. he must suspect something by now, like how can he not understand what i am doing? does he know? i don't know but i feel terrible.\n\nShould i tell my mom? i tell myself i should stop going over but then i get aroused and i do it again. its like fuuuck why do i keep doing this?", "summary": "I have had sex with my mom's best friend. she has a husband. how do i stop?"}
{"id": "t3_350pw9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A regular customer [m35] came into my [m22] work talking about suicide. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I work in a small coffee / gelato store and have a core group of regulars I talk to on a daily basis. I know a lot about most of them due to down time and just general conversation.\n\n Two weeks ago one of the regulars John Doe came in and we started talking. Something was seriously off as he told me he has A.D.D and started talking about how hard it is for him to cope. He then started getting really weird asking about anxiety and if I had ADD would I kill myself. He kept saying he doesnt know what to do and is planning a cross country move after his wedding to start a family. \n\nThe owner came up afterwards and we talked the three of us and John left. Last week he came in with his family, and something was seriously off. He looked so depressed and he wasn't talking of laughing like I know him to be and his sister wasn't really paying attention to him.\n\nHe looked like he was gonna cry any second. They left but I couldn't shake the feeling that I think he's gonna do something. Today at work my manger informed me John came in and was talking about how a women killed her self by jumping out of her condo into the water. \n\nI don't want to with hold this information from anyone but I don't know who I can reach out and tell. what do you suggest I do? Need some serious help cause I think hes crying for help.", "summary": "Regular customer was talking about suicide. I can't shake the feeling it's a cry for help, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3td3gt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to catch up with a friend.", "post": "About a year ago I had a friend who I was essentially dating. We would go out all the time, study together, constantly text each other, and kiss/cuddle. That was it, and it didn't really last that long. When we stopped doing that she grew very distant. Eventually a few mutual friends dropped me from Facebook, so I just told her she needs to not talk about me to other people, because it seemed rude to me.\n\nFast-forward about a year and I catch her somewhere. I go up, say \"Hi\" and very briefly tell her how things are going in my life. I guess that was a huge mistake because now I'm being required to talk to the Title IX coordinator. I have no idea why this should even be possible, but I'm really scared about this. \n\nSo you know, the accusation, if it even truly is an accusation, has very little ground - I have a girlfriend ffs.", "summary": "I'm male."}
{"id": "t3_31wp6k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping the soap in my 8th grade english class", "post": "It started off as a regular ass middle school day about four years ago. Boring as fuck. And ADHD me was looking for some crazy shit to do (like normal). \"Today we're doing vocabulary skits class\" says my old ass fucking hag teacher that yells way too loud for no fucking reason. I team up with my buddy who loves weed and we agree we are going to be the best fucking actors the world has ever seen. Our word we are going to act out is \"vulnerable.\" We decide that we definitely need some prison rape joke so I write \"soap\" on a small, square piece of paper and he gets his hoody on. When we're called up, not gonna lie we were pretty nervous, we walk up with the swagger of fucking kings even though we were semi shitting our pants. \"ANNNNDDDD ACTION\" yells our disgusting leathery old bitch english teacher (extremely too loud). I proudly present my piece of paper that says \"soap\" on it and we begin. I drop the soap in front of me and say \"Oh noooo I dropped my soap ;)\" and I kid you fucking not the entire class was silent as a fucking funeral procession minus the sobbing relatives. My friend walks in behind me and says \"Hey, Bamfb\" while I'm bent over and it was in the creepiest, most black man sounding voice ever. We're supposed to call on one of our classmates to guess the word so we point to the only person with his arm in the air; a fat-ass, dumb, fuck-head Mexican kid that says \"is it vulnerable?\" in a quiet little Mexican voice. The entire class erupted into laughter and shrieks and squeals. Our teacher looked at us like she wanted to rip us into fucking pieces and screamed at everyone to shut the fuck up. Long story short, we got in-school suspension for a day and a referral and I'm guessing she called our parents. When I got home I told my parents and they fucking congratulated me with tears in their eyes. You can decide whether it was from crying in happiness or laughing. End of the day, I'm a fucking champion and I hope my soap dropping legacy lives on through that teacher forever.", "summary": "I dropped my soap and didn't get fucked in the ass."}
{"id": "t3_18q3cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf (18) and I (18) are scared religion may come between us.", "post": "(We've been together for almost a year). We've been in a long distance relationship since the start of this school year and things have been going even better than we had expected. Her school has a very active Jewish community while mine is much smaller. She has been actively Jewish her entire life and has become even more so at school. I was raised a similar way and have also become more active, just not to the same degree. We're both afraid that our differing degrees of observance will come between us in the long run, even though we have each on separate occasions expressed our concerns and that we want to make it work. Should I be concerned? Is there anyone else who has had a similar experience with advice? Thanks!", "summary": "Gf and I individually worried religion will come between us. Is it good that we both clearly care or bad that it may become an issue?"}
{"id": "t3_235785", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my second mom/aunt [51F]- she's not coping with stress and is spiralling downward. What do I do?", "post": "My aunt's house flooded in January and ruined some recent, expensive kitchen renovations. She was very upset at the time (reasonable) but the insurance company is fixing everything and the repairs are well underway (it should be back to normal in a month). \n\nMy aunt however, seems to be having a hard time moving on from this incident. We used to talk on the phone everyday but I've since had to back off. She won't talk about anything else other than her house and how she's so depressed about it. She keeps asking \"why do bad things happen to good people\"- it's like someone died. She's stress eating and stopped exercising. She sits at home all day and thinks about her house (she hasn't worked for 15 years despite being highly educated). She told me she has nightmares about her kitchen. \n\nShe's usually upset about something (i.e. she's always complaining she's gained twenty five pounds and has very low self esteem). I feel that she's gotten a lot worse in the last few months though. \n\nMy family is VERY non-confrontational and my mom/other aunt/sister don't think its appropriate to talk to her about it. Plus, my aunt doesn't have a great history of dealing with criticism/suggestions about her life.\n\nI'm worried about her and I want her to feel better. She always says I'm her \"go to person\" but I can't deal with all of her stress plus my own. I tried to be understanding at first but after three months it was too much. I don't want to sacrifice our relationship but something needs to change. She lives far away from me so I can't talk to her in person. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My aunt is having a hard time moving on from a stressful experience and is spiralling downward. Historically she does not take advice well so how do I deal with this/help her deal with this without sacrificing our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1js8yh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (27M) is MUCH smarter than me (28F). (1 year)", "post": "Does anyone have advice on how to deal with a boyfriend who's much more sophisticated and smarter than you?  He likes to watch TED talks.  I like to watch HIMYM.  He likes to talk about politics.  I like to talk about soccer.  He idolizes Neil DeGrasse Tyson.  I idolize Ellen Page. It probably sounds like our relationship sucks but it's actually pretty amazing.  Ever since I moved in (about a month ago), he's been showering me with love and affection.  I know he doesn't really like watching the TV shows I'm into but he still watches my shows with me.  I really want to try to get into the stuff he likes but most of it is way over my head.", "summary": "I need help dealing with a boyfriend who's much smarter than me."}
{"id": "t3_24o1y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "in a relationship someone who suffers from depression. putting stess on my happiness. is this a healthy relationship?", "post": "I (M17) am in a relationship with my GF (F17). We have been dating for 2 years. Over time her emtional and mental issues have become more apparent. She has horrible self confidence issues, horrible mother/daughter relationship, and lots of other Type-A depression symptoms. Obviously this puts stress on me. I try to make her happy, tell her she beautiful, everything you can do. And none of it helps. She is very unloving and self centered concerning her own issues.\nDESPITE all of this: I love her. I really do. When she is happy she is amazing. \nAnd I want to help and be there for her more than anything.\n\nThe question is: is it healthy for me to be in a relationship with a person who suffers from depression?", "summary": "When it gets down to it, is it Healthy to be in a relationship with someone who suffers from depression( especially at the age of 17). Even if you are in love, where do you draw the line?"}
{"id": "t3_1kvqwu", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Just moved from a house into a studio. Concerned about my cat", "post": "So I just moved Tuesday from a house with 4 people (who kept letting him outside when there's a highway in front of my house) and a German Shepard to a studio apartment, just him and I. Some background, he's a rescue from Georgia, now in New York and has probably been in I'm estimating three different homes in his one year of life before settling with me since November. He has asthma and is about a year and four months old now. \n\nI started packing up boxes Sunday/Monday, and moved him in Tuesday night. He seems a little sketched and tries to get out a lot but that's to be expected. What scared(s) me he's running all over the place, chasing after things I can't see and wearing himself out to the point that he's panting mouth open (is that normal for cats?) he also has been stalking, pouncing, and scratching me much more often than usual, and is acting fairly strange all together. \n\nIs there anything I can do to make him feel more at home? More toys? Another cat tree? Another cat is out of the question unfortunately.", "summary": "just moved, cat seems put off and kind of uncomfortable"}
{"id": "t3_1yp6rl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [21/M] Her [22W]. What should i do next?", "post": "I was invited to her birthday yesterday and made out with her. \n\nShe eventually had to return to the party but we came back to the garage a couple of times but not more than making out but it was clear what she was going for (said i would sleep at her place) i was up for it to and she knew.\n\nProblem is it started getting late and like 6 people didnt leave the party even after 5:00 in the morning.She certainly couldnt just leave her own party at her house. I called a cab and drove home and told her i would call her she agreed that its probly the best since they wouldnt leave very soon.\n\nI feel bad for what i have done there but all my friends had left and the remaining people were mehhh so i was waiting for around 3hours for them to leave while making out with her every now and then.She went with me to the cab and gave me a kiss on the cheeks but i am sure i would have gotten more if we both werent so suprised that the cab was already there. Some more backstory : We know each other from school and from what i know from yesterday she is into me since last year.\n\nThe reason i am here : What should i do? I believe calling isnt the best idea right now so ill stick with a message.\n\nImportant :I am german. We were both really drunk.", "summary": "overthinking."}
{"id": "t3_4lnzho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21F) really good friends with my boyfriend (22M) of 3.5 years's friends...is this unhealthy?", "post": "I'm a senior in college and my boyfriend, Eli has already graduated. We began dating in high school, were long distance for 2 years and have (IMO) a very healthy relationship. I live on my own and he lives about 15 minutes away. He spends a fair amount of weekends at my apartment, but we're both very social people. \n\nI want to make it clear that I have my own set of friends made up of both guys and girls; Eli and I went to seperate universities and have very different hobbies but jealousy has honestly never been an issue between us. \n\nMy social circle is generally friendly with him and he is mostly welcome to birthdays/house parties/organization events but I would honestly go so far to say that I'm about as close to *his* friends as I am to my own. I hang out with them without him, we have our own sets of inside jokes, we tag each other in funny memes, etc...I don't disclose any personal relationship issues that my boyfriend would be uncomfortable with me sharing or anything like that, \n\nThis has really only become a \"concern\" because on Thursday night, Eli's best friend Cal came into town and the group of 4 had a night out and walked back to my apartment after (I live very close to the nightlife here and willingly serve as the common crash pad). One of the guys complained yesterday about the whole gang not being together- confused, I pointed out that they all went out Thursday. Everyone commented that it wasn't *really* the whole group because I stayed home with a migraine. \n\nI know it might seem like a non-issue but I'm a little concerned that perhaps I'm too wrapped up in his friends? I love my boyfriend and see myself with him for the rest of my life but I absolutely want the both of us to maintain our individuality . I worry that being so close to his friends might make me co-dependent later on.", "summary": "I'm really close with my boyfriend's friends and am concerned about losing my individuality."}
{"id": "t3_28jkr7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [21F] of 6 years wants some time for herself. Not sure if this is just delaying the inevitable.", "post": "Some backstory here.\n\nWe are high school sweethearts and have both grown and changed a lot in our twenties. We've had two major breakups, once due to her suffering from anorexia which put too much pressure on our relationship, and once because I thought I didn't love her any more. Ironically, the latter situation is now repeating itself the other way around.\n\nIt is obvious that we have some serious problems in our relationship; I am less outgoing and more introvert, and she has developed herself to be an extrovert. In a typical night I am playing some computer games while she is in a pub or having friends over at our place.\n\nWe've talked a lot lately about how we can fix this. My initial thought was that we needed to spend more time together, so that we are actually living in each other's life, in stead of it feeling almost like we were roommates. Last night she told me that she needed to put some physical distance between us, so that she can make sure that she still.. loves me or wants me.\n\nNow if that is what it takes, I will gladly do so. I am however concerned that I'm just delaying the inevitable. Is spending time apart a solution to anything? My instinct tells me that we need to spend *more* time, not less. Yet she says that she wants to make the time we spend together more \"special\".\n\nIf you guys could give me an objective view of this issue, it would help me a lot. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to spent some time apart from me. Could this actually help or is it delaying the inevitable?"}
{"id": "t3_2ealj6", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Laugh or cry? F-InLaws want to change rehearsal dinner location. 2 weeks out.", "post": "So the long and the short of it is that FH and I have a favorite Greek restaurant that we've selected as our rehearsal dinner location. It's absolutely perfect because it's incredibly convenient location-wise, it's much cheaper than the other alternatives in town, and it's very 'us'.\n\nFH did ALL of the planning for the rehearsal dinner, it's one of the few things I tasked him with. Done and done. Details have been wrapped up for weeks, invites were sent this week.\n\nFH visits his parents this week, and they drop the bomb that they'd like to move rehearsal dinner locations to a (dumpy) super club nearby, because they are not comfortable with Greek food. \n\nSome background about them and why this is an issue. They are incredibly conservative and sheltered people, and they do not go out of their way to try or experience new things. \n\nWe knew that this would be an issue, so FH made sure that there would be menu items that would be more Americanized -- a cheeseburger, a grilled chicken breast dish, etc.\n\nEssentially FH did all the planning, but they are paying for it. Everyone already has the details for the dinner, I would need to reconnect with my entire wedding party.\n\nShould we switch locations to make them happy?", "summary": "Future in-laws don't like our rehearsal dinner choice, they are paying, should we switch?"}
{"id": "t3_1biby4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Right, I think I have something to go on here.*UPDATE*", "post": "Right, the details are in the link, I'll be brief.\n\nAsked her out after she confessed she had feelings for me on Thursday\n\nTalk pretty much non-stop until Saturday\n\nWent out on Saturday, it was fun. I'm sure she enjoyed herself.\n\nWe talk on Saturday night, she goes to bed unusually early.\n\nText her on Sunday night, no response\n\nMonday, nothing.\n\nTuesday afternoon, I need to talk to her about arrangements we have with mutual friends tonight. She's been posting random stuff on Facebook and Twitter throughout the weekend but still hasn't got back to me. Should I be worried?", "summary": "She isn't getting back to me, we've spoke every day for about 3 weeks, am I paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_125x9r", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Confused about my (18, f) relationship with one of my best friends (19, m).", "post": "Over the past few years him and I have gotten very close. We tell everything to each other- things that other people don't know- and talk for hours every day. We trust each other whole-heartedly and we seem to genuinely care about each other, and we also are great at making each other laugh. He's a great guy but way out of my league (much better looking, more popular and smart, could get anyone he wants), so I never thought he would have any feelings for me so I never even considered having feelings for him.\n\nIn the past few months, though, he has been calling me \"babe\" a lot (something he has never done before) and has said many times half jokingly/half serious that he would want to sleep with me and has also complimented my looks pretty frequently. I have been seeing someone new also who he really does not like and keeps trying to convince me I could do better and that I should get rid of him. He's not the type of guy to want a FWB relationship so I don't think he's looking for that. I'm honestly just confused about this, any thoughts? Why would he suddenly start acting differently toward me after so long of having just a purely platonic relationship? Could this be him having feelings for me or am I just looking too much into it? Thank you for the help, I am very confused.", "summary": "my good friend has recently started acting a little more than that, what could be going on here?"}
{"id": "t3_gw4vr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm black, she's white (from Europe)... parents are slightly racist. What do I do?", "post": "So I've been talking to a girl (Eastern European)for about three months now and we're both 19. It's starting to get rather serious but before we started talking she warned me that her parents (father especially) would disapprove of her dating outside her ethnicity. She also said that she'd probably have to keep it (the relationship) a secret from her parents. It didn't really phase me at the time because of how early the stage of the \"relationship\" between the two of us was, how ever now it is really bugging me. I think the only thing preventing me from asking her out is the situation with her parents. I'm worried that if I do start dating her, I wouldn't want it to be a secret from her parents. But on the other hand I wouldn't know how to go about meeting them knowing that they would disapprove of me anyways.", "summary": "Both 19, I'm black & she is white. Aren't dating but are seriously talking, but her parents are racist and would disapprove of me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_26o57x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24 F with my BF 27 M together for two years, wondering if I can trust him.", "post": "A few months ago, he told me to my face that he lives his life \" using people to get what he wants\" in a discussion about why we have various friends/family members in our lives. This is NOT how I live my life or conduct my relationships and I find this almost sociopathic.\n\nThis morning it came out that his new roommate, Ted, had a girl over the night before but Ted is not single and apparently has two girlfriends who don't know about each other. While explaining this to me, my boyfriend started laughing at that in a strange kind of glee that I couldn't really read. I responded by remarking how irresponsible and how fucked up it was. I reversed the genders and asked him if it was fucked up. After that he admitted it was fucked up and then pressed me not to say anything to the roommate's girlfriends. Again I find it really disturbing that he thought so little of his friend deeply betraying the women in his life and was only brought down to earth when I presented the same scenario with the genders reversed. \n\nI don't think it is my place to say anything to the roommates poor girlfriends. \n\nBut his reactions to both situations really worry me because I take this relationship seriously and it doesn't really sound like he takes relationships in general seriously (first quote) and especially romantic ones (the second story). Does anyone have any advice or guidance on how to tell how he actually regards our relationship-can I trust him-is this an equal partnership or is it a manipulative one-sided partnership? I don't want to invest more time an energy into a relationship if it's not for real.", "summary": "The major issue is that these two incidents demonstrate a pattern of thinking that I find disturbing-how can I know that I can trust my boyfriend? and how can I tell if he does regard our relationship as an equal give and take or not?"}
{"id": "t3_4je3dv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 F] for 3 years, I found LSD with him, and he claims he is \"holding it for a friend\"", "post": "Me and my boyfriend tell each other literally everything, or so I thought up until today. \n\nSo because I'm going through finals right now, I asked my boyfriend if I could have some of the Adderral that he left at his house before we went back to school (he goes to university about an hour away and lives at an apartment near campus). No problem, he said he would have his sister drop one off at my house. She brings it and I go inside, and I notice inside the small baggie along with the Adderral pill, is a very small white square. I knew it was some kind of drug but I wasn't sure which. \n\nI called my boyfriend and asked him what it was. He laughed nervously and told me not to take it. As I tried to pry, he just kept telling me not to take it. Finally he admitted that it was acid, and that he is holding it for his friend. I just don't buy it. That is literally the oldest excuse in the book when it comes to drugs. Why would your friend need you to hold LSD for him? When I told him I'm going to throw it away because I don't want acid in my house, he got upset and told me not to. \n\nI'm just so upset that it is possible he is doing these types of drugs and not even telling me. He has asked me before what I would think if he took acid or mushrooms, and I told him that while I am not a fan (yes I know I'm a prude) I would not stop him. I would just like to know that he is doing it and I want to be assured that he is in a safe environment. \n\nHe didn't even care that I was audibly upset when he hung up. Am I overreacting?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Accidentally found LSD that came from my boyfriend, he claims he is holding it for a friend and I don't believe him."}
{"id": "t3_1u5kef", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/M] want to tell my SO [23/F] that i love her and might have a golden opportunity to prove it to her.", "post": "We've been dating for about 11 months now and been friends for 18. She accidentally told me that she loved me a few weeks ago while having sex and i wasnt sure i was ready to repeat it back to her. All i said was \"thanks sweetie, that means alot to me\". I could tell she was expecting a different response but didnt know how to fix it. She is currently visiting her family and we will be reunited next week (total of 2 weeks without physical contact). I want to make her feel special and tell her that i love her. I am planning on cooking dinner before i leave to the airport so that it is ready when we get back. I am going to leave rose petals from the front door to the kitchen to the bedroom. And in her bed i am going to leave a tiny babydoll set i purchased that i think she will enjoy. I want to have a candle lit dinner at her place, then head to the bedroom for some lovin. I want to tell her that i love her mid coitus. I am not sure if she is going to like it or if it is too cliche. Any advice on this evening?", "summary": "GF and i will be reunited after spending two weeks apart, i have a candlelit dinner, roses, and sexy lingerie planned for our evening. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4xo4i3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Guilt about losing weight again after gaining most the weight I lost a couple years ago back", "post": "Hello again everyone, I was wondering if anyone has had the guilt that comes with losing weight again after having lost a bunch before only to gain half it back. My story is in 2013 I went from 285 to 215 and then in 2014 I moved in with my then girlfriend, started my career, and finally got married which I ended up putting my diet on the back burner during all that time which eventually led me back into binge eating habits. I got to 256 before I finally saw a picture of me and was disgusted at myself. I'm back on track, lost 21lbs but I feel some guilt like if I tell someone I've lost weight, in my head I'm thinking \"I mean I lost this weight before, just back at it again...\" and while I'm not allowing the guilt to take over and screw up my progress, it just sucks to know that had I kept going I was only 15lbs from my goal weight back then. On the bright side, losing weight again has led to me being more organized in every other aspect in my life from better time management, to even allowing me to focus on studying to further my career. I just want to end off on letting you guys all know that your stories in here are super inspirational, and I come in here at least once a day to keep reading them because it helps to remind me that even at my weakest points, that others have fought much harder battles than I'll ever know. Thanks Loseit community.", "summary": "Lost a bunch of weight in 2013, gained half back over the last 3 years. Feel guilty about having to start over again."}
{"id": "t3_4cc5v6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Has anyone been successful at claiming the entire amount of their premium tax credit that they did not use during 2015?", "post": "I was eligible for a premium tax credit for 2015 but I did not use it because at the time I did not know what it was and just paid the monthly health insurance premium out of pocket. Apparently in order to file my taxes and claim the tax credit I need the 1095-A form. I called the marketplace 2/29 because I had not received anything from them. They told me that they created an escalation and that they will populate it. I waited and waited and did not get anything back so I called again 3/14, They told me that it was not ready and that it can take up to a month. I called today 3/28 and at first told me it has not been a month and then told me that they actually don't know how long it can take after I asked them. Excuse me? how do they not know that? I asked if it will be ready before or at least by April 15th so I can file my taxes and all they kept saying is that they don't know. HOW!???? Then they told me that I can call the IRS and find out what I can do after I asked them that. I'm sorry, but no. They should have those answers readily available to someone in my case. They want to to waste another house of my life to find answers that they should be telling me. I asked them how they can not know all this information? It's not like I have to option to not file my taxes... so I'm just curious to see if someone has been able to successfully claim the premium tax credit that they were eligible for but decided not to use it when filing your taxes this year.", "summary": "Healthcare.gov is a joke. Curious to see if someone was able to claim the premium tax credit that they were eligible for but decided not to use it when filing your taxes this year with a problem. "}
{"id": "t3_25t98r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] saw the girl I'm seeing[20/F] go upstairs for platonic cuddling with a guy [20/M] while I stayed downstairs as a third wheel.", "post": "Hello Hello.\n\nThis is my first female-female relationship-esque. We realized we were both into each other at Steve Aoki which led to sleepovers/cuddles, relationship conversations X Y Z. This has been going on for less than a month.\n\nEverything was good (some minor red flags but nothing I can't overlook since a 0.7 can round to the 1) we drove 6 hours together back to our city from our hometown. We held hands, we make out, she tells me I'm beautiful that-- you get the point.\n\nThings got tricky when we were drinking at a mutual friends house last night. 5 people are there except one guy isn't drinking because he has biking in the morning, which led to him going to bed around 1130. Overall the night was going pretty well in my opinion until 1130 when he went to bed and she immediately got dressed into her sleep attire/followed him upstairs for some platonic cuddles. All in the name of me taking her spot to sleep on the couch (?)\n\nSo now I've become this third wheel with our mutual friend/her boyfriend. They know her and I have started a thing, to which they both looked at me when she went upstairs. I didn't have anything to say, she's not my girlfriend.\n\nYet, I felt so hurt.\n\nShe texted me this morning asking if I was sick last night (which I was) and told me that I should have told her because she would have taken care of me... I don't want to complicate this by getting upset about what she did and yet part of me reeeeeallly wants to tell her to go fuck herself.\n\nHow do I proceed homies?", "summary": "The girl I'm seeing leaves me at a mutual friends to go have platonic cuddles with a guy she just met. Then follows up the next day to see how I am."}
{"id": "t3_niqkf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit, my blog suddenly got a insane pageview boost since last august. They are all google image search hits. What to do?", "post": "As the title suggest, I have a blog that suddenly became successful... on paper. I started it last year as a place to vent my mind. I didn't need to get a lot of visitors, but if people would actually read what I had to say, I would be a very happy camper.\n\nFast forward to a couple of weeks ago, I checked the stats to a youtube video I made and found out 1/3 of the views came from my blog. That was great! So I checked the stats from my blog and found out that since last august the pageviews are steadily increasing. Last month alone I recieved around 1200. Thankfully the blog gave me the links that viewed my blog most and then I got sad.\n\nThe links are almost all to stock pictures I use to brighten up my posts. I don't know if I should be happy for the views or feel down, because my posts are probably not read.\n\nNow there are people reading my blog, I've had a comment on one post and I got some great reactions of people I know who heard about it from other friends. The problem is they get drowned under all these google image hits.\n\nWhat to do? Should I remove the pictures? Should I just take mother Mary's advice and let it be? Is there a good way to generate traffic to my blog aside from posting links on reddit?\n\nThanks in advance for your help.", "summary": "My blog gets visited by people who want other people's images and not my blog posts. What can I do to turn the tide?"}
{"id": "t3_44955m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (23) yelled at me (21) for not wanting sex", "post": "I (21f) have had no sex drive whatsoever lately. My boyfriend (23m) tried getting frisky when he got home and I pushed him away. I had to make a deal that if we had sex then, he's have to pay for dinner. If he waited until later, I would pay. \n\nHe agreed but when we got home we fought (we've been fighting a lot) and I went up to bed. He asked if we were still having sex and I just gave him a shitty look. He came up later yelling and a screaming about how we don't have sex and he doesn't want to be with someone that won't have sex with him at least 3 days out of the week. \n\nWe've been together for a year and a half. Did he cross the line? Should sex really be this important where he needs to tell at me about it? \n\nI'm on mirena and I think that may be part of why I have no sex drive. That and our constant fighting. He's telling me to switch birth control but at this poinr, I don't think it will change anything. I feel incredibly disrespected.", "summary": "Made deal to have sex, fought, no deal, got yelled at"}
{"id": "t3_41nr3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my girlfriend[17F], parents [50s M/F] don't approve.", "post": "I've known my girlfriend for about six years and we've been close friends for about a year and a half, and we've been together for close to half a year. We get along quite well, and if we disagree we usually talk it out. Our relationship on a whole has been very good and I'm happy.\n\nI come from a rather conservative country and from a Christian family, so parents are quite conservative. They found out about it a while ago and it's been tense since.\n\nThey disapprove because of religious reasons and they want me to try and distance myself from her, which means that we break up. They think at this age my orientation is still fluid and that it's too early to decide that I am attracted to girls, so that if I nip this in the bud, I wouldn't end up being gay for real. (I'm not sure how else to put it, but this is the general sentiment.)\n\nI don't want to talk about religion as it will complicate things, and I don't wish to discuss whether it's right or wrong according to that, but essentially my take on it is that I don't see what I'm doing as wrong, as long as we are happy together and our relationship is healthy. \n\nI don't see myself breaking up with her, but I know that if I insist my point it will only upset my parents and sour our relationship, which has been really good up till this point. \n\nAs I see it, I have to choose between following what they want for me, even though I don't believe in it, or continue to quietly spend time with her. For the latter, I know that one day I'm still going to have to bring it up to my parents, but I hope by then they'll be more accepting and hopefully it will be on my terms when I am older and financially independent.\n\nSo, what's your take on this and what should I do? For now my plan is to focus on studies and school and spend time with her when I can, probably not as much as before, but I don't see myself cutting her out completely. Is this the right course of action?", "summary": "I need to choose between my girlfriend and my parents. "}
{"id": "t3_3hr484", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Time Warner claims I owe $125 for a missing modem that I did not lose. Called representative and they said that not only did I not lose it, that I'm actually owed A $20 credit. Never received credit and they still claim I owe the money.", "post": "Basically the title. For the past 2 months I've been dealing with Time Warner's bs about how I lost a modem. I never lost this modem. In October, a technician came in after it stopped working and picked it up and I thought I heard the last of Time Warner. Fast forward to June and I get a notification through my school (our school gets the internet through TW) that I owe $125 for a missing modem. I found this odd since I hadn't recieved ANY notifications from TW about this missing modem since it was taken from me in October. Why would they wait 9 months for something like that? I received no phone calls, no e-mails, no notifications PERIOD about this through Time Warner. In fact, despite the fact that it is now August, I still haven't directly recieved any contact from TW. My school has just been casually sending me the the same $125 bill every month since June.\n\nI call TW in July and luckily enough the informed me that we did not actually lose the modem and that a $20 credit was actually OWED to us. I made sure to get his name and ID# for future reference. I thought all my problems were solved until I got another bill this month for the same modem for $125 through my school. I called my school to let them know what Time Warner told me and they told me they would get into touch with the person that I spoke to. This was approximately 3 weeks ago and I have not heard back from ANYONE.\n\nI'm so confused. Why is no one contacting me to attempt to collect this huge bill I owe, why is it so hard for people to get into contact with one person & get back to me?\n\nI'm so frustrated and I really refuse to pay a bill I KNOW I have no responsibility for. \n\nIf anything sounds jumbled or contradictory, let me know. I typed this all in one go out of stress.", "summary": "is the title"}
{"id": "t3_ddqmp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have to write a presentation regarding IT for uni and  need ideas. Help?", "post": "Hey guys - the presentation can be anything from networking to OOP (the first two ideas that came to my mind). The problem is that networking was done last year and I don't want to write about anything that I know for sure is a repetition. As for OOP, since it's the first course in IT studies, I'm not sure if most people will even understand what programming really is about, let alone grasp the concepts of OOP. (OOP is due next year in uni).\n\nA little background about my knowledge - I'm fairly knowledgeable all around IT. I've spent last 6/7 years coding webpages in PHP, I'd say that I am at senior developer level. I've worked for four months as an IT security consultant so I have a good grasp of that as well. I also know the ins and outs of IT project management, the tools to use and the reasoning behind correct decisions in IT project management. Basically, I could write about almost anything with the help of Wikipedia.\n\nThe presentation is meant to share some knowledge with fellow students so it doesn't have to be anything supersmart and superlong.\n\nIt's just that when I try to come up with a decent idea that everybody would enjoy watching a presentation about, my mind just draws a blank..", "summary": "Need ideas for a presentation for my fellow students at uni and my mind seems to shut down when I try to figure out about what exactly to write so I'd love if you guys could help me out."}
{"id": "t3_25h8mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "An old friend [29 M] of mine [28 F] has recently admitted that he likes me. My casual boyfriend [28 M] and I have some problems with the way he talks to me now.", "post": "So very recently an old college friend of mine has come out saying that he likes me. We've been good friends for a while, but we met on a date and realized we should be friends instead. We've been very close for almost a decade now.\n\nI'm currently in a monogamous, but fairly casual, relationship with my boyfriend of about a year. My college friend and my boyfriend do not know each other, but know about each other.\n\nOld college friend has raunchy humor, which I do find funny, but now some of the jokes he tells are sexual innuendos between the two of us which are starting to make my boyfriend and I uncomfortable.\n\nHe's wanted to talk to me about the \"nature of our friendship\" in private. He wants me to know that as long as I am currently in the relationship that I am, he won't make any moves, but he has said he would reciprocate if I made one first.\n\nI wanted to seek advice from my boyfriend and some of my other friends (non-mutual) about this whole scenario because it makes me feel uncomfortable. When I told my old college friend I was looking for advice about whether to meet him privately, and under what conditions, he got irritated and stated that my boyfriend is keeping us from being friends and that my other friends don't know him at all.\n\nWe used to have a lot of fun together, but now I can't talk to him without it getting awkward. He says that he \"can't be himself around me\" and \"can't be open about his feelings\", and I think he might be severely depressed. I'm scared that something might happen to one of us.", "summary": "Old friend in emotional trouble has admitted feelings for me, makes all conversations about that. Advice please!"}
{"id": "t3_4n3f3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] broke up with my girlfriend [17F] of a year and a half and I'm still thinking about her", "post": "We've been broken up for about 4 months now and at the moment of the break up I was really distant from her and she was super clingy to me and I hated that. We were best friends for 5 years previous to us dating and when we first started dating it was amazing we had fun and we weren't caught up in what people thought of us. But at our about 1 year mark she started to get really clingy and it turned me off. I broke up with her because I couldn't lie to her any longer I wasn't in love with her anymore.\n\n When I first broke up with her I was super happy and it felt very freeing I could spend time with my other friends but now that it's summer I'm finding myself wondering what she's doing and missing her watching tv with me and us going on walks. I'm not sure what to do. Maybe I just haven't found someone else yet I mean I'm only 17. Any advice would help me a lot.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend and felt very freeing. Now that it's summer I've been missing her"}
{"id": "t3_4g9e8a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Suggestions for married couple in mid-30s with no debt and $1M in cash and equity", "post": "Hi Reddit, longtime lurker, first-time poster here. I am in need of some financial - and potentially life - advice, but first a little background.\n\nMy wife and I are both in our mid-30's, with a 22 month old son.  I went to college and law school on a full scholarship, and have lived frugally since graduating in 2008.  My wife works full-time in healthcare, earns a salary of approximately $40k and is also debt-free.  As things stand, we have a paid off rental property valued at $100k that currently rents at $1k per month, our home which is also paid off and valued at $250k, and approximately $700k in liquid cash.\n\nI work as an attorney, with the crux of my practice public defense of the indigent criminally accused.  It is high stress, low-pay, and frankly I am feeling burned out.  I have contemplated investing substantial funds into my practice with the hope of transitioning to more retained/paying clientele, but the thought of becoming so entrenched in criminal defense doesn't appeal to me.  My other thought has been to leave the practice of law all together, and instead focus on real estate.  Where I live, rental properties go for $150k-$200k and can be rented out for roughly $1500-$2000 per month.  I don't know what to do, but would love to figure out a way to do something with my cash and built-up equity to ensure it grows.\n\nAny thoughts or guidance on this plan, or suggestions for better alternatives, would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Married couple in mid-30s, $700k in liquid cash, $250k home and $100k rental property paid off, no debt. Hate my job. What, if anything, can I do with cash and built-up equity?"}
{"id": "t3_r83t6", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Gf of 2.5 years and I are over now I feel lost, and I don't know what to do..Help??", "post": "So I am 20 and she is 19 we had been dating for just under 2.5 years. One random day about 2 weeks ago she says she has fallen out of love, so i suggest that we take a month break to see if it helps out. After 10ish days of this I could tell she wanted to be single so I met with her, and i ended the relationship right there. \n\nMy problem i guess is that i still have feelings for her, but I can tell she has lost a lot of interest in me. We had been a great couple, but as of the last few months she had become a \"bad\" girlfriend. She stopped caring about anything I wanted and we pretty much stopped seeing each other since she stopped putting any effort in the relationship.\n\nThe thing is I don't know what to do now, I am not really into the party scene and i would rather date someone and be in a monogamous relationship than just hooking up. I want to meet new girls, but this semester at the university I only took one class. With my ex is the person i have to sit next to.\n\nI am looking for ways to meet new girls, but i tend to be a bit more introverted. I also tend to think of myself as good looking guy since i have been told by various females through my life, but I also carry some weight that I would love to get rid of.\n\nI'm pretty much looking for any advice to help me get over a girl that is over me, and how to get that next girl. Is it so hard to be in college and want to date a cute girl in an actual adult relationship??!", "summary": "Broke up with bad gf, now idk what to do to find new girls."}
{"id": "t3_14mdlc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Denied a student loan because of debt that doesn't exist.  What do I do?", "post": "In March of 2012 I visited the hospital because of a broken foot.  I paid my insurance provider's (UPMC) co-pay thought all things were fine.  \n\nIn October of 2012 I received phone calls from multiple debt collection agencies saying I had  outstanding debts with the hospital that needed to be corrected.  After conferencing with a representative with UPMC I was assured by all parties that my credit report *would not be affected* by this transaction and that all debts were paid.  \n\nFast forward to this week.  I had applied for a student loan for this upcoming school year and was denied because of a debt collection entry on my credit report.  You guessed it; it's from the debt collector that previously assured me my credit score would not be touched.  \n\nAfter calling the debt collector and UPMC again, it appears that all I can do is wait for the debt to be removed from my credit report.  Is there a way to expedite this?  How do I dispute a collection claim on my credit report?", "summary": "I was denied a loan because of a debt collection that I was assured by the collection agency was taken care of.  How do I dispute this?"}
{"id": "t3_151h15", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Ex girlfriend refuses to testify against her rapist... what can I do??? [X-post from /r/rape]", "post": "So long story short, my ex girlfriend was raped a couple days ago by her now-ex brother-in-law. She took an ambien, he was drunk, he was basically the scum of the Earth taking advantage of her like that.\n\nThe only reason she tells me she isn't going to testify (and she tells me she will admit that the entire incident was consensual if I so much as consider calling the police) is because her sister is afraid that she won't get child support from him for her 1 year old twins. He's even abused her in the past, but because they live in Arizona (where if a father is in jail he doesn't have to pay child support), even she hasn't called the police on him yet. I'm basically asking - is there anything I can do when everyone involved (including the father - another waste of human skin) isn't willing to call the police on this guy, let alone testify against him or press charges? All I want is at MINIMUM to have him registered as a sex offender or SOMETHING.\n\nI'm at the end of my metaphorical rope here... help me guys...", "summary": "ex girlfriend won't testify against her ex-brother-in-law rapist because she's afraid her sister won't get child support if he goes to jail."}
{"id": "t3_3hzwna", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/M] I'm trying to find any way to help my [19/F] with her past relationship problems that are leaking into today.", "post": "Hey reddit, my SO (19) and I (18) have been together for about 6 months now.\u00a0 I met her in school and she was apart of an international student program in America\u00a0 from Finland.\u00a0 Anyway, we started dating around March, and in June she went back home for the summer before we start college.\u00a0 Prior to our relationship, she was in a relationship with another guy in Finland before she moved.\u00a0 They both came to America, but on opposite sides of the country.\u00a0 This was about a 1.5 year relationship that ended when he cheated on her when he went back home for holiday.\u00a0 Some of her friends told her and sent her pictures for proof.\u00a0 She was obviously infuriated, so she quickly ended the relationship around December. It was only three months in between her last relationship and this one, and it was obvious she still had strong feelings for him.\u00a0 She denied any questions of her remaining love for him to spare my feelings, and only admitted to this a few weeks ago. She now promises that all her feelings are gone and she doesn't feel that towards him now.\n\n\u00a0Fast forward to today, they're both back in Finland, they text semi regularly (few times a week)\u00a0 and it always ends with her being upset and coming to me and either crying or just generally being in a bad mood.\u00a0 I don't know what she wants to do.\u00a0 She's trying to convince him that he changed, and he's denying everything. But he still manages to get such a huge reaction out of her.\u00a0 Personally I don't think it's good for her, but I've been hesitant on stepping in, in fear that I would make matters worse.\u00a0 He's causing her more stress in her already stressed life.\u00a0 And I don't know why she still puts up with him. But I just feel hopeless and I want to help her. \n\nSo reddit, my question is this: is there something I can tell her or do for her that can make her see that this is just an unhealthy friendship? I honestly just don't know what to do.\u00a0 It pains me to see her like this.\u00a0 Thanks in advance for your help.", "summary": "SO still insists on keeping a relationship with her ex that cheated on her.  She gets upset constantly from talking to him yet won't stop.  Help."}
{"id": "t3_145ax1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your opinion on Gun Control?", "post": "Ban them? Heavily restrict them? No restrictions?\n\nI believe most law abiding citizens have a right to bear arms. However, I also believe almost every American should own a gun as well. A society where everybody is capable of defending one's self is, in my opinion, a potentially safer one. Muggers, public shooters and even police would think twice before committing unjustifiable murders if most people were able to defend themselves. \n\nThe best reason for people to bear arms would be if the need to have a revolution ever occurred. A Government has to fear it's people so it'll continue to obey the needs of it's citizens. There could someday come the point where we the people will have to do something against an immorally bankrupt and corrupt Government. Governments do not last forever and revolutions occur most often in older Governments which have ran their course and have fell off the path of supporting it's citizens. \n\nI find the idea of banning guns to be incredibly ignorant. Doing such a thing while arming the police force and military could cause a tyrannical government to become unstoppable. Guns exist and limiting firearms to us only put the firearms in the hands of those who do harm like Gangs and Murderers. Everybody should have the right to protect themselves from threats against their well-being. More people with firearms does not equate to a giant increase in murders; it helps ensure our own freedom and protection. Well, maybe in Africa more firearms causes a lot more deaths but I'm talking about a civilized society with a Government that enforces laws against murder.", "summary": "All people deemed responsible should own, and carry, a firearm. The Second Amendment is crucial to maintaining a sound Government. "}
{"id": "t3_l97sf", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I want to eventually get back together with my Ex... how do i approach this?", "post": "I'm going to post my links from my other posts because theres a lot of information and i dont want to type it all again. if you would like to know more about my situation click on these links:\n\nI'm 25 and I called my ex for the first time since she broke up with me 12 days ago. I really miss her and am very much in love with her. I know shes going through some stuff right now and doesnt need a serious relationship right now. We talked for an hour tonight and it was great. I asked her a couple of times if she needed to go and she always said no. At the end i told her it was good talking to her and she said it was really good talking to me too. She said i guess ill talk to you later, and i told her i'd call her in a few days or something. She seemed happy and said ok.\n\nHow do i need to approach this? I dont want to push her away or try to move too quickly. I do want her back in my life.", "summary": "My ex broke up with me last week because she couldnt handle a serious relationship right now. We talked to night and it went great. I want to get back with her."}
{"id": "t3_wfxo6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Heard you like puzzles - the May Day Mystery has gone unsolved for over 30 years. Care to give it a go?", "post": "My university's student newspaper has been running mysterious full-page ads from an unknown group every May 1 since 1981.  Each ad is a seemingly random collage of math equations, scientific diagrams of all disciplines, maps, symbols, art, passages in dozens of languages, references to key figures in history (namely Martin Luther, Calvin, Cromwell, and Gustavus Adolphus), and extremely cryptic passages referring often to \"The Loyal Order of Un-reconstructed Freaks,\" and \"The Hotel California.\"\n\nSome examples: \n\n[2008](\n\n[2004](\n\n[2003](\n\n[Maydaymystery.org] has every May 1 ad since 1981, as well as other, smaller ads that appear on other dates.\n\nThe person or group responsible seems to have significant means, as 30 years worth of full-page ads in a university newspaper can't be cheap (dat youth demo).  Plus, since the site was set up, the webmaster has been receiving even more cryptic e-mails and letters, sometimes with gifts like [rare coins] (this is a Mexican gold 2 1/2 peso dated 1945.  Real gold.).\n\nThere are also references to a [safety deposit box] in a bank in Downtown Tucson.\n\nAn eccentric local lawyer apparently acts as the group's legal counsel, but refuses to discuss the origin of the ads. [Here's a local news story with some more background](\n\nSo, reddit, can you solve this 30-year-old puzzle?", "summary": "Cryptic full-page puzzles show up in college newspaper every May 1, makes the [Subway Cipher] look like the Daily Jumble."}
{"id": "t3_lgnq1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Real world business advice from people who have failed before", "post": "I saved up about $25k by the time I got out of the military. I went into business with my step-dad (who I admittedly knew little about) with the intention of doing some research and pitching an expansion plan to his existing business. Once I got into business with him and pitched the plan I basically found out that no good plan would work because he was under the impression that economy was inevitably going to collapse, so it would all be a waste of time. (too long a story but essentially he worships Glenn Beck; startling discovery)\n\nAnyway I ate through that $25k pretty quickly paying bills (family/home) and finally found another job with decent pay. I am actively looking for another business to get into, but I'm a little jaded on investments now. I should have another $30k or so in a couple years saved up.\n\nMy question is to those who have experience: I am considering investing in rental properties and rolling over saved cash flow to accumulate more properties. Is this a safe bet? Or should I just save my pennies until a business idea comes along that blows up my skirt? I am fully confident in my abilities and commitment, just a little weary of people inviting me into their business.\n(Background: military=air force. step-dad/current business=insurance adjuster )", "summary": "crazy step dad, bad business, new ideas."}
{"id": "t3_2ftbnr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [25 F] duration 2.5 years. She is getting mad at me for spending my money.", "post": "So my girlfriend has been getting mad at me recently for spending money on what she calls frivolous things. Some of the examples being baseball tickets, video games, football tickets, so on and so on. Now I am a server while I am going back to school. I have a scholarship right now. Also the army is paying for my school as well, so I get around 3000 back every semester while carrying no student loan debt. \n\nShe also gets mad at me for sending my mom money. Long story short my mom was a drug addict and I paid for her to go to rehab 8 years ago  after not speaking to her for five years and she has been clean ever since.\nHer car broke down and it was going to cost her around 1500 to fix. So I had it and I sent it to her. No big deal. She said she will pay me back and she has. As of right now she has paid me back around half of the money. GF finds out and freaks out. Says that I am too loose with my money and I am not thinking about our future. Im thinking that its my money and its not a big deal, its my mom, I love her and trust her to pay me back. We are talking about getting married so she says that I need to be saving for our future and me giving money to my mom does not help out. \n\nIn the 2.5 years we have been together. I have paid off my car, paid off all my credit cards, raised my credit score by 100 points, and put money into savings. Am I really that irresponsible? \n\nI feel like I have done quite a bit helping our future out but she says it isn't enough. What do I do? Now every time I do something for me she gets mad at me and I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong.", "summary": "Help out mom, GF gets pissed, now saying I don't contribute to our future. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_552uo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24/M] girlfriend [21\\F] has decided she wants to become celibate 9 months into our sexual relationship, without any religious motivation to do so.", "post": "My girlfriend has decided shes wants to give up sex for 12 months because it's something she said she has always wanted to do. She is not religious nor is taking up any religion. When i ask why, the response is with unsure answers and ends by saying it'll 'make her a better person' and she'll find out why when she does it. Naturally I cant make sense of her choice from the response she gives me.\n\nI understand there is much more to a relationship than just sex, and breaking up with her is the last thing i would want to do. It's something I don't think I will do regardless of her decisions. However, I value sex as really important to me and our relationship. Therefore the thought of no sex for a whole year upsets me. The thought of a loved one taking away something I can only enjoy with her definitely hurts me more. I'd like to call it a selfish act but it's not something being done out of spite, but just for a reason I don't quite understand. \n\nAny input or reasoning behind this choice would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "GF wants to give up sex for a year because she thinks it'll make her a better person and cant explain how. I don't know what to think of it all"}
{"id": "t3_2hpd3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my new interest [26m], and he seems self sabotaging...but suffers from depression.", "post": "We've been friends for 3 years, and have begun taking the romantic route in our friendship. \n\nHe doesn't want to commit because he \"messes everything up\", and that he feels suffocated by relationships. He's had meaningful relationships, but has a habit of pushing people away...and gets strange once it begins to get in the way of things he wants to do. He set up our romantic endeavor by saying not to expect anything, because he'll ruin it...and that he isn't worth anyone's time. \n\nHe has had depression for much of his life, and says he cannot commit to ANYTHING...even the most mundane decisions. Has trouble following through with everything, even the most mundane tasks, and isn't doing much besides freelancing here and there. He frequently says he wishes he had not been born and it breaks my heart. \n\nI don't want to \"save\" him, but have also battled depression and have been encouraging him to seek help. He doesn't seem to be taking any initiative yet, but respects me and has opened up to me more than anyone else. \n\nIf he wasn't my friend, I would feel a lot different. But because I know him so well, it hurts to see him be so down on himself and to not understand that he really is a wonderful person. Everything else works well, and we get along swimmingly. He tells me I'm not like anyone he has ever met and is really into me. I take pride in being an alternative kind of girl and know who he has dated in the past, so I can tell he's looking at me differently.", "summary": "New romantic interest is long time friend, we're both into each other but he seems determined to prove that he will hurt me and fail in a relationship. Suffers from depression. How much of this should I take? What is best for both of us?"}
{"id": "t3_2mcgir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M] looking for advice on how to ask out coworker [20/F] when there are plenty of people around", "post": "Hey Seddit!\n\nI'm quite inexperienced when it comes to dating, because I've dated the same guy (I'm bisexual) since high school and we broke up just a few months ago.\n\nI work as a tour guide for my university and on Sunday we're having a campus fair where grade 12 students come and learn about our university/programs/campus. There are around 30 tour guides and we go on rotating shifts. There's a new tour guide who I've just met once, but I think she's really cute and she seems smart and friendly. I've read the FAQ, but I'm confused about asking her out when there are other people around. There's no way to get her alone, since judging from last year, there's usually about 20 tour guides chilling and 10 on a tour (when one comes back, another one goes).\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "want to ask coworker out. Unsure how to if other coworkers are bound to be there"}
{"id": "t3_3y9waa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wanting my uncle's girlfriend's 50 some y/o ass.", "post": "Just happened about 12 hours ago;\n\nWas sitting with my family in my grandparents living room, just after eating dinner but right before opening presents. I asked my mom for a cigarette; I'd left mine at home. Well my uncles girlfriend (Idk wtf she is, honestly, its awkward) was sitting on the floor in front of where the... I guess, collection of purses was, on the floor in the corner. She'd heard my mom and I speaking of it, so she started to move and show that she was going to grab my moms purse and hand it to me so I could hand it to my mom. She doesn't, instead she grabbed her one hitter and hit it, completely brushing it off. It was weird. Anyway, 10 to 15 minutes goes by, and I want that cigarette, so I get up to go get my mothers purse. I guess I moved to fast and misjudged the distance from where I was sitting to where the purses were and she was, and ended up getting a little close. Not too terribly close, just closer than I would have liked; I've never really talked to my uncle's girlfriend thing or know anything about her other than small talk. \n\nAnnnnnyyywaaayyy. I'd moved too fast and gotten too close, fuck up on my part; saved it, didn't run into her, reached around her, grabbed the purse, gave it to my mom, got my cigarette, and went out to smoke. \n\nI come back in and my uncle's girlfriend is sitting close to him with her hand on his lap next to his crotch (like super close, claiming, I guess), and everyone has this awkward / pissed off look on their face. It took me a minute to catch on but, now that I think of the little snippets of conversation I heard walking out and when I was close to the door coming in, she thinks I was going after her, and convinced everyone else I was too. \n\nI've got a fiance with a child on the way. I'm 18. She's like 52.", "summary": "Ruined Christmas by moving too fast to get my moms purse for a cigarette, ended up somehow in some way that I didn't know was possible, making my uncle's girlfriend that's always nodding out from drugs feel like I want her 50 some year old ass."}
{"id": "t3_3udua6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my [19F] coworker. Her boyfriend [18] threatened and then assaulted me with a baseball bat because he didn't like us being close.", "post": "I would talk to my coworker at work and occasionally outside of work and her boyfriend eventually started getting uncomfortable with this. He sent me a message from her phone saying he would attack me and my car with a baseball bat if I didn't back off of her. \n\nLast night, he showed up to our work to pick her up, but before they left, he went to my car with a bat and started swinging at the windows and the doors, tried to get in, and threatened to kill/attack me again. \n\nI'm not sure how much of this she was involved with. Whether or not she was encouraging or discouraging him I have no idea. But I work with her multiple times a week and I don't know how to handle this. Who should I tell? Should I talk to her and what should I say? Any help is appreciated", "summary": "Coworker's boyfriend attacked me because he thought we were too close. Now what"}
{"id": "t3_162z8w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/f] can't get over my boyfriend's [26/m] past", "post": "First of all, I know that it's not a great idea to get too hung up on your SO's exes. I've heard all of the things like \"he chose to be with you/is with you now which means that even if you think his ex is perfect, she must not have been.\" which logically makes sense... but my brain won't seem to accept it. let me also clarify that my relationship right now is my first \"normal\" long term relationship. even after a year into the relationship I can't get over the feeling that I might be getting compared to the ex and that I might not be as good as she was. I'm intensely curious about my SO and his ex's relationship. they had met as exchange students in another country and were together for that year and in an LDR for about a year and a half afterwards. Something about the LDR part of their relationship has me worried that maybe they only broke up because of the distance and not because they stopped having feelings for each other. I have also seen pictures of his ex and I look very similar to her. That used to worry me slightly in the beginning of our relationship because I thought that maybe he was only interested in me because I reminded him of her. My SO doesn't actually give me any reason to be feeling this way, but I think it might be my insecurities that are fueling these thoughts. He's been pretty open about her when I ask but I've also been pretty shy to ask about his past... I don't want to be that kind of a girlfriend. I haven't told any of my worries to my SO because I have always been kind of \"cool\" when he does mention ex-girlfriends. I think it would be a very big and ugly surprise for him to know how I actually feel about it. When I step back and try to look at the situation logically, it doesn't make sense at all and I know I'm being silly. But I've always been an overthinker and sometimes I just can't get the thoughts out of my head. Is there anything I can do to keep from slipping into these really bad thoughts?", "summary": "my brain won't let me stop thinking unsolicited thoughts about my SO's ex girlfriend and I can't make it stop"}
{"id": "t3_1d453g", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I am[19M] so of a chicken to go and talk to a girl[19F], so my friend added her on Facebook for me and sent a Hello message, how should I ask her out?", "post": "Okay this would be my first attempt to ask a girl out I am 19 and so is she. she is cute and in two of my classes.\n\nPlease help a newbie\n\nThe part were I say that I deserved higher was my other fucking friend getting back on me (I am stupid to let him work on my computer).\n\nThis conversation has been done in a period of three days in which she was traveling in two of them and we had many exams.\n\nHello\n\nI am sorry I meant to send the last message to someone else. Saturday\n\n11:03am\n\nnot at all\n\n11:19am\n\nBtw i just noticed that u received high honors, congratulations\n\n11:50am\n\nthanks:) i dont know wheter you received or not\n\n11:53am\n\nYes I did but I just Honors Sunday\n\n8:30pm\n\nit doesnt matter,you got honors it's enough i think Tuesday\n\n10:05pm\n\nI dont think so I beleive that I deserve more Wednesday\n\n2:24am\n\nI meant that I wanted more and there was some things that happened \nwith the chem teacher that had affected my grade, so yeah I wanted more haha. Wednesday\n\n7:27pm\n\nif you want more you should study more.i hope you can get what you \nwant\n\n9:01pm Yeah, I know I wasn't as I should last semester. how are you \ndoing with math and phys this semester?", "summary": "added her on Facebook started a conversation it got a bit creepy because of my friend writing to her from my Facebook, but still want to date her."}
{"id": "t3_4fkoe0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyrfriend's [24 M] recent sensitivity.", "post": "Lately my boyfriend has been sensitive and I don't know how to handle it. Lemme start off by saying I have no issue with him being sensitive, however I have been the cause of the sensitivity which makes me uneasy. \n\nThe instances: 1. When he was explaining something about me when we first met, I said it was a little weird (he creeped on me a little, but in the end I don't care anymore) 2. He likes to say he itches himself and I said \"You scratch yourself not itch yourself (jokingly). He then became distant in conversation after I said these things and brought them up later saying I hurt his feelings. Both nights became awkward even after I apologized. \n\nMy apologies were sincere as I don't mean to offend him in anyway. However, I don't really understand how what I said were insensitive things to say? He says he hasn't been mentally there this week due to smoking less nicotine, eating better, and working out more. How do I go about taking to him/handling the situation?", "summary": "Boyfriend is sensitive to what I've said, however I don't really think what I've said is insensitive. Help."}
{"id": "t3_30ftfa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need some help deciding my career path.(wall of text but tl:Dr inc.)", "post": "I am 19 and am having trouble deciding if I really want to live my life the way I am right now. I am an Apprentice Line worker and have been for 5 months now. When I first started it seemed like I would be making a lot of money then I realized how much of it has to go into living in a hotel and eating out and travel expense. I make 24 dollars an hour and almost every job says it is going to be 60 hours a week. Very few weeks have I actually been able to work that many hours and have only been able to be at jobs for about two months before they either are finished or lay off the people low on the totem pole of seniority. So I have no money saved Living paycheck to paycheck In a hotel racking up credit card debt because my paychecks take two weeks to start direct deposit and I have to drive almost 8 hours to be able to put them in a branch of my bank. Which I don't have time for because every day of the week I'm working or at least have to show up to work and be there for two hours. I know eventually I'll be making almost double and I love my job and the people I work with, But I'm still not sure that the struggle is worth it. My other option is to go to college and become an engineer which when I went to  technical college Seemed like it would take too long when there is something that cost less to get into but makes enough money to live well, but now I'm rethinking my position. I would give almost anything to have a job with steady, predictable hours in a single place that I could call home.  I know I could do the work and pass. the money might be a problem because my parents make too much for help but not enough to pay for my whole college tuition. I could take out private loans but I can't decide if that's really worth it. Please help me. \n\n(", "summary": "I'm 19 I have a good paying job $24/hr but shitty hours and have to travel everywhere and stay at my own expense. Should I go back to college to get a less traveling equally paying job?)"}
{"id": "t3_lkr1u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I make a music video?", "post": "I have the most amazing idea for a music video for Klapex's \"Lights\" and i don't know who to go to or how to make this happen. I have one artsy friend and he is already doing his own YouTube channel but it hasn't taken off yet. Do I pay an art student to sketch what I see in my head? Or do I write it all out via text? I am so excited but don't know how to make this happen.", "summary": "Mecha pilots regular job to destroy asteroids, realize they are up against their worst fears (super cluster) attempt to destroy the asteroid but fail, asteroid hits dark side of moon where base is, cuts communications, turns out mecha pilots were just \"hollograms\", actually two kids operating the mecha's, start to dance as asteroids overwhelm Earth and their base and they are destroyed."}
{"id": "t3_2innp1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by riding my son's Razor scooter.", "post": "So I walked my kids to school and one of them brought their scooter. Scooters are big thing around this neighbourhood. I dropped them off and took the scooter back home with me. After I got to the top of the hill I got on and rode it because it was faster than walking. I got into it and started going really fast and I'm getting looks from people like \"what is this grown woman doing riding that kid's toy?\" I just kept on trucking until I hit a sewer grate and the front wheel went right into the opening. Boy, I tell ya, that was the first time I ever did a front flip on a scooter. I got my ass up off the ground and limped my stupid self home and now I got ice packs on my injuries. :(", "summary": "I wiped out on my kid's scooter (27 yr old mom)"}
{"id": "t3_1aqxms", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "SO [f] 19 was raped a few years back. I'm [m] 20. Since then she has been completely messed up, didn't know until now.", "post": "We've been dating 4 months. I love her, but this hurts me for some reason.\n\nI'm overwhelmed by so many emotions.\n\nI can barely type this, I'm so disgusted. Three monsters beat her and raped her in a hotel room. Someone gained access to her key, and sold it to willing customers.\n\nI can't describe my feelings towards this incident other than complete and utter HATE for these people. I love this woman. I broke down when she told me. I never thought I could feel so passionate about wanting to seek out these individuals, and end their existence without any hesitation or lingering remorse. She still exhibits serious trauma.\n\nI know I can't do anything, but report it, or deal with it. I don't know how to deal with it. What does one do with this information? It in NO way will affect how I see her, or how I feel about her, better yet.. it makes me feel our relationship is stronger. I FEEL for this woman now, more than ever. \n\nI just can't shake this overwhelming sadness and hatefulness that is eating at me right now. It's not really about me, though, it's about her. She was destroyed by this. Help me out Reddit, but most importantly help me help her. I can't handle the way she speaks about her promiscuity AFTER he incident. She had an addiction.\n\nShe fucked 40 guys since then, just in a year period when she was 16. THAT SCARES ME. It disgusts me.\n\nShe isn't seeing a counselor. She always brings up her past, \"on accident\" and it's killing me. I hear about her past promiscuous life at least once a week and fights ensure.\n\nShe can barely look me in the eyes sometimes. I always chalked it up to \"shyness\" as she frequently tells me. No, it's the product of a barbaric and heartless act, and her remorse for being a \"whore,\" her words.\n\nWhat can I do? What do I do?", "summary": "GF was raped by three guys. It's hard to handle, even for me. She slept with over 40 guys, afterward, in a year period when she was 16. Always talks about her past. It kills me. It kills me that this all happened."}
{"id": "t3_16ttoo", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I am in a bad situation.. (14) (F) (5'3\") (145.6lb.)", "post": "Okay, so I really need some help. :)\nI've had a really bad self-esteem spell lately.\nI feel like I'm being trapped. I can't even look at myself. My body is hideous. My thighs touch, and my belly pouches out and my legs and belly jiggle like I'm a jello factory.I can't wear tight clothes, or anything of that nature. I am curvy but in the WRONG ways. My chest is as flat as a board, and I am as wide as the grand canyon. Also, as my hips spread out, the place where my leg bends up, it comes in, so I look like [this.] I feel hideous. I want to lose fat, not gain lean muscle or anything like that. Just lose fat. I have these huge rolls. I can't do much to exercise, because I don't have P.E. this year, and we're in the middle of this huge snowstorm. Is there anything I can eat/buy to make me lose this weight? My goal is 110-125. At 5'3\" I look like a female [Bombur.] I really need this. I don't have BDD or anything like that, I'm just super unhappy with my body. No matter how I dress, I look the same. Please help me!", "summary": "I need to lose around 20-30 pounds because I look really bad.  "}
{"id": "t3_366eid", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 22 yrs old and have no idea what I'm doing.", "post": "I feel like people are prepared for the real world or something like that. I made good grades in high school but nowadays I'm working in customer service, and was recently screwed over to the point where I'm going to be moving back in with my mother and restarting my life. I'm currently employed and living on my own under the poverty line.\n\nI have no idea what to do. I have a lengthy criminal record, but all non-violent offenses and I am drug free, no cigarettes either. I know I need a new job (I have no idea where to find one) and to start college, but I have no idea about what major to take; hell all I know is that I need to walk into a college and say I'd like an application. I have a 3.6 on my transcript and a 1860 SAT.\n\nTBH I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I'm scared. I don't have much going for me. I don't care what job i get out of college, I just want to be financially independent as soon as possible.", "summary": "1.) What are the best employment options for someone just starting college?"}
{"id": "t3_2t69xp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a super religious person think I'm a satanist.", "post": "So, at my school, there's this girl who's super religious. Of course, whenever I say \"Praise GabeN!\" jokingly with my friends, she takes it to mean that I'm a satanist and I'm hellbent on killing everyone I know. She yells at me to never say \"Praise GabeN!\" around her again because somehow not following her religion offends her some shit. (I'm agnostic BTW) So, she thinks I'm a satanist and that GabeN is some hellspawn demon. When she asks me, I answer sarcastically \"Yup, I worship satan, yup.\" So, she fucking reports me to the principal's office and says I plan on blowing up the fucking school and everyone in it. After hours or talking with the school and the cops, I'm finally free, and this jackass just wasted hours of my time.", "summary": "sarcastically said I'm a satanist around a religious person and she takes it to mean she should report me to the cops and the school for being a psycho murderer."}
{"id": "t3_f0xr3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey AskReddit, I need someone to draw a fox so that it can be graciously displayed in my room.", "post": "Any kind of fox: red, fennic, arctic, you name it.  I just rearranged a few things in my room and I have some friends' artwork hung about the room.  What I don't have is a work of a kind of fox, my favorite kind of animal.  There is a big empty space as soon as you open the door to my room, and I'd like to see a fox upon entering :).  I love sketches, vintage type drawings, and really anything self-created.  Only problem is that I'm terrible at drawing.\nReddit has never let me down, so I'd love to see what some of you can come up with!\nI'd like to frame it and put it up, the space is 26in./66cm in width.\n\nI'm also a fan of african elephants as well.  Or wild animals, for that matter.  :)", "summary": "Anyone that wants to submit an original artwork of any kind of fox, elephant, or wild animal to be displayed on my wall, please do so!"}
{"id": "t3_2n64aq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my Girlfriend [36 F] together for 5 years, won't have sex with me anymore after deciding that me looking at porn is \"cheating\" when she previously told me she had no problem with me looking at porn.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. When we started dating she asked me casually while we were talking if I looked at porn. I told her I did and she expressed that she didn't have an issue with it and she liked porn herself. \n\nOver the following years there was many instances where she would give me a hard time for skipping over the NSFW posts on reddit when she was sitting with me so I then felt like I had to start clicking on them or she would give me a hard time. Then she would start getting questiony when I would look like \"do you like her?\" and commenting on how young a girl looked, or making insults. I got sick of this and started just using the NSFW filter on RES. Up until 6 months ago we did not live together and really only had time together on weekends. When we moved in together she made the comment \"You won't need to look at porn anymore, you can have me anytime you want\" in a joking manner. \n\nOnce we actually moved in together, she repeatedly turned me down for sex over the course of 2-3 weeks. I got frustrated and would look at porn and fap to get rid of the tension. We would have sex occasionally but then she started to complain that I didn't have sex with her enough. Due to our schedules and the fact she has a child we were limited on when we could and she would often not be interested so I got to where I stopped trying and was disheartened. Then she confronts me about looking at porn and accuses me of using it to replace her, and goes on to state that looking at porn is tantamount to cheating on her. She now refuses to have sex with me or be naked in front of me and says she is \"working some things out\" but won't go into more detail. \n\nI'm aggravated by this because to me it feels like she is the one who has suddenly changed and when I point this out she claims she hasn't changed. Every time this comes up in conversation it turns into a fight and I don't know what do anymore.", "summary": "Girlfriend had no issue with porn at beginning of relationship, says 5 years later that I have replaced her with it and am technically cheating on her although I probably look at it less than before. Will no longer have sex with me. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_ued4v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have an Emergency/Get Home Bag?  If so, whats in it.", "post": "Recently, I have been thinking a lot about either purchasing or putting together a Emergency/Get Home Bag.  For those of you who are unaware of what these bags are, its pretty much a bag or pack you can grab quickly which will help you survive in the event of a natural disaster or with recent events, a zombie apocalypse!  Theses are different than a \"bug out bag\" as the Get Home Bag is designed for when you are on the road. \n\nMost of these bags come with a couple days of food, fresh water, a sleeping bag, tent, first aid kit, etc. I see one online which looks like a very good deal:      and have been thinking of purchasing it.\n\nLots of places online tell of great ways to make such a bag, such as:\n\nor\n\nBut, what I want to know, is if you do have one of these bags, whats in it that you think others dont think of?\n\nIf you dont have one, I want to know your honest reason for not having one.  Am I crazy for having one?  Let me know!", "summary": "Want to put together a better \"Get Home Bag\" than all the places on the web.  Tell me your ideas or tell me why I'm crazy for wanting to have one."}
{"id": "t3_4l6mc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 28f want to leave my husband 34m because he's emotionally abusive, how do other people gather the courage to do stuff like this?", "post": "Hello everyone, \n\nI've been married to him for 10 years now, he's the only relationship I've ever had. I've only lived with him and my family back home who I left him for. I'm tired of the emotional abuse he dishes out an don't know how much more I can take.\n\nBut, I'm having a hard time actually doing it. How do I just up and leave him? All of this time, plans, savings we've managed to scrounge together. I mean, at 19 I had no problem ditching my family who quite frankly don't deserve what I did to them. They were the best parents I could ask for and I just left them and my siblings. I even lied to their faces! How was that so easy and this so hard? \n\nI've wasted the best years of my life on this guy, missed out on so many milestones back home, time I could have had with my brother who just over a couple years ago overdosed on heroine. I could have already been done college but no, he said I shouldn't go to college an here I am. I'm so lost and confused and I don't know who to open up too, I can't even get a therapist because he thinks they are a waste of time and money.", "summary": "How do people leave their spouses after everything that was built. I'm scared and don't really know any other life outside of my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_191mkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m16) have a big problem with my maybe sorta SO (f 15)", "post": "We've been family friends since we were little, but we never really talked much. About six months ago, i asked her to a Gala at our school, and it was very awkward to say the least. \n     \nWe've been texting back and forth since then, but haven't been able to talk in person. Every time I try, she gives one word answers and is suddenly very interested in her phone. \n     \nI really don't know what to do. Her friends insist that she likes me alot, and she even told me she does, but i just haven't seen any proof. She talks and jokes around with other guys a ton too. I need some help...\n     \nAny advice is appreciated. Thanks", "summary": "a girl and I both like each other, but she's to shy to talk. seeking advice"}
{"id": "t3_vxkyp", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "I got married this past Saturday! Thanks for all the help r/weddingplanning!", "post": "I got married on Saturday and I just wanted to thank all of you for all the help along the way! After a year of stressing & worrying about throwing a wedding that we could be proud to call our own AND that would be fun for all our guests AND was affordable, it went perfectly. Literally. Not a single thing went wrong. Well, I didn't take the time to actually enjoy any of the food and decor details that I worked so hard on, because I was so busy talking and dancing, but I know all the guests enjoyed them, so it wasn't a waste. \n\nA few things I realized - before the wedding, people kept telling me to remember to eat and to breathe. I thought these people were a little silly - of course I'd remember to eat and breathe, right?! But on the day of the wedding, I realized why they said this - you literally do forget to do both, or you try to but your nerves are so intense that you almost can't. Anyway, turns out this was actually good and needed advice. :) Also, after being SO incredibly nervous the day before and the day of, about 5 minutes before walking down the aisle, I got super calm. All of a sudden I wasn't nervous in the least - I was just ready and happy to do it. (I should note, I wasn't nervous about getting married, or the man I chose, I was just nervous that things would go wrong - like the trolley or the food or something like that.) But nothing did! Everything, including the weather, was perfect and I'm so happy it happened the way it did. And, to be honest, I'm happy it's over and we can start the next chapter in our lives. Thanks for all the help and calming words along the way!", "summary": "Got married on Sunday and it went perfectly! Turns out \"remember to breathe & eat\" is not stupid advice after all :)"}
{"id": "t3_3tiew8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (44F) ex-husband (46M) wants to visit with our kids at my house.", "post": "Our situation is that my ex-husband has completely sabotaged his relationship with our two teens, to the point where our nearly 14 y/o daughter doesn't want anything to do with him and hasn't participated in visitation in over a month.  From my perspective, dad has entirely brought this on himself, but I also see that my daughter is being stubborn.\n\nLast week he asked if he could stay after dropping our son off in order to chat with our daughter.  She didn't want to, but I told her she at least had to listen to what he had to say.  According to my son, she didn't say much beyond, \"I never want to see you or talk to you again.\"\n\nMy son mentioned last night that dad wants to talk to her again now that he has one therapy session under his belt.  I don't exactly want him making himself at home around here, but I also know that forcing her out of the house is going to end up a disaster.   (FWIW, the whole family has worked with family therapist who is supportive of her not being forced into visitation.)\n\nWhat should I do?  Force her to go out with him?  Allow him to hang out here?  Tell him to send her a letter?", "summary": "My ex-husband wants to visit with the kids at my house because they refuse to spend time with him."}
{"id": "t3_xmkde", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Interview for a Senior Care Facility Job", "post": "Hey my fellow aliens here's what's going on. I have many years of experience volunteering with senior citizens in Central California and I have even more experience organizing and planning events, and I thoroughly enjoy doing both. So I have an interview next week for an Activities Director in a senior citizens home, and I was just wondering if there was any advice that you all may have to help me get this job that I want so badly to get. I've got years of customer service experience and plenty of time under my belt with volunteer work like I said, so anything else that I could use to give myself and advantage would be helpful, because I can't stand my current job at all.", "summary": "Interviewing for Activities Director Position for Senior Citizen Care Facility and I'd like some pointers"}
{"id": "t3_24pq17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my [26 F] girlfriend of 1.5 years do not love each other equally and I am curious of everyone's input on that.", "post": "I've been dating my gf for the last 1.5 years, and she's nothing short of a fantastic individual.  She's the first woman I'm comfortable with being the mother of my future children, which says something about her character.  \n\nShe is madly in love with me, accepts me for my faults, and would be as loyal as a dog to me as we move forward; however, I don't love her as much as she loves me.  I get annoyed by her little tendencies, habits, and a lot of her little knacks have just been troubling me over the past 3 or 4 months.  \n\nIn our team of love, she certainly pulls more weight, and I feel very emotionally unattached and distant.  It breaks her to tears every time that I bring this up to her, and I don't know how to handle it, or what to do.\n\nDoes anyone have any input, advice, or suggestions what may help us find that spark again, or if that is even worth it?", "summary": "I'm falling out of emotional love with my gf, but she hopes for a wedding ring and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2mdiis", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because of momvember", "post": "I taught it it would be a festive thing for me to send a snapchat for movember to my American friend. Being the funny guy I am I came up with a great idea. I'm Australian and I thaught why not add a down under style twist. I had not shaved my pubes in quite a while so it was looking quite movemberish combining these two thaughts (down under and my pubes) I decided to send a photo of my pulic region with the hilarious caption \"Happy movember from down under!\"  However I was unaware I was in chat with a girl I was snapchatting. I clicked send thinking I would see the friends list however I was starkly suprised when I saw the sending. Now she thinks I'm rapist. Not going well", "summary": "I sent a pic of my pubes to a girl."}
{"id": "t3_1kg16l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[14M] with my girlfriend [14F], refuses the talk about sex in an adult manner", "post": "Okay, let me get this out of the way before you spam the comments with judgement. I am not trying to have a sexual advancement with my girlfriend, I just want to have the talk so that we know where we are at with our sexual relationship so that if the time comes abruptly, we can be prepared.\n\nI have tried talking to her about sex before, in an adult manner of course, no jokes for anything. All that I've gotten out of her is the general \"I'm saving myself for marriage!\" Deal. A healthy relationship can maintain both sexual and emotional experiences, correct? She does not think so. I don't exactly want to persuade her, just more explain myself and my position without sounding/feeling a like a pervert because of the way she handles the situation.\n\nHow can I approach my girlfriend into an adult talk about sexual relations?", "summary": "Won't talk about sex, need help engaging in adult conversation"}
{"id": "t3_27qkp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I start a relationship with someone going abroad?", "post": "I've (male/21) been friends with this girl (female/20) since March and in the last two months things have been heating up. She clicks with me like no one else I've ever met. I want to be with her. \n\nThe only doubt I have with making her my girlfriend now is that she is going abroad for a semester starting in September. I've never been in a relationship that's been long distance for any period of time. Would you start a relationship with someone before they left or attempt to cool things off and see where you both of you were when they got back?", "summary": "Should I start a relationship knowing there's going to be long distance in the near future?"}
{"id": "t3_2ij17t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22 M] S.O.[23 F] of a few months is not very open with how she feels about me.", "post": "I like showing my affection. Through words and actions. I've never been with a girl who wasn't as open as I am with my feelings. \n\nMy current S.O. is pretty much the opposite. She rarely states her feelings for me in anyway, especially unprovoked. If I flirt with her or compliment her or anything like that, it's almost as if it makes her uncomfortable. It's to the point where I don't really feel comfortable calling her by a dumb pet name or even saying she's pretty. \n\nI know people show how they feel differently, which is why I've been giving her time - I'm hoping that maybe she just needs extra time to be accustomed to me? I really don't know. This is completely foreign to me. \n\nI really like her. And I *think* she likes me, but honestly it's so hard to tell. I don't want to make her sound like an emotionless person. We have a lot of fun together. It just feels like there's some weird gap between us. \n\nI'm currently adopting the \"wait and see\" method to give her more time to get comfortable with me. I just want to know if anyone has experience with this and if I am doing the right thing. I don't want to have to have some weird \"you're not showing me that you like me enough\" conversation. \n\nMany thanks. And sorry if this is super vague. Let me know if I can clear anything up.", "summary": "I'm open with my feelings. Girlfriend is not. I wish she was, but I don't want to make her uncomfortable. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_f21dt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My 36-yr-old brother had a heart attack today.", "post": "My brother is in the hospital.  Last night, he had some pain in his arms and in his back.  He said it felt like a muscle ache.  He couldn't sleep all night, and in the morning went to the Walgreens walk-in clinic.  They told  him he might be having a heart attack and to get to the ER.  Well, they were right.  He drove himself to the hospital, where they determined one of the main arteries in his heart had 100% blockage.  They brought him into the cath lab, removed the clot, and put in a stent.  With the stent in place, the blood flow is back and there is no more blockage.\n\nThey say he will be in the hospital for a few days.  There is some concern about how long the heart tissue went without blood flow, and there could be some serious tissue damage.  But the doctor was hopeful that it won't have a serious impact on his quality of life.  The good news is that as far as they can tell, all the other arteries are totally clean and there were no other blockages (not even partial blockages).  So this may have just been a clot that formed somewhere that broke off and traveled to the heart.  I'm not sure if we'll ever get definitive answers.\n\nThis has certainly been eye-opening -- a 36-year-old non-smoker, non-drinker, non-druggie having a heart attack.  I never expected to get a call like the one I got today.  It's been a bit of a surreal day, but I believe he will be OK and my family will be OK. \n\nI wanted to post this to make people aware that not all heart attacks are grabbers, where you feel chest pains and the \"typical\" pain in your left arm.  If he had known this was a heart attack when the symptoms first started, the damage may have been minimized.  Thanks for listening, reddit.", "summary": "A young otherwise healthy guy has a heart attack with atypical symptoms.  Maybe knowing this will help someone else."}
{"id": "t3_1dvcxv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(25f) I slept with my high school crush and now I am not sure how to tell him I want to be more than a booty call.", "post": "So we hadn't seen each other in 8 years or so and literally bumped in to each other while I was visiting my parents. Some light flirting lead to him inviting me out for drinks.\n\nWe got some drinks and watched the hockey game. We talked about all sorts of things. He made me laugh and was overall just really interesting and fun to be with.\n\nHe asked if I wanted to come over to his house or if I wanted him to take me home. Now I already decided if this came up I was going to go for it so I went to his house. We had pretty amazing sex. He asked me to spend the night and we had sex two more times. \n\nHe told me to call him when I am in town next but all our conversations now are about sex.", "summary": "Am I stuck just being a booty call or can I do something to steer this in a dating direction?"}
{"id": "t3_3uhdp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [27 F] of 2 months wants to be more physical. This is my first relationship and I'm very nervous.", "post": "Hello Reddit, I'll try to make this brief as possible.\n\nI'm 28 and never been in a relationship until now. Before \"Samantha\" and I started 'going out', I was convinced that I was not ever going to be in one. Never been flirted with or asked out. I basically just did my own thing. It didn't cause me much stress, just occasionally I would get lonely but always managed to bury it and move on.\n\nSamantha has been my first for everything. She's the first hand I held, she's my first kiss, first date, etc. I've been incredibly nervous but it's also been very exciting. But now she's pushing for even more intimacy and to put it bluntly, I'm scared. I'm very nervous about having sex.\n\nSamantha is quite the opposite of me physically. I'm 5'10 and very lanky. I'm 125lbs and very bony. She's very physically fit and muscular. Slightly shorter than I.\n\nShe's said that she's very excited to be my first for all these life experiences and that everything feels right. I feel like everything is going by a mile a minute. Is this a normal speed? Is there things I can read or study to help with relationships and sex?\n\nOne last thing, a friend of mine that I'm not very close with but we hang out on occasion, says that Samantha is giving me a pity fuck. I know this girl and Sammy don't get along but now the thought has burrowed into my head and won't quite go away. Do you think it's just because these two get along or does Sammy show signs to you more experienced people that this is just a pity relationship?\n\nJust to be clear, I don't want a pity relationship. I'd rather have no relationships than one that was based on someone feeling sorry for me.\n\nThanks Reddit. =)", "summary": "Never had a relationship. Now in one. Moving fast. Worried. Someone says it's out of pity."}
{"id": "t3_1kh96j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] have never been in a relationship.", "post": "Hi reddit. This is a personal issue concerning myself [23/M] only. I am a fairly introverted individual since i'm very young. I still have a fairly active social life, and been holding a job in which i interact with many individuals on a daily basis for over 3 years and going out every week with friends of both sexes.  So it's not like i am crippled by shyness by any means. But when it comes to romantic relationships, i've got nothing. I have never been in a romantic relation with someone before in my entire life, never kissed a girl, never had sex, never went on a date. It's just something that haven't been on my mind for most of my life. \n\nIt hasn't bothered me much, since my teens years have mostly been about me hanging out with male friends who were equally as uninterested in anything else but just playing video games and drinking most of our free time. But since my early twenties, my group of friends has significantly expanded. My friends have been hitting the gym, been dating, going out, etc. But i am still pretty much the same guy, but without the teenage angst.\n\nNow i feel lonely. I can go through my days just fine, keeping myself busy with my own interests. But when i head to bed, it hits me like a ton of bricks. I can't sleep without wrapping myself around my pillow and imagining how it'd feel if it was someone. \n\nI'm affraid to initiate any sort of romantic relationships, not that i would know how anyway. I never had anyone so close in my life that i feel comfortable completely opening up to, and even though i would love to, it scares me shitless. I'm affraid i would become too attached and drive her away. I'm affraid i wouldn't be able to meet expectations since i have no experience at all. \n\nI always thought it would just happen eventually, but i'm almost mid-way through my twenties and i feel so lonely.", "summary": "Never been with a girl. I don't quite get relationships, but i really want to be in one."}
{"id": "t3_1egx5m", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Had to quit my job due to severe allergies to the product line. Thing is, I signed a contract when I started and now I owe $3,000. I'm jobless and broke, what do I do?", "post": "I started working at a Salon in March only to find out that I was allergic to pretty much the entire product line. After enduring a month of hives, headaches and sinus problems I went to an allergy specialist. He told me that yep, I am allergic to something in the product line and that I really should not be working in those conditions. I had no choice really but to quit. \n\nOn the other hand, I signed an agreement when I started saying that I would be with the salon for 3 years and during that time they would provide me with continuing education. If I were to leave before the 3 years were up I would be subject to pay the remaining balance of the Education Fund, totaling about $3,000. I have nowhere near that kind of money (I can hardly buy groceries right now). \n\nThe owner of the salon is being pretty understanding and said that she would try to work with me on this. Other employees that had to quit would do things like provide cleaning services or computer maintenance services until it was paid off. Others had donated restaurant gift cards (she left to open her own restaurant) or air filters for the salon (her mom worked for an air filtration company). I have no connections to anything that would benefit the salon in any way, so that option is pretty much out. I would be willing to provide whatever services, but just walking in the salon makes me miserable physically. I quit to get OUT of that environment...\n\nI have $0.19 in my bank account right now. I have no idea what to do, and I'm seriously freaking out. Please someone help.", "summary": "I started a job at a salon and signed a 3 yr/$3,000 contract. A month later I had to quit due to horrible allergies. Now I have to pay off my $3,000 balance with no money to my name. I can provide services (cleaning) but going into the salon is awful for me physically. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jog16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my best friend [27 M] 10 years, turned into a total asshole out of nowhere.", "post": "So basically, a friend and myself have been pretty close for going on 11 years now and lately, the guy has just been a total asshole. Over the last year or two, myself and another close friend of ours, have noticed a growing trend in this guy being a total dick.  I mean arrogant, complete smart ass, and totally self-serving.  He has a problem with alcohol which im sure feeds this.  Either way, I'm not sure how to approach it any more.  I have tried telling him that he needs to watch the way he treats his friends being as we haven't done anything to him.  He constantly tries to pick fights over the stupidest things, anything from government policies all the way down to grammar. Yes, grammar. I really don't want to lose a close friend who I have known for nearly half my life.", "summary": "Long time friend has become totally hostile, arrogant, and asshole-ish over nothing and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1hsp0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[M17/18] girlfriend[F17/18] headed for college (most likely) soon; don't know how well we'd handle long distance. Advice please?", "post": "(Brief explanation of the 17/18: we're both 17 but our birthdays are in a month, so...)\n\nSo, my girlfriend of 3 months will most likely be attending college soon (A major deciding factor being some medical complications which I will not be getting into). The campus is about a 6 hour drive from where I live and being my age, even with a job it's an expensive trip, not including accommodations since dorms are strictly one-gender. \n\nDespite how much I'd really love to see her on a regular basis, I don't know how often I could afford to go all the way to see her. Included that my parents are divorced and my mother travels for her job, meaning I have to supervise the house and my younger sister while she's out (which can be for up to 5 days at a time).\n\nWe're already pretty used to seeing each other only once or twice a week since we live about 45 minutes apart, but neither she nor I know how well we could handle not being able to see each other for weeks at a time.\n\nWe've talked about it, and despite Skype, text, and phone, it doesn't compare to meeting face-to-face. We have a wonderful relationship in every aspect (we have fun, communicate well, share interests, respect each other, I could go on) and love each other very much. Neither of us want to end it because of distance reasons.\n\nI'm currently unsure of where I'll be attending college (aside from that I will be attending, and within the state), though one of my primary choices is one hour away from where she will be, at a good school, and in a city where I have family that would gladly take me in. The issue again with this school is my mother's traveling job and the need to be half guardian half house-sitter.\n\nI am currently in an state of I-have-no-freaking-idea.\n\n[", "summary": "] Girlfriend moving (likely) to hours-away college. I am currently in a position of responsibility on a somewhat regular basis and must therefore stay put. We don't know if we could handle the distance."}
{"id": "t3_1f25t0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Told my girlfriend I love her but she's afraid to love back (Me 16/M, Her F/16, Length: 2 Months", "post": "Here's the deal, we've been dating for about 2 months and about a week ago I told her I love her. In reality she had been dating one of my friends for a year and I liked her since then (Friendzoned obviously) but he didn't treat her right and was really hurt by it. Her parents are also divorced and been through many dads, has been bullied a bit and abused. Perhaps it's easy for me because she's the first girl I've ever loved. But she feels bad for not explaining it to me (I told her to not worry about it, she doesn't have to explain anything, i can't force her feelings). So any advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Told girlfriend i love her, she's had a bad boyfriend, parents divorced and abused, afraid to love back (what she said).Need advice"}
{"id": "t3_2gmh12", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Advice for dealing with violently biting cat?", "post": "About a month ago, I adopted an 11-year-old cat whose previous owner had described him as \"striking out\" or \"attacking\" in response to things like loud noises or humans going in or out of a door often. I've been around cats who \"strike out\" when upset (hissing, swatting, the occasional sharp nip), but this guy is something else entirely. \n\nEvery once in a while, in response to totally inconsistent triggers, he'll suddenly and violently attack. His first attack left me with a bruise on my arm the size of an apple, plus four bleeding punctures/slits where his teeth went in and ripped back out. His next few didn't make it through jeans, but were equally violent. Just now he bit me hard enough that the area is still sore, although fortunately he hit the pocket of my pants and didn't break skin. \n\nHe doesn't give any warning prior to these attacks, no growling, hissing, ears back, etc. The triggers have been totally random: a plastic bag full of dice, one I never figured out (opening the fridge?), a box full of cardboard tokens rattling, and some kid playing tuba across the parking lot. \n\nThe vet prescribed kitty Prozac to alleviate anxiety, but it isn't helping, as he's been on it for two weeks and just attacked me now. Other than these random attacks, he's a pretty relaxed cat, although he does beg for food a lot (I ignore him, since he always has food in his dish and I think he's just trying to train me). I play with him with a laser pointer and a toy on a stick. He's declawed in front, but it was done before I adopted him, so please don't jump on me for it - I know it's bad. \n\nAny advice for how to deal with him? I don't want to give him up since I just got him, and I suspect that at his age (11) and color (all black) if I do send him to a shelter, they'll just put him down. But I can't live with a cat that attacks me without warning and hard enough to bruise and draw blood, either.", "summary": "My cat bites hard enough to bruise and draw blood, totally without warning and at random. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3lqnli", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Friend got arrested last night. How serious are these charges?", "post": "LOCATION : AMES IOWA\n\nLast night my friend was arrested and charged with the following \n\n1. Providing False Information (simple misdemeanor )\n2. Possession of alcohol under legal age (simple misdemeanor )\n3. Possession of a manufactured Fake ID (serious misdemeanor )\n4. Minor providing alcohol to a minor (simple misdemeanor )\n\nHer bond was set at $1900 I bailed her out.\n\nShe has court next Monday. When she was arrested the officers did not read her her miranda rights. Is there anyway to go about proving this? I'm wondering if this will impact her future she wants to be crime scene investigator. Did this fuck her over?\n\nP.S. She was not intoxicated\n\nThanks", "summary": "friend got arrested how serious is it ? How can you prove you were not read your miranda rights."}
{"id": "t3_1hd24g", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Hey /r/breakups... it totally gets better.", "post": "Just wanted to send you all a happy little message.\n\nIt *does* get better. Trust me when I say breakups suck (as you all know), but also trust me when I say you do get better and you WILL love again. You may or may not get back together with your ex and you know what? That's really okay.\n\nBe kind to yourself and remember that you used to love that person with all you had... but now you can love *yourself* with all you *have.* I thought I would never get over this breakup but you know what? I did. And wanna know something else? Not only did I get over it, I'm kinda seeing someone else and that's pretty awesome too. I didn't ever get the apology I wanted, but life isn't always about getting what you want. It's about getting what you need.", "summary": "It gets better. It gets infinitely better."}
{"id": "t3_2xw5l6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my ex [30 M] of 1 year. How to break no contact and be friends?", "post": "I know a lot of people say never, or to wait till he contacts you before deciding if you want to talk to him (often advised 'no' anyway). But when I am truly over the hurt and anger of the breakup, I would like to let go of the grudge holding me onto NC. I'm not going to rush into this until I've had a good 30 days, or until I no longer feel like I want him back.\n\nWe have lots of similar interests and ideas and I value him as a good friend, even after things started going wrong relationship-wise. Also, if anything, I do still care about him and I think my forgiveness will really help him move on with other aspects of his life (not going to go into details but he really hurt me, and he knows and regrets that). He is not going to contact me first because I told him not to, until I am ready and I contact him, and he is respecting that space. \n\nI am wondering how I do that. We are not living in the same country now so a meet up is not possible. Long email with heartfelt thoughts about relationship and me saying I forgive him? Casual text asking how he's doing (implicitly letting him know I do forgive him and want to be friends)?", "summary": "How do I break no contact with my ex after he hurt me, to let him know I forgive him and to hopefully be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_exzgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know if she likes me or if we're friends.", "post": "I've known this girl for a long time, about 7 years now. Only recently (about the last 6 months) have we really started talking after going on to different schools over the summer. We used to talk well into the night and past midnight over the summer, less when school started. We don't talk for as long anymore, since we don't have as much time. I try to start a conversation when I can, but she rarely, if ever starts them.\nAnyways, she doesn't really start conversations often, but when I start one, they sometimes go really well. Anyway, she uploads photos with captions to an undisclosed online host, and I think a lot of them have been hints. She showed me these photos over the summer, and I don't think a lot of people know about them (1-5 views per). I don't know if they're directed to me, as I don't know who else knows about the photos. But if they are, I want to tell her how I feel.\nI don't know if she's only being a friend, or if she does feel the same. I don't want to ruin the friendship by letting words loose and not receiving a positive response. I don't see her in real life anymore, except if I were to ask her and get a yes (We live very close to each other).\nI wanted to ask her on a walk to tell her at least something, but I don't know if it's a good idea. For a bit of perspective, we're both about 15.", "summary": "Known a girl for 7 years, really started talking about 6 months ago. Photos w/ captions give hints, but not sure if aimed at me. She doesn't really start conversations, but seems really enthusiastic when I start one. Does she like me? Should I do something about it?"}
{"id": "t3_q368e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, How can I tell my dad to do his own homework?", "post": "My dad is going back to school. I'm a sophmore in college and he's barely going back. Every assignment he get he asks me to do for him or help him to the point where I end up doing it. He pays me and I do still live at home rent free. When I refuse to help him and tell him that he needs to learn for himself and that he is cheating himself in the end. He throws a thantrum and makes me feel like shit. Then he goes to my mom who has 2 jobs and has 5 classes. She does anything for him. \n\nHe's acting like a baby and I don't know how to make him realize that he needs to do his work. I offer to tutor him and I truly try to teach him how to learn but he just does not want to do it. When things aren't done perfect, he threatens to quit school. Its so childish.", "summary": "My dad doesn't do his homework and forces my mom and I to do it for him. Whats a nice way to tell him he's only cheating himself?"}
{"id": "t3_jvfts", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can i stop over thinking every thing?", "post": "Overthinking is a huge problem for me, it's driving me nuts. It makes me hate alot of people, even some friends. If someone makes a small joke or prank, i just wouldnt be able to get it out of my mind till i get to the point of hating them, even though i know that it was just a joke or that they were just kidding. And i can never stop fully evaluating any person or situation, i always try to simulate anything i do and i even sometimes just keep trying to convince myself if i should say a joke or note. This is really crippling me socially, even though in some situations i dont have any trouble at all being confident in conversations, most of the time i just think that most people are out to get me which makes me really overthink most of the things i say or do.", "summary": "I over think people and situations and it makes me paranoid concerning people and really breaks any confidence i have. Can anyone helpe me stop this horrible habbit?"}
{"id": "t3_48f045", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hating how I look", "post": "Backstory: I personally hate how I look in my school photo and especially how I look in my ID badge clamped onto my blazer. Girlfriend takes the piss out of me because of how shit I look. Stupid facial expression, it was taken before a well needed haircut and the quality of the ID is shit.\n\nA'ight, I was in Chemistry and I was tired of having to see that ugly ass ID badge, so I thought I'd be clever and draw myself a less shittier looking picture for my ID and then slip it in my badge. Didn't look too shabby.\n\nRoll around to Monday and the strictest teacher comes up to me because he always has two cents to put in about my uniform and sees my badge, he immediately stops me to a halt and demands that I take the picture out of my badge, so I do because I can't be fucked to argue with him cause it's not worth it and I arrive at my exam late.\n\nWhich brings me to yesterday where my head of year comes up to me in my physics exam and asks that I see her at break, so I answer Physics questions for 2 hours and see her at break.\n\nI'm in her office and she holds up my amazing artistry, *fucks sake again with this shit*, she then gives me a detention because I'm \"defacing my uniform\" and \"setting a bad example for the year 7's\" not that I care about either. It is now a waiting game where I will see how this detention pans out later today.", "summary": "I hate how I look so I drew a replacement photo for my schools ID and now I got a detention because of it."}
{"id": "t3_1hw0u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23M] gf[22f] of a year and a half, is jealous of my friend[23f]", "post": "I met my girlfriend in undergrad and she is a year younger than me, I just graduated so she has a year left to complete.  My hometown is 1500 miles away from where I went to school so we will be in an LDR for about a year. I met my gf in school and our relationship feels like a dream at times. We write letters to each other daily and skype frequently but recently she has become increasingly jealous of my friend from my hometown.  I understand that now that I am back home I will be spending less time with my gf and more time with my friend, and this contributes towards the feelings of jealousy, but I really feel like these notions are unfounded.  Most of my friends from hs are girls because my guy friends from middle school ended up going to a different high school.  As a result, most of my friends from hs are girls and most of my friends in undergrad are guys. I've never dated any of these girl friends from high school, so I really have a hard time understanding why she feels like this.  My family and friends all love my gf (they've skyped and met her casually), but they've never met her in person.  I can't wait for the opportunity for her to get to know my friends in person so she can see that the jealousy really is for naught.  But her family is uncomfortable with her traveling 1500 miles across the country to visit me, which I understand.  So, I feel like i'm in a bit of a pickle at the moment. I hate seeing my gf so upset, but I really don't even hang out with my hs friends that frequently. When I do, I almost feel like I shouldn't tell my gf that I did. I still tell her at the moment, because I feel like not telling her is hiding something but I don't know what to do! Help me reddit!", "summary": "I'm in a LDR, with my gf of a year and a half, and now that i'm back home, my gf is becoming jealous of my female high school friends that i've never dated. -_____-"}
{"id": "t3_gnlbd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do restaurant food delivery drivers prefer being tipped in cash, or having you charge the tip to a credit card if you are ordering online?", "post": "I'm sure they prefer being tipped (generously) to not being tipped. But given the prospect of an equal and generous tip, do they prefer it in cash, or on the credit card.\n\nWhy I ask: I ordered from papa Gino's and I noticed that they add in a delivery fee (which is not a tip, of course, because they keep that) and then have a selection list for \"tip\" which will calculate 5, 10, 15, 20 percent and add that to your bill. You also have the choice of \"custom.\" So, you could put in any amount. If you wanted to tip in cash, you'd have to either pay the whole thing in cash or put \"0\" in the tip amount which doesn't sit well with me (even if I intend to make it up to the driver). \n\nI usually tip in a way that is mindful of the driver's time and rising gas prices, but I am also slightly suspicious of companies and wonder if the driver actually gets that tip.\n\nIn this case, I asked the driver. She seemed happy to be asked and told me that she does get the tip if I put it on the card, and that it is \"probably safer that way.\" I didn't want to take up her time, so I didn't get clarification. I assume she meant it is safer for them to not be carrying cash.", "summary": "If you are/were a driver, would you prefer a cash tip; do you trust that you'd get the money if it is charged to a credit card?"}
{"id": "t3_2fnmr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I (24/f) have a right to be concerned about my (23/m) boyfriend of 1.5 years recent behavior in our second LDR?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have recently started our second LDR (we had a short LDR last year that lasted 4 months). He is currently living 8 hours away from me in order to obtain a second degree. His recent drinking behavior, however, has concerned me.\n\nSince leaving for school, he has been going out almost every other night to drink (either at bars or in the dorms) with his dorm-mates. The reason why I'm so concerned is because before leaving for school (during the 12 month period when we were together physically) he expressed a detestation for drinking, claiming he was \"happy\" and had \"no need\" to drink. \n\nAm I over reacting? Rationally, I want to believe he is simply attempting to make friends with his dorm-mates and going along with the social norms of dormitory life. However, a second part of me is concerned about the recent behavior change considering he rarely drank before. Should I wait it out and see what happens, or ask him about the behavior on our upcoming skype date? \n\nThanks for your help!", "summary": "Boyfriend in LDR has been drinking more than usual since leaving for school. Should I ask him about the recent behavior change or wait it out?"}
{"id": "t3_28dwwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Grandma likes to spoil me (25/F) and my family makes me feel guilty about it.", "post": "I am 25 years old and my Grandma's first grandchild, ever since I was little she always liked me to visit her and do things with her. She would even take me school clothes shopping every year because my family didn't have the money.\n\nAt 25, she still does these things for me (minus school clothes shopping). She always wants me to visit her house for about a week every year and she always insists on taking me places and buying me things (Not expensive things, mostly like thrift store clothes or maybe 1-2 new things), or if we go out to eat she always pays, she pays for everything basically. If I try to refuse something or offer to pay, she flat out refuses and won't let me.\n\nShe even buys me a plane ticket just to visit my family and her each year (we live in different states now), even when I say I have money and can pay, she INSISTS I let her pay.\n\nMy family thinks I shouldn't let her do these things for me, but it makes her happy. When I turn things down she wants to buy me, she gets sad and upset. I don't know whether or not to just let her do this, or what.\n\nI don't know if it's all because my parents feel jealous or guilty because they don't have the money to do the things my Grandma does for me and they wish they could.", "summary": "Grandma likes to buy things for me but my family says I shouldn't let her. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1izbef", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "On the verge of going insane. HELP! [advice]", "post": "Hey guys! So I'm in a dilemma. I currently work in retail for Verizon Wireless. I absolutely love the technology behind the company and the future driving it forward. I have recently encountered a dramatic shift in how the store is run by management, even upwards to their managers. I'm starting to look for other ventures but do not even know where to look. What are some places to start looking? I average in the top 10% in Florida, and due to certain contracts ending with Verizon and BJ's locations, there are no openings to move up or around! Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "manager blows. Looking for other opportunities. Need help finding places to look."}
{"id": "t3_i8ffa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most glorious shit you've ever taken?", "post": "It could be because of location, what you ate beforehand, or how you did it - I don't give a shit. \n\nFor me, it was during a 10-day backpacking trip in the Grand Tetons (Wyoming, USA). I had been eating nothing but energy bars and the occasional dehydrated meal, and they blocked me up something awful. Needless to say, by the 4th day without a shit, I was ready to rip a hole in the grass. I grabbed the poop shovel and walked down a pretty steep embankment a ways from camp, and there I discovered a rock wedged horizontally into some other rocks in the mountainside. It made almost like a little chair. Plus there was a gap and it made for the perfect place to dig a poop hole. I released the culmination of 4 days worth of trail food, all while on a mountainside taking in the view of the valley and the peaks above. Glorious. Simply glorious.", "summary": "Took a shit on a mountain after being constipated for days because of trail food"}
{"id": "t3_4iagfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My partner [18F] of two months broke up with me[18M] because she was not ready for a relationship", "post": "Girl i have been seeing for two months broke up with me over text last Sunday.\n\n I do not understand what happened, we were perfectly happy a few days before. \n\nShe just sent me a text out of the blue only wanting to be friends even if we had made plans to do things during the summer.\n\n I sent her a \"sorry you feel that way, but thank you for the memories\" kind of message, but she didnt answer.\n\n I feel so lonely and want her back but most people around me tell me to forget her\n\nShould I just let go? Even after all we have done together? \n\nIt is to note that I still have very strong feelings for her even if she hurt me immensely.", "summary": "Girl ended things with me and I want her back and want closure (at least), should i ask to meet her or is that too clingy?"}
{"id": "t3_3bwld9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [17 F] My girlfriend is mad at me, would you be too?", "post": "Hey /r/relationships, I have been with my Girlfriend (lets call her \"Emma\") for just over a year now and its been mostly a great time and we love each other very much. I graduated in 2014 (so I am in college), and shes due to graduate in 2016; but I have a situation and I don't know If I did anything wrong so I need a second opinion.\n\nAbout two days ago we were invited to one of my girlfriends friends party's on this upcoming Saturday, and I said \"yes\" because I didn't have any other plans. Well, yesterday when I was hanging out with one of my best friends, who is back from uni, invited me to her house for a small get together with a bunch of our friends who I don't get to see besides the summer.\n\nFor the next three nights I am working till 9 pm and I am usually very tired by the end of the three nights, and the last closing shift is on the night of the two events. Emma said that I didn't have to go if I didn't want to, by which I replied that \"I was thinking of stopping by my friends house for a few minutes because she is having a little get together with friends\" and reassured her that I will make sure to get her to her friends house regardless if I am going there or not. Emma got obviously angry by using \"k\" and when I made a joke about that, she said that she \"got (my friends name)'d\" and than she abruptly said \"I'm going bye\". I think she is acting like this because I am going to stop by my friends house for a few minutes rather than go to her friends party with her, even after she said I didn't have to go if I didn't want to. Plus, I also gave her a few days heads up that I might not be going, rather than ditch her the day of. My question is: Would you be angry too, or is this something I shouldn't worry about?", "summary": "Girlfriends mad at me, I don't know If I did something wrong or not because shes being passive aggressive."}
{"id": "t3_26zqw3", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog is having trouble with any new tricks, please help!", "post": "So I have a one year old golden retriever who is having trouble learning any new tricks. When I first got him, at 8 weeks, I taught him the basics (sit, down, stay) and manners. Then, I thought touch (with his nose) would be a fun trick to teach, and it was. Until now. Now, whenever I do anything, he tries to touch it and won't learn anything else really.\n\nAfter I taught him those first 4 tricks, I got lazy and really stopped working on anything besides manners and those 4 tricks. He really doesn't even lay down without a hand signal for some reason. \n\nHow do I work through this? I really would love to work on a lot of tricks, but he really won't stop touching me hand whenever I try to lure him (and I mean like jerk touching, not nice luring).", "summary": "Dog always tries to touch my hand with his nose, makes luring near impossible and teaching \"shake\" or \"paw\" a nightmare."}
{"id": "t3_3vjrmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] second date with a girl [20F] ended with a hug, not a kiss. But she said she wanted to see me again after finals/winter break end?", "post": "Last night I went on a really great second date with a girl. Despite it being reading period, with finals approaching next week, we went to see a comedy show, and then got hot chocolate at a coffee shop afterwards and talked until closing. I walked her home afterwards.\n\nAt the end of the date I really wanted to kiss her, and I started moving my hands towards her waist to hold her, but before I could do anything else she leaned in and gave me a tight hug, and told me she wanted to hang out with me again after winter break.\n\nDid she not want to kiss? Or did she just misread it as a hug?", "summary": "Second date was really good, tried for a kiss at the end but got a hug instead, and an invite for a third date. Rejection or miscommunication??"}
{"id": "t3_385x06", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What to do with $100k in savings.", "post": "My wife and I own a home and have $400 k in equity in the home.  We also have $100k sitting in cash after another home sale.  We want to buy our dream home in 5 years.  Where would you put $100k in cash if you had a similar situation?\n\nProbable questions:  How much do we \"need\" for our dream home?   Not sure. \n\nWill we need access to all of the $100k?  Probably most of it. \n\nDo we have other money in a rainy day fund?  Yes were covered for a rainy day.\n\nDo we have other investments for retirement?  Yes\n\nDo we have other assets to access in 5 years?  Yes, probably about 30k?", "summary": "what is a smart 100k investment in the short term to hedge against inflation and have relatively liquid?"}
{"id": "t3_1fijzy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Staying strong in the wake of my gf's depression (25m, 23f)", "post": "My girlfriend and I of two and a half years are about to move into our first flat together, and while a month ago we were both really looking forward to it suddenly things have gotten a little complicated. \n\nShe's just finished college, and has suddenly hit a period where she's unsure of the future and what she wants from life. Her mood has spiralled to the point where we've been a break on the last few weeks so that she can sort her head out. We haven't spoken that much during the break, but when we have she seemed to be getting back to her cheery self. But then other days I'm not so sure, as she rings me up asking about things like what we'd do if we had to break our lease or something. She attributes it to irrational panic attacks, but then asking me things like that make me worry about things.\n\nI know people dealing with depression have good days and bad days, and I love this girl so much that I want to be there for her. But what do you do when your relationship feels like its hanging in the balance every day?", "summary": "girlfriend is panicking about the future and I'm struggling to stay strong for her even though I want to."}
{"id": "t3_2d6vxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] going to a bachelor party and a few in the group [29 M]x3 want to deviate from the original plan behind the bachelor's back. We've known each other for 10 years.", "post": "2 of my friends are getting married and we're (15 of us) going to Vegas to celebrate for both of them next weekend.  Each bachelor would get their own night to choose what we do.  Saturday will be a nice dinner and bottle service at a club.  Friday night was going to be a comedy show and late dinner afterwards (some people arrive in the evening).  \n\nSome people are not on board with the Friday plan and want to go to a club instead of the late dinner after the comedy show.  They started an email thread to half the group (friday bachelor excluded) trying to convince us to go to the club with them.\n\nI feel this is a pretty awful thing to do and I told them I wouldn't be comfortable with it.  I think this could potientially ruin the weekend causing some rifts among the party not to mention how shitty my friend would feel if he found out.\n\nAre they being selfish and should I try to stop this or should I just let them go?", "summary": "Some friends in our bachelor party want to change the plans for one of the nights without including the bachelor.  Not sure if I should try to stop them or let them go."}
{"id": "t3_39xscq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] finally got my husband [23 M] to admit why he's sabotaging my diet, and I'm shocked and confused [NSFW]", "post": "For background, we've been together for almost 4 years, married for 6 months. When we met we were both thinner and both gained quite a bit while in college and living together. I put on about 30lbs, he put on around 50lbs. \n\nI've decided to get healthy and dove right in. In the first month I lost 8 pounds and was really proud of myself. This was despite my husband being the least supportive of anything in our relationship, ever. He would offer to cook dinner and load everything with butter (like 1,500 calories in one meal), stop for donuts or bagels on his way home from work for me (he works weird hours), and get sad if I didn't finish it all. \n\nSo, of course, I confronted him about it expecting the normal stuff. Jealousy, insecurity, something like that, but what I got was even weirder. He said that he really likes sex with me now that I'm chubbier. He had never had sex with someone who wasn't thin before and didn't know how much he liked it, apparently. It's true that he touches/kisses my body more now than before but I had no idea that was the reason why.\n\nI still want to lose weight because I'm doing it for myself and my health, but I really don't know what to do here. He seems genuinely upset that I'm losing weight. \n\nHas anyone else been in this position? What did you do? This is the exact opposite reaction I was expecting.", "summary": "My husband likes sex better now that I've gained weight and is sabotaging my diet to keep me fat."}
{"id": "t3_13rtp9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Let's share some tricks, tips, and advice concerning moving on and gaining control post break-up.", "post": "I'll share a short background about myself, but I'm really just looking to make a post-break up better for both myself, the /r/relationships and /r/BreakUps community. \n\nThe boyfriend [m21] and I [f21] were together for a 1.5 years and I truly felt myself falling in love with him. 4 month ago, he broke up with me without any unchanged feeling toward me. It was awkward the first month after because we had items to exchange and had the break up to discuss, but he requested we stop talking to help get over one another. Two weeks later, he changed his mind because I was 'important' and wanted to be platonic-friends. Then in 2 months, it looks more like he simply wanted us to be on good terms than not talking at all. I realize he isn't worth the effort I was putting into the supposed friendship, and he's already moving on himself (new close friend).", "summary": "I'm heartbroken, have lost my best friend, going through mild-depression, feel lonely, and will be moving in less than a year. What are some things that helped you get over a break up? I'm looking for a discussion to help both myself and others recover. :)"}
{"id": "t3_ribgn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats something you did as A kid and now look back and say, man I was A total dick.", "post": "My story: In elementary school, at recess me and my friends would play tag. Somehow whenever I was \"It\" I, for the life of me, couldn't tag anyone. One day I got a brilliant idea. After a few minutes of being it I walked away and began to cry (fake crying). Friends soon saw I was crying, walked over to help. As soon as they ask \"Whats wrong?\" I lunge at them, tag them, and run away laughing.\nI now look back at this and think. Man I use to be a dick. That and why did my friends fall for this more then once. (FYI none of us were tards.)", "summary": "Can't catch friends playing tag. Fake cry. Tag them when they walk over. Also not tards."}
{"id": "t3_3pavwb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [27m] annoyed at GF [29F] and my physical Disabilities.", "post": "me and my SO been in a LDR for 2 years 2 months, we have known each other for 7 years had 5 visits things were great until 1 year in we planned on moving in together but she could not find work she had no complaints about my disability(duchenne muscular dystrophy) we were making funny jokes about it and such.i was bummed not being together i accepted it And dropped the issue. \nthis past march i got violently ill and had to be hospitalized (we both thought i was gonna die).she visited in august said i have to go to her state \"next time\". now every time i bring up my visit to her she has been wishy-washy about it, i ask why and she says \"who is going to  take care of you?\".", "summary": "GF of 2 years now suddenly makes it feel like i am a burden to her when i want to visit. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2st2v2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by living too far from the city (slightly NSFW)", "post": "Like most TIFUs, this was not today. Recent enough that my cheeks still burn, though.\n\nSo a short while ago, I decided to go into the nearest city for some shopping and general fun. Maybe I saw a movie or something, who remembers. Anyway, I ate some food while I was there. Innocuous enough, not even ghost peppers or cheap sushi. \n\nI take the train to and from my house- it's about an hour, give or take. And so, feeling totally fine, I got on the train. That \"totally fine\" feeling lasted maybe ten minutes. I'm glad everyone on the train was staring at their iphones, because otherwise they would have seen my face get redder and redder and redder. My stomach was burning and twisting in on itself. I was shaking a little bit, and twisting my legs to try to relieve some of the agony. \n\n45 minutes to go. I couldn't make it. No way. I tried... one stop...two stops... and then I knew I couldn't go another damn minute. The train pulled to a stop, some place I'd never been to, and I fucking bolted off that thing. \n\nRan to some bushes around a parking lot, pulled down my leggings, and squatted. You know what comes next.\n\nSo as I'm sitting there, suffering in the most abject and exposed way, a car pulls up. The lights are shining on me through the bushes. A man gets out of the car, and I see him glance at me. Look away, then do a double-take and stare like he'd seen a (shitting) ghost. I couldn't look away. \nThe guy just got right back in his car and left. \n\nFinally it was done, and luckily I had some tissues with me.\n\nAs I'm walking back to the train stop, a pair of teenagers stop making out for long enough to give me the stink-eye and back away.", "summary": "couldn't make it home in time, took a shit in public and gave one poor soul a scene straight from a German porno no one asked for."}
{"id": "t3_4reo01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife [25 F] 4 years, i almost hit her last night and i feel like a piece of shit.", "post": "yea, you can bring your pitchforks if you want i deserve it.\n\ni grew up watching my father abuse my mom, i was afraid one he was going to hurt her really bad. it finally stopped one day when he broke her ribs she took me and left.\n\nmy mom has always told me to never put my hands on a woman, because its wrong. i have never been a violent person ever i have always kept my cool even when I'm really pissed.\n\nwhen i met my wife i told her about my childhood and everything that happened. she said maybe I'd benefit from some form of therapy but i didn't think there was anything wrong with me\n\nbut i think I'm becoming my father and last night proved it.\n\nme and her were arguing about everything money, bills, our marriage, everything. we got louder and i don't know what i was thinking she was right in front of me and i raised my fist.\n\ni very quickly realized what i was doing and backed away from her she went to our room and locked me out. she hasn't come out she only came out to get something to eat and drink and went back in.\n\ni don't think I'm good for her anymore i don't want to end up like my dad did. i don't want to lose her but i dont know what i can do to fix this situation. can somebody help me?", "summary": "i almost hit my wife and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2djm2n", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I may be in a sexual pickle", "post": "I lost my virginity recently and I can't tell any of my close friends because it was with my best friends ex girlfriend.\n\nThey broke up recently and she legit came onto me after I drove her home one night and a few nights later she was at my house and the deed  happened and rubbers were used.  I freaked out but she really didn't see anything wrong with it while I was freaking out.  \n\nThis has happened a couple times since then because sex is really fun now that I've had it but it still kills me inside.\n\nThe funny thing about this whole thing is that I recently had sex with another girl who all my friends think I lost my virginity to.  \n\nIt's a weird situation for me", "summary": "I recently lost virginity to best friends ex girlfriend but everyone thinks I lost it to another girl I recently have done the deed with"}
{"id": "t3_4kh6ku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] feel like the worst sister in the world. I made out with my sisters boyfriend [25M&F] brother [16M] friday night", "post": "I know, I know I am a piece of shit. It was selfish of my but I kissed my sisters boyfriend brother. I can't sleep I can't even look at my sister. I am not even sure if whether I did the wrong thing, I don't know what right anymore. \n\nThe guy I made out with his name is Owen. We are both 16 and we have alot in common. He is so freaking good looking like I want to date him but I know I can't. I have such a crush on him it's not even funny. \n\nMy sister and her boyfriend just returned to Florida from a couples get away. We were having a BBQ at my house and he was coming over. He was wearing a plain white shirt, with a black sleeveless jacket, black jeans and a red hoodie. \n\nHis nick name is whitey I asked him why and he said \" because all my friends are Black and Mexican\"\n\nMyself and him spoke for most of the night. We are both sophomores and we both do chemistry. We got to different schools and I asked if he not mind helping me with something I was struggling with. \n\nWe went up to my room and we made out. I don't even know how it happened. I feel so bad I don't even know what to do, can you please help me.", "summary": "I made out with my sisters boyfriend brother and I feel so bad."}
{"id": "t3_khxdo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it normal for an ex-girlfriend to do this? I'm really confused as to what's going on.", "post": "The girl in question broke up with me because we moved to separate universities, somewhat far away. She wanted to end the relationship \"while we still love each other\" instead of \"turning it into something we regret\". She still \"really likes me\" and would like to remain friends. She's even open to the possibility of getting back together in the Summer/Winter. I would like to emphasize prior to this breakup, things were going swimmingly with no indication of resentment or lack of affection.\n\nBut ever since we broke it off, she had been ignoring all contact with me. I try to ask her why and she says \"it's just not appealing to talk to  you\" because \"it's weird to just talk like nothing happened\".\n\nUnless I make it clear that her response is of an urgent matter to me, she will not reply to anything. I really want to remain friends with this girl, but aren't these actions contradictory to a desire to remain friends?\n\nIt just feels like the things she's doing are contradicting the things she's saying. Does it sound like this is the case, or might there be other reasons she's doing this?\n\nAdditional info: I'm 19, she's 17. Broke up 6 days ago. Together for 1.5 years.", "summary": "We broke up. She refuses to respond to messages, despite breaking up on good terms."}
{"id": "t3_38fzyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] met a girl [23F] at a party. Do I follow up with her or let it go?", "post": "Met this girl at a party, friend of a workmates. We hooked up and shared a bed, didn't get down together because we were too drunk (didn't even try), I woke up in the morning and left. Of course we were talking most of the night prior, it wasn't like \"hey, lets fuck\"\n\nWe've since made a bit of small talk on Facebook, most of it was just one sided (me)\n\nShould I (19 years old) ask her (22 years old) out for a drink/coffee? Or should I just let it go? Her butt was incredible, and she was cool, but of course I dunno.. If it doesn't go well, she'll tell my work mate and I'll never hear the end of it.\n\nI have no game so this is quite a big deal to me.", "summary": "Met a girl at a party, dunno whether to follow up talking to her or not"}
{"id": "t3_2a3jx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex girlfriend [21F] (relationship was 3 months), in gym talking", "post": "So this is an update to my previous comment\n\nYou'll probably need to read my original topic to understand this. Went in the gym today and saw her, wasn't that near her in there and didn't speak. Eventually I went over when there was a good chance and she wasn't working out and said 'alright?' in a friendly manner. She responded well and looked interested to see me.\n\nAfter that point I walked to an off shoot part of the gym that's just open space, she followed very shortly after to which she started asking what I was doing in life etc etc. She later began telling me about how she'd broken up with boyfriend in relation to something else and asked if I was with anyone. I appreciate this doesn't necessarily mean she was asking because she liked me, could have just been general conversation or keeping tabs on me but is it possibility she was asking because she cared?\n\nI wasn't obviously watching exactly how she was reacting to me but conversation flowed well with no real pauses for 20 minutes or so and she seemed to doing her stretching whilst talking to me facing in my direction which you wouldn't normally do I guess, I don't know if that means anything? I'm most likely just asking stupid questions now haha. \n\nShe seemed to be quite interested in asking what I was doing in life etc, laughing at silly jokes and such. In response to me saying one of the reasons I wanted to stay in my hometown city for university was because I wanted to stay around my dog (sounds sad I know) to which she replied with 'aww' but again, I don't know if this was a simple don't know what else to say or whatnot. \n\nShe may not have any interest in me at all, just wonder if there's any signs to pick up on? The first hurdle is done though which was talking to her again and getting familiar with her once more so I'll probably make an effort to talk to talk to her again when I see her. \n\nI APPRECIATE I'M PROBABLY READING TOO MUCH INTO THIS BEFORE ANYONE SAYS.", "summary": "Update on saw EX at gym. Wondering if a couple of things she said meant anything."}
{"id": "t3_31opgm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my friend I was going to molest his kids", "post": "Obligatory \"This happened two days ago\".\n\nAnyway, I had a buddy of mine over my room (we are both in college right now, and he's an Italian international student). We were just hanging out, but he was talking about all kinds of random stuff, like how he wanted to name his kids Gladstone and Bhivari (or something similarly ridiculous). So I made some joke and he starts laughing like \"Yeah, and you're gonna be my kids'... I don't know, what do you call that thing in English when you're like a fake uncle or something?\"\nSo I - and here's the fuckup - did my best marionette impression, which consists of wiggling my fingers in the air, and said \"The Godfather\" in a laughing (re: weird as hell) manner. Then, upon seeing his expression, I realized that what I was doing was making a gesture of fondling in the air while declaring my probable relationship with his future children.", "summary": "Tried to do a Godfather marionette impression, told my friend I was going to fondle his little ones."}
{"id": "t3_3hbtvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40/F] with my bf [37 M] 1 year, I went on vacation with platonic male friend and lied", "post": "I was invited to a wedding of a male friend I have known since I was 15. I asked my boyfriend if he could go with me and have a mini vacation since it was on the opposite coast we live on. He couldn't because he had his kids for the full week that week.\n\n I have another male friend from college who I've travelled extensively with, and we've also been roommates in the past. We've been just friends for about 25 years and are great travel buddies. He also knows my friend getting married so I asked if he'd like to go and we could do some traveling in the area. He said sure.\n\nMy boyfriend and I were having some arguments, he has had problems with other friends of mine and taken hard lines like 'I won't hang out with them again' or 'you can hang out with them but I wont be there' and he has shown signs of not understanding men and women who are just friends. I was afraid to tell him my plan and have a fight or him draw a line in the sand and make me feel like I couldn't travel with my friend anymore.\n\nI took my trip now I feel so guilty for being dishonest and lying saying that I was there alone. I've never felt so deceptive and I never want to do this again. If I need to have a fight, I'll have the fight. But I still don't want to tell him because he can be emotional / punishing tantrums, and see things very black and white. If I know that I'll never do something like this again, can I keep it to myself?", "summary": "Do I have to tell my bf I had a platonic male friend with me on holiday? I've decided not to be dishonest again."}
{"id": "t3_14reud", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "BF(17, M) and I(18, M) have broken up after 2 years. I'm so confused by everything that is happening now.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago. He said that he needed time for himself and that a relationship was too much pressure for him right now. So obviously I was completely devastated, but he almost didn't even seem to care that it was over.\n\n I couldn't handle it and almost went off the deep end. All I could think about was hurting myself and wanting to leave and never come back. I even tried to hurt myself. I'm so ashamed but I couldn't control myself. It hurts so much.\n\nMoving on to the next day, he kept calling me and telling me that he made a huge mistake and that he wanted back. Which just added even more to the confusion and hurt. I had some hope left so I said I would think about it.\n\nSo, onto the next day, I called him and said that maybe we could try again. Which obviously was a mistake because as soon as I told him that he said he didn't know if that was what he wanted anymore. Which by that point, my head was so cloudy and I couldn't even think straight. I instantly reverted back to my dark thoughts.\n\nTo make the rest of this shorter, ill simplify this part. We were on a talking basis, he told me he wanted to be boyfriends, but without the title to take some pressure off and that we shouldn't see each other as often as we did, I agreed -_- So that worked for a couple days.\n\nThen yesterday, I called him, he blew up on me, said this wasn't going to work at all. So as horrible as I felt, i agreed and we said our goodbyes forever. I packed up the things he gave me. Okay, last part, sorry for the length. He calls me last night apologizing for saying what he did and yelling at me. Then says he wants me to text him and that he loves me. I'm just so damn confused. I cant think straight anymore, i don't know what to do or think. I'm so lost and in pain. Any insight or comments would help. Thank you.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I broke up after 2 years for time to himself, he's been messing with my head and sending me signals then going back on them, I'm terribly confused and in pain and really need some help/advice."}
{"id": "t3_1xzv99", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by changing the batteries in a fire alarm", "post": "At work we are supposed to keep the fire alarm batteries up to date. I walked in and heard the high pitch beep it makes when the batteries are dead. I grab some batteries and a chair. It was my first time performing this duty as well so I didn't know how to open the fire alarm. I go to step off, not realizing how tall the back of the chair is, and the corner of the chair hits my Perineum and somehow slid into my vaginal opening. I fall backwards. My head hits the door, arm gets hung in a fake tree and the chair is on top of me now. I'm in the fetal position on the floor grabbing my private area when my male co-worker runs in and asks what the loud noise was and if I was okay. *That added to the embarrassment.* He helped me up and into the bathroom. I checked everything out and found that I was bleeding. I can't walk normally, sit normally or have sex. Went to the doctor, she said everything should be fine but it is going to be at **least** two months before I can have sex again.", "summary": "Trying to do my job a chair edge ripped the inside of my vagina up and now I can't have sex."}
{"id": "t3_2c6qe5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help! My [21 f] Sister 19F attempted to buy season tix... Chaos ensues", "post": "Hello. I'm seeking some advice.\n\nMy sister 19F has had a credit card for about a year now. She has been excellent about paying everything on time and in full. Her downfall is though that she works a meager job and isn't going to school but always buys random crap so the bill racks up pretty high for her credit card. She has no savings as a result.  Yet her credit is 900+. I have had a credit card a great deal less then her which is why I'm seeking advice.\n\nA few months ago she tried to purchase season tix to her fav sports team on a monthly payment plan that would split 1910 into payments of 270ish dollars a month. Her limit is around 500 right now.  The card got declined bc she didn't have enough available credit so she let the csr know she wasn't going to purchase the tickets. Flash forward to today. She got a letter in the mail stating she must pay the 1910 in 10 days or else she's getting sued. Is there anything she can do to get this fixed by making smaller payments or by getting rid of the charge completely? Will she get access to the tix if she does pay? She's freaking out and I really want to re-assure her.", "summary": "Sister tried to purchase season tix on cc but it didn't go through a few months ago. Told rep she wasn't interested anymore. They are now after the full payment of 1910 dollars. She has good credit but She has no savings. "}
{"id": "t3_45tk70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 28F with my 38M dating ~1 month, he bought me Valentines gifts, I didn't buy him anything. should I?", "post": "we've been dating a little over a month. we're not seeing other people but are also not \"official\" (we've talked about it recently and he's not ready to make it official). we see each other about 3-4 times per week, are sleeping together, have toothbrushes at each other's house. I generally don't care about Valentines day, and I didn't expect anything for Valentines Day from him given that we are somewhat newly dating and unofficial, so I didn't think to get anything for him. He ended up giving me a beautiful bouquet of flowers in a nice vase, a nice bar of chocolate, and some prints of photos he's taken in our city. I thanked him effusively and apologized that I didn't get him anything, and he said he didn't care. Am I a dick? Should I get him something, which would be belated and obviously in response to him getting me something?", "summary": "dating but not official, he got me a Valentine present and I didn't get him anything. should I?"}
{"id": "t3_xnjpb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the nicest thing someone has randomly done for you?", "post": "I'll start. So while at work (security at a hospital), a visitor comes in with a homecooked meal for her family. It is a big family that comes to visit this patient, and they try to make meals to share together. Anyways, she came in tonight and brought me a plate that was already put together because she always sees me working while she comes in, and since I have been nice to her family with everything, she gave me dinner in return. I haven't had a home-cooked meal in a while, and it really meant a lot to me.", "summary": "Visitors at a hospital brought me dinner."}
{"id": "t3_xi3ui", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] been dating for 2 1/2 years with (20/f), and we are starting to loose interest(decently complex situation). What is a good way to spice things up in a relationship?", "post": "A little back story to understand my predicament:\n\nme and my girlfriend have been dating for two and a half years. We started out long distance about 5 hours away when we were both around 18. We saw each other every now in then when we could via greyhound(shitty bus service). We disliked the long distance and made plans to move in with each other for college after high school. We did this for 2 years and recently have moved back up to her house. However, the past several months including before the move she has been seeming less interested. This reached its peak when we our now not living together and I am living with her brother of 21, 30min away(I am good friends with him). Their is pros and cons to this situation such as i was able to get a job, her house is kinda shit, and the school up here is allot closer, but the bottom line is we are not living together anymore due to her feelings of disconnect. It may be a good thing because we are young and living together can take its tole.\n\nWe still have sex, but not as much. What I mean is we use to have allot of sex sometimes three times a day everyday(yes, it was good times), and this was mostly because of her wants I suppose mine as well. Now its about two to four times a week, and they all seem to be brought on by me not her.  She also seems less interested in conversation, and many of my attempts seem to be shot down due to lack of interest. This was only somewhat true before as allot of the shit I talk about is random, but she would humor me basically all the time if she didn't care. I was perfectly fine with that.  \n\nAlright, well that got a bit lengthy. Anyhow, I really don't want the relationship to be over and she still seems to want to be with me, but i feel this relationship may not last if things don't change.", "summary": "Went from long distance, to living together, to living separate but short distance, and the relationship has been dwindling the past couple of months."}
{"id": "t3_2o41jh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 28M] with my co-worker[21F] dated for about a month, thought everything went well and she totally backed off.", "post": "This may seem very basic and relatively immature but its something that i'm not too sure about. \n\nMy co-worker, who I always thought was really cute, initially approached me. Since we're co-workers I wouldn't have gone for it but since she did I was all for it.\n\nAfter the first date, she kissed me. I was totally surprised and loved it. Second date we were really touchy and it went really well (another awesome kiss in the car when I dropped her off). Third date we ended up at her house and cuddled. I went for the score but could tell she wasn't into going all the way so I backed off.\n\nAfter the third date, the following day, she texts me and says that she doesn't think that we have a very good connection. She doesn't think we have chemistry. At this point i'm really into this girl and was thinking about a real relationship. \n\nJust wondering what would make someone take a total 180 like that? I thought everything was going good and we get along well.", "summary": "went on a couple of dates that i thought went really well and she totally backed off."}
{"id": "t3_2dyfay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I M[35] want a kid but my wife F[34] doesn't", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 15 years now. We've had a troubles, but our relationship is strong.\n\nWhen we first got married my wife was interested in having a child, but since I was raised in a foster home that specialized in medically fragile children I wasn't ready. For the past year or so I have wanted to have a kid with my wife, but now she has no interest at all.\n\nI'm afraid that when she wants to have a child it will be too late and that it will be a source of friction in the relationship. \n\nI don't want there to be friction if I push her, but I don't want to have regrets down the road.\n\nI would love to have some thoughts.", "summary": "What should a husband that wants a child do if his wife doesn't?"}
{"id": "t3_292ww9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Ex [24F] is spreading lies and telling people I abused her. WHY ?! [23M]", "post": "So I was togeather with my EX for 4 years. Never laid a land on her in a bad way, never abused her or anything.  We broke up 2 days ago if that matters. \n\nShe cheated on me, she broke my heart several times (by breaking up and then getting my hopes up by almost getting back togeather, just to break up again) etc. \n\nNow she is spreading lies about me, telling her family I mentally and physically abused her. Telling people I FORCED her to lose weight otherwise I would break up with her etc (Fact is that I suggested we both drop alot of weight as we are both at BMI 35ish before we got married and got kids, because I want to be a healthy parent). \n\nWhy is she doing this to me? Why is she trying to not only break me mentally but socially? My parents even asked me if I beat her. She called the cops on me etc.", "summary": "GF is spreading lies that I abused her thats starting to effect me seriously."}
{"id": "t3_3miw3t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [22/m] mixed feeling about [22/f] gf's past.", "post": "We've been together for almost 6 months and her past is always something that's played on my mind, on and off. Pretty early on we spoke about previous sexual experience, mine being no existant I was shocked when she'd told me she had slept with 28 different guys during college. \n\nThe thought of her sharing that intimate moment with 28 other men some various times absolutely sinks me. I have no idea how to feel about it all. When I told her how surprised/shocked I was about it she explained she did it as a means to feel loved to feel some sort of worth, she now deeply regrets because it didn't work. \n\nPart of me feels bad because I really struggle shaking the thought and I'm not sure if I'll ever get to grips with. On the other hand, I absolutely adore this girl and think the world of her and can not imagine her sleeping with that many guys. She assures me that she's a changed person, that she's through her period of depression.\n\nThis is also effecting things in the bedroom, we've had our moments sexually but when it comes to sex I just can't stay hard. I'm sure pretty much sure it's because of our differences in sexual history, she's the first girl I've ever been some what sexual with and to be honest her past daunts me.", "summary": "girlfriends previous sexual history putting me off?"}
{"id": "t3_32qztz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am falling for my friend [20 F] who leaves in a few months, should i let her know?", "post": "Hi guys, first time posting here so i hope I've got the right place!\n\nThe situation right now is that i'm a student in accommodation, a rather large one at that with 15 people in it! However as the year has progressed, I've become really close with this girl in the flat from another country, here on exchange. We started playing board games with the flat in groups, however in the past 3 weeks or so it's grown into literally stayed up till 9am in the morning talking to her without skipping a beat, and we gel so well in hobbies, interests and everything! its fair to say i'm a bit smitten.\n\nHowever, the catch is that she is only here for a year, with her leaving in about 3 months. Knowing this is making it harder to stay friends, as any kind of interaction makes me sad, despite the fact i feel so happy around her. Even if i did tell her i liked her, and in an ideal world she said yes... it is VERY likely it wouldn't work out in the long run anyways, me being here and her going back home 1000's of miles away \n\nTherefore what i'm trying to say is, is telling her my true feelings for her a good idea or a bad one? I've tried to keep my distance the past few days to think through my feeling, which only confuses her more i imagine as we talked almost constantly. She's really enjoyed herself in this country so far and just adding more stress is definitively something i don't wish to do, even if i get the vibe that she may like me back. (of course I could be wrong on that, never was a good reader of women!)", "summary": "Have fallen for a friend, who i might never see again, is it right to tell her the truth on how i feel?"}
{"id": "t3_1pu7nk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] want to know how to make my relationship work with my SO [25 M] while pursuing personal goals.", "post": "My boyfriend and I recently got back together after a few months of putting the relationship on the back burner while we pursued our own personal goals. It was hard coming to the decision to split ways, but we knew that we had to be fulfilled as individuals before we could come together and make a relationship work. We dated about 2 and a half years before the break.\n\nThe break didn't last long, though, and now we're trying to figure out how to mesh our lives together while still fulfilling our own goals. I found a job that I love and want to stay put for a while and concentrate on my career. He has already invested the time in a job and saved up money to go traveling for long periods of time.\n\nI imagine this is something that every relationship has to go through at some level. How much of your own goals do you have to put on hold so the relationship can survive? Are we better off going our separate ways until we feel we've accomplished those goals? I don't think people in relationships ever stop having personal goals, so how do you make it work in a relationship?\n\nI do realize our goals are different right now and maybe that's what it comes down to. Until they are more on-par with each other, it can't work. Thoughts?", "summary": "Trying to make a relationship work when you have different personal goals."}
{"id": "t3_4i0poh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] feeling weird about girl hanging out with an older guy ( and his friends )", "post": "Ive been dating my girlfriend for a few months now. Before we started going out she went out with a man much older than us , (28) for about a month and broke up due to being too far away/having college issues vs work issues. Basically they didn't break up due to a conflict with themselves. To be honest i'm a little defensive and I raise an eyebrow when someone my age goes out with someone that much older but whatever the past is the past. However they still \"catch up\" for an hour or so and I want to bring up how uncomfortable i am with this but I feel it is not fair to imply I don't want her to see her friend/ex boyfriend. This has happened twice so far.", "summary": "GF seeing an older guy she previously dated to catch up"}
{"id": "t3_4ywrp8", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I still talk to my ex boyfriend", "post": "My ex[21M] and I [19F] of 9 months broke up because he decided to leave college to go study somewhere else. We tried to do long distance at first, but then we decided that since we don't know when we're even going to be together again, it wouldn't work. We decided to be friends but we still say I love you to each other and are romantic towards one another.\nEverytime we make plans to skype, he ALWAYS cancels, and it NEVER seems to be his fault. He's always somehow \"BUSY\" and I get that he might actually have plans but it kills me everytime he cancels. He is so unreliable, that my friends actually place bets on him not skyping me or keeping any other sort of promise. I know that I should stop talking to him, but I just love him so much, and I'm afraid to be alone. I just can't imagine my life without him. I know that the healthy thing to do is to move on, but I just can't seem to do it. What do I do?", "summary": "Still talk to my ex, who's moved away(which is why we broke up), and he keeps cancelling plans, and it kills me everytime he does that. I know that I shouldn't even be talking to him but I can't help it . Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_472oen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m] 23 back at dating and I suck now, help", "post": "In high school flirting was so much easier. But it's not high school, it's five years later after a four and a half year incredibly abusive relationship. I am *so* awkward now and idk how it happened. My last relationship did a lot of damage but how do I get out of that? \n\nI have a girl who has had a crush on me since first semester and I always eyed her too. Now she is all up in my personal space and texting me and asking me to cuddle etc. and holy shit am I dropping the ball. I freeze up, don't know what to say, and we most certainly have not cuddled. She keeps initiating the physical contact and stuff and I know she wants me to, but from my last relationship I'm just afraid to do anything with anyone. I'm like paralyzed into silence. I'm boring, even though I'm not *actually* boring, ya know? How do I get my head back in the game and be interesting/desirable again?", "summary": "I'm trying to get back to dating after an abusive relationship and I'm ruining chances halp"}
{"id": "t3_2j8gm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20m] got really drunk one night and my ex came onto me, I kept saying no but eventually gave in. I told my girlfriend [18f] about it the next day and we talked it through. We're still together but I need advice.", "post": "Before any of you tell me, I know that I'm scum for cheating. I feel absolutely awful. I hate myself for it. I haven't eaten anything in 2 days and yesterday had to fight the urge to drive off the road because I can't stand myself. \nMe[20m] and my long distance girlfriend [18f] have been together for 4 months but I truly believe she's the one. I don't know why I cheated and I hate myself for it. She's giving me a second chance but I desperately need advice on what I can do that will help her believe that it will never happen again. I don't know how to gain her trust back and make her believe what I say again.", "summary": "Cheated on my girlfriend when I was drunk. Don't know how to earn her trust back when I know it won't happen again and I mean what I say."}
{"id": "t3_2qim6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 6 months, unsure whether to continue the relationship", "post": "Okay before I start this, I know that I'm only 19 and 6 months is nothing. We both full of ourselves and think that we're too mature to have relationship problems because relationship problems are for kids who don't know what they're doing or for adults who actually have problems. Unfortunately, we're not as smart as we think we are. \n\nBackground - We started off as friends with no intention of ever being together until one night that changed everything. Feelings were spilled yadda yadda. We didn't want to take it too seriously because we're barely adults and we know that we don't know the first thing about a real relationship. Plus we hated labels so we just refused to say we were together even though we hung out all the time, texted all the time, went on dates and stuff. A couple months into our \"relationship\" (still unlabeled at the time), she \"cheated\" on me. Now, we weren't official so I wasn't mad. Still I was hurt and she felt bad. After that point we realized that we cared about each other too much for this kind of shit to happen again. We slapped a label on it and have been exclusive ever since. \n\nSo things have been going great, my parents love her, all this good shit until I leave to visit family for the holidays while she stays home. I have this problem with trusting her because of what happened before, even though it was \"different\" because we weren't officially together. Still there's not a ton of trust. I have reason to believe that she might've done something tonight that I would not approve of.\n\nI haven't been able to enjoy my holidays because I keep thinking about her and it's getting in the way of family. This part is important. \n\nI'm beginning to realize that I'm not getting to the point. Maybe I don't know what my point is. Maybe I'm too immature to know what I really want. Point is...", "summary": "If she cheats on me again, what the hell do I do? If she didn't then what can I do to not be so distrusting? I'm so conflicted. And is this healthy for us?"}
{"id": "t3_2x1zmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Roommate [21 M] doesn't wash his hands after peeing.", "post": "So my roommate doesn't wash his hands after peeing. I've talked to him about it before and he says that he doesn't need to. The conversation usually goes like this:\n\nMe: You didn't wash your hands after you peed? \n\nRoommate: No. Why would I?\n\nMe: You just touched your dick dude...\n\nR: Yeah?\n\nMe: You should wash your hands.\n\nThen that's pretty much it. He usually laughs and leaves and then goes into his room after.\n\nJust so you know, he's not a dick! He just doesn't think he needs to wash his hands. Other than this, our roommate situation is fine.", "summary": "My roommate doesn't wash his hands after peeing. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_hlzb9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when you're pissed?", "post": "I'm seriously so angry with life right now, I just want to break chairs and throw glasses and mostly ruin my boyfriend's stuff. His sister is in town and although I wasn't expecting fancy dinner or anything actually romantic, I was at least expecting him to call me about 2 hours ago to tell me what our plans for the evening were. Instead he calls 10 minutes ago with \"We're waiting in line to get our tickets for (show) tomorrow, want to come join?\". This is a show that I'm not even attending, because he didn't think to mention that I'd have to buy my own ticket since his sister bought his months ago. It was sold out by the time I thought of it myself. So now I've sat at home waiting for him to call for 2 hours for an invitation to come wait in line?  I just want to punch babies right now I'm so furious. I was actually in the car heading out before I realized how pissed I was over this, called him back and told him to call me later when there were actual plans for the evening. I've been talking about how important this anniversary was for months, and I'm absolutely devastated at how inconsiderate he's being. How do you cope when you just absolutely hate the world?", "summary": "My boyfriend is extremely inconsiderate and I want to break his everything. Know any healthy alternatives for anger relief? "}
{"id": "t3_x929w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A gay man once told me  and a date that i should leave a club i was in line to go in to because it was \"for gays\". Reddit, what great irony have you experienced in your life?", "post": "True story: I was seeing a girl at the time who wanted to go to Voyeur in Philadelphia to see a group perform. The club alternates between gay nights and general admission, which that night was (at least that's what i surmised, maybe it wasn't). So as we're entering, a group of men try to enter before us. The girl told them there's no cutting, to which he responded that we should leave because \"this is a gay club for gay men, not you straights\" and stormed in to the club.\nWe still went in and had a good time, I just thought it was funny to have a gay man tell us that we weren't allowed in a place because of our sexuality.", "summary": "gay man told girl and i to leave gay club because we were straight."}
{"id": "t3_27bmci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having trouble making friends. Advice?", "post": "So I am a 19 year old female in my second year of college. I haven't made any friends in college except for some kids in in a class every now and then, but it never turned into a friendship outside of the classroom. I'm not gonna lie, i'm a pretty shy person, so i'm always quiet at first.\n\nThis sucks because now it's summer, and my boyfriend is going to be hanging out with all of his friends and i'm going to be alone because I don't have anybody but him. I just need some tips on how to talk to people so that I don't have to rely on him so much and so I can talk to people about my problems other than my boyfriend \n(because sometimes I need someone to vent to about him).\n\nAll of my high school friends live in different cities and states because of college, and they all made new friends anyway so none of us really talk to each other anymore. They all made new friends except for me. This is really starting to depress me. Any advice would be great, please and thank you reddit!", "summary": "I need help making friends"}
{"id": "t3_31eewi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing my mate in the back", "post": "So just to clarify, this actually happened nearly 2 years ago, we were on an AS economics trip to London. It was extremely poorly organized and resulted in 3 or 4 underpaid, overworked teachers trying to stop 50 underage teenagers from drinking. \n\nAnyway, so during one of these said poorly organized days we we walking through the middle of London, from the museum of coins that no one gives a fuck about, to the market of cheap shit that no one wants to buy. It's fair to say that I was thoroughly bored out of my mind. \n\nNow London is a big city and there's a lot of people in London. Sometimes (apparently I wasn't aware of this) one of these people can get accidentally caught in your group even though they're not actually. The worst bit about this story is that I'd clocked this guy well in advance of what I did. I'd noticed he was kinda trapped in our group... The poor man, he had no idea what was coming. \n\nThe bloke stops in the middle of the path, he's about to take a photo. I come walking up behind this lad and totally didn't even think that he might not be one of my mates, he looked just like one of them from behind.\n\n'TWAT!', I exclaim as I walk past him and give him an almighty shove in the back. \n\nI instantly knew I had fucked up. Very quickly, I knew I was even more fucked as I saw his iPhone spinning towards the floor.\n\nI couldn't bring myself to deal with this so I took the cowards way and just speedily walked off pretending that nothing happened.\n\nTo make the whole thing worse, one kid on the trip saw the whole thing unfurl and whilst I tried to reason with him that I did it on purpose because I don't like people who stop in the middle of the path to take photos (apparently at the time I was more willing to be labeled as someone who does that than to be labeled as someone who mistook a random bloke in the street for my friend), he knew I was lying and I could tell.", "summary": "Went on shit trip to London, accidentally pushed kid and called him a twat because I thought he was my mate, might have broken his phone but I never looked post impact, I was too ashamed to admit the truth afterwards."}
{"id": "t3_31po4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] 1 year. I want him to have more control over me? (help)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been open minded in the bedroom, however I want him to have more control over me... I love the idea of being totally dominated... Mentally and Physically. \n\nHowever, I am finding it really hard to surrender to these desires because he has a really close female friend. As a person I am pretty confident and do not get jealous easily.. But something about there friendship seems off to me. For example they will go out for drinks alone together and I wont hear anything till the morning... plus I have never met her... He reassures me and tell me they are just friends and I shouldnt worry about it. Am I being a fool?", "summary": "I want to be more dominated by my partner, however his close relationship with his female best friend is holding me back. What are ideas for submission and how I can get past her?"}
{"id": "t3_54nrzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This girl [20F] and I [20 M] unofficially dated for 2 months but it was left unfinished", "post": "So this girl and I were in a few classes together during our summer semester. We actually started talking to each other when we matched on tinder and recognized a mutual attraction to each other. This was towards the end of the semester then we went on summer break but stayed in contact the whole month. We resumed things when we returned 2 weeks ago. We have 3 classes together this semester and sit next to each other due to seating charts put in place which makes it unfortunately awkward now.\n\nAfter one week we were able to hang out a lot more but she felt at the end that she couldn't see us being more than friends since we were still testing the waters. I didn't feel the same way but I told her I understand and began to move on. I realized we probably wouldn't talk to each other for a bit but I wasn't expecting to be treated that I didn't really even exist (Proof of this because I returned some worksheets she let me borrow but no talking occurred). Plus I constantly catch angry glares from her and her friends and it makes me feel like i did something wrong? \n\nWe were never intimate and we never went farther than a hug. For the record, I had never made a move due to the times I wanted to attempt it, she was drunk and i didn't feel comfortable in doing that because I felt I would be taking advantage and that is just not what I do.\n  \nNot sure where to go from here; if i should text her because my mind is filling in answers where there are blank spaces or if i should just leave it be and try to ignore it.", "summary": "Talked to this girl for around 2 months. She said she couldn't be more than friends. I understood but now she and her friends give me glares and act like I'm not there. Not sure how to approach the situation. If i should text her because my mind is filling in answers where there are blank spaces or if i should just leave it be and try to ignore it."}
{"id": "t3_33zrqc", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "A conundrum in Georgia: leasing office woes (gift delivery never made it to me)", "post": "Hi all! I appreciate you looking at my post. As the title says, I'm dealing with a rather cruddy issue with my leasing office, and I'm not really sure how to proceed. Feel free to let me know if I should be posting this elsewhere.\nBasic story: my birthday was in early April, and recently a dear friend hinted that something special might have been dropped off in the office for me. I called the office yesterday to inquire and the lady who picked up immediately asked if I had gotten her voice message about my flowers. Errr, no, sure hadn't. No calls from them on my phone at all. Well, apparently about a week and a half ago a lovely floral arrangement was dropped off for me in the office, and allegedly they tried calling to notify me. The lady even admitted that she might have dialed incorrectly, and also she didn't bother to follow up as I go out of town at times (I have been home the entire month of April except for one night). They let my lovely flowers die and then threw out the remains, including the vase and any cards that might of come with it. I was aghast! I sheepishly asked my friend for the price tag of her nice gift and, including delivery fees, she paid over $80 for the office ladies to have a pretty bouquet to enjoy. I feel cheated, but I really don't know if I can hold them accountable for this debacle. Like, would you, as a neighbor, ignore a time sensitive item such as flowers and just let them wither on the vine? Can I ask them to somehow make amends, or should I just let sleeping dogs lie? My gut feeling is they wouldn't budge an inch. And best believe I'll be refunding my friend for her generosity! Any advice is greatly appreciated, and I even feel better now that I've had a chance to vent. Thanks!", "summary": "flowers for me were delivered to leasing office, which only gave bare minimum attempt to get them to me; now the bouquet is dead, I never even saw it, and I'm royally ticked off!"}
{"id": "t3_1nhuia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New boyfriend [24m] agreed to come home with me [22f] for Thanksgiving, I'm nervous.", "post": "My boyfriend [24m] and I [22f] have been dating for just over a month now and things have been going very smoothly.\n\nHe is originally from across the country and when my mom found out he wouldn't be able to be with family for Thanksgiving (woo, Canadian Thanksgiving!), she told me to invite him. I was a little hesitant, thinking it might be too soon, but I mentioned it to him while we were texting one night. He had said we'd talk about it.\n\nA couple days passed and I brought it up one night in bed, and he agreed to come home with me for the long weekend.\n\nNot many boys have met my family and needless to say, the fact we haven't been dating long makes me scared that maybe things might be moving too fast or he thinks I'm super clingy...something along those lines. Am I overthinking this or should I be watching for warning signs?", "summary": "My boyfriend [24m] and I [22f] have been dating for a month. We was going to spend Thanksgiving alone and my mom invited him for the weekend. He agreed but now I'm scared he thinks this is too much too soon. Am I over thinking?"}
{"id": "t3_319fby", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jacking off my friend in class", "post": "So today at noon, me and my friend (I'll call him Jeff) were both in improvisation class. Today's class was focused around using unusual characters (animals today) and creating a scene with them in normal situations. This was supposed to help us get out of our comfort zone and try to make the best scene and some shit like that. Anyways, Jeff and I decided to be partners for the scene. We were selected to act out our characters in front of the class but we did not get to choose the environment. The teacher decides that we must act like we are buying diapers in a connivence store, while maintaining a unusual personality (I was a bird, Jeff was a cow) and having the class guess what animal we were attempting to act like. So, me being the bird, I started flapping my wings awkwardly (kinda lanky so it looks weird) and pretended to grab imaginary diapers. Jeff is on his knees pretending to walk around (why a cow would be on his knees? how should i know? we both suck at improv) and said to me, \"I got milk if you want some.\" Me, thinking this would be an indicator to the class that he is a cow, said, \"Why do you need any milk if you got some already.\" I then proceeded to squat and do a jerking motion in front of his stomach, thinking the class would guess he is a cow since I am tugging on his udder (the place where milk is obtained from the cow). Then I hear an eruption of laughter and red faces and I quickly realized THAT THEY THOUGHT I WAS JACKING HIM OFF and was talking that kind of \"milk\". I started yelling, \"HE'S A COW GUYS!!! CALM DOWN\" amidst the classes' laughter while my teacher is completely red and laughing but also has a stunned shock on her face. Jeff looks at me like with a face of \" and we just stood there awkwardly with our faces burning on stage for about 20 seconds while the class continued laughing. We then decided to head to our seats and slowly die on them. Thankfully the teacher was chill about it and didn't trip or anything, but man if that wasn't the most awkward moment of my life...", "summary": "I tried to let the class know my friend was a cow but they thought I was jacking him off"}
{"id": "t3_2p8r3b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Room Mate [32/m] is being catfished and I can't make him realize.", "post": "So my room mate separated from his wife (divorce pending) in July. Before July he was talking about this hot polish girl he met on second life. \n\nWhen we moved in together after the divorce he's playing a lot of video games online with \"Jenny\". He'll play all night with her from after work around 6 pm EST to 12-2 EST. Or for those doing the math 12-8 AM Polish time.\n\nThen she's visiting her aunt that lives in our state but a few weeks before cancels the trip.\nNow she's getting a temporary passport, or is it a temporary visa? to come work at a local gym thats a franchise of the same company she works for (it's not I checked). The same company that doesn't have a location in the town she claims to be from. \n\nThen I'm talking to him one day and he's talking to his computer without headphones, reading the computer, then talking to the computer more. Later I ask \"So does she talk to you?\"\n\"oh no her mic is broken, don't know how to fix it tho!\"\n\nThis is strange but then a month ago she sends him to our local Best Buy where he finds a fully paid for", "summary": "Polish\" girl with holes in her story is lying to my room mate but also buying him things and spending huge amounts of time talking to hime playing games but only communicating through typing."}
{"id": "t3_vgnlx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today my family told me I'm useless, gave me socks for my 21st. What's something that your families done that hurt really badly?", "post": "Quick back story. I'm an Eagle scout, in a band, have a few interest. Just finally got a job after months of unemployment and am moving into a new house soon. Things seem to be on the up and up but I'm in some financial problems and haven't done too well in college, so things aren't perfect. Obviously. My car broke down and I really depended on it. I quit smoking weed/cigarettes, and have really made some life changes. Mainly just have reformed the immature things I was doing. That being said, I had come to my family and hinted or flat out said that for my birthday I'd really love some help with my car. Not a new one or a total fix, but just some help one on one with my grandfather or something like that. Instead, my mother didn't get me anything, same for my father. My grandparents gave me a card that just had their names on it and 2 pairs of socks. Then when I asked my mom about that she said that it's because they don't approve of me and she didn't get me anything or help with the car because I was given the car for free a few years ago by a cousin and it's still in the cousins name. My mother said she didn't believe I should put money into something that I don't technically own, even though it has been in my custody and was more or less given to me, she just kept the title so I'd have cheap insurance. So on my 21st, I received socks, and news that my grandparents don't believe I'm living to their standards. It hurts really badly. Tell me I'm not the only one who's gone through this and that it will get better.", "summary": "Family flat out told me they think I'm a waste of space right now."}
{"id": "t3_151896", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [16/M] am thinking about starting to date a girl [17/F] and both of us are in a close group of 8 friends, despite that another [16/F] in the group also wants to date me,", "post": "Eight of my closest friends and I are in a farily tight knit group (we call ourselves a band even though we aren't musical at all) and it has recently come to my attention that two of the girls in the group (we'll call them L and N) want to start a more romantic relationship with me. There is also another girl (we'll call her S) in the group who I have been very close friends with for a few years now. S has been extremely emotional lately because of L and N potentially causing me to care less about her.  I am tempted to start a relationship with N, but I am good friends with L, S, and everyone in the group and wouldn't want to lose that. What do I do?", "summary": "Thinking about dating within tight knit group of friends."}
{"id": "t3_2aoy6n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with exgirlfriend [21F] update and some feedback needed", "post": "So I've already been here to talk about this and had some good feedback. \n\nFor the full story, these are the two previous topics I've made about it\n\n(Original Thread When I saw her in the gym after 2 years no contact)\n\n(After I've spoken to her in the gym)\n\nAnyways, I've now spoken to her for a fairly long time in the gym the couple of times I've seen her, she seems to want to talk to me and has come up to where I have been an clearly approached me. As said in the previous topic even saying randomly how she's broken up with her boyfriend and and asking if I have a girlfriend now.\n\nThe problem is I don't know when at all I'm next going to see her and it's just randomly us bumping into each other at the gym. I was hoping to see her in there tonight but she wasn't there which may have been down to having a long gymnastics competition on the weekend. \n\nI still have her phone number from when we used to talk, just under a couple of years ago. I could text her and ask if this is still her number and then have some small general talk but I don't know if that seems a little crazy that you've still had their number on your phone since then. So I don't know if it would be better to just wait for whenever I do bump into her again in the gym and ask for it, despite actually really having. I also don't know if it's too soon to go about trying to contact by phone? \n\nI don't want to ruin any chances I have with her as we've got on well at the moment but I also don't think I'm bumping into her enough to form any connection, not to mention it's hard to have any decent conversation in the gym.", "summary": "Feedback on what best to do in terms of chances with ex-girlfriend. Whether to text her or not as only bumping into her at the gym occasionally at the moment despite getting on well."}
{"id": "t3_4dbj07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my boyfriend [30M] of 5 years, communication in the bedroom going sour.", "post": "I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for 5 years. We're awesome together, the love and passion is clearly there and he bends over backward for me all the time. But there's one thing he's never really stepped up on, and that's foreplay and specifically oral sex.\n\nI can count on both hands the amount of times he's gone down on me in our relationships, whereas I do that for him constantly. I've tried to bring it up before, to ask whether he's uncomfortable doing it, and I've only ever gotten the answer \"No, I'm just lazy\". Which was hurtful and all, but I figured me expressing my desire for it more often would wake him up to the fact that that's not a good excuse.\n\nOf course, nothing really has changed. He does everything else well, but with us having been together so long, the little things are bugging me more. He doesn't really know how to \"turn me on\" either - with the fingernails on the back or playing with the hair while watching TV. As far as he's concerned, \"foreplay\" is heavy duty making out with some boob groping and then it's sex. The worst part is that whenever I actively try to ask for something different, or get him to understand what I want, he feels extremely inadequate and questions everything about our relationship. It's left me terrified and desperate because he's a very strong independent man who doesn't really let much bother him, and yet, it's impossible for me to give him any constructive criticism so that *I* can be happy. \n\nThis all came to a head last night where he went down on me but then lost his \"mojo\" after. I was really upset and took it personally, like it was proof that he really didn't like doing it, but it turns out I've just made him so self-conscious about everything that he's got performance anxiety (which is completely new for him). It leaves me feeling like a slave-driver and the mean person in the relationship, but I know that the alternative is me putting up with things I'm not happy with. I have no idea how to proceed. Help?", "summary": "Long term boyfriend doesn't understand the foreplay I want/need to be happy, and is dealing with feelings of inadequacy and performance anxiety as a result!! Don't know how to resolve..."}
{"id": "t3_3vxnst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Friends [23 Ms] 8 years, I feel like I have outgrown/matured faster than my circle of friends. They are my best friends, but they continuously embarrass me, and put me in difficult positions", "post": "Hello all, so I had an epiphany moment on the weekend in which I realized my friends are extremely immature and crippling. \n\nWe have been friends since Grade 10: We all had common interests, we all play instruments and jam, we love to drink, we all were a little mischievous. We are a group of 7 guys that (5 have been hanging around since JK) have all been friends for a long time. I joined the group late, but have been welcomed into a circle of best friends. \n\nIn high school we all used to drink and do dumb stuff, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to stop for some. A few of us are more mature than the others, but there are 3-4 of them that are ridiculous.\n\nWe are all university educated guys, most have good jobs, and some are still in school. Girls obviously don't hang out with us because we are obnoxious, but regardless the shit continues.\n\nTo put into perspective how ridiculous things are: In the last month I will tell you all the situations I have been exposed to (without participating in). 1) Squirting mustard all over a bar table, 2) Starting a fight in the bar 3)Getting kicked out of the bar, 4) Annoying a waitress and not tipping her 5) Soy saucing a Chinese food restaurant's bathroom . It never ends\n\nI have now come to the point where this small minority of a group have embarrassed me to no end and our interests are conflicting. I work full-time and casually like to go out on weekends and have beers and some food, they don't like spending money. I don't like causing mischief anymore, they do. They wont go on vacation EVER, I want to go on trips.\n\nI don't know what to do! My best friends are idiots, and I seemingly am forcing myself to fit.", "summary": "My friends are immature, and I have outgrown them. How do I approach their stupidity without never talking to them agian."}
{"id": "t3_v1qnf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ever have someone in your life that you can't stand but are socially obligated to keep around for the sake of others?", "post": "I've been dealing with someone for about a year now. She and I initially got along pretty well, but the more time we spent together, the more she really began to annoy me. Her default mode of conversation is complaining about anything and everything, past events and present, and she has a terrible habit of telling the same whiny stories over and over again. She also has no hesitation interrupting people to do so. We got into an argument over what she called a \"miscommunication\" a while back, which when we met to talk it out turned into her crying and bitching about herself without a single apology. I really don't like having to be around her, but one of my good friends is very close with her, and it's to the point where if I want to hang out with my friend, I have to deal with her. Basically, I dread having to talk to/spend time with this girl, but as long as I want to spend time with my friend, I have to deal with her. Anyone else have a problem like this and/or know what to do about it?", "summary": "Stuck with incredibly irritating girl because she's very close with a good friend of mine"}
{"id": "t3_3g9oit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [27 F] Long term relationship beginning to think it's one side in the bedroom", "post": "We are in a long term relationship and I kinda feel like the affection is very one sided. I'm always the one giving kisses, hugs, massages etc and never get much in return.\n\nSex is no more than twice a month and I feel like I have to work hard to get it. She knows I love sex and affection in return but I can't remember the last time she give me a massage, whilst I would give her at least 5 a week. I don't think she has give me a blow job this year either even though again she knows it's something I really enjoy. This week I held back all affection to see if she would miss it and step up and make an effort. To be honest I don't think she even noticed.\n\nI've tried talking to her lots of times about the affection and sex but it just seems to make her angry and get defense. I'm sure I'm in no way the perfect boyfriend but I saw these talks as a way for her to say if there was anything I could do to improve things. \n\nI asked her if we could try to have more regular sex, she was shocked and said that I was weird and no one can have sex every day. She has even told me in the past I might have a problem and I'm worried that might be the case if my sex drive is too high.\n\nThis has lead her to say she feels like she is no longer enough for me when it comes to the bedroom. What can I say she rarely wants sex and won't give me oral even though I'm always trying to do these things for her. I've asked to try new things that I think are pretty vanilla (toys, watching porn, sex outside of the bedroom, showers, anal) and in 8 years she has never allowed any of this.\n\nThere is no way this can be normal?", "summary": "I feel like I'm the only one who gives affection in our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2ntix8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors with parents who were stoners/fine with alcohol or drug use, what was it like?", "post": "Long story short, three days after I graduated high school, my dad and I a talk that eventually led to the subject of drugs, which then lead to me learning that he'd be fine with me drinking/smoking pot occasionally. Because my experience with inebriating substances only came when I got a job and income around three months ago (two years later), I've only been intoxicated around him five times. It's been an odd feeling being able to openly be buzzed or stoned around him, and it's led me to wondering about how other teens used this permission more often than me and how their life was because of it.", "summary": "If you had a parent who let you drink/ get stoned, what were your childhood/teenage years like?"}
{"id": "t3_2i5s42", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M], her [19 F], tinder relationship question", "post": "Hi!\n\nSo I met this girl on Tinder, we were chatting and it quickly comes up we go to the same school. Neat! I ask about her major and classes and stuff, and turns out we're in the same class. She mentions she did poorly on an exam. I agree, we stop talking for a day.\n\nThe next day, out of nowhere I send her a message saying yo, you wanna work on the homework together? She says yeah, I offer tomorrow(today). She has an exam, wants to study. I say how about Friday, she agrees. We nail down a rough time, around 4, and she says she'll let me know. After her last message I stop talking to her, I don't want to seem needy or anything. Haven't heard from her in a day.\n\nSo my question is, how do I approach this? I obviously find her attractive as I swiped right, and I'm awful with women I find attractive. Since we met on tinder, will she be approaching this as a kind of study date or as simply a way to get the homework done? I'd like to ask her number if it seems we get along but I don't know if that'd be too forward for what's just a simple homework session. How will she likely be approaching this?", "summary": "How will she be approaching this, given we met on tinder?"}
{"id": "t3_1eghs4", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Hey /r/running! I've not been running for over 8 years, just started over. Could use some advice! (More info inside)", "post": "8 years ago, I was 18 years old. I was training basketball in Sweden in the second highest league, and training around 15-20 hours / week. I was fit as f***. That intensity was from age 16-18, 3 years. And previously, I'd been training in a soccer team, basketball team, as well as some other sports back and forth.\n\nSometimes, we had long distance running on the schedule. My record on \"10 kilometers = 6.2 miles\" is around 43-45 minutes, which is pretty decent in my opinion. \n\nNow, I've been lazy as shit for the last 8 years, I practically stopped traning before I was 20, and I've been not doing much at all since. Only casual push-ups and stuff in my apartment etc.\n\nI've picked up my runnign shoes again, and I've been out a couple of times since the end of April. It feels great after a nice little running session. I usually run the same route each time, around \"4.5 - 4.6 km = 2.85 miles\", and atm I am going in on 25.5 - 26 minutes. My aim is to go below 20 mins within a relatively close future.\n\nIts a bit heavier to run now, as I've gained some weight and lost some muscles. I'm at 194 cm and 109 kg atm (6 feet 4\u215c inches & 240 pounds).\n\nNow, I've never had any real strategy when running, as I've always had the cardio and mind to keep going, high speed etc. I've sort of lost both today, and I thought I'd start with some better technique or willpower until I am getting some of the fitness back (or whatever its called, I'm Swedish).", "summary": "I ran when I was 18 (26 now). Used to run fast. Want to do it again. Need tips."}
{"id": "t3_1lg5fa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] have strong feelings for my boss [F30]", "post": "So my situation is a tad complicated, but here goes nothing. \n\nOver the past couple years, while working at my current job, I have developed strong feelings towards one of my managers [F30]. I have always been one of her favorites, however i'm not sure if it's because of my work ethic or something more. I honestly am not sure what to do as my attraction seems to grow stronger everyday and whenever i'm around her I just want to confess everything. She is one of the most beautiful girls and we click on so many levels and our conversations just feel natural (Which says a lot since I'm incredibly socially awkward.) I'm not really sure how to explain it but I feel like something's there. Whenever i'm feeling slightly out of it she **always** knows and asks about it. When I ask why shes asking she always says something along the lines of \"because i care about you\". Not sure if that's a motherly thing because of the age difference or something else. \n\nTo make things more complicated, I have been in and on and off long distance relationship with a girl that has been very rocky and i have always questioned if she is really the *one*. However, even after saying that I just can't end the relationship because I'm one of those guys who doesn't make any moves on girls so relationships are a rare occurrence (2 GF's both came onto me first).   \n\nBasically I'm just asking for some guidance on both situations. Like I said previously, I'm very socially awkward and have no idea how to handle both these situations.", "summary": "I[M20] have **crazy** feelings for my manager[F30], but I also have an on and off long distance relationship that I don't know what to do with."}
{"id": "t3_1692ff", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do I grab and hold onto things so hard?", "post": "All my life (I'm 35, married with 2 young kids) unless I consciously make an effort, pretty much anything I'm holding onto I'm white knuckleing.  \n\nI can carry an Egg, it's not impossible, but I do have to remind myself to relax my hand as I feel my hand constricting around it.  \n\nSteering wheels, books I'm carrying with a hand, my tablet, my phone, even my wife's hand (not white knuckle, but still firmer than most), the computer mouse....you name it.\n\nThis has resulted in me having impossibly strong hands, which I suppose is a plus, but I'm concerned about arthritis later in life, and I'm also just curious to see if anyone knows about it.\n\nA little more info which may or may not be relevant.  I'm pretty smart as smart goes, and I have certain things I hate the feeling of:  Hand lotion/sunscreen, lip balm, I hate the feeling of dust on my hands...chalk dust (or an analog) especially.  I HATE it when a hair gets wrapped around my fingers or something like that...ugh, just gives me the willies.  I don't like sand very much.  I'm ok with playdough and stuff while I'm using it, but I MUST wash my hands after.  Not for fear of germs (I have no issue with germs) but the feeling of the residue on my hands is intolerable.\n\nOther than that I think most people would describe me as very easy going.  I'm pretty laid back, very open minded and it takes a lot to get my flustered/worked up.", "summary": "I'm weird about shit on my hands and I squeeze things too tight all the time...WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_22ze41", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Was I wrong?", "post": "Using a throwaway account just in case.\nI may have fucked up badly. I've been dating a girl for about a year and a half now and we started talking about moving in together. I'm reluctant to do so for a few reasons, one of the main ones is the condition she keeps her place in. I'm not a neat freak or anything but I do try to keep my place clean and tidy.\n\nI went to her place on Saturday before she woke up (I have my own key) and it was just a pigsty. Her place is always messy and it's something I've talked to her about before. I've cleaned and tidied it for her on a few occasions, thinking that if I led by example, it would inspire her. She is sick a lot (asthma, cold and flu) and part of the reason I believe is the condition of her apartment.\nOn Saturday, Their was garbage all over the floor, dirty dishes everywhere (some with mold) clothes thrown everywhere. Her grocery shopping was left on the floor and not put away and the place stank. She also has pets and they weren't being kept properly either.\n\nI was angry as this is no way for someone to live. I told her how I felt about this and that I wouldn't come to her place if this was the condition it was in. It just got to me as this was something we'd talked about before. I didn't raise my voice or threaten violence or anything like that (she knows that's not the kind of man I am.) I just tried to calmly explain my reasoning. I have a non Canadian accent (I'm an immigrant), and when I get angry it gets thicker which is the only way someone could tell the difference. \n\nI told her I wasn't going to stay there that day and was going home. We haven't talked since which is unusual for us. I did send her a text on Saturday night wishing her a good shift at work but with no response. \n\nI guess my question to Reddit is was I being unreasonable? I've started very early stages of looking into buying a house and living together but this was one of the sticking points.", "summary": "Girlfriend is a bit of a slob and I'm not happy about it. Confronted her about it and now I'm worried I've messed everything up. Sorry about the length but I feel context is important."}
{"id": "t3_3hbuar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] lost my [27 F] 6 months ago and don't really feel like I have anything in common with the people in my city.", "post": "My ex and I split back about 6 months ago and I've been finding it very difficult to meet anyone in my city that cares about me the way she does. I'm in the heart of the bible belt and my city is filled with the greek types and very few single people. \n\nI am pretty happy with myself now as I have completed a lot of self improvement goals since the relationship ended to make sure I am a better person when the next girl comes along; however all the girls I keep meeting, I just can't find that spark I want and it is making me feel hopeless here. About 90% of the single girls are all the same sorority type who doll themselves up every night on the town and go to the bars where they can dance to rap music; which isn't something I'm really looking for. The thing that sucks, those are the bars my friends all enjoy going to so I end up finding myself standing around awkwardly and very out of my comfort zone. The other thing that sucks is the other 10% of girls are in relationships.\n\nI am currently working to move out of state, potentially Colorado if the job I'm seeking comes through. I feel like that would help me not feel so lonely being somewhere completely new surrounded by activities I enjoy. Plus I have heard CO is quite the melting pot of people. \n\nDoes anyone have any experience with packing up and bolting 1100 miles away from friends and family? Just looking for some success stories so I don't feel as nervous about moving. \n\nThank you all!", "summary": "Feeling lonely; not a lot in common with the girls in the city I live in and planning to move. Does anyone have success stories of how moving to a new city where they can enjoy their hobbies more helped them find that happiness again?"}
{"id": "t3_iu5h4", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Just heard about the Thundershirt. Anyone have experience with it helping a dog with fear aggression/aggression towards other dogs?", "post": "My ~3 year old German Shorthaired Pointer mix, [Sophie] has had fear aggression towards dogs for the whole 2+ years we've had her. It started off just growling and a bit of lunging at dogs and other animals but she was able to live comfortably with 2 small dogs (who she lived with for about 6 months).\n\nShe's sweet and fairly obedient in the home, loves people, but if she even *thinks* there's a dog around she begins freaking out. I've been able to quell her a bit in the home by growling back at her and getting more dominant but outside the home she is 100% uncontrollable. She has already badly attacked one dog, I'm terrified that if we find her a new home she'll do the same thing and she will be put down. We have tried PetSmart training, a personal trainer, a low dose of fluoxetine, and lots of at-home training but we've had no real success. Currently she's so bad we have to muzzle her to take her out to go potty and she can't go on walks because of how severe this has become (I recognize this is really, really bad, by the way).\n\nI just heard about the [Thundershirt] and I'm wondering if anyone has similar experiences and have had success with the Thundershirt.", "summary": "Thundershirt as an aide in curing/controlling aggression towards dogs: your experiences? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_3e352x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my SO [21 F] of 6 months, Not sure whether to be upset that she regularly views pornography?", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI have been in my own head way too much over this and I think I need some outside feedback. My question is basically what the title says. Is it asking too much to ask your SO to stop watching porn when in a serious, monogamous relationship?\n\nI have nothing against porn. I watched it often when I was single and I believe it is a great outlet for many people to let off steam, not to mention it is enjoyable, and even may have health benefits! But when my SO brought up that she still regularly watches it despite us being in a relationship it just really upsets me. \n\nSo my question to you, Reddit, is do I have some sort of a right to feel upset by this? I voluntarily stopped watching it once we became exclusive because I do feel it is a form of cheating. Dress it up how you want but at the end of the day it just feels morally wrong to me. I'm not religious by any stretch of the imagination, but I do feel it is a lack of respect towards the other person in the relationship.\n\nIf I do have a right to be upset, how do I bring this up? How do I best tell her that I want to be the one to satisfy her needs sexually? How do I phrase it in a way that is firm but doesn't sound like I am just being whiney?\n\nThanks for the read, reddit. I apologize if this isn't the most eloquent. I am slightly scatterbrained ATM and I am just trying to type down my thoughts as they arise.", "summary": "Is it overstepping relational boundaries to ask your SO to stop watching porn?"}
{"id": "t3_36g2ew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend of 1.5 years [23 M] dumped me [22 F] while living together. He's leaving in two weeks, and I'm 6 hours from home. I feel unprepared and terrified.", "post": "Things seemed to be going great leading up to it. We took spontaneous dates, wrote goofy love notes to each other to brighten each others day, had amazing sex. I was (and still am) in love with my best friend, and it was wonderful. Two nights ago he dropped the \"it's not you, it's me\" followed by \"I'm leaving in two weeks to live with so-and-so\".\n\nSince then, he has continued to say that he still loves me, and will always love me; but this isn't what he needs right now. I want to respect this, but I'm feeling so blindsided and hurt right now that I've done anything to try to bargain my way back in. His words have left me feeling very confused to boot. On top of this, we have to share the apartment for another couple of weeks until he leaves.\n\nI have no support system here beyond him because I made few friends in the time that I lived here; this has made it more difficult for me to cope with what's happening. Thankfully my parents have welcomed me back home, but I'm responsible for bringing everything back. This will cost me no less than $1k-- an amount I was not prepared to spend.\n\nThis whole thing has left me feeling ashamed, embarrassed, scared, frustrated, and desperate.", "summary": "Boyfriend/bestfriend dumped me out of nowhere, have to share an apartment until he moves in two weeks, leaving me 6 hours from home with no support system until I get back. Having a difficult time coping with the breakup while trying to figure out how to leave. Feeling very scared and frustrated as a result."}
{"id": "t3_2765b5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My gf(21F) and I(24M) are rocky", "post": "We have been dating for 1 1/2 years, and were talking for 3 years total(counting the 1 1/2 years we've been dating).  Recently my girlfriend got a new job working most nights and weekends. During the day she has her internship to graduate college(which is where we met). I work a normal office job from 8-5. We live an hour away from each other which makes it tough to see each other especially with different schedules.   \n\nShe expressed her feelings via text to me a few days ago. Basically saying what we are isn't going to work and that she still wanted to be able to see/talk to me.  However, she has been acting weird and has been one wording me for about a month, in which I would be the one who had to initiate conversations.  \n\nI told her that we can make it work if we both put in the effort.  I'm confused though, I told her I loved her yesterday and she said it back. I also said that I didnt like what was happening.  She then agreed with me that she didn't like not talking to me throughout the day (as I was trying to give her some space for two days).  Tonight she told me she was going to bed, and didn't include the \"I love you,\" which she would typically do. \n\nI told her earlier that I get the hint, and if she wanted me to not talk to her then I would respect it.  She replied that I wasn't and that she was busy running around all day. \n\nI really like this girl and we clicked from the moment we met. I am the type of guy that likes to fight for what is his. But it sucks because I keep fighting and there is no give, for lack of better terminology.", "summary": "Girlfriend sending mixed signals and I do not know what to think."}
{"id": "t3_10e9nu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your top three bad boyfriend/girlfriend stories?", "post": "They are running a radio contest in my town called \"Battle of the Bad Boyfriends\". Two girls tell their top 3 bad boyfriend stories and people vote for who should win. Some of the stories are really lame and I think Reddit can top it. So let's hear your stories. I'll start with mine. 1. It was Christmas time and my bf and I were shopping he wanted some cologne so I offered to buy it for him for x-mas. I could only afford the smaller bottle though so he threw a hissy fit saying if I didn't get him the big bottle I shouldn't even bother. So I credited it. Flash to X-mas day. He runs up to his room crying because everyone got more stuff than him. He in age is an adult. 2. We are lying in bed and he tells me \"You're really pretty, but you might actually be hot if you lost 15-20 lbs.\" I weighed 128lbs at the time. 3. I suspected he was cheating on me with this girl so I went over to confront him about it. He denied it and told me he loved me. He said \"you should go home you're angry and you aren't thinking straight.\" He tried to rush me out the door. As I was leaving the girl he was cheating on me with opened his front door. He looked at me, laughed and said \"Well I guess you were right.\" \n\nSo Reddit let's hear your stories and are you still with the person.", "summary": "My ex is a dirt bag. Name your top 3 bad bf/gf stories."}
{"id": "t3_1dhrxu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Sometimes I hate my friends", "post": "Sorry if this turns into a massive wall of random early morning gibberish about a thing that turns out to not really be that much of a thing but i think it is a thing so thats that. I just need to get this off my chest. Also sorry if anything doesn't make sense it's 1:30 in the morning currently here in Australia.\n\nLets go:\n\nI've never been good around people, stemming most likely from primary school, not having a lot of friends, bullying etc. But since I moved schools I made a bunch of friends and my life really changed. Therein lies my problem, sometimes I can't handle social situations and I feel like a complete dick about it.\n\nI can be hanging out with my friends at school one day all happy and stuff and then the very next day I will just hate hearing about the stuff they got up to or just anything that comes out of their mouths. Even the sound if their voice aggravates me. And I don't know why. It makes me feel like kinda a douche sometimes and I'm afraid my friends think less of me for that.\n\nSame goes if someone wants to organise a party or a trip to the movies or something, sometimes I will go out of my way to avoid going. One day, I'm afraid, the requests will stop coming and I will be alone, which is sometimes what I want, but will I like it???\n\nI can't exactly go to my friends and be like 'hey, even though your all mg best friends and all, sometimes I hate your guts and can't stand being around you and hearing you talk about shit I, to be honest, don't give a flying fuck about' wont exactly win me friend of the year award now will it?\n\nI've also tried talking to various people, school psych, dad etc but I can never seem to be able to put how I feel in to words. So I never can get quality advice on how to permanently fix this thing.\n\nOkay so that went on for waaaaaaay longer than I anticipated...\n\nSorry :P", "summary": "Sometimes I hate being around my best friends and I have not idea how to approach solving it."}
{"id": "t3_37jis5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] My Fiancee [27 F] confessed to cheating on me early in the relationship", "post": "My fiancee and I have been engaged are getting married this October, and a week ago, I asked if she had any indiscretion throughout our relationship (we've been together for two years). \n\nYesterday, she told me that she had oral with an ex when she was on a trip overseas. When she left, we had only been dating for three and half month. On a layover, rather than spend money on a hotel room, she decided to stay with her ex that she had remained friends with to save money. Basically, from what she said is that they only oral and left before they actually had sex because she realized that she had strong feelings for me. She said she didn't stop herself sooner because she didn't know if we had anything.  \n \nI understand that it was early in the relationship and she was gone for over a month, but this was still the last thing I expected to hear from her. We told each other before she left that we would wait for one another and if anything happened, we wouldn't say anything. I am just very sad that she would do something as stupid as stay over at her ex's and be close with him, while I was home only thinking of her. She didn't see in us what I saw. \n\nHow can I put my jealousy and anger aside? This is the best relationship I ever been in and she is truly remorseful. I don't know, I'm just so confused. She swears nothing has happened since and being with her ex was what made her realize she was in love with me. I just feel so stupid for believing that the emails and texts I wrote to her telling her how much I missed her and couldn't wait for her to come back, were meaningless.", "summary": "My fiancee cheated early in our relationship and I'm really hurt."}
{"id": "t3_2lx7db", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (32/m) having difficulty with wife (33/f) having poor spending/ saving habits and loaning excessive amounts of money to mother-in-law (60/f).", "post": "My mother-in-law keeps asking us for money. She has never asked me specifically, but goes straight to my wife. My MiL is on a fixed income and continuely asks us to borrow money that she never pays back, but when she gets her monthly income, she wastes money by buying crappy as seen on tv gifts for my son, toys for our dogs and things for my wife. Never buys anything for me though!\n\nTo date, she has borrowed well over $10k that has included the purchase of a car after hers was repossessed, several vet bills for her two dogs, groceries, assistance with rent and medicine. We also pay for her cell phone.\n\nI feel bad that she struggles financially, but if she were more responsible with her money, it would mean giving her less and us saving more. Not to mention that my wife has just as poor spending habits. \n\nMy wife and I both went back to college for our Master degrees, but she refuses to leave her current job. One of the conditions for going back was to get a better paying job. She once accepted a better paying job but decided against it at the last minute after they had already paid her for orientation. \n\nI use to make twice as much as her, but now I make three times as much. Regardless of me making the extra money, she bought herself a new car and has begun lending more money to her mother to the point that I cannot quit my new job now. I really dislike it and want to return to my old profession, but my salary would be reduced by over 30%. On top of that, my wife also spends money on frivolous expenses and it clutters the house. I'd also like to add that I didn't get a birthday gift for the last two years, while I've got nothing from my wife.\n\nI'm slowly going crazy. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Wife expects me to work more, keeps my extra money for herself or gives it to my MiL."}
{"id": "t3_3bxtlx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by standing up to my grandmother about racism", "post": "So, on Sunday, I was scrolling through facebook and saw a post by my paternal grandmother about slavery and how white people didn't do it. It continued to talk about black people selling black people since 'ancient times', and then talked about how Jesus will save us all from being horrible sinners. \n\nImmediately horrified, I left a couple of comments on how her post was wrong, that she should know better, that it was shameful and irresponsible and that I hoped she'd take it down. The next day, she takes it down, deletes my comments, posts something about sunshine and butterflies or some sh*t and I assume all is okay, she got the idea. \n\nBut today I get a text from my cousin asking wtf is going on between me and my grandmother, saying that my gm had been complaining that I was mean to her on facebook. I explained what happened, and wrote a note to my grandmother better explaining my point of view (and reality, you know, because slavery in America definitely involved white people and we can't just pretend it didn't so we feel better about ourselves) and apologizing if she thought anything I said was personally offensive. She not only feels attacked, but is convinced that I have serious issues with her, am abusive, and that I've been waiting for an opportunity to mouth off to her. She also added that she was in the hospital for a month and has only recently gotten home (we're not close and I didn't know she was sick). \n\nBut anyway, even though she was super wrong, I feel bad because she's sick and recovering and now probably thinks that I hate her (even though I lovingly apologized for as much as I could) and she will surely hold onto this and use it against me for as long as she lives and make every Christmas eve severely more awkward than it already is.", "summary": "tried to convince my grandmother that her FB post about slavery was insane, now she thinks I'm abusive and hateful."}
{"id": "t3_25gy55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my ex-GF [18F] were broken up for about a month but still trying to work on it, but now she is with someone else and I don't understand it.", "post": "Basically we were in a long distance relationship for about 8.5 months, and towards the end the stress was really getting to both of us due to a mixture of her depression and the distance. So one day I just snapped and ended the relationship just to get away from it, I didn't want us to hate each other and we both needed a small break.\n\nSo then like 2-3 days later we started talking again and we both decided that we would work on it and try to get back together. So we had a few fights in between the breakup and now that were relatively bad but even with it I was always there for her even though it was stressing the hell out of me. It was worth it because we loved each other. Then she started talking to other people and would get mad at any jealousy that I had but recently I found out that basically all the jealousy I had was very accurately placed and she was going behind my back with other people with things that she knew I would have had issue with and she would definitely have issue with if it was switched. So now she is seeing another person and while she keeps saying that she loves me and all of that and I promised to be there for her if her depression gets too bad she says she needs to do this to \"learn from it\" and she says I'm still worth it to her but she just can't do it.\n\nBasically I don't know what the hell to do and I want to fight and rage and never give up on this but I feel like I have to just move on and get over this but I really don't want to.\n\nI've tried to talk to her and convince her that it's worth it and I know she still loves me and still wants this to work but she is so caught up with trying this new date thing that she doesn't seem to be able to understand it. Please help me I'm going crazy over this.\n\nI can answer any questions that you guys have and look forward to your responses, thanks ahead of time.", "summary": "I broke up with my gf due to depression issues and stress between us but shortly after realized that it was very much worth fighting for and we agreed to try, now she gave up like 2 weeks later and is trying to date someone else. What do I do, should I fight for her or should I let her be and just pray that things work out? (which I hate the idea of)"}
{"id": "t3_15vo87", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one protect oneself from a non-violent (as-of-yet) stalker?", "post": "I have a non-violent (as of yet) stalker and am wondering how to go about protecting my safety since the police won't do anything until events escalate to overt threats/violence. For the past 6 months this person has been persistently sending me texts, emails and has hand-delivered gifts to my workplace (left w/ the security guard before I've arrived to work), but police refuse to do anything because his behavior has not been violent. However, his messages indicate he is angry that I am non-responsive. I know he owns guns. Does anyone have advice on how to keep one safe from an obsessive personality?", "summary": "Have a non-violent stalker, seeking advice on how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_22kwii", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "back in the habit (SV)", "post": "It's such a familiar story...cruising along on the diet for a month or two, logging cals like a champ, going to the gym like a very responsible hamster on a wheel, and hey, results! Life happens, though, and I spend a few weeks off the bandwagon because bars are more fun than the gym, and MFP kinda turns me into a maniacal food-weighing recluse. \n\nThis is all fun and good, but wait a minute, I have 15 more lbs to lose to hit the ultimate dream, aka healthy BMI. No big deal, I'll give myself a week or three to neaten things up before I confront the scale again. Some days I kinda count cals. Then I eat a burger. Maybe I'll walk to work in penance. (Maybe I won't.) \n\nWait a minute, I'm serious about this! Why can't I get on the scale? Is there any way I can dodge the judgement? Maybe my body just...knows what to eat now? Nope, that's how I got myself into this mess in the first place. I'll give it another week. It's not my fault that my roommate made cookies.\n\nOne more week. (That Valentine's Day candy is just too cheap to pass up.)\n\nOne more week. (I went hiking. I also made creme brulee. Probably cancels out?)\n\nOK, one more week.\n\nRepeat this cycle, like, eight times or so.\n\nNo, but seriously this time. \n\nSERIOUSLY.\n\nWait, it's APRIL??!?", "summary": "After a truly brutal inner battle (!!!!), I weighed myself for the first time in three months tonight. ACTUALLY MAINTAINED PREVIOUS 10 LB LOSS. I won't pretend to understand it. There must be a god. I'm back, everybody."}
{"id": "t3_u1pb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend ignoring me.", "post": "I'm female.\n\nMy S.O. and I are seniors in high school, about to graduate. We've been dating for most of this year and he used to be really attentive, always wanting to hang out and what not. Now his older brother is home from college and he's just stopped wanting to hang out with me. He's hanging out with his other friends and just kind of ignoring me, we only hang out when there are other people (his friends or brother) around...he doesn't even want sex. I understand he wants time for his brother and other friends but am I wrong to be upset that he cares more about spending time with them than with me?", "summary": "Boyfriend spending less time with me and more time with his other friends. Is it wrong to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_3zrqvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my gf [24F] of 6 months, how does she tell her strict parents about us?", "post": "I've been seeing veronica for the past 6 months and its pretty amazing, I couldn't ask for anything better.\n\n**The situation:**\n\nHer parents are pretty strict. she usually has to ask permission and approval to go out. going out with a guy? not going to happen.\n\nWhen me and veronica usually go out, she'll usually make an excuse that shes going out to see one of her girlfriends, or if she's spending the night she'll tell them that she's staying at one of their houses.\n\nShe lives in the suburbs about 45 minutes away from the downtown core and has never had a reason to come downtown until she met me and she's running out of excuses to give them.\n\nThe last time she told them she had a BF was over thre years ago. she isn't a saint and has made questionable decisions and binge drank pretty often prior to meeting me, which is probably why her parents are so strict on her.\n\nI want to take her to an art exhibit on this weekend but she's running out of excuses to give her parents, so we decided it was probably just best to tell her parents about us and put everything out in the open\n\nHow should we approach this r/relationships?", "summary": "Gf's parents are strict and we what to tell them about us, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nfo3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(23/m) partner(20/?) says she's a genderqueer and wants me stop addressing as a female.", "post": "Hey guys I have an unusual issue I just don't know how to deal with. \n\nMy girlfriend of three years told me that she doesn't associate with either gender and wants me to stop addressing her as anything female related. One of the main things that bother me is that she wants me to stop referring to her as a 'she' and now start calling her a 'they', so I'd have to say: \"they want me to start calling them my partner instead of girlfriend.\". \n\nI can't get my mind to it, how do I go about this? I'd really like some insight from different people because my partner is giving me a hard time when I have trouble adapting.", "summary": "partner wants me to stop associating her with anything female related, even stop addressing her as a 'she' and start calling her a 'they'."}
{"id": "t3_3hsr0f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [27/m] SO [26/f] has trust issues, had sex with someone else before the DTR talk. Do I dump her ass?", "post": "So the title has some ambiguity to it, but I need your advice Redditors.  This is a throwaway because I know she uses Reddit too, and not sure if she is on this sub or not.\n\nWe met online about a month ago and have been seeing each other pretty seriously since then.  \n\nSo fast forward to three dates in, we have a long and enjoyable date, during which we were talking about dating and how everybody dates multiple people at the same time, as is the hookup culture.  I won't state what I said, as she may identify me here, but she said that though she had dated multiple dudes at the same time, she doesn't anymore.\n\nAt the end of this date, she was going on a trip where I wouldn't see her for a few days.  I wished her well.  Then a couple days later, she doesn't have her phone, and a few weeks later admits to having sex with basically a BFF/fuckbuddy on this trip.  \n\nOn date 5 (5 or 6) at this point, she is very affectionate and drunk and wants me to commit to exclusivity on the spot.  I had asked a prying question about her, and she very quickly said she didn't want to answer it.\n\nShe wanted to define the relationship (DTR) before I even asked about this encounter and found out for sure.  \n\nI didn't think much of it now, but now I'm seeing that she is the one with major trust issues, and I had done nothing to cause this.  \n\nWhat are your thoughts Reddit?\n\nBefore you have the DTR conversation, you can fuck everybody you want, I get it.  We have a hookup culture in the West, and while I don't like it, it is what it is.  But I don't like when I straight up asked her, she dodged the question.\n\nSo my question is: Should I dump her?  And/or should I hook up with someone else to better explore what's out there?  \n\nWhat are your general thoughts?", "summary": "My significant other has sex with someone else before defining the relationship, but rushes to define the relationship after and wants exclusivity after she fucks this dude. I think this is unfair, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2m70ic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] was disowned 5 yrs ago by my Father [60F], now things on the mend. How do I introduce my GF of 7 years?", "post": "Control freak father. I had to lie for many years regarding my sexuality because he did believe me and thought I was brainwashed. \n\nFast forward 5 yrs later. I have been with the same woman for 7 years, who he barely met once prior to the disowning thing. Now our relationship is on the mend because I think he has grown and changed his opinions, but Im not sure how he will respond to meeting her. \n\nI really want to figure this out before the holidays because I dont want to go visit with my family without my GF. Also, my allegiance is to her family because they accepted me with open arms at every holiday over the last few years. So I definitely need to have plenty of time for them on the holidays. \n\nAnother complicating factor. My mother lies to my father constantly to \"protect him.\" She has met my GF many times and even gone out to dinner with us, but my dad has no idea. She would have to pretend she had never met my GF before, which is just awkward for everyone. My whole family walks on eggshells around him and is so afraid of pissing him off or of him making a scene, so we won't make any progress unless I force it. Ugh. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Should I ask him/explain the importance of him meeting her or just pop over for a surprise or casual meeting at a party?"}
{"id": "t3_4i34dl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I've got several, ever-changing sources of income, and I want to be above-board with the government about it. Please advise!", "post": "Hey folks, I'll cut right to the chase here. For the last ~5 months, I've been working for a guy who pays me an hourly rate and he writes me a check every two weeks. No tax forms filled out, nothing on the books - the plan is to do 1099 for now. He's in the process of building a business and there's an open dialogue about making me an official employee (W2s and all that fun stuff) and I'm not too concerned about that. \n\nI also do side work when I can: I'm a charter boat captain and mainly work for one small company. Again, no forms, just a hand-written check, but in this case there's been no talk of how to handle taxes and whatnot. The owner seems to have his own system, and I frankly don't want to be an employee because it keeps me a little more free. That said, an audit wouldn't bode well for me. \n\nOn top of all this, I also do occasional (6-10 hours/week) charters for a rental company, and in this case the renter pays me cash directly (the rental company's way of being uninvolved in the transaction).\n\nWhat I'd like to do is get all the proper licenses to have a business under my name and record everything as income for the business - so far I've got a San Diego county business tax certificate, but I know there's more to it than that. Then I'd put all my cash earnings - fully claimed - into their own account and pay my taxes from those funds. \n\nDoes anyone have some insight how I might do that in San Diego? I'm not too sure what my income for the year will be, as I'm just starting out in this venture, but a rough estimate would be around $50k. \n\nThank you so much for any input - I hope this wasn't too wordy, just wanted to make sure the right info got in here. \n\nAlso I understand everyone has their opinion about tax laws, rates, etc - as do I - but for the time being I'd like to hang around within the realms of the law.", "summary": "I do lots of work for different entities and don't want to deal with 1099s, I'd rather just have people pay my business (I'm the only \"employee\")."}
{"id": "t3_27h0m4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing a car accident, then not taking responsibility for it", "post": "(throwaway account) Like most of these, this did not happen today. I was either in my late teens or early 20's, driving to work early in the morning. I was working crazy hours and not getting enough sleep at the time, and as you know- \n\n-fuck this. I'm still trying to make excuses for it, even now! Sorry, I was definitely awake and alert enough to see that my light was fucking red. Anyway, I ran a red light going ~45-50mph, thinking that the cars turning out in front of me (coming from the opposite direction) were making yielded left turns on green. But no, they had an arrow and my light was fucking red, so you probably already know what happens next. I didn't exactly t-bone him, it was more of a head-on (I'm guessing he tried to swerve back, but by then it was too late). Both cars totaled, police and ambulance show up, they start talking to him first and from me listening from a distance, I gather that he has no license, doesn't speak any English, and has no ID or anything whatsoever. So they come talk to me after getting essentially no where with him. I saw my chance to push the blame to him, and I took it like the fucking piece of shit that I am. I told the cops that my light was green and they had no reason not to believe me.\n\nFast forward ~30 days or so, I get a subpoena stuck to my front door. It turns out he isn't an illegal citizen, his wallet just wasn't on him at the time of the accident. He probably met with the public defender to try and fight the charge. So I show up to court, get up in front of all those people and reiterate the lie that I told the cops. I will never forget the way he looked at me when I finished. He received a jail sentence, got fined heavily and got his license taken away. When you think about it, the only reason the truth wasn't and never will be recovered is because he couldn't speak English. I still feel like shit to this day and I will never tell anyone what I did. Why couldn't I just not have been colorblind for those 2 seconds? I fucked up.", "summary": "I ran a red light, crashed, saw an opportunity to be a piece of shit, took said opportunity, other guy lost in court."}
{"id": "t3_11l03z", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My life is slipping.", "post": "I have ADHD and generalized anxiety, and my mom recently took me off of both of my medicines because she decided medication was evil and she'd rather watch my life go down the drain than have my sleep schedule messed up a little because of medication. I feel like it's next to impossible for me to get anything done because I spend more time worrying than actually doing it, and then I just decide to ignore it until the very last minute until it's absolutely crucial to get it done.\n\nI'm a senior in high school and I'm absolutely terrified of applying to college. Everyone I know has applied to at least one college and I'm afraid to apply because I'm afraid of rejection. I don't have clubs or sports to make me seem active, because I don't like to commit to things like that and then have to miss events because I'm busy. I'd just rather not be busy. But not having any clubs and sports looks really bad on a college application, so I've heard from many people. It's too late to join anything now.\n\nI'm scared. I don't have much time until it's inevitable for me to face all these responsibilities and I'm so afraid. What if I fail? What if no colleges accept me because they catch on that I'm a total loser even though I'm very smart?", "summary": "I'm putting everything off and being extremely apathetic and I see it having bad results but I'm still doing nothing about it."}
{"id": "t3_1eentp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not stopping my friend from chucking a golf ball at a innocent squirrel", "post": "Me and my friend both golf. We were sitting in a golf cart next to a tee box and my friend points to a squirrel grazing on some grass in the middle of the tee box and says \"you think I can hit it?\" The squirrel was about 8 to 10ft away so i said maybe. Well right when i said maybe i turn to look at my friend and he has his arm completely wound up ready to throw a 90mph fastball at this little guy. Right when i was about to say wait, the ball zings towards the squirrel and hits it straight into the eyeball. All three of us (including the squirrel) freaked the fuck out. It falls over, scratching with its claws at its bursted and bleeding eyeball. It writhes around for about 20 seconds, and eventually does the all familiar death twitch. Once we figured it was dead, i came to conclusion it wouldn't be best to leave the corpse in the middle of the tee box where everyone can see it so I ask my friend \"are you going to move it?\" He says fuck no so I put my golfer's glove on (can't be too careful right?) and throw it into the nearby bushes. We carried on with our game, haunted by that little innocent squirrel.", "summary": "friend hits squirrel in the eye with a golf ball, I have to throw its cold corpse into the bushes."}
{"id": "t3_3iz656", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I need some advice", "post": "Im a 18 year old guy and shes a 18 year old girl. So for a bit of back story I moved away 6 months ago and came home for a week to visit freinds and family. On the last day of my trip (Saturday) I went to my best friends mams birthday party. And this party Il met a girl. This girl was also visiting freinds and family and it was also her last day. We hit it off and had a great night cuddling and making out and shit. So the morning came and we went our separate ways in the morning. I'm currently sat at the airport in two minds of what to do. Do I reach out to her and try and do the long distance thing or do I let this amazing night be just that, an amazing night?", "summary": "Met a girl, had an amazing night but she lives 2000 light years away"}
{"id": "t3_552ya1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [22M] won't talk to me [26F] and I'm terrified.", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm nervous so please bear with me. Also full disclosure: we're both disabled abuse victims, and I have BPD while he has mixed personality disorder.\n\nSo I was in a relationship that I really loved for over a year. Yes it was long distance, but he was (is) my favorite person and talking to him online was enough.\n\nHowever, about three weeks ago now he broke up with me (while I was in a benefits meeting), saying he was \"too messed up for a relationship\" and that I had been manipulating and ignoring him. Disclosure again, I'm one of those who break down easily but it's always sincere and I feel weak for them, and I think I took him for granted but I was more clingy than ignoring him.\n\nAnyway, he said he wanted to be friends, and a week later apologized for cutting me out because he was miserable without me around. I was really happy but he suddenly criticized me a lot but that got better and I was just happy he was talking to me.\n\nBut, and this is the thing that's giving me meltdowns, he's blanked me again and is vagueing about abuse and not helping toxic people. Now I have a really bad memory, and a history of abuse making me doubt my reality a lot, and I'm freaking out because what if my only good relationship was actually me being abusive. I can't even unfollow him on social media because I'm just so confused.", "summary": "desperately miss my ex/favorite person, feel lost, scared I imagined a good relationship"}
{"id": "t3_zuflm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] My girlfriend of almost two years now shows no affection whatsoever, and it's depressing. [17F]", "post": "We started out a strong, normal relationship... but as time dragged on she became colder I suppose you could say. I love her and all but it's getting old, we'll be together doing... something, whatever, but as you know people like to kiss... hug, or show affection in general. Well everyone except my girlfriend.  I've tried waiting it out and it's just making me want more. I'm not kidding when I say that my girlfriend hates kissing, although she used to enjoy it. When I say kiss I don't mean making out, I mean literally a peck. She will push me away or tell me something like \"Your breath stinks.\" (While it doesn't, you just have to trust me on this one) just to avoid physical interaction. It's been getting to me recently, and it's actually bringing my confidence down about myself. I don't know if I'm ugly, or I'm clingy... it's just mind boggling. I've tried talking about this with her and she simply says, \"I just don't like it\". But honestly I feel as if that's an excuse and this has been ongoing for about 7-8 months. I get jealous of seeing something as simple as couples that simply hug and give a peck when they see each other, I get none of that except a cold \"hello\", it's just not the same anymore and I don't know what to do. I don't even know if she loves me anymore...", "summary": "girlfriend shows no affection for no reason. I want it, dunno if I'm ugly clingy or god knows what, have tried talking about it, no dice. halp"}
{"id": "t3_38290u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] need advice on how to deal with my feelings towards my best friend [16F]", "post": "So, my best friend and I went to the same school and have been close since the 5th grade. However, after 8th grade, she had to leave my old school, and move to a different country. I was in my old school for a year after she had left, and then I too, also moved to a new country and a new school. During that time when she left, we still managed to be close, and talk a lot, and eventually, I started developing feelings for her. Actually, to be honest, I had feelings for her since the day we became close but I was scared she was going to reject me and our friendship may get awkward, so I tried my best to control my feelings. \n\nAnyways, fast forward, our conversations became less and less as the years went by, and when we would have conversations, she would share her experiences with her boyfriend and what not, which made me sad, but what can I do; I can't really blame her, and I can't tell her it makes me sad. Then I started to notice that I was the one who was initiating conversations with her, which made me feel like I was desperate or needy for her attention, so I gave up. I gave up talking to her completely, and it's been like that for a good 6-7 months now. I haven't said one thing to her, not one single notification to her would come from me. \n\nThis is my problem. I miss her. I miss her a lot. I know she has moved on from me being her friend and probably has more/better friends now, but, I honestly don't know what to do. I tried to move on, I made so many good friends in my new school, doing as much social activities as I can, but I just can't seem to get her out of my head. \n\nI have no idea what to do. Please be blunt with me Reddit, I can take it.", "summary": "my best friend and we stopped talking because we are further apart. I miss her a lot."}
{"id": "t3_3vhh9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [25 M] boyfriend says he is too tired from work to help cook or clean", "post": "We have lived together for a year, in that time he has not cooked a single time, he leaves messes all around the house for me to clean for example in 2 days he can gather 30 half drank cans of coke on his desk after i had cleaned it perfectly. \n\nWe both contribute equally financially so i believe we should do equal levels of housework, but he says he is allways too tired, im tired too!!!!\n\n I have tried chore charts, not doing it, firm discussions, unltimatems etc nothing works hes like a kid and im his mum. He has had piles of yellow grss stained sheets and pillows and blankets downstrairs and i have asked him daily to sort it out or chuck it out for literaly months. It makes me want to cry i cant keep this up if i dont keep cleaning non stop it will be a horders house.", "summary": "boyfrends a filthy pig who says hes too tired to clean, what do."}
{"id": "t3_21zbui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out the guy (29) I've (25f) been dating is living with an ex girlfriend", "post": "She needed a place to stay and he let her live with him temporarily. Supposedly she's moving this month. \n\nHe's referred to her as his friend every time he's mentioned her. We even hung out together once. I don't think he ever would have told me the truth had it not come out. We were with his family and his mom mentioned her as an ex.\n\n I'm just really disappointed and worried about his hiding it. A) he either lied just because he's a liar, or B) there's something to hide. We've only dated a handful of times, so I'm not trying to be dramatic. It's just unnerving and seems like a red flag. Is that justified reasoning?", "summary": "guy referred to his female roommate as a friend. His mom let it slide that she's an ex. Am I being emotional/too jealous o or is this a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_16sgg9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I wrong to feel angry/betrayed?  [23/m] feuding with longtime friends [23/m].", "post": "Using a throwaway.\n\nAfter graduating college, my friend and I moved home with our parents to save money/pay down loans. Let's call him Zach. Zach went to work at a tech company, myself at a publishing company. We agreed that in a year we'd move out and get a place together. This was known by all our mutual friends.\n\nMy other friend, we'll call him James, is kind of spoiled, financially well-off (family money) and was renting/living on his own. \n\nA year later, my publishing company ran into some financial difficulties and laid off a majority of the editorial staff, myself included. I had to put Zach and I's plans on hold until I could get financially secure. Zach had no problem and said he would wait until I was ready.\n\nNow, to the present. We had made plans to move in March. Zach was itching to get out from under his parents but was still patient. James, however, purchased (not rented) a condo. He offered Zach a room for well below market value, citing that he didn't want to live alone anymore. Zach accepted.\n\nUpon accepting, Zach immediately called me to inform me of his decision. He said he couldn't pass an opportunity to live in a great area for so cheap, and that he hopes this wouldn't affect our friendship. I respected him for telling me, understood his motivations, and harbor no ill will towards him.\n\nHowever, I feel incredibly betrayed by James. He was fully aware he took my roommate, thereby further setting back my chances of moving out. He instructed Zach not to tell me, knowing that I wouldn't appreciate it. I feel like a got cut out of an opportunity, and all my planning and saving has gone to shit. Am I wrong to be upset?", "summary": "Friend offers incredible below market deal on rent to prevent me from moving in with another friend."}
{"id": "t3_4x641q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "i [F/22] will be living with 2 roommates [f/early 20s] for first time who i have never met, cannot get in contact with them.", "post": "so i am moving into a campus apartment in a week with 3 girls. 1 who i already know and have lived with and 2 girls who i do not know. i sent them an email a week ago introducing myself and stating i was moving in early for my campus job training, told them the appliances i planned to bring and told them they are welcome to use them too so they dont need to bring their own if they dont want to. and all the nice stuff like i look forward to meeting you, and so on. i never heard back. after several days i added them on facebook but still have heard nothing at all from either of them. i am gonna be really frustrated if everyone shows up with a microwave because no one read their emails. i am really bad at making friends, i do not want to email them again because i dont wanna come off as pushy or something. i just did not expect to have zero communication before move in day because we are told to contact each other ahead of time. what should i do? this is not something i really prepared for...", "summary": "new roommates have not responded to me its been a week, do not know what to do.."}
{"id": "t3_1q1alw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by orgasming a little too hard.", "post": "So I come home this morning from a particularly long and boring night at work to my loving fiance and since I'm tired and want to relax, we split a couple bowls. \nAfter a few minutes things start getting hot and heavy and he ends up giving me one of the greatest orgasms in my life. We then switch to different positions and he winds up getting me off with his fingers. As I finish and get up to do my womanly duty and finish him, I hear \"what is that?\" I turn around to see a couple brown smudges glaring up at me from our black sheets. Mortified, I mutter \"oh fuck no.\" He asks again, and Im speechless. I start pulling the sheet off to wash it, and he points out that I have some on my side. Sure enough there was a nasty brown smudge on my hip. I'm almost crying when I go upstairs to the bathroom and clean myself off. All the while, he's laughing and cracking jokes since the discovery like \"well that sex turned out shitty!\". I then say \"I'm sorry I'm so embarrassed!\" and he responds with \"are you **shitting** me? I'm just kinda laughing about it rather than being disgusted baby. Dont take it so hard\" but I can't get over the embarrassment factor.", "summary": "had amazing sex that turned out shitty."}
{"id": "t3_3irooj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Ex-GF [18 F] of 6 months, she says she wants to be with me and build with me, proceeds to ignore me.", "post": "Okay, to start we were together for a short while last year and during that time it was great I really liked her and felt it was reciprocated.  During that time though I found out she was talking to other guys behind my back who were attempting to sway her away from me.  Eventually we broke up but remained somewhat close to the point where she would still come to be with her problems. (which was a lot)\n\n I cared about her a lot and I still do, recently she started at college and suddenly tells me that she wants to build with me and be with me for my success.  Although, I don't really believe her.  \n\nSince the day I've met her she's blown me off I can't count how many times, takes an unnatural amount of time to text back, and ultimately ignores me to the point where I feel she doesn't care.  But the few times she does respond to me it's something that really makes it seem like she does care about me. Her actions towards me just leave me confused and feeling left out, I feel like I'm being lead on but I don't know.  I try to discuss it with her but she's generally distant and avoids it.  Just not sure what to do from here, just drop her completely or keep trying?", "summary": "Ex that I care for a lot tells me she wants to build with me and be with me, proceeds to ignore me and leave me feeling down. Drop her or not?"}
{"id": "t3_52xduq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unintentionally harassing a teacher's child.", "post": "This FU begins roughly a week ago, when I made a post joking about a friend of mine on my Instagram meme page. I was implying that he was a \"hoe,\" the fuckup is that I made mention of his girlfriend, the daughter of our English teacher. Fast forward to yesterday, and I get a message from my friend telling me that I need to take down the post because my teacher saw it and thinks I was calling her daughter a \"hoe.\" So I take it down, and today I talk with my friends girlfriend, and things are ok, problem dealt with. \n\nThen I get called to the office. I enter the room with our counselor, and immediately this wave of \"I fucked up\" hits me. \n\n\"It's come to my attention you were making some nasty memes about people.\"\n\nI immediately start clarifying that I was making a joke about my friend, and that I wasn't referring to the teacher's daughter. \n\nCounselor started explaining what's going to happen, basically saying I'm not in school trouble, but teacher's husband may be contacting my parents.", "summary": "Made a post misinterpreted as harassment, parents may be contacted."}
{"id": "t3_466sfw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] big medical decision to make with my SO [33/M] 2.5 years.", "post": "Throwaway because my SO is on Reddit. Trying to make this as short as possible. My SO and I have been together for 2.5 years. At the start of our relationship I was diagnosed with cancer. My SO was there though it ALL. He never left my side and it really made our relationship flourish. I love him and he loves me. We have talked about eventually having kids one day but both agree we are not in a position for kids at the moment, nor did we have a set time to start trying. (We don't live together, neither of us are super happy/set in our jobs, we have finacial struggles as is)\n\nI just had my almost 2 year check in/scans for cancer. After some testing it was determined I should have my other ovary removed (one side was removed when first diagnosed) my doctor said its all up to me but I know it's something I need to do. He hasn't said exactly when it needs to be done but it looks like before me and my SO will be able to have children. \n\nThe thing is my SO wants kids of his own one day (not adoption) and given that I won't be able to give them to him I suggested maybe we end things now. I love my SO and want to spend forever with him but I know he wants his own children one day and more than anything I want him to be happy. Any advice is helpful!!!", "summary": "I have to have a surgery sooner rather than later that will make me unable to have children but potentially save my life. SO and I are not ready for kids before surgery and freezing eggs, etc not an option at this time. Do we stay together? Or do I let him go knowing I won't be able to give him children one day? "}
{"id": "t3_1tswq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] 4months, didnt manage to spend christmas together and im not seeing her for newyears....", "post": "We didn't manage to find the time to see each other over christmas and I already have plans to go and celebrate newyears in London. I invited her along when I booked the trip but she said shes ok..\n\nAnyway I feel bad that I haven't seen her at christmas and I wont see her for new years\n\nWhat does /r/relationships think about this?...should I cancel my London trip and go and celebrate new years with her? or I was thinking of just going to visit her on January the 2nd for a few days\n\nPart of me feels like I should be with her but we both seem quite happy doing our own thing but I dont want her to be upset...should I just ask her again if she is ok with me going to London?\n\nOr am I just over thinking the situation lol.", "summary": "Not spending christmas or Newyears with GF should I cancel my newyears plans to visit her?"}
{"id": "t3_26kgh3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "no sleep", "post": "Long time lurker here,just wanted to share this story.\nI,m 25,just experienced my first (?) full blown night terror, that i can remember of and I am fucking terrified. Could not sleep that well and long (5 hours)  the night from sunday to monday. Guess thats a reason.\n\nNever was much of a dreamer thus far ofc some nights I dreamed some weird shit but nothing ever came across feeling like that what happend half an hour ago. \nOnly vivid dreams up until this point consisted of me falling and bouncing back up in the air with a bazillion mph and one where I got shot and kind of \"felt\" the impact. \nSo I got to bed about two hours ago and it didnt take long and I fell asleep. First thing I \"remember\" is being in the shower,minding my own business until one of my balls just falls to the ground and to my horror more less just melts away on the fucking shower floor.\nQueue being chased by some horrible entity that is slicing its way to me while i run away. Funny thing is by now I am getting aware that the things happening around me are not real and dream - me is trying to wake up by twisting and punching various parts of my body to no avail. And now to the really fun part, so I just escaped the werewolf like monstrosity and now am in a room with some dude in a suit who proclaims that all things happening are \"just as planned\" because I bought some kind of experience/game and should just be grateful because it is working out so well....\nAfter that I feel like I am awakening and getting my senses back but cant move or see and just hallucinate shady faces that are on the edge of my bed or above me and start to scream for help. And I actually think I awoke from my own voice because it really felt like I was talking and I could hear myself.\nThere were a few situation that i cant remember or describe between and after these but that was the bunch of it.\nIve got no experience regarding hallucinogens but I imagine that would count as a bad trip. \nSorry for the wall of text and the english & grammar", "summary": "Did not sleep well , scary dreams ,cant sleep now.The End "}
{"id": "t3_14bb02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [26f] doesn't want to dance with me anytime I [26m] ask, but when I gave a friend permission to dance with her she went instantly.", "post": "We have been together for over 6 years and every time we go to a club or place where there is dancing I want to dance, but she doesn't want to. We danced a couple times before during our first year together, but since then she doesn't want to dance with me. I've asked her a few more times throughout the 5 years and she would say she doesn't want to. I figured that she does not like to dance because she is shy or something. However, when she is drunk she sometimes shyly dances with herself (moving of arms etc, swinging side to side, etc.)\n\nThen sometime ago we were out with a few friends and we had a few drinks. A friend asked me if he can dance with my girlfriend. I said yes thinking that she was going to say no because she never wants to dance with me. So on my part I kind of want to see what she would say. Then when she was asked and got up immediately I was surprised along with our other friends that she went dancing with him. Apparently she was drunk from what she told me, but I didn't think so because she only was able to comprehend and hesitated when my friend asked her to dance. They didn't dance long, but it was for about 2 songs.\n\nLater on, about 30 minutes after she danced, I wanted to dance so I asked her and she said no. The next day I got mad at her about that night. She said she didn't remember me asking her to dance. Then later on she says she doesn't feel comfortable dancing with me in front of friends.\n\nConsidering that I usually like to dance and she doesn't. Am I at fault here? Do I have a reason to be mad at her? Why does she do this?", "summary": "My girlfriend usually never wants to dance, but immediately danced with a friend who asked with my permission. I ask later on that night and she says she doesn't want to."}
{"id": "t3_3rslz6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[24M] A million questions after a first dinner.", "post": "Hey all,\n\u00a0\n\nI've never \"dated\" before, but I met up with a girl from Tinder on Thursday for dinner at a place I suggested. Everything went really well conversationally (I wasn't my usual quiet self) and we ended the date with a hug. Seems pretty standard so far. I texted her afterwards asking if she made it home okay and that I had fun, and she responded positively (we took public transportation separate ways to get home).\n\u00a0\n\nShe also unmatched me from Tinder, which I'm trying not to read into too much since it's not like we're together. It's probably the thing that's thrown me off the most though (and probably unreasonable on my end) about if she likes me or not.\n\u00a0\n\nAlso, I have no idea what she's looking for with me (or if she even wants to continue to see me) so that kind of makes me nervous as well. I'm also not sure what I want since I've never been in this position before, but I did really enjoy spending time with her.\n\u00a0\n\nNot sure what to do from here and I have a million questions.\nDo I text her and just keep talking to her conversationally (seems kinda boring to me)?\n\nOr just invite her to do something after a couple of days (would a small-ish pop concert on a weekday night be good since I have a spare ticket)?\n\nShe mentioned during dinner that she might not be in town over the weekend (but that wasn't a response to me suggesting we do something, so I doubt she's trying to avoid me or anything). So this weekend we probably won't see each other (or should I make a suggestion anyway)?\n\nAnd I guess I'm not sure at what point I know if she's actually busy or doesn't want to take things further at all.", "summary": "Had dinner with a girl I like, not sure what to do from there."}
{"id": "t3_3uskae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] met up with my Friend [23/F] from high school, who I had a crush on for years.", "post": "Last week I attended my high school reunion. It was held at a bar and it was great to see everyone. I saw my friend, I'll refer to her as Olivia, and proceeded to talk to her. \n\nWe were having a good time catching up on everything that has happened. She mention that she's been living on her own after moving away from her parents to get closer to work, and that she broke up with her boyfriend. Whenever we've been in contact, she's always had a boyfriend. \n\nI was happy to hear about it but, just as I was processing the information, my ex girlfriend, I'll refer to as Susan, from high school comes over. They have been friends since middle school. They were catching up which made things a little awkward for me since I haven't seen both of them since high school. \n\nA little back story, I was friends with Susan since elementary school, and we started to date in high school. It really wasn't that big of a relationship for me because she and I never shared similar interests. It was more of a take relationship on her end, but after about a year, I broke up with her. Around that time Olivia just got out of a big relationship. We started to hang out more, and our friendship started to get more flirty. I asked her out, but she said that we couldn't go out because she didn't want to hurt Susan. afterwards we graduated from high school and have been out of touch since then. \n\nI don't know whether I should try and rekindle that friendship with Olivia and see where it goes. I don't know if she will still be afraid of getting into a relationship because she thinks she will hurt Susan. I know for a fact that Susan has a boyfriend already.", "summary": "Met up with a crush from high school, and considering getting back in touch to see if there any potential for a relationship. Almost got into a relationship back in high school, but she was afraid of hurting her friend, my ex. Would live some advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_39ip9l", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Yet to have a pain free run, advice please?", "post": "Right, so I have never been a very active person until I recently started excersicing and watching what I eat to lose some weight. It's through that that I found running, and realised how enjoyable it is and how it is something I would love to do. So I set about starting c25k, progress wise, I'm on W5D1. However I'm yet to have a pain free run. \n\nI've got Tibial Torsion, which means my feet turn out basically, my right foot considerbly more than the left. I also believe I have Plantar Fasciitis at the moment, as well as calf tightness. I over pronate and I am flat footed. Apart from that my feet are fine!!! \n\nI've tried different shoes, Insoles, and supports, taping, excersises etc etc and find the best thing for me so far has been barefoot running, and I'm considering buying some vibram five fingers shoes? I tried out running in sufring/water shoes and still got the pain. So far only running in my socks has been painless enough to run for a considerable amount of time and begin to enjoy it! \n\nI'm due to see a physiotherapist in the next month (NHS are very very slow) but for now I just wondered if anyone had been through any of the problems I've described, and what helped them? Also whether anyone has any of above problems and wears five fingers, or minimalist running shoes?", "summary": "I have tibial torsion, plantar fascittis, over pronation, calf tightness, and flat feet. Advice on one or more?"}
{"id": "t3_1r0wx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 1.5 years. I need advise on breakup", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nI need advise on how I should approach this situation. Me and my gf have been going out for the last 1.5 years. She got a secondment program and she decided to take it and go overseas for 4 months, this was in July.\n\nI wouldn't describe our relationship to be perfect, we had our ups and downs, and I tried to change myself so that she'll be happy to be with me. Since she left, I talk to her regularly but for the past two months I've been getting this feeling that I do not want to be with her. \n\nThe past two months have been pretty relaxed and I didn't feel guilty for not doing something and in general I was happier. in short I realised i do not want to be with her. Since she is overseas I do not know how to deal with this. \n\nAs of late, I don't communicate with her as regularly because I want to distance myself from her. She will be back in the next two weeks, and she is buying me all these things and I honestly don't want anything from her. I need to tell her how I feel but I don't know how to do it and I know I don't want to do it over the phone.\n\nif you have any advise for me please it would be much appreciated.", "summary": "i want to break up with my gf who is overseas and she will be back in 2 weeks with all these gifts that i do not want."}
{"id": "t3_ep90p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need some input on my situation", "post": "I have been in a relationship with the girl that I am with now for about 3 years now. Things started out great, but as time goes on I find myself more, and more irritated with the girl and the situation. I want to break it off, and I will soon, but that is not what I am here for.\n\nMy current GF and I share a friendship with another couple. They are some of my closest friends, both of them are, and I would really hate to mess that up. But, I am falling for my friends girl, and I am falling for her hard. Its getting to the point where I dont want to hang out with them because its hard to see them together. I also think I am picking up signals from her. She has begged us to spend the night at their place, she has yelled at him for cutting our evening short while looking at me, along with other things that make me think she may be into me. I am probably just crazy, but I feel like these are signals.\n\nThey went through a hard spell not to long ago, and I have a feeling that they are not at 100%, and I feel like they are just with each other to not be alone. Their hugs seem forced, and the time that they do spend together seems like a clock watching party. \n\nRA, I plan on being single not to long from now, and I need some help. If they break up, would it be acceptable for me to approach her and let her know how I feel? If my friend took my ex out I dont think I would be upset, right now it feels like we are roomies and thats it. \n\nWe are all 21-23, and attending college.", "summary": "I think I am in love with my good friend's gf, and my current gf and I are friends with them. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_p7jgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's something that happened to you by complete coincidence that really made you think?", "post": "Odd question, but just now on our way home from a night out, we decided to stop by Jimmy John's to grab something to eat. I didn't order anything, and as we were leaving I noticed a completely untouched JJ Gargantuan sub just sitting on the sidewalk next to a full large drink, with a receipt under it from half an hour ago. I felt bad about taking it, but my friend convinced me to. I was SO excited to get home and eat it (being buzzed and hungry made me completely unconcerned about where it came from or anything that could have been wrong with it), but then 2 blocks later we passed a friendly homeless man checking a bin for cans. Homeless people are actually quite a rarity on this campus, and I asked if he would like a sandwich. He sheepishly said he would gladly take some if I was willing to give. Gave him the whole thing, and left feeling good, but a little strange: like I was being watched.", "summary": "Was gifted a cosmic sandwich by some other-worldly power, and moments later was given the choice to either eat it, or give it to a homeless man."}
{"id": "t3_tqo5n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been presented with a proverbial rung on the career ladder.  Need a gentle nudge of support.", "post": "A little background:  I am in the IT consulting industry, and specialize in a very niche software suite.  Large corporations are willing to pay a premium to contract people with my knowledge.  I left my former company, for my current company and leveraged a 40% raise (standard benefits included).  Its worked out great, except for the travel required, and the project i'm on is in a HEAVILY regulated industry, so i've turned into a documentation whore-- and we move at a snails pace.\n\nThat being said, i've just been offered another contract position, which would give me a 35% raise, in a non regulated industry, which is considerably closer to home.  My biggest hang up is that this position is a 12 month + contract, where my current job is secured with no end date.  Im pretty confident in my abilities and personality that I could excel in the job, but its a calculated risk as the new project could turn out to be a complete turd, or end after a year.  \n\n**special note:  today I got into my first ever \"heated\" professional argument with my little bitch of a project manager, so i'm trying to make this decision as emotionless as possible, I need an unbiased reddit opinion, with lots of GIFs of my pussy bitch manager please ;-)", "summary": "Should I leave my secure job, to chase a less secure job with a bigger paycheck?"}
{"id": "t3_2j0ne5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] can't commit to a relationship with my [19 F]", "post": "I'm 18 and have never been in a serious relationship. I have, I suppose,  a girlfriend. She's fun to talk to, we share a lot of the same interests, but she wants to turn it up a notch.\n\nHere's the thing, I've never really been bothered with relationships. I'm quite happy keeping my own company and I really value the freedom of being independent. But I do really like this girl, and I'd like to see more of her, but I simply can't cross that threshold. I'm really worried that I'm just going to end up upsetting her because she expects more from me. \n\nThis has happened so many times now, talking to a girl, she wants to take it further, I don't want to commit. Is this going to be me now? I like companionship, someone to share experiences with, someone to talk to and someone to cuddle with. But the relationships I see seem to be about being on call 24/7, spending all day returning texts and basically throwing a whole lot of your personal time away for smalltalk.\n\nWhat am I to do here? Either I tell her I'm not interested and I maybe loose her as a friend if it upsets her or I go for it. The thing is, if I do, it could either go really nicely, or it just raises the stakes and makes things worse if I realise it isn't for me and want to get out.\n\nI've also gotta say, for some reason, I feel that relationships are something I need to somehow keep secret or lie about to others. I get some weird mental block there. I'm generally quite reserved, and I don't know if that's got anything to do with it, but it's like the person that I love is a personal thing, and personal things should stay private. That's a shitty way to put it, but it just seems weird to me, even though everybody does it!\n\nA psychiatrist could probably have a field day with me!", "summary": "Can never quite bring myself to commit to a relationship, don't want to be an arsehole by stringing someone along either"}
{"id": "t3_1bs20v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[f22] wanting to experience independence, but am married to my husband[m24].", "post": "My husband, 24, and I, 22, are in a weird spot in our relationship. We've been married between 6 and 12 months, been together for over 5 years. You may recognize this from [this post](\n\nSome more information, as he painted me in a horrible light. We started dating when we were teenagers, and I had some issues with cutting. He kind of got me to stop, and so I was convinced I required him. I let him become the main person in our relationship - I was his girlfriend, his fiance, his wife. My mother, when we were dating and I couldn't drive, let me do almost whatever as long as he was with me. He became my guardian. He kind of controlled me - I could do this, at this time. I could hang out with these people, but these ones were bad influences. More of a father than a boyfriend.\n\nI kind of changed when we got together to be what he wanted me to be, and I just got tired of letting him decide what we do. We have never done any drugs, had any alcohol, gone to any concerts. I want to have these experiences - I don't want to become an alcoholic or drug addict. I want to experience things that I won't experience if I don't make a stand for myself.\n\nI would not give my husband an ultimatum. I love him dearly. I don't know if I'm still *in* love with him. I am looking at leaving him, but only as an option, not as my course of action. I guess I'm just looking for general advice - am I actually the bad guy I've been painted, or should I leave him? Should I try to see if this works out? I have never been on my own, as an adult - I moved into his place a week after I turned 18. I just want to experience these things, but we are very clear that if I leave him to do, we will be over. And I'm really not sure if that is disappointing or not.", "summary": "Want to experience different things and being on my own, but am married. Unsure of how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3egdpe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having no restroom around", "post": "So.. this all happened round about 3 weeks ago. I was on a big rowing tour with my whole family, the route went through the freaking nowhere. At one point we had to take the boats out, in order to get in at another inlet point. All of a sudden I got big stomach cramps. I thought letting a little air get out was a good strategy to deal with it. Nooooope. I trusted a fart, biggest mistake EVER. You know what happened, I don't really need to go into detail. All right, stomach cramps, literally having sh*t in my pants, I abruptly felt the urge to sh*t.. ok alright. I was looking for a restroom or a house.. ANYTHING.. but there was nothing. Only shrubbery and fields as far as the eye can reach. I didn't know what to do. So I asked my uncle for tissues and ran as fast as I could (remember: while having sh*t in my pants) behind some bushes and let it all out. To my advantage the fields (I think it was grain) covered my lower half. So with bushes behind my back, fields in front of me and my family waiting a couple of feets away (but still behind the bushes so they couldn't see me basically) to keep on rowing, I took a huuuge dump. Only with tissues and by they way with my life jacket on (didn't have the time to take it off). I took a while and after I came back they, they had to wait around 20 minutes, they all KNEW what just happened. Nobody spoke about it. Later at dinner my uncle rolled up the story and told some neighbours (in audience of my whole family, which was there and tried to displace what happened) \"the funny story of his nephew\" and how funny I ran with one's legs apart to him, asking for tissues. I also try to repress it since then, but thought Reddit needs to know.", "summary": "sh*t happens and it doesn't care where or with whom you are."}
{"id": "t3_2r3h1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19,M] am starting to feel jaded about relationships and connecting with people. Help.", "post": "I am not quite sure where to put this, so if any moderator knows, please help me out.\n\nI wanted to ask if any of you have ever met up with your exes, old crushes, etc etc and realised that what you had with that person could've have worked out if not for timing or circumstances beyond your control? And, now that the two of you meet up so much time later, both parties come to this same conclusion?\n\nI think this is exacerbated by what seems to be a preference for emotionally unavailable girls, when I can I be rather emotive and intense.", "summary": "Ever had those \"Another time, another place\" relationships? Please share your stories."}
{"id": "t3_3i0hhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with friend [25 F] not into relationship yet, worried about possibly moving too fast", "post": "Hey r/Relationships!   I met someone, and had the best day I've ever had.  We spent all day together, stayed up far longer than we should have, and just talked until we both pretty much passed out.  We spoke over 15 hours straight.\n\nNow, Both of us were only seeking friends.  However, we just hit it off so well, neither of us really see a way around a relationship, even though neither were seeking, and we're both unsure about whether either of us is ready for one, both recovering from previous relationships.\n\nIt's only been one day, I've never felt this connected to someone before (And have a fair amount of experience), and I just don't know how to proceed.  Should I force myself to be more distant so it doesn't progress too quickly?  Or what?\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "Had the best day of my life, connected more than I ever have with anyone, can't see not getting into a relationship with a new friend(and from what I gathered, they feel the same).  Neither of us want one though.  How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_3mn7yj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why is it that when you have finally forgotten about your problems for a moment and everything seems good life finds a way of rubbing it in your face?", "post": "Hi, I am a 19 year old mexican male who two months ago had to move out to the US. My life was not precisely perfect but it was peaceful, had a girlfriend (we didnt break up because of me moving out but it did certainly make everything harder) and each weekend I could just go out with my close 5 friends and unload all problems and worries for a moment.\n\nI was enrolled at a University with 40% scholarship and 6 class credit because of my IB Bilingual Diploma, now not wanting to brag but its part of my frustration that I had to fight a lot for that Diploma, teachers who did not want to reccomend me and told me I would never make it, parents who did not know how to pay for it... basically never believed in me in this matter but I proved them all wrong when I got a 31 (24 is needed to get the diploma) a B in my English extended essay (a 4000 word research paper, 4 guys and I were the second generation to do this paper in English) and a B in my Theory  of Knowledge paper which my teacher pronosticated for a C with danger of becoming a D.\n\nSo I get my diploma, life again seems to go great, my uni tells me about the 40% scholarship (we expected a 20% since nobody thought Id get the diploma), now a little context here my fathers business was in decline and money was really short this is the reason why we moved out. All of a suddent life decides to give me a sucker punch with the whole moving out thing, US schools dont recognize the IBO so my diploma was a big waste, went from private school to community college which because of my international status costs the same as my private school WITHOUT scholarship. (fast", "summary": "here dont want to make this too long, we thought Id get in-state tuition but turns out our visas get the international tuition so another suckerpunch)."}
{"id": "t3_2w20p0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of two years, she's unmotivated to get a job", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for two years, we started dating in our junior years of college. Since then we have both graduated this past spring, and been long distance for the past half year (I moved for a job opportunity that I couldn't pass up.)  After graduation she moved home to live and has been doing very little work, mainly working on personal projects.  She wants to get out of her home city and come live in mine, hopefully in the next few months when we can finalize living arrangements.\n\nI'm having trouble now with the fact that she agreed to move to my city (in which there are more job opportunities than where she lives currently) but she is not applying to anything.  I've tried sending her job listings that might interest her and make suggestions about how others I know have handled their job hunts.  However, she is making no moves to apply herself or even pursue jobs that lie outside her field that could help sustain her as she works on her passion. I'm at a loss of what to do as I feel that she is not living up to her potential.  I love her very much and other than this we don't have any big issues.  So my question is more of how do you deal with this as a partner? \n\nSome relevant info: She is in a very highly competitive field that is her passion but can take years/knowing the right person to beak into.  I believe she is truly talented and with the right work ethic she can succeed.", "summary": "How to get someone to see that they have to try and put themselves out there?"}
{"id": "t3_3e2koz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [22M] \"Richard\" with his parents [40s?], they no longer want him moving into a house together with me and another friend because the other friend has a rattlesnake. And a fer-de-lance. And a few cobras.", "post": "Two friends and I have been planning to rent a house together this coming school year. I'll call the friends \"Richard\" (the one backing out) and \"Thomas\" (the one with snakes). Thomas has forty or fifty snakes, of which five are venomous. It isn't just a hobby for him; he's an honest-to-god expert -- the nearby hospital called him for help when someone showed up with a snakebite. Some of these snakes are extremely dangerous. Thomas has had these snakes with him for years (including in a dorm room -- don't ask) without incident. He has permits for all of them.\n\nWe were within a day of signing a lease when Richard's parents called him and said things to the effect of \"oh god please no.\" As a result, he's dropping out of the lease. This is a bit of a pain. I personally am not super keen on the idea of finding a third person for a lease this late in the day, even putting aside the difficulty of finding someone who would be okay with Thomas's snakes. I also get the impression that Richard would very much like to move in with us, but is unwilling to upset his parents so greatly.\n\nI'm open to any advice, whether that advice is \"move on and find a third renter,\" \"here's something you could try to make Richard's parents feel better about this,\" or \"here's something you could try to show Richard that he shouldn't listen to his parents on this.\"", "summary": "roommate1's parents are scared of roommate2's snakes, have convinced roommate1 to drop out of plans to rent house."}
{"id": "t3_36foyt", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[News][Link] Brian Hare offers free Dog Cognition course on Coursera!", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nI follow an individual named Brian Hare on Facebook. He is the co-author of \"The Genius of Dogs\" and founded the Duke Canine Cognition Center. He is offering a canine cognition course through Coursera, which is free to sign up for and the courses are all free as well. \n\n[This is the link to his course] \n\nI figured I'd let others know about this opportunity to learn more for free and at your own pace, earning a certificate of completion at the end. \n\nMods, feel free to delete if you feel the post is not suited to being here.", "summary": "Free course on canine cognition taught by a cool dude so sign up!"}
{"id": "t3_4eydw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [44/F] with my husband [49 M] 12 yr marriage, trust issues, need support", "post": "I am just looking for a bit of emotional support. I've been struggling a bit with the amount I drink and a couple days ago I really screwed up and drank too much then drove home.  I have not done that before and I'm really upset with myself (my mother's best friend was killed by a drunk driver and I, in no way think it is \"okay\"). The only good thing about it is that I realized its \"enough already\" and I told my husband and I've made a real commitment to stop drinking entirely.\n\nHowever, my husband is, understandably upset.  He has barely talked to me in two days and this morning said that it will take him awhile to process. He's very angry that I was hiding this and he now doesn't believe that I'm not hiding worse things.  (he isn't a suspicious or overly jealous person, but he really freaks out about (to me) weird small things, like me having an Instagram account.) I knew he would be angry but I'm a lot freaked out about some of the things he was saying.  The gist of it being that he feels like all our relationship issues are rooted in this and he's mad and now realizes how many of his problems are my fault.\n\nI know I just have to be patient. it is okay that he's mad (at least he isn't bailing immediately), but I'm really scared that this is going to result in years of \"I cant trust you\" and blaming my drinking on every problem we have ever had.  I take responsibility for screwing up and understand it will result in pain, but I'm scared.  There are issues here that have nothing to do with me drinking--the drinking is making everything worse and isn't helping but it isn't the only thing.\n\nI come from an abusive childhood and the idea of being \"yelled\" at is terrifying.  I spend a lot of energy trying to be perfect and the good girl and I'm ashamed and terrified about being \"in trouble\".  \n\nNot sure any of this makes sense. I just can barely focus.", "summary": "need support, worried my husband won't trust me again--I lied about drinking"}
{"id": "t3_2z08oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my BF [32 M] 2 years, he can't get over all my friends are still friends with my ex", "post": "I have cut my ex out of my life, but we were together a long time and our worlds were merged. My current bf and I have been trying to work on his overprotectiveness and jealousy issues a lot which stems from fear of abandonment. He tries to convince me that my friends are no good, they don't have anything going for them, and that I am better off meeting people I look up to. He even said that because they didn't take my side he doesn't trust them to be there for me. \n\nThe thing is, my friends are good people. They may be a bit passive, but would never put me in harms way. They respect me enough to not invite my ex and I to the same outings. I've tried making new friends, but BF was actively making sure that he got all the attention and guilt tripped me whenever I was out without him.\n\nHow do I tell him that I will not abandon all my friends based on the fact that they are still friends with my ex? I don't think this should be an issue in our relationship at all.", "summary": "BF mad that my friends are still friends with my ex, has abandonment issues. Looking for advice to bridge a conversation to let him see his irrationality."}
{"id": "t3_1xpiyp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF[23F] of 2 years. She's travelling to South America for 4 months and wants us both to have the freedom to do whatever we want in that time.", "post": "She's planned to go on this trip with a friend pretty much the entire time we've know each other and she finally booked her ticket for 31st of March a few weeks ago. \n\nWe've both avoided really talking about how it's going to work, or generally how we feel about the situation, until last night. She made it clear that she wants us to have the freedom to live our lives and possibly get with other people over the period she's away. I'll be honest and admit I had previously given this idea some thought, but now its actually real, I'm finding it hard to deal with.\n\nShe said she feels guilty about leaving me to go traveling and doesn't want me to feel trapped within a relationship here in the UK, while she's in South America. We're very much in love and she says that I'm all she wants and that she's thinking about me in wanting us to have this \"freedom\". She still wants to talk as much as possible whilst she's away.\n\nIm just finding it hard to think how our relationship will be the same as when she leaves to when she returns. Im always going to be insecure and troubled by the idea of her sleeping with people over this period and I feel its always going to be gnawing at the back of my mind. Conversely I'm not really sure how I feel about getting with other people.\n\nSorry If my writing is a little plain, Its hard to pen my feelings to paper as I'm a little confused at the moment and just want to get it out.\n\nIf anyones had similar experiences or has any advice I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "GF is travelling around South America for 4 months and wants us to have the freedom to do whatever (and whoever) we want over this period. I'm not sure how to deal with it and need some advice or stories of similar experiences."}
{"id": "t3_4whids", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex-girlfriend [18 F] dated for 16 months, broke up over the summer and are talking about getting back together once we both get to school but she has been talking to other guys while we've been apart.", "post": "My ex and I dated for about 16 months over our senior years of high school and got very close, even though we lived about two hours apart. At the end of the school year, I broke up with her because she was more concerned with herself and what she wanted instead of compromising and having a 50/50 relationship.\n\nOver the summer, we would go through short periods of being together, then going back to not talking, until finally about two weeks ago I was ready to start dating again only for her to tell me that she has moved on, and is talking to someone else even though she still wants to reconnect and start dating again when we start school, in about two weeks. I don't know what to do; I really do love her, but her actions (to me at least) have proved that she no longer wants me around, even though she says she does. I just learned about this other guy today, and now she refuses to answer anything about him or tell me anything else besides they are just good friends. \n\nA huge part to why I still talk to her is that I'm extremely lonely and terrified of going into a new situation (moving out to college) alone. I want to date her and see her, but she doesn't appear to want me anymore. What can I do to start getting over my feelings for her, and cutting her out of my life so I can start healing and move on?", "summary": "What can I do to move on from my ex-girlfriend, who I still feel deeply in love with?"}
{"id": "t3_j5q1p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best-worst running story?", "post": "I run guys cross country on my high school team. Over the summer, we have optional and not school mandated running... which is, of course, required, and which I have completely neglected. This morning, late in summer vacation, I decided it was time to get off my ass (Damn you Reddit!) and start training for next year's season. I decided to run around my neighborhood, to work up to going to the actual summer training death camp. And so it began. I felt really good for the first five minutes, it was mostly downhill from my house, and I pushed myself much harder than I should have. Then came the uphill section by the park... NBD, I took off my shirt, and left it by the side of the road. That's when I started to die. I was suddenly struck with the most massive and uncomfortable urge to poop I had ever felt. I waddled urgently to the nearest porta-potty to do my business. I can only imagine what the innocent park goers thought when I emerged from the porta-potty, sweaty, shirtless, and now, shitless. I heard someone clapping for in one of the campsites. I limped away and decided it was time to go home, so I headed back. On my way back, I was feeling pretty awful, but I told myself I couldn't stop until I reach my house... on top of that hill... shit. A bug flew into my mouth and I couldn't take it. I stopped and tried to cough it up, and ended up throwing it up. It was the first time i ever threw up on a run, but I knew what do runners do when they throw up. They keep running. I made it to my house without stopping.", "summary": "Ran, pooped, ate a bug, threw up... Actually, its a pretty lame story..."}
{"id": "t3_2nc0w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] boyfriend [20m] of 2 years has a really low sex drive and high anxiety regarding sex and its driving me crazy", "post": "Firstly, my BF has a ton of issues involving sex that appear unresolvable. He has spoken to a therapist, to his ex with whom the issues started and with me but nada. He just isn't that into sex. He is also on an anti-depressant and smokes ALOT of weed so he is always tired and stuff. \n\nSecondly, every time I mention sex or wanting to have it he gets really defensive and anxious. This is pretty shitty because it means every time I ask, he turns me down and then the entire day gets ruined. This pretty much means that I don't ask until he wants it, which is never. The last time we had sex (two weeks ago) was because I got really drunk, snuck into his house and kind of surprised him. I don't want to have to do this everytime (IT WAS VERY CONSENSUAL EVEN IF IT SOUNDS LIKE IT WASNT)\n\nThirdly, I could deal with the two above issues. I take care of my own needs, and just try not to think about sex with him or take being rejected personally. The issue is performance. He isn't bad, I just feel like he is rushing me and if I don't finish he takes it really personally. He isn't really big on original thinking when it comes to sex, I have to guide him and basically tell him what to do. I feel like I can't bring up anything I want him to do differently because it brings up anxiety for him and then we won't have sex for an even longer period. He very rarely goes down on me, and when he does its not for nearly the same amount of time. \n\nI want to be able to talk to him about this but if I tell him any of this stuff in the wrong way I could trigger all sorts of shit and make the issue worse. I want him to want me, which is really hard to do, but if we do end up having sex I feel like I have all this anticipation and I get disappointed which makes me angry and snippy and him even more anxious and hating sex. How would you guys address it?", "summary": "how to talk to my BF about sex without triggering all his anxiety?"}
{"id": "t3_3w26jy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to make friends when you're (22F) boring?", "post": "I'm 22, in my junior year of college, and I don't have any friends.  I'd really like some, but the problem is, I'm boring.  I can't really hold a conversation.  I ask people about themselves and show interest even if I'm not all that interested, but I don't have much to contribute.  I can't make jokes or be witty.  I just sort of float around in the background. My boyfriend insists I'm not boring, but he doesn't have friends either and people don't talk to him much.  \n\nHow can I become more interesting and make a friend or two, especially this late in college?", "summary": "boring girl desperately wants a friend."}
{"id": "t3_34ac5k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to church", "post": "So this didn't happen today like all posts here. \n\nAnyway this happened about two months ago when i went up to Breckenridge Co.  Now i live at a lower altitude, about 4,500 feet and went to 9600 feet. For some odd reason the altitude hit me like a fucking bus. I felt like shit most of the weekend. But it doesn't end there oh no. My family decide to got to church on Sunday (they're catholic, I'm not i just go so I don't look bad). Midway through mass i go to take a piss and i black out in the middle of the bathroom. When i wake up there is some old guy staring at me like I'm fucking satan. \nTo say the least i hope I don't go there anymore", "summary": "got high, went to church, paid the price"}
{"id": "t3_30kwf1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Using 0% APR credit cards on big purchases?", "post": "I'm currently in the market for a shiny new laptop that will likely end up costing around 2k. I currently make 65k/yr and have around 1-2k going into savings per month with the rest going to rent/food/car payment. My credit score is 750 and I've never had any form of debt in my life aside from my current active car financing.\n\nEvidently, I can afford an expensive laptop with just a couple months of saving, but the notion of using 0% APR CC's intrigued me. With my current state of finances, I could pay something like a 2k computer off in 6 months or less, while not necessarily taking a huge hit from a big up front cost. Assuming opening a 0% APR CC doesn't involve any hidden/onboarding fees and can be cancelled 6-12 months later without consequence, it would seem like that is the way to go. I could also mitigate hits to my credit score from new lines of credit by simply not doing this more than once or twice a year. Does all of this sound too good to be true?", "summary": "Are 0% APR credit cards a 0% interest loan with no repercussions? Why is abusing this not more common?"}
{"id": "t3_25h87i", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What can I say to make her understand?!", "post": "ok, so i (M/17) have this girl in my class (F/18) who is absolutely astonishingly beautiful! the only twist to this clich\u00e9 is that I am not in love with her whatsoever. \n\nshe is unbelievably kind to everyone, her smile can light up an entire room, her face is flawless and she is so damn quiet it almost feels like she's shy most of the time. \n\ni just want her to understand her potential and beauty as a human being without being creepy/putting her on a pedestal. because sometimes, when that smile of hers is gone, it just feels like she needs to know. so how in the world do i tell her in a friendly manner? i don't want to be more than friends, nor do i want to fuck her. i just want her to know how extremely beautiful she is.", "summary": "girl in my class is a solid 10 in both looks and personality. i want to tell her about it without making it look like i'm some thirsty looser who want a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_l4m8q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit what kind of professor should I be?", "post": "Hi recently a professor quit his job because of a power play within the department, and the job was left empty. And I am being promoted to teach the course because no one could/want the spot. So for the rest of the semester and I hope for the rest of next semester as well I will be the professor for the course. I'm super nervous and my job starts 20 days from now. I been thinking what kind of professor should I be? Should I be laid back and chill and give everyone easy A or should I be hard on them and try to show them who is the boss? The class is going to be a small lecture style class consist of 50 to 60 students. I'm  26 years old and the class I'm teaching is Intro to Nuclear Science which is a requirement class for alot of students. (Mostly freshmen)", "summary": "What kind of reputation and leadership style is the most effective for a young professor?"}
{"id": "t3_31hk9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] broke up with my ex in August and still can't get over him", "post": "I was dating a guy last summer, and I still can't get over him. I know this is totally crazy because we weren't in a long term relationship or anything even serious. We ended the relationship on good terms, we mutually agreed to breakup because after the summer we were going to be literally halfway across the world from each other. \n\nI think this is taking such a toll on me because he's the first guy in my 23 years that I felt myself falling in love with. When I was with him I never felt so at home before, and he made me feel so loved. I felt something with him that I never felt with anyone else before - I remember one time when I was looking in his eyes, I felt like I was drugged, and that honestly scared the hell out of me. But what do I know? My past relationships, if you can call them that, before him weren't anything real, they were either friends with benefits or someone I was dating, just so I could have someone there. Maybe I'm just an immature girl whining about a guy she should have gotten over a long, long time ago. \n\nIt's been 8 months, and I know I should be over him, but I still think about him too much and I look at pictures of us together far more than I'd like to admit. I've unfollowed him on Facebook and don't talk to him anymore because I know I'll just get too attached.\n\nThe rational part of my brain is telling me that I'm over romanticizing the relationships, only remembering the good parts, and that we were together for such a short period of time that we didn't even get past the honeymoon phase. But the irrational and emotional part of me can't stop clinging onto what we had. \n\n/r/relationships, how do I get over him? I've tried the whole spending time with friends, going out, etc, which do help, but there are still those nights, like tonight, when I just miss him terribly.", "summary": "Can't get over a guy that I briefly dated last summer, he's the first guy I felt like I was falling in love with, how do I get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_2l4e9o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Going to Church", "post": "This actually happened about an hour ago.  My 3 year old brother is extremely poorly behaved in church.  To the extent where he hasn't been in months.  \nAnyways, he wound up going tonight.  He lasted about 5 minutes before he had to go back to the cry room with my mom.  \nAbout 15 minutes later, the fire alarm goes off.  The alarm in the church is one with the strobe lights and the obnoxiously loud and high pitched beeps.  This went on for about 15 minutes and everyone there was clearly starting to go insane.  \nFinally, the fire department and police show up and turn the alarm off. In this cry room, there is an uncovered fire alarm roughly 3 feet off the ground.\nAs you can probably guess, it turned out to be my little brother who pulled the alarm.  Everyone there knows me and I can only hope they do not put it all together.", "summary": "200 people have massive headaches because my little brother had to go to church"}
{"id": "t3_1j1qqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it worrying if police cookies are self destructing regularly when I use Firefox?", "post": "By no means an expert on such matters, but I have recently started using the self destructing cookies addon, and noticed on several occasions that cookies from my local police service's website are self destructing..\nI don't remember ever visiting their website, and can't even think of any site I frequent that is specific to my local area.  I mean I'll occasionally log on, visit a few global sites ie reddit etc, not even log in or have google or anyone else set my location, and then notice ****police.co.uk cookies self destructing.\nI'm by no means a criminal and can't really think of anything out of the ordinary I do online, other than piratebay etc like so many other millions of people.  Also, if the cookies are registered as the police's actual public website it suggests they're not exactly tech savvy either.\nAnyway, hope I haven't displayed my ignorance of such matters too embarrassingly, and would appreciate any feedback/ speculation to ease my unjustified paranoia..  There's nothing like being made to feel very guilty and uncomfortable before realising you've never done anything other than download some tv shows and smoke the occasional joint, and can probably witness more criminal activity by looking outside your window most days..", "summary": "cookies from my local police website self destruct when I am browsing global sites?"}
{"id": "t3_25wpe7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M], my friend [17 F] we've been seing each other for 2 months, i want to break up", "post": "I am seeing a girl for like 2 months, we've been seeing each other in partys, she came in my house twice, but i never thought that it would turn to somenthing serious. I like another girl for over a year and now she is really talking to me and i think i have a chance with her. I want to stop this usual thing that i am having with this girl, because i dont really like her, but i think she likes me. How can i just stop this thing with her, and make sure she doesnt get mad, so i can really move on with my realatioships ?\n\n---\n\nI want to break up this usual thing that i have with this girl, i think she likes me.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4dyeu5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Shot a stream of pressurized water at a girl's eyes", "post": "Disclaimer: I'm the newest newfag that ever newfaged. First Post.\nThis happened like 5 minutes ago.  (Also sorry for shit grammar)\n\nSo I'm sitting in chemistry class bored as fuck trying to pay attention to a conversation my friends are having about starting an avocado business (Boring as FUCK). I start fucking around with the weird pressurized sinks that we use for science and such. I hold the water back using my thumb and a giant mist of water explodes in the air. everyone noticed and laughed. I tried to re-create the situation but to my dismay, when i place my thumb on the sink nozzle, a steady, concentrated stream of water hits my female classmate directly in the eye. Everyone gives me the stink eye and I awkward say \"sorry\". The girl's eye got kind of reddish and now I'm going to be shunned for a couple days. RIP", "summary": "bored as shit in class. place thumb on a pressurized sink nozzle that shoots a stream of concentrated water in a girl's eye."}
{"id": "t3_2j9u5h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24M) ex(22F) who I dated for 1.5 years won't answer me", "post": "I'm confused. My ex broke up with me early this summer. She would text me almost once a week saying hello and asking me how I was. Sometimes she would even say she missed me. I would answer back and it would be a short conversation. \n\nThroughout this whole time, she was the only one on my mind. I thought about her everyday. And I sill miss her, even though I should be over her by now. \n\nShe texted me the other day asking how I was I replied and said \"not bad you?\" She replied \"I'm alright.\" And that was the end of the conversation.\n\nOn Sunday I texted her saying I missed her, and she answered...saying she missed me back. Later that night I asked her if she was going to watch the walking dead, and I never got an answer. \n\nI texted her today stating that I hate not talking to her...and I still haven't received an answer.\n\nWhat is going on? I'm starting to look like a crazy person searching for a response. I treated this girl amazing.\n\nAny ideas on what I should do? I need some help.", "summary": "ex girlfriend will text me then not respond"}
{"id": "t3_3clzg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [16F] of 2 months, have hit a wall....of misleading compliments?", "post": "Hey Guys, this has really been bugging me lately especially since she seems to just not be able to accept any form of compliments.\n\nBackstory time time, her mother is crazy, and her mother is always saying things like 'that'll make you fat', 'wtf are you wearing', or 'why do you look like that'. And if you'd meet her mom you'd be in the same boat as me and knowing she's absolutely bonkers and should be muzzled. So her mom says things and she believes that a 'mom' is always right so she tends to believe them. And we've talked and came to the conclusion her mom is crazy and majority of the stuff she'll say is bs.\n\nAnywho, since about a week ago (dont say she's on her period, that was 2 weeks ago) she's been very, uh, rejecting in any compliment, now shes done this often throughout the relationship but she laughs at it, so i figure shes just joking, but now she gets sad when I compliment her, and says she doesn't want me to say these things when she knows its not true. Texts from today that prompted the post, she said: \"Stop with the misleading compliments, like they're sweet, but it upsets me because I know it's not true.\" And I pretty much said whatever cause I didn't know what to do.\n\nI don't want to leave her at all, I'm in love with her, and yet this really bothers me, I'm a cute lovey-dovey guy, I should be able to compliment her as much as I want and her simply say thanks, right? I guess you could say I'm ill-experienced with this type of 'girl esteem' but I really don't know what to do. Last night however I told her to say 'I'm beautiful', and she did and she said how uncomfortable it felt and what not, but I think having her say that every night would make her come to her senses one day about her absolutely gorgeous she really is, eh?\n Thanks all", "summary": "Girlfriend hates the fact of me complimenting her, says their false and misleading."}
{"id": "t3_1xkrgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my husband [28 M] of 2 years, is it unreasonable to want him to be romantic?", "post": "I'm happily married to a wonderful man, and we really don't have any (major) problems with our marriage. \n\nThat being said, I'm a fairly romantic person and he is not. At all. He's the opposite of romantic actually. \n\nI like to do little things for him to let him know I'm thinking about him. I prefer giving him well thought out or handmade gifts that I know he will like rather than doing something at the last minute or just buying something that takes little or no effort. \n\nIt also extends to other aspects of life aside from gift-giving. I am constantly picking up after him around the house, buying him the food I know he likes from the grocery store, and thinking about him in general throughout the day (we both work full-time so I'm not just a housewife). \n\nBeing this kind of person, I also really enjoy it when people do thoughtful things for me. By thoughtful, I mean picking up flowers on the way home from work, writing a short note to me, giving me a card for birthday or Christmas (no, I don't get cards). \n\nHe is often in his own world when at home and many times doesn't even hear me when I'm talking to him. Sometimes we have whole conversations that he doesn't remember (this makes me feel unimportant).\n\nWe are very open in our relationship and like to be frank with each other when things are bothering us, so I have obviously brought this up many times. \n\nEach time he says he knows he needs to do better, and he will work on it. But each time nothing ever changes. \n\nIt may be a small thing now, but I feel like I am growing resentful of him unintentionally as much as I try not to. I know he loves me, but I really feel like he doesn't show it very well. He can tell me he loves me all day but doing things that show he loves me means more to me. \n\nIs it too unrealistic for me to ask him to be more thoughtful and romantic? Please, I'd like your honest opinions!", "summary": "Husband is not romantic or even very thoughtful-- should I not expect him to be?"}
{"id": "t3_2an72w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21M with 19F. Have had unprotected sex for six months without STI discussion. Should I bring it up now?", "post": "So ill preface this by saying I love my gf very much and trust her completely. \n\nWe'd been talking for a few months and were comfortable with each but hadn't had sex. Our group is at a retreat. We get away for the night and start messing around. She wants to have sex but I have no condom. She asks if I'm comfortable with pulling out. I say no. This kind of worries me that she is prepared to have sex with no condom not being on birth control and no discussion of STIs. Then a few weeks later we are in my bed and I'm putting the condom on but she says I don't need because she got started on birth control. I was inexperienced so I thought this behavior was normal. Me being extremely  horny I said ok and just got at it without thinking about STIs.\n\n Then for the next six months I don't wear a condom have sex like everyday. She's on the pill. We have a fantastic time and our relationships grows and blossoms. She's a wonderful person and I love her to death. \n\nBut here I am a bit worried about our reckless behavior in the past. I guess I trusted her and she trusted me. I have had one girlfriend whom I had unprotected sex with over two years ago (said she had been tested) and a one night stand a year ago with a condom. That's all my sexual history. I'm ashamed to say I've never been tested. I do lot know her history.\n\nShould I bring any of this up? Would there be a point now? I don't want this to ruin our trust or anything.. I understand we were both reckless but nothing came of it. Is there any tactful way of bringing this up or should I leave it?", "summary": "have had unprotected sex with gf for six months. She is on pill. We have never discussed STI's. Should I bring up now? I do not want to ruin trust."}
{"id": "t3_4ib5u9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] rejected a long time friend [23 M] before they actually confessed; can we still be friends?", "post": "I had an inkling in the last few years of our friendship, but chose to ignore / not read into any 'signs' as we have been friends for a long while, and he used to like another friend of mine. \n\nA mutual friend recently confirmed he had feelings for me, after I suspected her of purposely inviting him to outings and leaving us alone together on more than one occasion. \n\nApparently it's been a while... And a lot of other mutual friends/acquaintances were aware they had feelings for me all this time... So I messaged him, and turned him down. Without him actually ever confessing. \n\nHe replied... really politely... but we haven't spoken since.\n\nI don't really know what to do. Are we still friends? Do I try to remain friends? Or just leave it be? He's a really great guy, but I'm just not attracted to him... I feel like I've lost a good friend.", "summary": "I rejected a long time guy friend before he worked up the courage to ask me out (found out from a mutual friend). Can and should we remain friends?"}
{"id": "t3_i1z05", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with Steam?", "post": "Alright, so I woke up today with a sudden urge to play Counter-Strike again. I haven't played since CS 2.0 (quit around the same time bunny hopping became illegal) and just really wanted to see if I still had it. I'm not really used to steam and when I was finally able to log on to my account there are no games or anything. Am I doing this right? If someone could just help me troubleshoot or walk me through what I have to do that would be great. My account name is heyyitsdk if you wanna send me a friend request seeing that I have no friends on steam either. Please help.", "summary": "trying to play CS, need help installing, trying to relive glory days"}
{"id": "t3_3djfme", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by freezing up when it mattered", "post": "This technically happened yesterday, but within the last 24 hours, so that counts, right?\n\nAnyway, I think a little background info is necessary to understand this fu. I just graduated from high school, and in high school I learned that I have no social skills and possibly social anxiety. I also couldn't say a word to girls, as I was extremely shy, and this resulted in various stupid crushes.\n\nNow, recently I had been trying to get past my shy tendencies when talking to girls. I have been talking to this girl, who I'll call Alicia, on Facebook fairly often, and figured why not ask her to hang out sometime? We had hung out with a group of friends before, so we knew each other, but we talked primarily on Facebook because she lives about an hour out of town in the country.\n\nTo my surprise, she agreed to hang out and even invited me to a youth thing, which was yesterday. So I was pretty stoked, but also extremely nervous the entire day, which is understandable I think.\n\nBecause it was a group thing, I brought a friend, and we showed up, albeit late because I had to work. To cut to the chase, we showed up, talk to a couple other friends, and then sat around on the grass, when Alicia and her sister walked up. So it was just me, my friend, and those two. I completely froze up. As in I don't think I said a word directly to her outside of \"hey\" and \"bye.\" I was there, and I listened, but I barely spoke because I couldn't think of anything to say. After 30 minutes, she left, and I knew I screwed up. \n\nThis isn't exactly a massive fu compared to others on here, but man I feel like shit right now. I was the one to suggest we hang out, and I didn't even really talk to her. I feel like such an idiot, and I probably ruined any chances I had at anything.", "summary": "Asked a girl to hang out, she agreed, I showed up, froze, and wasted a good opportunity with a nice girl because I'm Shire than Bilbo Baggins."}
{"id": "t3_2syqoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some help coping with a recent breakup.", "post": "Sooo a little back story is needed. Basically I've (23) had one serious relationship before this one and it didn't end well. Cheating and also trying to put me in prison. Loooooong story. That's not the issue though. I spent a lot of time after that in a funk, but spending a lot of time thinking about what I want out of a girl and red flags to look for. That was 1.5-2 year long stretch. I finally found a girl (20) that dragged me out of my loneliness and it was amazing. It was short lived, roughly 5-6 weeks, but it hurts more now then it did during my extended stay of heartbreak hotel leading up to this relationship. \n-I don't know how to get over he, such a short time but I've never felt this connected to someone before.\n-How can I deal with seeing her everyday? (college)\n-Where do I go from here? I just feel really lost, and that's making the other problems in my life 100 times worse\n\nI don't even know if anyone will read this, but I kinda just need to get it off my chest to see if that helps.", "summary": "she's no Jenny, but it still hurts"}
{"id": "t3_3hd5rz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a cake cutter", "post": "So this happened yesterday around 9 pm I say I should pack my lunch for work, so I see the delicious baked ziti and decided to cut myself a piece and put it in a container for work. Now I grab a cake cutter and start cutting. Here is where everything went downhill...I hear a snap and GOOD HOLY MOLY OF BAKED ZITI", "summary": "Moment= Force*distance = blood thumb and cringing in pain. "}
{"id": "t3_2kpxsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my lover [32 F] 1 month, slept with best friend (married) in the recent past", "post": "Met this girl at a married friends family function. my friend is almost family, I dated his sister for 15 yrs which just fell apart, we haven't been together for 2 years. So i meet this new girl 32F last month. We hook up and the sex is AMAZING. Nothing is off the table. 32F works indirectly with my buddy. He has been married for 4 yrs and has a daughter and step daughter.\n\nShe tells me a  \"secret\" that she had sexual relations with my married friend. I am in complete shock. Now I have to face her, My friend, his wife and my EX? She is a hot mess. smoking, drinking, you name it. She also told me that she cheated on her ex fianc\u00e9. Im seeing a pattern of self destruction. \n\nMy concern is my friend and his wife, my ex and family. How can I proceed to visit them knowing this secret? I usually visit once a week and hang out for dinner. I don't think that I can face any of them. I know its not my fault or responsibility but I don't think that I can handle it. \n\nPlus now I am obsessed with trying not to think about her 32F screwing my married friend. The sex is so good, ANYTHING GOES, our sexual appetites are voracious. I know nothing good will come of it. I already don't trust her.\n\nShould I stay away from everyone involved? I am devastated. I thought about telling my ex, but i don't want to be the guy who screwed a home wrecker, spilled the beans and ruined a marriage with children and was screwing a \"slut\".", "summary": "Me [40 M] with my lover [32 F] 1 month, slept with best friend (married) in the recent past"}
{"id": "t3_1ob5mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tried something new, not sure how it went.(M20)(F20)", "post": "Told my real close friend that I am into her, and not sure how she has taken it, me and her have been real close for a while, but unfortunately she has a boyfriend, who she hasn't been on best terms with recently, but they seem to be getting on again. So I told her after I left her place, and from what I know, if girls aren't interested they will usually tell you right away, and let you down easy, or just completely destroy you, neither has happened.\n\nShe just hasn't replied, at all, nothing, I let her know roughly 24 hours ago and still nothing, so anyone got any idea to what might be going on? The only thing I can think of is that shes just consolidating herself about what to do next, like choosing what guy, but that's just me being stupidly hopeful.\n\nAny idea?", "summary": "Told my friend I'm into her about 24 hours ago, she has a boyfriend who shes on rough terms with, still no reply, whats going on?"}
{"id": "t3_pqwdq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst thing you've found on a friends/family members computer?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nI had a buddy about 12 years ago who would leave his whole desktop in my spare room for gaming parties. He was the quiet type, stereotypical nerd but a nice enough kid overall. \n\nHe kept his computer on lockdown, which I always found odd. I would always think \"What is this kid hiding?\", but me being me I bypassed the BIOS password and had my way with his system. \n\nI found a random directory in C: with some stupid name, so of course I dug right in. He had renamed some ZIP files to .DAT but I wasn't new (and had even done this myself as a kid to hide my porn) and gave them a try in WinZip. They were password protected, which made me want to find out even more. I promptly downloaded a brute force cracker, and in no time had the archive spill out thumbnails all over my screen.\n\nScat... not just any scat, but hardcore Japanese scat. I about shit myself (no pun intended). I was never able to look at him the same again, and have never allowed my curiousity to get the better of me again. Lesson learned!", "summary": "friend hid scat images, ruined my image of him."}
{"id": "t3_271izg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [17/m] with [16/f]; falling apart because of her parents dissaproval", "post": "Me and this girl have had alot of time together, about a year now, and she loves me. We want to be together. The only major issue she's struggling to cope with is her mom. I've met her mom, I was very good with her, but she is one of those people that I will never be able to please no matter what I do. She has fought her mom for a long time now, she has defended me and she still argues against her when it comes to dating me. She's put herself through stress and pressure and we we're about to catch a break but her stepdad isnt fond of me either. So now if my girl ever wants to hangout with me she might not have support. Her and I have a good connection and healthy relationship,  but the only problem is her parents. She's become afraid of our future because she knows that she'll have to keep on fighting her mom. She just told me that she doesn't want a relationship, she's too scared to commit and I'm sure its because of the pressure with her parents. Yes that means NO to ME. But if I can lift the stress from her mother and gain support from her stepdad she won't have to be put in that position of choosing me over parents. The only thing I can do is talk to her parents myself and I know what to say but I still feel that I need advice on this.", "summary": "My girl doesn't want to go out with me because she will have to continue going against her mom. The only thing I can do now is talk to her parents myself to gain support from her stepdad and try to get her mom to stop being hard on her. I need advice on my approach."}
{"id": "t3_1gun2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] need advice on how to end a friendship with a racist coworker [23F] who I work with everyday", "post": "My coworker is probably one of my best friends. We've known each other for 12 months now. Relationship is totally platonic for me but she always mentions how she'd be with me if it wasn't for her boyfriend. We get on really well, with the same sense of humour, music tastes\n\n etc. I've never been as close to someone before friendship-wise.\n\nLast week a bunch of us went out and got really drunk and towards the end of the night she went to the bathroom and saw one of our friends walk out the men's restroom without his pants fully zipped up. She ran back to our group and started saying how she saw his dick and how it was disgusting and black. This caused the conversation to move into her discussing how she would never date or sleep with a black guy but only white and Indian guys. She's white, I'm Indian.\n\nI'm 100% sure she was bullshitting about Indian guys because I'm pretty much dark enough to be black. Even though I have no interest in a relationship with her I am deeply offended at how she made fun of the guy and called him disgusting because of his skin colour, almost the same colour as me. I can't just stop being her friend because we work together on a few projects but I'm seriously repulsed by her to the point where I don't want to be friends with her. How do I approach this?! So confused", "summary": "white friend was racist behind black friends back and I think she probably thinks the same about me."}
{"id": "t3_2ucaso", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Im stuck in another country and I just want to go home.", "post": "The story: I moved from my home to another country with my husband. We were married before the move and generally our relationship wasn't bad. He and I both saved for a long time to move here. Due to unexpected circumstances all of our money is gone. The money I helped to save went to pay his car loan and inspections so he isn't driving illegally. Before we moved here we sent in paperwork for my immigration and the sponsorship fees. Now that we are here he refuses to pay any more for me to be able to get my permanent residency. I am not legally allowed to work. I have no friends or family to borrow money to go home. I've sat inside of a house for 7 months staring at the walls. I don't go anywhere to keep him from \"having to spend money.\" I know no one up here. I have no way to get anywhere. He refuses to let me drive his car and complains about gas money. I've asked him for simple things like shampoo or female things and I just get complaints about money. I don't even bother to ask him for anything anymore. I've been wahing my myself with god damn dish soap for over a month to keep from hearing his complaining. I don't have a working phone. He has his cell phone. I have one that just picks up WiFi. I know I'm in a bad predicament and I don't know how to get out of it. I guess my question is what do I do? I don't want him to get into trouble. I just want to leave. I feel like a hostage. I've researched the Canadian immigration website but haven't found any information that pertains to my situation. I just need to know where to start so I can leave. Thank you in advance for any information you can give me.", "summary": "STUCK IN ANOTHER COUNTRY WITH NO WAY OUT."}
{"id": "t3_131crw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just had a powercut, while in the bath, and I panicked and thought I was being invaded by aliens. Reddit, what situations have you ever panicked in and believed it was something worse than it actually is?", "post": "Here's some context... So it's about 00:30, I'm washing my hair, and I'm about to reach for the bottle of shampoo. Suddenly, the lights just go out and I'm sat there, arm outstretched in the pitch black of my bathroom for about 5 seconds. My initial thought is \"I have no idea where anything is, and everyone else is asleep, this is going to suck\". Then some five seconds later the lights come back on, and with them I hear alarms. They're not that far away, I'd say they're just at the end of my road and now I'm sat here thinking \"what the hell are alarms going off for?\" there must have been three or four alarms going off. So just as I'm calming down, my douche-bag brain throws an image of X-Com; Enemy Unknown's thin men into my brain, running down my street shooting cars causing alarms to go off. Now I'm in a panic, I don't dare move unless those creepy aliens hear me and come after me. In the end I just return to washing my hair, because who wants to die with bad hair? And then I remember my computer was turned on while it happened and now I'm worrying about my computer, which is fine as I now know.", "summary": "I was washing my hair when the power went out and thought aliens were coming to kill me, so I ended up washing my hair so it looked nice in case I died."}
{"id": "t3_1o0sjp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Advice on how to tell this girl how I feel? It's complicated...details in description (17M)", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nSo I'm deciding to move on this girl that I've liked for a while. Anyways, I told her friends that too (this was probably a mistake) and then they told her that.\n\nAccording to her friend, she is going to give me a \"chance\". However, I was just told that she changed her mind because of this reason: she thinks that I hate the girl that didn't want to continue a relationship with me. That is completely false. I told her friend this and hopefully she told her that.\n\nSo what would you guys say? I was thinking something like \"I know that I made the mistake of telling too many people how I felt. All BS aside, do you want to just hang out ______?\" Then I would say something about how I just want to test the waters, etc. \n\nThis is the only girl at my school I've ever truly liked, so I'm hoping you guys can give me some advice. I really just want some closure on this. Thank you!", "summary": "Girl was told wrong information about me, and I've tried to fix that. How do I best get some closure on this (is asking her to hangout the best thing to do?) Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_2r2i16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19m] friend [20m] hit my car in the morning after new years around 5 am, hasn't come clean and says he wasn't even driving.", "post": "Lets call my friend Jack okay.\n\nJack was pretty drunk I assume, as I went to sleep around 3 and he was still drinking, but he decided to leave with a friend at 5 am for some reason. \n\nAnd as he backed out of the driveway he hit a hedge kept going and scraped the front of my car, then I assume he just drove off, also a few bottles of alcohol went missing too which we all assume he stole. I got his brother to take a picture of the dent in the car which has matching paint to my car on it.\n\nalso im going to their beach house tomorrow for a week and i dont know if its going to be awkward, i called him on thursday and asked Jack what happened and he said he didnt even drive and blamed it on his friend, and when i called him he said Jack drove into the hedge and then they swapped spots.\n\nalso during the night he stole another guys cigarettes, everyone knew but he kept saying they were his even though ive never seen him buy those type of smokes before.", "summary": "friend hit my car 5am new years day wont come clean, I've called him once and he said he didn't do  anything just want him to take responsibility for once."}
{"id": "t3_30jvtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(16/m)is this cheating? (16/f) (6 months)", "post": "Hello, my girlfriend is heavily showing signs of cheating, here's the current signs;\nShe never shows her phone, I haven't seen her phone in about 2 months and she never brings it out. I always bring mine out but she's very secretive.\n\nShe always has the weirdest excuses to not text me and its excuses like, hey sorry I'm outside, and she's outside for like 2 hours and she's not an athletic person, and it's other excuses like hey I'm playing cards and I don't get a reply for 2 hours.\n\n She also is neighbors with this guy that she \"hates\". But theirs a twist. She only talks to him when I'm around and says \"I hate you aj\" but I feel like it's a decoy of some sort to just outplay everything. And whenever I see her in the hallways she's always taking to \"aj\". I feel like they want to look like they hate each other but when really their having a physical relationship of some sort. Also she's a very intimate and kind of perverted girl as well. I don't know I could be wrong but I'm just sure of her cheating. It's just a gut feeling and someone help me. I'm confused.", "summary": "girlfriend showing definite signs of cheating, just read above."}
{"id": "t3_3he2zn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to kiss a girl", "post": "So this just happened two hours ago. \n\nA few days ago, I found a nice looking girl on instagram, messaged her, added on Facebook. Starting chatting, she seems really awesome. Anyways, she's a waitress at this shithole of a bar where nobody really comes, so we arranged that I come. Went really well, but there wasn't really a kissing opportunity. Same happened on the next 'date'. \n\nWell, tonight I came around 11 pm, an hour or so before she closes the bar in hope that I will walk her back home. We're talking, everything's going really well. She closes the bar, and we start heading home. We stop somewhere to have a smoke. All of the sudden, rain starts pouring like crazy. We hide in a lobby of a random building  where people live(not sure how to express myself really, english is not my mother language). \n\nGreat so far, right? Alone with a nice girl, pouring outside. So as a social fuck-up I am I just can't seem to 'seal the deal' and just kiss her. So I ask her.\n\n'Hey, uhm...'\n\n-yes?\n\n'Can I kiss you'\n\n*5 second silence* -Did you just ask me that? Haha\n\n**falls into a pit of hell** \"Uhm, yes.\n\nSo I try to kiss her but it ends up being more awkward and she's like 'ehh not now'. I'm really dying right now.\n\nWe start talking again, the rain stopped and I walked her home. She asks if I want a drive back home. Yeah sure, what the hell. What could go wrong. She stops by my house, I take off my seatbelt. And I just sat there overthinking the possible outcomes of anything I really now and she told me 'just go haha'.", "summary": "Asked a girl for a kiss, she started laughing at me and asked if I just asked her that. Fucked up again when she drove me home."}
{"id": "t3_fa1em", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when to go into work in the snow?", "post": "Dear reddit, being located in the northeastern quadrant of the United States, I was recently hit with some wintery weather.  I do not know if it is a result of my upbringing or my nature, but I find myself always coming to work regardless of less than optimal weather conditions.  But it seems that my co-workers will not come at the drop of a snowflake.  One called me and asked what he should do (he had been waiting for the bus for 45 minutes).  Being 20 years his junior, I told him to take the train (was it really that hard to contemplate alternate transportation means).  I believe my work does have some sort of weather emergency system (basically an effective snow day for adults) that can be activated, but has not since I have been here.  So my question to you is, when should I come to work in the snow?  Why am I the only one who braves winter conditions, when other fall behind?  Do I stick to the code?", "summary": "I come to work in the snow.  Others don't.  I'm pissed."}
{"id": "t3_2c8pf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (21/M) of 1 year was invited to birthday dinner and told me (21/F) to join.", "post": "Just last week, a mutual friend of ours invited people through a Facebook message asking them if they could come to her birthday dinner. My boyfriend was part of the Facebook chat, however, I wasn't part of it. He told me it would be fine if I went because I am also friends with the birthday girl, and with the others that are coming. I feel like I wasn't invited though because she didn't add me to the chat. I am scared that she made a reservation and that she will have some trouble getting her table because she has one extra person. My boyfriend told me to not worry about it because she probably assumes that I will be coming with him. Reddit, I'm worrying. Any ideas? Also, her birthday was actually yesterday and I texted her, in hopes she will say something about the dinner. My boyfriend also joked saying \"Maybe she will invite you\". But she didn't mention anything. Am I thinking too much?", "summary": "Mutual friend invited people to birthday dinner through Facebook chat, boyfriend was invited but I wasn't . He told me to go and not worry because she probably assumes I will becoming. But I'm worried. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_11jyh0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20m] utterly confused about 18f.", "post": "So I started talking to this girl i'd met once before during the summer on facebook. She's recently started going to my school. Conversations go well so I suggest we should hang out when school starts.\n\nAnd so we do. I ask her for coffee and our conversation was again pretty good. We hugged at the end.\n\nLater on I ask her out for lunch and she agrees. Our date began with a hug, and we seemed to generally enjoy each other's company. She asks me if I'd like to come back to her place, and I did and ended up meeting her friends. I hugged her as I left and it ended with a pretty mutual \"i'll see you again later!\"\n\nLater I'm talking to her and she asks me out to lunch, since i treated her out last time. I suggest we go watch a movie afterwards and she agrees. Lunch goes well, conservation flows smoothly. We check out a comic book store cuz we're both kinda nerdy and she suggests we get ice cream before the movie. Then we both enjoyed the movie. But the entire date, there was very little physical contact. I felt as though it was impossible for me to escalate: her arms were crossed during the movie, he hands hung from her purse when she walked. No progress was made since our last lunch...\n\nLater on facebook I thank her for lunch. \n\nAnd she's like \"no problem! thanks for the movie tickets!\"\n\n\"Yea sure! Today was great, can I expect to see you again in the near future?\"\n\n\"Yea it was, haha! and mhm course, I'll see you around!\"\n\nAnd that \"i'll see you around\" bothers the heck out of me, that combined with her hand-hiding through the date. I feel impending doom.", "summary": "Great conversation, physical contact made incredibly difficult, she finishes it off with a \"I'll see you around!\""}
{"id": "t3_4jt1kf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Dentist mislead me with a purchase made (Invisalign), is small claims court an option? Los Angeles, CA", "post": "A few months ago I went in for an Invisalign and was super pleased with the consultation and proposal so I decided to go through with the purchase and process. I'm currently on my first tray of the process. And when reading the package it comes in, I noticed it was called \"Invisalign Express 10\" \n\nInstantly my heart dropped. I had previously looked into Invisalign Express 10 for the cost difference and I knew it would not be sufficient for correcting my teeth. Part of the Express treatment is that any additional alterations needed after the 10 trays are not covered under what you have paid. \n\nThis is where I am super upset and frustrated. My dentist was running a promotion where it says you get a FULL Invisalign treatment ($7000 value) for a fraction of the cost. My treatment including retainers and office visits cost at total of $4,400. \n\nSo yes, I got it at a fraction, but I was not given the FULL Invisalign treatment I was being sold. No where in any of the paperwork I signed or in my purchase does it say anything about Invisalign Express 10.\n\nMy paperwork shows \"Invisalign deal xxx\" with some numbers and then I have the advertising for the deal where it says a \"Full treatment\" \n\nInvisalign Express 10 is NOT a full treatment and usually costs event less than what I am paying. I feel scammed. \n\nThat link is from what Invisalign determines for their treatments that the providers follow. \n\nIf there are additional refinements need after - which there likely will be, I have to pay. Even regardless of if I NEED additional refinements. I did NOT get what I purchased. What is the recourse for this?", "summary": "I did NOT get what I purchased. What is the recourse for this? "}
{"id": "t3_21lj71", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I've been thinking about leaving my girlfriend..", "post": "Some backstory: We have a daughter together she is one and a half. We've lived together since she was pregnant. I've tried to leave her before but she threatens to keep my daughter from me(In Ohio, I have no rights). Im miserable. The relationship is more of a burden than joy at this point. She treats me like shit and anytime I try to confront her she causes huge scene and then blames me. I dont want to be with her but I feel trapped. I honestly dont think she could raise our daughter without me always \"holding her hand\" through things. Ive thought of taking my daughter and moving away without her but I dont want her growing up without a mother. I dont know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Ranting about my awful relationship. Trapped with babymom cause she holds our daughter over my head when I try to leave."}
{"id": "t3_13sotk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22m] girlfriend [20f] of 7 months is having anxiety about us", "post": "So here's the deal. Girlfriend and I got together tonight to talk and hang out like normal (we both just got back from thanksgiving break and wanted to have some time together - we are both in college at the moment). We are having a great conversation and having fun. Then all of a sudden she sort of dropped a bomb on me. She told me she's been having anxiety about our future together. She said that she didn't want to break up, I make her extremely happy, it has absolutely nothing to do with me, but she's told me that something just isn't sitting right. I was sort of confused and frankly a little blindsided, but I asked her what she meant. She tried to explain as best she could, and said that for the last couple weeks she's just been really unsure about our relationship and just wondering if it is right/best for the both of us. Again emphasizing that it didn't have anything to do with me and she was just not feeling right about something. I pressed in a little and tried to see what the root was but honestly I don't even think she knows. \n\nReddit, this is tearing me up. I hate to see her like this. I absolutely love this girl and would do anything in the world for her. I just don't know what to do or say or anything. I want to make it all better but can't. I feel like crap and wish I had a magic phrase I could say to make her feel better about us. But I can't. I'm not sure where to go from here and any honest advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "girlfriend is anxious and worried about us but she's not sure why. Says it has nothing to do with me or anything I've done. Want to reassure her and make her feel better, no clue how."}
{"id": "t3_1ly8e2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I,[23M] have just been broken up with by my now, ex [22F] of 3 years.", "post": "We have had our ups and downs through our relationship and broken up a few times over silly things but always managed to work it out.\nToday she didnt speak to me all day, (we were supposed to hang out), then she texts me at 1pm saying she wants to see me, comes over and breaks up with me because she isnt happy anymore and hasnt been for a few weeks.\nI love this girl with everything in me and Im willing to do absolutely anything to make it work. Should I continue to fight for her or give her space and let her be?", "summary": "girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me, fight for her or let her be?"}
{"id": "t3_2um7zs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [21 F] 3 weeks, Online dating trust issues.", "post": "I met my current gf of about 3 weeks on an online dating website. About 2 days later we meet up at my place, hook up, have a good time etc. The day after we decide to make it a mutual relationship with each other as exclusive.\n\nI am concerned however about some possible red flags that are coming up often and repeatedly. She always wants me to express my feelings about her and I always say that I like her and I want her to be my gf. However, she always brings up being afraid of being cheated on, left for some other girl and not wanting to waste her time.\n\nNow I wouldnt be so concerned about this usually as we are a new couple and all and trust isn't fully formed as that takes a bit of time. However, when we were together at her place I reached for my vaporizer and she was on her phone. she immediately shields her phone from me seeing it. I thought it was really odd and she seemed upset afterwards. I kept asking her whats wrong and if shes ok a few times and she would not tell me why she was acting that way. I left it alone and brought it up the next day. She said she was talking to a guy she had \"a long story with\" and she eventually told me he kept ditching her or whatever and she had given him money a few times to come see her. I was like ok, tried to explain that he probably doesn't care about her in that way and moved on.\n\nShe also continuously browses dating websites still even when I am around her. And has on more than a few occasions talked about her latest ex in great detail and on one occasion called me by his name accidentally.\n\nNow is this some sort of insecurity/self esteem issues or are these truly red flags? or am i just being some sort of insecure/jealous asshole?", "summary": "Gf of 3 weeks I met online still browses dating websites every day. Attempts to hide conversations with other males from me and still talks about her ex. Insecurity issues or red flags?"}
{"id": "t3_3yungr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "New manager at work is causing me problems and I wanted to know what kind of advice Reddit had for me, so hear me out.", "post": "Ok, So I've never posted on /r/advice before, so this is a little awkward for me. I'll try to keep this brief.\n\nI've been at my position for a few years now and never had a complaint against me, which is saying a lot in this company. A new manager was hired on and is (in my opinion) \"ruling with an iron fist\" so to speak.\n\nAfter multiple problems and confrontations with the new manager, I was called into the boss' office to discuss a confrontation that happened today.  After our long discussion was over, I was sent home for the day and will be reprimanded when I get back for being rude and \"causing a scene\" in front of the other co-workers (his words, not mine). In reality, I was doing my job as I always have and when he started to get pushy, I held my ground and did what I was told to do by my boss. New manager didn't like this one bit. During the meeting, I asked if there is some way I can gain his trust enough to let me do what I'm good at like I always have, or at least, meet somewhere in the middle. The answer was no. Do what he asks regardless of how I feel about the given situation. Basically, shut up and do what I'm told even if it goes against what I feel is right.\n\nI really like my job and owe my boss tremendously for getting me this position I'm in and I don't want to leave the company because of one guy, but I'm afraid the new manager will get me fired regardless of my good track record if I don't do what he says. I'm not the kind of guy to be pushed around and always speak what I believe, but I'm sure I'll be fired if I do.\n\nShould I do what expected of me and be pushed around or should I find a new job? \n\nOkay, so this wasn't as brief as I'd hoped. I know this isn't as informative as it could be, but I have co-workers that are redditors and need to protect myself.", "summary": "New manager wants everything done his way to the point of being overly pushy, regardless of how long and how well I do my job. Will get me fired if I don't do everything his way. Do I suck up my pride and let him push me around or find a new job?"}
{"id": "t3_1lk5xg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] don't know if I should break up with my girlfriend of 7 months [21F] duration tomorrow. NEED HELP", "post": "Background: \n\nI've been with my girlfriend for 7 months, and this is the first major relationship either of us have had.  And while neither of us were virgins, we weren't very far removed, either. We're *very* compatible, and things escalated very quickly. \n\nOver the past several weeks, I've had a recurring desire to be single. Nothing is actually wrong with the relationship, but if I'm being completely honest, I've just found other girls much more attractive than my girlfriend and want to date around. My girlfriend is not unattractive by any means, but she's not my body type.  I know that is is an extremely immature viewpoint, which has lead to some self hate issues, but that doesn't stop from me thinking it. \n\nIssue:\n\nLast night I talked to my girlfriend about my confusion towards this relationship and how my feelings have changed. It got very emotional and almost led to the relationship ending. She's head over heels in love with me (her words), but I don't know what I feel is love.   I do really care for this girl and could see us going the distance, but I'm finding it incredibly difficult to fully commit. I think I'm holding back because part of me thinks that I would regret it if I didn't experience being single again. We agreed some time apart would be good to clear my head, and we're planning on having a serious talk tomorrow. It seems like I can either recommit myself to this relationship or break up with her, and I have no idea what I should do.", "summary": "part of me wants to be single, but I know I'd be throwing away something great"}
{"id": "t3_1unq4g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I reaaaaally don't care about your personal problems.", "post": "So I work doing outbound calls supporting a mobile phone repair centre. I advise customers on the steps they could have taken to avoid needing to send their phone for repair in the first place. \n\nOn a daily basis I get spoken down to by arse holes who seem to think it's my fault they can't use their phone properly... \n\nIt's not my fault that:\n\n* you're elderly or disabled.\n\n* You have people dependant on you.\n* That your kids school can't get in touch with you.\n* That your wife thinks you've trying to avoid her...\n* I'm sorry but it's not my fault somebody you know died recently.\n* It REALLY isn't my fault that you bought a low end phone and expect the world from it.\n* it REALLY REALLY isn't my fault when your rabbit chewed through your charger cable but decided you'd send you phone in because it would not charge. YOU FUCKING IDIOT!\n\nI even spoke to a person today, who about 5 minutes into a call of her asking me questions says \"You do know you've woken me up? It's the middle of the night here!!!\" - The fact that she'd sent her phone to us, then gone to New Zealand, and left her phone turned on in the middle of the night was some how MY fault! \n\nMost of their problems would be resolved if they googled their problem or thought about the issue logically. It is staggering how many people claim to have the safety of themselves and others reliant on a small piece of glass and plastic in their pocket, and don't think to keep a spare...\n\nI really want to help all my customers to get the most out of their phones, but FFS don't be a dick to me when I'm helping you, and REALLY don't use excuses to try and get me to give you special treatment. Be nice to me, and I might care about you more...", "summary": "Can't use your phone? Blame every bad thing to ever happen to you on me."}
{"id": "t3_203qb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fuck me. (20/m) (19/f) (19/f)", "post": "So long story short, my girlfriend of 2+ years cheated on me about a month back. Things have been rocky since then and things just weren't the same. I tried to make things work because I love her and care about her and does the same. But I thought it would be best to move on. \nBefore my girlfriend of 2+ years and I got together, I had a best friend who I had a thing for since the first day I met her. She gets me. We stopped talking for about a year because of some issues we had with each other but I really, really missed her. We started talking again about 2 months ago and she makes me so happy. We've hung out a few times and all these feelings I once had for her came flooding back. She just got out of a horrible relationship with an abusive guy a few weeks ago, and she's not ready for a relationship. I told her about my feelings for her and I told her that if she doesn't want that I'm totally okay with it because I'm just happy to have her back in my life. She just wants to be best friends and see if it leads to anything more, but we're being flirty and stuff with each other.\nHere's the big problem, my ex girlfriend is still a big part of my life. I want to move on and not be with her, but I care about her. She bought me knicks tickets for my birthday and wants to give them to me still, but I don't know whether to take them or not. I wanted to take the girl I'm talking to, to a knicks game, but now idk what to do because my ex got me tickets and If I take them and take this other girl it's going to be rude and disrespectful. I want to be with this new girl and see if things work out, but I feel like there are still feelings for my ex and everything's just going crazy right now. This was probably so incoherent and whatever but it's because I've got so much going through my mind right now. What do I do.", "summary": "ex girlfriend cheated on me and I want to move on with old fling. still feelings for ex but have just as strong feelings for new girl."}
{"id": "t3_3t1ofz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23) girlfriend (22) has gained weight and is apathetic. I've talked to her about it and nothing has changed.", "post": "My girlfriend of two years has become pretty depressed and has gained a lot of weight since we first started dating. We went to school together for the first two years but now I'm 4 and a half hours away for grad school. \n\nShe pretty much spends all of her time working on school stuff. Like basically does nothing else and hardly spends any time with her friends and has abandoned all her hobbies. As I said, she's gained a bunch of weight - probably 35 pounds and I think her BMI is something like 27.5 now. She also has a low sex drive but she tries to keep me happy, which I appreciate. She's on medication for depression and she's started taking even more and I think it makes things worse. I told her she should go see someone and she started doing that but I haven't really noticed a change in her behaviour.\n\nI'm really happy when I spend time with her and she treats me really well but I've gotten fed up with all this. It's awkward too because it's her birthday this weekend and we were gonna spend the time together and she was gonna visit for a formal dinner with my school and it bothers me that all of my friends from school have girlfriends that stay in shape and mine hasn't at all. She's a really pretty girl naturally but she's lazy and I've already talked to her about all of this many times.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "girlfriend is apathetic and gaining weight, idk what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3fveiy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M24] love my gf [F23] but she hasn't fallen yet; deciding to invest longer or play it safe and give up", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I've been out of a 6 year relationship for one year now and wasn't planning on anything serious. Neither was she. It was agreed upon to date until we both go to graduate school since we both had plans to move out of state.\n\nShe has been by far the best girl I've dated. Everything I could ask for- honest, sweet, fun, the whole deal. We both grew to care way more than we thought we would but its pretty clear I'm a bit more infatuated. That'd be fine, but here's the catch. She has to move in a month. She's stated she would love if I moved with her or even would do long distance until I was able to. What holds me back? She's never been in love before and she gets attached very slowly. I know she cares about me alot but there's alot of things that make me feel like it isn't enough. Maybe I'm just used to having my girlfriend love me from my ex though.\n\nI'd love to go to school where shes going anyways so its not that big of a deal, but it also is. We wouldnt be living together, its just a chance to see how our relationship progresses. I have been in love and I have been hurt before so I'm feeling very guarded about taking such a risk when she may never fall for me (I fell for her trying not to after all!). I also feel like long distance would hurt my chances of her falling for me more and have usually viewed that as doom for relationships.", "summary": "How long does it take most people to start falling in love? Should I take the risk for a dream girl even if it means moving my life around more than she'd be willing to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1k21vh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on how [M 20] may be feeling. I'm [F 19]", "post": "Boyfriend and I start uni soon (less than two weeks). We met there on campus and have been together for almost eight months. This summer has been difficult for us, as he has a hard time dealing with distance. I would like to talk with him more often than we do right now (every three days or so), which I asked him to. First time went alright, we started talking more. He backed off again and we only talked a couple times in the last two weeks. \n\nNow he says he wants to take a break since he doesn't \"feel anything\". What does that mean? He doesn't want to break up, but apparently doesn't love me right now like he has said? Can someone explain to me how feelings of love can wane to the point that you don't even want to talk to your SO? \n\nHe's my best friend. I want nothing more than to spend as long as I can with him, to be in his company. I want our relationship to succeed, but don't understand what he means when he says that feelings come and go. My love for him is so strong that it's physically hurting me to think that my best friend doesn't even care enough to want to even talk to me. Phone, text, email, nothing. I don't feel that I can even talk to him about anything right now, since we're on break. What does that even entail? \n\nSomeone please try to give me a little insight on him and what he's feeling/going through. I've never experienced my feelings of love for someone to just disappear. It took me until meeting him to let go of someone who I'd loved for almost five years. Help!", "summary": "Boyfriend declared we're on a break because he's not feeling anything, I want insight on what he's thinking."}
{"id": "t3_2wmjll", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by confiding in my supervisor", "post": "Hey, this just happened tonight... I get points for that, right?\n\nWell, tonight I came into the local coffee joint to see what was up. Alright, I went in there to see this cute girl that was scheduled to get off around the time I was going to show up. As she was getting off we chatted for a bit before she headed home with stuff to do... Here comes the fuck up.\n\nMy supervisor had seen me and her talking. He's a cool guy, asked me to party with him after work (I passed, work tomorrow morning) and we cracked jokes an had a grand old time. Well, he began callin me out on why I was taking selfless and who I was talking to on my phone. I trust this guy, he's cool, so I tell him it was the girl that just got off work. He begins putting two and two together and questions me about her. I figure, whatever he's cool he won't tell anyone, and let him know I like this girl... Big mistake!! He immediately lets the other two employees working know over his headset that I'm interested in this girl and proceeds to crack jokes. He then tells me he will be telling her, when they work together on Sunday, that I am in love with her... \n\nOn the bright side (maybe... I guess we will see) this gave me the... Confidence, for lack of a better word (motivation, maybe) to see what she's up to this weekend.\n\nSo... TIFU and expect a TIFUpdate", "summary": "I confided to my supervisor about being interested in a coworker an he plans on letting all our fellow employees know this"}
{"id": "t3_16fa7w", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think I was just lied to, need some advice on where to go next.", "post": "The girl I've been seeing for the past week just let another guy answer the phone and say that he was her brother. He told me that she was having a rough day and not really in the mood to talk and that she would call me tomorrow. We have talked extensively about my brother, because we don't get along and yet she has never mentioned her brother. I'm not really upset that another guy has answered her phone; I am more upset that I believe he lied about being her brother. What is the best way to approach this situation to foind out if she's actually lying to me or if (s)he was telling the truth. I want to avoid looking like a jealous asshole because jealousy really isnt my problem here. My problem is the possibility of the lie. She knows how much I hate being lied to and yet this does not sit right with me. I should also mentioned that she is 18 and I am 28, so there is a little bit of an age gap here. The issue might be caused by immaturity... I'm just looking for a good way to bring it up and find out the truth without seeming like a jealous douchebag because like I said, I don't care who the guy is or what they were doing together ... but don't lie to me.", "summary": "Younger girlfriend had some dude answer the phone claiming he was her brother, I think he's lying to me and maybe she is responsible."}
{"id": "t3_1hsdp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] want to love and trust my [18F] girlfriend of 4 months.", "post": "Hello, this is my second serious relationship and I was cheated on in the first. It really got me down, and hurt my self-esteem. Now, there have been 3 instances where I have shown my current partner my \"real\" personality. First I asked her to show me a convo of her and her ex because I was scared. She did and was surprised I asked her to.\n\nNext, I wanted to see the same conversation for a stupid reason. We were discussing who texted whom first and I asked to see the same text from the same time in the first reason. I selfishly thought that since it was already in the open it was fair game for me to invade that space again. In the moment I didn't think about this but she felt it was the same way.\n\nAnd now recently I asked her a question about a friend she has. I asked her about him and if they had a romantic past. She seemed very disappointed and said she had already told me no (but I had forgotten). She said, \"What? do you think I have a secret boyfriend or something?\" I asked her right when I dropped her off and she was late to be home, and said we'd talk about it the next day.\n\nIt's been 2 days and we have not talked about it but have been hanging out consecutively since I last asked her. But everything has been normal and we're very loving towards each other. We've built our relationship strong and right from the start, we are very fond of one another. She is the type of girl that won't give her attention to anyone and I'm lucky and grateful to have it.\n\nNow how do I make her feel like I trust her. I know she feels, even slightly, like I don't trust her and am a ticking time-bomb of jealousy. Do we just move on like nothing ever happened? Or should I bring it up and be like, \"listen I feel bad about bringing your friend up and I want you to know that I love you and trust you.\" Maybe even suggest that I wouldn't have a problem with them hanging out or whatever? Let me know what you guys think, thanks!", "summary": "I've let myself become insecure and came off as controlling and jealous to my lovely girl a handful of times. I don't want to trap her, how do I make her feel free?"}
{"id": "t3_4ouxij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents don't like My15/M black gf 15/F", "post": "Okay so my gf is black. Thats why they don't like her, Im white. And my ex is white Shes 17. I don't wanna hear anything about a age gap. shes White my parents like her, and I KINDA do. Like shes alright, but she causes so much drama, and I prefer my current girl. Which from here imma call my gf Natalia, and my ex Sarah. So sarah is my ex, I dated her maybe a year back, and some time this year, and recently got with Natalia, My parents don't like the idea of a interracial couple. So should I give Sarah a chance, or just ignore my parents and stick with Natalia? Keep in mind, I am in No way racist, and I really like this girl.", "summary": "Parents don't agree with a interracial couple"}
{"id": "t3_121npk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have a song that makes you sad? why?", "post": "At the beginning of my freshman year of HS i had the mindset of \"things are going to be different\" and i was going to make some more friends, and finally ask a girl out. So it's a couple weeks away from homecoming and i am in an art class with a pretty girl (lets call her) Christina. i was planning on asking Christina to the dance and i spent a week or so planning it in my head,when the day comes that i am planning to ask her i show up to class with it all planned in my head, all i need to do is wait for class to end so i can ask her to talk. well halfway through class the other guy at our table makes a comment to the effect of \"you two would make a cute couple\" well Christina  and i look at each other and she bursts out laughing and says something like \"yeah right\" (couldn't hear through the blood pounding in my ears). so there goes my plan to ask here out. later at the dance i am standing near the wall of my gym while they play the homecoming song which was chasing cars by snow patrol, and i just remember feeling so sad and depressed. so now whenever i hear that song it makes me super sad.", "summary": "girl laughed at the idea of going out with me now chasing cars by snow patrol makes me sad"}
{"id": "t3_3en13j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] don't know how to stop hurting(emotionally) my gf[18F]", "post": "Hi, I've been a frequent lurker here but I could really use some advice right about now. Thank you if you take the time to read through my post. I'm sorry if this is all over the place.\n\nI've been with my SO for about 4 months now and things have been great up until the past 2 weeks. She's brought to my attention numerous times where I would do things without thinking of her, or what she does for me. With her going away to college next month, I feel as though this is going to break us.\n\nI completely agree with everything she says though which is the scary part. Without going much into detail, she holds our relationship together. Shes is possibly the busiest person I've ever met and yet still makes time for us to have together. I've really taken her for granted and now I don't know what to do.\n\nShe told me how shes just emotionally exhausted she is at this point. That shes given so much and I haven't been pulling my weight. She also asked my why she should even bother trying so hard if I cant even do little things for her. Ill admit there has been a lot of miscommunication in our relationship but I really am doing my best to help us. She hates me beating myself up over all this but it's the only way I can realize just how badly I've been fucking up.\n\nI already know there are going to be comments about this just being \"young love\" or to \"jump on the breakup train\" but I really want to try my best to at least work towards this. I just dont know how to stop hurting her. Seeing her depressed over us is the worst feeling I've ever felt before.", "summary": "I don't put in enough effort and don't think before I act. SO is scared what this means for us and I want to make it up to her."}
{"id": "t3_2zl4ej", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by busting out at my gf's house", "post": "So this happened about a week ago actually\n\nI'm at my girlfriends house for the second time, haven't been there in weeks because the first time I got caught giving her a hickey.\n\nSo this time I'm trying to be on my A-game, cracking jokes with her mom, helping her with homework, even going to get and purchase food for myself, her, her mom, her twin sister, and her twin sister's bf.\n\nTo my surprise her mom sent the 4 of us hormonal teenagers upstairs with loud music playing and she takes a nap...... It's a fucking trap.\n\nSo we're upstairs talking and I'm helping her move some boxes and I'm extremely ticklish, and she knows I am. Because I didn't do sexual things with her under the assumption that her mom was testing me after the whole hickey incident, she began tickling me.\n\nI instantly took about 4 steps back and was in the middle of curling into the feeble position when her twin sister emerges out of a basket of clothes so tiny that not even professional gymnast, double jointed, clown midgets could fit in it and with the exhilarating force of a chidori (sorry, anime fan here; *nerd moment*) grabs my side and tickles me.\n\nI bust out laughing and then fell backwards and bust out the window. Hit the ground hard, surprisingly I got away with a dislocated shoulder and a bruise on my forearm. \n\nI look up and see them staring at me from up above and to make matters worse the sister's boyfriend leans on the window and more pieces of glass fall out onto me.\n\nThey get their mom, I go to the hospital and then I get the worse text possible the next day from my gf, \"My mom thinks you're a complete fuck up and you always make dumb decisions, we can stay together you just can't come over anymore\"", "summary": "Bust out at my gf house, can't cum anymore, both of those mean two things."}
{"id": "t3_2zkhgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15m] can't stop touching my friend/gf's [15f] thighs, she tells me to stop but I just can't, and I hate myself for it.", "post": "I am in a bit of a dodgy situation with my friend. We both like each other as more than friends, but we are too bogged down in school work to start dating.\n\nShe keeps on telling me to stop touching her thighs so much, even when we are alone. I seem to have this constant urge to touch her, not just stroke her thighs, but even just have my hand on them.\n\nAlthough constantly touching her makes me seem, I don't think materialistic is the right word, but that I only want to be with her for her body. This is not the case. \n\nI don't know why I have always touch her thighs, but I think it has something to do with the fact I am really bad at hugging. Whenever I hug her it just feels really awkward and bad, but I still like physically connecting to her.\n\nI feel really bad because I can't seem to stop touching her, even subconsciously. Due to a lack of sleep, one math lesson I was half asleep, my eyes were open, but nothing was clicking in my brain. I was woken by her nudging me a few times and asking me what I was doing, because as it turns out I was stroking her thigh.\n\nTo try and stop myself from doing this, I went for a week without touching her in any way. All this did was make me feel really detached from her. I really feel like she is starting to think I only like her for her body, and is starting to like me less because of it.", "summary": "I can't stop touching her thighs, she is starting to like me less because of it, but I just can't seem to stop."}
{"id": "t3_1u7mu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The last guy I was in love with [24/M] called me up tonight and left a blank voicemail. I'm [22/F], what do I do?", "post": "I'll try to summarize our relationship as simply as possible. We dated somewhat casually for three months before real feelings started to develop, and when they did he was really quick to pull away because he didn't want to get into anything serious. We were then on again off again for the next 4 months, until he decided to end it with me once and for all, stating that he wasn't ready for full blown love and commitment. I know what you're thinking, that he's a commitophobe but he isn't because he had gotten out of a 5 year relationship just two years before I met him.\n\nAnyway, I get a missed call tonight from him and a blank 10 second voicemail, no follow up text. Normally I'd just assume pocket dial (my name starts with A so it happens sometimes). But here's why it's making my heart pump with hope:\n\n* It's January first. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe he thought he would wait until the new year, and if there was anything left he'd reach out.\n\n* Only two days ago, I removed him from my facebook chat block, so he can again see when I'm online again. Maybe he interpreted this as my first move?\n\n* Three weeks after we broke up, I texted him saying happy birthday. He responded saying that he didn't know who my number was because he got a new phone. Him calling me again is a sign that he had saved my number.\n\nI know I'm crazy and that this is probably nothing. But love makes you crazy sometimes, doesn't it. I've really tried hard to move on from him, I haven't even once contacted him or even LOOKED at his facebook profile, but I've had no success, I still have intense feelings for him. Do I owe it to myself to find out for sure, or am I just bound for more heartbreak? I calmed myself down with a hot shower, and thought I'd let reddit help me out on this one.", "summary": "I can't tell if my last love wants me in his life again, or if his call was just a meaningless coincidence."}
{"id": "t3_2swzgy", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I get to know a stranger?", "post": "Hello /r/dating_advice. I have been struggling about something lately and I am already out of ideas, and before giving up I wanted to ask you if maybe you could help me. Please forgive my English. \n\nSo... There's this guy in my German class I like and never talked to. I know it sounds like I was a five year old, but I swear... I'm not the kind of girl who's obsessed with a different person each month. In fact, I am getting scared because I haven't had a crush since almost a year... I guess this is normal, but as a 20 year old it confuses me. The nearest I have been to have a crush is this guy... who I don't even know. But this is not the topic I wanted to talk about.\n\nMost of all I don't want you to judge me for this. I just can't help it, and believe me: I tried. It's not only about how he looks, I have told my friends a thousand times that he's not even my type. I guess I am just curious because I like his attitude. It's hard to explain, to be honest. \n\nWe have never talked, we have no friends in common (yep, already checked fb), and we don't even study the same career (I think German is one of his optional subjects). \n\nWhat do I do to get to know him without being a creep?", "summary": "I like a guy from my German class I have never talked to and I need some advice because I haven't handled this situation before."}
{"id": "t3_pmdks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone who has ever been on a stage (Musicians, Comedians, Dancers, Speakers): What is the worst kind of person to have in your audience?", "post": "As an actor, I've been in quite a few plays over the years, most recently, **Wait Until Dark** by Frederick Knott. In this particular show, my character, Mike Talman, dies after being stabbed in the back at the top of a flight of stairs and tumbles all the way down. The play by nature is very serious and intense, and this part was in no way funny. Crazy plot-twist. But on the night after our opening, we had a crowd that was laughing at everything we did, including my death. The goal of any actor is to manipulate an audience into what we want them to feel. On that second night, for whatever reason, we had a rowdy and obnoxious crowd, and it really took a lot from the show.", "summary": "I hate audience members who laugh at the wrong parts of your act and don't know what's going on."}
{"id": "t3_1s1h9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [22 F] for 5 months, There's going to be long distance between us in the future, which she doesn't want, but I do.", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about 5 months. We meet almost every day, call/message all the time - we really like each other. I'll be going abroad in a years time to do a 17 month course - I'll be back home twice or thrice a year. \n\nShe says she doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. So, I guess, if I leave we're going to break up - even though I don't want to.\n\nMy question is - What's the probability that her opinion will change if we go out for another year? Should I just break it off now and find someone who wants to be with me no matter what the situation before we both get more hurt?", "summary": "My GF doesn't want to do a long distance relationship in a years time, should I break it off right now?"}
{"id": "t3_3anw6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M/F] with my girlfriend [15 F] 5 months, watches porn 4 to 5 times daily for about 40 minutes each time or more", "post": "My girlfriend goes on tumblr and looks for hours at porn gifs then switches to pornhub when she gets horny and in a vicious cycle is non stop looking at porn essentially. It's gotten so bad shes looking at porn in the car, on the train, in different cities, our sex life is fine, though shes a little addicted. Should I say something? Recently I asked if she ever posts naked pictures to her tumblr, because I figured that was a fair conclusion given the situation and she cried and told me how she'd never do anything like that or whatever. I don't know if I believe her because she waited 20 minutes before responding to me what her tumblr name was (I had never cared up until the thought of her posting nudes crossed my mind) and I wanted to investigate myself before saying anything, so I asked for her tumblr she waited 15-20 minutes before responding after all said and done she admitted she was deleting stuff that was personal to her I guess posts she made about depression and such is what she claims, although its a pornography tumblr with 7000 followers (she posts animals occasionally and sometimes deep stuff but 99.2% of it's porn) what do you think I should do reddit? Does she have a problem?\nShould I say something? she was really broken up about me asking her about the nudes and she played the \"YOU NEED TO TRUST ME\" card. Which made me trust her a little less on it to be honest.", "summary": "Gf watches way too much porn imo what do you think reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_2ykbhg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My (f/22) former best friend (f/22) said and did terrible things behind my back... Now I think my BF (m/29) is trying to systematically ruin her life. 2.5 years", "post": "OP: \n\nA lot of people in my other thread just said to talk to him again about this so I did last night. I just told him that I'm not saying it's him, but that if he knows anyone or anything that might help her and make this stop that I would want that. I told him I'm not mad or anything at all, and that a seriously big part of me thinks she completely deserves it but I said that screwing with her for months on end is too much. I told him everyone knows what a bitch she is now, everyone knows about all of her accounts and stuff and that's enough.\n\nHe dropped the biggest I-didn't-do-it-but-really-did line ever and said. \"I assume this guy realizes that he took it a bit too far. I'm sure it will stop very soon, especially now that you've communicated you want it to stop.\" I just said that's good and that she did deserve it. I said that I probably should have just linked the blog in the beginning to my friends.", "summary": "Talked to my bf, he basically admitted to doing it without saying the words. He said he would stop and that he took it a bit too far. I told him I need to communicate better and that I could see how I was encouraging this by what I was saying. It's all good in the hood."}
{"id": "t3_xqhbr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your most embarrassing purchase that actually turned out to be great?", "post": "I'll start...I had surgery on my abdomen a few years ago and now can't stand to wear anything but low-rise jeans. If they rest on anything but my hip bones, I'm super uncomfortable.\n\nFinding low-rise jeans that fit my body type is difficult...so one day at Ross I spotted a pair of maternity jeans that were really cute. I'm not pregnant (and not overweight so I couldn't really pretend I was) but that cushy fabric waistline looked super comfy. \n\nThey're literally heaven to wear. They fit perfectly on my hips and conform to the rest of my body with their elastic-y denim. Every girl (pregnant or not) should have a pair of jeans like these. \n\nYour turn.", "summary": "Elastic waistbands on jeans are the shit."}
{"id": "t3_1cp2gj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Harassment from the neighbor. What do I do?", "post": "My parents have been living next to these people for almost 10 years now with a very minimal interaction because they were a younger couple who really really kept to themselves and wasn't really home all that much.\n\nHowever, they've been causing shit lately like being super confrontational for every little thing my parents did. One time, their 13yo brat daughter was being all rude as fuck to my dad and my dad scolded her, causing the retard to run out, take the shirt off (lol highschool) and push my dad. Another time, my dad found a huge chunk of a concrete slab in the garbage can so I went over to ask what's up and the guy was like \"WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?? YOU WANT TO PLAY A GAME LIKE THIS???\". I mean what the fuck this guy's like in his 40s and he's doing shit like he's 15. \n\nThe other day, they have apparently decided to drive my parents out of the house. They had their kids to knock our garbage cans down and start jumping on them, verbally harassing my parents as they were walking around the neighborhood, and like flipping us off and shit. \n\nI have no idea how to deal with these passive aggressive 40 something retards. What's my course of action? For now, my sister has gone to the sheriff's office to file a vandalism charge on them for knocking our garbage cans around and stomping on them and shit. Those kinda shit I can deal with but I'm pretty damn sure these shitbirds will escalate the harassment to a new level and start throwing shit over the fence or something.", "summary": "the neighbor went full retard. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_47215k", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Here are my dating problems....any advice is appreciated.", "post": "The problems I have had with dating isn't that I can't find a guy, its that I can't figure out how to get laid...\n\nWhenever I immeadiately get asked for sex, I get turned off. I don't exactly know why, maybe because it feels too easy?\n\nI don't have much experience in relationships, flirting and sex(I've only had sex once) and am unsure how to practice.\n\nUsually when I wait for sex, the guy and I get stuck just talking. I don't seem to be able to turn the conversation to sexual tension. I can usually talk sexy via text really well, but it seems only when he initiates.\n\nThe only guys I have found are on the internet. I did have two coworkers ask me out, one didn't hold conversation very well( and fell for girls very easily. It didn't last long) the other I had a hard time shifting the convosation to sex because he always brought up day to day conversation. I ended up having feelings for guy 2 and had  to end it because he told me he wasnt looking for serious. But, after breaking it off with him, I later realized that being blunt about wanting sex is the way I should have gone. I later used this on a guy(from online website, we met publicly 2x's) that wanted casual sex, and he kind of blew me off( he lives with his father and step mom, and wanted to make sure both were out of the house. Then I heard nothing.) \n\nI would go out places and try to connect to people publicly, and, being really shy, and clueless on how to flirt, I get no where.", "summary": "what is some advice on flirting, initiating sex, should I get over sex before first date in order to learn more about my body, how to keep a relationship thriving."}
{"id": "t3_20auvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (23/M) a dick for wanting my girlfriend (25) of 6 months to wear perfume?", "post": "My girlfriend is absolutely beautiful and I am very much in love with her.  I have never been this happy in a relationship in my life. I feel like such an asshole for this but I can't get over this. My girlfriend does not wear any perfume and she only uses unscented (or very little subtle/hardly noticeably) scented soaps and shampoos. She NEVER smells actually bad. There is just nothing that makes me weak at the knees like holding my girl close and her having a familiar and noticeable \"girly\" scent. It makes me go absolutely crazy and it is one of my biggest turn ons.\n\n----\n\nI have mentioned this to her and never really got a strong answer about it. She said she chooses to for personal reasons and then the conversation ended. Is it selfish of me to want this and ask again? I love her so much and in the grand scheme of things this is such a small and petty thing but I can't help but think about it.", "summary": "Am I wrong in being upset that my girlfriend doesn't wear perfume?"}
{"id": "t3_3x33s7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Getting numerous texts from USPS for over 2 years now, cannot get them to stop. [CO]", "post": "I am getting daily text messages from USPS Notification Service telling me i have mail in my PO box. However, I've never had a PO box in this state nor in the last 8 years.            \n\nIt does not give any information as to where the PO box is location, who the account belongs to, and does not respond to the common text message commands \"STOP\", \"END\", etc.        \n\nI have attempted all mediums of contact for USPS to no avail - phone support, online/email support, and in person.          \n\nEvery time I have contacted them they suggest I block the number, however the message is not being sent from a number but rather a weird string of letters including USPS Notification System in the header. But - each one is different.         \nI never get a message from the same \"number\", so blocking them does not work.           \n\nAs it's been a little over 2 years, and many days I get up to 3 messages they are numbering in the thousands now.            \n\nIs there anything I can do other than change my number? It's the same one I've had for over 10 years and that's simply not an option for me at this point.", "summary": "USPS has been sending me at least 1 message every day for a year telling me I have mail in a PO box. I do not own a PO box nor do I have a USPS account. All attempts over phone, email, and in person to stop this have failed."}
{"id": "t3_1za1z6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] Had a one night stand with a girl [24 F] and now I regret it", "post": "So I went out with this girl a couple times and it was awesome. We got along so well and I was really starting to like her. The third time we went out she invited me to hang out with some of her friends. Long story short I ended up taking back to her place where we made out and fooled around a while and eventually had unprotected sex. It was a stupid thing to do but we are both adults and the next morning we decided the most responsible thing to do would be to get the morning after pill.\n\nI went and bought it for her and for the rest of the day I was texting her and checking up on her to she how she feels. By late afternoon she was feeling really crummy which I knew was normal due to the pill. Then she started saying things like she regretted letting me have sex with her and she though I was a bad person because she feels I manipulated her.\n\nThis makes me feel terrible because its not the case at all. I really liked this girl and I had sex with her because I felt that way about her. I've tried telling her all this but she just ignores me and says that she thought I was a good guy.\n\nAt this point we aren't talking but I feel terrible knowing that she's feeling the way that she is. I've never been through something like this and I don't know how to handle it.", "summary": "Had sex with this girl that I really like but now I'm regretting it  because she hates me for it"}
{"id": "t3_53v29v", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm 25 and my SO is 19 - we're both really happy, but am I being irresponsible by being with her? [X-Post from r/Relationships]", "post": "We'll call her Emmie - we're both female, if that helps. We met/became fast friends when she was 17 and I was 23, and got closer over the next two years. At first it was definitely somewhere between a mentor/friend role, but over time it developed into a genuine friendship, especially post high-school.\nWe've always been extremely compatible, but we were both in long term relationships. This past summer, both single and back at our shared summer job, we got together fairly quickly and it's been pretty much smooth sailing since then. At first I was really worried about what our mutual friends would think, but everyone that knows us says it makes sense.\n\nObviously it's easier to live in a bubble during the summer, and she's back at college now and I'm back at work in the city. It's still felt/feels like a healthy and happy thing for both of us though - we're both good at communicating, and have talked about all aspects of this. \n\nMy biggest concern, which I've voiced to her, is that I'm preventing her from enjoying all the fun, formative experiences in college (like having that random drunken hookup, etc). And we've both given each other permission to have fun within limits. We're both pretty entertained by any random drunk make-out stories, etc. She's very mature (I've never dated anyone younger than myself so this is really new for me), and I want to take her at her word, but I also don't want to be the irresponsible adult who should know enough to walk away and let her have a 100% normal college experience. What do you guys think?", "summary": "I'm 25, SO is 19, things have been great but I'm worried she'll miss out because of me."}
{"id": "t3_2tcvz5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my classmates hold my phone while looking at pictures of my puppy", "post": "I was at college today and I have just gotten a new pup. He is super cute and I told my classmates about him. Now I am one of two guys in my class, the rest are girls and the girls all wanted to see pictures. Of course it wasnt any problem so I gave them my phone and asked them to look at the most recent pictures, not a problem giving them the phone since I have no embarassing pictures there... At least I didn't have two days ago.\n\nThe day before this I noticed that my butthole was hurting, and since I've had hemorrhoids before I was pretty sure that it was the same thing again. I took a picture of my butthole and there it was, a big old hemorrhoid. I went and got some cream for it and forgot all about it. \n\nBack to today. I give the girls my phone and they open my pictures and yell out \"EEEEEEEW!!\" And then it hit me.. I had pictures of my fucking butthole on my phone, not only that.. My butthole with a fucking hemorrhoid....... I tried to play it cool and said that the pictures must be from some friend who was messing with me.. But it didn't really feel like they believed me. After this I told them that I had a head ache and went home..\n\nIt's now been over 12 hours and I'm thinking of never going back to school.. I will never lend anyone my phone again...", "summary": "I had a hemorrhoid in my butthole, took a picture. Forgot about it and let some girls in my class browse my pictures. They said ew and I left school with a head ache. Now I'm thinking of never returning to school."}
{"id": "t3_1qojuo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She said no to a date because she was too busy, how should I take this?", "post": "A little backstory: I've known this girl for about 2-3 months now. We both go to art college, and live in the same dorm (her one floor above me). We're great friends and have a lot in common (both like nerdy stuff), and I've been wanting to ask her out pretty much since we met.\n\nI literally just asked her out about an hour ago (at about 3am), she and I were heading to bed after a long night of hanging out with our friends. I followed her a little bit until nobody would be able to here us. And I really had to force myself, but I managed to (*very*) awkwardly ask her out on a date. She thought for a little bit (4-8 seconds), and said no, because she was going to be really busy working on like 3 projects tomorrow, and she went on to explain one of them a little bit (which I totally believe, because our art college keeps us busy). I said maybe another time, and we said goodnight.\n\nThere are many scenarios that could be happening right now: She was not interested and was trying to get out of it, she was interested but was caught off guard, she was interested but legitimately needed to work on things (which honestly is true for me too), and I could go on....\n\nSo I feel like the best course of action is probably just wait and see what happens at this point. My only question is if nothing happens and we almost even pretend like it didn't happen, should I ever try asking her out again? And perhaps is there any way I should try to act tomorrow? Otherwise any other random advice/relevant stories you could offer me?\n\nThanks", "summary": "I asked my crush out finally, she said no because she has a lot of work to do tomorrow (which I believe). Do you think she could be interested at all? Any stories or advice to share?*"}
{"id": "t3_1h9fqf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm attractive too, dammit!", "post": "I feel like I should apologize in advance for the rant, even though it's expected. Anyway, I'm fairly aggravated at the fact that nearly every time I go out with my friends, there always seems to be at least three members of the female population - if not more - that are gawking and waving at them, but never at me. I won't deny that they're attractive young men. One's always getting attention for his hair and height, one because he's a pretty boy, the other because he's just good-looking all around. I've got a good deal too though! Throw me a bone! It doesn't help that every girl I've tried asking out has ended in rejection (That's a whole 'nother can of worms there!)\n\nI admit, I'm young and shouldn't be complaining too much about this. I've heard it before, \"Your time will come, college is your deal, those girls are missing out\" etc. I believe it, I really do. I'm not saying I think I'm unattractive, I'm just saying it'd be nice to get some attention too. Hey, thanks for reading all that if you got to here. Otherwise:", "summary": "Friends get attention from female strangers, not me, I want some too"}
{"id": "t3_2j02qj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my mom I was going to sacrifice one of our cats.", "post": "My dad and I got in an argument regarding a rumour that my cousin's husband may have another wife/family (he usually talks out of his ass) and I told him we shouldn't judge him unless we know. Some words were exchanged where he had to be right but I also had to be right and it ended with him calling me the devil's defender. (I am Catholic and this very much offended me). He leaves to go outside and I turn to my mom asking her if she will say anything to him. She says \"Eventhebestfalldown, please..\" And I respond \"That is no longer my name, it's Lucifraus now, don't you see the devil is my savior?\" She asks me to stop playing around to which I respond \"Fine. It's just about time for me to make a sacrifice anyways.\" I walk upstairs to my room and yell \"Someone bring me a cat (we have two) and a knife! I need to kill one for the devil.\" As soon as I reach the top I see my little sister of 6 years old. Her eyes begin to well up and she starts crying and telling me not to sacrifice Lilah, her kitten, who I find very annoying and have previously joked about killing for being so annoying. I try to tell her it was a joke but she was having none of it. She ran to find her kitten and proceeded to lock herself in her room with it crying and refusing to let either my mom or myself inside to calm her down. She's since come out but has not let her kitten out of her sight.", "summary": "Made my little sister cry by inadvertently convincing her that I was going to sacrifice her annoying kitten to my savior Satan."}
{"id": "t3_3owchk", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "FL - Can my parents legally prevent me from changing my name?", "post": "To make things short, I've always hated my full name. My first name is an awkward spelling of a very popular name in the late 90s that looks like it would be pronounced completely different than what it actually is. Think.. Ashley - Aslea, Hannah - Hanha, Sarah - Siera. They wanted to make something original, beautiful sounding to let me stand out from everyone else. The spelling of it has never made the top 1000 charts, no actors/actresses named it, and I've only managed to find a few baby websites to have the version of it. Probably not too hard to understand why I wouldn't like it. My middle name on the other hand, is shit. The amount of girls that you'll come aross with some variant of it. Nikki, Nicole, Nicky. I can call the name out in an airport and 1 in 1,000 people coud turn around. Just like my first name, it has a million ways to spell it. It's Nycole. Ny-quell. So, sadly, not exactly the same, but according to the baby name websites; it's just another spelling of Nicole. Still, it's annoying for no one to ever be able to pronounce it correctly, first or middle. \n\nI've brought this up with my parents a few times, the first few times was me asking them to call me by nickname. They refused, stating that my name was too beautiful to call by anything else. [They call me by my first and middle name. Sigh.] Last night, I told them that I would be looking into legally changing it to something more common and normal. They started screaming at me, telling me that I don't have any right to change it [under 18], and that they can serve a cease and desise papers so that I may not change it. Ever. While I'm doubting that they can actually do this, even after I turn 18.. is there any legal way for them to be able to do so? \n\n(Okay, thatgot longer than I hoped it would. Sorry. Also, on phone, sorry for any mistakes.)", "summary": "don't like name, never will. Parents don't approve."}
{"id": "t3_1c7c4c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hoping to start a Masters in Cancer Pharmacology this September. Is anyone aware of post-graduate funding opportunities in the UK?", "post": "Hi Reddit, first time poster here, I am currently don't know where to turn to ask for advice but this looks perfect!\n\nBasically I am hoping to start a masters course in September of this year. My research would be in cancer pharmacology, investigating the effects of the skin cancer drug, vemurafenib, in an attempt to better understand how melanoma quickly gains such a strong resistance to it, hopefully finding a way to combat this resistance, increasing the drugs effectiveness and prolonging the lives of those suffering with melanoma.\n\nThe Masters costs \u00a36,900, \u00a33,900 for the tuition fee and a research support fee of \u00a33000 (For lab materials, damn pipette tips). Basically, I was wondering if anyone is aware of any funding opportunities available for such courses in the UK that I can apply for? I have currently received a \u00a32000 bursary off the University, taking my total costs down to \u00a34,900. I already have a part time job on weekends which I would keep throughout the course to help with travel expenses etc. But I really need to get the cost down for the course as much as I can, my last resort would be a bank loan, which I fear would cripple my finances completely. Alternatives ideas to a bank loan would be greatly appreciated as well.\n\nIf anyone has any additional questions please don't hesitate to ask.", "summary": "Does anyone know any funding opportunities for post-graduate research courses in the UK? Particularly for cancer research."}
{"id": "t3_1h925a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32M] have a crush on a grocery's cashier [??F]. I wrote her a letter.", "post": "Last month, my nearest grocery store hired a new cashier. Tall and beautiful, I had an immediate crush. I just had to do something.\n\nI wrote her a small note, telling her my feelings and leaving her my phone number, asking her to write me an SMS so we can get to know each other.\n\nThe next time I went to the grocery store, I gave her the note telling her it is for her. She looked very excited and began to unfold the note as if she wanted to read it in front of me. Then, all of a sudden she refolded the note and literally ran into the backstore without saying a word.\n\nThe next day, I went to the grocery again. As I was the only client with her at the cash register, I asked her if she read my note. She said she did not because she did not have enough time. Considering her reaction when she got the note, I believe she lied.\n\nA couple of weeks have passed. She never texted me. When we see each other we exchange smiles and make frequent eyes contact but I have not tried to talk to her again nor she did. Maybe she's not interrested or maybe she already has a boyfriend. I know nothing about her.\n\nSo, what's the next step? Talk to her again? Write to her again? Do nothing and forget it? Something else entirely?", "summary": "She did not act on receiving the letter. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_v309r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is the upvote/downvote difference for great, front paging content almost always between 1500 and 3000 votes?", "post": "I don't understand it, and it's starting to seem almost suspicious to me. I mean, I understand that there will always be dissenting opinion, and trolls that just downvote everything, people that are sick of it being on the front page, etc., etc., but great front page content is almost always ahead by a margin of 1500-3000 upvotes. I guess I'd just expect to see a wider differential with some of the content. Sure, some of is bound to be more split, but some of the content I've seen is just amazing stuff. Content that speaks to us a human beings. Content one would expect maybe 25,000 upvotes to let's say 4,000 downvotes, to account for trolls and such. Nope. Never. Not from what I've seen. That content will have 25,000 upvotes and 22,000 downvotes. It seems odd to me. Is there a design to reddit that's behind this? Or is it really just the way it is?", "summary": "Why is there almost always an  almost even split for front-paging content when one would expect nearly universal acclaim?"}
{"id": "t3_13dq01", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I have trouble actually working to get things done, help?", "post": "I'm a 19 year old student currently in university in England, I don't have a proper job but instead Freelance, which when it pays ends up paying considerably better than a part time, though that's when it does pay.\n\nI have serious problems motivating myself to get things done on a daily basis, for instance I can end up leaving a project worth a few hundred days on end before actually doing them, because I get so distracted by Reddit and various games (LoL, DoTA, etc) plus talking on Skype and Teamspeak, as I get lonely here when I'm not on one of them or on campus.\n\nI also have this nasty habit of going to bed very late, partially because everything interesting happens late at night (time zones I guess).\n\nThoughts? I have an app to write this week, so perfect time to start. I also have some cake mix given to me that I'd like to make something of sooner or later.", "summary": "programming student who plays PC games needs motivating"}
{"id": "t3_1ka78w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 6 years are in a LDR for the last 2 years. Next step?", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for last 6 years (broke up for some time in college - otherwise a wonderful relationship). We are from the same hometown and have known each other for majority of our lives. He is my best friend, I adore him and cannot imagine a life without him.\n\nWe have been in a LDR for the last 2 years - after college I moved 5 hours away for a job and he is currently working at home. We try to see one another at least 1-2 times a month but it never gets easier and it's often hard to plan times to see one another. We have talked about spending our lives together etc. and I know that he is the one for me.\n\nThe problem? He has no desire to move here (he doesn't want to live in this state / current financial issues). I will be here for another 2 years due to my contract and am in the process of finishing up graduate school. I am ready to start the next chapter of our relationship and to be honest this is the only way I am going to be truly happy. It physically hurts to be away from him. Once I am done here I will move wherever he wants to be (West Coast most likely). I am just afraid to be in a LDR for another 2 years. I don't want to lose him. \n\nAny advice? :(", "summary": "2 more years of a LDR; confused - what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2am2uw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping dozens of used needles on my feet", "post": "So I recently got a job in Cattery (Basically a kennel for cats) and I'm slowly getting the hang of looking after 50+ cats at a time. \n\nRight now we are looking after a cat that has diabetes so we have to give it an insulin injection twice a day and so there is a little yellow bin that is completely full of used hypodermic needles. This thing has been placed in a fairly precarious position so I decide to move it somewhere a little safer, forgetting that I had just mopped the tiled floor; resulting in a rather slippery surface.\n\nOne step is all it took. One step. Needles got launched into the air and I felt like Leonidas at the end of 300 as I looked down at where they had all landed, mostly on my shoes. These things are sharp, like really sharp, most of them had gone straight through the canvas & rubber and embedded themselves in my feet. One of the nastiest pains I have ever felt ;_;\n\nNeedle Bucket: \n\nInside Needle Bucket:", "summary": "I mopped up, through a bunch of dirty needles, foot pain."}
{"id": "t3_34yi5e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to impress my crush with my cartwheeling abilities", "post": "This TIFU didn't actually happen today. It happened when I was in Elementary school. Specifically grade 4.  \nHere goes:  \n  \nI was playing with some friends during lunch break. Bell rang to indicate that we were about to start class so we stopped playing and started wiping our sweat. Then my crush, let's call her \"Mary\" started calling us that we should be in our class room now. Here's the FU. Looking from where I was sitting down and where she was standing, I thought to myself, \"Hmmm. I can do 3 straight cartwheels and stand in front of her after.\" So I did. cleared the first one, cleared the second, cleared the third one and a loud CLANG!!! ringed in my ears. I opened my eyes, a bit blurry. Held my hands, wet. Looked at it, blood. Didn't realize that there was a recycled drum turned into a trashcan right beside her.", "summary": "Cartwheeled 3 times towards my crush, banged my head on a trash can."}
{"id": "t3_3b5bq5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Why isn't he asking me to hang out?", "post": "I've had a crush on this boy since second semester of my senior year. We had a class together, and although we barely talked, I couldn't get him out of my head. Now it's the summer, and a few weeks ago, I confessed that I had a crush on him, because I assumed that we wouldn't be seeing each other anymore after we graduated high school. But it turned out that he has a crush on me too, and we went on a movie date this past Sunday. \nWe're both going to separate universities this fall, so we told each other that we're not going to date. We would just be two friends that think the other is cute hanging out over the summer. \nBut sparks were definitely flying during that movie date. It seemed like he liked me, and I thought I made it pretty sure that I liked him. I asked if we could hang out again sometime, and he replied \"of course!\" with a genuine smile. \nWe text now and then, and I get how not all guys like to text (I don't really text either), but I'm concerned because he hasn't asked me to hang out anytime since then. Actually, he hasn't texted me at all, which usually doesn't concern me much, but I really want to hang out with this kid. \nAnd I could totally just ask him out instead, but I feel like I initiate every single time. I confessed. I asked him out on a movie date.", "summary": "Girl confesses to boy, boy likes girl back. Girl asks boy to movie, 'date' goes swimmingly, say there will be another one, but he won't initiate date?"}
{"id": "t3_3jx7kz", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Newly adopted dog potty-training issues", "post": "We just adopted an American Eskimo-Western Terrier mix and he is super sweet. He is very lovable and very gentle and seems like he has already taken us as his parents. He came from a foster home who told us he was potty-trained... but so far we haven't had luck with that. \n\nWe have taken him on multiple long walks, and each time he will not go while on the walk, but instead he goes in the house within minutes after we get back from the walk. He waits for us to turn our heads for a second and then goes on the floor/carpet/couch. He also has not been eating much since arriving, and he has thrown up twice (during or afte a car ride) since getting him yesterday.\n\nThe weird thing is that he seems very much at home with us. Cuddles with us, learning some basic tricks with us, but he refuses to use the bathroom outside with us. Any idea on what could be wrong and what we can do? We considered the possibility of him being sick (he was in the car for over 4 hours for the drive to pick up him), but would that be reason for him to not use the bathroom while he's outside on a walk?", "summary": "Dog was potty-trained with foster, but now waits until we get back indoors to use the bathroom with us. How to fix?"}
{"id": "t3_2qoilt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my new crush [18 F] 1 week, I need some advice about a girl I recently met.", "post": "I met a really cute girl on tinder. We talked back and forth for a few days and eventually I asked her out to which she said yes! So I gave her my number so we out work out the details. She texted me the next morning and we texted back and forth for pretty much the whole day, but I didn't bring up the date(this was yesterday). Today I left for a ski trip and won't be back until Friday.\n\nI haven't texted her at all today, and I don't want her to lose interest. When should I text her again? And when should I ask her about the date again?", "summary": "my question is when should I text her again? And when should I bring up the date again?"}
{"id": "t3_yqg7a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the closest you've ever come to dying?", "post": "I'll give the funny version.\n\n I was diagnosed with Gillian-Barre syndrome when I was younger. It's a syndrome that attacks the nervous system and subsequently the immune system. It stays with you for the rest of your life and (usually) eventually kills you. \nAnyway, I give blood as often as possible (as the syndrome is not contagious after a certain point) and with every blood test, they screen the blood to make sure there are no transferable diseases. I got an email from my blood bank saying I tested positive for syphilis. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK, I HAVE ONLY SLEPT WITH TWO PEOPLE AT THIS POINT. They said there was a secondary confirmation test that takes a few days to show results and that they'd get back to me. So I impatiently waited for FIVE FUCKING DAYS to see whether I had syphilis. Turns out, I just have the same terminal illness I've always had.", "summary": "I've never been so happy to be dying."}
{"id": "t3_1zgoq9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "If I only wore a condom...need advice on gf's (un)expected pregnancy", "post": "My girlfriend (age 32) and I (age 29) have only been together for five months. After we had sex a few times, she started telling me to finish inside of her. We have always had unprotected sex. Come mid-January I started contemplating ending the relationship. However I wanted to wait until she had her period. Needless to say, we were both happy that she got her period. But, then she texted me the following day saying she no longer had her period. Mentally I was freaking out, looking up pregnancy symptoms, and then sending her links about what a 1-day period could mean. She started to freak too and for the next month she never said anything. She missed February's period and had 1 test several days ago that came up positive. \n\nShe's super upset, stressed, and I am too. I'm mad at myself for allowing this to happen. Her and I do not have the means to raise a kid. She just moved back in with her parents and I live with a family member. Most of my paycheck goes to student loans/debt. One of the first things she said when she broke the news was that she was not having an abortion. I tried discussing with her that we need to be smart about this and that it's not right to go forward with a pregnancy when we cannot even care for ourselves. \n\nI respect that this is her choice, but it's really hard for me to support that choice. I come from a broken home and was raised in chaotic environment. I cannot look in the mirror and say that I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Though I really do not want to see a child come into this world without a father. \n\nHere's the other thing: I also have another girlfriend of 2 years. I know what I am doing is wrong and it's being addressed with my therapist/psychiatrist. A part of me just cannot be honest with either women and it's something that bothers me greatly. I split my emotions with them and at times I feel like all this is not real. Reality is here though and I am not sure what to do. But if I do anything, I want to do what is right.", "summary": "Got GF of 5 months pregnant, but also have another GF of 2 years. They also share the same first name."}
{"id": "t3_3agoug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend [22F] 4 months, I am terrified of getting cheated on.", "post": "Hey :)\n\nI've gotten myself a girlfriend (yay!), it's been cool so far, except for one thing. \n\nI am having major issues trusting her when she is drunk. I met her at a bar myself, we didn't even connect that well, I didn't try to do anything, and 45 minutes later we were in my apartment having sex. The fact that it was so easy felt quite odd, but I spent the next day with her and she turned out to be awesome. \n\nShe fucked a guy she had been with before the day after our 2nd date, and went to my house the same night. I found out 3 weeks later, she starts crying cause she didnt want me to find out - she figured I'd dump her, and she wanted to be with me, it was a drunken mistake bla bla bla. I didnt care much for that at the time, and honestly we've had 4 awesome months so far.\n\nI dont know why, but when she drinks I lose all trust in her! I wanna make this workout, and her friends tells me that she rejects all the guys that approach her. The last 2 years she and her ladyfriends have been partying like mad, once a month they get so drunk you wouldn't believe it - my gf was known for always doing something incredibly slutty. She was in a bad place when I met her due to some family troubles, but they figured it out, and she looks so happy these days. \n\nYet I dread the day she becomes so drunk she can't say no - I know how guys can be when single and horny.", "summary": "GF of 4 months gets insanely wasted once a month, so drunk she almost passes out (I don't even know why they do this...) I trust her, but seeing her that drunk makes me question wether she is always able to say no. Sincerely, Mason."}
{"id": "t3_2rwp0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M/] with my Girlfriend [23 F] of a few months: When is it no longer jealousy?", "post": "I have been dating her for a few months and have been wondering if this type of jealousy is normal and healthy, or if there is something behind why she is like this with me.  We se each other about twice a week... sometimes twice every other week because of distance. \n\n------------------------------------------------------------------\nI have given her no reason to not trust me. Some things she has done of late:  \n\n* Always telling me to behave before I go out with the guys  \n* Asking me who the girl is that is above her on my top 3 snapchat friends (She doesn't really snapchat often, I snapchat a lot)  \n* Misheard me, thinking I said my guy friends name on the phone, I told her I didn't. When I get off the phone and call my classmate back, I have a call from her on call waiting. I answer to her saying \"busted... Night\". get a text shortly after saying Why would you lie to me about that? When i explain to her and ask why she would think I would lie about something like that.. she said I'm exhausted don't have the energy to talk about this.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems untrusting, claims to have all good prior relationships with boyfriends. Is this typical Jealousy, or a bit much?"}
{"id": "t3_37yo3j", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Revealing finances to potential GF (I'm 29, she's 31)", "post": "Have recently met someone I'm head over heels for and it seems promising, though not official yet. There are some potential road blocks, like both of us being on the hunt for new jobs and having apartment leases coming up in the fall. My biggest issue (as you might guess from my username) is that my finances are a mess and I'm considering filing for bankruptcy.\n\nThe troubles are a combination of a disastrous divorce a few years ago and a lot of underemployment while I was putting myself through graduate school (which is now finished). The woman I'm seeing isn't rich, but has a steadier career. While I'm in a position to start rebuilding my finances and think that bankruptcy could give me a fresh start, I'm obviously worried about her reaction.\n\n**When do you think is an appropriate time to bring up details about my financial situation? Is there any way you would suggest framing the conversation to help her understand why I am where I am and what I'm trying to do about it?**\n\nLet me stress: I am not looking to date someone who is going to pay for everything and be sugar momma. It would be great to find a situation where we are at least splitting costs or maybe she is buying food and I can cook for her (which is something I love to do anyway). But I am working on improving my career (see: graduate degree) and hope/expect to contribute fully down the line. \n\nI know it's super early in our relationship, but I don't want her to get worried before I have a chance to show what I can offer that isn't money.", "summary": "I'm broke, but falling for this woman. How do I tell her without ruining the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3jb91z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my [18 F] 4 months, cheated on me. What do I do?", "post": "Hey guys. My girlfriend of 4 months cheated on me. Our relationship was going great, we would talk to each other all day on Skype (long distance relationship) we had a connection when we first started dating, but it seems to be dying down. I don't know what made it go suddenly down hill, but it happened. I love her dearly, I tell her absolutely everything, and I've noticed that she tells little lies occasionally. \n\nI'm trying my hardest to be able to trust her once more, she says it was a mistake and that it'll never happen again, but the age old saying \"once a cheater, always a cheater.\" I'll also be enlisting in the Military fairly soon, this is where it causes me to worry. My question is - should I end it, or try to trust her once again?\n\nSorry if there's not enough information, I'd just like help rather quickly.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me, enlisting in military, should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_2qpznh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I heartless? [M 20]", "post": "There's a breaking news story in my country at the moment where a man killed his wife, 2 daughters by stabbing them and then killed himself. It's a massive talking point in most recent conversations.\n\nI never jump on the band wagon of talking about this stuff. I'm very logically minded and I figure that thousands of people around the world die everyday so why should a few more be such a massive talking point? Yes, I do understand that the circumstances of the death make it stand out but I feel as though people are using it more as a way to start a conversation rather than genuinely mourning for these people. And the people that are talking about it don't even know these people. Tens of thousands of people are \"mourning\" people that they've never met.\n\nI was talking to my parents and they were just saying \"How terrible it was\" and how it was \"Such a tragedy\". I would usually remain silent or just nod in agreement but they asked me what I thought. I just said \"I dunno, I don't really care about it\". They got annoyed at me and asked how I couldn't have any feelings for these poor people and that I should \"Just pretend to have some sympathy\". Why should I pretend? I don't want to do what everyone else is doing. I don't want to feign sympathy for something that I don't really care about. Is this wrong?", "summary": "Am I heartless for not feeling sympathy for a tragic murder of a family who I have never met before?"}
{"id": "t3_17a7hs", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Etiquette for multiple offers and how long I can hold out?", "post": "I'll be graduating in May with a degree in Aerospace Engineering and a minor in Computer Science. I've got a few years work experience in CS, and ideally would like to do CS work in the aerospace sector. I've had a couple interviews with aero companies that seemed to go really well, but I'm waiting to hear back, and have another with a non-aero company for a CS job. It's a good company, and I would enjoy working there, but what's the etiquette if I'm offered a position there before hearing back from somewhere else? How long can I ride that out? I have several resumes out for other companies that should be pretty promising, too, and I'm not sure I want to give up on them if the CS job gives me an offer, but I also don't want to lose that offer. What's the best way to handle this sort of situation?", "summary": "Possibly courting multiple offers, promising lead at a company in a sector outside of my ideal. How do I juggle it?"}
{"id": "t3_333p6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [22 M] be more supportive of my girlfriend [22 F] of ~2 years who is unemployed?", "post": "My girlfriend recently finished college and has been looking for work for about five months now with no success. When she finished she moved back home (~250 miles away) to her parents to reduce expenses. \n\nBeing in a long-distance relationship sucks, but I try to visit as much as I can and talk/skype when possible. She is not in a very good head space due to not having work (and getting rejection letters) and often feels like she can't do anything. She shuts down when I ask her about what she has been up to; it seems to remind her that she's not doing anything constructive with her time. I try to be supportive but I am clearly not going about it the right way, despite helping to write CVs and cover letters and browse job postings.\n\nWhat can I do in a long-distance relationship to be more supportive and try get her out of this funk? She breaks down and says I don't know what it's like, that she's never going to find work, that she's useless etc. I want to be there more than ever, but I don't seem to be helping.", "summary": "Girlfriend is unemployed for 5 months and in a funk, what can I do to help?"}
{"id": "t3_17hftk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Crossing a line with pornography.", "post": "Hey guys. Tonight, like the title suggests I sort of crossed a line which I don't know how to uncross. I've very recently, and rapidly become addicted to a certain random chat site. A little while ago, whilst chatting with someone about shared interests, the conversation took a turn to a certain social taboo. I'll admit, the general tone of the chat was  libidinous, and I tend to lose my good judgement, in such a state. In short, I did not terminate the chat, when the subject arose. In fact, I was soon proffered a link to some material pertaining to this taboo. I followed it. The pictures there were of the kind that, had I been caught looking at them, I would've been arrested, placed on several lists, and vilified by all. After I calmed down, I that I indulged a small part of myself that I never wanted to, and that it might be a scary first step down a hurtful, and ultimately fatal road. I blocked the site as best I could, and I'm trying to resolve never to go back there. I've frightened myself, pretty bad, and I really want to now how to stop it from happening again, and how to excise or resolve these feelings, or at least to impose some good sense on myself, when I'm crazy with lust. Any advice would be welcome.", "summary": "Just looked at illegal porn, while sex mad, need advice to prevent from happening again."}
{"id": "t3_47uzfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (22/m) being stuck in a detrimental relationship pattern and should I change it?", "post": "Okay, so my relationship pattern right now is like this:\n\n- I know a girl I really like but I don't really know her yet, we only meet occasionally\n\n- Due to my feelings toward her, I block and restrain myself from any sorts of romantical activity with other girls\n\nYou can see how this can lead in one way to exhaustion because of a lack of females in my life and on the other hand let's assume, I will get together with this girl, right? Okay, so because I will be so frustrated by the time we get together (not only sexually), it might be too much for her and she will leave.\n\nSo, today a thought crossed my mind. Should I stopped being so stubborn and oh-my-gosh-romantical idealist and just ''spread'' my attention to more females?\n\nI mean, maybe life is better when you have more potential lovers/romantic partners and you can give a little bit of yourself to each of them and so create a healthier relationships. \n\nWhat do you think? \n\nThank you for your answers!", "summary": "Am I having bad relationship pattern?"}
{"id": "t3_yew08", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boyfriend keeps talking about moving to different countries. What do?", "post": "My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) have been dating for two years now, but recently decided to take things slowly so I can work on my independence and depression. However, he keeps talking about how after next year he's going to move to Australia and how amazing the sun is going to be etc etc..\n\nI don't know what to do, because we're not really official anymore and can't talk about our future because it all relies on whether I can sort my shit out. I love him so much and can definitely see myself married to him, but we're working through some rough times and I don't know what to say when he talks about it. I know I'm rambling, but I don't want to lose him..", "summary": "Boyfriend\" (quotations marks 'cos we're taking things slow so I can work on myself) keeps talking about how he's going to move overseas and never mentions me coming or asks what I'm going to do etc.. I feel sad and want to be with him so badly, but I feel left out and worried. He told me he can still see us together in ten years but doesn't mention me coming to Australia with him at all. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1tal3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M17) am in love with my best friend (F17) who doesn't know which guy to pick.", "post": "My best friend and I have known in each since we were 12. We were only friends for a while until the beginning of this year when we dated for about a month. We broke up because we were both extremely busy with different things. \n\nNow I have fallen in love with her. She knows it (because i have told her) but she is caught between 2 people. I do not know the other guy personally but what i do know is that he is pretty goth, extrovert (yes i get the conflict with that), and plays electric guitar for some band. I do not know if he loves her or if she likes him alot (which worries me most). \n\nIve already told her that i love her and what she means to me. It has been a month since she has been presented with the choice and she hasnt picked. I cant imagine being without her, and the waiting is tearing me apart. What do i do?", "summary": "I love my best friend who knows i love her but cant make a choice between 2 people."}
{"id": "t3_3xi1u5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[22M] I want to quit my job, but I'm not sure if I could live with the guilt", "post": "I'm an undergraduate engineering student set to graduate in May, and I've been working as a supervisor in a cafe whenever school is in session for the past 4 years.\n\nThe short version goes like this: I've felt like I have no time for myself, and I only want to work 5-10 hours per week in my last semester at school. CafeBoss has agreed to this, but last semester he also agreed to my request for 10-12 hrs/wk before putting me on about 20. The work is tiring, dirty, and stressful. My girlfriend approached me with a \"minimum 5 hour/week\" office job, and let me know that it is guaranteed. It pays similarly, but instead of being fast-paced and stressful, the people who work there play Netflix in the background.\n\nIt seems like a no-brainer, but CafeBoss is a nice guy who needs help, especially now. We're short-staffed, and he is only allowed to leave the cafe when myself or the other supervisor are there. The other supervisor is a good friend, and most people who work there are too.", "summary": "Should I leave my job of 7 semesters and force my boss to work more for an easier final semester at college?"}
{"id": "t3_1gryfg", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Advice needed: dealing with kids' friends & families", "post": "How do you explain to young kids (ages 4 & 6) that you don't want them to spend time with a particular family?\n\nBackstory:\nMy daughter went to preschool with a little boy and they became very attached.  I set up play dates outside of school and quickly learned that I just didn't mesh well with the mom.  I tried.  It's okay, though. I don't have to be friends with all my kids' friends' parents.  Unfortunately, they were in the same Kindergarten class this last year.  They only saw each other in school and at the occasional birthday party, so it wasn't so bad.\n\nThat's how I met the dad.  Even worse.  He says inappropriate things to me and stares at (and makes comments about) my chest.  I feel really uncomfortable around him.  Plus, I just don't like how they parent.  Their house is gross. They don't set boundaries for their kids. Etc. etc.\n\nWell, now it's summertime and my kids want to play with their school friends.  They want me to setup play dates.  I've brushed it off so far and made suggestions of other friends but they keep bringing up this kid's name and quite honestly, I don't want anything to do with him & his family.  I've always been very careful of what I say around my kids because they're little parrots and I don't want any weird confrontations at school or out & about since we live in the same area and could run into each other.\n\nSo what do I do?  Also, there's no chance our kids will be in the same class next year, so that won't be a problem.", "summary": "How do you deal with your kids' friends whose families you don't like?"}
{"id": "t3_1d6ybm", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Going to St. John, US Virgin Islands this summer. Would like to do something memorable for my SO, who lost someone very close, very recently. Looking for advice for those who know the area!", "post": "My boyfriend, whom I love very much, lost his brother in October. Every year, for nearly a decade (or more), he and his family have stayed in St. John. It's a part of them. If you live there, perhaps you've seen them.\n\nHis brother passed away incredibly suddenly, at the brutal age of 25, just before the holidays. His death was entirely accidental. It nearly broke the family's spirit. I'd like to do something to make them, and my boyfriend, feel like he's a little more here than he is not here.\n\nHere is my quandary: I'd like to ask a local restaurant/bar to name a drink or dish after my boyfriend's brother, and surprise him with it when we stay there this summer. I understand this is a lot to ask... but since this beautiful island (that my SO has now deemed to share with me) has been such a huge part of this family's life for *so long*, I simply had to give it a shot. **I'm willing to front the cost of any changes made, in order to get this drink or dish named after him.**\n\nIf anyone lives in St. John, or knows someone who does, I'd be infinitely grateful to be assisted in my mission. This man's life, personality, and spirit embodies the feeling and aesthetic of the Caribbean. If I could make this happen, I know it would mean a lot. PM me with questions or info!", "summary": "SO's brother passed away unexpectedly just before the holidays. They've been to St. John every year for over a decade. I'd like to pay a local business to name an item (drink? dish?) after his brother. I know it would mean a lot to his family."}
{"id": "t3_bj5e5", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "How on earth do I cook turkey sausages?", "post": "I started them in a ceramic coated pan with some diced onion and a bit of olive oil on low heat. After about 25 minutes they were browned on all sides, but when I cut one in half, it was still relatively pink in the middle. I let them cook for another 15 minutes and cut a second one. Still totally pink. I left them for another 20 minutes or so, turning occasionally, before I got fed up and chopped them into 1/2\" to 1\" pieces, and turned them all on their ends. This browned the ends, but after 20 minutes of this, they were still pink inside. I finally chopped them into little tiny bits and now I am eating the bits. The whole process took over an hour. What did I do wrong?", "summary": "How do I cook turkey sausages evenly without searing the outside and leaving them raw in the middle?"}
{"id": "t3_2wmrt9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cashing in my Club Nintendo Points", "post": "This is nowhere near as bad as the awful shit that I usually see around here, but I just need to vent.\n\nSo as many of you might have known, Club Nintendo is shutting down, and everyone's scrambling to cash in their points for something worthwhile, myself included. I haven't really been using my codes up until Mario Kart 8 came out with that offer for a free Wii game if you register it. Anyway, I cashed in all of the games I could find with redeemable codes, and soon was swimming in coins.\n\nNow, something else you might not know is that Club Nintendo has been down for about a week or more for maintenance, something that annoyed me to no end, so much so that I went straight to cashing my coins before it went under again. I remembered the games they were offering were just either some shitty eShop game or some virtual consoles that I wasn't interested in, so, without hesitation, I decided on getting that sick new Majora's Mask message bag, almost depleting my load of coins.\n\nI guess it was the annoyance of the incredibly long maintenance period, but it never clicked in my brain that they could have added some things to the rewards shop during that time.\n\nAfter placing my order, I noticed I still had a small amount of coins left, so I decided I would see if I could waste the rest of them on a virtual console or something, so I looked into the rewards. Staring back at me was The Wonderful 101, prime and ready for buying at a mere 600 coins. I have a little under 200 now.", "summary": "I spent all my Club Nintendo coins on a bag that I'll receive in 2-5 months, when I could have been basking in sweet Platinum Games bliss this very minute."}
{"id": "t3_wgfsa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(16/f) interested in (16/m) but he has a girlfriend. (Tl;dr at bottom)", "post": "So I met him through a mutual friend. At this time he was dating another girl but things weren't going well and she ended up breaking up with him a few weeks later. Her and I are now friends, and I also don't want to hurt her. Fast forward two weeks after the breakup with girl 1 and he's with his ex girlfriend (girl 2), now for about 2-3 weeks. He and girl 2 dated over a year, she took his virginity, and she cheated on him twice. He knew about it, they fought, but stayed together for a little longer, until he finally broke up with her. girl 2 is rude, sleeps around, and doesn't love him. She uses him for money and doesn't let him talk to/hang out with anyone else, not even other males. She is more beautiful than I am, but he seems to like me and I'm not way out of his range. I really do like him, he's honestly the nicest person I've met. I don't want to sit around and wait for him to break up with girl 2, I don't want to hurt girl 1, and I don't want to push him. I've been single for about five months now, my ex and I broke up on good terms, it just wasn't working out.", "summary": "He was with one girl, they broke up and now he's back with his cheating/lying ex. I want him to see me as more than a friend and realize that getting back with his ex was a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_ev13a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one deal with 3 of your friends having a threesome in your livingroom on New Year's Eve while you sit in the kitchen alone?", "post": "New Year's Eve this year I had to stay home and take care of my son so I had a couple friends over. Two of said friends drank a bit much and started going at it, which is kind of whatever. They were just making out, and it was weird, but we just moved the part to the kitchen. Some people leave and eventually, another friend joins in on the making out. I hadn't drank that much that evening due to child care, so I went in the kitchen, poured a glass of Scotch and thought they would leave to someone's apartment once things started getting crazy. But, alas, when I walk back into the livingroom after sipping my drink, there are no clothes on any of them and they are on my floor - they don't even notice me walk in. \n\nThis is totally fucked up, and the evening ended by me going into the livingroom, yelling to get the fuck out of my house. One friend was staying with me since he was visiting, and I put all his shit in the hallway of my apartment for him to pick up. This was a gross disrespect for my house.  I realize the humour in this, but still feel offended. The other two friends I told to go to hell and expressed my anger that evening. Is it weird that I am this angry about what happened? I really don't want to talk to any of them again. Should I make some repercussions over this? A prank or fuck you of some kind?\n\nCue jokes about joining in.", "summary": "New Year's Eve, close friends have threesome in my house, should I be this pissed off about it?"}
{"id": "t3_16xoo2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what would you do if you fell in like with your gay best friend?", "post": "My gay best friend and I have mutual emotional attraction towards each other. He is sexually aroused by men, although he is repulsed by the idea of him being a participant in sexual activities with another male (he is unsure if this is socially constructed or if it is his true feelings towards it). He finds both men and women attractive (he still loses his train of thought when he sees large jugs and he crushes on other males) and he is emotionally attracted to me. He said he's been wanting to kiss me for a while now, and I do too. A big part of me is stubborn and still want to give \"us\" a shot, but I'm afraid that I'm only digging myself a hole. My best friend hasn't completely figured out his sexuality, so it's quite confusing. Any word of advice or thoughts to clear my mind?", "summary": "My gay best friend and I have mutual feelings towards each other."}
{"id": "t3_4o4ew5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] would like to ask out my Professor [41 (?) M]. Is this ethical and allowed?", "post": "hi guys. I just want to make this short and sweet. I'm hoping to get advice on this situation so that I can act accordingly and not get myself or my professor in any trouble:\n\nI just graduated in early June from college. I met my professor in my sophomore year. Everything was strictly platonic of course, I did not make a move, I studied hard in his class, and did very well. However, As time progressed I began to develop feelings for him.\n\nI have kept my feelings to myself for 2 years, now, out of respect for his job and for myself. I took other classes outside of his department and I did not make it obvious that I have feelings for him.\n\nAs a recent graduate, I'm taking one more class with Professor just as a precursor to grad school this fall. I will not be attending the same university for grad school that I have for undergrad. \n\nI would like to ask him out for coffee once this class is over (I will be fully non-affiliated with the school and no longer under his tutelage). He is a very kind-hearted, intelligent, and handsome man. I do not want to miss out on the opportunity, if it is there.\n\nWould it be unethical or a violation of some sorts to ask this man out once my class with him is over?\n\nIf it's fine to ask him out, what would be an appropriate way to do so? What should I say?", "summary": "I just graduated earlier this month and I'm taking a class post graduation to prepare myself for grad school this fall. Is it okay to ask my professor out once the class is over?"}
{"id": "t3_1fw4p7", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Should I just start over at a different Comm. College?", "post": "Long story short. I'm about to be 27 in two months, moving to Portland next year, and have a long, crappy transcript in Florida due to severely screwing up fresh out of high school (at both local CCs). I was given the blunt truth that I could definitely transfer to UF, however it'll be rough for transferring into the science college within UF. I'm not sure how long the move to Portland will be for, if I do come back at all, and am leaving that open. Also, I have only 3 semesters worth of credits, all non-english/math/bio/chem\n\nThat being said: with a 2.1'ish GPA, a huge amount of withdraws (all of which count against receiving the Pell Grant, which is crucial for continuing to be able to afford college, and won't be eligible any time soon), and moving to a fresh city... would it just make more sense to start over as a new student and just transfer my high school transcript over, while omitting my college transcript?\n\nI know several people who have done this and it's worked out well for them. Their second time around, as mature adults, has accomplished some awesome grades (as I'm accomplishing right now in summer semester, all B's and A's currently). So it seems like it'd be a really good choice to make. However, I just don't have that many friends who have gone through this situation, so hopefully there are some people on here who could give their thoughts on the situation.", "summary": "I majorly fucked up right out of high school and am ineligible for Pell Grant due to the sheer amount of withdraws, crap GPA (until now, getting A's and B's), and am moving across the country later this year or early next year. Should I just transfer my high school transcript to the new community college and start all over? I have about 3 semesters worth of credits, all non-english/math/bio/chem."}
{"id": "t3_2m2i8h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend [20M] is a very nice guy and due to this does not want to be rude when ex-girlfriend [19F] contacts him and it bothers me [18F] terribly.", "post": "First and foremost, I see all texts and have complete trust in my boyfriend. We have been dating for four years and have never had problems with cheating or dishonesty, but still having the ex-girlfriend linger is just frustrating.\nShe seems to think they are the best of friends and instead of talking to her own boyfriend or friends she needs to FaceTime my boyfriend! He is such a sweetheart and does not want to be rude and just shut her out as she had a very rough childhood and had told him about a lot of it so he feels obligated to be a shoulder to cry on. It bothers me and I'm not sure how to handle it, I don't want to be the crazy girlfriend but this is something I've tried and failed to get used to.", "summary": "ex-girlfriend of my SO still stays in contact, he doesn't care for her but feels too bad to tell her to lay off, bothers me but not sure how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_zdcbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Heart is unable to decide between SO or someone else.", "post": "Context. \n\n4 years, during my freshmen year, I dated a girl, lets call her P, for about 3 months, and because we were freshmen and silly, it was a pretty shitty relationship, we got along well, but it didn't mean much when we were freshmen. She broke up with me and I never really heard much of it after that. She was my first gf, and I never got over her.  \n\nFast forward to my senior year. I met a girl in in the fall call her C, and we have been dating since. Things are very serious with C, and we are currently in a Long Distance since she is in college, which has been going very well. \n\nHowever, during the time I have been dating C, I started talking with P again, just as friends. C was fine with it, and nothing really happened. \nEver since C went to college, I have been much more lonely, and started to hang out with P in groups. Then we started hanging out just together and that's where the problems started. \n\nP and I talked about how we both have had thoughts about cheating on our current significant others with each-other. Now don't get me wrong, I completely love C, and I want to marry her. But there is a part of me that can't get over P, and how well I get along with her so well. P and I are currently not talking as we feel this may get rid of some feelings we have for each-other, but I still feel attached to her. \n\nDoes anyone have any advice? Is it that wrong of us to feel that way? We really don't know what to do.\n\nWe are all 18", "summary": "In serious relationship, start having feelings for two girls. wat do"}
{"id": "t3_2j03mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 20f boyfriend 22m only says he loves me and that I'm beautiful during sex.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have a very good sex life. We're very happy in our relationship spend a lot of time together and are from the same friendship group. He is very loving and does a lot for me. We were best friends for a year before hand, been together 7 months. \n\nI don't know if I should be concerned and I do think I may just be being a bit neurotic, but he only tells me really lovingly the he loves me 'so much' and that I'm 'so incredibly hot' during sex and never otherwise. He says a lot 'I love you, I love you so much' when we're having sex or during sex but doesn't any other time. I wonder if because we have sex usually more than once a day (we both have very high sex drives before hand), not having sex every day is rare and if we don't it's only if we are too busy to see each other that day. \n\nMy issue is I'm not sure if the professions of love are because I'm having sex with him and he's really loving having sex with me so much. I worry that although he does a lot for me and is supportive that it might be driven by sex and how often we have it. \n\nI'm probably being crazy but can anyone give me advice? Help me figure out if I'm crazy or if what I'm saying makes sense?", "summary": "My boyfriend only really tells me he loves me during sex, we have sex very frequently not sure if he is with me and does so much for me because of that."}
{"id": "t3_2c40iu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "When I said no girls are allowed, I meant it!", "post": "It hurts when you become good friends with someone to have them think that breaking the rules is okay behavior.\n\nI have 3 room-mates who share my condo home with me. One rule was that no girls are allowed inside of our home. I told them that they can stay at hotels, go to the girls home, or be outside of our door in the hall-way.  \n\nWhen you break that rule, I will get mad. Not because I have anything against her, but because it is a rule which you agreed to. Why break it right before the end of the month? Now you have this week to pack everything up and find a place to stay. Not only that, you lost us as your buddies.", "summary": "Fuck rules, no fuck you!"}
{"id": "t3_2y1xjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my gf [16 F] of 3 months she was sick for 4 weeks and now i dont know what to do", "post": "My gf had Mononucleosis and we didnt see each other for a month and things have changed in our relationship.\nLately she doesnt talk to me or anybody i think and shes starting school in monday and she doesnt want me to come over until then, she \nsaid she wants to talk about us and things, she said she changed, and she said that we are okey and she doesnt want to break up and i dont know where im at right now and feel like shit.\nI adore this girl and i dont want our relationship to end please help i dont know how to aproach her when we see eachother.", "summary": "gf was sick we didnt see eachother shes anoyed now and doesnt talk to anyone she wants to talk about us when we see eachother and mentioned that she doesnt want to break up"}
{"id": "t3_268rma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] got a text from crush [17F] and need advice #2 [Update]", "post": "Make sure to read the original thread [here](\n\nThought I might as well post an update as I answered her at last and need more opinions what I should do.  \nI'm translating everything by hand from my native language so everything might not turn out as it original state.\n\n---\n\n-Apparently she had seen me on the bus or something-\n\n---\n\n**Her:** Seeing you today made me realize how mad I am on you. Have a good life.  \n\n**Me:** I'm Sorry, I just couldn't stay friends except how hard I tried, so this was my last option.  \n\n**Her:** So that you were in love with me was not only a bad excuse for not wanting to talk to me? It hurted, that's for sure.  \n\n**Me:** Absolutely not, and I'm sorry if I made you believe it was your fault.  \n\n**Her:** It's okay, It was just your fault.\n\n---\n\nAfter that I didn't really know what to say anymore and didn't look like she wanted to continue talking to me.  \n\nI then talked to one of my friends that attend at the same school as her and we started talking about it and she told me that after that conversation between me and crush had occurred in the morning she couldn't stop talking about it at lunch saying that I was being ridiculous and didn't understand why I couldn't talk to her.  \n\n---\n\nAnd I don't know what I should do, follow /u/huplescal22's advice or just ignore her?\n\nBecause if I will ignore her and continue trying to move on at least I want to ask her why she texted me, because otherwise I would just continue thinking about it and not being able to move on like I did before.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Got a text from crush saying that by seeing me she realized how mad she was at me because I earlier told her I liked her and that I would prefer that she did not text me to be able to move on. I answered her text and now need help with what to do."}
{"id": "t3_40eb2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] My girlfriend of 3 years [21 F] is forcing me to get back with my emotional and abusive parents, and if I don't, she doesn't want anything to do with me until I fix it.", "post": "Hello reddit, I have a problem in my life. My girlfriend is forcing me for me to get back with my parents whom I strongly dislike. I felt super happy without them, and I felt like they were the source of my unhappyness. Ever since I told my gf about me not talking to them anymore for 5 months, she wants me to \"fix\" it. She's always giving me advice on how to fix my relationship with my parents and now she doesnt want to do anything with me if I don't fix it. I haven't talked to my parents in 7 months, and I felt super happy ever since I stopped talking to them.\n\ni don't feel happy anymore because I feel corned by my gf. I feel blackmailed and forced to do something, and if I don't, she doesn't want anything to do with me until I fix it. \n\nI said my feelings and everything on how I feel forced and cornered.\n\nWhat do I do reddit. Ever since my girlfriend is forcing me and I would even say blackmailing me, I feel really unhappy what shes doing.", "summary": "Girlfriend is forcing me to fix my relationship with my parents, and if I don't , she doesn't want anything to do with me."}
{"id": "t3_3qks0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure If I'm (26M) Emotionally Stunted or if She's (25F) Not Right for Me", "post": "I've been with my current girlfriend for just over 18 months and the relationship just isn't making me happy. She's attractive, caring and would do almost anything for me but it doesn't feel like it's enough.\n\nPrior to this relationship I was with a girl that I loved more than I thought possible, and when she ended things I was a mess. I think I've always suffered from depressive periods but since this they've been far worse. \n\nI don't feel even close to this way about my current girlfriend even though she aligns almost exactly to what I thought I wanted. \n\nI guess the question I need help answering is: do I feel this way because of a combination of depression and an emotional barrier I built after my last break up, or is she just not right for me?\n\nI'd really appreciate any advice from people that may have been through similar experiences. I don't want to break up and then, after working on my issues, realise that I've made a huge mistake.", "summary": "Unsure if I'm emotionally broken or she's not the right girl for me. "}
{"id": "t3_1vvy10", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [22 M] 5 months, limited time together, wondering how to keep it exciting and make the most of the time we do have!", "post": "My boyfriend works long hours Mon-Sat (630AM-7PM usually) at a labour-intensive job and so he goes to bed pretty early during the week (usually by 9). He'll sleep at mine about half the time but even so, we only have 2 hours or so to hang out because he has to go home, shower, and then we have to commute a bit to meet each other (we're in a large city and about half an hour apart). Also, I work until 3PM on Sundays. So we really don't see each other as often as we'd like to and when we do hang out it tends to be similar activities all the time (either going for a beer and food somewhere, chilling at my place watching shows, or going out to play pool or to the movies). I'm at school all day and so we often don't even have that much to talk about because our days are always the same. Reddit - I'm looking for creative and inexpensive ideas to keep things different and a bit more exciting. It'd be nice to surprise him with something nice every once in a while because he's got a pretty rough job and just seems tired all the time. Any ideas?", "summary": "Not enough time to hang out, similar activities every day (me=school, him=work), need ideas to keep things exciting on a budget and only a couple of hours in the evenings."}
{"id": "t3_4ui625", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Wife of almost 3 years [26 F] arguing about my sister", "post": "My wife is not getting along with my sister. Like, she is really so bad that she thinks I am putting her second fiddle because I defend her.\n\nLet me explain: my sister (22) is out of an abusive relationship for about 7 months and has a 4 year old daughter. I helped my sister get a job where I work (customer service) and my wife works part time as an adult care assistant. This means between at home and work, I spend a lot of time with sis.\n\nApparently, thats strike one.\n\nAlso, my wife and I go to church a lot. Faith has really helped us through a lot recently: my grandpa died a few weeks ago, my grandmother from the other side of the family got beat up by an adult with special needs at work, my stepdad shot himself in the hand... the works.\n\nWell, my sister reacts differently to this kind of stress. She just wants to stay home and play with her little girl. Reasonable, right?\n\nNope. My wife is pressuring my sis hard to go to church when we promised her we wouldn't when we moved in. I step in to defend my sister from the extra burden of something she cant handle:\n\nStrike two.\n\nMy sister is learning to drive. My car will die if you cut the wheel too hard while idling, making it less than ideal to take a driving test in. My wife wont help my sister use her car to parallel park and learn to drive, but pressures her and me about getting her lisence. Again, I try to be reasonable...\n\nStrike three.\n\nSo last night, my wife comes to me and we talk for hours about this, and then tells me if things do not change, itll come down to me choosing between my wife and sister and that she would leave me over this. I am so confused, because I was sure the Christian thing to do would be to help my sister and support her through this, not make demands and refuse to help.\n\nI don't know what to do. I love my wife, but we are talking about family... not to mention all the selfishness I deal with from my wife.", "summary": "Wife thinks I have to choose between her or family. How do I keep them both?"}
{"id": "t3_3c1x3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [35M] of 3 years has suddenly begun to sound exactly like my ex, same tone of voice and all", "post": "I haven't seen my ex, Dane, for 4 years, and we haven't had any contact whatsoever. One weekend I'm visiting my parents and my mom lets slip that he's married now, with a baby, and I get curious and decide to look him up on facebook. I find out all kinds of horrible things about him (abusive wife, homeless, sick baby, no hair) and I regret ever looking him up in the first place.\n\nThat night, my current boyfriend, Jay, gives me a call, and wouldn't you know it, he drops the *exact* same not-so-common catchphrase, in the same tone of voice, that Dane used to use when he'd call me. They sounded so eerily similar that I can't even respond for a bit, half of my brain is thinking Dane somehow got my new number and called me up. Throughout the conversation I'm completely distracted by the fact that Dane's voice would suddenly crop up and drop another phrase--and it did, several times. And Jay and Dane *do not* inherently sound alike.\n\nI try to ignore it, but after a week of this I can't stand it anymore and I ask Jay if he's noticed that he's begun to talk differently. He says no, but I swear to god he *did not* used to sound like that. Jay and Dane don't know each other, they've never met, and Dane doesn't have an internet presence or a particularly distinctive voice (no goofy accent that Jay would unwittingly put on to be funny). I don't know how this could happen or what to do about it, every time I talk to Jay it's getting clearer, it's gotten to the point where I've started putting off calling him just to avoid that fucking stupid voice he's begun to make. It enrages me. How am I supposed to deal with this? Has anyone else gone through this?", "summary": "My current boyfriend Jay has begun to sound like my ex boyfriend Dane and I have no idea what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1jdaa1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[31M] and [24F] GF of 8 months. She keeps her options open with meeting new guys. Is it normal to have backups while in a committed relationship? Should I break up with her?", "post": "My girlfiend and I hit it off right away 8 months ago and we can't get enough of each other ever since. We're perfect for each other except for one issue, and the only time we've ever argued was over this issue. My GF is very pretty, and guys hit on her daily, at the gas station, on the street, at work, etc. She's also very friendly and approachable and will chat with anyone. \n\nDespite being in a monogomous relationship with me, she thinks it's okay to talk to and go on a date with a guy. Of course she doesn't think about it like a date, so she tells me. It's just hanging out with \"a friend\". But really she just met him somewhere recently, only had some occasional email or facebook chats with him, barely knows him, and she'll go have a 1-1 dinner date with him without me. It's obvious to me the guy is single and seeking more than friendship with her. \n\nThere was 1 guy she met across the country that facebooks her, and she invited to visit her when he came to town. Another doctor guy from hawaii, that she met here that she talked to online for a bit and then had lunch with him one day. There's been other things like this. To me it's pretty much keeping like she's keeping one foot in the dating scene, while being in a relationship with me, so that she can entertain some other better prospects. \n\nShould I be okay with this? Should I be doing the same? Going on dates with \"friends\" who I may want to get to know better, who might be a better option for me relationship wise if things go sour with my current GF?", "summary": "GF keeping other guy options around. She's isn't cheating on me, but I still feel like it's disrespectful and a prelude to cheating and too close to infidelity. Is keeping options okay as long as you don't actually cheat? Or should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2tik77", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting that we installed in home security cameras with remove viewing. I come home for lunch.", "post": "Well. I have a dog and when we got our new security system we had an extra camera so we put it inside so we could have fun and see what our crazy dog does all day. This can be monitored online or from an app. \n\nAnyway, my wife and co workers were excited to watch the dog and see what he does, as we've come home to him having built a fort of sorts out of couch pillows and a couple if light blankets we have on the couches. \n\nToday I decided to have some alone time during lunch as I have many times before. After the deed was done I checked my phone and saw a text from my wife. Being the first day the cameras were on, her and a few employees were excited to see the dog and gathered as she logged in during their lunch. \n\nWell, they logged into a live feed of me jerking it on the couch... She said she closed it as fast as possible and said nothing. People just walked away and no one has said a word. I feel a little bad for her.", "summary": "got caught jerking off live on camera by my wife and her co workers."}
{"id": "t3_260en7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] need to leave my abusive ex [25M].", "post": "We started our relationship last October, but it quickly turned to shit. What was supposed to be a carefree relationship became forceful, angry, and sometimes abusive. There have been many occasions of him forcing himself on me, yelling at me and making me scared by putting his hands around my neck, etc. \n\nBut when he's not angry or aggravated he's actually the most intelligent person I've ever met. He's also very empathetic and calm. It's just when I set him off he would really, **really** blow up. \n\nI finally made up my mind and left him a little over two months ago, but he's recently been trying to get back into my life. I couldn't resist. I've started seeing him and sleeping with him again. I always insist on using protection, but he constantly tries to manipulate me into letting him enter me without one. Sometimes he tries to pry my legs open. \n\nThe last straw was when I found some child pornography on his computer. It was frightening, and I couldn't understand how somebody could be this cruel. I'm disgusted with myself for being with somebody like this. \n\nHere's the catch: it's not easy for me to leave him because I don't have many friends. I don't have friends at all. He is my **only** friend. My worsening anxiety and depression has caused my friends to withdraw from me, so I can't get any external support. None from my family, either- it is already dysfunctional. \n\nBasically the main things I need help with are my conflicting feelings regarding this person and myself- I feel disgusted with him for being a rapist and watching/enjoying child porn, but I also hate myself for having such deep feelings for someone like this. \n\nSecondly is leaving him behind myself, because I don't have friends and I don't plan on getting any external help. I need to really, **really** leave him myself.", "summary": "My feelings for my sexually and physically abusive ex boyfriend are preventing me from leaving him, and are starting to cause me to deeply resent myself. "}
{"id": "t3_2xz5tg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex girlfriend [18 F] 1 and half months, personal doubts and unknowing cheating", "post": "Im in a really weird situation at the moment. I've been with a few girls at different times, and every one has used me thus far. I've been living with depression ever since my second ex who had also been through a lot. It got even worse when my mother passed away in august, and was put through a lot of stress that day. I've lived with it ever since. \n\nAround December, i started seeing a girl whom i ended up losing contact with in the middle of the relationship, and thought i had ended it. Little did i know i didn't. Middle of January, i met this girl (the one i mentioned in the title) and things went great between us until February, when she lost contact because of her parents (she snuck on every so often to see me) and i found out that through what i could only assume to be a drunken text saying that she was driving under the influence that ended up being just rushed, and broke up with her the first time because of the worrying and depression i was having because of it.\n\nI started seeing massive red flags in the relationship once we got back together and today found out i was still in a relationship with that girl from December. I broke up with my current girlfriend because of doubts and past relationships.", "summary": "I've been living with depression for a year now, broken up with my girlfriend over trust issues, and found out i was unknowingly cheating on her with another girl who was looking for me and feel terrible about it"}
{"id": "t3_1n2o7g", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Getting a car with bad/ no credit.", "post": "I'm 23(F), my husband is 24(M), we've been married a month and we are a pretty low income household, our AGI is around $19,000. My husband has never had a credit card, or rented an apartment on his own until we got married. The only regular payment he's ever made is his phone bill. A year ago he tried getting a car, went to a few places and they said he needed a co-signer. \nI, on the other hand, have bad credit, I got an F on my credit score, mainly because of unpaid speeding tickets from when I was a stupid teenager and student loans. I just got a secured card through my bank since that's the only card I qualified for. \nRight now we have a '99 Isuzu rodeo that's about to die on us and we're needing to buy a car. \nWe've been to a couple dealerships and carmax (which was the most helpful in giving us an education on realistic expectations for ourselves). \nMy question is, what are our options, we can't really wait to get a car, the area we live in has horrible public transportation, and we want a car that can last a little while. \nIs it okay to be shopping around and getting our credit checked? Should we just go to a local auction or craigslist and get a crappy car we can pay cash for?\nShould I try getting my credit run for a car? (We've only been using my husbands info).\nWe're first time buyers and although my husband knows a lot about cars, we don't know a lot about going about buying one. \nSeriously, we're hopeless right now.", "summary": "How do I buy a car with no money and bad credit?"}
{"id": "t3_44n3ht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] don't trust my boyfriend [27 M] of 2.5 years?", "post": "My boyfriend works a lot. Lately, it's been worse, with us meeting up only once a week despite living close. I find that I am slowly losing trust. I don't suspect that he is cheating or anything like that, but I just worry that I am not a priority to him, and the more time goes on with nothing changing, despite talking to him about it, the less I trust him.\n\nI know I should be supportive of his career and I try. When we discuss this he tries to reassure me of his feelings and that he is doing the best he can to spend time with me. When we are together, he is sweet and loving, but lately this trust issue has gotten so bad that I don't even believe him, and he gets offended when I tell him that. How can I deal with this?", "summary": "I am losing trust for my boyfriend, only because he's busy all the time."}
{"id": "t3_4pbndd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Male 19, never had a long-term relationship because I break things off. How can I change?", "post": "So I'm a few months out of another relationship. The girl was great. Beautiful, kind, sweet, a bit naive and lacked a sense of adventure though. It was the longest relationship I have ever been in, lasting 7 months. The sad thing is, I felt at the beginning that she was the one for me, and I now feel like I've let something great die, but towards the end of our relationship I was certain that we were too different to work. \n\nThis is a too-familiar pattern for me. I've done some thinking, and I think that these breakups are my fault, and not the fault of my partner. It always goes the same: 3 months of great chemistry, about 2 months of familiarity and inkling fears of things not working and finding out things about my partner that I think might not work well with me, and then 2-3 months of thinking of life beyond the relationship, drying up conversation, being uncomfortable in their presence, avoiding talking, and then a breakup. \n\nHow can I change? How do I stop from getting into the phase where I get bored or think I'm incompatible with my partner?\n\nConversely, how do I know if my feelings are justified or if I'm just a bad partner?", "summary": "I want to stop getting bored and breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_28pvrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24f) know if he(24m) has no intentions of being with me?", "post": "We've had many ups and downs over the last year. We only dated for a couple months before he cheated. I forgave him and since then we've just been friends....with benefits. Except the benefits part isn't always so beneficial to me, because the more time I spend around him the more I like him and the more it seems like he doesn't care. \n\nWe work together, so I'm around him all the time. Except for the fact I don't consider working together spending time together. I think he might see things differently. I finally told him how I felt, which is that he's using me and doesn't really want to be in my life. Just wants the best of both worlds. He said he didn't realize I felt that way and wants to spend more time with me and work on it. We hugged and kissed and it never felt more genuine in my life. It's all I want.\n\nI'm stuck because he's got this hold on me. I don't know if its cause I'm just a sucker for assholes, or if its because I want to know how things could be if I wait just a bit longer. My friends all tell me to move on... I've tried for the last year, and its literally impossible for me at this time. Maybe I just don't want to. Whatever the reason, my friends are probably sick of hearing about it, so I've turned to you guys. I'd really appreciate commentary on similar situations or any advice. Feel free to AMA on the matter! xx", "summary": "I want my ex back"}
{"id": "t3_1f5ax5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "27(m) too afraid to ask 23(f) if she wants to go out sometime.", "post": "About a month ago I starting going to this local deli for lunch and I saw this girl there that caught my eye.  I am a shy guy, so I didn't say much the first time I met her.  We have had some small talk going, but nothing major.  Well, the other day I got into a nice conversation with her and learned a few things about her.\n\nThe scenario was quite interesting, I went into the deli before they closed and it was pretty quite.  There was a couple in line before me so I figured I would go use the washroom quickly, I came out and the girl and her manager were laughing about something.  They explained the woman from the couple seemed a little jealous of her boyfriend being a regular to the deli... most likely because the girl ringing him up is pretty.\n\nThe manager quipped \"Never bring your girlfriend here, she might get jealous, too.\"  I said I was single and the girl replied \"That's good, relationships are a headache.\"  This gave me an opportunity to indirectly ask if she was single, to which she pretty much said yes.  She then pretty much seemed to say she was looking as did the manager, who happens to be her best friend.  I failed to ask that day.\n\nI went back in a few days later expecting to feel comfortable enough to ask her.. but I froze up.. even though we both know a good amount about each other now, I still could not bring myself to do it.\n\nIs waiting this long to ask a girl out a bad thing.. or should I just relax and take my time and ask her when I really feel comfortable?  Perhaps get to know a bit more about her... like interests... so perhaps I have a good idea for a date.", "summary": "Shy guy here having trouble asking a girl out from a local deli.  Is taking my time a bad idea or not?"}
{"id": "t3_3iuzpp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Leaving a high paying, unfulfilling job in tech for a lower paying job in the industry that I love. Feeling scared and need advice.", "post": "Hi folks, \n\nI've been incredibly unhappy at my current job in tech making well over six figures. The job is soul-sucking at best, but I make really good money. Waking up every day to go to work is a challenge. People think that I'm lucky to work at one of the top ten best places to work. \n\nRecently, I've started thinking about the things I want in life and they include a house and a return to working in the industry that I love.\n\nI have a job offer in a place I love (Austin, Texas) working in the industry that I love...but I'm very worried about the pay as it is substantially lower than what I make now. All of my life my career has taken me to higher salaries and a part of me feels that this is a step back in terms of progression.\n\nI've done the math, and it is financially possible, but it means that my credit card debt will be paid off slower if I stick to a strict budget. \n\nI have other six figure+ job offers with big companies in the industry that I love, but not in the place that I love (Austin). \n\nI'm worried that I'm making a stupid financial decision as I'm essentially taking a 30-35% paycut in salary...but the thought of living in Austin and working in the industry I've loved makes me incredibly happy.\n\n**Have any of you had to make a similar choice like this before? How did it turn out? Any Advice?", "summary": "passion over money?"}
{"id": "t3_3lyope", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I was laid off 2 weeks ago. Now they are begging me to come back. Am I being reasonable with my conditions?", "post": "Hello, PF. I will lay out my situation as succinctly as I am able.\n\nNot too long I was laid off from my part time job. I am a stay-at-home mom and I do phone work in the mornings for extra income. I was told that they valued me as an employee but were restructuring after losing the CEO of the company. \nWell, I guess the restructuring didn't go as planned. Since yesterday afternoon I have gotten 2 voicemails and an e-mail asking me if I would be willing to accept my old position back. I spoke with the woman who would be my new supervisor today (if I accept the position) and they said they want to increase my hours (by just 1 hour per day) and have changed a couple of the rules of my job. Nothing I can't deal with. She said my clients that I dealt with spoke highly of me and were not happy with my dismissal. (May be useful to note: I do not generate any income for the company, I am more 'customer service' oriented in my position.)\n\nSo, my question is this: Am I out of line to ask for a (small) raise upon my return? I have been working for this company for 15 months and have obviously proven my value to them. I was making minimum wage and would like to make $1 more (I live in a state with a high minimum wage). I do not need the extra income but it was nice to have in order to accelerate my financial goals. If this is reasonable, what sort of wording would be appropriate when requesting the increase? I want to be tactful and not rub anyone the wrong way.", "summary": "Considering accepting my old position back contingent upon a small raise. How to ask my new supervisor for this appropriately?"}
{"id": "t3_3yx0qm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] Is my [19F] girlfriend over her ex?", "post": "I  have been in a relationship with this girl for three months. After a string of terrible relationships, she's the girl I've always wanted. She's smart, she's beautiful, she's hilarious, but there's one thing. I'm not sure if it's just my insecurities, but I don't think she's completely moved on from her ex. We have talked about it before and she says she is done with him and never going back. Their relationship was about 8 months ago and she dated one other guy before me.\n\n  As for social media and communication, they aren't friends on Facebook and aren't in contact with each other. She told me she still cares about him, but only if he was in trouble. A few days ago, she had a sexual dream about him and she woke up crying. We were listening to a song by one of her favorite artists in the car a while back and she says \"(ex's name) said this song reminds him of me.\" Then she started crying silently and I didn't really know what to do. One day when we were facetiming, she was going through a box of old notebooks and she found one where her and her ex were writing notes to each other. She ended up keeping it for some reason. Lastly, she tells a lot of stories about him. She says he was emotionally abusive, but being the idiot I am, I looked back at their pictures and saw her smile. I feel like she looked happier with him than me, but she tells me she cares about me more than anyone else. \n\n  I'm not sure if I'm being too secure or paranoid, but it's eating me alive. I really care about this girl a lot, and it feels like she cares about me for the most part, but I don't want to end up feeling used. I really think if I could get over this one thing, I could end up with this girl for a very long time. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Girlfriend of three months might not be over her ex"}
{"id": "t3_i2ffj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For the Greater Good... What morally ambiguous or downright reprehensible things did you do, big or small, for the greater good?", "post": "Sort of inspired by [this comment] or not) and my own situation.\n\nTo get things started...\n\nI was recently thrown into a situation where it became quite apparent to my family and me that an older relative was being taken by a dating scam.  Everyone knew it, it was just too obvious, but we had no hard evidence to prove it to him.  This relative has no job, no home, and sends nearly every penny of his unemployment check to these scammers.  He sold off all of his things, the last being his laptop as they convinced him they would be traveling to the US to see him soon.  I know, it's clearly a scam, it sounds preposterous and you all know it, but we just could not convince him.  \n\nSo what did I do for the greater good?  I put a keylogger on the desktop he was using in order to get his email passwords, and I went in to get the photos of this \"woman\" (turned out to be [Raven Riley]  Their whole correspondence was sad and disgusting, spanning the past year and probably thousands upon thousands of dollars lost. \n\n I felt a bit dirty snooping like that.  Just now I wrote him an anonymous email pointing out everything fake about this situation, with links to sites talking about the scam, the porn star's website, others who got taken by people using the same photos, and so fourth.  Hopefully he comes to his senses and we can be done with this, and his life will turn around before it's too late.", "summary": "Put a keylogger on family member's computer to get his email password so I could sift through personal emails to gather evidence that he was being scammed"}
{"id": "t3_2w6np1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16 F] sister got into my [19 F] Facebook account and read my messages to my SO. I need advice. [Non-Romantic]", "post": "After much strife and emotional abuse, I disowned and went no contact with my parents (mom and stepdad) back in September. I put up a 7 page letter, publicly disowning and outing them for the things they had done to me on both of my FB accounts (I have two accounts: one for my family and one for my friends). I expected some sort of retaliation, but... not like this. \n\nThe day after I posted it up, I got a call from a family member saying, that someone from my old family was in my FB account. I didn't know *how* they got in, but I locked them out afterwards, and set up *all* the security measures I could, on all of my accounts.\n\nSo, come a few months later, my sister visits me, and I've already assumed it's my biological mother. I get to talking with her and she goes out and *admits* it, proudly, too. She just \"wanted to see what was going on\".\n\nAt first, I felt relief, because it wasn't my biological mother. However, now that the relief is gone, I feel betrayed. Not only did my sister have to know what email I was using, she also had to figure out my 15 character password, which included numbers.\n\nShould I cut off ties with her, or should I just brush it off and forgive her? I'm honestly at a loss.", "summary": "My sister hacked into my account, read my messages and acted like it was nothing. Advice needed as to whether to forgive her or go no contact with her as well."}
{"id": "t3_4gj638", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my boyfriend [33M] duration, 3years, I want to move, he wants to stay. Is there any hope?", "post": "I moved to our current location a little over 3 years ago, I quickly met my boyfriend and we've been together ever since. I have always been honest that I do not plan to stay where we are permanently. He is from here and is very close with his family. \n\nRecently I've become increasingly unhappy here, my job opportunities are incredibly limited and unsatisfying, it's a rural area with predominantly older people, the area is not very safe (large heroine problem).\n\nI had begun to talk with my boyfriend about moving, he was understandably nervous but seemed to be onboard, until last night....he broke down and admitted he wasn't going to move but was hoping I would decide to stay.\n\nI don't know what to do, I love him but I am miserable here. Has anyone been in this position before?", "summary": "I am miserable where I live but boyfriend won't leave. Stay for love or move for happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_1ng8ft", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How do I accept that I might not run in my first marathon due to injury a bit more graciously?", "post": "Hey runnit, \n\nI started running about 2 years ago and ran my first 5K almost a year and a half ago. At New Years, I started training for my first half marathon, caught the crazy bug and decided to run a full. I've been training since June and have had a few setbacks, but overall been able to stay on schedule until now. For the past couple weeks, I've had some bad calf pain. Massage helps it a little until I try running on it again. I made a mistake and pushed through 18 miles with it and now it feels even worse, unsurprisingly. My marathon is November 10th, and I'm realizing now that even if I took 2 weeks off to rest it, I wouldn't be able to get my mileage up for the marathon in time and would risk hurting myself even more. I really don't want this to turn into a chronic injury situation. It's a charity race, so there aren't any deferments or refunds, and it would cost me an extra $50 just to switch down to the half. \n\nI have a few friends that are also running the marathon and originally signed up to run it because of me. I plan on going and supporting them, but it's really hard to not be bitter. I've worked so hard and have come so far, and I really wanted this for myself. I know there will always be more marathons, but I'm having surgery at the end of November for something unrelated to running and will be put out for a couple more months until I can get back up to speed. \n\nI guess overall I'm just looking for advice on how to take this easier, be easier on myself, and still support and encourage my friends without coming off as bitter or angry? Any other advice about the situation?", "summary": "Injured, most likely won't be able to run my first marathon. Feeling bitter/upset about it, but still want to support my friends. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_3mxss2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17M] tell my girlfriend [19F] of 3 weeks, I love her?", "post": "As a bit of background into our relationship. We have only been together 3 weeks. We've liked each other for months and have talked practically non stop for about 2 months, and before that it was every other day. \n\nWe know a lot about each other, and I'm pretty sure I love her. It's almost slipped out three times. I kind of feel like she might be trying to get me to say it, she will say things like \"I like you a LOT\" and \"I really really like you\" at the same time though I know that she might very well just be saying that she likes me a lot, but not quite loves me.\n\nShe means a lot to me and I really don't want to screw things up. Oh and this isn't my first relationship, just thought I should add that", "summary": "Not sure if my girlfriend is hinting for me to say \"I love you\" or not"}
{"id": "t3_4k7952", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me", "post": "We are in a distance relationship of two years by now and we do watch porn seperately or together or do just the skype fun BUT i simply cant have him watch women masturbate solo. I don't like the image of him jerking off to a woman that is masturbating on her own. Maybe it is because its the only thing that he can do with me, so why look at another girl who basically fakes it anyway? It feels to intimate to me because he is focusing on one girl, not two or more people having fun.\n\nHe of course doesn't understand my standpoint AT ALL and thinks that i am unreasonable. To him it makes no difference if he watches two girls or one. He even laughed at me sayin: shall i pause a porn as soon as she touches herself?\nHe also says that he isn't looking at anyone specific, he has no favorite porn star. \n\nWhat do you guys think? Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "I can't have my Boyfriend watch one girl masturbate on porn because this feels too intimate compared to two people having sex (or more)"}
{"id": "t3_2s724n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex boyfriend [26 M] 7 months, I broke up with him and am now regretting it", "post": "I dated a wonderful man last year for about 7 months. I broke up with him, I am now realizing, because of a previous relationship. This isn't so much about that, I'm working on that aspect of myself. I'm just in so much pain right now because of my regret. \n\nI broke up with him about August last year, and we remained friends after that even though I could tell he was not over me. We talked a couple of times about why we broke up, and when I realized that I broke up with him because of a past relationship, and how, without that past relationship I would still be with him, it killed me. It broke my heart.\n\nHe is now dating someone else. I know he is still getting over me. I talked to him about my feelings yesterday and he essentially told me he was trying to move on and I should too. I just don't want to. \n\nI could spend the rest of my life with this man and be so happy, the regret I'm feeling is overwhelming. I can't even constructively, objectively use it to see what issues I have myself to work on, it hurts so much. Especially because I did it to myself, this was a mistake I made. How do you get over regret like this? What kind of steps can I take to alleviate this pain?", "summary": "Broke up with a man, regretting it immensely. Can't figure out how to get over that regret and hurt."}
{"id": "t3_35cjqt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a party and getting burnt, literally [nsfw?]", "post": "TIFU by going to a stupid party. -- This happened a couple of days ago. So one of my friends was having a party and invited me to come . Day of the party, I head up there. Upon arrival, the setup is in the backyard and has a bonfire in a 44 gallon drum and people sitting around it, whatever. Greet my friends and sit down, just as intoxicated host appears from the garage and holding a bottle of some sort, I don't think much of it. For some reason, host thinks it a good idea to pour fucking mineral turpentine into the fire to \"get it going\" (as told to us later)? Unaware to everyone else, he begins pouring, which results in the fire jumping up the liquid to the bottle. Host proceeds to freak out, and jerks his hand back (holding the turpentine bottle) causing flaming liquid to cover my entire left leg. I jump up, with my life flashing before my eyes, and to the disbelief of everyone around me (half of which I had never met before), take my pants off, as I thought they were on fire. Fire is quickly put out in seconds, though it felt like minutes, leaving me in disbelief and smelling like burnt human hair. Freaking out, me and fellow friends go to the bathroom, where I sit for almost an hour in freezing water watching my leg shed skin away like a snake and big blisters to form as I wait for the ambulance. Couple of days later, I get out of hospital with second and third degree burns spanning over my poor leg and the only thing I can now do is sit with my leg up and play the ps4. fuck. -- Can post pictures of whats left of my leg if anyone really cares.", "summary": "my friend is stupid, fires aren't fun, my username is now kinda relevant  "}
{"id": "t3_1k1737", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Anyone want to discuss Gone With The Wind with me?", "post": "My girlfriend and I suggested books for each other. I chose \"Dune\" for her, obviously. And she chose \"Gone with the Wind\" for me. I have waited a while to post this to see if my feelings changed, which they haven't, so I'm looking for someone to agree or tell me I am stupid.\n\nAfter finishing this book, I honestly think it is the \"great American novel\". As a reader, I try to consume as many of the classics as I do modern books. I had low expectations for this 1000+ pages because of all the hype about the movie(which ive never seen). But I was pleasantly surprised. I was amazed at how well Margaret Mitchell was able to develop her characters and make you feel so many emotions about them. I think it was brave of her to make the protagonist such a selfish, spiteful, entitled asshole most of the time. While making her such a determined, independent badass the rest. I think Rhett is a wonderful counterpoint. And the fact that she filled every inch of that book with gripping story impressed me.\n\nI know its not perfect. There were some clich\u00e9s that bugged me a bit. It was definitely written in a style without flair and surely intended to be accessible to all readers. The ending wounded me a bit. And some characters I wanted more or less of. But as a whole, I think it is a brilliant piece of writing. I will definitely recommend it to others.", "summary": "Is Gone With the Wind good enough to be considered one of the greatest American novels. Did you enjoy it? Thoughts of any kind?"}
{"id": "t3_2tj8zk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Endless questions.", "post": "I was on the bus and this gal was sitting with me and we would talk while taking the 14 mile trip back home. The seats can take three but its a bit uncomfortable but the bus can get crowded. It's the regular county bus not a school bus. \n\nAt the last stop before going up the hill this guy gets on and indicates he wants to sit but he suddenly shifts and shoves his fat ass down *between* us! I was not happy. \n\nSo I made this goofy face and kept it there and in the most annoying slobbery voice ala dumb and dumber I could make I loudly and slowly asked him annoying questions for about half an hour slowly enunciating every syllable to painful duration. It went something like this.\n\nHiiiiiee My Name's Elmo!!! what's your name?\nI'm George!!\n\nDo you know Jen-ney? No, Do you know Matt? No.\nOk I do yard work. Do you need yard work done? I do good yard work! No I don't need yard work.\n\nDo any of your friends need yard work? No!\nHave you asked them if they need yard work? No!\n\nHow do you know they don't need yard work if you haven't asked them? Are you sure they don't need yard work?\n\nThe guy was clearly not enjoying himself but there were no other seats nearby and passengers must remain seated while the bus is moving.\n\nAfter he got off we laughed about the ordeal I put him through.  I don't remember him seeing him on the bus again but I figured he learned his lesson.", "summary": "Be rude on the bus? Do you realize you just sat next to Dopey Dumber?"}
{"id": "t3_36l3wa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [16/F] interrested by a guy [18?/M] which I never have talk to and I don't know how to approach him", "post": "Six days ago I went to the grocery (I mean \"d\u00e9panneur\", but I don't know the english equivalent for it) at 1 am. I found the cashier really cute and as a person who can easily detect the emotions of other people, I think it was reciprocal. \n\nSo I went every night since but he only was there yesterday. I knew it was him because I recognized his car. I tried to get in there, but it was locked and I saw no one so I walked away. One minute later, I stopped and asked myself if I should return there or not. Then I saw someone going out of the shop. I walked around for about five minutes, stared at him (he was smoking) the two times I walked in front of the grocery then returned to my house. There was nobody else in the streets at this hour. I was too nervous to talk to him but it will be logical if he was suspecting something.\n\nIf I return and he's there, should I try something? If yes, what? Should I leave a note on his car and if yes, what should I write on? I really don't want to lose this opportunity, if it's one.", "summary": "I have a crush on a stranger and I don't know what should I do to approach him."}
{"id": "t3_xswxg", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Suggestions for my mother", "post": "Hello r/books,\n\nFirst I want to thank everyone for the awesome subreddit as well as the amazing book suggestions. I can honestly say this sub has renewed my passion for reading. My mother's birthday is coming up and I was hoping you all could give me some good suggestions of books to buy her, as we both love to read and often share books with each other. Not too long ago I gave her my copy of Life of Pi to read and she absolutely loved it. Give me something along the same lines as that, something with a strong moral message along with adventure, hardship, positivity, and spirituality. I'm slowly getting her into controversial themes (theism vs atheism, love vs death, meaning vs nothingness) as well, so maybe something with that in it but not too extreme, thanks in advance!", "summary": "give me suggestions for my mother's birthday please, she loved Life of Pi."}
{"id": "t3_sv2ue", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If a group of scientists started a sheltered society of modern day man, what do you think would happen?", "post": "Okay Reddit, say a group of scientists started a social experiment where they took babies given up at birth by parents and raised them in a sheltered environment out in nature. No clothes, no language, no religion, no weapons, nothing more than absolute bare necessities to assure survival of the children. Medical intervention would only be used to suppress modern day illnesses passed down to children during the transition into primal life/through genetics. If any factor started to show that a child did have a hereditary illness great enough they would be removed from the experiment as an oddity that would taint experiment results. \n\nSo, what do you think would happen and why? (Would they develop language, science, religion, discover sex, war, etc.)", "summary": "scientists take children raise them with as little interaction as possible and create a non-influenced civilization of humans. What would happen?"}
{"id": "t3_4gna21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/20] like and older successful guy [M/26] and am worried the age difference is scaring him off although I am very mature.", "post": "I like this guy who is 6 years older than me and I feel that he is worried about the age difference. I am much more mature, independent and educated than many women his age but I think he does not want to pursue a relationship since I am so much younger than him and people may think it is weird. \n\nI don't know if I should make a move and find out if he likes me of if I should let him pursue me. I don't want him to feel uncomfortable but I also really care about him and think we really connect. The worst part is that we work in the same office so I don't want to make it feel awkward. I also feel insecure because he is very successful and I realize he could probably date anyone he wants.", "summary": "I [F/20] like older successful guy [M/26] and worry he won't pursue me because of age difference. I also feel insecure because I realize he could probably date anyone he wants."}
{"id": "t3_4h7md7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am not sure how to act around her [20 F] anymore", "post": "I'm part of a group of people who have the same ideologies and the same kind of personalities. Fun, professional, weird (in a good way), etc. I care about people and I get really close to those who are very dear to me. \n\nThis time, I started to develop those feelings in a greater way and I grew very found of someone who I work with in that group. I'm always there for her and vice versa, we talk, we enjoy each other's company and I feel comfortable around her. She makes me feel that kind of happy feeling I haven't felt in a long, long time.\n\nThe problem (besides working with her) is: I guess she doesn't feel the same way AND, because of some vague post in social media, I guess she's already interested in/dating someone. But I can't be sure about that, I just can hope it isn't true.\n\nI know that probably you are gonna tell me to go talk to her, but I can't do that. I can't because I'm not capable and I can't because I'm too afraid of what her reaction would be and how it would affect our relationship. \n\nBut as this uncertainty grows, I start to get a little downhearted and every time I'm with her she notices that I'm blue. I don't know how to act around her anymore, I'm having trouble to be the same person I was in her presence, because I realize that I'm going to have to spend a lot of time with her at work, loving the way she is, knowing that I'm never gonna get this relationship any further. \nPlease help me, I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "I'm in love with a friend with whom I work and I don't know how to act around her anymore. Not sure if she has boyfriend either. I feel down."}
{"id": "t3_n5f75", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to know what the standard commission is for a large solar project to tell whether or not my company is screwing me.", "post": "The solar company I work for is offering me $5,000 per megawatt for projects I could potentially bring in, with solar systems the company normally deals with are from 0.5-3.0 megawatts with some being bigger.  I could potentially bring a deal that is about 10 megawatts, which is a HUGE project. Like MASSIVE.  I don't know how much a potential sale for something so big would bring into the company and Im wary about their track record for treating employees, so I don't want to be taken advantage of because of my inexperience in the industry seeing as how Im still in college and young.\n\nAll the other research I have done gives a percentage of 5-10% of the total sale as commission, but I don't know how that conversion works here since I don't know what the total sale of something like this would be although Im expecting it to be at least a million.", "summary": "I work for a solar company that would be offering me a commission of $5000/Megawatt.  I want to know if that is fair or really low. I heard from one person it is $10,000 a megawatt.  I want to know what is fair."}
{"id": "t3_y3q3a", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need help - our dog is screaming bloody murder while we're away", "post": "My boyfriend and I adopted a puppy about 6 months ago - he's now 9 months old. Unfortunately, he literally screams like he's being burned to death when we're not home. He doesn't start for awhile - I've waited outside after closing the door for a few minutes and he's quiet - but when we get home from work, we can hear him whining from parking lot outside, and we live on the **third floor**. \n\nNormally I wouldn't care, but the neighbors have complained several times. We know to just ignore the noise until he stops, so he doesn't associate his screaming with us getting home. The issue is that he knows he has to be quiet in order to get out of his crate, so he stops as soon as he hears us on the stairs or, if we sneak up, as soon as we unlock the door. He'll even voluntarily go in his crate sometimes to sleep, so I don't think he hates it in there. \n\nI think he's associated his whining with us *coming home*, though at least not with him getting out of his crate. I'm not sure what to do! Sit outside in the parking lot until he stops, while the neighbors get more bent out of shape?", "summary": "Dog whines loud enough to make neighbors complain while we're away, but can't catch him in the act to discourage the behavior."}
{"id": "t3_eaczx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what's the nicest thing someone has done for you lately?", "post": "I've been wanting a kitten for quite a while now, but haven't been able to work up the nerve to do it or to be able to pay for all the initial supplies (litter box, food dish, etc.) as it can be costly to get the whole shebang set up. This weekend I found out that my cousin had two kittens he was giving away and my boyfriend encouraged me to go for it and offered to loan me the money to get everything set up! I now have two adorable kittens (I didn't have the heart to only take one of them when I saw them as they were, and still are, totally inseparable) to play with and love and I couldn't be happier!", "summary": "My awesome boyfriend encouraged me to finally get kittens after I had been wanting them for a long time and offered to loan me the money to get it all set up for them! "}
{"id": "t3_23hroe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26/f just cant seem to shake the thoughts", "post": "My ex and I have been broken up for 7 months and no matter what I do everything still reminds me of him. I have had so many amazing things happen to me over the past 7 months but everyone I share them with is so blah with their response. No one gets excited like he did. \n\nIt is so hard losing your best friend, someone who cared about you so much and cared so much about your happiness. I've done everything I can to let go but I can't. \n\nHow are you dealing with your break up? what are you doing to occupy your mind?\n\n(I start writing things like this and then my dog does something funny. She just jumped into a laundry basket full of clothes and now cant get out)\n\nI've been focusing a lot on my dog, my job, all of my friends, going to therapy, hiking, helping my grandma, helping my dad. I feel like I need to run away from this area for awhile. Go some where that doesn't remind me of him.", "summary": "I miss my ex and im not sure what else i can do to get my mind off of him."}
{"id": "t3_mu8vu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When do I give up on a dream/career?", "post": "I am at a crossroads in my life.  I spent my entire high school and college life using my dream job as my motivation for working hard.  I took classes that weren't required by my major, spent time doing extracurricular activities, and spent would-be leisure time studying hard with the hopes that good grades would help me along the path to what I perceive to be my ideal career.\n\nI graduated this year, and the culmination of all my hard work thus far is mediocrity.  My grades are average, my extracurricular activities are nothing special, and I have a two years worth of job experience in the food services industry.  In order to have the job that I want to I need to continue my education with graduate school, but with middle of the road grades, getting in is not likely.  \n\nI am pretty much your standard, early-twenties, raised in suburbia, Caucasian male.  I would even go as far as to say that up until a year or two ago I had an inflated sense of self worth - specifically I was smarter and worked harder than most people.\n\nMy question is: When do I give up? When do I accept that what I want just won't happen? Statistics (admission criteria) seem to say that the time is now.  I don't want to give up, but I don't know if I can afford wasting these valuable years I have now chasing a pipe-dream, when I could be investing my time other ways, such as gaining work-experience in a more common field/career.  \n\nIf the time to accept the reality of my life is now, how do I deal with the disappointment of, frankly, not being good enough (or perhaps not working hard enough)? Furthermore, what do I use to motivate myself now?", "summary": "I am for the first time realizing that I am just a normal guy. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_32eo0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/19] stupid Tinder situation pissed me off.", "post": "So I use Tinder pretty regularly at my college, and I was browsing it earlier, as usual. I came across this girl I find *really* attractive in one of my classes, and I matched with her! I couldn't believe it. I messaged her, basically saying \"hey, aren't you in my Bio class?\" And I received no response.\n\n2 hours later I check my phone again and I see she unmatched me. Now I go to a pretty small college, so I pretty much know who she is. Also, we share a class together and have a ton of mutual friends on facebook. I just feel like it was pretty ruthless of her to do that--the least she could have said was that she accidentally swiped left on me and that she wasn't interested. It's just really kind of getting under my skin the more I think about it.\n\nI kind of wanted to send her a private message on facebook, just to say that I was kind of hurt by what she did. I don't really know what that will accomplish, but I kind of want her to realize she acted like a dick. Would this be too creepy? Should I just forget about it?", "summary": "Matched with classmate on tinder, tried to talk to her, she unmatched me. Should I send her a message saying she acted like an ass or should I try to put the situation behind me?"}
{"id": "t3_17wrz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if the internet is the key to our bright future?", "post": "I've been writing an essay about the culture trends of the digital age, including social media, texting, the internet, etc. and it made me think about something; **What if the internet is the key to our bright future?** Humanity's bright future. Everyday, the internet brings people together, yeah theres alot of bad on there, but its the only thing I've ever seen that can bridge the gaps between race, gender, country, etc. Think about how much harder it would be for two developed countries to go too war when the citizens of both countries can still freely communicate with each other. (assuming the citizens, like most people, aren't actually concerned with wanting to kill each other) What if this connectivity helps us build the global society that the United Nations has failed to do? Our ideas are already flowing freely among each other. **Take a second to think about the absolutely amazing fact that we can, all of us, access the vast majority of all the information ever recorded by mankind.**\n\nI couldn't clearly articulate exactly what I wanted to say, but you get the general point.\n\nAlso I'm not sure where to put this, so if anyone can point me there, that would be helpful!", "summary": "Because of the connectivity the internet gives us, it will lead to a brighter future"}
{"id": "t3_wnst3", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Looking for tips warming up for race day", "post": "Hello fellow runners! Just to give a little background I have been training for the Chicago Marathon on Hal Higdon's Advanced 1 plan. Currently I am doing about 40 miles a week with my long runs being about a 9:20 pace, my marathon pace runs being about 8:25 - 8:35 (my goal is to finish in 3:45).\n\nMy current marathon time is 4:10 which does not qualify for a starting corral at Chicago, so I just signed up for a nearby half marathon in 3 weeks which is perfect for two reasons. First, it falls on my running schedule as the exact week I should run a half marathon as a race. Secondly, this gives me a chance to qualify for a Chicago starting corral.\n\nI just ran the Peachtree Road Race 10k on July 4th in 48 minutes (a friend gave me a number) so I feel fairly comfortable running 8 minute miles and recently did a 7.25 mile pace run at 8:25 pace.\n\nI need to get a 1:50:59 (8:27 pace) during this half to qualify for Chicago Corral D. I have never really run for time in anything and always run for fun, but now I do actually care about being in in Corral D at Chicago and finishing that marathon in 3:45.\n\nSince time is of the essence in this race, I need to start strong and finish just as strong if not stronger. On marathons or other races I will just start, go slow for the first mile or two to loosen up, then open the flood gates. I don't want to do that for this race and want to feel comfortable right from the start to lock into my 8:25 pace and just go that the whole way.\n\nWhat do you recommend for warming up for this? Jog a mile before the race starts? Just do lunges and some active stretching? Any tips would be helpful. Obviously I have read a lot and am aware of what some people do (strides, lunges, warmups, etc) I was just hoping for a little bit of personal advice from my fellow redditors with you having some information about my current running regime.", "summary": "Needs tips for warming up prior to running my half marathon in 3 weeks so I can qualify for a starting Corral at Chicago. I need 1:50:59"}
{"id": "t3_13kvvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [17M] known a girl [17F] for little time, but I want to have a serious relationship. Don't know what to do.", "post": "Basically, we're no more than simple teens that got to know eachother in a anime event two weeks ago. We kind of connected, and we're kind of going out now, even tho she doesn't want to use that word. It seems like we're \"in love\" (maybe using that word lightly) with eachother, and I don't want it to just be another stupid teen relationship. \n\nWe've both got experience with LDR relationships, and she had a year long physical relationship, while I have had zero. We're yet getting to know eachother, asking questions without fear and just conversating about certain topics. This Friday we'll go out for the third time, because she lives a little far away from the city. Also, since we met around 12 days ago, we talk around 3 hours everyday when we finish our \"study duties\" at night.\n\nAny advice? Maybe I shouldn't take it so seriously, but I'm scared of the volubility that relationships tend to have at this age, and I want to deal with it in the healthiest way. We both want to have a serious relationship, and we're taking a slow pace regarding physical contact. Try not to sugarcoat it, I know that love at this age tends to be a joke.", "summary": "Teenager doesn't want to fuck up or have a shitty relationship like other fellow teenagers. What to do."}
{"id": "t3_36nz9p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I talk to a girl I don't know?", "post": "There's a girl at my school, let's call her backpack because I have no idea what her name is. \n\nI would stand outside the door waiting for my bus and she would stand outside them too and look at the door a lot, and I thought she would glance at me while doing so. After a few weeks of that happening, I decided I wanted to find out if she was actually glancing at me or just waiting for someone. I ended up finding that she was looking at me pretending to look at the door.\n\nNow I've seen her a lot since and I've been wanting to talk to her ever since I found out but I have really really low self confidence and a low self image since my ex, she abused me, lied and cheated on me and then promptly dumped me and started dating the guy she cheated on me with.\n\nI have no idea how to talk to this girl. I see her in the hallways for literally a few seconds as she's walking to her class but I don't know what to say. \n\nWhat I thought about doing was is she usually is alone by herself at the buses, and I thought about going up to her and saying \n\"I saw you were standing by yourself, I thought I'd come over and keep you company - my name is ineedgirladvice, what's yours?\"\nWe have no friend connection with each other, no classes, nothing. I've told myself that I was going to do it everyday that I see her, but like I said my self image is horrible and every time I'm about to my brain decides to go \"You're ugly and disgusting, there are better people out there.\" I've been diagnosed with severe bipolar depression and it's really hurting me a lot trying to talk to her.", "summary": "How do I talk to a girl that MAY like me but I have no idea who she is - we have no classes together, no mutual friends, we're not even in the same building together."}
{"id": "t3_4bdx83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] dating for 3 months, found out I am not his type", "post": "I met this wonderful guy and we seem to get along quite well we are very similar in the things we like and our interests and we are both really into sports. \n\nSexually everything was going great until he casually told me about the kind of girls he likes (I inquired too much). He likes petite girls with \"nice boobs and ass\", large hazel eyes and straight brown hair. He said he finds that type to be very hot. I am a very tall blonde girl with virtually no boobs or ass at all (always been self conscious about that so it adds to the insecurity.) I always thought of myself to be moderately attractive and had the same insecurities as the average girl but now I feel a lot more insecure. \n\nI feel like he is with me because of all the other stuff we have in common and because we're a good match on every aspect aside from the physical stuff. I am very attracted to him physicallly but I am worried he doesn't feel the same way especially since all his exes fit his physical type. Could he possibly be with me without being attracted to me? Personality is really important in a relationship and all but I also want to be desired physically by him", "summary": "my boyfriend limes a physical type completely different to mine. I am worried he might only be dating me for my personality"}
{"id": "t3_480m27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (15M) was wondering if she (15F) is interested in me", "post": "So I've known this girl (let's call her Liz) for about 3 years. Recently I've noticed that Liz has been giving me a little more attention I guess. We don't have any classes together so I only see her on the bus, where we actually met, and before and after school. Whenever I'm on the bus Liz always seems super happy to see me and always wants to sit next to me. Then when she sits down she asks how I'm doing and if I'm going to swim practice. I respond, ask her how she's doing, and so on (she laughs at my jokes and stuff a lot too.) After we have been taking for a bit she gets really close to me. She leans on me and her face is up on mine. I know that physical contact is a sign of someone being interested, but I'm not sure if she's just thinks of me as a friend. We get off the bus, walk together to the school and join our group of mutual friends. It's pretty much the same routine on the bus ride home, except she says goodbye. Is Liz interested in me? I have very little experience so I would be glad to listen to any advice you guys have.", "summary": "Girl showing signs of affection, (Lots of physical contact, happy to see me, likes to talk to me) is she interested?"}
{"id": "t3_3qqtyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [35F] just found out my BF [23M] has been lying to me for 3 years about his virginity", "post": "My BF and I have been together off and on for 3 years. Our relationship has been entirely long distance, due to various circumstances. When we first met online, we discussed our dating histories, and he made it seem like he was fairly experienced. He later told me he had only had sex with a couple of girls and had a blowjob from another. \n\nNow, three years later, I have finally bought a plane ticket and booked a hotel room to come see him this December, and last night he informed me that he has been lying to me all these years and he is actually a virgin. He has pecked one girl on the mouth, and that is the extent of his experience with women. \n\nI don't know what to do. The virginity itself isn't an issue, or at least it isn't much of one. But the lie is killing me. It's one he referred to and referenced and built on over and over all this time, embellishing and reinforcing it every time it came up. I have been sexual with him despite obviously never having physical sex with him, and I feel like I would have done things differently in that area if I had known. I feel stupid for never seeing through his lies, and angry at him for maintaining it so long. He wants to move forward as though nothing has changed, because for him nothing has. What do I do now?", "summary": "My long distance boyfriend of 3 years lied about being sexually experienced, and he has told me the truth only now when I have purchased a plane ticket to come see him."}
{"id": "t3_1hnla8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/24] just spent a great week with my gf [F/20] of 2 months and now she's \"thinking of her ex\"", "post": "My gf spent the week at my place and we had a great time. This morning she was acting weird and decided to go home because she was feeling homesick and texts me on the way back that she's thinking about her ex again. \n\nThis is honestly the first girl I've liked in a very long while and I care about her. I have literally no idea how to respond to her texts. She says it's unfair and things are going really well between us but the thought of him popped into her head and she's confused or whatever. Standard stuff I guess.\n\nRight now I'm giving her the silent treatment, but only because I don't know how to respond. I want to resolve this (even if it means breaking up) but I don't know how. Do I give her space to think about it, do I convince her I'm the right one for her?", "summary": "Things going really well with gf of 2 months, now she's randomly thinking about her ex. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1ppc4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] bf [24M] is upset that I read erotic stories when I masturbate instead of just looking at pictures of him.", "post": "My bf and have been in a LDR for a few months now and he's great, everything I want in a guy. But we had a fight recently that I am really not sure what to make of. \n\nBasically we were talking about what turns us on and which celebrities we find attractive when it came up that I like reading erotic stories online. He asked me if I still read them and when I said yes, he told me that was weird. Him calling something that turns me on weird really made me feel like shit, I wouldn't do something like that to him. So, I asked him how it was weird and explained that him saying that was hurtful. After a few minutes, he admits that he's just upset because me reading erotic stories instead of looking at the dirty pictures he sends me upsets him. He said that all he needs to do to get off is look at the dirty pictures I have sent him and its hurtful that I need more. Apparently it made him feel unattractive.\n\nThe thing that really bothers me about all of this is that when we first started the long distance part of our relationship, we had phone sex all the time. We sent each other dirty pictures everyday, sent detailed texts describing what we wanted to do to each other, and tried to make sure we got off together as much as possible. In the last month he's apparently been too busy. We have had phone sex once, and that was only because I begged him to do it. He NEVER sends me dirty pictures anymore, even though I still send him plenty. And when I tell him I'm turned on he kind of just blows it off instead of asking how he can help get me off like he used to. \n\nThe point is, if he hadn't changed so drastically I wouldn't need to read the stories to get off but as things stand now I cant just look at pictures of his dick and get off without anything else to think about. I just don't know how to approach this. I know his ego is bruised and he's convinced I don't find him sexy.", "summary": "Boyfriend is bothered that I need erotic stories to get off occasionally. I wouldn't need them if our \"sex life\" hadn't changed. Not sure how to approach this without it seeming like I blame him or don't find him sexy."}
{"id": "t3_2oypmq", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Nipples....", "post": "Hey guys!!\nI think I got your atention from the title right? he he, well... actually it is about my nipples. I have taken up jogging as a hobbie and as a way of getting fit. I love it, I get to see new places(in other wise I would have just drove by real quick or not even look at in the first place), explore the city where I live but best of all I get to meet new women everyday(I'm a man btw). But lately I have to say that I'm getting a bit pissed off that my nipples get really really sore after kilometer 8(I normally do 16 every 2 days). I've been told either I should shave my chest and use some patches(thats a big no no for me, call me old fashioned but a MAN has chest hair, sorry) or that its the cloth of the tshirts I use, that I should use cotton and not poliester. So I search the market and find there are alot of choices and I was wondering what your opinion is on what is best for a running tshirt that wont work up my nipples like as if I were breast feeding.", "summary": "Nipples get sore after 8km jog, what should I search for that not to happen."}
{"id": "t3_4xcesp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my online friend [?? M] 2 months, his Instagram geotags show where he lives and I'm worried.", "post": "Hey Reddit. This is my first ever post to this sub, and honestly I'm quite conflicted.\n\nSo as a bit of backstory, I've only known this guy for a few months. He lives in a big European city and he travels a lot too, so he posts from a whole bunch of different places. He doesn't use geotags all the time, but I'd say it's used pretty often.\n\nI only learned about the photo map feature a few days ago and was interested to see where these places that he'd visited were. I noticed that the majority of his pictures were taken in one specific area of the city. I zoomed in a bit and discovered that these particular pictures were all taken at his house. So now I know where he lives...\n\nWhich freaked me out because I didn't want to know this information.\n\nMy question to you guys is: what on earth do I do about this? My immediate reaction is to tell him, but I don't want him to think I've been stalking him. I've only known him for a little while and I don't want this to make things weird.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Instagram is creepy af, found out online friends address by accident. What do."}
{"id": "t3_yhcq5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Letting a girl know I am interested even though shes taken atm, how to do it properly?", "post": "Theres this girl at my internship who I've been going out to dinner with a lot recently.  A lot of people from the office asked me if we're dating, but she has a bf.  I definitely got a vibe that we were both interested in eachother.  Shes going back home next week and we planned to meet for dinner one last time because she lives about 2 hours away.  I'm planning on saying this \"I really like you and I want to pursue a relationship with you.  I know that your in one right now, but when thats over, let me know.\"  She recently complained about her bf is getting needy and wants to be around her too much. So I'm pretty sure they won't last.  What do you guys think of my last statement to her.  Since she lives 2 hours away I probably wont see her again unless she wants to date.  So this statement is very important to me.", "summary": "Girl is taken, I want to let her know I'm interested and put the ball in her court."}
{"id": "t3_1khvnx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26F] boyfriend [31M] wrote and recently performed a heart felt song about how bad his ex made him feel. Why did it make me feel so bad?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year. He is in a band and he recently performed a new song of his for the first time at their last show about a week ago. The song is clearly about his ex-gf. They dated for 8 years and she cheated on him and left. \n\nI understand that everyone has their own journey to become who they are today. Our relationship is fantastic and I know he cares about me a lot. But, while singing the song, I could see that he's still feeling some of the pain of his past relationship. I know that their break up was really hard on him and I was the first girl he dated seriously after her (1.5 years after their breakup). \n\nFor whatever reason, this has me feeling insecure. Maybe like she's the one that got away or something. Should I ask him about it or just understand that it's the way that he, as a musician, copes with someone disappointing him in the past?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "My boyfriend wrote and sang an emotional song about how bad his cheating ex gf hurt him in front of a live audience. They broke up 2.5 years ago and we've been dating for the past year - should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2vkzts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33/F] husband [34/M] cheated. The woman says it was sexual assault. I will see him for the first time tomorrow with a counselor.", "post": "We got married about a year ago. We had been in a LDR for about 2 years. I moved out of the country with my two teenage children to be with him. We have had issues but we started going to counseling and were planning on continuing. \n\nHe went out of town at the beginning of January for training. We stayed in contact but he was getting more and more distant. He only ever talked to me about his training and the conversations were always short.\n\nHe mentioned to one of  my friends that he was coming home earlier and they told me. When I questioned him, he said he was coming home the next day and he would talk to me about why we he got back. I insisted on knowing what was going on. He said that he cheated on me and that \"she is calling rape.\" I was shocked. I cried and called him a motherfucker and hung up.\n\nLater that night, I called him again. I told him what I was thinking. How I was devastated that he did this. How this is going to affect my children. He said he would do anything to keep us in his life.\nHe sent me a voice message saying that they were hanging out together in a group and drinking. Then everyone went back to his room to play video games. The she went to sleep on his bed. Then everyone left and aid down to go to sleep beside her. She started kissing and touching him. He reciprocated and they had sex.\nWe haven't talked since. His employer put an automatic non-contact order in place.\n\nI will see him tomorrow for the first time. We will be sitting down with a counselor. I don't even know what to say.\nEven if he is innocent of rape, he still cheated. Instead of working on our relationship, he slept with someone else.\nI don't know what to expect or what to do tomorrow at the counseling session.", "summary": "My husband cheated and s being investigated for sexual assault. I'll see him tomorrow with a counselor."}
{"id": "t3_4r0chu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my husband [31M] of 8 years I cheated he forgave but guilt is still eating away at me.", "post": "Ive been married to my husband for 8 years now. In the beginning we had a great marriage it was perfect. After a horrible accident my husband went into a 3 year depression. He would not get out of bed at all Not to even shower.\n\nHe stopped talking to me and our kid. Just stared at his computer. I done everything felt like I was a single mom trying to work and keep a clean home keep our kid taken care of. I also begged him to try therapy. Set him up appointments he never went.\n\nAfter 3 long years of being ingored by him to the point of where he wouldn't even look at me I got in a dark place. Started talking to a new guy and than moved my kids and myself into a relatives.\n\nWhen I left he snapped out of it came begging to start over promising he would change. I really do love him so I gave him another chance. Before I left my relatives house we had a long talk about what needed to change. I than told him what I done.\n\nHe was heartbroken but understood why. He even agreed it was more like room mates than a marriage. I cut contact with the new guy immediately. Now we have been together again for awhile and he has changed for the better. Were stronger than before. But the guilt is still weighing me down.\n\nI hate how weak I was to do this to him. I keep telling myself he deserves better than me.", "summary": "I fucked up husband understood our marriage is better than before but cant stop hating myself"}
{"id": "t3_48k8jv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling into a busy avenue", "post": "I live by a busy 4-lane avenue, in a city where town-hall couldn't care less about the state of the sidewalks. Most are in terrible state, some don't exist (like, just dirt/grass). Basically, terrible. I live on the 9th floor of a 25 floor building.\n\nI was leaving home (left side of the avenue, one way only traffic towards me) and getting away from my building walking on the lovely crappy sidewalk when my smart ass decided to look BACK and UP towards my apartment, who knows, maybe my wife was looking.\n\nAs I do so, my right foot trips into a hole in the sidewalk and twists, so I fall towards the right - except to my right was the busy avenue. I had barely time to look back in front and see .... THERE WAS NO CAR COMING!\n\nSo I fell hard and dropped into the avenue with enough force to throw my glasses all the way to the other side, and I actually ended up in the second lane.\n\nI had just enough time to get up, go for my glasses and cross the avenue before vehicles (obviously coming slow now) catch me.\n\nTook me some 2 hours to calm down. Oh, yes I twisted my ankle and went back home limping. \n\nYay I am alive =D\n\nWhat I learned: bad sidewalk and busy street = stay away from the street and pay attention.\n\nMaybe if there were vehicles coming I could have tried to force the leg and fail the left one to try and fall in the sidewalk, but probably wouldn't work, and if it did work I would probably break the foot in the hole", "summary": "twisted foot on hole in sidewalk while look away, fell into middle of busy avenue, very luckily no vehicle at the time"}
{"id": "t3_3c29j3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18/m] wants to convince my girlfriend (19/f) to have sex", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year and a half and have been doing it for a long time now, but recently for the past 3 weeks she hasn't wanted to at all. In the past she would always be the one to initiate things, but every time I want to now it's a no and she gets annoyed. We see each other quite often about 4 times a week if that helps. I'm seeing her again tomorrow so hopefully something can happen, but I doubt it. Is there anyway to convince her at all? I doubt she's seeing another guy because she's deep in love with me.", "summary": "havent had sex 3 weeks want to convince her"}
{"id": "t3_110n26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lost it all today, don't know what to do?", "post": "Hey guys, I really don't want to be that guy, but I guess I'm going to use this as my way to vent.  I lost my job last week, it was a good job but I failed and for that I got fired last Friday.  I did not tell my significant other for the fear that she would be very upset at me (are relationship has not been the best lately and I was not trying to make things worse).  I was in talks with my former employer, so  I thought I would wait till I got another job before I told her I got fired.  Well, turns out her Uncle, who also works for the company that I just got fired from, he told my GF's mom, who then told the GF.  She broke up with me and told me to come get my stuff cause she is sick and tired of me, pretty much.  We have been together for 7 years and have been living in the house she bought 5 years ago. \n\nIm really lost and confused right now, I have no job, no home and no girl.  I am writing this from my parents house and am asking you reddit, what the hell should I do?", "summary": "Lost job, house and 7 year relationship.  Oh ya Im 28 years old and live in the states."}
{"id": "t3_41pnge", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by criticizing my boss", "post": "I've been in charge of managing a particular project at work over the past few weeks. I've been going through the project notes from my team over the past weekend and marked up lots of the papers with comments, which in turn was to be submitted along with my own overall assessment report to our company president. Most of my employees' notes were typed proposals and analyses, but some were handwritten on official memo paper included. \n\nIn the folder, the last page stood out, a ridiculously long and crudely handwritten memo on a piece of regular printer paper. I was a bit irked by the slopiness and laziness, so I scrutinized the shit out of the ideas presented on the memo with extra harshness. Having spent most of my Sunday going through this thick stack, I was mad that this unnamed individual made me struggle to decipher his sloppy handwriting. So I angrily scrawled \"write legibly\" in red on the memo, figuring I'd have a talk about professionalism with whoever it was in a team meeting later. \n\nOn Monday, I submitted the completed report and all the notes to the president. Later that afternoon, I got called into the president's office. The president pointed out my comments on the paper, and asked me what I wrote on one particular part. Embrassingly, I told her it read \"write legibly\" (oh the fucking irony). The president shook her head and asked me, \"Are you trying to be snarky, [slickguy]?\" I explained, \"No, it's just that I spent a long time reading through the project notes and this one was particularly hard to decipher and was frustrating.\" She then told me to leave her office and that she'll get back to me. \n\nNow here's the TIFU -- this morning I was cleaning up my email and I found I had accidentally deleted a coworker's email on Friday: \"FYI [the president's name] added some last minute ideas which I put as the last page in the folder\". I am now officially on hide-in-my-office-and-avoid-everyone mode.", "summary": "inadvertendly criticized my boss's project ideas while making a fool out of myself"}
{"id": "t3_3klebk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be wrong of me [20F] to edit together some old videos including a past relationship?", "post": "I'm currently in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend [23M] of 6 months. I do not wish to go back with my ex or be with anyone else, I am very happy.\n\nHowever, I have a bunch of video footage from my relationship with my first love/best friend/high school sweetheart, who I was very close with for most of my life and romantically together for two years. Not sex tapes, just silly stuff. us climbing trees, jumping on th trampoline, decorating the Christmas tree, home movie type stuff. I was planning to edit the footage into a cute video as an anniversary gift, but we broke up before I finished the project.\n\nNow, I am getting into filmmaking as a career, and stumbled upon my unfinished project.\n\nPart of me would really like to finish it but make the focus less about him and more about my life, NOT TO GIVE TO HIM OR SHOW ANYONE. Purely for myself. I am not still in love with him, but I do look fondly on that time in my life and treasure those memories. I think it would be a fun project to just finish up and have a little nostalgia. After our breakup I was sexually assaulted and fell into depression, and I find comfort in those happy times when I felt more innocent and carefree. It would be more focused on that time of my life, my ex just happens to be in almost all of the pictures and videos from that time (which i dont mind, we're still good friends).\n\nBut is it a bad idea? Would it be seen as unhealthy? Would that count as keeping a secret from my boyfriend/would he understand if I tried to explain that? \n\nI think sometimes there is value in reflecting on your past, and sometimes digging up old memories an cause trouble. I'm having a hard time trying to figure out which it is in this situation.", "summary": "I want to edit together some old footage for nostalgia/personal reasons, but most of the videos include my ex boyfriend. Should I just leave it alone and or is it okay?"}
{"id": "t3_3rj5rk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have been having feelings of doubt for the relationship with my girlfriend [18 F] this past week. Don't know if it's something significant or if it will pass.", "post": "So, I've been going out with this girl for about 7-8 months and everything was going smoothly and the overall feel to the relationship was fantastic.\n\nAbout a week ago I had series of dreams that lead me to question my feelings for her (she was in Italy at the time). The thing is, I don't know if something is wrong since every time we see each other I feel great and that \"in love feeling\". \n\nHas anyone else had these feelings of doubt or has had feelings begin to die out, and if so, how did everything turn out in the end? \n\nI should note that my girlfriend had a period where her feelings for everything were absent due to the lack of love in her family. Despite that, we passed that period (kinda hard for us) and healed. This happened around the 4th month of our relationship, and everything has been great ever since. Sorry if I didn't provide enough info. Tell me if you need to know something else. I'd be glad if anyone could help me out in this situation. Thanks!", "summary": "I don't know if my feelings are going away."}
{"id": "t3_3341sq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My crush", "post": "Our families are friends, I've always had a crush on this guy, Yandel we'll call him.\n\nMy family would sometimes visit his family's house, we live in the same town, but his dad would make it awkward. Yandel's dad had ALWAYS had a crush on my mom, that's the reason why we never visited them after a couple of months. I noticed how Yandel would look at me, in sophomore year (2010) he would always hold my necklaces (when wearing them), and say they're cool. He would look at me differently, I realized we liked each other and we didn't see each other after three times he purposely bumped into me. Fast forward into 2013 and I was living with friends, it was my birthday. The night I was drinking the night away, I drunkenly had ALMOST swung at my ex boyfriend, he was talking shit and my friends had to pull us away. I came out of my room across the hall, the bathroom he came out from \"Sniffing\", I cried to him and he pulled me in. We had started the hottest sex in my life, all morning, and asked for my number to \"hangout\" sometime. Came the morning, I forgot to give him my number. In the previous week my cousin's daughter had a Quince. I went along with my sisters, I found out he was married, and has 2 kids. Yandel was staring me down wanting to talk to me, he did. Sadly, he talked to me in sexual innuendos, later on the dance floor I turned over to see him hug his wife and when he saw me, he freaked out and pushed her off. \n\nI stayed confused and sad. I never had a chance and when I did, I now have a huge regret eating me up. What now?", "summary": "Hot childhood friend and I have sex, next 2 years I found out he is married, currently with 2 kids."}
{"id": "t3_2iz7go", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "What foods can I prepare to help my overweight dog lose weight?", "post": "I have a dog that is awesome.  But he is getting older and is putting on a few pounds.  The vet just weighed him and he tipped the scales at 90lbs.  The vet says he should be closer to 70lbs and recommended some stupid expensive dog food(conveniently there were ads all over the vet for the same brand).  He is about 10 years old and has been fed a cup and a half of pedigree with a few table scraps mixed in.  He is a very happy dog with his current diet.  But I don't want him to be unhealthy and shorten his lifespan.  Has anyone found a good recipe for home made dog food?  I have been finding chicken and rice recipes with tons of supplements but every single recipe has HUGE portions.  I don't know if I need to feed my dog 500+ grams of food daily.  Any help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My dog is fat.  I need a good homemade recipe for dog food to help get it under control."}
{"id": "t3_d2wo7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Need help getting over some cognitive dissidence.", "post": "Okay, I know this is really trivial and will make me sound whiny, but here goes:\n\nI go to a public high school in the US, and the district instituted a policy that all students must wear their ID on a lanyard, and that it must be visible at all times. At first, I was happy about it. After all, I thought, it will increase lunch-line efficiency and I won't have to remember as many names.\n\nAfter the first few classes it was time for an introduction-to-the-year presentation. Standard stuff: schedules, staff, etc. But then it came to the discussion of the ID and I found out the official reason is that \"it's for our own safety\" and that it \"helps determine when someone is in the building unauthorized\".\n\nThis just struck me as wrong somehow, factually and morally. Firstly because if there's someone violent, I fail to see how identification will stop him. And it seems to portray the message that the only thing protecting us is the watchful eye of authority, and that we should be afraid that outsiders might hurt us.\n\nAll of my peers dislike it either because it's uncomfortable or unfashionable, and they just look at me funny when I try to talk about my philosophical problem with it, and it's been bugging me for several days now. So reddit, I need you to tell me how I'm wrong. Or at the very least, tell me to man up and deal with it.", "summary": "ID's Required, I do not like the reason, need help manning up."}
{"id": "t3_q8gke", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've become an overwhelmingly unproductive person.  HELP!?", "post": "So in the past few months I have not done a single reading, homework, or online assignment (well I did HALF of one of the online ones).  I have become so addicted to procrastination and satisfying whatever momentary desire I might have over doing homework or other productive, necessary things on my to-do list.  I keep thinking to myself later this evening or tomorrow I'll kick my ass in gear and go on a productivity spree but that moment just never comes.  I don't mean to come on here and ask you to do my homework or motivate me or anything, I'm just looking for advice on how to get out of this complete productivity block.  I realize that I can't just rely on myself and expect to get over it because obviously thats not happening.", "summary": "I've become much lazier than I'd like to admit.  I'm addicted to procrastination and I need your advice on how to get back into a productive flow"}
{"id": "t3_2lmmdf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by emailing an obscene comment to my friend referring to a professor, and having it accidentally get sent to my professor.", "post": "Okay. So, I am currently a graduate student at a business school. My program requires us to work in groups. Throughout the semester so far, I have become very close with my fellow group members. \n\nLast week our group was seeking feedback from a professor on an assignment we were working on. So, my friend (let's call him Jim) emailed our professor on our behalf.\n\n *Side note: The professors in our department are very casual with us and allow us to call them by their first names* So, for the purpose of context, my professor's name is John. \n\nJim gets an email back from Professor John. Jim forwards us the email without the feedback and says that John had some great insight on our assignment and that we'll meet to discuss Monday.\n\nI email Jim back imitating professor: \n\n*\"Jim, suck a dick fatty\"-- John*\n\nFast forward to this week. Jim and I laughed about my email back to him imitating John and we discussed John's suggestions on our assignment. \n\nJim decides to email Professor John back and thank him for his suggestions, but does so through our email chain (without realizing Gmail shows previous conversations attached to the email chain). So, when he did so, John saw my email to Jim. \n\nProfessor John, being a nice guy simply emails Jim back saying \"Always a pleasure to be of assistance... Also. I'm sure this is out of context, but the email message from Mr. (my name) below is concerning. If there is something we need to discuss, please let me know\"\n\nBasically, I freaked the fuck out and had to daunting task of emailing my professor and apologizing and telling him it was completely out of character. Probably the most uncomfortable apology i've ever had to make.", "summary": "I emailed friend. Told him to suck a dick, imitating professor. Professor ended up getting the email. I write awful apology"}
{"id": "t3_42srd7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not listening closely", "post": "This TIFU happened in the summer of '15.  I am in law school, and I got a job clerking for a circuit judge in KY.  The judge invited me and other clerks to go to the KY Bar Association Annual Convention.  Naturally, as any up and coming law student, this is a great chance to make connections and network with attorneys.\n\nWell, I and another male clerk go to the convention, and the judge I worked for was introducing us to a bunch of attorneys, Court of Appeals judges, and several Supreme Court Justices.  As we walk towards a man sitting at a high top table, the judge says, \"Hey boys, here is someone I want you to meet: Chief Justice Minton.\"  Except, when the judge said it, all I heard was \"Hey boys, here is someone I want you to meet.\"\n\nThe Chief Justice being a nice and honorable man says, \"Hello, I'm John Minton. Nice to meet you,\" and he shakes my colleague's hand and then mine.  And I say, \"Nice to meet you, I'm ZachyFlash.\" And I continue further by saying, \"You said your name was John, correct?\" And he says \"Yes, John Minton\" and I say, \"Okay, nice to meet you John.\"\n\nI ended up calling the highest ranking judicial official by his first name twice. I did not use \"sir,\" \"Chief,\" or \"Chief Justice.\"  As we walk away from the table my buddy tells me that I just disrespected KY's highest ranking judicial official. I asked him how I could have been disrespectful to anyone because I had been polite and friendly with everyone we met. My colleague then said, \"Yeah, you know your buddy, John, back there. That is Chief Justice, John Minton.\"  Most cringe-worthy moment of my life.", "summary": "Didn't listen, called Chief Justice by his first name."}
{"id": "t3_2kqn8i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sneezing with my nose.", "post": "Lets start off by saying I am a long time lurker and I love this subreddit.\n\nSo recently I've caught this cold or some type of virus that has made my entire family sick. My brother and sister both have high fevers with flu-like symptoms and my parents are swamped. I ,on the other hand, developed sneezing. This type of sneezing however, is not the typical 'bless you' sneeze. This is the type of sneeze that requires a full on exorcism. It started with sneezing that was very gentle. Then it felt like when you really need to poop and as you sit you release your load, yeah it felt like that. As I was a sneezing, I made a grave mistake. I **closed** my mouth. I ripped open a blood vein in my nose that released the red sea unto my bed and my laptop. It then proceeded to waterfall from my nose for 10 **minutes**. My mother freaked out and instinctively drove to the hospital. My doctor said that I could have had a brain hemorrhage if I kept it up. \n\n**PSA**: Don't sneeze with your mouth closed.", "summary": "Sneezed so hard, even Moses couldn't part this."}
{"id": "t3_1eti3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why didn't he (25/m) try to hold my (25/f) hand? And other budding relationship questions.", "post": "Duration of relationship: About 2 months\n\nI feel like I'm getting mixed signals from a guy I'm trying to date.\n\nAfter reading a bunch of relationship threads on reddit, I finally mustered up the courage to ask him if he wanted to hang out today, because he is extremely shy so I figured I would make the first move. He said yes. We decided on a movie.\n\nHe gave me his address and told me to come over. When I got there, I found out that the movie he picked doesn't start for a couple of hours, but that's fine. We talk.\n\nWe go to his room to watch some TV while waiting for the movie to start. We sit on his bed and watch, but no touching or anything.\n\nWe go to the movie. He doesn't offer to pay for my ticket (which is fine, I don't mind paying it just made me worry that he doesn't like me because he didn't offer). He doesn't put the arm rest down between us, which I'm hoping is a good sign, but we don't touch during the movie.\n\nAfter, we stop at a restaurant for a drink. He pays for my drink.\n\nBack at his place, we go inside and watch a little more TV. We sit closer this time. Our hands touch this time while watching TV. He doesn't pull away, but he doesn't try to hold my hand, either. We just sit there watching with our hands touching for about 45 minutes. Talking and laughing about stuff, of course, but our hands are touching.\n\nAfter it's over I get up to leave. He tells me next time I can pick the movie. We say goodnight, but there's no goodnight hug or kiss or anything like that. \n\nWhat do you think? Does he like me?", "summary": "On one hand, I feel like he might like me since he accepted my invitation, invited me to his place a couple hours earlier than he had to, and made no effort to move his hand away when we were touching."}
{"id": "t3_2wno14", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lying about Jew ashes.", "post": "Was playing Fibbage with my roommates. If you're unfamiliar with that game, you trick others by lying on fill-in-the-blank statements. \n\nAnyway, the statement comes up as \"During World War II, metal became so scarce that the annual Oscars statuettes had to be made with ______ .\" My roommates throw their lies in, leaving me to fend with the timer. I've always been a poor liar, so as the numbers got lower, I started to panic. I hastily typed in the first thing that came to mind.\n\nThe lies pop up on the screen: \"PORCELAIN\" \"TEARS\" \"PLASTER\" \"PAPER\"\n\n\"JEW ASHES\"\n\nTwo of my roommates erupt in laughter. One does not. Luckily, they're not Jewish. \n\nThey're a SJW.\n\nI'm stuck in a heilstorm of rants and shaming about being a white supremacist.", "summary": "I need a Nuremberg trial"}
{"id": "t3_23sqju", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Story time beginning with inspiration", "post": "I've been browsing this subreddit for a while, and it can only do good things.  I see all these little inspirational things people post and wanted to share my own.\n\nTo begin, I've always been a hefty dude, clocking in around 300 most of my adult life.  I've tried things here or there, but never committed.  Now I'm recently unemployed, so tack that on to my sob story.  After months of searching and not finding the right fit, I got motivated by a friend who ensured me that doing something, *anything*, to help improve my life is worth committing to.\n\nSo I went to the gym today [for the first time in forever] ( and felt a bit defeated at the weights that were once easy to lift were now difficult.  I struggled with an oblique machine, and next to me was a fit dude prepping the dip machine.  He had a backpack from which he removed a baseball glove and rested it on top of the machine.  He looked at me, and smiled and said \"inspiration.\"  I smiled back and said \"that's awesome.\"  This guy knows what he's going after and is making sure he's getting it.\n\nI finished my formerly regular weight routine and happily left, skipping cardio, because I was inspired to go home and resurrect my bicycle.  I used to ride quite a bit, and I do genuinely enjoy riding.  I'd made excuses aplenty as to not go, even telling myself earlier today that it's just too cold.  But with my renewed inspiration, I slung on a sweater and took off!  Even more than the weights, that ride was a kick in the pants.  I must have been out there for a total of ten minutes before my legs were burning and my lungs were aching.\n\nBut tomorrow is another day, and considering I didn't push myself *too* hard I can get back out there and try and go a little further.  That's it.", "summary": "Thanks, /r/loseit!  You helped get my gears in shape towards my [goal]("}
{"id": "t3_1v2wzt", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Trying to get that last 10 off", "post": "Hello Loseit!\n\nI am 6'8\" and 215 pounds. I'm not fat by any means, but I'm wouldn't say that I'm happy with the way I look. I was looking at the common diets in the FAQ and the only issue that I had with them was that I row, which is extremely demanding. It is not uncommon for me to have 2-3 double days of very hard work in a row. I used to be 235 and was able to drop 20 lbs through paleo and keep up my energy, but I'm grinding to a halt when it comes to weight loss and I can't seem to get under 215. I would love to be just under 205, but I'm not sure what my next move should be.", "summary": "I want to loose the last 10 lbs, but can't cut back too much because of my really intense rowing schedule. What diet should I do? "}
{"id": "t3_3wwv35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (32F) and I (37M) are in a tough patch. How can I still make Christmas special?", "post": "My wife and I are a slump. We have baeen married 5 years and dated 3 before that and have two children (3 and 6 months) we are currently not being sexually intimate and this has led to resentment and strengthened my depression.\n\nI am managing the illness with medication but sleeping in the same bed with my wife knowing I can't be close to her is often enough to trigger anxiety attacks. \n\nWe are constantly fighting, she tells me I am selfish, cruel, manipulative and a host of other things. I don't think I am, but I am definitely mentally ill so maybe I am.\n\nThing is, my wife loves Christmas but this year, with our troubles, new baby and a host of other stresses means she is hating every day. I want Christmas to be a joy for her like it used to be, but anything I do is called out for being an attempt at manipulation or  I am accused of being underhand, like there is some great scheme to make her feel inferior. I just want her to enjoy this time of the year.", "summary": "My marriage is in choppy waters but I still want to make Christmas special for my wife. Help me Obi Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope."}
{"id": "t3_325rky", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu: Dont fear the Pooper (potentially NSFW)", "post": "OK, so this happened 1 hour ago.\nSome background: I live in the country, in the UK.  I have a septic tank sewage system.  I have a 5 year old son. \nOne week ago I noticed it was getting difficult to flush away solids in the downstairs loo (john/bathroom/can) . It transpired that my darling son had used nearly a whole roll of toilet paper whilst doing a poo the day before.\nThings kinda worked their way through and all seemed well.\nToday I returned home to find my utility room flooded with rather smelly water and what appeared to be \"blowback\" from the sewage system \nlanguishing in the bowl.\nI turned to my trusty pipe plunger, a kind of vacuum pump thing with a large head for pumping loos, flushed, and as the water rose towards the rim I began pumping. \nAll was going well with a swift pumping motion, until the top of the pump came off on an up stroke, spraying me with a mixture of poop, water and toilet paper, or as is more commonly known,  Shitwater.  As you can imagine, I was giving the pumping everything and was crouched over the bowl to put weight behind the pumping action. \nI managed to close my mouth, but every other orifice was splattered with foul smelling detritus.\nTime stood still for a split second,  as I straightened up quickly and released a howl of \"SHIIIIIIIIIIIT\"  and began stripping off my foul smelling clothes and running through the kitchen, jumping in to the shower to wash myself.\nI realise that for a man of 53, who works with animals, this may seem an extreme reaction, but spray yourself with shit and see how long your sanity lasts! \nI am now clean, have had a gin and tonic, but I still can't laugh about it.", "summary": "Pumped the toilet,  got covered in sewage, got naked, drank gin.  Shitfaced"}
{"id": "t3_225n3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24M] of 8 months keeps dreaming about me [21F] cheating on him.", "post": "For starters, allow me to clear up that I have no history of cheating, with my boyfriend or in any previous relationships. He knows this and trusts me, but over the course of the past few months, he's dreamt biweekly of me cheating on him. The first couple times he told me jokingly, but other times (like most recently), he seemed really upset about it. I've assured him each time that Dream!Me's sluttiness is not based on my actual character, but at this point I'm starting to get concerned. He's very distant after the dreams (so even if he doesn't share the dream at first, me prompting him on what's wrong usually pries it out of him), and I'm worried he doesn't trust me or this will somehow harm out relationship. Are cheating dreams common, and should I be worried?", "summary": "My boyfriend dreams I cheat on him frequently, no history of infidelity between us."}
{"id": "t3_hr5hl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's here your vacation horror story...", "post": "I was set to go to New Orleans for Mardi Gras with my friends. Planned the trip 4 months in advance. Three days before we were supposed to leave the Saints won the Super Bowl and we knew it was going to be that much better. We were set to leave on a Wednesday, and Monday we heard a blizzard was headed straight for our hometown. Our flights were cancelled Tuesday night before the blizzard even hit. \n\nWe couldn't get a flight out of New York to ANYWHERE without paying a ridiculous amount of money on top of the money we already deposited for the hotel and the plane fare. The hotel was booked solid so they couldn't help us out either. Needless to say, my vacation horror story ended without even having a vacation.", "summary": "I ended up shoveling 19 inches of snow from my driveway instead of experiencing Mardi Gras."}
{"id": "t3_m83au", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just started college and I finally understand what \"soul crushing loneliness\" means. Any advice?", "post": "Advance apologies for trying to use Reddit as a therapist, but I really need to get this off my chest.\n\nI've always been a little socially awkward, but I can carry on a conversation and I have a good sense of humor. I just don't have any understanding of building relationships (not talking about romance here.) In high school I had some close friends, but I can't really explain how I got to know them. Only three of them came to college with me, and I rarely see any of them (different majors, and they don't live close by.)\n\nUnless I had a really bad day for whatever reason, I can talk to strangers without too much difficulty, but I rarely get any chances to get into a conversation: it seems like whenever I see a group of people, it's a lively, close-knit group and I probably wouldn't be welcome to join in. I've probably had the most luck just by sitting at an empty table at the dining hall and waiting for the other forever-alones to join me, but often, people from the nearby tables will take all the other chairs away and I'll feel like a total outcast.  And out of the few people I've met, I rarely ever see them again since there are 20,000 students here (and having a horrible memory for names/faces doesn't help.)\n\nHas anyone else been able to overcome a similar situation? On some days I feel like I'm invisible or the only player character in a game world full of NPCs; I don't know how much longer I can live like this.", "summary": "I have no idea how to make friends."}
{"id": "t3_49wzo4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [29 F] 3 yrs, I cannot stop thinking about sleeping with other women and its hurting our relationship", "post": "Ok. Please don't hate me. I have NOT and do NOT plan on cheating on my significant other. I have always been loyal to the people around me and plan to keep it that way. To add to this, I have had opportunities to cheat but I said no every time.  \n\nI am very good at self-control when it come to actions, but I am not able to suppress those feelings and its making me quite miserable.  \n\nEvery time I pass by an attractive woman I cannot stop fantasizing at the possibility. I never was like this when I was single.  \n\nI absolutely love my girlfriend, we have a nearly perfect relationship. Sex life is fantastic. I absolutely do not want to throw this relationship away because of this. I tried suggesting to her about perhaps having an open relationship, experimenting, I even went as far as to tell her that monogamy scares the shit out of me.\n\nShes very jealous/protective, which does not help either -  she got extremely hurt when I explained this situation. I thought that perhaps letting it out would help, but it did not change anything.  \n\nI am at a complete crossroads, and I feel like these feelings are getting amplified because people are expecting me to pop the question. I'm thinking perhaps monogamy is not for me. Part of me just wants to be single, just so I could not feel guilty about this. Live the easy life.  \n\nMen: Did you ever have those feelings with your SO? Were you able to overcome it or is this a hopeless case?  \nWomen: Have you ever been in my girlfriends situation? What happened?", "summary": "Need advice on how to deal with my constant feelings of wanting to sleep around with other women."}
{"id": "t3_1oylif", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I Really Like My Best Friend (M/17)", "post": "Hello!\n\nI like my best friend. She is a girl, I am a guy. We have known each other for a year and a half, and have been best friends since we see each other a lot, talk all day (text eachother non-stop if we aren't together), and have a lot in common, from movies to music. I really like her. \n\nI have not told her how I feel, but once, a few months ago she did say she doesn't like me in that way (it just came up somehow). I am hoping she changed her mind.\n\nHer friends tell me how cute we'd be as a couple.\n\nOur friendship in a nutshell:\n\n- We have poke/tickle fights\n- We play with our feet under the table at lunch (holding them togehter, wrapping them around)\n- We text, literally, all the time!\n- When we watch movies, we sit really close to each other\n- She gives squeeze hugs :)\n\nI just don't know what to do. Should I tell her even though she has told me before she doesn't like-like me (maybe she changed her mind?)? Based on the nutshell, it seems like she does but I just can't tell. I'm just worried our friendship wouldn't be the same after I told her if she didn't feel the same way.", "summary": "I like my best friend and I want to tell her, but I am worried about what would happen to our friendship if she didn't feel the same way. "}
{"id": "t3_13byyd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm having trouble adjusting to my girlfriends libido. Reddit, is it ethical to break up with someone over a bad sexlife?", "post": "I'm having more trouble adjusting to my girlfriends libido than expected. She doesn't have a thyroid anymore, so she has to take meds for that. The one thing that the meds don't fix, is her sex drive- or lack thereof.\nWhen we make love, i feel like it's a one-way dialogue. The confusing thing is, she says she wants to have sex. If we're in/on the bed without sex, she'll say i kinda 'left her hanging' if i don't feel like doing 100% of the work.\nWe've gotten to the point where my sex drive is starting to dimish (along with my confidence) due to her lack of input in the sexual acts. She does not counter any fysical acts like giving massages or foreplay. Pretty much all she does is follow instructions when given and kiss back at appropriate time. She says that she has trouble giving fysical stuff because of insecurities. She says she enjoys our sex very much, but i can't keep giving her sexual energy if she never shows appreciation or affection. Is it unethical of me to think about leaving her mostly because of our sexlife?", "summary": "my GF doesn't have a thyroid, she lacks sex drive. because she doesn't counter any moves, i'm starting to lose sexual as well as emotional interest. is this 'bad'?"}
{"id": "t3_3955uc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 5 years, torn between life and love.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, living together for 4. He's known about my desire to move to a certain country since I was a child, I've always been upfront about it. My initial plan was to move just for one year, but I got residency for said country and I want to move there long enough to naturalize.\n\nIt's a month until I move and it's really beginning to strain our relationship. He has absolutely no desire to leave our country and doesn't want me to go either and I understand where he is coming from. He makes awful comments that I'm abandoning him, and that our relationship has been a waste.\n\nI know that if I were to stay I would be filled with resentment for my boyfriend and it would destroy the relationship. But I'm worried what comes next. We've discussed several times what is going to happen, and I've suggested breaking up as he said he didn't want to try ldr, but he didn't want that either. I don't know what to do.\n\nI love him dearly and I really wish he would just come with me, that's obviously not going to happen and I'm just at a loss. Thinking about being apart, and thinking how miserable I would be if I dont go. I'm torn.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? What insight can you provide?", "summary": "Moving overseas, boyfriend not coming, torn between love/life."}
{"id": "t3_3bxyx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [19F] of ~14 months broke up with me [22M] about a month ago. Having trouble getting her out of my head.", "post": "I'm having a tough time getting through our breakup. I think that it gets hardest when I think about her or reminisce about our time together. The problem is that everything seems to remind me of her. Almost anything I do or see brings back some memory of her. I'll see some food and remember that was a food she liked, and just like that, she's back in my head. \n\nSometimes it'll be some memory that comes up out of the blue. I'll be doing nothing and I'll remember the time we went out on a date somewhere or some other time we spent together.\n\nIs there a way to stop this, or is it just something that will go away with time. I know that I can't just wipe her from my memory, she'll always be there, but is there a way to make it happen less, or hurt less? I know I could get over her much easier if I was able to get her out of my head.", "summary": "GF who broke up with me keeps coming back into my thoughts, how do I remain sane/stop thinking of her."}
{"id": "t3_41t8ki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, a [23F] virgin; willing to budge only in long term relationship\u2014deal breaker, or no?", "post": "Currently feeling out the field with a guy and I've been curious, how would you respond to a girl confronting you on not only being a virgin, but not wanting to do the act outside of a long term relationship.\n\nBack story: I'm probably mainly a virgin due to being brought up in a Christian household and even though I no longer, and have not for several years now, associate myself with the religious practice of Christianity, the idea of having sex with someone I have deep feelings for is the only way it makes sense to me, on a personal level (in no way do I disrespect other individuals choices).", "summary": "wants to stay virgin until established long term relationship, thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_50s21a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (26/F) talk about my life when feeling down?", "post": "There are some people I (26/F) am close enough to that I can be open with. With others, though, I feel uncomfortable being 100% honest when they ask \"How's life?\" because I don't want to make them uncomfortable and while I appreciate sympathy & empathy, I really do not want to be pitied. Also, I feel that it's not always the time and the place to go into the details of why I am having a difficult time.\n\nDoes anyone relate?\n\nI really don't want to outright lie-I want people to understand why I may be more subdued and like anyone else, I want to be understood. It's one thing to give the standard \"Everything's fine!\" answer when talking to strangers and acquaintances, but I want to be more forthright with my friends.", "summary": "How do I answer the question, \"How's life?\" when going through a tough time in a way that isn't disingenuous but also doesn't bring the mood down?"}
{"id": "t3_3gatob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with a girl [20F] I recently met, unsure if I need to make any moves", "post": "At the start of July, I met a girl online through a language exchange/friend making site. After chatting online for 3 weeks, I asked if we could meet up at a festival and she agreed.\n\nWe met there, and hung out for around 2 hours. It went pretty well, in my opinion. The next week, I asked her out to coffee, which she also accepted. We met up and talked for about 3 hours.\n\nI think she's pretty cute, and we seem to have quite a few things in common. If I want to have the possibility of pursuing a romantic relationship in the future with her, do I need to start heading in that direction now? \n\nI've heard that if I don't, she'll only ever see me as a friend. Does that mean I should start flirting often from now on? I really don't want to mess things up, as we'll be going to the same university. \n\nAlso, if I need to flirt, what are good ways to do so without making things awkward?\n\nMy current plan is to take things slowly and to get to know her purely as friend at first, but I'm not sure if that'd work out.", "summary": "Met girl a month ago, met up twice, how to advance relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3oi8br", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my girlfriend [18 F] of 2 months, trust issues from my side", "post": "Please excuse any mistakes, English is not my 1st language.\n\nI [21 M] have been burned before and find it hard to trust anyone in general.\n\nMy girlfriend [18 F] left her ex-boyfriend for me (their relationship was in the breakup stage) about 2 months ago. We have known each other for little over 3 years now. Now some issues (her father cheating) on her family side have surfaced, which reminded me how our relationship started. I am imagining that she inherited \"cheating genes\". I have tried to talk about it with her. She responded with likes of \"I can't believe you would think something like that\". I left it at that, but her response didn't comfort me.\n\nI am not jealous. Everything else in our relationship is great. We just click together, understand each other. We didn't have sex together yet, but it doesn't matter for now. We don't spend that much time together which benefits both of us as we can focus on our goals.\n\nWhat would help me to trust her?", "summary": "have trust issues (fear of her cheating), not jealous"}
{"id": "t3_dof0s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your euphemisms for sex. Well, more like not-quite-sex...", "post": "Reddit, have you ever felt your vocabulary lacking when you need to refer to sexual activity with your girlfriend/boyfriend? I know I have. For whatever reasons, you and I might not be having outright *intercourse* yet, but there's definitely stuff going down, and we need to have better names than \"stuff\". Because- I don't know about you- but terms like \"oral sex\" or \"mutual manual stimulation of genitalia\" feel pretty clinical, and hearing something like \"Hey dude, you wanna feel my tits, kiss my nipples, and maybe even rub my clit semi-effectively for half an hour tonight?\" would just sound crass.\nSO: we need words and phrases to fill that gap. They can be juvenile, they can be cute, they can even be hilarious to the point of not being unusable (in fact, I expect Reddit to do nothing less than spend most of its time on this third category). I'll offer an initial few:\n\n* fooling around\n* canoodlin'\n* WOOHOO-ING", "summary": "sexual intercourse : \"making love\"/\"fucking\"/\"phallic spelunking\"/etc :: the other three bases : ???"}
{"id": "t3_4icqc6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using hot water to make a protein shake", "post": "Another day at work, so another protein shake. But this time in a hazy morning moment of idiocy I consider the importance of doing something, anything different from the usual way. So my hand went to the hot water tap on the water cooler. I approached the sink where I always stand to slam that drink (so I can wash my cup out) and shook. I could feel the lid get tighter, which is normal for lukewarm water, but no big deal, right, except that as I tip the shaker back toward me I release my grip of the lid just enough to shower myself with piping hot protein spray. After I cleaned myself up, I discovered upon looking at the crime scene that protein shake powder cooks into something not altogether unlike scrambled eggs.", "summary": "Don't use hot water to make protein shakes"}
{"id": "t3_4w9800", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How to instruct granddad without hurting his feelings", "post": "My father has offered to do a big chunk of our baby son's daycare, and we couldn't be more grateful.  At first it seemed like my dad was incredibly great with him, but lately the baby gets upset within a few moments of being picked up by his grandpa.  Although pop has more baby experience than my wife and I, we know better what works with our baby, and we want them to have the best chance of having happy days together.  The problem is, when we try to give my dad tips for how to calm our baby, no matter how gentle we are, he seems to feel insulted.  I don't want to hurt my dad's feelings, and I'm also a little worried that this will make him less inclined to want to spend time with the boy.", "summary": "Any tips for giving constructive criticism to a generous grandparent?"}
{"id": "t3_341y6i", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "24 y/o M, Married, One Child. Should I Sell??", "post": "I currently own my home Est. Value 106,000 at time of purchase. My wife and I have about 25,000 in the house we could get. Our reason for considering selling are two fold. The first is that I graduate and start law school next fall so I will have to quit working for at least the first year and we will need a cushion to get us through, she works but her wages are somewhat negligible when compared to our expenses. The second is that they are currently developing a huge shopping center about a mile away from my home and the value of the home has likely increased somewhat significantly. I have not had the home appraised yet because we are so on the fence. We could sell and have that money but we would then need to pay rent and our mortgage payment is pretty small 600$ and rent would likely be a little more (though not much maybe 7-800$). I just don't know if we will be able to stay afloat for 3 years while I am in law school without any quickly attainable assets.", "summary": "have 25,00 in a house, am going to law school and will need the cushion. sell the house or try and figure something else out?"}
{"id": "t3_349u6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (20/F) broke up with me(22/M) because she turned lesbian", "post": "So, after 5 months she figured out she likes girls . She's been thinking about that for a long time and after meeting a certain girl, she decided she is more happy with girls rather than boys.\n\nNow, the problem is that I lost a soul mate. She is the first to understand my problems, first that I opened up to, not just as a girlfriend, but as a person. She knows more about me than my parents. All that I had planned is now lost, I am lost, I don't know what to do and how to deal with this. I am too emotional to just forget some one that I loved with all of my heart, and even tho she did all of this to me, I still love her and care for her.\nReddit, what should I do? How do I get over this? I've taken some pills to calm myself down, but I don't want to be on pills...", "summary": "GF breaks up with me because she decided she likes girls, broke my heart, lost my soul mate. Need help to get over it, if possible."}
{"id": "t3_gler5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Rebound Insight", "post": "Edit:21/M me and Ex is 23/f, 2 year relationship, broke up for about 2 months now. She broke up with me, although it ended up being mutual (It ended up badly and I fixed it [lol] so we're on good terms). She couldn't handle the pain in waiting to see if I will find out what I want in life (She has hers pretty much mapped out). She didn't blame me for any of this but she had to do it and I agreed that it was for the best. I didn't want to make it last just to see it crumble a few years later. I couldn't do that to her, I care about her too much to waste her time waiting for me. She hasn't tried to contact me (giving me space) and I have not tried to contact her (Don't want to complicate things, I know we'll end up having sex or something which would make things much worse) , it made it a lot easier to get over her this way. \n\nNow I feel like I'm following a step by step process from break up, to moving on, to dating again and now I find myself asking, will I find something special in this new girl or will it all be a case of rebound?\n\nHow do I know if I'm looking for something real again or am I just trying to fill a void? \nI've yet to relapse and I hope I don't but how can I be certain of myself? I don't want to hurt anyone else.\nI tried searching for more advice and opinions on this matter of rebounds but I have very little knowledge as I only recently came out of my first real relationship (I had one in high school which ends as most high school dramatic relationships do). I heard rebounds have often turn out to be great relationships (or is that a myth).", "summary": "2 months out of a great 2 year relationship. She ended it, but I accepted it mutually. Felt that I've moved on now and seeking someone new, wondering if I am merely seeking a rebound. Just looking for guidance and advice on such matters. "}
{"id": "t3_1wimy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (25m) read my (22f) journal", "post": "I keep a journal and although I'm not an avid writer, I do make note of the things that are a big deal imo, whether its good or bad. \n\nImportant info: \n- been with current bf for 2.5 years\n- cheated on bf with ex 2 years ago \n- I haven't completely forgiven myself for hurting bf\n\nA couple of weeks ago I dreamt I was in McDonalds and my boyfriend was sitting at a table, and my ex talking to him. They both looked up, noticing I had walked in, and I walked out with my ex. \n\nMy boyfriend, sometime since then and last night, read my journal. He's convinced I'm not over him and is considering breaking up with me. \n\nI completely understand that he has every right to break up with me or what have you, but I do love my bf and I want nothing more than for us to make it through this and continue until we're grey and saggy. How do we overcome this??", "summary": "cheated on bf with ex 2 years ago, bf read journal entry of dream with ex, thinks I'm in love with him and is considering breaking up with me."}
{"id": "t3_2ueym1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18M] have lost all my girlfriends [16F] trust and don't think I can get it back", "post": "Lately me and my girlfriend of a year have been having a rough time. She had a pregnancy scare, she is stressed about school and wasn't sure if she would be happier focusing on herself or not. She broke up with me and I being sad and wanting to be comforted texting an old friend of mine in which I used to have interest. I reminded this friend how I used to feel about them and that I'd like to hang out to be comforted, they agreed and said they used to feel the same. I told them I wouldn't be able to move on for a while and that I still love my girlfriend.\nHowever, my girlfriend decided she wanted to be back together the following day. I told this girl who was planning on seeing me that I could no longer see her that day and me and my girlfriend ended up going on a fun date. It was a great time but on the way back home, while my girlfriend had my phone in her hand she got a text from this girl and got curious as to what she was talking about. She saw this and got terribly upset, wondering why I wouldn't just ask her to comfort me. I told her that I tried but she wanted nothing to do with me at the time and that I was looking for something similar to her, to recreate the feel of cuddling with her in hopes that I could feel a little better. She went hysterical and started crying like crazy, I felt bad, she no longer trusts me and decided that the only was we can stay together is if she forces herself to care less. I know this will make her eventually break up with me. I decided to delete my Facebook and all my phones contacts so I do not do this again, I know I won't and I now hate myself for being disloyal even in the slightest way. My low self esteem and need for contact has ruined my relationship and I do not know what to do to regain the trust I once had. Any advice?", "summary": "my girlfriend saw my texts I sent to a girl while we were broken up and fighting and got really upset and thinks I do not care for her or love her, don't know how I could fix this"}
{"id": "t3_2sqii7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [18/F] five months, broke up last night because she needed to learn who she was.", "post": "I'm a junior in college, I met a freshman and we hit it off really well. She seemed to be a level headed, mature person and I really respected that. We had all the same interests and shared many common views. We quickly said that we loved each other, however we are both extremely busy with school so we just saw each other mostly on weekends.\n\nOver winter break however she began to grow distant--- stopped texting, told me she wasn't ready for a super serious relationship (understandable neither am I yet) she began talking about saving sex til marriage (she's catholic/I'm not... yet we've already had it multiple times) and then the day before break ended we broke up because she wanted to take school more seriously. \n\nWe got back together the night after because she felt she made a mistake. I felt an obvious distance still and then confronted her with it  last night where we broke up again for the same reasons. Which are that she wants to explore who she is, make friends beyond me and take school more seriously. She reluctantly broke up with me and even said she still loved me. However, I decided that enough was enough, that breaking up is final and I respectfully walked away. \n\nI feel a little like a loser, I feel like I wasn't good enough for her to stay but I understand her reasons. I'm still hurting though but absolutely embracing it as it obviously was not meant to be and was doomed for failure.", "summary": "A girl who I thought was mature enough for a relationship with an older guy, actually wasn't, and is still trying to figure herself out. (big surprise) Being lonely hurts so I'm looking for guidance and kind words."}
{"id": "t3_rkowa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A little help reddit? I am absolutely terrified of math and want to overcome it...", "post": "I have so much trouble with algebra and above that its crippling. Im in College now.\nMaybe it started in elementary, I don't know, I didn't even like math back then. It sent me into panic attacks back then even with the smallest of problems. I do know that anytime I even see a math problem I start to sweat. I actually have anxiety attacks when I do any kind of complicated math problems. It has hurt me so much through high school and now college. I feel like I have tried everything to try and make my brain work better with math. I have all but given up with it. I have even changed my major when I found out I had to take a hard math class. Its like a freaking mental handicap and I'm sick of it. Im willing to retry everything if I an get some suggestions!", "summary": "I hate algebra and almost any kind of math, it seems impossible for me to do and I want to change that.*"}
{"id": "t3_1ghneu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "throwaway sad unrequited love bs", "post": "I liked a girl for a few years now.  Maybe six years (holy shit!).  She always played games in college, but we both chilled out since graduation.  Would think about her everyday (pretty much in love with her since the first day of media psych 101).  She's smart, funny, art talented, and isn't afraid to dork out.  Reconnected with her a few years after college after our group of friends had a fall out and I self exiled while doing first job out of country.  Feelings are still there but there's no chance and I'm a fucking idiot and still think and hope there's a chance with her.  Saw her recently and other friends told me not to think about it as it would never happen.  Old feelings make me super sad.  Usually going to work keeps me busy enough to not think about it, but now I think about it even at work about how there's no chance.  Shit hurts, I'm sad as hell.  Knowing her answer is no even though it was once yes but didn't know how to play girl games makes me even sadder.  Could've had her, now I can't.  I fucking love her, haha.", "summary": "mid twenties guy being a puss and having teenager feelings and sadness because of over half decade unrequited love."}
{"id": "t3_337110", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being unaware of how a manual transmission works.", "post": "So this didn't happen today. Just like most FUs on here. This happened about a month ago. So not too long. \n\nI was looking for a manual car and I went to this place called CarMax. The cars are all unlocked and you can open them up and sit in them. Well, not knowing much about manual, I went into a  manual car with my friend, who also doesn't know much about manual cars and I was fiddling around with the interior. So I started fiddling with the stick shift and I took it out of 1st and put it in neutral. He was like, \"I don't think you can do that.\" and I was like, \"Nah. It's fine.\" \n\nWell, now I know more about manual cars, and for those who don't, manual cars don't have a 'park' mode like automatics. Most people put them into gear (some parking break). It just dawned on me that I put the car in neutral and I don't remember the parking break being up. The parking lot was 'hilly' so if there are any winds... that car will just need a little boost to start rolling.\n\nI don't want to think about the damage I've done.", "summary": "Sorry CarMax if I caused damage. I got more experience now with shifting sticks."}
{"id": "t3_401l47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 1 year, broke up with me out of nowhere and trying to stabilize myself.", "post": "Hey all, I feel like a completely useless person for not being able to do this on my own, but this is something that I needed to come to you all about. \n\nTo give a little background, her and I met on Tinder a year ago. We hit it off and decided to become official. Things were great, we had our differences, but overall I was very much in love. She had a very strong character and that is one of the many things I adored about her. We often went out and her family loved me. She's been working very hard getting into pharmacy school and she's been doing pretty well. The holidays were a good time, but for the last 3 weeks of December I was more-or-less taking care of her. Between terrible cramps from her period and her wisdom teeth coming in, she had practically been couch-ridden for weeks. The Sunday after New Year's Eve, she broke up with me over text stating she wasn't happy with how she was doing in school, at work, and felt like she needed to put more attention towards that and that she didn't have any time of effort to put into a relationship.\n\nSo now, here I am, confused. Logically, she needs to do what makes her happy. I'm not questioning that and it makes sense. It hurts that she never talked to me about it and threw it on me. In my head, she was going to go to Pharmacy school and I was going to be there when she graduated. I'm not dealing with this well, and it might be because I don't have any closure on this. It might be a good or bad idea, but I have asked her to take a day so her and I can sit down and talk about this, so I can figure out... I don't know what. I'm rambling. I feel it's all I do lately.\n\nNow I guess the question is, is it smart to fight for her? Should I just forget it all? When I have the meeting with her, what do I ask? I've never had a breakup affect me like this; it's not the longest relationship I've ever had, just the most mature.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me and now I'm a mental trainwreck. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3bbqo5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [18 M] in love with my best friend [18 F] 4 years, don't know what to do/not ruin friendship. Help me!", "post": "I have known my now best-friend for around four years. As soon as I met her I was drawn to her; she is the most beautiful and amazing girl I have ever met.\nWe instantly became close and I always wanted to be more than friends but nothing happened. We talked a lot on Facebook and over the phone whilst occasionally seeing each other at parties on weekends. Over the course of the friendship she dated one of my best friends (around three years ago) so I quickly learnt to bury my feelings.\nThis last academic year we were at college together and became even closer. We are very comfortable with each other and talk about sex with other people and relationship stuff e.t.c. But towards the end of the year there were a few nights where we were especially touchy/feely and my feelings came flooding back. I tried to bury them but I am finding it too hard. I decided over summer to try and distance my-self to make it easier, but, one of our mutual friends told me she slept with this guy who liked her from college, and my heart just sunk. I feel like shit.\nWhen I think about what I want to find in a girl, I realise everything is right in front of me when I am with her. I think she would 100% freak out if she knew I liked her, so I am petrified to tell her. I really don't want to lose her because she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, but, I don't know how much longer I can go on hiding my feelings, I have already avoided seeing her this summer so it may harm the friendship.\nI don't want to look back on my life and regret what I do. I am scared that I lie on my death bed and my biggest regret will be not telling her, incase she feels the same (although I am sure she doesn't). But I am equally scared to lose her as I love her as a friend.\nHelp me reddit!.", "summary": "Potentially in love with my best friend, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_360qr2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By asking my girlfriend what she wanted to eat.", "post": "So today I get picked up from work by my SO, mind you she's a vegetarian. As soon as she picks me up I tell her I'm in the mood for some Wienerschnitzel which i haven't had in a really long time. Mind you she's ok with it and says she'll figure out something to eat. So as we get to our destination I go inside to get food and come back, and she's listening to her angry playlist. This playlists consists of My Chemical Romance, Nirvana, and System of a Down to name a few. When I ask her what she's going to eat she totally ignores me, ok i thought maybe she didnt hear me over the sound of the music. Again,  I ask this time louder and she totally ignores me. So at this point my mind is racing Wtf did I do? We drive straight home and she gets out of the car slams the door and goes to the apartment only she can't get in because she dropped her house keys and I picked them up. (Insert evil laugh) she goes back to the car for what I assume is to look for her keys and  by this time I'm in the kitchen eating my food and typing this on mobile.", "summary": "Went to get some Weinerschnitzel come back to my gf car only for her to be totally pissed off. Why? I have no idea."}
{"id": "t3_310iy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/f) still find my mind wandering to my ex (33/m) sometimes. Does this happen to anyone else?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. It's been over three since things ended with my ex. I've been with my current boyfriend (m/22) for about 2.5 years and everything is really awesome! So this isn't an issue of going back to my ex or whatever but I was just wondering if anyone else out there still thinks about their ex sometimes even after so long. \n\nBackground story. I was a senior in high school when it started and a first year in college when we ended things. The relationship lasted around 7/8 months and it was my first serious, \"I love you,\" kind of relationship. The way things ended were very dramatically and traumatically. I made stupid decisions and was naively led into thinking that being with him was wonderful and it was cool to have someone so much older like me (yes, stupid I know). My family life has been really horrible for many years; both parents are very emotionally and physically abusive so I clung to him for the attention and support. The only other person I had was my sister (she and I have always been extremely close) and she saved me from wanting to kill myself when my parents attacked me after finding out about the guy and forcing me to end it with him.\n\nI guess my question is, does anyone still think about their exs sometimes? I know that I don't love him anymore and wouldn't ever consider getting together with him even if I were single or whatever but I think the experience was so ingrained in my head that it lingers on. I'm guessing it'll eventually stop coming to my head but yeah... any experience?", "summary": "Dated older guy and things ended poorly; still think about him from time to time; does this happen with other people too?"}
{"id": "t3_4i5nee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] feel overwhelmed by siblings [23F, 25M] successes", "post": "My brother, 25, is the oldest child and was the \"example\". He did the things that typical high schoolers did, but was never caught, was never suspected. He was great at never getting caught. He received a 33 ACT score, graduated 4th in the class, and went on to attend an Ivy League school. He transferred closer to home jr. year for personal reasons and graduated in 5 years. \n\nOverall, he's been a success. Got out of college, got a great job, and is living on his own, paying off his debt with relative ease.\n\nMy sister, 23, took the hard way with everything. Hard to explain, but she moved out right after high school graduation and got a full time job, only attending an online nursing degree. \n\nAfter a few years, she moved in with her boyfriend, now husband, and continued working full time. In the past year, she was married, had a child, bought a home, and became an RN. She, too, is \"successful\" in my parents eyes. My sister lives happily in her house with her husband and young son, while working as a full-time nurse.\n\nMe, 19, just finished my freshman year at college in which, I struggled. I finished with a 2.6 GPA and received a D in one of my classes. I have no idea what I actually want to do with my life, I am still undecided. I'm worried that I will not live up to the same success as my siblings. I feel overwhelmed because I don't want to be the only child who was not a \"success\". Am I being dumb?", "summary": "My siblings are mostly successful and living happily. I have no idea what I want to do with my life and am worried that I'll be the only child that was a failure."}
{"id": "t3_2piw9l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slabbering sunscreen lotion over toilet paper at my high school", "post": "Happened yesterday. I found a small bag with some sunscreen lotion abandoned on the floor of one of my classes and, along with a few friends, thought that it would be funny to use it to prank some of my classmates. \n\nWell, things got out of hand when my teenaged brain decided that it would be \"epic lulz\" to splatter sunscreen lotion across parts of the boys' bathroom. I went in planning to slather the white cream over some toilet seats, a light switch, and toilet paper, did the deed, and then exited triumphantly to report my successful operation to my compatriots in the lunchroom.\n\nMinutes after lunch had ended, a security guard arrived at my classroom and called my name out like a medieval executioner. I could feel shit beginning to build in my ass as fear wrapped itself around my stomach. I was sent to the assistant principal's office, where he gave me two minutes to explain myself. I confessed to everything and got suspended for two days. The security guard had checked the feed from the camera outside the bathroom after the first report of the lotion attack came in and knew immediately that I had probably been the culprit.\n\nAs it turns out, a younger student had gone to wipe with the lotion-soaked toilet paper and went so far as to coat his rectal hairs with sun lotion before realizing that the paper was tainted and throwing it down. He was convinced that someone had deposited semen on the paper, which is why the whole ordeal seemed especially heinous at first, and now my new nickname is the \"Semen Vandal.\"\n\nPretty much all of my peers are laughing at how bizarre my actions were. I'm in my senior year of high school (18 years old) and I have straight-A's, a clean disciplinary record, and no reason to slather sun lotion all across a school bathroom.\n\nMuch regret is being had.", "summary": "semen vandal"}
{"id": "t3_3oh7y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [22 ] almost 3 years, how can I rekindle my relationship?", "post": "I've been with my first long-term gf almost 3 years.\n  The first year we're together all is pretty good. I eventually ebb out my best friend(female) slowly due to my gf's jealousy, which I understand since we were a lot closer than I was with her. We went out a lot, had a ton of friends together, life was good.\n\nSecond year. Her best friend moves away and she slowly starts losing friends. Same with me. Death of my first dog hits me hard. I am depressed for months. I spend most of my time with her getting high. She eventually starts wanting to go out more, I don't because I don't enjoy club scene. \n\nThird year: I quit smoking. Neither of us have many friends anymore, the ones I do see she gets jealous with snide remarks. I think she gets mad because she is bored. I start picking up a lot of hobby's, some of them really social at school. I have a ton of school work and I start not wanting to spend every night with her. I want to be home and work on school work or hobby's. Super close relative died and I'm not dealing well. She gets angry at me because \"she is sad\" and we fight for 2 days. However since then she's been acting like an angel when we're together. I'm still feeling super distant and trying to grieve. Still get a lot of pressure from her to come see her or her to come see me and it's starting to stress me out.\n\nI don't know if I should end things with her(I owe her money I cant pay because I'm having health issues, I'm on leave). We have tickets + hotels for a lot of events in the next month including Anniversary. Starting to get grass is greener syndrome.", "summary": "I don't know how to salvage my relationship with my girlfriend or should just end it but I owe her money  I cant pay back because I'm on medical leave. If I tried to salvage I'm not sure how to do it besides trying to get her friends."}
{"id": "t3_3nurpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with GF [22 F] of 2 months: A threatening new guy comes into the picture, what should I do?", "post": "Hello guys,\n\nLast week my gf told me casually about a new guy in her dormitory and that they've talked quite a few times. \n\nYesterday she told me she's going to watch a new movie with him. At first she intended to go with the other guys but they're either not interested or have already watched it. And then this new guy offered himself to accompany her. \n\nSounds innocent so far but then I said jokingly to her (to assess her reaction), \"maybe he likes you? ;)\" She said she's not sure but he seems to care about her, like asking how her day was, talking to her in the living room until midnight (red flag?). \n\nMy gut felt that he's a threat and I told her to just give him a hint that she's taken, and if he asks her to go out again ask him that I should go with them. Am I handling the situation right?", "summary": "What would you do if you sense a new guy is approaching your girlfriend and they've went out once?"}
{"id": "t3_1q600z", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Hi r/Offmychest, mind listening for a second?", "post": "I'm 22 years old now, no job, no car, no real life to speak of. I play video games am pretty over weight, horrid self-esteem and can't seem to pull anything together. Since high school everything has gone down hill, I gained weight, lost all my friends in a move, and can't connect with anyone around me.\n\nAs said, I'm a gamer so naturally I have friends online sort of, well today I fell into a trap of a situation, a friend who I've known for about 3 years who won't talk on mic, but refers to herself as a female, told me I was important and special. It felt AMAZING to see it typed, but once again, it was typed, she even told me, indirectly, that I was a place holder till her boyfriend is back around.\n\nI can't sleep without crying myself out, or clutching to a pillow and pretending to be cuddling someone. I hate it, I want to move far away, and try to get my life back on track, but with no job, no money, and little education, I'm terrified and don't know what to do.", "summary": "I suck at life and grasp at the smallest hope of someone liking me in an online, never seen or heard her, relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1tf379", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I break up with someone?", "post": "The girl I'm \"dating\" (kind of) treats me bad. We have different expectations and views of relationship. I'm unhappy with the current state of things and there's no way to fix them.\n\nThough I can't simply ignore her, I don't like playing games. Also, I'm trying to build up the courage to just say \"hey, it's over\" or something. I don't know, she's my first GF (also my ex), I don't know how to put an end to this. I really like her but I can't accept this kind of behaviour.\n\nShe's 19, I'm 21. We barely meet or talk. We last met like 3 weeks ago because she's busy with school and work. She doesn't respond to my texts [mostly] and I simply feel like she doesn't give a shit. \n\nYes, we talked about it several times. Didn't change the situation, she basically told me that I have to accept everything about her [including lack of time for me or even affection]. We argued last night, of course via facebook [because hey, we don't see each other very often] about her lack of time for me. I told her that I'm getting less and less comfortable with things and she doesn't care because she can get high. She got upset, turned off chat for me and ignores me. I even reached out my hand and asked if we could stop arguing, no response.", "summary": "Started dating my EX again. She doesn't have time for me, I feel like insecure crap. How do I put an end to things? Via facebook chat..?"}
{"id": "t3_1g4fqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can my (25/f) bf (27) have a sudden extremely low sex drive simply due to stress?", "post": "My boyfriend (27) and I (25/f) have been together a little over 2 years. Up until 2 weeks ago we had sex almost everyday and at the most went 2 days without. That had never changed during our entire relationship until now. Last week we only had sex 2 times all week, and it seemed like I pretty much had to beg him. While we were having sex, everything seemed normal though. Now it's been another 3 days and we haven't had sex since then.\n\nWhen I would ask him, or insinuate, he would always say he was tired or stressed. I do know that he is both of these things, but in the past that never stopped him, so it makes me worry he either a) isn't interested in me anymore or b) isn't attracted to me anymore.\n\nAnother thing that is weird is that he always wakes me up to kiss me goodbye before he leaves for work/school in the morning, and this morning he didn't. I mentioned it and he said he wanted to see if I would notice. Seems kind of mean/ weird. But then again I don't know if I'm just paranoid because of the whole sex thing, therefore being unreasonably worried about other things.\nI want to give him the benefit of the doubt and I hope that it really is just stress. Has anyone experienced low sex drive due to stress? Or has anyone's partner done this? Advice/experience welcomed.", "summary": "Boyfriend (27) and I (25/f) usually have sex everyday for past 2 years, but past two weeks its only happened twice.  Is there something wrong or is the reason he says we aren't (he's really just stressed out) a real possibility?"}
{"id": "t3_3nnqif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] with my ex [20F] texted me after a long break of communication. What should I do?", "post": "I know this may seem silly. Just over a year ago I broke up with a longterm girlfriend (both of our first relationship). I did it for personal reasons, but still loved her. \n\nA year and some change later I still love her. I'm honestly obsessed, and it sucks. I expect to see her everywhere I go and there hasn't been a day where I haven't thought about her since. \n\nI haven't talked to her since June or so which may not seem long, but it's the longest I've gone without contacting her at all. I decided to not communicate with her again unless she initiated. \n\nWell, this morning she texted me, asking about an event she knew I'd attend. We started a short conversation and I'm honestly not sure it was a good idea to even respond despite the fact that it made me happy. I had to shut my phone off to keep myself from frequently checking. I feel like a total chump. \n\nAm I doing the right thing by responding or should I just stop? Thanks.", "summary": "ex girlfriend texted me after months of no contact. what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1c43wd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does this mean my girlfriend wants to get married? [20M] [21F]", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about 5 months and we love each other and all that shit. I want to get married and I'm all in but I've never gotten a good reading from her about how she felt about it cause she seems to try avoiding the convo cause she says that we have time, which is true I guess. She always says things like \"We're gonna have such a happy life.\" or \"We're gonna have such a fun life together\" but she hasn't said \"I want to spend the rest of my life with you\" Based on the other things she said about life together, does that mean that she wants to spend it all with me but just doesn't want to say it like that?", "summary": "if a girl says we're gonna have a fun life together, is she implying the desire to get married?"}
{"id": "t3_q4vl2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who is right in this argument?", "post": "My friend and I were discussing about her not being able to get a job out of state at a horse riding facility in Montana. She is currently not even 16 yet. I told her that it is almost impossible to get a job at that age, and to get what she wants. What she wants is to get paid, as well as have the facility to provide a trainer, lessons, and other requirements. I provided her with a local pony riding facility that provides riding privileges to those who volunteer. She says what I suggested is basically poop. I believe this is the best she will EVER receive. Am I correct, or is hers even REMOTELY possible.", "summary": "Friend wants job at horse facility that provides lesson/trainer. She is 15. Says my help of a volunteer facility with free rides is poop. Who is right? "}
{"id": "t3_3hetpr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my GF [33 F] 4 years, have different interests but otherwise great relationship. Stay or go?", "post": "I have been dating this girl for about 4 years.  Great personality, ok looks.  She has great friends and family and is a hard worker.   She is funny. We get along great.  \n\nThe problem is that we are different in a lot of ways.  My vacation idea is backpacking or snowboarding versus a cruise or vegas for her.   My main problem is that I feel bored some times in our relationship.  Not just in activities but I will try and talk about current events or some amazing science discovery and she will ignore me or outright cut me off and change the subject. She isnt dumb but basic science goes over head.    \n\nSo all of this has been fine, doing differect activities etc, but now I met someone who does all the same activities.   And I feel stuck.  Stay with the great woman who already has invested time in me and likewise me with her but at the risk of periodic boredom or   consider that this is not the relationship for me and move on.", "summary": "1. in relationship for 4 years. "}
{"id": "t3_1p31la", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Today I fucked up by not getting kicked out of college", "post": "Instead of being kicked out I'm on deferred dismissal, so anytime between now and December 2014 if I get in any trouble whatsoever I'll be booted. Not to mention the fact that I have 15 hours of community service, 2 meetings for group counseling every week, a meeting with a school paster weekly, meetings with a counselor weekly, upwards of 600$ in fines, and have to go on a shit ton of retreats to try to \"get my act together\"; all for getting caught with pot for a second time a year after the first. Kids get transported to the hospital five times and they get a slap on the wrist, I dare to smoke a goddamn bowl and I'm the antichrist. \nAll for something that will be legal in 5-10 years here. The hypocrisy these days is maddening...", "summary": "got caught with pot twice at my university and now am being fucked up the ass by the administration"}
{"id": "t3_4lllod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [17M] is moving on, I'm [16F] not sure how to try to do the same without hurting people.", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right sub reddit but I really need advice. Me and my ex broke up because of distance but for a long time afterwards we just kept talking like we were still together stupid I know. He has a girlfriend now he says he still loves me but has to move on, whatever fair enough. So I'm really heartbroken he was my first love, I know I'll get over it eventually but it will take a long time. But I'm young and I really want to move forward, at the moment I want to try dating again, I'm not sure if I want a relationship so I'm worried about playing with people's hearts. Boys tend to like me, all the people I'm thinking about asking on a date I think will develop feelings for me and go quicker than I'm ready for. I don't know where else to meet people other than school and I'm really worried about hurting them. One boy who I find really attractive but is an ex boyfriend asked if I would give him a second chance, I don't know wether to go for it or not. I guess as a young person I would really like advice from people with more experience.", "summary": "want to move on but not sure how to do it without hurting feelings"}
{"id": "t3_3un6uz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not following the instructions and burning my jhonson", "post": "Literally my first post on reddit ever.\n\nSo today I was home alone and feeling a bit in the mood so I decided to bust out the fleshlight and give it the ol' one-two. Knowing that it feels better warmed up first with some warm water I made the mental leap to \"if 75F feels good, then wouldnt 150F feel twice as good?\" So i grabbed an old pot and tossed her in with some water on the stove for 10 minutes before I sat down. The outside was nice and warm and I was patting myself on the back for the genius idea. One thrust is all it took to show me the error of my ways. I cannot in good conscience describe what happened but it was an hour ago and im still sitting funny. To top it off, once my fleshlight cooled, it went from being straight to something out of HR Giger Movie. Not the best way to spend a saturday night.", "summary": "Went to use a fleshlight, boiled it first. Seared dick into a hotdog and ruined fleshlight."}
{"id": "t3_2hlp6j", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Why is Low Carb suggested in the FAQ?", "post": "I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this but I'm wondering why things like low carb and four hour body are suggested in the faq? The reason I'm saying this is because these are rigid/absolute approaches that can lead to eating disorders in the long run. I speak from experience I tried low carb ( keto) and saw some success with it initially. I quickly deemed it the panacea to being fat, but as time went on it became a mental drag to stay on the low carb diet. When I came off of it or \" cheated\" I cheated **HARD**! I would think to myself \" eh, it's ok i'm just going to back on low carb tomorrow ( or Monday)\", and when I wasn't low carbing I  would eat like food was going out of style because I was planning to return to miserable low carbing. This happened over and over again. Eventually, **I ended up 80 pounds heavier than I was initially when I had first started the low carb diet.** I later learned that rigid dietary approaches lead to eating disorders like mine and that I wasn't alone. \n\nI think it would be a lot better if the FAQ explicitly mentioned and suggested flexibly dieting ( and counting Macro nutrients) as an option. Overweight people will find the results from low carb diets very appealing because the results are initially awesome, but I'm worried they will fall into the same trap of the on/off switch that is a diet/binge cycle that I had. I think the FAQ shoud promote an eating life style that will be maintainable for life, and the restrictive behavior from low carb and four hour body is just not maintainable for a life style in my opinion. I can't remember the exact quote, but Layne Norton said something like \" If you can't see yourself on the staying on the diet 10 months from now, than you shouldn't be doing it.\"", "summary": "I think low carb is not the best option for most, I think flexible dieting is. I have experienced an eating disorder from low carb, and successfully lost all the weight I gained from binge eating."}
{"id": "t3_19onqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] told my boyfriend [21M] that I loved him, and he doesn't love me back.", "post": "We've been dating on-and-off for the past 3.5 years. A few weeks ago I told him that I loved him, and he responded that while he DOES feel very strongly about me, he doesn't quite feel the same. I feel hurt and offended that after all this time he still doesn't love me. We've been dating steadily (and very happily) for the past six months, and it hurts me to know that he doesn't care about me as much as I care about him (especially because we've known each other for such a long time and have a very lengthy history). I feel like I'm just waiting for him to love me so we can take our relationship to the next step. If he doesn't love me by now, after everything we've been through, will he ever? What should I do? Keep waiting for him to finally return my love? Am I being crazy here?\n\nWe have a very honest, healthy relationship and can talk about anything. I've told him how I feel, and he understands where I'm coming from but doesn't know what he should do to help me feel better about this.", "summary": "I'm in love with my boyfriend and he doesn't feel the same."}
{"id": "t3_ms3hn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, please help me get the perfect gift for my awesome step-dad.", "post": "So this might not be the right reddit for this, but I figured it would give me the best chance of success. Long story short, my stepdad has done a lot for my family over the years and kept us afloat during some pretty rough times when my dad decided he didn't want to support us anymore. He's a pretty simple guy and this year I realized I had the perfect gift for him and no way to go about doing it. Way back when he first started seeing my mom, a much younger and sarcastic me walked into the room and asked my mom \"is this the best you can do?\" For whatever reason, he finds that hilarious to this day. He also has a type of cup, a plastic beer mug (ex:  every single day. I thought it would be awesome to get him one that says \"The Best She Could Do\" but am working on a budget of about $50 bucks tops and every site I've checked needs me to order like 100 of them (I'd be fine with a bunch, as long as it stayed around $50).\n\nI know it's a longshot that anyone on here could help, but if you did it'd be freaking amazing.\n\nThanks for reading", "summary": "Need help finding a way to affordably make a custom cup for an awesome stepdad."}
{"id": "t3_2m72w9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to the laundromat", "post": "TIFU by going to the laundromat. I hate going to the laundromat as most people probably do, it's a waste of my precious time off of work. I fucked up twice while in the laundromat. My first fuck up was rushing with my cart so fast to the dryers that I rammed my cart into another ladies. She was not amused. \n\nMy second fuck up was far worse, since I want to get the hell out of here I was high speed chucking my stuff into the dryer. Throwing it over my shoulder...and then I missed the dryer. I threw my underwear into already annoyed ladies face. \n\nI tried to apologize and said \"well at least they're clean\" but she just yelled at me and I am currently hiding out on the other side of the laundromat.", "summary": "threw my underwear in some ladies face at the laundromat"}
{"id": "t3_2bvt7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25 M) have been dating for a couple of weeks with a girl from my office (23), now she tells me she is confused", "post": "So I have been in this company for a little bit more than a year, and little bit more than a month ago a new girl came in (she doesn't work in my area so we don't have much contact in the office).\n\nAnyway, we have been going out and things where pretty great, our first date was in this very romantic restaurant and last Friday we went to movies where we held each others hands and cuddle.\n\nThis girl broke up almost 4 months ago with his boyfriend of 5 years but as we hung out I could see that she wasn't thinking too much of him, so I thought that this would mean she was ready for another relationship.\n\nSo, today I was texting her and suddenly she tells me she is confused because she is not sure that she wants to have a relationship with someone from the office or ready for another relationship.\n\nI really don't know what to do, if what she tells me is true I feel like I have enough energy to make her change her mind. The thing is that I feel like she is hiding something, I don't know if she is telling me the true.\n\nWe agreed on talking tomorrow to settle things up and I have been thinking of telling her I am ready to do anything for her. I don't know if this is worth it or maybe I should just tell her I accept her decision and forget about our relationship.\n\nPlease I need some advice on what to do, this is driving me crazy and I don't want to do anything that could blow things up.", "summary": "Have been dating the new girl in my office and now she tells me she is confused"}
{"id": "t3_3iom26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's [16/f] extremely shy, and always has a big smile or is trying to hide one when she is around me [17/m].", "post": "Long story short, I used to text this girl who is two grades below me. I could tell that both of us were interested in each other, just by the way she would text me close to everyday. This went on for a month or so, but I'd still hadn't talked to her in person. (She's with her friends, I'm with mine, and the time never seemed quite right.)\n\nWell one day she said something like: let's just be friends for now kinda thing; after I had mentioned we'd never talked before.\n\nI hadn't texted her in awhile over the summer, but when I asked how her summer was going, it seemed like she was pretty stoked to be texting. And when I go to her older brothers house (pretty good friend of mine) and she comes down to where we're hanging out and talks to him, she's smiling obvious pretty big or trying to hold back a big smile. \n\nI'm *usually* not shy at all, but when it comes to her I can't seem to say anything at all. \n\nShe's pretty shy as well, so I may just be wanting to be thinking she still wants to talk to me and this was a big misunderstanding, but I'm not for sure. I can't stop thinking about her.", "summary": "We're both pretty shy, used to text, never talked in person. She smiles an obviously lot more when she's around me talking to other people, sometimes trying to hold back her smiles and glances. Should I attempt to talk to her, or leave or alone and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4128ph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] don't get along well with girls - is something wrong with me?", "post": "I don't want to be one of \"those girls\" but I've always made friends more easily with boys. It's not that I don't like being friends with girls, it's that it kind of seems like girls don't necessarily like being friends with me.\n\nI am sort of a late bloomer and was bullied in high school. The bullies were the \"popular\" girls and were pretty cruel. They called me names and would make fun of me even when I was still standing there. \n\nI went to college and grew out of my awkward phase as many of you probably did, and also became more confident. Except almost all the people I hit it off with have been boys. and I think I'm generally pretty well liked?\n\nI have a lot of friends now, mostly boys but also a few great girls too. Except when I meet girls a lot of the time they still I guess see through me and find that weird person from high school. And in general are sort of cold to me? I don't act any differently around them (maybe a little quieter out of intimidation)?\n\nI overheard two girls at a party once when I was refilling my drink say that they thought I was weird and they didn't know why the guys liked hanging out with me. It kind of brought back all my high school insecurities. \n\nTo be clear I do have friends that are girls! They are all very laid back and fun to hang out with.\n\n But I don't understand why a lot of the girls I meet are still sort of put off by me somehow. I have a lot of girl acquaintances but not many girl friends. \n\nOn the other hand almost every guy I meet we can become instant friends. \n\nI've asked a few close friends about it and they told me I was being silly and that everyone thinks I'm great.", "summary": "girls don't like me very much"}
{"id": "t3_3l2fio", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Boston, MA -- Local Auto-Glass Company seeking full cost of window replacement, threatening small claims; repair authorized by insurance and myself.", "post": "First and foremost, thanks so much for any advice you may be able to offer.\n\nBack in March, I worked with my insurance company to set up a repair claim for my windshield; I was asked to bring it into the dealership where I bought the car, and the autoglass company would repair the windshield there. When I received the car back, I had what I suspected to be a replacement, not a repair, but I couldn't be sure since I wasn't sure what a replacement vs. repair would look like.\n\nI received a call a few months later from the autoglass company [with my insurance company also on the line] asking why their claim was rejected, and then seeking full payment from me once they realized the claim was for a repair. \n\nI mentioned I would not compensate them for work I did not authorize, and asked over the course of multiple months three different times for proof that I authorized a replacement (I wouldn't do this since I'm not insured for that and knew it). A few days ago I received a letter offering me a 50% discount on the cost of the new windshield if I paid within 10 days; I called the glass company again looking for the proof of what I authorized, to which point they told me they'd be taking me to court since I clearly wasn't going to pay. They also intimated I \"verbalized\" authorization.\n\nA few questions:\n\n1. Where do I stand legally? Are they in the right to seek compensation for what I tend to think is an accident on their end?\n2. Which way do you see a court siding here?", "summary": "I had a windshield replaced that was authorized for repair, the auto glass company is seeking full restitution which I'm refusing to pay since I did not authorize it, and is now threatening to take me to court for full payment + 1.5% interest."}
{"id": "t3_46au11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] why is she acting like this and how do I fix it.", "post": "Hi my girlfriend (brittany) and I have been together for 2 years and it's been great. She is very beautiful sweet and caring and I love her so much. She has been weird lately.\n\nWell at a friend's party one night I got really drunk and started talking to a girl. This girl is known for sleeping around and is very.....uhm.....hot. Well not to long after she started getting flirty with me and started touching me and my face.\n\nThen she kissed me for a few seconds I was worried my girlfriend might get the wrong idea. Well when she let go I didn't know but my girlfriend was in the kitchen watching.\n\nI asked if she was ok and she said yes and asked if we could go so we left. In the car she was quiet and didn't talk we just listened to the radio. When we got home she went to bed and I thought our relationship was over.\n\nInstead the complete opposite happened and I've been scratching my head.\nShe has been clingy lately and I've asked why but she says she loves me so I just ignore it. She has been doing other things to such as.\n\n\u2022 having more sex (which is great but is kinda overwhelming).\n\n\u2022 hanging around me all day (which would be good but she wears nothing but lingerie around me now and it's distracting).\n\n\u2022 buying me stuff even though I don't ask her to and doesn't let me return them.\n\n\u2022 acts way more sexual when she's around me from giving me seductive looks to touching her self over her clothes.\n   \nI really don't understand why she is like this and it's a bit concerning.", "summary": "my girlfriend is behaving more sexual with me after another girl kissed me."}
{"id": "t3_2nn6su", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "120 Pounds Lost", "post": "I think it's about time I posted something to this sub but I'm terrible with words.\n\nHere are some progress shots 1 1/2 years after changing my lifestyle. 340 to 220.\n\nFace \n\nBody \n\nI work at a job that gives me various levels of physical strain each day. Some days I'll be at a computer all day, others I'll be moving 1,200 lb pallets around a warehouse and tossing heavy boxes up high. I never went to a gym during this time but I started watching what I ate.\n\nI understood that I have terrible willpower so I took it in baby steps. Walking to lunch, switching to just water, and taking a daily multivitamin kicked off my weight loss and I found myself losing 5-10 pounds every week or two. My lunch withered from a large meal+extras to a single entree and small side with water to drink. My dinner became a sandwich with some extras, and I was pretty much always hungry.\n\nFor exercise I had my job which keeps me fairly active. I don't know how much walking I do even on my slow days, but with myself being the size I was any activity was basically a workout. I was always exhausted by stairs and out of breath but now I enjoy how light I feel walking up them. At home I had a door-frame pull up bar that my friend/roommate encouraged me to use. When I first tried it I could do 0.1 pull ups and it sucked, but I would always try again when I walked past it in the hall and as time went on I got to my current max of 4. \n\nThere was a nice corner counter in my kitchen I would also stand at and do dips. Whenever I was in the kitchen I did as many as I could. I started with 10 small dips, but now I'm up to 40 big ones. Basically as far as exercise goes, it was just body weight exercises and what I was able to do at work.", "summary": "I started watching my intake and making small changes to my life which over time has led to progress and a better lifestyle."}
{"id": "t3_252r0t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/m] and friend [24/f] have been friends for ~8 months. Sometimes I feel bad because...", "post": "...I think she's fake, a liar, and not interested in my emotions. I feel like her therapist. When her and her boyfriend get into a fight, she ends up calling me asking if she overreacted. Sometimes the calls are constructive, other times they're filled with nothing to talk about. The calls can last up to an hour and a half. I'm her therapist.\n\n---\n\nWe workout together, occasionally. Her boyfriend doesn't know that we're \"friends\". This last weekend, there were 13-15 calls exchanged between her and me (about half were missed from where she tried to call me). Total of ~2 hours of talk time. Monday morning she called because she got into a fight with her boyfriend. Tuesday rolled around and I felt sick to my stomach. \n\nI didn't talk to her on Tuesday. Wednesday night she asked me to come workout. I agreed. After we finished, I felt bad.\n\n---\n\nI want to express myself to her, but I feel like she's a douchebag and wouldn't understand. I'm a very sensitive person and expressing myself makes me happy. Especially when someone understands my feelings.\n\nI need suggestions on how to talk to her about this.", "summary": "I don't feel good about being my friend's therapist without getting much in return. How do I express myself to her? In the past I thought about dating her, but now, I'm not so sure."}
{"id": "t3_kwpuo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if my biological alarm clock just went off or if I'm just in too deep!", "post": "I'm 28F. He's 29M\n\nA little background: I was in a previous 9 year relationship where I was engaged and planning to wed. However, due to many years of lies and deceit on my ex's behalf, our relationship ended and I felt a huge sigh of relief to be free from the cycle of pain he put me through.\n\nAbout 6 months later, I met my current SO through a mutual friend. He pursued me and after a few months of dating, we became official and exclusive to each other. We are so similar with way we both think and approach aspects of our lives. He's so easy going, and has been patient with me in regards to our relationship (not rushing me to do anything I'm not comfortable with yet), he makes me laugh all the time, and the sex is phenomenal! All in all, when I am around him, I feel at peace.\n\nHere's the problem: Lately, I have had a very strong urge to get pregnant, and it is freaking me out!  I have never experienced anything remotely close to this feeling, not even in my last relationship, and I was going to marry that guy! I mean it's weird, not that long ago I had decided that I was not going to have children at all, and now I see commercials that have babies featured in them and I think \"I want to be a mom.\" I mean it has been a complete 180 with my emotions lately. \n\nI'm not sure if it's just me coming to a point in my life where I feel like I'm ready, or if I'm just going through a phase because things are finally going so well in the relationship department, that these feelings are just a side effect. I still take my birth control religiously, and I haven't told my SO about these feelings I've been experiencing lately because this relationship is still new, and I feel like it's too soon to even have a dialogue about that kind of topic with him.  \n\nMy question is: Is it normal to have a sudden desire to start a family, especially so soon in a relationship? Have any of you ever had this urge out of the blue like me, and if so, how did you deal with it?", "summary": "Was in a long term relationship, did not want kids through out the entire relationship. Now I'm in a new relationship, and have this strong desire to start a family with the new beau, and I'm freaked out! halp!"}
{"id": "t3_thabf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who was the toxic person in your life that you cleansed yourself from?", "post": "Out of the blue, I received an email earlier this week from an ex that I had cut all ties with 3 years ago. His email read, \"I heard from my sister that you got married. If this is true, I know that you will make him very happy. I'm happy for you. Take care.\"\nI've never been close to marrying anyone in my life, so I know this \"rumor\" he heard was made up by him just so he could phish information about me since we haven't talked in so long. \nWhen we were together, he lied, avoided my phone calls, led me on, and all around played games. He's just plain toxic. It took me years to move on because he was my 1st love, but I'm completely over it, now.", "summary": "my toxic ex tried to weasel his way back in to my life."}
{"id": "t3_1ulz0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am having trouble breaking up with my girlfriend [16F] of nearly two years", "post": "I feel like this breakup has been coming for a while. I've had on and off feelings of wanting to break up with her since summer, but until now, they've gone away very quickly. But its not as simple as just breaking up with her, to me. \n\nMy issue is that I don't dislike her in any way, I just dont feel the same sort of attraction I did for the first year or so of being together. I still care for her a ton, and I know that any talk of breaking up, even hypothetically, would send her into a terrible spiral and thats the last thing I want. I'm just not into being romantic with her anymore. \n\nShe also has issues with self-image and self-worth that are going to be hard to avoid, as she's going to bring that up and blame that for the break up, when simply, I just want to be single right now. I miss being free to hang out with my friends whenever I want without feeling obliged to be with her, and I miss my enjoyment of sports that she inadvertently guilts me out of. \n\nTo top that off, I will probably end up losing half my friends over a breakup because their her friends that simply took a liking to me, but we all never got close, so my social life can go in the crapper. \n\nAny advice whatsoever would help a ton.", "summary": "I want to be single but also still care for my girlfriend very much and dont want to send her into a downward spiral."}
{"id": "t3_1nvobk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friends are no help, so I thought I would try Reddit", "post": "I found out my live-in-girlfriend of 3+ [27/F] years had been cheating on me...So I confronted her [M/28], and broke up with her, and then moved out. She is desperately trying to win me back and call/texts/emails me about how she wants to fix things and make it work.\n\nBut the girl [F/28] that told me about my unfaithful girlfriend, I have secretly had a thing for for over a year now... ever since I was introduced to her by my ex.  And it turns out, this girl is in love with me! I went from what should of been a horrible time in my life, to the happiest times of my life.  I'm still in shock of how everything went down and getting use to living on my own, but I can't get this girl out of my head.  Part of me feels guilty for how this all happened, and I think sometimes I should let the ex know about it, or just let her find out on her own... \n\nShould I tell the ex? Should I feel bad for this? Or should I be pumped the universe made this happen for me and let everything work out how it's suppose to?", "summary": "Girl told me my girlfriend was fucking her friend.  Turns out she is secretly in love with me and now we have been dating since I broke up with my ex"}
{"id": "t3_1urcew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my peers [15 -17 M&F] What should my social life be like now?", "post": "I was the new kid coming into a public high school after being in private school since kindergarten. Its the beginning of second semester now and I still feel like I don't have much of a social life. After being with the same people for so many years I guess I forgot how to build a social life.\n\nI have friends in all my classes and people to sit with at lunch but I never text or do social things outside of school. I haven't even asked any of them for their phone numbers. I don't invite people to do things because I don't know what we would do. My house is rather boring.\n\nI guess what I'm asking is how do I rebuild my social life? When people hang out what do they do? How do I know when its the right time in the friendship to ask someone for their phone number or to hang out but not come off as weird?", "summary": "Am the new kid. Don't know how to rebuild social life."}
{"id": "t3_3ea0bi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my GF [17 M/F] dating for 3 months, her friend told me she loves me, what do i do?", "post": "This might be a long paragraph so sorry for that, im just really confused, and this is my first post ever\n\nI have been dating my girlfriend just shy of 3 months and have already expressed my feelings for her (i.e. told her she means everything to me and i love her) she has said the same to me and aside from not seeing each other alot because of busy schedules (me=work, her= softball and strict family) and the here and there occasional fight we're in a good relationship. \n\nNow her friend, lets call her Mary, has been friends with her in school and played softball with her for years so she knew her well before i did and talked to her alot. Since we have started dating i have always gone to mary for advice for help since shes a girl and knows things about my gf and i being in my first relationship dont understand them. I've never hung out with her unless my girlfriend was with me. \n\nToday after not seeing my gf for 3 weeks, I went out to dinner with my gf and mary, it was really nice but as soon as i got home mary sent me a text saying \" im sorry but i gotta tell you, i love you\" \n\nI don't have feelings for her, she is only as a friend to me totext and that's it, and she asked me not to tell my girlfriend because shes afraid she will lose both me and her as friends.", "summary": "dating gf for 3 months and friend tells me she loves me. I have no feelings for her and do i tell my girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2twb9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to Successfully Move On (f/19)", "post": "I have been with the same guy for well over three years (on and off). We've had an awfully rocky relationship..both of us haven't been entirely faithful to the other.. whether it be emotional or physical. However we have always been so drawn to each other that we crawl back to one another. Yes this isn't healthy, I understand, and in hindsight I ought to have been more strong. But that's besides the point. Anyhow, now he is embarking on a new career pathway.. the army. So the relationship is done indefinitely, we've come to a mutual consensus that long distance is hard for a healthy couple,let alone an unhealthy one. There is no bad blood and I feel some relief because I think he was beginning to resent me due to my neediness and obsession with affection. I'm not going to divulge too much information about it but I guess I'm just looking for some support and advice. After always crawling back, how do I maintain my strength and resolve. How do I ensure this is over for real? What should I do?", "summary": "ending of a long relationship because it is genuinely what is best. However,have a history of falling back into the relationship. I'm just asking how do I ensure that this is the last time. Any insight would be appreciated :)"}
{"id": "t3_1zs7o1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] really like someone younger than me and I don't know if it's right[18M]", "post": "I feel so lame. I made an account just to ask this question.i met this guy at work. We would talk every now and then, nothing serious, just \"hello\" and all that. Now we've been talking a lot more, little more flirty. But he's 18. I've only known him for a few months, but yet I'm attracted to him, he makes me laugh, he's really easy to talk to and I know he likes me. I feel so wrong for liking him, but then again, I feel like it wouldn't matter it were reversed. What if we had sex? Would I be in trouble? I feel so stupid asking this.", "summary": "am i a pedophile?"}
{"id": "t3_3795g9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my mother's opinion on women", "post": "First post - bear with me.\n\nSo about an hour ago, I was watching an episode of the show Quantum Leap, and this particular episode was about a man that came back from WWII with a Japanese bride. He then suffers tremendous ridicule from his mother and neighbors.\n\nAfter the show, I asked her what she would think if I brought home a non-white girlfriend or bride. I expected to joke around a little bit then get an, \"as long as she makes you happy,\" but no. I was shocked to hear hesitation and a sigh. \n\"Mom?\" I respond.\n\"Well...\" She says. \nThis is where things took a turn. I sat there on the couch for an hour trying to get a straight answer out of her, but I couldn't tell if she hadn't taken my question seriously or if she was intentionally avoiding my question. By the time she saw my straight face and realized how serious I was, she gave me her answer. Although this answer was broken up into lectures about religion and tradition, and what would make her happy, I knew what she was saying.\n\nNow I'm afraid to bring home any girl that may not fit into my mother's bigoted standards and I lost a good amount of faith in her views. I understand that she was raised by parents who are no where near as understanding as she is, but I can't shake this weird feeling I have in me that I won't make my mother happy, even though love is about making myself happy. I love my mom but she really worries me sometimes.", "summary": "asked my mom what she would think about me marrying/dating a non-white girl, we about it, I discover my mom is more of a bigot than I thought."}
{"id": "t3_4n32uh", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Going back to college in my late 30s. Am I foolish for doing this?", "post": "Pretty simple. Life events took priority and I never finished college. \n\nSince then, made some strides at work, a decent job but it's not fulfilling personally. Company has nice tuition reimbursement plan. Consistent job history so experience isn't out of the question. \n\nStarted community college Spring 2015 and hitting three to four classes per semester (including summer). Associates degree in the bag and I begin 300 & 400 level courses in the Fall. Should get BS in Management/Finance by my 40th birthday. \n\nDo you think I'll get a great return on my education? I've got maybe 30 more years of work ahead of me but it sure would be nice to have a greater income to get to a comfortable retirement earlier.", "summary": "Is it a smart move to go for bachelor degree at age 38?"}
{"id": "t3_1kx75f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I screwed up bad", "post": "I just got out of a bad breakup, with weeks of my ex and I getting into nasty fights, before we were able to work out a way to stay friends. I spent the last month of the relationship (and the month since we broke up) pretty much blaming her for most of it. But something happened today, where I unintentionally was an asshole to her, which got me thinking again. I realized our failed relationship and everything else was more my fault than anything else; I was emotionally abusive, and I've spent months in denial, which has hurt her. I still care a lot about her and I feel absolutely awful for how much harder I've made things for her when I thought I was trying to make her happy, but I have no idea what to do. An apology just wouldn't feel like enough, but I can't think of any appropriate gesture that would adequately express how bad I feel about it, or even begin to make up for how I treated her. I'm not trying to get her back, but she is a great person, and she at least deserves this. Any advice?", "summary": "Realized I was abusive, want to make it up to my ex, don't know how I can"}
{"id": "t3_1pd12p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my ???bf??? [27 M] a month and a half, how to approach the status of our relationship", "post": "Ok I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. We really clicked in the beginning and we hangout, go on dates, talk almost every day/every other day. He started sleeping over at my place a couple weeks ago. No, we are not having sex yet. Just sleeping and some steamy make out sessions. \n\nPeople keep asking if we are official and I have NO IDEA how to answer that.\n\nI have no idea how to even bring it up to him... How do you ask a guy what your relationship is without scaring him off?!?\n\nHALP!?!?", "summary": "been going out for a month and  a half want to know how to ask him about our status as a couple"}
{"id": "t3_54da5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "hanging [19 M] with this girl [17 F] every night past 3 months, am I dating/in a relationship with her? (feel blind to what's happening)", "post": "I've been talking to this girl since the beginning of this year but just the past 3 months we've been seeing each other every single night. She's not the best at expressing herself emotionally like if I tease by saying I'm gonna leave or walk ahead she'll grab my arm and say \"no..\" (neither of us are 12 but this kind of behavior isn't the best reminder). My question is if we're actually dating or in a relationship even though she's not comfortable talking about it or setting rules in a direct way. It's really easy for me to get intimate, everytime we greet I hug her and we kiss for a little less than a minute and do the same when I walk her home.", "summary": "kiss girl upon meetin and kiss her goodbye every night past few months, she only sees me and rarely hangs out with other people and i kinda do the same, are we something or am I overthinking"}
{"id": "t3_18nm6u", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog lays down on walks when another dog is approaching - help!", "post": "Hi, my dog is two years old ~75 lbs, mix of Australian cattle dog, chocolate lab and we suspect german shepherd. \n\nShe really loves her walks and gets super excited for them. Anyway, the issue is that when she sees another dog approaching us she will just lay down in her spot and will not budge! She waits for the dog to get near, and then she'll either get up or stay laying down. Depending on the dog, they'll give each other a few sniffs and then we can continue on our walk. She is never aggressive or lunges at the other dogs... it's almost like she just wants to wait to say hi. It's worth mentioning however that she is poorly socialized and usually won't be very active or playful during these interactions.\n\nWhen I have her off leash, she still does this but i've found if i walk ahead of her or even jog/run she will get up and follow me.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone has experienced this with their dog as well? Ideally, I'd like my dog to continue walking with me and greet other dogs and their owners... it can definitely male other owners weary as I just stand there waiting for my dog to get up.", "summary": "my dog lays down when she sees another dog and won't move until they've said hi."}
{"id": "t3_252rdr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] starting to feel self-conscious about my lack of relationships.", "post": "I have one friend who is already married, another two friends who just got together (one of which who was recently in the same boat as me, now I feel like the odd one out), and countless other friends who either have or have had relationships. I'm beginning to feel like there's something wrong with me and that I'm falling behind. \n\nI know that I'm probably self biasing, and if I look around I'd probably see more single people than not, but it's hard to reconcile my rational thoughts with the irrational ones. Maybe I just need someone to either convince me that there's nothing wrong with me, or tell me that there definitely is and I should start trying to fix it. \n\nI don't know if I particularly want a relationship, I don't think I've met anyone that it would have worked out with, I'm just feeling very self-conscious, and am afraid that I'm getting bitter. \n\nI don't know if this is appropriate to this subreddit. Apologies if it's not.", "summary": "Lonely-ish, self-conscious of lack of experience/relationships, feel like odd one out. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_ejyf8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Marginalized by the CEO and don't know how/if I need to say something", "post": "At our annual holiday party at the kickass startup company I work at, our CEO gave a slightly inebriated speech/toast. In it, she mentions the four programmers who are my co-workers. She mentioned and thanked the CTO and the COO. In fact, it was incredibly awkward when the toast was over and everyone realized she hadn't thanked ME. \n\nThis is another slight, however small, in a long history of marginalizing behavioral towards me. I feel like I would like to address it with her because, frankly, the programmers aren't the ones who run everything day-to-day. They work EXTREMELY hard but so do I. My contributions as PR and Operations Director never seem to matter.\n\nI'm not entirely sure what to do. We are the only two women in our office of eight.  I just hate these repeated awkward moments that everyone else picks up on but yet none of them DO anything, like say \"Dont forget Jen!\". Has this happened to anyone else?  What did you do or wish you had done?", "summary": "my CEO does not acknowledge my work contributions but I loooove my company otherwise. Advice on how to discuss with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2rsfkr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by changing my Google+ name to my username for a video game, not realizing that it also changed my Gmail name", "post": "This happened in December, but I only found out about my blunder today.\n\nSo, I decided to change my Google+ name to my League of Legends username. I have a couple videos on Youtube and I thought that it'd make more sense to use my League IGN instead of my real name as my channel. Little did I know that this would also change my name on Gmail...\n\nCome Christmas/New Years, I email my employers and former professors, wishing them a happy holidays and whatnot. I do this every year, and I always receive replies back. However, this year, I did not get a single reply. I thought it was strange, but decided to wait a week. Maybe everyone was on vacation and did not have time to get back to me.\n\nToday, I got paranoid (thinking that maybe I had accidentally sent something inappropriate), and decided to go check my \"Sent\" inbox...\n\nLo and behold... I'm greeted with my own fucking League of Legends username as the Sender. For ALL the emails I've sent since December! I had been corresponding with the name \"Redeemer Hexapod\", no one bothered to tell me, and I was too dumb to notice it myself.  \n\nI have no idea what to do now. Should I send another e-mail? Or just pretend it never happened? This is incredibly embarrassing.", "summary": "accidentally changed gmail name to league of legends username and corresponded with professors and employers without knowing what happened"}
{"id": "t3_11vcgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to rebuild [19] trust in a relationship, shes [18], we've been off and on for two years.", "post": "Well, basically I am/was dating this girl off and on for about two years. I've had 5 other serious relationships before this one, and I can honestly say, this has been on of the most unique/intimate relationship i have ever been apart of. I've never cried in front of a girl until this one (multiple times) and i've never told a girl I loved her without trying to get into her pants. Over the past few months, we've had some trust issues, (we'd break up for like a day she'd hook up with someone, id do the same) and now we have very rough trust issues and she's convinced that it will never work or be the same, but i can tell shes indecisive, and I feel as though anything is possible with this girl because I swear to god if real love exists, this is the one of my life. (We've been together since I was a junior in highschool, I'm now a sophomore in college(19), shes a freshmen in college(17)).\nWhat do i do.", "summary": "Two year long relationship, found the love of my life, How do you rebuild trust, I don't want to lose her."}
{"id": "t3_tuhpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Soon-to-be wife doesn't reciprocate oral sex [21 M+F]", "post": "She claims it's \"different\" because I get to orgasm every time we have sex... therefore, I HAVE to get her to orgasm, and the easiest way to do that is by going down on her. Additionally, she says it's not the same for her to go down on me as it is for me to go down on her because \"Nothing shoots into my mouth\". Am I expecting too much by being upset at this?\n\nI had been going down on her for 2 years before I ever received a blow job. At this point, I think I may be more concerned with how shallow it seems to me that she expects orgasms from me vs. wanting to please me, because I spent so long doing anything she asked.\n\nWe've been dating for 3.5 years... we're soon to be married, so I'm not planning on leaving her for this, I just want her to change the way she feels on this.\n\nI'm a male, 21. She's a female, 21 as well.", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't reciprocate oral sex"}
{"id": "t3_219x6y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] want to break up with my long-distance boyfriend [20 M] almost 3 years on/off, boyfriend suddenly had a huge change in values", "post": "I grew up living two doors down from my current boyfriend. We started dating when I was 16, 3 years with a one-year break in the middle.\n\nMy boyfriend attends an extremely conservative college. When I say this, I mean I overheard two guys talking about how aborted babies go to hell in the common room of the dorm. I don't mean for this to sound judgmental of peoples' personal views, but my boyfriend seemed to have a huge change in his values. Before, he was fairly laidback and open-minded. Since attending this college, he has been saved by Jesus. I am spiritual but don't identify with a religion, which bothers him. He bothers me to go to church with him when I always say no. When discussing religion one time, I said \"I don't bother you about your beliefs, so why do you bother me about mine?\" and he said \"They're not my \"beliefs\" they're the truth!\" This personality really turns me off and shocks me. \n\nIn addition to this, I have lost all sexual attraction to him. Although it pains me to admit this, I have been fantasizing about a guy I used to have a little thing with. I mean I have sex dreams about him and think about it all of the time. I don't think that's healthy.\n\nI have a codependent personality - I have always had a boyfriend or a love interest and for me it's a sense of security and stability. I have really bad luck with friends and social anxiety, making a boyfriend perfect comfort. Having someone to text makes me so happy and I'm bracing the impact of what I know I have to do. \n\nWorst of all, he plays college baseball and I won't see him until summer.I want to do it before then, mostly because he deserves to know and also because I wanna be single on spring break (shameless). I've asked him if I could drive up for lunch and he said there's no time. He broke up with me over the phone before and it was terrible, I can't see doing it to him. But I feel like I'm lying to him by not saying anything.", "summary": "Long-term boyfriend had sudden change in values, I have started having sexual feelings about another guy, I am codependent and don't know when to time the break-up"}
{"id": "t3_36of3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [20 F] of 4 months, I am feeling unhappy about our relationship.", "post": "I have no idea if I'm all in my head right now and it's making me unhappy but I just keep feeling like she doesn't care about me like I care about her. I don't hear kind words as much as I used to and I feel when I tell her about my life that she is uninterested. I asked her about this and she said she just doesn't know what to say. I kind of understand but I don't know if that's all it. Like I tell her what happened in my day and she just goes oh cool and goes back to watching her shows whereas when she tells me about her day no matter if I find it uninteresting or not I will delve deeper and try to ask her to expand on it more or try to get her to tell me more about certain things but for her I feel like she doesn't even try to engage with me or try to ask me things. I like her a lot and I want us to work out but I have no way of knowing how to even begin to tell her how I feel or what to even do about it. I know she is just not good at talking about the deeper things and I know she doesn't really know how to talk about nothing but emotionally I can't help but feel hurt when she doesn't engage with me and it causes me to shut down. I'm really just lost about what to do and I don't want to be unhappy any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend reacts as if she is uninterested in the things I say and I get hurt by it and begin to shut down. Not sure how to bring it up or how to even help our situation. I'm also in my head a lot of the time and i tend to think myself into toxicity. Advice needed"}
{"id": "t3_4oyfxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my gf [28 F] 3 month relationship; ongoing, Money & Life Experiences", "post": "We both moved from our respective home cities, post graduation (undergrad), to live in NYC (where we met)\n\nHer: \nHer parents pay for pretty much everything for her. She makes a very low income.\n\nShe's traveled the world on her parents' dime including studying abroad twice in college.\n\nShe kind of has a 'charmed life' where everything seems to just fall right into place for her without her really doing anything.\n\nMe:\nI pay for everything myself and I make an 'okay' income. My parents are by no means poor, but we did have struggles here and there. They're doing well for themselves now though.\n\nI've never been outside of the US\n\nI feel like I have to bust my butt for everything\n\nOverall, I really like her a lot and she's really into me as well (honestly probably a little more so than I am into her). We've both said that we've never really felt this way about a significant other before.\n\nThe Problem/My Problem: I find it hard to relate to her when it comes to things involving money and travel. She gets that things are expensive, but she also knows that if she really wanted it/to do it she could just ask her parents. I don't have this luxury.\n\nWhenever we get together with her friends all I hear is, \"remember that trip we took to (insert awesome destination)\" or \"omg, my brother is moving to Bora Bora\". Don't get me wrong, they're nice people, but I can't relate to that at all.", "summary": "Let me paint the picture this way...have you ever come home to your significant other and had that talk of, \"you know baby if we keep saving up, we can take that trip to Paris.\" or something like, \"man, one day when I make more money I can do/buy (insert thing here)\""}
{"id": "t3_139p58", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [20M] am developing feelings for my best friend [20F]. (repost because this got lost during a slow period)", "post": "At my college, I have a very small, close friend group of four people including myself. I met them about a year and a half ago and the four of us are near inseparable.\nMy best guy friend and my best girl friend dated at the end of last semester and into the summer, but only lasted a couple months after a confusing breakup. They were long distance over the summer, both had family issues going on and eventually he said it might be easier to take a break (essentially).\nOnce things calmed down he was interested in picking it back up, but she wasn't. She is very clear about this. They are still close friends, but are no longer dating. I am unsure if he has completely come to terms with that or if he is over it. They broke up a few months ago now. Both have waded into the dating pool (separately) but nothing serious has come of either. He recently had to leave the college due to something he did not actually do. (sorry about vagueness)\nLately I have been developing feelings for her. Part of it is because I hang out with her so much more often, with the other guy no longer on campus and our other friend busy with her labs or her own boyfriend. I don't want to mess up our friendship, but I think I want to be more than friends. I'm not confident if she feels the same or if she would try dating another close friend. Her and I live near each other and would not be long distance so that would not be an issue. At the same time, I am afraid of insulting my other best friend by dating his ex. I would be content staying at this level of friendship if I knew she was not interested and I am very sure that eventually my friend would forgive me, but I am afraid of the potential initial anger/frustration/mistrust. I know I'm missing some other relevant details but I wrote enough already for now.", "summary": "I want to date my best girl friend, who happens to be the ex of my best guy friend at college. the breakup has been a few months ago and their relationship lasted only a few months. The three of us are still very close with one another"}
{"id": "t3_1jzhcv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Help with \"Picking Up Girls\"", "post": "So currently me and my friends are on vacation in a place where we speak enough of the language to have very good conversations and easily talk to people, however at times are a bit rusty. Currently we've decided to go out a lot the last week into town and enjoy some of the local bars. These past few days we've for the first time in our lives tried out luck with girls. \n\nOnly problem is we're all virgin MMORPG and have little to know experience with this. We usually spend 20 minutes sitting thinking of what to say or how approach them and by then we find ourselves sitting like idiot and they've left. \n\nReddit, we don't know how to look or dress or speak with confidence and we need help on how to do this.", "summary": "We're Nerds and we need to figure out how to speak dress and act with confidence to help us have the summer vacation of our lives."}
{"id": "t3_rk3ip", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Heard something funny from an LA Fitness employee", "post": "So I've been going to the gym for about a month so far and I have made some progress. I only do cardio because it is what I am most comfortable with and it has been working for me so far. \n\nAnd yes, I am totally aware of the benefits of weight training and all that jazz, I get it. I just choose cardio because it has been doing the job so far. Perhaps in the future I will feel more comfortable with the weights, I might work them into my routine. But so far I only do 90 minutes of cardio when I go to the gym 3-4 times a week. \n\nAnyways, the gym staff has surely noticed seeing my face there more often. Today, a worker approached me trying to sucker me into her personal training program. She threw around all these numbers and the one that stuck with me the most is that you stop burning calories while doing cardio after 45 minutes. \n\nI find this fact to be pretty outrageous and I laughed as soon as she said it and declined her offer to get me to commit more money to the business. \n\nSo loseit, am I right in not believing her sales-pitch candy, or does this little tidbit have some validity? I hope I didn't make a fool of myself.", "summary": "The max time you can spend burning calories doing cardio is 45 minutes. Fact or fiction?"}
{"id": "t3_gce13", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Avoiding crippling student loan debt", "post": "I was just accepted to NYU as an undergraduate - college of arts and sciences. I am incredibly excited to study and live in New York. However, I am concerned with the debt I will incur (all federal loans) during my time at NYU. Here is my financial aid breakdown:\n\nNYU Tuition + Room and Board + Other Expenses = approx. $55,539/year\n\n$12,500/year CAS scholarship, $3,000 a year work study, $2,400/year perkins loan, $3500/year Stafford Loan, $2,000/year unsubsidized loan, and $7,000 in more stafford loans because my parents will not qualify for the Federal PLUS loan.\n\nWhich leaves around $26k a year that my parents will have to pay. I'm not so much worried about this, my parents wouldn't agree to pay for something they couldn't afford (though it will be a stretch), as I am worried about the approximate $70,000 in debt I will incur over 4 years (someone check this prediction, I just multiplied the yearly loan amounts - $17,500 - by 4). \n\nIs this manageable debt? How can I avoid this? Please help.", "summary": "College is expensive as hell and I don't want a ton of debt."}
{"id": "t3_1jw5ug", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I try to pay off my auto loan first or should i try to build an emergency fund first?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI'm turning 27 by the end of the year.  My goal is to steer my finances toward the right course by the end of this year.  I've done a bit of work to clear the majority of my debts and spending over the last few months (credit cards, computer loans, gym memberships, traffic tickets, etc.)\n\nHowever at this moment I still have an outstanding car loan around $10,500 at 5.1% interest, with payments of $275/month.  The interest on the auto loan is calculated daily so the earlier I pay off the principal the less interest I will need to pay.  \n\nI also have a student loan of $1,200 which will go up to around $2,400 by the end of the year (going to take 2 more classes).  I will most likely remain in school for another year so at this point I am not paying any interests.\n\nI currently make $2,388 after tax a month.  My monthly spending is about $1500 to $1600 (rent 400, car loan 275, insurance 170, cellphone 65, food ~300-400, entertainment 100, gas 200).  If things go generally according to plan, I should have about $6500 in my bank account by the end of the year (all I have).  \n\nAlso, my parents live in a different country, but they have about $2000 in their savings account.  They kept the money there as an \"emergency fund\" for me.  While I have absolutely no desire of touching that money unless my life is about to end, I could potentially consider this as part of my emergency fund.  \n\nMy question is, how should I allocate the $6500 by the end of the year?  \n\n-should I keep the $6500 as an emergency fund?\n\n-should I pay, say, $4000 toward the principal of the auto loan, and then keep the $2500 as emergency?\n\n-should I just pay off my auto loan as aggressively as possible?", "summary": "I will have about $6,500 by the end of the year in cash savings.   My parents (out of country) also have an account with $2000 in it as \"emergency fund\" for me.  I have a 10k auto loan @ 5.1% with interest calculated daily and a 2.4k student loan (no interest until 2015 when I finish school).  Should I put all my money into paying off the auto loan or should I keep some as emergency fund?"}
{"id": "t3_1lnb28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[27M] with my [25F] girlfriend together for 9 months, wondering what to do.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI'll try and keep this as short as possible. I'm an American who went to work in Dubai for about a year. From last April until January I was with one company. Towards the end of my time with this company, I met my GF (we'll call her M). \n\nM and I hit it off immediately. Shortly after we met, I found out I was laid off from my job. I left Dubai and went back to the States for about a month. During that time, I got a good tip on a job back in Dubai which meant I'd be able to be with M again. So I went back. \n\nThe job turned out to be extremely low paying and not what was advertised. I dealt with that for 4 months and searched for and found a job back in the States last month. She begged me not to go, but I insisted I wouldn't be able to find a decent paying job in Dubai (true at the time). \n\nSo now I'm back and we are Skyping everyday and I'm missing her like crazy. This new job back in the States is great but she isn't here and I miss her terribly. \n\nThere is another job opportunity I'm pursuing in Qatar. My dream would be that the job is good and I would be able to go back to the Middle East. Dubai is only a 1 hour flight from Qatar so I could see M much more often. \n\nI guess my question is: Should I leave the States again to pursue my relationship with M? I really love her and miss her and my life feels empty without her.", "summary": "Was in Middle East. Met girl. Came back to States, left to get job near girl. Job bad, came back to States for better job. Job good, no girl, I'm  sad. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_255wll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, I forgave her but am now having second thoughts.", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nSo I talked to my girlfriend about it. She understood blah blah that worked out. The problem is: I don't feel any better. I feel so strange about our relationship now because of things she's said to me. I think I want to break it off. Check my post history if you want to see some of our problems. \n\nIt's just weird now because she acts so happy. Once again is talking about the future. Booked something for our next anniversary (next February). And misses me on the days I stay home - I finally got the alone time I've been asking for. I'm not sure how to approach this. I don't want it to end but at the same time I hope it does, while wishing things were perfect once again.", "summary": "Talked to girlfriend about issues. Didn't make me feel better. Things are good but I don't feel excited about the relationship anymore."}
{"id": "t3_38zgvv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pouring a glass of OJ without the lights on", "post": "I couldn't sleep last night and woke up at around 4am. I often will go downstairs and have a snack/drink (pretzels or yogurt for me) and at the time I was so tired I said screw it and walked to the fridge without turning on the lights. I got the glass and the orange juice and I was somewhat confident of my motor skills, but I missed the glass (and OJ pours out so fast) and there was juice all over the counter and floor, which was annoying to clean up, especially when I was tired. So that was my relatively minor FU of the day.", "summary": "u cant see in the dark"}
{"id": "t3_4ih2hc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my live-in bf [25M] of 1.5 yrs. Vacation plans making me question the relationship", "post": "I have been together with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, living together for half a year. I finally finish university this Summer and have a couple of months off before I start a very high paying but also very stressful job where I'm unlikely to be able to take significant time off for a couple of years.\n\nI know this post probably seems like a first world problem, but it's making me wonder if it's a symptom of a bigger value clash. \n\nI wanted to go away on vacation for two weeks this Summer. My boyfriend is working but has not managed to build up savings. as such, I offered to pay for his flights from money I've saved from my part time job. He'd have to pay for his other expenses but since I wanted to go to cheaper countries these probably wouldn't be more than \u00a330 a day which he can afford on his salary (and in fact is probably close to what he'd spend staying at home or less if we sublet our apartment for some of that time).\n\nMy only criteria was that we'd go somewhere outside of Europe that was not super expensive to fly to or stay in (like Japan). I gave about 20 suggestions and he would not agree to any of them for no particular reason. He is saying that I'm being uncompromising and unreasonable for not wanting to stay in Europe, but I just really wanted to have a final trip before my job to somewhere exotic! \n\nMy other concern is that last summer we went away for a couple of weeks and his behaviour and negative attitude absolutely ruined the trip. I'm also concerned that I'll end up paying a \u00a3500 air fare for him and then hating the trip because of him.\n\nAm I being crazy? Who is in the wrong here? This is really upsetting me as travel is a value that I really want my partner to share and am wondering if this might develop into a dealbreaker.", "summary": "both me and boyfriend think the other party is being unreasonable about vacation plans. Help me with my first world problem please?"}
{"id": "t3_1h6gn1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me[20M]; inexperienced with girls, about to ask a girl[20] from class out", "post": "**Info about me**: For the first time in my life I actually feel happy and confident, the only problem is that sometimes I feel lonely. I have never had any experience with girls, I was always that shy, withdrawn kid. My flirting skills don't exist. However, after months of hard work I've improved my social skills, have a bunch of friends, I traveled quite a bit, and have some interesting hobbies, I just still suck with girls because I have no idea what I'm doing.\nThis summer I plan to learn picking up skills, learn how to flirt and so on. I'm going to cold approach some girls, I have even saved up money for a bootcamp. So this shit is going to happen, finally !\n\nSo there's this cute cool girl in my class. We've met at the beginning of classes, in October last year. We aren't too close, but during that time we've had a couple of interesting conversations, and sometimes we talk and I think she occasionally playfully teases me or something (like, telling me how she hates me and then smilling?). So I guess we are like 2 friends acquaintances/friends from a class but not too close.\n\nA few weeks ago after that improvement in my life I realized I kinda liked her I would like to meet her outside uni, spend some time with her and do something fun. The problem is, like I said, I have literally 0 experience with that stuff. So I played with that idea of asking her out a little bit, then I decided yeah let's do it and now I have doubts so I came here.\nShould I ask her out **now**, or learn how to flirt, travel, improve myself a little bit more and then **after summer** do it ?\n\nHow does one ask a girl out anyways? And what the heck would I do if she accepted the invitation.", "summary": "met a girl in a class October last year, now is the end of studying year, we kinda now each other, I'm inexperienced with girls, should I ask her out or take PUA training ?"}
{"id": "t3_u30zb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What story do you tell that no one belives until you provide proof? (NSFW pics inside)", "post": "I'll start\n\nA buddy and I went to Argentina for two weeks and spent 3 days at Iguazu Falls. If you have never been to Iguazu [here] are pictures to do it some justice.\n\nSo we spent a full day at the falls doing the standard touristy trails and boat rides, absolutely breathtaking, and talked to a park ranger about finding a real adventure away from the crowds and he told us about this hike that is about 2-3 miles on a flat path through the rainforest followed by about a mile of downhill switchbacks to a lone gorgeous waterfall that you could swim under. \n\nThe next day we began our journey and all the splendors of the rainforest were out: butterflies of every color, giant golden ants, toucans, camouflaged iguanas within a foot that were 3-4 ft long and much more. It was the one time in life I got why chicks got butterfly tattoos. \n\nWe get to the waterfall and like a dream that came true there is a model photo shoot going on under this gorgeous waterfall. We were like two kids in a candy store with perma Cool-Aid smiles. Its 3 models, camera crew, a park ranger and us. We were in heaven. After playing under the waterfall and swimming in the little pond we were eating lunch.\n\nI look to my buddy and said \"No one is ever going to believe this happened to us\" all he said was \"They are getting naked.\" My head whipped around and all 3 were completely nude with the waterfall flowing over their bodies...I love South America. For the next 2 hours we sat there in nirvana. \n\nNo one ever believes me, not even my mother, until I show them [this] NSFW\nand\n[vid] NSFW", "summary": "Crazy hike to a waterfall to find a nude model photo shoot.  "}
{"id": "t3_g6pdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you like your significant others friends? If you didn't, would that be a deal breaker?", "post": "Hey guys, just want to take survey here to see if I'm completely out of line or not. I'm 22, my (now ex) gf is 21. We were together for about 6 months (including a few week break we split up and got back together). I loved this girl, she was awesome. We had a great time together, she made me happy, the bedroom activities were great, but the problems began the day I met her best friend. Her friend is....lets just say a less then desirable person to be acquainted with. Ghetto chick, going nowhere in life, with no ambitions, no goals, nothing. And just LOVES to do stupid shit that could potentially get them in trouble. (i.e. walking around town drinking beer, smashing peoples pumpkins during Halloween, defacing property, etc). Now, I'm not the most law abiding citizen, but I don't go around doing shit that just attracts attention and could land you in jail. This pretty much sums up her friends, all of them. Well I broke up with her today on the grounds that I absolutely can not stand ANY of her friends, and that they're all pretty much worthless. She says if I truly ever loved her, I'd stand beside her even if I didn't like her friends. But I don't see that as being fair. I have to \"just deal\" with her being friends with sociopath trouble makers, whom I dislike and do not trust. I was constantly worried when she was with them that she would be hurt or get into trouble. They also do not hang out with the best crowd of people (extremely ghetto/thugged out/crazy people, some of which were legitimately homeless because they had no jobs, and no lives aside from begging people for food, money, places to stay, etc). She sees this in these people, yet she just stays friends with them because they've always been her friends. Now, my question is this: Am I wrong for not wanting to put up with that? For not wanting to constantly worry and stress myself out whether she's ok and safe and out of trouble? Am I wrong for not \"just dealing\" with the fact that I can't stand/don't trust/hate her friends?", "summary": "broke up with GF because I don't like ANY of her friends and cannot stand them. Am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_1kd9ni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21F] with guy [23M] ...3 dates later and idk where it's going", "post": "So this guy is my classmate. We've been in several classes together and only recently have started getting to know each other.\nWe've been on 3 dates and they have all been so much fun! We laugh a lot and truly enjoy each other's company. The only thing is that he hasn't once tried to make a move.\n\nThe dates are utterly amazing and then when it's time to say goodbye it gets awkward. I know that he's a really shy guy but I'm worried maybe I'm just in over my head and he may just want to be friends.\n\nAlso want to add that we text each other the days we don't see each other or have class and he's always telling me I'm beautiful. I like him more and more through each conversation but I don't want to get turned down if I try to make a move the next time we have a date!", "summary": "3 dates later with this AMAZING guy, but he has not made a move on me! Does he want to be just friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3txrws", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Pouring Yoghurt in my Ear", "post": "I was home alone for the night. From what I can recall it was a cool night, with the southerly winds blowing a gale through the northern window of my apartment. This all took place about two months ago now. I was home alone for the night, the perfect time for me to experiment with my food. I returned home from work and immediately made my way to the fridge and guzzled down a cool, refreshing beer. As I was reaching for the beverage, I noticed the tub of Greek yoghurt I had bought not three days earlier out of the corner of my eye. I pondered my next move before removing the yoghurt from the fridge and arming myself with a teaspoon from the cutlery drawer. I clumsily removed the lid from the yoghurt, perhaps a little too excited by what was to come and then scooped out a spoonful of the yoghurt. I tilted my head to the side and emptied the contents of the spoon in to my ear hole. It was rather cold, and it blocked up my ear and I couldn't hear anything from it. I then decided I had had enough and made my way to the bathroom, where I showered and attempted to clean my ear out. Everything was fine until two days later. A crust had begun to develop in my ear, leaving me with a severe ear ache. I then noticed a white pus building up in my eye and before long I had developed full blown conjunctivitis and had extreme difficulty and pain swallowing. I had little idea that yoghurt is teeming with bacteria that must have had sex in my ear and spread throughout my body giving me a bacterial infection. My throat pain lasted for two weeks, I lost a fair heap of weight and my appetite and since then have vowed to never pour yoghurt in my ear again.", "summary": "I poured yoghurt in my ear and it genuinely made me feel like I was going to die."}
{"id": "t3_2oq119", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Posting for my [22f] newlywed sister [24f] and her husband [24m]. He unexpectedly quit his job right after their wedding, but they didn't stop living above their means. They're going broke if they're not already broke, and I think my sister wants to kill herself.", "post": "About my sister: Without explaining our childhood, just know my sister severely suffers from depressions. She's tried to kill herself multiple times. Her husband knows this all fully well. She went to college to be a teacher and put a lot of stock into her career fulfilling her life. Turns out she hates teaching so much she's had breakdowns over it, at home and at school, that required her to be hospitalized.  \n\nAbout her husband: Comes from a wholesome all-American conservative Catholic family. He was also a teacher. They met because they went to college together for the same program.  They moved into a semi-luxury apartment after the wedding, then all of a sudden he quits his job. He told my sister he quit the job \"to be there for her,\" and now she is the sole source of income and they can't even break even at zero dollars every month.  \n\nI think my BIL has become such a manchild over this. His wife was hospitalized for overworking herself, and his solution is to quit his job, forcing her to work even more. She told me the other day that she's actually looking for weekend jobs while he plays video games and watches Netflix all day, even while they eat dinner.  \n\nMy sister says she talks to him about this stuff. She always says \"He doesn't say anything back\" or he'll give cop-out responses like \"we'll see\" despite the numbers she gives him. She'll call me hysterically crying, pulled over to the side of road because she's so hysterical.  \n\nI think there's a lot they could do, like cook their own meals, move into a cheaper apartment, cut cable, cut Netflix, *get him a job...* My only question is **how can my sister get her husband to help her?", "summary": "Newlywed depressed sister's husband quit his job right after wedding. They live above their means. She overworks herself to pay for it but still can't and has become suicidal over it. How can she get her husband to actually do something to help?"}
{"id": "t3_t098b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "You did something altruistic, yet you didn't want them to know...(share a story)", "post": "My girlfriend and I were on our way to El Burrito Loco to get some food. We noticed a man sitting on cement steps that belonged to a vacant lot on a hill alone, and cold. We saw some fellow students walk past him and look, but kept on walking. We had to do something.\n\nAs we were walking across the street, we noticed something strange: under his hood (which was facing forward) we saw a half-profile of his face, staring directly at us (creepy). We reached him and asked, \"Hey man, are you okay?\" He replied, \"Yeah, I'm just sitting here, to be out of the wind...(his eyes start to water) just having a bad night is all. What are you guys up to?\" I replied, \"We were just going to get some food, when we saw you. We just wanted to make sure you were okay, because people walk by a lot of things these days.\"\n\nWe parted ways, but my girlfriend- being the ever most caring thing on this Earth, had to do something. I however, am selfish. Seeing how this was not going to fly, I made her a deal: I would buy two extra steak tacos, fully loaded, then play off like the restaurant messed up our order to the guy on the street, so he wouldn't feel like it was charity. She agreed.\n\nWe walk out of the restaurant, tacos in hand with the rest of our food. We approached the steps only to find that he was gone, nowhere to be found. We ate the tacos for breakfast the next day.", "summary": "we wanted to do something nice for someone and play off like it wasn't charity, only to eat the nice thing for breakfast the next day."}
{"id": "t3_351e18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] met a real cool [30f] over the weekend. Need advice on asking her out.", "post": "So let me preface this by saying I plan to ask her out tomorrow. I am nervous and want some advice on the best way to do it. \n\nI am 23. I live at home with my Aunt an Uncle, in the suburbs of a big city. I met a girl hiking who lives in said city. She is 30, which is a bit of an age gap, but we share a lot of common interests, and I like her. \n\nAt the end of the hike she gave me her number so we could meet up next month for a music festival we are both attending. I am not the flirtatious type (read; hella oblivious), but we had good conversations during the Hike. \n\nShe also added me on Facebook, but her FB says \"in a relationship.\" No mention of a boyfriend during the whole day, however, so I'm not sure what to make of it. \n\nAnyway I see very little to lose, and even have a great idea for a date in the city. \n\nSo a couple questions:\n\n1) Should I call her over texting, and when is a good time?\n\n2) Am I correctly reading that she is interested?\n\n3) Is the age gap weird?\n\n4) Is there any other reason not to ask her out for a date **this** weekened (one after is her Birthday, and we just met). \n\n5 Am I over thinking everything and need to just do it?", "summary": "Met a girl. She is 6 and a half years older than me and might be in a relationship, but seemed to like me and gave me her number. How should I ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_4uukzx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Question about Contract Payments", "post": "Alright, this is my first post on this subreddit so I hope this is the place to go to. I thought about going to r/personalfinance but this seemed more legal advice than that so I'm here. Anyways my girlfriend is currently working a job in Michigan as a costume designer and is being paid in what I believe is a contract payment. Please correct me if I'm wrong but the gist of it is that you work from a set date to another set date and get paid for working. This payment has nothing to do with how many hours you put in. When she told me how much she had made i questioned how long she was working and what the hourly rate would be like and she told me about 9 hours a day which would mean if it weren't a contract she would be getting paid $4.70 per hour. In her contract there was only a starting and ending date and no talk about how many hours she would be working and is fearing her work next week as she will be working on weekends and 14 hour days and no matter what will be getting paid a set payment. So my question is first off, am I even using the right terminology for this (is this called a contract payment?), and is it legal to have her work this much for what would be something around $4.70 per hour?", "summary": "Need help understanding contract payments and if getting paid so little is allowed."}
{"id": "t3_29d37y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18/m] leave my girlfriend [18/f] for my friends sister [26/f]?", "post": "Okay so I have the details of mine and my friends sister's relationship in this like -->   \n\nSo that was it, if you didn't read, basically I have known her since I was in 6th grade and I've always had a crush on her.  My friend is cool with me dating her, and I think she's amazing.  She has a two year old baby and has had bad luck with guys.  But she's an awesome person and mother.  \n\nI'm 18, just out of high school and going into the military, my girlfriend is same as me, but going into college.  We've been together for almost 2 1/2 years.  It started out awesome, she's smart, and beautiful!  She still is, but she's driving me insane!!  She can't stand a day without me, gets mad when I'm with my friends, and straight up told me she is going to break up with me when I leave for the military!  Ever since she said that I've felt different about her and it made me feel like I don't mean very much.\n\nEvery time I talk to her now I just get agitated.  I haven't seen her for a week because she was out of town with family, and I went to see her for a little bit because I had to go home and clean (My mom is intense with cleaning) and she got pissed.  I haven't talked to her since, but I don't really want to.  What do you think I should do?", "summary": "My girlfriend said she's gonna leave me when I go into the military.  I've been talking to my friends sister lately who has a baby and I like her a lot.  Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_k3lr3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Yesterday my Laptop's screen was fine. Today I woke up to this..Help?", "post": "- Photos of screen\n\nI got this laptop last December and it hasn't had a problem yet, and yesterday seemed normal. I was playing some Oblivion, paroosin some mods, then today I wake up to this wonderful new screen.\nIts still displaying the screen technically, as it changes colors as I go from \"Starting Windows\" to \"Log In\" to my Skyrim Desktop. I'd really rather not have Best Buy hold my computer hostage for 3 weeks to fix it as I have an essay due this Friday and would rather not type it on a Piece o Crap (What im posting from)", "summary": "Yesterday screens fine, today its borked, how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_27um2o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(29f) found out that my husband(35m) of 7 months lied to my face about something small, and finding that he continues to run up large bills at bars.", "post": "My husband and I have been together for nearly 3 years, married 7 months. He has struggled with quitting cigarettes and, while I made it clear that I prefer he stop, I feel that I've been very supportive and understanding as he has gone through better and worse times in cutting back and stopping. His stress level has been super high after successfully going several months with no cigarettes, and preparing to change jobs. I thought he smelled like smoke recently and asked if he'd had one. He looked into my eyes and said no. A couple days later a coworker let me know that she'd seen him out smoking. I was really hurt about being lied to and asked if he'd been keeping anything from me regarding his efforts to quit. Again he said no. I asked if he'd smoked at the place my coworker had seen him and again he said no. I told him that someone has clearly seen him and he denied AGAIN! I just stared at him and he finally said that he \nhad. I am trying to be understanding since he is struggling with an addiction and new stressors, but cannot help feeling like his ability to lie and lie to my face says something quite negative about him. He has also been running up stupidly large bar tabs about once a week and I feel like I'm his mom and am afraid to even bring it up again. At my darker moments, I worry that I've married an alcoholic liar.", "summary": "husband lied about smoking and binge drinks on ocassion. Fml"}
{"id": "t3_31tuhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] bestfriend and his [18F] girlfriend are always fighting.", "post": "They're just constantly going at it. Passive aggressive, denting of vehicles, lots of lying, and driving away at unsafe speeds after a fight.\n\nLet me just build up an example of an accumulation of what's happened before, in different contexts. Just so you get the idea of what could happen with them, on a regular day of hanging out.\n\nShe's always getting hungry, and he'll not respond to her for hours about it. And it just makes the entire room shitty. Then she'll mention an ex-boyfriend to piss him off. \nHe'll play the hard ass and then she'll go drive away. For about 30 minutes, sometimes with illegal maneuvers. \nThen she'll come back, happy until they get to talking again.\n\nShe's cracked his project car's windshield, he's dented her Corolla. This has been going on for over 4 years too. That's how long they've dated, or how far back I can remember them fighting like this.\nBut then they post some sincerely mushy shit on facebook or instagram that seems extremely hypocritical to who they actually are.\n\nBoth of them are totally fine on their own, not assholes at all. I don't know why they always gotta be jerks in public. I don't want to stop hanging out with either of them, but I have kept our times together on the down low. Just because of uncomfortable situations like this. What can fix this? Or at least help it out? I'm certain they aren't having much sex anymore, but I know it was bad even when they were having it.", "summary": "How can I help my closest homie and a cool gal from fighting all the time, and especially in public? Is it even possible to have that much influence over people this age?"}
{"id": "t3_cejs7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My family treats me like an ATM.", "post": "My family is not very good with money.\n\nMy parents consistently ask me for cash for unnecessary purchases. A recent example being a summer vacation to panama for my younger sister. I obliged.\n\nI concede that my parents did give me money to get me through college. But in my mind that is a different story,\n\nI make a pretty good amount of dough, so I can afford their requests. It mainly just bothers me that they don't seem to be planning for the future. I am a frugal guy already and now I am becoming more frugal because I am planning on having to help with their retirement.\n\nI think I should just get over it and help, but I don't want to end up resenting them for it. I am already hiding the amount of money I make from them and I don't tell them when I have received promotions etc.\n\nHave you guys experienced this? How did you handle it?", "summary": "Bitchy crybaby doesn't want to help family."}
{"id": "t3_4hjy1t", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Work/Career - Feeling Stuck", "post": "I'm at a point in my life where I don't quite know what to do next. I've been done with college now for just about a year. I'm in a job which one has nothing to do with my degree and two doesn't pay well and provides no benefits. I've been working on call at a job related to my degree for just about six months now and have loved every bit of it. I've applied now for full time there two jobs and have not been offered the position. It's hard feeling so positive in a situation then it flips it's head on you. Now I'm here again applying to really anything and anything to get both benefits and a better pay. I don't want to move from my current location and I feel if I just keep putting the effort into the on-call job that some day it will pay off with a job offer. It's also making me consider that maybe finding a job and starting to work towards getting a master's degree as that is a big stepping stone there's days seeing as bachelor's are becoming so common. \n\nAll in all I'm just stuck between a rock and a stone and don't know what to do next. So any advice anyone has would be more than appreciated.", "summary": "Having issues figuring out what to do with life. Looking for any advice/inspiration. "}
{"id": "t3_1abhhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Taking a breather. M(20) F(20)", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been going downwards in our relationship, so we got together and talked and we both came to the agreement that we can't make each other happy without being happy ourselves, and we decided to break up and work on ourselves for a bit. Now I just wondering it's kinda hard to get by, most of my friends right now are busy with finals week and everyone else just seems so busy, and reddit, facebook etc get boring after a while. I want to know a few things, during this time neither of us are pursuing other people but what is the best thing i can do to make sure not to lose her and I honestly don't know what to do with my time.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I had been dating for 3 years, taking a break to take care of others, lacking on things to do, and wondering what are ways i can ensure i don't lose her. If you have any others questions for clarity please ask"}
{"id": "t3_4u3fjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) can't tell if I've moved on", "post": "My gf and I broke up a month ago mutually and I think I'm doing pretty ok. I don't think about her at all really and I keep myself busy. Anyways I was on my Instagram and I came across the prom pic I uploaded and I just got these weird feelings. Basically I was feeling like \"damn will I ever find a girl so beautiful and so good to me ever again\" \n\nWe've been doing NC, but she really doesn't want to do that and has been waiting for me to txt her again. If you wondering how ik this, well it's  a long story. Also We didn't end badly and I feel like if I we stop talking our bond will like disappear. We broke up because of college btw. Reddit do you think I've moved on or do I still need time.", "summary": "I think I've moved on from gf, but I saw a pic of us together and was kind of flooded with emotions. Does it sound like I've moved on?"}
{"id": "t3_43vfht", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Opening Roth IRA related to expected income", "post": "Hi, personal finance!  I have read the breakdown provided on the side about IRAs and have researched the difference between the two, and still can't find a straight answer on my dilemma.  \n\nSo the current situation is this:  I am 28 years old and I made $95,000 last year.  My job has a $50,000 base salary then the rest is commission based.  I currently have loans to pay (auto and school), I have an emergency fund, and a comfortable amount of cash in my checking account.\n\nSO - I know now is a good time to start saving for retirement.   Based on my income, and the implications of being able to withdraw tax free in my retirement, the Roth seems the obvious choice.  \n\nHowever, I keep making more and more.  And should I hit my goals this year I will be above the income limit for a Roth ($116,000).  So my question is - Should I open the Roth now with the knowledge that I may be over the threshold this year or within a couple years?  Will I be shooting myself in the foot by then having two separate IRAs. Can they be combined?  If not will I have hypothetically a Roth worth for example $10,000 from late 20s and then a traditional as I grew into a higher salary?  I have heard of back door contributions  - is this the answer?", "summary": "Should I open a traditional instead of Roth since I expect my income to be increasing as the years go on?  Is there down side of starting a Roth a year or two before I become financially disqualified for it?"}
{"id": "t3_2uw5ub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate started flirting with me and I [23/F] flirted back but he [22/M] is no longer interested", "post": "I live with a few people I met from college right now. Its 3 guys and 2 girls. One of the guys and the other girl are engaged. The other 3 of us are just friends. But one of the guys just started flirting with me a few weeks ago. And I flirted back. Last Saturday, when we were watching TV together he started holding my hand. He did the same for the next three days. But on Tuesday he started talking about sex, which is a topic I didn't feel comfortable talking about yet with him so I brushed it off. On Wednesday he ignored me all day and acted like he was angry when I talked to him. I asked him about it and he said \"I don't think this is a good idea.\" I asked my friend for advice on this and he said that he thinks the guy was just using me because he's desperate and at a low point in his life right now. I couldn't help but agree with him. I feel like he was trying to use me as a rebound to get himself through the semester but realized it was a bad idea after he started flirting. But we've been friends for the past two years. I see him every day because I live with him and was planning on living with him next year too. I understand this is a bad idea because if we break up I'll lose him as a friend but I feel like I already have. How do I get over him when all I can think about was how nice it felt when he was holding my hand? I don't want to go home every night and have things be awkward.", "summary": "Roommate flirted with me and I fell for it/him.  He pulled back saying \"I don't think this is a good idea.\"  How do I fix the now awkward relationship and get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_j6nud", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Withdrawing money (one time) from a Roth IRA, yes or no?", "post": "I'm looking to eliminate all of my credit card debt now that I am unable to get a new credit card with 0% interest. I was planning to withdraw some money from a few savings accounts (without wiping them clean) including my Roth IRA. I know that I can withdraw any previous contributions without having to worry about being taxed on them next year (according the to guy I spoke with at Schwab). I was pretty set on doing this until I spoke to my grandfather who is really trying to talk me out of it. I told him I would hold off and do some research and discuss it with him again. His main point is that I will lose out on the future money I would make from the investments. \n\nI have never thought of touching the Roth and I don't plan to in the future. I want to take some of the funds to eliminate the debt and save myself the large interest I will owe on the debt. I will then be able to turn around and start making larger contributions (than I make now) back to the Roth account almost immediately. What are the thoughts of some of the gurus in r/personalfinance? Any advice and feedback would be appreciated.", "summary": "should I touch money in my Roth IRA to eliminate credit card debt?"}
{"id": "t3_35d8jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) am having a problem with my (23M) bf's friend/ex.", "post": "I'll try to make this quick. My bf dated this girl (23f) let's call her Anne back in grade 9 and he broke up with her after a couple months of dating. Wasn't a bad break up cause now they're best friends. Ive been dating my bf for 3and half years, and ever since all my bfs guy friends left to other places for school/work Anne is pretty much his only close friend. The past couple months we've been seeing her more often and I've notice her actions verbally and physically has changed towards him. She will lean on him, uses his phone for snapchat and fb, takes photo mostly only with him, she even asked him to come over to her place late at night for a movie when I'm at work and asked him to come over to help her study, my bf is done school and they're not taking the same class at all. I'm annoyed. I told my bf how I felt but he says they're just friends and she's harmless. I trust my bf 100% but I just don't like seeing another girl flirting with him, she is a nice girl and all and she can be a airhead most the time. I don't want to tell my bf to stop seeing her, I don't have the right to do that. I don't want to say it to her myself because Anne tends to over react and I don't want my bf to lose his best friend bc of me. What can I do?", "summary": "bf best friend is acting like she's his gf, dont know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_2552m5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with emotions after I find out that my ex [25F] left me [24M] for her friend from work.", "post": "So a month ago my ex broke up with me after 5 months of the relationship saying that she was having some trouble coping emotionally with her past (specifically ex bf). I tried convincing her to stay with me so we can try and deal with it together.\n\nI have her time, limited contact, never got angry for it and generally tried to be understanding. After all, we never argued, always had fun, had amazing sex and even said we love each other. \n\nRecently we meet again and I tried getting back together. After a while of giving me very unconvincing arguments she admitted she has feelings from somebody else. I immediately guessed it was her work mate as they both had feelings for each other before, but never went out on a date. \n\nShe claims that it only started a few weeks ago which is hard to believe given that they sit next to each other in the office (and even so that's still quite soon after the break up when she claimed she needed time alone). I no longer believe the reason she gave me for the break up and most likely he was the reason. After all, during the break up she was insisting I should find somebody else as I deserve better and that I shouldn't wait for her to sort her feelings out. \n\nI now feel like shit as I believed her to be honest with me and now I have to question all of that. I really don't know what I can do to make myself get over it. Unfortunately, we're in the same friendship group which means I'll be seeing her a lot. \n\nAt least I asked out a girl I met after the break up so I have date coming up to take my mind off of her, but that's not enough it seems. \n\nIf you have a similar story, please share. I'd like to know how to deal with this.", "summary": "A month after my break up, apparently due to my ex's commitment issues, she tells me she is seeing her work mate. I feel like shit and don't know how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_33lpog", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [29 F] for 5 years, in our \"second chance\" to make things work, found out she cheated during a \"cloudy\" period.", "post": "[Original](\n\nShe texted me yesterday asking if I wanted some items back. I haven't replied to her.\n\nI made up my mind (I think?) [and wrote her a letter] I haven't emailed it yet. I always want to sit on decisions if my emotions are involved. I fudged all the dates (months) in the original post for anonymity, but I guess that was unnecessary and I was just overboard with paranoia. I'm too tired to reword the dates again, and I'm in a fuck-it state of mind right now, it should be obvious anyway what the real dates were. Although I feel like rescinding everything and just telling her I love her and want to make it work if she wants to make it work. But I just, am too hurt. right now. and it just seems too grim. UGH. \n\nAny feedback about whether I'm making the wrong decision or if the letter is too emotionally fueled or useless or whatever or fuck me for breaking up with her originally is really really welcomed.", "summary": "i think i'm done. sitting on letter pretty sure i will send in a few days."}
{"id": "t3_2fbp92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] My relationship has recently ended with my girlfriend [22F] of 3 years, and im just lost on how to feel about it....", "post": "So firstly, I just want to say I loved her so much. She was my first true relationship and I really wanted it to be my last. Its very hard for me to open up to people and she was one of the few who knew me, who I felt like I could trust and give my all to. I never cheated, I barely even spoke to other girls because they didn't matter to me. I always tried my best to make her happy in every way. \n\nTo top it all off we never even had sex because she wanted to wait until marriage, and I was willing to wait for her. Now we did do other things sexually like oral and handjobs and stuff but she would always feel bad about it saying she didnt feel close to god and we shouldn't be living in sin. This is basically how things fell apart for us. As you can tell by my last few statements, she is a very religious person, Christian to be exact, and I'm not so much. Growing up, my parents didnt really care for religious practices and stuff like that so I've never really felt a need to have religious beliefs, but I don't consider myself athiest or anything like that I have respect for religion I just don't feel like I need it. My, now ex, tried hard to push her beliefs on me and make me into a \"godly\" man but I just didn't feel it. \n\nShe came to me last week and told me that she felt like if I didn't love god more than anything, I couldn't truly love her, and that she couldn't truly be happy knowing that. So she decided it was best we split but she still wants to be friends and wants to talk from time to time. At this point I don't know how to feel, sometimes im okay with it, other times im sad and other times I find myself angry at her. After all the things I did, all the sacrifices I made to make her happy but I still couldn't truly love her?\n\nI'm lost on this emotional roller coaster reddit.......any advice or comments in general? I'd like to hear what you guys have to say.", "summary": "my girlfriend broke up with me because if I cant love god more than anything I cant truly love her. "}
{"id": "t3_4gw5bo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by poisoning myself and my wife", "post": "TIFU by poisoning myself and my wife. This happened a few years ago but the other self-poisoning thread reminded me of it. The story starts out innocently enough with my wife and I grocery shopping for our dinner. We bought one of those black bean soup DIY bags that includes beans and seasonings and you just add broth and optionally, meat. We get home and I proceed to follow the instructions until I realize it's getting late and it's not done yet; the beans are still a little hard. I realize the package says to simmer for something like three hours but I'm in a hurry so I use my immersion blender to blend up the beans and turn it into a smooth soup instead of lumpy bean soup. \n\nWe eat it and it tasted okay. The texture was little weird but no issues. We watch a little tv and then head to bed. About this time, I start to feel a little nauseous and so does my wife. Fast forward an hour and we both start to feel REALLY sick. I remember my wife was jealous of me because I was able to throw up, but she couldn't. I figure it was food poisoning but I cooked the soup for an hour and it was boiling hot, so how could it be from bacteria? I start googling the ingredients and come across this article: [Phytohaemagglutinin \"Kidney Bean Poisoning\"] \n\nIt turns out, raw kidney beans are poisonous to humans and black beans slightly less-so and cooking them sufficiently breaks down the compound that's dangerous. Our symptoms played out exactly as described with onset of symptoms a few hours after dinner and finally subsiding at around 3am. The following day was one of the few in my career that I had to call in sick since I was exhausted from being awake and puking all night. My wife still lets me cook for us but I'll never make this mistake again.", "summary": "don't eat raw beans, they're poison."}
{"id": "t3_1nguom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (30/M) of 5 years and I (27/F) are going nowhere", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now. We have lived together for two and a half of those years. My problem is that our relationship now seems to be stagnant. There is no talk of moving forward. I am not overly concerned about not being proposed to - we are at a time in our lives where a wedding is not at all practical - but I am very concerned that my boyfriend has not decided if I am the one he wants to fully commit to *ever*. If he knew that he did and it was just a matter of waiting, I would be ok with it, but the fact that after 5 years he still doesn't know if I'm the person he wants to settle down with makes me nervous. Is it unrealistic to expect that he will have \"made up his mind\" about me by now?\n\nThe good news is that he is very willing to communicate with me. He really is an excellent partner. He is familiar with my anxieties about this issue, but unfortunately can not offer me much comfort. He is an engineer and tends to think things through very methodically and logically, and he says he hasn't experienced \"the moment\" everyone has told him they felt where they \"just knew\" they wanted to be together forever.\n\nThis really is his final word on it (not final as in he refuses to discuss it, he just doesn't seem to have anything else to say about it). But lately this is an issue that has been bugging me nearly 24/7. To clarify: I believe that we have an excellent relationship, our biggest - and really only - issue is the one I just outlined. I have \"known\" that I want to be with him long-term (either married, or just self-professed committed to each other) for at least 2 years now.\n\nAlso: I hate to admit it, but part of me thinks if he is not willing to settle down then I should get out sooner rather than later. I am already 27 and in terms of family planning if I have to go through another 5 years before finding a mate and having children I wouldn't exactly be a young mother.", "summary": "My partner of 5 years can't decide if he wants to commit to our relationship, and I am wondering what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_f3zwg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your first car? And any suggestions for what to get?", "post": "I'm 17, and with any luck I'll be having my licence within at least 10 months (turning 18 in September). I guess it is kind of silly to be excited for it this early, but I really just can't wait for the freedom of driving a car without a supervisor sitting next to me (that, and the alcohol and legal independence from my parents).\n\nAnyway, I've already started browsing for a car, but I'm without a clear path and do not really know what I'm looking for. I'll propably mainly use the car for driving to friends, and also to/from gigs (playing saxophone and drums, so I guess some trunk space would be nice).\n\nAs for a budget, I haven't made up my mind yet. Cars, even used ones are crazy expensive in Norway anyway.\n\nSo what are your suggestions, Reddit?", "summary": "Turning 18 in September, and getting my license. Suggestions for first car?"}
{"id": "t3_3l44t1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fuck you Verizon", "post": "I was at the Verizon store today to show them that the port for my charger does not work too well. They say okay, take the phone and plug it in to a USB charger. It doesn't work. They say that it might be the USB charger in particular thats not working, ok whatever. They try two different wires with an outlet, and only one of them works. I show them that the USB charger works with my fathers phone by demonstrating how it was able to charge his and not mine. I show them again how it was not charging mine and how charging only happens occasionally. A summary of what they said was \"nope, it worked on our end so its your problem\", hand me a business card and to file a claim. The claim comes with a $100 deductible, which we have already done once and do not want to pay another $100 to get a replacement phone. Now I can only charge my phone with specific chargers at specific outlets making it extremely inconvenient. Fuck you Verizon for your shitty policy and customer support.", "summary": "Verizon wants me to pay $100 dollars to fix a phone that only sometimes works that was not my fault."}
{"id": "t3_3xnq8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with the man [27 M] I've been seeing for the past six months, I just got a positive pregnancy test.", "post": "I think I am still in shock. Yesterday morning I took a test, after having a week of total exhaustion, mood swings, nausea, and then had to call out of work because a cold basically knocked me off my ass. I got a very distinct positive test, then later that day got another very distinct positive test. \n\nNeedless to say, I am at a loss for words. Him and I both love eachother, and are pro choice, but have been taking things very slowly. We are both at points in our lives where we are trying to focus on ourselves. Did I mention that he also has a child already?\n\nFinancially, if I kept this baby, it'd be extremely rough, and all logic points towards terminating. I just have all these emotions, and I am not even sure how to tell him. I mean, Christmas is this week for christ's sake. Does anybody have any advice? How do I talk to this about him this, how do I decide what to do?", "summary": "I'm pregnant, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bihua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] want to ask out friend [20F] of nearly a year. How to make sure she knows its a date", "post": "So we've been friends for around 9 months now and I started to develop feelings for her somewhere around 3 months ago. I'm not sure if she likes me back or not but a couple of my friends (who are also friends with her) seem to think she does. I've been putting off asking her out due to fear of rejection for most of the summer but I'm not really happy just being friends anymore.\n\nMy question is when I ask her out, how do i make sure she knows its a date and we aren't just hanging out as friends? I was planning on taking her to this castle/museum/landmark thing she mentioned she wanted to go to this summer. There would probably be less chance for confusion if I was taking her to dinner but I feel like this place is much better for a first date (lower pressure and such).", "summary": "want to ask friend on date. Want to make sure she knows its date"}
{"id": "t3_lla7i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats your long distance relationship story?", "post": "I'm a sophomore at college, 6 hours away from school.\nStarted dating this girl my senior of high school. She commutes to school. We did well with video chatting and all my freshman year. She broke up with me in July, and we stopped talking until mid September. I went back home a few weeks ago and met back up with her. Had a great time. We agreed we can't be together because it just won't work at the moment, but we'll maintain a friendship and keep talking through our college years to see if things can work out after college.", "summary": "Tried it my freshman year at college, 6 hours away. Lasted a bit over a year. Staying friends to see what happens after college."}
{"id": "t3_42vhgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [32 F] of ten years. She is feeling pressured by my advances. It is creating major problems in our marriage.", "post": "My wife and I have been married for ten years and have three children. I love this woman, and for the most part our marriage has been pretty good. Recently, however, I have noticed that she doesn't really have a carnal attraction to me. Most of the time when we have sex I am initiating, the lights are off and it is pretty vanilla.\n\nI have been cursed with a ridiculously high libido. I can masturbate twice in a day and still be ready for sex by bed time. My wife does not match up with this frequency. I would say out of every five times I try and initiate, she will accept one.\n\nThe problem is, I seem to have wrapped my entire self worth into our sex life and my feelings get really hurt when she declines my advances. The day following a rejection I am usually distant and grumpy and generally a real prick to be around. This has created tension in our sex life because now when my wife knows I am going to try and initiate she feels extreme pressure and sometimes annoyance because she knows I am going to act like a whiny baby if I don't get sex.\n\nI really don't want to behave this way, but I have invested so much emotion into this that I have started hating myself to the point that I can't even look at myself in the mirror. Typing this out makes me realize how fucked up it is. I really just need advice on finding self worth outside of sex with my wife. I am ruining my marriage and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My wife and I are in a perpetual cycle of me pressuring her to have sex and me getting my feelings hurt when she turns me down. I don't know how to reconcile our differences."}
{"id": "t3_46rt5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25/F] am not good at showing emotions, and it is hurting my relationship with my boyfriend[25/M]", "post": "I have never been an outwardly emotional person, and I am still not good at expressing emotions, even though I do feel them. I was always taught to hide emotions, they are not to be shown to the world.\n\nI met Mark our final year of University, and was instantly attracted to him. I made an effort to get close, and we became friends. He knew how I was, that I was not an openly emotional or affectionate person, but said that was cool.\n\nEventually we started dating and have been together for two years. They have been wonderful, and I truly love him. He is so fun, and we get along so well.\n\nI just can't really express that to him. In the last few months he has mentioned several times he wishes he knew if I loved him, even though I do manage to say it, he says there is no emotion there. It really came to a head last week when he finally said that he is just tired of being in an emotionless relationship. He told me he has wanted to discuss marriage for a while, but can't bring himself to do it with someone who he doesn't even know if they care for him. He said that even when we have sex he doesn't feel like I am showing anything, as I am a very, I guess restrained person. He said he doesn't know if he is sleeping with a person or a robot. I am not a very vocal or expressive person when it comes to sex. Mainly because I was pretty inexperienced when we met, our first time was only my third time. I love sex with him, it is amazing, but I guess I just don't express it.\n\nIt turned into a bad argument where he called me frigid and soulless, which did hurt my feelings, but it only seemed to prove his point because he said I didn't even get affected by being insulted.\n\nSince then, we have been very distant with each other, and I hate it. I want him back to the person he was with me, but I don't know what to do.\n\nWhat is wrong with me? What can I do to fix this?", "summary": "I am not an emotionally expressive person and my boyfriend is tired of it."}
{"id": "t3_4z4979", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "m17 f18 Is this girl interested in me?", "post": "I've known this girl for almost 4 months now, she sent me a friend request on fb. After a few days of off/on chatting, I asked her what she was doing on the 30th (I was going to ask her on a date), for extraneous reasons she is staying in her hometown 1 state away to study. She did however offer other ways of getting in contact, not sure what this means because I don't have much experience. If she does like me, how can I make things more out in the open instead of this playing around?\n\nme.Hey, are you free on the 30th?\n\nHer:I'm actually not coming to <mytown>. I'm staying home and training at my studio this year. I would like too. Sorry! We can still stay in touch.\n\nHer:You should come take <summer program> next summer. I'll be there. You could do only just two weeks or all four. It's a really good and intense summer intensive.\n\nMe:Ok, that sounds awesome :)\n\nHer:Great. <her town> is only 4 hours away from <mytown>. Have you heard of <dancer>? She danced with <company>. She's from <her town> and will be back in <her town> in October and March for a performance. She's amazing\n\nMe. Yes! I saw her in <city> a few years ago, it would be exhilarating to see her perform again.\n\nHer:Cool!! I love watching her. Maybe you could come down to <hertown> and we could see her perform.\n\nme: I would love that :)\n\nher:Great! When does school start for you? Congratulations on getting into the <youth philharmonic>\n\nThis all was within ~30 min", "summary": "I asked a girl out, still confused"}
{"id": "t3_4t9oeb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some advice", "post": "Me 20yo (m) and my ex 18yo (f) are managers and work together. we where dating when we just started to work for the company so we dated for a while and broke up and then became mangers. Ever since we split she has been sleeping with co workers. At first I didn't really care because it was none of my business. Now I learn she had been dating a co worker which is forbidden and can get her in trouble. i found out they where dating after they had broken up . Now she is sleeping with another manager who I thought was my friend who tells me everything. I should note that he is a lot older (32) and has a wife. My ex also knew two people I used to be friends with and she has started going on trips with them and probably been sleeping with them too. she has made it impossible to work at the store and I can't focus on my work. I'm lost on what to do I just want to quit my job and be done with it. I would hate going to our boss and having her and the other manager fired but I don't see how I can quit without some sort of reason. I obviously can't tell my boss the real reason I want to leave so I'm just kind of stuck.", "summary": "my ex is sleeping with co workers and I want to quit without hurting anyone"}
{"id": "t3_2y9a08", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being waving my dick at my gf's parents.", "post": "This fuck up didn't happen today, or even this year, but on the [Iron bowl] of 2013.\nI had been invited to watch the game at the house of a girl I was dating at the time. Her father was an only child, and only had girl children. He was actually really excited over the prospect of having someone to watch the Iron Bowl with him. For context, Im a Tennessee fan, He's an Auburn grad, and his wife had grown up an Alabama fan. So almost instantly, he's 20 and in college again. We're broing it up. High fives every time Auburn does something good, and heckling his wife when Alabama struggles. Long story short, almost before the end of the game ends, I've got to take a piss like a horse. In my gf's house, if you leave the door to the bathroom open, and tilt your head, you can see their TV. Her father gave me his blessing to piss with the door open so I wont miss anything. Then [this]  happens.\nHer father sprang to his feet cheering. I rushed out of the bathroom to go celebrate with her dad. So there we are, jumping up and down like lunatics in the living room. I look over at my gf's mom. She had a look of horror on her face, and it wasn't because of the kickoff return. In my haste to go celebrate, I failed to put my dick up. Soon as her parents  figured out what had happened, her dad laughed, but her mom was rather embarrassed. I still watch sports with them both a lot, but I always double check after using their bathroom.", "summary": "Auburn football made me wave my dick at the girl I'll probably marry's parents."}
{"id": "t3_3vt3i2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20F] who broke up with me [20M] is still texting me and asking how I am. What does it mean?", "post": "If you are wondering about what happened, here is a link to my previous post about the actual break up \n\nIn simple terms, after my girlfriend of over a year told me that she lost all romantic feelings for me and all feelings towards me altogether, I was distraught. It has now been almost three weeks since we officially broke up and up until a week ago, I was repeatedly trying to contact her. When she finally told me that she just no longer loves me, I realized that I had to stop, so I did.\n\nI did not text her or call her for a few days until this weekend when she texted me telling me that she hopes I am having a wonderful weekend. I didn't answer her because I honestly just didn't know what to reply. She hurt me and texting me telling me that she hopes I am having a good weekend seems condescending in my opinion.\n\nLast night she texted me again, this time around three in the morning which leads me to believe that she was awake because she was thinking about me. She told me that she still cares for me and wants to know how I am doing, but still has no feelings for me. Once again I am unsure of what to reply, so I have not yet answered.\n\nI cannot tell whether she geniunely wants to see how I am doing or if this is something else. If it is the former, then that is rather selfish on her part. I do not want to be her friend, I want to be her boyfriend obviously. I still love her despite it almost being three weeks and I am still getting over it. I can't imagine just ever being friends with her and I do not think that what she is doing is right. I was just beginning to get better until she decided to step back into my life. My question is, what is happening here? Thank you.", "summary": "I went through a harsh breakup and she has now texted me twice saying that she still cares but does not want to get back together. How do I answer her?"}
{"id": "t3_eykmu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can Australian people have a look at this question I have please?", "post": "I was just wondering on how you feel about immigrants moving to your country?\n\nI'm Irish, and plan to move there in June for at least 2+ years. I have family over there and really can't wait to get there and basically start a new life over. Be independent and all that crap.\n\nDo ye look at us with disrespect or 'hate' (strong word I know)? It's just that in Ireland, we have a lot of Eastern European/Asian/African immigrants, and a large majority of people (not myself included of course), look down on these minorities (in this country), and say things like; \"They took our joooobs\"... etc.. Personally I find they are much harder and more disciplined workers than this country has ever produced.\n\nExpecting a variety of answers due to opinions of course, but the more answers the better so I can get a clear picture.", "summary": "Do Australian people hate immigrants for taking jobs and using their resources etc.. "}
{"id": "t3_1x98bm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "How to deal with Reddit Gold", "post": "I really like Reddit Gold. It's cute, it actually helps Reddit in their maintenance and most of all, as a reader, it quickly helps me see which comments may be worth reading.\n\nWhen I'm browsing the daily \"what was your most horrible experience\" topic in Askreddit, I know that comments with over 1,000 points are going to be fun. And gold kind of functions in the same way, it points out that someone thought this comment so good and worth reading, he or she actually paid money for it.\n\nAnd I completely understand that when you get gold, you feel the need to edit your post and thank the kind person who gave it to you. It's polite and respectful.\n\nBut I also see a lot of people who get annoyed at it. And it is! It feels a bit trite, to have all these\n\n>", "summary": "Paid $7.50 an hour to rub the lotion on its skin."}
{"id": "t3_4esbvt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How having an emergency savings account saved me - College Student Edition", "post": "I've been reading stories on PF probably since junior year of high school. I'm a freshman in college now and am grateful for the advice I've read on here, because this week it absolutely saved my ass! \n\nFor the past year or so, I've had 15% of my paycheck automatically go to my savings account so I can start an emergency savings account without having to manually transfer (1% interest savings from Ally, highly recommend it). I had about $2000 saved up, only had to take out money from it once or twice.\n\nAnyways, a month ago, being the \"invincible\" college kid that I am, I found myself getting in to a little bit of trouble at a St Patrick;s Day parade. This is a huge event at my college and is (as you could guess) a full day of public drinking. I was unlucky enough to be one of the few to actually get caught doing this, and was given an open container ticket. My hearing for it was this Monday and they hit me with an $800 fine. EIGHT HUNDRED DOLLARS. Only having a few hundred in my checking I move over 800 from my emergency savings and eat the 800 fine. I cringed when handing over the check, but was incredibly happy I had an emergency fund and my parents didn't need to find out.\n\nFast forward 24 hours and next thing I know my car's clutch goes out in a Wendy's drive thru. Get it towed and go to sleep thinking maybe a couple hundred, because I wasn't thinking the whole clutch needed to be swapped. Wake up to a call saying the clutch is shot and a new one will be $920, parts and labor. \n\nWhile this post probably sounds like me complaining about the unluckiest week I've had, I don't know what my situation would be if I didn't have the emergency fund. Yes, my parents would helped with either situation (wouldn't be too happy about the alcohol fine) but its a great feeling when you can be completely independent and not need to feel broke asking parents to cover my ass. Thanks for the wisdom PF! Might bump up my Savings contribution to 18-20% til I get the $1700 back.", "summary": "$800 open container fine and a  $920 clutch replacement in the same week isn't good on a college kid's bank account."}
{"id": "t3_4bne74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) landlord (50sM) just asked me to show my apartment to prospective tenants (30sM&F) but I hate it/him", "post": "I hate my apartment.  I hate my landlord.  He knows this, and he knows that I did not renew my lease because of his refusal to deal with my terrible neighbors, because I explicitly laid out my reasons in a letter sent with my final rent check, as well as over email and texting the last month.\n\nMy lease is up in two weeks, and I'm pretty much completely moved out save for some cleaning supplies.  Today I get 2 voicemails and 4 text messages from my landlord (we'll call him Norris) that consist only of \"Please call me immediately.\"  My first thought is that the building has gone up in flames or something equally panic-worthy, but no.  He wants me to show the apartment to two prospective tenants tonight, because neither he nor co-owner Keith feel like driving down to the building to show it.  And because I am something of a doormat, I agreed.\n\nSo what I want to know is: exactly how honest should I be with these people?  I don't want to be unfair, but I also feel obligated to warn them so they can get a full picture of what they're walking into (which I did not, in a lot of ways).  I don't really need to rely on a good reference from this place, as I'm renting a house from my parents and don't see myself moving for the next few years.  My only concern is that the landlord still has my security deposit, and I absolutely need it to help pay my car insurance next month.", "summary": "Lazy, hated landlord asked me to show my hated apartment to prospective tenants.  How honest should I be?"}
{"id": "t3_2gboo7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is reconnecting with him off limits?", "post": "A few months back I began messaging a guy I had met on a dating site. We hit it off well and started sending each other letters, as we felt it was more personal (though we never talked about anything romance-related). \n\nAfter I received his first letter, I stopped responding as I became caught up with college work and felt that he seemed a little cold and clinical. Months later, my bad conscience got the better of me and I emailed him, apologizing for the lack of communication and citing a believable (although false) excuse. When he answered, I didn't reply yet again, and I hate myself for being this careless and perhaps even cruel. \n\nFast forward a couple of months, and I'm on a trip to the city he lives in, and lo and behold - I see him at a train station. We never videochatted or talked on the phone, but I am absolutely positive that it was him that I saw, and I'm telling you, it was almost like love at first sight. It sounds corny and perhaps it was simply a combination of surprise and physical attraction, but I fell for him then and there. He was in a rush so I didn't have the chance to talk to him. That same night though, I emailed him, mentioning seeing him at the train station (in a non-creepy way of course!), and cited an excuse for never having answered yet again. This time, however, he didn't respond, and it's been killing me. \n\nI embarrassingly looked him up on Facebook a few weeks back (we aren't friends) and discovered that we have so many common likes and interests. I've realized that I misjudged him entirely based on his writing persona. Now I'm also very attracted to him but am at a loss as to what to do. I know I'm largely to blame for this and I feel terrible about my poor way of handling all of this. Not responding, making up excuses, etc. was low of me, and I repent, I really mean it. \n\nIs there any way I could reconnect with him without coming off like a total stalker/psychopath/serial killer? Do I have any chance here at all? I feel terrible and it would really mean so much to get to talking to him again.", "summary": "Met a guy on a dating site, stopped replying to him, messaged him again, didn't answer his reply yet again, saw him in person by accident, discovered he's completely different than I thought, am now asking myself whether I've ruined things entirely."}
{"id": "t3_3ahk3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [M54] lives with [21F] and it makes me uncomfortable. What do I do? [45F]", "post": "I have been with John for almost a year. Five years ago he lost his defacto wife, who was quite a bit older than he. Sarah, the young woman he lives with, was his wife's granddaughter. \n\nNow, the two of them have been living together since the start of last year. Sarah couldn't afford to live on her own, and I guess John felt some kind of responsibility toward her. \n\nFrom my understanding, John and Sarah weren't that close. Sarah only saw her grandmother at Christmas and Easter, so that was the only time she saw John. I think maybe they bonded a bit more when she died, but it still doesn't make me feel comfortable with their situation. \n\nI guess, I just don't like the idea of my partner living with a young and attractive woman. I guess I'm just insecure, but it's the way I feel. I want him to ask her to leave. She's 21 anyway, I think she will be fine. But he says he couldn't put her out on her own, that she is like a daughter to him and he loves her. (her own father has been out of the picture her whole life)\n\nSo, what do I do? Do I just get over it? Do I have the right to ask him to move out, or get her to leave? I have brought up the idea of her leaving before, but again, he says he couldn't ask her to leave.", "summary": "My SO lives with a 21F who he says he loves like a daughter (his previous partner's granddaughter). It makes me uncomfortable, and I want to ask him to ask her to leave, or move out."}
{"id": "t3_fkduk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, Tell me a story of when you \"Beat the System\"", "post": "My (almost) personal experience: My best friend came up with a scheme. A local pizza chain had a program where every time you purchased from them, you got a star-shaped hole punch on a card. Every 10 punches, you get free pizza. Well, he custom-ordered a star hole punch of the same shape, took 100 or so cards, and bam - free pizza for over a month. He would rotate between the 4 stores in our city a few times a week, and it worked well for about a month it became obvious (that, and he started selling the cards)... He had to make a formal apology to the owner but other than that, he got off pretty easily.", "summary": "Punch cards = Free Pizza"}
{"id": "t3_1qabr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my Bf [29M] together almost 3 years. Just broke up.", "post": "I know our breakup was for the best. It was the hardest thing I ever did.  I love him very much.  He was sinking and I couldn't sink with him anymore. \n\nIt all stems from his dislike of himself.  After 3 years,  I learned I couldn't change that about him until he was ready to do it and he'd have to do it for himself not me. He also needed to grow up. \n\nI know there were things I could do better and if we ever get back together in the future, I know some things I'd do differently to be better for him.\n\nI still feel bad that I did it. I feel like I should have waited it out a little longer.  I just didn't want to end up resenting him. \n\n Thankfully, we had a pretty honest conversation a couple days after.  \nI hope he can see where I was coming from. I want what's best for him.  But also what's best for me which is why I left.  \n\nI want him to have happiness.  I wish nothing bad for him. \n\nI'm not looking for advice  just needed to get that out in the world and I'm having a lonely wallow-y night and instead of texting him, I'm spilling my emotions with fellow redditors.", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend of 3 years breaking my heart in the process as well."}
{"id": "t3_4ugeow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [24F] of 3 years, looking to see if checking other sexes is ok", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI (24M) am in a serious relationship with my girlfriend (24). We have been together for 3 years now. All in all, we've been very happy, and I can confidently say we've built a healthy relationship.\n\nWe recently had a short chat about if checking out others is considered cheating. I find my girlfriend attractive, but when I am outside, I do have the tendency to check girls out. Nothing overt. If a pretty girl walks by, I'll look. \n\nI'm not proud of it, but at the same time, I think it's natural. No matter how devoted one is to another, I think that it's instinct to find attractive people attractive. Still, I feel terrible. \n\nP.S. If my girlfriend took a look at a guy, I wouldn't be bothered.\n\nMy girlfriend says she is okay with it because \"I'm a guy\" but she did hint that she does feel sad when I look at others. Completely understandable. \n\nWhat are your thoughts on checking out others? Do you consider this cheating? Do you do it, and if your SO does it, are you ok with it?\n\nWe didn't get into a fight or anything and all is good as usual, but I feel terrible. I just assumed she wouldn't be \"sad\" by it because I wouldn't be.", "summary": "Girlfriend is slightly bothered if I check out other girls."}
{"id": "t3_1cljcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I stay or should I go? I'm (24/M) and she's (24/F) we (LDR) might just have our final break-up tonight and I was supposed to visit her tomorrow.", "post": "We've been dating for 7 months now, and everything was going well until recently. Yesterday she was excited to see me, said that she loved me like usual, same with earlier today. But we had a talk tonight about our relationship, she said she still loved me but she can't go on anymore (afraid of hurting each other). \n\nShe told me not to go tomorrow (we visited each other a few times already. I'm afraid that she won't open the door for me, but I don't mind sleeping on the street if I have to. I already paid for the round-trip tickets, and I'll be there for 2-3 days.", "summary": "She said I shouldn't go. Should I stay here, or should I go? (regardless of the result)"}
{"id": "t3_3y6nk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] dreamgirl[21F] confessed she was in love with me, but she is giving me panic attacks. Help?", "post": "So after knowing her for 7 months, my dream girl basically confessed that she was in love with me last night, and I was just absolutely overjoyed, and I just couldn't believe my luck.\n\nBut here's the thing:\n\nIt's been giving me panic attacks ever since last night. I've had a lot of anxiety in the past, but never anything like this before.\n\nWe actually haven't seen each other for a while, and I'm insanely nervous about how it is going to go when we meet in January, after confessing our feelings for each other. \n\nMy pulse is high, I'm shaking, and my muscles start aching after a while. I was also sweating pretty badly this night, got zero sleep because of the heart racing and being really out of breath, and a bit dizzy. I wasn't hyperventilating, though.. \n\nI really need help with this. I can be pretty awkward, and I'm usually not good with other people, and I have had some issues with ligth social anxiety. \n\nI don't wanna mess things up when we actually meet by getting weird panic attacks.. I mean, sure, i guess it's a compliment to her, but this is pretty awful.\n\nThe feeling of happiness is almost overshadowed by how nervous I am.\n\nCan you help me Reddit? How can I deal with these weird panic attacks, so that I'm not gonna freak her out when we see each other? :(. I'm just so happy she is into me, and I can't believe it, so I'm just so nervous. **Is there some way I could explain it to her without scaring her away?**\n\nAny advice would be appreciated\n\nExtra info:\nI've previously had a girlfriend\nShe's REALLY beautiful\nShe is more experienced than me, so that adds to my nervousness\nI'm really afraid she'll lose interest.", "summary": "Girl I'm in love with is in love with me to. I'm so scared I'll fuck it up, that I'm getting panic attacks, and we haven't even met up yet since we told each other on the phone. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_2hjtf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my girlfriend[40 F] 4 months, issue with her ex.", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nSo, here's my issue: My girlfriend is still friends with her ex (they dated for 8 years) and they are in the same social circle. Whenever there is an outing, her ex is typically present. \n\nI have no issues whatsoever with my girlfriends ex, but I believe she does with me. She will not greet me or make eye contact. She basically pretends I don't exist and is normal around everyone else. \n\nWe've never had a conversation because she won't acknowledge my existence. I have tried to bring this up with my girlfriend, but she ends up making excuses or defending her ex, so I can't go that route. \n\nThis is a pretty uncomfortable situation and I'm hopng for some mature tactics to change the situation for the better. \n\nThank you in advance!", "summary": "My gf is still friends with her ex and they are in the same social circle and the ex won't acknowledge my presence."}
{"id": "t3_1ls9yh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Cuckquean seems to be the thing for me.", "post": "So, backstory:\n\nI've been with this amazing dude for about 7 years. Love him to death. He doesn't like to admit it, but he's absolutely wonderful and supportive and fun. He honestly took me from no self esteem to being pretty good with myself. For a while, about 2 years ago or so, we had a fling with another girl. We'd talked about this type of thing (threesome) beforehand, but I wasn't really prepared for what happened.\n\nAnd by that, I mean that I don't think I've ever been so instantly and completely turned on as when I saw him slide his hand up her thigh and onto her ass. It literally took my breath, and changed my view of sex completely. At that point, I knew that I wanted to watch him have sex with her.\n\nAnd it happened a few times, and then the friendship broke up and it was put off, though we talked about it. Over the past week or so, we started looking again. I know he's worried he'll hurt me, and I can't really explain why I like it so much.\n\nI guess I just worry that he'd feel obligated (though he assures me he is poly by nature), or that he's not attractive enough on his own (which he totally is). Again, we've talked about this quite a bit, but I'm not really able to pinpoint why I am so interested.\n\nAnyway, I know cuckold is fairly well established for men, but I haven't seen a lot of perspectives from women. I guess I should feel embarrassed, but I don't really care how people judge me for it. It's hot. Has anyone else experienced this? Why do you like it?", "summary": "I like it when other girls get the D."}
{"id": "t3_44i3xs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my husband [30M] of 2 years have stopped having sex since I started taking better care of myself", "post": "I just finished a PhD with a pretty abusive advisor, and now I have a great postdoc. I am happy and have recently begun dropping weight I gained, toning up, etc. My hair and skin glows, and my face is generally brighter. My family and even strangers have commented that I look so fresh, and I am really happy. \n\nMy husband and I began dating during my degree and he has been there for me as I finished. But now, we really don't have sex anymore. This is weird because we were daily and maybe a few more times on the weekend, but everything has dwindled since October. At first I assumed with my defense and everything that I was just so gross that it would take a bit to recover. Now, I look better than I ever have the whole time he has known me, and yet there is nothing happening. I flirt with him, and I try to get him excited, but nothing is working, yet he says nothing is wrong and that I look good.\n\nI don't know how to take this because everything is so prefect otherwise, and I am actually taking great care of myself and doing the things I know he likes. He was sweet to me for a moment yesterday because I brought him dinner (this isn't abnormal), but still nothing. \n\nThe more I take care of myself, the harder this is getting because my sex drive is getting stronger. We both used to be like bunnies, but now I am that sad bunny in the corner masturbating because my bunny won't play. \n\nI am being direct and gentle about this in talking with him about it. Should I take another approach?", "summary": "Wife hotter than ever, but hubby now as cold as ice. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4rb9k3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am overwhelmed with [several F's]", "post": "I am looking for some sort of constructive advice or insight that may hopefully help me navigate the time period known as \"the early 20's\".\n\nI am a single 22-year old male who will be going back to college for one last semester this August and, in an almost juvenile way, I feel like I have too many crushes. To test this, I made a note on my mac of every girl that I had thought of in a dreamy (or should I say, daydreamy) way within recent memory, and I came up with 15.\n\n**15**\n\nLike, fuck.\n\nA bit more background: I don't have a long dating history - just one girlfriend for about a year that ended almost two years ago. I was heavily into one night stands in the past in college (when I was single, that is), and now I'm kind of lost as to what I want, what I can have, and where to go. When exactly are you supposed to begin to settle down and concentrate your interests?", "summary": "I need a strategy to help me narrow down which women to pursue romantically - beyond one night stands."}
{"id": "t3_3ij0cp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By moving in with the leader of a cult.", "post": "So the realization of the fuck up is today, while it actually happened a week and a half ago. \n\nAs I was reading through the roommate lease to make the check out to, I thought the named looked a little different than what the ad said her name was. \"Well, maybe I'm just tired from work and such.\" So I grab the lease to make sure and look at the original ad and sure enough, the names are different. This is where I start realizing the fuck up:\n\nI type the name on the lease into Google and it explodes with all this information (including her personal site) about this type of cult, how she communicates while the \"lizzards\" and \"aliens\" on the other planets. It goes way, way deeper than I can even explain here. What really got me, was she isn't just a local hit..she's international. I was even listening to this podcast where they were talking about how we have robots living among us pretending to be human beings and such. Really fucking weird. \n\nSo now I'm kind of nervous being around the house and what not. I've noticed it seems like she goes through my room as I've noticed curtains open when I know for sure I closed them. I asked about that and it was \"to let the air flow free in the house.\" Okay I said...I'm a guy...I workout...probably a hint I stink. Well, I think it's some supernatual stuff instead as other things have been out of place.\n\nI've really no idea what to do at this point, but hoping since it's just a 3 month lease I can survive and move on. The biggest problem is that on her website, she has her HOME address (also her office) so anyone can mail in payments. Well, what if someone wants to bash in a window? Again, I'm a little freaked out.\n\nI probably didn't include everything in here, so feel free to ask if you've any questions.", "summary": "Signed a lease and Googled the name of my roommate, found out she's a huge cult leader. A little freaked out."}
{"id": "t3_3wlih1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "About to start my adult life while I also believe it might be the worst time to.", "post": "I'm 18, Canadian, Female, about to go into the world and begin living very soon, however I'm afraid of the world today, the government we have, and the government other people are supporting. I fear that the rumours are true, my generation will be the generation that witnesses the beginning of WWIII and nearing the end of parts of our world. My generation is said to be the generation that'll bring thousands of new jobs, then destroy it all because of a single problem, the problem that starts all wars, power, we are power and money hungry kids who have very little discipline and take offence at everything. These people I am growing up with are some of the smartest people I know however we all act like we are invincible, like we are God, like nothing can harm us we are the generation to end the war on drugs but start the war between North America and everyone else. The person I believe to start these wars none other than of course Donald Trump, can't denied it I loved the guy sure he was a dick to most people but he got his job done and did what he wanted with his life. But seriously I cannot ignore the insane resemblance of behaviour to Hitler everyone is saying it half joking but it is very serious that he is acting exactly like Hitler before he was actually voted in. He was power hungry, money hungry, blaming problems in his country on another race, wanting them to identify themselves by wearing special id's or arm bands. You may all think this is coincidence but before Hitler became too power hungry, he was known as the leader who could bring Germany out of any problem he made them more money faster than ever before, but once he realized what he could do with the amount of people willing to follow him anywhere he went down and down and did not stop. It's more than coincidence it's a similar personality, a similar person and I hope that he has more control as it seems he is pulling lead.", "summary": "I don't wanna start life in a world that's just gonna burn in war because of Donald Trump winning the US presidential election."}
{"id": "t3_17hbd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m19) was rejected by a friend (f19) and now she has found someone else.", "post": "This is the ultimate slap in the face. I was friends with her before she even met this guy. I was friends with her when she broke up with her boyfriend in December. I figured she wanted some time off after that, so I didnt make a move right away. A few days later, she is hanging out with this other guy that she just met. Whenever she talks about him, she talks as if she's known this guy forever. Its sickening. Im mostly writing this to rant, but I also want to know how to deal with this rejection. Do I continue to talk to her at all? I cant act like I dont mind her having a new boyfriend. I mean, shit, I feel like this was my only chance and I fucking blew it. Thats my rant length of the relationship is 0 years. I dont know why i have to include that.", "summary": "Was friendzoned, then she found someone else. Im pretty pissed about it."}
{"id": "t3_3vjrs1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my bf [26M] 1 year, we live together, he has condoms we don't use.", "post": "My boyfriend opened up his home to me when I was having financial issues. No questions asked.\n\nIt's been a year and things are going great. Except for the condoms. Let me explain.\n\nWe personally don't use condoms or any protection, but he has some on his dresser. There used to be only one and it was always out in the open so I figured he got it from a safe sex packet or something.\n\nNow there are two of them, still out in the open but it is really beginning to bother me.\n\nShould I just throw them away or ask about them. It has never occurred to me before that he was unfaithful and he has never given me a reason to think that. \n\nHe is an absolutely amazing guy that gives me the world and always makes sure I am good. I don't know what to think. And I really don't wanna jump to conclusions.", "summary": "bf has condoms, not hidden. Is he cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_27gpvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] keep having recurring sexual dreams about my [29M] boyfriend's brother. Dating three years. Should I tell him?", "post": "Hello /r/relationships. I'll try to keep this brief.\n\nA few months ago my boyfriend came to me and told me he had a dream that he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. While I have no doubt that he'd never go back to his ex, I did feel a little irritated by the fact that he found this dream compelling enough to tell me about it. We talked about it, agreed that it wasn't in the best taste, and moved on.\n\nWell, the tables have turned and I'm beginning to feel like a massive hypocrite. About a month after the aforementioned incident I started having recurring, very detailed sexual dreams about my boyfriend's brother. This has been going on now for about two months, at least once a week. Each time I wake up from these dreams I feel disgusted, slightly aroused, and it completely disrupts my day.\n\nI'm not particularly close to my boyfriend's siblings. However, I sometimes catch myself now daydreaming about hanging out with his brother or convincing him to join us in the bedroom. I very much DON'T want to have that experience, and it seriously horrifies me to even type that out.\n\nI think if I told my boyfriend about some of this it might help me stop obsessing over these thoughts. Then again, I don't want to similarly horrify my boyfriend or make a big deal out of nothing. Help, please?", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_gvw3q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Went clubbing last night. Saw ex-gf.", "post": "Me 28, her 24. So, went clubbing last night with a group of friends. Saw my ex-gf with our mutual friends. She looked really down. Went up to her and smiled and greeted her with a small hug then went back into talking to my friends. After last saturday, *refer to [Dealing with Ex-Gf who has mutual friends.] for more background, she was acting like she hated me. Said i was \"too cool\" to be around her. I told her if i was, i wouldn't be talking to her. She then asks me where she was at in my list of girls. I was truthful and basically said she was still on top. When she felt like an out cast from the dance circle, I grabbed her in so she could be apart of it and she was happy. While we were with our group of friends, we meet a couple of guys. I egged her on into talking to them and then dancing with them. Our mutual friends were sort of weirded out by that. At the end of the night, I asked if she got one of their numbers, she said it didn't matter and that she wouldn't remember anyways, but went back to the guy to continue to get the number. The whole time i was being happy and cheerful! Life of the party attitude! :D As she was walking away, she didn't want to be around me and pulled her hand from me. I told her I still loved her, but I want her to be happy. I smiled and just acted care free. I know I might have fallen off again on the high horse I was on last week, but help me reddit. Was this right? If i was wrong, please tell me what it was and how to deal with it the next time I see her. It's hard dealing with us having mutual friends in situations like these.", "summary": "ex said i was too cool to be around her after my actions of last week (acknowledging her their but giving her no attention).  tried to make sure the whole group had fun, including her. Egged her on to meet these guys that wanna talk to her and one of them danced and got her number. she got cold and mad at me at the end. help me."}
{"id": "t3_j5snc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why would this idea not work for tax cutting?", "post": "So, I am a 16 year old who lives in maryland. My dad owns 2 UPS stores. Therefore, he is creating jobs. However, we see the republicans cutting taxes on the wealthy on the base that if they have money, they will make jobs for other Americans.  This doesn't work as we've seen, and people making lots of money through non corporate jobs, such as actors or writers. \n\nSo, my question is for you redditors is, why can we not just have some sort of policy where if you actually create jobs, you would get a tax cut? Therefore, the people that the republicans are trying to help with their ridiculous cuts are the ones being helped, not the corporate business owners who are the cause of this problem in the first case.", "summary": "Why not give tax cuts to the small business owners making the jobs."}
{"id": "t3_15m6ts", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Thanks to you, this is shaping up to be an awful birthday", "post": "So after creating a throwaway to talk about [this] shit a month ago, I decided to give you another chance. I went out to visit you before Christmas and came back deciding that all of our problems could be chalked up to distance and I would move as soon as I could.\n\nI saw your friend (we'll call her Jane) post on your Facebook saying that it was time she met me. I excitedly expanded the post so I could be all \"I know right! I've only been trying to do it for 2 years!\" \n\nThen I saw what your other friend (we'll call her Susie) posted. The one whose boyfriend you \"pretended\" to be to stave off creepers. If you were just pretending, please tell me why she gave a full rundown of when she was available to meet Jane? Better yet, please explain me to why Susie supposedly has a boyfriend, yet said she would be in town the entire effing week between Christmas and New Years?\n\nWhen I asked you to be honest with me, you refused to even talk about it. You said I was attacking and assuming things. When you finally did give me a reason for why Susie said anything, you said it was because you thought she was responding to another question that Jane had asked. Bull. Shit.\n\nTo top off all of this? As of 2 hours ago, it's my fucking birthday. Not a peep from you. I figured you were asleep. But no, when I used four square to check in to my apartment when I got home from work a few minutes ago, it said you were at Taco Bell. Really? This is the 3rd birthday I've spent with you and the other two times you sent me texts at the stroke of midnight. But not tonight. No, you're too busy getting drunk and eating shitty tacos. And I assume you're doing it with Susie since she's in town until Sunday.", "summary": "It walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck. Yet you keep telling me it's a fucking platypus. And my dumb ass keeps believing you."}
{"id": "t3_1m8fvx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I feel like I got a shot with this girl, but I can't rush it can you help me pace myself", "post": "So there is this girl that I really dig from day one when I met her, i get along with her friends we hang out every now and then, going to parties never that often one on one, and its all a good time. I don't know about you guys but I feel like I can pick out the girls that, to put it kindly, have a history or tough life, like myself. One night when I was hanging out in her room and her roomate was out for a minute I opened up my story and got her to share hers and I was right she is a tough little chica hiding behind a cute smile.\n\nanyway she got a boyfriend and I thought I lost my opportunity, which I was using as a learning/growing experience, but I invite her to lunch our first week back at school and she is expressing some pretty rocky moments in her relationship and her dad throw her out one night, which I then chastized her for not calling me to pick her up from one town away. Her boyfriend is making her life tough, not on purpose but he is to expressive and is kinda bipolar and in my opinion, not very believable in some of his comments. I am willing to bet i am one of maybe four people or maybe the only person that she can talk to anything about, but I always have to reach out to her to hang out.\n\nI don't think her friends see me as a potential suitor and I don't know if she has written me off yet, I am cautious to a fault when it comes to not overtexting people but I don't want to lose my opportunity. \n\nAdvive?", "summary": "Just go read it I am not really interesting in your half informed advice"}
{"id": "t3_2qmgat", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Befriending people my age?", "post": "**I am in a very unusual position. I completed all of my exams at the age of 15 and decided that instead of waiting for uni I would quit school and start work in earnest on making my dream career a reality. I'd been writing since I was seven and it had always/ still is my dream to be an author. Three-and-a-half years, three novels (one of them a Christmas best-seller on kindle) later and I'm on the brink of releasing what is, by far, my best novel. Editing is still to be done along with a vast amount of internet marketing, site design and a short film to be shot. I'm very proud of all I've achieved and generally happy with my life. However, all this consistent hard work in combination with not being in education mean that all my friends are either adults or on the internet in a part of the globe I am very unlikely to visit. I met my girlfriend who was quite a lot older than me at the beginning of the year. We were deeply in love, but for various reasons it did not/ could not work out and I haven't seen her since July. I am here because I'm lost as to figuring out a way to meeting like-minded people of my own age for friends and need suggestions. If it makes any difference I'm in Edinburgh, Scotland.", "summary": "Left education to pursue career, work work work work work and work, therefore no friends my own age."}
{"id": "t3_28nb9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] just broke up with my BF [28M] and it was the most horrible thing I've ever experienced. Need to know I've done the right thing.", "post": "I just broke up with my boyfriend because of the distance. I was living in the same country as him and we dated for 5 months. He was the best person I've ever met. I knew I was leaving for the other side of the world the whole time we started dating, and had told him, but took it so slowly I didn't realise how much I liked him. I ended up just shutting my eyes and enjoying what we had instead of worrying about leaving. \n\nAnd then I left. And it sucks. This is my 4th long distance relationship (I travel A LOT) and when I think about long distance I feel sick to my stomach. I hate it. I hate that I keep ending up in these situations and I could meet prince charming and not want to do long distance with him. I hate missing him every day. I hate not being able to sleep with him and wake up with him. I hate only getting texts because it not only means I'm not with him, but it reminds me of all the other long distance relationships I've had that tore my heart out. \n\nAnd it's not just the distance. It's the \"how will we be together in the future\", the \"will he get a visa or won't he\", the constant traveling to see each other's families in the future if it worked out, the commitment to this whole thing even though we were only dating 5 months. It was 5 months of heaven that taught me how amazing it was to be around the person you loved. But now I'm not around him any more. \n\nSo I ended it. I broke my heart and I broke his. Please god, someone tell me I made the right choice.  I know in my gut I did, but I feel sick about it and the look on his face when I hung up FaceTime.", "summary": "Ended (yet another) long distance relationship due to not being able to deal with the distance, despite really loving the guy. Breaking up sucks."}
{"id": "t3_15l7uj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mentally challenged acquaintance from high school believes I'm her friend... what do I do?", "post": "breaking this down into neat sections.\n\n1. The girl is nice and her family is nice. I am also a girl. She has some kind of mental retardation that means that she functions on an 8-year-old level, I never found out what it was.\n\n2. I was on her mother's soccer team for 4 years, and continued to say hi to her in high school (and to a lot of people), but we never saw each other outside soccer/school. Our mothers are acquaintances, and her mother is decently pushy, and I suspect that some of this contact is her encouragement.\n\n3. She's messaged me on facebook with \"hi markerbear\" about 8 times since I went to college, decreasing in frequency over the years. I've never answered. I'm not facebook friends with her (I'm not facebook friends with a lot of people from high school). I haven't actually seen her face to face in nearly 3 years since I don't live at home.\n\n4. Why I'm posting: she sent me a Christmas card, even the envelop was hand-written, with pictures of her family and pets. I don't think \"it'll fade over time\" is working here, but I can't on good conscious tell this girl off, I already feel mean.", "summary": "mentally retarded (no offense meant- technically that is the term?) girl acquaintance still tries to keep in contact with me, and I don't want more loose ties from high school. How do I not be mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1ynh02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 21 M and my gf is 21 F, How do I handle guys hitting on her?", "post": "My gf and I recently celebrated our 2 year anniversary.\n\nWe are dating long distance and I trust her fidelity and all that but it bothers me that other guys still hit on her. There are 2 guys in particular and I know they have no chance with her and she won't give them the time of day but they constantly text her. One went to a high-school dance with her before we started dating and became infatuated, the other was like an upper class-man that was the counselor of her orientation class. The older guy apparently is infatuated with her too, I find this weird because she has not had personal contact with either of them for over a year.\n\nI know she wouldn't cheat on me but I can't help being suspicious that I'm not getting the full truth; who would continue to message a girl after such a long period of rejection unless she gave them reason to?", "summary": "Guys are hitting on my long distance gf, it makes me suspicious of her."}
{"id": "t3_1zgb68", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[NSFW] What was the most emberassing moment of your life?", "post": "When I was about 16, my ex girlfriend and I travelled a bit and took an overnight train somewhere. After having an argument and needing a bit of space, I decide to walk down to the other side of the train for a breather and some time to think.\n\nNext thing I know, my stomach goes blurp blurp blurp and gives me one of those 10 second warnings to rush to the toilet. So I do. Well, this train was old, like ww2 old and the toilet sink turns on with a mechanism where you step on this lever and water runs out. There wasn't much space in there and it was damn dirty and the floor reeked of piss and was wet, so when getting on the shitter I didn't want my pants and boxers remotely touching the floor. I put my pants and boxers on the sink that was dry. After all hell broke lose from my asshole and a sharp pain in my stomach, finally I can get the fuck out of here and get a REAL breather. As I get up I accidentally step on the lever for the sink and all my clothes get wet including my phone that now wont turn on. \n\nI was like fuck, what do I do? Just walk out in soaking wet clothes and walk all the way to the other side of the train to get my dry clothes? So I just stood there for what felt like a few hours thinking of everything from my impending doom to what an idiot I am and to what I could've done differently.\n\nEventually my ex found me and said \"Dude. You've been gone over an hr, is everything OK?\" So I explained to her what happened and she went and got me some clothes. When I got out it was pretty much her snickering and me sitting in silence for the rest of the trip.", "summary": "had to take a dump while on a train, clothes got wet so didn't leave the toilet for an hr till the ex gf came to look for me"}
{"id": "t3_4qop8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28M) fiance (22F) of 3 years continuously bad mouths me to others and has had concerning relationships with friends and coworkers for a long time, but now asks for another-nother chance. Do I say yes?", "post": "So, my  fiance (22f) and I (28m) have been together 3 years, lived together 9 months of that. We've had a rocky road, in February this year I found out she had a 9 month long relationship with her coworker where she was taking my car to see him while I was at work. The worst part was seeing how badly she talks about me to everyone - family, friends (guys especially). Also, seeing that the bad mouthing had been going on for like 1.5 years.\n\nBut we moved on, I got over it. She promised that she would stop bad mouthing me. We've had some rough times since then, but last night I found out she's had another friend she's doing the same stuff with, and she's been hiding that she has had him over the apartment while I'm at work. Anddd theres sexual text messages to go along with it.\n\nI finally said we should get separate places after our lease ended, but she is begging for another chance. I feel like I should stand my ground because I'm finding it really hard to trust her and move on.\n\nThoughts anyone? I'm having a difficult time figuring out what I should do - stay together again, and see if the engagement will work; or insist we get separate places. She says if I do then it's over.", "summary": "My (28M) fiance (22F) of 3 years continuously bad mouths me to others and has had concerning relationships with friends and coworkers for a long time, but now asks for another-nother chance. Do I say yes?"}
{"id": "t3_3inshm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17M] am not sure if I am doing enough in my relationship with my girlfriend[17F], Have been going out for 6 months.", "post": "So asked this girl out 6 months ago and it's been alright, but I can't help but feel something is not clicking. I am quite quiet so I'm not always sure whether I should be more physical with her or not. We have had sex so it's not like she's not keen, but just with general stuff like hand holding and pda. \n\nThe reason I'm saying this is because whenever we go to parties, she always goes off and hangs out with her friends and almost never with me. I'm not sure if that's normal or what, because my mate's girlfriend and him are so close and always stay together at parties and gatherings... Do I need to follow my girlfriend and be a little more clingy or just keep waiting for her to come to me because her going off with her friends is normal? This is my first proper relationship so I don't really know what is normal or not. Should also mention that she is really quite also.", "summary": "first girlfriend of 6 months, she leaves me for friends at parties, do I follow and be more clingy or not?"}
{"id": "t3_17tqbw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "We're friends.. right?", "post": "I like you, a lot actually. You're one of the only real \"guyfriends\" I've had. You even take the initiative to hang out with me, talk on skype and play LoL!\n\nI remember we texted a lot a long time ago, you wanted to be a little more than just friends, not a couple, but friends with benefits. You started flirting more with me over text, and I think I got a little reckless when you asked me if I wanted to do something with you.. We never did anything though, and I know I didn't want to, so that was all good.\n\nWe talk a little, not as much as before, I think he's afraid to come off as someone who only thinks about sex.. But he kind of does, he really does. I know teenage boys think a lot about it, but it feels like it's the only reason why he tries to keep in contact.\n\nWe were together today, the most of the time we sat in bed, he kept tickling me, and since he hadn't slept, he was tired and wanted to lay comfortable.. on my chest and stomach. I didn't resist though, I pulled my shirt down a couple of times when he pulled it up to lay his hands on my stomach because they were cold. I tried not to be too.. seductive, if you can say it like that, but I don't know.. I love to cuddle, so we did that for quite a while.. He massaged me too..\nAfter he'd went home, he texted me and said that I didn't seem so shy, and asked me if I wanted to do something more sometime. I answered him, \"Nah, I don't think so\", and didn't get an answer afterwards. He's a really cool guy and I don't want to lose him.\n\nI'm afraid that's the only reason he wants to be friends, even though he've said he thinks that there's too many sluts in our town. He've tried something with another girl before, but I just want to wait, wait for the right person. I know I'm stupid, I shouldn't care about him if all he thinks about is sex and not our friendship. I don't want to be used, I'm just kind of insecure already.", "summary": "I think my friend wants to be more than friends, and I'm afraid he won't keep in touch with me if I say no.. I'm not saying yes before I want to though."}
{"id": "t3_38hi1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my partner [27 M] For 3 years are having troubles over my much needed/ loved occupation", "post": "the whole story is a long and complicated one but essentially my boyfriend and I met when we both worked at a restaurant/ bar. I was a server at that time, hoping to be a bartender and he worked in the kitchen. We hit it off right away and that was history. Unfortunately management has gotten in the way and the work style it encompassed got my boyfriend first for no reason besides our bosses favoring their ego over rational thought. Once he got fired it was painful but we agreed that the best for both of us is I continue there (now a bartender, and kicking ass at that) while he, unemployed without pay looked for a job. Being extremely talented and hard working he found a job and moved swiftly up the ranks but that job consisted with opposite hours than my bar hours. Now we never see each other besides the seldom day off and the days I am working and come home after bar close we tend to fight and or I keep him up accidentally and we fight for that. We shouldn't be dealing with this repetitively  but it's getting to the point that no matter what I feel like I'm hurting him. I know I don't like/ respect the people I work for (especially after they could fire my partner who worked his ass off for them and never got appreciation or respect...I don't either to note) but I love my clientele and my job behind the bar and it pays for my share of our apartment and bills.\nHowever I feel like we can never move passed prior his awful treatment/ I can't get out of my slump of being treated like shit by my management and constantly fighting with the man I love.", "summary": "My partner and I have problems dealing with his passed employment at the bar we met at and that I still work for. And now we have opposite schedules and its getting really tense everyday."}
{"id": "t3_2jvek4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24M)Wanting to date my college bestfriend (19M)", "post": "So I've known my straight best friend for about a year and a half, whenever we go somewhere together people always ask are we together and they always note how happy we look together. \n\nIve always liked him more than friends since we first met but I didn't really think to much on it but during these past few months we have been opening up more and became more trusting than I have ever been in any relationship.  He's told me he's bi and we've began checking out guys together which is really fun, This past weekend we went out had a few drinks and we started walking around like we were a couple holding hands and kissing hugging the works since we were out of town who cared, then we have actually kissed each other twice. I was a little intoxicated but I was still able to realize that I've actually kissed him just now. \n\nIs it wrong to have these feelings for a best friend. I've asked him in the past about us going out since we have everything in common, I mean everything, and we love spending time with each other we even have sleep overs sometimes and he said he doesn't want to ruin his friendship with me since he wants us to stay bestfriends forever, also whenever we talk to each other we can never look each other in the eyes for too long; I do it because I find him attractive and i dont want those thoughts running around in my head, but Idk why he does it. \n\nplus he has a habit of dating girls and then dumping them after he has sex with them. \nthen other times I'll ask again and he'll say I'm not his type which puts me into a really weird position. Since this weekend all I could think about is that kiss and him.", "summary": "should I be feeling this way about a Best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_1qvr4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M] ant to travel without wife (30 F] and baby (7 months) for 6 days", "post": "Hi, been with wife for 4 years cumulatively.  I want to visit some old male friends and some family overseas. I am the sole provider. I have not been able to travel for couple of years because of my wife's citzenship status (which was settled couple of months ago).\nI work very hard to provide my family with a good standard of living nice house and a good family car) and my wife really enjoys being a traditional house wife.\nI don't want to bring my wife and baby as the cost would balloon up and wish to get away for a bit. Told my wife about it over text message and she is not supportive.", "summary": "How can I get her to agree and not feel jealous? "}
{"id": "t3_1j1n8i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By accidentally talking into my radio", "post": "So I'm a firefighter and we are on scene of a supposed electrical fire (false alarm) and I'm standing in a door way with another firefighter as instructed to do. Now just before the alarm went off another firefighter was in the shower. When the tone dropped he comes down in his underwear and puts his gear on (pretty funny). So as we are standing in the door way I start talking to the other guy about it saying did you see \"firefighter blah\" running down stairs in his underwear lol, only to realize that my mic on my radio was caught in my air pack and was keyed up so everyone could hear what I was saying. So yeah, tifu and I got a stern talk from a superior.", "summary": "radio keyed up, underwear, everyone heard, stern talk"}
{"id": "t3_3ccv9c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going for a canoe ride.", "post": "This happened back in March- my partner and I were dogsitting for some close friends who lived on a river and decided we would take their canoe out for a lazy ride. It was great for about ten minutes- we laid out, enjoyed the sun, and watched the boats go by.\n\nTurns out the river was going far, far faster than we expected, and not a quarter of a mile out did we realize we'd gone too far and tried to row back. We could see the house from where we were, but we couldn't make any headway because the current was going in the wrong direction. We docked in the creepiest place ever, with abandoned, rusting playground toys, barbed wire, car parts, and farm equipment along with tons of no trespassing signs, positive we were going to get shot in rural New England, and decided to walk back to the house, get the car, and retrieve the canoe.\n\nNot only was it impossible to go back the way we came as it was full of dense forest, swamp, and mud, but we were barefoot and had to walk three miles around the river and back to the house. The icing on this shit cake was that as soon as we got back, we leaped in the car to get the canoe only to find that the current had risen and taken the thing away. A quick search to replace it yielded the price- $800 for a gently used canoe. We searched for three hours along the river and ended up at a strip club once we cut our losses and told the dog owners teens must have taken it.", "summary": "Lost a canoe, gained a lap dance."}
{"id": "t3_3pf61c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] brother-in-law [16] keeps making rude comments toward me about my pregnancy.", "post": "I think his mother might have told him that I am pregnant. I recently found out I'm pregnant and my fiance and I haven't told many people at all, but we did tell his mother. \n\nToday when he came home from school (he's 16), he asked my fiance if \"this\" is what he wanted from his life (referring to having a child, we already have a two year old daughter). \n\nLater on, my daughter ran into his room and I went after her. When I picked her up he asked my \"why are you so fat?\" And I told him that I only weigh 100 lbs. His response was \"Well, you look fatter than usual.\" Obviously I don't, because I only weigh 100 lbs which is the same weight I've been for a long time, and I'm only a month or so pregnant. I'm definitely not getting any bigger yet. \n\nAbout ten minutes ago I went downstairs with my daughter, where my brother in law was playing music, and my daughter started dancing and being silly. Brother in law laughs at her dancing and says to me \"Hey, don't have another kid because this one's retarded.\" \n\nI told my fiance about him calling me fat, but I haven't said anything so far about what kust happened and I'm not sure if I should. I want to of course, but I don't want my fiance to get too angry and then my brother in law start acting hostile toward me for \"telling on him.\" These comments are making me uncomfortable especially considering this pregnancy has already caused problems between my fiance and his mother, because initially she wanted me to get an abortion and now she's saying she doesn't mind if I have the baby, but that I should get a \"procedure\" after I have it so that I don't have any more.", "summary": "My brother in law is making me uncomfortable about my pregnancy, I don't know for sure that he knows but he keeps making rude comments, I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3gbavz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Think I asked for too much money, not sure what to do now", "post": "I recently applied for the same job that I have now but at a much better place. I came in for a quick interview initially. After going over all the benefits, they asked how much money I am making now, which I declined to answer. Then they asked me how much I want to make. I answered $34/hr. I currently make $28/hr but they had mentioned that there might be some managerial responsibilities involved so I thought that would justify a higher pay. They didn't seem too bothered by that number and asked me back for a working interview the next week.\n\nI went to the working interview and felt great about how it went. The team really liked me and I had good answers for all the questions. However, after being there 3 hours and thinking it was going great, the hiring manager (same one from the first interview) cooled down quite a bit. She was initially really excited when we first met. She then asked me to confirm that $34/hr was what I wanted to make. I said \"I would be happy to negotiate.\" She didn't respond to that and changed the subject. She told me that someone within the company had showed interest in the job and they were going to \"weigh it out\" this next coming week. She was very vague about getting back to me and I had to ask when we would connect next. After a brief pause, she said \"Well maybe next week.\"\n\nAfter the working interview, I realized that the position was not really a managerial position, and in fact had less responsibility than my current job and had better benefits. I would have honestly been happy to work there for the same pay as I am making now but I think I may have taken myself out of consideration by asking for too much money.\n\nIs there anything I can do now? I have thought about writing an email to let them know that I have reconsidered how much I would like to make. I really want this job and don't want to lose it just because I made a mistake early on. By the way this all happened yesterday.", "summary": "Interview fell flat once we discussed pay, found out they were looking at hiring internally, didn't seem interested in following up. Would take less pay, but not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3t87pz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] i seem to get bored with every boy I like/date. Is this normal or what?", "post": "Basically what the title says. \n\nI have only had one relationship but that only lasted a couple of months because he was a jerk, but even before that I was getting bored. \n\nMaybe it's because we never really did anything but go to lunches and each other's house. All e ever wanted to do was make out and sometimes I just wanted to hang with his mom and get to know his parents, maybe cuddle and play video games. Is that weird? \n\nThere's been this one guy who has liked me for almost a year and u just didn't have feelings for him. What was weird was I was randomly really like him and feel like I was ready but then it would go away. I don't know why. I never showed this because I know it would crush him but now he is sort of talking to one of my best friends and I'm worried that I'll get those random feelings again. \n\nIs there something wrong with me?", "summary": "randomly like him and then don't. Is this bad?"}
{"id": "t3_l3uv7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I correct my kitten's awful behavior?", "post": "So...\n\nMy boyfriend and I recently adopted a kitten; he is now about six months old. We've owned many different cats in the past and I'm happy to report my Persian lived to the ripe old age of 22. \n\nThis cat, however, is an absolute nightmare. When we first adopted him I went out and bought him everything under the sun: scratching post, dedicated food and water bowls, fresh litter box (cleaned twice daily), tons of different toys, and his own kitty bed. \n\nIn the few months we have lived with him he has DESTROYED our bed sheets / comforter, brand new couch, drapes, he ALWAYS scatters his food and tips over his water bowl at EVERY feeding. I had to get the keyboard replaced on my brand new laptop THE DAY AFTER I bought it when he scratched 3 keys off. He has also knocked over our other computer's monitor, keyboard, and tower (nearly). He also bites and scratches us AND our guests - which is completely unacceptable.\n\nWe've tried squirt bottles and canned air to catch him in the act and discipline him - but I'm certain he thinks it's a game now. I don't want to resort to spanking him like a dog, but I'm at my wits' end.   \n\nReddit - what do?", "summary": "bad kittens behaving badly."}
{"id": "t3_u25i7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if it were illegal to give money to the homeless?", "post": "I work in downtown Seattle.  The two block radius surrounding my office is an open air drug market servicing primarily the homeless population.  \n\nThe sidewalks and alleys are frequently covered in human feces and the smell is awful.  I've seen a guy masturbating in the entryway to the building I work in; at ten in the morning.  The entryway is also a popular place to get high and conduct one's drug business.  \n\nThe cops say they don't have the resources to do anything about it because they had to spend so much money policing the Occupy protests.  They suggested we photograph them on our phones while in the act and either call 911 to report the activity or submit a report online and send them any photographic/video evidence via email.\n\nBegging is what the addicts do when they're not getting high and the dealers do it as a convenient cover as well as an alternate source of income.  \n\nSo today I started thinking, what if it were illegal to give money to the homeless?  Meaning a ticket and a fine.  I'm not sure it's feasible to do anything punitive to the homeless addicts that they haven't already done to themselves and in my experience they have exactly one fuck to give anyway, getting high.  I'm also not talking about giving food or clothes, or the folks selling Real Change, or shelters and other established charities.    But if the people handing the crackheads and dealers cash out in front of my office had something to lose, maybe they would stop giving them money.  If that money dried up, maybe it would be enough of a hit to the pocketbook that the crackheads would move on to greener pastures.  If nothing else it could help SPD with their budget issues.", "summary": "What if it were illegal to give the homeless money?"}
{"id": "t3_2d25v2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a migraine", "post": "This isn't really a self induced fuck up, rather than a \"my body hates me\" sort of thing.\n\nSo tonight I got a migraine, for the time it lasted I was in about 8/10 for pain. I first felt it coming on at 11:00 pm while playing Xbox with some buddies, so I turned off my console and went to my medicine cabinet to grab my 'Doctor prescribed migraine go-away pills'. I took them and then went to my balcony to get some air (which usually helps a bit), it didn't... so I begin to feel nauseous, I go to my bedroom and lay on my bed for the next 3 hours (11pm-2am) with no light, sound or anything else to take my mind off of the pain that I was feeling. after 3 hours of thinking about the pain I was in, Feeling the pain I was in, and all I was thinking was 'why won't this migraine just fuck off?', finally It was over.\nso now it is 2:30 am, I am feeling energized like I just drank a 20 oz red bull or had a 3 hour nap, I must get to bed as I don't feel like going to sleep at 9 am and waking up at 6 pm for the next week strait.\n\nThis is probably the closest there is to explaining a migraine to people who have not had one.\n[Migraine explanation]\n(", "summary": "I felt the full pain of a migraine wide awake for 3 hours and now my sleep schedule is fucked up."}
{"id": "t3_jsshs", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Neighbors washing machine keeping baby awake", "post": "We live in an apartment and our upstairs neighbors insist on doing laundry at god awful hours (5AM, 11PM, etc.) That would be fine except their washing machine is directly over our sons crib. The noise is so loud it shows up on his baby monitor and wakes him up. Can I ask them to cut it out without being a total asshole neighbor? It's important to point out that we've never spoken to each other in the year we've been neighbors otherwise I'd just bring it up casually. Should I knock on their door? Leave a note? It's driving me crazy, but I'm sure they put up with the sound of our son crying and don't complain.", "summary": "neighbors run washing machine at crazy hours and wake up our son"}
{"id": "t3_3wdz3t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By taking a photo outside of a school at home time.", "post": "Long story short, I recently graduated and am specialising to become a cell site engineer. I was out doing my first field measurement survey with my new boss, you know, stopping at different cell site locations taking their readings and of course taking a photo of the actual cell site.\n\nA few hours into the field survey we were approaching our last cell location, which happened to be on the roof of an office building next to a infant school. My boss, pulls up outside of the school so I am able to get a nice shot of the cell site on the roof, at this point I have a black box on the dashboard which is used to measure the cells and looks like a grade A bomb, a laptop on my lap and a telephone in my hand. \n\nI lean out of the window to get the shot when all of a sudden I realise I look like some shady guy attempting to take photos of the children who are walking out of the school into the loving arms of their parents, I see a proud father awaiting the arrival of his latest offspring who immediately notices me, a guy in his mid twenties with a homeless looking beard who has clearly tilted his phone in such a way it must only symbolise taking a photo of every child walking out of the school gates.\n\nAt this point I know I fucked up, I whisper to my boss that this may look a little bit dodgy and people are staring and discussing what the hell we are doing and thats when he soon realises, the proud father has now turned into a group of worried parents, to which he screams in the car \"TELL THEM WE'RE WORKING FROM THE NETWORK, THE NETWORK, TELL THEM\" the mothers meeting obviously hear him which makes the entire situation even more painful. In sheer panic and disbelieve whats actually happening I happy go along with what my boss is saying and the words \"I'm from the network, don't worry\" mumble out of my mouth at which point my boss speeds of with the speed of a thousand gazelles.", "summary": "I fucked up by taking a genuine photo of a cell tower outside of a school, but it looked like I was taking photos of the kids going home."}
{"id": "t3_4p0oy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23,F] want to call off my wedding to my Fiance [24,M] 3 months prior to the wedding, Advice!?", "post": "So kind of a long story, but I am in desperate need of some advice.\n\nI am supposed to be getting married in just over 3 months, but lately I have not been feeling the same about my fiance as I did when he proposed.\n\nI have been falling out of love with my SO for quite some time, but tried and prayed that it would get better the closer we got to the wedding. I am not attracted to him anymore, the thought of kissing him makes me sick, and I barely even listen to him when he goes off on boring work rants. He's also got some issues he needs to work on.. I don't know how many times i've been called a stupid bitch, to calling me a asshole, etc.\n\nAnyways, last night I broke the news to him that I do not think this wedding should take place. He cried for what felt like forever and tried to convince me that we just need some counselling. Honestly, I don't even want to try that as I just want to move on and do things for myself and not anyone else.\n\nMy biggest worry is his family finding out and hating me forever. They are religious and my SO is very much their little boy - they spoil the shit out of him. My family, on the other hand, has been supportive with my decision and said not to worry about the thousands of dollars deposits we've put down.\n\nI need advice on how to handle this, I feel like I am going to have a mental breakdown just thinking about it. Do I give counselling a shot? or do I cut the relationship off at the knees completely? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "My wedding is in 3 months and i'm in the process of calling the whole thing off - about to have mental breakdown please help!"}
{"id": "t3_2vk25s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my SO [21M] of almost 3 years, are constantly having arguments about the smallest things and I am confused and dont know what to do.", "post": "My SO and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. After the 1st year of the relationship, we've had an argument almost every month. It always seems to be because of small reoccurring things, so after we've gotten over it, I blame myself and tell him it's because of my period. \n\nI am a very affectionate person, and like to do the usual couple things, while he isn't. He's always believed that Valentines day is useless and, I, on the other hand, think we should be treating it as a special day. He's put less effort into the relationship and every time I ask him to put more effort, he gets mad at me for not realizing the other things that he should be doing anyways. I am constantly angry over the smallest things, and I don't want to let go of the relationship because of my fear of being alone. I need help.", "summary": "SO has stopped putting effort into our relationship and I am confused."}
{"id": "t3_3n704p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's [F/18] throwing mixed signals? :/ [M/18]", "post": "I'll just jump right into it.\n\nTuesday, I figured I'd go back to a diner I haven't been to in months. She happened to be my waitress that day, and I thought she was cute but didn't bother to go any further than small talk.\n\nWednesday, coincidentally she comes into Subway where I work and that's when it extended more than small talk when I was making her sub. Since we both had to get back to work, she said I should come back to the diner sometime. Hint taken right?\n\nThursday, I go back to the diner and they're dead which is perfect. She sits opposite of me and we chat for about an hour before lunch rush. During this time, she put her number and snapchat into my phone. Before I left, I asked her if she was busy that night, and she replied she was busy. So I left it at that and figured I'd try again some other time.\n\nMonday comes around and I figure I'd go back to the diner. Again, it was just like before and she even wrote me a special note on my takehome box and receipt. So I'm definitely thinking she's interested, but when I ask her if she's busy, she says yeah. I pressed further and she says she's at a rough time in her life. So yeah, that doesn't make any sense to me at all. She acts like she's interested and everything then does a 180.\n\nIs she interested?\nIs she actually busy?\nIs she just saying that to let me down easy?\n\nNeed advice, thanks Reddit.", "summary": "Girl acts interested, then says she's busy twice without a possible non-busy day for her."}
{"id": "t3_2pvvu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Acting as the Intermediary between two friends [16M]/[15F] who both like each other but don't know it - what to do?", "post": "So I have two very close friends who both like each other a lot but don't know it. The girl has liked him for over a year on-and-off and beats herself up a lot over it because she has anxiety issues and doesn't know how to pursue it. He has liked her on-and-off as well but it's less so than her.\n\nA few weeks ago they made plans to go and see The Hobbit (fucking terrible), but because of her anxiety she was afraid it would go horribly so she asked me to come. He did as well. She also brought along her best friend and another close friend. He's quite a friendly and outgoing guy so he didn't mind at all. We went to see it last night and they sat next to each other - she was supposed to sit next to me but we all made sure they were together. The three girls went home together and I walked home with my friend.\n\nI teased him a few times about \"what was sitting next to her like\" and he told me again that he likes her (a few weeks ago he said that his mind keeps floating back to her). He has not told anyone else this, as far as I'm aware. Myself and the girl are talking right now and she's telling me how she's been in a meh mood today because she's overthinking the situation and is worried he doesn't like her.\n\nIt was also especially awkward because this girl he had been seeing a few weeks ago was at the screening too and was sat behind us...\n\nI, essentially, hold the key to getting them together at the moment, but in telling either of them about the other's feelings I don't want to break their trust. I'm not entirely sure what to do because I don't want to tell her that he likes her only for him to change his mind in a few days.", "summary": "two close friends like each other but don't know it, I'm the only one who knows this and am not sure whether to say anything"}
{"id": "t3_2sojy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] find my mum to be incredibly irritating at the moment.", "post": "Just want to make it clear here that I love my mum more than anything in the world, especially since she has always supported me through every activity that I do, every pitfall and every gain, however recently I have found her to become excessively irritable.\n\nRecently I announced I am going to be going to Australia for 2 years and from that point (1 month ago) she's gone into over drive mode of pettiness, she constantly nags at the fact that I seem to be communicating less (no communication level has changed) I don't spend as much time with her (yes, true, but this is because I'm so busy getting everything ready for the move so of course I have less time and she knows this), she's also become very antagonistic in the way she approaches situations now, for example out of no where this evening, because I spent an extra second taking a breath during mid sentence I was therefore being (blunt) with her and she then proceeded to pick out specific words in every sentence I talked about there after which caused an argument, literally the point where I wanted to tell her to fuck off because of how pathetic she was being, I eventually had to resort to the silent treatment so she ended p just huffing and puffing and walking off to bed.\n\nHow can I get her to see that actually I love her just as much as I have always done, and me moving to Australia doesn't mean I love her any less, it just means she's given me the confidence to go and make something of myself, and how do I get her to CHILL THE FUCK OUT in the meantime.", "summary": "Mum's become a petty and naggy bitch due to the fact I'm moving to Australia in April, how to I get her to calm the hell down."}
{"id": "t3_29meq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] with my brother[16 M]: I found people in our backyard. My brother is begging me not to tell.", "post": "My brother and I live with my mother. In the past, my mom's car has been broken into.\n\nLast night, my brother went to hang out with friends. I know that these friends are probably older than my mom would like him to hang around (they are in college).\n\nA few hours after he left, I put our dogs in their crates. Their crates are next to the window, and looking out I saw two people in our backyard. I ran to the door, opened it, and started yelling. Whoever was there immediately scattered.\n\nI called my brother and he drove up about five minutes later and convinced me not to tell my mom anything so he could stay out later without both of us dealing with her upset. I locked all the doors, but I'm still torn. Should I tell her or not?\n\nFor what it's worth, it is not uncommon in my area for teens to loiter on private property.", "summary": "Do I save my brother's night out (which frankly he deserves) or should I tell my mom?"}
{"id": "t3_120b88", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your favorite Halloween candy?  And what's the worst thing to find in your treat bag? (Candy corn, I'm looking at you.)", "post": "Five years ago, I was getting ready for Halloween.  My husband and I never had trick-or-treaters (maybe 1 or 2 per year), and we certainly didn't need a whole bowl of candy for ourselves, so I decided to be smart.  I'd get pre-packaged animal crackers.  So, if kids came, they'd get something, and if they didn't come, my husband and I wouldn't be tempted to eat the whole bowl Halloween night while watching TV.  \n\nSo, Halloween night comes, and my husband happily asks, 'Whatta we have?' And I point to the bowl of animal cracker bags.  This is when I learned the loud, prolonged lesson:  HALLOWEEN MEANS CANDY.  IT MEANS CHOCOLATE.  TOP 3:  REESE'S PEANUT BUTTER CUPS, BITE-SIZED SNICKERS, OR MINI TWIXES.  ANIMAL CRACKERS = WORST CHOICE EVAR.\n\nI would have picked candy corn as 'worst choice evar,' but want to know...what are your best choices?  What is the worst evar?", "summary": "Husband taught me the True Meaning of Halloween one year when I bought tasteless animal crackers as treats."}
{"id": "t3_ysm0q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [20/f] found my journal (which I didn't keep password protected) and found a list I [19/m] was keeping of the times when she got angry or upset at me. Now she's really upset.", "post": "Title says it all. I had a note on evernote and if she would get upset at me, I would make a brief note of it. I didn't do it every time, and hadn't added anything to it very recently.\n\nShe knew I had stuff about her on evernote, because she has tried to open the app before and I told her it's my journal. But I was getting ready to go out with her for the night and she opened it up and read the entry about her getting upset.\n\nNow, she is super pissed at me.\n\nSome background, I am leaving the country for univeristy in a few days, and she is going to study abroad. We are breaking up once I leave. She was open to a LDR, but given some of the kinks in our relationship (the #1 of them her getting super upset at me over everything) I decided to move on.\n\nNow, I feel like what I did was probably pretty wrong, but I also feel like she invaded my privacy. I need help.", "summary": "GF saw a journal entry I was keeping about her, relating to whenever she got upset at me. Now she's pissed."}
{"id": "t3_1rz2d5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] Boyfriend [26M] of 1.5 years has become a little too comfortable with his bad hygiene habits.", "post": "So, my BF and I have been together for about 1.5 years and just moved in with each other a couple of months ago.  Before this, he was really great with hygiene, taking showers every other day, but cleaning himself in \"certain\" areas every day.  Once we moved in with each other, the showering has progressed from every other day, to 3 days, to 4, and now sometimes even 5.  I love him to death, and he doesn't smell bad--actually, in fact, he still has his appealing man musk-- but I feel that he still needs to concentrate on washing his hair of products (mousse), etc.  It bothers me.\n\nI believe a lot of this stems from the fact that his job has become so intense that he thinks just taking 10 min to shower is too much time to waste, when he needs to focus on doing work and reading up on stuff for his job. Also, he would rather spend the precious time he does have sleeping/ relaxing.  \n\nI tried to broach the subject about a month or so ago, saying \"Honey, are you going to take a shower tonight?\"  He replied with, \"Ah, not tonight... I have to work really early tomorrow... And I cleanup downstairs everyday so I don't need to take a full body shower.\"  Then I felt like a bitch for saying anything, and making him feel self-conscious about himself.  Now, this has gone into one of its longest stretches.  Am I being too judgmental and following too much of society's beliefs of what's proper and not proper for hygiene?  How do I approach him to change his habits back?", "summary": "BF and I moved in together.  Hygiene habits have changed for (what I believe) the worst."}
{"id": "t3_189y6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends wondering why I (20F) am not in love with my SO (20M) after 4 months?", "post": "Hanging out 5 months, dating 4 months. If I'm not in love now does it mean it's never going to happen? I have never been in love and don't know what it's supposed to feel like. Things are good between us but it's a different type of relationship to me. My past relationship would have that spark and then major incompatibility issues would ensue and it would end within a few months. With this, I wasn't really feeling it in the beginning and then it grew from there. I'm young and not looking for 'the one' but does that mean that I can't fall in love with him?\n\nAny advice would be appreciated, feeling a bit confused.", "summary": "friends asking me why Im not in love after 4 months, making me feel confused."}
{"id": "t3_13my2s", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help with an annoying situation (info inside)", "post": "On the bus i get to high school every morning i am almost forced to sit next to someone who can often be really irritating. It started almost a year ago when i sat by (lets call him bill) bill. Bill was on his own and there was a seat there so naturally i sat down. we started making light conversation and everything was fine, this happened on 3 occasions. I later learn that Bill moved to my high school recently and does not have alot of friends. He starts to become expectant of me sitting by him (which i dont mind, the annoying part starts later) every single day. This was annoying as i like to have my own personal time to reflect on random stuff on the bus but no biggy. Anywaaaay, he starts to develop a habit where he will accidentally spit a little while talking quite often, getting it on my face while still not noticeable for him. He also interrupts me often mid sentence and does not seem to know correct times to stop speaking. this is extremely infuriating and i have no idea what to do! He will only talk about school work and if i look away from him for a second he will say my name over and over again to get my attention, resulting in a very sore neck. I dont know what to do in this situation and i fear that if i stop sitting by him he wont have anyone to talk to. I also sound like a complete jerk. Thanks for your time and sorry for the block of text.", "summary": "person on school bus expects me to sit by him, accidentally sprays me with spittle , interrupts me etc."}
{"id": "t3_23hznc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25/m) my current FWB (29/f) - not sure if I'm doing the right thing.", "post": "Hi guys, a little advice would be much appreciated. I first hooked up with Kat back last November. We then went a couple of weeks without seeing each other but now will probably hook up once a week at least, only really when we've been drinking. We only really ever see each other when we have sex. \n\nThe thing that worries me is that while she is a lovely girl, I enjoy spending time with her, I don't want a relationship, and if I did, I couldn't see it being with her. That's not to say there's anything I don't like about her, she's just not someone who I could see being in a relationship with. \n\nI made this very clear the first night we slept together, and she seemed fine with it. But we seem to text every day, when she's round, she likes to snuggle etc. (After sex that is, never before) I don't mind all that but I'm conscious that in some way that sort of thing may seem coupley and give her the impression that we're something more than FWB.\n\nIdeally I'd like a girls perspective - is she getting in deeper than me? Or am I just reading this wrong? I'm enjoying it how it is and I don't want to talk about this with her if it's unnecessary and could be a little embarrassing (and a little mean if I'm to say \"by the way, I just wanted to make sure you knew that this wasn't going anywhere\"). But at the same time, I don't want to lead her on. I'd much rather end this all now if it means saving her from getting hurt.", "summary": "My FWB gets very snugly after sex and she texts me all the time, is this legitimate FWB-behaviour, or do I need to reiterate that I'm not interested in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3q6zw6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Some advice please ...!", "post": "Hey, I (23f) need some advice. I have a crush on a colleague (tried very hard not to as not too keen on dating someone I work with but alas, you can't help who you fall for). I've been single for 2 years following a 6 year relationship, I'm not desperate and I'm totally happy in myself. I think he likes me too but never really dated before so may be completely reading everything wrong! So, my friends and I were on a work night out, I was hoping he'd be there, he wasn't so I texted him basically saying I was disappointed he wasn't there. Got a fairly positive response which said if I'd known you were there I would have come, I'm going to this place with my friends. I replied rather drunkenly and rambling saying maybe see you but have a good night if not. I didn't get a reply and not sure if that's a bit of a rejection and I should leave it or if I should just send a friendly text to try and smooth it over?  Or maybe my response made him feel I wasn't that interested or simply didn't warrant a reply. Who knows? We're on half term so won't see him for a week now and really don't want to spend all week thinking should I/shouldn't I! Also don't want to make things awkward at work ... sigh.", "summary": "Crush didn't reply, should I contact him again?"}
{"id": "t3_1317d9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [25f] has absolutely no manners and", "post": "My girlfriend and I have a fairly decent, average, relationship with about one exception. Her manners are so bad that I'm embarrassed every time we eat with friends/family and I'm starting to get frustrated even when it's just her and I to the point where I have a hard time being \"normal\" around her eating. \n\nI'm not a picky person by any means and in general am very  tolerant of people who don't do things \"my way\" but after three years of listening to her chew with her mouth open, bite her fork/spoon when she takes a bite, play with her food, and shovel it into her mouth bit by bit I'm about at my wits end. I certainly don't expect royal manners or anything of that variety but I am slowly realizing that general manners are a must in my relationship. \n\nI know the old adage of \"just talk to her\" (we really do talk about almost everything, very open) but I have a particularly hard time, I think, because I feel like it's not my responsibility to coach her in proper social manners. It feels a bit father-like and I get the \"its not my job to teach her manners\" every time I consider talking about it. It's the details that get to me, is it best to try and train her in every nuance that makes up good manners (\"don't bite your fork, don't chew with your mouth open, don't pick at your food with your fingers\") or should I just generally say \"you need to work on your manners\" and hope that she gets it?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have a fairly healthy relationship but she lacks very basic manners and it's really starting to get to me. I have no idea how to successfully approach her and discuss it because I feel strange taking that role."}
{"id": "t3_3admv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [25F] have been broken up for a month from a 4 month long relationship. I want to get back together but it may be hopeless.", "post": "We started off great and spent literally at least five days together a week the entire time we dated. Then as we started getting more stressed we started irritating each other, to the point where we argued multiple times a day about stupid shit. \n\nEventually we broke up, her saying she felt no emotional connection anymore and that her feelings for me were platonic. About a week ago we went from no contact to light contact, and after time has passed we are both much less annoyed. \n\nIs this salvageable at all? I really miss her but I can't stop thinking of her saying her feelings for me were platonic. How do you get back together with exes anyway? I'm clueless.", "summary": "I miss my ex but don't know if it's possible to rekindle our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_27c6qh", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "A question to 'male dog' owners about neutering :(", "post": "Answered: The general gist of everything is that I'm letting human concepts of masculinity affect my judgement. I'm going to neuter him\n\nMy dog is about a year old, has an extremely awesome not aggressive at all personality. He doesnt pee in our house at all (anymore at least). He was a stray, when we first got him he tried to hump our other dog ONCE, he never did it again since we told him no (seriously this dog is insanely well behaved, we tell him not to do something and he just doesnt do it anymore). We were going to neuter him for the 'health reasons' but he's SOOO well behaved like I said and isnt aggressive.Im also worried this might change when he gets a little older, should I be worried about this at all? This is mainly stemming from obviously as a person not wanting to take away his manhood and and just feeling bad about it :(.", "summary": "When you neutered your dog how significant was he affected personality wise?"}
{"id": "t3_dqzat", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think of mini-retirements?  Career damaging or not?", "post": "I realize the traditional advice is to continue to build up a nest egg, retire, and then leisure through life into the death.  But if you have the means to take a few months (maybe even years?), is it that crazy to take some time off while you're young and healthy?\n\nI probably have the funds (outside of retirement) to last several years without any income and much more if I'm doing some small side projects.  This is without touching retirement.  And this is without cutting down my current lifestyle.\n\nWhat would you guys do in this situation?  Perhaps I'm just a spoiled 'millennial' but it seems like there should be much more to life than a 9-5ish job taking most of my energy away each week.\n\nOn the other hand, health insurance may be an issue? And what about getting blackballed out of the workforce (software industry, of course).", "summary": "I'm kind of a spoiled shit and could blow some of my savings to take an extended vacation.  Is this a terrible idea I will regret?"}
{"id": "t3_nqris", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most embarrassing thing a family member has said at a family get together?", "post": "Due to the holiday season I'm sure there plenty of embarrassing things said from the past few days. However, I don't want to limit it to just the holidays because family is always embarrassing.\n\nHere's my story. It was the first time I was bringing my girlfriend over to the house to meet my family. I'm not worried about my parents saying anything stupid, but my grandma is a different story. She has no reservations saying whatever pops into her head no matter how inappropriate. So here we are all sitting together eating lunch when the subject of traveling outside the country comes up. My parents asked my girlfriend if she had done any traveling outside the country. She says she had been to Mexico a few times. My parents say that's where they went for their honeymoon and comment on how I've never been to Mexico. As soon as they say that, my Grandma chimes in and defiantly says, \"Yes he has. When you two (parents) were on you're honey moon is when he was conceived. I remember you calling and telling me you had got (mom) pregnant. So essentially he has been to Mexico.\" The look on my parents was of embarrassment. My girlfriend, as well as me, had just learned how I was conceived.My grandma, however, looked as if she had only just added an unimportant bit of information to the conversation. Zero fucks given by her.", "summary": "Grandma tells new gf how I was conceived."}
{"id": "t3_3ffy4f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cock blocking myself.", "post": "Alright, this actually happened last night, but I was drunk/high and didn't even remember what happened until my buddy told me. So, we were at a college party last night, booze and weed flowing freely, when my buddy introduced me to this pretty hot girl. 8/10. Anyways, we get chatting, and because I am a gentleman, I say, \"your boyfriend is very lucky to have such a beautiful girl as you.\" Well, she puts her arm around mine and says, \"Well, I don't have a boyfriend.\" And I, being the genius I am say, \"Oh that's good, neither do I.\" And then I walk the fuck out of the party and go back to my room and sleep. Apparantly my buddy was standing next to me the whole time while it happened and told me in the morning.", "summary": "I cock blocked myself by telling a girl that I don't have a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1vc1gq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Getting in contact with my [20F] ex boyfriend [21] after a year", "post": "My boyfriend of two years and I broke up 9 months ago. As we were in the same social circle we remained \"friendly\" for a few months until I moved overseas for a year. He messaged me after 2 months of no contact asking how I was, etc.\n\nWhile our breakup was not \"nasty\", his actions after (picking up girls in front of me, telling friends details of our relationship, etc) hurt me deeply, though at the time I expressed none of it to him\u2026so when he got in contact again I told him just how humiliated I felt at the time, saying I wasn't sure if I could still be his friend after being disrespected and hurt.\n\nHe replied that he too was hurt by things I did in the aftermath of our break up. Justified, I'm not gonna lie, but as I see it not in the same vein as what he did.\n\nHe was angry for my hypocrisy, but said if I ever felt we could be friends again to \"let him know\" because \"even though I'm angry right now I'd like to believe I still do care\". I never responded.\n\nIt's been 9 months since then with no contact and I am soon moving to the same city as him, which I believe he is aware of.\n\nI miss him, I love him as much as I ever did and I want him back.\nHow should I approach this situation? I was considering a short message, just telling him I've been thinking of him, wanted to see how his life is, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for me? Should I bring up our argument, or pretend like it didn't happen? He was very angry in his last message. Is there any chance he'd still reconsider us together?", "summary": "No contact with ex for year after argument over who the guilty party was. Want to get in touch and hopefully start a fresh"}
{"id": "t3_3idgg2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying \"your face\" one too many times", "post": "The usual disclaimer, this happened a few years ago, blah blah. \n\nWhen I was a younger whippersnapper, I worked for a company with only two other individuals in the office.  We'll call Christof, my boss, and Angela, my coworker.  Both of my coworkers were great people, we all gelled really well in the office and had a great work environment.  Well, Angela is about 10 years older than me, and one day I'm chatting in her office with her, and I began using the retort \"your face\" to any statement which uttered from her mouth, which annoyed her greatly, which subsequently amused me.  \n\nWell, at one point in the conversation, Angela jokingly threatens, \"I will come over there!\" to which my snap response was, \"Don't make me come over your face!\".  \n\nQueue awkward silence and many red faces.  We had a sort-of laugh about it, and I left feeling like a dumbass, but since we were all so cool, I thought nothing of it...\n\nAn hour later, Christof rolls into my office, gently closes the door and says \"Forcepath, we need to talk... Angela is filing a sexual harrassment charge against you...\"\n\nOh shit!  I went into panic mode, and completely blanked out.  My boss is detailing the process of what HR is going to do, whether or not this is something I could be fired for...etc. \n\nHe counsels me to sit down with Angela and talk about the situation, at which point I'm just in complete freak out mode.  \n\nSo, my logical brain decides to roll back into Angela's office.  I walk over there, close the door, and she proceeds to listen to me freaking out about how I'm so sorry and I won't do it again, and please forgive me.  \n\nAngela isn't even looking at me at this point, so I'm thinking I've really blown it now...when suddenly, my boss throws open the office door and they both start pelting me with salt packets and laughing their asses off at me.", "summary": "don't say stupid shit at work, especially when your coworkers will mess with the panicked version of you."}
{"id": "t3_3h7y0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27M) parents (62F 54M) called our wedding (27F) plan a joke, don't want to speak to them or have them there unless they apologize", "post": "Edit: my mom actually said she won't come because of this before I decided I don't want her there unless she apologizes. I left open the door for my dad until I confirmed that he agreed with her. \n\nI'm getting married in a month to my girlfriend of 9+ years. Our good friend who we've known for 10 years, and is also our housemate, is marrying us. My younger sister is our witness. For reference, we both grew up Catholic, neither set of parents attends church/mass regularly, we went to religious school through college (liberal one), and my dad considers himself a Baptist.\n\nWe recently decided to let our families know we are getting married and invite them to the ceremony. We plan on having a small ceremony followed by a celebration, followed by a reception at a later date. Her parents are supportive though surprised, because this isn't how they would do it. My parents, though, are incredulous. They called our a plan a joke because they think it's disrespectful to our families and the way we're raised, it isn't holy or sacred, doesn't abide by Catholic doctrine, and a minister ordained online doesn't have the training a minister, traditional officiant or priest does.\n\nI've decided to let them come only if they apologize for calling it a joke. I understand they don't agree with our plan but calling our wedding a joke crosses a line in my mind and really hurts my feelings. I don't want to cut them out of my life forever but I feel some respect should be shown. They have said things like this almost my whole life, but my sisters and I shrug it off all the time. Am I being unreasonable and should I let this go, or does this warrant my response? How long should I not let myself let it go?", "summary": "parents called wedding plan a joke and mom said she won't come, not speaking to them or allowing them there unless they apologize"}
{"id": "t3_2tzu88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [19M] with a huge crush on a [17F] and don't know what to do.", "post": "I've never posted anything before so I'm not 100% on the formatting but Im really feeling lost...and have been for the past~7 months.\n\nI've known of this girl for quite some time (she would have been a freshman when I was a senior) but I never really noticed her until the past summer when I was home for college.  We worked together for the summer and got to be pretty good friends.  It was all going great but as we got farther into the summer I really started falling for her and I was terrified of missing my chance...so I did something incredibly stupid.  I finally worked up the courage to ask her out(I've never done that before so it took quite some time) and she said yes initially.  I was too ecstatic to really tell looking back with how much enthusiasm she agreed with, but I'm pretty sure she was at least somewhat into me.  The day after she talked to me about my going to college in the next month which I naively pushed aside like it was no big deal saying I'd be there every weekend (my college is like 2.5 hours away so I totally meant it).  She seemed ok with that explanation at first but as days went by she started avoiding me more and more. Finally before the day we'd decided we'd go out she told me she didn't think it would work out and that things got really awkward between us.  The rest of the summer went by pretty normal and we pretty much went the rest of the summer pretending it didn't happen.  After I left for college we talked a bit but Its died off for the most part by now.  I can't help but think about her every day that I'm here and I just feel utterly miserable.  I should definitely add that despite being less than 2 years apart she is a junior in high school and I am a sophomore in college which makes everything all the more awful.  What should I do?  Id be more than willing to skip a year of college to be with her this next year but how do I tell her that without sounding crazy?  I've tried meeting other girls while here I just can't seem to feel much of an attraction towards anyone but her.", "summary": "I'm a sophomore in college with a huge crush on a sophomore girl 2 years younger than me.  We got to be fairly close this summer but I screwed up by asking her out.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_gmbrc", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Dealing with sick kids and a newborn in the house", "post": "Hi Parenting, I guess I'm just looking for some support and maybe some stories to make me feel better because I'm hitting the wall.  I gave birth to our third baby almost 8 weeks ago and ever since then my two older kids have been sick with one thing or another.  It started off with a respiratory infection they picked up while I was in the hospital, then they were well again for a couple of days before coming down with sinus infections.  Daughter got better, son's became a double ear infection which he's still on antibiotics for.  Four days after starting the antibiotics Son wakes up at 2am puking his guts up (which we thought was from his ears draining into his stomach), then daughter's preschool teacher calls because she barfed on her nap cot.  Last night I was up all night with the virus from the depths of Hell, now hubby (who was taking care of baby last night, remember her?) is in bed feeling like he's going to hurl (and I'm sure he will, repeatedly).  So far baby has not caught any of this due to diligent hand washing and my quarantining her from the older kids (she's 2 months old and they haven't even been able to hold their sister yet :(  )   I'm really worried about her getting this virus because I was only able to breast feed her (well, I pumped because of b/f problems from the start) for the first month and a half when i got a killer sinus infection (that I caught from my kids) and my milk dried up.  I think the breast milk protected her from the colds, but now on formula I'm really worried about her.  Older DD got a horrible case of rota when she was 2 and ended up in the hospital on an IV for two days and I'm really scared for this little girl since she's so young.  Sorry for the wall 'o text, but I just needed to vent it all out :(", "summary": "scared my two month old is going to catch the stomach flu from the rest of us and get severely ill."}
{"id": "t3_49aam3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [F 22] thinks I'm selfish. I disagree [M 22].", "post": "Hi everyone. Long time lurker, first time poster.\n\nI have been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years.  We just had a conversation where she says I'm \"selfish and only care about myself\".  I never do anything for her.  Throughout the entire conversation , she never mentions things that she could be doing differently.  Usually I'm suspicious when one person blames the other without taking any responsibility.  Is this a reasonable way to think?\n\nWe don't leave the apartment much.  I recommend things to do such as going to the movies, going for a walk to the park, fishing together.  And I even ask her about things that she wants to do.  Again, I get blamed for this because I \" never do anything for her\".\n\nDo I sound crazy? Is this worth it?  I feel immasculated because I take the conversation personally, and I feel like if she was as unhappy as she is saying, she'd leave me .\n\nApparently, because I have been given a silver spoon, I don't know what it is like to take care of someone other than myself.", "summary": "Accused of being selfish and need to change."}
{"id": "t3_1ndjf8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (23/f) brother (20/m) is in an abusive relationship. Should I get involved?", "post": "I'm currently staying with my parents while I find a new apartment. My brother, who's room is right next to mine, started dating this girl (19/f) while I was away. I don't know much about her, but my parents like her and she comes over a lot. The walls are extremely thin so I hear too much. She's got a mouth of a sailor and constantly curses at him. She throws temper tantrums. Throws his things around the room. Slams around. Basically acts a fool. I ignored this for awhile, until she started breaking things.\n\nI briefly told my parents what she was doing and they didn't say much. None of my business, I suppose. However, the past two times she came over, I can hear her hitting him. Smacking, hitting. I'm 100% sure that's what she's doing. On one occasion, I heard him say how he's bleeding. She starts cursing him out even more. It's not the \"playing around\" type of smacking or whatever you would call it. She's mad, she yells, she hits.\n\nI know it isn't my place, but it went from verbal to physical. They've only been dating a few months. So I'm not sure how long this has been going on. Do I just keep my mouth shut?", "summary": "Brother's girlfriend hits him"}
{"id": "t3_17v3rp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing skinny jeans.", "post": "(This was a couple months ago but I just found this sub-reddit and wanted to share.)\n\nI came back home to visit my friends and family from being stationed in Europe for a year. The family threw a welcome back party for me and invited relatives and friends over for food and drinks. Living in Europe had inspired me to be more \"fashion forward\" and more aware of new stylish clothing. I bought my very first pair of grey skinny jeans just for the trip home to show off my new sense of style. \n\nThe party was fun and and everyone was impressed with my new look. Shots of tequila and mixed drinks were beginning to take a toll on me as my family were making sure I had a good time. I was stumbling and slurring my words around my family and went to the bathroom to take a piss.\n\nI was very drunk and still not used to skinny jeans. I really had to pee and I couldn't get my member out and through the short zipper of the pants. I lost my bladder and pissed my pants. My wife came in to find me with a distressed look on my face. \"What the fuck do I do?!\" Then my entire family came in to see what was wrong. \n\nIn the end, my younger brother lent me some basketball shorts and I blacked out in my little sister's bed as my wife tried to change my clothes. In the morning, I left the house hungover with my skinny pee pants in a bag before anyone woke up. Now I wear skinny jeans with caution.", "summary": "I got drunk and pissed my pants in front of my family because I wore skinny jeans for the first time."}
{"id": "t3_2g33jk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] I'm inexperienced - Is it normal/expected to discuss past sexual history? Is it a red flag if you choose to not do so?", "post": "I'm inexperienced in dating, but I do have a bit of a sexual history. I'm kind of nervous about the possibility of being with a new guy, because I don't want to have to discuss my past sexual history with him. I guess I am worried about my desire to not talk about it becoming a wedge. I believe secrets are not good in relationships, yet I feel I would always be keeping secrets in future relationships because of this and the thought of it burdens me. (Note: My intention of keeping it private is in large part out of respect for the other parties involved.) Is this sort of reticence normal, or would you interpret the desire to keep past sexual activities secret a negative thing? Please let me know!", "summary": "Keeping past sexual history a secret from future partners - acceptable/not acceptable? good idea/bad idea? or whatever other comments have you."}
{"id": "t3_2qttyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[mid 30's] wife[mid 30's] left me to watch the kids while sick. Not sure if I'm overreacting.", "post": "My wife and I got into an argument this morning and now she isn't talking to me. She took two weeks of vacation from work due to the holidays but I did not because I started a new job and did not have enough built up. There was no discussion about her taking the time off either because I was under the expectation that she was saving it for our family vacation this summer. \n\nAnyway, I ended up getting the Flu and an Upper Respitory Infection. I stayed home from work today because I wasn't able to sleep last night and I have a temperature of 102 degrees. Originally, she had a hair appointment today and my MiL was going to watch the kids. However, that's changed now. My wife said there was no need for her to come over since I was home sick and I could watch them. This was after I was able to fall asleep at 7am and was woken up at 10:30 by her. I looked incredulously at my wife and told her that I was so far behind from work, do you really think I'm going to shrug the work off and stay home for the hell of it. I told her I was home sick because I was sick. She took it as I'd rather go to work then spend time with my family and now she won't talk to me, called me selfish and is slamming things around like a three year old, such as throwing the tab of paper containing the grocery list on the kitchen table and slamming dishes into the sink from lunch.", "summary": "I'm sick, stayed home from work. Wife things it's ok for me to babysit and calls me selfish because I'm too sick to do so."}
{"id": "t3_2fzfow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[NSFW] Tifu and my SO caught me durring my \"private sexy time\" and she lost her shit.", "post": "To start off with we are both 28, we've been together for 3 years and have a child together. Her and I[M] are pretty open sexually and we understand these things happen.. or so I thought. We have both been sick for about a week just headcolds and not able to breath. I was feeling a bit ... worked up... and tested the waters and got what I percieved as the cold shoulder. 20 minutes later after I thought she was asleep (not being sneeky, just common courtesy not to make it obvious I guess) I snuck off into the bathroom to have some \"ME\" time. 10 minutes go by and I am in the middle of \"culmination\" and she comes beating the door down. And tells me to stop and she can help and all that.  I didn't tell her what \"stage\" I was in I just cleaned up my mess and opened the door. She was pretty upset. She got in the shower and we were talking about it and I apologized and explained that I must have missread the situation and I would have wrather had her any day of the week, I just didn't think that was on the table.  Then she said she was trying to get me to stop so she can help or something and I in my complete lack of tact said what was happening when she beat on the door in the bluntest way imaginable just because I wasn't thinking. \n\n  Now she is pissed and I don't know where to go from here. I feel like a dick. I feel like I made her feel unwanted and I don't know how to fix it. Any AdViCe? Oh awsome advice givers of /r/relationships ?", "summary": "SO caught me during my \"personal sexy time\" I was a dick, how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_23wo6t", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What is the best way to respond to an ex talking crap about you on a social media website to defame you?", "post": "My ex who is extremely popular, tweeted about \"how much of a piece of shit i am\". well I want to respond accordingly, probably not directly to her since i blocked her on everything after we broke up because she's crazy (but that's a long story), how can i post something that wittingly demeans her and makes her seem immature without coming off as talking poopoo and being an asshole. I want everyone to know she is being immature and that my feelings really are hurt.\n\nA little background info: i'm 20 and she is 20, I took her virginity, She had no reason not to trust me. She was always too busy with work and school and we would see each other max 3 times a week. she never would trust me but i did everything for this girl. I stopped smoking weed, got a better job, stopped hanging out with friends who are bad influences, basically did everything but bend over backwards for her and she still had trust issues which was just exhausting for me. when she found out i wasn't a christian she dumped me. well i picked up smoking weed again but not cigarettes. and she thinks i was doing it behind her back as well as other stuff all along and made a tweet to defame me. Give me your best ways to retaliate without coming off mean but to also put her down and make her seem like a shitty person but gracefully.", "summary": "Ex tweeted a defamating tweet about me and I would like to respond accordingly and wittily to retaliate, but by doing it gracefully but still where someone who reads it says BURNN! in a Kelso voice."}
{"id": "t3_2fxncg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible to overcome my girlfriend's \"extensive\" sex past? 26m with 26f", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for about 9 to 10 months. I'll start with the good, I do love her, she makes me feel a way I've never felt before, she's extremely intelligent, extremely gorgeous, funny, and she pushes me to improve on myself. All of these things are not exaggerations, I mean she is pushing me to go back to get a third degree. Plus she's extremely honest, while it hurt me, I really respect it and makes me feel optimistic. I have nothing but good things to say about her present. It's her past that kills me.\nI knew she had a past with drugs, and it bothered me but I started making peace with it. So today I made the mistake of asking her how many people she's been with, she refused to answer politely until I basically forced her to tell me. She once told me she only had sex with boyfriends, but she admitted that was as she got older. When she was really young, apparently her drug use made her have about 35-50 partners. She told me I'm the only one who matters, she can't even remember because of her state at the time, etc.\nIt's just crazy to me because I can't imagine this out of her. She's so highly educated and very intelligent.\nPrior to this discovery, I already had problems with feeling insecure and good enough. Now I flat out feel horrible, and 8 want to cry and distance myself. Part of me wanted to leave when I found out, but she's literally the best thing that happened to me in terms of a partner. I accepted that I need to get therapy, because I was already considering it before I knew a number.\nIs this even possible to overcome? Even if I make peace with it, it's still going to be in the back of my mind, especially when we have sex now. Please help, I really think I might lose it. It didn't change my love for her, but it changed my mental stability. I already had problems before.", "summary": "my girlfriend of nearly a year revealed to me (after I asked her) her sexual past. She's had sex with ex boyfriends of course, which bothered me a ton prior, however the painful part is that she revealed that during a period of heavy drug use, most of which she can't remember,  her total of partners is between 35 and 50. I don't know how to get over this, she's literally perfect in every other way in the present, I love her and don't want to leave. But my mental instability might break us up. I'm going to seek therapy soon. How do I fix this? Is it even possible to overcome?"}
{"id": "t3_4imec2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [25/F] boyfriend [27/M] of almost two years insecure/clingy or something else?", "post": "My boyfriend and I always talk on the phone before we go to bed, but sometimes either I won't hear my phone or the phone will just send my calls to voice mail. Last night I didn't hear the phone go off, and I found that within 5 minutes my boyfriend had called me twice and texted me twice. He has done this once before many months ago but he stopped when I asked him to. When I asked why he called so much he says it's because he loves me and he worries about me living on my own. But when I ask him to elaborate on what exactly scares him about me being on my own he says he doesn't know. The only answer he gave is \"but I love you,\"\n\nI know he's a very sensitive guy and he's been dealing with some anxiety off and on throughout the relationship but I don't think he's really addressing it. Now that I'm looking back on my relationship, I'm wondering if there were red flags that maybe he's just super clingy or something. Or rather I will tell myself something is a red flag when it's probably not (saying I love you after only 3 months, discussing moving in together/marriage at around a year, that sort of thing). It's possible that I'm just freaking out about nothing.\n\nI've been having my own issues with (unofficially undiagnosed) with ROCD or relationship obsessive compulsive disorder, where I feel the need to obsess over my relationships. Is calling like that in such a short period of time a red flag, or maybe I've reached a stage of ROCD where I start to feel stifled by the relationship. \n\nI know I love my boyfriend very much, and I'm sorry that this post kind of took off in a different direction, but should I be feeling concerned? Is it possible he could end up being controlling or something? Thank you!!", "summary": "Would my boyfriend be considered insecure or clingy because he called multiple times in just a few minutes (anxiety also makes me overanalyze things)?"}
{"id": "t3_50oe1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mistaking a child for a dwarf", "post": "So this happened two nights ago.  I was walking with a friend of mine over to our friend's house (we'll call her Cam, just for sake of the situation).  I was going to her house to buy some pot, and it was about 9pm.  Cam happens to be a dwarf, so she's smaller in stature.\n\nSo the friend I was with only lives a few blocks away from Cam, so I said \"hey, let's just walk!\"  So we set out, and things were fine until we got to Cam's street.\n\nAs we get there, I see a small figure, about the size of my friend Cam, walking a dog that looks EXACTLY like my friend Cam's.  I say to my other friend \"Hey, I think that's Cam!\" We walk about 40 yards behind her or so for a few minutes, all the while going the exact same direction.  As we get closer to her house, I decide to beckon to her.  This is where things start to go downhill.\n\nI shout, at the top of my lungs, \"HEY CAM!\" and speed up a little bit to reach her.  The figure turns, looks at me, and then starts awkwardly backing up.  Then walking the other way faster.  Then running the other way.  \n\nSo I look at my friend and say \"I thought that was Cam\" to which she tells me \"yeah, but it could have also been a kid.\"  And my heart kind of sinks.  It would appear that at night, in the dark, on a secluded side street, I shouted and started to move quickly towards a small child.\n\nWe get to Cam's house and confirm that it was, in fact, not her.  I'm now terrified that when I go back to that neighborhood there will be signs up saying \"Beware!  Predator in the neighborhood shouting random names at children and trying to catch them.\"", "summary": "Mistook a child for a dwarf, LARPED as a child predator"}
{"id": "t3_48zpe5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (21F) struggling with depression and don't know how to tell my friends", "post": "Due to completely unforeseen health complications that arose last year, I've had to take a leave of absence from my current studies. I was and all my friends are in their final year at university, and there are fewer and fewer opportunities to see them as is.\n\nThe leave of absence has been tough on its own, and recently there was a death in the family. My boyfriend (21M) has been very supportive and knows about my mental health problems (he pushed me to speak to my doctor about it) but my friends don't know that I'm struggling with depression.\n\nI know that my perception is skewed directly because of my depression too, but increasingly I'm finding it difficult just to ask my friends to hang out. Already I feel like I'm taking time away from them if they do decide to meet up with me, so the thought of telling them about my depression feels like unloading a huge burden on them. I don't want them to feel responsible for 'fixing me' or to tip-toe around me for fear of saying something insensitive/triggering, but I also want them to know what's going on in my life. How do I approach this?", "summary": "How can I tell my friends that I have depression without making them feel like they owe me special consideration?"}
{"id": "t3_50w829", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't understand why my (f27) boyfriend (m29) of 6 years has been fired from his last 6 jobs. How can I talk to him about this?", "post": "Looking for help because literally all of my friends are mutual friends with my boyfriend. \n\nAs a bit of background, my boyfriend is a great guy, he's kind and funny and considerate and we share all the same morals, future plans and views on the world. Everything is good. But in the 6 years we've been together he has been fired from 6 jobs and I do not understand why. Every time he is fired he tells me they got rid for no reason and he doesn't understand it or they just didn't like him or something to that effect. He has been in his current job for 6 months now and constantly tells me how much his managers hate him for 'no reason'. \n\nThe strange thing is, he seems to have a good work ethic, he is not lazy around the house, never takes sick days and is really popular. He has a lot more friends than me and I don't really know of anyone who dislikes him.\n\nThis has come to a head because I am currently off sick from my job as I'm recovering from an operation. I am worrying about the financial hit we are taking from my temporary loss of income and I have a feeling my boyfriend is going to get fired again. He has stopped talking about work which has always been a clear sign in the past that he is about to get fired.\n\nI feel like I can't rely on him for support and worse of all I can't talk to him about this issue because there is never the right time. If he is in a job he tells me he's in a job so there's no need to worry about the past and if he's been fired he tells me he can't believe I'm trying to blame him for something that wasn't his fault and upsetting him further.\n\nHow can I have this conversation sensitively but still get across that I am really worried about this? Any advice is really appreciated.", "summary": "my boyfriend is seemingly incapable of keeping a job and I'm worried that I cannot rely on him for support. I don't know how to talk to him about it."}
{"id": "t3_4egyu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] roommate [20F] doesn't bathe or brush her teeth and it makes our dorm smell really bad.", "post": "Wall of text for context:\n\nAs the title states, my roommate lacks hygiene that you would think that anyone who has made it to 20 and is in college would know. We live in a very small dorm room, about 20ft by 30ft in total, and her lack of bathing makes our whole room smell like BO all the time. \n\nIt wasn't really an issue in the winter as cold tends to cover up smell, but now that it's getting warm out and she still isn't showering and has even started working out and not washing after, the room reeks, and I have NO IDEA how to bring it up to her without it turning into a fight. \n\nShe tends to deny everything, once her mom was helping her bring stuff to the dorm and said her desk was a mess with food wrappers (it was! She is a wrapper and box hoarder but that's an entirely different story) and she said \"no it's not\" when the desk was right in front of her and COVERED in wrappers from snacks and chocolate. You couldn't even see her printer. \n\nI'm no psychologist, but I think her not taking showers and denying messes has a lot to do with anxiety and I am trying to be mindful of that when I bring it up. \n\nThere was another time that my sister visited for a weekend (I asked my roommate for permission to use her bed and put my own sheets on it for one night) and when she got home thought she had lice. I told my roommate right away and advised her to strip her bed and wash everything and since she is generally a slob, I put a little piece of clear tape on her sheets to see if she had done it and she waited a WEEK but said she had done it while I was in class that same day. \n\nI'm afraid that if I bring up that she needs to shower more she will just say that she does already and it will turn into her yelling at me for being mean when I really just want a room that doesn't smell like BO.", "summary": "College roommate doesn't bathe so our tiny dorm smells bad and she has serious denial issues. How do I approach her about taking showers regularly?"}
{"id": "t3_238vz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with girl I dated[23F] broke down today after seing a picture of her on facebook.", "post": "It hurts it hurts bad.  Just when I thought I was over her and finally felt like I was getting better,  I see on my Facebook feed a picture of her and her brother. \n\nAll the feelings I had just came back rushing in I cried today even at how much I missed her.  I know i can totally call her,r txt, or snapchat her but I know i cant as right now she wants her space.  I know that NC,  mean nothing at all but Damn it's not easy.  \n\nShe initiated NC,  but broke it a week later,  and I crumbled to it. Now its been a week since I heard from her.  I know that I dated her for only three months but the feelings I had for I hadn't had in years with someone. I know i must move on and date other people and be happy.  However,  I don't want to hurt someone like she did me,  where I'm thinking about her while I'm dating someone.  Give me the strength to move on,  I know I'm a great guy. \n\n I break the stigma everyday by being a single dad with primary custody,  work two jobs,  still find the time to date. I'm the kind of guy who still open doors, pays for the first few dates, and loves to surprise the girl I am with, but for now all I want is her back, to feel her love again. this is so hard help me people.", "summary": "Thought I was finally moving on over girl I dated, turns out I was wrong, see one picture of her, and I broke down in tears today at how much I miss her."}
{"id": "t3_108qz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need your advice Reddit!!! Help me!", "post": "I (23) and boyfriend (26) have been together for almost two years. We were LD for a while and moved to his city to be with him. We are now living together.\n\nI know my boyfriend has been on the \"CANIHAZCHAT\". Which I am fine with because he told me all he does it look at them on the screen. Which is like live porn. I have no problem with porn and pictures....\n\nHowever, I saw that he has made comments to girls on the cam. Which is NOT okay with me. I don't get why he lied to me about this. It scares me that he has been doing more then just making comments to them. I am not comfortable with this at all. I am going to talk to him about this. \n\nI just need help knowing if I am crazy for even having a problem with it. It is when I wasn't living here. However, the fact that he told me he doesn't make comments and he does.. bothers me. \n\nI love this guy. I don't want to assume he has done more but this is just to much for me. This is not the first time I caught him being flirty and dirty with another girl. He told me before it was a joke between the two if them. I took what he said and just forgot about it. NOW this is popping up and making me think while we were apart he wasn't 100% honest and faithful to me.", "summary": "I need your help. What do you think is going on Reddit. I need an outside party to help me? Is other things going on I don't know about? How do I approach him?"}
{"id": "t3_v6iqr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend has been offered a job in NYC and I don't want her to go.", "post": "Hey Reddit, so I was just recently living in NYC with my girlfriend and I absolutely fucking despised everything about it. Everyone I met was a douche, I couldn't find a job, had no friends, and we had the worst luck. We lived in three places over a 6 month period. Our first roommates were stealing from us so we booked it. Our second roommates were weird rich kids who didn't seem too fond of us. Third roommates were lazy bros who acted like spoiled brats. In fact, we had to leave within an hours notice at our last place because the guy we were subletting from came back earlier than he had told us. So we packed our stuff and moved back to my hometown and I figured we'd sit tight here and settle in for a bit. As soon as I thought everything was all set, my girlfriend was offered a job that would probably pay very well, problem is.... it's back in NYC... FUFUFUUFUFUFUFU. I don't want to go back! But I also kind of want her to go because she really wants to get a good job already (farts to that). But she also hated New York and whats the point of having money if you have no friends and hate every day of your life!?!?!", "summary": "my gf got offered a job in nyc, I don't want to go but really like her and want to be with her but also don't want to hinder her decision because its an opportunity (to be miserable, amirite)."}
{"id": "t3_4kiodm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do with our LTR if one person moves out of the country? (22F/22M)", "post": "We've been together for three years. My SO (22M) and I (22F) have been living together for the past two years. My lifelong dream has been to move to Japan and now I have the opportunity to do so -- I can go to grad school there. My SO on the other hand is completely disinterested in anything related to Japan, so there's absolutely no chance that he'd come with me. Neither of us have been in long distance relationships before and honestly I think it'd break our relationship, since our relationship has a strong physical component. \n\nI'm torn between my dream and my relationship. What should I do? If you've been in the same situation before, what did you do?", "summary": "It's my dream to go to Japan and now I can. However my SO of 3 years can't come with me. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4hscq6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Crazy upcoming month", "post": "I've been training for my first half marathon since January. I'll be running the mainly series at Clinton Iowa first week of June. Really looking forward to it. So far my longest run has been 11 miles at a pace I'd be happy to run the half at. I plan to run a full 13 this weekend.  \n\nWhile I look forward to my half marathon, what has me more nervous is pacing my friend toward the end of his upcoming 100k ultra. I'll be running with him from mile 43 to 54. His pace is regularly much faster than mine but this will be his first 100k and has asked me to pace him for that section. His wife will take over for the last 9 miles. \n\nI've run this distance before and I'm not too worried about pace, he will have just ran 43 miles and will likely be running at a comfortable pace for me by that point. My biggest fear right now is the terrain. From what I hear, gravel with super gnarly hills.  I find myself now training more for this pacing challenge than for my half marathon.  \n\nI'm excited, but nervous. Don't want to end up hindering his first 100k.  Should be a super interesting month ahead.  Any good tips?", "summary": "2 weeks before my first half marathon, I'll be pacing my friend for 11 miles of his first 100k.  Slightly nervous."}
{"id": "t3_2v78ih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my ex[18 F] 2 1/2 years, hooking up with another girl living across to her dorm", "post": "My gf broke up with me yesterday due to her unhappiness and feeling like we were just incompatible. She also let me know that she felt like she was missing out on the \"college life\" because she couldn't hook up with other guys. \n\nAfter we broke up, I contacted all my friends to reassure me this was going to be okay. One of my friend is a girl who lives across my ex's dorm room, and she agreed to hang out and drink together on this week. She and I got along and hung out few times until my (ex)gf told me it was uncomfortable with her. Thus, I disconnected my relationship with my friend for 2 months. \n\nI have a strong feeling that I'll end up hooking up with my friend as a way to cope with the break up and possibly asking her to be my FWB. \n\nI understand my emotions right now isn't stable, but this sudden break up has me on all kinds of feelings.", "summary": "Is it fucked up if I hook up with a girl living across my ex's dorm room?"}
{"id": "t3_379sb1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Jobs jobs jobs! What to do?", "post": "I'm sorry, this going to be long. Ok so I'm absolutely fed up with having crappy jobs that don't pay anything to live on. I deliver pizzas for a living and I must say that I generally do like it. I get to leave the store for 40 minutes at a time with no one there to tell me what to do. I get tipped quite well. Enough to make around 10 and hour just in tips excluding hourly pay, which is minimums wage. This is still not paying enough money and my father constantly insists that I get a factory job or something old school of the sort because his whole life, 68 years to be exact, he's been doing manual labor jobs so it's all he knows. My thing is that I'll be getting paid at a factory maybe 10 an hour. That right there is already less than I make now delivering pizzas if I don't have a bad night which honestly doesn't happen all the time. So I look at it like I'll get paid 10 an hour to have a manager generally there telling me what to do most of the time and have to do much more labor intensive work than just delivering pizzas for equal or not much better pay. Also, I'm a musician so at the pizza place I can literally get off work any day that I need to play a show or for anything. If I have a job at a factory I may get 3 days off a year and will be fired soon for calling in more than a few times. I can't see the benifits of getting a factory job but that is why I'm asking reddit.  \n\nWhat do you all think? I need some advise. I feel like I'll never find a job that pays well enough to live comfortably on without some special skill.", "summary": "if you read it, thank you, if not, no worries."}
{"id": "t3_54i5y4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [45F] mother is texting my [24M] ex-boyfriend acting as me [18F] and trying to get us back together while I am already in a happy relationship [19M].", "post": "My mom is always super controlling but this crosses the line. I opened up her phone and saw messages to my ex, with her acting like she is me. She would ask him to send gifts and stuff, and when they get to our house she acts like he sent them randomly. \n\nI confronted her about this and she just keeps saying this is for the best. She hates my current boyfriend because he smokes cigarettes. She also forces me every night to skype call my ex (He lives a while away) and won't let me hang up the call without telling him I loved him.\n\nSome of the messages she has sent him while acting as me were sexual, talking about how sexy I am and how my figure if perfect. \n\nShe forced me to delete my facebook because I refused to put that I wasn't in a relationship with my current boyfriend on it. I believe she wanted me to keep quiet about being taken so she can continue this.", "summary": "My mother does not like my current boyfriend, so she messages my ex boyfriend acting as me trying to get us back together."}
{"id": "t3_4kpnrw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my roommate [26F] who is planning on secretly moving out.", "post": "I live with a roommate in a massive apartment complex in NYC. Her name is on the lease but mine is not but we are splitting the rent equally. I am basically subleasing from her but we have no written contracts or anything.\n\nRecently we started fighting and every time we argue she says she would break lease and move out. I believe she is trying to threaten me with that but I knew she is bullshitting because it's so hard to move out that fast in NYC.\n\nWe were fighting two days ago and she said she is going to break the lease. I am not sure if she did because she is ignoring me now. So my question is I don't want to pay her money (I venmo her my rent) without knowing what is going on. What should I do?", "summary": "Roommate is always threatening to break the lease and I am not sure if I should pay her rent money."}
{"id": "t3_31bv5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] feel like my boyfriend [19M] of 2 years can kind of be a loser sometimes?", "post": "Long story short, we had been dating for about a year and a half before we started having problems. We took a break and now we are back together. \n\nI thought he had started to get his life together more because now his grades have improved drastically, he has a job and he just seems more happy and put together; however, he still smokes copious amounts of weed (~5 days a week) and plays FIFA every night. The problem isn't that he smokes or plays video games, the problem is that when he does either (which as I said is quite often), our relationship gets put on the back burner and it'll be hours before he remembers to text me back and when he does he seems disinterested. \n\nI don't want to be with a loser who prioritizes stupid things like drugs and video games above the important things in life, but I also don't want to control him or boss him around. What do you recommend I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend smokes a lot of weed and plays a lot of video games and they have negative impacts on our relationship. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1o7lcn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I [M,21] doing something wrong, or is there something they're not telling me?", "post": "It's been over a year since I broke up with the only serious girlfriend I've had in my life and in that time I've come close to dating just 2 girls. Both times I got to know them and became friends with them over a month or two around uni and on Facebook and both times we've ended up making out whilst out drinking. The follow up to both of these instances has involved me casually asking if they'd like to have dinner and subsequently being politely told either \"I don't think this is working\" or \"I'm not ready for a relationship right now\", with no further explanation or direct indication that I did anything wrong. Both times I felt there was strong mutual attraction, one of them was initiating most of the contact and made most of the moves on me, yet both times I've wound up where I started.\n\nI have some ideas on what I might be doing wrong but I can't believe this is entirely my fault without hearing some of your opinions or experiences first. Either way, I don't want to make the same mistakes a third time, so please, share your wisdom with a confused and lonely boy.", "summary": "Recent attempts to date girls have backfired despite a strong sense of mutual attraction. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_tqbvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I realized I'm dating a child.", "post": "Me - 20/f him - 28/m Dating for 1.5 years\n\nFirst off, I need to say that he is not immature; he lives on his own, makes a good paying job, pays his bills on time, and is a sweetheart most of the time. He treats me well, and knows my body. \n\nHowever, what gets to me is his child-like mind. It's been bugging me for the past week and a half, so this isn't an on-going thing. He's a big nerd, and I can deal with that. But the decor of his apartment is that of a 9 year old; pokemon posters, video games on the shelves, toys (he has a chest of action figures from when he was 12), Thundercats bedsheets, and besides his work wardrobe, wears mostly only pop culture t-shirts. He owns maybe one nice shirt, and I ask him to wear that if he takes me out.\n\nIt's starting to feel unsexy. For the first year and a half, I thought it was cool that he doesn't care what people think. But I think I'm getting to the point where I would like to settle down with the guy, and think about the future. As shallow as it sounds, I want a man, not a man-boy. I want him to get a haircut and look somewhat nice so he can be more presentable. \n\nI feel I'm just ranting and I'll get over it. But what if these thoughts don't go away? I don't want to resent the guy.", "summary": "guy is 28, lives like a child. Starting to feel unattracted to him."}
{"id": "t3_2lzo2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF suggested a threesome this weekend with his ex girlfriend", "post": "Bf (27) asked me GF (24) for a threesome with this ex-girlfriend. We've been together for a about a year and half and he wants to spice things up. I am very skeptical about this, my emotions and thoughts are all over the place. We have been in shaky ground as of late and I don't feel that this would help the situation. \n\nI have always contemplated having a threesome but not in this type of situation. What are the ground rules for this? I know for certain that I would not want any penetration place between by bf and the third party. I need advice in how to handle this situation", "summary": "His known this girl for about 10 years, and he kept pushing the idea all night. I am not even comfortable with her, I can't relax with when were all together."}
{"id": "t3_gsw8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When do you listen to your parents, and when do you write them off?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nJust been in a moral dilemma lately.  I've been in a rough patch in my relationship with my parents (Baby Boomer-age) and I don't know whether I'm making a huge mistake or whether I should write them off and carry on.\n\nReddit, I get excellent grades at a top university, I treat my friends and everyone I know well, I don't do drugs, and I am >21 so I drink occasionally and always in moderation.  I came out to my parents, whom I love very dearly, about a year ago (under duress--they were monitoring the phone numbers I contacted), and since then they have started hating my school (for lack of guidance to keep me on a moral path) and they have stopped trusting me.  \n\nI still want them to be proud of me and approve of me, but every time I share my achievements with them, I feel this mistrust and disapproval, as if it doesn't matter what I do now--unless I demonstrate an abandonment of homosexuality by getting married and producing grandchildren, I will never be redeemed in their eyes.  This feeling is really pushing me into depression.  If I curb my life to their demands, I am not doing what I want to do; but if I ignore their pleading and advice and continue to do what I want, I feel like a disrespectful child who has traveled off to college to flaunt his parents' values and live a life of debauchery on his parents' dime.  \n\nReddit, what are your thoughts and experiences on this?  Should I write my parents off as Limbaugh-listening dinosaurs stuck in a rut and behind the times, guilt-tripping me to make me conform to the one lifestyle they view as \"right\"?  Or do they have wisdom that I am blithely ignoring in an act of folly that will bite me in the ass later, leaving me unhappy and unable to recover from my years of mistakes?", "summary": "My conservative parents are trying to get me to maintain a certain lifestyle, and I feel guilty for disobeying their wishes.  Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_543a12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(17m) and GF(18f) broke up on good terms about a month ago, should I send her a text or leave it alone? Petty problem", "post": "So me(17m) spend the end of the school year and the whole summer with Jen(18f).  We had an awesome time, went on road trips, camping, hiking everything.  It was awesome. She was what I considered my first love but about a month ago she had to go away to college. She goes to a school about 4 hours away so we agreed to break up and everything went pretty smoothly. We have sent a total of about 4 texts in the past month of her leaving.  I think about her everyday and miss her greatly and ive moved on but I would still like to hear from her and find out what shes doing. \n\n I unfollowed her on social media and went no contact a week after she left because I couldnt take seeing her having such a good time without me.   I dont want to come off as clingy and if she was wondering how I was doing Im sure she would of just texted or called me.  Should I give it more time? Im not trying to start anything up again I just want an update but I dont want to open a can of worms regarding my feelings to her.", "summary": "Want to revive communication with ex GF but dont want to bother her at college or change my feelings towards her."}
{"id": "t3_27lirh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ripping my foreskin off...", "post": "I can't believe I fucking did this...\nIt was on June 5th, this week. I decided to do my daily \"Business.\" I begin, everything's going fine. I notice that it's taking longer than usual to finish, so I acquire a tighter grip...\n\nWell... After a few minutes, I feel a warm liquid oozing out. I haven't finished yet, so I look down and-HOLY FUCK THERES BLOOD EVERYWHERE JESUS CHRIST. \nScared shitless, i got some tissues and tried cleaning it up. After about 10 minutes, still bleeding. So I had to drive to the hospital, with a bleeding dick, and somehow with a semi, all while under a lot of pain. \n\n18 stitches, 2 operations later, foreskin is properly off and I'm no longer bleeding.", "summary": "Don't tenderize your meat too hard."}
{"id": "t3_w3l3s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boyfriend sees/interacts with full-body apparition/imaginary friend. I'm skeptical.", "post": "I am VERY new here. So mods and RedditVets, please help me out if I'm doing something wrong. And beware of the oncoming disorganized wall-o-text.\n\nI call my boyfriend \"Chief.\" So we've been dating for around 2 years. Every once in a while, when the conversation would arise, he would mention this Knight that talked to him. As a child, and even now recently (he's entering college) he's mentioned their conversations. Chief describes this Knight in detail- being always in a black suit of armor, being very tall, and possibly hailing from Scotland (not surprising since Chief takes pride in his Scottish background.) His Knight even has a name- Valor. With the 'or' being pronounced like that of \"Thor.\" Apparently this was not a name Chief gave it, but what the Knight had told him his name was. \n  The way Chief talks about him makes \"Valor\" more like a full-body apparition (which I am highly skeptical of) than an imaginary friend. Chief's father was away at war for most of his childhood, and I've seen his dad take a pretty obvious liking to Chief's older brother than him; but to carry an imaginary friend into adulthood seems a bit far-fetched to me. Chief's never been all that peppy,but nothing that he's ever done has given any lead to him having any emotional/mental instability or schizophrenia/DID/etc. \n   I just don't know what to believe. I'm not going to ridicule him if \"Valor\" is imaginary, but I'd really rather him discuss his concerns with me and not it. But there's still a morbid sense in the back of my mind that says \"But what if it is a ghost?\" I don't want to scare it away if he is Chief's friend/tutelary; but even as a Wiccan it concerns me. What should I think Reddit?", "summary": "Adult talks to a ghost/imaginary friend, and my over-reacting self is looking for  answers. "}
{"id": "t3_2w5jq1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I haven't been in a relationship since I was 16... I'm nearly 21. I feel like I've missed out a lot and need advice to get myself out there.", "post": "All the advice I get tends to be very similar:\n\n\"All you have to do is ask\"\n\n\"Just go and talk to her\"\n\n\"Drop her a message\"\n\nThat's all well and good, but it terrifies me. I feel terribly awkward and worry that I'd look like a weird sex pest if I just went up to random women I liked the look of or just popped up on their facebook chat out of the blue.\n\nGuys out there who've done that... what did you say? Is there a knack to it? And were you successful?\n\nI'm at University and there are a lot of women who have caught my eye but I dare not make a move because I am scared of rejection and the ensuing awkwardness. I get very paranoid that she will tell her friends and I could never be comfortable around them again.\n\nI know that makes me sound like an immature teenager, but given my minimal experience with the opposite sex it is something I really want to overcome for the sake of my own happiness and sense of self-worth.\n\nI am comfortable making conversation with women, but I never have the confidence to take things further i.e. ask them out or just flirt with them.", "summary": "I need help with confidence and finding women to talk to."}
{"id": "t3_22un12", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How to loseit during senior year?", "post": "This'll be my first time submitting something to /r/loseit - exciting stuff! I just hope I'll do it right.\n\nSo hey everyone, I'm a 19 y/o male who has had a weight problem almost for the entirety of his short life so far. My main problem (I think) comes from the fact that I can't help but keep eating snacks, coupled with a complete refusal to exercise at all. I resolved to solve this matter a few times in the past, and was once going in the right direction, having gone from 100(220 lbs) to 90 kg (198 lbs) after stopping snacking. Suffice to say I managed to mess it up afterwards.\n\nRight now I'm in my senior year in high school, and thanks to my country's university entrance system, I have to seriously study for my A levels. Besides the 9-to-4 school routine I have to go to an extra prep school for 3 hours almost once every other day, and every weekend. Plus, this is generally seen as a very stressful year for students, and almost all of them end up putting weight. I've been hiding under this excuse to explain the ever-more-obvious double chin that I got this year, but I'm really tired of it. How can I start losing weight, if it's at all possible in this period?", "summary": "I'm a high school student who has to prepare for his A levels in the upcoming months. How can I start losing it?"}
{"id": "t3_2zipuw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[26M] enjoy a relationship [with 23F] if I know it will end?", "post": "So I have no real issues with my current relationship. We've been going out for about 2 years and everything is going pretty well. We get along great, don't fight, great sex life, etc.  \n  \nThe issue is with me. I'm not ready to get married at this point in my life. I've told this to my gf and it is no problem with her because she is not ready either. However, I know that I want to marry *eventually*. I also know that I will need to be single again at some point before I can ever consider marriage. There's just so much more of life I want to experience before settling down.  \n  \nI feel like I'm just delaying the inevitable by being in this relationship. But the truth is I'm also not ready to break up just yet. What we have together is great - she treats me like a king and I know I make her happy too....but I just know deep down that *eventually* I'll have to end it.  \n  \nDo I just enjoy our time together now and see what happens? Do I break it off ASAP and never date anyone unless I think it will lead to marriage?", "summary": "I don't want to end my great relationship, but I feel guilty staying in it since I know deep down it will end eventually. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_bqn7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there anything you can do about medical debt once it's in collection? Kind of a messed up situation.", "post": "A few years ago, I caught a really bad fever, stayed in bed a couple days but it didn't go away and just kept getting worse. Once it got to the 104 mark, it was about 11pm at night so my mom drove me to the ER (I was about 18 at the time).\n\nThey said I had pneumonia and kept me overnight. The messed up part is, while I was there, I caught a staph infection which required me to stay 5 more days. I also had to have several tests done on my heart to make sure the infection didn't damage a valve or something (endocarditis I think).\n\nAnyway, the total bill was $18,000 for that stay, it's kind of messed up since the only reason I had to stay so long was because I caught a hospital-born infection.\n\nAnyway, I almost have all of my debt paid off except the medical, and it's been turned over to a collection agency. Is there any hope of getting the charges reduced if I talk to the hospital? It's a community/public hospital and they are usually grateful just to get *anything*.", "summary": "Had pneumonia when I was 18. Went to public/community hospital. Stayed overnight. Caught staph infection while there and almost died. Had to stay 5 more days and have a bunch of tests run. Bill was $18,000. Turned over to a collection agency."}
{"id": "t3_1jht73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] am missing a dysfunctional relationship with a guy [23M] who is manipulative.", "post": "I'll try to keep it short but basically when I was in high school I was in a relationship with a guy who was very manipulative. He would constantly treat me horribly, make me feel worthless, and then build me up again so I would come back to him. \n\nA lot of this led into sexual coercion, and while I thought I had dealt with a lot of this on my own, lately I've been going to therapy and a lot of our relationship is coming back up. I know that he doesn't respect me, and doesn't love me and never did, but there were still sometimes when he made me happy. \n\nIt's been two years since we've been together, and I rarely talk to him although I did run into him a few weeks ago and he was really sweet, although he did later that night try getting me to come over to sleep with him.\n\nI'm in a really awesome relationship right now (1.5 years) and I try avoiding talking to him because I know even knowing I spoke to him cordially would upset my boyfriend, but some nights I just really want to talk to him.\n\nIs this normal? I've kind of downplayed our past relationship to my therapist because I don't know if it's even a big deal as I'm sure tons of people are in dysfunctional relationships but I don't know why I need him so much.", "summary": "I was in a weird relationship, and I love my current boyfriend but I still miss the attention from the last guy."}
{"id": "t3_1bo4lj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24M] and have trouble maintaining friendships. How do I make new friends with people with common interests?", "post": "I've always been a social person once I become comfortable with the group and am seeking for an adventure. However, the friends I make are not. In fact, I find we have very little in common with my friends. My best friend [24M] for example, who I've known for nearly 20 years, leads a very uneventful and boring life. We meet up every month or so for a lunch and to catch up, but there's very little to catch up on. I knew him his whole life and there's rarely anything new to share or do with each other. It just good to see each other.\n\nI spent the last five years in engineering school and graduated a few months ago. The opportunity to meet new people was always there, but with the stress and workload I was dealing with, I never took the opportunities. Since then, I've become less outgoing, it seems like all the friends [22-24] I've made over my undergrad career were too. We're a close group of friends, but we rarely see each other outside of school. With school over, it seems like so is my social life, and I'm slowly losing touch with my friends with everyone taking a different direction in life. How can I maintain our friendship? It seems like the most I can do is organize a meet up dinner every now and then.\n\nAt the same time, how can I meet new friends outside of school with common interests? It seems like this is even more difficult with everyone coming from different walks of life out there. I'd like to meet people coming from larger groups and develop more smaller and stronger social circles. People, who would occasionally get together and to something, like an outdoor hike, grab a meal together, participate in a bit of nightlife, or maybe just have a group chat over a coffee. In short, socially active people.", "summary": "I have little in common with my current friends and am seeing them less and less. Any advice on maintaining friendships and developing new friendships with people with similar interests would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_11bdmo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "how do you ignore your fears and anxieties when trying to decide whether to break up with someone?", "post": "Ok, I'm insecure and I'm uncertain and I'm scared - which is not a good combination in a relationship. I am 28 and currently in a 4 year old co-dependant relationship with a guy i have no sexual chemistry with whatsoever - though who is a dictionary definition of 'nice guy' and attentive and caring. I am not happy right now, haven't been for a while and attempts to rectify this just fall flat. I am seriously considering breaking up with him in the next couple of weeks - if it weren't for\n\n- the aforementioned fear. Am I giving up on a good thing, will I find another guy who would treat me as tenderly. I am fairly sure this is rooted in my insecurity and this should be one of those things I just ignore in my decision. One of those things that misses the point.\n\n- I'm pretty sure sexual chemistry is something which either exists or it doesn't and I could be wrong about that - after that my whole argument fails. The complete lack of sex (for literally months, 3 times this year infact and those did not go well) is something which bothers me, something I can't fake. I don't want to force myself to have sex with this guy, even if that might be the root to 'fixing' something surely this should not be something which is forced? FYI I have sexual fantasies about other guys, there's no problem with my sex drive. \n\n- then there are threads like this one -->\n --> basically saying I have very very little and decreasing chance of finding another guy at all with similar qualities. Or at least that's how I'm reading it... Should I settle for what I have in this case? Could I learn to be happy without intimacy? Should i try - he's crazy about me, I love him though am not in love with him. I could probably be 'content' if I lived my future out with him.\n\n- videos like this one... am I just being shallow?", "summary": "I think I want to break up with my boyfriend but I'm not sure, I'm scared of being alone after so many years of being 'with someone', scared of giving up on a good thing, but not sure whether I'm settling and if 'time is running out' anyway. How do I make this decision without fear? I'm fairly sure many of these fears are distractions - I just need to figure out what I want, and if I'm being unrealistic. How do I ignore these pressures and see the truth of thing thing?"}
{"id": "t3_44sm3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] and I [21F] broke up five days ago after 2.5 years. Still \"in a relationship\" on Facebook. How long should I wait to change it?", "post": "This seems so stupid, but it's stressing me out a lot. I don't want to change it yet because I'm still sad about the relationship ending and I feel like that's the final straw. I've already cleaned his things out of my room, but I just can't bring myself to change the stupid relationship status on Facebook.\n\nWhat's the best way to do it? Is it okay to give myself some time before I change it, or is ripping off the bandaid the better way to go? He hasn't changed his yet either. Do I let him know I'm going to change it? Is that considerate or seen as too much? He's the one that broke up with me, by the way, but we both recognized that it had to end, I just could never bring myself to do it.", "summary": "How long should I give myself before I have to change my relationship status on Facebook AND do I give him a heads up that I'm doing it?"}
{"id": "t3_3cu9gn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] want to leave my wife [20 F] of 2 years, Can't bring myself to tell her.", "post": "As the title suggests, I want to leave my wife.\n\nBackstory: I am in the military and get out soon-ish. She is on her way into the military (different branch) and when I get out I want to go back home (Big City in CA) to go to a university and she wants me to go with her wherever she might get stationed. Now I see this as kind of selfish. She can get stationed in just about any shit-hole in the US. I don't want to be dragged along for the ride. Granted she does live with me and I got stationed in America's asshole in NC. In reality she didn't have anything going on for her back home. No car, no licence, and had just been kicked out of her mom's house. \n\nI don't want to sound arrogant but I am pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to her and I feel bad for wanting out. I honestly think we rushed into this marriage (the benefits the military gave me didn't help) \n\nI do love her, but I think we love different. She craves constant affection and attention. I find that annoying as all hell, especially while I am deployed, and when i don't give it to her she gets angry or cries like I just told her that I killed her brother. She makes things that don't matter into such big deals! I like affection as much as the next guy but I also don't like to smother people or be smothered. \n\nHow can I let her go without destroying her? I do care for her and would like not to cause emotional damage to and already emotional wreck?", "summary": "I don't think my wife is right for me and I want out. How can I let her know without hurting her too much?"}
{"id": "t3_2lmq21", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by asking a police officer to turn off his flashing lights", "post": "happened an hour ago at 0.30 am.\ni was on my motorcycle driving over a big city bridge in germany, \nbeautiful ice cold midnight breeze in your pants, on my way to buy some green.\nwhat could go wrong right ? police.. i got held over and i only had my bankcard to identify myself. \nas the other cop was checking my data in the car i asked the other dude politely to turn off his flash lights because it was pissing me off. also the cop saw my emergency papes in my wallet. of course he made me look in his stupid flashlight and talk to them casually about where i was going, what we / i were gonna do. he then made me promise 3 times to take my papers and id with me and let me go off with a warning.", "summary": "dont ask a cop if its possible to turn off the emergency flashlights"}
{"id": "t3_h8nzk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I press charges or just let it go?", "post": "Monday night I took in a homeless man.  A friend had called me and said this person she had met a month ago needed a place to stay and asked if I would let him stay at my place (I've done this before, so she knew she could ask me).  I want to be the type of person that is willing to help someone out, so I was happy to agree to it.  We picked him up.  He's about 40 years old, Scottish, and a really nice guy.  We go back to my place, he takes a shower and cleans up, asks to see my guitar, and ends up playing for about a half hour for me, and he's amazing at it.  I tell him he's welcome to stay for the week, and we both go to sleep.\n\nThe next day I left for work before he was up.  He called me when he woke up and asked what to do about locking the door when he left for a hospital appointment.  I told him I would bring home a spare key.  When I got there about an hour later, he wasn't there.\n\nInstead, there was a note that said \"Sorry,\" and he had taken my netbook, 2 ipods, their chargers and headphones, as well as about $40 in change.\n\nHe isn't returning my phonecalls (someone gave him a phone to use).  My friend has his email and emailed him how upset she was.  He replied and said basically he knows he's being self-destructive but he didn't apologize or mention the stuff.\n\nSo I'm torn about what to do and I'm willing to let reddit decide for me.  Do I call the police and file a report against him, or just let it go?  In the end, the stuff he took isn't the biggest deal in the world, it's more the betrayal that my friend is now feeling because of him.", "summary": "Let a homeless man stay at my place, he took of with my laptop and a couple of ipods.  Should I press charges or just let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_2qsqxj", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I have depression and want my new puppy to know I'm her mom, but should I wait to get her until I've moved in with my roommate?", "post": "So I'm a 20 year old college student who has begun saving for her own pup. I have depression and have researched into an Ausiedoodle (I have allergies) and am very happy with my breed choice and prepared for the cost and responsibilities. My biggest reason for getting a dog is to hopefully curb my major depression and give me a constant companion and friend (I have a lot of anxiety with being alone & unwanted, and have heard what wonderful things dogs do).\n\nHowever, I will be moving into a new apartment in August with my roommate. I wanted to buy my new puppy in July so that I could give her all of her vet checks, shots, and hopefully get her spayed before we move. I know that putting a puppy through a move is stressful, though, especially after only being somewhere for a month, so I'm not sure what to do.\n\nPart of me wants to get her before I move in to my new place (with a roommate) because I want her to know that *I* am her mother. I am afraid to buy her, pay for all of her things, her care, her food, etc, and have her think my roommate is her mom, want to sleep in her bed, etcetera. I think that being the second choice would be extremely difficult for me. I was hoping to get her early so that she'll understand that I am her mother and this other person is a fun sibling.\n\nIs this wrong? Should I just wait to get her? Will she know I'm her 'mother' regardless? I am already so attached to this fictional puppy, but I get so nervous at the thought of her choosing my roommate over me that I want to get her early.", "summary": "is it selfish to get my dog a month early to convince her I'm her mother over my roommate?"}
{"id": "t3_1k6v57", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I deal with depression", "post": "So im laying here in my bed, unable to sleep, and trying to clear my head of all the negativity, but lately its getting harder and harder. Recently was in a relationship, beautiful woman, really loved her. Then she dumped me citing the \"its me not you\", which happened to be after a backpacking trip with her family immediately after I returned from a 3 week work trip. This pretty much started the decline because there was no warning and barely an explanation...\nFast forward to now, ive tried unsuccessfully to meet new people through various online methods, im jumping through hoops to get VA disability for my sleep apnea, and my VA home loan got denied. Im the only one of my friends and family not in a stable relationship and it really kills me to see everyone so happy while im struggling to make it through my days lately. \n\nI guess im really just trying to see what others did when in similar situations because I really dont like sharing my emotions with anyone I know, makes me feel weak as a former Marine.", "summary": "got dumped, lifes not going how I planned, trouble meeting new friends, seeing everyone else's happiness when im hiding my misery is getting unbearable. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_2pugfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend has sexual past, I don't. Will I ever get over it?", "post": "I'm 23 and a late bloomer, lost my virginity at 22. My girlfriend is 20 and has had a one night stand, and a few other sexual encounters, like 4 or 5. I have only had one other girl I ever had sex with. Honestly I am jealous of her history because it's something I wish I did. I love her to death and can see myself marrying her but in the back of my mind I can't shake this feeling of regret that I didn't get to experiment like she did and I missed out on exploring my sexuality, finding out what I like and don't like. With my girlfriend I can see myself settling down with her but I am afraid this feeling won't ever go away that I missed out on being able to experiment with other people. Can anyone relate?? Can anyone give me some advice??", "summary": "girlfriend has sexual past, I don't. Will I ever get over my lack of sexual past? Do I need to just get it out of my system to ever get past this? I don't want to hurt my girlfriend, and doing that will really hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_2uua21", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking Mike Tyson and Neil DeGrasse Tyson were the same person.", "post": "It started with weed.  It ended with me being embarrassed as fuck in front of a whole room of strangers.  I was with a friend and we wandered over to a house of someone he knew but I didn't.  Bong rips later, we're watching TV and a commercial with NDGT comes on.  I haven't really known too much about him but have been hearing all sorts of hysteria and in my stoned state, I somehow found a striking resemblance to Iron Mike, and though I think I knew better deep in my heart, my brain flashed with an insight of what felt like brilliance.\n\"Holy shit, that's what Mike Tyson looks like now!\" is what went through my brain.  The idea that the first name was different and a smart-sounding middle name had been added seemed like a good career move or more Don King trickery.\n\"How the fuck did he become an astrophysicist after years of beatings and rape charges?\" is what my mouth ejected.\nThe room went quiet.\n\"Uh...what?\"\n\"Uh, that...that's Mike Ty...nevermind.\"  It hit me all at once that I had just made a ridiculous error in a room full of college educated people.  And then I spent the next ten minutes being utterly ridiculed as my face lit up like a crack pipe.  A well deserved thrashing, but it will be a while before I show my face around those parts.", "summary": "Got too high, thought that Neil DeGrasse Tyson commercial was an older Mike Tyson in a room full of strangers, got made fun of."}
{"id": "t3_2prjsy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How should I proceed in my spending/investment plan?", "post": "So I landed a job back in June in Silicon Valley for $100k/yr (I've been informed that it will be raised to $105k/yr starting in 2015) straight out of undergrad.  So far, I've contributed 40% of my pre-tax income in order to max out my 401k for 2014 since the company matches 50% of my contributions up to my $17.5k limit.  Now, I'm using anything in excess of $3k after monthly expenses in my checking account to pay off my $18k student loan debt.  Once that's done, I'm not sure how I want to invest my money.  I don't feel too confident in monitoring stocks on my own, and I feel like mutual funds just rip me off in fees.  I know I can contribute to my after-tax 401k and then perform an in-plan conversion to Roth, but then those assets essentially become inaccessible until I retire (unless I want to incur the penalty).  I also know I can invest in bonds as a simple last-resort option.  I feel like I have the talent to make more profit by investing my free time in a less risky plan for generating Internet revenue than reading up on different stock industries to know when to buy and sell, so I'm shying away from trading.  How do you guys think I should proceed?  Should I contribute to a 529 plan even though i have no idea how many or if I'll have any kids? (I shouldn't need to pay for my own graduate education as business-critical education is paid for by my company)\n\n\u00a0\n\nSome", "summary": "info:  "}
{"id": "t3_9m7gi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help 82 year grandma find spirited away soul-mate.  Any help would be much appreciated.", "post": "My mom was widowed about 17 years ago,  After about two years, she found a soul-mate, and they lived together for about 15 years.  Because she would have lost her medical coverage if she remarried, they never did, though he asked her many times.   Last year her health (and his) had deteriorated so much that she could no longer take care of him.  She is frail and partially paralyzed and he has developing Alzheimers.\nIn an attempt to get some help for Joe (Arola), she contacted his estranged son Bruce.  Finally, after many attempts, she got him to agree to help.  Bruce has used the situation to get a Power of Attorney, and has moved his father to a location near Denver.  Bruce refuses to give my mom his dad's location or allow any communication.  Mom is very downhearted about the situation, and just wants to talk to Joe and visit him. She is the light of his life.", "summary": "Help my mom find Joe.  She is the light of his life, and she misses him."}
{"id": "t3_ygo8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I don't know what I want to be. Can you help me find something to do with my life?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nA lot of things have been on my mind lately.  It seems everyone in my family has something that makes them special, but when it comes to me, there really isn't any talent, or any talent I have discovered.  To elaborate, one of my brothers is incredibly smart.  He went a High school which was pretty much, I guess you could say, pre-college (he lived on campus, college grade classes).  My other brother is musically talented. He plays various instruments, and is in the marching band. Then there is me.  I don't know what I wanna do.\n\nPretty much I have sat on my butt all summer, playing games/watching Netflix.  There has been no productivity at all.  I spend all my time upstairs, and my parents complain how I never go down to see them.  This has gotten better over the past few days though.  I just need to find something to do with my life.  I need a hobby.  I don't play sports because I absolutely have no interest in them.  I just never have had fun playing them.\n\nWhenever my older brother (who is going into college, the smart one) asks me what I want to be when I grow up, I have never been able to answer because I don't know.  I told him I was interested in programming, and he got me started on learning Python.  I started the very basics, and went on a 3-week vacation trip, which ended with me forgetting it all.  I also like music (username).  I want to learn piano, and possibly sing and/or songwrite.  The thing is, I can't write, or play piano using different rhythms on each hand.  No one has ever heard me actually try to sing, and I don't know if I am any good either.\n\nSo Reddit, I know I don't have the worst life or the biggest problems in my life, but what should I do?  I either want to do something in the Music or Gaming industry.", "summary": "I don't have any real hobbies and have no idea what I want to do when I grow up besides wanting to do something in the Gaming/Music Industry.  "}
{"id": "t3_2xft6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [25M] told everyone about my [24F] chronic illness...am I overeating?", "post": "I have multiple sclerosis and have been dealing with a relapse most of the year. I'm okay, just have numbness throughout my body. I'm getting used to a new normal. \n\nMy boyfriend told his immediate family. Fine, they may wonder why I trip sometimes. \n\nThen he told his sister's boyfriend. He did that without telling me. \n\nThen he  told his best friend about it. Fine. But he told him intimate details such as my nipples being numb.\n\nLast but not least, my ex and boyfriend work in the same restaurant. We're friends now, but I still try to avoid him. \n\nToday he saw me leave the restaurant and ran out to speak to me. He grabbed my purse and hand and attempted to help me walk. He said he heard about my diagnosis and wanted to help.\n\nGuess who told him?\n\nI wasn't ready for this to be public yet. I'm so ashamed and embarrassed that all these people know.", "summary": "My boyfriend told everyone about my health problems without even asking me. Wrong to be pissed?"}
{"id": "t3_3b3ang", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "CEO [M50s] mispronounces my name\u2026 do I [F21] correct him?", "post": "Hi guys, I'm cringing super hard at how awkward I am but I really don't know what to do.\n\nI started an internship with a company about 3 weeks ago. It's a start up and the CEO is super friendly and involved in day-to-day stuff. When the office admin first introduced me to him, she pronounced my name wrong. I figured I'd either not see him very often and/or have plenty of chances to correct him, right? Well we've chatted one-on-one a couple of times and even had a whole discussion on my last name\u2026 but he never referred to me by my first name and I never had a chance to correct him. Then today, we had an all-hands meeting where he introduced all the new hires and confidently announced my name. Wrongly. To **everyone** in the office. And I didn't say anything about it. \n\nI even saw him in passing a few times today where I could've said \"Hey I noticed you said throwawheyxx, but it's actually pronounced *throwawheyxx*\" but I chickened out. Now it's just painfully late if I even bring it up. I'm also hoping to be brought on fulltime so half of me is accepting the fact that this is my name now. \n\nHe's taking all the interns out to lunch today at noon pdt, so maybe this could be an opportunity? I don't know if / how I should correct him. He seems really chill so he'll probably laugh but what if he gets embarrassed? Should I do it privately? Or is it okay to bring it up in front of the other interns? They know that he's been saying my name wrong, we've joked about it. Actual quotes of how to phrase it would be really helpful too!", "summary": "CEO has been saying my name wrong for the last three weeks and I haven't corrected him. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_362l8u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [21 F] of ~1 year, asked her out and got rejected. What do?", "post": "EDIT: ~~~Yeah, I know she most likely being \"nice\" to me and rejected to me nicely. And I'm frustrated that she couldn't respect me by giving me a proper answer. \"No, I'd never date you, you're just a friend/ugly/idk\"~~~", "summary": "Asked out friend, rejected because she's going abroad for the summer. Brain not helping. What do."}
{"id": "t3_1mm8vz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you say something to a vendor who sold you knock offs or \"clones\" but passed them off as authentic?", "post": "A new B&M store recently opened in my city and my husband and I went to take a look. The same day we went my ego c and EVOD set up came in the mail from vaping me. My husband wanted the same set up and they sold them at the B&M store, who passed them off as completely authentic. They were charging more than I paid from vaping me, but instant gratification and all that. We didn't realize this until we got home. His set up works, but it just rubs me the wrong way that they pass them off as real when they are clearly not. Bummer too bc it was a pretty cool \"lounge\" type place. They are also selling the SVD for 139! They have good juice from local juice makers so I will likely go back, but I'm wondering if I should bring up the fake issue.", "summary": "local store selling clones/fakes but passing them off as authentic. Want to go back for juice, but it kind of rubbed me wrong. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_30mfku", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(30/M) My girlfriend (25/F) says she wants to spend her life with me but isn't ready to get married", "post": "Hi,\n\nI'm not sure why I'm doing this, but I guess I've run out of options and maybe a few new inputs would help.\n\nSo here's the situation. My girlfriend and I come from what you would call \"christian conservative background\". We've been dating for 9 months now and want to get married beforce we move together. \n\nWe've been talking about wedding for a while now. My gf says she loves me a lot, that she only sees her life with me and want to get married with me. But at the same time, she's not ready to get engaged yet... She doesn't know why (or at least that what she's telling me, and I believe her). We've been talking about this a lot and I think I've been very supportive to her, trying to understand and support her. I asked her to try to identify what her fears are... but she can't name a single one. I don't think she is hiding anything from me. We are in a very honest relationship and talk about everything. \n\nFor me it's absolutely clear that I want to marry this woman and that I will wait as long as necessary. She knows that and I make sure to remind her often.\n\nThis situation has been going on for the last 3 months... and nothing is moving in any direction. Of course, this is hard for both of us.\n\nSo... what do you think might hold her? What should I do? Or shouldn't I do? Any advice?", "summary": "My gf says she wants to get married with me... but at the same time she doesn't... What do?"}
{"id": "t3_pszmw", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Can I enter Italy before my Student Visa time period begins?", "post": "Hi guys, I'll try and give as much information and be as detailed as possible on this! If you have any questions or need any clarifications please let me know!\n\nBasically, I'm from Australia and I have been travelling for a little while now. I arrived in the UK on November 29, 2011 and left on December 28, to then enter France on December 29, thereby entering the Schengen Zone, in which an Australian citizen is allowed to spend 90 days in a 180 day period without a visa for holiday purposes.\n\nI have therefore been in the Schengen Zone since December 29, and have not left in that time. I am also studying in Italy, commencing March 1st, and so by this time it will be 60 days spent in the Schengen Zone, which is totally fine! **HOWEVER, the question I have is that** even though my student visa for Italy is for March 1st, 2012 until August 29th, 2012, am I allowed to enter Italy before this date (say the last week in February, for example) as part of my \"90 days\" in the Schengen Zone?\n\nPlease help guys, hopefully hear from someone soon as March 1 is fast approaching! Even if you don't know exactly how to help, any websites/places to ask would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!", "summary": "Wondering if I'm able to enter Italy as a tourist before my student visa commences"}
{"id": "t3_a4g78", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your worst roommate experience/story?", "post": "Sophomore year 2 of my friends lived in a double room dorm (2 people per side, shared bathroom/shower) and one of their roommates on the other side wasn't very social. He was home schooled and kept to himself. \n\nOne of my friends dealt, so they always had people over. Parties were pretty common on their side and lots of alcohol and weed were involved. My other friend would also have lots of sex with his girlfriend when my dealer friend wasn't around. \n\nThat home schooled roommate pledged for my frat and during one of the interviews, and we asked him to share his darkest secret with the rest of the brothers and we swore that his secret would be safe with us. \n\nHe said that he his roommates were always really loud and would always have sex and that he wasn't getting enough sleep.  To get back at them, he said he would **poke** **holes** in my friend's **condoms**. \n\nI was like WTF. Did not see that one coming.\n\nMy two friends found out and they went ape shit. They confronted the home schooled roommate and threatened to kick his ass. Homeschool got scared and called campus security. Campus security found tons of alcohol (my friends weren't 21 yet) and a HUGE stash of weed. My dealer friend got kicked out of school and the other friend got suspended for a quarter (kind of like probation i guess?)\n\nAfter that incident, Homeschool went back to his home and became a commuter student. \n\nI ocasionally would see Homeschool around campus and he would just give me the glare of disapproval.", "summary": "l,, (-_-) ,,l,, read the freaking story"}
{"id": "t3_27p85j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [M/25] in a relationship too serious too early in life, please help! She is [F/23]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. Our relationship is amazing, neither of us have connected this way with anyone else before. However, due to our age, we are having trouble deciding on the future. We see that we can potentially stay together and get married and have children (although we both have our different views on that, I am much less certain that I want children, but I am warming up to the idea) we think that we might regret missing out on life by committing so early. Especially if we part ways in several years, she especially feels it will be difficult to find someone before her biological clock strikes midnight. I also feel like I might miss out on my best years. This is my 4th relationship but 1st serious one, she's had more relationships in the past than me but this is also the 1st one that is this serious. We really love each other but this has become a prevailing issue recently. Is it worth taking the risk of breaking up and hoping that we might end up together in the future after we have gotten these uncertainties out of our system or is that a recipe for disaster and just a naive way to look at this?", "summary": "we love each other but feel like we might miss out on life due to our age. Is it worth taking the risk of breaking up and hoping that we might end up together in the future after we have gotten these uncertainties out of our system or is that a recipe for disaster and just a naive way to look at this? Also the kids thing in"}
{"id": "t3_2pj5o6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CT] Hostage to storing my ex's junk", "post": "Previous posts:\n\n[[US CT] Restraining order hearing ex parte for things I didn't do.](\n\n[[US CT] Civil Court - Suing for Damages to Vehicle, Funds Stolen from HSA, Hospital Bills](\n\n[[US CT] Ex-GF has \"Supervised Diversionary Program\" for striking my son; how do I object?](\n\nStill ongoing, **a year now**, and I have an attorney.\n\nSo, I blew up at my lawyer today. My ex still has stuff (mostly junk, 50 gallon fish tanks, two pets, Christmas decorations, appliances) at my home. I'm in the process of remodeling, and have no where to store it. One of the conditions of her diversionary program *will be* that she has to pick it up. However, after looking at it, and feeding/caring for her pets for a year, I am growing impatient, and the court is taking forever granting her continuance after continuance.\n\nWhat can I do, legally?\n\nI have given my lawyer four weekend dates and times that she can arrange for pick up of her things, where I will be home, and she can bring police with her if need be, and half of these dates have come and gone. Christmas is coming, and the stuff is in the way of setting up my tree, taking up valuable space in my garage, and consuming my funds (feeding pets, albeit a minor gripe). It is a constant reminder that this situation is going nowhere.\n\nTo top it all off, she's been charged (last week) with an additional larceny in the 4th and conspiracy to commit larceny in the 4th degree, in addition to the larceny charges for stealing funds from my HSA account. I'm at my wit's end here, and I'd appreciate any advice at all. My lawyer seems unphased by the amount of time that has passed, and that no progress has been made on getting her crap out.\n\nI have been told not to do anything with her stuff, and I haven't; it's all in the condition it was in when she left my home, other than being stacked up in an even uglier and more aggravating pile.", "summary": "Ex has a pile of stuff at my house I want gone, and refuses to pick it up after a year."}
{"id": "t3_3r6c71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The same thing happens in pretty much all of my [20 M] romantic relationships...", "post": "This has happened in almost all of my relationships. I meet a girl and I start to like her so I go out of my way to get to know her better. Just when things start going well, I start to feel bored/apathetic/dissatisfied. It's almost as if as she starts to like me, I start to dislike her. \n\nIn my relationship (2 years) right now, I find it difficult to joke around with my SO or even genuinely laugh. This didn't used to be the case, but sometimes I just feel stuck and want out. It's like one day I wake up and the switch is off: I feel bored, can't think of anything to say, and overall feel not okay. \n\nI guess I want to know if falling out like this is normal. Have I just not found the right girl? Is something wrong with me?", "summary": "Can't keep my feelings/thoughts consistent. Experiences with this?"}
{"id": "t3_gvbm1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would any programmers/entrepreneurs be interested in creating a Reddit-like alternative?", "post": "I know that nobody wants to say it but, Reddit is terribly managed.  At some point the Admins are going to have to stop blaming Amazon and start taking responsibility for Reddit as being the most poorly managed website that gets around 1 billion pageviews a month.  Fuck Amazon, right? Well, the failures have been repeated and going on for at least 6 months.  That, to me, is inexcusable no matter what the admins have to say about it.  If Amazon sucks, then go somewhere else.  We pay for Reddit gold (see, e.g., me), we disable adblock, etc., and yet we see no real improvement.  Figure it out, I don't care.  You've got a major asset on your hands.  Surely someone competent could do a better job.\n\nSo, can someone do this right and create a more reliable Reddit alternative?  To me, the upvote/downvote algorithm (and karma) is what makes Reddit great, and that shouldn't be hard to replicate.  It creates an incentive for the users to submit the best content both in the comments and the submissions.", "summary": "I'm ready to take my browsing elsewhere once a reliable Reddit alternative pops up."}
{"id": "t3_2nivr3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My thoughts on cheating", "post": "I was recently asked what my thoughts were on cheating. After coming to the conclusion and telling the person, I also wanted to share with others to see what they thought as well.\n\nTo best find how I would feel, I tried to put myself in the shoes of the person being cheated on. In my experience, cheating usually occurs because there is a deficiency somewhere that needs to be addressed. That deficiency causes a rift between the two people and one of the parties begins looking elsewhere.\n\nThinking of it this way made me wonder how I would feel if I were the victim of something like this. I would be angry, but I think after I calmed down I would realize that either I or my SO messed up (most likely due to communication) somewhere and things need to be re-evaluated.\n\nAt the same time, I feel like an asshole for thinking that way...", "summary": "Im trying to legitimize cheating through my own logic."}
{"id": "t3_16w674", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20]wonder if my relationship with [M22] is dwindling.", "post": "We [f20/m22] have been together for two years and now live in a house together with a roommate. We seem to argue a lot more, and for some reason I feel guarded around him. He's a very honest person, so maybe I'm scared of being verbally assaulted, I don't know. \n\nI love him so very much, but I am scared that I'm not good enough for him. I know he loves me too, but my insecurity is hurting us and I have no idea how to change. \n\nWhat are some things we can do to get back the spark? How can I begin to love myself? I want to start enjoying our time together again without over thinking everything.", "summary": "I'm insecure, and I'm scared we're losing the spark. I love him and want to marry him, but don't know how to get past this."}
{"id": "t3_3k853f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to a girl on the train", "post": "About half an hour ago I was on my way to my university, its like an hour with the train. This cute girl was sitting next to me, and she read a book I remembered from my first year of university. I asked her about the book, and said that we might do the same class. She said it was her first year, and its my second. We both study history btw. I sort of prepared her for all the stuff about to come this year, and she asked me about the subjects I had to do in my year. Well, yesterday I got introduced into my obligatory subjects, and one of them was the second gulf of feminism in Europe (I really hate that subject, but I didnt choose it, my teacher did.) So I started some big talk about how boring it was, and that I hated feminism. I meant that I hated the subject as a college subject,  but she already walked away, because she was on her way to a feminist college she was following because of her interests in that kind of history. So now I feel like a total dick, because I said something i didnt want to, and I want to apologize to that girl.", "summary": "Made a total loser out of myself by coming across as a vagina-hating racist to a cute girl"}
{"id": "t3_4yh6kl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] Date [22F]; How to approach the second date?", "post": "Hi all!\n\nI wanted to get some outside opinions on a situation!\n\nLast night I went out with this girl I met the other week. We had a great evening out! We went out for drinks at this \"newer\" establishment, and we were out for close to 2 hours. I had a great time with this girl, and she told me at the end of the night she really loved meeting up with me. We had a little moment in the parking lot, hugged, and she put her number in my phone.\n\nI was surprised how well the evening went! Here is the thing, we talked briefly that evening we both got home, but nothing more. I really would like to ask her out on a second date, but I am not sure when I should? How soon is *too* soon? I was thinking about sending her a message tomorrow and asking her out. But, I do not want to look needy and desperate for a second date.\n\nEven before we left, she mentioned to me about getting together next week. So, I am trying to figure out when I should send her a message and ask her out for a second date. Is tomorrow to soon? Should I wait for the weekend? Or, should I wait till the beginning of next week? I just don't want to come off as needy or creepy texting her right away to set up a second date.", "summary": "Last night, I [22M] went out on a first date [22F]. The evening went really well (I thought anyway)! She put her number in my phone and briefly mentioned to me about getting together next week. We haven't really talked since then, so I am trying to figure out when I should ask her out on a second date. I don't want to look to needy or desperate by asking her out too soon. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_mhl90", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anybody else feel gross about R/thefacebookdelusion?", "post": "Hey guys. Just discovered r/thefacebookdelusion, and I'm honestly angry. Let me be clear, I'm an atheist, I've read the God Delusion, I normally love the stuff on this site- but I can't understand why people think that this subreddit is okay. Yes, people say stupid/ignorant/hateful things on facebook all the time. Yes, it's fine to add counter arguments, especially if you're trying to have an intelligent discussion.\n\nBut why is there an entire subreddit dedicated just to shutting down theists (mostly christians)? Why isn't the subreddit about 'stupid shit that people say on facebook'? Half of the posts aren't clever or funny, lots are extremely combative and disdainful, and I really think that this 'everyone shit on christians' trend on reddit is giving stupid, rude people the licence to mock others based on their faith. Hypocritical much?\n\n(\n(\n(\n(\n\nI know that a stupid person using quotes/ ideologies that they don't understand on your facebook wall can be frustrating. But this entire community/mindset just rubs me the wrong way. Downvote away. I just want to hear what other people think.", "summary": "Christians/Atheists/Traffic Cops/People can be real assholes."}
{"id": "t3_4i7a6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] visited my boyfriend [21M] this week, his mom [43F] had a domestic dispute and I don't want to visit again", "post": "I live about 40 minutes from my boyfriend (John), and had a week off so decided to visit with him and his family. He is the oldest of 4 children, lives at home, and acts as a surrogate parent to the younger two while he works/goes to school. He only gets one day off, if any, on weekends. His mother has been a single mom most of her life, and has been through 3 seriously failed relationships. The last one, this summer, ended with her badly battered and both were arrested. She can be very verbally abusive and often blows up on her kids, especially John.  \n\nLast night, we were having a fire in the backyard when she calls John and tells him to get everyone in the house and refuse to let in her current boyfriend. He was parked in the driveway, and refused to leave. Both John and his brother were arguing with him to leave, and it nearly turned violent.\n\nI was supposed to stay and see the new Captain America movie with the family this weekend, but I left early because I felt uncomfortable being around with tension levels so high. I don't enjoy being at his house because his mother is so emotionally unstable. I also don't want to be implicated in any possible domestic disputes that could occur, since her boyfriend was sitting parked outside the house this morning again, and she has a history of making stupid decisions around this. What are other options outside of staying at his house?", "summary": "I want to spend time with my semi-LD boyfriend but his family life sucks and he can't visit me."}
{"id": "t3_3an8gr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating my roommate's Pringles.", "post": "Sunday evening. Only one home. I had left my bottle opener in my roommates' room and fancied a beer, so I went in to retrieve it. \n\nTheir room was a little more cluttered than usual with bits of trash here and there, and I decided to clean up a little for them. They're good guys who do nice stuff for the rest of us fairly regularly, so it felt warranted. \n\nWhile throwing stuff out, I found an almost empty can of Pringles. All that was left was a small pile of chip crumbles at the bottom. \n\nQuick note about me, I hate wasting food. I prefer a plastic spatula along with my standard cutlery so I can civilly wipe the plate clean, I've gone dumpster diving for restaurant throw-outs because all that waste bothers me, and I eat the entire apple. Excessive, I know. But there are worse quirks.\n\nNow back to the Pringles can. Obviously I couldn't throw away perfectly good food, so I tilted the can and let the crumbles fall into my mouth. \n\nIt was immediately apparent that texture was all wrong. Harder, sharper, and more bitter than chips ever ought to be. Where Pringles typically demanded little more than idle tonguing to break down, these odd morsels demanded something more deliberate. And while it had been some time since I last partook of a Pringle, I was pretty sure they weren't supposed to taste like ass.\n\nI spat into my hand and inspected the contents. Sure enough, my roommate had used the \"empty\" pringles can as a toenail clippings receptacle. Cue violent gagging.", "summary": "the Pringles were toenails."}
{"id": "t3_1ghdpg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Does anyone here have any experience with living in a commercial zoned property?", "post": "I know this isn't technically allowed, but I'm wondering what the consequences might be. Are some landlords okay with it? Is the most likely scenario if caught that you'd be asked to stop living there or that you'd be evicted immediately? Are there further legal implications for the renter? Does anyone here do this? Can you offer any advice?\n\nI'm looking myself to make a music studio, where I can teach lessons, practice, compose, produce, record, and mix/master music, as doing that kind of thing isn't very feasible at home. Especially when you live in a dense city as we do, with tons of neighbours. It's a noisy affair, and it's also not very professional looking for my clients.\n\nI've found several great, cheap commercial spaces and lofts equipped with a kitchenette and bathroom and shower (presumably for people who bike to work). I've seen some companies use these lofts in an 'open office' format, and other people use them for things like photography studios and the like.\n\nRather than pay for an apartment AND a studio, I would far rather just pay for a single space, and live there as well as make it my office/studio. I live pretty minimally, sleep on a fold up Japanese bead, so I wouldn't make it look like a living space at all.\n\nI'm even thinking about the idea of 'technically living in a van conversion as my official 'residence' if that would help at all get around the legal aspects.\n\nI was just curious if anyone out there has ever had an experience renting and living in one of these commercial spaces or has known someone who has and if they have any advice/stories to tell. I'd love to hear form you! Thank you so much!", "summary": "Thinking of living in commercially zoned space. Any experiences or advice?"}
{"id": "t3_39xw2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend[19F] of one year, her sex drive is significantly less than mine and its causing problems.", "post": "I have a really high sex drive and it's never really been a problem for past relationships, partners usually obliged or didn't mind me taking care of my self. My current SO however isn't into having sex every day, which I totally get and I respect that, but she also has a problem with me watching porn to take care of my self, which I also get.\n\nThe problems start when she's not really willing to do anything else to help me out with the situation. I figured maybe she wouldn't mind giving me oral, but that's a no go for her. She's unwilling to send me any pictures of her to...er... help me along the way. \n\nI'm just not sure what exactly I should do. I'm constantly attracted to her, and I would never pick porn over her, but I think it's becoming a real problem for her. I want to help her out and I'm willing to compromise, but I'm not too sure how.", "summary": "High VS Low: Battle of the sex drives."}
{"id": "t3_3eru39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/f] with my romantic interest [23/m] of a few weeks. Confused about \"spending the night\" etiquette", "post": "If a guy has invited you to spend the night after you presumably have sex, and you aren't in a relationship but it may not just be a one night stand either, do you pack an overnight bag? \n\nIf so, how big is it? I feel so weird about packing stuff, but I know it's practical and I'll need a toothbrush and stuff if I know ahead of time that I'll be sleeping over. As such, does that mean I can pack a change of clothes and pajamas....? I certainly don't want to make it seem like I'm moving in. Should I just bring the bag in with me as I come in the door, or should I leave it in the car and wait to see how the night turns out?", "summary": "what is the proper etiquette for the first \"sleepover\""}
{"id": "t3_4ji7nk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush [17 F]. 1 year. I cannot figure out if she likes me.", "post": "I am a 17 year old male currently in high school. There has been this girl that I have had a crush on since I met her in my freshman English class. I remember being so nervous I could barely hold a conversation with her. She is super easy to talk to and very outgoing so we became friends. \n\nSophomore year went by, and we became better friends but she was dating an older guy, who was a big basketball player at our school. He was your typical popular guy, athletic, admittedly good looking, and captain of the basketball team. They dated for the entirety of sophomore year but broke up during her/my junior (current) year. I started talking to her a few months after they broke up and we recently went to prom together. I liked her at the time of prom but have always considered her out of my league.\n\n My feelings changed shortly afterword after one of my friends (female) said that by observation she believed that my crush likes me. This has changed my entire perspective, and the possibility of my crush liking me has consumed my thoughts for the past week. \n\nAt this point Id like to know either way weather she does or does not. So that I could either pursue her or just stay good friends. Any advice on how to handle the situation is appreciated. I could also screenshot some of our texts and pm them, if someone was willing to take a look and give some insights. Any and all help is appreciated.", "summary": "Cannot figure out if my crush likes me back."}
{"id": "t3_1ahv0t", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "General questions concerning American Bulldog puppy.", "post": "I am the proud owner of an 8 week old puppy (Ares). This is my first dog that I have been personally responsible for. I have him all but house broken. My only problem concerning this is that at night time I can take him to pee in the middle of the night but he never goes number two. Without fail every morning I wake up to a load in the living room. Any ideas to stop this? \n\nSecondly, with this being my first dog I absolutely want to do everything right. I plan on doing a training course when he gets around 3-4 months. Is there anything I can do as of now to make some progress. His young age doesn't really allow for any performance rewards. I can offer treats and get no excitement, tail wag, etc.", "summary": "Puppy won't go #2 at night and still soils the carpet. Looking for training tips for such a young age. Any help would be abundantly appreciated._"}
{"id": "t3_3hobdl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "22 YO Male seeking advice!", "post": "Hey guys, I'm a 22 year old college male. I'm currently working full-time, making a steady income of 39,519 a year, hourly. I got a car loan recently for a new car, granted it wasnt NEEDED but I wanted it. I am not responsible for housing right now. Hopefully this is enough information, I am currently paying 430/mo for car, 100/mo for student. I'm also now paying for school using my employer's tuition reimbursement, so that should rid of anymore student debt.\n\n I'm seeking advice to see what the most financially intelligent thing to do would be.I'm wondering if it would be wise to just do monthly payments on my loans (slightly higher than the minimum) and keep my savings as a rainy day or if I should just use it all on my loans, also looking for investment advice or just general advice really.", "summary": "Slightly increased monthly payments on loans or use my funds to get rid of or chunk one? Any general financial advice for a 22 year old guy to become more financially stable?"}
{"id": "t3_1ecl5m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In a relationship because he loves me [24/f, 28/m]", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. He's a fantastic guy. He's loving, caring, and would never hurt me. We've been through so much together. I honestly cannot even find things I dislike about his personality. The only thing that irks me is that he's not very motivated financially and IF we do ever decide to get married/have kids, he will need to step in more. Besides that, I cannot really think of anything wrong and we lived together for over a year. Here's the problem. I believe that I am only in this relationship because I don't want to break his heart. I love him but I am not IN LOVE with him. Thinking about him with other girls doesn't bother me. Him breaking up with me doesn't bother me. If he cheated on me, I can honestly say that I wouldn't care. But he loves me more than anyone ever would and I don't want to do that to him. Before I get judgement, I have told him this. Hundreds of times. But he doesn't want me to leave. He said he's okay with it as long as I stay. I haven't cheated. I wouldn't cheat. But I feel like I'm staying because I care for him like I would my parents and can't break his heart. So, should I leave anyway?", "summary": "Can't break up with boyfriend because I don't want to break his heart. I love him but not like I should."}
{"id": "t3_50lqub", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Two mobiles?", "post": "We were given a hand-me-down mobile for our baby's crib before he was born, but my wife never liked it, and ended up buying a different one, of a very simple, wooden style.  She wanted us to donate the other one but I just couldn't bring myself to do it\u2013it's too cute, with its little animals being held up by a long giraffe neck, and I felt like getting rid of it would be depriving our son of that fun... but I stuck it in the back of the closet and until now only the wooden one has been in use.\n\nWell the wooden mobile has no motor, and yesterday I put up the jungle mobile so that I could crank it up and have the baby be entertained for a couple of minutes while I prepared our stuff for the day (I'm stay-at-home dadding for a few weeks).  I realized that even if you twist up the wooden mobile as much as it will go, it spins itself out in a very short time.  And of course, he loves those cute little creatures.\n\nMy wife wasn't thrilled, but she gave in and said, \"Fine, just take down the wooden one,\" which brings me to the issue:  I don't want to.  I think with one mobile, the crib looks like kind of a sad, lonely place, with a mobile added as a concession.  With two mobiles, it looks like an actual fun, happy place to be, which is how I think I would prefer him to feel about it.  My wife just thinks that with two mobiles, having different color schemes, it's bad for the aesthetics of the room.  I'm sure she's right, but we're not trying to get the nursery into any magazines, so I don't think aesthetics should be that much of a concern.  But is there some other reason it's not okay to have two mobiles on one baby's crib??", "summary": "I want to keep two mobiles on the baby's crib.  My wife thinks it's ugly.  Should I stick to my guns, or am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_101i6j", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "We've found ourselves staying across from refugee building in Istanbul", "post": "We temporarily have a 3rd floor apartment in Istanbul which is across the street from  what is something like a refugee 'prison' in Kumkapi.  The 'residents' dont seem maltreated, but they are definitely locked in.  While smoking a cigarette out of our window, they started a conversation with us.  It was a very humbling experience.  We weren't able to gather very much, as the security guard(the one with the rifle and the bulletproff vest) pretty clearly told us to stop after a few minutes of yelling back & forth across the street.  The majority of them are refugees from Syria(at least 1 person from Pakistan), and include women & children, and they will be transfered to a refugee camp in 3 days.  Somebody from some window said \"s.o.s.\"  The entire encounter lasted only 3 minutes, but may be one of the most moving experiences in all of my travels.  Given all of the current tensions between the US(our country) and the middle east, we feel obliged to continue to communicate with them, although as they are behind both bars and a hatched grate, it'll probably only be one directional.  We want to express our solidarity to them, and let them know that americans in general are very friendly people, depites all of our political/social problems, problems that a lot of middle easterners seem to clearly extrapolate to the entire county.  Our current plans are to procure some posterboard or something similar with the word [Asabiyyah] ( and put it in our window, and also to see if the guards will let us give their children some soccer balls, as they seem to have a small playground.  Are there any arabic speakers here?  What can we best do to get this point across?", "summary": "We're randomly temporarily living adjacent to some Syrian refugees trapped in this complex in Istanbul.  What little can we do to let them know that all people from the US aren't idiots & most are genuinely kind & sympathetic to their situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3vj1zt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By projectile vomiting all over the Bathroom.", "post": "Unlike most TIFU mine literally happened about 5 hours ago and I'm writing this hungover as shit so bear with. \n\nJust to give you a bit of a background I live in a shared house with 1 girl and 2 guys. Me and this girl are around the same age and we get on pretty well (our house isn't very sociable so she pretty much the only person I see). \n\nWell my story starts when my housemate, we'll call her S, comes in from a work night out. It's like two in the morning and she comes in knocking on my door. She's a bit drunk and just being a usual girl. After chatting a bit we both went downstairs and went through a bottle of red wine...Fuck..where did that go? \n\nWe talked for hours about personal things and even agreed to do something together on Sunday. It's a bit of a deal 'cause as you may have guessed, I like this girl. \n\nComing up to 5AM and we're both fucked. My other housemate came in from work so we hit the bong...That was the mistake. \nAfter running upstairs and attempting to reach the toilet (I ran like fucking Usain Bolt) I then proceeded to be sick. Not just in the toilet but everywhere. \n\nIt was on the wall. It was on the ceiling. I even managed to ruin a 9 pack of toilet rolls in the process. \n\nMy red wine infused vomit, packed full of undigested veg from my previous meal, coated the pristine white bathroom like something out of a Saw film. Bearing in mind S and I share a bathroom she wasn't happy. \nOn your hands and knees at 5AM wasted in the bathroom looking like I'd just taken my tampon for a walk is not a good look.\n\nNow I don't know what to do. I've just woken and not seen her yet and I've probably ruined any chance with her. Who want's to be seen with the guy who looks like he's just gone down on an menstruating bear.", "summary": "Got drunk and high as shit and coated my female housemates toilet with a coat of insides. With fruit overtones of Plum and cherry. "}
{"id": "t3_3g7zcb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I have a few questions regarding a suspended license for possession.", "post": "The last time I was here I told everyone fuck you. I hope you have forgiven this soul. I'm sorry. I was upset. I'm in Mississippi with a suspended license for minor possession of weed. I have already paid my fine from the courthouse. I got a letter telling me to send my license in and pay 175 when I get them reinstated. I think it's bullshit considering I paid the 475 fine and 125 for bail. A coworker said I could ride to Jackson and pay the reinstatement fee and get my license. They're suspended until December 31. Is this possible?", "summary": "Can I pay my license reinstatement fee and get my license back for six months?"}
{"id": "t3_1e3bau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22m) girlfriend (18f) acts really weird when I see her with one of her friends (21f).", "post": "We've been going out almost 6 months and I just noticed today how awkward it is when I see her with this one friend of hers. It's awkward in the sense that it feels like she's hiding something from me. I don't feel like this when I see her around other friends, probably because they're more friendly or something. It was especially awkward today because yesterday a guy helped her study and when I asked her about it, she didn't tell me how it went, just that she got to the library early to study this morning. I trust her and don't think she did anything with the guy, but the way she just started acting is really bothering me. I'm supposed to go out with her tonight for my friend's birthday and I had to bring it up since she didn't even bother asking what's going on with it even though we made plans for it a few days ago.\n\nIt's not as big a deal as I might be making it seem, because I really don't think it's a big deal since I trust her, but I just have no idea how to address it to her and portray it like that. I feel like any way I portray it is just going to lead to an argument.", "summary": "Have no idea how to talk to my girlfriend about her behavior when she's with one of her friends."}
{"id": "t3_3ekw26", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to flush (NSFW)", "post": "As per usual, this did not happen today, but 5 days ago. \n\nThe day started off relatively normally. I awoke from my bed to be greeted by a text from my papa to hit the trails with mountain bikes for the morning. All was fine and dandy, I had the day off so I knew I had time, other than the fact that my girlfriend would be arriving in town to spend the week with me at 2pm. \nWe left around 10:30am, and after spending an enjoyable 2 hours on the trail, got back and decided we were hungry enough to go get burgers. His treat. Being the dirt poor uni student I am, I wasn't going to say no to a hot meal, even though it was getting close to the arrival time of bae. \nSo we ate, shot the shit, and I found myself 30 mins from my darling's arrival in town, a stinking mess... and with a jungle down there that I knew she would not appreciate during sexy time later that evening. So I got home, hopped in the shower, speed washed and realize I had forgotten to shave upon exiting. The time was now 1:50, and her bus would be arriving any minute. I knew I wouldn't have time to shave, so in a rush, I took some surgical scissors, and speed trimmed the jungle to what would now be better described as a freshly cut lawn. I discarded the cut pubes into the toilet, and, finishing my business, ran out the door to meet my SO and help her leg her baggage back to my place. \nUpon arriving, I was greeted by a chorus of snickers and giggles from my room mates, and especially my room mates girlfriend who also happened to be over at the time.\nTo my horror, she walked up smirking and said the fatal phrase \"you forgot to flush.\"\nThey are still calling me hairy potter.", "summary": "Trimmed my pubes, forgot to flush, room mates girlfriend found them."}
{"id": "t3_2yv5hx", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Excitement!...Immediately followed by Disappointment.", "post": "On my lunch hour I got a voicemail from the bridal shop saying my dress was in! I was in a hurry to get to a meeting so I wasn't able to listen to the entire message. Well, After the meeting I listened to the whole message... When they were steaming my dress they found a big purple pen mark on the lace. The shop is sending the dress back to have the lace repaired and it should be back in 2-3 weeks. \n\nI have plenty of time until the wedding so it's not a huge deal, but I was so excited to get to try on my dress again!", "summary": "Dress was in, then it wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_2lx3y4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) I am in love with my boyfriend (25M), but haven't told him yet..", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for 5 months and I have fallen madly in love with him.  We have a great relationship and I adore him so much that I want to tell him I love him everytime I see him.  He tells me I'm the best girlfriend hes ever had, he'll spend 10 minutes telling me everything he \"loves\" about me- but he has never told me he loves me.  One of his roommates actually told me he has never seen my boyfriend so happy and then he has also mentioned (at a different time) that he probably wouldn't tell me he loves me becasue hes had his heartbroken so many times.. \n\n  This is my dilema, I have been in love once before with a man I was with for 6 years, I told him I loved him when I was drunk about a month after he said it to me, when we were 19 years old.  I am terrifed of telling my current SO that I love him because I fear he wont say it back.  I am very confident about our relationship, but I am worried he is afraid to tell me how he feels because of his past relationships.  Also, he confided in me how his last gf told him she loved him and his response was \"I think you are pretty great\".  Now I am sure he thinks more of me than that, but I don't want that to be anything like the way it happens for us.  Also, I could be totally wrong and he could not be in love with me.  Do I tell him?  Should I wait a bit longer?  How and when did you tell your SO you loved them?", "summary": "I'm scared to tell my boyfriend that I love him.. I need words of encouragement to let him know or to wait a bit longer!"}
{"id": "t3_49vpan", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why would my[37 M] wife[35 F] be deleting Facebook messages from her account for just one particular guy[40ish M].", "post": "As the title says, she has been deleting only these messages for some reason.  I have the ability to see this because I caught her in an emotional affair a few years ago with a coworker and intervened before it went any further. After counseling and a lot of communication things seemed to be worked out.  My trust has improved a lot over the following years but still not completely returned.  Thus why I still peep once in a while.\n\nHere's the weird part.  I've caught a few of these conversation occurring before she deletes them and they are completely benign.  A little joking around and friendly banter, but nothing to indicate any sort of infidelity.  I kind of know the guy as well, not as well as she does since they were friends before our marriage, but again, there is nothing to indicate anything going on between them.\n\nI also know her schedule alone would not really permit anything going on between her and another person.  This guy is not a coworker which is really the only place something could happen at this point.  So why would she be deleting texts from just this guy and no other friends, male or female?", "summary": "Wife deleting facebook messages only from one guy but there is absolutely no other suspicious signs."}
{"id": "t3_3nopjk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drowning my boyfriend's present.", "post": "So this happened 2 days.\nMe and one of my best friends were chilling by the hardor, except of course, we're not idiots and both very paranoid people. \nWe sat at the upper part of the harbor instead of right where the ships and boats usually stand. So there was a really big wooden layer underneath us and the water was located about 5 meters away from that.\nThat same day, my boyfriend presented me with the beautiful OnePlus phone, since he knew how much I needed a new smartphone. I was ecstatic! I thanked him a million times and basically felt blessed. \nSo flash forward to the harbor, me and my friend are having a very heated conversation, she raises her hands and accidentally hits the phone, which falls down to the wooden part but it doesn't exactly stay there...it flippin bounces off of it (since it's a relatively big phone) and falls into the water. Just like that. It just disappears....\nMe and my friend are just staring at each other, unable to comprehend what had just happened.\nI obviously wasn't able to get the original phone back, but I luckily had the chance to replace it with a brand new one (waiting for it in the mail)\nWhat a day...", "summary": "Beloved boyfriend gave me a beautiful piece of technology which later fell down the water and (surprise!) drowned."}
{"id": "t3_1rglbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have negative feelings towards a mutual friend of ex and I for stupid reason and feel bad about it", "post": "So, my first love and I broke up around 8 or 9 months ago (together for 1.5 yrs). Him and I decided to remain friends out of mutual respect towards one another and the fact that we are neighbors and have mutual friends. Our break up wasn't mutual because I really didn't want it to happen, but I respect his decision and have accepted it. But I'm pretty sure I still have some feelings for him left.\nNot too long ago we met a girl who was the new roommate of a mutual friend of ours. Girl is super cool and nice and honestly extremely compatible for my ex. Her personality is great for him and I honestly think she may have a little crush on him and I know he finds her attractive. They talk in a way that him and I never were able to really talk when we were together. The only thing that doesn't really work between them is their age difference. She just turned 19 and he just turned 24. A bunch of my friends and I (ex and girl i'm talking about included) have planned a thanksgiving potluck together tomorrow night and when I heard that she was gonna be there I felt super negative about it. For no good reason. I never used to feel this way about her but now all of a sudden I do even though she's really cool. I feel bad about having negative feelings for her, out of jealousy I guess. It makes me feel really bad. I hate that I have residual feelings for someone that I will never have again and someone that broke my heart but I just can't seem to get rid of them and now that this girl is in the picture I am having bad feelings towards her for no good reason.", "summary": "Have negative feelings towards a really cool girl in me and my ex's group of friends just because her and my ex are very compatible. It makes me feel really bad. Don't know how to deal with it"}
{"id": "t3_jkg4b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to Prank a co-worker and I need a web based or Andriod based chess simulator.", "post": "Ok, I suck at Chess, notoriously so. I am terrible and my coworker has a chess-board in his office. And everytime I am at this location (I travel for work) we play a chess game, everytime I walk by his office I make my move and he responds. Well I have never won a game (I suck really bad) and he is brilliant. I would love to just blow him away once to freak him out. I will of course tell him he was playing a computer after the fact but I just want to see him squirm a bit. Anywho so I know there has to be some kind of chess simulator where you can put in the location of the pieces and it will reccomend a move. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer!", "summary": "Please help me find a program that will allow me to input the location of each chess peice on a board and have it recommend me moves."}
{"id": "t3_3eagqp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cursing at the police", "post": "TIFU By Cursing At The Police.\nLike most posts, this didn't happen today, but a few months ago. I left my phone with two of my friends to get something to eat. (in the same building obviously.)\nWhen I came back, I turned my phone over and it was dialing 911. So I gave one of my friends the kind of look that screams \"Dude Wtf did you just do?!?\" He just smiles at me. Seriously, thanks buddy! I cancelled the call before the dispatcher picked up. Or I thought I did. I yelled \"Seriously man, fuck you. What the hell is wrong with you?!\" Then it hit me. It hadn't hung up. I immediately hung up without thinking. A few minutes later I got a call from an officer who asked if I needed anyone and asked why I was yelling. I explained what happened and got off the hook. My number is probably on a list somewhere tho.", "summary": "yelled at a police officer vulgarly because I accidentally missed the 'hang up' button."}
{"id": "t3_3fcfrl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sleep-peeing", "post": "This FU was from years ago (obviously)\nI was around 12 at the time this happened. When I was younger, I supposedly had a sleepwalking disorder according to my parents (I didn't believe this since it only happened one other time before this story takes place). Anyway, this led to me never being allowed to sleep over my friend's house, go to camp, blah blah blah etc. I had gotten a dog for my birthday the year before, being the little shit I was at the time, I couldn't train a dog properly so I didn't know what to do with him or how to train him and nobody in my family else would either, since he was \"my\" dog. Needless to say he wasn't house trained so we kept this poor guy in the laundry room next to my room. So Just like any normal day, I had the ordinary struggles of a middle-schooler with their drama, self-esteem, homework, and whatever else 12 year olds deal with. I got home & when it was time to sleep that night, I did so as usual. **This is where the FU happens** I awaken in the middle of the night to a slap in the face by my dad asking me **WTF** I was doing, still half asleep, i'm confused as to what is going on and why my dad had just smacked me.. The next thing I notice is that suddenly my mom and my sister were also in the room, not *my* room. We were in the laundry room. I look down to see my poor doggy soaking wet with a distressed look on his face. Apparently I thought I was in the bathroom in my half awaken state and just started draining the lizard all over my ill-fated victim of a dog.", "summary": "Parents heard dog whining, went to investigate, saw their sleepwalking son peeing on his dog."}
{"id": "t3_2tn8r7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] overly attached cuddlebuddy [22MtF] got raped. How to deal with her?", "post": "Have a cuddlebuddy that I've known for several months now. She's [Allison] lately been super clingy since I started dating her roommate Pete [25M] and spend every night there. She's had a very rough life being a transgirl and is emotionally unstable. I've called her out on being emotionally manipulative before, and she says she'll try to stop.\n\nRecently, she met a boy. We live in the deep south, where tolerance for trans people is low. I had redflags immediately. He was in a fraternity and a freshman. I didn't believe he wanted her for her.\n\nLast night she says she got raped by him. That he hurt her and she kept saying stop and he kept mentioning shooting up the school. I immediately told her to go to the police. I'm out of town or I'd take her myself. She says she hasn't showered yet and she'll go after lunch.\n\nHOWEVER. I texted Pete. He says he talked to her this morning before she took a shower and she seemed fine. Which means she lied about showering. I was going to tell Pete to check on her and make sure she isn't cutting again, but he isn't home either.\n\nI don't know what to do. On one hand, she says she was raped and I want to believe her. On the other, she likes attention (including negative) and having lied about the shower makes me think she might be yanking our chains.\n\nWhat do, Reddit?", "summary": "best friend/cuddle buddy says she got raped. Acting sketchily. Has a history of histrionics (like cutting herself to make me feel bad) for attention. Currently being hesitant to go to police after lying about taking a shower. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2n9vqt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My date's cousin/bestfriend died as we're dating, how should I handle the situation?", "post": "Although we've only went on 2 dates, our second date was amazing and I ended up spending the night at her place. Things were going well, we were texting and snapchatting each other everyday until I found out her cousin (whom she mentioned was her best friend through our dates) died last Wednesday afternoon through instagram. On that morning, she even texted me good morning but after the news broke out, she became distant and not really responsive. I tried to tell her to be strong and that if she ever needs to talk, I'll be there. She thanked me and that was it. We never talked again or snapchatted since Friday (she's still snapchating wit her friends since her score was increasing and I see updates on her 'mystory'). She went home for the weekend to be with her family and then came back today for school. But since with Thanksgiving and the holliday season, she'll head back home again soon. My question is how should I handle this situation? Should I try to talk to her again to ask how she's doing today or should I just wait til the holiday is over ask her?", "summary": "Girl's bestfriend died and went cold, should I try to talk with her again?"}
{"id": "t3_ysu61", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop myself [18M] from sabotaging my own attempt to bail from the friendzone [18F]?", "post": "Well, \"bailing\" might be the wrong word to use. \"Thrown out\" would probably be more accurate. \n\nWe knew each other for half a year. I confessed to her. She had smoothly avoided the topic and we continued hanging out anyway. Stupid move, I know. A few weeks down the line, we had a fight over a petty issue. She gave me the \"silent treatment\". \n\nI then hammered the final nail in the coffin by bending over backwards and apologizing practically on my bended knees. Her response was, of course, to continue ignoring me. Eventually, she calmed down enough that she wouldn't ignore me, but also made it indirectly clear that it wasn't going to work. At first, I was pretty torn up - thought up of new ways to get her to talk to me, whining, moping, etc. \n\nAnd then I took a step back and realized - **\"Not only is this pathetic and clingy, you're *actively trying to reenter the friendzone* when you've been given a free pass out of it. What kind of stupid fuck are you?\"**. \n\nI know that it is for the better that I drop the matter entirely. And trust me, I've taken measures to do that. Quitted Facebook, pretty much stopped using MSN (I only ever used it to chat her up, since most of my friends were a phone call away) and avoiding even looking in her general direction when we're in the same vicinity.\n\nBut I still find myself sabotaging myself by thinking up new ways to approach her, or daydreaming. And on one of the rare times when I talk with her (we had agreed to work on a number of group projects, pre-argument), I find myself looking for reasons to prolong the conversations. It's like my brain freezes up when I have to talk to her, and I chuck aside reason so I can act like a stupid ass.\n\nHow do I stop my asshole of a brain from sabotaging me?", "summary": "The bolded bit above explains it pretty well."}
{"id": "t3_40dkp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] want to lose my virginity to my boyfriend [20 M] but I'm afraid I'll feel guilty afterwards.", "post": "I'm 20, boyfriend is 20. I'm a virgin, he is not. I have been thinking a lot about having sex with him. I grew up in a conservative environment. My parents weren't bad, they always told me to be safe and smart if I choose to have sex. What messed me up was abstinence only sex ed. I was told that I needed to be \"pure\" to be valuable. It was horrible. I grew up in the Bible Belt and I am a christian, but you can just imagine the things I was taught.\n\nAnyway, now I'm afraid I'll feel guilty if I have sex because I've always said I'm going to wait until marriage. I almost feel like I'm betraying myself and it's like against some sort of rules. But I'm also really frustrated because I really want to do it with my boyfriend.\n\nBut I'm not supposed to feel guilty, am I?", "summary": "want to have sex, but I'm afraid I'll feel guilty afterwards."}
{"id": "t3_2eztvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] had sex with one of my ex friends boyfriend's [28 M/F] known each other 4 months.", "post": "A few months ago my \"ex\" friend and her boyfriend broke up for a few days, he invited me over and we ended up having sex. She just woke me up out of my sleep to ask if we had done anything but I was freaking out and didn't know what to do so I told her no. I'm really regretting it now and I'm scared she's going to go tell my boyfriend some shit that isn't true. Him and I started dating after the incident. SHould I fess up and tell her or not worry about it because they were broken up? I'm really confused on what to do here.", "summary": "I had sex with my ex friend when she and her boyfriend were broken up, she jsut called and asked if it happened, and I said \"no\", now I'm wondering if I should fess up."}
{"id": "t3_i8cc4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. What's your favorite way to deal with scammers when you get an email from them?", "post": "Some background:\n\nI'm currently trying to sell my laptop on craigslist and I keep getting inundated with emails from scammers saying that they'd like to buy, but are not able to meet me because they're busy and want to pay me through paypal. These assholes are obviously trying to prey on the ignorant/vulnerable/etc, which is one thing that I have no patience for. \n\nIn the past I've told them that I'd be happy to send them my information as soon as they filled out some questions on 'my website', which was usually written as some innocuous thing as www.johnnyssite.com. When they'd click it they'd get taken to meatspin :). I can only imagine their reactions :) \n\nWhat are some of your favorite ways to deal with these assholes...and is anyone in the NYC metro area in the market for a like new Dell L501x? :)", "summary": "I hate scammers on the net. What's your favorite way to deal with these assholes?"}
{"id": "t3_127dv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Silly High School Awkwardness", "post": "There was this girl in my summer gym class who very obviously flirted with me the 2 months or so that we had it. After class ended on the last day, we basically revealed that we both liked each other (early August.) We didn't see each other again until school started in September and pretty much didn't talk in between. It's just been awkward silence since then on the off chance we see each other because we share no classes. We're both 15 and I know none of this really matters, but I want it cleared up even if she isn't interested anymore. Should I text her and apologize (it really is my fault because I'm too shy to initiate)? Just try to get more involved with her social group and be around her more in hope of winning her over? I just hate having this doubt over whether or not I still have a chance.", "summary": "Had chance with girl over summer, but it has been awkward silence since then and I want resolution."}
{"id": "t3_ylohg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I forget about my exgf?", "post": "I went out with my gf for 5 years. We were extremely close. About 4 months ago she said she wanted to see other people and ended after a few days of talking about it with me. Every day just gets harder and harder because I can't forget about her. I figured with time she would just kind of disappear from my mind, but she won't seem to leave. I still have dreams about her at night and I am pretty sure I am depressed. What have you done to help move on from something like this? we met when we were both sophmores in college at 19. We are both 24 right now.", "summary": "girlfriend of 5 years left me, and I cant get over her."}
{"id": "t3_3427lt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [15F] of 3 months, I feel like she just isn't putting in as much effort as I am", "post": "I feel like my girlfriend has little to no effort on her end. I always am the one planning dates with her, and if she is busy the day I asked there isn't any contribution such as \"I'm busy then, but maybe the next day?\" I only receive answers such as \"No\" or \"Yes\"\n\nI also get her gifts for any \"anniversary\" or if she was mad, when I asked her to prom etc I get her flowers, or some jewelry. On her end I have only received a 30 dollar jacket on valentines day.\n\nShould I talk to her about it or just wait a little bit? I have felt this for around a month or so. It seems to be getting slightly better, however. We are also both very stressed with school, her after school sport, and my work so I believe that those are a pretty large factor when it comes to this.", "summary": "Little effort from girlfriend and almost no true signs of caring except for the occasional night where we have a good talk"}
{"id": "t3_v0oi4", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My girlfriend dumped me last week and I'm having a hard time coping", "post": "**Details:**\n\nWe only dating for 3 months, but I was essentially living there for the whole thing. She lost feelings for me a few weeks ago and broke it off after attempts to rekindle them failed. She doesn't want to see each other at all any more, and said she is a lot happier now that she's single.\nI realized since that I don't have any close friends in the area, I travelled about 4 hours to be with my highschool best friend for a few days which was nice and took my mind off things. I'm back at home now though and I feel lonely all day, I work an office job and it gets very hard to take your mind off things after a few hours. I don't have any family (foster kid) and all my friends / people I saw regularly either live with my ex or are best friends with her which makes it impossible to hang out with them.", "summary": "I suppose I'm asking for some advice for coping, any input would be appreciated. Thanks.*"}
{"id": "t3_2sdxhk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a donut in the dark", "post": "I woke up early to get ready for work when I remembered the donuts I had bought the night before. I stumbled into the kitchen in the dark, grabbed a donut and ate it as I continued to get ready for the day. It was delicious. Being the donut crazed fat-ass that I am, I didn't even finish getting ready for work before I'm back in the kitchen for donut number two. I flip on the lights, open the box of donuts, and discover that my beloved donuts are absolutely covered and crawling with ants. \nI freak out and begin searching myself for any evidence that I might have just devoured a whole bunch of them. To my horror, I discover several ants crawling on my arms and chest. All I could do was stand there and try to rationalize how the unexpected protein actually made this otherwise worthless indulgence worth eating. It didn't make me feel better :(", "summary": "Those are ants, not sprinkles"}
{"id": "t3_r7zx7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever encountered awful gay bashing, Reddit? I am unable to comprehend why people hate homosexuals to much, Reddit. Any answers? Also, some cheering up could seriously help.", "post": "I'm a 19 year old straight exmormon female attending BYU Provo(transferring next year, though). I have to write on a couple of topics dealing with homosexual males, so while I was doing research earlier tonight, I asked a librarian for some help. I have absolutely nothing against gay people; half the males on my dad's side of the family are homosexual, and I fully support them and love them for who they are.\n\n Anyways, I asked the librarian for help with finding information on my various topics (gay marriage, blood donations, and child rearing), and she immediately laughed and asked, \"So how are you going to make the faggots look bad? Talk about how unnatural they are...or I can help you look up queer hate channels. They have lots of information that you can use.\" I blankly stared at her for about five seconds, unsure if she was joking or not, and then picked up my books and walked out. I just really couldn't believe how hateful she was...I know Mormons are usually awful about this sort of thing, but that was too far. You're allowed to say stuff like that at BYU, though, so I just decided research from home would be better.\n\n I went home and looked up a couple of news pages, but scrolled down further each time to see the comments, and was overwhelmed by the sheer amount of hate for homosexuals expressed each time. I cannot believe how many people are dead set against these people...I've been crying a lot, Reddit, and I guess a little comfort would be great. I don't understand why people hate gays, even in a religious context. They are just people, not trying to force themselves into anyone else's life. They just want to be accepted...Ugh. Sorry for the rant.", "summary": "Encountered lots of gay bashing today and was driven to tears by it. Have you seen any blatant hate towards gay people for no logical reason, Reddit? Or do you have a good answer as to why so many can't stand these people?"}
{"id": "t3_4naey5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23F) fiancee (41M) seems to be having doubts about our upcoming marriage.", "post": "My fiancee and I have been together for four years and got engaged on New Years Eve. Obviously there is a significant age difference between us, however it has never really been an issue. The only time it really came up was when we first met, with my fiancee initially being hesitant to go out with me when I asked him. Since then however things have been amazing, we've done a lot of travelling, had a lot of great experiences and have been living together for the past two years.\n\nOur wedding is in two months time, and for the last two months or so my fiancee has been questioning me a lot about whether I really want to get married. His concern is the age difference, he just frequently asks whether I'm sure it's not a problem and whether I feel like I'll be throwing my life away being with him. I obviously don't feel that way at all, I'm happier than i ever imagined I would be and want nothing more than to marry him and spend our lives together.\n\nHis questioning is making me concerned that he may be having second thoughts on his end, but if he's not I'm also worried that he thinks I have uncertainties which I definitely don't have. Do you think he just has normal pre-wedding jitters or should I be treating this as something more serious?", "summary": "Fiancee seems to have doubts about our wedding. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_113srt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f-23] am having major jealousy/insecurity issues about partner's [m-30] exes", "post": "My boyfriend is amazing and I love him, been together about 6 months but I can't stop thinking about his ex-girlfriends and I get really bitterly jealous. I know it's irrational, but everytime he compliments me or anything I find myself thinking 'I bet you've said that to another woman.' So it makes me really cross. \n\nIt also doesn't help that his exes were significantly older than him (about 15 years) where as I am a lot younger than him and often feel immature, and think he sees me as a dependent/child, rather than a partner.\n\nIs there anything I can do to stop being this negative in such a great relationship. I know this is entirely my problem, not my boyfriend's!", "summary": "I'm a psycho, please advise"}
{"id": "t3_3wsp8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19M] tell my friend [18M] that I don't want to be friends anymore.", "post": "So I've been friends with this guy for just short of two years now and recently I've just lost all interest with the friendship and just want it to be over basically. For the past 6 months I've literally lived the same day over and over, the friendship has become a routine now, the exact same thing happens everyday with minor differences here and there, we talk about the same things everyday, it's like neither one of us wants to back down from the friendship, but we don't want to hurt the others feelings by ending it.\n\nI spend a lot of time thinking about what I can say to him as not to upset him as he has about 100 mood swings a day, not to mention we are in constant contact all day everyday which is probably why things have become stale. He is an extremely jealous person and he is stopping me from doing almost anything I actually want to do. Anything I do, it's almost like I need his consent before I do it.\n\nThis is where the problem lies though, he speaks about the future sometimes and about the things we'll do in the coming years which puts me off ending it. We used to have mutual friends but I've have fell out with all of them because of him and how jealous he is, so I am unsure if he has any other friends, which again is putting me off ending the friendship. I am sure he won't take it well if I told him I didn't want to be friends anymore and he would do something stupid. Personally I don't mind not having any friends, I have good colleagues and a wonderful family, but I don't think he has the same.", "summary": "need help ending a friendship."}
{"id": "t3_3tvqw3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M 20] talk to girls in my class platonically?", "post": "I'm a male in my third year of college. Because of personal issues, I haven't really had a chance to make any friends. I want to start talking to more people to get social skills.\n\nI thought a good idea would be to talk to girls in my class. I'm not really in a position to date anyone right now, so I just want to be friends.\n\nMy classes are usually pretty big with a lot of empty seats, so I'm afraid that if I just go sit beside a girl and try talking to her, even though their are a ton of other empty seats, she'll think I'm hitting on her and I'll scare her off.\n\nSo my question is, how do I talk to girls in class without them thinking I'm hitting on them and getting scared off? Also, because of being a loner my entire life, I'm extremely awkward and have no social skills whatsoever, so the conversations are going to be very awkward for both of us at first.", "summary": "No social skills, want to talk to girls in my class, don't want them to think I'm hitting on them."}
{"id": "t3_2gr3l5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] am thinking about letting a guy [18M] out of the friendzone, but I'm nervous.", "post": "So I'm really close friends with a guy, and we talk almost every day and sometimes our conversations get pretty deep. We often do things together, and when we hang out its always amusing and relaxing. \n\nI know that he has liked me romantically for a while now, confirmed by his friends, and because he sometimes says really romantic stuff out of the blue. \n\nHonestly, I'm not 100% clear on my feelings because sometimes I feel like I do like him in that way, but other times, I feel like, I just like him as a really good friend. Also I am not really physically attracted to him, which makes me question if my feelings for him are romantic.\n\nWhen I ask my friends about it, they sometimes point out that socially and appearance wise, I'm considered out of his league, but they also encourage me to pursue a relationship to see what happens. \n\nHe's a super nice guy, and a genuinely good person who treats everyone with respect and kindness, and I really  value our friendship. The last thing I want to do is hurt him in any way, especially if I agree to a relationship then break it off. \n\nSo basically, I want advice on what to do if he does ask me out, and on whether I should just pursue a relationship with him. If you were a guy what would you want? Would you rather, just not get hurt and keep being friends, or get the girl, but have the chance of getting hurt if it doesn't work out, and losing the friendship too? \nAlso, please don't say \"he doesn't care about friendship\" because I know he genuinely does.", "summary": "Nice guy friend, unsure about feelings, let him out of the fabled friend zone?"}
{"id": "t3_2hobng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/f] I just always feel like the third wheel in any friend group. Is this all in my head?", "post": "Hi Reddit-\n\nAs a kid I was not an extremely social person, and I had only about one or two very good friends. As I went out into the world I got to know more and more people, and I'm enjoying my active social life. I have a couple of circles of friends related to my hobbies and my work, and we get along swimmingly. No drama here, to be honest.\n\nHowever, I just never feel like I can really confide in anyone. When we meet we never really have any deep personal conversations or debates, it's often in a loud party situation and it's mostly about \"catching up\" and \"oh yes, we really should do lunch!\" Oftentimes  my groups of friends are off doing something without me, or are speaking about past events or inside jokes that I wasn't privy to. I do a lot for my friends- I give them gifts on their birthday, spend time with them, invite them places and attend some events when invited, but I've never personally felt truly connected with any of them.\n\nMy work colleagues I'm fine with- I'd rather have breaks from work without them- but it's when I have personal friends that I really feel left out of the conversation. I see weddings of mutual friends and social gatherings they've been at that I was never invited to, and I ask myself, is it just me? Is it all in my head that I feel so disconnected? I'm usually the kind of person who is at a party petting the dog or cat.....I've never been this social in my entire life! I just feel like I'm missing a lot of real opportunities for connecting with people these days.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "I don't feel like I'm really connecting emotionally with the friends in my life."}
{"id": "t3_11qeml", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I use a credit card?", "post": "Reddit, I'm 20 years old and have had a credit card for about a month now... but I don't really know much about it. I know that many people can acquire credit card debt which is obviously something I want to avoid... but it seems like its a given that a credit card will serve newcomers poorly. Why is this? I only use my credit card when I know I have the money in my savings account. This is for things like lunch at school, a drink, sometimes something cheap online (under $25). I always pay it off really quickly too by transferring money from savings the day after or a couple days after. I don't know how interest affects me or anything like that. I feel like there's something I don't know about credit cards, beyond the intuitive factors that you don't spend money you don't have, use it for small things, etc. Can you guys tell me what you think I need to know?", "summary": "what is basic knowledge i should know as first time credit card user?"}
{"id": "t3_1yprvh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 F] made up fake boyfriend and brought him along to meet me [18 M]....", "post": "So I asked this girl to study with me and she agreed. But when we got together, there was another guy there. I asked who he was and she said it was her boyfriend. I'm pretty sure they are not dating for reasons that I will not get into. But here is the question: did she make up a fake boyfriend so I wouldn't make a move? or does she want me to get out of her life and stop annoying her?\n\nIt is confusing because she is pretty friendly when we talked in class and stuff but I'm not sure if this is just to avoid being straight up rude. We're lab partners and we sit next to each other during class so it would be pretty awkward if she straight up shot me down. I don't mind just being friends with her but I would like to know what this means. Does a fake boyfriend simply mean shes not interested in me romantically? Or does she actually want me to piss off?", "summary": "If a girl makes up a fake boyfriend, does it mean she's just not interested or she wants me to get out of her life completely?"}
{"id": "t3_h2ydd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I hit a parked car while on my bicycle. Gave the owner my number and now his insurance company is after me. Help?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I'm a little shaken and could use your advice. \n\nI was in the park riding my bicycle within a tight group of people and my front wheel came into contact with another rider's rear wheel and I lost control. I sideswiped a parked car and stopped to assess the damage. I, myself, got some pretty severe bruising. There was nothing major on the car, just a 3 inch or so scuff mark. Paint was still intact. The owner happened to be standing there and was pretty upset that I ran into his car. I apologized profusely and gave him my name and number with the hopes that he would call me and we could work it out. Instead of calling me, he files a claim through his insurance company. They now want a statement from me and I'm worried they are going to come after me for thousands of dollars. \n\nIdeally, I'd want the guy to take his car to a shop I've done business with and I pay the shop directly to make sure I'm not getting scammed or have to pay car dealer prices. The problem is I have no way of contacting this guy. \n\nNow that insurance is involved, I don't know what to do. I have both auto and homeowner's insurance but would really like to avoid rate increases. Do I need to get an attorney to make sure I don't get ripped off? \n\nFrankly, I want to take responsibility and pay a few hundred bucks to get this guy's car shiny again but after a lot of googling it seems like it could be thousands as they would have to repaint the whole driver's door right? I'm at a loss and don't know what to do. I'm hurt and bruised and scared about a huge unexpected cost for something that seems so superficial. Any thoughts are appreciated. \n\nNotes: happened in San Francisco, CA. Witnesses handy. No police were called.", "summary": "hit a parked car while on my bicycle. Car owner's insurance is after me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2g9yyb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Made an ass out of myself while on acid, now my best friend isn't talking to me anymore", "post": "About a month ago my good friend and I decided to trip before classes started back up. This was my 3rd time with psychedelics so I knew what to expect, however we took a larger dose than what I've done before. We went out and biked a bit but had his girlfriend pick us up after we started to feel dehydrated. We went back to his place and that's where things got weird\n\nBasically I went into a dream-like state where I didn't know what was real and what was fake. I started humping his sink and tried to start a threesome with him and his girlfriend, among other things (this was all told to me once I sobered up). His gf eventually took my phone and texted my brother, acting like it was me texting, telling him to come pick me up.\n\nEventually after I exited the alternate universe I had to ask my roommate how I got back to the apartment and what the fuck happened.\n\nSent my friend a message asking him \"what's up dawg?\" later that night and he didn't respond. A mutual friend stopped by to check up on me, as he had been texting with the friend I tripped with. Told him my story and found out then my best friend was really pissed at me.\n\nOver the course of the next day I told my best friend how I couldn't control myself and didn't know what the fuck was going on, but he didn't buy it. Maybe because he was thinking a little clearer than I was at the time so therefore I could think just the same as him?\n\nSo here I am a month later with him ignoring anything I send him. We normally would hang out every weekend if not more, so I've sent him messages asking if he was busy and wanted to talk/hang the past few weekends. At first he would say he's busy with work or homework, but now he isn't even responding.\n\nNot sure if I should just give up on the friendship or try another route of saving what (I thought) was a really strong bond", "summary": "Got way too high. Humped a sink, tried to get a threesome with my friend and his gf. Gf was only one sober. Trip got cut off short, now he's avoiding me."}
{"id": "t3_x3ubo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is a fact that you absolutely know to be true and can't believe that everybody else doesn't?", "post": "I was having dinner with a friend and his girlfriend when the subject of TV came up. My friend's girlfriend started talking about Seth MacFarlane and why he should make a movie after making so much money with 'Family Guy', 'American Dad!' and 'The Simpsons'. My cheek started twitching as I told her that no, Matt Groening created 'The Simpsons' and the closest MacFarlane came to that was a guest appearance as the Mars Vegas Singer in part 1 of the fourth 'Futurama' - the only other series created by Groening - movie 'Into the Wild Green Yonder'. She assured me that she had seen his name on the credits on every 'Simpsons' episode. I politely said she was mistaken. She started getting angry that I refused to believe her. I then proceeded to take a deep breath and list every episode of 'The Simpsons' aired from the first season off the top of my head until she admitted maybe she was wrong.", "summary": "never tell a 'Simpsons' fan that Seth MacFarlane created the show"}
{"id": "t3_41w6gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] feeling uncomfortable with the thought of sex with anyone, including my girlfriend [19 F] at times", "post": "So I'm in a relationship with someone and the thought of doing anything sexual with anyone else disgusts me. That's not the probably though, sometimes, not all the time, rarely in fact, when i think of doing anything sexual with my partner, I get the same feeling, it's not that i'm not attracted to them, far from it. Now this feeling can be about the smallest thing like kissing and i just want to know what it is or if there's anything i can do to help it because i want to be able to do things with them without this getting in the way. It can come and go in a matter of hours or stay for weeks and then go. She's always understanding, and has no problems with it, I just want to fix it for my sake.", "summary": "sometimes I feel repulsed by the thought of sex with the person I love/ am attracted to"}
{"id": "t3_195n1g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to get back into the dating game?", "post": "I just got out of a ten month relationship, I've met a new girl and we've been on a couple of dates now. Over the last couple of weeks we've opened up to each other a lot. However, she only seems to want to have one date on the weekend, and never really wants to hang out during the week when she's free. Is there any way to get her to be interested in me enough to want to step it up and want to do things more often? Or should I just give it some time? She also just got out of a long relationship, one and a half years, so I know she doesn't want to take things too fast.", "summary": "How can I get my woman of interest to want to spend more time with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3ne8go", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F]with my Boyfriend [ 24 M]2.5 years- we almost never have sex", "post": "When me and my boyfriend first got together we used to be intimate all th time. After a bit we had a lot less sex, maybe three times a week, but I still felt satiated. For the past six months so we've hardly had any sex couple times a month tops.\n\nIt's really started to bother me. I worry he doesn't find me attractive anymore or maybe he's cheating. I feel frustrated and less close to him, but I worry I'm just being a clingy girlfriend and having unfair expectations. I've brought it up to him before a couple of times, and usually after talking about it we have sex the day after, then go back into not doing anything for a long time. He says it's just because he's having a hard time at work recently, and the fact we are living with two flatmates, so maybe I'm just being overly demanding? I love him a lot, and I can't bare the thought of leaving him, what should I do?", "summary": "me and my boyfriend rarely have sex. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_wlqg9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the sneakiest, most-underhanded way you've ever achieved a goal?", "post": "As a teenager, I was sort of a dick. Not outwardly so, but I could be manipulative as hell.\n\nSo, I lived with my dad (just me and him, parents were divorced; I was an only child). \n\nMy dad tried to strike a bargain with me over getting a car, which was, essentially, a typical, well-meaning, and rational compromise - if I got straight A's, got a part-time job to pay for gas/insurance, etc, and followed all house rules, he would buy me a car. \n\nBut, in my idiotic, teenage mind, this was simply too much to handle - so I got manipulative. \n\nSo, I expressed absolutely zero interest in driving, which meant he, as a single father (in a city with shit public transportation) had to drive me everywhere. \n\nHe got sick of being my chauffeur really quickly and bought me a used car for Christmas, and the only condition of my ownership of it was that I actually get my license. \n\nFor the record, I was incredibly grateful for the car (most kids in that area expected BMWs on their 16th birthdays and threw huge fits if they didn't get exactly what they wanted) and I took good care of it. I still got decent grades and paid for its upkeep myself; I just resented being made to jump through hoops.\n\nSo, I guess I could have been worse? I wasn't a spiteful little bitch (which would not have worked on my Dad at all), I just sneakily outmaneuvered him.", "summary": "Annoyed my father into purchasing a car for me."}
{"id": "t3_b2jds", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever fixed someone's life?", "post": "I'm not talking about saving your best friend from laser-guided psychic cephalopods.  I mean, have you ever done something huge for someone, expecting nothing in return that saved their life in the long run?\n\nFor example, I dated a girl for a little over 3 years and we had a really nasty break-up due to me cheating and both of us being addicted to heroin behind eachother's backs.  I continued to do heroin and became completely addicted and hit rock bottom, so I moved to a new town where I didn't know where to get junk so I could quit. I came back to that town and she had been kicked out of her parents' house (we were 18-19 at the time) and was squatting at a piece of shit heroin addict's dilapidated trailer in exchange for sexual favors and heroin money.  This sickened me to no extent, so I got a hold of her one day.  I got her to throw everything emotional away behind us, pack her shit up, and leave.  She came to live at my house with myself and my parents for a summer.  She got clean, got a good job, her own car, and gained the respect of her parents back.  She's now living in a nice apartment in a different state with her boyfriend, whom is rather successful.  She got into school and got her shit back together.  We're still friends to this day and it kills me to think what would have become of her if she hadn't swallowed her pride and allowed me to help her out of the shit hole that was her life.", "summary": "I forced my ex to live with me and my parents so she could get clean and move in with her new boyfriend and go to school and get her life on track.  Does anyone have any similar stories?"}
{"id": "t3_223j4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ever since my[28 m] girlfriend[25 f] moved in together she's lost all ambition and her personality has changed a lot. Is there a way to motivate her or is she just settling in to who she's going to be?", "post": "We've been dating for about 7 months, living together for 4.  When we we not living together it was great.  We were both kind of poor, but we had a good time.  \n\nThen she lost her job and I was there, it wasn't her fault.  She ended up having to move in.  It was ok at first, but it's been 4 months now and she's always 'trying' to get a job.  We live in a smallish city.  She should have gotten a job by now.  The only way she hasn't has to be because she's not really trying.\n\nShe's also gotten weird about my apartment.  Like one day she picked up a little and when I got home I noticed it, but I didn't say anything and after a while she flipped out.  It was nuts.\n\nI don't know if it's just a motivation thing or maybe a little depression or she just wants to settle right into being a stay at home person.  Truth be told though if it's the settle right in thing I'm gonna break up with her.  Then wtf will she do?", "summary": "My girlfriend has become sort of the stereotype of a stay at home wife and I'm not into it."}
{"id": "t3_31brvp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trying to impress two girls at the gym", "post": "My FU begins about 2 weeks ago whilst I was at the gym, I spot these two 11 out of 10 girls who looked about my age (I'm 17). Fast forward about 30 mins, I'm mid-set on the bench press, they both come over to me, greet me. One of them comes out and says \"Um, We both think you're cute, can we get your number?\" or something along the lines of that. This turns me into an excited, but massively delusional alpha male, \"Yeah, sure, but let me finish my set first\".\n\nThey watched as I decide to crank up the weight from 70kg to 100kg to seal the deal, the girls clearly realizing that I was trying to impress. I lay down, lift it off the rack and begin my press. It took less than one second for me to go from being Mr Big-stuff to being Mr Fuck-up. My arms collapsed resulting in the weight nearly crushing me, fortunately the two girls who undoubtedly just went from 100 to 0 on the interested-in-me scale were there to help out. They lifted the weights with my help and put them back onto the rack, feeling winded I tried to get back up, but felt a searing pain in my left pec. It turned out that I'd slightly torn my pectoral muscle on the left side.\n\nAfter apologizing to the two girls who were probably scared to  death after my idiotic attempt at \"gym courtship\", they said it was okay and made sure that I got medical attention (There's a physiotherapist/medic type guy at my gym), but I never got their numbers, the reason why is pretty obvious. Fortunately for me, the damage was very minor and would heal within 4-5 months.\n\n**Note:** Please don't ask me about the specific medical stuff behind it, I'm not an expert", "summary": "Tried to impress some girls at the gym who were interested, completely failed by lifting too much weight and injuring myself."}
{"id": "t3_3u3hpx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) recently met a girl (21f) who requested that I take her on actual dates but every time I ask she says she's busy.", "post": "So me and a this girl have started talking. I fell for her pretty quickly. I asked her about her feelings and she told me 1. She really likes me too and there's an obvious attraction between us. 2. That she is not looking for anything serious right now. 3. That she thinks I should take her on dates. So I guess she wants to go out on dates but doesn't want to be exclusive? Anyways, I asked her out 3 separate times and all three times she's been busy doing something else. She never gives an alternative time and she never invites me to anything. So should I stop trying? Why would she have requested that I take her on dates if she's not interested. I really really want to ask her one more time before we leave for thanksgiving break but I get the feeling I'm just going to get shot down again.", "summary": "I really want to go out on a date with a girl who says she wants to go on a date with me but she keeps saying she's busy."}
{"id": "t3_23p76s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] split up with now ex-fianc\u00e9e[23F] after five years, not sure what to do...", "post": "As the title says really. I'm just having such a hard time dealing with it. I have no idea what to do...\n\nWe were together for five years and did so much together, I won't go into great detail as to the reasons why we broke up other than the fact she just felt like she didn't love me as much anymore and I just didn't trust her as much as you should in a relationship.\n\nSo we split up about two hours ago, I just don't know what to do! Part of me wishes we split up over an argument but it was just a calm content conversation. I'm now home alone, everyone is at work or has prior plans. I feel absolutely abandoned and lonely...", "summary": "Split up with fianc\u00e9e of 5 years, not sure what to do.. Feeling so lonely"}
{"id": "t3_235v1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex [ 23 F] of 10 months, Just found out she cheated on me, had a pretty bad break up now just hurting.", "post": "So me and my Girlfriend of actually 10 months on the 15th so yesterday/today for some people. Just broke up.\n\nWe have recently been going through a rough patch, she moved home, and a lot of things in our lives. Lately she had been really secretive and just all around seemed like she was hiding things. She started actually logging out of stuff and deleting history which she has never done before. Then we got in a little fight over something so insignificant I can't even remember she hung up on me and turned off her phone.\n\nI was furious and her skype was actually saved on my computer so I did something I shouldn't have done and poked my nose because I had a gut feeling. Came to find multiple chats with her and a few other guys where she had been cheating on me with them. \n\nI'm pretty devastated right now, I even told her when I confronted her that we could stay together she just needs to swear it will never happen again and I don't want her talking to these people anymore, in which she decided to choose them over me.\n\nI don't know where I'm really trying to go with this I just kinda need to rant sorry.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated with me, broke up, shit sucks."}
{"id": "t3_1iodvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20m] gf [18f] wants to meet up with a \"kinda\" friend", "post": "My girlfriend of 4 months is from Russia and she has a lot of friends there. One day I was using her phone and a message popped up in Russian on Instagram and I said , oh you got a message. She told me it was a guy she kinda knew that was going to visit our city and wanted to meet up with her. Also I'm pretty sure I'll be out of town when he comes.\n\nShe said they're \"kinda friends\" so they're not even close. He was a friend of her ex boyfriend I think. Usually I'm cool with what she wants to do but it just strikes me odd that she wants to meet up with this guy and she's not even good friends with him, the way she said it he was like an acquaintance. He's just a single guy on work travel visa and they might meet up. When she told me she, said it in an unsure way and that they might not even meet up because she said her friends usually flake but I knew she was just saying that because she could see it striked me as odd. It happened with her female friend that visited with family, but I know they will hang out for sure. He's a single guy and probably hasn't been with Russian girls for a while and he's going to make it happen. \n\nBut I saw online that she commented on his profile asking if he was in town yet. Should I be concerned? Is it none of my business? Is meeting up with a \"kinda\" friend a big deal?", "summary": "girlfriend is meeting up with single friend from back home and she said that he isn't even a close friend, they just kinda knew each other. I might be out of town when they meet, feeling a little nervous"}
{"id": "t3_2rqq14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have [26 year old male] no female friends. What should I do about this?", "post": "I am a 26 yeard old straight male. I have always struggled to make female friends. It got slightly better during high school and I somehow made several female \"friends\" after high school. However in the last couple years everything has unraveled in that regard and I am back to square one with no female friends at all.\nI'm not sure exactly how this happened but it has left me feeling extremely enraged and devastated. \n\nI'm not sure why I feel the intense need to have female frienship and company but it is killing me inside to not have any anymore. Every time in my life I have attempted to establish and maintain a female friendship my efforts have ended in disaster. Clearly this is due to my failings as a human being. I'm at the point of completely giving up. How should I cope with this?", "summary": "I have no female friends and every short term success has ended in devastating failure. How should I cope with the lack of female friend in my life?"}
{"id": "t3_2vpsje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This guy [17-18/m] likes this girl [16/f] whom I [16/m] also like.", "post": "This guy (Bob)* like this girl (Sandy)*  whom I also like and I don't know what to do. I've known this girl for 5 years (more posts about this relationship [here] and [here] and I like her a lot now.\n\nBob already asked Sandy out (actually I think he got someone else to ask her out) and she said no, but he is making a wood carving of a heart and a Jimmy Johns gift card.\n\nNow lets get to their relationship. So she is over affectionate to some guys and steers some of them the wrong way, (me included (hint this part comes up later)) so she will hug Bob a good amount and lean on him and such so of corse I hope she is just being friendly because I've know her for a long time and have seen her do it to other guys (that bitch right?). Anyways so of corse everyone thinks she likes him, and me being the paranoid person I am I hope my thoughts are correct on her not actually liking him. Also Bob drives Sandy home many nights after theatre (which I am also in).\n\nI think she might like me because she acts differently around me know then she used to, but I don't know if she just wants to be better friends. She has said we should do stuff out side of school before but she has never followed though with it. \n\nI was going to ask her out soon but with this curve ball I don't know what to do. \n\n*Names changed to protect the innocence (but mostly me)", "summary": "This guy likes this girl whom I like. I don't think she likes him and I want to ask her out but don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_w8tq7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents met when my mom drew my dad's name out of a hat, what's your best \"how they met\" story?", "post": "My mom is Jewish and upon entering college, she had the opportunity to participate in her first secret Santa. My dad thought he was super cool and didn't want to take part in such foolishness, but his friends put his name in as a joke. My mom drew a name, she thinks it was \"Melvin\" out of the hat and decided to put it back in to draw a cooler name. She picked out my dad's name and started leaving him gifts on his doorstep. They finally met and went out on a date where my dad spilled an entire bottle of cheap wine on my mom's dress. They still get that cheap wine every year on their anniversary.", "summary": "my mom drew my dad's name out of a hat for secret Santa. My dad was only in the hat because his friends put it in as a joke."}
{"id": "t3_1u06hd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A girl I like (22) is ignoring me (m, 23) and talking to me at the same time.. how do I handle this?", "post": "We went out on one date in Sept, and she said that I should find someone else because she has too many mental problems (shes seeing a psychiatrist) and doesn't want a relationship at the moment. \n\nsaw her once more days after the date, but never again after.\n\nwe agreed to be friends.  In fact, she said the only way I could screw up is if I stopped talking to her.\n\nI would text her every now and then, and she would say she's busy studying.  She takes her school work very seriously, so I just assumed she was studying. \n\nNow that it is winter break, she seems to be avoiding seeing me physically.  She's ok with texting me though.\n\nShould I call her out and ask her why she's avoiding me? Should I just stop talking to her altogether?  Or Should I just keep texting her? \n\nIt really hurts me that she doesn't want to see me again.", "summary": "Girl and I agreed to be friends.  She seems to be avoiding seeing me, but we text a lot."}
{"id": "t3_1pxfur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my housemate (19f) really into me (20m)?", "post": "So about a week ago I made out with a housemate of mine (student housing) who I had been on acquaintance terms with. After, neither of us mentioned what had happened and just became more and more friendly with each other (talking for hours, spending lots of time together). This past weekend after one of these talking and spending hours together time we made out again and just cuddled for a bit. Normally I would be sure she was into me but she's been pretty hard to read, even during times when we've been particular intimate. In my previous relationships it's always been pretty clear that they were into me so this is throwing me for a curve. I initiated the make out both times and I have this feeling that she's just sort of been going along with my advances. She's been receptive to physicality and hanging out but not really initiating any of it on her own. \n\nI'm not looking for a relationship right now but I'd really enjoy a friendly, casual physical relationship with her. What do I do?", "summary": "Housemate and I made out twice, got friendly recently. Don't know if she's into me or just sort of going along with it."}
{"id": "t3_39t949", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Often told I am \"too intense\" any help is appreciated", "post": "Long story short I'm former Military (and this is where I'm guessing my \"Intense\" side comes from) and grew up playing hockey and other sports so I've always been active.\n\nAnyways, I am often told that I am too intense because I like competition (rec hockey league games do get me pumped up and I always try my best) now this doesn't mean I'm not having fun while playing because I totally do.  But what can I do to help alleviate the intensity?  I don't feel that I speak too quickly, or get mad at myself or anyone during a game etc.\n\nHas anyone else been referred to as intense?  It's almost like being told that there is something wrong with me.\n\nAny help is appreciated!  Thanks!", "summary": "I'm \"intense\" and want advice on how to be less so."}
{"id": "t3_1gmd5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] and my girlfriend [25 F] have been together for over three years now and I'm looking to propose. Slight issue.", "post": "My first time posting in this subreddit, and I apolgise if this isn't the correct place but I am looking for some advice about my relationship. My girlfriend and I have been together for over three years now and I've decided that I would like to propose to her. We've talked about getting engaged before and she has hinted she wants me to propose but I am very keen on it being a surprise proposal rather than we go out together and pick a ring and such.\n\nSo I have picked a ring and I have picked when and where, but there is a slight issue. I have no idea what her ring size is! Does anyone have any idea how I could find this out secretly?", "summary": "Want to propose, but want to keep it secret. How can I find out her ring size secretly?"}
{"id": "t3_258v7v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19M] find it hard to maintain consistent dialogue and contact. Partner [20F] seems to need it to feel content. What do?", "post": "Hey all, I'm sure this is probably a somewhat common issue but I always prefer coming here to ask. \n\nI [19M] am having a small issue with my [20F] girlfriend. We've been together for only a short few weeks which is why I'd like to get this out of the way sooner rather than later. We're currently fairly far apart from one another (about four and a half hours) and only get to see each other during holidays and occasion. We make every attempt to be together, but for me the distance isn't the issue. \n\nMore often than not when we're talking I find her \"upset\" or talking very short, like she's sad. I've had this before with girls who've desired a great deal of attention, and though I love to shower her in affection and kind words, it's often very hard for me to keep extended contact with her throughout my days. To me, there's only so much I can text before I run out of things to say. There's just nothing to talk about. \n\nMore often than not I find her in these blue moods when we haven't talked in a couple hours and she's deterred by my lack of contact. It's just how it seems. Typically I can combat this response by stoking a conversation by reminding her that we'll see each other soon and she need not be unhappy, things will be okay. This works fine, but it's very draining to feel a duty to consistently bolster her attitude/mood sometimes several times per day. \n\nI'm very laid back and easy going in that I can go days without talking to people. I don't require that constant contact to know the other person is still there. I anticipate that this particular girl will require some extra effort in some areas to lead a successful relationship, but at the same time, when I go back to university the distance will double and I'll have next to no free time to be in consistent contact.\n\nAnybody have an ideas on how I can keep her soothed for longer periods? Probably not a very good way to describe it, but I am limited by my perception.", "summary": "Girlfriend requires constant contact/attention which I find hard to do. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1iqsar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my crush [21F] 1year, crush from school, I dont know how to go further", "post": "So I was going to school for a year to get some grades up. I met this girl that I exchanged some words with and at the last day of the semester she wanted to add me on skype. I gave her my info and now we have been talking pretty much every day, we are both \"gamers\" so we play together from time to time. I have been to her house one time but nothing special. I really want her to know that I got a crush on her but I don't want to creep her out. She seems like a girl that don't like guys that only gives her obvious flatter. What should I do? Sorry in advance for my bad spelling, early morning for me.", "summary": "Met a girl in school a year ago and now I got a crush on her!"}
{"id": "t3_2w1vib", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not buying my girlfriend a valentine's day gift.", "post": "Obviously not today but you get the idea. It's the first valentine's day I have spent with any body and I messed it up and now I'm afraid I'm going to lose my best friend and the person I love. I don't really know why it happened. I just wasn't really thinking I guess. I have known my girlfriend for just about 3 years now and been dating for almost a year. We have been best friends for pretty much the whole time we've known each other and I have loved her for a long time. She has done so much for me and I haven't done that much in return. It really hit how much it meant for her (her first valentine's day with someone as well) once it was all out there about how excited she really was for it and how let down she was. She had been hinting the moment the valentine stuff hit the shelves but I've been an idiot. I feel like an ass. This event brought to light, for me, just how bad at relationships I am. She told me that ours feels one sided. That made me realize some things. I realized I haven't shown her how much I really love and care about her. I've been avoiding doing what has to happen. Namely growing the hell up and stop making excuses for myself. I need to get a job so her and I can afford to get our own place so we can actually start our future together. I need to show her how much I care about her. I need to stop being afraid of doing the things I need to do to grow up. I am lucky, however, that she has given me a second chance. I have 1 chance to make it up and I'll be dammed if I don't do it. She is on here alot so maybe she'll see this. I know I've told you before, but I love you Sweet P, I mean it when I say I can't imagine a future with out you. I'm sorry.", "summary": "didn't buy valentine's present for girl I love 'cause I'm a moron. Might lose her but have a second chance to make it up to her. I don't want to lose her."}
{"id": "t3_rft8l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently found out I had gynecomastia. For any male redditor that shares the same problem, how has this affected you?", "post": "I'll throw in some background info about myself. I used to be an overweight kid for most of my life, with my heaviest at 250lbs. I managed to drop down to 170lbs during high school, but for some reason I still managed to have these man boobs. No matter what I did, whether it be dieting or muscle building, it didn't help at all. Because of this, it seriously messes with my self esteem on a daily basis. I'm now 20 and I've finally convinced my mom to let me see a doctor about this. Anyone else gone through the same or similar problems as me?", "summary": "I have man boobs and it won't go away no matter what I do."}
{"id": "t3_2rwe6o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting in front of my sister's friend", "post": "So earlier today my sister brought home a friend from school. By the time I myself arrived home, they were downstairs watching tv in the basement. Exhausted after the end of a long and rough week, I sat down in the living room and began to tiredly browse reddit. Now keep in mind the way my house is laid out is such that the kitchen is right next to the living room in one single open space, so in order to go from the basement to the kitchen you must pass directly by the living room. My dad had just returned home with pizza,  so I grabbed a piece and returned to where I had been sitting, back turned to the kitchen. Typically at this time of the day my bowels are a little stirred up from holding everything in during the school day, and today was no different. Still focused on reddit, I proceeded to let out a fart hot enough to melt snow. Bliss. Suddenly, I heard the sound of a trash can being opened up behind me. **shit**. Who was it that snuck behind me while I was eating? If it had been my sister, she would've commented on my gastronomical feat. Whoever this person was, however, did not.  Turning around slowly, I saw what was unfortunately my sister's friend (who is probably an 8/10), staring at me. I was speechless. Thinking of nothing to say, I maintained eye contact for a brief moment before returning to my phone. Shortly afterwards, I heard her rush back down into the basement. As I'm typing I can hear them talking and laughing about it.", "summary": "Accidentally exposed my sister's attractive friend to the seven gates of hell."}
{"id": "t3_2rwdbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31F] may have lost my best friend [30 F] by calling her out on her abusive relationship", "post": "My best friend is polyamorous, it's part of who she is, and I've got no problem with that whatsoever.  I'm monogamous and I probably couldn't do polyamory but I don't have a problem with it and I think it's a perfectly valid relationship structure.\n\nBut she's in a relationship with a guy who is otherwise really perfect for her, except he lets his other girlfriend walk all over my friend.  Other girlfriend is demanding, manipulative, and generally seems like she is trying to minimize my friend's place in their relationship as much as possible.\n\nThey are all in their early 30's, live together, and they've been together for three years.\n\nMy best friend had been crying to me every now and again, about boyfriend's other girlfriend's awful behavior, then \"taking it back\" and saying it was all her own fault, or a misunderstanding, or she just needs to be patient about the other girl's needs and insecurities.  And then she basically vows to be a better doormat.\n\nI finally snapped and let loose a long tirade about how poorly she is being treated, and I was not pulling punches.  I was cussing and ranting, yelling about the other girlfriend's awful behavior, about the boyfriend's cowardice in letting it happen to someone he supposedly loves, and about my friend's lack of self-respect to not stand up for herself.  I handled it very badly.\n\nFriend got rightfully upset, yelled right back at me, hung up on me, and refuses to talk to me.  I'm afraid that I was her only main support outside of her relationship, and if she's burning that bridge, she's going to be even more enmeshed in a toxic and harmful relationship.", "summary": "I lost my cool in trying to stand up for my best friend, and get her to stand up for herself, and now she refuses to talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_4um4g9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "was working on dating her, then she fucked a dude.", "post": "So, yeah. Since about February I've been talking to this girl hoping in the end to date her. When we first started talking she had just gone through a breakup, and she openly stated that she would want to date me whenever she was over the breakup. \"Sweet!\" I thought, but little did I know that a month later she would state that \"I'd rather us just stay friends\". Didn't talk to her for another month or two, but when I did she seemed interested again. So, I've been hanging out with her and talking to her more in hopes that I'll get a girlfriend. Little did I know, she'd been banging my best friend out of a relationship and just leads guys on all the time for kicks. So, now every time I talk to her I get real depressed, cus I still like her but I'm partly disgusted and angry about what she did. I guess I just have to realize that I'm just no cut out for dating girls I actually have interest in. *le sigh", "summary": "It's all in the title."}
{"id": "t3_4pzcm6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my ex [25 m] and I [20 f] haven't spoken for 2 months and I'm unsure whether it's appropriate to mssg", "post": "We had dated for 3 months, I left the guy because I was going through intense finals (I'm in uni) and major financial stress, and he was simultaneously going through a bout of anxiety and short term life struggles. I never told him why I left, I just did, after saying a couple of things to him about not caring. He'd cheated on me once before but I stayed with him,  and all was pretty well, I just never talked about what was happening in my very personal life for him to even understand, because when I did, he'd attack me with insults (I blame his anxiety and stress for that too) .. I regret leaving. Truly, I at least wish I had even opened up so we could work thru it. I don't know if it is even appropriate for me to contact him. I miss him and honestly wouldn't mind trying again if he was willing. I was the one at fault for the break up. (I didn't care enough about his issues, didn't express my issues at all) I worry if I text him he'll be incredibly mean.. he's good at that. But he's also so caring. I can't tell if I'm just going to post break up issues or if I even need to be with him or not. (I *want* to though)", "summary": "he cheated once and i stayed, we both were under lots of stress and treating each other bad, I never told him why I was stressed, I just up and left. I miss him. Would it be bad to text him a \"how are you?\" Or do I need to buckle down and get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_48d8s8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying To Explain How I Feel About My Grandfather's death (on dad's side) To Christian Group At School", "post": "Some background information is required:\n\nI am a guy. Just last week, my grandfather on my dad's side passed away. This has not hit me very hard since I only saw him three times in my lifetime: 1) When I was like 2 - 3 years old. 2) When I was around 10 or 11 years old. 3) When I was 24 years old. (He lives in Hong Kong & my family lives here in the United States) \n\nToday, I told a few friends from my Christian group at school about my grandfather's death. After explaining to one woman that I was not close to my grandfather, she proceeds to become irate and think that I have used the Christian group to get them to feel sorry for me. (They tell me that they do not think that they are being used) I feel that when my grandfather died, I realized how soon, my parents will soon pass (my dad's mom is still alive, but has stage four Alzheimer's so I am guessing she has no idea my grandfather has passed) Both of my mom's parents are still alive but their days are numbered. \n\nHow do I deal with this woman & get her to understand my point of view?", "summary": "Grandfather on dad's side passed away, woman in Christian group is telling me people there think they are being used, that fact isn't true, how to deal with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2ju4du", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [20F] has joined the sport club I [21M] am a member of. She cheated on me 2 years ago. What do I do?", "post": "Okay, a bit of backstory.\n\nWe both met at boarding school, in Year 12 (16/17 age group) and dated for just shy of 2 years. She broke up with me, and a couple of months after I learned from a friend she was working with that she had cheated on me. And not just a one night stand but actually started dating someone else whilst seeing me. I haven't spoken or seen her since.\n\nDue to that scenario, along with other family and personal issues, I ended up in depression. I am just about out of it now, as I used to have multiple streches of time when I was fairly distraught and upset. \n\nHowever, I worry that seeing her at my club sport will possibly cause termoil. Now for some irony - I introduced her to the sport, and within a year she was better at one of the disciplines than I was. As a result, she and I are going to be on the same team for the sport. The captain ran this by me, and I have said it is fine as I wish to be the better man.\n\nReddit, how the hell do I handle this?", "summary": "Ex gf cheated on me, which was a leading factor in my 2 year depression shortly after the breakup. She is now in my sports team, having not seen or spoken to her for 2 years. What do I do to cope, as I have to see her."}
{"id": "t3_3182jb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [26] wants to split with me [27] because of selfesteem issues", "post": "Basically she's dealing with mental health issues and thinks she'll never be a \"normal\" functional person and that she's dragging me down instead of helping me move forward. She basically wants to break up over it. I think she's amazing. She doesn't see it. I don't know what to do. \n\nShe's had a meltdown before and tried to break up with me saying she didn't want to be the troubled girlfriend or be a project, which was how she felt with an ex. She then turned around but things have been really hard for her lately and she's basically doing the same thing again.", "summary": "Help? I'm at a loss."}
{"id": "t3_1e3bo5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I think I'm slowly dying and the only thing I care about is my family worrying.", "post": "Basically, I have not eaten healthy for probably 15 out of the 20 years of my life. As soon as I could say no to veggies I did. I am the only male child my parents had and am studying engineering in university. I feel as though because of these reasons, my parents \"value\" me more than my siblings. \n\nThroughout the years I've always had pains in my stomach and gastrointestinal problems. I have been to my family doctor and walk in clinics on numerous occasions to no avail. My family doctor is a piece of shit who will never send anyone to specialists until it is too late and the walk in doctors are in a rush so they don't really get a chance to properly diagnose you.\n\nIn particular, I have stomach pains that come and go throughout the year. This isn't some indigestion problems but actually flare ups of my undiagnosed condition. Case and point, the last week I've been pissing out my asshole every 15 mins with intense abdominal pain and cramps. It is getting better now but when will it return? \n\nAnyway to the family part of the story. My parents have always been the overprotective and caring parents that try hard to make their kids lives amazing. My Mom will take it the hardest if I ever find out if I am seriously ill. \n\nI am in the process of finding a new family doctor but it is hard to find one that accepts new patients. If I eventually find one and find out through a colonscopy or CT Scan that I have a serious illness such as colon cancer, it would be the death of me and my family. I am fairly confident that if I were to pass away, my mom would follow soon after. \n\nI DO NOT want my parents and family suffering because of me. I do not want them to cry and be worried about me. I want them to remember the good memories and nothing else. I want them to live healthy happy lives. I also would be ashamed that my parents wasted their money on tuition and living away from home expenses as well as the funeral costs. I HATE being a burden to my family and it actually makes me tear up thinking about it.\n\nWhat can I do besides delaying inevitable death?", "summary": "I think I have a serious illness and I don't want my parents to suffer. All I can think about is family. I do not give a shit about dying."}
{"id": "t3_1esowh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] I really this girl [20/f], but should I tell her now?", "post": "Back story:\n\nSo I've been going to school with this girl for the past two years now and we're graduating from college on Thursday. She broke up with her boyfriend back in December and ever since then we've been really close. We would hang out a lot and I even tried using some tricks to see if she's into me, like picking lint off of her shirt and she would do the same for me sometimes. Those kinds of things. We'd cuddle in her room and stuff, but we got into a big argument about a month ago and we've slowly been building our relationship back up. And even when I fuck up with her, she still lets me back in her life (I haven't fucked up since then.) I'm pretty sure she knows I like her, but should I just tell her in person that I do? Or is it too late? Just to get it off my chest. If she doesn't feel the same way, I still want to preserve our friendship. Anyway, should I?", "summary": "I really like this girl, should I tell her? I want to preserve our friendship, but I want her to know."}
{"id": "t3_2ig65n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my best friend [25 M] of 6 years; Moved to city to live with best friend; best friend ditches me. How to respond?", "post": "So I recently moved to a new city with my best friend. I've been crashing on his couch for a while (2 months?) now. We're both currently looking for work (he doesn't have to pay rent since his grandparents bought him the place). Anyways, I moved to the city beforehand with the explicit intent to live with him and told him that I wouldn't move to the city unless we were going to live together and we we were able to find a space to live together (this was way before I moved). Lo' and behold a few months later and I find him not wanting to live together. \n\nHe's nice enough to let me stay with him and says I can stay as long as I want, but he no longer wants to live together. It's kind of frustrating for me because I'm not as wealthy as he is, and I don't have a place to go (additionally, I don't have a relationship with my family so I can't go back to them or anything). Basically I've got not fall backs. I'm kind of upset with my friend in this regard. Part of it is obviously my fault. I guess I shouldn't have been so trusting and formed a fallback, but I am a little upset that he's changed his mind. Am I in the right in that regard?", "summary": "How do I react to my best friend about him suddenly changing his mind to live with me? Should I talk to him about it or just leave it up in the air?"}
{"id": "t3_2aoen9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girl [24 F] have been hanging out for about a month and a half and I just saw who she is black out drunk.", "post": "So I've known this girl since I was about 20 and she 18. We got together and hooked up. Wanted more but she moved out of state and it ended there. She's resurfaced in my life and we began hanging out again. We have a total blast together no matter what were doing. Well this weekend was her birthday and as such we went bar hopping after a baseball game. Turns out she likes to sit on the lap of every dude shes knows when piss drunk. Snuggles with her ex who rubs her legs while they talk and his gf is right there as well. Walk up to randoms and start flirting with them and basically throw me to the wind. I don't know how to bring this up without blowing the hell up and I didn't want to ruin the day her mom planned for her Sunday so I waited until the weekends over. I've been going over it in my head and if this is how she is when I am around. Then wtf is she doing when I'm not? To be fair were not official were just sleeping together and haven't had the talk yet but I can honestly say part of me is already invested so it's gonna hurt either way.", "summary": "The girl I'm seeing currently is a bit of a lush and when hammered flirts, touches, and snuggles with every dude she meets."}
{"id": "t3_1228s9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people get so caught up with finding a SO?", "post": "Today I've seen a bunch of these *'after having been single for X months/years'* posts. Reddit threads also seem to be pretty full of people lamenting their single status. (Without trying to be rude, they come off as a little pathetic even though they're mostly jokes)\n\nI've been in a relationship for 18months but before that i was single for 3 years. It bugged me for a time but then I realised that I'm more important to myself than anyone else ever will be and I wasn't interested in sharing my life with someone else. \n\nThen I ended up with a girlfriend and I've been struggling with it ever since. Its not that I don't enjoy the experience so much as it is that I miss being able to devote all of my time to myself rather than a majority of my free time to someone else. \n\nIt strikes me that people who hate being single so much are less at peace with themselves in some way and are looking for an easy way to increase their self esteem. \n\nDon't take this as a 'oh, i'm so enlightened, look at me' thing, its probably just that I'm incredibly selfish and a bad person but to me, being in a relationship has as many negatives as it does positives.", "summary": "why so anxious to get paired up? Relationships aren't some amazing thing that'll fix everything in your life (although they will devour much of your time)."}
{"id": "t3_3ebptf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [20F] wants to start a relationship 1 month before she moves to Florida for 6 months and I [19M] go to college in Illinois", "post": "My friend told me she's never had a real relationship, and I know she wants one.\n\nIf we weren't 1 month away from being in a long-distance relationship I would do it in a heartbeat, but I've been in one before, and I just felt kind of trapped all the time\n\nI know it seems very obvious, to just try and end the relationship, but I really do care about her, and it's been made a bit worse  by the fact that we're rather intimate. \n\nI know it's a bad situation that I've made worse, and I certainly don't deserve any of your help, but I really don't know what to do, or how to do it", "summary": "One of my friends [20F] wants to start a long-distance relationship, and I'm not sure that having a LDR is a good idea"}
{"id": "t3_2me50r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by masturbating in excess for the past several years.[NSFW]", "post": "Well, this fuck-up happened four days ago actually. It was Memorial Day, and I had a chance after school to be with my GF for several hours, and we would be seeing a movie later. \n   Well, we had about 6 hours to kill, so we decided to head over to her grandma's empty house to have sex. Now, we are both still in high school, so this kind of alone time is somewhat of a rarity. Now, I have been masturbating for the past 5-6 years. It is kind of a terrible habit at this point, and I am trying to cut back (currently it is 2-3 times a day).\n\nNow, we are both out of our clothes and making out on the bed, and I decide to put the condom on and go to work. Now, I had never had sex before, and didn't really know what to expect. We both enjoyed it, but I unfortunately was unable to \"finish the race.\" I attribute this to the fact that, holy shit, I have been jerking it way too fast and way too hard these past few years. I definitely need to cut back, and turn down the tempo. This is the life lesson that I have learned today.", "summary": "Don't masturbate in excess, and definitely don't go to fast, or you could end up ruining your first sexual encounter."}
{"id": "t3_1ft9ik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I prepare for my relationship turning long distance, and how to keep it alive while we're apart? [28f w/ 26m]", "post": "Hey there relationship people! So I've [28f] been dating a guy [26m] for two months now and everything is going amazing. I feel like I can safely say I'm in love with him, and I think he feels the same way. We consider ourselves to be dating. However, he accepted a job at a great company in another state and will be leaving on Tuesday, never to return. I'm also leaving our current state, but I don't know where to. We talked about me moving to join him later, but decided it's a little too soon for me to do that.\n\nSo while he's gone, what kinds of things can we (or I) do to 1. keep from going crazy without each other, and 2. keep from losing touch and keep things interesting?\n\nAny and all advice and/or experiences are welcome. I've never done long-distance before. Thank you very much!", "summary": "partner of 2 months moving away, what do I do to keep a LDR?"}
{"id": "t3_2tb08o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by freaking out over my pee.", "post": "As a bit of back story, I am on antibiotics at the moment for a tooth infection. I didn't read the information leaflet that came with the pack because I have health anxiety and reading the list of potential side-effects means I will experience those side-effects. \n\nSo, last night around 8pm I went for a pee. When I stood up, I noticed that my urine was dark brown and smelled a bit strange. It's not unusual for it to be dark because sometimes I get a bit dehydrated, but I'm talking about a chestnut-brown colour. My heart lurched slightly, but I calmly opened the information leaflet that came with the antibiotics, hoping to see it in the common side-effects list. I found it at the bottom of the 'extremely rare side-effects that seek immediate medical attention list'. A bit of frantic googling told me that it could be kidney failure or jaundice. Ohshitohshitohshit.  \n\nI called 111 (the emergency and urgent care services number in the UK) and tried calmly to explain the situation. The nurse on the other end was pretty concerned by my symptoms and said an out-of-hours doctor would call me back as soon as possible. By this point I've resigned to the possibility of spending the night in hospital. \n\nWhile I'm waiting, I decide to pee again just to make sure, and to my surprise it comes out completely clear. So now I think I'm going crazy. Did I subconsciously read the side-effect list and just imagine my pee was brown? \n\nThen I remembered that earlier in the day I had squirted bleach down the toilet. Normally I would leave it for a few minutes, scrub the bowl and flush it away, but yesterday I forgot. Out of curiosity, I googled 'bleach turn urine brown' and saw that quite a lot of people had experienced the same thing. \n\nThen the phone rang. I had to explain to the perplexed doctor that I wasn't experiencing a medical emergency after all, but that my toilet cleaner had turned my pee brown. It was pretty embarrassing.", "summary": "I discovered a neat science trick, but probably not one that I should show off at parties."}
{"id": "t3_2v81sy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [17/M] am unsure about my feelings for a girl [17/F] I've been om a few dates with", "post": "So long story short, a mutual friend of ours kind of set us up and we went on three dates, I do like her, she's smart, funny, pretty. The biggest problem is we've never met outside of these occasions and only talked online, so she's still a bit of a mystery.       \n  Now yesterday, while she was seriously drunk with a few friends at our mutual friends house she messaged me through the friends steam account, we chatted for a bit and she was in no condition to communicate and among the blabber she said was \"i love6 you\", \"make love to me at midnight\", \"we should meet officialy\".      \nnow im in a tricky situation, where I do want to meet her again, but I'm not sure how I feel about her, because im not crushing or crazy over her, which I have been in my you ger years. I dont know how serious was she about anything she said through steam either.", "summary": "Ive been on 3 dates with a girl that I do like, but I still dont know her that well and I dont want to rush our relationship. How do I procceed without commiting too much, and not hurting her either?"}
{"id": "t3_10ys8z", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy I like has been moving too slow. Gonna tell him myself. Tips on how to say it without scaring him?", "post": "So I've been talking to this guy [20] for a good 2-3 months no. I'm pretty sure he likes me since he shows all the signs but he hasn't made a move because he's very shy. He has never tried to get at anyone else even when cute girls try to talk to him but yesterday he got a girl's number and I saw him. Many have said it's just a ruse to make me jealous. So now I am going to tell him in person that I was really bothered when that happened. He's really busy so I have to wait until the weekend but I'm just so nervous.", "summary": "Guy I like has been waiting for me to make a move it seems. Going to tell him that him getting a girl's number in front of me bothered me a lot. He isn't free til the weekend even though I told him it was important. I'm just nervous."}
{"id": "t3_1b5h89", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know where to go", "post": "22/f, 25/m together  1 year  9 months.\n\nWe moved in with each other after a year. Both working together. The strains were apparent immediately, but we dealt with the stress in incredibly different ways. I wanted to talk about it - he bottled his feelings and lashed out at weird times.. usually in public.\n\nNow, I have quit my job and have decided to take control of my life. This is after coming home for the final time and seeing him drunk and sad on the couch - I sat on the couch ignoring him politely until he decided to lash out at me. I went to bed and I could hear him yell at the TV and talk to himself until he passed out.\n\nSince that moment he's been incredibly sad since I told him I was moving out - being \"on a break\" so we both can get our lives together. He's been so sweet since then until we had sex recently. We went out to dinner a night ago, he started drinking and lashed out at me at the restaurant for \"something I did\". I don't know what it is. But, it's ridiculous. It's almost like through the intimacy he felt too much comfort and reverted to the side of his personality that is damaging to our relationship. We came home and he immediately passed out.\n\nI've been contacted for interviews and I'm trying to better my life and my relationship. I don't quite think he gets that the space I am giving us is to give him the chance to prove he's not a pathetic, sad, drunk man but a fully capable adult that can function in an emotionally mature relationship.\n\nAm I waiting for something that can't happen? Should I just cut the cord?\n\nThis is very complicated but I didn't want to write a wall of text", "summary": "taking a \"break\" - i've decided to take control of my life while trying to give emotionally stunted boyfriend a chance to grow up.. is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_1i0w70", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Lake Michigan Credit Union/Rewards checking accounts", "post": "I'm currently with Ally bank and their .84% interest rate is nice, but I just found out about reward checking accounts with LMCU offering 3% interest if certain demands are met: direct deposit, 10 debit card transactions, 4 logins to home banking, and electronic billing statements. These are all things that I do anyway, except for 4 home logins a month which is quite doable. Have any of you tried this/ does it sound enticing?\n\nAs it is a credit union it is insured by the NCUA, does this all sound too good to be true? Is there a catch I'm missing?\n\n(I am totally not working for this credit union as I realize now my post sounds like a sales pitch)\n\nHere are some other high reward checking accounts to prove my innocence, some with higher rates, but not in my state.", "summary": "Reward checking accounts get you 3%+ rates from doing some trivial bullshit each month, what are your experiences/is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_394323", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[35/m] I'm having trouble communicating with my gf [38/f]", "post": "I'm just looking for ideas here, since this is a complex and sensitive subject.  My gf and I have been together almost 9 months.  She suffers from severe depression but seems to handle it well most of the time from medication and treatment.  If I try to communicate my needs, she takes any kind of perceived criticism as a personal attack.  I am trying to figure out if there's a way to communicate my needs without her feeling this way.\n\nFor example, I told her this weekend that I didn't respond enthusiastically to some plans she was trying to make with me because I had other things on my mind; I didn't want to talk about some troubling family problems going on because the last time I tried to, she cut me off and then didn't ask about it again.  If I say anything like this, she takes it as a huge personal slight.  So after a lot of crying and some time apart, we talk again and I'm able to say that I was giving an example of why I kept quiet since the last time I felt like she was apathetic to listening to my problems.  \n\nThe plans she had were to do an overnight nearby, but we were supposed to goto the bahamas instead of that day trip but now she says she's not comfortable going on a 5 day trip with me.  I am terribly hurt by this; we have been really happy and really love each other and it sounded like she was on board.  \n\nBut any sort of commitment to building a life together is met with \"I'm not ready for that.\"  I always try to communicate my needs but it seems to backfire and now I feel very used for emotional support and sex and whatever else.  She knows I want to travel together and then be able to talk about moving in together and other life goals together.  I think that is more than reasonable after being together 9 months and for people our age in a happy relationship.", "summary": "I try to communicate my needs or feelings, but seems to backfire because depressive behavior seems to take over.  Can't seem to make basic progress which is devastating an otherwise very loving relationship."}
{"id": "t3_10z91i", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My (22F) girlfriend just broke up with me after 4 years, and I (23M) want her back. What do I do?", "post": "I was told to post this here, and would like a little more input I guess. Good or bad. I'm still thinking about this constantly, so just releasing this some more helps. Thanks in advance. \n\nA little back story for you. About 8 months ago I decided to study abroad, and she decided to do the same thing somewhere else(I kinda wanted to go alone). Before we left we sat down and decided that we meant enough to each other to stay together and make it through. After we returned I felt that everything was going back to normal and life would continue, but she didn't feel the same.\n\nNo fights occurred, she just felt \"detached\" when we were together(found this out after). She stayed with me for a few months and then decided to break it off. I felt like I was hit with a sledgehammer and pleaded that we worked on it. I'll admit that after the return we rarely hung out(she was working two jobs) and when we did we were very tired and basically fell asleep.\n\nWe briefly got back together(about a week) and everything felt amazing. We spent every minute together and were both (she expressed it) very happy. One night when I was leaving she decided she was still confused and needed time to sort her feelings out. I understood and we didn't talk for the last few days. After the break she came back and said she loved me and has never cared about anyone the way she does(also that if it's meant to be we'll get back together) but she doesn't want to continue. I was hurt and confused that she didn't want to try to fight for the relationship, but decided it was best to let her go and not make a scene.\n\nI should also add that she hates her jobs and always seems semi depressed. She says she's fine, but I can tell something is off. I know that she's always been happy with me and I tried to explain that relationships take work, but she didn't feel like it was right.", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me because she thinks her feelings for me have changed and I need help to know if I should just move on or continue to try to get her back. And if i should try to get her back, how?!?"}
{"id": "t3_1p83ko", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M46] going to see my parents for the first time in over 20 years , unsure how im going to react", "post": "This is my first reddit post so apologies in advance.\n\nI haven't seen my parents in over 20 years following a family dispute and I live over 1,500 miles away in a different country.  We haven't spoken, verbally either in all that time.\n\nHowever, late last year they got in contact via Facebook, I guess to start a rebuilding process.  I should mention that I have 4 almost adult children who they contacted via email, only one of which wants a relation with them in any shape, understandable as they've never been part of their lives.\n\nIt is because of the youngest, who wants to go visit them that I'm going also. Ultimately it would be unfair of me not to allow her to see her grandparents, when in all reality it will probably be the first and last time that she does.\n\nI'm going , although not staying with my parents. But after so long I'm just not sure what to say or how I'm going to react to them.  Bearing in mind that this will probably be the last time I see them also I don't want to say or do anything I will regret and certainly want to avoid going over old rifts.\n\nThe family dispute was nothing sinister is I have no worries in that front it was just one of those things that happens and I'm sure in hindsight we both regret the missed time but that doesn't, unfortunately, negate the reality .", "summary": "(M40) travelling to see parents for first time in 20 years following family dispute and am unsure how to react to them."}
{"id": "t3_1q9f39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25M] dealing with my GF[23F] of almost five years starting to have feelings for another guy.[UPDATE]", "post": "So first off I want to thank /r/relationships for their input on the situation. I spoke with my gf the other day openly and honestly and basically told her I felt disrespected from the whole situation and that I want things to work out as we've gone through too much and much more than this and came through. She explained to me that she was feeling like we plateaued in our relationship and that we were at a bit of a stalemate. I understand as she's already graduated from college and I'm about a year away from graduating. This is an issue because she actually is ready for marriage but I want to be done with undergrad first. After many tears we decided on a somewhat mutual break up with intentions of hopefully getting back together when we are a bit farther along in our lives so we can marry. With that said she can't promise that regardless of what happens we will be able to marry(if she meets someone and they hit it off and get together) but she still feels her future is with me just not right now.She says she just likes the attention the guy gives her but can't reciprocate them. Because of this she doesn't want me to wait around for her as I told her I cannot promise that right now as it's something is have to deal with myself. She wants to just be friends and I told her I can't do that. She knows that but can't not have me in her life. A lot more was said and spoken but that's pretty much the overall.She still loves me but can't give me the love that i want from her right now.", "summary": "We've broken up. She wants to be single and figure things out for herself and I have to work to moving on with possibility of not getting back together."}
{"id": "t3_4b5cii", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(FL) My Ex drove to my home drunk last night and vandalized my car", "post": "This morning I woke up to my landlord calling me and telling me my car had been scratched up, and profanity had been scratched into it. People in the front of the house heard strange noises around 1 am the night before, but when they went outside, they said the noises stopped. At first, I had no idea who would do this kind of thing to me. I called the police to file a report, and a number of my friends suggested it was my ex after I told them what happened. I filed the report, stating the only person it might be was him. \n\nThere was something weird about it though. I hadn't spoken to him in months, except for a brief accidental meeting at a farmers market. We were not in contact, and nothing (as far as I'm aware) sparked this behavior from him. I found out it was him because a few friends of mine who have him on FB told me he had been at a bar near my house the night before, posting up that he was \"fu**ing blasted\". Around my car were a bunch of big white, crystalline rocks that are not from around my neighborhood, which were obviously what he used to scratch up my car. Guess where they're from? The outdoor seating area of the bar he was at. I checked. \n\nI don't really know where to go from here. I am going to contact the officer handling my case and tell him what I know now, and that I am confident it was him... but beyond that... how do I get back the $1k-$1500 its going to take to fix my car, which now has \"B*TCH\" carved into the side of it?\n\nI am honestly afraid, and I don't know if I should confront him, or file a restraining order. He can be explosive, and since the breakup he has been borderline alcoholic. I can't even come close to affording the deductible on my comprehensive ($2500) or paying for damages to my car, so I need to take some kind of action, but I am afraid he will retaliate with something more serious than scratches on my car.\n\nAny advice would help. Thanks.", "summary": "Ex showed up at my house during the night, vandalized my car. I need to go after him for the $, but I don't know how and I'm afraid he will hurt me if I do."}
{"id": "t3_1xlrye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to treat a shy girl without scaring her away?", "post": "I (M20) really like this chick (F19), I've known her for a couple of years now and whilst we haven't been close throughout our entire friendship there's always been sparks every now and than.\n\nLately we've been hanging out a lot due to her friends and my friends morphing into one group and I really am thinking about making a move. \n\nShe is a virgin and has never had a boyfriend or anything but she is extremely attractive and has an awesome personality, she's just really shy and not promiscuous. I've heard rumours from her friends that she's had crushes on me in the past but it's always been when I've been involved with other girls or too busy with my professional life for me to act on it.\n\nI don't know how to treat this situation because I'm not sure if me coming on strong and dominant would fly with this girl, and I do not want to scare her off. \n\nAny advice on how I could go about this would he really appreciated.", "summary": "How can I avoid coming on to strong to a shy girl?"}
{"id": "t3_5158ft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 /F] with my [34/M] 3 year, Is it abuse?", "post": "I am a fiery Eastern European woman with a temper. I struggle with issues of dominance in my relationship. I want a man to take control and be the man of the house. \n\nOnly problem is, when in arguments I get so mad and try to win at all costs instead of saying \"yeah you're right.\"\n\nI always worry about money--I can't help it, that is just the way I am. Recently he caught me wasting $100 on lottery tickets and he called me out on it. I fought him and didn't admit I was wrong.\n\nToday he found a receipt for a breast-augmentation consultation. He yelled at me and told me not to spend $200 when I am beautiful the way I am.\n\nI still fought him and even got in his face and screamed at him. He grabbed me pulled me onto the bed and held me down. He told me \"Is this what I wanted?\" by getting in his face.\n\nI tried to punch him but I missed. He held me down and told me it was stupid to try to punch him.He didn't punch me back or try to. He held me tight and told me to calm down. It didn't help. I'm still angry. Now I don't know if this constitutes abuse???", "summary": "When is it over the line for a man to handle a woman?"}
{"id": "t3_4yfunr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] think one of my step brothers was in our room two nights ago.", "post": "My mom married my step father 6 months ago. It's now me and my twin brother and mom, and step father and two step brothers (16 and 15).\n\nIn our current home my brother and I share a room and our step brothers share another room. We have house rules that we won't go into each other's rooms without knocking and waiting for permission.\n\nTwo nights ago I was sleeping and was more or less waking up when I noticed someone going out of the room. At first I thought it was my brother but after waiting for him to return for a few minutes I checked his bed and he was sleeping in his bed. The door room was open which I closed at night. We always close the door at night.\n\nI told my brother but we don't know what to do. If we should tell our parents and if so, how. We don't want to start trouble but I feel like this should be addressed. I kind of feel slightly not safe.", "summary": "I think one of my step brothers was in our room two nights ago. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_35naua", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do you track your macros?", "post": "Hey everyone! So i don't really know where to post this, so i'll just start in the sub where i am the most comfortable with, this one.\n\nI have been wanting to track calories for a long time, and today i finally got off my ass, and started to read up on it. \n\nI managed to count the calories, proteins, carbs, and fats i needed, but now i need some way to count them.\n\n**I tried MyFitnessPal** but it kind of bugs me, since i can only put in 1g or 100g at a time, and i don't know if there is a setting to change that.", "summary": "What do you use to count/track your macros for the day?"}
{"id": "t3_3ac64o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining a 2 year relationship", "post": "Disclaimer that this happened around 2 years ago etc etc.\n\nAround 2 years ago I was pretty good friends with this girl and we had been texting and messaging for around a year and a half and it was all going good. Anyway, I was on the way back from some event with one of her close friends and I accidentally mentioned something about the girl I was texting. Now this is where I really fucked up and I still fucking regret it today. I then went and showed her some of the messages. So anyway she went and confronted the girl I was texting and told her all about what I had said which resulted in me receiving a few angry messages, basically ending the relationship.", "summary": "Spilled dumb secrets to someone's friend and ruined a 2 year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_17t80v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to overcome jealousy/curiosity about my girlfriend Ex's? [M21] F[20]", "post": "My girlfriend [20] and I [21] have been dating for over a year now. I love her more than I ever thought I could love someone. She says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, and I honestly might want to too. I know we are young, but we are truly in love. But I have always had a problem with jealousy/curiosity about her Ex's. I want to know about all her past relationships. How long did they date, how far did they go, did they love each other, what happened? I know this will probably just lead to a fight, but I think about it far more than I should. How can I put these feelings to rest?", "summary": "I am jealous/very curious about gf's past relationships trying to move past"}
{"id": "t3_1a4dy4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asking Girl Out At School's Gym", "post": "I finally introduced myself to a girl I see everyday at my school's gym a few days ago. We rotated a machine but didn't talk much as she was doing a circuit workout. Ever since I introduced myself, she's greeted me and I ask how she's doing, but nothing much after that. I see her every time when I'm at the gym, which is 5 times week, but don't see her outside of the gym. I've only really talked to her three times but have seen her multiple times before.\n\nAny idea of how to strike more conversations with her and possibly ask her out? She seems really outgoing and doesn't use headphones while working out, which makes her a little more approachable, but considering I haven't had too many conversation with her, it's a bit difficult.", "summary": "[20M] met girl at gym but haven't had many conversations, how/when to ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_24y6ri", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [24/M] be concerned about picture messages on my SO's [26/F] bill?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 years now, and have been living together for much of that time. We share a phone plan through Verizon. I went on MyVerizon because we are switching plans and I wanted to see how much data/min/txts we actually use. When I was checking out how many txts each of us use it shows what numbers each phone texted and received texts from. I am not the jealous type really, so I don't care who she texts but there was a few numbers that she was sending and receiving picture messages from. One was mine, one was a mutual friend, two were numbers from NJ (where her family lives, so I assume its her father or sister), and one local number. \n\nThe latest 3 picture msg exchange with the local number occurred on the very same day that I looked it up (yesterday). I went to check the last local number to see if I have it in my phone and I don't. My first thought was 'ok no big deal it could be a friend of just hers'. I later picked her up from work and joked about how many texts she sends, and I said, \"this month alone you've sent or received 20 pic msgs\". She said \"oh for you or my father or my sister\". I then asked when was the last time you sent one or got one, and she said \"about a week ago, maybe?\". I have proof that it was the same day, I doubt she forgot about that. I feel that if it was a friend she would have just said \"oh blah blah sent one today to me\". \n\nShe has always deleted all her txt/pic msgs, she says its because she likes to keep it clean. When I first found out about it I hated that she deleted them, but I got over it and trusted her with it. She has never really given me reason to believe she cheats or anything, but why would she lie about the pic msgs? I feel like its too late to ask her straight forward who is this number, so I'm not sure what to do. Any advise would be great it is really starting to make me feel paranoid and I consider myself to be pretty trusting.", "summary": "My gf of 7 years lied about receiving picture msgs that I saw she received through MyVerizon from a number I don't know, and I'm not sure what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_fo3xj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I want to make things better with my brother.", "post": "(crossposted from r/relationshipadvice)\n\nLong story short, I'm a female who has never gotten along very well with her older brother. Although things have gotten slightly better over the past few years, we've always been at each other's throats, and have even go so far as to get in quasi-physical fights. Part of my attitude towards him is that he has a huge sense of entitlement where he thinks he deserves everything in the world and doesn't appreciate what people do for him, and this has driven me crazy forever.\n\nLast night I had a dream in which my brother died and my grandma called me up to tell me. I woke up from this dream absolutely sobbing and realized that, although I'm not proud of his decisions, (quitting school, lack of permanence in jobs) I still look up to my brother and love him.\n\nHere's the issue: I would like to tell my brother how I feel, but I know from previous experience that he's just going to blow me off. Chances are, if I wrote him a letter, he would show it to his friends, or burn it, or whatever. Part of this probably stems from the fact that he thinks of himself as \"immortal\" and so he won't accept the whole \"I would miss you if you were gone\" talk.\n\nWhat should I do? Just try to accept the fact that we won't have a relationship, try to talk to him knowing that he will most likely blow me off, what?", "summary": "After having a lifetime of a bad relationship with my brother, I have a dream about him dying and realize that I still look up to him and love him. If I tell him, he'll likely blow me off."}
{"id": "t3_n24hj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Speed-friending (like speed-dating). What are your thoughts?", "post": "A few of my friends at college came in during their sophomore year, having taken courses at community college or a different university beforehand. By missing out on freshman year, they missed out on creating that group of friends that follows you throughout the rest of college. \n\nI thought that speed-friending might be an interesting solution. It would have the same idea as speed-dating. Have people meet lots of other people, giving each pair a few minutes to talk and introduce themselves. If they think the other person would be fun to hang out with, they would exchange contact info or something.\n\nI thought this might also be helpful for people that are moving to a new city because of work or some other reason.\n\nSo what are your thoughts reddit? Would this be something that you would be interested in? Would this be a horrible failure? Any other ideas or suggestions?", "summary": "Speed-dating, but for friendships. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1md8rt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] can't figure out feelings over ex [21M]", "post": "My boyfriend of 3.5 years and I broke up over a year ago, and ended on fairly good terms. We had dated through high school and made it to the summer after our freshman years of college before we called things off. He had joined a fraternity and didn't prioritize communicating with me anymore. It was a hard break up, not only because he was my first boyfriend, but because we grew up together. Over the past year, we've seen each other off and on, and have caught up over coffee a few times. I'd say we are friends still, and it's not awkward hanging out.\n\nI didn't have any issues with the break up emotionally (after the initial break up) until very recently. I keep having these vivid dreams where I suddenly end up at his house and explain that I'm still in love with him. They're always very dramatic and sad, and often I wake up crying. The worst part of it is that in my dream, he'll admit to the same thing and we'll end up back together. I didn't even consider the fact that I could still love him until these dreams started happening.\n\nI dated someone new for a few months during the last year, but they ended up cheating on me and dumping me. It wasn't until this happened that the dreams started happening. \n\nI'm not sure what to do. I don't know if I still love him, or why these dreams are so frequent. I have this feeling that I should talk to him, and explain how much I miss him but I don't want to come off as creepy, over-attached, or inappropriate. I think I still do love him, and I really do miss him. I just don't know what I'm feeling or what to do. Should I act on this or just wait for these feelings to pass?", "summary": "Should I contact my ex and tell him I might still love him?"}
{"id": "t3_540kth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M], at loss to find activities where I can enjoy myself and meet people.", "post": "Hello,\n\nFirst, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker.  \nThat being said, here is my little problem.\n\nI am currently completing my master degree and going to start a PhD in mathematics. I'm quite happy with my choice of studies as I have always been very interested in mathematics and physics. \n\nHowever, from a social point of view, let's say I didn't have the opportunity to meet a lot of girls in my field of study. I would certainly not describe myself as the most social guy on planet Earth but I am not socially inept and have built up some very close friendship over the years.\n\nI did not have the interest in finding a girlfriend in the past, partly because I was focused on my studies and partly because I felt I was not ready for it. Now that I do, I'm wondering what kind of activities I could do that would both interest me and be an opportunity to meet new people (not necessarily only girls, but with the idea of being able to meet some one day)\n\nI am not entirely focused on sciences, I quite like history and politics. For the latter, I considered joining political groups but the people I know who are involved in these kind of activities tend to have both strong opinions (which is something I respect) and a total abscence of empathy for other people opinions (which I respect ... less).\n\nThe main thing that worries me is that I have rather intellectual interests and can't seem to think of what kind of activities I could do (I should precise that I am rather open minded but to this day sportsy thingy are not my thing)\n\nI am quite sure that I have not considered every options and therefore I have decided to reach out to the reddit hivemind in hope you can help me!", "summary": "Mathematics PhD student, can't seem to think of a place where I can both enjoy myself and potentially meet girls."}
{"id": "t3_i3mhk", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Been on the treadmill for a while, decided to take things outdoors -- and I sucked!", "post": "I started to get into jogging about 3 years ago, purchased a treadmill and ever since I have kept up with 2-3 30m workouts a week.  My treadmill has a workout program on it, 2 miles in 30 minutes (not exactly a killer program).. but it gets me sweating and burns 300 calories, so I stuck with it for a long time.  Recently I got bored with it and started doing it a second time immediately after, so 4 miles in 60 minutes.  I then found that while it was a little harder, I would only stop because I tend to get blisters if I run too much (side-note: maybe I should use athletic tape?)\n\nSo after a few 4-mile sessions, I felt like I wasn't pushing myself very hard, and I decided to give the outdoors a try.  I've done this a couple of times before -- I knew it would be more difficult to maintain pace, the hot weather, and I would be fighting terrain / constantly dealing with navigation, as opposed to the auto-pilot mode I tend to go into on the treadmill.  So, I decided to work my way up, 1 mile for this first couple of sessions, then 2 miles, then 3 miles -- the problem is each session felt 10x harder than anything I experienced on the treadmill and I am starting to wonder if I should continue or not, or how to progress properly so as to not feel so terrible afterwards (aching shins, feeling like I'm ready to pass out, etc).  Maybe I should get a better treadmill routine?", "summary": "Same old treadmill routine is becoming a bore, and running outside is beating me up -- I need to find some middle ground to progress."}
{"id": "t3_3yasit", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Ulcer issues, should I go to instacare?", "post": "age 21 sex m height 6ft weight 190 race white location utah medical issues (asthma) (abuterol, methylphenidate, serataline, weed)\n\nI have had chronic stomach pain for months now on and off. This is the worst it has been. Yesterday after eating xmas dinner I have a shart upper stomach local pain. I am 99% sure this is an ulcer after research. \n\nMy question is this, the pain started at about 5pm last night and has been coninuous sense. Eating soup and taking tums has relieved the pain, but it comes back when they wear off. I am getting worried this is a very bad ulcer and may need surgery, it doesn't really hurt that bad, or more than any regular stomach ache, probably less, but it is localized and annoying.  I read that you don't need to go to emergency unless you have a couple of symptoms. I had red blood in my stool 6 days ago, but this was before the pain, and it was a hemmeroid in my opinion. The next bowel movement after that had red streaks, and then it stopped so I didn't worry about it.  Now my stool is darker brown than usual. I wouldn't say black, but I would say noticabley darker. It isn't tarry or loose or sticky at all or I would have gone to the instacare already, regular logs lol.", "summary": "Does darkened stool indicate that I may need to get the ulcer diagnosed ASAP? I have checked for fever and I am normal, no diarrhea for at least a week or 2."}
{"id": "t3_mmp3o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: A guy on the bus today...", "post": "A guy on the bus today was sitting down. A girl who was about 15 was standing in front of him, when she asked one of her friends for a seat. Immediately, the man (who seemed to be in his mid-40s) remarked \"You can sit on my lap\". Her reaction was just a very nervous laugh as she sat down with her friends. My mum, who was also on the bus, told the guy off politely, but he reacted by swearing and causing an argument. I told the guy to shutup, as did some other people, but he continued. I suddenly felt a massive urge to hit the guy as hard as I could, though to be honest, I froze up a bit (I'm only 14, fyi). \n\nAs he got off the bus, he announced that he had spent a few years in jail. Although I could tell he was 'not all there' mentally, it struck me when he said that. I had just been arguing with a pedophile. In hindsight, I feel as though I definitely should have punched the guy in the face, especially since I have 3 younger sisters. I am wondering, what was the best course of action in my situation?", "summary": "A pedophile was on the bus today and asked a young girl to sit on his lap. An argument ensued between him and a few other people, including myself and my mum. I felt an urge to hit him, but I didn't. Did I do something wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2pw7ge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] have developed a crush on a [20 F], but I'm worried whether the age gap makes it inappropriate for us to date", "post": "I'm a grad student who's turning 26 this month, and I've become attracted to this 20-year-old undergrad I know. We share some similar interests (eg we both do martial arts), and she's really fun to be around and talk to. I'd like to ask her out, but I'm worried that the 6-year age gap may be too large at this stage. All my friends in relationships are dating people with a 3 year or less age gap.\n\nDo you guys know of any positive examples of something in their late 20s dating someone around 20 or 21?\n\nI should note that we're in different departments. It's not like I'm ever going to TA a class with her in it or anything.", "summary": "Is a 26 M grad student dating a 20 F undergrad appropriate, or is she too young for me?"}
{"id": "t3_xf4b5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do?", "post": "Little back story. I'm Australian living in the uk, my visa is about to run up and I'm going through the painstakingly long and costly process of apply for an extensions. I'm staying to be with my girlfriend of a year who is an American and has 2 years left on her visa. She wants to stay in the uk for another year then move to Aus with me.\n\nThe other day I was at her place and she was out, but had left her gmail signed in. I know it was a massively bad idea but curiosity got to me so I peeked at her chat log. She has been chatting to some guy back home in the states rather seductively, even goes as far as to say if she were there right now she would suck him off under his desk.\n\nThis makes me sick to my stomach. What do I do? Do I confront her and tell her I have read her chat logs and see what she has to say about it? Do I pretend nothing has happened? I don't know how to react. I'm very much in love with her and I'm sure she loves me. Not sure if I'm misinterpreting this for somewhat innocent flirting gone out of hand. Or of I should be genuinely worried.\n\nMy inialtial instinct is to wait till it happens again then confront her, but just want to know some other opinions, don't feel like I can talk to anyone else about it in the real world.\n\nSorry for shit typing, on phone", "summary": "stupidly read gf chat logs to a guy in another country with rather full on flirting/innuendo. Feel like shit, want to know how to react"}
{"id": "t3_3j4xxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my bf [24] of 4 years, caught him looking at porn (naked photos of women) and we don't have sex often.", "post": "I had come over to my boyfriend's to stay over after work. We were hanging out watching videos together on youtube via his laptop. When he closed his browser, there was another window behind it showing a naked photo of a random woman (who had a very beautiful body. There were other tabs open but I didn't see them). He quickly closed it, obviously embarrassed.\nWhile we have discussed whether it was okay to look at porn earlier in our relationship, we hadn't talked about it recently. \n\nAt that moment I felt hurt and extremely uncomfortable. We don't have sex as often as we used to.\nHe told me a little bit ago that he's not as sexually attracted to me as when we first started dating due to the fact that he is so used to me. We see each other almost every day.\nMy sexual attraction to him has also decreased (though I still find him very handsome).\n\nAlthough I understand that we have been together for a while now and see each other quite often, I was still hurt.\nHe knew that I was coming over that day. He sent me a message saying how he couldn't wait to see me.. However he chose to masturbate to someone else's body instead of having sex with me.\n\nHe apologized, told me he didn't mean to hurt me. He said he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful.\nAnd because it hurts me, he decided he wouldn't look at porn anymore.\n\nWe both agreed that we do not initiate sex as often as we'd like due to our low self esteem/low confidence.\n\nTo add to this:\nMy sex drive has been pretty low and I hardly ever look at porn (maybe once or twice every month).\nHe said he looks at porn once a week.\nHe has imagined having sexual relations with girls he knows in real life (twice, so he says).", "summary": "My boyfriend left a window open on his laptop which showed a photo of a naked woman's body he used to masturbate to earlier that day. We don't have sex as often as we used to. We see each other almost every day. I have had low libido. He's imagined having sex with girls he knows in real life a couple times."}
{"id": "t3_3mc71x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my husband [27M] of 6 months, are in a conflict with his sister about not visiting her and her second child this year.", "post": "My husband's sister gave birth to her second child a few months ago. She was under the impression we were coming out for Thanksgiving, my husband recently explained to her we are not.\n\nInstead, we suggested next year in June. Now she is upset we are not visiting sooner to see the baby. She told my husband that when we plan to visit the baby, he will no longer be a baby (he won't even be 1yrs old in June). \n\nWe decided on June because my husband won't have classes for his MBA. I will have finished school and my teaching internship. Also June allows us to visit for 5 days rather than visit on a weekend. However, she thinks these reasons are all excuses. \n\nAre we being insensitive? Is it inappropriate to not visit a sibling's second child sooner?", "summary": "Husband's sister is upset we aren't visiting her second child this year. Instead we said next year."}
{"id": "t3_1cpuhg", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice: Possible MS, but boyfriend is being laid off. Here are our options. (x-post to MultipleSclerosis)", "post": "Okay, so first off, I have not been diagnosed yet. My first neurology appointment isn't until the 29th. I have a lot of the symptoms, and I've had an MRI, and my ENT has discussed the possibility with me, but I don't know for sure yet.  \n\nWhile this has been going on, my live-in boyfriend found out recently that he is going to be laid off from his job, because his company is closing the local location. However, he is being offered a chance to move up to a team captain position, with a small raise and a chance at becoming supervisor, at their home location two hours away from us. They are offering to help us move as well. He is strongly considering it.  \n\nHere's where I'm worried. With a possible diagnosis of something like MS, health insurance is going to be a must have. I do have some currently with my employer, but if we move then I will have to quit, and no more insurance. I can either get another job in this new city, or attend school full time at the university there. I was considering going to school already, so this option is appealing to me. But I worry about having to consider high-cost medications if it turns out I need them.", "summary": "Would it be a better idea for us to stay in our current city so I can keep my insurance in case of a probable MS diagnosis, or risk moving to a new city and trying to find another option?"}
{"id": "t3_j0jma", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I somehow get the other guy's scumbag insurance company to pay up without having to take them to court? details at 11", "post": "So, a month ago I was delivering a pizza at near 3 AM. I was at an intersection with a huge obelisk in the center, so you can't see the oncoming traffic. Because of this, there is a left turn arrow, and when it's red, you can't go. Anyway, the light turned green, I went straight, and the other people who weren't paying attention took a left in front of me when they shouldn't, and we collided, causing some bumper damage to my car and some door damage to his.\n\nNow fast forward a month later, and his insurance company won't pay up the $500 or so. They seem to be under the impression that it wasn't his fault. The thing is, it totally was. HE got a ticket, and I didn't. The police were right there on the scene. It's been brought to my attention that if you get a ticket, it's goddamn your fault.\n\nAnyway, what can I do about this? I don't think the $500 dollars would cover a court case and lawyer fees. Maybe some legal advice, eh?", "summary": "You won't be able to give any good advice without reading it, so just read it you lazy person. It's three paragraphs."}
{"id": "t3_f9x2u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've never had a male role model and feel like my personality is very lacking as a result. Advice?", "post": "This is a throwaway. Maybe this isn't the right place to ask, but I don't feel comfortable talking about this issue with anyone I know, so I thought I'd give reddit a shot at it.\n\nI'll get straight to it. I grew up my entire life without a father. My parents divorced before I was born and I've seen my dad only a handful of times since then (I'm a 23 year-old male) and never communicate with him. My mother never remarried. While this has affected my life in numerous ways, I want to focus on one that bugs me the most.\n\nI don't know who I am. Every guy I know is a unique person with known, constant personality traits. Each person generally tells the same kinds of jokes, has relatively steady hobbies and interests, and is just generally unique. I can see every single one of their fathers' traits showing through when we all hang out. I, on the other hand, mold my personality to fit the person/people I'm with because I don't have my own personality to default to. I feel like a male needs a male role model growing up and I've never had that. I can't even say my mother has been a sufficient substitute because she is pretty irresponsible in general. As a result of this, I am very reactionary when hanging out with my friends. Nothing comes naturally and I feel like I have to think through social situations that come naturally to everyone else, resulting in a very bland personality.\n\nI can tell it is not just my imagination, either. My friends and I jokingly make fun of each other all the time, yet I never receive any of the bashing. When someone pointed this out one day, we realized it doesn't happen because I don't really have any unique or distinguishing personality traits.\n\nThis affects me a lot. I don't actively look for relationships, friendly or romantic, because of this. I don't think I'm depressed; I just objectively don't think I have anything to offer personality-wise. I don't know how to act around *anyone*, not even the closest of my friends.\n\nCan anyone else relate to the situation I'm in and/or maybe offer some advice on how to fix this?", "summary": "I've never had a male role model and feel like my personality is very lacking as a result. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2ezj8t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not going to the girls restroom", "post": "For background, I'm a guy who's 16 and I have PE with a girl who's been flirting with me. She's the cheerleader captain and is in my grade (junior). We'll call her Zoey. In our PE class we have units and switch every month. This month we have physical fitness (stair climbers and treadmills in one room,  weight lifting machines in another, and another with a water fountain, a boys restroom, and a girls bathroom in the last one). \n\nThis is where my fuck up is. I'm benching and get tired so I go get up to go to the water fountain. As I'm drinking the water, I see Zoey come from the girls restroom. We both say hi and she asks if I want to join her in the girls restroom(barley anyone goes to the rest since it's only like 30 people in the class). You know what I say? \"I'm a guy, so I can't go in there\" and then I walk away.", "summary": "I walked away from getting my virginity taken away."}
{"id": "t3_24x4bf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate got arrested for downloading child pornography, what do I do? (Serious)", "post": "I was sitting in my room this morning, when I heard my trash can outside tip over. Thinking it was just the garbage men, I looked out my window to see around 15 police officers with guns drawn approaching my door. I announced my presence and the officers demanded I come downstairs and open the door. My beagle immediately freaked out, but the officers put me in cuffs and then shut my dog in my room because he was so frightened that he kept shaking, and the officers did not want to distress him (thank goodness, I've heard many horror stories here of dogs that were harmed in similar situations). They immediately questioned myself and two of my roommates that were there (we are all male, ~26 years old).\n\n     I assumed this was related to marijuana, because my one roommate and I smoke occasionally, but the police searched every room and left our clearly visible paraphernalia alone. Long story short, our roommate, who I have known for 8 years but has only lived with us for 2 months, was proven to have downloaded and shared 15+ pornographic videos of children ages 6-10, also one with a child under a year old. The officers were completely professional and were very understanding, informing us that this wasn't our fault, but I am just crushed.  I have been out of work for 4 months, so I spent literally every waking moment with this guy. My roommate was one of the most kind, generous people I have ever met, and I am flabbergasted to say the least. My other roommates and I don't know what to do with ourselves, but have decided that we cannot allow a known sex offended to live with us. But we also can honestly say that this was one of the kindest, most genuine persons we have ever known, and it has completely devastated us. We are angry because he threatened all of us by his completely stupid actions, but if he has never hurt anyone directly, we want to see him get the help he needs psychologically. I just don't know how I can continue allowing him to be my friend. Has anyone ever been in this situation and can offer some advice?", "summary": "My roommate got busted for downloading and sharing graphic child pornography, without any prior indication he had any interest in this whatsoever. This caused my other roommates and myself to be cuffed and questioned, and our whole house searched. How can I trust anyone if I thought I could trust one of my best friends? No matter what anyone says, there was no indication he would've been into such horrible activities."}
{"id": "t3_vwefi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I love my job but don't think there is much of a future with my company. I don't know of any other companies that do this sort of thing. What can I do?", "post": "This is a throwaway account. My real account could lead to details of my identity.\n\nI've worked for the local YMCA in my town for ~6 years. I work for the CEP program; my job is to watch over elementary & middle school children whose parents cannot pick them up from school until later in the day. During the summer, we have a day camp. It was a job I begrudgingly accepted with a rent payment looming overhead that I expected to hate and quit within a few months. In fact, it has completely changed my life, and given me some much-needed focus. Working with kids, specifically the older groups of kids I get to interact with (6th-8th grade) is a thing I could see myself doing for many, many years to come. Since I was old enough to be employed, I could not have said this for any of the twelve or so jobs I have held. My problem, and the reason for this post, is that there seems to be a singular path for upward mobility, and it is not one that I have any interest in.\n\nI want to do more for these kids, but I have no idea where to turn to do so. I don't know of any programs similar to CEP for middle-schoolers. I would love to start my own teen center, but I have no clue how to even begin that process. I thought I might want to teach, and am attending college with that career in mind, but I'm having real doubts about that. I'm not sure that 'teacher' is the role I want to play for these kids. Basically, I don't know what to do with this ambition. I'm not even sure what I'm expecting to come from this post. What I do know is that my future is working with kids in some capacity. Reddit, can you help me figure out what that capacity might be?", "summary": "I absolutely love my job, but disagree with the decisions of my company very often. I want to turn this job into a career, but don't want to do it the only way my company currently offers. I would LOVE the chance to start my own teen center, but don't really know the first thing about doing that."}
{"id": "t3_52jlir", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "32/F ~260lbs - I want to start swimming. Any pointers?", "post": "Hi /r/loseit,\n\nYou guys are a really inspiring bunch. If this kind of post is against the rules, please remove! \n\nI just moved to a new country and the loneliness and uncertainty is really exacerbating my bad eating habits and sedentary lifestyle. \n\nI don't actually know how much I weigh since I haven't owned a scale in a while, but it's not good. I'm 5'7. I just downloaded my fitness pal and I hope to start slowly but surely encouraging better habits. \n\nI turned 32 last month and in the last year or so I've actually been feeling my weight. My knees are hurting and my feet can't take me as far. I've been heavy for a long time but only recently have I been noticing the effects it has on me physically (not just mentally). \n\nOne thing I wanted to try is swimming. I thought it might be easy on my joints. And I have always been a bit of a water bug. I love the ocean and pools. I don't love wearing a bathing suit in front of others, but I've never done it in a gym setting. I've also never swum purposefully/done proper laps.", "summary": "What I'm curious about is if any of you guys swim for exercise. Is there anything important to know? Gym pool etiquette? Routines to follow? Any recommendations for appropriate swimsuits that come in plus size (and ship to/are available in Ireland)?"}
{"id": "t3_jcyv8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dog's chest is colder towards the medial portion than the lateral portion (just under the arms). Are your dogs' the same or is it just mine?", "post": "Sounds a bit weird, but I was sitting in my computer chair, and my dog jumped up on my lap and rested her arms on my collar bones so my face was propped right in her chest. I noticed that the temperature in her chest was a bit colder than closer to her arms. \n\nShe's short-haired, so not as much heat collects there as long-haired dogs. There's no physical signs of sickness, so I'm not too concerned. But, I googled this, and found nothing. So I want to know if Other redditors could tell me if their dogs are the same?", "summary": "Is the middle of your dog's chest colder than it is closer to the arms? Please tell me."}
{"id": "t3_3yhqm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] My religious parents [60M/61F] want to come visit me but I haven't told them about my boyfriend, or that we're living together.", "post": "A year and a half ago, I [22F] moved to a new city and moved in with my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 and a half years now. \n\nI am finishing up school soon, and my parents want to make a trip to come visit me. It's at the point where I can't really avoid the issue anymore. \n\nMy parents are very conservative Christian. They think that having a boyfriend is wrong, and sex before marriage is sinful. They believe unmarried people of opposite genders should not spend time alone with each other. Just today I overheard my dad telling my mom about a girl that \"shacked up with her boyfriend\" with a very condescending tone. My dad is also possibly bipolar, and overreacts to literally everything. \n\nEver since I went to college, I started becoming less religious, and mostly consider myself an atheist at this point. I think they know I don't go to church, but we don't talk about it. \n\nI have serious communication problems with my parents. I have never told them about any of my previous boyfriends, and they do not know that I'm in a relationship now. They obviously do not know that I am living with my boyfriend. \n\nI could really use some advice on how to go about telling them, or how much to tell them. All the secrecy and lying is causing me so much stress, but when I think about how to tell them, I freak out. I always feel like a disappointment to them, not to mention they think living together before marriage is morally wrong. \n\n I don't think it's possible to hide my boyfriend from them, but I could possibly keep them away from my apartment. What should I do??", "summary": "I've avoided telling my parents about my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Now we are living together, and my religious parents want to come visit me, and I'm freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_48zq6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M/23] break up with my emotionally abusive SO [F/26]?", "post": "Throwaway for obvious purposes. I've posted here a few times and you guys have always been helpful.\n\nOthers have helped me conclude that I am stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship with an insecure person. She'll lash out at me blame me for everything regardless of her source of stress or say I didn't do enough when so-and-so happened and then try to lure me back in by crying and being super sweet after she hurts me. All this time I've been thinking it's my fault or that I should have done better but I've finally come to the conclusion that I've done my best and that will never be enough for her.\n\nSo my question is: \nHow do I go about breaking up? What do you even say? I know this is such a stupid question and I feel embarrassed and almost un-manly asking this question but I'm afraid that she'll get angry at me or try to lure me back in by guilting me. I guess the hardest part is focusing on what needs to stop instead of being caught up on the times she was sweet to me (which is only when she's happy).\n\nI'M TIRED OF WALKING ON EGGSHELLS ALL THE TIME!", "summary": "Finally made the decision that I need to end this self-degrading relationship and need help going about it."}
{"id": "t3_z8l5c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Ruined my girlfriends 21st (21/f). X-post from /r/AskMen", "post": "Hello. I would just like to give you a gist of what's happening with me, and see if I could get any advice.\n\nI was at my girlfriend's 21^st birthday party and I had a mild spat with her. Nothing too serious, but we were talking later and I exploded and I told her that I never wanted to see her again. She went out crying to all her family and friends, and her sister kicked me out of the house at 5am.\n\nSo now, her family really hate me for me saying something stupid. We have had worse fights, but we worked through them together until now. All of her family probably have a horrible opinion of me now, and I don't feel like I can do anything to salvage this relationship. Have you got any ideas?", "summary": "Ruined my girlfriends 21^st, family hate me, break-up inevitable?"}
{"id": "t3_2vl0o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [26/m] is sending me [21/f] mixed messages, how should I handle this situation?", "post": "About 4 weeks ago, my boyfriend dumped me. This was completely out of no where, we never had a fight and we were so happy ( he even said that in the break up speech). To summaries, he said that he needed space, we're moving to quickly and he wants to see other people. Despite being sad initially I'm okay now.\n\nAfter three weeks of not speaking (expect one attempt by him via text saying 'hey', which I didn't respond), I messages him asking the best time to pick up my stuff from his place. \n\nWhen I dropped by to pick up my stuff, what should have taken 10 minutes lasted 5 hours. It was as if nothing changed. We did everything we use to do, we talked, napped, went out for lunch, holding hands. Now everyday, he'll text me and either ask the most mundane question or if we can hang out.\n\nOverall I'm extremely confused, although I was upset about the break up I'm okay with it now. If it wasn't out then why be in a relationship like that but now I'm unsure of what he wants from me? I want to have a talk with him but how do I so without scaring him away or seeming crazy?", "summary": "My ex boyfriend is sending mixed messages and confusing me. He dumped me because he needed space, we're moving to quickly and he wants to see other people. Now he texting me and asking to hang out everyday. When we do hang out, everything is the same...cuddling, hand holding, going out to eat, etc."}
{"id": "t3_1jzct8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I completely undateable?", "post": "Firstly, I apologize if I'm in the wrong sub-reddit, the rules seem to suggest this post is okay.\n\nI'm 21 year olds, and I'm a shy and quiet guy - at least when I first meet people, quite thin and socially awkward when I first meet people (due to severe bullying at school, 5 years ago). I have been told I look \"okay\" but I'm certainly not a Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise, probably a below-average looker at best.\n\nI have been told by my past girlfriends (nearly 4 years ago since I last had a girlfriend...) that I'm a \"nice guy\" and come across as \"very caring\".\n\nI have always had a strong desire to be in a relationship with someone but have always struggled to find the places to meet women and to actually have the confidence to talk to them and have anything interesting to say (I find it difficult to start conversations and keep them going).\n\nMy biggest worry is this 4 year period between now and my last girlfriend will turn into 10 years, then 20 years, then death.\n\nI think that because of school, and the bullying that followed me for more than 10 years during my time at school, I have no real concept of body language, what to do or how to do things and it's really frustrating.", "summary": "Socially awkward guy that isn't good looking or good at starting conversations wants to know if relationships are possible and how I would go about meeting people and keeping them interested."}
{"id": "t3_var8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my loving relationship set up to fail?", "post": "me 22: her: 21....I've been with this girl for 8 months and we are both in college. We casually knew each other last fall and started our relationship after hooking up a few times. Basically I have this problem with our relationship that might doom us one day... At this point in our relationship I love her and she loves me. There's no question there. The problem is that we are VERY sexual. In school we would sometimes go at it a few times a day when we could. This might seem strange but the only arguments we have had is about sex. Mainly me telling her at the beginning that we were having too much of it and she felt offended saying that she didnt think I found her attractive. I don't say anything now but sometimes I feel she wants to be around me for sex... even though I know she loves me as a person. \n\nSo with really no arguments except for sex I am just wondering if this relationship is set up for disaster or am I just crazy?", "summary": "I think my girlfriend and I mainly love each other for the sex"}
{"id": "t3_554qxj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is attempting a kiss on second date too soon?", "post": "I went on second date with a girl today, we had a good time. We held hands, great progress right? xD \n\nI'm not very good at the dating scene, a bit of a late bloomer so to speak :) \n\nSo I personally felt really good about our date and at the end when I was seeing her off i hugged her, and as I let go of her I also wanted to kiss her, I wasn't forceful or anything, didn't lean in very close but I did give her the vibe that I wanted to kiss her. \n\nIt didn't work out as I planned, she put her hand on my arm and just said \"no\" and that she would text me later. I was totally fine about it, it didn't faze me and I was totally cool about it. \n\nI didn't hear from her but I texted her later that evening saying I had a great time and would love to see her again. I didn't mention anything about my attempt to kiss her and just acted normally how we always do when texting each other. She has yet to reply which is weird as she always writes back really quick, but it's ok I'm pretty patient :P \n\nI'm kind of worried that my attempt to kiss her ruined my chances to see her again. The last thing I want is to make her feel uncomfortable :( That would totally suck. \n\nSo guys help me out here, is it game over for me? During the date we did talk about what to do for our third date and we were pretty much down for it. But after seeing her off today I got no text from her and after my attempt to kiss her it might have pushed her off? Should I have apologised about it in my earlier text? \n\nI know I might be over thinking it like most guys here, so I guess I will just do my own thing and write her again next week if I don't hear from her. \n\nFor people wondering, our ages are early, mid 20s!", "summary": "second date, we had a great time, started holding hands for the first time. At the end of the date when I tried to kiss her she stopped me. She didn't text me back after I wrote her (after the date) Should I be worried and maybe apologise about it? "}
{"id": "t3_3lvm1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "35 F being offered transfer to another department within a company, not sure how decline politely", "post": "I am being offered a position in another department. Manager approached me and I said I will get back with my decision. The function and responsibilities in another department are different from what I am doing now, although in the same field. I don't want to move because I am comfortable where I am and judging from other people it seems new place would be very new and hectic. I understand it might mean new opportunities for me, but I'd like to stay where I am right now. How can decline politely and make myself look as a good part of the team in the current department, which I am.", "summary": "Being offered a position in new department within a company, want to decline politely."}
{"id": "t3_3fui32", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Liking of girls while in a relationship Me 21M and her 20F", "post": "So I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half. This is the first relationship I have ever been in. I love it, I enjoy my time with her and I can't see anything wrong with what we have going on.\n\nI have been going out at night with a bunch of work members often to get food and chat and whatnot and I have started to notice one of my coworkers more. I guess I could say we have like a casual fun relationship and being out with her and coworkers I kind of started wondering like what it would be like if I had dated her or something like that.\n\nSo the question I have is, is it normal to think about being in a relationship with other people while you are in one. Again I love my girlfriend and I'm not saying I would leave her and I would never cheat on her either its just like something that crosses my mind when we are all out and I'm having a good time. Please give me any input, or let me know if I'm just like a scumbag or something", "summary": "I \"noticed\" a co-worker and I wondered what its like to date her instead of my GF is this normal or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2coeci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my ex [15 F]. I still think about her all the time", "post": "We were together for only a month and a week and she broke up with me a month and a half ago. I still think about her all the time no matter what I do. I try to find distractions and things to fill the void that is created but the wound never seems to heal.\n\nMy parents are divorced and I think that might be an issue and all my friends say it will just take time but i'm worried because my relationship was only so short yet I felt so attached and now I'm worried that time may not do any more healing.\n\nI know I'm still very young and have more relationships in the future but I'm worried that if I can't get over a one month relationship then how will I get over a year or maybe even a 2 year relationship.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me a month and a half ago. Still think about her all the time. Starting to worry that I'll never get over her"}
{"id": "t3_36kwo9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and my GF [19F] of 6 months just broke up because my mother still talks to my ex [20F]", "post": "Ok well me ad my girlfriend were absolutely great up until a month ago. She found out from a friend that I used to be in a extremely volatile relationship. In which me and my ex abused each other. emotionally and some mild physical violence. I cut all ties with my ex because of how I turned when I was with her and got help. When my current GF found out she broke up with me saying she was in a relationship like that before and was not about to get into another one. Long story short I won her back and we were happily in love. We started dating and everything was good.\nThat is until she found out that my mother still had a close relationship with my ex. She was extremely hurt. She started crying (she NEVER cries). She has been completely honest with me throughout the relationship and she was upset that I didn't inform her about my mom and ex's relationship. My mother really liked my current GF so she didn't want me to tell her their relationship. My GF was so hurt that I was keeping this from her, and so hurt that my mom was \"disrespecting our relationship\" her words. She broke up with me last night and I am incredibly heart broken. She told me to leave her alone and to not go see her at her job or home. What should I do? I love her and I want to win her back again. She said that she swears this time is over for sure. I know she loves me, I know I love her. What can I do?", "summary": "Kept moms relationship with ex GF hidden. Current GF got really hurt and broke up with me again......."}
{"id": "t3_nk2hw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is it like to grow old? Physically, what does it feel like and how old were you when you began to notice?", "post": "Im a 24 yearold male.\n\nThere are these steps in front of my friends apartment that are both, too long and too short to walk down properly without modifying your steps. I find that it works best to just jog down/up them as they are the perfect length.\n\nThis past weekend I was leaving his place and, as always, I ran up the steps. For whatever reason, once at the top, I turned back around and saw a man, about 45 years old, walking up the steps at a slow pace(comparatively to me) but not exactly at an elders pace. I instantly began wondering how he must physically feel as he didnt seem capable of running up exactly how I had done.\n\nBeing 24, the only thing I've noticed so far is my energy. I, at the age of 23, began taking naps for the first time in my life. In college, I was capable of sleeping 6 hours, going to class, work, then party that night. Sure I was tired, but it really wasn't a big issue. Now, after 6 hours of sleep and 9 hours of work, I drive home half asleep and actually nap (every so often) before dinner.", "summary": "How old we're you when you first started feeling the effects of old age? Physically, how does it *feel*?"}
{"id": "t3_4yitte", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Internationals working in the US: how do you save for retirement/invest money?", "post": "It's always recommended to start saving/investing as early as possible, but what should I do if I'm not sure where I am going to be in 5, 10 years? I don't have a green card, and my employer won't sponsor it in the nearest future. I don't know if I move to another country in a couple of years or if they just kick me out of the US when my visa expires.\n\nHowever, employer has a mandatory 403(b) retirement plan, where I can contribute up to 5% of my salary and the employer does 4% matching. The enrollment will start after 1 year anniversary of employment. They also have a supplemental retirement plans without matching.\n\nOr do I start investing, buying stocks and stuff like that? I don't like the idea that my money just sit in my savings account and do nothing.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "do I max out retirement contributions with the employer, even if I am an expat and I have no idea whether I stay in the US or settle down in the other country? Or do I start investing in other things?"}
{"id": "t3_3kbup7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am having trouble handling a breakup where I have to see my ex [17F] everyday.", "post": "We were each others first love and dated for almost two years (although the last year was full of arguments and fighting and sadness). Recently we separated. The problem is, we're both still in school.\n\nThe \"no-contact\" thing is what I want to do but I seeing her everyday is something I have a lot of trouble handling. I could be having a great day until I see her (whether by herself or with the guy she could never stay away from, even when we were dating) my mood goes south. I've tried not to let it get to me but it just brings back so many memories and sad feelings.\n\nI know I'm fairly young and new to love, but I am just being immature, or is there any way to handle this without feeling like complete shit everyday? Thank you so much.", "summary": "High school sweethearts who broke up, now having trouble having to see almost every day."}
{"id": "t3_l9avw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else ever look at the clock and always see the same time?", "post": "So, me and my roommate had this discussion earlier when I checked the clock to see what time it was because the bus seemed to be running late, and it said 4:20. Now, we aren't herbal enthusiasts or anything, so it's not like we were all \"hahaha 4:20\" but he made mention that he ALWAYS looks at the clock at 4:20 (maybe it's his mind giving him subliminal messages). I always look at the clock at 4:46 (relevant because in Guild Wars [I'm poor] all my characters had 446 HP with a Major Health Rune and a Superior <attribute> rune). So I was wondering if anyone else always looks at the clock and sees the same time frequently, by coincidence?", "summary": "who has a watch?"}
{"id": "t3_1m1k2w", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My marathon training peaked early, what should I do with the extra week?", "post": "I started running mid-January and my first marathon is this October 6 and eventually started following Hal Higdon's Novice 1 program as closely as I can. This program peaks with a 20 mile long run 3 weeks from race day. \n\nUnfortunately I've had a some problems following the long run schedule due to a sore calf interrupting one long run and bad weather interrupting another. Since then I've been playing catch up while still trying to balance the progress/recovery weeks. \n\nI ended up catching up with the schedule by jumping from 15 miles to 18, skipping the 16 mile week. Finally this past weekend I finished the 20 miler milestone a week ahead of schedule. So I've just finished the peak run and have a choice to make. Do I go for another hard week or add an extra week of taper?", "summary": "According the my training plan, I peaked a week early, what should I do with the extra week?"}
{"id": "t3_2cm4aq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I stop dating? (girl)", "post": "I know that I don't want a committed relationship at this point in my life. I'm busy with work and school, and I'm a quiet person in general who needs a lot of peace and quiet to recharge. I usually only feel like dating one or two days a week, sometimes less, but I can't find anyone who will honestly accept this. Guys tell me they understand that I'm not interested in a committed relationship, but within days or a week they assume/insist that we're exclusive and I have the option of breaking it off or trying to weasel my way back to freedom while not totally shutting them out. I realize that I have all the symptoms of being afraid of commitment, and eventually things start falling apart as if this were the case, but I maintain that the problem is that most people are too proud to accept these conditions or think I'm being coy. I like dating and meeting new people but I honestly can't handle more than a few days a week, and I'm sick of looking like a jerk trying to get my way.", "summary": "Should I dump my \"boyfriend\" of 2 months who is now guilting me about not seeing him enough and stop dating totally, or should I try to patch things up?"}
{"id": "t3_33h2dl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22f] boyfriend [23m] just informed me there is no way he would ever use male birth control", "post": "I know it's a ridiculous fight to have because it isn't available yet, but I was excitedly talking about vasalgel and how it means I wouldn't have to take hormonal birth control anymore.     \n    \nI hate taking the pill. It makes me irritable, it makes my period 2x longer (a week vs 3 days) and it makes me gain weight/crave food more. He knows all of this.    \n    \nHe said he would rather use condoms than take something that prevents him from having children, period. I am absurdly offended, especially because we talked about it and decided birth control was worth it because he hates condoms. So I guess it's only worth it if I'm the one handling other methods?", "summary": "Ridiculous fight over theoretical subject makes me irrationally mad. Am I just crazy or is this offensive?"}
{"id": "t3_3sgan7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Problems between parents", "post": "So I don't really know if it's right to ask for such kind of advice but I am still going to.\n\nSo I'm 17 and my parents are both ~40. Recently their relationts were rather harsh, they always fight and argue in a bursty fashion (no physical abuse nor direct insults). \n\nNow it always happens by the same pattern: I'm in my room studying, reading or whatever, they are in the living room doing their stuff. Then my mom leaves the living room in silence and my father tries to tell her that he is sorry but she just does not listen. Maybe it sounds like nothing serious, but when it happens 3 straight days in a row I'm getting nervous.\n\nI'm pretty sure it happens because my father is a bit too rude with his words, and my mom tends to overreact a bit, so noone is guilty, it's more of a mixture that just doesn't work out that well. \n\nToday it got a bit too hot, my mom was sitting in a bathroom for ~20 minutes and then decided to start packing as if she wanted to leave the house to go somewhere, but I've managed to talk her  our of that. When I asked my father about what had happened, he said that he wasn't minding his words to well. Again, no insults, it's just that he triggered my mom by saying somthing in a way that she considers to be rude. \n\nNow I don't think that my father is able to handle this on his own, because when this happens he just starts to brute force my mom with \"I'm sorry\" and \"I'll mind my words next time\" type of phrases which just doesn't work. \n\nThe question is how can I influence the situation on my own?\nIt's not common to get a psychologists help in our country, so this is not an option. \n\nIf I'm on the wrong subreddit please guide me to the right one.", "summary": "My mom tends to overreact, my father tends to be rude, everthing gets tense because of that."}
{"id": "t3_4ubom6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) have been dating my first boyfriend (20M) for a month and I want to break up.", "post": "You need to hear about my family and friend relationships first.  I have always kept people at arms length.  Never been real keen on opening up to anyone, even best friends or my mom.  I was always that person that people would come to for advice or just to vent, so there was never any room for me to show much below the surface.\n\nRecently, I got very very lonely and decided it was probably time for me to date again (been on dates, never had a boyfriend until this relationship.)\n\nI got on OK Cupid and met a guy that is basically perfect.  We have been going on dates for about 3 months but made it an official BF/GF thing last month.\n\nI am not feeling a connection to him, maybe because I am so unused to affection and he is very affectionate.  Maybe its because we dont really share any hobbies.  Either way, this relationship is hanging by a thread- or at least, I think so.  He seems alright, giddy even.\n\nI want to break up but I think its because of me.  If I have never been used to having anyone care about me openly, its natural for me to shut down at his displays of affection.  I also cant break up, or I guess I dont want to hurt him, because he is having a hard time with family right now.\n\nHe is such a sweetheart, and by no means does he deserve me half-assing this and leading him on while I sort out my feelings.  I dont want to hurt him by telling him how apathetic I am, but I dont even want to date him at this point.  What the hell should I do?", "summary": "I am apathetic about my first boyfriend after only a month of dating him.  He's very sweet and is having a hard time right now, so I dont want to break up and hurt him but I also dont want to fake it.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_321cfm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] kind of confused about my feelings for this girl [22F], maybe you guys can give me a run-down", "post": "Basically there's this girl I've been friends with for years now.  She's always really sweet, nice, cute, the whole bit.  When we go out in public, I notice guys checking her out, and even though we're friends, I like them admiring.\n\nNow, to make it sound less creepy, we are intimate.  We're just friends but we do more than what typical friends do, I'm sure you guys understand what I mean.\n\nA couple years ago, she told me she wanted a relationship with me and after we talked it out (I didn't want one due to my own issues) she said that was okay and we went about our usual business.\n\nA couple months later, she went off to college ~140mi away.  After she left, we've both been with other people, but neither of us can find anyone like the other. \n\nThe other night I got back from a party and I was laying in bed and she called me on Skype.  She was all done up for her soro formal and wanted to show me.  When we hung up, I realized that every time she hangs up, I miss her.... A LOT.  Moreso than I've ever missed anyone and I find myself thinking about her almost daily.  I told her how much I missed her last night over Skype and she blushed and said she felt the same exact way.  She asked me why I don't tell her that and it's because I don't like people to know how I feel.\n\nI told my bud all of this and he thinks I'm in love with her but I just haven't accepted that yet.  I don't feel like I'm in lover with her, but she does pretty much come first in my book.  She does more for me than anyone else and is my best friend, so don't think I do everything for her, if anything, she does far more for me.\n\nWhat do you guys make of it?  Am I just missing my best friend or is there more to it?", "summary": "Met girl at party.  She asked for tree fiddy.  It was about that time I realized, this was no ordinary girl.  She stood about 40 feet tall..."}
{"id": "t3_537n4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] single for 9 months on a 23-0 streak off asking girls out.", "post": "I never had much interest in relationships untill I was like 25/26. Never dated before. Met a girl online when I was 28 whom I dated for 6 months. Loved her more then anything in my life. \n\nReally heartbroken when she decided to end it because she rather wanted to be alone. (still is, we keep in touch but not to much because it still is to hard for me) \n\nSince the break-up I tried to go on dates to try and move on. I used Tinder and some more serious sites. Send out messages to girls I'd liked, got some matches. Long story short. In the last nine months I chatted/messaged with 23 girls. None agreed to go out for a drink in the end. \n\nI have no clue how to proceed from here. I feel like I have a good chance to find someone once I can actually sitdown and talk to a person face to face. But somehow I lose them all during our chats. I don't ask weird questions, I don't look like a creep so I don't see the problem there. I don't chase girls out of my league.\n\nOff course you have to try but after this 23-0 streak I like to have some tips.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_s46f5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Possible sexual harassment or a plain lie?", "post": "(Throwaway account)\n\nYesterday, a friend of mine told me via instant messaging following: she stated that at work her boss made moves on her, grazed over her cheeks, shoulders and hips saying she's cute and similar things. After work he also offered her to give her a ride home, she declined with the words that her boyfriend would pick her up any minute now.\n\nThis looks clearly to me as a case of sexual harassment and I have some ideas what I would do (legal counsel, since most lawyers offer a free initial counseling interview; using some sort of dictation machine, if the boss decides to make another move).\n\nTo come to a point, I'm not quite sure if she is actually telling the truth. You have to know that she has Borderline Personality Disorder and is per nature a highly manipulative person.\nWhat made me suspicious enough to post here looking for your advice was that she said it's OK for her that her boss does this (the feelings aren't mutual, by the way).\nAlso, she hopes that her boss stops his actions after she told him yesterday about her boyfriend (she has none, by the way, but I would have suggested this to her, if she wouldn't had done this already) to pick her up. Anyway, I have yet to find out what happened today.\n\nI feel like split between two \"realities\" and was thinking all day, how I could find out if she is actually telling the truth, since these are serious allegations.\n\nCould you think of any subtle questions I could ask her? You have to understand that I'm willing to believe her, but given the nature of her personality, I'm not quite sure. :O", "summary": "friend told me that her boss could have sexually harassed her at work yesterday. However, since she is a highly manipulative person (plus Borderline Personality Disorder), I'm not sure if I can believe this, although I'm willing to."}
{"id": "t3_1b6rpv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Life Insurance at a healthy young age?", "post": "I was talking to a financial adviser recently as I am about to take on a full time job was graduating from college in May. He went over the usual two cents that everyone seems to be talking about on this subreddit regarding paying off school debt, having an emergency fund, a moving out fund, and retirement account. But then he started talking about life insurance. Currently I am a healthy 21 year old and according to a pre-physical and pre-questionnaire quote I could lock down 250k life term insurance (for 20yrs) for around $15 a month. What is your feeling about this? It seemed to me the advantage is that the cost of life insurance while your healthy and young is worth it instead of waiting till you are a little older or get sick. In addition, what about the long term life insurance (forget what it is called)? I know it is a little more expensive but I heard they have payback programs of sorts.", "summary": "Should a healthy 21 year invest in term Life insurance?"}
{"id": "t3_mkzzq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit I have a sincere question. How bad of a fuck up is it to give a girl your number instead of ask for it?", "post": "I recently approached a girl and casually asked if I could give her my number so we could get to know each other. She laughed and smiled gave me a piece of paper to write down my number and she said \"I'll call you\". I smiled, and because I was in a hurry, left. Days have past, no call. So did I fuck up by not being confident enough to ask for her number? I figured since I didn't know her at all it'd make more sense to pressure her less by providing the trust and giving her my number.", "summary": "Gave a girl my number, she smiled and said she'd call. She didn't."}
{"id": "t3_11zplw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I (f18) show interest / know if he (m19) is also?", "post": "The past month I've been working weekends at a haunted house in my area. I started talking to one of the guys I work with and as the weeks have gone by we started talking more before / after work. Last weekend he offered to give me a ride home (I had been taking a cab because I don't have a car or a friend to drive me), and we ended up hanging out from 12am - 7am. \n\nWe originally wanted to see a movie that we thought was at 2:15am. While we waited we went to his house and played video games, then went to the theatre and found out we were wrong about the movie. So we spent a good half hour just sitting in his car in the parking lot chatting away, then we drove around and kept talking. \n\nAt some point during the night we brought up how we generally are friends with someone before dating them. We did a lot of talking about relationships and such, which is why I think he may be interested. A couple of times we would veer off into another topic and he would all of a sudden bring it back to relationships. \n\nThen we went on a walk through the park which lasted a few hours. By the time we were on our way back to his house, we were both pretty cold (he forgot a sweatshirt and mine wasn't helping too much) so he latched onto me so we wouldn't freeze. We stayed like that the rest of the time, only switching sides a couple of times. \n\nThe next night when he drove me home we ended up sitting in my driveway for roughly 45 minutes to an hour, until he was getting yelled at to come home. I got his number before he left and we spent the majority of yesterday texting back and forth. \n\nWe made plans to see a movie tomorrow, he has a friend coming along as well. \n\nMy problem is I don't want to seem too forward, but I don't want to seem like I'm not interested. So far he seems like a really cool guy. And  I want to know if it seems like he's even interested. My instincts say yes, but I'm not an expert.", "summary": "Spent a lot of time with co-worker, meeting friend of his at movie tomorrow, is there any sort of interest? How do I flirt without being too obvious?"}
{"id": "t3_1nwsay", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cold? Too bad, I'm in charge of the thermostat from now on.", "post": "I work at a dr's office in a building with other tenants.  We have three thermostats.  One of our exam rooms gets particularly cold, it happens to also be the room we do pap smears in.  Whenever my coworker, Maria, notices she has a pap (we don't do them often) she turns the thermostat to 78*.  We are in south Texas, it's hot and humid.  78* makes the entire nurses station and 4 other exam rooms hot and gross.  The building maintenance came in on Friday to check our air flow, they were getting a complaint that one of the offices (newly leased) was too hot.  Turns out that our back thermostat also controls that office.  I told Maria that maintenance said not to touch the thermostat.  I get to keep it at 70-72* without the whole back office getting hot.", "summary": "Make the office uncomfortably hot, nobody wants a sweaty pap smear, keep it brisk, get in, get out."}
{"id": "t3_3k7g6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] friend [22F] will not stop talking during class and it's driving me insane", "post": "I do a double degree at a university in Australia, and there's this one girl who I immediately bonded with in first year (I'm now in second year) because we were doing the same degrees and were in a lot of the same classes. \n\nI'm pretty hardcore for a straight-out-of-highschool student, and she's semi mature age, so we are both hard workers and get good grades. However, she will NOT STOP TALKING in class and in lectures. I'm a fairly quiet person and I can't stand it, she will talk at normal conversational volume in the lectures and the professors often shoot her bad looks but she NEVER notices. In tutorials she will talk in an almost-whisper and it's gotten to the point where it's too much effort to understand what the fuck she's saying so I just make non-committal sounds every few seconds and basically ignore her, but she just doesn't get the hint. \n\nIt's not like we don't spend time together outside of class either, we eat lunch together in the cafeteria and walk home together (we live close together) sometimes. I really like this girl, she's a great person and friend but I just really can't stand her constant interruptions in class. Also, I'm in a group project with her this semester so I don't really want to alienate her/upset her anyway, but I can't think of a polite way to ask her to stop. I'm not a confrontational person, I thought of sending her a text about it but that feels like a shitty thing to do. \n\nPlease help, I can't stand this any more!", "summary": "My friend keeps talking in class, how do I get her to stop without upsetting her?"}
{"id": "t3_2hg21p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] has unexplainable angst when my new girlfriend [ 18 F] is away and i cant understand why i have it and it is making feel really bad.", "post": "Hey reddit, I have a problem that is really strange. I got together with my girlfriend probaly just about a month ago, she is smart, funny and I really love her. Whenever I am together with her we have an amazing time and I am really happy with her and everything seems just fantastic. \n\nBut I have a problem I just CAN'T understand, that has nothing to do with her, it's something I've completely made up in my own mind and i just can't understand where it comes from.\n\nWhenever she is gone I feel really anxious and start to think about how she has had sex and made out with guys before we even noticed each other or even were interested in each other and I feel really bad about it, to an extent that i have trouble sleeping.\nI also feel anxious if she doesn't answer to a text that i wrote, and I get scared that she would leave me or anything, I just can't understand why I feel this way. I've had a girlfriend before and I didn't have this problem. I'm not really sure what to do because this is just things that i make up in my mind and I really have no reason to feel this way.\nwhen we are together all these worries disappear and we always have a super great time together, but later when we haven't seen each other for awhile these thoughts come back and I really can't understand why!!\n\nI feel really bad for her sake aswell, because it's nothing that has anything to do with her and I just wan't to get these Irrational fears away because it's extremely infuriating.\n\nAnd I don't want to say this to her because there is nothing that gives me any right to have these fears and it has absolutely nothing to do with her, it's strictly something that I create in my own mind.\n\nIf anyone had the same problem or anything please tell me what to do!", "summary": "I feel really bad for irrational things when my girlfriend is gone"}
{"id": "t3_1fb3vc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can my SO [29M] and I [20F] be more sexually supportive of each other?", "post": "My SO and I have been together a little over four months. This doesn't sound like very long, but things progressed fairly quickly. For the most part, our relationship is good. We have a lot in common, enjoy each other's company, and just have similar personalities. We do have messy arguments once in a while, but that's for another day.  \n  \nOur sex life is great, to say the least. We're in sync, like the same things, communicate, feel comfortable with each other's bodies, etc. The trouble comes in here. I just started a new form of birth control about a month ago (nexplanon). The side effects from this haven't been a big issue, except that sometimes I spot and my sex drive as been on the low side. Before this, I would pounce on him all the time. I couldn't get enough. We still have sex more often than I think is normal.  \n  \nNow, when he gets in the mood and starts initiating, I'll sometimes kindly cut him off, because I'm just not in the mood. When I get in the mood, I will start to initiate. If he doesn't immediately reciprocate, I'll ask him if he wants me to stop. He's told me this is a difficult question because even if he's not really in the mood, it still feels good and isn't going to ask me to stop mid-blowjob. He's expressed to me that he feels there's some hypocrisy going on. I also want to note that sometimes all I need is a little physical convincing. Sometimes, I don't want him to physically convince me. I think this is what is confusing and frustrating for him.  \n  \n*My question is, how can we avoid feeling hurt or rejected when one of us doesn't want sex? Am I in the wrong for initiating physically in this situation? How can I let my SO know that since I'm on hormones, I feel a little more entitled to veto power? Am I wrong for feeling entitled?", "summary": "My SO and I are having difficulty dealing with when one of us is not in the mood. There are some sore feelings and talks of hypocrisy.  "}
{"id": "t3_2ogc2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [23F] Over 3 yrs, we both cheated but we still want to be together", "post": "We've lived together for 3 years ever since we first met in person when I visited her in Canada, started online then we met and haven't been apart since, save for a few weeks here and there.\n\nI ended up doing it first, with an older women I used to have a close relationship with but we were only ever just phone friends cause she lived far away and we both knew an in person relationship would never happen. One night I was saying hi to her and without thinking I was talking to her like we used to and it was a huge mistake that I never meant to do. My girlfriend found out couple months later when she found the texts on my phone.\n\nNext year after that happened she started exchanging pictures with random guys online, she said she started doing it for validation and nothing would ever happen. I had a hard time trusting her after that and would check her phone every once and a while, but found she was deleting things and I confronted her about it, she was still doing it after I found out. \n\nTonight I also found out that while she was visiting family she had actual sex with someone else, and that it happened shortly after the first time I discovered her doing it. It was terrible because both of us feel as if we've been improving for weeks now and getting back to a time when both of us were very happy with each other.\n\nI'm not really interested in hearing other people talk about how we should just bite the bullet and break up because she and I discuss that enough and neither of us can or want to do it.", "summary": "I cheated first and stopped, year later she started but hasn't really stopped but still want to get past it and be happy with each other again, how can we both move past this and start trusting each other again?"}
{"id": "t3_1ulusb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How unhealthy is my[M23] relationship with my ex gf (F21)?", "post": "Long story short; we were friends for about a year before we got into a relationship. 5 months in we started living together, and she broke up with me after our lease was up. Lots of arguing but she pretty much just dropped me off the face of the earth. \n\nThat was August. We had no contact until 3 weeks ago. She said just friends. After going out once and texting a bit, we had sex on New Years, and she stayed at my place for the whole day after. We've seen eachother a good bit, but not as much sex as I'd like. I don't love her anymore, but she still gives me that fufilment somehow.", "summary": "after being with ex for over a year and living together, she drops me cold turkey after an era of arguments. 5 months later she breaks silence. Been talking about 3 weeks now. Not as much sex as I'd like. I'm not in love anymore, but somehow addicted."}
{"id": "t3_ipxhd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long should I wait for him to propose?", "post": "I'm 25/F he is 26/M We have been living together now for over 2 years, and have been together for over 3 years. Marriage was never a touchy subject until recently. We would openly discuss getting married, he talks about it, I talk about it. However, nothing actually happens. When the topic turns serious, He tells me he is scared, he cant afford it, etc etc. I feel like I am settling due to his needs and reasons, but what about mine? I want to marry him, I love him, to the best of my knowledge he loves me. After this long of living together there isn't anything else I can offer that he doesn't already know or hasn't seen. This is affecting the other aspects of our relationship, because it makes me feel angry and resentful that he wont take the next step. I don't know if I am just overreacting or if I just need to be patient and wait it out.", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't want to get married after 3 years for various reasons. This is creating resentment and the resentment is ruining other good aspects of the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2mr1u8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm a not so smooth 19M currently crushing on a 17F and need some advice", "post": "As the title says I'm not smooth in any way with women, talking with them occasionally turns awkward and I usually run out of things to say. So I'm looking for advice on how I should start a conversation with this girl, continue it, and leave her wanting to talk to me again. So far every time we've talked (we talk on Facebook) I've began the conversations, and they've ended kind of abruptly, usually with her either not replying or her giving an awkward \"later.\" Is this her saying \"give me some room and don't talk to me so much,\" or am I just being paranoid? I would also like to know what signs to look for if there are any obvious ones, like ones that I should take as a sign to leave her alone, or ones that spell out \"ask me out already\" in mysterious girl talk.", "summary": "I need help continuing conversations with this girl and want to know what signs to look for when she wants to be left alone, or when I should ask her on a date."}
{"id": "t3_13k2qw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the stupidest thing you've done to break a bone?", "post": "Here's my story, I was at a Wednesday church service and it had just let out, all the kids were sliding on their bottoms down the large grassy hill in front of the church. There was nothing too dangerous, or so we thought, about doing it and the parents seemed fine with it. Well holding the large grassy hill in place were large railroad ties and past them was a sidewalk and the parking lot. I was sliding and have a merry time when I got to the hill a final time and my friend pushed me back down. My sandal slid off my foot halfway down and suddenly I was in a enormous amount of pain. I look down and see that my foot had caught and been ripped up the middle by a rogue spike sticking out of one of the ties. I was bleeding pretty good and was in a bit of shock seeing it all. I tried to stand up and smashed my now split open foot right on a spoiled coffee creamer laying on the sidewalk. So I not only was bleeding, in pain, scared but now smelled of awful spoiled milk. \n\nI went to the ER and got x-rays and found out besides the obvious tearing I had broken 3 toes and a few bones in my foot. After they stitched me up it took a few months to fully heal. It was an all around bad experience and I never went back to that church or slid down a grassy hill again.", "summary": "Grassy hills are for the devil!"}
{"id": "t3_2fb57a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating: Me [21 M] her [20 F] rebound, feelings, and mind games... Help.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now, a week before we started seeing each other her bf broke up with her and she slept with two guys. She says I'm not the rebound but I figure I am but I'm all good with it but she's sort of a rebound to, except that I'm starting to get feelings for her. \n\nNow I'm starting to get super mixed signals from her because one minute we will be texting like we are in a relationship and everything is perfect and she tells me it is and the next she won't text me or she'll talk to me about how her ex did this or how some guy wants to sleep with her. \n\nShe told me she has feelings for me and she wants to get to a relationship at some point so all of this is playing with my head. \n\nCan someone explain what's going on and what should I do?", "summary": "I'm starting to like my rebound but I feel like I'm getting played with"}
{"id": "t3_244z0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F], are having an argument about social roles and need a third party(s) opinon.", "post": "My girl friend who i am in a long distance relationship with asked me if it was fine for her to go out with one of her Ex's, who planned to come down and see her in a few weeks. From what she has told me this Ex still have feelings for her, and has been the topic of a few of our discussions, when he's said some very,sexual things to her. When she asked for my opinion on the topic i told her it was her decision on whether she wanted to go or not.\n\nThis apparently got her very upset, and the argument ensued. She sent me a text later saying i shouldn't have given her a choice and should have just told her No, from the start of the conversation. She said that she should play the role of the woman and i should play the role of the man, which means being more aggressive with her.\n\n This is something i'm always doing in the relationship, but i don't feel as though i should be telling her what to do all the time as shes a grown woman (at least in my opinion). i cant understand why she is so angry that i gave her a choice, and now i'm wondering if it really is my fault.", "summary": "Was I wrong to give her a choice in the matter, and do you think social roles are still very important in a modern relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_21v4z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [20 F] 1.5 year, how do i stop checking out other girls", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nWhenever I'm out in public I can't stop checking out other girls. \n\nWhen we are together everything is perfect and nothing can go wrong, but the second I go a bar with my buddies who are single something takes over me. We are both happy with each other and this could be the person that I could marry, and we both want that for each other.\n\nFor example, I went out to the bar this past weekend and it was crowded everyone was having fun. So me and my friends were having a good time and start talking to this group of girls nearby. We hang out for a while and I end up getting her number. Obviously my gf was not happy and I was pretty drunk when it happened. Im not happy with what I did but it just seems like something takes over me when I have a few drinks. I enjoy drinking socially and admittedly I drink too much sometimes. But I am in college and i am a senior so I want to enjoy the \"glory days\" while I still can. \n\nEventually I want to mature and settle down with this girl but if I can't make it there I will end up losing this girl.", "summary": "great relationship, still looking at/interested in other girls"}
{"id": "t3_2edwk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/f] girlfriend and I [18/m] have just recently entered a long distance relationship and I cant stop obsessing over her.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships. My girlfriend of 14 months has just recently begun her freshman year of american univeristy in DC and I am still here in PA. And I can't stop obsessing over her. I feel so creepy because I am constantly checking my phone to see if I have a message from her. Or on social media like FB to get an update. And I can't stop I just miss her so much and it has only been a week of this. \n     I am diagnosed medicated bipolar 2 with anxiety disorder. I am ALWAYS anxious and its causing me to always be in depression. its been getting better. But I don't know what to do. She is the party kind of girl and is very sexually active. The other day she mentioned she wanted to go to a frat party and I am so worried about her getting drunk and cheating on me. Its driving me insane I am always worrying about the stability of our relationship even though its great. I am just so crazy I cant move past it. I am getting so jealous of her new guy friends and even though I KNOW they are just friends I can't stop thinking about if she likes them or not. I am litterally going fucking crazy and I can't go back to the way things were. I dont know if I can do this. All I feel right now is that I am holding her back from meeting a guy who makes her happy and can please her. someone who can be apart of her life. even though she loves me and wants this to work as much as me. Please can someone help me I am so lost. I want to be normal.", "summary": "I can't stop obsessing over my new long distance girlfriend and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_47xqhn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with a Girl i just recently started talking to [19 F] Seems interested in me, But never replies", "post": "We have had One really good conversation, I did just recently start talking to her a week ago and she went up to visit people in the bay area where she use to live. She finally texts me back I ask her on a date she says yes, then i reply something like \":) okay, Ill try not to bug you anymore while your visiting old friends/family have fun on your trip\" she texts me back somewhat delayed saying \"noooo its okay i like talking to me bug me whenever you want\" So we have a little conversation after that she stops replying pretty quickly then I send one text like a hour after she stopped replying. She never replied tot that so the next day I text her once. How often is it okay/Acceptable to text some one when your not getting replies in this situation i originally planned not to text her today and wait til saturday/sunday when shes on the tail end of her trip/ coming back down to where i live", "summary": "New girl started talking to on vacation kinda Doesnt reply a ton but Says she likes talking to me/text her anytime how often is it acceptable to text her"}
{"id": "t3_3a77f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Figured out my [M22] college 'family' will be seperating much sooner than I'd like. Pretty depressed about the whole situation.", "post": "I'm really blindsided by this whole thing. I was under the assumption that I was going to be living with the people that were basically my family for the past 2 years until next spring. I recently got word that the people owning the house we re living in want to sell the house in august. I figured we d all have the summer together still but now it seems like the people that I was closest with are going to be leaving in 2 weeks. I seriously haven't cried in years until today. Like I said these people have been like family to me and have helped me do much in getting over my anxiety and depression and becoming the person I want to be. I'm just shocked by this situation now and kind of terrified that all of the positive things I've learned are going to fade away once I go seperate ways from my roommates. Some of them will stay in the city Im in. Others I might never see again. Thinking about finding another place to live makes me want to throw up right now. I knew this would happen eventually...just not like this. I'm not sure what advice I even need right now. Im afraid that Im not going to find another place to live like this or group of friends like this again. I'm afraid my life is going to fall apart after this summer. I'm afraid of feeling alone and weak like before. I just want the fear to go away.", "summary": "My long time roommates that have helped me through rough times are parting ways and I'm afraid that Im going to be very lonely/depressed."}
{"id": "t3_q34et", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unemployed genius...", "post": "Okay, I'm no genius, but I'm smart enough to know that this title will draw in people.  So here's the story, I graduated from a top tier engineering school, but I can't find a job.  Warranted, I graduated with a Bachelor's of Science in Liberal Arts/Digital Media essentially.  I've been stuck in a rut for the better part of 7 months, and I have exhausted damn near every viable career option.  There have been phone screenings, Skype interviews, and there was even an offer for an internship, but I couldn't make the deadline for work because I was in the middle of moving.  Funny side note, for one Skype interview, I pointed out a flaw in the preliminary test they issued, and the recruiter/CEO became so embarrassed/frustrated once he realized the stupidity of the question that he shut his laptop (He arrived at my explanation when he tried to walk me through the question).  Anyhow, I don't have the tools to further my portfolio because they were provided by my school, and I can't afford them since I don't have a job.  \n\nMy folks want me to go back to school, but I don't know if I'll get into grad school because my school raped my GPA because the ridiculous standards, which no one seems to comprehend...My last two years were where I did best too, but no one cares about that for some reason.  Basically, it looks like I'll end up going to a community college for some course work.  Don't get me wrong, that is fine, but this transition is just eating away at my soul because I reviewed some of the course curriculum and I already understand everything that they are trying to explain...Are there some other options that I've just neglected?  Btw, I can't get a part-time job either because the employers expect that I'll be gone within a week or two of hiring me even though I tell them otherwise.  So now I'm stuck doing odd jobs & freelance work as it comes down the shoot.  Sorry if this story came off pretentious..., it's been a weird couple of months.", "summary": "Graduated from a top tier school & jobless for 7 months...help?"}
{"id": "t3_2etqb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (22M) fight for and pursue her (20F) or just let it go?", "post": "Started talking to this girl earlier this summer, there was obvious chemistry between us. However (unbeknownsts to me)she was still talking & hanging out with her Ex-boyfriend who wanted to take a \"break\" at the beginning of summer. But I had my suspiscions from the start about them...\n\nWell things are moving along and I eventually asked her about the other guy and she told me about the break but how he now wants to get back together. She also mentioned that she wasnt expecting to like me so much and now she doesn't know what to do because she doesnt want to hurt either me or him....\n\nSo last night she came over to talk and basically said that she is letting both of us go and not choosing either since it is the easiest way...she then left but we kissed before she went out the door and then she said later in a text she really likes me and that I am a great guy and part of her is sad that she can't be mine.\n\nMy question is...Do I let her go? Give her time? Should I try to talk to her again and tell her I am not giving up and screw the other guy its his loss?", "summary": "Girl I like was still talking to her ex-bf after they broke up, met me and didn't intend to have such strong feelings for me. But now the ex-bf wants to get back together and she didn't want to hurt either of us so she is letting us both go."}
{"id": "t3_1h1f4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28f) have just been shafted by my \"best friend\" (29f)", "post": "Okay, so I've been best friends with her for 10 years. I've rescued her from an extremely abusive relationship, and set her up with her current fianc\u00e9. The relationship has always kind of been one sided, but this was the final straw that broke the camels back. (I had an emergency surgery in January and almost died. She came to the hospital, stoned as fuck, and that was it. I was at home for a month recovering and she didn't call or come see me at all during that time. I couldn't drive or ride in a car almost the entire time, and she knew that. But she made no effort to try to see me or anything. That's when I knew things were going downhill fast.)\n\nI broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years yesterday. Automatically I send her a message stating such. She said she would come to my rescue with a bottle of liquor and some extra goodies. This was at 830 am. I told her I would be leaving work early because I couldn't focus, kept crying and was just miserable. I told her I would let her know when I left so she could come to my house. At 1130 when I was able to leave work, I sent her a message letting her know I was leaving and it was okay to head over. I hear nothing from her but I know she's read the message, as we both have iPhones with read receipt turned on. At 2, I ask her is she's on her way. Again, she reads but doesn't respond. \n\nI sent her a message this morning that simply said, \"Thanks for leaving me hangin yesterday. I really could have used some support.\"\n\nI'm crushed, obviously. I feel as if I've lost both my boyfriend and two best friends in the same day.\n\n/r/relationships, I just needed to vent.", "summary": "I got shafted by my best friend on one of the hardest days of my life. Just needed to vent."}
{"id": "t3_qauuh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I am humbly asking you to act before our community turns into a circlejerk of abusers and trolls!!", "post": "I am talking about how mod abuses are rampant throughout subreddits and there is so little we can do. \n\n**I say give us the right to vote to elect and unelect a mod from subreddits!!!**\n\nOnce of the recent case is: [/r/lgbt](/r/lgbt) community being moderated by an unstable mod [Read it here.](\n\nOne of the **worst case** is [/r/catholic](/r/catholic) an active community which was completely taken over by group of trolls. One of the troll mods [thedevilsdictionary] who used to be an ex mod for [/r/jailbait](/r/jailbait) replaced the header to include the picture of a half naked boy. Most posts made there now include references to underage sex. Sooner or later it will turn into another JailBait but this time hiding under the excuse of religious jokes. Reddit is already gaining a bad rep over this issue, please don't encourage these behaviors or keep quiet and let it get worse.\n\nWhat still baffles me is when [Vortilex] contacted the admins, the control was handed right mods but it was given back the trolls claiming that the admins din't have control over the community. Has it come to a point where admins only take action if the media is involved? This has been going on over 6 months now and many have raised concerns.\n\n**So please if you can keep the differences of religion and beliefs aside and view this as a plea to saving this great community from abusers and trolls. Kindly, upvote it to get some attention. **\n\n**Since this is a self post, there is no karma to be gained for me.**\n\n.", "summary": "Mod abuses at /r/lbgt... trolls take over [/r/catholic](/r/catholic) and is now filling up with underage sex references and might turn it into another [/r/jailbait](/r/jailbait) especially since one of the mod is an ex-mod for [/r/jailbait](/r/jailbait). We call for voting style election for mods."}
{"id": "t3_4ex0le", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/F] told a guy [20/M] I like him, now we're sort of lacking communication. I feel like my self confidence shattered.", "post": "His answer was very gentlemanly way. He didn't reject me, he actually kept on asking me questions and suggested movies to download after I told him. I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. Then the conversation sort of mellowed down. I want to ask him a lot of questions but it might make me look clingy. He's very quiet and very shy. People are actually surprised that he's talking to me because he's afraid of girls (his body figuratively shook when one of my girl friend asked him about school stuff before). \n\nI think my self-confidence went down ten levels because of that, and now I'm trying to regain it. What do I do?", "summary": "Told a guy I like him, responded positively but things sort of froze. My self-confidence fell."}
{"id": "t3_3gw9b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30s F] with [30s M], how do I overcome my fear of intimacy issues?", "post": "ETA details: Me: F, mid-30s, him: M, mid-30s, length of relationship: 0 (not really a formal relationship yet)\n\nI have been chatting with this guy for 2 years on the internet, we met in a common online interest chatroom (not dating website). I recently got a chance to travel near him and we met up once for a whole day. This time we are planning to meet up for a whole weekend, staying in separate hotel rooms.\n\nI am terrified of the meeting. He wants to know me better, but i feel terrified of getting close to people. I feel if the less-than-ideal parts of my life come up in the conversation, he won't like me. I feel like running away and avoiding any more-than-superficial conversation because I don't feel like revealing the imperfect parts of myself. It causes me enormous anxiety and makes me want to give it all up rather than staying and tolerating the stress and making it past this stage.\n\nWhat things should one tell by the second meeting? These are rather long meetings because we live several hundred miles away and have to travel to meet. I am self-conscious about two things in my life - one that I am estranged from my family, which is the short version, but the long version is nuanced and will take time to tell, and it is probably too soon to tell the gory details. The other is that I am divorced. Both these issues might imply some baggage, and these have caused me issues, but when should I tell, and in how much detail should I tell?\n \nI really like this guy and think he is a good person, so I would like to do this properly and not sabotage this potential/budding relationship.", "summary": "I tend to run away from in-depth conversations and fear intimacy; how do I prevent myself from sabotaging a budding relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_18cnu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [22f] keep dreaming about cheating on my boyfriend [24m]?", "post": "For the past month or so, I have been having vivid dreams nearly every single night. These dreams almost *always* involve me at least kissing, and sometimes banging, a dude who isn't my boyfriend. Sometimes it's someone I actually know, other times I've never seen him before. The dream always ends with me waking up in a moment of panic, thinking \"oh my gosh, what have I done?!\" until a few seconds later when it sinks in that it was just a dream and I didn't actually cheat on my perfect, wonderful boyfriend.\n\nI don't understand where this is stemming from. I'm an incredibly faithful woman and I would never dream (well, figuratively I guess) of cheating on my boyfriend. I love him and he completely satisfies me sexually, although I only get to see him once a month or so because we're long distance.\n\nAny idea why this might be going on?", "summary": "Keep having dreams every single night where I get physical with men who aren't my boyfriend. Wake up in a panic thinking I really cheated on him. Is getting annoying. Why is this happening?"}
{"id": "t3_uf5ih", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I live in a shitty small town, what does reddit think about my story?", "post": "I live in a small town. I will not provide the name of this town because I do have friends who are avid redditors. \n\nI have lived in this town for about 8 year now and as time goes on, it just gets worse and worse. My friends are starting to get involved in drugs and the \"cool\" kids who are heavily involved in drugs and alcohol are complete douchebags that take advantage of girls, they ruin their lives. \n\nI just recently went through a bad break up. My ex lied to me about pretty much everything. It has been a month and she has had 2 boyfriends since. I believe that I am a pretty good guy. I stick up for people, I don't do drugs and I don't drink. I've never taken advantage of anyone, and I think I'm pretty fun to hang around. Yet I get trampled on. This whole system of who gets the credit is fucked up. I get bullied and made fun of because I do things that are right. I stand up for people who do right, and I criticize people when they do wrong.\n\nI am going into my senior year in high school and the past couple of months have been very hard for me. I am a part of National Honor Society but I nearly failed 2 classes. I've never even come close to failing before but this town is taking it's toll. \n\nSo, to wrap this up. Does anyone else have a similar story? Or would anyone like to give their input? Anything is greatly appreciated as I just want to get out of this town as soon as possible.", "summary": "I live in small town with people who have no ambition, what should I do? Do you have any similar stories?"}
{"id": "t3_22q0we", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend that I haven't seen in a while committed suicide, and I want to get back into spending time with our mutual friends.", "post": "We are all 21-22, all males and all have known each other since middle-school.\n\nMy friend Tyler sent me a message over Facebook early in the morning yesterday saying that I needed to call him about something urgent. When I did, he explained that our mutual friend Shawn had been missing over the weekend and was just discovered dead in the middle of the desert. \n\nTyler is roomates with Shawn, and he explained that Shawn was recently experiencing a pretty bad depression. Shawn was recently cheated on and last Friday got in a huge argument with his parents. Those are all of the details I know as of right now.\n\nI used to hang out with them a lot over last summer, but between classes and my girlfriend I ended up putting them aside. It's always been difficult for me to manage more than one relationship at a time because I like to be on my own a lot.\n\nMy question is: How do I get into hanging out with our mutual friends again? I feel really bad for blowing them off in the past, and I would really enjoy having some friends again. Do I just tell him something like that?\n\nPerhaps a bonus question: Those who like to spend time by themselves a lot, how do you manage several different social relationships? I spend 4/7 days on my own, but I would be willing to drop that down if I still got in around 4 hours of my own per day.", "summary": "Friend that I hadn't seen in a while committed suicide, and I want to start spending time with our mutual friends again. I have always needed more 'alone' time than a lot of the people I know, which causes issues with maintaining friendships."}
{"id": "t3_3gatb8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU asking if she had a condom NSFW", "post": "So, like everyone else. This didn't happen today. It happened about a year ago.\n\nSo I met this girl about 3 years ago at a night club. We never hooked up in that time, but we always still talked. Fast foward to about a year ago, she invited me over. Giving me those hints of 'getting it in'. So I went over there and we just chilled for a bit. Things were kind of awkward then I made a move to kiss her. So things started getting a little hotter. And she got on top of me. She was grinding on me through my pants. Then she took her shirt off and was topless. I was playing with her tits for a bit and then I was ready to fuck. I was an idiot and left my condoms in the car. Us being in a college town I thought it was mandatory for girls to have condoms(I am joking here..). So I asked if she had any condoms and then she stops. Gets off me and says, \"Do you think we were having sex?\" I told her,\"Of course, you're half naked and I have a boner.\" She put her shirt on and told me to leave. Saying that we were never having sex tonight. Just messing around. She said that because of this we are not ever going to have sex. So I had to leave her house, with blue balls. I was not a happy person, and I felt embarrassed as all hell.", "summary": "Went to a girls house. Foreplay happened. I asked for a condom. She kicked me out."}
{"id": "t3_1axw3k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m/clueless] looking for basic advice on taking a good friendship [23/f] to the next level", "post": "Ok, so here are the basics. I have never even come close to having a gf and really have no idea how to do this. I've been friends with this girl for probably 4 years now, although it's kind of been a long distance friendship because she moved around ~2 hours away 2 years ago to finish school. I've kept up with her, and I visited her with some other friends of mine, because there is an awesome theme park near that some of use have year passes to. I've talked to her quite a bit/texted/facebook messaged/etc, and we have a lot in common, and she really seems to enjoy my company, although she definitely hasn't really initiated anything. But she's kind of in the same situation as me, as far as never really having had a boyfriend, and she seems really insecure about herself for the most part, so i don't know if she is just kind of unsure about what to do as well. If she lived closer, I think the obvious thing to do would be to just ask her out on a causal date, and go from there. But the distance makes that seem like kind of a big step, you don't just ask her out for a coffee date when she lives 2 hours away. So, what do r/ra, maybe just tell her via text/facebook of my feelings and see what happens? I dunno.", "summary": "Really new to this, she seems like it too, we live a couple of hours apart. How to get this past the good friend level?"}
{"id": "t3_2jk99x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25F) wife is mad at me (25M) for not wanting to hurt her, and we've only been married 2 months. Help?", "post": "So we have been together 8 years. Decided to tie the knot this year. In those 8 years, I haven't done anything but kiss her.\n\nI really love this woman and she's my life, she literally means the world to me and I can't bear to ever hurt her.\n\nHere's the problem...\nOn our wedding night, she wanted us to have sex (both our firsts, and both virgins since we've been together since 17 and this has been through mutual choice). I told her we'll just watch a movie and relax because it was a long day. I did the cooking that night and we both just cuddled.\n\nThe next night, after work, she hinted at sex and was quite touchy (obviously she's my wife), and I just said I can't have sex. She was like, what?\n\nAnd I just told her how I felt... I can't ever bear to hurt her and having sex would do that... I don't want her to go through any pain and I know it'll be both our first time, but the hurt she'll have as a woman is too much for me to bear and it kills me... She was so annoyed at me, and I didn't know what to do and felt really upset.\n\nSince then she's just been annoyed with me and I don't know what to do, it's got to the point where she's pissed off we haven't had sex yet.\n\nBut I know it'll kill to see her in pain and I wouldn't know what to do...\n\nWhat can I do?\nPlease help...", "summary": "With wife for 2 months, she is pissed off with me for not having sex with her, but I can't hurt her"}
{"id": "t3_1tdsgu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice. 24m with amazing 33f for 1 year, yet fear of missing out is giving me second thoughts.", "post": "I've been  in a relationship for the last year with someone who happens to be amazing. I've never met anyone as genuine of a person until I met her.\n\nThe issue I'm facing is the fear of missing out. I was never the type of person who went out and slept around with people, however since we've started dating I've received much more interest from other women. Now whilst I thought I could commit to her, the past few months my mind has been playing with me. As amazing  she is, I don't want to lead her on if I'm constantly thinking about other women. \n\nI think, or at least I'm almost certain that I have to let her go so that I can get the whole stuffing around with other women out of my system (if that's what it is). It's probably quite pitiful of me to think of myself in that way, some Adonis who has women throwing themselves at him, but I feel that I'm cheating both if us if I stay around just because I think she's so great.\n\nI've never been good at break ups. I've only had two in my lifetime so far and it feels like it's the hardest thing to do. Especially considering it will almost be entirely out of the blue and with no real reason other than me not being prepared to commit.\n\nI think I just need to grow a pair, be honest with her and just open up. \nThis will suck, but I'm sure it has to be done.\n\nAny words of advice? Similar experiences?", "summary": "Dating older female for a year "}
{"id": "t3_35dre7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - F*** Garlic and F**** Cooking!", "post": "Moved into my first apartment and decided I was going to turn my life around by learning to cook and eat healthy. I have made some easy recipes but this was my first time on my own with no one to help me out.\n\nFound a slow cooker recipe for salsa chicken - sounded good and easy enough. Recipe called for like 3 or 5 cloves or garlic or some shit.  I'm used to using the garlic in a jar but I couldn't find that at the store so I bought 8 things of garlic (for other recipes later in the week as well)\n\n8 fucking bulbs of garlic. Because I didn't know cloves and bulbs were different. TIFU #1\n\nThen I proceed to get home and start said recipe. Time to cut the garlic. I take a huge knife on my tiny red cutting board and start slicing away I don't know wtf I'm doing. I held the garlic the wrong way, it slipped out of my grip and I sliced my finger pretty deep.\n\nBlood gushing everywhere.\n\nI start screaming and crying like a little bitch and flailing my hand not knowing what to do. I splatter that shit all over - I kid you not it got on the floors walls ceiling EVERYWHERE.\n\nAfter that I began seeing stars and literally passed out crumpled up on the floor.", "summary": "Bought 8 bulbs of garlic, do everything the wrong way, cut finger, monsoon of blood, lights out night night"}
{"id": "t3_2qkwe3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] gf [19 F] of 3 years has an OKCupid... not what you think. Unsure of how to proceed.", "post": "So my girlfriend is awesome and beautiful and our relationship is great. She's not one to cheat at all, I want to marry her, etc.\n\nI was using her laptop today (we live together) and went to check my email. She was signed on and I went to log her out but I saw a message that caught my eye from OKCupid. Immediately my heart sunk. So many thoughts raced through my head. We didn't meet on there and there wouldn't really be a reason for her to have one. I decided to follow the link to her profile and see what was going on.\n\nThe profile isn't of her. It's definitely *hers* considering it goes to her email, but the girl in the pictures isn't her. The profile itself is generic but sounds like her personality so I thought maybe it was a cover and went to the messages.\n\nShe only replies to the people who are mean to her or \"neg\" her and fucks with them. Literally *all* of her conversations are arguments. No evidence of her ever having replied to someone to do anything but fuck with them.\n\nShould I be bothered by this? I'm really confused. On one hand it makes me inherently uncomfortable that she has an OKCupid account because we're in a long term relationship. On the other hand... I don't think she's cheating. Her account isn't even for our city, it's for a city in another country.", "summary": "Girlfriend has an online dating profile, doesn't seem to be using it for actual online dating and just gets into arguments with assholes on it. Wat?"}
{"id": "t3_t2r6u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Telemarketers keep calling, \"American Benefit Union\" \u0ca0_\u0ca0 I know they are going to call again tomorrow, how best to troll them?", "post": "I have done the normal route the past 4 days, \"take me off your list\", they claim there is no list and the national do not call list does not pertain to them because \"I was sponsored by someone\" \u0ca0_\u0ca0 right...  \n\nSo today I got sick of it, looked up the company and spam called them back, had some successful rick rolls :)  Used google voice under throw away accounts on 3 computers.\n\nI filed a complaint to the BBB.\n\nI know they will call again so what would be the best way to screw with them?  I was thinking about *pretending* ;) to masturbate while they were calling or just doing the good ole fashion see how long I can keep them on the line.\n\nThey keep asking if me and my wife will be home to deliver a package to us and tell us how they can save us money.  I am not to keen on that, but if there is a good **legal** way to mess with them in person, why not.\n\nHere is the most info I could find out about them:", "summary": "best way to mess with telemarketers"}
{"id": "t3_2v4jyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [17] approach a girl in my class [18]", "post": "I go to a separate school on saturdays for extra study and preparation for exams. In this school the teacher doesn't know our names and we don't know each others. Almost like a lecture.\n\n3 weeks before christmas, I noticed that this girl keeps looking over at me. She seriously will not stop. It makes me feel uneasy, paranoid and self-conscious. I think about how I look, what I wear and how I sit. I believe I have social anxiety although this is just what I think. I find it very hard to meet new people and I'm very shy, although I am quite loud with the people I am close to.\n\nAnyway, she keeps looking over at me each week, sometimes periodically and sometimes as looking at the board I can see in my peripheral vision that she is facing my direction. I do not think I am paranoid and making it up, in fact a week ago I had to courage/was frustrated enough to actually turn and look at her, and looked straight in her eyes even making her embarrassed. I feel she is looking for attention. After all of this, i found myself somewhat interested in her, she almost seems to play with her hair to get my attention on purpose. I have tried to talk to her on 2 days, but always have been stopped by the fact that she was talking to her friend or by the fact that there are too many people walking in the corridors. Really I think I am making excuses to myself\n\nI've planned on making a remark about her turning around in class when i talk to her (and definitely thought too long about how I'll phrase it).\n\nHow can I get the courage to talk to her and stop making excuses to myself? Is it really best to talk to her or maybe I should ignore this?\n\nMostly I feel bad for her wasting her time. She pays to come to class and does not focus and causes me to also lose concentration\n\nI should also mention that next saturday is valentine's day, if this is relevant at all.\n\nAll comments appreciated", "summary": "There's a girl in my class that stares me out. I barely have the courage to look at her in the eyes. How do I approach her and what should I say... if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_2pixoz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24m) have been dating a girl (22f) for a month now and I think she may be celibate.", "post": "Like the title says I've been seeing this girl for a little over a month now and I'm starting to get the feeling that she may be celibate. I know it's still early in the relationship but we will start making out and I'll gently try and escalate things and she shuts me down immediately every time. She stays the night with me occasionally and has often brought up her religious beliefs and how important they are to her during conversations. \n\nNow really it's not a huge deal to me seeing as how I know we don't now each other that well yet. The way she acts though when we kiss is very prudent and combine that with the way she has talked about her religious views I'm getting the vibe she may be celibate. \n\nI'm a rather patient person so I can certainly wait until she feels ready however, I believe that having a good sexual connection with your partner is essential to a healthy relationship so if that isn't ever going to happen then it will most certainly be a deal breaker for me. Our communication is great but I feel like I could be wrong about the whole thing so I worry about offending her if I bring it up. Is there a right way to talk to her about this, or should I just wait and see? Thanks.", "summary": "been seeing this girl for a month, I try to escalate things sexually, she denies me every time and casually talks about her religious beliefs. I think she's celibate."}
{"id": "t3_30vgiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] becoming romantically interested in a friend [16F] and dont know what to do.", "post": "I have known her for about 3 years. Became friends with her a year and a half ago. Being introverted and shy around girls it's hard for me to talk to her face to face but we've talked even if it isn't as much as I'd like, we've also gotten to know each other pretty well through messaging.(almost every day)\n\nI have come to like her, but I have no way of telling if she likes me or not. She has made it clear that she thinks I'm amiable, and also noticed me not having as much face to face interaction, but I've made it clear that I'm shy and embarrassed.\n\nI am well aware of the limitations for the age difference at the moment. I'm just so confused at the moment because some times it feels as if she is attracted to me, but that can be my imagination.", "summary": "Romantically becoming interested in a friend, but not knowing what to do, due to being introverted and the age gap."}
{"id": "t3_31x70l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [19M] is starting to worry me?", "post": "Hello reddit!\nSo, my current boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months ever since the end of last semester, when we met. He was in another year-long relationship that he didn't get a chance to end before he confessed how he felt about me. It was a pretty surreal story. This is also my first relationship. \n\nIn any case, when we started dating we had a really, really good time. I felt like whenever I saw him my days brightened up. Then, at one point, right before spring break we had a weird fight (stemmed from a lot of stress that I was feeling and displaced on him...) and he went by a couple of days with weird ambiguity. He told me he'd had a breakdown and felt lonely, and that he needed time to figure himself out. I decided that I was willing to support him on that. We never broke up or took a break or anything.\n\nThen, after spring, things were just weirdly different. He seemed not to care as much about things that were happening in my life, and generally unconcerned with my decisions, but he never stopped talking about his friends, his music, or anything pertaining to him. Our sex life kind of fell in a downward spiral at around that time.\n\nNow, when we hung out yesterday, all he kept doing was questioning everything and attempting to analyze everything in relation to himself and his life. I feel like I function in relation to a role I fulfill for him, rather than as myself. We basically don't even do it anymore, and all the magic seems gone because I feel like he's drifting away. I don't know how to tell him because I'm scared that that's going to make him start questioning things again and doubting everything and analyzing... Which I'm too drained to do. He's scared of draining me, and I don't want to leave him, but it's becoming really hard for me to deal with all of this melodrama that I feel is unnecessary.", "summary": "My boyfriend of two months is drifting out in this larger-than-life existential quest that's draining all of my mental energies, and I don't know how to go about telling him without fueling another breakdown..."}
{"id": "t3_2ie421", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my girlfriend [21F] of four years. She broke my trust, but I want help/advice to be able to trust her again.", "post": "Sorry if the situation seems choppy, I tried not to disclose too much personal information. \n\nI never really had close relationships in my childhood (parents divorced, mom was usually at work, etc.), so I really have a hard time connecting to and trusting people. The relationship I built with my girlfriend has been incredibly amazing, and I never expected I could feel this close to someone. I've told her things I would never tell anyone. However, one night she was talking to a friend, and she disclosed a piece of extremely personal information about myself without my knowledge/permission. I won't go into the details, but it had to do with family history of a specific illness.\n\nShe told me about it almost immediately afterward, but it was still extremely painful to learn. She also apologized endlessly, and I do believe she didn't mean harm in telling her friend. (She just used me as an example of how people can get over certain illnesses, but she didn't think to NOT use my name). I know this is a silly issue, but it hurt a lot and REALLY damaged the trust I have for her.\n\nI know being able to fully trust her again will take time, but is there anything I/she/we can do to help the healing process in the meantime? Also, I have no intention of leaving her over this. Thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend betrayed my trust, but I want to make it work."}
{"id": "t3_2pio46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend [18M] of 5 months, he isn't motivated and I want to find ways to help and advice to give him", "post": "Hi, so I am currently a senior in high school and my boyfriend of over 5 months is enrolled at our local community college. He slacked off through his high school years and made okay grades; however, he is now in college and is having problems with staying motivated.\n\nHis grades were all good except for his science grade which came out as a D for the final. His next step is transferring to an actual college and he knows that he needs to do better yet still finds himself struggling. He admits that he's lazy and I really want to help him.\n\nI see him as this awesome guy that could do so much and I want to sway him in the right direction but I know that I cannot control someone else. It's just really hard for me to see because I hold such a high standard for myself, and because I work very hard to make good marks. \n\nI want him to realize that this is the real world and that he needs to do better. I want to help him know that he has options and support him. It's really hard to have to see him go through this and it's embarrassing when he isn't doing too well at a community college, and not an actual university.", "summary": "Boyfriend is slacking in community college and I don't know what to say (I'm a little disappointed in him)"}
{"id": "t3_3rpvz1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [22/f] and my boyfriend [24/m] has a best friend that hates me!", "post": "Okay so first off, let me just say that this guy's not bad by any means. He's a nice person for the most part and we get along pretty well, but ever since my boyfriend and I have become closer and started spending more time together, his best friend's been kind of a dick to me. I've heard that it's common for best friends to get jealous of someone getting in the middle of their friendship, but I'm not controlling or trying to keep my boyfriend away from him or anything psycho like that. In fact when we first started dating we established some basic ground rules and one of those was for friend time apart from each other. Here's the thing though; if both of us are ever over at his apartment then we get kind of competitive for my boyfriend's attention and it's weird. It just doesn't seem normal. This guy likes to talk down to me in a condescending tone or say really rude things under his breath that I usually just dismiss. It pisses me off the most because I've been nothing but nice to him the whole time we've known each other. I could turn into a whiny bitch about it and attack him back but I don't bother. I usually hold my temper. This past weekend though I kept my cool about it until I got home and then the venting pretty much poured out of my mouth like word vomit in front of my sister who looked at me like I was crazy and told me I should really just talk to my boyfriend about it.\n\nI want this guy to like me. It's important that even if we're not friends we at least get along because I love my boyfriend deeply and I would like to be a part of his life for a long time...I just don't know what I should do. I can't MAKE him like me, but I refuse to stay away from my boyfriend just so this guy can be happy.\nThere's more to this story but in an attempt to stay anonymous I can't really post everything I would like to say.", "summary": "my boyfriend's best friend is a dick to me and i can't handle it and i'm seeking advice"}
{"id": "t3_3eedbc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[NSFW]?TIFU By Cursing out a Prank Caller", "post": "Well, I never thought I would have the opportunity to post on this sub but here we go. This happened a few minutes ago. So I was snap-chatting with my ex we're still on good terms. For those of you who don't know, snapchat is an app that allows you to send pictures that automatically delete themselves. You can also write some short text on the pictures you send. So anyway, all is going well, we're  communicating and what not. Then I get this phone call. This is how it went down.It just happened so this is pretty accurate: \nME: *Hello*\nCaller: *\"Hello this is Tony's Pizza, what kind of pizza would you like?\"*\n\nAt this point I new it was a prank call. I assumed it was my younger brother since the voice sounded like a kid trying to sound like an adult. So this is where the fuck up begins.\n\nME: -In deep pedo voice- \"*Then can I get a dick pizza?*\"\nCaller: -trying to keep composer- \"* Oh we don't have that*\"\nME: \"*Then this isn't my type of restaurant*\"\nCaller: -somewhat agitated-\"*Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed*\" *Hangs up*\n\nOkay so I have a good chuckle and go back to snapchat. I tell the girl that I'd just been prank called. Then she replies with a picture of her little sis and says \"*Yeah it was her*\". I dropped my phone and felt all my blood rush to my face. I immediately followed up with a bunch of apologize and I really felt bad. I told her about how her sister sounded just like my brother and all that jazz. I don't know what to do now, she says it's okay but I'm so embarrassed.", "summary": "Thought I was being slick with my brother, ended up cursing out my ex's little sister."}
{"id": "t3_3wp98z", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "When do I give up on a girl and how do I get over her?", "post": "25/M I've got a problem. I'm in love with my best friend 25/F, we work together and I want to be with her. I'm a 6'5 250 pound (currently working on that I've lost 120 lbs since May) black dude with no self esteem, 25 still live at home and watches Power Rangers and she's a punk girl with tattoos and piercings. She's my only friend and the only one I can be myself around (she accepts me for me) but it's the friend zone to the max. I have to hear about her ex boyfriends and her sex life. When we go out to a bar she'll literally talk about how she wants to hook up with the bartender.\n\nI feel like it's a one sided friendship sometimes because when we go out for lunch or drinks 90% of the time I end up paying even though I have no money and will literally go negative in my bank account, because if I ask her to go she'll say she has no money and when I say I'll pay she'll go. When we go to her favorite dive bar and she sees one of her friends there she'll invite them or they invite themselves to sit with us and she'll talk to them for the night leaving me as the 3rd wheel. This Friday I gave her $250 worth of vinyl records as a Christmas present and she I think she might have said \"thank you\". Then said she was going record shopping with some guy in the morning. \n\nWithout sounding sappy I've never felt this way about a girl before she treats me like a human being while everyone else in my world and life treats me like crap. I can never tell her how I feel because I feel like she'll never talk to me again and seeing her at work every day when she sits 10 feet away would kill me. I don't know what to do to get over her, I'm going to therapy for that and many other issues and that's not helping. The only time I'm happy is when I'm with her but we never get to hang out because someone or thing will interrupt it. She completes me and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friend, and we'll never be together. I think I should give up on her, but we work together and she's my only friend. How can I do this and still face her everyday?"}
{"id": "t3_2aqcad", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you guys, especially ladies, think about males wearing pantyhose?", "post": "I'm a 24 year old male, quite good looking, or so I'm told, and I happen to have a huge fetish for pantyhose. I have to mention that I'm %150 straight. \n\nNot sure how it all started, but basically I'm instantly attracted to any woman wearing pantyhose, stockings, leggings, etc. I find them so incredibly sexy, I could literally sit down, have a girl put her legs on my lap and just rub them for hours. It's such a turn on it's ridiculous. I always prefer to have sex while she's wearing stockings or something like that. \n\nHaving such a huge fetish for them, one of my ex girlfriends from years ago told me to try on a pair while we had sex, and I loved it. We were both wearing them, and the feeling the nylon gives when you trace your hands across sensitive areas is amazing. \n\nHaving experienced that, and having such a big fetish for them, I eventually started wearing them to bed every now and then, and when I masturbate. Lightly tracing circles around sensitive areas when wearing them gives an amazing sensation, and I find they just feel awesome in general to wear. Plus they're good to keep warm in the winter, almost like long johns, but not itchy. \n\nI've actually seen one or two males wearing leggings or pantyhose while out in public, but I don't have the audacity to do it myself. Plus I prefer wearing them while sleeping anyways. It helps will leg circulation to! which I have a problem with.", "summary": "This is way longer than I expected. Basically, How do you feel about guys wearing them? do you think it's odd? sexy? strange? "}
{"id": "t3_3ehev3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by snapping my glasses in half.", "post": "I went on vacation with my girlfriend. We got our own little cabin while her family got their own house to split with another family (a whole crew of parents go up and bring their kids. My girlfriend being the first of the kids to get her own place for the week). \n\nOn the last night we are there, the group decides to have a bonfire on the beach. Its kinda cool, I've never done this before. \n\nBefore I continue I should say that throughout the week one of the younger kids decided to copy everything I said. She found it amusing and being on a beach all day leaves little to do and I played along and did the same thing. \n\nUntil the bonfire happened. It's 11ish at night and there she is again. Copying everything I'm saying. So I play back and eventually she stops copying me. Yes! I won! No longer do I have to listen to how silly I would sound if I was a young girl! But now she wants to bug me a different way. She starts asking if she can have things. She asked for my beer, I said she's too young. She asked for hat, I said it was keeping me warm. She asked for my glasses. I asked why - she replies with she was going to break them. \n\nBefore I continue, I should address the fact that I have the flex frames, the ones that bend and can withstand getting hit with a basketball while you are wearing them (happened shortly after I had gotten these frames, came out just fine). \n\nSo she wants to break my glasses. I said sure, hold them out to her and, like I have done a thousand times before to shows others, bend them. Well, you know how you can do something a thousand times and get the same result? I hit a thousand and one. As I bent them, they SNAP. And the girls jaw DROPS. \n\nI don't know how to end a story properly, so I have been wearing duct taped frames for a week waiting for my new frames to come in. But NEVER in my life have I ever been as satisfied seeing a reaction to something. And quite honestly I'm smart enough (or dumb enough) now to not do that again.", "summary": "Mimics are whack, they make your glasses crack."}
{"id": "t3_1ua1eh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my boyfriend[26 M] 3 months, Am I being a crazy girl?", "post": "Ok I'll make this quick..\n\nI'm 25 divorced :( I had a gorgeous pretty $$ fairytale wedding. On my honeymoon my ex husband told me \"He tricked me into marrying him\" 6 months in he told me \"I want to marry an asian wife\" Needless to say I was pretty insecure\u2026\n\nI dated plenty of people for the past two years. Had some me time and found out what I wanted in life. \n\nI met a guy on plenty of Fish a few months ago. Let me tell you so far he's AMAZING. I honestly feel like someone sent him to me and is showing me that I can \"love\" again. Not looking to be saved or anything I'm comfortable with myself- I'm just happy with him.\n\nThe only problem is I just can't enjoy it. I try to find things wrong with him. One is\u2026\u2026Facebook. He told me he's dated girls and that his longest relationship was just under 2 years. He told me last year on NYE he was with some other girlfriend. But there is nothing about them on his facebook. I asked his little sister if she liked his gf's in the past and she told me \"Yea but I haven't met many of them.\" \n\nHe does a lot for me though. He introduced me to his parents and sister. He always makes plans with me. He even invites me out with his friends anytime they go out. He also told me he wants to come by for a family dinner so that his mom can get to know me more (their really close) He always responds, never blows me off. Basically he does everything right.\n\nBUT - How do I know he's not one of those guys who just date girls for 3-6 months and then he's onto the next one? How do I know he's into me and  i'm not just a notch under his belt? Am I over thinking all of this? Maybe I am still fearful that people are trying to \"trick\" me?", "summary": "Insecure after a divorce, how do I know if he's really into me?"}
{"id": "t3_2svapy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20s-m] and her [20s-f]. 2 years together. Should I be worried about the texts she made while I was gone?", "post": "I know emotional cheating is something that is in a \"grey\" area until defined by both partners, and tbh we've never had to talk. \n\nI went on vacation for 3 weeks, my GF couldn't come last minute because her job wouldn't grant her the same vacay slot. I came back, things were the usual, she slept over, I snooped and checked her phone. \n\nShe had a series of texts with a co-worker, Nerdface, while I was gone on vacay. It was quite friendly (he has a GF), but at some point, he started asking her about how many times she's has sex, how many partners, the kinkiest stuff she's done, and my GF actually replied. Then at some point he says \"describe to me your sexual fantasy\" and she replied with a very long paragraph of how she'd like to be fucked. \n\nAt this point I felt a bit iffy, but honestly nothing was targeted towards the other party (i.e. no \"I'd like you, Nerdface, to come fuck my pussy\", but \"I'd love for Brad Pitt to fuck my pussy\") until my GF texted him \"Is your dick hard from hearing that?\" and he replied \"yeah\". That was it, all texts after that go back to work-related.\n\nOkay so right now I'm just unsure whether it's something I should bring up to her. On one hand, I snooped, she'll be mad if I tell her, and it seems quite harmless since it wasn't actually sexting. On the other hand, the \"are you hard?\" comment bothers the fuck out of me. \n\nWhat do reddit", "summary": "I go vacay, gf prob lonely/horny, told sexual fantasy to her male co-worker after he probed, and she ended things off by asking him if his dick was hard from hearing her fantasy. I snooped, unsure whether to bring it up to her or just let it go since it seems harmless."}
{"id": "t3_2ypb9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my s.o. [24 F] 4 yrs. Have been broken up for a year and now she is trying to talk to my best friend/the girl i have been in love for five years. Do i address it with my ex?", "post": "Five years ago I met my best friend. I always had a thing for her and our friendship always felt like there was something more there, but I was/am too insecure to say anything to her about it. \n\nThen I met my ex about a yr later. We dated exclusively for almost four years and werr thinking about getting engauged. Two days before our four year anniversary, she disappears on me. No calls. No texts. Nothing. So i go into crazy-bitch mode and track her down. Turns out she was staying at a friends appartment. I convinced another friend of mine to go with me t the appartment just incase it got out of hand. We got tbere and i stormed inside. The smell of pot, beer, and other drugs was in the room, and i heard a girl yell to her \"your girlfriend is here!\" \n\nShe comes outI make her come outside and we yell at each other until her friends come outside and one of them tells her to come inside because she had done some illegal things and he was a cop and he didn't want her to get into trouble.\n\nThree days go by and I finally get her to agree to meet me at a mutual friend's house. We yell again and I find out she cheated me and it turns out she was on METH. I ended it and we have been broken up for a year now. \n\nI currently have been hanging out with my bestie since she moved back here in January and she has informed me that my ex has talked to her. I don't know what to say because she doesn't want to talk to her, but I am worried that my ex isn't gonna leave her alone. Me and my bestie are very protective of each other and I feel like hunting my ex down and punching her in the face with a flaming semi truck made of things she is allergic to, to put it nicely.\n\nMe and my ex haven't talked in the year we have been broken up. So do I punch her? Talk to her? Avoid her? HELP", "summary": "my ex cheated on me and got on meth 2 days before our 4 year anniversary and is now trying to \"make friends\" with my best friend who is also the girl i wanna bump vaginas with. Hitting her with a flaming truck yes or no?"}
{"id": "t3_l5ee6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do I make a change instead of giving up completely?", "post": "Hi.\n\nSo I have been thinking of this for a long time, and i'm at the point of giving up, last resort - can reddit help, perhaps?\n\nSo I'm a F, 5\"3, ~170lbs and 24 years old, I'm soon at the highest weight I've been in my entire life and it's steadily going up, but I just can't keep any motivation i might get to do any workout. How do I keep it?\n\nLast year I was at about same weight, i joined a gym, I liked it and lost some weight, I kept at it for about 3 months before my money ran out and during that \"off\" month I lost all willpower and motivation (again) and have not gone back since.\n\nI have tried doing some push-ups/situps and so on at home alone, been out walking/trying to run, alone or with friends. Tried some zumba at home and so on. But it doesn't matter what I do, I always lose my motivation after a few times.\n\nI am at the point now where my self confidence sucks, and I'm about to just say \"fuck this, i'll just don't care, let me gain that weight then\". Also my hopes for ever getting a bf is pretty much thrown away.\nA few days are a little better when I feel like \"Maybe i weigh this much because i have lots of muscles or something\". Most days are not..\n\nI'm sorry for writing so much, I have no idea what to do at this point, or HOW to do it. I admire all of you that have the will to make the change. There are some truly amazing before/after stories here. How do I get that will?", "summary": "I cannot keep my motivation long enough to make a change in my life, how do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_k7eru", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Plateau: can anyone help me?", "post": "Hi everyone!\nFirst of all I want to thank everyone for your constant inspiration through your posts and your progress pics!\nI'll cut straight to the chase! \n\nIn April I changed my eating regimen to a low-carb one, my typical day consisted of:\n\nBreakfast: cup of mocha coffee and milk (one teaspoon sugar)\n\nSnack (mid-morning and afternoon): an apple or some fruit\n\nLunch and dinner: 16 oz of boiled frozen veggies chosen between green beans, spinach or summer squash, without any dressing except salt in the boiling water, and a can of tuna/other fish, chicken/turkey breast or a little horse steak.\n\nThis has allowed me to lose almost 20 lbs in 2 months and 1/2. And I'm 20 lbs from my goal.\n\nHowever, I've been sitting on a plateau since June and I can't seem to be able to do anything about it.\n\nI was reading about slow metabolism and decided to shock my body out of it by running 3 miles a day everyday. \nIt was working (I lost a pound) until I discovered I won't be able to go running anymore because of a cyst in my inner thigh that gets easily infected when I sweat too much and ends up interfering with my daily activities (when it's infected, I am in constant pain just by walking/sitting).\n\nSo, anyway, in the past few weeks I had already made some changes such as replacing milk with low-carb soy-milk, banning sugar from anything (even any kind sweetener because of its effects on insulin, except like a single time in a week), and yesterday, to boost my metabolism, I started adding green veggies (the aforementioned boiled frozen ones) and a fried egg to my breakfast, but I'm not really sure it'll actually help.\n\nHas anyone got any idea how I can carry on with the weight loss?", "summary": "Weight loss plateau: can't do cardio, slow metabolism, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fueeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(16M), have a best friend (16F) who has a boyfriend. She keeps telling me how I'm her \"World\". What am I suppose to do?", "post": "We've been best friends for a while now. 2-3 years. She recently broke up with my bestfriend and now she's with another guy. During both relationships she told me how I am her \"world\". That I mean so much to her and that she would be dead without me. She told me that I am \"the chains that hold\" her back.\nShe tells everyone that she hates using the phrase \"I love you.\" She's never told any of her boyfriends that she's loved them. But just this week she's told me multiple times. Not in a playful kind of way, but a serious kind of way. \nSo reddit, what am I suppose to do? She has a boyfriend, but she's sending me mixed signals. I don't like her back. I can't possibly like her back in that kind of way.", "summary": "Best friend has a boyfriend and keeps on hitting on me"}
{"id": "t3_1c4f8z", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I hate group projects.", "post": "I'm doing a programming project for an upper level computer science class. And well, it's the group project from hell.\n\nThe guy who I'm sort of friends with tries to code, but is not a very good coder, and more importantly, is stubborn. Every time I try to help him, he says that it's no problem, he'll just figure it out. Or when he has problems with his IDE, refuses help. He writes crappy code, and also, doesn't have a good enough work ethic to stick with something long enough to iron bugs out.\n\nThen we have another guy who commits code that completely breaks everything. One time I actually caught him copying and pasting code from some blog, without even running it to see if it worked. The last project I just removed his code and told him to test it before committing it, but now its starting to get on my nerves.\n\nWe have 2 guys who are, well, pros. But they are working on their modules in a private repository, which is fine, but the main group repo is shit, and I'm trying to piece it all together on my own. \n\nEveryone else in our group is simply not contributing. It's a group of about 8 people, about half the group is trying to contribute, the rest is fucking everything up or just not contributing. I'll roast everyone in my peer reviews, but all that matters is that the project gets done right now. The kicker is that my group members have something against meeting in person, wanting to just \"divy things up\", but that's not getting shit done right now.\n\nWhat really annoys me is, unlike a business class, or a science class project, etc, if someone fucks up one part, it's not just that one part. You don't just read it and go to the next section. If one person fucks up in a programming project, nothing works. And people keep contributing broken shit. I'm just trying to wade through the broken shit right now. I've done coding projects before, but this one is particularly bad.\n\nNot expecting anything from you guys. Just wanted to vent.", "summary": "Doing a big project. Most of my group is useless, I'm trying to piece it together, but people are stubborn and they don't want to meet. Fuck me right?"}
{"id": "t3_3dp0yx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] am not sure where to go with he [24/M] and I's relationship", "post": "So, I've been casually seeing (dating?) this guy, Joe, since December. Back in January, he made it clear that he wasn't looking for a committed relationship because he's \"too busy.\" That's a huge red flag for me because to me that means \"I'm not interested in being committed to YOU.\" But at the time, I was fine with it. I had just started a new job, was in the process of moving into a new place, and had only ended a relationship 6 months prior. He seemed relieved to be on the same page.\n\nFast forward to now. Nearly 8 months later and I'm ready to be in a relationship. We have never done anything besides hang out at his place and have sex. He often tells me he wants to go fishing with me or camping but he's never done anything to make those things happen. He claims to be busy busy busy but I often see pictures of him on Facebook hanging out with his friends (camping, fishing, going to the fair). But then he tells me he likes me a lot and trust me enough to let me sleep at his house while he's not there (he works at 6:45 in the morning).\n\nMy friends think he's using me to his advantage. Keep me around for the sex and security, but that's it. He's never going to want to be in a relationship with me and they think he's made that clear. My question for /r/relationships is, should I bring all this up to him, or should I just end it?", "summary": "I've been casually dating \"Joe\" for nearly 8 months, should I tell him I want a relationship, or end it with him because of previous behaviors?"}
{"id": "t3_41hp74", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "18F 5'4 SW:187 CW:167 - 2 month weight plateau", "post": "I started losing weight around September last year, but since around Christmas my weight has not gone below 163bs, I'm eating around 1100 calories and doing about 90 min of cardio a day (excluding Saturdays), along with 20 min of weights. I know that muscle gain means weight gain but I thought, if I were losing fat I'd still be losing lbs. \nIts extremely confusing and frustrating as I can see changes in my body, but I'm worried if I'm just imagining it because I did have an ED 3 years ago.\n\nI'm not really sure as to what exactly I'm asking, just looking for advice or encouragement!!", "summary": "Weight wont drop below 163bs in lieu of exercise & diet"}
{"id": "t3_2o3yrw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] told my fiancee [23/M] to leave our apartment after an argument turned violent. I can't shake the emotional pain.", "post": "My original r/relationships post: \n\n I know this is a toxic relationship, I do. It's just that this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Harder than working, harder than passing classes, harder than speaking at my grandmother's funeral.... anything. I spent five years with this man and the first few were so amazing they were all that sustained me during a difficult time in my life. \n\nEven as I type this I'm shaking with tears. There was a time when he did provide for me, showed that he cared for me... the works. It's why we got engaged. I don't know where all of that went. It's like I'm mourning the death of the man I wanted to have my children with. \n\nI'm faced with the task of telling him it's over when he does finally call, and it destroys me. Even though it's what we both need, and even though it's the best and only thing I can do to help him anymore. How does anyone deal with this?? It's like I'm burying the man, not breaking up with him.", "summary": "I'm leaving my fiancee (together 5 years) because he is unmotivated to succeed and is taking the first steps to becoming physically abusive. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It feels like the man I love has died."}
{"id": "t3_kl44q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help with a friend who is \"impervious\" to karma.", "post": "One of my \"friends\" has turned into a complete asshole recently. He's acted like a complete ass to women and has broken many hearts, some of which spilled over into my relationships. He always digs for blackmail on them so that they cannot act in anger against him. This past weekend he really went over the top. He brought one of my Girlfriend's best friends to a dance, and ditched her. She was so torn up about it that my girlfriend had to spend the whole night comforting her. My Girlfriend is transferring stores where she works this coming weekend and I won't be seeing her near as much once she does and this past weekend was going to be our last weekend before she transfers. Yet my \"friend\" ruined it for everyone. I confronted him on it and he simply said \"That's not my problem anymore.\" What I don't get is the fact that bad things never happen to him. Karma seems to skip right over him. What do I do about this asshole?", "summary": "Why do good things keep happening to bad people?"}
{"id": "t3_3ri8kx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my SO [23 F]1 year together, she is going to sleep with another man for the first time since we are together after lots of women.", "post": "Hi,\n\nme and my so live together,we started exprimenting threesome with a friend of hers(a girl) at the beginning of the year.\nWe liked the experience.\n\nLately we started seeing other women (mostly together) and i asked if she liked to try a man. She didnt want to,because she says that there's difference between man and women.\ni always replied that its the same thing(altough i never slept with a man actually..) but i understood, its her choice.\n\nRecently she found a man she likes and i pushed her to continue with him and ,why not,meet him.\n\nShe met him a couple nights ago outside a club we were in,and after my blessing,they kissed!\nI was so happy.\n\nFriday they are gonna be together and possibly have sex the two of them(again i pushed for it)\n\nNow i'm actually happy for all of this,because now we have an open relationship ,and thats the thing i always wanted BUT\n\ni have this irrational fear inside me,so i wanted to ask someone who's been through this and hear what you think\n\nthank you!\n\nsorry for my english ,its my third language :(", "summary": "me and so fell in love, experimented with other women both together and alone,and after pressuring she wants to try with men too,now she is going to and i have a strange feeling,need help"}
{"id": "t3_1xex6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27M] fiance might leave me [26F] because I can't have children. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I hope this is an ok place to post. I don't have a support network with whom I can talk about things like this and I felt the need to let it out.\n\nToday my fiance informed me that he may break off our engagement due to the fact that I can't have children. We've been together for 7 1/2 years and have known about my inability to have children for almost a year now (he proposed six months ago).\n\nI was quite taken by surprise. I have made peace with the fact that I'm unable to have kids and I thought he had as well. He's never said anything to make me think otherwise until today.\n\nI asked him why having biological children is so important to him and he said it was \"what he thinks is right\". He believes his purpose in life is to create and cultivate more life in order to improve society as a whole. My retort was that he can still improve the next generation through what he gives to an adopted child. He had no response.\n\nNow he's \"still thinking about it\". I feel like I'm trapped in some strange limbo where I don't know if life is going to continue as normal or fall apart completely. Also, there's no way I could afford to live in the city we live in on my own income, so now there's a possibility that I will have to quit my job and move back to my hometown (probably into my mother's house) until I get settled.\n\nI feel like there's nothing I can do. I cannot change the thing that would cause him to leave. All I can do is wait for him to make up his mind. Part of me wants to beg him to stay, but I that doesn't seem like the right thing to do.\n\nI'm writing this because I cannot sleep, I can't stop crying. There's a possibility that he cares for an ideological scenario in his head more than he cares for me, and I don't know how to cope with that. I don't know how to compete with something intangible.", "summary": "Fiance might leave me because I'm infertile. Not sure if I can do anything to save the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4p2108", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24M] girlfriend[24F] hates the way I dress, and says I should tone it down.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. About a year ago, I decided to start dressing how I've always wanted to and essentially changed how I dress entirely. \n\nShe recently admitted to me that she doesn't like the way I dress and wants me to wear \"less flashy\" clothes. \n\nI'll admit that a lot of what I wear is influenced by what I see rappers wearing. But to be honest, I love my style. Additionally, I've gotten plenty of compliments and positive attention from friends and strangers ever since I started dressing like this. \n\nMy girlfriend says she doesn't like the way I dress, and thinks I should wear more plain clothes. She admitted that part of the reason she wants me to tone it down is because she noticed me getting a lot more female attention since I changed how I dress. \n\nI've never acted inappropriately with other people. When people, regardless of male or female, compliment me, I just thank them and try to move on. In the few instances where women have hit on me in obvious ways, I always shut it down instantly. \n\nI don't feel that I should have to change how I dress cause I've done nothing wrong. How should I talk to her about this?", "summary": "gf doesn't like how I dress, wants me to \"tone it down\""}
{"id": "t3_1avvks", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help please, it's date night and we need a spark. Badly.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short and sweet. I'm living with my boyfriend and things are great except we are experiencing a small lull. Well, I am. We have sex all the time but it's not the mind blowy kind. It's not even the kind that I get to finish from all the time. We are finally sitting down for dinner tonight and after he wants to watch a movie. My plan is to pick a movie that will maybe get the blood rushing to those happy places and inspire a little more passion. What I'm asking (begging kindly) is for a good movie suggestion (preferably off netflix but any will do). So if anyone has a suggestion, please let me know! Or if you feel inclined to advice in how I can heat things up in general, feel free!", "summary": "Need a sexy movie suggestion that will get my boyfriend and I a little more inspired to have more sexy....sex. Or any suggestions in general."}
{"id": "t3_3nf7lh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I need some help...can I seek legal action?", "post": "So about 3 years ago my dad was in an accident involving a hit and run. He had his first deposition this week and he had some startling questions asked by the defense attorney. The defense attorney had asked him questions about a trip he had taken shortly before his accident. Now here is the insane part. He starts asking him questions about his medical history. Asking him specific questions that come to find out are questions that have come from my medical record. Questions that I can only imagine come from my psychiatrist from about 3 years ago. \n\nThe reason I say that they can only be from my records, is because they were very specific to a very bad time in my life when I wasn't exactly very mentally healthy and I planned on moving out of state. These were the questions that he was asked.", "summary": "my father is in the middle of a lawsuit not in anyway involving me. The defense attorney clearly got access to MY medical records confusing them with his. Isn't this a violation of hippa? And what do I do? I feel like my privacy has been completely invaded and it is bringing up negative emotions from the past. "}
{"id": "t3_302yw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my BF [30] together for 1 year, living together and share a phone plan, he is using a ton of data and claims its nothing.", "post": "Just as my title says, my bf has been using a lot of data on his phone on the plan we share.  I use a good amount, I use apps on my phone like facebook or even language learning.  He has no apps.  He says he only checks his email or reads sports articles on Yahoo.  He is using just as much data as I am somehow.  He just shrugged me off and said it's no big deal.  I have a feeling he's watching porn and lying about it to me.  I don't know how to approach this again.  I don't want overages because of his habits.  If it's porn, use the laptop.   I've looked through his history and it shows maybe one or two pages looked at in a day and yet when I look at the bill it's showing much higher numbers of mbs multiple times a day.  What gives?  I know the advice is going to say to talk to him but every time I bring it up he says im accusing him or acts like I'm lying about the usage.  I've shown him the bills and he says \"I don't know, I don't use my phone for anything\".", "summary": "How can I find out if my bf is lying to me about what hes doing on his phone?  I feel like he's lying because the proof is here and he won't tell me anything."}
{"id": "t3_2mmely", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22M looking for advice on ex 21F", "post": "Okay, so my ex and I had been together for almost 5 years. I broke up with her close to 2 years because the passion had fallen out of our relationship. Much less affection, no sex for approx. 7 months, and just a lack of willingness from her side to address these problems. After all that time I had passed, I finally made the decision to end things.\n\nApprox. 2 months after our breakup, she had a one-night stand with one of my close friends. I quickly ended all contact with both parties. Despite all of this, almost a year after any incident, I am still completely confused about my feelings towards her. She has since sought counseling and we have been \"friends\" for a couple months. I've had a couple relationships since but at the end of the day the question I keep asking is if I should take a chance on her again.", "summary": "Ex and I broke up a couple years back, can't decide if I should reconcile with her."}
{"id": "t3_4d98wm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By accidentally waxing my entire crotch. ( possibly NSFW)", "post": "First off, no, I'm not the guy that glued his ass shut.\n\nSecond, this actually DID happen today.\n\nOkay, so: College student visiting parents for spring break. I had the house to myself for a few hours. I decide to seduce my meatstick. Now, this is a critical part. I am laying flat on my back, and so I am in the splash zone. Just as I start cleaning up, I hear the door open downstairs. My pants immediately go up, and everything is like nothing ever happened.\n\nFast forward to a few hours later. I'm playing Halo with little bro, when I feel the need to evacuate my bowels. I go to the bathroom, and I pull down my pants, and I feel a weird tugging feeling, which I brush off. Then, I pulled my boxers down, and it feels like my dick is on fire.\n\nMy best guess on what happened is that after I pulled my pants up originally, my jizz dried, and just cemented there, so when I pulled them back down, it pulled \u2265 half the hair off my balls plus the skin on the tip of my meatsnake.", "summary": "If you don't clean up thoroughly after beating it, your dick will get revenge and beat you."}
{"id": "t3_2yj3uc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by throwing out a receipt", "post": "Tifu, Well it was about 2 years ago.  I work out of town, fly in fly out, and I leave my truck parked out of my apartment.  It just so happend that on my days off I do a lot of work for a habitat for humanity type charity and I spent my first 4 days doing house calls ( electrical work) and on my last day before I travel I decided to have a me day, which is akin to playing video games and watching movies all day.  The last house call the previous evening I didn't get home until about 10 pm and I decided to leave my tools in the cab of my truck.  The next after noon I finally decide to don some pants and get some eats when I discover Someone mistook my truck as a take whatever you want shed and took about $1000 in tools and about another $1500 in stereo equipment. So anyway I go through insurance and get my stereo replaced and my window fixed ( which still cost me $350 as a deductible) with no tools replaced I might add. So any way flash forward to today I get a phone call from the insurance company saying that I never replaced the window, and that the mechanics shop that I took the window to get replace has charged money to them and that I never paid the $350 dollar deductible. So they gave me an ultimatum that I have to produce a 2 year old receipt or I have to pay another $350 dollar deductible.", "summary": "two years ago a my truck was broken into, paid a deductible to get repaired. Two years later the insurance says I never did and told me to produce a receipt or pay another $350 or I get taken to collections"}
{"id": "t3_2v7yfc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "19[M] Reconnecting with primary-school friend 19[F]", "post": "So there's a girl who I went to school with from the ages of 9 to 13 - I would've considered her a friend. We went to different secondary schools after the age of 13, but she never forgot to wish me happy birthday, etc. She messaged me at the age of 16 (2011) asking how my exams went, a conversation which I recently revisited and was subsequently ashamed of how dismissive and unrequiting I was of her incredibly sweet messages - there was a point in the conversation at which she said 'you're clearly not interested', to which I hopelessly insisted I was. I think at this point she was romantically interested, which I detected but was too much of an asshole to requite. \n\nAnyhow, to cut to the chase. The reason I looked at the conversation again was because Facebook's feed algorithm kindly placed something of hers in front of my very eyes. I clicked on her profile and found her Tumblr and Twitter. She's matured into a witty and trendy young lady, and I'd really like to repent for my former mistake and see where things go. How do I go about it? I haven't spoken to her in three years, albeit her birthday wishes, and I don't think she'd be impressed by a Facebook message, nor do I quite know what to say. I'm stuck - she's a really sweet girl and I'd love to get to know her again, but I don't know how to get her back in my life.", "summary": "Girl from primary school, lost contact for a few years, messaged me sweetly to which I was nonchalant, want to get back in touch."}
{"id": "t3_12jrd1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (16/f) need some advice on what to do next with this guy (18/m)", "post": "Okay, well. It's a 'I like this guy, and I don't know if he likes me' type of thing. I'll try to keep it short and sweet.\nI've liked him since last year, and we have gotten a lot closer since this September. At first he would usually text a few words but now he texts a lot more. We text basically every night until 11:30. \nIn June I asked if he liked me and he said he didn't know me that well. In October I asked him again, and if we could ever be more, he said we were really good friends and we would see where things lead us.\nBecause he's in college, we don't really see each other that much anymore. So I ask when he would be able to visit and how it'd be awesome to see him again, and he says that it would be nice to see me.\nOne day we were at a high school soccer game and it was raining. I didn't get there before it starte rainng so the bleachers were wet. He wiped them off for me, no other guy has done that for me.\nWe have a lot in common, and get along easily as well.\nHis sister, a good friend of mine, said that he only really texts me and his best friend. He confirmed it.\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "I like this guy and there are a lot of signs saying he likes me too. Already asked if he liked me and if we could be more, he said that we would see where things lead us."}
{"id": "t3_12mgqd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got robbed. Reddit, what are some of your worst first days at work?", "post": "There were two of the three new hires there today to do the eLearning modules, which meant that we had to be on separate computers to do them; the other girl, Amber, got the actual eLearning module computer and I got the one in the manager's office, but I had to leave my stuff in the employees' corner right next to the computer Amber had. I do, they tell me it'll be fine , and I work for the next four hours on the computer in the office. I go to pay for a danish, note the missing cash, and immediately bring it to the attention of the managers on duty. We searched the area, and I combed through my belongings while they called the district manager. The money can't be recouped because they're not liable and a police report can't be filed because there is no proof (no cameras in that area).", "summary": "Walked into training for my new job with $102, and left with $2."}
{"id": "t3_2hv2ja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [22F] improve myself for my bf [22M] of 4 years?", "post": "My problem in my relationship is myself. on the surface I am extremely sweet, thoughtful, and patient, but show my true side to my bf because he's the only person I trust and am comfortable enough to be 100% myself, which includes a lot of selfishness. I realize it after the fact and I hate myself for not recognizing it and avoiding acting this way altogether. Some examples of things I do: I'm overly critical of things he does, even small things. Also, he just started a job 80 miles from home and dealing with his own depression and loneliness, and I'm jobless, living at home with my parents, get to hang out with my friends and still make it about MY loneliness and how HE can fix my unhappiness. it's so fucked up and I'm ashamed of myself and it's makes me hate myself and doubt the quality of my character. I make him happy and he doesn't doubt that I'm the one for him for one moment (pretty sure lol),  but I wanna change and be the person he deserves, and I don't know how to fix myself.", "summary": "I'm selfish in my relationship and want to change. How?"}
{"id": "t3_3ean53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my fianc\u00e9 [25 M] of 1.5 yrs (together 4). He was electronically cheating the first 2.5 years. Has anyone successfully forgiven?", "post": "We've been engaged 1.5 years, together a total of 4. Our wedding is in two months.\n\nHe recently told me that 2 months before we got engaged he spent a week flirting, sexting, and seeing an acquaintance.  They didn't have sex but did physically cheat.\n\nWe've been working through that but today I learned that over the first 2.5 years we dated he was also on plenty of fish and tinder. He mostly emailed and sent photos, had a Skype session, and did hang out with one girl once but nothing happened.\n\nI believe that he's a different person now. That the feelings and relationship we currently have which is so great is genuine. I'm worried that I won't be able to let go of the past before our wedding, am wondering if 'once a cheater, always a cheater', and if anyone in a similar situation has been able to move forward from it.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 was on dating sites at beginning of relationship and cheated  a year ago. Will I be ignorant to still marry him?"}
{"id": "t3_162e25", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20M] Girl[20F] stopped texting me back, need advice please.", "post": "I met a girl online about 3 weeks ago and we exchanged emails about once every 3-4 days. Eventually I asked her for her # and she said to text her sometime. \n\n**Wednesday:**\n\nI sent her a text at about 9pm and we texted until about 1am. She seemed interested and opened up to me a little bit. She didn't respond to my last message that night, and I was really tired so I sent her another message saying I was glad we talked, and I would text her tomorrow. \n\n**Thursday:**\n\nI sent a text at noon and didn't receive a response. I sent another text at 5pm asking if everything was ok, and that I was sorry if I irritated her. She responded and said she was sorry but was busy like always. I sent her a reply and said that it was ok and asked her how her day was. She never responded. Sent her another text saying \"Hey, text me when you're not busy :(\", and left it at that. \n\n**Friday:**\n\nI sent her just a simple \"hey\" and didn't get a response. \n\n**Saturday:**\n\nDidn't text her. \n\n**Sunday(Today):**\n\nI'm afraid I may have 'spooked' her by sending so many texts. Don't know what to do. Haven't sent her anything today.\n\n**Notes:**\n\n-We have not met each other yet in person, and I haven't asked yet either.\n\n-She has said she was busy before in the emails we've exchanged.", "summary": "Met girl online, she gave me her #. We texted back and forth and she doesn't respond now. Hasn't responded to any of my texts in last 2 days."}
{"id": "t3_4e9yve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] broke up with my ex [19 F] after her cheating, pushing me away and being rude.", "post": "I [19 M] broke up with my ex [19 F] after she admitting sleeping with someone else whilst we were both at uni. She had been pushing a bit before and then she had gone off the rails and done that. She even text me 'i love you' that night...\n\nAfter the break up she was rude, blaming me for still having feelings for her. We agreed no contact was the only thing that would help, and even if she agreed she would break down in tears. She would call me when drunk and complain that she was still confused. It would be her shouting at me on the phone, or would be from a friends phone and on speaker with them all talking about me. \n\nThe guy she slept with even sent me messages saying \"there were reasons she cheated\", \"he gave her more in ten minutes than I did in the entire relationship\" (of two years mind), \"and to look at myself and see he is more attractive\". \n\nOverall this made me feel like utter crap. The girl who I loved and still loved at the time was an idiot and threw me in the ground. It's been 4 months, I've blocked her off everything and when at uni I don't ever see her. \n\nI've just lost confidence in myself, I started going to the gym more often and have started to eat healthily. I really wanna look my best. And I honestly feel I was a decent enough boyfriend and nice enough guy to not throw my ex in the floor when I heard. We had such cross over friends at home I didn't want to ruin her life completely. \n\nI need something to help me move on, I've been with some girls but it's only ever been a short term thing. I don't want to relapse (kinda) and fall back for my ex. I'm looking good but not feeling it as it's now getting tense. I know I'm young but as I was in a relationship for so long I sort of crave one again. What's my next step?", "summary": "I [19 M] am over my ex [19 F] but not sure whether I am even after all the terrible experiences."}
{"id": "t3_1nwkse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21 M was dumped by my Ex-GF 22 of 3 weeks, I really want to fight for this one.", "post": "My shortest relationship before this one was 3 years, and while I can understand honeymoon periods and that I probably jumped into this one way too quickly etc.. I'm losing sleep, and resorting to alcohol. \n\nup until a week before the break up things were quite literally perfect, we were cheeky with each other, laughing a lot. doing heaps together. All smiles and rainbows. Then she flipped her shit and it was over before i knew what had happened.\n\nI can see that \"Getting over it\" would be the easy choice, but I've never believed in a relationship more than how ours was going.\n\nWhat im asking for from you guys, is what can I do to have any hope of getting a second chance?\n\nFor now she isn't speaking to me. saying that she needs some space and will talk to me when she's ready.. What I fear more than anything is me becoming that guy she speaks to twice over the next 12 months and then never again.", "summary": "Best way to get a second chance when she isnt even speaking to me?"}
{"id": "t3_1y7ho5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] am concerned about the way things are going with my boyfriend [22 M] of four months", "post": "I've been dating this guy, we'll call him Greg, for about four months. Things started out really, really great (we slept together on the first real date, though we had hung out a few times  before--that worried me, but he assured me it wouldn't affect the relationship at all). We clicked insanely well, had tons of similar interests, sense of humor, on and on. He's had a few more long term relationships than me, and a lot more past sexual partners. \n\nThe issue that's arising is that I sometimes get upset about stuff that I feel is rational, like him brushing me off for friends but using the excuse that sometimes we just \"need time off.\" He's also extremely non-receptive to any emotional conversation, whatsoever. It's really difficult to talk to him about stuff upsetting me, because as he puts it, if it doesn't feel logical to him he doesn't see the point in discussing it, because it just reinforces the \"irrational behavior.\" That doesn't seem fair to me. If it's something that's bothering me, even if it seems silly to him, shouldn't he make the effort to help me address it anyways? \n\nAlso, the long and colorful list of past sexual experiences is extremely unnerving to me, as someone who has only had sex with one person before him. How do I get over feeling like I'm just another notch in the bedpost to him? I know that's unfair, but I can't help but worry about that a lot. Thanks Reddit!", "summary": "Concerns about past sexual experiences/failure to communicate well/lack of receptiveness to emotional stress/helppppp!"}
{"id": "t3_2ukwt8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my 18 [ M]ex-boyfriend of two years, wants to return the things I gave him.", "post": "I'm sorry I can't think straight right now he just texted me and it felt like a knife was stabbed through my chest right now. \" Depressed doll , I wanted to talk about returning your things. \"\n\nMy hands are trembling right now and I'm frozen. I don't know what to tell him. I'm literally crying and trembling after a week of NC. I should be a mature woman about this and handle it with maturity but this broke me apart. I don't know what to tell him. He was the one who broke up with me and I just... I'm the one here having these horrible feelings of confusion and I don't know. I'm so confused and scared and lost and I feel frozen. I don't know what's the right thing to do. It hurts. It hurts. I'm not in the best state of mind and he just messaged me this and I just.\n\nIt really hurts. I'm such a fucking coward I can't bring myself to talk to him. I'm already going to see my therapist tomorrow because of what a wreck I am. Should I even respond? I just. I don't care about the things. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend broke up with me a week ago, NC and now all of a sudden he texted about wanting to return my things and I'm devastated and I'm a sobbing crying mess right now."}
{"id": "t3_1dq0v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (20M) go over to her house and just confront her (19F)?", "post": "I met this girl a while back where we work. We've been going out at weekly on 'dates' for four weeks (and seeing each other on non-official dates). At the end of our last date (last week), I kissed her (and yes she kissed back), but since then things have been different. \n\nI have asked her to hang out or just generally catch up but each time she's been 'busy'. She hasn't initiated anything herself since then. Yesterday we worked together and really, it was as if nothing was going on between us...we just chatted normally/small talk.\n\nBasically, I am going out of my mind and I do not know whether to just go over to her house and tell her to tell me where she wants to go with this. Then again, I am not sure whether this is a good idea. All I know is I am going out of my mind and it is causing me plenty of anxiety :(.\n\nFurther information: She was in a one-year relationship which ended right before she met me. We're both studying at university.", "summary": "She appears to have been slightly avoiding me since our last date. Not sure whether to just confront her or let it go. I am extremely anxious."}
{"id": "t3_1mzid8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27M]My wife (26F) keeps bringing it up.", "post": "I love my wife a lot and we get along generally very well. I'm sure she'd be an amazing mother to future children and that we could grow old together as best friends forever. With that said, we are sexually incompatible. \n\nShe is one of the millions of men and women out there that is not opposed to sex, but is disinterested and could do it less than once a month and be fine. I feel like she wants a best friend that she can rely on to help her raise a child; not a lover. We've had 3 or 4 fights regarding my higher libido and desire to be intimate in some way and she always seems to bring up the same thing.\n\n\"Why don't you just find someone better?\" she says in a sad, self-pitying, tone.  \n\nShe has used this line in one form or another frequently enough that now I can't help but give it some thought. I've never been surprised with a sexual favor, I'm not allowed to go down on her because she feels uncomfortable, and she doesn't do that for me because she thinks it's gross. When we have sex, it's always the same. I honestly feel like I'm missing out on that part of my life. \n\nYet, I don't want to replace her. If it was possible I'd want to figure out how to get her to fit into that role. I don't want to give up my friend and partner in life over sex, but this issue isn't one that's going away. I know eventually the relationship will be doomed if things don't change. I've already told her that I don't want kids until we figure this out. I know our level of intimacy will just fall further after children; making things even more tense between us. I'd rather not divorce after we had kids or be like my dad who stuck around for 20 years until we were all grown up.\n\nI feel like I'm at the point where I need to challenge her suggestion in order to get things to change for the better. Normally I make a fuss about saying I don't want anyone else, but maybe I shouldn't anymore. Any suggestions on what to do would be really appreciated.", "summary": "Wife tells me I should find someone better than her. I don't want to give up on her, but maybe this time I shouldn't disagree."}
{"id": "t3_u718s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Complex situation, looking for advice on how to deal with it", "post": "Theres a bit of background to this, but ill try to be brief and would appreciate any help i can get. \n\nI am a heterosexual male in a 6 year relationship, both 22 now. We started having sex around 18 and had a good sex life, but outside stresses took their toll and i ended up with rejection and body image issues around 20. We stopped having sex shortly after for unrelated reasons and were not going to again until marraige, which intensified my problems with sex. We went 18 months without having sex, and with little fooling around, until deciding against the previous decision and starting again in the last year. However, similar and unavoidable outside stresses mean that we do so rarely. \n\nThe mentality i have now is that rejection is too debilitating to risk initiating sex myself, which i know to be foolish but which has been reinforced too many times to ignore. She understands this, and takes partial responsibility for it, so we have agreed that only she will initiate sex and she is patient when i have trouble accepting. However, she is dealing with unrelated problems that she has had throughout our relationship, and which make it so that she cannot control when she is feeling sexual or when she is emotionally stable enough to support me, so sex and support are still going to be too rare for me to make emotional progress myself. \n\nMy question is, what can i do to accept that my problems with sex are going to have to be on the back-burner for an unknown amount of time? There is nothing that can be done to change it, and we have agreed that other options would be less emotionally healthy overall, but that doesnt make it any easier to accept.", "summary": "I have significant rejection issues, but my SO wont be in a state to help for a while, stuck in sexually resentful limbo until then"}
{"id": "t3_338z00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21M) and SO (20F) of a year. She might have cheated on me?", "post": "Girlfriend of a year, everythings been great and nice and peachy. She's always been insecure of me cheating, she's been cheated on in the past, so have I.\n\nBasically I got home from work, went on my computer to finish work and was signed into facebook, didn't intentionally snoop, the message box was open from a friend, argument. the friend had messaged something and in the message was my name, caught my attention. It was 1 sentence, reminded my SO about the one time me and her fell out and she was \"very very tempted to shag *another guy*\"\n\nThis hurt me alot.... realised this argument and this happened 2 months ago... to be honest this is the first I've heard of cheating. But just because we had an arguement and it was a small argument, it was about a TV show, you know something pety and small. And it caused her to be very tempted to fuck another guy...\nThis other guy is her friend and see's regularly, to be honest, i'm quite insecure, jealous, paranoid, i don't know what to think. \n\nand then I remembered, the other week, I woke up one night in a fit of hysterics, bad dream, she'd cheated on me. I know not bad, but I used to suffer from insomnia due to nightmares about fmaily members and all that. So woke up, sweating, upset etc, asked her if she's ever cheated or thought about cheating, she said no and lied.\n\nI don't know what to think, is this worth bringing up to her, but then she'll just ask how do I know and the argument with turn onto me for being on her facebook... she lied to my face about thinkin about cheating on me, is this a red flag, could she have cheated, worth bringing up?", "summary": "insecure girlfriend always scared I'm gonna cheat, found out that when we had a small arguement 2 months ago, she very nearly cheated on me with one of her friends that she see's regularly. Found this information out on her facebook that was already signed in on my computer. Should I bring up? Is it worth it or start a big argument? Should I forget it? Is this a red flag, could she have actually cheated on me?"}
{"id": "t3_3q7m8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my mom [50 F] She wants to start over and find a job and I don't know how to help", "post": "My mom is 50 years old, mostly Korean speaking, and she wants to find a job to have a more fulfilling life now that the kids are out of the house. I'm not sure if this is the right place to seek help, but I'm giving it a shot. She's located in Orange County, CA, so there's enough of a Korean community. \n\nI'm a pharmacy student in Northern California. I don't know how to help her or what to do for her. I suggested taking classes to improve her skills but deep down I question how successful she will be. She's mostly depended on my dad and been a housewife: no official job experience other than assisting my dad with his independent businesses in video/dvd rental store (yes, it's still in business!) and online printer ink business, and her raising 3 children.  She's a hardworking, smart, and determined woman. Her English isn't terrible, but definitely not enough for an office or anything like that and her computer skills are poor. \n\nI want to help her reach her goals and help her be happy with her life, but I have so much doubt. Given how the job market is and her lack of skills...it's hard to be hopeful. I still give her as much support and resources I can but I don't know what more I can say or do to be of some use. \n\nAlong with doubt, I'm scared for her. I can't imagine how it must feel to be her age and wanting to start over with no official or professional experience, and wanting to have a more independent life. I definitely support her and want everything to go well, but realistically... chances are so slim and it breaks my heart to think of how disappointed, frustrated, and hurt she can be if things don't work out. \n\nIf anyone has any advice how I can help her, how she can help herself, or some insight into the job market for older Korean-American women or anything at all, it would be greatly, greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My 50 year old Korean speaking mom wants to get back into the job market and I don't know what more I can do for her or what she can do to help herself. Scared and doubtful of the realistic outcomes and how that could affect her."}
{"id": "t3_4aiyjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(23F) skip applying for an paid internship with a company I already work for because of my GPA?", "post": "I currently intern for a non-profit that I absolutely love. However, my internship is unpaid and I'm really okay with that. I've gotten to do some incredible things there and have even started several projects on my own. I'm very close with the Executive Director and several members on staff. It's a very small staff and they're starting to feel like family. The ED wrote me a letter of recommendation a few weeks backs and even said I was one of the best interns she has ever worked with.\n\nA few weeks ago, they mentioned a summer internship that was coming up that I should apply for. Being that's it's paid (they received a grant for it) and they already know me, they were very insistent on me applying. \n\nToday, I went to apply and saw that I needed to submit an unofficial transcript. Here's the thing, my GPA sucks. I currently have a 2.6 after a year of trying to get back into school, failing, and trying again. I'm back on my feet and studying hard as heck, but my GPA has definitely suffered. I'm very embarrassed by it and don't really know what to do. To add to the embarrassment, the letter of recommendation that was written for me was for a somewhat prestigious public uni. I don't want my ED to see my GPA and think she wasted her time writing me that letter...\n\nShould I even apply? I start a full-time job this week and I will be making more than enough money to support myself. However, the internship would be good. I'm just not sure.", "summary": "My GPA is terrible and I need to submit a transcript for an internship. I don't know if I should."}
{"id": "t3_3y847p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have had a deep crush on a friend of mine [20F] for two years. However, she happens to be the ex girlfriend of one of my childhood best friends.", "post": "In the summer of 2013, I [20M] befriended the girlfriend [20F] of my best friend at the time. Let's call him Jeff, and we will call her Eliza. \n\nJeff and I had been best friends all throughout elementary, middle school, and high school. We were like brothers. The friendship between Eliza and I started off as innocent texting , joking, etc. Then we started to hang out. Eventually it got to the point that Eliza and I were going on movie dates, dinner dates, I even met her mom. Not even Jeff had met her mom and they had gone out for 3+ years. All of this went on while Jeff and Eliza were still in a relationship. For the record, Eliza and I never kissed or engaged in any sexual activity. I felt bad about hanging out with my friend's girlfriend, but I respected him enough to not cross that extreme line of betrayal.\n\nI developed a crush on Eliza. I loved everything about her. After a while, she decided to stop talking to me and to make amends with Jeff, they got back together. They broke up shortly thereafter.\n\nFast forward 2 years, to the present: Jeff and I haven't spoken in a long time. Eliza and I still talk here and there. But the thing is, I still have very strong feelings about her. I thought that maybe it was just a temporary infatuation but I was wrong. I constantly think of the possibility of her and I being together. Everything seemed so perfect\u2026 I think about her everyday but I'm too scared about how to confess this to her as I don't know how she will react. Eliza has been single for about a year and a half now.\n\nHow do I tell her my feelings? I want nothing more in life than to make her mine, its just hard overcoming the overwhelming guilt that I feel about losing one of my life long best friends over her.", "summary": "I feel strongly about this girl and at one point I thought we had a real shot at making something happen. But I have never been able to overcome the guilt that she was once my best friends girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_f8fcv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, What would you do?", "post": "I've got a couple of up coming options (I think) One is a full time spot as a certified flight instructor at a Florida Seaplane base. Something that requires me to obtain my CFI rating, which, without borrowing cash from a friend or family member, I can't afford to get in a timely manner, something that would need to actually happen.\n\nOption two: Take a full time spot running the office of said Seaplane base (which I work part time on Fridays and the Weekends as of now) This would give me a pretty steady income which I could pour into flying on my own time but wouldn't give me experience that teaching at the same location would provide. \n\nSo", "summary": "Bum money or get a credit card to coffer the cost of the additional training I need, or Take the office spot and fly on the weekends, working toward my end goal but with a steady stream of income?"}
{"id": "t3_hi7qk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which consumer/usage trends re- the internet that you observe, or anticipate, do you think matter and why?", "post": "I've been charged with a writing a sort of opinion report by my cousin who is a hedge fund manager in Hong Kong. He has asked me to give him my insight re the internet. I'm 20 and he's 40-something so I am quite flattered that he would ask me about my opinion when it means selling or not selling a huge stock in Google. I'd like to know what the rest of the Internet (or Reddit in this case) thinks will be the \"next big thing\" on the internet, or alteast, something that will you anticipate being the next technology you'll use.\n\nHere are some of my thoughts/examples:\n\n1. Netflix & VOD = We already know how popular it is and how much ISP and conventional media distributers (cable/satellite tv) are shitting their pants. This includes iTunes/YouTube movie rentals and things like watching full episodes of the Daily Show on their website.\n2. Cloud media storage = Amazon did it, Google just did, and Apple is certainly going to release their take immentantly. I'd say DropBox popularized the idea and then the bigwigs took the idea and ran with it. Once ISPs catch up to the fast growing demand for bandwidth I'd say most of your files will be stored \"in the cloud\", especially with the rise in popularity of tablets.", "summary": "tell my what the next big internet phenomenon will be (and why)"}
{"id": "t3_3d6fhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF[24/F] of 2 years, not sure where to take the relationship...", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. We still stay in contact very frequently and are very much in love. The only issue is that we live in separate towns (35 miles apart) which means I can only see her on the weekends, 3/4 times a month.\n\nWe've spoken about her moving to my town (at the moment I can't leave as my dad has recently been diagnosed with cancer). Maybe planned to do so over the next year or two. My girlfriend is currently looking for a new job but is having great difficulty doing so, I suggested maybe she should start looking at jobs in my town but she doesn't yet want to move.\n\nSo I feel like I'm being very selfish as I am feeling quite down and lonely at the moment. A part of me doesn't want her to move as all her friends and family are there and obviously mine are here. As we don't see each other very frequently when we do see one another we spend the time alone together. This is very pleasant, however, because of this we do not spend a lot of time with our friends and often find we are missing out on events as we are in one another's town.\n\nAll advice is appreciated!", "summary": "Currently with girlfriend of 2 years but live in separate towns, I want to be able to see more of her but due to commitments we aren't able to. Not sure how to approach this."}
{"id": "t3_1n0h23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Ex Gf [21 F] of 2ish years. Broke up, All me. I'm a dumbass.", "post": "So I was dating this fantastic being of a person. She moved to another state to be with me. While I was in this giant slump I didn't realize how great she was and somehow ended up asking her to leave. She gave me every out and I didn't take it. I was probably the biggest asshole in the world. At least it feels like it now. Well of course not a month after she left my eyes aren't hazy. And I realize I love her more than anything. It may just be break up jitters but I haven't felt this love since the first time she told me she loved me. As it would go. It's to little to late. She's moved on. I find myself online stalking her and its gross. She may even see this which bums me out because she may feel bad. But I would like some broad spectrum of advice. I'm sure someone out there has to have been in something like this. I am now across the United States. I have a good job and need to finish school. But, I'm breaking. I want to go move back to California to try and win her back. I have done everything in my power to busy myself. Comic books, reading, (shamefully...) drinking, work, and I'm working out a lot because I want to do anything I can to help me get her back. Am I just dreaming? Should I just mark this one off as done? How can I feel less pathetic is what I'm asking. I want her and only her as it would seem. But, is it ok to work my ass off for something that may never happen again? And it is my fault... So yea.", "summary": "I was a depressed weirdo and left the most amazing woman I will probably have the honor of meeting. She's moving on. (Realized I was a fucker) I want to make her fall in love with me over and over again. Then somehow make her understand I won't mess it up ever again. But, I'm a dumb ass and now its pretty far off."}
{"id": "t3_1ibv7e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [19] of a year ignores me [19f] every night while he plays video games.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are perfect until it 11 pm. Every night he plays video games and skypes with his friends until 3 or 4 in the morning. I would be fine if this happened and I got at least an short texr every hour or so but I get nothing. :/\n\nThe first time it happened I cried for hours.(It was also an emotional time of the month. So cut me slack.) The next day he didn't seem to acknowledge that any thing was wrong and I just felt like I was being crazy.  It's been around 3 months of this happening almost every night. \n\nI have just started to ignore it an try to not let it bother me but now I am away on a trip for weeks and it still happens. I would love to talk to him at night because its the only time we can really catch up but he still disappears. \n\nI need help. I know I demand too much attention but if you are siting there telling me how much you miss me I think you should miss me enough to ignore your friends for ten seconds to text me. \n\nI have talked to him and explained how much it actually hurts me but nothing has changed. It makes it worse that when I don't text him when ever he wants he gets so pissed even if it just takes me ten mins longer that normal. I need advise. I don't know if I should just back off or I should make him give me some attention. Help!", "summary": "My boyfriend ignores me nightly for video games. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1jpstj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26M] am about to start a relationship for the first time in 5 years with someone[22F] but am hesitant. Looking for advice.", "post": "I'm pretty much perpetually single. I date a lot and have a few short-term flings, but I've only been in one relationship my entire life. I guess closed relationships just don't appeal to me. I'm a relatively young guy who enjoys women immensely...but restricting myself to just one sounds far from ideal. However...after talking to a girl I like very much for 7 months, I realize it's about time to cut things off or move on to the next step...and she definitely wants a relationship and deserves a relationship, so i'm going to give it a shot.\n\nIt's just not how i'm wired though. I know I may be coming off like a huge douche, but men are wired to have multiple sexual partners, not be monogamous. I think i'd be much more interested in a polyamorous relationship, but finding a woman that would be down for that seems next to impossible. I am of the opinion that you can be 100% committed to someone emotionally but still open yourself up to other people physically...but not many people (or at least women) are understanding of that.\n\nI just want to make sure that i'm doing the right thing by committing to this girl. It's obviously not my ideal situation, but i'm doing it for her. Hell maybe it would be good for me to learn how to be a little less selfish and see what relationships are all about...and that's one of the reasons why i'm giving it a shot. It's not that I don't like the girl...i'm crazy about her, I just don't see a closed relationship as something i'd ever be interested in ideally. But hey...relationships are all about give and take and I think I just need to give in this situation.", "summary": "I'm a selfish asshole who wants to be able to sleep with whoever I want and still be in a relationship. Yell at me please."}
{"id": "t3_4jspdg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [26f] BF [25m] might still be hung up on his ex", "post": "I think my boyfriend of 5 years is hung up on his ex girlfriend. He recently referred to their breakup, during a fight of ours, as one of his biggest regrets because he tore into her so hard and said unforgivable things to her when they ended. I just saw a bunch of messages they exchanged talking about how he regrets how he treated her and wish he could talk to her. Those were from 2 years ago. But what's bugging me is that the most recent message he sent was on the last day of a wonderful vacation we were on together a couple of months ago. I remember waiting for him in bed while he sat out on the balcony and apparently he was texting her about how he would give anything to be able to talk to her again. There wasn't a reply from her. He was in the bathroom beating off when I woke up to see what was taking him so long. Seeing how he practically never drinks alcohol and that vacation was full of booze should I just chock it up to a drunk text? Last year around this time I broke up with him because he had been chatting with a much younger girl over texts about what he dislikes about me and just flirting with her alot. We've since worked that out and he told me that I don't talk to him enough. I am so bad at sharing my feelings and talking about whats on my mind. I dont know if ill ever be great at it, honestly but I'm trying as best as I can right now. You should also know that he is going through some extreme mental health problems. I don't know how to bring this up since he'll absolutely blow up if he knows I was snooping. Plus I've been on the receiving end of the soul crushing, emotional ass-fucking that he did to her and it's awful. You only want what you can't have? You don't realize how much a good thing you have until it's gone?", "summary": "BF texts ex about how much he misses talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_2fajah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [21 F] of 5 years, she is on holiday to zante with her best friend and are with a group of 4 guys.", "post": "Okay, First of all this is a throwaway because reasons.  \n\nSo My girlfriend of 5 years lets call her Jessica is on holiday with her friend from Uni, Lets call her Becks.\n\n On the second or third day a group of lads check in to the hotel and the girls get talking to them, at first all was fine, I don't mind my girlfriend making friends with men or women its not a problem but I found out this morning that both Jessica and Becks have been with these guys pretty much 24/7 only leaving them to go to sleep* (*Apparently, get to that in a second).\n\n I also found out that Becks had previously left Jessica alone with at least 2 of the guys on one night, I know I cannot blame my girlfriend for her mate leaving her but what she said next didn't quite add up to me, My girlfriend said that when Becks had left her she waited outside the club alone for 20 or so mins before heading back to the hotel and after 10 mins Becks turned up and they went to sleep.\n\nThen my girlfriend then says Becks had gone back to another guys hotel and gone all the way with him and had been there for around an hour..\n\nThis is where things started not to make sense, if Becks had been gone an hour but my girlfriend had only waited 30 where did the other 20-30 mins go?, she says nothing has happened and nothing will happen but my gut says otherwise.\n\nI have no proof of any infidelity and I know it very well could all be in my head, yet my gut instinct is that something has happened.\n\nAny advice or even just telling me I'm being stupid would be very much appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend is on holiday with her best friend and has been with a group of guys 99% of the time, Gut instinct points towards something going on."}
{"id": "t3_1vwkwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27M]Having trouble getting back into dating due to living at home. Should I even bother right now?", "post": "I was in a LTR for 7 years - spent a long time together basically standing still and enjoying life. Ended up going to college, then university and graduated in April of 2013. We broke up not too long after. We were planning on moving out asap after I graduated, but things just did not work out.\n\nI have a full time job, but the pay fluctuates greatly. I am actively seeking better employment, although I make about 45k a year and have a company vehicle. Since I graduated, I've been paying down my student debt and I've pretty much cleared all of it off as of now. My parents are generous enough to let me live here rent free, although I pay for my own food and bills. I have paid off about $12k in debt, and saved about $6k since April. I could afford to move out on my own, but I would prefer a room mate if I'm going that route - it's a long story but I don't really know anyone to move out with.\n\nAnyway - I've gone on 2 dates with one girl, and \"dated\" another for about a month and a half. Both were through real life contacts. One girl I \"friendzoned\", and the other one did the same to me. I want to meet someone, go on more dates, etc but I feel like living at home is inexcusable for someone my age. The only caveat I guess is I live in Toronto, Canada and a 1 bedroom condo is $250k + $300-$700 in condo fees / month. A 1 bedroom apartment is $1200-$1300 a month (and not even a good one). If I found a roommate, I could rent a 2 bedroom at ~$650-800 / month each depending on the area, etc.\n\nI'll take complete honesty - how bad does my situation look in terms of dating? I'm a normal guy, decently good looking, own 1 car myself and have one provided by my position. Would \"yeah I live in my parents basement\" be a complete deal breaker? The last 2 girls I was seeing didn't seem to mind, but both of them live at home as well.", "summary": "Planned to move out with long term girlfriend, broke up"}
{"id": "t3_daerc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to get out of the country fast and leave my life behind for a while. Recommend me someplace to live/travel for a month.", "post": "I'm 95% sure my long-term girlfriend has fallen out of love with me and wants to dump my ass.  That shit will fuck me up unless I have a major life change to keep me occupied.  About a month should do it.  Where should I go?  My budget is ~$5000 including plane ticket.\n\nLimitations: I run an internet business, I can't be disconnected for more than 48 consecutive hours and I need several uninterrupted hours a day on a relatively secure connection.  So, no African outback or Amazon rainforest.", "summary": "need to gtfo of Dodge, internet access required, $5k budget, give me your travel recommendation"}
{"id": "t3_328qvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with boyfriend(?) [26 M] 1.5 months. I want to make him my official boyfriend but he says we need to be best friends first. What steps should I take to make that happen?", "post": "Hello Reddit! So I've been dating a guy for about a month and a half. He calls me his \"girl\" (hasn't called me his girlfriend yet though), we're exclusive, he has introduced me to his mom and his daughter (he told me I'm the first girl he has ever introduced her to), and has taken me to his favorite pub (again, he has never taken a woman to this place because it's his place). \n\nThe problem I have is that he said he always rushes things and doesn't want to rush this because every time he's done that it's ended in massive failure. He wants to be best friends before we officially DTR. I completely and totally agree. However, I need help getting there. I have a ton of guy friends, but the type of friendship I have with them prohibits any ability to be in a relationship with them (they know I'm a disgusting person). What steps can I take to make my guy my best friend, thus turning him into my official boyfriend?", "summary": "how do I make my boyfriend my best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_341177", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by beating my meat at 12 am", "post": "I live with my parents. Around Christmas, I was stupid enough to get caught smoking weed in my room. As my punishment, I'm not allowed to have my phone or my laptop in my room when I go to bed. My mom keeps forgetting about the computer, so for the past few months I've been giving her my phone but then just going on my computer while she thinks I'm asleep. \n\nFast forward to last night. Wanking helps me sleep, so I load up a nice video and go at it. I guess I was a little loud finishing up, because as soon as I was done I heard my mom coming up the stairs. I froze like a little bitch as she busted into my room, wondering what fuck all that noise was. She probably thought I was doing drugs again and came up to make sure nothing illegal was going on. But NOPE - There I am with my dick out, huddled around the computer, unable to find something to say. \n\nBut get this - my mom didn't even notice that I had no pants on, or that there were tissues everywhere, or that there was hand lotion on my bed. She was so mad that I was on my computer when I was supposed to be asleep that she focused her full attention on that, instead of noticing my little friend getting some air. She took away my computer and told me to go to sleep. It was fucked up, but I'm thanking my lucky stars it was nothing worse.", "summary": "never wanking again in case my mom actually notices this time"}
{"id": "t3_fsazv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Will members of Anonymous get caught for hacking Westboro Baptist Church's site? Would a hypothetical \"Average Hacker Dude\" get caught?", "post": "After reading about Anonymous's hacking of Westboro Baptist's site, I'm wondering some things about server attacks, web security and internet privacy.  I studied computer science, but wasn't great at it - I understand SQL injection and exploiting basic web security holes, but I have no idea how \"regular people\" could do \"advanced\" hacking and not get caught! (Note: I don't want to do this, I just want to know. I'm more interested in protecting sites I develop, and protecting my own privacy on the internet :) )\n\nDo you think that WBC people/hired techies will be able to trace the identities or activities of any particular members of Anonymous (to sue the pants off them, as they so obviously want to)? If not, how do hackers of high-profile sites hide their identities when doing the deed?\n\nAs for \"regular people\" hackers - are there any? do they hack from their home network with their home computer? Do they do questionable things from a local public wireless network? do they use TOR and nothing else? do they use handles like \"Acid Burn\" and \"Crash Override\"? Could I, (hypothetically of course) as a reasonably technologically educated yet average girl get away with hacking something big and important, or is there Xtreme Knowledge I'd have to know first?", "summary": "What kind of privacy and networking precautions do hackers take when exploiting high profile sites and doing fancy stuff like DDOSing? Is it likely that individual members of Anonymous will get caught? Can \"average people\" do that stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_1tfi9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me [23 F] let go of my desire to sleep with one of my ex's so I don't destroy everything with my fiance [24 M]", "post": "I've been with my fiance [24 m] for 4 years and we have a daughter that is 2.  I love my life with him, but things sexually have been really difficult recently...When this started, about a year and a half ago, I just lost my sex drive.  I didn't have any urges to have sex with anyone else until about a month ago, I didn't feel less attractive to him, I really don't know what initially made me lose my sex drive.\n\nI thought I had a handle on my urges for an ex fling of mine until a dream I had last night made me realize how desperate I feel to have sex with my ex.  I don't want to go through with it, but I literally cry thinking about how I will never get to be with him again.  We knew each other about 6 1/2 years ago and were friends for about a month ending a short while after we had sex one time.  I have had feelings for this guy ever since, but it didn't keep me from dating other people.  This is just recently resurfaced, my desires for him again, like I said within the last month, however it's only for sex without wanting a relationship.  We are still friends and talk on facebook, meeting up randomly with friends occasionally, but he's not in my life a lot.  My S/O has no idea about my desires for him and I feel that if I were to try to explain to him how I felt it would destroy him...I want to just forget about all of this but I just can't let it go.\n\nI'm not texting, calling, or pursuing it at all but the fact that I feel so desperate for him is effecting the healing process of my loss of sex drive for my S/O and I don't want anything but to fix things with my fiance.", "summary": "All I'm asking for is for you to tell me why I can't act on my impulses to have sex with an ex fling...I feel so ashamed and guilty right now and I can't get myself to let this go.."}
{"id": "t3_piri9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would you save the world with $310 million?", "post": "My friend and I (more often than we should) discuss what we would do if we won the lottery. Usually it begins with our amazing dream mansion or hobbit home village, space travel, awesome vacations, paying off our debt and never working again. When the pot grows we think about buying a ticket more seriously. So when my friend asked if I knew that no one had won the Powerball and it was up to $310 million I spurted out, \"I could save the world with that!\" And proceeded to make my list of the things that resonate with me.\n\nRenovation Programs of major urban areas:\n\n-Converting homes in the US to better utilize solar and wind energy\n\n-Education on how to use recycled materials for inexpensive creations to reduce energy usage\n-Converting apartment buildings to include green roof gardens and vertical forests\n\n-Converting apartments and office buildings to utilize solar paneled windows, roof wind turbines\n-Utilizing rain water capture and recycled water for toilet systems\n\n-Convert apartments to switch operated hot water systems\n\n-Replace billboard ads with art billboards\n\n-Educate people on the importance of indoor composting w/bokashi and organic gardening \n\n-Set up community garden centers and farmers markets = local organic produce and products & economic growth\n\n-Invest in Zip car companies\n\n-Invest in clean energy public transit options \n\n-Educate on recycling and making sure every office and home/apartment owner participates\n\n-Lobby states to offer tax credits to office/apartment building owners for implementing recycling programs\n\n-Lobby states to offer tax credits for energy efficient renovations\n\t\t\nThe Water Project:\n-Stop drinking bottled water and invest in cleaner/safer water filtration \n\n-Donate to the Water Project\n\n-Make sure education programs are in place on how to maintain wells and irrigation systems\n\n-Set up programs that cover the costs of maintaining them\n\nAlgae bio fuel research and implementation.\n\nPrograms to support equal entrepreneurial opportunities for women across the globe.\n\nThe Satellite Project\n\n-Internet availability to all across the globe\n\nCARE Donations \n\nEarth Ship disaster relief and rebuilding projects\n\n-Marketing, education and collection efforts", "summary": "How would you save the world with $310 million?"}
{"id": "t3_4d48qm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure on how to talk to my [25 F] bf [27 M] about his abusive childhood.", "post": "I've been with my bf for about 4 years. A few nights ago he said that I know almost nothing about his childhood. This is because he was physically abused by his parents(mainly his dad) until he moved out so I feel strange bringing it up. He's told me what his dad did to him fairly early into the relationship and so I've never brought up his parents or him growing up and everything I know about his childhood is from him bringing it up.\n\nWe were talking about stupid things that we used to do in school and his abuse came up. He was telling me how he used to play a game with some kids at school where they would rub the metal part of a pen against a desk until it gets hot and then press it against each other and whoever could handle it better won. He said he always won and I asked why and then he said because his father used to put cigarettes out on him. Whenever something like this happens I usually become quiet and change the subject.\n\nI had a good childhood(except for one thing but my parents didn't do it to me) and I have a good relationship with my parents so I can't relate to him on that.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to talk about his past more, I'm unsure on how to do address his abuse/childhood tactfully."}
{"id": "t3_4a6v31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] slept with my best friends [20F] \"ex\" [23M] and she is upset with me.", "post": "I was at a friend's birthday party last night and as the night died down, I got cozy with my best friend's \"ex\" and we had sex (no strings, just drunken fun). I put it in quotes because they dated for less than a month and SHE dumped him because he was \"too weird and clingy\". She is now in a relationship and has been for almost two years now. \n\nI told her before how I thought he was cute and she even offered to set me up with him at one point, which I guess she now doesn't remember. I actually was so surprised she's reacted the way she is, I had no idea she would be upset. She's now reacting with petty, snarky comments and plays them off as a joke when I call her out on it. It's been less than 24hrs so I'm hoping she'll just get over it and realize how silly she is being. I talked to her this afternoon about it, telling her if she's mad at me it's okay, and I'll leave her alone and give her space. She's reassuring me it's fine and it's just weird for her but she won't let up on calling me a slut/dumb/bitch/etc. We have never had a serious argument (we've been friends for 13 years now) and I'll be damned if it's over a dumb boy neither of us really care about, but I don't like her treating me this way and telling me who I can and cannot have sex with. It's childish. Any advice or different side of view I'm not seeing? Thanks.", "summary": "I thought I had a green light to mess around with my best friends \"ex\" (dated for only a month and she dumped him) and now she's treating me like shit. "}
{"id": "t3_3o9kax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) am considering shaving my head because I'm sick of taking care of my hair. My boyfriend (22M) hates the idea.", "post": "I don't even have super curly hair or anything.  I just have never liked my hair and don't know how to care for it.  I've asked stylists and they push products I can't afford.  I know shaving my head won't look good, but at least my hair won't be a bother anymore.  \n\nI asked my boyfriend (3.5 years) and even though he tried to be nice about it, he was very against it.  He says he likes my hair the way it is.  I asked if he'd feel similarly about chopping it off in a boy-cut and he said yes.\n\nThis is so stupid, I know, but should I just go ahead and shave/buzz my head?  Or should I be more considerate to my boyfriend?", "summary": "I'm considering shaving/buzzing my head for maintenance reasons.  Boyfriend is not a fan."}
{"id": "t3_31uhzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (16/m) hopelessly infatuated with a close friend (16/f) even after being rejected.", "post": "I've never had a relationship before or even asked a girl out because I felt I didn't have the \"mental health\" to be in one. I've been seeing a therapist for months and finally felt healthy and confident enough to ask her on a date. She said no, but said it was because she didn't see me as more than a friend \"right now\". We are still close friends and even closer than before, spending entire nights talking together. I've never felt such a close bond with another person and I understand that hormones play a big role but I still feel very deeply about her. I feel like I don't deserve her and I'm trying to better myself for her, working out, dressing better, etc. I don't want to lose her as a friend either and since it's high school, I need to be careful with this. Where should I go from here? Should I give up all hope of being together or keep our current relationship and hope for the best?", "summary": "I was rejected but I still have feelings for her, don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_4uin08", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Canada, ON] thread requesting and (nonconsensually) posting (mostly) underage teenage girls nudes from a specific city - how to proceed?", "post": "Hello,\nI am from Canada, Ontario - throwaway because i feel uncomfortable having this linked to my main.\n\nAs the title states - I came across a thread on a forum site dedicated to teen girls nudes from a specific city in Ontario.\nIt's like a trading card game - with comments such as:\n \"ill trade blah's nudes for blah\" or \"I have all of blah's nudes - used to fuck her\" - along with actual nude photos of these largely underage girls.\n\nHow should I proceed with this? Should I try an contact as many girl as I can identify on the thread and link them to it? What legal action could they possibly take? \n\nSidenote: This is the second 'version' of this thread. It existed before a couple years ago and was taken down. This is a new thread dedicated to the same thing.", "summary": "Thread dedicated to sharing mostly underage teen nudes from specific city in Ontario - how do I get this taken down?"}
{"id": "t3_3h22rw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Saved an older lady (and her cat!) who was trapped on her porch today while on my run!", "post": "So, a few streets that are usually heavy traffic in my hometown are closed down today, due to... arts stuffs, a fair or something. Because of that, my running path was a fairly empty. While running by these condos, the older lady called out to me to help her, so I stopped to see what was up.\n\nApparently when she had closed her deck door, something had fallen and jammed it shut. Since no one had been around, she hadn't be able to get help, and had been up there for 20-30 minutes. So I went into her house, ran up her steps, and released her (and her kitty) from the very sunny deck.\n\nShe was very thankful, gave me a hug, and let me cuddle her cat a bit. I was thankful I could help, since it was a pretty hot day out and if she had been up there for a longer amount of time, she might have gotten sick or worse.\n\nGo running. Save a life.", "summary": "Good deed fees good."}
{"id": "t3_3pbnb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] GF of two years is withholding sex and kisses on the mouth because I [23 M] don't have job and don't have my shit together", "post": "We been going out for two years I haven't been always to find steady employment after graduating with a 4 year college degree at a state school . Recently I was doing tutoring to support myself but it was seasonal . I'm on my grind though applying for more jobs .\n\nAlex  is at school full time with a part time more recent McDonald's job which I guess made her sick of being the only one working since I haven't been able to really take her out in a while .\n\nLike the title says alex says I need to work on myself and that she has goals and that she doesn't want to do anything with me basically until I have a job . She wants us to have our own place together since I'm living with my bro and she's living with her mom. \n\nWhich is not fair because I always took her or in the past while I was in school .Is this fair for her to do ? Recently we been fighting a lot and decided to take things slow but it just seems over the top that she doesn't want to kiss me anymore \n\nShe's says were exclusive and that she has no plans to see anyone else , it seems like she's trying to motivate me by withholding sex and making out .", "summary": "gf tired of me not working and taking her out , withholding intimacy"}
{"id": "t3_42p83j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] went out on a date with my current crush [22 F] and it went well. What's the next step?", "post": "You know this is starting to become my favorite subreddit! As such, I finally scored a date with... let's call her \"Kali\" and it was a very through session, in fact it was basically ninety minutes of us talking each other's ears off with talks of track/cross country, school, art, comics, movies, food all over Panda Express. \n\nHey, don't judge I actually never had the stuff before. It was a nice day might I add mostly because it was my first date in years and I am so rusty when it comes to dating. \n\nNonetheless, once the date ended, she did in fact agree to a second date on Friday schedule permitting of course but here's the catch, our mutual friend will be there thus meaning he will become a third wheel of sorts though he argued that he would not be that so to speak. \n\nEither way, I'm down for it despite the challenge Kali is presenting to me thus far. It is a classic Tom & Jerry chase we are playing so far and it is very nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time. \n\nHowever, I am a bit on the worrying side because I can recall a small moment during our texting session a few hours before where I found out that I am living in the same mobile home park as her ex! \n\nI shut that down with the quickness by asking her to worry about the present in the nicest way I could conjurer up. Furthermore, I am quite possibly overthinking stuff because from what I can tell I do think I am making tremendous progress. \n\nAnd you know what? That is the question here, what is next for me in the pursuit? Do I go on this \"second\" date and make a move or do I scrap it and move on to something different? \n\nAs such, thanks for reading!", "summary": "date with Kali went well, going on a second one this week, what's the next move for me here?"}
{"id": "t3_22a7hf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] best friends [21M & 22F] have just broken up after 4 years. How do I deal with this?", "post": "I have been best friends with these 2 since high school. We are nearing the end college, and I just found out yesterday that they broke up after 4 years. I always thought they would get married. It's also important to mention that they have a 2 year old child together. He wants to get married, but she is realizing that he isn't the best partner for her. She still loves him and has been continuing the relationship for the sake of the baby. There is a lot of pressure from friends and family for them to get married because of the baby and because of the long term relationship they've had. She also doesn't believe that he truly wants to get married. He just says it so they can keep the relationship alive. \n\nI'm torn between these two. I'm not choosing sides, but what am I supposed to do in a situation like this? She came to me, asking for advice and as someone to talk to. I told her I wanted to talk to him about the situation, but before I got the chance to, they broke up the next day. We ended up having a very awkward night out for another friend's birthday going to clubs and bars.\n\nHow am I supposed to support or help them? Help them get through the breakup? Try to get them back together? Not do anything?", "summary": "My best friends have just broken up after a long term relationship. I'm torn. What am I supposed to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3nzd6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF [19F] of three years. Is it wrong of me not to reach out to her about my suicidal thoughts due to fear of losing her?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, and she's supported me in everything up to this point no matter what.\n\nRecently, I have started going to counseling and opening up my problems and feeling like I don't have self worth and such.\n\nI try my best to convince myself into the fact \"If she doesn't stay with me when I am down, she isn't right\", but I struggle to do that because I obviously love her with all my heart and really am trying my best to get around that. Part of the problem too about bringing it up is that we are currently long distance (900 miles) apart from eachother, so we have been communicating via skype.\n\nThe other portion that makes me hesitant is that she and I have been a little distant, mainly due to the stress levels and amount of work (55-60 hours a week) she deals with, and her dealing exhausted according to her makes it really hard for her to show affection. (It takes energy that she doesn't have, probably better worded). \n\nI am with professional help and I have been going to it, I just am not sure if I should bring it up to her, and if I do what could happen. She knows i've been struggling and part of it is to due with my rough past with my dad (Abusive, alcoholic) and never being able to fully recover with this.\n\nIs it selfish of me to not bring it up? \n\nTrying my best to figure out if I forgot anything, if I am missing chunks I am sorry.", "summary": "It is wrong of me not to bring my suicidal thoughts to my girlfriend, who I always have reached out to for help."}
{"id": "t3_2n1gf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [20 F] and I [22 M] have never successfully had sex before", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for four years in a long distance relationship and we've been attempting sex for about three of those years. Whenever we try to have sex everything goes well right up until the point of insertion, because vaginal sex causes her pretty intense pain. We use personal lubricant and condoms every time and she is usually wet before penetration (I can insert my finger with no problem, though no more than 1 at a time). I don't think I have a particularly huge dong but we really don't have anyone else to compare to.\n\nThis has caused problems with her self esteem since she's convinced herself she's a lousy girlfriend and she thinks she isn't sexy (Which is bullshit. I mean really, dayum girl you fine). She seems comfortable during foreplay but once it comes time for penetration she starts to get anxious.\n\nWhat I need help with: Recently we stopped being long distance and we now actually have time for sex. What can I do to:\n\n* make sex less painful for her?\n\n* help her be comfortable during sex?\n\n* convince her I'm not mad we can't have vaginal intercourse?\n\n* convince her she's absolutely stunning?", "summary": "Vaginal intercourse is painful for my girlfriend and it's caused problems with her self esteem. How can I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_1oet1i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have I [26M] made a huge mistake? Breakup guilt after ending things with [24F] gf", "post": "I broke up with my gf of over one year about 3 weeks ago and I'm racked with guilt and self-doubt. I fear that I have 'chronic-dissatisfaction' and that I'll never be happy. I fear that she may forever be the one I let get away because I refused to grow up.\n\nBackstory: I wanted her from the second I laid eyes on her. She is one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She was visiting a mutual friend in my city. After getting to know her I was pleased to discover that she was smart, motivated, and thoughtful as well. A few drunken encounters turned into a few months of long-distance texting. We started traveling to each other's city and finding destinations to meet up. \n\nThen she got a job in my city. Things get real, we're dating. Then she gets into the educational program of her dreams in our city. She's going to be here for the next three years, at least. It looked like things were really shaping up. \n\nAh, but the fights. They just got worse and worse. Neither of us would be willing to get off the childish merry-go-round of recrimination. It was exhausting. Were we growing apart? Were we getting sick of each other? Was it the stress of school? Did we get bored with everything falling into place? Was it the mind-blowing realization that this could be the woman I marry?  I don't really know, but something wasn't right and I didn't stick around to find out what it was. One night we got into another huge fight and I said enough is enough and left. That was it. \n\nI may have acted rashly and not particularly gracefully. I know she's devastated. She begged me not to go. Part of me wants to reach out to her and see if we could work things through, but part of me has too much respect for her to do that, knowing that I may just become dissatisfied and break her heart all over again. If I reach out to her and then break up with her again, am I the scum of the earth? Would it even be possible to make amends?", "summary": "I am the dog that caught the car. I got the girl of my dreams, then broke up with her because things weren't working out. Now I feel guilty and that I'll never be satisfied."}
{"id": "t3_2uolwh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be competent", "post": "So my manager is out of town, so I've been sitting in for him in this meeting between our boss and our competitors.  We have these meetings because we have some joint projects and have to work together to standardize some design features.\n\nWe were going through a list of standardization and one topic came up that needed an update.  I didn't want to seem like an idiot that was out of the loop, so I very eagerly gave the update that \"It turns out we could not meet the suggestion from Very Good Building Company.\"  To which a coworker started saying \"No! No!\", because I had forgotten that this was a meeting with our competitors and now they know we work with Very Good Building Co.  So being slick as I am, I decided to say what I was supposed to say instead: \"I mean...  the suggestion made by our contractor.\"\n\nFuck, that's even worse.  Now they know not only that we have consulted Very Good Buildings Co., but that they ARE our contractor.  Which is a huge fuck up considering that now our competitors know where to make large orders to F with our schedule or outbid us.  At this point my boss is shooting me daggers with his eyes.", "summary": "should have saved it with \"I mean Barry Goot, our Norwegian engineer\""}
{"id": "t3_zwzbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend[31] told her kid's dad that I[22] would leave so he could come over.", "post": "Need some advice everyone. \n\nSo me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4ish months. She is considerably older than me and has 3 children. 2 from one father(who is incarcerated) and one(youngest) from a different father. \n\nNow the relationship she has with the youngest's father is very strange. They had been friends for a very long time and at some point decided to have a child. Understandable. Here's where things get weird. Apparently, they realized they wouldn't work as a couple but instead of going their separate ways, they decided to become roommates. \n\nEnter myself. \n\nAbout two weeks ago, she asks me to move in with her. I agree figuring I'd test the water and see how things work out. The third day I'm here, the youngest's father comes by to pick up his son. No big deal. He says hi to me and shakes my hand. All is well. \n\nFast forward to tonight. My girlfriend is drinking with her friend at the house and leaves her phone out. I decide to have a look because, hey, I'm insecure. This is wrong of me and I know but there's no going back now. \n\nAs I reading old text messages between them I find two that upset me. The first is her telling him that she'll have me leave so that he can come over and see his son. The second, which was more upsetting, was from two nights ago. I was working an overnight shift that night and she told him that he could come and hang out because I was at work. \n\nI really don't know what to think or how to feel. On one hand, I understand that this is a weird complicated thing. However, on the other hand, I feel like when she asked me to move in, it meant that he would have to accept me being here and as a member of the household. \n\nAgain, I know I was wrong for going through her phone but now I'm concerned. I want to take my stuff and run.", "summary": "Girlfriend has weird relationship with child's father. Leaves me in conflict."}
{"id": "t3_1yip46", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Personal Space Invasion: Disney Edition", "post": "I was waiting in line at the Starbucks inside Disney California Adventure; I had a massive migraine and the aura almost completely robbed me of the left half of my vision, so I was in the mood to get a caffeine injection and go sit it out somewhere.\n\nThe man behind me had his son on his shoulders and refused to stand anywhere but inside my personal bubble; I mean so close that his son was kicking me every ten seconds or so, with no signs of stopping.\n\nI'm not really able to communicate well when I'm in full migraine mode, so I kept trying to inch away from them, instead of asking him to give me some space. Unfortunately, for every inch I moved, the guy moved 1.1 inches with me. \n\nIn retaliation, I crop dusted them with a long, slow, silent deadly bomb.", "summary": "[Disney kindly provides an antidote to crop dusting.]("}
{"id": "t3_2jxb4n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [33 F] 6 years married, wife causing depression, other woman helping it", "post": "I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for over 14 years now, currently on lexapro and xanax, and recently added wellbutrin as the depression seemed to get worse.  On the outside, my life is perfect.  I make a lot of money, have a beautiful wife, 2 young beautiful and healthy children, I drive a nice car and have a nice house.  My beautiful wife however seems to be a major cause of my depression, the anxiety mostly from work.  We have been married for 6 years.  She no longer tries to initiate sex with me, and mostly when I try with her, she has an excuse.  She is constantly yelling at something, the kids, the dog, and me from the minute I get home until when I go to bed.  She always complains about her life and is always negative.  Whenever I act sad or depressed she tells me that it is affecting her and the kids and that I should try to act happy, and give an effort.  I find it difficult to communicate with her about issues as she will always turn it around and blame me for something.  She is adding to the depression I believe.\n\nRecently, I have started a relationship with another woman.  She is a perfect fit sexually, she wants to do it all the time and we go on for hours.  We just lay there after and just talk.  We text each other multiple times a day, each day.  We are very compatible in terms of our likes and dislikes.  We have similar goals in life.  She is always positive and has a great outlook on life.  I don't feel depressed when I'm around her.  She makes me feel special and wanted.\n\nI am planning on making an appointment with a therapist to figure out how to deal with my wife as I don't see myself leaving her due to the kids.  The kids are number 1.  I know the affair won't last forever, but can't picture not having her around anymore.  She makes me so happy.  What else can I do now?", "summary": "My mistress cures my depression caused by my wife"}
{"id": "t3_404ybw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my best friend [27 F] of 7 years. I live in CA, she lives in France. Do we risk it all for romance?", "post": "Do we give it a shot at the risk of ruining a friendship I cherish with all my heart? Backstory: Sophie and I met 7 years ago when I was a student in France. Since then, she's been one of my closest friends and I love her dearly. We've never slept together, though we're very playful and our jokes are often very blunt with sexual undertones. We laugh. A lot. I'm at complete ease around her. I know we're extremely compatible, and that she would be receptive to the idea of getting romantically involved. \n\nI think my hesitation is this: I'm attracted to Sophie physically, but I find myself sometimes doubting that physical attraction...I'm drawn much more to her personality and our emotional compatibility. Don't get me wrong, she's cute. I'm a good looking guy by most standards. I hate to say that, but this is reddit and I'll come flat out with saying I've never had a problem with attracting pretty women. \n\nI'm starting to feel that this has ultimately worked against me, because I now have this ludicrous fear of \"could I do better?\" Fact of the matter is, I'm sick of searching for the most beautiful, most compatible, smartest, funniest stranger on the planet, when I could be with someone I already love for all the right reasons, even if she's not as high on some arbitrary beauty scale. We're both 27 years old, and while I don't want this to be a question of \"should I settle down?\", I'm at a point in my life where a serious relationship sounds worthwhile. Please random people on the internet, talk some sense into me....Do we give it a shot at the risk of ruining one of the greatest friendships I've ever had?", "summary": "do I date my best friend, make French babies and live happily ever after? Or do I give my 27 year old self some time?"}
{"id": "t3_45gujv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my wife [30F] of 3 years, she hates my username.", "post": "I love my wife, we have a great relationship. This is one thing that we disagree on, and I just want some outsider perspective. \n\nI am big fan of video games and I have always used the same screen name, which is named after my dog. Her name is \"Sophie\" (not her real name). From the time I got her, everyone, including me, called her Sophiebelle. No reason other than it just sounded good. This is the screen name I have always used. \n\nBefore I met my wife, I was married to a guy with the last name \"Bell\". At the time I thought it was cool that his last name was the same thing that I called myself and my dog. We obviously divorced and we no longer speak. However, I have continued to use the same screen name with \"belle\" at the end of it. That is how everyone knows me and I don't want to change it. I was dating my ex husband when I picked the screen name, so although I didn't intentionally use Sophiebelle to be associated with him, I can see how it might look that way. \n\nI have explained to my wife that the screen name didn't really originate from my ex husband, but it still bothers her to see \"sophiebelle\" on lots of stuff. \n\nAm I being insensitive here by not wanting to change my screen name?", "summary": "Wife hates my screen name because it is associated with my ex husband. Am I being insensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_1nsv64", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Business Owners of Reddit: What are the steps needed for starting a small business?", "post": "Not sure if this would be allowed to be here or what context I have to put this to not break any rules, but we'll see.\n\nMy sister, cousin and myself (with the help of her boyfriend too) are trying to start our own home services business.\nThe idea started in early 2009 with my dad who worked as a union laborer and I who was a landscaper at the time wanted to start a family business. No politics or any drama, doing lawn care stuff.\n\nIt actually started off well and was my full time, and his part time job. Long story short and to skip some sadness, he died December 09, after setting up many bids for jobs that would be extremely profitable.\n\nOn and off since, my sister and her boyfriend tried doing random side jobs to see if something would kick-start and it never did. I was more sensible and went back to my roots of auto mechanic.\n\nRecently I quit my terrible job at Firestone and I'm trying to help build a business with them. We all want to make this happen for my dad, and I'm putting as much effort as I can.\n\nWe have done a few jobs, and between us guys we can do painting (interior and exterior) as well as masonry work and carpentry/roofing. We're working on getting insured very soon as I came into this aware it was needed to make this a success.\n\nMy question is not much of anything in particular, just looking for any advice. We're not bums just looking for any easy way. My cousin is a licensed machine operator and my sister boyfriend a union laborer. I turn wrenches. But we all have experience in many trades.\n\nWhat are the proper steps to take next to make this successful? Anything constructive is very appreciated.\nThanks for taking the time to read this.\n\nFor others..", "summary": "Trying to get a family painting/home service business started which us really important to me because I feel like I'm letting my dad down in some way by not keeping his idea alive. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3csq3f", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story] I work at a nonprofit mental health outpatient facility.", "post": "Usually people come in looking for medications. Others come in looking for substance use help. \n\nI am not sure what this particular client is here for but he is one of the most dedicated people I have seen. He never misses his appointments. A couple of weeks ago, his cousin took his only mode of transportation without permission. He came back and told our client that the bicycle was stolen. I am not sure if there was an appointment between then and yesterday, but he said he would have walked if he had to.\n\nThen, he comes in yesterday with a new bike. Someone let him rent the bike for 2 hours for $10 just so he could come to his appointment. I can tell you right now that 99% of our clients wouldn't even have called to say they couldn't make it. He is one of the most dedicated people I have seen when it comes to getting better mentally. He is also disabled (something is wrong with his leg, so he needed a certain type of bike). The fact that this guy is motivated enough to rent a bike to go to his appointments made me think about my situation. I took some of the money I was saving up for a car and bought him a bike. He doesn't know who bought it and only knows it's gonna arrive on Wednesday.", "summary": "Guy's cousin steals bike, had to rent a bike to get to his therapy session. He said he would have walked (he is disabled) to the session if he had to. Gets a bike, promises to never miss an appointment."}
{"id": "t3_3vmwk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] for 3 months, I don't see any rational reason to break up, I'm just unhappy and don't know if its me or her :(", "post": "I'm a freshman in college and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three months now. We were friends before we started anything, and it felt almost natural for us to be together.\n\nMy problem is, for some reason I'm just not happy in the relationship. She is supportive, kind, trustworthy, gorgeous and very social. A lot of friends told us how great we are together. There is no rational reason for us to break up, she is such an amazing person! I don't know why but I'm just not happy here. I'm very much doubting if I'm not happy with her or if I'm not happy in general,  I feel so stupid. What should I do? I don't know how to bring this up with her without hurting her feelings :(", "summary": "No rational reason to end things with my girlfriend, but for some reason I'm just not happy and I don't know if its me that's unhappy in general or its with her. Don't know how to bring this up."}
{"id": "t3_xiojl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long term relationship ended due to someone else.... Need to tell ex, please help me Reddit!", "post": "I really appreciate any advice you can offer me.\n\nMe (22/f) and my ex (25/m) were together for three years. I hadn't enjoyed sex with him for ages, and it got to the point where it was hurting always. He hadn't given me an orgasm for over a year.\n\nAnyway, a little before we broke up I started hanging out with a friend of mine a lot more, staying over at his, doing work with him, cooking together.\n\nI realised that I'd rather give it a go with this guy and be single than stay with my ex. I broke up with him telling him I needed time to sort my head out, thinking nothing would happen with the new guy. But we've basically lived together since the ex and I broke up.\n\nIt seems like soon we'll be official. And my ex knows him, although him and I were always long distance so it's not like they'll bump into one another.\n\nI need to know how to tell my ex that I may have a new boyfriend without breaking his heart too much, as I think he's pretty down now about his work etc.", "summary": "Broke up with ex after spending time with new guy and chickened out by saying needed to fix my mental health. A month later looks like we're soon to be 'official' and want ex to know first - would love advice on how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_3uv4bq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I looked out the window", "post": "So this happened when I was in 3rd grade. \nIt was on my first school camp where we went to Phillip Island in Victoria and stayed 4 nights. The cabin I was in also had 5 other girls and it had a weird layout. When you walked in the door there was a double bed and set of bunk beds to the left and in another section of the room, behind a wall was a second set of bunk beds and a window. \nOne night, one of the girls was closing the curtains when she informed the rest of us there were some creepy teenagers in the hall across from us. Everyone had a look and confirmed it and I was the last person to check. So I duck under the curtain to see about 10 teenagers in balaclavas sitting in a circle in the hall across from us. Some of them have cameras, others have weapons like bats, chains and steel rods. One of the teenagers spots me and all of a sudden three cam corders are pointing directly at me. They all raise their weapons menacingly towards me and one points directly at me. \nI flipped out and told the girls they were coming after us so we all slept in the double bed...all 6 of us. For the rest of our trip we refused to go near the window or the bunk beds on the other side of the wall.", "summary": "Saw creepy teenagers in balaclavas with weapons on camp. They spotted me and the girls I was with had to sleep in one bed for the rest of the trip."}
{"id": "t3_tqzja", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hit and Run charge for running over a small chicken wire fence. Please help.", "post": "About a month ago my mom was out driving and accidently took a corner too sharp and rode up on the curb. She noticed she had messed up her car and drove to the nearest spot on the road with lights, turns out it was a bar a few blocks down. She leaves her car and gets a ride to a friends house to deal with it in the morning. Turns out the curb she rode upon had a small chicken wire fence which you couldn't see in the dark and the owners called the police, the police followed the leaking radiator fluid to the parking lot and found my moms car, they towed it and wrote her a few tickets (after coming to my house looking for her, not bothering to tell me she was in an accident after I answered all his questions and asked what it was all about). The DA is now offering a 'deal' wherein my mom agrees to give up her licence, go on probation for 18 months, and do community service to pay or the court fees, this is her first run in with the law and she's actually a bus driver, so she's super safe, very certified, she just made a simple mistake. Is there anything she can realistically do? The attorney she hired is basically a waste. I just want to know, is she really going to lose her licence, she supports four kids with her salary alone, if she does lose it we're all homeless basically, we can barely afford food week to week. I really hope this gets some attention, thanks for reading.", "summary": "My mom hit a chicken wire fence and they're pressing criminal charges and want to take away her licence, will they?"}
{"id": "t3_1ml6d8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24F) having thoughts about my relationship with my Boyfriend (24M) of 8 months. I need help with the transition from our honeymoon to facing new issues bothering me.", "post": "We have been dating seriously for 8 months. We're both working full time in career fields. It has been a very loving relationship and he's the perfect guy. This is our first serious relationship for both of us since entering the real world. \n\nAs mentioned, our honeymoon phase is almost over. Before, I felt like I was in the \"do no wrong\" phase. I was on a pedestal. I understand this phase cannot last forever but the transition is still awkward. I think he is starting to be short with me and see my flaws - it makes me a bit insecure. \n\nOne of the problems I noticed is that our opinions are always different. It can be anything from Syria to general outlook in life. I feel like he thinks he is smarter than me and that my opinion is always wrong. I acknowledge his opinions but (I feel) he never does for me. \n\nAnother problem is that I feel like he doesn't love me as much. He is getting increasingly short with me. I don't know if this is just the natural course of a relationship, but I don't appreciate his attitude towards me when he gets in this mood. I'm a big believer in communication so I've gently reminded him that it wasn't nice when he got in this mood.\n\nI know this all boils down to, \"You need to talk\". But I wanted to gather my thoughts before approaching him. I also wanted to get other's experiences - what to expect in this transition phase and whether this is natural. Again, this is my first \"adult\" relationship where I'm not a carefree student so this is new territory for me.\n \nThank you for reading about my boring relationship :)!", "summary": "Loving boyfriend becoming short with me. Feel he doesn't value my opinion. Need honeymoon phase to real relationship transition advice."}
{"id": "t3_20sh98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this friend [26 F] trying to create distance? Should I [21 M] let it go?", "post": "This friend is an old coworker and a while back I had plans with her that she didn't show up for. This is what happened, I had plans to leave the state and on my last day of work she said she wanted to do something with me before I traveled. So for a few weeks we tried coordinating our schedules and in the middle of this I was diagnosed with cancer, so I canceled my travel plans. She was supportive when I told her and eventually I tried to plan seeing her. She said she had plans to go to a brewery with her girlfriend and invited me along. Things got mixed up when the subject changed before plans were solid. We had the time and place, but she then asked about my current health, I said the brewery plans sounded good and filled her in on my health and the conversation didn't return to our plans. When the time came I showed up to the brewery and waited for a bit, telling her I was there, but she never showed or responded. The plans weren't set in stone, but I thought we were good. Anyways, I didn't ask her about it and when I saw her in person while visiting the old workplace, she was friendly but was a bit distant. I don't know if the situation is just awkward or if she was trying to create distance.\n\nThe only reason I can thing of for her to distance herself is because I had feelings for another coworker who both her and I were close to and she was the only one that new about it. Things imploded with me and this other coworker and eventually we left on bad terms and had to avoid each other. The two of them are much closer so I feel like I probably got left behind during the drama.", "summary": "I she creating distance?"}
{"id": "t3_3qhays", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23,F] slept with a friend [27,M] that I had been seeing for months, but then he left me the next morning.", "post": "Disclaimer: This is more to get things off my chest than ask for advice.\n\nI had made friends with a guy who I thought was nice and over the course of our 5 month friendship we talked about dating at some point and really seemed to have fun and do stuff together.\n\nThis past Friday night we went and did some Halloween mazes, and I spent the night at his house. This was our first time having sex, being that he said he wants a relationship with me. The next morning around 8ish, he woke me up to tell me that his uncle wanted to spend time with him. So I was okay with that. He said that I could come back later that day and we could hang. Fast forward to later, and he tells me not to come over cause his dad came home from his weekend trip and was sick.\n\nCome Sunday, and there are no texts and calls at all. I sent him texts with no replies no calls back. I go to that bathroom the next night and there's a condom when I wipe! Ivrealize his condom got stuck in me at some point, and he didn't even bother to tell me. I became worried, but I'm on the pill and my period should be this Friday and I've been feeling the usual period symptoms (unless my brain is playing a trick on me and I'm not menstrating come Friday).\n\nThen today I decide to call to see if I can get through with this condom business. He answers the phone with, \"Who's this?\" I quickly lose my nerve and hang up. Then I get a text from his number telling me it's his girlfriend and I should leave him alone he doesn't want me and I quote, my \"stanky, nasty pussy\" anymore.\n\nNow, I currently feel hurt and very dumb. Granted it was only 5 months, and I should be okay come next week, for the moment this feels like he ripped my heart out with his lies, and I can't help but wonder, was anything he told me the truth. I thought I'd feel better typing out my feelings.", "summary": "I had been friends with a guy for months looking to have a relationship, but he completely abandoned me after our first time having sex."}
{"id": "t3_tuhbo", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Just figured out I CAN go back to school full-time this Fall!", "post": "So I've been taking classes part-time for the last two years.  Decided to pursue an engineering major and have been slogging through the math classes.  I'm ready to finally take calculus and some of the other more grown-up courses.  Got my student loans from way back when out of default, making me eligible for federal aid again.  Then I learned that my college policy requires a certain ratio of completed to attempted courses for aid.  I'm 10 units away from that, due to withdrawing from classes in the distant past.  I almost resigned myself to going part-time this summer and next semester too, but I decided to add it all up.\n\nI estimate my expenses for next semester are $6200 for the four months.  Tuition is free through a low-income waiver at CA community colleges.  If I work one or two decent bar shift a week, that pays my rent, leaving me a deficit of $3000.\n\nI calculate my living expenses for the summer to be about $3800 for the 10 weeks.  Bringing home $680 a week, putting half into savings, is the goal, and it's within reach for this bartender.  I just need to take on more work.  I'm sick of tending bar, and stopped working in nightclubs (restaurant hours are better for students, even though the money is smaller.)  But with a clear goal set, I intend to throw myself back into the industry for the summer.  I have 10 years of experience, and quite a few contacts in town, and it's tourist season.  I'm going to make this happen!", "summary": "I can actually save enough money working hard all summer to pay for next semester!"}
{"id": "t3_12epw7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's one of the worst days you've ever had? I've just had mine.", "post": "I should start by saying, I'm a PhD student, so I have very little money at the moment...or for the next three years.\n\nSo about a month ago, my car engine started making this rhythmic grinding noise, which was really loud when it was idling. I took it to the garage and explained what was happening, I left it with them all day for them to say that's how diesel engines sound. After this happening a further three times, this morning the guy said it could be my timing chain coming loose when my engine heats up but to bring it back tomorrow. Having no idea what a timing chain was, I asked could I continue to drive it and he said yes. I was a bit suspicious cos weird sounds from the engine, generally aren't good. \n\nI went home and got my dad, who had to go to the hospital because they think he may have prostate cancer (I found out this morning cos my mum had to go into work unexpectedly) and he has to have some tests but can't drive afterwards. I took him and on the way back my timing chain snapped and ripped about my engine. My car cost me \u00a32000 a year ago. I'm devastated. My car is worthless cos the engine is destroyed.", "summary": "Guys at a garage didn't believe me, basically cos I'm a girl and it cost me \u00a32000. My dad may have cancer."}
{"id": "t3_37kzmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am in love with my girlfriend [F19] but it's not a good feeling.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. I've never been in love before, but now I know that I am. The problem is that it's not actually a good feeling. I feel like I need to be with her all the time, but even when we are together it just never feels like enough. I just want to inhale her. It honestly feels like I'm in agony because I want more and more of her but there's no more to give. I know this probably doesn't make sense. \n\nWill this die down? How long? I want to feel comfortably in love, not like this. If you've ever been through this I would appreciate some advice. Thanks.", "summary": "I [19M] am in love with my girlfriend [F19] but it's not a good feeling."}
{"id": "t3_3c5ww3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with a friend [24 M] that likes me and I like back, but lives in another city and is a 3rd year medical student, so he doesn't think we can work right now.", "post": "The guy and I have known each other for 5 years as acquaintances. I went to college with all his best friends, we are from the same city, he went to undergrad somewhere else and is now in medical school somewhere else. \n\nI was with another guy for 5 years, a guy i'm not with anymore. However, now i'm single and we both got closer before and at our mutual best friends' wedding. I met his family, they loved me, and it turns out our parents are good friends from the past. \n\n1) We have tons of mutual friends in common and have known each other for a while now\n2) I'm in my last year of law school, he's a 3rd year med student so we're both extremely busy people right now\n3) Our families really hit off, I fit into his life really well. \n\nSo I asked him out, he said yes, we decided to get coffee. While we were both leaving the wedding reception we were alone in the elevator and we almost kissed as we were saying bye- but then he said i'm sorry i really have to go and bolted. \n\nWhen we had coffee, he told me he doesnt want to do long distance, that maybe we could be something one day if time and place were different. He has 13 hour work days, doesnt even have time for his own family or life....so what i gathered is that there isn't that much space there for me right now. \n\nBut I feel something for him, and he definitely feels something for me. he's just so focused...do i hold the door open for him a little longer, or do i close it? \n\nI want to hold it open a little longer, see where it goes....but I also don't want to sell myself short. but if i think something is worth fighting for- shouldnt that be enough?", "summary": "two busy grad students who are friends, have extremely intersecting lives, obviously like each other, are extremely compatible and could be great- but he is afraid of doing long distance and doesnt think we'd work because we live in different cities and he's a 3rd year med student (hardest year)."}
{"id": "t3_286i98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am falling hard for a crush [18 F] who's halfway across the world right now.", "post": "Backstory: We are both entering college sophomores who met last year at university. We became very good friends and I've had a minor crush on her for a few months. Home from school, we live several hours away from each other in different cities, and she's currently studying abroad overseas. Her roommate and I live in the same county so she came to visit over Easter, we of course continued hanging out at school, and over the summer we've been texting back and forth - me saying she should come back to my city and her saying I should go visit her (after she returns from abroad).\n\nThe issue: my minor crush has been steadily intensifying, especially once summer hit since my job hasn't started yet and I have tons of idle time. I constantly think about our lives together as a couple, certain issues and how we would work through them, how things would change next summer, etc. Meanwhile, I have yet to even ask her out and I don't know if she'll even say yes! On top of that, I haven't actually seen her in about a month.\n\nAm I just crazy? How can I deal with this?", "summary": "I may be falling in love with a good friend from school, even though I haven't seen her recently and don't know if she feels the same way."}
{"id": "t3_2g82eb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [26M] is really winding me [24F] up. Been together 2 years. Would this wind you up?", "post": "My god, he is really winding me up recently! I just don't know if he's winding me up to get a reaction, or he's just oblivious! \n\nHe'll always disagree with whatever we're talking about our conversations just aren't easy any more. I even tried seeing if we just have different opinions by bringing up a subject we had already discussed but this time I gave the opinion he originally gave me. But instead of agreeing he reverted to MY original opinion. Lol, what?! \n\nIf we want to go somewhere to eat I'll mention that I don't mind where we go. But he will moan and say that I have to decide so I'll suggest a place, but he doesn't want to go there and now all of a sudden we have to go to wherever he decides. This happens like every single time, it's not like he had a burst of inspiration.\n\nI'm skint because of a work situation and I'm happy to eat the cheap food I bought, but he insists he's going to buy a nicer meal for me whilst he's out, because the food I've got isn't great. Very sweet of him so I mention something he can pick me up, but they haven't got that in so I ask him to list what they do have, \"Nah, I can't be bothered to read them all.\"\n\nI've just moved in to his house and he says we have to go shopping to get some nicer things for the house. So he shows me all these things that could be nice for the house and I agree, but he's not too sure. The one thing I really don't like \"we're having it.\" He insists I pick something even though I say I'm not too fussed, the house looks lovely already. But he insists so I pick something and his response is, \"nah.\" \n\nI'm literally going insane! He does stuff like this all the time and I just count to 10. Do I just need to chill out or would this wind you up as well? I just want an easy life haha!", "summary": "Bf seriously winds me up. Would love to know what you guys think of the situation!"}
{"id": "t3_3lpnea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know if what the guy I am seeing is doing is ok or not.", "post": "I am 21 and have been seeing this guy, 23, for a really short while (few weeks). We have known each other for a year or so.\n\nIt's generally fine and we have fun, but the one thing that really bugs me is the sex and I don't know if what he's doing is acceptable. We first slept together whilst drunk and then got together, but he literally wants sex every time we see each other (sometimes every day, sometimes once every few days). I don't always want sex, but when I say no he just keeps asking/trying to force himself on me. He says things like 'oh no come on' and 'please just do it' and basically begs me/persuades me/tries to force me. I always say no but he moans and whines so much its actually easier just to have sex; he never drops the subject even when I say I am feeling ill, or tired, or just plain don't want to. he puts on this whiny voice, and asks why I don't want to do it, but my reasons are never good enough. If I say I don't want to, he starts accusing me of calling him bad in bed so I won't sleep with him, or just says me not wanting to is no reason to not do it.\n\nIt makes me uncomfortable and feel quite bad about myself, but when I tried to talk to him about it he said I was being ridiculous.", "summary": "Always have to have sex with the guy I am seeing. Is this ok or normal?"}
{"id": "t3_nho2d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[update] I am pregnant with my boss' baby and told my work as well as the dad.", "post": "It went better than expected! I kept in mind all the talk about how unlikely it was I would suffer serious consequences and after all that I didn't get any preferential treatment, I just broke an HR rule.\n\nI am allowed to keep my job, with slight over viewing to insure not improprieties until a new position opens with someone at the same level or higher.\n\nThe dad took the news better than I did. Maybe because by the time I actually got it out I was crying. He's just a crisis handling, stable kind of guy. We are planning to move in together in actuality instead of just practically when my lease runs up. It makes sense, since we will be sharing a baby shortly and honestly if after two years of working for him I still liked him as a person, that bodes well for the future.\n\nHe did receive a serious tongue lashing from his godfather and ceo, the recap of which made me feel embarrassed and like a little kid. But he's old fashioned and the majority of the blame went on him, something like \"When I cared about a woman enough to bring her to my bed for months- of course I knew, you idiot- I was enough of a man to understand the trust she put in me to protect her health and reputation, something you managed to overlook\". \n\nOriginal", "summary": "Kept job, am moving in with the father, and he was only slightly scolded by the boss boss."}
{"id": "t3_40syzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17M) girlfriend (17F) of 6 months is going to break up with me because of my mom.", "post": "Okay, so this girl is something else and even though i've been dating her for 6 months, it's felt like years. We love each other and planned our future together. We also planned on going to the same college together, she becoming a doctor in zoology and me studying astrophysics/astronomy. We've planned this and marriage after college as well. However, my mother has not liked her since the beginning and I have no clue why. My girlfriend has always been the sweetest and most polite thing ever. She even made them all blankets for Christmas. My mom blames her for everything and treats her like garbage. Everything that I do wrong or I get in trouble for, she blames her. My dad on the other hand, absolutely loves my girlfriend. Because of everything with my mom, my girlfriend cannot take it anymore and has decided that we should separate. My girlfriend has had depression and had/has anxiety and cannot deal with her being the root of all my problems according to my mom. She wishes she could be like me and be strong enough to take it, but she just can't and doesn't want to deal with it anymore. Is there anything we can do to save our relationship? I love her so much and I do not want to lose her all because of my mom.", "summary": "My mother doesn't like my girlfriend so my girlfriend wants to break up with me because she can't and doesn't want to deal with it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_hdqmy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you're in a relationship, will you participate in my study? I'll send you feedback on your responses! (xpost from r/sex)", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm a reddit regular, though I'm using a throwaway because I'd like to keep my personal and professional reddit meanderings separate.\nI'm in the midst of a PhD program, and I research relationships and sexuality. I'm collecting data for my most important research project yet.\n\nIf you are either dating or married, and having sex with that person, and 18 or older, I'd like to invite you and your partner to participate.\nIn this study, we're looking partners' sexual preferences in light of a few different relationship variables. It's about 20 minutes long. Please complete it in private, without consulting your partner or anyone else as you answer the questions.\n\nAt the end you'll be asked to give some info so that we can match up your info with that of your partner, and you'll be given a link to send to him or her.\n\nWe are offering to send you and your partner feedback on your responses. This feedback will consist of 2 indices: similarity and accuracy. The first will describes how similar you and your partner are in your preferences, and the second describes how accurately you know each other's preferences. These scores won't include any of either your or your partners' individual responses; rather, the two scores provided will be based on calculations that combine both of your responses regarding the list of sexual activities. Additionally, as points of comparison, we will also give you a range that describes the average score for other couples who have participated in the study so far. For those of you who know a little bit about statistics, that range covers -1 standard deviation to +1 standard deviation, i.e., the middle 68% of scores.\n\nThis feedback will be sent to you in about a month, to ensure that we have an adequate sample so that the range of the \"average\" couple is meaningful.\n\nFeel free to ask questions, I'll try to get back to respond quickly. \n\nThanks!\n\nDavid", "summary": "Couples please participate in a survey on sex and relationships, get feedback, see link above."}
{"id": "t3_3rp0e8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/f] caught my bf [27/m] fapping to my sister", "post": "I've posted here before regarding the fact I caught my bf cheating on me once in the past with a friend at my house when we were all drunk and they thought I was asleep in the next room. We decided to try and fix things from there but I started to snoop on him and found he liked to fap to loads of weird stuff. But what irked me was he fapped to girls Facebook photos. He explained that this is normal and its meaningless. We had a talk about it and I said I was okay with it as long as it wasn't over the girl he cheated with or any of my family members.\n\nWe just had a lovely fifth of November and he bought loads of fireworks. He held my hand while we watched them and he bought me a bunch of sparklers to hold while he sorted each firework out. Then he bought me a takeaway and said I could hang at his for the night. When he went to the bathroom I snooped at his history and yep...in amongst a bunch of porn sites I could see he'd been on my sisters profile. I'm pretty certain he was fapping to her because why else would he look at her pictures in the middle of a fapping session? When he came downstairs I told him I was tired and going home and just rushed straight out. I'm so upset. We had such a lovely night and I finally felt like things were going to be okay. I don't know what to do from here.\n\nIs this normal? What should I do? I am so upset. I think he has a porn addiction. He's not a bad person I think he just has issues.", "summary": "told my bf I was cool with him fapping to people except two including my sister, couldn't help himself. Got Chinese food out of it."}
{"id": "t3_da84o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Home MP3 player for CD aficionado who isn't a techie?", "post": "Visited an old friend, a high school teacher, this weekend. She was fighting a pair of 400-disk CD changers that she had reordered the disks in, and they weren't mechanically working now. I chastised her and told her that we were now in the second decade of the millennium and that MP3 won the war and she should get on board. She's not a tech person at all. She has had Macs in the past, but now owns an XP laptop and desktop and asked for advice on buying a home audio MP3 system.\n\nHere's what I think she needs:\nOnboard disk storage (so neither computer has to be on)\nEasy ripping and automatic ID3 assignment\nSome sort of video-based UI.\nWould be nice if you could control it 'blind' by a remote without looking at the video UI.\nRock-solid stable.\nNot a gazzillion dollars.\n\nI'm comfortable with things like MythTV and LinuxMCE, etc. But she wouldn't be. It should be 'appliance' grade, with nothing to think about. If if needs to be connected to the Internet to rip stuff, that's fine. Wireless support would be nice to reduce cabling. She doesn't have super-fast broadband, so streaming audio and video isn't critical, but Pandora support would be nice if it worked. She has satellite TV and a dedicated DVR, so she doesn't need video library abilities and they'd probably just get in the way of the audio experience.", "summary": "Help me buy a MP3 jukebox for a non-computer-tech audiophile with 800 CDs to manage."}
{"id": "t3_mn446", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "any advice? Friends With Benefits.", "post": "So I'm a female (22) and I've been talking to a male (21) for a few months, we have mostly been flirty friends, and for a long time before we kissed or anything we used to text from the time we woke up until the time we went to bed everyday. But it was always kind of implied that we were more than just friends but there were no restrictions and we could/did see other people. Well I've stayed over at his house a few times and vice versa in the past few months, and we maybe talk online 2-3 times a week, just catching up or saying silly things to each other, but nothing else. A few days after the first time we made out he let me know that he didn't want a relationship, which at the time, really hurt my feelings, but now I've realized I don't want to be in a relationship with him either. We have only hooked up a few times, probably 4 times, in the last 2.5 months we have been in the same city.\n\nWhy is this so infrequent? Are we just friends who have hooked up? are we friends with benefits? I feel strange contacting him first, but I really want the hookups to be more frequent. I don't know if it's even worth my time.", "summary": "infrequent hookups with a friend, want more sex. Not sure how to get it without seeming desperate or interested in being his gf. Any advice"}
{"id": "t3_2t0vio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of almost 7 months, best friends since 2012. Posting pictures many think are inappropriate.", "post": "I am male and have been dating a female for 6 months going on 7 here soon. Do you think its unreasonable to not allow my girlfriend to post pictures of her thighs and hips in her underwear or a picture of her upper body in just a bra on an Instagram account with 110 active followers? She thinks of it as her body and she should be allowed to do whatever she wants with it I.E. post pictures of herself where ever. I agree with that completely and all humans should be able to do things like that, I am very with her on that and am a very big humanitarian, but when two people are in a committed relationship I feel it is different however and it should be obvious that you shouldn't be posting pictures of that sort. The bottom line is that it makes me uncomfortable and frustrates me to no end. If I were to let it slide and have her keep it up there for say a couple weeks and i forgot, if I scrolled past it I would go mad and have her delete it. For some reason I think it is different if I am in the picture however, If we posted a picture both shirtless wearing pants and her wearing a bra I wouldn't think much of it because it shows that we are dating. What do you think? Explain.", "summary": "Girlfriend posting revealing pictures boyfriend thinks is inappropriate, has her delete them. Thought? How could I convince her I'm in the right?"}
{"id": "t3_3f928j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking my settings after disconnecting my bluetooth speakers from my laptop", "post": "So, my FU happened late last night and I have just woken up and realised it wasn't just an unfortunate nightmare. My laptops speakers have been pretty shit recently and sometimes there is no chance of being able to hear what is playing, so I had connected my Bluetooth speaker up which worked brilliantly! Anyway, later on in the evening I had the urge to browse a few adult websites, bare in mind I live in a shared house at the moment, so thought it best to disconnect from my Bluetooth speaker and let the sounds of moaning and skin on skin contact come through my normal speakers. This is where I fucked up. Unknown to me, my Laptop then decided to automatically reconnect to my house mates wireless speakers which I had connected up to previously! So there I am thinking \"Wow ok so my laptop speakers are even quieter now!\" And try turning it up, then I finally begin to hear the video...but its still pretty quiet... and very muffled. Because its coming from my god damn house mates room which is next to mine! I hear him in his room saying \"wtf?!?!\" Quickly slam my laptop shut and sit in shock  until deciding to just sleep. I move house on Saturday already anyway but there's no way I'm leaving this fucking room.", "summary": "Tried to watch porn quietly in my shared house. Ended up connected to house mates wireless speaker. Played porn loudly in house mates room."}
{"id": "t3_29t86b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [20m] make it work with her [21f]", "post": "Alright, so about three years ago I had a fling with a girl who was absolutely perfect. We talked all day, all night, and we couldn't get enough of each other. However, about two months after we started dating, her family moved to Europe so we mutually agreed to go back to just being friends.\n\nThree years later and we still keep in contact. The thing is that I really haven't found anyone that can even come close to what she was. After breaking up with my most recent girlfriend, I'm really missing this girl. Is it even feasible for me to think that I could start a long distance relationship with her after all this time?", "summary": "miss ex fling, want her back but she's on the other side of the world"}
{"id": "t3_2w41rp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [24 F] of 1year. My coworker got. Little too touchy with my wife on a night out. I wanna confront him/I want revenge, but not sure how to proceed.", "post": "Last Friday it was my wife's birthday party and we were at this club celebrating and having fun. Everything was great until my coworker (uninvited) showed up with another coworker of mine (invited) both very intoxicated.\n\nNothing was out of the ordinary until I see him talking to my wife. She gestures me to come close, I had a strange feeling but didn't think anything at the moment. We have a short convo and he goes away to talk to someone else. Nothing seemed strange at the moment. They leave shortly after and the party went on.\n\nThe day after my wife tells me that my coworker was being weird and a little too touchy. I am not surprised by his behavior but I am fucking pissed and really want to confront him. However, I am just afraid that this will create unnecessary tension in the workplace. Also he's a gossipy guy and might just twist things and make me look like a fool.\n\nAny suggestion on how to proceed? I even thought about anonymously tipping his gf on the fact that he's cheating on her (not confirmed but pretty sure it's happening. Incidentally  read a text from another girl he recently met that said she missed his dick).\n\nI know this sounds immature but he deserves a lesson. No one touches my wife.", "summary": "Male coworker gets too touchy with wife. I want to get revenge but need the job."}
{"id": "t3_1h4r27", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Co-worker is a dick to everyone in the office. I made him think about what he is.", "post": "So, this guy sit across the room. He is constantly berating others in the office, just an all-around dick.\n\nDuring lunch one day in the break room a commercial comes on. And I hatched my plan.\n\nI went online and ordered a free sample of their product. And then went online and ordered a bunch of brochures of another product.\n\nWhen I was finished, I had them both shipped to our open floor plan office. We get deliveries daily from UPS. The VP walks outside to get the mail and delivers to the desk of the recipient, usually with some wisecrack about using company time to order stuff online. I was going to see him get his gifts in front of everybody.\n\n11 days later they arrive. The VP walks out, gets the mail and drops b the dickhead's desk, exclaiming \" well this should be fun for your wife.\"\n\nThen the UPS guy comes in less than 30 seconds later with the second package.\n\nThe company VP announces to us all that he ordered Viagra samples and then the UPS guy delivers Male Depends Shield Diapers for incontinence.", "summary": "Be a dick, get dick products."}
{"id": "t3_1svyk2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think my best friend wants the D", "post": "So this girl who I've been friends with for about 5 years now we used to be super close sophomore year, went apart junior year and now it's senior year and were getting closer again. Im fairly certain she liked me at some point but we both had a class off period on Friday so we sat down and talked for the first time in a while. She seemed super flirty, anyway her mom said that when she graduates she can roadtrip somewhere and she said that she wants to go with me somewhere like down to Mexico with me where you can get alcohol at 18. She also jokingly said that she wants to marry me so when I'm rich and successful so I can buy her sports cars and stuff and so I would also not have to ever date any other girls but she was just joking with me. She said we should hang out on Saturday like we always used to but that was yesterday and she never responded back when I asked her if we were hanging out on Saturday. It seems like she wants to get into my pants or something. Advice? I think perhaps one of the reasons shes acting like this was I used to like her and just gave up on her my junior year and made some major changes in my life about my persona, self image, developed high ambitions, and showcased myself as one of the most high-achieving students at my school through my athletics and academics, and my work in the medical field. So advice? What do you think?", "summary": "Didnt hang out with friend for a year, and now it seems like she wants the D"}
{"id": "t3_1v2muu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] don't know if she [16 F] is worth continuing to go after...", "post": "So in a nutshell this girl I'm debating on pursing I have known for a few years and had a brief thing for a week, though we never had met in person (we eventually did meet though, only a few times randomly).\n\nThat was 3 years ago = and through the first year after that we talked frequently as friends. Then she started dating other guys and I just stood by and continued to talk to her. In the last year of those three years ago we ended up not really talking at all. In the midst of this she had been dating this one guy for an awfully long time. Now just last year around thanksgiving time, after two years they called it off. I didn't learn of it until December though.\n\nNow I have gotten back in contact with her, with only two brief kinda \"catchy up\" conversations that were kinda prescript ed on my part (after learning she was single I decided to put in some time to try to figure out how to say the right things and not sound boring while chatting on text or online). The conversations in my opinion weren't very fruitful and were just casually bland.\n\nI now sit on some nights debating if she is worth pursing anymore. She seems pretty free spirited (here and there, not real attached and just wants to live a fun life) and not that I should be even considering at this age someone could \"settle down\" but that's more my speed I guess. \n\nThrough our most recent conversations I get that kind of mood off her, that she doesn't really want anything or anyone, just to be around her friends and have fun.\n\nMy other head scratch-er on this is I have completely lost self worth. I don't like my own weight because I believe that other people find it disgusting (I'm not too bad I suppose, just weigh more than I should). These thoughts consuming me even striking up a conversation with her because I am afraid at what she might think of me or if she is annoyed or anything like that. \n\nI'm just unsure if its really worth the time anymore, I've obsessed over her for these years and its now seeming to me that it might be a lost cause. \n\n___________________________________________________________", "summary": "A girl I have liked for a good 3 or so years is single again and because of my low self worth and assumptions of being 'out of my range' even though we talked a lot in the past makes me question if its worth it to go after her anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1kfdd5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I ask a girl I'm seeing to be my girlfriend (aka how do I \"ask a girl out\")?", "post": "So I'm a 22/m in college and I've been seeing this 20f for a few months now. We really like each other and we both kind of want to become exclusive and make our relationship official. I've never had a girlfriend before, but at this age, I always thought that after agreeing on the fact that this is something we both want, we just become official. This girl, however, is more or less old fashioned I guess, and insists that I need to \"ask her out\". I have no idea how to go about with this, and what girls expect out of it. Do I just straight up ask her out of the blue one day? Do I take her out on a date and get on one knee or something when I ask? Should I be getting her anything? Flowers, gifts, chocolate? Help!", "summary": "A girl I'm seeing wants me to officially ask her to be my girlfriend before she'll agree to be and I don't know how"}
{"id": "t3_4hkp9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25M] of 2 and a half years. Our parents (mine in their mid 40's, his in their mid 50's) haven't met yet, and we're not sure if we should facilitate that or let it happen naturally. What do you guys think?", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I have dated for 2 1/2 years. I've met his parents, and he's met mine. We pretty much always lived about 15 minutes away from his parents, so we see him a lot. About a few months ago, my parents moved into the same city, about an hour away. We've brought up having them meet, but we're wondering if that's something you're supposed to facilitate, or if it's less awkward just to let it happen naturally.\n\nWe're both in our first \"serious\" relationship, so we both never had to have parents meet before. They'll probably like each other. They're all nice people, I think. Just don't know if it's more awkward to make it happen or let it happen. They've both expressed an interest in meeting the other before, but since my parents are an hour away, it's not likely that this can happen naturally. So, I'm not really sure if it's best to just wait and let it happen, or what. I guess I am a bit curious, but I don't want to make anything awkward or anything. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Is it awkward to try to facilitate our parents to meet each other, or is it best just to let it happen naturally? Does anybody have any experience with this? I wouldn't mind hearing some parents meeting parents stories :)"}
{"id": "t3_1bedq5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Macalester, University of Rochester, or BC?", "post": "Right now, I'm having a hard time choosing between these three schools. What I really want to do is write for a TV comedy, particularly SNL. All three schools have improv/sketch teams, but Mac is the only one with a humor magazine. Mac also had the best \"feel\" to me, and was a strong favorite for a while. However, Boston is a really great comedy city, and Amy Poehler is one of the famous alumni of BC's sketch comedy group. Rochester has offered me a scholarship, but doesn't have as good a writing program as the other two. However, a current writer for SNL went there. \n\nDoes anyone have any insight or advice for me?", "summary": "Macalester, University of Rochester, or BC for a career in comedy writing?"}
{"id": "t3_2jtsg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] seems to have a low sex drive", "post": "I ALWAYS want sex. There's never a time that I would turn down for sex. We've been together for almost a year and our sex went from 7-11 times a week to 3-4 times a week. \n\nI always have to initiate first...and lately she keeps telling me no with excuses like she's too tired. She never initiates sex, and I just really wish she would because it makes me feel unwanted otherwise.\n\nShe just doesn't seem to have that much desire for sex anymore. She doesn't really get wet anymore either. I'm at a loss here. I feel like shit since she rarely initiates and doesn't seem that excited about sex anymore.", "summary": "low sex drive impacting our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_32jx4g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The thought of you with someone else is killing me... But I know it shouldn't.", "post": "We dated for five years, and we were engaged. I thought that we were going to be able to go the distance, that we'd be together forever, but you changed. You weren't the girl I asked to marry me, so I left. \n\nFast forward a few months, and I'm in a new relationship, and I'm happy... Happier than I've been in  a long long time. Then you started texting me.\n\nYou started telling me about your new boyfriend, then how you broke up with him because he wouldn't sleep with you, and now you're telling me about the three guys you're casually sleeping with and hooking up with. You went from sleeping with only me to having slept with 5 different people in a matter of two weeks, and those are just the people I know about.\n\nMe any my new girlfriend have slept together, and I'm happy with her. I don't want to leave her. But the thought of some guy fucking you from behind is just too much for me to handle; it makes me want to curl up and die and I have no idea why. Last night when you told me how you invited a guy over specifically to sit on his face because I refused to cheat with you hurt me more than anything has in a long time.\n\nI know you can do whatever you want, I know I have no right to ask you not to do anything. I wish you wouldn't tell me, but at the same time, my imagination is just as bad. \n\nI don't know what to do, I don't know how to escape this.", "summary": "I broke up with my fianc\u00e9, and now have a new gf, but my ex is texting me about her new fuckbuddies and it bothers me and idk why"}
{"id": "t3_umjnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend doesn't want to do anything sexually, what do I do?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend are both 16, and have been dating for about 8 months. I know we're young, and chances are the answers are going to say \"you're too young, blah blah blah\", but here it goes.\n\nIn the relationship there is has only been one major issue, doing sexual things. At first, she was perfectly fine with it. But further into the relationship she has said she feels guilty after doing it. So we stopped, and that isn't the problem. I don't care so much about not getting some, I love the girl and if she doesn't want to that's fine.\n\nThe thing that gets to me is in her past, she has hooked up with guys(boyfriend or not) and done those things. In fact, before we dated but I still had feelings for her I witnessed her hooking up with a guy. \n\nNow I don't want to break up with her over this at all. I just don't know how to get over the fact she did this with other guys but not with me. It just hurts me to think she won't do sexual things with me but she will with guys she wasn't even dating. \n\nSo my main question is, how do I get over her being a prude with me but not anyone else? Every time this topic comes up between me and her I can see her hooking up with that other guy.", "summary": "girlfriend is a prude in our 8 month relationship, but not in the past. Past hookups bother me and I don't know how to do with it."}
{"id": "t3_4o3iv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [24 M] am not romaticly interrested in my friend [22 F]. she started seeing someone and i feel super jealous and want to ruin it.", "post": "I meet this girl at a party last year and we sorta just connected. She seemed like a nice girl so i got her number and we started talked. We really had nothing in common, but could still talk hours on end. For the last year we have been talking a couple times a week. In that year i have dated 2 girls, both i meet through her. Shes my opposite, nothing in common, but for some reason we still connect.  We both pretty early on knew that we wouldn't ever be involved romantically. Which might have taken our friendship to a place it wouldn't otherwise have been. \n\nRecently she started going out with this guy she meet online. She seems really happy when i talk to her and i am happy for her, but heres my problem. I feel super jealous. We talk less, which is getting to my head, and i am starting to get mad at her for no reason. Shes my friend, i should feel happy for her, but instead i am thinking of way to ruin their relation ship. Like what the fuck is wrong with me. Shes been dating for a while now, and i was helping her giving her tips all along the way, and then when she finally finds someone i want to ruin it?? \n\nI never really saw my self as a jealous person, but i guess i know better now. \nWhat do i do to get rid of this. I should be happy for her, like she was happy for me when i was with someone. How do i stop feeling jealous? I am not really sure jealous is even the right word to use here.", "summary": "Friend i have no romantic interest in started dating a guy. I should be happy for her, but instead i feel jealous and want to ruin their their relationship. How do i get rid of these selfish feelings and feel happy for her."}
{"id": "t3_zfj2o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get a relatively sensitive issue through to a sibling?", "post": "Now this might sound like a joke but it is honestly quite an issue, I have a little brother who seems to have a bit of an odour problem only it isn't a simple body odour problem, I'm quite sure he has a very smelly umm... rear. I have another sibling that bothers him about everything constantly so if I try to tell him something or give him advice he usually gets really mad and chalks it up as me bullying him like my other sibling. Now he isn't the most hygienic person, in the summer he really only showered every few days when he had to and has terrible oral hygiene but, now that school is back in he is clean once again (thank god) yet his smelly bottom is still an issue. I love hanging out with my brother but honestly everytime he hangs out in my room he leaves behind an absolutely rancid smell, somewhat of a mixture of sweat and poop, not just in the air but my chair that he sits in literally smells like shit after he gets up. I have tried to tell him but like I said before he thinks I am just making fun of him, he just started high school and even telling him that girls don't like smelly guys has no affect. This is in no way a joke but I have to make it clear it smells like shit.", "summary": "My little brother has a *really* smelly bottom and I can't get it through to him even though I try to tell him in a nice way. How can I get my message through to him?"}
{"id": "t3_32gcyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my [27F] girlfriend, reevaluating past events in light of history of sexual assault [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Hi Reddit! I previously posted about having caught my girlfriend in several small lies. I was bothered by the fact that she had not \"come clean\" in either instance, and had instead remained fairly adamant that she was telling the truth until she was more-or-less cornered. That left me feeling very uncertain about what I could and couldn't trust. \n\nI initially posted on Reddit because I wasn't sure how her past history, which includes alcohol- and substance-abusing parents, abusive ex-boyfriends, and sexual assault, was factoring into everything. The general consensus seemed to be that I should break things off in order to prioritize my health and well-being. \n\nAlong that vein, my girlfriend and I had a very lengthy conversation about the relationship last night. During that talk, she spoke about her prior sexual assault (which she had not previously opened up about) in greater detail, and knowing what she went through, how she processed the emotions, some of the difficult situations she's faced since then, etc. really helped put some aspects of her dishonestly in perspective for me.\n\nWhile I maintain that dishonesty is unacceptable in a loving, trusting relationship, I am now more torn than ever about how to proceed. I had planned to break things off with my girlfriend yesterday night, but I couldn't bring myself to do that when she was sitting in front of me bawling, and recounting a very painful memory of being sexually assaulted. In addition, I feel like I can now understand WHY she might have lied in at least one instance. At the same time, I recognize that her issues are not necessarily my issues, and that I can't necessarily \"help\" her process them and come to terms with them.\n\nDo you think I would be better off ending the relationship? Or do you think I should give her another chance, given that she was brave and honest enough to share a very painful past experience with me to help put her dishonesty in context?", "summary": "had planned to break up with girlfriend given inability to accept her dishonesty, but instead had a long talk about her history of sexual assault, which helps clarify why she behaved as she did. Unclear where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_p54mk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "older guy, newly single me, what to do?", "post": "hello r/dating_advice! \n\ni am feeling a little confused. i'm female, 25, and have been single for approximately 3 months after ending a rather serious 3 year relationship. in a delightful drunken night out with the girls, i met a cute, european scientist who works at a fancy university in town. i gave him my number. he texted the next day, and we had a great date over coffee. he's really smart and makes me laugh (even if his english isn't always too great-idioms are a bitch after all). had a second date, i find out he's about 40 and on a third post-doc. and continue to dig (neurotic brain kicks in) and find out that he's never been married nor does he have kids. fine. i told him my situation (newly single, wanting to date, take things slow, etc). he seemed cool with it. he walked me to the nearest public transportation and kissed me on the cheek at the end of the date (so gentlemanly!). we've continued to text, almost daily. most of it relating to science (i work in a lab) and food and fun. we have a date planned for thursday, and he is leaving for a few weeks over the weekend. the thing is: i know this isn't going to be a long term thing, but i like him and want to see where it goes. i'm also really missing sex. a lot. having it regularly for three years, and then no male contact is creating some serious withdrawl and is making my brain go to mush. i'm debating whether or not i should sleep with him, even though he's old and i'm not super experienced (two partners, both in the context of long term relationships) and i'm worried about getting attached. what do you think i should do?", "summary": "i'm young, newly single, and worried about getting attached. he's significantly older. not sure if i should sleep with him. need advice."}
{"id": "t3_qxs4t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "On the brink of homelessness, what do I do?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short and concise.\n\nI moved (back) to Houston, TX about 2 months ago. The girl I was staying with when I first got here had something of a manic episode, and after so much I could not stay there any longer, it felt unsafe. \n\nI am currently staying with a friend who's parents are out of town. I had plans to move into a room that was becoming available from a friend moving. But this friend handled it all very strangely, and without much communication. This angered his roommates and caused them to go behind his back and rent out his room to someone else, which in turn screwed me over. I quite seriously, have no options here, at the moment. \n\nIt is Thursday morning, and I have till Saturday morning to find a place to stay. I have about $600.\n\nThis brings me to my girlfriend. She currently lives in a small college town outside of Austin, TX. I was planning on moving out close to her in a couple months. But now I have the option to hitch a ride to Austin or this small town on Saturday. I cannot stay with my girlfriend, due to agreements with her roommate. I have one friend in Austin, who *might* be able to find me a temporary place to stay, but there are no guarantees.\n\nI am not worried about finding another job, no matter where I am, as I have always been extremely good at getting employed. So I suppose my question is, has anyone else been in a similar situation? If so what ended up happening? Also are there any resources I am overlooking that could be useful? Perhaps someone will see this looking to fill an extra bedroom in Austin. Any tips/advice in general would be really appreciated...really. I am at a total loss here.", "summary": "Live in Houston. As of this coming Saturday (Its Thursday) I have no where to live. $600 in my pocket. Have the opportunity to get a ride to Austin, where my girlfriend lives (living with her isnt an option), but only a small chance of a friend finding a temp place to stay for me. Need any and all thoughts on this. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2s3o54", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "really changed, still really stressed m18", "post": "I have made some big strides in having more confidence in myself and what I do as before I didnt really have a social life. Met a great girl and things went really good in the beginning. We got to know each other, became more friendly rather than just meeting each other etc. It was new so a relationship was technically off the table. \n\nI decided that I should be a bit more open and get out of my comfort zone, so I contacted more through social media and other forms of communication.  I just got to the point where I felt left out as she is the person with a lot of friends and is also decently busy. I felt well, great things are going good, but I need to change according to her so I backed off as I said in another post here. It was getting to be slightly creepy but she cared about me still. Even though I backed off, I really did blow it alot as in I am great, but screwed up. I have a great personality, just had trouble getting it out so I can have a better time.  I dont want to leave her as I really like her, but I want to make things right again.  She has not answered her texts and I feel really bad as I never saw this happening. \n\n I want her to like me and im not forcing anything, but I want to change as in so she sees more and initiates contact. Im tired of always being nice and having a great personality, but things never really working out. She has showed interest as in calling me sweet, wanting to go out with just her however, I feel stressed as I think a relationship could possibly happen as we are very similar, but for now, I just am wanting help to fix this.", "summary": "Huge improvement to huge problem to stuck on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2xvli4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [14f] girlfriend is moving things in our relationship rather fast and [15m] I've also been feeling off about the relationship. Can anyone help?", "post": "I know those 2 options are far apart, but hear me out please  \n\nWe've only been dating for close to a month now, and in that time she's taken my first kiss, which I remember quite clearly, but wasn't too ready for  \n\nNow she wants to make out, and the thought of it grosses me out and kind of scares me. I told her I want to take things slow and all which I thought would help. I *thought*  \n\nShe was telling my friends (and her friend too) that she's a bit bored and wish that I would make out with her, just like all of her ex's did, but I don't want to. So one question I have is that **Is making out something that some people like / dislike, or does everyone enjoy it with time?** It's been making me nervous and I felt like having some sort of answer to this would help me calm down a bit  \n\nAnother thing, I've been feeling sort of...temporary, for lack of a better word. I'm not sure what this feeling is but I feel flat, dead inside, melancholy, I'm not too sure. I't might just be puberty, or something else along these lines, as I don't consider myself depressed anymore, I'm not really sad, I just feel like a type of *neutral unhappy* if that makes any sense. This only started to come up when she brought up making out and other things like that so yeah\n\nI really like her, but I feel uneasy with everything and just needed to write this out, thank you for reading this semi rant I guess hah", "summary": "Gf wants to move things along in relationship : I'm not sure I'm not ready or dislike the idea of making out : I feel off about things in general-starting up around the time she brought up the idea of making out and her ex's and etc"}
{"id": "t3_3cgna2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] Casually seeing [19/F] for 2 months, need help talking to her about next steps.", "post": "Been casually dating this girl for just over 2 months, everything is going reasonably well, she calls me everyday and we see each other once a week minimum, sometimes 2. \n\nI'm at a kind of sticking point now where I want to ask her where our \"relationship\" is going but at the same time I kind of feel doomed because when asked if we were together recently by a coworker she simply responded with a flat no. I'm not at all upset by this because, until I ask her, that answer is just the truth but at the same time it feels like she disregarded that we were dating. This brings up my first question, if you're casually dating someone but get asked if you're \"together\" how do you respond?\n\nAlso I should note we haven't had sex yet which I doesn't bug me that much, but I want to know, would you consider asking a girl to see you exclusively if you weren't already having sex?", "summary": "Want to ask this girl how she feels about me and possible exclusivity but am still gauging how she feels about me and not quite sure how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_t5rj6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most awesome thing you've seen a teacher or professor do/say?", "post": "I'm currently in high school, today we had to do a fitness test in gym class. There's this enormous douchebag, coked and roided up, running around with his shirt off shouting about how \"I have a six-pack, I'm jacked and shouldn't have to put up with this shit\" and generally being a cunt. Anyway, we did sit-ups today, and usually the gym teacher gives people a warning if they're not doing the sit-ups properly, and then tells them they're done and records how many they got to. Usually he's pretty lenient on it. Its Roided-up coke head's turn and the following takes place:\nRCH: Blah, blah, I don't need this, I'll do a hundred no problem. \nTeacher: *begins recording of \"up...down...up...\" that sets cadence for the exercise*\nRCH: This is fucking easy\nT: You're not coming up far enough. You're still not coming up far enough, that's your warning, get off. 3 situps total.", "summary": "Douche embarrassed by gym teacher during fitness test, only did 3 situps when whole class did 50-80"}
{"id": "t3_34rip7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30/m] My wife [28/f] went on her business trip with her lingerie and revealing underwear? I contacted her and a friend on the trip and it seems suspicious", "post": "I'm kind of freaking out because I don't know if I'm being too paranoid but my wife is on her business trip right now, and her lingerie and some of her most revealing panties and thongs are missing. I am assuming that she took it with her at this point, what could she be using them for? \n\nSo I called her to check on with her, everything was good she said she was staying in a hotel with her female coworkers. I've been married to her for 5 years now and I felt like her tone didn't seem normal. So I also called a friend of ours who was also her coworker, and he told me completely different things than what my wife told me. Apparently she requested to share a one bed room with another male coworker (in his early 20s) which my wife is supposedly a very close mentor at work. My friend at the trip said he will keep a close eye on her for me and report back if he sees anything unusual.\n\nI am now paranoid because my wife is lying to me and there is almost no doubt that she packed a bunch of lingerie and sexy underwear that she obviously isn't intended for me.\n\nI called her back today three times and she never picked up, I called her again just a few minutes prior to making this post and she picked up but she sounded weird and was making random silent pauses, I didn't hear a man but she was definitely acting weird and sounded like she was rushing to hang up. She kept saying she was hanging out in the hotel room with some other female coworkers..\n\nWhat do I do now? Am I justified in suspecting her or is this all a big misunderstanding??", "summary": "Wife went on business trip and coincidentally? her lingerie and some of her most revealing underwear was missing in the house, called her and a friend and it seems like she lied to me and is actually staying in a room with another male coworker"}
{"id": "t3_2hrqwi", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need career advice! Help me, Reddit!!", "post": "Ok so I've been in retail for 10 years, it's all I know at age 26. I've worked customer service and/or commission sales. I'm stellar at it. \n\nI've never known what to do with my life, so I've just stayed in retail. I'm really burnt out and have had a handful of weekends and holidays per year off. I have an AA in Liberal Arts, but I never went any further with my education because I didn't know what to do.\n\nA few months ago, the company I was working for went out of business, I lost my commission job of 3 years making roughly $40,000. \n\nI took the opportunity to really contemplate my future. I finally figured it out. Healthcare! I can't handle blood, vomit, etc, but I love helping people and have always wanted something clerical/administrative. A friend in Phoenix offered me a place to stay, so I packed up and moved across the country to start fresh. There're a lot of healthcare opportunities here. \n\nTo get on my feet and off of unemployment, I took a retail management position (at a $10,000 pay cut) until I could find something better, it's all I could find. I planned to maybe go to school, working my way through. \n\nHere's the problem, this job I took? It's awful. My boss is straight up abusive, it started fine, but I get yelled at everyday. I see now why there was an opening. I HAVE to get out. Like now. I'm scared to pick up another job just like it, but all I can find in healthcare is $8/hr filing jobs and such. I need something that pays to jump start my career without office experience, but excellent people skills, account management, and a quick learner.", "summary": "How do I break into the office/clerical/hr/administrative field with no office experience? How can I make a speedy career change (as in this year) without a degree?"}
{"id": "t3_1dj9oa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f17] made my boyfriend [m19] think that I want to have sex with other guys.", "post": "I asked him if he ever felt like he wanted to try out sex with other people. I just feel so awful, I dont want to have sex with other people I was just wondering if he ever thought about it. I have fantasies, sure, but cheating for me is just out of the question. Ive been hurt like that too many times to stoop that low. \n\nme and him are fairly young and have been together for 2 years, is it reasonable to have fantasies about other guys? I would feel ridiculously uncomfortable if I ever even attempted to have sex with another guy for real. \n\nIs there any way I can fix this? Have I given him no other choice but to break up with me? I really don't want it to end like this, I dont want to break up with him, I still love him more than anything.", "summary": "asked my boyfriend if he ever thought about having sex with other people, now he thinks that Im considering fucking other guys in real life, when its really just fantasies"}
{"id": "t3_1acumc", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "we are broken up im [24m] shes [25f] is it inappropriate to do this?", "post": "hey everyone, i just made this throwaway (first time) and i dont usually post much. basically, my ex and i broke up in january (together for 2 years) and remained in touch for a few weeks after that because it was hard. but then we started doing the space thing. few weeks after that we saw each other again at a party and it got complicated when we got drunk. we spoke after that, but then gave each other space again. so we're looking at about 2-3 weeks since the last time we saw each other.\n\nthe reason i'm here is because she's in a show and her last performance is tomorrow night. ive always supported her and i wanted to be there for her, but we arent together. it took a lot for me not to text her good luck and all that. but i got a ticket for the last show tomorrow night. i was wondering whether it would be awkward to buy flowers and give them to the box office to give to her anonymously? i spoke with the box office and they said it's cool, so i'm really just wondering what you guys think of it?\n\ni'm not trying to win her back with it, but i know this is her most important performance to date and i just want her to feel special. i wouldn't have my name or anything attached to it and i'm leaving after the show ends (not waiting around for her to come out) \n\nof course i'd love to get back together, but that's if and only we both feel ready at some point. it's been too soon, but i still support her. so, is this okay to do? good or bad? hit me with the criticism please.", "summary": "broke up in january 2 year relationship, shes in a big show saturday and i wanted to get her flowers anonymously. good or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_l3f8m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the classy way to deal with good grades?", "post": "I went back to school in September and so far I've done very well.  As in, top two in the program well.  This isn't a huge shock for me, since I've always done well in school and I've never really applied myself to academics before, but it's a very nice development.\n\nThing is, most of my new friends are somewhere between struggling and just getting it.  I've tried not to brag about my success, but I'm both outgoing and competitive so it's hard to keep marks out of the conversation.  I usually try to joke it away, calling it dumb luck or mock praising myself to near-godliness, but there have been uncomfortable moments.\n\nThis afternoon, a good friend pulled me aside and said that some people didn't like my gloating.  I don't know if he was being honest or if that's just his way of saying \"I don't like your jokes,\" but either way I'm spooked.  I'm in a bind.  I don't want to get a reputation as a showoff or know-it-all (a risk, since I'm a useless fact hoarder) but I don't want to clam up every time papers get passed around either.\n\nWhat's the social but polite way to handle good marks?", "summary": "Ubermensch wants to avoid offending the \"normies.\""}
{"id": "t3_51a1yy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Importance of staying at first job for experience if in less-than-desirable location?", "post": "I recently moved cross country to accept a position at a company after graduating college. I am very thankful to be gainfully employed and have an environment where learning is an everyday occurrence (job basically feels like a paid internship). I feel that the experience from this job with help me on my path to getting where I want to go professionally.\n\nCatch is, I live with my parents and in a place that I never wanted to live. There is another city I've wanted to move back to for a long time- I have many friends there, the activities/climate there are what I like, just like being in a bigger city.", "summary": "Basically I can't decide how long I should stick it out at my current job vs. move to where I feel my heart says I should be? Is there a good process I should follow for making this kind of decision? I guess I'm as interested in the process of decision making as well as specific advice. Thank you in advance."}
{"id": "t3_1yva0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23f) with ex (23m) and on the fence with whether or not to join him.", "post": "We broke up in September and went NC for a month then from November-December we spent the holiday breaks together. During the time we weren't talking he took a girl to a wedding and on a couple of other dates. However, nothing came of the dates and she friend zoned him.\n\nNow spring break is here and it's gonna be one big party. Everyone he knows, all week, in one house. He invited me in November.  Now just two weeks ago he informed me he invited the same chick from the wedding assuring me she friend zoned him and nothing is gonna happen between them. \n\nNow I didn't have a problem with it when he told me because we still aren't together so I can't be mad about other relations he is involved in.  I just lately have been rethinking it and I am starting to convince myself not to go. I don't know if I would be comfortable around someone I knew he tried to pursue.", "summary": "spring break is coming up and I'm invited to party with an ex but he's inviting an ex interest who friend zoned him. Should I go still?"}
{"id": "t3_2mww3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] 1 month, when to disclose my bipolar disorder?", "post": "I have bipolar disorder, but I take medication and no one can tell. Without medication, I am a wreck, but have been on medication for several years. \n\nI am incredibly secretive about my illness--even my closest friends in the area don't know. However, in a dating relationship, I feel like I'm leading him on and hiding this potentially deal-breaking aspect of who I am. \n\nI want to be sure I can trust him enough not tell my friends, and frankly, I want to be at a point where he won't break up with me over it. \n\nWhen do you think is the appropriate point in the relationship to share a mental illness? What makes you advise that stage? \n\nIf it matters, we met online (but I've introduced him to friends). We've been on dates 2-3 times a week for a month. The kissing is great, but I'm fairly conservative and have not gone beyond that yet.", "summary": "At what stage of dating should I disclose my bipolar disorder?"}
{"id": "t3_3uniqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (19m) had a porn addiction, but he relapsed. And lied to me about it.", "post": "SO (19m) of over one year had a porn addiction, really bad one to the point of not orgasming during sex and going soft... He stopped it because it was affecting our sex life badly. He promised me. (19f)\n\nI came to find today (I just moved in with him) while looking at history of the browser that he got \"relapsed\"... Since weeks ago. He have not told me as well, he lied to my face about it. \n\nI feel really really disappointed in him. I feel ashamed I have someone like him as a partner, as bad as it sounds. It just feels like a dealbreaker to me at this point and I regret not knowing earlier so I could decide. It's too late now. (Already moved to a new country to move in with him, etc).\n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "SO had a porn addiction which was affecting our sex life badly. He stopped for the sake of our relationship. He \"relapsed\" weeks ago and lied to my face actively, even when I asked about it. Feel really disappointed in him, and ashamed he is my partner. How to go about this?"}
{"id": "t3_1v4sei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my boyfriend [25 M] for 2 years, didn't do too much for our two years. Am disappointed. How can I view this situation from a fair perspective?", "post": "Hello. \n\nI'm 24 [m] with my boyfriend. Leading up to our 2 years was pretty awesome. It's the longest relationship I've ever had and I am generally happy with my 25 y/o bf. He has a lot of quirks that I can't tolerate well at this time. He has a lot of good qualities that will benefit him greatly in most aspects of his life. He views the world from a more clinical perspective, null & void of the emotion that I'd rather be there, and plans **everything**!\n\nMy issue a lot is that sometimes I don't want to hear clinical advice about **our** relationship. I tend to be more free spirited and emotional than him. I'm also more spontaneous and don't particularly like to plan hang outs with any friend (SO or not) too far in advance. I'm ok with just doing something and seeing how it turns out.  \n\nI get we're different. Being different's good in a relationship. I just wish we were more bit more similar. \n\nLong story short, we did nothing for the day of our 2 year anniversary. I'm cheesy to the point that it means something to me to do something special on a milestone like an anniversary.\n\n**Anniversary plans**: We were going to go biking, but rain canceled that. I suggested we go to Monterrey Bay Aquarium. He didn't want to due to having no plan. I understand where he was coming from.  As a result, I was feeling somewhat defeated that he wasn't too excited to conjure up any different plans.", "summary": "I was being a bitch about our anniversary. I understand his side and know my side as well. Am I justified to feel bummed?"}
{"id": "t3_16o0qz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I've got a question regarding holding on to some things. Should I throw these away?", "post": "So my ex, a 23 year old girl, and myself, a guy of the same age, broke up months ago. I'm talking mooonths ago. Holy shit, I just counted and its actually been 8 months.\n\nAnyway, getting to the point. I recently moved to a different city, and found a box containing a ton of old stuff. It was a bunch of mementos from everyone ranging from birthday cards from relatives/friends to newspaper clippings and ticket stubs.\n\nAmong these relics, however, I found a damn gold mine of pictures of her and us together (senior prom, too) and a couple hand-made cards/letters she made me. She used to do that a lot, since we were long-distance for a while. \n\nAnyway, they're really sentimental and I feel like throwing them away would be wrong. However, we're not together anymore and we don't even talk. She was a huge part of my life for a long time and we were together for almost 5 years.\n\nShould I throw these things away, and is holding on to these items holding me back from \"moving on\" completely? I've seen and been with a few other women, and I've moved on after the break-up. She's moved on as well.", "summary": "should I throw away mementos of my past relationship, and would I be a weirdo if I held on to them?"}
{"id": "t3_53kknu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My father hasn't visited his family since 1992 and rarely speaks of them", "post": "Just a bit of background- my father is middle-eastern and he basically lives on the other side of the world in Australia by himself (including myself who lives close by his house and my mother who also lives close by). From what I am aware, in their culture being divorced is shameful, and when you go back to visit you must have a lot of money (my father is divorced to my mother AND doesn't have a lot of money). The thing is though, we all care for him and now I truly think his family just really wants to see him and misses him hugely. \n\nI have offered to fund flights for him to go back and so has my mother (his ex wife). My grandmother (my mums mother) has even left him some money in her will so he has the ability to fly back one day. Yet he refuses and goes quiet whenever i try bring up his family or he'll just make up an excuse or say he's chatted to them and everything is going well (i doubt this a lot)\n\nI'm not sure what to do because his mother isn't particularly well, and he never ended up seeing his father in time who passed away in 2010.", "summary": "how do i convince a man that hasn't seen his family since 1992 to go back and visit them"}
{"id": "t3_3jlkx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [26F] of 1 year, snooped on her laptop and I suspect she may still have feelings for ex.", "post": "My GF was showering while I was on her laptop, so for some reason I snooped, I am not proud of it but I did. Backstory: She dated this very abusive guy for 6 years from the age of 16-22. He would degrade her, ruin her self-esteem, cheat on her and tell her, but for some reason she stayed with him for 6 years. She told me she was completely over him after their nasty breakup. Anyways on her history I found out that she regularly searches him up on facebook and about a month before we dated she was helping him with resumes and stuff and calling him my love in the emails. Is this a red flag? Is it possible she may still have feelings for him? How do I bring this up?", "summary": "I think gf may still harbour feelings for ex, still called him my love right before we dated, and regularly searches him on FB"}
{"id": "t3_16j4g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26f) husband (24m) is trying to become a criminal :(! Is it reasonable for me to try and stop him?", "post": "Married for 2 years. He's 24, I'm 26. Dated for 4 years.\n\nOkay. So a long time (over 10 years ago) he used to play a computer game called \"Runescape.\" Something recently must've triggered his nostalgia, because he started playing again the other day on his old account.\n\nApparently he has some rare items on it that are worth a lot of in game money, and apparently there's a \"black market\" for selling in game money and items for real life money. He's decided he's going to sell all his shit for real life money.\n\nI guess my title is a little deceptive. It's not illegal in that it's criminal, but I've looked into it and THE COMPANY MAKING THE GAME HAS SUED PEOPLE FOR SELLING THINGS.\n\nI don't know why he's so set on selling it. It's not like we're poor or anything.", "summary": "Husband is trying to break the laws :(. Is it reasonable for me to try and stop him?"}
{"id": "t3_3wuuz8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Sometimes I feel like a narcissist.", "post": "This has been bothering me for a while. I can have a hell of an ego, even though I do a pretty good job keeping it under wraps. People bother me. Most people are a minor nuisance, others just flat out obnoxious. [Except you fine redditors :) ] I often think to myself \"I am so much better than [X group I'm around.]\" I've got a kind of set of morals, which is great for me, but I often find myself looking down on those who don't conduct themselves how I do. I'm really judgemental, although, again, I keep it to myself. But when I let it slip out, oh man does it slip out. I'm a Junior in High School, and I'm in all Honors and AP classes, and I do really well. I'm in an Honors class with one of my buddies. I've kinda said \"I can write whatever I want on the paper and get an A, the class is for of idiots, I shoulda taken AP.\" Without realizing I just insulted him. I've been caught on things like this a couple times. I just flat out feel like an asshole sometimes. I look at my friends and family, and I can't help thinking how I got stuck with them. (Even though I love them, mostly.) I don't think I'm a narcissist in the literal, textbook sense. I can be really critical of myself when I screw something important up. I don't have a God complex (that I know of) but sometimes I just feel bad for seeing other people as bothersome at most.", "summary": "I'm an asshole and I feel bad about it."}
{"id": "t3_2li048", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex-girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years. Bought her concert tickets for her birthday a few weeks ago, but we went separate ways. Concert is coming up, what to do?", "post": "My girlfriend and I broke up around the 20th of October, she said she had fallen out of love and wasn't feeling it anymore, but also said things like I offer the world and have the biggest heart and I'm an awesome person, etc. She seems very confused about commitment, and has broken up with me 2-3 times for durations of about 3 weeks or so during our 2.5 years. \n  \nThis time she said that she thinks we have issues as individuals that are holding our relationship back and thinks we need to be alone to deal with them. Now those times didn't bother me because she does have a lot going on and we normally have found out how to work things out before. There was no huge fight or animosity or anything it was kind of just solemn.\n  \nThis breakup feels different though. We haven't talked in about a week now, the longest since we have been together. I bought her tickets to a band we both like a few weeks before the breakup and gave them to her as an early birthday present. Her birthday is this weekend and the concert is early next week. Not having talked to her, how should I initiate if she would still like to go to the show with me? Or should I wait for her? Write a letter? Send a text? Not sure how to navigate this, and have hopes of getting back together with her and she basically said \"If its meant to be its meant to be.\" Citing she doesn't feel like she can give me her all and wants me to enjoy my college experience and not feel like she's holding me back. \n  \nI'm not sure if it's wise to try to go to the concert just yet or let things be for a few months before talking to her again. Your opinions are appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, bought her a pair of tickets to a concert for her birthday, concert and birthday is coming up, how to handle both dates?"}
{"id": "t3_2ltdab", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[30/M] My SO [26/F] is beginning a new lifestyle that I am excited about! I just need some advice from people to see what I should do.", "post": "Hello everyone!:)) I have been a long time reddit lurker & I am now happy to say that my wife is willing to explore the world of having multiple female partners. I have a question regarding what I would call our new relationship.\n\n**background:** She has always been bisexual. Since we are both happily married and I trust her very much, we both decided to have her go out and explore her bisexuality. She really wants to date other women. I am a monogamous person at heart, and only want what is best for her. She does not want to date other men since she already has me.\nI recently heard of the term \"unicorn\" and \"unicorn hunting\" but I just want to clarify that I will not be part of this lifestyle. This is her own secondary relationship to keep herself happy and exhilarated with the beauty of the female body.\n\nIs this wrong? Are we \"unicorn hunters\" if I am not part of this? What would we call my wife's lifestyle?", "summary": "Wife is going to go out and find women to date. I love the idea of her having secondary relationships with women (*not* men.) Is this wrong or is this \"unicorn hunting?\""}
{"id": "t3_wtyso", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Sold my car, buyer insists I take it back because of issues I listed in the ad and showed him in person. Does he have grounds to take me to civil court?", "post": "I posted my car for sale on Craigslist, noting that it had some rust. The rust isn't immediately visible from outside the vehicle, which is why I mentioned it. When the buyers arrived from Pennsylvania to look at the car/possibly purchase it, they looked at it for maybe half an hour, test drove it by themselves on public roads, and agreed to buy it on the spot. I mentioned the rust again in person and physically pointed it out to them, actually touching the rusted areas with hands and explaining their location to them. They paid cash and left.\n\nA few days later, one of the guys calls and claims that I lied to them about the rust. His biggest complaint is that it will not pass Pennsylvania state inspection. The car had a valid West Virginia state inspection sticker on it when it was sold, and I never offered any warranty or guarantee of any sort. Now he's claiming that the Lemon Law protects him, but I am under the impression that that law only applies to dealerships and manufacturers. I'm just a guy who sold his car, and I would really like to avoid knocking off work and driving to another state to go to civil court. The buyer \"had a state trooper look at it\" and called saying that in two weeks, if I haven't refunded him the purchase price, we're going to civil court (originally he said small claims court, not sure if that makes any difference).\n\nI signed the title over to him, but there is no bill of sale or receipt. I did keep a copy of the Craigslist post.", "summary": "Sold my car, buyer wants a refund based on issues I disclosed to him before he bought it."}
{"id": "t3_1tg926", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] got broken up with by my Ex-GF [22F] of almost 2 years, but I'm not sad.", "post": "Before the breakup we had a break where we had a break and I think she wanted to see what is was like to be able to give more of her time to the things in her life that she's passionate about. \n\nI think it would be easier here if she didn't still love me and I could be angry at her and get over it but she has told me that she still does and I genuinely believe that's the case. \n\nDuring this break I was very upset and think I knew deep down this what was going to happen. She's just graduated and has aspirations to be a surgeon and wants to be selfish in pursuing that. I myself going into social work to help people and can understand the passion that she wants to put into it.\n\nThe major difference here is that she is somewhat cynical about love being the only thing necessary to make things work from past relationships. \n\nI have told here that I don't mind being patient in her pursuing that dream but she doesn't want me to have to do that and doesn't want to have to feel bad about it. She says that maybe things will work out in the end but right now this is what she wants to do.\n\nI respect that part of what she's said but I am having trouble understanding why love can't be enough to make things work and is something I strongly believe in. \n\nOddly enough I'm very at peace with it now and may be that could be because of some hope that things can work out but to be honest I really don't know why.\n\nWe're taking some time to get past everything but we want to try to be friends. We are definitely each others best friends so I'm glad that isn't completely gone. I dunno, just wondering if anyone else has gone through something like this or has any insight, thanks.", "summary": "Oddly at peace with breakup even though I still love her"}
{"id": "t3_sn7gp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! This cat needs a home.", "post": "*", "summary": "A cat's caretaker is moving to California. Need to find awesome cat a new, loving home."}
{"id": "t3_2t1krx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 4 years, how do I maintain a healthy long distance relationship?", "post": "A month ago my girlfriend moved to a different state for work reasons. She'll be gone for another year. For anyone who has done a long distance relationship and made it work, how did you keep it working? \n\nMy main issues:\n\n1. Due to time zone differences, I realize I can't count on her to be there for me as much and vice versa. I'm worried eventually we'll grow apart because of this.      \n\n2. For financial and time reasons, it's not realistic to visit her. It's a 10 hour flight and extremely expensive airfare (seriously, it's cheaper to visit a nearby country). I've also just started a new job, so I won't have much vacation leave. I could probably only visit her for 4-5 days, of which 2 will be taken up by flying. \n\n3. She spends most of her free time with her male neighbor. She has dinner with him several times a week at his place, watch movies together etc. Since he's the only person near her that is around her age, I can understand why she spends so much time with him. But how do I not get so worried about this or overthink? I've had a few ex's that gradually got closer to some other guy, and when we broke up, they got together. Anything I should look out for?      \n\n4. No sex, ok this I expected. I can just watch porn like I used to. But she's also very against any exchanging of nudes or fun times on skype because of security reasons. What's something fun I could suggest that she might be ok with? \n\nHonestly I don't know if I can do this for another year, it's not healthy thinking this way. My first instinct to try and stop thinking this way, is to live my own life, and put her to the side. But I feel like this will gradually push us apart, and I'll realize, I don't want/need her in my life. \n\nSo reddit, how did you make your long distance relationship work?", "summary": "What are some long distance relationship tips?"}
{"id": "t3_32chp4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [25/f] and want more commitment than my [23/m] boyfriend wants right now.", "post": "I'm 25, work full-time, and am going back to school in the fall with a decided career path.\n\nMy boyfriend is 23, works full-time, and is currently in school with an undecided career path.\n\nAs of last week, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year.\n\nWithin the past four months, we've discussed building a life together/being together indefinitely, and having kids in the future (in about three to five years).\n\nThree months ago, my boyfriend rearranged things in his dresser to give me a drawer, and he also gave me a key to his place.\n\nTwo months ago, he asked me to move in with him, which I did.  Before I officially moved in, I spent every night at his place.  We're currently looking for a place to move into, just the two of us, once the lease ends in July.\n\nAlso two months ago, I asked him how he feels about being engaged and getting married.  He stated that he wants to live together for at least a year before we think about getting engaged.  I see the logic in this, but it has been hard for me because I feel like we've already had conversations that show we intend to become married in the future.\n\nI've tried to accept that that level of commitment isn't something that's in his 'life plan' at this point in time.  However, I find myself wanting a symbol of commitment, or, an engagement ring without the engagement part.\n\nWhile I would like to bring this up with him and let him know what I want, there's a part of me that says that's unfair to him since he's pretty much already made his position on the matter clear.\n\nSO BASICALLY:\n1) Should I bring up wanting a ring?  And if so, how?\n\n2) If I should NOT bring up wanting a ring, what can I do to help myself be at ease with how things are and calm down about it?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have been together for a year, live together, and have talked about having a life together.  I want a 'symbol of commitment' (a ring) but he does not want to think about getting engaged for at least another year.  Should I make my want known?  If not, how do I become comfortable with what he wants?"}
{"id": "t3_k8ggw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ways to ease the pain of letting a guy know a girl doesn't like him back?", "post": "First, I'm asking this for my friend. This is not my situation. Also, she and the guy never dated, but I wasn't sure of which subreddit in which to post this. I'm sorry, I'm still relatively unfamiliar with reddit. *cringes at the prospect of downvotes*\nShe liked a guy, but she ended up not liking after finding out that he has a HUGE crush on her. She wishes to know how to break it to him without hurting him too much. (I do not believe that he knew that she used to like him). He also gave her an itunes gift card just this evening. They've known each other for about three years, but she never really got to know him until the last few days of summer break. He's a freshman and she's a sophomore (in high school).", "summary": "This is for my friend. She likes a guy. She stops liking the guy when she finds out he has a major crush on her. Advice on what she should say to let him know she's not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_258vuw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [27M] kinda kicked me out..", "post": "I've [25f] been dating my boyfriend [27m] for four months now. Overall, things are going extremely well. We see each other 3-4 times a week, which always ends in us staying at one of our houses overnight. If we don't have to work, we always wake up and get breakfast together before parting ways.\n\nHowever, yesterday was different. We both had a day off yesterday, so I stayed over. We woke up, laid in bed for half an hour, and then he basically, in a run-around way, asked me to leave. He's going to a conference for the week, and he left late last night, so he needed the day to prepare some things for his trip. Of course, I got up and went home, without making a big deal of it.. but it made me feel really weird, or almost like, cheap. I don't want to be overbearing, but I also kind of expected to spend a little more time together before leaving, especially since he'll be across the country all week. \n\nI'm not really sure if I'm reading too much into this/overreacting, or if I should tell him how it made me feel, or just drop it altogether. What do you think, Reddit?", "summary": "stayed the night at my boyfriend's; he asked me to leave early this morning. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_t2lme", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Repost from Wlswhere: Reddit I have a legal question and I really need help on this one. Brother in trouble.", "post": "Hey gang, So my beloved older brother has had a little trouble getting his life off the ground. He graduated college a couple years ago, and he's employed but he hates his job and desperately wants to move out of my parents house. Anyway, last weekend he was driving through NH with his buddy, smoking weed in his car, and he got stopped for speeding. The cop searched the car and found a couple grams of weed. So he's got a court date in June. So he wants to know what his prospects are. He really does not want this to appear on his permanent record, and obviously if he could afford an fancy lawyer, this would not even be an issue. So the question is, does he absolutely need a lawyer? Or is there might he be able to go to court and get a slap on the wrist without any permanent damage to his record? He's really strapped for cash. He's also never had any series infractions before. A few speeding tickets, but that's it. What should he do?\nThank you in advance. He called me for advice, and I had no idea what to tell him, but I said that I'd ask you people. He's unfamiliar with the wonders of Reddit.", "summary": "NH cops found weed in brothers car. He was speeding. He doesn't want a record. Does he need a lawyer?"}
{"id": "t3_2qcgir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my [18 F] two months, we dated for two months until she said I was a rebound, I later ended up in the hospital twice and she told me she cared for me and stuff but can't do is right now, fast forward a couple months later with only small talk, but I can't get her out of my head, help?", "post": "I liked this girl for a while, she finally came to me and said she actually likes me too. We started slow and just kept things on the down low, nobody really knew. After about two of the best months of my life she came by and told me I was a rebound and she needs to end this now before hurting me later.\n\nAfter a month of just no communication what's so ever I ended up in the Er twice. \n\nThe first time she explained she still liked me but couldn't do us right now so to speak, two weeks after that hospital visit she stopped texting me, and I only saw her at church. \n\nAnother month later I went in with full liver failure, I decided to tell her and at first it seemed like she didn't care, but after a couple weeks she was all lovey dovey asking if I need anything, stuff like that. \n\nA month after that she stopped talking again, but just a couple weeks ago we were having a church event and she sat next to me the whole time, we shared stories, and talked about finals. It seemed like nothing has changed and I don't know what I should do, I am actually thinking I love this girl, I can't stop thinking about her at all, am I crazy or weird?", "summary": "basically I dated a girl I crushed, I was a rebound, ended up in the hospital twice both times she cared about me but not much communication between visits, a couple weeks ago we talked for a good two hours like nothing changed, what should I do, i think I love her but I only dated her for two months, am I a creep, or weird. What should I do to get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_2holhm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M20] dating a bi-sexual girl [F20]. If she thinks it's okay to have girls spend the night with her, would it be the same if I had a girl spend the night?", "post": "My girlfriend gets very sad when she hears that I have a hard time trusting her when she's drinking or has her friends over. She still lives with her dad, and he doesn't care when she has girls over because he doesn't know her sexuality, so she can have a gaggle of women over at any time. She has also said she's kissed some girls that she's had over in the past. I still see kissing as cheating.\n\nMy only friends currently are girls, because I'm sort of feminine myself I guess. My girlfriend gets jealous when she sees somebody talk to me or give me their phone number. So if I wanted to have somebody come over to my place, she would likely get suspicious. I'd probably be dumped if I had another girl spend the night, even without sexual intent. Am I wrong in having women stay the night when she also has women stay the night? It feels like the same thing to me, but I'm new to this non-hetero stuff, so I am unsure.", "summary": "As title states, am I in the right if, as a straight male, I have a girl stay the night when my bi-sexual girlfriend has girls stay the night as well?"}
{"id": "t3_1ak8ka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(m15) think I like a girl (f15), but it's my ex's twin", "post": "I(m15) had my first girlfriend about a month and half ago, but she(f15) broke up with me after about a week. We were friends for about a year and a half, so I understand why it could have been weird. Fast forward to today. Her twin sister(f15) has been working at the same place as I do for about two months. And lately, I have really just been happy around her. We really don't have that much in common though, and she even got held back a grade. I do like her however. If I were to ask her out, I think she might say yes because we hang out all the time at work. But obviously the dilemma is I had a thing for her twin, even if it did only last a week. Also, she's a year behind me, and I'm not too sure if that matters. I'm new to relationships, and I'm not sure if asking her out would make me an idiot, a jerk, or happy.", "summary": "I want to date my friend/ex's twin sister, but I'm not sure if it's ok."}
{"id": "t3_3bj0cy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I (21m) took a job with my best friend (26m) where we were unknowingly exposed to asbestos.", "post": "Gonna try and keep this brief. Also two clarifications. This takes place in New York and I'm 23 not 21. Just pissed off and not thinking straight. \n\nI am trying to decide if I should quit this job and ditch my best friend. I'm the only reason he is okay with this job since it's not what he wants to do, and if I quit, he will either quit and cause problems with his family, or stay and be alone. \n\nI took a job with my best friend, let's call him Mordecai. We've been best friends for years, roomed together in college and stuff. His dad does construction and offered me a job. I took it even though I shouldn't have for medical reasons. \n\nLast week leading into today, he and I were tearing down a ceiling in an abandoned building. We also were tearing up the floors so we could move scaffolding easier. One of the bosses (who had been there multiple times while we worked and had seen us sweeping before) came in and told me not to sweep because \"there's asbestos in the floor.\" \n\nWe had been working here for over a week and this was the first time we were made aware of it. Neither of us were wearing respirators. We both have asthma and lung cancer runs in my family. My friends dad shows up because we called him, both of us pissed off and wanting to quit. He basically tells us there's \"barely any asbestos\" and that we should have been wearing dust masks anyway. \n\nI don't disagree with the idea that we should have been wearing a mask but it's really tempting to quit. I can't talk to my family about it because they'll want me to quit and sue. I don't know if I'm over reacting and I know this has been written terribly because of how angry I am. I just need advice on how to proceed. \n\nI don't want to abandon my friend (I'm the only person he works with that he likes) and make his family hate me. (he wouldn't hate me. He's pissed too. If I quit he probably will as well.", "summary": "found out I've been working with asbestos. Need to decide if I should quit or not."}
{"id": "t3_3f3c7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] have a crush on my best friend [24 F]!", "post": "First of all let me describe the best friend part. I never saw her face to face, but we've been texting, facebooking and talking over phone for 6 years. I know it's ridiculous to many of us calling a literally virtual friend your best friend, but we are different. We talk to each other almost everyday about anything and everything. I never really felt anything for her but when it changed I heard she is seeing guys of her parents choice to marry and she can't get to choose any. For your information, we are south Asian and many of us do the arranged marriage. Then it hit me, what if it happens to me too? What if I don't find anyone as sweet as she is. She and I both know everything about each other and very recently we're texting as if we are a couple, but it's just fooling around obviously. Also she's such a good friend I don't want to lose her and if she marries another guy what if he get jealous of me? I can't think of a day not talking to her. I have had 4 relationships before and never had I ever felt like this! She lives in another state and we never felt the urge to meet right away (cuz we both thought this is mysterious) also I've been busy with school. What I want to know now is should I tell her how I feel about her? Is this gonna ruin our friendship in the process (cuz I would ever want that)? Also I don't to have any \"what if\" moment in the future too. It wouldn't be fair to anyone I meet or marry in the future. If I do tell her how I feel should I tell her face to face (also will be our 1st meeting), over the phone or text? Please let me know", "summary": "I have a crush with a longtime friend. Although we never meet face to face because she doesn't live i the same state. We talk everyday trough texting or by phone and other social medias. Should I tell her what I feel or just ignore for the sake of keeping the friendship alive? If I do tell her how I feel should I tell her face to face (also will be our 1st meeting), over the phone or text?"}
{"id": "t3_34ssos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22M] of almost 2 years, is getting really bummed out and upset that I [21F] like to sleep.", "post": "I have been in my relationship for almost 2 years now.\nWe don't fight or argue and very rarely will we disagree on something.\nLately, he's been getting rather bummed out that I will sleep for an unhealthy amount and will miss out on most of the day or will skip out on activities with my boyfriend because I can't stay awake.\n\nI have a severe depression that I have to control with anti-depressants. I'm always tired or run-down when I forget to take my medication, which leads to me over sleeping. Also, I'm not the most social person on the planet.\nI don't have many friends I can hang out with on a regular basis, which leads me to stay at home a lot of the time.\n\nI've always had a thing with sleep and I've always been bad with timing things out when I'm awake.\nIt used to make my ex furious that I'd sleep in so long and miss out on hanging out with him, I don't want the same to happen with my current boyfriend, although I don't think he'd go to the extreme of getting furious.\n\nHow do I go about fixing things?\nHow do I start getting a better sleep schedule?\nI have alarms on my phone, set at the highest volume but I usually end up turning them off in my sleep? I don't know.\n\nPlease give me some tips and tricks to staying awake and getting my life back on track!", "summary": "I sleep too much and end up missing most of the day when I could be spending more time with my bf of almost 2 years. How do I go about fixing this problem of mine?"}
{"id": "t3_2hayo4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18 F and 18 M so of 3yrs. I get upset when he's playing video games w/ his friends and I'm in the room. I feel unjustly selfish and don't know what to do about it.", "post": "This issue has been going on for a while now in many different circumstances. But I'll focus on what happened yesterday.\n\nMy SO and I were having a good time together at this small event we were helping with at our university, and at the end of the night him and I as well as his roommate and another friend stayed a while to talk outside after the event was over.\n\nWe decided go back to his and his roomates dorm where I decided i'd do my homework in his room, while the roommate and the friend worked on their own assignment. My boyfriend was just doing his own thing playing video games which is eh fine by me. Eventually a group of his friends show up and they all want to play smash and so they start playing and don't stop until I have to leave at 12 which is when my SO drops me off at my dorm.\n\nThe thing is that while they were playing I was on his bed doing my homework, I felt marginalized by him because he didn't give me the attention that I thought he would give me. So I became upset and just kind shut in the whole time I was there .\n\nIn all honesty I'm aware of how petty and childish and even clingy (the thing I'm most scared of being) it is to feel that way when I was supposed to be doing homework and he was just having fun with his friends. What I want is to not feel upset when he's having fun with other people and I am also there. How do I do that? Or what's a better way to approach this?\n\nPerhaps what I'm asking advice for this is less relationships advice and more advice about the self: how to get out my victimized perception of things to be able to take part in group settings and conversation with my bf (because I tend to shut in and stop speaking when upset like that)\n\nAlso should I tell him about this? Once when I brought something very similar up he said he really didn't think it was something to make a big deal out of and that sort of stops me from telling him.", "summary": "Got upset while bf was playing video games with friends and I was in the room. What do I do to stop from getting or being upset?"}
{"id": "t3_xq8lu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "iPad Stolen. Any help?", "post": "My iPad was stolen while I was at work yesterday. I work in a mall so anyone could have it. I filed a police report and they won't do anything. Called Apple and they can't tell me if my devices serial number has been registered to a new account. It still hasn't shown up on iCloud locator either. First world problems I know, but I got that for my one year anniversary from my gal and it cheeses me off that while I work hard for everything I have some shit head robbed me and no one so far is helping bring him to justice. Any suggestions or help would be enter ally appreciated.", "summary": "Stolen iPad, Apple and Police are useless, hoping a computer genius can help me track it down and get it back."}
{"id": "t3_2w9fbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] have this huge crush on my coworker [28M]. Is it ever going to lead to anything?", "post": "So this is a highly undramatic post. Anyways, I'm a 20 year old girl and I have a part time job at a gas station. I love it there, and my coworkers are amazing. Especially a guy I'm calling Jack. \n\nHe is without a doubt, one of the funniest, most interesting people I talk to when we're on shift together. We share a lot of common interests, such as table top gaming, computers, and anime. He chats with me about school (I'm in my second year of university). He's just here working because he can't find a job yet with his degree. If the shift is dead, we just talk about our childhoods and other things in our daily lives.\n\nI've worked with him for the last six months, and I'm literally crushing on him so badly, I can't think. We text outside of work, grabbed coffee together, and are tentatively making plans to meet up at a convention later in the year. He just moved to the area where my university is, and asked me to give him a tour. He once jokingly asked if I thought he was sexy in his new work pants. I'm shamelessly into this guy... And he's pretty damn cute I think.\n\nI wouldn't mind dating him, actually, I'd love it. And I know our company's policy on dating is alright so long as there's no \"power imbalances\" (such as a salesperson dating a manager). But I guess the age difference kind of worries me. Am I being stupid for crushing on an older guy who might very well see me as a little sister? If he would return my feelings, does that speak volumes of things wrong with him because I'm 8 years younger? We worked valentine's day together at our store and we chatted about past relationships and he said that he's kind of stopped trying to get into a relationship all the time. He also stepped up and told a guy to leave me alone when I was being harassed by a customer. I don't know, but I really adore him. \n\nShould I even try to be more direct with my romantic inclinations or will it literally be a waste of time?", "summary": "I have a crush on a coworker who is 8 years older. Am I wasting my time trying to get his attention?"}
{"id": "t3_3xe5eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've been [22F] with my girlfriend [24F] for a year, she's an extrovert, I'm an introvert, how to proceed?", "post": "Thus far, things have been very good, but throughout our relationship she was cutting a lot of old friends that didn't treat her the best, so now she doesn't have anyone to hang out with.\n\nOver time that's wore on her, I can't tell she's much more unhappy, and while she's looking for new friends right now, I started to wonder, for anyone with some experience here- is it better to force myself to go out more? Or is it better to let her go out mostly by herself to get that part of life that she needs? (My only fear there is that it could distance us too much, but I would enjoy that solitude once in a while)\n\nWhat's a girl to do?", "summary": "She's an introvert with no friends, do I force myself out with her more or let her find what she needs on her own?"}
{"id": "t3_4hk7un", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[CA] leasing or purchasing a car for lyft and or uber", "post": "I[M, 21] am a full time college student. Currently only have a motorcycle. Was looking at uber lease program but researching there are many restrictions. \n\nI have not checked my credit in about give or take 6 months, last time it was in the 670 range. I have paid off a bank loan and maintained my credit. Is it realistic to lease a car for rainy days and pay off bills. \n\nNot paying rent, just various bills that don't pass 300 a month total. So I am thinking of leasing a car, probably not from uber or lyft, and drive enough to just pay my bills.\n\nIt is also my understanding to apply as a driver for uber and or lyft ahead of time so I don't get stuck with car payments and I don't pass background checks for whatever reason.", "summary": "full time student, realistic to lease car for uber and or lyft to make enough to cover payments and approximately $300 in monthly bills?"}
{"id": "t3_1djt8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) am in a pretty serious relationship, but sometimes I fantasize about not having it. (25F)", "post": "I'm not even sure of this really falls under the blanket of the relationship, but I feel like it would, so, here we go. \n\nI've been with my girlfriend for about 8 and a half years. Things are great, we feel the same way about almost everything, we like the same stuff and have very similar life aspirations. The only thing that makes me want to hit the brakes is that this relationship has been my life just about forever. \n\nI love her and would honestly be the happiest guy on earth if we were to get married, which has come up btw, but lately I've been fantasizing about doing something irresponsible. Nothing really bad like cheating or anything, but like going to a club and getting shit faced and then grinding up with some women or something. Basically, I want to do things I don't typically like doing. \n\nI'm not the kind of guy who would want to go drinking, I would prefer a more intimate gathering if I were to get together with others, but the few times I have gotten plastered were amazing. I gave girls piggy back rides home, I was in all sorts of various spooning configurations, at on point someone was wearing a towel and nothing else. \n\nAs I type this, that sounds kind of lame, but that's the sort of thing I've been fantasizing about. Just a wild party in which there are women. \n\nI'm not sure what my question is, if anything I'm just venting. I guess I could ask what my next step should be? Talk to her about it or just deal with it? Either way, it felt nice to get that off of my chest.", "summary": "I have a great relationship, but I have this desire to want to go be someone else sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_4mynfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(M28) just entered a LTR with GF(26). I am lacking trust in relationships. Is this fixable?", "post": "What's up redditors, \n\nI recently met a wonderful woman, by far the best person I ever met. I love how accepting she is, how I can make her smile and how we are when we are together. \n\nIt is not that I do not trust her. She goes out regularly and still talks to her ex. These things do not instill jealousy in me. Especially because she is extremely dependable and even asked me if I disapproved of those things. She would quit that stuff if I ever found that necessary. My problem is however that I do not have any faith in our relationship (and other relationships for that matter). \n\nWe have had minor fights and I seem to be with one foot out the door even before we had a chance to talk about it. She feels insecure about not being able to fulfill my needs and I frighten myself because I really think we are happy together and I'm afraid I'm going to mess this up because of my personal issues. It's not that I WANT to leave deep down. \n\nI have always had this and never committed before to any woman. Moreover I have seen some really ugly shit in the times I had casual relations with women. Women lying about or even to their boyfriends/husbands while being with me. Women ready to dump their man because of some feelings I ignited in them. \n\nSo at the vary least I do not have any faith in relationships, at the very most I do not have faith in women or people in general.", "summary": "I am afraid to mess up my relationship against my deeper desire to make it work because of my lack of faith in relationships. "}
{"id": "t3_1evp7b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a 10 year high school reunion to go to in a month. I can easily make it. Do I go?", "post": "I'm on the fence on this one. I feel like most of the people I wanted to keep in contact with since high school, I do so via Facebook. Besides, my story isn't going to \"dazzle\" anyone. I moved out of my folks place when I was 27. I've worked at the Starbucks in my hometown for 6 years. I'm a Sergeant in the National Guard, never deployed. I'm single, no children. I'm working my way through school to get an Associate's in Network Admin. Bam. That's it. That's essentially the story of my last 10 years. A Facebook page was created for the event. I see many of my former classmates confirming their attendance, all so excited about it. \"I\"m going, PLUS ONE!\" Congrats on your marriage, I really don't care. I'll definitely go to a 20 year reunion, that to me is more telling of where people have \"ended up\". But do I go to the 10 year? Did you? Would you?", "summary": "10 year high school reunion in a little over a month. Yeah, I can easily make it. I'm on the fence about whether I will or not."}
{"id": "t3_llg1b", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Want to get into the management consulting industry, need some pointers.", "post": "I've been trying to break into the management consulting industry for a couple of months now, but it's become apparent to me that my current profile does not fit their requirements, and i'm looking for ways to change that. \n\nTo start off, i hold a bachelor's degree in Marketing, this is their first red flag since they usually look for engineers and such. As for work experience, mine mainly revolves around sales and that doesn't really impress the recruiters all that much. I've been advised by a recruiter who works for Booz and Company to get an MBA, but having only a year of work experience puts MBA out of the question for another two. So i was thinking I'd do the next best thing, an MSc in Management Consulting in Grenoble, France. (It's ranked 7th in France, all the courses are carried out in English and it's much more affordable than the states. It's also worth noting that I live outside the US) What do you guys think about this? Any feedback is appreciated.", "summary": "Want to become a management consultant, need pointers on how to make it happen."}
{"id": "t3_4dcpm0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "First time credit card holder who hasn't used it well plus miscellaneous debts, give it to me straight PF", "post": "Hi all, \n\n20 years old, college student, had to figure out a lot of financial stuff on my own but have horrible spending habits. \nI just wanted to list out my personal finance issues just so I could hear a fresh take from you guys and hopefully get my finances in line and figure out what to do. \n\n-I have a secured credit card with a small limit but I haven't gone below half the balance of the card in the year I've had it \n\n- I owe my previous university a good amount of money since I didn't take out loans and wasn't approved for fin aid \n\n- I have a few unpaid speeding tickets \n\n- I've overdrafted my bank account a fair amount of times this previous year\n\nI'm trying to get my stuff straight and move out of my parents house and find my own place with a few friends, I'm working at the moment but with the hole I've buried myself into my paychecks end up going to paying all my bills and not enough to cover my debts. What's a good course of action to take", "summary": "I'm financially dumb and I'd like to hear advice from in the Internet"}
{"id": "t3_24txr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It looks like girlfriend (F/22) and I (M/23) are in different points in our life.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for the past three years. We met during college through mutual friends/activities. A little less than two years ago, I dropped out of college due to money/burnout. I switched to working to save up money and we lived together. During January 2013, we had a fight where she wanted to split up. After talking it over, we both realized that she was afraid of the future and where we were both headed. It was looking like she was heading to her home city, and I was going wherever work was going to take me.  \nWe decided to stick it out, and in May of last year, I moved about 6 hours from where we were going to school. I eventually got a great job, and she finished up school.  \nOriginally, she was going to look for work in the city that I live, but lately when I ask about it, she avoids the question. I have asked if she is going to look for work in her home city, but she said she wasn't sure if she is going to even live in the United States. I asked her where she was looking at for other countries and she said she didn't know and would worry about it when she finished with everything related to her degree.  \nShe finishes this Friday, and we talked last night again. She said she was looking at doing substitute teaching for a while, and she was looking at leaving the US if she could. She also said she doesn't want to settle down with a job/city.  \nI respect her decisions, but I feel like this is pretty much over. I am also known for looking into things too much, and worrying about nothing. I don't plan on leaving my job, since it looks like a position where I have a lot of growth, and my pay is great. I plan on talking to her in about 3 hours when I get off work. Am I thinking too hard about everything?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to see the world and I've already settled down."}
{"id": "t3_1yz4jh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have been with my girlfriend [24F] for just over two years now, and I'm not sure I want to be with her anymore", "post": "I find myself constantly fantasizing about being with other women. I have only had two previous relationships, both short, and both when I was in high school, both of which I ended because I'm a bit of a comittmentophobe. The real problem is that I feel like I haven't got the fucking out of my system.\n\nThe thing is, we always talk about marriage and how much we love each other, and I do mean it, but I'm not sure if I could actually spend the rest of my life with her. I feel like I was too young when we got together, but I'm worried that we really are meant to be and that I'll never find another girl who makes me as happy.", "summary": "Unsure about continuing, WHAT DO REDDIT?"}
{"id": "t3_4ierpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [25/F] with my [28M] boyfriend. A little over a year. I Need To Stop Arguing.", "post": "Before I ask for advice I'm not looking to break up with him so just keep that in mind.\n\nMy boyfriend is a truly amazing guy that I really do love. He's locked up for something that happened before we got together. Been in nine months. Has at least three more. \n\nWe use to argue like crazy. That faded a lot after he went to jail though. We went from arguing weekly or so to fighting once a month/every other month. It's been a lot better. When I say arguing though I mean little ones. We've only had two blowouts the whole time we've been together. \n\nLately though I feel like all we do is argue. It's gotten so bad that I'm afraid he's considering leaving me over it. It's little arguments not big blowups but I feel like they're taking their tolls.\n\nAn example is yesterday I was upset over something family related. I started venting about how I need to find us a place to live soon so I can escape my family and he can have somewhere to come home to. I just moved back home last month. Anyway he kept saying things I guess he thought were supportive but they just weren't what I wanted to hear. I snapped that I knew it wasn't that important to him but it is to me. He got really mad. Said I hurt his feelings. I apologized but he didn't really hear it yet. It's just been stupid stuff like that. \n\nMaybe I need to work on my tone. Maybe I need to stop telling him every worry I have even though he tells me to. I try my hardest to be there for him. I know it's hard for him. I just feel like my thoughts and opinions and feelings should matter some too. Maybe that's wrong right now. I don't know. I just want to know how to stop arguing with someone over little things.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have been fighting over the littlest things for the past week. How can we stop?"}
{"id": "t3_4xn5sh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [27 F] of 5 years, just confessed to me [27 M] that she kissed a coworker", "post": "I was having lunch with my gf today when all of a sudden she said that she had something to tell me. She started bawling her eyes out in the middle of the restaurant and confessed that a year ago she drunkenly kissed a coworker of hers and that she has been bottling it up this whole time because she did not want to lose me.\n\nAccording to her, she was out with a bunch of her coworkers drinking and one of them just kissed her on the lips. She was surprised and left immediately.\n\nIt doesn't end here. A couple weeks later, they are all out for a drunken time again and it happens again. This time she didn't pull away as fast. She said they kissed for a few minutes. The next day she had a talk with her coworker and said that they cannot do this kind of thing and that they should only be friends.\n\nShe spent the whole day crying her eyes out and literally begging for forgiveness on her knees in public. \n\nI took her phone, called her coworker and told him that his friendship with her is over as of today and if he has a problem he can come take it up with me. GF blocked his phone number and deleted all of his contact info after, promising that she will cut all ties with him. \n\nGuys, I truly love this girl and was ready to marry her. I'm just so crushed now. My trust in her is definitely at an all time low and she will have to do everything in her power to regain it. I know that she is genuinely sorry but I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "GF kissed coworker. Apologized and begged me on her knees to not leave her. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_fuxgx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "gf 27 is being weird about me (m31) sleeping over at her sisters - who is out of town", "post": "After months of waiting we finally were intimate while on a short vacation she was a virgin till then. It was really nice to connect with her like that and I felt it brought us much closer.\n\nShe lives a few hours drive away so I only get to see her about 1 night a week.  Its my birthday this weekend. We had a few options on what to do this weekend including her coming up to see me or me going to see her. She said immediately that sex is out of the question if we went to her sisters where she is living - her sis is on vacation. \n\nI had been on the fence on what we should do and after she said that I stupidly said then she should come up to mine. Now it looks like i'm just a sex crazed beast ! \n\nWe end the conversation both being a bit irritable and when I wake up this morning I've a text from one of my buddies saying that the guys are taking me out for dinner and drinks on Friday. Result I think I can now give her a firm decision about whats going on this weekend. I decide to go to hers on the sat where we will invariably not be intimate (which while im sure will frustrate the life out of me being in the same bed as her im still glad to spend time with her).  She responds with an unenthusiastic reply \"ok that good\".\n\nWhat gives, whats she thinking ? Have I messed up ? or am I over thinking?", "summary": "GF invites me to her vacant sisters house but then states no sex"}
{"id": "t3_3eloxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[17F] bf[7M] is getting braces and I'm wondering if it will take away from his appearance.", "post": "My boyfriend is not 7, excuse my typo ha. \n\nSo my boyfriend of roughly 6 months is getting braces in a couple of days, like I said, and I'm scared I'll find him less attractive. He doesn't have very crooked teeth as is and I really like his smile. He's already kind of dorky looking, in a way that I find extremely attractive ofc, so I think they'll enhance his dorkiness. I'm not gonna break up with him or anything if I think he looks weird. Just wondering if anyone else has felt that way? I know I'll probably just have to get used to him having them, he's probably going to have them for over a year. In addition, i know this can be an uncomfortable experience, what can I do to help him deal with the pain for the first few days? Is there anything I can buy him and stuff to make him feel better?", "summary": "bf getting braces, scared I'll think he looks weird, also what can I do to ease the pain for him?"}
{"id": "t3_14y7ou", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update: GF cheated on me, what should I do?", "post": "[original story](\n\nI haven't talked to my ex at all but I am going through some depression. It is making me remember the good times and forget about the bad. I feel that I made the wrong decision because I still love her so much. I banged a girl and felt absolutely nothing, It actually made me feel worse. The girl wont stop leaving me alone though. I have hit the gym and have tried picking up hobbies but I still feel empty. \n\nEveryday I wake up missing her and battle to convince myself that I shouldnt call her and beg for her back.", "summary": "gf cheated on me of 3 years, she spent 2 weeks hooking up (sex one time) with a dude she liked. She told me everything (in a shitty way) and begged for me back and I said no and now I am trying to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_2tzy7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(28f) think my bf (27m) likes much older woman. Someone please help me make sense of it all :(", "post": "Ok so my bf and I have been dating on and off for six years. At the beginning he told me he liked me and thought I was beautiful but I wasn't exactly his \"type.\" This was very hard for me to take in because at this point i can pretty much have any guy i want but only have eyes for him and this is what he said :(\n\nSo ive seen some of the girls he was interested in and they were all the same. European italian/portuguese looking. I am mixed asian and european. I think Im more exotic looking than what he normally likes. For the longest time i thought it was cause im part asian.\n\nNow i found some of his porn history and pictures he keeps taken screen shots of this one older lady. Shes almost a good 20 years older than us if not more. She has big boobs but i just find he very unattractive and her age kind of bothers me, not really sure why. \n\nDont really want to feel this way, but it hurts me he wants an older lady. When confronted his response was \"youre are better looking and you would last longer.\" WTF worst response ever! Someone help feelimg shitty!!", "summary": "bf is into older women cant wrap my head around it."}
{"id": "t3_2wlvbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] never dated anyone all I want is a loving relationship not some fling HELP.", "post": "So here is my situation I'm almost 21 never had a girlfriend \nand everytime I try to talk to a girl and get to know them as soon as a think I'm getting close and talk about relationships \nthey assume I'm gay(every fucking time ) leaving me destroyed inside and back pedaling in conversations. \n\nI now think maybe I come across as too nice when I all want is companionship. I feel so isolated I can't talk to anyone about it. \n\nI am just attacking the long term relationship whilst I'm too young and now coming to the end on my degree I moving in to a teaching role at university which means I definatly can't get involved with those near my age without risking my job.\n\nHELP I'm not sure how much more I can take all I want is a Hug from time to time", "summary": "21 never had a GF everyone assumes I'm gay and now getting a job where I if a try to date people my own age I lose my job."}
{"id": "t3_1nxgyx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What has happened that ruined your relationship with a best-friend or someone close?", "post": "I was best-friends with this one chick for a couple of months and then she started talking to a guy I didnt like (making me extremely pissed and us fighting). well a month or two pass and she stops talking to him and starts making fun of him and shit like that right? Well 2 weeks before school starts she starts talking to him again. I got so mad because, i've tried to be so nice and make her feel better about herself, and she does this? I finally came to the conclusion that I should just stop talking to her. (she never sends the first text btw)", "summary": "Best-friend started talking to a guy I dont like and I stopped dealing with her bullshit"}
{"id": "t3_2pbl90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20/F] concerned that my boyfriend [23 M] of 2 months might be scared of investing too much into our relationship.", "post": "A little background. I have known my boyfriend for a year next month, but we've been dating for the last 2 months. Before we started going out, he had been in a bad relationship. Basically, he was a FWB with a girl he worked with who already had a boyfriend. He got really attached to her and when she ended it he got hurt a lot. That was right before the summer started. He's told me that, and he's told me about his mother too.\n\nFrom what he's told me, it sounds like every time her romantic relationships turn sour she starts dating another man before even breaking up with the first. The most recent happened in the last couple months apparently, when his mom and stepfather separated and she started dating a new guy. Granted, I can't really say anything to him on the matter because I haven't really been involved until recently. He seems to be dealing with the changes pretty well, or maturely, but sometimes I think he may be projecting the fear of failing relationships onto our relationships. It sometimes seems like he's holding himself back because of that fear.\n\nFortunately (unfortunately?), I have been exposed to mostly healthy, or at least lasting relationships. I can't really relate to his fears, because I never had to deal with the divorce of my parents, or the adjustments that come along with a step parent. It sometimes seems like he's jealous that I have a \"perfect\" family, even though I try to assure him that my family has its own problems. Is there some way that I can assure him that I care about him, and that I want our relationship to last? I don't want him to hold back, I'd rather see him living in the moment without having that underlying fear.", "summary": "How do I assure my boyfriend that I am not like his mother, and that our relationship is not like his mother's romantic relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_2vq4ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] have a significantly higher income than my girlfriend [28F] of four months. Any tips to ensure it doesn't ruin the relationship?", "post": "I started dating someone new last October and things have been going great so far. We have been sharing the expenses equally for the things we do together (with a few minor exceptions). \n\nRecently, she mentioned in passing what her salary is, and I realized that my salary is close to four times hers (mine is in the $120k range, hers in the $30k range). She has a stable job and career, it just happens to be in a field that does not pay well (unjustly so in my opinion, but that's another story). I've started to worry about how and when to bring this up. Of course if things continue and we get married, it has to be a topic of conversation at some point, so I can't just avoid this topic forever.\n\nI want to make it clear to her that I don't value her contributions to the relationship less because of the income difference. At the same time, I feel bad sometimes about splitting expenses with her since things that I can easily afford might be more of a challenge for her. The last thing I want is for her to feel like she always has to \"prove\" her value or anything like that.\n\nAny thoughts?", "summary": "My salary is four times girlfriend's, don't want this to cause a problem in our good relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2fez7e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M 24] am bad at relationships ... this girl ive been dating is amazing, but im worried about the prospects [F 25]", "post": "I am a 24 year old grad student who lives 4 hours away from my hometown. 3 weeks ago, I went home and visited some friends and family, and was introduced to a great girl by my buddy, and we really seemed to hit it off. We talked for several hours, from about midnight til 5 am then fell asleep in separate couches right beside each other. We woke up at 630 to keep talking, since i had to leave to drive back for class early that morning. So i got her number, and we went from there, texted alot the first week and two 1hour long phone calls. So labor day weekend rolls around and im able to go home for the break, so i take her out on saturday. We had a great day starting off at the zoo and then going to eat dinner and walk around afterwards. As i thought the date went well and didnt know the next time id be back home, I asked if she wanted to hang out the next day, and she did... we went to see a conservatory of flowers, walked around some more, grabbed dinner, and then went to a ribfest at our local pro football stadium where there were free concerts available. We made out during and after the concert, but we shortly ended our date after that due to time. Anyways, we have continued to txt and call each other and I do want this to evolve into a relationship over time, but is it ok to just meet up once or twice during weekend visits that i make which may only happen 1-2 x per month? There's something about this girl which is different and makes it seems like its worth while, but im trying to make the most of the opportunities i have. We did discuss the future of our dating plans together and said we'd work on meeting as much as possible and take it as it is. Our feelings for one another seem pretty mutual.", "summary": "I 24 YM found a 25 YF that i like a lot that has decided to continue to date me for some while when i come home from school breaks. What can i do to maximize the potential?"}
{"id": "t3_1kx9i2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I ask my girlfriend to be my girlfriend?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year but the thing is I never really asked her to be my girlfriend, we just sort of started dating and that was that. I really love her and I want to fix my past wrongs and effectively ask her to be my girlfriend. \n\nThe thing is I have absolutely no idea how to do this (I want to be romantic but I'm a bit hopeless when it comes to that...), I mean it's not exactly something where I drop on to one knee for... Does anybody have any suggestions?", "summary": "How do I ask my girlfriend to be my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1e1tne", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "x-post from r/college (hoping for more and faster feedback)", "post": "So this kind of starts back in high school. Junior year I left Algebra 2 with a 98% and near 100% on the final. I was brilliant in math. The next year I wanted to do AP Statistics or Pre-Calc so I took an ASSET test. The test didn't place me into Statistics and I heard nothing about Pre-Calc. Talked to teachers and got into stats. Left the class with a high B. I have now \"completed\" two semester of college at a community college. By this I mean I've been enrolled in 8 classes, withdrew from 3. I worked 50+ hours every week last semester and this most recent I worked full time but had more rigorous classes.\nThe first semester I found out that my ASSET test from Junior high school year placed me into pre-calc so I decided to take college algebra to \"refresh\". Well, that was s mistake. Bad professor and early in the morning, withdrew. Next semester I took Pre-calc and English 102 as well as Psychology 132 and bio 181. I got behind in english and couldn't get the grade needed so another W, the tests in pre-calc NEVER matched the difficulty of the homework, eventually yet another W.\n\nThis coming semester I need to take either college algebra AND trig or pre-calc again. Asked my old pre-calc professor, she says to do the two split.\n\nMy dilemma: My parents cannot afford to pay for my college, and quite frankly neither can I. We can also not afford to do loans due to their car being leased and my car on a loan. I filled out the FAFSA and did not qualify for a pell grant. Both math choices lead to conflicts with English 102 and my computer class. Not sure what to do. I don't want to try to rush math through the summer since I \"struggled\" during a semester. ---- I want to do some kind of Software Developing or Software Engineering.", "summary": "High school didn't inform of ASSET test pre-calc placement, wasted senior year in non-algebra class. Conflicting schedule with math now, not sure I want to stay in my engineering field. don't quality for pell grant. What do you suggest, Reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_12pz7k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/F] I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend [19/M] for 4 years. Problem is, it's a secret from my family because we met online 10 years ago.", "post": "So 10 years ago, I'm this little tyke, going onto a children's website. (Neopets for those who are wondering). There I meet my best friend, and 6 years later, boyfriend. \n\nThe problem is, is that as a kid my parents always told me to not talk to strangers on the internet, so I kept my friendship a secret. When we made the official switch to boyfriend and girlfriend, I still never told anybody because A) our relationship is fairly long distance and B) I have been afraid to admit to my parents and family that I lied to them.\n\nIt's getting to be harder to keep the secret, the more I meet him and I keep dropping hints that I have a friend who lives in the next state over, but it's not good enough for me. How do I get out of this mess and get this secret off my chest without making my family angry/betrayed? It's not healthy for me or for him.\n\nAlso: It's worth noting my parents don't believe in long distance relationships/internet meetings... so this further complicates things.", "summary": "have kept my best friend and eventually boyfriend a secret to long and am now afraid to tell my family because I'm scared they'll hate me/won't support me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_194ni6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] first date help with (17/f)", "post": "So i've known this girl for 6 years and we've always been friends. I asked her out yesterday but her response was, 'we'll have one date but i don't want to lead you on.'\n\nNormally, that probably means i'm in the friendzone or maybe she just doesn't like me and feel pity (i hope not) so she's just agreeing this once. Well, I'm done being down about it. I'm seeing this as a challenge, I have one date to prove to her that I'm worth her while.\n\nSo the help i need is, well I got a good list of venues and stuff she likes to do which i also enjoy. I'm just wondering on how grand should i make this date considering it's like my only chance.\n\n*Should I make the date long with multiple venues?*\n\n*Should we do some stuff that'll keep us occupied, but not to the extent of movies? (idk what yet)*\n\n*Should I make it like a simple walk-in-park then grab some coffee?*\n\n*Include dinner or no dinner?*\n\n*Should I spend a lot of money or not? (I won't be able to sustain spending tons of money every date \nbut yeah this is one-time thing)", "summary": "I like a girl i've been friends with for 6 years, she's not interested and I have 1 date to make her my gf. Reddit, please answer any or all questions I've put or any other general pointers."}
{"id": "t3_1jzl7e", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Brand New Runner: Need Shoe Recommendations", "post": "Hi there! I am completely brand new to running. I'll even admit that I have the Couch to 5K app and that's my game plan to get into running. I started the program a couple of weeks ago, and just wore my Puma sneakers that I got mostly because I had to have some sort of non-flip flop, non-high heel shoe and they looked the least like actual athletic shoes. Clearly, this was a poor choice. The first day went great! Then on the second day, my knees and ankles protested a bit but I ran through it. On the third day, I couldn't make it through the first 60 second run. For about a week and a half to two weeks after that my ankles have been swollen (on and off) and sore. I'm finally feeling up to getting back to running but I know I can't make the same mistake twice. I finally have some disposable income to buy the \"right\" shoes, but I have no idea what I should get. I really like the way the Nike \"Free 5.0\" looks, but that's what got me into the trouble with the Pumas. A little background about my body type that might help - I'm 6' tall and probably around 145 lbs, slender but out of shape. I like the \"minimalist\" shoes but probably need something with more support.", "summary": "Brand new runner with sensitive ankles/knees needs shoe recommendation."}
{"id": "t3_372qmm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) don't know what i want from him (24m)", "post": "Hi r/relationships!\n\nA little background, my ex ended our 6year relationship in march this year. We were engaged and wanted kids in 3 years. He ended it because he \"couldn't stand it anymore\", thats alle the explanation i got.. But i suspect that he also fell in love with one of his co-workers... We are now no contact and I'm actually glad that it's over because i saw that a lot was going wrong between us...\n\nHe was my first serious relationship, and i mever really dated bevor him..so i thought \"tinder\" would be a great idea to meet new people. \n\nIn the middle of april i met a guy on tinder..he's a student in my hometown but comes originally from the other side of my country. We met in real life and hit it of immediatly. We talked for ours, we laughed for hours..\nOn the second date I stayed at his place..and since then we are somethin like friends with benefits... We talk a lot, have much fun together, we cuddle and watch films and we have sex.\n\nSo now this is where i'm confused. If it's only about sex, then why all the cuddling, cooking and lang walks and talks? \n\nI, for myself don't really know what i want.. Am I ok when it's just sex? Do I want a serious relationship with him? I'm afraid to ask him what he thinks where this is going.. What's when his answer upsets me? \n\nOn friday i was out with a friend of mine and I met a guy in a bar and we started kissing..he wanted to take me to his place..but suddenly i felt guilty about my friend with benefits.. \n\nSo r/relationships, what should i do? Should i just relax and look where this is going? Should i talk to him and ask him what he wants?", "summary": "don't know if i want a relationship with my friend with benefits, single since 2months after a 6year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1v2qif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [20 F] of a few months, I don't really feel like she cares about me", "post": "Me and my GF have been together for a few months and I really don't feel like she cares about me at all. We text but I'll usually try and carry a conversation with her and in response I'll get very short responses that don't allow the conversation to flow. I also always compliment her and in response I get a \"Thanks.\"\n\nWe live in different states, and since we are still on break from college, i haven't seen her in over a month, but we still skype almost daily. She has been with her best friend the past two weeks and when we skype, she seems to be paying more attention to her than me.\n\nFinally, I was just curious about our sex life when we are together and I asked her if i satisfy her and she responded by saying \"I don't know. I've only had sex with one other person and that relationship was purely based on sexual attraction\" I decided to make a joke of the situation and respond by saying \"Did he have that hot bod?\" to which she replies \"Not really, but he was extremely good at what he does\" \n\nI understand that I might be a little sensitive or reading into things too much, but she completely ignored my question and responds by saying how her ex was a good fuck. \n\nI just don't know if I should try and further our relationship.\n\n**I forgot to mention that we both go to school together and we live in the same building. at school, she's amazing and i wouldn't have it any other way. she's always there when i need it. One of my close friends recently passed away while we were at school. She was supposed to go home and decided to stay and help me get through the rest of the semester. It's like when we are together she's amazing, but over texting and phone calls, it feels so unnatural.", "summary": "Girlfriend just shuts me down when i compliment her and ignores me when we talk and said her ex is a great fuck."}
{"id": "t3_4zv9rc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/F] cousin [25/F] gave up a huge career opportunity over her skin color.", "post": "My cousin has been looking for a job for over a year now and has so far, been rather unsuccessful. She had a very sheltered upbringing and this has led to poor conversation skills and poor general knowledge - as a result, she always gets rejected after the interview stage.\n\nFinally, a month ago, she got offered a pretty decent role at an organization in another city (it so happens that city is quite sunny)\n\nTo everyone's surprise, she ended up rejecting the offer. She came up with vague reasons when family members questioned her decision seeing that she's not in a place to be choosy - to put it politely. My mom spoke to her (they're very close and tend to confide in each other) a while ago to figure out the real reason and she admitted that she's concerned about getting darker in the sun and she turned down the job because she would've been required to relocate to the aforementioned city.\n\nShe's always felt somewhat insecure about being dark skinned but I never knew it was to such an extreme degree. She refuses to accept that it's a problem that she needs to work on and states that light skin is naturally the better/preferred look and always tries bleaching creams to change her tone. \n\nI'm also concerned as she might be getting married soon, and will have kids as soon as possible. This kind of attitude is going keep the cycle going because then her children will grow up feeling ashamed of their skin as well.", "summary": "Cousin turned down a good job offer because it required relocating to a sunny city, and she wanted to avoid skin darkening. Refuses to admit that her colorism issues are getting dangerously deep. How can we help her?"}
{"id": "t3_hlwnw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fianc\u00e9e getting high a lot, starting to annoy me..", "post": "Hey, Reddit. This is obviously a throwaway account as my fianc\u00e9e also uses Reddit quite a bit and I'm not sure how she would react if she found me posting this.\n\nAnyway, I've been in a really great relationship with her for almost 6 years. We've been living together for almost 1 year. \n\nI knew she smoked weed and it didn't really bother me as I did it quite a lot for many years but around Christmas time I stopped pretty much 100% cold turkey I think I've had about one joint since then.\n\nAnyway, she gets quite a bit of free weed from one of her friends and smokes it every time she is round at his and quite a bit when she is here (at home). It didn't bother me at first but now she just sparks up on her pipe or whatever which leaves the house smelling really strong of grass which is not really something I want.\n\nOn top of that she is just really annoying to be around when she is high; constantly forgetting things, not paying attention to something she is doing then blaming it on something else as \"I'm not that high\" when you can blatantly tell she is and a lot of the time I just try and stay away from her when she is as it makes it a lot easier. I've tried talking to her a few times about it but she just gets a bit defensive stating that it is her body and I used to do it and she pays half of the rent so should be entitled to smoke it in the house yada yada\n\nSo basically, I'm at my wits end with this... Any advice?", "summary": "My girlfriend smokes a lot of weed, it makes my house smell, she is annoying to be around when she is high. Advice please."}
{"id": "t3_2f00vh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [29M] continue to enjoy the things I used to do, before I did them with my ex[24F]?", "post": "Hello /R/. \n\nI was in a great relationship that lasted 1,5 years that ended 9 months ago. After seeing this person again last week, a lot of sadness surfaced. She had come back from a trip around the world, something I had planned to do by myself, and when I met her, for us to do together. Now I feel like it's not my dream anymore, and I would be a \"copy-cat\" if I went traveling.\n\nBut then I realize that so many of the things I used to enjoy by myself I have not been able to do because they remind me of her. The video games, TV shows, movies I used to watch...\n\nPeople say to erase all things that remind them off their ex, but at what point is it too much? I want to want to travel. I want to enjoy my old hobbies but from before I met her. Do any of you know of any ways to push forward despite being reminded of a loved one, and still enjoy doing those things that is a part of you?\n\nI also want to discover new things, but I also miss doing some of these old things.", "summary": "I feel like I can't follow my dreams of traveling, my old hobbies, my old interests because I also did them with my ex, but I want to do these thins. How can I move past it, and get enjoyment out of these things which are a part of me? Why do these things, thoughts and activities feel tainted with sadness and feelings of loss?"}
{"id": "t3_1mupxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO[20F] is becoming a dancer at a strip club to help pay for our apartment [Together for 1.5 years]", "post": "As the title says, my SO is trying to become a dancer at a strip club (supposedly the position she was offered was just a dancer, not a stripper, so apparently she doesn't take her clothes off).\n\n She decided on it because the restaurant she works at has slowed down a lot and she isn't making enough anymore. Moreover, she hasn't been able to find another waiting job.\n\nStill I was kind of upset about it, and we had a fight. Once we cooled down and talked for real, we realized we just weren't on the same page and didn't really understand each others motivations for feeling how we felt. \n\nI didn't understand that she was doing it because she has pay to pay for her school on top of the apartment, and so I don't have to work as much and focus on my schoolwork. \n\nShe doesn't want to be so dependent on my parents paying for things. Not sure how much she'll make but I work part time so hopefully we can cover a good portion of our expenses with that. Furthermore, she thought that I just thought it was degrading and I wasn't going to stay with her because I felt above her.\n\nI've mostly come to terms with it, I'm mostly worried about her own safety now really. I told her I support her as long as she feels safe there and that she feels comfortable with it. Also, She knows I'm still a little skeptical and told me she would answer any question about it no matter what.\n\nI'm just wondering what to expect because I've heard so many different stories about dating strippers on both ends of the spectrum. I've heard from \"it makes you hate men and you don't even want your boyfriends to touch you\" to \"They keep their lives separate and some are very smart people paying their way through school etc.\"\n\nI guess it really depends on the person, but I was just wondering if anyone had any experience with this?", "summary": "SO is going to become a dancer at a strip club to pay for her school and help pay our apartment. Not sure what to expect and I don't want this to ruin our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1jvbpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23M] am in love with my girlfriend [22F] of 3 years, but I don't know if we should keep dating.", "post": "So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now, and she is hands-down the best girlfriend I've ever had. We always feel comfortable around each other, we never ever fight, we share the exact same interests and we have great chemistry.\n\nBut for the last year or so, I've been wanting to start dating again. It is not because she's been any kind of bad girlfriend, or done anything wrong, but I just feel like I'm stagnating. I've always been a very extroverted person, and I've enjoyed meeting new people and experiencing new things, and I've never been in a relationship that has lasted this long.\n\nI now feel like I know everything there is to know about my girlfriend, and I've experienced everything I can with her as a girlfriend. I know that sounds weird, but thats how I've been living for my entire life. Anytime I had a breakup, it was a bittersweet experience. On the one hand, I was losing a girlfriend, but on the other I had opened up a realm of completely new people I was free to meet. Now I'm starting to feel a little tied down.\n\nIf this was any other girl I would probably break up with her, but this girl is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I really really would like to stay friends with her if I broke up, but I think that any kind of breakup would make her hate me. I also don't think I should stay with her, because I still want to meet and date other people, and I REALLY don't want to cheat on her because I don't do that. This is the first time I've been in this situation before, please help!!", "summary": "I want to date other people, but I love my current girlfriend to much to let her go."}
{"id": "t3_30toqj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by moving my torch", "post": "I was walking down to the pub with my mate after dark. On the way is a storm water drain that we needed to cross. I was walking ahead as I had the torch. I get down to the bottom of the drain and cross the trickle of water. I start walking back up, as I am walking back I turn the torch around so my mate can cross the water. At that point my left leg discovered an outlet pipe which was about half a metre lower than the rest of the drain. I now have a massive scar on my leg.", "summary": "don't help others"}
{"id": "t3_1xuqik", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help with rejection from girl. Please Help.", "post": "Hi. I am a 17 year old male from USA. I go to grade 11 and I asked this one girl out about 2 months ago. I knew her through a school project that lasted around 3 weeks and another one that lasted 2 weeks. It was fun to be around her. I told one of my close friends that I have feelings about her, and they said she was different in a cheery and happy way when I'm around. So that felt good, plus she was the one who wanted ME to be her partner for the second project.\n\nFast forward a few days later, and I wanted to ask her out. First I was like \"Hey Jenny I wanted to talk to you about something\" but she said she had to run because she had her ride waiting for her as she needed to go to the doctor(she really did, I remember).\n\nThen, she texts me \"What is it that you wanted to say?\"\n\nAfter many \"I'll tell you later\"s I told her that \"This is harder than I thought\" to which she replied \"Look I think what you mean and I'm sorry, I think I just want to be friends\"\n\nAnd that was basically it.\n\nNow, the main issue. The thing is, I can't forget about her. The other girls in my school are either in a relationship or just generally bad(I live in a crappy area). This is really killing me and I WANT to forget about her but my brain is constantly reminding me of her. It has become torture for me to always have to think about her cause I liked her so much. Please give me tips on what to do.\n\nOther thing. Every day during break, she goes to a class that I like cause the teacher there has interesting chats with us about random stuff and I find it really intriguing. I go there too occasionally and I go there ONLY for the awesome teacher and not for Jenny. Do you think this is going to make her feel creepy? Also, do you ever think she will change her decision and MAYBE like me and then tell me somehow?\n\nThanks so much. I want a \"kicker\" or some good advice that will take me out of always thinking about her and get me to something else. Thanks again. Bye.", "summary": "I liked girl, girl no like me, me get upset, me keep thinking about her, me want no feelings but brain give me feelings. You help, I need help."}
{"id": "t3_4kcyl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] just lost a $1k Bulgari ring my girlfriend [18F] gave to me. Feel like shit.", "post": "Had a really shit day today, getting home from class and realising that my ring isn't on my finger anymore. Telling my girlfriend about this the following day, she just sort of broke down in tears, telling me how disappointed she was, and how much that ring meant to her. I've apologised many times, already, but I feel like she's secretly still deeply hurt under the 'it's okays'.\n\nShe told me her parents got a pair of them for her birthday a couple years back, and she's saved the male one for the 'right guy'. That just makes it worse.\n\nI would buy another one to replace it, but a) I'm a broke college student, and b) it probably won't be the same. What do? How do I make her feel better?", "summary": "My dumb ass lost an expensive, important piece of jewellery, and my girlfriend seems inconsolable."}
{"id": "t3_utkzb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need emergency relationship advice ASAP. I need to have a solid answer by tomorrow, please help me.", "post": "Hey reddit. I'm new here, but I like the way you guys collaborate so...maybe you can help me with something of my own. I am confused as fuck, and need help with a major decision involving a potential relationship that is hanging by a thread.\n\nSo I met this girl 4 years ago. To save the backstory, we were just good friends and stayed friends even went she went to college. I am 17 and she is 20 now, and after I asked her to my junior prom as a friend we ended up fucking afterwards. This turned into a FWB style thing, and it was going good. **THENNNNNN** emotions got involved. She began talking about becoming a unit, and I was still tentative because I honestly wasn't sure about it yet. Although I liked her a lot, and could feel myself growing to like her, I wasn't completely sure I wanted to take another step.\n\nThat's where shit went wrong. Bad wrong. All of this talk about a relationship felt so forced and unnatural, that I panicked and partially burned that bridge. This was last week, actually. I told her I didn't feel the same about here, etc. etc....but this past week I have been getting these powerful feelings of wanting to give a relationship with her an honest shot. Because I care for her like a family member having known her so long, and I am torn between these ephemeral feelings of wanting to plunge into a relationship with her, and my gut feeling that is telling me not to. I feel like if I don't, it is a mistake. I also feel that if I DO it's a mistake.\n\nWhat would you do? I can usually rely on myself to make these decisions...but I have been trying unsuccessfully the past week and my indecision is hurting her more every day.", "summary": "Torn between being friends with a girl and jumping into a relationship with her. Fleeting feelings of wanting to be in a relationship with her are making my gut feeling of avoiding a relationship hard."}
{"id": "t3_518kvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] am not sure what to do about my housemate [20's/F] I have just moved in", "post": "I have just moved into a new share house and i have been living here for about a month. The share house is modern and is only a few years old. I love the house. \n\nThere are currently 2 males and 2 females (excluding me) who also live here.\n\nThe location is also perfect.\n\nHowever one of the females who lives here doesn't say anything when we are in the kitchen. At the start I was ok with it as I thought that not everyone wants to talk when sharing or some people are just quiet. \n\nHowever its starting to get really awkward (as we are both silent).  She will also watch what i'm doing in the kitchen and I feel like i'm being judged. Tonight she was on the phone (facebook messaging) she was watching everything I was doing and sorta of laughing (to herself). I felt like she was talking to her friend about me via messenger. \n\nI went to put something in the bin (everyone takes turns to be in charge of the bin - this week it was hers) it was really full but because it was her turn to put the bin out I decided to just leave it.. so I put my scraps directly from chopping board into the bin.. as I was doing this she sorta made a \"wtf\" sorta noise...\n\nIt was really awkward. \n\nI don't want to leave here as it suits me but i'm not sure what to say to her?\n\nI dont want to cause any tension or more awkwardness. I dont want to say something as she genuinely might not be talking to her friend about me?\n\nI also feel like when she is watching me I cant really focus properly on what i'm doing because its awkward that shes just standing there in silence watching - almost hoping i'll drop something so she has a reason to laugh. \n\nany advice would be appreciated", "summary": "housemates doesn't talk and is almost judging me when in the kitchen"}
{"id": "t3_1s7ikd", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Had a Skype Interviewer, Interviewer Didn't Show Up", "post": "I applied for an internship in China through a well known university club that helps students find paid internships around the world (so I know its not a scam job). \n\nI did a prescreen interview with a student club member, and moved on to the 2nd round, an interview with the company. We set a time and date and I logged into skype 30 min before the interview. I sent a message to the university student who prescreened me on skype, but she never answered. So I waited for about 1 hour, and nothing. Its been almost 24 hours since then, and no email, no contact...etc. I did send the university student an email, no response yet. \n\nWtf do I do now? The internship seems very interesting, the pay i decent, and it was a fairly new company, which I definitely prefer. I'd like the job, but alarm bells are really going off. At the same time, since its a startup, maybe something came up.\n\nAnyone have any advice, or been in a similar situation, specifically with a job abroad.", "summary": "Was supposed to have a skype interview for an internship abroad, interviewer never showed up. What should I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_gt416", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Many redditors are visiting colleges and planning their futures at this moment. If I could give one piece of advice to them, it would be...", "post": "So, how 'bout it, Reddit? Hundreds of thousands of high school seniors are incredibly stressed about their post high school lives right now. Redditors in college and redditors who have graduated, what single piece of advice would you offer them?\n\nRedditors serving and who have served, what advice would you give to graduating high schoolers who plan to serve in the military?\n\nRedditors who chose neither to go to college nor enlist, what advice would you give?\n\nA little background: I am a junior finishing the semester at a liberal arts college. My mother works in admissions at said college. She frequently tells me about the worries of incoming undergrads, and I have on more than one occasion spoke to accepted students and their parents, attempting always to offer up good advice and stories of my experiences. Late April is the absolute craziest stretch of the process; kids have either been accepted or denied, or wait-listed, and often find themselves really lost and second-guessing their plans or desires. I'm sure a lot of these kids are browsing Reddit, and I think some anonymous words of wisdom might really help.", "summary": "Give a single piece of advice to individuals who will soon be graduating high school and plan to go to college/enlist/get a job/take a year off/etc, based on your experiences."}
{"id": "t3_4k0zop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20m) I don't know if she (21f) likes me. If she does how can I salvage this missed opportunity?", "post": "I went and saw this female friend from high school's show, acting student. We've hung out about once a year since high school so not a lot, she tends to bail on me. She was like \"oh we should hang out\" I thought this was a empty gesture, but she followed up with a text. We decided to hang out today. I ask this morning if she wanted to get coffee she proposed we hang out later. She invited me over to have dinner and watch a movie. We ate dinner, with her mom. We watched two movies that she was assigned to watch for her acting class. We were sitting on a couch on opposite ends as they're the kind with fold out footrests. I didn't make a move because I'm lame. But did she want me to? Is there any way now that I'm home to recover this interaction if she is into me?", "summary": "Watched movies with girl didn't make a move. Did she want me to? Can I salvage this missed opportunity?"}
{"id": "t3_4ogbuc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rock climbing", "post": "Two days ago, I decided to go to the beach. The beach I went to has these huge rocks piles that I'm assuming fell from the cliffs above. I decided to go do some exploring and started climbing around on the rocks. After about 15 minutes of scampering over a bunch of rocks (barefoot), I got to a decent sized pile of rocks. I decided I'd try and climb over them to see what was on the other side. I got about 20 feet up when the rocks I was standing on gave way. I feel straight down onto the rocks below. Barefoot. This hurt very badly, but of course, that's not all that happened. My legs gave out and I landed on my ass. I laid there screaming in pain for about 10 minutes until I realized nobody was in ear shot. For starters I was one of about 5 people on the beach, and I had hiked so far from them, it wouldn't have made a difference. It took me a very long time to stand up, only to realize not only was my ass and the backs of my legs bruised and scraped up, but I was missing about a quarter of the skin on one foot, and a good amount on my other foot. I had to make the slow walk to my car, a 20 minute walk away, over rocks and sand. And then I had to drive another 50 minutes away to get home. I went to the hospital the next day, where they helped bandage up my feet. I've spent the past day and a half laying on my stomach unable to sit or stand. I have a picture of my foot if people want to see it.", "summary": "thought I was a mountain goat but I wasn't"}
{"id": "t3_3oioul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my Girl Friend [16F], Now best friends... and i hate it.", "post": "We had only been dating for a few weeks when she broke up with me than we got back together than a few weeks later she breaks up with me again and now even though she is still extremely attracted to me she insists on being friends apparently best friends considering how much she still talks to me and that's what she calls us.\n\nI still am very much in love with her and it pains me to have her so close but not be able to do anything. I have tried explaining how i feel, but it normally ends with her saying how she still loves me but that it cant happen.\n\nI really have no idea what to do.", "summary": "Had a relationship she broke it off and now we are best friends and i cant stand it."}
{"id": "t3_3jjsz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my BF[23 M] of 2 years. His depression is bringing me down?", "post": "Met my BF (23/M) in University. He told me (F/21) a year in that he suffered with depression, my dad has battle with manic depression for years now  and I thought this would be easy to to handle with my BF in comparison. (It got extremely messy with my dad at his worst - years on it is MUCH better - like almost back to normal).\n\nTwo years later turns out very different. I am now very mentally ill (cannot bear to think about being in the same town as my University doc/ stopped going to classes/ grades dropped staggeringly). \n\nI'm meant to be finishing my last essays so I can graduate late. Like, in January he was meant is to graduate with me. However, although I left my hometown  in Summer (and studies, for 3 weeks) to support his exams, he chose to take a year out instead, meaning that he is doing nothing for another year - no student status, not taking meds, not working.\n\nI love him and he keeps promising a future together, but he doesn't want to travel/ move in together and work. There is no indication towards creating the life together that I crave.\n\nThere is no communication with one another for days on end unless I instigate it. And even then he won't skype or another means of contact - just FB chat sporadically.\n\nI feel like the biggest bitch for moving on with my life without him, but I want to work and travel and just fucking live. But he won't commit to doing it with me, or even get the medication that I know will help him (as it did with my dad).\n\nI just want an equal partner, not one that I have to force into doing nice things/ spending time with me. I'm so fucking sad whenever I think about him.", "summary": "dunno what to do about long term BF that won't communicate what's up/ at all. Am 21, but feel ancient with all the stress."}
{"id": "t3_28kx3i", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Help discerning the quality of photographers?", "post": "I was thinking I would have to pay around $3500 for a good photographer, but a friend of mine just got married and his photography was about $1500. I love his photos, but I may be biased because I am close to the couple. I guess I would say I see a difference between the $3500 person and this guy, but not a $2000 difference? Also, my wedding coordinator has suggested a photographer that runs about $2500, but I honestly can't see any difference between him and the $1500 dollar guy. \n\nSO I come to you all to ask if any of you would let me PM you the sites for the three people with a little more detail and help me look at it more objectively. I don't want to just link them here because I don't want to call the photographers out so publicly (and also I may not have learned how to do links well yet....). \n\nIf you are bored this afternoon and are interested in photography, please let me know! Thanks!", "summary": "Three price points for photographers, can't decide. Need objective eyes."}
{"id": "t3_1hueyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] think I was used as a rebound by my [20M ] boyfriend who I dated a bit over a month. Is hope all gone?", "post": "He had been dating this girl and she broke up with him, then he quickly moved on to me-we'd been friends a while. We were dating but it was difficult because he seemed like he really craved his freedom and was very unwilling to take down any emotional walls. I feel very hard very fast for him though, he was quite sweet and affectionate. The other issue is that he's friends with my ex boyfriend and I think that weighed on him.\n\nHe broke up with me yesterday and I was very hysterical, which was a poor response. I had been staying at his place (it was long distance), and I was too upset to leave the twenty minutes after he broke up with me as he had wanted to, so I spent the night. He kept flip-flopping between being nice and being extremely harsh. He gave no reasons for the breakup except that he wasn't ready, which would have been fine but I had already asked him that early in the relationship and he had assured me (after a few days break) that he was ready. \n\nSo I'm guessing there's no hope for revival because people don't typically go back to their rebounds, right? I'm giving him space right now but I'm totally crushed. He essentially told me to fuck off because I was 'guilt tripping' him. I just felt so miserable.", "summary": "Was used as a rebound, any hope for the future or am I screwed here?"}
{"id": "t3_1arlsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) want to keep my relationship with my girlfriend (20F) alive over long distance.", "post": "We've been dating for 7 months now, I honestly couldn't be happier. As young as I am this girl just compliments me in every aspect of my character. We go to the same college, but the major she wants isn't offered here. I urged her to do what she needs to to fulfill her career, as much as it pained me to tell her that. She knows I care about her immensely and I know her feelings for me are likewise. She is just as random, goofy, and optimistic as I am, and our relationship couldn't be any better. I want to do everything in my power to keep this relationship alive, but am unsure exactly what to do to keep things varied. Talking on the phone and visiting each other I already know will happen but is there something else I'm missing or can do to ensure she'll want to keep at this for the next three years and more to come?", "summary": "GF is going to other college to pursue her major, both of us agree to try long distance. Besides visiting each other and talking on the phone what else can I do to keep our relationship together rather than the same boring stuff over and over again."}
{"id": "t3_ta05n", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Do I Look Homeless? Or, A Rich Woman Gave Me 100 Bucks For Diabetes Test Strips.", "post": "Today I went to Walgreens to purchase a blood glucose meter in order to test over one day and see if I might be diabetic or pre-diabetic. I know that's a weird way to start, but I didn't want to go to the doctor and get tests done when I could do a similar test over the course of a day for 15 dollars. Anyhow... I had bought a five dollar meter that didn't come with test strips. I don't know how many of you are aware of this, but blood glucose test strips are RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE. I asked the pharmacy how much they were for the meter I got, and I saw that they were something like 80 bucks and did not come in small amounts like I wanted. The pharmacy staff member asked if I had insurance that would cover it, and I said no. I went on my merry way and bought a fifteen dollar monitor that comes with ten strips (that's all I needed for a day). As I walk out of the building a woman stops me at my car and says, \"I don't mean to be nosy, but I overheard you in there asking about the test strips. Did you get what you needed in there?\" I replied, \"Yes, I did. I'm fine, thanks.\" She goes on,\"Well please take this, I want to help you.\" \"I was like, that's very nice, but I can't accept this (it was a hundred dollar bill).\" The woman gets frustrated with me and throws the money in my car, runs off to her Lexus and drives away. I get in my car and am dumbfounded. What just happened? \n\nSo, Reddit, I have a question for you. What should I do with this hundred dollars? Should I spend it on myself? Should I donate it to a local charity? I feel like it might be a good idea to donate, since the woman wanted to help someone so badly. What do you think? How should I spend \"my\" money?", "summary": "A rich woman thought I was poor, gave me a hundred dollars. What do I do with it?"}
{"id": "t3_4jx6d8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend [19/m] told me [17/f] to lose weight. Am I right to be upset?", "post": "Background: I am 5'3\" and I weigh 119.05lb which is a normal weight; I workout at least 3 times a week and I eat very little. I have been told that I should eat around 1800, because I exercise. I eat less than 800 calories a day, and usually, I eat less than 500 calories. I'm slim, but curvy, and I could do with a little toning up. However, my boyfriend likes skinny to really skinny girls (like Ariana Grande and some VS models), and it hurts knowing I could never be like that skinny (my bf knows it's not natural for me to be that skinny). I hate my body and I think I could be suffering from an eating disorder (my bf knows this). \n\nIncident: So I told my bf that I calculated how many calories I need, how much I weight and how much I need to eat to lose more weight. So, he told me to eat 1400, so in about 2/3 months I could get down to 110lbs, and knowing the type of girls he likes, I know he was holding back and he would have said more. He knows I struggle with my body image and my eating, so the fact that he told me to lose more, hurts me. To make things worse, my bf is slightly chubby, never exercises and eats whatever he wants; I never tell him that he should stop eating and lose weight. He also once told me with more exercise and eating less, I could get a thigh gap (he loves thigh gaps). This is even after I said I couldn't because I have naturally thick thighs.", "summary": "I weight 119.05lb at 5'3 (I'm healthy and definitely not fat). My bf told me to eat less and get down to 110lbs."}
{"id": "t3_1lm3g2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's great, but I'm not in love", "post": "I (M, 24) have been seeing my current girlfriend (F, 24) for two months and everything is great.  She make me happy, and she seems to be quite enamored with me.  Our lifestyles are very compatible and are both emotionally generous to each other.  She likes my friends and family, and I feel likewise.  It's by all accounts (including my own) a very good situation.\n\nExcept I'm not in love with her.  \n\nWhich is not to say I don't have feeling for her--I do.  But I've been in love and I do know the difference.  There are two girls I can definitely say I have loved, the most recent being my previous girlfriend (who was my first \"official\" gf).  In each case I knew it almost immediately.  And while my feelings have grown for my GF, I don't think I'll ever feel the same way with her, and I know this means our relationship will ultimately have to end.  \n\nThis fact makes me feel like a total piece of shit.  I justify it to myself by telling myself there's no need to end a situation that is really good and all parties, including myself, are happy with.  The chances that I'll find a girl that's better for me at the present stage of my life anytime soon aren't great.  The thought of breaking her heart kills me.  It disgusts me that I could be less than completely satisfied by this great girl and the healthiest romantic situation I've ever found myself in.  But the fact is that I'm trying to get that feeling back and I don't think I can feel that way about her, and the longer I drag this on, the worse it's going to be in the end.  \n\nI'm confused and don't know what to do.", "summary": "Dating a great girl who I'm not in love with, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_wprjk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] Bad at relationships?", "post": "So I'm 18 and I'm gay. I don't know if you accept that kind of posting here but whatever. So I started talking to this guy and we both are extremely attracted to each other and all that but he recently told me that he really likes me yet he's afraid to get into a relationship with me because he is really bad at them and he doesn't want to hurt me. He wants to be friends and he tells me stuff like he loves talking to me and greets me every morning with a text and stuff. He's extremely flirtatious and we have talked about hooking up. ANYWAY, should I try to help him work through his relationship issues or should I just accept that he can't do it and look for someone else? I still would like to be friends with him but I would really like to be in a relationship with him as well.", "summary": "guy said that he doesn't want to get into a relationship because he doesn't want to \"inevitably hurt\" me. wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_k8pfw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Dating. Bipolar vs Aspergers. Can it work?", "post": "Me F/20 Him M/28. Dating nearly 3 years, lived together for 1, engaged for 6 months. \n\nHe is anti-social, can become angry and irrational when he is tired and was diagnosed with aspergers when he was younger. I am mood swinging, high and low and slightly crazy, diagnosed recently. When we are good we are fantastic, when we are bad it is like a train wreck. \n\nWe understand each other and our flaws, he can pull me out of a fit (High or low) and I am the only person he really talks to, we work so well sometimes yet at the moment we are having trouble, is it worth continuing when we are both so different? \n\nWe are having trouble finding a fair path in the relationship; housework and communication, as well as stubborness and control. I will answer any questions.", "summary": "Female (Mild) Bipolar Vs Male (Mild) Aspergers. "}
{"id": "t3_2iy0tr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) have appreciation problems about my SO (18F) of 2 years. I feel like a dick.", "post": "We have been dating for almost 2 years, and we get along wonderfully, no huge disagreements, and spend time doing what we love together. Despite this, I occasionally find myself wondering if I could do better, justifying my thoughts with disparities in ambition between us, and none of my friends seem to impressed by her. \n\nShe has told me that she worries that she is mediocre at everything, and I reassure her that it isn't the case. But her worry gets me thinking about if it's actually true. And I start to think it is. And then I act distant and like a total dickbag to my best friend. \n\nSooo am I a horrible person who she doesn't deserve, or can this sort of thing be worked out?", "summary": "Wonder if I can find someone better than current SO, makes me become disenchanted."}
{"id": "t3_wmgin", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guy to girl ratio on reddit?", "post": "I haven't been a Redditor for as long as most people on here but I am no virgin to the social aspect of technology. However in my long endeavors as social media fanatic as well as a long term online gamer most of my interactions have been with other males as far as members of xbox live and other social media outputs. Lately I have realized that when I read a post on Reddit I automatically assume that the OP is male. I guess I'm just curious as to what the ration for guys to girls is on reddit itself. The easiest way I can see to go about doing this is to post a comment that states what gender you are or whatever else input you have on the subject.", "summary": "I'm curious about the guy-girl ratio on Reddit. Post something regarding your gender so I don't feel like a sexist pig thinking all OP's seem male."}
{"id": "t3_3hl3f8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my housemate [20 F], wants to tag along on a trip that I plan on going alone (non-romantic)", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons, I don't think she goes on reddit but just to make sure...\n\nI'm studying abroad this semester and my boyfriend is studying abroad as well, in a few countries over. I plan on visiting him for about a week and I've been looking at plane tickets, and am close to booking one. One of the people I am sharing an apartment with is super friendly, and we've communicated a lot over the summer. I casually mentioned I would be going to my bf's city to go see him, and she said that she has always wanted to go there and to let her know when I book a flight so that she can book one too. Do you see my problem here? If this was any other city/trip, I'd be fine with it. But... I'm staying with my boyfriend and I plan on spending every minute with him since we miss each other a lot. Which means if she wants to come, she will have to find her own place to stay and do her own thing. \n\nSo my question is, should I just book my flight (prices are going up) and not tell her, or should I tell her how I feel? I don't want to make things awkward because we haven't even started our semester yet. It would be great if someone could help me figure out what to actually tell her. It's not a matter of me being shy, I just don't know what to say. If I were her, I personally would want to be told what's up.", "summary": "Friend wants to tag along on my trip to go see bf, I don't want a third wheel."}
{"id": "t3_3v95g5", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] \"He just bit me!\"", "post": "So my roommate and I decided to take our dogs to a special Christmas event our city does every year. It's a neighborhood walkthrough and is always filled with parents, children, and pets. My dog happens to be a 2 year-old German Shepherd, and since some people get nervous around bigger dogs I kept him very close to my righthand side, as it was packed.\n\nAt one point, the sidewalk got narrow and I had to pull my dog in closer, and accidentally stepped on his foot in the process. He yelped and jerked his foot back but was fine. In the incident, I backed up and elbowed a man to my LEFT. \n\nIn the second after my dog yelped, I heard someone shout \"what the hell?!\"  I turn and see the guy to my left staring at me so I say \"oh I stepped on his foot, sorry!\" And he goes \"yeah, I know, and he BIT me!\"\n\nNow I'm completely confused because my dog was attached to my right hip, and this guy was a foot away to my left. So basically my dog would have had to lunge his body across me without my seeing JUST to bite this guy, all while ignoring the close hold I had on him. Keep in mind my dog never has shown aggression to people and has NEVER bitten  anyone..\n\nI obviously know what happened- that I elbowed this man and he, for some reason, thinks my elbow was as sharp as a dog bite. So he's still staring at me waiting for an explanation (he looks ready to call the cops and yell dog attack) so I say \"I'm sorry I didn't see you there when I jumped back.\" He's still staring with the same look on his face as I walked further into the crowd. \n\nIt freaked me out. I don't know if this man genuinely thought he was bit, was trying to make a scene, or what. Not 2 minutes later though, my roommates young puppy sniffed a woman's shoe and the lady said the dog \"tried to bite her\" so we were both pretty wary of everyone after that. I don't need people looking for lawsuits right now. Shitty.", "summary": "Stepped on my dogs tail in crowded area, accidentally elbow man when trying to back up. Man thinks elbow is jaws and yells that my dog bit him."}
{"id": "t3_161a85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad is a pedophile and is trying to adopt children. What do I do?", "post": "First of all I should say that my father never touched ME inappropriately. He's in his 50s and I'm in my 30s. Last September I found out that he was cheating on his 3rd wife with several men in his community. I was given some info that made me suspicious so I hacked his email and there was hundreds of explicit emails about sex and meeting up for sex with at least 3 men and in his contacts list were hundreds of very sexual/homosexual sounding email addresses. I also found out that he has a membership to a gay men's meetup site. One of the guys he was emailing several times a day and they had this whole father/son fetish that was very obvious in their correspondence. He asked if the guy was wearing his \"race car undroos\" and other very disturbing things. Here's the really bad part. For 10 years between his 2nd wife and 3rd wife he was single and spent a strange amount of his free time around young boys (8-11yo). Everyone in the family thought it was weird and warned him about what it looked like. He didn't seem to care. He would have these boys over to his house and have them sleep with him in his bed. He admits to this much and acts like there is nothing wrong with it. I feel confident in declaring that he has a little boy fetish and sexually abused those boys. After I learned all of this I confronted him and told him that I never wanted to talk to/see him again and that if I found out that he was alone anyone under 18 that I would kill him. He had been having some local kids from his neighborhood over to his house all the time. I told him he needed to stay away from them. I told his wife about all of it and she was alarmed but stayed with him anyway (she is a complete idiot). I informed the police and social services back in September when all this came out and they seemed concerned but apparently there is nothing they can do about it.\n\nMy cousin recently told me that he ran into my dad at a community center and overheard him talking about adopting some kids. Now I don't know what to do. Please advise.", "summary": "I have reason to believe that my father sexually abuses children. I confronted him about it and told him never to talk to me again and today I found out that he may be trying to adopt kids. Help."}
{"id": "t3_13e6ba", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what should I do? Stay up all night and clean the apartment for my not-quite sick hubby, or go to bed, but get up at noon and feel like a lazy person?", "post": "My husband got food poisoning on Friday night. Needless to say, he didn't do his chores on Sat. I don't mind, of course. But he isn't so sick now. He just has nausea now, rather than the whole works. And our apartment is kind of messy. \n\nI also am really off my sleep cycle. I've been going to bed at 3am and getting up at noon the last week (some medication i was taking for allergies was keeping me up). However, I start a new job on the 26th and I'll have to start getting up at 6am. If i stay up all night I'll be very tired all day, but I will probably go to bed early in the evening and start on a more normal sleep cycle.", "summary": "Sleep now, or do something nice for my food-poisoned husband and not get sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_2k7g56", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27/m] going on my first date with a woman [26] who has a kid", "post": "Like many guys in their 20s, I've gone on a decent number of first dates through the years, but tonight is the first time I'm going on a date with a girl who has a child.\n\nObviously, it's good to show interest in the person whom you are out with, but I'm wondering if there are any questions in particular that I should/shouldn't ask regarding her child. I know nothing about the child (age, gender, with which parent he/she lives) nor do I know if the woman was married, etc. Are these questions I should ask or are they inappropriate for a first date? I'm genuinely curious, but don't know if I should let her broach these topics only if she wants to and I should thus stick to talking about work, movies, and the such.", "summary": "Looking for an advice on going on a first date with a woman who has a child."}
{"id": "t3_okf2o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Know a girl through mutual acquaintances & social networks, but we've never met in person. What's the least creepy way for me to ask her out?", "post": "Shortly after I moved to my current city about two years ago, a contact I made for professional networking purposes recommended I connect with a girl who was in the same field and also moving to the city. We friended each other on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook, but never actually met up.\n\nOver the past couple years, we've tweeted back & forth occasionally, and sometimes like/comment on each other's posts on Facebook. We know a few of the same people (she used to intern with one of my current coworkers, one of my friends used to work at her company), however, these aren't people that I think either of us are particularly close with.\n\nShe's always seemed like a really cool person, from what I know of her. She's cute, positive, friendly, and passionate about things. She's interested in sports & food, which are two of my passions, as well. I'm recently out of a LTR & single again, and I'd like to ask her out to see if we're as compatible in person as it seems to me that we would be.\n\nSo, RA, what's the best way for me to go about doing this? I know we live in the same neighborhood, so should I just send her a Facebook message asking if she wants to grab coffee/a drink after work? Her email address is listed publicly on her profile, so I could send her a note that way, but that seems weird since she hasn't given it to me directly. I also don't feel like I know my co-worker or her relationship with this girl well enough for me to ask her to make an introduction.", "summary": "Connected to an interesting girl through various social networks, and we know a couple of the same people, but we've never actually met. I want to get to know her in person, but I don't want to seem creepy."}
{"id": "t3_4hse0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my research partner [30s M] 8 months, burned out because I have a \"teacher/student\" relationship with my research partner instead of a partnership", "post": "Xpost from /r/GradSchool", "summary": "My research partner requires a ridiculous amount of handholding to complete his work at the detriment of my work. I'm afraid of being labeled as a complainer or difficult if I bring it up. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_13q8fq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24/m] don't know what the next step should be with my[22/f]", "post": "My gf and I have been going out for the past 1.5 years and I don't think she actually cares about me anymore. She describes herself as a \"heartless bitch\" all the time and I am the one who always says that no she isn't and all that nice stuff. Her roommate hates me for no reason( gf agrees with me on this one) and her other close friends thinks that I am a perfect match for her. At the beginning of our relationship, we would always wake up and first thing we would do is text each other good morning, and now for the past 2-3 weeks its only me texting her and she doesn't ( or if she does its only like once or twice) We are both in college ( same school-same major but i am one year her senior). I am always the one who calls her, and what not. I called her last night and asked her why doesn't she call me and her response is \"its cause I thought you were busy with school work\". I was upset cause its thanksgiving, it would be nice to get a call from my SO. Whenever I ask my gf to text me sweet stuff, she tells me that she likes me because I am a low maintenance bf so I don't say that anymore. I am the more outgoing of the two, and I definitely could have hooked up with different girls during our break (my neighbor are all girls and they usually invite me and my roomies over for wine night), but I stayed loyal to my girl and even though i did go over for wine, I didn't do anything after.\nso what do you guys think, should I break up with my current gf or stay longer?", "summary": "gf doesn't put in that much effort into the relationship as I do, yet we are both busy individuals. Break up or no?"}
{"id": "t3_30p73e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23M] SO[22F] is a chronic latecomer that cannot handle critisiscm.", "post": "I apologize in advance for my terrible english.\n\nI've been with my SO officially for 4 months now, know her for 7 years. I have never noticed this trait about her. She has her flaws but this is a real dealbreaker and it is becoming extremely irritating.\n\nI know she can't handle critisiscm so I try to keep it at a minimum and always keep it contstructive but this is getting out of hand.\n\nHow should I mention her lateness every time without making it sound like critisiscm and at the same time let her realize the seriousness of the situation?", "summary": "SO is a chronic late comer that cannot handle critisiscm, how do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_vun1w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So what motivates you reddit?", "post": "So I just recently moved to SoCal from the Mid-west, and it seems ever since the move that I have lost motivation to do things.  It started off great.  I was going to the beach, making friends, and getting goals done.  Then after about 2-3 months in, I guess the transitional period slapped me in the face and I just stopped wanting to do anything. I don't have any want or need to go out and do stuff, or talk and hang out with new friends.  I just feel that I lost my motivation and not sure where to pick it back up. \n\nAnyways, just to give you guys a little background... I was just simply looking and asking for what specific things help to keep you motivated in your daily life?  Perhaps I can pick up on a few things and right this ship.", "summary": "look at title."}
{"id": "t3_2c207s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my BF [29 M] 2 years, I feel left out on FB.", "post": "That's all. Was hoping someone would slap some sense in me.\n\nHe makes a lot of posts, but doesn't really comment/like other people's posts. He likes/comments on my stuff at the same rate as others (once a month or so), but whenever I see him comment/like something on someone else's post, it makes me a little jealous.\n\nAt one point we had the \"In a relationship\" feature set. Mine was showing, his wasn't. We got in a fight and broke up (completely unrelated to FB, we've never discussed FB as a problem at all), he deleted the \"in a relationship\" feature. We're back together, we haven't added it again. For the most part I don't care, but a part of me is acting sulky, stupid, and passive aggressive by thinking, \"well it's not like he ever had his showing anyway, what does it matter\"\n\nPlease tell me to stop being dumb. I've deleted my FB a couple times over similar issues. I just don't want to log on and feel bad over stupid shit, and I don't know why I even feel bad that he doesn't really acknowledge us on FB. I hate sappy couples, that shit is so annoying. I've never told him why I deleted my FB at the time, and I don't think it was obvious at all that it was about him. I don't think he knows I have any issue with it.", "summary": "I feel left out on FB."}
{"id": "t3_v7pnp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lying jackass in need of help to get his girlfriend back", "post": "So about a month ago, my girlfriend of a year finally decided to break things off for good after my many lies and fabrications. I constantly lied to her about talking to other females and she'd always catch me, though the conversations weren't bad, it was the lies that mattered and it made it seem like I was cheating, though I never did and never in a million years would. For the last few months we tried working through it, but it was just too stressful for her to deal with. After she broke it off with me, I've been trying to give the perfect balance of space and still staying around showing that I care, but I either get ignored or I get put down like I'm scum. She's shown that she still gets jealous and what not, but she barely speaks to me. I love her to death, I honestly see myself with her for my entire life, (I'm 22, she's 20), the problem is, she can't trust me and no matter what I do, I don't seem to be getting through to her. Yesterday I dropped off 2 dozen roses, a Pandora bracelet with a charm on it, and a 5 page handwritten letter pouring my heart out to her, a gesture she has yet to respond to in any way. I'm literally going crazy because I love her to death. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I lied and made it seem like I was being unfaithful to my girlfriend, need a lot of help getting her trust back and her back into my life."}
{"id": "t3_9in0z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I stay or should I go?", "post": "Sorry about the song. It's stuck in my head head now too.\nSeriously though, I would like some input from my fellow redditors. \n\nI have been dating my high school sweetheart for 5 years. I have never had a serious relationship with anyone else. We've had some great times and really matured together, but I can't date him anymore.\n\nWe argue a lot and since we live together so it's kind of hard to take a break, relax, then come together and talk rationally. And when we fight, we fight like crazy people. We have both physically abused the other, and while I tend to blame him more, I realize that it is just as much my fault. The abuse has not been so bad in the past year or two, but it still happens occasionally. \n\nWe both have very few friends and tend to stay at home too much. I stay home more, so when he's gone I notice it more. I realize that this is all unhealthy behavior and we haven't had the chance to grow and learn on our own.\n\nSo why is it so difficult to leave?\n\nAside from the faults, we are perfect for each other. I have never met anyone who knows me so completely. I think I'm more afraid of losing him as a friend than as a future husband. I'm also afraid that I'm speaking from my naivete and that if I leave him I will regret it for the rest of my life. Melodramatic..I know.", "summary": "Relationship of 5 years, are the cons worth overlooking for the security and intimacy?"}
{"id": "t3_36amva", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[Serious] [20/f] Me and my boyfriend (21/m) aren't having anymore sex. How to get these tinders going?", "post": "My boyfriend (21/m) and I [20/f] have been dating for 4.5 years. We are very happy together and have very good ccommunication. We normally can solve relationship problems by tackling them together, but this one has us both stumped. \n\nDuring the first two years, our sex lives were great! Just typical teenagers who couldn't get enough of each other. However, shortly after we started semi-regularly living with each other, sex slowed tremendously. (Once every couple of months). He is pretty normal still, and wants sex 2-3 times a week, but I absolutely hate the idea of having sex. I get so anxious and nervous about it that i can't ever get turned on or do anything for him. Sometimes we will just get started and I'll end up crying out of nervousness or just stop because I just can't continue. This has continued for two years now. I REALLY want to be able to have sex again. I want it to be fun and exciting and I want to be able to show him how much he means to me. But this \"nervous breakdown\" shit has got to stop. It frustrates us both. I kind of feel like I \"forgot\" how. Like, I just can't remember how we used to have sex. I don't remember how it starts, or how we would get into it. Now it just seems all forced and awkward. How does sex \"just happen\"??  What I'm looking for is maybe an outsiders perspective. What do you think is going on? Do you suggest we try anything to make this happen? The spark is still there, I just don't know how to make it a fire.", "summary": "My boyfriend of four years and I have only had sex a couple times in the last two years. It's mostly because I don't know how to start anymore and I get so anxious and nervous that I can't focus on him as much as I want to. We have a spark, just no fire. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2s33e1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my new girlfriend [20 F], teased her with mutual friends once when we were just friends, need advice?", "post": "My new girlfriend and I have been friends for 3 years but recently I discovered I have feelings for her. We started flirting and decided to date and everything has been going great! We have the same mutual friends and 2 years ago, I got my first girlfriend. My first girlfriend and I were hanging out with mutual friends. They were making fun of my new girlfriend ( when we were just friends), and my first girlfriend was confused and didn't get it. I explained it to her and laughed with my mutual friends. \n\nI feel really bad about it and don't want this to affect our relationship if she finds out. I know that it occurred way before my current girlfriend and I started to date, but I understand that she will most likely be hurt if/when she finds out. One of our mutual friends has no tact, and I fear he may say something without realizing what he said. I don't want to ruin anything or hurt her. This has been the best relationship I had. I don't think anything negative about her. I think she is great, smart, funny, beautiful, and we have a lot in common. We have common long term goals, and I think it could really work. \n\nWhat should I do about this? I really appreciate everyone's help!", "summary": "I made fun of my new girlfriend when I was dating someone else with our mutual friends. I don't want to hurt her or our new relationship. What do I do/say, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_4o32qd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] don't wanna go to GF's [18F] parties/ get togethers. Gf and her friends call me a dick for it. But they act as I'm invisible. Do I have a right not to wanna go? Or should I suck it up for my gf?", "post": "So a month ago my gf was having a get together  at her house for about 8 people. She invited me and I told her I would come. I get to the party and I am never once introduced to her friends. ( I didn't know anyone but her) I sat their trying to be included, but my gf acted as if I wasn't there. About  20 min of being ignored I get up to leave. Immediately I am told that leaving was rude and her friends started to chip in. But I was being ignored and wanted to leave. Instead of letting me leave in peace, they made me feel even more uncomfortable. \n\nSo I left the party to go home and I get a text from my gf that \"everyone thinks you're rude because you left\" I clearly told her she and her friends ignored me and did not include me on any conversation. I was told it was my fault for \"not trying\"\n\nFast forward to last week she had another party. But when she told me about it, I clearly told her I wasn't coming weeks before the party. So the days go by and I forget about the party. The day of the party (while forgetting about the party) she told me to \"come over and hangout\" I head on over and some people are there but it didn't bother me. She then says \"when are the rest coming\" immediately I remember the party and I felt tricked into coming. I asked her to come down stairs to talk to me. I told her that I was leaving and did not want to stay. She again told me it was \"rude to show up and leave\" even though before hand I told her I didn't want to come. Again I'm made out to be a \"dick\" \n\nAm I a dick for not wanted to be there? Or do I have a right to chose where I want to be? Also is her not letting me leave in peace and not respecting my feelings a red flag? \nThanks!\n\n[", "summary": "] gf thinks I'm a dick for not going to her parties but I think I have a right to not wanna go"}
{"id": "t3_1g38tf", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Cashier is a petty individual", "post": "Long time Reader, first time poster >.>\nThree major items of note:\nFirstly I work at one of the cheapy stores that have \"Dollar\" in its name, but not everything costs a dollar. Secondly I am transitioning from male to female, and am decently along the way. Third Sorry for the Wall 'o' Text.\n\nI was working an early shift today, something that I already don't like. Usually I get to start at 4 or 5 today I was in at 11AM, that always makes the Inryi cranky. One of my first customers comes in checks out and calls me Sir. Avoiding a lot of detail I have long hair that might not have been brushed as much as it should have been, a bust that at least one of my coworkers is jealous of, and at least light makeup on.\n\nI tell him that I'm not a Sir, because even my ID now lists me as Female and I really hate being called Sir. He tells me that its what he's addressed me as and I have to deal with it, unless I'm in Thailand in which case I'm stupid. By now I'm seething and for maybe the third time in the year I can feel my heart beating... \n\nRevenge Time\nI total up his order and then ask \"Will there be anything else Ma'am?\" he doesn't seem to hear me, but I haven't hit total yet either so he can't swipe his card. Again I ask \"Is there anything else you need Ma'am?\" This time he just gives me a disgusted look and says \"no\" so I total it for him and let him swipe his card. He makes another comment about my being a \"Sir\" so I hit cancel on the register canceling his order, cancel the order, and then make my busy (and therefore less than pleasant) Store Manager come check this individual out. Before walking away I tell him \"Have a nice day Ma'am\"", "summary": "Customer refuses to use proper gender phrasing for cashier, she returns the favor and then cancels his order so the manager has to check him out."}
{"id": "t3_ee1f7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit- I want to help my Grandfather out, he has macular degeneration", "post": "A little background info:  \nAbout a year ago my 86 year old grandparents were driving down a highway and were hit head-on by a drunk driver.  My Grandma ended up in the hospital for 3 months with some internal bleeding, both legs and wrists broken as well as a bit of brain damage.  My Grandpa was actually able to walk away from the accident.  However, in the months since he has been slowly, but increasingly losing both his hearing and sight.  He was diagnosed with [macular degeneration]  Hearing aides have been helping him, but there unfortunately is not much you can do about macular degeneration.  \n  \n  \nOne of his favorite pastimes is reading the newspaper as well as history books (proud WWII veteran).  His condition has worsen to the point where he can no longer read the type on the newspaper.  *So* I was wondering if anyone knows of a way to help an old dude out.  I'm thinking a Kindle or some sort of text-to-speech software.  Is there a website that will read an article to you?  Thanks for any suggestions!", "summary": "my grandpa can't read anymore, any ideas on how to help him out?"}
{"id": "t3_1slds1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 7 years, just broke up and I need to vent", "post": "I just broke up with the only guy I have ever dated yesterday. We were together for seven years and he has been my best, and for a while, only friend. But I had to do it. I wasn't happy anymore. He has a good heart but is very weird when it comes to relationships. He would always find something to start a fight over, always finding ways of guilting and blaming me for things I didn't even do. We were fighting at least once a month over things that no one should ever get angry about. I finally had enough, the stress became too much for me to handle and I ended it. It was so hard to do but even though it hurts like hell I already feel some relief. His best friend and I have become good friends over the past year and he supports me fully. He has seen how my ex has treated me and told me it was in my best interest that I go ahead and end it. It feels good to know that even his best friend sees how my ex has treated me and doesn't like it. I may feel extremely lonely right now and that I will never find someone else, but I know that that isn't true. I just have to do my best to push through this and stay strong.", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend of seven years, his best friend supports my decision and I have to stay strong and not let the loneliness get the best of me."}
{"id": "t3_3cpe8m", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Dont fuck with an IT guy, if you dont know shit about computers.", "post": "I share wifi with 3 other members in this house and all of us have laptops except for one person who has a desktop with about 2TB of hard disk space. We use this machine to dump 1080p movies, tv shows, games etc basically a media server. So after a while of downloading i noticed that there was about 2GB of free space left, so being the only IT guy in the house, i decided to remove some of the old tv shows that have been sitting on the hard drive for a while and taking up a lot of space. I also performed some basic hard drive maintenance because i noticed it was very fragmented. A few days later when i tried and log back into the computer i noticed the password was changed. I asked the other member (not the owner of the computer) of the house why the password had been changed and she told me that she got upset that i deleted an episode of one of her tv shows. I explained why i did it and that it's been on the hard drive for a while. The owner of the computer was out of town and since the member and the computer owner are family members, i decided not to argue and seek my /r/pettyrevenge\nA while back I invited the other member (not the owner of the computer) of the household to a private torrent tracker to where she's been getting her tv shows and movies from. Sooooo  :)  I logged into the router set dns server to it to Opendns servers 208.67.222.222, 208.67.220.220 logged into opendns and blocked the domain for the tracker url (not the site). So now she's able to login to the site but not able to download anything at all. A couple of days passed by and she starts asking me if i can help her with her computer because she cant download anything and thinks its her \"firewall\". NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPE!!!!! Cant help you. A couple of weeks later, the owner of the computer calls me up and asks if i can fix his computer. His sister has crashed his PC and to lock her out. By the time the called ended she was locked out and i fixed the crash simply by returning to its \"previous settings\".", "summary": "Dont fuck with an IT guy, if you dont know shit about computers."}
{"id": "t3_33f3v5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By having my default alarm set to: Rick Astley - Never gonna give you up", "post": "Unlike most TIFU's this happened about 20 minutes ago. So I was playing hearthstone for Android in bed and remembered to set my morning alarm. I pulled down the menu and left Hearthstone running. I set the alarm for 9:30 and went to adjust the volume. Here's the fuckup. As I was sliding the bar to adjust the Hearthstone match froze my Android. Completely. I couldnt interact with the screen at all. So Rick Astley starts blaring out at 1AM at full volume whilst 13 year old sister and rest of my family are all asleep. This played for about 25 seconds before I managed to pull the battery out. The damage was already done and everyone hates me. RIP.", "summary": "Got Rick Roll'd by Hearthstone"}
{"id": "t3_29s4yu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16/F] just broke up with my girlfriend [16/F] of ten months. It was my first serious relationship and I feel lost and hopeless, and I just don't know how to deal.", "post": "And I feel guilty for even feeling like this because I was the one doing the breaking up. There were so many things we had planned for this summer and I just ended it over skype (I'm away for the next six weeks). She keeps switching between \"I hate you, fuck you, leave me alone\" and \"Please don't leave me, I'm still in love with you, I'm not ready yet.\"\n\nThe worst part is we've discussed this before, that she doesn't believe it's possible for the person who's breaking up to feel bad at all. She thinks this was easy for me. She thinks I was faking the fact that I was sobbing last night on skype. I couldn't fake something like that, and the fact that she thinks that really kills me.\n\nShe called me a cunt and she told me to have fun fucking my camp friends. And today somebody complimented me on my necklace and I wanted to say my girlfriend gave it to me and then I realized I can't say that anymore.\n\nI just don't know what to do. How do I cope with this, and the fact that I'm responsible for breaking somebody's heart. Plus she's depressed and if she does something stupid I know it's my fault.", "summary": "Basically I'm just whining about my first breakup."}
{"id": "t3_4rvabw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "M/21 I have a fear of touching women. How do I get over it?", "post": "Hi. \n\nFor a long time, probably since I was 16, I've had a fear of being physical with women. It scares the shit out of me. Heck, even hugging my female friends makes me uncomfortable. I've put some thought into this and I've come to realize I didn't get much physical contact as a kid, so it's make me wary of touch. Also it's not just females. Even when males lightly touch me on the shoulder or pat my back makes me uncomfortable. Basically what I'm asking is how do I get over my fear of touch and physical contact?", "summary": "Touching and being touched scares the shit out of me. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_3b69va", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my gf a heart attack.", "post": "So this happened around a year ago,\n\nWas enjoying a late night move session with the Misses in bed. We were watching Insidious 2 (after watching 1st) and we're pretty good with horror films, bit jumpy but we were surviving.\n\nAfter it finished we turned the lights off to go to sleep, Gf for some reason hangs her leg out of bed, I asked her how its possible to do this after a horror film she says because its hot etc etc..I said \"to make sure a demon doesn't grab it\"..She gets stroppy complaining to stop scaring her, and rolls over..\n\nWe talk for a while and she gets to the stage where shes barely awake and talking utter rubbish..something about Insidious..\nSo being the 18 year old joker I was, I slid quietly out of bed, and crawl under it.. here's the FU..\n\nI crawl up to where her leg is hanging down, shes still rambling on about something. **And I grab it, Hard and pull her down**\nShe's quite small so falls off the bed screaming so loudly it actually hurts my ears..but in her fall she kicks me in the face, really hard.\n\nSo we're both lying on the floor, her crying and me holding my broken face. I did still find it quite funny, but she was a mess..\nShe was sat in bed shaking and crying..Looking back on it, probably wasn't very funny.. She was on edge for a couple of days and hated me for a good week. Totally worth it. 10/10 Would Grab Again.", "summary": "watched a horror with the gf, she was falling asleep with leg over the bed, crawled under and "}
{"id": "t3_36m25x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [43 F] with my boyfriend [44M] of two years, disagree on porn", "post": "I will start by saying I have no problem with porn and don't mind my boyfriend looking at it. We had a joint porn account which I enjoyed very much. He knew I was ok with just about anything but underage porn. With that said, I found him on a site where his description read, Male mid 40's. I like all porn but especially redheads and jailbait. The majority of the \"groups\" he was a part of were young teen, teens in braces, incest teens, ect. He did have a handful of redhead groups but there were way more \"jailbait\" style than I was comfortable with. When I looked at the pics, many of the girls looked younger. I asked him about it he said that the obvious underage girls were covered in a bathing suit or such and therefore not illegal. Although it may not be illegal, having a daughter I find it disturbing and immoral to objectify young teen or pre-teen girls as sex objects even if they are technically covered. I asked him if I could look on his computer to see if there were any questionable pics on his desktop. While I did not find any young girls, I did find pics of him and his ex girlfriend. In some of the pics, his ex girlfriend was naked.  I do not find a need for him to have naked pics f his ex still on his computer. I told him I think we should break up as I am not comfortable with his style of porn and the naked ex pics. He says I am overreacting. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Am I overreacting to the young teen porn or am I right to be freaked out"}
{"id": "t3_u45rg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "223 - 185. Progress Pics!", "post": "Hey /r/loseit \n\nI've been losing it since the new year, and figured I might share some [Progress Pics] I still look in the mirror and see a fat kid looking back at me, but browsing some facebook pictures from New Years of this year, I saw a real difference for one of the first times.\n\nI'm 23, 5'10\", and as of the New Year was at least 223 lbs with impressive man boobies, a couple of extra chins, and an inability to drive by a fast food joint without stopping for a 1500 calorie \"snack\". When I got back from my winter break my roommate and I decided to stop being fatties and start losing weight. He made an awesome calorie counting spreadsheet (he's posted it here before... I'll try to find the link later) which we have been religiously using ever since.\n\nDiet-wise, I have TRIED to maintain a 1000 calorie deficit every day. I fail at that goal quite a bit, and realistically speaking, average about a 700 calorie deficit a day throughout the week. I've learned to enjoy healthy foods and eat in moderation, but for the most part, I eat whatever the hell I want. I eat a medium Dominos pizza (ham and pineapple with light cheese) about once a week - its my only meal for the day, and at just under 1600 calories, my belly is satisfied and I feel good about not overeating.\n\nSome random NSVs - I'm down from a 38\" waist to a 34\" (33\" when I can find it), my once-too-small large shirts have been replaced with mediums, and my class ring now slides right off my finger. Overall, I feel 100x better about myself, and it's great!\n\nI still have a ways to go. My goal weight is 170, and I REALLY need to start working out and hit up /r/malefashionadvice as I re-wardrobe for the summer. But hey, I think I'm on the right track! \n\n/r/loseit is awesome!", "summary": "I'm not quite as fat as I was. Hooray!"}
{"id": "t3_xnswq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I realized tonight that I honestly, really, truly don't have any friends. And I feel like it makes my girlfriend think I'm a loser. Is there anything I can do? Am I doing something wrong?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm a 17 year old guy that quite frankly, doesn't have any friends. The few that I called friends aren't my friends at all. I had two friends. One, who basically threw me under the bus and told the other that he hopes I get in a terrible accident so that my girlfriend leaves me. The other, who, after getting an SO, completely dropped me. The only friend I have is my girlfriend of a two and a half years, who also recently got a bunch of friends who talk bad about me to her. I know she cares deeply about me, but I feel as if her friends talking down about me and telling her that I have no friends will lead to her thinking the same, and ultimately, feeling like I'm no longer important.\n\nI wish I could say that It doesn't make me feel insecure, but, well, it does. And I don't let that show because I need my man juice to keep the girl around, so I generally exude as much confidence as I can muster, but deep down, I know that for some reason no one likes me and I know that I don't really have any friends. Is there any way to be solo; but have fun without friends? Reddit is my saving grace these days aside from the occasional gaming binge and workout sessions.", "summary": "I don't have any friends and I was wondering if reddit could give me tips on making some. Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_14g1t6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my class presentation.", "post": "So today my project team and I were giving a presentation. It was about a big multinational's operations in Asia. I spoke about the company's strong focus on food products, and that it should instead focus more on personal care products. \nThen someone (Asian girl) from the audience said:'' hold on, that company is already focussing heavily on personal care products, and not on food. You are saying the opposite of what is true.''\nI didn't really know how to respond. I wasn't terribly sure if what I had claimed was true, since I got it from some website, but she seemed to be certain. So this made me look like an idiot and it messed up my whole vibe. What made matters worse, is that one of my teammates suddenly felt the urge to cry out that the girl was right and I was 100% wrong and that I should've checked my sources better. The whole class + lecturer is staring and laughing at me at this point. The lecturer also feels that this is the right time to ask more detailed questions about all of this, I couldn't properly answer any. I endured and continued my story but I knew it was a lost cause. Pretty embarrassing.", "summary": "I looked like an idiot in front of my classmates and teacher because I didn't have my facts straight. TIFU."}
{"id": "t3_3gsdj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [26F] help my friend [27M] of 9 years with his depression?", "post": "A very good friend of mine (let's call him Josh) has battled with depression and self-loathing since I met him 9 years ago. Over the years, it has either gotten worse or he's become more comfortable expressing his thoughts and feelings. I'm betting on the latter. It started with self deprecating humor and has moved to him sharing that he hates/can't stand himself. \n\nHe recently broke up with his boyfriend of about 2 years-the first serious relationship he's ever been in. The man he was with was a nice guy-but was very selfish and would never put effort into the relationship. This only exacerbated Josh's feelings of self-loathing as he believed the reason his boyfriend wasn't putting effort into the relationship was because Josh was flawed or unworthy in some way. Now that Josh ended it, he feels guilty that he hurt his (ex)boyfriend \nand keeps talking about how he's hurt the only person he's ever cared for, he's a piece of shit, doesn't deserve happiness because he's fucking disgusting, etc. \n\nI've told him that he deserves to be happy and has done nothing wrong, and have asked how I can help. I tell him that I'm always around and he can talk to me any time he wants. \n\nI know I can't cure Josh. I know I can't flip a switch and make it all go away. But is there anyway to make it even a little bit better? I fully recognize depression as a disease but I just hate to see someone I love so much going through so much pain.", "summary": "Friend is depressed, seems worse due to a breakup. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_3jn0k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [29M] overreacting to my gf's[F29] reaction to her friends dating her ex? I really don't know how to handle and have found myself distancing myself emotionally.", "post": "Long story short, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and some months.  Before we started dating, she was seeing someone, but never made official for a few months and eventually they broke it off.  This all happened a few months before we started dating.  \n\nWhen we first started dating, she once said she was confused if she still had feelings for him after running into him and talking to him one night, but then later stated she didn't and was using it as a means of pushing me away because she is afraid of getting close (she said even if she was dating him, she would have done the same to him).  This was very early on in the relationship. I thought about ending it then, but decided to trust her.  She has stated she wanted to be friends with him, but out of respect for me, wouldn't pursue that.\n\nFast forward to now, she recently found out someone she is friends with  started seeing him, and she is pissed.  She says she feels betrayed by her friends, and is very upset about the whole thing.  \n\nNow this bothers me.  Maybe it was the earlier incident in our relationship but I'm afraid she still deep down is confused or isn't completely over him yet.  She assures me she's not, and is pissed because of her friends.  Maybe it's a \"girl code\" thing (which is what one friend said to me) but personally if someone I was seeing started dating a friend and I was over it, I wouldn't care at all.  \n\nI feel very weird about the whole thing, and find myself emotionally withdrawing from her, which I don't want to do.  But I feel like I have to walk on eggshells discussing it because she isn't the most open person in the world and just sort of shuts down emotionally when I bring it up.  Am I overreacting to her reaction?  What do I do?  I love this girl, and don't want to break up, but I also feel resentment growing because of this. I'm not sure what to do to get through this.", "summary": "My girlfriend's friend started seeing her ex.  She is pissed and says it's because she feels betrayed by her friends.  I'm afraid due to earlier issues that she deep down has feelings.  How do we get through this?  She shuts down talking about this, partially because she feels like me questioning her in this is me questioning her love for me."}
{"id": "t3_1dyku6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my entire future ruined?", "post": "Hey there Reddit. I'm coming up to the end of my junior year in high school with about a 2.75 unweighted GPA and a 2.89 weighted GPA (I live in the U.S. btw). I know this isn't pretty, and I'm honestly ashamed of myself for not taking these things seriously in my past years. I recently (about 7 months ago) decided I wanted to go to a 4-year college so that I could get my BA and teach English abroad. Before that, I had very little motivation and was not very inspired to push myself. Now though, I'm very worried. Is my dream ruined because I couldn't quit fucking around these years past? Can I still go to a 4-year college? I did the math, and if I worked my ass off this next year i could bring my GPA up to about a 3.0 to a 3.1. That's way too optimistic for me though. Worst case scenario: Can I get into a 4-year college in North Carolina with a 2.8 GPA, 25 on the ACT, and a relativley OK score on the SAT? (I haven't got my scores back from the SAT, but I think I did OK). I really don't want to go to a community college (I hate everything and everyone here) and I'm also not a sports or clubs kinda guy. I do plan on doing a lot of community service though (I already have some). Information would be great guys, I'm really worried. I don't want to be stuck in the U.S. forever because I honestly think I'd kill myself. Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated. I know a lot of you guys are really helpful, and I hope AskReddit is an appropriate place to post this. I'm really sorry if it isn't! Anyway, thanks guys!", "summary": "I think I'm fucked."}
{"id": "t3_2lvy7x", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Started training for the Silver Rush 50 (x-post /r/trailrunning)", "post": "So, I've just started training for the Leadville Silver Rush 50 mile race. Part of my bucket list is to race in (and finish) the Leadville 100, and I figure that this would be a good stepping stone for running it in 2016.\n\n**Background:** I'm relatively new into running, having just ran my first marathon in October of this year.\n\n**Altitude/Location:** I live in low altitude (Chicago), but visit Colorado at 10,000 feet a few times a year, so my body has learned to adapt to high altitude pretty quickly. I've climbed my share of 14-ers, and done a fair bit of the Colorado Trail, including areas that will be run for the race, but never never at above a hiking pace.\n\n**Training Plan:** My training plan is following the Novice-to-Ultramarathon plan from The Lore of Running. I'm still a couple of months ahead of when I'm supposed to \"start\", but I want to put in a few months of increasing my speed and getting used to running regularly. My marathon training was less than perfect, towards the end, I was just doing a long run every week. I still managed to finish in 5:08, which I'm pretty happy with, because it was my first ever competitive run. I did have no clue on pacing, and went way way too fast out of the gate. Had I been smarter, I know I could have cut that down.\n\n**Shoes:** I swear by barefoot running shoes. Before them, I would get massive knee-pains, but now that's a thing of the past. Currently, I'm using Vivo Barefoots, are there better pairs?\n\n**Goal:** I would really like to improve my time a fair deal, though, and get at least a sub-10 hour time.\nIs that realistic?\n\n----\n_", "summary": "Does anybody have any advice for training for this?_"}
{"id": "t3_3c2nsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "34F with tons of anxiety about public speaking wants to know if she can learn to do it within a month?", "post": "To make it even better, the public speaking I want to do will involve delivering my mothers eulogy.\n\nI want to write something meaningful about her. I've always been good at writing, it comes from reading too much. I'm great at talking to people one on one, or in small groups of people I'm really comfortable with. People seem to like me, I think I can be entertaining when I try. But put me in front of a crowd and I literally start shaking.\n\nI know it will take some work and effort. Honestly, I've got the time for that right now. It'll give me something to do and focus on outside of taking care of my mom. But where and how do I start?\n\nIf I manage to write something I want to share with everyone, I know my mothers pastor will read it for me if I can't. I just want to try.", "summary": "I have social anxiety and tons of public speaking anxiety. I have a hair up my ass and want to give delivering my moms eulogy a shot anyway. How do I learn to not be terrified of speaking in front of a crowd? In around a month?"}
{"id": "t3_524hff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and Gf[17F] broke up yesterday, ex drug addict and party advice.", "post": "So basically me and my girlfriend broke up yesterday. I'm a recovering Benzo addict and recently got clean for my ex. I'm not sure how I'm going to stay clean while I go through this. Benzos take away all my worries in life and for those who don't know they come with deadly consequences, If you stop taking them the withdrawals can kill you(I had a seizure two weeks ago from the withdrawals). I Just don't know how to get through this without them.\n\nNow my second question is do you think it would be detrimental to my recovery from this break up to go to a large outdoor dance party that I was going to go to with my ex? I already bought the ticket and I wanna go to meet some new girls but my worst fear is I'm going to see her there, what do you guys think?", "summary": "Any Advice for a recovering addict to stay clean during a break up? Would it be a bad idea to go to a large outdoor party that I was originally going to go with to my ex?"}
{"id": "t3_3sontn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] best friend [24 M] has been saying worrying things", "post": "I've known Nick for about a year now, and we clicked almost instantly. We are extremely close - we text almost constantly, and when we aren't texting we're skyping or FaceTiming. He's even going to come spend thanksgiving with me. My point is, we're extremely close and we consider each other to be our best friend. \n\nLately he's been kind of worrying me, though. We'll be joking around, and I'll tell him he hurt my feelings and he's a jerk, and now I'm crying (in a very obviously sarcastic way!) and he'll reply with something like \"I know I'm a piece of shit\" or \"that's just how I am\" and then follow it up with a joke to change the topic. At first I thought it was him just messing around, but it's obviously not the case anymore. We mess around and talk shit to each other, and people who don't know us might think we're serious, but he's honestly one of the best friends I've ever had. When I'm sick he'll constantly check up on me, he reminds me to take it easy when I'm pushing myself, he makes sure I get enough sleep, etc. \n\nA few weeks ago I was having a really bad day, and mentioned how I feel like I'm broken because I can't feel normal. He comforted me and told me I wasn't him, I wasn't broken and i just needed to take the time to get better. I tried to tell him he wasn't broken either, but he just changed the subject. I'll be entirely honest, he can be an asshole. Sometimes he'll make a joke at the wrong time, and if you fuck him over he'll never forgive you. But he is by no means a broken or worthless person. \n\nWhenever I try to bring this up with him, he brushes it off by telling me that he's okay, and that I shouldn't worry about him. But I do worry. I love him to death, and he might be okay now but I'm terrified that one day he won't be. Should I bring it up again? Or just keep an eye on him? I honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "my best friend has been saying that he's a shitty person, how do I help him?"}
{"id": "t3_1lz5xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22f) finally got out of an emotionally abusive relationship with (22m) and I can't stop thinking about him with other girls", "post": "We were in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He became a different person due to loneliness and tried manipulating me into moving in with him. This was all after he ignored me for days, was no longer even checking in on me, didnt want to help me financially with the move, began saying how depressed he was. There are tons of more details and instances but its not really that important. He used emotional blackmail\nand stonewalling weekly.\n\nI finally broke things off with him. Not as strongly as I would have hoped. I told him I couldn't do it anymore and I can't move there with zero help, zero affection. Being ignored most of the time. He no longer seemed passionate or interested in me. He messaged me saying that he's better and wants to fix what he has done. I just responded with no, the constant rejection got to me and went no contact.\n\nBut now I'm sad thinking of him with someone else. How do I get past that yeah that could have been me but its not? How do I deal with the jealousy? I know he's not here, I'm not there, no contact helps. But I can't not think of it. I feel like I was the best for him. I sat through it all and forgave him for everything. Supported him the whole way.", "summary": "broke up with him after months of emotional abuse and now I don't want him with anyone else."}
{"id": "t3_3lcm9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 F] boyfriend [29 M] uses weed to numb his feelings. Do we have a future or am I just kidding myself?", "post": "Throwaway because he will read this. I would really appreciate some honesty, fellow Redditors. I can't see straight because I'm too close to the situation. \n\nI've been with my boyfriend for a year now. I've always known that he smokes weed, he has been smoking since age 13, and a lot, probably about 6 or 7 times a day currently. He's the same sober as he is high as far as I can see, so until I recognised his patterns it didn't bother me much: I saw it like cigarettes. \n\nSince we've been together, I've noticed that whenever we have a conversation that's even slightly emotionally stressful, he will reach straight for his stash. This happens every single time -  when I am sad about something and I lean on him for advice, when he is sad about something, when someone asks him an uncomfortable question, anything that makes him feel bad, he has to smoke. That's just how he deals. And when he's having a bad time he will stay up until 2am smoking. \n\nRecently we had dinner with my extended family and my aunt asked him if he was moving out of his parents house any time soon (he still lives with them) - it was an innocent question but I know it made him feel like a loser, and he immediately ran out of there and smoked a joint outside. \n\nI care for him so much. But I'm concerned. I want a future eventually with a husband and kids and the whole 9. But I want to be with somebody who will be there for me emotionally, and I'm worried my boyfriend can't even be there for himself. I've tried talking to him about his weed consumption, and why it's so excessive, but he either shuts down, is rude to me or becomes aggressive. I still want to be with him though and I wonder if I'm overreacting and making a big deal out of nothing. After all everyone has bad habits. Do we have a future together or am I being delusional?", "summary": "My boyfriend copes with life's problems by smoking weed. Should I consider spending my life with him or am I being delusional?"}
{"id": "t3_4o9mge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32] put on some weight after having three kids. Husband [34M] loves it... but now I feel self conscious.", "post": "Before I had children, I was very (healthily) skinny. Never went above 100LBS. My husband always seemed to be attracted to me; sex was great, always caught him checking me out even two years into the marriage, endless compliments.\n\nBut after having three children, I've gained a pretty good amount. I don't really have time to workout being a stay at home mom. I am not anywhere near obese, but I am definitely on the chubbier side. I am not the happiest with my body... however, I've noticed my husband's sex drive has heightened to the max. Wants sex every day other than a few times a week. Sometimes twice a day! And it is amazing, because he seems to be even more focused on pleasing me - giving me oral until I too exhausted from pleasure.\n\nThis would all be great, but suddenly it has started to make me question things. I wonder if he was really attracted to me five years ago. When I think about it now, I've realized a lot of the women he's expressed interest in (we're not open, but we comfortable enough in our relationship that we sometimes point out if we find someone else hot) have always been a little heavier. He hasn't said anything, but it is his type. I was far from that when we met. I am afraid the passion will be lost when I eventually lose weight.", "summary": "I believe my husband might be a chubby chaser. I was never chubby before we met. I want to lose weight, but don't want to lose the intimacy we have. Don't know if I'm just being self-conscious and it's really nothing."}
{"id": "t3_4q8jik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] still miss my ex [16F] over two years and has caused small amount of depression", "post": "I will try to keep this short. Have you ever met a girl that was perfect in every way? And then she was taken from you with out you wanting for to end? That's what happened. \n\nSo back in spring 2014, I went to a Springfield trip. When we were heading back, me and my friend started talking to these two girls. We had fun talking but he stopped. It was just me, her (my ex), and the other girl. We chatted for a while. My ex and I exchanged Facebook's. Yes I know. Childish. Later on we started talking and we started video chatting everyday. A month later it got serious. We were in love. I actually felt like I loved her. Later on I met up with her at her house to meet up. Yea. We really liked each other. \n\nLater when highschool for freshman started approaching, we were worried that we would get too busy. While we were in a relationship, I was moving. 100 miles away. When highschool started, we got busy. I missed her. After a month, I talked to her about how girls kept \"shipping\" me.\n\nShe told me that it seems like you have your situation handled and we gotten busy. She put me down gently. That's what she thought. It was horrible emotionally. \n\nI tried dating other girls but they were either not like her or they didn't work out. No one wanted real relationships too. Highschool is full of bubblegum relationships. The girl I broke up with, we still talked. Often. \n\nTime travel to this year. I started talking to her and she has become an emotional mess because she has dated guys but they would break her heart in a week or so. I gave her a hint that I still want her and she appreciates it but she said she is a mess. Minutes later I ask her if she wanted to meet up this summer. She said yes.", "summary": "I miss my ex over 2 years. She was perfect. Can't compare her to other people. How to get over my ex or get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_2adask", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my FWB [25 F] of 2 months - Not sure if should insist or let it go", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI recently broke up with my FWB as I started developing feelings for her. Decided to ask her if we we're on the same page and unfortunately got a 'no' in reply.\n\nThe one thing that it's bothering me and makes me wonder a lot is the several signs I got from her during this \"relationship\"\n\n- Told me at the start that we shouldn't hang out with her friends because it \"might be weird\" but would still tell me to join her and them whenever they went out and one time when she was at a female friends place (because I didn't have any plan that night and would probably stay in)\n\n- Asked me out of nowhere \"how's my tinder doing\" and suggested that she could give me advice on it but quickly said \"better not\". When asked why she said \"It's weird... maybe\"\n\n- Even when on her period, she would invite me over to her place to watch a movie and cuddle.  \n\n- Always sweet even when she warned me before that she might be in an terrible mood.\n\n- When I told our mutual friend that we were \"seeing each other\" he replied that it was expected (been debating if I should ask him why did he thought that....)\n\nHonestly, I'm not looking for a SO right now but I really enjoy hanging out with her. She's my type of girl and I find it hard to believe that she doesn't have feelings for me.\n\nShould I take a step back and try to conquer her or just let it go ?\n\nI would like to stay friends with her despite knowing that it will be hard... unfortunately :\\", "summary": "Ended FWB because expressed feelings for her but not sure if I should try to turn a \"no\" into a \"yes\" or just let it go"}
{"id": "t3_12423i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M21] how to deal with stalking ex [F21]", "post": "I was dating a girl for about two years. I got over her relativity quickly because I simply got bored of her as she was not really much of an interesting person to myself after the beginning information share. I have now started a new relationship recently and it seems when I go to meet my new girlfriend [21] she appears not interrupting us or anything but its an out of the way location so there is no logical explanation for her to appear almost every time how do i make sure shes far away from us? I have stopped looking at her facebook all together so i assumed she has done the same.", "summary": "how do i get rid of a stalker"}
{"id": "t3_54r20q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost being bored to death. Literally.", "post": "So this happened maybe about an hour ago. I'm a college student and I have a class every Tuesday morning that I really don't care for. The class consists of entirely boring and dull subject matter and takes place in a lecture hall with 200+ other students. On top of that, the professor speaks in a quiet, monotone voice and likes to keep the lights dim in the hall so we can see the projections. I was sitting in the back of the hall today and feeling particularly tired and groggy. As the professor droned on, I could feel my eyelids getting heavy and I started to zone out. I was holding a freshly sharpened pencil in my hand on my fold-out desk in front of me. The pencil's point was sticking up vertically. I was doing my best to stay awake, but all of a sudden I slipped off into dream land. My head began to fall forward toward my desk and I was very suddenly awakened by a loud BANG and a sharp pain on my head. I looked down at my desk and saw drops of blood. Apparently I had fallen asleep and my head fell onto my vertical, very sharp pencil. I have a huge scratch going from my eyebrow up my forehead to my hairline. If my hand had been half an inch lower the pencil would have gone straight into my eye in a manner very similar to the Joker's Magic trick.", "summary": "I almost stabbed myself in the eye with a pencil because I fell asleep in class."}
{"id": "t3_2sxmr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Valentine's Day", "post": "What is considered reasonable for Valentine's Day on a gf [25F] of 2 years? I [24M] have an very well paying job and can afford to buy a nice gift and go for a nice dinner. I just don't ever feel comfortable spending $200-300 on a gift followed up by a $100 dinner. \n\nI tried saying she could just take care of dinner as my present so that way I could be fine with spending the money on a gift but this just made her more angry. \n\nIt is of note that she is in law school. Even out of law school I don't imagine this dynamic would change, I actually expect it to get even more lavish expectations.", "summary": "My gf wants to make valentine's day \"special\" at my expense."}
{"id": "t3_15npyb", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Am I over Vanguarding?", "post": "Everyone always seems to recommend Vanguard funds and when I did the research for quite a few things, their expenses really are significantly lower. The returns haven't been bad either. I'm wondering if when we talk about diversification, if that also means not having all my money with Vanguard funds -- here's how I'm exposed to Vanguard right now:\n\n* 401k --> 100% Vanguard Target Retirement\n* Roth IRA --> 80% VFIAX (Vanguard 500 Admiral) and 20% VGHCX (Healthcare fund)\n* Regular brokerage for savings (extra savings) --> 90% VFIAX and some individual stocks for nostalgic reasons (<10%)\n* 529 plan for kids --> Vanguard age-based option through my state's 529 manager\n\nMy employer luckily still offers a pension, which represents a bulk of my retirement savings and will be my primary source of retirement income.", "summary": "All my non-pension savings (retirement, 529, other investments) are with Vanguard. Is that bad?"}
{"id": "t3_crrcd", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Looking for credit advice... have cash to pay off car loan... whats the best way for my credit score  (details inside)", "post": "So Ill try to keep this as simple as possible.\n\nI have a car financed through Honda and have been paying on it for about 4 out of the 5 year term so I'm pretty much down to just finishing off the interest.\n\nI decided to cash out a mutual fund and use the cash to ease some monthly bill by paying down debts... also maybe buy a few toys and take a vacation but thats not really the point.\n\nLast few months Ive been a little slow in paying on the car so I imagine there could be some \"30 day late\" marks on my credit report.\n\nbuyout on the car is about $7000 right now.\n\nSo that's the background... here's the question:\n\nShould I\n\na) put all the money to cover future payments in a new checking account and just do 2x auto pay for a few months to add some \"on time\" payments to my credit report and then pay it off in one lump sum after that's happened for a while?\n\nor\n\nb) just pay the whole thing off right now and be done with it as soon as I get the check from my banker dude?\n\nI dont know which would look better on the credit report, showing the ability to make payments on time after a while of being late or paying the whole thing off early.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be appreciated. I have a few days before the check gets here (and my next payment is due) so I have some time to think about it.\n\nsomebody told me to refinance it because that's another \"acceptance\" to add to the credit report but I don't wanna refinance when all I have left to pay is interest from the first loan.\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "which is better for paying off a loan: string of on-time payments or lump sum early pay off?*"}
{"id": "t3_2zr2dr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[m/21] do I tell my crush [f/21] of 9+ years how I feel about her", "post": "I met this girl around 10 years ago and have liked (maybe even loved) her ever since. She has almost always had a boyfriend and we've always been good friends. We would hang out often and I've come close to telling her how I feel a few times. Well 3 years ago I moved to a different state and we stopped talking completely for no reason other than distance I guess. I often think of her and recently I decided to text her and see how she was doing. We texted back and forth for a couple of days, mainly small talk. She's doing well and has another boyfriend, etc. so my question is should I just tell her how I feel? Would it even have any meaning now? I don't want to put her in an awkward position and not speak to her for another 3 years. And how would I even bring it up?", "summary": "do I inform my long time crush that I've barely spoken to in 3 years(who has a bf) of my feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_4omc4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [21F] of 14 months broke up with me a few months ago and now I love her more than ever", "post": "So a bit of backstory. Me and my ex-girlfriend met in work almost 2 years ago, I was 18, she was 20. We instantly hit it off and I asked her out after a month, she said yes.\n\nThings went pretty well for most of it. She was the first person I had sex with and I was her first boyfriend who treated her right. But the last 2 or 3 months of our relationship became a little bit rocky. I worked a lot and she had University so we struggled to see each other. I'm also not much of a texter but I really tried for her because I know she wanted to talk to me even though it wasn't enough.\n\nA few times in those months I myself questioned whether we where meant to be together but whenever I thought about not having her in my life I felt sick. I knew I still loved her. But back in mid March she texted me telling me we had to meet up because she wanted to tell me something in person. I told her that all I could think was that she either cheated on me or was breaking up with me, so really I forced her into breaking up with me over text.\n\nThe first few days where kind of shit but I got over her relatively quickly, and after a week I wasn't really thinking about her at all. But about 2 weeks ago someone mentioned something to do with her and all these feelings I had for her instantly came rushing back like a tidal wave and I felt sick knowing she didn't love me anymore.\n\nSo I've basically spent the last 2 weeks with the intense feeling of butterflies in my stomach because I love this person so much that I can't stop thinking about them but knowing they don't love me back.\n\nI have the opportunity to go to a wedding we where both invited to when we where dating (we both know the people getting married) but since she's a bridesmaid she's obviously going to be there so it's kinda been taken for granted that I'm not going even though I still work with the bride and everyone I work with (about 70 people) is going. I don't know if I should go or not.\n\nAny and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "I still love my ex-girlfriend and cant get over her. I'm invited to a wedding that she's a bridesmaid at, should I go? And what do I do in general?"}
{"id": "t3_i9dkn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dearest Reddit, I need advice about easing the passing of my dying friend", "post": "I have a friend who is literally dying from cancer.  He is a 40 year old artist and I admit that I've only known him on and off for a year.  But I seem to be one of the very few that will visit him in the hospital on a regular basis.  I have no experience in dealing with the dead or dying. The diagnosis is really bleak.  A week ago they gave him 6 or 7 weeks to live.  They are unable to do biopsies because his blood won't clot.  Today I walked in on the doctor telling him that they may have to amputate his legs.  \n\n I can only sit and listen and try to provide a distraction for a couple of hours.  I gave him some Archer & Squidbillies to watch and \"The Walking Dead Compendium\" to read.  & my e-cigarette too.  Of which he was thankful.   But what else can I do to ease his passing?  I just sit, listen & try to crack silly inappropriate  jokes.   He wanted to go skydiving.  He can barely get into a wheelchair. \n \nAny advice would be whole-heartedly appreciated.  Even it is just activities to do while chillin' in the hospital.  I am just bearing witness and my soul is breaking.  Mahalo.", "summary": "how do you ease the passing of a bedridden friend?"}
{"id": "t3_22oxck", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog overcoming her fears, one self aware human at a time.", "post": "Our Penny has always hated the car since the day we adopted her.  She was a 2 year old rescue, and had almost no exposure to the car before we got her.  We felt bad every time we drove around with her, and she was miserable, stressed, and often vomited.  We thought she got motion sick.\n\nWhat we realized is that she didn't know how to handle the movements of a car, so she flopped around and fell constantly, and was generally very unstable.  So the only time we ever did drive her somewhere was to the vet.\n\nRecently I've been taking her to doggy daycare during the day, and she absolutely loves it there.  Combine that with the fact that I've been driving like a total grandma taking curves, turns, and stops as gently as I can.  To the point where I feel bad for the people who drive behind me.  Since then Penny has been perfectly cool in the car and has even started to lay down and taken naps while I drive!\n\nI'm quite happy that she's learning to hate the car less, and that I'm learning how to make it a better experience for her.  And I wanted to share.", "summary": "Dog hated car because her humans were unaware jerks who drove like assholes and she didn't feel stable or safe.  We are learning how to be better humans for our dog."}
{"id": "t3_p8xfd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Time to make a stand: US government is destroying the constitution!", "post": "I'm making a short concise list of the ridiculous things the US government is doing. I'm going to post it to facebook in an attempt to \"wake\" up my friends to what's going on in our country. Here's what I have so far. Anything missing/unclear?\n\nThe PATRIOT Act: Attempt at counter terrorism. Increased government surveillance on US citizens. Allows warrant less searches, tramples on 4th amendment rights granted by the constitution.\n\nNDAA: Bill regarding military spending for 2012 . Attached provision possibly allows for indefinite detention of US citizen without trial. Allows indefinite detention for \"enemy combatants\" or persons who commit \"belligerent acts\" without trial. Based on interpretation, may trample on 6th amendment rights.\n\nSOPA/PIPA: Proposed by Representative Lamar Smith. Attempt to battle online copyright infringement and piracy. Defeated in congress, but threatened free speech and innovation, and allowed law enforcement to block access to entire websites due to infringing material posted on/by a single blog/webpage/user. Tramples on 1st amendment rights.\n\nPCIP: Proposed by Representative Lamar Smith. Attempt to battle child pornography making it a crime to distribute/purchase child pornography. Would require ISPs to monitor all incoming/outgoing data from your computer. Including name, address, phone number, credit card numbers and bank account numbers. Tramples on 1st and 4th amendment rights.\n\nACTA: Attempt to battle copyright infringement of physical and digital works internationally. Negotiated in secret by 31 countries. Current form would force ISPs to monitor all internet users, collecting incoming/outgoing data from personal computers. Tramples on 1st and 4th amendment rights.", "summary": "Trying to make it clear to my friends the things the US gov is doing."}
{"id": "t3_2u4hfg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having auto locks", "post": "So after reading a similar post i figured i'd post a story about my unfortunate run in with automatic locks. \n\nSo two friends and my self were looking for a new apartment and we were at this one complex that was quite large and it was raining slightly. So naturally the apartment we were going to viewing was on the far side of the complex because that's our luck. Now the lady that was showing us the unit was about our age and pretty attractive.\n\nSo the lady said their was a golf cart we could ride over there however it had already been checked out by another agent so we would have to walk. At this point my friend suggest I drive us over there since it was raining and what not and I agree cause what could go wrong? So we're all in my car and driving and she's pitching us the apartment and such normal bullshit. Well after a while she makes a comment about how the management doesn't actually like them to ride in peoples cars because who knows what people will do to them and such. \n\nNow I shit you not no sooner than she finishes that sentence do my doors make a loud locking sound. My doors automatically lock if the car goes above a certain speed and she just happened to finish her sentence at the same time i hit that magic number. The lady goes sheepishly white and silent for the rest of the ride all the while my friends are in the back seat busting out laughing. Needless to say it was a very short showing and we did not end up living there. \n\nKinda long sorry", "summary": "a Realtor rode in my car with me and as she was telling me she shouldn't be in the car with me because of weirdos my doors lock and the lady thinks of all the terrible things I could do to her (which I don't BTW)"}
{"id": "t3_32losk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First Text Question!", "post": "So I started talking to this girl on tinder today. It was probably the best that a tinder convo has ever gone for me. Eventually I had to go, so I asked for her number which she gave me.\n\nI texted her like 20 minutes later with my name and said it had been nice talking to her. Nothing warranting a reply directly, but I guess I was kind of expecting one. It's been a good few hours since the initial text.\n\nMy plan was to text her tomorrow and ask her to do something, but I feel as though I should refrain from contacting her again until she's sent me something in reply?", "summary": "What should I do if there's no reply to my \"Hi, this is jazzbee. Was great talking with you, hope you have a nice evening\" text within 24 hours?"}
{"id": "t3_1bww1y", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating my sister's doppelganger, Is this weird? [late twenties]", "post": "The first thing a family member said to me when they first met her was, \"She looks like exactly like trill_away's sister!\" \n\nNow, we started dating via OKCupid. Both upper twenties and looking to settle down and start a family (not ASAP, but eventually.) She messaged me first, so it's not like I saw her across a room and thought, \"this girl looks like my sister. Let me go pick her up.\" Far from it. We do, however, get along *really* well\n\nWe've been dating for two weeks, roughly. After the first date, I was a little weirded out about the whole situation, but after the second date, I could see enough differences between them that I got comfortable with the idea of dating her. I do get these weir moments though when we're talking where their mannerisms are exactly the same.\n\nWe get along great. My family, however, after first meeting her, is concerned about the psychological effects of dating someone that looks exactly like my sister.\n\nI'm also afraid that if they ever get in the same room together, my sister and girlfriend looking at each other face-to-face might create some sort of deep universal chasm that will destroy the earth. \n\nWhat do I do Reddit? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What happened?", "summary": "My sister's doppelganger might be \"the one,\" but I'm afraid her doppelgangerness will poison our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2igcvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] dating [25 F] of about 2 months , receiving mixed messages, need an outside perspective.", "post": "We've known, very little, each other for a few years (only once or twice a year group meet-ups though.) We hooked up 2 months ago and kept in touch and went on some dates while exchanging plenty of texts/sexts.\n\nAt the time of the hook-up, she had just taken on a new (2nd) job that demands a lot of her time in the evenings/weekends while working normal hours in the weekday. Which is all fine and we talked about it being slightly difficult meeting up but she said wanted to date, sharing suggestive texts during the busy weeks to keep things interesting.\n\nThe weekend before last, we had organised a day to see each other several days in advance, but half an hour before, she has to cancel due to a work request she couldn't turn down. (interviewing musicians and music scene). Which is all true, and I can understand since this is what she's always wanted to do this as a career, and suggests meeting during the weekday where she has a full free day to spend more time with me (we only ever had hour long dates as both our schedules conflicted which have gone well as she has stated that).\n\nIt comes to the day before but I get no response from her about the date and I just carry on my usual day to day stuff. Three days later I get a text saying sorry for no contact, that she has been very busy and all over the place, and, can we put the dating aspect on hold an be friends. (I have yet to respond as im not sure what to say, I can understand taking it slow but am I being led on a string or being easily let down??)\n\nJust to note, she had been in a long relationship that finished a year ago that was not socially fulfilling/boring and with her new found freedom wanted to get out and enjoy life, which is now non-stop and she seems a lot more energetic but also demands a lot, which of course I admire her for as we both have similar life goals that we're going for and she has just gotten into a new path in her career that she is aiming for.", "summary": "Wants to date, is interested, flirty but keeps pushing me back and now, wants to be friends due to her demanding hectic schedule. "}
{"id": "t3_2q044d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my partner [30 M] of 2 years, Our relationship is not typical.. So I don't know what to do with this issue.", "post": "This is a throwaway because I don't feel comfortable posting from my account! \n\nMe and my partner have a open relationship by our weird definition. It started out as poly and it evolved into a open ish monogamous relationship. \nI currently have sex with one person [him] But i have a girlfriend as well [29 F] So I am emotionally poly as in I need emotional bonds with people not always sexual.\n\nThe problem is because this has worked out so well. Me and my partner [30 M] do not communicate how we should.\n\nFor example there's parts of his personality I cannot bring out of him that few people can. And I've learned to take it as a positive thing.\n\nWe cannot see each others point of view on things because we interpret it differently. But instead of arguing we agree to disagree and he shares a piece of himself with friends that understand his logic and point of view.\n\nThis has become a underlining problem because we have options on being emotionally available to other people that sometimes its just easier to stop in the middle of a sentence and go \" I am talking to the wrong person about this\" \n\nBecause of this i feel like our relationship is coasting. No arguing but a part of my partner personality that I don't get to see.\n\nIs this a potential problem? Or am I just making a mountain out of a pebble?", "summary": "Things are GREAT! But.. Is it okay being with someone who can only share part of their personality?"}
{"id": "t3_4c889z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] feeling frustrated with my friend [20 F]", "post": "I asked out this girl at work. Was the first girl i ever asked out, she said no. Which felt like \"your not good enough\" each time i saw her, so I tried to put distance while still being her friend, didn't work too well, still fell for again. \nSo tried putting more space while showing no hard feelings, but doing this is causing her to say stuff like \"I need you in my life\". When we are talking on our work phones i hear people in the background teasing her about the way she is talking to me. There are other things she does that is making me feel she is interested and start to fall for her again.", "summary": "How do I tell her that I thought i could be friends, but i can't it just feels like the worst kind of tease?"}
{"id": "t3_4ul1t2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paid a debt, but the debt keeps getting reported to multiple aggressive collection agencies. What can I do to get this to stop?", "post": "I owed $500 to a car rental company for hail damage (even though it was shady and illegitimate, but that's another story outside of the scope of this subreddit). This company did not give me any information on how to send payment to them and were generally unhelpful.\n\nOver a month ago, I received my first collections notice, which I paid and sent to the address of the rental company. This check was cashed a few days later. Since then, I have received four other collection notices from separate agencies trying to collect on the same debt. When trying to call the damage unit of the rental company itself, they have not responded to my multiple calls. I have resorted to emailing them, but I'm not optimistic about them responding.\n\nUltimately, I want to know if them reporting to multiple agencies will have a bigger effect on my credit score. Additionally, what is the protocol for clearing up this issue?\n\nThis whole ordeal has been going on since March, and I am at my wit's end. I would like this to just be over now that I have paid them.", "summary": "I paid my $500 debt, but four agencies are still contacting me to collect on this paid debt."}
{"id": "t3_4qcdrp", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You wanna be a complete asshole? Two can play that game.", "post": "I went to my local gym the other day, forgot a lock for my locker so I went to the register and asked the girls very kindly if they could hold onto my phone while I worked out (they have lockable mini shelves precisely for that reason).\n\nThey were both completely glued to their phones and just kind of ignored me at first, when I asked for the second time one of them brought the bitchy effect and said, \"No it's all full, goodbyyyye\". I noticed quite obviously that most of them were empty.\n\nSo I start plotting my revenge scheme and crafted the most genius plan of all time!\n\nI walked back to the register and said, \"Sorry girls, I just found this phone, I think someone lost it\". One of them took the phone and put it in one of the many empty lockable shelves.\n\nSo after my exercise, I simply walked back to the twins, ask is someone had turned in a lost iPhone. The girl who took the phone was like \"didn't you just bring the phone to use because you said someone lost it?\" I claimed that I had no idea what she was talking about, proved my ownership by opening the phone with my fingerprint.\n\nBOOM!", "summary": "I tricked lazy employees to do their jobs"}
{"id": "t3_4ntcq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M] Feeling down because of my dull life", "post": "When I left for basic training and AIT I was a shy low self-esteem guy, but when I came back from training I had so much confidence, albeit I was a little shy, I could've stricken up a conversation with anybody. I came back healthier, muscular, fit and possibly better looking lol, but recently I've been feeling really down because of how dull and empty my life is and the only time I'm happy is when I'm at the gym, and it started after I got out of a relationship with my first love.\n\nI'm starting to feel disconnected with my friends every time we hangout (1-2 a week) because we do the same thing every week and that's play video games and I watch them play pool. I've told them that we should do something different like walk around the city, go to a club, something outdoors, or anything social, but they always say no. They rather just stay indoors and play among each other than go out and enjoy life. Another reason they won't is because my friends little brother [16/M] hangs out with us and they want to do things he can do too.\n\nI'd rather go out to the lake, party, exercise, outdoor activities, anything social, but the few friends I have don't find this fun. I really want to meet more extroverted people, but I don't know how I can do that by myself. I've signed up for softball, flag-football, and a spartan race (all start this week) in the hopes of meeting new people with similar interests. I regularly go to the gym and I'd like to make some gym friends but I'm too shy to strike up a conversation or find a way to say hi.\n\nI also miss being in a relationship. Not going out and meeting new people is making it hard to get over her. Although I feel that I may be over her, its just the feeling of sharing mutual love physically and emotionally that I miss.", "summary": "My friends are dull and I want to meet more extroverted people, but how?"}
{"id": "t3_4663x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am so much less emotional than my SO [22F] and it's starting to make her upset", "post": "Me and my SO have made a rule since we started dating that we don't get each other presents for holidays. We usually just do something fun like camp/hike and then make a BIG fancy dinner together. I love these days because I get to spend really intimate time with my SO. I asked her to do this at the beginning of our relationship because well... I just honestly don't give a shit about presents, material or emotional. However even though we made this rule, she insists every holiday to work really really hard on some emotional present. Ranging from a light board simulating the night sky the day we met, to a whole photo album with a page about how each picture means so much to her. I of course never get her anything because I figure that this will be the time she actually follows my requests of no presents. But alas she never does and I have to end up faking about how meaningful it is to me. Of course I never fake it well enough and she sees right through it and gets super upset. This valentines day was the worst yet because I could barely even remember the days she picked out to make paintings of. We work so well together other than this. I don't want to hurt her, but I also don't want to fucking fake this for the rest of my life. Its gotten so that I'm actually apprehensive of holidays :/", "summary": "Teach me how to give a shit about emotional memories."}
{"id": "t3_tlca9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey my fellow four-eyed redditors, what's the most awkward, embarrassing or worst situation you've been in with your glasses? I'll start.", "post": "I have really really bad eyesight and I used to have these really cool prescription glasses that could bend in almost any way and not break (I forgot what brand they looked exactly like normal glasses). So obviously, the point of the glasses were to withstand REGULAR everyday tension but me, as a 10 year old, thought it was the coolest magic trick. So I would show my friends but one day, as a group formed around me and I was about to Criss Angel their asses, I bent it in half and hold it in a fist as I showed it around like some sort of specimen. And then the unthinkable happened. CRACK. BOOM. They break. Right in half down the middle. I was horrified and embarrassed and had no idea what to do. I look down at the two pieces that once were my ticket to elementary school popularity and silently (and metaphorically) wept in the emptiness of my heart. I went home that day and told my dad what had happened. He told me he could fix them. I was SO HAPPY. He ended up putting a metal bar in between the frame which made it look like I had a huge unibrow that was attached to my glasses and I was forced to wear it for the rest of the year as punishment.", "summary": "When I was 10, I had glasses that were made to bend. I thought I was cool and bent them in my hand. They broke. My dad stapled a metal bar to the frame to put it back together and made me wear it all school year."}
{"id": "t3_2wnfzy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by appearing to be a sexual predator", "post": "So this happened about 40 minutes ago on my way home from the gym. I always like to walk to my gym because it's only about a 15 minute walk from my dorm and I enjoy all the sights and sounds along the way. Well anyways, I was on my way home and as i was cutting through a parking lot I noticed a pretty cool sticker on the back of somebodies window. The windows had a really dark tint to them and the sticker was the state of Hawaii with the islands connected to look like a bonsai tree. I was staring at the sticker as i passed the car when a man gets out of the drivers seat and walks at me like he's going to confront me, sure enough the man stops me and the conversation goes something like this\n\n  Man: \"Were you looking at my son?!\"\n\n  Me: \"Your son?\"\n\n  Man: \"My son was changing in the backseat and I saw you staring at him you fucking perv\"\n\n  Me: \"Uhhh no? I honestly have no clue what you're talking about.\"\n\n  Man: \"Don't fucking lie to me I saw you stare through the window as you walked past!\"\n\n  Me: \"Oh... I was looking at that sticker of Hawaii you had on the back of your car.\"\n\n  Man: \"You're a fucking liar! I'm going to call the cops!\"\n\n  Me: \"Look at your rear window, how could I see inside your car when its almost 8:00 and your tints are that dark?\"\n\n  Man: \".... Get the hell out of here before I call the police.\"\n\nI get where the guy was coming from but Christ It would suck having to be labeled a sex offender for some bullshit misunderstanding like that.", "summary": "Don't read window stickers."}
{"id": "t3_3k6u5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] have been dating ten months, we're hitting a problem with our sex life due to her disease", "post": "I'm at the end of my rope with this and I come to you for help Reddit. A little background information:\nI'm 21(M) and my girlfriend is 23(F) and we have been dating for 10 months. We're long distance, same state but two hours away and both have an apartment (I with two roommates, her with none.) Things were going well, but soon I realized she wasn't as open to sex early on as I was. I was willing to wait, for actual sex. Anal she said she really didn't want to, which I understood. Oral was also tough for her because according to her, an ex-boyfriend forced her to do oral so it is hard for her to do it now. For the time being we were limited by her, to making out, fingering her and eating her out and her providing hand jobs (I never came from them, and often just asked her to stop).\n\n 7 months into the relationship she developed vulvodynia, a chronic condition which according to her and her doctors, her muscles in her pelvic area and legs are constantly clenched and painfully tight, due to nerve problems. This made our already limited sex life drop even further. The most we can do now is making out heavily. We've tried some things, like me humping her leg, and while it slightly helped, it doesn't do much for me and made me feel rather humiliated to have to do this to do anything. \n\nWe've started fighting now due to her not willing to compromise on doing anything sexual. I've attempted sexting, which she can't get into, nudes she doesn't want to do because she is not very confident in her body due to the disease, and oral for the same issue. This leaves me feeling powerless and with a lack of control or say in the relationship. I just don't know what to do. I do love her, I care about her, and when we are together, the fighting doesn't really happen.", "summary": "I am asking for ways to approach this topic of sexual intimacy with my girlfriend with vulvodynia. Approaching it in a better way that won't leave her feeling like I'm accusing or forcing her, and any possible alternatives to traditional sexual intimacy."}
{"id": "t3_34faed", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by (apparently) using a Dyson Airblade tap in a restaurant the wrong way", "post": "So I was in a fancy restaurant today and in the bathroom they had one of these completely unnecessary [Dyson Airblade taps] Dyson airblade taps where the hand dryer is integrated into the tap.\n\nThis is actually supposed to *PREVENT* water splatter across the floor from people walking with their dripping hands to an external hand dryer (First World problems, I know :/ )\n\nAnyway, I haven't seen this kind of hand dryer/tap before, so I had no idea how to use it. So I put a bunch of this foamy luxury soap kind of shit on my hands and washed them, since I am a civilized person who washes his pooey hands after taking a shit.\n\nThen I put my hands beneath these two bars and was shocked by that MASSIVE BLAST of air coming out of these slits. I reflexively snapped my hands back from the sink, leading to the airblast spreading the foamy residue water left in the sink ALL OVER THE GODDAMN MIRROR, the floor, the sink frame, my face and pretty much everything else.\n\nIf there had been blood instead of water, it would have looked as if someone had been shot in the head with a shotgun in there. \n\nMy hands where still drippingly wet of course, so I put them under that phallic fancy brushed aluminum piece of shit again, but even though I used it right this time (according to the video as I figured later) it still unavoidibly formed an air vortex beneath my hands and the sink, still spreading foam all over the sink frame. Not that much this time, but far enough that the desired effect of preventing splatter is gone.\n\nNeedless to say, after returning to my table I paid my bill immediately and fled.\n\nIn hindsight, I think that this is a common occurence with these taps, since the goddamn air blast is so freakin strong that it's not possible to avoid the vortex.", "summary": "Maloperated a tap-integrated hand dryer that is designed to prevent water splatter in a way that it caused foamy water to splatter all over the goddamn bathroom"}
{"id": "t3_4xftw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [47F] mom is mad at me [17M] because I slept with her best friend's [40s] daughter [16F]. I don't understand what I did wrong.", "post": "I think she is way too upset about this and overreacting. I can see how it could be awkward for her knowing, and I definitely wish she hadn't learned about it by catching us in bed, but it's not a big deal. I'm sure we're not the first kids to sleep together even though our parents are best friends. The fact is this is something we both wanted, but my mom acts like I took advantage of her friend's daughter or did something bad. I didn't, so I don't understand what I did wrong. She never told me not to go near her friend's daughter, and it's not like I tried to hide my feelings for her. \n\nThe problem is that ever since she caught us in bed together two weeks ago, my mom barely speaks to me. I've tried to ask her why she's mad at me, but she won't say anything so I don't know why she's upset. I can only guess. The only thing she told me was that I was not allowed to see her friend's daughter again, which didn't stop me, and that it wasn't an appropriate relationship but didn't say why. \n\nI don't know what I should do, so I'm looking for advice.", "summary": "Slept with the daughter of my mom's best friend. My mom caught us together and flipped out and now she won't speak to me. She won't even tell me why she's mad, so I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do."}
{"id": "t3_ovowc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate's brother is dating a pornstar - he doesn't know. Should I tell him?", "post": "My roommate's brother came over tonight with his new girlfriend. She looked very familiar to me, but I couldn't put my finger on why. When I introduced myself and heard her name, it all clicked. \n\nBackground: When I was in highschool, I worked at a local ski hill as a snowboard instructor. There was a girl working in the cantine (cafeteria) that every guy drooled over. Never heard much about her until later on, while I was in university, when a friend from back home showed me a link about the girl. \n\nIt wasn't like she was an \"exotic\" model, or something. She was in some fairly intense porn. Not the kind of porn you'd like to picture your significant other participating in. Several guys, one girl...didn't look like fun.\n\nOf course, [evidence](\n\nAnyhow, it's clear that neither my roommate or his brother know about this girl's past.\n\nI need advice about whether I should tell my roommate! Should I just suck it up until they break up and then reveal it? what if they never break up and I haven't said anything?", "summary": "my roommate's brother is dating a girl who did (dirty) porn. Should I tell him???"}
{"id": "t3_31el1b", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Looking for workout ideas to help increase the distance I'm able to run without going to a gym", "post": "Hello all! I am a passionate (mostly trail) runner looking to step up my game this summer by increasing my distance. Currently I am running 20-30 miles a week (long runs are usually 10 but up to 15 miles) but I would like to be able to hit the marathon distance. \n\nI don't really have too much of a problem running 10 miles however I seem to hit a wall at the 15 mile distance where I can feel my form deteriorating and I don't run too much more after this because I'm afraid of injuring myself. I used to get this way around 10-12 miles but have focused on my core simply by doing lots of wall sits, planks, mountain climbers, and lots and lots of stretching. My work has helped me improve a bit but needless to say, I could use some more tips for other core and hopefully leg strengthening exercises! \n\nMore background if it helps I do partake in a bit of biking (I commute about 1.5 miles round trip to work on a bike 5 days a week) and I also work a retail job on my feet all day. Things I could incorporate at work are welcome!", "summary": "Runnit I want to increase my distance I'm able to run without injuring myself and I am looking for tips on different exercises to help me out! Ps I don't want to go to a gym so please avoid advice that I couldn't take advantage of without going to a gym. Thank you all!!!"}
{"id": "t3_36bk5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] Me(M27) and my gf(F25) stopped being intimate and I want to figure out a way to help get her back in the mood", "post": "Recently my girlfriend has had some legal trouble and it had been a hellish 3 weeks or so for us romantically. I've found that I need to give her more space and respect that she's going through a hard time and doesn't want to have sex and barely wants to be intimate anymore. I understand it's just that I am feeling like she doesn't want me anymore. Recently I've been allowed to kiss her and touch her more. Maybe this is a sign of good things to come? Do I continue to give her space and try not to get butt hurt that I've been masturbating almost every day for a month? Is there anyone who can give me advice because I am coming up empty.", "summary": "girlfriend has stopped almost all intimacy for the passed month. Is there any one who can give me advice to help her get her groove back?"}
{"id": "t3_1ujja6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] and my SO [26 M] are celebrating our year anniversary, and neither of us can think of anything to do. Help!", "post": "Not sure if this is the place to be posting this, but I'm really desperate. Our original plan was to go on a five day cruise, but he switched jobs and there are some issues with getting the time off. We were thinking about doing a 3 day cruise instead, but I'm not sure that I want to pack a cruise into three days. Does anyone have any ideas that might be able to be packed into three days and not cost an arm and a leg? We've had a crazy year and I want something special to seal this one and look forward to the next. Also, my elderly father lives with us, so bonus points if it gets us away from that situation for a night or so.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have a 3 day window to do something to celebrate our one year anniversary. I want it to be special, get us out of the house, and not cost a bundle. HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_430lwm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my boyfriend [21 M/F] of 1 year differ on what constitutes healthy communication vs emotional manipulation", "post": "I told my boyfriend that it bothered me when he nonchalantly says \"fuck.\" He said it a lot, and after I explained that I'd rather not hear it, he stopped. I thought the issue was resolved.\n\nSo imagine my surprise when he mentioned later that he felt like I was trying to control his speech and emotionally manipulate him, which bothered him. This caught me by surprise, because I thought healthy communication involves telling the other person when something (especially if it's something that they do and can change) is bothering you. I definitely didn't intend to \"control\" his speech or emotionally manipulate him (!), and don't understand how it came across this way.\n\nAm I being emotionally manipulative? If not, how can I explain that that's not what I mean to do when I point out something he does that bothers me?", "summary": "Struck by how what I thought was healthy communication is viewed as emotional manipulation in bf's eyes."}
{"id": "t3_2ut1xn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] just found out my BF [37M] has an ex wife he never told me about", "post": "Title pretty much says it all. We've been together for a year and a half. I knew he was married and has a kid which I'm ok with. And a few times he's talked about his ex from a few years prior to his marriage. The most he ever said about it was that it didn't work out. Last night i was looking through an old stack of photos and found fucking wedding photos with another woman who wasn't the ex wife i was already aware of. I started to freak but took some time to cool down before i talked to him. He said it was a mistake that he was pressured into by his parents prior to being deployed to Iraq . He married her a month before deployment and the relationship lasted for only about 2 months after he returned before he realized it was a mistake and ended it. He says he never told me because it was a very dark time for him and he still has a great deal of guilt associated with the whole situation.\n\nHis explanation seems reasonable enough and I think i sort of get where he's coming from. But...fuck. I feel like shit about it. It doesn't bother me that he was married and it didn't work out. I'm upset because in spite of being very open (or so i thought) about our past, etc. He never thought to tell me that he has divorced not once but twice. And i don't know if he ever would have told me if I hadn't stumbled upon that photo. What's worse is that we live on the same property as his parents so i see them every day and neither of them apparently thought to mention it either. \n\nSo here's what I need to know. Am i making a bigger deal about this than I should? I think it's reasonable to be hurt and upset. I've been fully honest with him throughout our relationship and this feels like a serious breach of trust. I'm not sure where to go from here. I knew about the ex but he never told me that they were married. And as i see it lying by omission is still lying. Ugh...advice, anyone?", "summary": "BF never told me he was married to his ex and I'm hurt that he and his parents kept it from me."}
{"id": "t3_3wvqfv", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[TX] Daughter is being kept from me, need help ASAP", "post": "I'll get to the point, the mother of my child isn't a good person. She routinely threatens violence against me, has a history of mental instability (was in a mental institution less than a year ago for about a week), and no matter how hard i work to prove that I'm a fit father, she see's me as the person i was years ago before the child and does anything to spite me. Her most recent example of this is also the most extreme, she insists her new boyfriend is a better fit to be a father and has forbid me from picking her up on my days (every weekend, Friday after class, until Monday when i drop her off at day care on the mothers side of town)\n\nAt first I thought, fuck her. I pay for day care. I'll just pick her up and take her. Then, i came to my senses and realized that would not be fair to her, the mother, and I also could be charged with kidnapping, i think.\n\nI'm 20, my daughter is 3, the mom is 21. I live at home, go to school, and work a graveyard shift job to save for my own place once I begin my hopeful career, daily things and toys for my daughter, and pay for her day care. Needless to say, I'm paying for my mistakes, I have little money for luxury, and absolutely not enough for a decent lawyer or any kind of court fee.\n\nAll I want is to be able to see my daughter . it's been two weeks. I've considered calling the cops and saying something, but I wont be taken seriously. I don't know what to do, I just want to see my kid.\n\nI'm a good guy, clean record, not so much as a speeding ticket. I'm just very, very poor. And very, very desperate.\n\nI'm just hoping someone can guide me in the right direction. I'm so fucking angry. I changed who i was to be a good dad and this woman thinks she's god and can just take her from me at a whim.\n\nI'm sorry for ranting, I'm very emotional right now.", "summary": "daughter being kept from me because mother wants to let her new boyfriend play dad, don't want to do anything stupid, very poor and cant afford legal help. Need direction."}
{"id": "t3_32tgce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] can't get away from my girlfriend [22 F] of 2 years due to guilt", "post": "I've been dating this girl for almost 2 years now, but things have been really bad since about the 1 year mark. She is verbally abusive to the point where I want nothing to do with her sometimes. However, I keep crawling back to her for some reason that I can't explain. \n\nEveryone in my family knows how unhappy I am and what she says, so they really don't like here. She knows this and the relationships becomes even more strained. \n\nYesterday it really boiled over when she told me she had cheated on me a few weeks ago. An hour later she then said she didn't and wanted to make me hurt in the way that I have supposedly made her hurt in the past.", "summary": "I can't seem to muster the willpower to exit a relationship that has given me mental issues and anxiety attacks"}
{"id": "t3_2xa7w7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF [35F] of 3 Months - I'm going to end it with her - Opinions welcome", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI've been seeing this girl for just over 3 months now, and I feel its run its course. So, I have to do the inevitable break up.\n\nThere's not actually anything wrong with her - we get on well, we have similar interests etc... but I feel its become a relationship of convenience for me. Basically, I enjoy spending time with her when we do things - but I don't enjoy spending time with her when we're alone.\n\nShe's made it quite clear that she has strong feelings for me, and has ideas about the future, but I simply don't have them in return. Its a shame as she's really lovely, but its just not working for me.\n\nSo, to be fair to both of us - i'm going to call it a day.\n\nThe issue i'm having is how to do it. I'm trying to view it as if I was on the receiving end, and what I think would be the best way:\n\n- Do I meet up with her somewhere and do it face to face (but then drag her out somewhere just to dump her)\n\nor\n\n- Do I do it via a phone call? (bit impersonal, but saves the above problem)\n\nTo be clear, I've done my best to not lead her on, been honest since day 1 - but I still know its going to crush her.\n\nThoughts, opinions and advice welcome!", "summary": "Going to break up with girlfriend - want the best/ nicest way possible."}
{"id": "t3_1w91fx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Long distance with (ex) high school sweetheart", "post": "Some backstory. I dated my best friend in high school and was completely happy with her. We even went to her home country (South Korea) together the summer after graduation. Out of nowhere, she decides to end it before college starts to \"try new things\". I had trouble getting over that, especially because she would keep texting me things like I love you, and it just messed with my head. As a result, I decided to block all communications for a while.\n\nFast forward to a few months ago, we started talking again and we talked about the possibility of getting back together. I hesitantly agreed. Anyway, she goes to school a couple hours away and at times she can be very sweet, but most of the time, she barely communicates, and when she does, it seems like she doesn't really care. For example, whenever we talk about visiting each other, it always has to be me that goes to her, but she refuses because of money. I get where she may be coming from, but shouldn't this be a relationship where both people put an equal amount of effort in?\n\nBasically, what I'm trying to ask is whether you think I should stick around or just end it. The reality is that I am not happy with this, but I'm just not confident enough to try to find something new either. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Back with high school ex long distance. Unhappy and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_rw5m2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My huge lie is coming to an end. What should I do!?", "post": "So basically, I had a girlfriend for four years that my parents were never too keen on and it made it a bit awkward, but generally it was fine. I met this girl who I thought was really amazing, and being young and foolish, did what I thought was the right thing and ditched my long term for the new model. I never told my long term this, just fed her some BS. So anyway things don't work out and I realise I made a mistake, ask old girlfriend to see me again. Fall back into old routine almost immediately, but I decide not to tell my parents for a while as its not worth the aggro. However, I told my girlfriend that I had. 2 years later, we're still together and my parents and girlfriend are non the wiser. Until tonight when my gf goes to eat with her old friend who happens to be the daughter of a close family friend, so I'm pretty much fucked. Do I confess all now or wait it out until tonight, in case boyfriends or myself don't come up in conversation and I have time to rethink my strategy?", "summary": "never told parents I got back with my ex 2 years ago. We're still together."}
{"id": "t3_1k5un7", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "New dog owner here, feeling unliked by my dog.", "post": "My wife and I just adopted a new dog about a week and a half ago.  She's a little over a year old, and she's a Yorkie-dachshund mix.  When we got her, she was glued to both of us all the time.  Followed us everywhere, cried when we weren't around, etc.  \n\nWithin the past few days or so I've noticed that she only does this with my wife now, and I have no idea why.  Nothing has changed in terms of what we do with her.  We both play with her, feed her, take her for walks, etc.  Sometimes we do these things together, sometimes individually.  I really couldn't say that one of us does any more than the other in these areas.\n\nHere's an example.  We crate the dog when nobody is home, so we did this before the two of us went out today to get groceries.  When we came back home, our dog was very excited.  I opened her crate, but she blew right by me and ran up to my wife.  She didn't even acknowledge I was there.\n\nI've been spending a lot more time with her in general because I'm a teacher and have been home with her more.  Might that have something to do with it?  Could she be getting bored with the person who is around more often, and gets more excited around my wife because she sees less of her?\n\nThis is my first dog.  My wife grew up with them, but even she's stumped as to why this is happening.  Our dog isn't mean towards me (growling, etc.), just seemingly apathetic unless I'm the one making an effort.  In other words, she'll play with me if I initiate it.  Otherwise, she kind of ignores me.\n\nAny thoughts?", "summary": "Dog seems to like the Mrs. more than me despite me giving her plenty of attention and sharing in the responsibilities equally."}
{"id": "t3_2a7u99", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (M/18) overthinking being in love? (F/18)", "post": "I want to tell my girlfriend that I love them because she tells it to me. This is my first relationship and I just want to be sure that when I say I love you I really mean it. But I feel like I'm overanalyzing what love is. I often overanalyze a lot of feelings and thoughts of mine: is there a reason for this?\nAnyway, How I feel is:\n- I really care about her, so so so much.\n\n- She's always on my mind. Like all day.\n\n- I look forward to talking and being with her\n\n- Kissing her is an amazing feeling\n\n- Thinking about her puts me in a good mood\n\n- I write her poems all the time\n\n- I think I want to be together for a long time\n\n- I feel amazing when we're together\n\nAnd before you ask; I'm sure she loves me back! She tells me and shows me all the time. :)", "summary": "Anyway, those are all of my feelings. I mean I feel like I should be in love, I want to be. I don't want to force myself though. I care about her and would do anything for her... I just want to be able to tell her I love her and mean it."}
{"id": "t3_jbp5k", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "In my quest to call myself a real \"grown up\" I will be moving away from my mommys resourceful kitchen. What supplies do I need in order to be able to stand on my own?", "post": "I am potentially about to move across the country for a job after living at home for almost my entire life. I will only be able to take whatever I am able to fit into the trunk and back seats of my car. That being said I come to you seeking some advice r/cooking\n\nwhat supplies can you recommend a new college grad acquire in order to get started on the right-kitchen/cooking-foot? I am hoping I can make \"one time purchases\" on a few items that I will be able to use/cherish for the rest of my cooking days..\n\nAt this point the only things I can think of are:\n\n* a legit can opener\n\n* simple utencils (a few spoons and forks)\n\n* a nice sturdy knife (any recommendations on this front would also be much appreciated)\n\n* a single pot\n\n* a single pan\n\n* a crock-pot (if I can get a hold of a cheap one before I depart)\n\nany recommendations as far as what brands I should watch out for would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "what basic kitchen supplies should I purchase in order to be able to stand up on my own two feet?"}
{"id": "t3_36w2vx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "wait for a someone i love or someone random- 19m", "post": "well i want to start this off by saying this is my 1st post on reddit...ever so if i did anything wrong im sorry , well im a 19m that has never been in a relationship i really want one but i feel like im being to picky, i just was a gf that will be loyal and nice and not a a girl who sleeps around a lot, im honestly having trouble with this... i know im not a good looking guy but im a nice guy and i just want someone that i can send cute texts 2,spoil, be honest with but for my generation i will always be known as a creep,stalker etc if i bring flower to a girl. so what im asking is should i keep waiting or should i give it a try with someone who im not in love with just to give it a try", "summary": "wait for the right girl or try with a random girl"}
{"id": "t3_2w74mp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Girl I Like is Not Responding to Texts.", "post": "So I've been crushing on this girl for a while, and I think I finally have a chance (terrible past relationship experiences, and I'm not exactly a hit with the ladies).\n\nI have a lot of evidence that she is in to me, like:\n\n1. Her friends have teased me about liking her even though I hadn't told them I talked to her, meaning that she has mentioned me to her friends.\n2. She invited me to a party that she was going to, and her best friend who was also there told her to sit next to me on the couch. I believe that her friend is trying to help this girl be with me.\n3. We all talk at school and have great laughs and what not.\n4. she is a bit awkward around me, which is saying something because I'm really fucking awkward.\n\nthe reason I bring up the four points is to sort of clear up any doubt that she likes me, because there is a bit of a problem. This is probably a minor thing, but sometimes she just stops responding to my texts. I'll message her, and get no response, but she will update her story on snapchat of her watching TV or just sitting on the couch doing nothing. I'm nervous because I don't want to spam her phone with texts and act like I'm desperate or something. I really want to talk to her so I can build up some sort of relationship (and I really enjoy just chatting with her). What do I do? Does she not like me like I thought? Or should I just not worry about it?", "summary": "Girl I like who I'm sure likes me, isn't responding to my texts when I know she isn't super busy. I don't want to spam her phone or anything. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ull2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30M] girlfriend [30F] of 3 years acts very differently towards me than towards most other people in her life.", "post": "She's changed a lot since we met, and while I have always been a bit more reserved and shy, she has a very aggressive personality. \n\nFor instance - if we're out for dinner, it would be very rare that I would ever get angry with waitstaff. I'd happily raise issues if things aren't the way I'd like, but I am very friendly about it. My girlfriend will quite regularly voice her opinion in a less-than-friendly way. Basically, she can be a bitch to a lot of people. \n\nWhenever it happens it stresses me out, because I am just not comfortable with it and even though I love her, I believe she's often in the wrong and it puts me in a weird spot where I just want everyone to get along. \n\nIt happens with less frequency than at the start of our relationship, and I think it has a lot to do with her upbringing. We have talked about it and she has made an effort to change. \n\nThe important part is that she's never once, in three years, acted that way towards me. I feel like if she did, my tolerance for it would be pretty low and things wouldn't last long.\n\nBut now we're reaching a point in our relationship where longer term commitments are coming in to play - living, together marriage, etc, and it's had me more and more concerned about this difference between our personalities. \n\nAnyone have similar experiences or advice?", "summary": "Gf can be a bit of a bitch to other people and it makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_2mv5zk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waking up early yesterday...", "post": "**First post! Yay!**\n\nI woke up early yesterday instead of by alarm , so I proceeded to disable my alarm so it wouldn't wake up my roommate as I'm getting ready for the day. Then last night before I went to bed I forgot to reenable the alarm, so I overslept and was late for duty. Now my commanding officer is having me do an extra 2 hours of service before I go on my 5 day break tomorrow. \n\nNow, I'm not bitter about the punishment, you own up to your mistakes and take responsibility, that's what it means to be a soldier. I'm just really sour for making that mistake in the first place... what if it wasn't just post duty, what if it was life and death this morning when I overslept.\n\np.s. for those mocho 'merica people... no I'm not in the US military, so US citizens you can sleep well tonight knowing there's a screw up in some other nation's military.", "summary": "Woke up late today by waking up early yesterday. Karma is real!"}
{"id": "t3_ea39y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "25-year-old trying to have sex for the first time...Failed", "post": "Out of nowhere a girl I really, really liked for a long time called me up to hang out. We went out, had a great time and went back to my place. It started getting more apparent that she was not interested in leaving at any time soon, so I (rightly) assumed that she wanted sex.\n\nNow, for reasons I can't really understand, I'm still a virgin. Many opportunities presented themselves, but I was never confident enough to take them. Maybe a little chickenshit if you will. However I really wanted to take a big step in my life that night, but I couldn't get it done.\n\nNo matter what I did, I couldn't do it. I tried to masturbate - nothing. She gave me a hand - nothing. She gave me a blowjob - nothing. This girl is a hot as hell and I couldn't do anything to satisfy her. I just licked her cunt for a while.\n\nShe told me it was fine, that these things happen and that I probably had something on my mind or I was stressed, so I had to come up with a story how I was really stressed about something or other.\n\nWhen she comes over next, I want to be ready and I want to fuck her brains out. What do I do in the meantime?", "summary": "hot girl calls me up, we go out, had a massive boner all night, until she took her clothes off"}
{"id": "t3_3h5x0y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching Netflix in bed", "post": "I usually use my phone at night while I'm in bed because I watch a lot of Netflix and can usually squeeze in an episode or five before I get too tired. Something about listening to the audio of a tv show helps me fall asleep as well which is odd because I can't sleep listening to music. Last night wasn't any different, I pulled up House on my iPhone 6+ that I got fairly recently. When I was about 3 episodes in I began feeling really tired so I had the screen face downward on the bed and just listened to the episode. I must of passed out before it was over because when I woke up in the morning I couldn't remember the ending. I looked for my phone but didn't see it on my bed side table. I eventually found it under my back and realized I had been sleeping on it which has happened a couple times before. When I pressed the home screen the upper left corner was dimmer than the rest of the screen. I'm pretty heavy so my guess is the pressure of me sleeping on it broke part of the back light for the display.", "summary": "fell asleep watching Netflix and woke up sleeping on my broken phone"}
{"id": "t3_3ztg9o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by begging him back", "post": "and asking to kiss him before he left, after dumping me.\n\nHe gave me things like \"you deserve better\" and \"the things we disagree with now will be so much worse\" and \"I don't want to hurt you even more\"\n\nWhich....sucks. I tried so hard. And he said \"you did everything right\" and I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had.\n\nSo I said please multiple times, as he kept saying no, but kept hugging me, leaning on me, kissing my hand to comfort me which he said was more automatic than him wanting us to keep a relationship.\n\nWhat could I do? Obviously not what I just did. So been lying in bed, weeping at random points in the day, with all my friends back at college and nowhere to escape this shame.\n\nOH BEST PART? Left my wallet at his house so I have to see him tomorrow to get it.", "summary": "got dumped, begged him back, and left my wallet at his house so I have to face the shame tomorrow."}
{"id": "t3_36h8j1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [21F] bf's [22M] brother [25M] with disabilities is living in hoarding situation, and I need advice!", "post": "We've been dating for about two years, and only just recently met his family last night, and his adult brother (22 years old) who lives with them and has moderate/severe autism (he has a volunteer job, is communicative at times, but spends a lot of time withdrawn in himself. I'm not sure if he's legally their dependent or not) and both him and his parents are hoarders. \n\nThey're not terrible people, they're all kind and generous, but what I saw was horrific, and that was after (I was told via my bf) *an extensive cleaning*. So I know their normal situation is much, much worse. I was afraid to eat or drink anything at their house and was clearly in shock and probably made the worst first impression, but what's more important right now is that I really think Adult Protective Services need to be called.\n\nBut I've never been in this sort of situation, and I have no clue what the fallout is going to be from this. Will they help in the form of councilors and clean up, or straight up remove the brother from their home? Should I tell my boyfriend? If I don't, will it be traced back to me? Will calling even *do* anything, as the brother's a hoarder too? The local APS website provides nothing substantial other than their phone number and operating hours.\n\nDoes anyone who's gone through something similar have any advice on what will happen when I call? I'm kind of just lost right now.", "summary": "boyfriend's autistic adult brother is living in a terrible hoarding situation, and is a hoarder himself. Have decided to call APS, but what's in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_1pa5nx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] with my parents, communication problems", "post": "Little backstory: My dad met my mother when he was about 19. He was 22 when they married (that's how old I am now) and he became a father (of me) when he was 24.\n\nHe owns a company, which has always been struggling, so getting close to him has always been tough. He wants to be able to take care of his family, no matter what.\n\n2 years ago I moved out, to study 400km (some amount of miles) from home. I haven't had too much contact with my parents ever since.\nI visit over christmas and if I have the time during the summer but beside that our relationship is mostly very superficial.\n\nAll I want is my parents to be interested in what I do in a not superficial way. I don't even study some fancy art, I study meteorology, I mean who can't relate to that?!\n\nHowever, my parents (yes, they're married and still together), especially my dad, are barely interested in what I am up to.. I recently got into a bit of a financial trouble and they pretty much left me alone.\n\nI don't want them to pay for all my expenses, I just want to be acknowledged. I am the third person in my family to ever (ever as in more than 200 years)  enter university and I am proud of my achievements.\nI seem to be the only one..", "summary": "How does a proper family work?"}
{"id": "t3_3ks6yc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting my mechanic", "post": "This literally just happened to me, so suck it! \n\nThis whole story starts last summer, when I had my car at the mechanic for the mandatory biannual check up that we have here in Norway. I have a 29y old car that went out of production in 1990, so almost no pro garage has any real knowlesge about my car. My car passed the inspection with flying colors, so I presumed everything was fine.\n\nHere the real fuck up begins, because apparently the garage forgot to submit the results, so in the police' database, my car was now listed as not road legal, and should have its licence plates removed.\n\nCome today I've been at a cabin with some friends, and it was time to go home, so I loaded up my stuff and drove to town to fuel up before I were to start my 3 hour drive back home. A police cruiser was parked at that very gas station and were routinely running plates when mine came up as not road legal.\n\nDuitily the police officer walked up to me and told me what was up, and that he had to take my plates. So I just had to drive my car to the station, take off the plates, and now I'm stranded here. Cool. The next train leaves for home in 2 hours...", "summary": "Trusted my mechanic to do routine paperwork, lost my plates because he didn't. Now I'm stuck waiting for the train home."}
{"id": "t3_3ensb1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should i get back with my ex? How do i do that?", "post": "I (19F) was with this guy (19M) for over a year. We would fight alot but we were happy, i loved his family, and he loved mine. But once highschool finished, he started working full time and i was studying, it seemed like we were in two different places. We were looking like we were going to end, then my grandma died, and i needed his support, but he ended it anyway. Its been 4 months since then and we havent really spoken. And for both of us its seemed to be a string of really shit dates/one night stands. I messaged him two days ago. And weve been talking ever since. Last night we were on the phone for 5 hours.", "summary": "Lots of fighting = shitty breakup, havent spoken for 4 months, but now we have feels like nothing has changed."}
{"id": "t3_hh58o", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I like the one girl in our small office. What do I do?", "post": "Hey Reddit, \nI'm a 22 year old guy working in a small office of about 10 people. There's one girl (26) and I really like her and I'm not sure if she likes me back.\n\nOutside of work we talk every so often. Texts, MSN, and we play some pc games together (my portal 2 co op partner!). I kick myself every day for not telling her how I feel, but I fear that she might have a boyfriend, or that she doesn't like me at all in that sort of way. I don't want to say something and have work be totally awkward, since we sit next to each other. \n\nShe reads reddit, but I doubt she'll come across this.. but if she does, then maybe that's an easier way. haha. anyways... reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "I like a girl I work with, I don't know if she likes me back"}
{"id": "t3_hslm7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I request basic relationship advice!!... For I am a..... Noob... DUN DUN DUNNNN!!!.... sphincter", "post": "First off the only way I can bring myself to talk about this sort of thing is if I use less formal language and attempt to introduce a little humor.\n\nCARRYING ON LADIES!!\n\nSo I am 17 and went on my first date a week ago (I have my reasons for starting late.... QUIT JUDGING ME!!) and basically I would just like to know how the series of events in a relationship goes down. We kinda went on date number two but it kinda wasn't but whatever. We text all the time but she's been on her senior trip and has been gone for a week and will be gone for another.\n\nSo what do I need to do when she gets back? I plan to ask her out on another date and break the physical contact barrier and go in for the ever-so-daring \"holding of hands\" because i'm one of those faggy guys who thinks that the movie Wall-E was totally legit shit, yo.", "summary": "I'm a total newfag when it comes to relationships and I need to know how they work out. Went out on two dates with the girl, we text all the time, and want to find a way to make it clear I really like her."}
{"id": "t3_2qv31c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I being unfair or is it the other way around?", "post": "So my girlfriend (25) and myself (26) have been together for about 6 months.  We fight, we argue, we make up and we have sex. As of late though, she has been wanting a kid. I said I was not ready and she lost her shit. I mean broke up with me, blocked me on Facebook...even posted an ad on Craigslist titled, I want to get married and have a baby. That kinda hurt me a lot. We made up somehow and now I think she feels she can control me. Yesterday my buddy said he was going to propose to his girlfriend on New Years eve. I called my lady and said hey you gotta clear your plate, he is a long time friend and he needs me there for support. She said no, not going, then posted on Facebook I was just leaving her alone on NYE. What can I do about this? Am I being unfair?", "summary": "Do I go to my friends on NYE or with her? If I comply with her does she hold all the power"}
{"id": "t3_1907mh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you deal with lack of closure?", "post": "My ex and I have been apart from a few months now and she's seeing someone new.\n\nShe wants to talk to me again and she feels like everything is okay between us.  I'm a little put off because she left without a reason, has never tried to make amends and now wants to be friends.\n\nI'm just not content with dropping all hope of an explanation and just being friends.  But do I even bother at this point?  I guess the logical thing would to be happy for her and keep my nose out of it.  If she wants to talk I guess I could call her up, give her the update and just be friends, as much as I can.\n\nBut even though all that makes sense, am I wrong to still a bit upset over it?  I don't know that I want to hear about how amazing her new boyfriend is.  I don't really have anything to say to her.", "summary": "My ex wants to talk to me again, I don't have closure, am I acting like butt hurt fool if I don't talk to her or do I deserve an explanation before deciding on a friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_149hnr", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help with court procedures on speeding tickets", "post": "So a few days I get pulled over for doing 46 in a 40 (end of the month quota time) and a ticket is issued. I get pretty lucky on these next parts. \n\n1.The ticket says 54 in a 40 so that is obviously different from what he told me.\n\n2.From where I turned out at there isn't a speed limit sign for quite a ways up and going the opposite direction (which is the way I usually travel on this road if I do at all, was just picking up my boss that day) turn into 55 to start getting into highway traffic.\n\n3.Went to go check for speed limit signs and the only one was spray painted out. (thank you random teenager!!!)\n\nSo how do I go about this now? Court date is the 20th. What questions should I ask the judge, should I even mention the officer told me the wrong speed? I feel like they'll take his word over mine even though I took notes of the conversation right afterwards. What about there not being a limit sign anywhere where I came off from?", "summary": "got a speeding ticket and know I was in confines of the law due to technicalities. How do I handle the court"}
{"id": "t3_384xnj", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Desperate to get into Boston", "post": "On the 27th of this month I'm taking a bus to Sturbridge MA from Cleveland and then from there me and a dear friend of mine were planning on going to Boston for two days. We've made the reservations but due to unforeseen circumstances we have not a single person able to drive us down there because I will have taken a bus to them and in addition to that neither of us are licensed to drive. \n\nWe want to go to Boston on the 30th and the 1st of the next month but because of the lack of ride and parental issues we're stuck having to travel in and out both days. We cannot cancel these plans as we already have paid for a majority of them and now it's just a matter on finding a way INTO Boston and back again over the course of two days without spending an arm and a leg and spending more time commuting than actually enjoying the city. \n\nI've already considered trains but even then simply Googling the route shows we'll have to spend 6 hours roundtrip and maybe even more with a majority of the trip being on MORE BUS. If there's REALLY no other way, I guess we'll have top do this but i'd REALLY prefer not to.\n\nI'm 19 and their 17 so there's a bit of information that may help I guess. If you need ANYTHING else to help assist please feel free to ask since I want to have this all hammered out ASAP before me leaving for the trip draws too close.", "summary": "I need to get from Sturbridge MA to Boston MA without a car, without going broke, and without spending more time going than being."}
{"id": "t3_4vvgd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am worried that my boyfriend [32M] and I [22F] (of a year) will run into problems because he doesn't enjoy being active or getting outside.", "post": "My boyfriend and I get along very well and have a great connection. We have so much fun together and we're always laughing. The only issue is that I tend to be an active person who loves to hike, bike, play frisbee, fish, and just be outside in general.\n\nHe is the opposite. I have noticed since we started dating that I don't do these activities as much anymore because I enjoy being around him so much that I have somewhat given them up (stupid... I know). He works a lot of hours (on his feet the whole time) so I understand why he doesn't want to do these things. But it's starting to bum me out that on our days off we end up watching TV, going out to eat, or getting drinks. We are both very social/outgoing people, but he would rather go sit at a bar or try a new restaurant (which I enjoy too!) but sometimes I wanna get out and be active together. \n\nThe last guy I was seeing (we didn't connect emotionally so it ended), loved being outdoors and staying active so I never sat on a couch. I know I can do these activities with other friends but all of my friends have now moved across states. I'm trying to connect with some people from work as of now. I know can do these things alone too, but it's such a bummer not enjoying some of my passions with my SO. I don't want to change him or his interests, and I also don't want to end it. Mostly I was wondering if anyone has had a similar experience? Would *you* end a relationship over something like this? Any ideas how maybe I can talk to him about my concerns in a nice way (he is a bit overweight so it could become a sensitive topic)?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't like being active or doing outdoor activities- and I wish we could do these things together. How can I talk to him about my concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_2g2a83", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by seeing an African American for the first time", "post": "Luckily, this isn't really today. Or even near today. This happened when i was very young, like 5 or something, but i still remember it vividly.\n\nAnyways, as a kid, i never really saw anyone besides white people. My family was white, my friends were white, i lived in a white neighborhood, and i hadn't started school yet. As a little kid, i didn't even know other races existed, i just assumed everyone was white.\n\nNow, i was prone to overeaction, the smallest things would make little kid me super excited.\n\nSo, my mom's boyfriend and i were going to the pool at my apartment complex, and once we're in the water, i notice something amazing to my little kid brain:\n\nThe people swimming next to us have brown skin\n\nI freak out a little bit, and ask my step dad \"Mikey, why are they different than us?\"\n\nSo, Mikey, my mom's boyfriend at the time, just kind of goes \"What?\" and i respond with, in the loudest little kid voice i had because this was so amazing to me **\"MIKEY, WHY IS THEIR SKIN BROWN!\"**\n\nEveryone at the pool heard me. They glare at me and my stepfather, looking at us like we're literally Satan, taking a fiery hell piss in the pool. My stepfather quickly tells me \"Don't say that, ever again\" and we rush home before an angry mob beats us to death.", "summary": "Little kid me had never seen black people. Became KKK member upon seeing one."}
{"id": "t3_33ontk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [22F] 4 years, she wants to join the Navy. I'm opposed.", "post": "My gf of 4 years has been recently going to see a recruiter for the Navy. I know I should not tell her what to do with her life, and I truly don't want to. But I am strongly opposed to this due to the high risk of sexual assault in the military for women. Not just that but she would be gone for long periods of time without me being able to see her, which quite frankly I don't think our relationship can handle. \n\nA year and a half ago she had an affair with another man, and I decided to take her back after she pleaded with me. I told her that I would try to trust her and we've been working on it since. Things have been rocky but I really do love her. I've forgiven her for cheating on me but it honestly has made me much more insecure than I used to be. \n\nSo is it messed up for me to be against her joining? Can it all be chalked up to my insecurities? How do I deal with them? I don't want to lose her but I feel like this is a dealbreaker for me.", "summary": "Gf wants to join Navy, don't think relationship can handle it. Do I convince her otherwise, move on, or attempt to accept it?"}
{"id": "t3_17mh1a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some things that have genuinely crushed you emotionally?", "post": "Ill start; basically I met a girl online. We talked and became good friends. She lives in Norway, I live in England. So it's by no means a insurmountable gap. Eventually I fell for her, and she fell for me (say what you want I genuinely love someone I met on the Internet, we've spoken face to face countless times on Skype) and I've always remained loyal to her, and we started talking about meeting up. At first, I was gonna meet her in the summer of 2012 but that didn't work out, anyways I said I would meet her for my birthday. Valantines day. So I started making arrangements with my parents for money (bearing in mind I'm 17 and she's 16) however, the economy being as it is, money is tight, but I've strived to save and have been looking for the cheapest flights blah blah blah. However, I said to her I may not be able to make it for dead on my birthday, maybe like, 2 - 7 days out, she says that's ok, all is well.\nI would of been staying at her place with her and her parents, her mother was happy to speak to me etc, her father, not so much. But I figured, yeah, daddy's princess, her being an only child and all, so I just put it down to being protective. Then one day she sends me a message saying \"my dad is forcing me to break up with you if you can't come exactly on your birthday\" the feels were as follows: wtf!? Wait..what..? Oh my god, depression. Yeah, she wasnt happy about it either. Knocked me sick seeing her cry because her father thinks I should have the ability to make time and space adhere to my whim. So right now I'm in a bit of a bind and sort of just wanted to vent.", "summary": "met awesome girl online, fell in love, her dad is a total dickbag."}
{"id": "t3_3dgbcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] 2 years, Hates best friend's girlfriend!", "post": "Quick Background;\nMet two years ago, began dating shortly after, and we're a great couple. We're very spontaneous, have regular couple arguments and overall would consider us very healthy.\n\nDilemma;\nI've been best friends with \"Joe\" since Kindergarten. He's been with me throughout all of my relationships, and is there for me through thick and thin. Recently, ( about 9 months ago ) Joe met and began dating a girl that previously lived in my freshman dorm. I never had relations with said girl, we were friendly as neighbors and that was the extent. Even before they started dating, my girlfriend was passionate about disliking said girl. ( thought that she previously liked me more than just a neighbor) Most of the hate was unwarranted, however there have been a numerous situations where Joe's girlfriend has been rude to us as a couple and to my girlfriend individually. \n\nNow;\nMy birthday is less than two days away. We were supposed to celebrate at my house with all of my friends, including Joe. This would obviously entail him bringing his girlfriend, but since my girlfriend planned and prepped the party she feels as though she can request Joe to come alone. I am stuck on what to do. On the one hand I want to support my girlfriend because I want her to be happy and I want the birthday party to run smoothly. However, on the other hand I don't want to betray or make my best friend since birth feel unwelcome and uncomfortable. I value our friendship and want it to continue for the duration of my life.\n\nAny feedback or suggestions are welcome!", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want best friend's girlfriend at my party. Requesting me to ask him to come alone, which I believe would cause a rift in our friendship, or if I fail to meet the request would cause a rift in my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1foy7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23 M] and my [23 F] are beginning to have problems because of her depression I don't know what to do.", "post": "My gf is going through some really tough times. She did terrible in her courses in her last semester and now stands no chance at the graduate school she wanted to go to. To make matters worse she's unappreciated at her job and makes the least money at her position despite being at her place of work the longest of any other employee there. So as things get worse for her instead of trying to fix things she's going into a spiraling depression and blaming things on me. I`ve tried giving her another job with my family to help her out but she had no desire to take it. Is there anything that I can do to help her besides telling her that she's toxic. I want to help the girl but because of her current depression I feel any talking to her about these problems will only cause our relationship to end. Before these things happened the relationship was strong for three years.", "summary": "GF has some severe depression caused by her own shortcomings, she's starting to blame me for her problems and is becoming chronically depressed. Is there anything I can do to help her or do I just have to try to weather the storm?"}
{"id": "t3_1x02dg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my ex [33 F] 1.5 years, she left me and moved out", "post": "This is my 2nd go around with her (we dated for a year when we were 22).  She has been living with me for the past 1.5 years since we started dating.  For the past month she has been acting distant and stand-offish.  \n\nShe met some new \"friends\" around that time one night when I decided to stay home and she went out to some bars.  Well, last friday she told me she was going to stay at her parents for the weekend, but lied and ended up going camping with the \"new friends\".  I had no idea where she was and what she was doing, saw a post of her on instagram in the mountains and was shocked.  \n\nShe came home yesterday and we had a talk, she said she isnt happy and is moving out.  She gave the \"I need to improve myself\" excuse, which I think is partially true.  She claims she has no interest in anybody else at the momemnt. She ended up moving some of her stuff out of the condo, and she is texting me \"are you ok?\".  She is 33 and moving back to her parents.\n\nAny Advice? I know its gonna hurt for a while...", "summary": "She left me to improve herself, now living alone and need advice on how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_2mpv9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M/] with my crush [15/F] for about 2 years, Should and How to ask her out", "post": "I've loved a girl for 3 years now, and in the past two years we've become very close, I'm 15 and she's a few months older but also 15. We've been to the movies on our own 2 times, and been out to eat casually lots of times. I walk her to the bus stop almost every day and we usually call each other to speak on most nights. lately we organised a movie night at my place and have more on the way, it went really well and we were both laughing and having fun on our own. We are interested in almost everything that the other likes, its actually pretty creepy.\nHowever, she has only just started to call me bro and is talking over skype a lot less. I need to know how she feels because I hardly ever stop thinking about her, It's not obsessive but it's just curiosity. She's introduced me to her friends and mine to her and I think it's going very well. I asked my mom first, and she said to not ask her until the exams are over, but I need to know sooner how she feels or her opinions could change.\nShe has asked me to come to Thailand during DofE with her and her friend, for two weeks. I want to hold her hand and show affection but don't want to pressure her or make her uncomfortable. Her Birthday's coming up, so I could do something then. What do I do, I honestly love her?!?\n\nAny Lines for asking her out casually or romantically would be GREATLY appreciated. or a setting to ask her out in: After school, over a costa?", "summary": "Just need your opinions, even if I should wait even longer?."}
{"id": "t3_3q4aci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (m17) get back with my ex (f17)", "post": "So two weeks ago my then girlfriend of 8 months and I broke up because I found out she was flirting and texting with some other guys after explicitly telling me she wasn't. Turns out she was also 'bored' with our relationship, granted this was 8 months in and she hadn't said a single thing to clue me into those feelings \n\nFast forward to yesterday. She writes me an essay about why she's learned her lesson and why she 'needs me in her life' and all that. She's also cut off all contact with the guy that she was flirting with. (I have a mutual friend verify this, so I'm fairly certain she's telling the truth.) \n\nNow I dunno if I should get back with her. I mean we've got a ton in common. Same taste in movies, books, music, same sense of humor. But I dunno if we can rebuild the trust that was lost in the first place. So what should I do relationships?\n\n(And yes, I'm fully aware that I could very well be putting too much thought into a simple high school relationship)", "summary": "My first gf and I broke up, two weeks later she wants to get back together and I'm on the fence. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4yr18s", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Should I stay or go?", "post": "Graduated college last December. Found an internship at the last minute in a role I wanted to be in, started that in January. I ultimately didn't get the role full-time. My boss, however, offered me another job that crossed over into four different areas of the company. I took this role in the middle of May and have been with the company since.\n\nSo far this job been pretty crappy and doesn't really prepare for me what I want to do next. Fix the copy machine, order supplies, IT support, pay bills, etc...\n\nHowever, i'm not sure if its okay to jump ship yet, or should I just try to finish out the year? I don't have another job offer yet, but if it did come what'd be best?\n\nFeel free to ask me more questions if you need more details/clarification.", "summary": "Trying to go into \"front office\" finance stuck in \"back office\"; FO Internship (4 to 5 months) ->BO Job (3 to 4 months so far) -> trying to get to a FO role."}
{"id": "t3_2fs36d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by signing up for zoosk.", "post": "So I have been single for about 3 months now and I thought \"Hey! I'll try zoosk out...seems popular and haven't heard anything bad about it!\" this was a bad idea. Upon signing up for free I set my profile up and derped around liking profiles and trying to message women when suddenly I receive a message from a pretty cute woman my age and relatively close to me. I go to click on the message as I am curious to see what she said. A window pops up saying I need to subscribe to see the message... so I purchase a 1 month subscription for $29.95 thinking eh whatever if I don't like it after a month I'll just get rid of it, it's only 30 bucks... so I view the message it is irrelevant garbage. After  a while I open my email and I see zoosk emailed my receipt for my subscription. These scammers charged me $54.95!!!!!!! Nowhere was it shown that there would be a 1 time activation fee of $24.99 which is ridiculous to charge such amount especially when they raked me over the coals with the $29.95 1 month subscription which i so stupidly agreed to. This is a cautionary tale DO NOT SUBCRIBE TO THIS SCAM DATING SERVICE! STAY AWAY!", "summary": "zoosk isn't free and they will over charge you don't subscribe to this scam of a dating site...."}
{"id": "t3_2d6lk7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend wants to find herself", "post": "My (21M) girlfriend (19F) wants to find herself. \n\nBackstory\nWith been on and off for about 4 years and have been on for a solid 1 year now and it's the best it's been. She's recently gone away to work in the snowfields and decided that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, it was great before she left and it's only taking 6 weeks for her to make this decision. It was a pretty rough 6 weeks on the relationship. \n\nShe's been madly in love with me for the last 4 years and would of done anything for me and now it's like she doesn't want anything to do with me. I've just visited her at the snowfields and she was distant from the moment I got there, didn't want to be seen with me or introduce me to any of her friends there. \n\nShe swears there's no one else and she's never been the type of person to cheat, she's always obsessed over me and wanting me back during the off time in our relationship. \n\nWe also lived together so when comes back in a months time it's gonna be hard and I know she's gonna regret what she's done. We were gonna spend the rest of our lives together and now she wants to move away to a different city and go work in the snowfields all over the world to find herself. \n\nI guess my question is what do I do?\nDo I fight for her to not do this, give her the time she wants to find herself or just accept it and move on?\nI don't want to lose her :(", "summary": "Girlfriend was madly in love with me for 4 years, went away to work in snowfields, now doesn't want me and wants to find herself. Don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_en0k6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, has a real good friend made a move on you which ended your friendship?", "post": "Male 23.\nBack in high school, I had a real close friend, let's call her Amanda. I met her sophomore year, had the exact class schedule, we both ran track and cross country, and had a ton in common. I never saw her past friends as I was always chasing girls and venting to her/getting advice from her. I had an idea that she was somehow into me, hearing whispers from mutual friends, she even hinted a lot that she liked me. But I never thought too much into it.\nIt was senior year and we had senior lock out (spending the night in school). Everyone was hanging out in the gym, playing basketball, dancing on stage, or watching movies on the side. Amanda tells me we should sneak out to the lounge in the cafeteria, i was game. We snuck downstairs, ran across the halls into the cafeteria. We sat on the couch and she put her head on my shoulders. Looked into my eyes, then gave me a kiss. A couple of seconds later reality hits me and I back off and say to her \"Amanda, what are we doing? we're friends!?\". I then got up and ran back to the gym. \nIt was 2 weeks before school ended and she completely avoided me. I tried calling her to talk about it but it was never the same. I've lost all contact with her which ruined a great friendship.\n\nSo reddit, have you ever had this happen to you that you wish hadn't?", "summary": "pirates, beer, knives, kittens not a great combination."}
{"id": "t3_25b3hv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21f] talking to [21M], he's interested in more, I want to slow down", "post": "I recently got out of a relationship, and with every day that passes I'm realizing that I was wanting out too, long before he left me. As my happiness has increased significantly, I've started talking to guys. \n\nThe guy in question is a friend of a friend, apparently saw me once and convinced my friend to give him my name. Added me on facebook, and we've been talking. At first it was just getting to know you talk, but he always jumps to talking like in a few weeks we will be dating. Talks like \"we can do that together\" or \"I can show you x,y,and z sometime\". We haven't even spoken for a full week yet. We've also never met.\n\nHow do I keep the conversation going while quite clearly telling him I'm not thinking about us having a relationship at all? I've tried telling him the last time he said \"we'll do that together all the time this summer!\" that I wasn't looking forward any more than one day at a time. I tried explaining that I wasn't looking for a relationship and rather was just enjoying being single, while not closing myself off to communication with guys. He acted strange, but said okay, and the next day jumped right back into making plans for my summer that include him and I together.\n\nWe do have plans for next week, but with every conversation including some form of \"we can do that together\" I'm starting to be uncomfortable with seeing him, in case he takes it as a romantic date, and not just meeting each other for the first time.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "Friend of a friend started chatting with me on facebook, all conversations end up being about us being together. Have plans with him, but do not plan on this ever becoming a relationship. How to politely explain this while not ending all communications or angering him? The fact that he constantly talks about us together worries me, as it makes him seem pretty persistent. (He also has my address, as he has picked mutual friend up from my house before..that worries me too)"}
{"id": "t3_2ogbd7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being forgetful and drunk in a cab after the Christmas Party", "post": "So I run Secret Santa for the staff every year and this year there were several people who couldn't hold out to dessert, when we give out the presents so i was left at the end of the night with about 5 presents left.  Remembered to pick them up from the restaurant at the end of the night, brought them into the taxi with me, got into a really good drunk conversation with the taxi driver (he's doing the knowledge for black cab drivers, fascinating!) and got out without the damn presents!! Some people are going to be really disappointed on monday.  Damn it.", "summary": "Slightly spoiled work christmas for some people by forgetting presents in a taxi."}
{"id": "t3_2ms20x", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "F[24] friend distancing herself from me M[24]...why?", "post": "I have a friend who I clicked with ever since we started working together. We used to do a lot of errand together and chat all the time. I never asked showed romantic intentions towards her, I honestly just enjoyed her company. About a week ago she totally started giving me the cold shoulder. I asked her what was wrong and she said it had nothing to do with me, just a lot of outside factors.\n\n I know she cancelled a trip to see her ex, and I think this had a lot to do with her treatment towards me. At work people would ask if we were dating and we always would laugh and explain we were just good friends. Ever since that cancelled trip tough she hasn't been as talkative towards me or willing to help with errands. Any ideas, on this? I know she isn't mad at me for anything because I straight up asked her that. I just don't want to lose her as a friend.", "summary": "Friend isn't being herself around me anymore why?"}
{"id": "t3_2v1ybz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my SO [21 F] of 3.5 months, are having space problems.", "post": "I'll keep this short, and it's mainly for me. She's on a road trip with friends for school and she's constantly busy and being pulled in many directions. Me in my infinite wisdom want a short amount of time to talk to her, purely because I want to talk to her, but she's always exhausted in the evening and doesn't want to talk. \n\nBig (or rather short) conversation later, she needs some space from me so that she can deal with other things. \n\nHere's the problem, it's hard for me to give space so to speak. See, I can not text, or contact her. But it's so hard and it makes me feel so bad. I know this is mainly my problem and please don't try and talk about what she needs to do. Space has been an issue with other relationships for me, and I want to break this habit. It's especially hard because school is on break and I'm literally doing nothing except watching netflix. What are some ways to not feel bad about giving her the space that she needs?", "summary": "What are some ways to not craze over my SO so I can give her some much needed space?"}
{"id": "t3_xqqyk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the biggest bullet you've dodged? [Possibly NSFW]", "post": "So about 3 years ago, I started dating this girl.  She told me she was on birth control and that it was ok for me to finish inside.\n\nAlarm bells went off in my head because a lot of times when we would talk, she talked about how she wanted to have a baby.  \n\nSo politely declined and finished any where other than in the baby making oven.\n\nSo a few months go by and we end up breaking up.  I haven't talked to her since the break up but I decided to look her up recently on Facebook to see what she's been up to.\n\nShe had a child about 2 years ago.  Luckily with a different person and considering when the child was born, it seems like it was with a guy right after we broke up. (They're not together.)\n\nBiggest bullet dodged, ever.", "summary": "Ex lied about being on birth control, had a baby with her next boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_517r4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] New Boyfriend [25M] Regularly ignores me?", "post": "We've only been dating for about 6 weeks now. But this has been an issue I've had from the beginning. We'll be having a conversation over text, and then he'll just stop replying out of nowhere. Then in a couple hours will reply with an excuse (was playing video games, phone died, was out with friends etc).\n\nThe doesn't bother me that he can't text me all the time, but I'm I right to at least want a heads up? Like just let me know when he's busy and can't reply. I have asked him to do this, and he was better for a day or 2, but now we're back to how it use to be. \n\nLike tonight, I know he's at a friends house drinking, but now instead of telling me he wanted to be off his phone, he just stopped replying like 4 hours ago. I'm not worried about what he's doing, I trust him, but I'm a little hurt that I haven't even crossed his mind.\n\nAm I over reacting?", "summary": "New Boyfriend regularly ignores my texts and and I'm not sure if I'm over reacting"}
{"id": "t3_l0fcj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I have hope? (Boyfriend wants to be alone.)", "post": "So I'm not really sure how to start this but here goes -\n\nI've been dating this guy for a year and a half now. He is 21 and I'm 22 (f). I love him so much and he tells me all the time that he loves me and most of the time we are pretty amazing together...\n\n... But he wants to be alone at some stage in his life. I can understand that he doesn't want to commit to me and I don't want to either... I mean... I hope our relationship works out but it may not. It's just that it hurts so much when he tells me that he will be unhappy with his life if he doesn't spend time alone (I think he is thinking of travelling for a couple of years and living).\n\nHe says that I'm perfect but I came at the wrong time in his life. It just he seems so definite and I don't know how to react... Is this something that a lot of guys (maybe even girls too) feel and don't act on or is this something that will only end in disaster. Is there any hope at all?\n\nP.S. The reason this topic came up is because I am starting my phd at the start of next year and I don't know whether to go overseas or to stay with my current research group.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend and he loves me but apparently we met too early for him to cope with. I don't know whether to have hope."}
{"id": "t3_2anheo", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Any advice for a lazy, easily distracted bookworm?", "post": "Hello there, /r/books! I have a small problem, and I was you guys can help me. But first a little background. \n\nI, and many people that know me, describe myself as a bookworm, because, what else, I love books. I my opinion, books are more entertaining and more enriching that TV or movies. But the problem is, while I enjoy *books*, I don't enjoy *reading* as much.\n\nWhat I mean is that I find the process of reading boring. I have a short attention span, am easily distracted, and, to be honest, very lazy. In my free time, while I would rather be reading, I usually find myself glued to the TV or my computer, or both at the same time. I find it difficult to just power down and pick up a book. \n\nWhen I do pick up a book, I find the process of reading so tedious and boring, that I have trouble concentrating and actually reading the thing. Sometimes I just sit staring at it, or put it down and go back to whatever it was I was doing before. \n\nAnd it doesn't stop at books. Despite me regularly being on the computer, I find reading Internet articles tedious as well, and can't concentrate, and usually exit the page before finishing the article. This problem of mine also makes it very hard for me to study and do homework. \n\nSo what I'm asking is do any of you fine people have any advice for lazy readers with short attention spans? I love books, reading is one of my favorite hobbies, when I finish a book I feel amazing, but at times I find it too hard to concentrate. So, can any of you guys help?", "summary": "I have a short attention span and I am lazy, and I find it hard to concentrate when reading. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2vo6j8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you not give a shit about Valentines Day and Emotional pairing? M[23]", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nSo Valentines day is almost here, I'm single, and I admit that I give more of a fuck than I should. I never used to care about the holiday, but last year I had the best Valentines day of my life with my ex. I made a great home cooked meal and it was the first time we had sex. It was also the day we made our relationship \"official.\" It was just a fucking really good date.\n\nI'm over my ex as a person (Although I miss the fun we used to have). I'm able to objectively see that our relationship wasn't working and it's ultimately better to have her out of my life, but these \"anniversaries\" still bother me. It's like I used to have that in my life and now I don't.\n\nFor example--and this may sound dumb--but House of Cards on Netflix used to be our show. I got her hooked on it and we watched the first two seasons together when it came out last year. The third season is coming out next week and I don't know if I can even watch it. I associate it with these bittersweet memories. It may sound weird but that's how I feel.", "summary": "How do not give a fuck about Valentine's Day? Especially when last year's set the bar so high."}
{"id": "t3_370umt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22f] Boyfriend [22M] doesn't always tell me where he's at or where he's headed. Am I right in being slightly bothered? Or am I too clingy?", "post": "Just some info: We've been together for 8 months now, and we don't live together.\n\nSo I realise that my boyfriend doesn't always tell me where he's at, even though I usually do. Especially because we mostly text back and forth during the day. For example, if I'm heading out for drinks or dinner with friends, in between conversations, I'll just let him know.\n\nHowever, when he's out with friends, sometimes he doesn't say anything, unless I ask \"So what're you doing?\". Like yesterday, he was still replying me at 3am. He usually goes to bed at the latest 1, so I asked him why he's up so late. He tells me he's at a friend's place and they're having a couple of drinks. I was a bit bothered, but not sure why, and not even sure if I was right in feeling annoyed.\n\nMaybe it bothers me because in my past 2 relationships my exes always told me where they were at, not in a overly obsessive way, but just out of courtesy like, oh I am hanging with so-and-so etc.\n\n**Anyway, so, I just wanted to ask, do you usually tell your SOs where you're headed to or where you're at, without them asking? Am I wrong in feeling bothered?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't really provide information on where he's at unless I ask, is it wrong I feel slightly bothered?"}
{"id": "t3_2182n0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I[25F] give in to sexual desire and sleep with best friend[28M],or hold out to see if the feelings go deeper?", "post": "Lets do a bit of background first. Ive known him for nearly a decade, we have a speckled past of numerous sexual encounters however its never developed to anything more than that. We fell out over something trivial online a while ago and reconnected last month after he split from his ex. Its been great seeing him, ive definitely missed his company. There is quite a bit of flirting and we can both feel sexual tension in the air, but aside from that we mainly watch documentaries and smoke some doobs like friends.\n\nAnyway, just over a week ago he confessed he'd become more attracted to me recently, i told him id been feeling the same for him but it became confusing because i thought i had feelings for someone else too (turns out that guy is a douche). So we decided to not act on it, continue as normal and see if anything changes about the way we feel.\n\nWell, since then the sexual tension has become even more apparent. I have barely thought about my previous crush. But there are many complications to this. We talked further again last night and now i feel even more at ends. He has only recently become single and is unsure if his feelings for me are purely sexual or if theyre more. I told him Im scared of getting involved in something sexual when for me FWB only ever ends badly. And so the conclusion again is to do nothing but wait.\n\nIm feeling lost, a lot of men who ive met recently have only been interested in me sexually and i would hope for something more mature from him. Casual fun has lost its excitement and i need something real. He knows what I am looking for and doesnt want to let me down if it doesnt work out.", "summary": "Do i give in to sexual desire and sleep with best friend,or hold out to see if the feelings go deeper?"}
{"id": "t3_47vcul", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting clear liquid on my girlfriend's face [slightly NSFWish]", "post": "Unlike every post on this sub, this actually happened 1 and a half hour ago. The girlfriend was over, and like every young horny couple out there, we proceeded to do the \"sinking the sausage After feeling like 10 million bucks we proceeded to cuddle. The girlfriend then proceeds to \"wrestle me\" and tickle my bumhole. In self defense, I try to fart on her. What happened next I shall not ever live up to. I shat myself, with clear liquid(WTF?). Not a lot, but enough for her to notice. I quickly hop into the bathroom and clean myself. 1 and a half hour later, the gf is still googling symptoms and think it's bowel cancer.", "summary": "Asserted dominance by shitting clear liquid on girlfriend's face"}
{"id": "t3_xepjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, an insurance payout was made to my Aunt but my father received nothing despite for the insurance for many years. Help?", "post": "I'm pretty livid; my family were refugees and my dad worked to support 6 of his siblings through university while he couldn't. They are all educated and wealthy while my father is lower-middle class. \n\nMy father was paying an insurance that he unfortunately does not remember the name/function of during the 90s. Not long after my grandma passed away a payout was made to my Aunt, who was paying it after my Dad could no longer afford to (this led me to believe it was life insurance).\n\nHowever, my Aunt feels entitled to all of the payout. I am going to the bank hopefully for evidence of payments and am preparing to speak to a lawyer soon if my dad is entitled to some of that payout and she refuses to give. \n\nIs there anything else I can do or should know of? I will have more details/updates as I get them.", "summary": "Dad made some insurance payments years ago but my Aunt has all of the payout."}
{"id": "t3_h7cpi", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Am I a terrible person or is this irrational behavior?", "post": "Hey guys. Throwaway here.\n\nSo I've been seeing this girl for maybe two to three weeks. Been on maybe three or four dates with her. Last one we had, we ended up in bed together, which for me is pretty fast. I was a little weirded out by it but was not overly concerned. I figured it was just one of those things.\n\nI sms'ed her the next day about something or other, she replied amicably. I didn't think anything was wrong. Then we didn't have any contact for about three days (over the weekend). Today I had this email waiting for me:\n\n\"I take it from the lack of communication that you don't want anything to do with me any more. If I'm wrong, great. But I doubt it.\n\nI really thought you were better than this. I suggest that next time you just want to use someone for a one-off fuck, grow up and be up-front about it from the start. And if you lose interest, get over being a spineless creep and say you're not interested any more, instead of just going silent. Or maybe you just get a kick out of playing games with people's feelings (so this email will be a bonus, do enjoy the thrill of knowing you've upset me). Clearly you're just another devious play-acting cunt-rag.\"\n\nI've tried calling her, emailing her, she doesn't respond. I suspect she's blocked my number and spammed my email address.\n\nI really like(d) this girl, and I feel really bad. I know it's like Relationship 101 to call someone after you sleep with them, but I was actually genuinely busy and hadn't got round to it. Our relationship up to that point had been very casual. I fully intended to see her again. I didn't actually want to sleep with her, and I definitely wasn't trying to ditch her after I'd 'got what I wanted'. Am I wrong? Is she maybe a little bit irrational? How should I proceed?", "summary": "Hate mail from a girl after sleeping with her and not calling her soon enough afterwards. Do I deserve this level of hatred?"}
{"id": "t3_u5hnd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I tell my girlfriend she's too boring?", "post": "**CAVEAT - I'm going to sound like an arrogant douchebag. Let me preface this by stating that everything is said with the utmost of intended modesty. \n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for a bit over six months now, she's very attractive, very intelligent, and occasionally funny, other than this one problem, she'd be perfect. This problem was something that I ignored at my own peril at the start of the relationship, now it's biting me in the ass. \n\nQuite simply, my girlfriend is boring. During any kind of social engagement, she sits in the corner and doesn't talk to anybody except me. If she has something to say to somebody, she asks me to tell them. In private, she's demure to a fault, when she's not being indecisive she'll just agree with me. Whenever I ask her about why she's the way it is, she'll just tell me that she trusts me with whatever choice is being made, and I shouldn't worry about it, because it's impossible for her to get mad at me. \n\nAt this point, I'm ready to call it quits on the relationship - but she doesn't feel the same way. She's been nothing but dedicated to me and my needs for all things, except a real personality on my part. How do I let her go without damaging her feelings too badly?", "summary": "My girlfriend adores me, but I can't force her to have a personality. How do I break up with her nicely?"}
{"id": "t3_15cmub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is everyone so upset about having \"armed guards\" at schools?", "post": "As long as it isn't the actual teachers with guns, I don't see the problem. My school (which I went to from elementary through high school) had 2-3 \"armed\" security guards that were either off-duty or retired police officers. They conducted traffic before and after school, made sure there weren't any suspicious people around, and one would always be on campus during the night making sure no one broke in or did anything they weren't supposed to. They were all very nice and their main job was to keep the campus secure, safe, and help out where necessary.  One time I locked my keys in my car and they helped me get them out and a few times I left important class material in my locker and they let me in to get it after hours.  It's not like they sit outside classrooms with AKs and M4s. They just drive around in their security vehicle and say hi, work sports games, and keep children safe from potential predators. We could easily have a budget for 1-3 security guards (not dumb security guards, but off-duty/retired cops) if we cut back on our excessive military or other government spending.", "summary": "Had security guards at my school (off-duty/retired cops).  They were cool. Don't want teachers with guns. "}
{"id": "t3_3j89eb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying a new flavor of potato chips (TL:DR)", "post": "I am in a two day out of town training class for work and the training class is in one of those nicely manicured yet non descriptive office parks. \n\nWe had an hour lunch break and I had Subway.  I ordered a footlong ham and cheese, 2 cookies, bottled water and some chips.\n\nIn retrospect, the chips may be the culprit as they were a flavor I've never tried before.  Lays New York Reuben flavored potato chips.   \n\nIt may sound gross, but I was curious to this new flavor. \n\nI sat in my car and wolfed down my meal, downed the cookies, water and chips and returned to the 72 degree climate controlled training room. \n\nAbout an hour later, I sensed a disturbance in my bowels as something...something evil...was trying to break free from its dark prison. I began to sweat through my gingham patterned shirt and attempted to loosen the belt on my khakis.  I didn't attempt to relieve some of the pressure by letting some gas escape lest this demon inside shed its vile manacles and begin its dark assault upon the unsuspecting occupants of the room. \n\nSo I got up and rushed to the restroom. once inside the restroom I released the foul beast from its  anal prison. \n\nIt burst forth with such fury and a mighty bellow  that the ladies in the adjoining restroom could be heard saying things like, \"OH MY!\" and \"What did he eat???\"\n\nIt was the chips lady.  It was the chips. \n\nThe truly awful part? I'm the only male in the building so everyone knows it was me.", "summary": "Ate some Lays New York Reuben flavored potato chips.  "}
{"id": "t3_4zcxcb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I would rather be homeless than work. How do I motivate myself to work?", "post": "Like the title says, I'd rather be homeless than work. Prepare yourselves; I'm going to sound like a huge whiner. I have a really good job, pays well, only work 4 days a week, awesome PTO and benefits, and I like my coworkers (with the exception of my boss, but I don't see him often) but I dread going. \n\nI'm not passionate about anything. I don't get excited about anything in life outside or inside of work. I've had over 20 jobs, and I'm fairly young. Never been fired, I just stop going, usually around the 6 month mark, sometimes earlier. I'm at the 6 month mark in my current position and think about quiting everyday. I call in a lot, but never seem to get in trouble for it. I do very little real work.\n\nThere's nothing I want to do with life, except travel, hike, and eat good food, and no one is paying for that. I'm lucky because I have a disability income of roughly $1500 a month from breaking my back and the following surgeries. Many days I think about just using that to live off of and never working again, but I have a mortgage, debt, etc, (no kids, fortunately), so I know I wouldn't last long on that.\n\nAnyway, what would you do in my situation?  Why do I hate/dread going to my awesome job so much? Why do I always quit after 6 months? How can I change my perspective and motivate myself to get up and go every day?", "summary": "I can't keep a job to save my life and am about to quit my current (really good) job with no other prospects, just because I don't like going. How do I stop this cycle and motivate myself?"}
{"id": "t3_cko1m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most asinine thing you've done while drunk?", "post": "Here is mine:\n\nIt's memorial day weekend and my family was having a cookout in the afternoon, and later that day I was going to go to my friends for a rousing night of beer drinking and games of cornhole.  I spent the morning doing yard work and I didn't hydrate myself enough.  So once I got to my aunts house I started slamming beers, getting 3 down before my friend drank half of his energy drink.\n\nFast forward about 3 hours.  I'm at my friends house playing cornhole and I'm a minimum of 20 beers deep (I lost count) and the shit talking is getting deep when a scoring dispute happens.  I carefully count the score 1 bag at a time and the guys are still arguing with me.  \n\nSomeone makes a smartass comment about my intelligence and I threw the bag I had in my hand about 40 yards and walk off.  About 15 seconds later I walk back over and grab the cooler and attempt to throw it across the yard, but the handle snaps in half and I go rolling down the side of the driveway.  I get back up grab the cooler and shot put it into the yard.  \n\nIt's at this point I decide to just walk away.  I take off down the sidewalk to hopefully cool off.  I passed out under a tree and woke up face down puking an hour later.  I walked back down the street but everyone is gone including my pissed off wife.  My shirt and sandals are missing and I can't get a hold of anyone and don't have my wallet so I ended up walking 7 miles home at 2AM barefoot wearing a \"wife beater\" tank top.  My feet hurt for a long time.", "summary": "I eloquently handled a scoring dispute and everyone had a smashing good time."}
{"id": "t3_cligd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey traveling Redditors! What's the best way to book a flight?", "post": "I'm flying to NY from FL for a week for a friends birthday and to catch up with everyone from 'home'. I've been looking at the flight prices and they've been consistent until today when i was finally able to solidify the dates. It went up by 26 dollars for the departing flight. I don't have much to begin with and I really want to see my friend but this makes it harder since I'm out of work right now. I want to get there on a Thursday and leave the next Friday. How is it that a Thursday flight has enough demand to raise the price by 26 bucks in a day? I looked on expedia and the price is exactly the same. Are there any secrets, coupons or cheap flight hotlines I'm missing out on?", "summary": "I've never booked my own flight before, help me out?"}
{"id": "t3_2nb5un", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] confused after going on a pretty good date.", "post": "I recently went for a coffee with a girl I didn't really know, to get to know her and that. It went really good, she was talking more than me, and there were no awkward pauses or that, and it felt pretty good.\n\nSo, I was away to ask to meet her again in the future, but she did that before me and went for a hug. At this point, I was thinking that this is pretty damn great :D\n\nBut... it's been a while since then and I haven't heard back at all, and I had no reply to my text asking to meet up again. Situation has left me a little confused because she seemed interested, but I guess not really? Why say meet up again?", "summary": "went on a date with a girl, went great, she asked me to meet again, haven't spoke since. Confused!"}
{"id": "t3_1t78ay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trusting is getting hard (relationships, infidelity, personal issue, dating, maybe more)", "post": "So, some background. \n\nI (19/M) was in a nearly five year relationship, and had even proposed by the end. I ended it 6 months ago because I found out she was cheating on me. I'll refer to her as A (19/F) for the remainder of the post.\n\nWe shared most friends, and one of them, lets call her B (19/F), had told me about a year before we broke up that she was cheating on me. I didn't believe her, and ended the friendship with her. As did A and most of our friends. I thought it was just because she lied. I asked a few of A's close friends why B would say these things, and none of them knew. I trusted A, but I started to lose trust in her over this, because she had a few online flings that I found out about beforehand and stayed with her after.\n\nRecently, my friend B contacted me, and I apologized for not believing her. We've been talking a lot recently, and she told me that there was more. That A had been cheating on me nearly the entire time we we're in a relationship. And nearly everyone I knew had known about it in someway or another. I have no reason to doubt B because she is brutally honest. I'm not going to bother checking with anyone, because it's pointless now and I doubt they would tell me the truth anyway. I had just started to trust people more again, but since this came up...I don't know. I feel like I won't be able to trust anyone being in a relationship like I was in with her again, and if we shared friends, how the hell can I trust them? \n\nI know I'm young, but I just want some advice if anyone can provide some.", "summary": "Just found out in my last relationship I was being cheated on nearly the entire time and had no idea. Everyone else it seems knew. I don't know what to do, just feel like I can't trust anyone."}
{"id": "t3_1eci1t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(24F) am 8 months pregnant, just discovered my partner(40M) was making arrangements to meet girls on a business trip he didn't end up going on, 3 months a go.", "post": "My boyfriend(40M) and I(24F) have been together for a about 18 months, we purposely got me pregnant last year, the baby is due in about 5 weeks. My partner was using my laptop and left his e-mail logged in last night, because I had found a few topless pictures of girls on his phone last July, I have trust issues, so I decided to take a look at his e-mails, he always deletes everything in his inbox which was what it was open to so I decided to check his sent messages. There were e-mail exchanges with two girls in Seattle where he was supposed to go on a business trip in February planning meetups. He never ended up going on the business trip, one girl didn't respond and the other said she didn't have time to meet him. He told me after I snooped last time that if I did it again we would be done. I am feeling almost like I want to break things off because I cannot trust him, but I am pregnant and crazy. Should I even bother talking to him?", "summary": "8 month pregnant 24F snooped 40M boyfriend's open e-mail and found e-mails to ladies saying he wanted to meet up on his business trip, both shut him down. 40M said if 24F snooped again the relationship would be over. What should I(24F) do?"}
{"id": "t3_428vce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 6 months, should I tell her about my insecurities?", "post": "To give a little bit of background, about a year before I met my current SO, I got out of a very toxic, unhealthy 2 year relationship. Without going into too much detail, it involved constant manipulation and emotional abuse from my partner, and left me with a very low self-esteem and sense of self worth by the end of it. I had some counselling, and waited a year before I felt ready to date again.\n\nSeven months ago, I met my current girlfriend, and we've been together for the past 6 months. It's been going amazing, I love her, and she hasn't given me any reason to believe that she doesn't feel the same about me.\n\nRecently though, and despite all this, I've begun feeling insecure about my relationship. I know, logically, that I have no reason to, and that my GF has done absolutely nothing to make me feel this way. But still, everytime we have a rushed goodbye, everytime she has a reason for not being able to see me (which, by the way, are few and far between, and are always good reasons), part of me feels afraid. I'm afraid that she's only tolerating me, I'm afraid that I'm not good enough, afraid that she's losing those feelings she has for me. And no matter how much I tell myself this isn't true, I still feel those doubts in the back of my mind. And I know that if I continue to feel this way, I'll end up sabotaging the relationship myself somehow.\n\nNow, she knows about my ex, but not the extent to which I feel that relationship messed me up. She's also been a victim of abuse in the past, so I'm sure she would understand, but I'm not sure if I should tell her these things, or if I should work through it myself.", "summary": "Old, toxic relationship left me sorta messed up. Feeling those same insecurities with my new girlfriend. Should I tell her these things?"}
{"id": "t3_3khr1f", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "What is this skin condition?!", "post": "Hi AskDocs! I need your help. Yesterday evening I began to notice a hot, itchy rash around my neck/collarbone area. Took a Benadryl and went to bed. \n\nWoke up with rash still there but decided it was ok to go to work. About an hour in, it started spreading down to side chest so I went to urgent care. Doc said I'm having an allergic reaction and prescribed more Benadryl and steroids. I've never had allergies and there are no changes in diet, soap, clothing, etc.\n\nTook prescribed meds around noon and noticed some improvement. Around 7, started to noticed a second flare up but much worse this time. It's spread down my back and on my right wrist. Neck is still blotchy red in some areas. \n\nI have another doc appt tmo morning but I wanted to see if yall had any ideas. What could this be? I have no other symptoms (no nausea, flu like symptoms, nothing). Is it legit allergic reaction? Something more serious? The fact that it's spreading so fast is freaking me out. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "skin rash spreading fast since yesterday evening. Taking Benadryl and steroids prescribed by urgent care doc for allergic reaction and not working. What could it be? "}
{"id": "t3_40t648", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "FAFSA Parent Plus Buyout", "post": "I took 5 years to get a bachelor's degree in Electrical Engineering. I am now gainfully employed (around 65k), but I have to pay off these loans. They added up to *quite* a bit since I had to attend school out of state for most of it.\n\nMy personal portion was only 30% of the loans. Parent Plus had to do the rest, since my folks look *great* on paper. In reality, they are in a sea of debt caused by medical hardships (cancer, kidney failures, etc, which had to come out of pocket).\n\nI told my parents that I would pay them once I had a job, and **I am doing so.** The problem is, now I am taxed at 28% of my income, and don't get any writeoffs for the interest I have been paying on the Parent Plus. I want to consolidate my loans with the Parent Plus, and take the debt into my name. I could build amazing credit by paying these off, but as far as credit companies or banks are concerned, the nearly 50% of my take-home pay that vanishes to the Parent Plus is just being \"spent.\" Is there a way out of this one, or am I just stuck?\n\nThe Parent Plus loans consist of seven separate loans ranging from 6.4 to 7.9%. My personal loans consist of four separate loans ranging from 3.4% to 6.8%. I feel that there should be some way to consolidate these all reasonably.\n\nA Wells Fargo Banker told me that banks won't give me a loan to pay this off, since it would be paying a government loan with a private loan. Is there some way around this?\n\n---\n\nI also posted this on /r/askreddit, but after about ten seconds of googling, I found this subreddit, which seems much better suited to my needs.", "summary": "I took FAFSA Parent Plus loans out through my parents and I want to buy them out. Is there a way to do this at all?"}
{"id": "t3_41va3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29M] girlfriend [29F] is emotionless", "post": "We've been dating for about 2 months and I'm beginning to notice something troubling about her. She's a self-proclaimed \"robot\". She doesn't cry. She's got a 'tough-guy-exterior'.\n\nShe's only had two previous long term relationships since she was  a teenager. Both of her exes treating her poorly. I think that she's been emotionally scarred, and the way she deals with it is by putting up walls. She won't let herself be vulnerable.\n\nWhen I told her I had a dream about my dad dying, her response was \"are you disturbed? Why are you dreaming about death, you sicko?\"\n\nIt worries me that she's unable to let herself feel.", "summary": "My girlfriend has been scarred by previous relationships and put up walls. I love her and want to help her break those walls down. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_y8yus", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How long of a time table are we looking at to repair/fix bad credit?", "post": "I don't have the greatest credit, small debts totaling about 1,700 dollars.\nI bought my mother a house last year, I just paid my last car payment and just have 2 credit cards I haven't paid in about 3 years. Just no money.\nWell getting married in a couple months and planning on moving next year and wanting to clean up my credit a little. \nmy score is at about 600 I just don't want it to be a problem later on and is it even worth paying my small debts off? I read that it could make my score worse.\nI pulled my credit from all 3 credit bureaus and everything looked correct , I just want to know my next move. \nany help would be awesome as I'm not sure whats my next move.", "summary": "pulled credit reports and curious what to do next or what the next best step is."}
{"id": "t3_2f0sme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/M] Accused of being afraid of being alone; Does anyone else feel like this?", "post": "**Brief History:** My girlfriend [26/F] left me 11 days ago. She of course took her kid whom I had grown to love. The only real explanation I was given as to why was that she misses her family and wants to try to make amends with her ex to get it back.\n\nThe day before she left, me and the kid [3/F] had spent the day together. We went for a walk, stomped the icky ants, fed ducks, went to the playground and came home to bake cookies and banana bread to surprise momma. While we were baking she asks if she can sing me a song, I of course say yes. She sings \"You are my sunshine\" and ends it with an \"I love you Im_not_evil.\" I gave her a good long hug and told her I loved her too. \n\n---\n**Why I'm posting:** So in an effort to stay away from the house and stay busy, I have reached out to a variety of existing and potential friends. Including attempting to meet new people through Meetups, dating sites, and random approaches. The accusation that I am afraid to be alone has been thrown around and it made me start to think about the legitimacy of the claims.\n\n**The DAE feel like this?:** I have natural inclinations to buy flowers for someone or to cook for them. To clean the house and surprise them with a hot salt bath. I want to oil them up and give them a back rub until they fall asleep and then lay down next to them and hold them. I **LOVE** to do nice things like this! However, I need someone to do them for. I also want someone I can protect, support, and challenge. A partner against the world. **I want the energy to be invested in building a relationship.** Preferably an enduring one. This inherently implies a need for another person in my life.\n\nA friend suggested I channel the energy into something else but I don't know what to do with it or how. Do you have suggestions?", "summary": "Accused of being afraid of being alone. I constantly want to do nice things for others and want to invest it into someone for the long term."}
{"id": "t3_3gmo5a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by liking a guy", "post": "Small backstory: I used to date a guy who's probably ~the one who got away~ (ugh, the worst). He graduated from our college a year before me and it didn't feel right to ask him to stay close for law school so he moved across the country and that was that.  By the time all this happened, I was a senior and I really didn't care to let any relationships get too serious with graduation right around the corner.\n\nA couple months ago, I got drunk and thought downloading tinder would be fun (I was absolutely right, but that's not the point). I started talking to and hanging out with this guy to the point where we were talking every day and hanging out every weekend for a month or so. For the first time since my ex, I started to let myself actually like someone...and then I got ghosted. Womp. \n\nIt seems stupid, but I took the whole thing pretty tough and have been trying to find things to keep myself busy for the last month. I came into work today after taking a long weekend and realized that I hadn't finished up this proposal for a huge potential client. I had to tell my boss about everything and I stupidly mentioned the guy, which ended in her giving me a 45 minute pep talk about how I'm worth it and deserve better blah blah blah while my other boss sat awkwardly across the desk silently wishing someone would put a bullet in his brain. I eventually started feeling so bummed and embarrassed that I felt physically ill. Then I puked all over my boss's office.", "summary": "I liked a guy, but he didn't like me so I forgot to do my job and got sick all over my boss's office while she tried to convince me that I'm not the worst."}
{"id": "t3_3vyj6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my friend [36 F] if 2 years, has the expectation that we should hang out often and I find it somewhat annoying.", "post": "Hello, I have this friend who is an amazing person.  I met her at a party and we clicked immediately.  We chat daily and frequently throughout and I love chatting with her.\n\nThroughout our friendship she has always needed a little work with boundaries, but nothing major.  She use to have the expectation that we hung out weekly and I kind of got guilted into it and would do it - but I have been slowly pushing that out.  I have a very busy schedule and many friend groups that I put time into.\n\nWhere I am at now is she will ask me to do something on a particular day or a weekend that I'm busy, so I decline her invitation.  We got into a spat because I wouldn't suggest a day the following week.  She said the polite thing to do is to suggest a day, but i've been super busy with school, health issues, work, social events, sometimes I just need a day to myself.  I don't feel the polite thing to do is to just force a hole in my calendar of a busy week that I'm not entirely sure what it looks like yet.  Also, maybe there is a friend I haven't seen in a month or 2 that is getting that 'time slot'.\n\nI set a boundary that way after a long heated debate.  But now she will ask me to do something and state how long it's been constantly.  \"We should hang out Sunday, it's been a couple weeks.\"  And I know it doesn't sound like much pressure, but it's the constant pressure of time building up - it's the guilt trip laying behind it.  Like she makes a week apart seem bad, 2 weeks is worse and sometimes by the 3rd week she'll say stuff like \"Keep a day open on the weekend and we will go for dinner.\"\n\nI find it irritating and makes me not want to hang out just in spite, but am I being a bad friend?  Or is this generally annoying behaviour?", "summary": "Friend constantly puts pressure to hang out and lays guilt trips.  When she asks to hang out she will constantly remind me how long it's been (even though the length in time will be like a week or 2), when in fact some friends I don't see for a month or two at a time.  Is this just plain annoying or am I overly sensitive and a bad friend?"}
{"id": "t3_15tk87", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think a girl gave me some hints at newyears eve, were they obvious or wasn't it hints at all?", "post": "So I was at a party with my friends on newyear at some girls place with a bunsh of girls. Anyways there was one girl who I talked to, she was really nice and after I always say her looking at me. I was not drinking yesterday cause my grandma should pick me up and she didn't seem drunk at all which made it harder. It was ju a little awkard talk and also dancing just me and her, slowsong etc. Im fairly new to parties and to kiss girls at parties or just hangout\n\nI don't know maybe se gave me some hints what do you think?\nAlso we sat around a table and they were talking about kissing and stugf and when I looked at her she seemed ebarrassed but were still looking at me.\n\nDo you think she wanted me to kiss her etc and I ruined the chance? I could easily done that when we were dancing.Did I screw up?\n\nShould I maybe contact her via facebook and try talk about yesterday?", "summary": "I think a girl gave me some obivous hints but I were to stupid to understand."}
{"id": "t3_1dfjrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20] wants to get tattoos and I (her boyfriend) [24] am not attracted to them.", "post": "Me [24] and my girlfriend (Natalie) [20] have been going out for 8 months now. We love each other deeply and see ourselves getting married one day. Natalie really likes tattoos and she plans to get many over the course of her life. Maybe it's because i'm from Michigan (a more conservative state) and she is from California, or perhaps it's what I was told was beautiful as a child, or maybe it's because I simply enjoy the natural look of a woman, but I have always been objected to the look of tattoos. I can appreciate them, I can enjoy the art, I will not judge someone for them, but I simply just don't think it's attractive. \n\nMy girlfriend is worried about this and understandably so. She is concerned that things won't be the same once she gets them, and honestly I don't know exactly how I'm going to react to it once I see them. However getting tattoos is not something that she is willing to compromise. She has made it clear to me that this is something she is going to do regardless of my viewpoint. \n\nI will love this girl regardless of her image. If all her teeth go knocked out tomorrow, I would still love her with all my heart. But I can't promise that I will still have the same level of attraction to her. \n\nAny advice on this issue would be extremely helpful. I feel like we are kind of at a standstill and it doesn't sit right with either of us.Thanks and I will be available to answer any questions.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants tattoos but I am not attracted to them and getting them is not something she is willing to compromise. I'm worried about her getting them and she is worried about how things might change once she does."}
{"id": "t3_3es58o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] and my ex-girlfriend [19F] are going to live together in september after not seeing each other since may", "post": "Me and my ex dated for about 8 months (she broke up with me for a short amount of time in january). We go to the same college, basically always lived together in a dorm.\n\nShe broke up with me a month after school year ended with the explanation of \"i just don't feel the same any more, i am doing what's best for me\" and basically came to a conclusion that she is not into girls anymore. \n\nThe break up was extremely hard on me but it has been a little over a month and since we both live in different countries, I am starting to feel okay again. We text almost every day because I just can't imagine my life without having her as a friend at least.\n\nThe thing is that before the school year ended we signed a contract to live together in a dorm room. As I mentioned, we basically lived together before but it was kind of like \"she sleeps in my room for a week, i sleep in hers for another week\". She says she has no problem with living together and that it will not make her uncomfortable.\n\nI am worried that it will be particularly hard on me because I have to admit, I still have feelings for her and probably always will have. I just feel like she is my soulmate and I honestly never met a person like her. \n\nSo I am wondering if I should live with her or just look for another roommate... I want to stay friends and maybe more (who knows, I will not initiate anything) but the thought of her bringing a guy/girl to her room and me seeing that just doesn't sound appealing.", "summary": "Have to live together with an ex-girlfriend. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1gxdva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25/M] Her [24/F] 2 yrs together: Stupid fight, but I think her solution is silly...", "post": "I apologize in advance because I realize that many people in this thread have much more serious relationship problems than I do.  But a recent fight btwn me and my GF of 2 yrs is driving me crazy and I need thoughts/perspective.\n\nShe and I both love stupid, Michael-Bay-style, summer blockbuster, blow shit up movies.  We love watching them together. On a couple of rare occasions before, we've expressed interest in watching movies XYZ--and then I went out to watch XYZ with family or friends without her, due to various circumstances.  She jokingly gave me grief about that and ended up never watching XYZ even though I said I'd watch it again with her, because she said she would feel like I would only be doing that out of obligation to her.\n\nLast month I watched F&F6--a movie she's been talking about for a year--without her bc she was at a rehearsal dinner that night.  I was out with a friend who suggested going to watch it, and we didn't have anything better to do that night, so we did.  I also watched it the day after with her, and didn't tell her about my first viewing until yesterday. Now she's pissed that I watched it without her AND I hid the fact.\n\nI do not see why she won't let me watch movies with friends/family, and then watch them again with her--which I'm perfectly willing to.  Her position is that she doesn't want to feel like an obligation (on the premise that, if it weren't for her, I wouldn't watch the movie twice).  She wants me to tell my friends that I've already committed to seeing the movie with her, or to have us all go together when possible, or to just watch things with my friends and she'll watch the movie separately.  Thoughts?", "summary": "GF will not watch movies with me if I've already seen them, even if I'm willing to watch them again with her."}
{"id": "t3_11nsi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Huge dilemma as a result of learning about boyfriend's colorful sexual past. I don't know what to do. Him 23, myself 20", "post": "I would just like to begin by saying that as you can probably guess from the name that this is a throwaway account because bf and mutual friends are redditors. My issue is this: \n\nThe other day, after a year in this relationship, my boyfriend and I got into a discussion about how many people he's slept with (he already knew my number which is 4 men). We went in chronological order where I got the names and stories attached to these conquests. I was fine for the first few but I was pretty upset by the end of this conversation where his final count was FORTY. \n\nI know it was all in his past while I'm the one in his present and that he hasn't changed being who he is from before I knew that info to after but to think that there were 40 other women before me deeply unsettles me and, to be honest, kind of makes me feel sick/queasy. It makes me think that he disrespects sex. In my mind it shouldn't be something you should engage in because you *can* (as from most of his stories it appears to have been for him; a challenge to see if he could). \n\nI love him very much and actually see myself spending the rest of my life with this man. I'm not worried he's going to cheat or anything bad like that and I know he can't erase his past (if he even wants to) but I can't get this out of my head and had I learned this before I fell in love with him it probably would have been a deal breaker. However, he is an amazing man and I love him very much. What I'm asking is for advice on how to get past this and not be bothered by it, or even what reddit thinks my next step in this relationship needs to be. Sorry the description is so long", "summary": "I need advice on how to get over the fact that my boyfriend's slept with 40 women and I just learned this a year into the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2d2m2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [23 F] broke up with me [24M] after 4 years. She hooked up with someone else for a while, now wants me back.", "post": "Ex explained to me a few months ago that she was generally unhappy in the relationship and that she wanted to be single for a while. I obviously was not okay with this. She broke up with me back in February.\n\nI found out she was hooking up with some guy from work for a few months during the time of our breakup.\n\nShe recently reached out saying that she really misses me and wants to get back together. I'm not so sure though. I'm obviously devastated and of course I would love to give another try, but who knows if she would do it again sometime in the future? Why would I want to commit to someone who gave up on me to hook up with someone else for a while?\n\nWhat do you think, reddit?", "summary": "Ex of 4 years broke up with me for a few months. During that time she hooked up with someone else. Now she wants me back, and I'm unsure if I should take her back."}
{"id": "t3_uogcu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[35/f] Storage Wars: Garage filled with his (43/m) ex's stuff", "post": "My SO's house is somewhat cluttered, and he has a touch of a hoarding problem. Real estate is scarce, and even though I moved in around six months ago, I still don't have a workspace or any closet space. I started cleaning out the garage in order to move some of his stuff downstairs so that I can move my stuff upstairs, and I discovered box after box of his ex's personal stuff - photos, bank records, clothing, holiday decorations, you name it. \n\nI asked him about it, and he said that he's been storing her stuff for years. So, this woman asked him to store a ton of stuff, and he agreed to do it, according to him, years ago. I expressed displeasure in the form of a stream of obscenities (not constructive, I know), and he refused to throw it out. He also doesn't acknowledge that it's hurtful to store her stuff when I don't even have a place to hang up my work clothes, or set up my computer. \n\nI also don't understand why he didn't tell me about this stuff when I moved in. I've asked about the garage before because I've been trying desperately to make room for my stuff, and he said it was his stuff, and there's no room for my stuff (clearly untrue because I could see that the garage has more space than any other room in the house). \n\nHow can I get him to understand that I don't want to share our house with his ex? Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "I don't have room in \"our\" house for my stuff, but there's a whole room filled with stuff that belongs to his ex. He doesn't want to get rid of it. How do I handle this (without breaking up with him)?"}
{"id": "t3_26igr6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] think my GF [23F] of 7 month may be drepressed, I don't know what to do", "post": "Hi, /r/relationships , here's the story:\n\n**She's not from my country**, and she came here for studying local language and a masters degree. She lives in a city 1 hour away from mine (in train), and we see each other every week, 2-3 days.\n\n**She has had mental issues in the past**, took medication, she was seeing a neurologist, and was depressed for some time, before coming to my country.\n\n**We had a breakup** (more or less) **in December**. She said she couldn't be dependent on me, she wasn't feeling like being with anyone... but we kept having sex, and little by little, we recovered the romance in the relationship. Like new.\n\nThe weather here is terrible, it's May and it's hardly warm or sunny. Here it's hard to make friends, although after 8 months, she's starting to have some.  She complaints a lot about that, and she tells me she doesn't remember why she came here, if **\"everything could be better somewhere else\"** (which hurts for me).\n\nShe told me that nothing in her life is ok. **She's not happy with a single aspect of her life.** She told me that we had to talk, and I came to her place. We had a very nice time, nice sex, cuddled, had dinner... I talked seriously to her, but she didn't, in the end. \n\nI told her that I want to be one thing that is OK in her life, and she told me \"but it's not\" (I knew that). I told her that I'd rather discuss this face-to-face, instead of text, and she said \"But I can't\"\n\nI try to make her happy, and **when she's with me, she seems happy for most of the time**, but then... She tells me that she's not happy with anything. I'm clueless. I dont' know what to do anymore.\n\nThank you", "summary": "My Girl thinks every aspect of her life is wrong"}
{"id": "t3_3s6oki", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "[Advice needed] Our dogs turned on one of their pack-mates", "post": "I could use some advice.  My wife and I are currently on vacation in Italy and our dogs are being watched by a friend who is house-sitting for us. Our small pack consists of:\n\n* Moxie (4 year old cattledog/pit? mix)\n\n* Maynard (4 year old bloodhoud)\n\n* Brena (9 year old boxer)\n\nA couple of hours ago we got a text that the house-sitter came home yesterday and found that Brena had apparently been attacked by the other two (they were in the backyard while she was at work).  She has multiple lacerations on her throat and legs and had to have emergency surgery. Luckily she is expected to recover.  Until she fully heals I'm going to keep them separate, but I'm concerned about what to do after that.\n\nThe thing is, our dogs have been all together for at least 3 years (when we rescued Moxie) and nothing like this has ever happened.  The only sqabbles we've ever seen has been over food and consisted of aggressive barking, never any blood.  It has happened maybe twice this whole year.  I thought that was fairly normal (am I wrong?).  There was no food in our backyard when this happened.\n\nThis has really hit us hard.  They have always been great together.  Moxie and especially Maynard are super sweet dogs.  I feel like I must have done something horribly wrong in their training, or overlooked something huge.\n\nHas anyone had any experience with a situation like this?  What should we do to keep anything like this from happening again?", "summary": "Our dogs attacked our oldest dog while we were away on vacation.  Advice needed."}
{"id": "t3_2o1qg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Might this girl [24F] be interested in me [28F]?", "post": "As background, I'm a romantic asexual who strongly prefers to date other asexuals (I've been in relationships with sexual people who I really liked, but I think the sexual incompatiability tends to be deal breaker for anything long term). As a result, I've found the internet to be the best dating pool, unless you live in DC, Philly, or Phoenix.\n\nAbout two weeks ago, I met this girl online via my profile on an ace meet up thing, where I, like most people, had indicated possible platonic or romantic interests--whatever happens. We chatted a bit on site and seemed to have good \"chat chemistry\" and have similar interests. We traded numbers and have been chatting daily via text, facebooked each other, etc., and are in the process of scheduling a skype meet (it would be long distance but a doable travel distance if something develops--again, the fun of ace dating). She's been asking me questions that seem to go beyond what you would normally ask a new platonic friend (e.g., are tattoos dealbreakers?) and has said I'm attractive (as is she, IMO), which makes me wonder if she might be interested in something romantic if the face-to-face chemistry is there. So far, I like her on one level or another--she's kind, responsive, and generally engaging, and we have similar interests. I'd like to get to know her better to see if romantic possibilities are there or if we'ed simply be platonic friends.\n\nOne thing that gives me pause is that she mentioned that she's not really into dating and hasn't dated much because of her asexuality. On the other hand, that's most asexuals for you, really--many of us don't date much because the asexual dating pool is tiny and dating sexual people is often not successful or desirable for many of us.", "summary": "Are there signs that she might be interested in something beyond a platonic relationship or am I misreading things?"}
{"id": "t3_2rwvxb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ignoring my ex.", "post": "Unlike most posts on this subreddit, this happened yesterday and today. Anyways, I was dating this girl I liked for about a month and a half. She took relationships slow, which I respected because It was also my first relationship. We went on dates about every month and I thought we were both happy, and that eventually the smoochpocolapse would be happening soon. (Never beyond this though, she was a prodistant and said she didn't want any sexual type of things to happen until marriage, which I also respected.) So yesterday I'm texting her saying that she's beautiful and amazing, trying to speed up the relationship in some way because it was TOO slow. I'm texting her and texting her and she says she wants to talk to me and lunch on Thursday at school. Also, this was no 1 week occasion as mentioned before. Lunch rolls around and she said she wasn't that happy, and wanted to mutually end the relationship. I said that's ok, just as long as we were still friends. So I sit down across from her and I notice she was being a little flirtatious with one of her other friends, i.e. playing footsie and sitting uncomfortably close to each other. I thought it was nothing. Later I was disgusted that she did all of that not even 6 minutes after we broke it off. Today I completely ignored her and now feel bad because she was an amazing friend, but I don't know if I want to be friends wIt a girl that was flirting right after we broke up.\n\nReddit, TIFU. Sorry for formatting, on mobile.", "summary": "Had a breakup with my girlfriend, she was being flirty to another boy, ignored a good friend."}
{"id": "t3_3yym2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 8 months just broke up and are living together...how do I handle this?", "post": "Boyfriend of 8 months just dumped me because he \"fell out of love with me\". We moved in with each other after just a few months of dating (please don't give me a speech about moving in so quickly...I have already learned that painful lesson haha). Now he's broken up with me and wants to break the lease. \n\nUnfortunately, I have not fallen out of love with him. But for a month we are stuck living together. I have nowhere else to really stay that is close enough to my job and neither does he. How can I handle this best, hurt myself least, and heal the most quickly while still having to be with someone I love for 4-6 more weeks? I know it's not much time but right now it seems like ages. Thanks.", "summary": "Boyfriend dumped me, still love him, stuck living together for at least a month. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_3iv50o", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[TX] Volunteers damaged apartment property while moving up a dresser. Who's liable?", "post": "Pretty much what the title says. A large charitable organization damaged the door of another apartment on the first floor while they were moving a dresser that we donated.\n\nWe notified the office manager after the movers left, as they didn't tell us about it. The manager was very nice and said he would document the incident and get back to us on Monday. The apartment manager is claiming that we are liable for the property damage, and need to get reimbursed by the charity on our own time.\n\nWe're moving out in a few weeks. What's the right approach here? Is it up to the apartment manager to work with the charity that did the damage directly? Or are they correct that we need to pay for the damage and then seek reimbursement?\n\nWe're moving out soon. Are they allowed to take this out of our security deposit?", "summary": "Charity organization volunteers damaged apartment property, and I'd like to know whether they are liable or if I need to pay and then seek reimbursement."}
{"id": "t3_12564e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] need help translating my feelings about my girlfriend [26F] and our 4 year relationship into something less blunt because I'm bad at communicating and kind of a d-bag", "post": "As the title says, I've [28M] been with my girlfriend [26F] for about 4 years and relationship insecurities/commitment issues are creeping in and they're starting to drive me crazy.\n\nOur relationship is great--we've never really fought, are very stable and have been living together for about 3 years now. She's gorgeous, smart and I'm incredibly lucky to be with her. \n\nBUT...\n\nWe've both told each other that we don't know if we ever want to get married (to anyone, ever). Now I'm starting to wonder if I'm kidding myself about that and that I might just not feel that spark or desire with her specifically. \n\nBasically, it's been 4 years and I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with her. \n\nAnd then I start to wonder if I'm cheating myself out of finding that desire with somebody else and have recently started freaking out--like bad dreams every night this week.\n\nFor the record, neither of us are very talkative--we don't bring up issues we have with each other and when we do it's short snippets of us trying to figure out what we're trying to say, bumbling along, while kind of avoiding eye contact. Vocalizing things like this feels like nails on a chalkboard to me.", "summary": "I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years, love her, but am not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with her. How do I open up a conversation about this in a constructive way? Is that even possible?"}
{"id": "t3_1rncde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 40/F] Have been friends fore 10 years He has told me to blocked my post on a networking He finds my pictures upsetting Hes single Ive started a new reationship_38_ [M/] duration, short-description", "post": "THE BEGINING. we met 10 years ago we use to work with one another Weve never got into a relationship just stayed friends. he's a male of 38 i'm 40. i have moved around with work but we have kept in touch texting and calls he's single i've started a new relationship we have seen one another in the past but not recent.\n\nTHE MIDDLE BIT. i'm feeling  confused since i added him to a networking site some months ago. he's been acting strange towards me. i wanted us to keep in touch and stay friends so i added him he's been ignoring my posts which he's always done anyway. he's ignore my messages asking if he's ok. i just thought its his right to talk or ignore. so i left him a loan . i have asked him whats wrong at first he didnt want to say he messaged saying \"my pictures with my new partner he finds upsetting\". this shocked me because i know hes got no feelings for me and i thought maybe he's just being funny. he puts pictures up with the women in his life friends extra it dont bother me.", "summary": "since weve last spoken he says hes going to update his setting to block my posts out.i know its his right but i'm upset by this can anyone give me advice on what to do next. i dont know whats going on in his head i'm confused by it all. i'm only on this networking site for fun not to up set anyone :("}
{"id": "t3_wgaus", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: How Can You Maintain A Long-Distance Relationship...When You See Them Every Day?", "post": "So... there's this girl (typical beginning to a problem, huh?). We're both 15. We like each other. A lot. The problem is that neither her parents nor mine will let us date (anyone, not just each other). Typically this could be solved by introducing her as a friend, right? Wrong. Both of our parents have discouraged friendship with the opposite sex (nothing religious or anything, and not open discouragement). So we can't really hang out outside of school. Neither one of us have a LOT of friends, so it's not like we can go to the movies with other friends. But I see this girl every day at school (although no classes together starting fall). It really sucks to only be able to spend an hour at most together in a very public place where any form of affection is a breach of school rules (public school, not Catholic or anything. PDA- Public Display of Affection). I really want to see more of this girl (and no, we're not gonna do anything we wouldn't want publicized). I guess it would get easier in a year when I can drive, but in the mean time, what can we do?", "summary": "A girl I like and I are not allowed to date. How do we maintain a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ssnrn", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How can I relieve some back pain to work on Monday?", "post": "Hi everyone. I'm really struggling here... I went to the ER yesterday because the pain in my back got so severe that I can't even sit at my desk and work. The only position that's comfortable for me right now is laying down, and that's still painful. \n\nI feel like I have a pinched nerve in my lower back. I've always had sciatica symptoms, but the past week has been unbearable. If I sit, my back hurts and pain begins shooting through my hip and leg. Standing is similar, but not as bad. I can lay down on my back with minimal pain, but it sometimes flared up. My sides are pretty much off limits. I can lay on my stomach and almost do a lazy plank to stretch the back a little. \n\nWhen at the ER they didn't really check me out to make sure sciatica is actually the problem. They gave me  shots of Toradol and Morphine, as well as Rx for Norco and Naproxen. I don't feel ANY improvement and am very worried about what to do when Monday rolls around. I run a computer company and sit 90% of the day. I have appointments with clients, and I don't have employees so it's not like I can just have somebody else handle it. \n\nI'm not trying to be a drug seeker. I'm trying to figure out if there are any stretches or voodoo eastern medicine remedies that can help with relief. I appreciate any help you guys can provide.", "summary": "I have sciatica symptoms. How can I relieve them so I can work on Monday?"}
{"id": "t3_3csclh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I handle this?", "post": "I (23m) and my ex-gf (20f) of almost 2 years broke up about a month ago. She had a really hard time with it at the time but has slowly been recovering. I miss her and I feel like we might be able to fix the issues we were facing.\n\nLast night I was having a really hard time imagining what I would do without her and I texted her for the first time since the breakup and asked her to meet up this weekend to talk to which she agreed. \n\nSo now I'm torn because on one hand I really want her back, I still love her. On the other hand, I'm afraid that maybe it still won't work and I'd end up putting her through the pain of the breakup again, which makes me sick thinking about. \n\nDoes anyone have any similar experience or advice to help me out? I'm really lost.", "summary": "I'm meeting up with my ex gf of 2 years and I don't know whether to go back to her or not"}
{"id": "t3_45x7vf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By getting the majority of my class sick", "post": "This actually happend today but requires a bit of a prologeu.\n\nPrologue:\nSo yesterday was Valentine and me and friend of mine(she's a girl I am a boy) decided we would spent that day together since were both single and we are such good friends. Anyway she comes over and tells me she has a bit of a cough and might have a cold but she didn't wanna let me down(such a hero). Anyway watch some stupid movie and even make out a little bit(not a bright idea). Somewhere between 9 and 10 she goes home. After she has lift, you geussed it, my throat got sore and I had to cough and sneeze.\n\nThe FU:\nYou probably see where this is going, I decide to go to school since we got something important scheduled. The entire day I am coughing, sneezing etc. Towards the end of the day everybody start's to cough and yadda yadda yadda.\n\nAftermath:\nNow most of my class is complaining in the WhatsApp group we created that I got basically got everyone sick.\n\nSo yeah, not something major but it's a fuck up nonetheless, and hey, it actually happend today. :)", "summary": "got a cold from a friend of mine, went school and got basically my entire class sick."}
{"id": "t3_24bc0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with a group of people, how to be fun conversationalist in groups", "post": "Most of my friends agree that I am a great listener.  I agree with most people and I pretty good at putting myself in their shoes.  However, I am not great when it comes to talking with more than one person, at parties, or in groups, etc.  \n\nPut it bluntly, I am pretty boring.  I can't often come up with interesting stories, and if I think they are, other people don't seem interested.  Except with my fellow college buddies, I can't really be the center of the conversation as we put it.  \n  \nI notice a lot of executives are really good at telling funny stories and great with crowds.  How do I do this?  I have asked my colleagues to critique me, but they don't know what to critique.  Where can I find people to listen to me talk for 15-30 minutes and give me constructive criticism on improvement methods.", "summary": "Boring guy looking for help to improve personal skills"}
{"id": "t3_3njnsr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my coworker crush [21M] of about a month, want to make a move but scared of rejection", "post": "So I started working a seasonal job at a popular halloween store in August, this guy (I'll call him Peter) started working a little after me. We talk a bit, whenever we get a chance as we work two different positions. He's very charming and outgoing whereas I'm quiet, shy, and reserved. \n\nI want to be assertive and make a move on him but I feel like I can't because 1) I'm younger than him, 2) I'm a girl and stereotypically guys are supposed to be the assertive one, and 3) I don't want to make our working relationship weird.\n\nI feel like I could have a chance with him, he plays around with me (like standing in my way and making me push him so I can move) and compliments me and seems to hang around me when I'm near. I just feel like if I'm assertive it would turn him off or make him uncomfortable.\n\nShould I just go for it? I mean our jobs will likely be nonexistent past Halloween so if I don't make a move (or if he doesn't) I'll probably never see him again.", "summary": "I'm scared to be assertive about my crush on an older coworker and am unsure whether or not it would make our working relationship weird."}
{"id": "t3_37am63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18 F] appear less cold to my partner [17 F]?", "post": "I've been quite good friends with my partner for well over a year and just over a month ago we decided to become a pair. \n\nIt's been largely wonderful with few, if any, things to be desired. The exception being my demeanor towards my SO. A lot of the time, I'm supposedly wonderful. But at other times, I'm very cold and act as though I don't care. \n\nI feel as though this is a reaction to my last few crushes/relationships where I would completely obsess over the person in question, completely draining my energy. This time I'm more conservative with my affection, but it seems I've swung too far in the other direction. \n\nI do cheesy things; I give them notes, small gifts, unsolicited compliments, but it ends up feeling shallow and forced.\n\nSide note that could have little relevance to this situation: therapist of mine noted that much of my behavior is congruent of those with Asperges. While I shrugged it off, perhaps someone with Asperges could give me some experience they've had, provided they were in a similar situation.\n\nMy question is: how can I find the right balance between appearing apathetic towards my partner, and coming off as insincere?\n\nAll replies are appreciated.", "summary": "Don't appear to be interested when in fact I am, don't want to appear superficial."}
{"id": "t3_1we5ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with the [20 F] I've been seeing for 3 months, I have no idea how to end it.", "post": "I met a nice girl and we hit it off about 3 months ago. I feel pressure from friends and her that now is around the time this thing becomes 'official'/exclusive or ends.\n\n I want it to end because though she is a great person, I feel that spending time with her has had bad effects on both my studies and working life to such an extent that I can no longer fully enjoy her company. When we sleep together, I am always held back by her in the morning. I've missed work and nearly missed deadlines for college because of this.\n\nOf course there are other factors, one perhaps as or even more important is that I have never had a relationship, feel I will never love her, do not want a relationship with her (or anyone really) and have no idea how to act while in one.\n\nTaking what I have said into account, I want to end this. However, I feel doing so for such relatively arbitrary reasons is incredibly cruel and this has developed into a reluctance to do this. \n\nMy best friend has advised me not to worry about what she thinks of me after, but I am more worried about potentially causing her a lot of emotional pain because despite the disfunctional aspects of our relationship, I am awfully fond of her.\n\nReddit, persuade me, berate me and advise me on how to handle this situation.", "summary": "Met a really nice girl, but am not happy and do not know how to end it due to severe lack of life experience."}
{"id": "t3_hywh2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need to suggest an hourly contractor rate", "post": "So I've been working with my current company for almost three years while I was finishing up college.  It's a web programming job (using ASP.NET and C# and such), which isn't quite my desired field (I'm more hardware and engineering).  After graduating college, I got a job offer for engineering related work and decided to take it.  However, my current boss asked if I'd be interested in doing independent contracting (remotely - not having to come into the office) for a little while, because I'm basically the only one with legacy knowledge on a few of the major projects I've done (it's a small company, I'm one of two web developers).  \n\nI said sure, for a while.  But now he wants me to \"suggest\" my hourly contracting rate.  I have no idea what to say though.  I've been here a while and have a pretty good relationship with my boss and the rest of the company, so I'd feel bad charging a lot.  But at the same time, I'm going to be working 40-50 hour weeks at my new job, and want to make sure it's worth my time to put in an extra ~5-8 hours a week on this stuff.", "summary": "Basically I'm asking for some pretty typical hourly rates for independent contractors doing web programming"}
{"id": "t3_1lhpen", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally telling my waitress I was giving her a quarter tip.", "post": "So a bunch of my buddies and I went to Atlanta for DragonCon today. We were getting tired and went to a restaurant to eat and chill. The tickets come and mine was about $9.75, so I gave a $10 and the waitress asked if I wanted my change. I knew telling her no meant she would get it, but I didn't know that meant it was the /only/ tip you were going to give. I planned to give her more of a tip. So she comes back, kind of throws my check down in front of me and says, \"Sir, I don't need your quarter\" real snarky. I immediately feel horrible, realizing she thought that was going to be her only tip from me. So I gave her a $20 tip wrote on the check that I didn't mean it that way.", "summary": "didn't realize \"keep the change\" meant \"That's the only tip you're getting\" so I tipped really well."}
{"id": "t3_1t38ye", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey Reddit, I need an unbiased opinion on a break up text I just received. [21/m][20/f]", "post": "So I met the most amazing girl, you probably hear that a lot but shes the right level of nerd for me. anyway, we were seeing each other for about three months pretty casually, neither of us had a lot of time, being uni students with exams and working full time\n\nanyway, Ive been interstate for a few weeks and suddenly shes been ignoring my texts. i asked her today about it and asked her what Id done wrong, and ill share with you guys the reply I recieved, mostly because id like an unbiased opinion\n\n**\"Hey observantdude, Im really sorry I havent been replying I just didnt know how to tell you whats on my mind without seeming like a nasty little girl. you havent done anything wrong, you are the epitome of gentleman. But at the moment, for me, I am not ready for a relationship. Work and Uni are constant stress and I dont think I can handle the extra weight of having a boyfriend. The timing just isnt right and I dont think its fair that you should wait either. You will find your perfect girl, but right at this time its just not me\"**\n\nok, so i can clearly see that its a breakup text, I get that and I can see her point of view. but do you guys think she is dumping and moving on or if shes still interested but just has way too much going on at the moment? also, any advice you can give?\nThanks reddit", "summary": "Just read the part in bold and tell me what you think"}
{"id": "t3_2yevgh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] told my [23 F] girlfriend I loved her for the first time and didn't mean it", "post": "Throw away because...\n\nWe started dating officially earlier this week. But we've been seeing each other since January. We went to big bear today and had an AMAZING time in the snow all day. Climb the mountain, make-out in the snow, all that jazz. It was by far one of the best days of my life...until we left.\n\nLet me start off by saying that I DO love this girl, she is a manifested list of everything i could ever want in a someone. Ridiculously attractive, great personality and she makes me incredibly happy. BUT....\n\nI think we said \"I LOVE YOU\" wayyy too early in our relationship. She told me today for the first time and i didn't mean it when i told her. I felt sort of pressured to say it back. I DO love this girl, but i didn't want to say it yet.\n\nAll i want to do now is avoid telling her \"I LOVE YOU\" because it's just not true when i say it. I don't like lying to her, but if i tell her the truth i feel like it's going to break her heart or make things very difficult between us. I'm not sure what to tell her or if i should tell her anything. Things will change. \n\nI'm definitely \"falling for her\" but maybe I'm just not in the same emotional feel as she is right now. I don't want to lose this girl but i also don't think I'm in love with her. Maybe i do care a lot about her to love her. But i don't think I'm in love with her. I fucked up bad guys.", "summary": "Told gf of 3 months i loved her when i don't. Felt pressured to say itfor the first time. Now avoiding saying \"I love you\". Don't know if i should tell her."}
{"id": "t3_2afk2d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/m] fell in love with one of my best friends [16/f]. I got fucked up and confessed everything to her, but it gets worse..", "post": "So this girl I fell in love with is the most amazing person I have ever met. She quickly became my only light when I was in a dark place. I have loved her since I met her, but only in the last four months did I realize that I was actually in love with her. \n\nOn my birthday, June 27th, I got really fucked up at a party with my friend Josh 18/m, the guy she likes, and he \"liked\" her too. While fucked up I confessed to him that I really liked our friend, we'll say Madison, to which he says, \"Yeah dude, I know! It is so obvious with the way you talk about her.\" I expect that since I've told him this he would back off because he also told me it was nothing serious for him. He didn't. I end up drunk texting \"Madison\" and confess my love to her. Then I spent the next week convincing her that I confessed because I was drunk, but that I felt everything I told her when I was sober. \n\nI think everything is good between us though. The real problem is that last night I found out from \"Josh\" that he had sex with \"Madison\". It hurt a little, but they were both my friends, so as long as they were happy I wouldn't say or do anything about my feelings. Then \"Josh\" went on to tell the story of how he hasn't been talking to her. And essentially explained that he is breaking her heart. I mean her mom called him, and I think she just wants him to apologize and clean up his mess, but I'm not sure. \n\nI want to be there for her, but I don't know what to say. I don't know how to comfort her without making it seem like I'm just trying to swoop in and make this bad situation work in my favor and all that, because it is not like that at all. I just know that her heart is broken. What the hell am I supposed to do?", "summary": "honestly if you didn't want to read that then I'm sorry, but I don't think I want your advice."}
{"id": "t3_yeirs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my boyfriend(16) stopped calling me (f16) but still wants us to be together", "post": "So I have been seeing this guy for about four months now. Usually he has been sorta clingy and calls or texts at least once a day. Lately however, he has stopped, It has progressed over the last couple of weeks to no calls at all. I have been the one to call. So i thought It was over and called to make it official yesterday. (these things happen for teens) However, he continued to chat like everything was normal before I could bring up the breakup. He sat there like normal and talked about us being together further on, told me he loved me and missed me the other night, he said I was cute, we talked and he was being an overall great boyfriend like everything was normal. I realized he was like this when I called, he just stopped calling like he used to. I am so confused right now. I know if I tried again he would be caught off guard and would continue to try to get me back. What is going on?!", "summary": "boyfriend stopped calling, I thought things were over, but he acts like everything is normal and great. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2desb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my roommates [28F, 28M, 30F] of two years, fighting over air conditioning settings. Details in comments.", "post": "I've been sharing a house with these roommates for some time.  We all get along well most of the time and are responsible with cleaning and chores.  No one has any heat related health problems as far as I know.\n\nThis summer and last summer we have had problems with setting the air conditioning at night.  We live in Virginia and it can get fairly warm at night.  During the day they set it to 80 degrees or turn off the air conditioning even when people are home.  I like to sleep with it set to as low as 75 degrees Fahrenheit.  They like to set it to 78-82 degrees or turn it off completely whenever I am away for more than a day.\n\nI offer to pay for half of the electrical bill in the summer because I think sleeping at a temperature warmer than 75 is unreasonable.  They also want to set the heating very high in the winter, as high as 74-75.  That's fine, and I try to accommodate that, but I can only take off so many layers in the summer.  I am unsure how to approach this other than to continuously set the air conditioning colder at bed time and actively work in the room with the thermostat.  Any advice would be welcome.", "summary": "Roommates refuse to use AC in the summer even for sleeping because they either aren't overheated or want to save money.  Is 75 degrees unreasonable?  I grew up in houses and had family and friends that set it to 72-74 for sleeping.  What settings are most common/normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3xknxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [47F] with my exchange student [16 F] - she's been here 4 months and will be here 5 more. She doesn't help out around the house at all .", "post": "We agreed to take an exchange student. She is 16 and from Mexico. She is a lovely, sweet girl who is getting straight A's in school. She gets along fine with our kids, there's no problems in that regard. Our problems stems from the fact that she does not clean up after herself or help out around the house. She'll actually avoid it as much as possible. We've asked her to wash her pans after she makes food for herself and she just ignores us and leaves the pans. She has no idea how to load a dishwasher. One of my daughters asked her about this behavior and she said that at home, they had a maid 6 days a week and never had to do any of this stuff for herself. I like having her here, except for this issue, and I'm not sure how to address it without souring the relationship. We've put a chore chart up and discussed it with her and the other kids but it is going undone. We're losing patience. Please give me some strategies to deal with a child that is not mine and from another culture so that things don't get too bad.", "summary": "We have an exchange student who won't clean up after herself."}
{"id": "t3_2mygw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] and [31F] Bad relationship?", "post": "Background: I am 25 and she is 31. We both come from very different backgrounds both financially and culturally. We have been dating for about 8 months. I grew up in a working single mother family while she grew up with a mon/dad along with wealthy resources to the point where she didn't have to work for anything. Dad pays for everything and that sort of deal. Also, she is very incapable of doing things herself which she relies very heavily on others to do.  \n\nOn the other hand, I am as independent as much as possible. I don't rely on people at all. We've had some discussions as to why this bothers me, but it seems that all I get are \"why do you criticize me\" etc when I want her to put more effort into building her own opinion/decision making instead of relying on others. \nJust some thoughts. Not really sure if this is what I want or if I am just being too \"me\".", "summary": "gf and I different. see things different. not sure if I am being too hard or a toxic relationship"}
{"id": "t3_ln2co", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Stuck in a rut and in need of advice/inspiration!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and living together for 2. I'm quite the homebody, and when we first met, he was very outgoing and loved partying and socialising (although he was a student at the time). We're both working now, and most nights we find ourselves doing the same things: watching series (luckily we enjoy the same shows), playing Minecraft, playing various board games, or having sex. We're tired after work, and can't bring ourselves to leave the house. The weekend is much the same -- lots of sleep, or sitting around staring at one screen or another. We do party occasionally (we'll head to a pub once every few months) and there are a few mutual friends we enjoy spending time with, but I worry that we've become stuck in our boring ways. I really enjoy our lifestyle, and would be quite happy to never leave the house again, but I'm starting to feel guilty for turning him into a 50 year-old when he's only 24. \nAny ideas for shaking things up a little? Bear in mind that we live in a small town in South Africa, and neither of us has a car >.<", "summary": "My boyfriend and I live together and do nothing but game and sleep in our free time. Need ideas for fun things to do."}
{"id": "t3_4qhvb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [24M] bother dating or am I not ready?", "post": "I'm 24, live with my parents and only make about 28k a year. \n\nI guess I should list positives. I own my car, bought it with cash, have a good amount of money saved up. I started lifting late last year, my numbers are not where I want them to be but I'm still lifting 2-3 times a week. \n\nI'm just worried that I don't make enough money to hold a relationship or have a woman be ok with the amount that I make. I'm not incredibly good looking, pretty short at 5'8, and I only really have 4 or 5 real friends, none of which are women. \n\nWhere would I go to meet women? I'm totally open to just meeting women and knowing them to expand my social circle but I do not know where to go to speak with women without seeming creepy/stalkerish. \n\nI honestly don't know if I'm too ugly, too poor or just not interesting enough for a relationship. Not even sure if I've missed the boat and may be too old to start dating.\n\n I'd like to believe I'm single because I haven't really ever tried going on dates or approach women out in the open but I feel like I don't qualify to try and date because of my living situation/income.", "summary": "Wondering if I should try talking to women or dating but feel like my living situation/income is barring me from trying."}
{"id": "t3_4m7u4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (32/F) keep repeating the same relationship over and over.", "post": "When I was 7 years old, my father remarried and had another baby with a woman I didn't particularly like and who did not like me. During this particular year there was a very nasty custody battle between my mom and dad and I believe my stepmother was projecting her hatred for my mother onto me. My stepmother and my dad were significantly, almost comically nicer and more supportive to my half sister.  I never really felt that my dad was in my corner and felt very alone for the majority of my childhood. He chose her feelings over mine. \n\nSince then, every relationship I've had recreates the exact same situation. I like boy, boy has a needy ex-girlfriend or overbearing mom, I'm uncomfortable and ask him to fix situation, he declines, we fight, I feel like a piece of shit because I was once again chosen second. Then, I fixate and get angry. \n\nNow we can psychoanalyze the complexities of each situation and we can argue about who was right or wrong but that's not really what my question is. I keep recreating my childhood on a subconscious level to \"fix it\" and \"to win\" this time around which I obviously cannot do. I trust that the universe/God/higher self put this situation in my path over and over to learn from it but I'm struggling with what exactly I have to learn.  Is it a lesson? Do I need to let go?\n\nIf it's a lesson, what can I possibly understand from it? I've spent countless hours reading books and meditating. I've sought out therapists, psychics and energy workers. I don't know what I'm supposed to learn from this. Maybe let go of attachments? \n\nAnyone have something similar to this and if so, how did you break the pattern? I just don't want to feel this way anymore and I don't want to go through another situation like this. \n\nThank you.", "summary": "I keep repeating the same relationship over and over in which I'm chosen second and not made a priority. What do I need to learn?"}
{"id": "t3_3q7i8t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20M] have my first shot at a relationship [20F] and need some advice as I feel like I have no idea what to do!", "post": "So me and this girl met on a uni club trip, me and my guy friend shared a tent with her and her girl friend and we all got on well. We all had a flat dinner the next week and she talked about her favourite american diner at the table. After, I asked if she would like to have lunch there and she said yes but her friend also wanted to go so maybe I should invite my friend too and go as 4. I said 'oh I thought it would be fun if just the two of us went together' and she said 'my friend really wanted to go and i think this is more fun as a group thing but we can hangout another time'.\n\n The next week I ask if she wants to go on a run with me and we ended up just walking down to the beach and sitting on a log together. Now this is where i messed up because I was too scared to do anything, we just sat and talked. \n\nI have been texting her since and asked if we could go on another walk to see the sunset at the beach. I was planning on just sitting down next to her and putting my arm around her and seeing if she pulls away or not, will that come across as creepy? I want to know the best way to let her know how I feel without being weird about it, im probably 70% sure she only likes me as a friend but I really like her and want to take the chance. I went to a strict catholic school and have only kissed a girl once while drunk so i have no idea what im doing.", "summary": "going to beach with girl I like, how do i make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_1jd7b4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I get over the desire for love? [M:18]", "post": "Let's go ahead and assume for the sake of this post that I am unable to find a girl who is willing to date me. Let's say that I'm just going to be single for the rest of my life, or at least for much longer than I'd like to be. \n\nI'm an 18 year old male who's NEVER had a girlfriend. For the last year and a half or so I've had this burning desire to have a girlfriend, but I've been rejected at every turn. I've asked out pretty girls, I've asked out ugly girls, and I just get turned down every time. I'm not that bad looking (kind of a nerdy look), I've got solid social skills, my friends tell me I'm hilarious (and I'd have to agree with them!), I'm an avid musician, and I know generally what I want to do with my future. Basically, I'm the type of guy girls say they want (short of being visually unattractive) yet nobody wants me. It's like being the last kid picked during the recess dodgeball game, but nobody has picked me yet.\n\nI've gotten very depressed about it to the point that it's effecting my mood and behavior. It even causes physical pain sometimes when I think about how badly I want a relationship (not horrible pain, but pain none the less). Sadly, it seems that I'm unable to find a significant other. So my question to you, Reddit, is how can I get over my desire for a relationship? How can I occupy myself in a way that stops the emotional and physical pain? What can change my mood back to that of a normal person and not a girl on her period? Again, let's assume that getting a girl is not going to work and that I need something else to fill the gap.", "summary": "I really want a girlfriend but I can't get one. It's causing emotional and physical pain because of how bad I want a relationship. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_2i16dq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "can't do anything right. fear of the future. normal new-to-adulthood depression/anxiety bullshit.", "post": "I can't hold down a job. I can't *find* a job. I can't keep up with wearing my goddamn rubber bands for my braces, hence why I've had them for so fucking long. Can't stop self harming. Can't stay away from alcohol (I'm not an alcoholic, but I hate that I can never turn down a drink). I've tried to kill myself a lot, but I've fucked it up every single time. I'm a shitty friend who doesn't know the first thing about maintaining long-lasting relationships with others. I'm a terrible significant other who can't even say \"I love you\" half the time because I'm too scared to say it. I always start projects and seldom ever finish. I can't even get out of bed most days because I'm so fucking depressed. I had to drop out of high school because my depression made it damn near impossible to accomplish anything because I was too busy trying not to kill myself.\n\nThings are going to get better soon. I'm moving soon. I'm leaving. I'm getting out. I'll be elsewhere, with a better job economy and a better environment. I'll be less depressed because I'll be with people who I trust and feel comfortable with. I'll be able to be myself. I'll have the freedom that I don't have here.\n\nBut even with that being so close, I just... I don't know. Good things are coming, but that doesn't excuse the fact that I'm a fuck-up who can't do anything right.\n\nWhat if I can't find a job there? What if I end up having to move back here? What if my friends let me stay anyway and I just become a huge fucking burden on their shoulders? What if I somehow become MORE depressed while I'm there? What if my situation gets WORSE while I'm there? What if my friends decide they don't want me there anymore? What if we end up hating each other while living together? *What if what if what if--*\n\nI don't know. I'm just scared and anxious and depressed and I need to get this off my chest before I explode.", "summary": "I'm a stupid depresssed/anxious 19 year old who's overthinking shit and being too hard on myself."}
{"id": "t3_23scvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 27 / M ] with my ex-gf [ 25 / F ] of 1.5 years. How can I build a friendship with her/maybe work on getting back together in the future?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm a long time lurker and have always found the advice on here to be good so I thought I'd ask you guys for some help.\n\nSo, backstory: My ex and I were in a relationship for a year and a half. I dumped her after asking for a two week break. Truthfully, she is a beautiful person inside and out and I had no issues with her. I just wasn't ready to commit. When I broke it off, she was devestated because it came out of nowhere for her which is true because I never really opened up about my doubts. \n\nShe said she hoped we could be friends and I was relieved because I really like her and love spending time with her. But a week after our break-up, she deleted me off facebook. At this time I'd been sending her texts to see how she is and she responded telling me to leave her alone until the new year, at least.\n\nI contacted her in the new year and got a very cold response. She said she had no desire to be friends with me and although she's forgiven me, she doesn't particularly like me. I was upset because obviously I never meant to hurt her. I just wanted to be single and live life for awhile. Since then, I haven't heard from her.\n\nI've been doing the going out on the weekends and getting smashed and hooking up with random girls and it's been fun but I wonder how my ex is doing. It's like she disappeared into thin air. I miss her and would love to catch up with her and maybe see if there is anyway that we could work things out in the future. \n\nI guess my question is, how do I approach her? She seemed really cold and pissed the last time we talked. Do you think she's cooled off by now and is a little more reasonable/objective about things?", "summary": "Dumped my ex-gf of 1.5 years in October because I couldn't commit. She said that she wanted to be friends and then took it back and has asked me to leave her alone while seeming to be really angry at me. I want us to be friends again but I don't know how to approach it. Do you guys think she has cooled off? How should I approach her?"}
{"id": "t3_12do0a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you been in an ongoing fight with others/with yourself for an extended period of time? If so, what was the topic and how did you resolve it?", "post": "I'm a 17 year old girl, and over the last few years I've been very confused on my religios standpoint. I've been raised by a very religious family, and my boyfriend of 3 years is \"very close to God\", as well. He always tells me that he couldn't date anyone who wasn't \"equally yoked\", i.e. not as close to God as he.  I find myself closer ad closer to the logical side of athiesm every day.  So frankly, I've lied to myself and everyone around me just to keep the peace for fear of beig disowned by my family and left by the one I love the most. \n\nI also have bulimia. I whiten my teeth every night (about the closest thing to 'religiously' as I come) to hide the horrible yellow stains. I have scars on my knuckles, and I often cough up spots of blood from the stomach acid eroding my esophagus. I've even learned to take apart the pipes to my sink because my vomit has clogged it so often. I've been doing thing since I was 9 years old--and I don't see myself ever stopping.", "summary": "I'm a closet athiest and a long time bulimic. "}
{"id": "t3_13ripn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[f23] like this guy [28] but he seems to be stuck in the early 2000's", "post": "So I met this guy online, on OKCupid, and he's really nice. I have gone on a date with him. We had been talking for about 2 weeks before going on the date. He is very nice, and had been previously married. \n\nBut for some reason, he seems to be stuck in the early 2000's and I don't quite know what to make of it. He often talks about \"making out\", like we're still in high school. I did bring this up one time, and we talked about it, then left it alone. Although, last night, he started up with it again, and then I once again said something along the lines of \"What is it with you and making out?\" in which he asked me if I didn't like kissing. I responded  that I did, but I don't want a constant make out session. \n\nThis just seems very weird to me. Also he doesn't really talk about anyone but himself. I have tried to bring up the things that I did that day, and he just goes right back to himself. I am starting to think that I should just move on away from him and find someone else. I find these things as red flags. What do you think?", "summary": "Met a guy online, went on a date, he seems selfish when he talks, and very juvenile, don't know if I'm over analyzing it, or have a legit reason to be concerned. Seems like he's stuck in high School."}
{"id": "t3_3o72uk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] 5 years, he moved to another country, debating on following him or staying?", "post": "So me and my boyfriend been together for 5 years. He had to move to another country a couple of months ago. I was handling alright but now im sad and I miss him. We used to live together so you can imagine I was used to being with him all day.  I start a new job in a couple of weeks but I was debating the idea of moving with him. I think its kinda crazy to just move to a different country like that. I am asking cause I am looking for a fresh look into this situation. What would you do? Stay or go? I am in the middle right now.", "summary": "BF moved to a different country, thinking of moving with him , but I just got a new job?"}
{"id": "t3_115yvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (18) and I (17, female) had sex for the first time yesterday and I don't know I trust the birth control method we used. Should I take Plan B?", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the subreddit to post to.. so please forgive me if I'm wrong.\n\nAnyway, my boyfriend and I (been together for about 4 months) had sex for the first time yesterday. It was my first time ever, but he's had sex probably hundreds of times. He has some sort of weird issue where he can't use condoms- latex, animal skin, or any other kind you can think of- so he uses some sort of weird spermicidal lubricant that he's been using for years and has never had an issue with. Before having sex I looked into it and I decided it was okay, especially since he told me he had full faith in it.\n\nHowever, after doing the deed I am worried. I researched it more and it says there is a 15% failure rate in the first year when used perfectly and a 24% failure rate in the first year when you normally... And we definitely did not use it perfectly. I honestly don't know what to do.. my boyfriend has promised me everything will be fine but I can't help but be worried. I talked to one of my best friends and he suggested I buy plan B either tonight or tomorrow morning, but I don't know if I should take that for fear of side effects and I just don't know if it's necessary. Maybe I am just nervous since it was my first time... I don't know. Thoughts on the situation? Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Should I or shouldn't I take Plan B after using spermicidal lubricant as a birth control method?"}
{"id": "t3_32de14", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How to ask for more time to decide on a job offer?", "post": "Sorry about asking this again. I read like 20 threads and 20 articles about this issue, but a lot of them were either not really answered, a different situation, or some combination of the two. I know this question in the most repetitive questions thread.\n\nTo start off, the usual. Job A gave me an offer, I'd like to wait for Job B to offer. Job B still requires another interview at least.\n\nThe problem for me now is that Job B is much better than Job A. Job A is part time sales associate, Job B is full time in a different field I'd probably consider continuing. That makes Job B the \"dream job\", and I would definitely take it if offered.\n\nWill a part time job even give me time to think about it? How do I ask them for that time without them just moving on with a different candidate. I also dont want to waste their time and mine by reneging.", "summary": "will a part time retail job give me time to think about an offer, and how to ask them for that time."}
{"id": "t3_ulhlb", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "What has been your favorite festival you've been to?", "post": "Last August I went to Germany and met up with a friend who had been traveling around Europe for a few weeks. We didn't have anything planned but I was told about a beer festival in a place called Straubing. We took a train to Straubing not really knowing much about the festival but if it was beer related we were in. Well holy shit was it awesome! We were forced to book the most expensive hotel in town since literally every single other room in Straubing was booked. While we are booking the hotel the guy at the desk starts telling us more about this festival which is actually called G\u00e4ubodenvolksfest. It's the second largest genuine folk festival in Bavaria, Germany, after the Munich Oktoberfest, lasts for 10 days and a LOT of beer gets drunk. \nWe show up at G\u00e4ubodenvolksfest and head to the beer tent that we were meeting another friend from Germany at and eventually find her with a table at the very front of the place! Everyone has these enormous mugs of beer called a mas so my buddy and I promptly order ourselves one each. The music is amazing and I even knew one of the songs and could sing along. Everyone was standing on the benches of the picnic tables and dancing and people carrying 10 one litre beer steins are walking around and we keep buying more and more. Even in that drunken state of mind I remember thinking this is the best night ever. Anyway I'll cut this short and say my friend ended up projectile vomiting a thick mixture of beer and pretzels, I got 2 shirts ruined and we both got lost separately on the walk home. I am already planning a trip back this year with (hopefully) 4 friends and if anyone is in Germany between Aug 10-20 this year YOU SHOULD GO! \n\nTell me about the festival or event you went to that has been your favorite and why?", "summary": "Went to Germany last year, didn't know much about a festival until I was there. It was called G\u00e4ubodenvolksfest and I am going back this year with more friends because it was so god damn awesome. Share your fav."}
{"id": "t3_2ch0be", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A day of victories! (SV, NSVx2)", "post": "M/20/5'8\"/SW:178 CW:168 GW:155\n\nToday I'm officially down 10 lbs! That puts me at 168, which is lower than I've been since middle school. I'm still a bit overweight (according to my BMI) but I'm at a healthier height:weight ratio than I've been since I can remember. To celebrate (in addition to new flair) I decided to go out and buy some new clothes. This was my first time clothes shopping since I started losing weight a few months ago, and I was delighted to find that I now fit comfortably into medium T shirts and size 32 jeans.\n\nI surprised myself again this evening when I went running. I tried to run as far as I could before I got tired, and I made it 11 miles. Like, I'm actually aghast. I ran 11 miles nonstop. In June I couldn't even run one mile nonstop. I've actually been encouraged by a friend to enter a marathon in October. I definitely owe a lot of my success to the people of /r/loseit, even if I have mostly been lurking. It's very encouraging to be able to read about other people dealing with the same issues that I've had trouble with.\n\nThanks for the support, folks!", "summary": "Lost 10 lbs, new clothes, ran 11 miles, feeling the self-esteem!"}
{"id": "t3_4nw5i8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "[RACE REPORT] Salomon Wascally Wabbit 2016", "post": "**BACKGROUND:** Typical story. Dropped weight and started the /r/c25k program in april 2015. Never ran before that. I transitioned through b210k and a half-marathon training plan. Did my [first half] last october.\n\n**TRAINING:** Originally, I had registered for the 55K so I started my training with that in mind (35+ mpw as a goal). Winter was a struggle for me-- no injuries, I just really didn't like running in the cold. I decided  to back off the 55K and just aim for one loop (27.5K). \n\n**COURSE**: Glorious. Muddy. Wet. Technical. Beautiful. A good course for my first trail race. (\n\n**BREAKDOWN:** Ran at a good pace, no real complaints. Was smiling all the way through. One thing I need to work on is my hydration, as I kinda forgot about it while running.\n\n**FOOTWEAR:** Hoka One One Challenger ATRs. Loved 'em.", "summary": "I finished my first trail race today (27.5K) in 3:31:35. Will be back next year for the 55K."}
{"id": "t3_3qqclh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] girlfriend [22 F] of 1 year, might move in with me with no job assurance.", "post": "Hi,\nThis is my first time asking for advice here. I am currently living in Tempe, AZ. I might move to Seattle to work for Amazon in February'16. My girlfriend works for government with a contract which will complete in July 2017, and if she breaks it she would have to pay 15K in penalties.\nShe said she would wana go to Seattle with me in February with absolutely no job assurance and no health insurance. She said it clear she wont be able to pay rent and utilities for about an year coz she has a student loan which she has to pay a little every month. She is doing her masters (Online) which will complete in December'16 which will open job prospects for her in Seattle.\nI love her and I want her to live with me but I cant entirely support her in my early stage of earnings as I have to pay around 40K to my Dad.\nI can work around with the rent but she expects me to pay for her food and practically all the expenses.\nI dont know what to do. Please help!", "summary": "Moving to Seattle, gf want to move in with no job"}
{"id": "t3_mr5jw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Emotional intimacy far ahead physical", "post": "I've just recently gotten into a relationship, we've been dating for about a month and have been officially in a relationship for a couple weeks. We don't get to see each other a whole lot, mostly just in between classes because we've both been busy, but we talk near constantly. Since we exchanged phone numbers about a month ago, we're constantly having text conversations and then longer conversations on skype or facebook chat and we connect on so many levels and have grown very attached to one another. We have covered just about every topic there is to cover and are never at a loss for what to talk about next. So we've developed a very close emotional intimacy, to the point where I definitely see us being in this for the long haul. However, because we talk to much and so often about so much, we have the emotional intimacy of a couple that's been together for much longer than we actually have been, to the point where I very much want to tell him that I love him but know that it's still very premature to take that step. \n\nAlso, because we're so emotionally close but don't get to be together very often, physically it feels almost as if we have to catch up. Neither of us are going too fast for the other, both of us are very comfortable, but its like physically we're at a second date stage while mentally and emotionally we've been together for so much longer, if that makes sense. It's as if it's a long distance relationship except accellerated because we just talk nearly constantly and see one another for maybe an hour or two a few days per week, and I'm starting to get a little worried that this will warp our relationship down the line if we're not careful. Like moving faster than we're actually comfortable because we have the facade of being much more connected than we actually are because we developed a very strong connection very fast, and that we'll burn out. \n\nIs this a real concern I should have, or am I just caught up in my own mind?", "summary": "New boyfriend and I talk nearly constantly but see each other less, and so while we are very very close emotionally we are not physically, but are progressing at a normal, natural pace, so I'm wondering if this will cause us to \"burn out\" sooner."}
{"id": "t3_3c2nxp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by basically trying to drown myself.", "post": "Ok so for starters, this didn't happen today just like most of the other TIFU's. In fact, this happened a  little over a decade ago.\n\nSo just picture little 5/6 year old ItsOkImADoctr. I had just gotten a fish tank for my birthday, something I apparently wanted really bad and to this day I still have absolutely no fucking idea why I wanted it. I don't even particularly like fish... Like fuck. They just swim around all day. I  should've asked for a  bike... So  anyways, I was kneeling beside the  tank just watching the fish. Little 6/5 year old me was verrryyyy smart and knew that fish  take the oxygen out of the water to breath. However I was  not actually that smart and little me was thinking, \"Man that looks so easy, you just have to breath in  underwater like you do above water...\" This is when little me got the idea that if I just tried to breath normally under water it would work.\n\nSo fast forward to the  next time we go to the  pool. Little me was so excited to try  this new breathing underwater thing out. I was so sure it would work too. So I get in  the water, shove my  face into the liquid of death, and try  to inhale water. After a fit of coughing and just about drowning smart  little me discovered you in fact cannot breath like a fish underwater. Fuck fish.", "summary": "Tried to take myself out of the gene pool by going in a pool."}
{"id": "t3_1doxav", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get rid of a crazy roommate when all they are doing is trying to make your life a living hell?", "post": "Not literally get rid of as in make him disappear, but get him legally kicked out of the apartment? Short story on his case: Saudi Arabian - on student visa - getting kicked out of school due to low grades - there is a culture difference but at first we were reasonably good roommates and he was civil. Then he starts to lose it...him and the other roommate get into fights about him cleaning up after himself, not to smoke inside the apartment, and other reasonable things you bring up to someone as a concern. He takes it as that he is being ostracised and we are out to get him. One thing that put him over and made him snap was I moved a piece of chicken he had in the freezer into a smaller container to make room for some groceries (he has 80% of the stuff in the freezer). He thinks I threw away his food and loses it - even after showing him where it was he still thinks I threw it away. Then today coming back home after many threats from him that he will throw my stuff away stuff comes up missing and I confront him asking him in a mature manner and he loses it screaming and cursing about how we are out to get him - so I slammed the door and left.", "summary": "crazy ass roommate, need advice on how to get him kicked out legally of the apartment."}
{"id": "t3_zuldd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] Im still madly in love with my ex [17F] of 2 years when she has a new boyfriend who she loves", "post": "We broke up 3 weeks ago, she got together with him 2 weeks ago. she said we argued to much and i was always a jerk to her, yeah i was a really bad boyfriend, it was my first real relationship and i had no idea what i was doing. she said i was a wonderful boyfriend until she got pregnant. then all of that changed and i just became a jerk. We have a baby boy who is 1. she refuses to work things out and try again because shes over it and says she loves her new boyfriend. she met him a year ago and they've talked since. apparently they got to know each other really well and they are exactly alike so she thinks she loves him because he is everything she wants. i used to be everything she wanted and more. just a week before we broke up we were talking about getting married and getting a house at 18. she said she hasn't felt love for me in a long time and was just staying with me because she was trying to keep us together. now she wont talk to me at all. she says it hurts to think about me but she has no feelings for me and we are never getting back together. she told me to leave her alone and we both told each other we hated each other. which in reality is not true we were just very mad. i cant say two words to her without her getting mad at me and her yelling. i dont want to lose her she is the love of my life and i only want her. i want a family so bad and i never want to have sex with more than one person and i wanted to marry the person i had sex with and the mother of my child. i dont want to give up on her ever. i know i was a terrible boy friend and i regret everything ive done. please help me im so lost!", "summary": "Girlfriend said she lost love for me, loves someone else. Miss her like crazy and want her back and never giving up"}
{"id": "t3_1qwqjz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "It's incredibly hard to focus because I have so much on my mind right now. I'm stressed and grumpy all the time.", "post": "* Work - it's our busy time of year. My workload has doubled/tripled on a daily basis and I deal with angry customers on a regular basis.\n\n* Social - my friends are hyper competitive, drink a lot and can be total assholes sometimes.\n\n* Boyfriend - he recently became friends with his ex on facebook. This worries me, but I'd feel like I was a stalker if I brought up the fact that I saw this activity happen on a facebook feed. We also haven't told each other we love each other, and we've been together for over a year now. I want to tell him, but I'm too scared to do so. We're also in a LDR. I'm not sure if he loves me. I'm afraid he's talking to his ex now.\n\n* Family - We've been discussing our holiday plans a lot, which is stressful anyway. I don't have a lot in common with anyone in family so it's always awkward to have any kind of conversation with them. Especially since I'm nerdy and shy.\n\n* Moving - I'll be moving to new place in two weeks. I've spent most of my free time packing and throwing things away. Mostly by myself. I'm glad to be moving to a better area, but packing in general is pretty stressful.\n\n* Mental health - I started to see a therapist for symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for a past abusive relationship and I haven't told anyone about this yet.\n\n* Legal - I had a limited license for reckless driving for the past year, and I will be getting my full license back in less than two weeks. (Don't worry, I've been driving like a saint since the incident). This has been stressful because I've had to depend on others for transportation and it has been expensive.\n\n* Health - I have really bad asthma, and it's been awful this year. I'm on several types of medication and it is difficult to sleep at night.\n\nAll of these things combine have made me so stressed out and it's hard to be close to anyone in my life. I find myself becoming more aggressive or defensive around others.", "summary": "Most facets of my life are extremely stressful to think about, I'm becoming distant and angry towards the people I care about the most."}
{"id": "t3_10dta5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are the days of simple cell phones limited?", "post": "I took my nice little LG Cosmo in for an upgrade at the local Verizon store. The guy told me \"We don't carry any upgrades for that phone here. In fact, we're slowly phasing out most non-smart phones. In the future, pretty much everything will be that way.\" My question is, why?\n\nThe LG Cosmo has a battery that lasts me a WEEK in some cases. I have a full keyboard I can text with, and it can make excellent calls without any drops. Plus, I only pay $12 a month for a family plan. I only use the phone 100-125 minutes a month on average too.\n\nI have an iPod, and free Wi-Fi at home/at work. The rare occasion when I need directions, only takes a second to ether: A. Print out. B. Load up a Google Maps on my iPod and let it provide me something to glance at in the internet cache on my iPod.\n\nI don't get the appeal of paying $40-70 a month for a phone that needs to constantly be charged, and forces me to pay for data use. I already pay out the ass for my lousy 10mb/s cable, I don't get why things can't be simple... and cheap. Talking on the high end, $70 a month for 12 months is over $800. What I pay? $144. A difference of: $650+ a year saved. What could I get for $650 more a year? A little convenience that I would take advantage of maybe 3x a year. Big deal.\n\nI went to Best Buy and found myself a free LG Cosmo 2 and left happy. I guess I'll need to take care of this phone because who knows if I'll be able to turn this phone in 2 years from now and get a Cosmo 3...", "summary": "Data plans on phones suck. Stay cheap."}
{"id": "t3_pxl81", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most dangerous thing you've ever done?", "post": "Here's mine: Last summer, me, my dad, my uncle, and my two cousins went hiking in Pakistan. We hiked in the Marghala hills in Islamabad. Halfway up the hike, we met this \"tour guide\" who was in his 60s and had hiked everywhere on the hills. He wanted to show us the \"best\" trail.\n\nAt first he seemed okay. The trail was fairly straightforward. He would always be maybe 5 meters ahead of us, constantly yelling \"sida, sida\" (straight, straight). At one point we reached this fork in the road. One trail led us around the mountain eventually reaching the top, and another went straight up. This trail was not paved and was elevated at a 70 degree angle to the horizontal. It also had a sign with a skull and crossbones on it. He took us this way. \n\nAfter reaching the top (after much pain and effort), we find the trail continues along a 1 foot ledge overlooking the mountain (we were around 3,000 feet up). The ledge was also marked with a skull and crossbones and had text written on a sign: \"DANGER. RISK OF DEATH. AVOID AT ALL COSTS.\" Now, this is Pakistan; there were no fences along this ledge. Any slip would have sent us falling to our deaths. Of course, he just yelled \"sida, sida\" the whole time and didn't have any concern for our safety. What an asshole.", "summary": "While hiking, a crazy old man led us through these unpaved, life-threatening trails."}
{"id": "t3_fh9z1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys, what are your thoughts on virgins?", "post": "I'm almost 20 years old and still a virgin (mainly because I haven't had the opportunity to bang anyone I actually *like*) and I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it. I'm not saving myself or anything, but I don't want to sleep with the first guy that's probably hitting on me either. You know?\n\nAnyhow, I've seen plenty of questions asking the reverse, but I am really curious about the male perspective. Mainly because so many guys I've spoken to have said things like \"Yeah, she was a virgin so I had to take one for the team there\" and \"I don't understand the whole 72 virgins thing... who wants a virgin anyway?\" etc. To be completely honest, it makes me a little bit self-conscious. (They probably don't know I haven't had sex; I usually know what I'm talking about and am pretty comfortable with the topic, even if I don't know first-hand)", "summary": "There isn't anyone on the immediate horizon, but if I am going to sleep with a guy and I tell him I'm a virgin, will he secretly be thinking about how horrible I will probably be?"}
{"id": "t3_4gjcrz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my BF [21M] of 6 months, constant fighting he wants to move in, I want to move on RANT", "post": "My current bf is 21, he has no car or license. I have known this, and he claims he will be getting it once he is \"settled\". Which I now understand, he wants to move in with me. This was after he drove my current roommate crazy. My roommate was already planning to move out in August which is when our lease is up. I was either going to move out and into a new place or release and get a new roomie. But the constant fighting between my bf and I has drove my roommate insane, and will be out in May instead. This leaves me 4 months to foot the bill on my own. Now my bf wants to move in with me. I would literally support us both as my salary is almost 3-4x's his salary. He would never be able to support \"us\". Not to mention I'd be driving him back and forth as he doesn't feel public transportation is for him. That doesn't matter to me however, I do not feel he appreciates me...and as of late I feel used. He is very insecure and it saddens me. He thinks there is something between my roommate and myself, and there isn't. When we fight it is so stupid, and it is a pattern of old behavior. I am so worn out. \n\nNot to mention...He drinks nearly daily since turning 21, and I just feel there is much more to life. Not to mention the fighting starts after he gets good and drunk because he claims \"I didn't hear his question\" and he refuses to repeat himself because I \"wasn't listening\". \n\nI'm fed up, now I am stuck dealing with this bs for the next 4 months alone and work towards moving or finding a roommate.\n \nFor the bf, would you just drop his stuff off and say have a nice life? Sadly I feel it is as simple as just not picking him up one day. He can stay living with his mom, he isn't homeless...and I am tired of being \"mommy\" only for him to take his anger out on me. \nHe is a user I am an enabler.", "summary": "I think I should dump my boyfriend because he is not responsible and I enable him."}
{"id": "t3_2k5k1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 F] not sure if my SO[23 M] wants to be independent", "post": "I met my SO in college and have dated him for about 4 years. He graduated last fall and has been working for his dad for almost a year doing mainly brokering and logistics (making use of grandpa's old business). They don't have any sort of paperwork or legality of employment, he is paid under the table every month where his parents deposit an \"allowance\" in his bank account. The SO spends the work days conferencing with his Dad and a couple times a week drives to their house to do chores (his dad work from home too, I don't believe the mom works anymore unless socialite is a profession).\n\nThis month has been crazy busy for him, SO's oldest sister decided to get married quickly but extravagantly, and family is moving out of their second home while planning the wedding reception at the first house. He has been with his parents so much now running errands that its starting to make me worried that they are taking advantage of him since he cannot refuse anything they say. The BF is stressed out doing all this work for his family on top of trying to be a better broker, and its starting to affect our relationship.\n\nAm I being too selfish when I think he is doing too much for his family right now? There never seems to be a line drawn between employee and son. It makes it easy for his parents to guilt trip him if he doesn't want to drop what he is doing to socialize with them. Both he and I are both upset that he spends too much time being his parent's doormat, but he isn't willing to argue the dynamics since it's family.\n\nI am not used to this kind of closeness, I talk to my folks maybe once a week and only spend major holidays together. His family likes to live in multi-generation homes, live next door to each other, and have extended family reunions every few months. If anyone has been in a situation where their adult SO is much closer to their parents than you are, please tell me if I'm being irrational.", "summary": "BF works for dad, gets bossed around by mom, I want him get a new boss or family boundaries. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_36atkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] found the perfect partner for casual sex but I'm afraid it's going to mess me up.", "post": "Hi everybody, I'm a 23 year old guy, single since last September after an over three year relationship. In this eight months I've had more sexual partners than ever before in my entire life (not that much anyway). \n\nMy ex found someone a couple of months since our breakup and apparently they are doing well and are official. I'm glad for her.\n\nMe, I've been seeing this girl for two months, but I have no interest in anything romantic. However the sex is the best I've ever had. We understand each other perfectly. \n\nShe's a nice girl but it's just sex, I don't see it becoming anything serious at all. \n\nSince I've only fallen in once (my previous relationship) I don't know how this will affect me. Now that I'm ready for a meaningful relationship, I miss the connection and cuddling afterwards, not wanting to fled when the sex it's over.\n\nHaving this perfect sex is messing with my mind a bit, I feel like it's spoiling it since in the end, it's just empty. \n\nI don't know if I made sense, I'm rambling a bit... If anyone here has had a similar experience, going from awesome meaningless sex to an awesome serious relationship I'd love to hear some advice. \n\nThank you all.", "summary": "Having perfect casual sex while craving for a meaningful connection is confusing me."}
{"id": "t3_4agxtb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) fucked up before we even went on a date. Please help me fix it!", "post": "So I met this girl at an event the other night. We hit it off and I loved her personality so I asked for her number. I texted the next day to say it was me and it was nice to meet her. She seemed interested because she kept texting me back asking me questions and talking about last night. We were sending inappropriate jokes and so I thought we had reached a point where we understood each other's sense of humour (but even at the event I felt like we had already reached that point.) I said I would let her know sunday when I would be free for a date. \n\nSunday night I was planning on telling her my schedule. But before that I decided to crack a joke and send a reference to a song. It was dumb and inappropriate but I don't think she took it well or got the reference because her reply was 'lol ok' .. It was also an hour later and so I had already fallen asleep and didn't reply back until this morning and so I didn't get the chance to explain myself. The following morning I texted her telling her that we should go out wednesday night. Simple straight to the point. \n\nIt's midnight now and I haven't gotten a reply and I'm sort of upset because it was going great and I think I fucked up. \n\nI'm sure I can get the date going I'm just not sure what the best way would be. I'm thinking of not reaching out to her again until after wednesday as to not come across as needy. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "Hit it off well with someone but I think I fucked up trying to be funny while setting up the first date. How do I fix it and get the date going?"}
{"id": "t3_1ci6gs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How can I politely get my BF to realize that we can't eat the same things?", "post": "Loseit, I have a bit of a dilemma. I was diagnosed with a genetic form of hypothyroidism a few months ago after gaining about 15 pounds in two months and going to the doctor. \n\nI've always been health conscious. I track my calories on DailyBurn, I'm currently training for a half-marathon (and I did my first Tough Mudder two weeks ago). Despite all of this work, I gained weight very quickly and it has done a number on my self confidence. As a result, I'm very stressed about food and image. \n\nI am in a relationship with one of the sweetest men I have ever met. He always wants me to be happy. Unfortunately for this situation, his favorite way to make me feel better about myself is to bring me food. It's usually something delicious, but very unhealthy. He isn't much of a health food person. Every time I try to explain to him how counterproductive this method is, he gets this hurt look and I end up going along with it. How can I get him to understand my problem?", "summary": "23 yo f, 5'6\", shot from 145 to 160 in 2 months. How can I get my bf to stop helping me eat my feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_22n94d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22M] have trouble being alone.", "post": "Hello everyone.\n\nLately I've been feeling really down/depressed/frustrated/lonely when I'm alone.\n\nSince the breakup with my first girlfriend over a month ago, I've been working on my body, my social skills, my confidence. It's been going great.\nI (re)connected with a lot of people and got to know a lot of new people and it's awesome. Due to mutual friends and the same student club I can't go NC with my ex, but when I happen to run into her, I try to ignore her as much as possible and there is no other contact between us than that. I'm perfectly aware that this will increase the time it takes to get over her, it sucks, but I can manage. I go out most days of the week, and when I'm at home I manage to occupy myself most of the time, usually doing stuff on the computer while Skyping with friends.\n\nBut then there are certain moments, where I want to do something, but I don't feel like doing anything. I want to talk to someone but nobody seems available. I start feeling down, alone, demotivated, ...\nI start thinking about the future, having nothing major to look out to, I feel afraid I'll end up alone. I start thinking about my ex and missing her, I start feeling just empty. It's hard to explain for me. \n\nI actually had it an hour ago. I was gaming with some friends and having a good time, but the moment the last other person in the conversation went to bed and checking FB for someone else to talk to, I got bored instantly and started feeling down and alone.\n\nI've been bored or alone before of course, but this feels worse than just being bored, and I don't really know how to deal with it.", "summary": "I get these random moments of boredom and loneliness since my breakup and I don't know how to solve/cope with them."}
{"id": "t3_152m3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am making sexual progress with my girlfriend [22F], yet we are missing the big problem.", "post": "[[Not an update, but related to my only other post if you're interested: [for the lazy] ]]\n\nI've been working with my girlfriend to address our sexual relationship with one another for well over a year and a half (at least) now. My size has been an issue the entire time, from condoms not fitting, to me not fitting, and then finally to me tearing and eventually *breaking her*.\n\nWe've made progress, and she's gone to physical therapy which has helped a lot, but for the past year or so the big problem has really been ignored. The other night we successfully had intercourse without any pain for the first time (despite the fact that I didn't finish), which is a huge leap. The problem is, being able to physically have sex doesn't address what's been causing my frustration for all this time.\n\nI don't feel that she's interested in my pleasure at all, which for whatever reason makes me feel like I'm not really desirable to her. I don't know how the two connect, but I feel like I have so much more potential for positive feedback of that sort*and receive nothing from her*. It's distressing and sexually frustrating and it shouldn't have anything to do with being able to perform vaginal intercourse.\n\nMy question is in two parts: how can I help explain my situation to her? And how can I turn the focus to that big issue, the only real driver pushing us apart at all, without belittling the progress she's made physically?", "summary": "GF and I making physical progress, but no emotional progress sexually. What can I do about this?"}
{"id": "t3_3gvba2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my [24 F] girlfriend moved to a new city. She hasn't found a job yet and is running out of money. How do I gently motivate her?", "post": "We moved across the country because I got a really great job offer and we agree'd we needed a change of pace from our home city/state. She is waiting for her final credits for her masters degree to go through inorder to apply for a specialized license in her field (thus allowing her to apply to places - you need this license to get a job in her medical field) She has a few weeks left before she can even start applying for full-time work, and is slowly running out of her savings since she has no income currently. \n\nI pay for most things (which I don't mind about, rent, internet, utilities etc.) and wasn't sure if by doing so I was enabling her to not get a part time job. She is very comfortable day-to-day, has no worries or bills, but has recently been complaining about overwhelming feelings of anxiety, worthlessness, and a slight depression. \n\nI try to remain positive and suggest going out and doing things/going to events, but during the week while shes home all day, she reverts back into not having any fire under her. I have been suggesting getting a part time job, and have friends that gave me numbers and places that they know of or have friends at that would interview her, but she seems completely removed from it all. \n\nShe will simultaneously complain about not having the money to do anything, and also that she's not sure about a part time job because it might complicate her job search for full-time work when she starts. I was contemplating asking her to pay for more, to kind of pressuring her into having to have an income. Anyone else have any tips or anything for dealing with this? I don't want to offend her, I just want her to get on her feet and not feel so overwhelmed. I think getting a part time job would solve a lot of that for her, it would get her out, meet people, have some money, give her a goal towards getting out of it to her full-time job in the field she went to school for.\n\nThank you in advance!", "summary": "Girlfriend and I moved across country, she is waiting to get a full-time job because of credits transferring, but now is running out of money and is feeling depressed. Trying to figure out how to motivate her."}
{"id": "t3_2c4mgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my coworker/friend/crush [30 M], how to break off the complicated relationship?", "post": "Hi r/relationships, long time lurker here. I made a throwaway for this because I need serious help. \n\nSo there is this coworker of mine who is a very close friend in real life. We simply clicked as soon as we met and became good friends immediately. After a while friendship turned into something more and we've been having something for the past six months. It's not an official relationship but not something platonic either.\n\nWe both told each other \"I love you\"s several times and almost everyone around us can see there's something going on between us. I was getting tired of having this unnamed thing and going through some tough time(death of a close relative) so one druken night I told him everything on my mind. That I loved him, wanted him to give us a chance etc. and wanted an answer. We discussed it after I got sobered and he said he feels we are too different, and he wants to settle down. I had just gotten out of a longterm relationship when things happened between us so he thinks that I should slow down a bit. Still, he said he loved me and needed some time. I gave an ultimatum and it's either he says yes or no, I needed to move on with my life.\n\nI know he's confused and don't want to rush things but I decided to get over him emotionally. My dilemma is I don't want to lose his friendship. When we talk, he makes me question myself (in a good way) and we can talk about almost everything. Besides, we work in a small office together (10-20 people) and it would be awkward to just cut off all contact.\n\nSo what do I do, reddit? How can I get over him without cutting off all contact?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Shat where I ate, how do I get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_3fmiwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [17F] hangs out with a bunch of guys, and sometimes only one of them at a time. It makes me uncomfortable. How do I address the situation?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over two months, and I have noticed that she hangs out mostly with guys. She has a few close female friends but she recently changed majors and haven't been hanging out with them much. A week ago she told me she was gonna hang out with this guy, just the two of them. It worried me a little but I just shrugged it off. Now I have noticed that she hangs out mostly with guys, sometimes just the two of them, and some of them just shrug off the fact that she has a boyfriend. From how she acts around my friends, I can see that she is really a friendly sociable person. She has assured me many times of her loyalty, and I have been accepting it. But it bugs me that any time something could happen which is why I am posting this now.", "summary": "Have been dating this girl for over two months and she hangs out mostly with guys and it bugs me a little. How do I address the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4xmcks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] Boyfriend [22M] of 10 Months; Gets Mad When I Leave Clothes Over At His Place", "post": "I'm not sure if this is an issue? But, if you talked to my boyfriend Clark about it, you would think otherwise.\n\nMy boyfriend Clark and I started going out and hooking up last summer. We had a lab class together last spring, which is how we met. We became official about 10 months ago, and I have loved our relationship. Clark is so fun to be around, and we get along really well! \n\nThis past summer, we have been staying at each others place every other week or so. Sometimes I will stay over for a couple days, but then sometimes he will come over for a few nights. We still live at home, so both of us like changing up our bedroom/sleeping arrangements every once in a while. Lately when I stay at Clarks place, I have been bringing a bag over and stocking his dressers and closet with my stuff. I have just found it a lot easier to keep stuff over at his place.\n\nBut, lately he has been complaining that I am bring \"too much\" stuff over. He was bitching at me saying that I should just bring an overnight bag for a night or two, rather then stocking my clothes in his room. He was complaining that the clothes I bring over, wear, and put them back in their spot in his room - do not get cleaned enough. But mainly, he complains about me taking up some of his space. I do not think I am out of line here by any means. I mean, I'm not taking up all of his space.\n\nAdvice?", "summary": "My [23F] boyfriend Clark [22M] has been complaining about me leaving some of my clothes at his place. He says that I should have a night back whenever I come over, instead of just stocking up his closet/dressers with my clothes. I do not think I am out of line here. How can I reason with Clark over a non-issue, in my opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_1kzqf7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (m, 17) want to ask my crush (f, 17) out", "post": "I've had a crush on this girl for three years (we're in the same class) and I've decided I'm going to ask her out. I've never done this before, but I'm really good with conversation since I work the front end of a store. We have two hours open together at the end of our school day since we both take college classes in the afternoon, so I figure that would be a good time to ask her. What I need help with is: ideas for somewhere to go (there's a coffee shop nearby but is that cliche? We already know each other pretty well), how to ask her (do I just go hey, you should let me take you out for coffee) and what types of things to talk about assuming she accepts (which I am pretty confident she will--I just don't want to make an asshat out of myself in the process).", "summary": "halp how to date gurl"}
{"id": "t3_3ekkin", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25m] have had doubts that my relationship is getting stale for me with [25f]", "post": "In recent months I have started feeling my relationship suddenly sink to something that just is being maintained. I think it may be one sided. Me and my gf have been together almost 3 years and recently just left our apartment where we lived for a year to my parents home (I am looking for a new career field). Nothing has really changed and I'm not sure why I'm starting to feel like this. \n\nIntimacy has slowed down for about 3 months and I am starting to want to talk to other girls, and not just harmless flirting but actually wanting to pursue it. \n\nI have been very happy in my relationship but have suddenly started feeling unrest when I had started dreaming about someone else that I used to talk to but never dated. I had always wondered what would've happened because we connected more than any other person I have ever pursued. \n\nMy gf was recently on vacation last week and I an on my own trip for work this a week and realized during both weeks texting and calling was minimal.. But the thing that worried me was that I didn't even notice. If I texted her I felt like it was because I am used to checking in and vice versa. \n\nI feel so much pressure because our families get along, we have a puppy together and she lives at my house while our furniture is in storage. \n\nAnother thing that worries me is marriage has never really crossed my mind and at this length of the relationship normally for most people it's at least in the conversation. \n\nI am not even wanting to move on to someone else specifically I just feel like I want to be on my own and get that feeling you get every few years where you feel like you are starting to turn a new page in life.", "summary": "feeling unrest in relationship not sure if I should move on. Want to be sure before I even bring it up to anybody close to me"}
{"id": "t3_hof2v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where's the best place you've ever worked and why?", "post": "I worked for Superstore when I was 15.  I was hired onto the grocery department, and was trained by a guy named Kyle on my first day of work. Let's just say that him and other guys weren't the best influences.....\n\nHere's a list of what we did that made this job awesome:\n\n* First day of training Kyle takes me into the back and shows me how to use my knife to cut open bags of chips and candy so that we could eat the \"damaged merchandise\" . \n\n* Jalape\u00f1o pepper eating contest (won $20 bucks then puked EVERYWHERE)\n\n* Water fights: We'd use the hoses to soak each other unexpectedly. Best memory I have is when the manager on duty came into the back produce area to see me soaked from head to toe...turns around and walks out the door without saying a word. Hilarious.\n\n* Palet jack relay races: We had manual, electric, and lift jacks in our warehouse. So we'd race the electric ones down the back hall, jump off and ride the manual ones back to the main warehouse area, then jump on the electric one and find a way to lift ourself to the top shelf to grab the flag. I won by pressing the emergency stop button on my buddy's electric jack. ;)\n\nI loved working in the back fridge alone at times, just stocking shelves. It was peaceful. And the rowdy times were awesome too. For a 15 year old guy who didn't have many friends at the time and was very strict to the rules, I gotta thank these guys for showing me how to have fun. Best first job ever.", "summary": "Worked at a grocery store when I was 15 and had an awesome time eating food, and hanging out with  older guys who were a terrible influence."}
{"id": "t3_3iwkuo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a kid $70 thinking he'd actually give it back.", "post": "So it all started wayyy back when I was just enlisting in the Army. This kid used to train with me before we were shipping out. Turns out I got to ship and he got kicked out during his basic training (or so he said). Skip to March of this year while I was just finishing all of my training, the kid asks me for $300 and I said no. Skip a couple months, he asked for $70 and at that point I said yes if he could pay me back. Week after week I would ask if he could pay back and he kept saying \"next week\" or \"my job isn't paying me\". I just talked to his girlfriend that he recently broke up with (he was cheating on her she claimed) and she told me that while they were going out he said he had paid back everyone he owed which is clearly bullshit.", "summary": "$70 lesson learned, kid wouldn't pay back because he's a liar."}
{"id": "t3_4c0k0s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Contacting my biological father [44M], who doesnt know I [19F] exist??", "post": "I'm going to try to keep this short so it doesn't drag long into a soap opera. \n\nWhen my Mom [22 F at the time] got pregnant with her boyfriend at the time [24 M], aka my Dad, she decided he would be the right fit for many reasons. He ended up harassing her by constantly calling her work/showing up at her house. My mom ended up getting a retraining order. \n\nFast forward to when I was born, my Dad wanted to get custody over me which my mom did not want. I ended up being sent to a different country as a baby during the whole trial. When the court asked for the DNA test, not sure how they did this, my mom used a different kid for the test? So it ended up being in court that he is not my father.\n\nNow growing up I didn't know anything about the DNA testing, but I knew about the harassment and being sent to a different country. (I was sent back to my mom around the age of 1 once the case was done). My mom was honest in terms of that her and my Dad didn't work but I could meet him when I turned 18. She said it couldn't be before then or else he might try to get custody over me. Once I turned 18 she ended up telling me about the whole DNA thing, and how she feels horrible but is asking me to not meet my Dad as he might press charges against her if he found out that what she did was illegal. \n\nNow currently I'm 19 and am 100% sure I found the other side of my family through investigation. But now am unsure how I should even approach him? My mom has been abroad for the past 2 years and my relationship with her has gone down the drain, for other serious reasons. \n\nIn the end I'm just kind of lost at what I should do as I want to meet my Dad I never knew. And my whole life we've lived in the same town. And he lives only 10 minutes from my place. What should I do? Thoughts and opinions?", "summary": "My mom hid me from my dad by falsifying DNA test when I was born. I want to meet him now (19 years later) but am lost of what I should do in legal/moral terms?"}
{"id": "t3_20i4bx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31m] got matched to a acquaintance/pseudo-friend [28f] on Tinder. Now what?", "post": "So I've known this girl for almost 5-6 years now but we've probably hung out maybe twice and that's it. We're Facebook, Twitter friends and have mutual friends but we don't see each other, at all. She's extremely hot and I'm...not. She's a partygoer, etc.. and I'm more a Netflix-at-home kind of guy. That much, we know about each other.\n\nSo imagine my surprise when I saw her on Tinder and said what the hell, swiped 'Yes' to her and apparently she had swiped 'Yes' to me too. \n\nAdvice from anyone this has happened to? How do I make a move without it being awkward", "summary": "Got matched up with someone I know on Tinder, we both said 'Yes' to each other. How to proceed without it being awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_3cprkw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing New Vegas for tens of hours without realizing I didnt have basically any mods activated.", "post": "So yeah. I have never played New Vegas without mods. I knew the mod scene was huge so there was no way for me to play without mods. I downloaded few \"essential\" mods like some weather mods, basically only graphical mods. Today I downloaded Weapons Mod Expanded because I'm lvl 18 and I have access to pretty much every game in the game, at least those weapons that you can get from merchants. So I tought that maybe this was good time to get some more weapons. While installing the mod, I realized that in Skyrim, Oblivion and Morrowind you actually had to activate the mods with some mod manager. I havent activated shit with New Vegas. Open mod manager, realize that none of the mods were activated. I have been playing for 18 levels without any mods.\n\nYes, I have been enjoying the game but I know I would have enjoyed it A LOT more if the mods were activated. I hadnt played New Vegas \"without\" mods so I didnt really know how vanilla NW was. I had nothing to compare to.\n\nNow Im so depressed that ALL my eagerness to play NW is gone. I have no desire to play it anymore because I feel like I have wasted all that time.\n\nJesus christ I want to uninstall the game and never play it again.\n\n>", "summary": ">Installed mods to NW, played NW to level 18, installed more mods, realized none of the previous mods were activated, no desire to play anymore, want to uninstall game."}
{"id": "t3_19pgxo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out that I am being accused of academic dishonesty. What do I do?", "post": "In my Japanese 1002 class we are required to record ourselves doing drills - repeating after audio files, etc....I got an email over the weekend from my professor asking me to come talk to her my most recent submission on Monday. I, being a total fucking idiot, completely forgot to do so. She just sent me another email letting me know that she and her colleagues think that I have violated the code of academic honesty. \n\nI responded to her e-mail immediately apologizing profusely for not coming to see her and letting her know that if I have done something wrong it was due to ignorance on my part rather than dishonest intentions. Now I'm waiting to hear back from her.\n\nI am not sure how I could have cheated - I did my last recording very early in the morning and it is possible I made some sort of error due to sleep deprivation. Maybe I didn't record the time it took me to do it properly or something like that. I'm freaking out right now thinking that perhaps I did something terribly wrong without realizing it and will have academic dishonesty charges on my record forever.", "summary": "I'm being accused of cheating. What do I do now? What are the possible consequences? Is this going to ruin my life?"}
{"id": "t3_2bgjls", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm 15 and I want to to actual things.", "post": "Hi. Im a 15 year old boy and I just realized I never do anything. All of my time is spent on the computer or playing video games and I rarely do things outside my house. I have friends, but when we hang out all we do is go on the computer or play video games. I would love to meet new people and maybe some girls my age but I wouldn't even know where do begin doing something like that.  When im around people I don't know (especially girls) I am extremely shy and awkward. When im around people I do know (even just one person and the rest are strangers) I am extremely loud and weird and I act like the human incarnation of the internet (I don't do this intentionally im just really weird) and also im extremely thirsty for attention when im like this. What can i do to meet new people and actually do things?", "summary": "I want to meet new people and do things outside my house.   "}
{"id": "t3_3z6rbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my best friend [25F] of 5 years, I'm in love with her and it's paralyzing", "post": "Throwaway because friends know my username. I met my best friend 6 years ago at university and we've been really close for about 5. For most of that time she went from relationship to relationship, one of which lasted for 3.5 years with someone I also considered a good friend. \n\nI've dated many people throughout this time, but I subconsciously find myself comparing them to her. This often causes me to be resistant to commitment and easily lose interest in romantic partners.  \n\nWe're both single and talk every day. She was my date to a wedding last week, I go to dinners at her parents house, and we take each other to work events. We always have an incredible time together, feel comfortable being ourselves, and are both attractive (trying to be objective here) and have successful careers.  \n\nI am a big proponent of not convincing someone to be with me unless they really want it themselves. I also have a tendency to get paralyzed when I don't know what to do. So how do I proceed?\n\nA) Be upfront about how I feel and potentially alter our friendship\nB) Continue to see other people and try to find someone right for me that I won't feel the need to compare them\nC) Try to be at peace with it and focus on other important things in my life\nD) Sell all my possesions, and move to a different place every 4 months determined by a poll on a blog I have yet to create", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friend, I struggle with keeping it from having an impact on pursuing other people, and I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3ym0b5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "New Round About to Start at /r/90daysgoal", "post": "Helloooo runners! A new round is about to start at /r/90DaysGoal, and we would love for you to come join us! \n\n**What 90days is and what it isn't**\n\n90daysgoal is a community that is all about self-improvement and support. Whether you want to change a lot or a little, gain muscle or lose weight, learn skills or break habits, or work on things that aren't necessarily related to fitness (school, work, hobbies, friendships/family/relationships), everyone is welcome! \n\nMore than anything else, this group will provide you with a place to talk to other people about health, fitness, and general self-improvement in a completely open and friendly environment.  The support of others going through similar struggles is one of the things that makes 90DG so special: this is a group of people working together to better themselves. \n\n**Goals**\n\nOur goal is to help you tackle big things, one day at a time. While it's tempting to want to change many things at once, there's always a lot on our plates. If we bite off more than we can chew, it can be easy to be overwhelmed and give up. But, when you break a big goal down into small goals that you can check off daily or weekly, it doesn't seem so intimidating.\n\nSo, what do you want to accomplish in the next 90 days?\n\n**What's the format?**\n\nEvery day the mods post a Daily Goal thread where you can post your goals for the day, ask questions, or read through other people's updates. There's a weekly check-in thread every Monday and several themed posts throughout the week to keep us all on track. At the end of every 30 days, we take a few days off to set new goals for the next 30 days and then dive back in.\n\nIf you'd like to join us for the next round, stop by and tell us about yourself and your goals in the [official introduction thread] Round 19 will officially begin on Monday, January 4th. On Day 1 there will be a signup form to fill out so that we can keep track of group statistics.", "summary": "If you're interested in changing or growing with us, subscribe to /r/90daysgoal. Day 1 is January 4th and the final day will be April 12th. There will be informational posts throughout the first couple weeks to get everyone started toward their goals. We'll have a progress/recovery week at the end of each month. Feel free to look at the recent daily goal threads and last round's introduction thread if you'd like an idea of what to expect. Feel free to ask any and all questions here!"}
{"id": "t3_1zdy9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] haven't talked to a friend [20 F] for months but really want to everyday.", "post": "I fell in love with this girl I worked with over the summer. We shared some romantic moments, but she had a boyfriend and when summer ended we just moved on and haven't talked since with the exception of a couple of shitty text conversations. She's more vague in texts and sometimes just doesn't respond, and I have no idea what to say.\n\nNow she's single, but we live 600 miles apart during school and haven't talked for 7 months. Should I bother trying to talk to her? Just sit on it? Or continue trying to forget about her? Cause its been bad lately.\n\nI rarely try and talk to her because she gets a lot of attention from guys based on her looks and I don't want to become some desperate acquaintance that she used to like.", "summary": "Thinking of trying to talk to a crush again even though it hasn't gone well before."}
{"id": "t3_34v47w", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I send her a text or not bother?", "post": "So a few weeks ago I asked this cute girl to hang out. We talked for a while and that weekend we got some dinner and chilled for a couple hours after. We turned out to be very different and she kept saying she loved that, I was a little turned off by it but I'm an open minded kind of dude so I can get over that. Anyway, I text her the next day and we go back a forth a few times before she cuts me off with one of those \"I'm busy today but I'll talk to you tomorrow\" sort of things. So, having recently gotten out of a long term relationship and having pretty much no dating experience, I took that as she wasn't interested. I saw her a few days later and she said hi but we didn't talk much after that so it felt a little uncomfortable. Anyway, to avoid any awkward feelings I got her alone and just had a little chat saying we know we're very different and she didn't think any differently of me and asked if I felt any differently about her. It was all cordial but then she rushed off to get a ride with a friend so I sort of felt like she was uncomfortable. Any who, it's been a couple of weeks now and we've randomly seen each other a few times. She always says hi and we have a little small talk. She always seems to flirt with guys right around me though which made me wonder if she's into them or just trying to bug me. Sorry I'm dumping my over analyzation on here lol but I'm just a little confused. She's really sweet, smart and pretty and I'd like to get to know her better. What do you guys think? From what I've mentioned is there anything there? Or should I just forget about her and move on (which is pretty much what I've done, as I haven't given her much attention for a couple weeks)?", "summary": "Took a girl out few weeks ago, we were very different. Got mixed signals but took it as she wasn't interested and moved on. Think I may have jumped the gun (I've pretty much ignored her for a couple weeks). Should I see if she wants to casually get together sometime or just forget about her and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2vq49s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure about a girls feelings [M/17] [F/17]", "post": "I've been texting a girl for like a month now and I rarely see her in person. I always have to start up the conversation when I text her, and usually send it last too..but she seems fairly interested. Also she sent me the absolute first message so I thought there was something there for a while. \n\nWhen I send a message she replies with a long response but I have no idea if shes at all interested in me. Since I almost always start the conversation should I just stop talking to her assuming I'm irritating? I dont want to come off as a douche thats rrying too hard, but if she is interested and i dont act, ill nevee forget it. Not to mention I just started reading the lovey dovey shit on here like the \"told my wife I love her\" and now I really want to be with her good god. Thanks.", "summary": "Not sure if a girl is interested enough to try and start dating"}
{"id": "t3_uome8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So i'm fed up with my day to day mundane job and want to create one for myself, but I need so much advice.", "post": "So here i am at work pretty much all day at work today thinking what's the point, and it hit me that with a good idea and dedication i can do whatever I want, i'm sure you'll all agree to this.\n\nSo i have an idea to start with a 'health' website(for obvious reasons i dont want to give away much more than that). But i am in desperate need of advice on how to start it(I'm UK based).  At the moment i really want to find a good trust worthy wholesaler/distributor that will offer me fair prices for my start up business. After this crucial step i'll be looking at web design and how i can save money by doing it myself so any dvice on software would be great.", "summary": "I want to start a business but need help with the first stage."}
{"id": "t3_xwa4x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you determine your self worth and love yourself more?", "post": "This isn't supposed to sound like a 'woe is me' rant. I genuinely want to know. I just got broken up with and as I'm grieving the end of the relationship I'm starting to realize some things about myself. A major thing is that I don't know my own self worth. Someone at work was offering me advice and said that she knew her worth because \"God's son died for her and that makes her pretty damn important!\" What about the rest of us who aren't religious? I have been basing my values by comparing what I have to others and although I consider myself a good hearted person I want to know ways to improve myself mentally. I realize now that I was settling and that person was never even my type anyways. I could take much better care of my health by not drinking wine and smoking as many nights of the week as I do. I want to have a better relationship with myself and Google isn't helping.\n\nSo my question to you Reddit, is how do you determine your values when you're not religious and what makes you love yourself?", "summary": "How do you re-learn what your values are? How can you learn to love yourself more?"}
{"id": "t3_37r21g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my best friend [23/F], need some advice on how to gently talk her out of a new hobby?", "post": "I'm a fairly successful comic in my city's local scene. My best friend has been to a few shows recently, and decided that she's interested in performing at some upcoming open mic events.\n\nShe's been writing material and asking me to look at it for her and tell her if it's funny. To be blunt, it isn't. She doesn't seem to be particularly suited to writing comedy.\n\nI've been trying to help her workshop, which she asked me to do, but I'm starting to think that there's not anything I can really do to help her make the material stronger. It's just not that good to begin with, and anything I can think to do to improve it just makes it sound like MY comedy, not something of her own.\n\nWhat's the best way to tell her that I don't think she's cut out for this? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't want her to end up embarrassed.", "summary": "My friend is interested in trying stand-up comedy. I don't know how to tell her that I don't think it's a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_gciot", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Clothes for very skinny man", "post": "I'm 5' 9, 123 lbs. My chest measurement is only 31~32 inches. My waist is 29-30 inches\n\nWhat this means is that almost nothing fits me (tops). \"Small\" when available is rarely really small enough, and brands do tend to vary. (I speculate that things labeled \"small\" don't sell well for perception reasons even if they fit).\n\nIn any case for an American male, I am about the skinniest person I can think of... \n\nThe most typical solution posited for this problem of non-fitting clothes is to shop in the boys/young mens sections. Sometimes this is okay, but honestly those options are quite limited and I think it also helps lead to another problem I have: being confused with a high school student (I'm in my late 20s). \n\nBasically I avoid long sleeves because they never fit, and fall off my arms because my chest and therefore shoulders aren't as wide as normal. Suits are also an issue though a 35 or 34 short (when you can find them) seem to be okay. So I have problems with all clothes but every day business casual is the biggest hole, as that is what I need most often. Pants aren't a big issue as I am normal height and with a 30x30 I can wear a belt if needed.\n\nThe only place I have really found in the US so far is American Apparel who actually make xxs for many things with chest size down to 29\". (I would note that XS seems to vary a lot: American 30-32; Banana Republic xs: 34-35!, which I would just call a \"s\")", "summary": "Where are good places to get xs, xxs or clothes for skinny men?"}
{"id": "t3_37edtc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my roommate [26 F] of 1 month, seemed nice, but pissed her off and now acts like a shell of a person", "post": "A female roommate moved in with me into my apartment about a month ago, I think might have had a thing for me at one point. We share the same room with a couple, so it's 4 of us. At first she was really cheerful and seemed cool. A few days in, I had weed for the first time and accidentally overdid it, I was way too stoned and and my roommates all claim they were worried at how stoned I was because I was zoning out. She had invited me to cook with her and I agreed, but the next day I wasn't feeling well from the weed, told her I wasn't going to do it. \n\nWe ended up having an argument about my flaking, and she used the \"you promised\" line on me. Now, I take promises very seriously, in fact I never promise anything unless it's already been fulfilled and the  other person doesn't know yet. I called her out on it and told her that I never promised her anything, that she was lying. Big mistake. Immediately after this, she put up the biggest emotional wall I've ever seen.\n\nIt's been 2 weeks and she skulks around all day, is as un-responsive as possible about anything, deadpan voice, one-word answers, no eye contact, turns away, frequent sighing. She hangs out with friends and has gone out with at least 1 other guy that I know of, I took a 10 day trip which I thought would give her some time to cool off, but after I returned she's the same. She's also nice to the other roommates, so it's definitely just me.\n\nThere seems to be so much negative energy that I constantly feel like just leaving the house to not be around her. Not sure whether to \"have a talk\" or to give her more time and test the waters again later.", "summary": "Flaked on plans with roommate, had argument, roommate has shut down and acts depressive around me. I want her to act normal again, but giving her some space seems to be doing nothing. Should I take a different strategy?"}
{"id": "t3_dp5qx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your boldest sexual advance that FAILED MISERABLY?", "post": "I don't know about you, but I am not blessed with epic winrar stories.\n\nFor instance, I was at a party summer going into sophomore year. I was drinking, and had little to no sense of wit or judgement. A girl that I had been chatting with recently was alone by a bonfire so I decided to talk to her. I pretended like I was sick of the party and asked if she wanted to hang out on the grass or something.\n\nWe're talking and getting closer and closer (I think we even had a blanket) and I laugh to myself and she asks why I laughed. I say, \"Oh, I just thought of doing something silly.\" \"What?\" she asks. I say \"This,\" and go in for the kiss. Then she says that she has a boyfriend. I try and play it off and cool-like, and say \"I have a boyfriend too, we'll just keep it secret.\" She now gets creeped out about my boyfriend, and runs away. I try and follow her to explain the misunderstanding, but all people see is a plastered guy yelling \"I swear I'm not gay! See, I'm hard!\"", "summary": "I was called Hard-ly Gay for about a month."}
{"id": "t3_10w0zn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] feel guilty when I hang out with my friends instead of my girlfriend [20f]", "post": "We have been dating for 2 years. When my girlfriend asks me to do something and i have previous plans, I feel incredibly guilty telling her that I am hanging out with people other than her. I think this comes from knowing the \"let-down\" reaction I get when I tell her but she, of course, tells me that she can do things without me. When I apologize for having previous plans, she tells me I overuse the word \"sorry\" and that she doesn't need me to have fun. \nIs there something wrong here or am I creating this problem in my head?", "summary": "When i make plans that do not involve my SO I feel guilty. This stems from her reaction of being \"let down\" when I tell her i am busy"}
{"id": "t3_y3dro", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where are you from/where do you currently live?  How do you like/dislike the way of life that your area provides for you?", "post": "I'm from a suburb about 6 miles outside of Boston, and I recently moved about 100 miles west to Amherst to finish school.  Growing up outside of Boston, there are a lot of wealthy, privileged kids who try and act hard and tough as if they grew up with problems or something. Also everyone in my area started drinking and doing drugs way earlier than other people I've met from other places, for example I started drinking, smoking and smoking pot at 12.  \n\nWestern Massachusetts is much different, as it is far less densely populated, and aside from the two flourishing college towns, and Springfield, ma (americas's stinkiest armpit besides maybe Detroit) most towns are very small farm towns. Everyone who lives in my college town is either a student or a super liberal hippie person. There is a fair amount of scuzzy looking people around town, but they generally keep to themselves and don't pose much of a threat.  Everyone in town seems to smoke a lot of weed, and the town government doesn't seem to care much about that, as they hold a giant weed fest in town every year called \"extravaganja\" where they ask the police to look the other way completely.", "summary": "Boston suburbs are full of rich kids who think they're tough and western ma is really friendly. Tell me about where you're from!"}
{"id": "t3_2s4wtf", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Crippling anxiety over even THINKING about finding off campus housing.", "post": "I'm going to be transferring to CSULB for Fall 2015.  As a junior-status student, I want to move in to an apartment off campus with my boyfriend.  Here is my struggle:\n\n* I don't live close to Southern California: hundreds of miles away, in fact, which makes apartment hunting in person close to impossible\n* Using the internet to hunt down decently priced apartment for two people in a neighborhood that isn't awful is daunting. *(I have been using [padmapper] for my searches.)*\n* This will be my first apartment, and I am not sure what to expect.\n\nWhat is your experience with off campus living?  How did you find a place/how did you afford said place/any and all advice you have?\n\n**Basically, if that was", "summary": "how does one go apartment hunting for off-campus living somewhere that is hundreds of miles away from where you are, and how do you set up in moving there?*"}
{"id": "t3_25gq81", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my shrunken penis to 5 men", "post": "So in my backyard I have an outdoor shower, and so normally when I'm done swimming or whatever I'll get undressed and jump in the shower, when I get out I don't really care about having anything on cause it's my backyard and it's fenced in and no one was home. The chances of me being seen were slim.... I thought. \nSo on this particular day, I get out of the pool, take my clothes off, hang them up, and go around the side of my house and jump in the shower. \nSo I go about my normal business, polishing the jewels, draining the dragon and what not, only problem was the propane heat was out in the shower, so I had to deal with the cold, which meant my little buddy was even smaller than it normally is for a short white kid. \nSo I thought nothing of it, and got out of the shower, which is when I heard a noise and locked eyes with 5 construction guys standing on the roof next door to me. \nAnd that is literally all we could do. There was nothing to for me cover myself with, and the only options I had were run back in the shower, or run into my house which would be around a 20 second run while completely exposed. \nSo I just stood there, with literally no ideas of what to do. \nSo after about 5 seconds of me and my little shrunken buddy putting on a nice show of full frontal nudity for the men on the roof, I just ran back into the shower and waited there contemplating my life until they left.", "summary": "my little friend and I gave some workers what some people have to pay for."}
{"id": "t3_2j6qi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] feel like even after 2.5 years I know nothing about my boyfriend [21M]", "post": "I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me too but I feel like he has these huge walls up. When it comes to me and my family I'm pretty much an open book - I tell him everything and I often share things from my childhood with him. My boyfriend never talks about his past/childhood and rarely shares anything about what's going on in his life. When I ask him what's new or what's up he responds by saying that I live with him so I know everything. I'm also very mindful of what I say and find myself having to choose my words carefully so as to not imply that we'll be anything more in the future (made that mistake about a year and a half into our relationship and it ended in tears and a conversation about how he doesn't like to plan things 'cause if it doesn't work it'll end in disappointment). Is this normal? Sometimes it's a little saddening knowing that I'm so open yet he's not that comfortable. It's also shitty that I have to pick and choose my words; I can't just say \"Oh I hope we can have a little cottage some day\" I have to alter it and say \" I hope whoever I marry will want a cottage\"... Simple things like that\nHalp?", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't tell me anything about his childhood/past won't talk about the future; he's not cheating on me and he loves me but he's just not open - how to fix?"}
{"id": "t3_1nw0l1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I've hit a plateau, and have disappointed a friend...", "post": "Some background, in April last year a friend and I both started Weight Watchers and lost a similar amount of weight. I started at 122kg (approx 270lb?) and am now just a little over 100. We had a deal that once I hit my high school weight (99kg) I would reward myself with an iPad... I reached my current weight just before she and I went on holiday so I bought it in duty free and she has been holding onto it since. It hit the 7 month anniversary of that trip on the weekend. \nIn the meantime, she has hit her goal weight (she was considerably smaller than me and is sitting at just a little over 50kg, or about half my weight) so my workout buddy/WW support has stopped. I am trying very hard not to blame my current situation on this, as I am well aware that all and any motivation needs to come solely from me, but it has been very hard. She has also now decided that she is going to give me the iPad anyway - as it is obvious that I have \"given up\".\n\nWhat I guess I am asking for is, have you guys been in a similar situation, and what have you done to \"get back on the bandwagon\"?", "summary": "Dropped my end of the bargain, asking for ideas for getting my motivation back."}
{"id": "t3_31obzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] Maybe I'm over reacting and maybe I'm not.", "post": "So I'm the type of member to be courteous.  I like to have a friendly environment, but the people who seem to act like they're too cool to follow any type of rules always ruin a fun time even on this site or anywhere I go.\n\nThe down vote thing always irritates me because it's just annoying how I see people down vote someone (and me) for saying something true.  It's ridiculous.  [No, this isn't an open invite to down vote me, but I'm sure someone will anyway.  They have never failed to not down vote my posts whenever I mention how people abuse the down vote system.  Like I'll get way more positive comments agreeing with what I say but the votes don't match up to the people agreeing with me posting.\n\nDoes that mean if I talk about up voting I'll get up voted then since some people think mentioning down votes will get you down voted?]", "summary": "Anyway, back to my personal issue, do you ever let people who don't follow the rules bother you or you just carry on and keep doing you and find people who do use the site rightfully?"}
{"id": "t3_lc9gx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What strategies do you use to keep yourself awake for late night cramming?", "post": "So, I'm a college student with a double major and I'm paying my way through school. So naturally, I have far too much shit to do to actually sleep. I'm not a night owl, though (or a morning person, come to that), and come midterm time when I need to utilize the late night hours to get stuff done, I find that I have an exceptionally difficult time staying awake to do so. I can't get coffee down, and I drink so much caffeine on a daily basis that I'm moderately impervious to it's power. What does reddit do when it needs to stay up late to get stuff accomplished? \n\n**bold", "summary": "How do you stay up late for last minute cramming that doesn't involve coffee or mountain dew?"}
{"id": "t3_1w3o97", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, please help me make friends in college", "post": "So I was commuting to my college my first semester and I hated it. I didn't meet that many people and I only made casual acquaintances with other commuters in my class, but they live further away from me so we can't really hang out. I made the move to live on campus the second semester and got into an on campus apartment thinking that I would have an easier time meeting people. I was wrong. I'm a little shy so talking to people is difficult. The biggest problem I have is that I don't know how to really connect with people and I never have something to say. I know I can ask how are your classes, what's your major, etc. but I want to really get to know people. I'm just awkward. The shitty thing is that people already have their own groups and I have no one. My roommates don't really like me for some reason even though I've been nothing but polite to them but whatever fuck them they're all weird anyway. I'm sorry for ranting but this is embarrassing and I don't know who to turn to. I don't wanna be all alone and quiet for the rest of my life so please help me reddit.", "summary": "Really quiet, moved to an on campus apartment hoping to meet people, I don't know what to say to anybody."}
{"id": "t3_2ox1lh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28M] with my partner [28F] of 7 years. I dont want to get married but she does.", "post": "We got together when we were 21 and we were both to young to know what we really wanted from live and who knew we would even last this long?\n\nWe dated for 4 years and 3 years ago we moved in together and everything is great. I love her, but recently she has been hinting at the next step and in her mind thats marriage and then eventually kids (The kids is something I want to). \n\nWe live relatively close to her mum and she visits more than I would like but the hints are infuriating, \"Maybe he will get you a ring from Christmas.\" One that was said just days ago while I was mere inches away and it was intended for me to hear.\n\nFirstly why I dont want marriage, and I'm not looking for arguements about the validity of marriage I am telling you my beliefs so you have context. I was born in a fire and brimstone religious household, half of what how they treated me as a child was right out of the old testament (imagine borderline westborough baptist church without as many Protests, and yes my parents were also baptists) and to this day I hate all relgious groups, brainwashing etc etc. \n\nIn my mind marriage is an extension of that; marriage exists through religion and was created by religion and I dont know why modern women and society needs to believe that marriage is like an achievement, a woman is worth less if she isnt married as if she is valued only on the basis of a ring. Marriage is an old fashioned form of ownership, \"Thats my wife.\" I dont own my partner she is my equal and I love her, but I dont think I could ever marry her.\n\nI sat her down tonight and told her exactly how I feel and that I dont want marriage, she didnt understand, she took it as if I dont want to marry her and not that I have fundamental issues with marriage and religion. I just dont feel I need to marry her to show my love to her.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? Are my beliefs valid? I just want to have kids, and settle down but the pressure coming from her side of the family for marriage is intense. I no longer communicate with my side.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3v3b1a", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Infant received over-dosage of Pentacel Vaccine", "post": "We just took our 2 month old daughter for a checkup and vaccinations. We opted to get the Pneumococcal Vaccination and Pentacel ( We asked what was inside the shots but we did not check how much was given. An hour after the shots our doctor called to say they had replaced the pneumococcal with a second equal dose of the Pentacel. Our daughter was very distraught for the first three hours after the shots. She was drooling more than normal and had a hiccup when she was breathing.\n\nWe called the doctors office, they told us this is a normal reaction and the extra-dosage is not dangerous. Since then (two more hours) she has calmed down and slept a bit (gave her a small dose of infant Tylenol and iced her leg where shots were given). We are monitoring her closely and will take her to the ER if we notice any further discomfort, but were hoping to get some advice from experienced parents.\n\nI'm going to the doctor tomorrow to try and obtain all records and get some records of what happened.", "summary": "Daughter received double dose of vaccine and we would like some advice :)"}
{"id": "t3_g4wx5", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "iPhone 4 got snatched on the bus. What's the best way to handle this situation?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI realize that there's a very small chance of my phone being recovered, but I just wanted to see what the best way to increase that chance/help the situation.\n\nBackground information: I'm a 18 F student in Chicago. I was by myself for this trip.\n\nI was downtown today to pick up some visiting friends from the bus station. Unfortunately, Greyhound rescheduled their bus for an hour earlier without notifying them, so they had to get on a bus at a later time. So I head back to my campus for the moment. I take the red line on the L (Chicago's subway system), get off at my stop (Garfield, for any redditors who may be Chicagoans), and get on another bus that goes to my campus. This isn't necessarily the best part of town but it isn't so bad that I feel uncomfortable, especially as I take this route a lot (although usually with a group of friends). The bus is about half full. I sit down near the back door, hear that I received a text, pull my iPhone out to check. A kid (probably about 13) sits next to me and instantly snatches it and runs off with my friend. I shouted at him and tried to stop him, but they get out the back door too quickly for me. They hung around a gas station across the street, so I used another woman's phone to call 911 and tell the police where I was and that they were still there. But they got on another bus before the police got there. The bus driver emptied the bus and he and I waited for the police. Two policemen came, they left right when the bus driver told them that the two kids had gotten on another bus. I called my mum to remotely lock my phone. I filled out a CTA (Chicago Transit Authority) incident report. Two other policemen came and I filled out a police report. I told them that I could track my iPhone (I have it set up via mobile me), but they didn't really seem to think anything of that. Then they put me on another bus and I got back.", "summary": "kids snatched my phone on a bus, filled out a police form"}
{"id": "t3_1x75e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [F/17] I'm [M/17] into is weird about what she wants and I'm lost", "post": "So basically the girl that I have a \"crush\" on is half Asian half white and she is only into white guys. I'm not white but I do like her and we're friends and we tease each other and stuff but how do I get her to cling to me more. I call her cute and beautiful and stuff but it doesn't seem to have any affect.\n\nShe also says she isn't into relationships and things like that but then she says that she really wants a guy there, she's bipolar about it. I think she just says she doesn't because in the town we live in everyone crushes on white people and I guess they don't like the half Asian in her. For once there's no real competition but her standards are really high. What can I do to make her see me in a different way or give me a shot?", "summary": "Girl I like has standards that are impossible for me to meet, is it possible to get this girl to fall for me at all or should I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_5166lg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my friend cut my hair", "post": "Over the past few weeks I noticed that my hair was getting pretty long (by my standards) but it wasn't until this past Friday that I decided to cut it. Being the uncultured swine that I am, I didn't realize that this weekend was Labor Day weekend and that everyone else figured that this was their last chance to get a haircut before Tuesday rolled around. \n\nSince I'm impatient and I didn't want to wait for two hours just to spend $15 for someone to hack my hair off, I decided to drop by my friend's place and ask to borrow his electric clippers. My sister happened to be there as well and she offered to help me cut my hair, which I accepted. She would cut for a couple of minutes and then ask me to check if it was looking okay, as she was scared that she would slip and mess up. Surprisingly, she wasn't doing half bad until it came to my bangs. \n\nNow, my sister had never cut hair before, so when it came to the bangs she was even more intimidated by the idea of cutting them and asked my friend to help. My friend had never cut hair before either, but he claimed to know how the clippers worked as he had just recently gotten his hair cut. So, he took the clippers and buzzed my bangs off. Partially. What he ended up doing was making this bowl-shaped cut in my bangs.\n\nImagine a candy bar. Now take a bite out of the centre of the bar. That was how my hair looked: like someone had taken a bite out of my bangs and left the sides long. What was worse was that when you looked at it, it looked like I had a really bald spot just above my forehead. \n\nFrustrated with how it turned out, I just grabbed the smallest clipper size and buzzed the rest of my hair off.", "summary": "I didn't find a barber that was available, my friend gave me a terrible haircut and I just ended up buzzing it myself."}
{"id": "t3_v87au", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Things are going great now, but the future worries me- (20m/20f).  I'd love to hear your advice!", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo my girlfriend and I have been hooking up for about a year and a half and dating for the better part of a year.  We have yet to have any major arguments and things are going really great!  We share most of the same opinions and outlooks and I think I'm starting to love her.\n\nThe problem:  I'm extremely driven (professionally and academically) and she's...well, not.  I always pictured my future partner being as motivated to succeed as I am.  The last thing I really want is to be the head of a single-income household.  I'm on track for a very successful engineering career (well paying internships with prestigious companies and I was flown out to Stanford to perform research with a lab for a semester).  On the other hand, she failed out of sociology freshman year and is very uncertain of what she wants to do with her life.  Whatever it is, she will likely depend on her future husband to provide for the family (though money does NOT matter to her.  I'm confident she'd be content with a combined income of 50k/yr).\n\nSimilarly, I'm very curious and get by pretending to be intelligent while friends ask me how I can be so patient with her (stereotypical blonde).  I come from a rather poor family while she comes from a decently wealthy one.  I've supported myself since I was 16 while she has never had a job and I honestly can't picture her in a professional setting.\n\nUltimately, I'm not sure what to do about the future.  I always pictured being with someone as driven as myself and she's quite the opposite.  On the other hand, I really love spending time with her and for the time being, we have a great relationship.  Any advice?\n\nThank you for taking the time to read this, I'd love to hear your opinions!", "summary": "Our relationship is going great.  However, her lack of drive concerns me about her future.  I'm scared of having a \"trophy\" wife.  Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2yilgi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost losing my leg in an accident because I thought I could stop the car with my foot", "post": "So this just happened moments ago. My boyfriend and I went out to dinner and all was going great. We were watching the Celtics vs the Heats in the restaurant and he suggests during halftime he drive me home. We get to car and he realizes he left his lights on so the car is totally dead. I call my parents to come jump him while he runs to the bathroom to shit. I'm on my phone just killing time when I look up and the car is slooowly rolling forward in the parking lot. \n\nI freak the fuck out.\n\nThis car is my boyfriend's baby. His blue 96 mustang GT with all the bells and whistles was his other girlfriend who he just spent like a thousand dollars to fix from a previous fender bender. I'm thinking *shit I have to stop this thing* so here is the fuck up *I open the door and stick my leg out.*\n\nBad idea. His car rolls up to another car and hits it on the passenger side where I'm sitting. The two cars meet at the door where my leg happens to be stuck between. The pressure is so much I lose feeling.\n\nOne minute your eating chicken, the next minute your sandwiched in a car door. Life is funny isn't it?\n\nLuckily there were people still in the car we hit to help my pathetic self and one was a trained EMT who very camly talked me through the whole thing. I called my boyfriend and told him (more like screamed) to come outside now. They jumped the dead car and my boyfriend put it in reverse slowly and my leg was freed. The paramedics and police department arrive and I'm okay so they all leave. Both cars had no damage. So I keep telling myself my leg actually slowed the car down, so I saved the day somehow.", "summary": "After eating some chicken, I tried to stop a rolling car with my foot and crushed my leg."}
{"id": "t3_37t4rz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "\"TIFU\" by putting a nickel where it doesn't belong.", "post": "So I'm sitting in the parking lot a couple days ago, waiting for my girlfriend to get off work, I'm fiddling with a nickel trying to get it to stay in between the little plastic panels on my steering wheel. The nickel slips and falls into the steering wheel, I tried to get it out but it wasn't gonna happen. My girlfriend came out so I just we left i noticed it was jigging around but what harm could that do . Fast forward to today I'm dropping my friend off at his house I pull in the driveway, the horn starts going off I'm like weird oh well. I go to pick up my my girlfriend again, As we pull down the street the horn starts going off and won't stop I pull over and start spinning the steering wheel like a mad man till it finally stops. This happened 2 more times on the way home, so much bullshit from a stupid nickel. Now I'm standing at my buddies while he takes apart my steering wheel while I try to explain how it got in there in the first place.", "summary": "stuck a nickel in my steering wheel and the horn wouldn't stop going off"}
{"id": "t3_3maq7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23/F] have a problem with my boyfriend[24/M]. Lately he has been feeling down and I am out of ideas how to help him.", "post": "Here is the deal:\n\nMy boyfriend has been going to gym to train his strength for years. Last year he got a injury in his back so he could not go back to gym for half a year. \n\nNow his back is good again but he has to start from the beginning(cant start lifting crazy weights from the beginning) and he does not want to go back to gym because of that. \n\nNow he stays home, plays video games and is always a bit under the weather. His libido has completely gone and his energy as well.\n\nI have tried talking to him about it, not talking to him about it and letting him figure it out, but nothing is changing. \n\nLast night I tried to talk to him about it again but he does not like talking about it or even discussing. \n\nI am not only worried about him and his health but also about our relationship. This is not the man I fell in love with(we have been together for 3 tears).", "summary": "Would like to hear advice from male perspective especially!"}
{"id": "t3_1x5ss9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To what extent should a new spouse be involved in what goes on between an ex spouse and the child they share?", "post": "I'm new here and I'm in need of advice. I'll try hard to keep it short although its a pretty long story. Its kind of hard to explain, but I'll try. I was married to a woman for 5 years and we share a son. I got custody of my son in the divorce. Later on, I got remarried to one of my best friends. Honestly, she is great and I love her very much. The issue is that any time I have to talk to my ex (which is not exactly frequent, but its enough to keep her updated on our son) my wife starts to question me, almost like an interrogation. It got to the point that I told her that if anything significant was said that I'll inform her, other than that I'm not going to bother bringing it up. You can imagine how well that went over.\n\nI guess what I want to know is am I wrong for keeping details that I consider mundane to myself since I don't even respond to her unless it involves our son? Where is the line drawn? I mean, my ex is not a good person but she is still my childs mother. But what are my duties to my wife in this situation?", "summary": "My current wife is upset because I don't tell her every little thing I discuss with my ex wife about our son together. Am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3mpstc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] miss my ex-girlfriend [19 F] everyday, even after being broken up for six months.", "post": "We dated for about two months, and she was my first real girlfriend, along with being my first kiss. I'm afraid I'll never meet a girl as beautiful and interesting as she was. I went no contact starting in June, but she texted me in July. We talked for a couple of days, went no contact again until my birthday, I texted her on her birthday to return the favor, and i received one other text from her asking if I'd seen a certain movie yet we were both excited for (she didn't reply when I informed her I had).\n\nAny way, I just miss her a lot and I was wondering if I should Facebook message her? Should I stay in contact? I feel like I can't live without her. If I haven't gotten over her yet, will I ever?", "summary": "Should I text my ex?"}
{"id": "t3_2xom0w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "A video has been bothering me for quite some time now...", "post": "While i was still having a FWB relationship with my ex we made a video and I told him we should because it was hot at the time. So we did and i found out while he was telling me he wanted to be with me again that he had slept with my best friend while he would visit me when he came home from college (Me and this girl are no longer friends). Then I was on reddit and found a thread about revenge fucking, turns out that my ex had replied to the thread saying that i was the revenge fuck and he cut it off. OK well i coped with that and moved on with my life. Well the one guy i was dating had told me he saw a porn video with me in it. Now i thought it was a joke at first, but when he told me that he could see my tattoos and other distinguishing marks i have i became overwhelmed. I broke down crying. I am worried that my now boyfriend will see it and i want to find it and make sure it is not out there anymore. I worry about it everyday and I have no idea. So to that asshole i hope it boosted your ego about your sex life. You are a dick and i fucking hate you.", "summary": "FWB with ex, made video of us having sex, told it was on the internet by guy i dated, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_jyl5r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I had a guy approach my damaged car...", "post": "and he asked me if he could take a look at it. I obliged him, and he said he could fix it. It's all cosmetic, so it would be welding and popping out a dent. He said he can come to my driveway, work on it there, never even take my car keys or anything shady. It would be $350 and if I don't like it, am not satisfied with the work, I don't pay. \n\nWe're going to talk tomorrow after I think about it. \n\nI took the car to a garage and had an estimate and it was over $2000. I also looked for parts at a junkyard and was looking at around $800 for parts. \n\nHas anyone had a stranger approach them that can do repairs, then repair it, and have it go wrong? Should I try him out?", "summary": "Stranger wants to fix my car, there seems to be no down side."}
{"id": "t3_4tx93s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) am struggling to get over my recent ex (22f) leaving me for someone else suddenly.", "post": "So a few weeks ago, I was in a relationship that lasted a 2-3 months and seemed to be going really well, no arguments and we spent most of our free time together. Then all of a sudden, one day she says we \"need to talk\".\n\nWe go for a walk for an hour or so and she says that she doesn't want to see me any more, but doesn't give any clear reason as to why. I ask her if there's someone else, and she clearly says that's not the case. I don't like it, but I accept it and we part on good terms.\n\nThen very shortly after (a week or two) I see that she's in a relationship with someone she says was a \"close friend\" but that there was no chance there'd ever be a romantic feeling from her side.\n\nEver since this I can't help but feel extremely hurt and angry that she so blatantly lied to me, and I find myself thinking (and unfortunately dreaming) about her often and can't get it out of my head. I also can't stop thinking that she was cheating on me with him as well.\n\nIt's been over a week since I found this out and I just can't seem to get it out of my head. What can I do?", "summary": "Recent ex broke up with me out of the blue and lied about the reasons why, then was very quickly in a relationship with a \"just a friend\"."}
{"id": "t3_4ldqdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27) girlfriend (33) thinks I'm shedding all over the house like a wild animal.", "post": "Okay. So I sweep daily and mop every few days but apparently I'm like some freaking cat leaving hair absolutely everywhere and I'm honestly not sure what to do about it. My hair isn't insanely long... About mid back or so.\n\nNo matter what I do though she finds my hair EVERYWHERE. Everything I google says its normal to shed 30-100 hairs per day and honestly I have some crazy thick hair so I must be on the high end.\n\nI see what she means. She went around the edges of the walls and picked at everything and had an entire hairball in her hand. I'm just not sure what to do about it.\n\nUhh.. Yeah. Idk ._.", "summary": "my gf thinks my shedding is gross"}
{"id": "t3_3z0wvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] just found out that my GF [23 F] slept with my best friend way before we were together. They've been completely honest with me about it, but I'm still finding the situation really weird? Any advice?", "post": "I [22 M] just found out that my GF [23 F] slept with my best friend way before we were together. \nThis is going to completely sound like a plot from a movie or something but its completely true.\n\nMy best friend from school came round for new year and was going to meet my new girlfriend for the first, whom I've been going out with for about 6 weeks. I showed him a picture of her when he got here and he went \"Oh, Shit! I know her\".\n\nHe then told me in their first year of uni that they hooked up together for a few months (so 4 years ago). I then asked her and she confirmed it.\n\nThey've been completely honest with me about it and both say it was in the past, and that it doesn't make either of them uncomfortable; but I'm still finding the situation really weird? And honestly makes me wonder if there could be a future for us.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "found out my GF and best friend had a thing 4 years ago, and its really put doubts into my mind. What do people think?"}
{"id": "t3_3qo012", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being aware of my surroundings.", "post": "So as the title suggests I did not check my surroundings at work.\n\nI work in a quite big retail branch and as I am still in school I only work stock. So anyway I was talking to my friend at work while putting some stock out on the bottom shelf, we were talking about the usual, people walking past and some of the girls that were in the store, the conversation fizzled out as the girl we was talking about came around the isle. I was done tidying up the bottom shelf and putting my stock out (penne if you wanted to know) when I get up to turn around and SMACK, I walk right into the side of a man walking past; as I was standing up I had a fair bit of force behind me and the man in question fell into the carding box (a huge metal cage we throw empty card into) legs in the air and all, he was shouting as soon as I hit him till the time I helped him out. He was f'ing and blinding all over the shop as he went to go get my manager. Me and my friend were secretly dying inside with laughter and had to try compose ourselves before my boss came, he appeared shortly after with the customer closely following, he asked me to clear up what happened, I apologised and the man luckily accepted my apology, however he did mumble some curses under his breathe.", "summary": "wasn't paying attention knocked an old man into a metal cage."}
{"id": "t3_36fp1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "At what point do you sacrifice fun for security? Me (25f) and him (39m)", "post": "So I've managed to go kind of crazy for this guy...\n\nHe's a waiter at a very nice restaurant. He got into waiting because he wanted to be a theatre actor, but it didn't really work out, as it doesn't for many people. I really don't have much of a problem with that.\n\nI'm a driven person. I have succeeded in life thus far, and probably will continue to do so. I have no problem supporting someone else or being the bread winner. I have paid for pretty much everything since we started dating, which I'm used to.\n\nSo I guess the issue is a culmination of things. The main thing is that he seems dissatisfied with his profession. He doesn't seem to want to do it forever but has shown no interest in trying to get into anything else. How can I build a life with someone who isn't satisfied with his living?\n\nObviously my family is starting to ask questions about the longevity of his career. They think I'm being taken advantage of.\n\nI think it's also worth mentioning that he has discussed wanting to be a stay at home dad. I could be ok with that if I had kids, but I'm not sure if I want them...\n\nBlah. If anyone could give some advice about this situation, it'd be awesome.", "summary": "I'm with someone who doesn't like his job and doesn't provide much security. Is it still viable?"}
{"id": "t3_28azsa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By sending a girl to the hospital.", "post": "This happened a couple years ago but I recently subscribed to this subreddit. This happened when I was 17 and I am a male. My parents were gone from about 5 pm to 1 am. I thought it would be a good idea to have the girl I was trying to get with over to drink together. After about 4 or 5 shots, she had to take her medicine. Not knowing at the time that mixing some medicines with alcohol will fuck you up she took it. About 30 min later, she was barely conscious, sweating a lot, and could barely put a sentence together. Her dad picked her up and realized she should be taken to the hospital. Later that night I was woken up by my parents telling me that she was taken to the hospital and they yelled at me for hours. She is ok now but we both got in lots of trouble and are no longer talking.", "summary": "A girl and I (both 17) were drinking and she took medicine and was sent to the hospital."}
{"id": "t3_4dco1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 7 months, how to avoid the surprise breakup.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over 7 months. We live together (she moved in with me, she's not on the lease) and we are in love.\n\nThe problem is that we're in completely different stages of life. I am about to graduate college, I know what I want to accomplish in life, and I have a good understanding of who I am as a person.\n\nShe is still finding herself, and what she wants to do with her life and isn't going to school or chasing any dreams.\n\nI've decided that I need to end our relationship because of this mismatch in maturity level, even though we are happily in love. I've tried pushing her to decide what she wants to accomplish in life and chase some goals and do some self progression. But now I realize that that's something that she needs to do herself and that I shouldn't try to push her to meet my expectations that are unreasonable to expect from someone in her stage of life. Despite the conversations we've had about goals and ambition, she doesn't know that this breakup is coming because our relationship is happy and full of love. My question is, am I an asshole for blindsiding her with this breakup? Is there any way that I can avoid surprising her with the breakup?", "summary": "My girlfriend thinks everything in our relationship is perfect, but I've decided that I want to break up. How can I avoid blindsiding her with this breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_1gtmlj", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Days away from delivering my second child and just got royally screwed over. I am terrified and could rely use advice or stories of others who have gone through this.", "post": "My daughter is only 20 months old and definitely not capable of being independent or even remotely self sufficient. When I found out I was pregnant again, I made sure to make arrangements for help and support with the only available family I have (mom). \n\nToday I received a call from her saying that she starts a full-time job this coming Thursday and won't be able to help me. I am due in 7 days! I had no one else to rely on and now I'm alone. My husband works up north and is not planning to take time off because of financial reasons. \n\nI am now terrified of what is going to happen. Hubby goes back to work Monday leaving Klaira and I to fend for ourselves ( not a big deal) but I am scared shitless to go into labor alone with a 20 month old who is relying on me. My husband will be 7 hours away and I just don't know how I'm going to take care of a toddler, go into labor with a toddler who needs me and get myself to the hospital. \n\nWhat scares me more than that is the fact that I will now be coming home from the hospital with no one to help me. I will be in pain, exhausted, and alone. I dot know how I'm going to do it. \nI made all these plans with my mother so this wouldn't happen and it didn't matter because she broke them anyways. I went from being excited to have my son, to being desperate and scared and extremely panicked. With one phone call I am living my worst nightmare. \n\nI don't want to do this alone and right now I can honestly say I wish I wasn't pregnant at all. I am not prepared to do this alone. I am terrified and really panicking.", "summary": "made plans with my mom to help take care of my daughter and myself while in the hospital/after delivery until I am healed or at least able to function the way I will need to, to be a good mom. 6 days before my due date she cancelled and now I am going to be alone caring for a 20 month old through most of my labor and when released from the hospital. I had no one else to rely on and I am now terrified of what's going to happen. "}
{"id": "t3_yppp7", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Please Help! My mother has recently become ill and cannot take care of her dog. Now he is mine. The carpet is his toilet, he has severe separation anxiety, and throws up when he gets nervous. How do I help him cope with the move?", "post": "My mom has had Topher since he was a year old, he is part chihuahua / part mini dachshund, and has never been trained properly. Since her illness, my mom cannot take care of him and he was either going to me or the pound, probably to be put down. So my husband and I agreed to take him into our tiny apartment. Where, by the way, we already have a part border collie / part Australian Shepard. She's the exact opposite of Topher: house-trained, obedient, and very calm. Together, they has no problems at all with food or toys but Topher is about to change her. Yesterday, she peed in the house. She hasn't done that since she was 6 weeks old. We are getting complaints from our neighbors that he will bark, howl, and scream all day while my husband and I are at work. Please help us. We really don't want to send him to the pound or anything like that. This was an unexpected thing and we are not financially prepared to send him to a training day camp.", "summary": "Unexpectedly acquired a new dog. He is converting my other dog to his evil ways. How do I go Harry Potter on his Voldemort ass?"}
{"id": "t3_37tbhj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending an ex (who I cannot stand) a dick pic [NSFW]", "post": "So what happened was, I was feeling a little bit promiscuous and I was browsing tumblr, I was looking at some of my activity and just scrolling through and I noticed a post that she (my ex from about 4/5 years ago) from my blog a good few months ago and so I thought I would click on her page and see what she had been up to and stuff.\n\nI saw that she had posted a picture of herself, it was a little bit raunchy (her bent over, exposing her tits in a bra and what not), so it turned me on during that moment, now I'm the sort of guy that gets off on risk, sex against windows, public sex, etc right.\n\nSo I'd upload the picture to her blog and click cancel, I did this a few times and then as I was nearing the finish line so to speak, I accidentally dropped my phone onto my lap and in a hurry I picked up the phone as fast I could and then I noticed on the screen that the picture was no longer there, I didn't think anything of it until the next morning when I had a message from her regarding said image and she wasn't happy and now it's escalated.", "summary": "sent an ex a dick picture by mistake and now she isn't happy and causing arguments over it"}
{"id": "t3_2b44vc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Personal Issues] Me: 20M. She: 17. We are talking, there are clear feelings for eachother (although not expressed, it's obvious) I feel anxious when I am not talking to her or if she has not responded in some time, and there is nothing but my own paranoia making me feel anxious.", "post": "This is happening right now, but it has always happened in all of my relationships whether we are just talking, hooking up, dating. And whether she was 21 and i was 19, if she was 15 and i was 16, 18 and 18, it does not matter, whenever I am not talking to a girl I am seeing, I get some sort of anxiety from not talking with them.  \n  \nI am doing a lot better, as I have been trying to fix it, but I just get in my own head about things. I think that because she isn't talking to me, hasn't responded to me, or because I am not talking to her currently, I feel like she is not interested and I get super anxious. And I know that I shouldn't be paranoid about anything because 99% of the time it works out in the end or it ends poorly because of my own paranoia.  \n  \nFor this example, we are talking on facebook, and she doesn't go on very often and so therefor does not get to talk a lot. Which I am okay with, but it just builds up in my head for no reason, like because she isn't talking to me, or hasn't responded, she isn't interested. I really just want to know a way to break out of my paranoia, getting in my own head, and maybe just put a stop to all of my anxiety for this stuff because it screws with me all of the time. I am not trying to come off as cocky or as thinking that all girls like me, because I know that isn't true, I just know that most of the time my paranoia goes unprovoked.", "summary": "I have anxiety and get in my own head when a girl I am seeing and I aren't talking or she hasn't responded to me, how do I stop the paranoia and anxiety altogether? Or at least calm it down significantly?"}
{"id": "t3_13kujk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24] love my boyfriend [27] but I don't know if I really want to be in a relationship.", "post": "We had a whirlwind of a honeymoon phase.  It lasted 6 months, longer than the honeymoon period usually does.  We always fought a lot, from the very beginning.  He broke up with me for a day.  Despite all this we wanted to move in together, so we did.  We're compatible in ways I didn't know it was possible to be compatible with someone.\n\nNow that he's living with me I'm starting to realize how much things just aren't the same as when we were commuting.  I'm spending most of my time with him.  I sort of want to be out partying as much as possible.  I know I could pick up and go through a lot of guys too, which sounds like fun.  Not to mention, living with him has been stressful and my health hasn't been quite as awesome as it was.  I have IBD and my stomach has been acting up since he moved in.\n\nNow that the honeymoon period is over, the relationship is less exciting.  It's still nice to have him around but I'm realizing how much moving in changed everything.  Not sure this is what I want for the rest of my life.  I feel too young for this to be it.", "summary": "BF of 6 months just moved in.  Not feeling the spark so much anymore.  The relationship seems like constant work.  Is it worth staying around for the commitment when I could be out having fun?"}
{"id": "t3_12bosy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone seen the show Repo Games??", "post": "Not sure if anyone else has seen this show or not but it's worth checking out. Its' about people(morons) getting their car repoed but get the chance to answer questions to win it back. The show will definitely provide some laughs from the idiots they find, but I'm not sure if it's staged though. The people on here are so stupid though that it is no wonder why their car is repoed or why America is falling behind other countries (educationally). That is why I think anyone on the show that losses the game has to be sterilized to prevent even dumber offspring. It may be radical but fuck it.", "summary": "The idiots on this show need to be shot...I mean sterilized."}
{"id": "t3_4vke9n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/f] How to be stop being intimidating and pushing potential partners away?", "post": "I'm a sixteen year old girl, I live in a small town in Texas, and I'm desperate for help at this point. I've never been asked out, never been on a date, never had anyone ever show interest in me. For a while I could not for the life of me figure out why, I mean I'm smart and funny, and moderately attractive (for a sixteen year old, at least). Then recently I was on /r/offmychest and I saw a post about a 25 year old girl with the same problem. Someone responded that they had seen this happen many times, and the fault was always that the person had a habit of being witty and sarcastic and keeping people at a distance, and I realized that that was me. However, at this point I have no idea how to be vulnerable  enough to get close to someone, or what that even means. My friends all tell me I'm \"intimidating\" and if I flirted more I would get somewhere, but that gets me nowhere as I have no idea how to apply their critiques.", "summary": "what should I do to stop subconsciously pushing potential partners away?"}
{"id": "t3_2rlxpv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 19] and my girlfriend [F 19] have begun to drift apart after 1 year and 3 months of dating.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I met through school, and instantly developed a deep friendship and love for each other over. We started dating early November that year. Both our family's do not approve of dating, or at least show a negative attitude towards it whenever they suspected us of going out. Now we've graduated and have continued dating and have done so in secrecy for more than a year, but we've been drifting apart due to lack of classes and courses together and family issues on both sides. Thing is, that she doesn't seem to mind this and on our anniversary and holidays she will remind me of how much I mean to her and how she hopes we can keep dating. The thing is that its been apparent that we've been drifting apart but both love each other deeply, and I don't want to bring this up with her if it is just an issue on my side. We rarely talk much anymore, and with us not having any more courses together for the year, it seems to keep getting worse. \n\nBoth of us are very happy and don't mind the distance, but its almost to the point that we would go weeks without talking. So I guess I wanted to ask if anyone has any advice!", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have dated for a year, and now due to lack of classes together and family issues, have begun to drift apart. We still love each other but sometimes don't talk for long periods of time."}
{"id": "t3_51i0gb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16f] father [50m] and I constantly fight. Our latest argument is over him not allowing me to drive.", "post": "So, a bit of background: for the past one and a half years, my dad and I have constantly been fighting, over various topics. I'm a high school junior.\n\nOur latest bone of contention is over me driving. I want to drive, really badly. As it stands now, I've had my permit for 11 months, but have only been in the driver's seat 3 or 4 times. \n\nMy dad is really reluctant to let me drive, because I do have a lot of difficulty remembering directions. Inside our little town I am OK, but as soon as we get on the highway I am lost. For some reason, directions just don't stick in my head. \n\nHe thinks memorizing directions is really important, GPS is not an option.\n\nAt this point, I really ~~need~~ want to drive. I'm in a school program where I leave my school (15 minutes away, no buses) early and take the rest of my classes at a community college. \n\nAt this point, my mom is dropping me off at school on her way to work, and my dad is driving me from the school to the community college. This is a lot of hassle for all of us involved.\n\nI have enough money saved to buy a car, but I can't drive! I've asked my mom to teach me how to drive, but she just says to sort it out with my dad.\n\nCan any of y'all give me some advice on how to sort this out? I've drafted a powerpoint showing the financial benefits of me driving, but somehow I don't think it will help.\n\nThis issue is really straining our relationship and I don't see a way out.", "summary": "dad won't let me learn how to drive, but I desperately want to. how can I convince him to let me learn?"}
{"id": "t3_36xfrt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I[17/M] right to be annoyed at girlfriend[17/F] because her choice of best friend[17/M]?", "post": "We've been together for ~5 months and I'd say we work pretty well. Lately she's become best friends with a guy who had an insane thing for her around the time we got together, and as a result he started to badmouth me to people (including my close friend group). They also made out on Christmas day, just a few days before we started seeing each other. They see each other a lot (pretty much whenever we're not together). I know she won't cheat but I feel a bit uncomfortable knowing that she's so close with a guy who openly talked shit about me. \n\nAs soon as I started feeling this way I told her about it, and she agreed with me when I told her I thought he was shitty, but she still hangs out with him. I'm not going to give her an ultimatum or anything, but I'm feeling a little annoyed that she said that she agrees with me about him. She is still best friends with him, and sees him regularly.\n\nI feel like I'm being a bit shitty for thinking this, but I'm sure if It were me in her situation I'd have acted totally differently.", "summary": "Gf's best friend relentlessly talked shit about me, told Gf how I felt, she doesn't seem to care"}
{"id": "t3_3p615f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by goimg to my local corner store", "post": "THIS JUST FUCKING HAPPENED AND IM LITERALLY SHAKING AND ABOUT TO SHIT MYSELF AS IM TYPING THIS\n\nSo i decide to go to the corner store, cool.\n\nIm walkibg down the street and i hear a growl on my right, i turn and see a grown ass pittbull roaming the yard of an empty abandoned house. Now keep in mind, i have a HUGE phobia of dogs. So i kept walking thinking it will just stay there. WRONG. This asshole starts fucking jogging and this is where i went apeshit. I was about to hop the fence and take off into the yard he was in because the gate was open and he was coming up to me but surprisingly he stayed on the other side and just barked and followed me. I thought it was over, WRONG AGAIN!!\nHe turns around and starts running towards the gate opening. NOW I FUCKING LOST IT!! I ran into someones yard and hid behind their bushes, i needed to be off the sidewalk by any means neccessary, so i start walking through the yards and looking behind me every 5 seconds or so and i can hear the dog barking in the distance. I thought i was out of the frying pan but i was WRONG AGAIN!! \nI got some snacks from the corner store and i was leaving i could see the dog wayyyy down the street i came from walking towards the corner store so i decided i'll just take a detour, but i think he saw me because he started to jog across the street in my direction so i made a left and hightailed it outta there.", "summary": "Almost died by getting chased by a dog (sorta)"}
{"id": "t3_101vc7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Bad Cop/Good Cop Altercation early Sunday morning", "post": "So, Saturday I went to a buddies house down the road(same subdivision) to drink, eat and watch football. Well, about 2AM-ish, I decided that instead of driving, I would walk the mile-ish home.\nSo about 3 blocks from my house, I get hit up with the spotlight on one of those new Ford police cars. I was on the phone, so I told her I would call her back. This really young officer hops out, pistol in hand, then he proned? me out, cuffed & searched me. Then took my wallet and cellphone and went back to his car. I have a Concealed Weapons Permit (Obviously, I wan't carrying), but he didn't know that until he took my whole wallet. He got out again at gunpoint, and asked me where my weapon was. I told him that I wasn't carrying, and he super searched me again. A few minutes later another car pulls up, and it's an older officer(50's I'd assume).\nHe starts talking to me, asks me where I'm walking from, and if \"I knew where I was.\" I of course told them, and pointed out that my house was blocks away. He uncuffed me and told me to give him a minute. He had a convo with the first officer, and came back with my wallet and cellphone.\nI was ready to get home and asked if I could continue my walk home, and he told me to \"wait a few more mins\", as he had \"more questions to ask.\" When the younger guy drove off, the older officer told me to hop in, he'd give me a ride to my house down the road.\nHe told me the rookie(idk if he was or not, honestly) wanted to book me for drunk in public, obstructing traffic, and something else I don't really remember. He told me that in his opinion, walking home was 100x better than driving home; and since it was in the same neighborhood, he really had no problems with it.\nHe even waited outside my house and pointed his spotlight so I could see the walkway and front porch.", "summary": "Got kinda drunk, walked home instead of driving, got stopped, was about to probably go to jail, Good Guy Cop pulls up and saves my night and bank account."}
{"id": "t3_2xjyy4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my muslim girlfriend [16F]. Problems have arisen stemming from the religious difference between us.", "post": "First and foremost, let me preface this by that I know for most of you redditors we are too young, but I have heard lots of that already, and it has no effect on me any longer, for I feel like I know what I'm doing, and we are still taking things slow. Sorry if I sound like an asshole, I do not mean it condescendingly. \n\nMy girlfriend, who is muslim, and I have been dating for slightly less than a year. However, after she introduced me to her parents, they have indicated that it is under the law (Singaporean) that I have to convert to Islam, should I marry her. I there no other way, than to leave her? She is the first girl that I really clicked with, and it would really be a pity to lose her over religion. She has indicated her willingness to elope but I think that it will be irresponsible. However, her parents are not too strict on my converting. \n\nFollowing up to the abovementioned problem, my family too vehemently objects to the relationship. My dad has threatened to kick me out of the house, and stated that he will never accept a muslim in the family. My mom is terrified that I will convert, but I have given her assurance that I will not. My whole family is opposed to it, because of her religion. The only way I see is that we marry in the U.S., where it is allowed. What can I do reddit? Thank you in advance for the replies.", "summary": "Parents on both sides angry due to religious differences and incompability. I will not convert due to personal reasons."}
{"id": "t3_k7jim", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a non-surgical way to make boobs larger?", "post": "To start out, I'm pretty happy with my self image. Now more than ever, really. \nIn the past month I've become more active than I have ever been in my life: I joined a group that does parkour every day, I go dancing (salsa and tango) for hours and hours, and I think I might join a club soccer team. I'm loving it, I feel stronger and healthier than ever.\nHowever, while I've never been overweight, I apparently have had some extra pounds that are now magically disappearing. My Mostly-A cups are shrinking to Bearly-A cups.\nI already have to special order bras, because finding a nice A cup in the store is damn near impossible, and I don't want to go and get a whole new set of AA cups.\n\nSo, dearest reddit, I ask: is there any thing I can do, anything I can eat or some exercise I can do, that will maintain/increase boob size? \n\nI have no interest in implants, or even in having huge boobs, but much like there are many vision correction options other than Laser Surgery that you never hear about, I was wondering if the great commercial world has hidden the non-surgery boob increasing options.\n\nIf there aren't, well I'm sure that my life will go on just fine, but I was just wondering...", "summary": "Started exercising, small boobs are becoming smaller. Surgery is expensive and looks/feels awful, are there any other options?"}
{"id": "t3_34d0jk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush [15 F] known her for three weeks, do I go for it?", "post": "Hey Reddit! I've lurked a bit but need some quick advice. So there is this girl at my school. In this case, we will call her some really generic name to use to keep her anonymous... Let's go with Jane. \n\nJane and I met on the bus when she moved into a nearby apartment complex. I waved at her on her first day since she seemed a bit lonely, and since I've been there before, I thought I would just wave to make her comfortable. She waves back and days after we just wave at each other. That was on a Monday and silly ol' me still didn't know her name three days later on Thursday. So I sat next to her Friday morning.\n\nShe looked at me with a look of surprise as I asked her of her name. She told me her name and we started just talking after that. Then we started texting and soon after, on the second thursday, I hoped over some fences to get to her complex and play some basketball with her.\n\nNow here we are three weeks later (sooo today to put that into perspective.) We are flirting and calling each other cute and being cutesy in a way, like my arm around her shoulder, things like that. Thing is, as you've read in the title hopefully.. She is fifteen. She turns sixteen in September. I turned seventeen in February. I am a junior in high school while she is a sophomore. Should I go for it or is this not something I should do?", "summary": "Like a girl on my bus that is a year and a half younger than me. Is it appropriate or am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_4l9qaj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-Girlfriend (20F) broke up with me (23M), wants to be friends but sends mixed messages.", "post": "So my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me on Tuesday, we have had a messy time lately and we both saw this coming and knew it was for the best. We talked for ages, promised to be friends one day, broke down and cried together and then kissed each other goodbye for what I thought would be the final time.\n\nShe messages me the very next day asking for my resume so she can use it to apply for a job (in another state, one which she never mentioned before) and then continues to talk to me like usual, even talking about the possibilty of reconciling in the future. Takes me a couple of days to send the resume to her and she doesnt ask about it again until I had send it through, telling me that the job application process doesnt actually open until June 15... (was this just an excuse to talk to me?)\n\nShe also invites me to her work this week and gives me a free meal. Her work was busy so I didnt speak to her much and left without saying goodbye. She immediately messages me and tells me how sorry she was she couldnt come sit with me which was quite out of character seeing it wasnt that bad (cmon i still got free food) and she had no control over the situation.\n\nNow the weekend comes and I inbox her asking what shes getting up to for it, the first time I've initiated contact. We talk for a while but I notice something was off. She tells me now talking everyday isn't helping the grieving process (wtf?) and we should take a few days break. Weird considering she was the one initiating contact all week. This has left me very confused as I hoped we were on the path to getting back together.\n\nIn summary, my question is: Is she just keeping me around as an emotional safety blanket? If so what techniques can I use to produce a more desirable outcome? I still want this girl in my life and want to marry her one day...", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me, messaging me ever since talking about normal stuff and some talk about being together again one day. Weekend comes around and she shuts me off."}
{"id": "t3_e5ycr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bartender - I just got caught serving alcohol in an underage police sting.  Help!", "post": "...sigh.  So, heres the deal.  I am/was (yes, I got fired) a bartender in a popular southern US college town.  Last night while working the first on shift (just me, no door guys) I was given a warrant notification by a police officer for \"furnishing alcoholic beverages to underage persons\"\n\nShe walks up tells me that this is a police sting and that I have served two 19 year olds.  She then takes down my information and informs me that Monday morning she will be talking to a judge to seek a warrant for my arrest.  Once that happens I will have 24 hours to turn myself in.  Apparently, while I will be arrested, I should be out on bond almost immediately so I wont spend much time there.  \n\nI was incredibly polite at all times and never argued with her.  I did my best at damage control and I think she felt pretty bad about having to arrest me.  \n\nI have never been arrested before, so my record is clean.  I have a full time job working at a local software company, so I don't need a new job.  The only reason I was picking up a bar tending shift was because my student loan payments start this month and I don't have enough money to make the first payment >.<  Hiring a lawyer is going to hurt, but I guess I'll have to figure that out. \n\n1. Anyway,  do any of you fellow Redditors have advice on how to proceed from here?  \n2. What should I expect from jail?  \n3. What should I wear when I turn myself in?  \n4. Where should I look for a lawyer?  \n5. Should I try to get out of it?\n6. ???  \n7. Profit!", "summary": "I'm going to be arrested on Tuesday for serving an underage couple at a bar and I need sage advice."}
{"id": "t3_4ndhm6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Sit in my seat? Cheat off of me? NO.", "post": "Since I'm heading into my senior year of college, I thought I would share this story that happened to me during my freshman year. I took a general psychology class that was pretty easy. The professor would literally give us a study guide that had the exact questions on the exam and we would just need to cram the answers the night before. I would sit in the same spot in the back every single class. Then, the day of the final came. As my friend and I were about to sit in our seats, some fraternidouche and his dopey ass friend took our spots. Excuse me? No. We ended up sitting in the seats next to the frat guy and the TAs handed out the exam packets that were different colors so that it would be hard to cheat. So, I'm doing the exam and halfway through, I hear the guy start saying, \"... the answer is C...#6 is A..\". He keeps going on and I realize he has the fucking audacity to cheat off of my answers and read my friend's answers off to his friend. I thought about just raising my hand and tell on him for cheating but it's a hassle to go through the process of reporting it and I just wanted to eat a burger after the final. Honestly, it was so obvious that I wondered why no one could hear him do it. I circled my actual answers in my exam packet and began bubbling in the wrong answers on my bubble sheet. Slowly, I erased my already bubbled-in answers while filling in the fake ones and replaced them with the wrong answers. He filled them in exactly. Dumbass. I remember one question asked, \"Who founded psychoanalysis?\". One of the answers was, \"Your mom\". He didn't even bother to go through the exam pages! Obviously, no one would actually bubble in that answer. The final was 40% of our overall grade, meaning if you failed the final, you failed the class. Karma's a bitch, you douche.", "summary": "Guy steals my seat and tries to cheat off my test. Don't want to make a scene, so I give him 100% wrong answers. Guy fails test because of \"Your mom.\"."}
{"id": "t3_2wia8x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending to molest my step-son!!!", "post": "Ok so I have been very busy the last few weeks and couldn't do Valentine's day because of work. So we decided to do it on Monday, For a surprise I figured we could go eat lunch and then go car shopping. We already decided to get a new car but haven't been off together to go look. So I decided to hide the roses , candy and gift in the guest bedroom and decided to kick the day off with a big fat HAPPY FACE!!! So I start to figure out a way to get her to come to the room. Grab the kid and haul ass into the room. Ok, all you gotta do is start screaming \"don't touch me there\", \"you're hurting me\" and \"MOM\". She busts in the room screaming/crying/enraged/,etc... My dumbass is standing there with flowers/candy completely shocked.", "summary": "Faked raping my step-son for a surprise, Wife's younger sister was raped by their step-dad."}
{"id": "t3_e4wd3", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Advice needed regarding kids book publishing.", "post": "I would like to create and publish a kids book.\n\nBackground: I have about 20 years of mixed experience in illustration, technical writing, and the design and development of children's educational software. I have a 4 year old daughter and most nights she is made to endure a new (made up) story which is part of an ongoing saga. She loves it. I have started to write and illustrate the story.\n\nSo, I want to finish the story and publish it. I also intend to build a website, flash games and an iPhone interactive version to compliment the book and its (hopeful) sales. I have the capabilities of doing all of this myself.\n\nQuestions: What is the most sensible next step? I have been doing a lot of research but I can't wrap my head around the best approach. Do I continue with the production work until it is complete then seek publisher support? or do I seek publisher support now so that I can be better guided in terms of the production outcomes? vanity publishing, self publishing, get an agent, get a real job, join the writers guild... any advice would be appreciate?", "summary": "how does a writer/illustrator/developer go about publishing a partially completed kids book?"}
{"id": "t3_3plfqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] need to put my dog down in the next two months, how do I handle it?", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. If I can be led to a more appropriate sub, please show me the way.\n\nMy dog is 13, and the only way she can be happy and pain free is through very expensive medication. It doesn't look like she's going to make it through the winter, and my family cannot afford the medication. When she doesn't have the medication, she is in incredible amount of pain. \n\nWe'll be putting her down sometime in November, but I just don't know how to deal. This dog is my world, and my best friend. \n\nEvery time I think I make peace with it, I utterly lose my mind. I cry inconsolably. \n\nIs there anything I can do to lessen the pain of this? I understand it's what's best for her, and I'll be committing an act of mercy, but it doesn't help me cope with my own feelings of loss.", "summary": "gotta put beloved pet down, non-negotiable, and need to know how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_1rqm2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [23f] \"gets off\" on having me [20m] do feminine things.", "post": "Been dating for almost 7 months and have been falling in love with her.  She's the perfect woman for me.  Confident, beautiful, intelligent, funny.  The issue, is for the past few months she has been \"getting off\" on MY femininity.\n\nIt is now regular foreplay for her to dress me in lingerie and actually put makeup on me.  More than a little strange for me.  But whatever I guess, people have their own fetishes I suppose.  But now she even likes me to wear her panties under my regular clothes all day, including going to work.\n\nWhen I told her I wasn't totally comfortable she got very defensive and called me a prude and this and that so now I just go along with it and do whatever she says with a smile, and she is definitely happier with me and therefore, our relationship is stronger.\n\nShould I be going along with her fantasies in and out of the bedroom if I'm not comfortable with them?  Is this just another part of being in a relationship?  Lately I have even found myself acting more demure and feminine, even at work.  So I feel like it's spilling over into other parts of my life.  It's hard to assert manliness throughout the day when you're manhood is tucked into a pair of panties.", "summary": "Gf's fetish for femininity is making me a little uncomfortable and even altering how I act and think throughout the day."}
{"id": "t3_2icquy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "need advice on what to do next with a girl giving me mixed signals.", "post": "I [M/18] recently met this girl [F/18]through a friend, the whole time we were together she was complimenting me, and giving me all the signs she was interested. Before I went I got her number and text her a few days later, the conversation was going ok but she takes ages to reply and a self confessed bad replier. I sent a message Thursday and have not had a response and it even said she has read it.\nWhat do I do? Do I wait and send her another message passing it off or confront her? Do I just simply not reply and take it as she's not interested? Any advice would be appreciated, thank you redditors.", "summary": "girl who seems interested has ignored me once over text, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1r8ujr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my girlfriend [25F] of 3 months, both very in love but made a comment that she \"would've liked to have been single for a little before we started dating\"", "post": "We'd known each other several years ago and recently reconnected. Found out we'd both harbored crushes for one another over the years.\n\nShe got out of a 4 year relationship to be with me, the chemistry between us was that strong, and she felt that relationship had run its course. We've fallen hard for one another, both consider ourselves extremely lucky to be with each other (she says it sincerely and often) and all I have to do is look at her to know she's in love with me.\n\nLast night she dropped a comment, \"I would've liked to have been single for a little while before we started dating.\" I said, \"do you wish you were single?\" and she replied with a resounding, \"NO! I don't know why I said that...\" I joked, \"I could go back to empty dating and meaningless sex.\" We went back and forth jokingly and left it after she said, \"I would've stayed single and not gotten involved with anyone before seeing you again\".\n\nBut her comment lingered with me last night and today. I've occasionally wondered, by virtue of having more experience, whether it matters there was no time given between her getting out of her old relationship and becoming involved with me. There's distance between us, and because of that I thought that would allow for some space for her to deal with her feelings of letting go of that relationship.\n\nI'm wondering whether or not to bring it up? I don't want to quibble over a random comment - sometimes people say things, and she doesn't have much of a filter and is extremely honest and open, which I value. So I'm not sure whether to show that the comment bothered me; I don't want a non-issue to become an issue, and as our relationship progresses there'll be sometime in the future when the comment won't matter. Do I say and show that the comment bothered me? What do I gain by doing so?", "summary": "Girlfriend dropped a little comment \"I would've liked to have been single for a little while before we started dating.\" It didn't happen that way, and even though we're long-distance and she's got some space to let go of her past relationship, the comment stuck and has bothered me. Do I bring it up? What do I gain by bringing it up besides showing that it bothered me?"}
{"id": "t3_1yq5vu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing up in the bathroom", "post": "Actually the other day but who's counting.  I'm not typically a puker, but earlier this week I was just not feeling well all evening.  I woke up in the middle of the night, uncomfortable, and moved to the couch.  Within 5 minutes it became apparent that whatever was in my stomach was about to make an exit so I wasted no time rushing to the washroom.  I was not able to drop out of fully upright position before vomiting, so not everything that came out of my mouth went directly into the toilet.  I cleaned up the floor, vanity, etc.  Put my sweats in the wash and rinsed the mat from in front of the toilet in the washbasin.  I went back to bed and forgot about it.  I was just informed that this bathmat has now been washed three times and is still not coming clean, apparently it was made from memory foam and that does not respond well to vomit.", "summary": "Never vomit on memory foam, turns out it actually never forgets."}
{"id": "t3_op3qz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I know people in the U.S. (L.A.) who are illeaglly stealing from the governement. What should I do? And how?", "post": "Hello everyone, and thank you in advance for your help. I have to keep this quick, but I can add more information later on in the day. \n\nBasically,\n\nI live in Canada, but know for a fact that my relatives in the U.S. are illegally claiming to be \"disabled\" and \"divorced\" in order to receive money each month (upwards of $600.00). They have a 'ring' of people who help them lie (as in doctors who do the medical review and ask for a cut of the money in return for saying someone is disabled). All of them are immigrants who have barely worked a day in their lives, and now spend each month collecting money for no reason. Is there any way I can turn them in? Any way website or link you can suggest? My own reasons for choosing to try and turn them in are maybe not the purest. I'm upset - my family is struggling to live pay check to pay check and I am angry that these people get \"free\" money. Is this a good enough reason to turn them in (along with the fact that what they're doing is just plain wrong and illegal)?", "summary": "I live in Canada, and know my relatives are stealing from the US government. What should/can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ki72j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Submitting application to UT as a transfer. HELP PLS!", "post": "Graduated from Hs in 06, and literally was the midway marker interms of gpa. I was exactly top 50%, thought for sure I'd get a full ride due to athletics, so like a dumb ass I just slept in class and never once studied. Spent one semester playing in college and hated it, so instead of stickin it out and giving it my all, I quit, didn't drop classes but quit team. After college bball I spent a few years working and pursueing dreams Id never obtain (mulit-platinum rock band), and fell on my face in terms of self worth. I began to see a pattern in my ways and that was quiting, I decided to go back to school and never give up. I enrolled in a community college and was stunned at my ability to learn if I just showed up and tried. Two years later I have grown out of my current community institution and with around 39 credits of transferable course work, 46 in all, I have achieved a 3.54 gpa, 3.7 if you dont count the non-tranferables and replace one of the classes I took twice with the higher of the two grades. If I take spanish and college algebra next semester I will quallify for automatic admission. Ive spoke with admissions office and they assured me I have a shot. I am at the essay poriton of my application, any UT students or alumni have some insight or words of advice?\n\nEssay prompt:Statement of Purpose: REQUIRED \n The statement of purpose will provide an opportunity to explain any extenuating circumstances that you feel could add value to your application. You may also want to explain unique aspects of your academic background or valued experiences you may have had that relate to your academic discipline. The statement of purpose is not meant to be a listing of accomplishments in high school or a record of your participation in school-related activities. Rather, this is your opportunity to address the admissions committee directly and to let us know more about you as an individual, in a manner that your transcripts and other application information cannot convey.", "summary": "I have a 50/50 shot of getting in to the school I always wanted but never thought possible, in process of writing the essay portion of application, any advice UT students/Alumni?"}
{"id": "t3_1tp9hl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why isn't she texting back? (I'm 17/M, She's 17/F)", "post": "So I met a girl at my high school through an extracurricular event (haven't seen her in the school but we meet each other after school for the sport we are both in). We hit it off and as a result we exchanged numbers and we began texting one another. We were texting for about a week but i never saw her that week in school since our sport took a break that week. As a result I decided to ask her if she wanted to go to the movies Wednesday (not as a date but to hang out). At this point we were both saying \"good night\" or \"sweet dreams\" to one another and gave compliments to one another such as \"you're wonderful\" or \"You're perfect\". After the movies she replied back saying it was an awesome fun night, so I asked if she wanted to go ice skating that Saturday, she said yes and we decided to continue texting one another till we reached Friday. Once Friday hit, i texted her asking her if she could go (She needed parental permission), she said she'd ask in the morning so i decided to leave it at that. We continued texting but the conversation felt lack luster and didn't feel right, so i decided to cut the conversation short lest i make it awkward. The day we were supposed to go ice skating i tried texting her like normal but again it felt lack luster and she gave very short answers like \"I don't know\", \"Yeah\", \"watching a movie\". But through it all she doesn't reply with her answer of her parents decision and because I've already brought it up a few times I decided not to push asking her. As a result we didn't go ice skating. Since i met her, each day I would or she would start the conversation but since that Friday she hasn't seemed interested at all and as a result I haven't texted her back since Sunday (after trying to create a conversation the following day, again ending in her seeming uninterested). Its now Wednesday and im confused as to what i did that made her essentially uninterested in me.", "summary": "We hit it off and began texting for a week. We went to the movies and she responded immediately after saying she loved it and i asked if she wanted to go ice skating Saturday. On Saturday she doesn't reply whether she can go or not (Parental Permission) and the conversation feels very lack luster with short answers all of a sudden (Began Friday). I haven't texted her since Sunday after trying to bring up a conversation but it ended the same."}
{"id": "t3_3ivklx", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help! Local jeweler had me buy a diamond for my girlfriend's dream ring and can no longer can sell me the ring!", "post": "I bought a diamond for my girlfriend's dream ring only to find out a month later that they can't sell me that ring anymore. They stopped doing business with the company (Verragio) a few weeks after I bought the diamond and didn't tell me or warn me until I went in to pay for the ring in full! So,  I found a different jeweler in the area that can get me the ring but they won't give me the lifetime warranty on it because the diamond isn't from them. The diamond has been in the safe since purchase at the original jeweler I visited, but the jeweler will not refund me or help me whatsoever. \n\nI paid 3k for the diamond and I don't want to worry about the ring's future so I need to get the warranty. However, that would mean I'd need to buy a new diamond using more money since I can't get refunded on the first diamond. I emailed both the owners about this horrible inconvenience last week only to get no response. The only other idea my friends have came up with is to share my story and give them bad PR until they cave. I have no idea what to do. I don't have the money to just buy another diamond. I'm 22 and have other expenses to worry about!!", "summary": "Local jeweler scams me into buying a diamond for a ring they will no longer sell to me when I come in the next month to purchase it in full. I'm out 3k at the moment unless I can persuade them otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_24e4ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25 F) in a 1yr relationship with Boyfriend(32M) continues to communicate with ex-wife and still gives her money", "post": "My current boyfriend is still in contact with his ex. They were in a long relationship but a very short marriage <1year. She continues to contact him after the divorce asking for more money, help with bills, or just to rub dirt in his face or bring up old feelings. \n\nHe seems fine with maintaining this friendship with her because he cares about her as a human being. Their contact bothers me and I have notified him of this. He has already paid her what he owed from the divorce and it upsets me that he feels ok with giving her money when she tells him some sob story. \n\nI trust him not to cheat on me, I am just unsettled by her. It brings doubt to my mind that he isn't over her. Or still cares about her more than just a human being. \n\nWhat is the right way to go about the situation? I have already voiced my concerns numerous times. It seems that he doesn't want to give up their friendship.", "summary": "Am I right for being uncomfortable with their continued friendship and him helping her out by giving money."}
{"id": "t3_x9h0h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most ridiculous dream you have ever had?", "post": "I killed a dog and so had to go into a witness protection scheme as they were endangered animals. This protection thing was the main hall of my college. It was also an orphanage. There was an meeting going on and some man in a green suit with a bowler hat announced that the president was retiring. Some random person kept trying to touch my arm so I edged away, I edged away so far that I fell off my chair and landed on top of my friend, though the guy somehow managed to hold my hand. A man in a waistcoat, bowler hat, fancy suit (with tails) broke through the crowd in the assembly hall, using his cane to part the crowd and yelled at me saying, \"You're a liar, young man.\"\u009d ( I am a girl) The person even had a handle-bar moustache.\n\nWe then got a bus home to Ohio, but somehow got off in England, a girl asked my friend why she was going to England since she lived in Holland, and then I demanded why had he not asked me? We got off the bus and started walking towards Walmart, we were looking for my friend's mom and I suggested Walmart, whereas another girl shouted,\"It's not my mom why should I care where she is?\" I then walked past my cousin, but ignored him for some reason. There were hookers at the side of the streets and posters advertising them *ten for a ten doll-hairs", "summary": "I pretty much had an LSD dream without the drugs."}
{"id": "t3_2z8ssg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [26 F] been dating a fellow [27 M] for about 1 month, but I still have an occasional romp with a FWB.", "post": "Hey r/relationships. I need some advice/opinions. I met this awesome guy over a year ago and we recently starting dating (we even talked about this) about 1 month ago. We haven't had the exclusivity talk yet.\n\nHe and I are very similar in we are both weary of commitment and are extremely sexual beings. The sex we have is AMAZING. \n\nThis is where I don't know what to do: We haven't had the talk about exclusivity and he has hinted that he has issues with monogamy. He did explicitly say he wasn't seeing anyone else and I said I was not either. \n\nI guess *technically* I'm not seeing anyone else. However, I have a solid FWB for over 1 year now. At one point I thought I had feelings for him (this is months ago) but they faded away because he and I are just truly incompatible romantically. We see each other maybe once per week or every other week. \n\nThe guy I'm dating and I do lots of fun things together, go to dinner, dancing, etc., but I'm continuing this FWB relationship. Like I said, we haven't defined exclusivity yet and if we do I will happily end the FWB situation and stop seeing him completely (even platonic), because I don't think that's the right thing to do. \n\nI think I would like him to become my boyfriend eventually. I got out of a terrible 4 year relationship with an alcoholic and swore I would never compromise myself for a man ever again, so I have been really afraid of commitment. This new guy is amazing. But I'm not sure if hes sleeping with anyone else either.  \n\nI know I'm here for advice, but I think I'm going to tell him I'm sleeping with someone but tell him if he wants to be exclusive, lets go for it! \n\nI'm just curious if what I'm doing right now is wrong. Besides the ex boyfriend from 3 years ago I've never had another relationship. In fact, I've never had a normal, stable relationship. \n\nThrowaway for reasons.", "summary": "Dating a guy approx. 1 month and haven't defined exclusivity. I would like to at some point soon, but I'm still sleeping with a FWB. "}
{"id": "t3_2stjoy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] and my little sister [21F] who wants to stay in my house but I don't trust her...", "post": "My little sister lives in the same city. Her lease is expiring in about a week. I am going overseas for three weeks and she has asked to stay at my house while I'm away. We don't have a great relationship. We had a decent-sized fight at Christmas that I am still a little bitter about. I know she is just using me because she has been too lazy to organise her own accommodation. One of the reasons I really don't want her there is because I don't trust her with my cat. She has accidentally let the cat out before and I don't want it to get lost (we live in a busy area and my cat is indoor-only. While I'm away my neighbour who I get along with vey well will be feeding my cat daily)\n\nMy sis is very messy and has terrible hygiene. She also uses drugs (weed and some other) which I don't like. She's very flaky and lazy but also very r/iamverysmart. \n\nOur parents coddle and enable her. I've suggested she stay with them while finding a place (they live in another city but she dose not have a job so I don't see why she can't go back there for the moment).\n\nShould I just say no? I feel like it will damage our relationship for good. Am I being cruel?", "summary": "I don't trust my sister to stay in my house."}
{"id": "t3_327ikx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 F] don't know how to help my mom [47 F].", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I would really like some advice. \n\nThroughout my childhood, I can't remember a single time that my parents were happy together. At best, they tolerated each other. Any love they once had was long gone by the time I was born. I love my dad, but he has a very bad temper, and can be quite selfish. The lack of communication and effort on his part would not be acceptable in any relationship, but my mom put up with it (possibly so that my siblings and I could grow up with a family). \n\nLess than a year ago, my dad had an affair. Due to our financial situation, we all live in the same house, but my dad is only allowed on one floor, and my parents never see each other. He is still dating the woman he had the affair with. \n\nMy mom was devastated, and very hurt. She occasionally has good days, but at the mention of my dad's name, her mood completely changes. Her life has improved significantly over the last couple of months - she no longer has to deal with my dad's temper, no longer has to make three meals a day for him and do his laundry, and her many friends have been incredibly supportive. Her social life used to consist of occasional lunches with friends; now, she goes out 3-4 nights a week. She has also gotten a job that she really enjoys. I understand that it takes time to get over a twenty year marriage (even though it was mostly miserable), but she seems to be getting worse, not better. I believe she may be depressed. \n\nI'm very worried about my mom. She plans to do this for the next 2+ years, and I can't see how she will be able to move on and be happy while living in the same house as my dad. \n\nHas anyone experienced a situation similar to this? Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "my dad had an affair, but still lives with us. My mom is becoming more and more unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_4zt5a5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 F] have a boyfriend [18 M] of 8 months. I feel like he doesn't really love me.", "post": "These 8 months have been such a rollercoaster ride, sometimes, I can't wrap my head around things.\nThere have been really great times, and this is the realest relationship I've had in years. (My last 3 ex's cheated on me.) However, our bad times always come out just as intense. We hurt each other emotionally a lot, and it takes long for the wound to heal.\n\nMost days, he's always so indifferent. I feel like he doesn't really care about me as a person, and he's mostly just in it for some emotional support, and to have someone to talk to, or someone to depend on when things go to shit. He might even just be in it for the sexual/intimate benefits a relationship brings. I don't think he's actually in love with ME.\nEverytime I bring it up, he gets emotional, downright refuses to talk about the problem, and accuses me of not being happy with him and him not being good enough for me. It drives me nuts. I'm the type of person to want to talk things out straight away and resolve it so  we can move on rather than let it sit.\n\nAnother thing is, he doesn't seem to appreciate the sacrifices I've made or the effort I exert at all! He tells me I should care about him more, and I do. I feel I've done enough by staying up super late to talk and play with him despite having classes the next morning at 7 A.M., then I cut down my study time to be with him, and I spend less time in college with my friends to come back home and spend time with him. And he has the nerve to tell me I don't show I care.\n\nSometimes, I get tired of always being the one to be sweet and to initiate. I wish he would just do it too sometimes.\n\nHow do I deal with this? How do I bring it up to him?", "summary": "my boyfriend of 8 months is often indifferent towards me and never initiates or does anything sweet, I feel he doesnt really love me as a person and only keeps me around for emotional security."}
{"id": "t3_41gwbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This subreddit has made me lose trust in everyone and in turn ruining my relationship.", "post": "Just like the title says. I read these posts daily because it was automatically added to my front page (on mobile). \n\nMy(20M) gf (20) has never done anything in our relationship that has led me to believe she would do something that could hurt me but these posts have made me lose faith in people. I see posts daily of cheaters and how terrible some people can be about it; it makes me think any one of my friends is capable of anything.\n      As I said before my gf has never given me any hint of infidelity but this subreddit makes me think anything is possible. She is avidly against cheaters so I always assumed that she would never do anything like that but I say a comment earlier today that said, \"people hate about others what they hate the most about themselves\". I think I need to stop looking at these posts.", "summary": "I have seen posts about all sorts of infidelity on this subreddit that has led me to lose trust in my friends and gf for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_1dyyxt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, What's Your Craziest roommate Story?", "post": "I have a pretty knock up one, and was wondering yours. I had a ex-army solider living with me (dishonorable discharge) who was manic, and bipolar. He didn't pay rent starting the second month. (In California squatting is legal) I couldn't afford to get a lawyer to go through the proper eviction process. Anyway short side to the story, he was getting increasingly and increasingly violent, and we actually had a sumewhat physical brawl. \n\nI called the Police to remove him and they wouldn't do anything about it. Saying that since we are not a couple, and we have shared space it was a civil dispute and unless there were weapons, or blood there hands were tied. \n\nThat made him worse. So I left everything I owned and moved back home with my mom.", "summary": "Crazy, mentally ill roommate. Fights. Police do nothing. CA sucks. Lost everything."}
{"id": "t3_1l5apd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) boyfriend (23M) was disrespectful towards me. It's been months, but I cannot get over it. Feels like nothing can be done. Help?", "post": "We've been together for three years. My boyfriend called me a fatass to his mother two months ago. I saw the text when I went through his phone (he allowed me 100% transparency because of a previous trust problem with him). His mother told him not to talk about me that way, which was nice, but she didn't dispute it.\n\nThe thing is, I didn't think I was that fat before all this. If I lost 20 pounds, I'd be skinny. Maybe I'm not carrying the weight in the right places, or I could just be in denial about what I look like. But I can't let it go. It keeps me up every night. I lay down at ten, I don't fall asleep until 1 because I toss and turn thinking about it. I get anxiety attacks over it.\n\nHe keeps trying to assure me that he didn't mean it, and that he just said it because he was angry. I can't believe him, though. There's been some obvious weight gain since the beginning of our relationship, but I didn't think it was enough to be a cause for concern. My BMI is 23.6. A little on the higher end, but not overweight. Still within normal range.\n\nI can't even think about anything sexual with him. It's weird, I'm almost the one who's repulsed by him. Every time he tries to initiate something, I just hear \"fatass\" over and over again. I wonder if he'll look at and focus on my problem areas. I don't fantasize about him anymore. I simply don't wan to have sex with him again. Ever. I keep thinking that I just need time to get over it, but it's been a long time. And there's nothing he can do to fix it.", "summary": "My boyfriend called me fat. It's been months, but I can't get over it. I've developed major insecurity issues and anxiety. What can I do to get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_ycdpu", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story] Running as a form of transportation", "post": "So, I've been getting into shape and rather passively participating in /r/GetMotivated.  I've also been trying to get out and talk to women despite my anxiety and everything's going pretty well.\n\nToday, I had a bunch of shit to do, and 45 minutes before the post office closed, I decided to head out and photocopy some stuff that I had to mail out.  I got everything together, went out to the garage, and my bike tire was flat.  Tried to reinflate, no dice.\n\nSo what did I do, GetMotivated?  I did what I've been doing on those stupid gym hamster wheel things, only outside.  I ran my fucking ass to the library, walked over to the post office, and then ran home so I could get ready to go to work.\n\nI feel like a wizard.  And you can too.", "summary": "Running is a mode of transportation, not just an exercise.  Do it."}
{"id": "t3_3feikl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/M) have a soulmate (20/F), we like each other for a long time and have feelings, but there is a problem, we both have relationships and have a couple of days to see each other.", "post": "So here is the story:\n\nThere are a Boy and a Girl. They become friends, they start liking each other, but they are afraid to tell each other about how do they feel, because they are not sure if both of them feel in the same way. The Boy starts liking another girl, they get into relationship, and the Girl gets upset and finds a boyfriend as well.\n\nAfter 3 years of, pretty much, silence, the Boy and the Girl meet up, they talk, and they realise that the friendship is still there, and that they both still like each other. But now they are older and smarter, they talk about the way they feel. They talk about the past, and everything becomes nice and clear.\n\nDespite one thing. They live in different countries, they both have relationships and they have couple of days left to spend in the same city, after what they will leave.\n\nSo here is the question: what should or should not be done? How should they behave? Who should do what?\nWe both will be reading the post.", "summary": "After 3 years both have feelings, but both have relationships and have a couple of days left to figure things out, but have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_rfx1v", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "DAE find that sometimes Fast Food makes them feel better?", "post": "I'm not talking about the \"comfort\" you get from eating it. I'm talking about it appearing to have some odd restorative power.\n\nMy Example (occurred about 2 months ago): I had been off the McD's for close to 3 months when I got a pretty heavy sinus headache. I pounded some Advil cold and sinus, took a nap, drank a Red Bull, took a shower, ate some oatmeal and hit the gym. NOTHING would shake this headache.\n\nLater THAT DAY I was out at a Comedy Club and riding with a friend who wanted to stop at the Arches. I was getting hungry again so I ordered a Quarter Pounder with fries and soda. Not 10 minutes after finishing my food I felt like a million bucks for the rest of the day.\n\nI pondered the thought that maybe Fast Food preservatives and processing methods tapped into my pleasure centers and gave me a heavy does of dopamine. I got kinda sad thinking about how drug addicts talk about withdrawl. This is not the first time this has happened. I've been clean for these past 2 months\n\nAnyone else experience this, or have something positive to offer as a solution?", "summary": "McDonald's may or may not have more addictive properties than heroine."}
{"id": "t3_2zshuw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I (M19) need some Life advice", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo, basically i need some advice. After leaving High School (2 years ago) i decided to get a job working for a food chain company (first ever job). Worked their for 3 months or so and decided to leave and go to University however, while leaving i didn't have the most positive experience.\n\nNow, finishing the first semester of uni, i found out that my Overseas trip (planned before starting uni and said to be OK by the Uni) would in fact not be OK and that No matter what i could do, my week long trip would result in failing of all papers that semester. (Uni refunded costs of semester after much debate)\n\nSo, its now been 7 months since i have been working or studying. I decided a month ago, i wouldn't return to Uni This Semester (just over it and needed a break). I currently owe about 12000 in student loan and 3000 or so to my parents who lent me some money and i need some advice.", "summary": "My first job left a bad taste, same with first year at uni. Owe money and scared about even applying for a job after previous experiance"}
{"id": "t3_102in5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I share 3 public bathrooms in a house and some person keeps clogging up all of the toilets, shitting on the toilet seats, and once even shat on the floor. What do I do?", "post": "I had to live in a pricey studio apartment because I didnt have a credit history (no one ever taught me about it early enough :( ). I go to graduate school. I have a single room and have to share 3 public bathrooms with 7 other people. I spent 4 years in college dorms, and my house has once a week housekeeping. I, stupidly, thought this wouldn't be too big of a problem.\n\nBut recently 3 people moved in, and I'm pretty sure this one person is ruining all of the bathrooms. I've found shit on the floor, shit-explosions covering the walls of the toilet bowl, and tonight shit on the actual seat. This person also clogs up not one, but ALL of the toilets at one time with their shit.\n\nI feel rage, but also confusion and concern for this person. They obviously know what they're doing is wrong because they will cover the toilet with the lid or leave the bathroom door closed after wrecking it. What the hell can I do? I've already left notes about cleaning up after ourselves in the bathrooms, and they worked only for a few days.", "summary": "I want to use the bathroom without worrying about catching a disease. Wtf do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2duoxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my bf [18M] want to end our two year relationship", "post": "So as the title says, I want to break up with my boyfriend of two years for a few reasons. He's a very negative person and I haven't been happy with him for a while, or for much of our relationship really. I'm entering my senior year of high school, and I think I'd be much happier and have less stress if I broke up with him. I have already emotionally checked out of this relationship. \n\nIt's not a question of if I should break up with him or not, it's just how should I do it. I'm concerned because his family is very involved with the school, and especially in some of the school activities I do. I'm afraid that they will make my life hell. I really want to break up with him, but I also know it's going to be messy. Any advice for me?", "summary": "messy breakup ahead, advice wanted."}
{"id": "t3_2baka4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] I CAN DO A PULL UP! F/5'0\"/117", "post": "I've been kinda lazy lately on my getting stronger journey, working out 2-3 times a week with complex multi-body part workouts for each workout. I've never, ever, ever in any part of my life been able to do a pull up, so I don't incorporate that into my routine, ever. I had a friend over and was goofing around and she said \"Is that yours?\" to the pull up door frame bar thing that is my SO's. To which I say, \"Ha, no\", then I just hang from it and PULL MYSELF UP! I think maybe I pushed off, but THEN I DID ANOTHER! The whole next day I would randomly go to the bar, hang, and pull myself up once just to check that my mind wasn't playing tricks on me. Did it every time. BAM, now I will be incorporating pull-ups into my routine and my goal is 5 in a row; I'm currently at 2.5.", "summary": "Woman who never could do a pull can now do a pull up."}
{"id": "t3_46kemp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19] don't know what love feels like, am I incapable of loving?", "post": "I don't think there's anybody I have ever loved (romantically or platonic). There are very few people I am \"close\" with. Sure, I care for people.  But even though I have no trouble getting along with others I can't help feeling that I'm lacking a genuine connection.  \n\nExample:\n\nI have been in a happy relationship with [21M] for just over a year now.  He is truly a wonderful man, and I know for a fact that he loves me very deeply.  He is the most important person in my life, and I really do care for him very much.  I want the best for him, and I always want to make him happy.  Sorry if this is confusing.  I doubt that I don't love him, but I'm not sure if I do.\n\nIt's always been like this, I think.  I had a 4 year relationship with a boy in high school, who I thought I loved.  It was my first real relationship.  In hindsight I think I was with him for so long because I didn't know what the heck a grown up relationship was.\n\nThis doubt is really getting to me.   It makes me feel so sad and isolated.  I've heard that love feels like a warm sunny feeling in your chest, or butterflies in your tummy.  It's a feeling that I get very rarely.  Is that what love is supposed to feel like? Or is it something that you immediately recognize when you experience it?  Perhaps I can love, just not fall in love.\n\nI'd really appreciate some opinions and advice, if you can make any sense of this.", "summary": "I don't know what love is, want to know what's wrong with me."}
{"id": "t3_10ikmx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit everyone seems to defend cashiers, but I want to know what is the worst or most awkward experience with a cashier.", "post": "For me around two and a half years ago I moved from Canada to the U.S. Now getting a state I.d is not a instant process so all I had was my passport and my B.C I.d foolishly thinking I would be fine with those I left to pick up some canned air. To make a long story short the cashier and her manager refused to allow me to make the purchase due to having in their words \"a false I.d\". I ended up having to call customer service so I could complete my purchase. \n\nP.S I now work at the same store.", "summary": "Tried to buy canned air with a Canadian I.D was refused because it was \"obviously\" a fake I.d."}
{"id": "t3_24ai5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F]moved across the world to be with my fiancee [32M] of three years. Having trouble adjusting.", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my SO for about three years and generally everything is going great. I came to where he lives a few weeks ago, and I am having a hard time with it. I have been  here before several times, but at those times he was at home a lot more but now due to circumstance he is getting no days off from work for about over a month, the first month that I am here and a bit on. \n\nI feel very lonely here, because of what I said before and also I am not working or doing much of anything at the moment. He is the only person I really know here, I am very unfamiliar with the city and it is extremely big compared to where I come from so it is hard for me to get around on my own. I try to keep busy by exercising and going for shorter walks to places I am already familiar with, but it is all already getting me down. It is very different here and I miss my cats and he is not around  a lot etc etc. I feel a bit of resentment of him, for him working so much, even though I know it is for the both of us and I really hate feeling this way, I know it is very selfish.\n\nI wanted to find someone with similar experiences, who could advise me, because right now I am getting depressed and have a very hard time.", "summary": "Moved a long way from home to be with SO, not much for me to do here yet, he works long days, every day. Advice how to adjust and how to stay busy and treat my SO like he deserves to be treated."}
{"id": "t3_2gx57j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting that my gf locked the door", "post": "Okay, so my gf and I are in a long distance relationship, 4 hours apart.  I see her most weekends, but a good amount of the time it coincides with me being at my parents house.  Okay, so we did \"it\" the first time and got away with it, but she went to the bathroom, down the hallway.  She came back into the room, and closed the door, and climbed back into bed naked.  Things started getting hot and heavy again, and I looked at the door and asked if she locked the door.  Confidently, she told me that she had locked the door, and we continued on our \"endeavour.\"  I'm climbing up her body and the second I'm about to go in, my dad opens the door unannounced...I now do not know how to leave my room....", "summary": "TIFU by not making sure my door was locked, and I think my dad saw my gf's tits, and my manhood...and I don't know how to leave the room"}
{"id": "t3_sex1a", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Need help--strange etiquette dilemma. Please read!", "post": "Okay, so here's my story: 9 years ago my boyfriend died. He had been out of contact with his family during most of the time we were together, and they lived across the country so I had no opportunity to really get to know them at all. When he died, I flew across the country to go to the funeral and I was able to meet his mother, father, and sister. I was all kinds of messed up at the time and I have since lost everything that I ever had regarding the whereabouts of his family. I have periodically searched the internet to see if I can find them, and recently his little sister opened a FB account. I really want to get in touch but I don't know what to say, and I don't want to upset the family. I should mention that his family was very gracious with me and they were thankful of my relationship with him, so I know that they don't hate me. What do I do? Do I send this girl a message? What should it say? Thank you for any insights.", "summary": "Should I send a message to my dead boyfriend's sister, who I recently found on FB? What should I say?"}
{"id": "t3_2k8ayl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my GF [31 F], My GF keeps comparing me to her friends Boyfriends", "post": "In a recent argument with my GF she threw out the, \"My friends boyfriend always gets the bags for her and always holds doors for her etc.\" lines to me, basically comparing me to other relationships.  This took me by surprise because I feel like I am very expressive, polite, affectionate and loving towards her and it hurt to see that angle thrown at me.  \n\nShe pointed out an isolated incident where I didn't pick up her luggage after pulling up to get her from the airport (the airport was really busy and I was in the far lane near the traffic so I asked if she got it and she said yes.)  That whole trip home she was mad at me (though I didn't find this out until months later.) Then she gave another example of a time when I only pushed the door open for her and didn't stand there and hold it for her.\n\nI mean, this angered me a lot and I need advice on how to respond to these accusations - I feel like they are false (which i've told her) and I feel like she's using a check-list tally on me sometimes.  I do many nice things for her on the daily, cooking dinner, offering to carry her bags, cleaning, bringing her flowers and don't expect anything in return (of course she never mentions these things when she accuses me of not caring or doing manly things for her like her friends bf)  Help/advice!? Thanks in advance my friends!", "summary": "My GF accuses me of not showing the same affection as her friend's boyfriends, which I don't agree with and need advice/help responding"}
{"id": "t3_32five", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have I [24F] been dumped by my date [26 M] after 48hrs?", "post": "I will try and keep this brief.\n\nSo I am terrible at dating... I have commitment issues and I am one of the slowest texters I know; you are doing well if I reply even once to you during the day!\n\nI got on Tinder to give it a go as all my single friends had been on tinder dates with varying levels of success. I finally met up with someone and he turned out to be amazing! So normal and texted at the same pace as I did, though **always** within 24hrs.\n\nSo we went to dinner, conversation was amazing and we talked till 3am! Then he asked me if I would go back to his... We slept together. The next morning was nice, then he dropped me off so I could go to a lunch and he went out for a birthday thing. While sleeping that evening I got a missed call from him around 12:30am, which was then followed by two text messages saying how much he had loved spending time with me and asking me to meet up again midweek. I'm sure he had had a couple of drinks that night though.\n\nThe next morning I replied saying sure I was free that night and asked if he had anything in mind. I heard nothing. Waited 24hrs to send another diplomatic \"Hi hows your Monday?\" style text... Still heard nothing. I'm confused.\n\nShould I give up? Should I be patient? And if I'm meant to be patient... How long? \nAnd for future reference, is it ok to sleep with a guy on the first date? Or is it a case-by-case thing? This is the first date I've been on where I was 100% into the guy and Im not sure I made the right decision here...", "summary": "Met a great guy on Tinder, conversation was great and we slept together. Next day he called late that night after a couple of drinks and left me two texts sweetly asking to meet up again midweek. It has been 48hrs and he has not replied to a message since."}
{"id": "t3_3yg4w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my BF [27M] of 2 years, its left to me to organise everything and I'm tired of it.", "post": "My problem isn't a huge one compared to many others, but its driving me insane..\n\nI feel entirely responsible for organising all dates, plans and holidays for my boyfriend and I. BF will sometimes suggest 'lets do something later' or 'lets go to eat', but then its always left down to me to pick what to do or where to eat. I've suggested and organised all our holidays and I resent doing it, so much so that I have two solo travel trips booked next year because I simply couldn't face having to organise everything for him again. For the record, he makes more money than he knows what to do with and I am a student scraping together enough for rent and food each month. \n\nThis has all culminated in him promising to make new years plans two days ago and never getting round to it. I pestered him earlier and he basically told me I could look online for things to do and sent me \u00a3100. I relented and agreed to book tickets to an event later in the evening, and suggested he could make us plans for beforehand, to which he replied 'so this is a test?'. I completely blew up and he backed down and agreed to organise the whole night, but its left me feeling exasperated. This is the only thing we've ever really bickered about (its come up before as well) but it does feel like a complete drain on the relationship. \n\nI really want a partner who is ambitious and spontaneous and who will one day pack up his stuff and travel the world with me (a huge personal ambition).. is this too much to ask or am I being taken advantage of by doing all the organisational legwork in the relationship? How do I fix this?", "summary": "I have to organise all dates and trips between me and my BF and I'm getting sick of it being so one sided."}
{"id": "t3_204cge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal to look at a picture of a significant ex and just feel lost? (25m)", "post": "BACKSTORY: I dated this girl from when I was 18 until I was 24. During the relationship, things were rough, we had a TON of problems, but after about year 2 or 3, I started to truly think I loved her. After awhile, all of our problems from the first couple years of our immature relationship finally caught up to us. While I will be first to admit that I didn't treat her the way I should have, and she eventually started to change (probably because of that). She started going out to bars more, going to parties, her whole demeanor just changed. We broke up In August 2012 because I felt like she wasn't herself anymore, and I felt little to no connection. We sort of talked on and off for a few months, then we considered dating again maybe 6 months later. I did some snooping, while it wasn't right of me, I uncovered a huge Pandora's box of lies, I cut off all contact with her in April 2013. She periodically tried to be nice and establish a connection with me, but I ignored everything she had to say until November 2013, when she cornered me into a conversation. I ended up apologizing for the way I treated her, but I insisted that we should remain without contact. We met up once in December just to catch up, and it was awkward because there was some tension. Plus not only did she not look like herself, she got into weed and other drugs, is covered in tattoos, etc. We sort of nicely talked for another month, but then I just stopped talking to her again. Haven't spoken to her since January, I just stopped replying to her.\n\nI am actually in a relationship right now, and I'm extremely satisfied with it. But for whatever reason I looked at pics of my ex. When I saw the recent pics, I barely recognized this person. But when I saw these old pics, I sort of felt this rush of good emotion because of memories that kept being brought up. I feel guilty because I shouldn't be thinking about her anymore, especially since it was me that shut her out, and I am with someone who is 100x better in every way. But these weird thoughts are lingering. Is this normal?", "summary": "Dated a girl for nearly 6 years, relationship was never great but we developed a really intense bond. I broke up with her because she changed, I discovered some lies and completely shut her out of my life. I randomly looked at pictures of her, and I can't recognize the person in the more recent pictures, but the old pictures of her bring back good emotion for some reason, despite having so many reasons for them not to. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3k8oif", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Local neighborhood social network.", "post": "My girlfriend of 9 years was invited to a local social network for people to bitch about completely mundane topics, like leaving recycle bins out, or yard sale signs being left on telephone poles.\n\nI don't give 6 motherfucks about any of this shit, and as a matter of fact I go out of my way to avoid confrontations about things that in no way shape or form affect me. \nI was actually kind of offended when I got an email invite from her, needless to say I declined the invite and I told her in plain spoken English that I wasn't interested in socializing virtually, or otherwise with people who complain about mini marshmallows being thrown during luminaria. Its difficult enough tolerating facebook and I actually know most of those assholes.\n\nThe worst part about the whole thing is since my GF is a low level troll she has to constantly comment on these stupid posts causing a ruckus, then I get a full report daily on the goings on of a bunch of local busy bodies who I'd rather run over than ever talk to in person. I've also explained to her that she knew going in what these people were like and she is purposely trolling them. Then she gets upset claiming she is not a troll and I'm an asshole for thinking that. \n\nYou are right GF I am an asshole, but you are a fucking troll monster and I'm tired of your bullshit.\nIf you made it this far you are a gentleman\\gentlewoman and a scholar\\scholaress. Thankyou for allowing me to rant.", "summary": "My girlfriend is a troll and her food is the whiny complaints of our neighbors."}
{"id": "t3_1iejjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (18m) tell my girlfriend (18f) of 8 months that I feel underappreciated?", "post": "We've been going out for 8 months as of today, and in that time I have made a point to text her every morning and every night a good morning and good night. As well, I've put together multiple scavenger hunts for her for various events, took her out for a very nice dinner and gave her some very nice and thoughtful gifts for her 18th birthday, and at least once every two weeks (usually more) I make a 2 hour drive to her house to see her.\n\n------\n\nMost of our text conversations don't get very far because she'll take hours to respond and won't respond with something very pertinent (like \"Yes\" in response to a question about her day), and whenever we talk on the phone she's very tired at the end of the day. I pay for everything, and I offer in the first place.\n\n------\n\nI don't expect her to do things like this in return for me, but it'd be AMAZING if she surprised me with something. The only thing she's really given me (other than her time) was an ice cream cone she bought me when she managed to find a gift card lying around, despite the fact that she clearly has more money than I do.\n\n--------\n\nI want to bring up with her that I feel like I'm putting in way more effort than she is, but I'm not exactly her how to say it.", "summary": "I do a ton for my lady and feel like she does nothing. How do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_f4l0l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't understand the 'dating game'", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short as possible.  I'm 28/F and up until recently have never had an issue with dating or attracting the opposite sex.  I've always been straight forward and everything had worked out pretty well.  My last relationship lasted 7 years, produced my awesome son,  and then abruptly ended the beginning of last year.  \nSince then I've met a few guys while out and about but no one I ever really connected with.  I tried online dating and met two different guys that I actually liked and messages turned into texts, texts turned into phone calls...etc.  \nThe first guy was a bit younger than me but we hit off great.  We decided to meet at a bar then were talking, if not hanging out daily for about a month.  Then one day...FREEZE.  The calls stop, the texts stop, he's suddenly busy...yada yada.  Ok, well that stung but whatever, he can't be mature enough to tell me he's not interested anymore than fine.  \nThe second guy, I started talking to months later and once again, we hit it off really well, and are texting and talking every day.  We make plans to meet up but unfortunately I get sick and have to cancel.  He doesn't freak out, just says we can get together in 2 weeks (this was during the holidays.) The week before we're supposed to meet...the calls stop, the texts stop, and he's (you guessed it) really busy.  Another one down.  I understand that if he wants to talk to me, he would and I'm not getting all worked up over it (even though the last one was really disappointing) but I am noticing a pattern here...anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "Guys keep 'disappearing' on me, and no I don't do anything crazy to warrant it."}
{"id": "t3_1ig68b", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm conflicted between my social life and my fitness", "post": "I leave for college in about 4 weeks, (I live in California now and I'll be out in Colorado) and I'm having trouble deciding whether to go to my martial arts classes (muay thai) that go from 7:00pm to 10:00pm, or hang out with my friends who I won't see for the next couple months.  Normally I could balance both out during school, because I could go to the gym and no one would be doing anything that night.  But now since it's summer most plans happen around 7 and I find myself free only once everyone has gone home.  I love being around my friends but I also love the feeling of working out and I have a lot of fun during the classes as well.  I'd really appreciate some outside opinions.", "summary": "leaving for college soon, love working out but also love being with my friends, and near impossible to do both during the night."}
{"id": "t3_1bcm5h", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I can't kiss for shit.", "post": "At this rave I was attaining there was this girl I fancied for a while which had to work and could party for a short time with us, in a really let's say clear moment I told a friend of mine that I liked her and she told me to go after her and say it. So I did, she said she thought she liked me and we went to some place and she kissed me but I pretty much failed horribly and even thinking about that peculiar moment, the kiss that just didn't work has made me cringe 100 times, kinda ruined my space but damn, I just can't controll the thoughts, suddenly I bust myself facepalming or saying something along the lines of  ugh. I just hope this doesn't ruins things any soon, friends have said it won't but I'm not too sure.", "summary": "I can't kiss for shit thus failing epicly and cringing a hundred times just thinking about that moment at a rave."}
{"id": "t3_1t0iux", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I just fired HSBC: I'm trying to understand what they are trying to do.", "post": "I had my emergency fund (which was/is considerable) at HSBC, and it was over 6 figures with them when their savings rates were competitive.  Starting about 18 or so months ago, something happened.  Their rates started to nosedive.  I moved most of the money out of that account, into a high(er) rate account at Amex, but I left enough in to buy a new car sometime, probably the first quarter of next year.\n\nI was looking at my Quicken entries for that account and saw that the minimal interest was decreasing month to month.  I checked the statement and saw the interest on this \"high interest\" account was down to 0.05%.  5 basis points?  Really?  Are you kidding me?  You can get 10 times that at quite a few places.  In addition, HSBC had eliminated the ability to download statements to using Quicken format, and had tightened bank transfers.  The most recent announcement was they would no longer accept traveler's checks for deposit.  \n\nI don't really care about that last, but it was clear that whatever HSBC's current business model is, it clearly wasn't courting or even maintaining their consumer customer base.  I decided to help them out and initiated a transfer for the entire account balance out of their institution.\n\nDoes anybody here know what they are up to?  They used to be very customer friendly, now they are actively driving people away.  Why are they doing this:", "summary": "Just fired HSBC due to impossibly low rates and lousy service.  I'd advise any redditors with money there to do likewise."}
{"id": "t3_52zv71", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "25yrs old, just accepted a position offering 38k/yr", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nLongtime lurker, first post.\n\nAnyway, for the past 2 years I have been working for a wireless carrier earning $15/hr in NJ, with a very small comission structure based off sales & performance earning me around 28k-32k/yr. Long story short, I was finally offered a raise due to performance based reviews after my 2 years there (they had held off on reviews for budgetary reasons), my District Manager made it seem like he pushed for amazing amount and in the end I only received a $0.60 increase. After deciding to leave I accepted the first job offer I received at an IT company, whom which offered me 38k/yr. I only have a HS diploma, no certifications but solid work experience, should I be expecting to be earning more at this point in my life? \n\nI have around $12,000 in debt ($8,500 of it is my financed vehicle), splitting the costs of my 550sqft, 1br apt $1,254/month with my partner. With my old position I feel like I barely had enough to get by, with the occasional guilty pleasure purchase here and there. What can I do now to ensure I'm not spending this new income?", "summary": "Is 38k/yr to little for being 25yrs of age and what can I do to not overspend and get rid of my debt."}
{"id": "t3_27u6fz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having an orgasm at the nail salon.", "post": "Today, my gf and I went to go get our nails done together (as good lesbians do). I was really excited for the massage chairs, and unbeknownst to be, they were a little more intense then the ones I am used to. When I sat down, the woman to the left of me commented on how the chair was massaging her ass and she seemed uncomfortable. I figured she was overreacting... That is until the woman who was going to give me a pedicure turned on my chair. \n\nThe woman to my left was right, it was a butt massage, but as I was sitting straight up with my butt in the back of the chair, it hit a different spot. I squealed and my girlfriend gave me a look to shut up, and there were about 20 other women in the place so I didn't want to make a scene. I was like a deer in the headlights, frozen and unable to move, crippled with the anxiety of anyone finding out I was getting a hitachi magic wand straight to my clitoris. Needless to say, I came more than once and almost kicked the woman giving me a pedicure in the face. The chick to my left definitely knew, and gave me cut-eye as she walked out.", "summary": "Show me on the doll where the chair touched you."}
{"id": "t3_1au2ju", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m]My girlfriend [19/f] ended a relation with 4 years.", "post": "Well, me and my gf had 3 and half terrific years. Everything went well, we went to the same school, we both know each other family, spend holidays with each other, etc. We had everything planned for in September we move on to the UK to study and to get a better life, starting living together, etc. A month ago she broke up with me. We talked recently, everything is cool between us, and she told me that she is totally lost in what's her purpose in life, what she's suppose to be doing, she's too young to start living with another person, she wasted all the good years with me, but she still loves me but don't want to commit right now. I went through an hard time, because I really love her, but I passed that stage and moved on with my life, thinking only about myself for the first time in the last 4 years. I stopped texting her, calling, everything. 2 weeks ago a friend of mine posted a picture of me and another girl on facebook having a chat. 10 minutes later I received a text msg from my Gf asking for my english exam classification (we did a test together because of studying in the UK). I didn't answered any of her texts in the following days, because in my mind, if you want space I'll give you space, I don't want to get hurt anymore. 2 days ago she texted me again saying she misses me, and miss talking to me, and I answered saying \"I don't know what do you expect me to say\". Guys I really don't know what to do. I really love her, and I really hope to get back with her someday, but right now I think she's passing through an hard stage we all go through after finishing high school, and she don't want my help, but she's afraid of losing me. I really want to tell her that I miss her, but I don't think I should at the same time. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "Gf dumped me because she want space to figure out her life."}
{"id": "t3_eaunw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, give me ideas to get revenge on my nasty bitch of a neighbor that will not end with me in jail.", "post": "The neighbor across the street has become a dried up nasty bitch who looks for any reason to being the cops to my door.  She is 50+, must be on some kind of disability as of late (she limps now), never leaves her house, and seems to watch my house all day long.  She called the police twice last Christmas Eve when visitors from out of town parked with their front bumpers over the yellow curb marking the corner of our street.  When I knock on her door to try to make peace, she swore at me and slammed the door.\n\nI am a grade school teacher; going to jail is not an option.  This agression, however, cannot stand.  How can I bring misery to her life?", "summary": "She is awful and must pay.  How can I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2roiei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] concerned about my [20M] FWB new relationship", "post": "I [19F] have been messing around with my friend [20M] for a little while now. We hangout a few times a week, go out to eat or a movie, then usually have sex and part ways. Basic FWB relationship. \n\nAbout a month ago, I realized he's been getting more serious with a girl online that he's known for years. She lives states away from him and they have never met (and probably won't anytime soon). They only contact each other through Skype, texting, etc. \n\nHe talks about her every now and then, and it had never bothered me until he recently admitted that he's in love with her. I have seen their texts between one another, and they are very relationship-y. Things like \"You're all I want and think about\" and \"I love you so much\", stuff like that. \n\nI sat him down the other day and asked him if he wanted to end our FWB relationship now that he \"loves\" this other girl. He said that he likes what we have and does not want to stop it. Then, I asked if she knows anything about our situation. Apparently, she knows that I exist and that we have been physical together. \n\nI'm worried that he is not being completely honest with her that he's sleeping around with me. I feel guilty for continuing to have sex with him when he turns around and tells this girl that has no clue what's going on that he loves her. But, on the other hand, I enjoy sleeping with him and pretty much think that this cannot be true love between them since they have never met and he has no problem sneaking around on her. \n\nAny advice on what to do? I have this weird guilty feeling, but if he's okay continuing being FWB, and not telling this girl the truth, is it just none of my business?", "summary": "My FWB has an online love that he clearly is not honest with. I feel bad for this girl, but I want to keep sleeping with him. Conflicted feelings, help!"}
{"id": "t3_ewqp4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I Pay The VINCI Parking Ticket?", "post": "I parked at Capilano U's short-term parking lot and, realizing I had no change to get a ticket, went inside so I could get change. Upon entering the front entrance of the University, I had completely forgotten my quest to get change and instead went about the business I had initially planned on fulfilling. \n\nSo then I returned to my car and discovered I had this VINCI Parking ticket that I really didn't want to pay. This was around Christmas time so I didn't really have time to dispute it, and over the course of my rambunctious holiday festivities, I lost the ticket. \n\nI went on to the VINCI website to see if I could pay online, but apparently they aren't that advanced yet, so I phoned them. I got a message saying that they were closed, but the list of office hours that followed told me they should be open... \n\nI kept calling and finally, one day, I got a lady who got my message and called me back. I told her my deal, she renewed the seven days for me to pay the smaller amount on the ticket, told me my ticket number, etc.\n\nSo a couple days ago I went there, to their office VERY FAR to pay my 39.20 to this lecherous private parking company to find that they were, in fact, closed. \n\nThey were supposed to be open. Again.", "summary": "I got a private parking ticket at a University that has been a bitch to try and pay, should I bother paying it?"}
{"id": "t3_2jz2su", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an inconsiderate douche", "post": "Okay, this did not happen today. About a week ago but I still feel bad about it.\n\nwell, me and my friend (lets call him jim) were chilling, listening to music and texting people on our phones when another friend messages me. (Lets call her Emma) She says she's at her grandmothers for the anniversary of the passing of her grandfather. So she was a little upset.\n\nFast forward half an hour and Emma asks me for a Skype call. I ask her if its okay that my friend's there and she said yes.This is a great opportunity for Jim to meet her since he's my best friend and I like this chick a little. (okay a lot) So she calls and we have an awesome chat for 20 minutes, covering everything from Jim's haircut to whether or not students at our just school walk around comparing dick sizes because it's an all boys school. However, she ended the call and said she'd call me back later.\n\nShe messaged me during the time she was gone and seemed a little upset, so when she said she was going to call back I decided I'd try cheering her up. So i told Jim to leave the camera frame but have just his legs hanging in the background, and id improvise some funny shit and hopefully make her laugh a little. Here comes the fuck up.\n\nI answer her call and she says \"hi\", so I begin my little speech. \"hey emma, Jim's gone, but, i did manage to find these legs. Yeah, took them from some dead guy I found in my street...\" And thats when it hit me. Her grandfather. Fuck.\n\nHer face just dropped, and the call continued for almost an hour with neither of us saying a word, whilst jim sat in the corner wondering what the fuck was going on, until she said \"I have to go\" and left. I thought I had blown my chances with her.\n(luckily she's okay and it hasn't been brought up since). I know this isn't massive but i had to share it.", "summary": "made a joke about a dead guy to a girl I like who was mourning over her grandfather."}
{"id": "t3_22gznc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[non-romantic] Fiance [28M] and I [25F] were invited last-minute to a baby shower", "post": "My fiance and I just received an invitation to a baby shower being held Friday evening (sent via email). The website for the event shows that all the RSVPs were three weeks ago so we seem to be last minute additions to the event. \n\nMy concern is our finances. We're getting married in two weeks and we have turned down other invitations (dinners out and birthdays) because we're trying to save as much as we can for the wedding. \n\nI'm stressing over the gift. I'm not sure how much we're expected to spend, and I'm pretty sure that, like weddings, while gifts aren't mandatory they are pretty much expected, even if we don't go. I feel even worse because the couple will be attending our wedding and there is a chance we'll be receiving a gift from them. \n\nIs there a polite way to give an IOU and give a proper gift after the wedding and honeymoon (end of May)? I feel awful because we are spending quite a bit on our wedding, but we just don't have enough leeway in the next couple of months to give anything more than a token gift, which feels cheap. What's my best course of action here r/relationships?", "summary": "Invited to a baby shower but can't afford a gift in the next couple of months. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3lng7l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/ M] lack the social skills to talk to anyone online and it is not helping my long distance relationship with a [18/F]", "post": "I can not talk to anyone online like in a call on skype besides one person and this person is my best friend. When I talk to him I get more confidence when I talk to him. Well a few months ago I met a girl while I was on a trip I got her kik and stuff and we started talking and we started dating. I was not until later in the relationship however that we we started to talk on skype. Now here is where my problem starts because I don't know how to talk to someone online, I can do it in person, but online its different the only person I am able to do that with is the friend I talked about earlier. So my question basically is how do I talk to my girlfriend online?", "summary": "Met this girl in real life we talked on skype and I cant talk to her or anyone else online because of my social skills and I need help trying to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_a4qij", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College Dilemma! Pitt or Penn State for Mechanical Engineering?", "post": "I just can't decide where I want to go to college. My intended major is Mechanical Engineering. I don't want to party every night, I want to be serious about my studies (while still having some fun of course), yet Penn State is supposed to be a bit... wild. However, they have one of the top engineering programs in the country.\n\nPitt, while ranked lower (mid 50's on most lists while penn state is about 16th), seems to be less of a party school. I would like to get out of the suburban atmosphere of the town I live in, and I think I would enjoy the city. But, since Pitt is much lower ranked, should I not go for it?\n\nI hope to do work internationally and work on innovations such as nanotechnology or alternative energy sources, but don't know which college will prepare me to do this the best.", "summary": "I got accepted to the University of Pittsburgh and Penn State Main campus. Where should I go for Mechanical Engineering?"}
{"id": "t3_3syftv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing Fall Out Boy out loud", "post": "So I'm a huge fan of the band Fall Out Boy. Listened to all of their albums, absolutely love them.\n\nAbout 2 weeks ago, I was at Walmart with my mom getting groceries. I was bored, so I put on my earbuds to listen to some FOB. I went to Folie a Deux, my favorite FOB album, and started from the beginning. The first song is Disloyal Order of Water Buffalos (If you're not a big Fall Out Boy fan they have sometimes have weird song names). There's a line in the song that goes something like \"Little girl, you got me staring odd, or was that just a telescopic nod\". Since this song is one of my jams, I say the lyrics to myself. To my luck, when that line comes, there just happens to be a little girl near me who I think was about 7-8 years old. She hears me say the line, that combined with a phone in my hand, she must have thought I was stocking her and taking pictures or something. She runs to her mom and screams \"Mommy! That guys taking pictures of me!\" Her mom walks over to me, furious. I try to explain, and she immediately goes to the register, pays for her stuff, and leaves with her child. Everyone was staring at me, thinking I was some pedophile teenager.", "summary": "Said a Fall Out Boy song line out loud, making everyone think I was a stalking pedophile. "}
{"id": "t3_49zrr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[32/F] husband [32/M] is upset about my past I didn't tell him about.", "post": "I've been married for 5 years and my husband and I have a great marriage. We keep no secrets and we also have each others' Facebook passwords as part of that.\n\nRecently, I connected with Raven, an old friend(female) from high school and we've been talking over old times online. We talked about a part of my teen years I have been embarassed about and that I never told anyone about, not even my husband.\n\nRaven and I were \"wild\" as teens. Among the things we did included girl on girl sex, swapping boyfriends, a threesome on prom night, in other words, we tried all sorts of things. During my senior year of high school, I had a boyfriend who didn't want to participate in that lifestyle and we broke up over it. Shortly after, I realized I didn't want to live that way either so I quit and settled down.\n\nMy husband and I have talked about our pasts and our previous partners, but his past was nothing like what I did during high school. I regret the things I did back then and just want to forget about it and move on, but Raven brought it up in some messages and we talked about it again.\n\nMy husband saw the messages and couldn't believe it. He was upset that I didn't tell him about this and is wondering if I've hidden anything else from him. He says it isn't what I did that bothers him, it's the fact I kept it from him. I love my husband and would never cheat on him and I've always been honest with him.\n\nI'm not sure what to do to get back my husband's trust. Are spouses obligated to tell everything? Any ideas on how to work this out with him?", "summary": "Husband is upset about my past that I didn't tell him about."}
{"id": "t3_lov6y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I ask for very specific Christmas present without seeming selfish/greedy?", "post": "I'm 24, and my BF is 28. We live together (for the past three months) and we've been together a year.\n\nWe have recently come through some really, really tough times together, and are slowly getting back to good. It's work everyday, but it's worth it, because I love him and love our life together. \n\nI'm the kind of person who has always lauded gifts picked out from the heart over ones I've asked for, but I know that my BF is not the romantic type to catch my signals when I hint at something. I feel selfish for thinking about it, but I really want this one specific thing for Christmas this year, as it seems to me that it would be such a sweet symbol of our strenth through these recent struggles. \n\nI have realized that it would be nice if HE picked it out for that reason, but it's just not him. He would never think of that! And even though I've hinted (ie liked the item on facebook), he's not going to pick up the hints. I know him too well! \n\nHere is what I want: \n\nI only want it in silver, so I know it's in his price range. \n\nHere's my question: does it devaule the sentiment and gift if I ask my boyfriend for it? Does it make me seem greedy? I'm not ring hungry...ie he know's we're not near marriage. I've never asked for anything before and he has always given me perfect gifts, but not of this caliber (no jewlery). Men and ladies, what do you think? Is it appropriate to ask?", "summary": "I want a sweet, inexpensive (non-engagement) ring for Christmas, but I don't want to feel selfish for asking my BF for it. "}
{"id": "t3_1iuori", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27/f) need some advice about an an ex (24/F)", "post": "I feel so conflicted. I am engaged to the most wonderful woman I've ever had the extreme fortune to meet. She's sexy, beautiful, ambitious, has a career that she loves, and one of the nicest,most thoughtful people I've ever met. But, I keep having thoughts about my ex. Never anything sexual (tho we did kiss in a dream once). My fianc\u00e9e and I are getting ready to move into our own place, and I just FB messages my ex. I feel like I'm unresolved. But, it was 3 years ago when we broke up. My fianc\u00e9 and I are coming up on 2 years. My ex and I were together for almost four years and tried to keep it friendly after that. During our time together she was controlling and almost ashamed of me. She treated me terribly after we broke up, promised we would get back together after we \"figured things out\" and tried to use me for sex...I was broken, she was my first love and I couldn't understand why she could throw me away like that. I tried dating a few girls here and there but nothing worked until my fianc\u00e9 came along. She pushed me out of the dark place I started calling home, called my beautiful and was completely enamored with me. I love this girl with everything I have...so why would I message my ex? I feel like I've done something wrong.", "summary": "messaged my ex, think I've made a huge mistake"}
{"id": "t3_1jj0ym", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Can't drop friendship.", "post": "F 24 and F 23. I met a girl at work when we were both 17.  I have been \"friends\" with her for about 7 years now.   I have never really liked her very much, but I have never had the guts to stop speaking to her.  She repeatedly tells me that I'm her best friend every time we talk.  She immediately takes the contact details of any of my friends that she meets, and repeatedly messages them until they stop speaking to her.  \nAspergers runs in her family, and I am pretty sure that she has this, alongside other psychological issues.  She is very judgemental of people with learning difficulties and mental illness though, and refuses to admit that anything might be wrong.  At one point she seemed like she might, but she didn't seem to understand how to get help and repeatedly phoned the doctor's instead.  She is clingy to the point that although she has been \"friends\" with at least 20 people I know at this point, all but me get too annoyed with her and stop responding to her.  \n\nI try to stop or limit contact, but generally after 4 messages max, I feel bad and start replying.  I feel really horrible and hypocritical, because I really don't enjoy seeing or speaking to her.  She used to be quite sweet, but now she is a very angry person, and holds extreme right wing views that bother me.  She has also started buying me gifts, which makes me feel even more guilty.\n\nWhat can I do?  I feel like it is cruel to stop being her friend for no good reason, especially since our friendship obviously means so much to her.  I feel like I'm lying to her though, and I find any contact with her quite draining.  Is it selfish or honest to stop talking to her?", "summary": "Stuck in a friendship that I don't want to be in, cruel to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2h6sxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First date with my [20 M] new friend [19 F] - intimacy boundaries?", "post": "Hey all, so over the past few weeks I've been hanging out with this girl at work (she's a projectionist at my college theater and I'm the concessionaire). For the first couple shifts we only briefly exchanged pleasantries and stayed in our respective areas, but over the last couple of weeks she's been coming down to hang out with me, and this week we skipped out to go get food and watch TV once we started the movie and hurried back to be there when it finished. \n\nShe's incredibly easy to talk to, shares my sense of humor, has the same taste in music, and is the most like me out of any girl I've met during my first two years of college. \n\nI gave her a ride home after our last shift together and as she was getting out I told her we should get dinner together this week. She agreed, so we're going out to a Turkish joint on Wednesday. \n\nI realize the hard part is out of the way, and it shouldn't be too awkward since we already have a good rapport with each other. I should just be confident and do what feels right, I know, but this is my first real date (excluding my three-year high-school girlfriend) and I'm over-thinking every aspect of it. Which brings me to my questions. \n\nFirst, is hand-holding too intimate for a first date, or not? Second, should I bring up topics of romance or what she's looking for, or should we just talk about whatever like we regularly do? Third, I know that unlike high-school one date does not imply exclusivity, but assuming it goes well (which I expect it to), what's the typical protocol for college relationships becoming exclusive? Is this something I should bring up with her? Also how the hell do you go in for a first kiss? \n\nI don't want to scare her away, but I really like her and tend to become very emotionally involved with women I like. Don't get me wrong, I'm very conscious of coming off as clingy or too romantic, so I tone it down, I'm just saying that in an ideal world for me relationships would progress very quickly, emotionally speaking.", "summary": "Is hand-holding too intimate on a first date, and should topics of romance be brought up or should conversation be kept casual?  What's the standard process for becoming exclusive with someone you're seeing in college? Also how do you go in for the first kiss?"}
{"id": "t3_2nvqef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] finally grew to balls to ask my GF [26F] of 5 to try and get a better job.", "post": "Ever since we graduated from college, I've worked in my STEM field and she worked in minimum wage retail, part time (thanks art degree).  She has the dream of working in videogame design, which I hoped that she would get into someday.\n\nSince I make 80% of the household income, I pay for 66% of the bills.  I was okay with this, because I didn't think she would *still* be working minimum wage this long after school.  Every now and again she can't pay her share, so I end up paying 100% of the bills those months.  \n\nThis month I told her that I wanted her to apply to jobs in the field she wants this month in lieu of rent, even if she didn't think she was qualified.  Then I said that it wouldn't be a bad idea to get more relevant schooling in her desired field (her degree, though relevant, isn't a perfect fit).\n\nShe seemed pissed about this, we haven't spoken since (less than 24hrs and I'm away from home right now).  This has been building up in me, she complains about not having enough money but doesn't apply to jobs she can't get because of lack of experience, even when she has an in through our friend network.  I don't think it's a laziness thing, but an honest to god depression due to the job market.\n\nAm I being unreasonable or too reasonable?  What do you make of this, and depending on her reasponse, how would you proceed.  I don't want to break up, I could marry her someday. There are other stressors in the relationship, like my beig away due to work, our non-agreement on children, lowering of sex frequency, and fear of becoming our parents (hers an eternal stay at home mom and my dad a Social introvert)", "summary": "Sick of GF's deadens career, I asked her to apply for jobs even if she doesn't expect to get them in lieu of her share of the rent this month - which has lead to radio silence.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2mm83w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing my product knowledge.", "post": "This TIFU did not happen today nor did I realize IFU'd the day it happened.  \n\nI sell cars for a living.  I was working with a gentleman interested in a 2014 2500HD, brand new.  Great!  We put a deal together with out any issues.  I was happy to inform him of the great coverage our vehicles come with.  \"The 36 month / 36,000 mile bumper to bumper, 5 year / 100,000 mile power train, AND starting this year 24 month / 24,000 miles scheduled maintenance on every model.\"  Happy Customer.\n\nGreat new program the company put out, 24 months/24,000 miles of scheduled maintenance.  This includes,\nReplace engine oil and oil filter \nA thorough 27-point vehicle inspection provides a detailed assessment from COMPANY Certified Technicians\n4-wheel tire rotation (excludes dual rear wheel vehicles, all SPORTSCAR models and select SPORTSCAR models \u2013 AB1 model and 1AB package cars \u2013 due to their unidirectional tires.)\n\nOne day, said customer comes in for some scheduled maintenance work.  I, unaware of his appointment.\nThe service advisor came up and mentioned there was a customer of mine back there.  Said he had some maintenance done but was not covered.  Upon looking back at the deal folder, it all clicked.  For 2014, every model got the 24/24 EXCEPT for Heavy Duty trucks.  (This has since changed for 2015 Models, every model is covered.)\n\nBeing an every day hero, I stepped up to the plate and kept true to my word.  He was going to get his 24/24.  I am now on the hook for every service visit he has pertaining to the above covered.  While feeling like I did the right thing for the customer in the long run, my wallet is feeling something different.", "summary": "Mistakenly told a customer he had car coverage that he didn't actually qualify for, now I'm paying for it."}
{"id": "t3_ptdtu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it just me that gets annoyed by how Reddit gets stuck on topics? I.E Chris Brown.", "post": "Sure it wasn't right of him to do that but Reddit forgot about it for the most part or didn't think it was worth mentioning again. Suddenly one person does and everyone hops on the topic. \"Oh yeah fuck him.\" \"Can't believe people listen to him still.\" Even though most people forgot and stopped caring.\n\nWhat about other famous people that beat their wives, why aren't you riding them so hard?\n\n\"Sean Connery: in an interview with Barbara Walters, Connery argued in favor of the necessity of hitting one's wife in certain circumstances.\"\n\n\"Norman Mailer: Mailer stabbed Adele, one of his many wives. Caused some problems, but she lived and his career recovered.\"\n\n\" Wesley Snipes: according to ex-girlfriend Halle Berry, he beat her so badly one time that she is now deaf in one ear. She never has publicly said that it was him, though, just that it was an ex. But we can tell from a basic chronological analysis that it was very likely Snipes.\"", "summary": "Stop circle jerking."}
{"id": "t3_uzg6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"Boyfriend\" of 6 years wants ME to help him get over ME.", "post": "We met six years ago. I was 16 and he was 17. Now I'm 22 and he's almost 23. It's a long boring story, but for the past 3 years we've mostly been fuck buddies. I love him dearly and have always hoped for something better. Turns out he had a girlfriend for about two months last spring 2011. She's moved on and he feels bad. I was angry when he first told me, but at this point I have lost all hope in \"us\". I can't stress how much I love him. Deep inside I wish we could be together, but reality is he needs to grow up before he can have a relationship with anyone. I don't know how to help him. He's depressed and feels like he is hurting everyone and is sad this last gf doesn't want to talk to him anymore. What can I do to make him feel better from the distance since he lives several states away? Cutting him out of my life would make me miserable and it's just not an option. I want to help him, but I don't even know if I should.", "summary": "Love of my life/ fuckbuddy is an immature and depressed attention whore. Can't get over two-month gf who has now moved on. He's depressed and wants my help. I want to, but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_42ouw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am confused after my ex-boyfriends death.", "post": "Bare with me a little and I'll explain everything. Firstly, I've been with my ex-boyfriend for a year and lived together most of it. We got tangled up in a lot of things and broke up. We weren't getting along, but we didn't despise each other. 8 months later, we got back together and we had 4 happy months. The happiest, actually. Until his car crash which turned me into nothing. I wasnt able to go to the store and buy bread, let alone sleep, eat, work. In the following weeks, I've been on xanax which helped me sleep and be numb, work, but I felt constant despair moments take reign over me. I've lost all time notion. It's like it's been a year, not a month. Days go by slower or faster. I'm not usually fragile and my emotions work different than others'. When I go through a rough patch, I overcome it easily because I focus on it 100% till it turns to dust. Until recently, without any intention, I met B. I feel like I've been preparing my whole life to meet him. Everything I learned applies and has a use. We are so alike and being with someone who knows your mind without knowing you at all... It's the foundation of magic. And he treats me perfectly; literally, everything I wanted. I still feel a bit numb, but I'm gaining strength. I like being around him. Talking with him. I don't feel guilty, but I don't want to ruin anything. I can't tell if I'm doing right. I don't want to lose this. It feels like everytime I look at him or even think of him, I'm carrying a burden at the same time.", "summary": "my ex boyfriend died a month ago. I felt horrible. I recently met everything i wished for in a guy. Right? Wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3lp9im", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Unknown Credit Card Account Opened by Unknown Person, but Friend's Name was on Account", "post": "Last night my friend received an odd email receipt from a store in an area that they moved away from last year. They checked their Experian credit report and discovered a credit card account they never opened. The card had been open since 4/2015, 6 months after they moved. \n\nAfter calling the bank phone number listed on the credit report (it is a well known bank), they told my friend that the account was opened by another person using another Social Security Number. The bank told my friend that it was an error, that there will be an investigation, and that they are now removed from the credit card account. They did not tell my friend the account is frozen, but they did tell them that the account would be removed from their credit report. My friend also filed a dispute with Experian to have it removed. They filed it under \"unkown account\" instead of \"identity theft.\"\n\nDoes this sound like a simple banking error or identity theft? On the one hand, the bank agreed to remove my friend from the account. It also seems odd that someone would attach more than one name to an account opened with stolen identities. \n\nOn the other hand though, how could an honest person have the account open for so long without informing the bank that my friend's name doesn't belong there? Also, how do they attach my friend's name without using my friend's social security number? How could it show up on their credit report without using my friend's social security number? \n\nHas anyone seen a similar issue before?", "summary": "Friend discovered unknown credit card on credit report. Bank says it was opened by another person using a different SSN."}
{"id": "t3_33qzr7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by insulting my future gf", "post": "So I had just gotten breakfast/lunch with a girl I had been seeing for the better part of this past semester. She wanted me to walk her to class, and I begrudgingly obliged. As we started walking away from the dining hall, she took out her phone and asked Siri \"what's my name?\" to which I blurted out instantaneously \"Bitch!\"\n\nPreviously I had gotten in trouble over jokingly called her this, so needless to say I was in some serious shit. \n\nShe stopped walking, told me to get away from her, and texted me three minutes later basically saying she never wanted to see me again.", "summary": "tried to be nice and walk my future gf to class, ended up insulting and losing any chance at ever seeing her again."}
{"id": "t3_4ckqzm", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I [24/m] have a unusual body from being very overweight and then losing quite a bit of it. How/when should I tell the women I'm dating?", "post": "Heya Ladies of Reddit! (English is not my first language, so I hope everything will be understandable).\n\nAlrighty, I have been been very overweight and now lost quite a bit of that weight, but still not at an optimal \"lean\" weight, but my body does. In clothes I look normal or maybe chubby-ish. Without clothes I dont' look too good, stretch marks, some loose skin mixed with moobs and love handles. \n\nI get compliments for my face (not only from my mother, but from her too, love you mum) from women, and that's I think a lot of women actually expect me to have a \"normal\" body, since that would seem \"matching\". Well, as you know by now that's not the case. \n\nAnyways, what I want to ask is, would you want me to tell you this early on, if you were dating me? I sometimes feel like a fraud, if someone really likes me and we start to click. I think \"would she think this way if she would know about what's under my clothes? Should I tell her right now?\" Or maybe it's now even that big of a deal?\n\nI think the scenario I'm having in my head is that we start to really like each other and when she finally sees my body, she will be really upset about it since that is not what she signed up for. Now, I would like to think that she won't care, but I also have to be realistic here, both things could happen. \n\nI should also mention I'm only 24 and I have a feeling people my age are a little bit more superficial, but maybe I'm just talking silly and should get outta me head.", "summary": "My body is a bit damaged from being overweight, how/when should I tell the person I'm dating about this?"}
{"id": "t3_1dph85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "You guys, I have come to a crossroads and now I want to hear your story. How did you decide what direction you wanted to go in life? (more details inside)", "post": "Hello, I am rounding the end of sophomore year at university and I'm torn between a double business major (energy management/international business) and a pre-med major. My parents are great and support me both with paying for classes and my path in life. More info and my question for you below:\n \nMy first year of college, I had a better idea of what I wanted to be studying pre-med: either an anesthesiologist or orthopedic surgeon. \nNow, frankly, I don't know what I want to do with my life and feel pressured to decide soon. That being said, it almost feels too early to definitively decide, because I admittedly didn't put forth my best effort the second year; I had a bigger social life, but went to class less/studied less, and just did a poor job balancing my work. (I know that's irresponsible, but I swear I've learned my lesson!) I have a good number of business classes still to take, and I also have plenty of science classes left if I go that direction.", "summary": "Ending 2nd year of college, getting close to finishing gen-eds. Spent my first year of college as pre-med student, easily made a 3.5; spent the second year as a business student, couldn't find motivation, performed poorly in classes. "}
{"id": "t3_3l668n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my [27F] fiancee, ex of mine [27 f] called off her wedding because she regrets breaking up", "post": "ill try to make this short, i love my fiancee, id die without her. ut this ex of mine, we go back. I was ready for a serious thing, she wasn't, so it ended.\n\nI found a beautiful girl. She found a sleaze ball. \n\nFast forward, ex's fiance is immature and ex leaves him and calls off her engagement. I was with my girl at a party that the ex went to. She hovered all night and seemed like she wanted to talk, but that didn't happen.\n\nSoon after i find out ex was talking to my family, crying,  saying she regrets letting me go, she should be his daughter in law, wishing she could rewind the clock and saying she still loved me. \n\nI call the ex and we chat, talk about how the timing was bad for both of us and maybe if thing were different we'd be together. Telling her i knew what she said but i was happy with my fiancee and how im happy with her. \n\nthing is, ex was the first love, since i was 16 i had loved her. Advice? I love my girl, but that \"what if\" is giving me doubts", "summary": "ex gf broke off her wedding, misses me, told my family, part of me is happy, part is mad, part wishes to forget."}
{"id": "t3_vba19", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Need help with deciding on new running shoes.", "post": "I've been running for close to three years now and until last year I never had a problem with my feet. I do Cross-Country and Track (1600, 3200) but I would really like to start doing longer distances because I would love to do marathons. The problem is I'm extremely flat-footed and in the last year I've had problems with plantar fasciitis. I wear Brooks Ravenna right now, although their old shoes and need to be retired, and I've tried the Brooks Beast. I've also tried some Skechers shoes. All with and without my insoles and the farthest I can get is about 4 miles before my feet hurt too much for me to take another step. I've tried running barefoot and my feet were fine except for the cuts and blisters that developed afterwards. I live in a mostly paved area, where running on trails or grass is not much of an option. I've been looking at the minimalist/barefoot shoes but should I invest in something else?", "summary": "I have flat-feet and can't run with shoes that normally correct that or it hurts too much. Barefoot running is fine except for cuts and blisters. Should I go with minimalist/barefoot shoes? If not what should I go with?"}
{"id": "t3_ym9mx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] Asked a girl I knew for a few months to hangout, got denied, not sure what to do next.", "post": "Yep, despite me being a SAP, I attempted it. I am not really seeking a relationship with this girl anymore, though I was (I guess I still kind of am) mildly interested. However, I'm completely content with just being friends.\nWe used to hangout during breaks at school during those few months I've known her.\n\nShe said \"sorry I have ____ to do today\", which means \"no\". I said \"maybe another day\" and she responded in the affirmative, but didn't offer another day (something that, according to the Internet, means that she is not interested at all). However, she seemed willing to carry on a conversation after that, albeit it was a bit awkward.\n\nI have two issues here. The first one: what do I do now? I feel like I should ask again later (maybe like a week later), but at the same time I don't want to be too persistent. Or should I just leave her alone for good? We don't go to the same school anymore, so that would be pretty depressing.\n\nTwo: The general rule of me talking to a girl: the more attractive she is, the stupider I sound. I once was able to shut off my feelings for a girl and successfully flirt with them and maintain a conversation, but I seemed to have lost that ability. When I asked this girl to hangout, it was poorly done and I couldn't think of anything to say. How do I regain this ability?", "summary": "girl I knew for a few months denied my suggestion to go hangout, wondering what to do next, and also how to not sound like an idiot while talking to girls."}
{"id": "t3_2fiygq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with multiple best friends, I'm joining the military and I'm scared to tell them", "post": "I've wanted to join the military since I was a little girl but a lot of things held me back. I have several best friends in different friend groups that are ignorant of the military or have their own qualms about it but I've notice from vague chats that they probably couldn't comprehend me joining. \n\nI never spoke about my dream because I wanted to be absolute sure on joining and that I would ship out. My waiver recently got approved, I swore in the other day, and I'm scheduled to leave in January. \n\nAll these people despite this one hang up, are seriously amazingly awesome people that are my best friends. \n\nI recently moved extremely far away from all of them so communication would be generally over text, facebook, skype and I just have no idea how to articulate what I want to say. A lot of them have been looking forward to me moving back and in away I will be able to but I feel like they wouldn't understand it. I'm worried my best friends will feel I don't know, offended over my decision.", "summary": "I'm joining the military, several of my best friend would probably be upset over me joining and I have no idea how I should approach telling them all."}
{"id": "t3_11z7g5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Not sure how to to word this but, how can I keep from losing my friend/ex-girlfriend?", "post": "So here's the situation. This girl, we'll call her Laura, and I dated for about 7 months last year to the beginning of this year. August till March if that makes any difference. Anyway, she then left me saying she wanted to just be friends, then stopped talking to me. I was crushed because I seriously loved her. Went into a deep depression from combination of losing what amounted to my only friend and some school bullshit. Anyway, she began talking to me in June again and said things like \"I still have feelings for you, but I don't know what to do about them.\" I then told her I had feelings for her too, and she responded like \"I'm getting back together with a different ex so you can stop having those feelings now.\" She broke up with him again in late August. Now she's the typical \"single and proud.\" But today, we were just hanging out, and things happened resulting in some sexual activity, not intercourse but third base anyway. Now she's saying things like, \"I don't think I can see you again.\" I'm devastated because she means a lot to me and don't want to lose her. She has plans to move away in a couple years after she finishes college. I would go anywhere for her because I really like her. What should I do?", "summary": "Girl I really like doesn't like me back anymore. She won't give any reason either."}
{"id": "t3_3p3ev5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex[16 F] broke up because she cant love?", "post": "Yesterday  my (ex-)girlfriend broke up with me.  \nShe said she is not able to love and she is \"unable  to bond\"..  \nI cant belive that..is there really something like \"not able to love\"?  \nI even asked her  if she loved me at all times and she answered \"I dont know,it felt weird\" but on the other hand she had  things like our date where we came together on her wall(On a paper written in roman numbers) and she wanted to see or skype with me all the time..We even met 1 day before she broke up and everything felt right there..  \n  \nWe were together for 2 month,i know its not that long..but i love extremely and its really hard to realize for me that she\u00b4s gone.  \nI tried to talk to her but she just said \"just let it be\"..  \n  \nShould i keep trying to talk her?Should i just wait?Maybe she will talk to me after some time?Can it be that she has a new one?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up and told me \"its her fault,i cant love,im not able to bond\"  "}
{"id": "t3_4xl9uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am having a hard time getting over my ex [18F].", "post": "I ended my ~2 year on/off relationship with my ex several months ago. I went to college, and the ensuing LDR made me realize how immature she could be and how little real compatibility we had when physical affection was taken out of the equation. However, it's been about four months since we've spoken and there hasn't been a day since I broke up with her that she hasn't been on my mind when I wake up, when I go to sleep and whenever I have time to myself to think. I've also developed a terrible habit of looking through all of her social media accounts. What are some strategies that I might not know of already to help me move on?", "summary": "young guy, dissatisfied with my ability to move on from a weak relationship even though it was my decision to end it"}
{"id": "t3_2r9qt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (F 16) drinks occasionally I (M 17) I don't drink, she asks me if it's ok and I say yes, but I honestly wish she wouldn't.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend are very happy with each other, but I have a problem. I'm straight edge, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, and I want to be clear I DON'T want to force this on her and I realize these are my personal morals, I politically am for marijuana legalization and everything.\n\nAnyways she always asks me if it's ok if she drinks this or that and she's usually with her step family I always tell her it's her life and to choose for herself, she always says she doesn't want to disappoint me and asks if I don't like it.\n\nTo be honest I don't like that she drinks but I push that back and tell her to live her life how she wants even though inside I don't like it. Again I don't want to force her not to drink, but being honest deep inside I do.\n\nLet me explain she was raped at a young age (alcohol wasn't involved) multiple times, and I've seen too many stories on /r/rape about rape with alcohol involved. I really don't want to risk her being harmed again. I don't know what to do and I feel very conflicted. I know I shouldn't force not drinking on her but I feel that there's good reasons.", "summary": "I am saying I'm ok with her occasional drinking but really am not, because am paranoid she'll be hurt again"}
{"id": "t3_2w0pfk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By destroying that pussy..(NSFW)", "post": "as per usual this happened a few years ago,\nI was drunking with a FWB, whose cat has just had kittens, after a few litres of cider I was nicely hammered. What becomes 10 times more appealing when pissed? KITTENS! \nI ran upstairs and starting cuddling with 6 kittens, not realising 1 was missing.\n\nAfter satisfying ones primal urges for cuteness I run back downstairs and dive onto the couch, just in time to hear \n\"NOOOO DONT JUMP!\"\n\nI hit the couch with the force of 1000 uppercuts, but something's wrong, was that a crunch I heard?\nMy friend was freaking out, just as I stand up I notice my arse is wet. \nUnbeknownst to me I had managed to dive onto a kitten that my friend had smuggled downstairs. She's crying, I'm panicking. Shits fucked!\n\nWe have barely spoken since, I still feel incredible awful about the whole debacle.", "summary": "I destroyed someone's pussy, and now she won't speak to me!"}
{"id": "t3_e2coy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend won't have sex with me...", "post": "So I've been with my girlfriend for little over a year and we're both virgins. About 8 months in we moved up to oral sex and for a month everything was great. Then I started taking an SSRI for anxiety and one of the side effects is that it makes it hard for me to get off. So basically blowjobs now make me feel like I'm going to pass out, and handjobs do nothing for me and usually end in friction burn.\nWhen I told my girlfriend that my only real hope of getting off would be sex, she flat out told me no. So for the last three and a half months there's basically been no sexual contact for me. She's told me before that she doesn't believe in abstinence, but whenever I bring up the subject I just get a strict \"no\" and then some excuse about how she doesn't want the relationship to be just about sex or something similar.", "summary": "My girlfriend would rather stop all sexual contact than have sex with her boyfriend of over a year."}
{"id": "t3_3icixr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 3 month. I asked her about her past hook ups/relationships. Don't know how to feel.", "post": "Im currently long distancing with my girlfriend for only around 3 months. I asked her about her past hooks up/relationships cause I wouldn't want to hear it from someone else. What she told me was quite distressing. When she was with her last boyfriend, whenever they would fight they would break up and eventually get back together in a few weeks or months. \n\nBut during that temporary break up she would hook up with people that she knows, friends friend, brothers boss, etc. Her reasoning was that her \"ex\" or I guess temporary ex was trying to hook up with girls too. She told me she didn't even like any of the guys she hooked up with. She said she felt she was \"getting even\" or it was to make her self feel better.\n\nIt doesn't seem like a big deal but now I feel like every time we fight or if something happens between us she would just hook up with a random guy. She keeps telling me how she really loves me and would never do that to me. She also said that she promised herself that after she officially broke up with her ex boyfriend that her next relationship will be different and that she wont hook up with guys. \n\nEvery time I think about it my gut wrenches and it feels like my organs just dropped. Was it wrong for me to ask her this? I feel like id rather know the truth than living a lie. I almost feel disgusted thinking she hooked up with her brothers boss, or some 25 year old college student. \n\nI really care for this relationship and I keep trying to think about something else but it seriously bothers me. I usually never get bothered by a lot of things for some reason this seriously gets to me.", "summary": "Girlfriend used to hook up with random guys when she fought/temp brake up with her past boyfriend. Worried, feeling disgusted, and don't know what to feel/do."}
{"id": "t3_16kvwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27] feel like more of a parent than a boyfriend with my [22] y/o girlfriend.", "post": "It seems like in every situation, I end up feeling like a parent. I cook, clean, do laundry, and most everything else that a parent would do with a 10 year old. Every time I ask her to help out with any of the above, if she doesn't throw a fit, she loses interest after about 5 minutes and goes and watches TV. She has deplorable hygiene, almost no etiquette, and wants everything done for her. I need to figure out how to help her become more responsible in regards to learning how to be an adult. AKA If we have kids, I want to make sure she has the appropriate parenting skills.  Otherwise I am taking care of two kids.", "summary": "How do help my girlfriend in the art of parenting/domestic responsibilities prior to having children? "}
{"id": "t3_4ugrep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34M] with my fiancee [26 F] of 2 years, always makes plans without me", "post": "We have 2 kids, one is hers (7) and one is mine (6 mos). Just recently said she is going camping with her family (parents and siblings) and I'm free to come if I want. She said she is going regardless. I told her she is a bad partner since she doesn't ask me first, maybe to see if I am having financial problems. So maybe we can just stay home with our little family. maybe we can just do something ourselves instead of leaving me behind. she thinks i am making excuses not to go and she says she doesnt want her son to miss out on this experience. they go every year. \n\nit is also the same with church. i have gone to church with her a couple but sometimes i am tired on a sunday morning and i rather just stay in with my little family. maybe go to a couple yard sales here and there but she says the same thing. she says they are going no matter what and i am free to come if i want.\n\ni am bothered because i would like her to not be so willing to leave me behind. i would like to feel like a unit.", "summary": "fiancee tells me they are going somewhere and i can come if i want"}
{"id": "t3_1w90wz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with [18 F] duration, hung out for a week, had sex, left for the semester and havent talked. Now were both back", "post": "So at the end of last semester me and this girl started hanging out.\n\nI met her at a party, she invited me back to her dorm but we didnt do anything, partly because she was too drunk. I get her number the next day and we hang a few times during the week.\n\nFast forward a week, its the last saturday before we both go home for a month, we go to a party together, she invites me back to her place again and we have sex.\n\nI text her that monday, knowing she leaves on tuesday, trying to get food or something so I could see her again. She ends up telling me that theres a guy at home she has feelings for and the only slept with me because she thought I was cute and knew I wanted to.\n\nFast forward to today, Ive been thinking about it but not really hung up about it. I saw her in the cafeteria today and I cant stop thinking about her, I cant help but feel like things wouldve gone differently if the semester hadnt ended.\n\nMy question is whether or not I should talk to her again, and even if its a bad idea how I should go about it.", "summary": "Knew a girl for a week, had sex the last saturday of the fall semester, she goes back to guy back home, now were back at school, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_v8kcx", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Need help with my ex", "post": "So my ex-girlfriend [17] and I [19] have been dating on in off since our Middle school years. Over the course of the past couple years we have dated about 3 times. the first two time we broke up we have already talked about and I have admitted it was my fault because I was simply too in experienced in dating to be able to hold up a good relationship; however, the last time we broke up which was the end of last November it was because she became very controlling and clingy and me still being in highschool (a senior at the time) was trying to figure out college and had a lot on my plate so I couldn't handle her as a high maintenance girlfriend right then so I suggested a break until everything had calmed down and she blew it out of proportions. I had every intent of getting back together with her in a couple weeks after I had finished all of my applications and semester exams but she wouldn't have any part of it.\n\nWell now she is visiting from out of town and she has been texting me telling me how she's missed me and missed seeing me even though she has a boy friend right now and she wants to get together and talk everything out in hopes of getting back together.\n\nI love this girl I know I do and while dating she was the most important person in my life but now I'm not sure what to do. My head is telling me she hasn't really changed and she will be the same controlling person I was with before yet I feel like we could work this out, and my heart is yelling at me to take her back. Idk what to do about it please give me some advice guys.", "summary": "my ex girlfriend wants to get back together after a couple months and I have no idea if I should go back to her in fear of it being a repeat of last time"}
{"id": "t3_13nj33", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How has your family managed to screw up Thanksgiving? I'll start.", "post": "My wife's aunt has hosted Thanksgiving for all the local family for the past few years. She refuses to go to anyone else's house. She lives in the middle of nowhere, so everyone has to drive an hour and a half each direction, across gravel roads that are usually a foot deep in unplowed snow, and all 30+ members of the family have to cram into her 1 bedroom double wide. Every year, someone gets drunk and makes an ass of themselves.\n\nThis year, Aunt B decided it was a potluck. Bring what you want to eat. Which is okay, but she added a little caveat: You do not get to take home any left overs. She gets to keep all of them. And she isn't going to be making anything. Someone else needs to bring the turkey.\n\nSo we spent the day with my family, and had a good ol' time watching football and passing the baby around. Meanwhile, one of my in-laws got fall down drunk, called Aunt B a very nasty word indeed, and broke my sister-in-laws jaw. No one brought anything other than side dishes.", "summary": "Aunt-in-law demands people bring food to her house for T-day, refuses to contribute, demands she keeps everything, people get drunk and fight. My wife and I spend the day with my family, and have fun."}
{"id": "t3_2qpb6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with wife [28 F] Has anyone else lost feelings for their SO, have you recovered from it?", "post": "I've been married for 7 years and my wife is a good person. Technically she is perfect, she is very attractive, cooks, cleans, and takes care of the kids. But she does nag and degrade constantly and has to be in control of everything(This might be all women). I have just lost all emotional connection with her. I don't enjoy sex and even kissing or hugging her makes me cringe, and it makes me feel like complete shit. I feel like when I married her we were so in love, and now we have changed so much. I'm more nerdy, witty, intelligent and laid back, she is so headstrong, emotional, ditzy and has to have things her way. Everytime i try to talk to her about my feelings, she becomes overbearing, and tries to spend every second by me thinking it will make us closer but end up feeling more disengaged. Im not looking for permission to divorce. Just wondering if anyone else has been or is in the same situation. Because I want to love her again but in the end I just want to be happy.", "summary": "Lost feelings for wife"}
{"id": "t3_2bipf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you broach the subject of a loss of physical attraction to a partner?", "post": "So I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and mostly I find her super physically attractive, she has a beautiful face and neck and shoulders and breasts and arms and legs and all the rest of it. However, in the last few months she has started developing rather the belly and her thighs and butt have also gotten noticeably fatter. I find this actually quite unattractive, bellies on young women (she's 22) seem like such a shame when everything else looks so nice. Now I love and respect her endlessly, I would never pressure her into anything nor would I try to make her feel bad or, god forbid, consider breaking up with her because of her physical appearance. I would however find her considerably more physically attractive if she lost some weight (to be blunt). I feel like an enormous arsehole for thinking like this, and this is my first relationship so I really have no idea how to deal with the subject. We talk about everything, from the start she's said that we should talk about any problems we have so they can be improved. She isn't very self-conscious at all so I don't think I would hurt or embarass her with this. In the past she has expressed that she wouldn't like me with a belly or if I worked out too much and my muscles began to stand out, so she has spoken about what changes in my appearance she wouldn't like. Do I ignore this and carry on as before? Should I encourage that we work out and track our diets together without mentioning why, sort of subliminally? Or should I just talk to her honestly? I'm seriously concerned that this would make me a horrible person so I'm asking what you guys think first.", "summary": "First relationship, together for over a year, very open with each other about relationship issues etc. Girlfriend is steadily gaining weight, I am finding her steadily less physically attractive due to developing belly/thighs, which sucks because she is very attractive in other respects and I feel like if I were to help her lose the weight I would find her more attractive than ever before"}
{"id": "t3_40zc1p", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(MN) Company is refusing to talk to me about a refund.", "post": "My uncle is in prison. My family sends him about $200 a month. I get the money and send it through a service that handles prison inmates money. Anyways, this service was recently offering a $50 tablet for inmates to use to listen to music, watch movies, etc. My uncle asked me to use $50 of his money on the tablet, and $100 on store credits.\n\nI bought both, but after I did, the website said it would take 45 business days to receieve. My uncle will be released by then so he asked me to call them for a refund. I got my $50 about a week later, but have not receievd the $100. Each time I call the company, they say that they will file a ticket and review it, and give me a call in 48-72 hours. THEY NEVER CALL EM. I've went through this process 5-6 times, and I never get a call back.\n\nI feel like they are just counting on me to give up. Is there anything I can do? Can I do a chargeback on my account? Tell the state?", "summary": "I'm trying to get a refund of $100, company says they'll review my case and call me in 48-72 hours, I never get called back. Each time they apologize but do the same thing again (I've done this 5-6 times). Sometimes they even hang up on me."}
{"id": "t3_265hqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[15 M] want to get closer to [15 F] crush", "post": "There is a girl at my school that at my school that I have had a crush on for the whole year basically.  We've gone to the same school for our whole lives, but she will soon be moving across town to another high school.\n\nA little background, we've talked a little inthe past.  We are not quite friends, but aquaintances.  We only have one class this year, and I asked her to homecoming.  She declined because she said she wasn't going at all, which she didn't.\n\nI had a thing with a different girl for awhile.  We had our thing since March 1st and we started dating May 2nd.  She dumped me last Thursday however and we have not spoken since, and I have lost any feelings for her.  And rediscovered my feelings for the other girl.\n\nI want to get close to her this summer.  Like actually get to know her and be her friend.  I am hoping that eventually that friendship would lead to dating but it isn't my number one priority.  How could I do this, school ends for me in a week so I need to act fast.", "summary": "Girl I've known but not really friends with moving, want to get close to her over summer.  Don't really know how"}
{"id": "t3_2tpf3s", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Why do people think that the FBI, CIA, and so on, will spy on them in particular?", "post": "Like, I keep reading people throwing their arms up at the sight of these things.\n\nDo they not realize that the governments probably won't target individuals much? I mean, if you think of it this way, there is just over 320,000,000 in USA. There are 13,260 sworn members of the FBI. That's 1 person per about 24,000 people, if every member had the job of spying (which I doubt). \n\nPoint is, wouldn't things like this benefit us because these guys would be targeting people on their watch lists? Not only that, but maybe you can use these laws against those shitty ISP companies that everyone hates?", "summary": "Why the fuck would the FBI care for your ass when they have bigger fish to fry? Shit's been bugging me since SOPA."}
{"id": "t3_4qje39", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "F[22] 2 year on in relationship and very close to SO but sex is very lacking what do I do?", "post": "My SO and I had a very active sex-life off the start of the relationship, which has slowly evolved into a compassionate relationship. You could say we act more like a married couple than a lustful fling. \n\nHowever, the more close and lovey we become the less sex has been a part of the picture. Weeks without any sex, but cuddling daily (sometimes hourly). Recently we had our first 'good' session in forever, and I actually laid there after he left to go play games and just stared into space. Nothing, I felt basically nothing and felt like we might as well have not even attempted anything cause at least then there'd be no disappointment.\n\nWhat am I supposed to do in this situation? I love my SO very much, obviously we are close in every other way. But I am not even slightly satisfied sexually (even when we have sex).", "summary": "I love my SO in every way but what do I do if sex is nonexistent and/or does nothing for me?"}
{"id": "t3_4o3kt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Same old question: how to get over him? [M, 22]", "post": "I [F,  21] know that its not the most original question but its bothering me for a long time already.\n\nThere's this guy [M,  22] i met in high school and became friends with. He is very flirty with every girl so also with me. When after a couple of years he was dumped and heart broken,  i was there for him. \n\nAnd after a while we kissed and i developed feelings for him. I told him but he talked around it,  which was painful. Three weeks later he had a girlfriend and ignored me for 2 years. The day they broke up he messaged me that he missed me. We started talking again and meeting up.\n\nSo conclusion im his easy rebound. It hurts so bad but i finally see it now. Since one meet up 3 months ago where we slept over,  we ignore each other. \n\nI didnt talk,  see or heard from him since then and i still think about it everyday. I just want to forget him and open up to other guys. Can someone please help me to forget him?", "summary": "im a major repetitive rebound for a former friend from high school. Need tips on forgetting him..."}
{"id": "t3_1ag1p5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This is going to sound stupid but...", "post": "I literally don't understand depression. I'm such a happy, optimistic person...I just can't gasp the concept of depression..Even though its been explained a lot of times to me by my friend with depression. I find it hard to listen to her because she uses her depression as an exsuse to not do things (like exercise) even though she sits on the computer and obsesses over celeberties. \n\nAnd no I just depression as an exsuse not to get motivated BUT I DO UNDERSTAND THE FACT PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION CAN'T GET MOTIVATED. I just don't understand how or why. \n\nI mean thousands of people are depressed, but why? Some chemical unbalance? Some shitty stuff going on in your life? I dont get it. And it kills me because I really want to understand what my bestfriend is going through, but all I see it as is a weakness and not an illness.", "summary": "I'm not an asshole. :/"}
{"id": "t3_15j6x0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I handle my boyfriend's ex lashing out at me?", "post": "I've been trying to get a job at a store in town. They have a very low turnover rate, but I found out that my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, who works there, is quitting soon. I reapplied, but today my boyfriend told me that while they were catching up at the bar, she told him that she screwed me over, and I won't be getting any interviews.  \n\nNot only would I still like the chance to work at the store, I would also like to tell her how nonsensical her outrage at me is. I didn't steal him or cheat on her or anything like that, she is just being childish. \n\nCan Reddit give me any advice for how to handle this? I'm planning on speaking to the managers at the store, and my boyfriend is trying to talk sense into her.", "summary": "Boyfriend's cunty ex fucked me over for a job at the store she is quitting at. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gh84i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A question for anyone who has ever dealt with cheating in their relationships: whether you decided to stay and work through it or decided to end the relationship: why did you make the choice you did?", "post": "[28M] dating [29F] for 4 years. Just discovered this weekend she's been cybering/exchanging nude pictures with some guy. We've had a long fight/discussion about it over the weekend, so I won't go I to her explanations or all our feelings.\n\nI feel like 2 sides of myself are pulling me to make 2 different decisions. One side saying \"This is cheating, you need to end it\", the other side saying \"This is cheating but I love her and want to try to work through it.\"\n\nI admitted to her that I am terrified of losing her and I want to work through it. But I can't stop thinking and getting angry over the things she sent to him and the detail of the fantasies they described to one another. So I feel like I want to work through it but don't know if if I can forgive it and move on.\n\nFor now, all that's been decided is that we both have agreed to see a therapist/counselor together.\n\nIf you've ever been cheated on, whether you'd decided to leave or to stay, please share your story and why you chose the decision that you did. I am interested in hearing both experiences.\n\nFor the record, I have been cheated on in the past and decided to end all those relationships. But they were only a few months old. This is 4 years so the connection is much deeper.", "summary": "Got cheated on. Looking for reasons to stay and forgive or reasons to end it."}
{"id": "t3_1s89fn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help figuring out what to do.", "post": "So I haven't been dating since I got out of a terrible relationship last year. A few weeks ago I started talking to this girl I met through a couple classes we took together in college. We go out to dinner and it being my first date in over a year, I'm naturally nervous. \n\nWe eat and then we start talking. I realize that I like this girl a lot. She's as big of a nerd as I am. Video games, comics, you get it. She's really cute and really funny. Something I absolutely love in a girl. We're both enjoying ourselves a lot. I take her back to her car and we kiss and she starts driving home. I wasn't planning on kissing her but after that date, I couldn't resist.\n\nI text her to tell me to shoot me a message when she gets home and she does. She tells me she had a great time and that she wants to do it again sometime, which I respond the same. After that night, she got incredibly distant. Not a lot of talking between us is happening. \n\nA few weeks pass and I kinda start to get worried. I text her and say that if there's something going on, I'm here for her. Days pass and today she tells me that she's pregnant. It's not mine. She's about two months in. \n\nI really like this girl and I had all intentions of being in a relationship with her. But I'm wanting to be there for her as a friend as she goes through this. How can I help her though this process or what do I do?", "summary": "I like this girl. She's likes me. We go on a date. We kiss. few weeks go by, she tells me she's pregnant. I wanna be with her, but wanna be a friend and help her through it. what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4jqb2d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl [21/F] that I [21/M] was dating is now coming back from abroad, need advice on things going forward.", "post": "Throwaway account here, just in case.\n\nSo I'm going to be entering my senior year of college this upcoming fall semester. I was dating a girl (we'll call her Julia) for a few months near the end of 2015 and I'd say we really enjoyed being with one another. She then went abroad for the spring semester and said that she thought it would be best if we were both single while she was gone. I had difficulty with it at first, but adjusted and had some casual relationships with different girls over the rest of the school year.\n\nI recently met a different girl [20/F] who I've hit it off with very well (we'll call her Mikaila) and we've talked every single day since we exchanged numbers a few weeks ago. I would love to see where this could go, but the semester has already ended at this point, so I haven't gone forward with it.\n\nIt turns out that \"Julia\" and I are now going to be interning in the same city this summer and I'm not sure I want to restart that relationship as I'm very interested in \"Mikaila\".  What would be the best way to express this, just be straight up with \"Julia\" and say that I'm not looking for a relationship and would like to remain single? \"Julia\" isn't the type that would just be okay with a casual relationship and would want something more meaningful. I just feel like saying this makes me look like a scumbag and I don't want to compromise my friendship with her.", "summary": "Girl I was dating coming back from abroad, I'm interested in somebody else as well, unsure of how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3nph6r", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Any other sciatica sufferers? How to make progress with (semi)chronic pain...", "post": "As the title says, I have sciatica that's been getting steadily worse as I get older (36 now) and it's been causing me to slip into bad habits. I used to cycle a lot and attend spin classes, but the back pain got to be too much. I also used to play recreational hockey and soccer, but the natural physical contact in both of those sports led to flareups of sciatica that were no longer worth the pain.\n\nI have noticed that I've been drinking more than I used to, in part as a pain killer. I should hasten to say that I don't think I have a drinking problem in any way, but just that a glass of wine or beer with dinner every night seems to have a relaxing effect and I don't notice the back pain. I have no doubt that this alcohol consumption has been adding up. \n\nI think I was also eating to fill the hole left by the loss of playing sports. Luckily, I've retaken up a hobby that I used to love but ran out of time for: building models. Still, I have two kids under the age of 6 so we've been turning to fast food and takeout more often because of the hectic schedule of hustling between activities and things. \n\nI am a bit over 6'2\" so I can hide a bit of weight gain but I am about 40 pounds over what I think is ideal weight and need to make a change. I know the main issue for me is my back pain, has anyone successfully dealt with sciatica as part of weight loss? Has anyone been on a particular pain medication or other regime that has enabled you to maintain normal activities with reduced pain? I have a doctors appointment at the end of the week and would like to discuss strategies with him, so any advice would be welcome.\n\nThanks for reading, I have lurked and learned a lot from this forum so much appreciated to everyone for sharing their stories and advice.", "summary": "How should I deal with sciatica pain that is making me fat?"}
{"id": "t3_120g1i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31m] Should I tell my wife someone tried to sleep with me?", "post": "I have been married to a wonderful woman for 8 years. I have never cheated on her, but something happened and I'm struggling with.\n\nAn ex of mine started innocently (or so I thought) messaging me on facebook. What started out as just howya-doin' turned into I want you to have sex with me. \n\nI would be lying if I said I wasn't tempted. The girl is attractive, and from what I can remember she was a wild one in the sack. \n\nLong story short, I ended up blowing her off, and telling her that I'm a happily married man.\n\nMy wife and I don't keep secrets, but this seems like unnecessary drama, when I ended up doing the right thing. Is it ok for me to sit on this? Would it be wrong? \n\nI feel bad for not telling her, but I also didn't do anything wrong.", "summary": "ex girl tried to get me in the sack. I told her no. Should I tell my wife it happened? "}
{"id": "t3_2wrqur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] lose my interests/hobbies/personality quirks around my partner [25 M] of nine months", "post": "He's a wonderful guy, don't get me wrong. I could go on and on about him.\n\nThe thing I realized though, with him being away for the next two weeks (and having been gone for five days already), is that I'm rediscovering myself in his absence. Things I used to love to do or wanted to achieve:\n\nworking on improving my pastry skills\n\nreading broadly on morbid subjects\n\nwatching movies that interest me\n\netc etc\n\nI feel like I've just added so much depth to myself as a person by remembering all of these things that I used to do.\n\nIt's not like he stifles them either. He finds my interests unusual and weird, but loves listening to me all the same.\n\nI've come to realize that I put more priority and emphasis on what he does and his interests to the point where I view my own with disdain. I don't put much value in what interests me...\n\nHe's a guy that I sometimes don't feel good enough for. He's intelligent, comes from a wealthy family, is the hella out going social butterfly to my \"cats and books are my best friends\". He's witty and quick on his feet, I take my time before speaking. There's so much about him that I wish I personally could possess in terms of traits, that I can get intimidated. I find myself so busy comparing myself to him as thought he were the standard, that I end up slipping into like... a mental fog where I can't even see myself clearly.", "summary": "Forgoing my own interests and personality in favor of my partner's... why am I doing that?"}
{"id": "t3_3fjmf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ladies, could you help out a guy [23 M] who has been out of the game for 7 years with some advice?", "post": "So I was with my ex for 7 years. Off and on but pretty much since the beginning of high school. We split (for good) a few months ago. Knowing us though anything is possible, but I'm not counting on it. Anyway, I'm 22 years old and have only been with one girl. Things are obviously different when you start dating as a 15 year old and as a 22 year old and I'm a bit concerned.\n\nI met this girl on okcupid. Talked briefly and she seems very nice. She then tells me that she hates the app and wants me to just text her/add her on FB because shes deleting it (which she did).\n\nNow the thing is, she's not the only girl I've been talking to/planning on seeing. I've never been in such a situation. I'm not a promiscuous person, I'd love to just date one girl. I just talk to more than one because I know they are probably doing the same.\n\nBut this one seems different, you think it would be weird to just ask her what she's looking for?\nHonestly I'm just completely lost.. Tinder..okcupid..hookups?", "summary": "is this normal? what would you do in my situation?"}
{"id": "t3_rkbgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I tell my parents way too much.  Help me stop!", "post": "I (21 Male) moved to a foreign country a few months ago, and even though I've made a good number of friends here I've developed a bad habit of giving my parents way too much information about my personal life when we skype. \n\nI'll give details about dates I've been on and drunken escapades, but when I blurted out the story of my 1 night stand I realized I'd gone way too far. Part of the problem is that I'm lonely here and while sharing a lot isn't inherently bad, I feel uncomfortable doing it and I'm sure my parents are uncomfortable with it too. I try to stop but feel like I'm unable to find the middle ground between completely eliminating contact and oversharing. \n\nHow do I learn to talk to my parents like a normal person - without divulging all of the details of my life? Anyone had a similar issue?", "summary": "I blab to my parents about very personal things in my life and I can't seem to stop."}
{"id": "t3_e6q9p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your fondest Christmas memory ?", "post": "I remember waking up in a warm cozy bed and the first thing I see is that it snowed all night, and as a matter of fact it was still snowing with these huge white snowflakes, that were not falling to the ground but rather floating gently down. Everything was so white.\n\nI eat something, quickly get dressed in what I remember to be an infinite layer of clothes, get my sled and go out to the park near my apartment complex to play.\n\nWhen I come back home (must have been in the afternoon) I was soaking wet and filled with snow from head to toe; I remember my parents and grandparents smiling and cheerfully laughing at the way I looked. \n\nI also remember them being in the kitchen doing all the preparations for the Christmas dinner: making sausages, the pork roast, cozonaci (sweet breads) and all other different kinds of food. The smell was divine. \n\nAs it was to crowded in the kitchen, I was semi-napping on the living room couch and watching the CartoonNetwork specials they were showing for Christmas. \n\nI remember being so happy, without a single worry in the world.", "summary": "I miss being a child."}
{"id": "t3_22tp01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my ex boyfriend [18M] of 1.5 years, broke up and feel empty inside", "post": "My boyfriend and I broke up about two week ago. We dated for almost a year and a half, shy by about a month. Now, I'm missing him so much. Today I've been feeling pretty sad. To quote Hawaii 5o, \"I went from being the busiest woman in the world to having nothing but time on my hands.\" And, well, that sucks. I'm cycling through friends, trying not to bug them all because I feel so guilty about texting them all the time and always missing my boyfriend. \n\nI loved him a lot but we fought a lot and it wasn't healthy. But I still miss him. We use to text constantly. Now I just want a hug. But I know I can't ask him for one. I don't know who to turn to. I keep relying on people and friends, and I know I need to rely on myself, but how?", "summary": "How do I move on after being incredibly attached, especially emotionally, and how do I rely on myself instead of bottling up feelings and whatnot?"}
{"id": "t3_3cbjfg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "IN/USA- Parent hiding money during divorce in my bank account.", "post": "*", "summary": "Legal adult here. Parent hiding divorce money in my bank account two different times, once with myself as a minor, once as an adult.  Want to get out of this situation. Not sure where to start exactly."}
{"id": "t3_546kpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my bf [20 M] of 1 year, still holds to his dealbreaker and it bugs me a lot", "post": "We have been together for almost a year now, and as soon as things started to get serious he asked me if I had a navel piercing. I don't. He made clear that he absolutely hates navel piercings and wondered if I was planning on getting one. I told him I didn't have any interest in getting it pierced. \n\nToday, when the subject came across he told me that he had to break up with me if I got my navel pierced. I don't have any plans on getting my belly button pierced and I don't want to either. But the fact that such a simple thing can be a deal breaker even though we've been together for almost a year bugged me quite a lot. I asked him if he'd break up with me if I got stretch marks, and he told me that he didn't care about that, they're not things I can voluntarily get so for him it's all about a navel piercing. \n\nI got really mad at him for still hating belly piercings so much even though we're in a relationship so I think it's bad to have dealbreakers like that. Am I being silly?", "summary": "Boyfriend has always hated belly piercings and still thinks it's a dealbreaker if I'd get my belly pierced (I don't want to but in theory). Is he being really weird for still having a shallow dealbreaker?"}
{"id": "t3_133j2y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a grown ass adult and pissing myself", "post": "So I had just finished my work out routine at home.  Ran for about 1000 miles and then went downstairs to cool off.  I drank about 3 glasses of water in less than one minute.  After drinking and relaxing a bit, I decide to take a nap. \n\nSo as I lay in bed, slowly dozing off, I get this really terrible pain in my upper crotch area.  Like the area below your bellybutton and around your happy trail was just aching so much.  I was in a bit of pain for like two minutes... until I just sort of release my pain and am just so relieved that it's over... \n\nOH WAIT!  NO!  That's actually piss.  \n\nSo I ran to the bathroom as soon as I realized I was pissing myself, changed out my clothes... and am now cleaning the aftermath of the scene.  \n\nMy bed sheets are ruined, but I think my self-esteem took the biggest blow.", "summary": "Drank 3 cups of water then went to bed... had pain in bladder area then just uncontrollably pissed myself."}
{"id": "t3_3y8b77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18/M) moved in with my SO (19/F) 6 months ago. Our relationship is being torn apart as we struggle with rent, and I can't move out since she has no family or anywhere to go.", "post": "Hi.\n\nI moved in with my girlfriend of a year during summer after High School. As far as it has turned out, that was a huge mistake. I have put school on hold just to keep her a home, and now she has lost her full time job and I am forced to work overtime and then put my dreams on hold to keep her homed.\n\nI can't do this anymore, either. Our relationship has deteriorated, my mental health has reached the point where I have to take days off work and I am currently taking Seroquel as well, so I am apathetic/tired most of the time. We're at each other's throats most of the time... and it's just getting worse. I thought moving in together would be amazing, but this has been incredibly stressful and while it was great at first, it turned out to be a nightmare.\n\nShould I just move out? I still love her, so I can't leave her homeless, but she isn't taking an initiative to get another job or find a roommate or somewhere else to live. She doesn't have any family - her father is a recovering meth addict, her mother's side doesn't know her since her mother had brain oxygen deprivation while my gf was a baby (her mother is now close to a vegetative state), and when she moved out of her uncle's, he cut ties with her and will not accept her back.\n\nI feel responsible for finding her a home, but I don't know how to go about this. She scored a 16 on her ACT so she cannot get into a college and pick up loans/work study to live in a dorm.\n\nAt what point do I just go back home to my parents? I just feel so cornered and don't know what to do. We've been talking about moving out for a few weeks now, and before that we talked about her finding another part-time job to help me pay rent. She hasn't made moves in either directions.", "summary": "Moved in with girlfriend, ended up badly. Now I can't leave or she'll be homeless."}
{"id": "t3_4hrczo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making lemonade", "post": "This happened a little less than a year ago during a summer heat-wave.\n\nIt was starting to get late into the evening, about 11PM or so. It was hotter than shit and I needed to be up early for work. I couldn't get to sleep because of the heat, so I decided making a cold beverage to cool off would be a great idea.\n\nAt that time I lived in a household with 5 other roommates, who were all man-children. Thus, dishes were in short supply year-round due to hording and I was in the habit of re-using bottles.\n\nNew roomy was in the kitchen making dinner when I got in there, his first night in the house. I put my Tazo Tea bottle I am re-using on the counter and pour in some lemon juice, sugar, water. And of course, I'm going to need some ice.\n\nPull ice out of the freezer, the first 3 cubes go in fairly easily. The 4th cube is significantly larger than the previous 3. Braindead and straight up zombified from the heat, I decide to force it in. Into the glass bottle. With my hand.\n\nI push down hard, then the fucking thing shatters and I am now power-shoving glass into the counter. This is when I realized I fucked up. I start screaming, blood is going everywhere, my new roommate is freaking the fuck out. Hand suddenly goes from covered-in-fire-ants to completely numb. Fortunately, new roomy at least had the sense to grab me a wad of paper towels to stop the bleeding.\n\nNearly shoved it through my hand. Everything still works, mostly, but I've got some weirdass nerve damage. The fact that I type for a living makes this interesting.", "summary": "I tried to force icecubes into a bottle while making lemonade; it broke, and almost shoved the bottle through my hand."}
{"id": "t3_15jeyf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Unsure of how to proceed or what to expect and it's making me crazy. A little outside perspective would be much appreciated.", "post": "So I [21/m] have went on 3 dates with a girl [25/f]. They have all went well and I have a massive crush on this girl. The last date (12/23) we spent cuddling on my couch and making out, and I told her I was looking for something serious and asked about her ex (they had still been talking when we first met) she said they were still friendly but she knew that would have to end if she started seeing someone. The night ended well and we agreed to hang out again. We texted a couple times while away for Christmas and things seemed okay. I asked we yesterday when we could see eachother again and she said tonight would be good, awesome right? I texted her this afternoon to ask her of she was okay with going to a new museum exhibit with me and she responded with \"my friend from out of town is visiting and we haven't seen each other in years so I don't think I can hang out\" I know the excuse is legit Ecauae she mentioned this a few days ago, but why would she agree to hang out tonight?? I told her its cool and to let me know when she is free again. So what do I do? Wait for her to text? Text her in a few days if I don't hear from her? I really like this girl and don't want her to slip away, but I also don't want to be \"that guy\" messaging her all the time and continually being shot down. the whole situation has me pretty bummed out.", "summary": "me and new girl have been hitting it off. She flaked on plans today. Am I reading too much into this? How do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_11qxt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If I (21M) can think of several of her faults (19F) does that mean I should break up with her?", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. I've come to the point where a lot of the things she does really piss me off. I'm not going to list all of them. Am I being unreasonable?\n\n1. Not independent, she always assumes I can drive her, but when I bring up the issue of her not having a drivers licence and needing to get one (she lives a 30 minute walk from nearest bus stop) she will get angry.\n\n2. She's extremely inexperienced with life in general eg. Doesn't understand social ethics and their consequences (told a guy she just met he looks 33, when he was 21). I feel more like a big brother than a boyfriend sometimes\n\n3. Low sex drive, I'm the kind of guy who needs sex 3+ times a week, she's ok with no sex for months at a time.\n\n4. Often late, and she's just very slow eg. It takes me ~20 seconds from turning off the car engine to leaving the car, it takes her ~3 minutes to collect her stuff (all in the one bag) and get out of the car. (I'm not a very patient person)\n\nI feel like I'm always waiting on her, whether it's because she's late, or because she doesn't have as much experience as me and I need to *coach* her. I've talked about her with all these issues and her response is always I'll change/I'm sorry it won't happen again. \n\nI can think of many more faults that bug me. I assume that in most relationships there are always going to be faults, but how many is too many? I've already had thoughts regretting I didn't find a girl who was a bit older and mature. Does that mean I should break up with her?", "summary": "Can find several faults with gf, does that mean I should break up?"}
{"id": "t3_322an0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while trying to set a good example", "post": "Despite being promoted and qualified to train new crew where I work for several months, this was my first time formally training someone.\n\nI won't say exactly where I work, but a big part of the trainee's job is making coffee.  Once it got later in the evening, I showed her how to properly \"break down\" a coffee station, because we only needed one running for the rest of the night.\n\nI took out one of the decanters, and dumped a filter full of used grinds into the garbage can.\n\nAt least, I intended to.\n\nI put my arm over the sink instead.  Muscle memory kicked in, and I watched helplessly as the filter full of grinds fell *SPLAT!* into the sink.\n\nThe trainee didn't say anything, but I scrambled to clean up the mess.  I spent the rest of the shift trying to prove that I know what I'm doing.", "summary": "got nervous while training someone for the first time, made a trainee-level mistake as a result."}
{"id": "t3_31cbhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] feel like my girlfriend [22F] is embarrassed of me", "post": "Together for 4 months.\n\nLet me begin by stating that she hates PDA.\n\nShe doesn't like to be affectionate in public.  We don't hold hands.  We don't hug.  Rarely sit next to each other when with friends.\n\nShe never likes taking pictures of us together.  She loves to Snapchat, but we're never in the same picture.\n\nWhen she introduces me to her friends, it's rarely as her boyfriend.\n\nWe never made it \"Facebook official\" even though she's done it with her previous boyfriends.\n\nMy friend was surprised when I told him my gf and I were together.  We just never acted like a couple in the couple of weeks he's seen us together.\n\nWhen I ask her about it, she says she's simply uncomfortable with PDA.  She asks if I want her to be more affectionate.  I mentioned more affection couldn't hurt, but nothing's changed.\n\nOnce in a while, she'll grab my hand when we're in an area where no one we know is around.  But she'll immediately release my hand when she sees someone she knows.\n\nWe're still affectionate in private.  Still have sex.\n\nAm I just imagining things?  I don't suspect she's cheating on me.  We spend a lot of time together and I trust her.  But it's gotten to the point where I don't like hanging around her in public.  I've begun turning down her invites to group events knowing we'd act like strangers or distant friends.", "summary": "Girlfriend is distant around me in public.  Feeling like she's ashamed of me."}
{"id": "t3_2sf3lq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my s/o [20M] of nine months, got into our first fight. How do i deal with this?", "post": "Backstory about myself before I begin: This is my first real relationship. I've never really dated because I had never really seen the point. I am now dating my best friend. We never really fight but instead just talk through our problems any time we have them. We both have anxiety issues but I still have not been able to conquer mine...\n\nLong story short, my boyfriend and I got into our first real fight over something I've done(about 2 months ago). I can confidently say that I royally fucked up. I lost his trust. He almost broke up with me a few days before Christmas but we decided to try to fix the problem instead. \n\nThe best way to explain what I've done without saying too much is saying that he told me something very personal and it scared me. I went to a friend(who I thought I could trust) for advice on the problem because I was genuinely scared and didn't know what to do. (It was one of those situations where I felt that I couldn't go to him to tell him how I felt nor could I figure out how I felt at the moment) Before I could tell him that I had told her, she got mad at me over something stupid and told him that I told her.\n\nBasically what I'm asking is, how do I go about gaining his trust again and proving that I love him and that I want to be with him?", "summary": "I screwed up and lost my s/o's trust. What can I do to make things better while he's giving me a second chance?"}
{"id": "t3_46aw21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [23 F] asked me if I wanted a ride [26 M], am I overthinking it?", "post": "There's this girl at my church who I really like, I don't think I've ever really been too forward about it all that much, but knowing me, maybe she knows already, or has kind of guessed it.\n\nAnyways, I go to Bible Study with my dad every week. Sometimes I pick him up from his house, sometimes he picks me up from mine, makes it easier on gas that way. Last week once it ended, I went out to my car and waited for my dad to finish up putting the microphones away. I was just sitting on the hood/front bumper looking at the stars when she leaves as well. Out of the blue she just asked me if I needed a ride home, and I said I'm okay, but thanks for asking. It would've been out of her way to give me a ride too.\n\nWhen I got home I was wondering about the situation, and I don't know if I'm overthinking this, but I was baffled by why she asked me. I was there for one thing, so I obviously had a means to get there and if I didn't have a way to get home it wouldn't make sense for me to go in the first place, not to mention I was sitting on the hood. \n\nI want to ask her out on a date, but could I maybe take this as a sign that she's interested in me, or at least trusts me? I know myself personally I wouldn't offer a ride to someone (especially one where I'd be going out of my way to do so) I don't trust or feel comfortable with. If any women are reading this, would you offer a ride to a guy who is mostly an acquaintance to you?", "summary": "Girl from church that I like offered me a ride home, which she would have gone out of her way if I accepted. Am I overthinking it in that this might be an indication she's interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_38sur6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) new girlfriend (22F) doesn't like that I live with my ex (22F).", "post": "I was with my ex for a total of 3 years and lived with her for 2 before we broke up. One year later, I still live with her.\n\nWe both decided our lives were going different ways, and we knew one of us would end up being unhappy if we were forced to chose one direction of life instead of the other.\n\nSo, we broke up. We decided to continue to live together since the lease had already been signed and we were still going to be best friends (still are). Things were somewhat awkward at first, and sometimes we slipped up (sex..), but we are pretty much just friends/roomates now. I do still love her though, it's just different now.\n\nNow, I have a new girlfriend. After a few months of dating, I decided to tell her the situation between me and my ex. I figured it would come out eventually anyways. One of my buddies would have probably drunkenly mentioned it. Perhaps I should have told her in the beginning?\n\nLong story short, she doesn't want me to live with her. She doesn't mind (or so she says) that we are friends. The thing is, I would have to somehow get out of the lease and find a new place/roomates, which is not that easy.\n\nI really do like my new girlfriend, and I think we might to somewhere. So what do I do?", "summary": "I live with my ex (who is my best friend). My new girlfriend doesn't want me to."}
{"id": "t3_ac0eg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, What's Been Your Favorite or Most Interesting Job?", "post": "I have to say that I've been pretty lucky on the job front. All of the various jobs I've had so far has had at least some kind of perk. My favorite though, as a lover of food, has got to be the time I was a line cook at a relatively upscale restaurant. Being that it was only me and two other line cooks closing every night with no management around, we were able to basically cook anything we wanted for ourselves whenever we wanted. Over the course of the two years I worked there, I had my fair share of top shelf filet mignons, NY strip steaks, lobster, and salmon. The only downside to the job was having to work holidays and the 30 pounds I gained from consuming all that deliciousness everyday. But it was worth it.\n\nWhat about the rest of you?", "summary": "I got fat on free steaks and seafood as a line cook"}
{"id": "t3_18v8js", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In need of advice. Deadbedroom 2 yrs. First 3 yrs were amazing!", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for five years. For the first three years my fiance [F] wanted to have sex almost more than I could handle. Several times a week/multiple times a day.... Then we ended college. She had a very stressful job and was always stressed out/too tired/not in mood... I think I've heard almost every reason under the sun why it wasn't a good time. Because of this our relationship suffered because we started to fight and this leaked into other areas of our relationship. This has continued through to today.\n\nWe both love each other and for the most part don't get really heated unless it has to do with intimacy. \n\nSo here's where I reach out to all you Redditors! WE both have new jobs and feel much better and more confident in our lives. Much better spot. My libido has essentially not changed since college but we still don't have sex. \n\nBottom line....we didn't have sex as much which led to fighting. Then we were fighting because we didn't have sex. Now the fighting is spilling over into other areas b/c we don't have sex. \n\nWe've stopped the extra fighting and I have said that we won't even try having sex until April, but does anyone out there have any tips, advice, similar story, suggestions? Anything is helpful. I love her and she loves me we just want to make it better.", "summary": "Sex frequently when in college, stressful jobs after college led to no sex. No sex led to fighting. Both have new jobs and feel more confident but no sex lingers and fiance is anxious about having sex now because we have fought about it so often."}
{"id": "t3_2xe47g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] am mad at my [23 F] girlfriend for letting her mom [53 F] coach our relationship.", "post": "My girlfriend and I recently moved to her hometown of Pittsburgh, PA after graduating college together and moved in with her mother after 3 years of dating each other. Her mother is a very helpful and nice lady. She cooks dinner every night. She folds all of our laundry. I was applauded by this because my mother never even treated me this well. It scared me to be honest. I wondered \nwhat was she wanting in return for being extremely nice about this situation?\n It all hit me like a wave after being the victim of a hit-and-run car accident two days ago. *At this point in the relationship my girlfriend and I don't live with her mother anymore after living in PA for 6 months.* After the accident my girlfriend kept asking me for pictures of my car to see how badly damaged my 2 month old 2015 VW GTI was. Basically, her mom wanted to know how much my car is worth by seeing pictures of it that my girlfriend sends her. Also, her mother wanted to know where I was going at the time of the wreck since it happened after I should have already been home from work. It just seems like its an issue that is none of her business. Her mother is very condescending. It seems like she is always intruding into our relationship during important moments that should just be my girlfriend and I to make as we begin our journey into adulthood. \n\nHow do I stop my girlfriends mom from patronizing my girlfriend and I?", "summary": "My girlfriends mom is condescending, hit me after I was in a car accident."}
{"id": "t3_35twww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28/F] just broke up with my bf[35/M] of only 6 months. I just found out that I was pregnant. I have no intention of keeping it and need to act fast. Does he have a right to know? Throwaway account btw.", "post": "Ok, so a bit of a (short) back story. Just to give you an idea of the circumstances. We have been official about 6 months. We have gotten very serious in this time but have both decided that kids were definitely something that neither of us wanted. Lately things have just been so rocky that he decided to call it quits on me. Up until now, I have always been the one to mend the situation whether I was right or wrong. But this time I decided I had enough and wasn't going out of my way to make things right this time. And nor do I care to. I don't want to use this pregnancy as an excuse to contact him or make him think that's what I am doing. Am I wrong for getting an abortion behind his back? Does he have the right to know? Or put in his two cents? Remember that this is the guy who walked out on me and has never taken my feelings into consideration. I'm getting the abortion regardless. I am just torn as whether or not to tell him. Any guys input on how they might feel if this was them? Girl input who have done this to a guy before? Any two cents is appreciated. Thanks guys!", "summary": "I found out I was pregnant after a break up and haven't spoken to him since. I want to abort the fetus but am not sure if I am obligated to reach out to him."}
{"id": "t3_2papze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, (M23), feel like I can't actually be in love.", "post": "It is kind of difficult to explain my issue online without being misunderstood, but here I go. \nSo, here's the story: I have so far been in one relationship in my life, about one year ago. We got interested in each other, developed feelings and I at least *think* I fell in love, but after a few weeks, I kind of felt satisfied with love, like I've had my share. She started complaining about how I should call her often to let her know that I love her miss her. I didn't know what to think at that point. It's kind of like my feelings just are flipped on and off like a switch at random every new day that went. We ended up talking about it and we decided we should remain friends and broke up after five weeks together. \n\nSo there I was, single again and kind of wanting to date again, to fall in love again. I have up until now scrolled through hundreds or thousands of girls profiles on different dating sites and apps. I've found some interesting girls from time to time, and I've tried letting my heart open up for feelings, and I can feel the tingly butterflies in my stomach sometimes or a heart skip beat some other times. But I keep coming back to the conclusion that I can't seriously fall in love with that girl, and I can for the life of me not get why. I have my suspicions that this is connected to me losing my virginity and thus have become emotionless and stopped caring about many things on my free time. I do not like the person I have become. \n\nI should note that I am diagnosed with Asbergers syndrome and the \"not feeling anything, like emotions\" sometimes is connected to my love troubles. \n\nI don't have a solution to my problems, even though I might have the answers to some of them. \n\nMaybe this is something many adult men (and possibly women too) have gone through in their younger years.  Please share any advice if you have any.", "summary": "I wanna know what love is!  And I'd like someone to show me, (or explain to me)"}
{"id": "t3_1irgdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [M/23] of three weeks has blocked me [F/23], a week later unblocked me and then a week later again blocked me. We went out for 5 months. Why is he doing this?", "post": "We've been broken up *officially* for about three weeks, he dumped me because of long distance.  Said he still loved me, maybe its true, I don't know.  First time he blocked me I told him to do it because I couldn't stop myself from talking to him.  A week later, he unblocks me.  A week later, he blocks me again.  \n\nI don't know why, I haven't been tried to contact him since the first time he blocked me.  And we're not friends, so its not like I show up on his feed or can see that much on his profile. \n\nI mean if he just wanted to see my page and then block me right away, why did he wait a week?  Why block me again? I wasn't bugging him\n\nDon't tell me I shouldn't care because he's my ex, because I do care, because I still love him and want to know why he's doing this. \n\nAnd yes, I'll own up to that I creep his page, what little I can see of it.  But I miss him.", "summary": "My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me even though we are not friends on facebook and I haven't tried contacting him, even though I love him."}
{"id": "t3_2awqtl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I let go? [19/m][18/f]", "post": "This Girl was going out with my former Best Friend. We didn't fall out he join the Navy and we grew apart. His Girlfriend was really nice, she started not liking this man and came to me with her problems... over time I fell for her but couldn't tell her because she was going out with my Bestfriend. When she broke up with him she waits a week and starts going out with another one of my friends. It doesn't go well 3 weeks later she get dumped. She then goes of and Fucks a randomer and the second Boyfriends brother. A couple of months down the line I have a new (not new just another) Best Friend but still consider her a Best Friend as well. Then she goes out with my new Best Friend. All this time I have had feelings for this Girl and have never said anything due to her always moving on to someone else before I have the chance to tell her my feeling. I understand that she probably doesn't feel the same way as I do to her. I just don't know what to do this is the second best friend that she has gone out with and I feel due to my feeling I start to lose my Best Friend due to her taking up all their time. I know I should have forgotten off her existence along time ago but she hangs out in my friend group and she still considers me one of her best friends as much as I consider her one of my Best Friend.  \n\nHow to you not have these feelings or am I going to have to deal with it until time sorts it out?", "summary": "I Love A girl, she considers me a Good Friend but probably doesn't love me. How do I stop Loving her?"}
{"id": "t3_3efupo", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NC] My step-father is cosigning a loan for my sister's house for a wedding gift without my mother's consent.", "post": "Just a few minutes ago, my mother had a conversation with me about some financial issues with my step-sister's (I'll just refer to her as my sister from here on out) upcoming wedding. Here's some background knowledge: my sister, let's call her Susan, works on a farm; her fiance, Nick, is in a small time band. To put it bluntly, they are a pretty poor couple, and they have difficulty keeping up with basic necessities. To make matters worse, financially, they have a baby on the way.\n\nMy step-father agreed to cosign a loan for $250,000 to purchase a house. This is not a downpayment, this is for the entire mortgage. From what I understand, my parents will be stuck with the entire mortgage if my sister cannot pay for it (and she won't be able to pay for it).\n\nThis was all without my mother's knowledge, and she is losing her mind. She doesn't want to go to the wedding now and she's getting a marriage counselor. She is trying to come up with some other way to work this out, any way she doesn't have to cosign a loan.\n\nMy step-father will not back down since Susan claims to have found their \"dream house\" and it is \"perfect for their new family\". The thing is that they can't get a loan to purchase a house because their credit is absolutely horrendous due to their lackluster history as debtors.\n\nI really don't know how to resolve this. My mom and I had a really long conversation about what to do, since if my sister misses the payments we'll be screwed. I'm in school right now, and those payments are enough for my family to pay for.\n\nUltimately, I just want to be able to support my mom right now since I think my step-father is clearly in the wrong here. What's the best way to go about supporting her in this situation without alienating the whole family?\n\nMy mother is just asking about what legal precautions to take right now to protect her assets. She isn't sure if she needs a lawyer, or anything really. She doesn't necessarily want a divorce yet, either.", "summary": "Step-father about to cosign a massive loan for my sister's wedding without my mom's permission, and now my mom is losing her mind and threatening not to go to the wedding."}
{"id": "t3_246be1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does it bother me so much when my boyfriend talks about his exes?", "post": "I [F 23] have been dating my boyfriend [M 30] for a year and five months. He is great and I know he loves me with all his heart. He never gives me any reason to be jealous and I know I can trust him 100%. However he sometimes talks about his exes and it drives me crazy. At the beginning of our relationship he would do it a lot and he would go on and on about them. After I got more comfortable I told him that it bothered me a lot and he stopped and he would also reassure me that I was the only one for him. But then eventually he would be telling me a random story and it would somehow deviate into talking or mentioning one of his exes. He hasn't done it in a while but did it again today and I did my usual just saying quiet while he talks about the ex and let him just get it all out. But today he said that he didn't like having to be so careful about if he mentions his exes or not because it shouldn't matter to me because he loves me and only wants to be with me. \n\nAnd for the record, I don't talk about the guys in my past. The only time I've told him about one of my exes was because we ran into his (my ex's) dad at the movie theater and I acted beyond awkward.\n\nI honestly understand and I'm aware that the issue is mine and not his. So if someone can give me some insight on why I feel this way please let me know. I know that the past is in the past and it shouldn't bother me, but when it happens I just cant help but getting extremely upset. Also, if you have any tips on how to work on my issue I would appreciate them greatly. By the way, sorry for any wonky formatting, I'm posting this from my mobile.", "summary": "I get very jealous and upset when my boyfriend talks about his exes."}
{"id": "t3_23lu1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [22 F] of 7 months, she moved for me but isn't pulling the weight she agreed to...", "post": "My girlfriend, who I really love and care about, moved from LA to London to be with me. In doing this she went from full-time to freelance (she is a nutrition consultant and her work is now internet based). She spent the little savings she had flying back and forth to visit me, and then on her move. Since she got here 3 months ago, she hasn't been pulling her weight financially. We discussed that she would pay for half the rent/water/grocery/etc., but it's been more like 1/3.\n\nI am willing to support her for a little while since I understand that moving took its financial toll on her, but I also am starting to worry about her. She is hardly working anymore, maybe 10 hours week vs her usual 30 back in LA. She also hasn't made any friends here and relies on me to go everywhere with her, as if she is scared of this new city.\n\nI don't understand what happened to the LA girl she once was... she was so independent and happy but since moving here she just seems depressed and unmotivated. She complains of homesickness often, and it's really exhausting for our relationship. She talks about moving back to LA but frankly, that would be the end of our relationship because I do not want to live there. What do I do?", "summary": "GF MOVED ABROAD FOR ME, IS NOW DEPRESSED AND UNMOTIVATED... WHAT TO DO?"}
{"id": "t3_4enxh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] wants to do something nice for my friend [17M] who I am no longer going to the prom with, what can I do.", "post": "So Look I posted here earlier asking how do I tell my friend I am no longer going to the prom with him because I have another date. \n\nI feel fucking awful because he is hell bent on working. I said I was sorry to him at school he said it is fine he is working. But I just feel bad that he has chosen to work rather than the prom and just hang out. \n\nWhat can I do to make it up to him?\n\nBecause I was told all day how mean what I did was, and I want it to stop", "summary": "what can I do to make it up to a friend I am no longer going to a prom with, because I found another date?"}
{"id": "t3_133x14", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think I'm dating a female player and I'm not totally sure how to play it, can someone explain? details in text.", "post": "Whenever she and I have a fight, I just recently found out she always has a different guy she texts/fb chats about and she mentions reminiscing old times with said guy.  She is VERY flirty especially when she drinks.\nI found out she was flirting with one of her ex hookups over fb chat yesterday and flipped out saying its bullshit and she shouldn't talk to other guys if she wants to date me.  She started crying and has been begging me to take her back... I don't know what to do.  I don't necessarily think she'd physically cheat on me, but it seems like she has 101 backup guys that she's always talking to.\n\nAnyways we're in some sort of limbo relationship state right now, I'm not sure if I want to keep dating her bc deep down she seems like a player, but that being said, she cares about me a lot considering she started crying when I told her I've had enough.\n\nI don't know what to do Reddit, help me? (also we've been together for 9 months, but the past month shes been distant and started talking to other guys).", "summary": "dating a female player is pissing me off, I broke things off but she says she'll change. Idk what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3zx9j2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend[16 F], I found out her mother died last night (cancer). Advice on what to say and help her out.", "post": "Hello Reddit.  As the title says, my friend's mother died over night last night.  Yesterday, I was texting her and she said she was rather stressed out.  She said it was because her mother only have 5 months to live (I knew her mother had cancer and was attempting treatment).  I said I was extremely sorry, but the topic didnt stay on that much longer and eventually changed.  But, this morning I woke up with a text from her saying that her mom was dead from over night.  This was obviously unexpected.\n\nHer father is not in the picture, and hasnt been since she was a child.  He was not a good man so he was not involved in her life.  I'v never been in this situation before, so I would like some advice from maybe some adults who have some experience with this.  She is likely to have an uncle to be a caretaker.\n\nI wont be around that much longer.  I am going away over the summer to do research at a nearby college, and then I start actual college after that (I am a senior this year).  I am not \"extremely\" close to her, but what can I do to help? even if its just a little.  I like baking and stuff, would it be okay to make her some food in these first few early weeks?  What should I say, should I just listen to what she has to say?\n\nI heard from one of her best friends that she wasn't doing very well (obviously it has only been one day) and I haven't been in contact with her today very much.", "summary": "Friend's mother died today.  Advice on how to make her feel better, and see if I can help her out, even just a little bit?"}
{"id": "t3_2o8er8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [30 F] of 4 years, we worked thing out after her infidelities, but not sure that I love her anymore...", "post": "A little over a year ago I discovered that my wife had been having a months long affair.\n\nDuring the time that she was sleeping with another man, her and I rarely had sex ourselves. She explained to me that this was due to a loss of libido and eventually started to see a sex-therapist over it.\n\nIt turns out she was seeing the therapist in order to figure out what she wanted...me or the guy on the side/divorce. I eventually discovered the affair (Had my suspicions and snooped on her phone).\n\nNot much of an argument occurred, but she was obviously sorry and upset. I was hurt and pissed. At the time she was a stay-at-home mom to our infant son. I told her to leave and go to her parents while I sorted things out. After several days I was even more miserable...I missed our son... and even her little bit. We went to counseling and \"worked things out.\"\n\nToday, many, many month later, what I thought was a marriage on the mend has turned stale. We rarely have sex (Despite my consistent come-ons and attempts to make her life around the house easier.)...just like when she was cheating...as a result I am constantly suspicious. She claims she is not cheating, and really has given me no reason to suspect her, despite the lack of sex. However, our marriage has started to feel more like roommates. I love her a lot, but more in a \"caring way\" and not the \"I can't imagine my life with out you!\" way. And as a result, I often fantasize about a life without her. \n\nI guess I'm just curious if there are others out there in a similar spot. I don't know if it's the rarity of sex, or the fact that I can forgive her cheating but not forget, or what, but I m feeling anxious and don't know what to do next. Do I tough it out for my amazing son, who I see so much less if we separated, and hope/work to make things better?", "summary": "Wife had a months long affair. I forgave her, but can't forget. Just don't know what to do and feel lost."}
{"id": "t3_2csk9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriends relationship with his child's mother is making me very uncomfortable.", "post": "I (f22) have been with my SO (m27) for a while now. Our relationship is not perfect,  like most, but we make it.  I definitely am in love with him, despite some of the bullshit we have been through,  and I believe he loves me too. He has a child, we get along perfectly,  I love her to pieces, she is great. The both have become a huge part of my life. My boyfriend has lied to me A LOT in the past,  he came clean about some of it, but I cannot help but be insecure. I absolutely hate feeling like I can't trust him, we are both working to improve this aspect of our relationship. He has never cheated on me that I know of, I doubt he would, but I am very uncomfortable with the relationship he has with his kids mom. I have met her, she is nice enough, and I completely understand that they need to communicate to coparent, sometimes I feel that he is trying a little to hard to be friends with her. In the past he has confided in her, rather than talking to me, he has talked about our relationship to her, he texts her daily, and not always about their child. He has gotten very defensive with me when discussing her, he has compared me to her and brought her up in conversation. This week he mentioned that he wants her to do the drop offs with their child and not her SO, this was never an issue before. I have talked to him about it many times, he probably just thinks I am crazy, but it is really upsetting, as as it should be! How do I get to the bottom of this? Is it normal? Should I be worried? He is really secretive with his phone also. I'm going crazy over here.", "summary": "boyfriend is too friendly with the mother of his child."}
{"id": "t3_35wfjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15 M] need help with convincing my father to let me move in with my Mother", "post": "I'm attempting to move in with my Mom, who lives in Maryland, from my dad's place in Florida. They've been divorced for 8 years, and are really opposed to each other.\n\nI want to move to my mom's, since she happens to live in Annapolis, which is where my dream college, The Naval Academy, is. I currently live in a backwater town in central Florida, with no opportunities whatsoever, except for the International Baccalaureate Program at my high school (which I'm not in anyways, since none of the Service Academies look at anyways). Annapolis is a much better place, with more just *things* in general; in addition to a better education (I may go to a Military Boarding School) and social setting. Also, my mom is a better person in general, being open about her mistakes and leveling with me, while my dad is a shady car dealership manager that constantly smokes dope and is an avid bullshitter about his mistakes and what he's done.\n\nSo now that you have the backstory, it seems obvious that my mom's is a better place; so now onto the limiting factor. My Father. We've talked about the issue, and his entire reasoning is that *here* is a better place, with nothing to back it up. He doesn't even have custody of me, I was just forced to live here because my mom moved due to her losing her house. He has the illusion that I love it here, and that he has full custody of me. \n\nMy main dilemma is this: I want to live with my mom for sure, but my father won't willingly let me go. My mom is willing to take it to court, but all the files and papers she needs are down here in Florida. The case itself might not take long, being that I'm of age to decide with whom I live with (and that there have been custody battle before, all of which my father has lost) but the arrangement of it will.\n\nAny help on how to resolve this issue in the next couple of months? I want to be living with my mom before the next school year.", "summary": "My dad's being a douche about me moving to my mom's, and I want to get this settled before too long"}
{"id": "t3_30wqf6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my crush I liked her", "post": "So just like everyone else this happened a few weeks ago. So this french girl moved to my school and the first time I saw her I knew I liked I didnt know what Is was about her but I just did. So me being a shy kinda guy I never talked to this girl ever but I had the great idea to tell her I liked her.....on Facebook. So I type out this message and don't have the courage to send it keep going back and changing it until eventually I hit send. Now I'm sitting shaking because I'm so nervous. It took all my courage to send message and guess what.......she doesn't fucking reply. I,know she saw it and I'm sure she told her cousin because she added me on Facebook a couple hours later. She also told her friends I'm guessing so that's great. Now she won't look at me and I don't think she likes me but I don't know. I then deleted the message and unfriended her on Facebook (well done me)", "summary": "asked crush out on facebook she ignored me and told her friends"}
{"id": "t3_1u8f5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] got a happy birthday text from my ex [25 F] after 2 months of no contact. How should I proceed?", "post": "I posted a little about this on OffMyChest but I feel like I need more advice than to just let it out.\n\nSo yesterday was my birthday and my ex texted me a happy birthday. After 2 months of no texting and me doing my best to avoid looking at her facebook or anything I texted her back saying thanks. We texted a little bit, not much after and I hate to say it but after doing it I felt like shit. I don't know if it was because she told me how she doesn't remember where she parked her car or what but the rest of the day I felt off. My mind raced with ideas, did she go home drunk with some guy? Did they have sex? Or was she with a new boyfriend? Or did she go out with friends? Why am I thinking about this? I've been having trouble not thinking about her and this didn't help.\n\nI'm doing my best to move on from her. I'm going to the gym and trying to do new things, although this -10 degree weather in Wisconsin isn't helping me get out. I'm afraid that she will take my responses as she can start texting me again. I don't want to talk to her. I'm not ready to. Every time I do I feel worse. Should I tell her this? Should I just ignore her texts? Last time we texted I told her I didn't think it'd be a good idea to hang out and she got mad it seemed and didn't text me until now. I guess I want to be honest with her and tell her that texting her ruins my day but I don't want her mad at me again. Maybe I shouldn't care either way.\n\nHow should I proceed with this? I'm asking you guys because I feel like my friends are getting annoyed if I talk about her to them. Like I should be over this by now and they're tired of hearing about her.", "summary": "My ex texted me after 2 months of no contact to wish me a happy birthday. I'm afraid she will take that as an opening to keep texting me. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_432qzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] dating [25F] for 2 months, messed up by being to forward with my feelings?", "post": "Dabbled in online dating end of 2015, got some dates out of it. One I really fancied and followed up a couple of times. Last date was in the first week of January. We've been messaging each other nearly daily, but not sending a ton of messages. I'm not a great texter so I like to keep that to a minimum.\n\nAnyway, I asked her out on a 4th date a few days after our 3rd. She says she can't on the 2 days I'm free. Fair enough. Next week I'm pretty sick and have been in bed for a few days, but texting continues (we both initiate convo's, send funny/interesting pictures). Week after I try again, says she's busy again,  but suggests a day a week after. I'm free that day so we set the date.\n\nShe cancels 3 days beforehand, but says we should do it another time. I blabbered out on the phone that I really do like her and want to make this relationship happen. And that she should just tell me if she thinks this is going nowhere. She says she doesn't know yet, but would like to meet up again. No clear date set though, just 'when we're both free'. We said our good nights and that was that.\n\nIt's been 4 days now, I haven't messaged her, she hasn't messaged me. Is this over?", "summary": "3 good dates, kissed her, nothing more physical though    "}
{"id": "t3_l3o24", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Housemate has terrible decorating taste... help.", "post": "I'm a 22 year old college student, living off campus in an apartment with other college students.  Two of the housemates do not care about how the house is decorated, and rarely make contributions.  The other makes all sorts of decorating contributions - but many of them are HORRIBLE.  She gets a lot of stuff from her grandparents and parents, and to say these things are dated is a huge understatement.  She has porcelain sheep and a lamp with a cat on the base that she thinks are \"so cute!\", as well as old-lady floral print paintings in tacky gold frames hanging up.\n\nI'm no professional, but I like to have things simple and tasteful and coordinated.  I'm willing to buy various things for our house to make it look a lot better, but I don't know how to deal with these tacky items without offending :(\n\nHow would you deal with this, reddit?", "summary": "roomate decorates like a grandma, not sure how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_3c4sue", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking on a three day old blister. Potentially NSFL", "post": "I am currently touring Europe by train. About four days ago I got a rather anoying blister on the ball of my left foot. That evening I decided to pop it as it was slightly restricting my ability to walk. That seemed to sort things out and I was able to continue with my average 20 km (13 miles) a day of walking. Then this morning I woke up, put my foot on the floor and tried to stand up. I immediately fell back onto my bed as the blister was seriously painful. Immediately I assumed the worst, that it had become infected, so I walked down to the nearest Apoteke ( I'm in Berlin and the cobbled streets make that a lot harder than it sounds). Grabbed some antiseptic cream and cotton swabs and stumbled back to my room. I grabbed my first aid kit and removed the dead skin from the old blister. Then I realised that having not changed anything about my routine (shoes, sock style, distance walked) the blister had been worsened. Turns out I didn't have an infection, but two other blisters have now formed in the lower layers of my skin, underneath the original blister site.", "summary": "Walked a stupid amount on a blistered foot and two new ones formed in the remaining skin, under the original."}
{"id": "t3_2duw0s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Extremely cold.", "post": "Pretty simple. Had a few relationships last one was kinda messy... That being three years ago. Ever sinse I have been just really cold towards other people. I have friends and I enjoy their company but I just cannot see myself getting close to another woman both emotionally and physically. To be clear I am heterosexual and I do not have and feelings towards men. I tend to keep all females at a friend level even if they are blataintly make moves on me. Something is broken and I am not sure what. I have been noticing this problem but cannot figure out how to act on it. Troll me if you like I am just curious of what other people experience and think.", "summary": "Just interested in peoples experiences and advice"}
{"id": "t3_2iz12p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does he [M23] have feelings for me [F22] even though he's focusing on his career?", "post": "I dated a friend a couple summers ago and nothing came of it because he moved abroad for work. His brother passed away shortly thereafter and he didn't end up keeping in touch very much.\n\nHe came into town a few weeks ago and immediately wanted to see me. He ended up blowing off all of his friends to spend time with me and we cuddled and talked for several hours. (He tried to kiss me and I didn't let him, but we hung-out for a few more hours after that.)\n\nHe apologized several times for not keeping in touch better and for abruptly leaving to start his career. He said that he had a lot of fun last summer and would keep in touch a lot better from now on. I asked him flat out if he would've dated me if he'd stayed local, and he said he definitely would've thought about it because we are compatible in so many ways.\n\nHe then proceeded to give me his life plan. He says he wants to spent the next couple years developing his career abroad, but that he eventually wants to come back to the states and start a family. He says he's only had one serious relationship that lasted five years and has only liked two-three girls his whole life. (I was dying to ask whether I was one of those girls, but I resisted the temptation.)\n\nAnyways, he's moving abroad again and is visiting so many exciting places. But he's kept up on his promise to keep in touch. We've skyped once and have plans to skype again next week. He also reiterated that I can text him whenever I want and that it'd be a great way to keep in touch. He answers my text messages fairly quickly whenever I do have something to say to him.\n\nOkay, so I get he's not about to be my boyfriend any time soon. I'm also going to keep dating other people who are more local. But does he have feelings for me? Or am I just a friend who's convenient to cuddle with? I really want to know what he's thinking.", "summary": "My friend is traveling a lot for work, but seems to show signs of interest in me. Does he have feelings for me, or am I just convenient?"}
{"id": "t3_4yo97c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [28M] convince my girlfriend [28F] not to break up with me?", "post": "We have had a great relationship for 3 years, or so I thought. This week she broke down and told me she couldn't do this anymore, for me it was out of nowhere. At the time I didn't really push her to change her mind, but thinking more about it I don't want this to end as I care about her a lot. \nShe said there were a few problems but the primary one is that I am very emotionally distant. This can be true, I find it hard to express myself. But I thought she understood me and where I was coming from. She was very patient in the first year or two, but I assumed that this problem was improving because she didn't say anything for a few months now. She was always very upfront about her feelings which is why this was a shock to me. Do I give her the space and let it end? Do I try again, and if so how should I proceed? Am I missing something and maybe there were other problems? I am so used to her spelling things out, but with this surprising change I can't help but think she stopped opening up to me and maybe there are other problems she has with the relationship. If so then how do I fix it. I am so confused. I just know that I miss her and miss waking up next to her.", "summary": "Gf broke up with me seemingly out of nowhere, advice on how to win her back, or should I let her go?"}
{"id": "t3_3hv3nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "*Non-Romantic* Me(21f) with my parents 43M/46F, and SO(25M)", "post": "I've seen a therapist since I was 18 and came to college. Im known to have depression, major anxiety, and alcohol problems. Most recently my therapist has expressed she would like me to see a psychiatrist(my therapist being the liscences school counselor), for s mental health eval due to exhibiting signs of bipolar disorder. \n\nMy father has always seen mental illness as in your head, it's a crutch. You can come out of it if you try hard enough and just deal with life. My mother is a nurse and has told me on multiple occasions that I'm nuerotic(due to intense paranoid anxiety issues), and has conveyed to me in our most recent conversation that if I receive the evaluation I'm being talked Into having something I don't. \n\nMy SO has also expressed a dismissal of something wrong, starting that it is simply anxiety or depression and can be conquered by simply putting focus into pulling myself out of a funk. \n\nI don't know how to talk about things to them, or to address my therapist that I do not want to go through with the evaluation because of this. I feel. That what my family says holds more ground than my therapist's worries. Maybe it is just me being weak minded correct?", "summary": "Parents and SO have dismissed counsellors worry of bipolar disorder, stating I just need to deal and get over things. Are they right? Or is this something to get checked?"}
{"id": "t3_2hr7xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] don't know what to do about my crush [19 F] that isn't ready for a relationship", "post": "Hey guys! I know this isn't a usual post, but I really like this girl and need some advice on what to do. \n\nI [19 M] and this girl [19 F] live in a small town. I have never met anyone like her, or anyone else in this town that shares common interests with me like she does. I'm pretty big into bodybuilding and fitness, as is she.\n\nWhen we first started texting a couple weeks ago we talked constantly and always had great conversations. Then we watched the Olympia last weekend and had a blast! But all this week, for what seems like no reason, we've barley talked at all. \n\nLast night we finally had some real conversations again. I brought up the topic of our non - existent relationship, which she was completely cool talking about. Now I already knew she's had some really bad experiences with past relationships, more than anyone should have to go through, both emotionally and physically. \n\nShe says she's pretty fucked up emotionally, and has a really hard time letting herself connect with someone, and when she does, she get's scared and bails. That she tried not to be scared, because it keeps her from living and loving, but there's just so much sitting in her head. \n\nSo I've come to the understanding that she just isn't ready to handle a relationship right now, which I'm ok with, she will be worth it. \n\nWhat I don't know is what to do next. I want her to accept her feelings towards me, but I don't know what to do about it or if I can do anything about it at all. One day we'll be connecting amazingly and the next she wont talk to me. Any advice guys?", "summary": "Girl I like isn't ready for a relationship and I don't know what I can do about it."}
{"id": "t3_xw7ph", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I didn't really like the Sherlock Holmes series. What's the big deal, am I missing something?", "post": "I've read the Study in Scarlet and the Sign of Four so far. I wanted to see what the big fuss was about, because I had one particular friend that really enjoyed Holmes' adventures. \n\nI love Sherlock Holmes as a character, but to me his stories are a bit bland. I like books with thought provoking messages, and lessons. While it was pleasurable to read, I didn't feel absorbed in the stories and thus was always unsatisfied in the end. Like getting the giggles when what I really want is full hearty uncontrollable laughter.. something was just lacking. \n\nThe way the story is told was interesting at first, but by the second book it got repetitive for me. Too many flashbacks. \n\nI didn't really like the fact that Sherlock and Watson seem to be static characters, they don't change much. The side characters are linear and predictable, and the bad guys are too simple. The antagonists are driven by elementary goals and emotions such as greed, lust, and envy, so at times it felt a little childish for me to read onward.\n\nI really wanted to love the Sherlock Holmes because I know so many people that really enjoy Doyle's work. I hate to stop reading the adventures in a mid series. However, I feel like all of Sherlock's adventures follow a strict formula, and there wouldn't be much variety in them for me to thoroughly enjoy the book.", "summary": "I don't think the book is complex enough for me to thoroughly enjoy it. What am I missing?"}
{"id": "t3_4ltng7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I call my employer?", "post": "Okay so I applied for a Retail job a few weeks ago and I was offered the position. I had to wait a little more than a week for my background check to be approved. I got an email a few days ago saying that I am now officially part of the team and to call my manager to receive information about my schedule. I called them one day after receiving the email. And talked to the manager on duty and they told me to call back on Monday when the hiring manager is there, and to finish filling out the information that was on email that they sent to me. I finished filling out everything. And I called back today  The manager told me that my information wasn't complete. And I told her that I filled it out since Friday. She then told me that she has to check and finish the rest of what is need to be done on my application. And that she'd call me in 40-45mins after her lunch break. But she never called me and I don't want to be annoying and keep calling them. Is it okay to call them? Will that bother them?  And is there a chance that it will sabotage anything for me?", "summary": "Was offered a position and finally got to become part of their team after completing online work. Manager still hasn't given me my schedule and keeps forgetting to call me back. Is it okay to keep calling them?"}
{"id": "t3_1xdqip", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting sick", "post": "Technically this was yesterday, but oh well. \n\nSo, for the last few days my dad has had the flu. As you may of guessed, I stayed well away from him and though I was in the clear... well, until yesterday. It started out like any other friday, except that I felt a little more tired than usual. But I had had a long, slightly stressful week, so I didn't think anything of it. Well, I get through first, second, and third period just fine.\n\nDuring forth period, however, I started feeling a little queasy, so I excused myself to the bathroom. Now, as I started out the door my stomach decided it has had enough of trying to handle my breakfast and I feel the vomit rising in my throat. I'm running to the bathroom now, as fast as my sick little body can carry me. Almost there, ten yards away. Just as I reach for the handle, the door flies open and out comes another student. He greets me, and as I open my mouth to respond, the floodgates burst open. That poor sap got soaked and let out a scream. \n\nI ran to the sink to finish ridding my stomach of that foul semi-liquid. After that I went home and have been alternating throwing up and sleeping. Man, I feel bad for that poor kid.", "summary": "Got sick, threw up all over someone."}
{"id": "t3_2hyhfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Ex? [18F] Dated 2 years, Broke up because of college, Wrong decision?", "post": "My GF and I were dating for 2 years in High School, sounds ridiculous but i thought i was going to marry this girl.  We ended up choosing different schools with enough distance between them that regular visits wouldnt be possible.  We talked a bunch about what our plans would be once school started, and decided that breaking it off mutually when we left would be the best idea.\n\nSo we left for college and broke up.  Basically stopped talking cold turkey because of how busy we were.  When we did talk it was weird because we both were living in this fallout of a life where we missed the intimacy and company of each other.  So last night we talked about reconnecting, maybe trying the long distance thing.  \n\nI dont know if breaking up was the wrong decision, or if trying to reconnect would be.\n\nIm truly lost for the first time in my life and just looking for some guidance.", "summary": "GF and I broke up because of college, we both still have stong feelings and miss each other.  Maybe reconnecting for long distance."}
{"id": "t3_1kes7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think me, M(30) am crazy (F25). She's not cheating on me", "post": "I have no reason to think that my SO is cheating on me.  Besides the fact that shes not a big texter, things are fine. she tells me she loves me and when I'm sad, shes there for me.\n\nShe's an attractive girl and she gets hit on quite a bit. I try to remain calm and remind myself that shes with me and not them. But...\n\nAt every juncture and moment that I'm not with her I think shes planning these elaborate escape plans and furtive rendezvous with other men. Clearly these are all delusions but I cannot let them go. \n\nWe've been together a year and my delusions have only been worse. We dont have passionate \"honey-moon phase\" sex anymore and I dont think she **wants** me like she used to. Shes still loving and kind to me.\n\nIf she doesnt get back to me in a couple of hours, all I can think of is her with another guy. I have some serious trust issues and I'm wondering how I can trust her.", "summary": "pretty sure I'm crazy and have serious trust issues. How can I trust my gf?"}
{"id": "t3_3zd1rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[30/M] married friend[35/F] is making sexual advances on me.", "post": "Tammy and I met in college two years ago and both clicked fast. We were both late to the college party and surrounded by teens and early 30s, so we clicked. She has been married since she was 20 and has two kids. Her husband, Mike, works from home and supported her desire to go to college and takes care of their kids after school. \n\nOver the last two years we have gotten close, close enough to talk about our sex lives. She is happy with Mike and loves him and told me she wants to grow grey with him, but told me she never really got to explore and regrets getting with him so early. \n\nOver the last two months she has been making sexual remarks about me, and what we could do. Last week she told me she really wants to have sex with me and that it would be safer with me than if she went elsewhere.\n\nI am very uncomfortable with this. It has also caused me to lose respect for her. I do value the trust and respect between people in relationships, and this saddens me to think she is willing to risk her family for sex.\n\nI also consider myself a gay man. I have had sex with a few women, and don't discount it completely, but it is a very special moment for me that I will only do with certain women occasionally, and Tammy in not one. I've never told her I will get with women, she knows me as homosexual only. She says one of her fantasies is having sex with a gay man.\n\nI am conflicted on what to do. I do enjoy her as a friend, but I feel a line has been crossed that can't be returned from. I also feel bad for her husband and I am wondering if I should tell him. Is it my place to tell him she is propositioning me for sex?", "summary": "Married friend is making passes at me, unsure where to go from here"}
{"id": "t3_g06u9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit... My car was going to get towed, the guy was bribing me for money. WTF..", "post": "So bros like I'm outside smoken a cig at my buddies place. Tow truck pulls up, parks right behind my fucking car. Meanwhile in my head I'm all like \"HAH!, wonder who this assholes gonna get..\" turns out it was me. I sprint up to him we have a verbal argument, and during this time my buddy says to the towing guy \"Dude, why are you being such an asshole? You don't even have the car connected to anything yet, he can just drive away.\" Now keep in mind I was fully aware this towing guy was intoxicated. He says gimme 50 bucks and we'll call it even. At this point of realization I was sickened by his lack of humanity, stealing money off college kids... plain and simple.  I said fuck that got in my car and drove away. Although my other buddy \"not quite as ballzy as I\" ended up paying a 75 dollar bribe and got to park there the rest of the night, and my buddies sister got a free pass to park there  because she's cute so they didn't bribe her \"what gentlemen\". So here's the kicker, my buddy tells me when I left they wrote down my license plate# and they're charging me with something to lengths of fleeing the scene. Now I have a substantial amount of evidence to prove this guy was out of line, so you guys think I'd have a chance in fighting this if anything turns up? Thanks for your time.", "summary": "I dipped out on a tow truck driver and he's saying he is going to charge me with fleeing the scene... WTF? ... oh and he bribed me and my friend... I didn't pay it."}
{"id": "t3_18blxz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever won a sweepstakes, contest, or raffle? If so, what did you win?", "post": "I would like to hear your success stories. Here is mine. \n\nWhen I was in college attending a hockey game, I walked by the 50/50 raffle booth. I had always thought of entering, but as a poor college student a dollar was worth more at McDonalds than the odds were of winning. \n\nHowever, this time as I walked by I thought, what the hell, and dropped in two dollars. This was around Christmas time, so I was pretty poor. \n\nDuring the hockey game they announced the winner, and I ended up being the lucky draw.\n\nI won somewhere around 160$.\n\nIt was enough to buy a few Christmast presents that I wasn't able to afford prior to winning.", "summary": "Entered my last two dollars into a 50/50 raffle, won approx. 160$, and was able to buy some Christmast presents."}
{"id": "t3_4awr8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] seeing this girl [22 F] for a month now and shes raising red flags", "post": "So I met this chick online and we went on 3 dates together.  We get along great and we text often in between dates but there is something that seriously bothers me about her I am still new to the area so I let her choose the restaurants every time. The first place she chose wasn't that expensive it was like $40 dollars for both of us but when it came time for the bill she just gave me a stare like she expected me to pay granted I was going to anyways but I would of liked for her to at least offer. This continued for the 2nd and 3rd date $65 and $55 dollars. Now I don't care about the money but its quite a turn off for a girl to expect a guy to pay without at least offering her half because it makes me feel used. Some side notes would be shes from the UK and in between dates she would text me shoes and dresses she wants to buy but doesn't have the money. Am I reading too much into this or does this sound shady?", "summary": "Dating a chick online for a month and she doesn't offer to pay her share."}
{"id": "t3_3qyu79", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[24M] Hanging out with girl [25F] \u2013 and her ex?", "post": "[As you'll notice, I'm very inexperienced in all this]\n\nI've had an intermittent crush on this girl for quite a few years, and only recently noticed a great opportunity to start talking to her, and things have been going quite well. I even manage to stay incredibly calm and composed when with her, and that's never happened when hanging out with other girls. \n\nThe second time we arranged to meet (wouldn't call it a date though) was at a gym, where she met (or went) with her ex. They seemed to be good old friends, but not more than that. She never introduced him to me as her ex, I just know because he has the same surname as her ex-brother-in-law she once mentioned. (Brother-in-law meaning the brother of her boyfriend) \n\nWhen the opportunity arose, I invited her to have dinner in a place nearby \u2013 if she wasn't already going out with the ex, that is. She said she was, and invited me to accompany them to dinner. She went in his car and I in mine. It was nice and almost only the two of us talked, besides, her body language and specially eye contact were much more meaningful towards me than him.\n\nNow I don't quite know what to make of it. I know it raises a few red flags, but I intend to take my chances regardless. Is such a close relationship with exes normal? How should I interpret her willingness to have a \"triple date\" and having me meet him (or the other way around)?\n\nAnd would it be alright to ask her something along the lines of \"so he's [ex-brother-in-law's name]'s brother?\" just to make sure what I'm dealing with? How should I phrase things next time to ensure we go out just the two of us without sounding rude?", "summary": "After meeting girl at the gym, invited her to dinner and went with her and her ex. She seemed interested in me. Not sure what to make of it."}
{"id": "t3_2xyhvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [19 M] 2yrs anxiety getting in the way of happiness", "post": "I am very prone to feeling anxiety, excessive worry, over-thinking and sometimes panic attacks. My boyfriend is always there for me, to talk and help me sort out my troubles, but I know it's a lot for him, especially in instances where my low points extend for long periods of time.\n\nIt's hard dealing with anxiety in a relationship, and it often makes me question whether these 'troubles' are fabricated due to my anxiety, or if they are a real problem in the relationship. Usually I can spot the real issues (that anyone outside would spot) quickly, and we sort through the issue together. We make a point to talk and talk often, but I won't deny we have had our fair share of issues.\n\nBesides this, sometimes, I feel like the issue is deeply rooted in my anxiety. For example, sometimes I will just seemingly out of the blue wonder if this is all going to work out with him, if we will be able to get through A situation or B situation, and it spirals out of control in my head. \n\nSilly, seeing as when this happens, I've been given no trigger or reason to suspect anything is wrong. It happens at the worst of times too, like when things are going really well! \n\nI'm seeking help for my anxiety as best as I can, but I really need some advice on how to deal with this issue inside of a relationship.\n\nI often feel like there might be a disconnect because it's hard for someone who doesn't have anxiety like my bf, to understand whats going on with me. \n\nIt's also very hard to walk away from conversations about my anxiety, because I feel like I've failed him somehow. I usually feel quite useless after a low point, with a feeling I should be apologizing, however much my bf tells me it's okay and not to apologize.", "summary": "I worry excessively, and my anxiety and panic attacks over nothing get in the way of an otherwise very happy and healthy relationship."}
{"id": "t3_180wsv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I am done dating my current GF. What are ways to know that this is the choice I want/how do it with the least pain.", "post": "I am male 23 and she is a female 21. We have been dating for just under 2 years now, I am in my last semester of college and I feel as if I am just waiting for college to end to break up with her as opposed to doing it now. First off I really do love her, she has been there for me as a friend and as a girlfriend. I just dont see it progressing any further. So then I ask myself why wait and just do it already to let the healing start/having other opportunities to meet someone. \n\nWe talked about it last night and she just said to give it a chance and that she thinks the relationship is salvageable. Personally I just think she doesn't what to loose me. \n\nAll of that being said I do not want to crush this woman however I do not see any other way around it. No matter what she will be devastated.", "summary": "Breaking up with people is sucky. What are good questions to ask yourself to be sure that it is what you want to do? How do break up doing the least emotional damage possible?"}
{"id": "t3_53cnr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] breaking up with my gf [25F] of 4+ years, want to make sure I do it right (x-post r/breakups)", "post": "(25m breaking up with 25f of 4+ years) Probably going to break up with my girlfriend this week, but I want to make sure I say the right things. How would you feel if you got dumped with something like this:\n\n\"I've been thinking about the future more lately, and the more I do, the more I realize we can't both be truly happy together long-term. The things we want are just too different. 4 years ago, that wasn't important to me, but it's starting to be now, and it's only going to get more important as time goes on, so I think we should break up now instead of continuing to put it off for who knows how long. It sucks, but it'll suck way less to do it now than it will if we do it years down the line.\"\n\nI'm planning on going out of town for the weekend to give her some space and maintain a no-contact policy for a couple days, and then discussing how to split up stuff/move out/etc.", "summary": "Is center paragraph a good breakup speech?"}
{"id": "t3_xekdy", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "A little question about Roundworms.", "post": "Ok, so I have a 9 week old puppy, and he had Diarrhoea, the vets recommended a wormer even though I was told he was done by the breeder last Monday.\n\nHe has Roundworm and started passing them today, so far 1 per toilet and just 2 at the moment.\n\nHere is my question, will a 9 week old puppy be passing Roundworm eggs? I have no children in the house I just want to know whether I need to steam clean all the floors once he has finished with passing the worms, I clean regularly anyway and wash my hands but I am sleighly paranoid about things like this.", "summary": "Can a 9 week old puppy pass Roundworm Eggs?"}
{"id": "t3_50u6rv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my wife [34 F] 11 years, should i tell her that i got an email from the woman i cheated with [26 F].", "post": "To start off we have 3 daughters, who i love tremendously along with my wife.\n\n7 maybe 8 months ago, i had an affair it was the stupidest thing i have ever done in my life. my wife chose to forgive me and work on our marriage, i have been trying like hell to fix everything.\n\nThings have been going good, my wife doesn't seem so on edge anymore and looks happy. i know i still have a long way to go on earning her trust back but I'm still working on it.\n\nI was coming home from work last night and was checking my emails when i saw her name. i haven't opened it and don't know if i should, i also don't know if i should tell my wife or delete it.\n\nit seems like something small but what if i tell her and it puts us right back at square one. \n\nshould i tell her or delete it.", "summary": "i got an email from the woman i cheated with i don't know if i should tell my wife or not."}
{"id": "t3_1icrmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] met someone twice [24F], asking how to proceed and \"handle competition\"", "post": "About 3 weeks ago, friends and I helped two of our ladyfriends to move to this new apartment in which they live with a third girl(Sandra). I liked what I saw about this new girl but with all the moving stuff, we did not really talk. The other 2 ladyfriends usually invite a few of their friends over every week, so I started to go there in the past two weeks to hang out with them (Sandra was not there the first time).\n\nI'm most likely gonna go hang out with them every week including the current one, and this Friday, they are making their housewarming. A lot of our single friends will be there and in cases like this, it usually means multiple guys going after the new girl (wont be the first time in my circle of friends). \n\nHow should I proceed from there? Could it be too soon to ask her out? And since I cant exactly call dibs on asking her out, is there something I should do regarding my single guy friends?", "summary": "Met friends' roommate, horde of single guys might go after her too, what can I do?!"}
{"id": "t3_xujdd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey guys, first time poster with two herniated discs looking for advice on safe exercises to lose weight?", "post": "Hello! I'm a tall, 6'4\" male weighing in at a hefty, broad-shouldered 305lbs. I was just told two days ago that I had to be let go from my job of 2 1/2 years on what was apparently my last day.\n\nIt's time for a life change. I managed a video game store and the weight gain from soda, candy, and a constant couch potato lifestyle [both at work and at home] is no small matter. I've never been *slim* by any means; always grew up a husky kid, and it's time to lose the extra pounds. I don't need a crash diet, or an over the counter miracle [which is why I came here!] but I want to lose 50lbs. in 6 months [8lbs/mo isn't too drastic, right?]\n\nThe only catch is I have two herniated discs in my Lumbar Vertebrae [L2-L3 and L3-L4] I've had cortisone injections to help manage the pain, but I know weight loss is the only real, *permanent* solution. I currently walk 1.25 miles around my neighboorhood about once/week.\n\nSo here we are, my backstory complete, and your task at hand: What kind of exercises can I do that will promote weight loss/muscle gain, but won't irritate my back? Any dieting/lifestyle tips are also welcome, of course!", "summary": "Help me /r/LoseIt, you're my only hope."}
{"id": "t3_109emc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 33, and feel like a I live in my own future.  Am I alone?", "post": "I think i't simply a weird kind of nostalgia, actually.  \n\nWhen I was 14-15-16, it's as if I knew I'd miss some of the stuff I was experiencing.  Took a lot of pictures, wrote a lot, to help my \"future self\" remember.\n\nNow, 33, I sometimes look back at those years and feel like the \"normal\", \"pure\" me is back there, and that I'm now an older over-complicated version of myself, in the future year 2012.\n\nI'm not unhappy today, quite the contrary.  But it's like I've suddenly woken up on the other side of the \"time fence\", having become the \"older me\" I was carefully leaving memories to.", "summary": "I've been 16 years old for 17 years, and I can't go home 'cause it's in 1995."}
{"id": "t3_1r4lg2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [20 F] over a month, long distance relationship stressing me out.", "post": "I'm in a fairly new relationship and it's my first long distance one. I've had a bad run of exes cheating on me so I'm having difficulty with relaxing right now. We talk a lot about everything under the sun: music, movies, comics, games, sex, everything. She was the first to flirt about MFF threesomes, she likes girls. I mentioned a girl I liked and she got really upset to know it was an girl I dated a couple times, nothing really happened. We kissed twice, went on three dates and she just wanted to be friends.  I say fine, I don't need another girl I'm perfectly content and happy with you. A week later she blows up on me about this same subject. I don't know what caused it but it almost ended the relationship.  A few days later she's telling of this tranny she's talking too and how s/he is hitting on her and sending pics. I'm about to go see her when I visit family for Thanksgiving next week and I'm not sure I will be able to keeo this relationship going. I've talked with her about so much more than any/every girlfriend in the past so I don't want to just give this up but I am losing sleep and can't think straight at work when it's slow.", "summary": "Long distance relationship stress"}
{"id": "t3_49oey1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my [18M] 'friends-with-benefits'; I need to move on with my life. How do I do it?", "post": "Hi.\nSo a bit of background, I've known this guy since childhood and we've always been close friends. We dated on and off in high school, but nothing too serious. We've always had this weird sexual tension that I'm pretty sure is the only reason why I still think about him.\n\nRecently, we will both be graduating, and he has expressed to me all he wants to do is leave this town and experience all the wonderful things college will have to offer (note, we're going to the same college). That's great and all, except for the fact that I was wanting something serious, and this is where my problem comes in.\n\nOf course, being friends with similar interests, we hang out on the weekends, and being friends with awkward sexual tension, sometimes we end up making out on the couch or whatever. Classic, stupid horny teenager shit. He's always extremely friendly and kind during these weekends, but then turns right around and rarely talks to me in public or avoids me at school.\n\nAfter these weekends, I always end up feeling awful and even worse off emotionally than before. I leave feeling used and stupid, although I know I'm not helping the situation because I go to his house and make it very easy for him to interact with me. He's a touchy guy, and sometimes he takes the liberty to caress my arms or back of my legs when we might be standing in a crowd of people (nothing sexual, just talks the opportunity to touch my body). For some reason, I've been tied to this guy for a long time, and his opinion has always been very important to me (even to the point where I was restricting calories because I thought he would find me more attractive. No worries, I am recovering from my eating disorder, but I need to cut ties with someone who is obviously harmful to my mental health).\n\nI want to stop feeling so stupid for pretending this guy cares about me; what can I do to distance myself from him when we attend the same school system and move the fuck on with my life?", "summary": "Guy only sees me as a friends-with-benefits, I need ways to distance myself from him and solutions for moving on with my life before college."}
{"id": "t3_3cysbg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MD] Legality of moving evicted persons furniture that is left in alley way.", "post": "So the people who live behind my home were recently evicted. I'm not sure whether or not they still actually live there, but they have been moving furniture and the like out for about 2 days. In this time they have been blocking the end of the one way alley that is the only way to get to my homes driveway. It kind of pissed me off, but I try to be a nice guy.\n\nToday however I came home and furniture had poured out of their yard and into the alley way (their yard has a retaining wall that makes the alley way about 3-4 feet lower than their yard). There is a wooden table, a glass/plastic fan/light, and a bunch of other garbage. I asked the neighbors nicely if they would move it so that I could get my car through, and they said that it was the landlords problem not theirs. I called the local PD and they had officers come by, but the neighbors had left already. The police said if the stuff was still there in 2-3 days call back and they would find the landlord.\n\nNow my primary question is since this garbage is just in a public alley way, could I get in trouble for moving it? More than likely I would just move it around to the sidewalk in front, or toss it back in their yard. I just want it out of the alley way.", "summary": "Neighbors behind me got evicted and left furniture and garbage in the street, can I move it?"}
{"id": "t3_1c03vm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend of over 3 years (36) and I (26/F) are having issues with our sexual compatibility. Is there anyway to fix this?", "post": "I should preface this by saying I haven't really discussed this with him. It is out in the open that there are issues with our sex life- he knows I don't give him enough... and I admit it. We have sex pretty much once or twice a week. The longest in our entire relationship we have gone without sex has been 2 weeks but this is not enough for him.\n\n I am a full-time university student and work 20 hours a week on top of my studying. I am often very busy, stressed and tired... all of which drain me of my libido.\n\nI could just give him more sex and not be into it.. but I tried that before and it just made it so I was never horny myself, I could never build up my desire long enough to initiate. I was never enjoying sex at all and it was beginning to hurt me and I am sure him as well.\n\nWhat makes it harder is that for some reason he cannot reach orgasm in a \"normal\" time frame. I know every time we start fooling around I am committing to a good hour (maybe more) of sex. Our \"quickies\", which I feel I cant ask for anymore due to the fact that I would just ask for them every single time, last upward of 45 minutes.\nI get bored or tired or sore after a good hour of sex and I ultimately have to resort to role playing out his fantasies in order to end it. This happens every time. I used to love indulging him in these, even though I didn't particularly share them, but now I am beginning to resent them. It is starting to feel like all the sex we have is about him.\n\nI love him. So much. We have an excellent rapport and we get along so great. We have been talking about marriage and children. I want to keep him. I want to make him happy.\n\nHas anybody successfully made their way though such a rift of this kind? Does anybody have any advice on how we can begin to fix this?", "summary": "I don't sex my boyfriend enough to satisfy him. I need solutions."}
{"id": "t3_20zukm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] and my wife [39 F] married 16 years; Wife is selfish at the expense of our kids **UPDATE**", "post": "[Link to original thread](\n\nOver the past two evenings, we discussed this. I'm not going to go over the detailS of our discussion because we talked for over 6 hours.\n\nShe said she didn't realize she was being selfish, and she always wants to put our kids first. She said she will try to change and asked that I let her know if it seems like she's being selfish. We're going to make plans to go to a marriage counselor today.\n\nShe also agreed to get a job. She will visit the vanity doctor with the money she earns and will kick in the rest to savings. She actually found a great part-time job with flexible hours yesterday.\n\nThanks for all of the responses reddit! It wasn't easy, but I think I learned a lot.", "summary": "We're working on it."}
{"id": "t3_3lmsxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex gf[20 F] for a month, doesn't want to be in a relationship atm", "post": "A little backstory on the situation.  I met her at my school job that I work at in the Fall of 2014.  We instantly became friends and talked a lot, at that time I already had a crush on her, and she later told me she had a crush on me as well, but she also liked another guy and began dating him.  At this time we sorta stopped talking with each other but still friendly when i saw her at work.  By the end of Spring they broke up, but he constantly was still harassing her(saying he still loved her, but then calling her a bitch moments later)\n\nWe started talking again throughout the Summer, and by the end I asked her out and we started going out for about a month.  After a month she told me that she likes me a lot but she just doesn't know at all right now about how she feeling about being with someone, but she still thinks about being with me in the future.  I've recently stopped talking with her, but she constantly smiles at me whenever we meet eye contact\n\nHonestly I don't know what to do at this point.  Should I step back and give her time to think(That no contact rule), should I try and continue to be friends with her not knowing if she wants to get back with me or not.", "summary": "I broke up with someone I was dating because she needed space and didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment, and I don't know what I should do now."}
{"id": "t3_3novni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (24F) paid our wedding photographer extra to not take any photos of her. We just got the photos back and I (25M) am so angry and hurt.", "post": "My wife has always been camera shy.  When we first started dating she would delete any photograph I took of her.  After a few years (we've been together 6 years total) she permitted a few if no one else saw them.  She doesn't have any social media accounts either.\n\nWe got married two weeks ago.  We had a very small wedding and no honeymoon, but the wedding was really nice.  My wife looked absolutely beautiful and happy.  She doesn't really dress up and this was the first time I had even seen her in a dress, so it was a welcome surprise.  \n\nThe wedding photographer was a friend of hers, so she handled hiring him.  We both agreed that we wanted candids instead of posed photos, so we told him to just take candids.  When we got the photos earlier this week, they were great, but none of them had her in them.\n\nShe confessed that she paid him extra not to photograph her.  She didn't want to worry about someone taking pictures of her on her special day.\n\nOur families are asking for wedding pictures and I don't know what to tell them.  Also, I'm really mad myself and I can't seem to let this go, even though it's been a couple days.  What do I do?  \n\nMy wife apologized for hurting my feelings, but she doesn't really understand how upset this made me.  I wanted a picture of my wife to remember how she looked on that special day.  Is that too much to ask?", "summary": "My wife paid the wedding photographer extra to not take pictures of her.  We got the photos back, and there's no bride.  I'm so angry and I can't let this go, and our families want copies of the pictures.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_eqp9i", "subreddit": "self", "title": "If you have problems with Mass Effect 2's regional pricing on Steam... (trade offer)", "post": "I happen to have an unused retail copy of Mass Effect 2 Collector's Edition lying around. I received it as a gift from the UK after I had already bought the standard edition from the EA Store, so all I could do with it (until now) was to use the Collector's Edition DLC unlock code on my main copy of the game. That means the Collector Armor and Collector Assault Rifle won't be a part of my offer, which includes codes for the game itself and Cerberus Network access. The code can be redeemed through EA Download Manager, which you can get from the EA Store itself free of charge.\n\nI want to trade the two codes for a Steam copy of either Darksiders or Alpha Protocol. PM me if you're interested. I'll respond within an hour or so.", "summary": "Trading Mass Effect 2 retail code for activation on EA Download Manager + Cerberus Network access for either Darksiders or Alpha Protocol on Steam. PM if interested."}
{"id": "t3_1krr1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girls constantly flirt with my boyfriend on Facebook. Am I being stupid? (F23)(M27)", "post": "I hate Facebook. It causes so many problems. (F23)(M27) 9 months together.\n\nFirst of all, my boyfriend has a couple dozen pics on his page and none of them include me. Not that I expect to be in every picture but one picture of us together would be really nice. But he refuses. I asked him to put that he's \"In a relationship with (me)\" on his page and he refuses to do that too. \n\nIt makes me feel like he's ashamed of me or like he's trying to hide our relationship. ALL of his friends and family know we're dating so I don't understand what the problem is. \n\nThe thing that really pisses me off are the girls who constantly leave flirty messages on his wall or compliment him on his pictures. I suggested that we both delete our Facebook pages because they cause a huge amount of problems in our relationship but he thinks I'm over-reacting.  \n\nGirls, help me out? Am I being stupid?", "summary": "I feel like Facebook is a threat to our relationship but my boyfriend thinks everything's fine."}
{"id": "t3_lua7o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Somewhat specific yet cliche situation.", "post": "This is probably my first post ever on Reddit, but hear it's like 4chan but just a different interface so I'll be quite careful with my words and stay anonymous.\n\nSituation:\n22, male, 5'0, under 100 lbs. Now I am told I'm \"cute\", never had a gf, nor a job (had an internship), nerdy etc blah blah. \n\nAs for girl situations...I always get friend zoned or coincidentally like lesbians (yea I know). I am just curious how I even get past this situation of getting a girlfriend (cliche part), but I constantly worry about my height since I know (or believe) that it always is an issue or think that it is already a hindrance before even saying a word. \n\nThe worst part, I mostly have girls for friends mainly because I can't stand the attitude of most guys on this kind of situation. Like \"fuck that bro\" or \"forget that bitch\". I understand that they're not worth it but believe every crush I have will wind up resulting in \"fuck that bitch\" or \"plenty of fish in the sea\". \n\nInb4 any form of trolling and what have you. Also sorry if this is broad if you have any specific questions about my position, personality, or situation, I will try to answer them.\n\nP.S. - I hate people that believe every single day is the best day of their lives or just happy 24/7.", "summary": "I'm short and have issues with girls. How do I recover and or have a life worth living?"}
{"id": "t3_2bp6hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 1.5 years, broke her dad's power tool", "post": "So I'm not sure what the proper thing to do is in this situation. I needed to hang a few things on my wall and didn't have a power drill. I was going to buy one, but then my girlfriend let me borrow one she had at her apartment which belonged to her dad. Last night I used it for 30 seconds and got two screws in the wall before it just crapped out and the motor stopped working. Let me add that it looked old and crappy to begin with, a google search turned up a newspaper ad from 1977, so it's almost 40 years old.\n\nWhat is the proper thing to do in this situation? My girlfriend freaked out at me saying that her dad will be sooooo pissed that I broke his drill and I need to buy him a new one. She told me that it worked just fine until I used it, and whoever broke it pays for it. I don't feel like I should have to as it was 40 years old and I didn't do anything wrong to \"break it\", it was on its last leg and was just done. I said I would explain what happened to her dad, but if he tells me to pay for it or buy him a new one I will argue my case. She said I should never argue with her parents and that is extremely disrespectful, some things are more important than \"being right\". I very much disagree and then we got into an argument.\n\nSo what's the best thing to do in his situation?", "summary": "Borrowed 40 year old power drill that belonged to gf's dad. Stopped working after 30 seconds. Argument about respect and what to do ensued."}
{"id": "t3_gnpi2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What, if any, are the negatives of taxing the rich?", "post": "Amongst all the recent budget talk I've noticed that there has been a considerable amount of attention directed towards taxing the rich. To make clear, I've read this article which appeared on front page reddit today: \n\nThis seems to be the best I've read so far; I haven't seen anything else that wasn't covered in this one. \n\nThe article clearly defines \"rich\" as couples that bring in over one million annually. It seems obvious that politicians receive funding from \"rich\" donors who influence their decisions, making taxation of the rich (like many other things in government) seem unlikely.\n\nIs there something missing here? Do the rich need their extra millions for anything other than investing? Besides some extra cash off the top of their stack, what is the negative?\n\nIt only seems fair to raise the rate for everybody. Damn free rider problem scaring the republicans...", "summary": "Why shouldn't we tax the rich?"}
{"id": "t3_36wla0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27F] jealous of the girls that guys seem to get enamored with so easily. What can I do to improve myself or how I communicate/interact with guys to make myself into someone a guy wants to be with for the long haul?", "post": "I'm often described as \"chill\" or \"nice\", or that nothing's wrong with me.  Which is true: I'm very nice and don't really have any questionable entities about myself, even though I do have some quirky tastes. Sometimes I personally feel like I'm boring but that's just an insecurity. I'm a helpful and thoughtful person, and I'm curious about the world and life. I'm sweet and generally caring more than I should be, but I genuinely enjoy helping people, traveling, and working on side projects I have. I tend to be on the quieter side and can be seen as a bit of a pushover.\n\nI've dated many different types of guys, and usually can keep them either a few dates or short term (like 3 months-ish) before they lose interest or just feel like there's nothing there. Usually our conversations are okay always and flow, but I don't feel like it's anything exciting or passionate all the time (same with dates). I don't know... I'm frustrated that I can spend so much time with a guy and they can feel nothing towards me. I see male friends who will often go on 1-2 dates with a girl and feel completely enamored by her, then only to be dumped by her. I guess I'm jealous of these girls and the power they have, and have never felt that I have whatever inner qualities that makes them so amazing. I'm pretty physically attractive and hygenic, etc. but obviuosly that's not the most important thing. \n\nI guess I'm wondering what makes these other girls so special or what I can do to engage guys in a way that makes me more than just an \"ok\" person to have around, but really do more? I know this is an issue because guys who are right for me are really bored by me I guess.", "summary": "So I'm a pretty decent person but I don't seem to have the attractive qualities that other girls have that really inspires guys to want to be with me. What can I do to maybe better ensure this happens with the right guy?"}
{"id": "t3_hekxz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone volunteered abroad? Advice and Experiences wanted!", "post": "I just finished my undergrad degree in Biology - specifically ecology and evolution - and want to take some time off to get some experience while at the same time just trying something totally new. I'm looking for something that I can spend somewhere in the neighbourhood of a few months to a year in a place completely different and far away (I'm in Montreal).\n\nI've been looking for good volunteer spots for a while, but most of the ones I've been finding seems to require a couple thousand dollars just to volunteer (on top of airfare), something I can't exactly afford at this point in time. Anything that has room and board paid for is perfect for me, and I'm willing to work extremely hard and give up a lot of my time helping.\n\nI am only fluent in English unfortunately, though I can manage in French if required. I am willing to go anywhere in the world, and would like things in the realm of behavioural ecology or conservation biology.\n\nEx: [Kalahari Meerkat Project] - something like this is what I'm looking for more or less.", "summary": "Want to volunteer not *volunteer vacation*, any advice on where to look and any experience doing anything likes this is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2cn6au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Situation with my (29/M) exhousemate (28/M) and his gf's (29/F) attitude especially towards my gf (32/F).", "post": "I lived with my exhousemate for about 3.5 years and we got on well.  We eventually both got GFs and at first things were fine.  We would all chat normally and there was no drama.  His GF even came round once when he was away and chatted to me and my GF for a while about holidays and what not.  \n\nThen it seemed rather suddenly his GF had a change of attitude towards mine.  She started acting cold towards her and you could feel something was not right.  She became bitchy and I recall occasions when she would not say anything at all even when my GF would say hi.  \n\nFast forward a bit and we had to go our separate ways recently.  My exhousemate seems keen on keeping contact which is generally fine but for my GF it is beyond repair and she wants nothing to do with is GF and to an extent nothing to do with him really either.  He has suggested we go to their new place for dinner and games before we go on holiday for 2 months.  \n\nHe messaged a couple of times and it has got to the point where I need to tell him and I was initially going to tell him we are too busy before our holiday and hope he would likely drop it by the time we came back.\n\nMy GF eventually said yesterday that she would rather not have any contact with any of them and that she does not think his GF will have changed (and nor do I really) and she does not want to have to interact with her.\n\nI am not sure how to bring all this up with my exhousemate and whether I should call him or just message him back?  Should I just take this as end of friendship with him?", "summary": "Moved out of sharehouse, exhousemate keen to keep in touch/have dinners etc but his GF was a bit of a bitch to mine and mine wants nothing to do with her/them.  Should I just end it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ntsj7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have a Crazy sex habit", "post": "Follow up ;\n\n      Okay people so I read comment where it said no olive oil.....so I didn't use it instead I used hair conditioner. The trick is to put it in the microwave for 5seconds ... It's not to warm or cold perfect temperature. Questions or concerns about this now? \nI have a confession to make!!! I like to take my  door knobs off. Then fill in the hole with playdoh. Then, I lather virgin olive oil around my dick and balls and fuck the whole of the door knobs. Now, you must be thinking how does he do it? Here it goes..... U have to make sure the playdoh is super soft. I went and bought a step stool from Marshall's so I can really go to town in the hole. This took a few attempts to get this down to a \"T\". Now, you must be thinking wtf? I know, but I look at it this way, I am disease free. When I'm horny, I prep the door, but keep In mind I rotate doors. This is the most  extraordinary, most fulfilling feeling I have ever experienced. It's weird but it works. Lately it's gotten so bad the second my mom leaves for work I grab a screwdriver and start popping door knobs off. I need to get a hold of myself. I Ned to get laid for real. Not playdoh pussy but real life pussy. I want to stop but I just can't.", "summary": "I fuck doorknob holes when I am horny."}
{"id": "t3_4k1chg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my crush [18 F] 1 month, not sure if she is dropping hints.", "post": "So basically I started talking to this girl and I don't know if she's dropping hints about becoming couples. \n1. She knocked her knee with mine while chatting. \n2. She likes making puns/jokes about me. \n3. She tries to speak with me in my native language (we're from different race). \n4. She asks me to drink from her straw. \n5. She dragged me into her pictures.\n6. She randomly hits me for no reason.\nTBH I'm still a virgin (both in bed and relationship) and have a crush on her but I do not know if these hints are signalling me to proceed or not. I'm really confused if she's too nice and open with guys or is she trying to hint something. None of her social media indicates if she has a BF. Would greatly appreciate girls of Reddit to help me. I really don't wanna lose out this opportunity if she's really into me. TT", "summary": "Guy wanting to know if a girl wants to date him."}
{"id": "t3_10hlsh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend has an obnoxious habit of being playfully abusive and it really hurts", "post": "Nothing really serious. He thinks he's being playful by hitting, punching, slapping, pinching and twisting my skin. But sometimes it really hurts. He has a really bad habit of twisting my nipples all the time and it gets to a point where it hurts all day. If I ask him to stop he just moves on to other parts of my body. \n\nLike today he punched my stomach several times (like pretty hard punch) and then pinched my stomach. I am still getting stinging pains on my stomach skin every couple mins from that pinch. How do I get him to stop?", "summary": "Boyfriend is always hitting, punching, slapping, pinching and twisting my skin (specifically my breast and stomach). He thinks he's being playful and doesn't realize it actually hurts. How do I get him to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_uql55", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your stories of judging a stranger too quickly?", "post": "This morning on my walk into work i judged someone way too quickly only to regret it and feeling like a bad person afterwards.\n\nOn this cold morning walking into work i see a man that I would classify as a typical bogan (skinny, jeans from the 90's, beanie, flannelette shirt, tattoo on his right temple, sneakers and getting the very last of his cigarette that i would have tossed ages ago, just to paint you guys a picture) i was walking towards him then he towards me.\n\nAt this point we are about 20meters away from passing each other and he stops to walk in the grass instead of the sidewalk and starts picking up white pieces of paper, at first i think oh cool he found money but there is too much of it to be cash. Then I go on to think \"its probably the front of his house and his just cleaning up\" but then my mind goes off very judgmentally and thinks \"nah his too much of a bogan to live in the middle of the city its probably a stash from last night\" (immediately thinking his a drug-o or something along those lines)\n\nUpon walking past him picking things off the grass the SAP in me avoids making eye contact with this 'drugo' when he stops what he is going looks up at me and says \"Good morning, you have your self a nice day buddy!\" I respond \"Thanks\" and keep walking only to realize we was just picking up rubbish and when i turned back he kept walking down the street continuing to pick up rubbish.\n\nAt this point i felt horrible for judging this guy who was in fact  a genuine good guy too quickly. Reddit, what are your stories of judging a stranger much too quickly?", "summary": "dubbed a random guy picking up rubbish as a bogan drugo in my mind. He ended up being a nice guy."}
{"id": "t3_1687yd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you give up a great job / future career to move to be with your friends?", "post": "Obviously a throwaway account but honestly need some advice (and probably in the wrong subreddit). \n\nI'm currently (24/M). I am studying to become a CPA (working on passing the exams). My dad owns a very successful CPA firm in a very small town. I usually drive to a city about an hour and half on the weekends to hang out with my buddies. \n\nMy question is, after I get my CPA licenses should I just move to the city to be with my buddies or stay in my small town and make a guaranteed 6 figure job working for my dad. \n\nBY NO MEANS, am I trying to be arrogant in any way whatsoever. I just need honest advice. I personally DO NOT like living in this small town, hardly any friends, and there are seriously no girls to date. Or do I move to a city where I can hang out with my buddies on a regular basis but have no connections as far as a job goes. I understand there are many people in this world who would do anything for my opportunity, I just don't know what to do. \n\nAny advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Live in a small town with a great job or move to the city with no job connections but all my buddies live there."}
{"id": "t3_1yyr49", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there an affordable home device that functions like a \"wireless switch\"?", "post": "I've always tried to avoid using wireless because I'm a gamer and I've simply never trusted it to give me a constant good connection.\nHowever I'm moving into a new place (renting, other wise I would drill holes and run lines) and I won't be able to run a line from the living room to my bedroom.\nThey already have a Comcast or Century Link wireless modem from the cable provider.\n\nI realize I could buy a [wireless adapter] for my desktop gaming rig but I also have an xbox360 (without the built in wireless) and will be purchasing a NAS in the near future.\n\nI need a solution, not a temporary fix.\n\nNOTE: My computer/NAS will be in the spare bedroom next to my actual bedroom where my xbox and TV are located.\nI can run a single wire between the two rooms out of reach of the feline terror for my Xbox no problem.\n\nMy question is what device do i need that will function as a \"wireless switch\"?\nAll I can find are [\"wireless AP's\"] which require a physical connection to the modem.\nOther \"wireless AP's\" will take the wireless signal and boost or repeat it, but do not allow me to connect multiple devices physically.\nAlso, every wireless router I find requires a physical connection to the wireless modem.\n\nI need a device that can take that wireless signal, and turn it into physical ports.\n\nThe Home - Not to scale, but it should help clarify my situation/setup.\n[pic](", "summary": "I need to turn signal from a wireless modem into wired connections for 3 devices. What can I use? See [picture] for home layout."}
{"id": "t3_518crr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] Just found out my bestfriends[23F and 20M] are hating me behind my back for 3 years now, not sure how to deal with it.", "post": "Ok so I've been friends with them for a long time now. Recently things weren't going very well and I just kept having this gloomy feeling between us. I asked both  if something was up or wrong, and of course they both said no.\n\nNow today my friends were over by my house and they left for a while to go get snacks at the store. She left her phone open on the table when she left. I know it wasn't the right thing to do, but I peaked. I basicly found out they are FWB and I am a bother to both of them. They send eachother screenshots of my personnal confessions (i.e. I was struggling with depression and ahe sent that to him and said I should just kill myself, while she was telling me she was there for me etc.) \n\nSo now I can't tell them why I don't want them in my life anymore, but I can't do anything about such a backstab either. Sorry if this isn't the place but I  really needed someone's opinion on this.", "summary": "Friends secretly hate me, but I can't tell them I know, what am I suposed to do?*"}
{"id": "t3_f91j0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Another ( I assumed it's been done before) Zombie argument.", "post": "My friends and i got in to the discussion about which zombie outbreaks are more believable i cast my vote to the T-virus variety of zombie. They argued that 28 days later had a more convincing zombies then Resident Evil. Although i Have not seen 28 Days Later, i know the \"zombification\" is induced by some sort of rage virus, right? And as far i know there aren't much diseases that cause a freakish change in temperament to the point of a murderous, quarantine-inducing rage right? plus, t T-virus is just that a virus that a evolves occasionally. unless tampered with. I thought that if anyone would annihilate this tie it would be Reddit.", "summary": "which zombies are more believable, Resident evil zombies or 28 days later zombies?"}
{"id": "t3_fllzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you do when the guy you want and the guy you have are not the same person?", "post": "I'm a 21-year old (female) college student on the east coast (US).  I have known this guy for the past four years, and I have been in love with him for at least two of those years.  He is also a college student, pre-med, studying to become a radiologist.  Our personalities complement each other, there is natural chemistry between us, and I don't know another guy like him.  He is smart, sarcastic, atypical.  I'm pretty convinced that he's the love of my life.  Only problem is that he lives on the other side of the country.\n\nWe have had several long, ongoing discussions about how far we take our relationship.  We cannot be together right now, and may not ever get the chance to be together.  We have both agreed that we should not let our feelings for each other stand in the way of opportunities to develop relationships with others in closer proximity.  I have been dating another guy, training to be a cop, for about 8 months now.  In the beginning I was very happy to have found someone compatible who actually lives in the same state.  By now I have realized that he doesn't make me nearly as happy as the other guy does, and I want to break up with him.", "summary": "I'm in love with a man who loves me too, but I cannot have him.  I am dating someone who loves me, but I don't have the emotional capacity to reciprocate.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2wduy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M19] doesn't take as much interest in my [M19] feelings, as I do in his.", "post": "So me and my boyfriend have been going at it for about 7 months now. I should point out that this is a long distance relationship, but we have been doing a good job of keeping the distance short. He lives in SC and I live in PA.\n\nWhere the issue lies is that he never really seems to take any sort of an interest in what's going on in my life or how I'm feeling. Not to toot my own horn here, but I do make it a point to ask him if he's okay and how he's doing when I can tell somethings up. But he rarely asks me the same. Lat time was 3 days ago and the time before that was nearly a week prior. \n\nWhenever I do try to tell him about anything that's going on in my life, be it school, family, emotional stuff, whatever, he kind of deflects it. From there he will either do the whole \"Im not enough to keep you happy\" routine and we have a huge argument, or he will give some half assed condolence and then change the topic to something else. \n\nI've tried talking to him about it and it doesn't seem to sink in. Any help??", "summary": "I try to take as much interest in my boyfriends issues and feelings as possible, but he doesn't seem to take any interest in mine."}
{"id": "t3_1cy6bk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) can't stop checking my boyfriend's (24M) e-mails.", "post": "We have been together for 4 years.\n\nAbout a month ago, my boyfriend was over my place and using my computer. While he was typing his password to his e-mail, I was curious and watched it, and now I know the password. I tried to stop the urge to check his e-mail, but I couldn't help myself and looked. I found some stuff that he lied about, but it was nothing too big. \n\nI know it is really wrong what I am doing, but I can't stop it and I know if I tell this to him he will be really disappointed and this will hurt our relationship. \n\nI can't stop myself now and I check his mails daily, how do I stop this? I don't want to keep doing this but I can't help the curiousity, it just gives me an excitement to see what's happening in there. I want to stop, how do I do it without him noticing it? ( I was thinking about changing the password to something random so I wouldn't know it anymore, but then he would of course notice something was wrong and maybe even find the location that the password was changed from)", "summary": "I want to stop the urge to check on my boyfriend's e-mail account. How do I stop myself?"}
{"id": "t3_tnmyd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm afraid I will cheat.", "post": "Okay, so I need advice on how to get over my feelings. I'm a married twenty something female and lately I have been constantly tempted to cheat. I think the main problem is we don't sex that often(once a week), and he is not willing to compromise on that. He said I can flirt with other guys but nothing more. Also I don't have many girl friends and feel bored. Most of my friends are guys at work who I can't hang out with if it's not in a group. Recently I have been talking with a guy I really like and I'm afraid it will escalate. Any detailed advice besides the obvious, don't do it?!", "summary": "How can I stop myself thinking about cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_2eszr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] Australian with my Filipina [23 F] 2 months/1 week, went to meet her overseas and now she wants to get serious and I'm unsure..", "post": "So I was on OKCupid and I met this 23 year old Filipino girl. We got on great, and spoke for a few months, skyped, got to know each other all that...\n\nI wanted to take a quick holiday because the winter was really getting to me. I was getting on great with 23F so I said I would be interested in coming to meet her.\n\nSo I spent 9 days over there, we got on great at first, however towards the end of the week she did get a bit moody and jealous. I found myself attracted to her, but not hugely attracted to her as she is a bit chubbier than I would normally date.\n\nSo I go home, it was sad to leave her, don't get me wrong. But now she wants to know what we are. She absolutely 100% wants to be with me.. Happy to work towards migrating to Australia... I'm just not so sure...\n\nI should mention that I am harding working career oriented, fair attractive middle class male. I like travelling but I don't have that much free time.. She is a middle class Filipina, who doesn't have enough money to travel as she helps support her mum. She openly wants to leave Manila for somewhere better..\n\nI feel terribly guilty and sorry for her. I like her and all, but I feel pressured into commiting to something I'm not sure about. I feel guilty because I feel like I've led her on, or crushed her dreams of a better life, and she is a nice girl, she deserves it.\n\nThis is really tearing me up, but I guess I will tell her that I don't want to take our relationship any further...\n\nI would love to hear your thoughts or questions? Anyone had a similar experience? Can anyone relate to this situation? \n\nYou have helped me before /Relationships .. Thank you \n\nNot sure if this should be in breakups or dating...", "summary": "Went overseas to meet a girl, she wants to start a serious long distance relationship and I'm not sure."}
{"id": "t3_3yabzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22F, want to end my vacation mid-way. Am I stupid?", "post": "I planned this vacation six months ago and have been really excited about it ever since. It was a fifteen day solo trip across various cities of Turkey. It started amazing! Today is my third day in Turkey and I loved every bit of it.\n\nHowever, I want to go back ASAP. I don't know why. Although my return tickets are booked for 6 January, but I have a bad urge to go back tomorrow or day after. \n\nI thought maybe I'm homesick, maybe I miss people or work. I'm not even bored. There's so much to do and see. Yet, I couldn't put my finger on it. But I'm sure I want to go back. It's just been three days and I'm restless. I can't enjoy the vacation when all the time I'm thinking about going back home.\n\nI'm a mess right now. Please tell me what should I do. Should I go back or should I stay on and finish the vacation as planned?", "summary": "Want to end my vacation mid-way. Should I do it or stay till the end of the trip as planned? Am I being impulsive?"}
{"id": "t3_2od8li", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38M] with girlfriend [27F] of 4 months - I love her but I'm probably not ready for this. I think I'm holding at least one other person (coworker, 25F) in 'reserve'", "post": "I've posted on this before. I've been dating this girl for several months now. Sexually, intellectually, emotionally, we're very compatible. We talk all the time. We both have kids (shes a widow and I'm separated / divorcing - relationship ended over 6 months ago).\n\nBottom line - I still like flirting with other girls. I flirted with two ladies at work yesterday, in fact - one a contractor who I've seen periodically, another is a colleague who I've been flirty with (but also work on legitimate projects with), for the last two years. In terms of the latter, I've kept it nominally professional but I continue to find excuses / ways to hang out with her. It looks like I'll probably have coffee or a drink with her after work sometime next week, ostensibly to talk about a project she and I are working on. I've told myself I wouldn't make any moves on her until she finds work somewhere else though... Which she may even do sometime in the near future (she's applied for a transfer to one of our neighboring local offices). Anyways, my girlfriend knows about nearly all of this, she also knows I've had a crush on her. She's put up with this for some reason.\n\nIn terms of my GF, I don't need to be told again, \"break up with her.\" I'm conflicted, obviously. How will this end? I don't think I'm going to marry my GF. I don't see this lasting forever. Which makes me sad. But I feel stuck. I feel like I can't give her up but I can't be on this 100% either, because I want to essentially (I guess) sleep with other women.\n\nAnyways, comments appreciated. I don't really have a lifetime of dating or relationship experience so all of this is very new to me.", "summary": "In love with my GF but I continue to feel like I'm not 100% into this and it scares me a little. Holding an officemate \"in reserve.\" How will this end?"}
{"id": "t3_jb1md", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit! Do you guys know of any shortcut loophole in the USA immigration\\green card laws?", "post": "I know it's a very desperate and typical sounding question. But I have a family to feed. Also, I graduated top of my class and got my masters at one of the best universities in Europe. So I feel like I'll make a positive contribution to society, much more than most of the immigrants that somehow make their way to America.\n\nI was brought up in Saudi Arabia, lived all my life here but I am a non-Saudi national. I'll be forced to leave soon if I don't find a job, which in itself is a difficult task due to labor laws favoring locals. My home country is in a mess. Famine, poverty, suffering economy, you name it we got it. So what's the easiest way for me to migrate to USA and give my children a stable future.", "summary": "Well educated guy with family; no home; how do I move to USA?"}
{"id": "t3_24o50l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] no relationships yet - is there a chance still?", "post": "So like the title says I am 34M and have never had a relationship before and I don't have any friends either. It is embarassing never to have held hands with a girl yet and I wonder if girls would be turned off by this history.\n\nThe problem has been that I have had some mental illness problems since 19 or so that have taken alot of my time up. Mostly anxiety and depression for those who can relate. Then I recently got diagnosed with aspergers syndrome which basically means that I am shy and awkward. I am concerned that this history will make me unappealing as a partner.\n\nOtherwise I am tall and good looking but this has not seemed to help at all and I know personality is more important anyway.\n\nI am worried about my age because it seems like girls around my age will be looking for a serious partner and I at more of a teenage level to be honest.\n\nAlso I don't have a job right now although I am looking and I have only worked for short periods in the past. I do have a degree though.\n\nAnyone have any ideas?", "summary": "Am I dateable?"}
{"id": "t3_2rfz8z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [20/m] being selfish for ordering an expensive monitor for myself instead of spending it on us? She's [20/f]", "post": "Hi Reddit\n\nI am normally a lurker but I need your advise on this. \n\nSo I am in a relationship for close to 2 years and we are both in a apprenticeship so we don't have a lot of money. \n\nFor christmas I got 400$ from my Dad and I ordered myself a second monitor for my computer. Today I showed it to her via skype and told her that I got it for 300$. She was bummed out that I bought something for myself instead of saving it for our holiday trip or spending it on a night out for the both of us. \n\nShe said if she would get so much money she would think for us first and maybe spend a little for herself. \n\nThing is I don't buy anything for myself normally. This was the first thing I bought since 7 months or something (20$+). \n\nI feel like a pretty shitty boyfriend right now. Am I being selfish or is she overreacting? I've never been in a relationship so I cannot fall back on other experience. \n\nThank you for your time and advise/response. Also sorry for my english...", "summary": "I bought a 300$ monitor and now feel like a shitty bf for spending the money on myself."}
{"id": "t3_343ly4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By making a racist joke to a black guy", "post": "I am a white male who lives in a city which is predominantly white. I would guess that there are fewer than 10 black people who work on the same floor as me, out of over 300 employees.\n\nWe work at a very large company and every year they have many sports with teams created from employees who compete against each other internally.\n\nAnyway, I was talking to this black guy about his day and the weekend. He is someone I almost never interact with him outside of the small talk around the water fountain.\n\nWhile we were talking he told me how he and several other guys were forming a company basketball team. He had mentioned he was concerned about winning, as some of the other teams being formed seemed pretty good. I tried to lighten the situation and decided to make a joke.\n\nI said: \"Well you have nothing to worry about, you have the only black guy in our company on your team, so you are definitely winning.\" Then I started laughing at my own joke. He didn't laugh a bit. He didn't say a single word. He just turned around and walked off.", "summary": "Told a black guy his basketball team was sure to win and he walked off without saying a word. In my defense though it's more of a racist compliment than a racist joke right?"}
{"id": "t3_fqwuy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "More than friends? please!", "post": "So I've been \"talking\" with this girl for a few weeks now. We've hung out a few times and she has seemed interested. I want to escalate things but am confused on a few things. Last week we texted/talked online pretty often, and then just didnt talk for a few days until we hung out, which was good and everything. I didn't hear anything from her for a few days after we hung out and I had to text her first. Her texts seem short and she hasnt tried to keep the conversation going.\n\nI am not looking for a relationship and neither is she and we've said that. What's the difference between just \"dating\" and being FWB/FB? I don't want any commitment from her and I want to be able to do my own thing. I'm pretty sure she's totally cool with this. Do I need to talk with her about \"us\" and becoming fwb? Do I not say anything and just go with it (I've been trying to do this one)? Should I continue to start convos online with her or just set up a date and see her then?\n\nTBH, I think she's onto some of this seddit stuff because she games me right back harder than I game her. I like it, but I can't exactly distinguish between her playing hard-to-get or she's saying she's not interested.", "summary": "have friend that's a girl. I want to become fwb/fb whatever. I do want to be more than JUST fb, aka I do enjoy going out on a date with her and spending time outside of the bed. I don't want a relationship. Do I talk to her about it or just leave it unsaid?"}
{"id": "t3_3nfoxs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by picking my Hangnail", "post": "So I love picking out hangnails (If you don't know what a hangnail is, it's pretty much some skin that pops up in between your nail and the skin next to it) But unlike others, I rip them completely out rather than cutting the visible part off, idk, I'm weird like that. So about twoish weeks ago (such a rebel *rolls eyes*) I picked a massive hangnail out of my big toe, it left a slight hole, which it normally did, but usually went away after a couple of days, but it didn't, in fact it got gross looking, toe going reddish purple and swollen where I did it. One morning I woke up and went to check it, as it was bleeding the night before and accidentally picked part of what I thought was the scab\n\nIt wasn't a scab.\n\nNext thing I knew a bunch of pimple like puss comes out of the hole next to my toe. \"Oh fuck\" I thought, I got enough going on right now without my toe fucking up. So I googled 'toe infection' and didn't get much, I looked up 'hangnail infection' and bingo, I gave myself an infection like a genius I am.\n\nSo when I got back to my mother's house (I was at my father's before) and the moment I told her she rushed me to the doctor, got it swabbed, popped and was given hard-core meds for it that taste like shit, while trying to keeping band aids on it without toe sweat in this stupid Australian heat making it fall off. \n\nI have a valedictory/graduation dinner in two weeks and I have to go with a half-dead looking toe.\n\nI am scarred for life and never pulling out hangnails ever again.", "summary": "My addiction to pulling out hangnails got me a nasty infection on my toe at the worst time possible."}
{"id": "t3_347sqm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I[25M] am terminally ill and haven't told my family", "post": "So, I'm going to keep this short and just get into the root of it, \n\nI was diagnosed with a genetic disorder three to four weeks ago. This particular genetic disorder prevents the growth of connective tissue of my internal organs. I was told by the doctors that everyone with this disorder dies before they are 30, usually from aortic dislodgment or sudden heart attack. So at best I have five years but habitual cigarette smoking and other life choices have more than likely cut that down significantly.\nI have a very......rocky relationship with my 5 siblings and parents. I've tried multiple times to tell them but I can't. Mostly because I doubt they would care or try to force closeness and I don't want pity. I go to support groups and a counselor and am in a somewhat decent place about all of it. \nIs it wrong of me not to want to tell them? Even not liking most of siblings, I would still want to know.", "summary": "Dying and don't want t tell my family about it, am I wrong for not wanting to tell them?"}
{"id": "t3_39y4b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) found a friend's (21F) boyfriend (24M) on Tinder.. And she's on Erasmus.", "post": "Like the title says.. I have a friend who is dating a guy for almost a year now. For the past 6 months she's been on erasmus and we haven't spoken much during that time. From her Facebook it seems like maybe things aren't completely ok between the two of them, but I can't be sure. \n\nLast week I created a tinder account and today I found him there ! First I was confused, because tinder isn't exactly the place where you go just to make friends, and I thought that maybe it's an old account and he doesn't use it anymore. So I added him and we were a match, which was proof that he was active on Tinder at least for the past week. \n\nNow I don't know what I should do. I don't think ignoring the situation is an option. I could: 1) tell her right away that I found her boyfriend on Tinder,  2) talk to him and figure if he's there just for the fun of it, if he's interested in sex, finding someone, and then tell her, 3) any other brilliant option you can give me. \n\nI know this isn't the most important topic but there are reasons as to why I'm not telling her right away. First because I haven't spoken to her that much during these 6 months and it would be weird to talk to her now just to tell her this when it might not mean anything. And second, I'm in love with a guy who has a huge crush on her (and yes, I know this is really selfish!) but I would hate to see him running straight to her to mend her broken heart. But talk with him to see his intentions can be a bad idea, because maybe she'll get mad at me for doing that. \n\nSo reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "I found the tinder of a boyfriend of a friend of mine who is on Erasmus; what should I do? Tell or talk first?"}
{"id": "t3_4qydjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you Keep Exes on Social Media?", "post": "Im a (24/m) she is (23/F)\n\nGoing through a bit of a breakup. Things ended just under 2 weeks ago. We were together for 6 months, she broke up after 3 months, got back with me, then 2 months later does it again and says she doesn't see a future with me. I told her I don't want to be friends and don't contact me unless you change your mind. After 10 days she messaged me last night at 1 am saying \"Happy Canada Day\". I foolishly responded \"Thanks, Good to hear from you\".\n\nIt might just be emotions are at a high right now, but Im tempted to just cut her out of my life completely. She was cold, distant, and disrespectful at the end and Im %100 certain she is seeing other people. My trust has in her is virtually gone and I'd be a fool to get back with her again. I just wish I didn't respond to her message last night. I've already deleted her off snapchat, unfollowed her on Facebook, and deleted some photos and old messages. Some of my friends suggest just keep No Contact, leave the door open, and continue what you're doing.\n\nWe met while traveling so there are a bunch of photos of us together backpacking.\n\nAnyone had experience with exes and social media? Whats your take on it?\n\nI'd also be interested in what males and females think about it?", "summary": "She broke up with, I don't trust her, want to delete out of my life."}
{"id": "t3_3qj3na", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm [33M] shopping for an engagement ring for my [31F] GF - need help", "post": "I'm looking to pop the question to my girlfriend next month and have started looking around for rings. I really want this to be a surprise, so I haven't asked her anything.\n\nShe has installed Pinterest on my iPad so today I snooped on her and see she has a jewelry board - complete with wedding ring sets!\n\nMy question is do I just go ahead and get one she has pinned - there aren't many - or do I take those pictures to a jewelry store and get something in that vein?\n\nWe go on a trip in less than a month and will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary while on it. I'd love to pop the question on that day so I'm guessing time is running short.", "summary": "? Wedding ring sets pinned on Pinterest - a good indicator of her wants/style or just something she likes at the moment?"}
{"id": "t3_3k371x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my bf [ 29 M ], of a year. Broke up and had a conversation about it", "post": "Actually redditors, I just wanted you to ask for your opinions.\n\nOur conversation was really necessary and definitely too late. If we talked earlier, we could have been happier.\n\nLong story short.\nWe finally were totally honest with each other about our needs and feelings but didn't come to a conclusion. He really wants to try it again. I am unsure about our well beings. \n\nIt is always a lot of work to keep your relationship on an honest point for yourself and your SO. \n\nI am really unsure about how to continue. We said that we would like to try it again but we were also scared to ruin this new base of our communication.", "summary": "if you are aware of the problems and willing to improve do you think it is possible to overcome the past and to try it again?"}
{"id": "t3_evcz7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit what are your tips for finding/landing a job?", "post": "I'm a 17 year old male who has no prior experience. I have filled out about 20 applications, I always call back a couple days later to try and set up an interview, have only ever gotten 1 interview, which led to a second interview, but no job offered. I always ask for the manager when I turn it in and give it to him directly, and dress nicely for all interactions.\n\nBut what are your tips for really landing that job as a teenager? How do you find the places that are hiring people my age? What are the best places to apply?", "summary": "Disregard women, Acquire currency"}
{"id": "t3_18mxgg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] chemistry with [17/f] was planning on asking her out until I found out age. What should I do next?", "post": "I recently met a girl in a local restaurant and after talking on multiple occasions over the span of many visits over a couple months I planned on asking her out. During regular conversation I found out she was 17.\n\nI normally date people around my age, and I honestly thought she was at least in college. We do hit it off and have a similar sense of humor. Should I still attempt to ask her out? Or should I just hit the brakes on this? And if I don't ask her out is it even possible to just be friends?", "summary": "I hit it off with a girl, planned on asking her out until I found out she was 17. Should I not go through with it?"}
{"id": "t3_33loln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] prom date [17 F] is a foreign exchange ESOL student, feeling nervous!", "post": "I have my senior prom this weekend and I'm taking a girl who is from China. She is really cool and I like her, though we didn't really talk much until I asked her to go to prom with me last week.\nI like talking to her and am really excited about prom, but I think I'm having some trouble with language and cultural barriers. \n\nSometimes I just get stuck and don't know what to talk about. I probably shouldn't even be having this hard of a time with it, but I think I have some social anxiety too so that may be contributing.\n\nWe both really like fashion (she wants to be a designer, I'm a model and run an apparel company) so I've been talking to her a lot about that, and I just found out today that we both like anime so there's something. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to make sure she's comfortable and has a good time at prom, in case things are different in China where she is from. I've also never been to prom with a girl I liked. I've been to prom four times but all with friends or girls who asked me that I didn't have interest in.\n\nThanks for any advice, I appreciate it. Take care!", "summary": "I'm taking a foreign exchange ESOL student to prom. I feel nervous about language/conversation and cultural barriers.\""}
{"id": "t3_1dqlwv", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Planning a Pagan Wedding - Advice/Help?", "post": "I've been planning my wedding (we're engaged to be engaged, due to money issues and such, but very certain and prepared for the rest of our lives) out of purpose to be prepared and not be making decisions on venues, themes, etc. However, we're coming to the religious portion of it. My man isn't religious at all, but I'm Wiccan, and not sure how I should plan the ceremony accordingly. I like the idea of having the small to moderate size wedding, but without the Christian aspect of it.\n\nDoes anyone here have experience with that or have any advice as to how to make a decision on this? I considered a handfasting, but I don't want to offend his family as well (his mother-in-law is and comes from a super Christian family).", "summary": "I'm Wiccan, he's Atheist, not sure what to plan for in the ceremony."}
{"id": "t3_3atefi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mum and uncle 1 is being threatened by uncle 2", "post": "For this I'll call Uncle 1 Harry and Uncle 2 Justin, hopefully this'll make things easier to understand.\n\nOkay, so last night uncle Harry was sent a message from Justin which demanded \u00a310,000 from both my mum and Harry or \"There will be hell\" and he knows where we both live.\n\nMany years ago Harry and Justin co-owned a shop which they both had a share in but they fell out and Justin left the family a note saying that he had decided to disown the family. Harry could not afford to keep up the shop on his own so he had to remortgage his parents house. Through these years my uncle Justin has not contacted most of the family and we had no idea of what he was doing, where he was living e.t.c.\n\nWhen he was younger Justin tended to mix with the wrong crowd and at one point he apparently was involved with an organised crime group. He has always had money problems and has had my mum pay for his car in the past because he didn't have the money. He also ran away from him parents home too for a long time when he was younger. I also found out that he has asked my cousin for money too.\n\nI don't know all the details of my mum and uncles' relationships but I know that my uncle mingled with the wrong crowds and disowned the family and I haven't seen him for years. My mum can't walk around the house without looking worried. I've never done a post before so hopefully this all makes sense.", "summary": "My uncle has threatened my mum and other uncle demanding \u00a310,000 or \"there will be hell\". He knows where we live."}
{"id": "t3_j1968", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Could someone explain to me why pro-LGBT rights people tend to believe that homosexuality is not hereditary?", "post": "Honest question here, I just need to clear some of my doubts on this. \n\nMy take on all of this is that there could be a homosexuality could be attributed slightly to genetic reasons, and not to negative effect of the LGBT community. \n\nSocial stigma of the past could force many homosexual people to marry someone of the opposite gender, due to reasons such as jobs, being accepted by the whole society (which can be a big deal), and whatever other reason that our ancestors/predecessors might have to do to be accepted in the far more conservative society of the past.\n\nSo with that in mind, great-great grandpa could have had reduced testosterone levels, etc that COULD in a way contribute to homosexuality in his descendants. \n\nAnd with that in mind, wouldn't that give homosexuality near to equal rights as black people/women when they were given their current human rights, seeing that it doesn't make homosexuals any less human, AND the difference here is due to partial-genetic reasons?\n\nYes I believe that homosexuality is choice, an idea that a man or a woman can come up with and live by it, and by all means do it, I'm fully for LGBT rights. **But why the fervent rejection of the notion that homosexuality can be partially genetic?**\n\nI'm just giving my two cents worth here, and if anyone can help to explain this to me, it'd be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "With social stigma of the past, our ancestors might have been forced to marry someone of the opposite gender, even if he/she was more inclined towards his/her own gender, with that in mind, why can't there be a possibility of homosexuality (in the form of hormone production, physical makeup etc), that can be passed down through the generations?"}
{"id": "t3_3l5sn2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by nodding my head", "post": "This FU was a year ago, and it taught me to never nod my head in response to a question or something I didn't quite catch or understand. \n\nA bit about myself, I'm a teenage guy from Singapore, and despite the fact that I look Chinese, I am NOT. Along with the fact that I still take Mandarin Chinese as a subject in school, most people tend to think that I'm Chinese, but it doesn't really bother me. Apart from the fact that I really, really suck at understanding it. \n\nAnyway, so I was having a haircut in a neighborhood hair salon. I don't usually go to these sort of places to get my hair cut, I go to the ones in shopping malls and all which cost 10 bucks for one session. The hairdressers/barbers in those place usually speak English. This one is a young Chinese man, probably in his 20s, and he was speaking to me in Mandarin mostly and fragments of English, which I could roughly understand. Or so I thought. \n\nThis is where the FU comes in. He asks me a question in Chinese before he begins cutting my hair and all, which I dismissed as some random question like \"Are you ready to have a haircut?\" or something along that line. I nodded my head in response, which would end up being one of the most pivotal and tragic decisions of my life. \n\nAfter a few minutes, I notice that the hairdresser was already in the process of cutting my hair BALD. Turns out, he had asked me in Mandarin whether I wanted to go bald. It was too late to protest at this point, so I had no choice but to suck it up and prepare for a whole lot of teasing in school the next day.\n\nAnd that's when I learnt to never mindlessly nod my head, ever again.", "summary": "Nodded while getting a haircut, ended up making a bald statement."}
{"id": "t3_3ayodc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] took my best friends virginity [19F] and things have been awkward since.", "post": "On valentines day this year, me and my best friend, let's call her Lauren, went to watch 50 shades of grey. We had nothing to do so we might as well watch it. (The movie was fucking terrible).\n\nWe come over to her house after we finished watching the movie. Her parents were away for the weekend, so it was just her and me in the house. \n\nYa'll know where this is leading to, right?\n\nWe've always been attracted to each other, but we never acted upon it due to protecting our friendship. Out of nowhere she starts grabbing my dick and kissing me. We get to her bedroom and shit is going down. I had only had sex once, so I'm not experienced in any way. She was a virgin but she knew what she was doing to my surprise. It was easily the best sex I've ever had. \n\nThings have been awkward since. Our convos aren't as meaningful as they used to be. We don't see each other as much. And whenever I try to talk about us having sex, she tries to change the subject and refuses to talk about it. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Took best friends virginity. Things have been awkward since."}
{"id": "t3_3lut32", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU ordering at dominos", "post": "As title says this happened almost an hour ago i ordered at dominos with my laptop a first time and i used my italian original number onto the infos. Then i proceed to go to the order tracker ( first time at all doing this on dominos) and wait. This is where the first FU happened. I remembered that i needed an UK number to do the order and my fucked brain says if the order doesn't pass from the order phase to the cooking one in 15 minutes i'll do a second order with the number of one of my UK friend that gently gave its permission. I am obviously high af so i didn't choose delivery but i did the same order on collect. I proceed to go on tracking order and i see that i am an idiot and i send as final fuck up the third same order but with all the correct info this time and as additional infos i said to cancel my two first order because i fucked up. You need to remember that all of this happened in a 1.30 hours time frame. So i am here and seeing on the order that they thought it was a joke they canceled all 3 the order i made. Moral is now i am crying for food and without dinner neither lunch and no food in the house.", "summary": "placed 3 orders all wrong and they canceled all 3 of them leaving me without food because i am a stipid trees lover"}
{"id": "t3_4779vw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my bf [38 M] dating for 4 months and i think he might be depressed and i'm confused HELP!", "post": "Long time lurker and finally had the courage to post as my introvert self cannot make sense of anything as i'm clouded with emotion.\n\nSo he said that he loves me early. (from his culture this is normal, i took it as he likes me a lot so i don't have a big issue about it). He has a kid and lives with the kid when we started dating, everything was good, i didn't had problems with it as he is giving me enough time and attention. recently he gave up the kid to the ex wife (legal issues) and they aren't divorced yet, the kid will live with the mom but he will still  be able to take her from time to time. \n\nHe never wanted to talk about these issues with me as he doesn't want to drag me to his problems, but from time to time i make him open up. The problem is this affected him so much and he said that it depresses him so much. I was a bit surprised cause in my background, guys dont have much dependencies on living with kids.\n \nwhat bothered me alot  is that he told me he is now uncertain of what will happen to his life. and yet he asked me to move in with him just few weeks before all this happens. It made me feel that he might be using me to just escape from what depresses him. I wanna be with someone who really wanted to be with me and not bec he is depress and needy. \n\nShould i be more patient and wait til he got used to living without the kid or is this a sign that i should end things soon.", "summary": "bf gave up living with his kid,is depressed and was not certain about his future and im confused if he really wanted to start again with me"}
{"id": "t3_1pwwdp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dream job or boyfriend?[m/32][f/21]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a little bit over a year. We've had a great relationship. It was basically love at first sight. (I usually don't believe in that shit but its the best way to describe it) he was my roommate first so we have been living together since day 1. We have been through so many obstacles together, like relocating to a different state, mental illness and an unplanned pregnancy. In the long run we are closer than ever before.\n\nHere's the issue: my boyfriend and I love to travel. I love it so much that I am wanting to make it my career. I have applied to be a flight attendant for multiple airlines. I have received my first offer for an interview on Saturday. I'm so excited, but torn. I know that if I become a flight attendant I will barely see him and I fear that in the end the distance will ruin our relationship. We have been living together since day 1 so this will be a big change. The longest we've been apart was two weeks when he went on a trip to Africa.\n\nI really want to be a flight attendant, but i really don't want to ruin this great relationship I have. Should I hold the opportunity off for a while or just do it??", "summary": "Got an interview for my dream job, but I'm afraid it will ruin my relationship with my BF."}
{"id": "t3_42mzl5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I feel pretty tired/fatigued a lot of the time, what do I do?", "post": "I'm also unhappy with the decisions I've made, and my observational skills are very low. Today, when doing something as simple as playing cards, I messed up like trice and felt bad for it.\n\nI don't really enjoy anything anymore in a \"good way\", as in it makes me happy. Used to love playing games and making movies, but all that passion is gone.\n\nIf you've read my (one and only) previous topic, I'm into this girl, right? Well, yesterday, I was kind of starting to move on from that whole thing.\n\nBut today the most f-ed up thing happened; when me and my friends were going to eat and were passing the entrance, guess who walks in? She then sat down and ate with her friends, while I was anxious inside all of that time... ;(\n\nAnd we met one last time when she passed by and we were playing cards, after my several paranoid stares for her; one of her friends jokingly asked \"if they could play with us\". \n\nNow I feel awful again, because not once did she in any way try to acknowledge my existence. It was so bizzare too, I was absolutely unprepared, and BAM!\n\nI've contemplated how valuable my life truly is. I don't want to come off as some nihilist emo, but I don't know. I don't want my family to suspect that I'm depressed, even if my father is inclined to think so, and even explicitly asked it. I feel like I've let so many people down to the degree that I can't count, made failed impressions and come off as awkward, and feel deeply disturbed whenever I hear about everything happening in this sickening world, as well as witnessing it IRL.\n\nI don't want to look this supposed depression up though, maybe it's just a minor one and note severe?", "summary": "I have mental problems, a bad social life and failed relations. Can I be responsible and fix this or should I do something different?"}
{"id": "t3_snpaj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would like to emigrate from the US...Where do I begin? Details inside...", "post": "Married, Father of 2 girls, 9 and 5. Just never seem to make ends meet, and getting kinda scared of the political environment nowadays. I don't know, maybe it was the that KFC commercial that said with any 10 piece you get a free double chocolate pie, that made me really want to get some answers on where to begin. I have been in a rut with work, been working for a company that has been taken over twice in as many years. At 41, I figure this is my last ditch effort to start anew, in that the kids won't be too distraught of moving. They support the decision of looking for a change, but can't be too confidant that they understand. But my wife is 100% supportive.\n\nI consider myself very marketable in the Telephony/Networking world. I am currently a VoIP engineer and have been in the business for 12+ years. Is there any country that is aggressively looking for VoIP/Network engineers? Any chance of moving expenses?\n\nI would like a place that is supportive of family, that respects science, and generally not backwards. One that you would be hard pressed to find HFCS in all your food, I digress, but just bought some macaroni salad, friggin' 7th ingredient is HFCS.\n\nI know a lot will depend on the language barrier. Or is it a benefit that I know English natively.  Is it difficult to obtain citizenship?\n\nIt's hard to describe utopia when it doesn't exist...at least not here in the US.", "summary": "Worried Dad about future of family in US, wants to get out...best place to begin? Life needs to become simple again and more focus on family..."}
{"id": "t3_2zsjff", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [24F] duration 5years, short-description- She broke up with me to regain her independence", "post": "I've been in a long distance relationship for 5 years, I live in a different state. I fly to her mid year and end of year, she flyes to me during the year.\nRecently we mutually decided that without a date, we wanted to be together forever. She went back home a week ago leaving her toiletries and some clothes with me as usual said to me without a doubt she wants to have a life with me and start a family. We are even looking into moving in together late this year early next year. 4 days later calls me up and says we need to go on a break for her to regain her independence, she wants to live life for now without having to worry about me, which is weird because its not like you can just turn your feelings off. It's not about meeting other people its about becoming self sufficient she says.\nwhen i talk to her on the phone she has said 'i love you', when i ask if these 5 years were a waste of time she cries. It's doing my head in, I don't understand what i am preventing her from doing? She assured me its not about having to relocate because I have said Ill move to her. She has also told me to date other people cos im single, but thats not what Im into, we've never cheated on each other and if either of us even kissed another person, the other would be broken completely. I just need help, what do i do...", "summary": "She broke up with me to regain her independence but still wants a future with me"}
{"id": "t3_revzi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ok Reddit, What Is Your Most Embarrasing/Uncomfortable/Akward experience?", "post": "I Will obviously start, I Was on a cruise one summer, and being 16 and the time, I was in a 17 and under club on the ship. I was tired from dancing with a group I'd met on board so I sat down. All of a sudden, this huge black guy comes up to me and starts trying to tell me something. The music was so loud that even after asking \"what\" three different times I still didn't understand what he was saying to me. He told me to follow him which I finally understood, and he took me to this red couch covered in like 7 other black teenagers. I am in no way racist, but as one of the whitest kids alive, I was a little confused. He tells me to sit down, and then all of a sudden, this huge black girl starts grinding her ass all over my lap, while all the other black people watched. I just sat there like, wtf am I supposed to be doing? All of a sudden she stood up, they all started laughing, and I just walked the hell away. To this day, I still don't know what the black guy was trying to tell me, or why this black chick wanted to give me a lap dance, but that is easily the most uncomfortable I've ever been in my entire life.", "summary": "I got lap raped by a very large black girl when I was 16, while 7 others laughed"}
{"id": "t3_28hkzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28/m) half brother's dad (50's/m) just passed away", "post": "My mom had my half-brother when she was 17.  She got married to his dad (Kevin) but after a couple years they got divorced.  My mom kept custody, and both my mom and Kevin eventually remarried.  My mom married my dad, and had myself and my brother.  Kevin remarried and had a couple more kids as well.\n\nMy half-brother lived with us until he moved out for college, and had a family of his own.  I'm pretty close with him and his family, and we see each other several times a year along with holidays and things like that.  I've met his dad and their family a couple times, but never really got to know any of them that well.\n\nAnyway, my half-brother's dad just passed away and I'm not really sure what the etiquette is for attending the visitation and funeral and stuff like that.  I want to be there to support my brother and his family, but I don't really know anything about who his dad was or what he was like.\n\nI'm thinking I'll attend the visitation, but skip the funeral.  Any thoughts?", "summary": "My half-brother's dad just died.  Him and my brother were close, but I never really knew him.  Should I attend the visitation/funeral?"}
{"id": "t3_27ibfa", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "So I'm in Yosemite, and I want to be in Las Vegas - but I don't want to drive straight there. Coolest things to see and stay in between?", "post": "Doing a road trip across this lovely country and trying to keep my plans as fluid as I can get away with. Just about to do my forth night at the excellent Bug Rustic Hostel (booked one night then just kept adding more) and I've done three amazing days in Yosemite (holy cow, by the way).\n\nVegas is the next destination on the list (then the Canyon, the parks of Utah, then Austin, New Orleans and so on up the coast) but it's eight-hours drive from here and I'm powerfully uninterested in ever driving more than three or four hours at a day. \n\nSo I figure I'll do it over two or three days and try and see some stuff on the way. \n\nThing is I don't know dick about the state between here and there. I'd love to know what's worth seeing and I'd really love if you know of the best places to stay along the way. Cheap, high quality hostels (/unicorns) preferably, but if you can sell me on an amazing experience with a real price tag I've got the funds to splash out a bit if its worth it.", "summary": "read the title ;)"}
{"id": "t3_2y6o68", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update- my big problem with my bf and his best friend.", "post": "I'm 22, they are 21. 6 month relationship.\n\nSo...I said I'd update when i moved out. I want to Thank everyone who commented on the original post. You guys gave me a lot of perspective and that helped me phrase the conversation in a more mature way.\n\nHe and I talked the next day about how their relationship had crossed a lot of lines, how i understood that Anne had been around longer than i had, but i wouldn't tolerate that kind of disrespect. We talked for hours.\n\nBottom line, he said he'd stop talking to her altogether, but i had to tell her and tell her why. I told him i was not interested in being the bad guy and giving him a loophole to be her bff again if/when we broke up.\n\nI went back to packing my things and called my dad. My bf went to her apartment and i called him and dumped him, then i left. Since then i have deleted both of them from Facebook. They've both been blowing up my phone, alternating between apologetic and angry. She is accusing me of ruining her best friend's life, and their friendship,  i guess he's mad at her now? Idk. Idc.", "summary": "i moved out and broke up with him, they are both mad at me. I don't care."}
{"id": "t3_2wyjtg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to protect my art", "post": "I had just finished a self portrait which took a few weeks to produce. I'm a pretty bad artist  but I was actually kind of proud that it turned out  well for my skill level. I have  terrible handwriting and can't draw a straight line to save my life.  Anyways, to the FU. This portrait was done in charcoal, it will smear if it rubs on anything so to prevent this we spray a clear sealant that protects it. I took my portrait and a can which read enamel outside during class. I spray the sealant to see a white streak across my face. I think to myself \" Does it turn clear?\" And sprayed another line across the bottom to see white spatter all across it. I went inside to ask my art teacher what was up. When I walked in the asked \" You didn't use that one did you?\" \nIt was white spray paint.\nSorry for formatting first post on mobile.", "summary": "I sprayed white spray paint on my drawing I spent a long time on. Plus I can't for Mat for shit."}
{"id": "t3_1wonp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my recent-exGF [16 F] of 2 years, we just broke up, but now I'm confused", "post": "As the title says, my fairly long time GF and I broke up fairly recently (around a month ago), and it was more mutual than anything. I didn't resent her for it, but things were still very icy. She and I go to the same school and have 2 classes together, so avoiding each other just wasn't an option. \n\nAround a week ago, she started talking to me again, as if nothing had happened. She started telling people we were together and started acting like we never broke up. I don't want to hurt her, but I want her to understand that we aren't dating anymore. Any advice will be really helpful.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I broke up, but she still acts like we're together."}
{"id": "t3_31xp8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my BF [22 M], we're both visiting his Korean Grandma for first time, help!", "post": "So my boyfriend's mom just reconnected with her mother who gave her daughter up (my boyfriends mom) when she was like 2 I think. She lives in Tampa and we are heading down to a convention in Orlando this weekend and are going to stop by Tampa to introduce ourselves, at my boyfriend's mom and grandma's request. \n\nI'm super nervous!! I know culture etiquette pretty well, I think (advise me on this too anyways!) such as taking my shoes off and such. I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice. I'm a pretty awkward person, even more so when I meet someone new. And even way more so since it's family for my boyfriend. How do I not look like an idiot? I still get nervous around his mom and we've been dating for 7 years now. \n\nAlso, should I bring her a gift? Flowers?\n\nI might be overthinking it. She might not even be that influenced by the Korean culture but I want to be prepared! Last thing I want to do is insult her...\n\nI don't know if it matters but I'm white and my boyfriend is Korean.", "summary": "Meeting Korean Grandma for the first time. Should I bring a gift and how do I not be so awkward/nervous."}
{"id": "t3_32icsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 6 months decided to take a break", "post": "Today my boyfriend and I decided we should go on a break/break up. We have been having a rough time for the past 2 weeks, as both of us have been stressed about school, and the problems with our relationship have been adding to our stress. \n\nThe problems we've been having are mostly due to me and my own insecurity in the relationship. In the past, I've been cheated on (my boyfriend with my best friend) and it has given me anxiety, however unfounded, that this will happen again in the future. \n\nMy boyfriend keeps a lot of female friends/study buddies, and I understand this completely but for some reason it still bothers me. He also has developed a close relationship with my (female) roommate, who is one of my best friends. This really bothers me, it reminds me too closely of the terrible experience I've had with my cheating ex. \n\nThe thing is I know that both my boyfriend and my friend are completely trustworthy, but still when they're alone together I get mild panic attacks (nausea, heart palpitations). My boyfriend knows that this is the effect it has on me. I know it's unreasonable of me to ask him to cut off this relationship with my roommate,  and with this putting such a strain on our relationship we decided to take a break.\n\nBut even now I know that I still want to be with him, but I don't know how to curb my anxiety/jealousy. I'm too embarrassed about it to talk to my roommate. Please help.", "summary": "I'm unreasonably jealous of my (ex?)boyfriends relationships with other women but I still want to be with him."}
{"id": "t3_14qky6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "HELP! 29(f) whose bf (35) has tons of female friends with whom he has few if any boundaries with- how to deal?", "post": "we've been dating on and off for 4 years now and the 'offs' were mostly because i had an issue with how he acted with one or another of his female friends. e.g. of questionable behaviors include late night calls, meeting up with them one and one and not telling me, going on trips/outings together when he and i have a fight, they all seem to know so much personal information about him (what kind of lotion he uses?!), he will drink out of their glasses when we're out,  they mail him gifts, we had a fight about one particular one and then he brings her over to my house (which a bunch of  his other female friends!).\n\nHe tells me I'm insecure for having these issues so i'm not sure if that's true and i'm just overly possessive or is any of this actually wrong in a committed relationship?! \n\nside note- he has serious insecurities when it comes to me mingling with almost any guy, including his own friends! he constantly accuses me of the very things i find out later he's doing behind my back! the hypocrisy kills me.", "summary": "bf has more female friends than male and spends lots of time with them despite me having issues with it and then tells me its my problem of insecurity. how to deal?"}
{"id": "t3_48thdg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] irrationally dislike prospective coworker [20F]", "post": "Throwaway and names changed to protect the innocent and guilty, etc. I'm aware that 1. if anyone has a problem in this situation it's me and 2. it might ultimately turn out to be nothing.\n\nAnway, I'm a college student and to support myself I have a job on campus. It's in a small obscure administrative office and pretty good as campus jobs go (no customer interaction!). Because our department is pretty out of the way/unknown to most students, recruiting is usually through word of mouth or references from friends. For example, myself and the (unofficial) student manager are the same major so she recommended me and the actual manager approved my placement.\n\nCurrently we're looking at hires for next year as a lot of people are about to graduate out (nothing is settled yet). I know 2 possible applicants: Sam and Lulu. Sam and I were close freshmen year and I think she'd be great in the team. Lulu on the other hand...I find her really annoying. For no reason. She's never wronged me, everyone else seems to get along with her fine, etc. She has some flaws (immature, weeaboo-ish, kinda shrill) but I know plenty of other people with similar traits I get along OK with. We even have a few interests in common (maybe that's it? Projection?? I secretly hate myself??). \n\nSo my question: how can I prepare for maybe working with someone I can't stand? If our schedules line up I'll be in charge of training her (ugh) because there aren't many others with enough experience. Is there a diplomatic way to ask not to be working partners with her? Are there ways for me to become less bitter and intolerant?", "summary": "Possible future coworker is basically an OK person I can't stand. How can I either a. get over this or b. politely avoid her at work next semester?"}
{"id": "t3_1kmvzy", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "How can I fix a bad first impression for cats?", "post": "I just brought home a stray kitten (about 4 months old). I was stupid and thought him and my cat (1.5 years old) wouldn't have too many problems getting along since the stray was so sweet and seemed to get along well with my friend's dog. I was wrong and the kitten became extremely territorial and scared my cat. The kitten was definitely the aggressor, they seemed like they were about to fight so I separated them. I now have my cat in the living room and the kitten in my bedroom.\n\nIt wasn't until after I separated them that I started to research introducing a new cat to a home. Everyone seemed to stress the importance of not introducing them right away since it could create life long tension. I tried having them switch rooms so they could smell each other's scent without being in each other's space but my cat seemed to be freaked out so I put them back where I had them originally.  Since I seemed to have fucked up big time I want to know if anyone has any advice to fix my blunder of creating a bad first impression for the cat and kitten.", "summary": "I screwed up my cat and my new kittens first impression. Is there anyway for me to fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2lkf44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my _GF_ [20/F] 1.2yrs, Snooped and disappointed.", "post": "So me and my gf have been dating for over a year, we were talking tonight and my gf gave me the password to her fb account to show me some pics.\n\n I went on checked the pics and logged off, But I saw a convo from a guy in the chat bar, she told me was just a friend/coworker so I never thought twice about it.\n Later on I thought about the chatbar again and logged back in(I know im an idiot)....against my better judgment I looked at the chat log and when I finished reading...I felt reallllly shitty about breaking the trust she gave me but even worse about what I read. \n\nShe was very flirty, admitted to have interest in him, had a dream about being in his arms and from what I can tell she was the pursuer for the most part. Even gave him her number before he asked. They went out for dinner a few times....she talk about sitting in his lap as well as missing his warm hugs. We are in a long distance relationship and I've been doing my best to not get jealous and be cool...but this was just hard to read....while I had it coming by snooping....I just need some advice...how should I bring it up with her? Should I bring it up? is it time to move on? this happened a few months ago, but the fact that she didn't share any of this with me was a little concerning as we are both very open with each other.\n\nShe always assured me that I was the only one she loved, and that he always flirted with her etc, but it seems like she was the instigator the entire time.", "summary": "Long distance relationship, Snooped GF's fb and found out she was into another guy... :("}
{"id": "t3_3jfg98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 F] with my co-worker [42 F] of 2 years, I don't know how to kindly respond to her constant whining.", "post": "I work as a type of support specialist for a teacher for special needs children. I also used to be a special needs teacher before I decided to specialize in my deeper area of interest. I know how hard and stressful it can be, but also how rewarding it is. I have to work closely with her, as my specialty involves many of her students.\n\nI think this woman is a great person. She's kind, caring, and works hard. When she isn't talking about work, she's fun, light-hearted, and a pleasure to be around.\n\nUnfortunately, I only see her at work. I see her often, and when I come to talk to her about something she goes on and on about the latest problem. She NEVER mentions anything positive. She is always incredibly overwhelmed and stressed out. She is always dramatizing the latest occurrence and repeating the situation without trying to problem solve.\n\nThis is draining to me. It is also not my style. When I was stressed out as a special education teacher, I tended to focus on the positives to get me through the day. I don't want to discount her problems, but her constant complaining is really getting to me.\n\nIt would be nice if I could just avoid her, but I can't. I have to talk to her about her students. What can I say when she goes into one of her hourly rants about what is going on in the classroom? I can literally feel her stress emanating off of her and into me. It's horrible. I try to avoid feeling her stress, but it seems to happen physiologically despite what I tell myself. \n\nIs there anything I can say to this kind, warm person who I actually like, to get her to stop her constant complaining and venting?", "summary": "I work closely with a woman who constantly complains about her job (a job which I've had and enjoyed before becoming specialized). What can I nicely say to her to get her to stop complaining to me every time I meet with her about a student?"}
{"id": "t3_x1c56", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "33 (f) broke up with 33 (m) a month ago for omitting that he was meeting his female friends and I wished my heart would be in tune with my brain by now.", "post": "I broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years because he simply couldn't do one thing: be honest about seeing his close female friend and other female friends. He justified himself saying I'd be jealous, I'd have so much on my plate at the moment he didn't want me to worry.", "summary": "Just a rant about me, 33 (f) who broke up with him, 33 (m), a month ago for omitting things and I wished my heart would be in tune with my brain by now."}
{"id": "t3_4n94bw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M], not really religious, with my Muslim girlfriend [19 F] 3 months, having problems due to religious differences", "post": "Title. Me and my girlfriend are in college, and she's a very religious yet Westernized Muslim. I'm not that religious, let alone a Muslim, and this is causing problems with us right now. This difference alone basically makes any long-term plans null, and I'm confronted with the situation now of either converting to Islam or just revert to being the friends that we used to be.\n\nI'm not adverse to converting to a specific religion just to be with her, but she doesn't want me to change who I am just to be with her. After all, she said that she likes me because of who I am 'inside', and converting to Islam would completely change my way of life.\n\nSo what do you think I should do? I know, only three months for two kids to be together is rather dramatic and relationships at my age come and go, but I honestly care a lot for her and I know she does as well. Should we go back to being just good friends, or should I pursue this and, in the process, change myself", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are currently intrinsically incompatible due to our religious differences, but we care for each other a lot. What do you suggest I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2zsjyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24, M) went barhopping with some friends (20s, F & M) and a drunk coworker was harassing one of them. He took knowing me as license to harass her even more.", "post": "I went out barhopping with some friends for a birthday party. This was my first time doing anything of the sort (barhopping, drinking more than one beer in a night, etc.) Everything was going well until some guy began making unwanted advances toward one of my female friends. \n\nHe got in her space, tried to grind on her, etc. She shook her head no, told him to back off, scowled at him, moved away from him, etc. I recognized him as a coworker (works in a building 15 miles away from me, so I only recognized him, didn't know him well.) I acknowledged him, thinking that he would back off if he realized that someone he worked with was witnessing this.  He then continued even more aggressively, while my friend thought that she couldn't be as confrontational because I knew the creep.\n\nShe told him to back off. I took him aside, told him she wasn't interested and he needed to back off, and he continued. At this point, I had no idea what to do. \n\nMy questions are: How do I smooth this over with my friend? (She has said that this happens to her often, but I feel partially responsible) In what way can I confront this coworker the next time I see him outside of work? And if this ever happens again how can I put a stop to it?", "summary": "Drunk coworker harrasses female friend who is clearly not interested: What do I say to her, how do I confront him, and how do I stop this if it happens again?"}
{"id": "t3_200y4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am planning on moving out with a friend [20F]. Problems with bringing people over arise.", "post": "I've known her since i was a baby, she's a nice girl, we're best friends, however there's one small problem.\n\nShe doesn't like the guy i have a thing with.\n\nThe whole \"Why they don't like each other\" thing is really confusing.\n\nHe was having a shit day, (this was over facebook mind you.) and she started annoying him. To the point of just spamming him, saying things to try and get a reaction. He went offline, he was clearly annoyed and since then, she's had an absolute hatred for him. To the point of actually putting him down to me. \"I hate him.\" \"He's an asshole / cunt.\" etc.\n\nConsidering we're moving in together, i told her that he'd probably come over a couple of times a week, at first she was okay with this, didn't care, but now she's just said \"No, he's not coming over.\"\n\nI asked why, and her reply was \"Because he's an asshole.\", So i told her that he's not, she's the one who started the whole argument and she quickly changed the subject. \n\nI know him, if he does come over, he definitely wouldn't start an argument, or say anything nasty. But i have a feeling she's just going to go out of her way to be a bitch.\n\nSo now i'm confused, what do i do?", "summary": "Best friend hates boyfriend because she started an argument (??)"}
{"id": "t3_2wzrkv", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Why won't my girlfriend stop posting so many selfies?", "post": "My girlfriend is obsessed with posting pictures of herself online.  Before we started dating, the pictures were very risqu\u00e9; she was hardly wearing anything in them.  Now that I've told her how much it bothers me, she is always fully clothed in these pictures, but the pictures are still very suggestive (kissy face, cleavage, poses, etc.). She is such an amazing girl and I really do want to marry her.  We have been together for 2 years now and this is really the only thing we fight about, but I feel that it is a bigger issue than what it seems to be on the surface.  Why does she need so much approval from other men on social media?  It's very concerning to me.  The thing that bugs me the most about it though is no matter how many times I tell her that it kills me to see these pictures, no matter how many times we argue about it, she will not stop.  Every time I look at her snapchat or instagram there are tons of new suggestive images or video and it makes me question her motives.  Whenever I ask her why she does it, she really has no good answer and just says, \"they're just pictures, I love you stop worrying.\"  But it seems that someone who wants to put up this many pictures of themselves must have some kind of deep hidden narcissism that I can't see or haven't seen fully yet.  Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be concerned?", "summary": "Girlfriend posts too many selfies, won't stop even though I've asked a million times.  Should I be worried or am I being crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_2xomhy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shaving my armpits", "post": "So, I saw a post somewhere on reddit, or a comment, whatever, about a guy who shaved his armpits because he didn't like dealing with the hair. I thought \"what a great idea, it's time for a trim anyway.\"\n\nSo, I grabbed my electric razor I haven't used in a while, flipped open the trimmer, and away I went. \n\nThis worked fine, and did a much better job than I could do with scissors. But I wanted to see if I could get it even shorter, so I closed the trimmer and started using the three headed shaver. \n\nThis was a mistake.\n\nI forgot I had skin tags under my right armpit, and how sensitive one's armpits can be, considering I've been a pretty hairy fellow all my life. \n\nNow I'm trying to type this on my phone while holding my arms up and blowing on the now-in- pain skin. Also there are multiple spots under the right armpit that are now bleeding.", "summary": "if you're a man, don't shave your armpits, trim them instead. Or wax them if that's your thing."}
{"id": "t3_3bze58", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering a pint", "post": "TIFU in a chain pub in Wales by ordering a pint. This actually just happened ten minutes ago. I missed my train and am now stuck for ~5 hours in a major town in South Wales, UK. I've not had the best morning so I figured I'd go for a pint, as it was approaching noon. So as I entered the pub it went quiet.a few people turned to look at me and I thought it was a bit odd, but nothing too out of the ordinary... This is the sort of town where everybody knows everybody else so I shrugged it off and walked up to the bar.\n\n The staff were motionless and the silence seemed to intensify as I tried to catch their eye, to no avail. Eventually, weirded out by the silence I asked 'are you serving?' I was quickly told in hushed tones that it was a minute's silence for the victims of the Tunisia attacks. :(", "summary": "I accidentally broke a minute's silence to order a drink"}
{"id": "t3_16d6x9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] roommate [23M] is a slob and puts no effort into keeping our apartment clean. How can I change this?", "post": "I've lived with this guy for 7 months. He's an ok dude, but he rarely showers, doesn't do laundry, and won't clean his dishes for weeks. He sulks in his room 24/7 and rarely leaves the apartment. I have to remind him at least three times to do something. \n\nI'm the complete opposite. I am a neat freak, I clean all my dishes after each use, vacuum regularly, shower, and wash my clothes once a week. I go out often and work a lot. Although we technically don't have a lease, I sublet the room to him. I need to make a new sublet, so I need some advice on what is too extreme to ask of a tenant and what is just my pet peeves. I'm not out to control anyone, but by god I don't let the smell of homeless person every time his door opens up. I have been a passive aggressive roommate before, and I am really trying to change that.", "summary": "roommate is a slob and doesn't put any effort into maintaining the apartment. How can I get him to pitch in more and clean himself up?"}
{"id": "t3_3gyxop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25F] work on my relationship (5.5years) with my partner [29M] now that we have a baby?", "post": "My partner [29M] and I [25F] have a baby [5moF]. We have been together for about 5 and a half years and we live together. Our relationship has changed since we had a (unplanned) baby. We are no longer intimate. We've had sex twice in the past year. We wouldn't have it *super* often before. Maybe once a week but it was satisfying and made me feel close to him. \n\nDuring my pregnancy, I felt really close to him and I couldn't wait to spend this new part of our lives together. \n\nSince the birth, I have incredibly low self-esteem and because I am breastfeeding, I have no sex drive. We don't talk about much anymore and he spends his free time playing MMOs with mates. I have PND and he says he doesn't want to talk about things because he doesn't want to put stress into me.\n\nI really miss us but I can't see a future where I am with the baby not working and he works, comes home, plays with little for 5 minutes and then games the rest of the night. He wants me to not work (I used to waitress 2nd shift)because he thinks he will just be working, taking care of little and sleeping. Even though he works 9 to 5 M-F and she goes to bed at 7ish. I think there is plenty of time after she goes to bed. He also games most of the weekend. \n\nI want to be active. Go for walks, go out to places. Just *do something*!! But he acts like it's the most boring thing and then I can't enjoy myself. I'm lonely and a bit sad. I know he isn't responsible for my happiness but I don't know what to do. \n\nI guess I'm looking for advice on where to go from here. Relationship counseling? I just... don't know. Sorry this is long.", "summary": "SO [29M] and I [25F] have a baby and now our relationship is suffering."}
{"id": "t3_2kedn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [20 M] 2 years, long distance, don't know what to do.", "post": "So basically, I met my BF at uni like 2 months after I started. Everything was brilliant for the next two academic years, and then - as a mandatory part of our degrees - we both have to take 2 semesters abroad. So while we're both in Germany, we're not in the same city or anything, and now I actually have some space, it's given me time to think. \n\nI don't know if I'm just bored of missing him, or even if I do miss him personally - or the kind of regular cuddles/sex etc.. It just doesn't feel the same, but every time I think about breaking it off, I can't imagine my life without him. \n\nAlso, I don't want to break his heart, obviously. He's still one of my best friends but god I'm scared. \n\nI guess I just needed to vent more than anything, as most of my friends are mutual friends and I don't really want to tell them - as they'd pass it on. \n\nI could really do with some advice, maybe motivation or just someone to talk to.", "summary": "I need advice on a long term, long distance relationship."}
{"id": "t3_15t5g8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm[18m] having trouble telling how she[18f] feels about me", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit but I'm not sure where else to post this. \n\nSo about two weeks ago I asked out a beautiful girls who I've been mutual friends with for roughly 5 months. We haven't seen each other outside of school much except for the rare time where we would go get coffe after school. When I asked her out it seemed like I caught her off guard by asking to soon (which is probably true). Anyways when I asked her her head tilted down abut and her eyes looked up at me and she says \"uhmm sure\" I thought that was close enough and asked for her number and told her I'd call.\n\nI waited for two days before I called and she sounded excited to hear from me on the phone, but when I suggested we go to dinner she said she have to check if she could and would get back to me when she finds out.\n\nTwo days later and there no response from her, I send a text asking if she ever checked of she could. The next day she responds and says she still hasn't check with her parents and is leaving town to visit her family in St. Louis and would be there for about a week. The next day I get a sincere sounding text saying that she is unable to go to dinner, but she suggests that we could \"possibly go the next weekend\" I agree and tell her that ill give her a call after she gets back. She responds by saying \"Ok cool, we're just going as friends though right?\"\n\nDoes this mean she is uninterested in me or does she want to go out in a situation that is less stressful on her?\n\nI'm thankful for any thought on the matter, and for clarification, I still agreed to go to dinner as friends.", "summary": "what could \"We're just going as friends right?\" mean?"}
{"id": "t3_bmbr9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ask Reddit: How do you make a teenager care?", "post": "I'm at my wit's end. \n\nI've got a 19 year old daughter - she's smart, and very artistically talented. Unfortunately, there seems to be a disconnect in her head about actually caring about the consequences of her actions. She got accepted to a top art school, and we sent her off last year - almost straight F's. And apart from lying to us about her grades (so she wouldn't get in trouble), we just don't feel like she has any shame about fucking up so badly. \n\nShe got a speeding ticket, didn't tell us about it until we got the notification her license had been suspended for failing to show up for the hearing. \n\nShe's damaged cars three times:\n\n- Her car: looks like she sideswiped a parking column. $800 repair. (Said it happened while she was inside at work. We took her at her word)\n- Her mom's car: ran up on a curb, damaged two tires and rims: $1500 repair. (Said someone ran her off the road. I'm doubtful)\n- Her car (AGAIN!) This time essentially the entire right side - looks like she pulled in next to a wall. Can't open the passenger side door. \n\nThe last one was yesterday - she came home, didn't say a word, went to the beach with her friends for the weekend. We only noticed it today.\n\nMy wife is ready to ship her off to the military; I would if I wasn't so vehemently opposed to feeding the Iraq meat machine. But I have no idea what to do. Obviously we've fucked this up by making her life too easy, but how do we unfuck it?\n\nAny and all suggestions welcome. Suggestions to ship her to RedLetterMedia as a film reviewer will only be considered as a last resort.", "summary": "19 year old has grown up to be a real princess. How do we make her into a responsible adult at this late date?"}
{"id": "t3_124rie", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So Reddit, I'm an art student in need of a little help. go figure)", "post": "I'm in my last year of Art school, and I may not even be able to finish - seeing as how I still owe them a little bit of money. Also, I'm living on about 4 dollars a month /flex.\n**So I've devised a plan. Ask Reddit to check out my art.** \n\n (\"My Portfolio's\" -of course)\n\n process // random sketches. \n\n (most of this is on pinterest)\n\nI'm not asking for handouts. If you're interested or have been looking for someone to make some art for you. Let me know. \nI can do portraits.\nGig posters.\nCovers.\nIllustrations.\nLandscapes. \nAnything :O \n\nAll of these originals are for sale along with prints. (I'd like to sell the landscapes <3) \nHit me up with an e-mail if you'd like to talk a bit about making something/purchasing a piece. \n\nOr if you just want to say hey. \n\nThanks for the time reddit - hopefully you'll have my back!", "summary": "I'm poor; buy my art. =]"}
{"id": "t3_15o3y6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18] feel insecure about my feelings for my girlfriend [17]..", "post": "We have been in a LDR together since this summer. I just came home from visiting her for Christmas.\n\nThe day I arrived she told me that she didn't feel as happy as expected, but we let it go and the days after she said she still had the same feelings for me, and I believe her.\n\nBut the last 3-4 days I've felt that maybe she isn't the one. I am really worried of letting her down by breaking up, but we have still talked about this issue. I'm not really sure if I like her anymore. I do care for her, but for some reasons I get these huge variations of feelings.\nSometimes we have great fun together, but other times I just feel really depressed about this.\nI still want to keep this relationship alive, please help!", "summary": "Having periods where I lose feelings for my SO, but I don't want to crush her by breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_2xquqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why won't this girl give me her number? I thought she likes me!", "post": "First of all: we're both 16.\n\nAlright. So there's this girl I know who I'm very attracted to. And I thought she was into me before, well, I asked for her number online and she didn't respond. And I know she saw the message. So why do I think she likes me? Well... \n\nWe were both doing this activity for several months, and I would always catch her staring at me. She'd smile at me, laugh hysterically at all my jokes, touch and grab me, orbit around me nervously playing with the rings on her fingers when I was pretending to ignore her, giggle to her friends right in front of me. She would always find some excuse to come say something to me. She teased me constantly and even told me to smile more often. \n\nNow, a few nights ago, on the last day of this activity, we were walking with each other, she links her arm with mine and then just walks and talks with me. Then she asks, \"We can still be friends, right?\" I give her a confused look, and she says, \"Just kidding. I say that to everyone.\" Long story short, I asked her out once and she wasn't available so then after that I didn't really talk to her and she called me a douchebag for that.\n\nBut later, she keeps teasing me and bumping into me on purpose in a very playful way. She keeps looking at me and still finds excuses to talk to me, wants to hug me, flaunts her butt, etc.\n\nSo I'm very confused, and the day after I try to contact her online and she doesn't respond. I then told her I was sorry for being a \"douchebag\" and she immediately replied that she was kidding. Then I asked for her number; no response. What's going on?\n\nThis is bothering me right now so I appreciate the responses!", "summary": "Girl I like who has given plenty of signs of interest doesn't seem to want to give me her digits."}
{"id": "t3_29itfp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] think my friend [19/f] of 2 years could be more", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nWe met on a school trip to Italy and I had feelings for her nearly from the beginning on. But she is very difficult in terms of meeting up (It took us 1 1/2 months to get a coffee together). About half a year later I told her that I have feelings for her and that I feel like she doesn't return them (Still, she was very difficult to meet and didn't meet my approaches). She said that she is sorry for our friendship and we said goodbye. I stopped writing with her and even deleted our friendship on facebook, because I couldn't stand seeing her face all the time. Few months later she messaged me, why I deleted her and she feels very sad about loosing our great friendship and I gave in because I missed her so much. We've been very close friends again ever since, although we still met only every two weeks, sometimes more, sometimes less.\n\nOur relationship grew closer over time. We went on dates together, cuddled, were holding hands and even talked about what it would be like if we had sex. I fell in love with her more and more.\n\nNow I haven't seen her for 3 months. She takes several days to return my messages or sometimes a week, although she wants us to meet up again.\n\nI think like this could be a point where I could end this relationship, but I'm not sure if I shouldn't confess my feelings for her or if that would make it worse.", "summary": "Very close female friend and I are loosing contact, not sure if I should break it up or confess my feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_40h0h7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 32 M with my wife 30 F duration, told me she no longer wants children. What do I do? **tl;dr**: Wife told me she no longer wants children, what do I do?", "post": "My wife finally admitted to me last night that she \"probably does not want children\" for a variety of reasons that are frankly understandable.  In addition, she would not wish to adopt.  This for me, was the only compromising solution, but it has been taken off the table.\nWe've been married for almost 7 years now and we had discussed this at length prior to that we would both want kids when we get into our 30's.  Now that we are here, it does not look like it's going to happen.\nI am very torn and don't know what to do.  I still and always will love her, but this is a huge deal to me.  I've really wanted a couple of children either of my own or through adoption.  If I decide to leave her, it will devastate me, but it may be my only recourse.  Any help out there?", "summary": "Wife told me she no longer wants children after 7 years. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3tij5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/F] feel like I'm always to blame with my [17/M] boyfriend.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 months. The past few months have been quite upsetting and been making me feel as if I'm walking on egg shells. I'm scared to say anything that may cause an argument over something so stupid. He'll get upset if I ask him for help or his opinion too much but yet he gets up upset if he sees me stuck on what I'm working on, as he told me that he doesn't enjoy seeing me like that.\n\nIn order to get a better feel on this relationship I'll include some background information. My boyfriend has been in an abusive 3 year relationship where everything was his fault. His ex was abusive in all forms; emotional, physical, and mental. He didn't break up with her until we started talking and he had someone to just talk to, as she isolated him from everyone. They have been broken up for 2 years already.\n\nI was forced into a 9 month relationship I was emotionally, physically, mentally abused, much like my now boyfriend. \n\nHere is the thing though, my boyfriend is a really sweet guy, the kind that would do anything to cheer you up, bring you food if you didn't have any and were starving, give you his coat, help with your family members, and everything like that. Every family member loves him and enjoys having him around. We get along great and \"are like the same person, just different genders\" as my mom and friends say.\n\nI know he still has some habits he's fighting that he developed when he was with his ex. Could this arguing constantly may be one of them? Or can his arguments, getting upset, and blaming me be his way of feeling better about how his ex treated him?\n\nI really want to make this work and I know he's a great guy with some issues.", "summary": "Boyfriend started aruging/getting upset with me over stupid things over the past 3 months out of the 15 months we've been together. We both come from backgrounds where we were abused, could this be a way of him dealing with it?"}
{"id": "t3_37o9qu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] am in a happy relationship and have been for 8 months. I am insecure for absolutely no reason and I don't know how to stop.", "post": "Background info on the relationship: We have been happy for 8 months and have had our share of ups and downs but we are in love as much as 17 year olds can be. We both extremely happy.\n\nBackground on me: I am a 17 year old and have no reason to be insecure. I am a 4.0 student and am the class president. I am not really attractive but I'm not repulsive either. I am also fit and am not overweight at all. I have absolutely no reason to be insecure at all. \n\nSo the issue: For some reason I constantly feel as if there is someone better for my girlfriend out there. I have even gone as far as to state repeatedly that there is probably someone better out there for her to her(I know that was dumb). She always responds saying I am the best. I don't know why I feel this way at all.\n\nI think one part of it could be that she has a lot of male friends and one that I cannot stand. She talks to him a lot(not as much as she talks to me). Even though he is interested in someone else I still get somewhat jealous and insecure when they spend time together even when I'm there(I know I'm really hopeless). this whole example is just one situation of the many.\n\nOverall I'm just worried about screwing up with her by being to insecure. She already knows a little about how I feel but not everything. I know this whole post is pathetic but I didn't know where to turn to.", "summary": "I am feeling insecure for no reason in a happy relationship. I love her and don't want her to go away because I am so broken."}
{"id": "t3_y9ev4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you find someone for me?", "post": "I don't know if this belongs here, but this is the only spot I could think of that it would get seen. My sister is buying a phone off of someone, and he seems nice and fine through email. They agreed to meet some time today, which was fine, going through all the standard procedures of having someone with you, open area etc. However yesterday she got a call from someone who was urgently trying to get her to meet him yesterday at a completely different location, she couldn't do it so she told him to wait until today, he seemed annoyed, but agreed, giving her a time and a place then hanging up. However she never gave her phone number to the guy she was emailing, and said this guy had a completely different attitude. Her number is also a very private number that would be very difficult to find. The original guy emailed her back and said he had exams and wouldn't be able to meet until after the time the guy on the phone said. Obviously several flags were set off and so I was given the number to dig up as much as I could. I've gotten what I can find, so I'm turning to you. His name is 'Nick'. It's an ottawa number. Sometimes coming up as a landline, sometimes as a cell. Data and audio-visual enterprises inc is the carrier that keeps coming up. The number is 613-709-6843. If you could help that would be amazing. I'm not looking for what type of cat he has, just some information on who this guy really is. Sorry for the long post.", "summary": "Kinda important, please read at least the last part."}
{"id": "t3_1bng7q", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm a sex addict and I need help?", "post": "I'm going to be really blunt about this because I don't have a lot of time and honestly, I think that if I don't sugar coat it, I'll realize how shitty of a person I really truly am.\n\nI am 22 years old, female and I have had sex with well over thirty guys and even more women.\nI have never been in a serious relationship in which I didn't cheat.\nWorse: most of the guys I have slept with have been while I was in a serious relationship. I have only been in three or four serious relationships.\nThe thing is, it isn't that I don't love the guy that I'm with. I really love my boyfriend now. I really do. He had to move away recently for work. He left in January and I just started sleeping with another guy and I'm \"talking\" to two girls.\nI really need someone to talk to.. on here on skype.. something. I would prefer someone who has been in a similar position and gotten through it. I would also really prefer a female.\nI need help reddit. I dont know what to do.", "summary": "I'm a slut and I want to get better."}
{"id": "t3_4zmxwv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ripping my pants at work NSFW", "post": "This happened today before lunch. So i work at a construction company doing remodels and new structures. I was installing crown molding (which is like baseboard but for the ceiling) and i was standing on a 6ft ladder on the second to last step (yes i know im short) when suddenly my partner asks for help. \n\nSo i jumped off the second to last step  from the 6ft ladder and then when i land i hear a rip/tear like noise from down under. I look down and yep my shorts ripped from under the zipper to my inner thigh on my right leg and feel a cool breeze. So i panicked and got some tape to cover my crotch thinking it would work but nope, the rip just started to expand and get wider. \n\nLuckily this happened right before lunch. So i jump into my car and drive to a fast food joint( went to the drive thru because i was to embarassed to go inside) contemplating on going to the store to buy a new pair of jeans or shorts but i was way too embarassed to show my crotch to the world so i didnt.  \n\nI drive back to work, and to my surprise, i see 2 flashy/exotic cars on the driveway. And then i remebered that today the realtors and potiential clients were going to come and see the house that we were working on. With my ripped pants i decided to eat my lunch in my car. So i waited for them to leave to back inside when i heard one of the lady realtors say to her coworker \"i forgot my earphones ill be right back\" then i remembered that i left my earphones on the kitchen counter. I saw her leave with some earphones on her hand so i rush inside to the kitchen counter and yep she took my earphones.  Shouldve wore pants today.", "summary": "ripped shorts when jumping off a ladder. Too scared to show my crotch to realtors i refused to go back to work, realtors took my earphones that were on the kitchen .rable.  rip me"}
{"id": "t3_2szh8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf [25 F] together for 5 years, found out she slept with her ex 4 years ago", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Admittedly, we have had some rough patches over the years and the most recent one resulted in her confessing [VIA TEXT] that she cheated on me in the first year of our relationship with her ex-bf. I was mortified. I have been a victim to infidelity in past relationships and the wounds never really healed so my insecurities always convinced me it was going to happen again. \n\nI went off. So many explitives! We lived together! But anyway, I'll fast-forward. \n\nAfter ignoring her pleas for forgiveness and countless apologetic texts and messages, I finally calmed down enough to have a civil conversation. I had several questions. Basically, our conversation culminated in even more confessions...personal ones, from each of us. There was the usual explanation of why she cheated, \"was still in-love\" with her ex, it only happened once, etc.  \n\nBut then, we told each other things we never had the courage to before. In 5 years we still hadn't divulged our deepest secrets. She recounted an absolutely morbid, dreadful story from her childhood wherein I learned that she was far more fucked up than she led on and I finally grew sympathetic enough to attempt forgiveness of her past transgressions [seriously, it was fucked up guys]. In summation, the convo culminated in the two of us somehow becoming closer than ever before. She officially knows absolutely EVERYTHING about me, and I her. This has never happened to me in a relationship before, so I'm treading in unknown waters at the moment. Maybe the relationship is worth saving now? I mean, it was so long ago and only happened once. What should I do? Has there ever been a relationship that involved cheating, but then they worked it out? I'm interested in finding some kind of precedent on this. Please let me know what you think.\n\nWe're technically still together but the relationship is completely different and we're just trying to move it forward. On one hand I still love her, and she has been showing a lot of remorse. On the other, am I just being weak?", "summary": "Been together for 5 years, found out she cheated w/ her ex 4 years ago. It was a long time ago and only happened once. Do I forgive her?"}
{"id": "t3_3tepkr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Final Update] My[22F] roommate is upset at me because I didn't let her drive my[22F] car.", "post": "[OP here](\n\n[Second Update](\n\nIf anyone else was interested in what happened with me and my roommate, thought I'd give a final update.\n\nLast time we got into an argument because she refused to split the electricity bill half and half and just make me pay her my half at the end of the month, but last year I never remembered to ask her the amount of each month so at the end of the year I owed her about $200, she told me I was making things complicated and I'd have to go through many steps to be added to the account, went into her room and closed the door on my face.\n\nWell a lot of people told me to cut her out of my life but I wasn't too sure about it since I had known this person for about 5 years but we've been roommates for a year. \n\nI finally got the balls to tell her after a week that I was moving out because I did not want to argue anymore and it was ruining our friendship. She got upset at first and told me that things would change (but she'd always tell me this whenever we'd argue) and I told her that the line has been crossed and she had to learn that her actions had consequences since she's always just say 'sorry' and though things were better. \n\nI don't want to get into much detail about the moving process but I finally moved out, and I'm typing this at my new place. I'll be honest, I'm scared shitless cause I don't know anyone else and I don't hang out with anyone else (and pets are not allowed here) but I have a semester left so I'll make it work. \n\nAs for my roommate and I, we talked a few hours ago about the old apartment (she got a new roommate), got into an argument again and I left. I don't know what will happen next but I'm just happy I can come hope to a quiet and relaxing home.", "summary": "Moved out, roommate didn't like the idea but had to accept it. Still don't talk, but I'm happy, and a bit lonely, but mostly happy."}
{"id": "t3_4og7mw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "36F Is it irresponsible to get married when you don't know if you want kids?", "post": "I've never known for sure one way or another if I wanted kids. I've never really fantasized about it but I also have an appreciation for how amazing it can be to be a parent. I'm a well adjusted person, have good relationships and I want to get married. But since kids are the number one 'talk about this before you get married' question, it feels like I would be irresponsible to commit before I knew what i wanted in this department. \n\nAnyone have any advice on coming to a decision or working through it in a marriage?", "summary": "I should know if I want kids by now, but I don't. Should I wait to get married until I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1zu854", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] with my husband [28M] of 9 years. Worried he's getting depressed as a SAHD with no luck finding work so far.", "post": "My husband has been staying home with our two kids since the second was born last summer.  Financially, it made the most sense for us at the time.  He's a great dad and I know the kids are thrilled to be with him during the day.\n\nHe's been job-searching since December, and has had a few interviews.  Several times he's been a top choice, but has always been edged out in the final selection (i.e. by someone with more experience, an internal promotion, etc.).\n\nI know he's getting frustrated and depressed, but I've had trouble talking to him about it.  I've tried pointing out how awesome it is that he's even gotten this many interviews so quickly, but he just stays down on himself.  I can also tell that his patience with the kids is getting shorter.\n\nI can't wave a magic wand and make a job open up for him, but I want to do *something* to make him feel appreciated.  I just don't know how to cheer him up.\n\n(Sorry if this is the wrong place; I've never posted in /r/relationships before.)", "summary": "How do I make my husband feel better about not finding work?"}
{"id": "t3_18vlf0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do you subtly tell someone that you don't like being touched?", "post": "There's a sales rep at work who's come in to help with the new shop fit and he's a bit hands on with me. I don't know him well enough to even remember his name off the top of my head yet (I have to think for a bit still) \n\nYet every time he see's me he has another jokey remark, nickname or borderline creepy compliment to make. For example: \"Hey muscles, you wanna help me with this!?\" (I'm a guy by the way) I don't dislike him, he's a lovely bloke and all that but I'm very uncomfortable with how close he gets, how he's patting me on the back all the time and talking to me with his arm around me rubbing my shoulder in an overly friendly manner as if we've known each other for years.\n\nNo one else at work acts like this.\n\nI'm a little introverted at the best of times and this kind of overly hands on friendly contact with what is basically a stranger is making me very uneasy and I find myself avoiding him when I hear his voice. \n\nHow can I tell him to calm down a bit but not sound condescending or rude?", "summary": "See title."}
{"id": "t3_r5voj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your advice.", "post": "I know this may come a little disorganized, but I suck at instantly transmitting my thoughts.\n\nThis may sound like a whiny first world problem, but please, give me a chance.\n\nHi Reddit, I will try to go straight to the point, although I need to\ngive you guys a little background information so you can judge the situation.\nI'm a 22 year old male, who right now is in college, with 1.5 years left to graduate\nwith a general sciences bachelor's degree, which I chose because it's intended in my college\nto guide you towards a career in medicine.I'm living with my mom, living off loans because she has MS and\ncan't work, so she receives SS which only provides for her stuff.She's a good person, but she's a christian and\nforces me to go to church every wednesday,friday, and sunday. I've talked to her about me not being religious\n(I'm agnostic atheist), but she just gets mad, and well, I just play along so that things run smoothly in my\nlife without any kind of conflict. She's the kind of person that is nice 50% of the time, but well, you know what\nthe opposite 50% of the time is. I just can't stand living with my mom any longer, and I don't know if I want medicine\nanymore. I've considered making a master's in something science related, or getting into the military. I don't have a\nplan right now for the future and feel really lost. I don't want to be near my mom! really I feel like I need space,privacy\nand a chance to be independent. I feel like I need to start thinking about my future seriously. I would seriously consider\ngetting into the military (Navy or air force) just to get away from everything and start making a stable career, but I don't\nknow which would be the correct way to go. I feel like Francis in Malcolm in the Middle about his mom, and feel like creating\na Shepard in Mass Effect (Soldier or Infiltrator!?) Seriously though, the fuck?", "summary": "Da' Fuck is going on with my life right now?"}
{"id": "t3_1oqess", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "my head has been successfully gotten into DAMMIT", "post": "Was supposed to see an old booty call tonight. I suggested we meet for drinks first. This made him very upset, and he insisted it had to just be a fuck-and-leave kind of thing. Which sometimes I'm into, but I wasn't feeling it for tonight. So I pressed the issue, which made this guy fly into something of a rage. He kept texting saying that I was his slut, he made the rules, and I don't get to speak up. This continued to escalate until he sent the following text (sic all the way through, he doesn't really understand grammar):\n\n>\"I hate to say it, but your not that attractive so word of advice when a good looking guy with a big dick that enjoys some casual sex asks you to have sex you dont talk, you listen and follow...dont everrrr ask to go out to bar or drinks or anything. Its a hi by fuck suck thats it no in betweeen bullshit. Your not worth that shit, your worth me busting a nut thats it.\"\n\nI KNOW THIS SHOULD NOT BOTHER ME. He is stupid, trying to make me upset, and also, does not understand the difference between \"by\" and \"bye\" so should I really be taking him seriously?! But now I'm spiraling because what if I'm just some ugly girl guys fuck because I'm easy?! I've realized so much of my identity is based off of my own perception of my looks. And it's fucked that so much of my sense of self worth is placed in how I look.\n\nI don't want someone to say \"awww but you're so much better than him!\" I want to hear a guy say to me, \"no, you're beautiful. You are visually pleasing to my eyes.\" And that disturbs me.\n\nBut not as much as I'm disturbed by the thought that I may not be physically attractive.", "summary": "Asshole made me feel ugly, now I have all the thoughts about self-esteem and body image, but mostly, what if I'm ugly?!?!?!"}
{"id": "t3_188f5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you're applying for a job that needs no real qualifications or experience, is you employer likely to check your references?", "post": "So I'm 21, have been working casually at a clothing store since I was 16. Found myself in some work related drama recently. I haven't been fired, but I know my boss is displeased with me and it's getting kind of uncomfortable so I've started applying elsewhere. \n\nAt this point, I'm worried if I put my boss as a reference on a resume and a potential employer calls her she might not say the nicest things about me. However, this is the only job I've had and I can't *not* put it on my resume. \n\nI'm only applying to other local retail stores and fast food places, so it's not like they need a vast amount of experience to get hired.", "summary": "Do you think places would actually call to check your references if you're just applying to flip burgers?"}
{"id": "t3_10r9qb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what have you done for a friend recently?", "post": "This week-end I went to see my friend who's an actress in the latest school production she was in. I had very busy with work so I was happy to see her. However, she had been telling me that other casts member had been saying bad things about her and to her, to the point that no one would talk to her when they weren't acting. She had been feeling very lonely and sad. So to cheer her up, another friend, who was also coming to watch the play, and I bought 2 huge bouquet of flowers worth 80$. When we got there, we met her parents and her roommate, who also had bought enormous bouquets. We quickly realized that we were the only people there with flowers. At the end, when the casts came out in the lobby, she was the only one to receive flowers and had so much she couldn't hold them all. We were so happy because she didn't expect the flowers at all and was really happy. Glad we were able to cheer her up. Plus: play is now over, she never has to deal with these people ever again.\n\nSo reddit, what small gesture have you done for a friend recently?", "summary": "Surprised friend acting in a play with A LOT of flowers, while her bitchy cast members revived none."}
{"id": "t3_fe9lq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Update] I inherited 50% of my grandma's house and feel that my uncle is trying to manipulate me into giving it to him. Reddit, can you give your opinion?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nThe original thread is [here](\n\nI talked to my uncle and he is very clearly upset that I want him to buy me out and not just give him my half of the house. I suggested that he can live in the house while I keep my 50% share. Half of the value would go to me when he passes or when he sells (thanks for the idea Trishlovesdolphins!). He wanted nothing to do with this... I even got the idea that he thought I was trying to rip him off? He even got a little angry and suggested that I should start paying 50% of the property taxes (which I would be fine with, BTW). Also, he tossed in a lot of emotional stuff that was just an attempt to manipulate.\n\nManipulative stuff aside, he threw me an idea. He'll write in his will that I get 50% of the value of the house as appraised in 2011 when he passes. So he's basically leaving me 7-10K when he passes. \n\nThis just doesn't seem right. How much purchasing power is 7-10K going to have in approximately 30 years? Why would I give anyone a free loan for that duration?\n\nI don't really like this idea, but am starting to wonder if I'm just being a jerk. I'm certainly being made to feel that way.\n\nIdeas? Support? Constructive criticism? Thanks.", "summary": "Argh!"}
{"id": "t3_11vncs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend is about to have a baby that possibly isn't her boyfriends, do I tell and how do I tell?", "post": "Ok, here's the rundown reddit. I have a friend who was going out with a guy for around two years. He broke it off with her because he couldn't see the relationship going further because it got stale. \n\nShe continued sleeping with him as well as another guy at the same time. She got pregnant and went to her ex boyfriend first stating that it was his kid. Later on, (after he accepted it was his responsibility and they got back together) she went around telling some people that she wasn't even sure it was his kid. She neglected to tell him this piece of information though.\n\nFast forward to today, she's due in roughly 4-5 weeks. I've held on to this information for a long while because I don't have the heart to tell the guy (He's invested a shit ton of money in this kid because of her lack of funds). They both appear very happy together, but there's a chance it's not his.\n\nIf I tell him, it will backfire on her (if the kid isn't his) and me because I will piss off one of her friends (my manager, who's gifted me with a wonderful job) and her other friends which can get me more of a foot in the career path I want to go in. \n\nI'm aware this seems selfish, but this is information I'm not technically supposed to be aware of (A friend said it to me accidentally). I would send an anonymous text to the guy, but I have a reputation for being a whistle blower. They'd link it back to me without a doubt.", "summary": "Friend is gonna have a baby and it might be some other guy's kid (She has expressed this concern). Her friends have helped me out and got me a great job (her friend is my current manager) and she has other friends that have the power to get me better internships/jobs in the career I'd like. If I speak, it'll link back to me due to my past whistle blower history and I will certainly lose all connections I have. (And possibly make my job hell) What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ai08r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [21 F] together 18 months, she in so no longer sexually attracted to me and wants a break from our relationship. I feel lost and completely empty inside.", "post": "We met on the first day of university and we were in love within a few weeks, we were in the same halls so living together from day 1 and did so in second year as well. It was amazing for a long time, we spent so much time together and our relationship became really strong. \n\nIn this time, I gained a significant amount of weight. The me that went to university and met her on the first day, the me she fell in love with, weighed 150 pounds. Two years later I now weigh 198 pounds and I look considerably less attractive than I did when we first met.\n\nShe now no longer finds me physically attractive. To her, we've just kind of been best friends for the past few months. She tried really hard to get back into the sex but it just didn't work.\n\nShe now wants to take a break. She says she doesn't want to see other people. She just doesn't want be my girlfriend for a bit. I knew this was coming and already started losing weight a few weeks ago, I plan on continuing this. \n\nShe hopes the break will show her that this is really what she want, that she'll miss me unbearably eventually, and, combined with my weight loss, we might pull through in a few months. It's going to be hell for me.\n\nShe says that if we survive this, we'll have to start from scratch, I need to show her that I am still attractive, there's no relationship without the sexual urgency.\n\nDoes anybody have experience of similar situations? Does it sound like I have a chance here?", "summary": "Gained a lot of weight over the course of the relationship and gf no longer finds me attractive, wants a break to see if separation can fix that."}
{"id": "t3_l14la", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I'm trying to rehome a wonderful cat with special needs.  Any advice?", "post": "Here's the deal:\nThree months ago, I took in a cat that was scheduled to be euthanized at a local shelter.  She was older (about 12), and super emaciated, but I totally fell for her personality and wanted to give her a second chance.  \n\nShe is an awesome cat.  She's super friendly and people-oriented, basically follows me from room to room, loves to sit on my lap, and sleeps with me every night.  Great cat for someone who wants a constant companion.\n\nBUT\n\nShe turned out to have some sort of intestinal disorder (probably either irritable bowel syndrome or intestinal lymphoma, but we can't tell without biopsies).  It caused chronic diarrhea, and was probably part of the reason she was so emaciated.  For some reason, she also can't eat dry food - she vomits every time, but doesn't have problems with wet food.\n\nNow, all four of my roommates insist that I can't keep her (we're moving into a no pets apartment, and the roommates really don't like her).  I need to find her a new home ASAP.\nShe's doing much better, her diarrhea is under control with steroids/antibiotics, and she's gaining weight.  She is still very skinny, though.  \n\nI can't take her back to the shelter.  I also have doubts about adoption agencies (even ones that take senior/sick cats), because they all seem to be filled with kittens right now.\n\nAnyone have any advice?  Optimistically, does anyone know someone in the SF bay area interested in a special needs cat?\n\nI really don't want euthanasia to be an option, she's so nice, and her quality of life is good.", "summary": "Trying to rehome special needs cat in SF bay area.  Needs a lot of attention, and needs medication to control intestinal disorder."}
{"id": "t3_1l9r5g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting a 25 year old idiot to watch my kid and dog for an hour", "post": "Running late from work, I asked my 25 year old-college graduate of a cousin if he could watch my kid for an hour until I got home.  Stupid me, I assumed that even a 12 year old could handle such a task.  \nI was wrong. \nI came home to my 4 year old climbing on the railing of our balcony and the sitter tells me \"I think the dog hurt his leg\".  \nI look at the dog and my 5 month old puppy that we have only officially had for 4 damn days (we participate in rescue/foster dogs and only officially adopted him 3 days before) is writhing in pain.  \nI ask him what happened, to which his response is, \"I don't know\" and he leaves.  I in turn ask my 4 year old son what happened, and he proceeded to tell me that while he (my 4 year old son) was climbing the railing of the balcony, the dog's foot got caught in the chair... he's four nothing made sense.    \nSo after spending all night at the after hours vet and receiving an estimate for $5k, I now have a dog with a broken leg that I can't afford to fix. And I need to find a new sitter.", "summary": "TIFU by letting an idiot watch my kids and 4 month old puppy, he let the kids climb the balcony and broke my dog's leg. Now i am going to have to put the dog to sleep or get rid of him."}
{"id": "t3_xw089", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I have feelings for someone I've known my whole life. How do I communicate feelings without making things weird?", "post": "I'll try to keep it short:\n\nTwice a year, my family trecks several states away to visit my grandparents and other various relatives on my dad's side. We also spend time with my dad's best childhood friend and his family, which includes his son that is around my age (me: 22/f, him: 21/m).\n\nI've known him my entire life and we've always been good friends, but the past couple of years I've developed some feelings for him - even when I've been in relationships I've always whistfully wondered if there'd ever be the chance of anything with him.\n\nWe get along really well and have always had a really fun time together - we've been friends for so long that I know a ton about him and he's genuinely a great guy. Of all my siblings he seems to keep in touch with me the most regularly (on facebook and whatnot) and he is a little flirty in nature, but he's also never made a move so I always just assume he's not thinking about it.\n\n...And I mean, not for anything but I know I'm not an unattractive person, and I can tell that there's an attraction that's at least somewhat mutual.\n\nIt's a bit of a delicate situation because, obviously, if I say something and it backfires then it has the potential to be weird for the rest of my adult life...it's just that we've both been single for a little while and I'm afraid if I never say/do anything he'll get snatched up and that'll be that. I don't want to live my life always wondering, you know? So...what the heck do I do?", "summary": "Childhood friend turned into a total dreamboat and I have no clue how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_3oxhbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiancee [28 MtF] of eight years and I [25F] just broke up and called off our engagement. We're fine, but how do we tell everybody?", "post": "We're telling our close friends and family in person/over the phone so they aren't surprised, but I feel that it's important to issue a public announcement to my social network via Facebook so I don't have to explain myself to every single person or get \"When's the wedding?\" questions two months from now from people who didn't hear.\n\nI was thinking of posting something simple and civil like, \"We came to a mutual understanding and appreciate that you respect our privacy at this time. That said, I would love to get drinks with you to catch up on anything but this.\"", "summary": "Facebook breakup announcement - tacky or strategic? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2rda57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my cheating bf [27 M] on/off for ~2 years", "post": "I got back together with my boyfriend who I caught cheating on me (hookers, telling his college friends he broke up with me and hitting on them, sexting coworkers). I wasn't the easiest person to be in a relationship with so we agreed to give it another try.\n\nWe took a break in the middle and we were both interested/going on dates with other people. We both agreed to stop talking to these people when we got back together. I blocked the guy I was interested in. He told her he was trying to work it out with me and blocks her. Then he texts her inviting her to an event a few days later. And tells me that just because he blocked her doesn't mean that he couldn't text her. SHE had to call him out on this shitty behavior (embarrassing as fuck). She's also a cheater. She's been cheating on her boyfriend.\n\nHe says he's no longer talking to her. I believe him. He tells me he runs into her sometimes and they chit chat like acquaintances.\n\nThe other day when he ran into her, she said she wanted to talk to him. He gave her an excuse that he was busy. \n\nI want him to shut her down directly (I'm not interested) and he's complaining that he can't do that. Not sure what to do, beyond pissed and frustrated with his bullshit.", "summary": "Got back with a cheater who lied about stopping contact with a woman he was interested in. Refuses to shut her down directly."}
{"id": "t3_4zda3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [19] of four years is already seeing someone after 4 days of being apart.", "post": "I dated this girl from the summer of 8th grade, we honestly had the best relationship, everyone loved us together, we even won prom king and queen together, I thought everything was perfect. For economic reasons though we ended up not being able to go to the same college, she told me it was okay because we were going to make it work. Two days before she left for college she stopped over and told me that she wanted to separate for college. She told me that we needed to \"go to college by ourselves and grow as individuals\", I didn't really buy it at first, but then I realized that if that's what she wanted them I should respect that. The only weird thing about the situation was that she said \"we are going to be getting back together after college\", again I thought this was fishy because why break up if she plans to get back together, but the situation was out of my control at this point. So she left for college, we still texted on occasion, she wanted to remain friends, I wanted to make sure everything was going okay with moving in. Then a couple nights ago she dropped a huge bombshell on me, she was already dating someone new from college. Not even 72 hours of breaking up with me she was seeing someone new. I was beyond dumbfounded, I just didn't even know how to respond. We haven't talked in a couple of days, I don't know how to react to this situation. Does anyone have any advice, or been through a situation like this? I still care about her A LOT, but this really stung. Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me, and 4 days later she is dating a complete stranger."}
{"id": "t3_1jakuv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out my mother is using drugs again after 2 years, I want to call her probation officer. Advice?", "post": "Yesterday I found out my mom has been using cocaine.  She's struggled for upwards of 14 years with a variety of drugs: coke, crack, heroin, and xanax.  She went to jail and has been clean ever since.  She lives with my grandparents, and the family dynamic is basically that my grandparents are my parents and my mother is my sister (no father figure).  My grandmother has recently fallen ill, has been in the hospital more this year than she's been home.  I know it's been really difficult for my mom to step in and take control of the family, but I can't forgive her for this.  She has no job, she basically leeches off of my grandfather's money, and now she's spending that money on drugs.  Again.  I moved out at 18 (I'm 22 now), but I'm home visiting and caught her yesterday.  I'm strongly considering calling her probation officer today to let him/her know that my mother is using again and she should be drug tested regularly again--I believe they stopped testing her a few months ago because she was doing so well.  I have to deal with the very real possibility that this may lead to her going to jail again and causing my grandfather to be left in the house without anyone.  I know this would hurt both of my grandparents, but maybe going back to jail now will save them a lot of agony if my mother starts using heavily again.  Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Mom was clean for 2 years, caught her using again yesterday.  Should I call her probation officer even if it means sending her back to jail/leaving my elderly grandfather alone?"}
{"id": "t3_421iy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F], housesitting; approaching an issue with the maids while the owners are away", "post": "Hello /r/relationships! I am not sure this is the right place to post as it seems outside the usual scope of things posted here, but hopefully someone will have advice for me.\n\nI am currently cat-and-house-sitting for my aunts, who are out of the country (and largely out of contact range) for the next month or so. They travel frequently and I've been taking care of the place off and on for years. It's a lovely, recently remodeled home, and they have maid service once a week to do most of the light cleaning.\n\nI have never had an issue with the maids - they're usually quick, non-intrusive and leave the place sparkling. However.\n\nLast night I came home late and it was obvious the maids had been through. I didn't think anything of it, but this morning I saw a long streak of what appeared to be dried foam/suds from cleaning solution left on the kitchen counter. I wiped it away and it was immediately apparent that it had eaten through the finish to the concrete underneath, which is a HUGE pain to refinish and cure. (There have been issues with the counter before and I know firsthand how annoying and lengthy the curing process is when the finish gets screwed up.) So obviously this is something that needs to be brought to the maids' attention before more damage is done. They will return three more times before my aunts are back from their trip, and I can't contact them where they are right now.\n\nBut...the maids are not my employees. I'm fairly uncomfortable broaching this with them for that reason, and I will not be able to be here every time they are for the remainder of my stay (nor do my aunts expect me to have to supervise their work).\n\nShould I get over it and talk to them, or is that inappropriate? I don't know how my aunts would handle the situation with them.", "summary": "Housesitting and the maids damaged the kitchen counter; not sure how to address it with them as I do not employ them myself and cannot contact the owners."}
{"id": "t3_3f4c9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] with my 28 [F] of 2 years, am getting sick and tired of job stress being used an excuse. She just sent me a message that could be the last straw.", "post": "My GF of the past couple years started a new job about 6 months ago. She finds it extremely stressful and hates it with every bone in her body. I totally understand - the demands are intense. She is putting in at least 60 hours and week and constantly dealing with last minute requests and insane expectations from her boss.\n\nUnfortunately her stress has been overflowing into our relationship. I am often put on the sideline, which is totally okay. However, lately job stress is being used as an excuse to justify behaviour which I find completely unacceptable - verbal abuse, yelling, etc. I have done everything I can to try to be a supportive partner but my patience is wearing thin. \n\nTonight I called her to say goodnight. She told me that she was super stressed, proceeded to hang up on me and then texted me that she \"thinks we need to take some time\". I replied that I have no idea what is going on and would like to talk. I called and she is simply ignoring me. I am fed up. \n\nHow should I deal with this?", "summary": "GF started a new job 6 months ago and is using stress as an excuse for poor behaviour. She just sent me a text out of the blue asking for time and is ignoring me. How to respond?"}
{"id": "t3_2xjbbm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it love or insecurity or possessiveness", "post": "Ok so i have been seeing this girl for 6 months. I am 24 and she is 26.  We hit it off instantly. We were great together. It was a great time. As time passed by she started to get a bit possessive. At the start i thought it was nice that she is possessive about me suggesting that she really likes me. Off late things are getting out of hand and now i am confused.\n\nShe gets really possessive if i talk to any other female friend. Immediately she starts getting \"Negative vibes\" from that female.\nShe blocked me for 3 days just because my colleagues were telling me the story about the trip which i missed btw coz of her. I didnt go coz i knew she would feel bad.\n\nAgain she blocked me for 2 3 days coz i was talking to her best friend who is committed btw.\n\nShe gets angry n mad at all the small things and make me feel like i am doing something wrong. She got pissed merely coz i accepted a friend request on fb of my office colleague. She always accuses me of flirting n gets all weird if i am standing near any female in the GROUP pic. She then goes and finds my solo pics from 3 4 years ago n then accuses me that i am a flirt\n\nIts like a guilt trip always for not doing anything wrong. I cannot keep losing people coz she gets negative vibes right?\n \nI mentioned the word seeing coz after this possessiveness started i asked her out and shes not interested in a relationship. So apparently we are just friends but she has also confessed that she likes me alot and she does . We were reallyy close.", "summary": "What thing confuses me is that she says she feels so possessive only about me which i know is true.  What m i supposed to do?? Its driving me crazyy..."}
{"id": "t3_51ka6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M32) (F30) Are you supposed to at least text your partner once a day ?", "post": "I'm a 30+ male and even though I've slept with a few women in the past I've only had three, what I would call, serious relationships.\n\nMy lack of relationships has caused problems in the past and leads my to cling on to any women who shows me the slightest bit of attention.\n\nI've just got into a relationship with a girl I've known since we were teenagers and I actually almost got with her quite a few years back. That ended when she didn't speak to me for a few days and my insecurity got the better of me and I called her and said some horrible things.\n\nWe recently got reconnected when she messaged out the blue and funnily enough, during the whole getting together process, neither of us has mentioned what caused us to stop speaking in the first place. We've been together a few months and spoke every day by text. We even went away together for a few days recently.\n\nNow things have gotten odd. I last spoke proprly to her on Sunday. Monday I got no text all day so I decided to text her goodnight and she replied good night a few minutes later. Yesterday (Tuesday) I decided not to text her at all to see if she text me. No text.\n\nNow it's Wednesday and I don't know whats going on. Is she testing me to see if I'm too clingy? I've been in this situation before when girls have all of a sudden gone cold and I end up losing them and I don't want this to happen. I understand people get busy but a text message takes a couple of seconds. \n\nI don't want to be the first to text but I need some kind of reassurance.", "summary": "Girlfriend hasn't text for a few days now I'm paranoid."}
{"id": "t3_d7bcq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, What Kind of Dog Should My Roommates and I Get?", "post": "Here's the scoop: We live in a reasonably spacious apartment (for Brooklyn), a block away from a park. My one roommate will be taking official ownership/responsibility for the dog (meaning it's his dog, he takes it with him when we all no longer live together, and he will be the primary person responsible for feeding/cleaning/ect.) but we're all pretty excited about it and have gotten into a debate about what kind of breed we should get.\n\nCriteria: \n\n**1.** We will be rescuing this dog.\n\n**2.** It has to be small enough that we can carry it our arms/container (my roommate works in a pet-friendly office in manhattan, so it needs to be able to ride the subway with him).\n\n**3.** It has to be big enough to not be completely useless/helpless. We live in a 5-story walk-up and we do not want to have to carry our dog up the stairs.\n\n**4.** No hyper-active/super high energy dogs. We're looking for a four-legged 5th roommate.\n\nSo, any good suggestions out there?", "summary": "My roommates and I want a chill, smallish dog to share our brooklyn apartment with. What kind should we get?"}
{"id": "t3_4jvg27", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "VFS, an outsourcing company taking the proverbial", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nI've encountered a problem which I'm completely lost with. I'm a British citizen living in England, my wife is dual national Iranian-British and she has many family members living out in Iran. One of her elderly aunties was hoping to visit the UK and so we've been helping her fill in her forms and hopefully get the visa granted.\n\nEverything went fine up until booking the appointment at the visa office in Tehran, at which point it took me days of checking till they posted some appointments. When they did there was a single day and that was that. So we quickly booked it and paid for it. She's just turned up there today only to be turned away and told they've cancelled it and they let everyone know by email, only they haven't done. She's then been told that they will email her with an alternative appointment at another time. \n\nNow I don't truly believe they will email her, which means she's lost her money which is beyond the actual problem which is how disgustingly this is being organised and operated. She has travelled in excess of 5 hours at the age of 82. As a British citizen I feel like this is insulting to me and I feel like something needs to be done, only I have no idea what to do?! The whole outfit is ran by an external company, VFS, and I think my problems lie with them. It would seem they are being allowed to operate completely unmonitored and unmoderated. I can find no phone numbers, no emails, no nothing with which I can voice my concerns.\n\nAnything anybody could suggest or add would be really appreciated!!", "summary": "Some outsourcing company, VFS, used to apply for visas for several different countries is operating a disgusting service and something needs to be done!"}
{"id": "t3_2w4u8i", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I pay it off early?", "post": "Last year I turned 21 and have started to take steps to create a credit history for myself. On December I went and purchased somethings from Conns' (a printer and speaker system for my family's living room t.v.) the total with interest came out to be $2450.76. The first payment (on January) I made was for $100, the next month's I paid $1000 becuase I had just recieved my tax return.\nI found out today that the total pay off amount is $678.76, I can pay it off right now but the purpose was to create credit history so my question is whether paying this loan off early will affect anything.", "summary": "Will paying off a debt early affect me if the purpose is to create credit history."}
{"id": "t3_2k9k2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] am having doubts about a prospect [20 F]", "post": "So i met this girl on Tinder and we hit it off initially, she messaged me around 11 one night and told me her date went south and her date bailed so i told her to come chill. We ended up having some adult fun and she ended up staying the night.\n\nShe came over a couple days later and we just watched movies and we ended up just passing out and going to sleep.\n\nShe added me on facebook and immediately started tagging me in posts which i should have told her i don't want. My facebook is low key and i wanna keep it like that. I don't post much at all. \n\nI appreciate that she was so gung ho to include me in her life but she's a VERY active facebook user and that isn't me at all.\n\nWhat makes it weirder is that she posted publicly on facebook today that she was going on a date and wearing a cosplay suit from a certain children's game to her date. This just totally turned me off. I understand that we aren't in any relationship at all, we've only just met practically, but when someone adds you on facebook like that then posts about a date they're having with someone else it gives the impression they lack a certain social aptitude. \n\nShould i sever contact? She's a nice girl and i have the feeling she'll end up wanting to do something again. Should i feel uneasy if we aren't in any sort of relationship?\n\nI'm 90% sure someone will tell me i need to tell her what she did was a bit weird if she wonders why i'm acting distant, i just need to hear confirmation that i'm not crazy.", "summary": "Met a girl, hung out with her a couple times, she adds me on fb, posts publicly in a somewhat tactless way that she's going on a date with someone else. Not sure what to think."}
{"id": "t3_j2niz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "legal phone (hack?) trick...", "post": "so, as perhaps many people are, i am broke as a mutha fuckin joke. i got a kid and all kinds of bills and occasionally am late on my phone bill. i use t-mobile so when i don't pay my bill for an uncertain amount of time (a week or two) i can still receive texts & calls. \n\nnot being able to send calls is a bitch. i realized that once you install google voice on your computer you can have google send calls to your phone essentially being able to \"call out\" again. \n\nif anyone has known this slick little trick, i'd like to hear from you as well as any additional tips that might aid me in being able to make calls if i'm not nearby my computer. (paying my bill joke is obvious)", "summary": "google voice will hook you up when you don't pay your phone bill on time."}
{"id": "t3_35y0np", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking an 8 year olds leg", "post": "This happened a year ago or so. I was skiing with my brother and we thought it'd be fun to try the [fun park] We stand on top of the slope looking down and we both agree that the coast is clear. Aight, good to go! I get some decent speed and feel confident.\n\nWhile I'm trying to balance myself midair I see a short humanoid standing with his back towards me and talking on his phone if I can remember correctly. I let out a shriek and try to seperate my legs so I don't pierce his back with my skis. I hit his back with my crotch and fucking demolish him. Because he stood upright with his boots and I bent him forward with good force he took quite the beating. \n\nAll I'm thinking is \"holy fuck I killed a kid\". I check on him, he's not saying anything. \"I am so sorry, I had no idea you stood there. How are you?\" Still not saying anything and looking at me like I'm the devil. Suddenly starts crying really hard wich makes my heart bleed. I call for help and paramedics arrive and says that his fibula & tibia (lower leg bones) are both broken. Eventually his dad comes along and I tell him I broke his sons leg. I don't explain to him how it was possibly his sons own fault but I just apologize and he tells me to keep going and not think about it too much. I still feel bad about it.", "summary": "Kid ~~obnoxious~~ oblivious of his surroundings gets hit in the back by a 19 year olds body weight with full force from a jump. Broke his lower leg pretty good."}
{"id": "t3_37beq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20M] girlfriend[20F] broke up with me unexpectedly [1 year], how to deal with seeing her every day?", "post": "Lurker, but decided to make an account for this. Here's the story:\n\nMy girlfriend (lets call her Davina) text me yesterday asking to meet up, sounding very serious, which surprised me a little. I went along, thinking it was just Davina being stressed out with exams, but as soon as I got there I could sense it was worse. She explained to me there that her feelings towards me have changed gradually and that she no longer wanted to be in a relationship with me.\n\nIt was a bit of a shock to say the least. Mainly because she was being absolutely fine with me a couple of days ago (which she explained as trying to work through it, thinking her cold feet were merely a by-product of stress.). I asked if she would change her mind, if she was truly serious and she said yes, she was, which hurt. She seemed genuinely upset about the breakup though. However, I saw her the day after and she seemed happy and back to normal, which upset me a bit (though I confess, whatever the opposite of schadenfreude is, it isn't an admirable trait).\n\n \nThe problems arise because Davina and I are both on the same course at university and so will have to see each other basically every day next year. I'm not sure how I'm going to deal with seeing her every day as I still love her, even though she might not feel the same. What can I do to lessen the pain and make things less awkward for our course friends? What can I do to try and win her back (if that's an option)? Another problem is that the break up happened a couple of days before my final exams for the year, and I can't focus on anything at the moment. How can I move past my 'grief' and concentrate on studies for the next couple of weeks? \n\nThe break-up has left me feeling incredibly lonely, and that probably the worst part. I don't know what to do. Thanks for reading, any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a year broke up with me, have to see her everyday for at least a year, what can I do to lessen the pain/not make things awkward/feel less lonely?"}
{"id": "t3_3ojvd6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting the gender wrong", "post": "This was actually back in high school. So it was the first day of class and we did one of the activities to learn something about everyone. You got with a partner you didn't know and told the class something you learned about them. I got put with a kid i've never seen at school before but he looked pretty cool. He was wearing jeans and a sweatshirt and his name was raegan. So it gets to me and i say whatever i learned about raegan, something along the lines of \"He went to california over the summer or something,\" and my teacher just replies \"She went to california.\" So i'm there thinking my teacher is saying i said she went to california so i say back to her \"I didnt say she i said he.\" So the teacher says to raegan \"Raegan your a girl arent you?\" which raegan just says \"yes\". I dont think I have ever felt so bad in my life.", "summary": "Thought a girl wearing guys jeans and a sweatshirt with a guys hair cut was a guy and called her a guy to a whole freshman high school class."}
{"id": "t3_hg2ve", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a huge jealousy problem. What should I do?", "post": "My SO went abroad to work in Europe this summer at a science institute (3 months), and will be visiting Germany, Italy, England, Switzerland, and a few other nearby countries. He and his brother plan on meeting up for the last 2 weeks he is there to travel around and see the sights, e.g. Paris, Eiffel Tower, Stonehenge.\n\nI'm having huge jealousy issues that are starting to spill over into my conversations with him. I'm snappy, sarcastic, and just generally unsupportive. Mostly, I'm upset because he gets to go without spending a dime of his own money. His parents bought his plane tickets and gave him 300 euro in spending money while he is abroad. Furthermore, his mother promised to deposit 100 dollars, american, into his bank account each week for \"extra spending money.\" They have bought him a $200 backpack, clothes, toiletries, AND what is likely a $500 digital camera.\n\nI find the situation ridiculous. He does not need to also be receiving a paycheck from his mother. I suppose I'm also upset because he doesn't have a job, and has normally a $100 balance on a month to month basis - while I work a part-time job just to stay afloat on my rent, and have money for groceries. His parents pay for all of that too.\n\nAlso, I'm just sad that he's gone.\n\nThere is a little girl inside of me that wants to scream \"That's not fair!\" whenever I talk to him on Skype, and it's starting to become obvious that I'm upset.\n\nI really WANT to be supportive. But, oh, it's so hard. Especially when he acts like these handouts are no big deal, and I shouldn't be upset about them. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents shelled out over $3000 for his 3 month trip to Europe and I'm finding it hard to cope."}
{"id": "t3_2hyu13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am sick of my clingy girlfriend [17 F] and how she doesn't ever leave me alone, and I want to break up with her. How do I do this?", "post": "I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 6 months and i'm sick of her clingy, obsessive behaviour and i'm just about ready to break up with her. Her clinginess has just been getting worse since we started dating, now she practically has to be in contact with me at ALL times, from the moment I wake up from the moment I go to sleep it's constant texts, Facebook messages and calls. If I don't answer or reply, she'll keep poking me (on Facebook) and sending me messages until I reply. The only time I ever get away from her is when i'm at work (I work part time since i'm at uni) or driving. She doesn't understand that I need to study, and doesn't understand that I need at least some 'space'. She's also cutesy as all hell with me which gets annoying fast, and constantly talks about how much she adores me and how i'm 'perfect'. She's also begun to hate me being friends with a girl I used to crush on, but thing is my crush on her ended 2 years ago and we've been just friends ever since. I've found as her clinginess and obsession with me has worsened, my feelings have disappeared. I don't have feelings for another girl or anything, but I really don't have any feelings for her. I really want to break up with her, because she's driving me nuts, but I know how sensitive and obsessed she is, she's going to go crazy, become heartbroken and possibly take her life/hurt herself if I do (she's told me she used to cut herself when another guy didn't like her). I'm over it, but I don't know how to end it. She'll do anything to keep the relationship happening.", "summary": "My girlfriend is clingy, obsessed and crazy, how the hell do I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1wsjvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex girlfriend [20 F] 2 years on and off, been broken up officially for about a month can't get over it.", "post": "I was so unhappy in the relationship. I tried for over a year to get away. She lied about being pregnant and blackmailed me to try to get me to stay. I couldn't wait to get away. We were a pretty innocent couple, shy about sex and very child-like in our bond. Now she's dating a 24 year old commercial pilot and I know she sleeps over at his house and what not. For some reason it makes me want to vomit. It makes me feel like I don't have my life together and couldn't offer her maturity she desired and that I'm inadequate. I'm seeing someone who is younger, but for some reason I feel like I can't be as happy as she is. I just want to vomit when I think about them being intimate. He will never know or love her like I did.", "summary": "How do I get over the thought of her dating someone older and independent?"}
{"id": "t3_2nyc6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my live-in girlfriend [28 F] of 3 years, told me she no longer wants children", "post": "Since the beginning of our relationship, we had discussed whether we wanted children. We were on the same page, until recently. A couple of days ago she told me that she no longer wants kids. I love my girlfriend dearly and we have no issues in our relationship, but this revelation is a big deal to me. She told me that she started having mixed feelings and basically changed her mind on the issue about a month ago. Even with her mind change, she says that there might be a small possibility that she would have a child. Starting a family is something I would like to do, but now, I'm unsure what to do about our relationship.", "summary": "GF no longer wants kids, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2mylut", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What is wrong with me??", "post": "I'm not exactly sure how to explain this but here goes,\n\nSince high school, I've always had times where, for no reason at all, I would wake up feeling unhappy.  Everything would feel right, yet I couldn't stop the unhappy feeling.\nI originally thought maybe it was because I couldn't get a girlfriend or because I was scared about finishing school and finding a job and being \"successful\".\nFast forward ten years; I've travelled overseas, I have a great paying job that I really enjoy, and I even have an awesome girlfriend whom I adore.\nYet, I STILL get into phases of unhappiness.  I cannot, for the life of me, figure out or understand why.\n\nEarlier this year, I decided I wanted to leave my job and move overseas.  I like to make sure I'm able to work before leaving, so I've been applying at a number of places in the country I'm travelling to.\n\nThis was super exciting.  For the first time in years, I found myself happy.  I would wake up feeling great and excited.  I was looking forward to what would happen \u2013 I felt scared and nervous, but it was good!\n\nDuring all this, I even met my girlfriend :)  We've been together for a couple of months now and she's been helping me with my job applications.\n\nJust last week, I received an offer from one of the companies!  Things are going great!!\n\nHowever, now those feelings of unhappiness have started again.  I don't know why. \nI am SUPER grateful for everything I have and where life has led me to this point, yet I still wake up feeling unhappy.  It REALLY annoys me because I WANT to be happy and I SHOULD be happy.  I feel like an ungrateful douche but I can't help it.  I consciously know that I'm unhappy for ZERO reason and yet I cannot stop it.\n\nJust what the fuck is wrong with me?!?!?!?\nI apologise if I've made no sense during this rant.  Even if no one reads this, it feels good to get the words out.\n\nAnd sorry for wasting your time.", "summary": "I'm 27, I have a great paying job that I enjoy, I have an awesome girlfriend, and right now, life couldn't be better.  Yet I still feel unhappy and cannot figure out why."}
{"id": "t3_2rl1a5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by skating and going down a ramp.", "post": "This was last year but whatever.\n\nIt was the first of day of school and my friends decided it would be cool if we met up before school started and hit up our local skate park. So we get there, all of us are skating not doing many tricks. Just chilling. When my friend, we will call him Mocha challenges my other friend Brian to roll in (skate down a ramp). So Brian back downs say he doesn't want to, that Mocha should just do it if he wants. Then I get the bright idea of showing up my friends and decide to skate down the ramp since no one wanted to. Next thing I know, my vision was black, my left wrist hurt and I couldn't move my right arm.  Turns out I fractured my wrist and broke my elbow. First thing my friend Mocha said was \"your feet were too close together \"", "summary": "broke elbow Cuz feet were too close together. Also, ramps are hard."}
{"id": "t3_qjxos", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hep B guy asking for advice - crosspost from r/Health", "post": "Loong story to follow.\n\nSo, it turned out a few years ago (2008) that I have Hepatitis B.\n\nFor all I know, I have it since I am 17 (1991) or before (birth - 1974 - this is actually the most likely) . When I was 17, I donated blood and got a letter saying \"you have Hep B antibodies\" .. me, being 17, was too dumb to recognize what that meant and threw the letter away.\n\nSo, I had it for along time, but my liver is still healthy, ultrasound shows no scarring or cirrhosis of the liver and all values sans the virus are A+.\n\nNow, after 3 years of therapy using [Zeffix] antivirals and a side supplementation of Legalon, Zinc and Multivitamins, the virus went into \"non-countable\" state about a year ago and is back in full force ~5000 count now.\nso I am going to be in for another medication therapy.\n\n**A bit of info**\n\n* I never drank heavily and did not touch a drop of alcohol the last 3 years. \n* I don't smoke.\n* I don't take drugs.\n* 5'11, 204lbs - 178cm, 92,5kg (ahem)\n\nMy questions are related to supplementation / food intake and lifestyle, as most doctors are mum about this and my google fu leads to nothing.\n\n* Are there any mineral / vitamin supplements I can take?\n* Are there foods I should avoid?\n* Are there foods I should eat?\n* Should I drink specific amounts of water / fruit juice / whatever?\n\nWhat about weight? I am currently over weight, but fit.. do I need to push for lower body weight / fat percentage? Or should I keep a bit of it?", "summary": "Hep B guy wants to know how to supplement and eat to support therapy. For details, read above."}
{"id": "t3_40zba3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Looking at what husbands (26m) ex(26f) who he cheated on me (28f) with still hurts. How do I stop?", "post": "So a long time ago, my husband had an affair when we were dating. Wr broke up, on my end because of the atrocious way he treated me and the cheating, and on his end because according to him, I would have literally done anything for him without question, and it made him feel awful. We both matured, and eventually started talking, and started dating again. We have never had a problem like that ever again. We have occasionally had problems that we worked on and are always improving for each other's sake. For what it's worth, I loved him tremendously, and never stopped loving him, even though he broke my heart. \n\nThinking about his callous disregard, illtreament, and preference for another woman does occasionally still hurt, though. We've never really talked about what happened, aside for him admitting he treated me horrendously. This is a very old emotional wound, and it has gotten better, but is there any way I can completely move past it and feel better? It's weird because the hurt doesn't really revolve around him, but the girl he cheated on me with, and occasionally I'll get a weird panic attack like \"what if we move, and he finds another girl better than me and dumps me for her again?\" I know, intellectually, he wouldn't, but it's an irrational fear. I'll go to her Facebook page and check out what she's doing and worry she's still thinking about my husband and get back into contact with him.", "summary": "husband once cheated on me when we were dating in college. We broke up then got back together and I managed to move on. I still check out his ex's fb page, though, and doing so still hurts. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4aig03", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Fractured my knuckle", "post": "Wow so this happened a while ago, approximately 6 years, back when I was in Sixth Form College. First off the back story.\n\nIt was on the night where we had Army Cadets (yes it was a posh school). Me and a mate decided to kill sometime before Cadets started we would wrestle (don't ask why we were young 17 year old boys with pent up aggression)\n\nMy mate (lets call him Savaloin) puts me in a headlock and decides \"hey, ima ram you into the sofa\". He does so and my lower back just bends and cracks. Luckily it didn't break but ached like a mofo.\n\nWe then head off to dinner, which was served in the college canteen and we have to cue up and I'm standing behind one of the gorgeous girls in our year. If you can guess where this is going, good on ya!\n\nSavaloin decides to push his knuckle in my back...now usually when he does this I squirm a bit, cause that's my pressure point and its painful.. However, with my achy back now (thanks to Savaloin) I jerk forward and accidentally grind on the girl in front whilst letting out a moan that sounded like on of the orcs from Lord of the Rings.\n\nThis girl then turns around, stares at me and full on slaps me across the face, getting a round of applause and laughter from everyone. If you are still wondering where my FU happens no need to worry, here it comes...\n\nI decide in my ultimate wisdom, to without looking, through a fist around at Savaloin, who \"was\" standing behind me.. but none the less he had moved, and the only thing left to hit was a solid brick wall... Crack goes the knuckle and out comes the blood, sending the girls into screams of hysteria. \n\nEnded up with a fractured knuckle but didn't miss Cadets (we have a on site nursing area).", "summary": "Mate almost broke my back, mate made me grind and orc call a girl, and I fractured my knuckle."}
{"id": "t3_1n4kmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my [21F] 1yyear7months, Not enough sex", "post": "Hello Reddit I made an account about 5 minutes ago.\nI just want to tell my situation, If you want to give advice then thank you.\n\nI've been together with my girlfriend for 1 year 7 months.\nAt the beginning I was just a bandage to my girlfriend to overcome her previous relationship....she told me this about a year ago.\n\nAnyway to the topic: I'm really frustrated because we rarely have any sex and when we do it's always just me pleasing her and when it's finally my turn she says she's too tired and she does something for me later....she hasn't done anything to me for maybe half a year it's me who pleases her sexually.\n\nshe told me I talked too much about sex (what else can I do if I want to have sex with her)? I didn't mention anything for 3 months and I didn't get any more sex or cuddling in that time.\n\nAlso now days she only has sex with me when she's drunk, why is this?\nI'm really frustrated and bitter from all this..... just had to tell this to someone can't hold this in anymore.", "summary": "Not enough sex, girlfriend neglects my sexual needs"}
{"id": "t3_3v3uv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my [25F] longish-distance girlfriend, I sometimes need my space and not text/call all the time", "post": "We have been dating for about a year now in a semi-long distance relationship. We both live in different states and had started seeing each other every few weeks, but now it's much more frequently due to a recent move (still about only once a week). She constantly wants to talk and text me but sometimes I just don't feel like talking to her because honestly I don't care about so many small mundane things. I do actually love her and she has so many amazing qualities about her, which is why this is a minor issue, but I feel like it's something that needs to be addressed soon or else it could blow up into something worse than a talk. \n\nWe communicate very well and I've told her I sometimes can't talk, but not that I just don't want to talk. She has told me how she would like to be in more contact because we don't live together right now so it's that much more important, which I completely agree with, but we need to find that balance. Do I tell her that sometimes I don't want to talk, at the risk of hurting her feelings, or do I make excuses as to why I can't talk, which I would rather not lie about?", "summary": "Long-ish distance relationship, she wants to talk more but I need space, do I tell her I don't \"want\" to talk?"}
{"id": "t3_3o7lwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have nothing in common with my SO [23F], I'm underestimated by her and she's not trying anymore.", "post": "Hi, I'm a 24M with great job and lots of hobbies, I work a lot and I love it, hence I always have something to do. I'm also quite resourceful in everyday life. My SO is 23F, working and studying, has poor and badly paid job, no hobbies. We love each other, but we share no interests and we have diametrically different opinions about everything (religion, minorities, guns, food, literally everything).\n\nWe're living together for a few months now and it's been tough. She stopped trying, just requiring, complaining and constantly being depressed (because lack of her money, issues at work, at uni etc.). She also acts like she was thinking that I should commit all my free time to her.\n\nAlso I feel totaly underestimated becasue I'm always worst in her eyes and I'm even no respected for my job which gives me enough money to buy all common stuff (home expenses, groceries, fees, etc) except for rent which I share with her.\n\nShe, on the other hand, is 'feeling not loved' becasue I enjoy going out without her (~2 times a month with a friends for a beer) but with her I'd rather stay at home and talk/watch a movie/do other stuff. Still I'm going out with her at least few times a month because I know she likes it.", "summary": "Nothing in common with my SO and underestimated by her even though I'm pretty awesome. Also SO not trying anymore after moving in together. Can this be fixed? Can such pairing even work? Am I being selfish?"}
{"id": "t3_19sncn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] She didn't show up.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for almost a week. I really liked her, she really liked me(I think, don't know if that is still true after this night). Everything went perfect:dates, movies and shit until this night when we had to meet again. So what happened we set an hour and a place to meet, I just arrive 10 mins earlier, I start calling her, texting her and I get no response (keep in mind we talked about this date on telephone 4 hours earlier and everything was okay, or it seemed like it). After 30 min of waiting and calling her and still getting no response at all and being so fucking cold being winter I decided to leave. I felt like shit cause this never ever happened to me. Thing is I really like her and I don't know why this happened and I don't know what to do if she gets in touch with me giving me excuses. What should I do in order to maybe forgive her and not lose my ego?", "summary": "been seeing a girl i like, she didn't show up on a date."}
{"id": "t3_2v5pql", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling students about a dream", "post": "This occurred in November. \n\nI am a high school band director, and right before thanksgiving break I was definitely feeling stressed. This showed itself in a dream I had the Thursday night before break where my trumpet section was kicking me mercilessly as I lay on the ground. \n\nFast Forward to Friday and we are in Jazz Band. I have a pretty good teacher-student relationship with my band, so I decided to tell the band about my dream. I used the context \"This is how I can tell we are all ready for a break\". \n\nJazz band went smoothly and Concert Band is our last class of the day. As I approach the podium to conduct I made an awkward half leap and turned my ankle on the corner of the podium. I immediately fell to the ground in pain and began to hear the pitter patter of footsteps. \"Great, the kids are coming to help me up!! Wait........they're kicking me. The trumpets are actually kicking me..........God dammit.\" After about a minute of teenagers acting like teenagers one of the trumpet players did help me to a chair and get me an ice pack. Should not have told them about that dream......", "summary": "Told students about a stress dream; students pounced on the opportunity to reenact said dream in class."}
{"id": "t3_ra677", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[27M] Confused on interest of [25F] after several dates", "post": "I met a cute girl that I am very interested in online. After a great first date over drinks, I followed up with a second dinner date that ended in a kiss. Both dates were at least 2 hours of continual conversation. \n\nThe third date involved walking around town and a late dinner. Not as much physical interaction but still ended in a kiss. I scheduled a dinner/movie date at my place after expressed interest. She mentioned she might visit some friends this weekend and texted me for a raincheck. I followed up that we can figure out another time and she said that it was a date.\n\nI have occasionally sent some texts asking about things going on in her life and received either slow responses or none at all.\n\nThe dates are fantastic and appears to be very interested but interaction outside of them is limited.\n\nShould I go on some dates with others while this continues? Concerned about going on a first date with someone while a 4th with someone else.", "summary": "Great dates and interest to continue but little interaction outside of dates. Should I pursue others in the meantime? Is this the slow fade?"}
{"id": "t3_3i3tj8", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Is this company disguising job titles to lowball me into accepting lower salary?", "post": "Hey everyone, I'm going to keep it brief as possible because I don't think I have a lot to go through here.\nRecently, I've gotten a job interview at a company for a position. I don't want to go into details about what it is just in case someone from the company stumbles upon this. Let's just say it is a Project Manager position. Now, I've had two interviews from them so far, and I'm scheduled to have another interview with them on Monday. However, I've been doing a lot of research lately and I skimmed through their job postings out of curiosity, focusing mostly on project management-related jobs. There was only one listed in this category so I clicked on it.\nImmediately, I recognized the job description as being the same one that I was given a copy of in an e-mail they sent me, except the job title being different of course. We'll call this job title Project Master (no such title exists but bear with me). So why does it matter to me? Well, it appears that the position I was asked to fill (the Project Manager position) was actually a more of a \"senior\" position (Project Master) than I had been led to believe. In fact, a quick google search shows that the Project Master position is on average $15-20k above the Project Manager position.\nThis is pure speculation now, but it appears as if they are \"lowballing\" me by disguising a more senior position as a junior position in order to maintain a lower cap on salaries. In a very exaggerated analogy, it's like me managing teams of business analysts, programmers, and web developers while holding the title \"Cashier\" and getting paid the minimum wage. I want to bring this up to them when I have my interview on Monday, but I'm not sure how I can approach it without making it sound like I'm accusing them of unethical practices or something along those lines. Should I ask when I begin negotiating my salary or is it best to bring it up as soon as possible?\nThanks for any response!", "summary": "I have an interview for a supposed junior position, but the job description is exactly the same as the job description for a senior position. Are they trying to make me take on a demanding role while not compensating me properly salary-wise?"}
{"id": "t3_3md70x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] going round in circles with [25 M] ex for a while now and I'm getting tired of loving him and him hurting me.", "post": "Me and my ex have been on and off for so long, but we always seem to come back to each other even after trying to move on with others. I love him and always have, but he's not great with his emotions and tends to run away from any problems we have and say we're not working.\n\nBut then a few weeks/months later he'll message me saying he misses me and no one else compares to me and he can't get over me. I know it sounds like your typical ex story but I don't know why I can't be strong and resist talking to him again. I've never had that problem with any other person, I'll always cut them off completely after a break up but with him it's so different. I've tried to speak to other guys and go on dates but I never feel anything.\n\nStuck in a dilemma because he fucks with my head and I don't know if what he is saying to me is the truth. Any one got any advice cause it's driving me crazy and I end up getting hurt every time.", "summary": "Ex boyfriend on and off, shit with feelings and emotions. Fed up of him fucking with my head but I still love him. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1v7721", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my new friend[23 F] 1-1/2 Months, When should the first relationship talk happen?", "post": "I've been dating this wonderful girl for about a month and a half or so.  Things are going great!  I like her a lot and I think she feels the same about me.  I was just curious as to when it is appropriate to bring up the question about what the status of our relationship is, if I even need to bring it up at all.  I would like to be able to call her my girlfriend; I just don't want to do it until we've had the talk and make it official.  I'm just worried that it may be too soon to bring this up, but I'm also unclear if this is something that I should bring up at all.  I'm supper inexperienced with relationship stuff so, Reddit please help me out!", "summary": "When is it appropriate to bring up the first relationship talk after first starting to date?"}
{"id": "t3_t7xrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship in trouble?", "post": "I will try to be as short, clear and concise as possible. My significant other is overseas working as a contractor with a private company. After being in this position for three months, four friends have been made. As you may guess, not much alcohol consumption takes place. However, last week my partner and friends found a bar on base and had some drinks.\n\nFast forward to the end of the night. One of my SO's friends confesses their love. After arriving back 'home' my SO calls me and drunkenly reveals this, but says that although it was flattering nothing was to come of it. I respond with 'go to bed' and attempt to let it go as I was spending the weekend with friends. My partner does not remember the conversation. Two days later I learn that they spend the evening chatting. I make the comment that 'I'm surprised they haven't hit on you yet' and it's countered with 'nah, they know about you.' Lie. The very next day I'm told that they're to watch a movie together. Again I comment, 'they must find you attractive (let's face it, my partner is VERY attractive), would you tell me if they made a pass at you?' and received an exasperated sigh and 'yes -my name-' Lie again.\n\nToday I revealed the drunken conversation and confronted my partner about failing to admit when given two opportunities. The excuse was that it was awkward and didn't want to concern me. I explained that I feel like something was being hidden, and turn the tables with a make-up situation to illustrate my point. My SO wants me to just forget about it, but I can't. What should I do? Should I be concerned? Friends are few and far between there, so I can't expect my partner to avoid a friend, can I?\n\nI'm 24, partner's 26. Been together for 2 years.", "summary": "might have been purposely lied to, don't know for sure."}
{"id": "t3_1fberm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "A possibly complicated speeding ticket (Missouri)", "post": "I got a speeding ticket for going 95 in a 70 in missouri on a two lane interstate. I got stopped by a state trooper who also had a ride along in the car. I also had a fake ID on me, and got nervous and hid it, but was fiddling with it, so he asked me if i had anything. I said no and he asked me to step out of the car. He told me he was going to search my car, and asked again if i had anything. I then told him that i had a fake id under the floor mat. He found it and said \"This is mine now\" but didn't write it on the ticket.", "summary": "Can I be charged for having and being caught with a fake id in a speeding ticket case since he didn't write it on the ticket?"}
{"id": "t3_3jga0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my live in Girlfriend [23 F] of two years; I feel like my relationship is over and I'm scared shitless.", "post": "I've been living with my girlfriend for a year now and she's been really bugging me about marriage. At first I thought I was ready but was still in college and wanted to wait till I had a steady job that I liked to propose. I graduated college December 2014 and found a job that I ahve a love/hate relationship with and would like to find something that brings real meaning to my life.\n\nMy girlfriend on the other hand just sees that we've been together for 2 years and it's time to be putting a ring on that finger. I told her I needed time to transition into a career. That put off marriage talk for a while but as the months went on, I kept getting annoyed and annoyed with her and she became more and more unreasonable. Now she occasionally throws it in my face that she doesn't think I'll ever propose to her. She did it again tonight and I have yet to respond. \n\nSo needless to say, I feel like it's all over, just a matter of time. I just can't marry this girl, this whole marriage thing and some other issues just show how immature and unready she is for it all. \n\nWhat's scary is, what does my home life become? How badly will her family hate me? I fucking suck at dating, how does that go? Or should I even try to fix this?", "summary": "been with this girl for 2 years, her incessant asking and demanding of marriage puts me off the idea of it and now we're not speaking to each other. Afraid it's over, what's next in this crazy scary world? Or should I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_3q5pyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with a girl I met [18 F] we had sex last night and I don't want to meet her again", "post": "I met this girl (18 years old) about 2 months ago and she started to chat with me (22 old boy). Every single conversation that we had, messenger, phone, texting she was the one who started. I never started a conversation, because I'm not interested in her. I couldn't image a relationship with her. My single interest was to have sex with her.\n\nLast night we went out, and she invited me into her house, we stayed in the bed, we kissed, then we had sex. At the morning I told her that I need to go to work, after that she continuously sending me text messages, she called me twice and I think that she thinks that I want to have a relationship with her or she thinks that we are already in a relationship.\n\nAs I said, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with her because I'm not interested in her. She once asked me what if we would be together? I told her: \"you're cute, but I cannot image a relationship with you, I want to remain friends. No offence, okay?\". I couldn't tell her directly: \"Hey girl, I don't want to be with you, but let's f*ck, alright?\". I have tried to be nice with her. After that she stopped texting me, but after a while, she started again. I don't want to tell her the reality on the phone, or in a text message, I want to meet her, but I don't know when. Should I wait a couple of days, ignoring her messages, or to respond after a while, like I did before?\n\nFrom my point of view, my goal was reached, I slept with her. I thought that she wants the same, just to have sex.", "summary": "We had sex last night and she think that we're together and I don't know how and when to tell her that I don't want a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_u5sy9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to cope with separation anxiety?", "post": "So on Sunday at 7:10am I'm going to be boarding a flight From Pittsburgh to Phoenix Arizona where I will connect with my flight to Kilaua-Kona Hawaii to be with my father and sisters whom I haven't seen for 7 years. \n\nI live in rural Ohio with my brother and my mother who has been a hardcore alcoholic for the past 11 years (I'm 18 now) Over the past year her condition has been getting worse and worse, shes developed pancreatitis along with a liver that cant be getting any better.\n\nNow, to most people life in Hawaii seems like it would be paradise hell even to me it seems like it will be, but right now I dont want to board the plane, I've felt sick for the past weeks not being able to sleep, eat, or talk to anyone. I even skipped my high school graduation. That being said I dont feel bad for leaving anyone in this town EXCEPT for my girlfriend of 2 years. All my life Ive felt alone, ive been a loaner I can never keep friends, Ive never had anyone to talk to and to feel like a human being with until I met her. Shes made every thing ive gone through with my mother and family(horrible child custody battle) worth it. It makes me feel stupid because you know that whole \"teenage puppy love\" thing, but I feel like this is more than that, I feel like she was the one to save me or something like that...\n\n So Im leaving her, for I dont know how long. I know when I leave im going to break my mothers heart which i feel like that needs to be done, I feel like she needs to have her eyes opened because being to the hospital 5 times in 10 months hasn't done anything to her. But the catch is I'm leaving the only person that ive felt love from in 2 years and it makes me sick, I feel like im abandoning her and that its going to break her heart. \n\nI guess in an obscure way im trying to ask someone, anyone, what to do or how to deal with this.", "summary": "leaving my gf to live in Hawaii and its killing me."}
{"id": "t3_1swfjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] recently got dumped by my [22 M] boyfriend after 4 years with no reason given... Feeling very lost!", "post": "My Boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and recently moved in together. We had been living together for about a week and everything was perfect, we never fought or anything.\n\nOn Wednesday before he left work he told me that he loved me. During the day we emailed each other at work until just around lunch time, he then came home from work and said it was over. \n\nHe never gave a good reason why he wanted to end the relationship but said that he doesn't know what he wants.  I asked him two simple questions; 1: do you love me and 2: are you happy?, he answered both with a yes. \n\nI left the house and he paid me out for all the furniture we brought together. I feel very lost and confused and don't know what to think anymore. It came to me as a shock as i never expected us to break up. We were perfect together and now I'm left heart broken and confused, while he is too busy getting drunk with his mates to work out what he wants.", "summary": "I need to find closure in regards to why our relationship ended, but I don't know how to because my (ex)boyfriend is now refusing to talk to me. I fear that I may never get it from him."}
{"id": "t3_1v1atl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21 F) ex girlfriend dumped me (21 M) after being together for 2+ years. Should I be hurt?", "post": "So I got dumped from a serious relationship. It was my first one and I'm not sure if I should be hurt from it. I'm not saying I don't have feelings but I'm wondering what I should feel due to that fact that I never took it serious since I cheated on her the first year we got together. I also ended up having another girlfriend on the side on our second year that we were together. Keep in mind that this \"side chick\" I had was an old ex girlfriend of mine that my girlfriend at the time hates. That fling lasted for about 4 months. Until this day she still hates her. \n\nI didn't get caught with any of those things that I did. I believe sometime around our second or third year we had issues on a social media network. Where I got caught talking to some girls. That was the only time I got caught and she still took me back. According to her that was considered cheating. A little after that I started to question myself wether I really wanted to be in the relationship or not. \n\nI guess I was just comfortable with the relationship because the only thing that makes me sad is us not seeing each other or spending time together. Also the thought of what are future would have been together because we were suppose to be \"high school sweethearts.\" With that being said should i feel hurt or sad cause I got dumped even with everything I did in the past while we were together? Or should I just be ashamed of myself for being a dog. I would like to hear your opinions or advice.", "summary": "I was in a so called serious relationship with my ex girlfriend. While we were together I cheated on her a numerous of times. We just broke up and I was wondering what I should feel since I cheated on her without her knowing."}
{"id": "t3_34d3pz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my \"GF\" [24 F] for three years, says she doesn't know what she wants.", "post": "Ok, here goes.\n\nMy \"GF\" and I have been interested in each other for about three years, the reason that I use quotes is because her parents don't really approve of us dating. (long story, trust issues and a older sibling that eloped.) \n\nI've been patient because she really is a spectacular person, and I have had no doubts that she is wife material.  However I've noticed a pattern that about every 9-12 months that we have been together she comes to a crisis that normally involves severe confusion about if this relationship is what she wants and just being unable to explain her feelings in general.  \n\nObviously there is a severe strain that is put on our relationship by her parents trust issues, but I am just about at my wits end about how to handle this.  I can deal with her parents trust issues, but facing a time where I have no idea how she feels about me every 9-12 months is really damaging me.  The past two times we have talked through it and worked it out, a lot of it goes back to her not really being open with things that are bothering her. \n\nSo what in the world is going on in her head, is she trying to tell me that she doesn't actually care enough about me to continue but is too afraid to break it off?  I'm all for being patient, but I don't want to keep loving someone that doesn't actually love me back. Are there any similar situations out there?  What did they look like?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't know if she wants a relationship, I'm confused, always worked it out in the past. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_266nnj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex-girl [18 F] 1 year, I'm going to Prom with her in a week.", "post": "So this girl and I were dating my senior year (her junior year) in high school, and into my freshman year at college. College was only an hours ride south, yet she couldn't make it down nor I up due to travel, parent and other longdistance issues. I feel like we drifted apart, yet she believed I dumped her out of the blue. Anyway break-up commences, no serious fighting but feelings hurt all around. Now she comes up with the brilliant idea of staying friends, and so we try it out, I more cautiously then her admittedly.\n\nCouple of weeks into our new \"friendly\" relationship, she asks me over to hang out with some friends of ours. I get there and immediately start feeling weird, most of them I've bonded with only because of her, but go in thinking that everyone should be mature enough to work around it.\n\nAfter people start heading out, she asks me to stay back to talk about some things. She starts mentioning prom, saying that she won't have a date and nobody will go with her and all sorts of issues that come with being a single girl at prom, and I think, \"hell, it would suck more for you to go alone than for me to go back to high school won't it?\". So when she asked, OP is going to Prom. It's in a week, but since she asked, about a month ago now, she hasn't left me a minute to myself. I feel like I'm dating her again, and she seems to believe that after prom we'll be back together, which is NOT what I'm looking for. If anything, I know I've made the right choice in breaking-up.\n\nI already know that I have no faith in this relationship, yet she's still trying as hard as ever to keep it together.\n\nIt's also too late to back out of the prom, which I already know is going to be a shit-storm.", "summary": "broke up, \"still friends\", going to prom,"}
{"id": "t3_21frkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F/21] Him [M/26] QUESTION: Is it okay to date someone you love but don't think you'll marry?", "post": "I'm in a new relationship. We've been dating just over a month and I'm falling head over heels with him. We're so good together. \n\nBut this always happens to me... every time I'm in a new relationship I start to feel guilty because I realize that even though I'm falling in love with this person there are one or two big things that probably mean I would not end up marrying them.\n\nThe current guy I'm dating is amazing in every way except we have different religious beliefs and he is very content in the state we're currently living (as in he wants to stay here forever) and after I finish college I want to travel the world and live in different places.\n\nBut isn't life about loving people? Who knows when you'll find the one you'll settle down with...\n\nSo why not love people along the way?", "summary": "Is it wrong of me to stay with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3m1qig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] could use some advice on a girl (20f)", "post": "Not sure if this goes here \n\nKinda long so please bare with me \n\nI have been single for awhile now I'd say roughly 3-4 years \n\nIn high school I though I found \"the one\" we had been together all thought highs school, unfortunately life happened and she had passed from leukemia \n\nNeedless to say it messed me up I now get anxiety and shy when are females any girl I feel Is worth a chance I get discourage and back down \n\nWhile I think I may have found someone who is worth my time and I may have a chance with , I have talked to her before a few years back but I doubt she'd remember me, she constantly post stuff about how she always wants to be in a relationship and stuff couple related \n\nI just don't know how to go about talking to her, or saying the first words in general I get so nervous I just stammering \n\nCould really use help reddit \n\nThank you for listening", "summary": "My girlfriend died of leukemia in high school made me social shy, meet a girl who I think.I have a chance with, not sure how to go about talking to her"}
{"id": "t3_3wrdyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38F] living with my great-uncle [87 M] who may be dying and refuses medical care - what do I do?", "post": "My family [41M, 4M, 2F] and I are temporarily living with my great-uncle while we house hunt. I'm not going to go into medical details but my great-uncle has been on borrowed time for over a decade and last year he decided he wasn't going to risk another surgery or do any more uncomfortable medical care. For the last year he's basically sat in his chair and watched TV.  His quality of life is clearly very limited.\n\nIn the last day he's deteriorated a lot with what might be pneumonia after a cold. He is refusing to see a doctor. He's still mentally as sharp as ever, and I'd probably decide the same in his position and the relevant bits of the rest of our family all also agree.\n\nI work and have a long commute from here, but my husband is staying at 'home' with the kids so there's someone around a lot. My kids have accepted my great-uncle as a fixture of life, shake his hand goodnight, greet him happily in the morning, although he's not able to play with them. My 2 year old has charmed him. \n\nMy question is what do you do when someone is very sick but doesn't want a doctor? And how do I comfort my kids if/when he does die?\n\nSome background: we are in New Zealand and while I'm not going to go into my extended family's financial affairs I'm not in the slightest worried about being made homeless. From a purely selfish perspective I'd much rather be paying rent a lot closer to my work.", "summary": "Household member refuses medical care, may be dying, what do I do? And what do I tell kids?"}
{"id": "t3_4ua24q", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I'm so embarrassed! Showed up, sat awkwardly watching another kid 'test' and slipped out when I realized I wasn't suppose to be there.", "post": "I told the instructor I'd see him on Saturday. Took my four year old to class this am, washed her uniform (karate) and told her we were going back to test later. Walked in early (to the small studio) with my young child. Only 2 instructors were there with a pre-teen seriously testing. I thought \"that's odd\" only the child's family was there to watch the test (for a new belt-serious stuff). I've never had her test before because we are new to the studio. So, I let my girl start to color, but had her be quiet. Almost 20 minutes later and I'm thinking \"why is this taking so long for him, why aren't they testing my kid\". I watch the boy do commands, a fitness test, three rounds of fighting and then think \"holy crap! Her test is NEXT Saturday!!!\" Oh dear. I wait till a break in his testing to not distract, and slip out with my kid.", "summary": "Sat in for half of some kid I don't know's serious karate test in a small studio with my 4 yrs. old without talking to anyone and walking out. Left everyone wondering why I was there."}
{"id": "t3_3v1nrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] is concerned about my [29F] gf and her pos father", "post": "my gf parents were divorced when she was very 18months old. Her father and step mother were always emotionally abusive. She lived with her mother and step father and would visit her father once aweek growing up. Recently she stood up to her father over the phone (no personal contact for 18 months other than phonecalls most of which she instigated ) he told her she would never see him again nor hear from him\n He was drunk at the time  \n\n\u00a0\n\n  \nHer stepdad and mother are wonderful and very supportive but  i dont know what to do or say this happened in january and she says she is ok but i know this has to hurt alot. My family is very close my parents say she is their 3rd daughter and treat her that way, i know this could be uncomfortable for her  \n\n\u00a0\n  \nIve told her what ever she decides i will support her and her decisions. On a personal level i think  he is pathetic and a bad person for telling his daughter  he will not see or speak  to her again.\n\nHe also asks her friends mother (they are friends) for updates on her life and how she is but wont contact her", "summary": "my gf parents were divorced when she was very 18months old. Her father and step mother were always emotionally abusive. Recently she stood up to her father over the phone (no personal contact for 18 months) he told her she would never see him again nor hear from him. What can I  do"}
{"id": "t3_1lv59h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "27/M/NY, had my first sexual experience in my open relationship that wasn't with my partner and...", "post": "I HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA WHAT TO DO NEXT!\n\nSeriously, not freaking out that badly, but I'm not really sure what to do next.\n\nI met this girl, totally cool chick with a great head on her shoulders and I was really interested in her. I'm not sure how much of the interest is reciprocated, but we definitely had sex so there was some sort of attraction there.\n\nSo now I'm not really sure what to do next. I know there are the traditional rules on texting after sex, but she hit me up at 9AM this morning! No much better, it was a cryptic \"hey\". Not even punctuation.\n\nAm I over thinking this? I'm still coming to grips with the fact that my fiancee is not only 100% comfortable with this, but also incredibly turned on by it. I don't want to say I lack the confidence to do it, but I'm definitely unsure of how to proceed, which in turn makes me definitely appear less confident.", "summary": "In an open relationship with my fiancee, I had sex with my first 'girlfriend' last night, whom I met and slayed in one night. I'm not really sure how to proceed now, because she's a super hard read and I can't really tell what she wants, but I'm afraid to sound too direct because I don't want to come off the wrong way, either."}
{"id": "t3_up3r6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I broke \"bros before hos\", and as a result missed out on meeting a musician after a concert.  Reddit, what's your bros before hos/chicks before dicks story, and did it end up working in your favor or not?", "post": "So Iron & Wine came to my town.  I was planning on going with a little lady that I had been talking to.  Right before the concert I was hanging nearby with my friends (who were also going to the show). As soon as I got a call from the girl to meet up, I bolted from my friends and went right to the concert with the girl.  \nThe show was general admission seating, so I was about 2 rows back with the girl and when my friends got there they had all sat together at the top of that section (and were apparently yelling down to me on occasion sentiments such as \"YEAH! GET SOME!\" etc.)  The show itself was great, a beautiful solo acoustic performance by Sam Beam, the lead singer of Iron & Wine.  \nAfterwards, I left right away with the girl while my friends were somewhat behind.  I followed the girl out to her car, and my friends turned the corner of the building.  She simply says goodbye and heads home, and I keep walking that way a bit further to my car.  \nI get home and the first thing I see on Facebook is pictures of all my friends that had turned the corner posed with Sam Beam.  When they turned that corner, they just happened to run into him, got photos, autographs, handshakes and memorable moments for the rest of their lives.  \nI got nothing, and deserved it.", "summary": "Saw Iron & Wine with a girl, shut down my bros who then met Iron & Wine while I get shut down by the girl"}
{"id": "t3_24g0zd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have been with my boyfriend [24M] for two years, starting to feel restless. How do you break up with someone that you truly love with all your heart! So confused!", "post": "Ok so, been with my partner for about two years. He probably wasnt the greatest boyfriend in the beginning - very closed off, anti-commitment etc etc, but has always been a great guy. He broke it off with me late last year, then 'realised what he lost' and came back. The past couple of months we have been back together he has been nothing short of amazing - he has really been trying hard to show me how much he loves me and how much he regrets the break up. I have a few trust issues regarding facebook messaging to other girls which he assures me is all in the past. \n\nBasically, I feel like I am missing something in the relationship. I could see us being happy together in the future but right now I can't help but feel a little bit trapped and unsatisfied. I feel like I need to be single but at the same time I love him so much that I can hardly bear to think about breaking his heart. I feel like whatever I do I could be making the biggest mistake of my life. How are you supposed to know that the person you are with now is the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend but I've been thinking about breaking up with him and the thought scares me. WHAT DO I DO."}
{"id": "t3_1wu9jw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] girlfriend [21 F] of 5 years told me she loves me but doesn't want to see me or speak to me, indefinitely.", "post": "We dated for 5 years. We made it work long distance in high school and in college. We never even had a fight in those 5 years.  We talked about marriage, kids, our futures together (without me pushing it in any way on her). Just a month ago, she told me she wanted to look at engagement rings and I was supportive of that idea. No sign of trouble.\n\nShe sends me a text the day after my birthday saying we need to talk. We had a 20 minute phone call where she said that she's never been independent before and needs to figure herself out. She told me that she loves me but doesn't want to see me or speak to me. I asked how long, she told me she can't put a time frame on this and that it's indefinite. \n\nShe said she still loves me and this doesn't mean we can't spend the rest of our lives together. I asked to see her in person to talk instead of doing this over the phone. She told me she didn't want to see me.\n\nShe said she hasn't been giving me the attention that I deserve in our relationship. I asked her if she cheated on me or if she's considering being involved with someone else and she said no. She said that I've done absolutely nothing wrong.\n\nIt's been 4 days since this conversation and I haven't spoken to her since. I'm so angry, confused, and depressed. I want to see her to talk this out but I also want to respect her wishes. I can't make sense of this at all. Is there another guy? Does she really love me? What do I do? Do I go after her or let her go? I'm so destroyed by this.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years tells me she loves me, I've done absolutely nothing wrong, she isn't interested in anyone else, we can still spend the rest of our lives together, but that she doesn't want to speak to or see me indefinitely because she wants to be independent. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1isget", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Should I end my relationship?", "post": "My Boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now and our relationship has been up and down. While we both get along very well, we also have a lot of qualities that are opposites and cause friction such as he likes for me to say I love you all the time, while I'd rather show love through actions. About a month ago we both graduated college and decided to move in together. Since graduating I've had a hard time saying goodbye to all that I achieved in college and an even harder time finding a full time job, because of this I have been feeling sad and disappointed in myself. I've been more quiet than normal and prefer to be alone. Naturally while in this situation I turn to him for comfort but rather find him telling me to suck it up, get over it and move on and that my behavior is making him want to break up with me. Whenever this happens, I always back down and tell him that I'm fine, just having a bad day and try to move on but I still feel that same way inside so I fall back into the same behavior. Two days ago, everything reached a boiling point, and we ended up in a shouting match with me calling him rude, selfish, and lacking any sense of empathy and him calling me pathetic for wanting him to comfort me. He once again said we should break up and left and is currently staying with a friend and we haven't talked since he left. I'm not sure if we should continue to be together or if there is a way we can work through this issue.", "summary": "I've been feeling depressed lately and my boyfriend tells me to get over it which has caused a lot of fighting and he thinks we should break up."}
{"id": "t3_r1ofd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing a coworker or classmate has done?", "post": "At my school, people in the Art college tended to have all the same studios together all four years, resulting in people who you see 4-8ish hours a day, 3-4 days a week for 4 years, even though you're not friends. The same phenomena happens with coworkers, where you see them enough that you're acquaintances, but not so much you'd hang out with them outside of the activity where you know them from.\n\nWhen I was about to get my BFA in Graphic Design (2010), one of the guys that I went to school with went to a Cavs game right after a portfolio show, where he shot a parking attendant twice in the stomach and once in the head over not being allowed to park his car in a handicapped space. Seeing as how I'd seen him for at least 1 class a semester (sometimes four) since 2006, I was shocked - and then realised I hadn't known him at all. I was actually way more shaken up by it than I thought I would be. (Note: He is now serving life in prison, and because he was an asshole to the family of the shooter, his judge said he would personally make sure he never made parole.)\n\nWhat are some of your \"I had no idea they were capable of that?\" stories?", "summary": "Sometimes, we don't know people as well as we think, even with being around them all the time. Classmate murdered someone right before graduation."}
{"id": "t3_2usx4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] crush on [17 F] barely know her", "post": "I am 17 M, I have been in this religious (only slightly) high school fraternity since freshman year (now senior). I was a very shy and ehh looking kid for most of it and really hit my prime (went from like a 4 to an 8) in the beginning of senior year.\n\nAfter freshman year my friends went out of our little chapter in a suburb and met people from the entire county area. Being shy and a not great looking a lot of those people from the rest of the region kind of discarded me and put me on the side, outgrowing those circumstances with time. I became a wanted by some of the girls who rejected my presence earlier in my puberty. I had to deal with one of them on the weekend retreat that are held, I don't like them, I don't want them.\n\nAlongside that trouble, I have met this really cute girl, Sarah (just a place holder), Sarah and I always been to similar activities during the weekend. \"by accident\". \n\nI have lead a large service so I am pretty sure she knows who I am. In one of the programs that I got to be with her for like 15 minutes with a lot of group work activities but unfortunately I didn't have the balls to have a deeper conversation. She lives 30 mins away but I found out she goes to a school that is a mile away from my house (not my school unfortunately) which is kind of perfect and want to approach a conversation but don't know how to start it or what to do. She seemed to be shy too, can be a struggle.\n\nWe have a dance coming up in a bit over month and want to ask her out to it.\n\nThank you for reading, -hatetheknown\n\n\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500", "summary": "We just met and didn't talk a lot. Just know kind of who each other are, what is the best approach to talk to her or any suggestions what I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_30rl3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) confused about pictures on boyfriends (24M) computer.", "post": "I am in a relationship with this wonderful man. We are seemingly perfect together. We've talked about buying a house, marriage, kids, the future, you name it we've talked about it. \n\nOn to my problem, today he gave me his old laptop. He also told me he had to clean it up (get rid of porn ect.) that's all good and I'm really excited for the laptop. Then he mentioned he had a \"trophies\" folder full of pictures of previous sexual encounters that he needed to save on to his desktop. He did say that he never looks at them. This really struck me wrong and I'm not sure if  I'm valid in this upsetting me, or if I need to just drop it.", "summary": "boyfriend told me about a folder on his computer with pictures of his exs, and I'm trying to figure out how I should feel."}
{"id": "t3_2v40cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke up with girlfriend [19f] because of cheating... now what? [19m]", "post": "Same old story regarding the cheating. Dated for 2 years. She cheated with a stranger, i forgave her out of desperation of trying to believe she knew it was a mistake. Caught her texting one of my good friends personal things and telling each other they like each other a month later. Finally man'ed up and told her to get out.\n\nIt felt good for a second, but now i feel like shit. Basically, I know im a young kid, im 19. And there are other girls. But I don't know whether its im insecure, or another reason, but I can't stop thinking about her and our relationship. I know in a few years, I'll look back and laugh, but on the other hand, at the moment, it feels so bad. I've been trying to stay busy, and i don't really show that anything's wrong, but on the inside, i think about her 24/7. She still tries to beg and cry for me to come back, but i've blocked her from all communication after sending her one last email. Can anyone experienced with this type of situation give me some advice? Will time really heal? Will i get over this girl? or just be stuck feeling like im in love with a cheater", "summary": "Gf cheated after relationship of 2 years. Forgave her like most idiots who get cheated on. Confessed she was texting and crossing boundaries with a good friend of ours. Dumped her. Feel like shit, even though my mind realizes I'm exaggerating. Need tips and advice, or just a story similar to mine."}
{"id": "t3_2uj8le", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18f] of 8 months is worried about me [20 m] getting bored of our relationship", "post": "Like I said we've been dating for 8 months. Were both in school and our schools are 9 hours away. But the main thing is that she's worried about us in bed. \n\nShe has slept with 5 guys including me. I slept with just her. She's worried one day I'll wake up and not be interested in her. She even suggested that I go and have a one night stand I feel she was kidding but the way she said it seemed like she wasn't. \n\nWe both love each other and are committed to eachother, but because of me only sleeping with her she's worried I might get curious. I keep reassuring her I won't just get bored but she keeps saying that's now. What should I do you guys?", "summary": "My girlfriend [18 f] of 8 months thinks me [20m] will get bored of her in bed"}
{"id": "t3_3tnv4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] Boyfriend of one year and I [19F] got in a huge fight. I don't know how to make it right or if I even did anything wrong.", "post": "I guess I should start off with a bit of history. Early on in our relationship (about a year ago) I was very shocked and upset to learn that after a night of drinking, my boyfriend would still drive. I was really frustrated that he didn't seem to understand how dangerous driving drunk could be to him or others. \n\nAfter a long conversation, he agreed to stop. However about 6 months ago he did it again. \n\nLast night he came home from the bar quite drunk (which I don't mind), he told me all about his night and I was confused about how he got home. So, I asked him. He didn't reply. I thought he didn't hear me so I asked him again. He still didn't answer me. \n\nIt's been 24 hours and he has been very upset about the whole thing. He won't really talk to me or return any physical affection. He finally told me about 10 minutes ago that he \"feels like I don't trust him.\" \n\nHow can I make this right? He has never been like this for such a long period of time.", "summary": "My boyfriend is upset and thinks I don't trust him because I don't want him driving under the influence."}
{"id": "t3_xvj5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO seems incapable of appreciating my perspective.", "post": "My significant other (23, female) will shortly be entering the workforce. Unfortunately this probably means moving cities. From my perspective moving cities is bad, I'm a PhD student (26, male) and moving cities not only means a completely new lifestyle away from family and friends but also away from all the support facilities, supervisors etc my university offers. I will also loose income and be reliant upon here for discretionary spending. \n\nI have tried to explain all of this to her but she seems incapable of appreciating my situation and transforms my unwillingness to move as a sign that I don't love her. I tried to explain to her the the situation isn't simply black and white like that and that I have everything right to choose my own happiness and chance for success over our relationship since she is unprepared to compromise on several issues regarding moving to a new city, despite the expectation I will drop everything for her. \n\nBasically if I don't move we will break up. \n\nI don't understand why she thinks it is okay for me to drop everything for her when she won't even make some small concessions for me. \n\nWhat can I do? Is it normal to be expected to reply everything and in the process disadvantage yourself for you SO?", "summary": "gf will probably move city in the next few months. Expects me to drop everything for her despite not being prepared to compromise on things with me."}
{"id": "t3_51mi4x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting that hot things are hot.", "post": "I should start out by telling you that I was born blonde. That being said...\nThis wasn't today but sometime last week. Just recently moved in with a friend and his wife. Friend and his wife don't really clean up too often, but like to use the dishwasher because it's convenient. Well, I go to use the dishwasher one day, open it, and this horrible stench assaults my nose. I unload everything in there, wash it by hand (one bowl three times) to remove the smell. I look in the dishwasher and see about an inch and half of standing water in the bottom. Figure, ok, let's run the dishwasher to see if it drains properly. Proceed to run dishwasher on heaviest cycle.\nCut to a few hours later. Open the dishwasher. It smells decent now. Steam fogs up my glasses. I see that all the water has drained from the dishwasher and I also see a piece of macaroni stuck in the drain. So I reach in, feel something sharp on my arm and proceed to yank my hand back out. I look... and there's a nice inch long scratch on my arm. I look back in and there's this piece of metal keeping in the rubber ring that goes around the dishwasher. I think I scratched myself.\nFive minutes later I realize that this is not a scratch and this is, in fact, a burn. A week later and I have a two inch long and half an inch wide burn that is still healing.", "summary": "OP forgot that a dishwasher coming off its drying cycle would be hot. Reached in to grab a piece of food and burned self on piece of metal."}
{"id": "t3_22qa67", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf's ex-wife (who lives in another state) has been texting/calling/emailing him, demanding to meet up after he recently confessed to her that he had had an affair the last two years they were married. He hasn't replied. Her last text read \"I'll see you at house.\" Should he/we be concerned??", "post": "My bf was married for 24 years and got divorced a little over a year ago. One night, in a fit of moral-cleansing, he confessed to his ex-wife that he had had an affair with a co-worker the last two years they were married. She replied with a scathing email (understandably) a few days later, and my bf decided not to respond and leave it at that. \n\nIt's been about a month since her email, and now in the last few days, she has been texting/emailing/calling him, saying things like \"I think it's time we talk. You can come here, or I can come there. Which do you prefer?\" He hasn't responded because he doesn't feel comfortable meeting her face to face and thinks it's somewhat out of character for her, as he says that she was the one who refused to communicate with him during and after their divorce. \n\nShe moved away during the divorce proceedings and does not live in the state. The last text he got from her today read \"I haven't heard from you. I will see you at house.\"\n\nI'm a little scared as I live with him and don't know what she wants to accomplish? She came over unannounced once before and tried to come in through the back door, but he caught her and stopped her before she could come in. She proceeded to scream at him, demanding to know who was in the house, and that I leave, etc. He says this scared and confused him as she had never done anything like that before nor indicated she had a problem with him dating, etc.\n\nShould he/we be concerned??", "summary": "Bf's ex-wife texts him that she's coming over to his house to have a \"talk\" despite not being invited nor does she live in same state."}
{"id": "t3_joe3f", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "2 of my friends were dating, one cheated and they broke up.  I'm having a rough time with it.", "post": "Here's the story (we're 21/22 year old females): My friend (\"C\") since preschool started dating a girl (\"S\") that we knew from girl scout camp. S had been dating a guy, broke up with him, and they started dating on the down low about 2 years ago.  I found out after the summer had ended and was shocked, but got over it.  The three of us were good friends, but I'm obviously closer to C, who I've known most of my life.  \n\nC and S were working together at the same camp this summer, I didn't come back this year because I had an internship.  A few weeks into the summer (they've been dating for almost 2 years at this point), S says she's kind of into this other counselor and just needs some time ALONE to think about their relationship, etc.  So they go on a \"brea.\"  C is crushed, but goes with it.  They get a weekend off, and S comes back with hickies all over her, and it comes out that she's been hooking up with this other girl.  \n\nSo I hear about all this and it just hits me really hard.  I'm shocked at first because I can't believe S would do something like that, then freakin pissed at S for hurting C so terribly.  I almost called S and cussed her out, but stopped myself.  I visited camp for a night the day after I found out.  I got the whole story from C, and S had the balls to come up and say hello to me like nothing was wrong.  I was relatively friendly considering the situation, but underneath I was still pretty livid.  \n\nAs some time passed, I was less angry and more sad because I had lost a good friend in S and never really got a chance to hear her side of the story.  But now I don't feel like I can talk to her without betraying C.\n\nSo I'm really at a loss of what to do.", "summary": "Friends dating each other, one cheats and they break up, don't know what to do about the friend I lost."}
{"id": "t3_3irpfj", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Advice-Low energy impacting training", "post": "Hi runnit,\n\nI'm hoping to get some advice on working around low energy levels (from iron deficiency) that are impacting my half-marathon training. I have found articles on how low iron can impact running, and how to get more iron, but I am looking for more personal experience with how to continue training without over exhausting myself.\n\nNormal iron levels are 40-60, and about 5 months ago mine were 12 (23F if you're wondering), and now they're 32. I'm on iron supplements, but when I ran out over a month ago, there was about 3 weeks before I went on them again. Ever since I went off them initially, I've been struggling to get my energy back. My half-marathon is October 11, and this has really put a damper on my training, which was going very well before my energy was shot. After a long run of 11km, I didn't run again until 3 weeks later, and since then I have hardly been able to do 5km 3/week (for about 3 weeks now). \n\nI've already registered for the race, which will be my third half in three years, and I do still want to do it, even if my time will be much worse than the last two. Does anyone have any suggestions for how I should continue training? Should I focus more on mileage or speed, or alternate? I'm hoping my energy increases over the next month, but currently I'm finding it difficult to pull myself off the couch. I couldn't even make it to 3km today. Any advice is appreciated!!", "summary": "Low energy from low iron is throwing off my half training. Can barely run 5km 3/week. Any advice for continuing to train for race on October 11?"}
{"id": "t3_46n7ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wasted >6 months, just looking for advice", "post": "I[19f]'m feeling kind of at a loss I guess. Basically what the title says; before I started work today, my (ex)boyfriend[23m] decided it wasn't working out and we broke up 15 minutes before I had to go into work. It had been pretty rocky in the last few weeks, but I figured we just had a lot on our plates. We'd had communication problems before, a lot relating back to his ex but I thought that was all done with and we were \"building something\" and \"really trying\" like he had said. Communication really seemed like it was doing well. \n\nLooking back, I guess I should've figured it was one sided when I never minded paying for dinners, always trying to bringing surprises,  and suggesting things to do.  Over the past couple weeks, we started seeing each other a lot less which, again, I blamed on us both being busy. We went from seeing each other 6x a week, to maybe 3. We both live within 5 minutes of each other and attend the same university so it was always really convenient.\n\nAnyway, when he dropped off some of my belongings this afternoon, he dropped off a pair of girls sweatpants. I wasn't that worried about it, but I knew they weren't mine. But I'm just finding out that he's been active on the dating site we met on, since before we actually ended it. \n\nI guess I'm just feeling upset and blindsided by everything. It wasn't a long relationship, but I had really tried making things work, and I thouget they were. I'm looking for some kind of advice.", "summary": "kind of rough break up, just want advice."}
{"id": "t3_3c1xy8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my SO [19 F] of 9 months. Don't know whether I'm taking my relationship for granted or I'm not attracted to her.", "post": "I love my SO. We get along great but I always end up making some sort of stress on our relationship for no reason and don't talk to her for a while. I get really jealous when I think about her past considering I had no relationships before and think of her all the time but something feels off. \n\nBefore our relationship I don't think I was very attracted to her at all but I feel like my love for her grew. I don't really like the choices she's made in the past like choosing to smoke but I'm trying to get over it. I want to be with her but sometimes I feel like we're so different that it's hard to be attracted to her sometimes. Also how can I deal with jealousy?", "summary": "I feel like an immature jerk who doesn't know what he wants"}
{"id": "t3_13p5u3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit heres my life situation, I need some help, 1/4 life crisis. I realized I just want to grow dope and be a hippy.", "post": "so up until 7 months ago life was sweet, I had the job/career of my dreams logging on the west coast and was overall a happy young man. I felt blessed being fortunate to live the life of my dreams. \n\nThen I got hurt, life changing injury, leaving me with a paralyzed foot. (25-50% chance of recovery) Dr.s said I probably won't be logging or running around the woods like I use to. I lived for being fit and active and this just changed everything.  So the last 7 months have sucked, I got hooked on the oxys, cigs and being lazy. I have no job and just sit around on reddit all day. I love working hard and getting dirty but due to my injury I can't and I dont want to do some menial office work or something, that would kill the essence of the jew22.  \n\nSo with all this downtime, I've just been getting stoned and contemplating life. I've realized all I want to get some land somewhere on this planet, grow dope, vegetables do the whole farming thing. Meet some ladies, father some children and hunt and fish all day. Probably sounds like some hippy bullshit to most, but thats what I truly want. I don't feel like the regular 9-5 normal life is something I am interested in.\n\nNow I'm not totally stupid, I got an idea of what I need to do to accomplish my dreams but I was wondering if anyone has done something like this? know anyone thats done something like this? Where can I do it, any suggestions? Africa? India? Anyone want to come with me?", "summary": "life was sweet, got hurt, now life sucks, realized I just want to grow dope and live on a farm"}
{"id": "t3_3qt0mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21/m] went on a date [20/f] and not sure if she's interested", "post": "I've been texting this girl from tinder for a week now and today we went out for lunch. We had a great time and spent an hour and 45 minutes talking about a lot of things and laughed. I texted her after saying \"I had a great time today! Let's do it again sometime. Maybe this weekend if you want!\" and she replied saying she had a good time as well and agreeing on seeing each other. However, she hasn't texted back for over an hour and I've seen her active on tinder (yeah I know that's insecure), so I'm not sure if she is interested in me or not. Should I just ignore it and continue like nothing happened?", "summary": "she is currently active on tinder but hasn't texted back"}
{"id": "t3_1orku5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22 F] is about to officially end our long-term relationship of 3 years, 4 months tomorrow with me [23 M].", "post": "Her reasoning is because she can't see herself with me in the future.  That she is unable to commit to me or able to commit in general.  She also mentioned that she didn't like that our personalities/qualities were opposites, but that never got in my way all these years.  \n\nI loved to explore her world and never expected her to explore mine.  I've never abused her or mistreated her.  Always treated her with the utmost respect, love, and care, and I always made sure she was happy by the end of every day.\n\nI would be even more angry, sad, and confused right now if she was breaking up because she was cheating on me...  But she claims she didn't and I believe her.  Even then, I can't just soak it in...  The fact that the woman that I planned my entire future with is now going to be out of my life for good.\n\nWe've had 2-3 moments before in our relationship such as this one where she was going to break up with me for the same said reasons, but during those moments she wasn't able to bring herself to do it.  There has never been a moment or time when I thought about breaking up with her or cheating on her...  It's always just been her...\n\nI'm having a hard time understanding any of this or trying to soak it all in...  If she wasn't able to commit to begin with, why spend all this time with me?  Say all these things?  Really confused, angry, and sad.", "summary": "Girlfriend is ending our long-term relationship of 3 years, 4 months tomorrow.  There were 2-3 moments before in our relationship that she wanted to break up for the same reasons I specified in the first paragraph.  This is the final moment, she claims, and really wants to this time."}
{"id": "t3_f7p0s", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "About to graduate with a liberal arts  degree, already have a family, no idea  what to do with myself. Help.", "post": "I was in the mortgage business from 2003-2008. I did very well for myself. Not super-duper, but I was able to live comfortably and put away savings every month, which most of my peers couldn't do at that age (early/mid 20s). \n\nWhen that fell apart, I decided to go back to college. I wasn't sure what for; I just always wanted a degree, and I suddenly had free time. A year or so in, I decided that I've actually always loved school and I want to teach college. Two years in, we had a baby (accident but an extremely happy one-- we adore the little guy). \n\nNow I'm about to graduate with a liberal arts degree and I have no idea what to do. If I go to grad school in the liberal arts I can make $20k/yr if I'm lucky enough to even get a teaching job when I get out 2 years from now. That just doesn't sound very appealing. Plus I live in Arizona and we are gutting educational funding. But I have no idea what else to do. I have finished college without any skills. We want to have another baby but we're barely getting by as it is (despite both of us working full-time). My wife is college-educated and has 7 years experience in her field and makes dirt. I'm about to be college-educated and out of a job (I'm a student-worker right now which will end when I graduate).", "summary": "Graduating, turning 30, freaking out about having a liberal arts education and no career. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_556ij6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.", "post": "Long story short, I was very romantically/sexually inexperienced before I met my boyfriend \"Evan.\" I wasn't a virgin, but I was definitely a late bloomer and I'd only had sex twice before. I met him when I was 24 and liked him right away, but I wasn't interested in a relationship; I just really wanted to get more experience.\n\nOne night we started hooking up, but I panicked and got terrified that he'd be turned off by my obvious lack of experience. I made up a lie on the spot about how I had grown up Mennonite (not quite Amish but close) and how I had only left the church recently so I'd never had sex before. In retrospect I realize how stupid that was, but I was honestly never planning to see him again and I was just really nervous in the heat of the moment. We hooked up, it was good, and then we parted ways. \n\nAbout 5 months later I ran into him randomly and we decided to go out again. That quickly led to us dating, and me falling for him. We've been together almost 2 years now, and Evan still thinks I grew up as a super religious Mennonite. (I did grow up in a mostly Amish/Mennonite town, but my family was not religious at all.) We don't talk about my childhood much, and I think he assumes it's a painful subject. He's met my mom briefly, but she and the rest of my fam live on the other side of the country. I told him the rest of my family also left the church. \n\nSo I know this makes me a terrible person, and the moment is long passed to tell him the truth. I just really did NOT anticipate it escalating like this, and by the time I realized that I really cared about him, it was sort of too late to come clean. \n\nEvan is very easy-going and finds humor in the weirdest situations, so as naive as it may be, I'm kind of hoping that if he could understand the reason behind the initial lie, he might eventually think it was funny. Or not. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Told my boyfriend I used to be Mennonite/Amish the first time we hooked up (out of nerves), and the lie stuck. 2 years in and I don't know how to break it to him."}
{"id": "t3_3k1c7t", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travelling to the Netherlands from the US", "post": "Hello all,\n\nIn a couple of months I'd like to make a trip to the Netherlands (and other European Schengen countries along the way). I'll be staying no longer than 90 days, so as far as I know I won't need a visa. I read something about bringing sufficient funds/financial proof that you might have to show. Does this apply to me? I'm currently unemployed and not in college either, but I saved up a bit of money. Either way, if they want me to show I have sufficient funds it might become a pain in the a**. I searched online already but could not find any clear information on this subject.\n\nWill they ask me about it? And what about other proof such as hotel reservations? I'll mostly be staying with friends who live in the Netherlands so I won't have any of that to show. Is there anyone here from the US who's visited the Netherlands before (under 90 days) and can help me out? I'll be staying for roughly 2-3 months and seeing a few other European countries aswell (by train or car most likely, my friends offered to show me around a bit :)).", "summary": "LF someone from the US who's visited the Netherlands before (preferably for 2-3 months but shorter as 90 days) who knows what they will and won't ask me at immigrations/customs once I arrive there. First time outside the US so I'd just like to be sure. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_27762w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25/f) am trying to rebuild a relationship after my bf (26/m) emotionally cheated on me.", "post": "My boyfriend of 5 years went on a work-related trip to Japan for 9 days about a month and a half ago.  Ever since he got back, he's been acting distant and not like himself.  Two nights ago, I found out he had met a girl there and they hung out twice.  He swears that they only held hands, but I am suspicious that more might have happened.  He has been talking to her nearly every day since he left and I only found out because I looked at his phone (not proud of that).  She wrote that she loved him, and they sent each other kissing emojis and cutesy stuff like that.  They also talked about visiting each other.\n\n I freaked out and begged for him to stop talking to her.  It took a lot of hesitation before he cut her off, but he did.  He told me he wants to rebuild our relationship, because he has been unhappy this past year (I am a medical student and am very busy, I definitely neglected him many times in order to study).  How can we rebuild this relationship?  This is a person I want to spend my life with, and I have invested a lot in this relationship.  How can I trust him again?  I have 10 weeks off from school.  I want to make this work, but I feel so betrayed and unwanted and sometimes I just want to yell at him but I'm afraid to push him away.  Would you suggest couples counseling? \n\nAlso, fwiw, I fooled around with another guy in 2012 and told him about it right after it happened.  We broke up for 6 months and then got back together.  He still has resentment about this, but I didn't realize it until he told me when he was explaining why he was talking to this girl.  How can he communicate his feelings to me better instead of seeking outside affection from someone else?", "summary": "BF of 5 years emotionally cheated on me with a girl abroad.  Has been talking to her since they met (about 1.5 months now).  How do we get through this and mend our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2nzl39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I invited two girls to the same concert. What do I do?", "post": "So I originally invited a girl, I'll call her Amy, to a concert. We had hung out a couple times and I was genuinely interested her. Well last week Amy had to cancel our plans Monday but rescheduled for last Wednesday. Come Wednesday, she said she would be over at 6:30. I waited and waited but Amy never showed up or contacted me. \n\nI sent her a text message on Thursday and didn't hear back. I didn't bother trying to talking to her Friday, because fuck that. I saw she was posting on instagram and snapchat and it kinda bothered me. \n\nSo I went out drinking with some friends Saturday, and ran into a girl I dated a couple years ago, I'll call her Katie. Turns out Katie and I hit it off well. And since I figured Amy was now old news, I invited Katie to the concert. She said yes. \n\nFast forward a couple days and I finally heard back from Amy, she apologized and said she just had a bad week. Amy and I have been texting a little bit again, but not like before. I've also been talking with Katie. Neither have said anything about the concert, it's still a couple weeks away. I'm not sure what to do. Can anybody offer some advice or anything?\n\nI realize I probably jumped the gun with considering Amy old news, but she bailed on me twice and didn't respond to me for several days. I looked like she was simply avoiding me or no longer interested. And alcohol.", "summary": "I got ditched a couple times and didn't hear from her for several days. Invited somebody else. She said yes. I finally heard back from the original girl. Invited 2 girls."}
{"id": "t3_4n51vz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my 'Fiance' [30M] 7 yrs got several lapdances weeks b4 our wedding", "post": "Hi all, my OH was on his stag at the weekend, I guessed they'd probably go to a strip club and wasn't delighted about it but understand it happens!! \n\nMy OH tells me yesterday he got a private dance, I was a bit disappointed but said it was grand, it was his stag, sh*t happens. So a few hours later he tells me he went in a second time, with a different girl, paid himself and then paid for 'extra time' when he was in there. The private dances are totally naked. \n\nWe are meant to be getting married in 9 weeks, I'm really upset... to me one dance I can chalk off as 'stag hijinx' going back in yourself a second time and paying for more to me feels like cheating. He's really sorry but I feel sick thinking about it... I don't know if I want to marry him. I need advice... :(", "summary": "What are your thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_40p2ir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] can't seem to get over my friend [18M] who I've had feelings for one and off for 7 months.", "post": "This past June, I became friends with this guy, who we'll call Jim. I quickly developed a massive crush on him and ended up telling him how I felt. He was very nice about it. We both understood, though, that he's too old for me and he had feelings for another guy. He ended up dating that guy for awhile.\n\nAt the end of summer break Jim got a new boyfriend who he seemed very into. 1-2 months after that they broke because the boyfriend cheated on Jim. During this same time period I got my first boyfriend, although our relationship lasted for only a day short of three weeks.\n\nIn October (I believe) Jim got ANOTHER boyfriend and is still with him currently. The only time I felt jealousy because of him dating other guys was for a short while a few weeks ago.\n\nOver all of this time, I've had feelings cropping up for Jim every once in awhile. It's not usually strong feelings anymore, but they're still an annoyance.\n\nA couple days ago I started talking to Jim again after over a month of not having a big conversation with him. We talked my feelings over again and he feels bad. \n\nThroughout all of this I've always felt like I annoy him. I'll probably try not to talking to him much again for awhile\n\nI've tried going lengths of time without talking to Jim. I've even had my own boyfriend. I can't seem to completely shake my feelings for him. I don't think I really have any feelings for him right now, but I'm pretty sure I will again sometime. I have no idea what to do. \n\nHow do you guys think I could end this mess once and for all?", "summary": "I've had feelings on and off for a guy for the past 7 months, and I can't seem to shake the feelings off completely. What should I do to get rid of my feelings for him completely?"}
{"id": "t3_2o9dpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 33 M with my 33 F 8 years, don't know up from down", "post": "Hello relationships.  Long time lurker...i need help...\n\nI am married with two young children.  I am also deeply unhappy with my marriage.\n\nMy wife and I had a rock start, but we stuck it through.  There have been good times and bad times, but that's just the way it is, right?  Recently though, things have been really rough.  My wife has grown a bit more mean, has lost interest in sex, and has generally just seemed to care a whole lot less about me.  She is good with the kids, but I'm seeing that mean edge hit them more and more as they get older and aren't her babies.\n\nI am by no means perfect.  I get frustrated when I feel I'm not being listened too, I have been angry over the physical and emotional rejection, and when I'm physically/mentally/emotionally exhausted I go into robot mode, where I just perform functions.\n\nI've been trying to explain to my wife that her behavior hurts me, like, she is frequently curt, doesn't seem interested in me...really I keep thinking \"She's just not that into you dude\"...But all I keep getting this weird jujitsu where it ends up being my fault, and that I'm really the bad one, and she doesn't bring it up ever because it's just not worth it to her.\n\nI adore my kids.  I cannot be without them.  I am so unhappy and nothing I do seems to help with my wife.  Recently I came to a realization that I was never going to get the emotional validation I needed from her and I needed to seek it from myself, and that has helped.  It's made me realize that perhaps we should separate.  But I'm a guy, and my children are young; I feel like I don't stand a chance of a reasonable custody agreement.\n\nI know there aren't a lot of questions in this post, so, here goes.  Any advice /r/relationships?  Anyone been in my spot and had a not terrible outcome?", "summary": "Wife is worst part of life, out of tactics, can't imagine being without my kids."}
{"id": "t3_3lkz13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [M/21] makes no effort for me [F/20]", "post": "My SO and I have been together for just over 10 months now, I really like him but I feel he makes no effort when it comes to our relationship.\n\nI'm from England so dates aren't really as big a thing as they are in America, it's a bit more casual here in my opinion. That said, we have never been to the cinema together, never been to a restaurant together, nothing. Every time we meet up we just end up lying beside each other chatting. Now I do like doing this, but I'd like to change it up now and again. I suggest things but he has no interest. We never even go for walks together or anything so it's not just a money thing! \n\nI feel like I'm only fwb with him rather than in a relationship. What should I do?", "summary": "SO makes no effort in relationship, has no interest in doing anything but lay down in bed with me."}
{"id": "t3_v1f8x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What's the funniest thing you've ever seen?", "post": "I think mine is probably that I was in a starbucks in Swansea with my friend and we were just sat and drinking deliciously overpriced pretentious coffee. This girl gets up to go to the toilet, but there's just one cubicle and it's a massive room because it's also for the disabled. That's relevant. So we see her get up and we think nothing of it. We carry on drinking our coffee. About two minutes later, someone gets up to go to the toilet. They try and handle, it's locked. The sort of half push the door while pressing the handle, realise it's occupied, and go to sit back down. Now, I don't know how this happened but somehow in pushing the door and messing with the handle, the door became unlocked and swung open slowly. Everyone in the shop turned around to look and stared in silence as the door opened completely, revealing a woman on the toilet with her pants around her ankles, swinging her arms in the vague direction of the door in an attempt to close it. But she can't, because it's one of those huge room toilets and the toilet is metres away from the door. Everyone is watching her try to close the door in silence. A barrista guy walks over and closes the door. Everyone is still silent. We drink our coffee in silence. She eventually opens the door and walks out of the coffee shop without drinking her coffee. As she walks out everyone everyone avoids eye contact.\n\nAfter she'd left the whole place is in fucking hysterics.", "summary": "Saw a bathroom door swing open to an occupied toilet in a full starbucks. "}
{"id": "t3_ylrr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So we've seen that many redditors have gotten verbally destroyed by someone else. Now, what's the best comeback you've ever had?", "post": "I generally have a pretty poor memory about these sorts of things, but recently I had a pretty decent one.\n\nI entered a bar with a girl, and there was an older, absolutely shithammered guy there that was about 20 years my senior (I'm 21). We head to the bar to order some beers and he made some really creepy passes at the girl. After a few exchanges, I told him to \"Just go home,\" which he didn't take too kindly to. As we walked away, he stumbled after, and proceeded to slur to me that he would smash my face because \"how dare [I] speak to him like that\" and that \"[I] should apologize.\" I promptly replied, \"Sure thing. And while I'm at it, I'll mow the lawn and take out the garbage too, Dad.\" The look on his face of drunken anger and confusion was awesome. He had no reply and simply walked away. \n\nAdded bonus: the girl made it quite clear later that night that she was impressed.", "summary": "Called a much older drunk guy at the bar \"Dad\" and got laid because of it."}
{"id": "t3_41qyui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my gf [26 F] 2months, Girlfriends old flame visiting wants to stay with her", "post": "I started seeing my current girlfriend at the end of 2015. It was an awkward start. Before we started dating, she had a trip planned to a foreign country where she was to stay with a, not an ex boyfriend, but someone she was romantically involved with. The trip being expensive in nature and long planned, I was in no position to comment on it at all. I accepted it. I was cool about it. I didn't even make a shitty remark about it. She assured me that even though she was staying with this person, nothing would happen. I trusted her as I had no reason not to. She's back now, and it's a new year and pretty much a clean start for us. That trip is over and is not the topic of this post, just the preface. \n\n15 minutes ago she just texted me that this person is visiting the USA and wants to stay with her. It wasn't really a \"Are you OK with this?\" text. It was just \"He asked to stay with me\". She has a tiny ass 1 bedroom apt. 1 bed.\n\nI have a strong gut reaction to this. I've learned over time that I don't usually benefit from voicing that reaction until I've mulled it over for at least a few hours. If I'm being honest, I'm kind of ticked off about it because I had such a good feeling about this new year  being free of any drama or awkwardness.\n\nI suppose I have a question: How do I not come off as immature and jealous as i feel while letting her know that this situation makes my stomach turn a little? It's possible I just need to be told I'm being immature and too jealous.", "summary": "girlfriends old flame wants to stay with her in her 1 bedroom apt."}
{"id": "t3_3t784f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best way for me [23 M] to get my Mum's fiancee [50's M] to realise I'm cool with their upcoming marriage.", "post": "My mum met her partner around 2 years ago and they began a relationship. I was away at university the whole time I didn't come home too much and I was fortunate enough to get an attractive job offer about 500 miles away from home. Point being I've only met this man a couple of times and by all accounts that I've heard from my family (Grandparents, sister, uncle and Mum herself) he is very good to her and they are happy together.\n\nThats all that really matters to me in this situation and I'd be happy to leave it at that. In all honesty I don't really care about their upcoming marriage and I just know that the preparation is going to involve me being in total awkward situations. Granted, these are only awkward because I'm quite apathetic to most developments and anti-social to a degree I suppose but since the announcement of their engagement he's been making big attempts to try and become my best bud in the world, which I commend him for, and my mother has been pressuring me to 'make an effort'.\n\nSo I know these sound like the ramblings of a mad person but I'm just looking to see if anybody has a way for me to try and distance myself from the lead up to the ceremony as much as possible while being respectful of my mum and her partner. I like him as much as I'd like anyone I've met a couple of times but I just want him to know its fine if he backs off. I don't want to pass my mum over like she's the deeds to a house, I don't need a new dad and I imagine he doesn't need a new son. I just want him to be aware that I am supportive while having as little to do with the whole thing as possible.", "summary": "Mum's getting married soon, future stepdad overly worried about winning me over, may be being pressured to by mum, want to make him more at ease."}
{"id": "t3_32yv7r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Touching My Brother's Baby Batter", "post": "(I submitted this about 2 months ago but it immediately got taken down, so I'm re-posting)\n\nMy brother (22) is staying with me(18F) for a little while to help take of my animals. So of course being a man and using unnecessary amounts of toilet paper, the toliet paper ran out fairly quickly.\nBut I don't notice until the deed is done, so here I am sitting on the toilet thinking of what to do, ask my brother? No he's asleep, don't want to be rude, a towel? No painful. Then I spot the holy grail, tissues, they were just laying around, didn't think anything of it. When I grabbed the tissues I was welcomed by a weird fluid.\nBeing a carpet muncher, at first I was confused, then the horror strucked me like a softball.\nThat towel felt nice.", "summary": "towels are not effective for wiping"}
{"id": "t3_2g0e6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] Knew her from high school, but recently started dating for a month so far (Long distance relationship?) - Just speaking my mind", "post": "Hi,\nSo I started dating this Japanese-American girl that that I started to talking to again after not really keeping in contact post-high school (2012 was last time we really talked prior to dating). We started talking again when she was visiting family in Japan, and we were Skyping. She's been back for a few weeks and i've seen her like every weekend except once. She is everything I want and I am MADLY in love with her. She is also madly in love with me and we are both positive influences to each other. \n\nShe is a sophomore in college (supposed to be junior but she did a high school year in Japan) and I am a senior in college that probably will have to do an extra semester. \n\nThis isn't a question really or complaint, but we are technically \"long distance\". She lives an hour and a half away from me (in the same state still - South Carolina). There is 100% trust and we try to see each other every weekend. Would it even be considered a long distance relationship? Is long distance normal in a lot of relationships nowadays especially at my age? It really hurts me that she isn't here 24/7 but I have to accept the fact that she has a part time job and goes to a community college.\n\nShe plans on transferring to the university i'm going to (USC) when I have my extra semester. I really see myself being with her for a long time and I never want to let her go to be honest. The feeling is mutual.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are in a \"long distance relationship\"-ish and we are madly in love. Just a small vent on how I want to stay with her forever despite this distance."}
{"id": "t3_2j7n16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my girlfriend [23F] have been dating for a year and a few months and things feel to be slowing down too much :/", "post": "I feel like at the start of the relationship me and her had lots of physical attraction and lots of physical contact (Massages, back scratching, more hugging, more kissing) and recently it feels like she doesn't want to do that kind of thing with me at all. \n\nSexual acts like HJ, BJ and such have very much so declined to non existent. Because she \"doesn't feel like it\" where as I am almost always more then happy to do that sort of thing for her. It also feels like all those little things that she used to do cause I felt that she did them because she loved me but now she doesn't feel like it. I love to spend time with her and love her very much but I honestly feel that she is starting to not love me anymore. \n\nI do lots of things with her, as much as I can but I feel that she is almost selfish and feels like I am a man and don't need that affection and that attention because im a guy. I'm not the most experienced with relationships but I feel like I know a good amount. I feel like I try so hard to make her happy and spend time with her but when it comes to a few things that I like or want to do, it becomes a hastle or a fuss.\n\nShe had a little bit of a tough childhood and I think she is an amazing person and she hasn't learned to show affection very well or to accept it very well so sometimes I feel like that has more then a little bit to do with some of that stuff. Maybe im over thinking and were just in a rough patch ATM but just wanted a possible different angle. I don't feel that she is a cheater and I think she is loyal but sometimes when she is texting or something she kind of hides her phone or she makes it a bigger deal if I try to peek or something. I don't know I guess.", "summary": "Me and the GF have been having a little bit of a rough patch and wanted some advice about making it better or making some decisions."}
{"id": "t3_2r0q0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26/M] developing feelings for my very close friend [26/F] of 15 years.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, I'll keep this as short as possible. Thanks.\n\nI've been close friends with this girl (call her *A*) since the 7th grade. We drifted apart for a couple years when she moved to the UK for school/work, but ever since her return in early 2014, we have re-kindled our friendship and have been hanging out regularly again.\n\nBackstory on me - was in a 5 year (last year was long-distance) relationship which ended in July of 2014. Call my ex-gf *B*.\n\nI've recently noticed that *A* and I have very very similar temperments and dispositions, the way we react to certain situations in life. It's uncanny, and to be honest, refreshing, since *B* and I had very different temperments which ultimately led to the end of our relationship.\n\nAlso, *A* lives, breathes, and radiates confidence. She knows exactly what she wants, when she wants it, how she wants it. In contrast, *B* self-admitted to having a handful of confidence issues (not my words, hers).\n\nI find myself **intensely** attracted to *A* - she and I spent our New Year's Eve together in a very platonic manner. I wanted to kiss her at midnight, but my respect for her, and my fear of losing a great friend/friendship and scaring her away kept me from doing so.\n\nLastly (and probably not relevant), *A* and I dated in 7th grade for a few months. Ha ha ha.\n\nWHAT DO I DO? Do I tell her? Do I not?", "summary": "Crushing on a close friend (everything my ex-gf wasn't). Don't want to lose friendship. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_35p9rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex boyfriend [M22] took the blame for something I did. He got fired. Should I [F22] say something?", "post": "We were together for 3 years, but things weren't working out. I waited until I met someone else before I ended it, so he was pretty upset. I regret that a lot.I should have ended it a lot sooner. \n\nWhen we were in college, we talked about our dream jobs and such and we both wanted to do pretty much the same thing. That career path all started with the 2 year internship with a particular company  which we both eventually got - which was really cool because there was only 45 places.\n\nAnyway, we had been doing the internship for 6 months when I broke it off with him - 5 months ago now. 3 weeks ago I stole some of the merchandise from our workplace. It was incredibly stupid. I've had a problem with stealing since I was 15. He was let go from the program not long after that. No one knew why. Yesterday I was in the break room just chatting with my boss and she let it slip that he stole merchandise. I know that he would never do that, but why would he take the blame? I honestly didn't know that my boss or my ex knew anything at all. If he took the blame for me why wouldn't he say something?\n\nI'm not sure what to do now. I don't have the merchandise anymore. Should I tell my boss that it was really me? If I did I don't think he'd get the internship position back - my boss never liked him. I feel bad, but he did decide to take the blame, so should I respect that?", "summary": "I stole from my workplace. Unbeknownst to me until yesterday, he took the blame for me. Should I tell my boss or just leave it alone?"}
{"id": "t3_4zusd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) have a huge problem of developing strong feelings for people really quickly, then feeling destroyed when it isn't reciporacted", "post": "So I broke up with a recent girlfriend about a month ago now, and since we've been apart my feelings have taken a hard hit. Essentially, I become madly infatuated with any woman who gives me attention and has something in common with me, which sucks as it is. Then, when it's not reciprocated, I get this flood of devastation (I know its hyperbolic, but it honestly feels that bad) and its really hurts to be honest. I also have really bad anxiety so it affects me even more than the average guy. At the moment i'm in the position of meeting a lot of new people, so within the last week alone, this has happened twice. Most recently today. It's really difficult to feel like this, because I really miss having a close connection with someone the way I used to, and I want to make friends with these girls who share so much in common with me, but I can't because I always seem to develop such strong feelings. So, what can I do to stop these feelings developing so hard?", "summary": "keep developing strong feelings towards girls I want to be friends with, feel horrible when they don't feel the same."}
{"id": "t3_2t2hib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21M) girlfriend (20) of four months has a massive hard on for cats and I can't stand them.", "post": "Sorry if this seems petty in the scheme of things. Basically it's just that my girlfriend has a massive hard on for cats, and I absolutely cannot stand them. Or pets in generalI know the entirety of the world loves them but it's never really been a problem until now!\n\nMy girlfriend has a ton of cats. She talks about them, posts about them, plans futures about them and I have always just seen this in a light-hearted, jokey sort of way. I in no way act hostile or aggressively towards them but just my lack of passion for them must have rubbed off, and now she is saying she genuinely has a real problem with the fact I don't love them, as they are a 'big part of her life'.\n\nI thought she was sort of half joking but it seems to be actually a serious point. Would somebody actually break up with somebody because of their lack of love for pets?!\n\nSeriously what is the deal with pets though. They're irritating, they smell nasty, the make a mess, shit everywhere, they're boring. Just absolutely nothing redeeming about them! \n\nSome insight would be great guys, ta! x", "summary": "GF Loves cats, I hate them."}
{"id": "t3_34ta85", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "NEED HELP [20/M] ASKING OUT A [19/F]", "post": "Thought this would be a good sub reddit to ask at so here it goes. Hi so theres this girl in one of my uni classes and she probably has no idea i exist which is fine, I first noticed her in one of the earlier lectures and once i saw she was in my tutorial/study class I was straight away smitten by her, I thought this would eventually go away but i just cant seem to stop thinking about her. Shes only in one of my classes and I havent spoken to her (partly cause im too scared/nervous and cause she sits with her friends and I sit with mine). I have one mutual friend on facebook, but if I were to add her on fb without her knowing who I am i think may come off as stalkerish. I have noticed she looked at my way a few times and smiled at me on a few occasions but this might just be her being polite. So i need some advice on how to approach her/start talking to her before I make some sort of move to ask her out. Any help would mean the world. Also im only in her class for another 5 weeks", "summary": "Not sure how to approach this girl in my class at uni who i cant stop thinking about"}
{"id": "t3_2gtwci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my BF [17 M] of 2.5 years, wants us to move in together after we graduate highschool.", "post": "This is my first post, I am so confused need help.\n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for two years (three in december). Since about a year into our relationship, he began to talk about moving in together. Me, being very much in love with him, wholeheartedly agreed on this plan. We talked about how great it would be, and he has even talked to his parents about it and they are all for helping us pay for an apartment.\n\nNow that graduation is getting closer and I am beginning to send in college applications, I am realizing that I am not ready to be living with a SO at 18. \n\nBut I am so in love with this man. I have dreams about making a house with him, getting married and having children with him. He has met my family and they love him. I can completely see him as a life-time partner.\n\nI know I am 17, and young and stupid, but I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.\n\nPlease don't criticize me for my age, I really need help.", "summary": "I am 17 and told my boyfriend I would move in with him when we were both 18. I am now realizing I'm not ready for this and I don't know how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_3rvbd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) am just not sure whether I'm going to be able to grow out of my inability to develop a good relationship or if I need some kind of help.", "post": "I know this probably isn't just a me problem but I don't know who I can talk to. I'll hope I grow out of it but until then I'd be happy with a few comments/advice. Names changed. \n\nSo I have this thing where I don't necessarily care too much what people think of me but I do really care about not hurting other people. When I'm in a relationship I'm always worrying about whether I'm going to end up hurting the other person or not. I guess having a streak (every one except for Donna) of relationships ending sourly where the girl would end up being hurt in some easy way didn't help. \n\nDonna and I would have worked beautifully if it weren't for the fact that her and Bobby break up put Bobby in a deep depression. Throughout that relationship about every other night I would be having some kind of nightmare about Bobby since we don't talk anymore. That's a whole other story though. \n\nBesides being afraid of hurting people, I'm starting to believe I'm incapable of feeling for someone in that way. I can be very sexually attracted to someone and I can love someone fiercely because of who they are to me, but when those two feelings collide I start to disassociate myself from them. \n\nFirst I just don't talk to them as much, then I start to become annoyed when I see their name pop up on my phone. If I get a message I'll be hoping in the back of my head that it's not them. Then I'll start feeling sad when I think about them and I'll wish that they would just forget that I've ever existed. Eventually this leads to a twinge of disgust whenever I see them in my head.", "summary": "I slowly become disgusted by anyone I date, but I'm not a hateful person."}
{"id": "t3_h7aac", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why haven't there been any large, new religions founded since Islam?", "post": "I know there have been movements here and there, and groups such as Satanists (although would they be considered more of a cult?). Sure, there have been different denominations and different groups forming from established religions for a while (reformation, Sunnis and Shiites (and Sufis), etc). But these don't represent new religions because they work off the already established framework. There have not been new grand narratives.\n\nIt can't be that they just haven't had time to grow--Islam was founded 1300 years ago (approx) and is now the world's second largest religion. And it also can't be that most of the world is already religious, because most of the world was already religious when Christianity or Islam came about (they were pagan). \n\nSo why have there been no new religions or major narratives?", "summary": "Why are there no more major religions being founded?"}
{"id": "t3_23busk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my gf [23 F] 4 months of proper relationship after which one year of abusive on and off", "post": "I have been depressed for an year. Have had panic attacks when she told me she likes someone else (her ex actually). I was broken. I still am very very anxious. But I am trying this thing that everybody keeps telling me about , No Contact. Maybe it will help. But I am finding it very difficult to do anything substantial and productive with my time. I try to do stuff but I just fail miserably. Can any of you guys suggest something ? A book or a TV show maybe that I can watch . Something that is so engrossing that I won't have anytime to think about her ? \n\nOr should I just mope and cry and grief about how unlucky I have been to loose her. I need to get out of this very very dearly. If she was single right now, it would have been very easy for me. But the fact that she is seeing her ex just makes me go crazy you know. It makes me jealous and makes me feel that I did something wrong. \n\nPlease note that I was always very supportive of her. I helped her in her times of crisis. Of course both sides of the story should be heard. But until my recovery , can you guys please assume that she is the bad person ? \n\nLooking forward to hearing from you guys.", "summary": "Trying to break out of the habit . No contact is what I am relying right now and it is day 6 of no contact ! Need some cheers"}
{"id": "t3_3zc85z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14/F] with my mom [50F] duration, she asks me to things that are LITERALLY impossible and then gets mad when I can't do them?", "post": "Hi.\n\nI live with my mom and sister, my brothers are at university. My parents are getting divorced, and my dad doesn't want to see me anymore.\n\nSo, my mom is really stressed. I don't let a lot of what she does bother me. However, she's started doing something lately and I'd like some advice.\n\nMy mom will ask me to do things I LITERALLY cannot do. For example: delete an app from her iPad. However, the parental controls on it won't let me. When I told her this, I got yelled st. She always goes, \"WHY IS IT ALWAYS A DISCUSSION WITH YOU?\". She hates it whenever I disagree with her.\n\nThis happens once or twice a day. Today, she wanted me to add more stuff to the dishwasher. It was already running, and it was full. Still, I tried to add some more. When I told her it didn't fit, she told me to stop disagreeing with her constantly. Help?", "summary": "my mom asks me to do things that are impossible. She yells at me when I can't do them or tell her I can't. How do I calm"}
{"id": "t3_36guyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] would like to get back in touch/date a friend [24 F] with whom I refused to date back in the days.", "post": "Hey\n\nAbout 6 years ago, this girl in my class used to be really attracted to me, she would even ask me shamelessly if I would like to sleep with her (she would even grab my butt when no one was looking). I would refuse all her atempts, because I wasn't in love with her, but I did find her physically attractive (in my head, it was only fair to sleep with women I felt a psychological connection to). She even asked me to prom, to which I also refused.  \n\nFar forward 6 years later now, she's been through 3 relationships and is now single, I would like to connect back with her. The problem is that I haven't spoke to her during those last 5-6 yrs (expect when I would randomly bump into her in retail stores).\n\nMy question is how should I approach her, and is it ok or does it look desperate? Any advice from someone who went through the same situation would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "how to connect with a girl that used to want me badly?"}
{"id": "t3_1f8g7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [17M] reading too much into everything with her [17F]?", "post": "I've known her for 6 years now, but over the past year or so we have grown close. Recently she has been getting, \"touchy\" i guess, leaning on me and running her fingers over my arms and whatnot. I've played along trying not to think too much of it, trying not to read into something that's not there. However, today she held and played with my hands (it might mean more to me than most) and the overall vibes were great. I'm starting to think I might not just be imagining things but the last thing i need emotionally right now is to get shot down.\n\nDo you think she is interested, or am i just imagining things? Opinions/Advice please.", "summary": "OP is a faggot who needs a guarantee that he isn't going to get shot down."}
{"id": "t3_2rh2li", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Masters from ranking University vs Masters from un-ranked university with certifications?", "post": "Hello, I am thinking of going back to school to get my masters however, I am on the fence on getting one from a ranking University versus a non ranked University that will enable me to get certifications with the program.\n\n So my questions is, does recruiters/hiring managers care about where I got my masters from or do they just care that I have a masters? Will the certifications still matter if I did get the masters? Would I have a better chance getting a job in the bigger companies with a ranked university?\n\nHere is some information to help with the response:\n\n* Degree aiming for: Masters of Science in Management Information Systems (or similar)\n* University examples: University of Texas vs University of Houston\n* Work Experience: 5 years of information management\n* Purpose of degree: Get more information on advance technology and have opportunity to learn new stuff\n* Bachelors: BS Computer Engineering Technology\n* Certs aiming for: Microsoft SQL Server or PMP or Oracle\n\nUltimately my goal is to get into Business Intelligence/Analyst in the healthcare field or into a company that does big data analysis.\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and I hope I provided enough information.", "summary": "Want to get a Masters degree but does not know how the reputation of the University will affect future Job opportunities"}
{"id": "t3_yee53", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife said I should have dug through a bin of wet gym towels to find my Speedo that I mistakenly tossed in there", "post": "So, at the gym today in the men's locker room, I had my Speedo wrapped in a towel to dry when I tossed in the very large bin of used towels. 2 minutes later i realized what i did, but by that time at least 5 other guys had thrown their towels into the bin... and the bin was already about half full. There was no way that I was going to go digging through dozens of wet or sweaty towels that have been on the floor, on random genitals, and on strange ass bits.\n\nSo I told my wife this story expecting a laugh and she looked at me incredulously because I DIDN'T go digging through the nasty heap towels. Then she started talking down to me like I was an paranoid germaphobe who was being completely unreasonable. Whaaaa?\n\nI told her that you could get fungus, warts, staph and a whole strain of other infections from this sort thing and she just told me that I should wash my hands afterwards.\n\nAm I wrong? Should I have dug through a bin of used gym towels to find my stupid swimsuit?", "summary": "My wife thought that I was being a germaphobe because I wouldn't dig though a heap of used gym towels to find my swimsuit."}
{"id": "t3_p3qoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New relationship, I want to get married and start a family and don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't. Too soon to ask?", "post": "I am a 31 year old women dating a man just a few years older than myself. We have been together about 5 months. Getting him to admit it was a relationship was like pulling teeth. This was partly because of past failed relationships, and he wanted to make sure it was the real thing before committing to anything. This part I understand and respect.\n\nAll in all I'd say our relationship is great. We enjoy each others company, we care for each other, and work through things as best we can. It's awesome.\n\nThings is: I'm in my thirties and I am TERRIFIED that I won't be able to have children if I wait too much longer. A family is VERY important to me. He has mentioned that he wants children...someday....but right now he is over the top paranoid of getting me pregnant. I don't think he's completely out of line. We haven't been together too terribly long, we don't live together...etc. \n\nSo two questions: \n\n1. Is it too early in our relationship to even bring it up? I don't want to freak him out but i do want to know if he sees that in our future. I don't necessarily need to know that NOW... I just don't want to find out down the road and feel I've wasted years of fertility.\n\n2. For you mothers of reddit. Am I just stressing myself out? Am I too young to feel worried at this point or should I be genuinely concerned? I seem to keep coming across studies that say it's hard/and or/unhealthy to have children at this age. \n\nI love this guy and I am not the type to trick a guy into fatherhood. I have looked into insemination and am completely aware that may mean loosing him as I am sure he doesn't want to be involved raising a kid that isn't his.  I know that if I did get pregnant he would be responsible and there for me. But he wants it to be a planned thing and I respect that....I am just afraid I don't have much time left.", "summary": "I'm a woman in my 30's in a new relationship. I want a family and don't want to waste time dating someone who doesn't feel the same but I think it may be too soon to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_44bng4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with ex[20M] dated 3 months, not seen in a month, hung out last night and slept together", "post": "So I dated this guy from September up until just after the New Year, at which point he said he didn't want to be with anyone currently and wanted to remain as friends.\n\nHe was at a loose end last night and wanted some company, so went to his, had several drinks and listened to music, chatted about life etc. There was playful flirting but both knew it wasn't intended to be anything more, at least until he kissed me. Said it was a mistake and apologised. Went back to music and talking about stuff, being how you'd expect friends to be.\n\nCouple hours later, figured it was time to sleep, so got into bed. He said \"I don't want to hurt you\", and then we kissed and he said he'd missed me. Had sex, fell asleep cuddling etc. Had sex again this morning, more cuddling and kissing and saying we'd missed each other.\n\nThen as I leave, he says the sleeping together won't happen again, but that he did enjoy seeing me. I'm still not over my feelings for him from when we were dating (and he knows how I felt/feel about him).", "summary": "Ended up sleeping with a guy I dated and have strong feelings for, he said he missed me etc but now says it won't happen again. He's not the type to do \"booty calls\", but was this just that?"}
{"id": "t3_w7enb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "best friend dating my co-worker who friend zoned me  and i just need to vent :/(18M)", "post": "hey guys, i've worked with this girl for a year now and shes 4 yrs older than me (22F), when i started working with her i started to like her and begun to hangout with her more, but sadly shes not into me because im Asian so we became just friends, eventually i saw that her personality is not even close to mine and i thought it was for the best anyways, but i still had feeling for her hidden deep inside. So just recently she met my best friend, and seems to be interested in him and they immediately hit it off, tonight they went on their first date and their having sex right now as i write this. I basically played cupid and helped them on their way to dating, because i thought these two people are pretty frustrated on their own and needed each other, and i was right their much happier, and I am happy about that, its just that i still can't help feeling weird emotions when i hear progress in their relationship or gets reminded that they are dating each other, even time it throws off my mood, Im not particularly jealous, because he won her fair and square, plus he posses just the type of personality/looks that she looks for in a man, so i guess i myself just need to cope with these negative emotions, personally i think these emotions i am feeling are pretty stupid because shes not the right type for me and even if i tried i couldn't get her, so its only fair she dates my friend who's more compatible with her, Im going to the lake and stare out to the water and try and reach my inner peace, any word of sympathy/compassions or just a simple i konw that feel bro would be much appreciated thank you :)", "summary": "my coworker whom i still have feeling for is dating my best friend as a result of my cupid doings, i feel happy that their happy but im still hurt inside because they are going out, please offer some word of sympathy :)"}
{"id": "t3_2boawx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 2 years, thinks a hobby of mine is more important than her.", "post": "I have been into competitive Super Smash Brothers Melee for about 8 months now with my friends. We go to tournaments, not very often, probably 3-5 a month. Usually they are all day events. My girlfriend always gets mad or upset at me when I go to these events. \n\nThe most recent one though, she just flat out thinks that I don't care about her anymore for some reason. She begged me to not go to this one, even though I would probably just be at home all day not really doing much, as she had plans for the day. I really don't understand why she thinks that going to these events means my hobby is more important. \n\nI spend a lot of time with her since I really love spending my time with her, she is my best friend. It's not like I ignore her, or don't give her the time of day, or anything of the sort. We try to talk about all of this but we don't ever seem to find an understanding.\n\nSome background on her, she has severe anxiety and depression, and doesn't have the best of families, and is getting help and going to therapy now thankfully.\n\nI, at this point, don't know what to do. This is probably my favorite hobby and am definitely not going to give it up in any way, but I don't want her to keep doing this, I just want her to understand. Please help?", "summary": "Girlfriend gets mad when I go to tournaments/Please help my situation!"}
{"id": "t3_4qny1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/F] little sister [11/f] still shares a bed with my mother and cries whenever they're apart for too long", "post": "Because we're a large family, my sister (Sara) didn't have a room of her own until she was 7. Then once my brother moved out, she moved all of her things into his room but was unable to sleep there ever and used it more as a playroom.\n\nAt 11, she's one year away from entering high school and it's officially weird. She's embarrassed for anyone to know, when friends and my siblings SO's come and stay with us she asks us to pretend she doesnt always sleep with mum etc etc, so she realises it's not normal. But she's unwilling to move. The other night my mum came and slept in my room cos my dad was snoring, the next morning Sara woke up upset to find her gone. \n\nMy mum sometimes goes away on trips as well. On the occasions she did, Sara asked my dad to sleep with her instead. When mum just went away for a day trip, home the same night, Sara told me she missed mum a lot. Just now I heard Sara imploring my mum to quit her job just for a little bit so that she'd see her more on summer holiday. She left the rooms in tears when my mum said no. When me or my siblings get in an argument with mum, Sara often jumps to mum's defense, she once even swore (she never does this) because she was so angry at my sister for shouting at mum.\n\nIt's insane. We've all spoken to our mother about this and she agrees with us that she has to do something but never does. No matter how we tell her. I'm starting to worry as I see that Sara has friends but doesn't seem to see them outside school and seems to spend all her time doing activities with mum when at her age I was always hanging with my friends. And she seems so oversensitive. It's good to be close to your mother but this just seems to be stunting her so much and nothing is getting through to either of them!\n\nIs this totally weird? Has anyone else heard of this level of dependence in an 11 year old? Is it too late to put a stop to this?", "summary": "my little sister can hardly function without my mother, is soon headed into highschool where I fear this will get in the way of her emotional development"}
{"id": "t3_hy4rj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear Redditors, what do you consider a person of good/bad character to be?", "post": "What makes a person have good or bad character? Is it bound by the generalization from societal/cultural belief? Religious beliefs? Environmental aspects of ones life? Is good or bad character born or achieved? Does it crystalize? Or is it always malleable/flexible, bound to change at whim?\n\nThis may sound very philosophical, but knowing what makes someone a person of good/bad character is something I would like to know more on. As it is a question anyone should be able to ask themselves truthfully, and honestly. Do I have good character? If not, what can I do to change myself before it is too late?\n\nI am not in a position where I am worried about my character, as I am still quite young. I was just very interested in the subject, and thought Reddit would like to discuss this subject deeply.", "summary": "What do you personally beleive defines a person having good/bad character?"}
{"id": "t3_13agz1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One time I unintentionally smuggled hash in my luggage from Tanzania to Los Angeles. Hey Reddit how have you accidentally done something crazy/wild/outlandish without knowing it.", "post": "One winter break in college, I was visiting my parents who lived in Tanzania at the time and I bought some hash off some tourist guide who moonlighted as a weed dealer for tourists. I smoked part of the hash and I didn't really like it because to me it was basically smokable sleeping pills and because it made me pass the fuck out, I ended up losing track of the stuff. Two weeks later when I'm unpacking my bags I come across the rest of the hash in one of my socks and I was all like hot damn! I'm an international drug smuggler!!", "summary": "see title."}
{"id": "t3_410m0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] with [35M] when fighting leads to lack of sex", "post": "I'm more looking for male input and point of view here, (although female welcome too!)\n\nA little backstory, I'm 33, boyfriend is 35, we've been together almost a year now and he just moved in with me. I guess in general I'm more sexual than he is, but when we have an argument, he is literally INSTANTLY turned off and has zero interest in sex. I understand when you're pissed at someone it's hard to have those feelings, but maybe I'm just weird; I think sometimes it's fun to have makeup sex, and I don't get as mentally affected by an argument. We've never had actual make up sex, not ever. He gets so mentally affected by fighting that he has no interest and it could last for a few days at a time too, even after the argument.\n\nThis wouldn't be too perplexing to me, except the fact that even when we do have arguments, I know he jerks off, even when he is turned off from having sex. \n\nIs this just normal male protocol? Get pissed at GF, get mentally turned off from sex, go play with yourself? Maybe I'm the weirdo?", "summary": "BF gets completely turned off from sex if we have an argument, still jerks off, basically he can go without actual sex for much longer than I can. Wondering if this is how it is for guys."}
{"id": "t3_rcjzn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, What are your thoughts on the future of filesharing?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI'm writing to you all today because I had a thought cross my mind that I couldn't just let fly by, what are your thoughts on the future of filesharing, be it through protocols that we are still using today such as BitTorrent, NewsGroups, File Sharing sites (middle man sites eg: filedroppr, mediafire), and maybe perhaps newer innovations in the way we share files - or older ones and even more so, ones that haven't quite caught on (eg: pirateboxes, offline filesharing through local area - random USB cruzers that contain numerous files to be shared).  I thought that going to Reddit for this question would be the best way to hear new ideas, possible theories and impossible but desirable theories :). And with sites like ThePirateBay using Drones for their networks, what do you foresee in the future of this?", "summary": "what are your thoughts on the future of filesharing?"}
{"id": "t3_1b6eqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance relationship of 4 months [19m] with [16m] says I'm not dominant enough", "post": "We met online playing video games and we kept talking and one thing just led to the next and we started skyping everyday. He (the 16 year old) was originally the one to say \"I love you\" and started talking seriously about the relationship and meeting up together and living together potentially in the future when he finished high school. Things were going really great I was really happy and finally looking forward to the future, he made a lot of hints of us living together like far off in the future and I thought we had this really great thing going, we talked on cam everyday and played games and watched TV shows and movies together.\n\nThen 2 days ago he tells me that I'm a pushover, I take time to think about it and realize he's kind of right, we never really fought I've always been frightened of him leaving me so I never really disagree with him and I don't really make decisions I always say \"I don't care\" or \"you decide.\" I just don't really know how to express myself, I'm fairly apathetic to most things. Then yesterday he tells me that he thinks our relationship might not last if I continue to be so unpassionate, unmotivated and not the \"dominant guy he'd like.\" He said that anything can happen and he still wants to be with me now but he might not forever even if I did change because \"everything is up to chance.\" I feel like he already broke up with me, I cried a bit and threw up.\n\nBefore this relationship I always thought myself as fairly dominant around my friends but I've always been a quiet introvert in large groups of people but I still have an aggressive side. Also I'm not a stereotypical gay guy either, like if you knew me you wouldn't have any idea that I was, he on the other hand is more effeminate and he has a fairly big ego and a rather large personality. I'm really afraid of losing him I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "I'm a pushover and my boyfriend said he thinks I should be more dominant and I don't know how and am afraid he'll leave me anyways"}
{"id": "t3_3cxxlo", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Moving into a semi management job, need advice", "post": "So I've worked with my company for almost 3 years, I've become a \"go-to guy\" for problems and now I'm currently on path to become a lead within my department. It's only a dollar raise and it's double the responsibility. The money matters to me but what matters most is the experience. I consider this new job a semi manager job because I do everything a normal manager does i. e. Managing over 15 people for 8 hours, giving feedback, developing the associates, presenting meetings with other managers. However I still have to do the work that normal associates do. For my case this is a car dealership so I have to manage my team while still cleaning cars and getting look down on by other departments. So my question is, is it worth it?", "summary": "getting into a manager role but it's only a dollar raise and twice the work while still kind of having to be the companies bitch, is it worth the \"manager\" experience?"}
{"id": "t3_29ifs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] broke up with her [29f] of 1.5 years. That was a month ago. And I'm miserable", "post": "I broke up with her due to ongoing trust issues which culminated in a lie she held up for the duration of our relationship over a past fling. The past is the past, but she kept him as a friend. I was upset she lied to me for so long and reluctantly ended our relationship. We were both devastated. \n\n--\n\nShe has been begging for me back, and I really want to take her back. We haven't spoken in about a week, after about a month of noncommittal contact from her really trying to get us back together. \n\n--\n\nI really am upset about it. I loved her. It wasn't always easy, but there were definitely way more good times than bad. I want to forgive her. I want to try again. The majority of my close friends/family say I should take more time and find someone new. Some friends think I should hook up real soon to help get over her.  \n\n--\n\nThing is I don't want to get over her. I know what we had was mutually loved. I know she is remorseful and sincere in her apology. \n\nI guess I'm curious if anyone has had a similar experience. If anyone has forgiven and succeeded. Forgiven and failed. Forgiven and regretted. My gut tells me to stay and forgive because it can truly be good. But I'm a romantic.... And I'm worried I'm being naive.", "summary": "I broke up with gf over an ongoing lie following trust issues and insecurities felt by both of us. I want to forgive. I'm asking for anyone's experience/story with a similar situation. And anonymous advice"}
{"id": "t3_3y9hhk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] love my boyfriend's [25 M] family more than I love him.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years already and we're in a long distance relationship. He lives on the east coast and I live on the west coast so we try to visit each other at least once a month. My family is in another country so he has only met my family once. I, on the other hand, have met his family multiple times and I absolutely love them. I click so well and they (hopefully) enjoy my company as well. His parents invited me on many family trips and I feel really comfortable with his siblings and extended families.\n\nUnfortunately, our relationship hasn't been really great. We've gotten into more arguments and it's been harder to visit each other because of work. I've been thinking of ending the relationship but it is so difficult because of his family. I'm really not sure what to do in this situation because our relationship isn't terrible, but I'm not sure if I'm just blinded by the fact that losing him means losing his family.", "summary": "Don't know if I'm staying with his because of his family."}
{"id": "t3_1auw2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21] SO and her friend have a habit of going home with guys", "post": "Me[21] and my SO[21] are in a long distance relationship that works out very well. We have been madly in love for around a year now and visit each other as much as physically possible (Very LDR). \nShe has always been the type to have more guy friends than girlfriends and i've never had jealousy over that, as we are both pretty laid back. The problem recently is my SO and her best friend tend to go to shows / bars and then some how end up back at people (normally guys) houses. Before the obvious ''she is cheating on you'' comes around, I can wholeheartedly say I trust her with my life and know she would never cheat on me. Last night she went to a show and the same thing happened, I woke up to a message, ''we went back to some people's house after the show, they were nice though!'' and it annoyed me a lot, and i'm not sure why. \nWhen I was last over visiting she mentioned if her ''new friends'' would be out (she hadn;t remembered there names(2 guys her and her friend dont seem to know to well but go and chill with sometimes (they smoke them out))). Upon saying this, her flatmate asked ''do they know about'' and pointed to me while I wasn't really looking. Too which my SO replied ''I don't know, I don't know when I would have ever really said''. \nThis all sounds very dodgy and maybe it's just my head painting it in that light, but she is a very transparent person and like I said, I whole heatedly trust her.\nMy only confusion is in my country, to go back with some people (girls for my case) I met at a show, that would mean a lot of back and forth chatting while out, and a lot of suggestion towards something sexual. Maybe it is very different in America? I'm really not too sure. \nI'm confused as to whether me hurting and being angry is me misdirecting new insecurities now we are in a serious relationship or if I have a right to be annoyed.", "summary": "SO and friend always wind up back at peoples houses after being out (normally guys), I'm confused as to what I'm feeling "}
{"id": "t3_1pwua4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Ever think it's worth just being friends with your crush?", "post": "This is a situation that has been all at once revealing and depressing.\n\nI met a girl at work (not preferable, but whatever) who wants to hang out a lot. I mean, maybe three-times-a-week a lot. Like I spend most weekends with her, at least two nights. When we're at work, we're G-chatting, and at home, she's texting the fuck outta me.\n\nNow often, it's with her and her friend (whom she plays music with) or just her. I'm really digging this girl; she's stunningly beautiful, a talented musician and seems to appreciate me for who I am. We get along great and have much in common. Suffice it to say, I'm thinking she's absolutely into me, and I'm pumped.\n\nThen, I find out she's dating this girl by them kissing on the lips right in front of me. After that, I started putting it together in my mind, but at that time, I had no clue.\n\nI've never run into this situation before. At the expense of sounding ignorant (I suppose I am in this regard), the girl I'm into is FAR more attractive than her girlfriend. And while I still enjoy hanging out with her (even both of them, in general) it's starting to wear me down.\n\nIn the past, I've been more likely to just write a girl off for rejecting me, but she didn't actually reject me. I want to be a person who can remain friends with people after a crush, I want to have a larger group of friends. But it's torturous to go home after hanging out with her or them with the same feeling: pure jealousy and bitterness.", "summary": "I'm crushing hard on this girl who's in a relationship with another girl, but she wants to hang out a lot. It's eroding me emotionally."}
{"id": "t3_35tqc5", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "My caterer/event planner is buying all my DIY (rave!)", "post": "So my caterer is also an event planner who is expanding his business to do all inclusive weddings (not juts catering and day of coordination but decor/linens etc.). My mom used to be in the wedding industry (owned a shoe and halo design company that designed for Nina) and my dad owns a construction company and is also in the theater world so my wedding has a lot of (let's call them) unique DIY projects. We built a lemonade stand which will be there when guests arrive, a \"general store\" for our favors, we collected 175 vintage mismatched plates, build a giant arch to get married under, took old doors and built an entrance for our outdoor ceremony, created a giant jenga game along with some other not so typical wedding projects. Our caterer saw them all (he is storing them until the wedding for us) and he asked to purchase them after the wedding! He offered us almost triple the money of what they cost  build/collect (he knows this we're not scamming him). He also offered my mom and I a planning gig when we are done with mine so that we can continue to help plan for others (I work full time 2.5 hours away but my mom is super excited to make extra cash continuing in the planning fun). I am so excited!", "summary": "Caterer expanding business, buying the stuff we made, we won't end up breaking even or anything (by like 20,000$) but it will offset some costs!"}
{"id": "t3_2coj8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of over a year, I broke up with her 4 days ago, feeling regret", "post": "I won't try to make this too long. I was with a girl for about 16 months, and I'd say we had a pretty healthy relationship the whole time. I could tell she always gave 100% to the relationship and would have done anything for me. She is sweet, hot, funny, and very outgoing. \n\nAbout 10-12 months in, however, I couldn't help but feel like things just weren't connecting between us like they used to; I didn't feel the way I thought I SHOULD feel with such a great girl. Sometimes things with her would be great, but a lot of the time I would find myself wanting to be alone more than wanting to spend time with her--basically just plain disinterest. These thoughts would come and go until they came to a head last week. I decided it was best we end things. She told me she would have worked it out, but I didn't want to string her along when I was so confused with my feelings. \n\nWe haven't spoken since. I realize it is only 4 days out, but I am terrified that ending such an overall great relationship without working through things was the worst decision of my life. I am conflicted between telling her how I feel now while there's still a chance for her to return, or waiting and possibly missing that chance. I can't tell if this is a case of the normal post-breakup regret, or if I just didn't know what I had until is was gone. \n\nAny input/stories of your experience with post-breakup regret would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Broke up with long term girlfriend because of my little desire to put in effort, worried I will regret it. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_1vnpxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [20 F], her attachment issues.", "post": "To put it bluntly, my good friend of four years has somewhat of an attachment problem with those she's been in a relationship with. \nShe's still missing a guy she dated over a year ago, along with two others she'd dating in-between then and now, and it just sucks seeing her down in the dumps about it instead of flourishing and finding someone better. I wish it was as simple as telling her she needs to move on, but it is not. \n\nSo I guess what I'm really asking here is, how should one deal with overattachment? I don't expect there's a simple fix, but is there any sort of wonderful advice I could send her way? I'd appreciate it.\n\nApologies if this is the wrong place to post this.", "summary": "My friend sucks at getting over romantic partners and I don't know how best to help her with it. Any advice/comments would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_3azowr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not wearing shoes in my room", "post": "So, this really just happened. It's a stormy ass evening and thunder and lighting can be seen and heard out my window. Now I live in a floor room but it was a garage before my room. So in the summer I use a beheamoth AC unit that needs to be emptied periodically or it leaks. Well, I forgot and it leaked last night. And since there is concrete under my carpet it pools in areas, Like under my desk where my PC is. I was sitting there, barefoot.. Then I hear thunder, then i get this intense feeling of pain and my body gets numb ... I just got shocked! So now Im upstairs eating pudding with boots on and contemplating how I almost died", "summary": "AC unit leaked and pooled under desk where I sat barefoot during a lightning storm and got super shocked"}
{"id": "t3_1rrboh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my short term boyfriend [27 M] have been dating 5 months and I want to break it off...", "post": "So, back in August a friend of mine asked me out on the terms that at some point we were going to break up. Mainly because neither of us were looking for a serious relationship and wanted something temporary to at the least have a little company now and then. Lately I have been feeling like the charm of this relationship is wearing off and I would like to part ways as \"lovers\". However, I am unsure as how to broach the subject with out it coming off as shitty.\n------\n  The complicated part is that my ex whom I dated for 5 years brought up the subject of working things out. ( He and I remained very close friends though out the 2 year since our breakup. And yes, the current knows about him and our history...) While I am hesitant to make any plans with my ex, I don't want this to come off as I am specifically leaving my current for my ex.", "summary": "I want to break up with my current bf because I feel like 5 months is long enough in a S.T.R., but don't want him to get mad thinking its b/c of my ex."}
{"id": "t3_29wuha", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting my pants while getting my teeth cleaned", "post": "This happened on Wednesday fellow redditors, you time constraining fucks. \nHad my 6 month cleaning at the dentist today. Right before I left my apartment I realize I had to shit but I was running late, I could not afford to reschedule my appointment again (already rescheduled it twice before). \n\nSo here I am, prairie dogging on the car ride there. I want to shit so bad but I have a fear of shitting in public places (my dumbass). I hold it until they call my name to go get my teeth cleaned. \n\nSo, I'm getting my teeth scraped by the metal pokey tooth of death. I'm clenching my asscheeks trying to withhold my shit of a thousand suns. Suddenly I get this big burning pain sensation in my stomach, I realized I had a bowl of cereal before I left, I'm lactose intolerant. Fuck me in my poopy ass.\n\nI had this big urging need to shit all of the sudden, and let out this massive fart/shit that smelled like rotten milk and eggs. I immediately clench and lift my head upwards in agonizing embarrassment. Bad choice.\n\nThe pointy park of the metal tool of death was still in my mouth, when I shot up clenching my shitty ass, it penetrated my gums in the back of my mouth and hung there like a fucking fish hook. I was a fucking fish.\n\nI pulled it out and my dental assistant lady ran out of the room looking for a first aid kit.\n\nThere I was in my glory, bleeding mouth with shit pants running to the bathroom. I lock the door and shit my ever loving brains out. The sweet sweet relief.\n\nI came out of the bathroom looking like a fucking cannibal shitter who smelled like farts and ass.\n\nI left without finishing my cleaning. Needless to say I will be getting mg a new dentist.", "summary": "Went for routine cleaning needing to shit, shit pants during cleaning ended up hooking my mouth with the pointy tool of death."}
{"id": "t3_1s584t", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Tips needed for an abused and unsocialized dog.", "post": "Forewarning guys, wall of text::\n\nSo about 1.5 years ago my boyfriends parents adopted a 1 year old female sheltie. The guy they adopted her from told them he had rescued her and a dozen other shelties from some kind of puppy mill situation. When they brought her home, it quickly became apparent that Augie had been abused and unsocialized. She exhibits very typical symptoms of un socialization and abuse: shying away from hands, fear of men, approach avoidance behavior, fear of doors, and we recently discovered a panic trigger- beer. \n\nSo for the past year the boyfriends parents tried hard to follow all the steps and help her along to recovery, they even hired a dog psychologist! But she has made very little progress. Since they first brought her home, Augie has completely bonded to me. She follows me around, stays close, only follows my commands and becomes depressed when I leave. The only time she shows progress is when she is with me, the parents have offered her to me and I plan to accept and adopt her within the next six months...\n\nFor the last 6 months I have been caring for Augie at my own house for about 1-2 weeks at a time. I have a 2 year old Gordon Setter, she's very playful and is the boss of the house. Augie has made a great amount of progress during the times she stays with me, but when I take her back home she completely reverts back into her shell. \n\nDoes anyone here have any experience with abused dogs and can give me some insight? How can I possibly help her feel comfortable when I take her back home? What are some things I can do to encourage socialization? She pretty much tries her best to ignore my dog who tries her hardest to get her to play, so how might I try to encourage play with toys and other dogs? Most importantly what can I do to help her overcome her triggers and big fears?", "summary": "Abused dog bonded to me and not her owners, what can I do to help her out?"}
{"id": "t3_dst19", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I've always wanted to be brave, make a big change, and for me right now that's moving to Chicago. I need a job, can anyone help me with some leads?", "post": "I have a unique opportunity to move to Chicago with one of my best friends. He is a very talented musician who knows the city and he is going to be shopping around his new album which he recently finished. (It's really good by the way, I'll see if I can get him to post it.)\n\nEssentially, my big hang up is the fact that I have been unable to find a job in Chicago and I frankly haven't heard many encouraging things about the job market there. \n\nI currently have a job as a Content Manager, I write website content, blog posts, newsletters, press releases, head up technical support and play secretary, at a small company where I make an acceptable salary and have benefits. I live at home so I've been able to save up a little over $10k in my savings account. I have a degree from private university with a double major in communications and English. \n\nI simply want a chance to follow my dream of getting out of my home town and finding a new life with my friend in Chicago. I'm tired of feeling like I've played it safe my whole life at 24. I want to take control over myself and my destiny and be the person that I feel like I am. I'm currently working on a manuscript for my first novel and I simply love reading and writing. I'd be stoked to do anything where I can leverage my writing in order to be successful while I work on my more artistic project on my own. \n\nIf you have any information on positions, they don't even have to be perfectly suited to what I want, I'd truly appreciate it if you got in touch with me.", "summary": "I'm ready to move to Chicago and take control over my life but I haven't be able to find a job. I want to move with my friend so the move is time sensitive. Can you help me find a position to get me started?"}
{"id": "t3_32cnu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Still pathetic late 20s-F? Check.", "post": "It has officially been half the length of the relationship, post-break-up, the amount of time I was led to believe it would take to get over my mid 30s-M ex.\n\nIn that time, I've cut all contact. I've completely cut ties with all mutual friends. I have not seen, heard from, heard about, or bumped into any of them. I have new friends.\n\nI've moved. I've started a new career. I've developed two new hobbies. I've volunteered.\n\nI've focused on me. I've lost over 50 pounds. I got therapy. I'm on medication. I cried alone in my new home into copious amounts of junk food. I got drunk and partied. I've dated. I've slept around.\n\nI don't feel any better. I still think about the situation several times a day. Is there something I forgot to do?", "summary": "Did everything people say to do. Waited requisite amount of time. Don't feel \"over it\". Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_1lctc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confusion during hiatus between my ex [21F] and I [20M]", "post": "My ex and I decided to break up two months ago while traveling. We did this because we both had personal issues that were getting in the way between us. She went back home and I stayed in another country volunteering. \n\nThree weeks ago we started talking over the phone about the breakup, and the possibility of getting back together. While talking she compliments how good I look in photos and admiral features if my personality when talking about my day to day life (good work ethic, organization, empathy, etc). \n\nA week and a half ago she blatantly expressed her attraction to me, saying she wants to get back together, but isnt sure it would work. The feeling was mutual. I told her to call me when she feels like it, which she appreciated, saying \"I like it when you do that.\" (Giving her agency in communication)\n\nI haven't heard back from her since then, a week and a half ago. I find it confusing she seemed so attracted to me, but doesn't call me for this long. Am I just impatient? Or is this a sign she has mixed feelings? Before this we were speaking about twice a week.", "summary": "Ex expresses desire to get back together, but hasn't called me in a week and a half."}
{"id": "t3_12pzu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today was one of the best days of my life.  What was the best day of your life that you can remember? (Weddings and kids don't count)", "post": "I woke up today feeling refreshed even though I didn't get much sleep.  It's the first time that has happened in over a year because I have depression and have been working on fixing it.  Today was the first time I really felt like something was changing.  \n\nI went in to work and just got a ton of stuff done and was constantly busy which may sound bad, but usually I don't have much to do at work so it was a nice change of pace.  \n\nI went home and got to chill out for a bit and then picked up a friend and went to go pick up two turntables from two different people off craigslist.  My turntable broke a few months back and I hadn't been able to replace it until today.  Coincidentally, the two people lived 5 minutes from each other which made my life easier.  \n\nThe first guy I met was awesome and told us his wife was pregnant and they found out today that they are going to have twins.  He was so excited about it that it made me happy.  The turntable also ended up being way nicer then I had previously expected.  \n\nThen I go to the second house and found out we had a mutual friend.  My friend, the seller, her three friends, and I ended up talking for an hour and became friends.  Next stop was a bar to see a friend who is going out of town for two weeks.  \n\nFinally I come home to discover that my preamp is broken and I can't use my turntable.  Using my knowledge of those sorts of things, I was able to rig it to a stereo and instead of two speakers, I can now use four and a subwoofer making everything sound amazing.  It felt so nice to figure it out myself.  \n\nThe next two hours were spent listening to a few new records I had bought and couldn't listen to before while I filled out my sample ballot for my first ever presidential election.", "summary": "Everything worked out today"}
{"id": "t3_1qp7kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18] with my crush [16F] Should I delete her from Facebook?", "post": "So I've had a crush on an exchange student in my school for the past 6 months. We never really talked that much but we had short conversations sometimes. Saying hi and such. I had a feeling she liked me becouse she kept liking my facebook pictures and statuses and when I saw her looking at me she quickly looked down. I just had this feeling. But for the past weeks she did not speak at all to me or look at me. So I said fuck it. If she doesnt show interest I wont either. So we began ignoring each other I guess. Suddenly yesterday she liked my picture again and today I found out she is going back to her country. She said goodbye to everyone in class except me while in the corridor... I'm so confused if she liked me or not ... so I'm asking. Should I delete her facebook since I won't ever see her again anyways? Or should I type to her or something ? I don't know ...", "summary": "My exchange student crush went back home , she didn't say goodbye. Should I delete her facebook in order to forget her?"}
{"id": "t3_390h29", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being really forgetful", "post": "This happened this morning. So.. It's definitely a TIFU.\n\nI just started this job last week. I'm still new but today, my first big FU happened. Our company has an online portal for making payments and every morning, I have to log into the portal to download the payments made for the past day. \n\nHere comes the FU. As of last Friday, the password for the login expired and I changed it this morning when I first logged in. As with most websites that requires you to the change the password, they log me out and required me to log back in using the new password. BUT I FORGOT THE PASSWORD! I literally typed in the new password 5 seconds before they logged me out. \n\nOf course, I tried to resolve it by calling up the vendor and ask for the password but the damage was done. I was 5 hours late in submitting the report to the relevant department and now they are working overtime because of my failing memory. \n\nI could have sworn that it was the password I changed to! I aced memory tests! I am really good at remembering things. \n\nAnyway, they didn't blame me because my colleague covered it up for me and blamed the vendor instead. \n\nMy FU really caused a lot of trouble.", "summary": "Password expired, I changed it. 5 seconds later, my brain decided that the password wasn't important. It resulted in my co-workers in another department to work overtime."}
{"id": "t3_1xnsq9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "8 months after graduation, no job experience.", "post": "So this is a bit of a shame story. I graduated from a university back in may 2013 - in one of post socialist EU countries. And decided to try my luck in one of the western EU countries, since I had already studied there and was able to learn the language (fairly well). \nHowever the job search didnt pan out as I have planned. Mainly because my Dutch is still not perfect and apart from some administrative position, I barely have any other work experience. \nI worked in a restaurant during the 2013 summer but didnt have any luck since then. So I am now returning back to my home country, but do not know how to present myself at the potential job interviews.\n8 months after the graduation without any relevant experience. Do you guys have any thoughts, opinions? *Thank you*.\n\nI studiet economics/finance and management. As far the \"shame story\" goes, with the time passing and some failed interviews, so did my enthusiasm and eventually I stopped sending out CVs - just look at the job posting and \"think\" that I just cant be the right candidate.", "summary": "8 months after graduation and no relevant job experience. Lost case?"}
{"id": "t3_2hlqqf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16/F] feel alone.", "post": "A bit of a back story is that people don't like me. Not sure why. I think I just have that kind of attitude that people don't like. I'm very sarcastic and witty and I like rock music and I even had a buzzcut at some point. It could be a mix of all three or even more.\n\nI used to go to public school but now I don't anymore. I haven't graduated my last grade yet due to the fact I'm just depressed. I have a best friend but we only talk once a week at most. It's my fault because I'm just too sad to talk to her. She sometimes leaves me messages and asks where I've been and I do get around to them but I guess I'm addicted to sleeping.\n\nI also feel like I'm ready for my first relationship (somewhat) even though I also feel as if I'm not. It's like the fact that no guy in real life has ever reached out to me. Feeling like it's appearance wise too. I don't think I'm *that* ugly but... I'm not a natural beauty and makeup doesn't fit me. There's no way I can hang out with people or meet people. Where would people my age meet others? It's frustrating to me. I've been sitting in this house for almost a year now and losing hope.\n\nIt sucks having no friends and feeling not worthy of anyone's love. Can someone even help me feel better?", "summary": "Self confidence issues, makeup doesn't fit me. No friends, never had a boyfriend. Online school, no job. Help."}
{"id": "t3_gubz7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I badly hurt my friend and now I don't know what to do.", "post": "I betrayed my very close friend's trust.\n\nShe told me a lot of private things, and I told some of them to somebody else who I shouldn't have. Which interfered with her plans towards that person, who is my good friend. I patched things up with them the best way I could (made things the way she wanted), but I don't think it's enough. And given her issues with trust, to make the matter worse, I was always the one telling her she can (and should) trust me.\n\nWe've known each other for almost a year, she's the closest person I know and now I'm afraid I ruined everything and that I might lose her. Even though she says she's not mad at me and that she understands that I didn't mean to hurt her, every conversation we had since then (yesterday) has been tenseful and detached. I value her and her opinion of me very much and it's painful to think that it may never be the same again.\n\nI am perfectly aware that it's completely my fault, but is there anything I can do to fix this?", "summary": "Told my closest person's personal shit to somebody else and now I want to know if I can earn their trust back."}
{"id": "t3_52k6rv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24m] am worried about my mom [50F] upcoming 50th birthday and not having any celebration", "post": "My mom is turning 50, but she has no money to put together a celebration and neither do I. \n\nCause of severe migraines(?) she is out of work indefinetly and have been for many years, this causes her to spend alot of time solo and not seeing her friends that much.\n\nShe is really sad that her cousin is havng a big 50th celebration because she can afford it, and my mom cannot.\n\nI really feel I should do something, but there is no way I can afford anything either, I've been thinking about taking her out for dinner, but that would remove the big celebration wich is standard here in Norway (I think), I've also been thinking about doing something with her friends I can find on facebook, but then the money issue arises and I cant ask them to pay for my moms birthday (mom would also be mad) \n\nAny tips and/or tricks, guys?", "summary": "mom turning 50th, but she cant afford to celebrate, making her sad, making me sad, making me want to do something"}
{"id": "t3_1pxnf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M], acted emotionally superior to her [Ex22F]. How can I change this way of thinking/acting for the future?", "post": "After talking in-length with my now ex, I realized how I acted morally and emotionally superior. We both contributed to the ending of our relationship, but I feel that it was a core part of the negative effect I brought. \n\nThrough circumstances of her past, and possibly her age, I came to believe that I knew what was right. ALL THE TIME. I had the hardest time just taking a deep breath and trusting her emotions and how she felt. What she wanted. Years ago, I had been through a slight rough patch in my past(Depression, divorce, anti-depressants, substance abuse, and minor legal trouble) and I came out pretty solid in the end. Because of that, I always think that I am the best at dealing with things emotionally, but I know that that's not true. Everyone does it differently. However, when it came to her, I acted and frequently felt the opposite. \n\nI believe that she could use some help from a psychiatrist or medication. I know she feels the same way, and so does her doctor. However, I kept pushing her to do it. I just wanted to encourage her, but it inevitably became something I badgered her about and used in my head to further the idea that I knew what was best.\n\nHow can I work on this negative way of thinking? So it doesn't affect things in the future. With her or someone else?", "summary": "Mr. Know-it-all needs a lesson."}
{"id": "t3_3fpgao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you overcome self consciousness after a breakup or constant failure with relationships? [25m]", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nI recently fell deeply for a girl who I really thought was the right one for me. Everything was fine and dandy but our relationship eventually took a turn once we realized that there were incompatibility issues. Only a short time period after she eventually found someone new and that struck an ugly chord towards my self confidence.\n\nWhile I've accepted that we were incompatible, I can't help but amplify my self awareness of my own flaws. Was I too serious about our relationship? Was I too demanding relative to her own limitations? Was I too insecure, therefore not self confident enough which ultimately makes me unattractive? Was I too cheesy? \n\nAnd my friends will encourage me saying \"she just wasn't right for you\" or \"you deserve better.\" But in my heart I feel that I don't deserve better and that there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I start thinking if only I had done this or that better, everything would've worked out - but now she's with another person who can provide that for her. Who is in other words, relative to the context, \"better than me\". \n\nIt's discouraging because I've never officially had a girlfriend before. I've only fallen for a select few girls in the past which never went beyond casual dating. I've never had a significant other really go out of there way for me. And the more I see other guys swooping up girls that once meant a lot to me, the more I beat myself up.\n\nBut I know and keep telling myself that I need to love myself or at least be confident with who I am and what I want to overcome this. Yet, why am I still recognizing these flaws when I should try not to? \n\nSorry, I guess I'm not really asking for a specific question - but would love any insights or even sympathy right now. Cheers.", "summary": "I feel extremely self conscious about my own flaws and abilities after I find out an ex is dating someone else. Been happening for years across multiple girls - trying to find the right mindset to be at ease with myself."}
{"id": "t3_j773l", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My kitten keeps biting her spay stitches...help?", "post": "My boyfriend and I brought my kitten home from her spay operation around an hour and a half ago. Since then it's been a struggle to keep her from biting the stitches. A relative recommended using Bitter Apple spray and so we got the closest thing Petco had to that, \"Bitter YUCK\"....which she doesn't seem to mind and keeps on truckin' with biting the stitches.\n\nI read elsewhere that cats get incredibly stressed out over E-collars (plus they don't make them her size). My boyfriend seems to think the vet left the stitches a little long and is in favor of trimming them down so she can't really bite them. I'm totally opposed to doing that...I just don't believe that would work.\n\nI really don't what else to try. What all did you do /r/cats?", "summary": "my cat keeps biting stitches and she likes the \"don't bite shit\" spray so I'm clueless."}
{"id": "t3_n2vr9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My employer is not paying me. What do?", "post": "Here's some background. I don't work at a small mom-and-pop, so I know they're not blatantly trying to withhold my money. I know the sentiment for big corporations here on Reddit isn't exactly a positive one, but they usually do act responsible when it comes down to these kind of things. Their sheer size makes them incapable of getting away with not paying their employees. They're not interested in the bullshit that comes with it, whereas the corner pizza shop may fuck you. So here's the deal:\nI was hired at this place a month ago. They said that I wouldn't be paid until the end of the next bi-weekly pay cycle, which started the following week. Thus, three weeks until payment. Garbage, but whatever, I have a job.\nThree weeks rolls around, and the paper check they promised me in the first pay cycle hasn't arrived. Later that week, they give me a pay card that would have my pay on it on Monday. Monday, no moolah. Today, not a thing.\nI'm hesitant to make threats about quitting because this is my only source of income, but I really don't want to work for free, and would rather spend that time looking for another job that I'm confident would pay me well.\nMy boss *says* he called the call center. Today I called payroll directly, who in turn told me to call Chase (The bank who is responsible for the paycard), who then told me to call payroll again. Payroll will not return my call now.\n\nSo, reddit, are any of you managers or dealt with this same experience before and have any kind of advice? Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Big corporation hasn't paid me after a month, getting the run-around"}
{"id": "t3_31zflz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mocking a disabled person", "post": "I was waiting for my bus at the main train station, so there were lots of people. Because I love music, I always find myself with my headphones on listening to music. I was listening to this: \n\nAnyway, I was standing there, tiptoeing, completely submerged in the song. Then, a 20-year old woman came who had real difficulties walking, her feet and knees were twisted inwards really badly. She looked at me. I looked at her and - for some reason - kept staring at her eyes for a good 10 seconds. \n\nKeep in mind 150% of my brain was dedicated to the music, so when suddenly the breakdown came I repeatedly stomped my feet while making a smug face and while still staring at her. \n\nShe started crying and ran away. Everyone looked at me with disgust. I couldn't take the embarrassment so I hopped in the next Taxi and now I'm writing this from the back seat.", "summary": "I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_2wqjex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am feeling ignored by my bf [28] of 4 years, after we moved in with my mother.", "post": "We moved in about a month ago because we have a baby due in July and wanted to save money/have the baby surrounded by family. (My mother, her bf, two younger sisters and a brother live there together)\n\nMy bf hasn't had family he enjoyed being around in a long time, and has always wanted a big family, so he was super stoked to move here. \n\nHe gets along great with my family, thoroughly enjoys their company. But.... \n\nI feel like myself and the baby have been put on the back burner. He isn't talking about the baby as much, we don't spend any time together- just the two of us, unless it's ridiculously late and we are going to bed. \n\nAlmost all of my attempts at intimacy have been shot down, because he just hasn't been in the mood, which would be fine if I didn't feel like he doesn't want to go off with me because he's worried he will miss out on fun family time. \n\nI already told him I've felt a little neglected, like he was too busy to hang out with me. He said \"I haven't been ignoring you, we just haven't wanted to do the same things.\" Which I guess is true. \n\nI know I've pulled back some from group activities (mostly because I'm STILL in retrograde with Mercury) because I've been feeling fairly negative lately. (If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all,etc) \n\nI assume that once the \"new\" wears off he will want to spend more time alone with me. I don't really know if I can approach him again about this, because he isn't really doing anything \"wrong\". \n\nHe isn't doing anything *wrong*, right? Am I being too sensitive? Should I just suck it up and wait it out?", "summary": "Bf would rather spend all his spare time with my family and shows close to no interest in spending alone time with me, hasn't seemed interested in our baby, due in July."}
{"id": "t3_48wnmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Girl [23] who's a long time friend who I've been going on dates with lately sent me this tonight, not sure what to think", "post": "This girl and I have been friends for a few years, and there has been some tension, but nothing has really happened. A kiss once, and another close situation, but that's a while. Lately we've been spending a lot of time together, basically going on dates. After getting some drinks tonight, she sent me this, and I'm not sure how to interpret it. Tbh it's not looking so hot for your boy\n\n\"girlsmesswithmyhead you're the greatest! Thanks for being so awesome. You're definitely one of the best friends I have. It's hard to find quality friends like you.\"\n\nWe have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company, but I'm not sure if she's attracted to me. This text makes me feel like she views me as a good friend, but not someone who she's interested in for a relationship", "summary": "am i in the friendzone"}
{"id": "t3_lhl7q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I met an awesome girl the other day but managed to come off as a complete asshole unintentionally. I'm texting her but she clearly does not want to see me again. What can I do?", "post": "I met her through a friend in a drinking setting. I thought she was very cute and almost too perfect for my style. I immediately liked her personality and talked and what not. BUT, that night I was extremely tired and the alcohol was hitting me harder than normal and wasn't myself. And apparently I made her mad and disrespected her with things that I said, (which were jokes in my view) and left mad. \n\nBut I had gotten her messenger ID (not phone number) and said I think I came off as an asshole the next day (Since even my friend bitched to me about it). She said it's okay, etc but clearly, not happy.\n\nAlso just by how she's replying back I can tell she doesn't really want to talk to me... (Like you know when the other party wants to stop talking)\n\nThis makes me sad in TWO factors because, one, I am generally a nice guy and most definitely NOT an asshole. Two, I like her and I definitely saw potential in getting further. But I blew it like an idiot. \n\nAnd I even found her on facebook like a normal redditor can and I'm not sure if I should friend her. (I didn't, and probably won't until I meet her again)\n\nDo I need to stop talking to her via online messenger? (because she clearly isn't happy) or should I just keep going? (as in getting her to finally meet me) What do you girls think? Did I screw it up from the beginning and it's a no go?\n\nI am willing to pursue because I feel like she's worth it.", "summary": "I fucked up my first impression real bad and trying to get her to meet me again but she doesn't want to. Do I keep trying?"}
{"id": "t3_1fjhiz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (F/24) dealing with low esteem and anxiety, scared it will destroy relationship with bf (M/21). Help!", "post": "I (F/24) am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 5 months (M/21) and while it's been a happy and fun relationship, lately my ongoing anxiety and low esteem have been causing lots of unwanted issues. \n\nThe problems are:\n\n1) My anxiety. I suffer from moderate anxiety and obsessive thoughts and receive CBT for those. I cope well in everyday life but still have these anxiety attacks that make me cry and obsessively worry about my boyfriend hurting me (e.g. leaving me for someone else). I constantly worry about him falling for someone else and feel on the edge.\n\n2) My low self-esteem. I get jealous, compare myself to others and think I'm not good enough. I've been bullied several times and experienced betrayal by friends, and I have hard time trusting I'm worth anyone. I keep thinking why my bf is with me when he could choose anyone. It bothers me that I feel less attractive and wanted than him, even though in a level of attractiveness we're about the same. I just feel lot less attractive and less of a good person.\n\n3) My boyfriend's and mine libidos do not match. Since the relationship has developed, he wants less and less sex and I still have a active libido and for me 1-2 times a week is not enough. I enjoy sex and I think it's such a important thing between a couple. I initiate sex often and get turned down by him which has made my self-esteem (see point 2) take a turn to the worse it's been in a while.\n\nthis is a mess I really really want to solve. I want to make this work and stay with him, and be happy. But lately it's been so hard and it has hurt me so much, that I'm not sure whether the fault is in me and my problems or in the relationship itself.\n\nDear Redditors, please give me some advice. I need it badly. I want to make this better. Thanks.", "summary": "Things with bf of 5 months have gone for the worse because of my low esteem and anxiety, which have caused problems in the relationship. Our sex life is suffering too as I want more than he wants. My self esteem is in ruins and I want to fix this badly."}
{"id": "t3_smad2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i don't want this life anymore. what do?", "post": "I am a quite-more-than-average individual at one of the top 10 colleges in the country. I have panic disorder and agoraphobia. No friends, a girlfriend who is out of the country from jan-jun. And i'm just sick of everything. I feel like i am really really struggling with school and in that weird situation where my life isn't that horrible, like i do attend a prestigious school and have a family and stuff. but i hate my family. and i hate all the people at my school. i have no money, my family had our house taken away by the bank in january. i have literally had this one pair of pants on for just under a week because i have one pair. i have 3 shirts. and less than $15 in my bank account. I didn't get a summer job and i don't know what i am going to do once i graduate from school. I'm so miserable and so lonely. so fucking lonely. and i just don't want to do this anymore and i don't know what to do about it. people try to cheer me up, and i have been put on anti-depression meds, but it changes my attitude sometimes, but does nothing about this horrible living situation i am in. i hate my weight and eating habits but again I'm a poor college student. i can afford pizza and fast food and thats basically it. i can't exercise because I'm terrified of gyms (too public) and i just have no willpower. i get so angry when people try to help me because it always feels like they aren't good enough and i can just have excuses for everything. people knock on my door to hang out sometimes but i just keep my door locked and my lights off and pretend I'm not in here. i really really don't know what to do and i just don't know why I'm still doing all this bullshit. waking up each morning is awful, i hate being in class, hate the bullshitty little interactions i have with people. I'm just miserable and i REALLY don't know what to do about it. i don't know where to go form here but i want to stop being here. i just want a better life and i don't see it happening at all anytime soon.", "summary": "i feel like nothing in life is going well at all and i just want to leave forever."}
{"id": "t3_lyi9s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need help/advice. [long] [first here]", "post": "So I guess according to the American Health Association, I'm obese. I thought this was kinda bullshit, as I was in denial about being obese. Chubby, yes, but obese? I couldn't grasp that I was being described with the \"o-word\", but recently it has started to settle in. The first time I realized that I had a semi-serious weight problem was my senior year of high school when I could no longer fit into my dress I had bought for my Military Ball (I was in AFJROTC) and my uniforms were getting very uncomfortable. Since then I've gained the freshman 20 twofold, with a max at 235. :(\n\nNow I have chronic depression, making it hard to get out of bed or do anything. I would miss a lot of school and work because of it. I had went to the doctor and they finally diagnosed me for real (I was just \"attention-whoring\" before) and they gave me some anti-depressants and some Adipex for weight loss. I did really well on them, lost ~30 lbs, felt good, went to Zumba 2 times a week, but then I got adverse effects from my anti-depressants. Figuring I didn't need them anymore, I stopped taking them. That was about 2-3 years ago. Since then I have lost my health insurance and can no longer get them now that I need them again. \n\nI really like ROTC, but I got kicked out for my weight and my inability to get out of bed for PT due to depression and have since gained most of it back. I'd say I'm probably about 220 now. :( I also lost my job, which I had gym access and went on a regular basis, thus depressing me even more and making me lose my gym access. Now I'm going to have to get a min wage job and live on welfare while still going to college. I had tried so hard to get healthy and avoid eating preprocessed shit and junk food, but now I'm forced to eat raman, rice, and discounted freezer dinners, and I'm too poor/insecure to go to a gym. Wat do? Oh I do have a treadmill in my apartment, but I can't bring myself to use it.", "summary": "Need motivation to get out of bed and tips for eating semi-decent on an extreme budget."}
{"id": "t3_259ciw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dad says my boyfriend [26M] and I [25F] can't get married until I finish my residency.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend \"Jake\" for four years, but we've known each other for literally our entire lives. Our families are so close that we had to assure multiple people that we weren't actually related. I'm currently in med school, and my dad told Jake that he didn't want us to get married until I was finished with both med school and my residency. Which will probably be another 5-6 years. \n\nHonestly, I think we're ready to get married and Jake has said multiple times that he would marry me tomorrow, but he doesn't feel at all comfortable with going against my dad. I talked to my dad and tried to talk him into supporting us getting married after I finish med school, but he's dead set against it. Jake's talked to my dad about it as well, but it hasn't made any difference. \n\nMy dad actually likes Jake quite a lot, but he doesn't want me to be distracted. Which is valid but I want to get married to my boyfriend and I feel like it's our choice, not my dad's. \n\nThere's no way my relationship with my dad would be irrevocably severed if we did this despite my dad's wishes. He would be pissed, but he would attend the wedding and life would move on. But Jake absolutely refuses to marry me before I finish my residency unless my dad gives it the okay. \n\nIt's really irksome that my dad would feel like he can make this kind of pronouncement for me, when I'm a grown woman. And it's irksome too that Jake would be too freaked out by my dad to go against it. \n\nMy mom is taking a neutral stance, so she's not helpful. My dad's not super controlling, I'm just the eldest and he's still figuring things out. And I'm not going to lie, between my sister and me, he's dealt with more than his fair share of shady boyfriends so kind of I understand why he's secretly wishing he could just send me off to a convent.", "summary": "My dad has banned us from getting married before I finish my residency, my boyfriend refuses to go against him."}
{"id": "t3_1q6d2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31F] with [26M] of 1.5 years - Starting the day with different needs.", "post": "She wakes up at 0530-0600 to get ready for work. Her needs are to communicate with her boyfriend about the day. What they're going to do for dinner, what their schedules at work like etc. Communicating with him first thing in the morning makes her feel loved.\n\nHe wakes up at 0800 and works from home. His needs are to get uninterrupted sleep. He needs more sleep than she does and is very irritable if he doesn't get enough sleep. He feels disrespected when he is woken up before his alarm goes off.\n\nNeed help managing morning expectations. From personal experience, is it more to ask for someone to simply communicate with his/her partner in the morning or is it more to ask for someone to leave the sleeping partner alone?", "summary": "She wants to chat in the morning. He wants to sleep in the morning. How do we settle?"}
{"id": "t3_14z4v5", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I need advice on a violent cat situation.", "post": "I just moved in with my boyfriend. I have two cats and he has one. His cat has been incredibly violent towards both people and other cats his entire life (he's about 6 or 7). Even after five months I can't even pet the cat, let's call him J, let alone pick him up. A couple weeks ago J attacked my 11-year-old, 7 lb female cat. She was fine, but had a decent chunk taken out of her ear. He follows her around and corners her constantly. This morning I found her with a 2\" gash on the inside of her front leg, so deep you could see the insides of her leg. This cause many stitches and an expensive vet bill.\n\nMy boyfriend does love this cat, and the cat does love him, but he understands that we can't keep J in this situation. We don't want to put him down, but I know that no one would take in this violent of a cat. If we gave it to the humane society they would quickly put him down because I know he would attack a person or another animal if he were in a situation where he had to interact with them. Her wound was caused by his teeth. Before I thought the issue might be fixed with declawing, but now that won't work.\n\nMy question is, what should we do? Has anyone had an incredibly successful experience with products like Feliway? Has anyone went through a similar situation? Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "My boyfriend's cat is incredibly violent and is attacking my older, sweet, female cat. Advice would be great. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_2gg8cc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20female) breaking up with (22male) because of univeristy", "post": "Known my boyfriend 11 years but only been together for 5 months. I'm going back to university which is near home next week but he is going into his first year which is 4 and a half hours away\n\nAt the beginning of this month he suggested going on a break when he leaves because the distance will be hard at our age and he wants a chance of us getting back in the future. Therefore if we break on good terms we will have a chance except for breaking up if one of us cheated.\n\nHowever I love him very much and knowing we will be broken up next week hurts me a lot\n\nSo I've decided to break up with him tomorrow to save heartache for next week, I still want to be friends but I want to get on with my life and I feel as if I want to make things work and he doesn't. And I don't want to be taken advantage of", "summary": "am I making the right choice here?"}
{"id": "t3_vfecq", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I havent read a book in ages, I need a recommendation.", "post": "I have never been a big reader, but now it is summer and I have a lot of time on my hands and I really want to get back into it. Here is some background. The only books Ive ever read for pleasure were Harry Potter and some other kids/young adult books when I was young. Most recently I read the Hunger Games just so I could get back into a reading habit.\n\nWhat Im looking for is something to move past the young adult level, I want something with a little more depth to it, something I can sink my teeth into, that will make me think but also not bore me to death (I am easily distracted). In high school my favorite classics taught in class were *A Farewell to Arms*, *A Tale of Two Cities*, and *To Kill a Mockingbird*.\n\nIm not necessarily looking for more classics, although if there is one you recommend please share. I've heard much about The Dark Tower series, thats currently what Im considering the most right now, any opinions? Basically the main criteria is that I want something INTERESTING and not too difficult.", "summary": "please recommend a book that is interesting and not too difficult, but has depth to it and moves beyond the young adult genre."}
{"id": "t3_53nr4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to live with a slob?", "post": "I have been living with my SO for about a year and a half and we recently moved from a small apartment to a two-storey house. The house/yard requires a thousand times more work from both of us and yet my SO is extremely apathetic towards cleaning. This is hard on both of us as he is working full time and I study full-time as well as having a part-time job, so it's really important that we both pull our own weight in keeping on top of the responsibilities. \n\nHow can I encourage him to not only put his own dishes away but also do shared tasks like cleaning bathrooms, emptying litter box, vacuuming, changing bins etc? If I ask him to help out, he calls me a nag and I don't want to be that person; and sometimes he will refuse point blank to do it because he doesn't feel like it. I want to give him some incentive to help without making him feel bad/him making me feel bad. \n\n(We are both 22 and have been together for two years).", "summary": "How to encourage SO to help out with chores without being a nag."}
{"id": "t3_4vy25x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] am clueless on how to make true friends", "post": "I know this probably has a straightforward kind of answer for some people judging by the title, but let me elaborate.  \n\nI'm 16, skinny, tall, have some pretty unconventional interests, and I'm super shy. I find nothing really special about myself, I don't think I'm good looking at all, and I hate my shy and at times two sided personality. I have fits of anger at the slightest things, and I have a hard time controlling it. Oh, and I recently got out of a breakup, but that's later on.  \n\nI've made \"friends\" throughout school (people I talk to only when school is in) but I've only really made true connections with one person, who is now my ex. We dated for about a year and a half. We broke up in May (right before school let out) and she got together with one of my friends. I've got absolutely nothing to do all summer. I don't have any real friends I talk to regularly to help me get over it, or to take me out and do fun stuff this summer. Sort of needless to say, I'm just a depressed wreck right now with nobody to offer their concern.  \n\nI'm moving schools, and the school year is coming up and I'm hoping I can make some real friends, but I just feel like I'm too shy and quiet for anyone to genuinely want to talk to me or be interested in me at all. I know \"just be yourself\" is a common answer but I just have no confidence in myself at all, which I guess is a bit counterproductive as well.  \n\nI'm really just looking for some hope here, I don't have any online friends or anything to talk to and I just feel really down about everything.", "summary": "just got out of a shitty breakup, have no friends to talk to about it, afraid im too \"me\" to make new ones"}
{"id": "t3_37dh1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [32/M] address potential new relationship with live-in ex gf [31/F]?", "post": "I will try to keep these details simple, but I am looking for advice on how to deal with the possibility of new relationships while I still live with my ex gf. My gf and I dated for five years and lived together for four. The last year of the relationship was mostly dead, and we finally broke up a month ago.  My ex-gf and have talked about moving out and decided on a date in about a month and a half. \n\nSince then I started talking to someone and just this last weekend I spent the night at her place. I have no idea where that relationship is going, and frankly I have doubts, but I don't know how to deal with the end of one relationship and the possibility of a new one. To what degree do I owe my ex-gf honesty about where I have been or what I am doing?", "summary": "I feel like I don't need to tell her what I am up to, but I feel guilty about lying to her. Anyone have a similar experience or any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2n7wje", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to get a members of a group project to work", "post": "I've been having trouble lately with a student in a few of my classes. I have been grouped with several times and every time she has contributed nothing to the group. when it's the day before the project is due and she still hasn't done anything, i end up doing all of her work.\n\ni have tried making her commit work and due date at the start of the project but she has never followed through. we have a project due tomorrow, she hasn't done anything, and she is ignoring my texts and calls. i know that doing her work for her at the last minute rewards her laziness but i'm pretty sure that would be fine turning in half a project and failing it.", "summary": "can't get a group member to do any work and end up doing all the work myself."}
{"id": "t3_3esl9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend[18F] two years, made the biggest mistake by cheating on her.", "post": "Hey everyone this is my first time posting on reddit. I recently cheated on my girlfriend of two years and she found out last week. I had went behind her back and was talking to this girl for about a month and a half. We acted like a couple and we would always flirt and occasionally send some dirty pictures. I did it out of pure lust and was just having fun with her.\n\nAnyways me and my girlfriend met online and we fell inlove with each other. She was the best thing that had ever happened to me. I recently came back from visiting her and thinks were perfect. Before I left to go visit her I told the girl I was messing around with that we had to stop. When I came back from my visit with my girlfriend I messaged the other girl the same night just to see if I could get her to fuck around with me again for fun(she knew I had a girlfriend btw). So I sent her some dirty messages that night and went to bed knowing that my girlfriend could login to my Facebook at anytime to see those messages. The next morning she sees them and everything turns to crap. \n\nI was always so indecisive on what I wanted but I know for sure that I only want my girlfriend. I've been repeating the samethings over and over to her about how much I regret it and how bad I fucked up and how the things I did with this other girl meant nothing at all. \n\nShe still tells me that she loves and cares about me and I feel the same way. I would do anything to get her back as my girl but I just don't know what to do and thats why I'm here. Right now her and I are just friends because we can't cut off contact from each other. This is the only time I have ever been unfaithful and I know its something I'll never do again. I just don't know how I can get her trust back. I love this girl to death and I don't wanna give up because I really do wanna have a future with her someday. Please help!", "summary": "how can I get my girlfriends trust back after cheating on her?"}
{"id": "t3_ipeb0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my girl friend THINKS I've been cheating on her...", "post": "Hey reddit.\nSo here's the story.\nMy gf of 1 and a half years has recently started to act very strange.\nMostly just reclusive, not talking etc.\nNaturally I thought it was family issues or something of that nature, she normally goes quiet about these things. Something about not wanting to show weakness or something.\nBut after a couple of weeks of this behavior, I started to grow more and more concerned.\nI Approached her about just a few hours ago and managed to get a response out of her.\n\nNow before I go on, there are a few things you should know.\n1. We're both 19 and I am this girls first real bf\n2. She is a virgin (we have not had sex)\n3. I am not a virgin.\nFinally, 4. I am probably the most loyal guy anyone would probably meet. Ever.\n\nSo she tells me the reason that shes been acting strangely is that \"she knows I've been cheating on her\".\nIt was at this point that I literally reeled back in shock and aw.\nI was completely speechless.\nI started trying to explain myself, but after a minute I switched that off. Realizing I hadn't actually done anything.\n\nI asked her why she thought I had. Her answers were vague to say the least.\n\n1. Her friends have been telling her that I've been going to clubs constantly and just having sex with random women\n2.\"[she] hasn't been putting out and that when guys don't get sex, this is just what they do\"\n3. Also, I'm a very friendly guy, and she often misinterprets this as flirting.\n4. Last but not least, \"[I] have a lot of friends who are girls\".\n\nAnyway reddit. I really love this girl, but wtf? What am I actually supposed to do now? What do you do when you're being accused something you haven't actually done?", "summary": "Been accused of cheating on gf, haven't actually cheated."}
{"id": "t3_39u3om", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my sister throw up.", "post": "I was sitting with my sister in the living room, after she we all had a large dinner, and she was in quite a bit of a stomach pinch.\n\nSo, naturally, being the caring older brother that I am, I decided to utter retching noises, which actually caused her to run to the bathroom and throw up, much to the dislike of our mother, and to my amusement.\n\nA few hours later, I needed to use the bathroom myself, and as soon as I walked in, I began to heave, and in a matter of about 15 seconds, I was throwing up the contents of my dinner.", "summary": "Sister didn't clean her barf out of the sink, caused me to throw up from smelling it a few hours later"}
{"id": "t3_15utvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Post-One-Night Stand Anxiety", "post": "I don't know the etiquette for descriptiveness here so I'll try my best.\n\nSo I (23M) found my way into the bed of a new acquaintance (23?F) on New Year's Eve and ever since I've been getting the weirdest anxiety when I think about her. The night was actually a blast and I left in the morning with a thanks for the lovely evening and a goodbye kiss.\n\nThe sex, however, was pretty bad. We were both absolutely plastered and it was about 4am so my ability and stamina were pretty shot. I don't actually think I was completely hard for any of it. She was pretty dehydrated too so I had a hard time with foreplay which I am pretty sure is causing her some potentially severe discomfort even now. Eventually I realized it was a no-go and apologized before promptly passing out. Every time I think about this part I just get really upset and I can't shake it. We have a few mutual friends and I'm paranoid that the story might get out, too...\n\nAnyways, has anyone else ever been caught up on bad sex? I know I'll shake it off eventually but holy crap that was a disaster.", "summary": "sex bad; feel bad; what do"}
{"id": "t3_3r6rlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my EX [27 F] of less than a year, need minor advice.", "post": "So, as the title states, I need some minor advice. I've just left a short relationship with someone who I was completely infatuated with. Downside is I was a total D-bag and took her for granted. The break up didn't go much better. I lost all composure, lost all sense of manhood. That was a few months ago. Well since then, I've tried the rebound thing, made a horrible mistake with someone this past Friday. Ever since then, all I see in my head is my ex's face. I'm not missing her but i miss the intimate moments we had. But all that aside, I've been gifted with three friends that happen to be going through the same thing within about 3 months of each break up. Two of them live in the gym since their \"happening\". My question, does it really help? My only thought is why would I waste that energy when I can go do something else. I know the obvious benefits but my question is geared more towards the mental aspect of a break up. It's fucking exhausting knowing the one thing I want I can't have because of who I am as a person. Yes, I'm currently working to better myself but at the end of the day, how can you step into the gym, already mentally drained because of all the emotions surrounded by your ex? I've tried to rebound, tried hating her, tried justifying my actions, but at the end of the day I still think of her, still compare her to others, still talk about her. I need out of this rut and will do anything to get my mind off of her permanently. I'll make Arnold look small if working out actually helps with the mental aspect of it.", "summary": "Caught up on my ex and was wondering if working out helps with the mental aspect of a break up."}
{"id": "t3_1qz5ve", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best way for a non-romantic to propose?", "post": "I plan on proposing within the next year and half, but I am not romantic whatsoever. I've never given her flowers, I don't write poems, I'll never lay a bunch of rose pedals out for her. It's just not me, and she is totally okay with it. Super romantic stuff makes me want to throw up, especially if it is done in public. I don't even like to kiss her in front of people. However, I still love her more than anything in the world and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I refuse to propose publicly or get down on a knee, but I also don't want it to be super lame. Suggestions?", "summary": "I'm not the romantic type, I don't want it to be public, I don't want to get down on a knee, but I also don't want it to be total weak sauce."}
{"id": "t3_2eg8cn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and a girl [22F], been dating for a couple weeks , accidentally stood her up", "post": "Myself and this girl started seeing each other a few weeks ago.  When we met we immediately hit it off and got along amazingly, spend pretty much the entire weekend together.  We've been on another few dates since then, and they've all gone really well.  \n\nLast night, I asked her out for breakfast the next day and she said she would get back to me about it.  Cut to this morning. I was out pretty late last night so I sleep later than I usually do and thought I would, and I find out that she's working at 11 and she wants to meet up for breakfast, so I call her and she ended up going out for breakfast with one of her friends.  \n\nI know she didn't give me a for sure yes or no answer, but since I asked her out I feel partially responsible for not responding when she tried getting ahold of me.  What I need now is some advice.  What do you guys here think I can do to salvage this?", "summary": "accidentally stood a girl up because I was sleeping, need advice on how to salvage this."}
{"id": "t3_15l8fy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your experience with startup companies? Have you ever moved across the country to pursue a new career?", "post": "My friend /u/lacro038 and I are seniors in college, graduating this spring. We're determined to change the world and be on the cutting edge of technology. In this pursuit, we have decided to embark on a road trip from Minnesota to the Boulder/Longmont, Los Angeles and San Francisco areas. These areas have been known to be the frontiers of innovation and should allow us to explore opportunities at startup companies.\n\nOur trip will be for the duration of a couple weeks in the middle of January. We are really interested in meeting a lot of new people and experiencing new cultures along the way. We plan on staying at other chapters of my fraternity and utilizing the social traveling network couchsurfing.com.\n\nOur expectations are definitely tempered by our limited experience. We know that such an undertaking will require significant amount of planning, but we have been putting in hours of preparation and plan to continue doing so. This post is just a small way in which we're trying to become as educated as possible before we embark. We don't expect instant success, but we are a pair of highly motivated individuals trying to make a difference. We believe that whatever happens it will be a learning experience and a great opportunity to meet passionate people across America.\n\nWhat is a cool/interesting story or experience you have had while working at a startup company? Can you offer any advice on how we could succeed on this venture?", "summary": "My friend and I are road tripping out to California to find jobs at a startup company. We'd love to hear your stories and advice as we pursue this endeavor."}
{"id": "t3_3v27nm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When should I[M/26] tell my boyfriend[M/25] that I am a virgin?", "post": "So yeah I know I am a freak for being a virgin so late in life, but it just never really happened for me. I think I am bisexual since I have been attracted to some girls and some guys since I was a teen, but I was very odd and overweight and it never happened.\n\nEventually being with someone never really was a big deal to me, I was okay with just having friends. I did however decide that I wanted to improve my health so I started going to a gym. I am in good shape and health now and was just living my life when an attractive guy at my gym started talking with me. I developed a crush on him and knew he was gay, and he made very obvious comments on how he was not seeing anybody, so eventually I asked someone out on a date for the first time in my life.\n\nThat was about three months ago, and we have gone on four dates. He has been very patient, but I know he is expecting some form of intimacy, and so am I.\n\nI am just afraid of the fact he will be turned off if I tell him I am a virgin, since no one wants to deal with the mess a virgin is.\n\nShould I tell him right away, or when we are about to be intimate?  Should I just hide it?", "summary": "Not sure when to tell boyfriend I am a virgin. very nervous he will be upset"}
{"id": "t3_1ohteo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/F] I think I might have a serious problem with my relationships.", "post": "I've realised that I might have a serious problem with myself and the relationships I have with others.\n\nWhen I'm in a formal relationship of a bf/gf state, I find it hard to let go and completely trust the other person emotionally. This is partly due to how I try and protect myself from getting hurt I suppose and not create drama as I tend to avoid conflict.\n\nSo that happens, instead I've turned to fwb relationships which are somewhat better with the zero emotional attachment. Then another problem arises where I feel like people only see me as an object to have sex with (my fault I know).\n\nAll in all, I've had more fwb relationships than the former and it's starting to weigh on me emotionally as solely being seen as an object for sex. It's not that I'm purposefully avoiding formal relationships but people have only approached me with an fwb scenario as opposed to a formal relationship making me question my worth? This whole situation is confusing, and I apologise to the poor soul who reads my confusing internal conflict. But I guess I don't quite know what to do to 'fix myself.' Single is not what I'm currently content with as I would appreciate some form of companionship but I don't like what a formal relationship brings with it.\n\nHas anyone else had anything like this before? Or would at least know what I should try and do? Sorry if what I wrote is somewhat confusing, it's hard for me to vocalise something that I feel. :\\", "summary": "I need help with relationships because I obviously don't know what to do with myself"}
{"id": "t3_1k77eu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm a lean muscled man and I'm so confused about BMR/Calories and BMI/\"Proper Weight\".", "post": "I've been on 1200 calories for just over 60 days and I've lost 19 pounds (so close to a few flair!). I'll be done dieting somewhere in the next 10 pounds but I'm VERY confused about how many calories I need to eat to maintain:\n\nI know I'm lucky:\n\n* I'm full on 1100 calories per day. I only go over when I drink alcohol.\n* I've made some changes for life and I can't see myself eating more than 1400 net calories in a day (after subtracting workout calories). (34y man)\n\nBut here is the problem:\n\n* Calculators show that sedentary (which I'm not) calories are around 2100 to maintain.\n* Calculators already show me at *below* the \"ideal weight\" for someone my age, yet body fat measurements put me at *just* overweight (belly is 37\").\n* I'm nearing my weight in college (155lbs) where I was *repeatedly* told that my BMI was in the underweight category and that I had to *gain* weight *despite* having the \"spare tire\" of fat around my midsection.\n\nI think that this is all because I have a small frame and lean muscle: I'm skinny-fat. I'm fine with how I look, except the extra 5-10 pounds around my midsection.\n\nSo what the heck is my ideal weight!? How can my ideal weight be more than what I'm now if my fat% is still in the overweight category? And finally, is it reasonable to eat 1500 calories per day permanently? (Note, I'm vegan and eat very healthily).\n\nI'd love to hear from anyone that is anywhere near in the same situation.", "summary": "Is it possible that BMR calculators overestimate my calories since I have a small frame and lean muscle? Is it reasonable to eat 1500 permanently as a 34-year old man?"}
{"id": "t3_4bf0sx", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Dont know if this was the wrong sub but at this point its worth a try.", "post": "So long long story short when I was 14 my sperm donor took out a credit card in my name and never paid it off. When I was about 19 ( i know having no one to teach me anything about finances or anything really hurt me) I finally learned about credit and started looking into mine. On the first report I got is when I found out my credit score was already ruined and the reason (above). I spent the next 3 years building it back up. \n\nThe end of last year i got sick with a cyst in my back and had to leave my job I couldn't go back to work until 3 months later and my 2nd day on my new job my car broke down the engine failed. it would cost around 6k to fix it and right now because of medical debt etc I have 400 dollars total. This past week i have been to around 5 different car places ranging from regular dealerships to buy here pay here and everywhere has needed a down payment that i cannot make. I can afford a car payment comfortably up to around 250-300.\n\nNow obviously without a car I'm going to lose my job. Is there any advice or anything possible to do. All my family is in New York and I'm in Texas so they cant provide help. There is no public transportation in my area to take me to work and i have literally no clue what I'm supposed to do to be able to get a car . My job is great and I don't want to lose it because it will end up with me on the street.", "summary": "screwed over on my credit before i was even 15 almost 10 years later and my car failed now I cant get a car to get to my job which I will lose without one. Have tried all my options and now don't know where to go next. Any and I mean any advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1qfe3a", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Serious question regarding caloric deficit", "post": "I was wondering some stuff regarding dietary habits. Everyone says you need a caloric deficit to lose weight, right? I'm 242lbs and 6'0\" i'm supposed to need around 2300 calories to maintain my weight, and im doing 1600-1800 calories per day, on a healthy diet (Mostly chiken breats and mashed potatoes with 2 egg whites and protein shakes in the morning..its like 200g protein, 100-120g carb and 35g fat).\n\nNow back to my question, if I need a caloric deficit why can't I eat shitty stuff (Not sugars and not stuff full of fat). Lets say, I dunno... a pizza. Why cant I eat 1800 calories of pizza per day?\n\nI'm doing 5k every day at an average speed of 7.5km/h (I pump it up to 10km/h and sometimes slow it to 5km/h to catch a breath), im also doing 1 hour of spinning class, plus 1-2 hours of iron (2 Muscle groups per day) and I top it off with another 2k at a 9km/h pace. So lets say im burning a shitton of calories (according to MFP 1 hour of spinning class is around 500 calories, plus 5k at that pace is also around 500 calories, and the 2k at 9km/h is around 250ish calories, plus all the iron i'd say its another 300 calories AT LEAST).\n\nSo, after doing all that, I want everything BUT healthy food. I want a nice, yummy double cheese pizza. But everyone says I shouldn't have it! \n\nCan someone tell me why?", "summary": "I have a healthy 1600-1800 caloric intake per day, but I burn around 1.5k calories from excercising (5k, 1 hour spinning class, 2 hours of pumping iron and 2k at a faster pace). Why should I keep having that healthy diet instead of having 1800 calories of yummy pizza?"}
{"id": "t3_34j6z2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 4 years, I said something stupid 3 years ago and we haven't had sex since", "post": "So the first time we ever had sex, of course it was awkward. We were both virgins and had no idea what the other person could possibly look like naked. I also didn't watch a lot of porn and didn't know what to really expect. Basically, as we're doing it I glance down at her nipples and notice bumps on them (which I later learned are totally normal) So I innocently ask what they are. LITTLE DID I KNOW that this simple question would lead to extreme body issues and aversion to intimacy for the next 3 years of our time together. I let her deal with it because I have never had body issues and have no idea how to help but I need that physical love that she just can't give me to continue seeing her in a serious way. I asked her today about how she's been trying to get over it and her go to method is telling herself that the problem doesn't exist. How do I proactively help her get over this? I don't just want to do this for sex (it is the biggest factor, however), but so she can be more confident and happy in every day life too. I love her, and her body. But she won't let me show it. Help", "summary": "A dumb 16 year old me made a comment about bumps on her nipples and she never got over it."}
{"id": "t3_1s1yq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] How important is physical attraction?", "post": "I'm 21, have never been in a relationship or sexually active, and have only dated one person. Lately I've started to become attracted emotionally to a friend [20F] whom I believe is likewise attracted, but I'm not very attracted physically; I think it's mostly a weight thing (I wouldn't say she's obese, but not in good shape either). I'd like to ask her out, but I fear that I'd be overlooking the lack of physical attraction simply because I'm lonely. I don't want to start something and then find out later that it won't work because I can't see her that way, and hurt her in the process. Am I being shallow? Advice?", "summary": "I'm inexperienced in dating, and want to know how heavily I should weigh physical attraction when deciding to romantically pursue someone."}
{"id": "t3_s3n13", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't want to screw anyone over, but I need to move out.", "post": "Hi Redditors!\n\nI've been living with my roommates now for 6 months and it's been great. We went to high school together and being roommates was something we talked about for a long time. \n\nI have a stable job, but it's not the same job I had when I first moved in, so rent has become slightly difficult to pay. Because of that, my roommates had to cover partly for me last month, and I still feel horrible about it.\n\nRecently another friend of mine that I've grown closer to offered to let me move into her apartment for half of what I'm paying now.\n\nI brought this up to one of my roommates and he wasn't too thrilled. He said the lease was just renewed. I thought if I left, I can make room for one who could pay rent and not leave them to cover a balance. \n\nOne of my roommates has his girlfriend over practically living with us on a daily basis and I asked about her chipping in for rent. They replied that her and her boyfriend would just split his current share because the rent amount is designated by room space. If all of us (5) split the rent and utilities right down evenly, it would drop each of our expenses by $100.00. \n\nBut it's not all about the money. I have to walk 3 miles to the closest bus stop and summer is coming (reverse stark). I would then only have to catch One bus instead of three to get to work. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Rent is difficult to pay. Don't want to keep screwing over roommates. By leaving an I still screwing them over?"}
{"id": "t3_2b8i5k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[35 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months, I caught him logging in to anonymous gay sex meet up websites", "post": "I caught him a month ago and said I forgive him. I do forgive him but I'm having a lot of trouble getting the feeling of trust back. I've been in a relationship before where the partner cheated (also organised online) to make the trust go away so I know it's not good to stay in these situations but I told him I trust him and that everything was going to be okay the day I caught him. I'm the type of person who will say what people want to hear and put their feelings before my own.\n\nHe said he was using it to get off rather than actually meet guys (even thought his profiles said he wanted to meet) He has experimented in the past, I have no issue with that. I'm very open minded. He closed the various accounts but now I'm worried he's re joined under a different name. I didn't get a chance to look at sent messages before they were deleted.\n\nI spend my days flooded with insecurities and it's taking it's toll on me. If he doesn't text me back or I can't get hold of him my mind goes crazy - I hate being the insecure person.\nDo I tell him I'm having trouble trusting him? In my mind, wouldn't this make him even more secretive? Or hurt his feelings that I can't move past it? Do I deal with this in my own mind and not involve him to spare his feelings?\n\nI love him so much that I'm scared to bring it up.", "summary": "I love him but the trust is gone. Do I tell him or try to work through it alone in the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_t653q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I spent $215 to own 7 people for the day tomorrow, what should I have them do?", "post": "At my Highschool, we have something called a \"Maid/Butler\" day in which volunteered groups of seniors are put up for a bid in the auditorium. The winning bidder 'owns' them for the day, as the seniors become their maid or butler. I walked into the auditorium that day knowing I had $200 (I hoped it wouldn't get that high) I'd saved to spend on a group that had a good friend of mine, Josh. I won his bid for $80, but when I went up to tell the coordinators some info about paying, Sarah, another senior with whom I've had a moderate amount of interaction, tells me to up bid their group in order to make the bidders that want her pay more. I hear that she wants me to buy her. The majority of the groups sold for around $20, so I was expecting it to go slightly over. I ended up getting in a bidding battle with another person that ended up boosting the bid to $135. They finally gave in and I bought them (albiet mistakenly) for that price.", "summary": "In a bidding battle I bought 2 (7 people) groups for a Highschool fundraiser thing for $215 dollars."}
{"id": "t3_2od6to", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my almost partner [20F] duration, Great 6 week relationships and romance, then completely cut me.", "post": "Hello.\nI have been in a romantic relationship with this girl for about a month and a half now. We have both known she was gonna have to leave the country for a job by the beginning of January.\nConcerts, jazz night dinners, sleepovers, the whole thing. Weren't in love yet obviously, but it was an incredible loving/sexual dynamic.\n\nAbout 2 weeks ago, she just stopped talking to me. She wouldn't answer any texts, called her once, and even sent her a facebook message a few days later in case her phone was dead.\nShe has updated her status multiple times, so clearly ignoring me.\n\nThe most confusing part is, nothing had happened. Everything was amazing. She is leaving the country in 2 weeks, and I am pretty positive that is the reason she cut me off. I do GREAT in life, in a relationship or taking on the world solo.\nIt isn't that I needed her or anything. But to be in such a romantic bliss with someone and then they just cut it off really hit me from left field.\n\nIt has been 2 weeks now. If you believe in astrology, she is a pisces. They have a fear of telling people things because they don't want to hurt them, so they just ignore them. Or so I have read this.\n\nAfter 4 texts over 7 days sent to her, she clearly doesn't want to respond.\nI am considering showing up at her place and talking to her. Keep in mind she would invite me to her house a few times a week at night.\n\nPlease keep in mind this was NOT just a fling, we both had been developing feelings for each other and it would've become a relationship eventually if she wasn't leaving the country. \n\nI just want some closure, to talk to her and let her know it's okay if she wants to split paths, that I just want to know what she wants.\n\nWhat do you guys think... thank you.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4ys9l8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my sister [31F] trying to tell me what to do about my ex-girlfriend [21F]", "post": "Hello Redditors,\n\nOver a month ago I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, who was also one of my sisters close friends. While my ex and I were dating, we would go out on dates and she would pay (I didn't have a job throughout our 3 month relationship); I promised her when we were together that I would take her out as soon as I got a job.\n\nWell, I got a job a week ago and got paid and my sister **demaded** me that I take my ex-girlfriend out, as friends. Here's the thing, it's not that I don't want to spend the money, I just don't want to be around my ex-girlfriend.\n\nI was extremely unhappy in the relationship and I just want to be away from her right now, I'm trying to transition into being best friends with her again like it was before we dated, but it's being extremely hard for me because I just don't want to feel close to her.\n\nQueue to last night, I asked a girl out to dinner and my sister was mad at me for going out with another girl and paying because I won't go out with my ex-girlfriend.\n\nWhich leads to my next issue, my sister is also pretty much demanding me that I need to tell my ex-girlfriend if I have feelings for anyone, and if I'm going to end up in a new relationship. Because \"I promised my ex,\" even though I expressed to her deeply when I left her that I was extremely unhappy and wanted to be alone and I **was not** promising anything, period.\n\nYes, I said I wanted to be alone but it's because of how unhappy I was. This new girl I met is actually really great, and is someone who makes me feel much better about myself than my ex ever did.\n\nI love my older sister very much, but I don't know what to do. I don't want her to try to dictate my love-life just because it seems she wants me to be with my ex.\n\nHelp me Reddit, I don't know what do.", "summary": "Broke up with my ex who is close with my sister, my sister is demanding me to take my ex out to diner as friends but I do not wish to. My sister is also mad that I went out with another girl and paid. Also telling me I need to inform my ex before ever getting into a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1msatg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do? Move back home to a different state, or be homeless/couch surf for a month and a half while I wait for people to move out so I can take over a lease?", "post": "My lease is up at the end of the month, and a buddy at work's roommates (a couple) are moving out mid November, when I could take over on the lease. So I would be homeless for a month and a half and forced to beg for couch space from friends, and family who already look down on me. \nAt the same time, My sister back home in another State has already said that if I want, she would send husband here, rent a uhaul and drive me home and move me in with them. All I have to do is say the word. \n\nI'm torn. I love it here, and have friends I would really miss. I moved here to be closer to my dad and brother, but I haven't made the connection I wanted with them. \nI also miss my mom and sister, and I don't have to try with them, the connection is just there. It would also be great to be back around all my friends I grew up with.\nI have 2 jobs here, and nothing lined up there, so it would be a nice break from working for a bit while I settled in. \n\nI don't know what to do. No matter who I ask, the people here say to stay and the people there say move back. I need a less biased answer, which is why I left out the names of the States (I'm sure you could go through my history and figure it out). Anything else you need to know to help?", "summary": "Be homeless for a month and a half till apt. opens up, or move across the country back home and start fresh?"}
{"id": "t3_441wcm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing feline identity issues.", "post": "This happened over a year ago, but recently recalled the story and figured you guys might get a kick out of it.\n\nI currently have a brilliantly orange, fluffy fluffy cat. I found the cat in a storm drain when she was a week old, and took her under my wing. Initial plan was to get her healthy and find a home, but naturally I grew attached. Ultimately, I have my first cat that I've ever owned.\n\nA few weeks fly by since I find the cat, and I figure it's time to commit to a name. Friends who have seen the cat, and had cat expertise, addressed her as a girl and helped me come up with a name for her. For some reason, I'd always address her as \"Cat\" or \"The Cat\". Must have rolled off the tongue easily. So, I committed to the name Catherine.\n\nMonths pass, and Catherine is a massive ball of fluff and hair. Quite beautiful and adorable, actually. Unfortunately, she was peeing everywhere. \"Screw the litter box\" was what I initially thought she was thinking, but I was also afraid that Cat had a urinary infection of some sorts. So I book an appointment with the local vet to check it out, I make it to the vet hospital and I described everything that was going on to the tech. \n\nAs Cat and I await the proposed plan, the vet walks in and immediately says \"Catherine!... What would you say if you found out that you were actually a boy...\". I was perplexed - already thoroughly convinced by my cat expert peers that Catherine is a girl... Lo and behold, the vet instructs me to come take a look as she lifts Cats furry furry tail. \n\nAnd what do I discover between those furry, furry legs? That I have been living a lie for several several months. I rescued, recuperated, and raised a cat, and I gave the cat an identity crisis. Catherine is actually a boy, and was spraying around the apartment to mark his territory of some sorts. \n\nI took the cat to get neutered because that was what the vet recommended. On the intake form, I was asked to write my pets name.\n\nHis name is now Mr. Peterson.\n\nThe end.", "summary": "I trusted my cat expert friends on the gender of the cat while he was a little kitten instead of looking between the legs of a fluffy-ass cat once the genitals become apparent, and we had been living a lie of gender confusion. His name is now Mr. Peterson."}
{"id": "t3_2vxykp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] keep forgetting things that are important to my GF [26F], Please advise", "post": "I have made several promises over the past six months that always seem to slip my mind. I keep forgetting things that are important to my lovely girlfriend. Nothing I have done is on purpose or with malice. \n\nIf I recall correctly, they are all related to making plans or keeping them. I recently forgot that I sent her a text claiming I would buy dinner for today, Valentines Day. I completely forgot that I sent that text, and she was devastated when I arrived empty handed. This has been the fourth time I've let her down by disappointing her with my behavior.\n\nI should say that I didn't even remember sending her that text at all! I have recently become swamped in my life, and yesterday I had an important meeting that went well into the morning. I don't even know why I promised to bring her food (that she would cook), when I KNEW I had zero time. I guess I was just excited to see her after being away from her for a week.\n\nI met a teary eyed girlfriend when I got home. She has given me chances and been very clear on remembering things that are important to her. She does remember everything like a hawk. I felt stupid and clueless as I had no explanation regarding my behavior.\n\nShe said shes tired of being disappointed and shes given me more chances than anyone in her life. I feel dreadful, as this woman is the love of my life. I care for her so deeply. I can't believe I keep forgetting about these things.\n\nI believe that I have to stop committing to things via text, and writing down plans, no matter how trivial they may seem. Eg: Date Night at home, or movie night.", "summary": "I can be a forgetful jerk remembering things my girlfriend cares about. She is wonderful and doesn't forget anything significant to me. What is wrong with me? Am I too selfish? Should I do anything other than set reminders and write stuff down?"}
{"id": "t3_airlw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Police vs. Party: What can they do?", "post": "Recently I was at a party at a friend's apartment at my college. The apt is a few blocks off campus at the end of a very quiet dead end. About 20 of us were drinking and socializing on a Friday night that was not during any sort of exam week. We had music playing but not unreasonably loud. However I'm assuming a neighbor called the police because they showed up about a \"noise violation\". When they knocked on the door we turned off the music and kept the door locked and did not open it or respond to the police officer's yelling. They threatened us al kinds of things through the door. After them pounding on the door for about 20 minutes the owner of the apt decided she would open the door. The cop was furious and made everyone leave the apt and told us that he could have \"taken us all to jail and fucked us if he wanted to\".\n\nWas this the right thing to do? The original reason we didn't open the door is because 3 or 4 of the people were age 20. Should we have just kept the door closed? Pros and cons to both situation? Can the cop really do anything? I've always been curious about what the best thing to do is.", "summary": "If you have a party and cops are pounding on your door, should you always answer? Pro/Con"}
{"id": "t3_2r2eyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't stand watching my father [52] mistreat my mother [56], but I don't know what I can do to help.", "post": "My father has become a bitter old man due to depression. My mother tries her best to keep the peace, sacrificing her own sanity and happiness in the process. She bends over backwards to do every thing he asks of her, and she allows herself to be his personal punching bag. On top of it, she is physically disabled, so doing small tasks, like cooking, can leave her in pain.\n\nFor example: yesterday she started cooking him some dinner. He wanted eggs with his meal, but she informed him that we were out of eggs. So, despite all her efforts, he cursed at her, threw his glass on the floor (not hard enough for it to shatter, but it left a mess that she had to clean), and told her to throw the food out. She just took it to avoid making his mood worse, never standing up for herself.\n\nHe does things like this nearly every day, though not each episode nearly as severe as this. It leaves her extremely stressed, depressed, and emotionally drained. I wish she would stand up for herself, but she grew up in a very abusive household, where she watched her own mother become a physical and verbal punching bag. She believes that if she makes him happy (hint: he's never happy), then things will be good again, like they used to be.\n\nI'm a teenager, though finished with high school, still living at home. For most of my life, I have stood up to him when he treats her poorly, but I've realized that this only stresses my mother out more. It's so difficult to watch, and after years and years of this, I'm so tired of it. I want to move out as soon as possible, but that would mean leaving my mother behind with no one to confide in. \n\nShould I intervene, or should I just watch my mother get verbally and emotionally beaten up every day?", "summary": "Father has become a bitter person, uses mother as a verbal  punching bag every day, leaving her constantly stressed and depressed."}
{"id": "t3_3obmka", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing myself", "post": "some game requires one to move their body. This is the kind of game that I play.\n\nLet's get right into the fuckup:\n\nAfter finishing the game, I'm going to get a drink. So I got the drink and go to the queue. But the thing is, it is Sunday. And every queue including the queue I'm on is crowded. So switching queue is no option.\n\nNow the only thing I can do is wait.\n\nAt first, I don't feel anything significant. But I can feel that bad things are going to happen.\n\nWait.\n\nWait.\n\n3 mins in.\n\nWait.\n\nWait.\n\n5 mins in. I'm almost there. I started sweating so badly. It's a cold sweat.\n\n6 mins in. I can't hear things clearly. My ears was ringing.\n\n7 mins in. My vision was becoming dark.\n\n8 mins in. I'm completely hopeless and don't know what to do because it's too late to do anything. I'm in the front of the cashier now. I barely see, hear, and feel anything. It's like I'm going to lose my consciousness (duh).\n\nSuddenly some guy put me down on chair, my senses recover and I immediately drink the water that I bought until it's empty. 1500ml of it.\n\nI rested about an hour, bought a book and got home. 10/10 would try again.", "summary": "did you know that pushing yourself and letting your body standing dehydrated about 30 minutes can get you passed out? Now I did!"}
{"id": "t3_29b6er", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 Male] denied a female friend [20] sex and now she is angry at me", "post": "I am going to try and make this quick, I have a friend whom I care for deeply and we have been close friends for years. Tonight she got drunk and was being very aggressive with me trying to have sex with me. She was trying to rip off the shirt I was wearing and attacking me and calling me a bitch and just degrading me because I was denying her sex. \n\nShe continued the night being very aggressive and talking down to me and saying very hurtful things. I kept telling her she was drunk and I had not had a sip to drink (since I drove). I did not want to sleep with her because\nA:She was drunk and I was sober\nB: I really do cherish our friendship so much. I know how she gets after she sleeps with a friend. The friendship is over.\n\nI need to know what to do. I am kind of feeling weird right now since I have never had her treat me like that and trying to do things to me I didn't want. Do I just write this off as \"she was drunk and it won't happen again\"? or should I keep away from someone like that?", "summary": "I denied a friend of mine sex. She got very aggressive and tried to hurt me as punishment. Need to know if I should write it off as one time her just being too drunk or keep away from this person."}
{"id": "t3_2m8xou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] am occasionally employed by a friend [26/M]. I asked for a raise and now it's all coming to a head...", "post": "I went to school with a guy who runs a freelance labor job. I'm on his list of people to call for work. He calls me every so often- I've been working for him for over a year.\n\nI found out I make the same wage as other people who work for him who have been working there for a considerably shorter period of time than my myself. Back in august, I asked him for a raise, and was told I must meet with him in person to discuss it.\n\nI live over an hour away and don't see him on the job AND work a full time retail position on top of working for him. \n\nI was contacted by his girlfriend/labor contractor to work a gig this weekend. I accepted (with some hesitation, due to the late hours and me working 8 hrs prior to working this one) and then found a job posting where they are STILL hiring people to work the same job while also paying them MORE than I am making!\n\nI texted the gf (Who is also my friend...) and emailed him, and she texted me saying \"We fought about this, he got really mad at me, please don't email him\" But I already had.\n\nSo.... now I'm not sure what the fuck to do! Obviously I want to maintain my friendship with these people, but also, I'm really tired of making \"minimum wage\" in the industry, and getting the run around when it comes to getting a raise. Is it completely out of line to refuse to work this gig unless they pay me the same wage as they pay randoms they found online?", "summary": "I'm friends with my boss and he's not paying me enough. I'm stuck in an awkward situation where I don't know whether to salvage the friendship and suck it up or stand up for myself and possibly jepordize a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3tua29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my long distance gf[22F] of 3 months are having a problem.I became insecure/uneasy about something and i want to tell her even though i know i \"must not\"", "post": "Hello, with this girl I have a very honest relationship and we seem to be liking each other a lot.We are both sensitive people who look far beyond sex and were looking for connection.   \n\nI am not the guy to be generally jealous and I never had a problem whenever her ex called her or something...But there is a guy who she used to have a strong crush with and I kept thinking that she wants him still and is not telling me...My problem wasn't that she wants him (if so) but that she was not telling me.   \nAnyway everything is calmer now and I am totally sure she is into me a lot, but I still feel from her attitude that something is wrong with this, something minor perhaps....It feels as if she is still disappointed by this guy because he treated her bad at some point...I feel this thing hasn't finished inside her and it is killing me just because I make wild scenarios.. \nExample: They hadn't talked for months and now he sent her something, even though we are so far away she told me and she asked me if she should reply or not( which i appreciated a lot and showed me trust). I said \"do whatever you please\".  \nShe told me the next day that she replied to the \"how are you\"? with a \"why you ask\" and that in was just a cold exchange of few sentences where he was even taking an hour long to respond every time.   \n\nDoesn't the \"why you ask\" and the \"one hour long delay complaint\" show some kind of leftover emotion that is still wanting something from this guy?Wouldn't she be indifferent if she was indifferent?", "summary": "Something that makes me insecure bothers me and being an honest person, I just want to talk about it with my girlfriend in a calm way and hope that she can put my fears to rest...  "}
{"id": "t3_36w0y6", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I make small talk more natural?", "post": "Hello, I (20m) am looking for some tips involving socialization. I've been one that keeps to themselves often, and, I feel horrible saying this, find small talk to be a drag. I can talk all day about things that interest me, or to a long time friend of mine. When it comes to being in class, or some public event, I often find myself sitting quietly, or staying with the people I already know. When I eventually do talk to people, I often feel like I'm putting up a fa\u00e7ade just to \"make it through\" this conversation. I do have a retail job at a grocery store, so talking with customers when I have the time has helped me smooth out some bumps. However, if I'm not forced to interact, I often choose not to. What can I do to make small talk feel more meaningful? What are some tips you have so I can project that I care about what the other person is talking about? Because I often feel that I may sound like I care, I don't believe my body language is that way.", "summary": "What can I do to make myself view small talk and basic socialization, as more of a fun activity, rather than a chore?"}
{"id": "t3_15oa2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) have polar opposite feelings about my girlfriend (20F) depending on her mood", "post": "Basically, I feel amazing, blessed and loved and all warm and snuggly when my girlfriend is in a good mood. Seeing her smile just lights up my day. However, recently she has been getting upset at me more often and when things are sour, I honestly just feel like breaking up on the spot! Just a few hours ago from this moment, she got upset over something small I said and I could not help but keep asking myself why i put myself through this, but when things cool down, I find myself questioning if its really the right move to make.\n\nWe have been going out for almost 2 years now and its our 1st relationship for the both of us, we started as schoolmates and graduated last year. \n\nShe is in University now while I'm in the army, and will continue to be for the next year. I find myself devoting most, if not all of my free time on her and while I honestly don't mind, sometimes i feel like she ends up taking me for granted? I try to be contactable all the time, but when things are going on in the army and I'm busy, she sometimes still gets upset with me though i can't help it!\n\nI've talked to her about it and she says that while she knows that i cant help it when i'm not contactable, she's not understanding enough to just let it slide.\n\nBasically.. Along with the fact that increasingly i find myself with nothing to do when i'm with her, i just want to ask what the hell is going on in my head? Is breaking up the right move to make? \n\n**The most important reason i'm contemplating breaking up is that increasingly i find myself wishing i was single! That i won't have to spend my life revolving around her.. YET once i see her smile these thoughts just melt away! Could it be that I'm just not mature enough to understand her, to be a good bf?**\n\nSo", "summary": "Feels good and happy when gf is happy but constantly thinking of break up when shes not happy"}
{"id": "t3_41r8ge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(22f) daughter(6f) is upset that my bff/fwb (23m) is not her father", "post": "Fake names being used\n\nWhen I was 16 I stupidly fell in love with my now ex. About three months into our relationship I got pregnant with my daughter Samantha. When he found out I was pregnant  he dumped me, denied that he was the father and spread rumors that she was the bastard child of the guy I cheated on him with. This did not end until a paternity test was taken but he still did not help me raise her and prefered to pay child support.\n\nIt was tough but we made it with the help of my family. I do not regret her, she is my entire world and biggest piece of happiness that I have ever recieved.\n\nWhen I was in community college I met a guy named Daniel who ended up becoming the most supporting friend I've ever had. He would be there for both us whenever he could and he still continues to do so.\n\nThey are incredibly close and he has been her biggest influence. He made her into a seahawks fan( it took me MONTHS to brainwash her into becoming a 49ers fan) , got her to start reading for fun, got her to play soccer, and in general her personality resembles his.\n\nA week ago she called him dad for the first time and he kind of freaked out. I had a convsersation with her telling her that Daniel was not her father. She got the saddest I've ever seen her. It was one of the worst experiences of my life.\n\nSince then she refuses to talk or spend time with him. When i try to talk to her about it she just runs away. Two days when Daniel wanted to see the Seahawks game, which she loves seeing with him, with her she refused and Daniel has been very sad about it and it just breaks my heart.\n\nHow do I approach this?", "summary": "I told my daughter that my bff is not her father. She refuses to see or talk to him. How do I approach this situation."}
{"id": "t3_1q3ph2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I'm changing my sleep schedule, but I didn't use that as an excuse to give up!", "post": "I'm enlisted so at any moment I can change schedules. For the past 6 months I've been working from 2PM to 10PM, Sunday through Thursday. Pretty good schedule right? Weeell leadership decided to switch it up for me.\n\nSo now I have to get used to working from 6PM at night to 6AM in the morning on a wonky Three days off, Two days work, Two days off, Three days work schedule. I've been balls off the wall tired just trying to stay up so my cravings and laziness skyrocketted.\n\nBut today I've figured out a way to log my food on this wonky schedule AND I worked out after 6AM on a day off! I've *never* had success working out after my work schedule, but it's the only time I have to do it, so dammit I did it. And I'll keep doing it!\n\nJust thought I'd share my kickass break through.", "summary": "I got off my lazy butt and kept dieting + exercising even on a long night of working/staying up!*"}
{"id": "t3_3p83m5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27F) have been a huge narcissistic bitch to my friend (22F) and now I am terrified our friendship is over", "post": "Over this past summer I was invited to a wedding. Since I was single I decided to invite my friend as my plus one. She had just graduated and moved back home so honestly I was hoping the wedding would be a time we could just reconnect. She said yes and things looked awesome.\nNow here's where bitch Kush comes in :(\nShe got in trouble at home and as a result couldn't come. Instead of being empathetic I flipped a bitch switch and got angry at her. Obviously this didn't go well and things kind of exploded.\nShe called me out on how selfish I had been with our friendship, how I hoarded conversations, how I barely knew her because I talk so much about myself. She wasn't wrong. There is a good chance I am a narcissist and this scares the shit out of me because I've heard horror stories of how narcissist can destroy lives. I'm scared that's me :(\nI had taken so much time using her as a sounding board that I had neglected her side of our friendship for a long time.\nSince then things have been tense. I'm scared because she has every right to end our friendship. A day doesn't go by where I don't feel horrible about this whole ordeal. I really want to make amends and stop being such a narcissistic bitch :(", "summary": "Flipped a bitch switch on a friend, got called out for being narcissistic, am now wondering how I can mend a friendship I don't deserve."}
{"id": "t3_101xo9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(ex)Girlfriend [26/f] broke up with me [24/m] a little over a month ago in a new town. Waiting for lease to be up and wanting to stay friends. Need a little advice.", "post": "We moved to a new town right at about a year ago and as the title said, she broke up with me about a month and a half ago *(after an almost 3 year relationship, with an engagement at one point. First major relationship for me)*. It ended on reasonably well as there was no fighting or cheating (this time) and we were pretty adult about the whole thing. Thing is, right now we are waiting our lease out (ends 10/31) and until then she's been slowly moving her stuff into her new place (coworker couple she'll be staying with), so it's been a few nights here, few nights there sort of thing.\n\nI want to continue to be friends with her because well, she's the best friend I have in this new town and we have things together, like weekly favorite shows we watch, that we haven't found other friends to enjoy with. It's been awkward, but it's happening.\n\nA friend suggests I don't do this as it isn't healthy. My counselor suggests it may be difficult right now, but can work out in the long run.\n\nIs it ok/healthy to fight to keep her as a friend? I'm ok (now) with nothing more, but would love for her to still be around.\n\nUgh, I've got more, but it may not be pertinent to this particular part of the situation.", "summary": "Long relationship broken off in a new town. Ok to keep (ex)SO as a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_lyr7h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your best \"this is stupid but for some reason im going to do it anyway\" story", "post": "i would prefer stories that end badly.\n\nmine would be when i was about 5 or so i used to like putting my toothbrushes down the drain in the bath for some reason. one day after finishing a bath i decided i wanted one of my sesame street brushes back from inside the drain pipe (i could see it not far down the drain because of the bent pipe). i stuck my index finger down the plug hole to get the toothbrush and i could almost reach it but my finger was just not long enough.\n\nupon attempting to release said finger i realised what was obvious when i was inserting my finger, there was no way it was going to come back out. my finger was stuck in the plug hole and i was naked and cold in the empty bath. \n\nafter crying and screaming for mum she finally came in 15 minutes later wondering why i wasnt out yet. after trying soap butter and various other liquids she could not release my finger so then the fire brigade was called to come and cut out the plug hole with hacksaw blades or something similar and it was off to the hospital for me to get the plughole ring off my finger. \n\ni have pictures of me in the bath with the fire brigade if this topic gets going ill put them up after work.", "summary": "sesame street and bathtub = fire brigade and hospital"}
{"id": "t3_14xuv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] flirt endlessly and seem to want new relationships despite being married to a beautiful [29 F]", "post": "*", "summary": "I flirt alot and maybe am looking for the next best thing. Or am I really?"}
{"id": "t3_o0q9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF always jokes that I'm not good enough.", "post": "F 23. M 24. 2 Years.\n\nMy BF is always making comments and hints about my weight and hair and then posing them off as jokes. He constantly hints that I need to loose a little bit of weight. Perhaps 10 ibs. This is fine b/c I've always thought I've been a little chubby. \n\nBut not my hair. I love my short hair but he really wants me to grow it out or get hair extensions. He's always joking around about how beautiful girls are with long hair. \n\nOn New Years Eve, we went out and this girl who had short hair, got extensions and he joked around that I should too.\n\nI don't want to be coerced into doing something I don't want to do. I really love him and vice versa. He's been such a positive influence in my life except for this. I'd hate to change for him, but I also want to be attractive to him. I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nShould I just grow my hair out? Lose the weight?\n\nOh and problem number 2: I think he likes that girl that got extensions. He's always comparing me to her in a joking manner. At times it does hurt. Other times, I think I'm just being a pussy for letting it get to me. \n\nShould I just ignore all of this? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "My BF jokes that I should lose weight and grow my hair. And that I should be more like this other girl. :/"}
{"id": "t3_4lbris", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my gf [19F]. I found out she's surprising me by also flying to the same state after my flight - should I flip it and surprise her back or go along with it?", "post": "SO I am flying to Oregon (I'm from New Hampshire) on Thursday and my girlfriend is surprising me by flying to Oregon and surprising me in the hotel after I land (she's from Southern California... I figured out the surprise). We've been together for one year.  \n\nMy whole family knew and were in on it too and I guess it took a lot of planning and stuff and she's wicked excited for it. So here is my dilemma:\n\nDo I try my best to go along with it and act surprised (and possibly be a bad actor)?  Or do I flip it and try to surprise her in some way (but then she might be bummed I figured it out)? \n\nIf I do potentially flip it and surprise her, how could I compete with her flying to Oregon to meet me?  What kind of surprise could I do?", "summary": "Should I go along with the surprise, or surprise her back?"}
{"id": "t3_1zga6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am confused about his [33M] intentions", "post": "I've been seeing this guy for about six weeks. He went way out of his way to ask me out (in fact, I'm pretty sure what he did breaks some confidentiality clauses), and we've been having a really good time together. We go out on weekends, text everyday, I've been introduced to his cousin, and I know his friends and brother know he's seeing me. Last week, he went out of the country and lost his phone, so he didn't have my number to contact me when he got back, and he tried to contact me several different ways that failed (tried to find me on fb, but my name is super common; tried to email me through my Meetup group, but I get so many of those emails they get filtered to a separate inbox I don't check; and he left a note by my apartment, but it got blown away, or something).\n\nSo, after a few days of thinking that he'd been back and not hearing from him, I texted him, he seemed excited to hear from me, and said he wanted to see me the following night (Saturday). So far, so good. But then he calls me Saturday afternoon to say he's too tired and wants to reschedule for Sunday. So, we get together on Sunday night, have a good time, but then I noticed that, even though he's only had his new phone for a couple of days, one of the apps he's already installed is OKC (and he even made a big deal about not having apps like Yelp because they had to be reinstalled) and there's a pair of dirty wine glasses by his sink.\n\nI thought it was clear he was really interested in me, but now I'm not so sure. Can anyone else make more sense of this situation?", "summary": "I thought this guy was really into me, but now I think he's not, and I don't know how to interpret what's going on"}
{"id": "t3_znc2p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My 16 year old brother has become very reclusive and obsessed with My Little Pony. How do I get him away from it?", "post": "He spent his entire summer on his computer playing league of legends until 5am, up at 11am and doing the same thing the next day. The people he play with are all in the USA, and we live in Ireland. My mum had tried to stop him but she works throughout the day, as do I. He wont see anyone from school, is reluctant to leave his room, and at one point said to me that \"its the only place I feel safe\". \n\nAnyway, I'd often seen him on tumblr writing some blog, which he told me recently was a My Little Pony fan fiction blog. Weird I thought, but I know some people are into that. However, my sister and he went over to the US to visit our cousins in Virginia for a few weeks last month, and he brought back with him about $250 (**all** his spending money) worth of this MLP crap, dvds, wallets, figurines, t-shirts. Ok I thought, getting weirder but I'll leave him to it. But over the weekend we were all at a family reunion and he was on my grandmothers computer and my sister asked to use it. When he gave it to her he'd left open a tumblr which was fan art of these pony's with tits, and jizz all over them. A lot of these pictures. She naturally asked him what the fuck it was, and he replied that its not weird its just tumblr, like it was a completely normal thing.\n\nSo hes back at school now, comes home and is on the computer looking at this weird shit and not leaving his room. My mum and I have tried to get him out doing physical stuff, but I work late and at the weekends and she has long hours and my sisters in college so its difficult. \n\nWhat do you recommend I do to get him away from this weird shit?", "summary": "16 year old brother spends all free time looking at my little pony fan porn, and writing fan fiction, and not socialising with anyone, apart from his internet friends. How do I get him to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_32q85h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [22 F] told me [21 M] she's dating someone; I am super happy for her but...", "post": "...I feel like it is unfortunately changing our friendship extremely. \n\nShe (lets call her Julie for simplicity's sake) met through a mutual friend this past december. We're in college and I saw she's in one of my classes. We quickly became close friends right after. We would always hang out with each other in our dorm rooms and just talk, have fun, etc. We both agreed that we'd stay friends, and thats what we both wanted anyway (just stupid rumors spreading amongst people caused this talk but nothing seemed to change in regards with our friendship). \n\nFast forward after spring break, I noticed \"something\" was wrong, or so I thought. A week after spring break, she started to not text me so often and we weren't hanging out like we used too. After our class together, I'd text her to come to my room, as usual, but no response. Of course, my initial response is that I was wondering if she's ok, etc, and she would tell me yes. \n\nThis week has been the same. Today,however, she told me she was dating a friend that we both know and she was with that person when she would have usually been chilling in my room. It caught me completely off guard, but I was happy for both of them. However, I'm worried that our friendship is changing because of her new relationship. Of course I know things won't be COMPLETELY THE SAME, but because she's my close friend and it's just weird that things just changed super quickly. I just want to be sure that our own close friendship won't be different.", "summary": "She's my best and closest friend and I found out that she's dating someone. I am extremely happy for her, but worried that our friendship will change drastically. I'm wondering even if that I did something wrong that made her go to that person and not me (I'm sure I could be overthinking). Should I even be worried? Should I say something?"}
{"id": "t3_48tkf2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my substitute teacher if he was in a gang", "post": "So this happened roughly 3 months ago and I just now had the idea to post it. Btw I am 16 and am a junior in high school. So this particular day I was in pre calculus... The class I hated the very most that semester. But this day I thought would be better as my teacher was gone and I had a sub. As I sat down and the sub began calling role he would make these hilarious jokes that the entire class was enthralled by. We were putty in his hands. He could have been a comedian that teaches pre-cal on the side. So he finishes role and we are all sitting here listening to him telling us about his life story that more or less was a comedy show for us. And I guess I got WAY to comfortable with the whole student teacher respect thing and so me and many other kids in the class began to reply to his jokes and we were all getting laughs. Here's where the fuck up takes place. So as he is drawing something on the white board he is looking for the expo markers and someone hands him a blue marker. He then replies with \"nah fam I only like RED markers.\" And so me bieng the dumbass that I am says out loud \"Oh so u think u blood cuh??\"... The class was dead silent and everyone stopped laughing at this God of a substitute teacher to stare at me and the sub immediately shuts down the whole nice guy thing and says \" thanks to your friend over here we're all gunna have a silent workday now\" so yeah I fucked up.", "summary": "I had a cool sub then asked him if he was a blood... U know like the gang. And then the sub was no longer awesome as the class awkwardly stared at me."}
{"id": "t3_1e0u95", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Current class/degree dilemma", "post": "So this kind of starts back in high school. Junior year I left Algebra 2 with a 98% and near 100% on the final. I was brilliant in math. The next year I wanted to do AP Statistics or Pre-Calc so I took an ASSET test. The test didn't place me into Statistics and I heard nothing about Pre-Calc. Talked to teachers and got into stats. Left the class with a high B. I have now \"completed\" two semester of college at a community college. By this I mean I've been enrolled in 8 classes, withdrew from 3. I worked 50+ hours every week last semester and this most recent I worked full time but had more rigorous classes.\n\nThe first semester I found out that my ASSET test from Junior high school year placed me into pre-calc so I decided to take college algebra to \"refresh\". Well, that was s mistake. Bad professor and early in the morning, withdrew. Next semester I took Pre-calc and English 102 as well as Psychology 132 and bio 181. I got behind in english and couldn't get the grade needed so another W, the tests in pre-calc NEVER matched the difficulty of the homework, eventually yet another W.\n\nThis coming semester I need to take either college algebra AND trig or pre-calc again. Asked my old pre-calc professor, she says to do the two split. \n\nMy dilemma: My parents cannot afford to pay for my college, and quite frankly neither can I. We can also not afford to do loans due to their car being leased and my car on a loan. I filled out the FAFSA and did not qualify for a pell grant. Both math choices lead to conflicts with English 102 and my computer class. Not sure what to do. I don't want to try to rush math through the summer since I \"struggled\" during a semester. ---- I want to do some kind of Software Developing or Software Engineering.", "summary": "High school didn't inform of ASSET test pre-calc placement, wasted senior year in non-algebra class. Conflicting schedule with math now, not sure I want to stay in my engineering field. don't quality for pell grant. What do you suggest, Reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_3u0nee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy [M22] I've been seeing for 8 months decides to take things slower a week ago. Now I [F23] received a missed call from him. Should I call him back?", "post": "So this guy and I have been friends since 2 years ago and I knew we always liked each other.  The only problem was that he had a long distance girlfriend at the time. Although he didn't tell me about his now ex-gf,  I found out he was in a relationship through friends.  \n\nA year later we drifted apart since he was still with his gf at the time and I had a bf (now ex). Fast forward to another year later,  we bumped into each other at a nightclub and to both our surprises,  we were both single so we started seeing each other.  \n\nIts been 8 months of seeing him and although i've been so incredibly happy,  I also started wondering when will he ever make it official.  He mentioned multiple times that he's still broken from his past relationship and doesn't want to commit yet,  but still I wanted to continue waiting till he was ready because I truly loved him and he told me he loved me too.  \n\nJust two weeks ago,  however,  he told me that we should \"turn down our feelings\"  since he's been feeling pressured into a relationship and he's not ready yet. He told me that we can still talk but we can't do anything physical which to me meant remaining as simply friends.  \n\nThat really crushed me so I decided to not talk to him till now.  He messaged me a week ago asking why I haven't replied to his messages and I told him I want some space for now. In response,  he respected that and said he's here for me.  \n\nNow,  last night I received a missed call from him.  I'm curious as to why he called and I suspect it's because he misses me.  But should I really call him back and potentially risk hearing something that'll make me sad again?", "summary": "This guy I have been seeing for 8 months doesn't want to commit to a serious relationship yet tells me he loves me.  He claims he's broken from his past still. Then two weeks ago he tells me we should tone down our feelings for another and act as friends for now. I got upset and haven't talked to him ever since.  I just received a missed call from him and I don't know if I should call him back or risk feeling depressed again."}
{"id": "t3_3ias5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] am confused if my office colleague [33 F] likes me. Should I take the risk and ask her out ?", "post": "So, I have been working in an office of one of the top MNCs for past one year and there is this beautiful girl from another team that I met six months back. We connected -- sort of -- instantly. Since she is from another team, we get the opportunity to talk only about once in a day or two. Though, the place where she sits is not very from far my cubicle and therefore, we frequently bump on each other when going for a coffee or washroom etc -- but we only greet smiles. Right from the beginning, I thought we had some chemistry building, but it didn't go anywhere, so I didn't try anything and kind of forgot about it.\n\nBut for past couple of months or so, I have observed that things are getting a little weird. Whenever I go to her desk to speak to her, she gets a little nervous. She starts acting a little weird. She will smile and then try not to look me into the eye. By the way, when talking to others she is smart and confident (shy and reserved when with herself) -- in fact that's part of her attraction.\n\nOne day, in particular, I was standing by the side of the coffee machine, and I saw her coming to the coffee machine but when she saw me, she stopped for a second, thought about it, and then moments later she turned back. All the while she didn't know I could look at her in the reflection of the glass of the coffee machine. This particular incident left me confused.\n\nThe very next day, I met her for some work, and she was as nice as always. We chatted for quite a bit, but I could still sense her nervousness. Sometimes, I also feel she will go out of her way to help me out with anything I ask for. I can feel that she gets conscious whenever I am around.", "summary": "I am at a point where I don't know what to do next. I am confused whether she actually likes me or if I am reading too much into this ? Since she is a co-worker, I don't want to mess up our working relationship if she doesn't feel the same way as I do. But then, since I like her, I don't want this opportunity to let go. What's your advise that I should do ? *"}
{"id": "t3_3g55y6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Portland ME: Can I take my mother's cat?", "post": "I am a 20 year old female, my mother is 38. She has 2 cats: Spaz, a 7yo male, and Cocoa, a 16 yo male, both neutered. She is also taking care of my cat, Simon, an 8yo neutered male. She is moving out of her apartment and going to a place that will not allow her to have her cats. I am now looking for a place for my cat to stay, and originally, I was going to take both Cocoa and Simon, and she was going to keep Spaz. Now, she has apparently changed her mind, and wants to keep Cocoa and Spaz together because they are \"bonded.\" I do not want this, because Cocoa has health problems due to being old, such as hyperthyroidism, joint and digestive issues. I know for a fact that she cannot afford to take care of Cocoa and meet his needs; it has been years since she has taken him to the vet and had him properly examined. I know that if she keeps him, his health will continue to decline and he will suffer because she barely has the money to afford food and litter for them every month, let alone medications and specialty diets. I work at a pet store and am able to get discounts on these types of things, so I know I will be able to afford to meet a senior cat's needs, whereas she cannot.\n\nMy real question is, can I take Cocoa without my mother's consent? Or do I need to get a court order? She has said she does not want me taking him, but I want to completely disregard this and take him anyways. I am pretty sure she does not have the money to take me to court or sue me over something like this, and even if she does, I can prove that with her limited income, she would not be able to provide for him properly and I am sure I would win. How do I go about this so that it works in my favor and we are ensuring that the cat goes to the best home and receives the best care?", "summary": "want to take my mother's cat because she cannot care for its medical needs."}
{"id": "t3_54gwcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my ex [18F] of 1.5 years ended it with me, and I cut contact. Hours after she posted upsetting stuff to social media, what do?", "post": "Throwaway account. So my ex broke up with me about a week ago. It was mostly my fault. I made many mistakes during the relationship and to be honest I hope she does well with her life. I am very sorry for fucking up with her. I'm now moving on too, I enjoyed what we had but it's the past now. Anyway, to the main part of why I am writing here.\n\nI had a fallout with her today. I fully blocked her afterwards. At first it seemed she was okay with this NC happening, but a few hours later she posted on social media about people hating her and how nobody would miss her if she got hit by a bus. I don't hate her. I just need a break from everything that's going on. I want to heal from this. I don't want to be selfish and I want to tell her people care. \n\nI need help reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Ex ended relationship, tried being friends, didn't work and we fell out. she seemed fine with NC, then put some saddening posts on social media. I'm confused by this. help?!"}
{"id": "t3_3vq720", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking social advice from a socially awkward friend", "post": "The fuck up happened this week and I'm still suffering. So a bit of back story to the fuck up. After starting at university I made a good friend and spent a lot of time at his dorm and became friendly with one of the girls he lives with. (nothing interesting just a little flirting) A little bit about this girl, she's a small, pretty and Northern Irish so you can't have a sexier accent. I find out a week later that she is interested in me. I thought hey lets give this a go and asked her out on a date. All goes well and she says yes but being a student I have no money so I give it a week before I take her out. Now heres where the fuck up happens, I start bragging to an old friend of mine who is socially awkward. He gives me some advice to mention the 80's to her. Now I'm not thick but I've never found history interesting so never learned about it. The next day I take my friends advice and make a joke about how I've been told to mention the 80's. I then received a message from her best friend telling me that I am not welcome at my friends dorm, my friend is not happy as his whole dorm is an awkward mess and no matter what I do I can not make it up to anyone, she is still ignoring me 3 days later so its looks like my chances went down the drain.", "summary": "A socially awkward friend suggested I mention the 80's to a Northern Irish girl i was going to be taking on a date. "}
{"id": "t3_497zvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf's(F17) best friend(F16) kissed me(M17), and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So on Friday, I went to my school's soccer team scrimage against a  rival school with a group of friends.The group consisted of my gf, me, my best friend, and her best friend. My best friend likes her friend and we are trying to get them to date. Well anyways, I went to the concession stand to get snacks for everybody. My gf's friend offered to help, so she went with me.(I would of went with my gf but she was on the phone with her dad)\n\nSo we went to get concessions but I had to use the bathroom, so she waited in the line. When I came out she wasnt in the line, I got worried and started to look for her. I checked behind the concessions and she was there. I told her I was worried and what was she doing here. She said \"awe\" and gave me a kiss(on the lips) then smiled and walked away. I was angry, confused, scared, worried, a mix of emotions.\n\nI walked back to the group without any snacks, they questioned why and I just told them they were out. The rest of the scrimmage I just snuggled with my gf. I would glance to my gf best friend and if she saw me she would smile. I didn't say anything to my gf or my best friend about her and her actions. I feel like if I don't tell my girlfriend she will eventually find out and our relationship would be ruined. And if my best friend found out he will hate me for \"taking his crush\" even though I had no intentions on it. When she kissed me, I kinda kissed back so I feel like if I do tell, she will tell my gf that I kissed her. Help!", "summary": "I went to a soccer scrimage with my group of friend(gf,me,gf best friend, my best friend). I went to get concessions and my gf best friend went with me, She kissed me and I kissed her back. I didn't tell my gf yet or my best friend.(my best friend likes my gf best friend) I feel like I am in a screwed position no matter what I choose to do. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_51ldst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] don't know how to deal with my feelings towards my closest friends [17F].", "post": "For the sake of this post, lets call my(m) friend Elise(f). I have known her for six years now. We first met in the sixth grade but really formed our relationship two years later in the eighth grade. We are both currently seniors at the same high school, but we do not see each other very often as I have opted to enter a program letting me attend college earlier.\n\nI first started liking her romantically in eighth grade but was never confident enough to act on those feelings because I was afraid of ruining my relationship with her. I have never been good at establishing solid relationships and have very large trust issues. I became extremely depressed in my freshmen and sophomore years of high school and lost many of my friends, including Elise. After hitting an extreme low I started reconnecting with a small number of friends. \n\nThis is when I discovered that Elise had gotten a boyfriend. My attraction with her has always remained present but it has become more painful for me now that she has an SO (lets call him Simon). She has a somewhat shaky relationship with Simon from what she has told me but they have remained together for the past two years. Recently she has become sexually active in the relationship and almost always lets me know of a new development within 2-3 days of it happening. She very recently had sex with Simon for the first time and it was caused me to finally look into posting something here. \n\nIt is her first romantic relationship and Simon has expressed no desire in remaining with her while she moves away to college. Regardless she wants to stay with him until he breaks up with her.\n\nI do not know if I should confess my feelings for her and let her know that I have a more romantic inclination towards her or if I should just stay quiet and remain a loyal friend. I do not believe our relationship would be extremely damaged by my revelation but I also do not know if I should take the risk.", "summary": "I am in love with a friend of six years. She is sexually active with her SO and seems to have a rather steady relationship with him. I do not know if I should express my feelings towards her or keep them hidden."}
{"id": "t3_12pzvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17m] My [17f] Girlfriend had sex at a party with another guy, should i forgive her?", "post": "We've only been going out for a month, but as cliche as this sounds we just click. Anyway she threw a party at her house on saturday night and things were going fine, i spent most of the night with her and things were a-ok. \n\nA bunch of us crashed at her place and whilst i was asleep she had drunk sex with another guy. It pisses me off knowing i was probably next door. Next morning she's acting all weird (claims she can't remember much) but she told me that she had sex with him.\n\nWhat makes it worse is that we haven't even gone that far yet.\n\nShe knows she's screwed up big time but i respect the fact she had the guts to tell me. I told her i needed some time to think about things and i want to forgive her but it'll always be in the back of my mind that she cheated on me, and it'll quite possibly happen again unless i watch her like a hawk at all times, which i really don't want to do.\n\nShe tells me she is truly sorry and that she only has feelings for me, and i can tell she's being sincere. She has a knack for f*cking things up when things are looking up for her.\n\nSo now i'm stuck here, i told her i need some time apart and i'll call her later with how I feel, but i'm just unsure if i should forgive her or not. I really like her but then again it's still really early days and if i let her go i'm sure i'd be over her reasonably quickly.", "summary": "Girlfriend had drunken sex with another guy at a party, she seems to really regret it and told me, should i forgive her or move on? Any advice/suggestions appreciated :)"}
{"id": "t3_31umgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18] want to ask out a girl I've never talked to [17], she's friend of a friend.", "post": "I have a crush on a girl sorta. I have never talked to her, but she's friends with a friend. I'm a senior in high school, she's a junior, and I want to get her number, I'll ask her in person obviously. \n\nI feel like I should ask our mutual friend first, just to see if she's single, but I don't know how to bring it up. I might be doing a study group with her (my friend, not crush) this weekend. What should I say? \"I think so-and-so is really pretty, is she seeing anyone?\"\n\nAnd how close do i need to be with said friend? I've known her since November, and she's been willing to do like 5 study groups and we'd joke around in class, but we obviously aren't super close. Also, should I ask my friend what she thinks when we're alone? I feel like it'd be a little weird in front of everyone else.\n\nIs this a normal way to ask someone out in high school? All my friends date people in their classes, I don't have her in any of mine. I've only asked out three people, one was for a dance, and another told me she liked me, so I'm kind of new at this. I just got sick of waiting around for someone and wanted to make a move, but I'm not interested in anyone I know. This girl just carries herself well, and if she's good friends with my friend, we'd probably get along fairly well, so it's not like I'm asking her only cause she's pretty. (Only kinda)\n\nSorry if this is too high school-drama-y, but I'm clueless and /r/relationships has been helpful before.", "summary": "I want to ask my friend if her friend is seeing anyone, I need advice on how to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_2x1u3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18M and my girlfriend 17F of 1.5 years have a difficult road ahead of us because of college.", "post": "We've been dating for a year and a half with a very good relationship. But long story short, we're going to college thousands of miles apart and I don't want a LDR. I've always avoided the subject before but now towards the end of senior year, the topic is coming up more frequently. \n\nShe wants to try and maintain an LDR in college but I don't want that to impede either of us from developing a new social life in college. I want to go meet new people and develop a healthy college social life and I know holding on to a doomed relationship would ruin that for me and her. \n\nWe will have to break up either way. this relationship wouldn't last a semester of long distance, and I don't want to put either of us through that. I think she's a great person and I still want to be friends but she says being friends will make it harder to let go, which I understand. I offered to still talk to her and hang out with her on breaks if she wanted to. (My brother went through the exact same situation and it helped him and his ex of 2 years maintain a friendship) \n\nHow can I make this easier for her. I know it's really hard for her because it's hard for me too, but I want her to get through this as easily as possible.", "summary": "we have to break up for college, how do I make it easier for her?"}
{"id": "t3_1o2fxd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (28/f) a post grad degree holder and he (32/m) has an associate's. Should I say 'yes.' US redditors encouraged to advise.", "post": "I'm Asian and I've lived here in Asia all my life. As such, my upbringing's overarching theme is \"education is everything.\" Both my parents grew up dirt poor like most people in my country, but they fought their way to get professional degrees and they bust themselves out of poverty. Like both my parents, I, too, went and got a law degree. In the past, I'd also exclusively dated men with post grad degrees.\n\nThen, A came. I was signed up on a dating site and A, who lives all the way in the US, won me over. He's the most amazing guy and I am attracted to him on all levels (we already met up, and I've seen all the levels), except for his being an associate's degree holder from some university. He's a vet tech.\n\nHe does have a stable job. Same job for 10 yrs. He's a scientist earning USD 3000 a month. I have no idea if that is a modest or better-than-average salary for Americans. Will appreciate some clarity on this matter too.\n\nWe're both crazy about each other and he wants to get married. I just have these ingrained notions about a 2-year degree being scoffed at, and I know it's stupid, but I'm even embarrassed to tell my parents about A's educational attainment.\n\nShould I say no to a guy who's otherwise perfect, if it weren't for my culturally-rooted bias against his associate's degree?", "summary": "refer to title"}
{"id": "t3_1e1um8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me(F-26). BF(26) may have aspergers according to psychologist.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend(26) for 8 years and we live together. He has major depression. His depression(even on meds) has been getting worse so he went to see a psychologist and now they are talking about him having aspergers or some other sort of autism and want him to meet with a psychiatrist. I'm assuming to probably test him in some way to see if he really is??\n\nEver since he saw the psychologist he is acting unlike himself, being extra analytical about everything. He's also talking in a monotone voice. \n\nHe's not talking to me about this. I'm sure he's scared and worried. I don't know what to do. \n\nHow can I help or support him? Has anyone been through this or have \nany advice for me? I am so lost.", "summary": "Boyfriend may be some sort of autistic. What am I to do to help/support?"}
{"id": "t3_2xksf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] saw a [F 26] co worker on a dating site. Bad idea?", "post": "Hi all, as the post says, saw a co worker on a dating site. We don't know each other, just recently met during a work event. We technically work in the same department, she does clerical support in our division of about 4000 people.\n\nWould it be weird to to talk to her on the dating site? A big part of me says it might, nobody wants to come off as creepy. But looking for other opinions. \n\nThe company is so large it's highly doubtful we'd ever even see other otherwise. When I met her I thought wow she's attractive, then happen to see her profile about a week later.", "summary": "should I contact an in-direct co worker of mine  on a dating site?"}
{"id": "t3_d0ygs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the craziest thing you did for love/for your significant other?", "post": "I'll share mine. \n\nMy girlfriend and I got into an absolutely huge fight one time (I forget what started it... don't you hate it when that happens?) that encompassed every single problem in our relationship. We've been together for years and this fight brought us to the verge of breaking up.\nWhile she was away, I broke into her email and Facebook (something I told her I would never do) and saw all of the conversations she had with her friends, complaining about me. I immediately made a list of every single complaint she made, and I wrote her an epically long letter (accompanied with flowers), apologizing sincerely for all of the complaints against me. I included everything she wanted to hear: all of her \"I wish he did/said this to me, I wish he'd realize this/that\" that she complained about - every. single. issue.\n\nShe said that it was the most perfect letter she has ever received from me, and it saved our relationship.", "summary": "Don't you wish all girls came with an answer key?"}
{"id": "t3_sz6hz", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "So I was eating a blueberry muffin...", "post": "...one of those huge Hostess ones, you know?\n\nAnd I realized...I didn't get ANYTHING done today. NOTHING. I spent the whole day playing games, games I didn't even like that much, just to avoid doing what I needed to do (go to the store, homework, etc.)\n\nAfter that I realized...I'm wasting my life. I just spend all day eating and procrastinating until it's time for bed, which I always put off too. I'm self-schooled with this website online where you can work at your own pace (to a degree), but I've abused that freedom and used it to play games and browse reddit instead of actually doing anything.\n\nIt's a struggle to do anything productive (school especially), I don't eat or exercise right (I\"m not fat, I'm underweight actually, but that's besides the point.), and my personal hygiene/social skills suck.\n\nWhat's worst is that I can kind of pseudo-motivate myself. I'll occasionally have spurts of motivation where I'm really active and motivated, but it's always for a very short time, and usually passes once I wake up the next day. I know what the rewards and benefits would be if I stuck to everything, but I simply cannot sustain my motivation long enough to make a lasting impact.\n\nReddit, what do I do?", "summary": "I need to change me. I can motivate myself for a short time, but never long enough to actually get anything done. Any help and advice would be most welcome."}
{"id": "t3_rrzfr", "subreddit": "books", "title": "About 8 years ago I read a book and I have no clue what the name of that book is...", "post": "(Possible Spoilers if someone is able to find the actual name of the book)\n\nIn the future 3 main powers are at war with each other. Actual wars are no longer fought but instead a virtual war is fought on a sort of hologram battlefield. There are 3 people on each team who must work together in order to beat the other teams. I believe there is a programer, a strategist, and a person who actually moves the pieces. The story follows one of the people who moves the pieces for his country and is training for the upcoming war. We are told that he was genetically selected from parents where one parent was a tennis player and a surgeon to maximize hand eye coordination. He basically lives in a virtual reality room where he can move about freely and experience whatever he likes.\n\nHe eventually is introduced to his teammates in order to start working together to train for the upcoming event. Although he can do whatever he likes inside his cube he is still somewhat restricted to the outside world and the girl knows this and is rebellious. She takes him out of his cube and shows him the outside world and some affection.\n\nThey discuss the possibility of cheating during the war and the girl basically says they will only know if you are caught.\n\nThey eventually go to the war and the main character is unsure of his abilities because he wasn't very good at getting close enough to the pieces to pick them up but far enough away to not destroy them. They win the war and he finds out that the girl had cheated during the test.\n\nNow I read this a while ago and some of the details may not be exact but I assume that my description was pretty close. If anyone has any information then please let me know.", "summary": "A genetically chosen boy fights a virtual war with 3 other people one of who cheated but isn't caught"}
{"id": "t3_4ycaiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] can't help but feel jealous about my girlfriend [19F] starting college.", "post": "Hey guys! So me and my girlfriend has been together for over a year now. \nShe recently moved away to a different city to start college, while i'm stuck at home for a while longer.  \nHer class is having this one month introduction, where they go out drinking and doing weird shit. This goes on from morning til night so we dont have time to talk. I can't help but feel abit jealous and imagine her cheating on me. The college introduction is a bit of a big makeout party. \n\nI realize i have trust issues, i couldn't trust my last girlfriend very much and she made me quite miserable. Now my current girlfriend is an actual nice person and nothing like my ex. I have trouble trusting her still.\n\nHow do you cope with this?", "summary": "Girlfriend starts college and goes binging with sexy strangers, crazy boyfriend gets jealous."}
{"id": "t3_33faff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Looking for advice on how I [16M] could get my crush/friend/prom date [17F] to actually like me/want to date me.", "post": "So I've liked this girl for quite some time (~1 year) and only recently decided to do anything about it. I got her number, we started talking/texting a lot, and finally, since the timing worked out, I decided to ask her to prom. She says yes, everything is going well, and we even decide to go out on a date (at least, I would call it a date) before the dance, and after that she even suggests we do it again if there's time. \n\nYesterday I decided to propose the idea of dating after prom. She tells me that she isn't really interested in me like that, likes me as a friend, yadda, yadda, yadda, you know the story. The \"friendzone\" as it is not-so-affectionately named. \n\nAny advice on what I should do from here? The dance is coming up on Friday, so any advice relevant to that would be great, but I'd appreciate general advice as well.", "summary": "I like this girl, asked her to prom, she said yes, I suggested dating afterwards, got friendzoned."}
{"id": "t3_1er8hq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I'm at a loss as what to do and I need some passport advice.", "post": "I'm 18, I've been in the UK for 8 years now, born in Zimbabwe. My family lost our passports about 4 years ago and as a result of bad organisation, we've apparently overstayed our visa, meaning I can't be a British Citizen for another 6 years.\n\n I can't apply for university or get a job. I've kind of been in limbo since I left school and I'm just sick of doing nothing and I want my life to start. I have a Zimbabwean birth certificate, which is pretty much useless as a form of identity in terms of getting a job as it has my mother's last name from a previous marriage. And she's unwilling to help confirm the name change. \n\nI was dependant on my parents sorting out my passport, but they're unwilling to help me. I'm facing being kicked out of the house and I need to get a job going so I can have something to fall back on. Any idea's/advice?", "summary": "I'm 18, being kicked out of my parents house, not a British national and struggling to get my passport sorted as my family lost my original Zimbabwean passport. Need to fix this asap in order to get my life on track."}
{"id": "t3_2ifstb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [28F] and I [27M] have been dating for six months, she has yet to tell her parents about us.", "post": "Neither of us live with our parents, and to be fair my gf's parents live abroad (Dublin, we live in London), but she speaks to them regularly (at least once weekly) and has never brought it up in conversation.  \n\nAbout a month ago they rang early on the morning of her birthday and I was out of the room, when I came back in she silently made a \"ssssh!\" gesture and after the call I found out she hadn't told them because she would like to do it in person. I was fine with it as I'm not particularly close with my parents (visit in person roughly once a month) but I had at least mentioned to them about meeting this girl I really liked.  \n\nLast week she got back from visiting her parents and in the car home from the airport we were discussing her stay (7 days) and in passing I asked if she'd told them about us, and she still hadn't.  \nI sort of brushed it off and just continued asking questions about her trip, there wasn't any real awkwardness over it or anything and the rest of the journey was cool. Later that night she told me that she would tell them about us next time she saw them in person, which is in a few weeks for a surprise visit for their wedding anniversary.  \n\nShe lives with her older sister who is obviously aware of our relationship but they're very respectful of each other's privacy and her sister wouldn't have told their parents behind my girlfriend's back.  \n\nIs this a sign that she doesn't think this relationship will last?", "summary": "girlfriend of 6 months returned from visiting her parents, hasn't mentioned to them about our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3ctqsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [220 M] with my girlfriend [20 M/F], she has no life other than me and work and it's killing me", "post": "We've been together for a while, I'm technically unemployed but looking for a job, I've just come out of uni like last month.\n\nShe's had a job for about 6months, she doesn't really go out, even with the work lot, she just cant be bothered, she gets too tired and going out isnt really for her... this leads to the problem where she wants to be with me 24/7. I have my own friends, who I would do anything for, I can honestly say I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for them, let alone graduating uni. I have my family and I'm looking for jobs and have very limited money until I get one. \n\nShe always whines when I'm not there, and wants to be with me 24/7 and it feels very suffocating. she has a few friends, not many, but doesnt really see them or go out that much. I do encourage her, to go out with work lot (they go out quite often) but she doesn't bother, is too tired or makes up some excuse. I encourage her to have a hobby or sport or see friends or go home and see friends, but she makes it seem like it's a personal attack or I don't want to be with her.\n\nI do try to do things with her, shopping, dates, cinema, my passions and interests and try new things, again most the time she cant be bothered to actually go out. I get she's tired but it feels really close and she's on top of me sort of thing\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "girlfriend has no other life but me and her work, I do try to encourage going out and doing hobbies and sports but she always has an excuse. It feels very suffocating to me."}
{"id": "t3_3oo1mm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help me with plans to sell starter home in seven or so years.", "post": "This past summer my wife and I bought our first home, we had a very unusual mortgage process that I can go into more detail if anyone is interested, but essentially we put down about 5% for a convential loan and then, due to a banking mishap, don't have to pay PMI. Looking forward, our original plan was to live in this house for five-ten years until we had a couple kids then we'd theoretically sell and \"move up\". \n\nMy real question, the frugal saver mentality in me wants to pay extra money to the house principal as quickly as possible in order to reduce overall payments, but we don't expect to be in this loan in ten years. (A note, we don't have any other debts and pay off our credit statements each month, so there isn't any other debt we'd need to pay down, the question would be whether we should be socking away everything into traditional savings rather than principal payments.)\n\nIs there a sweet spot we would want to hit for loan to value when we go to sell our first home and upgrade? Right now we are at 94.4%, and looking at amortization calculators I feel like we should put extra toward that to get it down so that we actually get money back when we sell the home.\n\nI apologize that this is somewhat rambly and confusing,", "summary": "a first time homeowner wanting to look toward the future, since I put very little down on our first home do I need to try and pay down that loan if we plan to upgrade in five to ten years?"}
{"id": "t3_eu8di", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you learned in 2010?", "post": "As this year comes to a close, I can't help but look back and think of all that this year has taught me.  A few philosophical realizations:\n\nSome people move forward for the sole reason of running from something. \n\nSome people want you to have a job making six-figures because they think you will be happy when in reality you just want a minimum wage job and friends who care for you.  \n\nEach and every single person on Earth is a god in their own right, the problem though is that few have realized it.  \n\nGirls don't know what they want in a guy sometimes because the guy doesn't know what he wants in a girl. \n\nRandom things I have learned:\n\nRave parties are sweet no matter how large they are.\n\nNot all drugs are deadly and most yield some pretty good times. \n\nLate nights playing TF2 with online friends are just as fun as playing another game with a room full of people, and often TF2 is a bit more fun.\n\nSuper Meat Boy FTW.\n\nA house in the mountains of Canada, a job as a lumberjack, a wife and kids that love me, a dog, a nice guitar, and books, poetry, and music sound like the perfect life to me.  \n\nThat's a short list of what I've learned and how I feel on things.  So Reddit, what have you learned this past year?", "summary": "I learned some interesting things this year, did you?"}
{"id": "t3_3k1hjq", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Buying my first property (a duplex/2-family home)", "post": "Well, I decided to take the plunge and purchase a 2-family home. I put in an offer and it was accepted. My loan is going to be going to underwriting soon!\n\nOne of the units is occupied by a long term tenant (5+ years) and I will be occupying the other unit with a couple of buddies. I've lived with these guys before so I know that they are responsible and will have a great deal of respect for my property.\n\nI just wanted to get advice on how I should budget for repairs and other expenses, tips on how to increase the value of the property, and any pitfalls that aren't commonly thought of when buying an investment property.", "summary": "Buying a 2-family home. Looking for advice on budgeting and any other words of wisdom. First time home buyer."}
{"id": "t3_32jgwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my SO[29 M] together 5 years, SO has female BFF- jealousy warranted or not?", "post": "My SO and I have been together in a romantic relationship for 5 years and in that time there has been some drama regarding his female best friends, where they have ended up wanting to be more than just friends. \n\nThis hasn't been a huge problem in the past few years we have been together, but over the past year he has made a new female BFF. I really don't want to be the jealous girlfriend or assume that history will repeat itself but I can't help myself.\n\nPreviously with the friends that wanted more it was really obvious to me but not obvious to him. He can be really unaware of when people are flirting and he doesn't see how sometimes things he says attempting to be a good friend could come across as encouragement. \n\nI know there is nothing going on between him and his current female BFF but that doesn't mean the fear of being burned doesn't make me a bit jealous/paranoid. How do you keep paranoia and jealousy in check? How can I bring up these feelings with him without coming across as paranoid? I don't want to be the type of person who looks through their SO phone, but how can I trust him to know where to draw the line when he hasn't done it well in the past?", "summary": "SO has past of emotional cheating with female BFFs, has new female BFF. How can I manage jealousy and give him the benefit of the doubt?"}
{"id": "t3_wka5r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone stay in your apartment for rent without signing a lease?", "post": "My Mom rented our upstairs studio type apartment to a 19 year old (let's call her Susan). Susan said her Dad died 2 months ago and that she was getting Social Security (IDK what the details are but I'm guessing she may be a beneficiary for her [most likely senior citizen] Dad. She apparently has nothing to do with her Mom or something.\n\nMy Mom felt bad for her and said that she would do a background check on Susan. But in reality my Mom had already made up her mind about having her stay with us and didn't bother to check the background check.\n\nShe moved in right away without signing the lease. When my mother presented the lease it had things like \"no people sleeping over, no smoking etc.\" just a bunch of weird shit like that because she constantly had people sleeping over. Susan took the lease and said she would give it to my Mom the next day. The next day Susan said she lost it so my Mom gave Susan another one. The day after that she said she didn't want to sign it because she didn't agree with it and said she was going to move out a month after that day (August 5th).\n\nWith payments she has excuses like \"I forgot to go to the bank\" or \"I got robbed\". Though, she does pay just not the price they spoke about. \n\nWhen my Mom asked about when she was leaving, Susan sounded reluctant. But I digress, so can she stay here without signing the lease?\n\n**In our state if a tenant refuses to sign the lease, but the owner of the place DOES sign then the lease is as good as if the tenant signed it.", "summary": "Mom had apartment for rent. Rented it to a 19 year old. Didn't sign the lease because 19 year old doesn't agree with it."}
{"id": "t3_z2xfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (23/f) get over this situation when I have to see him (24/M)?", "post": "My post \"Was it him or me?\" ( will give some background information into my situation. I dated a guy for four months with whom I work (terrible idea, I know). While we dated, I always felt second best to his friends. What should have been a time for us to build a foundation, he was constantly with his friends and now, I believe that he's dating someone who is mutual friends with his female best friend as well as his ex-girlfriend and, therefore, he's landed himself in his ideal situation. When we spent time together, we got along great, were affectionate, and he had everything going for him. I just felt like I was an outsider to his life.", "summary": "Dated a guy for four months I work with. He has apparently moved on. I, on the other hand, am so upset by this realization that he is dating within his friendship circle. I feel like I was never given a fair chance and I wish I knew why. How can I stop wondering, stop caring, and get on with my life - despite still seeing him frequently."}
{"id": "t3_32myyl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Working out", "post": "This is my first ever post on reddit so I don't really know how things go or how imgur really works, but I'll give it a shot: The first image is of me in January 2015 of about 176 lbs while the 2nd picture is of me of just about 176 lbs but after working out since mid-February. \nI guess you could say I'm fishing for comments, but I sort of want to know other peoples' opinion of whether I changed or not. The past couple of months have been brutal to me and I merely need assurance. With this, I could hopefully tell myself, no matter how far my goal seems, or how the little the change is from week to week or month to month, to - keep going. Thank you guys for listening!", "summary": "Gained muscle, some opinions of before and after would be appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_2srruj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] 2 years, was long distance, moved to her country, now she is talking about working abroad", "post": "I met my girlfriend when I did a semester abroad, we both liked each other but not much happened before I returned to my home country. She visited me the next year in the summer, we spent a few weeks traveling and the a few more weeks in my Country. She returned to her country and we decided to go long distance, it was definitely very difficult. For Christmas that year I came to visit her, then the next summer she came to me again and then I returned to her in November and started job hunting. I found a job but had to return home to wait for my residence visa to be approved.\n\nSince then she has started spending time looking for work abroad, she would really like to work in L.A. or Spain or Italy. Her work abroad would be from 3 - 5 months (her choice) and will take place in ~1.5 years. For me this is not acceptable, I planned on moving to her country just to be with her and now she is talking about spending 1/3 of a year away from me. She has also been talking about spending time traveling alone this summer. Since I will be busy working she wants to take time off and see Europe on her own.\n\nI just find it really unfair as I have moved away from my family and my friends (I do have 4-5 friends in her country although I have not spoken to them as much since my exchange was completed.) and spent so much time looking for a job there. She keeps saying that she wants to have experiences while she is still young, I on the other hand want something serious and stable.", "summary": "Moved to Girlfriends country to be with her now she wants to work abroad for a few months."}
{"id": "t3_26hneg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] dating 7months, great relationship,but her sister is very hurtful, what can i do?", "post": "me, 17\n\ngirlfriend, 18\n\nsister, 15\n\nsister2, 17\n\njust to clarify, we were both virgins before we met, lost it to each other after 2 months of dating\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, everything has been going great, but since the beginning my girlfriends sister(15) has always hated me, telling my girlfriend not to date me, not to lose her virginity to me, and to NEVER marry me. Before my girlfriend I have never even known about this sister, but she always makes hurtful comments towards me. Her parents love me, we all get along great.\n\nSome examples of what her sister has done/ said to me are as such\n\n-she once pushed one of her friends into me\n\n-asking why i always come over\n\n-telling me to stop coming over\n\n-complains about everything i do with my girlfriend(instead of going to prom, my girlfriend and i thought that we should go on a weekend trip together, and her parents gave us permission. But of course her sister starts to get involved and telling how we should go because all we want to do is have sex)\n\n-even when i do favors for her she complains (pick her up from the mall with her friend and she complains that it was with my fathers pickup)\n\nmost recent example was today when her family friends came to visit and my parents went out of town for the long weekend so i was stuck home alone, and her parents told my girlfriend to invite me, but her sister instantly said \"oughhh why the hell should he come?!? It would ruin everything\"\n\nI have told my girlfriend many of times, and she has talked to her sister before, but her sister never seems to change.\nMy question is, Should I confront her sister outright and tell her how it makes me feel, or should i just ignore her?", "summary": "= girlfriends sister constantly being a bitch to me even though i have never done a single thing wrong to her. what should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_yrmq9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone experienced something simlilar to this, or maybe have a suggestion...?", "post": "My husband (38) and I (27) have been together since 2005, and married 4 years this September. We have had our share of drama and through it all we've somehow managed to stay together. \n\nWe have two kids (3 and 1), and before we had kids out sex life was decent, at least we were having sex.  Its been a year since we had our son, and our sex life has almost disappeared.\n\nI feel like I'm trying everything I can think of to get any intimacy out of him. He acts like I'm asking him to fly to the moon and back when I ask him if we can have any kind of intimacy. Literally acts like it's a huge inconvenience or something. And when I finally can get sex out of him it literally is so boring and unenjoyably that it's a huge disappointment. Nothing new, same position, wham bam thank you mam, no foreplay, barley even kisses me. Half the time he's literally just lying there and I'm doing all the work for him to finish and me left with a serious WTF?\n\nI'm lost at what to do cuz the thing I think about most is getting someone on the side to do what he isn't and that's the last thing I want to do since I am still very much in love and attracted to him in every way.\n\nSo I guess reddit, my question is\u2026 has anyone experienced something like this and is there anything out there that I could try to make things different?", "summary": "husband seems to be or has been going through some sort of depression, has a complete loss of sex drive, leaving me frustrated\u2026In desperate need of some tips, advice, and suggestions before I do something incredibly stupid."}
{"id": "t3_3cc3vm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21 F] cheated on me [23 M] with my father [54 M]. Do I cut my dad off or try to forgive him?", "post": "We have been together for over a year. \n\nMy girlfriend and father last week set me down to tell me they had a week long affair a couple months ago. They only had sex three times they said, and after the third time they say they both felt extremely guilty and mortified at their actions. They've been wanting to tell me since then but didn't have the hearts. I always knew they got on well, they bonded over many shared interests, but I never saw this coming. \n\nI feel completely sick. I haven't eaten hardly anything since they told me. I haven't officially broken up with her yet, but it is obvious as I haven't responded to any of the texts/calls she's sent. When they first told me and after it had sank in, I left and haven't said a word to anyone outside of work since. I've been a total ghost to my whole family and friend group.\n\nMy dad and I are very close. For my whole life I have looked up to him. He and my mom divorced when I was a teenager but they have been very friendly to each other which made the process so much easier. I want to forgive my dad. But if my girlfriend had cheated on me with another person, I would easily cut them both off. And in a weird way my dad has hurt me so much more by doing this than she has. I could get over a cheating girlfriend. But my relationship with my father, a relationship I cherished, is destroyed. And it's his fault.\n\nMy question is this: Should I forgive my father? How can I forgive him? Should I tell my mom or brother? Would I be cruel for completely cutting him off which is what my heart it telling me to do?", "summary": "My girlfriend and dad had sex three times and felt so bad they told me"}
{"id": "t3_4oetae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my girlfriend [29 F] of 6 Months, I go cold after honeymoon phase. What is wrong with me?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI'm using a throwaway for the usual reasons.\n\nOn paper, I'm in a healthy relationship with a great woman.  I can't think of a single issue to complain about.  She's cute, understanding, caring, and willing to compromise.  The problem is that the honeymoon phase for me is over, and I'm less enthused about things (physically and emotionally).  \n\nThis is a running pattern for me, but in the past the girl I am with has always had some sort of deal-breaker issue that convinced me that my distancing was simply a natrual reaction to that issue.  This time, however, there's no deal-breaker, yet here I am becoming disinterested anyway.\n\nBy disinterested I mean both physically and emotionally.  Interest in physical intimacy with her has decreased substantially.  Sex still occurs regularly, but I find myself actually hoping it doesn't happen 50% of the time. Hugs and kisses are routine, but don't make me feel anything.  Sometimes if she hugs me from behind, I clam up and involuntarily pull away before I catch myself and hug back. \n\nEmotionally, I just don't have much of a desire to connect anymore.  Talks about the future give me anxiety.  I look forward to the days when her schedule prevents her from using her phone for long periods of time.\n\nJust seeing what I'm writing makes me feel like a selfish jerk.  But on the outside I'm actively trying not to show these things.  People say that \"relationships are work\" and I'm trying to do a good job, so to speak.  But at what point does the unenjoyable aspect of the work taint everything else?  Should one just keep working at it, especially when the partner seems like she is worth it?  Am I doomed to a life of serial short-term monogamy, or are these signs that I'm just not finding the right person?", "summary": "After the honeymoon phase, I cool down to the point of disinterest in the relationship.  Why is this happening when I'm with a great woman?"}
{"id": "t3_2n1le8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf[27 F] of 8 months, broke up. she tried to kill herself and wants me back. i still love her and need advise", "post": "i broke up with my girlfriend on monday. she moved in with me ( i still live at home with my mother ) she didnt have a good relationship with her parents and had no one else but me. but she was constantly insecure and had her fears. \n\ni broke up with her because she couldn't keep the things i trusted her with between us. she talked to my brothers wife about some of my deepest secrets.  i couldn't take this any more and broke up, right after it on the same day, she took 60 pills and tried to kill herself.\nthank god she is oke now. \n\nshe moved in with her parents 2 days ago but we still talk to eachother. i cant stop missing her and somehow i don't know if i made the right choice of breaking up with her. my family and her family do not want to see us two together after what has happend. \n\nDeep down i am hoping that now she is changed and if i give her a second shot things will be different. i do love her, but my mind tells me that its a destrusctief relationship. i dont know what to do and i hope you guys can help me out here. thank you", "summary": "i broke up with my ex,  i miss her even thought she is depressief and tried to kill herself, should i get back with her?."}
{"id": "t3_3a3575", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [19 M] is considering a big move. Do I [17 F] encourage him to go?", "post": "I'm going to school on the east coast in the fall and, because of hardships, my boyfriend is potentially facing having to move to California. He has a good friend that lives there and will let him stay with him indefinitely. I'm not at all concerned about loyalty, but the distance scares me.\n\nWe've been dating for 7 months, and know that we're the ones for each other. 5 months of that has been spent in a long distance relationship, about 4 hours apart, so an ldr isn't new to us.\n\nHe's determined to find some way to stay near me, but I think California could be good for him.", "summary": "Do I encourage him to go, or be selfish and ask him to stay?"}
{"id": "t3_29g2er", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my new no-label relationship [30 M] 1-month, she's gone home on holiday and hasn't called.", "post": "I've been 'dating' a new girl for around a month now. She's danced around labels and hasn't called us boyfriend and girlfriend. But, she's said we're exclusive. \n\nShe's now gone home for 10-days for her birthday. She'll spend most of the time with her family, but I know she'll meet a one of her best friends, who she was in an open relationship with. Before she went away, we made love and exchanged our first ILU's,  but she also expressed that she needed to think about things.\n\nSince she's gone we've texted back and forth, but she hasn't called and said that it's awkward to skype. I'm a little insecure about not knowing what she's doing or what she's really thinking and while I'm keeping busy, it's hard to get her out of my mind.\n\nIt's hard to go from speaking almost everyday, to the odd text message. Shouldn't you want to maintain the relationship even if you're away?There's almost a week left, how can I get through this?", "summary": "No-label relationship on holiday. Obsessing."}
{"id": "t3_2a4zou", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The hardest decision I've made", "post": "It's going to be nearly impossible to get over her, but I know that this is for the best. When we first started talking I told her I wanted to be just friends and see where it goes and she agreed. After a few weeks I couldn't help but think of her in a different way though. She's an amazing person, we share the same values and she has best sense of humor out of anyone I've ever met. I thought she might be feeling the same way so I told her how I felt and she said we should still stay friends. I tried for weeks and it was just tearing me up inside. Tonight I told her I can't continue to talk to her. I know it's still going to hurt for awhile, but sometimes you have to look out what's best for you.\n\nHas anyone else went through something similar lately? I could use a friend to keep me occupied.", "summary": "Told a girl we should just be friends, started to like her and then she told me the same thing and now we're not talking."}
{"id": "t3_1pdaj4", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Yeah fuck you too big sis.", "post": "Long time reader, first time poster and boy do I have stories I want to post.\n\nOk so some background: My sister is 1 and a half years older than me and she is so fucking annoying to say the least. She would continously tell me about herself and annoy me to hell (which I think would be a refuge from her) but if I did it she would just sulk and either go tell my mum or just downright piss me off even more. She thinks she is a princess and im her peasant, she always plays the 'im older than you so you have to respect me card' which I have no trouble with until she comes into my room and takes anything she wants to keep it without asking. Blah blah blah more shit about her. To the offense.\n\nI got home yesterday before her which I always do and instead of what I usually do (mucking around and just going on reddit) I started my work straight away and whenever I do homework (im in my last year and need to get my shit together) I listen to music. Well, my sister on this particular evening comes home and obviously not being able to get my attention she called me. Ok no problem, she always leaves me outside for a few minutes while she finishes her shitty make up or whatever. I go to open the door and say im sorry I didnt hear because I had my earphones on and she just lights UP. I mean nostrils flaring fire type. Telling me about how stupid I am and how im a dick etc. Ok sis, you fucked up. Hard. \n\nRevenge. Oh so sweet revenge. My sister absolutely HATES whistling and any forms of it. Hey sis, wouldnt it be a shame if I followed you around whistling and camped outside your room till my head got dizzy and my lips hurt? Yeah. I did. And thats not all, I left my phone in there with the app that lets out a high pitch noise just low enough to not be able to know its there or find it but high enough to piss you off so much you cant sleep.", "summary": "Yo fuck you, I did this on my phone you better not try to take a shortcut."}
{"id": "t3_250s98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my BF [22 M] 10 year very close friendship, 2 year dating, How do you know when you're finally done?", "post": "At what point do you finally stop feeling guilty for \"giving up?\" Every time I get to this point of wanting it to just be over, I feel bad for giving up on my end of the commitment. But then I immediately feel like I hate myself for settling. Or selling myself short. Or dealing with things I know will not change. Reddit, I'm tired of not being happy. I want to be able to walk away...but we are so dependent on each other, I don't even know what life without each other would be like after 10 years. \n\nI hate myself for becoming so dependent on someone.", "summary": "How do you know when you're finally ready to walk away? If you feel guilty for trying, does that mean you're not ready?"}
{"id": "t3_25kidv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] few months, Is it a huge problem if she has been with many more partners than me?", "post": "I went into the situation knowing that she has been with many more partners than me in our lives, and whenever she talks about past sexual experiences I always feel a little weird.\n\nI told her it bothers me and she no longer discusses past partners at all but I know for a fact she has been with more than she can even remember with all sorts of horrible men. \n\nIt seems like we cannot even go out in our small town without running into someone she has had sex with. I have had sex with only about 7 people in my life. \n\nAm I being shallow or is it normal for me to feel a little uncomfortable when she discusses a ton of past experiences with people I know?", "summary": "Girlfriend has ben with a lot of people/should I feel weird?"}
{"id": "t3_s5piy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "May have friend zoned on accident.", "post": "Last week I asked a girl I had seen around my campus to a formal ball and she said yes. I ask her if she wants to do something Monday night and we end up talking for about 2 hours, head into downtown to a bar and talk some more. Later on in the night we went to a club and danced and had a good time. I really felt like her and I just clicked. No awkward pauses and smiles all around. We stayed out until four in the morning. The next day I ask if she wanted to do something and she said she was going out with some friends, no big deal. The she asks, via text, if I am trying to be more than friends. Now, the night before I leaned in for a kiss and she turned her head and didn't want a kiss. So, I figure she isn't interested in anything more than just friendship and I say \"No, I only want to be friends, sorry if it came off differently.\"\nShe says sorry for coming off differently as well. I feel like I should have said yes, I am looking for something more than friends but i over-thought and just said no. I new feel like things will be awkward when we head to the ball on Friday, especially since we got along really well. How do I fix this situation?", "summary": "Went out with a girl, she asked if I was trying to be more than friends and I said no. I should've said yes."}
{"id": "t3_1gx40l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[28M] girl's[23F] parents are overbearing. What's the right way to be supportive?", "post": "My girl and I have been seeing each other for a couple months, and the connection we have is ridiculous. She's dealing with a lot of different mental issues, heavy anxiety, adhd, and when she's stressed, she gets a little snippy and distant, but it doesn't matter to me, I can handle it just fine, and as far as I'm concerned, she's worth it.\n\nThe problem is her parents put an undue amount of stress on her. They take most of her paycheck, she's got a curfew, they constantly call to check up on her, and control most every aspect of her life. They're emotionally constricting to her, and she often needs to lie to hang out with me. When she's honest about what she's doing, they tell her no, and won't give a reason behind it. Just no. The one time she got a reason, it was because \"I'm too inside her comfort zone.\" First off, I don't get how a new boyfriend, and hanging out with a new crew, could be considered inside her comfort zone. Secondly, considering what she's going through, inside her comfort zone is where she needs to be. I get the feeling they don't trust my intentions, but meeting them is out of the question right now. The one time she broke curfew, she was called a whore, among other things.\n\nIt's a lot of stress for her, and right now, she says I'm worth it, but we agreed that if it became too much stress for her to deal with, we'd seperate. I don't want it to get to that point, but she doesn't see any way out of her situation, and right now neither do I. \n\nSo reddit, what are we to do? And how do I be supportive when there isn't anything to do?", "summary": "Amazing girl has controlling parents that make it hard for us to hang out. How do I ease her tension when they get on her case?"}
{"id": "t3_28fg73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] moved to a new country and met a [26 F] a few days ago. I like her as a friend but I can see she's really into me...", "post": "I moved to Brazil 2 months ago. I've been working a lot without any time to go out so I don't have many friends or contacts yet. \nI went out on my own for the first time some days ago and met this girl at a party and we really got along, although nothing happened so far. I like her enough, and I might have led her to believe I really want something to happen, but I know if something does happen it won't go past a couple of times. On the other hand, I feel she could be an excellent potential friend, and I don't really want to spoil that. She's also visibly very into me, we text each other every day (she starts it most of the times) and she's been to my place the day after meeting me. And it's easy to feel the vibe. Nothing happened when she was at my home because I was insecure whether to move forward for these very reasons. I fear she can become hooked and hurt her. But there's a huge tension and I feel the next time we see each other either something must happen or it will get really weird. I'd love to hear your thoughts Reddit, this is really troubling me.", "summary": "Unsure whether to initiate action with a girl I just met and became really close with, without anything physical happening yet."}
{"id": "t3_f3aky", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Since the arrival of a new dog, our older dog pees everywhere. Help?", "post": "We have two dogs. One is seven, the other is one. Since the arrival of the younger pup, our older dog has decided he wants to mark his territory and has been peeing inside on all the furniture multiple times per day. We have never had this problem before... Training him as a puppy was effortless.     \n      \nNow none of our methods are effective. No matter what we do, he finds a way to pee inside. Even if we watch him like a hawk in the room, he'll straight up pee in front of us.     \n    \nHe is not neutered, and the vet has told us this is our only hope in terms of making the accidents go away. We aren't really comfortable with doing this to him now that he's older, so as it stands, it's our last resort.     \n     \nSuggestions would be amazing! Anybody experience the same problem? Thanks!", "summary": "Since the arrival of a new dog, our older dog pees everywhere. What can we do, besides neuter him, to make this stop?"}
{"id": "t3_4rkk9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 30M have difficulty with retroactive jealousy with my 30F wife.", "post": "Im in a great relationship married for 3 years with someone who is absolutely incredible to me. She's beautiful, understanding, and 100% committed. However, I cant seem to get over the fact that shes been with 3x as many partners as I have. I know she would never cheat and she told me because she trusts me, but thats not the issue. The issue is that I just cant seem to stop obsessing over it. It feels emotionally like she cheated on me even though she had no idea who I was at the time of her activity. This is completely my issue due to insecurity but I don't know how to approach it. I've tried all the simple things like \"think from her perspective\" and all that but it doesnt seem to block the imagery or stop the thoughts. I don't want to lose someone so perfect over my own issues. I feel like im always looking for something to bring me down and I wont just let myself be happy", "summary": "my insecurities are leading me to be jealous of my wifes past sexual partners and its hurting our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2xnbn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] am arguing with my girlfriend[24F] of a few years over changing her sons [4] last name when we get married. Am I wrong?", "post": "Basically she has a 4 year old, his dad is barely in the picture. When he is in the picture it's because he sees the kid every other weekend, or the mom is complaining about him in some way. He's always high, his girlfriend has abused the son etc. Basically we are making plans to get married, and she doesn't know if she wants to change her sons last name (It's currently her maiden name) stating that it's unfair for the dad since he's \"still in the picture\", could be confusing for the kid, and that none of his medical records will match his last name. She also states that at the end of the day he's not mine. (The last one hurt the most considering she's talked since day 1 about how she wants me to fill that role one day).\n\nMy reasoning for changing it is because I feel like keeping it as her maiden name is kind of a scapegoat in case something goes wrong (she won't have to change it back, won't have to explain why it's changed etc), his dad is going to continue being the same person he is regardless of the childs last name, if anything he may leave the picture and that will only help the child. And that when/if we do have more children, having one with a different name is even MORE confusing than changing it when he's 4, and it'll only separate him from any kids we do have. Also it separates him from me, in terms of parenthood. If something like \"he's not yours\" gets thrown in my face, how can I be expected to be a part of his life as a parent figure?", "summary": "Getting married, girl has child, I want the child to have my last name and eventually be adopted if possible, want to be a part of the childs life as a parent figure. Girlfriend doesn't want to change his name"}
{"id": "t3_1hqabp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24M] with my GF [19F] Having doubts about our 8 month relationship.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl M for a little over 8 months, and I dont know if I'm overreacting or not. Things had been going really well (We had are disagreements sure, but nothing that I would consider major) when she came over and said that she was having doubts about our relationship. She said that when she is out with her friends that sometimes she wishes she was single so she could do whatever at the parties that she goes to. Further compounding the issue is that she really doesn't want me going to any parties with her because she thinks that I'd would ruin them by breathing down her neck, despite me telling her otherwise.\n\nShe swears that she loves me still and doesn't want to hurt me, but she is afraid that she is missing out on part of her life by having a serious relationship when practically none of her friends have one. I believe that she does love me, but I'm also afraid that I'm just setting myself up to be hurt.\n\nI really do love this girl. I've been in much longer relationships than this one and I cant recall ever feeling this way about a girl prior to her. What should I do? My approach has been to let her do what she wants  because I trust her. I also know that alcohol can make people do things that they never thought the would do. I don't know that I could just break up with her to be honest, but I just want some help trying to figure this out.", "summary": "My girlfriend sometimes wishes she was single when she's at parties and doesn't want me coming with her to the parties because she's afraid I would spoil her fun."}
{"id": "t3_3yswzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm trying to overhaul my life and I (21F) worry I won't have time for my boyfriend (21M)", "post": "So, recently I had an epiphany where I realized I wasn't getting the most out of life that I wanted.  My time management skills have always been poor, so I decided to write myself a schedule for my next semester in college.  There are lots of things I want to make time for, such as working out, writing in my journal, reading for pleasure, making a friend or two, etc.  I also have existing commitments such as classes, my part time job, volunteering, and clubs.  It's a lot.  \n\nMy schedule as it stands has zero time for me to spend with my boyfriend of 3 years, except on weekend evenings.  My boyfriend said he supports my new goals and will give me all the space I need, but this is honestly making me sad.  I'm used to spending all my free time with him.  We'd eat together, do homework together, laze around and watch netflix together, etc.  But I can't do that anymore.  I have the MCAT coming up, and other commitments.  Still, I feel like I'm going to feel so lost without the company of my best friend.  \n\nHow do I create an effective balance for all these things in my life without hurting myself or my boyfriend?  I want us to still have quality time together.  I'm not worried about sex or anything (we have an established 'sex date' once a month) but I am worried about just missing him.  Should I just suck it up?", "summary": "Trying to schedule everything important in my life and it involves spending a lot less time with my boyfriend, which is making me sad."}
{"id": "t3_1mpyth", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My results are showing.", "post": "5'7\" F SW: 190ish CW: 151 GW: 125", "summary": "I eat cleanly, avoid breads for the most part and I eat often. "}
{"id": "t3_2lnefn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] Her ex 3 years is back in the picture [27 F]", "post": "Correction in title - [27F] lol\ni am in a long distance 'dating' relationship with a girl. She was introduced to me by sisters friends. We been talking for about 6 weeks everyday. Alot of texting and few phone calls each at least hour long+. We connected immediately. Everything was smooth. She was very affectionate and fun to talk to. But Last week , she got her dog back from her ex of 3 years. I never asked much about her previous relationship. I told her I dont care about those things. I care about the present. I just praised her ex for being generous enough to give her dog back since they broke up (summer). But Within that time frame, I felt something was a little amiss. She still reach out and we talked but her affection was mostly gone. So we talked about it and today, and I found out that her ex is back in her life. I send her a text saying that \" I am happy that she is honest with me and that I admire that. but I do wish I was closer to her'. ( I am in Texas, she is Maryland)\nanyways, as much as it sucks, it was fun. can't argue with that. I wish there was more, but I understand my predicament. I am not there . Ex is there and making contact and if she is having any doubt or lingering or confused feelings, there is not much I can do except offer her support. I know my hands are tied. I will end up conversation with that and if she reaches out, we will talk . If not, at least she knows, I admire that she was truthful with me .", "summary": "she was acting different last week. I found out that Ex is making contact and she seems confused."}
{"id": "t3_4gnf5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] and my husband [28M] are trying for a baby. Both have low sex drives. I'm always the one who initiates", "post": "We'll have been married for a year next month. Things were hot and heavy when we first got together but when the relationship got serious, the sex dwindled, as it often does. We've discussed it many times, just to make sure that the other is satisfied and happy with the amount of sex we have. We're both fine with it because we both have lower-than-average sex drives. It would only be an issue if we had different levels. So we're content with sex 1-2 times a fortnight.\n\nSince September of last year we decided to start trying for a baby. We hoped it would be pretty instantaneous, but alas, I'm still not pregnant. So within a couple of months we decided that we needed to tackle this head on and have sex every other day to give ourselves the best chance of getting pregnant. Since then, 99% of the time, it's me who initiates the sex.\n\nHe works full time doing a job that's hard work (mentally, not physically). I'm a housewife. It's that reason that I've been content to be the sex-initiator as one of my housewifely duties, but this is starting to feel like the 1940s :(. I fully understand that his day has been way harder than mine and that he's tired when he gets home. \n\nYou may be wondering whether he really wants kids? He does. Big style. He's always wanted kids and he can't wait to have them. I'm the one that took a bit of convincing in the early days.\n\nSo, I was wondering what others thought about me being the one who always initiates sex, especially when it's for our future child, whom he wants so badly, or am I being selfish and should just continue to get on with it because he works full time and I don't?", "summary": "Husband really wants kids. We both have low sex drives. I'm always the one who initiates sex so we can hopefully conceive. He works full time. I'm a housewife. Am I being selfish by being a bit miffed?"}
{"id": "t3_3f7251", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Leaving a partnership without contract", "post": "It's a tech company in Ontario, Canada, composed of just a few people. I or any other member never signed the partnership agreement as it is still being worked on. My role is quite key in the company as one of a few programmers, but because of the dynamics of the team and the stress I get as a result, it's affected my health and I emailed the team to resign realizing I couldn't go on and resigned. I've offered to help with onboarding a replacement and explaining any code I wrote. \n\nThe team members are mostly very high-strung and aggressive, which is partly why it's been so hard working in it. There have been a lot of delays caused by me venturing into new unknown technology and not realizing the realistic effort it would take. I was always clear with the team-members that I didn't know this technology and would be learning it. I tried to implement an agile method to help the team see movement in the work, but they never followed it.\n\nI'm afraid of these people and think they might try to sue me out of spite. I have no money and the company has no assets or customers yet, nor is the business model proven. Should I be worried?", "summary": "Leaving company I had a big role in, team are members aggressive. Do they have grounds to sue?"}
{"id": "t3_3vgttv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By double-checking", "post": "So the company I work for is in a dire situation, sales are slowing, we lost money last month and we've entered our  \"death month\" (happens every year around this time.\n\nEnter the owner's brother for an advertising opportunity with another company. Quick backstory, this guy has \"helped\" our company before; and by helped I mean we're still in a piece of a multi-year lawsuit regarding the things that have been done. He tells the owner that he is the only one allowed to sell this upcoming ad space. This sounds fishy to me, but it doesn't stop there. He continues by showing us this crazy stuff which is completely counter-intuitive to the design and branding of that company. \n\nNaturally this just raises all kinds of red flags for me, but we get to work on some marketing materials to give to this guy anyways it's family and all. Cue my job, to get the designs and vids together to give to him. So I try to get the print and video specs from him so that I make sure we're doing it right. He says some random wrong file formats, cuts a meeting short by saying he has to talk to their IT for the specs, etc. \n\nSo in an attempt to move the project along I contact the company that he is supposed to enter into this agreement with from my personal mail acting like another interested party. This was to both verify and get the info I needed. Apparently this crossed a line as the lower levels had no idea about this upcoming change. It escalated to the head of the company they contacted the brother and basically he got chewed out for talking about it and in turn I got chewed out for asking about it. Their advertising deal may have been broken in the process. Now I sit here awaiting my fate...", "summary": "Brother of declining company owner with a prior history with the company presented an opportunity. Couldn't get the info needed from him so contacted the company he said he was working with. Exposed stuff to lower level employees by contacting and may have got a deal cancelled."}
{"id": "t3_19wlu5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Wrong place, Right time.", "post": "SO THERE'S THIS GIRL - the story starts in a familiar way. \n\nAbout six years ago I met this girl at uni and we hit it off in an acquaintancey kind of a way - we never really hung out much but I liked her and wanted to be friends with her. Our course and subsequent internships that we did were crazy intense and I ended up falling out of touch with her, although we remained Facebook friends. I hardly thought about her for nearly six years.\n\nThree years ago I moved across the world to the UK, and then a year ago I moved again within Europe. I get a message from her best friend/work partner (who I know as well) to say that they are coming to Europe and we end up all catching up in my city. Good times were had. They then moved to the UK.\n\nI went to London for Christmas and unexpectedly ran into her on the street. We go for a drink, just the two of us, and I end up feeling like I've just been on the best date of my life. Since then I have not been able to stop thinking about her and I hate myself for it. \n\nTo make matters worse, this is my very first legit adult crush (i.e. not a fake crush on a boy, celeb, or straight girl). There is no point in pursuing this and I know that I need to stop Facebooking with her, but it's hard and I don't want to, even though it's making me crazy. \n\nI was in London last weekend and hung out with her, and while nothing happened of a romantic nature, nothing has changed in my scumbag brain. The worst part is that I would move back to London in a heartbeat if I could, but I can't get a visa for the UK. \n\nI don't want advice or anything, I just wanted to tell some Internet strangers about my dumb problems, because my poor best friend is sick of hearing about it.", "summary": "Crushing hard on an old friend who lives in a different country to me."}
{"id": "t3_4x0d22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M] in a relationship that my girlfriend [19 F] and I both know won't work out, but we both love each other. Need advice.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're still going strong. We really love each other, and it's a very healthy relationship. Here's the problem: I grew up in a religious household and religion is very important to me and it's something thats a part of me that I would never want to give up, but my girlfriend had a lot of negative experiences with religion (led to her depression, self-harm, bad stuff), so she doesn't want to raise her kids religiously. We both understand each other's views but we can't find a compromise that works. So even though we both really love each other, we know that we're gonna have to break up eventually if we ever want to raise a family (which we both do). Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this, both for now and after a breakup?\n\n[", "summary": "] My girlfriend and I love each other, but know that our relationship won't last because of religious differences and we want to know how to deal with this."}
{"id": "t3_fkw06", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have a sexual mentality-related question to ask. Help me out. (nsfw-ish)", "post": "Throwaway, globviously. \n\nI'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. Our relationship has its moments but overall it's pretty nice. Something's been bugging me lately though. I've always been uncomfortable with my body--I'm a tad chubby-- not massively overweight, yet not skinny by girl standards. In turn, my self esteem concerning my body is low. For as long as I can remember I've been a jealous person, fearful that boyfriends would cheat on me though I've never been cheated on.  Anyway, lately all my fantasies have been related to my boyfriend being with another girl. Sometimes I'm included in that fantasy, sometimes it's him cheating on me. I feel bad for thinking about this--like I'm contributing even more to my low self esteem-- but at the same time it turns me on. My boyfriend and I dirty talk about threesomes, though I know in real life I could never go through with it. I guess my question is, is it okay that my fantasies are like this? Am I harming myself in fantasizing about being cheated on?", "summary": "I fantasize about my boyfriend cheating on me. Is this bad?"}
{"id": "t3_3hncip", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Lowballed? Now what?", "post": "What's up /r/Jobs. I've been in charge of proposals and technical writing for my startup since I was a sophomore in college. I work when I'm back at school doing the same items, as well as managing their proposals team, all of whom I've hired. I'm now entering my senior year and they've given me a job offer.\n\nSalary history:\nSophomore year, January: $10/hr + commission (non-negotiable)\nSophomore year, Summer [changed to proposals from sales]: $13/hr (\"Should've asked for more.\" - my boss)\nSophomore-Junior year, end of summer: $25/hr (\"That's exactly what I was thinking.\" - same dude)\n\nI've worked at $25/hr since then. This summer, I've taken on even more items, including managing both a social media team and a graphic design team. Overall, I manage at least 5 people. I've also written and signed their 5 largest contracts, all in the past year.\n\nProblem:\nBefore we figured out that I could work part-time while at school going into junior year, they tasked me with finding a full-time replacement. If I found someone with experience, I could offer them between 60-70k \"to work in a dark room and churn out proposals.\"\n\nThey asked me for my salary range to work full-time after this school yaer, and I pushed the ball back into their court by having them shoot numbers over to me first. Their offer for me to work full-time is \"in the $40k range.\"  Average entry level is 50-55. Is it ridiculous of me to ask for 60-70?", "summary": "was an intern/part-time employee, got lowballed, now what."}
{"id": "t3_4oaofa", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "I would like to try and help my Grandmother with her COPD but I need help understanding some things", "post": "Hi, my grandmother is 76 and a long time smoker, I would say that she is underweight, I don't think she eats enough. I'm not sure how long she has had COPD, at least a year.\n\nShe has trouble even moving to a different room sometimes, she will get out of breath if she moved too quickly and sometimes she has to stop in the middle of going up the stairs.\n\nIt's very sad to see someone I care about who loves gardening and has always been the one to care for everyone else, lose her ability to do these things. She spends most of her days just watching TV.\n\nAs I can see online, this condition isn't curable, only slightly manageable. She has pills, and a breathalyser for this.\n\nSomething I would really like cleared up is:\nTwo doctors told her she was unable to take steroids (but I gather these help a decent amount?) and one told her it was a good idea. The doctor who she is most comfortable with told her no, so she has gone with that decision. But if it would help her I think she should get them? What makes someone ineligible for this?\n\nShe has been told she can't have oxygen in her house to help her symptoms because she smokes and it's dangerous.\nI have tried to get her to stop smoking, so it doesn't worsen the condition and also so she could have oxygen but she won't. She told me that when she stops, she can't breath as well. For instance, when she first wakes up every morning she coughs like she needs to cough something up but is unable to, but after she had a cigarette she feels a bit better.\n\nSo following that, another thing I would really like cleared up is: Is this common when stopping smoking, is there any sort of withdrawal systems that will make her feel a lot worse in the short term? But will she maybe feel better in the long term? She thinks it is too late for her to stop.\n\nThank you all so much, that was a lot of text, sorry.", "summary": "my Grandmother has COPD, currently takes pills and breathalyser, I'm wondering what other options she has. I just want her to be able to move a bit without feeling out of breath, she feels useless."}
{"id": "t3_26akpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 1.5 yrs, I want to breakup with him but his best friend just died", "post": "I've hit my breaking point in this relationship. I feel i need to end it because its been 1.5 years and he still cant tell me he loves me all other aspects of the relationship are fine. It just makes me feel insecure and unloved. It has also been emotionally draining for me to put my whole heart into it and not get the same in return. \n\nI'm struggling so much with this because I really do love him and want to be with him but, at the same time I'm hurting myself. \n\nAlso his best friend just died in a car wreck. I don't want to be cruel and pile a breakup on his plate as well.", "summary": "advice? what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_13qxuw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Private school kids of Reddit, did you have any false preconceptions of public school kids? Likewise, did any public school kids have false preconceptions of private school kids?", "post": "I went to a Christian private school for my entire life, but there were two public schools close by. We also played against those public schools in sporting events. We were always told to stay away from the kids in public schools, and were never encouraged to interact with these students during sporting events. \n\nThis conditioned me into thinking that I was better than them, and that I was smarter for attending a private school. \n\nOnce I got to a public university, it rocked my world that most public school kids were actually smarter than me, and they were more worldly as well. I found that being at a private school actually fucked me in a variety of ways. \n\nPart of me assumes that some public school kids may feel the same way. They may have been conditioned to hate private school kids in their area for stupid reasons, or they may have had a legitimate reason.", "summary": "My private school told me that public school kids are a bunch of dumbfucks. College tells them this is not the case. Did anybody else get this?"}
{"id": "t3_3oe1i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17m) found out my girlfriend (18f) has been cheating on me.", "post": "Long story short, I saw in my girlfriends texts that she has been cheating on me.\n\nI am absolutely gutted. We've been together for 3 years this December, and I've built my life around her. I thought she was the one.\n\nI found out by borrowing her computer (MacBook) which isn't uncommon, and with those computers iMessage pop up.\nNow I don't usually snoop but something has been off with us lately. I found this conversation with a guy named 'Spencer', with the two of them talking about sleeping together and showering together, I don't really want to go into specifics, it's very fresh in my mind right now.\n\nI plan on breaking up with her tonight.\nAny advice would be amazing. I don't know what to do with myself anymore.", "summary": "I found out that my girlfriend has been cheating on me through her texts."}
{"id": "t3_4y5xb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my GF [41 F] of three months, we seem perfect for each other but seem to escalate our \"irritability\" when something causes a minor fight", "post": "Hi all, not as spicy as some other questions on here, but something I'd like feedback on anyway. I went through a long relationship in the past with an emotional (that turned physical) abuser. Did not date for a year and a half, then started dating again. \n\nI met my current girlfriend online, and we just clicked. Great conversation, she makes me happy to get up in the morning, she's beautiful, kind, confident, everything I'd look for in a woman. \n\nHowever, we have this issue where we get into something little, like a comment will set one of us off, and instead of just addressing the issue immediately, we let it grow over the course of a couple of hours. It sometimes will ruin a good day for us. We are both very open and able to have a logical discussion (we're not bad a communication in general). It escalates, taking turns making each other more irritated until we finally have to go our separate ways for the evening.\n\nWhy does this happen? \nWhy can two adult (we're in our 40s for god's sake!) let something little impede our relationship? Any books that you'd recommend? It seems like a communication issue to me, but I don't wan't these little \"spats\" that grow to be something that keeps us from a great and healthy relationship.", "summary": "Two grown ass adults let little \"spats\" fester. What the hell!"}
{"id": "t3_r9yig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Graduate studies options for a not-so-impressive Bachelor's..", "post": "Sorry so long!\n\nDuring my high school career I was very ill-prepared for college. I had an indecisive mind and went because it was 'what I am supposed to do' and no one in my family had a degree. I graduated from a local university with a hefty amount of loans and a 3.5 GPA. Unfortunately, my major was switched twice and I ended up learning gobs about psychology, kinesiology/bio-mechanics, and various aspects of health science. For the sake of saving money, I opted to compile these courses and complete a degree in General Health Science - not a bright idea, I know. \n\nSo, now I'm stuck. I cannot get a legitimate job with this degree. I'm currently a Community Living Support Specialist and Personal Trainer. I've applied to Occupational Therapy programs across the US and am awaiting responses. I'm afraid I will not love it, though. I have a very technical mind. I also have a very, very creative mind. Next to this, I have an extremely analytical mind and a strange knack for detective-like-putting-things-together work. Any ideas on what may be right for me, if OT falls through? Or how I could obtain a MSOT and later mix it with something that would allow for the better parts of me to be shown?", "summary": "High school left me indecisive, started college, changed major, changed major, graduated with crap degree, not sure what to do or what I want to do. Applying for OT, not sure I'll like it. Want to mix it w/ creative, analytical, technical parts of who I am."}
{"id": "t3_4is91f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [M/19] is anxious of spending periods of time with me [F/19] but we're long distance", "post": "So I wasn't entirely sure where to post this.Me and my boyfriend have been together 16 months and long distance for 8 of those. As we are close than most we are able to see each other every month/2 months for a weekend. I knew he was anxious about going on a proper holiday together so we compromised and for our anniversary in December we just spent a weekend in Brighton (same time length as our visits to each other). However after talking today he has confessed that he has always been very anxious about our visits (and as I have been there 3 times as opposed to him coming here once it seems like I've almost kind of forced myself on him as I didn't realise he felt this way) and he seems reluctant for us to have more. It's not that we have relationship problems as we will have the whole summer together in our home town and that is not a problem. I just wondered if anyone else has experienced anything similar and how they went about tackling it? I feel like it's an anxiety issue rather than anything else (or perhaps that he likes his own space??)but I could be wrong.", "summary": "in a LD relationship but boyfriend is anxious about us spending periods of time away together."}
{"id": "t3_38wwl7", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "At what point does the risk of killing yourself on a daily basis outweigh the importance of being employed?", "post": "Tomorrow is my six month anniversary of starting my first entry-level job as an administrative assistant at an ecommerce company. My main duties are to act as an executive assistant to the CEO/CRO (except without the pay or title of an executive assistant), as an HR coordinator (except without that pay or title), and as the corporate dick-sucking lunch slave.\n\nIn the past six months, I have become a fat, bloated corpse of the human I once was. When I remember the hope and excitement that I felt when I received my college degree last year, it makes me want to vomit. I am severely depressed, irritable, miserable and bitter every second of my life, regardless of whether or not I'm physically at work. I've even half-joked that the weekend to me just feels like furlough - yeah, it's *nice* to not have to be in prison for 2 days, but knowing how soon I have to go back kind of fucking ruins it.\n\nA month or so ago, my manager dangled a possible marketing position in front of my face. It lifted my spirits temporarily, because marketing is what I realized (way too late) that I want to do. Then they posted the job without telling me, and naturally, the requirements were 1-3 years of marketing experience and knowledge of Exact Target (a program which literally none of the applicants so far have worked with, either.)\n\nI talked to my manager and the director of marketing about the possibility of applying, and while they both tried to let me down gently, the overall answer was a resonating \"absolutely not.\" I told them that I would be willing to learn anything, and I tried to make them understand how hard I would work at it, but of course they weren't willing to even consider the intellectual capacities of the lunch slave. Why would they? The lunch slave is a lunch slave for a reason.\n\nI tried again last week to have a candid conversation with my manager about how I feel stuck and how my position allows no opportunity for growth, and her response was essentially \"This is getting annoying now- I need you to do the job I hired you to do.\" \n\n**So", "summary": "at this point, would I honestly be better off just resigning from this job and dedicating my time and energy to teaching myself about marketing? Studying up, taking online classes, etc. Yes, I'd have an unemployment gap on my resume, but I'd also have the time to step back, recover from six months of unmitigated hell, and begin to build myself back up. Because truly, I'm not sure how much longer I can do this before I fully lose my shit."}
{"id": "t3_fj64t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a lot of business ideas and inventions..", "post": "Just like so many people in this world, I'm tired of the ol grind, low pay, everyday job. Throughout a few years I've come up with over 30 business ideas and inventions and have always had the plan of doing something with it 'later on' in life. I now have a Beautiful baby girl in my life and wish to always provide her with everything she needs and of course spoil her lol. However, I've attempted to try going through one of those invention submission companies that would be more than happy to take my ideas but also expect more than 75% in royalties. I don't want that route, these are my ideas, not theirs. So my question to those highly informed, experienced and intelligent redditors, what is the BEST way you'd recommend getting my ideas out there? Any and all suggestions are greatly appreciated, I really want this guys, I hope you can help me out. Thanks to all! :)", "summary": "I have great ideas for inventions and businesses, what's the best way of getting them on the market?"}
{"id": "t3_1tcr61", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I'm thinking about adopting a puppy this summer, what are some things I should consider?", "post": "Some background info about me:\nI'm 20 years old, a university student who has always wanted a puppy.\n\nMy parents are considering it and we agreed on getting a family pet. The puppy will live with my parents. I live on my own and can't keep a pet at my place because it's against my landlord's rules. I will be home in the summer however.\n\nI've never had a pet before and my parents have never had a dog. We want to adopt from a shelter and will most likely be getting a mixed breed dog. Some breeds that we've discussed are sheltie/border collie mixes, shih tzu mixes, and welsh corgi mixes. I know that my parents don't want a large breed of dog mainly because they don't have the space in their house.\n\nAlso, we're not against getting a purebred but we don't want to get a dog from a sketchy breeder. If we do go the breeder route, what are some red flags to look for when checking out a breeder?\n\nAlso, what are some good breeds for first time owners? I am personally not comfortable with adopting any rotties, dobermans or German shepherds because I've always felt that those dogs were meant for more experienced owners. They are also quite large breeds which we can't handle due to space (as I mentioned above)\n\nSome info about my parents' house: it's not a big place, about 1800 sq ft, and our backyard isn't giant either. They are both home in the evenings and are able to make time to walk a dog but most likely couldn't walk a dog during the day (minus weekends) because they work full time.\n\nIf this isn't the place to post this, please let me know and I'll move it to a more appropriate subreddit.", "summary": "Looking to adopt a puppy for the first time in the summer. Neither my parents or myself have owned a dog before. We're looking for suggestions on breeds that would be best suitable for first time owners, and for breeds that would be suitable for a place that isn't huge. Also looking for advice on what to look for when adopting and what to look for when going to check out a breeder for the first time (should we go that route, but we would rather check out a shelter first)"}
{"id": "t3_3f9ezb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have never kissed anyone before. If I'm on a date should I let that person know?", "post": "I just turned 20 recently, and I'm a bit worried about my lack of experience with girls. Things are looking up for me, so I think pretty soon I'll actually be dating a bit. However, that also means my first times are coming up. Since I literally haven't done anything, I'm anxious how I'll look if I mess up. Say I go out with a girl on a few dates, should I let her know beforehand that I haven't kissed anyone before? Or should I just not bring it up and then after be like \"fun fact, that was my first kiss! Hopefully, that wasn't too scarring for you. Anyway..which is better: a burrito or a taco?\"", "summary": "Never kissed anyone; tell date or no?"}
{"id": "t3_2xdm9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22 M] of three years has broken up with me [21 F]. We live together and have the same classes, I don't know what to do.", "post": "I never thought this would happen. I have just always trusted that even though we have bad times (we do, I guess we did, fight) we would still be there for each other. We are going through a pretty stressful time right now so we are fighting more. We fought more around this time last year as well. We live together and our lease ends at the end of April.\n\nThis time it is because I cannot stand our roommate and my boyfriend considers him as a friend. I wanted to move out because my roommate makes offhanded remarks to me and it's a stressful living situation. He thinks I should just live with it, I think he just wants a gaming buddy. I thought it was reasonable if we moved out, but he could still play games with him.\n\nHe also says he doesn't think we are compatible anymore (we don't enjoy the same type of music, and he plays video games all the time while I watch Netflix). Another thing is that I have anger issues. I do get upset about small things (people not cleaning up after themselves, my roommate making snide comments towards me, etc.). He always gets mad if I see something that upsets me and tells me to stop being mad, instead of just listening. \n\nHe also says that it would be better for me if we broke up because he needs to fix himself. He doesn't have a job and I always have to push him to do anything that isn't playing a game (studying, looking for a job). But I have told him I know what I am getting myself into when. \n\nI am a mess right now, this is my first relationship. We both have good things and bad things, but I thought that if we cared enough we would recognize each others faults and try and help each other through. I don't know what to do or what to think. I never thought this would happen, and I did not prepare for it.", "summary": "My boyfriend of three years has broken up with me. I still think we can work it out, but he doesn't seem to want to."}
{"id": "t3_23bl6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "update: Me [23F] not comfortable with his [26M] [21F] female friendship", "post": "Old thread: \n\nSo, I tried to bring it up today, I told him I felt left out of his life and knew nothing about his friends... he basically deflected with the usual \"I don't really have any close friends really\" thing which I find very hard to believe considering I know him. I called him out on it and asked him who he talks to when he's on Skype or Steam and he basically was like \"just random people, we're not really friends and I rarely talk to them.\" \n\nI don't know why he is deflecting it too much but it is making me very suspicious. I've heard them speak before - they don't sound like strangers at all. As I previously described, he basically chats on Steam with this one girl and they often log off at the same time in the evening (sometimes 4 hours after he's told me he's going bed...)\n\nAlso, last year, like I said in the last thread, he told me to leave the room while IMing her in a completely uncalled for way. I brought it up again and he said I was overreacting and she just wanted to talk about something personal.\n\nWhen our relationship status was wavering many years ago, he promised me he'd be open and honest and never distant and hide stuff from me. I genuinely think he's hiding stuff from me now because I know him very well. It makes me angry and it hurts me very much because I feel like I'm being purposely kept out of his life, is this ridiculous? I feel very shut out. I brought this up and he said it wasn't true at all and that I get more of his time than anyone... which isn't true at all. I really, honestly don't. I feel like it was just a non-asshole way to deflect the conversation.", "summary": "Husband keeps all his friendships away from me (all close female friendships.) Feeling very, very insecure and worried..."}
{"id": "t3_13eba2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I, [F,20] left my boyfriend [M, 23] for five months, gave him permission to fool around. Now that he has, I'm having a hard time with it. Advice?", "post": "The title pretty much says it all- I went on my dream semester abroad and he was willing to stay with me, as lonely as he knew he would be. I gave him permission to fool around, because I felt guilty about deserting him and I thought a semi-open relationship would help. Then one night he ended up hooking up with a girl at a club, but lied to me about it. Our deal was that I would be okay with him kissing another girl if he told me right away when it happened. Now I feel like it's cheating because he lied and I'm having a hard time getting over it. Any advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend had permission to mess around but lied about it- now I feel like it's cheating and I'm having a hard time with it."}
{"id": "t3_1ze6kd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] with my [24 M] boyfriend 5 months, broke up with me, but still has feelings and is \"in love with me\"", "post": "He called me over to his house and told me he wants to break up but he still has feelings for me and loves me. He texted me that night and I did no contact him back.\n\nHe texted me three days later telling me he loves me and wonders why I don't matter to him and hurt him. I've told small lies and he wants that to change.\n\nI talked to him last night and I told him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore just so I can bury the hatchet and move on. He said he can't do that because it isn't true. I told him I won't get over him if he keeps telling me that. After we got off the phone he texts me he misses me and loves me. Then I called him back to ask why he did that. He said because it's true. I busted out crying like a crazy cat lady telling him I hated him and I was going to pretend like we never met and he shouldn't think about me or talk to me ever again.\nWhy would he say those things to me? How can I move on from this?", "summary": "it's like he wants me to keep hanging on, but if he doesn't want to be with me... what's his reason."}
{"id": "t3_c8pwq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hello Reddit! I am planning a trip to Japan in September. Any suggestions or advice?", "post": "In September a friend and I will be going to Japan for just over 2 weeks. Since this is our first trip to the country we are keeping it simple and just staying in the city of Tokyo.\n\nI am asking for suggestions or advice for when we visit. The two of us don't speak more then a few words of badly mispronounced Japanese though I do have a handy booklet to allow me to butcher whole, common sentences. ie 'Where is the washroom'.\n\nWe are currently waiting for good prices before booking the flight and hotels, so we are able to change anything right now. \n\nSo please advise away!", "summary": "Going to Japan in September, looking for suggestions and/or advice."}
{"id": "t3_ttb7z", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have a question about my wife being authorized on her parent's credit card with a very high balance", "post": "As my wife and I are looking into moving next month, we ran a credit background check on ourselves (first time doing so).  Our credit looks solid, but I noticed that my wife is an authorized user on a credit card with a $25,500 credit limit (this might not be a high number for some, but it is for us and her parents).\n\nWe were able to call the credit card company and learned that the card is under her parents name and that my wife has no responsibilities for the debt if her parents stop paying on it.  However, it is obviously pulling on her credit.  Her parents have a balance of $24,540 on the card, and we asked the customer service rep if they could tell us about the activity on the card.  She said that she could, and we asked if it had recent activity.  Turns out, her parents are charging 'typical daily' activities (food, groceries, gas, etc).\n\nTo my wife and I, it is clear her parents are being very unrealistic with their credit.  There is no way that they are ever going to pay off this card, though they are at least paying on it regularly (as the account is in good status).\n\nThe customer service rep told us that she wasn't able to remove my wife as an authorized user, that my wife's parents would have to do this.  However, my wife hasn't spoken with her parents in quite some time (long-standing feud).  \n\nHow is this affecting my wife's credit?  Should we make that re-connection with her parents to ask them to remove her as an authorized user, or is this 'no big deal'?  Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "my wife and I discovered her parents have her as an authorized user on a very high debt/credit card.  Should we have her removed?"}
{"id": "t3_2y1b8q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting a date with the wrong girl", "post": "Well, wasn't today, it was like 10 years ago, but still funny.\n\nSo, I hooked with girl A once. It never happened again but we kept being friends until we kind of drifted away. I was never really interested. She was.\n\nOne year later I hooked with girl B. We didn't exchange telephones, so we lost contact after that one time. We were both pretty hammered when it happened. \n\nFortunately it's a small town, we had common friends and I got her number. I quickly saved it in my cell phone without a name even. I wanted to confirm it was her number, later.\n\nA bit earlier, I happened to save girl A's new number in the same way (without name)...\n\nSo I call girl B. She was surprisingly happy to hear from me. We set a date. I'm doing my victory dance. It seemed coincidence that the place we were to meet was right next to girl A's house. Oh, well, coincidence I guess.\n\nSo...when I get there, nobody is there. Guess I'll wait, no problem. Five minutes later girl A appears, smiling at me...\n\nSo I ask...\n\n\"Hey...you here? What are you doing here?\"\n\nOh, boy...", "summary": "I called a girl to set a date, called the wrong number and set the date with the wrong girl."}
{"id": "t3_1x8esx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just out of a 6yr relationship. Where to start..", "post": "I don't kno where else to post this.... \n\nSo I [21m] was just left by my gf [21f]of 6 years. Go figure a week later and she already has someone new. I was about to pop the question, so needless to say I was pretty attached and never thought this would have happened. She told me she wanted to be my wife, have my kids, etc. But I guess not. We were dating since highschool. Ive never thought I could \"spit\" game and I don't kno where to start. I've never had to open up and find someone. I'm looking for advice on moving on, how to talk to women, and how to get over everything I just lost.", "summary": "6yrs, gf left, week later ducks new guy, now what. Was about to purpose"}
{"id": "t3_a3p9a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this emotional blackmail ?", "post": "Hi all, need some advice.\n\nI've been going out with a girl for about a year on and off. When we started going out I wasn't keen at all, but she kept texting me and inviting me round to her place and one night we had sex after a night at the pub. We got on reasonably well as friends but we had nothing in common. I think we were both lonely and were just keeping each other company. Anyway as time went on I discovered she was a borderline alcoholic, which made me split up with her several times. But she took counseling, promised to sort it out and said she loved me. I don't love her. She's very messy, forgetful and dirty, has no interests, doesn't look after herself, but she's caring and generous. I can't stand her taste in clothes, furniture, music or art. I kept bouncing back to her, until recently when I just had enough and left her for good. Now she's ringing me in tears saying I've been cruel and heartless, that her life is a mess (it is), that I'm all she's got (not true, she's got many friends). She's wailing down the phone. She cries about all these other things wrong with her life, and all these reasons why her life's so bad (never her fault, always someone else). I just want to be left alone and get on with my life (I don't want to be in a relationship atm). On the other hand I feel sorry for her and feel like I should help her, even though somehow I know I can't.", "summary": "we split, she's crying, wants me back, i don't want to because she drinks too much, isn't clean & tidy, we have nothing in common."}
{"id": "t3_16vd9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21] and I [20 M] have been dating for 5 years and are trying to figure out if we can make it work with different religious beliefs.", "post": "Both me and my girlfriend were raised Christian. We began our relationship five years ago, when were both fifteen. In the past couple of years, I have been moving away from my belief in Christianity and started exploring other lines of thinking.\n\nMy girlfriend's family is very serious about their belief in Christianity and, because of her upbringing, so is she. My parents are also very serious about their faith, however, my family is much more open to questioning, doubting, and exploring. \n\nI know that her and her family are very happy with their faith and that is not something I wish to change in them.\n\nShe has recently began to express that she doesn't know if it is possible for us to have a relationship with two different beliefs. Until now, our difference in belief has not been an issue that I can see: my moral guidelines have not changed and continue to (mostly) align with hers. I continue in things that have been dear to me throughout our relationship, such as holding a philosophy of compassion, smoking cannabis, and remaining a virgin until marriage (something I see as valuable for her sake although I do not believe it is necessary). \n\nI very much love my girlfriend and am, therefore, having great anxiety trying to figure out if we can continue to be compatible from my perspective, regardless of what she decides. I do not want to hinder her spiritual life, as I see the quest for truth as the most valuable thing life has to offer. I also do not want to be impeded by the difficulties of differing beliefs. \n\nSo then, r/relationships, from your experience is it possible to live with two different beliefs in a relationship if both are willing? Can it be beneficial? Can it be detrimental? Is it worth it if you want to be with the person more than anything? Or is it too damn difficult?\n\nThanks for the input and, if there are other questions you have for me whose answers might be helpful, please ask.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have different beliefs and, although very much in love, are trying to figure out what this realistically means for our future connubial life."}
{"id": "t3_yeg6m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally fucking up stage lights in a  local school's production and causing it to be  postponed at very short notice (an hour away from  performance)", "post": "My little cousin had a school band show I visited today and they've got the normal stage setup and such, curtains, lights, several speakers lining the top of the ceiling, and a sound(and lights)-booth in the back next to the entrance. So I got there fairly early (about an hour and a half) and sat around talking to people around me and decided to go to the bathroom. On my way out, i tripped on a cord that was taped to the floor in front of the door and I figured it was alright, other than my rather embarrassing slip/faceplant into the door. Anyway, when I got back in, there were 6 people gathered around this one controller box in the booth with a puzzled look on their faces and had the main house-lights on (florescent strips). I looked down at the cord i had tripped over a few minutes back and traced it to a ripped part that was just beside the booth. I took a closer look and saw it had been completely separated, then hoped they would find a way to fix it and sat back down in my seat, acting like nothing happened. About 10-15 minutes passed and a man walked on the stage and apologized that they had to postpone the entire event due to stage lights not cooperating. And that's about it.", "summary": "went to a highschool band concert, went to take a piss, fucked up stage lights/entire show for another week."}
{"id": "t3_2oo6qj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [20 F] been dating [25 M] for 6 months and he's moving soon. Where do I go from here?", "post": "I've been seeing this guy that I met on Tinder for about six months now. Even though we act like it in every way, we're not in an official relationship (neither of us are in positions to be in relationships). He's leaving to finish his last semester of grad school ~3 hours away and I can't help but feel extremely sad and confused. \n\nRecently, I started accepting dinner dates with other guys to try and ease my feelings away, but they've only solidified how much I like him. \n\nThis may sound clich\u00e9 and I may seem young, but I am confident that he's my ideal. I have had enough dating experiences to understand that. We'll be in the same area once he graduates, but that's six months away. It seems that my only option is to be patient? Is there anything else that I can do? Also, is it appropriate to get him a pricy Christmas/goodbye present?", "summary": "I've been dating a guy for 6 months and he's moving away. I'm extremely sad."}
{"id": "t3_2pzgwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] with so [23 F] of 3 years with bad social anxiety", "post": "Couple of problemos I need some advice on...\n\nMy SO of 3 years suffers from pretty bad social anxiety, she finds it hard to go to university - completing most of her units externally. This anxiety greatly affects her social life as well, she finds it hard to go to gatherings with her friends even if it's just dinner. She'll often leave early from parties or gigs. She's been diagnosed with both social anxiety and depression but isn't taking anything. \n\nOver the past 3 years she's gotten progressively worse, now completing all units externally and very rarely leaving the house. She's also been diagnosed with vulva-vestibulitis, an almost untreatable vaginal pain which has made her even more depressed. The combination of anxiety + VV has taken a terrible toll on our sex lives... we occasionally do stuff, but she often tells me how she hates even thinking about sex. \n\nI don't really know what to do... i'm sort of half venting... I also find it really hard to keep up meaningful friendships with my own group of friends given her inability to meet new people. I often have to go to social/work related things on my own given she is too anxious to come.", "summary": "gf has social anxiety and I feel bad"}
{"id": "t3_4k6iy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 1 yr, reciprocating love?", "post": "Hi - hoping to keep this brief\n\nI have been with a wonderful guy for about a year (bit over). I am very, very happy with him. He has told me he is happy with me as well. I told him I love him (he's the first person I've ever felt this way for/told this), but he wasnt sure if he felt that way yet or ever would. I'm not looking necessarily to spend the rest of my life with him (tho it would be ballin' if we did), so I'm not too stressed about the non-reciprocation. He and I have a blast, respect one another, and share common interests. I also recognize that different people feel different ways, experience emotions differently, and not everyone reaches emotional milestones in unison. I have tried explaining this to him, but he remains very bothered and is concerned now that he won't be able to be happy in a relationship where he isn't sure he can reciprocate. I just want us to try and see, and if it doesn't work out, at least we know. \n\nIs it a deal-breaker? How long do you typically expect to be saying these things or do they vary (I'm under the impression it is more of the latter, which I think supports my PoV)", "summary": "Told my boyfriend of 1yr + that I love him. He doesnt feel the same way (yet??) and is rethinking whether he wants to be with me."}
{"id": "t3_336svy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have been seeing her [25F] for a few weeks. Is it acceptable to go on a date with another girl?", "post": "I've been going out with a girl (let's call her Girl A) for a few weeks now - I see her about once a week. We've been physically intimate with each other, but haven't really discussed whether the relationship is serious, exclusive, etc.\n\nAt this point, would it be wrong to go on a first date with another girl? My  concern  is that Girl A assumes that we're exclusive and that asking her would lead to questions about whether I've been seeing other people, at which point I'd be obliged to tell her about going out with Girl B. I don't want to be dishonest, but I also don't want to take myself off the market until I'm confident that the relationship is going somewhere. After all, I have no idea how Girl A currently feels about the relationship or whether she's been going out with anyone else. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Can I go on a date with another girl if I've been seeing someone for a few weeks and haven't yet discussed the future of the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_50xn4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] just want to have sex, but my boyfriend [25M] is all over the place! What should I do?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both super busy people, but we make time for each other and spend a great amount of quality time together. That's amazing, but we don't have sex as much as I'd like. \n\nWe have a lot in common, but there is one thing we just don't agree on: spontaneity. He thinks being spontaneous is randomly having sex whenever (one week we won't have sex at all, the next week we'll be on each other for hours everyday). I think it's having sex consistently, but not necessarily in the same way or in the same place.\n\nThis is doing a number on our sex life--at least for me. The problem is, I get used to having sex alllllll the time and then he pulls away for 2-3 weeks and I get sexually frustrated. \n\nThis happens partly because of him wanting to be \"spontaneous\" and partly because of his workload. If he has a ton of things to do, we won't have sex because he is constantly on the go (traveling, recording in our home studio, etc). But on his days off, he can't keep his hands off of me. \n\nWe've talked about it numerous of times and I kinda get it, but I still wish there was more balance in our sex life. That week of two-a-day sex sessions is AMAZING...until I realize that there's two or three weeks of \"drought\" ahead of me. \n\nI can masturbate, and I do, but I love sex because of the passion and intimacy. I really, really miss experiencing that...consistently. What should I do about this situation? Thanks!", "summary": "I only have sex sporadically, and not as much as I would like. My boyfriend likes it this way, I don't. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_324r8v", "subreddit": "running", "title": "10-K Maintenance", "post": "I am new to running and made it my goal to run a 10-k this spring. I know that doesn't sound too ambitious to you guys but it was a really big goal for me considering I had never run more than a mile in my life before! \n\nAnyway I started with the couch to 5k schedule and then [this](www.halhigdon.com/training/51122/10-K-Training-Guide-Novice-Program) for about the last year and this past week I finally ran 10k! I was so excited I nearly cried. \n\nSo my question is this: my 10k is scheduled for Memorial Day. I built in some slack to my training schedule in case life got in the way of my training and now I am looking for a schedule that can keep me at my level. I know I should just get out and run but I have found that the goals of the schedule really help me to push myself (it's crazy how much further you can go after the first \"I'm pretty tired I should just stop now\")", "summary": "Any suggestions for 10k maintenance plans?"}
{"id": "t3_3mfrfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] have a girlfriend [15F] who's is worried she's pregnant.", "post": "As the title says, she is paranoid that she is pregnant. To jump into things, yesterday was the usual start of her period, but it didn't actually start until today, in the evening. Yet she is worried that it isn't actually her period and it is actually plantation bleeding. The symptoms of both are so very similar and I can't tell if anything is different than her usual menstration. She did tell me she threw up this morning, which is a symptom of both, yet she normally doesn't puke on her period. An easy answer will be to wait it out, but I'm the type that just wants to figure things out reasonably.\n\nFor background, we have had unprotected sex and protected sex. We've had unprotected sex last week, which was not very long in duration and I did not finish (but yes of course precum) and this week we did use protection. Obviously I'm dumb, I know. But I'm now learning my lesson in the worst way possible so far. The condom end up breaking once, but I feel like I noticed early enough to fix that issue and get a new one. \n\nAlong with the sex background and protection, it's worth noting that she is to be starting birth control on her first day of her period (which may or may not be today, again not sure.) We have had the discussion and both have agreed to abortion, but I don't want to have to resort to that at all, cause I'd much rather her just be on shark week. So she'd likely take the abortion pill, and we would not be informing parents of this. Yet the issue comes with if the abortion pill could work while she also takes birth control so her parents aren't suspicious of the fact she isn't taking the medication.\n\nWhere should I go from here? Get her a pregnancy test tomorrow? Head to the clinic to do the test? Wait it out to see if it's actually the period or not?", "summary": "girlfriend and I had a short couple sessions of unprotected sex last week, and protected sex this week. She started bleeding a day later than usual, and she's claiming it is kind of different and may be plantation bleeding. She threw up in the morning. She also started birth control just today as well. Abortion is our option of worst comes to worst, hopefully without parents being aware. We live in Canada so she is allowed to abort at her age and it remain confidential. I am an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_205x3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF of 3 years [21F] duration, Her ex wont get off my mind", "post": "My girlfriend and I started dating almost 3 years ago now. For the first couple months we kept it simple as FWB. Then things started getting kore serious I got bored of just banging and wanted more. Little did I know she only wanted fwb because she still had feeling for her ex all the way across the country. She never told me this and said that we should go out.... she became my girlfriend shortly after as we hit it off. Then I found out about the other guy and not only that but that she has hpv. Trust broken.\n\n Now flashforward through a year of off again on again and trying to get her to stop texting him. However he would always find a way to contact her.... eventually I kinda stop caring about the relationship and she realizes and stops talking to him. I give her the ultimatum that if she talks to him again were more than done and im leaving to where she cant find me. \n\nAlso another rule is that she has to be my little slut and follow all my kinks (as I have a lot and most she would never do despite her \"wild\" year in college) so that I can actually get some enjoyment out of the relationship. Anyways she hasn't been talking to him I. About 4 months now.... not that I can take her word for it... anyways I need to find out if she is still talking to him now. How do I do this if I cant trust her word? \n\nAlso many times I've considered contacting him to tell him to kill himself and how he would never have a chance with her now. Basically I feel lile a jealous girl because I cant let this go.... god it would be great if he off'ed himself. I mean he is a repeat felon and I am like a goody two shoes compared to this kid. I dont even know why she went out with him", "summary": "= My girlfriend and I went out for a little, she gave me hpv and broke my trust by texting her ex, Now I am worried because I hate her ex more than she does"}
{"id": "t3_2di0m8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M28] sent flowers to a female friend for her birthday. He's never given me [F25] flowers. Do you think I'm overreacting about this?", "post": "Crappy situation here.\n\nTonight, when I got off work, I found out that my boyfriend sent his female friend a bouquet of roses for her birthday. What's embarrassing is the fact that she publicly thanked him over Facebook and posted a picture of the roses for everyone to see.\n\nI feel like this is extremely inappropriate. He's never sent me flowers in the nine months we've been together... Needless to say, I'm really hurt.\n\nI know they're friends and everything, but there are just certain things you don't do when you're in a relationship. I spoke to him about this and he claims I'm overreacting because he says they're \"just flowers.\" Eventually, he apologized and seemed remorseful, but things are tense between us now.\n\nThe problem is, I was already feeling iffy about this chick in the first place. They've been friends for awhile, but she's always seemed pretty interested in him. Then he pulls a stunt like this. \n\nDo I let this go and cool off or what? I'm at a loss here.", "summary": "Boyfriend [M28] sent a friend flowers and he's never done that for me [F25]."}
{"id": "t3_2obhvk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feral cats living in home", "post": "We \"rescued\" a feral cat back when we lived in AZ that was malnourished and sick. Well unfortunately stupid life choices and bad timing with money led to that cat producing kittens, and from day one it seemed none of them would be successfully socialized. Though we adopted most of them out, 3 are left including the original parent and all are non-friendly scardey cats with feral-like behavior.\n\nI know most people would just throw them out but with cold Texas winters and a busy road less than a house away, paired with the fact that these cats have never seen the outdoors, means they will probably end up dead within a week. That breaks my wife's heart and mine too, but our house is falling apart because of them. (I've looked into no-kills, none will take ferals here, there arent very many strong rescues in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, and feral cat rescues seem non-existent)\n\nWhat should I do? Especially what can I do that will be okay with my wife and her big heart?", "summary": "4 feral cats in house that have never seen outdoors really, wife has too big of a heart to just put outside, and I'm afraid they'd die in days if just tossed out. Can't figure out what to do next to keep my sanity."}
{"id": "t3_gl9hk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm getting married soon and need your help!", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nMy fiancee and I have been together since freshman year of college and now 6 years later are about to take the plunge in May. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world to have her as a friend and future wife, and especially since we started worlds apart. She was adopted from Korea and I was born in New York. When moving into our dorms we were only two cars apart pulling into campus (didn't notice this until years later in a picture) and two doors down from each other.\n\nWe started off as friends and it soon turned to romance. Although it was a close call after our first date where I took her to Wendy's and a movie (Constantine with Keanu Reeves... I know I know...), but it must have been love because she stuck around!\n\nThe wedding is a little over a month away and we are getting hitched back on campus. When going over the details of the ceremony, the minister mentioned doing a [sand ceremony] which I thought was a cooler alternative to a unity candle (boo!).\n\nAs a surprise, I want to use sand from where we both came from to symbolize the distance we have overcome to find each other (I hope my vows are this good!). Well getting sand from New York is pretty easy, but getting sand from South Korea... not so easy.\n\nThat's where I need your help Reddit. I need some sand from South Korea! Is there anyone out there who can help? Wookie life-debt? But seriously, I figure we probably need a water bottle full and it would really be a special touch on our wedding day. I would gladly reimburse the shipping costs.\n\nReddit, I am at your mercy... and I humbly ask for your help with this.", "summary": "Getting married in May and need some sand from South Korea."}
{"id": "t3_1sizca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BFF [23F] of almost a decade, says something that makes me uncomfortable but it's gone on so long I don't know how to address it", "post": "So me and this girl, let's call her April, and I have been friends for years. She has been there for me through all manner of nonsense (ranging from arguments with my sister [22] to break ups) and been overall a great friend. There is one thing though, something she says that makes me uncomfortable but it has gone on so long that I don't know how to correct it. \n\nFor some context to this, I'm black and she's white. I said something as a one off that she now repeats endlessly, but while from me it's quirky from her it sounds racist. I feel like I should say something (especially since I know she says this in front of people other than me). I probably would have said something at the time, but I have issues confronting people when they make me uncomfortable (people have said all manner of racist things to me, not intentionally, I never correct them because I don't want to \"rock the boat\" at all).", "summary": "Best friend is being unknowingly racist and making me uncomfortable, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4pfva4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flooding and kitchen and then almost setting it on fire", "post": "This actually did happen today.\n\nBackstory: I have been working in a kitchen at a movie theater for about a month now (huge food operation there), and, while I'm still learning my way around, I have 99.999% of it under control.\n\nSo today started like any normal day, had my usual peach monster rehab (that shit is thebomb.com), start working and then I notice that the area behind/underneath our ice cream cooler is dirty, so I decide to sweep and mop back there (it's getting hot and we are trying to avoid ants at all costs). There is a little thing attached to said cooler for keeping our ice cream scoops in. It has running water.\n\nHere's where the fuck up begins. I'm having trouble moving it, I just figure that it's a heavy appliance so I pull a little harder and it still doesn't move. So I unleash the beast. I hear a pop and see water spraying EVERYWHERE and I just panic and litterally run to get my supervisor. \n\nMy manager and his boss come running up to see what's wrong and they look PISSED (can't say I blame them, tbh) and I just shrink to the size of a fruit fly.\n\nWe finally find the valve to shut the water off and we begin damage assessment and cleanup. We discover that a numerous of electrical outlets are fried. Fml.\n\nWell the water must've shorted out the propane regulator for our grill. Because our grill (which is a flat top) starts spewing flames from all possible exits. So we shut off the propane and call the repairman (so far we have an electrician, plumber, and repairman).\n\nI have a feeling if it were up to my manager, I'd be out of a job, but his boss says he understands and that accidents happen so I guess I still have a job (question mark???). I guess I'll find out soon enough...", "summary": "water, then flames, sprayed all over the place."}
{"id": "t3_47usua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [19 M] talk to and approach my crush [19 F]?", "post": "A bit of background about myself - I've always been a relatively socially awkward person with very few friends (usually 1-2 close friends at any point in time). I've always it found it hard to maintain any form of flowing conversation with peers my age (especially girls); however I always found it much easier to talk with people who are older than me for some reason. I've always struggled when it comes to talking with girls and never really had any close female friends. \n\nEver since I started University, I've improved a bit when it comes to social situations and I'm finding it easier to speak to people who are in my course. I've even made a friend who I know consider as my best friend.\n\nIn high school, I did find girls attractive, but I never approached any on them, except for exchanging the occasional pleasantries. I never really had any crushes. \n\nHowever, there is this one girl who I really like in my course. She is really beautiful and seems to be kind of shy as well, although she does have quite a few friends. She is my first ever \"crush\". \n\nHowever, I literally have no idea on how to approach and talk to her. Whenever I see her, I start blushing and I can't seem to think straight. She is always surrounded by a group of friends and I find extremely difficult to just approach her and talk to her. What shall I talk to her about? And if I do talk to her, it'll end up being a very awkward conversation which will not end well. There a lot of people in course and trying to sit next to her during lectures or trying be in any project groups with her is extremely difficult, if not impossible. \n   \nAny help or suggestions on how I can potentially approach and talk to my crush without messing it and ruining it? It's not as simple as just walking up to her and doing it because I feel socially anxious all time. Honestly, I just want to get to know her at first, I obviously am not expecting to get in a relationship any time soon.", "summary": "Any suggestions on how a relatively socially awkward guy can approach and talk to his crush?"}
{"id": "t3_3e5w48", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I (24m) lied to my gf (24f) in order to get her to relocate", "post": "[Original](\n\nThere was an update but things got heated in there and it got deleted. Essentially with the oil downturn I was laid off and the first and only job offer to roll in afterwards was a contract in Saudi. Had a talk with my GF about our future and what we wanted. She made it clear she didn't want to wait any longer to get married and wanted to come with me. I'd overestimated what she'd wanted out of a wedding - figured she'd got for a big fancy and pricy wedding I'd need to save up for so I'd been putting off proposing - but it turns out she just wanted to get married.\n\nWe got married - really small family affair. Moved out here. We've been having a great time. Saved a ton of money towards my student debts and should be debt-free by December. Very excited about that. She's doing some casual editing and translating work remotely from Canada through a friend and has taken up writing and painting again. She's being doing some tutoring and casual yoga classes and is much happier than she was in Alberta. We've done a little travelling from here and I'm just thrilled that my girl's in a better place. I do support us more here but I'm perfectly happy to do that to be perfectly honest. \n\nShe's started to talk about wanting to have babies soon. She wants to have a baby in the next year or so - she thinks it would be great. She's pretty much a stay at home wife right now so using our time here to spend as a new mom would be great. So by the time we move on to the next location our kid would be a year old already and she might be ready to get back into working. I was a little leary about it - babies abroad and stuff - but she's really excited to become a mother. One of her christmas surprises this year will be that I'll be officially debt free as of January so we can start trying if she wants.", "summary": "communication is cool and stuff. We're good."}
{"id": "t3_30xmgl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU- by redditing at work", "post": "Today i was casually redditing at work. I clicked a link to check out a story that was on an external website, when my colleague called me from across the room to come to lunch. I clicked to a different tab and left with the intention of reading the story when i returned.\n\nWhen i did return, i walked through the door to hear an almighty battle roar and other such loud noises... it was coming from my computer.\n\nMy horror when i noticed my boss stood right next to my computer. His head twisted up to see me walking in and he stared right into my soul. He pointed to the ground as if i were a dog and he was demanding i heel at his feet.\n\nas soon as i got back to my desk he furiously spoke between gritted teeth \"alexjbarnett, turn this off right now. it has been disrupting calls with customers for the last 30 minutes\".\n\nI try to figure out why this was coming from my computer and realise that it must be an ad on the website i left open. i quickly click the tab and am greeted with a page full of animated girls in bikini's! my boss saw this of course and let off a disapproving grunt. I also noticed that the page had a \"Clash of clans\" ad on repeat.\nI rapidly clicked force quit and it was over.\n\nMy boss hasn't said a word to me since but he was definitely pissed that customers had to deal with hearing that shit for so long.", "summary": "left a page open that had ads on when i went on lunch, sounds of repeating clash of clans ad filled the room until my return, boss also thinks i look at anime girls in bikini's at work."}
{"id": "t3_1ysna3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my SO [20 F] duration, Graduating College- Next Step HELP", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been  dating for 9 months, and I'll be graduating this Spring.  Upon graduation I have a job offer for one of the Big Four accounting firms in NYC (8 hr drive).  I found this out in August after having interned this this past summer.  She congratulated me and made a big deal of it, saying how proud she was of me. \n\nHowever, this past week she started raising concerns, saying that I was leaving her and that I wasn't even trying to get a job in Rochester.  I was confused because it's a really great opportunity and our plan was for me to work there while she finishes school (3 years of a 5 year program) and then transfer to a city where she gets a job.  \n\nShe wants me to find a job in Rochester and get an apartment wit her, taking the next step forward.  However,  she has to do two internships in the next three years and wouldn't be at the apartment for 6 month periods. \n\nThere are jobs in my city, but the job in NYC is a great opportunity and I am afraid if I turn it down I will end up holding it against her.\n\nIf there's anything I'm leaving out or you have questions on please let me know, I wrote this quickly and may have left something out.", "summary": "I'm graduating, have a great job but don't know to take it.  Not sure if I'm being insensitive or she's demanding too much, or how to approach it."}
{"id": "t3_18zk8i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is it so difficult to get any upvotes in the music subs?  [Reposted because I don't fully know how reddit servers work]", "post": "Throwaway so nobody thinks I am using this post to directly advertise.  \n  \nI work as a musician (acoustic singer/songwriter) full time, and have been working in this capacity for the last 2 years. Being a male in my mid-twenties, I know that there are a ton of potential folks out there of a similar demographic who would probably be interested to hear my original music or maybe watch a youtube cover I've done.  \n\nI know that I am not Mozart or even Led Zeppelin but I know that I have talents that some might find interesting or appealing, as evidenced by the fact that my music has paid the bills exclusively for the last 2 years or so.\nI'm hoping that some folks who browse the numerous music subs on reddit would enlighten me as to what I'm doing wrong. Every single link I have ever posted here (and it's only been about 3 in the last year, spaced several months apart) has been quickly downvoted and rarely gets any comment to explain why.", "summary": "Everything I submit to any music-related sub gets quickly downvoted and no comments. What gives? I'll hang up and listen.."}
{"id": "t3_iwovu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Maplins HDMI Cable Scam?", "post": "Dear Reddit, I would like some information on what I believe is a scam (pressure sales) by Maplins, regarding HDMI cables.\n\nI went there a few months back to buy a HDMI cable, only to be faced by prices of \u00a325 and up for a cable (when I have seen them all over the Internet for prices as cheap as \u00a32)\n\nNow, they do actually sell an un-branded \"bargain\" cable, for \u00a310.\n\nI clearly went for this one, obviously thinking \"It's a no-brainer!\" But I was stopped by a sales person, who told me that these cheap cables only support upto 720p, and not the full 1080p HD tha I required.\n\nNow I instantly thought something was wrong. I questioned the sales person, and they explained that they are instructed to inform people that the cables are not 1080p capable (apparently due to the quality of the wiring etc)\n\nI left the store empty handed, as I was very suspicious about the whole thing.\n\nSo, does a HDMI cable have a \"limit\" on the signal it can trasnfer?\n\nDoes a HDMI cable have to support full 1080p to be classed as a HDMI cable?", "summary": "are Maplins trying to scam people to make them spend more money? If so, what can I do about it to stop this happening?"}
{"id": "t3_1p6suz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some guy advice [F16] (quite a long post)", "post": "I started working at a fast food restaurant in January and have since become a little closer with one of my work mates [M16] because we were working together more often. \nWe're in quite an early stage of our friendship but I'm an over analyzing freak so HELP.\n\n*First off: I was rostered on to volunteer while he was working and when I came in he said 'yaaaaay', He's quite unemotional with words but seemed happy to see me? idk.\n\n*I would walk around to see what he would do and usually ends up standing next to me about 70% of the time.\n\n*I started saying the phrase 'rude' a lot, jokingly, and he caught on with it and says it quite regularly as well as other words I've repeated around him.\n\n*Another co worker and one manager has joked about us being boyfriend and girlfriend.\n\n*I brought up that I couldn't go to a festival but got interrupted and later he asked about what I had to say, I said that I couldn't go but I wanted to. He said that he was going with another workmate for transport and that I could go with them. He said they were going to split up when they got to the concert, I said I didn't want to see the bands by myself but then he said 'You don't have to be alone'\u2026.\n\nBUT I feel like sometimes he doesn't care about me, like he doesn't say goodbye after leaving work and he kind of snitched on me at work. He didn't reply to my birthday message to him (he saw it) and I brought it up but he said 'sorry, I was busy.'", "summary": "a new relationship, not sure how he feels about me. copies some of my behaviour, said I could go to a festival with him but shows signs of not caring as well."}
{"id": "t3_4eu58f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 20m Interested in 19f.", "post": "So i am 20 she is 19. She is in my club. I am a bodybuilder and becoming a different version of myself everyday. This has allowed me to accept that a woman while not attracted to what I am right now, can learn to love what I become later. Ive gotten so much more experience with women then i've previously had.\nMichelle is very attracted to me. I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she was like no. and i was fine with that, she then brought up scraping her knee extremely bad. I was like what? Did she feel bad for saying no, im fine with her just saying no i started to move on.\n\nShe is very attracted to me, continues to flirt with me, I'll stretch over a chair, she'll push her chest out mimicking the same motions, smile at me when I look at her or stand feet facing toward me. I don't think she was having a good week when i asked her, she seemed off. So i can just determine what she wants out of this whole thing.\nI have anxiety disorders so I assumed alot of things to be worse then they were. I've had girls Id known ask me out a year later, so i guess people really never forget the way you make them feel.\nShe said she was single about a month ago, I assumed she was dating someone but wether they dated or not IDK. and it doesn't look like she's dating anyone now.", "summary": "Girl said she was single wants to date me. Every time I meet a girl it sets off my anxiety disorders. Mainly I just tend to worry about things for no reason. I feel like i have to spend large amounts of time talking myself down. I love the girl but then I start feeling like she's some kind of witch because my paranoid thoughts upset me."}
{"id": "t3_2p81n2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking why my brother enjoyed a painting so much.", "post": "Not today, but still worthy of this sub. We were sitting around our Thanksgiving table talking about good childhood memories. It was just two of my older brothers, their wives, my sister, her husband, my mom, dad and me and my wife. My oldest brother brings up the topic of the painting in the attic. It was a painting of a naked lady. The face wasn't done, but the body was complete. \n\nMy next oldest brother says \"Hey, that was MINE. I loved that painting\" then he gets quiet. So naturally i'm now curious. \"Why Charlie? Why do you like it so much?\" I pester him for most of the meal just to be a dick. He finally blurts out \"FINE, FUCK. I JERKED OFF TO IT ALL THROUGH MY TEENAGE YEARS. HAPPY NOW?\" My mom turns bright red and blurts out \"Oh Charlie, your father paid a guy when we were in Germany to paint this of me.\" While she's crying, he looked like someone shot him and everyone else at the table was mortified. It was the last Thanksgiving anyone in my family would attend together.", "summary": "my brother use to jerk off to a painting of my mother not knowing it was her."}
{"id": "t3_u8wrf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit...why are many girls attracted to older men? + story", "post": "I'm really curious how people feel about this topic. I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship with a girl of the same age for nearly 4 years. Over such a long period of time, however, we slowly grew apart and went on a \"break.\" We went for a bit over a month without talking after which she soon contacted me. At that point, after doing some research myself, I discovered that she had joined one of those adult sites (she joined  within a week of when we broke up). I can't even begin to explain how I felt after finding that out. But that was only the tip of the iceberg. I became a detective and investigated further by creating a fake account and talking to her along with many other things. I basically discovered that she had hooked up with numerous random men that vary in age from 26-37. \n\nThis isn't a topic about girls who date or hook up with guys that are several years old. Rather, the question pertains to why girls hook up with or even date drastically older men; people that are practically old enough to be their father. I'm also interested as to why men who are in their late 30's would want to hook up with someone nearly half their age. Is this a normal thing? \n\nIf you have any questions in regards to my story I would be more than happy to answer. I hope that we can have a constructive discussion in which people share their own opinions and experiences.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of same age. Ex went on an adult site and hooked up with guys significantly older than her. Why do some girls do this? And why do the men play along?"}
{"id": "t3_2hogdo", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You shall not MAC", "post": "I don't like my brothers girlfriend. She doesn't add anything to the family. She is a temporary girlfriend that has somehow dated my brother for a whole year now. They, as a couple, always have to compare themselves to my girlfriend and it's frustrating. \n\nAnyways, one day when my mother was walking our dog, she heard my brothers girlfriend pull into the driveway and saying how my girlfriend and I were having problems and that's why I haven't seen her. The truth was, I hadn't seen my girlfriend in two weeks cause she was on vacation! This girl is talking trash and doesn't have her facts straight. \n\nInstead of confronting her and causing drama, I use my IT advantage over them and, through trial-and-error, managed to find the MAC address of her cell phone and laptop. I have banned her cell phone from ever getting wifi at my house ever again and will periodically ban her laptop when she is on it here. \n\nHer phone hasn't had wifi at my house in about two months and they can't figure out why that is.", "summary": "I caught my brothers girlfriend talking trash abiut my relationship so I banned her cell phone and laptop from getting wifi at my house."}
{"id": "t3_2mt0wt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by almost melting my eyeball", "post": "So I got this new 500mw laser online and have been having some fun with it, setting paper on fire lighting matching popping balloons etc. Obviously it's pretty powerful. So here's where it all went wrong. I set this next to my bed that night and started to fall asleep when I thought of something, this is gonna look really cool in complete darkness, as I had only used it during the day time. The laser has a button about half way down that you have to hold down for it to work. So I grabbed my new toy excited to test it out pressed the button and then pain total burning pain and I could only see a bright green light. That's right, I was holding it backwards, about 8 inches from my face. This happened about 2 years ago and I am still blind in my right eye.\n\nDon't play with lasers kids.", "summary": "held my new toy backwards and blinded my right eye."}
{"id": "t3_3m5tl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal for me [32M] to feel shitty being left out of a bad group? How do you get over this feeling?", "post": "quick history:\n\nI have been friends with a few co-workers. We have been close for around 3 years and usually hang out after work over a few beers.\n\nHowever, the problem started over a year ago when we hired new people became part of our group. Let's call them Rick and Bob. At first, these 2 guys seemed pretty normal, but after some time, their true colors emerged.\n\nRick is a very charismatic person, and socially outgoing. However, behind the scenes, we found out that he wasn't able to perform his tasks correctly, and I usually had to redo most of his work. He also either doesn't come to work, or comes to work late.\n\nBob is a different beast. Aside from being unable to perform his duties at work, he tends to hit on all the young women in the workplace (single and married, doesn't matter) to the point of borderline harassment. He event tried hitting on our under-aged intern which became a huge issue\n\nI tried to warn the rest of the group about these two people, however, since the rest of the group has no visibility on their actual performance, they didn't believe me. After that incident, I didn't hang out with the group again.\n\nCue 3 months later, Rick and Bob were fired from the company for under-performing among other things. However, this left a bad taste for the rest of the group as they believed that I was the cause of why these 2 were fired.\n\nNow recently, I see that the group had a reunion with these two guys, and I still can't help the feeling of being shitty for these guys still hanging out with these types of people.\n\nHow do I get over this feeling?", "summary": "warned friends over bad eggs, but they chose their side. now seeing these friends and still feeling shitty about it"}
{"id": "t3_1hqnim", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to rub one off before bed. (NSFW)", "post": "I was getting ready for bed when I suddenly got the urge to go shine the pole before heading to sleep.  I do my usual stuff; checking the files I have saved on my PC and pick out a video. I relax and decide to take it slow and enjoy the ride as I made my own day.  When it's time to finish up I'm all prepared to clean up, little did I know what was in store.  I felt a huge shock and a quick, lightening fast load shoots threw the air and lands right on my keyboard and better yet, between two keys. Now I'm sitting here with a now slightly Jizzed up keyboard that I'll clean again in the morning.", "summary": "went to wank, came on my keyboard."}
{"id": "t3_2i39gm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not stacking the dishes very well.", "post": "So I did the dishes last night.  It was a big meal so there were lots of dishes.  Filled up the dishwasher and set it for delayed start. Then washed the rest by hand and filled up the drying rack.  Evidently a little too full.\n\nMiddle of the night, I get woken up by this loud crash. The drying rack is right over the dishwasher and evidently the vibrations caused the dishes to shift just enough that a dutch oven fell off onto the floor.  It landed at just the right angle so that it landed right on the handle, which was a molded part, not something attached or welded on.  The handle snapped off taking a good bit of the side of the pot with it.  Completely useless now.\n\nNow let me take a second to talk about this pot.  This thing was one awesome piece of cookware.  Heavy and solid.  It was some kind of ceramic-coated cast-iron or something.  Nothing ever burned on to it.  Some cookware will start to warp on the bottom after years of heating and cooling, but not this thing.  Had it for 13 years and it is, well was, my favorite thing to cook with.  Did I mention it was also a wedding present from one of my wife's parent's friends?\n\nSo I go to look for it online this morning to see if I can get another one.  Found it [here]    Holy fucking shit, I knew it was a great pot but never would have guessed that it was two hundred and fifty fucking dollars.  Who the fuck pays two hundred and fifty dollars for a pot.  Evidently my in-law's friend is some kind of gourmet chef and wanted to make sure we had at least on really good piece of cookware.", "summary": "Didn't stack the dishes very well and destroyed a $250 dutch oven."}
{"id": "t3_2xryw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [21] always calls me [21M] and initiate contact, but she is always busy when I ask her out", "post": "Hi all\n\nI like this girl in my class, we have gone on many dates, she enjoyed all of them, she told me that she thinks I am smart, mysterious and I make her laugh, she compliments me and all, I do flirt with her all the time, I touch her a lot and she is very comfortable with it, she also touches me, I made my intentions clear from the beginning and that I see her more than friends and that I like her, and she seems to like me too, and she never rejected me or said she is uninterested.\n\nLately I start to get really frustrated and upset, because this is going nowhere, I don't know what she wants or what she is looking for and I want to end this all, I tried to ignore her and move on but I cant, she calls me twice a day and keeps sending me texts, I've been asking her out a lot but every time she has something important to do, I want to meet her for a last time and tell her what I feel about her and what she thinks about us and then I will move on, and stop contacting her.\n\nI don't know how to do this, I want to end this and move on but I can't, what should I do?", "summary": "she always calls me, I want to end this and move on"}
{"id": "t3_20w0ca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my ex [31M] for 6 years, in the 6th week of the break up. Some motivational words needed.", "post": "Hi.\n\nI was with my ex for 6 years and he broke it off 6 weeks ago telling me he doesn't love me anymore. We lived together so moving out had to be sorted. \n\nI've been through the stages and the last few days I have been okish. I've bought new clothes, had a new hair cut and spending lots of time with friends. \n\nFor some reason today I feel I'm abit down about it. I'm on day 11 of NC and I don't intend contacting him, however maybe the realisation is hitting that it is over and he is living his life without me. I've been trying to focus on my future without him but today I just seem a bit flat about it all. \n\nI guess I'm just looking for some motivational words to keep going. I was wondering how were people after 6 weeks in their break up? I know sitting here sad won't change anything I need to look after me now. I do have thoughts about him but I've been managing to push them away but today they seem to be beating me.", "summary": "6 year relationship in the 6th week of the breakup. Looking for some motivational words."}
{"id": "t3_32n9qr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] is the dating pool getting smaller or am I just intimidating ?", "post": "Very new here and thought to ask a simple pondering thought of mine. Are men just not asking out women anymore or could it just be me ?\nI've been told I'm beautiful a million and two times, which may or may not be true according to what people find attractive but I've noticed a odd line of occurrences. Guys don't approach me, they simply don't and I've always wondered why. Am I to attractive to some guys that their just to scared to talk to me ? I usually find myself going after a guy before they ever go after me. \nIf the conversation comes up and I ask why they usually respond with a \"I didn't know how to approach you. If you looked like a easy girl maybe it would've been easier.\" Which is a bit saddening. Is that they way guys tick now ? If you look \"easier\" you might get a introduction and if not you might lonely for awhile ?\nOpinions appreciated.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_k97xa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question about protocol:  How can a gentleman inform a lady that her pants are falling down and everyone can see her underwear (without being creepy)?", "post": "We all know it happens, ladies sit at barstools or on benches and lean forward a bit.  This causes their pants to slide down their backs, revealing underwear or (all too often) the crack.  As captivating as it is to those who find the female form attractive (myself included), I imagine that if the lady knew they were exposed in such a way, she would be quite embarrassed.  I then considered what I would want done in that situation and decided I'd rather be told so I could fix it.  The problem comes when I try to think of a way to tell them.  Everything I can think of is creepy, and maybe there's no way around it (I imagine it also depends on how well you know the person).", "summary": "Women need an equivalent of \"Your fly is down\".  Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2r5xgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29m) think I need to go NC from friend (22f) need advice", "post": "Okay so my friend and I have hung out once in the last few months since I moved back to my hometown.\n\nMy friend of 4 years is constantly on a carousel of people in her life helping her out and then wearing out her welcome, to move on to more friends or family that \"stick by her no matter what\". She has been kicked out of her parents house three times I know of. Her friends always seem to take her in after she \"changes her ways\", only to allow more drama and her to move around amongst them, only to return home and start the cycle again.\n\nMy wife and I (22f) both feel sorry for her as she suffered a violent sexual assault in 2012 and has a history of substance abuse. She is seeing a counselor and getting professional help. Still during the holidays I have got a sudden burst of text messages from her and I suspect she is looking for a fresh crutch. We are broke as hell and I am very reluctant to even offer her shelter because I have seen her go to friends and family alike after every single helping hand and bitch non-stop about how bad of people they are.\n\nThe last time I heard from her prior to Christmas was end of November where she wanted me to go to her house and move her out late at night (she said landlord was harassing her, but she hinted that she was about to dodge the rent/lease- a detail she was not forward with.)", "summary": "feeling sorry for someone but feeling like they are a perpetual victim looking for a new friend to take advantage of. No contact too harsh or just what I need?"}
{"id": "t3_31098h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother [21M] is in love with [20F] and she likes him back. Things are a little complicated.", "post": "So my brother broke up with his ex-girlfriend about 6 months ago and 3 months later he started talking to another girl who he was good friends with during the relationship. \n\nThey were always good friends but things took a change. She apparently had a relationship in the past where the guy cheated on her so now she doesn't really trust guys or relationships. My brother knows this but they've still talked and acted like a couple. \n\nThings changed up when they both decided they wanted to have fun in college and date other people and then in 2-3 years theyll finally settle down and get together. He has also shown me texts they've sent to eachother, some saying \"I love you and can't wait to tell our kids one day about this\" and much more like it. I think this is completely stupid and is setting up for a huge failure because they're both hooking up with random people. \n\nWhat can I say to him/her to make them change their mind and finally get together and be official or break it off completely?", "summary": "Brother[21M] is in love with [20F] who loves him back, but they want to hook up with other people for another 2 years before settling down and he's upset."}
{"id": "t3_3wqvly", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "GF's US private college required a medical disability form for her to live off campus, then reduced her aid (institutional grant) when she moved. Allowed?", "post": "Long version:\n\nThe private college she attends in VT has been going through administrative changes for the last several years (when this drama started; she's a senior now). She has diagnosed OCD but her request to live off-campus was repeatedly denied; she couldn't hack it in the dorms and moved into my apartment, but was still being charged for on-campus accommodations that she didn't use. This went on for ~1.5 semesters.\n\nThe college eventually implemented a new policy that allowed her to \"move out\" of the dorms (i.e. no longer be charged for living there when she wasn't) if she gave them a disability form signed by a psychologist, along with a letter describing why she needed to move because of said disability. Letter was to the effect of: \"Unable to live on campus because of my OCD. Can't afford to pay for room and board I'm not using AND rent and food off campus. Stop charging me for an empty dorm so I can use my financial aid to support myself.\" Psychologist signed off.\n\nAdmin approve her request; she officially gets the off-campus designation. At the end of the semester, she finds out they reduced her financial aid, which was mostly in the form of an institutional need-based-but-performance-contingent grant (she's an international student), by the amount she had been paying for room and board. \n\nClearly, just because she's not living on-campus doesn't mean her need for food and housing has been magically eliminated, but her appeals through the financial aid office keep getting denied: they say that not paying for room and board reduces her calculated need, which reduces her award.  She's continued to receive this reduced amount every semester since.\n\nSeems a little fishy to me. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Can a private US college simultaneously say all of the following?"}
{"id": "t3_2lxz54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Ex [21 F] of 4-ish years are done. Do you ever find another love?", "post": "I'm young. I've got time to move on. I know that. \n\nBut I never loved anything the way I love this woman. She can make me feel like +100 amazing or -100 depressed. She's got a vice grip on my soul. \n\nLong story short, after a detailed history we got together last week 3 times and there was no chemistry. She was too tired to fuck. She didn't really want anything too romantic. She wanted a fucking wet blanket to pet her head and give kisses to and improve her self conscious. \n\nAnd now I was going to invite her over to see if we could try again and maybe get the wheels rolling. We've done it a ton of times before. \n\nBut first I checked her blog and she's going with her family to florida. I already knew that, but I guess she's bringing some boy. Nevermind the fact that she *just* had me to a family function and it went well. She's just bringing some other boy. She's super excited about it. \n\nSo it's done. I'm just depressed beyond repair this time. I truly know that it is over. \n\nBut will it ever be better? Will I ever meet someone like that again? Someone that I absolutely love beyond belief? Have you done it? Please share your story?", "summary": "I am insanely in love with someone and haven't given up on them despite being let down. Is it possible to meet someone who you feel the same about? PLEASE tell me stories of a second love. I want stories where someone fell in love with a second person. I'm afraid I won't ever feel the same thing."}
{"id": "t3_1ngxas", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] find myself in a 'break' with the love of my life [20F]. How have other Redditors faired in this situation?", "post": "Hey Reddit! I am a 24[m] whos been in a relationship with 20[f] for 3 years, engaged for the one. We've just recently decided to take a break. To put it lightly, I am completely devastated to be on a 'break' from my fiancee. But she's young and just went off to college and has never really experienced independance. That, along with a few other issues, we decided to take a break.\n\nMy question(s) to you, Reddit is for those who have been in 'breaks' or perhaps even break-ups. How long were you broken up before getting back together with your significant other? Did you date anyone in between, or stay single?\n\nWhy did you go on a break, and when you got back together, was it better or even worse than before? \n\nI guess I want to gather a consensus to see if there are other successful 'getting back together' stories, and to see which ones perhaps didn't work out. I love this girl. I know she's the one I am going to marry, but now I have to fight with being apart and train my emotions to let her be free for awhile, while I also focus on myself. I suppose I am looking for other inspirational relationships that found their way back to each other. But I'd also like to hear any that didn't work out as well.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Have you ever been in a relationship, went on a 'break', and succesfully got back together?"}
{"id": "t3_3cyiyc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing volleyball before sex", "post": "I work in a small startup office. We're young and fun, so we went out to play volleyball after work last night. It was the first time I played in years. So, needless to say, all the jumping took a toll on my legs.\n\nFast forward to later that night. I'm home with the girlfriend, and things start getting hot and heavy. We're on the couch, it's a little cramped, but we're getting our groove on. Things are going great, and we're into it, losing ourselves in the ecstasy. I start feeling that the moment of truth is nigh, and Mt. Vesuvius is primed to erupt. So, I pull out and take off the condom, cause that's my jam. I prime myself above her, she grabs my private-at-attention with her hand like she always does, and that's when it happens.\n\nJust as I'm about to blow, both of my quads cramp simultaneously and I let out a moan of pain. She's working on me as I explode all over her. All I can feel is the cramp - it's like my pleasure pole isn't even a part of my body ooh. \"OHHHHH\" I moan in pain - \"AW YEAHH, YEAHHH,\" she moans with me. \"OH SWEET LORD,\" I wail mid-cramp, \"yeah, baby, yea!\" she joins in enthusiastically. \n\nI somehow manage to yelp out the word \"cramp,\" and she stops dead in her tracks as it slowly dawns on her just what is happening. I collapse near her and the pain begins to subside. We're both laughing hysterically. I'm feeling the post-coital bliss, but didn't feel even a second of the orgasm. Fuckin' volleyball.", "summary": "leg cramped mid-orgasm, gf though I was moaning in ecstasy."}
{"id": "t3_1omj1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] exboyfriend [21M] bugged my phone, and I'm having problems trusting anyone", "post": "So as a bright eyed and bushy tailed freshman in college, I started dating this boy, and we had a ton of relationship problems. He was really controlling, and jealous of my friends from back home, and everything terrible. He broke up with me for most of my birthday because I had mentioned that boys were complimenting me. I still (stupidly) dated him for 6 months until...\n\nThree days into summer break (I live about 4 hours away, but we had plans to visit each other), he started texting me, asking really sketchy questions. He was asking about stuff I was talking to my friends about, and I was suspicious, so I checked my Facebook (in case I happened to be logged in at his place), but the questions were really specific, and what I was texting. So I called him out on it, and he called me to tell me he put a bug on my phone so he could read all my texts and everything I do on my phone. I guess they really do make an app for that.\n\nObviously, I made sure it was off my phone, and broke up with him immediately. He didn't even see anything wrong with it! He said it was my fault for dating a tech person (he was a computer science major, and I knew more about his classes than he did). \n\nNow, it's been about five months, and I've been talking to some people, but I'm so paranoid they *know* what I send to other people or say aloud, or even think in my head. I know it's stupid, especially since none of them have had my phone, and I've never said bad things about them or done anything wrong. Every time someone texts me vaguely, or in a way that can be misconstrued as being cold, the paranoia wells up again.", "summary": "My exboyfriend bugged my phone, and now I'm paranoid every potential suitor can read my texts/thoughts/etc. How do I fix this and not let it ruin future relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_4rk9pb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my girlfriend [25F] of 10 months. She's been feeling depressed lately and won't tell me why.", "post": "Me and Diane have been together for about 10 months. In the beginning of our relationship she has been very happy, spontaneous, outgoing, etc. However, about 1 month ago she started feeling depressed. \n\nThe major problem is that she won't tell me why. She is a very private person when it comes to personal issues. When we argue, she always mentions things like \"my problems\" or \"my situations\" or \"what I'm going through\". But, she never elaborates on what these are when I ask her. However, she did open up to me a bit about a problem that's contributing to her sadness.\n\nI am a full time graduate student while she works. Her last relationship was also with a graduate student which lasted 5 years and ended 1.5-2 years ago. One of the reasons why she feels sad is because she is afraid that if we do not work out, she is going to look back in her 20s and say things like \"I should've spent my 20s living for myself\". As in, she currently feels like her life has limitations. Her limitations being my budget (from being a student) and our schedules not really lining up. However, although we have \"limitations\", I do my best to make the best of our day and plan events for us all the time. Diane's thoughts may sound mean/selfish but she says she's been trying really hard to reframe her method of thinking and I believe her. \n\nAside from this, there are many other problems that I don't know about. She says she doesn't want to tell me because she doesn't want to waste my time, ruin my day, or just isn't in the mood. I want to be there for her. I want to feel the sadness with her. I want to get through this with her if she would just let me. How do I go about this situation? I'm at a lost and would love some insight.", "summary": "Girlfriend has been feeling depressed lately but won't tell me why."}
{"id": "t3_4f8r9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28F) best friend for ten years (28F) has gained a significant amount of weight in the last year. I am really worried about her.", "post": "I have been best friends with Amanda for ten years. We lived together throughout undergrad and grad school. \n\nAmanda is amazing, kind, and absolutely beautiful. I don't say that because she's my best friend. Anyone who sees her knows this. She's always been a bit bigger though- she wore probably a size 16/18 throughout the years I've known her. I have always been small. \n\nA little over a year and a half ago, Amanda accepted a job across the country and moved away from me. I haven't seen her for a year, but this weekend, I finally went to visit her for a long weekend. I was/am so happy!\n\nI do not mean to come down on Amanda's all appearance in any way. But. She has gained 75-100+ pounds in the last year. I never mentioned it. She's still beautiful.\n\nBut Amanda is diabetic. She has been since before we met. And I am really, really worried about her health with this sudden, rapid weight gain. \n\nI don't know what to do. I don't want my best friend to be unhealthy or even put her life in danger. Even more so, I don't know if this weight gain is because of depression, or something else. I know she has been going through a rough time lately, and recently her boyfriend of five years broke up with her. I'm still worried.  But I don't know how to say anything, or even if it's my place to say anything.", "summary": "I've been best friends with Amanda for a decade. She's beautiful but has gained about 75-100 lbs in the last year. I noticed this weekend when I saw her for the first time in a year. I am so worried about her but don't know if I can or should say anything."}
{"id": "t3_1gb5wb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [24M] with [23F] girlfriend (1.5yr) - I have been given an Ultimatum", "post": "I should start off by saying that we're in a long distance relationship (1.5 years) and have been for the majority of the relationship.  I have made friends where I am located, but there is one in particular that concerns my girlfriend.  This other girl [21F] I met in one of my courses.  We talked over the semester - every other day in class - as well as hung out a few times (coffee/lunch).  We always have long conversations and communicate very well, but I fear that some affections have begun to grow.\n\nI made some things for her, one for her birthday.  My girlfriend is - naturally - upset about this.  She does not want me doing some things for another girl.  She often feels inadequate even when we are together.  I do so much for her, but perhaps they aren't the right things?  Either way, she has given me an Ultimatum.  I had to choose between her or my friend.  \n\nOf course I chose her, but now I am back to being pretty much alone where I am.  I have made a couple other friends, but the one [21F] I genuinely enjoy spending time with.  I should also mention that while I like her, there is no sexual attraction.\n\nThis has conflicted me for a while, because she gives me energy and conversation that I do not receive from my girlfriend.  I have had problems determining how I feel and what to do about this whole situation, because I hate having to drop a friend who is so close to me.", "summary": "Girlfriend gives me Ultimatum of choosing between her and a female friend.  Chose girlfriend. Feeling conflicted."}
{"id": "t3_1knu54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-girlfriend (29F) of two months forged a pregnancy test from her doctor, and continues to harrass me (29M). What do I do?", "post": "So, here's the Cliff's Notes version:\n\nAfter realizing that the plethora of red flags that I was noticing over the two months of dating this person were indeed indicative of one severely deranged and unhealthy individual, I politely, firmly, and definitively told her that things weren't going to work out.\n\nFirst, she had a temper tantrum, locked herself in my bathroom, sent a barrage of lovey-dovey texts, followed by a series of texts indicating that she was going to hurt herself. (She emerged with scratches on one of her wrists.)\n\nThen, once things calmed down, I repeated that things weren't going to work out, citing the above incident as one of many reasons why, and she ran out and got a tattoo of our initials on her scratched-up wrist.\n\nFinally, I get her out of my place, and cut off all communication - for twelve hours, until she texts me saying that she's pregnant. I 99.99% knew that she was lying, but I played along for about 20 minutes until she became verbally abusive about our relationship, and tried to scare me with threats to keep the baby.\n\nI later found out that she told other people, including friends of mine and her parents that she's pregnant.\n\nAbout two weeks later, she texts me saying that she got an abortion. When I press her for proof, she disappears for a while, and then sends me an obviously forged pregnancy test result document from her OBGYN, as well as  forged post abortion exam paperwork.\n\nThen she rails on me for how horrible I am, but says that we should try to work things out.\n\nAt which point I, again, cut off all communication.\n\nBut she continues to harass me with pathetic lovey-dovey texts, or creepy, bitter, mean ones.\n\nDo I maintain radio silence and keep my knowledge/proof of her forgery in my back pocket for a rainy day, report her to her OBGYN / authorities, or is there another option I haven't considered.", "summary": "My ex-girlfriend forged pregnancy test and post-abortion documents in an attempt to get back together with me, and make me look bad to others, and she continues to harass me. Now that I know that she's not pregnant, do I cut off all communication and save my knowledge of her forgery for a rainy day, or do I notify the authorities/her doctor that she forged medical documents?"}
{"id": "t3_31n1ph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M (25) torn between two F (25). Need an external perspective!", "post": "So this situation has been going on too long! And I can't seem to stop it. I feel terrible about it...\n\nAfter being friends for some years, about 5 months ago I started causally dating girl X (25). She's fun, supportive, we get on really well, the sex is incredible and we share mutual friends. \n\nHowever, 3 months ago I moved 2 hours away for a new job. I'm new to the area and don't have many friends here...\n\nOne night I met new girl Y (25). She's beautiful, fun and intelligent. We also share a lot of interests and get on well together... However currently she has 'shit' going on in her life (parents devoice, battling bulimia and depression) and I feel like her negativity is rubbing off on me and she is relying on me to be there as a 'crutch' for her.\n\nI think about both girls and like them! Both want to progress our relationship 'to the next level'. Ahhh my heads a mess!!!!\n\nHas anyone ever been in a similar situ? Or can offer some words of advice?", "summary": "I like two girls. X: known for a while, mutual friends, sex is great. But is 2 hours away. Y: local, interesting, hot, but is negative and is relying emotionally on me a lot already."}
{"id": "t3_28yfjr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [27/f] don't know how to be at peace with not being in a relationship with him [26/m]", "post": "Dear Reddit, so a few weeks back I had already posted on how I was hung-up on this guy at work. Reddit basically gave me the will to not pursue this guy any longer, or atleast made me realise that me & him won't be a in a relationship if I am the only party who wants it. Fast forward a few weeks of busying myself and reminding myself how it does not matter how perfect I am if I keep on compromising for someone who does not feel anything -I accidentally texted him the words to a mushy song I was listening. I felt so mad, shocked, disappointed in myself..then I came those bouts of me wanting to ask him out for coffee etc., but luckily I got upset that he went home so early from work that it snuffed out any such wish. Truth be told, I still feel for him. I think about him every night before I sleep and I still hope that he sees me as a potential gf/life partner. I cry when I assume/suspect/deduce that he has some other lady friends/love interest. I get upset when he changes his routines e.g.. he used to work so late at night, now he goes back on the dot in pursuit of whatever leisurely activities or friendly companionship...and its been 4 months since we broke up. Today, at lunch I thought he had a new watch on..and that made me hysterical thinking that some special lady friend gave to him.  When these things happen, I would get depressed and not get work done. Though I no longer express these feelings to him nor do I show any signs of being affected when he smiles or asks if I am well when we bump into each other, I still have hopes that he still wants me. Thanks to Reddit, I now understand that he does all these niceties not out of wanting to rekindle the relationship, but perhaps attention or putting up appearances for colleagues/circle of friends. And yes, he doesn't text or call me...I guess he just doesn't miss me.", "summary": "head tells me to be strong, my heart still yearns for him."}
{"id": "t3_um6yi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there any \"Happy Marriages\"? I'm getting married and I'm only hearing purely negative comments.", "post": "As the title says, I'm getting married (this July actually). And all I've ever heard/seen were crappy marriages. I've been surrounded by nothing but unhappy couples and the only \"successful\" ones I've ever seen are the few pictures online of old couples together. \nThe reason I'm asking is because I *love* my fiance. I love him very much. But he has a very bad habit of re-distributing blame, doesn't want to admit his faults etc. Normally we would talk about these things and be able to work it out, but I only see him on weekends; weekends that are full of wedding stuff and grad parties. I guess long story short, I'm getting to be a nervous wreck (for many various things, our argument being the latest) and starting to have cold feet. Are there any reassurances or older couples that have had a good marriage? I could use a good story right about now.", "summary": "Refer to title."}
{"id": "t3_2ksbea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just learned that my [21F] parents are getting divorced. They always seemed so happy. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Last night, 10 minutes before a Chemistry exam, I found out through text that my parents are getting a divorce. I always looked up to them and their relationship, only hoping that I could have a healthy family like theirs someday. I am in a really great place with my longterm boyfriend [24M] and we have always talked about being together forever, but I feel like forever isn't real anymore, just a joke. The fairytale love story I looked up to for my entire life has just crumbled. I will never get to say to my kids, \"Let's go to Grandma and Grandpa's house.\" Everything I've ever loved about my family as a whole is over now. I mean, how do I deal with this? What do I say to them? What is my role in this?", "summary": "Just learned my parents are splitting up, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4des5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 30 Male that feels unable to truly love or be loved again...", "post": "I had some really rough situations in my life, at least they were to me... The death of two friends at an early age that were brothers to me, some failed relationships that were probably too emotionally intense and ended up bad, and more stuff, all contributed to where i am now.\n\nI'm 30 years old now, still finishing college, living at parents house  and didn't had a relationship in the past 5 years. I feel like I have nothing to give to anyone cause i'm a failure, cause i failed at everything I got into... all my dreams were shattered and I have no idea how i'm still alive and why. Why would someone love me? I suck. Why would I love anyone again? They suck. \n\nPeople don't deserve my love cause I don't deserve it as well, cause i loved to much, so much that I forgot about myself, cause i wanted to be forever in love... and every hearbreaking action that the others had towards me is buried within the depths of my  mind, making me not believe in the others, as I don't believe in myself as well. \n\nLove was the only thing the kept me going, that felt real to me and now it's the only thing that really scares me to death and everytime I actually think that I might be feeling something regarding someone, I think that they will never love me like I would love them or that I'm too idiot and dumb to be loved. Girls find me cute and some times flirt with me but I can't think anything but \"I don't wanna get hurt by some heartless person again.\" and/or \"She's playing games with me (AGAIN) and I will get burned again.\"\n\nI don't know what I want from this... maybe I just need to talk to someone that doesn't know me so that I don't feel so exposed...", "summary": "What shall I do with my life? Life has no meaning anymore if I'm forever alone."}
{"id": "t3_45e8wp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU, really FU by not checking the bathtub. .", "post": "Ok, I just fucked up about 2 days ago. I tried posting before, but it was removed. I am on my phone as well so excuse my formatting, but I think I can manage. \n\nSo backstory real quicklike, I went snowboarding not long ago, I ate shit,  it was my first time, and I cracked a rib, sprained my wrist. \n\nI'm visiting in town for my grandmother's funeral. I'm at my other grandmother's and I decided to run a bubble bath. Soaking these aching, cracked and sprained bones in hot and heavy water would be amazing right now. \n\nSo... this is where I fuck up but didn't know it yet. \n\nI run a bath, I normally check the tub for things like hair or whatever before I get in, but I'm high on xanax, so I don't pay any attention to the tub. I just run the bath, squeeze in some shampoo or something to make bubbles, grab the clothes I am going to put on, come back and it looks good. It's hot, it's heavy. \n\nI soak, and ohhhh. It's exhilarating. The nostalgic bathtub, the warm water, the bubbles, but then.. the smell...\n\nMy grandfather has Alzheimer's and dementia. He's gotten progressively worse.\n\nHe was known to hide his diapers in random places, he's even tried to flush one once. \n\nSo I soak, I feel great, right?\nNo, left. \n\nTurns out earlier that day he had an episode, and as I went to get out, I could feel small chunks hitting my body. I noticed small brown chunks on me as well. I felt something cling to my foot. Turns out, I soaked in murky brown water for 5-10 minutes with a diaper. A shitty diaper.  I puked.", "summary": "Cracked a rib, ran the bathtub, clung a diaper, became the shattub"}
{"id": "t3_zrx7w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] Hypocritical girlfriend is jealous?", "post": "Hi everyone. So my girlfriend of a year and a half has major jealousy issues. At one point I couldn't even hang out with my group of friends without her feeling \"weird\" about it. Even when they were mostly guys, she'd feel uncomfortable. I found this VERY hypocritical since her group of friends were 95% male. \nI am normally not the jealous type. I let her do what she wants, and I know she won't cheat. I know that she knows I won't cheat on her as well. She just doesn't feel comfortable with me talking to other girls.\nWe once had a huge argument because I COMMENTED on a girls photo on Facebook. Warning bells indeed. She feels weird if I have pictures of me with friends on my phone as well.\n\nWhat bothers me is that she does all these things herself!\n\nJust today she was at school (different unis), hanging with a guy friend that I don't know. I called her, not knowing this, to have her say, \"Oh, talk to my friend!\" I then spent the next 30 seconds awkwardly talking to some man I've never met before. I'm just so angry at the fact that, were I doing what she was, with a girl, she'd unleash hell on me.\nShould I end the relationship, or try to talk things out (which I've tried before)?", "summary": "Everything I do that my girlfriend gets jealous of, she does herself."}
{"id": "t3_3nu8ab", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rubbing a leaf against a wall.", "post": "It wasn't today but I mentioned it in a comment and some people wanted a story so here I go.\n\nIn high school one day I was waiting for my mom to pick me up because my car was in the shop, and while waiting I was really bored and picked up a leaf and was just fucking with it. At one point I rubbed it against a wall and some of the chlorophyll rubbed of and onto a the wall. I thought to my self \"oh that's cool, I'm gonna make a square\". A few seconds later, while I'm making my square the school cop runs up and grabs my arm and twists it behind my back and handcuffs me and throws me in his car, screaming at me while he does.\n\nLuckily my mother was there to get me already and when the cop told her I was about to go to jail for rubbing a leaf against a wall, she demanded we see the principal first to tell her why that's stupid.\n\nWe told her the circumstances, and how I had no malicious intent, that it was just a guy being fascinated by something he learned at school 3 years ago, my principal said and I quote \"well you may know that was chlorophyll but some of our less academic minded students will see that and think they can write on walls, that's why we have to suspend you for writing graffiti\"", "summary": "I thought science was cool and looked at chlorophyll, and got suspended because some kids don't pay attention in freshman biology."}
{"id": "t3_2w4r7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27 m) EX gf (26) is still in love with me and wants to get back together.", "post": "After dating for over a year I broke up with my girlfriend about four months ago. My main reasoning was because she loved me and I didn't feel I loved her back. Thinking this made me feel awful. I care deeply for her and we were great friends, but it seemed like the right thing to do. \n\nRecently we've been talking again and she's been making some good points that I have been agreeing with for the most part about a fear of commitment and putting my first love from about eight years ago on a pedestal to compare all feelings to follow. \n\nBefore this I was fairly sure we were not meant to be together but these new revelations have been really making me think about how I define love.  \n\nWe had a lot of fun when we were together and by and large got along great. While she is hurt she is interested in trying again even if it means getting hurt more eventually. I'm hesitant for that reason. I've already caused this person I care a great deal about a lot of pain and would not want to do it again. \n\nI want to try again but now I'm not sure if it's because how I view love is different or if I'm justifying it  with that because I like being in a relationship.", "summary": "After dumping my Ex gf she wants to try again now that my thoughts on love have changed. I'm not sure if I'm considering it because of her valid points or if I'm being selfish."}
{"id": "t3_3l6sv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] am not ready to settle down with my girlfriend [24F] of 2 years. Want to travel the world solo but it's awkward timing.", "post": "Hey reddit. Thank you so much in advance for giving me advice. So this is a throwaway account.\n\nI'll go straight to the point. I met my girlfriend in Philly two years ago. We spent a lot of time together in the city and it was great. Best companion I've ever had. I always had this dream to travel USA and do all 50 states. So I quit my job earlier this year and she managed to get a leave from work so she can go back to work in December. We're currently in the middle of our trip across the country. \n\nShe's set on us moving in together when we get back to Philly. She's looking for apartments and is excited for the next stage. Unfortunately, I don't feel the same way. In fact, my mind is elsewhere since I want to keep traveling and see the rest of the world - specifically South East Asia. She's a great companion and I love you. I just don't think I'm ready to settle down, there's so much more I want to do and since I'm unemployed, this is the perfect opportunity to see the world. She won't want to do that next extended trip with me and I would love to spend some proper time alone and see parts of the world that I've always wanted to see. But, this would mean breaking up when our USA trip is over. She won't want do deal with that LDR and it would be unfair to ask that of her. She has absolutely no idea I'm feeling this way and I hate the idea of hurting her and leaving her hanging. She has enough money saved up to move in without me. \n\nReddit, I would love your advice. How do I approach it. I haven't mentioned anything to her. But I really think I need this for me.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 years wants to move in after our long USA trip. I want to break up and travel the world solo. How do I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_1izumb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you get over losing your best friend? [20F, 20M]", "post": "I [20f] and my ex [20m] have been off and on for almost two years now. I'm going to keep that part short; it was amazing at times, and sometimes it was the most stressful thing ever. I was never the one to want to break things off. I loved him, I still love him and I always felt things could work. A few weeks ago, he said he just wanted to move on from this. \n\nThe thing is, I completely understand where he's coming from. While I may not understand why he couldn't make a commitment to me, I have come to realize -- we're probably just not right for each other. Just because we loved each other doesn't mean we should be together. I'm not angry with him. Every now and then I may get frustrated, I may get a little nostalgic, but since we broke off contact a few weeks ago I've really been okay. Some days I'm actually great. I don't need him to be happy. I'm happy with myself and where I am. I want him to be happy, even if it's not with me. Maybe a few months ago I wouldn't have been able to say it and mean it, but I really do just want both of us to be happy. \n\nIt's just that he was my best friend for almost two years and being in college -- it's like this is the person you spend almost all of your time with. You get so close to them and then they're just gone. Every now and then I just miss his friendship. We just had so many things in common. There are times when something will come up -- a story, a song, a movie, etc. and he would have been the only one that it would've been relevant to share with. I know it sucks and I just have to deal with it, but I'm wondering how you guys have gotten over this. This is my first break-up and I may not have much experience, but I would say I've gone through every sort of emotion with him and I just hate the feeling that we just lose this person we've been so close with for so long.", "summary": "how do you move on from losing a best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3c9fat", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Huge crush on Coworker/Close Friend and not sure what to do.", "post": "I work at a summer camp near my hometown and have for the past two years (this being my third summer). Every year I have had a girlfriend over the summer but there's always this one other counselor who's my age and I think is very very cute. I've had a huge crush on her ever since our first summer working together. Both of us were very quiet to begin with and have lived very different lives (I go away to school, she commutes from home, I want to do something finance related, she wants to do education, etc.) but this summer we've been a lot more open and have been putting ourselves out there a bit more. Additionally, we've been spending a lot of time together with our friend group of coworkers and I am really starting to fall for her. She however, gives no signs whatsoever that she is into me and I really don't know what to do. I just think that she's an awesome person and I want to tell her how I feel but I don't want to muck anything up. I'd really be disappointed if I screwed up the squad we've got because of it. \n\nThe other problem is that when I leave to go back to school in the fall, it'd be hard for us to keep the relationship up (not impossible, but just hard). Part of me feels like I should just put myself out there and tell her how I feel now and try and make something of it, another feels like I should wait until the end of the summer so it doesn't change anything about our friendship, and a third part tells me I should keep it to myself.", "summary": "Huge crush on a coworker who also happens to be a close friend. Worried that if I tell her it'll screw everything up. Probably won't realistically happen, but I still hope. Is it worth trying for something or nah?"}
{"id": "t3_381um4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf[24M] of 2.5 yrs, I'm suffering anxiety and considering leaving", "post": "A bit of background, this is my first serious relationship and when we're together everything is mostly fine. Due to our busy schedules, we see each other about 1-2 times a week. My anxiety has only started to occur since last maybe last year. \n\nI get anxiety mostly from waiting to hear a reply from him when I try to make plans to see each other. \n\nIt bothers me that it takes him the whole day to respond to me. It disappoints me the most to wait all day to hear that he's busy. Why couldn't he have mentioned this before instead of waiting 1-12 hrs for a response? We've discussed this before and I've asked him to atleast respond saying that he's not sure yet/he might be busy but he doesn't most of the times and doesn't see it as a problem.\n\nRationally, I know that he'll respond eventually and even if he is busy that day that I'd see him when he's free. I know this problem may sound petty to but I honestly don't know what to do anymore and countless times I've considered breaking up over it. It really takes a toll on me and I do try and distract myself but I end up not being as productive as I can be.", "summary": "I get anxiety waiting for my bf to respond to my plans, it's taking a toll on me and I have no clue how to fix it and pondering whether I should break up over this"}
{"id": "t3_4k8srr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] would like to know how to stop \"hyping\" women up.", "post": "I just met this girl at my job (she came in for a meeting and we were talking for about 20-25 minutes or so while she was waiting) and we seemed to have really hit it off. She actually struck up the conversation and then continued to do so even after the conversation got cut off due to some phone calls. The problem is, I'm not 100% sure she's interested or was just being super friendly.\n\nShe seemed really awesome, so I just sent a friend request on FB and just sent her a message about 5 minutes ago. I would've regretted *not* trying to contact her, honestly.\n\nMy problem is, however, I ***always*** build women up. I meet so many women I don't click with, that when I finally *do* click with someone, I make them out to be perfect before we've even hungout.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for advice on how to stop doing that lmao I apologize if this isn't the proper sub. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "I need to stop hyping girls up."}
{"id": "t3_3xefq8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at porn", "post": "So I was minding my own business doing the general sweep for some spank bank material in r/all when I stumbled across a favorable gif that I NEEDED some sauce on. \n\nI scroll down to the comments section and see the sauce link, then a comment underneath along the lines of, \"don't scroll further if you know what's good for you\" and \"spoilers spoilers spoilerz!\" \n\nPfft. I've seen some shit. There isn't a lot that I don't already know about so I'll be fine, right? \n\nWrong.\n\nImmediately after the warning was a comment revealing all the spoilers in its entirety about the new star wars film. I stopped reading after the biggest bomb shell and dann near cried sitting on the shitter. I guess I'll have to confirm if what the comment read is true when I can find time to go see the movie. Fuck.", "summary": "nowhere is safe"}
{"id": "t3_2jiysl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I forcefully take control of my father's finances?", "post": "Hey reddit! I grew up with a father who is on long term disabilty and because he is so down about his life he has gotten involved in crack. It really wasn't bad for the first few years but now, at year 7, he refuses to admit there's a problem. My parents have been without tv/phone/cable for 4 months now, they sometimes don't have electric, and they've had a car repoed. My father has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and anxiety disorder as well. throughout my childhood he and I often got into fights and one time he even came after me with a knife. The last year or so he has also tried to kill himself on multiple occasions. So my question is... Is there a way I can forcefully take over his finances? I have a lot of evidence to be able to deem him mentally incapassable, which should then make it easy for a court to award me control over his finances if I were to try correct?", "summary": "My father has a drug problem and has tried to hurt me and kill himself often. Can I forcefully gain control over his finances without his consent?"}
{"id": "t3_1pbzgw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Looking for 7 seconds in 5k", "post": "Just came off a new PR of 16:37 (previous pr was 6:56 on same course) for the 5k! I am in high school and my school was trying to qualify for States for the first time in school history and to make a long story short we made it! Our goal for more than a year was to make states and now that we're here im not really sure what im going for in the race. The race is this Saturday and it would be cool to go sub 16:30 but with no more time to improve fitness i don't know how to drop those last 7 seconds. Thanks!", "summary": "Looking to drop 7 seconds without improving fitness"}
{"id": "t3_1l5x88", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is the lady responsible for feeding her mister?", "post": "My bf makes more money than me (despite me working longer hours and more physically demanding work) yet I'm still responsible for feeding him, making dinner when I get home and packing his lunch in the morning....\n\nI can't speak for all ladies, but I eat way less than him, I am so much less pickier than he is, and I really could just careless about the meals.... \n\nSince it affects his mood/ his day/ his feels shouldn't he take on our diets and the grocery shopping as his responsibility??? \n\nI hate getting blamed for being under par when his standards aren't even consistent.", "summary": "my bf cares about food-- I don't, shouldn't he grocery shop/prepare the meals??"}
{"id": "t3_3060fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 M] win her [19 F] over?", "post": "I got to know the most beautiful, modest, loyal & open-minded girl online.\n\nWe almost have everything in common, we did a lot of things together all the time and had so much fun.\n\nThere were a lot of signs that she's interested in me, she wanted to meet up, see pictures, loved to see when I message / invite her, etc.\n\n1 month passes I found out that she actually is in a relationship (just for 2 weeks or something) but they keep it secret. Her boyfriend doesn't respect her privacy, is very controlling and possessive of her and guilttrips her everytime she's doing things where he's not included.\n\nNow I talked to her about this and said that there were a lot of signs that she isn't happy in the relationship (didn't want to answer whether she's happy, \"doesn't know what she's doing / what she wants\", she even said that she might have made a mistake accepting him). I am so disappointed of myself that I didn't have the courage to ask her.\n\nHe asked her out before and she said no and a couple of months later he asked again and she \"just said yes\"\n\nNow, her boyfriend is not social at all, so he is very attached & controlling of her and could not take losing her (I believe). She said that things are not going to change (she is probably afraid of leaving him so he doesn't get depressed).\n\nIt hurts me so much since I thought so much of a common future. Now what? Shall I just stay her friend? Use the \"no contact\" rule? Or just wait? Any advice appreciated", "summary": "I got to know the girl of my dreams, I like her, she likes me, I never showed, she thinks I'm not interested and someone else asked her and she agreed."}
{"id": "t3_fp9bx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it time for therapy?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I've been reading for a while and I really need your help. I'm 24, in med school, and I think I need therapy. I have always had low self esteem and although I have never been overweight I've always been on the high end of normal. Everyone always tells me I'm attractive but I can't see past my weight. I know I'm smart and I should be above this and I've been thinking about seeing someone about it for years, I really feel like my low self esteem has prevented me from having an easier time making friends and definitely from getting into a relationship (my last relationship ended in high school). But I've always been way too terrified to go for reasons I can't pinpoint.\n\nI've always really enjoyed eating, and I have always overate occasionally when there is something I like a lot (which is why I can never lose weight despite being a pretty regular gym goer). However, lately I've been going on serious binges and I'm scaring myself. For the past few months at least 2 times a week I've been eating until I'm in physical pain and I literally can't fit anything else in my body. I keep saying, OK, I'll stop after this one, and then I don't. I'll stop after this one, I don't. Well I have already destroyed any healthy eating I did yesterday, I might as well keep going. I literally can't stop and I justify it to myself. I just spent half an hour sitting in front of the toilet trying to work up the courage to make myself throw up. I feel like I'm going out of control.\n\nI'm going to be a doctor; I have to learn how to be healthy myself. But I'm worried that future employers would be able to see it on my record or something and that will make them less likely to hire me. Is that a valid concern? I feel like if one of my future patients ever said this to me I'd tell them to go to a doctor right away. And how do I get over my irrational fear of being someone who needs therapy? What if I get therapy and it still doesn't help?", "summary": "I have always had low self esteem but lately I've developed a problem with binge eating. Is it time for therapy? Help me get over my irrational fear of seeing a therapist."}
{"id": "t3_387ghv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] of two years feels like i don't return the same level of affection she does. (I may be an ass).", "post": "I have been dating a girl I have come to love dearly for very close to two years now. I noticed she starting to shy away from me after visiting home for two weeks after she got back, and perhaps a little before she left. \n\nI finally got her to talk to me about her problems and she told me the following in my car while packing her stuff to move to her dorm.\nShe said she gives me all her love in the world (and she does) and wanted to be with me forever and that I did not return the affection and she felt terrible. I have to admit I am not good with showing affection and I feel like I did take her love for granted and I regret it now that I realize it.\n\nShe essentially moved in with me while keeping her dorm room almost empty and we slept together every single night. We took each other's virginity and she now says that she has never been the type of girl to lose it to anyone.\nShe also mentioned she felt like she has lost focus on her school work because she dedicated everything to me. She moved everything out of my room (a house) back into her dorm because of her focus and she mentioned she was a family girl and it's not right for her do do that (we lived together like that for a year and a half). She said she changed so much for me and she has lost what she originally came to college for and I have been distracting her.\n\nI know she loved or loves me to death and her change of attitude has changed in perhaps a three week period. Or from being extremely loving to what I mentioned above.", "summary": "I feel like I lost the love of someone who loved me more than anything to due to a lack of my returned affection. Although i do love her the same way. I'm not sure what to do next. We have not broken up or anything but i feel so alone and heart broken right now alone in my room. This just happened as well."}
{"id": "t3_2x6mvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my girlfriend [17F] 8 months, had feelings for a guy and still hangs out with him for a couple of hours a day.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just about 8 months. Well one day we were eating lunch together and she was being awfully flirty with this guy, we'll call him John, and was pretty upset when he left to go somewhere else to eat lunch. Later that day I texted her and asked if she had any feelings for John, to which she replied yes, I kinda freaked out and told her we would talk about this later face-to-face and I don't know if I would still want to be in a relationship with her. Fast forward to after school and I go over to her house and we talk it out. She tells me her feelings are very minute and she can't help them, and that they're probably going to go away, ok, I forgive her and we make up. About a week later she tells me she has no feelings for John any longer, so I'm pretty happy... Anyways onto the current problem, I moved about 5 hours away temporarily so we're in a long distance relationship atm and she still has lunch and art with John and basically spends the whole two hours with him. Is it wrong that I am uncomfortable with this? I expressed my feelings to my girlfriend but she just said I was being jealous and controlling. Reddit, am I in the wrong to be uncomfortable with her spending so much time with someone she had feelings with before?", "summary": "Girlfriend spends hours a day she had feelings for while we were dating, I am uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_2ypo1g", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Trying to help my mom out financially without her knowing about it", "post": "So, I'm new to reddit, and I'm going to go ahead and acknowledge that this is going to be an incredibly stupid question, but, unfortunately, I'm very naive and uneducated when it comes to pretty much anything financial. I'm trying to find a way to help my mom out when I finally manage to get a job, which probably won't be until August, at the very least, due to the fact that the EMT program I'm in doesn't end until then. I thought about just putting money into her bank account each month once I'm employed, but I don't see a feasible way to gain access to her account without her knowing, and once she does know, she'll put a stop to it (she firmly believes that parents should take care of their kids, not the other way around). So, I was thinking of trying to set up a completely new account, either in her name (which I'm guessing won't be possible? Since the person setting it up isn't actually her?) or setting up a joint account and depositing money in it every time I get my paycheck. I guess my main question would be, how would I go about setting up an account without her knowing? I know I also need to figure out how much money to put in it every time I make a deposit, but one bridge at a time.", "summary": "Need to find a way to help my mom out financially without her knowing about it."}
{"id": "t3_2cy42i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29M] Weird friendship issues with someone [28F]", "post": "We've been friends (acquaintances actually) for the last few months. We used to hang out as a group earlier and then many people relocated to different cities. So we  have been acquaintances rather for a few months now.\n\nBut I've felt on many ocassions like I'm being judged when I'm with her. She's very talkative and quite dominating. I'm quiet compared to her. But when I do speak she doesn't seem to respond well. It feels like she's quietly judging me and disapproving many things.\n\nBut surprisingly, she used to flirt intensely with me. I didn't earlier because I'm a shy guy and used to get blanked out. Slowly I too started learning what replies to give and how to flirt back with her. I started flirting back with replies and she acknowledged it. And she became even more intense. And then one day she tells me in the middle of all the flirting that she believes in the concept of friends with benefits. I told her that I believe it too and gave her a wink. And she got nervous and moved back a little. She decreased her flirting a lot after that.\n\nAnd then on a common chat group she used to link me up with another female from the group (who doesn't even reply to my texts). So I texted her privately and requested her not to crack such jokes on me and that other girl because I think it makes the other girl uncomfortable. She didn't reply anything to this.\n\nAnd then we were going for Gyming for the last few weeks. I told her one 1-2 occasions that I don't feel like going because I was very tired so she can carry on. And she's backed out even more. She doesn't seem friendly anymore. It's so weird.\n\nI just don't get it. I'm shy and had quite limited interaction with females. Although I'm quite well-behaved with females and give them space (thanks to my sis I grew up with). But is this kind of confusion a normal thing with female friends? Any idea what's going on here?", "summary": "Female acquaintance flirts with me then backs off and gets nervous when I flirt back in the same way. She seems disapproving/judgemental of me whenever I open up. I texted her not to link me with a particular person and she backs off even further. I bunk Gym on 1-2 occasions and she's very formal with me. The friendliness is gone. What the hell did I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4owyqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [14 M], am in love with a girl [14 F] at my school. But I'm too insecure and anxious to do anything about it.", "post": "Just to clear things up, we're both Freshmen in highschool going into Sophomore year.\n\nHello r/relationships. Thanks for reading my question. It's currently midnight, and I can't stop thinking about this girl. Let's start the conversation off with this: I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety issues at a very, very young age. Even though these have been plaguing my childhood, I think it's getting a little better. However, even with these problems coming off my back, I'm still very insecure about my appearance, my status, and how I act.\n\nAnyways, there's this girl at my school who is everything I can ever dream of, we're both in the chorus and drama departments at school, and we share similar interests, and are both pretty talented in music (not trying to brag :p). She's almost my best friend, and whenever I text her little questions trying to start up conversations, she's always enthusiastic and tries to make me happy with her responses.\n\nIt's that time where I finally start thinking of maybe being in a relationship with her, and graduating while still being with her. But, the problem is I'm too anxious and insecure to ask her in person. I love her so much, and I want to spend these next three years with her. \n\nI've tried every dating advice column, and every tutorial, and none of them seem to be right for my personality. I need your help, reddit. Please.\n\nThanks, \nJack <3", "summary": "I love a girl at my school, but I'm too insecure and anxious to ask her to be in a relationship with me."}
{"id": "t3_39xb7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I know the answer to this question, but I'm going to ask anyways. Should I [20F] message my ex [21M]?", "post": "We dated for 3 years and broke up about a year and a half ago. We were each other's first everything and we both thought we were going to be together forever. But then we broke up, and we haven't talked since like January. I don't think he wants anything to do with me.\n\nHe got a new girlfriend a few months ago which upset me at first, but it seemed like they were really perfect for each other, and I was really happy for him. But they only lasted a month and a half before he started posting all this depressing shit on Twitter & Facebook, and they broke up.\n\nHe still seems to be in a funk and I know it's not my business and I shouldn't care but it's bringing ME down. I'm sad that he's sad I guess. Is it a bad idea to message him? \n\nI just want him to know that someone cares and that I'm sorry for what he's going through. But I don't think he's gonna want to talk to me at all or open up to me about what's going on. Not that I blame him. So I guess I should just leave him alone, right? Would that be the right thing to do?", "summary": "Feeling really bad that ex's new relationship didn't work out. Maybe even feeling guilty? I don't know. I wanna text him and try and cheer him up but I think I'm the last person he wants to hear from."}
{"id": "t3_3lucfl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using google search", "post": "Just happened. I was in physics lecture learning about waves and functions. I've never learn about it before thus have no idea what it is, so I went and google period. This lead to google sending me to this page:  (NSFW)\n\nAnd everyone around me saw what the hell I was looking at, and some girl call me out for being a pervert in the middle of class. The professor asked what the problem was and the girl started telling him how I was looking up pictures of periods and naked cartoon girls (which I didn't even realize until I went back to look at it to check). I ended up being sent out of class.", "summary": "I googled period instead of wave period, and now every girl in that class thinks I have a fetish for menstruation and naked cartoon girls."}
{"id": "t3_h1mbd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Breaking up in slow motion. Still living together.", "post": "My ex-girlfriend and I still share the same bed, despite having broken up about 2 months ago. Neither of us are from the country where we live (we're each from different countries), and we're both moving away from here in June. Breaking up was mostly an acknowledgement that we won't be moving away together. In 8 weeks, we'll each be heading our separate ways.\n\nWe broke up without a fight or a major misunderstanding. This fork in the road, this wall, we always knew it was coming. Both of us are living here temporarily (4-5 years), and we've been together for 3 years, living together for 2, in hopes of building enough momentum to jump over that wall together. In the end, it simply didn't happen.\n\nI admit I'd have preferred to stay together longer, delaying the moment we'd split until shortly before one of us hopped on a plane. I'd have kept the questions alive longer if she hadn't put her foot down. Rationally, maybe breaking up is the right decision, but my feelings for her are enough to make it very hard to just let go.\n\nAt this very moment, she's sleeping about 20 feet away from me, in the bed I'll crawl into shortly after posting this. I was in there about an hour ago, watching her sleep, and got up after failing to fight back tears, suddenly hit with the realization that, after 3 years and so many good times and stories together, we have 8 Sundays left.\n\nWatching all of this unfold so slowly has been an emotional rollercoaster. Right now, I'm at a low point. I'm not sure what I'm looking for in posting this here, but maybe just talking about it might help me cope.", "summary": "Just read the title."}
{"id": "t3_10ewcj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Got jumped after a boulder was thrown at my head, i'm charged with fighting. CO stand your ground law?(related pics.)", "post": "Leaving a bar on saturday night in Colorado Springs, some words were said between two groups of people.  One consisted of my brother and I, the other group was about 3-4 people.  My brother and I walked another block to Tony's bar, left tony's bar and went to King's Chef Diner.  We left kings chef diner and walked about two blocks, (two more blocks until i arrived at my house) when I heard a noise behind us.  It was one of the guys from the verbal altercation with a boulder above his head, he was about 10 feet behind us and threw the boulder, it landed at our feet. \n\nfearing for my life and my brothers life, i did not want him to continue to follow us to my home.  i turned around and chased him one block where two of his friends were waiting for us.  my brother was holding one person back, when another person charged him.  \n\ni immediately confronted the third person to keep him from going after my brother.  the second person then hit my brother in the back and he fell to the ground getting kicked in the face while the first person held him down. \n\ni told the third person i just wanted to get my brother and go home.  he told me to stop circling, so i did.  he then threw a punch at me.  i restrained his arms and wrestled him to the ground.  the second person then came over and started kicking me in the face and ribs when i was down.  I was able to get off the ground and i ran to my brothers aid.  the third person, who attacked me ran. and i called the police.  \n\nThey arrived, charged the four of us for mutual fighting.  we essentially got tickets for getting beat up.  The police said that after the boulder was thrown, and we turned around after the guy, we became the aggressors. \n\n**images**\n\n[me](\n\n[my brother](\n\n[the rock](\n\n**stand your ground law reference:**\n\n  [colorado revised statute 18-1-704]", "summary": "words said hour before, guy followed us to a bar and a diner, left diner. heard noise behind us, guy threw big rock at us. (close to my house) chased him, got jumped.  got tickets."}
{"id": "t3_1j8x8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [18F] just broke up with Me[18M] because she doesn't know what she wants. Trouble coping with downtime.", "post": "Girlfriend and I didn't see each other as much as we would have liked, but I tried to make it work and see her whenever we could, she told me after a year and a half that she no longer felt a spark and that she was into a boy that she works with, whom I was suspicious of.\n\nI understand that if she doesn't want my love then she doesn't deserve it, but I'm having trouble in the downtime trying to keep myself occupied. my job is cutting my hours for no reason and I've got a lot of free time.\n\nthe breakup was yesterday and my car broke down today so I can't go very many places when I want.\n\nShe says that she wants to find out what she wants and I can tell that it's really hurting her but I mean, I treated her good and always wanted to make her happy, the breakup wasn't bad. I told her if she needs to be happy then I can't really do anything, it is what it is.\n\nShe told me that she doesn't know if she wants to get together again or not, I told her if she doesn't love me then why the fuck would I want to be with her.\n\nI know I deserve better, I am the kind of person who is in it for the long run once I pick someone.\n\nI want to just go out and sleep around, we were both eachother's first and I want to fool around, but I feel sick to my stomach during the times im not doing something, and can hardly eat.\n\nThis isn't my first long term relationship that has ended, this was my best relationship, we both wanted to get married and have kids, we were on the same level with a lot of stuff, she just decided that she didn't want a comfortable, true love and that she doesn't know what she wants.\n\nI've dealt with breakup before and it never gets easier.", "summary": "I knew it was coming, I feel slighted, I'm a good person, and even though I know it was a good thing, I still feel like shit. How do I fill my time and what is a good course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_fhcoa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To sue or not?", "post": "So I was in an accident on Saturday.  A gentleman who seemed as if he enjoyed wearing camo(and drinking light beer) came across 3 lanes of traffic and totaled my 95 jeep wrangler. I was lightly injured despite the the severity of the accident.  He was also reasonably ok.\n\nThis is my question, being a man of little means trying to go to school while supporting my family (gf w/kid) making less than 20k a year, should I seek claim against his insurance company(not him)?\n\nA large part of me says that this would make me part of the problem with insurance companies, and I wasn't really hurt that bad.  BUT A) Me not trying to get what I can doesn't solve the problem or even begin to.  B) My Jeep (witch is totaled) is worth maybe $4 grand.  That's it.  I can't buy a reliable car with that, and I can't afford a car payment and school.", "summary": "My choices are take a moral high ground and suffer, or sell out and try to provide for my family."}
{"id": "t3_21vqwc", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MA] Need advice on employee pilferage.", "post": "My friend said he was curious and looking through a drawer of controlled level II medicine, he mentioned it should have been locked but noticed it wasnt. He said he took 10 oxycontins 30mg IR pills then  tried putting it back only to realized it was locked at this point. They noticed something and decided to call a branch manager to come do an inventory count. At this point they noticed and my friend said he basically turned himself in. He was terminated but never gave the 10 he had back.\n\nThe question is what is next and what should be expected as punishment. Thank you for taking your time to read all this, it's really appreciated.", "summary": "Friend took a bottle of level 2 controlled medicine. Branch manager came in and noticed then he turned himself in but kept 10 without them noticing. He was terminated so what should he expect next and as punishment."}
{"id": "t3_ghciu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when everything hurts?", "post": "To start out, a couple of months ago, a friend of mine sank into deep depression, became dependent on several drugs and ended up dying mysteriously in a terrible wreck head-first against an 18-wheeler.\n\nA couple of weeks later, my very closest friend in the world overdosed on oxycotton and came very close to death. He is now in rehab.\n\nThen, just two weeks ago, my mother was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's. It's fatal, after a couple of years, it will kill her.\n\nI can't sleep, I don't eat. When I do manage to fall asleep I wake up in tears and remain that way for hours. There's nothing I can do and I'm losing my fucking mind. I can't think anymore, I've been skipping all of my uni. classes and falling far behind.\n\nMy parents are divorced, my mother spends her time in fear and sadness while my dad is trying to collect 1000$ from me.\n\nI never knew it was possible to feel this kind of sadness. I feel like where my heart used to be there is now only misery and madness.\n\nI don't expect anyone to see this or read this or give a flying fuck, but that's my situation and I fucking hate everything.", "summary": "My mom is dying and I'm fucking miserable."}
{"id": "t3_2wipc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "I'm (20, F) not sure if I'm living in fantasy world or if my issues are actual problems. I know many women (myself included) who have prepared themselves with lofty expectations off of relationships that were simply not stable enough.\n\nI have been with my current boyfriend (21, M) for a little over a year. He broke up with me around 10 months of dating (September 2014) because the \"relationship had run its course.\"\n\nI was devastated. He meant so much to me. Seriously, the first time I met him I had tingles running up my spine and later desperately googled \"I think I found The One?!?!\" I've *NEVER* felt such intense urges.\n\nThough I had dated plenty of \"Eligible Bachelors\" before, none have hypnotized me so much. He is special. Needless to say, I have been devoted to him since Day 1. I would do anything for him (aside from anything involving needless pain, conflict, or suffering!) but I don't think he would do the same for me. And that's where my concern steps in.\n\nWhen he broke up with me, he told me it wasn't fair for me to be with someone less devoted than I was. That I deserved someone who would make me a priority, too.\n\nIt cut deeply, but he was right. I did need that. Flash forward a few months and we are dating again.\n\nDuring our break I dated someone else, and my ex suffered the loss of a beloved pet. This person and I broke up, and the ex (now bf) and I got back together.\n\nHe spoke of the error of his ways, and promised more spoken love and affection.\n\nHe gives me love. And he tells me he loves me......Especially when prompted by *me* giving my love, or a fight.\n\nDoes he even want me? I'm so confused. I feel stupid......I've never felt so invested in a relationship. I love him so much, and I think it scares him. I don't want it to scare him. I don't know what to do..", "summary": "Boyfriend I love broke up with me and we got back together...Can he really love me or is he just lonely?"}
{"id": "t3_30vmc2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my wallet.", "post": "This afternoon I planned on meeting some friends at Chipotle for lunch. After I got in the car and was only a minute or two from home, I realized that I left my wallet on the counter at home and needed to turn back and get it. So I got in the next left turn lane to make a U-turn. I make this particular one quite often and since I'm in a small car its not too difficult. But somehow, with the pressure of oncoming traffic, I horrendously clip the curb with my front right tire. First I hear \"CRRRR\", and then \"hisssssssssssssss\", and then immediately see the \"check tire pressure\" warning pop up on the dash.   \n  \nSince I'm only a minute away from home, it's not too big of a deal to drive back and assess the damage. I found that there's like a quarter-sized tear in the side wall of the tire and it's obviously flat. So my brother and I get out the jack and spare tire and do a standard and easy tire change. So we get that done in about 20 minutes and I leave for Chipotle. I get there 30 minutes late, and my friends are done eating and basically just hanging out waiting for me.\n\nAfter I get my food and go to pay, I realize that I never even got my wallet. I had to have my friend spot me.", "summary": "Forgot my wallet, popped a tire *because* I forgot my wallet, then proceeded to forget my wallet again."}
{"id": "t3_30ikdh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a mega block at my two year old's face", "post": "This actually happened just this morning. So, last Christmas I bought my kid a sweet ass ball pit that he is currently obsessed with. Whenever I feel like being a half-assed parent, I toss him in the ball pit and proceed to sit outside of it to throw back all the balls he inevitably tosses all around my living room. More often than not, I am only half paying attention because I'm busy perusing my favourite subreddits while my kid goes ham in the neglection pit. \n\nSo, we wake up this morning and I make us a delicious breakfast. I give him a bath and we \"read\" his favourite book. Satisfied with my superb parenting skills, I decide to allow myself some reddit time. Into the pit he goes, and I immediately log on to reddit. The usual routine ensues: he throws the balls, I haphazardly toss back the ones that are within reaching distance without so much as glancing away from my phone. This is where it all goes wrong. Right in front of the ball pit, there are scattered mega blocks all over the floor that happen to be the same colours as the balls he is sending flying all over the place.\n\nEyes still glued to my phone, I'm tossing the balls back his way as fast as he can throw them. I grab what I assume is a ball and let it drift. Just as I release it from my hand,  my mind registers that what I just threw was not spherical at all. And then I hear it. *thunk.* I look up, and my kid is throwing his best \"you fucked up, mom\" face my way. I manage to snap a quick photo and he goes back to playing. I immediately get him a bowl of ice cream for being a BAMF and not crying after being pelted in the face with a hard plastic rectangle.", "summary": "accidentally threw a mega block instead of a ball into my kid's ball pit and hit him in the face with it. He responded with this look:"}
{"id": "t3_2x0iu2", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "After being underpaid, I now have two VERY appealing job offers", "post": "I was unemployed from September 2014 until Mid January 2015. My friend got me a job at his IT Company, which I was qualified for, but unfortunately pays me no where near what I was getting paid. but two jobs that I applied for got back to me ON THE SAME DAY (yesterday) within 2 hours of each other. \n\nOne job is downtown in Chicago with an international company, that will be about 45k a year salary (I am currently at 24k) with full benefits, and chances for international travel. \n\nThe other job is a small town government job, starting at about 38k but has more room for growth, full benefits, and it's about 2 blocks from where I live.\n\nI am conflicted for the following reasons\n* Pay - 45k vs 38k\n* Growth - None vs Up To 64k\n* Travel - International vs none\n* Commuting - 1 hour into Chicago vs 2 blocks\n* Responsibilities - System administrator vs System administrator (about the same)\n\nI am 25 years old and saving for a wedding, I may only be in the area for 2/3 years. I already have 3 years in the IT industry and just don't know which to choose. \n\nHelp me reddit!", "summary": "Two Jobs, One close, one far, the first pays more, the second has more room for growth. "}
{"id": "t3_15c5g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[23], F[21]. Girlfriend tells me she's emotionless. What do I do?", "post": "Well, the title is pretty self-explanatory. But here's some background.\n\nRight now, we're in a long distance relationship because I'm in the Navy. We've been dating for a year now.\n\nWhen we visited each other last, about two weeks ago, I admit, I acted like an ass because I was overloaded with stress from work and depressed. It was wrong of me, and I profusely apologized to her for it. Last week, we had a fight over it. We calmed down and things went back to normal for a few days. Then, I acted really fucking stupid again and started another fight. We fought, made up, and now...she isn't showing any emotion at all.\n\nNone. For the past few days I've felt almost completely love-deprived. I've sent her non-sexual flirty texts and compliments, but all she does is \"lol nice\" or \"lol thanks\". This morning we talked about it and she said:\n\n\"I understand that you really want me to be loving and cute. I figured as much and I was trying but idk. I feel like it's a lie to act that way right now. I'm not mad at you anymore but I'm just. Blah. Cold. No emotion. Sorry you picked a girl who can cut emotions like this. It's not that I don't love you though. It's complicated. I just shut something in my brain off and I can call you u sweetie pie and baby bear and send smileys all day but it will literally only be appeasement\"\n\nI know she's stressed right now. It's Christmas. She's enlisting in the Army and leaves for boot camp at the beginning of January. I know all of this.\n\nI don't know how to talk to her or help her through it or hell what I should do in general. I love her more than everything and I just want things to be back to the way they were.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "GF tells me she's emotionless. I don't know how to approach this and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_gxdxb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to stop the little things (like seeing her with someone else) from bringing back the hurt?", "post": "Backstory: my gf and I met in high school when we were both 16. We had been dating for 2 1/2 years until now (19). We went to different colleges and the relationship really went well, despite being long distance. Until... she (out of the blue) called me one day and broke up, claiming that we need time apart, she can't date only one person (we were each other's first real relationship), and that we need to take a break. That was 3 weeks ago. Since then I have begged her for at least an explanation. Did I do something wrong? Etc. However, all she has said is that it \"was just time to move on.\"\n\nI've been doing okay since then. I've been hanging out with friends, trying to stay busy, etc. I think I've handled it pretty well. But there's just one problem: when we broke up she casually mentioned other people, but also insisted that she wanted to take things slow and \"find herself\" first. But today, I log onto Facebook and I see a bunch of flirtatious posts between her and some guy at her school. I know this is the person she mentioned.\n\nNow I know she didn't cheat. We had a very trusting relationship. However, I am struggling with this other person. Everytime I think I'm moving on, I see something and it brings back the whole wave of emotions and anger and hurt that someone else is better. How can I prevent this? What can I think about that will take my mind off of her and someone else? (Un-friending her isn't really an option, we're still technically \"friends\" and have a bunch of mutual friends, etc.)\n\nThank you!", "summary": "my gf of 2 years broke up with me to \"find herself.\" I've found out through Facebook that there's probably been someone else there waiting for her and that was the real reason she broke up with me. What can I do to stop thinking about this? (when I've moved on otherwise)."}
{"id": "t3_25389y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my C# teacher about Pen Island", "post": "Didn't happen today. It was actually 6+ years ago, I was 15. \n\nThere is or was a fake website that pretended to sell pens. It was pen island. It only existed as a joke because of how the url looks... penisland.\n\nWell, back in Jr High, I was telling my C# teacher about it. He thought it was pretty funny and decided to give it a look. Well, I told him to go to .net or to .com or whatever and it wasn't right. He went to an actual penisland website, as a teacher, while in school. \n\nYeah, he was pissed. He had previously given me a proxy so I could browse the internet freely. He took that away.", "summary": "I accidentally led my C# teacher to a gay porn site."}
{"id": "t3_fdimf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thinking about open-sourcing one of my personal projects. What are the pros and cons? Any redditors with experience care to share their wisdom?", "post": "**Background:** I made a little Flash app a couple of months ago, and it ended up getting (to my surprise) a fair amount of traffic.\n\nA number of people, among those who gave feedback about it, have been requesting some (very sensible) tweaks and new features to the app. They're fairly simple-to-implement changes, I think. However, I am so busy these days that I can't imagine having time to do any of it until at least mid-March. And because this app is meant to perform a sort of \"public service\" anyway, I'm thinking about going open source. If anything, there are some far more experienced and brilliant programmers than me out there, and they could probably make the app 100x better.\n\nSentimentality is the roadblock. For one, I'm pretty proud of the project. I like the feeling of being its sole author. Also, I think I'd feel jealous if a hotshot programmer stepped in and made changes so great that my original effort (which was substantial, as I'm very new to programming) became just a footnote. And finally, I do worry about my original vision becoming corrupted by flashier versions that may arise from iterations on the design etc.", "summary": "Open sourcing my work feels like sharing my girlfriend. But my work *could* be better with others' help. What to do, Reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_2du0bq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] want to move to another state for a job while my pregnant fiance [23F] refuses to even listen to me about it", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for 3 years now, when we first starting dating we talked about our plans, we each wanted to go to finish school for our respective careers and I have had plans to move away for the past 10 years now as soon as I got the chance and she agreed that we should one day. Well due to some issues that I wont get into here I was unable to finish school and my fiance wound up dropping out and not not going back despite claims that she wants to. We've both been struggling to get by thanks to our decisions and I convinced myself that my dreams of leaving had been shattered due to some mistakes.\n\nWell due to our combined income being less than 40k a year as it stands I've been looking for a better job that I can support us with when I finally found one. It will require me to go out of state for 6 weeks of training and then transfer to another state to work in, I will be making 45k a year if I take the job and they have informed me that there are raises every 6 months which in several years will put me closer to 60k a year. I told my fiance about the job offer and she instantly become upset and told me that she doesn't want to leave her family and has no intention of ever leaving she also told me during this argument that she was late. A couple of days later we bought a pregnancy test and it came back positive, we're going to be parents. Now I feel that this job is necessary to take care of them as I will be making more than both of us starting off. She is now using this as more of an excuse not to leave. I have to let the company know by the end of the week. She told me that if I take the job that we are done. I don't want to leave her or the child but this job would be great for us, I also don't like that she is now against ever moving away as we agreed that we should one day and she knows that I am miserable here. I have no idea what to do here...", "summary": "Got job offer out of state making more than we make combined, girlfriend is pregnant, she says if I take the job we are done/"}
{"id": "t3_2mge1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Polyamory/polyandry, with brothers? Me [25F], husband [26M], husband's brother [30M]. Duration is 7 years dating, 1 married.", "post": "Prior to our marriage, my husnand and I had an open relationship. I enjoyed sleeping with others, while he has only slept with me. I miss being able to act upon my attractions, yet I rarely find attractions in others beyound my spouse. \n\nEnter the brother, Hiro. Hiro looks and acts like my husband thus I am attracted to him. I doubt Hiro and I would work as anything but lovers, thus I did marry the right brother. My husband seriously beats Hiro in everything except height lol. Nevertheless, it would be nice take Hiro as a lover. \n\nHiro is single and AFAIK ok with open or poly arrangements as long as all parties know. I tell my husband everything, and I mean everything, so it would be everyone knows situation. I also seek permission from my husband frequently, and as he is my primary I would obey his word. \n\nWe would need to hide it from the family though. At the same time, that would be easy. So my reservations are....\n\nDo you guyz think this could work? What are the pos and neg? Also, how could I approach Hiro about this? Does anyone else do this?", "summary": "i wanna ethically sleep with my husband's brother. Is it doomed to fail, or fun for all?"}
{"id": "t3_gmvz6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think of being on the PC for 8+ hours a day after work/school?", "post": "Just wondering how much people are on the PC for and what they think when they are on the computer that long? \n\nMy mum is worried about me for being on the computer for 8+ hours a day after school. I sometimes do think \"why the fuck am I wasteing my time on here?!\" I should be exercising/going out/doing something productive instead.... :/ \n\nSchool's not stressy and I recently stop playing the drums.... so I have a lot of free time. So when I get home I like to go on the PC and game/surf reddit. \n\nJust wanted to know what you guys think!\n\n**(", "summary": ") What do you think of being on the PC for 8+ hours a day after work/school?"}
{"id": "t3_21cahh", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Do you have to love your wedding dress?", "post": "This might seem like an odd question, but hear me out. I decided to wear my mom's wedding dress. I found a reputable seamstress in my city that actually specializes in revamping vintage dresses, and last week I had my second fitting. \n\nWhy I want to wear the dress:\n\n- I really do love several details about the dress (the sleeves, the Queen Anne neckline, the flattering waist). \n\n- I love the idea of wearing my mom's dress. She's pretty awesome and has been low-pressure about it, but I can tell it means a lot to her too.\n\n- I had such a hard time figuring out what to kind of dress I wanted to wear. This way, problem solved!\n\n- Cost - not a good reason in itself because it's definitely not cheap (about $700 when all is said and done), but cheaper than most wedding dresses, especially ones with lots of lace (maybe? I could be wrong on this).\n\nThe only reason I'm doubting is because I just don't \"love\" it. I don't have a Say Yes to the Dress moment, I'm not overwhelmed when I step into it and if I imagined a perfect dress, this dress probably falls short. \n\nNow, it's not finished yet, so maybe I'll feel differently when it's all fixed. But even if I don't, does it matter?", "summary": "Can you have a wedding dress that you like, not love? I know the answer is, of course, you can do whatever you want, but I really want to hear opinions from this lovely subreddit. "}
{"id": "t3_250jj4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Apartment dwellers of Reddit: Where do you store/air out your stinky hockey gear?", "post": "My SO and I have had many conversations about moving in together. I bought my apartment 3 years ago (before we met) and have 2 years left on the mortgage term before I can move on and we can get a bigger place together. So for now, we'd be stuck sharing 730 square feet (which is downright luxurious for one person but somewhat cramped with two).\n\nThe issue that ends the discussion every time is his stinky hockey gear. He has goalie *and* player gear, so it's a double whammy in terms of storage space needed and stink produced. He currently lives in a man-cave of a basement suite and airs it out in his bathroom because, y'know, dudes don't need bathrooms to be clean and accessible. \n\nHe plays one or two times a week and needs to air it out afterwards.\n\nHow do other couples in small spaces work around this issue?", "summary": "I  want to share a dwelling with my SO but not his stinky hockey gear. Do you have any creative solutions?"}
{"id": "t3_1akj0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(25m) can't seem to move past my now wife's(26f) one night stand", "post": "A couple of years ago, before we were married, my then girlfriend of 8 years and I took a break because of some major life changes, health issues, and death. During this break, I took some time for myself, starred in 3 local plays (something I never I thought id do) played a lot of video games and worked constantly. I didn't date and I spent a lot of time to myself. She spent that time partying and doing drugs and drinking. While I understand different people have different ways of coping, her one one night stand during this time has for some reason hurt me the most. I found out after she told me. A couple of weeks later, we were engaged and now married with our 18 month old daughter. There is still a little part of me though that worries about that night and if I am good enough for her and if she is happy. I constantly feel as if we are right on the verge of not working and it scares the bejeezus out of me.", "summary": "I can't seem to get over the love of my life's \"single time\"."}
{"id": "t3_10l4n7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [25]M and my fianc\u00e9e [25]F of 5 years has suddenly decided she wants a break, no idea what to do next.", "post": "Hey everyone, just looking for some advice on what to do in my current situation. My fianc\u00e9e and I are both 25 years old, have been together for 5 years and have a daughter together who will soon be 4 years old. We both work and go to school full time, have always been crazy about each other, are constantly doing things as a family, however until this past week she has been growing distant and seems to be avoiding me. I finally confronted her last night and after a long and winded session of tears, she basically told me she was no longer happy because she felt suffocated, that she didn't know what she was going to do after college, and that maybe the path she has been walking hasn't been the correct one. She told me she still loved and cared for me and that this didn't mean the end of our relationship, it's just that she needs some space for herself. I've always been a good father and faithful partner, and this feels like its coming completely out of nowhere. I'm trying to save our relationship and family, but I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated, maybe from someones whose been in this same situation or possibly the perspective of the one who requested the break.", "summary": "Fiance wants to have a break so she can figure things out, and I'm not sure what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_21zsuy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my almost girlfriend[23/F] duration, short-description", "post": "24/M 23F. I'm in college, she graduated last year and works on campus. We're at that weird \"Not dating but expectation of exclusivity / probably going to end up dating\" stage. \n\nHere's the thing: She's super busy. Like, super busy. She has an 8-5 job, part time student (back for another degree,) involved in her sorority, and hosts a 2 hour radio show (usually records from 1am-3am. ) \n\nSo, she's very legitimately busy and I understand that. I'm the type of person who, when I'm busy or stressed out, reach out to other people and either just talk with them about my work, or at the very least, try to talk to people who I care about, as a sort of de-stress. It doesn't have to be about the topic, just \"Hey, how are you, etc.\" \n\nShe's the opposite, and really pushes away and wants space when she's stressed. There's the logical side of me that understands that, but I can't help feeling like I want to \"help\" her deal with stress, but shooting her quick little \"Thinking about you, hope your show is going well\" messages, etc. They're obviously very well intentioned. However, in the past, she's told me that when she's super busy and stressed I just need to leave her alone, not talk to her, etc, because it adds stuff for her to \"have to think about,\" etc, which adds to an increase of stress. \n\nAgain, logically, I get that, but I think because I don't personally relate it makes me feel like I'm being told that my concern and sympathy isn't wanted. It's not causing me like... strife, but I want to hear your opinions on it. Am I being unreasonable for just wanting her to look at the intention of the message? Other than this, relationship wise we're really good. We talk alot, etc. But when she gets stressed (which is actually not uncommon,) I just feel like I'm getting shut out. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "I feel like she shuts me out when she's stressed. Help me feel more okay about what's happening?"}
{"id": "t3_1w6lba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After about a week of mixed feelings and arguments, I [18M] am getting upset bc I over analyze my gf's [17F] texts; LDR", "post": "I've been with this girl since the beginning of highschool. Graduated and she's still a senior. I'm studying abroad for the year, 6000+ miles away, 7-hour time difference. Last week we had some arguments but we worked it out and were all fine. But now, whenever we text or email, I completely overanalyze what she's saying and interpret it as something that I know is completely not true. Ex: if she doesn't use emoticons or \"lol\"s I think there's something wrong or she's unhappy in some way. I then get depressed bc I worry something's actually wrong, but it just annoys her when I keep asking if things are actually ok. I don't want to feel like there's a lack of emotion bc I know there isn't. I've been completely paranoid about it lately and I can't think about anything else. I trust her that everything's fine; there's no indication on her part (she hasn't told me) that anythings wrong. I just need to look at it at face value, and not jump to conclusions... I'm just having a hard time doing so.", "summary": "I'm in a LDR, overanalyzing things my gf says, making me paranoid, even though I know things are fine. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2ej757", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Growling while being pet?", "post": "I have a 2 year old American Eskimo that I adopted back in December and he's definitely the coolest dog myself and most everyone else has ever met. He listens well, he plays hard, loves hards, and loves attention. He's usually pretty OK around strangers, sometimes while we're walking he'll start barking towards people but he does that with everyone because he wants to get to them and get their attention. \n\nNow the one weird thing that he does sometimes is go up to people and check them out and then when they pet him he'll start growling a little bit, sometimes it ends in a snapping bark if they don't stop immediately. I usually tell him no and move him away and apologize to the person. A lot of times I'll squat down and pet him while a stranger is petting him and he's always fine when I'm there letting him know it's OK. I understand all this because he is a little weary of strangers (though not all, a lot of people he instantly loves), but what is REALLY weird is sometimes he growls at people he's met before. I had a friend come over last night who my dog has met probably 5 times before and loves the dude. He jumped up on the couch where my friend was sitting and rolled onto his back with half of his body (including his head) on my friends lap and start using his paws towards my friend like he wanted attention. My friend started to pet him and a few seconds later my dog started growling at him in his nervous growl. My friend would stop and then try again and he would still growl. Eventually after about 10 minutes of my friend ignoring him, if my dog went up to him he would let my friend pet him as much as he wanted. I understand my dog needing to warm up to the person and refamiliarize with him, but why would he act so submissive and then growl at him? Anyone ever heard of anything like this or can anyone point me in the right direction for more information? I didn't see anything about human-dog introduction and behaviors in the wiki here.", "summary": "dog laid on my friends lap, and then growled when my friend tried to pet him."}
{"id": "t3_1p1bi3", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "talk on your phone on the stairs? hope i'm not too loud...", "post": "i was walking down the stairs of one of the buildings at my university on my way to class, and i was carrying some instruments i needed. this (not exactly petite) woman was sitting on the staircase with a notebook next to her, talking on the phone. i'd never seen her before, and i have no idea what the phone conversation was about. but i was irritated that she was blocking literally half of the stairwell.\n\ni was wearing flip-flops today. and anyone who has worn them knows that going down stairs can be a noisy process if you're not careful about it. i chose not to be careful. i made sure my shoes slapped against each and every step on that landing. it echoed against the walls. it was a beautiful thing.\n\nhope my shoes didn't interrupt your conversation, inconsiderate stair lady.", "summary": "lady was blocking the stairs talking on her phone, i made sure my shoes made as much noise as possible walking past her."}
{"id": "t3_mqbq3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there any way to cancel sent mail (through Canada Post)?", "post": "I live in Canada and I sold a laptop online to someone in USA. They paid the full amount through Paypal. I received an e-mail saying that payment was completed, and I also saw the payment in my Paypal account online. I have shipped the item to this person, then went back to Paypal account, and noticed that the payment was not there anymore. I contacted Paypal, they said they can't locate such payment and the e-mail I received was fraud. I rushed back to Canada Post within 20 minutes, I explained the situation, and the person over the counter was giving me back the package, and told me that he can't make a refund for the USA shipment. He then called his manager to check whether he can give a refund or not, and the manager said that he can't even give back the package, and that the package now belongs to Canada Post until delivered. They understood the whole fraud situation, and they said there is no way of giving back the package, nor changing the address on it, and they are shipping the package on Monday morning. What are my rights on this package, given the fact that I have all the receipts, and written statements from Paypal on this matter? Also how did I see the payment in Paypal website, but then it disappeared in 24 hours?", "summary": "Got scammed over Paypal, shipped the package through Canada Post, noticed the scam, tried to cancel shipment but Canada Post does not cooperate."}
{"id": "t3_1ulsq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/f) have moderate anxiety--makes me question my relationship with my amazing bf (26/m) sometimes (5 mos)", "post": "Hi there r/relationships. \n\nSo, I have been with an amazing man for 5 months now. We have been pretty inseparable, he is my best friend in the entire world, and I really see an amazing future with him. This is easily the healthiest and happiest I've been with someone. We have great communication, he knows my flaws and accepts them, and I love him very much. \n\nHowever, I have anxiety and it constantly makes me question that state of our relationship (among other things, mostly work related). He knows about it, I tell him when I am having \"bad days,\" and does his best to reassure me... But it's gotten to the point where I am afraid to tell him because I don't want to scare him away. He has been nothing short of amazing to me, gives me space when I need it, is there for me when I need it, and has done nothing to make me distrust him. Yet, those feelings of \"he's going to find someone else,\" \"he's going to find someone better,\" creep in. \n\nAs an aside, I am currently getting my Ph.D., which is a huge constraint on my time but he understands and supports it. A lot of people around me have relationships that are falling apart--and I think that's adding to my anxiety as well. They constantly make comments like \"wait until the honeymoon period ends and he realizes he doesn't want to deal with this.\" \n\nI am not sure how to deal with my anxiety. I feel like it's putting a damper on our relationship (on my end), and I really don't want to lose this man. I love him.", "summary": "my anxiety is hurting me, and it's gotten to the point where I don't express it to my SO for fear it'll push him away."}
{"id": "t3_1anec4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/F]need help dealing with brothers little friend[7/M]", "post": "My brother had a little friend (bro was 5 friend was 6) who he never really saw mostly because he was sick at the time. So my brother passed away about a year ago and just a few months ago his friend said that since I don't have a brother anymore, he is my new brother....\nI feel sick just thinking about it....Anyways so I never really liked my brothers friend too much because every time he comes over he wants to play with my brothers toys. I don't ever want him to because those toys are my brothers. There are some he really liked and I only want my brothers finger tips on them, because he will never touch them, ever again.\nOk, so here we go- since they were so close in age I feel like I am picking up from where my brother left off. Literally replacing him. I just can't fucking do it guys. I can't. It stresses me out, he holds my hand, he spends the night, I feel like I've let this go too far. And I feel like his mom is pushing it on us(me and my mom) because she is lonely and her son is lonely.\nIt's been just over a year, and it's too soon for me. She thinks I am really opening up and that this is healthy for me. But I just don't want to be around little kids anymore. I don't want to call some boy I hardly know my brother. And I don't want to hurt his feelings. Because I know growing up alone is hard and loosing a friend at such a young age is tough, but got damn.\nI am supposed to watch him for spring break, and I really didn't want to but I am a capital P-ushover. :(\nWhat should I do to get out of this? I like, never want to see them. Because this sister shit is not going to happen. This family with two moms shit needs to stop. I cannot do it. I don't want to. I just want to get away like a dog in a fucking catch pole.", "summary": "dead little brother has friend who calls me his sister now and I don't like it. How do I make it stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1lbi4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M]with my girlfriend [20F] dealing with Ex", "post": "I need your input on this reddit.\n\nI've been dating this girl for the last 2 months, but have been seeing each other for the past 6 months. It's a really fucked up situation. She is one of my best friends ex-girlfriends and they've been broken up for two years. Within the past 6 months we've been fooling around and ended up together. We never intended to get together, but hanging out so much lead to us loving each other.\n\nSo the ex-boyfriend came back from emergency leave(critical family problem) because hes in the military and my girlfriend has been hanging out with him and he still has no idea about us. I would really like to tell him what is going on, but at the same time she doesn't want me to tell him until he leaves. Her reason being because he has had to deal with the problem coming home.\n\nI know that I risked our friendship when I decided to do stuff with her, but she always said that he wasn't interested in her and that he never took the time to talk to her. But now that my girlfriend is ignoring him and not trying to hang out with him like every other time hes been back...hes told her that he wants her to move out with him overseas and wants to be with her.\n\nThe first day he was back I let them hangout because she was going to tell him that she didn't want anything to do with him. Because every time he comes she drops everything she has going on in life for him. \n\nShe understands that the only way to be with him if she were to make the decision is to go overseas with him, but at the same time if he were to find out I don't think he would feel the same way. \n\nI just recently told her that I was going to tell him the next time I hung out with him, but now she is telling me that she is going to tell him.\n\nHow do I go about telling him? I'm not sure if any of this make sense. Maybe I'll be able to elaborate more when I'm not so tired. \n\nThanks for the help!", "summary": "Dating best friends ex-girlfriend and he still doesn't know."}
{"id": "t3_2cundd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So I met an awesome girl last week and go study abroad in two weeks from today...", "post": "Before I start this, here's some background as to who I am: a third-year computer science major at an engineering school who has never had a real girlfriend and only one kinda dated one. No relationships during highschool and none during my sophmore year of college.\n\nThe story is that I've been an intern since the beginning of June in NYC and she started as a new hire at the beginning of July. For all of July pretty much, we were pretty good friends and out of the blue, (to me) she invited me back to her apartment last Thursday after a going away party for a coworker. Now I really don't want to leave this fucking city but I also know I can't justify or sustain staying. My only plan right now is to keep in contact and remain friends until I can come back and visit and see where it's gone from there. Sorry, I just had to rant at someone about this and all my friends in the city work at my office.", "summary": "Intern meets girl. They become friends. Girl uses hookup on intern. Due to lack of time left together, it's highly effective! Intern is confused, annoyed, and maybe a little bit heartbroken."}
{"id": "t3_l3k3z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In the market for a new phone (in Canada). What phone should I get and why?", "post": "I'll seriously be surprised if this gets much attention. I'm sure there are hundreds of other posts like it. But fuck it. Here goes...\n\nSo I've been suffering with a BlackBerry Pearl for over three years now. The things is truly the worst device I've ever had the displeasure of using. But alas, my contract was up in August and I have no idea what phone to get.\n\nI've waited until now in the hopes that the iPhone 5 would come out and make my decision easy, but that didn't happen now did it? So I'm faced with whether or not to pre-order an iPhone 4S this Friday or if I should get an Android phone or a Windows phone. Looks like the top contenders in those arenas (in Canada) are the Samsung Galaxy S Infuse, and the Samsung Focus respectively.\n\nShould I wait a bit longer? Are there better phones on the horizon? \n\nWindows phones appeal to me as I'm a .NET developer, but I'm worried about the platform tanking similar to its predecessors. And Android seems like a great choice, but I've always felt that it wasn't as polished as iOS. \n\nThis would all have been simpler if the iPhone 4S had a bigger screen and a dual-core processor.", "summary": "I want to buy the best phone available in Canada. What are your suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_30uj8g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 5 years, scared to end it.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and throughout our relationship I've been very happy but I've always had this nagging feeling that he wasn't the one. He is everything I ever wanted, but there is something missing. \n\nWhen I first started dating him I didn't have that immediate attraction to him. (He is very good looking - just not my type.) I would ask people around me if that could grow, and I was always reassuring myself that he is the one I wanted because he is \"perfect.\" \n\nWe are planning our 5 year anniversary weekend for two weeks from now, and we have a trip coming up in May for a wedding. I keep having these nagging thoughts that I need to get my shit together and just end it. I'm so worried about breaking his heart and making a huge mistake. I've brought it up a few times that I've been having doubts (just over the past few months) and now I feel like he is walking on egg shells. I don't want to do this to him. \n\nI think he is planning on proposing some time soon too... possibly this summer after the wedding. I really can imagine my life with him, he would be an amazing husband, and father and I genuinely do love him. I don't know if I'm missing out on something more, someone who I have that spark and intensity with. Maybe I am being naive...and should just be happy with what I have and not make a huge mistake. \n\nThe thing that scares me the most is starting over... we have lived together for 3 years, share everything, we have a dog, and almost all of my friends are \"our\" friends. I'm so confused...I don't want to leave him and never find someone to makes me happy, but I also don't want to stay with him and always wonder \"What if?\" \n\nIf anyone has been in a situation like this, maybe you could help me out. Did you do the right thing, or did you feel like you made a mistake? Also...how to did get through the courage to finally end it and start over? I don't want to break his heart.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 5 years makes me happy, but something is missing. Terrified to make a mistake, and start over alone."}
{"id": "t3_4y3po7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hardest night of my life", "post": "(21m) Had a heartbreaking talk with my girlfriend of 2 years (22f) before my nightshift where we discussed going our separate ways. I really do love her and she told me she loves me too but she just can't see it working. I would do anything to make it work. Drove 60 miles from her house and got to work absolutely exhausted mentally and feeling totally emotionally drained. This is the last place I want to be and I'm on all night on my own. Feel like I'm going to burst into tears any second. All I want is to be back and to be with her. I've been thinking all night and I can't come up with anything that might make her feel differently without looking like I'm trying to push her into something she's not happy with. Any advice would be amazing, thank you", "summary": "Verge of a breakup and feeling helpless"}
{"id": "t3_1xz03u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [24 M] of 5 years, I'm disappointed with the Valentine`s day", "post": "We have been together for almost 5 years, we ve had ups and downs with last couple years being rocky. we live together.\n\nyesterday (Feb 13) he went out with his friends and did not come home all night. He did text around 4 in the morning telling me he will not be coming home; I was already asleep. I had work on the Valentine`s day till late night (11ish), did not talk to him all day. He showed up at my work with some of his family because he was n the area and gave me a flower. When I came home at night he gave me a valentine`s day gift; I gave him mine. I wanted to celebrate, have a drink. He was way too tired from last night hanging out with his friends so he went to bed.\n\nMy feelings are hurt. He knows this day is special to me, I am a romantic person. I would love to spend some quality time with my SO and celebrate the relationship. I guess it is not the fact that we didn't celebrate it, but the fact that he went out with his friends all night prior but did not have energy to do anything with me is what bothers me. Even though we live together we barely spend any quality time, we only see each other at night, so I wanted to spend as much time as I could on this day.\n\nI understand this might sound s bit childish, but for some reason I feel hurt. I don't want a big gift, a flower or a card will do just fine. I just want to spend time with my SO on the special day. In fact, I would prefer spending time with him over getting any gift.\n\nAre my feelings unreasonable? Why am I feeling this way? He made an effort, he gave me a gift. Although I would much rather prefer his company over anything material.", "summary": "SO could care less about spending time with me on Valentine`s Day."}
{"id": "t3_1ku26a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(24F) feel responsible for my boyfriends(25M) back problems. He sleeps on a crappy futon- I made him throw away his previous bed because he cheated on me on it.", "post": "Title says a lot. My bf and I are in a good place now, really. We had an incredible bumpy start, and it all escalated when I found out he had been having an affair with a (former) friend of ours. This was about 6 months ago (the reveal). We totally crashed and burned, obviously, but from the wreckage we build up a new, solid, honest relationship. However, especially in the beginning (and still, but a little less) I was disgusted by the places, memories, phrases even, and the physical stuff that was 'contaminated' by the betrayal. Including the bed. He was super remorseful, took these feelings seriously and accommodated me in that he actually threw away his bed (amongst other things).\n\nHe has been sleeping on a crappy futon since then. He doesn't have money to spare to buy a new bed. His back is absolutely killing him now, and I feel bad for it. I try to give him massages, but I have medical problem which means I can't properly do it without hurting my wrists (though I try).\n\nHe is getting cranky and frustrated because of the pain, he won't blame me, he really is very attentive to my feelings, but I still feel like I'm responsible.\n\nWhat can I do to make this situation suck less for the both of us?\n\n*Extra info: (He doesn't have spare change for a new bed/physical therapy, etc) He's really really healthy and fit and active, btw, so it's just the bed, not other factors. I have some spare change, but he hates it when I give him things, and something as expensive as a bed, he really wouldn't like that.", "summary": "I feel guilty about my bf's back problems caused by the lack of a proper bed/mattress. He has thrown away his good bed on my request after he cheated on me on the thing."}
{"id": "t3_1jhvtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get over this feeling after ending a 3-year relationship, where my ex-gf [F/21] cheated on me?", "post": "It's been 2 months and although I am making progress, every time I see her interact with my friends online, or I just see something of her's online, I am thrown into a state of anger and depression. It just feels so much more real when I see her acting like a human being.\n\nAnd she is continuing her life as if she did nothing wrong and it bothers me to no end. I just dont know how to get over this, and just not care that she doesnt care about what she did, and is now happy with someone else she had lined up while we were together. Help?", "summary": "Ex-gf still makes me feel like shit when I see her post things online, and she doesnt feel bad for cheating on me and is now happy with the person she cheated on me with. Bothered to no end."}
{"id": "t3_23t4fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18/m] girlfriend[18f] of a year is sending inappropriate memes to her guy friend.", "post": "I always see her posting pictures of that stupid rape sloth meme on his facebook wall and I think it's inappropriate since the memes are basically blunt pick up lines about sex and blowjobs.\n\nI've been with her for almost a year and she met him about three months after we were dating. They have been getting close over the past few months at school and she's always at the quad after school studying with him. I highly doubt she is cheating since she's always with me but I think being flirty like this should be reserved for me. She doesn't go to his house alone or have him over alone either.", "summary": "Girlfriend sends memes to guy about sex, would you be okay with this[guys], or would you do something like this if you were in a relationship[girls]?"}
{"id": "t3_2o2lkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my parents [50 M/F] Parents found out about drinking, trying to force control over life.", "post": "There's a bit of backstory to this, but essentially, my parents found out that I have been partying at college. When I was living with them at home I was always pretty good about following the rules and they never found out anything. I always thought they would put two and two together and realize that it's college, it's to be expected. Unfortunately this was not the case.\n\nI was at a party and got roofied, but made it back to my dorm okay. My roommate found me and called for help thinking I was blackout drunk. This led to me having a follow up meeting about what happened at school, but also to a letter being sent home to my parents.\n\nAnticipating the letter, I decided to talk to my parents in person. I knew there was no way I could tell them what really happened, my parents honestly wouldn't be able to handle it.\n\nSo I told them I was at a party where everyone got in trouble because of one person. I told them I had had two drinks that night and spoke to emt's about the one person who got sick. They believed me, but absolutely freaked out. \n\nMy parents are very religious and strict but I'm an adult now and they have a hard time with this.\nAll I can think is how I can never tell them the truth and it's such a burden. They're already so upset with me and are trying to contact my school to get a full incident report of what happened. If they see the incident report they're going to know what I told them is bs and I have no idea how to handle that because the truth will break their hearts.\n\nNote: I'm the oldest child and turned 18 a few weeks before leaving for school.", "summary": "I got roofied at a party, school sent my parents a letter, I lied to spare them, and now they might be about to find out the truth."}
{"id": "t3_vt35k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "It drives me [22/m] crazy when my SO [21/f] watches things we planned to watch beforehand. Is this wrong/controlling/whatever?", "post": "Often, while my SO and I are watching a TV series together (entire thing start to finish over the course of a few weeks) she'll watch ahead a few episodes while I'm at work and end up finishing the series quite some time before me. On a few occasions she has done a similar thing with a movie and watched one we were planning to see with her friend prior to us going. Something about this drives me up the wall and, for me, takes away from the experience of watching it together. I've asked her to stop doing, but she hasn't. Is this a normal thing to be annoyed with or am I overreacting about it?", "summary": "GF watches movies/tv shows we plan to watch together by herself/with her friends before we get a chance to. Is it okay to be annoyed/angry about this or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_4qsj79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is our sex life to far gone to save? (29f) (26m)", "post": "My husband and I have been married for four years. Our sex life has never been great, even in the honeymoon stages of our marriage. I would ask him things he liked and he was just so vanilla but whatever. I'd go on to tell him things I like (Im really into role playing and bdsm) but he'd always dismiss it and make jokes about it. \n\nThroughout our marriage he'd go on to say things like \" I don't like going down on women, I don't find it attractive\" make fun of my fantasies, call me fat, poke at my stomach, call me a starfish cause all I do is lay down while having sex. But everytime I tried to get better at other positions and want to practice he'd get frustrated cause I suck at sex.. \n\nI'm at the point where I feel really insecure to even have sex with him. Plus I'm just not turned on by him and the person he became, if that makes any sense. \n\nIt's been two months since we've had sex and every time he attempts to try anything it's just to get a blow job. Our we too far gone to save?", "summary": "Husband and I don't have sex for months at a time. He tells me I suck at sex and always makes me feel insecure"}
{"id": "t3_3971n6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i (21f) get over my envy/jealousy?", "post": "I've always known I wasn't a looker. I know I'm too skinny, tiny boobs, tiny butt, too tall, too this and too that. Whatever. Not everyone can be Jennifer Aniston or Kim Kardashian. Thats cool. But i thought that if a man wanted to sleep with you and be in a relationship with you, at least he thought you were pretty to him...\n\nWell, when i found out that wasn't true, it kind of messed with my head. I already knew i wasn't attractive, so why would i be surprised that my boyfriend thinks the same? But it sucks and it hurts and it makes me so, so jealous of other, beautiful women. Including my sisters. \n\nIt started with just little comments from my boyfriend. When he wasn't even angry. He'd just point out stuff. Someone told me that i had a sexy voice and he said he'd heard sexier. He's said he preferred different boobs but mine are good enough, that other girls have better hips or hair or style or are prettier or would make him too stupid so he's happy he's with me. \n\nAnd i get that thats all messed up stuff to say to someone else, but its not like it was all at one time and it was a year and a half ago that he basically stopped that behavior and now tells me I'm beautiful and stuff but i don't believe him and i don't think anyone will ever think that and I'm so jealous of girls with boyfriends who can't keep their hands off each other. I want passion. I want to be that girl.\n\nBut i never will be and i need to just be a big girl and accept that, but it really sucks and it really hurts and i feel so stupid and pathetic at the same time. How do i just accept that i will not be physically attractive and that's alright?", "summary": "after realizing i am not attractive, i am incredibly envious and jealous of other beautiful women. How to accept being unattractive?"}
{"id": "t3_4qxi4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (16 M) only \"friend\" is a group chat on facebook.", "post": "My whole life I have had no friends, it's not that I can't talk to people but my problem is to actually bond with them. I usually fuck up all my friendships by being stupid, having big aruments with them or creeping them out.\n\nAt the moment my only real \"friend\" is this group chat on facebook where I chat with people similar to me. I don't really chat in it myself, I just thumb up and agree with people because I don't want to get kicked out. \n\nThe feeling of interacting with people, reading what other people are doing or thinking, and the feeling of not being alone is amazing. \n\nLately my family has grown concerned about how much I'm behind the computer screen and even had a kind of intervention for me. Does anyone have any advice on what to do, how to get friends and maybe even a girlfriend (My closest encounter to a girl was when one stared at me in the school hallway and replied when I said hello).", "summary": "im socially awkward, my only real friend is a facebook group chat and i need advice on relationships."}
{"id": "t3_3c807p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (22F) weird for not wanting to go on family vacations? (50sMF, 16M)", "post": "Using my (kind of) throwaway because why not. \n\nI have come to the realization that I don't like our family vacations. They are always incredibly stressful, and I get enough of my parents yelling at me at home. Tensions always run high on our vacations. There's always arguing, and it sucks because there's nowhere to escape it.\n\nThe reason this comes up is because my dad has an opportunity to go to Seattle, and my mom wants to go. It'd be a week long thing. It also happens to fall on my birthday. \n\nCall me crazy but I'd much rather spend it at home chilling out than being stressed out of my mind with my parents.  My mom is giving me crap because I'd be \"foolish\" not to go. \n\nI'd love to go to Seattle, just not with them. (Maybe with my little brother because he's cool) \n\nMy mom and I already don't get along at home. She's constantly putting me down and making me feel bad about myself and what not. (I could make a whole post about this)She told me that \"Nobody will be in a rush to celebrate your birthday with you. They're all too busy for you.\" So yeah, that was nice. She also was saying how SHE'D love to be on vacation. \n\nThe ONLY reason I ask is that I do love to travel, but like I said not with them(her). So I'm kind of torn. She's also guilt tripping me so that doesn't help.", "summary": "Dad going out of town, mom wants us to go with, I hate family vacations because my mom and I fight constantly and they're always stressful. But I love to travel so I'm torn."}
{"id": "t3_3bj3kp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my friend [20 F] is asking me [23 F] to take sides in a fight", "post": "To clarify, she hooked up with another friend of mine[23 M] and they had a huge fight over the terms of their relationship (she had feelings for him, he wanted to keep it casual). When they terminated their relationship, she told me she couldn't bear to be friends with me if I was still friends with him. The thing is, he never did anything to hurt me and I don't feel like putting an ultimatum on our friendship is fair. We've been friends for over 5 years, but when I stood up for myself, she told me that we can't be friends anymore. I just don't know what to do here. Have I done the right thing by saying I won't choose sides?", "summary": "Friend said she won't be my friend if I'm still friends with her ex-FWB. Now says our friendship is over."}
{"id": "t3_3uqvay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] broke up with my girlfriend [16 F] of half a year, I absolutely can't get over her.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend broke up a few months ago after I found out she cheated on me multiple times. I immediately broke up with her when I found out and didn't speak to her for a while. Now we're both in the same school so we would occassionally see each other and eventually we started talking again. I knew at the time that I wasn't over her and had a hard time not going back to her. After we started talking we hooked up a few times but never really got into a serious relationship again. Few weeks later we came to the conclusion that it'd probably be better if we would just be friends because we sure as hell wouldn't want another relationship.\n\nIt went well for a while but I had (and still have) a hard time getting over her and got really jealous when she started dating someone else. In the meanwhile I had also started dating someone else but it just didn't work out because it didn't feel the same as with my ex-gf. I confronted my ex-gf about it and she said she felt the same about it. We talked about it and she wants to try and be just friends and thinks that after a while we'll both be able to get over each other and start living normally again as friends. I have a really hard time deciding what I want, I don't think being friends will work. I don't want to lose her and I know that if we'll be friends she will slowly start to move away from me, the same happened over the last 2 months when we were \"friends\". I also don't want to try another relationship with her because I can't trust her enough after our last relationship. The third option is probably my best option but also the worst feelings-wise. The third option would be completely forgetting about her and just stop talking with her. I know this will be really hard because I just keep thinking about her and I know I'll eventually go crawling back to her. Also the fact that we're in the same school makes it even harder. I'm absolutely stuck and have no idea what to do. Advice from someone with more experience in this (I'm quite young) would be very appreciated!!\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Can't get over my ex-gf and have no idea what to do or how to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_26i2di", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In what circumstances should I (21/F) tell my BF (21/M) when I get hit on/asked out?", "post": "This is my first relationship, and I am a bit unclear on the generally accepted courtesy regarding these instances.\n\nI am a bit reluctant to tell my boyfriend if I get hit on, as I fear that it will make me seem arrogant or insecure/attempting to make him jealous. As well, a part of me thinks that I should not be obligated to report everything that happens in my life to him, getting his approval for my friendships, especially if I don't act on any advances. \n\nOn the other hand, there have been times where I know that a guy has been interested in me, I've told them that I have a boyfriend, and then they want to continue to be friends. In this case, should I be telling my boyfriend about it to make sure that he is okay with it? What about times where guys simply approach me and ask me out?\n\nI just would hate for me to be doing anything insensitive by not telling him these things, and was wondering what the general consensus was?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "should I tell my boyfriend when I am hit on or asked out?"}
{"id": "t3_30vb0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] just broke up with my gf [20F] after 18 months together and have found out she was constantly lying to me", "post": "with gf for 18 months\nv. On/off\nOne of the issues we had was the way I spoke to girls\nBut to me I had 0 charm with girls and these were just friends\nthen 14 months down the line\nOne of my best female friends messaged her\nSaying I was chatting her up, and flirting with loads of girls from back home (we are at Uni together)\nI defended myself saying it was bullshit\nShe said she trusted me but was only willing to continue relationship if i don't ask friend about it\n8 Weeks broken up\nAsked said friend\nAll bullshit\nThis happened countless times over relationship\nFriends say she was diverting blame from herself\nNow im scared she was cheating on the whole time\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "=Ex made up shit that I was apparently doing and I have no idea why and it scares me"}
{"id": "t3_vbr9s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Calling any and all Southwest Airlines representatives. I need major advice!!!!!", "post": "Here's the situation, I booked a ticket for my Girlfriend round trip about 20 days ago. Well, it has completely slipped unnoticed that on her ID it has her previous last name instead of the last name that it was booked under. Dumb slip up by both of us. Well, the flight is tomorrow evening. I called the Southwest Airlines contact number and a very nice lady named Emily helped me, after about 15 minutes she told me that two different managers told her that my girlfriend should go to the counter and let them know that when the flight was booked, it was booked under her previous last name and that she needs to change the last name. She has all the confirmation numbers and everything. My question is, will this work!? Will she be able to get on the flight!?", "summary": "Girlfriend had one last name when ticket was booked, now has different last name. Awwww shit!"}
{"id": "t3_4ogt2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] get extremely anxious/worried when I'm not with my Girlfriend [19 F] for no reason.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and we've lived together at university for nearly the whole time we've been together. The time we spend together is great, we've had no major arguments only little squabbles nothing crazy. Now that summer has come we've both moved back into our parents houses. She lives about 1 hour and a half away by car (I don't drive.). We haven't seen each other for over a week which neither of us are worried about as I'm travelling to her parents house next week by train. \n\nI text/call her whenever she's free I make sure I'm not persistent with it, if she don't message back for a while I don't have any problems with it and she goes out with friends I just leave her to have a good time out. There are no problems when it comes to conversation over text or the phone. \n\nYou're probably reading this and thinking... Well there aren't any problems whats this guy posting on /r/relationship for. Well I have this constant worried feeling that somethings wrong or she's not into me anymore which recently has put me in a terrible mood and in turn is effecting my friends and family. But I can't shake it. I always feel down, anxious, worried which I literally have no reason for. I don't get this feeling all the time but at least once a day. It feels like my chest cramps up and that everything has just gone wrong when nothing has happened, I have sometimes got this feeling when I have not been messaging her.  I have not been tested for anxiety or anything like that, but honestly I really don't think mental health issues are at work here. The more I write the more I think this is just something I need to overcome.\n\nI don't really have many people to talk to about this so to here a few peoples opinions or experiences would really help. This may be the most pathetic relationship post but this is not only hurting me but my friends and family because of the knock-on effect on my mood.", "summary": "I get really anxious/worried when my girlfriend is not with me in person, for no reason at all, it is effecting my general mood so what to overcome the anxiousness."}
{"id": "t3_4l40cw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25 M, feel alone need some advice", "post": ".\nI am out of a terrible relationship that lasted 9 years, she cheated on me and this whole situation is still hurting me like it is yesterday although it been 4 months since break up.I am an idiot as somedays i stalk her and she posts pictures being happy with the other guy, even common friend are wondering what is wrong with her. I know i should stop but sometimes i am just weak \n\ni have been through lonely phases of my life due to Long distance relationship, and my friends who helped me through this situation are miles away from me as i moved to a different country since february. I know they are there but i feel alone. I wake up every morning and drag my body out of bed. At the job i am happy i have a social job so i interact with people. But as soon as i get home i am lonely again. Since the break up i hit the gym i can see difference in my body, i even started Latin dance lessons but it seems that i dont really have someone to go out with or call so we can spentd time together.\n\nIn terms of sex i havent had sex for like 16 months (past year of relationship was sexless) now and i am 25. as long as i think about it i get very sad. I want to but i feel like i cant attract any woman and even if i do i am afraid that i will not stop thinking my ex while i have sex. I dont want a relationship yet i dont know how to have casual sex.I have never had a one night stand and dont know how to approach a woman for that. i feel so terrible, i feel like life is going away and i am wasting it.\n\ni have witnessed my seld whisperring i want to die and that terrifies me. this is not me... i want to find joy of life again, but i am afraid . WOuld a new relationship be that bad for me? i dont want to hurt anyone because i had a past relationship that destroyed me.\nplease any advice is acceptable,", "summary": "need some advice, how to stop draught period and stop being alone"}
{"id": "t3_49xpto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf [24] cheated on me [21] and lied to me. We live together and I need help really bad.", "post": "So we have been together for about a year now. I found out the other day that she had went out to the bar with another guy about a month ago on 4 separate occasions. On one of them she went to his house and they made out. She never told me she went out with him I had to find out from a mutual friend.\n\nWhen I asked her about it she lied to my face over and over even when I told her that our friend told me. I told her we are through and she went nuts and just keeps badgering me to give her another chance. I still don't know if she slept with him or not and if she did she would never tell me. I would be gone by now but we both have nowhere to go and our lease isn't up til October.\n\nPart of me still loves her and wants to take her back because I was happy with her. Then I think about those nights she betrayed me. I don't know what to do at this point. Every time we talk it's just her saying I love you, crying, apologizing and me just laying into her about what she did. I'm having a dilemma here and I need help bad. Just someone give me advice I'm desperate.", "summary": "Found out my gf cheated on me and tried to hide it. We live together and I want to take her back. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_3b6guh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] was accused of being racist by [23F]", "post": "This isn't an immediate problem but something that has been playing on my mind. It was the ex-housemate of my boyfriend. A stranger, not his friend. My boyfriend and I are long distance and both complete introverts, and so when we get to spend time together we keep to ourselves.\n\nShe lived in the house for about three months. I said hi when I saw her, but nothing beyond that. It was civil enough but mostly she wore headphones and spent time in her room. Quickly, my boyfriend began having problems with her. She was stealing his food and damaging his utensils, and playing loud music at antisocial times. He confronted her when I was there (politely, because he is also shy) and she lost it. Screamed at me and him. Said we were racist and rude to her, ignoring her. Called me a white princess.\n\nI never saw her again because she moved out, but before she did, she had another rant at my boyfriend where she called me \"beautifully white\" (I'm technically mixed race) and again made the racist accusations. My question is: what on earth do I do when I'm accused of racism? Racism is absolutely terrible and it really saddens me to think that anyone thinks that I dislike them for no reason.", "summary": "Was accused of being racist by a girl I exchanged less than 10 words with. Feeling confused and not sure what to do in future."}
{"id": "t3_2axlxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am being pursued by a guy [?M] who finds me very attractive, the problem is I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I think I'm too dangerous for him", "post": "Ok this is going to seem really strange but I hope I can explain in a way that's understood. \nI met a guy on OkCupid about a month ago(I just realized right now I've never asked him how old he is but he's about my age)\n after he messaged me and seemed really interested in me. So I began to talk and tease him a little bit because I thought he was cute and he was VERY endearing and warm to me. He really seem to care about me and we share similar unpopular opinions and he just seems to be the only person who can actually tolerate me. So after talking almost every day and playing games with each other etc I told him on a date that I had to come clean. I explained to him that I am sociopathic, borderline and narcissitic and that he shouldn't get too close to him because I am so insensitive and manipulative that I feel I would do him damage, even though I really do like him. I told him that maybe he should keep his distance and we should just stay friends. \n\nWell he said something completely unexpected, he said that he studies psychology and when he saw my profile he knew what I was straight away. He said he loves how dangerous and unpredictable I am and he finds it sexy. He also said he has no problem with it at all and in his own words \"I'm struggling to not fall in love with you.\"\n\nWhat the hell do I do? I've never been in this kind of situation before. He seems like he really understands and doesn't mind but I don't want him close to me, he doesn't deserve it. The problem is I love the way he treats me and the attention and care he gives me. I smile when I wake up and see a knew message from him, he's even relearning his childhood language because it's my native language and he wants to speak it to me. I'm really falling for him but I know that I'm unfit to have him, but he seems convinced I am.\n\nSo much cognitive dissonance what do I do?", "summary": "Guy I'm dating says he has no problem with me being mentally ill but I'm not sure if he quite understands how dangerous I am"}
{"id": "t3_4kalec", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Alcohol Allergy?", "post": "I [23 m, 5'5\", 145 lbs] don't drink beer. I only drink whiskey, when I drink. Sometimes when I have my first shot or two, I have muscle pain in my shoulders. It doesn't always happen, but it happens a lot. It only lasts for about five minutes. Also, I sometimes have sneezing fits after I've drank about a half-pint. Again, it doesn't happen all the time. In fact, it had only happened while I was drinking sweet tea with whiskey. I initially thought it was a tea allergy. However, last night I was chasing with Dr. Pepper, and it still happened. I think it's an allergy, but where does the shoulder muscle pain fit in? Any advice (I'm know it's not a diagnosis) would be appreciated. I just want to be sure I don't have anything major to worry about.", "summary": "I sometimes get shoulder pain and/or sneezing fits when I drink whiskey."}
{"id": "t3_pxgb1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found this document labeled \"thoughts\"... so Reddit, what do you think?", "post": "I always wonder what guys are thinking when you are just starting to 'talk' to one of them. I wonder if they wonder what the future between you two will be like. I wonder if they wonder about a future with another person at all. Do they worry like women do? Do they wonder if they will ever be alone when they're older? Maybe they're just always confident that they will eventually meet someone even if they're older. Men are lucky in that way. They age like fine wine. Women on the other hand seem to expire after a certain age. Women become unwanted after wrinkles creep in, bags under the eyes start to form, your youth fading away.... Maybe this is why women worry so much more about finding someone to spend our life with. Because women want to make sure they have someone that will love them even after time starts to take a toll on their looks. Is this why women have always been expected to marry young? Because of this ultimate truth in the world? Now it's even harder to keep up with looking 'good' because of all the false advertising of how women's bodies should be. There is always the argument brought up that 'looks don't really matter'. Lies. Looks do matter because that's the first thing that attracts you to a person. That attraction is needed on a physical level, to a certain extent, in a relationship. After that you may look for a certain kind of emotional connection with the person. Then start finding out different interests you share, and some you can learn from one another. Also, religion comes into play. Sometimes that can be a deal breaker in a relationship. With so many factors coming into play, how do you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with?", "summary": "what do men think when they first start seeing a women? do they worry about the future as much? how do you find someone to spend life with?"}
{"id": "t3_476g0q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] I recently started dating again after 6 months, and met this fun girl, but I'm scared to get close.", "post": "So here's the deal. I had two relationships in the past, and I'm the kind of person to got real close and involved because I was afraid to be left alone. I had some depression and anxiety issues back then as well. Obviously they eventually failed, I got pretty hurt, and it was hard for me to let go. \n\nSo the last 6 months I distanced myself from the idea of dating, and focused on getting more confident, fixing myself as to say, and Since a month or so I feel happy again, and ready to take on anything. So I got in the dating game again, and met this amazing girl. She's sweet, funny, looks like the whole deal. We had 3 amazing dates so far and she told me she really likes me.\n\nI see this going somewhere, and that's where the fright kicks in. I noticed I'm afraid of the idea of a relationship, because I don't want to get hurt, but also because I might go back to becoming to involved again, leaving no space for myself in the relationship. We are meeting again this thursday; but my cold feet are getting in the way of having fun. I want to enjoy my time with her, genuinely, but I'm afraid that I'll be sucked in a rollercoaster of whatever, which will leave me back at square one, all broken down and depressed.", "summary": "had some bad experiences, met amazing girl, is going somewhere but I'm afraid to fully commit."}
{"id": "t3_2vrr2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) am in a miserable situation with boyfriend (25M) of two years. Please help.", "post": "About a year ago, I signed a year long lease with my boyfriend. Things were going great, we were very happy with the way the relationship was going and with each other.\n\nHowever that quickly changed. Since then, my boyfriend has failed on almost all promises of bettering himself (like getting his drivers license), stays out drinking during the week, has no plans for how he sees this relationship going, and is generally pretty crabby most of the time. \n\nI think I've fallen out of love with him through this whole process... and it's tearing me apart. Sex isn't enjoyable anymore, but I go through with it to avoid fights. Its rare we have days when we don't fight. And I find myself happy on the nights I have the place to myself. \n\nI consider him more of a friend than anything. But that doesn't make for a good living situation, especially in a one bedroom apartment. I talked to the leasing manager about ending it early, but the cancellation fee is so high, there's no way I could afford it. Theres also no way I could afford the apartment by myself, nor could he. May is 3 months away...\n\nI'm so depressed because I feel guilty and horrible for not being 100% into the relationship like he thinks I am. But if I start drifting away he'll be suspicious and I'm afraid of what will happen if I end it to early. I have zero support from any friends or family members, as they think I'm leading him on, even though I ask the bare minimum of this relationship.\n\nI'm so sad because I feel like I'm doing this all wrong. Please help, I don't know what else to do, and have nowhere to go until May. :(", "summary": "Signed lease with boyfriend, stuck in lease and miserable. Help please."}
{"id": "t3_4g149g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 F] with my body: I've gained weight from stress/medical, and the embarrassment is causing me to isolate myself", "post": "Hi relationships:\n\nI'm having an issue with my body image that is affecting how I interact with people. Over the past 7 years, I have gained almost 70 pounds. Part of this is attributable to my bad coping with school stress (I am in grad school and have been for these 7 years), and I also was just diagnosed with hypothyroidism last year (the doc is still adjusting the dosage, but it seems to be stabilizing). I'm working very hard indeed to get back in shape and find ways to cope with stress that don't inhibit weight loss (eating popcorn while watching tv, for example...). So I am making lifestyle changes to fix this.\n\nHowever, in the meantime, the anxiety and shame surrounding my body is so awful. When I am at an event I know there will be pictures taken, I start to panic. I don't go to parties. A friend group is planning a vacation to go visit a mutual friend I haven't seen in 6 years, and I'm dreading it because I don't want her to see me fat. Worst of all, I am graduating with my doctorate in a month, and I'm so embarrassed that I don't want to invite my own father to graduation, even though he's told me he's so proud. I don't even want a single picture of the event because I'm so afraid of documenting how I look.\n\nRationally, I know I'm being crazy. I will be so angry in 10 years if I don't have pictures of my own graduation, and if I don't go visit my friend, I would miss out on a great trip forming many happy memories. \n\nHow do I work on this issue and get over my anxiety re: people seeing me fat?", "summary": "Got fat, and I'm so ashamed, I don't want to anyone to see me. I'm working to lose the weight, but what do I do in the meantime? How do I get over it so I stop isolating myself and start attending important events again?"}
{"id": "t3_1ovktz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24/F with my boyfriend 28/M of 2 years, I keep flip-flopping about how I feel", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we've been happy. We don't fight, our personalities are very similar, no cheating or anything of the sort. But I feel like I may be missing out. He's my first long-term boyfriend, and I already feel \"over it\" sometimes. I love him very much, he's a wonderful person. But our relationship doesn't make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I sometimes think I actually have deeper feelings for him than he does for me, which bums me out.\n\nSome times I find myself thinking about being with other guys, or wondering if there's someone out there who would make me feel as loved as I want to be. Even when my boyfriend is lovey-dovey with me, I almost don't believe him. Because he isn't expressive with his feelings and I think he just gives me attention when he notices me being distant.\n\nI will never cheat on my boyfriend, I know that for sure. And I can't honestly say I want to break up with him. I want to be with him. But I want things from our relationship that just don't happen with him. He doesn't do anything to give me a reason to break up with him though, so I just feel like I have to just shut up and be happy he's as good as he is. \n\nI'm just torn and I don't feel like a really good relationship should make me feel like this. I don't want to end up married and bored of my marriage or wishing my husband would make me feel more loved, etc.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, relationship is good but I'm just not content and wondering if I should move on."}
{"id": "t3_ecyiz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Good Samaritan returns stolen laptop. How should I reward him?", "post": "Back at the end of August, I had my apartment broken into and several items stolen, including my MacBook Pro. I filed a police report and a claim with my insurance, and gave up the items as lost for good. \n\nEarlier this month, I received a text from the tenant that moved into my old apartment saying that a man had called her asking for me. I filed it into the back of my head to call him, but since I didn't recognize the name or number, it slipped my mind until just last night. \n\nI give him a call, and turns out he had received my MacBook as a gift. When he signed on he saw my name as the login, and it bothered him enough that he went on a wild goose chase trying to find me to let me know he had my laptop. He looked up my name on the internet, and I think he found a word document with my old address (thus the reason he called the new tenant in my old apartment) and used that to find a phone number to call and try to reach me. He said he was actually quite obsessed with it for some time. \n\nI feel very grateful that he went to all that work to try to find me, especially since it could implicate the family member that gave it to him as the thief. I really feel like I should do something or give him something to reward him for all the hard work he did, but I'm not sure what would be appropriate. Any ideas?", "summary": "Laptop was stolen and man called me to return it. What should I do to say thanks?"}
{"id": "t3_10mq0z", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Recommendations for Historical Context, Post-WWII?", "post": "Rather specific, but I feel like this is an area where my knowledge (and likely the knowledge of my peers who also went through the public school system) is greatly lacking. One comprehensive book would be absolutely ideal (I'm short on funds, what can I say?) but if I can even get a list of a few very great sources to add to a wishlist, I would be greatly appreciative.\n\nOver 12 years in the public school system we've gone over a great, great span of works and history. From the Sumerians and Egyptians, past the history of Ancient Rome, through the medieval ages, up to the Renaissance. We did plenty of American History studying the Civil War, World War I, and World War II as well as learning about the role that other countries took in these wars.\n\nHowever, I've found that my knowledge about world history gets rather foggy from this point on. In fact, I only barely remember discussing the Cuban Missile Crisis our senior year of high school.\n\nI'm looking for something that can help bridge the gap between WWII and the time when I started to become aware of what was happening around me. I feel as though I really ought to know this more recent history so that I can place current events in a historical context.", "summary": "I would love to learn more about Vietnam, the American (And Russian) roles in the middle east, The Cold War, and *especially* those things that I haven't yet realized that I ought know about."}
{"id": "t3_g8zby", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What advice do you have for international students on living in the US?", "post": "I am an international student myself, but my experience/knowledge is limited. I have learned so much thanks to this community (even though this is a new account, I have been reading Reddit for about two years now) and I think there are so many posts showing Reddit at its best that offer a door to knowledge that you cannot get easily anywhere else. Can you help me out Reddit by providing some recommendations and resources for international students on any topic you can think of from finding an apartment to shopping.\n\nI will be responsible for a program blog for a doctoral degree at a large State University on the East Coast of the US and I am planning to offer current/prospective students helpful information. I also have a podcast for international students (for which I have not been doing much lately). Maybe, with your help, I will be inspired to produce some more podcasts to help international students enjoy their time in this great country. \n\nI realize that Reddit is an international community, but I am sure there are at least some Redditors living elsewhere who are considering to go to school in the US at some point, so it can be interesting for them as well.\n\nThanks a lot!", "summary": "Just re-read the title :)"}
{"id": "t3_3pviuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my gf [22F] of 2 years sneaking messages through snapchat with ex", "post": "Recently, my girlfriend moved 1300 miles away for a job, which I fully supported because she wanted to get away from home. Unfortunately I have to finish school before I can join her. It has been two months, since she's been gone.\n\nAnyways, my girlfriend has this particular ex that likes to remain a presence in her life whether through liking her pictures or commenting on her photos. Early on we set boundaries regarding exes and how they belong in the past and she agreed to this. Well a couple weeks ago, she revealed to me that this ex has done this in a previous relationship in order to get her attention and cause trouble. He commented on her picture and I asked her why she still followed him instead of blocking him? Since she said that she doesn't care either way. She got really defensive but ended up blocking him and all was well. \n\nThis is where it gets tricky. I knew this guy wouldn't give up that easily and that he would try to get into contact with her somehow. This suspicion got the best of me and I went onto her snapchat and saw that they had been exchanging pictures and messages a couple times a day. I feel incredibly disrespected by her, because she knows that this is the one thing I will not tolerate. She knows he's just trying to cause trouble, but she continues to egg it on as if she's interested. \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this since I snuck into her snapchat, but I do feel hurt and disrespected by her, since she told me she would never do anything to lose my trust.", "summary": "Gf promised to cut off communication with ex, but continues to message him behind my back."}
{"id": "t3_w9j7z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Was just a victim of racism/stereotyping, have you ever been judged/stereotyped because of your race/nationality?", "post": "I live in Western South Dakota and am Native American - Earlier this evening I was buying some last minute items for dinner, buns for pulled pork and a coleslaw mix, when a lady behind me said, \"You must be pretty anxious for the 10th, since you're getting just the basics.\"\n\nFood stamp benefits are renewed on the 10th of every month. \n\nI replied, \"Actually, I'm just grabbing a few last minute things I forgot to grab earlier, and i'm paying with cash.\"\n\nLady, \"Oh I'm sorry, I just assumed it was food stamps because...\"\n\nMe, \"because i'm a native?\"\n\nlady, \"Well my girlfriend's neighbor is a native american and they said all of you people get food stamps.\"\n\nPaid for my food with cash and walked off.", "summary": "someone assumed I was paying for my food with foodstamps because i'm native american. "}
{"id": "t3_v9b7q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your favorite family story?", "post": "My uncle was always a rather hairy man. not metaphorically, but he had tons of hair all over his body. He lived near a mountain range, and specifically a campground. This campground was a place where every weekend a few college-age kids would go up there to drink and have a good time. One night, while the moon was high, my uncle donned a brown, fur air force jacket, and a Chewbacca mask. he hikes silently up to about 200 yards from the campground where about 4 kids are drunk around a fire. he lets out a deep, bellowing roar, waves his arms at the kids, and walks off into the forest. The kids booked it the hell out, and one of them dedicated their career to finding Bigfoot. He had a huge website and a lot of supporters going last i checked, but I can't remember the URL.", "summary": "uncle dresses like Bigfoot, surprises drunk campers, camper dedicates life to finding Bigfoot."}
{"id": "t3_3440tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [20 F] of 6 months, decided to take a break today. Need advice.", "post": "Today, my girlfriend and I of 6 months decided to take a break. I figured it was in our best interest, as for the past week or so I have felt differently about her, almost as if the love we had was lost. I could not think of what else to do, other than maybe we needed some time apart to collect our thoughts and figure out what we can maybe do.\n\nWhat I need to know, is was this the right decision? I felt awful talking to her about it, because I know she is crazy about me and I was at one point too. She was in tears today and I felt so bad. It just seems weird to me that my feelings can just seem to vanish out of thin air when she really has not done anything wrong. She has been a great girlfriend and does a lot for me. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I took a break with my GF of 6 months today, and want to know if I made the right decision. My feelings have felt differently the past week or so, and it seems to be for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_2k9e8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend(M16) and I(F16) are receiving complaints about PDA, what to do?", "post": "Sorry if layout is weird, i'm on mobile.\n\nMy boyfriend (we'll call him James) and i eat lunch with his friends every day, we've been doing this since before we started dating because i was friends with them before we were an item. Recently we've been getting shit for \"being annoying\" to the point  where i was told by one of his friends not to come with them to an event i'd been excited for because \"no one wants to see that\" and we've had people just get up and leave when we kiss hello. \n\nNow i know this is a grey area for a lot of people, and as teenagers we're known for being gross, but we dont see how what we're doing is all that offensive. During lunch he sits with his arm around me and we maybe kiss a few times but its generally a second long peck on the lips, nothing major. We kiss hello and goodbye but generally wait until we've parted ways with friends and make sure to keep it below a count to three. I can understand being grossed out by pda when people are really going at it, or being annoyed when they aren't interacting with the group, but we're being pretty chill and actively participating in the conversation. This is literally more reserved than we are around my parents. None the less we're appertently really bothering his friends. \n\nJames is a pretty affectionate person and i really enjoy it, it feels wrong to tell him to cut back when we're already being pretty reserved (as far as we're concerned) and other people are the only ones having any objection to it. James thinks they're being unreasonable and doesnt care if they're annoyed, i on the other hand feel awful about it and feel like i should stop going to lunch with him so as not to bother them. The problem with this is that James insists that if i leave he's coming with me and i feel like they would have even more of a reason to resent me if they think their friend has stopped hanging out with them so that he can be gross with his girlfriend.", "summary": "Bf and i are annoying friends with pda, dont know if we're gross or they're immature, regardless i'm trying not to be a bitch about it how can we solve this."}
{"id": "t3_1uannc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21f] having problems with dating.", "post": "This is a pretty stupid fucking post, I know. But, I just don't understand how this whole \"dating\" thing this is supposed to go down.  What is a good way to meet people? How do you just randomly approach guys and essentially say \"yo brah, you're attractive, I'd like to rub my lady-bits on your man-bits sometime in the future\"? \n\nI've tried online dating, and met a few guys, but it just ends in a weird hang-out and then we never talk again; and honestly, I really want to meet someone the old fashion way. I'm not even sure I know what the old fashion way is...", "summary": "Dating is pretty much non-existent in my life;how the fuck does it work?"}
{"id": "t3_1rnbaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] need to know how to get over someone I broke up with", "post": "Hi Guys,\n\nHere I am back again to seek advice from you guys..I broke up with my BF some days ago after posting about his lack of financial responsibility.\n\nWe are currently in the 'No Contact' Phase after the breakup as we agreed it will help in getting over each other.\n\nI am trying to get through this, one day at a time and all but something happened recently, I got in a small accident and got injured. Right now I am home taking a leave from office to recuperate.\nHe called to check on me and I feel like my insides have turned to jello.\n\nYes, I know I need to move on, but how? We didn't last long but  I loved him for years and finally to be with the person I have loved for eons and then to loose all that so quickly, I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Broke up with SO, but having problems with dealing."}
{"id": "t3_29erjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] don't want to be a rebound for girl [19 F], how do I progress?", "post": "So this girl I've had an eye on for quite a while has come out of a relatively long term relationship (according to me, anyway ~ 1.5 years) after being left by her ex. He is quite a good friend, I've enjoyed a few beers with him, but not a best friend.\n\nAnyway, just before they started dating, I realised I felt something for her, but left it at that. Always thought of her as a stunner though, and with the recent breakup, I'm wondering if I should make a move?\n\nBut I don't want to be a rebound guy, and that's making me hesitant. I know there is no definite time to indicate when it's safe to make it a bit more permanent, but for someone who's not to experienced in this field, is there any advice on how to progress? Just go for it and hope it's not a rebound? Always remain relevant but never swoop in?", "summary": "I don't want to be a rebound guy for a girl who recently got out of a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_30fyhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [26 M], how to deal with his comments on other women", "post": "Hi,\n\nBefore I begin, I must say that he's one of the most understanding, generous, and giving man I've ever known and I feel very lucky to be with him. I'm not writing this to complain about him or our relationship; rather, I'd like to seek help from wiser people on how to deal with/better control my emotions that mainly stem from my insecurity.\n\nMy boyfriend and I try to be honest and open with each other, and he likes to point out women he finds attractive on the street or TV. It's not a simple acknowledgement \"oh, she's attractive,\" but more... expressive and graphic (\"I'd like to do...\" \"wow, she's got a really nice...\") and are rather frequent (when we are walking down the street, it occurs every 5 minute or so). In his defence, he is doing this partly because he believes it turns me on too.\n\nNow, I consider myself a jealous person, but I'd also like to think that I am pretty rational about it. I completely understand and accept that people in a relationship still can find others attractive, but it doesn't mean anything more than momentary appreciation or distraction. But the impact goes way beyond the rational, and every time he mentions another woman I feel the pain almost like a physical punch that starts and spreads from my chest. I keep telling myself that he won't leave me for these women and he loves me and I mean the world to him, but once I hear the words I can't recover from the pain quite easily and end up shutting down or sulking for the rest of the day.\n\n**The best solution would be to communicate this with him, but for reasons that are too complicated to write here I cannot bring myself to do so.** While I am trying to push myself to be more honest, I would also like to hear from others who can relate to/have over come this issue. In order to stop myself from being too negative and depressed I have been taking vitamin supplements, take a walk or read outside for more sun exposure, exercise regularly, etc, nothing has helped. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "How can I feel better about my partner's constant comments on other women?"}
{"id": "t3_1szx35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] 8 months, she has cancer, how to make her feel loved?", "post": "Hello, I (16/m) am in a LDR with my girlfriend (16/f), who has had cancer. She got cancer in her ovaries when she was 15. I got to know her shortly after she was proclaimed healthy. This was December last year. Then she wen't to a school after summer. This school is 1-2 hours away, and recently she has had a tough time. \n\nI was wondering if any of you women perhaps would have some advice on how to make her feel special & loved. I really try to listen, but I find it hard. I have no experience with people with cancer, and I don't seem to understand anything at all, or so she says. \n\nI am afraid it is ruining our relationship, and I would not like it to be ruined, of course, as I love her very much.", "summary": "LDR with a girl with cancer, looking to make her feel loved."}
{"id": "t3_32lv47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17m] will meet a girl i like tomorrow, how do I act 17 [f]", "post": "I will be meeting her tomorrow because our transport goes the same time, she knows me as foreveralone guy eventhough im not, the guys in my class are big cunts that i try not talking to, anyway Her birthday was yesterday, should i gratulade her or will it be awkward? She is really nice towards me but it might be becuase of sympathy.. I dont really know because she once told me i was looking good with her friends around and I guess thats a big indicator to that she feels sad for me and tries to boost my self esteem, i dont know though\n\nI need also tips on what to say because im a nerd living in his moms basement", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_12nb4n", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "OMG, i think she's finally getting it!", "post": "We have a ~7.5 month old Cocker Spaniel named Leeloo.  She's cute as hell, but not the brightest bulb in the box.  We got her when she was 4 months old from a pet store (I know, bad plan...puppy mills and all that...anyway)...she has been SO slow to potty train and I have posted here a number of times looking for help.  The advice was great (and reinforced what I had already researched) but the going was slow.\n\nWe decided to start using the bells on the door.  For 2 months we rang them every single time we went out to go potty in conjunction with the potty command.  The first time she rang the bells was right *after* she peed by the door.  The next couple times were sporadic at best, and not always *before* she had to go.  Then one day, she rang to go out and actually peed!  Then later that day, she did it again 2 more times!  (Big rewards and loves were had).  Since then, she has had very few accidents!  \n\nWe are just now experimenting with giving her a wee bit more freedom...I got another set of bells and hang them over the side of the gate wherever we are sectioned off at.  She has been using them to let me know that it's time to go out.  We have also moved the gate so that she has access to the bells on the door and she has used them as well.  :)\n\nI can't believe she is finally getting it and I am super excited that it won't be *too* long before she can be \"free\" in the house and not tethered to me the whole time or gated in or crated when I can't watch her.", "summary": "thanks for all the advice and encouragement to just hang in there and be patient.  Leeloo is finally getting potty training!"}
{"id": "t3_38l63n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I (18/f) attempt contact?", "post": "Situation:\n- I've had a crush on a guy for most of year\n\n- Said guy at one time liked me (as far as I could tell) and at very least finds me attractive\n\n- I have a problem with pride and showing my interest once I am in fact interested, and feeling like whatever I say will sound stupid (trying to work on this), guy seems to have assumed my apparent disinterest is genuine (completely understandable)\n\n- we have spoken once or twice in passing, but nothing serious. We share some mutual friends/close acquaintances.\n\n- I decided to take my last chance to talk to him at the last day of school, but due to chaos, there wasn't an opportunity (and for once that's not just an excuse)\n\n- I will likely never see him again unless I try to\n\nOptions: \n1) move on and forget about him, go to college and attempt to change my ways regarding dating\n\n2) try to make my interest known through one of our mutual friends with the hope that something will work out and the two of us can begin talking. \n\nI don't really have anything to lose at this point, but I also view the latter option to be silly and kind of cowardly considering that I've had all year to talk to him.\nI would normally automatically choose option one, except I don't get crushes very often, and I feel like him and I may actually fit well. \nThere is also the little \"what if\" in the back of my head telling me that maybe he knew of my interest all along but purposely never did anything himself.\nThank you to anyone who has actually read to this point!", "summary": "terminal schoolgirl crush...forget, or attempt to contact through mutual friend?"}
{"id": "t3_q266y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Job search crisis. I need some perspective reddit.", "post": "Here is my issue:\n I have a college diploma as a power engineering technician and have applied to the only job related to my field in my area. It's a very prestigious job. Lots of money. Could work there for life. My issue is that 250-300 people are being interviewed for the same position. There will be approx 60 positions. \n\nI don't know if my interview was good enough. My current job is minimum wage fast food. I may end up not finding out I didnt get hired untill august. \n\nMy other option is the navy. The Canadian military is in need of maritime engineers and that fits my diploma. Nothing is keeping me in my area accept the possibility of this other job.\n\nI could wait 6 months to find out I have been waiting on a refusal, and becoming an engineer in the navy could give me experience I could come back with.", "summary": "waiting on job response, not sure if going to get, should I become a naval engineer for experience and progress forwards instead of waiting on my life?"}
{"id": "t3_3vl6ka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend L [23 F] best friends for 12 years.", "post": "Context.\nI'm a transman and have been on T for almost two years. L has known me sense before I started even transitioning. L is bi and has dated men and women.\n\nMe and L have been friends for 12 years. She is in Arizona right now going to school and I'm in Texas. We are planning on moving to WA with a group of friends.\nWe Skype almost every night with our group of friends. And we text almost constantly.\n\nI can't really tell if we flirt or not because I'm just bad at reading people. She is comming out in Feb to go to Dallas comicon and we are sharing a hotel room and sharing a bed but we have done that when we were younger.\nWe are also cos playing as BB Terra from teen titans and she ships them ( she couples them up ) I'm probably reading to much into it.\n\nBasically I'm falling for her but am terrified of ruining our friendship because she is my best friend. I do feel like something could be there because we get along so well. Even if I tell her and she doesn't feel the same way I can accept that and just move on.\nI don't know what to do >,<", "summary": "Tell my best friend of 12 years I have feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_j3myc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was evicted because my landlord did not file the proper permitting, do I have any recourse for expenses due to this?", "post": "Yesterday around noon,  I received a call from my landlord stating that the city has declared the third floor of the apartment I live in (top floor) to be vacated and decommissioned. As such we need to be out by the end of August.  Upon this news, my landlord said that our August rent would be only $100. (A nice gesture) We started apartment hunting right away yesterday and found a place.\n\nFast forward to today: My roommate and I have signed a lease to the new place. While the rent is slightly cheaper we need to pay for utilities. (which was included at the old place) We also needed to pay the standard first month plus deposit (another month essentially). We will also need to pay for any other incidentals that come up in this move. It's a rather large out of pocket expense.\n\n* To make sure I had this story straight, I spoke with the city building inspector today, and he said this action was due to the landlord not getting the proper permits to renovate this floor, and as such it is out of code.\n\n* As one last bit of advice seeking I spoke with the Wisconsin Consumer Protection Bureau. They stated that I should talk to the landlord first to see if he is willing to provide any compensation. If he disagrees, the next step is mediation via the consumer protection folks, and then small claims court.\n\nWhat do the people of Reddit think I could get out of these unfortunate circumstances? While my roommate and myself have been able to find other housing, I still do not think it fair that we carry the burden of a cheap landlord.", "summary": "Because of  my shortsighted (former) landlord my roommate and I now need to find a new place to live and have our possessions out by the end of August, which is not exactly cheap. Can I get anything out of the landlord besides my deposit?"}
{"id": "t3_3nf2pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [25M] is not conventionally physically attractive, but has a great personality. Advice for how to support his love life?", "post": "One of my oldest friends has just been dumped after a brief series of dates, the first he's had in a long while. He's very upset.\n\nHe has bad teeth, is overweight and has some other physical issues (acne etc.). He is however a wonderful, sweet person with a very giving personality. He is gay, which means he is having to navigate dating in the very shallow world of Grindr male hookups and so forth. He barely ever gets any attention. I see him being passed over time and time again by guys who think he's a great friend but just can't see him in a romantic way.\n\nI don't want to ask about how to solve this problem - obviously there's not any quick fix for this - but what would you do to help support and cheer up my friend after yet another rejection?", "summary": "My friend is a really great guy, but he has no luck dating because he doesn't look conventionally attractive. How can I support him and cheer him up?"}
{"id": "t3_2vztoy", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My girlfriend cheated on me and I don't know if I can move forward.", "post": "Ladies I need your help I've had alot of guys give me their opinion but I think I need to get advice from a woman's mind as well. So me and my girlfriend have been together a little over 3 years and just moved in together. I just found out that over a month a go right before we moved in she cheated on me with a guy from her work. She claims they didn't have sex but did sexual favors. I found out myself even though she claimed she wanted to tell me, I'm blown away right now and am feeling so many different emotions I can't wrap my head around what just happened. I love her so much and can't think about life without her but at the same time I feel so betrayed and can't stomach being with her right now. I really don't know how to go about this. Should I give us some space and let her figure out what she really wants, or should I just end it right now and begin the healing process and move on. She had depression and felt as if I wasn't giving her enough attention when she cheated, but the reason I was so distant was because my grandma had just passed away. I didn't even notice something was wrong. I kicked her out the day I found out. We've talked about it since. She claims she'll do what ever it takes for me to forgive her and to make it better, neither she nor I want is to be over I still love her and can't imagine my life without her. She was the only person I could truly be myself with we had so much fun together. I want that back more than anything but I don't know how to move on and forgive her or if I can ever get over her betrayal. She says she'll do what ever it takes but I don't know if it will ever be enough. I'm completely lost.", "summary": "girlfriend cheated on me and I want to work things out but don't knew if I can."}
{"id": "t3_1ctlhf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to save an animals life", "post": "So today I was playing golf with some friends, having a great time and all until I come across a baby turtle that had somehow flipped over in the middle of the fairway. It was pretty hot outside (75-80) so I thought, \"Fuck it, I'm saving this little guy.\" So I pick up this baby turtle, and walk with it for the rest of the hole until I show my friends and share ideas of what we will do with it. All my friends suggestions were shit so I just went with my own idea which was to put him in the nearby pond so maybe he can find some other turtles and start a new life. I drop him 2-3 feet off of a small bridge into the water, small tears coming from my eyes, and wish the little guy the best of luck in his new life. Walking away, I turn around to see him still in his shell, not moving about 1 foot underwater. I wait for him to come out of his shell and swim off, but he  won't come out and still stays in the same place. After a couple of minutes, his shell turns upside down, and sinks to the bottom. I still to this hour have no idea if he was fucking with me or I had just drowned a baby turtle.", "summary": "Tried to save a baby turtle by putting him in a pond, drowned the son of a bitch"}
{"id": "t3_3ds23u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not flirting with a girl", "post": "Right, it's a long story, but essentially I went on a week long course in my local area with a lot of people from further afield. I commuted in, the majority stayed in on-site accommodation. So on our last night, we all go drinking as a group, I crashed at the onsite accommodation, alone in my room. Go home the next day, long conversation with one lass from the course, start flirting, she's a solid 8/10 who's definitely up for it, and has been from the start. I didn't realise this, and now she's the other side of the country.", "summary": "I fucked up by not flirting, missing all the signals, and generally being antisocial, and ended up sleeping drunk and alone instead of playing hide the sausage with an 8/10"}
{"id": "t3_12m6z3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20) keep having dreams of me cheating on my SO(24).", "post": "I'm 20, he's 24 and we've been together (long distance) for 2 years at the end of this month. We do have an end in sight this coming January where we will move in together finally. Relationship is awesome, no big problems like cheating or anything like that. \n\nBasically, every night for a while now I've been having dreams where I cheat on my SO. I never think about this during the day and it never ever has crossed my mind while we have been together. These times where I cheat are weird, as in usually It's my ex before him or guys that I had brief crushes on, and while we may be naked getting ready to go at it (this has only happened when I dream of my ex), it always gets interrupted by something and it only ever goes as far as kissing. It's the same in dreams of my crushes, where all we do is kiss. \n\nSo, I don't think It's anything serious honestly, but I feel guilty when I have these dreams. Should I be worried about anything? Should I even tell my SO, though I don't think It's necessary? I'm not sure exactly how to stop dreaming about this, any ideas?", "summary": "I dream that I cheat on my SO very often but I would never do it in real life. Just need help deciding what to do, why I'm having them, and how to get rid of them."}
{"id": "t3_16ehgk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Move out of the fast lane or I'll make you move.", "post": "My commute home has its usual slow points, especially where a few of the freeways merge together before splitting; instead of a usual interchange. Once I clear these it's usually a straight shot to my exit. I live in the frigid north (Canada) so almost half of the year sees some snow on the ground, and a good share of drivers who are extra cautious and go under the limit. This isn't a problem, except that last section of highway is 3-lanes each way, and for some reason I run into a \"There's light snowfall, time to do 10 under!\" driver in the left (fast) lane who refuses to move over.\n\nI had one of these recently in a big SUV with a clear lane in front of her for half a mile, while the other two lanes pass her by. I changed lanes and passed, changing back so I could accelerate. I guess she felt I changed back to soon (someone passing me after I sat in the fast lane going 5 under, the nerve!) and flashed her highbeams at me. This ticked me off, since I hadn't cut her off, nor did I tailgate or flick my lights at her. \n\nMy revenge: foot off the gas pedal. We dropped to about 30 mph before she finally had enough and changed to go around me. I hit the gas and got back up to speed, while me and the rest of traffic continued on in an orderly fashion.\n\nCaveats and clarifications: \nWhile there were some traffic backups earlier on my route, this was a fast flowing section with plenty of room to change lanes, etc. The road does narrow and gets to a lighted intersection with a left turn, but this is several miles ahead. While there was some snow on the ground, this was average/expected driving conditions for this time of year.", "summary": "Don't go slow in the fast lane then flash your highbeams when you get passed; I slow down in front of you and force you to change lanes."}
{"id": "t3_4p16ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[21F] of 8 months wants me[21M] to consign for her new car", "post": "So I've been dating my gf for about 8 months now. Everything is great so far except for the fact that she is extremely irresponsible with money. She already has a crazy amount of debt for school, bank loans, and pretty bad credit, not to mention very little in savings because the second she gets her paycheck she spends it all. She wants to finance a new car and wants me to cosign because I have decent credit. I told her no because based on her inability to pay bills on time and actually save any money, consigning would be a very bad financial investment for me. She keeps nagging me to cosign, almost like she won't take no for an answer. I also figured (didn't say this to her) that if we break up in the future I wouldn't want my name/SSN/credit to be linked back to her. Am I wrong for not wanting to cosign?", "summary": "GF wants me to cosign for her car, don't think it's a good idea, told her no, she won't take no for an answer. "}
{"id": "t3_y9dfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19] thinks she is a \"commitaphobe\" and wants to be single. I'm M [21].", "post": "Me [21] and my girlfriend [19] of about 3 months went out for dinner last night for my 21st birthday. Everything was going fine, kinda. The entire time I kept feeling like she was a bit off with me. When we got back to her place we watched some TV in her bed and as soon as it ended she simply rolled over and went to sleep. Although this was bad she is suffering from a pretty brutal cold at the moment which she said was putting her in a constant bad mood. Anyway the night was shit, we barely cuddled and she paid no attention to me. In the morning when she was showering, shun me if you may but I checked her facebook messages to her twin sister and saw her saying she was a 'commitaphobe' and 'wants to be single.' However she also said that it's nothing to do with me and that it's entirely her, she also says she hopes she snaps out of feeling like this. We went shopping today and she was in a shit mood all day, we kissed goodbye and she said she'd see me next week probably because she's working a lot this week. I said to myself I wasn't going to get in contact with her and I'd let her get in contact with me. She did today by sending me a facebook message basically saying she's sorry for being a moody bitch recently and that she's feeling much better from the cold. She also text me today asking if I was working tonight because she might come to the restaurant that I work at with her mum and sister, hopefully a sign that she wants to see me?\n\nAnyway I don't know what to do, breaking up with her is the last thing I want. How can I make her want to still be in a relationship with me? Part of me does believe what she said to her sister was when she was at the height of feeling miserable as fuck though.", "summary": "although she's never admitted to me, my girlfriend has mentioned that she wants to be single and that she is scared of commitment."}
{"id": "t3_ip0fj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most memorable thing I can say when I break up with my gf in a few hours?", "post": "So tomorrow I'm going to see my gf of 2 & 1/2 years. I'm pretty heart broken, seeing as I'm madly in love with her, but I accept that I've done everything I can and I'm not about to turn into a little bitch and break down about it. Yes I probably do seem pretty blas\u00e9 but I can assure you I'm not. Ranting on the internet won't solve anything. \n\nAnyway.\n\nI want something memorable to say. I'm not sure about what I want to say, or why really, but I guess I just want her to remember me. We've talked things through and it's just not working out. So this is it.\nSo help me have a badass break up. Or at least let me focus on something that it'll make it easier. I don't know.", "summary": "Something cool to say during a break up."}
{"id": "t3_529o5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [21F] of 1 year moved across the country, and seems more apathetic each day.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been friends for over 3 years and recently started dating about a year ago.  Slightly before we started dating she had decided to move across the country with her roommate.  Despite that we still both ended up developing feelings for one another and have had an amazing time dating for the past year and before she left we had agreed to attempt to have a long distance relationship until she comes back (She decided to probably move back in may).  However the past month of her being gone my anxiety is getting hard to handle with her consistently meeting other guys off of tinder in an effort to make friends, and frequently goes out drinking and partying with them.  It has gotten to the point now where i feel she has lost all feelings for me. She never texts back, is generally unpleasant during phonecalls, will abruptly leave without any form of compassionate goodbye, and gets angry anytime I mention this to her.  We were friends before this and I really would like to date her if she moves back again.  Is this something that is just a problem with myself not trusting her enough and completely normal?  Or is this the beginning of the end for us?", "summary": "Decided to date girlfriend long distance till she comes back in may, she now seems totally distant and refuses to talk about it. Should I keep trying?"}
{"id": "t3_49svqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my new girlfriend [18 F] of 2months, I feel so much towards a girl until we become an item, then i instantly emotionally detach and feel trapped.", "post": "So i've never been in a relationship for longer than 8 months, obviously hit the dating scene pretty late compared to some at roughly 19 years old, my first girlfriend was obsessive over me and very lovey, she said \"i love you\" at roughly 3 weeks into dating, but me being the conflict avoiding person i am, said it back.\n\neventually i felt guilty because of my lack of connection and broke it up. The dating game for me has been very easy, lots of tinder hookups and dating sprees etc.. but i never really liked the emotional detachment of one night stands.\n\nThen i met this girl on tinder, We share the same profession so we connected on that immediately, lots of shared hobbies and some good chemistry between us. She has been very forward with her feelings since about 3 weeks into our dating life, and we together decided to partner up.\n\nEver since we made this decision i've been freaking out and needing a lot of \"alone time\" just because i feel trapped, she's introduced me to several friends and i've done the same, everyone thinks we're perfect for each other, and i agree.\n\nMy only problem is that i just don't feel anything towards her now, since the initial chase/rush from that has worn off i just feel distant, and with that distance i feel immense guilt because i know how she feels about me. \n\nI've begun to think i might just be a single-type person.", "summary": "every time i take a relationship out of dating phase i just feel way too much pressure from the girl and feel like it becomes one sided, (i feel nothing towards them) is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_16w11a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Feeling a bit numb in my long distance relationship... help?", "post": "I'm 17 and male.\n\nOn my vacation, I met this wonderful girl, and our personalities seemed to match up perfectly. Over the next 2 weeks, we grew physically and mentally attached to each other, and kept contact after we both returned home (Ohio for her, New York for me)\n\nWe kept talking over Skype nearly every day, and on New Year's, I decided to tell her I loved her (risky, I know). And I meant it. We had spent the past half year talking to each other for hours every day, and we never got tired of each other. She told me she loved me too, and from that point we were officially in a LDR. At that point, my heart jumped whenever I told her I loved her and she replied with a \"I love you too,\" and things were looking good.\n\nBut the weird thing was, at some point, I just started feeling... a bit numb. I still think she's awesome, perfect, and beautiful, someone I would gladly spend the rest of my life with, but I stopped feeling as wonderful when I said those three words. I no longer feel like I'm the luckiest guy in the world like I used to, and cute little phrases and photos about love don't seem as relatable as they used to. I don't feel as alone when we're not talking, and I'm just not attached as I was, say a month ago.\n\nI was just wondering if I'm just a douche or a jerk, and if there's anything anyone else has done in the same situation.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "got into an LDR with the girl of my dreams but not feeling the love right now"}
{"id": "t3_2r1z2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm(22f) upset over lack of agreed christmas present from my boyfriend(21m)", "post": "We've been together around 6 months.  In early December he brought up Christmas presents, which surprised me slightly but I agreed.  He mentioned them often throughout December. I spent a bit of time thinking about what would be a good present, and I hand made him an artwork (i'm an art major), a framed lino print of my own design of a poster for one of his favourite bands.  I gave it to him before christmas and he was delighted, really loved it, he hung it up immediately.  He said he 'hadn't had time' to get mine yet.\n\nIt's now past the new year, we've seen each other about four times since christmas day, and I haven't heard a word about my present.  I have heard about all the awesome things he's bought/will buy with the xmas money he got from relatives, so I'm not sure the 'no time' excuse has much going for it anymore, if it ever did considering he had the whole of December.  I'm not a fussy person, to me presents are about the thought behind them than anything else (which is why I hand make a lot of gifts).  I don't care what the gift is, I just want something that shows he knows me and appreciates me. e.g. I'd be thrilled with a copy of a book he loves that I haven't read.\n\nSo I'm feeling pretty upset over this; and honestly, a bit used.  I haven't said anything to him yet because I don't want to come across as ungrateful, but if he hasn't addressed this in another week I'm determined to bring it up. So any advice about how I can do this, what to say etc, would be great. Also if I'm reacting appropriately etc, how to not feel too upset about it would help too. thanks", "summary": "boyfriend asked if we could do christmas presents, I agreed and hand made him a gift. nothing in return. I'm upset and would like advice."}
{"id": "t3_2zz5ee", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22 M] really fucked up today on our [20f] 2 year anniversary.", "post": "Hello all, I'm writing this and feel like an asshole.\n\nWell today was our 2 year anniversary. We live together and we've had our problems, but today we were going to adopt a cat.\n\nIt's been tough on us living together because we are not used to working full time jobs, going to school , and being on our own.\n\nBefore driving over to get the cat I started talking to her and brought up the subject of living at our parents house and getting part time jobs while we study, and what she thought about that. I'm having difficulties managing my health and sleeping habits and find myself tired all the time and without work. \n\nShe took this really badly and is now mad at me, I feel terrible and don't know what to do.\n\nI'm completely lost, on one hand I love living with her but on the other I'm exhausted and would like to be back with family and working less and having more free time to spend quality time with her instead of just watching breaking bad then passing out because I'm so tired.", "summary": "I brought up going to live with parents so that we wouldn't have to work hard and have more time before adopting a cat. I was nervous and having second thoughts before committing to adopting and now I'm suffering the consequences. I made her feel really bad, now I feel really bad."}
{"id": "t3_2ph5on", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] think my boyfriend [26/M] takes it too far when we argue. [5 years] Or am I too sensitive?", "post": "When we argue, he thinks it's okay to call me things like a \"fucking bitch/whore/cunt\" and it's part of his MO to get in my face and yell insult after insult. \n\nI've never even called him an asshole.  Personally, I think even in the heat of an argument, there are some things you just wouldn't say to your significant other -- because you love/respect them.\n\nToday, I brought it up and told him that it hurts my feelings when he talks to me that way. \n\nIn response, he said that he's not that kind of person but I bring it upon myself. \n\nSo, Reddit:  am I being too insensitive or are there some lines of respect that should be recognized in a relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend gets in my face and yells whore/bitch/cunt/etc. during arguments.  I think it's wrong and disrespectful.  He says I bring it upon myself."}
{"id": "t3_4b6o3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [27 F] long-term live in, can't clean up after herself", "post": "I live with my GF in a house that we share. We've been together for several years now and I can't really take it anymore. Anything related to stuff she doesn't finish. \n\n \u00a0\n\nMy GF has this attitude of \"I'll do it later.\" She cooks and doesn't pick up the cooking detritus. She does her laundry and leaves her clothes on the laundry room floor/in the dryer. She spreads the contents of her purse on the kitchen table and never bothers to put it away. Every day when I come home from work I know the first thing I have to do is grab a broom/mop/rag and start cleaning and I am tired of it \n\n\u00a0\n\nI am not the neatest person in the world, and I am not perfect. But I know if leave grease and food on the stove we'll get roaches. I know that if the toilet is clogged I should unclog it. Every time I talk to her about completing tasks and cleaning up after the tasks I get a non-committal response and a \"I was planning on doing it.\" I'm tired of nagging her about it, and it is starting to negatively impact the relationship. What can I do,  how can I talk to her?", "summary": "GF leaves things like clogged toilets, how do I get her to address these things in a timely manner and in an adult and mature manner."}
{"id": "t3_wh5t4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This is going to sound stupid to such a liberal Reddit community but, I'm considering having sex", "post": "me 21m / her 21f.\n\nboth in in college, dating 10 months.  She's had sex before .  I haven't - by choice.  \n\nThis is my first reasonably long relationship, She has wanted to have sex since the beginning, I haven't.  I feel like it would change things, I don't want to deal with having sex and then breaking up and then it being so much worse because of that choice.  \n\nI'm generally a pretty conservative guy, and don't know what to think, i've been changing my mind back and forth about what i want to do here. \n\ndoes sex change things in a relationship? have you regretted having sex in a similar situation before?", "summary": "have you regretted sex after a long term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_48iim6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M/29] and blue collar, while my girlfriend is white collar[F/31], and I fear that we won't work out.", "post": "I met Cynthia at a birthday party for a friend of a friend back in November. It was a large social gathering, BBQs, and so on.\n\nWe connected that night and ended up going back to her house. Truthfully I didn't think anything would come about, but the next morning where I am use to gently being told to leave, she asked if I wanted breakfast. We spent the day getting to know each other and found out we share a lot of interests(never thought I'd meet another amateur archer in my area). \n\nWe then spent the next weekend together, and several weekdays. I know we moved fast, but within the month we both agreed to exclusively date each other.\n\nOne part that I believe I am over blowing, but two of my friends swear is that we will never work do to our career choices. Cynthia is an attorney at one of the larger, local firms. I work at a power plant. I started here after high school, and while it isn't incredibly high pay, it is enough for me to live on, and the retirement package is great.\n\nMy friends are telling me that white collar and blue collar can't work together, as the white collar people will resent the blue collar person. They said that white collar will start to believe that the other is using them for their higher income, and they will look down on the person.\n\nI initially blew it off, but I have a tendency to overthink and over fret things in my mind, and now I wonder if what they said is true. So far Cynthia hasn't acted like she looks down on me.\n\nAm I making something out of nothing, or is this something I should worry about?", "summary": "I am afraid that a blue collar/white collar relationship won't work."}
{"id": "t3_42dnjh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a kid his mother abandoned him", "post": "Well didnt happen today but 7 - 8 yrs ago.\n\nSo i was like 8 yo and this kid that lived next to me was 5 and we would play a lot as kids. His dad was working outside of the town meaning that he would come home only in weekends and the kid was raised by his grandma who he was calling \"mom\". they were pretty poor. his grandma became blind a couple of yrs later.\n\nnever knew why so i decided to ask mom and she told me that his mom abandoned him when he was born because she found a great job in italy but his father didnt accept to move with the family there(what a dumbass) and they broke up. so yea. i knew the whole story.\n\ntwo yrs later we were playing some basketball while he told me that his \"mom\" is feeling a bit bad. then i told him: \"but u do realise that she isnt ur mom right?\". then the kids smile turned into a grumpy sad face. i had to realize months later why he got that sad.\n\nhis grandma died 3 yrs ago and he now lives at his new stepmom! he got in contact with his original mom but his father wouldnt let him speak to her. what a guy.", "summary": "told a kid that called his grandma \"mom\" that his original mom abandoned him. made his childhood even worse."}
{"id": "t3_41vhsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] have a huge crush on someone [25/F] at work, but I've never actually asked anyone out. What do I do?", "post": "I'm 25 and my last relationships have been okay, I've only had one serious girlfriend and she intitated everything. \n\nI've never actually asked anyone out, I've never hit on a girl. I've never gone through that whole process because I'm always scared of being rejected. I wouldn't even know what to say without spazzing out. My interactions with the opposite sex are not my strongest suit. \n\nThere's this woman at work, she's sweet. She's awesome. Comes to work, does her job, stays quiet and to herself. Usually, I try not to bother her unless it's necessary because I don't wanna interfere with work. Last time I asked for help, she could not help me because she did not know... and I had to figure it out myself. She ended up asking me how to figure it out. \n\nIf I run into her, I usually tell her a quick joke, a riddle, small conversation and go on my way because I don't wanna be a bother and annoy her. She usually laughs at whatever stupid joke I say. Sometimes, she's caught me looking at her by accident, and sometimes I've caught her looking at me. \n\nI'm totally into her, but I'm not sure if she's into me... and that's fine. I don't know much about her but I want to know more. I have a feeling she might like me, but then again, that's just my mind trying to make me feel better. I just don't know, there's so many signals that I'm not sure what's real and what's noise. \n\nI just don't know how to approach her. I don't know what to say, I don't know what to do. I've never been interested in a girl like this, so I'm lost. I don't wanna be like those guys at work that just hit on all the girls, but I want to get to know her better.", "summary": "have crush at work, don't wanna bother her with flirting."}
{"id": "t3_26hajn", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat Mother/Son Fighting constantly?", "post": "Okay, so, my female cat had four kittens last year. Three of them were given new homes, and the fourth we kept, as he looks and acts kind of strange and no one else wanted him. He was born with a split nose and he shakes his head and wobbles when he walks... I'm not an expert but maybe he could be mentally handicapped? (but we love him anyway!). He's almost a year old, and is starting to pursue his mother as some kind of sexual interest. He's constantly following her, sniffing her butt! If I pet her, he comes running up meowing and starts grooming her (jealousy?). The female cat HATES this. I remember reading somewhere that cats actually know their family members and don't do incest... but I'm not sure if it's true. The female cat will start attacking him when he follows her, to the point where even if he walks by, if he's in a foot distance from her she starts growling and hissing until he moves away. He does this kind of squinty face when that happens and just watches her from a distance. I am trying to get an appointment to get him fixed, as I did with her shortly after she gave birth. But will that really help them to get along?", "summary": "Female cat's son bothers her constantly and they always fight. how to fix?  "}
{"id": "t3_4j7e7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 20/F and my boyfriend 26/M hates my body...but I love it! Advice?", "post": "Hey friends, \nso my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 7 months now. We are in a long-term and open relationship. My weight has never been an issue and has also never changed negatively in the time that we've been together.\n\nI'm a hair taller than 5'6'' and I weigh anywhere from 130-136 depending on the day. This appears to be my base weight and I struggle to go below or even above those numbers with exercise/dieting.\n\nIt has recently come to light that my boyfriend does not like my body. I assume he likes aspects of it (like the parts he can't keep his hands off of when we're within a 5 ft. radius of one another), but lately we haven't had any sex, sometimes because of his inability, and now I feel like it's all my fault. \n\nThe dilemma here is that I have recently started to accept and actually like my body for how it is. I've never had a totally flat stomach or thin legs, but I've grown to love every part of my extraness, if you will. So do I compromise my newfound appreciation and love for myself to make him happy? Or should he accept that I am within a healthy weight range? I just don't know who's wrong this time.", "summary": "My boyfriend just recently started expressing his unattraction to my body even though I am a very healthy weight and even love my own body. We haven't had sex in a little over a month. Whose problem is this? Do I start to workout a bunch again or does he have to accept me feeling wonderful about my weight?"}
{"id": "t3_30q8hj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24M] get my ex-girlfriend [23F] back?", "post": "Two months ago she left me without any real notice. We've been together for 6 years. She was my best friend, we planned our future (marriage/children) together. Honestly, it was for the better to take a break. We both fought a lot over small things and each of us were having issues with ourselves. She was depressed and being distant which caused me to feel unwanted and to stop contributing to the relationship. It was a cycle that lasted for about a month. There was a loss of communication and thats when it went downhill and she left and moved out.\n\nFast forward to now, 2 months later. I've realized the mistakes I made and what I needed to change. I put myself ahead of everyone else and only cared about my interests. I was an asshole and didn't give her the interest she deserved. I don't blame her for leaving and like I said it was probably for the best that we take a break.\n\nNeedless to say I want her back. I don't want to jump right back into a relationship but I want to still talk to her with the hope of rekindling what we once had. The issue is, I have no way of contacting her. She blocked me on all social media, I don't know her new cell phone number, I have an email but she won't respond. She says that she doesn't want to talk because she doesn't think I changed and we tried before without it getting better. She only thinks about how much we fought and although she cares about me, has no desire to talk. I know this because she still talks to my mom. \n\nr/Relationships, what do I do? This wasn't just a girlfriend from high school, she was who I wanted to spend my life with - I still do. Im afraid I lost the person who made everything worthwhile. \"Theres other fish in the sea\". She was my sea.", "summary": "We took a break in our relationship and now she wants no contact with me because she thinks I didn't change. I want her back to at least talk to her but have no contact info."}
{"id": "t3_1p96d0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's difficult for me [26/M] to talk to my girlfriend [32/F] about her PhD studies because they highlight my own failed aspirations...", "post": "I am a 26 year old man and I've been in a relationship with my lovely 32 year old girlfriend for 4 years now. I truly love everything about her, and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. This has been the best relationship I have ever had, and my girlfriend is truly an incredible partner. However, I can't help but feel depressed when she discusses how her day went at school, or when she is working on her thesis...\n\nI met my girlfriend in college 4 years ago. We were both studying in the same field and we both graduated with our bachelors in the same year. I always dreamed about pursuing graduate school, but college was difficult for me and I never ended up attaining the sufficient grades to get accepted...Thus, I ended up acknowledging this, and I am now working as a construction worker. My girlfriend however, was always a great student, and she is now going for a PhD. \n\nI am incredibly proud of her, and I support her as much as I can in her studies. However, unbeknownst to her, I can't help but feel an incredible amount of dread when I hear her talking about her day at school, or when I am helping her with her thesis. I just end up getting reminded of my own failures, and how I didn't fulfill my own aspirations.\n\nI truly love this girl, and I want to support her in any way I can. I just wish I could block out these feelings or get over them...\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "I am a 26 year old man in a 4 year relationship with a lovely 32 year old woman. Our relationship is going incredibly well, but I find it difficult to talk to her about her graduate school studies, or to help her in them because I feel like a failure when I do, and I get reminded of my own unfulfilled dreams..."}
{"id": "t3_3m9jmi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to lock the door.", "post": "Throwaway because friends know my username.\nFor clarification this also happened about an hour and a half ago.\n\nA little bit of backstory:\nI just recently moved to Phoenix, and my car doesn't have air conditioning. My first mistake was thinking that I could survive the summer in Phoenix without air conditioning in my car. My new job also requires me to drive a lot, so that further pushes my heat tolerance. \n\nToday I had to drive for about 45 minutes from the north part of the city to a city just southeast of Phoenix. It was only 100\u00b0 today, so my car was probably about 110\u00b0 even with my windows down. Basically it was hot, and I was sweating profusely. \n\nOnce I got to the main office with my equipment, and had unloaded it all. I got a well deserved drink of water and headed to the bathroom to start my daily routine of cooling off. \n\nAfter each time I get stuck in my hot car, I have developed the habit of taking my shirt off and sitting on the toilet for a few minutes to regain my composure and not look like a complete mess once I get to my cube. \n\nOur office has single toilet, unisex bathrooms and, as always, I was just minding my own business in the bathroom, pants between my ankles, shirt off, phone out, sitting on the toilet trying to cool off for a few moments. _When the bathroom door opened_\n\nI hear a female voice say \"oh my god\" and I make hard eye contact with her for a split second before the door slammed back shut. The woman was our customer service manager and she just saw my sweaty, hairy, pale body; shirtless, hunched over a phone on the toilet.\nAfter the door closed again, I hopped up, locked it, clothed up again, and left work early without saying a word to anyone. I know exactly what she thought was happening, and I'm afraid to go back to work.", "summary": "Manager got a peek and let out a squeak."}
{"id": "t3_146sq8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been ungrateful to parents who have wanted only the best for me for the longest time. I am so lucky to have the life I have but I squandered it, this isn't a humblebrag about my \"wicked life\" just tell me, what can I do to make it up to them after this.", "post": "I'm 17, leaving for University, and I've had epiphany after epiphany of how shitty i've beent to them, or how all the nice things they do I ruin with moods etc., I know there isn't a quick fix, but I want to do something nice. I've always thanked them and apologized where it is due (in earlier years not so much) but as they say, actions speak louder than words, so I was wondering what can I do now, before I go, to just make them happy. What can I keep doing, I know all the little things, doing chores, keeping my room clean, cleaning up after myself, helping around the house, but what's a big thing, for say christmas, or their birthdays, that I can do to make them happy?", "summary": "I AM GUILTY AFTER BEING A SHITTY SON AND WANT TO REPAY MY PARENTS AND MAKE THEM HAPPY, WHAT SHOULD I DO?"}
{"id": "t3_11qoo9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Aerospace Engineers of Reddit: I've got a question. What do you do in your job?", "post": "I'm currently in year 10, hoping to go into a career working around and with helicopters, planes, or anything that flies. I'm looking into studying with the ADFA (Australian Defence Force Academy) largely because huge amounts of alleviated stress concerning fees, living costs and the such.\n\nSo my question is: What do you do in your job? It's a huge question for me, because I would absolutely love to be a job where I was directly working on aircraft (helis especially) in a mechanical or design aspect, or flying around in them (though I'm short sighted, so the odds aren't good). \n\nBasically, I would absolutely loathe to be sitting behind a desk all day directing people, or thinking about some completely boring but probably terribly important aspect of flying; I'd much rather get down and dirty with an engine or maintain aircraft, or design parts or engines to be more efficient/faster/stronger.\n\nFor my year 12 subjects, I'll be studying physics, chemistry, english, systems engineering and all three levels of maths from low level to high level. I'm no dummy by any means, and do very well academically, so it's not a huge issue in that department.\n\nI'm wondering whether any of you can tell me about what you do or give me advice on what career path I should perhaps focus on instead, whether it be mechanical engineering, or electrical engineering, I really don't know.", "summary": "Describe your job and whether you are a sitting behind desk person or a hands on/down and dirty/involved designer and engineer."}
{"id": "t3_16zgia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF [20M] ended things because I [22F] don't like to party like he does. Do I try and work it out?", "post": "A seven month relationship, which has been excellent both romantically and physically, until a few weeks ago when he started distancing himself.\n\nI had surgery last week, and he never came to see me during my recovery. When I asked him why, he got defensive. I knew something was up.\n\nLast night was the first time we had seen each other all week, and just before I leave to head home, he says \"we need to talk.\" He then claims that the fact that I choose not to party (I only drink on occasion, and I don't smoke pot like he does, extensively) has put a damper on our relationship, because he wants to do it all the time, but doesn't as much because I don't approve. He didn't even give me the opportunity to really discuss it with him, or try and compromise on something, like a normal relationship calls for... he drew a line in the sand and basically said, \"It's your values or me.\"\n\nAm I wrong for feeling hurt/betrayed here? To break up with me over something so stupid makes me wonder if he meant anything he said to me over the last 7 months. (To make it even more awkward, we work together.) Is it worth it to try and make this work?", "summary": "Apparently getting high and drunk with his burnout friends is makes him happier than I do. Move on, or make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_2d4jr4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] Ex girlfriend/friend (20/F) called saying she was going to kill herself", "post": "So my ex girlfriend who is still my friend called me saying that she planned on killing herself in the coming days. We are both 20 but she has been going through a rough patch in life for the past 4 years or so (since she met her last ex). She broke up with him because he exhibits abusive behavior and once we got together she was happier. During our relationship we had our ups and downs and we began to fight quite a bit so I ended the relationship which broke her heart. After we broke up she went back to her ex, and though they were never in a relationship, she would do things that she thought would be the key to getting him back. Instead he took advantage of her willingness to get back together to basically have sex with her and then demean her and continue with his abusive ways. Well now she's tired of not being in a relationship and she wants either to be with me or to be with him and if she gets neither than she plans on killing herself. I have no clue how to handle this. She lives in Alabama, as this was an LDR, and apparently everyone she knows is in some sort of cult that would shun her if they knew she was going to kill herself. I've also told her that she's old enough to move away from them and just start a new life as she's been out of school for about two years and has had a stable job since then, but she doesn't believe me. She doesn't believe that she can be happy and she either wants to be in a relationship with me or him.\nI'm scared, I can't think straight, and I have no clue how to handle this.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend called saying she plans on killing herself unless me or her abusive ex date her."}
{"id": "t3_2cupdf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can you spare a second to help me with a simple finance calculation/spreadsheet regarding ROI?", "post": "Please redirect me if this is not the best subreddit for this question...\n\nI have 3 IRA accounts (SEP, ROTH and Traditional).  Each year I have put some $ into each account (usually the max).  I've kept rough track of my deposits but not of my trades (since they are retirement and I don't have to track basis for capital gains).\n\nI'd like to see my annualized ROI for each account but I don't understand how to compensate for the annual deposits.  Does anyone have a spreadsheet that can take an account with ZERO and multiple dated deposit and compare that to the current account balance to provide annual returns?  Does what I am asking even make sense?  Example below:\n\nInput:\n\n2001: Balance = $0 + Deposit $10k\n\n2002: Balance = $11k + Deposit $5k\n\n2003: etc...\n\nOutput:\n\n2001 ROI 10%\n\n2002 ROI 6%\n\n2003 ROI 7%\n\nTotal ROI 13% \n\nAnnualized Total ROI 6.5% \n\nMany thanks in advance for any suggestions or guidance!  I'm pretty good with excel so I really just need the formulas/concept.", "summary": "Need a spreadsheet to track annual/total ROI of an account with varying dated deposits in each year based on start/end balance for the year.  Goal is to see if I am \"beating the market\" (ie: SP500) based on my own historical data."}
{"id": "t3_z846k", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Being alone used to be nice...", "post": "...but now that I've experienced what I thought was a happy relationship, I can't enjoy the things I used to anymore. Hours of gaming, spontaneous biking trips, weekend movie marathons, etc. I used to be fine spending all my free time in solitude because I loved having control of everything, but after my last relationship I want so badly to be with someone, to share and do all those things with them, that being alone just isn't fun anymore.\n\nNot enough time has passed yet, and I hate waiting to feel normal again. Some days are better than others. I finish a big project at work, I buy something nice for myself, I exercise and feel good, I eat muffins my mom sent me, all for a temporary contentedness. Then I want to share my successes with someone, and remember that I have no one. I tell my friends, and they congratulate me, but they don't really care because they're busy with their own lives.\n\nThen the sadness creeps back in, starting quietly and building up as I remember I can't tell the one person I want, and worse, he doesn't want to share his stories with me. He doesn't want to see me or talk to me. He doesn't want me in his life anymore. My love for him wasn't good enough.\n\nI couldn't keep from crying if I tried, it hurts so much. A deep, clenching ache that fills my chest where the love used to be. This is all I have now, and all I will have for an indefinite amount of time. Rather than sobbing, hunched over on the floor like I was a few weeks ago, now the tears stream silently down my face, making the world a blurry, cold place as I feel my love, the greatest gift I could ever give someone, slowly slipping away into nothingness. It's such a waste, and it breaks my heart into pieces that will remain scarred long after I move on.\n\nSorry for the ranting, I'm just writing out how I feel in an attempt to release some depressing thoughts. Any reassuring words about the way life goes on are welcome.", "summary": "Not over recent breakup, things that used to be enjoyable aren't anymore, keep getting set back because I want my other half to share life with."}
{"id": "t3_2zl0r4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why complain when you get what you want?", "post": "So I Live with my boyfriends parents because we are trying to get back on our feet. Anyways they are always going out to eat. I mean 6 days a weeks sometimes twice a day. And when me and the bf don't go they get all butthurt. But yet they complain they have no money for bill. And my MIL(let's just call her that) is always buying shit from stores or garage sales. Shit we don't need. She is an impulse buyer and my FIL feeds into it. They are trying to redo one of the bathrooms as well. I just don't understand if you say you have no money how can you afford all that?", "summary": "the in laws say they have money but eat out everyday and buy too much stuff."}
{"id": "t3_2pd9sl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 20 M] need to give my gf [21F] of two years somethings to make her 6 month trip a little easier.", "post": "My girlfriend is leaving to go to Peru for 6 months to volunteer at a hospital. She told me a couple of days ago that she will not have internet for the entire trip and we won't be able to talk. I am freaking out because it is gonna be hard to adjust from seeing and talking every day to not speaking for 6 months. I know this is hard but I know it will be even harder on her. she is always crying when we are together and saying how much she is going to miss me and I want to give her stuff that will make the trip easier \n\nI want to give her some things to take with her that remind her of me and how much I love her. I am having a hard time thinking of things to give her because they have to be small and light because she cant take too much with her. I was thinking a couple of pictures of us and some letters?", "summary": "Gf is leaving for a while and I need help thinking of things that she can take with her."}
{"id": "t3_3puxw2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] best friend's [21 F] mother died suddenly today, how can I help her to the best of my ability.", "post": "I got word this morning from my chlldhood best friend of 14 years that her mother died suddenly today. Our mothers were friends and as we went to the same elementary school when we were younger, our families interacted often. She lives in a town three and a half hours away from her hometown with her boyfriend, and was just in town yesterday to visit her parents. Her mother seemed to appear badly enough that it was suggested by their hairdresser that she take her mother to the hospital, but she felt like her mother wouldn't have agreed to go (my own mother confirmed this, my best friend's mother was stubborn and hated doctors and hospitals because they would often tell her to stop smoking cigarettes). She feels a great deal of guilt. She is home now from what I understand.\n\nNo arrangements have been made yet as far as I know, but I have never experienced the loss of a parent. What can I do to make things easier and be the best support I can be during this time?", "summary": "Longtime best friend's mother died, looking for advice on how to support her during this time."}
{"id": "t3_2slh7g", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Feeling bummed out about not getting into a CSU.", "post": "So I applied to a particular CSU and they told me I didn't meet the qualifications to be considered a transfer student, mainly that I didn't meet the \"Golden Four\". I thought this was ridiculous, because another CSU I applied to accepted me; naturally, I submitted an appeal. Now I finally got another letter, and this time they are saying that I don't have enough units. Which REALLY sucks.\n\nHere's the thing: the CC I'm attending gave me equivalent credit for just a few classes that I took at an online school. 12 units total. These didn't \"transfer,\" but instead I needed to petition to get equivalent credit granted. So I got the classes credited to my transcript as as the classes \"Art 103\", \"Psychology 1\" and so forth.  I'm getting my associates and my CSU GE certified, so I'm confused and discouraged. One school accepted me, another didn't (which is the one that I REALLY wanted to go to).\n\nI don't mind going to the school that accepted me (Humboldt), because I've always wanted to go to that campus. But the school that rejected me was my #1, and also waaay better at the major (Comp Sci). I guess, I just want to get out my frustrations and maybe get some outsider opinion here. Any thoughts?", "summary": "I got rejected from a school for not meeting the \"Golden Four\" or having enough units, even though a school from the same system (CSU) accepted me. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1rvut0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Stress after stress..", "post": "Things have been so hectic lately. Found out my brother has autism so we have to go through so much training and housework so that his therapists can come over 8hrs a day for an entire year. That stresses me out so fucking much, but I know it's worth it for my brother. Also, we're adding another family member to live with us and she's pretty dominant. I'm used to doing my own business and working at my own pace, but now everything's changing. I'm going to a new school next month and I can't get over my anxiety. I've been trying to learn to cope with it for a long ass time. I'm currently in a LDR and I truely do love him. I spend my time thinking of what to do for him, how to keep him interested, how to stop being clingy. He's going through a rough patch in his life and I'm trying my best to be there for him without mentioning any of my stress. I just want him to be happy. But he gets really insecure sometimes. I wish he'd trust me and realize I'd choose him over anyone. Yeah, it's \"easy to cheat\" in his perspective, because he's always drunk and partying. I don't mind him partying at all. But when he sends me drunk texts saying there's so many \"bitches on his dick, but he's staying loyal\" gets me real paranoid despite the fact that he's saying he would never cheat, even if he were drunk. It's kind of hypocritical, tbh, and he's very opinionated and can't understand why people do things unless he's been in their shoes completely. It kind of irritates me. Also, him and all my friends are always under the influence when we go out, but of course I have to be the sober one. The weenie. I get so jealous sometimes when that happens because I don't want to be sober. I really fucking want to be on their level and stop being the babysitter, but I'm trying to cope with my mentality at the same time (drugs and alcohol are what made me this way). The only thing that's helping me move forward is that I'm going to this really big event with everyone. After that, it's back to the stress.", "summary": "Stressing over big changes, new housemate, trying to keep SO happy, coping with anxiety, staying sadly sober, ect."}
{"id": "t3_2d4uiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (f/19) go about reconnecting with an old bestfriend (f/18)?", "post": "This friend (Allie) and I were great friends since 7th grade up to last December. I sort of stopped connecting with her since I started college and she was still going to community college in our hometown. I felt like I couldn't relate to her anymore and when I tried talking to her again it felt like she didn't like me. \n\nIn December Allie invited me to her brother's concert which I happily brought along my friend. My other friend got a text message from her friend who was helping with the concert that she didn't want me to go. I got dressed and went still since that was what I was going to do. Our interactions were awkward and strained and I have not talked to her since. \n\nLately, I've been wanting to talk to her and see how she was doing. I thought I wouldn't care but something compels me to see her. So today I contacted her to do a temporary tattoo since she does those in exchange for money. I was hoping to reconnect with her at this time. Does anyone have tips on how I should do this? Or should I just let the leaves fall. Thank you", "summary": "How do I reconnect with an old best friend who I lost contact with last year? Tips? Comments? Concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_1ijqbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [31M] wanted to get married and have kids immediately with me [23F] now he's postponing things.", "post": "Basically, we've been engaged most of our relationship. When we started dating he made it clear that he wanted to start a family as soon as we both wanted to. He hadn't been taking life seriously and he was ready. We got got engaged pretty quickly and moved in together and things were/are really awesome. \n\nHowever, he asked if we could postpone the wedding for a year due to finances. I agreed, even though our finances are perfectly fine. That was a few months ago, now when I mention kids he's a lot more distant and wants to wait a few more years.\n\nHe gets very offended if I suggest dating more or even separating if he's feeling pressure. He even suggests baby names or picking out baby clothes when we are shopping. I don't understand what's going on. Is he afraid of the future or is he trying to back out of commitment?", "summary": "My fiance is postponing our future and I don't know why or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1v2zvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How exactly would you cope?", "post": "Tomorrow is going to be my sixteenth birthday. My dad lost his job of 22 years the week before Thanksgiving of this past year (2013), and it's been entirely tearing my family apart. My parents have been married for an entire 30 years and due to my father's attitude towards this whole thing, I think they're about to call it quits. I will not go into detail about how actually shitty of a dad my father is, but I will say that I never actually expected them to get divorced. I figured that since they've been married for so long, they'd figure something out.\nNow I still haven't seen any divorce papers or anything, but I actually think they're about to do it.\nMy dad has been smoking for over 20 years, and both my parents have been drinking for over 30. My mother has always been able to control herself when it comes to drinking, and she really does care about my brother and I. My father, on the other hand, is practically the opposite. I actually feel empathy towards my brother because he basically grew up without a dad. I don't know if I'd be able to do it. It would be like me growing up without my mom, and that just fucks with my head. \nMy dad has since stopped eating almost all together. Some days he won't eat anything, other days he'll hardly eat a half of a sandwich or a very small amount of his dinner. He's honestly dying before my eyes and I don't really know how to cope.\nThere's so much left of the entire story that I plan to leave unknown, but my entire situation is beyond my control and, I guess, understanding. Basically I would love to know how someone else would most likely cope in this situation.", "summary": "My parents of 30 years of marriage are about to split due to my drunk dad who lost his job recently. I don't really know how to cope. How would you?"}
{"id": "t3_4lu4uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "There's Only One First First Time", "post": "I'm married for the second time in my life.  A sweet girl with everything going for her; we're in our 30s.  Today my Ex wife message me to wish me happy birthday... She said she feels leaving me was the stupidest thing she's ever done.  I told her every time I walk by a Michaels I still remember when we were poor and planning our wedding; we had made the centerpieces ourselves.  I still keep the heart shape two dollar bills she made for me in my wallet.  She tells me she still keeps our wedding photos and my clothing, she can't bear throwing them away.  Whenever I visit a new place or travel, I often think of her.  I had just graduated with my masters in engineering when we got married. The stress of the 2008 financial crisis combined with my inexperience, short temper, self centered and ambitious personality of my mid 20s, I had driven her away to someone else.  She was kind, sweet and never judgmental.  She didn't know how to let me know she was hurting.\n\nI often feel that in my second marriage, I am careful with my finances.  We both plan and contribute equally, but I can't let go of the memories and I often wish I could turn back time and tell my ex wife how much I love her.  To show her my affection and give her everything I had promised.  I made her cry many times with my words and I will always regret this.  \n\nToday she tells me the \"Star Wars\" toys she had bought for me on my birthday years ago are still there; they're Star Trek. She told me my shirts and our photos are still there and when she had moved to a new house, she had brought them with her.  I feel like she's still waiting for me to come home.\n\nWill these feelings ever go away? When I think of her it still feels like yesterday.  I still feel like she's the one, but we met at the wrong time in our life.", "summary": "My Ex Wife called to wish me happy birthday"}
{"id": "t3_4w4l3r", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How to deal with excessive comments on weight loss?", "post": "So I've lost about 15lbs but gained some muscle, and I'm unsure exactly how much *fat* I've lost other than, I assume, more than what the scale tells me (2 pant sizes down, which is a better indicator).  It's very noticeable, but I have a long way to go.  \n\nI've been getting congratulatory comments at work.  A lot of them.  In fact, my manager goes out of her way to say how great I look almost every single day, sometimes multiple times a day.\n\nIt's making me really uncomfortable.  I try to just say thank you and ease the conversation in other directions, but the subtle brush-off clearly isn't getting the message across.\n\nI honestly wish I hadn't mentioned that I was trying to lose weight at all (mentioned it offhand once months ago when declining the offer of a candy from a coworker).  She draws attention to everything I eat or don't eat.  Sometimes it's teasingly, but mostly it's comments meant to be encouraging/supportive.  But it's *all the time*.\n\nI don't want to speculate on why she feels the need to comment so much.  She is a larger woman herself and I think perhaps she is overcompensating on some jealousy, but she maybe just really is trying to be supportive.  Which is very kind, but I'm still uncomfortable.  I don't like attention.\n\nHas anybody else found themselves in a similar situation?  What have you done or what would you do?  Is there a polite way to request that she mind her own business...?  \n\nThis feels like a very silly problem to have, but I'm at a loss as to how to handle it in a professional environment.  If it were a friend I could be very straightforward, but at work I like to keep my life rather private.", "summary": "What to do about excessive comments on weight loss?  I am feeling more self-conscious now than when I was heavier."}
{"id": "t3_4rn6cc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [22M] have been hanging out and dating this girl [21F] from school.", "post": "I [22M] have been hanging out and dating this girl [21F] from school. Everything was going great and one night a few weeks ago while we were hanging out she told me she liked me and since then I've felt a bit uneasy about things. A few days after her telling me that we went to a baseball game because I got tickets from work but the whole time we were there she was on her phone texting who I'm pretty sure is her ex because he made her cry in the bar the night before which pissed me off. Since then I have been distant and have only spoken to her if she reaches out to me, but now we hardly talk which I realize is my own fault. I miss talking to her every day but don't think I should say anything. Should I swallow my pride and talk to her? Should I bring up what has been upsetting me or not because we haven't been seeing each other for that long? Idk I'm just loosing sleep over it.", "summary": "Dating a girl, she told me she liked me, take her to a baseball game, talks to who I think is her ex the entire time over bar drama. Now I have chosen to barely talk to her for the past 2 weeks. Should I just suck it up and talk to her?"}
{"id": "t3_igs0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think of \"Self-post only\" day?", "post": "This thing is going down on Wednesday and many major subreddits are participating. The idea, from what I gathered, is this:\n\nProblem: Too much garbage and unfunny stuff that doesn't fit Reddit is getting to the front page and the top of subreddits. People's motivation for karma-whoring means they merely post anything that gets upvotes and not quality content or links.\n\nThe solution: If all posts are made to be self-posts, then no karma can be earned. If the incentive driving karma-whores to post easily upvoted, low quality posts is removed, then the overall quality of Reddit will go up.\n\nLet me know if its wrong in any way and I'll edit it.\n\nMy take: People will just mine for comment karma instead of link karma, creating horrific unreadable threads in each post. I guess everyone has forgotten that this is the internet and stupidity is just a part of life here. Reddit is not some Eden of escape from the rest of the internet, but a large generator of the very garbage we claim to despise (I've noticed many Redditors hate rage comics, yet one of our largest subreddits is f7u12, for example).", "summary": "I don't see how this will change anything. People will keep voting and behaving the same way. The only way to stop them is ban them. Or, you know, the moderators could expand their teams and heavily enforce some much needed quality control."}
{"id": "t3_1meczx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my Ex-GF [20F] duration, She broke up with me, new relationship after 2 weeks. Now what?", "post": "My GF [20F] and I [21M] were very close for more than a year, but the spark died and she decided to break up with me because \"we are not right for each other\". \n\nAfter our breakup she became very close to one of our common \"friends\". I believe this \"friend\" have liked her for a long time. According to her, she started having feelings for him ~2-3 weeks after our break up, and now a month and a bit later, they went on their first date. \n\nShe told me this, and she doesn't know what to do because he doesn't want to hurt me..\n\nRight now it just hurts. What should I do from here?", "summary": "GF broke up with me, found new guy shortly after. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4g2p6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of a year and a bit having trouble when she goes out with her friends (long distance)", "post": "Heyo,\n\nI have alot of trouble trying to convey what I want to my girlfriend and I think she has a hard time trying to understand where I'm coming from. We both go to the same college but live in different cities, so the summers are long distance. I tend to party more when we're at school and she really focuses on her studies, but over the summer it changes as i am busy with work and she has a big social life where shes from.\n\nIt's not that I dont trust her, but i get very anxious when she goes out as there's always some sort of information that she leaves out when she goes out. For instance she will say she's having a drink at a pub when it's actually a nightclub. Obviously it sounds fine over text but i'll text her at one in the morning saying \"hey im going to bed love you\" and ill often get a reply of \" dont worry we'll take care of her!\" from her friends ( she leaves her phone at the table when she dances ) and that obviously makes me feel very uncomfortable.\n\nI've brought it up in the past by telling her that I'd like her to tell me a bit more information about what she's doing so i know what to expect. She interprets this as me thinking she doing some sort of wrong, but I honestly feel anxious for the sole fact that I'm out of the loop. I'm just looking for some advice as to how to approach the situation and maybe a way to manage my anxiety when she goes out.", "summary": "Getting really anxious when my girlfriend goes out and leave me out of the loop. Need some advice!"}
{"id": "t3_12f41v", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like I'm  sinking. Issues with procrastination and school, need help.", "post": "Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but here goes.. I'm a 17 year old student, turning 18 on the 25th of november, on my second year of high school. Before high school I also used to procrastinate a lot but I usually managed to get shit done just before the deadlines. \n\nNow, however, things have changed. I'm not used to doing homework. I usually come home from school, get on my computer and usually stay on it for too long. I think of getting to it but I never manage to. I get distracted by an interesting article or whatever and I never end up doing what I should be. I necessarily don't hate doing homework, in fact it seems interesting to me. The problem I have (atleast I think I do) is that I have no habit of doing homework. I have severely overlooked the issue that I have, hoping it'd just go away. Now, however, I aknowledge that I have a problem that i need help with.\n\nDuring my first year, I scarcely passed most of my subjects, but i failed 3 of them. I was given a chance to re-do the assignments so I pass the courses, over a period of a month and a half, during summer break after the first year. Same story, do everything but study for them, fail them again. \n\nNow, I'm in my second year on promises that I'd re-do my assigments from the first year alongside the courses from this year. Now, I still haven't fully done any of the courses I was supposed to and this year's assignments are piling up as well. I feel like this is way too much to handle and I'm not sure that I'll ever get back on track with everything.. If i don't get my stuff done soon, I'll drop out and that'll cause lots of problems with my family. I was wondering, are there any routines or exercises/whatever that'll help me discipline myself and stop procrastinating.. Not looking at therapists or something like that, rather something that I can do myself, routines or whatever.\n\nEnglish isn't my main language, so sorry if i have grammatical or whatever kinds of flaws in my story.", "summary": "looking for help with stopping procrastination"}
{"id": "t3_20n06x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my boyfriend [22/M] of 2 years wanting to rekindle sparks!", "post": "I have been noticing that my boyfriend and I have lost our spark. \n\nWe live together and both do love each other and want to make it work but I am bored in the relationship. I find he does not like to initiate affection or sex and we have different libido levels (mine's higher..seems weird to me).  We do not want to lose each other but I fear it will be inevitable at some point because I am restless/bored. Do you think there is anything we can do to get out of our slump? \n\nI am afraid that maybe we just aren't right for each other, but I am still in denial and not willing to break up with him yet until we put a real effort in to fix it.", "summary": "I am bored in the relationship - what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_54f43n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Contributing to a Roth IRA from gross pay and no expected tax liability", "post": "I am a college student with a Roth IRA, probably the only one. I have a contribution schedule to get me to $10,000 by the time I'm 27 so that I can use that money as a down payment on a house. This year, I would like to contribute $287 to it from my gross income. I work at a Co-Op that does not take taxes out of my income. I started this job in June and will make less than $6,300 so come April I should not owe any income tax because I'm below the federal and state (GA) deductions. How does this impact my contribution to my Roth IRA since that money should technically be after-tax income? Also, if I expect to make more than $6,300 in 2017 and intend to make another contribution of about $350 in 2017, should I just wait until after April 2017 to make both the 2016 and 2017 contributions to my IRA to reduce my tax liability, if that's an option for me with the Roth IRA? I've heard mention of Form 5498 being something that I should refer to.", "summary": "Can you make a Roth IRA contribution from gross pay that is less than a taxable amount from both federal and state?"}
{"id": "t3_or3t4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would someone from the era Frankenstein or The Creature From The Black Lagoon be able to handle a modern horror movie?", "post": "Let's say someone time travels to the 1930s or whenever the hell Frankenstein first hit theaters and decided to catch a matinee. He goes into the theater and people are losing their shit at this awesome, albeit not scary whatsoever monster flick. He says \"fuck this shit,\" and time travels with the whole theater to modern days where something like The Strangers is for some reason still playing. Assuming they aren't at all concerned they are in a different time period, would they freak the hell out at the movie or would they just watch it like we do with old horror movies?", "summary": "read the title."}
{"id": "t3_1s5p8t", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Can anyone help a 20 year old with some advice regarding job references?", "post": "I'm currently studying abroad. I've been applying for jobs since I come back in January. I found a (pretty) perfect job. The phone interview went well and the owner seemed very positive.\n\nHe asked for me to give him 3 references. I'm 20 and have worked 4 jobs so far but my bosses have all been kind of crazy:\n\n1. Administrative Assistant at a Daycare: My boss couldn't spell, he pumps new employees through there everyday, he didn't care about health codes/children's safety\n\n2. Production Manager at my college's radio station: My boss was arrested for public indecency (he was jerking off in the window of his home and neighbors called the police) We didn't interact too much because he was more on the sidelines and the students ran the station\n\n3. Research Assistant at an Ivy League School: This one sounds promising, but I worked with a PhD student. It wasn't a paid position. Can I list her as a reference since I hardly worked alongside the director of the lab?\n\n4. Administrative Assistant at a financial company: My coworkers treated me terribly, and this, at times, took a toll on my performance. I had 2 bosses there. When i told them I was leaving they kind of implied that I could have my job back when I return. It paid really well, but it isn't worth the stress and I'm only 20. I don't have the ability to call people, so should I write my 2 bosses a polite email letting them know that my job interests have changed? And that I'd like to list them as references?\n\nI'm still young and don't know the best way to go about this! I feel like awkward about job references because I don't particularly want to keep in contact with my old job. It brings up a lot of bad feelings for me. I know I need to contact them, but how should I word it?", "summary": "Job references are awkward for me. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3hafdm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not getting bitten by a horsefly", "post": "Like most posts here this didn't happen today but a few months ago, however a big part of it did happen today so.\n\n3 months ago I woke up with the weirdest pain in my leg. I look down and there is blood everywhere on my leg. It came from a small hole in my leg so I thought it was a spider bite and put a bandage on. Layer on I tell my mom about and she looked and said it was definitely not a spider bite. It was stolen, red, and punctured and black in the middle. \n\nAfter a few days the swelling was gone and it didn't hurt as bad. I felt a weird sensation and I look down, it was oozing orange liquid fast. I freaked and slapped it. It started spewing at that point. I go to the local urgent care and sign all the papers to find out it was an \"infected horsefly bite\" and I needed meds for a month. \n\nFast forward three months and the thing is still a fucking scab. Super pissed and today I looked at it and it looked really weird. It had a line about an inch beneath it that had been there since the beginning and was black. That was the part that always hurt. I was well past finished with the cut so I just ignored it until today when I squeezed it and it moved up a little bit and started orange bleeding again but just a little bit. The dot in the middle moved forward a bit and I thought oh maybe it's a stinger so I pull it out and it's a giant fucking fang that was in my fucking leg for 3 months. I wasn't bitten by a horsefly it was a fucking vampire or some shit. \n\n pic of fang", "summary": "Doctors say it's a horsefly, actually a demon bit me in my sleep"}
{"id": "t3_19cdyp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[22M] making a move on [19F], no prior dating experience. Probably hopeless.", "post": "College student, non-US so please pardon my language. \n\nIt's a new semester and we started having lectures with students from other faculties. I may say I'm lucky - 160 students, only 20 guys, rest are girls. One particular caught my eye - a bit nerdy girl from other faculty (we don't have classes together, just 4 lectures). I could easily tell she's kinda shy, doesn't really talk to other students. I went through her FB profile, apparently she's a huge Star Wars fan, also watching anime and playing computer games - every redditor's dream ;]\nAlso she doesn't appear to be very social - kinda a basement dweller, if you will.\n\nNow, about me - 22M student, started college late. I don't have problems being social, going out to parties, speaking to women etc. I was shy, but now I'm masking it/faking confidence pretty good. Never had any relationships whatsoever. Never went though \"normal\" process like holding hands, only interaction I had was two one night stands while drunk. I'm completely hopeless when it comes to any dating, and I don't believe \"going alpha\" just like the dating manuals on the internet suggest would work in this case. \n\nNow, how do I proceed? We have no common friends, only 4 lectures a week (could go to her faculty's extra lectures since anatomy and medical stuff interests me, though I don't want to push it too far and appear desperate). I was thinking about sitting next to her or something and like watching Star Wars on my phone during the lecture (since I do watch a lot of movies/TV shows that way), but that's kinda childish (I think).", "summary": "22M (me) and 19F (she), both typical geeks, me having no dating experience, only seeing her 4 days a week, WAT DO."}
{"id": "t3_20o0fk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my SO [18 F] of about 5 months doesn't want me socializing with another girl", "post": "I started dating this girl I met about 5 months and everything has been going really well until now. She called it our first test of our relationship.\n \n \nAbout 2 days ago I was working at Starbucks in my town and a group of people came in. When people order their beverages we ask for their name to distinguish it from other drinks in case there's a duplicate order. When I asked for on of their names I recognized one of the girls names from one of my best friends who brought her up in conversation.  \n \n \nI asked her if she knew my friend and she said she did which led to her wondering who I am. I was evasive which caused her to try and figure out who I was even more. She eventually found my Facebook (which says I'm in a relationship) and started flirting with me. I flirted back and we ended up scheduling going out and eating at a near by restaurant but it canceled due to them being closed on Mondays.\n \n \nMy girlfriend ended up finding out about the messages and got quite upset about but I told her about how I see her as a friend and that I would never cheat on her because I wouldn't want to go through being cheated on. We went back and forth on whether or not I should be able to go to dinner with another female one on one and she ultimately came to the conclusion that I shouldn't do it. Although in the past she has gone to dinner with one of her guy friends but I never mentioned it until now. I've taken today to try and sort out my thoughts about what I should do about it and how I should confront my girlfriend.\n \n \nThis is my first serious relationship so I'm not completely sure with all of the do's and do nots of a relationship. I like making new friends and I don't want my girlfriend to feel threatened. I want both parties to feel comfortable but I'm not sure if that's possible. I've thought of a few possible solutions but I want someone else's input that's an external source.", "summary": "GF of 5 months saw that I was messaging a girl that was flirting with me didn't like it one bit and doesn't think I should be able to socialize with girls one on one although she has in the past and I never said anything about it. I can't decide whether or not if I should socialize with other girls because I don't want to harm our relationship but I also like being around a lot of people"}
{"id": "t3_2z8mwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "HELP! I (F22) don't know whether my relationship with (M22) is fixable", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17. For a long time it was great and then last year things hit the mother of all rough patches. For most of the year we were very very on/off. Neither of us behaved very well in that year with various periods of intense fighting and on the periods the relationship was off we both saw other people. \n\nLong story short suddenly all the bad stuff just stopped and we got back together in the summer and for a while things were great. However recently things have been starting to go back to being shit. I have been with him for so long and he is really my first and only long term relationship. I'm not sure if we got back together because we really want to be with each other or because we're just used to each other.\n\nI guess what I'm really looking is advice on whether or not you can really get back together make a relationship work after you've been through a huge amount of shit in a such a prolonged way.", "summary": "Can you fix a relationship after breaking up going through hell and then getting back together?"}
{"id": "t3_3nm5my", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my [23F] girlfriend of 6 months; found out about some of her past not sure how I should react.", "post": "This will be short.  I'm dating this girl who is great in almost all aspects.  We get along, she has a great family, she makes me laugh and seems like a good person, no problems to report so far, all good.  We both live in a new city after graduating from college and both have good jobs.\n\nTo my problem:\n\nWe were casually talking about college, parties, etc. and she mentioned that she's tried cocaine and molly before.  I think she noticed my expression changed and maybe was concerned I was judging her so she clarified that it wasn't a lifestyle thing and that she could count on one hand how many times she's tried either.  (Mainly at concerts and stuff.)  She doesn't anymore nor wants to and she was just curious and her friends had some.  I asked her why she didn't tell me this when we first started dating and she said \"Who brings that up when you're getting to know somebody\"?  and that she really didn't think that she was ever gonna bring it up just because she did some stupid stuff before we met and figured everyone did.  \n\nI'm pretty anti-drug, I've never tried anything other than booze nor wanted to and didn't really hang out with people that did. \n\nNow i'm battling whether this is a deal breaker for me or not.  On one hand all this stuff happened before I even knew this girl so... like they say the past is the past and I think it would be a different situation if she was an addict or is still habitually doing drugs to this day.  \n\nHow would you react to this if your s/o told you they experimented in college with drugs?  Would you care?", "summary": "My girlfriend experimented with some drugs in college and disclosed this to me 6 months in should I be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_3g6yzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [21F] boyfriend [22M] of 18 months has an overseas \"penpal\"", "post": "i feel kindof silly but my boyfriend met this girl and at least kissed her when he spent a semester in europe a couple of years ago (we live in australia) \n\nhe still talks to her on whatsapp and gets snapchats from her (i don't know what they're of but he only has me and her on snapchat)\n\nhe has sent her ~$100 to buy concert tickets a few months ago but you know, it's his money and he can do what he likes and when we barely had enough to eat that week i kept my mouth shut. \n\nhe has told me that i'm prettier than her. this morning i asked him if he likes me more than her and he said he does. \n\nwhen he was showering i snooped (asshole move, i know) because he always reads my messages as i write them but never shows me what he's doing. he flirts with her, talks about kissing her, calls her princess (which is what he calls me)\n\ni feel cheated on. if we lived in the same country i don't know if he would choose me or her. i feel like i must be being silly but i don't know if i should just let him continue or or what", "summary": "boyfriend is secretly flirting with a girl from his past that lives half a world away"}
{"id": "t3_4hirpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17m] with my girlfriend [17f] of 6 months, her parents called me a liar and such like.", "post": "a little bit of backstory to my life, my parents have divorced and it wasn't great and now my dad lives on the other side of the globe. He came down and visited for 1 week last month, my gf wasn't allowed to see me during that time due to her parents wanting to protect her from my life. (She was never going to meet my dad, and never will) her parents also said loads of negative stuff about me and how I have a \"dysfunctional family\". \n\nI also get migraines and have a condition called EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome) this means my joints regularly dislocate and hurt. My hip has been out for about 4/5 months and it finally went back in a few weeks ago. Her dad being a doctor said it never came out and I was lying about it, despite being in pain and having a limp for that long, and there was a visible problem with my hip. He also said for a hip to come out it needs to be a high speed accident and needs surgery to be put back in.  \n\nWith the migraines, my gf was round my house yesterday, I got a migraine so her parents had to pick her up (I should've driven her home). So her dad came and picked her up and she left me asleep. \nHe then complains saying I should've driven her home despite my vision being impaired. I am not driving with my vision not being perfect. \n\nThey've a\nSo said I am not ambitious despite being more intelligent than their daughter and helping her out in some of her a levels. I am also wanting to be become a chiropractor.\n\nI really don't know what to say or do Reddit. Being called a liar really hurt and I don't really want to see or speak to her parents again before something happens.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question! Girlfriends parents accused me of lying as they know better due to her father being a doctor..."}
{"id": "t3_30jn4t", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Neighbor keeps telling the cops my car is abandoned", "post": "My wife and I live in a quiet little neighborhood in a quaint Chicago suburb (Plainfield). We have an 18month old and a baby on the way due in early May. We have 2 Honda accords - small for a growing family. I recently bought my wife a Toyota Highlander for more space. I'm planning to sell one of the Accords but haven't had a chance yet due to everything going on at home and work as well as the weather. \n\nWe live in a townhouse that's one of four connected units. \n\nI have the Accord I plan to sell parked in a public spot about 50 feet from my unit. The problem is that one of my neighbors (I suspect the crabby old lady that has called the police on us before for parking too close to her house and whose unit is directly near the spot I parked in) keeps calling the police and claiming that my car's an abandoned vehicle. Nobody has asked us to move out car. We live in a little parkway area and it's just 8 townhouses (two 4-unit structures) that share 4 public parking spots...which are usually empty because everyone parks in their garages or driveways. Everyone in our little parkway knows our cars.\n\nBoth times the police came they left without taking any action. The car is obviously not abandoned and I move it every few days or so. There is nothing illegal about my use of the space as its a public spot. There are three other spots still empty every day. My concern is one of these days an officer may come when I'm not home and will tag my car with a tow notice because all he/she knows is that somebody called in an abandoned vehicle. How do I get the crabby old woman (I'm positive it's her...she's the only neighbor that's unfriendly and rude) to leave us alone and stop calling in our car which she definitely knows is not abandoned?", "summary": "my neighbor knows my car but keeps calling it in as an abandoned vehicle. Cops just leave without taking action because its obviously not an abandoned vehicle. How do I get the suspected neighbor to leave me alone?"}
{"id": "t3_3biiyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my boyfriend [29M] of almost 5 years am questioning various parts of our relationship", "post": "We moved in together almost a year ago. On and off lately I've been questioning if we're right for each other to marry. I love him and he is my very best friend, but we are so different. He is a homebody and I like going out. So we compromise and do some of both. \n\nHe likes building projects and fixing things up. I'm not into this but I'll ask him about it but don't necessarily want to build things with him. We both enjoy walking, running, and a couple of the same shows. We have a lot of different interests. He likes way more alone time than I do. He is kind, smart,  fun, makes me laugh, cute, and always willing to help out. \n\nI've had this dream of living in Chicago for a while and I turned down a job last year there to move with him to a small town. He would never want to live in a big city but likes to visit.\n\nI've sometimes thought that I may be bi (or possibly a lesbian before meeting my boyfriend ). I've never done anything with a woman. I enjoy sex with my boyfriend though. But I also notice pretty girls quite often. I don't think about them in a sexual way but mostly like looking at them or like their personality. I was never boy crazy in high school/college..there were a couple guys that I liked but I'm also really shy and don't like talking about that stuff.\n\nWhen I touch my boyfriend sometimes I think I should be feeling something more? But I don't know. What does it feel like touching someone you love and are attracted to?\n\nAlso sometimes I feel more understood by my best friends (that are girls) than I do by my boyfriend. Shouldn't your significant other make you feel more understood than anyone? I also fine myself getting easily annoyed by small things my boyfriend does lately.\n\nMaybe these are normal concerns once you live with someone and are thinking about your future but I don't know. I'm feeling confused and uncertain.", "summary": "long term relationship, we love each other but I'm having some doubts about us lately"}
{"id": "t3_1dyqk4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[F19 and M21] He takes forever to respond to my texts, and is still in contact with his ex...", "post": "We're not really in a relationship yet, but we've gone out a handful of times over the course of 3 weeks, and seem to be hitting it off nicely. I really like him, and I don't want to seem distrusting, but I think something might be amiss. He is in contact with his ex, his ex still comes over, and once his ex even came over while I was at his house! What gives? We're not really a couple, so am I even in the right for worrying about this? He posts to his twitter while I'm still waiting for his texts so I know he's not as busy as he'd have me think. Any kind of insight into this would help. I know parting with an ex can be difficult, but should I say something? Maybe I could ignore the texting bit, he might be playing hard to get...\nPlease talk to me, I don't know what to do, or if I should even do anything!", "summary": "Boyfriend-to-be hangs out with his ex, and gives me shady excuses for not texting me back (probably just more hangin out with the ex), but seems genuinely interested in me. What should I make of this?"}
{"id": "t3_zx32t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need a tip on taking out a subsidized student loan to pay down high interest rate credit cards", "post": "Hello, so I am currently a 22 year old Accounting major in my senior year with a part time job. I have been blessed with awesome parents who pay for my rent and school fees but leave \"free spending\" money on my shoulders, they sometimes help me out if I am having a rough patch but I do not like to ask for their help since they have done so much for me. \n\nSo I opened up some credit cards and within the last two years have racked up around $2500 in credit card debit at an APR of roughly 25% since I had no credit before this. My family is middle class and so I do not qualify for fincial aid but I do qualify for subsidized student loans at a fixed rate of 3.4%. \n\nMy question to you all is: Is it a good idea to take around $7500 in student loans ( $5500 at 3.4%, $2000 at 6.8%) to pay down my increasing credit card debt, which is not going away anytime soon, and to supplement my part time job? I feel like this is a good idea for me and makes logical sense but I don't know anything about student  and their market and don't want to make a mistake I will regret later.\n\nAlso one tag-a-long question: My friend told me that you build your credit rating faster but not fully paying off your credit cards all at once but instead make payments above your minimum payment but not too much, is this true?\n\nThanks for the help guys and girls!", "summary": "Should I take out a subsidized student loan of 3.4% to pay down my increasing credit card debt at 25%"}
{"id": "t3_3o3nzh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend is lying to me and won't admit it", "post": "I (19m) is being lied to by my 'friend' (20m). He went onto this anonymous chat that I made (once I'd told him how to get on-hes the only friend I've told and I thought we were pretty close) and started declaring my love for this girl we know. I don't love her he just thinks that I do because we're friends...\n\n He then logged in as my username with an extra space and started to paste war poems about dying girls into the chat. Whenever I've confronted him he's denied all knowledge and says it was me...\n\nSorry this is a bit vague bit ik he has reddit and I don't want him to see this.", "summary": "what should I do/say to my friend who is lying to me?"}
{"id": "t3_1m64ex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21F] have no clue how to deal with guys.", "post": "Long story short, I'm a female studying a male dominated course and it gets me a bit of attention from some of the guys. How do I make it clear that I'm only into them as friends without coming across as bitchy? I've had a few times when I've thought we'd just be hanging out as friends and they've taken it to be more and it's been incredibly awkward. \n\nThere's one particularly persistent guy in particular who doesn't seem to get the hint even though I've explicitly said to him multiple times that I'm not interesting in dating him or anyone at all currently. He gets a little uncomfortably close and huggy, I'm a fairly affectionate person by nature and don't mind hugs hello/goodbye/etc but it's a bit much when he wants to put his arm around me in class and such. I have no idea how to be tactful about this situation. We've only hung out outside uni once and I've only known him for a few weeks and I don't know where he's getting all this from. He's nice and I'd like to be friends but I'm really uncomfortable at the moment.", "summary": "Guy doesn't get my hints"}
{"id": "t3_1503ey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stressed M[18] in relationship with F[14].", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, this is obviously a throwaway account for few reasons, but I'm in need of outside help (as it may seem)... My girlfriend and I have known each other for quite some time, and it's nearing four months since I've asked her out. Aside from all the legal issues I may face if anything goes haywire in this relationship, I'm sort of stressed out.\nThings are going great, so there's no worries there, but I've been troubled with the thoughts perturbing my mind about this relationship, and where it'll go (particularly after watching End of Watch, where the quote \"Can you imagine living life without her?\" stuck way out for me). We're both still young folk, and I was wondering what I should do, because I don't want to feel like the bad guy and call it quits, subsequently hurting her because she's fairly attached.", "summary": "My relationship is good, but looking at the future is screwing with my head."}
{"id": "t3_4ne76q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] not understanding if [20F] Wants to date me.", "post": "I met this girl we had a drink and really liked each others we stayed hours talking on the first date.\n\nThen for a month we werent able to see each other because both had stuff but we texted from time to time like once a week.\n\nThen second date we had a drink, she kissed me before I dropped her home before I tried to do it.\n\nThird date two days after we had a drink and kissed her again and she smiled like if she was happy then dropped her home again. And she said smth like \"we keep in touch bye\".\n\nBut if I dont text this girl first she doesnt text me, and I really like her so I don't want to text her too much to be annoying, I really want to.\nThe thing is that now she has lots of exams and is studying all the time. The summer is coming soon also and I want to understand whats going on before we leave.\n\nI dont understand if she really likes me or not that much since she doesnt text me if I don't. Its been 5days since we last texted and she told me how much she was studying from 9am to 2am.\n\nMaybe we just started dating or maybe we were just playing around, I'm not understanding. The lack of communication is killing me, I really like her so I dont want to ruin things by looking obsessed about her.", "summary": "I had 3 dates with this girl, I really like her but she never textes me first, We text 1 a week usually. I dont understand if she really likes me."}
{"id": "t3_4v25ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] just left my [18 M] long distance boyfriend, feeling miserable and needing some tips to cope", "post": "So I know a lot of people may not take me seriously because I'm only 18, but I'm so sad right now. I just spent the past week with my boyfriend (who's also 18 and lives 4 hours away) and left very early this morning, and I've been a mess ever since. We've been together for a year and a half but this is the longest I've ever spent with him, and it just made going home so much harder because I got a real taste of what it would be like if we lived close. I've been crying on and off ever since I left, and any time I think about him or when I'm going to see him next I start to tear up. Weirdly enough I've never felt this awful leaving him, but I already miss him so much and it's so hard knowing that the next time I'll see him is probably months from now. Even after all this time and all this distance, I'm still head over heels for him. \n\nI'm trying to just be grateful for the time I spent with him because I loved every second of it, being with him makes me so happy. But it's really hard, I feel so lonely already and I've only been home for a little bit. I don't have many friends at home (long story) so it's sad knowing that the one person I enjoy spending time with most isn't going to be around. I know it could be worse, I know that there's other couples out there who don't see eachother for years. \n\nWe try to FaceTime every night as long as one of us isn't busy, but it just isn't the same as actually getting to be together in person.\n\nAny tips to cope and stop being so sad? :(", "summary": "I'm pretty much a puddle of tears after leaving my boyfriend early this morning and I already miss him so much and don't know what to do with myself."}
{"id": "t3_1r8bbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (24f) suppose to be monogamous to this guy(26m) I've been hanging out with.", "post": "A while back, I (24f) met a guy(26m). I knew at the time that in about 2 months he would be going across the country for work for about 2 months. At the time, that made me happy because I didn't want a relationship. We hung out very regularly during the first 2 months, but never officially defined the relationship. He has told me before that I'm the only girl he's sleeping with and Vice versa. \n\nI really like this guy and would like to possibly pick up where we left off when he gets back. But, I also don't know how I'll feel at that time. He left a week ago, and we never discussed whether or not we're going to be exclusive while he's away. \n\nI don't have any pressing desires for anyone else, but 2 months is a super long time for me to not have sex. Also, he's in a very remote area, so communication w/ him is doubtful. Am I in an exclusive relationship?", "summary": "guy I've been hanging out with for 2 months is gone for 2 months. am I in an exclusive relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2p5mbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am very concerned with my ex boyfriend's [20M] driving habits. Advice.", "post": "I don't even know where to begin here. \nBut we shall go with the short version. \n\nMy exboyfriend who is person I am seeing (but is not actually my boyfriend) has horrible driving tendencies. \n\nWe dated for three years and got our licenses at around the same time. We've been broken up for the last two but have essentially been dating without being official most of that time. So I've been around him consistently to see his habits. \n\nWhen we got our licenses, I was always the more cautious driver. Whether it be testosterone or what have you, he drove more riskily. \n\nIt didn't bother me so much when we lived in our home town. It was just mostly speeding. \n\nHowever we have since moved to a different state and have been seeing more of each other in the last few months and I've noticed his driving has become much worse. \n\nHe has a lot of road rage and will try to antagonize drivers who he feels have wronged him. He tails cars constantly. He swears at them. He swerves from lane to lane, speeding. \n\nI just do not feel safe in the car with him. And I hate just being the car at all when he's driving. I just feel my blood pressure rocket. I want to close my eyes the entire time. \n\nHe knows I don't like. But he thinks I am a lame driver because I follow the laws and drive safely. \n\nWe're looking to get back together eventually but I'm starting to feel this is a deal breaker. Is it?", "summary": "Homeboy drives like a fucking maniac and I have heart attacks in the car with him. Is this a deal breaker in getting back into a serious relationship with him?"}
{"id": "t3_22dtpg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [f/20] long term boyfriend [m/22] is against marriage", "post": "I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost five years now. I am 20 and he is 22. Recently I have found out that he doesn't want to get married. At first I considered this as a temporary feeling. I thought, maybe he doesn't want to get married because we are young and thinking about such a big step is overwhelming. But now I'm thinking that if he says he doesn't want to get married one day now, I shouldn't assume he'll change his mind later. Marriage is just something I've always wanted at some point. What should I do?", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't want to get married one day and I do."}
{"id": "t3_494n86", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Just Found Out My GF Is In Serious CC Debt", "post": "So, today I sat down to make myself a handy-dandy spreadsheet to figure out my monthly payments, understand where/how I am really spending, and figure out how to maximize what I am putting away, based on my semi-monthly paycheck. My GF was shy to the idea, and as we dug into what she had to pay each month, the Credit Card bills just kept piling up. It's roughly $20k in debt, spread across 6 different cards. I've always done my best to never spend money I do not have, but upon finding this out - aside from her being super depressed about her value as a human (something I have vehemently protested) - I am wondering what the best way to solve for this debt is. She doesn't make a lot, and about 80% of her monthly income is going towards necessities, leaving her little room to pay off her 6 different cards. At best she pays minimums, but even then can't afford them all.\n\nHow can we solve this? What's the best plan of attack? Her cards are close to maxed out so there's no wiggle room to consolidate. Is bankruptcy the right option here?", "summary": "My GF is $20k in debt on credit cards alone, and can only pay minimums on some of the (6) cards each month. What is the best way to get this debt wiped clean?"}
{"id": "t3_3ky77e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by playing Ultimate Frisbee", "post": "This happened today, at 7 in the morning.\n\nI was playing Ultimate Frisbee in the high school gym for a unit we are doing, I threw the frisbee at my partner and he missed it, the frisbee went behind him hitting a girl in the face snapping the frisbee in half (these frisbees are like 5 years old and have tape to prevent them from breaking).\n\nTo make matters worse she got a nose bleed from it and the frisbee  caused cuts on her face (small but noticeable cuts).\n\nHalf of the school knows about it (she is well known so the story spread pretty fast).", "summary": "Caused a nosebleed on a girl from a killer frisbee"}
{"id": "t3_40dq0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] wish my very handsome boyfriend [25 M] of 3 years, to depend more on me, or show me more love.", "post": "We've been together for over three years, it is independent super, super yummy and beautiful, he has many friends, is very outgoing, and everyone, and at the time anyone meets him, starts to like him. And I'm very introspective, average body, like most of being alone, etc.\n\n---\n\nTwo years ago, I caught him sending nude photos to another man. I cried a lot, in short, as we live together, we ended up coming back, but I was never able to full trust him again. Time passed, and I believe that this feeling only worsened.\n\n---\n\nI like him very much, and I know he likes me a lot, but I feel that I am just another person in the sea of people that his life is, I know we're together, and he's with me because he wants to be with me, that's what he keeps telling, but I can't help to think every time that he goes out, that he's with another guy.\n\n---\n\nI wanted to feel more loved, or to feel that I was more important to him, you know, that without me he could not exist. I know this is very sick, but I don't feel love from him, or that he needs me for something, after all, he could have any guy he wanted, any time he wanted.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very hot, smart, nice and I think he could get any guy he wants. I wish he depended more on me, so I could feel loved."}
{"id": "t3_3ha46j", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "2 Job Offers. 2 Fortune 500 companies. No bad choice, still tough decision.", "post": "Ok so background. I am currently about to enter my senior year of college and I have done 2 internships at a very reputable fortune 500 company. They offered me a position, in downtown San Francisco starting at 85k, 10k signing, and 10k equity vested over 3 years. \n\nThey have a decent relocation package that would basically cover my airfare and shipping out a car. On top of all that i've made a name for myself at this company, and also have the 100% backing/trust of a VP. \n\nThe other offer is with a fortune 500 tech company that is world renowned and has been voted number 1 place to work almost every year for the past 10 years. (Take a guess) \n\nThey have offered me a very entry level basically tech support position that could blossom into another real better position with enough networking/hard work (which i'm confident I can do). However, another thing to keep in mind is that this is a 2 year fixed term employment. \n\nThey are offering me 50k with a 5k raise for the second year with full benefits of the company (free food, health care, dental, etc.)\n\nThe thing is, the lower offer is my dream company (as many people my age) and I have always wanted to work there. However, I really like the first company also and wouldn't mind living in SF at the ripe age of 21 making that much. Not to mention all the help my VP boss would give me moving up the ranks.\n\nSO essentially this is the classic, take the money and good starting point or try for a fresh start (keep in contact with people at the old job for a fall back plan) and try to ride the opportunity train to something I probably couldn't even imagine.", "summary": "Two big companies want me, one is a great job that pays well. The other is my dream company but not my dream job , but there is a lot of room for opportunity/growth. "}
{"id": "t3_exzrp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being overly stereotypical/judgmental?", "post": "First, my apologies if this isn't really the proper forum for this question as it isn't regarding an already established relationship but rather the prospects of one.\n\nMale, 24 - subject in question is Female, 23. It is someone who works in my company and we've chatted a little bit (do not see each other very often), she friended me on Facebook but we haven't talked outside of work (she started several months ago). Couple discussions about music and maybe finding a good show, but nothing panned out.\n\nPart of me trepidation, and the reason for my asking of advice, is she appears to be devoutly religious. Facebook is somewhat littered with various quotes from the Bible and giving thanks to the Lord etc. She reads her Bible at work. Myself and my group of friends are very much at the other end of the spectrum and on a weekend party we are often doing drinking games and then heading to some bars...generally getting rowdy. I know that being religious doesn't equate to being overly conservative/prud'ish but I have to play the odds it seems...\n\nShe asked if anything was going on this Saturday -am I setting myself up for a disaster by inviting her to a party? I've dealt with some very religious people and have often not meshed with their perspective on things but am I going overboard with my trepidation?", "summary": "I am often irreverent and immature and am more than happy to imbibe. Am I setting my self up for problems by pursuing a very religious girl?"}
{"id": "t3_syd6r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most awkward thing to happen to you whilst having sex?", "post": "So... having a night in with the ex-missus (Red) when her best mate (Gigantor) rings up demanding to come \"stay over\". Now Red is nice person so obliges, Gigantor comes over and we all settle down for the night.\n\nBed Time, issues arise! Red has 2 single beds in her bedroom (ahhh to be young) and they are pushed together :( Gigantor gets into one and myself and Red hope into the other one, but looks like no sexy time for Rodhands right?\n\nAHAH! Gigantor is snoring like a demon (no joking, earthquakes have been quieter than her snoring) and Red is doing a bit of \"propositioning\". Sexy times for Rodhands afterall :D So me and Red are getting our groove on, her on top, but staying nice and quiet so to not wake Gigantor.\n\nAll is going well and we are both nearly there when suddenly there is a flash.......\n\nGigantor was snapping pics of me and Red (her best mate) going at it. Queue massive awkwardness, though like a trooper I followed through to the end. We never spoke of it again.......", "summary": "Big girl sleeping next to me and ex having sexy time, big girl proceeds to take snaps like a amateur porn director."}
{"id": "t3_2lw7wp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] planing on comming clean with girl [21F]", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nBefore we start I would like to say that please don't judge my actions seeing how I know I am the world`s biggest douche and should probably be shot for just doing something like this.\n\nIt all started last week when partying with my mates, as the night got older my head got more out of bounds, and I managed to hook up with another girl.\n\nThe problem is now, that I have no intention of hiding this as she deserves to know the full truth and I am aware of that I need to take the consequences of being an a**hole.\n\nI need to find a way of letting her know in the best way possible for her, as she moved to the city I live in and has no one except me to talk to except her family over the phone and suffers from major depression. I am basically all she has and I have major concerns for her own health after telling her.\n\nI want to call her parents and warn them whats about to go down and maybe have them travel down here so she can have someone to lean on when its going down, but don't know if its as good of an idea as it is in my head.\n\nAnyone got any advice on how to proceed the best way?", "summary": "Major asshole fucks up on a night of drinking, cheats on girlfriend, afraid of telling her cause of her major depression and not having anyone around, please help me brainstorm this."}
{"id": "t3_3zfowr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] Boyfriend [20] of 6 months said that he doesn't believe the 'official story' of the holocaust", "post": "The title is kind of self-explanatory I guess\u2026\n\nWell basically as it's the end of the year I've been looking at some top 10 film lists for the year and one of the films that caught my eye is Son of Saul, a Hungarian film about the holocaust. Me and the boyfriend like to watch films together so I asked him if he'd be interested in watching it. He said that he thought it sounded like typical Hollywood bullshit, and when I told him it wasn't American he still said he didn't want to see it. Well basically I pressed him for more details about why and he eventually admitted he didn't want to see it because he \"didn't believe the official story of the holocaust.\"\nI was honestly kind of shocked and just dropped it, but later I asked him about what he actually believed happened. \n\nHe said that while Hitler did order the Jews into camps and ghettos this was only meant to be done during the war and that afterwards he wanted to deport them. He said that the deaths were mostly from disease or lack of food due to the war and that the showers weren't for gassing but for delousing or something like that. I asked him where he read this stuff and he said that there are some books on the subject that go into detail. He also claimed that the Nazis didn't have the technology to burn millions of bodies and that there weren't as many Jews in Europe as is reported anyway. He said that while he believes the Nazis were bad and that hundreds of thousands of Jews died, the allies greatly inflated the numbers to discredit the Nazis further.\n\nI mean obviously this stuff just set off my bullshit detector but I'm not really knowledgeable enough about history to dispute this. My boyfriend leans right but he's never made racist or anti-Semitic comments before, although he is sometimes heavily critical of Israel when they're in the news. Is he just misguided or is this the kind of thing only a neo nazi would say?", "summary": "Boyfriend is kind of a holocaust denier"}
{"id": "t3_3hrvi1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Confused nonresident alien bought bonds as a resident alien", "post": "I did not see a \"fix a blunder\" weekly thread so I am posting this as a separate one.\n\nI am a student on an F-1 Visa in the US. I wanted to buy short term bonds online from solarcity instead of keeping my all my savings in the bank. I did so, however at the checkout page it asked me to confirm that I am a resident alien.\n\nI wrongly thought that I am a resident alien because I fulfill the \"substantial presence test\". What I did not know is that F-1 Visa holders are exempt from that test. I learned this only after buying the bonds. What should I do now?\n\nI think only the IRS cares about this, but I would not want to anger them.", "summary": "I am a nonresident alien and I bought bonds thinking I am a resident alien. What should I do to come clean out of this blunder?"}
{"id": "t3_557lhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am losing feelings for my girlfriend [19F] of two years...", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'm pretty sure I'm going to break things off, but I figured I'd get a second opinion. \n\nWe have been dating since we were in high school. We both lived with our respective parents at the beginning of our relationship, then she moved out of her house while I still lived with my parents, and now for the past month we have been living together in our first apartment. \n\nThings have always been pretty good between us, we argue often but it's usually petty and is either resolved or just forgotten about one minute after it's over. This hasn't really been an issue in the past, and we haven't gotten in any HUGE arguments that I can remember. \n\nLast week I randomly out of nowhere started feeling like I wanted to date other girls. My SO has all these plans for our wedding, and our kids, and our kids names, and what dog we'll have, and where we'll live. I'm just feeling like i'm so young I want to be able to do stupid things while I can and not be in a serious relationship while I'm so young. \n\nI still care about her and don't want to see her upset but I don't feel like I can keep pretending for much longer. I just want something more casual and maybe to just date around for a couple months/years. I'm starting to feel like the only feelings I have towards her are because she's the safe bet? \n\nHow do I talk to her about this? How do I make this as easy as possible for each of us? What do we do about the apartment we share?", "summary": "Feelings faded due to me wanting to pursue more casual relationships in my youth. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_28vths", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] should I continue seeing my friend [18F] due to work problems", "post": "Okay so I've posted on here once before and I ended up asking out a girl that I work with (I'm new to my workplace) . Had coffee, went nice and we talk frequently. Everything is perfect right? However, for some reason people at my work treat this one older worker who is part time like complete shit and insult/ yell at him for the most unnecessary shit. This guy has very broken English and has developing MS (multiple sclerosis).  \n\nSo I'm working with my lady friend and sure enough I hear yelling in the back so I go to check it out, and what I see is her screaming at the guy for being in the way all the time. This type of fighting continued all night ( I told him not to take shit from people even though he already attempts to defend himself). Obviously this type of behaviour from her makes me very uncomfortable as it would for most other people.\n\nLast night I kinda addressed it and said why do you and ___ treat ___ like shit and give him a hard time. She took this as me blatantly accusing her of abusing handicap people (which is effectively similar to what is happening), and she got upset and pissed at me for just inquiring about it. She then makes me out to seem like an ass for asking why and explained that her and ___ \"are joking around\" and \"he knows we are joking and doesn't take it seriously\" let me add this man is single and it isn't uncommon to see him seeming upset at work. Is it just me that doesn't see any humour in yelling at people with handicaps even if its just playing around or am I blowing this out of proportion??? I would appreciate your guys thoughts on this and if I should continue any kind of relationship with this person.", "summary": "just found out girl I was interested in verbally abuses handicap man with MS at work, I ask her about it, she gets pissed off at me for addressing this and tells me she's just joking around with him. Should I continue to pursue a relationship with this girl? Thanks"}
{"id": "t3_15iq84", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My Lab mix has anxiety when left home alone", "post": "My lab has some separation anxiety issues. Whenever we leave her home alone she freaks out. The second we shut the door, she starts scratching, howling, and loudly crying (almost screaming).\n\nThis has actually been going on for years. I first got her when I was like 11 and we didn't know much about having a dog. Plus my mom was and is notorious for leaving to go shopping for what she says will be a hour and coming back 6 hours later. So she was left alone a lot and I realize that may be what started this. She used to crap all over the house and tear up anything she could (garbage, dirty clothes, furniture, etc).\n\nNow that I'm older, that doesn't happen much anymore because I can stay home. She isn't destructive at all now, but she's just in an extreme state of fear/anxiety that involves lots of pacing and crying. We're not hermits though and I do have to leave for school an stuff. I don't want her to feel like this anymore. Is there anything I can do to get her to understand that being alone is okay?\n\nOn a side note, we recently got a puppy (Border Collie mix) that we try to take anywhere we can to avoid this all from happening again. She's pretty good with being left alone, but at times she whines a lot. Is there anything we can do to ease the puppy into being accepting of us leaving too?", "summary": "How can I get my dogs to calm down and stay calm when left home alone?"}
{"id": "t3_3ogtua", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV] A small one", "post": "I have been kind of stuck lately, and it's my own fault. I was going slightly over my calorie goal each day, more and more, little by little, and my weightloss slowed to a crawl. I was losing a few ounces at each weigh in and I knew I could do better. I go to the gym every day, aside from sunday, and wear a fit bit which tells me what I have achieved and what I can still do food wise. So, while eating over my goal didn't hurt me, per say, it did throw me off the wagon a bit mentally. But this morning I weighed in at a whole pound down! I am slowly fighting my old habits trying to rear their ugly heads and maintaining my weight loss, and still losing. It's been so long since I saw real change on the scale, this sort of renewed my conviction for self control and good diet.", "summary": "If you are not seeing progress, giving up is the WORST thing you can do. Hang in there. Don't give up, because you're going to regret it."}
{"id": "t3_35mv6x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is it recommended to use financial aid money to make some investments in order to offset future loan payments? If so, what are some recommended methods?", "post": "Some background info: I am 3rd year student in California and have never really had to take out any loans until recently. To date I have one unsubsidized loan totaling $7,500 USD.\n\nI am eligible for grants starting September that cover all tuition payments, but will most likely take out a subsidized loan to help with rent. \n\nI don't work a whole lot. I am an after-school program teacher that pays $25 per class taught (usually lasting an hour each). The problem is that I'm usually only given 2-3 classes a week to teach.\n\nI am an Economics major, so I know there are different markets to invest in, but would appreciate more experienced advice in this matter.", "summary": "I want to use loan money to invest and make enough gains to cover future loan payments."}
{"id": "t3_3h0amj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help with my girlfriend.", "post": "I have the generic constant struggle of questioning to talk to her or not, usually this problem is found with girls whos boyfriends rarely spark the conversation but with my relationship it's the other way around. (A lot like our relationship actually.)\n\nShe never really starts conversations with me, only times she has is to call me and that's when I really knew she wanted to talk to me. She says in the past she's always wanting to talk to me but one time I messaged her each time she came online hoping she'd reply but she didn't, after this we went on a break for a day and got back together, I don't want this to happen again so I'm not doing this. But I want too. She's seen my snapchats, seen all my messages but not saying a word, she's online and I don't know if I should message her or not, what do I do?", "summary": "girlfriend won't reply to me, do I keep talking to her or wait for her to message me?"}
{"id": "t3_2iigfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ___ [21F] of two years on and off, got into a massive fight because I didn't call her", "post": "My girlfriend and I are long distance but we used to go to the same college. We have been on and off for the last two years as well. We get in fights every so often that blow up. This just happened 1 hour ago and I need some outside perspective. She was coming home from work and texted me that she lost her keys. I texted her back \"I'm sorry :(\". I did not think to call her. She then texted me about 10 minutes later saying \"call me\". So I did 5 minutes later when I saw her text. She didn't pick up. She sent me a screenshot showing me that she called me several times and I sent one back showing that I did not receive the call. I was on the phone with a friend at the time and the call didn't go through. I said that maybe the call didn't go through but she blamed me. She insulted me and called me a douche, an idiot, a pussy, etc. I apologized several times. She says that I should know that she wants me to call her after two years of dating. I said that I can't read her mind and that if she told me, I would have called earlier. Did I do something really wrong or is she just way overreacting?", "summary": "Got into a massive fight with my girlfriend because I didn't know to call her when she texted me that she lost something. Am I a bad boyfriend because I couldn't read her mind that she wanted me to call or is she overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_222auj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal/okay for me [21F] to be more attracted to someone [22M] who is not my SO [23M]?", "post": "There's this guy I know who, when I first met him, thought was incredibly attractive. We spent a lot of time together as summer interns and shared a lot of amazing experiences (like climbing mountains, and being the only two who made it to the peak and sharing the amazing view; or exploring abandoned buildings and fearing for our lives in the most hilarious way; or sneaking into statue gardens at night to climb the tall ones and stare at the stars together). I never really thought of him as a potential boyfriend though, especially because when we met he had a girlfriend.  \n\nBut I did try really fucking hard to impress him, and always wanted to look good around him, and for a brief period of time when he broke up with his girlfriend, he showed a little interest in me and even invited me over for a rather PG-13 booty call (stayed the night, no sex). Regardless, I was giddy for days. Just thinking about that night made my gut do somersaults. I was, and still kind of am, really attracted to him. But it turns out I was just a temporary rebound before he got back together with his girlfriend.  \n\nIt's been almost two years now, I'm in a 1-year+ relationship with a great guy, and I see this other fellow much less often. But it seems like every time I do, my heart beats a little faster and my stomach gets a little more butterfly-y. I saw him again today and was just so caught offguard by how much physical response he still gets from me. I would never, ever, ever cheat on my boyfriend, but I don't know. Sometimes I think this means I am more sexually attracted to this guy than my own boyfriend. Lust, I guess? But it's not like I imagine us banging, or masturbate to him. I just... physiologically respond much stronger to him than I do my own boyfriend. Is that bad? Normal? What word describes this anyways?", "summary": "Have a boyfriend of over 1 year, but every time I see a guy from my past who I find very physically attractive, I physiologically respond (fast heartbeat, butterflies in stomach) way more than I do/ever did for my own boyfriend. Is this normal, or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_1siv8u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(23/f) roommate(22/f) keeps inviting this guy over every single night to our apartment and every time he takes a dump, he never flushes. I don't know how to bring this up.", "post": "It's been going on for 2 months now, she claims he's not her boyfriend, but he's been coming over every single night for the past 2 months with the exception of her going home for the weekend. We only have 1 bathroom, which we both share obviously. Every time I go to the bathroom, the toilet lid is down and when I lift it up, I'm greeted with a foul stench and brown shit exploded everywhere. It's fucking disgusting. I highly doubt it's my roommate because we never had this issue before she started bringing the guy over. \n        It's getting to the point where every time I go to the bathroom, I just flush a couple times before I open the lid. Now, here's where I've come to reddit for advice. How do I bring this up? My roommate and I aren't that close. We met via Craigslist. We only communicate when we have to split utilities. It's a pretty awkward subject to bring up to her. I don't want to sound weird. How do I resolve this?", "summary": "My roommates friend never flushes the toilet whenever he shits. Don't know how to tell this to my roommate, or how to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_3vx1nr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by performing in front of my year group at school (UK)", "post": "obligatory this was a few years ago.\n\nSo I took part in and won the brass section of my schools music competition, so the teacher organising it asked me if I wants to do my performance again in front of my year group in assembly the week, so i thought why not? I did really well in the competition, but this is where the fuck up comes, so I'm waiting off stage listening to others perform and thinking about the piece i was playing. So when it comes to my turn i walk up to the stage and there is no step up, no problem all i need to do is just a little hop and all will be well, but no it had been raining and my shoes were a little wet underneath and so the first foot on the stage slips off and I face plant on the stage in front of my entire year group who start laughing at my misfortune, I did get up and complete my performance.", "summary": "Agreed to play a piece to my year group in an assembly and landed up face planting on the stage instead!"}
{"id": "t3_1kf0pd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with an office from hell?", "post": "Reddit, \n\nI know that I am a very privileged white male in a first world country and based on this I am at an advantage. Despite this, I'm having trouble living  in today's world. My job is ok, but very depressing. The atmosphere makes me want to bring in a copy of Animal Farm as a statement. \"All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others\". I'm tired of being treated like less of a person because of my job title. I'm tired of doing more for my employer and not seeing a raise of more than $30 a month since I got the job two years ago.\n\nI'm tired of today's world. People tell me I should just play the game and not worry and be happy. All the while, I see people lying, cheating, and stealing to get ahead in the \"game\" and sometimes I just wonder what the point of even \"playing a game\" where other players cheat to win. \n\nI just fantasize all the time about a world where people don't lie, cheat, and steal to get ahead and where we all can just live to help each other out and better ourselves and our species. All I ever see is the opposite and I just know that some day our greed will destroy us all. \n\nI don't know how to cope. I have a decent enough job, but is it enough? I want to just go live on a commune or something.\n\nBy the way, I have a degree in information systems. My job title is technology support technician, but my job is to process GI bill payments among other forms of payment, and provide customer service for billing questions. I sometimes get to replace a printer and thus \"provide tech support\".", "summary": "Reddit, what are your coping strategies for dealing with unfriendly people and the ways of today's world? Sure, we can ignore it, but is that enough?"}
{"id": "t3_106jj6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I Leave her after she cheated on me?", "post": "First let me post that I know this has been done a million times over but I would like to feel my situation is unique.\n\nMy wife of 3 years is currently doing research halfway across the country for her PhD research.\n\nWe typically talk every morning and night, however, she seemed to be starting to get distant and unavailable for the past month. \nOn Tuesday morning she said we need to talk about how she feels in our relationship and our personal connection in intimacy.\n\nI know our intimate relationship has been strained since she began her PhD pursuit and she always equated it to stress. Now that she is finishing her final research she said she is beginning to question if that was the problem. She loves me but just isn't feeling intimacy towards me.\n\nI dug deeper into the problem and asked questions trying to work towards a real solution until she admitted she has been having an affair for the last month. A healthy sexual relationship (in her mind)... We talked and discussed our options and I was/am trying to be forgiving and work this out... I am the idiot who has always been crazy about her.\n\nThis morning she said she wants to make us work and that she would break everything off and never see the other guy again. She broke up with him this afternoon. \nNow she is not sure she can commit to me 100% because it won't be the same and she is still not sure she can be intimate with me. This makes me feel broken.\n\nI love her. I'm angry, sad,and insanely disappointed... But, I feel like I can work beyond this with her if she is willing to try. I put a lot of life on hold to work while she pursued her PhD because of my love for her.\n\nAm I making a huge mistake? \nShould I just cut my losses and learn to live again?\nShould I leave and not give her the opportunity to answer or work it out?", "summary": "my wife cheated on me... Should I leave or try and work on it?"}
{"id": "t3_114zp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Going to get dumped by my FWB soon.  30M", "post": "I know this is taboo as all hell, but it's my situation, so bear with me.  \n\nMy wife(32) and I have been involved over the years with some swinging.  We've been married for 8 years, together 10...and swinging for a bit over 2.  Mostly just one guy we both know well and trust, so that's all good.  Wife told me not too long ago I was free to go find a girl to mess with on my own (she's not into women).  Cool!  Well..no.\n\nHooked up with a great gal(27)...we've known each other for a while, she's recently single and a few months back we decided what the hell, let's get physical.  Well, it's getting emotional now, at least for me.  I realized this when she mentioned she made some online dating profiles.  I'm playin it cool, cause we are just supposed to be friends with benefits but...man...it SUCKS knowing I'm gonna get dumped.  Almost hurts.  I'm a guy so I won't admit it LOL\n\nSo...I've got a choice.  Man up, and step aside so she can date.  Or, tell her how I feel, and risk looking like an emotional fool.  Being married, I know I can't be a good boyfriend...I'm already financially and emotionally supporting one family, I cannot handle two.  I can't ask her to hold off her life cause I have a crush.  Am I missing a third option?", "summary": "FWB going to get dumped soon, emotional ties make it messy.  Help?"}
{"id": "t3_snrno", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just had all my music stolen from my car. What douche bag moves that serve no real purpose have you experienced?", "post": "I still listen to CDs in my car. I have a pretty good stereo and a shitty iPod adapter, so I listen to CDs in my car instead. Tonight, someone broke into my car and stole all 100+ albums that were in it. I have them all backed up on my computer and spare hard drives, so I haven't really lost any of them. I keep most of my original albums in my apartment, so they were mostly burned and the money loss was minimal. It just sucks because that's a lot of time and effort and MEMORY wasted. They were of huge sentimental value to me. Also, they didn't take my stereo, windshield scrapers, Ice Breakers, jumper cables, coffee mug, or window beads. Just my albums. Nothing of liquidable value.", "summary": "Someone stole all my music and nothing of real value. Fucker."}
{"id": "t3_1tz8gr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's [15F] and is my [16M] best friend and crush for two years... help!", "post": "I've been in love with the same girl for upwards of two years. She's been in my school since we were both 8 years old. Three years ago she moved to another city.\n\nI wasn't really close friends with her before that but I got really shaken by her departure so I started to text her everyday. I got to know her so well and shortly after she left she came back all of a sudden after her dad got a better job in my city again (I live in Cali).\n\nWe were good friends once she came back and a while after that I started to develop strong feelings towards her. We have upwards of 20,000 messages on our phones/Facebook and talk to each other everyday.\n\nThis semester we even started having really long phone calls together. I don't like saying this but we're both pretty popular (she's a lot more popular than me) and she's shown interest in older guys.\n\nAfter she started flirting with another guy [17M] for a long time I kind of backed off. She found out I used to like her and it was totally normal. We talked about it casually and it became just another aspect of our relationship.\n\nI think it's worth mentioning physical appearance. She's very pretty but not the kind of pretty that gets her massive amounts of male attention (at least not romantically) so she's down to earth. I used to be very plain but I've been losing my baby fat and getting taller but I still have some acne. (Both my parents are very attractive, though, and so is my older brother).\n\nI though I was over her but over the past few days she's been getting very flirty and I just can't stop feeling attraction. I won't break off our friendship but I don't want to feel this powerless. Help!", "summary": "In love with best friend, I was friend-zoned but she seems to be showing interest."}
{"id": "t3_3pyc29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (20sF) bring up old \"drama\" with my former friend (20sF) to get some closure?", "post": "Hi, everyone. \n\nA couple of years ago, my (mid-20sF) best friend (also mid-20sF) \"friend-dumped\" me completely out of nowhere. We had known each other since early middle school but didn't become good friends until high school. Once we got to college, we became inseparable. For several years, we would talk constantly. We texted day and night and hung out with each other at least 4-5 times a week. We would have times when we would see each other less often if one of us were busy, but we were always very close. \n\nShe friend-dumped me completely out of the blue. We were texting about something and she suddenly stopped texting me. I didn't think anything of it because that's the point of texting, you can just do it when you have the time. Later that day, something really funny happened and I had to tell her about it. I didn't get a reply. A couple of days later, I still hadn't heard from her so I sent her a \"hey\" with another no response. That's when I realized what she had done. I tried to accept it gracefully, but I did, embarrassingly, send her a couple more \"hey\"'s over the following weeks just to see if maybe I was wrong. I wasn't. \n\nThis was in 2013 so a significant amount of time has passed. It's been on my mind recently. She was my best friend for such a long time and I haven't really made a lot of friends since then. It's hard not having any closure on why she decided to cut me out. It's especially weird because we were literally in the middle of having a conversation (via text) about something when it happened. \n\nI've been thinking about sending her a message on facebook to ask her if she wouldn't mind telling me what happened. I'm not trying to rekindle a friendship with her or anything, I just want to find out why. Is this a terrible idea? Should I just accept the fact that I can't get closure on everything?", "summary": "My friend cut contact with me very suddenly 2 years ago. I've been thinking about it a lot lately and would like to know why she decided to do this, but I don't know if it's a good idea or not."}
{"id": "t3_1hf8lh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(EU) Doing a credit transfer between two countries (the accounts are in different currencies) in the SEPA agreement", "post": "The situation is like this:\n\nI am moving to a new country and I have to pay the deposit and rent for my accommodation in advance.\n\nMy current account is opened in Denmark (in Danish Crowns - DKK).\nThe beneficiary's account is opened in Switzerland (in Swiss Francs - CHF).\n\nI need to transfer X amount of Swiss Francs from my account to his account. Now my bank offers the possibility of choosing the amount I want to transfer in any currency (I suppose to make your life easier...) but then they also task for the currency the transfer should be done in.\n\nFrom what I read about SEPA is that it only applies when the transfer currency is EUR. \n\nMy question is, can I choose the transfer currency in EUR so that it is a SEPA transfer (and thus get the low commission for it) even if the beneficiary's account is not in EUR?\n\n(A short", "summary": "of how SEPA works would also be appreciated)"}
{"id": "t3_w2qe0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone had any experience with the Abortion Pill (potentially NSFW)", "post": "My GF is a couple days late, I know I may be freaking out but she is always right on time and pretty regular. I honestly cannot remember when it could have happened and in my mind it just doesn't make sense that she's pregnant. But, her stomach has been hurting her for the past few days (she hasn't thrown up but has wanted/felt like it).\n\nI am really worried she is pregnant and neither of us can afford nor have a child right now. Some may disagree, this isn't a thread to talk about the morality of abortion. I just want to know if anyone has had any experience with the abortion in pill form. \n\nHelp, Reddit, I am freaking out.", "summary": "GF may be pregnant but its early to tell, does anyone have experience with the Abortion Pill."}
{"id": "t3_30yrqi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my 7 year old nephew cry at my sister's wedding.", "post": "This happened on Sunday at my sister's wedding. We had just finished the ceremony and we were all taking photos and waiting to go to the reception area. The immediate family members all were standing around; parents, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, etc. We were all hanging out when I noticed my 7 year old nephew was begging my mom for her phone. I went over to see what he was doing with it, and he had started to write a text message addressed to his mom (my sister but not the bride). \n\nThe text read: \"You are not the best\"\n\nI immediately snatched it out of his hands, and told him this was supposed to be a nice day and he shouldn't be writing mean things to his mom! I told him I was giving the phone back to grandma and he could go play with his brother until it was time to go. A moment later he was crying and my sister was asking me what happened. He was having a hard time explaining through his tears, but I was finally able to figure out he was just using the suggested words above the keyboard to string together meaningless sentences. I apologized a ton and gave him a big hug, plus I gave him my phone to play with to make it up to him. He looked upset in the pictures, and I looked like an ass hole.", "summary": "My nephew was harmlessly stringing words together with my mom's phone and I was a jerk to him."}
{"id": "t3_33k3t7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] highly interested in [25 F ], trying to avoid friendzone, but dont know how?", "post": "Hey Reddit, \n\nNeed some advice. So this girl at work just started at her new position 2 days ago, today small talk with her ended up hanging out in her cubicle for a good amount of time just conversing  (we hit it off pretty good, her being 25, and me being 23, one of the youngest people at the office). Now the hard part, I got her number and all and I'm wondering how can I address to a girl that I'm trying to be more than friends (not trying to be in the friendzone)? Like how long should I wait to make my intentions clear? I haven't been in a committed relationship for almost 3 years, so I'm pretty rusty in the dating game and what not. Any input would be appreciated! For what it's worth her body language was very compliant, she was twirling her hair, and laughing at all my jokes, and she seems very welcoming, and she's down to hangout", "summary": "new babe hired at the office, very chill, hit it off pretty good, not trying to get friendzoned."}
{"id": "t3_1ajivk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My long time crush(29/m) is single, and I(27/f) WANT HIM.", "post": "K, so I've had a bit of a crush on this guy for quite a while. He broke up with a girlfriend about 6 months ago, but before I could make my intentions clear (like, before his ex gf moved out) he started seeing someone else. Thats cool, hes a good guy and I value his friendship but I'm not prepared to pine for him.\n\nThen like a month later he was engaged. Yeah. Anyway, in the last week he's broken up with his fianc\u00e9e, and is available again, (yay!) but has said he wants a good long break before his next relationship, and I agree he needs one. I'm willing to be patient. (I really don't want to be a rebound. see above where I value his friendship.)\n\nBut he got snatched up so quickly last time, he really is quite a catch. I'm worried I'll miss the window of opportunity. \n\nSo what do I do? I'm tempted to take him aside, kiss the fuck out of him, and tell him to give me a call when he's next ready for a relationship. But that could get awkward and weird. I suspect he wants a fuck buddy relationship, and my hypothalamus is screaming at me that that's a terrible idea. I've loved someone who didn't feel the same way before, and its not fun. \n\nWe're both in the poly/kinky group of our little city, neither of us want a monogamous relationship, (I've been in quite a few, its hard, but fun) so ironically enough, if he was still with someone else I wouldn't worried about my feelings, but the fact that he's single and *available* for a proper romantic relationship... my lizard brain is telling me \"there be dragons.\" HELP MEEEEEEEE!", "summary": "He's quite a catch and I have competition. He needs time and space after his last relationship. What the hell do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_50dizh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being helpful at my new job", "post": "Today is my third day at a new job. I went to grab an after lunch coffee from the common area and when I depressed the little handle only a sputter of coffee and air emitted. So I head over to the coffee maker, dump the old coffee grounds, replace the filter and grab a baggy of pre-measured coffee. But when I rip the edge of the package the hole is slightly too small. Instead of being a normal person and grabbing scissors I instead decide to use it as-is.\n\n*shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake*\n\nI feel like I've been shaking coffee grounds from this package into the filter for long enough that people start to notice. Conversations stop.\n\n*shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake*\n\nIt was if I was trying to empty a salt shaker one grain at a time.\n\n*shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *crinkle*\n\n*shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake* *shake*\n\nNow I know people are staring. Doesn't matter, the deed is finally done.\n\nI slide the doohickey into the coffee maker, click \"brew\" and I'm on my way. Except I didn't put the coffee dispenser under the maker and now hot coffee is spilling all over the counter and floor.", "summary": "If I'm not qualified to make coffee, I'm sure that I shouldn't be working here."}
{"id": "t3_1xhq14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend[34M] of 2.5 years. He's STILL married. Help!", "post": "He has been very honest with me early on, so i have known along that he was married but separated. At this point they have been separated for 4-5 years. She lives in Delaware and he lives with me in Arizona. \n\nThe issue is that they are still married. It used to not bother me at all when we werent super serious. In fact I only thought about it a few times a year when she came up. I know they are in contact but not much...maybe talk 1-2 times a year. So i know there isnt anything fishy going on in the romantic department. She is actually living with her bf and has a kid with him.\n\nIve tried to pressure him to getting divorced. We want to buy a house together, and i have told him that i wont do anything financial with him until the divorce is done. But he seemed kinda taken aback by this and didnt really understand why. I know he thinks she has good intentions and just hasnt gotten around to it, but i'm afraid she's going to try and get money from him. They have no dept, no house, and no kids binding them together. So i dont get why she wont do it. \n\nBefore he moved to arizona he agreed to do the divorce in delaware to be nice. Well he went back a few months ago, and suggest they do it then,but she said she wasnt ready. I guess she wants to get a lawyer since shes afraid he might try and get money from her (which he wont). She also doesnt have money to pay a lawyer. He's afraid to push the issue because he's too nice, and also doesnt understand that pretty soon it could be putting our future on hold. Ive tried to talk to him, but it doesnt really get anywhere. \n\nReddit, do you have any advice for me.", "summary": "BF is still married after being separated for 5 years. Wont get a divorce! Both him and \"wife\" are lazy and arent making it a priority."}
{"id": "t3_r7odd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have every reason to be confident in myself, but I still feel like dirt. How do I overcome my crippling self doubt?", "post": "I'm a 21 year old male college student studying Jazz performance. In the town I live in, I've already so many accomplishing acts, including  playing with world class musicians, helping to create some of the most incredible music I've ever heard, all the while keeping up my grades to all A's and B's for three years. I even lost a good amount of weight recently. \n\nHowever, I can't seem to get over my own fears and doubts about who I am, what I do, and the way I look. It's safe to say that my abilities concerning women aren't exactly stellar... I am constantly worried about what I'm doing, and for some reason the music I make or the projects I complete never quite satisfy me. Is this normal? Is this just a human emotion? Am worrying too much about it?", "summary": "I'm an accomplished musician/student, but I still feel like dirt. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_cc00m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who spends their time looking at the desktop wallpaper?", "post": "I mean, I don't. I usually spend most of my time, y'know, actually DOING something on my computer. Like browsing the internet, IRC, typing, etc. What I don't do is sit at my desk and stare at the background all day long like the only thing I can do with my computer is use it as an aquarium. I don't really *mind* having a nice desktop wallpaper, but some people get all fired up about it like a bad wallpaper will make droves of people drop dead in their seat. \n\nI've noticed this especially in the Ubuntu community though it spreads all over fairly commonly. I personally prefer my default wallpaper to be a fairly tame uncoloured or gradient background that does not clash with the colour of the default fonts. Other than that, I don't care.\n\nSo what if you don't like the default wallpaper? It takes all of 30 seconds to google a new one, right click it and set it as default (depending on Internet speeds).", "summary": "I think wallpapers are really not that big a deal, what about you?"}
{"id": "t3_4r040n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend [F/19] says she wants to things down with me [M/20] but I feel like I've lost her", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. We moved quite fast, having sex within the first couple weeks and mutually exchanged \"I love you\" only about 2 and a half months in. She is very close with her family and meeting them was a big deal for her and I met them 3 and a half months in.\n\nEverything was going great, we spent 4-5 days a week with each other and talked all the time about anything and everything. Out of nowhere 2 weeks ago she says she feels like we need to slow things down so that we didn't mess up what we have and that she feels a little smothered. She wanted to hang out less and have sex less frequently and I said I was game for that as I understood where she was coming from.\n\nFast forward to the last couple days and I call her to talk about her day and see when we could hang out next. I brought up how I haven't seen her at all aside from her summer league volleyball games I went to in the last 2 weeks. She apologizes and she and when I brought up that I understand taking things slow but not seeing each other really at all isn't taking it slow, it's nil. She gets a little angry and says \"I guess taking things slow aren't working for you, maybe we should just take a break.\" I said that maybe we should just end it there if she thinks a break is necessary and she retorted by saying I was being stubborn about a break because, even though it usually means breakup, it doesn't with us. She then said \"we can talk more about this in the morning, I love you, goodnight,\" and hung up on me.\n\nThe next morning she takes back what she said and says she wants to just take things slow and that she loves me but that she has a lot going on in life and needs time to sort that out. She's been worrying about school and what she wants to do in life and is panicking because she has no idea.\n\nMy question is, have I lost her or is this taking it slow thing what she legitimately needs and that she does want to stay together?", "summary": "girlfriend of 6 months suddenly says we need to slow down, then says we should take a break, then takes back the break idea and says she wants to take it slow again. What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_3k55gv", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "How are you dealing with your very different families coming together for the wedding?", "post": "What I mean, is that how are you planning your guest lists if you both have completely different types of family? \n\nSO and I are talking about marriage, and we are pretty concerned with having both of our family members in one space. \n\nHis family are kale loving hippie tree huggers who are going to have to be told to refrain from doing drugs at the reception. And may bring up \"aura vibes\" or who knows what, which isn't really our style. \n\nMy family is extremely religious and conservative, traditional in every way (though I am not) and we worry they are going to extremely judging throughout the entire wedding. I actually think many of them would be respectful, but worry about my mom not having a filter. \n\nWe both love our families and want them there on that special day. We considered planning two weddings but it's hard enough to planning one.\n\nHow are you dealing with this? Do you have advice... We are at a loss. It's very sad because we want everyone together and happy for us on our wedding day. But if the personalities crash it could really ruin the day. We don't want to exclude anyone.", "summary": "How to get hippies and bible thumpers to coexist during your wedding??"}
{"id": "t3_2hjd3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27/M] wonder if it is rude to ask her [27/F] out when I know it is very unlikely that she will say yes", "post": "So truth be told, I feel like I have been out of the dating game for too long. I have stagnated a bit and become far too content with being single so I thought I should do something to shake things up.\n\nThere is this gorgeous woman that I know and have a pleasant relationship with, can't say that we are friends, more like acquaintances. We bump in to each other every now and then, and I thought I would take a long shot and ask her out.\n\nI figure, if I don't ask it is already a No, but I thought I would ask for your opinion first, because we will keep bumping in to each other, and I am fine with it, but I thought she might think that I am upset that she declined the offer to date and feel weird everytime she sees me? But I don't know if that is anything I should consider since she might just be flattered as well.\n\nThe reason why I think it is highly unlikely that she will say yes is because I haven't made any \"advances\" of any sort before, so this will be out of the blue and I am not sure but she is probably seeing someone else already.\n\nThat being said, my main reason for doing it is just so I have done it, so I can see that the world didn't end by doing it and get my head back in to the game.\n\nDo you think this is alright ot do or should I pass?", "summary": "I am thinking about asking out one of my acquaintances just for the sake of asking somebody out."}
{"id": "t3_3ovndz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What to do while waiting for light at end of the tunnel?", "post": "In the past three months I've reduced my total debt from about $20,000 to $9,200.  While it's possible I can do the same for the $9,200 with commissions I am not and have not budgeted for possibilities.\n\nI've budgeted out the next year based on my minimum income with no commission.  This plan sees me debt free by August 2016.  All of my expenses are covered, and any commission I receive  moves my debt-free date forward.\n\nThe budget factors in savings, my HSA, and my simple IRA to get my employers max contribution.\n\nMy question is, now what?  All I do is eat, sleep, work, gym, and repeat.  I've deactivated Facebook, I don't party, I quit drinking, and I got rid of my car since I live in a metroplex and walk or uber pretty much everywhere I need to go.  This actually costs less than having a car in my situation.", "summary": "What other steps can/do/have you take/taken once your plan and budget are in place and you're following it consistently?"}
{"id": "t3_3ycy2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [27F] obligated to stay in touch with my grandmother [70sF]?", "post": "I was raised by my mom and stepdad. My bio dad's parents lived in Vegas and visited very infrequently. I also rarely saw my dad. I grew up being raised with the values of my stepdad -- I consider his family to be my family and I'm pretty close to them. \n\nI can remember being really excited for my bio dad's parents to visit when I was younger (elementary school). As I grew older and came to realize that my bio dad was not the best father, I drifted away from that part of my family. \n\nMy bio dad's mom now lives in my hometown. I rarely go home, but when I do, I never see her. She's always depressed and not a happy woman. My mom makes me feel guilty about this. I'm a big believer in choosing your own path and surrounding yourself with the people you want to surround yourself with. Life is way too short to be miserable. \n\nI could use some outside thought on this.", "summary": "Should I continue to surround myself with people who bring me down?"}
{"id": "t3_3sx9q9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 5 months, I don't feel like she is devoting enough time to me.", "post": "Girlfriend and I started dated early this summer. She's great, I love her to pieces. I've had issues with shitty girlfriends in the past but even from the get go this relationship has been far better than the previous ones. \n\nThat being said, for those who are kind enough answer, I'd like to establish that I don't want to break up with her. \n\nNow to the issue. Girlfriend and I go to separate colleges. Fortunately hers is easily to drive to in a day and it has not been terribly difficult to visit this semester. We have a couple of set weekends, all scheduled from the beginning of the semester. \n\nMy weekends with her are the happiest Ive been since summer ended, again, shes great.\n\nBut recently her roommates (after two back to back weekend visits from me) have complained that they don't get to spend enough time with her. So she said OK, when he isn't here I'll make you guys.\n\nBut she has such a busy schedule normally that this means, when I am not physically with her, I get cut almost completely. This past week we barely talked at all. I had some important things to tell her that kept getting pushed to the side and it made me feel all kinds of terrible.\n\nLast night I got really upset and we argued briefly while she was watching a movie with her friends at school. She went out of the room to call me, I cried, it was a mess. \n\nBut during that call I asked that she give a little more when I'm not there. I dont expect hour long convos every other night, just every once in a while to talk and find out how each other is doing. It became obvious that this is not as important to her as it is to me. \n\nWe aren't currently angry with each other. We talked it out for a while, but it still feels super unresolved. I don't really know how to find a diplomatic solution to this issue. Would love help, feel free to ask questions.\n\nOkay I think that's everything.", "summary": "My GF and I are having long distance issues, there's just not enough time to go around and I'm getting cut. Would love advice on how to fix so everyone is happy."}
{"id": "t3_3mmpmp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 6 months, she suffers from pretty severe depression and I'm worried she might hurt herself.", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now, and for the first several months of our relationship, everything seemed to be going perfectly. But as it turns out, she has been depressed for longer than she can remember and just did a really good job hiding it until she trusted me enough to let me know about it.\n\nI am the only one she had ever told about it and she keeps it hidden from her parents because they are one of the biggest causes of her problems. They make her feel like she isn't good enough and don't listen to her with her problems and the whole situation is a mess.\n\nWith my encouragement, she sought out counseling at her college (we go to school about 5 1/2 hours away from one another). They recognized it as severe clinical depression on the first visit and she had been on antidepressants for a month now. None of them have helped, except Sertraline, which helped until she started breaking out in a rash that the nurses were afraid was a reaction to the medicine.\n \nSince getting help, she's had a lot of bad days and I can usually calm her down enough to not do anything drastic but sometimes I couldn't, and about a week ago she self-harmed for the first time, making small cuts on her upper thigh. I know this is a very bad sign.\n\nI'm worried she is going to hurt herself and I think she should go to the hospital to get straightened out but she never will because it would cause her parents to find out, as she is on their insurance.\n\nI really don't want her to hurt herself and I will not hesitate to call someone to show up to her place and make her go to the hospital if she is in serious trouble.\n\nMy question is: Who do I call in case something happens? On a weekend the counselors office she goes to isn't open so I can't call them. Additionally, I know she lives on her college campus but I don't know exactly what her dorm is called or what room number she's in. If you need to know anything more specific to help me with this, I will happily give you any information you  need in the comments section.", "summary": "My girlfriend is severely depressed and I worry she may hurt herself. I need to know who to call/what to do in case of an emergency when we live 5 hours apart."}
{"id": "t3_2q8lv1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being thirsty.", "post": "This happened over the summer and ive been meaning to get this off my chest but having no close-close friends, its been quite difficult so ill just dump this here. i dont expect anyone to read this so lolkek\n\n-Begin Rant-\nBackground story: I am currently a high school senior enjoying my winter break. Starting with a little about me, ive never had a girlfriend except for one a while back in middle school (god knows when). Since forever, ive never found someone ive liked based on their personality, not how hot or cute they look or whatever. This changed dramatically when i had a suddenly realization, an epiphany of sorts, after i got high. I go to a high school with a fairly small class group (1200 students in the school between 4 grades). Having never met anyone in my league worth chasing with a good personality, i finished junior year with nothing really notable. And then i got high. Something about after hitting the trees, i realized something. There was this one girl in my AP English class. Lets call her Shelly. Shelly was not the top of the top, but was fairly cute and her quirky personality, artistic capabilities, and fairly decent academic standards landed her an unseen bookmark in my mind. I havent known her for that long, having only had 2 classes with her junior year, sitting with her and getting to know her and became friends, but that was about it. Sometime after reaching the sky, i realized that i liked Shelly. It was a random spontaneous thought and i thought, hey, i kinda like her. Following this thought, i proceeded to try and text her (facebook, phone, etc). just small talk, etc. I started to get annoying without realizing it, and suddenly, yolo moment, asked her out in the most unofficial, anticlimactic way: over **text**. I had thought it over but now i feel stupid as hell. Now back in school, we still talk and all but i still really like her and now its probably damn near impossible to go out with her after this fuck up. And yet here i am here, trying to get her a christmas gift.", "summary": "realized i liked a girl over the summer when i couldn't see her, asked her out in the worst way possible, annoyed her over text, and still like her. killed any chance of going out with a girl i like."}
{"id": "t3_43u5c5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) relationship with the most precious person (22F) I've ever met ended 2 years ago, can't move on.", "post": "At the time I was stuck with doing the same thing every day, despite her wanting to go places, have fun everywhere, get me out of my shell, show me the world.\n\nEventually she couldn't take it anymore and we had to part ways.\nAfterwards I went on a pot smoking spree for 2 years without even realising how bad that was.\n\nWe parted on good terms, and still see/hear each other fairly often, which I think contributes to the difficulty of moving on, but more on that later.\n\nWe were very special to each other, and she says she still loves me, but not in the same way and doesn't want to be together again, the thought of it made her feel bad.\nAnd every time we talk about this we both feel bad and suffer.\n\nThe thing is, she made it clear to me that she wants to remain friends, but does not want to be lovers again.\n\nFor 2 entire years, the most dominant thought I've had is how to get her back, despite knowing she doesn't want to.\n\nThis person meant the world to me, how am I supposed to let go of something which brought me endless joy and tears of happiness? How am I expected to move on and leave behind what I adored most in this life?\n\nI am completely broken, I cry every time I think about this...\n\nFeel free to ask for any details about this or even ask for help as helping other people makes me feel some relief and calm even if for a brief moment.", "summary": "I'm broken and hopeless, heart and mind don't agree"}
{"id": "t3_qi5fc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Would porn help me?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together a long time. (3 years) I'm 18 and she is 18. her stance on pornography was that it is degrading to women, and I have respected her views by not watching porn. \n\nWe both have missed out on the sexual part of our relationship recently because it seems that when we do have the chance to be alone, I will often try to move things too quickly or to try and push her more than she is in the mood for. We have talked about this, and we both really want to get back in the swing of things so to speak. She suggested that if i thought it would help then maybe I should watch porn.\n\nI'm not sure if it would help me, I obviously know that I dont want to push her in any way, but we dont have time alone together very often and maybe that because alone time is rare that I want to try and do more than what she is willing to? I said I dont know when she asked (last night) but I want to bring it back up if I think it will be a good idea.", "summary": "my girlfriend was against porn, I try to push for more than what she wants when we get alone time, would porn help me not do this."}
{"id": "t3_1p0bkf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my [22F] for 1 year, she cheated on me and I can't get over it", "post": "So I've been with my 22 year old girlfriend for coming up to a year. It's a LDR but we've seen each other as much as we can. I have work and other commitments so I don't get that many weekends free but we spend as much time together as we can.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago I was working and she'd gone to a party, the next day she tells me that she cheated on me with a guy she goes to school with. She said it was a one off, would never happen again and after a week of pretty intense talking about our relationship I decided to trust her. She'd never done anything in the past to make me doubt her and I truly believe(d) her when she said how sorry she was and how much she regretted it.\n\nI told her that I could forgive her in time but would take a while to forget. She seems to have taken that as a green light to pretend as if nothing has happened.\nShe still sees this guy socially when I can't be there, which I know they go to the same school and he's in the same social groups it's probably unavoidable.  She hangs out with other guys and just today dropped on me that she was going to watch football with two other guys.\n\nNow I don't expect her to sit in and not have a social life when I'm not around but she just doesnt seem to grasp how much I'm still hurting over this. \n\nSo I'm torturing myself daily, creeping on her and all her friends facebook pages and It's driving me crazy.  I just don't know if I can trust her.  If you'd asked me if I did 4 weeks ago I'd say yes without question.  Now if i'm not there and she's out...everything goes through my mind, who's she with, what's she doing.\n\nShe said she would be totally honest with me, she tells me where she is etc but she could be making it up. If it happened again I dont know if she'd tell me.", "summary": "My GF cheated on me, I forgave her but can't stop torturing myself"}
{"id": "t3_l0v7j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend charged with felony, facing 5 - 10 years", "post": "I am 21f, he is 27m. Have been friends for about a year, in a relationship for around 8 months.\n\nHe is charged with felony of illegally carrying weapon, but technically the evidence was obtained illegally. Although, because of the political nature of our current city, we are both afraid he could be convicted.\n\nHe is very stressed out about this (as I'm sure anyone would be) and I don't know what to tell him. He is getting stress rashes and missing work more and more often as the court date approaches.\n\nHow can I support him? I've been trying to read into legality of fourth amendment rights and educate both of us on the topic, but he does not seem to have faith in the legal system. We have discussed that if he goes to jail that he does not expect for me to stay with him and that he would not want me visiting him or anything while in jail... Which makes me very sad, as I do love him... but well... I don't know. I see where he is coming from...\n\nWhat can I or should I do to help him through this stressful time in his life? Has anyone else been in a relationship with someone in prison?", "summary": "SO may go to prison. Need advice how to support him as court date approaches. "}
{"id": "t3_1l2qvk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "advice needed for on again/off again \"friendship\" between (18f) and myself (21m)", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI will try not to be wordy here -- a friend (f 18) I met back in high school just entered her first semester at State and wants me to visit her.  Met her when I was 18, I'm now 21 and commute to a local university.  We have had an interesting on again/off again friendship mostly communicated through social media/texting/snapchat.  Hooked up once at a party at home this spring.  She and I always joke that we will talk pretty much daily and then kind of drift apart and come back and act like we've been friends all along.  I think I like her and I'm very much attracted to her.  Anyways, I text her after not talking for a while (few months) saying good luck with her first semester, etc.  She responds that she wants me to come visit, very friendly conversation, etc.  Ends with \"text me sometime\" This is where my dilemma is: my idea was to wait a few days, not give her immediate satisfaction but I do want to continue conversing with her.  My buddies are telling me to COMPLETELY ignore her and let her come to me, but she hasn't been known to do that in the past, especially with me being the older guy.  I understand that playing hard to get works, and I certainly don't want to be that older guy coming on too strongly.  What should I be doing? I'm an attractive dude and usually have no issues with putting myself out there to girls, but I've been out of the game for a while and wanted to get some advice.  How should I be communicating with her moving forward if I want to see where it can go? Don't have a relationship on the mind right now, maybe more a friends with benefits type situ.  Anyways, sorry for the rant! Any advice appreciated.", "summary": "Attractive, non-neard male courting younger female, been friends for a while with on again/off again communication.  She wants me to visit her at State school, I commute at a local college."}
{"id": "t3_4ffdmx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24M, as a man should I never show emotion?", "post": "I'm newly with a beautiful 23F as of three days ago, heavy honeymooning stuff.", "summary": "got hurt so I don't want to reveal too much"}
{"id": "t3_29cw5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M - 21F] Apart for the summer, how can I keep this relationship interesting?", "post": "21M in college, and my girlfriend and I are living in different states for the summer. I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years, we've lived together for a year, and this whole long distance thing is more complicated than I thought it would be. \n\n**Redditors who have been in long distance relationships, how did you make it work?**\n\nWe've been apart for over a month now, and our conversations have dwindled to a once or twice a day \"I love you - I miss you - Goodnight\". I want to keep things interesting and keep her interested, but that's hard to do when we aren't in the same place. I don't see her, so I can't flirt or tell her how good she looks. She won't do dirty pictures or phone sex, so our sex life is gone. Most of my friends are gone and I keep busy with work and hobbies, so I don't have a lot going on to talk about. Our phone conversations are short and boring, if I try to be flirty or crack a joke I'll get a \"haha\", not much else. In her defense she's very busy with work and her family, but I can tell we're losing our connection and being distant with each other. I want to avoid going down this path, because barely talking, no sex, and \"Love you, miss you, bye\" is no way to have a relationship.", "summary": "In a LDR, I'm coming to you for advice, tips, things you did or said that kept things going, and things that could be fun. How do you keep your connection alive?"}
{"id": "t3_jrxb8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you suggest a job/career for me?", "post": "I'll get straight into it.  I'm a 21/male living in Toronto, Ontario.\n\nI'm currently attending college (U.S. equivalent of community college) and receiving a 3 year diploma in computer programming very shortly.\n\nI have the option to transfer once done into one of these programs:\n* Bachelor of Commerce, Business Technology Management\n* Bachelor of Applied Technology, Software Development\n* Bachelor of Science\n* Bachelor of Computer Science\n\nAnd I could finish any of them in just over a year (1 year, 4 months)\n\nNow here's the kicker... I've been working as a programmer at a few different companies, small to large, and I just don't feel fulfilled.  I don't think I'll be able to enjoy life working in front of a computer 40 hours a week.\n\nI'm looking for other possible job opportunities that I can branch of easily off of my current background/skill set.\n\nI am willing to spend some more time in school if necessary to gain whatever skill set I would need to get an entry level position.  Hopefully I won't have do any more than another 4 years.\n\nI want a job where I get to meet interesting people, see the world, and every day is some sort of challenge.\n\nI'm open to any ideas.", "summary": "I feel trapped in I.T. and want to find a different possibly career path that doesn't waste my expertise."}
{"id": "t3_48v1we", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [26]f parents told me I need to end it [25]m with my boyfriend/fiance of 7 years because \"he'll never marry me\"", "post": "We've been dating for 7 years it's been on and off but more so on. The longest we were broken up was a month. My parents told me he should not come around the house anymore and that he does not respect me as a woman because I slept with him before we were married (We are engaged) and I waited until 4 months ago to sleep with him. They also claim he doesn't respect me because at the moment we are long distance and he visited for 2 weeks and we slept in the same bed together and because we go to bars on the weekend with our friends. She repeatedly told me I was a fool to think he's going to marry me and he's basically using me for sex even though we only started having sex 4 months ago out of 7 years!", "summary": "My mom says boyfriend is just having a good time with me and doesn't respect me because I slept with him before marriage and she believes I should end it with him."}
{"id": "t3_3h0194", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a glass of whiskey in bed.", "post": "So this happened around 2am. I'm home for the summer so I'm in my parents house. Real quick, they are against me drinking alone, not even one beer now and then after work. Anyways, I got back from a party and had drunk some (I'm 21), but I wanted just a glass of whiskey more. So I poured it, and took it where my laptop was, my bed. I'm watching YouTube videos, and I decide instead of my bed stand, I'll set the drink on my bed. I end up falling asleep mid video and suddenly am woken up by my dad yelling at me about drinking in bed at 5am cause my dog had knocked it over. He left for work and then my mom calls later, knowing what happened and starts talking about how I'm an alcoholic, how I should never drink hard alcohol...tis fun. Meanwhile I've been up since 5 with no sleep trying to dry and unstain in everything.", "summary": "Drank whiskey, set on bed, fall asleep, now I'm an alcoholic."}
{"id": "t3_3ef37f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) found out details of Girlfriends (22F) sexual past in the form of messages, photos and videos.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together a little over a year and I recently found out a lot about her sexual past without her telling me (includes pictures and videos of previous partners).  Just seeing this was traumatic enough but some of the things I found out I'm having a very difficult time accepting and I know it was before me so I shouldn't care but I'm very upset about it and it's really affecting our relationship.  I can't seem to move on from it because the things I found out about change the way I look at her and the person I thought she was. Leaving her is not an option and she hasn't really done anything wrong so this is completely on me and I dont know what to do. I have nothing to do at work today and I'll be seeing her tonight so any advice would be amazing, thanks.", "summary": "Snooping and found details of girlfriend's sexual history and can't get over it"}
{"id": "t3_3z5hkh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] am not attracted to my [25 F] girlfriend", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years now. We get along well, have fun together, and for the most part I'm happy with her. The problem is that I'm just not physically attracted to her anymore. The reason for this might make me sound shallow, but it's because she's gained a lot of weight since we started dating. When we started dating, she weighed around 150. Now just over 2 years later, she weighs around 200, and there are no signs of the weight gain slowing down. I try to convince her to start going to the gym with me and eat healthier, but she never does. She doesn't seem to mind her weight, so I don't see her doing anything to change it. Lately she's pushing marriage, but I don't think I can marry someone that I'm not physically attracted to, even if I do love and care for her. At the same time though, it feels wrong to end a 2 year relationship because she gained weight.", "summary": "Girlfriend gained weight and I'm no longer physically attracted to her."}
{"id": "t3_3emtmw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By accidentally turning off wifi.", "post": "[M]This did indeed happen today, in fact I only realized it was happening a few seconds ago. \n\nA few hours earlier I set the portrait lock on my iPhone to off so that I could stream videos/movies without having to manually switch the orientation. No harm there, right? Now here comes the fuck up. \n\nOut of habit, I use my phone with my left hand. Somehow I managed to turn my wifi off from the easy access menu without noticing. Cue me streaming 3 hours of Family Guy and a shit load of YouTube videos. About 80% battery later,  I needed to charge my device. I go back to my home menu, and what do I see? A little \"LTE\" in the corner. In a panic, I check my usage. Apparently in my little watching session, I'd used roughly around 2 gigs.\n\nNormally that's not bad, but I need that data to gps locations, and previously I had already used 1.5 gigs. Fuck me, right? I have 5 gigs for the month (family plan) and this averages out to be around 3.5. I don't get the bill until early August. I'm screwed.", "summary": "Switched off my wifi on accident, used most of my monthly data. Fat thumbs ruin everything."}
{"id": "t3_2pnc0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being crazy? I feel like I am, but even knowing that I'm still upset.", "post": "Okay, am I fucking crazy!? Is it wrong of me [22F] to be pissed at my bf[25M] for being friends with a girl I dislike very strongly.\n\nThe reason i dislike her is that girl and I had issues and then when we were drunk, she spilt some of her drink on me and then I said \"could you not\" and then she mumbled some shit and threw her beer bottle at me and then I chucked her bottle back at her (missed) and then I was going to beat her ass (I'm little compared to guys who know when I'm getting angry Lol I didn't get far)\n\nAnd honestly I just feel shitty about it because I feel like I'm not supported. It's silly but all my other friends boyfriends have been in this situation and out of respect they just didn't associate with the person until their gfs made up. I feel like I'm being childish but I still can't help but feel like the only girl whose boyfriend just doesn't care.", "summary": "Almost got in a fight with some girl, feel like my boyfriend doesn't support me because he still associates with he even though she threw a bottle at my head."}
{"id": "t3_14ff9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M-23) new girlfriend (F-22) of 3 weeks is hanging out with her ex. I'm not sure if I should be worried.", "post": "We dated casually for a couple of weeks, then she broke it off because she and her ex weren't quite over yet. She started it up again with me after she was \"done\" with her ex (she told me she slept with him during our time off.) We became exclusive 2 weeks ago, and things have been going well. She just told me that she has plans with her ex this Friday night. I'm not sure what to think. She was quite convincing when she said she was done with him, that he was an asshole and she wasted 2 years of her life on him. It's possible that they're just hanging out as friends, but I really don't know what to think.\n\nThe question is this - Should I ask her why she's hanging out with him and if we really are exclusive (just to reaffirm?) I don't want to come off as the jealous type, so how do I ask this without giving off that impression?", "summary": "New girlfriend hanging out with ex. How do I talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_my6s4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest/best/worst interaction you've had with a teacher outside of class?", "post": "Mine has to be from when I was a sophomore in high school and I worked at a local pizza place.\n\nI worked the phones then occasionally the register when the normal person was busy doing something else and a customer came in. One night, the assistant dean from my school called from her home phone and ordered a pizza. As an aside, she was a huge bitch and nobody liked her.\n\nWhen she came in, she was with a guy and I was at the register when they paid. After I handed them their change and pizza I said, \"Thank you very much and I hope you have a great night Mr. and Mrs. Smith!\" I got a very funny look from the guy and then she grabbed him and rushed out.\n\nA couple of weeks later, I saw their number come up for another order. This time it was a man on the phone ordering. Again, I was working the register when he came in to pay. It was a different guy than the one who came in with his wife before, but his credit card was, \"Mr. Smith\".\n\nNeedless to say, it was very awkward at school when I would bump into her in the halls.", "summary": "I caught my high school associate dean cheating on her husband"}
{"id": "t3_lehm0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Now at a 'normal' weight but still have skin and fat to lose but and lose any more after 4.5 years of trying.  Suggestions welcome!", "post": "Hi Loseit!  I wonder if anyone has experienced the same as me or can suggest what I should do next.  This is the first time I've posted here, I've hesitated up to now but have seen so many great posts that I thought I'd try.\n \nIn 2007 I weighed 117.5 kilos and decided to lose weight.  I followed the [Dukan diet] (I used the original French version, it's now out in English) which involves eating lots of protein and alternating weeks of 'pure' protein and weeks with protein and vegetables.  Eventually it got me down to 85kg, then I started to go to the gym, run etc.  At my lowest I got to 82kg.  However, despite my BMI being safely in the 'normal' range, I still have large deposits of skin and fat, especially on the chest (enormous moobs :( ).  It has been nearly five years of healthy eating and moderate, occasionally intensive exercise and I'm not much further along than when I finished the diet in 2008.  I finished because I wasn't losing any more weight.  Although I had hit the target weight I would have continued if the weight loss had gone on.  I have tried going back to the diet a few times but never got below 82kg, and it always stabilises at around 85kg.  I've seen a surgeon and am planning to have an operation to remove the moobs in a few months, and for this to be as successful as possible I have been told to lose as much weight as possible beforehand.  I haven't been to the gym for a few weeks because of work but I have gone about 3 times a week for most of the year.  I still go walking most days (15-20,000 steps) and I also cycle.  I haven't got the time at the moment to do much more exercise than I already do.\n \nSo I guess my question is, does anyone have a suggestion what I should do next to achieve more weight loss?  Would a different diet help?  Is the Dukan diet the same thing as the Keto one I keep seeing mentioned here?", "summary": "Lost weight but never got rid of the moobs, five years of good diet and reasonable exercise later am planning a operation.  For it to be as successful as possible I need to lose as much weight as possible, but the diet I followed last time (Dukan diet) won't take me any further & I haven't got time to exercise more.  Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2ieii7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm new at my job and witnessed an underage coworker drinking on the job. How should I handle this?", "post": "I don't want to disclose any identifiable information, but in our state no one under 21 years can pour or consume alcohol, and no employee under 21 can go behind the bar. My coworker, we'll call her Jessica, has broken these rules just out of sight of our managers. \n\nJessica is only 18 and she walks into the bar area (where she isn't legally allowed to be) whenever she wants, and this week she was serving a coworker and drank quite a bit of the beer  our coworker ordered. Right in front of me, the coworker who payed for the beer, and two other servers. \n\nJessica also spends a lot of time in the kitchen telling everyone how she came to work drunk today. She does this pretty much every day, morning or evening.\n\nI'm the new person at work, I haven't even been there a month yet. I don't know what I should do. I'm afraid we could lose our liquor license if her behavior continues, but I'm also afraid of her finding out I told our manager the truth. I haven't said anything to my boss yet because I'm really not sure how I should handle this. \n\nWhat do you think? I know I should probably tell my boss, but how should I go about doing so? I don't want everyone at work to think I'm a jerk or a snitch. I drink too (although I'm not underage), I smoke pot, I don't give a shit what this girl does at home, but every time she drinks while on the clock she puts my job and income (I'm a waitress/bartender) at risk and I think that's more important.", "summary": "I'm new to my job and recently witnessed an underage coworker drinking on the job. I don't know who to tell or how I should bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_40ehfu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking the bathroom door, and having my bf walk in on me.", "post": "Hopefully you can share your stories and make me feel better. \nToday I went over to my boyfriend's house to sleep over. Like always, we banged and was basking in post sex bliss. I have a bad history with UTIs, so he patted me on the butt and told me to go pee and brush. I oblige and head over and start brushing and squat on the toilet. He comes in and sees me peeing. \n\nInstantly, he loses it and starts laughing at my bemused face and the sudden silence but the trickling of pee. I start panicking at him falling against the door laughing like a maniac, and in the seconds after the trickling stops, and the pause as he takes a breath, I fart. There on, he practically falls over, gasping for air while my toothbrush remains in my mouth. I start drooling as my mouth is partly open, and I start crying with embarrassment. \n\nHere I am, drooling on myself and crying, while he laughs at me and tries to hug me while I'm still on the toilet. He keeps saying, \"it's just a little air!\" I blanked out at this point and flushed the toilet and finished brushing all the while crying my eyes out. I go to his room, and he comes in and comforts me, and says, it's okay and lets out a little high pitched toot. Everything is now okay.", "summary": "peed and tooted, boyfriend almost peed himself. I cry and he toots and makes everything okay."}
{"id": "t3_2q5a80", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22M] told me [20F] that what he likes about our relationship is that he doesn't have to try. Um, what?", "post": "Okay, my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 5 months now (just casually, dating other people) and he finally asked me to be his girlfriend about a month ago. We are long distance as I live 3 hours away from him while I go to college. I really liked how things were when we weren't dating. I think because I didn't expect anything from him but he asked me to be his girlfriend and so i said yes. \n\nNow everything bothers me. He doesn't talk to me for days at a time (he will ignore my texts and calls). When I do come home I have to go see him, he never comes to my house and will make up excuses not to come over. He never asks about my life, my fears, dreams, childhood, etc. I even have to hide how I feel about it because I don't want to come off as \"needy\" or \"pushy\". But when i go to see him I just forgot all the crappy stuff. \n\nSo, like an adult I talked to him about everything that bothered me. He told me that \"what I like about or relationship is that I don't have to try, it just happens.\" What is that even supposed to mean? I'm lost guys. I really care about him despite all the bad stuff he does. But it seems like he just isn't willing to do what I need from him. How do I get him to see things from my point of view?", "summary": "my boyfriend basically said he doesn't like to try in our relationship, it's actually what he likes about it. But I don't like that."}
{"id": "t3_17nbqc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(26/m) needs advice on questioning monogamy of new (32/f) love interest", "post": "I recently started seeing a 32/f. Awesome girl, seems to have a lot going for her and we get along great so far, but almost seems too good to be true. My suspicion is worsened by her telling me she had a very wild past and from other sources saying she tends to run her bf's lives into the ground. I'm a younger guy with a lot going for me and I'm trying to not jeopardize that by developing (deeper) feelings for someone who doesn't have my best interests at heart. We're not official yet, and I'm trying to gauge how monogamous/loyal she is before asking her out. Yes, we got it on the 2nd time we hung out, but she acts interested in more than just a booty call.", "summary": "How do I ask her if she's slept with anyone else since we started having sex two weeks ago? Trying to do this respectfully/without sounding insecure--if that's even possible. (We're separated by distance part of the time due to work traveling.)"}
{"id": "t3_3fgmex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl's [15F] Father wont let her hang out with me [17M] anymore.", "post": "I've been friends with this girl for almost a month now, (I'm 17 she's 15) and I've been over to her house a few times already while her dad was there.\nI assume i made good impressions those few times, but one day after dropping her off at her house her brother saw and apparently her brother got protective over her over the fact that I'm a few years older and about to graduate at the end of this school year, and he told her dad and they started saying how she might do something stupid while she's with me. (Which I wouldn't allow because me being me, I wouldn't want her to do anything that can harm her) \n\nAnd so now her dad wont let her hang out with me anymore because of said reasons. What can I do? she was one of my only friends and it's gonna hurt if I loose her. \n\nI was wondering if talking to her dad about it face to face would work but I'm not sure. :/", "summary": "Father wont let her hangout with me, how can I change his mind?"}
{"id": "t3_1ep5r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to talk to an estranged dad that still thinks I'm [12F] when I'm really [21F].", "post": "My parents had a messy divorce when I was around twelve. After a few years passed my father decided it was time he should be more of a father towards my siblings and I. Except he missed a big chunk of our lives, age 12 to 20 for me. He still thinks of me as a 12 year old introverted little girl who needs serious guidance when I'm actually a 21 year old who has fought my own battles and can live on her own. Anyone had to deal with this before? What are some ways that I can converse with him if he's stuck in the past? I don't want to sound too harsh to him. Any incite in how he is feeling?", "summary": "Father stuck in past. Won't treat me like my age. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_1du56d", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The only thing that's keeping me alive right now is my pride.", "post": "I started looking for work earlier this year and I still don't have one while most of my batch mates are in good companies already. I have pending applications but these companies have yet to contact me. It's already been weeks since my initial exams and interviews not to mention I got positive feedback regarding my exams and interviews on those companies.\n\nThis is so depressing me. I mean, I'm from a top university in my country and why is this happening. (Although I pretty fucked up my grades during first half of college.)\n\nI have also withdrawn from all social networking sites because everyone's achievements or what they're up to makes me feel more down. I know I shouldn't compare my entire life to their highlights but still, I can't help but get affected. On top of these, I avoided any contact from my friends because they're all in good conditions and I'm here, feeling like I have failed so much in my life. So basically I don't have any friends I can turn on to.\n\nI'm living alone in an apartment which my parents provide for me (fuck me, right >.<). So I'm basically all alone for months already. (Although they come from time to time, and they call and text me.)\n\nSo maybe they felt how depressed I am and told me if I ever kill myself they will have it broadcasted on national TV. They know I won't like my friends and people who know me learn that I did something totally uncool. But now, I somehow think that they may grant my last request of not telling people of what I've done.", "summary": "I'm so sad and depressed and I want to kill myself but my family said they'll broadcast it on TV that's why I can't."}
{"id": "t3_1o5hg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] getting mixed signals from my friend [19 F], need some advice", "post": "I've been at college for about a month and a half now and I need some advice on a girl I like. Some background: I've never had an SO before and I've a bit of a problem with insecurity/low confidence because I'm overweight\n\nSo I met this girl about a month ago through her roommate (one of my high school friends) and I developed a crush pretty quickly. I told her my feelings about 3 weeks ago but she shot me down. I still tried to remain friends with her afterwards, though it was a bit awkward for a couple of days. \n\nHowever, last weekend we were up till 3 am on Friday and Saturday night just walking around and talking (just the two of us, usually we're with our mutual friends). We've been texting/FB messaging each other a bunch since then and I don't know what to think of it.\n\nShe's definitely more attractive than I am and I fear that I'm way more into her than she's into me.  How should I proceed?\n\nI'm afraid that if I ask her out again and she says no, I'll lose her as a friend forever. It'll also be super awkward to hang out with our mutual friends.", "summary": "Have a crush on a girl, unsure about her feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_16lr5i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you give me any tips on paying for college? It seems like its impossible.", "post": "I got accepted into Syracuse political science program with a $12k scholarship. I will also take out the federal student loan of 5,500, and the total cost of attendance at Syracuse is 57,400. This leaves my parents with almost 40,000 dollars of loans a year, as we already found out no grants would be given from the government or school. My parents make about 110,000 a year and are refusing to take out such a large loan. They recently financed my sister going through Boston University but she got a half tuition scholarship which made up the difference. I'm from Washington and would love to go to UW, but am concerned I wont get in due to my schools poor reputation. I have to respond to SU by feb 15 and am at a loss with how I can make this work. Any suggestions?", "summary": "How the fuck do I pay for college?"}
{"id": "t3_4kms2g", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Marathon training for fit athlete but inexperienced runner", "post": "Hi! This is my first time on /r/running.\n\nI've been a female (age 21) competitive rower for the past 4 years. I've recently run out of eligibility, and am looking to running for staying in some kind of decent shape. I've always wanted to run a marathon, and I think this is a prime time in my life to try. I've been looking for basic training programs online, but I can't seem to find any that would work for someone who is in good cardiovascular shape but has very little recent running training.\n\nThe training load I am used to is 11 sessions/17 hours a week of rowing/erging. 8 of these sessions are 80-100' of steady cardiovascular work (HR 140-160ish). The other 3 are speedwork (2 sessions of 5 sets of 5' on, 5' off at HR 180+, 1 session of 16x1'on, 1:30off at max speed). I am looking to run a marathon in January. I haven't run much since December (read: one 5-6 mile run every 3 weeks or so), so I don't think I can jump right into a full running schedule that an advanced runner would use, but I also need more volume to maintain fitness than a program that a beginner would use. Ideally, I want be able to run the marathon at at least an 11' mile pace (That's about 30''/mile slower than my steady pace right now). Do you have any ideas on how I could best structure my training so that I don't lose fitness as I'm increasing my running volume? Right now, I'm looking at starting out running 4 days/week, 3mi/3mi/3mi/6mi, and supplementing the shorter runs with about 30' minutes of cardio, as well as throwing in 2 extra days of cross training. I'm not sure how quickly/slowly to ramp up the running mileage.", "summary": "Ex-rower looking to run. Need a training program that a trained athlete but beginning runner can use to run a marathon in mid-January."}
{"id": "t3_1v2var", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex and I just broke up 2 weeks ago and shes in another relationship.", "post": "m/23, f/22\n\nIt's whatever. But she still has all of our pictures up on facebook while she's posting status's with him. Saying she loves him and stuff, while all of our pics are up. The same friends that like her new status's are the ones that used to like our pictures. The whole thing is pretty disgusting. \n\nI don't want to give her the satisfaction of me being angry. Does she look like more of a low life with my pictures still up? Or should I tell her to take them off out of courtesy.", "summary": "Ex gf of two weeks is all over facebooks saying she loves this guy. But my pictures are still on her page."}
{"id": "t3_2vxv3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (40M) confessed his feelings for me(22F) but is now ignoring me (dating w/mental illness)", "post": "I've been working in this company for over a year and I've made good friends within the said company. I had just moved from Jordan so I dont really have any friends besides my coworkers, I've especially developed a really good friendship with one of my bosses which I know its not a good idea but they've all welcomed me with open arms in their little group of friends.\n\n Long story short, him and I have gotten pretty close to each other, we spend most of our free time together and what not, around 2 weeks ago we had dinner at my place and he confessed that he has liked me for a long time now, I reciprocated those feelings and we kissed and ever since that happened has has given me the cold shoulder, he gradually stopped texting me like he usually does and said he was to busy to have lunch with me and even avoids me at work. He stares at me a lot tho but won't talk to me. The wife of his best friend, who is one of my best friends here is surprised that he's doing this because he confessed to her that he has had feelings for me for a long time now. I think this is a juvenile thing to do, but Im also keeping in mind that he suffers from depression and panic attacks, I've been with him during some of those and he has mentioned that I am too young to be dealing with that but I dont care.\n\n His ex wife also left him because of that and if he feels he cant be with me because of his mental illness then I dont know and basically there is nothing I can do to change his mindset that he is not worthy ( which has mentioned too). \n\nHis mental illness means nothing to me in the sense that yes, its part of him but it doesnt define him as a person, the man I love has many reediming qualities that he cant see for himself. I dont even know what to do.", "summary": "He confessed his feelings but ever since hs did he is ignoring me, he has depression and anxiety disorder"}
{"id": "t3_wrj9i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think would happen if, overnight, your country adopted a transparent \"democracy without secrets\" ? How would your general public react?", "post": "Just watched the video and read comments from this thread over in /technology. [link] I'd advise doing the same if you're interested in the subject at all.\n\nI think 0. sounds like a very interesting idea, and if commensurate laws were in place, I could imagine it being at least *theoretically* possible in a lot of countries (setting aside the likelihood that it would ever be adopted).**What do you think the net effect would be if this sort of thing opened up in your country, Reddit?** \n\nAs someone living in the US, I'm wondering particularly about the quagmire that might be created by releasing these documents without much context or spin, to a general public that may not be able to easily make sense of it (but seems to have no compunctions about retweeting misinterpretations and out of context snippets). At the same time, while I understand how governmental context and press releases are often just euphemisms for bullshitting, there are certainly situations where I can imagine some information might dispel otherwise benign misperceptions - and yet I can't fathom how the government could function if they had to contend with contextualizing this information as fast as it was being released.", "summary": "if your gov't was compelled to release all public (non-secret) docs in an easy-to-access way to all its people, what would happen?"}
{"id": "t3_25x16i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with a date [22M], mixed signals, is he into me?", "post": "We met at New Year's and got each other's numbers. He is a bit quiet/shy but followed me around the house all night, we got along because we were the only smokers at the party and had our smoke breaks together. \n\nI went away for school for four months and we never talked. Eventually I came back to my hometown where we both live. He responded to a post I made on my facebook wall inviting friends to watch Cosmos. We started chatting via text.\n\nA few days ago we watched the Canadiens v. Bruins game together, went out for drinks and had a great time. No goodnight kiss or anything, though. After, he said we should do it again some time, and that we should keep our Cosmos date.\n\nHowever, I've been inviting him out all weekend and he is always busy. Our texting is less frequent now (in general we don't click well while texting).\n\nHe seemed enthusiastic about getting together to watch Cosmos in a recent message, and even offered to fix my laptop at one point, but I've invited him out 4-5 times already and have been turned down every time. \n\nNow I feel a bit rejected and am kind of afraid to keep asking him out. I don't want to smother him. I just really dig this guy, and have better feelings about him than I've had about anyone else in almost four years. \n\nI just can't tell if he is actually into me or not. We make plans but he can't find time. I don't know if he's busy, shy, or just not feeling it.", "summary": "Guy got my number. Went on one \"date.\" We keep making plans but he doesn't have time to hang out. He's bad at texting. Not sure if he is into me."}
{"id": "t3_52s2s2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [25F] works with a guy she shared mutual feelings with in the past. Should i be worried?", "post": "So basically before we met, my girlfriend was studying to be a nurse and met a guy she liked on her course. After a few months of being on placement together she told him that she had feelings for him, however he responded by saying that he does too, but \"unfortunately\" has a girlfriend. \n\nAnyway, they have now graduated and it seems very likely that he will begin working on the same ward and she does, and I am feeling anxious that they will be seeing each other everyday, especially since they both admitted feelings for each other in the past.\n\nUp until recently they were also texting each other regularly until I said to my girlfriend the amount they were texting was making me feel uncomfortable. I believe they have now stopped texting as much now anyway. \n\nHe has also mentioned to my girlfriend that his girlfriend has annoying habits, and complains about how she is not satisfied with her job currently, and that he is only with her because she pays his rent and bills while he is studying so he can put up with her for now. \n\nMy girlfriend insists that her feelings will not return but I can't help worrying about it anyway. In fact.. this has been on my mind an awful lot recently and to be quite honest, I'm scared her feelings will return.\n\nShould I be worried? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "My girlfriend will soon be working with a guy who she shared mutual feelings with in the past."}
{"id": "t3_1ab1qc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Feeling pretty intimidated", "post": "(F/20) I'm not sure if this is the right place for this.. if not, I apologize. There's a guy (M/25) I've been interested in for quite a while. He's very smart, a physics phd student at my university, and I'm really falling for him. We're friends, and we do a lot of science-based things at our university (stargazing, looking for comet Pan-STARRS, going to free lectures, etc.). The problem is, he's about five years older than me, is somewhat intimidating (in a good way), and I feel like he wouldn't give me a chance because I'm younger. I'm going to school for Biology and I'd consider myself intelligent, but I'm not on his level. I would just like your opinions on whether or not you guys think this relationship is attainable, and how I might possibly get him to notice me as more than a friend. Any advice is welcome! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Guy I'm into is older and slightly intimidating. Trying to help him see me as more than a friend."}
{"id": "t3_ldgfm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do get an unmotivated person to become motivated??", "post": "My friend is a third year in college. He is constantly presented with opportunities to better himself, but he does not take these opportunities. I constantly present him with suggestions and ideas but it feels like I am just nagging him now, and everything that I or anyone else says ends up forgotten. When I ask him what he wants to do in the future he says that he doesn't know ( I'm wondering how long it takes to figure that out or even try new things in order to get closer to determining what he wants in his life). He is really intelligent but I feel like he is just wasting his time and not using his full potential. So those of you who used to procrastinate or were once unmotivated and changed, can you please give me suggestions that I can pass on to him, so that he does not continue to waste his time. Thanks", "summary": "suggestions on how to motivate my friend into taking more initiatives in his life"}
{"id": "t3_25c4bc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] cannot trust my girlfriend [17 F] with her male friend", "post": "So basically, my girlfriend has this male friend of 4 years that always hits on her and tells her how much he loves her, even though he knows that I'm dating her.  I told her that I don't want her talking to him anymore, but that only made her more secretive.  A couple of months ago, I was reading her texts and saw that he had grabbed her chest, so I stopped reading, confronted her, then stormed out.  Later, she told me that I have no right in reading her messages, and that I misinterpreted it, but really his brother threw him onto my girlfriend, and she hated it and cried.  She now deletes all of her texts from him.\n\nJust yesterday she promised that she never talks to him, and I pointed out that I knee she was lying, since he always ends up texting her when I am with her with questions that a person wouldn't know unless they speak often, like \"how was dinner?\" or \"did you enjoy the show?\".  She admitted that she speaks to him sometimes, since they share so many classes together, but I know it isn't true since I see them sitting together during class and her talking to a teacher with him being the only other person in the room.  He also signs onto Facebook the exact minute that she does, meaning that they are definitely talking, and they always sign off together.  I don't know what to do anymore, since I leave for college next year and she still has another year at high school with him\n Help!", "summary": "my girlfriend lies to me about speaking to a guy that likes her, and still lies when I catch her in the act."}
{"id": "t3_2paxq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So today I [17 M] was at the movies with a girl [17 F], I feel like I failed an important test.", "post": "Alright so here's a brief synopsis of what happened:\n\nI paid for her ticket, I was awkward, not going to lie. My plan was to get there early and buy our tickets and surprise her, but since she got there a few minutes after I was there, I just told her I had everything covered.\n\nWe sat for 45 minutes and talked before we went into the auditorium to watch the movie. We had a good on going convo for 45 mins. The entire time during the movie, it was just us sitting down. We talked and laughed a little bit, but I was always afraid to \"flirt\" with body language. \n\nI wanted to make moves but I just felt like she wouldn't like it, I was so afraid. After the movie ended, I walked her home and we hugged. She said it was fun. Then I went home.\n\nSo now I'm just wondering where things should be continued off of, I asked her out on a date before this and she said she wanted to get to know each other. Tbh I did learn a bit of her, just not a whole lot. We've known each other for only 6 days. Yes I know, I'm not going to ask her out on a date anytime soon, I already failed twice. So I'm going to give it more time. But what should I do next?", "summary": "Took a girl to the movies, paid for her ticket, failed miserably to communicate with body language, walked her home, hugged each other as we said goodbye, now I'm wondering what is suppose to happen next."}
{"id": "t3_45i4m7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hi, I am [15 F], my birthday was yesterday and now I want to run away from my parents [59 M/F]", "post": "Okay... my birthday was yesterday and my family bought me a watch. It is a $50 watch from Koots. At first I told them I liked it to not hurt their feelings, but I never wanted it. I'm not going to use a watch. So I asked them to return it and keep the money. But they refuse to return the watch. It's not even a fashionable watch! They say that you can't return presents but this watch can CERTAINLY be returned. I want to return this watch at all costs. They are not listening to me. I am going to threaten to run away from home if they do not return this watch. \n\nAlso: I am grateful that they bought me the watch, but the money could be better spent on other things. They should keep it rather than giving me a watch. I did not ask for a watch for my birthday - I said I did not want anything.", "summary": "This watch is the worst thing that has happened to me all year!"}
{"id": "t3_3pc4mh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Drinking Spider Flavoured Tea", "post": "This happened a few hours ago, and I am still waiting to die.\n\nSo I was drinking my usual morning cup of lemon tea. I make it without milk and add bits of ginger, basil, cardamom and a few other herbs along with the green tea leaves. After brewing, I add half a lemon's juice to it and the color turns a beautiful bright orange. The decoction is translucent. Then I let the bits settle and decant the liquid, so pieces of crushed ginger or a few leaves find their way into my cup.\n\nComing to the Fuck Up. \n\nI was happily drinking my morning tea and was halfway through my cup. The tea is translucent, so the bottom of the cup comes into view. As usual there are a bits of crushed ginger on the sea floor along with this odd round bit with strands sticking out of it. Oh wait... it looks too symmetric, I wonder. I stop and peer into the depths of my orange ocean. No it cant be ginger, it looks like a hairy pea.... but why does it have these sticks poking out of it ? 8 sticks to be exact... 8... the sacred number for the Australians and the NOPOLOGY sect. Holy crap... these are not sticks ! \n\nIts a NOPE MONSTER !!! A fucking 3 cm diameter spider that is lying dead in my cup of tea !! Flailing its dead legs in all its deadly glory. And I have been drinking its extract all along :o\n\nThere are 2 possibilities. \n1. The spider was brewed along with the tea. Yuck.... \n2. The spider was in my cup when I poured the tea (highly unlikely).\n\nSo now, I am thinking about all the corrosive spider enzymes that must be creating a havoc inside my stomach and trying to control the (psychologically induced) nausea.", "summary": "Prepared tea with dash of NOPE extract. Waiting to die"}
{"id": "t3_xy0wc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which is worse? Biking in the snow or biking in the rain?", "post": "I don't bike as often as i used to but from my experience I find biking in the rain worse. I find you get more soaked when in the rain than in snow (correct me if Im wrong). The rain hits your whole body and by thr time you reach your destination your clothes or jacket and pants are all wet.\n It's defintely doable to bike in the rain but the same cant be said for all snowy conditions.\n\nWith snow, it may just pile up on your clothes and you can easily brush it off. Your back may also get wet from potentially wet snow being flicked on to your back from your rear wheel. Now, given a temperature of 0 to -8 degrees celsius i find it's not too bad to bike. With the cardio warming me up I sometimes find it a bit warm when biking. However my face and hands do get uncomfortably cold if not covered. There sometimes are days where theres too much snowfall to bike safely eiter due to traction or visibility but thats the case when there is a snow storm. I dont think anyone in their right mind would bike in a snow storm or in a rain storm but i believe its just better to bike in the snow.", "summary": "i prefer to bike in the snow given reasonable snowy conditions because i dont get as wet."}
{"id": "t3_1bxmsk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one thing in a past/current relationship you wish you could take back?", "post": "I've actually got a couple from my one serious relationship.\n\n1) Not be the crazy, psycho immature bitch that I was.\n\n2) Not let him control my decisions or who I choose to be friends with. Yeah that's just never okay.\n\nAfter he broke up with me (best thing he could've done for us both) it made me take a look at myself and I realized I hated everything about me. I wasn't confident, I wasn't independent, and I over-analyzed everything always looking for something he was doing wrong. It wasn't cool and I understand that now, so it's my goal to stay happy and not ever be that person again.", "summary": "don't be the psycho ex-gf"}
{"id": "t3_4h2ucc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [19M] seems to be avoiding telling me he loves me", "post": "My boyfriend and I of about 6 months have a fantastic relationship and I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend, but all of a sudden today he seems to be avoiding telling me he loves me. We both frequently tell the other we love them and there hasn't been issues with it in the past, but as of the last few hours my boyfriend doesn't respond with \"I love you too\". I don't know if I'm being irrational or not. You can't stop loving someone in the course of a few hours, right? I've asked if anything was wrong and he said there wasn't, and then he left to go take a nap since he didn't sleep well the night before (which I said I love him twice before he left, which he didn't acknowledge.) I don't know what's going on and I'm really anxious about it. What should I do?", "summary": "boyfriend won't say he loves me back even though we both frequently do. I don't know what to do and I'm on the verge of a panic attack."}
{"id": "t3_2x49ko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my fianc\u00e9[26 F] of 3yrs (13y on/off), too soon for spicing it up?", "post": "**Backstory**\n\nMy fianc\u00e9 and I have been together for 13 years on and off, together the last 3, engaged for 1, living together for 1.5. She's the girl of my dreams; Mary Poppins-esque (practically perfect in every way). Sex life is top notch, as with everything else.\n\nWe've always enjoyed open conversations and discussions about sex and pretty much everything. In high school we explored some fun with other girls. My apex fantasy is a threesome, she's willing but not necessarily interested. Her's is light BDSM. Recently I've begun doing some research into ways to indulge her fantasy because, why not? There are no problems in our sex lives and enjoy it 3-4 times a week, maybe more. I'm not doing it to fix anything, but simply because its something she is interested in. We have also discussed satisfying my threesome fantasy, but that's much more difficult to facilitate.\n\nI frequently see people looking to \"spice up\" or \"rekindle\" a relationship/sex life that has diminished or fallen flat. Sometimes it seems to work, others not. There isn't to a reason to improve things, we're both fully satisfied in every way, other than the typical desire to receive more oral sex.\n\n**Question**\n\nCan it be too early to spice things up? Is it better to wait till things fall from a 10 to a 7 before trying to build it back to a 10 **OR** turn the amp up to 11? Could I just be raising the bar which would make it difficult to reach later?", "summary": "Fantastic relationship in every way. Too soon for spice?"}
{"id": "t3_1qujrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32F] asked my partner [36 M] to move out due to ex issues. I feel terrible as he has otherwise been an amazing boyfriend but I can't live with this anymore.", "post": "My partner of 4 years saw me through some horrific circumstances (major operation and a year of being bed bound) and was a great boyfriend in general. Nice, attentive, giving, always there. Had I not had it we may have not become so close - the operation brought us together more than anything. \n\nBut I just can not get past the fact that his ex is still constantly in the picture due to a mutual child. She is horrible and manipulative and has never worked a day in her life and sucks him dry of money and energy\n. \n\nThe child was an accident - he never wanted it, but is far too a nice guy to not give his child everything since she isn't willing to work - despite the child being over 10 the ex is still not working and never has in her life. She knows hes such a nice guy that he will just pay for everything as he wouldnt let his child go without a home / food / school / etc.  (I also often think she does this deliberately to sabotage any chances of him moving on with someone else)  \n\nWe never have time or money to do anything together because she is always there asking for handouts.  He works overtime to pay for her flat, school, and general living as well as his own. I pay for everything for us - rent, bills, food, holidays (because otherwise he would never have any money!) which is starting to really get to me - I feel this is never going to end.\n\nI feel awful because he has been there for me in a time of crisis and is really struggling now to make ends meet. I can't however escape the thought of inadvertently paying for her to sit around at home and take his money. I feel I can't continue seeing him if I ever want a normal life. \n\nSince him moving out I feel much better but he really struggles as ex is still sitting around at home doing nothing and he now has to pay for two flats. \n\nAm I being unreasonable? He has been amazing to me. But this frustrates me to no end and really embitters our relationship.", "summary": "Ex amazing, saw me through a terrible year, but had to separate due to ex partner not pulling her weight"}
{"id": "t3_2oirte", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Haven't felt this low in a long time", "post": "About 4 years to be exact.  The last time I was in a serious relationship.  After that relationship, which led to depression and a large weight gain, I played it safe and didnt allow myself to have serious feelings toward anyone.  I turned it around about two years after that relationship ended, pulled myself out of depression and lost a ton of weight.  And for the past half year, I have never felt better and more confident in myself.  But I felt something was missing.  I missed having a deep connection that I could share with someone.  And about two months ago, I started talking to a girl who I finally felt comfortable stepping out into the dating world with.   Things were seemingly going fine, until she told me tonight that she did not think it would work out between us.  The very first person who I take a chance on in four years... and now here I am again, feeling like utter shit.  Maybe I am too intense? Maybe I am not meant for this type of shit? i dont know what to do now or where to go.  I miss being with her already", "summary": "punishing my liver tonight."}
{"id": "t3_122fzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help Girl [16F] is hospitalized for cutting herself, I [17M] don't know what to do.", "post": "We have been very close friends for two years. She had a boyfriend during this time. This made things get complicated this year when we ended up falling for each other. We had a fling for a week, before the boyfriend found out and she felt really guilty and stopped. She cut herself numerous times for that. We tried to remain just friends, but couldn't let go of the feelings. Yesterday she broke up with her boyfriend, asked me out, and kissed me. Then I got a message at 1 last night saying she was on her way to the hospital for cutting herself. I'm scared, I don't know what to do. Please help. I'll do anything for her, even if it means breaking up. I should probably add that she was my first kiss during the fling we had.", "summary": "I'm scared and confused that she is cutting herself and is hospitalized for it"}
{"id": "t3_32m1gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 F] never thought I would cheat on someone, let alone someone I love [29 M] and still want to marry [4 years].", "post": "It initially felt like something that happened to me, but I realize now that it was something I did. Regardless of (or because of?) innocent intentions, it was too late before I realized the steep, slippery slope we were on, and at that point, I just didn't care. I even started rationalizing it: why am I expected to only have feelings for one person? I'm a dynamic living being with different connections to other living beings; why does society limit our definition of a functional relationship? Of course, I had committed to my partner, not society, so I know that my logic was flawed...\n\nEven though I'm happy with my partner and we're working hard to get through my fuck-up, I wish I could see him one last time. Or at least talk to him. Whatever it was that we were doing was never going to last forever, but the way it all ended felt so abrupt and forced (because it was...), and now it's just over. \"Closure\" seems like such a meaningless word, but I can feel the lack of it.\n\nWe haven't seen or spoken to each other in months, but he makes it into my thoughts almost daily. I understand needing to cut things off completely for the sake of my relationship, but it's harder than I ever imagined. How can I reconcile my feelings of loss surrounding the affair with my love for my partner?", "summary": "I cheated on my partner; he found out. I feel like I need closure on the affair but don't know how to get it."}
{"id": "t3_135p7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cut my hand recently and can't use my right hand ring-finger as well now, what little things do you take for granted or stories to share?", "post": "Here's the story, I'm a bartender and am constantly around broken glass and knives, so it's bound to happen sooner or later, but I ended up catching a broken bottle and nicked a tendon in my palm.  The tendon wasn't severed, but was cut enough to hinder my dexterity and strength.  When I cut it, I was working in a high volume club at the time so taking time out to clean up was rough, people asking for drinks, scowling because I wasn't helping them... So I ended up cleaning it, spreading super glue over the cuts,  wrapping my hand with tape and putting a surgical glove on and going back to work.  The adrenaline was enough, I guess, to keep the pain away until I actually made it into the ER six hours later.  (I know, I know, that's a long time, but I couldn't leave my friends in the trenches of a Saturday night bar war.)  Ended up getting some stitches and a ridiculous amount of gauze to keep my hand wrapped up.  Fast-forward to a little over a month later and I still have trouble gripping and moving it.", "summary": "Caught a broken SKYY bottle now I can't \"live long and prosper.\""}
{"id": "t3_135bos", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "PNC Opted me into Overdraft Protection against my  will, do I have recourse?", "post": "So I opened a joint checking account at a grocery store PNC location about a month ago. I specifically told them I did not want over draft protection (I know I did this, I have been opting out of over draft since I was 20, back when you actually had to opt out). I was not required to sign anything to the affect of opting out or into over draft protection.\n\nMy girlfriend used the card that was connected to that account incorrectly (she got her cards confused) a few times, and suddenly I have $200 worth of over draft charges. The people at 2 branches (I had to go to a real branch to close my accounts) told me they could only take care of 2 of the over draft charges. The actual bank branch tells me that the grocery store location always opts you in to over draft protection even if you say you don't want it (they informed me the grocery store locations never ask people if they want over draft protection, they simply give it to them). I fully believe this, as this is the third checking account I've opened with them, and they did the same thing to the first two (even though I specifically told them each time I wanted the transactions to decline, I'm very adamant about this). In the past they had simply said it was an error, corrected my account and refunded me the money.\n\nI believe the practice they have going on is in violation of the Overdraft Protection Act, or some such named law that passed around 2010 or so. They made it so banks have to opt-out customers unless they specifically opt-in (previously they just never said anything about it, and you were opted in by default). I'm however sucking at finding things on google about the specific law. I find lots of people talkinga bout it, but nobody calling it by it's name that I can find the text of.\n\nDoes anyone have more information on this? I know the general advise might be to lawyer up, but the amount is small so lawyer fees wouldn't make it worth while. It would be something I'm assuming I'd have to deal with in small claims court.", "summary": "Stay away from grocery store PNC banks when opening accounts. They sign you up for $36 over draft fees, even if you tell them not to."}
{"id": "t3_13lleb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Been home for like MAYBE 2 hours for Thanksgiving and already done goofed. What is the dumbest thing you have ever said to your parents?", "post": "For me it was about five minutes ago. I am a college freshman who has been trying to get a prescription for adderall or vyvanse (ADD meds) and my step mother said that she does not even think I need them and don't need to waste time getting tested. I said yes, I do and that it would really help me with my grades. She said, \"No you don't. You had a rough start to college but after your first set of tests you showed great improvement, it just took time to adjust to college.\" To which I replied with the dumbest thing ever without thinking, \"*That's because I've been buying the drugs from my friends!", "summary": "Have no clue where I was going with the completely flawless argument of, I have been illegally buying these drugs so get me a prescription for it!"}
{"id": "t3_d0j7e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Polygraph help? I have a job interview coming up where I need to take one and I have no idea what they're even going to ask me.", "post": "I'm just curious really. I don't want to walk in there with no clue what to expect. I've never been arrested or committed a terrible crime but I did experiment with substances when I was younger (21 and under and I'm 25 now but from what I hear it's all yes/no questions and you can't explain your answers). I'm assuming it will be stuff like \"Have you ever stolen from a company?\" or \"Have you ever breached secure information?\" but honestly I have no clue I've never had one. If any of you have ever had one I'd appreciate some info so I can at least know what I'm getting myself into.", "summary": "I want to know what a Polygraph is like so I won't be so freaked out and nervous about mine since I know nothing about them."}
{"id": "t3_4mlixd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [18M] 1 month, what are good date ideas that will help us get to know each other?", "post": "Hi!!\n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month yet. We both attend the same college, but are home for the summer and only have an opportunity for a few short visits. We're handling long distance pretty good right now, so I'm starting to think ahead to when we'll be back together in September. \n\nI don't have a lot of relationship experience so I don't really know what you're suppose to do in relationships! Could I get some good college date ideas? We've already got watching movies together covered, and I want to cook for him, but I also need some ideas of stuff to do outside of dorms and apartments. Preferably cheaper ideas because we're on a limited income. We haven't been dating that long, so we're still in that getting-to-know-each-other phase. While movies are fun, they're not very personal! I'm looking for some ideas that would also help us connect to the other. \n\nAlso, one issue I've always had with guys I like is finding stuff to talk about. He's kinda a quiet person, which I like (I've always preferred quiet guys). How do people in relationships keep finding things to talk about? We talk very well once we get started on a conversation, but I feel like I have a hard time thinking of things to talk about. (Side note, it's not just with him, I have a hard time having conversations with people in general. Especially people that I know well--it's like once someone is my friend, we run out of stuff to talk about. This has happened in many friendships and even happens with my parents.)", "summary": "I want to keep getting to know my boyfriend and spending lots of time with him. What are some good date ideas that will help us to keep getting to know each other, or that are just fun? Also, what are some good conversation topics (or ways to think of conversation topics)?"}
{"id": "t3_2wrqsw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26M) girlfriend (25F) wants space after 2 months", "post": "So I'm not sure what to do here.. any advice would be really \n\nhelpful. Basically, I've been seeing this girl for two months. We \n\nmet and clicked and for the last two months it's been constant \n\ntexting and dating. We've gotten really close in that time- it's the \n\nclosest I've gotten to anyone in years. I've had 6-12 month \n\nrelationships where I didn't have the same level of connection. \n\nAbout 2 weeks in, she wanted to be monogamous. About 4 weeks \n\nin, she wanted to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk- to make it \n\nofficial. A couple of days ago she said she had a long conversation\n\n with her family about me. I've met her friends. So.. I'm thinking\n\n this is headed in a great direction. I really like her- she's smart, \n\npretty, open, we have great conversations. I can see she feels the\n\n same way. Yesterday she called me and said she could do lunch,\n\n that she needs a break. She's not ready for a relationship- that it's \n\ntoo much time..it's distracting. She hasn't had time for friends, or \n\nwork, or exercise. We're both busy people with busy careers- so I \n\ncan understand. We left it:\n\n\"I.. just need a break for a couple of weeks\"\n\n\"Ok.. so do you want me to call/text at all?\"\n\n\"No.. I just need space.\"\n\n\"Ok.. I hope it all gets better.\"\n\nOr something like that. Honestly my head was spinning. So I don't\n\n really know what to do. On one hand I don't want to just give up. \n\nKnowing her, I could see her waiting for some gesture from me. \n\nOn the other hand, maybe I just need to walk away from it and \n\ngive her her space. Do you have any advice?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 months pushes for relationship, get it, feels "}
{"id": "t3_3bteg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] messed up my one year anniversary with my girlfriend [18 F]", "post": "I am currently traveling in California, and my girlfriend lives in Minnesota. I was in San Jose the past few days; today I traveled to LA by plane. In San Jose, I did not have WiFi at my hotel, so all our communication was by text and Facebook messenger (her parents are a bit extreme so she can't talk on the phone).\n\nWe were talking yesterday on Facebook, and our anniversary is today. I didn't think of our anniversary until this morning, and I decided that telling her over the phone or skype would be best. We talked a bit throughout the day through text, and neither of us mentioned the anniversary. I wasn't able to skype or call her due to our schedules until about 4:00 pm Pacific time. \n\nJust as I was going to ask her to skype, one of her friends texted me telling me that she was sad about me forgetting about the anniversary. I explained to him that I just wanted to make things more meaningful by telling her over the phone/Skype. I then messaged her on Facebook asking her if she could Skype. She then accused me of forgetting about the anniversary. I explained my thinking, but she doesn't believe me. Now she doesn't seem to want to talk to me at all today.\n\nWhat can I do to make this better? How should I proceed? I just feel really bad if I messed up and made her sad. My intentions were only good. Thanks for the help.", "summary": "I messed up my one year anniversary by deciding not to mention it prior to trying to call my girlfriend late in the day. Now I am trying to make things better, but she doesn't want to talk. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_14qqmk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I (27m) demand my GF (21f) to get an STD test?", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. She's had sex since the last time she was tested. I always use protection but I still asked her to get tested about a month and a half into being exclusive. She still hasn't done it. I've been tested after my last sexual relationship and I've even shown her the results.\n\nShe's in school still and a bit strapped for cash so I've even offered to pay. She's keeps saying she will go but keeps procrastinating. I know things are really hectic for her right now trying to find a new place to rent and finals to study for, but I feel like squeezing in a test isn't unreasonable.\n\nI would rather not ask about her sexual past as I tend to get jealous and over think things when I hear about past experiences. So I figured she could just get the test and I could move on. \n\nIs it too much for me to demand she does it immediately?", "summary": "GF had sex after last being tested but is procrastinating to do it again. Can I demand she does it immediately?"}
{"id": "t3_4ujoeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] will be a wedding singer at ex-fiance's [22M] family member's wedding..", "post": "We were engaged for a while, I realized that I wasn't ready for that kind of commitment, we both kind of were hesitant to break up with each other but I was pretty toxic to us both so we officially broke up in May. He found a rebound relationship a month afterward. He's going to be there with his girl, and I'll be the wedding singer. \n\nI wasn't the best fianc\u00e9 or girlfriend ever. He was 100% dedicated to us working and I was always on the fence about us. He has cried oceans because of my ungrateful behavior before. That part is what kills me. I don't want to go and show up if he's truly happy and ruin that for him. I feel I've done enough damage. But my vengeful side wants to go in a killer dress and sing the hell out of that place and leave with a fat smile across my face.  \n\nI need advice. I haven't seen him since our breakup or haven't spoke to him, and I kind of been in the hopes of getting back together. I don't know how I'll react. Has anyone been in similar situations?", "summary": "EX IS GONNA BE AT SAID WEDDING WITH NEW GF.."}
{"id": "t3_3w6i6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with my mum [39/F], the light bill's in my name but I want to move out. How do I go about that without her freaking out?", "post": "So, my mum is kinda bad with money. Like, really, REALLY bad with money. She is hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt thanks to an old house she bought and then stopped paying for completely, and she owes pretty much every company you could possibly think of more money than I can fathom. \n\nWe moved out of our house a year ago and into a tiny apartment when the house finally got repossessed. Since my mum owed the electric company several hundred dollars, she convinced me to put the bill in my name, even though I had no job at the time. She said it would help me build credit and that she'd make sure it got paid on time, so, being just barely 18 and stupid, I believed her. \n\nRecently, things have gotten pretty bad at our house, with her letting my older brother move in and live for free and pretty much trash the place, and since I have a job now I was considering trying to get my own place. There's also the matter of her starting to get behind on payments, no matter how much I give her from my paychecks, so I'm worried about her racking up debt on me. I just was wondering, what should I do about the lights? And how would I bring it up to her? She gets a bit vicious at even the slightest mention of me being independent (she flipped when she heard I would start paying for my dogs' food) so I was wondering what the best way to broach the subject would be, if at all?", "summary": "Mom convinced me to put light bill in my name, started goofing up again, want to move out but don't really know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1sb0k2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Had a feeling girlfriend was lying to me, but I looked through her phone while she was sleeping, and found out I was correct", "post": "Okay so my girlfriend said she had stopped smoking weed. She gets tested, and I basically was trying to guide her to make the right decision. I caught her once before, and she told me she would never do it again. A couple nights ago she went to her friends house with her friends (all if whom smoke weed), and told me she wasn't going to. \n\nI'm not really proud of it, but she was asleep and I looked through her phone and low and behold, she was talking about getting stoned. How do I confront her about this without hinting towards me doing what I did to find out?", "summary": "gf said she stopped smoking weed, looked through her phone, ended up she was still smoking. how do I confront her without giving up what I did?"}
{"id": "t3_550w2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Friend? [18 F] a month, just curious on what yall think.", "post": "So there is this Girl I am going to school with and she's interesting, I enjoy talking to her, and hanging out with her pretty often. we flirt and its kind of obvious and like hold on to each other while watching tv sitting or laying down. But the fact that neither of us are sure what we are looking for and that I don't have the time to commit to someone makes for an interesting dynamic. I have conflicted feelings because I do like her but I dont know what to do with that. So far ive just been kind of backing off and trying to talk to other people but its hard to meet new people during the exams this week. Im thinking about just stopping the flirting and what not because Im not sure what I want, and I know her opinion. what do yall think?", "summary": "There is this girl I go to school with and I don't know whether I should stop this in between flirting and just friends thing going on, or try to pursue it further."}
{"id": "t3_3ww9lo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me 27m be a kind supporter of my 25f ex who is clingy.", "post": "My ex, lets call her Jade, text me out of the blue a few weeks ago desperately trying to get heavily involved in my life. This is after not speaking with her for a year and a half. We 'dated' about nine years ago. She is a sweet person and very intelligent (in a sense) who just doesn't want to feel pain anymore.\n\nJade was sexually abused as a child and lived in a dysfunctional family. Her mom has her own issues she passed on, her step dad is a total dick. Mom was with him because hes financially stable, step dad in it because she is pretty meat. When I knew Jade, she was anorexic, popping pills,  and over trusting/ constantly being taken advantage of. Certainly, she struggled with this before and after I was apart of her life. \n\nShe quit pills, and now is unemployed. I am worried about her. She is in a rural area, little support system, and suffering from a condition that will fuse her spine. She is already damaged goods and now her conditions are stacked against her.\n\nI was always gave her unconditional love and support. We fooled around but we always had the base friendship that I think was sincere and nourishing. It was truly the only happy and functioning fwb situation I've been in. Now we live far away from each other. I have a career and I'm buying a house. I have my own issues to deal with. I don't know how to communicate this, to counter her very forward advances, without having her respond by shutting down. I know there is only so much one can do, but I'm hoping that Jade and I can talk as friends without putting so much pressure on us.", "summary": "My ex is suffering from poor circumstances and I want to support her without creating codependency."}
{"id": "t3_3bxq9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F22] feel like I can't do anything right when I'm around my brother [M33]", "post": "We grew up financially struggling a bit, and we were both raised in not the best of environments since we were both kids. We're very different though. He's a perfectionist and I'm more messy and a bit of a klutz.\n\nI'm staying with him over the summer and on top of missing all of my friends, I have no one I can really talk to. (All of his friends and his wife are much older than me). I game a little bit with my friends (it helps me relieve stress) but he doesn't like it when I game - he thinks it's a waste of time. \n\nAnyway, he's a really good brother to me, but he criticizes a lot of what I do and my \"messiness\". I clean up after myself and I try not to leave things behind but his cleanliness is on another level that I can't really match up to it. I don't know if I'm getting over emotional about this. I'm also kind of clumsy and I run into things or hurt myself or break things occasionally, and he always gets fed up when it happens. Also he's a workaholic and I'm much more chill about things. I dunno, I'm the top of my class when I'm at school but I feel like this is kind of like summer vacation for me so I should relax at least a little bit. I get work done when I'm over here but just not to the extent of working 24/7.", "summary": "I don't know if I'm overreacting when my brother keeps criticizing the way I do things. He's a great person, but we're very different. I always feel insecure and like I'm not good enough when he criticizes me."}
{"id": "t3_3kogwh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please give me advice I feel like I'm[M/23] losing it over my ex[M/22] and I don't know what to do!", "post": "My ex and I were together for 2.5 years in a LDR. He was my first love. I thought things were going great until I found out he had an emotional affair with a mutual friend. He told me he still loved me but wanted to be in a relationship with the both of us. I told him no and we ended up breaking it off. He essentially left me for this other guy so its been a double blow to my self esteem.\n\nI've been doing No Contact for about 2 weeks now and I've been browsing this reddit for anything that could help me. Well, today I had a moment of weakness and looked at his social media. Yep, now I feel even worse. I know that was a huge mistake and I knew checking it would be bad and I did it anyway. I feel like such an idiot. I don't know what to do. I know I have to maintain No Contact to get over this but it feels like its been the roughest two weeks of my life. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Can anyone give me some advice on this? I feel so emotionally bankrupt.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 2.5 years left me for someone else, I feel like I'm losing it. Did No Contact for 2 weeks and today I checked his social media and now I feel even worse."}
{"id": "t3_fuqi6", "subreddit": "self", "title": "It finally happened..", "post": "I had been waiting for it to happen for a while now, but the timing was never right. I had let the pressure build up inside me for way too long, longer than I care to admit. I was nervous to do it around other people, for fear that they would judge me. The feeling churned inside me like a whirlwind. I decided I wanted to relish the moment and do it under the right circumstances - it had been building up too long to just let it pass in a traditional fashion. My time was getting near; I could feel it. I pulled off my shoes, crawled into bed, raised my legs above my head, and let out the loudest, gnarliest fart of my young adult life.", "summary": "I farted."}
{"id": "t3_20xguq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] should I consider contacting my ex[21F] after 3 months no contact", "post": "My girlfriend of two years broke up with me in November after about a month of being on and off. She claimed we were just at different parts in our lives, and although she loved me, we were just not living in the same context. Even though I was willing to do whatever I could to stay together It didnt matter. I tried to keep in touch for a little while, mainly because of the pain I was going through, but finally cut her off after I had found out she began seeing a friend that I had concerns about during the relationship. \n\nIve spent the last 3 months focusing purely on myself, I have been romantic with other girls but it has only made my feelings worse. In general I am much happier with my self now then I was during, and even before the breakup, but in my eyes, despite that I have hated her, the only person I could ever be with. \n\nI know that any contact with her would be terrible for my mental health at this stage, but I am curious if any one here has rekindled a relationship, and if at any point I should consider contacting her. And if so under what terms.", "summary": "I got dumped, miss her, but still love her, should I ever contact her"}
{"id": "t3_2xyesm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my crush [18 M], deciding", "post": "Last night, some mutual people came over who knows the 18-year-old crush. The people who also knows the guy were telling me how the 18-year-old really likes me and wants to date me, I'm not just for a hook up. I said I only talk to people who I know who are only into me and aren't dating multiple people. I don't know who else he is talking to in his free time. Also, for safety reasons as well which is why I stick to one person who sticks around. I don't hook up with multiple people at a time, not because I'm necessarily \"jealous.\"\n\nWhen I'm into someone, I'm only into one person and interested in dating one person during a time frame whether it works out or not. Even if it's unofficial, I still stay loyal to a person and I'd like the same loyalty back. Still waiting for a person who gets me in that way.\n\nI made it clear to all of them I am not looking for a fling no matter what age it is. I am looking for a boyfriend. Although he is younger than my preferred age range, if he for real shows me he's going to treat me well and not play games, I could possibly give him a chance.\n\nI've specifically said if he can handle me not wanting to hook up or do anything but hang out as friends until I am comfortable with him, that may be a possibility.\n\nNo one's biting anywhere who I'm interested in that I've decided I don't know what to do anymore, give people a chance who are interested in me who I'm not exactly interested in yet?", "summary": "No one I am interested in ever shows any signs that they want to work things out. They give up when things get slightly difficult. The only people who have showed me who would put in the real efforts are people I wasn't exactly interested in at first."}
{"id": "t3_46zhqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] just found out my boyfriend [28m]used to fuck our roommate [28f]", "post": "Together 2 years.  Our lease ended in December and my boyfriend and I decided we were going to get a roommate to save money.  He mentioned that his friend, let's call her Katy, recently bought a house and was looking to rent a room out. So we've been there for 3 months.\n\nTonight I mentioned to him that he should get me a vibrator. He mentioned that they were really expensive, and how Katy's old boyfriend spent like 100 bucks on one for her. I asked him why the hell does Katy tell you about her sex toys, and he said because they used to hook up and he used it on her.\n\nWhat the fuck?? So he suggested we move in with his OLD FUCK BUDDY? I told him I was so angry, and how disrespectful that was to have me move in here without telling me, and that I don't even want him hanging out alone with old fuck buddies let alone living with them. \n\nHe said I was overreacting and he just saw it as a cheap place to live, and I said I think I at least deserve an apology. He said \"the way you're berating me is not conducive to an apology.\"  I haven't spoken to him in a day.  I mean I think this is chocolate and a hand written card level fucked up. What the fuck do i do. Am I overreacting? I'm so pissed.", "summary": "boyfriend had us move in with a girl he used to fuck without telling me, and thinks I should apologize for getting angry. I'm livid, and I'm hurt.\""}
{"id": "t3_2gbg9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] excision to this grown man [45?] that I'm not interested.", "post": "I recently hooked up with one of my old managers from work.  He always tried to have sex with me. I had a bf at the time and he was about to have his 3rd child so the opportunity never came up. He's single btw. \n\nRecently I ran into him and the topic came up. I'm single now so it's not a big deal. A weak goes by and I get a crazy text from his babies mom. Asking me all of these questions. I explained that Tom told me they weren't together and will never be together. I texted him pretty much saying wtf. He told me to chill and that he'd handle it. \n\nI went grocery shopping after work last week and I saw him again. He said I looked amazing and that I should come over. I was desperate and dumb so I agreed. The sex wasn't bad but it wasn't great. I left regretting it. \n\nSince then he won't stop messaging me. Song me tu help him finish this wine and smoke a bowl. The other day he asked me to come over and I did I couldn't. He messaged me again, and I didn't respond. Then he called me. I had to tell him I didn't want to come over three times. \n\nI recently was going through a hard time. I told him I need to get my life together before I saw anyone. I told him I'd let him know when I was avaliable. He had mashed me twice since. I can't stand it. I told him no strings attached and that this was strictly casual. What can I do to get him to stop?", "summary": "I hooked up with an older man and now he won't leave me alone."}
{"id": "t3_g4ag5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "the shy runner", "post": "Hi guys, nice to meet you. I want to get into running but have a few questions. I will read the stuff on the sidebar soon but was just hoping if you have any quick thoughts you'd like to share I'd appreciate it.\n\nI keep putting it off because I am one of those funny-looking-running guys, like you see on the side of the road while you're driving and you point and show your girlfriend \"Hey, look at him running with t-rex arms\". But anyway I'll get over it soon.\n\nThe thing is I've been really sedentary the last couple years. I work from home so it's really just - sit at computer, sleep in bed, go grocery shopping. I have gotten no exercise AT ALL and I have that holocaust victim body type (well, with some belly fat- and yeah I know, total chick magnet) so if I need to worry about my heart exploding from over exertion please tell me. \n\nThe other question I had was if those curved running shoes are worth getting, or are they a sham? I dunno, I see them at the mall, the bottom of them is almost circular.\n\nI used to like running as a kid, you know us humans can't fly around but the closest we can get on our own is that nice feeling you get as you're running along at a brisk pace. \n\nHmm some other things.. I just want to do this for recreation, I don't want to make it a science. I also have asthma, right now walking up a slight incline is pretty exhausting. I have a bad back too. I want to make sure I start running safe especially because I have no health insurance. I'm 30 and 5'10, 165 lbs and will be running in a city environment.\n\nok thanks!", "summary": "Runs with T-Rex arms. Needs super-beginner advice. Is a really nice guy."}
{"id": "t3_5588t0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [M/22] in medical school and need to start thinking about the future but I worry the girl I am with [F/23] isn't the one. I don't want to make a mistake.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little bit over a year now. In the beginning things were pretty good but I never really thought that it would last that long. We enjoy doing a lot of the same things and get along well but there are some pretty big issues that I haven't been able to get over. She's not the most intelligent at times and I can't have as in depth of a conversation as I would like. She lacks rational and is still somewhat immature, as are her parents so I don't think it will get better. I have just started medical school and am meeting a lot of other future doctors who I can connect with on a different level. It has opened my eyes up to some of the things that I could be missing. I can't help but get the feeling that I can have a great time with her but I could be having a better time with others that I have more similarities with. The problem is I HATE hurting people. She is very attached to me and I am to her but I just don't want to end up marrying someone that I would regret marrying and it end up in a divorce or unhappy marriage for the both of us. I don't know what to do. We really only argue about her not getting to spend enough alone time with me and part of the problem is I don't want to spend as much alone time with her. She also have very high anxiety that was worse until she got on medication but it is still somewhat severe and it causes me stress when I am trying to just pass my board exams. Sometimes I feel as though I would do better in school if I was with someone less needy. I feel like I'm in an impossible situation. I don't want to end up with her but I also don't want to hurt her. What should I do?", "summary": "I'm in medical school and need to start thinking about marriage but I worry the girl I am with isn't the one. I don't want to make a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_48htyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19/F] go about telling my parents [40s] I'm not religious?", "post": "I have never been religious. I've always gone through the motions and pretend to be Christian because I don't want to disappoint my parents. It has been really difficult for me to pretend to be something I am not, and I feel like my parents and I aren't very close as a result. \n\nI'm still living at home right now, but I am planning on going to university next year. The university is about a 6 hour drive from where I am now. My parents aren't planning on helping out with the cost of university or rent. Since rent is so expensive, my boyfriend [19/M] of two years and I were planning on sharing a room and splitting the cost. Obviously my parents aren't going to be okay with any of this, so I need to figure out how to tell them the best way possible. I have to tell them soon, because my boyfriend and I need to go visit the city to visit the houses, meet our roommates, sign lease agreements, ect. \n\nI'm at a loss for how to tell my parents. I love them dearly, and except for their religious beliefs they have been great parents. I know they'll be very disappointed and upset with my choices but how can I tell them without ruining out relationship?", "summary": "How do I tell my extremely religious parents that I'm not religious and that I'm planning on moving in with my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_366nc5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not pushing the front door closed all the way", "post": "So we have some chickens that we let roam our yard. We also learned our dogs will totally kill and eat them some chickens, so we've been extra vigilant about keeping them separated. Well fiance comes home, been sexting all day, and we proceed to jump each others' bones when she gets walks in. I half ass push the front door open and we proceed upstairs to sexy times. About 5-6 min later right as I'm about to get my swerve on, we hear the dogs get in to a fight. I immediately knew what was going on. Ran downstairs to 2 dead chickens in my living room and 3 dogs having a standoff over them. Guess the wind pushed the front door open enough for them to wedge their way out and have some chicken snacks. RIP Pikachu and Henrietta", "summary": "Cock blocked by some chicks dying."}
{"id": "t3_24jqn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] was unwillingly kissed at a bar.. Now what?", "post": "Hey /r/relationships .. I've been a long time lurker, and now it's my turn to ask your advice!\n\nMy SO [19M] and I have been together for just over two years now. I love him dearly - he's the center of my world, and he knows it! :)\n\nFirst, a little background - We are currently long distance (about an hour apart) and we are in a very secure and happy relationship. My SO has particular insecurities, especially that I wasn't a virgin when we started dating, and he was (and no longer is). He also believes that he is the \"reacher\" in our relationship, and I the \"settler\", for reasons that I cannot comprehend. While he knows I'm not going anywhere, he believes I could have any guy I want at will -_-\n\nBecause of the distance, he can be jealous when I get hit on by other men - I don't even bat an eyelash at any other guy, and my SO knows this, but tonight at the bar (I was with my girlfriends and he was not there) an old friend from high school came up, and as we were talking (he was very drunk, but as I was the DD I was sober), he leaned over and kissed me. No lingering, just a peck on the lips, and I pulled away immediately (but not fast enough apparently).\n\nI've only just managed to convince my SO that I don't get hit on that often (and I really don't believe I do) and I'm not sure how to tell him this happened without increasing his insecurities and negativity towards himself. I've only just managed to help his self esteem - and now this.\n\nAm I making it a bigger deal than it needs to be? Should I even tell him?", "summary": "I have been with my SO for years and was kissed (unwillingly) at a bar, do I tell him it happened?"}
{"id": "t3_1zsitn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] am casually dating a [21 F] for 3 months and she told me she sees dead people. How do I respond?", "post": "So I meet this girl at school and we go on a few dates. I'm a non-theist by the way while she's not sure what she is. During a conversation about the supernatural, she mentions she sees ghosts. I inquire, and it's not that she believes in ghosts, she actually seems them. They know she can see them sometimes and they try to get things out of her. My fear is schizophrenia, or I don't know what.\n\nMy response, maybe not the best one but honest, was to suggest she sees an psychologist. She admitted she wouldn't because they'd think she's crazy. Instead she went to see an \"expert\" who knew about her problem.\n\nWhile we get along great in everything besides this, I find this to be a red flag. What do I say or ask? How do I tackle this situation? Is there something I can do or do I run?", "summary": "Dating a girl who said she can see dead people and I'm at a loss with what to say or do."}
{"id": "t3_26qs2e", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Can you guys please help with my social anxiety?", "post": "Hey, Redditors and thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post.\n\nSo, first of all, a little about me. I'm a rising senior at a fairly large public school. People consider me a nerd, which I don't take any offense since it means that I do well in school. I don't have that many friends; I have to hope that there's a club meeting or something to keep me busy at our hour lunch. I mean, I have a few friends, but I don't have anyone to hang out with.\n\nSo today there was a luncheon and ceremony for students who are top 1% and 2% of our class, and I was supposed to go. I bought a nice suit, slick shoes, and got a haircut. Nice. The ceremony was in the library, and as soon as I walked in, I freaked out. There was a lot of people, whom I knew but didn't talk to. I felt like if I walked in there, I would sit alone, like the loser that I am. I bolted out of there. I tried to come in, but was like \"Nope, nope...\". \n\nI really wanted to go. It was a big honor, I had gotten dressed up, and there was food. But no. I didn't go in. I drove myself home, crying to myself, and listening to \u00c9dith Piaf's *Non, Je Ne Regrette Rien*. I feel kind of depressed, and kind of worried that I'll behave like this in this summer program in the summer that I'm attending. \n\nAny words of encouragement or advice? Thanks a lot.", "summary": "Going to ceremony to receive recognition. Panicked because there was a lot of people. Didn't go."}
{"id": "t3_t4669", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My great aunt may be getting drugged by her friend. Need some help.", "post": "Okay so this has been going on for about a year now. My great aunt Kathy made a new friend named Cici. Well Cici comes with her to our Christmas party and starts to command her to do stuff, like, I dont know how to explain it but she seems to be telling her common sense stuff. My mother has been stressing this out with my aunts about how terrible it is and I just kind of shrugged it off. My mom told me that Cici is trying to get control over some financial business of hers. A couple of days ago, my great aunt got in a wreck and had to get a rental car. She arrived at the post office to get her mail and started asking questions about where the post office was and where she got her mail, although she has always gotten her mail from the exact same post office in the same place. So after they get Kathy's mail. Cici directs Kathy to the rental car's passanger side and tells her, \"okay, Kathy, this is the seatbelt, and it is going to go over you and make a clicking sound.\"  After hearing that from my mom, I couldnt bear it. I'm only 16 so there's no much I can do, and I know that Reddit usually helps out a lot with family matters, and I really want to help my mother and her sisters solve this crisis that's been going on. Cici never lets Kathy have any family over and yells at Kathy's sister (my other great aunt), for trying to take her away from Cici. I need your help and so does my family. I probably have left out a good chunk of information, but I can't think of it all off the top of my head.", "summary": "Friend of great aunts may be getting drugged into doing things she wouldnt normally do.  Friend pushes family away. Friend tries to get control over financial things. Help."}
{"id": "t3_35ntb5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [20M] asked for an open relationship while he's travelling Europe for the next 4 months and I agreed.", "post": "My boyfriend is on a 4 month trip to Europe (2 weeks in) and said that he feels like he can't really experience everything while he is in a strict relationship. We talked about it and decided to open our relationship up while he's over there (with some guidelines).\n\nI am interested in hearing other similar stories and how you dealt with it because I am having kind of a hard time thinking of him with other girls and of course I will tell him if I get to be too uncomfortable with it but I would just like to hear other people's stories and advice to dealing with it!", "summary": "boyfriend asked for an open relationship, agreed, advice and stories on how to deal with it "}
{"id": "t3_3yr149", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Girlfriend (17/f) got raped/sexually assaulted and I (18/m) can't stop thinking about it", "post": "Where do I start.... \nI've been going out with this girl that I really like for a month now, I'm 18 she's 17 we just finished school, every things going great, she likes me, I like her, life couldn't be better. A couple months before we were officially a thing, I'd say 4-5 months ago, she got really drunk at a party and had her first time with some random guy she didn't like and was telling him not to and she hated the whole experience. She said he only put it in for like 1-2 seconds but I don't know. I try and ask her more questions about it here and there, but she doesn't like talking about it at all and I respect that. The problem is I keep thinking about it... this random guy arched over her, having sex, with my girlfriend. I want to know more about the situation but I feel bad asking questions. I feel like finding this guy and beating him to a pulp, for basically raping my girlfriend, and this whole thing makes me sad, angry, and uncomfortable when ever I think about it.\nI don't know what to do, how do I stop thinking about it, how do I find closure, how do I make this guy pay? I don't know how I feel", "summary": "Girlfriend got drunk then raped at a party before we were going out, now I feel like beating the shit out of the guy."}
{"id": "t3_21gaxj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just managed to get a females contact information...", "post": "Alright well firstly I guess it might be best to tell that I work in the back of a pawn shop, I'm actually the web developer for another company that owns other businesses and one of them is a pawn shop. I'm also very anti social, my life consist of work and home, which is hate but never know what to do about it. My coworkers know this somewhat which is why I think they did what they did.\n\nWell today I had my ear buds in listening to music when suddenly someone tapped the back of my chair, sometimes the guys will if they need my help with something or whatever, but instead it was a girl and I was stunned and she was like \"Hey the guys up there said you could teach me about web programming.\" and I was like \"Uh.. uh. yeah.. I ... know about... that...\" and mostly I just froze up because I have never had a girl just talk to me like that before.\n\nWell she came back to the shop this afternoon and the guys in the shop was saying she would be back that day and I didn't think she would be, but as it turned out I was wrong. Apparently she had told them that she was coming to pick something up today and she did. Anyway she and I talked, and I talked a little better than the first time (though still not like I wish I had) and she gave me her contact info.\n\nApparently she's very interesting in programming and stuff which is why she wanted to meed me in the first place. She says she's a computer nerd and from our conversation I believe her, anyway feeling really ... hot right now, like my face is still on fire. I don't know if it's nerves or what, anyway, just thought reddit might find it interesting.", "summary": "Girl paid me attention, think I'm going to faint."}
{"id": "t3_rap6p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "There are tons of resources for people in abusive relationships. What about those at risk for becoming abusers?", "post": "This isn't a subject I know much about, but it seems like there are a ton of resources out there for people who are stuck in abusive relationships. There are the \"red flags\" that everyone is told to watch for.\n\nHere's my question: from what I understand, most abusers operate under a sort of veil of normalcy, and they hide their abuse from the rest of the world. That would seem to imply they know it's wrong. In fact, I can't imagine anyone getting into a relationship with the intention of abusing somebody. I don't know anyone who would come out and say \"domestic violence is okay.\"\n\nMy question: why don't we (as a society) put more effort into preventing people from becoming abusive in the first place? What sorts of resources could we provide to people who feel they're at risk of abusing somebody? If we did provide those resources, would potential abusers take advantage of them?\n\nIt seems that there might be a certain stigma attached, and people might be afraid to seek help if it were there. \n\nWould it be better to attack the problem from an awareness standpoint? Sort of like \"these are the red flags you need to watch for that you're out of line and might hurt somebody?\"", "summary": "how can society address the problem of domestic violence from the abuser's end before they become abusive?"}
{"id": "t3_4mq9gq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with a friend [20F] how do I set boundaries with her wanting to spend time with me?", "post": "I feel stupid posting this because this seems so minor compared to other peoples problems but it's making me weirdly stressed out\n\nOkay so I'm a uni student and in November I met a girl on my course called Fran. Fran seemed like a nice person, plus shes a girl and we're on a **very** male dominated course so I initially thought \"jackpot\" and I put in more effort than I usually do to be friends with her. This has backfired in ways I did not foresee.\n\nI've met tons of people through out my life (as everyone does) and I have never really met someone I found annoying or irritating.\n\nUntil Fran.\n\nI feel bad, because she's not necessarily doing anything for me to find her annoying, but god damn, I find myself wanting to tear my hair out after spending any amount of time with her. This feeling 100% intensifies because she's kind of clingy(?) I don't know how to describe it, she's not necessarily needy but she'll follow me like a little baby duck and invite herself along to things. I have a very low tolerance for this, so I was kind of not really thinking her doing this was that weird, but my friend that was reading my conversation with Fran and was really weirded out.\n\nSo far I've been dealing with this by lying so I can be alone but next year we're going to be living in the same building (but on completely different floors) and she keeps mentioning that she's going to be coming up to my apartment (I'm living alone) every day. I'm a tiny lil creampuff and have no spine (and no experience with dealing with something like this!) How the hell do I make solid boundaries that get her to back off without being a rude asshole?", "summary": "A girl I met is kinda pushy/doesn't take the hint that I want to be alone, how do I get her to not steamroll me into spending every living second with her?"}
{"id": "t3_17imi0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I(m 25) not be friends with my ex(f 24) since I am in new relationship?", "post": "I recently started dating someone new but I haven't brought up the fact that my ex(together for a year and half, broke up two months ago) and I are friends just yet. I get the feeling that most girls would see this as deal breaker and if that is the case I know I can't continue being friends with an ex if that would cause unforeseeable problems in the future. \n\nI know if I had girlfriend who had a ex boyfriend as a really good friend it would probably be a deal breaker so am I just being immature in my thought process?", "summary": "Am I potentially sabotaging myself by remaining friends with an ex?"}
{"id": "t3_253p9a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22M] Long distance issues with girlfriend and her male friend [21f]", "post": "So to start this off, I love my girlfriend. We've been dating a little bit over 3 years, and things have been well. The first year or so we lived in the same town; the next two years we've spent in different towns (she's moved around a bit). There's been a lot of ups and downs obviously, which brings us to the most recent event...\n\nWe recently had a sort of fight, which wasn't really a fight as much as it became a discussion. We talked about a lot of overdue issues, and she said that she didn't really want to break up and was still very much into the relationship. After all of this, we've been working on things again and talking a lot more, and it's much more like it used to be, which brings me to the issue.\n\nI found out recently that a guy that she hangs out with is very obviously into her. And when I say obvious, it's in a needy and constant sort of way. She and I have talked about it, and she says they are just friends. I'm inclined to believe her, as I trust her (not him though), but at the same time I feel like she has been giving him more of a priority than me, and it's starting to make me question why she decided to keep me. I probably have some sort of anxiety issues and jealousy, which contributes to the problem, but I can't help but question these things, especially with the frequency in which they hang out.\n\nSo, I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar situation? Or if anyone could give me some pointers on what to do here? Like I said, not really wanting to break up with her...just really unsure what to think.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I agree we want to continue our relationship and to work on things. Her male friend has a crush and makes me feel like he has priority."}
{"id": "t3_qkx4x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what if your lifespan was already more than half over?", "post": "I was just sitting out on my deck enjoying the sunshine when my mind started to wander. We're all going to die eventually and most of us don't know when that will be. Are you happy with the way you are living? I feel like I've got it pretty sweet with a warm bed and a couple of [cats] but what if I only have 20 some odd years left? How can I make my indelible mark on this world? What makes me happiest is when I see other people enjoying their lives and I try to enjoy my life as much as possible as well. At the same time, I also feel very sad for those less fortunate folks who deal with so much pain and hardship everyday. I guess my answer for now is that I want to help people find a little bit of happiness in their everyday lives.", "summary": "Enjoy the cat photo."}
{"id": "t3_2agxtw", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Hair/Make-Up Advice When Booking", "post": "Ok, I booked my make-up artist months ago and got my times for the photographer this week. When I updated my make-up artist, she had a fit and told me that she could not prepare me for the time I wanted and told me to MOVE MY WEDDING TIMES. I'm not moving my wedding for a make-up artist! \n\nHere is what happened: She TRIPLE booked herself! Three weddings! In hindsight, she would have been late to her time with me anyway. How could she do me and 4 other women in time for my wedding based on our original time? Bye, bye deposit! Ultimately, she was very unprofessional and made rude comments about the hairdresser she was working with...my hairdresser is a VERY good friend of mine (a guest at my wedding!) and my wedding was going to be the last that they work together. It was worth the loss of the deposit to get this woman out of my friend's life.\n\nI have a new make-up artist. I'm her only wedding. To sweeten the deal, since she knew my hairdresser friend, she said she trusted me to follow through and did not make me sign a contract.", "summary": "Just a little advice. Ask your hair and make-up people if they are doing other weddings the same day. Extra advice: ask your photographer early about the times they need you ready."}
{"id": "t3_2jv8y9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] you think it is worth working things out with this girl [18/F] whom I am exclusive with?", "post": "I have recently started college and I have met back up with an ex-girlfriend which I dated four years ago. This \"relationship\", if you could even call it that, at the time lasted for probably half a week during the summer before freshman year. I barely call it a relationship but even from the beginning she said that this would cause baggage, which it has. \n\nI have been hooking up (No sex, just kissing) with this girl for a month already. But she just broke up with her boyfriend of two and a half years last week. I know it is awful that I was getting with this girl but they were on a break and she told me that they were \"not obligated towards each other.\" Even while she was still with her boyfriend (officially) we innocently kissed on the lips and cuddled.\n\nWe have never been truly best friends or had an easy time talking to each other about our problems. We have major jealousy problems to the point where we have stopped being friends with people for the sake of the two of us working. There have also been problems where I have been scared that she would hit me when she gets mad at me. We constantly need time alone and time away from each other so we don't fight all the time. Everybody on each of our floors knows that we fight all the time and can never go a day without fighting. \n\nI still really like her but I am not sure if it is worth working things out and talking about all of these problems. I cannot see a future with her past just being friends with benefits.", "summary": "I am in a primarily physical relationship with a girl and we fight every day and very badly on weekends. Is it worth it to try and work things out and solve these problems with her even though I cannot answer why I like her still."}
{"id": "t3_slbne", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My bike was stolen; I need some help proving there's good in the world (and just need some cheering up)", "post": "Reddit, my fiancee bought me a shiny new red bike as a present last Saturday, and yesterday it was stolen from me. I was using it to commute to work all this week. I had it locked up on a bike rack in SoHo by the R-train, and it was stolen in broad daylight. While I feel angry that this happened, I've always believed that karma has a way of evening things out. Maybe someone's need was greater than my own. My fiancee, however, is really upset. She asks, \"what's the point of doing good in this world, if this kind of shit happens to nice people?\" That hurt. I still believe in the good in people, but I'm having trouble explaining it to her. \n\nReddit - can you tell me some of the good things you've done? I'll start: last month, I found an iPhone in a zipcar. I took it home, charged it to turn it on, and emailed the owner to return it to her. She said it was stolen from her a while back and she didn't ever think she'd see it again. When she offered me money, I told her that her smile was reward enough.", "summary": "My bike was stolen; need some stories of redditors doing good to prove to fiancee that people are generally good."}
{"id": "t3_3djpa6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get over my 23/m trust issues.", "post": "Hi,\n\nI am currently in a 7 month long relationship with my girlfriend 23/f.\n\nWhile there hasn't been anything \"real\" that has made me think she is actually being unfaithful I am having a hard time getting over it and learning to trust her.\n\nWhile I am making progress (i used to be so sure if I found a condom had fallen off of the nightstand or something was moved in her room) that she was cheating, only for there to be nothing (that I found at least).  \n\nThese \"episodes\" are becoming more infrequent and I think (and she thinks as well) that I am getting better I still feel so sure sometimes that she is cheating on me.  \n\nShe is not secretive with her phone or her computer at all and we talk out my \"episodes\" when they come up.  She has been so caring and has dealt with this bullshit of mine for a while now and I just want to reward her by being able to fully trust her.\n\nI know that my trust issues come from my parents because my mom cheated on my dad for the entirety of their relationship and married him so she wouldn't have to work ever.\n\nI don't want to end up like my dad but I also don't want to drive away this girl that I love so much.\n\nAny advice would be helpful!", "summary": "I need help getting over my trust issues."}
{"id": "t3_297go3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Round 2 - Fight!", "post": "Hello!\n\nI'm a week into caring about my body again. I'm currently somewhere between 415 and 450lbs (my scale errors out above 415). I was around this weight a few years ago but I finally decided to do something about it with the help of a coworker for motivation. Fast forward to November 2012 and I'm sitting pretty just under 310lbs!\n\nUnfortunately for my body, I got an awesome new job working IT overnights. This wasn't too bad at first but I stopped exercising very often and stopped tracking my eating. I've been battling depression my whole life and this didn't help much. I started eating to stay awake which worked but again, wasn't too good on the body. \n\nI sought out a psychiatrist and psychologist and they were a big help with my depression and since around mid 2013 my mood had started to stabilize. The problem was, I started school again full-time going for a network/systems admin degree. \n\nSo, while I'm doing well with depression, working full time and going to school full time took a major toll on my body. I shot back up over 400lbs and the last visit to the doctor showed around 440lbs (fully clothed).\n\nWell, here I am again. I know what needs done. I've done it before and I'll do it again but I'd like to make a change. This time I'd like to participate more in this community. Everyone's triumphs and struggles are a real motiviation and I want to support others in their fight. I'd also like to lean on you all for support if needed as well. No one has to do this alone!", "summary": "I started round 2 and I love you all!"}
{"id": "t3_2ir603", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a naked selfie on my mums phone, and having it automatically sync to her Facebook and Dropbox.", "post": "So, it was 5 months yesterday that me and my girlfriend first hooked up. She sent me a nice selfie with some personal writing on her chest, which I will not disclose ;)\n\nThe same day, my mum recently got a new phone, and gave me her Samsung Galaxy s3. Great! I don't use phones much. I'm not a technology dummy, but never in my life thought it practical to have EVERY picture you take automatically sync with all your social media and file storage. Seems like a huge inconvenience, considering more than half the pictures you take go into the trash.\n\nSo, to return the favour, I took my selfe. I took pictures of the whole shabang. As dirty as your hangover undies your still wearing from your weekend bender. \n\nI deleted the pictures, and assumed I would be safe. Next day, my dad told me to remove dropbox from my mums phone, because it was syncing all the pictures to her account. FML!\n\nTo top it all off, my brother was in the spare room using my computer (with my permission, I told him he could fix something for me). He opened Chrome, which automatically opens to facebook, which I sign in on, and likely saw the whole conversation.. So, that means not only did my brother see me naked, he likely saw my girlfriend naked and saw us sexting on facebook.\n\nFML.", "summary": "TIFU by taking a nude selfie on my mums old phone and having it sync to her facebook and dropbox. She then saw said photos. My brother also likely saw my facebook conversation (and thus selfies) from my PC while I was in the other room jerking it on skype."}
{"id": "t3_frugb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most embarrassing thing your parents have ever said in front of you, or in front of you and your SO?", "post": "I'd like to go first:\n\nA few years ago, my wife and I were living at my parents house because our previous lease had jsut ended, and we couldn't find anything that fit what we needed. So we were there for two months or so. We went out of town for a few days and mom calls and says, \"I'm looking for the key to the shed.\" I said, \"Ok, it's on the desk in my room.\" \n\nWe get back into town and wife and I are talking to mom, and mom says, \"Slidellian, thanks for telling me where the key was. By the way, you may not want to leave your KY jelly out, the dog may get to it.\" My wife about died of embarrassment.\n\nA week later, mom had me get something out of her room for her. I noticed some lube on her bedside table (I know, I know). I walked back to mom and said, \"By the way mom, you may not want to leave you and dad's AstroGlide out. The dog may get it.\"", "summary": "I learned that my parents were using a higher quality of lube than I was in college."}
{"id": "t3_4rsgmu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Colorado] Landlord withholding deposit despite vermin infestation, electrical problems, and her word that the house was \"good to go\"", "post": "I moved out of a property I'd lived at for 2 years at the end of May. We were the first tenants after she'd lived there for 30 years. To say the house was filthy would be an understatement. There was a rodent infestation the entire time we lived there, as well as feces in the kitchen cupboards which she knew about but never cleaned. \n\nWhatever, we just wanted to get the hell out so a few days before our movers came she came over with her husband and did a walkthrough and said everything looked good. \n\nA few days later she sent a detailed invoice citing damages she had caused (i.e. broken screens), as well as charges for things we could have fixed had she said something (jiggly door knob). She charged $20 labor to remove a tarp that had been draped over a fence. She charged for weeds in the yard that the gardeners she hired failed to remove. \n\nShe totaled the charges up to all but $47 of our original $500 deposit. \n\nWhen I confronted her about the charges and her initial verbal confirmation that things looked good, she claimed that wasn't the \"final\" walkthrough and that we failed to follow up, at which point I sent her a transcript of the text messages she sent which showed that she never asked for another walkthrough.\n\nFinally, she refused to discuss it further.\n\nWhat options do we have for getting back our deposit? What options would we have for the filth while we lived  there?", "summary": "Landlord withholding deposit and claiming damages despite initially saying everything looked good"}
{"id": "t3_2ll4n5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] : [21 M]I'm almost 99% sure I just went on a \"date\" with my girlfriend[23 F]'s best friend[23 F].", "post": "[Link] to my previous post. \n\nSo, upon your advice, I texted my girlfriend and told her that we need to talk.\n\nI told her. Everything, going as into detail as possible.\n\nHer response, \"I knew this would happen.\"\n\nTurns out, Donna has been into me for quite a while, and has slowly opened up to Katie about her feelings. I suppose Donna wanted a polyamorous relationship. Katie initially disregarded that, but after a while she knew that Donna was sort of in love with me.\n\nSo, turns out, you people were right. That \"date\" was a test. Not for me, for Donna. Katie was anxious that she hadn't heard from me after that about the trip. So, it was a good thing that I didn't delay telling her too long.\n\nShe trusted me to tell her if anything had happened, and I told her, so I guess everything's good between us.\n\nKatie said that she will be talking to Donna. How that will go down ? Who the hell knows...", "summary": "Talked to girlfriend. Turns out the entire thing was a test."}
{"id": "t3_36rtx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] got dumped by my [18 F] (ex)gf after 1 year and dating for 6 months", "post": "So I met this girl my senior year of high school and we dated 2 times until I went to college. Now I'm not gonna explain anything before the 3rd time because it just isn't relevant. It's my freshman year of college and her senior year of high school and I have not talked to her for about 2-3 months when all of a sudden she texts me. Of course I decide to start talking to her again because I'm an idiot and really love this girl. We start dating again and it lasts longer than the other two times, its a lot better also we get along so well. The only problem is with me in college and her constantly working outside of school we only get to see each other once a week sometimes once every two weeks! We make the most of it and go to a lot of concerts, just do a bunch of fun activities together and everything seems perfect. She tells me she loves me every night before going to bed, and we talk 24/7. Now this is what confuses me. for the past 3 days she has been acting really weird and wouldn't even say goodnight to me and this is when i started getting worried. Last night after not talking to me all day she texts me at night and tells me she isn't happy. She says that she would rather be alone than hang out with me and says I haven't done anything but be perfect and she's tried so hard to make this work but she's tired of it now. Which makes no sense to me because other than these past 3 days she's always been the one to text me first and always reminded me that she loves me I just don't know what happened. I ask her to explain more to why she's breaking up with me and she compares me to her previous boyfriends which one of them is a huge asshole and the other used her for sex. She said that she would always go out of her way to hang out with them and get butterflies in her stomach whenever they texted her. That really hurt to hear especially since she's dated me longer than both of them combined! I just don't understand why this happened.", "summary": "(Ex) Girlfriend of 6 months breaks up with me out of nowhere after acting strange for 3 days and says she hasn't been happy. Then compares me to asshole ex's."}
{"id": "t3_4tmy2w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(NY) Have minimal savings, want to leave home for Massage Therapy Course. Need help finding Grants", "post": "Hi Reddit. I'm a 25 year old man that has been wanting to go back to trade school for over a year and a half. i got a job in trucking and its been good but i haven't been able to save up a ton of money like a had planned when i got started. I've only got about 300 saved that is meant for saving long term and 300 for misc bills. \n\nBecause of the nature of the job, I don't bring in a regular paycheck. It has ranged from 350 to 800 dollars on a good week (Holidays and such) but generally averaging around 550-600 in the past month or so. \n\nMy GF has been having a hard time saving money too. She gets paid about 700 every 2 weeks. She has almost no savings.\n\ni put alot in my 401k, near the max, which gets doubled by my employers. i probably have over 2k in there by now.\n\ni have 2 weeks of paid vacation left for the year which i can turn in and get paid for at anytime. this renews at the new year. i want to start school in/around Feb/Mar.\n\nAn idea i had was to save my vacation time and sell it back to the company and get 2 full weeks pay and save it. do the same thing early next year, but with only one week because were trying to go to Ireland with friends and we've never gone before.\n\nMy Tuition is only about 15k for the whole deal which is great. I'm hoping one of you can point me in the direction of a good set of grants i could apply for to get me out of paying for most of that. I'm mostly worried about maintaining our home while I'm in school.\nI was diagnosed with ADHD when i was young and reestablished that diagnosis 2 years ago that paid for classes for me to get my A license. Hopefully this can come into play with the grants.", "summary": "I need grants for school, I have ADHD. Help me find some grants"}
{"id": "t3_rec1f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I just had the infamous \"My Parents arent Perfect\" moment. What was the event/moment that finally revealed this fact to you?", "post": "we were having dinner, talking about a news story that i had seen. It was about entraping and baiting people, mostly people suspected of selling or buying drugs, but also venturing into how the FBI was caught doing it to muslim communities. They would try and prompt people into \"confessing\" or proving themselves guilty of one charge or another, sometimes useing what seemed ( to me ) to be rediculous methods. My dad took a very \"serves them right\" even went as far as saying the always  kind of attitude, and it completely shocked me. ive always seen my dad as a very fair man, but this seemed very unfair to me.", "summary": "my dad's opinion on baiting and entrapment in law enforcment was very shocking."}
{"id": "t3_50scph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family and I [21/F] disagree with my sister's [23 F] decision to transfer to a lesser university but she's unwilling to listen and school starts in a few days. What do I do?", "post": "My sister went to School A, a nationally ranked university, for 3 years and was unhappy so she decided to go to community college for a year. She recently told me she is transferring to School B, a regionally ranked university, but won't give a specific reason. I've asked her several times why but she won't give me a straight answer and says it's none of my business. Her official reason so far is to save money but would stay at School A if she could.\n\nBoth universities cost the same amount in terms of tuition (both are $7,000). The one she is transferring to is close to home so she doesn't need to pay for housing, but, my parents already said they can afford it and they are okay with paying for on campus housing/meal plan for her at School A ($6,000). \n\nWhat should I do? \n\nI don't think this is a good idea because she is close to finishing her degree but she assures me that they are accepting **most** of her credits. She hasn't talked to an advisor at School B yet and school starts in a few days. \n\nShe says it's none of my business and that she's already made up her mind but my parents don't agree with her transfer and neither do I. She doesn't work and my parents and I are helping her pay so I feel like we **should** have a say in her transfer.", "summary": "What should I do about my sister? She won't listen to me or my parents. Do you think this will be bad for her future since her degree will come from a lower ranked university?"}
{"id": "t3_fthbm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What do you do when you get blown off?", "post": "Back story:  4 years ago I was in a relationship that really screwed with me and I left it pretty messed up in the head.  A year and a half later I got over the relationship and then started medic school which for those of you that don't know is a year + of your life.  Finished school and continued being single simply because I was lost as to what to do.\nFast forward to 2 weeks ago:  Met a very nice and pretty girl who's a friend of a friend, we hit it off things looked swell (that word doesn't get enough play these days).  We got coffee a couple times and hung out with friends.  Last week we hung out at my place watching a movie and just talking until 2 am.  I asked her out, she said probably, the condition being that might go out with her cousin that day.  We agreed yesterday to go out today (nothing fancy she doesn't like that and is a very picky eater).  She said she would text me after work, nothing.  Called 2 hours later but I got nothing, text an hour and a half after that to no reply as well.  This is the first girl I've really shown interest in/gotten a positive reply back in 4 years.  WTF do I do?", "summary": "Basically first real date in 4 years, can't get a hold of the girl.  Freaking out.  *grabs soda, turns to reddit*"}
{"id": "t3_34jun1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Friend [18 M] is getting flirty with our other friend [17 F], and it's making things difficult. [17 M]", "post": "So we three usually hang with eachother at school everyday because we are in the same class, and we often play games after school aswell. Me and him used to be really tight, he would call me on skype as soon as he got on and check if i wanted to play something. But now i have to ask every time to join or be the one calling to even start talking to them.\n\nHe has now started being really nice and kinda flirty with our female friend, and it's making me go mad. He doesn't even want to play anything as long as she isn't playing. It's really annoying to feel like a third wheel all the time when you're around them. Should i avoid them and let things play out or should i just tough it out?", "summary": "My friend is into our female friend and i'm starting to feel like a third wheel"}
{"id": "t3_1v8uox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) feel like I'm getting mixed signals from a friend (21F)", "post": "A little background. Me and this girl are good friends. We do a lot of stuff together. I actually tried to ask her out a many months ago and got a no. I moved on and she seemed fine and forgot about it. \n\nMy issue stems from New Years and the time before. We had plans for almost a few months. When I was trying to ask her out, I admit that I was the one who was texting and trying way too hard. But for the month or so before our New Years, she texted me almost everyday and it really seemed like she was trying to find an excuse to talk to me. Things she texted were often random things from her day or just random things in general. \n\nThen on New Years, we went out with some friends. She never left my side the whole night. She got tired and wanted to leave so I went with her because I didn't want her going alone. We went home and she ended up going home instead of staying over like she was going to do. We still texted maybe a day or so later but after that she just stopped texting me. Did I miss something? I didn't make a move because I was over her. Was I supposed to or am I overthinking this?", "summary": "Asked a good friend out a few months ago, got a no, moved on, she texted me a lot for awhile, went out on New Years, she's barely texted me since then, don't know if I missed something on New Years"}
{"id": "t3_4mdjih", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Taking a second job advice", "post": "I'm on the fence about taking a second job! I need help deciding as my pro con list was even Steven. \n\nFirst off, I should mention the first position is full time but temporary and ends in three months. This position pays well and is in my field. HOWEVER, because of the economic downturn where I live, I'm very worried about getting an extension/more work elsewhere. I have a mortgage to pay, albeit I have a wonderful boyfriend with a full time job that could cover all of it if absolutely necessary (he's not thrilled about doing that and wants me to take this job for stability). The second job is front end customer service so I would dealing with people (and the stresses that come with that territory).\n\nSecond of all, I would have no time to myself--I would be working seven days a week and 10 hour days at least two days a week. So, as one might suspect, I would never be home to see my boyfriend and forget about having a social life. Before you say \"get your big girl panties and do it,\" I've had to this many times in my life and I guess I'm just tired of doing it (and not getting much out of it in terms of future opportunities) and giving up my summers for the past five years. \n\nLastly, the latter position is about 30 minutes from where I live (about 40 km), so I'm considering gas in my budget. But, it does provide benefits and other discounts that would be helpful after my temporary position is done. \n\nWhat does r/advice think? I'm torn and I can't decide and it's causing my a ton of stress. Help an indecisive person decide!", "summary": "Second job opportunity that I'm hesitant to take."}
{"id": "t3_4zkno6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24F] boyfriend [28 M] may have cheated. Should I write the girl in question?", "post": "A little background: \nI have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now. We had a rocky start to our relationship. We were in an open long distance relationship, but we did not really clarify terms or rules of engagement. He was open about seeing other people, but wouldn't disclose any details, and at times he was dishonest about specifics. I was aware of somethings but not everything and I definitely had my feelings hurt.  I was free to see other people as well, but I wasn't very interested. I am more of a monogamist at heart.\n\nAfter a few months, we decided to fully commit to monogamy and he moved across country to be with me.  Shortly after moving, he went on a trip for a few weeks.  There was a period of a couple of days where he was minimally in contact -- didn't return calls for many hours, responded with painfully short texts, etc.  Upon his return, and upon questioning, I realized he was staying with a female friend during those unresponsive  2 days. He had told me that he hung out with her, but did not tell me he stayed at her place. After further questioning, he told me he slept (\"drunkenly passed out with my clothes on\")in the same bed but nothing happened.  He swore up and down that nothing happened, and that he wasn't even really attracted to her, etc.  This came out a few months ago, but it has kept eating at me.\n\nI obviously want to believe him. But because he was not upfront about staying with her (or staying in her bed), and was shady about being in contact with me, I feel very uneasy.  \n\nShould I send a (polite) facebook message to this girl and ask her for the truth?  I really need the peace of mind, or to GTFO out if he cheated.  If he is telling the truth, I would be very embarrassed to have written this girl, spilling out my relationship drama.\n\nThoughts? \nThank you <3", "summary": "My boyfriend was dishonest about several aspects of his visit with a female friend, leading me to believe that he may have cheated. He denies cheating, but I still feel uneasy. Should I (politely) write the girl and try to get the truth?"}
{"id": "t3_2r25cf", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(29m) After a long relationship, I have forgotten how to flirt. Any advice?", "post": "So I've posted a TIFU about one of my dating experiences, but now I have a question regarding dating in general.\n\nBack story- I was in an amazing and loving relationship and marriage with my true love/best friend for a combined 10 years.  She passed away after a long fight with colon cancer. Not going to dwell on this any further.\n\nI've recently started to get back into the dating game, but am completely lost.  Throughout my marriage I had no interest in anyone else and was really good at keeping any conversation with females to a friendly and respectful conversation.  Obviously there were other women that I thought were attractive, but nothing was worth messing up what I had. \n\nMy problem is that I've been on dates with 6 girls, 2 of which I was really interested in.  I can't stop talking to women as if all I want to be is friends! Even if I'm interested. I've been friend zoned by 5 of the 6 girls I've dated.  I feel like a friend zone connoisseur.  \n\nHow do I talk to women so that there is no mistaking that I'm interested in, and capable of, dating them?  What are some of the signs you look for?", "summary": "I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong on my dates!"}
{"id": "t3_4fo46w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] How do you justify buying a really expensive gift for your girlfriend? Should I do it?", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 1 year and 4 months now (since 1/1/15). Her birthday is coming up and I was planning on buying her a new phone (iPhone SE). When I buy my presents, I buy it because it makes sense, and because it's meaningful (at least in my opinion...). The reason why I want to buy my GF the iPhone SE is because it's relatively \"cheap\", and it takes really good pictures, which is something she does a lot. She's also going on a trip to Asia soon, so I want her to be able to take lots of pictures (her current phone is a slow Galaxy S4). \n\nShe went into the Apple store one day and saw the iPhone SE, she didn't like it; it was too small. So, there goes my plan for buying the iPhone SE. The only viable option now is the iPhone 6S, which is roughly $820 here in CA. It'll take me another 2 weeks to save up enough for it since I only work part-time. This is almost a $1000 gift, and I've only been with her for almost a year and a half. My friends are telling me to not do it, but I really want to. I want to make her happy. Plus, she has a trip to Asia coming up so I want her to be able to take plenty of pictures. \n\nI'm not the type of guy that likes to buy expensive gift. I like to buy meaningful gift. I gave my GF gifts as cheap as $2 - $3 before, and even a ROCK. I just think that  with this gift, the iPhone 6S, although its really expensive for me, she will love it and appreciate it a lot.\n\nSo, how do you justify buying an expensive gift for your GF? And should I really spend this much money on a GF that I've only been dating for 1.5 years?", "summary": "OP wants to buy GF $400 gift as a surprise, GF said she doesn't like that gift before she even know about the surprise. Next best gift is $820. OP only had GF for 1.5 years, wondering if its worth it to spend so much."}
{"id": "t3_36n5e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25) and my GF (27) for were together for 4 years. What is the longest you stayed in destructive relationship?", "post": "To be honest it was a little bit of my fault for not catching things earlier and standing up for myself. By no means was I perfect either. \n\nWe dated for 4 years and in that time she cheated 3 different times with 3 different exes. I accepted her apology each time, I had a real low self esteem, and kind of blamed it on myself for not standing up to her. I guess after 3 months together when she cried on my shoulder about another man that should've been a clear sign to end it. Not to me. PUSH FORWARD!\n\nThere was also a lot of emotional abuse and other emotional issues that I thought I could handle but definitely was not equipped to do so. Eventually it ended with her breaking up with me. That's the biggest thing I regretted. It should've been me but oh well. If she didn't I don't know I ever would have and probably would have proposed to this girl. I know I was super blind. So how long have you stayed in a dysfunctional relationship?", "summary": "GF cheated several times, emotionally abusive but I still made it 4 years."}
{"id": "t3_11s8nn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/M] wanting some advice on how to start a relationship...", "post": "generic relationship advice post I know, but I'd like some help.\n\nOkay, let's call her... \"Amy\". \n\"Amy\" and I are in the same psychology class together, and have been all year. Just recently (probably 2 1/2 months, tops) we've started to talk a little bit more and I've discovered that I have feelings for her. I see her every now and then when I go out with my friends, but apart from that we don't really see each other all that much. \n\nBasically, what I'm wondering... How can I go about this situation? Best case scenario = we start a relationship together. But I'd be more than happy if we could just be better friends. Should I just come out and say that I have feelings for her? Are there things I should be looking out for (key words, behaviours) that would signify that she might feel the same about me as I do her? \nThere's an imaginary \"time limit\" on this, any advice would be muchly appreciated.", "summary": "I like a girl that I don't get to see all that much, how can I tell if she feels the same or not or start a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_40yyv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] of six months, won't fix his SUV and keeps relying on me.", "post": "My boyfriend starting having problems with his SUV about two months ago. The battery was just replaced, and a few weeks later the SUV was dead again and having problems starting on it's own. Replaced the alternator. It is still having problems. Yesterday, it won't start. Try jumping it with my car, still doesn't start. Now he thinks it is the starter and is going to try to get it tested and fix that today after I pick him up from work.\n\nThis has been going on off and on for the past two months now. I have had to get up earlier than I normally do to take him to work (over an hour round trip) and pick him up about 10 times already. I don't mind helping him out when he needs it, but this is getting ridiculous. A month ago, I asked him when he was going to take it to get it looked at by an actual mechanic so that he knows the exact issue and can get it fixed and not have to worry about it. I asked him a couple times since then as well.\n\nHe says that money is one of the issues. That is something else. He could have had it looked at by now (advance said the test would cost about $195) if he just stopped buying unnecessary stuff for 2 weeks. He won't do that. I offered to let him \"borrow\" the money (id rather help by paying for it and him having a reliable vehicle rather than waking me up to take him to work multiple times), but he won't take my money either.\n\nI don't want to tell him that I won't help him anymore. He also has two kids that live with him, and they need to be taken to school and picked up as well. What can I say to him to get this problem fixed completely, instead of messing around with different parts until it finally keeps working? He is capable of replacing stuff and working on cars, he just lacks the tools to do a complete test to find out the exact cause of all the issues.", "summary": "My boyfriend keeps procrastinating with trying to fix his SUV electrical problem and has to keep relying on me to take him to work and pick him up as well as taking and picking kids up from school. How can I get him to fix this problem once and for all, whether I pay for it or he does?"}
{"id": "t3_2t83f3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being too truthful", "post": "I go to a small school on the Hudson that's 80-85% male, so most of the girls here are taken. As such I've been talking to a very cute girl who I knew in high school and who currently goes to NYU. We've been talking for about 6 months, but because she's on the swim team and I don't have very much money, I still haven't been able to see her in person. Yesterday my friend and I decided to set up a get-together in Brooklyn so I we could be each other's wingmen. So here's the screw-up: after I confirmed that she was down to meet up, my friend tells me that he looked her up on Facebook, saw someone cute and wanted her to come too. So socially-awkward me did the obvious and explained the situation by telling my friend something to the effect of \"hey, my friend looked you up on facebook, saw one of your friends he thought was cute, and wants her to come along.\" I realized my mistake quickly and tried to salvage it, but it's been 5 hours and she hasn't responded, so I definitely blew it for him and may have blown it for me.", "summary": "Friend and I were gonna go on a semi-blind date, my friend creeped them on facebook and then I told them, blowing it for the two of us."}
{"id": "t3_2v5isv", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Rude To Me? Reap The Whirlwind!", "post": "Back in the Eisenhower era, when I was a little tike, I was taught that it was polite for children to hold doors open for adults coming up behind us. Being a goody-goody sort in my early years, I always did so. However, I soon found that a sizable minority of large people-- say twenty-five per cent-- failed to acknowledge my courtesy with even a polite \"Thank you.\"\n\nIt didn't take me long to decide that in such cases, I would loudly shout, \"YOU'RE WELCOME!\" Once in a great while, a chagrined grownup would turn around and say, \"Oh- I'm sorry- thank you!\" \n\nBut not often.", "summary": "Rudeness on part of grownups causes me to question assumptions underpinning Western social norms; having become radicalized, I join Weathermen faction of Students For A Democratic Society, play small-but-crucial role in kidnapping of Patty Hearst."}
{"id": "t3_ele4s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE get sad every time they come on reddit recently?...", "post": "It seems as though every time I come on reddit these days I see a new post about Obama backdooring some deal that will further screw us in the ass and goes against everything he should stand for.  Or a free speech hero such as Assange being arrested and held for obvious bullshit charges...Now it seems they are trying to pile everything on him to get him and extreme sentence or even the death penalty...The death penalty?? really?  Maybe I'm just being Naive or was just trying not to notice but i've come to the conclusion that the world sucks...Politics sucks, world leaders and people in power suck more than everything. I feel we are taking HUGE steps BACKWARDS in EVERY category that we should be.", "summary": "American Politics is FUCKED; as is the world."}
{"id": "t3_3wljku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27m) gf (22f) of 8 months says things that I ask her to keep between us.", "post": "So last night I was told something that I wanted to share with my gf. It involved her friend she was hanging out with but was nothing that her friend needed to know that either my gf or I knew. I told my gf specifically not to say anything to her as I just wanted to make my gf aware. \n\nThis morning I get a call from somebody informing that in fact she did tell her friend what I had asked her not to say. \n\nI confronted her about this and asked why exactly she would do that but she got defensive. I explained that she needs to be somebody that I can trust over anybody else. I also said that I didn't want to be careful with things I tell her but that it might take me a while to feel like I can completely trust her with certain things again. She again got very upset with me and tried turning the blame around on me because it would take me a while to come back around to trusting her but then when I ask her to stop doing something I expect it immediately. \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this as I've already tried talking to her but she gets so defensive.", "summary": "gf told someone something after I asked her not to. Got defensive and tried to bring up another argument to shift blame."}
{"id": "t3_2t96dz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with possible romantic interest[30 M], recently divorced", "post": "Throw away for obvious reasons, I know this person uses reddit often. \n\nI went on a first date with this guy today. We didn't know each other at all before today. We had an excellent time and ended up spending about 5 hours just talking. Far longer than I had planned for. He was very gentleman like the whole time, and I even found my self slipping out information I would never slip out on a first or even fifth date. He told me a few things about himself that I imagined were a little personal as well. I received a text a few hours later that he would like to hang out again soon. We agreed to hang out in two days, because both of our schedules matched for a couple hours. \n\nHere is where the advice part comes in. Like we all do, I stalked him online to make sure I wasn't hanging out with some widely known sociopath or something of the like. (Don't even act like you don't do it as well! :) I found a gift registry for a wedding. This guys name is pretty distinctive so I clicked on it. He was married a little over a year and a half ago. Confused and already freaking out that I was going on dates with a married man, I found his wife on facebook. The last photo of her with a ring or mention of him was 8 months ago. She seems to be very happy and extremely social since the photos with a ring. \n\nSo, with keeping all of that as short as possible. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and continue with our next date since I don't know the situation? Do you agree that 8 months seems a little quick to be looking for something else? If he had only wanted a hook up he did a rather poor job of showing that. Do you think he is just looking for a rebound \"put me back in the game\" type of thing. Should I ask if he has ever been married point blank or wait to see if he tells me? All the questions. You can answer whatever question you think of..or ask any as well.", "summary": "Wen't on a date with a guy I really liked but found out he was pretty recently divorced/ Should I continue with seeing him or let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_e880v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whatever happened to getting toys in cereal boxes?", "post": "I'm in my late 20's.  I just remembered a time when cereal boxes used to contain real toys.  One time I got a little submarine that when loaded with baking soda, would dive and rise in a bucket of water.\n\nOvertime, they stopped giving away toys, and started giving away chances to send in for stuff if you collected UPC's and paid shipping and handling.  But now I haven't seen anything in cereal boxes.  Granted, I don't them child cereals as much, but I've noticed they offer less and less over the years.\n\nEven cracker jack is lame.  They used to give you little plastic rings and such......now its just stickers and tattoos.\n\nWhat happened??", "summary": "Cereal boxes don't contain cool toys anymore.  Anyone else remember getting cool toys? Why have things changed?"}
{"id": "t3_13skrx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I got in trouble at school for saying university teachers in the U.S. should speak English. When have you been the victim of political correctness?", "post": "I'll try to make a long story as short as possible. I attend a large university situated in a major city in the Northeastern U.S. One day I was sitting in the office of a student group related to my major, and I mentioned off hand that I was really frustrated with one of my professors, who is Chinese and has, at best, a mediocre grasp of the English language. I didn't care that he is Chinese - I just couldn't understand the guy. I then merely stated that while I absolutely don't mind having foreign professors, Chinese or otherwise, if someone does come to the United States to teach American students, then they do need to speak decent English.\n\nSo a month passes, and I am in the same building to see a professor when I run into the faculty adviser for the organization. She angrily informed me that she received a complaint that I was making \"racial comments towards Asian people\" and that such behavior was completely unacceptable. She further informed me that we would have to have a \"serious talk\". It has been a month now, and despite trying to get in touch with her again, neither she nor any of the organization's officers have talked with me about the issue. As a matter of fact, nobody has spoken a word to me at all, so I have essentially been kicked out of that organization. This is enormously frustrating, because I am *anything* but a racist - it is not how my parents raised me. Furthermore, I feel that their response to all of this has been totally unprofessional. All over what I feel is an extreme sense of political correctness...", "summary": "I essentially got kicked out of a student organization at school for saying professors teaching at universities in the U.S. should speak English. Have any of you guys been a victim of political correctness?"}
{"id": "t3_488a1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [17/F] told me she is interested to have a relationship with me[18/M], but she's not ready to be in a relationship.", "post": "I met a girl online, and we get along very well since 2 weeks. She texts me a lot, I text her a lot, it goes very well.\n\nThe first week,I proposed her that we could meet up for coffee, but she said she didn't know me well and she would be really shy IRL. I understood, and decided it was ok to wait a little bit before meeting up.\n\nThe next week, even if we would text every hour, she was still shy about meeting up. I was sceptic, and asked her if she liked me or not. \n\nAnd there's the problem: she's not ready to be in a relationship with someone, because she had awful experiences last months. \n\nHowever! She's definitly interested in me, but she said she would wait for summer to meet up.\n\nI think that's really weird that she's interested in someone, but doesn't want to meet up because she had awfull experiences .\n\nI don't really mind about waiting 2 or 3 months, but It's gonna piss me off if in the end she's not anymore interested, and I was waiting for no reasons and giving me false hopes. Also, it would be really awkward  to be texting a lot without talking in real life for months.\n\nI decided to wait, and keep texting her, everyday. Is it weird?", "summary": "I met a girl online, she told me she was interested in me, but she wanted to wait a couple of months before meeting up and being in a relationship./ I decided to wait, is that the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_cack2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anything I should know before moving over 8 hours away to an area where I know not a soul?", "post": "The condensed version is that I'm a recent college grad, fortunate enough to have found a job - however, its over 8 hours away. I've put off figuring out the details long enough and come to terms that I best start looking for an apartment and figuring out what to take along and what to do with what I will not be taking along.\n\nI've lived at home and commuted to college all along. I have all my worldly possessions at my parents house, who are willing to store some things, but for their sake I'll be hoping to sell dispose of most things that don't go with. I have a broad plan as far as this aspect goes, but perhaps theres some sagely reddit advice that may come into play on something I've completely overlooked.\n\nMy bigger problem is finding a place to live. I've been raiding craigslist and apartment finder sites with limited luck. It seems like everything conveniently located has horrid reviews on apartment rater sites. I'm not sure if I should really be taking these too seriously or if its a few begrudged posters dragging everything down. What strategies have redditors used in the past to narrow down their choices of living? I plan to try and make one trip to look at prospective properties, but I would like to narrow it down as much as possible first.\n\nI feel like I didn't ask any specific question, but thats because I'm not sure what to even ask. Thank you for any kind help. Oh - one last hope, I have to be moved by early-mid July...", "summary": "I'm moving really far away, what should I know?"}
{"id": "t3_z9nv8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(17/m) My (16/f) girlfriend and I are stuck in a vicious cycle of jealousy", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for just about 4 months, and generally, we're really happy together. We're incredibly close, and people around us have said that our relationship is \"really something special,\" and \"not just a regular high-school relationship.\" \n\nBoth of us are incredibly insecure and have large issues with jealousy. This goes as far as feeling upset when she *likes* a profile-picture of a male friend on Facebook, or her feeling upset when I do the respective same. \n\nIn the summer, we are not together for the entirety - we both go to different places for parts of the summer. We both have friends (of both genders) from our respective places. \n\nIn June, I went to the beach with one of my good female friends, who has been my friend since long before I had ever met my girlfriend. This female friend took photos of us, and I posted them on Facebook as per her request.\n\nAs you'd expect, my girlfriend had serious problems with this whole interaction, and made her issues known to me. I apologized, realized my mistake, and agreed that nothing like that would happen again (i.e. we agreed that outings with friends should have at least one member of each sex). \n\nWe just continue to have problems which stem from seemingly minute and unimportant situations, and cannot seem to get past it. She is stuck with the impression that she'll always have to deal with being upset, and told me that there is nothing I could do about it; anything she'd ask me to do would be unreasonable (e.g. severing ties with certain friends, etc.). \n\nHowever, she seemingly unwillingly involves herself in situations that are similar to mine. For example, she is apart of a club, and in a certain outing, she will be with 4 other males, alone (she will be the only female, and 2 of the 4 males are close friends to her).\n\nShe insists that there is nothing we can do to be happier and that we are both destined to be upset by jealousy and feelings of inadequacy. Any advice?", "summary": "my girlfriend and i continually make each other jealous and upset, how can we learn to be happy?"}
{"id": "t3_4k5fx1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26F, me] and [40M, SO]: Age gap", "post": "I [26F] have been with my [40M] SO for 8 months and it's been pretty good. I've always hanged out with older people. My best friend is [40F]. It should have not been a surprise to anyone.\n\nNot gonna say it doesn't have its downs, but we usually can talk it away and get over it in 1 hour tops. We're both pretty down to earth regarding ourselves and our relationship, and seem to agree in almost every important topic.\n\nBut my family, and family friends, don't seen to accept it. \n\nSome think I'm with him for his money. They aren't the worse, though. My aunt is sure I've \"settled\" for him. Hey, yeah, I've settled for a handsome, fit, intelligent, experienced man with an awesome job. If anything, HE settled for ME.\n\nAlso, sugar daddy jokes.\n\nAny problem we have, however normal it is for couples, is quickly blamed on age difference.\n\nAnother aunt keeps pushing me to these guys around my age she knows. Not trying to make little of them, I'm sure they're sweet, but they're far from attractive, on a broad sense of the word. The message is clear: it's better to be with a man you aren't attracted to, and doesn't have his life together, than to be with an older guy.\n\nOne of my aunt's friends thinks he's a closeted pedophile and sent him a very deriding email. Thank god he doesn't speak [my first language].\n\nThe relationship seems to be going pretty well, as far as most relationships go. But my family can't give me a break. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "my SO is 14 years my senior, my family thinks beating up a wheelchair bound kid is preferable."}
{"id": "t3_1ojlm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description;text=Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks. --- **tl;dr**: Summarize with a tldr!", "post": "I feel terrible about this because I know I shouldn't feel this way. \nA little background: He and his best friend, call her M, have known eachother since they were 12. They're super close. I love her; she's amazing. She doesn't compete with me in any way and is super supportive of me and my BF's relationship. We all knew eachother in highschool and since I've started dating my BF we've all become closer.\n\nRecently, her brother (also my BF's close friend) died in a car crash. We're all devastated but my BF and M more than anyone. Since her brother died my BF has been staying at her family's house with her helping them through it and taking care of things. I've barely spoken to him.\n\nI know this is completely irrational: I feel a twinge of jealously because I feel like my BF and I will never be as close as he is with M. I want to be there for him during what he's said is the hardest thing he's ever been through but he seems to be pushing me away. I know this is because of the situation. No one knows what he's going through better than M and vise versa...I just can't help but feel like I wish I were the one that could comfort him.\n\nI'm not sure there is any advice to give here..other than, how can I stop being such a selfish person and crappy girlfriend? I feel awful about this..", "summary": "I'm jealous of the bond between my BF and his (girl) best friend, especially because I can't comfort him now while he's grieving for his close friend and her brother. I'm a terrible person."}
{"id": "t3_36i0zm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] think I like someone [21M], dating for a week, but I'm scared and insecure.", "post": "My last relationship (which lasted 8 months) ended about a year ago, and since then I've not really been into the dating scene, since things ended badly and I wasn't really feeling like serious dating yet (he left me when things started to get a little bit difficult). I was on this online dating app, however, and I met this guy who asked me out for a drink. I wasn't really feeling like it, but I still said yes, so we had some drinks together last week and it was actually quite nice. We had a nice talk and I could feel there definitely was some chemistry. Soon after that, we had another date, which also was really nice (and we kissed as well).\n\nSince he is gone for the week we've decided to meet up again next weekend. Meanwhile, we still have contact. I'm really excited for the coming weekend but I am also scared as hell. I'm afraid he decides he doesn't like me anyway, even though he said he was excited to see me again as well. As said, we're still in touch via chat, but I feel like I'm maybe asking for a lot of attention, and I'm afraid he finds it annoying (but he does answer and ask questions back, though). \n\nAnyway, I actually think it's my own insecurity that makes me feel this way. I know we have only been on 2 dates thus far and it's not like things are getting serious or anything, but I think I quite like him and definitely want to get to know him better. \nDoes anyone recognize this from their own experience? Also, I could use some help with feeling a bit less insecure\u2026", "summary": "been on some dates with a nice guy, feeling insecure, not sure how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_369wsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have been dating my dream girl [21F] for the last year. I miss the single life.", "post": "You ever hear that expression \"For a relationship to work you need the right person and the right time\"? I have the right person - but I don't think it's the right time. I love her, as do my friends and family - she has no flaws and I could see myself marrying her. I still miss being single. It really clicked for me laying in bed lastnight. May 24 weekend - all my friends are out partying. They took an overnight trip to the city, met a bunch of new people, and had the best night of their lives. I hottubbed and had wine with my girlfriend. It was lovely, but I'm young. I fear that I'm missing out on the adventures and freedom of being single. Traveling, not having to check-in with somebody before doing something - I feel like I'm missing out on it all. But I know my girlfriend is irreplaceable and I don't want to throw away what we have for some freedom, travel, and partying. My girlfriend will come to parties with me, however only does it for me. I hate dragging her out to places she doesn't want to be. I guess I want to have my cake and eat it too.", "summary": "I have an amazing girlfriend. I miss the freedom of being single. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2cleho", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing Good Charlotte in the wrong neighborhood...", "post": "This unfortunate Morning Glory came to be while I was on my way to work this morning.\n\nSome background: \nI'm a 22 year old white guy, I drive an old British car; not a jalopy by any stretch of the imagination, reminiscent(ish) of a 'Bond' car, but one whose radio was broken and needed to be removed.\nHaving removed the radio, I have been driving around with my iPod and headphones. \n\nUpon leaving my house, I figured I'd roll down memory lane... I chose Good Charlotte's 2002 classic 'The Young and the Hopeless'.\n\n\"A New Beginning\" kicked off the drive- by the end of the track I was anticipating \"The Anthem.\" When I was in the post-adolescent/pre-pre-teen stage, \"The Anthem\" [was my shit]  I was singing away, and then, it happened. Sitting at a light, the lyrics came spewing out in a Philadelphian-angst much like the (respectfully) Waldorf-Whiners. Too the ears of the ([thank Joe Pesci] one and only pedestrian, who happened to be a black man, walking by, this was most likely a morning ruin-er.  \"[Go to College, a University- GET A REAL JOB...] (We made eye-contact at this point and my voice slipped and squeaked as \"that's what they said to me!\" haggled its way from my throat.) I drove away before anything could be said, quite embarrassed.", "summary": "Sang a song, feel like I insulted a black man; I'm laughing now, but I'm sincerely sorry."}
{"id": "t3_357kky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [34F] with my husband[38 M] 12 years I'm getting uglier by the day", "post": "The original is [here](\n\nI decided to attack all of this from my end, rather than pounding on my husband through asking for constant reassurance he was not going to leave.  Going on hormone therapy has improved many things, including the hair loss issue.  It seems as though the loss has stopped, but I don't really see much regrowth on my head hair...body hair, yes (ugh).  So I'm hoping that maybe head hair will at least improve somewhat after time when things have been stable for a while.  \n\nHormone therapy has also increased my energy and decreased my anxiety and depression and has enabled me to get back to working out.  I feel better as I am starting to see improvements in cardio and have started running.\n\nAnd wouldn't you know, he's more attracted to me.  I think we've had more sex this month than in 6 months before.  Because I've really only lost a couple of pounds so far, I am thinking it has more to do with me being less depressed and more active/committed to working out.  Fitness is very important to him.  It is also important to me but I just was so sick and miserable and feeling terrible that everything felt pointless and hopeless.\n\nI still think he can be really superficial but while I look better, my frame of mind has changed the most with medication.  I don't look forward to the day that my endo starts arguing with me to get off the hormones, because clearly I'm a wreck without them.  But at least for a few years I am myself again and hopefully will find a good way to take care of myself through running and weightlifting.\n\nIn the end, I think he was hoping I would get out of my black hole, and honestly I think he deserves credit for sticking by me while I was sick and depressed, even though he obviously was less attracted to me.  That's probably the most you can hope for in a partner, I would think.", "summary": "Medical treatment improved my depression and motivation and I am unsure husband was being a dick like I thought."}
{"id": "t3_1rk7xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fianc\u00e9 wants me to change.", "post": "Diclaimer: I'm drunk.  My Fience(21 f) wants me(22 m) change everything about myself.  It started with he complaining about how I talk/what I talk about.  Now it has moved to her wanting me to change my body type, what I do for fun, what movies I watch, and how I maintain my house.  I get that some things may upset her, and that there ate things I need to work on, but she claims she loves me yet it seems like she wants me to change everything that I am.  I don't even know what it is that she loves.  I am currently in college about to graduate with a very high prospective income.  I have never feared before that she is just in it for the money, but now I'm not 100%. We. have been seeing each other seriously for several months now and have dated casually for several years.", "summary": "My fience wants me to change almost everything about me.  How can she love me if she wants me to change so much?"}
{"id": "t3_2xq6gh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/18] asked out a friend [F/17] who I didn't know was a lesbian. Now things are kinda weird between us.", "post": "Alright this is my first post on this subreddit so I apologize if I do anything wrong.\n\nI [M/18] have a friend [F/17] who I was crushing on for a couple months. I had been under the assumption that she was bisexual because her Facebook page said \"interested in men and women\" so I never bothered to ask. I finally built up the courage to ask her out, and that's when she told me she appreciated the sentiment, but that she wasn't into guys at all.\n\nI still hang out with her and some other friends at lunch. But we don't talk nearly as much now. Which sucks because we were becoming really good friends before I asked her out. I feel like it's something we could laugh about, but at the same time I feel like I did something wrong or made her feel uncomfortable. Any advice? Should I just talk to her and try to put it behind us? I'd also be interested to hear if any of you have had similar experiences, on either side.", "summary": "I [M/18] didn't know my friend [F/17] was a lesbian and now we don't really talk to each other very much after I asked her out. Any advice welcome."}
{"id": "t3_vnuog", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, please help my friend enjoy her remaining time with the man she loves.", "post": "Hey guys and gals, so before you downvote this, I know its not really relevant but I wanted to try and reach the largest of people. So Ill pose this with as a question, Will You please help? \n\nMy friend was recently diagnosed with cancer at the age of 25, long story short she has deiced she doesn't want to to die in hospital bed she understandably wants to be with the people who love her. The one thing she wanted to do before she leaves us was to marry here high school sweet heart. I wish i could convey this situation properly in text but it is not my strong suit, I'm not hoping for much but I thought it would be a beautiful surprise for these two who love each other with all they have, to be able to spend her reaming time without any worries.", "summary": "Edit As someone mentioned she is not being treated in the hospital, as she was told she is chemoresistant"}
{"id": "t3_3q40cb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22m) keep finding myself liking younger girls. Is this normal?", "post": "Throwaway... Idk why but I can't seem to get any meaningful connection with girls my age for the past few years. I've got a college degree and work an office job, but keep finding myself liking girls 2-4 years younger than me.\n\nNothing manipulative or creepy (at least in my opinion); my last girlfriend was 18 (lasted 1yr and 6 months), and my current interest is 19.\n\nThe only thing I can think of (if it is a problem or some change) is something subconscious, my ex two back was 3 years older than me. It was an awful relationship, and without going into boring details, it was rough and I didn't get over it for a long time.\n\nIs this normal? Of course friends make fun of me for being a cradle robber, but I think that's just them giving me shit. It's not a huge age gap in my opinion. Maybe it's just random chance.", "summary": "22 year old male, graduated and working in an office, keep liking girls 2-4 years younger."}
{"id": "t3_1quoz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have been on two dates and had sex with this girl [19 M], getting mixed signals.", "post": "We met on okcupid. We hit it off really well. After talking/texting/snapchatting for a bit, she comes over. We're both a little bit drunk and end up having sex (she was a virgin at the time). \n\nThings go well the next morning, she leaves. I take her out on two dates following that. They both go well; however, after the second date it's almost as if she immediately lost all interest. This was wednesday night. She didn't even respond to my last text (even though she has read enabled so I can see she saw it), and didn't open my last snapchat. \n\nShould I give her some time and then call her? Just wait for her to contact me? It's like she was really into it, as was I, and then instantly lost interest. Before she didn't respond, I asked her if she wanted to hang out over the weekend because my trip was cancelled. She said she was busy, even though the night before over dinner she was telling me how she only has a test next week and is going out over the weekend. \n\nI'm probably overthinking this, but I really like this girl and until thursday I thought she was really into me. This may sound like normal dating communication, but we talked daily prior to this for weeks.", "summary": "Hit it off really well with this girl. Following our last date it appears she's lost all interest. Hasn't responded to my last text or even opened my last snapchat. Went from talking daily since mid october to nothing since thursday"}
{"id": "t3_45cu0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have a crush on this girl [20F] and asked her to study together but got rejected. What should I do now?", "post": "I met this girl this Tuesday night at a science museum (we went to a planetarium show there for some extra credits for our astronomy class). We sat together during the show but didn't get the chance to talk to each other (quiet place, had to focus on the show).\n\n    After the show we took the subway together and had some little talk on our way back to school and exchanged our numbers. The next day (Wed.) I asked her after the class if she wanna study for the midterm with me on Thursday night (midterm's on Friday). She said she was not sure and would let me know. But I didn't hear her back so just text her this afternoon and after a couple of hours she said she wouldn't be able to study with me tonight. \n\n    So am I going a bit fast? To be honest I like this girl and really wanna spend some time with her; but I got rejected. What should I do now if I don't wanna just move on? The girl is beautiful and so cute, a very good girl! Help me guys I don't have too much experience on this kinda stuff. Technically this was the first time I asked a girl out (and just for studying...) in my college life (sophomore year now) so you see I really do like her. Any idea would be appreciated!", "summary": "got rejected by a girl/what should I do if don't wanna just move on?! Really like her! Read if you wanna help or you are looking for something to read..."}
{"id": "t3_35ut0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should my boyfriend [38 M] and I [27 F] tell our third-wheel friend [35-ish F] about our relationship?", "post": "I am part of a tight-knit group of three people - \"Sam,\" \"Pam,\" and I - who meet regularly (once a week) for a specific activity.  Seven or eight months ago, I became romantically involved with Sam, and we are serious now.  I've introduced him as my boyfriend to all my other friends, and my family knows about him.  \n\nThe problem is, we never got around to telling Pam, the third member of our group, that Sam and I are a couple now.  We didn't hide the fact that the two of us have been spending time together outside of the group meetings, so she knows that we're close, but it's not out in the open.  At this point, it feels so awkward to bring it up.  \n\nFor additional context, when I started dating Sam, it was very shortly after he separated from his wife.  Amidst the news that he was getting a divorce, moving out, etc., it didn't seem right to throw in, \"And we're dating!\"  But now the silence has gone on so long.\n\nI also worry it is possible that Pam might have a crush on Sam. Not seriously, like she'd be heartbroken to learn he's not available, but she does flirt with him in a friendly way.  It just seems wrong to continue to leave her with the wrong impression.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I didn't tell our close mutual friend when we started dating, and now it has passed into an awkward territory.  Is there a good way to speak up about this without making it seem like we've been shady about keeping secrets?"}
{"id": "t3_3syjxp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu when I leaved the door unlocked", "post": "I'm a muslim (not very religious) girl who lives with my mom and two sisters. They never saw my whole body after I hit puberty because I'm quite shy about my body. They only saw me draped with towel and that's it. Anyway, its early in the morning and my below region itches. So I decided to trim down the bush below. My sisters and my mom is at work and school. So I get my special scissors and spread my legs on the bed in my room and trim down the bush. (It was early in the morning, my brain thinks I should just do it in my room than the bathroom). So halfway trough, my eldest sister suddenly barge in my room and I was shocked I covered my groin with my t-shirt and my sister just stood there with her mouth open. Now let me remind you again, after I reached the age of 12 years old or so, my family that consists of all girls never saw me naked or with my underwear.we are quite reserved family. I screamed and she laughed all the way to the living room while I put on my pants.\n I really hope she didnt tell anyone about this.", "summary": "I think that theres nobody at home, trim down my bush, sister saw me spread on the bed, sister laughed, I screamed"}
{"id": "t3_35wz3m", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Meta] Motivation is a trap", "post": "Hello r/GetMotivated this is my first time posting on this subreddit, i dont know if this is to offtopic and will get removed but i feel like talking about this.\n\nYou dont need motivation, motivation is a trap you set up for yourself. If you go into something with only motivation, be it getting in shape at the gym or starting your own business to get rich of. Most people that do that fail in a couple of weeks, maybe less. Because all the hype they had wear off. What you need is routines and planning, if you dont feel like doing something one day that you are supposed to be doing because you dont feel  motivated enough, then you should still do! Yes you are probably  gonna feel like ass afterwards but after a while it will be your daily routine. This is gonna take more work then reading some image macro on reddit.\n\n(", "summary": "motivation is a temporary solution to a permanent problem)"}
{"id": "t3_2202il", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My good friend [17F] is being blackmailed over the Internet.", "post": "A good friend of mine recently had scandalous photos of herself \"leaked\" on Tumblr. I contacted Tumblr support and they didn't do anything but tell me that she had to contact them about it. \n\nThere are a lot of post, about 7 of her and it is ruining her life. It kept going and going. The blog would get shut down and the person posting them would just create another blog. I sent the person a message and I'm waiting for a response. I'm not expecting anything good back. \n\nI haven't heard from her for about 5 days now. She lives a couple States away from me and she has no cell phone. I tried Facebook, Skype, Tumblr, pretty much everything and not a response. I'm going to contact her cousin about it tomorrow. I do not have any of her siblings or parents contact information. \n\nAt this point I do not know what to do. Contacting authorities would be hard because she recently moved and I do not know where she lives. I at least want to get the photos down..", "summary": "My good friend had someone post her \"personal\" photos leaked on the Internet and I have lost contact with her."}
{"id": "t3_1x5yog", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my cousin [21 M] known for years, seems to be depressed and I don't know what to do.", "post": "My cousin has self esteem issues and seems to have depression. He abuses drugs and alcohol often. I can't control what he does, and I tell him he doesn't need to get fucked up all the time.  He will get pissed off if nobody wants to get as fucked up as/with him. Sometimes he has no control over his emotions when he drinks. When he is sober and bored it's like he doesn't know what to do with himself, and wants to get high or drunk.\n\nIt's getting to the point where I feel guilty if I don't want to hang out with him because he doesn't have many friends. I see him from the time he wakes up until he falls asleep. We work together and he sleeps over all the time. I wish he would branch out and find himself. \n\nHe is a nice guy and will buy things for everyone to have a good time.  Sometimes when someone doesn't seem appreciative or doesn't show some excitement, it bothers him.  He'll say these things like, \"Nobody loves me. Fuck you. I'm a piece of shit.\"  We all say we love him and he is not alone. It's hard to reach out to him when he is like this.\n\nI'm always by his side trying to be a good friend. It's sad to know I am one of the few he has. I tried telling him maybe he should see a doctor about depression. He's been getting worse over the past years I've been hanging out with him.\n\nI wish he would finally be at peace with himself, and have more confidence. I love him but I don't like feeling guilty when I want to do my own thing. I am needing more time for myself and want to pursue my own interests. I am worried where this will leave him. I don't mean this in a mean way, but he is like a loyal dog that follows me around and get's sad when I'm away. \n\nHas anyone known someone like this? I want to help however I can. I tried talking with him but he says nobody can understand. He has never opened up beyond a few depressed sentences.", "summary": "Lonely cousin seems to have depression and self esteem issues. He is usually getting fucked up on drugs and alcohol.  I am wanting more time for my own interests. I feel guilt when I don't want to hang out with him, because he doesn't have many friends."}
{"id": "t3_xbklq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend is moving his entire life over to me next week, what can I do to make this easier for him?", "post": "My boyfriend and I (18 and 18) have been together officially for a year now. It has been a long-distance relationship the whole time, with expensive trips every month or so. He applied to the university in my town and has been accepted, so we start together this year. He plans to move during the first week of August, which is extremely soon. I want to make his move as smooth and painless as possible. I worry that a city full of strangers might overwhelm him, or make him feel lonely. He has to learn to take transit, and room with others. I will undoubtedly be there for him whenever he needs me, but what can I do for him? \n\nI don't want him to feel like he's dependent on me, or feel like he's being clingy. But I also don't want him to be bored. We are both gamers, and during our long distance relationship that's what we did to 'spend time together'. I do have a list of tourist-y things for us to do, for the last month of summer. But what about the next 4 years of school?", "summary": "My boyfriend is moving his life over for me, what can I do to make this easier?"}
{"id": "t3_3mlwbi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my good college friend [20 F] of a year, hooked up and I am now worried about our friendship", "post": "I began my sophomore year of college about a month ago and it has been going fine, it has been nice to see all my friends again, blah blah blah. There is one girl, who I'll call Jane for anonymity, who I am good friends with and have known through similar interests and sports since early last year. I wouldn't say I really had a crush on her at all last year, more of a vague notion that she was cute and a cool person. I should also mention that somehow it became somewhat common occurrence for her and her friend and I to have platonic cuddling sessions.\n\nFast forward to last night, we're both at a party together and both very very drunk, and both getting pretty handsy with each other, i.e. she pulling me around by my hand, me arm around her, etc. One thing led to another and we went back to my room, hooked up for a while but no sex. It felt fine and fun at the time, although I think we both noticed that it was an odd situation to be in. She spent the night and we got breakfast with some mutual friends this morning and basically didn't mention it.\n\nRight now I am worried that we should not have hooked up; I really appreciate her as a friend, but am not really romantically into her. I don't really have a good gauge of what Jane thinks of the situation, but I want to avoid changing our friendship if at all possible. I would maybe hook up with her again casually, but it's not something I'm dying to do, if that makes sense. Mostly I'm concerned with not estranging her.", "summary": "Hooked up with a good friend, how to make it not weird?"}
{"id": "t3_1n83h9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] I can't stop thinking about this girl (20/f). What do I do?", "post": "Ok so here is a little break down of the story. \n\nSo 3 years ago I started dating this girl, C. Now we had an okay relationship and I'm not here to talk about that. But around our 1 year anniversary, I finally found out she had been cheating on me with an acquaintance, J. In fact, it was one of my closest friend, W's, best friend. More on that later. So anyway we break up and I don't talk to her for a few months. After several months we start talking again and do an FWB thing. All is well until she goes back to J and starts lying about everything. Now this is fair, we weren't dating, not a problem. So we agree to stop getting intimate and move on to just friends. Problem is, I can't stop thinking about all the lies she spun and how she destroyed our relationship because she \"didn't care.\" So eventually after too much fighting we start to drift apart but remain civil friends. But because she is back with J, I hear all the time from W all the gross details, the fights they have, and whatever else is new. It's been 2 years now since we were in a relationship and I'm largely over the whole thing. But I can't help from being offended by what I hear through the grape vine; I've told W not to say anything, but he doesn't stop. And fed up with her lies (they carried into our 'friendship') I completely blocked all communication with her about 2 months ago: I don't have her phone number, I blocked her on FB and other social media, etc. \n\nNevertheless, every single day, at least once she has floated into my head. Sometimes it's nothing more than \"well I haven't thought about C today\" but that only takes me down a long lonely road again. It's been months since I've talked to her and we hadn't had any semblance of intimacy for over a year. \n\nHow do I finally get this girl out of my head? I'd like to start dating again, but I haven't really found the right girl and since she keeps coming up I don't even know if I'm ready.", "summary": "dated a girl for a year, got cheated on and left. 2 years have passed and I still can't stop thinking about her; always hear about her business through mutual friends. What do? "}
{"id": "t3_3zp092", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally sneaking a friend into my house", "post": "I wasn't feeling my best today so I stayed home from school. By the time my mother was off to work I felt better. So about an hour after she left, my best friend texted me saying \"I skipped today.\" I told them I was at home, not thinking anything of it. Stupid me, because not even 10 minutes later they're at my door! We just watched Donnie Darko and ate chips and when they left, my mind was going a mile a minute. My mom is a strict woman (Note: I'm a senior and my BEDTIME is 9pm). If she finds out, she'll annihilate me. Not only did I skip school, I also snuck someone into my house.", "summary": "i skipped school and snuck my friend into my house unintentionally and I'm TERRIFIED of my mom finding out."}
{"id": "t3_2wguac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Supporting my[m/21] bullied girlfriend[f/20]", "post": "My girlfriend was bullied alot in school and now she's at uni she thought that would have all gone away but it turns out there's a couple of not very nice people that seem to just be picking on her. \n\nShe's a really kind and loving person and I'm not sure if people just take advantage of that and see her as weaker maybe, there seems to be alot of bitchyness that she doesn't like, she's getting really upset about it.\n\nShe knows that they maybe have a few issues themselves and they aren't very nice people, how can I support her as a boyfriend, what advice can I give her? I've never really been in a situation like that so it's hard for me to know what to say. \n\nHer confidence is often quite low, it's easy for me to just say, be more confident, I feel as though the lack of confidence in certain situation almost draws more attention to her. \n\nHow can I be as sensitive and supportive as possible without seeming like I'm dismissing her sadness?", "summary": "Girlfriend being bullied, how do I support her?"}
{"id": "t3_3emimo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25F] moving away for grad school at the start of a new relationship with my boyfriend [27M]", "post": "Background: before we started dating, we had been friends for almost a year. At first we were casual friends in a group, but then started spending more and more time together. After a few months of what was basically unofficial dating, we finally told each other about our feelings and became an official thing on the 4th of July. He's amazing and I feel so happy that we're finally together. \n\nHowever, I'm leaving in a couple weeks to attend grad school in a state pretty far away that's in a different time zone. I made the decision to move there before we started dating and it was one thing we discussed when we first decided to get together. Basically we're going to try to make the distance work and we've already made plans for visits back since I'll be visiting on my breaks to see family. I'm also positive I'll be moving back to my home state when I finish my program in May 2017, so at least there's an end date to look forward to.  \n\nI know it's risky to move into long distance one month into a new relationship, but he was a really good friend before we started dating so we know each other really well and we feel so strongly that it's worth it. His other relationships were long distance with women he met online (although they ended up moving together) and in all honesty, this is my first real relationship with long-term potential. Does anyone have advice for making long-distance work at the beginning of a relationship?", "summary": "I'm about to move away from my new boyfriend and would love some tips on how to manage long-distance!"}
{"id": "t3_44c27h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it bad to give \"too much\" freedom to your partner?", "post": "My boyfriend always used to say that if I didn't want him to talk to a certain girl, I should tell him and he'll stop talking to her. I was always his priority. \nI could never do something like this. I know I wouldn't like if he asked me to cut contact with a friend (he never asked), so I never did the same. Yes I got jealous sometimes, but I always thought jealousy was unhealthy in a relationship. Besides, even though I knew some girls flirted with him (he told me everything), I trusted him 100%, so I wasn't worried. Maybe I just had normal jealousy that any person who cares would have. If I had some serious doubts that he was having an affair, I would've confronted him, but I thought we were both very happy. (I'm 21F he's 20M)\n\nHe ended up cheating on me. Got tipsy at a party, she came onto him. Midway he got too guilty and left. \nHe feels intense guilt, he says he could never forgive himself, he wants to die, etc., I'll spare you the details. We broke up. I know he loves me but he admitted that he never really felt loved back or appreciated. \nI always aim to be a better person/partner so I'm trying to see if I did anything wrong or not. He said if I showed some of my jealousy, that I had put more restrictions on him, he would've been happy to oblige and would've felt more loved. \n\nSo do you guys think it's ok to ask your partner not to hang out around certain people/not to go to certain places/etc.?", "summary": "Tried to be the cool girlfriend, it backfired. Should a woman put certain restrictions on her man?"}
{"id": "t3_tvr14", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, Can I get some input on a new job position?", "post": "So basically I'm currently fighting with two different job scenarios, my current position, and a new job that I've already accepted but have yet to start training for. \nFor reference I'm a pastry chef. \n\nCurrent Job: Very low stress, only about 35 hours a week, great staff, and I work along side one of the most talented Pastry chefs in my country, which could potentially lead to better opportunities much further down the road (I'm only 21, got a lot of work ahead of me).\nEssentially, the only downside to this job is due to low hours, I'm not making a lot of money and I'm also not being challenged in the least, it's all easy items that anyone could do so I've found myself in a rut.\n\nNew Job: Much better pay as I would be on Salary, longer hours, half the day would be spent doing things I dislike and the other half doing basically whatever I want as I would make my own menu.\nDownside is the scheduling would take up my entire summer, I'd be abandoning a lot of music festivals/life commitments ect to basically spend my summer working. I would not have much of a life.", "summary": "Would you rather have a job with little stress, a wonderful environment, friendly staff, making your own schedule,  and low pay. Or a job with considerably higher pay but High stress, high pay, and horrible scheduling. "}
{"id": "t3_378qa6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) boyfriend (26M) of one year thinks the relationship I have with my dad is abnormal", "post": "Hi Reddit. I've been with my bf for just over a year. We've known each other for quite some time and have been living together for awhile with no issues. \n\nAnyway, I'm the only (and youngest) girl in the family. I have many brothers and all of my cousins are male as well. So, naturally, I'm a \"daddy's girl\". I grew up fairly spoiled by him in comparison to my siblings. However, my dad and I are very close. I think he's pretty lonely, in the sense that my mom left him not that long ago (5 years) and none of us live at home. So I spend a lot of time with him, and to be honest, I always have. My boyfriend often isn't home on Friday nights so I usually make it a point to see my dad on Fridays. We'll either go shopping or to dinner. Anyway, my boyfriend thinks it's really odd that we're close. He even thinks it's weird how close my brothers and I are but even more so my dad. He also calls fairly regularly (3-4 times a week) but only to check in for a couple minutes, ask how I'm doing and such. Is this weird? He's got me feeling a bit self conscious about this and I don't know what to think. He doesn't mention it much but when he does he seems to be disgusted by it or something or tease me that my dad is like a \"boyfriend\". I just spend time with my old man and he's not even an affectionate person, he's actually pretty stern. My bf was never close with his family so I'm wondering if that has something to do with it.", "summary": "I am close with my dad and my bf thinks it's weird. Is it?"}
{"id": "t3_tp80w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wondering about Nokia lumina 900 vs Samsung Galaxy II", "post": "Couldn't post this to a Tech board...but I currently have the Samsung galaxy I, and am up for an upgrade.  What I really wanna know is if there is anyone out there who owns a Windows OS phone, or any techie interested, who has any feedback to help me choose between the two?\n\nI kinda wanna give the new windows OS a try, but I also don't want to get it and then find out that I can't do nearly as much as I could with my Android.\n\nI've done my research, and so far all I've seen is \"If you like lots of apps, then the Windows OS isnt for you\".  I haven't seen anything talking about how easy it is to use, get used to, or how it handles software(namely google software, cuz I've been using an android hehe).", "summary": "Nokia lumina 900 vs Samsung Galaxy II, go!"}
{"id": "t3_cexey", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Thoughts of leaving girlfriend of 6 yrs...she's financially dependent on me & I'm worried about the outcome", "post": "Throwaway account here...29 yrs old\u2026Basically, my girlfriend of 6 yrs is financially dependent on me. I pretty much pay for everything (rent, food, bills, fun, her taxes). It's not that I mind paying for everything because I really don't. It's that I wish she was a more financially independent person (for her sake!). \n\nRecently, I have fallen for a someone else (she doesn't know). I wish I could understand why I'm feeling the way I'm feeling, but I just don't. I wish I could turn off the attraction & be happy with who I have. I haven't felt this way towards someone else in a very very long time. It's made me realize that I probably shouldn't be with my girlfriend anymore. It's only fair to be upfront & tell her how I'm feeling. However, I have no idea how she would be able to take care of herself. I still really love her, & I think she's a great person. I'm worried that in her financial state, she wouldn't fair too well on her own. I would offer to let her stay in our home (rented) & continue to pay the rent each month, but then I would have to move out & possibly be renting 2 places at the same time. I'm just really confused about all these circumstances that would involve us going our separate ways, & I certainly would hate to see her life in ruins due a decision that I would be making\u2026.really confused\u2026", "summary": "thinking of leaving SO of 6 yrs, & she is financially dependent on me\u2026don't want to see her life ruined because of my decision\u2026confused."}
{"id": "t3_1b584y", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "i really want to accept gay marriage.", "post": "hey reddit, before you read any further, please understand that i truly do wish others happiness in their lives and i have nothing against people being gay...whatever makes you happy makes you happy! a great friend of mine is actually a lesbian and has been with her partner for many many years! that being said, i was raised catholic (i understand that many of you are atheist, i have no judgement that is your choice, as being catholic is mine..it's important to me! please respect that). I try so hard to just accept gay marriage, but in the back of my head im screaming no no no! i have no issues with gay people being together, it is just the marriage that i apparently have an issue against...not even the people! i love them people! it's so confusing and i dont know why i am like that :S it truly does not make sense to me...any advice?", "summary": "i'm love gay people, a great friend of mine is a lesbian, i don't mind gay people dating, i am opposed to gay marriage..why?"}
{"id": "t3_3k5dmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17M] GF [17F] won't stop talking to a guy I don't like", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years, which has been very good. We've had our ups and downs, but always made up and been happy together.\n\nHowever, right before summer, we broke up for a couple months but continued to talk. We hung out and eventually started going on dates again, which led to us getting back together recently. Things have been great since then. When we got back together she told me that a guy that I had often said likes her, but she didn't believe me, told her he likes her and sent her dick pics while we were broken up. She assured me that she put him in his place and told him she wasn't attracted to him and said she hadn't talked to him since. This was all about a month ago.\n\nA few days ago, she was using snapchat and I saw that she had sent him a message. I asked her about it and she just said it was a picture of rain because he sent one to her. I asked her why she replied, to which she got very defensive so i let it go for then. Later, I brought it back up and she then mentioned she had talked to him earlier at school. I told her I don't want her talking to him because it shows him what he did earlier (dick pics) was ok. At this point she got very mad and said I was being immature, I wasn't respecting her rights and that she could talk to whoever she wanted. I responded by telling her that she was being inconsiderate.\n\nI haven't talked to her very much since then (Saturday). And at this point I'm not sure what to do. Should I end it, get over it or try to talk to her about it?", "summary": "My girlfriend started talking to a guy that sent her dick pics and gets mad when I tell her I don't want her to talk to him."}
{"id": "t3_36dm6v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by changing up a routine", "post": "This happened a few days ago, but I figured that I'd let the weekend NSFW posts have their fun before I posted my TIFU. \n\nIt's Friday night and, being the total nerd that I am, I go to play Friday Night Magic at my local card shop.  I had a good night at FNM and was headed home, but needed gas for my car. I stopped and got gas and then returned home. After getting some ZZZ's, my dad, his GF, and I all go to lunch, and then once we returned, I packed my stuff back up to head back to Uni. All pretty normal stuff. But...I don't have my wallet. WHERE IS MY WALLET. I backtrack like crazy and tear apart the house. \n\nThis is where my TIFU happened. Usually, whenever I get gas, I get out of my car, leave the car door open, scan my debt card, and then throw my wallet back into my drivers seat. \n\nWell I don't remember exactly why or what reason, but I didn't follow that routine this time around. I think I was thinking about going in for some coffee because it was late...\n\nSo I drive an hour back down to the gas station and start to go back over my route home from last night. And behold, my wallet lying there on the side of the road. I pull over (carefully because this is a /very/ busy road) and pick up my wallet. It is pretty much destroyed. The outer layer is fine and has a few scratches, but the inside flaps have been ran over so many times, they were torn to pieces....\n\nAlso, none of my cards were in it. Panic ensues. \n\nI spend ~20 minutes picking up individual cards off the side of the road only to learn that most of them would need replacing because gravel had been all but imbedded in them. Everything was there, and my debt card/identity wasn't stolen, but it's still quite the hassle.", "summary": "Broke usual \"getting-gas\" routine, lost my wallet, found my wallet, and will have to replace everything inside that wallet."}
{"id": "t3_vbzn0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rude customers accident leave money. What's one of your victories in the work place?", "post": "I work at my family business and these two ladies were just being loud an obnoxious complaining about prices. Eventually they worked their way to the register. I was prepared for whatever bullshit they would say. For no reason they just slam their groceries on the counter and like I didn't already know say \"we're ready\".  They were paying seperately and i told one her total and she paid me, I told the other her total and she whispered what did he say I couldn't hear him\nThe other bitch had the nerve to say if he wants our money he'll speak up. And I know I don't talk quietly. So the girl who was asked \"what did he say\" asked the total of the second one. I just pointed to where it shows on the register, really pissed her off for some reason and she slapped down the money and left. Her total was $15.50 and she gave me $20.50. I told her have a nice day, very very loudly, and she didn't realize she was supposed to get change back. Profit $5 bought myself a lottery ticket later and won a whopping $50.", "summary": "rude customers in the end give me $5 on accident, I bought a lottery ticket and got $50"}
{"id": "t3_18qpdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(update)My(14m) mom(30f)is remarrying and there isn't room for me. She's sending me to live with dad(33m) who I haven't seen since I was 6. How can I change her mind?", "post": "Thanks to everyone who tried to help. I talked to my mom and basically told her flat out that I don't get how you can love somebody and ship them halfway across the country. We've always been a team, you know, and she's got a new partner and I'm going to Texas.\n\nShe started crying and I felt bad. Apparently she's having a baby. So that's 5 kids and they are just trying to do what's best for everybody. Apparently his son (the one who I thought was getting his own room) is actually going to sleep on the couch when he stays.\n\nI don't know. I guess there isn't much I can do. She's says that now that they're married, she'll have more money and she can afford to fly me out for holidays and summers. So I guess she still wants to see me. \n\nI know I should be happy for her. Because she's always had it really rough and had to work night shifts for shitty money and it's not like she had the option to go to school or something- she stopped getting my homework around the 4th grade and she had to get a special diploma. So this is really a way out for her. He's a nice guy who treats her well and won't make her work shitty jobs. She even gets a baby.\n\nI am happy for her. It's just hard because I don't want to go. But I guess I will. Maybe my dad won't be so bad. He's never done anything bad to me. He has a nice place and I know he's ok with money. I've never lived somewhere where money wasn't scary.", "summary": "(update)My(14m) mom(30f)is remarrying and there isn't room for me. She's sending me to live with dad(33m) who I haven't seen since I was 6. She's pregnant and it's just hard. I'm not going to make it any harder than it is. Texas here I come."}
{"id": "t3_3gydvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M with my friend [18F] for the past year, she just wanted to be friends and can't move on slmehkw", "post": "hung out with this girl for a while, had the courage to tell her I think she's cute because of all the mixed vibes I get, and she said she just wanted to be friends but we'll still hang out.\n\nWhat I can't get over is that even after all that I still continue inconsistent vibes from her and it's really hard for me to move on cuz she's going to college and all that. I feel like I'm walking around through the day with a knife in my heart. Is there anyway I can reassure that she still wants to be friends after her telling me she just wanted to be friends like 3 weeks ago? Or is there another way I should go about this", "summary": "is it wise to get reassurance from someone that they just wanna be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1j6whk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my girlfriend (22F) act completely different around her family. (23M)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been \"dating\" for about 2 months now. I live about an hour from her and come to visit her on weekends. Things have been really great, I have no real complaints and we always have a lot of fun together. \n\nThe only thing that I have noticed is that she is a lot different when her family is around compared to when we are alone. When we are alone she is fairly touchy-feely. She'll cuddle with me, rest her head on me hold my hand ect. Even in public we hold hands, kiss (nothing extreme). \n\nA bit of context, she has 5 brothers and 1 sister that are all around her age (19-27) and they are close.  I've know most of them and and good friends with a couple of them. The thing I've noticed is that when they are around she is a lot less affectionate, she almost seems not to pay attention to me, and almost never wants to touch me.\n\nTo give some context, I'm not asking her to make out with me or anything infront of them, but I also don't think its normal for her to completely switch off. For example, if we are sitting on the couch watching a movie if we were alone we'd sit right next to each other and she might lean on me a or even more, but if any of them were around she might sit 6 inches from me.\n\nI guess its not a big deal, but I see the way her brothers are with their SO, and its certainly not as cold as it it is with me. Is she embarrass? We're by no means a secret relationship or anything. We sleep in the same bed when I am around and we do have a physical relationship, and they might stay over in the spare room or something. Should I just get over it?", "summary": "Girlfriend is distant and cold with family around, she is affectionate and loving when we are alone. It confuses me."}
{"id": "t3_4okswf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M], getting mixed signals from this girl [19 F], wondering if it's a red light.", "post": "I'll try to keep it short.\n\nDated her a while back, it didn't work out. I had no experience with women so yeah.\n\nShe moved onto my friend, we ignored eachother. Friend didn't want her.\n\nShe moved onto his friend, she followed him, he left her and didn't want her.\n\nI was still hoping for her in the maintime, but I got over it real quickly when she wanted to hook up with my friend's pal. She knew I had feelings for her and I ended it swiftly in a message saying to delete my number and that I didn't have any feelings for her.\n\nRealised I was a bit too harsh, apologized. Talked a bit. She also came off emotionally, saying she was sorry for being so rude to me when I was acting silly, I just said that it was alright and that I was stupid aswell.\n\nShe invited me over to her house again.\n\nBut now she makes excuses that she looks terrible and doesn't want me to come over, or that she was going to text me on day X, day X happened and she forgot because she was busy all day long.\n\nI feel like she is just playing with me, so I came here to ask:\n\nDoes she want me to make a move or should I stop wasting my time here.", "summary": "Girl invited me over, makes up excuses to not come (like she looks terrible, or that she was busy all day and forgot), came off to me that she was sorry for being so rude etc, Just wondering if she wants me to make the move or should I stop wasting my time here"}
{"id": "t3_37ksj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my boyfriend [42 M] of 7 years, feeling unhappy lately - should I try to make this work or not?", "post": "My [31 F] boyfriend [42 M] and I have been together for 7 years, living together for ~6.5.  For the most part we get along great - we share a lot of the same interests, have the same view on finances, family, etc.\n\nLately, though, I feel like we're drifting apart.  I don't know if the age difference is finally catching up, but I still want to do things like travel, move to a different state, go to concerts, etc., but my boyfriend has no interest in any of those things.  He's completely satisfied with our life as it is without those things.\n\nAnother issue is our sex life - it is basically non-existent.  We haven't been intimate in 2015, and at this point, I'm not even sure I want to be intimate with him, as all these differences have made me feel less attracted to him.\n\nThe past few days I've tried talking to him about how unhappy I am, but he doesn't think that anything is wrong and wants us to work on this together.  I'm not sure that's what I want... I am totally confused.\n\nHas anyone else dealt with a situation like this?  Is it best to try to work on this or should I just move out for awhile and take some time to think about things?  I have never been more conflicted - I love him a lot, but I'm definitely unhappy.", "summary": "Should I try to make things work with my boyfriend or should I take some time away?"}
{"id": "t3_2sj63a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22f] break up with my boyfriend [26M]?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We fell hard for each other really quickly. \n\nOver the last year however we've had a really rough relationship. We have both developed trust issues with each other. He's made me question myself as a person. I was fairly happy with who I was when we met, now I have totally lost any idea of who I am anymore.\n\nI'm think I might be facing emotional abuse but, I don't really know. Everyday with him is like getting, not poked but stabbed with a hot fork. Whether it be accusations or insults there always seems to be something once day that sets him off on me. The only way I get to go to bed without any sort of resentment towards me is if I just don't say much. \n\nI'm a really sensitive person and I tend to keep a lot of my feelings to myself. I'm on the verge of exploding. \n\nI don't know how much more I can take honestly. I care a lot about him and the idea of not having him around hurts but, I don't think I can take anymore of this treatment and feeling unloved.\n\nWe live together currently and we were planning moving to a different city together for school. I know without him I can't afford to do so but, I think my sanity is more important to me right now.\n\nIs there anything I could do to improve my situation? \nAny suggestions would be appreciated!!", "summary": "Feeling mistreated and don't know if it's worth my time staying with my boyfriend in hope of things improving."}
{"id": "t3_4mh41u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a great night", "post": "okay, so here goes.. right now it's 8 am in the morning (europe) and i just had the weirdest experince.\n\nokay so a little backstory.\n\nright now, i am seeing a sweet sweet girl, whom i've been on a few dates with.. another one scheduled later today. and everything is going great.\n\nsooooo tonight was no extrordinary night, just being alone chilling by myself playing games.. about 2-3 am rolls around and i head to bed. right then and there i recieve a text from a girl whom i have a  Fwb kinda relationship with earlier, but maybe 3 weeks ago she told me we should stop seeing eachother. ok cool i think.. back to the text. \n\nHer: hey are you in the nightclub?\nMe: Nope?\nHer: you should come..\nMe: naah not today i am having a home night. ( i just say this because i know i am dating somebody else)\nher: can i come to your place then.. \nme: i don't know..\nher: i don't care im coming anyways\nMe: ( thinking fuck shit omg) well okay i guess\n\nsoo then she came like half an hour later and i just asked her why she came, since she clearly didn't want no further contact with me.\nshe told me she missed me and etc.. so she went in to my bedroom and got undressed. and just thought oh hell wtf one last time.. \n\nproblem is that now i feel extremely guilty...\n\nand i have a date in like 3 hours with the other girl..", "summary": "dating a girl. ex fwb crashed my place, had sex. feel guilty.."}
{"id": "t3_1d10kb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I , 27M, am having money issues with GF, 24F", "post": "Been dating my GF for 2 years now and we share a 1 bedroom apartment. We agreed on a few things before we moved in together. \n\n * I would pay rent, 740/Month\n * She would cover utilities and internet 100-200/Month\n * We would split groceries\n\nI work almost full time and go to school part time, full time again next semester. She works 1 night a week and spend the rest of her time training her horses. So the money she makes goes to the horses, while the money I make goes towards everything else. \n\nI understand that I make more and as such can contribute more, but 100% doesnt seem fair at all! I've talked to her about this several times, but nothing has changed. \n\nHow do I get her to find a second job?! All I can really think of is threatening her, but I don't want to do that. I love her very much, but I am getting very tired of getting up early to go to a job I hate and going to school while she gets to get up late every morning and go about her day as she pleases. \n\nI understand that we are in this together, but I just want to feel like I am being treated fairly.", "summary": "GF isn't contributing to the bills and it is really straining me and I need to find a way to get her to find a second job!"}
{"id": "t3_2z5t20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f/20) am having serious trouble dating. I feel like I'm from a different planet sometimes.", "post": "I'm 20, a virgin, never been in a relationship.\n\nI was the introverted shy girl in high-school. I'm not ugly and got a bit of attention from guys, but guys that I didn't really like, because they weren't the type of guys you get in a relationship with. \n\nThis situation has continued in college. I'm the introverted shy girl still. I don't know how to meet people. I tried tinder for exactly 2 minutes. Honestly? I found it sad, stupid and shallow. I tried online dating where at least you can write a bit about yourself, and went on 3 dates but they didn't go well at all for various reasons.\n\nI feel like I'm from a different planet sometimes. I want a relationship. I don't want \"friends\" WB. I don't want casual sex. I want a happy monogamous relationship. It seems like everyone else doesn't though. I feel like I'm from a different planet for wanting something different, for seeing what everyone else does as a bit shallow and nihilistic. \n\nAm I doing something wrong? Am I just completely from a different planet or something?", "summary": "Want something different than everyone else does. Wondering if people like me even exist."}
{"id": "t3_3odw6j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (27/F) want to break up with my freeloading boyfriend (43/M) of 6 years", "post": "Got together with him when I was 21.  Never thought it would last this long.   6 years later and we are still together.  We have been living together for 4 years and I want out. We just got a new place together and I unfortunately put him on the lease. I pay for everything. Security deposit, rent, utilities, food. You name it-I fund it. Its been 2 years of me working and him doing jack shit. Drives me crazy.\nI tried to break up with him 3 months ago.  He refused to leave or pay me back for my 4,000$ security deposit. I bitched out and decided to \"work things out\". Now (3 months later) I'm still feeling the same way. I want him out, but he wont go. \nI'm in a time crunch because my best friend wants to move in with me, but dude bro has to fuck off.  I know that when we talk he will (once again) refuse to leave. So.... reddit wtf do I do?", "summary": "How do I make my freeloading boyfriend move out?"}
{"id": "t3_4h4aqt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By stealing a motorbike which I thought was mine.", "post": "Picture this, I'm chilling at home the clock chimes 11 and I head out for a smoke and realise my motorbike had been stolen, they had cut through my chain and taken it, I last saw it about an hour before.\n\nI did the normal protocol ( Called police ect) I'm used to doing this because this year alone I have had 3 bikes stolen.  Before you all say I'm stupid and should have more security ; I honestly cant afford to do more considering I'm still paying off most of these bikes. \n\nAnyway so fuelled by adrenaline I walked the streets to see if anybody was walking around with it, after about an hour. I saw a 16ish looking lad pushing a motorbike that matched the description of mine with his hood up. I ran over to him and shouted \"ILL TAKE MY BIKE BACK\" he shouted \"FUCK YOU\"  and ran off. I picked the bike up took it into my garden (Key in the ignition). It wasn't mine but I assumed since the kid left it so easily he had stolen it. Reported to police...\n\nThis morning I called the police to get an update. Turns out the kid I took the bike off was the owner. What makes it even worse is his motorbike was ALSO stolen that night, and he had found it and was recovering it. I matched the description of the original Thief. He must have shit himself. \n\nThe kid has since picked up his bike from my house and I've given him the keys, but I'm at work Riddled with guilt that this young kid had had his bike stolen not once but twice.", "summary": "My motorbike was stolen so I went out to find it. Ended up stealing back what I thought was mine, but was not."}
{"id": "t3_2ynq4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16/f] How to get my friend [16/f] to stop being touchy with my Boyfriend [16/m]", "post": "One of my friends is really touchy in general, like while she's talking to people (male or female) she'll touch their arm and stuff, I don't know why,  just as habbit I guess. It might sound stupid but it bothers me when she does it to my boyfriend, the three of us hang out fairly often and she always touched his arm or shoulder and stuff when she talks to him. Yesterday we were sitting on a couch and she was talking to him and she put her hand on his leg (upper leg) That made me angry but I didn't say anything. Based on my boyfriends body language I don't think he was comfortable with it but was probably embarassed to say something, and I don't think she noticed when she does it. How do you think I could bring this up to her? I don't want to sound crazy territorial of him or anything, but it really bothers me and I think she should stop. Do you think I'm justified to not be okay with it?", "summary": "My friend touches peoples (arms/shoulder/etc) when she talks to them, she does it all the time to my boyfriend, and I don't like it."}
{"id": "t3_16821j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I passed out at the audiologist today. He didn't seem to know why. Do you?", "post": "I went to an audiologist today to get fitted for a pair of custom ear defender plugs. Like the kind musicians use.\n\nAs part of the fitting he pushed this little foam-plug-on-a-string into my ear and said I'd feel some pressure. I said \"ow, I feel pressure\" and he checked and said \"it's not deep enough in your ear\" and pushed it a little bit more.\n\nThen I said, \"I feel dizzy\" and the next thing I know he's shaking me awake and I'm drenched in sweat. I'd only been out for like a minute. I sat in a cooler room to bring my temperature down a bit, and barfed into a garbage can. It couldn't have been dinner 'cos my gf who was with me felt fine.\n\nI got my blood pressure checked and it came up a little on the low side.\n\nThe audiologist said he'd never seen that happen before. I've never passed out before either.\n\nSo is this a thing? Can jamming something into your ear canal cause you to pass out?", "summary": "Audiologist put a foam plug in my ear for a few seconds and I passed the fuck out. He took the plug out and I woke up. What the fuck happened?"}
{"id": "t3_2as4et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 17M, have a serious crush on the perfect girl, 17F.", "post": "I signed up to reddit especially for this, I just don't know where else to go. \n\nBasically my only problem is that I don't know how to correctly approavh my crush. We are in the same sports class and I always try to do my absolute best, when I catch ther looking at me. I've known her for about 3 years now but lately I noticed she's super cute and toatally my type (Blonde, Blue eyes). I'm pretty good looking myself I guess, but I fear that I might repel her when I approach her.\n\nI want her to approach me, but I know she is too proud for that. Also I'm not really the one to make the first move. \n\nI would't have posted here if it wasn't urgent. PLEASE HELP ME REDDIT!", "summary": "Basic problem with a crush"}
{"id": "t3_4ou2ty", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bleeding on my bf's bed", "post": "(Repost because I forgot to flag as nsfw.) \n\nMandatory \"didn't happen today, happened a few weeks ago\" disclosure. \n\nI was staying the weekend with my boyfriend. It was at the end of my period week, we hadn't had sex in a while, so I was really hoping it was over and we could get it on tonight. I was still wearing a pantyliner all day just in case of left over spotting, but hallelujah, none happened! Went to the bathroom to check one last time before we got into bed, still good; game on. \n\nAfter we finished and he sat up, I noticed a bit of reddish-brown on his nether regions. Already knowing what I'd see, I looked down at the sheets under my booty; sure enough, the Red Dragon had made a poorly-timed reappearance. A gross mixture of period blood and secretions were on the sheets. \n\nCompletely mortified, I notified him of the issue. After a brief grossed out expression, he graciously said it was no problem, and we both wiped them off as well as we could and changed the bedclothes, then had a good laugh about it later. \n\nEven worse, he's an RA at our university and thus lives in a dorm. With a communal laundry room. Not sure if anyone noticed when he washed the soiled sheets, but dear god I hope not. \n\nLuckily he's great and it wasn't a big deal though!", "summary": "thought period was over, got it on with the bf. Period wasn't over, sheets were soiled."}
{"id": "t3_23npk4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Boston, MA] (F 17) Legal information about getting birth control without parents consent/knowledge...ever", "post": "I lost my virginity to my bf of 2 years. Not worried about STD's at all. We use condoms but I would definitely feel safer with another for of birth control like the pill. I am currently not seeing a gyno and I am on my mother's insurance. Because both of our families are extremely religious we are not comfortable with them finding out. Is there a 100% fool proof way I can get the pill without my parents finding out? I mean 100% as in not showing up on insurance forms, drug store, mail info, anything. \nI'm terrified if I do get it a paper trail will be left somehow. If my mom goes to the drug store and asks for jane doe's prescription i cant have them give her my ADHD meds and birth control.  If she transfers jobs/ insurances i cant have the appointments or medication bill show up ANYWHERE.", "summary": "I want to be safe, but religious mother CANNOT know i am not a virgin"}
{"id": "t3_537p6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] with my boyfriend [27M] of 3 and a half years. Everything is perfect except for the fact that he is feeling unmotivated to secure our future together.", "post": "My bf loves me so much and treats me like his whole world. He's never been unfaithful, lets me use his phone without hesitation, very communicative, incredibly caring and just an all around great human being. He's sacrificed his time, money, and fun so I can go to cancun with my mom because my mom and I have not gone on vacation together for more than 10 years now. He tried to pay for some of the vacation but I didnt allow it. Since I didnt allow it, he just started paying every single time we ever went out so that I could save money. \n\nMy family loves him and thinks he's a sweetheart as well. His mother and father and his 2 sisters are on great terms with me too and I'm very close with his mom now.  \n\nHowever, he's told me that the past 3 or so months he's been quite depressed. He's had a panic attack just once but that was 3 months ago and it never came back. I am not able to make him happy. \n\nAccording to him, his depression is causing him to wanting to quit work. I know that he might find a job later but he took almost half a year to find this one. He is lazy sometimes so I'm nervous that he wont be able to provide for us as a family if we ever got married. I dont like his tendency to quit things so easily.\n\nWe had a large fight and I suggested breaking up because one of my big things is that I want to feel secure in our future. I dont want to live paycheck to paycheck. I dont want to be rich, but I dont want to worry about if I have enough money to pay for food or gas. He told me that he feels betrayed. \n\nAm I in the wrong for suggesting the breakup because of his personality to be unreliable when it comes to work even though everything else in the relationship was either perfect or at the least good? It's one of my huge deal breakers and a huge red flag for me.", "summary": "Boyfriend is almost perfect except for his inability to provide for us. Is it wrong that I want to end it?"}
{"id": "t3_2tbuav", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being a woman and driving a car", "post": "So this happened on my way to work. I was driving my car and turning into the parking lot (where I park for work). I had my indicator on and everything. As I was waiting to turn I see a cop car drive past me. Nothing special. Then I see it turn it's lights on and do a U-turn. And I'm all \"Stop being paranoid moonmoons he's probably doing is job and chasing real criminals\". \n\nPolice officer then turns into the car park I'm indicating to enter and parks up. Now I'm freaking out. WHAT HAVE I DONE??\n\nI turn into the car park and park in my usual spot. Police car pulls up in the spot next to me and I'm getting all 8 Mile nervous (palms are sweaty, knees weak etc). Police man gets out of the car and walks over to mine. I wind down my window. \n\nHe says \"I've pulled you over because you are a girl\"\n\nAnd I say \n\"I'm so sorry!\"\n\nAnd then there's a pause and I'm all \"wait... what?\"\n\nThe police officer proceeded to inform me that they pull people over if the cars registration is under a different sex. I.e. \"coms\" had informed him my car was registered to a male. He then checked his portable computer against my license and realised that they had made a mistake. \n\nHe said sorry about making a mistake and went on to presumably do some actual policing somewhere else.", "summary": "Got pulled over by a cop because I was driving my car without being a man."}
{"id": "t3_3g39q1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My parents [66/67] are retiring back to Brazil and I [F/23] won't be able to ever see them if I stay here", "post": "My parents are going back to Brazil after 20 years in America. I'm 23 years old can speak write and fully understand Portuguese but I am essentially an American. The only problem is, I am an illegal immigrant (no we didn't cross the border, we overstayed our visa). Judge all you want but this was not my decision/fault.\n\nAnyway, I am faced with a very hard decision. Either I stay here and make a life for myself, or go back with them for good (once I leave this country, there is no guarantee I will be allowed back in).\n\nI have a pretty good life here; boyfriend, stable job, friends etc. but\nmy parents are already in their mid 60's and I know I won't have forever with them. They will need me when they get older (despite having 2 brothers that already live in Brazil), but then again I don't want to leave all I've ever known behind, to go to a country that I don't even remember anymore. \n\nI will never forgive myself if something happens to them and I am not able to see them before the inevitable happens.\n\nPlease help!! :(", "summary": "Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_20tykk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by listening to my teenage friends while on a ski trip, and going off a huge jump.", "post": "So this wasn't today but actually last weekend. Some of my friends and I were on a school trip to Sunday River in Maine. Anyways Sunday morning we made our way to the terrain park where there were three large slope style jumps. After 2 runs through the terrain park my friends convince me it would be great idea if I did a jump claiming: \"We've all been out of our comfort zone this trip except for you\".\nWell fast forward a few minutes and there I am waiting to go off the jump. These three guys go off the jumps before me and do 720s and other cool tricks so I think I got this. So I take off and as soon as I'm in the air flying sideways I know I have done something really wrong. All I can think while I'm in the air is \"Oh shit this is going to hurt\" and unsurprisingly enough it did. As soon as I land I can't breath and my arm is just flapping around without any control.\n\nI sit up and catch my breath while holding on to my immobile arm. My friends grab my skis, one of which has been damaged and I ski down to ski patrol. From there I go to the hospital where I stay for 3 days and 2 nights and have surgery to reconstruct my broken Humorous which was 4 hours long, took many screws, a plate, bone graph, and 20 staples to fix.(here is an x-ray of my arm:  )\n\nSo here I am at home, not able to go to school, on pain killers and my whole spring track season ruined because it started on Monday.", "summary": "Broke my humorous while skiing resulting in surgery, a week out of school. demobilizing my right arm(I'm a righty), and wrecking my track season"}
{"id": "t3_4yzz0k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By ordering pizza online and noting I would tip well!", "post": "So this TIFU happened last night! My wife and I were sitting around hungry and lazy, classic recipe for pizza time.  So I boot up our local pizza site order our meal.  Here is were the fuck up begins, I realized its Fuck-this-shit o'clock and our pizza delivery was closing in the next 20 minutes.  So I figure hell ill throw in some incentive and wrote \"Ring bell will tip well\" in the special instruction box.  About 40 minutes later pizza guy rolls up rings the bell and my wife goes to grab our bounty with a $10 tip(I wasn't wearing enough to get the door myself).  45 seconds later my wife yells up at me \"Livenwealth the fuck did you tell the pizza guys?!\"  And i'm dumb struck as she comes in and tells me the special instructions message had become \"Ring bell will XXX well\"  Actually offending the pizza manager and sending the Delivery folk into a ruckus. By the time I learned this its to late to correct the intent as the Pizza store was closed and I imagine we have a black mark on our house.", "summary": "Guess we gotta find a different pizza joint."}
{"id": "t3_m3x9x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got into argument with my friend who said OWS are stupid, lazy people with no proof for their cause. What is the basis (proof/facts) of Occupy Wall Street Protesters and their cause?", "post": "Got into an argument with my friend but I started to realize that I had no evidence or stats to back my claims.  I genuinely support the idea that OWS protesters stand by.  That the top 1% are taxed less and retain about equal wealth as the remaining 99% in the nation. But these are just statements I've read with no real evidence or backing.  No hard statistics.  I went looking for it but all I found was information to the contrary, for example the more income you have the more you're taxed ( So I ask reddit to please help arm me with supported facts and claims defending why OWI are not just complaining lazy people with no basis.", "summary": "Got into argument with friend who said OWS cause has no evidence.  What's the evidence that 99% is not stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_1b3lab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M26] wife [F25] of two years is constantly frustrated with my family and takes it out on me -- I don't want her to hate them, but if I try to defend my family, it makes things much worse.", "post": "My wife and I have been together for almost eight years now and have been married for two of them.  Our families have always gotten along well, but in the last year or so they hit a rough patch.  Both of our sets of parents do fairly well for themselves, but neither are filthy rich.  Her extended family, however, is extremely well-off, and have always helped out my wife, her sister, and their parents by paying for schooling, cars, and many other expenses.  My family did not have this luxury.\n\nI am currently a full-time law student, and my parents were generous enough to pay for my tuition (~$25k a year after scholarship).  Now, we are buying a house and her parents are helping us significantly.  My parents also support my adult aunt and, until recently, also supported my grandmother.  They've said (without us asking) that they wish they could help us with the house, but they really can't right now.\n\nMy wife has been frustrated with me lately because she thinks it's wrong of my parents not to help when her family has done so much for us.  If I try to explain how much my parents give us by paying for my education so I can provide for us down the road, she says that their help is only benefitting me.  I also know that she's spoken with her family about the issue and they feel the same way.\n\nI'm sorry for the long post, but I'm at the end of my rope!  I don't want problems between our families, but I can't help but feel that they're being unreasonable.  How can I reconcile this mess?", "summary": "My wife's parents are helping us buy our first house but my own parents can't afford to do the same.  Now she's mad at them.  Is she just being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_1gls1x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] have been dating a guy [29M] for just over 2 months, slightly confused and a little frustrated.", "post": "A little over two months ago I started dating this guy and things have been going pretty well, although progressing a lot differently and slower than I'm used to. \n\nWe spend a decent amount of time together, I stay over once to a few times a week, and we are having sex. He invites me to outings with friends who all seem excited to see me, he makes an effort to get friendly with my friends, and this week invited me to go out with him and his sister (which I sadly had to pass up anyway). He has gotten me two small gifts for the sake of it since we started seeing each other and has even skipped work to spend a day with me (which is kind of wild). \n\nI guess what has left me feeling a little frustrated is his total lack of affection, and I'm not used to it. He isn't touchy at all and also doesn't like to be touched / barely kisses me / doesn't ever pay me any compliments that make me feel all that special or like more than a friend. It kind of leaves me feeling like FWB. I've brought it up and asked where he stood, and he said, \"I like you, I like where this is going, let's see where it goes,\" and that he \"gets that\" about not being affectionate. I also feel like our communication is poorer than in the beginning, but I could just be making that up.\n\nI understand wanting to take things slow (about a year and a half ago he got out of a 4 year relationship), but I don't feel like he values me as a romantic partner, even if he actually does. I'm starting to get frustrated with it, but I don't want to risk ending things abruptly if I'm just being needy. \n\nIs this totally normal behavior? Do you think it's worth it to stick around longer? Has anyone else had to deal with something like this?", "summary": "Guy I am dating makes me feel like a FWB, says he wants to see where the relationship goes when I confront him, and it's a little bothersome for me."}
{"id": "t3_39iyqp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Employment. I have a job where I may have the chance to climb the ladder, but I also have an opportunity at a higher paying more stable job.", "post": "Okay Reddit.  Lets Talk.\n\nI started working at this flexible packaging (rotogravure printing) company about two years ago, so far love it!  (Small business are the best!)  The pay is $4 over minimum and the employees are awesome.  Best yet, the founder who is the companies \"Packaging Engineer\" is old and may retire within <5 years.  My direct boss told me that he would be willing to pay for some of my schooling, if I pursue the path of Packaging Engineer, to presumably replace the founder when he retires.  I like the job, I don't hate it- I don't love it.  It pays okay and it doesn't make me want to kill myself.  Is a packaging engineer really what I want to do with the rest of my life?  Maybe/Not Really.\n\nIncoming curve ball.  I have the opportunity to work at the local county.  I've heard county jobs are the best!  This would pay dramatically more than my current job, however it is definitely not as interesting than what I currently am doing.  County Jobs are great because they'll pay for some schooling as well, they offer EXCELLENT retirement benefits and plans and have the best benefits for insurance and all that jazz.\n\nSo here's my question.\n\nDo I risk it on the small company?  Should I stick around doing what I enjoy to see if I can climb the ladder and make some actual money?  I've been there two years and I've only got a $.50 raise so far.  (Remember I'm not making much to begin with).\n\nOR\n\nDo I say \"Thanks for the experience!\" and take the higher paying (than currently getting paid, definitely not high paying), more stable county job?  \n\nI'm so lost reddit, I don't even.", "summary": "Have a good job.  Pays \"ok\".  Opportunity to climb ladder.  I can get better government job, pays better.  Opportunity to climb is less, perhaps more stable though.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_36mnmo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having firetrucks called to my workplace", "post": "This was actually a year ago when I got my first job out of college.\n\nI work in a small office with only 3 other people. The first several weeks on the job I noticed that everything was super casual and my boss would take his lunch break to actually cook a little lunch in the kitchen instead of bringing something pre-packed. I thought this was an awesome idea, and since I had nowhere to go during my lunch break would give it a shot. \n\nSo here I am cooking some brown rice in a pot on a Friday with no one in the office but my boss and I. Boss yells from downstairs that he needs some help moving something. I go downstairs to help him, and we end up cleaning up a little. About 10 minutes later we hear sirens and firetrucks from the fire station about a mile down the road. I take off upstairs realizing my fuck up to find the office engulfed in black smoke.\n\nThe water from the pan had evaporated and the pan was rolling black smoke. Luckily, there was no actual fire. Boss called me a dumbass, and we laugh about it to this day.", "summary": "New employee tries to make rice at work, instead has fire trucks called to workplace. Somehow kept job."}
{"id": "t3_3qc312", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What are some low risk investment options for about $9000 or should I pay off part of the loan", "post": "Hello All,\n\nI was wondering if anyone had any investment advise. My SO and I have about $19000 in our savings account which we don't plan on using.\n\nBoth of us are PhD students with graduate student salaries but live in a cheap enough town that we have about 1000$ saved every month (combined). We have a car loan of about 18000 for next 5 years at 1.9%. \n\nOur savings every month get split into a car fund and a vacation fund, which is separate from the savings account. We plan on making 18 payments/ year for the car instead of 12, so we add money to the car fund after the regular monthly payment. \n\nI would like to keep atleast 10000 for emergency fund but still have about 9000 not being used and making no money at all. \n\nI debate whether I should pay off 9000 worth of the car loan, but I feel I would rather keep that money liquid and invest at a low risk place.", "summary": "Want to invest about $9000 in a low risk place, but don't know where."}
{"id": "t3_jzf7h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "pick up line game, need ammo", "post": "my friends and i play a game we call the pick up line game. the basic rules are as follows:\n1) you must play\n2)no bitching out\n\nhow to play:\none friend picks a girl or group of girls at the bar, the second friend picks a pick up line, the third friend must go up to the girl(s) and the first words uttered must be the line.\n\nhow you win:\ncondition 1) you're successful despite the horrid line, good job\ncondition 2) your friend is horribly unsuccessful, possible slapping or drink flinging\n\ncool girls will of course laugh at the corniest lines, examples include \"my love for you is like diarrhea, i just can't hold it in\" or \"you wanna get out of here and make some babies?\" \"no\" \"what do you have against babies?\"\n\nwe are going to montreal this weekend and the game is best with fresh ammo. what do you have reddit?", "summary": "what's your best pick up line?"}
{"id": "t3_11bzle", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [26m] am single and starting to lose confidence in myself.", "post": "This is the first time i've posted on here but let see how i can put my thoughts down into words, hopefully I won't ramble on too long. \n\nSo i'm 26m and never really had a serious relationship, you know the ones where you can see yourself being with her for a long time, maybe all together i can say I've had 2 flings. I've been on plenty of dates but they always turn out to be the usual, lets just be friends kind of deal. I don't know what to think anymore. I always hear the usual, be yourself, pay attention to her kind of deal. I'm a fairly outgoing person, fairly athletic, and have a lot of confidence in myself. \n\nBut regrettably i can never seem to get a gf. I have no problem talking to them but i can never seem to get one to be more than friends. Its a shitty feeling to always feel alone and such. I always thought it was a few things that contributed to my singleness, such as not drinking or just not being the 'typical' kind of guy and women just don't know how to react cuz they're not used to it. I'm not the least religious but chose not to drink but I feel like that's one reason girls tend to be turned off. Maybe they think I'm not a fun person or I'm just a nerdy shy guy, which I'm clearly not. \n\nI'm starting to lose confidence in myself cuz before I was confident enough to convince myself that I'm fine the way I am and its just their loss. But lately ive begun to think maybe I should really re-evaluate myself? So now the question, I would say its directed moreso towards the women. If an athletic, I wouldn't say I'm like brad pitt good looking but I do take care of my appearance, and very outgoing and friendly were to approach you, would you be turned off by him just b/c he doesn't drink? There are other questions I would like to ask the women here but lets start off by that.", "summary": "Do women who drink get turned off by men who don't drink?"}
{"id": "t3_3rzhyg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slamming my cats tail in my door accidentally", "post": "Okay so this wasn't today, it was about a month ago. I live in a house with my parents and we have a couple cats. My room is located directly across from the bathroom, and my cat has an annoying habit of staring at whoever is peeing while they pee. He'll barge right in and sit down for the show. So my room. Quick explanation: I have a habit of quickly opening my door into my room, side-stepping forward and left in, sweeping my right foot in a clockwise arc around the path of the returning door, and quickly shutting the door as fast as possible. It feels very ninja. Anyway, the cat apparently forgot I do this, as it paused in my doorway as i entered my room after peeing (i keep my door shut to keep the little cat out, he tears shit up) with its tail draped behind it. One heartbreaking screech later, i manage to get him and check his tail only to find that somehow the action of the door and doorframe has literally skinned the tip of his tail. we rush him to the vet, and he gets it cleaned and stitched, something like 16 stitches or something, although counting stitches is stupid because its all one thread. he's all better now and he still loves me but ive added a special left foot sweep back into my entrance routine to prevent further disaster from occurring. \n\n(unsure if needed)", "summary": "I skinned my cat's tail partially and he had to get stitches and i still feel horrible about it ;__;"}
{"id": "t3_4sz7pm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I wasn't embarrassed when someone noticed I lost weight!", "post": "The scale says I have lost 17 pounds. I didn't really notice any physical changes but I also know how critical I can be to myself. (I never took body measurements out of fear of the outcome, stepping on the scale was hard enough.) I had heard or read that others won't start noticing until you lose 30 pounds.  I thought okay so I am a little over half way of 30 pounds, I won't have to worry about any comments until then.  I have been dreading the moment someone asks me \"Have you lost weight?\" It just brings a painful awareness to the fact that yes I was heavier at some point and I'm not too proud of that. I thought if this were to happen I would be embarrassed.\n\nI had not gone to a one of my favorite pizza shops in a few months since I was looking for work and didn't have excess funds and I wanted to stop myself from temptation both in excess food and spending too much money. I came in yesterday and the owner is someone who knows almost every customer's name and face, asked if I had lost weight. Instead of feeling awkward, or pained, I was proud. I beamed and said \"Why, yes I have. I have been working really hard at it.\" I freaking owned my past weight but that was not my focus. I am really proud of the hard work I put in these past 3 months. I don't always give myself enough credit and it is hard for me to accept a compliment but I was able to do both those things in that moment!", "summary": "Someone I knew asked if I lost weight, thought it would make me uncomfortable. It didn't I was beaming."}
{"id": "t3_vq6n9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I tell her?", "post": "Tomorrow is graduation for both of us (me, 17m, her, 17f) and I wanted to know if I should tell my girlfriend of one month that I love her. I'm pretty sure she feels the same, but I don't want to ruin her night by saying it too soon and have her feel guilty for not saying it back or weirded out. We've been best friends for four years and have liked each other for almost that entire time and have only just started dating, so I'm quite positive that I do love her. Am I making the right decision in telling her tomorrow?", "summary": "wanted to know if its a good idea to tell my girlfriend of one month that I love her at graduation."}
{"id": "t3_3y8fkw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk in a third world country bar with my father in law", "post": "This actually happened a few months ago.. So my father in law invited me to a local bar in a small town in Nicaragua.  My FIL is a heavy drinker and he's known to get very drunk to the point he passes out.  There's no talking him out of it.  So we go in and start drinking. I tend to go out with little money in case I get robbed. So an hour in to drinking,  my father in law is piss drunk.  I'm getting drunk,  but staying conscious enough to know what's going on.  I told him I'm out of money and we should go.  He tells me he has money and to order more drinks. At this point,  I stop drinking to try to sober up a little and he keeps going.  Eventually he passes out.  So I'm ready to go,  wake him up and tell him to pay the tab.  He reaches in his pocket and apparently he left his money at home.  The bar owner replies \"in that case,  we keep the old man until you come back with the money.\"  So I leave the bar,  a drunk American late at night in a third world country walking home drawing the attention of every robber in a mile radius.  I got lost walking back and ended up at the opposite side of the town and what do you know,  I get robbed.  Luckily I had no cash on me,  but he did take my shoes. So now,  no shoes,  confused and lost I eventually run into someone that knew my wife's family and drove me home. I picked up some money,  put shoes on and went back to the bar with the ride.  My father in law was sleeping at one of the tables not having a clue of what I just went through.", "summary": "Went to a bar in  Nicaragua with my heavy drinking father in law,  he passes out,  no money for the tab, bar holds my FIL as pawn,  got lost, got robbed for my shoes."}
{"id": "t3_1183kt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "can I get your opinion on this reddit?", "post": "a little bit of back story first off. I was born with a physical disability (CP). However academically I am above average(3.0 GPA in USA avg). However the physical effects have lessened since birth. I am now able to walk with no issue. My problem is as follows I took a class that required swimming 1 time a week. I always left my wheelchair and walked into the pool. There was no problem with this for several weeks. Then a teacher I have brought up \"concerns with me about it. She told me to bring my chair to the edge of the pool. However she and the other facility have said I have had no problems at all. However due to liability I am required to do so.\n\nthe way I see it\n\nputting money over the freedom of me a student\nalso I see it as a hate crime because the only reason I am having this problem is because of a disability caused at birth that I had no control over and because I have had no problems\n\nwhat do you think Reddit?", "summary": "in order to make an informed decision please read the entire wall of text post"}
{"id": "t3_4bw1rk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18/m) broke up with my girlfriend(17/f) a month ago, trying to fix it.", "post": "i broke up with my girl of 6 months in febuary after we both was feeling really bad. After trying to cut connection I couldn't and we kept o talking. We meet and talked and said we would try again but she wasnt sure, she keept on changing her mind. last weekend I gave her the things we always talked about a date around her city and we then talked again. She told me her feelings had cool down a bit and she wasnt sure what she felt. but we decided to talk and give it some time, not fooling around with other people. She is now away on a trip for 2 weeks in asia and i really miss talk to her. Maybe I should give up but i wont because this is so right. so please guys no tips about letting her go because i wont. I will fight with all my power to get her back. I just don't now exactly what to do at the moment. She is my life, I talk to her all the time and nobody gets me like her. What should I do so she don't forget me? In afterhand i know i broke up because I panicked. every tips what do is appreciated.", "summary": "broke up with gf, didnt stop talk, missed her talked alot about us she isnt sure but iam not willing to let go off something that great."}
{"id": "t3_3aagg1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Moving Violation Problem, need help.", "post": "So last week I got pulled over for speeding In Minnesota. The officer does his job, I sit there quietly, he tickets me, and we part ways. It's not until I get home that I realize there is nothing printed on the citation. No citation number, no name, nothing about the speed limit or how fast I was going. It's literally a blank citation sheet. Now here's the real issue. I drive a lot for work and I don't want my employers finding out I have another speeding ticket and getting re-evaluated as an employee. So my question is, if I were to take this to court how would I go about getting this ticket off my record, or am I just wasting my time with this.", "summary": "Cop game me a blank speeding ticket and I wanna fight it."}
{"id": "t3_nw72d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To fap or not to fap", "post": "Guys of Reddit, I really need your advice!  \nMy boyfriend believes in not masturbating and watching porn because he think that it will be disrespectful to his future wife.  He thinks that watching porn will 'taint' sex between a man and a woman because if the guy watches porn, his mind will be filled with images of other women when having sexytimes with the lady.  As a girl, I feel that it's ok for a guy to masturbate and watch porn, by all means go for it, as long as it's not excessive.  I myself do not masturbate nor watch porn, but if my boyfriend watches porn and does masturbate, I won't penalize him for 'disrespecting' me.  I always thought that fapping was a normal activity for males but he has assured me that it was not the case.  Is that true? \n\nLastly, he *has* fapped and watched porn before but he managed to quit and has no intention of doing either...activity...again.", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't fap, is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_so94m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 22 I just watched My Neighbor Totoro for the first time for a pretty weird reason. What awesome things have you missed out on until specific circumstances gave you an excuse to experience them?", "post": "Browsing reddit, as many of us are wont to do, I came across this pic someone linked of \"[scary totoro] I'd seen this image numerous times before online, and I remember hearing that there was a rumour surrounding the movie. I checked the comments and sure enough someone was kind enough to link [this blog post] \n\nNot wanting to spoil the movie by reading the urban legend surrounding it, I busted out my *Studio Ghibli* 4 disc set (purchased from a totally legit, totally not a bootlegger kiosk in a Chinese mall, five years ago in Toronto for $10), and finally, after all the years of putting it off, I watched *My Neighbor Totoro*. I enjoyed it now probably more than I would have as an attention deficit child (although I guess I can't know for sure).\n\nAs for the urban legend, I think it's more likely that Mr. Miyazaki was inspired by the tragic story and created a spiritual alternative to it, and rather than literally, or metaphorically, killing the girls, created an alternate life for them in homage to the family. But who's to say for sure? It's fun to think about the ideas and rumours either way.", "summary": "I watched *Totoro* for the first time because I was interested in the rumours about it, but didn't want the rumours to spoil the film."}
{"id": "t3_36l3nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my GF [21F] of 2.5 years, I will be doing a 6 month internship somewhere in the tri-state area in ~9months. LDR advice?", "post": "I'm going through a program at my university that places me in an internship somewhere in the tri-state area for a 6 month internship. I have very little control over where I will be placed. Best case scenario is in my college town, worst case scenario is in a state to the East, middle case scenarios are in some nearby towns that could be anywhere from 40minutes-several hours away.  \nOn the off chance that I am placed in my worst case scenario or even if I'm placed several hours away, what can I do to help make sure the relationship stays strong? We already text fairly often, but this will probably increase while I'm away. We'll probably start calling/skyping as well and maybe get some webcam stuff going too.\n  \nAs far as relationships go we are pretty solid, with a few rough patches here and there. We've lived together for about a year and will be living together again until I leave for my internship. If all goes as planned we'll be living with another couple next year so she'll have company and shouldn't get too lonely without me around all the time. Any advice while I'm gone or that I can start immediately would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Going away for 6 months in about 9 months. Looking for advice on keeping relationship strong while I'm gone."}
{"id": "t3_z1av9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you feel about the political system with the recent developments at the RNC?", "post": "I personally feel a complete disconnect from either political party. I am a registered republican, but I don't just \"vote republican\" because I have a brain and I had faith in the system. I've voted Bush, Obama at the respective previous elections, but now I feel like the entire electoral system is a complete farce; a joke. It has become painfully obvious that businesses (read money) decide elections, ergo they control the government. Elections are no more than a bone thrown at the citizens in order to keep them busy and distracted from what is really going on.\nTo think that at some point I was ready to go to war to defend this country and potentially sacrifice my life for it. I feel angry! I feel let down. This is not the country I envisioned when I thought about the future as a kid. This is not the country in which I will raise my kids. This is not where I will be laid to rest.\n\nIs there any hope for us? What can we do to make the U.S.A. a place worth living in, a place worth fighting for, a place worth dying for?", "summary": "Right here, right now is a fucking disgrace and I feel ashamed."}
{"id": "t3_3eeo7k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By getting a piece of bacon stuck in my nose", "post": "So as with most eff up's, this happened a while back, but still remains quite clear in my memory.\n\nSo to start, food getting stuck in my nose has happened on more than one occasion, just not always as bad as this specific case.\nSometimes when eating, as I swallow, I cough or sneeze. I think it's just bad timing on my body's part, but may be explained by someone with better knowledge of biology. When I cough or sneeze, quite often will the piece of food I'm eating go in backwards through my nasal cavity and end up lodged in the deep upper parts of my nose. \n\nSo one time I'm eating a piece of pizza with those little bacon cube pieces on it and I sneeze with a piece halfway down my throat. I then proceed to do the usual snort to try and get it (disgustingly) back down my throat and be done with it. As I did the snort, I felt a gross slimy piece of pizza go back down and I go about eating my pizza. \n\nAbout a week later I start smelling a terrible odour everywhere I go and think that I may have some hardcore body stink going on, despite my daily shower. I ask a few close friends to smell me to see if that's what it is, but they just shrug it off and tell me I'm crazy. 3 days later of continually smelling this horrible stench, I finally let a big sneeze go. I look down into my hand and nearly vomited, looking at the black rotten piece of bacon that was sitting in my face for almost 2 weeks.", "summary": "Sneezed while eating bacon, got lodged in nose for a week and smelled horrible."}
{"id": "t3_126hds", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I was learning about the grips of the hand in anatomy, and it depressed me. Reddit, what's the oddest/least logical reason you've ever had for feeling depressed or upset?", "post": "To clarify, some of the ways in which you use your hand to grip things have been categorised. There is for example the power grip, which you would use to hold a hammer, and the precision grip, where you hold a pen, say, between your forefinger and your opposed thumb, resting the object on your middle finger. \nLearning about these complex mechanisms that have evolved completely shattered my illusion that you can \"do what you want\" with your hands. In fact, there is a limited set of functions, each one incredibly complex physiologically, which have evolved for specific purposes. Making a fucking fist to punch someone is something we have evolved to be able to do well! It's not just a meme (anymore), it's anatomically facilitated by, for example, the varying mobility of your metacarpals. Now I think it's all awesome though. Or I did, until I started writing this!\nSo what stuff have you ever felt depressed about without good reason?", "summary": "I felt depressed reading about the grips of the hand, but after a break I actually found them awesome. Made me wonder, what sort of weird stuff has made you feel depressed? "}
{"id": "t3_uwgy9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Budgets have been cut, can I still ask for a raise?", "post": "I've been working for a successful tech company for about 3 months and have been doing well as a project manager, even though my project has been hitting a lot of road blocks (things that are entirely out of my hands, unfortunately).  After overseeing many unsuccessful interviews trying to fill a position for my subordinate technician, my boss told me that upper management was putting all new hiring on hold and I would be flying solo until at least the end of the year.  Budgets were also cut in all operating expense areas (travel, consulting, training, etc.).  \n\nNow, I accepted this position for less than what I wanted - I asked for 80k, they offered 72k, I accepted.  I did this for a few reasons: a) it is a foot in the door at a successful, established company b) there's lots of room for growth c) even at 72k, I was almost doubling my previous salary.  However, now I feel that I should be asking for more money as my work load will be increasing because I'll be doing the work alone and I know that they had budgeted a LOT more initially for my position ($100k).  My worry is that my boss will just laugh at me if I choose to ask for a raise now because of the budget restraints and also the fact that I've only been here for 3 months.  It should also be noted that while I have a good deal of responsibility, I could **definitely** handle more work - there are often times when I'm just staring at the clock...", "summary": "budgets are tightened up; my work load will be increasing because my company is not hiring a subordinate for me; i've only been with the company for 3 months; need a strategy for asking for a raise in the middle of a budget \"crisis\" without getting laughed at."}
{"id": "t3_4ugz8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I [17M] do considering my crush on a co-worker [18F]", "post": "Okay so I'll try to be brief. I was recently promoted to a supervisor at the fast food chain I work for. They are aware I am leaving at the end of the summer however I know the co-worker I am interested in will not be.\n\nI am currently considering waiting out the summer and discussing it with her then. I have two major hesitations, one being another co-worker who I am close friends with likes her. I found out today from another supervisor the co-worker I have a crush on knows of my other co-workers crush on her and simply doesn't know what to do but it's not mutual. \n\nThe other supervisor also mentioned her mother had tried to get her to go on a coffee date with a boy however she didn't know what to do and had only been interested in being friends with him and she has had only one short relationship before. I have chatted with her a bunch and we text quite a bit currently with quite a few common interested. Personally I think my best approach currently is waiting til I give my notice and before I leave talk to her about it and she if she'd be interested in a date. Otherwise I'd like to remain friends if it isn't a turn off for her as friends. I'd love to know other ideas and thoughts however as I'd hate to make this an uncomfortable situation for anyone!", "summary": "Should I simply ignore a co-workers crush and wait til before I am quitting to ask out a co-worker who has made it clear to a friend she was uncomfortable with multiple other guys attempts/ the idea of dating them? (that last bit is second-hand information and slightly unclear, sorry!)"}
{"id": "t3_4aexo0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ignoring what a stranger was saying to me", "post": "Happened a couple years ago but another TIFU reminded me of my experience.\n\nI was at a Cubs game in chicago with family.  I used to love going to the games but they sucked and never won.  I think i went to 20 games and they only won one of those games.  So im at this game with my brother and cousins and we are winning at the 7th inning by alot.  it is looking promising.  \n\nMy brother gets a phone call and has to leave.  Everyone else starts talking \"yea lets go now, they won, i dont want to get stuck in traffic\".  Not me, i wanted to stay.  I called up my buddy and asked if he can pick me up from the train station (orange line at midway) if i decide to stay at the game.  He agrees and sends his sister.\n\nGame is done, lots of fun, i leave and im waiting to be picked up.  There were alot of people so his sister calls me and has trouble finding me so im on the phone trying to direct her to where i am and some guy approaches with a cup in hand.  Hes trying to talk to me even though im on the phone talking.  I point at the phone to him and he continues to try.  i dont like giving money to panhandlers that look like drunks but i wanted him to get away from me so i pull out a single and stick it in his cup.....then i hear him say \"what the FCK!\"\n\nthe cup was full of a drink.  he wasnt homeless, he was just a guy asking for directions. i basically made him feel like he looked like a homeless guy.  :(", "summary": "stranger tried talking to me while i was on the phone so i thought he was homeless. put a dollar in his cup.  cup was full of a drink, not homless."}
{"id": "t3_3i40bs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F/20] is 'uncomfortable' around me [21/m]", "post": "I have just recently been told by my girlfriend of a year and a half that she has, as of late, felt uncomfortable around me. She said I am a very pushy person intimately, and it makes her uncomfortable. She says this has happened for as long as she has known me. \n\nI don't know what to do. She says she needs space, and I plan on providing it to her, but this seems to really be pushing the limits. She seems extremely stressed about it and though she assures me her feelings haven't changed, I can't seem to understand how you can be uncomfortable around someone you love. I need help understanding where she is coming from in terms of having feelings yet being 'uncomfortable' and what I can do to fix the situation. I would hate to end our relationship, but lately it's been dragging and I can't even hold hands with her anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend is uncomfortable. Need help understanding why and what I can do."}
{"id": "t3_ei5ym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What characteristics in people do you find the most utterly repulsive and irritating?", "post": "For me it's when people are flaky.  My friend is such a flake, that sometimes I just want to stab her. Once I asked her to pick up my weed from her roommate (this guy I buy my weed from) and to give it to me when we meet up.  So we never ended up meeting because she was flaking. I told her to hold on to my shit for me until I saw her later.  So the next day I call her to hang out, she says okay. Then I ask her about my weed and she says \"oh I kinda smoked it all\". I just wanted to blow up. (I was only significantly angry because she is so selfish and careless) I told her that was messed up and she said she'll get me some to make up for it and I said okay. She never gave me some and it's been over two weeks. She didn't pay me back for some money she borrowed. She always calls me for rides. She always says shes going to call me when she gets home to hang out, but never does and I find out she went out to the bar with other friends. She is so damn flaky and I really just want to punch her. I haven't told her anything.", "summary": "my friend is so fucking flaky and I want to rip her head off."}
{"id": "t3_338daf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ignoring a flickering light.", "post": "A few days ago my \"check oil\" light started flickering every now and then. I didn't pay it any mind, since I still had 400 miles before I was due for a service. (My first car, I've had a license for a month.) Well, all of a sudden I notice I'm going sixty and dropping, pedal to the floor. Smoke plumes from the back, and I hear a small rattle. Pull off the road, into a gas station. \n\nCheck the oil, sure enough, bone-dry. So I go and buy some oil, fill it up, drive around the parking lot, and it drives, but when it's idling the whole car shakes pretty badly. No noise, just the feeling of sitting in one of those mall massage chairs. \n\nSo now I'm waiting on a tow-guy, so I can hopefully then have them just drop it off at my house since I have no cash.", "summary": "didn't check my oil, 0/10 experience. 2/10 with free massage. "}
{"id": "t3_36e83y", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "IRA Help", "post": "Hello everyone. I've been saving and keep going back and forth about a few different investments. Here i'd like to talk about my IRA.\n\nI've had it for 2 years and it showed a 7% return over that whole time. Basically, I added up the money I put in plus the money my company matched, figured the difference and divided (what I invested / current earnings) to get my percentage. Is this normal? Is it good? Bad? I see a lot of websites bragging about 8% annual returns in an IRA.\n\nAt first I was going with low price funds, preferably with dividends for growth potential and reinvesting dividends for more shares.\n\nHowever, i've now changed to the 3 stock option.\n\nI chose index funds with the lowest fees.\n70% Vanguard 500 index admiral\n15% Columbia mid cap index fund\n15% Columbia small cap index A\n\nI'm putting 5% of my salary in with 5% salary match.\nI should mention this is a 403b.\nDoes this count towards my IRA contributions for the year?\nAre these index funds worth investing an extra 10-30% of my salary?\n\nI really want to get a sizable amount of money in there as quick as possible to reap the rewards of compounding interest in the long run.", "summary": "Are my investments bad? Are 403b contributions counted towards your IRA limit? Is it worth passing up buying a house to get as much money in my retirement account as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_4mr77b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18] confused on status with [18f]", "post": "So I have known this girl for about 2 months and I REALLY want to date her but she has a [shitty] boyfriend. I think she likes me but im not sure....\n\nShe has called me \"boyfriend\" multiple times\n\nHer friends \"whoo\" sometimes when she talks to me/Her friend also took a candid pic of me and sent it to her saying \"your future husband\"/Her friends also took candid vids of us together saying \"goals they are cute af\"\n\nShe has texted me kissy emojis and heart eyes multiple times", "summary": "Why is she seemingly interested but still has a bf, am i getting lead on?"}
{"id": "t3_3bcdov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [18/F] bring up his age?", "post": "I've been talking to the guy I met from omegle a year ago and we've gotten really close! We only live an hour away from each other, but have only met once - where I lost my virginity to him. We want to meet up to hang out not related to sex but our schedules don't always click. He also told me we can be in a relationship when I get to college if I still want him (he doesn't want to hold me down). \n\nWhen we first 'met' he told me he was 20 years old, and turned 21 this past April, but recently I've been suspecting he's actually 23 years old because his email has '92' in it. I also searched him up and saw he graduated HS in 2010 and ended his freshman year college May 2011. He is currently a junior in college, but I know things happen than prevent you from graduating on time. \n\nI wanted to know how to bring up my concerns without having to bring up the fact that I searched him. Even if he is 23 I still want to be with him but I rather just know the truth.", "summary": "suspect guy may be lying about his age.. How should I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_2lyt4h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking about facial growths", "post": "When I was in 10th grade (4th year), this fuck up took place.  I walk into my spanish class and sit down with my group, waiting for the class to start.  The teacher assumed that if we  had a group, we would have an easier time learning. Well my hour and a half class finally begins, and we always started class off by basically sharing anything we felt was interesting, or asking the teacher any questions, all in spanish for some simple extra credit points (god I loved those). \n\nWell today went a little different. We got past all of the usual suck up questions (\u00bfcom\u00f3 est\u00e1s?) and our teacher decided to share with us, in english (unusual), that she would be going to a doctors appointment within the next week. She was worried it might be skin cancer, and so she was getting this lump on her cheek checked out. Now, i like this teacher. I was bad at spanish, but she was always there to help and had this feeling that everyone had potential to do anything. So please understand that before this next part. \n\nAbout 40 mins goes by, we've since actually started our lesson for the day, and theres still another half hour roughly in the class. That last half hour was \"group bonding\" time. This led to a conversation involving zits (oh high school) growing on faces.  At this time, my dumbass decides to stand up and indicate in my face these imaginary zits we were discussing while saying \"oh you mean these growths?\". As luck would have it, my poor teacher heard me say this and saw me pointing to basically the same area she was going to get checked out. We locked eyes. I shut up and promptly sat down. I still feel bad about what i inadvertently didn mostly because nothing bad seemed to come from it directly. In a stroke of good news, she was cancer free and is still alive and well. On the otherhand, it took awhile for me to get the balls to say anything in that class. It nuked my participation grade.", "summary": "teacher tells us she might have cancer. She sees me joking about having growths on my face."}
{"id": "t3_1rh6of", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18m] have found out my ex girlfriend [18f] has cheated on me with atleast eight different people. I am a bit confused on my feelings. The relationship lasted a year.", "post": "I went out with her for a year, she took my virginity it was a nice relationship. She had told me about her cheating on me at two different occasions. I decided to be the bigger person and forgive and forget.\n\nNow I have found out that she had cheated on me with 4 random guys from parties, thats not that big of a deal, alcohol does that to people.\n\nBut the other four are my friends, and thats what hurts the most. One of them was bragging about it to my other friend. Who then told me.  The other two confessed it about a week after the relationship. And the last one is now dating her. They started dating about 36 hours after we broke up.\n\nWith all of my friends it was more then one encounter.\n\nI'm not even mad, I'm just kind of confused. I don't get it. How do I react in a situation like this. Everyone knew about her cheating on me yet didn't tell me. I feel just down. What do I tell my friends, that they're assholes? Or do I let it slide. Only two of them apologized. I feel disconnected. This is actually stupid.\n\nI want to get mad but I can't. I have been cheated on in almost every relationship I have had. People cheat I get that. But my friends I really don't get.\n\nOn a plus note though one of the party guys bought me a big mac when I ran into him at McDonalds.", "summary": "I have been cheated on quite a bit. And my friends are the ones who helped her cheat and I am so confused on how to react."}
{"id": "t3_187vem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My FWB [F 23] cut herself after sex yesterday with me [M 30]", "post": "Background: We have been friends for a few months, which has grown in to a friends with benefits situation. We see each other almost every day, even if only for coffee together; have sex maybe weekly. We have strong feelings for each other, and are attracted to one another, but she has made it clear that she doesn't want a \"serious\" relationship right now, which I accept because I don't want one either. \n\nOur sex has always been close and positive. Loving really. After sex yesterday, she left the room for a bit and when she returned she was bleeding - she had intentionally cut herself repeatedly. She had told me previously that when she was younger she had done some self-cutting, though she didn't know why she did it and she didn't any longer anyway. After a crying jag and some cuddling she tried to assure me that it wasn't anything I did, but I am feeling very conflicted now. I'm seeing her in a very different light. \n\nI told her that this is something that we need to get sorted, and tried several times yesterday to get her to talk to me about this, but she won't. She cried a little when she mistakenly interpreted what I was saying as me rejecting her, as though I was trying to end our relationship. \n\nCan anybody help me make sense of this? If anybody out there has done self-cutting or self-mutilation, especially when in the context of sex, I would appreciate your opinions in particular.", "summary": "She cut herself up after sex and I don't know what it means."}
{"id": "t3_4aau6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] am going through a separation with my now ex-girlfriend [28 F] of 2 years and now I have no idea what to do", "post": "So very recently my ex-gf and I had a talk about cracks we noticed in our relationship. Long story short she doesn't want to have kids and I do, she isn't comfortable showing love through physical touch and that's my primary love language, and finally we hadn't had sex in about a year and when we did again I couldn't maintain an erection due to being very nervous which made her very self conscious. In the end we determined that though we do love and care about each other we shouldn't be together as we have different life goals.\n\nI'm still in the apartment we've moved in to together while I look for a new place to live which is rough since I don't have much in savings. She's staying in the apartment because she has two dogs and finding a new place in the area would be much harder for her and I accept that. As I sit here in the apartment I realize I'm terrified of what's next.\n\nI haven't had many girlfriends, just two, and I'm not one for going to bars and am generally very quiet in social situations so I know dating is going to be very rough. I don't know if I can even put someone through my nervousness in the bedroom again. I'm leaving this relationship with a lot of self doubt and it worries me.\n\nI've also become very used to having her in my life so being alone  with myself is going to be horrible. I feel like I have some sort of depression so I know that when I'm left alone with my thoughts they have a tendency to spiral downwards. I know I can find a hobby and keep busy but when I get to the bottom I know it's hard to come back up.\n\nI'm very apprehensive about the future and scared. Please, any words of advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Going to be single again and I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_es69d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question regarding leasing apartments...", "post": "I'm a newb at renting as this is my first apartment but my girlfriend whom I live with is currently on China for work and has been for three months. Her work requested her to stay for an additional period of time, anywhere from three to six additional months. We are currently done with our lease and are on month to month. We were hoping to  just be able to pay for this month and pro rate the days necessary to move our stuff into storage so that she/ us don't have to continue paying rent when she isn't living there and so I can save an additional months rent to hopefully get to go stay with her in Beijing while she's there.  \n\nis there any way to vacate formally without a thirty day notice or will just have to suck it up and pay for another months rent for which we wont be living there?\n\nAlso when we moved in we asked them about an issue a neighbor told my girlfriend about ( she moved from one side of the complex to the other when we moved in ) the girl who lived there before us had about the drains backing up with sewage. When we asked our agent they told us there were no issues there prior to us asking. Fast forward to the following labor day when we had human feces and sewage back up into our bath tub that Friday. We called our office and they said they'd send someone out which never  happened and we went four days with our bathtub full of Shit and quarantined for three days for labor day weekend. In which we called again and  finally had someone come to fix it. When rotorooter showed up they told us they had that issue there before. Which reinforced the fact our leasing agent had lied. I still have the emails somewhere. Anyway I could use that as leverage?", "summary": "girlfriends out of the country indefinitely and we don't want to pay for a whole additional month rent for our thirty day notice on a month to month part of our lease. So we could move out when she comes home for eight days to save us monies.... or are we stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_20vo9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my sister [14F] college student wondering how to be a better role model/sister?", "post": "I'm a 21F college student, living an hour away from parents' home, who could use advice on becoming a better role model/older sister. I have two sisters, the younger is 14, the older 18. I'm looking for advice with regards to the 14year-old sister because I feel like she is more vulnerable to the at-home tension from my parents' arguing (they're married but don't get along well, additionally they show signs of depression (like the fact that much of their days consist of watching TV) that I didn't notice until living away from them) than is the 18year-old, though I welcome any advice on being a better role model/sibling to the older or both.\n\nMy 14year-old sister is a high school freshman. She's involved in cheerleading and for the most part earns good grades, although she struggles in some classes. I'd love to help inspire her in pursuing her interest for photography or any other interests she may develop. \n\nBoth of my sisters and I get along well, but I find myself feeling like I fall short in supporting them in their high school/college endeavors. These are general hopes, but I want them to be intelligent/independent/rational, to aim for academic success (for the younger, the older is a dedicated student), and to be able to appreciate themselves and their friends (which is sometimes difficult given the at-home tension). Out of those, I guess I'd mostly like to foster their intelligence and emotional strength.\n\nI'm unsure which other details to include - let me know if more are needed.", "summary": "How can I be a better role model/older sibling to my 14year-old freshman sister, given that my married-but-don't-get-along parents cause tension and don't set the best example for living?"}
{"id": "t3_3wz2la", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my fwb [29M] of ~18 months. Things are getting really confusing between us and he won't talk to me about it.", "post": "We originally met ~18 months ago at the gym. He asked me on a date and we went out a couple times but we both realized neither of us were really looking for a serious relationship at the time (yeah, it's a cliche but I just got out of a relationship that ended badly). So we decided to be FWB and it has been a lot of fun.\n\nOver the last year we have got closer and closer. We stay at each other's places, go out to breakfast. We go out for drinks - we never call it a date but I guess it sort of is. Last week he invited me to his work party, again never mentioning the word date. \n\nIt's getting kind of complicated and I hate being in this stage of not knowing where we're at with the relationship. We don't talk about other people we've slept with but I had sex with someone else a couple weeks ago and I feel guilty about it. I've not felt like that before with him and I don't know why but I'm nervous he will find out.\n\nSo it's obvious I like him and I would like to be on from just being FWB. It does almost feel like more than that already though because we spend so much time together. After his work party I got the courage to talk to him about what was going on with us. He was very reluctant to talk and kept saying he didn't want to ruin things by changing anything. But I feel things *have* changed between us and it is mutual. I don't think it is just me that thinks this is more than sex now. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong but he won't talk about it and I'mnot sure what to do. If he does like me then I don't want to lose him but if he doesn't like me then maybe it is time to end it. Any advice to get him to talk or can any me give some insight into what he might be thinking? Or is it even worth trying to talk to him again?", "summary": "relationship status between my fwb and I has got confusing. he won't talk about it and now I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2nnwx1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/22] This is kinda embarrassing, (and painful) which is why I want to stop it", "post": "Throwaway account, obviously.\n\nI've not had many girlfriends in the past, my last one that we classed as a relationship was 2012, and that only lasted a few weeks, but now I'm older and relationships get more intimate, there's something I can't stop\n\nTwo years ago, I hooked up with a girl who I liked, we slept together and everything was great, but there was one problem. I could NOT get rid of my erection, even just laying in bed with her head on my shoulder seemed to set me off, even the slightest movement.\n\nNow, I'm heading into what will probably be a good relationship and last night we were sat on my bed, just listening to music, her just a few inches from me/with her head on my shoulder, but I still have the same problem, my erection just won't go. When we eventually kissed for the first time it was even worse. She pretended not to notice, and I had skinny jeans on so it might no have been as obvious as it could have been, but I still think she noticed, and it kinda embarrassed me a little, because these kind of actions should, surely be fairly innocent and not get me this turned on.\n\nMy question is, is there any way to stop it, or control it at the very least? I saw a thread about flexing muscles to calm it, but it wasn't that effective.", "summary": "New girlfriend, I keep getting erections when cuddling or doing innocent actions such as holding hands, and I want to be able to control it."}
{"id": "t3_2gdqv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] want my ex-girlfriend [18F] back, but I'm not sure how to do it.", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend in July because I was going to university and I would be moving out of the city and it would be difficult to be with each other. She had wanted to move in with me, but I had refused.\n\nI thought I would get over her, but that has been unsuccessful. Before I actually moved out, I called her. She had another boyfriend already. I was crushed.\n\nFast forward three weeks, we are talking now, texting every day and Skyping rather frequently. She says she wants to break up with her boyfriend, and that she misses me. However, she still does not seem interested in getting back together.\n\nIs there any hope for me? We are talking a lot now, and I really do love her, and it's killing me that she is hesitant to be with me again, despite how she always says how happy she was with me.\n\nWhat do I do? Just play the waiting game?", "summary": "broke up with gf, decided I wanted to be with her, she had a bf already, she's breaking up with him, misses me but doesn't want to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_2zt2ou", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "NSA", "post": "I'm okay with having a fling with someone, but whenever I've given a chance to some people for just a fling, they'd usually just hit it and quit it and not even get to know me as a friend.  A friend-with-benefits isn't that what they call it?  What's wrong with wanting to be friends with someone you're sleeping with without people thinking you want a relationship out of it?\n\nSome people claim I'm using sex as a way to get someone into a relationship.  No I'm not.  I'd just like to sleep with someone more than once or three times, doesn't mean I have to date them.  If they want just sex with someone with no attachments whatsoever, I don't get why they don't want to call a prostitute instead.\n\nWanting steady action with the same person doesn't mean I'm necessarily looking for a relationship.  I'd just like to not sleep around because the first person hit it and quit it, plus it is safer to get with only one person.\n\nPardon me, if I'm looking to be safe about having casual sex.  With the posts I've read about people getting STDs who are still sleeping with multiple partners who don't tell people they even have a STD scares me to have more than one partner.\n\nBut nearly every time I get myself into a fling, most times they just hit it and quit it and expect me to take a hint without them needing to say anything to me.", "summary": "I haven't been with anyone in for so long that I'd be okay with a fling, but people seem to hit it and quit it and never call me back.  I'd like to sleep with someone more than one to three times and use the term friends with benefits to the fullest.  If they want NSA and just sex with someone, why don't they call a prostitute?  They'd have no problem with someone getting attached as a friend or relationship there."}
{"id": "t3_3tzrip", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating the display", "post": "Okay so yesterday I was at the mall to get my eyes tested and while killing time before my appointment I happened to see a woman giving out free samples of some kind of food down on the main level of the mall. I'm thinking \"FREE SAMPLE FUCK YES\" and I barrel my way down the escalator to get to these delicious treats and I run up to the lady and grab a piece of the shit in the tin and dip it in this liquid they have and go to put it in my mouth. Suddenly the lady gives me a weird look and says \"umm no that's not for eating\" and she takes the little snack out of my hand and tosses it in the garbage. Apparently it was a place that sells tea and the samples were from the machine next to her, and what she was holding was just showcasing the ingredients (which is pretty stupid cause like who's gonna know they're just for display). Either way it was super embarrassing but I couldn't just leave so I stood there for what felt like eternity and waited for her to fill me a sample of the tea. She gave me the cup and I tried to say \"thank you\" but what came out was \"thank those\" and then I scuttled away and left the mall and walked around that part to enter where the optical place was so I wouldn't have to see her again. In hundsight I could have just walked away from her towards the eye doctor but my mind had switched off from the awkwardness.", "summary": "I don't work in public"}
{"id": "t3_3hipje", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "HELP!!! My truck was wrecked, and the at-fault insurance company is calling my truck a total loss. They are not going to pay the full value of my truck due to policy limits. Will they also take possession of my truck?", "post": "So far the insurance company has been dragging their feet, as the accident was over a month ago (July 11), and they only sent out an adjuster to look at it yesterday. I have repeatedly asked my attorney to make them pay for a rental car, and the only thing they have told us is we would have to pay for it.\n\nBecause there were several cars damaged in the wreck, and the policy limit for property damage is only 10,000 dollars, I will not be receiving the full value of my truck in compensation. I do not know if they will be taking my truck as salvage, or if I will be able to keep it. I do realize, that you are able to buy the vehicle back by paying the salvage value, but I am hoping this will not be the case here, as I am already coming out behind due to the policy limits.", "summary": "I am losing money due to another driver causing an accident, and I am worried the insurance company will take my truck."}
{"id": "t3_4fkhtv", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Hi ladies! Any tips or stories from personal experience on how to get over a very serious heartbreak?", "post": "So i've been dealing with a gut wrenchingly sad, unrequited love situation. I fell for someone (M) who didnt love me the same way, who was also my best friend before, so it felt like the biggest loss in so many ways.  \n\nWe knew each other for 3 years, and I am 24 (F). It's certainly taken the life out of me for almost a year since. Ive tried to understand, tried to figure out what made him not fall in love with me, even though my love for him was the strongest feeling. I thought he and I were complete soulmates, and i found myself blindsided by his revelation.\n \nThe thing is, I really dont understand any way to overcome my feelings. I know the tips would be to keep busy, focus on myself, im young and have a whole life ahead of me, etc, but honestly...I do all those things, and keep all that in mind, and have a very active schedule. I have a really great job I love and enjoy solitude to focus on working on my self and have various hobbies I do to pass the time...but to no avail, I still find myself crying and thinking about it almost a year later. I've tried dating and never felt it come an inch close to this love i shared with someone, and it almost makes it harder to get over him when i find myself comparing him to other guys, even good guys, that dont come close. \n\nBasically, I feel like ive tried it all, and although I live a busy and active life I feel that it hasnt at all helped, and in some ways, Im sadder every day that passes that he does not love me back and he isnt mine. \n\nReally am coming here for advice, or for assurance that im not alone in this, or any stories of experiences that mirror mine that are honest and also wise advice. I'm open to any input on this matter.", "summary": "Heartbroken and it keeps getting harder, time hasn't healed, needing advice."}
{"id": "t3_1mdwb5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most insensitive thing a friend of yours has ever said?", "post": "The reason why I ask is because some of my friends don't like that we are supporting one of our classmates during her battle with cancer. \n\nBackstory: we go to a small highschool(<400 students) and it's our senior year. Over the summer on of our classmates got diagnosed with sarcoma. \nEvery year at our school the senior class does a class-wide service project. We decided we would support our classmate and help her through this time. Since that was announced two of my friends have said that they don't like how we are centering our senior year around the cancer patient. We really aren't centering the whole year around her. We are just supporting her.", "summary": "Two of my friends don't want to support our classmate with cancer"}
{"id": "t3_26zu40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [21 M] deal with my girlfriend [22 F] breaking her promise?", "post": "My gf is volunteering abroad for 2 months, and is staying in a volunteer house with 2 bedrooms with bunk beds (1 for guys, 1 for girls).\n\nHowever, she just arrived the first night and found that there was a man (35 yrs old, much older than her) who has been sleeping in the \"girls\" room for the past few months he has been volunteering because the other girls don't mind.\n\nBefore she left, my girlfriend **promised me that she would not share rooms with guys, and would always stay in another room.**  However, it is now the first night and she texted me saying she is too afraid of making people not like her to ask the man to move to the guy's room, and that she isn't going to say anything even tho she wishes he would move to the guys room.  She thinks everyone will think she is a bitch for asking this (the rooms are clearly designated as guys and girls bedrooms).\n\nI'm really pissed, I don't know how I should respond because she specifically promised she would not sleep in the same room as a guy.  I see that it isn't her fault that he is there, but the fact that she is too afraid to ask him to move is making me really mad.  How should I respond?  I do not like the idea of my gf sharing a room with a guy for the next 2 months.\n\nI have no doubts about my gf being faithful, I am just mad that she would rather make me upset (she keeps apologizing to me) than say something to the guy.  This issue is particularly important because she promised to not share rooms with guys so that we can maintain trust in our relationship while she is away.", "summary": "GF promised me not to share rooms with guys, but broke her promise on the first night away, how should I respond?"}
{"id": "t3_27jcha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are my (21 m) feelings about my girlfriend's (21 f) actions justified?", "post": "A bit of background: \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for the better part of 3 years. For a month or two last summer we had a rough time, during which she had a male friend who was helping her through it. During this time, he expressed he had strong feelings for her, which she has only told me about tonight. They spent nearly every day together, often just the two of them. most times I saw her that summer she was with him. I had asked her about him and his intentions before, which she had told me they were just friends. He went away for college and they stayed in contact. Fast forward to this summer. \n\nThey have been spending an exorbitant amount of time in each other's company, once again oftentimes alone and he will spend the night at her house frequently.  Yesterday they went to a tattoo parlor with a mutual friend of ours, who later reported to me that they seemed unusually close. She had him hold her hand throughout the tattoo process, which I get cause ribcage tattoos hurt. I asked today her how the tattoo went and casually brought up if she had to hold someone's hand. She told me she held the hand of the other friend, my informant, rather than the guy she actually did. I didn't ask further until later that night, when I asked in a way where she knew something was up. She answered honestly and I called her out for lying earlier. She said she didn't want me to get mad and she knew I was getting annoyed by the amount of time they would spend together. I'll admit, it has been getting under my skin and I do have a history of letting my anger get the better of me.  One long conversation later, we broke up from lack of honesty and I felt if she felt the need to lie, something was up. \n\nAm I blowing this out of proportion or does there seem to be more between them then she's letting on?", "summary": "Girlfriend spent a lot of time with this guy and started lying about physical contact (hand holding) with said guy. I broke up with her, was it a bad move?"}
{"id": "t3_4gbdnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [2 7F] with my housemate [20's F] communication/space issues", "post": "I live with three housemates, going on two months. One I hardly see shares a room with her sister, the housemate in question. I find it hard talking to her sister because she talks a lot about herself and often speaks over me or asks questions without giving me much time to answer them. Lately I have been feeling depressed and to get out of my funk I want to clean or cook, sometimes in unoccupied space. I would want to do things even with her around but her communication style can be a little off putting for me. She can be nice like offering rides but it's strictly based on her schedule, so not much flexibility. Is there some way to tell her that her style of communication is making it uncomfortable for me to function in the apartment?", "summary": "Housemate's communication style makes me uncomfortable and I find it harder to function around the apartment with her around. Is there something I can say to her to make my stay more comfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_2l509o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am crazy about my co-worker [23F] who has feelings for me too, but has been strange lately.", "post": "A co-worker and I have very strong feelings for each other and have been having a connection for the past month. We used to cuddle, hug, and do cute things for each other all the time, but something happened in her life that made her not herself, and with that she changed how she acted towards me.\n\nShe didn't want anyone from work knowing that we were somewhat dating, so we kept it a secret and I was fine with that, and complied with her wishes. She always told me how strong her feelings were towards me, and she (kinda) knew how I felt towards her. (I think I am in love). She is my dream girl, I cannot fathom how perfect she is. \n\nRecently, her roommates were kicked out of her house for not paying rent for 2 months straight, so she has been stressed out about that and I have been doing things to make her feel better (flowers, candy, etc) and she appreciates them. But when I try to hang out with her, she always comes up with an excuse. She never picks up my calls, but texts me back instantly when it goes to voicemail, and sometimes doesn't even text me back, when she texts me first. I tried talking to her about things but she keeps avoiding it. I'm at the point where I feel like she has forgotten about me, and I don't want to lose her. What do you think I should do, because this has been weighing me down heavily the past few weeks.", "summary": "Girl who I am crazy about used to make me feel invincible, but suddenly pushed me farther and farther away and I don't want to lose her. What do think I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_1u8par", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "New cube right next to the open lunch room. How to deal with the smells?", "post": "I just started a new job in a very large building. Everything is beautifully done with Herman Miller cubes and tasteful decor. Part of this includes an  open concept where there are no floor-to-ceiling walls. The ceilings are very high and the 8ft walls stop probably 15ft from them. Its nice because it lets natural light scatter a very long way.\n\nHowever, the lunch area (microwaves, fridge, tables etc) is very near me. It has the same short walls and and no door.\n\nI am extraordinarily sensitive to smell. I always have been. I literally gag when I smell strong odors. I can't focus on anything but these smells that are so strong they might as well be at my desk. Popcorn, reheated leftovers, pizza, salad dressing, mayonnaise, coffee, etc.\n\nWhat can I possibly do to lessen my exposure? I've thought about air fresheners, but those are generally offensive in their strength as well. I can't ask people not to use the lunchroom, and they aren't making anything particularly offensive. Its just that I can smell it as if I were right there with my face over the bowl.", "summary": "Cube right next to open lunchroom. Even normal smells are too much. How can I lessen the blow?"}
{"id": "t3_xtm5v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "ID Theft Debt Validation", "post": "Hi all,\n\nThere is a charge on my credit report from a collection agency that states the original creditor as T-Mobile.  When I called the collection agency they said my social did not match the account and then never removed it.  (Obviously my mistake there was not getting anything in writing.)  \n\nI received other advice to reach out to T-Mobile directly to see if they can help.  I contacted them last night and they say there was never an account opened with my social security number.  I asked if they could mail me a letter stating that, they said that they would as long as there was a written request to do so.  \n\nWhat I want to ask you is what should I include in the letter written to T-Mobile?  I'm unsure about mailing my social security number in a letter to some PO Box, but it seems like the only identifier because I don't have an account number to go on and the collection agency for the debt has changed names twice since I last spoke to them, and I really do not want to deal with them.\n\nI have not received any collection letters, as I believe that someone is using my identity and they are being sent to the other person's address.  They used my credit cards two years ago but I was able to easily get the charges removed.  However, now when I look at my credit report it shows incorrect information other than the collection like \"other addresses reported\" and \"employment data\".\n\nI recently filed a police report for the ID Theft complaint and will be mailing this in with a letter to the collection agencies as soon as I am able to obtain a copy of the report. \n\nPlease offer any advice you on this situation.  Thank you!", "summary": "Unsure whether to include SS # in a DV letter to original creditor of fraudulent collection under my name on Credit Report."}
{"id": "t3_34wnbk", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Planning 1 month July adventure", "post": "Sorry for the broad title, but I didn't want to bog it down with too much information. \nMy budget is reasonable to a point, however when I don't travel with my wife I'm more inclined to make sacrifices on my accommodations to save money.  I'd like to try and not go over 4000 USD.  I'm 32, and I'm past doing the hostel thing so most likely I'd be in a small hotel, or if it involved the outdoors I could camp.\n\nHow about I list some places I've been:  \n-Most of the continental US, almost all the major national parks\n-Costa Rica\n-Portugal\n-Spain\n-Ireland \n-Amsterdam\n-Belgium\n-France\n-Turkey\n-Tokyo\n-Seoul \n-Hong Kong\n-Jordan\n-Lebanon\n-South Africa\n\nI'm located in the continental US, but really haven't spent much time in South America.  I'd say my interests lie right now in something that lets me get a city energy for a little, and then affords me access to natural or man-made ancient wonders.  \n\nSome places on my lists of hopes are Argentina or Chile with a trip to Patagonia along with it.  I wanted this trip a while back but was short on time to be able to do it, and got some great help here too on this subreddit.  I'd say of all my trips I enjoyed the middle east a lot, and Tokyo especially.  I'm hesitant to go all the way back out to east Asia, because that's a trip my wife wants to make with me.  \n\nI'm definitely a bit burned out on europe, and of course in time for the Euro to actually be reasonable.  \n\nSo with everything in mind, any suggestions in South America or places I may not be thinking of that fit my style of travel?  The only wild card would be something like New Zealand but just getting there is like 1700$.\n\nI know this is a long read, but I appreciate any input :)", "summary": "I have 1 month to visit, spent a lot of time in europe, really can't do east asia right now, and have interest in South America."}
{"id": "t3_jjqtr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice/help with someone who doesn't love?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I thought I would turn to you guys/girls because I really don't have any friends anymore to talk about it to.\n\nI've (M/19) been in a relationship with a girl now (F/18) for just over a year and a half now. It was all going fine at first until I found out how terrible her family was at keeping the house clean, It was as if she was an normal clean person stuck in a hoarders episode. So naturally me being a nice guy and all, I let her move in with me. We have been getting along good, no fights or anything so that's all fine. The problem is, she really doesn't know how to love. But it gets worse, she has a problem where she can't feel any pleasure sexually. She can't even please herself. I really feel like this is a total turn-off and makes me feel like I just cant stay with her, I feel like I will be miserable for the rest of my life if I do. But now that we live together we naturally share almost everything, and knowing what her home is like, I feel like I cant just break up and tell her to move out. I'm so confused about this situation, what should I do?", "summary": "GF moved in, her house is like an episode of hoarders. GF cant love sexually (not even herself) or normally. I feel like shes not the right one, and that I will be miserable if I stay with her. Can't kick her out because of her home and we share so much now."}
{"id": "t3_5484mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] Worried about my mental health after [21F] duration of a emotional relationship", "post": "Hello reddit. (posted in relationship_advice wasnt sure what was the difference)\n\nme and this girl have history, she ghosted on me a few times saying it was bad times during her life and i believed her, she never gave me her number which she gave me reasons for which i believed her but thinking about it was all bullshit. So after i helped her moving out of her parents house i never heard from her again.\n\nShe stills has me on fb, but communcation is dead, she doesnt msg unless i do , she gets mad at me when i ask her for her number. Now ive gone to my friends about this and they all say to delete her, block her and move on. But i don't know part of me still holding on to something between us while the other part is trying to move on. Its gotten to a point where i had to unfollow her on fb cause i just didn't want to see her post and deleted half of the pictures of us.\n\nI feel like closing my fb, for a fresh start but i feel like im just running away from her, i keep thinking i did something wrong or just me saying things i shouldnt of said, the only time i get peace of mind is when i throw myself into work.\nThis whole thing has me emotional drain and has me feeling like i'm the worse person, ive never had a fight with her other then her number, ive always been a calm person and when her parents allowed her to go out i always did my best to see her which worked out.\n\nSo i guess am i over reacting to the whole fb part and having the urge to delete her? What did i do wrong in all this did i make myself to available? Like at this point i feel like my mental health is going to take a hit and im not going to come out of this in well state, i want to msg her and ask if everything is ok between us but im hoping if i back off it will help.\n\nPlease help reddit....Im leaving the country soon and i want to end this on some term wither it good or bad.", "summary": "A history with this girl that involves ghosting and not being able to get her number, which feels like its been BS. Friends have told me to delete her and move on, i feel like deleting my fb for a fresh start, holding on to the past. Everything that has gone on is making me my worse enemy,"}
{"id": "t3_46l470", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by babysitting my 1 month old niece.", "post": "Full disclosure, this actually happened yesterday. \n\nI was babysitting my new born niece for a couple hours while my sister ran some errands. She's been stressed a lot lately so I thought it would be good for her to get a couple hours baby free. This was not my first time dealing with newborns, so I wasn't nervous or anything like that.\n\nMy sister drops off my niece with all the \"baby stuff\" (Diaper bag, play mat, swing, and of course FROZEN BREAST MILK.) first hour all is fine. Baby wakes up and immediately starts freaking out. I know that she's hungry (my sister already gave me the time line). So I put her in the swing. Strap her in and head to thaw the milk.\n\nHere comes the fu. I'm rushing because the kid is screaming... So I'm getting it thawed and warmed at the same time, but I don't want it to be too hot, so I test it on my wrist. Perfect temperature but too much shot out and it's running down my arm. Did I say I was rushing? So, force of habit (from like popping a soda that gets some on my hand, or whatever) and since my hands were full, without thinking I LICK IT OFF MY ARM!", "summary": "I really wanted to make it all the way through my life without knowing what my sister's breast milk tastes like."}
{"id": "t3_13qhmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (f26) has depression and it is wearing me (m28) down.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for just over a year and I absolutely love her.  Our relationship is going great and we are really are perfect for each other.  The only issue is she has suffered from depression for many years.  I wouldn't say it is extremely serious, but at the same time it is still a large part of her life.  She is doing the best she can in terms of getting professional help too - I'm proud of her for it too.\n\nSo anyways, after dating her for a year her depression is really starting to get myself down.  It is causing a unhealthy amount of stress in my life.\n\nI can't live my life like this but at the same time I don't want to break up with her.  Has anybody have any suggestions on dealing with this or have been in a similar situation?  \n\nI of course will talk to her about it, but for being a pretty serious topic it would be nice to get some outside ideas first.\n\nThank you", "summary": "Girlfriend's depression is getting me down but I'd rather fix the problem than leave her."}
{"id": "t3_2l8c79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[33M] can't stop, don't wanna stop, thinking about her", "post": "Not going to go through the history on this. Essentially, I hooked up and fooled around quite a bit with a work colleague. \n\nShe was only looking for an extended fling, I was okay with just being friends or no-strings, or whatever. \n\nIn the end, I did fall in love with her (don't ask me how cause I still to this day don't know why really). As weird as it sounds, she ended up pretty repulsed by me - I'm not really attractive enough for her, I guess (everyone's got different tastes). \n\nMainly out of fear of what could go wrong, she broke off all contact with me pretty much. I do love her, so I definitely can appreciate her concerns about what could go wrong, and can accept whatever situation makes her most comfortable (as long as there's some consistency, sympathy, and understanding with it all).\n\nHere's the thing. I still love her, which is stupid, I'm sure I know. You know what makes me happy and brings a little smile to my face? Before I fall asleep, I love to think about her - dream about her and me together doing crazy things. \n\nI feel like if she knew the sexual stuff I still dream of doing with her, she'd be really revolted and upset. But part of me thinks, it's nonenof her business. I keep my space from her, I respect her, I don't let her cause me or herself more trouble. So what's the harm seriously? \n\nAnd that's what I wanted to ask. Is it so wrong to dream of someone who you're not realistically gonna be with? It makes me so happy, my mood and my heart feels lighter when I think of her. What do you guys think because I've never really been in this type of situation before.", "summary": "Is it so wrong to fantasize about someone?"}
{"id": "t3_3hxmzw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not realizing you tip hairdressers", "post": "First off, I realize I'm a sinking douchecanoe. \n\nSo there isn't much beef to this story so I'll jump right in. Every time I went to say Great Clips or something like that I would go through the motions and get my hair buzzed, short and sweet. Whenever I would go to pay I would use debit; so of course they made me sign a receipt. I just assumed it was proof of my transaction or whatever; it never even occurred to me to read what i was signing, I could've sold my life away completely oblivious; so apparently that was the line for the proof of how much you tipped. So after signing I would be super jolly about thanking them and telling them to have a wonderful day while the completely blank stub reflects the hollowness of my skull and my heart... So I've only ruined about 11 hairdressers day as I haven't actually been going too too long.\n\nObligatory ARE YOU FUCKING SORRY? Yes :(", "summary": "I'm a cheap piece of shit who doesn't tip lovely hairdressers."}
{"id": "t3_1eoh1c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some advice", "post": "I'm not sure how to exactly say what I want and I will probably leave something out and I will write this terribly: \n\nBoth my girlfriend and I are 17 and going into our senior year of high school. We have been dating for about a year and 5 months. This is by far the most serious relationship I have ever been in. Lately we have been arguing a lot over some really stupid stuff and I'm starting to want something new. Don't get me wrong, I really love and care about her but our relationship just isn't what I thought it would be when we first started dating. \n\nShe keeps me from my friends. I often feel like I'm missing out on the time I have left with my friends. When I want to hang out with a friend she gets really angry and threatens to break up with me and says I choose everything over her. I can't even talk to one friend because she thinks he is annoying and that just doesn't seem right to me. \n\nShe constantly hits me and calls me names. I tell her to stop and that it hurts and she calls me a baby. Maybe I am a baby but sometimes she can really hurt me and she just plays it off. \n\nI'm not saying that I do nothing wrong and it's ALL her fault but I'm just getting tired off being kept from my friends and being hurt all the time. Sometimes I just want to end it and see who else is out there. \n\nThe reason I am posting this is because I think it's time to move on but I don't know how. I am afraid of losing her because I care about her but I'm tired of all of it. I don't even know how to break up with her without being guilted into staying because she is upset. I just need some advice on how to do this the right way... I don't want her to get hurt...", "summary": "I need some suggestions on how to break up with my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4nyxbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [24/ M] very new relationship...only been together 1 month, and already a pregnancy scare....I'm freaking out!!!", "post": "I recently got into a new relationship. I'm 26yo /F. My boyfriend is 24/M. We've only been together a month now but we're pretty serious about wanting a future together, we both have talked about marriage and how important family is to the both of us.\n\nThis past weekend, we decided to take our relationship to the next step, and we got intimate. We actually ended up having sex a total of 11 times over the weekend (Saturday / Sunday) ....and even tho he knows I'm not on any birth control at the moment (I had been single for over a year prior to meeting him) he still finished \"inside\" even tho I thought I had told him to pull out. So I'm freaking out now because I do realize he finished inside me 11 times. I decided to get the Plan B pill and he went with me to the pharmacy but they already closed early over the weekend. I got the Ella contraceptive pill today and took it around lunch time, but I'm still really paranoid.... :'(", "summary": "Very new relationship, bf and I have only been together a month. Decided to take the next step and be intimate for the 1st time over the weekend. We ended up having sex 11 times during Saturday and Sunday. He finished inside me all times. I'm not on any birth control right now. Took Ella contraceptive pill today. He actually wants me to get pregnant because he wants a baby, I'm soooo not ready."}
{"id": "t3_2ygtfk", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "To the guy who took advantage of me.", "post": "I am using a throwaway because I have friends on here, etc.\n\nA little back story: My boyfriend and I were out having some drinks after dinner, and he decided that he was done. Well, I wanted to go back out. He and I had a short spat in the hotel room, then I left and went to some little bar in the town. I had a couple of dirty martinis and a couple of shots of vodka. I assume I blacked out from alcohol, but I didn't really have a hangover the next day, so I wonder...\n\nAnyway.\n\nI don't know whether to call it rape or just a guy taking advantage of my absolute drunken stupor, but I feel so violated. Apparently, according to my best friend whom I called directly afterwards, it happened in a bathroom of some bar, and I kept saying that I didn't want it, and he just wouldn't stop. Now, I'm having to take the post-exposure prophylaxis medication just to make sure that I don't contract HIV.\n\nI just can't shake the feeling that it's my fault for even going out without my boyfriend. Why didn't I just stay in the hotel room and go to sleep like a normal person? Why did I have to go back out?\n\nNow to the beef of this letter: If you were going to do what you did and leave me alive, you could've at least called a cab and sent me home so I didn't have to walk around in freezing weather for two hours. I don't remember your name, your voice, or your face, but I wish I could. I just want to be able to place a description of my assaulter. I want to know who is the reason I am so hurt right now.\n\nI don't know how to end this, because I feel like I could go on for days. I just needed to get this off my chest.", "summary": "I was raped/assaulted and don't know whom I should blame or what I'm feeling."}
{"id": "t3_3whea9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friends don't like my (21F) boyfriend (21M) of one month", "post": "So I'm not usually one to worry about what people think and most of the time my friends are super supportive of me but this is causing me a lot of stress. \n\nA month ago, I started dating this super great guy. He's kind of awkward, but so am I, but he's cute and I like him. My friends already know him since a lot of us are involved in the same activities. As much as I like them, they don't. The typical reaction to me telling one of my friends what we're dating is for their face to drop and I usually get an \"oh.\" \n\nThe thing is, every time I ask them why they don't like him they don't have a reason. He's got some unusual hobbies (like civil war reenacting) so I think my friends just think he's a weirdo or not right for me or something. \n\nI'm really worried because my last relationship was emotionally abusive and my ex was cheating on me and people knew and didn't tell me (not my close friends, but people I knew). I'm scared I'm missing something, but if there's really no reason to dislike him I'm tired of my friends being dicks about this.", "summary": "New boyfriend with some \"dorky\" hobbies and my friends don't want me to date him."}
{"id": "t3_3p0xig", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by going to the beach", "post": "So this happened when I was 10 years old I spent the whole day with my family at the beach. I told my mother I had to go poo but there was no nearby restrooms so she said I would have to wait till we got home. Keep in mind that the ride home from the beach we went to took 45 minutes. I'm sitting in the car holding in my poo when I couldn't take it anymore and I pooped on my beach shorts on the way home. Everyone looks at me and asks if I pooped and I said yes I'm sitting there with shit in my shorts I could feel the shit in my shorts all mushy like. We get home and I take a shower while my mom washed my beach shorts filled with shit.", "summary": "went to the beach as a kid pooped my shorts"}
{"id": "t3_2yy6qn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a fucking pussy", "post": "Warning: long wall of text incoming. \n\nI'm a junior in college and this happened like half an hour ago. \n\nThere's this girl in my group project and it's the last day of class. \n\nMe being a fucking romantic decided around a week ago \"since it's the last time I'll probably see her, why not go for it?\" \n\nI spent a week psyching myself up and asking my friends, all of whom said \"yea man go for it\"\n\nNow a little background. At first she was really quiet but did her part for the project. I didn't really notice how pretty she was until around week 8 or 9 of the quarter. It was also around that time that I took the chance to sit next to her in lecture and chat a little. I found myself getting interested pretty quickly (as all guys are wont to I suppose). \n\nAnyway, fast forward a week or two to today and she asks me about two books for a class I took this quarter that she will be taking the next. She asks if they are expensive and I say yes to one of them and no to the other, and mentioned that I can let her borrow mine if she needed. She said sure and followed with \"I'll hit you up before spring (quarter) starts.\" The class started then and other groups were presenting so we couldn't talk. At the end of class we walk out and make small talk \"are you done for today?\" Type of thing. I'm about to ask but couldn't and she starts walking away after saying bye. I stand for a few seconds and think about calling out to her. Nope. \n\nNow I'm sitting here wallowing. This feeling is worse than rejection.", "summary": "I'm a pussy and didn't ask her out, beating myself up over it."}
{"id": "t3_4xzx1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Gf [16 F] - How to know if she s no longer into me", "post": "Well, I've been dating her for 4 months now, she s great and I like her  a lot. But the problem is, I have this feeling that  something is wrong. I already googled it, and the only thing that checks, is the texting subject. Sometimes, she starts the conversations, others its me, but most of the time its me. For example, 3 hours ago, I send her a message saying good morning, 1 hour later, she saw the message but didnt replied. Im kinda paranoid, because these kind of things leave me very unsettle. Right now Im on vacation, so Im not with her. Since the start of our relationship, I did everything I could to make her happy, I was always there for her, I listened to her problems,tried to comfort her and mostly, not doing the same mistakes I did on my previous relationship (in which it ended pretty bad). So, I ask all of you, whats wrong ? Am I just being paranoid ( I hope so ) ? Or is everything alright ? When I have the feeling that something bad will happen,I m always right, which is not that good. Thank you guys very much.", "summary": "Confused"}
{"id": "t3_3ax164", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22M] of over a year, I'm starting to feel weird about his friend", "post": "It was my boyfriends birthday last week and when I posted on his facebook wall I saw a post from his (28/F) friend who is married with kids. She wished him happy birthday with lots of x's, said she missed him (she moved away a few years ago) and said she loved him. I really regret it, but I went through her Facebook photos and saw \"sultry\" looking photos of her and my boyfriend had liked them (but this was before we met).\n\nI tried asking a bit about their friendship and after I asked something about it, it came out that he tells her she's beautiful. They also Skype whenever they are both free because of time zones. I just kind of dropped the topic after he said he calls her beautiful.\n\nIs it weird that he had liked her sultry photos? Is it normal for him to tell her she's beautiful? And should the \"I love you's\" bother me? Or is this just something I need to let go? I have history of feeling insecure so I don't know if I'm reading too much into it.", "summary": "Boyfriend has older female friend who he calls beautiful and says I love you to, not sure how I should take it based on past insecurity issues"}
{"id": "t3_1ctczy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] Dont know how to handle my girlfriend [21F] having a guy friend that makes me uncomfortable.", "post": "Let me say this, I am usually the most secure, relaxed and passive dude when it comes to a relationship. I've never been controlling at all or jealous but their is this one guy whom she is friends with that i know shes hooked up with back when she was like 17.. (21 now) and they were friends before and after. Im now seeing he is liking a lot of her instagram pictures and vice versa with her liking his shit. We've been hooking up for going on 5 years but only serious for 4 months or like 16 weeks.. when I saw a comment on his instagram from her saying \"You could just be my baby daddy\" as a joke but it is fucking sticking in my head and bothering me. She goes to the gym and told me he was texting her like \"Am I gonna get to see you at the gym tonight\", stuff along those lines.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a dude thats like all over her instagram n shit and im kinda getting jealous, dont know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_4uwpy2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my dead friend's ex [26 F] kissed and may turn into something more.", "post": "So the story begins with one of my best friends dying of a drug overdose back in April of 2010. He had recently had a baby with his girlfriend at the time. He was a very good friend of mine and his death really affected our friend group hard. \n\nRecently, me and his (ex?)Girlfriend were out with some friends and, to make a long story short, we ended of kissing (just kissing) in my driveway until morning.  It was possibly one of the best kisses I've ever had. Afterwards, I walked her back to her car and we both went home to sleep. Nothing too serious has come of it since then (we're supposed to get together today for a while).\n\nHowever, since that night I have been feeling terrible about it. I've been thinking about nothing but how friends/family are going to react that I'm seeing my dead best friend's child's mother. I guess my question is, if something serious does come of this, how do I tell my friends/family?", "summary": "Me and my dead friend's child's mother had a great kiss and now I am worried about the reaction of friends and family if we start dating."}
{"id": "t3_2qjqo3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (19f) invited me (20m) to her family Christmas I canceled the night before.", "post": "My girlfriend of a year invited me to her grandparents home to celebrate Christmas with her family, I was initially torn because I was also having family over (just aunt uncle and two cousins) but I was excited to meet her grandparents and spend some time with her cousins, so I told her I'd go. Then the night before we were going to leave she gave me the darkest, purplest hickey I've ever seen right on my neck. This wouldn't be a problem with my family but her family is very traditional. I wouldn't want her parents to see it, much less her grandparents on their first impression of me, so I told her I'd be staying home instead. She refused to accept that and said I was making an excuse not to go. Now she's basically ignoring me. I really want to go but I also want to make a good first impression. Am I over thinking this or is she being unreasonable?", "summary": "an aggressive hickey stopped me from meeting girlfriend's grandparents"}
{"id": "t3_44sxs0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Breaking up a long distance relationship", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for over a year, she's 20 and I'm 28.  It's come to a point where we both need to call it a day as we're in different stages in life and the distance isn't working out anymore (it's a three hour drive).  We both knew because of the circumstances it would never work and our intentions were never going to to be long term/serious.  So I explained that we need to break up and she's fine with that, but she's asked to meet up one last time, talk it out and say our goodbyes.  Is that a good idea? I guess we both need closure and it's not like we're ending on bad terms.", "summary": "told girlfriend we need to break up, she wants to see me and say goodbye.  Not sure if I should see her."}
{"id": "t3_dbm1v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've created a new social networking site.", "post": "I'm writing this as a freelance developer working on my own. I've been working on this concept for the past 6 or 7 years in my free time and I am finally ready to start testing it. Over the years, it has mainly served as a sandbox for me to improve my development skills, but with the loss of a big client recently, I've had plenty of free time to work on it.\n\nI'm curious as to the level of interest of other redditors in helping me test this site, as well as, would you use it? What if I told you it was written in .Net [ MVC, at least :) ]?\n\nI'm just trying to determine how the internet might respond to another site with the downfall of Digg happening before our eyes.\n\nI ask reddit, because it is my favorite site... the worst thing that could happen to a new project for me would to get a \"youtube\" type community with zero intelligent discussion.\n\nI won't describe exactly how it operates at this moment, but it is centered around a good community with discussion, independent musicians, and a similar channels structure that you can subscribe and unsubscribe from.", "summary": "I'm poor and trying to figure out a marketing strategy."}
{"id": "t3_3fp72q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "If my dad is paying monthly on my loans, how can my current principal balance keep going up?", "post": "Hey /r/personalfinance, first time poster here. \n\nMy dad has taken out two loans in his name for my college education (Parent PLUS loans offered by the government) and has been paying monthly since the loan servicer first sent him a statement (~ a year ago). \nLoan A was borrowed for $8,885.83 at 6.410% interest. He has paid $1,970.41 into the loan, but the current principal balance is now $8,170.97. \nLoan B was borrowed for $9,038.51 at 7.210% interest. He has paid $1,581.76 into this loan, but our balance is now $9,432.49.\nThe statement he sent me says the total interest paid for Loan A is $854.40, and the total principal paid is $1,116.01 . For Loan B, the total interest paid is $76.27, and the total principal paid is $1,505.49 I understand that loans accrue interest, but if we are paying towards interest AND the principle, how can our current balances be more than what we borrowed? Is this correct? Any advice is really appreciated; we both are very confused by this.", "summary": "Dad paid money into loans, but our statement says we owe more than we borrowed."}
{"id": "t3_1hr8hm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "College student on well-paid co-op with no idea what to do with the money", "post": "Hi personalfinance!\n\nI'm a 21 year old college student studying computer science, currently on co-op for the summer, doing a separate co-op in the fall.  I've got one semester of college remaining before I graduate, when I expect to have a pretty well paid full time job, assuming I don't screw up at the co-ops.  My issue is that I've gotten NO financial education from my parents and despite trying to learn on my own I'm not sure what to do.\n\nPart of the reason my parents didn't teach me about finances is that they were/are pretty irresponsible with their own.  This led to my mother deciding to not fill out the FAFSA because she thought we wouldn't get any aid.  She's been paying for my college tuition out of pocket and savings, and while I am incredibly greatful, I think she's screwing herself over and we're not even getting the grants we should be getting.  The last two years I got it submitted and we took some grants but no loans, so I will be graduating a very expensive university with no student loan debt.\n\nMeanwhile, my CS co-ops are very well paid.  The summer one will pay about $20,100 before taxes and the fall will be about $21,000 before taxes.  The first is in Washington so I'm paying federal taxes and taxes for my home state (NY) and the second is in California so I believe I'll be paying federal, CA, and NY taxes, but I expect to get a lot back come April.\n\nI would like some advice on what to with the money I\"m making.  I have to pay for my own rent and food, and I want to spend a little on entertainment, but I also want to do something responsible with the rest.  Currently I'm just taking $1000 per month for food, rent, and other expenses and putting the rest into my savings account.  Is there something better I can do with the money to help it grow for the future?", "summary": "Computer Science student on summer/fall co-op, making $41,100 before taxes, no student loan debt, what do I do with the money?"}
{"id": "t3_2z44pw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a handjob [NSFW]", "post": "Well this didn't happen today but I think its still allowed. So a couple of years ago, my girlfriend at the time and myself were at a house party, the night goes on and after a few hours and drinks she says do you wanna go for a \"walk\", to which I reply with power walking as calmly as possible out the front door being led by my almost metallic erection. So we find a private spot and things lead to the infamous hand job...so half way through she asks can she switch hands, and I say, luv, I'm in a good place right now, I don't mind what you do. So she does....I feel a nip but I continue cos its a handjob! What actually happened was, she pumped down...when it should have been up, but we didn't realise because it was night and pitch dark. So after a while, things get....wet and she asks did I finish, I say nooooope, keep going...mistake number 2...so things get SUPER wet and limp and she asks am I sure I didn't finish and I start getting confused too so we grab a phone and shine a light on the situation..... Blood. Everywhere. Turns out she ripped the banjo string at the back of my dick and my foreskin is basically hanging off. She freaks out and I surprisingly manage to stay calm and walk her back to the house. Now this was at like 2 in the morning, and cars passed us, I can only imagine when the headlights hit us they just saw me covered in blood and her with a thousand yard stare in her eyes...", "summary": "Ex accidentally ripped apart my foreskin during a hand job and neither of us noticed until we we were swimming in blood."}
{"id": "t3_3v2h6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19F] with my boyfriend [19M] for about a year now. I get jealous way too easily", "post": "I know I know, I'm being immature and stupid. I will probably get a lot of negative feedback, but regardless I'm in need of some advice. My boyfriend has never given me a reason to get jealous or insecure, but my ex really left a lot of insecurity and distrust toward other people. I never take it out on my boyfriend other than the fact I let him know that sometimes I get jealous of girls in his past. Specifically this one girl he hooked up with before we were together. She is actually a really nice person, but I just can't help but feel jealous when all of us hang out. I understand this is a self problem, and my boyfriend is supportive whenever I feel this way. Anyway point is, I just want advice on how to communicate this to my boyfriend better and how I can overcome this irrational sense of jealousy.", "summary": "I'm jealous of things my boyfriend can't control, how do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_1r1v8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ME 18M WITH GF 18F WHO KEEPS SKYPING ANOTHER GUY", "post": "me and my gf have been rocky for the last 6 months (weve been going out for 19 months now), in the last couple months shes been skyping a friend she met on psn. recently he and her have been skyping more and more regularly and she says its just while shes bored and she assures me theres no cameras on while the skype call goes on. sometimes these skype calls last for up to 6 hours and has been lasting till past 12 at night, and the other night she was on skype to him till 4am. there has also been an incident of another guy flirting with her and repetedly asking for vid chat and after a few responces like \"i feel awkward\" and \"i don know how my boyfriend would feel\" she accepts and skype calls with vid to him, when i confronted her she said she only did because he keeps asking for the vid chat. what should i do? im scared of losing her because the way me and her got together was because of a similar situation.\n\nsometimes ill be told i cant skype her because shes in a call with that guy and she keeps putting him first, im trying to repect her but i want to put my foot down and tell her to stop because how its making me feel.", "summary": "My girlfriend keeps skyping with a guy she met online for hours disregarding me, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xysdh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I watched as my bf's father passed away last night", "post": "I've always had a morbid fascination with death, mostly of the gory, really fucked up ways to go kind though because it's amazing to me the things the human body can withstand and in some random instances, can't. (I think this is why a lot of people, myself included, are into looking at /r/gore, /r/watchpeopledie type stuff.  It's not because we're sick twisted people like some people think, it's because the human body and what it can go through and survive, or sometimes not, is fucking fascinating) I've also had a lot of friends die way too young for stupid and preventable reasons.  Death doesn't scare me at all, and still doesn't.\n\nHospital trauma rooms on the other hand... I've learned as of 2 days ago, they scare the fucking shit out of me.\n\nAnyway....\n\nI've known his father for about 17 years.  He was 81, didn't lead the healthiest of lives, was a stubborn son of a bitch but incredibly sweet. \n\nThe night he was brought to the hospital (the night before he passed) he had been having stomach pains all day.  He's a tough motherfucker (he used to be a pretty successful boxer) and played the pain off like it was no big deal.  It took all day to get him to agree to getting checked out.\n\nTurned out to be a much bigger deal than anyone thought.   \n\nThe", "summary": "ELI5 of what caused his death: his heart has been weak-ish for the past few months.  He's was an old dude with multiple, treatable health problems for the most part.  In this case however, the blood flow restriction from his heart was mostly going toward a part of his intestine causing it to slowly start to die, hence his stomach pain that he played off like bad constipation.  This caused acid levels in his blood to shoot the fuck up, which is what led to his heart stopping.  The doctors explained what acid levels in his blood actually meant but I had a hard time following.  I *think* acid was referring to CO2 levels?  If anyone can clarify, please do."}
{"id": "t3_2x1vg9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend sleeping at guy-friends house. Please advise!", "post": "I swore I would never seek advice, but I have nowhere to turn. \n\nLast night my girlfriend stayed over at her guy-friend's house. They visited a bar to eat - I highly doubt she was drinking, nor would she do anything to ruin our relationship. (I have been cheated on before, I like to think I know the signs). \n\nThat being said, while they're long-time friends, and there's no sexual attraction that I'm aware of, it destroys me inside. The whole scenario makes me uncomfortable. I feel ill and get headaches and I can't sleep or focus. \n\nSo here's the advice part. \n\nI'm sure she thinks nothing of it, and it's just friends hanging out and I should be understanding and trust her. (Shouldn't I be okay with it?)\n\n However for me, it feels disrespectful - my girlfriend sleeping at some other guys house. Regardless of their friendship. It's just weird and not something I expected to face in any relationship. \n\nI have brought it up in the past (has happened 3 times in 2.5 years), but I don't think she truly understands.\n\nAnything, folks of reddit?", "summary": "Girlfriend sleeping at platonic guy-friends house. Makes me VERY uncomfortable. "}
{"id": "t3_1yxqjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [25/F] 6 months, I think she may have undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. Is it my place to address the issue?", "post": "I've been dating my current girlfriend for close to 6 months now.  Based on what I've experienced with her and what other knowledgable sources (friends with medical backgrounds) have observed she may have borderline personality disorder.\n\nShe has shared with me very personal details of her past (sexual abuse from a non family member, and a history of cutting) that indicate she has risk factors for the disorder, and based on extensive research I've done she meets much of the criteria for the disorder as well. However I am fully aware I am not a medical expert and do not have the capability to diagnose such a thing, especially a disorder as complex as BPD.\n\nThat being said, my question is not whether she may have such a disorder, but whether it is my place to broach the subject with her in the first place. I have only dated the girl for a short time now, and the disorder can be very serious, and such a conversation cannot be made lightly.\n\nIs this something that should be left for her family to take of?  Or is it my responsibility as a person who cares for her to make her aware of what I think?  Her parents are involved in her life and have helped her through previous issues...should I contact them directly?\n\nI'm just not sure what is appropriate in this situation.", "summary": "I believe my girlfriend of 6 months may have undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. Is it appropriate for me to share my concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_tcrxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21F and I always \"brozone\" myself.", "post": "Hello all!!! Here is the story. I am a 21 year old female with a unique issue. I was raised by my dad, and I have my own share of commitment issues. I'm terrified that someone is going to bet under my skin and hurt me, so I usually date guys that I feel sort of apathetic towards. Like, I like them, but not enough to where they can hurt me. Recently, I met a guy that changed that. \n\nHe is, quite possibly the most attractive guy I have ever met. We've hung out a couple times, had sex (it's not a huge deal to either of us), and I see myself starting to do something I do pretty often. \n\nWhen I meet a guy that I think I could have real feelings for, I tend to \"brozone\" myself. I call it brozining because it's a little more severe than friendzoning in my opinion. I tend to GO OUT OF MY WAY to make the guy think I am super tough and stuff. I'll arm wrestle with them, tell them I'm tougher, eat spicier food, etc. \n\nI really like this guy, reddit. I do not want to mess this up. What are some ways I can AVIOD brozining????\n\nThanks for reading!!!", "summary": "Always seem to act manlier than guys I really like, so they'll think they can't hurt me. Met a good one, don't wanna do it."}
{"id": "t3_4rrkki", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I moved 2 years ago to the US with my brother, he applied for a credit card and got accepted, I did the same got rejected, 6 months later he gets another credit card and he adds me as an authorized user, now my credit score shows 680", "post": "Hey anyone who reads this, I am a 26 years old guy living in south Texas, I moved almost two years ago from Mexico, I was born here in the US so I've always had the US citizenship.\n\nMy brother (28) and I have been going back and forward on the idea of coming to he US and make a life here, we finally decided to do it.\n\nAfter a few months my brother went to our local bank (IBC) to make some deposits and the teller gave him a credit card application which he filled and 2 weeks later he received a credit card, I did the same but through the website (I was making a little bit more than him at the time but we have been here the exact same time and have pretty much no record whatsoever) anyway I got rejected I received a letter saying that they had not enough credit information to report.\n\nAbout 6 or 8 months later he gets an application for a capital one credit card which he sent and 2 weeks later he gets a new credit card, he decided to add me as an authorized user using my full social security number, a week later I get my credit card.\n\nI'm using credit karma to see my credit score which I know can be inaccurate, but I was wondering if I actually got a credit bump by being added and if it's safe to apply for a new credit card", "summary": "After my brother added me as an authorized user my credit went from 0 to 680 on credit karma and I want to know if its safe to assume that I can aply for a credit card for myself now."}
{"id": "t3_e0fl8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does my friend have LEG CANCER?!", "post": "My friend and I were about to go get some food at 11 PM when he was resting his legs on my own. I was resting my hand on his leg and felt a weird bump below his kneecap. Upon lifting his pants-leg (which was totally fucking gay) and looking at it, closer inspection revealed that it was a mass of bone.\n\nHe thinks it's completely normal, I think he has supercancer or something.\n\nSo.... Anyone want to tell him that mass of bone isn't normal / tell us what it is? I'm aware of the Kneecap and the smaller kneecap-like bone behind it that helps facilitate movement, but this is below his kneecap, IE his leg doesn't run smoothly down, it has a jagged ridge of bone below his kneecap for a few inches before evening out.\n\nAny ideas what it is?", "summary": "HERES A PICTURE, WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT SHIT I'M POINTING TO? IT'S BIGGER THAN THE PICTURE SHOWS"}
{"id": "t3_1mtsw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23m] think I need to end stuff with [23f]", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about three months now. We get along great, we like the same stuff, we have great sex, and it's generally good. But it doesn't it excite me, set me on fire, or anything close to that. We haven't had any talks about exclusivity, but she bought me a birthday gift a few weeks ago and I feel that I need to tell her before it gets more serious. I'm pretty damn sure it's not just me feeling dead inside, and my reasoning feels almost sitcom-ish to me, so how do I end stuff with her in the nicest way possible? \n\nI know things don't work like that, but it bums me out that we are so compatible but there's just no spark on my end.", "summary": "I need to break up with a friend. How do I do it without being an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_3a0dds", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] does not understand what my best friend [20/f] wants--a friendship or something more?", "post": "Thank you for taking the time to read this. It means a lot. \n\nThere's a girl I've liked since I met her a year and a half ago, we'll call her Hannah to make it easier. Hannah and I have been friends with so many interests in multiple organizations in college, but never really hung out or spent a lot of extra time together outside of those commitments and class before the last 6 months. \n\nI finally coughed up the courage necessary to tell her how I feel and how she makes me feel, what I'd like (a relationship) a month ago. I told her how I'd liked her since I met her and that she never escapes my mind...etc. She told me she felt the same way, but did not want a relationship with me (at least right now) because she didn't think it would work. She cited assertiveness amongst her reasons. \nThis was devastating and confusing, and I really put her aside for a while to try and get over her. I just couldn't. I went on a date or two, no luck. Then, when we met back up finally, we seemed closer than ever. She fell asleep on top of me multiple times after we watched movies together late at night, seeming very flirtatious and \"cuddly\" altogether. \n\nNow, we text and talk constantly and are always looking for excuses to see each other. Question is, do I take this as her reaching for something more or do I still take what she said as fact and assume that she doesn't want a relationship at first? What does she want?", "summary": "my best friend told me she doesn't want to date me but acts as if that's all she really does want, so I'm confused about it."}
{"id": "t3_3m7zdy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally killing my house cat", "post": "Shit, so I'm still pretty shaken up about it and feel really sick.  \nI recently moved to an apartment near my old house. At my old house I lived with my cousins and they had two pet cats, Poptarts and Tank. Since my new apartment was so close by I would walk and drop off my stuff to move. Some times Tank would follow me and I would have to drop him off at my old house.\nToday I get a text message from my cousin, telling me that he thinks that Tank died. And not to look outside of my apartment. I get ready for work thinking that he's joking. As soon as I start driving, sure enough I see a dead, ran over cat right in front of my apartment. It was a skinny, tiny and black, just like Tank. I couldn't get a good look at the corpse but my cousins confirmed that they haven't seen Tank. I feel really bad and that its my fault so I called the animal corpse center to clean up Tank. Damn. RIP my little buddy.", "summary": "I moved to new place and my cousins cat followed me home. Then got hit trying to find me."}
{"id": "t3_2gpu21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Somebody help me [24m] move on from my ex [21f].", "post": "Our relationship of a year and a half was great while it lasted and I understand why she wanted out. She felt that we don't connect as well as we used to and that things are better off this way. On top of that there were a few occasions where I didn't treat her properly and my negative attitude at the time (I was fairly depressed over the job I had) leaked into the relationship. \n\nIt's been 9 months and I've been making gradual progress in moving on (managed to get a new job and picked up a new hobby) but I'm finding it incredibly difficult. It feels like everything I've been doing to keep myself prroccupied has just been burying an issue that I dont want to face. I still care for her a lot. I miss her constantly and it sometimes feels as if thinking of her is the only thing pushing me along. The latest thing that hurts is that I think she's recently started seeing someone else. I know that she's no longer mine and she's very welcome to date anybody she likes. So I left her a message with something along the lines of \"hey I know that it's none of my business but if what I've seen is true and that you're seeing someone now, I just want to wish you good luck and that this person can treat you much better.\"\n\nI sent that message with real honesty and I really want her to find happiness (even if I can't be the one to love her and give that to her). I'd love it if we suddenly got back together but I know that's completely out of the question.\n\nShe hasn't talked or replied back to me since April despite my attempts at initiating conversation.\n\nSo how do I move on from where I am?...\n\nI've got a new job (3 months in), a new hobby (I picked up cycling to rehab my knee from an injury) and I'm a fairly musical person. Im a fairly good looking guy (as I've been told) however my confidence doesn't always show and I'm always shy when it comes to girls.\n\nI don't feel as though I have many friends and even then I feel a little out casted as sometimes our interests don't always fit.", "summary": "Need help moving on from ex girlfriend. It's 9 months in and I still have feelings for her despite trying to preoccupy myself with things to move on. Social awkwardness makes it difficult to even attempt to meet someone new."}
{"id": "t3_p3n6r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a 31 Year old single father that wants to finish my bachelor's degree in IT. Does reddit have any wisdom for me?", "post": "The basics- I'm 31, single father of two, I have a 8-5 job that pays peanuts, I'm making it but just barely.  I have 72 hours of college credits and I've always had a knack for technology. I build my own computers; I networked my house, my parents house, and my office; I'm the guy that everyone around here brings their computer to for repair. If I sign up for this, I'll be finishing my degree completely online and I estimate it'll take about 18 months.\n\nIs there financial aid available for guys like me? \n\nHas the field for IT grown or shrank? Is it still possible to make $40k out of the gate in IT? Will my years of management and workforce experience help when trying to find an IT job? \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Old dude wants to fuck with computers."}
{"id": "t3_3kzgtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] with my wife [40 F] becoming abusive while pregnant?", "post": "So, I have been dating/married to my wife, \"Rita\" for about a year now.  We have had some dramatic parts of our life, loud arguments, but we always made up and things were good for a while.  We recently got married, then shortly later, pregnant.  It was very welcome news, but it seemed the next day after we found out about our situation, her behavior changed overnight.  She became distant, verbally undercutting me at every opportunity.  She would take delight at starting fights with me.  I don't lay down and take it, I defend myself and we will get into shouting matches more and more.  She stopped sleeping with me, sleeping in the spare room. Today, after we had a very brief and inconsequential (IMHO) argument, she started throwing dishes at me.  That just got me more angry, I left and am currently fuming.  \n\nIs this a temporary thing?  Is she experiencing more hormones that would explain this behavior?  We have had many other issues before the pregnancy, but they always worked themselves out.  The physically abusive part surprised me, but I know she will ignore it and not apologize, she can do no wrong in her eyes.", "summary": "Recent newlywed, wife got pregnant, so have the fights, culminating in her throwing dishes at me."}
{"id": "t3_26jzap", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My girlfriend [19F] of three years broke up with me [20M]. Looking for some advice/help.", "post": "Original: \n\nIt's been about a month since the break up, and during that time I finished my sophomore year of college and have been lifting getting ready for my fall season to start, and will be starting up an internship in the next couple of weeks for the summer.\n\nI've been able to get through day-by-day pretty well, but I always find myself thinking about her and missing her randomly throughout the day and it always brings me down because I care about her so much and really miss her. We haven't been talking the past couple of weeks or so but we have agreed to meet up sometime this week and talk. I'm really not sure what's going to happen when we do meet and I've been really nervous thinking about it as I want things to work out between us, and I was wondering if anyone could maybe give advice on what to expect during a meet-up like this.", "summary": "Girlfriend wanted time to be single and broke off our LDR. Haven't talked much since I've gotten back from college but we will be meeting up this week for lunch or dinner to talk. Looking for some advice on what to expect."}
{"id": "t3_24262s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am having trust issues with my girlfriend[17 F] of a little over a year and want to stop them.", "post": "Before I say anything, yes I know I am young. Please don't give me the lectures about it. I understand. This is more of an issue I want to resolve before I get older.\n\nSo I know this might not be the right place but I just wanted to get a little help. This is more of an issue for me but it affects us both. I am having trust issues. My girlfriend will be going to college but I have a year left so we are going to try and make it work. I am going in open minded and I know it might not work at all. Anyways, what bothers me is that she will be doing things with people I don't know and probably drinking. I am scared she will get hurt but I am also jealous she will be on her own while I am still stuck at home. I don't know what this bothers me so much but it does. I just don't want to cause issues with my relationships forever. Also she told me two guys invited her to the beach that she has known for a while that she will go to over the summer. That also bothers me because it will be two on one. I am just having issues within myself and needed advice from other people on how to be better. \n\nRecently I have just realized I shouldn't care. If something happens and I don't like it or it will hurt me in any way I'll just get out of there. I trust her but I don't know about other people. With everything I just told her to do what she wants but respect me and my boundaries. Is that too much as well?\n\nThank you everyone who took the time to read this. I really appreciate it. Feel free to PM me or reply and dig a little deeper to help me with my issues. I am open to all criticism as well.", "summary": "I am jealous and want help."}
{"id": "t3_3fxj7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] 2 years, Just found out she is cheating.", "post": "This is probably going to be a giant rant but I need to get it off my chest and I need help to get over her. \nI literally (10 minutes ago) just got told my girlfriend is cheating on me by my girlfriend because apparently she feels guilty. \n\nSo some back story is that she is a giant commitment-phobe due to issues with her dad but we had a strong relationship for a good couple of years. We argued like any other couple but we made it through and were quite successful.\n\nSet the scene: a couple of months ago she announces she is going to Asia, Asia sounds awesome right? and through some miscommunication on both our parts I end up booking tickets to go meet her out there, awesome right? No it was decidedly not. From the off there was something wrong with her, we had a discussion and concluded that its her commitment issues coming through and she thought I was being possessive by coming to meet her (I just wanted to go to Asia and maybe spend some time with the love of my life). We argued and she ended it for a while before deciding that is not what she wanted and we got back together. We had a good remainder of the holiday.\nShe has been off the last couple of weeks and she finally told me that she fucked another guy before I got there.\n\nMy soul is destroyed, I literally have no idea what to do with myself as I have never had such a committed and wonderful relationship go to shit so quickly because of a childish, selfish person.\n\nSorry about any venom in the story, I'm just raging a little and need some advice.", "summary": "Help me get over a cheating bitch"}
{"id": "t3_1u6ya3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am conflicted on dating a girl I like [16F].", "post": "I've been friends with a girl for the last four months or so. Throughout those months, we hung out a few times, have gone on a couple of dates, and kissed once. That being said, we have never had more than the label of \"friends\", and with the exception of last-night I haven't hung-out with her for 3 months. I invited her to a New Years Eve party, which she eagerly accepted. We ended up talking through the entire night, and ended it with a kiss. We parted ways after midnight because my group had plans to head off to the bar. Where I live, 16 is the age of consent.\n\nMorally, I'm conflicted on what to do. I feel terrible for leading this girl on for the last few months, and I'm well-aware of the fact that she has feelings for me. I think she's an awesome person. Attractive, funny, intelligent, and mature. I'm just incredibly hung up on the age difference. When I graduate college as a nurse, she'll just be graduating high-school (she is currently in grade 11). While I feel we're compatible, I think we may be at different stages in life. How can I gently gauge the situation without leading her on? I'm debating on inviting her out with some friends and I tomorrow night (they all love her) and seeing how it goes, but I really don't want to give her false hope because I'm simply not sure yet.", "summary": "I like a 16 year old, but I'm unsure if I want to pursue a relationship due to the age difference. While I like her, I feel we may be at different stages of life. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3lllag", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] and Girlfriend(18/f) doesn't like rings, but wants something like a promise ring?", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and I have started thinking about what I want to get her for our one year (I'm a poor college student so I have to make sure to save up for the nice things in advance lol). She has expressed the want for a promise \"something\". Her previous boyfriend was abusive and frankly crazy, but he gave her a promise ring and it kinda ruined rings for her. So I was wondering what would be a good alternative? \n\nI was thinking a necklace, but I want something of quality and not something lame like one of those heart necklaces that split up into two. But any advice on a gift idea or a place to get a necklace or type of necklace to get would be awesome!! Thank you in advance!", "summary": "Girlfriend wants a promise \"something\", but not a ring. Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_4698kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [22 M] of almost 6 months, talks to at least 10 girls every day, am I silly if it bothers me?", "post": "I started seeing this guy last year around July, but he has been single for over a year before dating me. And so he has this habit of messaging random girls on facebook, snapchat, instagram, skype, whatever. It's not like they're his friends, he just picks out who's attractive in his eyes, and introduces himself to them. Then they talk for ages and, what's worse, is that he waits when I'm not around to skype them.\n\nI don't know if I'm being irrational or unreasonable but, isn't it a given that when you're in a relationship, you don't flirt with other girls? It seems like he's back to where he was a year ago - flirting with random strangers and adding them on every social media platform possible - but with a girlfriend. \n\nAND he talks to them every. single. day.\n\nAND he turns his phone away whenever I ask him what he is doing.", "summary": "Am I being unreasonable/irrational if my boyfriend borderline flirts with other girls?"}
{"id": "t3_16qkwy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents are completely cuttin me off the day I turn 18, what should I do in order to prepare for that day?", "post": "I am currently 17 now, parents plan on cutting off my phone, and either kicking me out of the house or charging me rent. I have not\nBeen allowed to drive until I get a job, but everytime I try to apply to a job online, my mother refuses to give me my SSN due to her lack of trust in the Internet.\n  I severely need help in what to do, because college is in the horizon, and I don't think my grades are good enough to get me into my schools of choice. More and more my only option seems to be Community College, not that I have anything against it, I just don't know how I will be able to pay for it!", "summary": "I'm 17, and I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_32x2eb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "FWB/Girlfriend (19F) keeps \"teasing\" me (18M) before sex? Not sure why.", "post": "Okay, so to summarize, I've known this girl for only a month, which isn't much time at all, so I'm not stressing about it too bad, but I'm looking for some advice nonetheless.\n\nI met her a month ago, and we quickly established a connection, starting hanging out whenever we had time, maybe 3 times a week or so, and as of yet we don't really have a clear title in terms of a relationship, we've just established that we won't fuck other people and were more than friends. \n\nI think I should mention we've never actually had sex, because whenever we seem close, she'll just push me away and smile, which she likes to call \"teasing\". I'm pretty sure there's a deeper meaning behind it, so I'm turning to you guys. A few important things to note\n\n1. We've done other sexual favours etc, just never sex\n2. The first time she did this, she claimed she just \"really wanted me to want it\" but I'm starting to think that's not the case\n3. The one time she completely wanted to do it was when we were both kinda high on pills, and I was so fucked up I just laid there and said nothing, and that's when she decided she fully wants to, but I was too messed up to really get excited, so she just called it off.\n\nI hope you guys can help me, thank you in advance. I can answer any further questions if needed.", "summary": "girlfriend (kind of) refuses to have sex in a playful manor, not sure why or how I can try to change her approach."}
{"id": "t3_2x5tao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years wants me [20 M], to propose but I can't.", "post": "This sounds silly as I'm writing it but I will persevere.. \n\nI'm what you may describe as a typical computer guy.. I don't like outside and I don't particularly like people. Because of this I don't like making eye contact (it weirds me out) and I need to be some kind of intoxicated to be able to connect with new people and I take a long time to build relationships. In my current relationship, it has gone through all the motions of new and exciting to what is now essentially co-habitation (although I do still love her like at the beginning).\n\nI had a rough time a couple of years ago and I ended up depressed because I felt like there was no place for me in the world. The monotony of life just hit me and it made me desperate for a way to change it.\n\nShe wants us to go on holiday and wants me to propose, but I can't do it. I really, really want to but on the inside I still feel like I'm 16 and that I can rely on my parents to fall back on if life messes up. I can cook and clean and do all of the survival crap of life, but thinking about settling down at 20 without a fully-developed career, or going on holiday where a single misplaced item or a violent person in a foreign country could ruin the holiday, my year, my life, and anything in between, just makes me clam up inside\n\nI am nervous and scared of life, and I'm feeling pressure from all around me as if I am mentally an adult. I was (unsuccessfully) mugged a couple of years ago and it made me even more nervous about going outside.. All of this is bringing back old feelings, and I should be happy.\n\nPlease, please any advice is welcome, and if you need anymore information just ask.. Thankyou.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to holiday/propose but I don't feel mature or prepared enough for adult life - Depression"}
{"id": "t3_33bu57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal after finding out about my (21f) ex's(22m) past infidelity with a \"friend\" (23f)?", "post": "So I (21F) just found out that my ex(22M) was cheating with someone I considered a close friend(23F) for six months. We were together approximately four years. I always noticed their flirtations and confronted them both, buttons  they denied. We broke up a month ago and I found out the news yesterday. \n\nI'm devastated. I'm also upset because many of our mutual friends knew. These are people I've known for years and years. Another thing that sucks is that my ex and I seemed to have a pretty friendly break up. It was pretty mutual and we were still able to be friendly. We lived together, and I've been staying with a friend since we broke up. I can't bring my pet into my friends place so he's been watching him and I would come over and play with my pet and it was fine. Our lease ended at the end of May \n\nThis has never happened to me. If anyone has any advice, I'd be so grateful.", "summary": "I'm dealing with the fallout after finding out that my boyfriend cheated on me for six months"}
{"id": "t3_1db6ax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21F) boyfriend (25M) just walked out on me.", "post": "We've been dating for 6 months, knew each other for over a year.\n\nWe had gotten in a big fight about two months ago because he was paranoid I was cheating on him (even though we'd spend almost every night together). We split up for a few days and got back together, but it was never the same after that. I guess just knowing he doesn't trust me at all, for no reasons other than his own insecurities and paranoia, has made me start questioning our relationship.\n\nAnyway, I'm trying to make it work because I really care about this guy. He's super sweet, and he really doesn't have a lot of friends or support system. I want to be there for him. But after that fight I just can't get those feelings for him anymore. I never feel like having sex anymore, when we're together I don't want to cuddle much or be intimate. I like being with him but I just can't get in the mood anymore. \n\nToday we were hanging out in my apartment and he was asking me to cuddle. After some back and forth about it I laid down next to him and he asked if something was wrong. I told him the truth, that I just didn't feel the spark anymore, but I wanted things to work out and I still wanted to be with him. His response was just getting up, getting dressed, and leaving. He texted me a few minutes later saying he'd call me in an hour when he's cooled off. \n\nI just don't know what to do. Should I even try to salvage this relationship? I want him back but I can't help but feel I'd just be prolonging an inevitable break up. I don't want to string him along either...", "summary": "Can't get intimate with boyfriend anymore, he's not too happy about it and isn't sure if he can stay with me. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3al1d1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are we just too young? Me [21F] broke up with my Bf[20M] of 5.5 years, terribly sad", "post": "Me and my ex get along great and love each other very much. He is my best friend. We lived together for years while attending university, and felt lonely and stifled. He was stressed out by me. I broke up with him recently because, although I love him deeply and cant tolerate the thought of losing him, I just dont feel like being in a relationship anymore. With anyone. \n\nThis relationship-sickness is contrasted by his full blown commitment to our relationship and his dreams of marriage and kids. Meanwhile, I dont see kids or a husband or a home life in my dreams at all. \n\nFurthermore, I am much more social than he is, and he doesn't care about science and engineering like I do. This is pretty disappointing when the entire trajectory of my life is based on hard sciency stuff. So I feel like loneliness in this department is inevitable.\n\n I hope to get back together some day, if i can get over this relationship weariness and depression. I am still attracted to him, he is handsome, mature, faithful, vividly intelligent, gentle, and generous, and I cant escape the conviction that I am risking losing the best candidate partner I can have. But I just don't know if I want a life long partner. Any advice?", "summary": "I met the love of my life too young and we are incompatible in some important ways"}
{"id": "t3_q8kw5", "subreddit": "self", "title": "To the non-native English speakers, I'm very impressed.", "post": "I just want to give a shout-out to the non-native english speakers on Reddit.  Every day I read amazingly written posts, of people sharing their life views, opinions, stories and activities.  At the end of these articles I sometimes see an \"apology\" for the English used, when OP is not native.  \n\nI've learned only a second language after my first one, English (American education...), and the thought of going online in an international community and trying to express personal thoughts and ideas in my second language is rather unnerving.  It's very impressive to me, not just because they know the language but because they have the courage to express themselves in an unfamiliar manner.  Of course, the supportive grammar correction comments are also a mark of an excellent community.", "summary": "Non-native English speakers sharing themselves on Reddit are fucking awesome."}
{"id": "t3_3foqdv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing my jeans.", "post": "This morning I was getting dressed for work and went for my trusty dark skinny jeans that I wear 70% of the time. Since they are a dark wash I don't wash them frequently, and they had just come out of my suitcase all folded from a trip I just returned from, looked like they were fresh and reasy to go! I finish getting ready for work in a bit of a hurry and head out the door. I spent most of my morning at my desk, then had a meeting with my boss, then went to a supplier presentation in a conference room with a big table (15 people) and listened to their review for about an hour.\n\nAt the end of the supplier meeting, which went over time, I start to stand up and make moves to leave since I have other meetings. \n\nAs I stand up and push my chair in, I see something on the ground under my chair. It is what appears to be a lacey thong sitting on the ground. It then quickly dawns on me that those are MY dirty underwear, assumingly stuck in the pant leg from the last time I wore these jeans! I quickly bend down to scoop up my panties into a ball in one hand, and hide it under my notebook. I walk to my desk in a hurry and shove the panties in my laptop bag to take home.\n\n I sit at my desk and contemplate the possibility of anyone having seen the undies. I was the first one to stand up so I doubt anyone else saw them sitting under my chair during the meeting. Still, easily the most embarassing thing to happen to me at work.", "summary": "Dirty lacey undies fell out of my pant leg onto the floor of a conference room during a meeting at work. Still praying no one saw."}
{"id": "t3_2lsf51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] broke up with my girlfriend of 8 years last Sunday. In under 6 hours, I caved to the guilt and told her I didn't mean any of it and took it back. How do I break up with her now? I'm a horrible person.", "post": "I realize I've only amplified the pain we're both going to feel and the guilt I'm going to feel in doing what I did.\n\nAfter the 6 hours breakup, we had 5 days of all things being \"normal\", including an anniversary and a present exchange.\n\nI need to break up with her again because my feelings actually have not changed, but this time not cave to the guilt. Help? Advice? What should I do after I do it, to ensure I don't cave?\n\nAnd I realize this makes me a horrible, horrible person. This girl and I basically grew up together (14-22) and live together, some joint finances, etc... and her reaction to the (sudden) breakup was quite literally the hardest thing I've ever had to endure... and now I've just guaranteed that I have to do it again to myself :(\n\nI love her in the sense that because we're so close I'd like to remain friends for our entire lives, but I'm questioning if that's going to be possible now because I fucked up so bad.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of 8 years, caved to the guilt in under 6 hours and \"took it all back\". Life went on as normal for 5 days, but my feelings haven't changed. I need to end it again tonight, for good. How? What can I do to ensure I don't cave to the guilt again? :|"}
{"id": "t3_34sgn3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to enroll into a girls only high school.", "post": "Like the majority of the posts here, this happened a few years back, after I had moved in to this city. It was early September, and I had to find a high school to enroll in. My uncle asked his colleague if he knows any good high schools, and he told my uncle about this one school that ranks among the top in the city. Since the school year had already started, we had to act fast and get me into a school, so we decide to leave in 10 minutes.\n\nEarly afternoon, we arrive at the school. As we walked to the entrance, my uncle and I noticed a lot of fine girls around the school, and he's like \"you must be lucky, look at the amount of girls here\", and I agree with him.\n\nWe walk into the school, and these women start to give us a weird look, but we just ignore them. We go into the registrar's office, and we sit down.\n\n\"Hello, this is my nephew, and I would like to enroll him into this school.\"\n\n\"Umm... Sorry sir, but you do realize, this is an all-girls private school. Unfortunately, we can't accept your nephew here.\"\n\n\"Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... Sorry about that, we didn't pay attention.\"\n\nWe walked out of the school, and the girls are all staring at us. My uncle goes, \"what a shame, and we were just saying that these girls are damn fine...\"", "summary": "uncle finds out about this school that I could enroll in, we blindly go there without doing any prior research, find out it's an all girls school."}
{"id": "t3_14lt80", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F23] am not in love with my boyfriend [M22]. Is there a \"best\" way to break up with someone who loves you?", "post": "I entered into a relationship with a good friend of mine a couple of months ago. I was in a vulnerable place, had recently split up with my boyfriend of 4 years, and really liked the attention of someone who was kind & sweet. We slept together while drunk, he was a virgin before that, and I felt like I owed it to him to give it a shot. I should have never said yes, I know that now, but I was weak and didn't want the confrontation of rejecting him.\n\nBut I just don't feel romantically towards him. I've tried, and what makes it so much worse is he is head-over-heels in love with me. I don't want to hurt him, but I feel like dragging this out would hurt him more. It doesn't help that we're so close to the holidays. I have no clue how to go about ending this relationship. Do I do it now, so close to Christmas? Do I wait? Do I still give him the Christmas present I got him, or do I return it?\n\nWhat is the best way to go about this? I feel pathetic asking these questions, but it's a first for me. I've been dealing with some serious anxiety and depression issues for a few years now and it's gotten to the point where even the thought of having to do this makes me physically sick. I know I need to see a therapist, and I'm trying to work out medical insurance at my workplace so I can do that, but for now I just have to deal with it. Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Slept with and started dating a very sweet (previously virgin) friend to avoid confrontation. Gave it a shot, but don't feel the same way and don't know how to go about breaking up, especially considering the impending holidays. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_276cnd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm being an ungrateful little fuck, but I really don't want to have to work for my birthday/graduation present.", "post": "I graduated college two days ago, and my birthday is on Thursday. My parents asked me what I wanted as a present, and I told them I wanted a suit for job interviews, events, etc.\n\nThey happily agreed, yet when it came to price they limited it to $300. Great, $300 is a lot of money to me, but the suits I'm looking at are closer to $700.\n\nI don't want an off the shelf suit, I want to \"buy it for life\" and spend money on a classic well-made piece of clothing. The thing is, now that I have to cover the other $400 (which I don't really want to spend right now) I feel like I have to turn down the gift. My dad doesn't see the value in a well made suit, claiming they all look the same. But I do, and I'm happy to shop around for the best deal.\n\nFrankly, I just feel like $700 isn't that much for a graduation present. They are literally millionaires in the $250K/yr+ tax bracket.", "summary": "I'm being ungrateful and would not want a $300 suit - but I don't really know how to tell them. I also don't want to drop $400 right now to pay the difference on receiving a gift. Fucking first world problems."}
{"id": "t3_1o4fxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wondering if drinking ever gets old. Boyfriend [23M] gets occasionally wasted at parties and it makes me [25F] uncomfortable due to past events", "post": "Something traumatic happened to me in first year university involving a drunk guy leaping off of a roof to try to jump into the pool, and ended up landing on the cement about 6ft away from me. This guy ended up in a wheelchair and now I feel extremely claustrophobic/nervous/jumpy around the drunk and disorderly. Now I get horribly uncomfortable when he starts texting me or drunk dialing me while 3 sheets to the wind.\n\nI NEVER tell my boyfriend what he can and cannot do, I DO NOT prevent him from being himself or going to hang out with his friends, as I am aware they need man-time. My main question is: If it is a phase that guys go through or if it is something that should have died down a while ago? My brothers and male cousins got off that train when they turned 21 (Legal age here to drink is 19) and now only drink socially. I am a hardcore introvert and I don't drink and was never invited to parties so I'm clueless about this stuff\n\nI want to talk to him but it's not exactly a \"drinking problem\" it's more like I don't really want to hear about drunken antics and/or when is it going to diminish", "summary": "Drunken antics freak me out, wondering if it is a passing phase"}
{"id": "t3_m2ym1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Crime is getting pretty bad around my school, and not really sure what to do about it.", "post": "So I go to a college in a small town; the town is not the wealthiest of places, but muggings have gotten really common both on campus and off.  Last night a friend of mine was walking home at about 1 am, where he was confronted by five males, and he didn't have any money on him, so they all just beat him up pretty badly.  Last weekend there were some armed muggings as well.  I am just seeing if anyone has any suggestions as to how to deal with this because I am not feeling completely safe anymore.  I am afraid of my girlfriend walking the seven minuted from her house to my house, and just do not feel safe going anywhere after dark.  Is there even anything I can do about it?  If I happend to be mugged, what should I realistically do?  Should I just book it and run as fast as possible or give them my money and hope they dont stab me.", "summary": "Muggings have gotten pretty bad around my school and I dont know how to deal with it.  Also, if I am mugged, how should I act?"}
{"id": "t3_3zq20u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] am considering suggesting a break or an open relationship to my boyfriend [25M] so he can get what I can't give him.", "post": "My boyfriend of a little over 2 years and I have been living together for about a year now and have been fighting about once a week since living together.  I don't know what it is but we can't seem to see eye to eye and have issues communicating.  We are both deeply in love with each other and can see a future and have talked about our future together and we both want the same things long-term. \n\nThere are things he wants sexually that I am physically unable to do for him right now but I believe I will be able to eventually.  I get really frustrated because he obsesses over it and is one of the main things we argue about.  He thinks because he's young, now is the time to do these things but I think he has his whole life ahead of him and doesn't need to cause such a rift in our relationship.  \n\nI have a significant amount more sexual experience than he does and I have experienced most of the things I have wanted to whereas he hasn't.  As much as it frustrates me, I can completely understand where he is coming from.  I have cheated in past relationships because of needing more sexually and although I know for a fact that he hasn't and wouldn't, I want him to be able to experience those things but don't want to lose him.  \n\nPersonally, I do not want to hook up with anyone else but I am considering offering him the option to do so, I just worry it's a bit of a slippery slope.  If anyone has any suggestions or has been in my shoes, please help!  Also, don't just tell me he's an asshole and I should dump him, I'm fully aware that that is an option but I don't want to because despite our issues, we both make each other better people and neither of us have ever been happier than we are with each other.", "summary": "Should I suggest an open relationship to my boyfriend so he can get what he wants sexually?"}
{"id": "t3_34j5m4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] interested in a friend [19 F] known for a couple of years, who says we probably wouldn't work out because her parents are racist.", "post": "Honestly, this girl is amazing and so far shes already more of a interesting person, than my ex. I like everything about her, and I did confess but what confused me is, she never really rejected me based on her thoughts. She only said she things we could never be more than friends and if we did, become more her racist parents would be a problem. ( I am African American) she is (Trinidadian of Indian descent). \nThe only issue I have with this is because she never told me what she thought about be besides saying a that I'm an awesome guy before saying the rest. \n\nIt also confuses me because I know she is very much an independent woman and a free thinker, so I can't seem to picture her dating a specific type of guy so her parents wont  cause problems. Perhaps she has a weak spot for family and I understand.\n\nSo am I wasting my time? My best friend told me I should just take it slow (Kind of not focus on it) and see if any thing changes through out time and if not then just move on.\n\nEven after that rejection we still talk perfectly fine as much as we did before.", "summary": "Amazing girl, I would love to have a chance to date but her only reason that she gave for us not being able to be together is because of her parents' racial views."}
{"id": "t3_311uj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my [22M] boyfriend- I feel like he doesn't need me as much as I need him.", "post": "I don't know where else to put this. There's not much to put other than I feel like I'm more on the needy side of my relationship. Don't know if anyone will reply to this because there's not really any drama- just my stupid, worthless feelings. \n\nBasically, sometimes I get really sad and I feel hopeless for seemingly no reason and I get quiet. Last night, this happened and my boyfriend and I were talking about it. Well, he reveals to me that he doesn't really like to be touched. I am a very... feely person. \n\nI like those little moments where your SO will put his hand on your back or put your hair behind your ear and he rarely, if ever does that stuff. I've tried to convey this to him before, but he doesn't get it. I do this stuff to him all the time and he has never reacted that much. Suddenly he's like, \"I don't like to be touched.\"\n\nAnd I don't what it was about that, but now I feel like crying all day and not talking to anyone. I feel like I'm always the one pining for attention in our relationship for some reason. He only recently started to say \"I love you\" without me saying it first and we said that to each other for the first time months ago.\n\nWe plan on moving in together, so it's not like our relationship is rocky. I just feel like sometimes I'm a needy child and he's the one pushing me away.", "summary": "I'm clingy and needy because I'm insecure and I feel like my boyfriend doesn't need me."}
{"id": "t3_4kzpog", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] am having doubts about my relationship with my GF [25 F] after 4 years.", "post": "Hi,\n\nI have been in a relationship for 4 years now.\nMy GF and I moved in together 2 years ago, because she was living at home and her mother was abusive to the extent that she was crying everyday. \nShe could not afford a place on her own and probably cannot now. \n\nOver the past year, i have noticed that i have gone done in priority for her (behind job and friends) even though she claims otherwise.\n\nShe is very chaotic, so that the apartment looks terrible. I am not nit-picky about this, but when it gets to dirty dishes standig around for days it is obviously too much.\nShe basically cancels every appointment we have, when something else comes up and we have not been intimate for months probably.\n\nI have talked to her about this before and was actually about to quit, but she convinced me it would get better with tears in her eyes. Obviously, it does not.\n\nEven though I am afraid I might end up alone, I feel like it is time to end this.\nHowever, I dont want her to have to go home to her mother again. I dont know how to proceed. Should she be able to stay for a while? Should I maybe wait with all this?\n\nAm I maybe wrong with all of this?\n\nI feel like I am too nice, but I am always trying my best for everyone.", "summary": "Need to end my 4 year relationship. We are living together. I got her out of her \"broken home\" and I am hesitant to send her back. Any advice or even encouraging words would help me a lot."}
{"id": "t3_3kb0pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriends [20F] mom won't let me visit her until I [20M] fix situation with parents", "post": "Me and my girlfriend of 3 years are 5 hours away, and I plan on visiting her by plane in November, but now I am stuck in a rock and a hard place. At first I was going to visit, but ever since her mom found out me and parents aren't getting along because of personal reasons, she's forbidding me from seeing her until I get this fixed with my parents.\n\nTo sum up quickly, ever since I told my parents I am visiting my girlfriend 2 month ago, when they said no, I got really upset for the first time and tried saying my feelings why I need to go without screaming, yelling, I did it in the adult way, then they got super super mad and in the end they lost their temper and did hurtful things physically and emotionally. (This is just the condensed story)  Now for months, me and my parents do not get well along anymore , they don't want anything to do with me, and no matter how many times I say sorry to them they don't care. They said to just do my own thing, their tired of me. It seems like I'm just beating a dead horse with my parents. \n\nThe reason why my girlfriends mom doesn't want me to go is because she said my parents will be even more angry that I just went, but really my parents even said \"go if you want to, you're free to go.\" My parent's seem to not care anymore.\n\nI don't know how to go about talking to her mom and my girlfriend. I was thinking of lying, but then I feel like karma will hit me, and make things worse, because I'd be lying to my girlfriend and her mom, but yet my parents or my girlfriends mom haven't talked to each other except once for like 2 minutes and they don't keep in any contact. I don't know what I should do, because personally talking to them at this point is no use, their done with me. How should I talk to her mom without making a huge lie? I'm fine with white lies.", "summary": "Girlfriends mom is forbidding me from visiting her until I fix situation with parents, but no matter how many times I say sorry to them, they don't care anymore. It's like beating a dead horse."}
{"id": "t3_5592ti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27m] think my girlfriend [27f] has a drinking problem. I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend a little over 2.5 years, and lately over the past few months her drinking has gotten worse.  She used to be a social drinker, but as of late she's drinking alone most nights, sometimes to point of getting pretty drunk.\n\nShe definitely drinks more when stressed/depressed, and once she starts seems to have a hard time stopping.  She'll pick arguments with me when drunk, or go on long depressive rants about things. It hasn't happened often, but she even wet the bed before.\n\nI don't know what to do. When I talk to her about it she says she'll try to slow down the drinking alone, and that she worries she might have a problem too sometimes, but then eventually will wind up resenting me and thinking I'm nagging her. \n\nI really don't want to break up, I suggested counseling for her depression, to which she said she's open to (but never follows through on).  What can I do? I feel like I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop.", "summary": "girlfriend of 2.5 years has started drinking more heavily as of late. Think she might have a problem and she gets upset when I say something."}
{"id": "t3_1h8qf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (20F) broke up with me (21M) over a year ago. I still think about her and feel terrible almost constantly. Please help me.", "post": "My ex left me for another guy about a year ago. Due to my constant Facebook stalking, I know that they have already broken up, but they still remain friends and interact on Facebook, where i was removed about a month into it. I never heard a word from her in any form of communication, but I know that she still talks to at least 2 of her exes, where i have never received anything, not a single response, phone call, text, anything. You don't need to tell me to stop stalking her Facebook, because it has been a long time since I did that. I just need to know how i can move on from this girl, when even though i can logically see why i should stop caring about her at all.\n\nI know, KNOW FOR A FACT, that she doesn't care about me at all, but I almost almost find myself thinking about her almost every night before i fall asleep. I'm so tired of it. I just need some sage words of advice.", "summary": "I can't stop thinking about my ex who I know doesn't care"}
{"id": "t3_28w762", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a disgusting hornball", "post": "This actually happened TODAY. A short time ago actually. I am only now able to get back on my phone as the fear has slightly subsided. \n\nI am a disgusting man. I know this. I can't stop thinking about sex. It consumes me. Even worse is that this tremendous site has /r/gonewild available at the tip of my fingers whenever and wherever I want it. It's a gift and a curse. \n\nSo today I take a short break at my desk in a very small office filled only with women, 12 to be exact, I'm the only guy, to look at a few of the ladies on GW when I click on a link and it's a video. I like videos! And usually these videos don't have sound but I wasn't really thinking of that anyway. I was just clicking away, ya know? \n\nSure enough, the video opens and I don't have a millisecond of time to prepare before the female who is riding a cock is moaning with pleasure and my volume is not only ON but CRANKED. \n\nKill.Me.Now. The entire office came to a deafening silence and the woman who sits next to me gave me a look like a nun who just witnessed me curse off The Mother Mary herself. 3 full, unmistakable moans before I could, in a frenzied panic, shut the fucking thing down. If I had a glass of water the phone would have went in. \n\nThe office has been eerily quiet all day since.", "summary": "TIFU by watching homemade porn surrounded by unknowing women who were then subjected to moans of pleasure from the video because I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_wxqbr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am currently \"dating\" a girl who is absolutely insane for the sole reason being.. I'm bored and it's amusing. What seriously stupid shit have you done just..for fun?", "post": "Keep in mind, you can totally judge me.. I'm fully aware of every aspect of this sitaution.lol\n\nThis girl texted me who I hadn't talked to in a long time.... I was horny, so I asked her  if she wanted to come see my new house. She said yeah. I told her straight up, I'm just kinda lookin for fun right now.. Nothing serious. She said that was totally fine.\n\nSo the next day she texts me and says she doesn't want me sleeping with other girls. OK I can understand that, so I say I'm not. Later on she says she wants to date me... OK Fine.. I can consider us dating.. whatever.. The next day she is bawling her fucking eyes out on my driveway (while I sit on my porch and play solitaire on my laptop) because I don't want to be in a relationship at the moment.\n\nShe's 23 years old, and apparently I took her on her first actual date EVER yesterday. Even bought her a rose because I really did want her to feel special. She can be a totally cool and sweet chick when she's not being psychotic. \n\nBlah blah blah no one cares, long story short, she's insane, I'm still fucking with her because I'm a student of human nature and she is extremely interesting to me. I may even get into a relationship with her just to see what happens. Who knows. \n\nI do have a ton of friends, and shit I could be doing.... But this is entirely too entertaining..", "summary": "I'm exhibiting signs of a sociopath."}
{"id": "t3_2ca912", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M22] Not sure what to do about my ex [F20].", "post": "I (M22) was seeing a girl (F20) for the past year, my last year at university. 9 months, the longest relationship I've been in. She ended it just after my exams finished 1.5 months ago because she knew I was falling for her and she didn't think she could feel the same way about me.\n\nAt the time, I wasn't entirely surprised. As her boyfriend, I didn't feel like she treated me all that different to her other close friends (despite all the intimate stuff), and so in the back of my head I hadn't really been expecting us to go the distance. I was actually surprisingly fine for the first couple of weeks, given bad reactions to previous breakups.\n\nBut the thing is, recently, I've been missing her more and more, especially since I started sort-of seeing another girl (F21), about two weeks ago, who's nice and attractive, but just doesn't really float my boat that much. (It doesn't help that sex with the ex was incredible, and with this girl, it's a little lacklustre.) I'm really pretty miserable at times. \n\nA fair part of me wants to try and win my ex back, but I'm not sure it will work - she seemed very sure of the breakup, isn't great with emotions, and is the sort of person who makes up her mind and sticks to it. (I think if we'd met a few years later and she had been a little more emotionally secure, it might have worked out better.)\n \n\nAm I just wallowing in normal breakup fallout that's a bit of a slower burn than usual? AS I said, I've had bad breakups before, but this is the first time I've seriously considered reaching back out to get in touch with someone. I feel like it's pretty unlikely I could get back together with her, so if I try I might just end up extending this whole thing and making myself more miserable.", "summary": "Missing ex-girlfriend more than expected. Not sure whether to try and win her back."}
{"id": "t3_2pt1i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] meets new girl [18-19? F] at the party and want to reconnect", "post": "First, sorry for my English, not my native language.\n\nSo tonight is my university major anniversary and they throw a really big party that open for public and every university student. We got blasted, and after party there is some of us left that taking a picture. I join and take some.\n\nAnd now I'm home take a look of some photos, there is someone that I don't recognize and I really like her.\n\nAfter asking my friend [21 F] who take photos with us. She has her Blackberry Messenger PIN.\n\nThe problem is how I approach this, I have 2 answers;\n\n1. Invite her PIN without asking first.\n2. Asking through my friend that I want to invite her and talk from there.\n\n/r/relationships I need your help and advice, and I really appreciate for alternative way.\n\nAfter almost one year without in a relationship I feel this is time to find another one.", "summary": "Meet a girl and I want to reconnect with her."}
{"id": "t3_epal1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "OK, so how do I make my Porn history untraceable? And I mean seriously untraceable!", "post": "Basically for christmas I'm getting a load of new parts for my PC (graphics card, processor, motherboard etc) all co-ordinated by my dad. We always put our own PC's together and while I am a dunce with programming/software I certainly know my way around the interior of a PC hardware wise. It's kinda fun to put a new set of gear together with my Dad and is one of the nerdy bonding rituals we have.\n\nhere is the problem, I'm probably one of the few people of my generation (I'm 24) who's parents are FAR BETTER than them with computers. Not because I'm a technophobe...oh no. But My dad has a masters in the subject and also teaches web and multimedia design at our local university.\n\nSo yes, when bringing my PC home for christmas to go onto the \"surgery table\" I'm sure you understand that I'm at extreme risk. Especially as we're thinking of doing a good old OS re-install to clean out all the junk. I just don't know I won't be able to leave my PC open to access without being anxious.", "summary": "Bringing PC to parents for a major upgrade. Dad fucking awesome at finding anything he wants on a computer after its deletion. Need to know how to erase porn history"}
{"id": "t3_12p7tl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [16/m] just found out that my [16/f] fianc\u00e9e has said that she and my \"friend\" should have secret sex, what do I do?", "post": "Basically I dislike this guy at my school who is really suspicious when it comes to girls and I recently found out that they were organising secretly to meet each other without telling me a couple months ago and this really annoyed me. So I decided today in class to go onto my friends computer and get his facebook password to see if they had been doing anything suspicious.....turns out they were saying oh lets have sex and she said to him lets not tell him ;). I don't know what to do :/  any help is appreciated thank you.", "summary": "suspicious friend and fiancee saying they are going to have secret sex, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2dvw76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] just got broken up with my [29 F] girlfriend of 2.5 years, trying to stay positive.", "post": "All I want to do is run away, jump on my bike and ride all night. We moved from Florida to Brooklyn maybe a year and some change ago. She was the only person that I even entertained the idea of having kids. The past six months our relationship have been rocky, however we would talk, and I tried so hard to make it work. Ultimately it came down to her being unhappy for such a long time, which kills me knowing that she wasn't happy for so long. I'm trying not to beat myself up wondering what I could have done different, I know that won't help anything. I'm trying to stay positive about our breakup for both us our happiness. I know it'll never be the same, however I know that we both mean so much to each other we'll never really loose each other's friendship. Currently we are still living together since we have a lease under our names and we don't have other options. Living together with the person you love and care so much for while trying to get over our breakup is going to be the most difficult  to endure. I just have to stay positive, for our sake. It has helped writing here this morning.", "summary": "We moved too Brooklyn, we broke up last night after finding out she was unhappy for so long, and I have to move on for both of our happiness while living together."}
{"id": "t3_3gnlk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 30F with my boyfriend 27 M for 13 months, Trying to figure out if he's too sensitive or if it's me", "post": "I think this guy is really great, but ever since we got together it feels like he gets mad super easily. He is giving me a complex that I'm just some sort of terribly harsh person! I think the answer is that regardless, we just don't work out, but I'm trying to get a little perspective on things.\n\nThis past weekend we went to an all day concert together and had a really good time! Except that within the day (which he also considered \"great\") he got mad at me for the following things:\n\n1) He was talking to me about the bands he knew that were playing. I said I didn't know any of them and asked questions about each of the bands (what kind of music they played etc.) and expressed that I did NOT care about seeing the headliner. Eventually I shrugged my shoulders and said we could see whoever he wanted. He stormed off and later said that \"even a stranger would acknowledge that I was talking about something I was interested in\"\n\n2) I bought us both beers, and when he started without me I said, \"You could cheers me, you know\"\n\n3) I asked him if he wanted me to go meet up with my friend so he could have some space (previous day he did not want to meet up).\n\n4) I looked at him and smiled when I was dancing and he seemed suspicious. \n\n5) I made a joke about guys with big arms and he heard it wrong and got mad. That would be ok, but after I apologized and explained that I like his arms just fine, I mentioned that in fact he DOES comment on other girls being \"hot\", he got even madder and threatened to walk away from me.\n\nAll my friends seem to agree with me that he is being silly, but I think they are biased and honestly I'd like to know if it's really me being harsh or him. If it's something I need to work on generally, I'd rather see if I could do it with this guy.\n\nI realize that this is not high drama for this reddit, but it's still important to me.", "summary": "Can't tell if I'm way harsh or this guy is being too sensitive"}
{"id": "t3_1bvppl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "F/24, 5'5\", 190 lbs. - A few years ago, I lost 90 pounds. I got off track but I'm back now. I need a little encouragement...", "post": "While I was in college, I lost a lot of weight. I went from 243 lbs to 150 lbs in about 3 years. Then I got married, got comfy, and am I back up to about 190 lbs now. I was looking at some old pictures and I am really proud of what I did. Since I have been successful before, I know I can do it again. But as all of you know, it's hard. \n\nBefore, I was religiously doing Weight Watchers and doing mild exercise. I would get a video series or hire a personal trainer for a month or so. I have never really been an exerciser. Weight Watchers got too expensive and I stopped losing when they changed their program. Now, I am doing MyFitnessPal (1200 cal/day) and C25K (3x/week for 30 minutes). I have lost about 10 pounds since January but I am struggling to stay motivated. \n\nIn college, I lost weight with my best friend and I had a great support system. Now, my husband and I live all alone in CA and there is literally no one here to help. I am self motivated, generally, but food is my weakness and my addiction and it is very hard to battle alone. \n\n[Summer 2007 to Summer 2010 Album] (\n\nLooking at these pictures motivates me in two ways - I NEVER want to be that fat girl again and I LOVED how I felt at my college graduation. I have never seen a number in the 140's so that is my current goal and I know I will get there. I think just need some encouragement for today. \n\n[Here is me now] (", "summary": "I lost 90 lbs in college and got off track. I am back now, but this is hard! These pictures are motivating me to never go back and remember how good healthy feels."}
{"id": "t3_2clr76", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to ask for a raise?", "post": "If this isn't the right place for this, I apologize.\n\nHere's the thing. I've been with the same company for 2.5 years. I was hired in at $28k/year, and shortly after hiring (within about 3 months) I was given a raise to $30k/year. That was over 2 years ago, and I'm still sitting at the same pay rate.\n\nI'm a graphic / web designer in the Chicagoland area with almost 10 years of experience. According to Glassdoor, the median salary is in the 40-45k range.\n\nAbout a year ago, I broached the subject with my GM of a raise. I got a mostly run-around answer about why they couldn't give me one at the time, which leads into this situation. Turns out that they couldn't because the company was up for sale. Well, the sale went final last week. Today I get new paperwork to fill out for the new owners, and I noticed that my salary was still the same. They also noted in said paperwork that compensation will be subject to yearly review. \n\nSo the question is: Do I wait ANOTHER year hoping that I will be compensated, or do I talk to the new ownership about it now, before I even sign an employment agreement? \n\nI'll be meeting with the president of the new company shortly to discuss what my duties will be going forward. I know for a fact that I will be saddled with more responsibilities doing graphics not only for this location, but for other locations (nationwide) within the company. But I'm hoping to get more specifics this afternoon.\n\nAny advice is helpful! Thanks!", "summary": "Haven't had a raise in two years. New owners just took over this week. Do I ask for a raise?"}
{"id": "t3_2b0p2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] can't build a relationship with anyone because i'm disgusted with myself (x-post from confessions)", "post": "Reposting this here, I just found this subreddit after posting to confessions and thought I would get some more applicable advice, if any from here!\n\nTo be blunt, I can't stand myself. Whenever I say or do something I immediately think about how I was wrong, fucked up, stupid etc etc.\nEvery day is another day of self deprecation.\n\nI can't be in a relationship with anyone, well I feel like I can't.\n\nI never really have, the second I think I may be interested in someone I immediately start to turn in my head that i'm not good enough, disgusting to think I would be appealing to someone else....and then feel guilty, for partially leading someone on but also having the audacity to subject someone to my mental health and poor physical appearance. I just constantly think it's unfair of me to wish to subject someone, to myself.\n\nI'm 21 so this is getting old, and i'm sick of my family assuming i'm gay or CONSTANTLY bringing it up. I can't *just say* i'm a fat fuck who doesn't deserve anyone.", "summary": "I hate myself and want to be in a relationship but can't."}
{"id": "t3_5081rl", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I'm not desperate to leave, but I need a change. Best way to communicate my hopes to recruiters?", "post": "I have 10+ years experience in finance (tax, AP, AR, corporate, but not a cpa), a degree in English lit as my base. I'm 31, and looking to do something different. I'd really love to travel, whether it's in the US, North America, infinity, or beyond. I can't imagine there are too many jobs in finance that involve travel that don't also involve needing a CPA, or stronger background in audit/forensic accounting, I could be super wrong, but I've not seen too many on indeed that I'm qualified for.\n\nI'm in Boston, which I think should be a good city for finding something, because I'm not desperate to get out of my current situation. I'd like to be gone by next year, but I'm not losing my mind---yet.\n\nMy question (and", "summary": "): What's the best way to contact recruiters, and say, \"Here's my skill set, I'm strong in accounting/finance, strong worker, broad set of skills, would love to travel a bit, no strong feelings about industry, looking for the right environment\"?"}
{"id": "t3_2fs761", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] contemplating distancing a great friend [21 F]", "post": "On my first day of college, I met a girl who would soon become one of my best friends. We'll call her Sally. At the time, I was in a long term relationship which ended poorly; however, those specific details aren't relevant. From the get-go, I've been infatuated with Sally. I'm a very outgoing guy, and enjoy making conversation with everyone. She on the other hand is extremely introverted, but once I got to know her, she really opened up.\n\nFast forward through the turmoil of my breakup, and some time for me to get my ducks in a row. I've known sally for around 2 and a half years. My 20 year old ass got tense like a 14 year old asking a girl to homecoming, as I worked up the courage to ask her out. \n\nWorst fear realized. Friend zoned. HARD. I blush, stick my face in a pillow, and curse my existence. But ultimately, I decided I'm better off at least having it \"off my chest\". In the end, we decided to forget it and keep on keeping on. \n \nYeah.. easier said than done. This was about 6 months ago, and we still hang out all the time. My grand master plan was just to move on. plenty of fish in the see right? But honestly, I still feel the exact same way about her, and it hurts deep down in my chest every time I think about it. \n\nI want her in my life. If all she wants is a friend, I want to be her friend.The thought of distancing myself hurts just as much as her constant company.\n\nI feel like where I'm at right now just isn't healthy.\nWhat are your thoughts oh wise ones?", "summary": "Infatuated with long time friend. Friend zone = pain."}
{"id": "t3_3qa7pw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My partner [27M] wants to take 'a break' from me [23F], but we live together. How do I deal with this?", "post": "We've had a multitude of problems ever since my daughter [3mo/old] was born, mainly my partner acting out and being inconsiderate/disrespectful. He admits that he finds family life overwhelming, which is upsetting as he was the one who wanted all of this initially and pushed for it all. \n\nNow we've been together for two years, we live together, and he's telling me he wants us to go on a 'break'. I don't have anywhere to go. My parents can't take me and my daughter in right now and the rest of my family live too far away to consider. Am I supposed to avoid him in our home? Make sure I'm out of the house when he comes back from work? Not talk to him when we're there together? \n\nI tried asking him if what he means by 'break' is break up. He says he doesn't know and refuses to commit to any kind of decision... I'm feeling pretty trapped in this situation right now and I don't have the money to hole up in a hotel with a small baby. We have a 3 bedroom house so we're currently sleeping apart.", "summary": "My partner wants us to be 'on a break' but other than the obvious not kissing/sleeping in the same bed I don't know how to manage the situation. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_fzwew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Public speaking!!! HELP!!!", "post": "I assume, public speaking is huge pain for most of us. But I know the fact that with experaince it becomes natural for some people. Anyway, I am 20 y/o college student, shy guy, usually on his own, & doesn's talk much.\n\nAll my life, whenever I have to do an oral presentation I get super excited, adreneline kicks in big time, I shake whole body during all presentation. In my life I did more than 10 class presentation and everytime felt like fainting. This time(tomorrow) I will give a presentation to a class which has quiete high % of pretty ladies and even thinking about this as I am typing increases my heart beat. \n\nI desperately need suggestion which would help my presentation look not uber insecure.", "summary": "I need advices/tips about how to overcome nervousness while doing a presentation."}
{"id": "t3_34vcy7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[15M] I can't take seeing my ex [15F] everyday at school.", "post": "Hey guys. So for the past 1.5 years I've been dating this girl who I think I fell in love with, she was all I thought about for a long time. We recently broke up, and it wasn't easy. My friends got involved and took her side and everything just got messy between us. Recently one of my good friends has seemed to taken a liking to her, I'm not mad at him for that she is a pretty girl but it really hurts me when he hangs out with her for some reason. The last 2 math classes I've had have been torture for me and it's all I can think about. I'm not sure if she even has an interest in him, she might only be doing to make me hurt. I've started talking to this girl names Chloe, although she goes to a different school she is really pretty and we have a lot in common. I try to think about her when I'm in math but my other feelings overwhelm me. What can I do? How do I make the days less painful? Anyone have advice?", "summary": "Every time I see my ex girlfriend at school it feels like I got kicked in the chest."}
{"id": "t3_3ga94x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22(f) questioning my sexuality and wondering if i should end my 3 year relationship with 27(m)", "post": "Hello there. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and for the most part it has been great, our biggest issue is his reluctance to find a better job, which leaves me with a lot of financial stress. I have voice these issues numerous times throughout the years, and every time he always gets very upset and promises that he will try harder. I'm still waiting for him to find a good job. The most frustrating part about that is he is very capable of doing anything he wants, but he uses his anxiety as an excuse. I have anxiety well so I am so I am understanding but I'm also losing patience. \n\nOn the other hand I am also interested in women. He is actually very supportive of that and encourages me to explore, which I am very thankful for. Recently I have been hanging out with this one specific girl, we have hooked up a few times, and I think I might be developing real feelings for her. She is constantly on my mind, and I'm always thinking about how to make her happy. Whenever I'm not with her  I am wishing that I was. \n\nI do understand that being unhappy in your current relationship can make you start fantasizing about other things, so I am keeping that in mind, and trying not to get carried away, but I don't think these feelings are fading anytime soon. Some advice would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "current bf is not holding up his end of finances, and I am questioning my sexuality and feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1q3r1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[29 M] with [29 F] ex-gf, co-worker, says she no longer has my things -- what to do (or write it off)?", "post": "EDIT:  Fairly sure I'm just going to visit her office in peace and ask what happened to my things.  And smile and walk away at whatever the answer is.\n\nHad a relationship for several months with a girl living with her 5-year boyfriend.  \n\nWe were very close friends before and were (and still do) work for the same, large company (little chance of running into each other beyond elevators).  After taking a break, I sent her a letter ending things, as the situation became very unstable and intolerable (as she wanted to have both me and the other boyfriend, it seemed).  I received a vitriolic response, and she said she planned to leave some of my things in my office.  \n\nI was working in another office at the time, and assumed my things would be waiting for me when I returned a couple months later.  They were not.  I sent her a text asking for them, no response.  A couple weeks later, I sent another text, she says she does not have them (meaning she either threw them out or destroyed them, or she's lying and keeping them).  It's my favorite sports jersey and a couple of nice watches, probably ~$1k total.  \n\nI have no ill-will towards her, but I think I am owed my belongings or at least an explanation of what she did with them (and perhaps the ~$1k).  But perhaps it's just not worth it....\n\nDo I just write it off?  If not, how do I go about approaching this?", "summary": "Ex (who I work with, but in large company) says she no longer has some of my favorite things (worth ~$1k).  Write it off?  If not, how to approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_2tn11f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by peeing in my girlfriend's mouth", "post": "Last night I had a semi-serious conversation with my girlfriend about our lack of sex life because we have been arguing a lot in the past month. \n\nThis morning she surprised me in the morning by kissing my neck and initiating. She starts giving me a handjob as my morning wood was apparent. She was on her period so I knew sex wasn't going to happen. It escalated into her giving me a blowjob. I originally needed to pee but I didn't say anything because hey, if you come back from peeing, it will ruin the mood. I felt close to climaxing so I told her to continue. Well you guessed it, I peed, HARD. She didn't realized as first until the immense pressure and taste kicked in. Needless to say, she was disgusted and ran to the bathroom. There I am, still peeing. Since I was on my back and was super hard, pee went upwards drenched the entire bed and myself. \n\nI have never been more embarrassed in my life. I didn't think it could happen. I can't look her in the eyes. The sheets need to be washed and there is still a lot pee on the bed. Our room smells. I don't know if I will ever get a blowjob again.", "summary": "I got the best blowjob ever. "}
{"id": "t3_uidpj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My closest friends ditched me for one of the most important events of my life. Should I be mad?", "post": "My band had our first gig last friday, and I was extremely excited. I invited my group of closest friends ( we're 10 people, 6 guys 4 girls) to come watch me perform. They know that I'm a passionate musician, and this was the first time they'd get to see me perform ( otherwise it's all school performances, and none of them are in my school). However, sadly, they all backed out at the last moment. They all may/ may not have had their own individual reasons for not coming, but the fact that NONE of my closest friends turned up for what was by far my greatest performance in all my 6 years as a guitarist and vocalist. What should I do? Should I be mad at them? Or understanding? I mean, their friendship is important to me, but apparently, if none of them thought it necessary to support me for my first gig, is their friendship worth it?", "summary": "My friends ditched me on my first gig for their own reasons. Should I be mad at them?"}
{"id": "t3_1y46vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25 M] am having a hard time reading a lady[23 F]", "post": "There is a lady I like, but as the title states, I am having some trouble reading her. She recently got out of a long term relationship, and while I don't want to press her into anything, I do feel like we're getting close to one another. I am just no good at figuring a lady out.\n\nLast time we hung out just the two of us, it ended up being very date like. We went out for ice cream, I put my arm around her when we walked, we got some food and played games at a different place, and as we walked back to my car she put her arms around me for a while as it was pretty cold. We talked the whole time, and some of it was about the future and where we see ourselves going. Like I said though, she just got out of a relationship, so I wasn't making any kinds of moves. I admit that I do have a hard time reading these kinds of things in general, but part of me wanted to make some kind of move, I just wasn't sure and didn't want to overstep any bounds.\n\nAnyways, the reason why I say I am having a hard time reading her is because it is always me suggesting we do something together. Almost(95%) all our  text conversations are I initiated by myself as well. I don't want to be some guy that always chases after her. I also don't mind it if we end up being only friends or being only friends for a while before she works things out for herself, but I find it a little disheartening when we have great times together, but she never seeks it out.\n\nPart of me thinks I'm just being stupid, and I should just let things happen as they happen. I think the same part is seeking out confirmation that this is indeed the case. I also don't normally seek out a person's attention like this, so it is a pretty strange sensation for me. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "A lady and I have a great time when we do hang out, but it's always me asking her to hang out and it feels very one sided. Does she actually like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3l5vis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] can't get over my abusive relationship enough to give a new girl a chance", "post": "Hi,\nLast year I got out of a year long abusive relationship with a girl [25 F]. She was my first love and I took the breakup really hard even though it was for the best for me to get out of that situation. But now I'm finding it really hard to start dating again - every date I've had I've ended up overanalysing the girl, found one or two little flaws and decided that's it and decided not to see her again. I know it's not fair of me and it's not making me happy to think like this, but I don't know how to stop. I'm scared of dating even if I'm getting on with the person in question. When things were good with my ex partner they were really good and I worry a new girl won't measure up which is ridiculous because things were bad more often than they were good and that's not a good way to think at all anyway. How do I get over my hangups from the abusive relationship enough to give a new girl a chance? I have a date with someone I've been getting on so well with on Saturday and I don't want to mess it up.", "summary": "how do I get over my abusive relationship enough to give a new girl a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_y7z44", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Advice needed on daily job duty requirements + salary renegotiation", "post": "Hello,\n\n I've recently been hired at a small company as their \"Marketing guy\" meaning I will be updating their website, implementing their social media marketing, and creating brochures. \n\n*Now fast forward to the interview*\n\nThe boss notices my history and experience working in the field of IT. He informs me that they also need someone at the company to support the few desktops and servers that they have.\n\nThe starting pay for the Marketing position is $15/hr. Now that I passed my probationary period and they offered me the fulltime position, is it reasonable to ask to renegotiate my salary since they added Desktop and Server Support to my daily job duties? And if so, how can I come about doing that respectfully?", "summary": "Job hired me to do X & Y for 15 an hr, they also tacked on Z without adding more compensation. Wondering if I can renegotiate after my 90 day probationary period."}
{"id": "t3_1nc19s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [19F] of just over a year cheated on me. Feeling lost.", "post": "This may be a bit of an odd one - I'll explain.\n\nSo I was friends with this girl for maybe four years. After we left school, we started going out. About four months in, she kissed another guy while drunk. She broke up with me rather than tell me, but about a month later it all came out, then a few weeks later we got back together.\n\nEverything was fine until June. I'm at university, she was on a gap year. About six weeks into her trip to Peru she slept with another guy. I found out maybe a week later, and confronted her about it. She didn't seem to have any regrets. We broke up immediately. I was devastated, hurt, and my self-confidence completely shaken.\n\nI've been very good - absolutely no contact all summer, keeping busy. We were supposed to meet and talk it over in person when she got back (the breakup unfortunately had to happen over Skype as I couldn't bear to wait), but she blamed me for \"dragging her name through the mud\" (we have a lot of mutual friends). I haven't spoken to her for about three months now, but still I think of her and what happened constantly. I live in a very large city, and she has now moved here. Everywhere I go, I'm looking for her - I can't help myself. The lack of closure hasn't helped.\n\nI guess I'm not looking for advice on the relationship itself, per se - it's quite definitely over. I just want to know if anyone has any advice on how to get her out of my head, and stop feeling ill every time I see a girl with a passing resemblance to her. Any advice on what to do when I eventually run into her would be helpful too - it's somewhat inevitable as we share so many friends, and come from a small town.\n\nThanks, all.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me, frustrated at myself for not really feeling much better after three months when she's long since moved on."}
{"id": "t3_3ssb1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) feelings are changing with my gf (23F) of one year.", "post": "Ill try making this as short as possible, weve been in a relationship for over a year and 3 months now, at the beginning everything was as youd expect with the whole honeymoon phase. 6 months into the relationship we agreed that she should get the depo provera shot and things were going still strong for a few more weeks when she began having trouble in bed. She insists that she wants to but cant get herself to initiate and i tried understanding as best as i could, i tried trying harder making sure to use plenty of foreplay but it didnt change anything. \n\n  We spoke about the issue and i tried by best to let her know i wasnt mad, or blaming her and would appreciate if she tried initiating which she did try for a few weeks before going back to how things were not working out and we agreed she should get off the shot and she hasnt taken it since for about 3 months now going on 4 and things arent getting better.\n\n  Ive done my fair share of research and see shes not the only one having issues after getting the shot and theres some people who havent even started feeling normal again after not taking it for awhile and that just leaves me hopeless that things will get better soon, and it wasnt until last week while during an argument over our plans for thankgiving as i tried to hug her she insisted i just dont touch her at all even after things had settled down and we were watching our show she repeated it again after i pulled her shorts down a bit and began kissing her hips.\n\n  I completely adore this girl, i would do anything for her and want nothing more than for her to be happy as it makes me happy, but recently my feelings for her havent been the same. Im trying to understand as much as i can how she may be feeling and try my best not to blame her for whats going on but shes just not the same person i fell in love with at the beginning of everything and it leaves me frustrated and concerned about our future together.", "summary": "Spent over half the relationship with gf dealing with depo provera side effects even after she stopped taking the shot. Shes not the same person i fell in love with and my feelings arent what they used to be."}
{"id": "t3_1mpxfw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Beginning 5k to marathon?", "post": "Does anyone have a training plan for something like this? \n\n3 years ago I was running consistently, in good shape. Did plenty of 5k races and did a half marathon. During training for he half marathon I became injured (too much too fast).  I lightened the training load before the race and felt pretty good I raced and when I got to mile 8 my hip started killing me and I had to run walk the rest of the way. I think it was ITBS and may have something to do with a small leg discrepancy. I am still in decent shape but have gotten away from running. I play basketball a few times a week but when I simply go out for a run my hip would act up. I really want to get back into it but I know I have to start from the very beginning.\n\nMy problem is I can handle the runs aerobically but my legs tire out. And since my breathing and HR is fine I keep going despite the leg fatigue.", "summary": "Anyone have a beginning 5k to marathon plan?"}
{"id": "t3_1pse5j", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Random thoughts at 3.30 about my life", "post": "I slept till around 4 in the afternoon today so now I can't sleep, I'm trying to stop drinking cola and have only had 1L today and i really want more, part off me want to stop drinking it all together but the other part of me don't, it just want to drink. I'm lying in bed and feel kind of lonely, not as bad as I usually feel, but still lonely. Haven't been out among people in forever because I don't have anyone to go out with, and don't want to go alone, don't know what to talk about with other people either. I day dream about meeting someone I can have my arms around while we fall asleep. I'm hungry. I hate eating, but I'm under weight and my doctor is always after me saying I have to eat, it annoys me. I need to find a job as well, but I don't really want to look for one, but the money is starting to run low and I hate seeing money only going out of my account and nothing coming back in. The last real crush I had just had a baby, haven't seen her in two years but I still talk to her, kind of weird, she is one year older than me and just became a mother, don't think I would be ready to be a dad in one year. Still don't know what education I should go for, don't know what I want to do with my life. Always felt I wasn't good at anything, but more like I was average at a lot of things. I miss having a pet, and I'm still hungry, and I want a coke, and I want to sleep.", "summary": "Nothing important just me rambling :)"}
{"id": "t3_3cmr8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my[? M] passive-aggressive roommate. How do I deal with his unnecessary comments?", "post": "5 roommates, one house. Every roommate in our house gets along great except for one of the roommates, Brian, who no one else really cares for. We just moved in together 1 month ago. \n\nBrian is a bit older than everyone and tries to act like everyone's dad basically. Whatever he says goes. He also says a bunch of passive aggressive things to one roommate in particular like \"wow, your clothes have been in the dryer a long time, huh?\" Or \"someone left some dishes in the sink... I guess I'll do them\". He uses the dryer just as long as everyone else and also leaves dishes in the sink. He's a hypocrite and gets bitchy over things that really don't matter. \n\nSo, how do I deal with this? If I approach him about it I'm afraid it will start a fight or make things awkward. All of my roommates feel the same way about him but won't say anything to him because they don't want living in the same house to be awkward.", "summary": "Roomate is bitchy and passive-agressive. Complains about certain things that he is also guilty of doing. How do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_13uria", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the terrifying thing you've every experienced? I'll,start", "post": "Background: Me and Friend are avid longboarders. Some nights we get together and just cruise around at like 1 in the morning.\n\nIt started off as a normal night, we were riding our usual route and we were out a little later than normal so we decided to take a short cut back to my buddy's house which involved passing the old elementary school me and my friend went to. I remember it clear as day. I checked my phone and it was around 2:47 AM when we stopped at the playground behind the school for some reason. We were facing the playset when I saw the out line of a person standing in our direction. I nudged my friend to show him what I had seen, and sure as hell, he was moving towards us. My friend shined his phone onto him and this is what we saw, a man wearing torn pants, a dirty half buttoned Hawaiian shirt, long beard, no head hair, and eyes that were twitching at us. We knew he was going to chase us and try to take one of us, so we did the normal, \"run like you've never run before\". But we underestimated this guy. Boy did he have some wheels because when we took off, he took off with us. Me and friend sprinted about 1.5 miles back to his house, we didn't even care about riding our boards or if we lost him. That look of pure insanity before we ran still sticks in my mind. It's a face I never want to see again. Haven't night boarded since.", "summary": "Friend and I got chased by sketchy man while skating at night."}
{"id": "t3_53b2m4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] 3 year relationship with my boyfriend [24M] might be coming to an end. Please advise.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been living together for three years, and although I love him so much and hate to think of our relationship coming to an end, lately we've been having some issues. \n\nA few months ago my boyfriend told me that he doesn't get happy or excited when he thinks about me. Since then, my self esteem has become practically nonexistent. I grew up in an incredibly abusive home and have dealt with severe depression and anxiety most of my life. I have grown a lot since we got together and I just want to get some affirmation that he's at least somewhat proud of me. \n\nInstead, I just feel like I'm too fat, or not pretty or interesting enough, not smart enough, that I don't look cute enough when I get off work (I'm a CNA, it's next to impossible to look too great after a day at work). I always feel like he is comparing me to other girls, especially his female work friends. \n\nWe recently had a discussion that we would both try to improve our relationship, and if we decided we still weren't happy, we would break up, and I would move back home with my family. I'm at my wits end. I don't know what else to do. I try to make him feel appreciated, I'm trying to work on things he mentioned in our aforementioned conversation (mostly my indecisiveness). I make the things he like for dinner, I keep the house clean, I try to do things he's interested in (video games, anime, etc.) but I feel like he isn't returning the favor by trying to make anything any better. I want to be able to initiate physical intimacy, but I'm afraid he'll reject me or be thinking of any other girl besides me the entire time.", "summary": "I don't know what to do. How can I improve my relationship, and help my boyfriend love me again."}
{"id": "t3_49850n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my Wife [33 F] Married 8 years, Just found out my wife cheated.", "post": "So me and my wife have been having problems of late, lack of intamacy and just trying to recover from a miscarriage a few months back. We have been working on fixing things and so I thought that if I worked harder, I could bring us back to a point where we were both happy.\n\nUnfortunately last night when I came to bed my wife was asleep but had her phone open to a text conversation she has been having with a coworker (I asked questions before making sure this was just a friend and nothing was going on, she assured me there was nothing) but the stuff they said tore my soul apart. After taking the phone and taking pictures of the conversation (idk why just wanted to have proof) I then woke her up and confronted her about it. She then came clean and addmitted to an affair, and multiple times of infidelity.\n\nMy dilemma is that I love my wife very much, and I want to forgive her, she has said that she feels horrible and regrets having done this to me.\n\nI want to know if anyone can give me some advice on how to handle this situation. If people had a similar problem please tell me how you dealt with it or give some pointers on how to start forgiving my wife and saving my marriage. We also have 2 children together, i don't know how that might effect decisions in this but thought I would still mention it.", "summary": "Wife cheated with co-worker, need help/advice on what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_12eg93", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking a TV and an Xbox", "post": "This actually happened a couple months ago, but I was just reminded of it.\n\nMe and my dad like to wrestle around frequently, and we tend to get a bit rough (He's a 19-year Marine and I'm a hopeful Marine) and pretty into it. Well this particular time I decided to attack him while in my little brothers' room, despite the limited room in there. \n\nWell after a few minutes we ended up next to the dresser with their 28-inch TV and the white Xbox 360 on it, both at about 6 feet from the ground.\n\nWe didn't really notice and continued to wrestle, when we suddenly hit the dresser and the TV and xbox both fell off and hit the ground. The TV was busted, huge cracks all along the screen on the inside, and the Xbox landed and somehow the disc tray ended up across the room.\n\nTo make it worse, my 7 and 5-year old brothers came in and saw their broken stuff and started bawling while me and my dad just kinda laughed at the situation. Mom didn't find us so funny.", "summary": "Wrestling with dad, knocked TV and Xbox off 6-foot dresser, little brothers hated us for a couple days."}
{"id": "t3_3wvkxm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Odd-payment request?", "post": "I'm unsure if this would be the correct subreddit, as it didn't seem to fit in elsewhere, maybe /r/askreddit or legal? If not, here goes.  \n\nA little background, I'm in the military and looking to buy some car parts. I saw on the Perrin Performance website that they have a \"Military and first responder discount\" [reddit!] . To be approved for this, you need to email or call the representative listed with a few requirements and also list the parts you wish to purchase.  \n\nAfter sending all of this I received an email this afternoon statin all of the (newly) priced items at about 10-15% discount (awesome!). The email also includes the following text, which I found incredibly off.\n\n> If you'd like to complete an order, feel free to call or email me with your credit card number, expiration date, and 3 digit code OR send a paypal payment to sales@perrinperformance.com, just put it to my attention.  \n\nI shot the representative an email back asking if he could somehow give me a discount code equalling the amount of the discount I was to receive noted in his email, as it didn't feel right to do either of the options listed. I am also going to call tomorrow to see if he could answer some other questions I may have. \n\nI can't wrap my head around it being a scam, as it is from a reputable company, it just seems odd that the initial payment options listed were what he mentioned.   \n\nAny help or suggestions would be great, or maybe someone has used their discounts before?", "summary": "want to buy car parts, inquired about military discount, received email back with discounted prices but asked to pay by email/paypal."}
{"id": "t3_1o1ddj", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bus Bullies", "post": "This happened about 15 years ago.  There were two girls on my highschool bus that were just absolutely horrible people.  They would constantly yell rude things at people and the bus driver.  One of our passengers had really bad acne and they picked on her relentlessly.  \n\nSo, I secretly made a petition to have them removed from the bus.  I had every single person on the bus sign it, including the ones who acted chummy with the bullies but were really just protecting their own asses.  I then took this petition to the principal and both girls were banned from our bus system for the remainder of their high school careers.  They both had 2 years left.\n\nMy only regret is that the parents were REALLY pissed off about the incident because we lived about 20 minutes outside of the city, and now the parents were responsible for getting the brats to school.  It was also awkward seeing those girls in the halls because they knew it was me.... AND I was friends with the brother of one of the girls, but he was chill about it.", "summary": "girls bullying on the bus lose bus privileges indefinitely."}
{"id": "t3_3wdk81", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to the loo on a train", "post": "About 10 minutes from my home station I decide to nip to the loo because there wouldn't be another chance for a while when I got off. I walk down to the next carriage that has a loo and its one of the big ones with a curved sliding door that is also large enough for wheelchair users (this is the UK by the way).\nAs I approach there's an elderly man stood opposite the sliding door. I look at him but he doesn't seem to be waiting or pays any attention to me. I look at the display next to the door which shows the toilet is vacant. So I press the door button which opens the electronic sliding door. Bear in mind I didn't exactly do this in a rush, but nor was I walking down the carriage exclaiming \"hey strangers, I'm off to the loo now!\"\nThe man shouts at me saying what am I doing and there's someone in there!\nConfused and indignant at being shouted at for my reasonable course of action I shout back \"then why isn't it locked?!\"\nBy now I've already kind of pirouetted round the corner in embarrassment so I can't see the occupant of the loo. And the man stares at me and says in a tone that clearly indicates I'm an idiot \"because she has a mental disability\"\n\nHow I was meant to know all that ahead of time I'm not sure! Walked back to my seat thinking about why he didn't guard the door a bit better, or if she has some kind of issue and he's presumably her carer - why he wasn't in there with her.", "summary": "didn't use my psychic powers to see the mentally disabled lady in the loo. Opened the door for her carer and the rest of the carriage to get a look at her and me being told off"}
{"id": "t3_36nlrn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and got slapped by the girl I was hitting on", "post": "This happened many life time ago when I used to club trying to get lucky.\nI met this girl in the club one nice saturday night. This is a dance club with music blasting all night long.(IMPORTANT)\nMy move back then was quite simple. I'll approach my target on the dance floor, make an eye contact, smile and start dancing next to her and if I get the right clues, star dancing with her.\nIt usually just take one dance to get the girl I want. I've made my move on the girl on the dance floor and now I just need to close the deal.\nWe were standing by the bar getting our drink one. She just kept talking and the music was just too loud to hold a conversation.\nI kept nodding and smiling to all she was saying and I had no clue what she was talking about.\nI'll occasionally say yes when it sounds like a question and laugh.\nShe asked me something and I did just that and was greeted with a nice slap.\nI was a little confused and asked her what I said. She said she just asked me if she looks like a slut and I say yes and laugh.\nI told her that I did not heard what she said but she was not having it.\nNeedless to say that I never closed the deal. \nI've seen her few other times at different parties and she was not having it.", "summary": "Got slapped by a girl I was hitting on because I say yes to a question I did not hear."}
{"id": "t3_2ybe9q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing the board of the company I work for porn.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying I work as a general assistant to all the guests of a hotel, I do everything from fix faucets to helping with internet problems. \n\nThis just happened today hours before posting this.\nA few days ago a couple of the board members of the hotel are planning a huge dinner with a bunch of investors and rental agencies and they asked me to set up tables and chairs for them. So saturday rolls around and I get a bunch of tables and chairs out of the front dining room which went smooth enough. Taking them down however was my Fuck up story. The electricity went out towards the end of the party so we had to pack it up early and in partial darkness. We had to borrow tables from a neighbor So me and a few guys on the board had to brake down each table and check it for who it belonged to. Problem was it was pretty damn dark and nobody had a flashlight so I decided to use my phone. I scanned for a flashlight app but forgot I didn't install it on my phone yet so I would have to settle with a maximum brightness screen. I figured tte brightest thing I could open was the white homepage on Google chrome. So in a hurry I open chrome and faced the screen away from me checking the name on each one. Since there were easily 30-40 tables we decided to just have me stand there looking for the name while each of the members lugged a table by. Everything was going pretty smooth until one of the board members commented the second time around on my flashlight app, that's when I realised the light coming off of the screen was changing slightly. A sense of dread rushed over me as I looked at my phone screen and saw a gif a chucked getting creamed on repeatedly on loop. I panic closed it and opened up a clean tab, but they all knew. Not the biggest Fuck up but I feel like it was.", "summary": "I forced my bosses to watch porn while I examined their crotch for 20 seconds"}
{"id": "t3_476mn2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] - with my gf [27 F] of 5 years - suffer from FOMO and would like to try new things. Need advice", "post": "Long story short, I've been with my GF for 5 years now. We both still love each other a lot and the relationship is going ok (with the usual fights and bumps everyone runs into occasionally). We both still go out together, party, date, have fun, share a lot of friends etc. Because we're very different people, I'll admit that the relationship requires a lot of work and compromises for it to work (which I gladly do because I love her), but I feel that I've grown tired of all the effort needed\n\nDespite all this, for quite some time now I have been thinking that I have been with her since I was 20 (first year of university), and that I am missing out on life. I keep wondering what else is out there and that I would like to experiment that before I get too old: you know...doing whatever the hell I want without having to answer to anyone, nights out with guys and girls, hookups, picking up a girl, flirting, one night stands, other relationships etc. Hell, I actually started to wonder if there is a better fit for me out there somewhere, which doesn't require so much effort.\n\nWe've even started talking about marriage and stuff, but to be honest I feel that I just can't even consider this because I feel that there is some part of my life that is still missing i.e. the above. \n\nThese thoughts have been running through my head for over 1 year now. I haven't said anything yet because 1) I dint know what to say and 2) I thought I was just being stupid and ungrateful and that they are just passing thoughts. Turns out they just won't go away...\n\nI guess I'm looking for advice from people who have been in this situation. What did you do?\nDid you break up and enjoyed life? If yes, was it like you expected it to be? Is the grass greener on the other side?\nOr did you regret breaking up?\nOr did you slap yourself and realized that this is all just bullsh*t compared to a stable and strong relationship?", "summary": "Been with gf for 5 years since a young age. The relationship is ok but needs a lot of effort and work. I feel that I am missing out on life and want to experience new things, something which I haven't had the chance to do and fear that I will regret it. I could use some advice from experience, please! :)"}
{"id": "t3_329ywj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Going on a week long business trip with a co-worker. Mutually dont like eachother. What do?", "post": "So redditors, Im going on a week long business trip starting tomorrow with a co-worker who I have had problems with in the past, and even had to speak to HR About it. Now I can almost guarantee the reason they sent us TWO was because of this...Im not really complaining because it involved a pay increase. We have to share a hotel room and he's about 20 years older then me. I am 24, what can we do outside of work that will make it least awkward as possible? I am a gamer, and ill be brining my laptop but I know if i do something he doesnt like he will report it to our manager and general rep. Like, when it comes to sleeping if im up on my laptop \"keeping him awake\" or some shit.....Anybody been on a trip like this before? how can i stay sane but still be respectful of his space as well. sorry for the rant. it's been bugging me for a while..", "summary": "business trip with annoying as fuck co-worker, what do to make it less awkward? Were only in our workshop 8-5 and the rest of the time is free time. Im driving."}
{"id": "t3_vgzjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Will it last?", "post": "I (m19) got together with a friend of mine (f20) a few months ago. At the time, she asked if we could keep things casual and I obliged. We basically hang out a lot and make out some. We have deep talks and cuddle a bunch. It's really a great time. \n\nHowever, it's summer break and I'm far, far, away at home for the summer and she's back there.  We're not dating, so I feel completely insecure in the idea that this thing we have is going to last for the summer. Her and I text a bit and it's always fun with lots of smiley faces and whatnot. She never ignores my texts and I don't text her enough to become a nuisance (Less than once per day)\n\nHowever, she'll end sentences with \"buddy\" or \"my friend\". I'm afraid that these are friend zone terms used to make it clear that I'm just a friend. But because of our physical interactions, am I past those types of signs? I feel like I'm not doing enough to maintain what we had, but I also know that if I do too much I could drive her away.\n\nSo I guess my question is this: What do I need to be doing to make sure that what I have with this girl doesn't die during our time away? How much attention/affection is too much in this situation? Since we're only a casual couple at this point, is it really serious enough to end so definitively while I'm away?", "summary": "I'm away for break and am wondering what I have to do to maintain a casual relationship."}
{"id": "t3_34q26n", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[m/20] ~40lbs lost in 4 months and losing motivation.", "post": "Hey there people of LoseIt. Like all of you I've been fighting to lose weight and it feels like I'm succeeding.  \n  \nI started my journey in January this year. I had already been struggling with my weight for a long time but in January I had enough. Back then I weighed in at 229lbs and I knew that it was getting out of hand.  \n  \n  \nSome backstory: When I was younger I was a very sporty and energetic person, I used to play hockey and actually enjoyed exercise. Then my asthma broke out and I had to quit hockey due to not really being able to keep up with the rest of the team. After this a serious of pretty serious medical conditions surfaced and I found it harder and harder to keep my weight in check. Several years passed where I didn't really exercise at all, I spent most of my time sitting still and in addition to this I started eating unhealthy.  \n  \n  \nOkay, back to the present day. For four months now I've been eating healthy, tracking my calories with MFP as well as hitting the gym 3-4 times a week (slacking some weeks, you know how it goes). My current weight is 189lbs, it's the goal weight I set up to hit around the end of March. I get that an additional month isn't that much, but it's kind of messing with my mentality. I'd like to lose more, my new goal weight is 172lbs. Due to my studies being very time consuming I haven't had time to hit the gym on the hours that I want. This is leading to me not hitting the gym at all, slacking with my calorie tracking etc. It's a vicious cycle where my lack of motivation makes me lose less, when I know that I could lose more if I just found the motivation. I've also started eating more fast food again because I'm too tired to cook something healthy. Have anyone been in a similar situation, and how did you regain the motivation? I'm sorry for making such a long post to land on this very easy question, I guess I needed to vent a bit because I'm so frustrated over myself.", "summary": "lost 40 pounds in 4 months instead of 3 that was my goal. Due to this I'm slowly losing my motivation, not losing as much weight as I'd like. Any tips for regaining and maintaining motivation?"}
{"id": "t3_2wqe3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] might never find someone and might need to get arrange marraiged. Need help", "post": "I will just jump right into it. Me and my parents were talking about someone who just got arrange married ( i am indian) and they started living together. I told them i can't see myself marrying someone so fast. I would like to move in with my gf and then see where it goes. My mom reaction was pretty much lol sure i don't see you getting a gf, so i am pretty sure you will get arranged marriage.\n\nThat right there was an epiphany moment for me. You are probably thinking, dude you are 20 chill out. But my mom has a point. I am joining air  force as soon as i graduate from my engineering program. I live in canada and so most of the air bases wayyyyy up north. There is legit a possibility i will get arranged marriage as i might never meet someone. That just sounds fucking embarrassing\n\nI have never had a serious gf. Just a couple of random hookups. Didnt even think about having a gf before in my life until today. I have no problem talking to girls. I love talking, I was prom king if that means anything. Anyways from Monday i have decided to actively look for or just try to talk to new people. Some of the resolutions i came up with\n\n1) continue the gym grind. \n2) stop being lazy and dress better. \n\nAnyways reddit i need your help in finding ways to meet new people. I  commute to university from my home so i don't have a time for a lot of stuff. I was  thinking of joining some interesting clubs or something. Any advice for me??", "summary": "need help meeting ppl. As i don't want to be arranged    marriaged or be lonely"}
{"id": "t3_4k4o8s", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Denied rental application due to being a graduate student engaged to a medical student what are my options?", "post": "Hello,\n\nFirst time poster here. Here are the basic parts of what I'm trying to figure out. My fiance and I live in an apartment now for about 450/month and we just got rejected from an apartment in another town for about 100 more per month. We both have savings and great credit and live now on student loans and contribute equally to rent and other expenses. Our current landlord even offered to write us a letter of recommendation as we have never missed a payment.\nThe apartment in question didn't even seem to understand what we were talking about when we told her about our allotment for the year being about 2x how much they were even charging for rent. We can be allotted about 600 each for housing and we would only need less than 300. \nBetween the two of us we could pay rent just off of savings for the next year and a half, but now they won't talk to us. \n\nI know what they are doing isn't illegal (at least I don't think it is,) but is there a way that I can show them our student loan packages as income so that they will understand that we can very much so afford the place? We are both very interested in the location because it was so cheap and we are careful of our finances, and the next option next to that apartment is about 690/month which we don't really want to pay if we don't have to.\n\nHonestly if I were a landlord I would almost prefer student loans from a med student and grad student because it's basically a guarantee of having rent money with little to no volatility. I guess I'm just confused about why the landlord would not accept us or even understand the concept of loan package housing.", "summary": "We are students that can afford to move into a cheap apartment, but are being denied because they do not consider student loans to be income. Is there a way to present student loans as income or possibly go another route to bypass this?"}
{"id": "t3_sa3n0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "US consumer law question: is my British arse getting screwed?", "post": "So I live in the UK and purchased a product from a US company. It arrived and is faulty, so I asked for them to replace the product. They send me an RMA and said that I am responsible for the cost of returning the product to them.\n\nWhat I need to know is, under US consumer law, should the seller be meeting my cost of returning the faulty item? - after all, I am only having to pay this postage cost because they screwed up.\n\nIn the UK, they would be responsible for (a) the cost of me sending the faulty item back to them and (b) sending me a replacement. I am, however, aware that consumer law is a little pro-the little guy in Europe compared to the US.", "summary": "Should a US seller pay for the cost of me sending a faulty product back to them or do I need to pay even though its their screw up?"}
{"id": "t3_3r2h6k", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Type 1 diabetic partner (M,30), I am F, 26, 5'1\" 130, white, 1 year, southern california (Los angeles/my vagina?), no medical conditions other than his T1 Diabetes, no medications, no photos necessary. LIBIDO QUESTION.", "post": "Was told to post this here instead of /r/relationships...\n\nThe non sexual part of our relationship is beautiful, based on trust and communication and understanding. But we've only been together for Almost 2 years, and we only have sex Maybe once a month. I want to have sex all the time, and in the beginning of our relationship we would, especially in the morning, which I loved, but somehow down the line it stopped.\n\nWe do not talk about sex, at all. I know, we should. And as I'm typing this, I realise this is a huge disconnect in our relationship. So #1, talk about sex. It was his birthday tonight and I asked him if he had any birthday wishes and he said he was tired and wanted to go to sleep...\n\nWe did have incredible sex the other day while both of us were stoned..\n\nHe has type 1 diabetes. I think my main question when I started writing this post was : does anyone who has Type 1 Diabetes experience a decrease in libido, and does anyone have a partner with type 1 diabetes who experiences this disconnect in sexual energy..", "summary": "My T1 diabetic partner has low libido and I don't."}
{"id": "t3_2ohqx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29/m] recently started dating a girl [25] who calls me way too often", "post": "Hey there. I'll keep this brief because it's not super important, but I'd nonetheless like some feedback. I've [29/m] been dating a great girl [25] for about 6 weeks and we've been exclusive for the past couple. Since we agreed to be exclusive, she's called me a couple times daily just to talk. These conversations often last for an hour or two. It's worth noting that she isn't being clingy. For example, she doesn't bombard me with texts throughout the day. She just likes me and enjoys talking to me. I can't blame her. I'm awesome.\n\nThe problem, however, is that I'm not a phone person. Never have been. Never will be. Jennifer Lawrence could call me right now and I wouldn't want to talk with her for more than a few minutes. Is it rude if I explain this to the girl I'm dating? My concern is that she'll take this the wrong way (i.e., think I'm disinterested). I really like her; I just don't need to talk to her (or anyone) for an hour every day. That takes away from time that I could be eating pizza or sleeping. I'm all about honesty and open communication so am I risking a good thing by simply saying, \"Hey, I think you're great, but I hate Alexander Graham Bell and would appreciate if we could shorten our phone conversations?\"", "summary": "How do I tell a girl I'd rather watch M. Night Shyamalan movies than talk on the phone?"}
{"id": "t3_xj5cp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm writing a letter to my girlfriend's father to win his acceptance. What can I say?", "post": "I met the girl 3 years ago - her and I have been inseparable since. We are now both 20.\n\nLike any relationship too good to be true though, there was one huge issue - disapproval from her parents. \n\nI am asian; they are italian and deeply catholic. That almost explains the whole story! She's not old enough to move out, and instead stays at home with parents that did not let her step outside the house through the whole summer. Recently, things worsened to the point where her parents called me, threatening to kick her out if I continued to see her.\n\nNow, her and I are together in secret. I realize it can't be this way forever, so I figured writing a letter would be the best way to clear things up! Reddit, how do I go about this without infuriating them even more?", "summary": "I love a girl I can't be with until I win over her parents who despise me. What can be done?"}
{"id": "t3_1mijgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my GF [21F] of 2 years, just broke up with her but she won't let go and it's killing me", "post": "Best friends before we got together and we have been together for 2 years.  She used to like to flirt but never did anything about it, at one point a year ago she got too flirty and i almost called it quits then but she stopped and we hadn't had that problem since\n\nWhat has happened though is she got very clingy we had to see eachother every week while in school and almost every day on summer break.  I became her problem solverer her rock, which seems fine, but its more like a parent role than an equal in the relationship.  I know I did this to myself, i allowed it to get this far but its hard to say no to someone you care about.\n\nTwo nights ago i called it quits. I said i will always be here for you even if you hate me but we just can't be in this relationship anymore.  We need to grow as people in ways that won't happen together(this was a first serious relationship for both of us).  \n\nEver since then she's been sending me things about how people who love eachother work through their problems together and this isn't right she doesnt understand.  Every text kills me and makes me regret this decision.  I hate how this hurts and i hate that im making her hurt, it would be so easy to just jump back into the relationship but i dont know if its right", "summary": "Together for 2 years with my best friend turned girlfriend, broke it off because we need to grow as people.  She doesnt want to end it, i dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_42pbdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (15M) pursue a relationship with a girl (17) who lives 40 minutes away?", "post": "So it's kinda all in the title, but i'll give some more specification on the situation.\n\nSo basically I met this girl skiing a month or so ago, and we spent a lot of time together there as friends.  She's very attractive, funny, and sweet.  But she lives 40 minutes from me.\n\nI have interest in a few other girls in my immediate area, but i'm near positive they don't want to pursue anything with me in the near future.\n\nNow lets talk about the relationship that i have with this other girl.  We both have admitted we like each other, and call each other babe and the classic couple teasing names (doofus, goofball, jerk, etc.).  We've even casually used love before.  We've both kinda said that we want to be with each other, but I'm not sure how well that will work.\n\nIf it adds anything, I don't get my drivers license until September at the earliest.", "summary": "Girl i met a while ago skiing, we both like each other, but she lives 40 minutes away and right now i can't drive to her until the fall, i have some interest in other girls in my area, but they don't seem to feel the same.  Do I pursue my almost guaranteed relationship with her in due time, or do I try to find someone else now?"}
{"id": "t3_2q1lq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39F] with my ex [38M] 13 years, What is my problem?!", "post": "I am not sure what my problem is here. Where to start? haha! Here are the basics. \n\nAbout a month ago, (the same time that I was dating the guy that gave me the fade out a couple of weeks ago) I was contacted by my ex of 13 years. He wanted to meet and catch up. Two years ago we met and discussed possibly giving it another go. The night we went out ended kind of badly. We haven't really talked since. So, I agreed to meet him last weekend. A lot of feelings were discussed. It looks like we are going to try dating again. \n\nWhat is the issue you ask...\n\nI cannot stop thinking about the guy I just separated ways with. I am getting the things I want in dating a man with the ex, and all I can do is to keep wishing it is the guy that didn't want me. The guy that never bothered to get to know me beyond what you see on the surface. The guy that made me feel like a warm body and wet hole to him. What the hell is my problem here?! Why can't I let him go and focus on what could be here instead?\n\nI have always loved my ex and wanted him to be \"the one\" for so much of my life. I was sad for years that we never could make it work. And finally, it looks like we are both in a place where we want the same things and it could actually work out. Yet, I am wishing he was some jackass. I don't want to ruin the opportunity to see what can happen this time. If the other guy stays on my mind, there is a good chance this will end badly.\n\nAll I can hear in my head is me screaming \"Seriously, what is your issue?\"", "summary": "Trying to date after a long break up"}
{"id": "t3_4imtm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I [19 M] do about this girl [19 F] I've been stuck on for 2 months?", "post": "So I [19 M] met this girl [19 F] at the beginning of my freshman year of college. About four months ago she and I started seeing each other romantically. It was only a 2 month affair and quite frankly she and I clicked so well. I had friends saying they had never seen people connect as well as she and I did. It has been 2 months since she and I stopped seeing each other and I still think about her constantly. It took me about 2 weeks to move on from and ex of just over a year yet with her I am still hung up from just two months. I don't know how to get her out of my head, I have been talking to more people, doing new exciting things and all I can think about is her and wishing she was there.... She has even stated she never felt such a connection but she ended it because she only felt the connection with me present but never put much thought into me when I was not with her. How do I move on from this? What do you guys do to move on from significant others? Am I fool for not sitting it out and trying to make it work? \n\nAs a side note she is in a very stressful place in life, her father was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and was given 2 years to live. That was never an awkward subject for her and I, she used to ask me about how to handle it all the time and come to me for support. I don't think how I handled the situation caused any issues but I know that may have played a factor in things. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I am stuck on a girl way longer than normal, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3o66sd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking with the wrong head...", "post": "This happened yesterday... My fianc\u00e9's cousin was getting married about 300 miles away so they got a hotel bloc. My fianc\u00e9 and I were staying in one room, her twin sister in another and her older sister in still another. Any ways the everything ended early. So I was back at the hotel drunk. My fianc\u00e9, her twin sister and her older sister walk into my room and up to my bed and all 3 are wearing smiles. I do consider all three very attractive and in my drunken mind this was shit right out of playboy magazine! They obviously wanted me. I opened my dumbass mouth and a pile of stupid came out... \"Three hotties walking to my bed, this is straight out of a men's magazine!\" My fianc\u00e9 looked horrified, her sisters looked very embarresed and an awkward silence filled the room. My fianc\u00e9 announced that they wanted to me to escort them bar hopping. Things were very awkward on the car ride home.", "summary": "my fianc\u00e9 and her two sister's walked up to me while I was in bed, drunk and horny and my penis chose the words I spoke to them."}
{"id": "t3_1mpxj8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "questions about my last long run before frist half-marathon?", "post": "My first half marathon is Sept 28th.  So far in my training I've hit 15k twice in the last 5 weeks and one 19k run two weeks ago.  I run three times a week usually a 6k, a 10k and long run.  \n\nMy last run was on Sunday where I did a two-a-day due to time constraints.  It was a 12k run in the morning split between an easy 6k and the last 6k at race pace.  In the evening I ran 7.5k at race pace.  \n\nI'm also scheduled to run a 5k trail race on Sunday but I will be running with my 8 year old daughter so it's going to be a very easy pace for me and probably a good way to start my taper.\n\nSo I know I have to get a couple for runs in before I start to taper on Sunday.  Should does runnit think I should do my long run today (and try out some new shoes I got a couple weeks ago that haven't been pushed past 7k yet that I'm contemplating wearing at my race) or wait until Saturday?", "summary": "race is in 10 days, should my last long run be tonight or Satruday?"}
{"id": "t3_14cval", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Jealous/insecure girlfriend (27f) keeps getting hurt, bringing up sore subjects. I'm crazy about her, but this is killing us. What can I (30m) say/do?", "post": "**Background**\n\nI'm a 30/m, in the most serious relationship of my life, nearly two years in. She, 27/f, is intelligent and sensitive and caring, and I really feel what we have is special.\n\nBut we're having a jealousy problem. I love the fact that she's sensitive... but her insecurity and jealousy are extreme.\n\nI'm still friends with some women I've dated in the past, and I work with women who act overtly flirtatious toward me. And this is where the rift begins.\n\nEven though I know these things are harmless, even though I know I have never and would never cheat on her - and even though I've told her this - it deeply bothers her.\n\nI have:\n\n* told her I love her, I only want her, she has nothing to worry about...\n* effectively cut off contact with exes\n* avoided flirtatious women\n* stopped mentioning things I've done with other women (platonic)\n* prevented myself from looking at women in her presence\n\nStill, it comes up often. Who knows what prompts it. These episodes almost always end with the following:\n\n* I ask her \"what's wrong\" until she tells me\n* She asks me about my past: what I did, whether that's all that happened....\n* I tell her about it (which upsets her)\n* I get emotional, tell her how much I love her....\n* Three hours later, we're back on the mend.\n\nI've never cheated on her, and won't; I love her and I've made that clear through actions and words. I'm so sad this is happening.\n\n**Question:**\n\n*There's got to be something I can do.. or something I need to stop doing.* I need a practical answer to the question, How can I make her feel secure?", "summary": "I've run out of ideas of what I can say/do to assuage my girlfriend's jealousy and insecurity. I feel like I'm always doing/saying the right thing, and I've never cheated on her, but the topic keeps coming up. It's eroding our relationship. What can/should I do/say?"}
{"id": "t3_syr85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today is my real-life cake day and I was blown away by what a friend did for me, what is your best (or worst) birthday experience?", "post": "I got woken with breakfast in bed (and it was my favourite breakfast), then taken out for coffee in a hidden away secret cafe in my favourite part of Sydney, escorted around the contemporary art Museum, taken for fish and chips on the harbour, cider in a secluded park on the waterfront, whisked onto a ferry to Manly, on the north shore of Sydney for Ben and Jerrys (I love the stuff and there are only two stores in Sydney) and then taken to a German restaurant to practice my German while eating amazing food. When I got home, the friend had spent weeks aging parchment and covering a box with old maps and quotes in French and German that each related to a conversation we had had in the past few weeks, and filled the box with books, stories and inspiration about all the places we have talked about traveling together.\n\nI've had some trouble in the past few years in seeing myself as worthwhile, or special, so it was just so incredible, and each of the things was kept a complete surprise until the last minute - so now, here I am on my birthday feeling like I am made of awesome, and I want to know - what was the best birthday you ever had?", "summary": "Surprise after surprise of things I have wanted to do for ages and then most thoughtful gift ever meant I had an amazing birthday - what's your best?"}
{"id": "t3_2co8uy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M/18/virgin] get over the fact that I probably won't be dating a virgin for my first relationship?", "post": "Hi!\n\nI know this question has been generally asked too many times, but please hear me out because what I read didn't really... hit what was my problem with it. Let's begin.\n\nSo, I am quite sure I won't be having a virgin for my first girlfriend, should I find one, and that hugely bothers me. Why? I won't ever get a perfect love story this way. She'll have experience where I have none. Wherever I touch her, others will have been there before. I'm not the first one she gives her heart to... after all, if other people managed, too, getting her to love you can't be that much of an achievement, can it?\n\nWe won't lose our first time together. That defining, uber-special moment of her life, I can't be there when it happens. The romantic and dramatic climax of the relationship just won't happen. If both of us have no experience, I'm sure everything will work out fine. If she has more experience, though, it'll make everything awkward and make me inadequate. \n\nLike, if she's had a partner before with, say, an 8 inch spiked destroyer dick, how am I supposed to measure up in bed? I am average-sized so I can't \"fill her up completely\" and all that stuff. She won't see my crotch and be \"AMAZED AT ITS SIZE!! OMG IT'S SO BIG!\" or anything, especially if she's seen some of it beforehand. \n\nOne thing I want to clarify: She is not to blame. I can't really blame anyone except me. Though now, how do I get my perfect love story with the perfect first time and everything if she has experienced it all already? There'll be no butterflies in the stomach, no tension, no... real LOVE. Just imperfect things, incomplete things. I hate imperfect, incomplete things. Urgh. \n\nCan you give me any advice how to get over those thoughts? I think I need to get some sense beaten into me because my brain kinda spews bullcrap that seems so easy to believe.", "summary": "I think the fact that I might not find a girl to date who's still a virgin or hasn't been in a relationship, or even fall in love with one, will deprive me of the possibility to get the perfect and flawless love story I want. I feel I won't get the instant key to an always happy life."}
{"id": "t3_ixuvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR, I'm not sure if I should give up on us.", "post": "I'm 18, my boyfriend is 20. We've been together for over a year. We're in a ldr, and don't see each other for long periods of time. \n\nI'm not perfect. I have some major insecurities, which has caused me to become overly sensitive to almost everything that's said.\nOn the other hand, he has a really distant personality, which can make anyone feel unwanted, and unwelcome. He can be such an amazing, loving person when the time calls for it.\n\nLately, we've been fighting a lot, and it's come to the point where we've \"broken\" up. This has happened a few times before, and I know it seems unhealthy, but the distance can really tear us up at times, and leave us feeling drained. When we fight, it's never about anything important. It's getting frustrated, and going back and forth over who is right, and who is wrong.\nOur last fight has probably been the worst. I'm pretty sure I got upset over him being distant, and it blew way out of proportion. We slew insults at each other, until he called it quits. I was angry, but I let him have his space for awhile. \nNow he's made it clear he doesn't love me, and doesn't want to be with me any longer. His responses to everything I say are short, and seem careless, yet he still seems to start conversation with me. He's been talking about hooking up with other girls.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I fight a lot, he broke up with me, talks about hooking up with other girls, but still tries to make conversation with me. This has happened before, but this time feels more serious as he said he doesn't love me."}
{"id": "t3_1ovpbg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm {23/F} living with my bf {23, M} and we've stopped having sex. Why?! Someone PLEASE HELP.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for 2.5 years. We were great friends before we started dating and met at University. \n\nI believe us to be soul mates, or at least kindred spirits of some kind. We have a great deal in common, we love each other dearly, and do practically everything together.\n\nNeedless to say that in the last month, or two, we've stopped having sex completely. Something is broken and I don't know how to fix it. We tried spicing up our sex life (rented a motel room and role played which was a lot of fun -- but then we went right back to not having sex), we've openly talked about our evolving tastes for certain dress styles or behaviors, and I've recently reduced my antidepressant medication to feel more horny.\n\nYet, nothing is working. I feel like sex is a chore and not as fun as it used to be. My bf wants it all the time and he tries to do everything to impress me -- but I don't find our sex to be that much fun anymore. It used to be the greatest thing ever and now I find it boring. He says that we're more like best friends than lovers. I feel terrible when he says these things -- I feel guilty, like something is wrong with me. Yet I also feel like we're breaking apart and I can't do anything to make it right. I love him more than anything and he loves me more than anything.  \n\nMaybe I'm not physically attracted to him anymore? I mean, I preferred that he lose a bit of weight and workout, and even buy some new clothes to spruce up his appearance. But I still find him cute and even sexy when he's naked. \n\nSo why is this happening and how can I get back into a regular sexual cycle with him??? I do want to have sex with him, but right now I feel like I'm forcing it sometimes. Is it him? Is it me? Are we doomed to break up?", "summary": "My bf and I are not having sex anymore and we've tried EVERYTHING to get back into the swing of having sex regularly. I can't figure out why I don't feel compelled to have sex with him."}
{"id": "t3_2hw2dz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] just want to talk to her [17F ]", "post": "We had been dating for just about a year, and last week she ended it. We are in different states for school and have been doing long distance for the past few months, and under the circumstances, I think we were doing well. She called me and told me to cancel the trip we had planned so I could finally see her and said she needed time to find herself and that, in the long run, there were things we would never agree on. \n\nI miss her so much. We used to hangout every day before we left for school and even then we were texting and talking constantly. I'm in a new state where I don't know anyone and my transcript got fucked up so I can't go to school until next fall so I've been working. Everybody at my work is older than me or has polar opposite interests than me so I just sit at home alone when I don't work. \n\nI was so close with her and now we don't talk at all. She even blocked me on instagram and deleted all of our pictures. I told her things I've never told anybody before. She was my best friend and now she's gone and I'm alone. \n\nI want to talk to her and tell her my feelings, but I want to respect her space as well. I don't want to become just another crazy ex of hers. With the one phone call, all communication stopped and I feel like if it's that easy for her to kick me out of her life, than what was our relationship to her? We were both so into each other and serious about a long term future that I can't help but feel that there's some other contributing factor for her to just leave. What should I do? How do I deal with this?", "summary": "Girlfriend left me unexpectedly and now I'm alone. How can I talk to her without being pushy or needy? Or do I just let it go? "}
{"id": "t3_v4frg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/M] May lose an amazing girl (20/F) due to rumors, need advice on how to handle this.", "post": "I have been seeing a girl, \"Riona\", off and on (and I don't mean frivolous, weekly breakups) for about 2 years now. We both have jealousy problems, yet we always make up and get back together. Lately, things have been really awesome, and I have been contemplating moving on to the next level with her. Then five days ago happened.\n\n You see, Riona is friends with all of my coworkers. Apparently a few of my coworkers told Riona that I had been hooking up with another girl, ehh lets say \"Mila\", because we had been at a party a few times together and would occasionally hang out after work. This partying and hanging out happened while Riona and I were on a \"break.\" I know, stupid move, but I wasn't really thinking. On one of these drunken nights Mila tried to kiss me, yet I brushed it off and thought nothing of it. Well, Mila decided to tell everybody at work that we had made out. Riona caught wind of this and now completely distrusts me, and I fear I may lose her over some rumors. I did not hook up with anybody, so I did not apologize for that, but I did apologize for hanging out with Mila and talking to her when I really had no business doing that while on a break. This didn't really seem to make her feel any better, and she is still convinced that I cheated on her. Please, reddit, what can I do? I do not want to lose this girl. We spent two wonderful years together and I can't stand for it to end like this.", "summary": "coworker lied about her and I making out, love of my life heard about it, distrusts me and I might lose her now. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i5zk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/f] am afraid that going to a particular college with my boyfriend [18/m] will cause us to resent each other in the future.", "post": "Before I start, I want to say that I dont need advice on how rarely highschool relationships work out, people change, etc. I get that, and I've already decided I'm willing to risk it. Also, this question seems to be really hypothetical, but the reason I'm wondering is because some of the colleges we're applying to have binding early decision, and so what we decide now will have an impact in the future.\n\nMy boyfriend and I are planning to apply to various colleges together, and go to whichever one we both get into. There is no way to say this modestly, but both of us are very good students (top 10/800+ students, SATs above 2300, 5's on AP, etc). That being said, we will be applying to a bunch of top or middle-top tier schools, and I am confident that we can get into at least a third of them. However, I'm scared that one of us will get into one of the reallyyy good schools we're applying to, for example Yale, but the other wont.\n\nHowever, we are also both applying to Johns Hopkins, and i'm pretty sure we can both get into it. So, if this should be the case (one of us gets into Yale but both of us gets into JH), do you think the one with the better acceptance should give it up and go to JH?\n\nThis wouldn't be a HUGE drop, like from Harvard to a community college, but the two schools are definitely not on the same level. I already asked my bf about this, and he says he's prepared to give up the good college, but I'm afraid that he will come to resent it in the future - I know I would, at least sometimes when I look back on these years, because Yale has been my dream college since middle school. \n\nThis is a very specific example, but I just thought naming exact schools would make the issues easier to follow - The problem is the same with other schools we're applying to too.", "summary": "If either my bf or I get into a top college (ex. yale), should we give it up to join the other in a middle-tier college, or will it cause bad feelings in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_1yva0i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By wishing this girl I really like \"Happy Valentines Day!\" on her Facebook wall", "post": "First TIFU long time lurker here, so I'm hoping this one doesn't get to anyone, hope I'm doing this right. I know it's a little late too...\n\nBit of a background story, me and this girl have hung out casually, we've been friends for a couple of years and it almost seamed like she was into me for a while there. anyways for the last few months I just haven't been able to get her off my mind, oh I forgot to mention I've been single about 2 years now, and she's literally the only girl I hang out with in the city I live in...might have just a little bit to do with it. \nSo what's surprising in this story is I actually did end up coming up with a Valentine's gift for her but never gave it to her, though I for some reason thought it would be smarter to post my feeling's to her on her Facebook wall, low and behold she defriends me. A couple day's later I run into her and a couple of her friends at the mall we both usually hang out at, she seams a little stand offish, and awkwardness ensues. Her, her friends and I latter walk into this card store at the mall where I try to sew things up a bit by at least apologizing for my error in judgement. I know there's still that awkward vibe though still between us, and she won't text me anymore, and I know now I have to fix things somehow. and I'm basically hoping that she maybe reads this cause really I just want her back as a friend even.", "summary": "Told a girl I like \"Happy Valentines Day\" She took it badly."}
{"id": "t3_1td7mc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need your advice for whether or not i should go for the homerun.", "post": "Thish girl and i was chatting (on facebook) and we got to the subject of fetishes. We told eachother what ours were and it was with a generally dirty tone.\n\nThen she told me to make a list of girls that are mutual friends of ours, and that i you sleep with and who i would want a relationship with. I made her a list of seven girls (including her) and said that relationship were the same people. \n\nShe then made her list of seven, in which i was in aswell.\n\nShould i go for this? waht is my next move?\n\nAlso, my friend tried his luck with her recently (while he was drunk) but she has said that she wasnt interested in him.", "summary": "this girl and i have both said that we want to sleep with eachother in a list, go or no go?"}
{"id": "t3_42ql9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my (bestfriend) roomate [22 M] cheating/lying on his girlfriend", "post": "My roommate and his gf have been dating for 5 years.  They have been actively cheating on each other for the last 2 years (4-5 different people each).  They tell each other when they do it, even though it upsets my roommate every time he hears about it.  Just this last year she has moved to a new college for Med School.  Since she has been gone my roommate has begun talking to one of our group friends in a flirty way.  They did everything together, including the extent that he would bring her star-bucks to her class when it was over.  \n\nThis girl is over at our house all the time, whether to hang out with him, or just hanging out with all of us since she is a good friend to us all.  \n\nMy roommate 1) won't break up with his current gf because he likes to have a fallback person that he knows everything about and is comfortable being around her family etc. 2) won't openly admit to acting romantically towards her even though it is obvious, and the girl openly talking to me in private about what he says/does for her.  The girl is torn apart because she knows they can't date because my roommate won't break up with his gf.  She doesn't know what to do because she is such good friends with all of us, and doesn't want to sacrifice our friendship because of this situation.\n\nI have approached my roommate about the situation, and to avoid conflict he brushes is off like its no big deal, and won't even consider the possibility of dumping his current gf.  I'm afraid that my relationship with my best friend/roommate will be tainted because our morals don't match up, and I absolutely do not want that to happen.", "summary": "bestfriend/roommate won't break up with gf.  New girl is causing distrust between us, and causing girl(good friend) to be upset."}
{"id": "t3_ozkrn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "need advice - parents are afraid to ask for a favor from my husband", "post": "Hi reddit, \ni made this throwaway to tell OP the other day how lucky his wife was that he let her keep the adopted cat she rescued, and did it with love\nAs i had mentioned, my husband sent my cats who we rescued as kittens from my parents yard, back to my parents. The already had three rescue cats and to ahve my two added made 5 - a LOT for two retirees. My sister and her boyfriend have agreed to take one of mine, who i LOVE but who is a little naughty ;), which i so very much appreciate i can't explain it. the other of mine has to be the most well behaved, sweet cat i have ever met. She is small and likes to cuddle, she doesn't eat much, doesn't make any trouble.\n\nMy parents are going away for 2 weeks and really need us to temporarily take her back. I have exhausted the argument and shown just how torn up i am every day missing my pets to my husband, but he won't budge.\nMy dad, (who drives all over NY and LI taking care of anything we need, buying us groceries bc manhattan is expensive, we still owe him THOUSANDS of dollars for our wedding and he is just a retired teacher, he does not have money) is afraid to talk to my husband about it because he \"would be too hurt, embarrassed and upset\" if my husband says no, as my mom put it.\n\ni feel terrible, and teary, and i want to help my parents and have my sweet kitty, at least one of them, back in my house. it's temporary even!\n\ni thought maybe you'd have some extra ideas for me.  I know many people will say \"just be like look, we're doing this for my parents, end of story\" but i'm afraid that wont work.\n\nno, he's not allergic, we have no other pets etc.", "summary": "i love my husband but his stubborn attitude toward refusing to take our cat back from my parents for 2 wks while they're on vacation is tearing my family apart"}
{"id": "t3_19alz6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fellow college students and recent grads, what is your biggest fear after graduating from college? Recent grads, do you have any words of advice or regrets?", "post": "I am a second semester junior at a state school. I have above average grades but in todays economy, a bachelors degree doesn't seem like its going to get me anywhere. I study economics because I am good at it and it is interesting to me. I am also a pre-med student for the same reason. My plan after college is to go to medical school, and if that doesn't work, I still have a degree in economics. I could possibly go to graduate school. I know the two fields seem like they do not relate but one day I would like to open a clinic of my own, and a collegiate-level of understanding the economy seems ideal. No matter which way things play out, graduate work seems like a must.What are your plans after college? And if you have graduated, how have you plans unfolded?", "summary": "In school for economics and pre-med. Graduate work seems necessary for an above average salary these days. What are your plans? and/or How did they unfold if you have graduated?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhpdc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with ex gf 22F of 4 months", "post": "Alright so my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. I was more into her than she was into me. Throughout the relationship she would constantly lie to me about little things this kinda got on my nerves but she is a really cool person and I had fun around her. So she ended things and I need some time apart and waited a little over two months before contacting her again. I thought maybe we could be friends. She continues to lie to about little things and I have come to the realization that I have some resentment problems and no longer wish to stay in contact with her. How should I go about breaking all contact? We have only been in touch for about 2 weeks. Should I do not contact and ignore her or should I say I can't handle staying in contact with you I'm sorry for contacting you again?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_r30g9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best laptop in the $1000-$1200 range for software dev?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nMy Toshiba laptop has served me faithfully for about 4 years now, but it is time to move on to something better. For my 21st birthday, my parents have agreed to help me buy a laptop, I will probably be looking at around $1000-$1200 total between their contributions and what I can chip in.\n\nI will mainly be using this laptop for schoolwork and software development, I am a CS major so will be coding a decent bit on this laptop, I also do some contract .NET programming to give you an idea of my typical use. I don't really do that much gaming anymore, not as interested in that. I would much rather have a machine that is a bit lighter and easier to take to class without having to fight for a power plug in the classroom.\n\nI have really been digging the Asus ZenBook series, but that is a bit north of my target price range. What would you all recommend? I haven't really been following laptop manufacturers or hardware, I am not sure what is hot on the market right now. Thanks for taking the time to read this and contribute opinions.", "summary": "Want good laptop in $1000-$1200 range, preferably something lighter."}
{"id": "t3_4wq36m", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Vent] \"You should have just eloped!\"", "post": "To preface, my parents are paying for the large majority of our wedding and have been pretty great throughout the whole planning process.  From reading some of the stories on this sub, I  fully realize how fortunate we are.  But I need to vent :(\n\nWhen we got engaged, my parents offered to give us the cash they would have spent on a wedding for a down payment on a house if we eloped.  They got married 51 years ago and it was your standard cake-and-punch in the synagogue basement affair (not that there is anything wrong with this!)  We seriously considered their offer, but elected to have a larger wedding because we wanted as many of our friends and family there as possible.  In particular, my family is very small and spread out, and we only really see each other at funerals.  Also, I'll admit that several of our friends have had big, traditional weddings in the last few years, and frankly we wanted the whole \"big day\" experience ourselves (this might sound selfish or materialistic, but it's the truth.)\n\nI can tell my parents think that this was the \"wrong\" decision, and to their credit they have done as best they can to keep this opinion to themselves.  But whenever my mom and I are talking and I make some innocuous comment about the how much there is to do with the wedding, she can't resist throwing in some barb about how we should have eloped.  I'm not even asking for her help, just remarking about tasks I need to complete! \n\nEvery time she makes one of these comments, I'm left speechless, because what do I say?  They're offering a ton of financial and emotional support.  But it leaves me feeling stupid for making the decision we made, especially because we really COULD use that money for a down payment.  We're in a tight financial situation now, but I will be finishing my MBA in a year and we'll be moving to a less expensive city.  To clarify, I'm incredibly excited about our day and only feel this \"regret\" after my mom makes one of these comments.\n\nIf you got through all of this, thanks for reading. <3", "summary": "Mom's comments making me feel stupid for wanting a big wedding rather than eloping and using their money as a down payment."}
{"id": "t3_4qlpih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [35M] found out about SIL [39F] affair. Do I tell?", "post": "I recently had to use my wife's phone after having mine stolen. I was sending a text to my sister in law about some logistics about a family gathering. At this stage I knew she and her husband were heading for a divorce, it has been a long time coming and he wasn't coming to the event.\n\nI scrolled up through the chats between her and my wife and saw something not right. I mailed the convo to my mail address to read later. \n\nTurns out SIL has been having an affair but got dumped. I was shocked and surprised. Knowing they were talking about divorce I thought I would just shut up and let her marriage run its natural course.\n\nBut it didn't. She and BIL  made up. They are going for counseling and working stuff out. BIL even came to the family event.\n\nI had to site there with BIL knowing his wife was cheating on him. It really hurt me and I feel like such a fake. He has anger issues and can be a real asshole at times, but I can see he is trying to sort things out.\n\nI honestly don't know what to do. If they divorced it would serve no purpose in telling, but now they are sticking it out! I feel it is wrong to hide it, but by telling I will surely blow up their marriage and BIL seems legit in trying to fix things. \n\nMy wife does not know that I know. What is the right thing to do? I cannot visit and interact with SIL and her husband knowing this.", "summary": "I found out my SIL was having an affair but didn't feel it neccesary to say anything because she was going to divorce and now she is not getting divorced anymore and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_q2ykl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got a warning for backing into a parking space in my gated community condo parking lot.  I've never heard of this before.  What is the reason and is this common?", "post": "A little background:  I live in St. Pete, Florida in a gated community.  There are security guards that ride around in golf carts.\n\nToday my wife and I got home from camping, backed the car into a regular parking space to unload and then went on with our day.\n\nA few hours later I got a call from the security guard saying, \"You backed your car into a parking space.\"  What followed were about 10 seconds of awkward silence while I was trying to figure out what she was telling me.  Finally she told me I needed to turn my car around because I could get a ticket.\n\nNow, this could just be a rule that my complex has, but after a few Google searches, I don't think so.  Seems like other people in FL have had this happen to them as well, but I haven't seen an good explanation as to why.\n\nI've never even heard of this before.  What is the reason and is it prevalent throughout the U.S.?", "summary": "I got a warning for backing my car into a parking space.  What's the deal?"}
{"id": "t3_33jqzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with my (17m) dad.", "post": "Sorry for formatting on mobile. \n\nso here's the story. my dad is a jerk. all he does is micromanage and see the bad in all I do. every little thing I do he either has to correct or put down. \n\nfor example, he bought me and my twin a car back in December. it is not a financial burden to him but all he talks about is how like, we don't need it and he's gonna sell it because he doesn't think we deserve it. just for reference, I do need it being that I am a delivery boy and I can't use his or my mothers. \n\nthen there's college. all he talks about is how I need to do better and better in school so that I can get scholarships so he doesn't have to pay as much. I always tell him if I'm \"such a burden\" them pay nothing and let me handle it on my own but he always says \"no\" for some reason, I think it's just so he can tell me how much of a burden I am. \n\nI'm almost done with highschool, having a year left and don't know how longer I can take this.", "summary": "douchey dad is driving me insane."}
{"id": "t3_21gwvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Bf(21M) of a year and I(20F) are looking to move in together but I have no idea how to tell my parents.", "post": "Okay so title is pretty obvious. We've been together for about a year but we've known each other for about 3. I honestly didn't tell my parents we were dating till about a month ago just due to uncertainty of future plans between the two of us. But I digress.\n\nMy mother is incredibly\u2026  I don't know how to put it but she can be incredibly difficult to talk to. It's not an issue that I would be living with a man before marriage or it would go against her religion (she's done both way before she was married), its that I have no idea how to bring it up to them. I attempted to talk about it today but chickened out and just flustered myself terribly. \n\nDoes anyone know of an easy way I can bring this up? We've already started looking at apartments and have weighed the pros and cons between us.", "summary": "How do I talk about moving in with my boyfriend to my parents?"}
{"id": "t3_3mc587", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating poison", "post": "This happened when I was about 8, so this was not today. I visited my grandparents often, and as always, my cousins and I would tag along into the woodland about fifty yards behind the house.\n\nOne day my cousin and I (cousin is about 6) is trailing behind me. We cut back through the dead trees and roots. We were about 150 yards back by the point when I decided to be the nomadic raised child in a suburban town, and I decided I wanted food I guess. \n\nI looked around with my cousin, and keep in mind my grandma is a great gardener. She had a green thumb, but not one reaching back this far. Well, I saw what seemed to be a plant that resembled a chive or a leek. Anyways I pulled it out of the ground, and told my cousin it was an herb. It was an herb.\n\nWell I tried this \"leek\", and more specifically the bottom part. It was about one to two centimeters in diameter. To my surprise it was a little spicy. This wasn't any spice. This was oxalic acid burning into my tongue. Well I didn't know at the time.\n\nI go sit by my makeshift camp that consisted of a plank of wood on bricks and a fire place. The burning got worse, and me being the second grader I was, I screamed. Luckily my mom had just arrived to hear this. I told her what I had done. Luckily I hadn't taught my cousin this survival technique or we'd be both screaming.\n\nMy mom takes me inside and tells my dad about my little taste of the \"leek\". My uncle hears and tells my parents I had eaten a jack-in-the-pulpit. IN case you're wondering this is a plant used by Native Americans to poison and of course, kill their enemies. Enemies. Not little eight year old boys two centuries later. Well I of course was on the verge of getting my stomach pumped, but luckily I got to settle with lots of liquids until the acid was gone.", "summary": "I being the 8 year old adventure I was ate poison. I lived to tell you all my fuck-up."}
{"id": "t3_3zalrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 F] father [53 M] is cheating on my step-mother [41 F]?", "post": "Never have I thought that I'd have to post to /r/relationships for advice. My life has always been really simple, but now I'm completely confused and lost. Despite that, I'll try to make this as short as I can.\n\nMy parents got divorced when I was 2. I lived with my mother until 13 and then moved to another country (for better living conditions) to my father and step-mother. They have two boys. As everyone else my life had its ups and downs but I always managed to go on.\n\nWell, on the first day of new year my step-mother showed me some messages which proved that my father was cheating on her. I mean it wouldn't really concern me, because I'm now (financially) independent, but she asked me for my support. My father is obviously in the wrong here, so whatever my step-mother chooses to do, I'll support her as long as it's a good choice for my step-brothers. They are the only ones I'm worried about right now, because both my father and step-mothers are adult, so they can do whatever they want.\n\nAnother important thing is my step-mother said indirectly that she didn't really care about this cheating, but she's only worried that that other woman was using my father to get money.\n\nWhat do I do? I wish I didn't have to get involved, but now I don't think I can just do nothing. I don't have the experience to deal with this kind of problems... Please help me.", "summary": "My father is cheating on my step-mother. She is asking me for support in resolving the issue. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_asaof", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I was hit on by a guy...", "post": "Hey there Askreddit,\n\nI was waiting at the bus stop around 2pm last Tuesday. Typical cast of public transportation users - a few old people, a huge, bald guy, two little girls with their mom, and a college kid (yours truly). The huge, bald guy started talking to me. Seemed normal. I usually talk with whomever I'm waiting with to pass the time. The guy first asked if I was waiting for someone which I replied with a no. He told me his name was Bob and he was going to work. A few insipid conversational points later he asked if I was in college. I said yes. He then guessed my age, 18. I replied, \"wow, what gave it away?\" And he said I looked young and attractive. There was an immensely uncomfortable pause. He then asked what I liked, hobbies and such. Still in a weird state of mind, I said that I liked many things. He then asked if one of those things was him. Trying not to hurt his feelings and escape from this wretched game of flirtation I said that I didn't swing that way (who says that anymore?) Luckily my bus came right after that and I haven't seen him since.  \n\nMy question I guess is should I worry? So many concerns arose from this interaction. I've always viewed myself as attractive (an 8 maybe) and I look a lot younger than I am. But, why would a 40ish year old dude hit on me? Do I need to change my appearance? Man up and throw my sexy skinny jeans in the garbage and get a hair cut? Shit, I know I'm putting way too much thought into this, but it never happened before. That seems to be it.", "summary": "I'm a young, straight guy who was hit on by a 40ish yr old dude at a bus stop."}
{"id": "t3_1ayed8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to secure my car hood down", "post": "After a month of saving up to pay a super speeder ticket, I was finally out of debt (with *only* 6 points on my record... sigh) and had some money to spend. First thing that was on my list was an oil change and radiator hose fix for my 92 Honda Prelude. \n\nSo I arrive to the auto parts store and explain to the guy what I need. He's dumbfounded by the way that I create my sentences and so I go to show him. Pop my hood, point to where the bad hose is and all is looking good for my baby. Like all cars, the hood had to be held up by a steel rod. My car came with the rod unbolted from the engine bay and just sits in the trunk instead. My fuck up was laying it on top of the latch that secures the hood down just so that I could go in and pay for the oil and hose quickly instead of fully closing it first. You'd expect someone to remember shit like that but nope, not me.\n\nI come out of the store feeling like a million bucks because my car was going to get some loving care. Right away I pull off onto the road. About a mile down, just like a scene from GTA: San Andreas, the hood of my car peels right the fuck off and lands on the side walk. There were 2 guys walking by and they were laughing their asses off at my misfortune. \n\nOf course I do a speedy u-turn and go back to pick up what was rightfully mine. The hinges on the side were torn to hell but I still attempted to set the hood on top hoping there was some way to hold it down. And there was! The latch on the front still locked the hood down like it should have in the first place. When I get home, my mom is freaking out asking me what happened. Ashamed of the my own fuck up, I tell her that I ran into a deer. \n\nGood news is my car got its oil changed and hose fixed.", "summary": "Went to store for oil change and hose fix, forgot to properly lock down my hood, it peels off on the road."}
{"id": "t3_3qbtv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30F] family and friends [various ages M/F] do not really respect my sleep schedule? Just take it or do something about it?", "post": "I work from home, usually in the evening and late at night as I get more creative in the quietness of night. So I go to bed late at night and do not wake up before 10am, sometimes not until like 2pm. All my friends and family know that. Yet, sometimes some of them show up at my door at 9 in the morning. Even more often they ask me if they can come over in the morning. To be fair sometimes it doesn't happen for months, but sometimes it happens couple times a month. Every time they literally see me in PJs, clearly they woke me up\n\nI don't go out much and I appreciate them coming over when I don't go to their houses, I love having them at my house. But I just can't enjoy the conversation and spend the rest of the day like a zombie without having had enough sleep. And I kind of think this is disrespectful, as if I were showing up at their door after midnight. \n\nI would have no problem if they were coming over because they were locked outside, or because they had a problem they needed to talk about, I would gladly wake up then, but there is nothing like that. They also have very flexible job hours, some of them work from home like I do, so it's also not like there is no other hour available for them. They just do it to hang, or because they were around and had some free time in between errands. The couple of times I hinted at morning was not a good time to hang they got silently bitter about this, which made me feel like \"They come over when you don't, can't you just wake up??\" but on the other hand, I would personally not choose that hour if the roles switched. What should I do? I don't even know if I'm being reasonable.", "summary": "Family and some friends ask me if they can come over or show up without asking first in the morning, although they know I work at night and sleep in the morning. Should I just take this because I never go to their house and they are being nice by always being the side who comes over, or should I say/do something about the hour they choose."}
{"id": "t3_3dyg2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my girlfriend [19F] 5 years of love, She is losing her love to me, Is it the age or the distance or what?", "post": "We started our story back in 2010, actually I started the story by writing a letter to her in 2010.. my family moved to another country before I know her reaction/feelings about what I wrote.. after one year we came back home and we met, she told me that we are young for all this love-thing.. so I accepted her opinion and forgot about her.. one week later she changed her mind and she said that she loves me back We keep traveling every year for my father's work conditions, and my girl and I could only meet each other for one month every year.. of course the long distance decreases both of our feelings. For the past two years I went back home to study there so we've met a lot.. and we talked a lot. Several times she brought up the age problem as a not serious topic or a joke.. but one time she was serious about it.. she said: I know your mind is bigger than your age.. but I still see you as a child.. ( It damn hurts, because I think feelings is the only thing that matters in love). The age problem is even more serious recently because she is finishing her 1st year in college, and I will start college after 3 months.. she met the guys there and she formed some good relationships with both genders, I'm ok with that, but in this April I traveled with my family, and for the first time we start texting on What's-app, so I noticed she is not engaging that much in our conversation.. she gives short answers, she doesn't bring new topics \"when she can\" also she rarely expresses her love for me I started to think she lost her interest on me.. because I'm not really attractive, the age is a turn off to her.. and the distance is making it even worse. So I asked her one time: If we go back in time.. would you fall in love with me again?\" .. she said: \"No.. It had nothing to do with you, but the circumstances\"..... now you judge", "summary": "Is she dislike me now , how should I deal with it ?"}
{"id": "t3_18yf54", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The progress pics on this board helped me, so I want to help someone else finally. 115lbs gone!", "post": "This is what over 100 lbs lost looks like in the face: \n\nI'm still not completely comfortable taking full body shots of myself. That might be modesty getting in the way rather than shame. \n\n**Top weight: 315lbs**\n\nI'm going to school for Biomedical Engineering so this has been on and off with how serious I took eating well and/or exercising. I only broke my change in diet during Christmas time (thanks, Ma) but going to the gym was highly variable based on my workload. \n\n**But throughout it all seeing everybody on this board change their bodies and lives made me very happy and hopeful!**\n\nBackground: fat since childhood, took weight lifting in highschool so I had some knowledge--still fat though.\n\nAges 18-19\n\n* Went to college, girl broke heart because of the weight (at least she was honest?)\n* Walked to the gym almost every night and forced myself to do a lot of cardio fueled by spite.\n* Cut soda, frequent sweets, bullshit snacks (chips and the like) \n* So much water.\n\nAges 19-20\n\n* Realized I shouldn't burn myself out. Gymed 3x a week doing 20 min cardio and 40 min weight lifting.\n* Cut out red meat except for special dinners out\n\nAges 20-21\n\n* Bad at dedication, good at eating pizza\n* \"too busy\" for gym\n* luckily did not gain much\n\nNOW\n\n* Cut out cereal grains and legumes. (non strict paleo)\n* Love Paleo. Love /r/Paleo\n* Things I eat: chicken, broccoli, peppers, mushrooms, spinach, carrots, sweet potatos, fish, steak, cheese, coffee, water, scotch, salsa, avocado, and anything else green I've forgotten.\n* Cardio when I feel like a run, if I'm going to exercise I stick to the \"lift heavy things to failure\" mantra\n* Working and finishing up undergrad", "summary": "It can take a long time or a short time, you can do it with whatever combination of diet and activity, but it will happen when you make that decision to change."}
{"id": "t3_mirku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Allowed space for her ex to come back in the picture?", "post": "Me 25/m. Her 23/f\nRelationship about 3 months now. I'm usually the bare minimum when it comes to giving girls attention. I'm still young and like to see other women, never too serious. But a few months ago I meet a girl I started feeling for. When we chilled for the first time, her ex came up. I'm not interested in baggage, but wanted to keep seeing her because she was hot and I wanted to sleep with her (the thing usually most important to me). So we continue to chill and I start to fall for her. \n\nThe girl starts telling me she's glad to have met someone that's making her feel good for the first time in months, shes happy, etc  Now, at this point in time, my attitude about her kinda cools and I don't reciprocate my feelings. I mean i said, what i thought were, the right things to tell her about how i felt. She tells the ex that she's happy with someone new, which made him start sweet talking her again. \n\nI never gave it a second thought when she told me he was saying a bunch of nice shit to her again. I'm living my life, going to school, getting wrapped up in work, so the new relationship (defined: only one I'm dating) falls to the wayside a bit. I liked her a lot so it was no big deal for me, figured space was good to cool the fire of a new relationship and avoid any rushing or clingyness. But, as the weeks went by, the girl has become noticeably cooler towards me. Now, the rumors are that the ex is messing with her head. \n\nSomething I did? Her own problems?\nBit bummed because I was interested. \nI'm going to let her solve her own shit out, instead of trying to talk about it, agreed? Can't change her mind, only her mood.", "summary": "Been seeing a girl who has become cold recently because of my lack of attention, her ex has started sweet talking her again, haven't voiced my displeasure with it, don't plan too because I feel that letting her sort whatever is going on out by herself."}
{"id": "t3_1sokwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18 F] is trying to be a model, more specifically a nude model, and I [18 F] don't know how to feel about it. We've been dating about 2 years.", "post": "My girlfriend is auditioning to be model and I want to support her all the way. Thing is, is that in one way I'm proud to have a girlfriend who can be considered a model I also feel a little uneasy that there's going to be guys looking at her and lusting for her. It makes me feel insecure and protective of her. I'm going to support her all the way and go to her modeling shoots but I feel like I'm going to be uneasy the whole time. I trust her to do the right thing. It's just, do I feel protective about her or do I feel proud about it? I feel like I should be there and be happy that she's enjoying it but when I told a friend of mine told me that if it was his girlfriend he would have none of that. It got me over thinking the whole situation as a whole leaving me unsure how I should react.", "summary": "My girlfriend is trying to be a nude model and my friend is making me unsure how I should I feel."}
{"id": "t3_28exev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [21 F] cope with divided loyalties with my divorced parents [50s M&F]?", "post": "My parents divorced two years ago. Ever since then, since I still live at \"home\" during the summer and breaks, I've had too choose whom to live with. And since they have had conflicts, I've had to pick who to sympathize/have contact with and who to cut off.\n\nI won't go into too much detail here about their specific conflict, because it's really not relevant, but I can understand both sides.\n\nUp until now, I've sided with my father, mostly because he's more emotionally stable, and because he is paying for my college tuition. I love both my parents dearly, and I want to see them both, but due to the current family politics, I cannot do so without enraging my father.\n\nSo, I've been lying to Dad and going off to visit my mother before and after my summer job. I hate lying, but I cannot just abandon my relationship with my mother. So this conflict has forced me to do something against my morals and values, which bothers me a lot.\n\nWell, he found out about it when he saw my car in her driveway. (He claims he was in the neighborhood to see a friend, but I don't believe that because his friend's house is several blocks out of the way from where my mom lives..).\n\nNaturally, this lead to a huge fight between us this afternoon.\n\nI feel very divided in my loyalties. I want to have a proper relationship with my mother and my father, but this conflict is just tearing me apart inside. Very uncomfortable and difficult. I can't just leave my father and go live with Mom either, because then Dad'll just get very angry stop paying for college/disown me in general, and as awful as he can be I still want to have a good relationship with him.\n\nMy family is very Machiavellian at times, you could almost make a Game of Thrones episode out of it.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Family politics forcing me to lie to my father or abandon my mother. Very ugly, very distressing for me. What should I do? I still rely on Dad for college tuition so I can't just tell him to sod off..."}
{"id": "t3_mj2s3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to end it right?", "post": "I dont even know if the title is possible.\n\nBackground:\n\nMe and my current girlfriend have been dating for over 9 months now and its been pretty rocky. She is a good person for the most part but doesnt always treat me with sanity if you get my drift. We are both 23. \n\nI do love her and I dont want to hurt her - although I know thats not possible. We've talked about being soul mates and the \"one\" and all that Jazz and I honestly a couple of months ago believed it. Lately I have pulled away because I dont know if I want to be with her anymore.\n\nLast night me and my brother went out (he is single) so I was wing manning for him and I accidently met an great girl and had a lot of fun with her. I am a good guy so I didnt do anything with her, but I really would like to see her again. \n\nEither way it made me realize I cant be with my current girlfriend as its getting far to serious (talks of moving in) and I dont want to be with her anymore.\n\nThats the simple part. I feel crappy and guilty about it as I know she loves me a lot. I've told this woman before I want to spend the rest of my life with her and now I dont? I know I cant possibly say it in a way to make it easy but is there anyway I can say it to make it easier.\n\nI dont mind coming off as a bad guy if it will make her better or stronger willed. For example... if say I said I cheated on her, she would hate me but it wouldnt be as depressed if say I just dont love her anymore... Im not going to say that for obvious reasons - but I just dont know how I am going to see that sadness consume somebody again :(", "summary": "Want to break up with long term girlfriend the easiest way possible - still love her but dont want to be with her if that makes any sense at all."}
{"id": "t3_1k0k0u", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm lucky to be alive, but I feel like an ungrateful fuck", "post": "I have struggled with physical and mental health problems simultaneously. I'm twenty years old now, and the physical health problems are about two years behind me; the mental problems, however, still linger.  \nI had two tumors in my knee causing constant pain, which were removed (but then grew back) over the span of three surgeries. When I had the second tumor removed from my knee, the scar tissue healed over my joint, making me incapable of walking. This required an additional surgery and painful rehabilitation to allow full mobility. I also learned I have a genetic blood mutation, after a deep vein thrombosis (blood clot) formed in my arm. Needless to say, I feel lucky to be alive and have good health now. However, my depression will not disappear.  \nSince my adolescence, I have had severe depression that I simply have not been able to kick. Medications, counseling, changing cities, changing majors, changing schools, falling in love, falling out of love, substance abuse, sober living, art, physical activity, etc...I've tried it all. I will feel better for awhile, but the depression *always comes back.* I feel like ungrateful for being so dissatisfied with a life that I've fought to keep. My family has spent countless hours and huge sums of money trying to keep me alive and healthy, but I can't seem to be happy with the life I live. I feel like I don't even know who I am, after all of the phases and new things I've tried to help myself. What do I do? Am I missing the key to happiness?", "summary": "I had two tumors and a blood clot before I turned 18. I'm 20 now, physically better but still depressed. Can't seem to find inner happiness or kick this depression."}
{"id": "t3_1ak0e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] feel unsatisfied with the sex life I have with my girlfriend [18F] Does that make me an asshole?", "post": "Well I have a girlfriend of 2.5 years who I think we have a perfect relationship in almost every way. We don't fight hardly ever, we really care about eachother, and we click very well. \n\nThe only thing that I dislike about the relationship is our big difference in sex drives which in my case leads to me feeling unsatisfied. She never is in the mood for sex and everytime we be intimate it seems like a chore for her. Also I always wanted to be more adventurous in the bedroom and she has no interest in that.\n\nI have tried asking what can I do to please her or get her in the mood but she doesn't seem to enjoy anything or know of anything that I can do. When I try bringing up the topic of sex it usually ends badly because she feels like she's tried hard enough for me. I do appreciate that she does try for me but the experience is hampered knowing she doesn't enjoy it.\n\nSo basically my question is, am I being selfish for yearning for more in sex because she still tries? How bad is it that me and my girlfriend have completely different sex drives? What can I do to try to spice things up to make things enjoyable for the both of us when she doesn't really know what she wants?", "summary": "Me and girlfriend of 2.5 years have really different sex drives which sometimes causes frustration for me and wanting more."}
{"id": "t3_4rtbno", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [23/m] stop my gf [25/f] from having the same conflicts with me over and over again?", "post": "We have been together for three and a half years now, and I have gotten very good at judging whether a conflict is worth it or not. The factors are my mood, her mood, and the topic itself, of course. When she starts talking about something, I immediately know if we can have a productive discussion about it or just a childish fight over mutliple days. Don't get me wrong here - the childish fights are not just because of her conflict behaviour, but also because of mine, the only difference is that I can predict it.\nNow the problem is, she does not have that predicting ability, and she doesn't want to have because she just wants to talk about stuff when she thinks it's time for that. I have tried to stop her at many occasions, but I pretty much never succeeded, even though I explained everything I just mentioned here.\nI tried things like \"I don't think this is the right time to discuss this, can we please move it to some other time?\", \"I don't want to talk about this right now, if you can't drop it I will leave\", and \"we have completely discussed this topic multiple times, there is nothing new to add except more fighting, please leave me alone with it\".\nI don't know how to prevent us from having big unsolvable conflicts every couple of weeks, but I really want to, because the actual relationship between those times of conflict is actually great.", "summary": "My gf and I get into stupid unneccesary conflicts about all kinds of topics from time to time, I can predict them very well but I need help effectively preventing them."}
{"id": "t3_1331ev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (f 23) am wondering how to approach my SO (29/M) about the growing issues of our relationship.", "post": "my SO (lets call him John) and i have been together since February. i was kicked out of my parents house, and i ended up staying with him for a night, and then went to stay with my brother and his wife for the time being until i could find something better. during this time, his father was hospitalized and almost died. he then wen tolive with his mom, since he wasnt needed by his dad at that time (his dad needed help around the house due to health issues, and he didnt have another place to go, besides his moms) so we were in the same town for a little while, in which we then found another living arrangement with a couple friends of mine, renting a room out. we had a hard itme living htere, so when his father was better and moved home, we moved in with his dad to help out. i lived there for 3 months, and then things were going down hill from there. we broke up for about a week, and i moved back in with my parents. now we are still together, but it seems like he is very distant. i will admit i took some things for granted and i made mistakes, that i have apologized profusely over.\n\nwhen ever i try to bring up the issues in our relationship, we only end up arguing and fighting. he constantly says he needs time for himself, because he is a busy person, with just starting college, and taking care of his father, who is still disabled. (he takes his dad to his dr. appointments, the store, or anywhere he needs or wants to go). i try to get him to spend time with me, but he always says \"i need time for me, i dont ever have time for just myself.\", but then he turns around and makes plans with his brother to help him with something or other. \n\nin the beginning we were so happy, and never fought. what do i do and how do i approach him with our relationship issues, without arguing and fighting over it? i have written a \"letter\" that i want to read to him, but i dont know if it will help. (if you wish to read the letter, it will be the first comment on the thread)", "summary": "My boyfriend I have been going down hill with our relationship, and when we try to work out our issues, we just end up fighting. how do i approach this without angering or arguing with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3tz8ry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [26M] of 3 years, just sent me a cryptic text message after ignoring me all day. Don't know what to think.", "post": "Hi /r/Relationships! Frequent lurker but first time posting.\n\nI've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We're both located in the US but different states. We text everyday, so when I didn't hear from him yesterday I was extremely worried. He finally texted me today at 12:30 pm.\n\n\"Hey babes I'm sorry I was gone all day yesterday.\n There's a reason I was gone and it was something\n that scared me once I found out what happened.\n\nOnce knowing that, I was scared to tell you what\nhad happened because I knew you'd be furious at \nme for what happened.\n\nEvery time I had the courage to tell you I chickened\nout because I was afraid to lose you.\n\nI'll tell you more once I get off work [in 9 hours].''\n\nI don't know what to make of this message. First, I'm extremely annoyed he contacted me right before work, knowing he could avoid telling me what happened for a few hours. \n\nMostly I'm just extremely worried. I don't know if he's okay. I don't know if I'm okay. I'm stuck here for the next 9 hours imagining the very worst. \n\nSeriously considering ending the relationship over this. I'm very hurt about the way he's handling telling me.\n\nAlso, any suggestions to keep busy for the next 9 hours? If I sit in bed all day it's just going to eat away at me.", "summary": "Cryptic message suggesting something is very wrong. "}
{"id": "t3_39t3mk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] wondering why men say \"I'm confused\" when a woman tells them no.", "post": "I had two men, one work acquaintance and one work friend, tell me \"I'm confused\" after I said no to something. Is this common for men to do? I feel like it's a form of manipulation to try to get the woman to change her mind or do what they want. \n\nThe acquaintance said he was confused when I said I didn't want to go to dinner with him, I guess because I was texting him late at night and early in the morning, however, at no point did I say I wanted him romantically. He asked. I said no. Zero confusion. \n\nThe friend asked to hang out and I initially said yes, but then given other things that had happened, I changed my mind and said I didn't feel comfortable hanging out anymore. Instead of saying \"that's cool, let me know if you ever change your mind,\" he said he was confused and that we needed to discuss it further.\n\nis this a common thing for men to do?", "summary": "wondering if it's common for men to say they're confused when a woman says no to something."}
{"id": "t3_qxf5k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best/worst craigslist experience?", "post": "One time I responded to a want ad and traded a cheap bass guitar and amp for a Massey Furgeson tractor. But when I got to the dudes house (he lived in a trailer on the back side of his ex brother-in-law's apple orchard. still a home nonetheless) at 9am he said he would only do the trade if I went and bought him two cases of Milwaukee's Best in addition to the bass and amp. Ten minutes later I came back with the beer and he immediately cracked one. He started getting loud and amped up and asked me if I wanted one. I said no but he got in my face and was like \"whats wrong got a problem with drinking in the morning! hahah just kidding just kidding. But seriously you want one.\" I agreed and good thing I stayed on his good side. He then went and grabbed his m16, I think from inside his house. Proceeds to tell me all of his Desert Storm stories while pounding beers and cleaning his gun. Then he makes me hold it. After two hours I realize I am not going anywhere for a while and just get into it. He was a sniper in the army so he could shoot anything. It was amazing. Targets were like 500 yards away. By noon the guy is shit faced and I load up the tractor and am out by one.", "summary": "Traded a bass guitar and practice amp for a tractor to a Desert Storm vet who practically held me hostage until we were friends."}
{"id": "t3_2oinaj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] just kicked a girl [20F] I was hanging out with out of my house because she wouldn't get off her phone. Have you ever had this problem and how have you dealt with it?", "post": "This girl I've been seeing for a few weeks asked if she could come over to my house to hang out this evening and I accepted, but she ended up texting and Snapchatting her friends the whole time instead of conversing with and barely even acknowledging me.\n\nNeedless to say, after a couple of hours I told her I had to go to university to do some work (on a Saturday night at 10pm). Either she was very gullible or got the hint that I'd had enough so we both left my house and she went left to her bus stop and I headed right to mine. As soon as she was out of sight I went straight back home.\n\nThis isn't the first time I've had this problem and this time I didn't feel like sticking it out until the morning.\n\nI have no regrets because I found it undeniably rude and asked her many times about it and told her I wanted to talk to her instead of her just ignoring me.\n\nI'm just curious if this is a common problem and how other redditors have dealt with such situations!", "summary": "Girl asks me if she can come over. Won't stop texting/Snapchatting the whole time. I pretend to have to go to university, effectively getting her to leave."}
{"id": "t3_124s2y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's hear your best \"I got fired for this\" story.", "post": "I was an intern at a sportboat manufacturer for a semester last year. I was doing great and they offered me a full time position after my internship. One of the last bitch work chores I had to do before the holiday break was to make sure the CEO signed all the dealer Christmas cards. I put them all out in a room for her and sat in there while she signed all some-odd-thousand of them. She took about half a box full home with her because she wanted to write personal messages in them to owners she knew personally. She sealed them and brought them back for me and I was glad because she did part of my job for me. Turns out she forgot to sign them and when they went out unsigned it was apparently extremely unprofessional and when they needed someone to point the finger of blame at they pointed it at me for even allowing her to take them home with her and giving her a chance to do them distracted. Long story short she didn't cover for me because I was an intern and at the end of my internship my job offer suddenly \"did not have the funding by the board.\" So I went on my merry way to finish up my final semester of college.", "summary": "was an intern. CEO didn't sign Christmas cards and I mailed them out. Pinned the blame on me. I was no longer an intern"}
{"id": "t3_18zf48", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (16f) have just started talking to this guy (17) and I'm trying not to overthink things while still figuring out if he's interested", "post": "So we met last Sunday and we're planning on going longboarding this coming Sunday with a couple friends. We've been texting since then and we've exchanged probably like 250 messages back and forth. We talk a lot about longboarding but we also occasionally ask the other what they're up to and stuff like that. Any ideas on if he's interested or not?", "summary": "I've been talking to this guy my friend wants to set me up with for almost a week and want to know if he's interested in a relationship or just friendship"}
{"id": "t3_35gtfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend [25M] for 1 year, want to get opinions on the age gap.", "post": "Throwaway because he could probably find my other account way too easily.\n\nHello reddit,\nI'm 17 and my boyfriend is 25 years old. We've been having a wonderful relationship of a year and honestly I've never been happier.\n\nI know however a big age gap is considered a huge red flag and very problematic. I wanted to ask you reddit, why exactly?\n\nI mean I could think of some of the implications myself; I'm young and fairly naive and could probably be manipulated. It could mean something bad about him, like he's immature or...? Someone could say, \"What does a 17 year old have to do with a 25 year old\", but I'm not buying it. We're both basically young adults at this point and I feel like at least a close friendship/emotional connection isn't weird at this age gap even if a relationship is.\n\nBut I wanted to honestly ask what do you think. The adults here, anyone who can give me an opinion. I want criticism I can think about, I want you to speak to the reasonable side of me, and explain.\n\nA little background on myself: I'm 17, on senior year of highschool, and study towards a bachelor in computer science in university side by side with my highschool studies. (I don't live in the US so this isn't trivial) I know everyone my age says it, but I do believe I'm fairly mature, especially when I'm not having mood fits (lol...)\nI have a very reasonable and level headed mother and I value her opinion very much. When she heard of my relationship with my boyfriend she initially freaked out (we had been dating for a month before I told her) but after getting to know him and what not she came to terms with the idea and didn't forbid me from dating him.\n\nHowever I do acknowledge I'm 17 and I'd like to get some outside opinion from people who think they have something to contribute.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "in a big age gap relationship. Want to understand what exactly is wrong about age gap relationships so I can come to a conclusion myself. Not looking for comments like \"break up with him\", but rather, I'd like you to explain what exactly causes that twitch reaction when you see a girl date a much older guy."}
{"id": "t3_t2o18", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "How can I become a consistent planner and a hard-worker?", "post": "I am a huge procrastinator and a half-ass-er (is that a word?).  I procrastinate on just about anything that requires the most minuscule amount of work, and always try to find the easy way out of everything (as in, if a task requires a lot of effort, I'll either half-ass-it, take an easier, more crappier route to doing it, or just give up).  \n\nThis has obviously negatively affected my life in a bunch of ways, and frankly, I'm tired of it.  Reading or watching motivating things has temporary effects, and failing to achieve something I aimed for will cause me to panic and actually try hard for a while until I rationalize the failure in my head and find comfort in landing on an inferior plane.\n\nDo you guys know/use any methods in order to combat this problem?  Sorry if this is a repost.", "summary": "Have always been a procrastinating, half-ass-er, now sick of it, want to know methods to become a productive, hard-working individual."}
{"id": "t3_2m9kwm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Another lonely broken male virgin", "post": "I'm now 22 and graduated from college. I feel like I wasted the best years of my life. I'm average in school, average in sports, average in all of my hobbies. I have friends, travel, have a job, and I get out a lot. \n\nOn the outside it would seem I've got everything going for me. \n\nFor the last two years I thought I could turn it around. I've read every last self-help article on the internet. I've gotten inspired beyond belief. I've found mentors both in person and online. \n\nOn the inside I'm broken. \n\nI always pictured myself having a girlfriend, if not in high school for sure in college. But it never happened. I don't know why, maybe I'm just not getting lucky enough. \n\nMaybe there is something wrong with me.\n\nEven if I do meet some nice girl I think (know?) I'm going to falsely latch on to her (the pedestal) because I haven't had any other experience with women. \n\nI'm sick and tired of people telling me \"you'll meet that perfect girl someday.\" \n\nSomeday is beginning to take its toll on me.", "summary": "I have never had a girl, don't know what to do/what I've missed out on."}
{"id": "t3_13sk3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21f] bf's [23m] mother has harassed me a few times, and I don't know how to deal with it.", "post": "I've been with my bf for almost 10 months now, and it's been great.  No complaints besides typical relationship stuff.  He was raised by a single mom.  His mom has been through a lot, I'd rather not go into detail, but in any case he doesn't like talking about her.  From the information he's given me, she's possibly depressed or has an anxiety disorder.\n\nRight when we started dating, I received a facebook message from her saying that I don't deserve her son, and I need to break up with him because he doesn't need a \"girl like me\".  I've never talked or seen this woman in my life.  I ignored the message, talked to the bf about it, and he apologized saying it wouldn't happen again, and not to think about it.  About a month ago, my bf (who's on his mother's phone plan) got his phone shut off by his mother for literally no reason.  She proceeded to message me again saying that he would not get his phone plan back until I break up with him.  Again, my bf assured me that would not happen, and that he'd deal and figure it out.  And again, apologized, didn't know what to say, etc.  \n\nI'm incredibly hurt that his mom won't give me a chance.  I've never had to deal with anything like this before.  I've never responded to her, and I blocked her on facebook after that.  I understand that his mom isn't completely normal mentally, it's just still difficult for me that I probably won't ever have a relationship with his mom, the most influential person of his life.  I just would love advice from you guys about how to approach/deal with this. \n\nThis is a throwaway account because my bf is a redditor.", "summary": "bf's mom sends me messages to break up with my bf, i'm very hurt by her unwillingness to give me a chance and not sure how to deal with it"}
{"id": "t3_2xsvlq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18F) lost interest in kissing (19M) boyfriend, is this because he kissed someone else?", "post": "On NYE, my boyfriend drunkenly kissed another girl at a party we were both at.  I have forgiven him for this as it was very out of character and I believe his apology was genuine and am willing to give him a second chance. \n\nSince around the middle of february, I have noticed that I have lost interest in kissing him. I am still having sex with him and intimate in other ways, and still attracted to him, I just have no interest in kissing him, and when I do, it doesn't feel nice, it just feels 'neutral' is the best way I can describe it.\n\nI don't know if it is a normal unconscious reaction to what happened a few months ago and it will pass. I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation and if they were able to get it back, if anyone has any suggestions on how to regain this.", "summary": "boyfriend kissed another girl, forgiven him, now lost interest in kissing but fine in every other aspect of relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4mbpy4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(south carolina) multiple garnishments, can't afford to keep going like this", "post": "About six months ago I received a writ of garnishment for student loan debt (~$7000) for 15% of my disposable income. Not too bad on its own, but soon after the first writ, I received a second one from a hospital bill I was never served papers for, the garnishment being for a whopping 35% of my disposable income. The student loans are in the process of being rehabilitated and i know there's no way to get around it other than repaying. The medical bills are only for about $3000, but I cannot live on $250 every two weeks. It's definitely worth noting that I didn't contest either writ, because I didn't know how to go about doing so. What are my options here? I cannot afford to hire a lawyer and I wouldn't know how to present this to be honest.", "summary": "is there any way to reduce garnishment from medical bills or stop garnishment with agreement to repay? Do I just need to call around or is there a website that I can look for someone to contact directly?"}
{"id": "t3_2yu7b8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my biological father [?M] wants to talk for the first time ever.", "post": "My mother has been rather reckless her entire life.  She got pregnant with me at the age of 15 and gave birth one month after turning 16.  He was never involved, though through some very odd circumstances I ended up meeting his brother/mother once.  My mother dragged me through many marriages and divorces, I still have a rather twisted paradigm towards older males as a culmination of these factors.  Now his mother is dying and I think she may be the sole reason he's reaching out.  I want to try to handle this maturely, but I have a lot of deep seeded resentment at the mere idea of him.  The idea of my half siblings is intriguing, far more than the man himself.  Mostly, I'm just trying to glean experiences from other people in similar situations.  How did you approach it, how did it work out, do you still talk, did you meet sibilings?", "summary": "Biological father contacts my mother after being absent my entire life."}
{"id": "t3_11z9ft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents (both 53) forgot my (F20) birthday, should I bring it up, or?", "post": "So my 20th birthday was October 12th. My parents (who I live with), have yet to acknowledge it. I don't mean that I didn't get a cake or present or whatever, I mean they didn't/haven't even said \"Happy Birthday, oh daughter of ours!\". \n\nAnd I don't really know what to do about it. They've both been really busy lately (my dad is going through a \"career transition\" and my mom is going back to college, my grandfather has just been diagnosed with cancer, etc) and I'm sure it just slipped their mind because they both have a lot on their plate. I don't want to guilt trip them or anything\n\nBut at the same time, it was my 20th birthday. I don't really want to make a big deal about it, but it was my birthday. I would like a hug or something or acknowledgement from the people that brought me into this world that I have, in fact, been in this world for two decades now. \n\nI just don't know what to do about it? I'm fine without the cake and presents and everything, and I feel like if I bring it up they're going to go overboard celebrating it to \"make up\" for it which will be awkward and weird for everyone, and I get that once you're 20 you're a \"grown up\" and birthdays aren't supposed to be a big deal anymore, I shouldn't be looking to my parents for validation of my existence, etc. \n\nSo basically what I'm getting at here is: is it okay that I'm a bit sad that my parents forgot my 20th birthday? What should I do about it?", "summary": "my parents have yet to mention/bring up my 20th birthday (which was October 12th) and I am wondering what I should do about it? Should I just pretend that it never happened, or..."}
{"id": "t3_1qound", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What advice do you have for a socially clueless guy[19M] wanting to make himself fit for a relationship?", "post": "I have never dated due to a sheltered home schooled upbringing and I'm getting lonely. The only women outside my family that I am comfortable with I've either known for a decade or are dating family members.\n\nI'm actually very socially smart when I'm with people that I know and trust (unless I'm at home for some odd reason). I'm horrible with strangers especially female strangers. I operate almost entirely on what I know of someone as in I try to say things based on whether the other will appreciate them. I don't know anything about what a stranger will like to hear and when the stranger is a woman the gap of things I can conceive about you widens tremendously and I have no insight of what to say.\n\nI often ignore female acquaintances because my gut instinct tells me that no impression is better than a bad impression although I fear that the actual case is that no impression *is* a bad impression especially when ignoring people makes the situation awkward.\n\nI really need to learn how to make new female friends because if I can't be friends with someone how could I ever date them? Any input would be greatly appreciated. \n\nAlso if this isn't the best sub for this let me know.", "summary": "I'm having trouble connecting with women and having good conversation due to lack of understanding. I need help."}
{"id": "t3_2e591q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "hard to let go", "post": "My uncle passed away in November 2012 from cancer and losing anyone to cancer or anything that takes them away is hard but I'm having an extra hard time accepting his death and knowing that that part of my life and his, is over. \n\nMy uncle was a very funny, intelligent man who I always got along with but within the last three years of his life, we had a disagreement that we worked out but I just felt that it wasn't the same between us after, even though my Mom (his sister) helped to work out with him and I. My mom is the only person left from her family as her brother and parents have all passed on. Shortly after my Uncle passed away, I moved three hours away for a new job. I also list my dog of fourteen years one night when she became very sick and had to be put to sleep quickly so she wouldn't be in pain. When I moved away, I moved away from my parents who have become my best friends in my adult life and I also moved away from my boyfriend of then a year and a half, so we are now doing a long distance relationship. I am having a hard time accepting the deaths of my loved ones and I'm very much missing my parents and my boyfriend. I get to see my parents every couple of weeks and my boyfriend too but I am really missing them all tonight. I'm going to find a psychologist to talk to because I feel as though it is super hard to transition anyway and especially when there is a lot of loss to deal with as well.", "summary": "i miss my Uncle and I can't seem to let him go. I also miss my parents and my boyfriend. Very much."}
{"id": "t3_vbylp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I hate my spouse.", "post": "I've (32) been married for almost 6 years, and for the last year or so my spouse (30) and I have grown apart significantly. It's mostly me that has been distant. I just can not tolerate him anymore. Everything he does bothers me. The things he says, his attitude, the way he chooses to live his life, the way he looks, everything. I've tried so hard to see the positive things in him, and there are positive things... he's a hard-worker and a good father, but even when I focus on the positive, I just can't be in the same room with him without wanting to run for my life, as quickly and as far away as possible. I'm a different person than who I was when I married him and we're not compatible anymore and I'm miserable with him. I'd like to save my marriage, but the love just isn't there anymore. What can I do? Has this happened to anyone else?", "summary": "I think I hate my spouse. Is the marriage salvageable? What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_fpu2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confusing Relationship", "post": "Yes this is a throwaway, sorry for that.\n\nSo here's the scoop.  I have been friends with this girl in college for about a year now.  I am 22, she is 20.  We hang out a lot, mostly on the weekends, sometimes on the weekdays.  We always did a little flirting back and forth but it never really went anywhere.  I pretty much gave up on the thought of it ever going any further than that, until one day out of no where, it finally happened,  we ended up hooking up one weekend.  \n\nSeemed like after that night everything turned a 180 on me.  We started texting each other everyday (which we never did before), talking a lot more, and hooking up a couple more times.  Seemed like everything was going extremely well and this was heading towards a good relationship.\n\nThen out of no where, everything changed back to the way we were before.  She stopped responding texts, we didn't talk anymore, and she just seemed so much less interested than the week before.  So I thought to myself, hmm ok, it was just a hookup thing I guess, and it has run its course.  Wrong again, once the next week came, everything seemed to get back on track.  This goes on for another week, and then back to getting the cold shoulder again.\n\nRinse and Repeat this for about a month.  I am so confused on what is going on, and I am afraid to ask her about it because I have grown to really like her and don't want to make things awkward.\n\nIt is now a time when she seems disinterested again, and I want this to stop and just have a consistent relationship, but I am really unsure what to do next.  Any advice for a extremely confused redditor?", "summary": "Friends for a while, finally hookup, heading towards BF and GF,  get cold shoulder, hookup again and everything is back on track, then cold shoulder again.  Rinse and Repeat. No idea how to stop it.  Confused as fuck."}
{"id": "t3_3ehxq9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Advice Needed (long post, sorry for the wall of text)", "post": "Hi everybody!\n\nSo I just started on my weight loss journey about four days ago. I moved across the country last month, and had to go home for a funeral. I know I had been gaining weight, but after seeing everyone I could just tell they were thinking that after seeing me. I'm 5'9(f), and now just under 200 lbs, and 25 yrs old. My dad pointed it out to me, and I had a mini-meltdown. When I got back, I decided I needed to do something about it. \n\nSo I downloaded the lose it app, and started counting calories. I had a holy shit moment when I realized I do not pay attention to what I eat. I got sad again, but then happy knowing that I'm doing something about it. My limit is 1384 calories a day, and I've been staying under that amount and logging everything.\n\nSo I told my best friend about it, and explained that I hate how I feel and I hate how others look at me (I used to be pretty skinny). She got really intense about how it's not just about calorie counting, and ranted about all the other things I need to be doing other than counting calories. I've cut out alcohol and soda from my diet, but really feel like the counting has helped me think about what I eat. After talking to her, I really didn't know what to do.\n\nAm I doing this wrong? Sorry for the rant; I'm just new to this, and really want to dedicate myself to losing weight and being healthy. I've only just started, so I can't tell about the progress. I'm just trying to do everything in moderation, and I do yoga in the mornings. I know my friend means well, but any advice would help.", "summary": "I thought I knew what I was doing and now I don't."}
{"id": "t3_1rdxuu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should i (24f) feel bad about hanging out with his (25m) best friend (25m)?", "post": "I'll try to make this brief. \n\nmy boyfriend (25m) and I (24f) have been together for a year. his most recent ex~girlfriend, who is a bitch, cheated on him with one of his friends prior. He was absolutely devastated. (this is relevant).\n\nhe trusts me, and I know that he trusts his best friend. his best friend asked if I would like to hang out when my boyfriend has work/ is busy. I asked my boyfriend first, and my boyfriend was absolutely thrilled. he wants us to get along, as he sees us in it for the long haul.\n\nI guess my question is this: should I feel guilty when we do hang out without him? I feel no attraction for his friend, and he doesn't feel any for me ( at one point my boyfriend made a joke about it, and his best friend replied that I was not his type). I like his friend as a friend, we have a lot in common and talk about things well. \n\ngiven my boyfriends past history, I do feel guilty when we hang out. I love my boyfriend very much, and would never cheat on him. I'm probably overreacting, but knowing his history, makes me feel bad everytime I hang out with his friend alone. also, I should mention that although we do talk about my boyfriend, we only talked about how he doing in school, his hobbies, that kind of thing. sometimes, I think we hang out just to talk about how great my boyfriend is!", "summary": "hanging out with boyfriends friend alone: nay or yay?"}
{"id": "t3_ryqcq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend posted craigslist ad while I was on vacation  during spring break..", "post": "Me, F 20, SO, M, 22. We've been together for just over a year, live together, work together (that's how we met) and generally things are pretty good. The other day though, he left his phone at home while he was at work, and I picked it up because it was making noises saying there was new emails, and decided to take a look. Usually his phone has a password on it, but it currently did not. \n\nI found email from last month from a craigslist m4w ad that he posted... Saying he was \"looking for a female sex addict on his level\". These emails came during a week where I went home (which is 500 miles away from where I live now). \n\nThere was replies from two different women, one of which he gave his phone number to so that she could send him a picture, and in return send her one of him as well. So, I went and looked for a picture, but did not find anything. But I do not know if he went and met with either of these women. \n\nI became quite angry upon findind these emails, but do not know how to/if I should confront him, because face it, I was looking through his phone without him knowing. I have been considering just waiting until the lease is up and then telling him that I do not want him to stay with me anymore, but that is not for another 4 months, and having this on my mind and not saying anything to him might be difficult.", "summary": "Boyfriend of just over a year posted an ad on craigslist m4w looking for a \"sex addict female\" while I was away for spring break. I discovered this by snooping around through his phone without him knowing. Don't know whether to say anything or not, or how to quite approach this."}
{"id": "t3_rvtx1", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "So alone...", "post": "I think that I just need to vent.  This is the basic description of our relationship...\n\nHe [19m] and I [19f] met during our first semester of college. We clicked right away, quickly became best friends, and began dating.  We were inseparable, and I fell completely in love.  Then...6 months into our relationship, he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend.  In retrospect, I should have walked away then.  But I could not let him go, especially because I felt so strongly about him... I was convinced he was the one. I forgave him, tried to learn to trust him again, but it was never the same.  Fast forward to six months after he cheated on me.  I begin to fall into depression during the first semester of our second year of college.  He didn't know how to react, I became very clingy, he just continued to push me away. I still clung onto the hope that everything would get back to normal someday.  Then, about a month ago, he broke it off.  Obviously I was devastated.  We continued to talk, however, and I begged him for a second chance.  I needed to show him the girl he fell in love with, not the depressed, manic, suffocating monster I had become.  He still gave me hope that we would get back together.  Then...he ends it for good. Over facebook.  He was one of my only friends here at my university.  Now I am just alone, empty, forced to face the pain and suffering I experienced here every day....the girl he cheated on me with is in many of my classes.  Everyday I see reminders of our relationship...we dated for nearly a year and a half. I forget how to cope. I forget how to be me...I am just an empty shell of everything that used to make me happy.  My depression has only worsened, of course. I don't know where to go or who to turn to when the only person who brought me comfort is the person who caused me all this pain.", "summary": "My ex cheated on me.  I forgave him.  He broke up with me a year later.  Now I have nothing and am drowning in depression and loneliness."}
{"id": "t3_27ysxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [20 F] gf of 2 years, Post-Breakup confusion, what should I be doing?", "post": "My ex and I were dating for 2 years. It had its troubles during it. There was a lack of communications which lead to me questioning my feelings for her and just getting really frustrated all the time. I had trouble consoling her with her issues, I just couldnt empathize. I know that is something I need to learn how to do but I have no clue how to get there. I don't like how I handled it all. \n\nI just I have been thinking everything through and I come to these conclusions about my feelings for her, things I have been doing wrong and stuff like that. \n\nI just have a burning desire to know what she is feeling. I feel like its useless to work towards anything if I don't know what she wants in the end. I have seen her a few times since but each time its different. I just don't know what to do with myself to know if I want to give it another chance.", "summary": "Lost after a breakup, don't know what I should be doing and aiming towards."}
{"id": "t3_52kols", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My female friend that I've been seeing for 3 months (16F) is struggling with her depression and told me (17M) that she needed some time away from me.", "post": "I began talking to this girl in the beginning of July. We hit it off and about a month later, we revealed that we had feelings for each other. We went on a couple of dates, cuddled and made out. 2 weeks ago, we had a really good date so I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said she'd tell me next time we hung out because her last relationship didn't end well so she was scared of something happening to us.\n\nWe hung out again last night and things were going fine so I asked her about dating again. She said no because her depression has been pretty bad lately. Then this morning, she told me that she needed some time away from me. I understand that she is depressed and struggling to begin a relationship with me, but we've been talking for awhile and I'd like to date.\n\nShould I contact her first and what should I say? Should I just wait it out? Is this a temporary stop or should I just move on?", "summary": "Girkfriend's depression has been affecting her a lot lately, asks for some time away from me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_tiz5g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got hired at Walgreens, question in regards to Drug Test.", "post": "Hey guys, \n\nI just got hired at Walgreens for an internship over the summer and they want to do a pre-employment background check + drug screening.\n\nThis is the part of the email that confuses me:\n\n\"Enclosed are the \"Forensic Drug Testing Custody and Control Form\" and the \"Walgreens Drug Test Consent/Release Form\". Please complete and return the consent/release form with the offer letter. Please bring the Forensic Drug Testing Custody and Control Form with you to the drug test facility along with a valid photo I.D. accepted by the state.\"\n\nThey aren't inclosed in this email that I received by HR. Would anyone happen to know if they usually just send those documents through email or by US mail? Apparently I have to take a drug test within 48 hours and they aren't open on the weekends and I'm trying to figure out what to do. :/\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "HR didn't include documents needed for drug test. What do? D:"}
{"id": "t3_1t6uyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just realize I'm sexist towards women. I'm going to have a daughter very soon. What can I do to stop this train of thought before she is born?", "post": "I'm M(27). I recently have discovered I have a very narrow mind towards certain topics regarding women. Whenever I hear women complaining about their partners in a relationship, I can't help but always take the man's side. I slut-shame. I refer to women as \"bitches\", or \"sluts\", or whatever other derogatory word. I have a belief that women are biologically inferior to men and as such, it takes a tremendous amount of talent and intellect to be shown before I will respect them. I get turned off from TV shows or movies where there is a strong female lead trying to portray a role that would have been better suited for a man, i.e. being an over the top badass. I believe you get my point here, I'm sexist and not proud of it. I don't know why I am and I don't know how to stop thinking like this. I fear because of this attitude I have towards women, I will discriminate against my soon-to-be-daughter and will treat her differently than I would if I have a son. I fear that this type of behavior could very easily damage my relationship with her and I do not want that. What can I do to get out of this mindset?", "summary": "I am sexist towards women. I feel this mindset will ruin my relationship with my unborn daughter. How can I get over this mindset?"}
{"id": "t3_1485yp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why get a Credit Card?", "post": "Hey Reddit. This is a happy day, I am 100% debt free. That means no more student loans, no more car payments, and I rent.\n\nSo now that I have reached this milestone my friends are making the case that I change up. One of my longstanding quirks. I am an American Male with no Credit Card. I have never had one and to be honest I don't really understand why anyone that is financially stable would. \n\n* I make enough money to cover my expenses and I have enough of a emergency fund to help out.\n\n* My credit score is pretty darn good because I pay my bills regularly.\n \n* I have a debit card that handles every convenience that a credit card would handle.\n\n* Basically in exchange for points I would take on an increased chance of getting in unnecessary debt. (Assuming I am the statistical average)\n\nI have always seen credit cards like crack. I bet it feels good but it also increases the chances of me blowing a dude to make my next payment.\n\nIs there something that I am not seeing?", "summary": "Why pay take a loan out for things I have the money to just buy straight up."}
{"id": "t3_42uisr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a free trial(s)", "post": "So obligatory this literally just happened about five minutes ago, or rather I realised it had happened.\nSo back in December I was buying some pretty early last minute presents on Amazon and it recommended I take out my 'free' trial of prime for 1 day delivery etc. \nSo I think oh, fantastic! There's even a button to prevent you paying afterwards for the full membership, ya dancer! \n\nThats the TI here's where the FU happens: because I'm buying presents from both the US and UK Amazon I assumed the prime trial is for both. Wrong. They are two separate sites (yes I am very naive), and the trials were activated for both.\nFast forward to about two months later and I look at my bank statement, first of all I don't make much money (with my account usually maintaining an average of about \u00a31.73ish, but I had been saving pretty hard for Christmas!). When all of a sudden I realised I've paid Amazon \u00a370... Not once but TWICE for an annual prime membership! At this point I had a bit of facedesk moment. As I've accidentally had it for about a month and a half now I'm not sure if I can get all my money back but the lovely people at Amazon have given most of it back!", "summary": "haven't bought anything on Amazon because I've not had enough money due to paying for Amazon."}
{"id": "t3_1oyoj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am scared to fall in love again", "post": "My current boyfriend [24M] and I [22F] have been dating for almost 2 months now and I'm starting to get this familiar feeling in my stomach I felt about my last boyfriend [23M].\n\nI didn't want to admit it was love I was feeling when I was with my ex because I was scared since I had never felt that way. I eventually admitted that I loved him and everything was fine, but we did ultimately end up breaking up after 6 months. I was crushed and very depressed for a couple weeks about the whole situation. \n\nI'm starting to feel the same feelings I had when I was with my ex, and this is about the same time I started feeling them in my pervious relationship too. I'm scared of getting hurt again, it was awful. Both my current boyfriend and I are very immature when it comes to relationships, neither of us has reached past 6 months and he's never been in love. \n\nI'm fearful that I will start to allow myself to love him and he'll A) not return my feelings, B) Break up with me or C) All of the above because he's freaked out.", "summary": "I had my heart shattered after my first run in with love and now am too scared to allow myself to love my current boyfriend in fear I will be hurt."}
{"id": "t3_182d5e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M(28) been seeing a F(29) for almost a month now.  Worried I'm thinking about her too much.", "post": "I literally spend about 90% of my waking hours thinking about her. We've spent time together almost every day for 3 and a half weeks. Spent many nights together. Told each other \"I love you\" a couple days ago. I really do love her. \n\nI'm worried she's on my mind too much and I don't want to smother her. I can't focus on anything at work or home because she's on my mind.\n\nI've never been in a serious relationship before.  She's the second woman I've ever had sex with.  However, I truly feel like I love her. \n\nAny thoughts appreciated", "summary": "love her, but worried i'm thinking about her too much."}
{"id": "t3_116zma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-Girlfriend [19] started hooking up with my suitemate [20], and I'm not sure how to feel.", "post": "About 5 months ago, my girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me. I'm in college, so after having the summer off and trying to get over the ordeal, I came back to campus and got a dorm suite with 3 good friends. Over the course of the year, my ex started hanging out with one of them more and more, and now they're hooking up.\n\nTo be honest, r/relationships, this bothers me a little. I'm pretty sure I shouldn't be bothered by this; I met a really nice girl about a month ago, and I'm in a happy relationship with her now. It's just that every time I go back to my place there's my ex and my suitemate. How can I deal with this? Should I just spend less time in my suite or try and face my misgivings head on? Thanks for any help.", "summary": "My ex is hooking up with my suitemate. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_o3swm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, i am going to quit my job and want to know an epic way to do so. Any ideas?", "post": "Been working at Mcdonald's a few months now and honestly, it is the most horrible place to work and a few of my superiors are absolute arseholes. Any ideas to go out with a bang?", "summary": "Want to quit my job, managers are complete arseholes, get accused of theft regularly and keep getting abusive comments etc and no pay, want revenge."}
{"id": "t3_1qn679", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) am trying to deal with partner (26M) leaving", "post": "I am not actually in a relationship but my friend and I are very close and enjoy a physical relationship. We are not dating because he leaves the state in less than a month but recently we have both admitted to the fact that if he was staying longer, we would be dating. Actually, we just went on our first official date. We talk almost every day for several hours and spend at least one night a week together and usually it's two or three. He's my best friend and someone I trust completely. We both agree that it's too soon for the word love to come up but I care about him so much and he's told me he cares about me a ton (I know he trusts me more than anyone else). I would love to have a future with him but neither of us is fond of long distance so... I guess I just want to know how to deal with him leaving and what people think of making long distance work; if it's possible or not. I don't want to lose the chance to be with him if I can help it...", "summary": "partner is leaving (moving) and I don't know how to deal with losing him or on the other hand convince him that we could make a long distance relationship work."}
{"id": "t3_zrlcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Crippling anxiety destroying my relationship. Help?", "post": "I am 27 f in a relationship with a 25M. We've been together off and on, in varying degrees of seriousness, for a little over two years. I love him with all of my heart, but lately horrible anxiety has jettisoned my ability to enjoy my time with him. I have even become paranoid that he is with other girls, even though I know in my heart that he isn't and I am being ridiculous. He is sweet and patient, trying his best to help me keep steady and calm down, but I can see how much it is wearing on him and eating into our enjoyment of one another. I already feel like such a burden, and I need this to stop. Any suggestions on effective ways to deal with this anxiety?", "summary": "my anxiety problems are driving a wedge between me and my love."}
{"id": "t3_9yvnm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit: I am running out of Hard drive space... wwyd?", "post": "Ok, I have two 1tb USB enclosed external harddrives, (at the heart of each is a [WD SATA HDD] ) I currently have them setup with data and music on one, and TV shows and ripped movies on the other, well as expected, after only a year of use, the hard drive with all the video files on it, is at full capacity, I have already started to push some of the overflow files over to the first HDD, but I am running out of space there too. So, essentially, I will be buying more Harddrives, but I would eventually like a media center PC in the future... what would reddit do? I have 1 laptop that is hooked into the harddrives, and I stream media with Tversity to my Xbox and [2 **ancient, but good** Dell dimension 4600 desktop PC's] kicking around with SATA onboard, I also have an extra [PCI SATA card] for plans of some kind of NAS/Media box... but I am unsure about my plan for that now with the power consumption I have heard about the P4s to be running all the time...\n\nSo any suggestions?", "summary": "have 2 USB 1tb externals that are full, and looking for more alternatives for future storage and media sharing solutions"}
{"id": "t3_3madqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (36f) just got separated and my sister (34f) now wants to move in with me. I don't want her to.", "post": "I went through a sad separation from my husband, and now my son and I rent a 2 bedroom condo.  I've only been here 5 months and I'm still learning to adjust to everything.  It is the first time I've ever lived \"on my own\" (my son is only 7).\n\nRecently, my sister has decided she is unhappy and wants to leave her marriage (no kids).  She has no money of her own.  She wants to leave their house and she has asked if I'll be there for her and let her stay here \"for a little while\". \n\nI have no idea what to do.  She truly has nowhere else to go.  But I don't want a roomie here.  I just don't.  Plus she has no money of her own (even together they never had much), and I don't have enough to support anyone else.  She didn't ask me to, but we both know she doesn't have money.\n\nShe seems to think if she moves out he will just agree to put their house up for sale and everything will be fine.  I doubt that.  There will be lawyers involved, it could take months and months.  In the meantime, she is going to be living in my space.  I don't think this is fair to my son either.\n\nI just have no idea what to say to her.  I feel horrible.  It feels like I'm letting her down if I tell her that I truthfully am not ok with having anyone living with me.  I just went through a separation....I'm trying to heal.", "summary": "I just got separated and got my own place.  My sister suddenly has decided she wants to end her marriage and live with me \"for a little while\".  I think if she moves in she'll be her for good."}
{"id": "t3_247igu", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "How to clean the pee!?", "post": "I have two pomchi's they just turned one.\n\nI want to avoid replacing the carpet if i ever decide to move out of my apartment.  one of them is really spot on with his peeing but the other is not so great.\n\nKirby knows where to pee... but i just moved into this apartment a week ago and he has not been handling it well. I take him out at least 5-10 times a day  he'll pee or he wont pee.  but if he pees in the apartment it will be the weird trail of pee thing... he used to be so good and I'm just trying to get him adjusted as quick as I can.\n\nIs there a way to really clean the carpets so i can avoid the urine smell?  I use the spot cleaner thats designed for pets so they wont resoil but it doesnt work at all... kirby will  just pee right beside it or on it.\n\nI have a carpet cleaner too. \n\nDo I just keep using the spot cleaner and the carpet cleaner?  Thats what I did at my old place and even after professional cleaning it smelled like dog pee.", "summary": "How to clean the pee out of carpet? I used cleaning solution and a spot cleaner machine and carpet cleaned my entire carpets (with my own machine) once a week for 8 months and I didn't notice any bad smells until I actually moved everything out."}
{"id": "t3_45llno", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Having trouble keeping myself from eating all of my calories early in the day.", "post": "Hello, I'm looking for some insight into what exactly is happening to me. I should say that over the last two years, I have lost 108 pounds following a low-carb diet plan. I am still on it, and works fine, but in the last couple of months I am always tempted to just eat everything at once. \n\nI don't overeat; once I have eaten all of what I logged into MFP, I am done for the day but around 9pm or so, I am starving and you could hear my stomach from the room next door I swear but I still abstain from eating and just try to ignore it until it is time for bed.\n \nI am increasingly worried that this sort of behavior will become a habit and I'll eventually cave in and start eating more than I should.\n\nI'll add this to my profile (once I figure out how to) but my stats are: F/5'5/146. I recently hurt myself at the gym so I am taking a week off but normally I work out 6 days a week doing a variation of strong lifts. Because I am not going to the gym, I am eating around 1200 right now; normally, around 1500. I don't think it is the food amount that's the issue, just the overwhelming desire to eat all at once. \n\nAnyone have experience this or have any idea of what is happening? Any help would be great!", "summary": "I want to eat all my food for the day at once; after I do, I don't eat again, but I get very hungry later in the day."}
{"id": "t3_17fsdz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Reddit, a little help/advice please.", "post": "*Based in W. Midlands, England*\n\n**Background info:**\nFebruary 2012 - got married & made redundant in the same week.\nWife luckily started job in March. Part-time hours.\nStruggle to find work until August 2012. Start working at the same place as my wife. Job title: Bank Support Worker.\nFirst two weeks go fine, got plenty of shifts. Then the shifts became fewer and further between despite many promises from management that things would soon pick up.\nI haven't had a single shift since November. \nMy wife has just been told they're cutting all bank staff due to cut backs. They have removed all of her hours on the rota.\nI have applied in person and online for exactly 298 jobs in the last 2 months - not one has landed an interview. I have applied for things I am more than capable of and have experience in. Also I've been fixing friends/families/anyone who will listens' computers for \u00a310 a time, which to date has made \u00a350. (8+ years fixing computers for free as a hobby/favour)\n\n**Today:**\n\u00a3780 in the bank, \u00a3750 of which will be taken via direct debit on rent & bills on the 14/2/2013.\nBenefits + current money won't pay the bills in March. \n\nI have less than a month to land a job or we cannot afford to pay rent & utilities - let alone food. I have no idea what to do. I have managed to keep all of our finances barely in the black over the passed year so there are no debtors knocking on the door just yet but her work cutting all of her hours is a deathblow. \n\n**My previous employment history:**\n5 years in retail.\n2 years in a high school reprographics department.\n6 months in a care home.\n\nAll I hope is that someone, somewhere has some advice I could follow to get us out of this mess. I don't want to start nosediving into debt. Plus my wife is taking this all really badly - she does not do well with stress.", "summary": "I was made redundant last February, worked on and off since then, money has finally ran out. Every job under the sun has been applied for. Help please"}
{"id": "t3_26vt7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] feel too old to go to a high-school party. She [18F] want me to go. Should I do it?", "post": "I have a small thing with a co-worker [18F]. There's an after-prom highschool party tonight, and it's going to be massive (over 200 people, DJ, etc). I, being a 20M with tattoos and a beard, feel a little old to be attending a highschool party. I loved them \"back in the day,\" but I think I should stick to my agegroup. \n\nI have a group of about 6 friends, all my age (or older), that are going to it as well. Between them and the girl I have a thing with, it's hard to turn them down. Should I go, or am I too old?", "summary": "Friends (19-22M/F) and girl I have a thing with (18F) want me (20M) to attend a high-school party. I feel too old and will stick out with tattoos and beard; should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_ikdg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does legal death satisfy a death sentence?", "post": "Watching Torchwood: Miracle Day I though of a conundrum.  Think first of accounts of people legally being declared dead and being revived.  It happens on occasion where people by legal medical standards are declared dead and then revived by doctors.  What if someone who is sentenced to death dies by legal standards and is then revived in someway (the method or reason for revival is unimportant)?  Would the person have legally satisfied the his or her sentence of death by dying for a time?\n\nYes legal and clinical death are different but if someone is clinically dead long enough revival attempts will stop and legal death will be declared.", "summary": "What if someone sentenced to death by legal standards dies and is then revived? Have they satisfied their sentence?"}
{"id": "t3_3mxg49", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This post isn't even the worst thing I've thought to post today.", "post": "I'm going to be very honest here: I'm a lonely person. All I have wanted my whole life (starting from when I became aware that people can be attracted to one another) all I have wanted is a friend who I don't feel strange cuddling with (also sex is involved). Unfortunately for myself I have some problems that prevent me from convincing myself that I can be loved, so I have come to you O reddit, to vent and feel just a tiny bit worse about myself because a girl I barely know won't text me. So there. \n\nAlso real quick, my life has been almost (but not quite) literally falling apart around my face for the past year, ever since an accident I had in 2014; not to mention I've been dealing with depression since I was about 13-14. I also have a stress thing, and according to my doctor, ADD. I realize this has moved from get something off your chest to \"I'm eating myself happy\" territory but, fuck it. To be honest, this started as an /r/r4r post. Then I realized how fucked up my head is and that no one in any state of mind would respond to my post, so here I am.", "summary": "I'm sad a lot, a girl I like won't respond so I've given up, and also I kind of hate myself just a little bit more for posting this."}
{"id": "t3_hr1k8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl didn't say much either time we hung out, is this salvageable?", "post": "Basically I'm a FA, pretty shy, and not a great conversationalist, (23/m), so I haven't really dated at all, kissed, loved, etc. Last winter, my neighbor's dad basically told my dad that my (19/f) neighbor would like to go to a movie with me while she was off from Winter Break. I texted her her and we went to a movie, had decent conversation during the car ride but she didn't really say anything while we were waiting for the movie to start (like 5-10 mins). I don't think she initiated more than one topic the entire time we were together. Either way, at the end she said it was fun and we should definitely hang out over the summer (she was leaving back for school that week), which I was cool with because she's cute and very nice and she is single.\n\nSo I text her when she got home and she said she'd love to go another movie or do something sometime soon. I asked her what time and she said afternoon or evening is good. The next day, I proposed that we go to a movie and then get something to eat. She said she only had time for a movie and not dinner (that's probably a red flag?). Either way, we went to the movie and had good conversation on the way there where she initiated a couple topics. Once we got there, she confidently stepped to the ticket line and bought a single ticket, I bought her ticket last time (red flag?).  I made some light conversation while we were waiting for the movie to start. Then on the way home, she didn't really say a word. I tried to start something once but she gave a one word reply. All she said as a dropped her off was \"Thanks\" (red flag?). \n\nThere are a lot of red flags. I'd like to get to know her more but I don't know if this is even remotely salvageable. She has a couple really close friends and she seems pretty sociable judging by her Facebook. Is she just shy around me? She acted the same both times even though she seemed very excited to meet up in her texts. I'm really confused. Any suggestions?", "summary": "girl seemed excited to meet-up both times, didn't really talk much, OP is also shy so it felt awkward but I still want to meet up again."}
{"id": "t3_1ouojj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriends (26F) cousin (24F) works with me and we carpool. The cousin comes to my house, sits on my bed, and wait for her boyfriend to pick her up. It's driving my girlfriend crazy. Am I in the wrong?", "post": "Recently my girlfriends cousin got hired at my work place. The cousin doesn't have a car yet, so she carpools with me. After work, the cousin has to come stay at my house for a few minutes because her boyfriend has to go pick up their daughter first. The cousin comes to my room and sits on my bed while she waits.  \n\nWhen my girlfriend found out that she stays in my room, she got really mad. In fact, I just had an argument with her about it. Basically, my girlfriend says it's really weird and unlady-like for her cousin to do that and it's even weirder for me to let her. But I never even thought of it that way. I absolutely love my girlfriend to death and she's all I ever think about. I don't even look at other women anymore because I'm still crazy for her. And I would never cheat on her or do anything close to might be considered cheating. I am in no way attracted to her cousin at all.\n\nI just don't see anything wrong with it because I'm not insecure about my feelings and don't care to judge others much. But my girlfriend is basically saying, \"Well what am I supposed to think when we have kids and you condone this type of behavior???\" Even though I never said I condone it.\n\nI just don't know what to think right now. Am I the asshole in this situation?", "summary": "My girlfriends cousins works with me and waits my room afterward for her boyfriend to come pick her up. Girlfriend hates this."}
{"id": "t3_4jt38u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my friend [20F] duration, who I am interested in potentially dating", "post": "So there's this girl I like, I met her at the beginning of this school year (we're both sophomores), and lately (last month or so) we've starting becoming closer friends. Last tuesday at the meeting for the club we're both in, I mentioned to her how I eat most of my meals alone, so she told me that if I'm gonna eat at a dining hall and want to eat with someone, I should text her. So on friday I took her up on that. My intention was just to get lunch as friends, and try to become closer friends with her through that, since even though we joke around and text a lot, I haven't actually really had a serious, deep conversation with her. But of course since I like her, if it went well then I was hoping to ask her out on an actual date.\n\nBut unfortunately, when I texted her at noon on friday and asked her if she'd had lunch yet, she told me she had work until five. But she did say that we should definitely get lunch sometime, so on monday (yesterday) I asked her again. Unfortunately, she had work again, this time until seven, but this time she suggested that we get lunch the next day instead (today). So we were going to do that, but today she just remembered that she had already scheduled an appointment with an academic advisor today at the time we were going to get lunch, so we had to reschedule and now decided that we are going to get dinner friday. \n\nThat's all well and good, but to me, it seems that we are starting to treat this as if it's sort of a date, rather than the impromptu meal with friends that I origininally planned. And while obviously I have no problems with it being a date, I really have no clue if she is looking at this the same way. \n\nBasically, I guess my questions are: \n\n1. How do you think she is viewing this situation?\n\n2. Is this perhaps something I should bring up tonight when I see her at our club meeting, or should I just wait until friday to find out how she views this?", "summary": "Impromptu lunch with female friend who I have crush on keeps getting postponed/rescheduled because of her commitments, and now instead of an impromptu lunch as friends it almost seems as if we're planning it as a date. Do you think that's how she sees it, and should I bring that up before we finally get dinner together friday?"}
{"id": "t3_1c6fqj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Straw that broke the camels back?", "post": "That one thing after a previous load of shit you didnt deserve? \n\nI have finally made the decision to leave my \"bf\" He was struggling financially & I lianed him the money for a car (money I dont expect will ever be paid back) we havent spoken in a week after a fight, he calls me over this morning & thinking I would get an apology I went.  He barely spoke to me, snuck out to get himself food then treated me like I was his lackey. I left & after 2 years its finally over.  Rather than be mad or sad Im just tired but also relieved.", "summary": "sorry that turned into a rant. Left my shitty bf for good"}
{"id": "t3_4g7iro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M27] be dating while my ex girlfriend [F27] is pregnant?", "post": "When my ex girlfriend who I has been dating for 7 months told me she was pregnant I knew that I did not want to be with her but we stuck at it fora couple of months. It didn't work out so we broke up. I met my current girlfriend [24] 6 weeks later and we have now been dating for 3 months. She has been amazingly supportive about the baby I have on the way but my parents, some of my friends and my ex girlfriend's friends tell me that I am a selfish jerk and I should be focusing on the baby not on a new relationship at this time. I am calling my ex and have given her some money. I have offered to drive her to appointments and support her through the birth but she doesn't want me there.\n\nWhy should I wait to date a new woman til after the baby is born? I feel I can \"focus\" on both my baby and a new relationship but some people in my life are adamant that I can't and that I'm being selfish.", "summary": "Some friend and family are saying that I should not be dating my new girlfriend while my ex is pregnant."}
{"id": "t3_u0fhf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what have you done that has made you accidently spook a random stranger?", "post": "a few months ago me and my SO were heading into a busy store to go food shopping. it got pretty busy at the entrance and a few people were trying to leave and come in at once. as we were moving along it got harder to navigate and I let out a growl (rawr) as a kind of joke.\n\napparently to other people it sounded like I was pissed and meant it because a lady in front of me immediately apologized profusely.\n\nI felt really bad because she sounded genuinely concerned.\n\nit was also embarrassing because it looked for a bit like a young white girl just growled at a nice african american mother.", "summary": "when entering a crowded store I growled and a random woman thought she had done something wrong. she apologized profusely and I felt bad about it."}
{"id": "t3_49nuc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my now Ex GF[23F] dated over 2 Months, She cheated and blocked me and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I[23M] met this girl on tinder we will call her Sarah[23F] and we talked for a few days and really connected. That weekend Sarah and I met at a public place and had dinner and drinks and hit it of super well! We started seeing a lot of each other and quickly a relationship formed. Everything was awesome we saw each other as often as possible and always did fun stuff. I met her whole family and she met mine. We even told each other I love you. This was a little over two months ago. \n\nThis past Saturday Sarah blocked me on everything and any attempt to get in contact with her got blocked as well. I got a text from a friend asking if me and Sarah were still dating? I answered I wasn't sure I hadn't talked to her in a coupe days trying to keep the break up on the down low. Soon I got text from a few more of my friends all of the asking about Sarah. I asked why they were wondering and one of them screenshoted her Instagram and he and her Ex were together smiling (they had been broken up over a year) I come to find out the past two weeks of our  relationship she was cheating on me.\n\n I don't know what to do my life is a mess and I have no motivation to do anything anymore. I make myself leave the house to do normal activities like work and church but I don't feel any joy in it anymore. I'm just numb to the world and I don't want to be. So please Reddit how do I fix my life?", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated and then blocked me on everything / How do I move on from this I feel numb and empty?"}
{"id": "t3_1mpunm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] having trouble coping with porn watching of my [21F] girlfriend.", "post": "I know this topic has been brought up 100 times from the other side of the relationship, but search as I might I can't find anything with a guy worried about.\n\nLet's start here-\nI've never really been into porn, which I know is crazy unusual since I'm a guy and all. I don't really know why I don't like it. In my teens it bothered me so much I tried to teach myself to like it, but I couldn't.\nIt bothers me because it makes me feel really excluded and I don't understand why other people like it, although many people have tried to explain it to me.\n\nHere is the real dilemma for me - how my girlfriend watching porn makes me feel. It makes me feel like I am not enough. I am a very physically fit and generally very confident guy, I'm not worried about her cheating and I really have 0 trust issues with her. She has said that it isn't that I'm not enough, and I trust her, but I can't get this stupid feeling that I am not satisfying her out of my head.\n\nAlso I WANT to be able to understand what porn is for most people, I am trying REALLY HARD to see it from her point of view. This is nothing that would make or break my relationship, but it makes me feel kinda crummy since I feel guilty for feeling like this when I know I SHOULD be ok with it.\n\nI'll also clarify a few things that I think people may jump to as conclusions \n-Sex is great for both of us. We have similar sex drives with me possibly having slightly higher sex drive than her.\n\n-We see eachother every day and essentially live together.", "summary": "Feel super guilty about how I feel about porn"}
{"id": "t3_2ztkwe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by confusing twin girls...", "post": "So me and my gf of a 1 year are on this kick where we do sexy stuff spontaneously....like surprise blowjobs, she doing the dishes and going up to her and sticking it in...stuff like that. So today I was feeling like having sexy time after work, so I come in the house and see her sitting on the couch with her headphones on listening to music...so I decided to surprise cumshot her in the face (it turns her on for some reason) and I was already rock hard coming into the house...so it didn't take long to get to that point..and here is the almighty fuck-up...I tap her on the shoulder and as soon as she turned around....I gave her four hot gobs to the face...and her mouth was open in a O so I stuck my dick in her mouth...getting a few spurts in there....and two seconds later she pushed me back and yelled \"DUDE WHAT THE FUCK?\" And at that moment I realized it....this was not my girlfriend...it was her twin sister....I went into a panic and started to apologize profusely and explained my actions...but she's pretty pissed and didn't want to hear it...so I retreated into my room...my gf gets home in 10 mins(she was shopping for groceries) and I don't know what about to go down....", "summary": "Was being spontaneous with gf sexually....decided for surprise cumshot and deep throat her....but gf identical twin became victim of my semen offensive...is pretty pissed...gf on the way home...don't know what's gonna happen... Have my .45 ACP at the ready"}
{"id": "t3_35g324", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My father [M75] let my dog run away and I'm [F22] pissed. How do I repair things?", "post": "I just graduated from college and decided to celebrate by adopting a dog. He's a tiny Pomeranian mix who is extremely quiet and well-behaved. I've been spending a lot of time taking him on long walks, enrolling him in obedience classes, and overall bonding with him as much as possible. \n\nMy dad wants nothing to do with my boy and is instead focused on our other two dogs. That's fine with me, since I can handle the responsibility. Until... Today. \n\nMy dog is normally glued to my side and today was no exception. He was lying at my feet when I was busy working in the dining roon. My dad was making some noise by the front door and he jumped up to go see.\n\nWell, my dad swung the door wide open and my baby ran outside. Rather than chasing him or calling him, my dad finished what he was doing and then came over to me. Our conversation went kinda like this-\n\nHim- *\"Oh by the way, your dog ran away.\"*\n\nMe- *\"Wait, WHAT? How did he get outside?\"*\n\nHim- *\"I opened the door and he ran out. You're responsible for controlling your dog.\"*\n\nMe- *\"He was lying right next to me! Where did he go?\"*\n\nHim- *\"I don't know, across the street, I think. He's your responsibility, not mine!\"*\n\nLong story short, I rushed outside and our neighbor was petting him across the street. Nothing bad happened, but it could've. We live on a busy street and it's not a safe environment for a loose dog.\n\nI recognize that I should be watching him at all times, but I'm only human and it's inevitavle I'll get distracted. In the meantime, I feel like my family should be looking out for him to make sure he doesn't get hurt. I do all the feeding, walking, grooming, training and so forth, and I work from home so he's always with me. How do I set boundaries with my dad to ensure that my pet is safe?", "summary": "My dad wants nothing to do with my dog and let him run out into the street today. How do I explain that even though the dog is my responsibility, he should care about his well-being to some degree?"}
{"id": "t3_3y979t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my best friend [25 M] 3 years, If you're a nervous wreck, is telling someone how you feel about them over text appropriate?", "post": "I've liked this same guy for an embarassing amount of time. I've been trying to ask him out, but I get so nervous (in a good way!) around him...plus we both talk a lot so it is hard to get a word in (lol). \n\nWe are both very close and are good friends, but I want to be something more. Would it be appropriate to tell him how I feel through a text or private message? Just wondering what opinions others may have about this. \n\nWould you be offended? Would you be doubtful of what the person was telling you? How would you overcome the nerves and tell them in person? Any thoughts/opinions/insights would be very helpful!", "summary": "I get so nervous it is hard to stay focused on what I want to say. I feel that texting might help, but I am not sure."}
{"id": "t3_33po93", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Boyfriend and the stip club.", "post": "So... My boyfriend of a year and half is in Florida for work. Tonight is his last night there and he mentioned that one of his work buddies wanted to take him to the strip club. I feel uneasy with it. And I told him my feelings on it... but he sounded a bit upset. I didn't tell him he couldn't go. Because that isn't how are relationship is. But maybe I should change my feelings toward it?\n\nSo my questions are here: \n1.) Is going to the strip club on the verge of cheating?\n2.) Should I feel uneasy or should I just trust he is going to stare at some butts and stuff..", "summary": "Boyfriend away on business, wants to go to strip club. Don't want to be THAT girl who \"doesn't let her boyfriend do things.\" WHAT DO?!"}
{"id": "t3_3glkrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife (35F) having emotional affair with boss (51M), became physical, but then he.... (UPDATE)", "post": "Original post: \n\nI really did read all of your comments, and thank you. I was pretty upset and didn't do much responding. It was definitely trickle truth. Each time I pushed her, more stuff came out. It was definitely a longer term thing, definitely physical on more than one occasion. \n\nI told her she couldn't work with him, and she shouldn't want to if what she was saying was true. She agreed. She agreed to counseling. She also agreed to give me access to all of her texts, emails, phone, etc. in real time (there's an app for that) She wants to work things out - especially since we have two kids under 2. \n\nAs for me, I have to figure out how to get past it, how to forgive, and how not to be a giant sucker. I think that last one may be the hardest. Any words of wisdom are definitely appreciated.", "summary": "Trickle truth, it was worse than originally reported, agreed to quit job, agreed to counseling, we'll see what happens."}
{"id": "t3_28r2uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (35/f) goes through your phone looking for infidelity...", "post": "What do you do? My (30/m) SO just went through my phone while I was taking a nap and wakes me up showing a conversation i had with a buddy of mine (mindless guy talk) about how I would like to \"tap\" this one girl again from last summer because she was over and visited him (friend lives on the other side of the country) and the girl from last year lives on another continent. The conversation was buried and obviously took time to get to. Many other chats proceeded the offending comment. \n\nSO has a history of going through my phone and checking my private Facebook conversations and now text messages when I am asleep. We have been together on and off again for 3 years and each time we broke up was due to her possessive and jealous streaks. I feel my privacy has been violated as I have no history of cheating or wanting to cheat. It was a mindless comment aimed for only my buddy's eyes. I am torn on this and need advice. \n\nWhat do you all think of this and what would you do if in my shoes?", "summary": "SO went through my phone and found a buried line of text I sent to my friend about me wanting to \"tap\" a girl I had a fling with last year (mindless guy talk) who was visiting him this year. SO has a history of going through my phone. I feel my privacy has been invaded. Advice needed."}
{"id": "t3_1wja4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I accept that my [28M] girlfriend [30] has an ex-husband?", "post": "I know this is probably a pretty common question, but so far I haven't read anything that's helped me.\n\nIn short, my girlfriend of about 6 months has an ex-husband who she was married to for six years (they split up about three years ago). She had a kid with him and they share custody. I think the kid is great. Her and her ex are on somewhat good terms (mostly because they have to be because of said kid). The biggest problem is I think that I've basically ignored the fact that I now have to not only acknowledge that he exists, but he is going to play a part in her life. Forever. \n\nFor instance, her kid's birthday party is coming up and he's going to be there. I can't not go. I feel like I'm on the verge of having an anxiety attack every time I think about it.\n\nI just want there to be some magic way that I can flip a switch in my brain, and not care anymore. I feel like now that the reality has hit that he's going to be around, I can't even see the word \"marriage\" or hear mention of the notion of having kids because it triggers a huge emotional response where all I can think of is \"there's a guy out there that you're going to forever have to put up with that impregnated your girlfriend, and knows her better than you ever will\".\n\nOur relationship has seriously been pretty much perfect until this (she is one of the most caring and mature people I've met), and now I feel like everything's been upended. I've tried talking to her about it but I don't think any amount of explaining can get her to realize just how badly this is affecting me. And even worse, I know how silly it probably sounds. I want it to stop affecting me and make things go back to the way they were before but I don't know how to make that happen.\n\nCan anyone offer some advice?", "summary": "how can I accept the fact that my girlfriend has an ex-husband that will pretty much always be in the picture in some way shape or form?"}
{"id": "t3_jostx", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need advise on German Shorthair with diarrhea", "post": "So I picked up a German Short Hair pointer puppy on June 28th and for the first week everything was great. No issues just some typical house training woes. After having him for a little over a week he ended up with pudding diarrhea. So we added some pumpkin to his food to see if we could get him back to normal which we could not. We kept him on the pumpkin for two days and then took him to the vet to see if we could resolve the issue. The vet did some testing and found that he still had some hook worms in him and figured that what was causing the diarrhea. After a few days from being dewormed he was still suffering from diarrhea. I took him back to the vet to see if we could figure out what was causing this and he asked if he could keep him for the day to watch and see what he could figure out. After spending the day with the vet he found no worms in the dog and wanted to treat for Gastroenteritis. The vet gave me two prescriptions. \n\n    Endosorb: 1 tablet every 12 hours for 7 days \n    Metronidazole: 1 tablet every 12 hours for 7 days\n\nAfter the fist dose he immediately got better and was pooping like a champ. A two weeks later he was back to the diarrhea. So i took him back to the vet and he tested some stool but could not find anything in it to determine the cause of the diarrhea. He suggested we try the same medication again and see if we could get it cleared up. This time was the same as last. He did fine the first week on the medication but after a few days of being off of the pills his diarrhea returned. I talked to the vet last night on the phone and he is suggesting that we look into doing a x-ray, contrast study, ultra sound of the G.I. track. \n\nDoes anyone have some advise on how to handle this? I am not made of money and taking him to the vet every week is not cheap.", "summary": "Dog has had diarrhea for the past 4-5 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_2ly62q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) have no idea how to talk to girls/ask them out.", "post": "I'm a 20 year old guy. Only had one relationship before and it was when I was 14 and it only lasted a few months.\n\nSince then I haven't really actively been seeking out a relationship but over the past few months I'm feeling more and more like I want to start dating properly.\nI'm at uni (though holidays just started) and I'm a pretty shy person. I've made a few friends and really enjoy talking to others. I can just never seem to work up the courage to approach a girl. I don't know what to say, how to go about it, or what to ask.\n\nIn the past I've had a few unsuccessful attempts that usually fail because I talk and open up way too quickly, landing me permenantly in the friend zone.\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated. I'm not sure what to say or even where a good place is too meet girls?", "summary": "I am very shy and am not sure how to talk to girls or ask them out."}
{"id": "t3_3e37g0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Visited my [22M] girlfriend [21F] of 6 months having not seen her for 6 weeks. She was no longer attracted to me.", "post": "My girlfriend of 6 months has a summer job on east coast. Our relationship was perfect and we've tried to Skype every other day (and message in between) whilst she's been away. Before she left we organised for me to fly to her city so we could spend a week together, to help break up the 10 weeks that we would be apart from each other.\n\nEverything seemed quite normal, but when I arrived I felt like something was wrong. Whilst she was happy to cuddle etc, she would actively avoid anything more than little kisses.\n\nObviously this made me feel awful, but I was patient with her, thinking there must be a reasonable explanation. As the days went on I felt more and more uncomfortable, which she realised and  eventually admitted that since I arrived, she didn't feel attracted to me in a sexual way, and the idea of it made her uncomfortable. She said she didn't understand why and she only realised when she saw me.\n\nShe can't control how she feels and I explained that I didn't blame her for feeling like that, and was only upset with the actual situation. I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable, so stepped back and let her initiate anything that happened. Pretty soon after we talked we ended up having sex and since then things felt normal, and she said things were back to normal to.\n\nI've been back in Portland for a week now and things are still okay - however I'm worried that it might happen again, and that she's not as invested in the relationship as I am.", "summary": "Went to see GF after 6 weeks apart. She wasn't attracted to me. Says she is now, but I'm worried what this means for the long term."}
{"id": "t3_4v77n2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/M] want to do something I love, but am afraid to risk my wife[24/F] and I's well being on the line.", "post": "A little background: I got into photography in my sophomore year in high school and I've been doing it since then. I never really took it seriously and it was more of a hobby at the time. I did a few events here and there and was surprised I could fund some of my lenses and camera gear with the work I was getting. \n\nA couple years later I'm in college and I had to put photography on the back burner to focus on my career. I did an accelerated program and was able to find a job right after graduating. I've been a software developer since then. I've worked my way up to a decent salary after a few moves between cities. It covers all of our expenses and are able to put money in our savings account for a mortgage in the near future. We currently have about $30K saved up with no debt. \n\nI've still been taking photos here and there but I really want to take it more seriously and give it my all. I want to start focusing on becoming the photographer I wanted to be. I also started doing more videography and I find that between photography and videography I get way better sense of self satisfaction as I ever have in my current career. I go to work and it's just that now... work. I put in my 8 hours and then off I go. I do love programming but it just doesn't give me the same satisfaction but does pay the bills. \n\nMy wife is still in school and is graduating next year. She has no student loans as we're paying that up front with my salary. We've discussed this but with me as the single income, it's hard to just give it a try. Even if she does work straight out of school, she won't be able to make enough to support the both of us. \n\nI don't know whether or not to just give in my two weeks and go for it or toughen it out and keep photography/videography on the back burner as always.", "summary": "Working as a software engineer making a good amount of money while my wife is in school, but i want to throw that all away to go into something more creative. Afraid it won't work out and my wife and I will be left with nothing."}
{"id": "t3_p4qx6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, is it Forever Alone of me to still want to communicate with a girl I broke up with 2 years ago?", "post": "For a little back story, I fell in love with her the last few weeks of Junior year in high school, and had the best summer I've ever had. Now we had this relationship knowing that she would be going to Costa Rica over the remainder of the summer to see her family. After the summer was over, she would come back and we'd be like peas in a pod. Unfortunately, about a week before she was going on her way, her foster parents (The people that took care of her in the U.S.) decided they just couldn't handle an outgoing girl like her, as they were complete shut-ins. \n     \n  Needless to say that was a bit depressing and we tried to make up for lost time in that last week. Once she left we maintained the relationship in a long-distance sort of way through Skype, and tried to find a place her parents would let her stay here in the U.S. Unfortunately, they shot down everything my family offered and sent her to a school in Florida. This would be great, but I live in South Carolina and at the time wasn't allowed to drive that far.\n   \n  We kept the long distance relationship thing all throughout the summer and into the next school year. The week before I was going to come down to see her, we were talking on the phone, she mentioned some guy, and I snapped. It was an overreaction on my part, but what was done was done. I tried to make it right because I still loved her, and to this day she is the only girl I've found to have real integrity to go with her beauty.\n    \n  I've tried to make it right when it happened but it seemed hopeless. She lives in Tennessee now, so it's pretty much out of the picture for anything really. Still, she might have the world's best sense of humor, which is why I talked to, and fell for her in the first place. I will admit I still have feelings for her, no matter how minute.\n    \n  Am I forever alone for this?", "summary": "Fell in love with girl, girl moved to Costa Rica, then Florida, then Tennessee. Still feel for girl, can't see her, just want to talk to her because she's hilarious. Does it make me Forever Alone?"}
{"id": "t3_2r2dsl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking myself out of my apartment", "post": "This actually happened on boxing day but I decided to just add it here today.\n\nI spent Christmas/Boxing day at my parents place. My grandparents were there too. I remember seeing my keys on the hook and told my step-dad to remind me to get my keys before we leave. Both of us forget and it never once dawned on either of us on our way back to my place.\n\nOf course the second we park and start unloading my stuff out of the car is when I exclaim \"oh shit...I forgot my keys back at the house\" Both of our spare keys were conveniently located inside of our respective homes which didn't help in this situation. So instead of getting in to my place and finally having some time to myself I had to go along for the ride to my aunt's place to drop off my grandparents, drive all the way back to my parents place get my key, and drive all the way back to my place.", "summary": "locked out because I forgot keys, had to go on extended trip just to get keys and finally get back in."}
{"id": "t3_bhopi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I talk to a human at Google?", "post": "Here's the story: my GMail account very suddenly stopped accepting my password in *September*.  I have been trying since to regain access to it, though I have of course changed every password and account linked to it.  Anyone I would want to talk to has a new email address (with a much stronger password), but I really just want to know that the account is back under my control.\n\nI mostly used it as a registration address and email with a very small number of friends, and the automated tools keep rejecting me.  I have literally 2 years worth of emails archived, and I know the last password, the general contents (but not exact) of the secret question, as well as the primary ways in which the account was legitimately accessed.", "summary": "I lost my GMail account because I never updated the information I registered it with when you still needed an invite, hope to talk to an actual human being and get it back."}
{"id": "t3_35jylb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [18F] have been dating for three years and have been sexually active for a while now and got caught having sex by her parents", "post": "I am currently in college and my SO lives in my home town and we have been doing this long distance thing for an entire school year now. I visit as often as I can and we started to have sex a couple months ago. We use protection every time and she is on birth control, her mother put her on it.\n\nI got back from college the other day and we went over to her place and we decided to have sex. We were in her room and I looked out and saw her mom standing there. We cleaned ourselves up and we both sat down on her bed. Her mom asked to speak with her privately and I just sat there. They came back in and her mom asked me to leave and I did.\n\nIt has been a couple days since then and contact with my girlfriend has been very sparse and I am getting a little nervous for her and our relationship. When we do talk she does not sound good and she has asked to talk to me about the future of our relationship and how we need to be on the same page. She also says that she feels she is punishing herself more then her parents are and I can only imagine the amount of guilt and shame she is feeling. \n\nI told my SO that I told my parents about that night, so both sides know, and she just seems like she has disappointed everyone and is taking this situation really hard, but I let my SO know that her relationship with my parents has not changed because of our actions.\n\nMe on the other hand do not know what her parents think of me,if they hate me or just disappointed in me, and am really nervous because my girlfriend is their only child and they have never had to deal with anything like this before. I am afraid that her parents are going to ban me from the house or force her to break up with me or even pull her out of going to school with me in the fall, so I am here seeking advice on how I can help the situation and have everything go as smoothly as possible.", "summary": "Got caught having sex by my girlfriends mom and my SO is taking it really hard. I am just looking for some advice to help everything work out."}
{"id": "t3_q5euy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone ever made their partner accidentally cry during sex? I'll go first....", "post": "A couple nights ago, my girlfriend and I smoked some trees. She doesn't like smoking off of the pipe so we usually kiss to transfer the smoke from me to her. This making out led us to getting naked and having sex. I started slow but progressed to a fast rhythm fairly quickly. Next she cued me to slow down. Since my primary concern is to get her off, I caught the cue and immediately slowed down my pace. I began going really slow making every thrust a slow push into her. Each time, her moans would get louder and louder. I was lost in this world of just pleasing and teasing her. She began to really want it and I refused to increase my speed. I became very dominant and got too into that role but I must've been really into the mood because next thing I know she has this incredibly horrified look on her face. I roll off of her and just hold her as she sobs onto my chest. \n\nTurns out I had some sort of odd blank but different look to my face. Her description of it was \"It just wasn't you anymore, it was somebody else.\" She cried, we talked and snuggled for about 10 minutes. It was a very traumatic experience for both of us. After a bit of this, she began to initiate sexy time again. We then had sex this time we got off without a hitch. \n\nDoes anyone else have any stories where you freaked your partner out during sex?", "summary": "I freaked my girlfriend out and made her cry having sex."}
{"id": "t3_3fjitd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my ex [26F] 6 months, she ignored me at a sponsored walk for my friend that died", "post": "Our relationship to her felt like he brought us together and it was meant to be. We started the charity together and went through a lot. She split with me soon after I kept pushing her away after my Grandad died. We've been in minor contact since but not really seen eachother.\n\nRecently was a sponsored walk I was gonna abstain from so I wouldn't have to see her but it was on the day of my mates birthday so I went as I felt I needed to for both myself and him. She didn't do it due today recent operation (of which I did text her wishing her well, we spoke a little but that was that). At the 3 quarters point of the walk there's a pub we were all stopping to have a pint at. She arrived there (and also gave lift to some of the people doing the walk). She couldn't even look at me, bypassed me and overexcitedly ran to run of the girls, like an overly loud ayyyy. She couldn't even give me a \"Hey, hope you're alright or anything\", even though a lot of our relationship like i said felt like it was meant to be or something as we had bad pasts and his death kind've bought us together. I obviously felt super down about that but i didn't show it. Found it really disrespectful tbh, especially as the past few times we've seen eachother she's initiated conversation.\n\nEven as she took all mutual friends in the relationship I still had a lot of respect for her. After this though I feel quite disgusted and perhaps her heart wasn't as big as I thought it was. Just wondered what you guys thought of that?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2rtgcb", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I'm at a really awkward and transitional stage as a student doing the job hunt. Help... Desperately seeking advice and how will this affect me down the road?", "post": "I am currently finishing school, in my last semester. Let me further explain my really awkward stage:\n\nAfter doing 3 semesters worth of internships, I decided to \"settle down\" and got a student job last semester at my school. Unfortunately I was let go 3 months because I was unhappy with it (student jobs are grossly TOO easy and I like being busy and challenged). Note that before this, I have held non-student jobs such as working at a high end restaurant but decided to quit to pursue internships.\n\nThis brings us to November. I am desperately job hunting now but have a problem: an upcoming 3-week vacation with my family that was planned in advance. I did many interviews that liked me (and my previous experience) but found the vacation to be a problem. Luckily I landed a seasonal position at a retail store that was okay with my vacation since it was seasonal. \n\nNow I am back and it is almost mid-January without a job. I have applied to many places but HERES the problem: I am graduating in 4  months!\n\nI am applying to both career related jobs (zero interviews) and non career jobs such as hostessing (multiple interviews that expressed concern with my upcoming graduation).\n\nNeedless to say I have not gotten second calls back and may very well be out of a job for a while until I graduate. \n\nHow will this affect me in the future? I have always held a job, if not 2 (job and jnternship) for all of college. How can I explain the gap? How do I go about my student worker position that I was basically fired from? I kind of need the extra job for financial purposes... How do I go about this without sounding too desperate?", "summary": "Last semester senior was fired from a student position because I was always too bored and showed dissatisfaction. Has previous job experience but can't get a new job because of a pre-planned family vacation. Lands a seasonal temp position. Goes to vacation and comes back jobless. Applies to jobs but no second call back probably because I am graduating in 4 months. No calls from career related jobs either, but I will keep applying for post-grad jobs."}
{"id": "t3_1vd7qb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure about the next step.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old, about to turn 21. We have been dating for 6 years. We dated all through high school and have been essentially living together since graduation. I love her deeply and get along with her family and vice versa and we agree on just about everything. The next step of the relationship I think is obviously to get engaged, but my hangup is that I never wanted to get married so young.\n\n I feel like at this point I have a lot of personal growth to do before I should make a commitment to somebody for the rest of my life. I really don't know who I am or what I want to do ultimately, and I know she is pretty much in the same boat.\n\nAlso, neither of us has ever had another meaningful relationship with anybody else. I had a couple girlfriends in middle school and that doesn't really count- same goes for her. I'm sort of bummed that, if we get married, that means I'll never have the chance to be with anyone else physically, but on the other hand there's something special about only ever having been with each other.\n\n I had entertained the idea of suggesting a temporary break to explore ourselves on an individual level, but I'm pretty sure, knowing who she is and how she thinks, actually going through with that could seriously mess things up for us long term. \n\nAt present, we play and joke and have (somewhat) regular sex; I really believe the spark is still there. I'm just terrified of getting married and having kids and ending up one of those sour, bitter couples that just got married too young. I don't really know what to do, and I don't really know what I'm asking here, but I guess if you or anybody you know has had similar experiences I would love to hear about it.", "summary": "(20m) have been dating my gf (20f) for six years. The next step would be to get engaged, and I don't want to lose her, but I'm not sure if that's what's best."}
{"id": "t3_3rbe2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] am trying to see if he [22M] is interested based on these signals.", "post": "I met this guy at a mutual friend's Halloween party and we ended up talking together half of the night in one-on-one and group settings. When saying goodbye, he took my hand and said, \"I'm kind of glad we forgot each other* so I could have the pleasure of meeting you again.\" (* We had met each other at another party last year but I had forgotten who he was.)\n\nThe next day, I reached out over Facebook, and this conversation happened:\n\n> Me: I really enjoyed talking with you last night! We would hang out again sometime :)\n\n> Him: Thanks! I agree on both points\n\n> Me: Our friends are all going to a street party for Halloween tonight. You should come out with us!\n\n> Him: hmm, i'll consider that, but i'm worried about this midterm i have on monday\n\n> Me: How disappointing! Well if you change your mind we'll be around. Maybe next time :) Good luck!\n\n> Him: yeah, likely over christmas break at some point. hope y'all have fun\n\n \nOur friend also texted him saying that she thought we looked like we had chemistry, and in a typical non-committal fashion he said \"Yeah, she's cool.\"", "summary": "What do these signals mean and how do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_24stw9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am [23/m] I asking too much from my girlfriend [22/f]? Advice appreciated. [xpost /r/relationships]", "post": "Our relationship has been going for a little over 9 months. Before we started dating I was in the military and now I'm a civilian going to college. Before I started school in January I had a full-time job. Now that I'm in school I'm working about 3 days per week. The amount of hours I get workd fine for me, it gives me time to work on school work and I'm not hurting for money because I have savings and I receive a housing allowance because of my military service using the GI Bill.\n\nShe has no problem with how much I work. But its her family that has a huge problem with it. They feel I should work full time and go to school full time. But Im not doing that. There's no reason to.\nBecause I don't work enough in their eyes I'm a terrible person and they even go as far as blaming me for the problems their daughter is having. She forgot to do something? My faults. She doesn't know what she wants to do after she finishes college? My fault. Etc. Then they have the nerve to criticize every single thing I do or say. I get no respect from them.\n\nI told her unless she tells them that I want to feel respected and welcomed into their home, I will not be going to her house. She thinks its my responsibility to talk to them about it. Even though if she was in my situation she would expect me to talk to my parents about the problem.\n\nWho should it be that talks to her parents? Am I wrong for taking a stand and not going there if I feel that I'm disrespected? Am I being reasonable in being upset about how they treat me? Much advice is appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "girlfriends parents disrespect me. I asked her to talk to them about how I feel. She feels I should talk to them. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2uu597", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by staying too late at school", "post": "This happend about an hour ago so the pain of it is still fresh.\n\nI'm a Junior studying mechanical engineering at a college in Ohio. Ohio weather, if you don't already know, can go for sunny and warm to windy and cold in a matter of hours which is exactly what happened today. \n\nAround 4pm (weather is mid 40's and sunny) I finished my classes and decided that I'd like to \"get work done\" so I walked back to the engineering building. I found a study room in the basement and proceeded to do work, browse reddit/Imgur, and listen to music. Not much work was getting done but whatever, so I stayed a while. 9 pm rolls around and I realize that I need to get home and get food. I leave the engineering building and lo and behold it's snowing. I trudge through the fairly shallow but slippery snow to my house. On the way there I nearly slip, but my amazing sense of balance saves me from eating shit in the street.\n\nI make it to my house where I run upstairs to drop of my bags so I can chill with house mates in our living room. At the top of the stairs all hell breaks loose. I slip on the top step and proceed to fall all the way down. The fall, which my roommates witnesses, was very reminiscent of a Home Alone movie. I hit my left leg on every stair on the way down but managed not to flip over. So now, I'm sitting typing this on my couch with my leg, which is in much pain and very swollen, elevated and I'm using frozen vegetables to ice it. Shits embarrassing and painful.", "summary": "Stayed late for little reason at my building and it started snowing. Got home and ate major shit slipping down a flight of stairs Home Alone style. Leg swollen and in a lot of pain."}
{"id": "t3_2jt0fa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] get on well with [20 F] I have been dating but had enough of chasing after her.", "post": "Been on two dates with this woman I met recently, first meeting was just getting to know each other, and we was holding hands and made out at the end of the second date.\n\nHowever I am starting to get irritated that it seems to be me doing most of the chasing even though she definitely seems interested. We last spoke a few days ago and we said we would arrange meeting up again this week, we have both been busy and not spoken since that message but I have had enough of always making the first move... so should I wait it out with the prospect that we may never talk again?\n\nNot really sure how to handle the situation, she is a lovely woman and enjoy spending time with her... but I am not prepared to always do the chasing?", "summary": "Been on two dates with woman, fed up of always chasing after her, even though she seems positive about meeting up again."}
{"id": "t3_43ig7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my recent friend [32 M], seems like he's interested but does not ask me out?", "post": "Hello!\n\nI met a guy a couple of months ago, though mutual friends. Those first times we`ve seen each other he always seemed quite interested in me, asking questions and what not but I wasn't really paying attention, as I had a lot going on in my life at the time. I added him on f******* sometime after and since then he has kept messaging me about once a week, asking random stuff, reccomending movies, etc. Some point down the line I actually started enjoying the conversations, as they got more and more in depth and more often. \n\nI love the fact that he`s such a well read guy and would like to take this further. We were supposed to see each other (with the mutual friends as well) last saturday at a concert, but I didn't make it and the next day he was prompt to ask why I didn't attend. Now that kind of made me sure his intentions are more than friendly.\n\nI know he`s got a lot on his plate, has relocated a few months ago, has been hunting for another job and apparently has finally landed one that he likes, however I am quite puzzled by the fact that he has not even hinted at asking me out. We have nice convos, we also flirt a bit but that's about it. \n\nShould I give him more time to get adjusted to all these changes in his life or just leave him be? I feel a bit guilty knowing he`s going through a lot and might be financially stranded but on the other hand I dont want to start making excuses for him in my head.", "summary": "Guy I've been talking to a lot lately does not ask me out"}
{"id": "t3_1htfv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] need some advice on online dating. Care to help?", "post": "I have been single for quite a while and I've been thinking about online dating, but there are a few things that I'm not very comfortable with:  \n\n1) What if someone of my friends sees my profile? I'm not in any way stigmatizing people who use dating sites, but I would still be a little bit embarrassed if someone found out about me searching for love online. Sounds stupid, but I that's just me. \n\n2) I'm not very good with flirting by means of text/email . I can write a long letter, tell a lot of interesting stuff, but the whole \"how you doing?\" thing is not my cup of tea. How mandatory is the whole online chit-chat before two people actually meet up (I know it differs from situation to situation, but is it customary to text/skype/email for a certain period of time before meeting IRL)?  \n\n3) Is the online dating world as different for men and women as I imagine? I mean, do women get full inboxes of guys to choose from, while guys are spamming all the girls they can find in their area?  \n\n4) Generally, what your advice would be for a beginner? What to write on my profile/what to write to women I'm interested in meeting/what should I generally expect?", "summary": "Online dating - want to try, have some questions"}
{"id": "t3_4j0s9f", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Fluff] Owners of drama kings/queens unite! Share your stories. :)", "post": "I know I'm not the only one who loves reading funny stories about the dogs of r/dogs. :) My most recent Siri-is-a-drama-queen story happened last night:\n\nIt's shedding season, which means I'm up to my eyeballs in floating fur. The only way to survive is to brush my husky/Aussie mix twice a day. She loves to get brushed and usually very patiently lays still while I brush her during a tv episode --sometimes she'll even fall asleep. Last night though, she had had enough after only 10 minutes so she got up to get a drink of water a few feet away from me. I knew she wasn't truly thirsty (she drank water earlier after our evening walk) but she stood there for a good TWO MINUTES slowly drinking water in an attempt to make me disinterested in continuing her brushing session. So she's standing there drinking, drinking, drinking, casually looking over her shoulder to see if I'm still sitting there with the brush (which I was), goes back to drinking, drinking, drinking some more. I could hear my husband cracking up at her antics from the other room.\n\nWhen I finally said, \"oh COME ON. Come back over here. I'm almost done!\", she huffed and stretched. And I don't mean a quick stretch. I mean the most long drawn out stretch you could imagine. I aged 3 years waiting for her to be done stretching. \n\nAnd then when I finally started brushing her again she started fake sneezing on me, which of course makes me shriek and recoil. This is the only move in her playbook that gets me to stop ANYTHING I'm doing and she knows it. So I huff and put the brush away and my smug dog suddenly stops her sneezing fit. Siri: 1, Me: 0.", "summary": "My dog's a drama llama."}
{"id": "t3_4hxx7d", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Rejected from Grad School...don't know where to start", "post": "This is more of a simple vent to relieve my mind. \n\nI live in Pennsylvania and just graduated with a B.S. in Psychology. I applied to grad school for addictions counseling in Oregon, hoping the acceptance into the program would provide a good chance for me to establish myself and my girlfriend in a new area. I most likely got rejected because my gpa is a 3.0 and I didn't pursue an internship (couldn't afford to commit to an unpaid internship). \n\nI still want to move out to Oregon, though I realize it will probably take a little longer now that we'd have to start working right off the bat instead of pursuing our master degrees. I'm going to apply to other programs for the upcoming spring and possibly some social work programs, but it's definitely a tad discouraging.\n\nWhat I've found to be frustrating in my research to find a job with my degree, which I'm sure there are many others in my position, is that it's incredibly difficult to attain an entry level position when they require experience in order to be considered. \n\nI looked at how to get CADC certified to be a substance abuse counselor...but it seems that I need at least 2-3 years of experience before I can achieve the certificate.", "summary": "Got rejected from grad school and finding an entry level position in substance abuse counseling appears next to impossible. I'll land on my feet and figure something out, I'm just a little lost"}
{"id": "t3_c9j6f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is This Possible...?", "post": "So I was going through the subreddits I'm subscribed to and I was curious as to why there isn't a more organized, simple way to find and subscribe to them. \n\nI would imagine a page with collapsible categories and checkboxes to subscribe/unsubscribe would be much more user friendly. Is this feasible? I understand that there are many subreddits -- so you could only include ones with over 100 or 250 subscribers to narrow it down. Additionally, there could be a preference option to keep your subreddit out of the list if you so choose.\n\nI understand that the admins are busy, which is why the title doesn't say \"For the admins\". I know Reddit has some decent programmers, and quite a few decent minds. Is anyone else interested in revamping the subreddit subscription method? I'm sure there are enough programmers here to start a community project.\n\nI apologize for the rambling nature of this post.", "summary": "I think the current layout of the subreddits needs to be organized and I would be willing to contribute to a community programming project to get it done."}
{"id": "t3_26kql7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [22f] and I [21f] like each other but we have boyfriends who are close friends.", "post": "My bf [21m] of 4 years made friends with a guy from work [21m] and he has a gf of 3 years. Consequently we all started hanging out and double dating. Naturally me and his gf became good friends. Both of us are bisexual. I have recently come out (1 year) and my bf and I made an agreement that I can mess around with a girl to figure out my identity. Well the four of us and some other friends got drunk and me and the guys gf started making out and my bf and his friend were fine with it. after that night I developed feelings for her which have intensified over the months. \n\nLast night we were all at a bar and were very drunk. She and I started making out again for practically the whole night and kissing around each others necks and boobs when we got back to my bfs house. She confessed that she has feelings for me and I confessed the same.  Her bf got really annoyed with us and said he was going to go home. she wanted to stay but left with him because she knew he was upset.\n\nMy boyfriend didnt seem to care much about what we did but in the past he said it bothered him a little that I had a crush on her and that he sometimes felt jealous. I don't know what to do. We don't want to break up with our boyfriends but we like each other so much that it will be hard being around each other knowing we probably wont be allowed to be intimate anymore. I want to be able to just be friends with her but its hard to shake the feelings that have lasted since around october. \n\nEvery time I look at her my heart melts and I want her so badly and I know I cant have her anymore. How do we cope with these feelings that are getting stronger so we can stay friends and not harm their friendship and our relationships?", "summary": "my friend and I have feelings for each other and its affecting our relationships with our boyfriends"}
{"id": "t3_2fwh4k", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tortoise or Hare? A question about plateaus.", "post": "First off, thank you guys for all your support and encouragement!  I definitely couldn't have gotten so far in my weightloss journey without this community.\n\nI guess I have hit a bit of a snag, in that I've lost about 2/3 of my goal and am slowing down.  Everybody talks about doing big shocks to your system like eating more or less or drastically changing their excercise to bust through a plateau, but I'm worried something like that may derail me to be quite honest.  I am hoping someone can share any experience that if I just keep on keeping on (eating 1200 calories/day)  I can get through a plateau, even if it is very slowly.", "summary": "Lose it, please let me know if I can slow and steady my way through a plateau, or if I should get my jackrabbit shoes on."}
{"id": "t3_2a0lc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (21,f) be worried if my bf (21, m) & I have yet to say 'I love you' after being together for almost a year?", "post": "Things are going really amazing between us (we're both 21), both sexually and mentally. We get along great, the chemistry is definitely there, and we almost always manage to have a great time even if doing regular things like dinner together or something. \n\nThe thing is, love hasn't been brought up yet. I thought once while having sex he said it, but wasn't 100% sure so I pretended like I hadn't heard. We're spending a lot of time together, seeing each other almost daily in the summer, and for me it feels like it's getting more emotionally charged. Like I spent the night and he was very concerned that I was feeling okay and offered to make me tea in the middle of the night when I couldn't' sleep, does this cute kiss often where he kisses a couple of different spots before my lips, etc.\n\nShould I be worried, or is there no rough time-limit for when saying 'I love you' should come up?", "summary": "time-limit on saying i love you in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2v877o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] girlfriend[17F] hid from me that one of her friends had feelings for her", "post": "So we have been together for only 5 months now, but we love eachother ALOT. This is just a minor issue probably but I would still like some advice on this. \n\nShe has a very close friend (I wouldn't say its her best friend) that she got to know through me. Because he is my friend aswell. \n\nWell one day they were chatting on their phones as per usual and he admitted that he was in love for her etc. \nShe effectively kept it a secret from me and always assured me that she would me EVERYTHING that is going on. I even asked her why they were chatting all the time and asked if one of them was somehow in love with the other. But she denied.\n\nI told her that I love her so much and that I will her too if she wants to know anything. So long story short, recently this friend of ours told me that he had feelings for my gf but never made a move on her. AS far as I know this is probably true. I don't think she would cheat on me. I got mad at my friend (even though it's not his fault for falling in love) and told him to leave.\n\nHe did so immediately and apologized alot. Well now I got to know that my girlfriend kept this a secret from me for 3 months and I only got to know by the friend. \nEven after that I told her that I loved her blunt honesty and everything she didn't tell me. I got a bit angry, but I don't think she did anything physical with him. \n\nSo I want to work it out with her. Do you guys think that No contact between the two would do good or is that out of line to ask?\n\nPlease offer me your advice!!", "summary": "Mutual friend had a crush on girlfriend and she lied to me about it."}
{"id": "t3_499nx0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing on my laptop while sleepwalking", "post": "So I have what I call sleep pissing. I sleepwalk and piss in places that I shouldn't. My parents told me that they caught me pissing out windows, in garbage cans, sometimes in drawers, etc. Its weird, and I don't remember any of it because I'm always asleep. It doesn't really happen now but last year I did piss on our couch, while sleepwalking, apparently.\n\nSo long story short, I woke up this morning, like any other morning. I go to turn my laptop on, and it wasn't working. I thought WTF, and about 5 seconds later I notice the keyboard is wet and there is a puddle under it, also my computer chair is wet. Oh. shit. I thought it was a spill first but I smelled it, and it was 100% piss. I literally must have pissed on the laptop keyboard while asleep.\n\nLuckily it still works, as that would be the most embarrassing way to destroy a laptop. But I still can't believe it happened. There's literally no other explanation, so this is all I have to present. A laptop full of piss, still functioning.", "summary": "pissing while sleepwalking is potentially an expensive activity."}
{"id": "t3_2fcr1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] pursuing my crush [?? F] in my class at uni", "post": "So, start off with some back story, I don't know how far back or relevant we need to go...\n\nSo during high school (it always starts at high school right?)\nI got along ok with females, not great, but i had a girlfriend mostly when i wanted one. However, i was a bit of a drop out and started getting heavy into drugs and became a bit of a social outcast.\n\nSince then i have wisened up and mostly stopped hard drugs (just smoke a bit of pot). Anyway I have been single for about 2 years now, and only have a handful of friends (which i don't even know how i met), and most of these are either from or still in the town i used to live in before i moved for uni. \n\nI have very poor socializing skills, and get quite nervous/anxious in public situations. However i would really like a girlfriend, there's one girl in particular that has been catching my eye. We only have one class together, last semester we were in the same lab class too. I have kinda talked to her, but very little, and it was only about class work. \n\nAnyway, this one day a week, when we have two lectures with an hour break, she is usually studying in the same general area as I am. I have tried building up the courage to actually talk to her, but cannot. I get overridden with nerves. I think it would be possible however to, just kind of walk past, and slip her a note; possibly with my number, and asking if she wants to meet up for coffee (even though i don't drink coffee) or a drink or something... I really don't want to seem creepy or weird or anything though. also the thought of leaving evidence of my humility to show her friends is a bit embarrassing.", "summary": "I have a crush on a chick in my lectures at uni, but don't have the courage to speak to her, is it weird or creepy or bad or anything on writing her a note? (minimal previous contact)"}
{"id": "t3_4ljeg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my friend [20 M] of less than a year, how do I stop being in love with him?", "post": "So my friend and have been friends since last summer after my best friend (19F) introduced us. We were never super close until he drove 7 hours out of state to get me from my dad\u00b4s house. After that, we got super close and I fell for him. He feels no romantic feelings toward me, though. He has had a few girlfriends since we met, and one since we started getting closer. It's to the point where I'm spending more time at his house than my own, we're sleeping in the same bed, and he tells me things that he doesn't tell his best friend. I can't stop feeling like he likes me and that something will eventually happen. There's also the added fact that he was the only one that I went to when I was hospitalized for depression, so he's the main person I go to whenever I'm feeling down or my meds are messing with me. I've been told that I need to drop him completely by my friend, but I'm afraid that it's only going to make me like him more. He has also had every single girl friend in his life have a crush on him then leave him because he doesn't always reciprocate, and I don't want to be like them. I feel like we have something different. I don't want to be just another girl that hurt him because she couldn't control her feelings, but I don't know how to do that, considering he's the only support system I have.", "summary": "I'm in love with my friend and don't want to be. How do I stop??"}
{"id": "t3_2sw04y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Girlfriend [16 F] of four months, she just doesn't get some things that get under my skin.", "post": "Before anyone says it, yes we're young, and yes, it's a young relationship. Reason numbers one and two why I don't want to jeopardize the whole thing.\n\nBut, I have problems with how she doesn't quite understand (or at-least acts like she doesn't understand) why some things she does just \"rub me the wrong way.\" Like when she brings up boyfriends that she says she has absolutely no feelings for anymore, and then I get sort of \"iffy\" about it.\n\nOr when she disregards me completely in a manner that makes her seem either like she is mad or had zero interest in talking to me. \n\nOr, if it's a story you want, how about how she continues to talk to this guy who is obviously flirting with her (I'm not the only individual who has noticed) and she says he annoys her but won't quit talking to him despite me warning her I will take it into my own hands if it doesn't stop.\n\nOr that she's just going to tell me how much she misses me and can't wait to see my again but first she has to spend a while talking to this older dude, but what worries me is that she specified it was just to talk, and that it's going to be somewhere I won't be near (another area of the building.)\n\nI don't mean to sound like I think I should be the center of every aspect of second of her life, but JFC, she knows this stuff gets on my nerves, and I tell myself I trust her and I shouldn't care but I just do! I can't get over it. \n\nBut ranting a little here has made me feel better. I'm still steaming about that last thing, though. Apparently that's happening Tuesday.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't understand why some things she does I just don't like or feel secure about. Like specifying when she's going to talk to another guy when she's specifically not near me, and feeling the need to tell me."}
{"id": "t3_3cc0wf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M, University Student] recently asked a girl out and I have no idea what to do", "post": "I really struggle connecting with people, and the only other \"experience\" I have is holding hands with a girl that I since then never talked to.\n\nNow I asked out a girl I know back from School (that took me two years and a big load of eleventh hour panic and it was on the last possible occasion, her graduation) and I have now idea how to do dating. \n\nOn the other hand, texting with her is a pain, because she does about one answer per day, but texting may be the only thing I can do without being terrible at ir.\n\nMy head is full with things to do, but all of it doesn't seem good...\n\nMovies, no chance of socializing; a restaurant would be to generic...\nWhat do you do on a first date? And how does kissing even work?\n\nEverybody, please go ahead and tell me that I'm just a normal late-bloomer in panic, but if you have any helpful advice on how to not screw this up, I would be gratefull.\n\nIf there's any further information that I need to provide, but forgot, please tell me. I'm learning.", "summary": "Late bloomer asks a girl out, has no idea how anything works"}
{"id": "t3_f960d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any practicing Architects/post-graduate architects out there with advice for a junior student with doubts?", "post": "More than halfway through what they say is one of the hardest majors... I have doubts of whether I will make it to graduation. Not because of grades (I keep a 3.5 GPA and the school pays me to stay a student), but because I feel like if I follow through with Architecture as a career I could lose any type of life outside of work. I love Architecture, but I'm still reluctant to take the full plunge and kiss a  regular lifestyle goodbye. Maybe all the sleepless nights have added up, but I really would like to pursue music as a career. Played a lot as a teenager, still play a lot. I would really like to take it seriously again.", "summary": "I'm considering leaving college to pursue a music career and I need you to convince me I shouldn't."}
{"id": "t3_54k1i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Who is wrong her or me ?", "post": "Hey guys, i'm posting here to see the opinion of other people to see what they think about this.\n\nSo yesterday I was moving homes, for that I called 1 friend so he could come and help me out. He had another friend with him (guy) and 2 girls. One being his girlfriend and the other one the sister's girlfriend which his already in a relationship. So to sum it up we were 3 guys and 2 girls to help me move out.\n\nOh and btw, my girlfriend was unable to come as she had to work.\n\nSo I told my girlfriend that only my one friend was coming as I did not know the rest were coming.\n\nAfter we finished moving, I told her that I was going to drop off everyone who helped me out. So she asked who helped me and I told her the names of all those persons.\n\nThat's were she got upset. She got angry to the fact that I did not tell her that the other 2 girls were coming as soon as I saw them. But I did tell her when we finished.\nSo from that on she as been arguing and arguing. Because she says that I hid it from her.. \n\nWho is in the right and who is in the wrong here?\n\nLike those she have a reason to get angry about that..?\n\nIf you need any clarification about something feel free to ask.\n\nWe are both 20 years old and have been together for almost 2 years now.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "(She got mad because 2 girls came out to help me move and I didn't tell her until we finished because I didn't even know they were coming.)"}
{"id": "t3_f6ug9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to go to a music school... but I already have a successful job ... what should I do?", "post": "I can give more details if asked, but right now I'm basically going to explain whats going on. \n\nI work as a sound engineer. I'm a lead at the company. Most audio people would think I have got it good! Though I don't get paid well, I like my job. \n\nRecently I have taken towards piano. Actually it's more like I have been studying the piano for years, and for whatever reason... I want to master the instrument. I don't mean learn how to play but learn music, I want to go back to school to learn how to play the Piano and I want to become good. I want to become amazing. I want to learn rules about music composition that are beyond what we learn in music theory. I want to learn how composers like Beethoven and Bach made the pieces of music as they did, with the passion and dedication they put into each and every note.  \n\nBasically what I'm saying is ... I want to go to a music conservatory. I don't want to dream it anymore, I want to BE IT! \n\nReddit, I know that I have to learn the piano for at least a year (at least 3 hours a day minimum) before I can even consider applying to a music conservatory. I don't even know if they will accept someone as old as me (I'm 26) I don't know how it works. \n\nI don't know how it will work financially, I don't know. But I want to know. \n\nI have always dreamed of going to the Colburn School in LA (I'm a resident in LA).... am I an idiot for wanting to leave this job and go back to school? I have friends who are graduating and going back to school to learn something else because they can't find work in music. I have no family who can support me. I'm on my own here in LA. \n\nI have an associates degree in the art of recording (engineering in audio basically). \n\nWhat do I do? Where do I start?", "summary": "I want to quit my job and go back to school to learn music, what would I need to be able to do this?"}
{"id": "t3_l2mfg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most ridiculous hypothetical you've made up in your head?", "post": "I was just walking my dog, a 30ish pound fluffy spaniel mix, and there was a noise by the creek we were walking next to. There have been recent reports of mountain lion sightings in my area, so I started to think out this story in my head. In this story my dog beat the crap out of this mountain lion, taking an ear as a trophy. He lost a paw but had a peg leg to replace it. He was later awarded some medal of bravery for his actions and lived out his life signing autographs for his bad assery. \n\nAbout five minutes after I made up this story a rabbit hopped in front of us and Finn, my dog, yipped and cowered in fear.", "summary": "I made up a story where my dog killed a mountain lion. What is your crazy hypothetical?"}
{"id": "t3_4kgcqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have been seeing a girl [20 F] for a few months. I went home after the semester and I feel like she isn't paying me any attention.", "post": "At college, I started seeing this girl.  We've been friends for forever, and we started being more sexual/going on dates starting a few months ago.  Before I left town for the summer, the two of us had decided to be exclusive for the summer, unless we talk to each other and things change.  \n\nGiven this, I've kinda had this expectation that we'd talk at least 3-4 days out of the week.  So far, it seems like i'm usually the one to initiate conversation, but when she replies (she is an awful texter), she seems really into it.  However, there are times when days will go by and i'll wait for her to initiate contact, and i'll not hear anything at all. \n\nI've tried a lot to put aside time to talk with her, but I feel like every time she talks back, she has to go in a few minutes, or just falls asleep, which really bugs me.  I feel like the two of us get along well, and I know she's a little commitment phobic, which is the reason i'm not sure what to do.\n\nAm I expecting too much?  Does this girl even deserve my time anymore?  Should I talk to her about how I feel?  I just don't know what to do anymore.  She's generally a really independent person, so this behavior isn't exactly unexpected, but I thought since I'm not even able to see her that we'd be able to communicate some more.", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to seems really hard to get to.  What should I do from this point forward?"}
{"id": "t3_2mr4a9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take a photo of a Will Ferrell look-alike", "post": "So, i went to my step-brother's karate lesson today and I was reeeally bored. So i looked up from my iPod and saw what looked like Will Ferrell. so i thought to myself \"Hmmm... If i take a photo of him and saying i saw Will Ferrell i'm sure to get lots of likes on that photo!\" \n\nLet's go back a few weeks. I was playing MW2 while my mum was out shopping and she was sending me messages, but I couldn't hear the notifications because i had turned the system sound down as far as it can go. So when i went to go open the door for her, she said \"Didn't you get my messages?\" I knew she would send some, but i couldn't hear them. So i turned the volume back up.\n\nBack to today. So i look like im playing a game, (Let's say, Bitcoin Billionaire) I tap the screen as fast as i can, the press the take photo button. That very second seemed like a hour. My iPod has never ever been that loud. Ever. He looks up from his phone and looks at me because of the shutter sound. No jokes, we had the most awkward 5 second eye contact. He gets up and stands infront of me and says \"Did you just take a photo of me?\" Of course i say no. He insists of seeing the photo i took. So i say I just took a selfie. He wants me to prove it. So i try to find a selfie of me in a uniform. Took me a good 20 seconds. Accidentily chose a photo with my old haircut. He told me to delete it and to stay away from him and to never go on my iPod near him again. Won't be seeing him for a while.", "summary": "Taking a photo of a look-alike can sometimes lead to a near restraining order"}
{"id": "t3_4lb45q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23F] is upset that I [25M] need to go on training for a new job", "post": "I have been trying to get a new job because I hate my desk job and was looking for something really different. I was in the process of applying and competing for three different law enforcement type jobs. I finally received an offer and it's just conditional on me completing the training. The training facility is about 6 hours from where I live now and I would need to go there for several months to complete it, but I would come home on weekend or meet up with her somewhere. \n\nMy girlfriend has known this would be coming for the entirety of our relationship (3 years) as I've talked about if a lot and she always encouraged me and told me to go for it but now she is saying she doesn't want me to go and thinks I should keep working where I am. She doesn't have any good reason for why I shouldn't go, just that she thinks I need to work for a different department in the same company that I'm at and then I'll enjoy my job more. \n\nShe has tried to deter me by saying she doesn't think I'm a good fit for the position anymore. I'm a perfect fit for the position which is why I've been offered the job. She doesn't want me staying in the dorms and wants me to get my own apartment for the duration of the training but I think it would be fun to stay there and meet some new people. \n\nI'm not sure what to do because I want this job, and I want to stay in the dorms, but she is completely against it all for seemingly no good reason. I know it's shitty of me to move out for several months but I think it's the best thing I can do for myself right now because I'm going fucking crazy at my current job.", "summary": "my girlfriend doesn't want me to go away on training for a new job I got."}
{"id": "t3_ffayx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can a girl love you and still date somebody else? Story time.", "post": "So I was meaning to get this off my chest for a while, here it goes.\n\nIn December 2009, I started talking to this girl I met online. I didn't think anything of it, and all we did was just talk online, or text. Soon after, she called me on the phone, and we became pretty serious. She is an amazing person with an addictive personality after talking countless hours with her. The problem? She is 35 with 2 kids and I'm 21 studying to become an Accountant. For the longest time we both wanted a relationship so badly, but I told myself it would never work because we are both in 2 completely different stages of our life. I wanted kids and she already had kids. So after fighting her desire for a relationship, we became best friends, and we are both extremely happy. \n\nShe broke up with her ex boyfriend (who is around my age), and after a year and half, they recently got back together. I feel a little be crappy about it, but I keep reminding myself that I was the one who didn't want a relationship. She is forever grateful that I came into her life, and says I was the best thing to ever happen to her life. She had a dark time where she fell into depression and she tells me that I am the reason for her getting out of that depression period. \n\nEven after she got back with her ex, she still tells me she loves me, and will forever do so because of all the things I helped her with to get rid of her depression. She goes on further by saying that given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me because she knew I was the one. I feel the same way. You may call me an idiot for thinking that way, but it's how I feel, i'm entitled to have my heart express the feelings I have for this girl. \n\nAnyways, how would you feel if the girl you were dating was just dating you because the guy she really wanted told her it could never happen?", "summary": "I'm 21, she is 35. She got back with her ex, and tells me she still loves me. Given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me, but I told her it could never happen."}
{"id": "t3_1nrexz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm upset with the mob mentality of reddit lately. We're supposed to be better and smarter tan the rest of the world.", "post": "IN MY OPINION - The intelligence and credibility of reddit is really going downhill. The political/news stories used to be fact checked and from reputable sources. But lately, it's turned into what the Tabloids are: controversial headlines that, instead of selling magazines, solicit \"upvotes\" and comments. The state of reddit lately serves as a reminder of how gullible and swayed people can be by emotions and fixed beliefs. Don't believe everything you read, please! Read the whole body of the articles and please, please, please, doubt everything unless the source is credible. People want you to believe in the shocking and offensive. Have a mind of your own and think for yourself. /endrant.", "summary": "People believe everything they read/see on the internet and TV and it saddens/scares me."}
{"id": "t3_zvtjp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My supervisor is an unprofessional fucking asshole cunt!", "post": "I have had an asshole for a stupervisor since February. She is completely unprofessional and can't do her job for shit. She lies, steals, and talks shit about everyone. She fucks up time sheets for people she takes a dislike to. I have done my best to just stay clear of her, and remain polite and friendly, so she would have no reason to write me up. I haven't turned her in for ANY of the stupid fucked up shit she does, really because I would feel very spiteful and vindictive if I did so. Now, two months ago, we all got the news that she will no longer be the boss after September. I was so fucking glad! So today, I asked her to fix my fucked up time sheet *again*. She tried to refuse, saying it was \"too late\" (she didn't want to do the 5 minute job of fixing it), but I held my ground. She says \"OMG, I can't wait for this shit to be over with, I am so sick of being a supervisor, blah blah blah\". Now this didn't upset me or piss me off, she is a lazy bitch after all. What pisses me of is the retaliatory write up I got for asking the asshole to DO HER JOB. When I questioned the write up, she became very rude of course, and it was all I could do to not tell her to fuck off right there. I have a very long fuse but once I reach the end of it I will tell anyone off, boss or not. I am so, so fucking mad, I just can't stand it, even have a damn headache! Ugh I had to get that shit off my chest.", "summary": "title says it all"}
{"id": "t3_2i3409", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M], a recovering broken heart needs dating advice for future.", "post": "So I am on my 2nd week of NC and the prospect of finding an awesome women is helping me get through this. I just want to clarify that I am still recovering and I don't plan to date anytime soon, but I thought I would ask for help now.\n\nSo, I met my ex-fiancee through University where it was really easy to connect with people. Now that I am no longer in University how do I go about dating? Most of my friends don't really have many friends who are female. I just really don't know how to date anymore...kind of embarrassing.\n\nDo people still go to bars and pick up girls? I don't really want to go to clubs to pick up girls, because I think the stigma there is you don't really go to find a long term relationship....I don't know...could be wrong. \n\nI don't want to do online dating. I would rather meet people in person. What do you guys suggest? Anyone just get a number from a waitress or something? People please, I feel like John Snow...I know nothing... :(\n\nLadies, what is the most appropriate way for a guy to approach you without being classified as a creeper? I am a pretty genuine guy, I am good looking but I am a little shy. \n\nPersonal experience would help too. Thanks all.", "summary": "25M doesn't know how to approach dating and needs help"}
{"id": "t3_15cuzb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Issues with my father", "post": "Since I was very young My father [49] has been very emotionally abusive to myself M [17] and my family (Mother [48] and sisters [16] and [12]). I grew up with a lot of self esteem problems. Basically when we did things wrong as children, rather than using things like \"time outs\" he would resort to belittling us, and telling us how worthless we were. As I got older my self-esteem and social skills have improved so much thanks to some terrific people in my life. As my self-esteem has grown, my relationship with my father is become rather bitter. We fight constantly, and while neither of us really hold a grudge it's never really resolved either  making each fight much worst than the last. I used to try to be the bigger person and apologize for upsetting him(usually when I did nothing wrong), but that never got me anywhere other than   him acting as though he deserved more than my apology. I'm pretty laid back person, but when ever he talking down to me, or even worse  my mom or my sisters it enrages me. I think of all the years of low self-esteem and depression I went through. The hard thing is, he isn't some heartless monster. He loves us a lot, and he gets really upset after he hurts us. I really want to help him, but I don't know how to get through to him.", "summary": "I really want to improve the relationship with my Dad, but I don't know where to begin. He is very emotionally abusive to our family, and he not only hurts us, but himself as well."}
{"id": "t3_13emoi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am making a life decision that I believe will benefit mine and my girlfriends [20F] future and need to know if i'm out of line or not.", "post": "So we've been dating for a year and 2 months now, im (a 20M) going to post-secndary school and my girlfriend (a 20F) dropped out of post-secondary (because it wasn't for her). \n\nLast summer i moved back home (an hour and a half away) so that i would be able to make good money and live without paying rent all summer to help me get through school without any debt and to have extra money aside for when i'm done school. Last year there was non-stop fighting about this for 4 months because she kept saying i didn't care about her or anything because i was going home (which i felt was the best decision for my/our future). I'd drive back to visit her every other weekend since she didn't have a vehicle and couldn't borrow her parents for the weekend (she still lives at home).\n\nNow this year is my third year at post-secondary and i brought up that i am probably going home for the summer again because its a guaranteed job this year and i will have a raise when i get back there. But it is the same story as last year, she is telling me i don't care about her even though i make sure to see her every other weekend at the least (this year she might have a car by then and we will probably visit each other every weekend), and she is saying that it shows that i don't value her and our relationship enough and that she wants to take a \"break\" during the summer if i go home, by break she means we wouldn't be technically dating and if she found another guy then whatever happens happens.\n\nIm trying to always reassure her that it wont be as bad as the year before because we will have been together even longer and will do everything we can to make it bearable (even though it is only an hour and a half away she acts like i'm moving across the country). But i was wondering if you guys all think i'm out of line and that i am truly being a bad boyfriend by moving home or if i'm being rational?", "summary": "I moved home which is an hour and a half away from my girlfriend last summer to make money for school and am thinking of doing the same this year. She says i don't care about her because of this, am i in the wrong with my decision?"}
{"id": "t3_3r3254", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] has upset my gf [24F] of 10 months by talking to random girls from the internet.", "post": "First Reddit post so I hope I'm doing this right. \n\nI've long had serious self image issues. I never thought I could ever have a girl like me. I learned at a young age, females are much more approachable and nice online.\n\nI had my first relationship at 29. I spent the whole time trying to convince myself I was worthy. I tried to internalize all the nice things females said online about me.\n\nI joined a dating site but didnt want to meet anyone unless they forced the issue. Then I met a girl I felt really comfortable with, well, comfortable for me.\n\nI had a tough time giving up talking to girls I knew I'd never meet because it felt like without that, I'd realize I wasn't worthy. But for my latest gf, I cut it down to none.\n\nShe jokes about having a hot and cold relationship. She can literally can jokingly say she hates me one minute and say she loves me the next. I couldn't have handled that years ago, and even now it gives me a sick feeling in my stomach.\n\nBut I dealt with it and told myself I could do it.\n\nA few months ago a girl I had talked to previously online messaged me. She lives on the other side of the country. I messed up and encouraged the conversation.\n\nI didn't want to meet her...I didn't want sex talk....I didn't want a girl at the side. I wanted a reminder I was good enough.\n\nOK, I'm pathetic. I admit it. The gf found out. I lied in fear then told her the truth. I feel sick. So sick. I felt a little sick each time I responded to a message before the gf found out. But now knowing I could lose her, I am that 1000 fold. \n\nAny help? Advice?\n\n(", "summary": ") I was talking to a random online girl through text, gf found it, she is very upset and hurt."}
{"id": "t3_suru5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do I need Ritalin?", "post": "I've generally been a pretty lackadaisical guy when it comes to commitments and whatnot. I have let myself slip into some pretty crummy situations regarding my credit and debt etc etc unrelated.\n\nHowever, this morning I took a friend of a friend of mine's Ritalin, and since taking it, I have completely figured out a 3 year financial plan for myself, including average income I will be expecting vs rent+loan repayments+general costs and debts. I've also gotten into contact with the three different institutes that I am in debt to and have arranged an organised and civilised direct debit payment plan solution. After writing up my scheme, I figured out, to my surprise, that I have actually around $1800 a month to do with whatever. I have now put all of this information into my calendar on my computer and am going to start strictly budgeting and managing my cash BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAHBLAH.\n\nAll of the above, mixed with that another friend of mine got diagnosed with ADHD at the start of the year and has been prescribed Ritalin, is really making me believe that obviously the Ritalin has helped me do a lot of things that a normal functioning adult should be able to do, without a second, adolescent or resentful thought.\n\nPlease give me your opinions on what you think would be the most beneficial step for a 21 year old with the next 2-3 years being very important to be stable and stuck to routine. If I were to pursue a prescription for Ritalin, what would be the best way to go about it?", "summary": "I HAD SOME RITALIN AND NOW I'M CONVINCED I HAVE ADHD"}
{"id": "t3_f84ux", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Concerned driver/his insurance is trying to eff me the hard way.", "post": "So last week I rear ended a motorist.  The light turned green, he was the 4th car, everyone started to move.  I glanced down to make sure my phone was off and in my center console.  When I looked up I realized the driver had started to go but stopped suddenly.  Biff, bang boom, I hit him at no more than 5mph.  \n\nI honestly didn't think anything would come of it since he had no damage to his bumper.  I have a solid steel push bumper on the front of my jeep, and the only \"damage\" I saw was a 2-3 inch scratch on the bumper which may or may not have come from me.  I have a picture of the bumper taken with my cell phone.\n\nToday I get a phone call from his insurance company saying they will have an estimate done today.  I am kinda freaked since they said they will have an estimate as if they expect damage.  \nI haven't been in a car accident in over 15 years, and I am not sure what I can and cannot due.  I am also afraid to inform my insurance company in case the other drivers comes back zero damage.", "summary": "hit a dude @ 5mph now his insurance company is working up a claim.  Not sure how to handle"}
{"id": "t3_2hx8u0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The bane of my life: Stretch Marks.", "post": "Honestly, this is probably the wrong place to post this but I couldn't think of anywhere that would be as nice about it or as helpful. I'm trying to gain muscle mass and weight for sports and because people made fun of me for being small but now I feel insecure because my arms and chest are covered with stretch marks.\n\nI've been using Bio Oil and eating almonds to boost my Vitamin E count to try and reduce them but it's not working well. If I could just get them reduced ever so slightly I think I could feel better.\nI've read the FAQ, watched the video, and know they will fade in time but is there anything I can do to hide them?", "summary": "Stretch marks suck."}
{"id": "t3_3m0uvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] want to reconnect with my ex [19F]", "post": "I caused the breakup back in February of this year. Since then we've been on and off with talking/not talking to each other.\n\nIt got to the point where I felt like I cared more than she did, so I cut her off completely.\n\nI tried to hate her, I tried to make it so that I wouldn't go back, I even made a heavy list of reasons not to ever want her back.\n\nThe truth is, no matter how hard I try, the core emotion is love, I can't bring myself to hate her, I just want to know how she is, how she's feeling and I want to be the reason for her smile just one more time.\n\nIt's going to be her birthday soon, I was gonna send a card to her.\n\nIt was gonna read:\n\nTo my dearest (her name)\n\nI hope you are having a lovely day. I miss you, incredibly so.\n\nLove from (my name)\n\nIs it too much or too less to tell her that I miss her?", "summary": "I miss my ex, is my way of reconnecting too much or too less?"}
{"id": "t3_1c418x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25/f] Chinese with two older sisters [29 and 33] and no longer want to address them by their formal family titles", "post": "For my entire life, I have addressed my older sisters by their family titles ArJieJie (second older sister) and DaJieJie (big older sister). I was 'forbidden' from saying their actual names and used these titles as a form of respect for elders, something that's pretty important in Chinese culture. We were all born and raised in the US, and all our friends seem to think it was funny and we usually just laughed it off. I think I'd like to start calling them by their actual names at this point for a few reasons:\n\n- We're adults now, it just seems silly to use this antiquated system. I'm a successful, self sufficient woman now (even more successful than one of them), and I believe I should be respected as well. \n\n- I had to pick up one of my sisters from the hospital a few weeks ago since she passed out drunk with puke on herself on a freaking subway car. That experience was pretty eye opening and I lost all respect for her. \n\n- My boyfriend is older than both of them. He's sensed that since he is 'tied to me', they do not respect him, which he is not down for. (One time he joked and called one of them young and told her to respect her elders, but she replied that since he's with me, she doesn't have to). \n\nI talked to one of my mom about it and she said I should just ask them if they are okay with it, but they were not down with the plan. \n\nI see how this could be as simple as just starting to call them by their names, seems easy enough. But I wanted to get some feedback anyway - I'm going against a lifetime of conditioning and every part of me is resisting even though I rationally understand that it shouldn't be a big deal. I'd love to hear about other people's experiences going against hierarchical structures in their cultures as well.", "summary": "I called my older sisters by their formal names, now I want to call them their given names, they resist, I'd like to handle this delicately and not be a bitch."}
{"id": "t3_13v0ga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "bf (25) uses message boards that can filter by state...normal or should I be worried?", "post": "We have been together for 2.5 years, I'm 26, he's 25.  I found out he goes to those message boards where you can \"filter sluts\" by state.  anonib is the one that I know of for sure.  Should I be worried...should I bring it up?  Is this something that's normal?  If I do bring it up what should I say?  There have been no red flags to indicate that he may be cheating.  I totally get porn.  I love porn, he loves porn that doesn't bug me...but I feel a tad concerned if he is looking at these image boards of girls in the same state as ours....do people actually meet up?", "summary": "Boyfriend goes on anonib to look at girls in our state...normal or should I be concerned?  How should I approach the topic..."}
{"id": "t3_2v92ng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] and [28M] got hot and heavy one night but I feel he pulling away from me? He is really \"busy\" or losing interest?", "post": "I've been dating this guy for more than 2 months. We hit it off well and been taking things slowly. We see each other at least once a week and we communicate via text on a daily basis. He would text me in the morning, afternoon and before bedtime. It used to be a lot of texting but we calmed down to a decent \"normal\" amount. \n\nLast weekend, I came over to his place and we become intimate (no sex though). It was amazing to say the least. I thought it would have made us grown closer but after that I have been hearing from him less and less. \n\nHe has told me he is busy with work, classes and moving into a new place. So yes, those are legit reasons to not be as responsive. However, it would take him 10+ hours just to get back to me and I would see him being active on social media. He would leave me hanging when we text, he no longer tells me goodnight, and he hasn't made any plans whatsoever with me. I even offered to help him with the move but he totally ignored it. BUT when he does text me, he apologizes for not getting back to me or he would tell me what he was doing and ask about my day...\n\nWe haven't had \"the talk\" yet and we didn't discuss any plans for Valentine's Day either. Is he slowly fading from me? Is he having second thoughts or should I just continue being patient with him with how \"busy\" he has gotten? -even if he has been just as busy before yet he still finds the time to communicate with me...", "summary": "We get intimate, thought it would bring us closer but I feel he is pulling away from me even if he has legit reasons to his lack of contact."}
{"id": "t3_di2l0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My chihuahua wont stop shitting in my apartment.", "post": "Dear AskReddit,\n\n   This problem has been going on for a while, and I decided I'd ask this fine community their opinion. \n\n   I own a chihuahua mix that wont stop shitting all over my apartment while I'm gone. Regardless of whether I spend an hour or 5 minutes outside with him before I leave for school, I can always expect to come home to little milk-duds strewn all over my apartment.\n\n   I'd venture to say he has abandonment issues since I adopted him from a shelter. When I come home all he wants to do is sleep on my lap, and when I have to leave him with other people he whines the entire time I'm gone. So it's got to be a situation of nerves.\n\n   How can I stop this behavior? I can't catch him in the act since he only does it when I'm gone. The shortest time I've been gone when it has happened is around 30 minutes. \n\n   Any suggestions would be appreciated.", "summary": "Chihuahua shits in apartment when I'm gone, looks like someone didn't clean the raisinettes spill in an empty movie theatre"}
{"id": "t3_onw66", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Now we know what you know, but what is the darkest secret SOMEONE ELSE knows about YOU that makes you cringe knowing they do?  I'll start.", "post": "This is pretty tame by comparison to some of the comments from the [first post,] but here it goes.\n\nFirst off, disclaimer: I'm a bi-curious guy who keeps a very straight persona, but is in no way homophobic or bigoted unlike a lot of the straight acting, gay bashing, closeted jerks that seem to keep coming up on here.\n \nSo, my gay friend and I went down to visit another friend of ours for his bachelor party and after a night of lots of drinking and partying we went back to the hotel room we were sharing.  Once back and in separate beds I thought that because he was a good friend of mine and gay that I should tell him all about my homosexual encounters.  I then proceeded to open up about how the night before I was in a threesome with a guy and his wife, blew the guy, loved it; I told him about the other times where I've blown two guys at once etc. (not intriguing enough by Reddit standards).  Next morning, wake up, realize I probably didn't dream that drunken conversation last night and ask him how long we'd been chatting the night before and he responded, long enough for you to tell me you've deepthroated an 8\" inch cock.  Now he'll occasionally send me texts asking how the dick sucking business is coming along.", "summary": "Got drunk, told gay friend I blow guys from time to time, he teases me for not being open about it."}
{"id": "t3_yjzka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i need help on how to calmly approach my boyfriend and his drinking.", "post": "I(mid twenties f) have been with my boyfriend(also mid twenties) for a little under a year moved in with him a few months ago. We've always butt heads about his drinking but i feel like it's not getting any better, especially since we've moved in with his friend who has a drinking problem. I come from a long history of alcoholics and i don't want my past to become my future. I love him very much but feel that if he truly loved me he'd respect my feelings and control his drinking. It's never gotten out of hand but it doesn't make our arguments any easier either. And forget trying to resolve anything when he's like that i just get upset and he doesn't seem to think that i should be and then a fight ensues. I've tried talking to him before and he'd tone it down and then our next fight would happen and he'd just get drunk and change back to his old ways. I was hoping someone can give me tips on how to calmly talk to him about it because i've run out ways to do so. I love him very much and hope that he can understand how his drinking is becoming destructive to our relationship.", "summary": "my twentysomething year old boyfriend and i, also twentysomething, don't see eye to eye on his drinking, after a year, and it's tearing us apart."}
{"id": "t3_lzyyn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help coming up with a response to, \"Hey, do you need glasses?\"", "post": "Here is some background. I was born with a disability that puts my vision at 20/300. The issue is that there is scaring on my retina (its genetic). This means that glasses won't work. Now I can understand people getting curios when they see me half an inch from my monitor or a textbook, but when was the last time anyone asked wheelchair-bound person if he/she should get prosthetics? I don't mean to crass, but shouldn't occur to people that a dude at a technical college knows what glasses are?\n\nSo basically, I want your help coming up with a good response. I have tried and tried, but i just come off looking like the bad guy. I want a clever, subtle, way of making them realize how stupid their comment was. Any thoughts?", "summary": "need help trolling people when they ask about my vision and why I don't wear glasses."}
{"id": "t3_4accky", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What should I do if I'm interested in multiple careers?", "post": "I'll provide some context. I'm at that age to start looking for colleges and thinking about possible career paths. I'm interested in multiple things, so I can't quite say that I'm definitely going to do one thing for the rest of my life. I usually tell others that I'll go into engineering since I've been doing robotics for a while, but to be honest, I don't know if I'm that interested. I like cooking, music, art, and building things, but I fear that I'll be out done or out picked by those who just want to do one thing in their life.", "summary": "I'm a \"jack of all trades, master of none\" type of person, and I don't know what career to pursue."}
{"id": "t3_2ngolq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [19 F] of 3 months are currently discussing our relationship if I decide to transfer colleges.", "post": "I am in the process of looking and applying to schools with a major more suited to my interests. While discussing this with my girlfriend, we naturally discuss the situation of a long-distance relationship. \n\nShe had a long-distance relationship when she left high school, and said it lasted 2 months due to the difficulty. She also says she was raised being told by her mother that she should 'never be in a long distance relationship.'\n\nWhen I grew up my father traveled often, so I was 'raised' where my parents actually had a semi long-distance relationship. \n\nSome of the schools on my list are within reasonable driving distance from my perspective (<2 hours). It just seems like she is so afraid of 'long-distance', that she may not be interested in trying and I'm not even sure if/how it would work. That mindset hurts a lot, and is causing me to struggle in how to proceed with this whole ordeal.", "summary": "Looking at the possibility of a long-distance relationship, is it something that either parties should take 'convincing' to try."}
{"id": "t3_2yhruc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend [17M] of 4 months, not sure what to do", "post": "Well hi there. This is my first relationship and his so we're going really slow (haven't kissed, almost never hold hands in public) which I don't mind. We started talking about a year ago and went on a date mid-last year, but we didn't actually get together until later in the year. Both of us are introverts and sometimes will sit in silence together for half an hour at a time with just a few words shared.\n\nWe have 2 classes together and spend a lot of time together, however after school when we are relatively alone, he will put his arm around my shoulder and I don't know what I'm supposed to do, like should I put my arm around his waist, too? And should I initiate the arm around the waist thing sometimes? Because I want to be close to him all the time but he's mentioned how he likes the idea of not being really into the whole PDA thing and I worry about if he would like that or not and then end up not going for it.  \n\nI guess my second question is that I know I don't talk a lot (I feel like I just never have anything interesting to say or contribute and sometimes I prefer the silence) however sometimes I feel like it's kind of awkward and distant but then we'll text right after and have a great conversation and I just don't know if I'm just reading too much into it?", "summary": "Me with first boyfriend with a few small questions. How to be more affectionate and conversational"}
{"id": "t3_3b76yo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] can't make any friendships. Rely solely on the support of my boyfriend [25M]", "post": "When I was a kid I had a big social circle. I was the smallest and youngest so I can remember being picked on a few times but I was by no means an outcast. In high school I had two close friends, a boyfriend, and typically anywhere from 5-10 friends who I would talk to daily. I was always saying hi to people in the halls, laughing, and getting along with almost everyone.\n\nI went to college and my life took a dark turn. I started drinking too much and met people who were pretty terrible that would treat me badly (encourage binge drinking -- just selfish people who wanted someone to party with). I gained 40lbs. I moved across the country after that year to get a fresh start. I lost the weight eventually, but I was alone in a new city by myself and I never really met any new friends at my new college because I was focused on school work and weight loss. I rushed for a sorority but it felt like a huge commitment that I couldn't take on. I just could never relate to anyone or bring the friendships past typical in-class chatting.\n\nNow I'm out of college and the only person that I have is my boyfriend who I started dating in about 1 year ago. We're really close and I see him almost everyday. I haven't gotten a job yet (still going on interviews), but when I do, I'm afraid I'm not going to be able to make friends with my workmates. I just don't really know how to have friendships anymore. I try hanging out with my boyfriend's friends with him there but I get really nervous and don't know what to say because I don't want to come off as stupid.\n\nI know that I was outgoing and confident all throughout my childhood and into my teens, but I don't know where that went or how to get it back! I want to enjoy being around people again and form relationships.", "summary": "I used to be outgoing and surrounded by friends, after moving across the country for college and three years later, after graduating, my only friend is my boyfriend and I'm having trouble starting new friendships because I've lost my confidence."}
{"id": "t3_y5y6c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How concerned should I be about the Quantitative Section of my GRE tomorrow?", "post": "I'm an English Lit. Major, applying to various MA,PHD, and MA/PHD programs. I'm going to be taking my GRE tomorrow (taking the Literature subject GRE in November). I've spent the last month studying for the Verbal section, with only the last day or so looking at the Quantitative section. I should add that I haven't even touched a math problem in two years, nor have I ever had a decent grasp of mathematics. Will my (presumably) excellent score in the Verbal section make up for my (presumably) extremely piss-poor score on the Quantitative portion? One of my colleagues is worse at math than I am, and she was able to get into a grad program with her high verbal, average math score. Is that the norm? Furthermore, is that expected of English majors?", "summary": "How much have my fellow English majors studied for the Quantitative portion of the GRE? Is it important at all?"}
{"id": "t3_1cz7zw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I took the Internets Advice... You guys suck", "post": "So I just broke up with my girlfriend (HB8) after taking advice from the web... Oh Boy am I fucking retarded!!!\nWe recently went on a break, as she was suffering with depression and needed to go home, I was cool about this  I then started looking up advice of similar relationships on the internet... Oh boy does reddit hate women or what!! \nEvery solution seem to be break up with her, she is cheating on you, she is walking all over you etc. As I was in the midst of reading this FANTASTIC ADVICE! *ring ring... ring ring* my girlfriend called...\n\nWhat happened next... well In this clear thinking mind set it did not go down well, I still dont really know what I said, but I do now it was faked and forced and not me at all. I felt like a kid playing with matches, i could see the family barn burning down before me ;,(\n\nSo here I am missing the girl I love... sitting here throwing my head against the wall as punishment...\n\nI know now the internet is just strangers and i wont rely on there judgment anymore...", "summary": "Broke up with my GF because reddit said it was the only thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_3dwore", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M 20] and my GF [F 19] of 1 yr started dating as Christians, I have recently lost my faith, and I know that she will break up with me if I'm not a Christian.", "post": "We have been absolutely inseparable since we met 2 years ago at college. We were best friends all of freshman year, and decided to start dating our sophomore year. It's been absolutely wonderful, and throughout it all I've always considered myself a Christian, even if it was on a lesser scale than her faith. \n\nThere would be times where she would break down in tears about how we never read the Bible together or how she didn't feel that she was growing in Christ, and so on, and I would sincerely feel awful and try to be a better Christian.\n\nSo this past summer we are studying abroad in different countries, and at the beginning we would use the summer apart to \"find ourselves\" spiritually. It's been weird having conversations about (lack of) faith over skype and stuff, so we've kinda ignored it. Her faith has stayed the same, while I've pretty much confirmed that I'm agnostic. \n\nI need to tell her at some point, but it's so hard. She's been my best friend for two years, and one of only a couple friends I have at college. It will be a very lonely semester if I decide to tell her.", "summary": "My GF and I will most likely break up if I tell her I'm not a Christian, and this will destroy my social circle, as most of my friends I met through her. I don't know how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_t300c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"If you weren't so far away, I'd come and make you cheat on your boyfriend.\" Reddit, dafuq do I say to my good friend who sent me that? Anyone else deal with buddies who want more when they know you're taken?", "post": "So my buddy and I have always had some sexual undertones to our friendship. Like, if he wasn't seeing this girl in the past, we'd have banged. But I don't touch taken men, so it was a non-issue. Then, recently, I got into a relationship with another friend, and I'm pretty happy with it. \n\nThing is, Dude A also recently broke up with his woman. And ever since the split, he's started sending me more and more inappropriate texts. Things like, \"I wanna get drunk and make out.\" I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, so I'd just joke back like \"Eww, cooties! Hahah,\" and stuff. But tonight, out of the blue, he texted me, \"If your university wasn't so far out of the way, I'd come through there and make you cheat on your boyfriend.\" No way can I twist that into a joke.\n\nI don't know what (if anything) to say back. Fact is, he's one of my good friends. I really enjoy having him in my life. But I really like my boyfriend, and these advances are making me uncomfortable. He knows I'm spoken for, so it boggles my mind how forward he's being. How can I talk to him about this while keeping our friendship intact?", "summary": "Good friend wants to bang but knows I have a boyfriend. What do I say to keep our friendship but stop his sexual advances? Also, anyone else have situations like this? How'd you handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_3q1k58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [43/F] is fucking a dude younger than me [24/M] next to my room.", "post": "My mother, a 43 year old found a new toyboy and she's basically fucking him in her room. \n\nI'm a student at the moment so I thought staying with my mother would make more sense since it saves money but I have the finances and a job to support myself.\n\nThe whole situation is traumatizing for me. I'm 25 years old, male, and this is the first time my mother has done something like that. I have NOTHING against her screwing other dudes, however the guy is not only almost 20 years younger then her but she did it literally a few meters away from me.\n\nAll I could hear in the morning was \"mhhhmmm ohhhhh mhhh\". This shit is really fucking up my psyche. \n\nI'm considering speaking to my mother, letting her know what I think and moving out. \n\nI want your honest help on this. Thank you", "summary": "Mother fucking guy almost 20 years younger then her in the room next to mine. Really traumatizing. I live with her to save money but I'm considering moving out. Dude is actually younger than me. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_3cy1op", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] kissed a girl after breaking up with my girlfriend[20]. Am I being silly?", "post": "Hi,\nI just want to understand if I'm over thinking here so any advice would be appreciated.\nI broke up with my girlfriend of 1.5 years around a week ago. We had been arguing on and off for several weeks. Then we had a very bad argument, she collected her things and told me how serious she was this time and stormed out. I tried contacting her throughout the week just by texting and making sure she was okay yet I received no reply. After seeking advice from family and friends they explained that they personally thought it wasn't such a bad thing (they were not judgemental not have they ever interfered) they simply gave their opinion.\n\nLast night I went out with a few friends and girl started talking to me. We ended up kissing and that was it. I then went home. (I'm very shy as it is and so I did not expect to go out and for this to happen). The only reason I didn't mind is because I was not in a relationship. I have NEVER cheated before.\n\nJust this morning my girlfriend called me and apologised for everything. However when she stormed out she was fairly violent and was adamant that it was time to call it a day. However she has now explained how she wants to give it another try.\n\nTwo Questions:\nHave I done wrong by kissing another girl?\nShould I tell my ex-girlfriend?\n\nCheers", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend, kissed another girl, now she wants to give it another go."}
{"id": "t3_50736d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21/F] ask my boyfriend [24/M] to text me more without seeming clingy/crazy?", "post": "So I think the clue is in the title here. I've been with my boyfriend for a month now, and things are generally really good. We have fun when we're together, he's caring, and I can really see this going somewhere.\n\nHowever, the only problem is that he is an appalling texter. He either takes hours and hours to reply, or just doesn't reply at all. This has included texts trying to make plans to see him, direct questions, or even just trivial how's-your-day-going texts. I know it's not just me he's like this with- he's a terrible texter to everyone. But it's starting to upset and worry me a little bit. We basically don't communicate outside of the days we see each other (2/3 times a week), and circumstances mean that as of next month we'll probably see each other less. It kind of feels like I only really have a boyfriend when he's physically present, and since that'll be happening less, I worry about what that means for the relationship. I don't want him to text me a running commentary of his life, 24/7- just a text every day or so talking about our days and generally catching up would be nice. I know this probably has something (a lot) to do with my underlying anxiety and depression, but it feels like he doesn't care about me enough to want to text me.\n\nSo, reddit, I ask- how can I communicate this without coming across as overly needy or clingy?", "summary": "Boyfriend is an awful texter- how can I tell him that I'd like more communication without seeming clingy or needy?"}
{"id": "t3_2h01ja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34F] with my BF[37 M] of 1 year, BF with anxiety & depression thinks of me as a best friend and not a romantic partner", "post": "He's a wonderful, caring guy and everything in our relationship is perfect - except the most important part - he isn't excited about us.\n\nHe has been suffering from depression and anxiety for ~12 years and so his general disposition is one of depression. He feels numb about most things. Either something is \"ok\" or \"not ok\", nothing is ever great. He is always stressed about work - he works in a demanding field as a researcher. The smallest of things stress him out. For example, a work email that he has to reply to or a letter from the IRS - things that normal people consider as mere stuff that needs to get done, turns out to be a huge stress issue for him.\n\nHe cares for me a lot and is the best boyfriend I have ever had. The only problem is that he doesn't feel for me as a romantic partner. He won't care if I dump him tomorrow and find someone else because he just wants me to be happy. I love him but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't really want me. \n\nWhat should I do? He has promised to look into therapy but I wonder if that's going to solve this. Should I move on?", "summary": "BF suffers from anxiety and depression. He is very caring but not excited about us. The problem is that he is not excited about anything, not just our relationship. Should I leave or should I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_4e61wz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with guy from my fitness class who I've had a crush on for a while [29 M] matched on Tinder", "post": "Hi reddit.\n\n2 weeks ago, I was Tinder matched with this guy from my fitness class. At first I was pretty glad because I have been crushing on him for months. He would always look over at me and was generally around me in the class. We talked a little bit in the app, and then we met in class and talked about twice. Nothing happened, and like I said, it was all just friendly conversation but, I am really attracted to him and would like to get to know him better. The way I left it was that I would see him around in class. I did not want to ask him out or give him my number because I don't want to pressure him.\n\nHe was not in all last week and when I went this last Monday, he was not there either. He did say that sometimes he attends the later class but, I cannot help but feel that he might avoiding me. He is quite shy though. I have never really seen him talk to anyone else in class before. He just kind of stood there before class starts and never spoke to anyone. I'm not sure what to do but I feel slightly embarrassed. Not sure what to do. We're still matched on the app, by the way, but he has not initiated any contact or even asked for my number.", "summary": "Tinder matched with a guy in my class, talked a few times, and now he is gone. Not sure if he's avoiding me and what I should do when and if he shows up again."}
{"id": "t3_1d541a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(22 f) would like to be less attached to my fiancee (30 m)", "post": "We have been together for about 2 years and have a 9 month old baby together. And I'm not a needy person at all but I feel like I get no attention from my SO and he is not attracted to me any more. I'm a stay at home parent so I don't get out of the house much I also have no friends since I moved country to be with him. So I think it's more my problem than his.\n\n I never see anybody so when he comes home from work I am excited to see him but I basically get nothing.  I have talked to him about it he agrees with me, he says I'm not unreasonable but he never follows through. He says there is never time because of the baby but that only applies for sex which he thinks is what i mean when i bring up the subject but I always tell him it is not and explain it's the small things and then go into detail.  He says he's not stressed either and he is really happy with his job. He is a great dad and we hardly ever fight, he helps me out if I ask so all is well. It's just that I feel like I'm wasting my time every time our daughter has gone to sleep or we're alone.  \n\nWhat's worse, I have mentioned it so much I'm sick of bringing it up again so recently I've started pouting and generally feeling like crap. If he does cuddle or anything it just feels so manufactured. It is like an addiction. I try to spend time with him but end up feeling guilt since I could have done something else instead like my course work as I feel my time is valuable since the baby takes up almost all of it and let him unwind on his own which I think he prefers. I've read from other posts that you should just start having your own life, getting hobbies etc.  But I just can't help myself trying to be with him as I'm so excited when we happen to be alone.", "summary": "I need help or just insight on how to be more detached from my fiance so I could start doing things I like instead of following him around the house"}
{"id": "t3_39qttm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting pickles in the fridge", "post": "Happened last night.\n\nMy girlfriend asked me to put the jar of pickles away as we are getting ready for bed. So I pick up the jar, close it and carry it to the fridge. I open the fridge door, go to put the pickle jar on the door and the bottom of the jar hits the guard, jar slips from my hand, hits the ground and shatters. Glass goes flying into my left big toe, some how making a deep cut on the inside, near the webbing and a couple of scrapes ontop of the toe and on the knuckle of my toe. Girlfriend said she's putting the pickles away from now on.", "summary": "Went to put jar of pickles in the fridge, the jar slips and shatters, sending glass into my toe."}
{"id": "t3_2pf11v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] concerned about my girlfriend [20F] of 2 months' extra body hair", "post": "I've been dating this girl who has been an absolute joy but has a small patch of black hair on her upper sternum. It hasn't really been a turnoff as far as intimacy is concerned, but when she wears lower cut shirts in public, I always get a bit anxious. It feels weird being the guy whose girlfriend has a bit of chest hair showing.  To make things worse, I have overheard some of our mutual friends mention it in not so flattering terms...\n\nNow I fully realize that female body hair is not an unnatural thing, and I realize that she is probably aware of it and comfortable with it.  I recognize that me being uncomfortable with it is probably due to growing up in a culture that discourages women from having any sort of body hair beneath the eyebrows, which I think is ridiculous. No person or institution I am aware of is going around telling me to shave my chest hair because it makes them uncomfortable, so why should it be different for girls?  At the same time, I can't help thinking that if she removed her visible chest hair, she'd face less ridicule from her peers and wouldn't receive so much judgment from people who don't know her as well as I do.\n\nHonestly, I have no idea whether I'm being rational about this or if I have some complex that I need to fix myself.  Anyway, should I bring her chest hair to her attention and tell her how I feel about it? If so, how should I approach that conversation?  Or am I just some guy trying to push American beauty standards on his significant other who should shut up and try his best to accept dating a girl with visible chest hair?", "summary": "Do I tell my girlfriend her patch of chest hair makes me uncomfortable or do I learn to accept it?"}
{"id": "t3_2l3lje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my Girlfriend [21 F] of 3 years, might be going our separate ways.", "post": "We started dating senior year of high school, went to the same college and took several classes together, until our majors went different directions. We live together in her room at her parents house and its fun. Her family loves me and we have 2 cats and a dog. \n \nThe past few weeks have been different. She just turned 21 and i'm still 20. I have no problems when she goes out, I don't own her; she can do what she wants. \n\nI first noticed things change when she turned 21, she been a grouch recently. She doesn't tell me how her day was anymore or if anything exciting happened in it. She claims to still love me, but when I ask her whats wrong she says \"i'm in a bad mood.\" She can't tell me why though... I only find out exciting things when she and I are hanging out with her friends and it comes up. It's a low blow. \n\nAnyway, it seems like anything I do makes her angry. She has become a lot more selfish in the past weeks then I recall over the past 3 years. \n\nWe just went out this past weekend to dinner and movies and it didn't feel right. It's like she a completely different person. She also eats like a 'champ' and doesn't seem to care what she looked like with me anymore. For example this week she just wore sweatpants and and a sweatshirt...\n\nToday I'm at my house because I couldn't handle it anymore. The fight started because I've been hanging out with her brother and we decided to build gaming computers together. She is so against me getting one unless its a iMAC.. After trying to convince her I'm going to be using this computer the most, its only fair I get a decent gaming computer. She just got up and left, mind you not she did this last Sunday.\n\nHer parents are finally taking her to her birthday dinner But, today's my brothers birthday dinner.", "summary": "Girlfriend is being more selfish and less caring after 21st B-day, her B-day dinner tonight and my brothers is tonight as well."}
{"id": "t3_3pgepl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] found out that I carry a trait for a certain condition. My GF [23F] carries it too. 25% chance kids will have the condition. Should I breakup?", "post": "Ages have been changed. Throwaway. Together for 3 years.\n\nWe're both south-asian and both have been confirmed to carry the beta thalassemia trait. Basically, if we were to have children, there's a 25% chance one of them might end up with Thalassemia Major, and that is something I would never wish on a child, let alone anyone.\n\nMy GF is very go lucky, caring and loving. She's the type who takes care of the sick, elderly, and I know she could handle a sick child. I'm not like that. I would never be able to forgive myself if I brought a sick child into this world knowing that I could have done something to prevent it (basically, not staying with my GF). The thing is, it's a 25% chance, but I can just imagine that down the road, if we were to have kids, those pregnancies would be even more stressful for me. \n\nAt the same time, I really love my GF and she loves me. We both see us together down the road. We both want kids. I would feel stupid breaking up over a 25% probability. At the same time, we do want 3 kids tops, so the chances go up. If that probability to came true, it would be devastating to me personally. \n\nI feel like I'm in a rut. I know I need to have this conversation with my GF. At the moment, she doesn't seem so bothered by it at all, but it's eating away at me. Should I break up with her now? Are there any other avenues or options to explore? I feel like we might have hit a crossroad, and it's killing me.", "summary": "GF and I carry same trait for condition. 25% chance kids will have disease. Would feel guilty if that happened. Breakup over 25%?"}
{"id": "t3_2j4ef5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure about dating etiquette for me [22F] after a really bad break up. When is it appropriate to move on?", "post": "The details of my previous relationship are on a separate post, but in brief my ex, a thirty four year old ex con single dad (how could it go wrong?!) took me for a ride and I accidentally found out a month after I stopped all contact (following a miscarriage and finding out I had HPV among other things) that he's currently grooming a sixteen year old girl. In short, I rebounded from an emotionally abusive ex [22M] to that charmer.\n\nI've had enough breathing space to excise some of my demons, certainly enough to know it'll take time on my own to figure things out. The break up was in July, and since then I've been invited out on a couple of dates in the last few weeks, and it's gotten me thinking. I set myself a rough target of not entering anything romantically exclusive until at least next year to make sure I have some distance, but I don't know what happens from there.\n\nI feel like I owe it to anyone I would be entering a relationship with at the very least to talk about the HPV. I don't know how I'd feel when entering a relationship, but I know I'm certainly afraid of hurting someone else if being intimate drags out any emotional damage I've had from the last few years. My problem is I don't really know what's appropriate to bring up or when. \n\nLearning to trust myself and someone else feels like one thing, but I wouldn't want to start anything new with either secrecy or horror stories. How is any of that even brought up? I don't want to feel like a social recluse or 'damaged goods', but I hardly want to turn any new person in my life into a therapist.", "summary": "After a very messy romantic past and HPV, when is it appropriate to move on and/or bring up such things, if ever?"}
{"id": "t3_4l619d", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "My immigrant dad is having a hard time finding a job.", "post": "I'll start this post with some background:\n\nMy family moved here(Ontario, Canada) approximately 12 years ago. Before we moved here my dad worked at a truck manufacturing plant in Israel. After that he also work as a sail maker, running his small business from home. When we moved here(due to my mother getting a good job here) he had trouble finding a good job in his field so he began making sails for two different companies. He lost the first job due to layoffs and quit the second due to mistreatment. \n\nAfter my mother passed away, he found a job working as a drafter for a small construction company who eventually went bankrupt. With him being a single dad trying to feed two kids and put us through  university we barely scraped by with his personal sail making business. A couple of years ago a friend of his referred him to a metal manufacturer and structural company that gave him a job as an estimator. He worked there for a couple years then layoffs hit again. \n\nNow he is jobless and running out of savings money. He's sent hundreds of resumes and cover letters to many companies around but can't seem to land any more than a single interview per week. He's had help from myself, my sister and a job assistance program that is run by the city we live in. I believe that a big part of his failings comes from his thick accent and foreign degree.\n\nSo reddit what do I do? What can he  do to raise his chances of landing a good job? Are there any programs that guarantee him a job? Any help is welcome.", "summary": "immigrant father with a foreign masters in engineering can't find a job, possibly due to his thick accent."}
{"id": "t3_nf39c", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "If You Read \"Today I Was Horrible,\" UPDATE  (warning.... contains a touch of TMI, but SFW for sure!)", "post": "[Today I Was Horrible](\n\nI just wanted to let anyone who cared know what's happened... even though it's totally gross and probably TMI...\n\nI posted the other day about how much \"horrible\" food I had.  I came home on Wednesday afternoon.  As soon as I left school, it was like everything in my body lost its stress.  I've been with my boyfriend more in the past day and a half than I have been in the past two and a half months.\n\nLong story short, I've also pooped more in the past two days than I have in the past three weeks.\n\nI weighed myself today - after eating three chocolate chip pancakes and drinking a cup of milk and 12 ounces of coffee - and I'm back down to 152.2 (which is actually .2 lbs less than my lowest weigh in until now!).  Before I left school on Wednesday, I was around 158 and feeling awful about my choices lately.  I think that should tell you something.\n\nAnyway... I guess I've been doing a good job of eating stuff in controlled portions, etc. even when I haven't been using myfitnesspal like a fanatic.  I think I need a semi-break of being super strict.\n\nHas anyone else done that before? \n\nI want to thank everyone who posted on and/or read my last post.  :)  I'm feeling wonderful.", "summary": "leaving school made me poop like a maniac."}
{"id": "t3_39jl01", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m]My Girlfriend [16/f] has a Girlfriend!", "post": "I have been seeing a girl for the past month, and we are official to a certain extent. Specifically, we refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend and on previous occasions she has made mention as to how I am \"hers\". However, on our second date, she let me know that she does in fact have a girlfriend who lives about 40 miles away. She said that they were \"in love\" yet she could \"still develop deep feelings for [me]\". However, things have come to a head for me this past week, as she has taken off for the entire week to be with that girl. Furthermore, she has made a big show of sending me pictures of them together, some where that girl has her hands all over my girlfriend. In the end, I suppose I feel cheated on. I am reasonably sure that an ultimatum would be fruitless, as she'd just choose the girl. Any advice would be incredibly appreciated.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a girlfriend, they sent me pictures of them together. I was put on the phone with the Jelly School."}
{"id": "t3_4fmm9h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "No Idea what I should be here......me 22M with girl Im seeing 22F", "post": "So long story short, I have been seeing this girl for 2-3 months now and things have been going great. amazing sex, lots of dates, she has met my friends, I have met her sister, etc. Well we just got back from our first weekend out of town together, which was two weeks ago, and was so much fun, but I feel like she has been avoiding me since than. She continues to postpone plans and I am starting to get worried....we have yet to discuss being officially togethor or exclusivity, but until now I really got the vibe that we were heading in that direction. I worry that maybe I have waited too long to bring that stuff up and maybe she wants to move on? Is that something that girls would do?\nAnyways I plan on talking to her tonight to clear the air, but was just looking for some advice first. How should I approach this / from a female perspective what may she be thinking?\nfootnotes, I leave the country for six months in about four months time. She knows this, but we haven't really had a conversation about that either.", "summary": "Girl I am seeing has been pulling away, looking for advice"}
{"id": "t3_3n4juy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm being blamed for something I 100% didn't even do..", "post": "Okay, to start I am a 19y/o female who works 9-5 M-F. I was recently informed by my boyfriend that someone unlocked their garage door and home early Monday morning. BUT here is where it gets weird. My boyfriends parent's next door neighbor (who is a little girl, around like 10y/o) comes over and hangs out all the time at the house and garage. They suspected she got a hold of the code (its not like a regular key unlock, its a pass code setup) and got into the house and garage, but never locked it after. When they confronted her about it she blamed it on me and said I was the one at the house that day.. But as I stated above, I work Monday to Friday, 9-5. I was definitely not at the house that day because I work in town which is about 30 minutes away.. \nHis parents confronted me about it and I told them the truth and that I was not anywhere near the house that day nor do I know the pass code to unlock the doors. The only reason I'm asking for advice though is because his parents went back to the little girl, to see if she would own up to it and she blamed it on me again?! I am truthfully upset and kind of angry she would blame it on me, but what should I do? It also kind of upset me that his parents would even think to accuse me.", "summary": "Got blamed by a 10/yo that I broke into my boyfriends house and definitely did not, how do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_1e8ls3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (19M) keep my relationship alive with my (17F) girlfriend?", "post": "When my girlfriend and I got together, it felt like it was a match made in heaven. We were perfect for each other. It lasted that way for a good 4 months, then I went away to college, and it lasted another 2. Being in the college environment, and being an adolescent boy, I felt a bit trapped, so I wanted to end it. After a very short period, I regretted the decision. Incredibly so. So we started talking again and eventually got back together after a few weeks of reconnecting.\n\nAnother part of my college experience is that I was doing D1 crew at an already academically rigorous college. This was a lot of stress for me. And it started to pile on. I told her all of this, but still I was overwhelmed. And I started to focus too much on my own stress and started to become self-centered. As a result the relationship began to fall through the cracks. So much so that by the end of the year, my girlfriend basically is at the point where she is close to ending it.\n\nSchool is out now, and I still love her. A lot. I don't think I've ever felt this way about another person before. But in order to avoid getting hurt any further she has recently tried to distance herself emotionally from me. I want to get her to fall back in love with me, because I know I want more than anything to repair this. We are going to separate colleges after this summer, but I still want to try to make this work. Also I am not rowing next year, partially because I know I can't handle a relationship, but also because I can't handle college and D1 crew. Help me please? Thank you.", "summary": "When I went off to college I let the distance fuck up a relationship with a girl who is perfect for me, now I am asking advice on how to repair our damaged relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1w8zdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [20 F] broke up with me [22 M] after 2 years, need some advice", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nSo about a few weeks ago, my girlfriend of over two years dropped a bombshell on me and broke up. Her reasoning she told me was that we were moving too fast and that she felt that she wasn't into the relationship anymore. She felt that we weren't being being friends anymore. We lived together for about a year and everything seemed to be fine. No fighting, barely any arguments and she seemed happy.\n\nI personally took it pretty hard because I have never had anyone break up with me. This was the longest relationship I have ever had and just feel pretty crappy right now. I moved over 500 miles away from my family for school (I met my ex 2 years ago at school) and now I feel so alone out here. I have a few friends out here, but it's still tough. \n\nWe really haven't spoken to each other that much because she wants to be friends and I'm not comfortable with that right now. We talked a little bit a few days ago and she still wants to be friends.\n\nSo overall, I just need some advice on all this. Sleep hasn't been a problem, but eating has been a problem. Will that eventually go away?", "summary": "GF of two years broke up with me a few weeks ago because she felt we lost track of being friends. I haven't had anyone breakup with me before. Need some advice on how to feel better."}
{"id": "t3_1j17pw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Having problems [21M] committing to a relationship w/ [19F]", "post": "A girl I casually knew from high school recently returned from a far away college after her first semester and is now planning on returning to school in town for a while. We started hanging out at the beginning of summer and have spent most of our time of the past two months together. Our relationship thus far has had a more than friends understanding but we have connected on intimate friendship levels, to a large extent because we are both coming out of difficult times and connected through being able to relate with each other because of that. I know that I have a tendency to close up in relationship because of a fear of intimacy, and I know she has some similar commitment related issues but we are pretty open and honest with each other as we each work through our own baggage. As if recently, I have been feeling afraid and cornered, kind of buckling underneath the pressure of being her boyfriend. We have a similar understanding that the title means nothing and that the relationship itself is what's to value but I can't help but be swayed by what I see are obligations. This mindset, I feel, is pushing us apart as friends and may have the power to let the relationship crumble as well. I believe I am ready to step up to the plate and allow myself to take it as it comes but I have it in the back of my mind that I should end it now because that would be easier, and potentially less painful. I can see how these thoughts are having an effect in our relationship and I'm internally panicking because I feel like I should be above this, plus, I hate being on the receiving end of this kind of thing so I can't imagine how much this sucks for her. My last relationship was a long time ago but left me pretty crippled, I'm still afraid if getting back out there. How can I rise to the occasion and be courageous to decide to move forward in a relationship with this girl that I believe I would never do better than, breaking up with her would leave me regretting it immensely.", "summary": "How do I not mess a up a good thing in a budding relationship? How do I confront intimacy and commitment issues?"}
{"id": "t3_soy61", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone else witnessed a chain-of-niceness? What were the events?", "post": "Today at the grocery store the man in front of me helped the very busy cashier bag his own groceries. I thought it was really nice. As I was leaving I heard the customer behind me tell the cashier he would like to donate to the charity they were raising funds for. As I was walking out I wondered if he had been influenced by the nice guy in front of me. \n\nI loaded up my groceries and start to leave the jam packed parking lot. Up ahead of me I saw a guy trying to back out, but no one will stop for him. I decided that I was going to stop to let him out, even if it meant the cars behind me were pissed. After he got out of the space I looked back and saw the guy that was behind me stopping to let out another car.\n\nI'd like to think that this little chain-of-niceness would travel for a little while and that others in my community would feel the affects in small ways.", "summary": "One guy is nice and maybe helped cause others to be nice."}
{"id": "t3_1y2fcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19/M) am not sure how to handle an \"open relationship\" with my friend (17/F)", "post": "Basically I've been intimate with a friend9(17/F) of mine for a few months now. It's been nothing official and we've established that her and I shouldn't date right now because she's not ready for a committed relationship. \n\nHowever it feels like there's something more. We do alot of romantic stuff with each other, and have gotten really personal with one another. More than just a typical \"friends with benefits\" relationship. She has shared with me recently that she might be in love with me.\n\nNow while I think this is great news, the conflict that comes up is there is another guy (18/M) that she likes, who is a somewhat good friend of mine. I knew they liked each other, but I didn't know they actually did anything until last night, where I found out she and my friend have also done intimate things with each other.\n\nSo what I'm left with here now is the question should I confront her about it? Try to ignore it? Break this off? I've told her that I respect her right to be happy with other people before, but it still hurts alot even though we aren't committed.", "summary": "In open relationship with girl, found out she's doing things with a friend of mine, not sure how to react now."}
{"id": "t3_10fijv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my father has picked up drinking again, what do I do reddit?", "post": "Well, to start with my parents have been divorced almost all of my life. I saw my father maybe once a week when I was a young child (6 or 7), but his drinking had picked up heavily and he needed help, so I didn't see him for years after that. I know PRIOR to my birth he had other issues with drugs, though my mother refuses to get into any detail...\nMy mom never aided me in seeing him, and he didn't go out of his way to either\u2026so if I saw him once a year that was good. When I got older he suffered from cancer, went into remission and afterwards I started to see him much more often, every few months. (by now he had given up alcohol). \n\nLately when I have been seeing him, his place is becoming filthier and filthier, and there are bags full of empty beer cans\u2026which he claims are his friends\u2026.\n\nI know talking to him seems like the obvious answer\u2026but i've tried to bring it up (I am the most passive, epitome of the awkward penguin\u2026.so attempting it was tough). And every time I do, he shrugs it off, or changes the subject. I don't know what to think any more, if he is just trying to take my mind off of it\u2026.what can I do? It's not like I can't run and 'tell his mom' or tattletale on him\u2026he is an adult. \n\nI feel like if he wanted to be healthy, he wouldn't be doing this\u2026.I have a very hard time thinking this ISN'T what's going on, everything has been pointing in that direction. I'm also concerned with this leading him back into his prior addictions...", "summary": "I'm concerned my father who is an alcoholic is drinking again, what should I do??"}
{"id": "t3_2a29h4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why does my friend [20/F] look at me [22/M] like this?", "post": "Been friends with this girl for a couple years now but recently became closer. For the last 6 months or so I noticed in group settings she does this thing where she looks at me when someone says something everytime. For example if one of our friends tells a joke she will laugh and instantly look at me. Or a shocking story she will have her mouth open in disbelief and glance at me. Every single time. At first I thought it was now because I was looking to her seeing if she gonna glance, but nope she will even turn around to make that look.\n\nI'm not sure if she is seeing if I have emotions or what because I always respond to what people say. It's not like if there is a joke I just stand there. I laugh too. \n\nAny ideas? Can get annoying. \n\nA few friends (girls, who don't her) have said its a sign of them liking you, but I find this super hard to believe. Since her bf is usually hanging out with us (they were both part of the group before started dating) and I've never seen any other sign that she likes me.\n\nAnd if she does like me, I don't want to go down that road and I'm pretty sure the bf has noticed these looks too, which makes things awkward. As she looks to me more than him if a 3rd party is speaking.", "summary": "female friend always looks at me after someone says something. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_wpkuu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I fucked up badly - is there anywhere to go from here?", "post": "Me, M(25) and her, say Girl #1, F(24) met a year ago. She lives a couple hours south of me. We spent the first two months in a lot of contact but never discussed dating. It was awkward when someone called us boyfriend/girlfriend because we neither of us really admitted that yet. Three weeks after meeting each other we had gone out for drinks a couple times and hooked up (no sex, just making out) a couple times. At this point I made the mistake of having sex with an friend of mine, Girl #2, one weekend. We both realized it it was terrible and it should not be repeated and not to tell our circle of friends. I convinced myself that I didn't need to disclose this to Girl #1 as we hadn't discussed exclusivity (although we were clearly emotionally invested farther than we had openly discussed). \n\nFast forward to this past weekend, we got into some arguments and this friend of mine, Girl #2 came up. Girl #1 questioned me on it and I lied. I said I hadn't slept with her. The next day (yesterday) I broke down and came clean. I told her exactly what happened, that I knew it was wrong, and I had no excuse for my actions. At this point we talked, cried, and yelled all last night and this morning. We both are very much in love with each other and my actions three weeks into our relationship doesn't change how much I love her. That being said, I consciously lied and deceived. She is struggling to come to terms with this but says she wants to try to make this work. We have had plans to move in together which we both thought would probably help resolve trust issues. I really hope she truly feels that and is not just saying that on the surface but I have no ground to stand on expecting that.\n\nHas anyone been through this on either end? Does anyone have any stories of success or insight from failure? I don't know what to expect and I know I have dug my own grave here. I have *no* reason to expect forgiveness but I love this girl so much that I will do anything I can.", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl three weeks into dating someone else. Was no explicit discussion of exclusivity but we had been in contact enough that it wasn't right. A year later, I lied to cover it up and just came clean. What can I expect and has anyone been through this before?"}
{"id": "t3_323psz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Ex [18F] who is in the same social group is causing me [18M] a lot of pain", "post": "So my ex and I, let's call her Jane, broke up a 8 month relationship 4 months ago. We were and are still in the same social group. She gave me a lot of reasons e.g. she wasn't ready for a relationship, I was too intense et cetera. I was in denial until one day when our mutual friend told me that she broke up with me because she lost the love for me.\n\nI didn't communicate with her for 3 months until the end of March when I apologised over message for pressuring her for a reason as to why she broke up with me and she sent me a pretty insincere and short message back saying that she was sorry and acknowledged that we could be friends in the future after I brought it up. \n\nI thought that we could at least begin fixing the relationship so that we could at least be comfortable around each other but she proved me wrong. She's still extremely hostile towards me, even talking about dating other guy's right in front of me. \n\nI don't see what went wrong. I feel like she's gonna push me out of the social group if I don't take a more aggressive stance on the matter. Seeing her messages on the group chat that we have is already too painful. I'm thinking about leaving the group but I don't want to lose my friends and its pretty much the only group the either of us have. How do I go about this? Its becoming such a pain to me.", "summary": "Ex and I are in the same social group. Can't deal with the pain of constantly seeing her and dealing with her attitude."}
{"id": "t3_3gioav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend[20 M] I feel bitter...", "post": "My friend quit his job and soon will be moving to a different state. I met him at work two years ago and we became really close friend. On the day he was going to quit he sent our group chat a message, \"I'm quitting today.\" I called him, he did not picked up. I sent our group chat a message, \"your quitting today? why all of a sudden?.\" He did not reply to my question. 2 hours later he called me, \"did you call?\" I was irritated, I put my masked to not show my emotion on the call and asked I asked him about it, he told the the story and so on...(portion of his story felt like a lie) but on that day, I found out on our raidcall that he called someone else before he sent that text on our group chat that he was going to quit that day, I had never felt so bitter before, I wanted to cry, I felt jealous and untrustworthy. In my head he must have his reasons, but lately his been MIA and i feel like his cutting me off. I just hope his not going to leave without saying anything. I'm an introvert, I had been wanting to talk to him but I'm not sure how to approach it.", "summary": "My best friend didn't tell me shit, I feel bitter. I want to talk to him but it feels like his cutting me off, his been MIA lately."}
{"id": "t3_2xvb50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30M) GF (33F) and I have been dating for one month and she's already using words like \"indefinitely\" and \"forever\" ...", "post": "So, I'll preface this by saying - I really, really like my GF.  She takes really good care of me, she is smart and has a great sense of humor, she is super attractive, and we share similar views on all of the important things.\n\n... We've only been dating for a month.  Granted, things have moved pretty quickly to begin with (we've spent maybe 2 nights apart), but the thing is ... I'm just not like super duper in love with her (yet).  I've had my heart broken before and I'm just not ready to dive into this until I'm totally ready.\n\nOver the last week, she has said something like \"I can see this being a forever thing\" and \"this is it.  I am totally signed up for this.\" several times.  I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm totally unwilling to make similar declarations because it's way too soon for me to know that kind of thing.\n\nIs this like a huge red flag?  Or is it just kind of harmless puppy love that's making her say things like this?  I'm really not sure how to proceed, because she does not give off ANY \"crazy\" vibes at all.  She's very smart, has her own career (and comes from a lot of money), has tons of friends, and is just generally really well put-together.  Also, could it just be that her biological clock is ticking or something?  I have no idea about these sorts of things.", "summary": "My new GF is making lots of veiled comments about super long-term commitment, and I'm just not anywhere close to ready to make similar statements.  Is this a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_e4378", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Recently single (after 4 years) and not sure how to approach things. Are there any rules/norms as far as dating goes?", "post": "27m, just got back into the field after a four year relationship, got a girl's number and will probably be going out tomorrow night for a movie and drinks. I don't know how it will go yet and I'm still not really ready for a committed relationship but figure this would help me get over my ex and who knows how things will turn out (maybe this girl will be amazing :) ).\n\nAre there any rules or things I should follow as far as meeting other girls too (if the chemistry is just so so)? Is it wrong to date multiple girls at the same time provided you never lie to anyone of them (at most equivocate and not say that you are)?\n\nHow exactly do you go about casual dating? I've always been a little apprehensive because I feel like if we have a good time then its supposed to lead to more serious dating and eventually a relationship. Am I overthinking it all and should instead go out and have a good time and just go with the flow?", "summary": "27m back on the market and isn't sure how to approach casual dating since he's used to serious relationships. Also never had a problem meeting/talking to girls and getting dates, but not looking to hurt anyone with false hopes."}
{"id": "t3_2t6oub", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing with firecrackers.", "post": "This was quite a few years ago but regardless here's my story.\n\nMe and my stepbrother had just gotten a gift from his grandpa, firecrackers! His grandpa lives in Florida so every time he comes to visit us in Ontario he brings us firecrackers, 200 each to be exact. All excited and giddy me and my stepbrother skip hanging out with our grandpa and decide to hit the park with a lighter and the firecrackers. We used these things on everything that we possibly could have, things got boring and we decided to head home. \n\nFast forward to around 5:00 PM, nobody is home and the internet cuts out, but lucky for us we have the firecrackers. Stupid me comes up with a great idea to light the firecracker in the house. In a panic my stepbrother grabs it from me dashes to the bathroom and drops it in the toilet thinking the fuse would go out (These firecrackers were waterproof). After we watch it sink to the bottom of the bowl, BOOM! Water to the ceiling and the bottom part under the toilet gets a big chunk of porcelain blown out of it. \n\nStepdad hears it from outside and came running in only to see us two morons have blown up the custom toilet he had ordered not even a year ago. Needless to say we learned our lesson from having to pay for the toilet.", "summary": "Threw a firecracker in my stepdads $300 toilet and blew a hole in the back of it."}
{"id": "t3_4vy3ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] can't get over my Ex [18 F]", "post": "So I broke with her about 3 weeks ago. I didn't like the fact that seeing her was a hassle, some things she did, and just overall felt like she was not giving a shit about me.\n\nShe was my first high school girlfriend and we dated little over 5 months. I really liked her! She was everything I wanted in a girl. Funny, cute, sassy, and talkative. I remember the times she gave me the cold shoulder, or did things that made me jealous, or that my family didn't think she was the right girl for me.\n\nBut then I remember our dates, and the times we kissed, when I'd look into her eyes I'd see this look I'd never seen it was like a look of pure intrest and desire towards me and then I'd tell her how beautiful she was and she'd instantly blush and kiss me.\n\nI'm trying my hardest to move on and talk to other girls but, I lose the confidence and will. She told me I was the cutest guy she's ever been with but I struggle with some serious body image and appearance issues so what she said meant so much to me.\n\nI just don't know what to do or how to move past her.", "summary": "I can't move last my first real relationship."}
{"id": "t3_g5eet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm creating a comprehensive list of terrible office small talk.  What's your least favorite thing people say when trying to make small talk?", "post": "Here's the scenario:  I've found myself in a new position in an office job.  Being the new guy I've found that I have very little to talk to people about.  Enter the terrible small talk.  I like to take things that other people say and use them inappropriately or in the wrong context.  For example, I heard \"At least it's not Monday!\" on a Tuesday probably 10 times yesterday.  I like to take that phrase and say it on a Friday.  Or also saying \"At least it's not Friday!\" on a Monday.  I can't explain it, but this makes me incredibly happy.\n\nI have various categories ranging from the day of the week, time of the day, weather, upcoming holidays, etc.  I have about 70 entries right now, but I know there is so much more awful small talk out there that I'm missing out on.", "summary": "I like extremely cheesy bad small talk, and I'm building a comprehensive list.  What small talk phrases drive you crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_gz8vh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What the fuck is love?", "post": "My parents divorced when I was 4 yrs old.  Never seeing a first hand example of a relationship between two adults, I discovered I don't know how to **behave in relationships**.  \n\nI've been in a couple of long-term serious relationships -- 2 years and 4 years, they happened back to back.  I've been single for nearly two years.\n\nAt the time I thought I was in love, but in retrospect, I have begun to question the verity of my experiences (don't get me wrong they were great people and still are).  \n\nI'm at a good place in my life, graduating college, have a job lined up.  But quite frankly, I don't think I ever want to be serious with someone again.  I'm not saying that out of spite or bitterness either.  \n\nI may not know what love is, but I certainly know what love is not: **Love is not fear**.   \n\nI see my friends falling away from me, one at a time, deeper into their relationships.  When I do see these friends they bitch and moan about how they are unhappy.  You can only tell an unhappy friend so many times, \"happiness comes from within, not from another individual\" before you want to scream, \"you need to dump that bitch and work on you!\"  \n\nBut of course I don't say the later because I know these people are terrified of being alone, of having to face the world alone.  No matter what I say they will eventually marry (if not married already) and eventually divorce.  \n\nOften times I'll hear things like: \"A life without the experience of love, is a life not worth living.\" or something similar.  But why is this?  Why should love be a part of our lives?  **What the fuck is love?", "summary": "Told a little bit about myself, ranted about whipped friends, and asked the question: \"What is love?\""}
{"id": "t3_1zg6wl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] process of getting over first love, seems to have stalled. Need to chat!", "post": "Hey all, thought I was done coming to r/relationships, but the caring advice and stories I remember from when I first came for help have brought me back.\n\n**Background**\n\nWe were high school sweethearts, together for around 4 years with a break of 3 or 4 months in the middle. Together through the last years of high school and some university. She was my first for almost everything, and I learned a lot from the time we spent together. As things progressed, I started to realize she was not the one for me, and I needed to separate myself from her and the relationship. So about 10 months ago, I broke things off, and we cut ties.\n\n**Since the break-up**\n\nThings have been going well, I've indulged in a new love for fitness/health, been enjoying time with my friends doing whatever it is I want. And I have to say, I am really enjoying myself. The thing is, and where my concern comes into play, is in letting it go and getting her off my mind. Since the break-up, I still think about her daily, what she's doing, how she is, is she with someone else, random stuff like that. Its been getting less frequent since then, but now I seem to be stuck. Now, she has contacted me a few times for random reasons over the 10 months which always sets me back thinking about her. I knew this was going to be a long process, and that I need to let it run its course, but it's definitely starting to wear me down.  \n\n**My issue**\n\nI just can't let it go, I can't get her out of my mind. I don't know what to do. I know I don't want her back in my life, I just want it gone. I want to be past it, I want to be okay with it.", "summary": "Having trouble letting first love go, can't move on, can't get her out of my head. Need help"}
{"id": "t3_4xws3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M/] with my GF [38 F] 2 years together, arguments revolve around me not \"liking her family\".", "post": "Sorry...28f..So backstory: my family is not super close. We like each other, but visits are about once every 5-6 weeks for about 2 hours. Just to catch up. Them we get on with our lives.\n\nHer family is a little dysfunctional, but mostly nice. Has an older brother that causes most of problems. Lives with parents, verbally rude/abusive. Contributes nothing. Her parents tolerate it.\n\nGF moved out on her own because of this 6 years ago. Job, college, pursuing clear goals. When we met, they had all patched thing up\".\n\nNow her family has weekly gatherings that are mostly unorganized. Nobody shows up on time. Happy to say inappropriate things in public. Never seen anyone but me and her father pay for anything.\n\nThe kicker is I have about 3 hours of enjoyment tops being with them. I'm polite and talk with everyone. If told my GF that 3 hours is about max, them I want to be able to get out and spend time together. I've offered her to sTay later or go on her own etc...\n\nAny advice on how to navigate this?", "summary": "I have my limits with her family. How not to be accused of not liking them?"}
{"id": "t3_28rwwh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M 21] Never dated\\been in a relationship longer than a month.", "post": "I'm in my last year of the military, and just finished two years in Japan. For the last three years my life has been way to crazy for me to consider dating. Never did it in high school. I'm starting to think I'm in a place where I can handle it but I'm completely clueless where to start? I'm probably miles ahead of most people my age in terms of career and I would say I have my shit together. I had pretty shitty people skill 3 years ago but these days I'm probably just below average. I'm not really looking for one night stands, as I've been in a few almost relationships but they didn't work out.", "summary": "Finally ready for something serious but clueless."}
{"id": "t3_qad0q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asking out a friend, who is not exactly friendzone?", "post": "I am absolutely horrible at the dating scene, I get to the point where we are about to be official and then they get upset that I have a female bestfriend, (I am a male, and yes this female and I dated a shit long time ago, but realized we liked being friends better), and they tell me stop talking to them ever again if I am still friends with her. But I am friends with a girl who I never \"talked\" to in that capacity considering we were never terribly close and she always had boyfriends; except until recently. She is now a girl I talk to multiple times a week, and no longer has a boyfriend, and I no longer have a girlfriend. I am starting to think I might want to ask her on a date as more then a friend, any tips on how?", "summary": "Suck at dating, know a Girl, friends not friendzone, how to ask on date as more then a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_1xdsdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my BF [31 M] of 3 years always fighting", "post": "It's hard to tell the story because it's such a diffuse issue. But basically we get into spats a lot. He gets really pissed off when I raise my voice but I usually only raise my voice in response to him stone-walling or cutting me off or condescending to me in an argument. His almost automatic response is to shut down even though he starts an issue and will always take a day or two to be silent and process it, which drives me insane. You could say I'm one of those \"quick recover\" people who can be insanely angry in the moment but quickly cools off. Regardless, I'd say we're both fiery people.\n\nAnyway, I'm starting to feel like this is a really dysfunctional dynamic that we have. I know and believe that relationships are hard work and compromise but then other people always tell me that there should just be that understanding as well and that hard work doesn't equal fights. Any advice/insight would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Is it \"normal\" to get into big blowups everyone once in a while? Or does it mean that we're just not right for each other?"}
{"id": "t3_ot7px", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I think I have a serious emotional problem. Help?", "post": "Hi reddit.\nSo to be short, when I was in my childhood I was a part of some very dramatic family and personal events. Family members passed away, grandparents were excommunicated from the family, grandmother lost her family and moved in with us while sufferig major depression. Family was in a very bad financial state. On top of that I had my first love who broke my heart.\nBut my issue is this, I do not feel emotion anymore and it is filing horrible. I live with my girlfriend and I'm currently in college and I guess I'm \"happy\", but I can't feel it. It's hard to explain but when something happens that is supposed trigger an emotion, I feel like a shot of adrenaline kicks in and kills it off before I can experience it. In my head I know I am currently happy with my life but I don't feel it physically. I basically feel a void were I'm supposed to experience my emotions. All my emotions are deeply surpressed and I have no idea how to release em again. I haven't felt nervous, been Truely sad, excited, anxious etc. For a very long time and I don't know if I can fix this. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "I have surpressed all emotion and I hope that I can change that."}
{"id": "t3_23peyl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting blackout drunk at the beach", "post": "So this happened over the weekend, not today. I was at the beach with a group of friends from school, and large amounts of alcohol were present. I had been drinking throughout the day and had a steady buzz going; I was feeling good. I met a girl there that day that was invited by someone else in the group and we hit it off pretty well. We sat talking for awhile and were drinking together. Around this time a bunch of my guy friends wanted to start shotgunning beers and I joined them. I was already pretty drunk at this point and we shotgunned at least 4-5 times consecutively. Then, I blacked out. I managed to get home with the help of my roommate and woke up the next morning to some bad news. While blackout I decided to go in the water with my iPhone in my pocket, which completely destroyed it. I also lost my RayBan sunglasses, most likely in the water. The worst news is that my roommate talked to the girl I had been flirting with, and she said she would have hooked u if I hadn't been so drunk. My roommate says I drank at least a whole case of beer myself. In the end I had to spend a few hundred bucks on a new phone, lost expensive sunglasses and missed a chance to laid. I fucked up.", "summary": "Blacked out, broke phone, didn't get laid."}
{"id": "t3_2ol1s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] cheated on my (ex) girlfriend [18 F] of 11 months and desperately want her back.", "post": "My girlfriend and I met our senior year of high school and shared a loving relationship. Fast forward 8 to 9 months, we started college. Everything was going fine and there were no problems (besides the little tiffs a young couple gets into). After being in college for a couple of months, I started to noticing the fun my single-friends were enjoying. This attracted me and distracted me from what I really wanted and cared about. \n\nIt's Thanksgiving break and my girlfriend and her family go to the beach (Destin, FL) every year for Thanksgiving. I stayed home (New Orleans, LA) with my family while they left and went out one night with some of my friends. I ended up bar hopping and came across a girl I have never met before. I didn't think anything of the girl besides a conversation. After rounds of shots (not bought by me) I became really drunk (in and out of blackoutness). We eventually took a cab home and attempted to have sex. I say attempted to because I never went in due to my inability to become hard. We hooked up and the next thing I know, I'm waking up to her in my bed and me realizing what I have done. \n\nI brought her home right away and called my girlfriend to tell her about my infidelity. This crushed her and we haven't been able to talk about everything in private since the incident. \n\nDoing what I did made me realize how stupid I was for thinking I would enjoy being single more than I would being with her. I want her more than anything in the world and will fight to have her back no matter what the cost. I am willing to put in the time and realize that I need to mature and figure out what the cause of my infidelity is, so that I can fix it and grow. I have hope that we can be together again, I just don't know when. \n\nHas anyone been in a situation like this? Is there any advice you believe I should follow to get her back? Anything will help and I am open to listen.", "summary": "I cheated on my girlfriend and will do anything to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_lkhtb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Travelling the USA and need interesting places to go.", "post": "I've been in New Hampshire for the past few months and after Saturday I have 20 or so days before I need to be in New York to attend a prior engagement. I'm a 22 year old Australian so not really interested in beaches.\n\nI've been trying to plan out my trip but everything that is advertised for tourism isn't what I'm looking for. I thought of putting this to r/travel but didn't really think this was their cup of tea.\n\nI'm thinking of just visiting some of the major cities around the USA or maybe some of the major landmarks but I'm more interested in going to the places seen on man versus food or other TV programs.  Things like stopping by Fun Spot and playing the Donkey Kong machine made me incredibly happy. Anyone got any ideas?", "summary": "Need interesting places to visit in the United States."}
{"id": "t3_1r72p9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M17) need help with mixed messages from a (F17) friend", "post": "Alright well first off I should address that yes I'm younger than most anyone on this sub but I feel like my friends(all guys ) advice doesn't really help. \n\nSo here we go, so a girl that I went to middle school with and never talked to has become good friends with me over the last 4 months. Over that time she has gotten a boyfriend and broken up with him. So after there breakup she talked about wanting to take time for herself and I gave her that time but about a month ago she started calling me \"bby\" and other nicknames out of nowhere. Along with other flirty conversations there have been those where I try too hard and she kinda stops. \n\nNow I would of asked her out sooner but the weekend she she got flirty she got sick and has been confined to her house for the last 3 weeks (this kinda shit happens a lot to me sometimes) and through texting her and comforting her and checking up on her she now considers me her best friend and refers some of our past times when we hung out as best friend dates. So I'm really frustrated and annoyed because I care about her but I also like her and I just don't know what to think of all of this. I really just need some outside opinion. Thanks :)", "summary": "Not sure how what to do with mixed messages from someone who considers me their best friend"}
{"id": "t3_4ojnmo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (19f) having a difficult time making friends because I'm in a relationship", "post": "I always had friends. This changed for me when I entered high school and started dating. I dated 3 people during high school - the first one lasted a month, the second lasted 8 months, and the last one was almost 2 years. I'll be honest, I distanced myself away from my friend group to spend time with these guys because I felt like I needed to spend a majority of my time with them.\n\nI'm graduated from high school now and working 2 jobs part-time while going to Cc. I don't have that much free time (CC class is 5x a week + time I need to do assignments and I have to work at least 16 hours the other 2 days to pay off some bills) so what free time I do have is spent with my boyfriend (1.3 yrs duration).\n\nI met my boyfriend (24) through work (he has a different job now) and I fell for him hard (with other boyfriends I didn't feel for them as strongly?). I love him but I'm beginning to feel annoyed that I don't have as much free time as I would like to meet/hang out with other people. There are coworkers who I would really like to hang out with in person but I can't unless I squeeze them into my schedule someplace. \n\nMy boyfriend is still able to maintain some of his friendships and I'm glad that he's able to do it but I'm almost jealous (?) that he can balance dating and friendships and I can't at the moment. I really need some pointers on how I can make friends and spend time with them outside of work/school as well as spend time with my boyfriend. I haven't had a close friend in over 2 years and I'm starting to feel lonely...", "summary": "I don't know how to balance a relationship and friendships. I'm getting annoyed"}
{"id": "t3_j3wat", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My employer just installed Remote Assistance software on our computers so they can monitor our internet & computer habits. Is this legal?", "post": "Title pretty much speaks for itself here. \n\nI work a small office based job with a few other people and recently we were forced to sign a document which allows them to monitor or control anything we do on our computers, i.e check internet habits, browse files, log keys-strokes, etc.\n\nOur office is based in such a location that we don't work along side any managers, we are more or less assisted over the phone and trusted to do our jobs correctly and not waste time. So far there has never been any reason to believe we are not doing our jobs correctly.\n\nI came into work just today and was advised by a colleague that two members of the company visited without notifying us and installed some \"program\". A quick glance at the task bar revealed it was LogMeIn. While this program is quite commonly used to **remote-assist** people, I was unaware its other use was to **remote-spy**.\n\nMy question is, despite signing the paperwork which virtually consents to being spied on, is this level of computer monitoring still legal? I don't know this area of the law very well at all, but I can't help but feel like any privacy I had has been breached.\n\nFor the record, I am also based in Australia, so privacy laws may vary here.", "summary": "My employer installed remote assistance software, \"LogMeIn\", on our work computers without notifying us of such a program just to spy on us. Is this legal?"}
{"id": "t3_2upb88", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm female with the emotional range of a robot and I can't change it.", "post": "One of my friends said something today that kind of affected me more than it should have. We were making fun of each other and I jokingly said 'I'm sorry' after dealing a sick burn. He replied with 'You're not sorry, it's not a part of your programming' and then added 'neither are emotions in general'. He meant it as a joke of course but it got me thinking and I can really see where he's coming from. \n\nI often hide my emotions to avoid conflict. I often find drama and petty arguments boring and don't tend to get emotionally invested in them, along with most things in general. I have shows that I love to watch but I've never 'fangirled' or freaked out over something fictional. I have passions, like science and my degree, but I don't like to explain to people *why* I like it so much, because it either takes too much effort to explain or I just can't get the words out right.\n\nThat being said, I'm not exactly boring/sad/apathetic, I'm actually quite an optimistic person and I like it when the people I care about are happy. It's just that I can't express that I care for them, I don't really know how to explain it. I *feel* emotions, but I have trouble expressing them.\n\nI think the problem stems from a past relationship I was in. I used to be a really emotionally open person, but I got pretty badly messed up due to emotional abuse etc. I'm over the relationship now and ready to move on but I still feel like not being able to express myself has taken it's toll on me.\n\nThe issue, and why I've posted this, is that I'm kind of dating someone at the moment. Not officially, but he's asked me out on a date and we've both made it very obvious that we like each other. He was there when the robot joke was made and I feel like maybe that's not the kind of image I want to be sending to someone who could potentially be in a relationship with me. I'm not really sure what to do, if I should just try and embrace my robot tendencies or try and develop my emotional openness again.", "summary": "I have trouble expressing my emotions, I'm going on a date with a guy, I don't want to have trouble expressing my emotions and I don't know how I can change it."}
{"id": "t3_324syp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU the last six months of my life", "post": "Warning: big wall of text coming. \n\nHi. Call me Joe.\n\nTo clarify the title,  I didn't mess up the final six months of my life ( at least I hope not) but the six months preceding this one, so no worries! \n\nI'm an 18 y/o German dude who lived in France until I finished school and moved out, 6 months ago.\n\nI set out to study engineering in Germany but I didn't move out too far to go see my girlfriend and parents often. That was in mid-October. \n\nNow for the fuck-up: i didn't go to any of the lectures in those six months,  save for one in the second week. I didn't go to my exams. Pretty much never left my apartment, slept ridiculous amounts of time and played video games. Lost crazy weight because I didn't eat very much, barely stayed clean and generally took very little care of myself. It just sorta happened.\n\nThat's the first part of the fuckup. In the second part, I lied to everyone I care about ( parents, my 3 older siblings,  my girlfriend, my friends, my extended family,  girlfriends parents). They had no idea. That's by far the bigger one of the two. \n\nMy conscience finally caught up to me this week so I told my brother, some friends and my girlfriend the truth. Generally speaking those were six long shitty months filled with regret and self-loathing. The worst part was seeing my girlfriend cry today when I told her the truth. \n\nReddit,  I fucked up very impressively, arguably the most in my life, the last few months. I'll confess to my parents and the rest of those I lied to in the following days /weeks, depending when I next see them. Whatever I got coming,  I deserve it. That's all on me. \n\nSorry for taking your time like that and thanks for reading.", "summary": "18 y/o, moved out to uni. Didn't go to class or go to exams, lied to everyone I care about it. Regret. Am now spilling the beans."}
{"id": "t3_2pbyce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate [20 M] currently has two relationships with two [19 F]'s. What do I do?", "post": "Some background information\n\nMy roommate at college (A) was talking to this girl (1) for about a month. Then she found out he had cheated on her which not even I knew about but he claimed he wasn't aware they were exclusive (bullshit in my opinion). During the 2 week period while he was trying to get her back he started talking to another girl (2). Eventually he got 1 back and kept things going with 2. He has now been seeing both of these girls for at least a month.\n\nI have called him out on this before but he basically just deflects anything I say and claims he feels remorse when I know he doesn't. I just feel terrible having to see these two girls who are both such nice people and act like everything is fine and I hate that they will most likely hate me when this all comes out and I will be an accomplice.\n\nSneaky plots to get him caught without knowing I had involvement are also acceptable advice.", "summary": "Roommate has two girlfriends, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_i6y5h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is the most hilarious fart story you have?", "post": "I decided to spend the night at my 22yo friends house who lives with his parents.  When I first arrived, we started downloading a massive update for a ps3 game to play all night long.  As soon as the downloading starts, he goes into the kitchen and has the worst screaming fight with his mother you can imagine.  He comes back to the room looking so mad hes about to cry and just sits on his bed angry as FUCK.  I'm suddenly in one of the most awkward silences of my life.  All I can do is sit in silence with him and wait around an hour for this download to finish.  Suddenly, he pops out a mondo slopper of a bum rattler.  He then silently mumbles to himself in an angsty rage \".... that was an anger fart....\"  no one said anything after that for a good 20 minutes.  I almost DIED holding in my laughter!", "summary": "Friend gets in big argument with parent that incites horribly awkward silence only broken by the seal barking out of his ass"}
{"id": "t3_yz7j3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] not sure if I'm ready for a mature relationship (20/f).", "post": "I'll cut to the chase to simplify things:  I know this great girl (20/f).  Our personalities complement each other's beautifully and I know for a fact that she is interested in me.  \n\nProblem is that I'm not sure if I'm sexually attracted to her.  She's slightly overweight, something I've never been socialized to find attractive unfortunately.  I do believe that if we were to get serious, we would have a great sexual relationship, but she's not what I think of when I epitomize sexual attractiveness.  I'm heading off to college and know that I could get with much more typically \"hot\" girls (I know I'm immature at this point, I'm only 18), which is something I could be longing for were I to get in a relationship with this girl.  Any perspectives you could offer?  Were I a few years older and already had many experiences, this probably wouldn't be as big of a problem.  I can feel though that I'm afraid of \"missing out.\"", "summary": "Amazing (20/f) I could get in relationship with, afraid of feeling like I'm \"missing out\" with more objectively \"hot\" girls.  I know I'm incredibily immature about this."}
{"id": "t3_2jv0gw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] Just discovered the girl I'm dating is 21, seems too young but the connection feels real.", "post": "After a string of relationships, I decided to break the cycle and not get into anything serious for a while, and have been casually dating for most of this year through OKC and Tinder. A couple of months ago I decided to put that aside and make space in my life for something real.\n\nA week ago I met a beautiful moon goddess at a party, we danced together, painted each other's faces and kissed, and I gave her a ride home and took her number. I instantly felt a deep connection and had the feeling like this might be something real.\n\nWe have since met up at another party and went out on a date last night. We seem to spend a lot of time being intimate in a way that would seem fitting for people who have known each other for a long time, lots of hand holding, gentle touching, face to face contact, etc.\n\nMy guess was that she was maybe about 26 or 27, but when I asked her last night she said she was 21. This threw me for a loop and I'm not sure where to go now. This violates the \"half your age plus 7\" rule (I'm 30), but also just in general feels to me to be too young. Although that doesn't really change how I feel, it still feels genuine and I feel a deep connection with her. But maybe this age gap is a red line and my feelings don't actually matter. \n\nI'm really not sure whether to keep pursuing this, any advice would really help, thanks.", "summary": "Recently started dating someone new, just found out she is 21, I'm 30. There is a deep and real connection there that seems worth pursuing, but I'm conflicted as I think this age gap is just too large, and makes me feel creepy."}
{"id": "t3_hp24e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mac versus PC: The Great Debate!", "post": "Reddit, I need your opinion on which is a better computer--I am saving to buy my own laptop and would like to know where my money would be better spent!", "summary": "I need a computer and I want the best quality/bang for your buck -- not something that will crap out on me to where I will have to purchase a new one in a few years. Help me out, reddit! :)"}
{"id": "t3_gjpkz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have an autistic roommate and he wants to learn how to play bass. What is the best way to go about  this?", "post": "He's been a really close family friend for a long time, so I've known him for around 14 years or so. Because we've been friends for so long, I never really wanted to think that he had a disorder, but it became really apparent to me that this was true just recently when we became roommates.\n\nI've been playing guitar for about 3-4 years and have a pretty good ear for what sounds right when it comes to music. Not saying I know how to play bass, but I definitely know more than someone who has never played an instrument before.\n\nHis parents are pretty wealthy and recently bought him a bass guitar and bass-amp. Sometimes I hear him playing in his room. I get a strong vibe that he wants to learn, but is afraid to ask. And I've tried teaching him in the past but I feel my methods of teaching are a much less than perfect, because he gets a little flustered and overwhelmed.\n\nI really love to teach, and I feel I have tremendous amounts of patience; but I feel that there must be some way of teaching him how to play. I don't care how long it's going to take, I just want to know how to do it.", "summary": "What is the most effective way that I can teach my roommate who has autism how to play bass?"}
{"id": "t3_2ez64n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [20] of a couple months has no time for me [18 f] anymore", "post": "I'll try to keep this as concise as possible, as relationship problems often involve anything and everything you've ever done together. But a little background, My boyfriend and I have been crushin' on each other pretty heavily throughout high school. Things started up for us near the beginning of the summer, some...unfortunate things happened, but we're back together for good now and really in love. \n\nUnfortunately, he also started a new job as a waiter and he works from the afternoon late into the night about five days a week (including everyday of this weekend :-( ). On top of that he is starting nursing school after not having gone to school for a year, which takes up the better part of every weekday. \n\nObviously these are huge changes and take up tons of time for him, which causes a lot of stress. So not only does he really not have any time to spend with me (when he's not working or at school he's studying), but he is also very irritable these days. He really doesn't make me feel very loved. I don't think I'm very hard to please, but he doesn't even do any of the 'little things' that make people happy. In fact, he's almost always upset and closed off. But I am reasonably understanding about this because I know what immense pressure he's under. \n\nI offer all that I can to help him with this. I drive us everywhere, pay for most things, help him study, and am here for him to talk to whenever he needs it. I just don't know if I can take much more of this. I absolutely love the hell out of him but I have to force myself into his schedule, always to his reluctance, and sit around and watch him in complete overloaded misery. We don't go out anymore, we barely ever do any fun things, and to be honest it's just hard to be happy around him anymore. And it's going to be like this for the rest of the year", "summary": "My boyfriend is going through some very stressful life changes and has no time or love to give me anymore. How can I be supportive and understanding while also being happy?"}
{"id": "t3_4dzwce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18, with my parents 68, got my nose pierced now they think I am a horrible disrespectful person/.", "post": "So for starters I am adopted by my great aunt and uncle who are well into their sixties. I have two older siblings and my biological mother who isn't the greatest person. For people of their generation they are very liberal in some areas but not so much in others such as piercings, hair color, and tattoos. They consider them to be wrong I guess. Regardless 3/4 of their kids are tatted and they got over it. Today after years of wanting a nose piercing I went for it and I didn't expect this reaction to it.\n \nFor starters, they made it extremely clear that I was a huge disappointment, disrespectful, and rude. It threw me off as I knew they wouldn't be thrilled but not this pissed. They preceded to say that this piercing was a dagger in their heart because it reminded them of my horrible birth mom and it goes to show I am just like her. They know how much I do not want to be compared to her ever. They then tell me its disrespectful because I never discussed it( I am 18 this shouldn't be a discussion). \n\nThen they go on and on saying I do not appreciate the car, or tuition money for college( relatively inexpensive state school not some super expensive private school) still it is very kind of them. Which is so far from true, I know and have stated many times how lucky and appreciative I am that they help me out so much. But they also would never let me take out loans anyway. It just went on and on how I do not appreciate the food, clothes( I buy), house, and that I just do as I please. In my parents view as long as they were providing for me in some way that they did have a say in what I did with MY body.... this fucking stunned me.\nAt this point I had enough, looked at them told I'd pay for school...I feel like this is quite extreme and I am not sure how to possibly mend or fix this.", "summary": "Pierced my nose, parents berated me for it telling me how offensive it was to do so, that they have a right over my body even though I am 18 because they provide tuition, food, and a house."}
{"id": "t3_45okdt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm having very mixed feelings about this girl . . .", "post": "I'm a junior in HS, and one of my classes is full of freshmen. There's a particular girl in this class who I find fun to hang out with. She's got a silly sense of humor, kind of immature, but also very attentive and insecure. She's also very timid, and quiet for the most part, unless someone is talking to her about something she enjoys talking about. \n\nAnyway, I often try to make her laugh, and have been since November, but I have this feeling that I don't know how to describe. I really like her company, just being around her makes my day, but I also feel like I might like her. I often try to dismiss this feeling because I know it's futile, but I can't seem to get her out of my head. It's affecting my thoughts, reluctant to stop, but I know she likes my company as well (probably not to the same extent though.) It's hard to explain, but I can't stop thinking about her, even though I don't *like* her . . .", "summary": "I might be obsessing over this girl even though I don't want/have feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_1kggj0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Me, Katawa Shoujo, depression and relationships.", "post": "Earlier this year, I jokingly tried the ever-famed VN (Visual Novel) Katawa Shoujo. My assumptions left me to believe that it was just cripple hentai, I was waaaay off from what it actually turned out to be. (It's absolutely beautiful, and even if you aren't a fan of love stories I'm sure you can get something out of it) I'm naturally a sap when it comes to the topic of love and relationships, and I tend to put myself into the main character's perspective when reading so this really hit me hard.\n\n(For those who have read it, I read through Emi and Lilly's path, Lilly's being my favourite)\n\nIt also hit me hard because of how depressed I've been since my last serious relationship (Ended a couple months ago) As much as my family loves me, nothing seems to compare to having a lover. After 3 relationships like this, I've come to the conclusion that I'm a happier person when I'm in a relationship.\n\nKatawa Shoujo allowed me to seem like I mattered more than I felt when it came to real life. Made me feel like someone actually cared about what I did and like I had someone on my side, like I was special to someone. I loved every second I've read, and I plan to read all of the routes, it also seems to keep the depression at bay. Just the music alone can bring me up when I feel lonely, sad, or just down in general. Every song I listen to on the OST brings me back into the wonderful world of Yamaku, laughing alongside Misha in class, sipping tea with Lilly or even going out for a run with Emi.\n\nThing is, is that after listening to some music or reading more; I come to the realization that it's just a VN, and that I seriously doubt I'll come across someone who can make me happy. It's odd how this just ends up in a viscous cycle.", "summary": "Katawa Shoujo is amazing and being single sucks."}
{"id": "t3_229k7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is friendship possible after break up?", "post": "My [28 M] girlfriend [29 F] of 4 years broke up with me in February citing personal problems (mental issues) and the need for space and time to work things out, though she said she would like us to come back sometime. \n\nI accepted it because our relationship was going downhill and we're in good therms. \n\nAt first she tried to stay in touch almost hourly, but I asked for silence to get used to her absence, now we text eachother weekly. \n\nIf nothing else, I really want us to be friends in the future because I really care for her and because I do need her friendship. \n\nBut I'm affraid that things cool down way too much and that we're unable to connect again. \n\nHow much time should I wait? \n\nWhat kind of contact should I keep?", "summary": "Broke up on good therms two months ago, going through some light silent phase  but would really like us to stay friends. Is it possible? Or is the silence going to cool things down irreversibly?"}
{"id": "t3_3ytun0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [27M] connect with my daughter [6F] who I'll be meeting for the first time?", "post": "I have been in prison for the last seven years, and unfortunately have not been able to meet my daughter. She was born after I got arrested and sent to prison. Her mother sends me letters every now and then, along with pictures, describing to me her personality, what she likes and dislikes, and so I have a basic understanding of what she's like.\n\nShe is aware of who I am, and her mother has told her in age-appropriate terms the reason why I have been absent from her life. I'll be seeing them very soon, and I'm unsure of what to do. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable around me, although initially I know she will, but at the same time I want to make an effort to connect with her. I've already missed so much time, and so many big moments in her life, I just want to make up for that lost time. \n\nSo my question is, how can I build a relationship with my daughter? I'd love to hear some suggestions on how to act, and what I can do/", "summary": "Was in prison, missed first six years of daughters life. How can I build a relationship with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2qibqp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So there's this girl..", "post": "I've already talked to a few of my friends about this but I just wanted to get this off my chest. Basically a few months ago I liked a girl and told her that I liked her and she shot me down. I started talking to this new student that came into our grade and we got to know each other really well. She was the girl I fell for. Hard. \n\nA week before exams we told each other how we felt and that I'd give her all the time she needed to make up her decision about us. The whole \"let's not fuck up our friendship talk came up\". Then the day before our winter break started she called it off. I didn't know how to feel. All I felt was a lot of pain and regret knowing I fucked up the one thing I had going on in my life with a girl. I know I'm only in my junior year of high school but she was someone I wanted to spend a lot of time with. \n\nThe worst part is, I started to think about self-harm to resort to my pain but I'm always so scared of what will happen next. I can't even talk to her because I'm afraid talking to her will drive her away even further, since my interest for her was what drove her away in the first place. I keep finding myself reading back at pass whatsapp messages and recalling about the time we talked near her house. She told me that she hasn't been happier and she's fixing herself and I respect that. But I've never been happier when I was with her. I've talked to her once or twice after christmas and I asked her why she talked to me, since everything is all awkward. She said just because she didn't want to date, didn't mean she didn't care. And with a response like that how can I not like her?\n\nI feel so pathetic and helpless and self-harm is something I considered but never had to nerves to try. And I don't know how to cope with these feelings", "summary": "girl and I had liked each other but she called it off and now I'm helpless and feel like crap."}
{"id": "t3_vtkv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I'm the guy who went on a trip with another guys girlfriend.", "post": "Quick refresher: She and I planned a trip when we were together. Then I had to move across the country and couldn't go on the trip until the week before (things changed). She started dating someone else just before the trip (nice guy). My question was what are my responsibilities regarding sex on this trip.\n\nLink to original:", "summary": "Got sick, no sex, they're breaking up anyway."}
{"id": "t3_jsk9t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I warn my siblings about the danger of raising their children how we were raised?", "post": "I was raised mormon, and saying I was sheltered is an understatement. I don't believe my parents really meant to (I kinda think it just slipped their minds) but they never taught me a single thing about sex, I was never given 'the talk', wasn't given any kind of Ask Alice book, and was actually taken out of school during the sex edd years (I know that was not the intention, just a bad coincidence). They even had parental controls all over the computer so I couldn't look anything up if I wanted to. \n\nAs a result....well, lets just say I had to rely on my high school boyfriend to tell me what a condom was. He taught me everything about sex and I believed every word he said. That is NOT ok. Seriously, I count myself lucky that he did not abuse that every day, I am sure most 17 year old boys would have. I don't know how to explain how incredibly dangerous of a situation that was, I could have ended up with an STD or a child. I could have walked into my adult life with an unrealistic understanding of sex (thus opening myself up to yet more possible STDs and children) \n\nI'm not going to lie and say that was entirely out of my hands, I'm sure I could have tried harder to get information, but I didn't even know enough to know I should. \n\nWell, my sister has four elementary school children, and my brother is about to get married and they are planning on having children. They are both still mormon so they will be raising their children as such, do I pull them aside and tell them they need to teach their children about sex no matter how much they trust them to 'make the right decision'? Do I tell them my story? Do I plan to buy everyone Ask Alice books for their 13th and slip a note with my number telling them to call with any questions? Or is that not my place? I know its up to them how they raise their children, just....Well, looking back scares me. That amount of ignorance is horrifying to me, especially on such a life changing subject.", "summary": "my parents taught me nothing about sex so I had to learn from my high school boyfriend-do I warn my siblings not to do the same to their children?"}
{"id": "t3_1eg66w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Just informed yesterday I will be receiving 100k to do with what I chose, help me do the right thing!", "post": "Ok so yesterday I received a phone call from my mother telling me the family trust was being dissolved and distributed to the children of the trustees(my mother and her brother and two other sisters) anyways there is apparently a lot of money in this trust which I have known about but was not available due to it being a generation trust which required basically my mom to die for me to see any of it ever. \n   \n       Sooo in the past year I have gotten married and had my first child, I am 31 along with my wife and my daughter is 5 months old, so in the past year my mother has been fighting with the trustee to release funds to be distributed to help with establishing my young family.\n     Anyways the trust is in the process of being cashed out and distributed amongst the living heirs and my mother informs me she will be giving me 100k to do with what I will with hopes that I buy a home for my small family and use the money wisely. \n\n   So that is my question what should I do with this money and how much should I spend on a house? Both me and my wife have decent jobs with a combined household income of about 95k a year and I personally have only about $300 in debt, seriously, she has a bit more but nothing crazy and we have the baby bill of about $1700. I want to put money in some sort of account for my daughter that can mature and gain interest and she can access when she is 21 and I am considering another one that she wouldn't know about at all and would be available when she is 30 also we want to take a honeymoon we never got so I want a few bucks for that but thats it really. \n     \n    Any help would be great I have never had this large sum of money put in front of me before and I want to make it work because I have watched people, like my father, squander large sums of cash due to ignorance and I will not let that happen.", "summary": "Just got informed I will be receiving 100k in the next 60-90 days to do with what I will, I am married 31 with a 5 month old and only about $300 in debt."}
{"id": "t3_291pfy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Problems with my(28m) daughter (6f) and fiance of 3 years (32m)", "post": "Hi\n\n1st time I have posted here so I will do my best to explain.\n\nI have been dating my current fiance for about 4 years now, we will call her F. My daughter from a previous relationship (we will call D) has the whole time ignored my partner and always referred to the house as \"my dads house\" etc.\n\nI have contact every other weekend when she comes and stays and shares a bedroom with our new son (we will call S). D loves him to bits and spends as much time as possible with S as possible. However as soon F arrives D wont even talk to me, she just shuts down.\n\nThe same happens when we visits F's family, D will talk to everyone but wont have anything to do with F. F is also a teacher and gets on great with all the other kids.\n\nRecently F and D had it out. D stated she didnt like F becuase she thinks that F stops me seeing D. Which is not true and has been told by myself and her mother.\n\nCurrently F is feeling hurt after years of reaching out and says currently she wants nothing to do with D for the time being.\n\nDo you guys see any way to help this or is giving them both space from each other a good idea?", "summary": "Fiance (32f) is being ignored by my daughter (her stepdaughter)"}
{"id": "t3_1ph4ie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with [21F] have been dating on and off for 10 months. It seems to be off for good this time and I can't let it go.", "post": "Here are some previous posts if you want some backstory...\n\nOriginal:", "summary": "On and off girlfriend is increasingly distant and obviously doesn't want to be with me."}
{"id": "t3_3u3duw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Bicurious [28F] received phone number from a gorgeous [23F] girl this weekend. Not sure if she wanted friendship or more... what do I text her?", "post": "Ive never picked up a girl before... I've always been the one who was hit on and I have no experience with women in the dating arena.\n\nMet this beautiful and intriguing girl on the weekend - we had things in common. She wrote down her name and number clearly for me *without me asking*. She offered it, but I was the one who initiated contact and I wasn't certain if it was simply because she enjoyed talking to me or because she was interested too.\n\nI wouldn't mind being friends with her if she isn't keen on more but I also don't want to be friendzoned.", "summary": "How do I approach this girl, after she gave me her number, and how do I gauge if she is interested in more?"}
{"id": "t3_49gqze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 11 months, she keeps trying to discuss politics with me but I'm afraid if she finds out how conservative I am we'll break up.", "post": "We like each other a lot. I'm not sure if I would go so far as to say I love her, but I can see that happening in the future. We are very compatible in many ways, but politically we couldn't be any more different. She is very liberal, and I am very conservative. It's just she doesn't know it (or at least I think she doesn't). I have tried as much as possible to avoid controversial topics or change subjects if she brings them up, but with politics being the news so much now, it's getting very hard, especially when she directly asks how I feel about X issue. \n\nIn some cases, I'll share my views with friends or family, but I'm always careful. I don't see her as someone who could accept my views given how much I know they bother her. I'm afraid she would think I'm \"intolerant\" and \"out of touch.\" I could be wrong, though. \n\nPart of me wonders if I should just be honest. Something else I've thought about is just telling her I don't want to discuss it. I'm not sure this would work because of how politically active she is. I know that every couple is different, but has anyone else ever had a similar problem? If so, how did you deal with it? Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Trying to find ways to not discuss politics with my girlfriend anymore. I'm afraid that if it keeps coming up she'll find out how conservative I am and will want to break up."}
{"id": "t3_sdqr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF of 1yr broke up with me and I have no idea the reason, I need advice.", "post": "Yes this is not my real reddit account. My GF of a year broke up with me and I am totally lost. We never argued. Were together alot always had fun and laughs. Never called eachother a single bad name. Had the same ideology, interested, both redditors, humor. Everything that you want. She was my dream girl. She has been super stressed with school and family situations and the past month or so was acting a little more stand offish so I questioned her and she began to cry and said she did not want to be in a relationship, it sucked but I accepted it but thought it was out of no where. Now a week later I try talking to her and she tells me to move on and that she has nothing else to say. This is out of no where, I feel totally betrayed and lied to. How can someone go from being in love to nothing without any cause. Like I really loved this girl and I thought she loved me. She told me I was her best boyfriend not a month and a half ago. Its not that she is with anyone else I highly doubt that. But I feel like I am suffocating and have no one to speak to. I cant eat or sleep all I do is miss her.", "summary": "GF of one year and I had a perfect relationship, broke up with me and gave me no real answer. I am now totally depressed."}
{"id": "t3_1mauqy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ex-friend [20m] sent me [21f] an apology after 2 years", "post": "this guy [20m] and i [21f] had been friends for a couple years in high school, but we stopped talking about 2 years ago, mostly due to the fact that he was in with some bad people, and that i didn't want a relationship with him. we argued a lot, and i got called a lot of names.\n\na few days ago, he sent me a message along the lines of \"i'm sorry, i've been through a lot of shit, and i realize that you were a good friend and you didn't deserve the way i treated you.\" \n\nshould i respond? i would be glad if he's really changed and is trying to repair our friendship, but this could be another way of getting back into contact just to go back into the dilemma of \"he wants a relationship/i don't\". what can i even say to that?", "summary": "ex-friend sent me an apology after 2 years of not talking. how do i respond? how do i know we won't end up back where we started? would it be better to just ignore it?"}
{"id": "t3_1n28ba", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "So there's no emotion anymore [18M/19F].", "post": "So I can't say that it's always been rainbows and etc but this is just the time that I'm officially over it. Even though we've only been dating almost three and a half months, I would love for it to last longer, however I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same. I always make sure she knows she's beautiful and treat her like a princess, however nothing can be said towards me. Maybe five times in 3 and a half months has she made me feel like she makes me feel about her. Everything was fine until she started hanging out with her friends a lot more than usual, which is fine, but when she changed her attitude towards me, posting the usual breakup b.s that happens on Facebook/twitter/tumblr/etc, without mentioning a break up. She changed the way she's texting me, she refused to talk to me over the phone as we usually do every night being in a semi-long-distance relationship. We've not said the \"I love you's\" yet, and honestly I used to be able to say that I did, but when she gives other guys more attention than me I can't say that I do love her anymore. I'm not wanting me to be the center of her universe by no means, but I would like a little bit of affection rather than being ignored until she's bored. I don't want to end it but there's just no feeling anymore between her and I. If there is any feeling from her end, I don't feel any. This is my first official relationship and hopefully this is just a phase for her since its been two weeks since we've seen each other.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have no emotion anymore, she's ignoring me for other guys, and straight up ignoring me. "}
{"id": "t3_34xx64", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not accepting my emotions", "post": "This fuck up happened soon after the start of 11th grade (and continued for 18 months). I was in a new school and met this girl - call her Jasmine. She was very friendly and we got to talking and had a lot of fun (usually in the presence of a larger, loosely defined social group). Fast forward a few months - I come to the realization that I have feelings for her, and immediately try to disassociate with her. I ignore her presence in person, reply to her messages very coldly and generally behave awkwardly when she's around. I then proceed to become practically best friends with her older brother - call him Charles - who is my classmate.\n\nJasmine briefly dates an asshole.\n\nOne day (about 16 months after the start of 11th grade) Charles asks me why I stopped talking to Jasmine - I lie, saying that I she stopped talking to me. Later, I feel bad about lying and confess that I have feelings for her and stopped talking to her in hopes that it would go away. He takes it better than I expected, considering that he's the protective kind. A few days later he tells me that Jasmine had feelings for me as well, and it hits me... It should have been obvious to anyone. I can't take it anymore, and I tell Jasmine and apologize for being a jerk.\n\nCouple days later, out of respect for Bro Code, I ask Charles if it was okay to ask Jasmine out and he, surprisingly, says okay.\n\nI then ask Jasmine out in school. She says she'll think about it. 5 nauseating hours later she texts me, asking me relationship related-questions such as \"How do you know it'll work?\" and What about when you move for college?\", I say we'll make it work long distance. She then apologizes profusely and gives me the standard rejection \"You're a great guy\" and \"You'll end up with someone better than me\".\n\nI initially take is okay, and then go into depression mode for a few weeks.\n \nI'm now almost over her. At least I don't ignore her or behave awkwardly anymore.\n\nSide note: I've never been in a relationship. She's the only person I've ever had feelings for or asked out.", "summary": "A girl falls for me, I don't realize, I fall for her and start ignoring her, 18 months later she rejects me."}
{"id": "t3_4dkwu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 2 years, Just told me she is losing feelings for me because I do things that push her away.", "post": "Some details before I start\n\n-We live together\n\n-Dating for 2 years now\n\n-Moved away from where we used to live (CA) a year ago\n\n-Rarely ever fight\n\nSo tonight, my gf of almost 2 years told me that she is losing feelings for me. This came up after I told her that I felt she was being a bit more distant lately and not the same. \n\nShe recently got a new job as a cocktail waitress at a club and she works about 3-4 days a week. She's also required to go to work outings sometimes which takes up more of her time. Ever since she started working this job it's been pretty difficult on me because she has to hide to the fact that she has a bf (networking opportunities). I was okay with it because I trust her. When she told me she was losing feelings she told me it was strictly because of my actions and not because of any other guys or any other reason.\n\nShe listed out a bunch of reasons such as: me nagging her about paying her bills on time, or telling her to cancel a membership to the gym because she joined another one, being clingy (I disagree), not giving her space to do her own thing (although I feel like I do)\n\nI nag about these things because I feel that its important for her to get those things taken care of, so that she can build good credit or not waste money on unneeded expenses. I don't feel like I'm nagging at her but that is what she says it is.\n\nI love my girl and I know that she loves me but is this a sign that our relationship is headed toward a downward spiral, or is this something we can move on from and fix", "summary": "GF of 2 years says she's losing feelings because I do certain things that push her away. Is this fixable or am I in a relationship that's slowing sinking"}
{"id": "t3_31ch60", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Thinking about finding a new home for my cat...", "post": "Hi everyone. I've struggling with owning a cat since she came in to my life, and I've been thinking lately about finding a new home for her. Let me explain my situation.\n\nI came to living with my cat, Neuvy, 4 years ago during my senior year in college. My best friend's fianc\u00e9e was taking out the trash one night, and Neuvy jumped in to her arms. He called me, asking if I could take her (they already had two cats if their own). I quickly said yes.\n\nShe has been living with me ever since. She drove out to CA with my for graduate school. Since I've started grad school, however, things have been rough. For one, I am never home to play with her, which I feel bad about. It's evident that she is starved for attention. When I get home at night, all I want to do is relax and crash, but instead I feel obligated to play with her, and if I don't, she meows and is worked up about it, which causes me distress, as well as it causes her.\n\nOwning a cat is expensive, as you know, and for a graduate student, my salary is meager already. In fact, I just moved in to a new apartment that is cheaper. I also feel limited by her. For instance, sometimes I need to crash at a friend's place, but I have to make the long trek back home to care for her. I also like to travel when I can, which makes things difficult. On top of it all, I've had issues with roommates and girlfriends in the past related to let allergies. \n\nBecause of all this, I've been thinking about finding a new home for her. Part of me can't bear to think about giving her away, but the other part feels like I just am not supposed to own a cat right now. I've read the articles and threads about alternatives, things you can do to improve your relationship with cats, they don't have a say in the matter, etc. But is it possible that it's just *not the right time in my life* to have a cat? And is that ok?\n\nAny help or advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm a stressed graduate student who is thinking about finding a new home for his cat, and I'm not sure how to go about doing it."}
{"id": "t3_fox85", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is anybody else sickened at the current state of our education system?", "post": "Upon coming to my state university about 3 years ago, I realized just how far behind my school district was compared to a majority of other students coming from different districts.  Where they had graduated > 90% of their original class (with an average GPA of about 3.0+), my graduating class was about 1/3 of the size it was intended to be (we started with 330ish, graduated about 135).  Every other district was about 2 years ahead in the curriculum compared to my high school.  My school district was in a highly urban area, where a fair portion of the student body survives on the \"free lunch\" system.  Our educational system (at least in Iowa) is currently experiencing wide spread budget cuts.  More and more I feel like, even my own siblings, are at a disadvantage when entering college because of the decline in the quality of education.  This isn't even considering the vast majority of people I know that will never make it to college simply because the system has told them \"it is not for them,\" and they repeat that sentiment.  I feel like I'm ranting, but I honestly feel like, unless you come from a \"rich\" high school today, you can be so far behind your peers upon entering college, that trying to compete with them academically becomes an even greater challenge.", "summary": "I feel as if more than the \"under-achievers\" are suffering as a result of poor quality education in K-12, that can have an adverse affect when attempting to pursue higher education."}
{"id": "t3_2fk4nb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking myself out... (Advised to repost from r/facepalm)", "post": "About a month ago I'd just moved in to my new flat and was sat in my room when my girlfriend buzzed to be let in. I went out to the hall to let her in without realising that my room had one of those self locking Yale locks on the door! So obviously it swings shut and I'm locked out because my keys were on the desk inside the room!\n\nWe spent 5 minutes trying to pick the lock (without a clue what we're doing and not so much as Google to help us as I've not set up the Wi-Fi yet) before giving in and calling my landlord figuring their office is only 20 minutes away, and we could easily walk down to pick up the spare keys. Amazingly they inform me that they don't have spare bedroom keys?! The woman on the phone gets in a bit of a panic and says says she'll try to figure out what to do and call me back.\n\nVarious cricket bat/roundhouse kick attempts at busting the lock failed. Sat there in desperation staring out of the living room window, I remember that my bedroom window had actually been left open. I briefly considered trying to jump round from the adjacent living room window but the 25ft drop rather scared me off the idea!\n\nThe woman at the landlord's calls me back and says it'll cost me \u00a350 as they'll have to send round a locksmith! Just as I'm on the phone, my girlfriend notices a van with a ladder pull up outside - we went out to try to find the owner, but of course he'd disappeared by the time we got down.\n\nSo we go outside, phone the number on the van and explain the situation to a fella who clearly found it all hilarious but agreed to let me use the ladder! I shinned up it, and heroically rolled in through the window to my room and rescued my keys!!\n\nMy girlfriend is still locked outside of course so I go back out of my room to the hall to let her in - realising a nanosecond too late that my keys are STILL in my bedroom as the door slammed behind me... I don't think I've ever facepalmed so hard in my life!", "summary": "Locked myself out, heroically got back in with assistance from a stranger with a ladder - rinse and repeat..."}
{"id": "t3_4dysr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) boyfriend (30m) of 8 months is moving", "post": "We've had a pretty rocky relationship. But he means a lot to me, and I enjoy our relationship for the most part. \n\nHe's from a different province.. Moved here a year and a bit ago with his ex girlfriend. \n\nThroughout the last 8 months, he's been really confused about what he wants to do.. He's 30 and doesn't want to work in the service industry anymore, but not really ambitious enough to look for anything else ? \n\nFast forward to the other day.. I confronted him about not showing me any kind of affection, and our lack of a sex life. He blurts out that his brother offered him a job back home and he's going to take it. I lost my cool and we got in a huge fight. I was mad he didn't tell me when he found out, and he said he didn't want to because he didn't want me to be upset ... He thinks we should continue to hang out like normal until he leaves .. But we wouldn't be doing the long distance thing and when he's gone, it's over. \n\nI'm pretty crushed and confused. I don't think I'm capable of dating him when I know our relationship has an expiry date. But, he works with me and no contact would be impossible so I'm kind of stuck?? We've broken up before, but as soon as we see each other at work I get sucked back in. \n\nI guess my question is how to find enough strength to walk away from this. It's making me miserable.", "summary": "he's moving. He wants to date until then. I don't know if I can do it."}
{"id": "t3_2zun38", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Park like a douch? No problem, my car is narrow...", "post": "So today I went out to wash my car, go to the thrift shops and get some five guys to treat myself. I rock up to five guys at noon and the place was packed, combine that with a small parking lot and there was a total of three open spots, one being a handicapped. So I cruise around to the other side and I see it. A lifted sil-va-rado, complete with tap out stickers... Now let me explain where he was parked, on the passenger side was a curb, with about 3 feet of space between it and his tire, this left him about 2 feet into the spot next to him. My baby fit like a glove in between him and an explorer. \n\nFast forward, I am sitting at a seat near the window, glance out and I see him.\n\nbackwards hat. check\n\nBro tank. Check\n\nSlutty girlfriend. Check\n\nHe looks at the gap between the truck and my car, then back tries to fit between my car and his truck, no luck and he knocks my turn signal out (as seen in picture) because the thumb nut holding it in is missing. He is now stopping to the other side of the truck and climbs over as the girl is taking pics. As I sit there watching a old man walks up to me and sets a cup of fries next to me and says \"doing gods work son, I have an 83 like yours\" and we spent the next 30 minutes talking about cars. \n\nPic:", "summary": "guy parks like a douch, this 16 year old kid gets the last laugh. And free fries."}
{"id": "t3_1xieiu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF [19F] 6 months gets upset when I'm mad at her for legitimate reasons making me regret bringing it up.", "post": "This is probably boring compared to most posts but I hope I can still get some insight.\n\n---\nMy GF is great and we talk about everything but whenever she does something that bugs me or hurts me emotionally (which is rare) I'm faced with an annoying dilemma. If i point it out to her she gets upset and I can't stay cross with her long enough to deal with the issue. If I ignore it then she doesn't know shes bothered me and it continues. Whats a simple way of rectifying this? I get genuinely hurt by things she does or neglects doing but it almost gets brushed away when she gets upset.", "summary": "GF hurts me emotionally and I tell her why, she gets upset, I can't continue being cross with her so the issue goes unsorted."}
{"id": "t3_2dqw0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29M Thinks parents aren't taking sisters assault seriously", "post": "I don't live in the West. My family is fairly well off, and we hired a gardner in his 20s. He seemed like an alright fellow, but while I was out of the country he tried to rape my sister who was 10 and now 12.\n\nHe expected she'd just go with it, but instead she screamed and someone came out to prevent him.\n\nShe doesn't seem to be any worse the wear for it, and probably was too young to really understand what was going on (maybe?). Talking to my parents, they haven't done anything about it. They just fired him. They didn't really talk to her, or give her counseling, or anything. My father mentioned it off handedly to me after 2 years, as a \"funny story\" of why we're not hiring male servants anymore.\n\nI want to say something to them. Anything to make them take this situation more seriously. I feel since they already dealt with it, it would bring up trauma (for her) and make my parents think i'm too westernized.", "summary": "sister assaulted. \"big brother\" issues. parents not serious"}
{"id": "t3_1c2cjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lying about the past when it rears its ugly head in the present.", "post": "Ok Reddit, help me out here, please. Recently I've been distraught and don't know how I should proceed. \nBasically my GF has more than once now lied to me regarding her past, and past lovers. \nI get that no one really wants to talk about their past lovers with their current ones, but I don't get that lying about it is acceptable. \nThis latest incident is with regard to an old friend who keeps contacting her. I asked her if he was an ex-lover or if she had had sex with him, her reply was no. However due to the fact that I had in the past stumbled upon her journal (which she burned, without having the knowledge that I had already read most of it), I know this to be a lie. \nI could care less about her past (well, as much as I can, parts do bug me at times, but...), I wasn't there and can't change it, but how do I deal with the future, and the now, fearing that I can't trust her?", "summary": "How do I deal with lying about the past when the past rears its ugly head in the present. "}
{"id": "t3_2fke95", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Counting calories and the cycle of binge....[Rant/Question]", "post": "Hello fellow losers,\n\nI'm a 5'1\" female, weighing somewhere in the mid 140's (Highest weight was in the 160's) Last year I was able to get down to the 120's with the help of mfp. However, since I've gained the weight back it seems as if I have been in a vicious cycle with calorie counting. I will be \"good\" and stay within calories all day, and then I'll end up being really ravenous in the evening and eating like a half a pizza or something. Then, I feel like shit the next day, don't eat, get ravenous, eat three days worth of calories in one sitting, repeat, repeat, etc.\n\nI don't \"binge\" every day, but I'd say I do it maybe once (or sometimes more...) a week. I have decided to break up with mfp for a while and just try to truly listen to my body/eat moderate (not too big or too small) portions/ cook more meals at home. I'm mainly just ranting because this cycle is really starting to piss me off a bit, though I realize it is my fault (which makes me more mad). Has anyone else experienced this? Were you able to lose weight without obsessing over every calorie?", "summary": "I get obsessed with counting calories, get hungry/frustrated, eat a crap ton of food, and repeat the cycle... Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4s91df", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] friend's girlfriend likes me [28M] more than my friend [28M]. What can I tell him?", "post": "My good friend introduced me to his new girlfriend almost a year ago, and we hit it off immediately. Truthfully, I have never met a girl that I have so much in common with. We have the same interests, likes, dislikes, and character flaws, and we each see ourselves in one another. It has become a bit of a running joke that we are actually the same person.\n\nThings were happy between all of us at first, but over time the girlfriend became more considerate of me, and less so of my friend. We joked more, talked more, spent more time together than the two of them did when we went to the same parties. I am not used to this kind of attention, especially from attached people, and now I am wracked with guilt for simply connecting with her. I care about my friend and I know that I have hurt him by getting too close to his girlfriend, thereby not respecting the boundaries of their relationship.\n\nAt this point, she has become cold towards him and warmer towards me. He asked me if I had noticed anything strange going on, and I had no idea what to say. I suspect strongly that she has feelings for me. I suspect that their relationship is rocky and will be short-lived, and that his love is not strongly reciprocated. As much as I wish she would have a frank discussion with him about her feelings, she doesn't seem the type. I feel like an iceberg wanting to somehow give comfort to the Titanic.", "summary": "My friend is in a failing relationship with a girl who I believe has developed strong feelings for me, and I really care for both of them. How can I best be there for my friend when I feel like my carelessness has ruined something that made him so happy? I know where I screwed up, but what do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_2m5mel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] parents just found out I've been lying to them, I'm not sure what to do", "post": "I am a junior in high school, and I'm a pretty terrible student. Not because I am unintelligent, I just don't do my work, don't study, and get bad grades. My parents are pretty serious about wanting me to get good grades (for them good is all A or B) and they weren't really aware of my grades until now.\n\nEvery day I come home and pretend to do work while I just dick around and watch youtube videos or something. After a few hours of this I tell the parents all work is done and I play videos games for the rest of the night. I know this is problem I have and I'm pretty depressed because I do this.\n\nWell today they got an email from the school revealing how much homework there is I haven't done. I came home and got yelled at for a while about how disappointing this is and why can't I be like all my siblings that are amazing students (sister got 2400 sat, brother was national merit scholar etc). Now my father wont really say much to me and my mom just says what a nasty liar I am and how shameful it is that I can't just do my work, I'm going to grow up to be a failure if I continue like this. I can feel their extreme disappointment every time they look at me.\n\nI've left out some minor stuff that adds to them hating me but it's not that  important. Not really sure where I go from here I could use some advice.", "summary": "I've been lying to my parents they just found out and are really mad, think I'm a disappointment compared to my siblings."}
{"id": "t3_3dheu6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - By flicking a switch", "post": "Like all TIFU's this happened yesterday. (not today)\n\nBit of context. Me and three other students (we are the oldest students in the school) were having a computing lesson which happens to be the last in a year. We were promised for weeks that we could use the school's very own Oculus Rift. \n\nWe began the lesson as usual until we asked to use the Oculus Rift the teacher allowed it (the Rift wasn't theirs but another teachers just down the corridor). We spent about an hour trying to set it up only to find out the computer we were using wasn't detecting the rifts input. The rifts owner comes down and allows us to take a computer from his room (the class he had was doing their last pieces of coursework for the year, this is important). Here is where the fuck up begins: We unplugged the computer as normal as we were leaving i saw a plug switched on which I immediately think is the computer we just took out. I switched it off.\n\nAnother student about one computer down then says \"Sir, My computer has switched off.\" I then realise what I had caused, he had lost his work which he had spent the last hour working on. I then immediately turn to blame the other students i was with at the time. We quickly leave not knowing what ~~we~~ **I** had caused.", "summary": "turned off a very important computer containing students work which was not saved"}
{"id": "t3_4io38g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to work", "post": "It takes me an hour on the bus to get to work. I start work at 7.30am and my bus leaves from my stop at 6am. So every morning I drag myself out of bed at 5 to begin my day, and today was no exception.  After an hour on the bus and a short walk up the hill I get to work,  I put on my overalls and head in for the team meeting only to be told I had booked the day off months ago for a dentist appointment. I tell my boss and everyone chuckles and so here I am in a coffee shop waiting an hour for the next bus,  which will take another hour to get home.", "summary": "forgot I booked the day off and wasted ~3 hours of valuable sleep time"}
{"id": "t3_3b1s15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] My [26F] SO [28M] of two years was sent a photo by a female friend [23F] of his that is leaving me with questions and anxiety about our relationship.", "post": "*Names, ages, time of events, and anything else identifying has been changed as my SO is an avid redditor.\n\nA few weeks ago, I found a photo my SO saved of another girl. She was fully clothed, but the image was captioned \"About to shower!\" Note that this photo is several months old but still in his phone (and also sent after we'd started dating).\n\nI confronted him (calmly) about this, and he claims he saved it to use her face as a contact photo for her.\n\nI've been thinking on this the past few weeks, but the whole situation just seems bizarre..\n\n1. Why use that photo in particular as her contact photo?\n\n2. Why is he even receiving photos captioned with something like that from other girls?\n\n3. Why does she think it's okay, knowing he's in a relationship, to send him photos of that nature?\n\n4. I don't even want to think this but... are there other photos of this girl that he has saved that I don't know about? Or, back when that photo was sent, did he have doubts about us and did he stray and send her pictures as well?\n\nI want to trust my SO and I am very much in love with him. I just feel like something isn't right with this. We have talked twice on this already but I just... I don't feel right. \n\nReddit, I could really use some advice on how to proceed. Am I being irrational here? Should I just let this go? I don't want to ask something drastic of him like \"show me all the texts between the two of you\" or \"I want to see all the photos you have saved on your phone\" or anything like that, because that's pretty shitty. Breaking up is not an option... I believe in working through problems in a relationship instead of throwing it away over some random issue.... but what do I do?", "summary": "found a picture from a girl in SO's phone captioned \"About to shower!\" I feel it's very inappropriate and I'm worried that something happened around the time the photo was sent. Seeking advice."}
{"id": "t3_181s1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] was cheated on in two long-term relationships by SOs who cheated with their exes. I'm in a new relationship now [23M] but can't stop worrying about his ex. Help?", "post": "I was in two long-term relationships - 1 in high school and 1 in college. My high school boyfriend left me unexpectedly to pursue his ex-GF after we had been dating 2 years. I was upset at the time, but he now seems really committed to this girl and is still with her, so I'm genuinely happy for him. \n\nMy college boyfriend, who was mildly verbally/physically abusive, cheated on me after a few months with his ex. I gave him a second chance and he rewarded me by having a 6-month-long affair with the same girl near the end of our relationship. \n\nMy current, post-college boyfriend is 23 and we've been together for a year. He is wonderful. A great guy, very supportive. But given my past, I can't help but constantly worry about his ex. They dated for almost 3 years in college and she was a major part of his life. I almost feel like there's something \"wrong\" with me that drives boyfriends to their exes - and I'm afraid my trend will rub off on him next. He says he doesn't talk to her anymore, but there's a part of me that always thinks he's lying. To be clear, I know this isn't his fault, but mine. I obsess over wondering how long it will take him to cheat on me, how I'll find out, etc. I occassionally skim through her twitter feed \"just in case.\" I feel like a crazy person. How do I get out of this rut and trust someone who has proven over a whole year to be completely trustworthy? I don't want my fear to end up pushing away someone I can see myself spending the rest of my life with.", "summary": "Scared of being cheated on after several relationships where my SOs were unfaithful. How can I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_1k3o3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17M] with girl [17F] I was seeing for 9 months. Finally over and she's going out partying. How do I stop feeling awful?", "post": "We ended things around a month ago. Last week, I told her I don't want to speak to her anymore so I can get over her because I still love her and I'm unhappy. She got pissed off but that's not what I'm asking.\n\nShe went to a party last week. She's at a party tonight. I know most of the guys going and I hate feeling like they're all chatting her up and trying to pull her. I'm just sat at home feeling awful. All my friends have things on so I've nothing to do except sit at home and think about what she's doing. I just want to get over her and I hate it. \n\nSorry if I sound like I'm whining, I've just never experienced this before because she's the first girl I've properly wanted to be with and it's a shitty feeling", "summary": "Ex of 9 months is at a party atm. I'm stuck at home alone cause all my friends are busy. How do I cheer up and stop thinking about her with other guys?"}
{"id": "t3_1id7pb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my girlfriend[18F] 6 months, best friends for 2 years before this. Day after she breaks up with me gets hammered and kisses other guy.", "post": "So My ex broke up with me on July 4th because she viewed me more as a friend than a lover. The night after she broke up with me she went to a party and got super hammered and made out with a guy I know. I had to find out through a friend from work, I confronted her about it, she admitted it... The thing is, she doesn't even feel bad about it, she doesn't think that she's done anything wrong. Am I wrong to think that what she did was hurtful and generally not something you should do to your best friend?", "summary": "Ex made out with guy right after we broke up. Doesn't feel bad about it at all. (we were best friends for nearly two years, didn't end on too bad of terms.)"}
{"id": "t3_2pru86", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] think my friend [24F] was abused", "post": "I've known this girl since middle school. We've been best friends for a long time, and in our group of friends she was always the first to do anything. I was envious at the time, but now I'm worried that she was and still is being emotionally abused by her father. He was always a really angry guy, overreacting to small things and constantly judging her. She lost her V card at 14, was cutting, was in and out of relationships with older men, many of whom were themselves abusive toward her. At the age of 17 she was fooling around with someone in their early 30's.\n\nShe doesn't share very much, and although she dates older men, these men always seem to rely on her monetarily or in some other sense. One of her earlier boyfriends was a drug dealer, was constantly borrowing money from her, and used to get so angry he would get physical. At one point, he punched out a window in his car.\n\nWhenever we spoke of her and these things she was doing or getting involved in, we just wrote them off as her wishing to be older or more worldly. The thing is, as we mature, and I look back on everything that has happened and it seems as if I'm watching a slow motion train wreck. She's currently got a rotation of men, is a self-proclaimed alcoholic, and always dresses in really skimpy clothes, even when it's cold outside, putting a lot of value in sex and her body.\n\nShe's a very smart girl and I don't want to see her self esteem tank any further than it already has. Ultimately, it's her life. In any other instance, I would say \"You go Glen Coco\" and encourage her to be herself and do what makes her happy, but it doesn't seem like she's happy. I'm just trying to find a way to approach her about this without me seeming self righteous or insulting her. I've recommended therapy before but she just shrugs it off.", "summary": "Her dad always put her down as a kid, I'm now seeing the consequences on her as an adult. I'm trying to get her help without causing more issues or alienating her. What do I do? Am I imagining everything, and she's just being a normal girl in her 20's?"}
{"id": "t3_nxmjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my dorm's mailroom doing something illegal?", "post": "I go to a public university in Florida, and have lived on-campus in one of the less-expensive halls for three years. The place has a common mailroom with small boxes, so to pick up a packages, you have to get someone from the front desk to retrieve it. When I started living there, they would retrieve packages from 9-5, Monday-Friday, and 12-5 on Saturday. Now, they'll only do it from 8-noon, Tuesday-Friday.\n\nDoes anyone know if what they're doing is illegal? It seems like limiting the times when someone can come in and pick up a box belonging to them is immoral at the very least. Not to mention, there's no legitimate reason why the front desk employee can't walk across the room to unlock the mailroom door anytime - it takes one minute at most.", "summary": "Dorm's mailroom only lets students pick up packages between 8-12, four days a week."}
{"id": "t3_2dv65t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 m] with my wife [26 F] 5 years, not sure if I cheated. And what I should do.", "post": "Hi got bored and started chatting with anonymous girls online. Met one girl who I spoke to on Kik. Flirted and got her to send me a nude. I felt disgusted at that point and stopped. I'll never do this again. Feel stomach churning revolt. I don't know if I should tell the wife. It just seems if I do I'll be harming her for little reason. Very low probability she will find out. Anon girl doesn't know who I am. My name, my face nor my number or email. I feel so bad about what I did don't know how to overcome it.\n\nNothing wrong with marriage. I just got horny", "summary": "spoke to anon girl on kik for a few days. Made her send a nude. Stopped felt disgusted. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2rs7n9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] with my LDR ex [19/F] of 9 Months, I could use some kind words", "post": "I've posted this before around the new year. My ex ended our relationship one Saturday night and completely caught me off guard. Our relationship was a good one with not a single argument and the only difficulty would be that it was a LDR. \n\nWe had plans to close the distance very soon; a month if things went well. She found a job and decided to stay a while longer to save up money and get the experience. I supported that but, the night she broke up with me, she said the distance was too much and she wanted to stay even longer for that job. \n\nHer decision was completely unexpected and I still don't fully comprehend it but I do want her to be happy. I love her immensely. That is why I need help right now. I've tried to stay strong and keep busy but I'm off from work today and it's just hitting me so hard.\n\nWhat gets me the most is I felt I did everything right and it ended for no reason other than bad circumstances. How do I move on like this?", "summary": "Got dumped. Feeling weak. Need encouragement."}
{"id": "t3_25vd0n", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My friend has depression?", "post": "I've been helping me friend through his depression, listening to him and how he feels and such. Recently we got into a fight after I did a small prank to him \"think it will cheer him up\" and surprise surprise, it didn't work. It pissed him off, now he won't talk to me. He thinks the world revolves around him and is constantly saying \"My life sucks\" and \"Life isn't worth living\". I do care for him, and absolutely love him to death as a friend, but I need a break from this. It's affecting me, I feel like crap when I'm around him, and it's depressing. He stopped texting me because of the prank, and is telling my best friend, who has enough problems, about stuff going on in his life. I'm pissed because they barley talk to each other and she texted me saying \"I feel so bad for (depressed friend)\" when she barely knows what's going on. I'm furious right now. I have to apologize to him on Monday, but I don't know what to say! I feel so guilty and I'm furious at the same time. How can I make it up to him??? Help me Reddit!!!!", "summary": "Friend had depression after breakup with gf, I pranced him, he got mad, blocked my number, started to talking to my other friend, I don't know how to apologize!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_44kiay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, 20/M Accidentally told a girl I really like 20/F that I liked her.", "post": "To begin with I have not been in a relationship in the last two years and my last relationship was a living hell. I have had a crush on a girl for the longest who is the first girl to ever interest me in such a long time, and she shows signs that shes into me. I have been seeing her more and more but shes been kind of acting strange with me this past week. I went out to see her and some friends yesterday and it went okay, the next day she asked me if I was trying to get at her friend and I told her no I came for you last night. She was meaning something else with getting at her friend and then told her that I was into her by accident since I believed the conversation was heading in a different direction, and she hasn't responded to me in the last 8 hours. I am 100% sure I blew it and she won't talk to me again, but what do you guys think?", "summary": "Accidentally told a girl I liked that I liked her, hasn't responded to me in the last 8 hours and Im certain I blew it."}
{"id": "t3_3slzr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've been given a bonus at work and want to spend it on myself (m20), SO (f19) thinks otherwise", "post": "I need some advice to know what I should do? \n\nFor a bit of background knowledge, my So and I of two years are living together at a families house and we both earn very small wages due to being young and kick-starting our careers. Together we earn about $700 a week and manage to put away 100 to 250 away a week depending on what we do. Also currently saving $3000 for a trip next August. \n\nMy SO is generally not a fan on games yet alone spending money on a single game, which in my case, all I do is play one game. Now here is my problem... It's been over a year since I've bought anything for this game and it was $35 and now I want to buy a package which is worth about $150 in my country. I know this sounds like a lot for one game, but I just see that as two console games which has she sees as expensive but normal to pay that much. \n\nI've recently gotten $150 cash in hand bonus from work and really stuck on of I should spend it on the game without her knowing (risk her finding out about it and agrue) or tell her about it and possibly have an argument like last time when it was $30.\n\nAnother thing that gets me worked up is she will be some clothing for $50 a month and wear it a few times decide not to wear them any more for some silly reason. \n\nThis game is great and I've been playing it for over 3 years and super supportive of it. As mentioned before, it's really the only game I play and the only game that I would have spent money on in a long time. \n\nI need help and/or advice. Am I being the wrong for thinking this? Should I speak to her about it? I've been thinking about this for a week now...", "summary": "Got a bonus from work, I want to spend it secretly to avoid confrontation with So. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_38uhg3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting my manager on accident", "post": "This is my first post to reddit and it just so happens to be a TIFU. Of course. \n\nSo a bit of a back story, I worked at a restaurant for about a year and a half before moving out of the state. At this restaurant, I was hit on by all of the male staff (which isn't uncommon in the restaurant scene). There was this manager, we will say his name is Rick, who I reciprocated the flirting with. Never did I cross the line, because I knew how sticky and drama filled things can get in the restaurant business. For the full year and a half the flirting strictly stayed flirting, but when I had put in my 2 weeks, things took a turn to the more serious side of things. \n\nFlirting turned into actual statements, texting and planning. After my last day, I was texting my best friend, Lisa. I was telling her how nervous I was for it all to actually happen and if i even wanted it to. At the same time, Rick texted me asking me to meet up. At that point I was leaning towards not meeting and I texted Lisa saying, \"I don't think I will, there's still brown stuff coming out of me anyways.\" \n\nThe moment I pressed send is the moment that I realized the name at the top of the screen read Rick, not Lisa. I was petrified, I froze. I screamed. I was so embarrassed. Rick never texted me back, we didn't hook up and Lisa laughed, as I cried. \nLesson learned, double check who you're texting.", "summary": "I accidentally texted my old manager that was trying to hook up with me that I had brown stuff coming out of me. After that, he never texted back and we didn't hook up."}
{"id": "t3_4pqyp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) am not feeling anything special with my girlfriend (18f).", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for about a week, and she's absolutely lovely. I've been friends with her for more than a year and she's always wanted to date, but it's never been the right time.\n\nMy last relationship ended very messy and I didn't want to use her as a rebound, so I let it pass for a long time. In the last month, I've finally begun feeling content with my life and myself so I decided to go on a few dates with her.\n\nMind you, this girl is amazing. There's nothing wrong with her, she's the most charming, kind and loving girl I've ever met, I just don't feel connected. When we're together I can tell she's enjoying herself, but I don't really feel happy. I'm not disappointed or unhappy, I'm just kind of letting it happen.\n\nIn my last relationship, I felt this spark every time we were together. Every kiss felt like it meant something and I was proud to be with her every day. With this new girl I feel none of this. I'm interested in what she does and says and I like hanging out with her, but I don't feel any spark when we're together. Kisses just feel like kisses and hanging out just feels like seeing a friend.\n\nAm I desensitized to these things just because I'm growing up or does this mean we're not right for each other? She seems to be happy, but I don't really feel anything. This is her first relationship so maybe she's just more excited than I am?\n\nAlso, is it worth potentially losing a good friend if I'd rather just go back to being single? I liked the comfort in being alone. I went through months of being angry and depressed about what happened last time, so finally being content with my own life felt good.\n\nI don't know what to do or what to tell her.", "summary": "If relationships were dinners, my last one tasted lovely and we shared the meal equally. I don't really taste this one, but my gf loves it. I kind of want to go back to my own table, but we're halfway through the first course and it feels rude to just leave her with the rest of the food and the bill. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dp1io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24F] think I cheated on my husband [26M]...how do I do this?", "post": "Some background. I'm in the military (surprise surprise, right?) and me and my husband got married in December before I left for tech school because at the time he was going to go active duty as well and we really wanted to ensure that we could be together. Before I left, we had been together for 4 years and had been talking about getting married for about a year and we were both really in love. But then, I left for tech school and we were separated for 6 months. \n\nAbout 2.5 months in to this hellish tech school I made an emotional connection with a classmate [35M] (i know, i know) that I needed to survive and about a month after, our relationship became somewhat physical but we never went all the way, if you know what I mean. \n\nNow the school is over and the person I still feel a strong connection to is back at his home station and my husband came out to live with me. My husband knows that I befriended the other guy, but I haven't told anyone about the extent of my relationship with the other guy. \n\nI'd be lying if I said I didn't wish that I could be with the other guy, but I know that it just isn't possible and I probably just built all this shit up in my head about the connection. But the guilt is killing me, and I know that telling my husband would just kill him. And he does not deserve that. \n\nI think that being physically separated for so long definitely has something to do with this, but I also just don't feel the same way towards my husband anymore. Its like I had to move on in order to get through my training without him. \n\nI don't have anyone I can talk to that doesn't also know my husband, and I don't want to have to take them into this lie with me, but I don't know how to do any of this. My feelings of self loathing are certainly affecting my relationship but I don't know what to do to move on from my affair or how to feel close to my husband again.", "summary": "emotionally/kind of physically cheated on my husband, what the hell do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_34vyxe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] I think I have a crush on my childhood friend...", "post": "I have a good friend, we met each others at girlscouts when we were seven, and always were quite close friends. We got closer last summer when we were both going through hardships, I have mood problems and she was discovering she is transgender. We've been talking even more since she (now he) transitionned, and he's the only one I trust with my problems entirely. I realized I was kinda jealous when he said he had planned a date with a guy, and I just feel super good hugging him. I know he was interrested by his female friend not too long ago, so I guess romantic orientation isn't such a problem. I've only ever been in a relationship with an asexual guy, so I'm not 100% sure for me though... Should I do something? Should I wait and try to get gradually closer?", "summary": "It's complicated and I'm not sure I should tell anyone"}
{"id": "t3_3u4kli", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/F] How do I tell my BF [20/M] that I want to spend more time with him after fights?", "post": "My BF and I have a crazy, 1.5 year history that I won't type out here - but we've finally gotten to the point that we're BF/GF. Problem? After we made it official, I became rather neurotic and things went south, and things got even worse when I started acting out in front of his friends whilst hammered. He's not guiltless either, but I've instigated the conflicts the most. Long story short, I was a right bitch about everything.\n\nWe got together after a particularly bad weekend of me throwing drunken tantrums, and we resolved that things had to change. I've started going to therapy for my borderline \"emotionally abusive\" behavior and we agreed NOT to spend every single day together; to give each other space but still be together. I feel like I'm getting a lot better, but I'm impatient and a fixer - so spending time with him now and feeling the tension and distance slowly get better is like watching a glacier melt.\n\nFast forward to today: He's across the country for Thanksgiving break while I'm hanging out our uni. He said he would text me when he left and landed home but instead he's just been snapchatting me pictures of home and drunk times with his buddies. I haven't been super responsive, and have decided to just wait for him to text me rather than text him first (to protect my pride mostly). There's still ice between us and it sucks. Tips for now and the future?", "summary": "BF and I have serious ice between us since fights - should I take initiative to break it or just him have his space and be patient about the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1cwofs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "M.Ed. Instructional Technology Student needs royalty free pictures custom computer builds for school project. Help Reddit, you are my only hope.", "post": "Just in case you missed it, I am a Master's of Education in Instructional Technology student working on a project for class. I am creating a website to teach students how to build their own computer. I know there are already tons out there that do this, but it is a project requirement that I create the site blah blah blah. I built my own custom rig a few years ago, but did not document the process well and could not afford the computer downtime necessary to take apart, photograph, and reassemble my computer. I have searched the wikimedia commons for pictures but that well is dry.\n\nSo, I turn to you Reddit. What I am looking for are some good quality images of people's custom built rigs. Some well documented cases from start to finish would be primo, but even some completed ones will work. I am asking you nice people to let me use your images, royalty free, to create an educational work that will be posted online for students to learn about computer technology. I will credit photos provided to me by posting a thank you page on the website that list as little or as much information about the person deserving the credit as they request. Want me to link back to your blog where you posted the pictures? That's fine (within reason, I'm looking at you sexdrugs&tattoos.tumblr). Want me to say the pics were provided courtesy of your Reddit UN? Also cool (as long as it isn't something absurd). Don't want any shout outs or kudos beyond the extreme amounts of Reddit Karma that you will receive? Even better. Thanks ahead of time for your help Reddit, you really are my only hope (without being a picture stealing google whore).", "summary": "I need royalty free pictures of people's custom computer builds to use for a school project. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_3j4l23", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Anyone have suggestions for HIGH heels that won't kill my feet?", "post": "My fiance is a full foot taller than me (I'm 5'4\" and he's 6'4\") and I hate the idea of being that short compared to him on our wedding day. I wear heels quite often and want to on the day we get married but, like any reasonable human, don't want to be completely uncomfortable. I can usually wear 4-6 inch heels for a few hours and 2-4 inch heels all day, but I'm hoping to find some 4-6 inch heels for the big day so we can be closer in height (plus it gives an incredible slimming effect when in high heels and a long dress). \n\nI'm willing to compromise and find super tall heels for the ceremony and switch to slightly lower more comfortable ones for the reception, but obviously they can't be too big of a difference in height because the dress will be too long. I've been looking at [these] on amazon (in gold) but don't have any other ideas.", "summary": "Does anyone have suggestions for heels that will give me at least a 4-6 inch height boost that aren't totally uncomfortable for long periods of time?"}
{"id": "t3_bswas", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've tried a few drugs lately, and I want to tell her but I'm afraid she'll abandon me if I do. Ideas and advice plz.", "post": "Now this hasn't developed into serious drug use. It has been recreational.  I have smoked spice, which has been pretty enjoyable for me when I'm with a few good friends or at a party.  I don't drink because I don't want it to turn into a problem, because for me it will.  I have imbibed many times, mostly in high school. I decided to quit then, before it became a habit.  Recently I tried MDMA (ecstasy) and it was a life changing experience.  This really shook my reality because I didn't expect it to be the experience that it was. I've always considered myself this sort of \"upstanding citizen\" that doesn't use illegal substances because they are \"the black spot of society and they should be eradicated from the landscape.\"  I still don't think drugs are some fantastic source of brilliance and enlightenment; however, I can't ignore the feelings of bliss and the eye opening experiences that have accompanied their use.  So I'm reshaping my thoughts on this topic currently, this is the part I would consider life changing.\n\nAll of this, the experiences and my reflections on them, are something I want to share with someone I love.  If I do so I'm afraid she'll turn her back on me since she herself has a difficult time abstaining from these kinds of substances.  I want to bring it up and be honest with her, but I don't want to lose her.  I know it will drastically change how she views me and who she thinks I am, which is why I think she won't be able to accept this.  I hope someone has experience with this.\n\nI would like to note that I haven't changed my perception of who I am because of these experiences. That is to say that I don't see myself as someone who \"does drugs.\" Rather I see myself as a person who has recently tried them, and doing so doesn't mean that I need to incorporate drug use into my concept of self or my list of hobbies.", "summary": "I've tried a few drugs lately, it has been an experience that I want to describe to someone I love because it has effected me so strongly. I'm afraid that if I tell them, they will no longer accept me and I want to know how I should handle telling them or if I even should."}
{"id": "t3_4hv5ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 F] boyfriend[29 M] of 3 years struggles with depression and I don't know what else to do", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, we have lived together for 2 1/2 years. \n\nHis depression is in and out a lot, sometimes we can go months before he has a breakdown again, sometimes it's only weeks, and he is more often happy than not. It usually comes out when he's been drinking, which isn't often but when he does it's always A LOT, but its not unheard of when he's sober either. A lot of the depression has to do with his father who passed away several years back, before I ever met him, and I think the lack of his families concern for him adds to it (his sister doesnt return calls/text, his mom never wanted kids and made that very clear to them, and when his father passed his aunts/uncles slowly faded away as well). He also gets insecure about my feelings for him and, while I'm pretty exhausted, when he isn't depressed we are both insanely happy, but this isn't the way I want to live either. \n\nI have tried asking him to go to a therapist, but he of course hates that idea. I tried telling his mom to get her to help me but she told me that I could take care of it since we live together (not surprised she didn't get involved). I thought maybe if I introduced the idea of going to therapy with him but I don't know if that would make him hold back if I were in the room. I have started to toy with the idea of moving out but not breaking up but I worry the only good that will do is for myself.", "summary": "Boyfriend struggles with depression, won't get help"}
{"id": "t3_4vl7oe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] think I have feelings for a school friend [20?m] but don't know how to understand emotions and such.", "post": "Hi there Reddit, I'm a nerdy college gamer who has a hard time with feelings. I realized I might have some after having a dream about one of my gaming/school friends. After digging deeper, I realized I'm jealous when other girls are around him, I find myself thinking about him at irrelevant times, and when we game together, I'm always getting myself killed trying to keep him alive, ignoring everything else that's going on. I think those are probably bad signs. \nIf he were to ask me out, I'd say yes for sure because he's a really great guy. He's funny and kind, patient with me, interested in a lot of the same things I am, seems to find what I have to say interesting, stands up for me, loves memes and games and anime like I do... Sleep is one of my favorite things and now I stay up late to play games with him, and sometimes my other friends.\n\nI just don't know how to proceed. I can try to just bottle it up forever, which is hard because I'm a bad secret keeper. I could just randomly blurt it out in chat one day and then change the subject. I don't even know what he thinks about me. I want to know what he thinks.", "summary": "I think I might be in like with my friend, what the heck do I do? How do you actually know if someone might like you (especially if you don't see them physically, school isn't back yet)?"}
{"id": "t3_n4kt0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I be supportive?", "post": "So my girlfriend is one of those people that (thankfully) pushes herself to do things that aren't exactly easy. And I am always there supporting her the entire time saying things like \"don't worry I know you can do it\" and sure enough, she's been doing it. This time though, she's going for something a little more difficult than normal. If it helps any, she's trying out for a high level winterguard that already has 4/6 spots filled, so she's trying out against about 20 other people for those 2 spots. Do I keep doing my normal \"you can do it I believe in you\" schpiel and then comfort her if she doesn't make it or do I tone it down because of the higher chance of not making it that way it isn't too bad of a punch if she doesn't make it.", "summary": "GF is trying out for an intense sports team, I want to be super supportive but there's a fair chance she won't make it so would being softer on the support be a bad idea (I personally don't think it will but I'm not a girl so idk) or keep on supporting her as if nothing is different."}
{"id": "t3_20qzjg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My(24f) so(24m) told a stranger that he thinks its annoying when i talk and still thinks about being with his ex(20f) all the time.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years and he has a close friend who is also an ex. They only dated for about 1-3 months depending on whose telling the story, about 3-4 years ago. They never had sex only messed around. I've always had jealousy issues with her because he lies to me about her and when we first started dating he told her that he would leave me for her. He didn't until recently when she moved back into town and he broke up with me for a week the day after Christmas. They didn't have sex during the breakup, because she wouldn't not because he wouldn't. I'm still not 100% why sure but he came back to me and begged me to give him one last chance. Since then we (well i thought we had) worked out our problems and we became friends with the ex ( only because he would of probably lied to me and hung out with her anyways) . I am still not fully comfortable with the situation because she is a very touchy feely person and because of the reasons above. Oh and there's MORE!\n\n Well I found a chat with him and a stranger that him and his ex were \"almost married. and that he thinks about that all the time.\" Obviously this makes me really upset. And i know i should not be reading the chat but hearing him say that \" i mean, sometimes i cant stand when my girlfriend talks but i love sleeping with her. in both meaning of that expression.\" That just makes me think that the only reason why he is still with me is because he is comfortable with me and he thinks the sex is good. \n\nI just don't know what to do and I don't have friends to talk to about this.", "summary": "Boyfriend is having second thoughts and talking to strangers about us."}
{"id": "t3_2fq2ny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF[21F] told me she doesn't know why but she feels like a spark is missing after 1.5 yrs.", "post": "I'm a [22m]\n\nBackground: my girlfriend's mom is just finishing chemo for breast cancer, she just spent 3 months living at home for the summer to be with her family. Her dad was laid off, last week she turned 21. She lost ~40 lbs since dating me, I have always found her stunning and beautiful, but I think some of the new attention is surprising her. She was never fat, but now she is very fit. Her previous boyfriend got over committed to fast and started talking about future and marriage and she couldn't handle it.  \n\nIn the last 3 months we saw each other around 5 times but always for a short period last weekend we spent 3 days straight together day and night and it must have been too much for her. Months ago we started to talk about our future and it was what she wanted. now we have been dating 1 year 5 months and this is the longest relationship she's ever had. She also says everything Is perfect she feels crazy because we work really well but she feels like \"a spark\"is missing.\n\n   She just left with her single best friend to go to concert tonight and for the next few days will be gone living with her mom again. I think the wave of guys hitting on her at bar ECT when her and her pretty friend may make her question us. But I think she might also be really stressed and worried of commitment.\n\n    I call her pretty, beautiful or sexy constantly like many times a day, almost every time it crosses my mind maybe it doesn't mean much from me now idk.\n\n  We are still working on things and trying to be more open but we both admit this has been the best relationship in either of our lives, she said she just wants to live in the now and have fun with me again.  I took her on a \"first\" date bought her flowers and held doors ECT things have been going good but idk for how long...", "summary": "we seemed fine and suddenly I dont know how to feel, she says it feels we lost our spark, we feel more like friends than dating. I think it might be due to her stress with family stuff and worry about commitment."}
{"id": "t3_3e61ut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28/m) grandmother (72/F) is addicted to sleeping pills, worried about times when she might drive under the influence. Suggestions? [Non-romantic]", "post": "This is a pretty long and complicated story, but the main kernel of the problem is that my family is worried that someone is going to get hurt by my grandmother when the sleeping pills she is always taking effect her driving.\n\nShe has been in one accident which from what I understand ( but the police don't) was caused by sleeping pills.\n\nI'm fairly certain we are dealing with a \"r/raisedbynarcissist\" person, who is manipulative with everybody to get what she wants, be it pills or access to her car.\n\nShe is still quite independent and active, and if she wasn't on the pills, I wouldn't have a huge problem with her driving.\n\nMy parents and relatives have tried to intervene multiple times in the last year. I don't see any obvious cracks in her resolve.\n\nI think she has some doctors wrapped around her thumb and she doesn't listen to reason, she only hears us accusing and attacking her.\n\nShe is not receptive to psychiatry.\n\nI don't really know where to begin.", "summary": "how does one get an elderly addict off drugs, or make them loose their driving privileges? Or get them to change in any way?"}
{"id": "t3_3tektk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Selling an Expensive Watch", "post": "A friend of mine has a mom who works as a housekeeper. She works at a very rich neighborhood. Recently, one of her client's husband apparently had an affair so he left her for another woman. He only took with him his ferrari and bentley(apparently placed in crates to be shipped). So the wife is understandably distraught and just started giving away his belongings. Some of these belongings were watches. My friend's mom took them since the client said to give it to her son and husband. Today, my friend's dad sent pictures of the watches to my friend to ask if it was valuable. My friend googled one of them and it was being sold at around 40K on ebay. Now my friend's dad is hispanic so he told his dad not to rush selling it to some random place because they might think he stole it or he might get cheated off the actual selling price. What to doo??", "summary": "Friend's mom, a housekeeper, given expensive watches, how to sell it?"}
{"id": "t3_1pckrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/F) think I need to sever ties with my sister(26/F). Any advice is appreciated.", "post": "I am a 24/F, my sister is 26/F. Here is a small background on our relationship: Our entire lives we have fought. When we were younger it was fist fighting and as we got older it became more verbal. My sister is very manipulative, my parent even admit it. They have said, \"We don't know where we went wrong raising your sister.\" Regardless, they love her and deal with her shenanigans; mostly because they usually aren't directed at them. \n\nThings in our relationship came to a head about a year ago and we had what I call a \"come to Jesus meeting.\" We said our issues, spoke our piece and agreed we wanted a relationship with each other and we would try to get to know each other on the adult level and have a clean slate in regards to our relationship. Since then, she hasn't changed. She uses my strong relationship and feelings of obligation towards my parents as leverage to try to manipulate me. She has hacked my email, puts her friends before me, talks trash about my husband and kicks me when I am down. She is constantly trying to find ways to be superior to me.\n\nThe events that have happened recently are the straws that have broken the camels back. I feel I should sever ties because this relationship is not healthy and I don't deserve to be treated this way. My parents and my sister always expect I will just get over her drama, but I no longer wish to feed into the cycle. Severing ties will alienate me from my niece and nephew and will upset my parents, but I don't know what else to do. I have debated talking to a family counselor for suggestions. Any input or advice, especially from people who have dysfunctional sibling relationships would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My sister is a narcissist and treats me and our relationship like crap. I want to sever ties with her, but it will alienate me from her kids and will upset my parents."}
{"id": "t3_1ymojq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 4 years, please help me with this.", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I got together with this girl 4 years and a couple months ago. We've had our troubles in the past, broke up a few times, but only once were we broken up about a month and a half, the other times were only a few days, so they're not really break-ups.\n\nThe problem is, I like flirting. It doesn't have to lead anywhere, it never does really. I just enjoy the occasional flirt. I know that's bad. But that's a minor thing. The main problem is, I don't consider myself to be on her level. Not physically, but you know. I don't know how to describe it properly, I just think she's a much better person than I am.\n\nI feel like I'm selfish, self-centered, and I think I'm wearing her down. Don't get me wrong, I treat her great, she knows she's loved, she's safe, secure, I would never hurt her in any way. But I just feel like she's too good for me, and I don't deserve her. Either that, or she's more in love with me than I am with her. I don't know why I have a wish to flirt with other girls. I know I'm young and everything, but so is she. \n\nAnyway, we broke up today. I think it's the best thing to do at this moment. I will try to fix the way I am, and then I will see if she will take me back. I didn't break up with her, we just talked a lot about what we both want from each other, and then decided that it was best to split up. You know how it is, I do feel like that's right at the time, but still, I can't just be cool about it, it's been 4 years since we got together. \n\nShould I just give her some space and time to think about things and what she wants? I feel like she deserves better than me, and if I can't provide it to her, she's better off without me. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up after 4 years, because I think I don't deserve her, gonna try and fix myself up and then fix the relationship. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_zmhqu", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Injury help", "post": "A couple weeks ago I started feeling a small pain on my right hamstring and glute. The pain got worse since then and I have only been able to run at an easy pace without irritating my hamstring. The pain feels like it is right where my hamstring and glute attach. I usually don't feel the pain when walking around. It is very painful to move my leg right and left vigorously. I also feel the pain when I am sitting up and try to move my leg up when it is straight. When I start getting my knees higher while running I feel the pain too. What I've already done to try to treat it is: heating before I run, stretching a lot (but not overstretching) when I am done running, and then icing. I also see a chiropractor that has been giving me stim massage and ultrasound massage which has really loosened my leg up a lot. He told me that my left foot's arch collapses in more than my right which is making my left leg move differently than my right. He said that this is making me compensate with my right which is giving me the pain. I have strengthened the arch and gotten orthotics, but the pain is still there. Has anyone else had a problem similar to this? or have other ways to treat this? I am looking for any help! I need to get back to my normal schedule of faster running and racing as soon as possible.", "summary": "I have pain in my right leg where the hamstring and glute attaches. I feel the pain more when moving it right and left and also when I raise my leg up. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4gni3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my GF [27F] of 5 months. Does our relationship have a deadline?", "post": "I have been in the best relationship of my life for the past 5 months with my girlfriend. We just click and I love how we have so much common interests.\n\nBut she's moving away early next year to a different country for a very promising job. The only case I would be going with her is if we were married, mainly due to visa reasons. And realistically speaking, though life is mysterious when it unfolds, I don't see us getting married that soon.\n\nAnd I've also been planning to move to another city for my career next year before I even met her. I now have the right contacts and promising job leads that will absolutely guarantee a life for me in the new city. I am just tied with my current job due to contract until end of this year. And somewhat luckily, her city is only 1 hour flight or 5 hour by car away from where I'll be moving.\n\nBut the thing is, her and I will both be tied to our jobs for at least 2-5 years. And I don't know if I can do LDR for that long, especially considering our age and the fact that I'd like to be more settled when I'm 30. And I have never done LDR before, nor did she.\n\nI know this is still early in the relationship, but it seems like our \"deadline\" is coming up fast as the last few simply flew by. \n\nWhat would you guys do? Would you guys just keep dating and see what happens? What are some other options?", "summary": "Both my gf and I are going through big career changes in our lives that will most likely end up us living in different cities within a year for at least 2 years. And it's making it feel like we have a deadline in our relationship. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_cs399", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I crazy?", "post": "Dear Reddit, \n\n On the Global Reddit Meet-up Day June 19th I met a few new people and friended 2 of them on Face Book. Not long after that I broke up with the man who introduced me to Reddit and started talking to one of my new friends. We set up 2 dates, and preempted one by watching fireworks on July 3rd before a cookout at his friends place on the 4th. We have seen each other nearly every day since then, its been 2 and 1/2 weeks.  \nIn the first few days he gave me a computer. We had a wonderful time on all the planned dates and even just watching movies at his place and eating pizza was fantastic fun. On the 16th he gave me a key to his apartment so I could lock the door after sleeping in and since then I can come and go as I please.  \nI had found an apartment to live in from August 2010 to 2011, and he said if I needed help getting together the first months rent and security deposit that he could help me, also he could borrow a truck to help me move, and at that point he jokingly said that I could just rent his other room.  \nNow its not joking, it would be economically beneficial for us both if I simply moved in with him and he is serious in his offer.  \nWe have future plans for a 4 day camping trip and if I do move in we will save enough money that I can go with him on a trip to Jamaica in November.", "summary": "We met because of Reddit, and have been dating 2 and 1/2 weeks. Am I crazy for even thinking of moving in with him?"}
{"id": "t3_4jpo20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] need help with my depressed friend [22 F]", "post": "I met this girl, let's call her Michelle, abut three years ago. At first everything seemed nomal, and then about a year ago Michelle reveals to me that she suffers from depression. I tell her that I will try to support her, which I sincerely meant, and she was very grateful for this.\nBut, over the past year, I'm feeling very overwhelmed. It seems like all our conversations seem to revolve around her depression and her symptoms, and it's starting to take a toll on me. We go in circles a lot. She tells me about a problem, I give my two cents, and then we have the exact same conversation just a week later. Ive also been really worried about her, afraid that she'll hurt herself. And I feel like, if she does, I'm partially responsible because I'm here to help her. All these conversations and worrying has made my have a few anxiety attacks, I velieve, and my heart has had spells where it acts funny for a few days. It hasn't happened lately, but it could happen again at any time.\nAnd while I do enjoy her company as a friend, it seems like so much of our time is spent talking about her issues that it seems like I'm a counselor and not a friend. She'll change the subject from a normal conversation to a discussion of her problems, and a lot of the time what she talks about is stuff that we've already talked about a million times, and it's driving me crazy. She's seeing a counselor, and I think it's helping, but I can never be sure. She's also on antidepressants.\nI'm just at my limit, and I feel trapped. If I say that I don't want to talk about her problems, then I'm afraid she'll hurt herself because she's not venting enough and not having enough help and support. And I'm afraid that she may hurt herself if our friendship ever dissolves (we're really close). What do you guys make of this situation, and do you have any advice you could give me?", "summary": "I'm feeling trapped in a friendship with a depressed friend. What can I do to make the friendship easier on me?"}
{"id": "t3_3tx1k7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU, thinking I could handle any level of heat/spice", "post": "TIFU, thinking I'm bad ass with hot stuff. I've always liked spicy food, and feel like the hotter the better, tears in my eyes, runny nose, mouth on absolute fire, good stuff. Dave's Insanity sauce, no big deal, especially after working up a tolerance I could just pour it right on.\n     So this Italian dude I know has a little garden and gave me a little red pepper, said \"try this\". So the next morning I was like \" shit let's see what Marco's pepper's packing\", and took a nice little bite, chewed and swallowed on an empty stomach. \n     Well holy shit, I love any level of heat in my mouth, but I didn't know the stomach has receptors for capsaicin. My stomach began to hurt like I've never felt, and I was scared I was gonna puke and set my nose on fire too. Also I know this sounds silly, but it felt like it was affecting my heart, and for a minute I seriously started to wonder if it was possible to die from a hot pepper.\n     And to make it all worse there was no milk in the house. I was in agony until my mom found some old nasty heavy cream in the fridge, that put the fire out. And I learned that I'm not as bad ass as I thought with the Scoville units.", "summary": "TIFU thinking I could handle any level of pepper heat, Ate a bite of pepper on an empty stomach, stomach killed, heart rhythm felt funny, honestly thought I might die."}
{"id": "t3_m918y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "exboyfriend problems need help", "post": "so i just got out of a 3.5 year relationship with a man i am in love with still. its been 3 months. the breakup was sudden he thought we fought too much i didnt agree. it all happened in a second and i was not ready for it to end. we lived together for 2 years.\n     we have seen each other a few times cuz we have the same friends and we have been civil gave each other a hug and talked for a bit. I am still very much in love with him. we have probably talked at least once a week. now to not be bias when i text him he gets angry but when he talks to me its cool. he seems to have his guard up and is very short with me. \n     he has flirted with me a few times via text conversations and i have heard from friends and fro him he is over me. hell i heard it today. but he challenged me to get a room with him for the night and jsut have a night with him. I have no idea what the heck to do. I am so in love with him but he says hes over me. what does this mean, what should i do?", "summary": "my ex wants me to get a room with him. I absolutely love him hes over me what should i do"}
{"id": "t3_3f8n38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] just found out my girlfriend [26/F] has a second profile she uses to message my friends, what the fuck do I make out of it", "post": "Hi.\n\nIt all started when she logged into her gmail from my smartphone. It automatically created a google profile of her account and synchronized everything.\n\nOne of the things that also got synchronized was the \"usernames\" or \"emails\" you use when you login into places and when I wanted to log into facebook a few options popped out from the drop down menu, including an email account I have never seen. Curious, I tried to enter it with her generic password she uses (for random sites, I don't know her other passwords) and boom, I was in.\n\nIt was a fake profile of some spanish chick, she added 300 spanish people who accepted her and then procced to add my university friends, started messaging them claiming she is an exhange student, talking with them about all kind of stuff. Nothing harmful, I think she is just trying to spy on me through my friends.\n\nShe is very jealous and controling and I believe she made up this profile to have a sense of attachement to my friends (she doesn't want to hang out with them in real life). I do not believe she has malicious intent. But still, what the fuck is this shit I am baffled.\n\nAnyway after seeing this I thought to myself what other shit am I gonna find on her real facebook account and got myself in, only to see nothing in messages, everything deleted a few days back, looks like she does this periodically. Hiding something? I do not know..\n\nSo reddit, the fuck do I do now? Confront her? Keep low and monitor the messages? I feel like I should just confront but I want another perspective.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "GF made a fake profile she uses to write to my friends and talk to them about random shit, I believe with the intent on spying on me. What to do."}
{"id": "t3_26qmuq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "This is a post where I whine. Sorry for whining.", "post": "I've tried a lot of things in my life to make myself happy.  All the good things like exercise and making friends and all the bad things like drinking and smoking.  But I gave up trying to be happy a long time ago because I'm never happy.  The closest thing I ever feel to happiness is stability.  When I have a stable life I consider myself happy.  \n\nRight now my life is far from stable.  I hate my body and the person that I am, I feel like my friends under appreciate me and don't take me seriously and I am unemployed.  The closest I came to being employed was sitting in the lobby of the place I was supposed to be having a meet and greet at because I didn't have swipe access to get up the elevator and I was twenty minutes late (even though I left an hour early and it was a 20 minute drive) because of traffic.   \n\nI don't really know why I'm writing this.  I guess just because I can't say any of these things to anyone.  I can't tell anyone that I feel anxious all the time and that I think my anti depressant isn't working anymore, because, well, because I'm fat.  That's the thing about being fat, all of your problems, like your hatred for yourself, your friends thinking you're just goofy and don't care and unemployment are related to the fact that you're fat.  If only losing weight was as easy as despising the person that I am.  The irony of it all is that food is what makes me feel stable. \n\nI don't know why I wrote this, I guess I just wanted to.", "summary": "I didn't really expect you to read it anyway."}
{"id": "t3_32aicc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally being racist.", "post": "I am white which is important in this FU and I work work at one for one of U.S. most popular superstores as a stocker and was asked to stand as a greeter for 2 hours today during my normal shift. I was told to do the normal have a good day thing and (important) ask to see receipts of customers I did not see check out.\n         Everything was going fine and everyone was pretty used to the receipt things so I was feeling confident. I can see 2 white families checking out and start to head my way as a black female I had not seen checkout (large store so I can't see both ends of registers.) comes to leave from the side I could not see.\n        Without thinking I walk past both white families and request the black woman's receipt.  She takes this as she is black and that is why I chose her instead of the other two and starts yelling at Mr calling me a racist and a bunch of other expletives. After about 30 seconds of just standing their my manager arrives and tells her I'm a racist (manager is black as well).\n          Later I talk to my manager and explain what happened.  She is okay and understands but I have to do a long online course on communication and appropriate behavior because customer filed a complaint against me.", "summary": "was greeter at store. Avoided 2 white families to ask black lady for receipt bc I saw the families checkout but not her. Lady teaches everyone around all the bad words in tirade."}
{"id": "t3_2kbd53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) may have completely screwed up my almost 9 year relationship with my (26M) boyfriend", "post": "So, I feel as though I'm just waiting for him to end things. Here's the back story...\n\nWe've been dating for almost 9 years and have planned a future together. About 2 years in, when we were only 18 and 19 years old I was caught in some pretty serious lies about where I'd give, things I'd done and people I'd been spending time with. The truth took me a long time to get out but eventually everything came out. However, he has never really gotten over things or been able to fully trust me since.\n\nRecently I brought up the idea of getting a new car for myself to replace my 2006 car because my dealership was able to offer what I thought was a great deal. He disagreed because my car could technically be fixed by continuing to put money into it. My thoughts were that I can easily afford payments, get a decent trade in for my current car ( which was in my dad's name), get something in my own name to increase credit history with the bank which would help when getting a mortgage down the road ( we both live at home with families right now). We discussed this on two different occasions, albeit not for very long, and the issue was never really resolved. Our conversations left off with me going to the dealership to discuss the offer in more detail.\n\nI purchased a car, and picked it up, bit because of his and my busy schedules we rarely talk during the week and I forgot to tell him about the details. I told him today when we hung out but, admittedly, it probably came across as deceptive and manipulative on my part.\n\nHe has since implied that he cannot trust me anymore and doesn't think that we'll be able to live together, and presumably stay together because of this event. \n\nAm I just the worst girlfriend ever? Should I wait for him to make a decision or take the pressure off of him and leave, seeing as he is quite hurt by my actions. What do I do?", "summary": "Bought a car without talking to my boyfriend of 9 years nearly as much, no current financial ties, and he thinks I tried to hide my purchase from him. In need of advice, badly."}
{"id": "t3_1u4ptf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27m] have not felt this lonely post breakup in a long time. New Years Eve.", "post": "I got out of an engagement about 8 months ago. This were obviously very difficult at first, however I progressed very very well and eventually made a great recovery and feel so great. However, I must say that new years eve has pulled me down a lot. I was doing so extraordinarily well and today I feel like I am at a low. \n\nThe strangest part of all is that last night I slept with another woman for the first time since my breakup. Now tonight everyone is partying, including my ex probably, and I am alone. I dont want to go out, I dont want to do anything like that. I just feel like a sack of sorrow. I feel so lost, and all this after making such a great comeback from the pits of depression after my breakup.\n\nDoes new years eve do this to anyone else?", "summary": "New years ever has thrown be back into sadness after making a great recovery from a very painful and difficult breakup."}
{"id": "t3_3auyjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F23] got told off by my new boss because a co-worker ratted me out because of a plate.", "post": "You know what? I'm actually livid!\nI've been working at this new company for a month. The kitchen is communal so everyone has to clean their shit up. However, we also have an office manager, and it's part of her job to put our dishes in the dishwasher.\n\nOver the weekend my house was flooded so i've been spending this whole day trying to get a hold of my home insurance company so that I can have 1) less water in my house 2) heating 3) hot water, whilst also trying to hit Thursday's deadline. The office manager is also aware of my situation because we're always talking about life in general, and also have quite a bit in common.\n\nBut all of that aside, in my month at this company I have been nothing but helpful to the office environment, I help the office manager by putting mine and other peoples' dishes away all the time. I always clean the kitchen, and just this morning I was helping her put all the groceries away because I just wanted to fucking help. \n\nSo during lunch time, I prepare my lunch and put my dishes in the sink because I'd come back to put them away after I'd eaten, just like everyone else does. However, with the home insurance situation, I've been on the phone trying to sort that whilst doing what i get paid to do. So naturally I forgot to put my shit away. Next thing I know, i've got my boss coming and telling me off infront of EVERYONE I work with, and telling me to go apologise to her. Yes, I should have put the dishes away so i'm in the wrong for that particular reason. But why doesn't she come and tell me to put them away? Why not just pull me aside and give me a friendly reminder? Why go straight to my BOSS?\n\nNo one else gets told off when they do the same thing over and over again, I do it once and get humiliated. Not only that, not once was I thanked for ever helping, and not once did I expect it, but the moment I slip up it's like I caused fucking armageddon.", "summary": "Office manager doesn't confront me, goes straight to my boss who tells me off and humiliates me infront of everyone I work with because of a plate. OW and i've only been working there for a month."}
{"id": "t3_4736mf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21/M] Judging My GF [21/F] On Her Past", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about a year and everything's been great. But recently she disclosed that in the past she had a short sexual fling with a woman as a sort of experiment. Now I understand it's not right to hold anyone's sexual history against them. Especially since it was before me and she didn't do anything wrong. But I must say, from the moment she told me I find myself feeling hurt anytime I think about it. I haven't been able to let it go and it's completely changed my perception of her. Up until that point I believed her to be someone who valued sex and saved it exclusively for relationships. Now I see her as promiscuous and because of that I can feel myself wanting to push her away. How do I let this feeling go so I don't mess up a good thing?", "summary": "My partner disclosed her sexual history to me and it's affected the way I feel about her."}
{"id": "t3_1kz5go", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am trying to become more interesting to my girlfriend [22F] of about 2 years.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now, we've been ridiculously happy except for the last couple weeks.\n\nI'm an introvert with extreme social anxiety. She is an extrovert. For reasons unknown, we've managed to make that work for as long as we have, but recently we've hit some pretty serious bumps. She first made a post to this subreddit and later told me about it where she says that she's become bored with our relationship mostly because I am too anxious to do many things. We agreed that I would work on it.\n\nWe're doing a lot better now since we've been talking a lot more and doing more things together outside the apartment, but I still am very paranoid that she's not quite as happy as she seems. She said that she wants to be challenged in her relationship, and I wasn't doing that. So how do I do that? She wants to go on adventures and have discussions and I am more than willing to do that, I just literally have no idea where to start.", "summary": "I need to challenge my girlfriend and not be a pushover who doesn't do anything unless she wants to. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2dux68", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Going Outside", "post": "So, I've smoked for several years and tonight was like any other. I went outside to have a smoke. As I'm enjoying the nice cigarette I see a creature lurking about in the shadows. It was a cat. I said \"Come here, kitty\" and he started walking towards me. As he was coming close to the light I saw a black cat with a white stripe on his head. I thought oh man I should take a picture of him! He starts coming closer and I notice something. It's not a cat. It's a skunk. A fucking skunk.\nI get up slowly and look at the door and he's right between me and the door. He wasn't moving. I thought maybe I could try to slowly open the door and get inside. What I didn't realise is that my door makes a loud creaking noise. And loud noises scare skunks. So, you guessed it the skunk turns around and sprays me. 4 showers later and I smell like shit.", "summary": "Went outside to smoke got sprayed by a skunk."}
{"id": "t3_356524", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out best friend has a crush on my fiance, how do I tell her that I am hurt she hasn't told me?", "post": "Update: talked with my friend and fiance. Everything has been aired out, and was able to figure out her feelings were more about the idea of him rather than about him.\n\nBackstory: I am 22, and so is my friend, my fiance is 23 and we have been dating for 3 years. My fiance just moved back to his parents house to start a new job back in his hometown. He told me that one of our very good friends has a crush on him, but that she was getting over it and still wanted to be my friend. \n\nI happened to be surfing her tumblr earlier today, and came across a couple of posts about my fiance moving and how it was making her feel. \n\nIn her posts she kept mentioning how much my fiance meant to her as a friend (which the 3 of us are very good friends) and how she kept hoping things were mutual, but also how lucky he was to have an awesome fiance, and how lucky I am to have him as a fiance.\n\nAfter reading her posts, I disagree with my fiance as to her having a crush on him...she loves him. She is trying to pursue another crush she has (she is polyamorous) to get over my fiance...but she still loves him. She hasn't told me this yet because she is afraid to lose me as a friend (as stated in one of her posts)\n\nHow do I tell her that I am hurt and angry she hasn't told me about this,  but that I do still want to be there for her as a friend.", "summary": "best friend loves my fiance, and hasn't told me. Doesn't want to lose me as a friend, but I am hurt and angry."}
{"id": "t3_11ucus", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A friend of 14 years told me last night that I can't have morals because I don't believe in Jesus. What things have people said to you that completely changed your opinion of them?", "post": "A bit of background information is needed here. The person in question i have known for nearly all my life. I became friends with him through my eldest brother when i was 10 or so, and have been close friends with him since then (i am 24 now). He was also my soccer coach for about 8 years.\n\nHe has always been a very religious guy, and would drop subtle hints every now and again that i should come and 'help him set up' some things at his church in exchange for him shouting me lunch, things like that. But generally, the fact i respected about him was that even though he had his own beliefs, i never felt seriously pressured. It was always my beliefs on one side, his on the other and the friendship in the middle.\n\nLast night he asked me around to watch a game of soccer, and we got to talking over the game, and he mentioned an ex of mine had gotten engaged. I mentioned that it was a regret of mine that i stuffed up that relationship and that i was a bit of a bastard to her sometimes, at which point he said \"well are you honestly surprised you acted that way? The bible tells us that morals come from god, so what incentive do you have to do the right thing?\"\n\nI was totally taken aback, shocked, didn't even know what to say. I told him I was leaving and walked out the door.", "summary": "Been really close mates with a guy for 14 years, despite our differing religious beliefs. Last night he tells me I have no morals because I don't believe in Jesus."}
{"id": "t3_2uu777", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How financially viable is studying abroad in Europe?", "post": "Background Info:\n\n\u00a0\n\nI am currently a junior in high school, which of course means college is a huge decision coming up in life. One of my friends has this plan of eventually getting his PhD by studying at various universities throughout Europe. Now, since we both live in New Jersey, there is the NJ STARS Program that allows students in the top 15% of their class to have 5 semesters of tuition fully paid for, and allows for transferring to a 4-year college through the NJ STARS II Program. I also come from a middle class family, and I do plan on working through college to help pay for it regardless of where I end up.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI already know I qualify for this program (I believe I'm on the very edge of the 10%) but I also wanted to consider other options besides in-state universities or even in-country universities. I understand that some (most?) European countries provide a low-cost or free college education. I'm not fully educated on this subject, but I do know Germany recently enacted the free university deal, even to US students. Please feel free to correct this if I'm wrong (which I probably am). Since the idea of a free or low-cost college education is **extremely** appealing, I want to consider a few options. \n\n\u00a0\n\nThe possible majors I'm considering are **Computer Science**, **Computer**, **Mechanical** or **Aerospace Engineering**. This may not be the best time to post this due to not even having a list of universities I would want to attend, but thanks for any and all responses, they are greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I would like to know the relative costs of going to college in Europe compared to the in-state program offered."}
{"id": "t3_halev", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "need to buy a used computer, how do i test it to make sure there are no problems?", "post": "I'm on a very tight budget and my old laptop finally died (on a friends computer for now).  I have to hit up craigslist or the pawn shop just so I can have a computer for summer classes at my college, after that I'll be able to buy a nicer laptop once I've been working my summer job for awhile.\n\nAnyways my concern with a used laptop is getting a lemon.  Obviously I don't need it to last long, but I've had laptops before that run fine for 15 minutes than shut down, or where most components work but when you put a cd in it crashes, etc, and I'm trying to avoid buying something like that.  Obviously using it for the 5 minutes or so most sellers have the patience for is not enough to assess if it works properly in all aspects.  What I'm looking for is a set of programs or tools that I can install on a flash drive and use to assess a computers condition before I buy it. Like a diagnostic tool or something that tests the hardware functionality.", "summary": "looking for tools to test a computer to see if its working properly"}
{"id": "t3_13s17k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A youtube video I uploaded was removed by a copyright claim made by someone who did not even own the copyright. Is there anything I can do?", "post": "I posted a short scene from a movie and it actually got quite popular on Reddit. Someone else who saw my video said I had stolen the clip from him even though I had never seen his upload which at the time had 33 total views and was literally titled \"funny video clip\" and I had never watched it. \n\n\u00a0\n\nThe problem is he does not even own the copyright. I certainly don't either but the entire movie is on youtube and my clip actually got featured on Ray William Johnson's show and obviously youtube isn't going to remove that. I have already filed a counter claim but youtube is quite unresponsive to this issue and will likely do nothing. Is there anything I can do to fix this?\n\n\u00a0\n\n[Here is my post from two weeks ago.](", "summary": "Someone filed a copyright claim against a video I uploaded and it was removed even though they do not own the copyright either."}
{"id": "t3_40i7y8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] need help. I beat up my SO [25 M].", "post": "Ok, so obligatory throwaway because I am a piece of shit and don't want this linked to my main account. For a bit of background, my SO and I have been together for 4 years. We do not live together, but see each other frequently. Last week something happened and I'm not sure how to deal with it. \n\nWe had been out drinking, and had gotten into an argument on our way back to his place. We had drank A LOT, and then the next thing I remember was me punching him. To clarify, I did not just punch him once, I punched him maybe 5-6 times. Then apparently I started to belittle him, saying he would never amount to anything and that I would be better off with one of his friends as they are all more successful than he is. \n\nI am absolutely disgusted with myself, and I fully expect to get plenty of abuse from Redditors for this, but I really want to fix this. I love this man with all my heart, and I can't forget the look on his face when I was punching him. My heart breaks every time I think about it, and I know that nothing I do will make up for what I out him through.\n\nI have some ideas as to how I can make sure this never happens again, but was wondering if anybody could give me any advice. My first port of call is the doctors, where I am going to be asked for a referral to a counsellor. Second, I am never going to drink that much again. While I am not blaming being drunk for my disgusting behaviour, I feel like it didn't help matters.\n\nAny advice Reddit? I don't want to lose him but I know that he would be better off without me right now.", "summary": "I am a piece of shit who beat up my wonderful SO  and treated him like garbage. I need advice on how to go about making sure I never do it again."}
{"id": "t3_1vcnn7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] My girlfriend (20/F) is having some struggles with a previous abuser.", "post": "Hey all,\n\nPrepare for wall of text!\n\nMy girlfriend and I both live on a small college campus. One of her previous partners [21/M] was physically and verbally abusing her. She got out of the relationship with said individual with the help of some services the college offers about a year ago. Since their relationship was fairly private, it became her word against his. \n\nShe and her abuser are both heavily involved with the Theatre program, thus she has to see him frequently. She avoids him at all costs, but it's impossible to avoid any one person on such a small campus. To make matters worse, most of our mutual friends are also friends of said abuser, making it difficult for her to be with any group of friends, or go to parties. Some friends have even gone so far as to take his side, and have ceased talking to either her. \n\nOther friends have tried talking to the abuser, but they are only met with stubbornness and sometimes violence. Many of the Theatre folks have tried to get him to go to therapy and get some help, but even then he does not listen.\n\nThe abuser simply refuses to make any changes to his life in order to help make my girlfriends life any easier. It's almost purposeful. I mentioned transfer to a new school as an alternative for my girlfriend. She mentioned she had thought of this as well, but said no, as she couldn't bear to leave her friends. She's seeing a counselor and is recovering emotionally, but on a physical level she feels trapped by this guy constantly being in her space.", "summary": "My girlfriends ex-abuser is making her life miserable."}
{"id": "t3_3m9t1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [20m] and got married over the summer to a [24f] who I have been with for 2+ years. I am having trouble maintaining friends and creating new ones. Any advice?", "post": "A bit of back story.\n\n   I met her at work when I was 17. We waited to date till I was 18 then we began dating. I have lived on my own and supported myself since I was 15 after moving out of an abusive family situation.\n   \n   We got married over the Summer. Her family approves of me and her sister adores me. I started finally going to college this semester when I finally saved enough to afford it. \n\n   My wife works all day and has her own friend groups that are very nice but none of them share my interests so it becomes rather awkward hanging out with them.\n\n   My friends seem to slowly be growing more distant. They all work or got to various colleges in the area but we have always made time to hangout before my marriage. Now they all seem to be going clubbing, or trying to date on their free time so I feel quite disconnected. \n\n   On the college scene, a lot of my classmates live on campus and attend parties at various fraternities or sororities. I've attended some but I haven't been able to form a connection with anyone. When people see my hand they ask me if I'm married, the girls laugh when I say yes and move on. The guys shrug and move on. \n\n  Any advice on how to handle this? I would like to keep my current friends...but I would like to form some quality friendships as well.", "summary": "Married and having trouble forming friendships. Need some advice."}
{"id": "t3_1xhyks", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "i fooled around with my best friend's fiance and SURPRISE! i feel like the biggest piece of shit that's ever been shat.", "post": "it was only once, and we both decided it was best to pretend like it never happened, but the guilt and self-loathing that comes with this might just be a *little* too much for me to handle.\n\nhere's some backstory: they've been dating for over two years. i've actually known him longer than her, but she and i have been best friends since high school. as for the act itself, it just... sort of happened. i don't even have feelings for him, and hopefully he doesn't have any for me. (god, i can't even fucking imagine that.) and i couldn't even enjoy myself while it was happening because i was too fucking scared my best friend was going to hear us and wake up. \n\non the bright side, though, we didn't have sex. (we didn't even kiss, actually. kissing him would be the weirdest fucking thing even without the whole \"marrying my best friend in like a year and a half\" stipulation.)", "summary": "everything is terrible but maybe if i drink the rest of this bacardi gold i'll forget about it."}
{"id": "t3_4a4yph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I[27M] wrong to dump [23F] because we don't see eye to eye? Having second thoughts", "post": "Two months ago I matched with a girl that was, in all honesty, out of my league. We went on a couple dates and clicked well but she seemed really goal/ career focused. She's in med school, I'm a resident, and our entire second date devolved into me giving her med advice. I didn't mind but I also don't want to be with someone who is looking for a mentor, not a boyfriend.\n\nAfter a couple dates, we have sex. It's awkward. She starts talking a lot when she feels awkward and it messed with the flow of everything. She's also inexperienced and I could tell she didn't really know what she was doing. After sex, she tells me she's only looking for something casual. I'm at a point in my life where I want to date someone with the potential of marriage. After that date, we parted ways and didn't talk much. She reached out a couple times but I wasn't sure if I wanted to see her again. She texted me saying her relationship goals had changed after a while of no contact between us, but at the time it felt like too little too late.\n\nIt's been a month since that date, and I ran into her in the hospital (where we both work). I've been wondering if I should reach out. I know she's probably still be interested (Added me on snapchat a week ago). Seeing her in person reminded me of how pretty and funny she is. She was being kind and flirty without really mentioning the fact that I'd stopped talking to her. Do I reach out? Or will it just be awkward again?", "summary": "Dumped a girl who seemed too unsure of what she wanted, but seeing her again recently brought back some old feelings. Should I reach back out?"}
{"id": "t3_54fncn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Rebound relationship or not and unsure what to do! I (M/20) was with a girl (F/19) for 2 years + until she told me she wants to move on as things got difficult, 9 days later after she went to ayianapa- in a relationship with some bloke she met out there and has been for a month! Advice needed.", "post": "long story short- i was in a relationship for 2 years +, arguments occurred regularly to the end of the relationship- psychotic attitude from her behalf towards things and whole dynamic of our relationship which made it awfully difficult to cope with,Then she made it out to be all my fault.\n\nOut of nowhere- tells me she wants to move on, 9 days later after visiting Napa she's in a relationship with someone she met out there; been with him for a month and a half and posting within 3 weeks of knowing him on Instagram 'my favourite'. Should I move on/ leave it or? not sure if it's just her trying to get back at me, if there any hope of a future relationship or shall I just accept it? \n\nConfused with the whole situation as the day she got back from her holiday- she tells me she loves me, wants to be on her own and just wants space; next day I get blocked off everything and her mum phones my house saying no more contact, and I'm made out to look like a mug- then the very next day she's FB official with the bloke. \n\nDifficult as was good in person but when away was difficult because of ongoing insecurities to do with trust and anxiety, made out to be my fault when I tried so very hard to assure her and tried everything possible to avoid it. Thinking NCR and just letting things be and not forcing anything but unsure as every time I would message her after this her mum would phone up my house so it's clearly her being manipulative and causes a situation I don't want to involve myself within.", "summary": "unsure what to do and what I want but advice would be nice to see others perspectives."}
{"id": "t3_2vxtjd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by finding out the girl i was hooking up with has a boyfriend", "post": "So I've been hookin up with this girl at work for a solid two months, it started out just like a random night of after work shenanigans and, at least for me it grew into some feelings which i never usually have.\n\nShe had mention once a \"boyfriend\" that never showed up in any of our subsequent conversations so i assumed it may have been an ex or a soon to be ex. \n\nSo while i was on vacation abroad for 3 weeks i had dreams about her, bought her a present and even thought about asking her to be my girlfriend,finally i come back and i feel she is acting a bit weird.\n\nI asked her out for this valentines weekend, which i don't really care for, but its my first weekend back, she says she is already committed for the both saturday and sunday... I'm like ok something is not right here and i start asking around some of our friends in common, it turns out she does still have a boyfriend that she never bothered to mention and here i am like a moron on valentines givin a shit about it.", "summary": "I'm a side hoe that just found out he is no the main hoe."}
{"id": "t3_2348tr", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Employer will not fully complete verification of employment", "post": "New York - I'm applying for a mortgage. I'm sure some of you have seen the standard Fannie Mae \"Request for verification of employment\". (I've linked to it below). There is a section on there where they ask for the last 3 years of pay and to have it broken down by base pay, overtime, commissions, and bonus. My employer will only supply the total. The payroll manager says it's \"administratively burdensome\" and if they did it for me they would have to do it for everyone. He says it's been like this for years and they never complete that section in detail; only provide the total. He says we are provided pay stubs which show the detail. (which is true)  HR says it's a payroll matter and they won't get involved. (payroll and HR fight all the time over everything)\n\nThis all shows on my pay stubs but I am being told the lender wants to get it from the employer. This may result in not being able to get a mortgage. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Employer will not fully complete the verification of employment and I might not be approved because of it."}
{"id": "t3_15o5ts", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I recently hooked up with a friend, now she is very clingy. How to let her down easy?", "post": "I knew her vaguely from a previous job I worked at and hung out with her a couple times last year before she left for college. She visited for Christmas break and we hung out, expressed interest in each other, and ended up hitting it off and had sex.\n\nI made plans to visit her school on new years and stay for a couple nights. \n\nBut today she has been texting me from morning to night, twice asked me to get on facebook to chat even though I said I was busy/didn't feel like it.\n\nWe had occasional contact before and she has now changed to hitting me up like crazy and seems like she's really into me.\n\nI was honestly just looking for a friend with benefits type thing and thought she would be ok with this as she said she was about to be a FWB to some guy in the past.\n\nAnd plus I guess I'm only the 2nd guy she's hooked up with. And she mentioned she has some self esteem issues.\n\nBut I don't really don't even like her that much... Idk what to do. I really don't wanna be a jerk and nail and bail cause I don't want to hurt her. \n\nI told her she was freaking me out with the constant messaging and asked what she was looking for. She said she didn't know and asked what I was looking for so I told her mostly just friends with maybe some more.\n\nUgh well that's where I am right now. Comments on how to kinda cushion this for her, me being an idiot, how to escape the soon upcoming 2 day visit I planned, and avoiding this type of thing in the future all appreciated.", "summary": "Hooked up with acquaintance hoping for FWB, she is very into me now but I don't feel the same but don't want to hurt her (more than necessary.)"}
{"id": "t3_v88ul", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Planning for Early Retirement (I'm 22)", "post": "Hi! Well this feels awkward, first time I've shared my plans with anyone except my girlfriend - but you guys seem pretty like minded!\n\nOk, a bit about me and my girlfriend we're both 22, I'm starting Uni in September for 3 years, my gf the year after for 4years (possible PhD after for her too so +3years maybe) I'm studying Computer Science she will be studying Physics.\n\nWe're planning on saving our asses off to be able to buy a smallholding in somewhere around 15 years where I will start to help us live more frugally off the land, whilst working part time hopefully from home at that point. Then we plan to rebuild savings and live off the interest eventually (we aimed at \u00a3250k in savings to live off the interest, mostly for comfort - wouldn't actually need that much I think.) This should take another 8 years. So Semi-Retirement in 15 living the simple life, total financial freedom 8 years later.\n\nNow the background info is over I have a spreadsheet I have made some basic plans on, and I would sincerely appreciate any constructive criticism! I believe it's pretty straightforward, if you're not from UK an ISA is a tax free savings acct that you can put in \u00a35,640/year each tax free! The spreadsheet handles any tax on interest over this amount with the interest put in at (a very conservative) 3% constant, however it's relative.\n\nExpected income is joint (2 people) career projection, I believe I have been conservative but please tell me if I'm wrong or severely off track.\n\n[Link to spreadsheet](", "summary": "planning for early retirement, link to finance plan above, critique away!"}
{"id": "t3_plpyb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does Reddit keep expenses even living with roommates?", "post": "We have multiple bills in different names and our house is always chasing each other around for money owed off different expenses like cable, electricity, cat stuff, groceries, etc etc. I was thinking that as a house we should create a bank account with a debit card, at the start of the month everyone chips in 500 dollars for a 1500 dollar a month budget all the bills come out of that account and for house groceries (stuff like milk and veggies that have a high spoil rate) we could pay for out of the account. Does Reddit think it's a good idea or does anyone out there have a better system??\n\n**Bold", "summary": "How does reddit split up bills and expenses in apartments so no one ows each other moneys?"}
{"id": "t3_2bvguo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my boyfriend [24 M] 4 months dating, I lied.", "post": "I met this guy on grindr(gay hookup app) and we hooked up one day when I went to a college visit in Michigan. The first night we had sex, but he came for second night and we just talked until we both fell asleep. We decided to keep in touch until I graduated high school and came to school there. (I was still 18)\n\nEver since then we have been texting and face timing everyday(building trust etc.) Since then I have asked if he has hooked up with anyone since we met and he said no. 1st red flag. He has hooked up with someone, he didn't know I'd remember but he told me a month into our relationship. I figured at least he was honest and didn't think too much of it.\n\nRecently I went to New York by myself to tour the city at night because I had never seen what it looked like before, I live in NJ. In the end I ended up calling him because I was at Penn station and it was about 4 in the morning. I made up this story that I came to new York, met up with my roommate & his older brother, we went to a hookah bar, and they got drunk so I left. the story itself wasn't very believable and he caught on and told me he had a hard time believing me, and hung up.\n\nI texted him and told him I was sorry that I lied and I promised I'd never do it again. He sent me a picture of his gay hookup app of people messaging him and told me that he was at a hookups, house right now and I told him I wanted to keep trying with him either way I didn't care. He said he wasn't mad at me but in turn he would not apologize for hooking up, lying, and he would not delete his app. I accepted the consequences for my lies and told him that I still wanted to keep trying with him. Since then he un-followed me on instagram and I don't know how to start a conversation with him anymore, everything I say will just sound like another lie to him. I haven't tried texting or calling him ever since then.", "summary": "How do I earn his trust and understanding back? & how do I start a conversation with him. He's very intimidating."}
{"id": "t3_3v6ezf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my roommates [19-21F]. One of our roommates is awful.", "post": "Hi, first off, sorry for the formatting; I'm doing this on mobile. Second, I don't if this is going to come off petty, but I'm out of ideas. \n\nI'm a sophomore in college and currently living in an apartment with 4 other girls. Three of the girls I knew my freshmen year and we decided to live together. When we looked for housing, our ideal apartment only had 5 bedrooms left so we had to have an extra roommate placed with us. We were all ok with this as most of us are laid back. However, when we first met our roommate we found out she was an exchange student. \n\nWhich is no big deal, but some of her lifestyle ideals are different because of the culture she grew up in. First, she doesn't want anyone talking or using the living room past midnight; which is pretty much impossible for college students living a college lifestyle. Second, she wants the doors to be locked at all times, and gets angry when someone leaves the door unlocked. These first two rules are livable, and my roommates and I all try to be as quiet as possible after midnight and lock the doors when leaving or before bed. But recently she has wanted to keep the heat at 73 degrees. We're living in the Midwest so the average temperature outside is about 20 degrees Fahrenheit. By keeping it at 73, we are increasing our electrical bill astronomically. Last month is was $300. This roommate also has a space heater that she leaves running constantly. One of my other roommates tried to counter this by turning down the heat whenever she could. This still uses a lot of electricity as we cycle from hot and cold. What can I do about this reddit, are there any options? We all signed separate leases, and there's not a way to switch roommates. I just can't afford to keep paying $60 a month for electricity. Ideally the temperature would be around 65-68 degrees but she says anything lower will make her sick.", "summary": "Roommate wants to keep the heat at 73 Degrees Fahrenheit when the temperature outside is about 20. None of the other roommates want this."}
{"id": "t3_20pdhe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with a long distance \"it's complicated\" [23 F] for a year+, should I bother trying for an official relationship?", "post": "I was with a girl but we both knew I was moving a few months after we started going out (22m/21f at the time) so we didn't want a serious relationship before I moved away.  If I didn't move away, I'm certain we would be in a serious relationship but right now the best way to describe our status is \"it's complicated.\"  FWIW moved away means halfway across the US.  We still talk almost every day (8+ months after moving) but we've been talking more lately about an actual relationship.  I go back to town every month or two and we always spend a good amount of my time there together.\n\nRecently, we've been talking about having a weekend getaway together.  She can't afford the trip but I have airline miles for her to fly and I have hotel points for a mostly \"free\" trip.  I feel like we should at least be in some sort of official relationship before we do so... or this might be the perfect chance to start one.  Do I try and start an official relationship?  Is starting a relationship as long distance a terribly bad idea?", "summary": "long distance \"it's complicated\" relationship - do we take a trip together and/or should we start an official relationship as long distance?"}
{"id": "t3_38ii01", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by acidentaly laughing at an old lady in a wheelchair", "post": "Oh god why.\n\nThis happend just a few minutes ago, im just sitting on a bench listening to some comedians making jokes (with headphones on and volume high up), suddenly they say an really funny joke and i almost laugh. Meanwhile i am trying to hold my laugh in this old lady, easely in her 75-80 years rolls up to me in a wheelchair and wants to ask me something, i look up at her and rip one of my in-ear headphones out, letting the other one stay in. \n\nGuess what happened, just guess. I hear another fucking hillarious joke, i almost double over from this while this old lady looks really hurt and sad. She rolls on to another street and i am just sitting there.\n\nI dont realise what i have done untill like 5 seconds after she is gone, i grab my things and run off too embarased.\n\nI'm sorry, lady.", "summary": "Acidentaly laughed at an old lady, hurt her feelings, was a coward and didnt apologise."}
{"id": "t3_14mkrl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24m] My girlfriend [22f] says I tell her I love you a lot. How do i stop? Should I even try?", "post": "My gf is awesome but she doesn't seem to be too affectionate. I say I love you quite often and she says it back but sometimes I feel like I annoy her. She even says I make a face whenever she takes too long to say it back... This I don't believe. Still it irks me that she never shows any affection. We've been together three years but it was quite tumultuous. I am madly in love with her but get crushed whenever I fear my feelings are being neglected. What can I do to \"man up\"? Should I even try to ?", "summary": "see topic."}
{"id": "t3_21hrbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend of nine months [22F] unsure what to think about her hanging out with a guy friend", "post": "So my girlfriend of 9 months recently moved away for college. She is a 4 hour drive away so it's a bit long distance but we've seen each other most weekends. Recently a guy she previously knew started talking to her again and they've begun to hang out a bit.\n\nI not sure how two feel cause this guy has previously told her that he had feelings for her (previous to our relationship). When we began our relationship he stopped talking to my girlfriend until recently (she lived away from him in the same town I'm in) . They caught up for coffee and had a chat.\n\nMy girlfriend told me he stayed away because he didn't want to sabotage our relationship. They have hung out twice both times just the two of them at coffee shops. I'm just not sure how to feel.. \n\nIt makes me a bit uncomfortable (which I've communicated with her) but not sure if I should be more worried. I trust her completely... But him not so much. Guess I'm just asking how I should approach the situation.", "summary": "Girlfriend is hanging out with a guy who previously said he had feelings for her and I'm not sure how to feel"}
{"id": "t3_1j69ai", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "At what age could you take your child to a restaurant, and sit and eat without any crying/tantrums/fits? (Being asleep doesn't count!::)", "post": "My girl is 22 months old, and we can't afford a babysitter. I don't have any family where I live, and my wife's just has two living relatives who at most have \"watched\" our daughter for about 4 hours after she falls asleep so we can go out and get dinner and a drink once every few months. So, we take our daughter everywhere, to restaurants, to beer gardens, parks, antique shopping, whatever, she's generally with us.\n\nAnyway, I've noticed she's getting better at being able to sit in one place, however she still runs around like a nutbar and has little screaming episodes from time to time (I know...I Know. She's still really little), but my question was whether or not you all have noticed a certain age range when kids start being able to sit still and eat a meal, or be entertained by themselves without the inevitable sprint to the sidewalk/street/behind the counter/ etc. \n\nI know of course it varies but perhaps if I could draw on some of your personal experiences we could come up with some sort of average age :D", "summary": "When do toddlers stop freaking out in restaurants?"}
{"id": "t3_4a8q20", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I [30/m] separate amicably from my girlfriend [33/f] with a child on the way", "post": "So things are getting ugly. We have a baby on the way and our relationship is falling apart. I suffer from mental illness and aspects of my personality have led to trust issues. I think the relationship is beyond repair and I just want to do the right thing and provide financial support going forward, leaving the option open to be in my baby's life later.\n\nWe live in the UK and we are unmarried. What steps do I need to take to ensure we separate with as little friction as possible while leaving myself the option of seeing my child later on? My girlfriend agrees we should separate but  is being pretty nasty. She wants a lump sum and then to never see me again. I said it's fine if she has custody but I'm not going to agree right now to never seeing my child. That's when she said, \"I'd rather have an abortion than ever see you again.\"\n\nI left the apartment to avoid things getting uglier and I have not spoken to her since. According to UK law, what do I need to do to separate if we're unmarried and disagree on terms of separation?", "summary": "I'm interested in UK separation laws with a child on the way"}
{"id": "t3_3gzvvv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Finding Cosigners Outside of Family", "post": "I'm not asking anyone here to cosign, I know that's against the rules, and it's not really what I'm gunning for. Here's my story:\n\nI have not yet graduated from my school, but I haven't been enrolled for ~15 months. I will remain a student until I independently finish this one last requirement and get cleared for graduation.\n\nMy mom may need to move soon, and she'll need to get a mortgage on a new house. She's also the cosigner on my (private) student loans, totaling ~$123k. With that debt hanging over her, she and her wife can't get a mortgage.\n\nConsolidating my loans is something I've been intending to do regardless. I want to do it to get the loans out of her name, but despite a decent salary ($60k), my debt-to-income ratio and credit score are too high to qualify independently for just about any options. What I really need is someone who can cosign a consolidation.", "summary": "Are there methods of finding people who would listen to these kinds of (sob) stories and consider cosigning to pull someone like myself (good job w/ good salary, too much debt) out of this pit?"}
{"id": "t3_3d19o0", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running after injury", "post": "5 years ago a buddy of mine got in a fight and I stepped in. There where 5 of them and two of us and after a while one of the other guys pulled out a street sign and used is to break my right leg. My shinbone and the one behind that(don't know the English name) where shattered. \nAfter two surgeries and 2 years (and some more surgeries) of trying to get back on my feet I was able to function normally again.\nIn those two years I finished my school and my career took flight. I used to do a lot op sports and was really fit. Now, three years later, I am trying to get fit again. I took on crossfit and after a lot of shameful sessions where girls where faster and stronger than I am (and I am a 2 meter tall 115kg weighing guy) I can say I am starting to get fit again. \nThe only thing I can't seem to get down is the running part. The 400 till 800 meters running there is in crossfit I can't seem to do without completely draining myself. My muscles sour almost immediately and after a couple of hundred meters I have to pause. The muscles that fail are the ones in the foot/leg that you use when launching yourself in the air with your hind leg and landing on your heel with the front leg (difficult to explain in english) after a while I launch with a flat foot and land on a flat foot. The muscles are strong and developed, they just don't seem to be able to keep going for a longer time.\nDo any of you have any tips or exercises i can do to improve? \nWhat I have been doing; calf raises and trying to lose weight (with my weight all training is strength training not conditioning :s)", "summary": "I need tips and exercises to regain strength and conditioning in my lower leg muscles after injury and 5 years of inactivity "}
{"id": "t3_3dvh6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 2 years - told me today that he was (and has been since forever) bi. He thought he'd told me but I didn't know!", "post": "Basically, I went to see him today. It was our annual Pride parade, he said he'd completely forgotten and had he known in advance, we could've made plans to go. I said, \"What, with your Straight Pride flag?\" - we have a lot of gay mutual friends, so it was really just a funny joke, in my opinion.\n\nAny way, so he said, \"Errr, no, 'cause I'm not straight.\"\n\nThis completely blindsided me - *he* thought I knew, but it's *never* been discussed. There was actually a perfect opportunity as I'm a gray-asexual (*normally* lacking in sexual attraction, but with a few exceptions) and it was discussed early in the relationship. I'm wondering if he just forgot, because he told me that he never really told his parents because he's never had long-term relationships with other men; they've been with women but... like, I didn't wanna sound like I was shocked/disgusted. (I'm totally not!) It sounds like he'd just had male sexual partners.\n\nAny way. I don't really know how I feel about this? I tried really hard to not think about it whilst I was over there because I tend to overthink these things - basically, I don't know if it's something that he should've mentioned (he definitely *did* not - I don't forget *anything*) or if I should just build a bridge, get over it, etc... Because he's clearly with me, and I have 0 doubts with regards to his faithfulness, so, yeah.\n\nI'd just appreciate some input! Thanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend is bi, thought he'd mentioned it. All long-term relationships with women, just male sexual partners. Don't really know how to process/feel."}
{"id": "t3_10t9rx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best example of customer service you've experienced?", "post": "So upon seeing a post on the front page about a dog who ate a new iPhone, this reminded me of the time my dog ate my Nintendo DS and a box of condoms (she shit microchips, lulz), the part I didn't post about was what happened afterward.\n\nA few days after she'd eaten my DS, I was at a Gamestop a good 100 miles from the store I purchased mine at, just taking a shot I asked the manager \"This is going to sound stupid, but I bought a DS from Gamestop less than a month ago, I'm not sure if I have my receipt...but my dog ate it. Is there any way you can do an exchange?\" Without hesitation he says \"Man that is fucked up, as long as the serial number is still on it, I'll exchange it for you.\" Didn't even need my receipt, just took the piece that was in tact and had the serial number and gave me a new/used one, though he totally didn't have to.\n\nSo Reddit, what is a time someone went above and beyond to satisfy you as a customer, or patron?", "summary": "dog eats ds, exchanged w/o receipt at store I didn't buy it at."}
{"id": "t3_1fphdp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "She drives me crazy, not in the good way", "post": "So ready for a crazy love struck story? Well first lets drop some background info, I am a MaleToFemale trans person, and I identify as a pansexual woman, everyone to me is fair game! My obsession? My best friend who identifies as a bisexual female. Now we are great friends we do everything together. We have know each other for about a year or more, and it feels like we have been besties forever. So not that long ago we got drunk and decided to be friends with benefits. now of course as we all know, someone was bound to have developed feelings here. in this case it was my dumb ass. now im over the hedge in love with her, and she doesnt feel the same way, for about 3 months we got closer and i treated her like my gf. on the outside to everyone else we even looked like 2 girls in a relationship, people even asked us if we were dating.  I was happy for once. but then things started going stale. she started talking to old flings and distanced her self from me sexually while still teasing the shit out of me when we got drunk. we even sleep together most nights, minus the sex and closeness now of course. we still cuddle but that about it. any time i try to bring up what our relationship is now she just ignores me. I know now its one sided and will always be but i just cant stop having feelings for her, romantically and sexually. Its so damn frustrating, especially since she keeps falling for online guys. In the end i guess i know we will always be friends, but i want more then that. But i also dont want to fuck up what we have now, by spilling my guts to her and confessing im still in love, which btw i have already done once. she shrugged it off and we got drunk. Gah drives me crazy how i feel, anywho RANT OVER! \n\n Thanks for reading my random rant, and tips from anyone been in a similar situation is pretty cool.", "summary": "in love with my best friend and shes likes everyone else but me and it hurts."}
{"id": "t3_fyz3l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I might have solved creation mathematically but I have no idea what to do now, any advice?", "post": "I have always asked myself the question \"Why is there something instead of nothing\". About two months ago I answered it mathematically, at the time I was pretty excited but figured in a couple days I'll realize some obvious flaw in the theory. Instead, I started learning theoretical physics, watching BBC documentaries, etc and working out any of the minor problems such as where time comes from and at this point am almost certain it is correct. It is very simple, elegant, mathematical and explains many things. It's actually so simple I'm surprised someone else hasn't figured it out, although it is extremely abstract. I am not going to say the theory at this point, I just want advice on how to proceed. If you don't believe me that's fine I don't really care. I have enough self conviction to know when I'm actually onto something, even if most people just dismiss it immediately before even hearing me out. At this point I have only told like 4 people and after they got it they kind of had a holy shit moment.\n\nAnyways, I am not an academic. I don't have a university degree or any credentials. I am early twenties and have no idea how to proceed with this. I did attend university for electrical engineering for awhile but dropped out. I want to try and get it published in either Nature, or Science, but I don't know what is expected. Any ideas on journals? I have read their entry articles but am still not certain. Has anyone else been here before? How long should it be? Or gotten an article published? Help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nI'm going to bet no one is going to actually take this seriously since this is something that is easy to dismiss. Most people think that the question in itself is unanswerable. But if you can help me out that would be great, I really have no idea what to do now.", "summary": "How can someone who isn't in academia get a paper published assuming the theory is indeed correct and pretty much self evident."}
{"id": "t3_42djm8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24F] in a weird friendzone limbo with [24M]. When should I say something?", "post": "My friend and I became very close very quickly because our friendship started out with us dating for a month and half. We stopped because he had just gotten out of a long term relationship and had a lot of family stuff going on and didn't feel emotionally ready for a new relationship. We had a very candid conversation about if it was genuinely about compatibility or if it was timing and he said i wasn't a rebound, it was timing. We agreed to leave the door open to getting back together, but in a \"no promises and don't wait for me because that would change things\" kind of way. I wasn't really sure if we'd be able to be friends or not. \n\nFast forward about a month and we've continued as platonic friends but are closer than ever. It's never really gotten completely into the platonic zone and if anything is just increasing in sexual tension and flirtatiousness. He's extremely sweet and supportive of me and it feels like we're just dating but not having sex. For example, yesterday we spent the whole day together and I made him dinner and then he insisted that I come out that night (i hadn't been planning on it) so I could spend time getting to know his best friend.  . I'm not sure if at this point if he might be ready to reconsider or if he's just being clueless to how much he treats me like we're dating.\n\n It feels like our relationship is not sustainable where it's at. I'm not sure how/if I should bring this up or if I should just let things run their course. I'm very confused about his intentions. We have to see each other every day for school so I don't want to make things awkward, but I don't know if I can deal with this almost-a-relationship much longer. What should I say?", "summary": "More-than-friendship with my close friend is becoming too much for me to handle. When is it appropriate for me to say something?"}
{"id": "t3_3r5d8g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend Lived Abroad, Coming Home Soon, Relationship Beginning to Crumble", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together since June. We decided to date while knowing that she would be going to Iceland for an undisclosed amount of time. She wanted adventure and I did not want to stand in her way. I'll call her Gabby.\n\nGabby and I spent most of our time together until she moved away in late August. And yes, it was only 3 months but we had a great connection and stayed close while she was in Iceland. Our issues began two weeks ago when she went to spain with a girl she is friends with. They stayed on a guys boat for a few nights and went to the club with them. I'll be honest, I'm a pretty jealous guy. While it bothered me, I tried my hardest to trust her and let her choose her own adventure. I don't think she cheated on me but ever since she arrived in Spain, she has been very distant and I *feel* the absence of love in our conversations like never before. She is coming home in early November and has told me that she is unsure of our relationship but that she is willing to try to work it out when she gets back. \n\nShe says she cares about me and that she loves me, and I believe her. I just feel like she is not showing it to me and feel emotionally held hostage until she gets back. \n\nShe told me that one of the issues is that she wants to travel around the country and knows that I am trying to begin a career and sees conflicting paths. I view it differently and believe that we can live a life that fits both of our dreams and desires. \n\nWe agreed to wait until we were together to truly dig into our feelings and plans for the future. Either way, I feel heartbroken.\n\nI have never felt so strongly about a person and do not want to lose her. What should I do?", "summary": "GF is abroad, her feelings for me may be changing. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1khimf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do men and women feel the same marriage peer-pressure?", "post": "I'm a 23 year old woman, dating a guy 3 years younger than me, and we've been together nearly a year. At the moment, it seems like all my friends are getting engaged, and although me and my SO have discussed marriage and are both keen on being together and getting married one day, he is unlikely to propose until he graduates (in 3 years time). We plan to move in together in a years time, and are both serious about the relationship. What I want to know is whether he would feel the same 'When will it be my turn?' feelings as I do upon seeing friends getting engaged?", "summary": "Does seeing friends getting engaged make a guy want to do the same?"}
{"id": "t3_hr3z2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "people from small towns, any cool \"only in a small town stories?\"", "post": "i have to many to count... but i will give you one!\nso in highschool my best friend had an older sister who was super hot, but kind of a slut. the local police department got a new guy who was really young, like 24 or something. my buddies sister ended up dating this new cop, she was probably 21. anyway, any time we would go out and party this cop would make sure other squad cars stayed away from where we were at, and also alert us if there was one near or any complaints. it got to the point to where if we were trying to drive home he would come talk to us, give us (underaged kids) a sobriety test to see if we would be ok to drive. if he felt we were ok, he would let us drive but follow us all the way to our house. i know i will get downboats for this, and people hating that a cop would do this, but it is something that i felt i should share", "summary": "we had a cool cop that protected our parties and escorted us home."}
{"id": "t3_p9m11", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to do with unwanted pets: A semi-radical idea", "post": "We, as a country are getting rid of \"unwanted\" pets and stray cats/dogs at a rate of millions per year. We take them to the pound or a shelter, and they have a day or two to get adopted, and if that fails, they are injected with drugs and killed. Then we pile up their bodies and burn them in ovens. \n\nThis is a situation that nobody is really happy with in America. Even proponents of killing unwanted pets aren't happy with the way it works. I think we need a better system, and on my \"thinking walk\" today, I may have come up with a simple, but interesting solution. I wanted to see if Reddit could help me work through the potential benefits and problems with this approach.\n\nHere's the basic idea: **Release unwanted pets into the wilderness.**\n\nMaybe it's state or national parks. Remote wastelands. Uninhabited prairies. The Everglades. There is a LOT of unused land in America.\n\nNow, I understand that most house cats and dogs are not equipped to survive very well on their own outside of populated areas. That's part of the idea, though. \nThrough natural processes, most of these unwanted pets would die from predation or starvation or stupidity. Natural deaths. But at least they would get a chance. Scientists could study their social behavior. When is the last time we've seen what felines would do \"in the wild\"?\n\nMaybe I'm just a dreamer. All I know is that I'm tired of seeing photos of piles and piles of freshly-killed dogs and cats that nobody wanted.", "summary": "The Hunger Games\" for unwanted pets. "}
{"id": "t3_2b2hoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [22M] of 2 1/2 years wants to room with female friend. I'm [21F] trying desperately to be okay with this but it's tearing me apart. My only option is to break up with him if I can't be okay with it. Please help me.", "post": "Original plan was for him and his best friend (M) to room and girl to live in separate room. A week before move-in she expresses she can't afford it while she was the one who picked the more expensive apartment. Now they're planning on best friend getting own room and my boyfriend and girl sharing. \n\nTrust isn't an issue. I trust him 100% I'm just not happy with the idea of him living in the same room as a girl. \n\nI offered other solutions such as a smaller apartment or she get a different roommate but those were declined.\n\nNow my backs' against the wall and I have no options.\n\nIt has came down to: if I can't be okay with it then we break up. \n\nHe's my best friend and I just don't know what to do. I want to be okay with it but long distance was hard enough already now this.\n\nIs this okay? Am I over reacting? Should I walk away?\n\nFeel free to ask questions and I will do my best to answer them.", "summary": "Boyfriend want to room with female friend. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2fqir7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a party I wasn't invited to", "post": "This happened an hour ago. Me and my friend Zach were driving through town after hanging out at his house, and we saw a house that had a ton of cars at it. We figured that it was a birthday party, and being two bored 17 year olds, we parked and walked into this stranger's home. Right through the door, there was a picture of a fairly old lady, looked to be about 80 or so, on a giant easel. We heard everyone mingling in what I presumed was the living room, so we walked through. At this point, Zach and I are cracking up at how great this was, so in an attempt to continue the humor, as we rounded the corner I loudly clapped my hands together and yelled \"Heyy!! Where's the special lady?!\" The first red flag was that everyone was wearing suits and nice clothing. The second red flag was that there was a pastor-looking guy towards the front, and the third red flag was the coffin in the front of the room, next to the pastor. RIP Helen :(", "summary": "Crashed an in-home wedding for Helen. "}
{"id": "t3_2awd5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't really get what the issue here is between me [24/M] and my [19/F] girlfriend. Little help?", "post": "So I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months now. It's been great, I've seen her twice/three times a week for the whole duration. Good times. But she's moved back home with her parents after university for the summer so we're finding it hard to see each other as much, naturally. I work so can normally stay over a night or two before I head back home. All completely fair right? I have a job, I need to earn money!\n\nAnyway we've arranged a weekend at hers next weekend. I was looking forward to it, so was she but today out of the blue I get a 'I bet you won't stay 3 nights' text and when I questioned it I got told 'everything you say seems to be an excuse to leave'\n\nThis all seemed totally and completely unwarranted. I hadn't said anything to ignite this and now she's a bit cold with me even though we didn't even have an argument really, just me questioning the whole thing. Seems like she wants me to stay forever just because I have loads of time away from work (I have a lengthy period from work for a month or so). It just seems a bit petty and I don't really understand it all. What's she getting at? Why does she have an attitude with me when really I have the right to be the one annoyed? Just some clarification would be great!", "summary": "girlfriend questions how long I will stay at her parents house and insinuates I always have excuses to leave which isn't true at all."}
{"id": "t3_455c19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [17F] is ok with me [17M] kissing her but doesn't want to date me", "post": "I live in Europe and we don't change class every hour like people in the US, we're always the same 20ish people in the class, for 4 years. Some girls in my class compliment me on my looks saying I look cute/handsome, and they don't mind if I touch their butt, hell, I even kissed on the lips one of them and she didn't mind.\n\nBut one day I asked the girl I kissed on the lips out and she said no, I don't think we should. But she keeps complimenting me and gave me a hickie today on my neck. I can't even. \n\nAnd it's not like I'm her gay best friend, she kissed me on the lips, gives me compliments, and never treats me like a friend (i.e. asking for advice, complaining etc..) and actually gets mad when I show her some picture of some hot looking model, like she's \"jealous\" of her because I think she's hot.", "summary": "I kissed a girl, asked her out, she said no. She keeps flirting with me though."}
{"id": "t3_3k5kk2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] gf [22F] wants to take a break to \"figure herself out\", but still wants to talk to me in the time being. Should I cut off communication?", "post": "We have been dating for 4 years and she told me that she needed some space to figure herself out. She claims that during our 4 years she has lost who she really was and needs to find her personality. During our dating I always encouraged her to go out with her friends and to start her own hobbies, but she was always at my side and never maintained friendships. Now she needs a break to do what I have been advocating the whole time.\n\n Upon digging into it more it turns out she has been talking to another guy who lives across state. She claims it has been fairly innocent flirting and she's never lied to me before, but I feel so betrayed idk if I can believe that it hasn't escalated to more than that. \n\nShe wanted to live with me still ( as roommates...) and still take the break but I said no. She's now moved back home with her parents 2 hours south which is conviently 25 minutes away from her the guy she's about to throw this all away for.\nShe wants to continue talking to me while when doing this and I agreed to that at least, but I'm starting to find that it is getting harder and harder knowing there is someone else in the picture.\n\nWe decided that this break would last until she graduated in December, then we would reevaluate things.\n\nSo, should I cut off all contact with her until then or should I maintain brief converstantions? \n\nNothing to do with the situation butI have really bad social anxiety and it's making this whole process a nightmare because I'm having a hard time finding people to talk to about it so I keep going back to her...", "summary": "gf of 4 years wants to take a 4 month break. Should I maintain contact or just ignore her this whole time?"}
{"id": "t3_4mmf8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [ 27 F] of 5 months, is googling her considered snooping.", "post": "Hello,\nThis will be short. We are exclusive.\nI googled my SO a few days ago and found her on a dating website, where she was last active a few hours ago. She keeps visiting the website. \n\nI was honestly killing time and curious by googling her and was not expecting to find all that stuff. I will confront her, but I am afraid she may turn it around and ask why I was snooping. I would never ever check on her phone/computer and I trust her so I want to bring it up. Is googling someone considered snooping? What do you guys thing?", "summary": "Is googling your SO considered snooping?"}
{"id": "t3_2hio8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18F) trying to break the news to my SO (24M) that gosh darn it I'm in it for the long haul.", "post": "Alright let's get down to it. Throwaway because SO is self proclaimed reddit addict, and I'm an embarrassing dumbass.\n\nMet this guy a looong time ago, we chilled a few times, mostly just watched TV and barely talked. As you can imagine, it ended up fizzling into nothing and for a couple of years we were just kind of \"aware\" of each other.\n\nFast foward to after I finish highschool, we hit it off randomly one night and start seeing each other.\n\nI was a different person when I was younger and I just felt like maybe I could be better for somebody now that I'd grown up and gotten over a lot of dumb shit that kept me shying away from everybody.\n\nSo fast forward again and it's been three months and we've hit a bump or two but I really like him and think about him every day and I'm just so torn up because I'm about to have to take this long trip (like 6 months) for work, and he says he'll wait for me, but I'm beating myself up because I feel like I've let too much of my shitty bitch side out lately and if I just leave for that long he'll get impatient and start something up with somebody else. \n\nWe're not very open with each other, vocally. It comes in small bursts and neither of us really mean to let it slip out, it just does. I try to let him set the pace wherever he feels it's best. But honestly, it started as a physical thing between us, it's always been a physical thing. I love when he's sweet, because I'm a dumb girl, but he could just hold my hand and not say a word and I could cry from how happy I am. \n\nSo I'm just trying to approach the subject as a whole with him (me leaving) because I've got one month left to spend with everybody, and we haven't talked about it really, and I just want to let him know how I feel before we're separated, cue violins. What do?", "summary": "SO and I are both painfully introverted romantically. About to be separated, trying to clear the air about my feels."}
{"id": "t3_1bp826", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with a red light violation with all factors against you?", "post": "Disclaimer: I know my dad is really stupid. Please don't bash his stupidity because I've probably done enough of that. \n\nMy dad bought a car off Craigslist last October and was going to just trash his old truck. However, the guy that was going to sell us his car liked my dad's car so we basically did a trade and he took off a couple hundred off his asking price for my dad's car. For some stupid unknown reason, there was no legal signature or receipt of anything and my dad let him take off with his old truck with his license plate still attached. (why? I do NOT know.) And my dad either threw away or doesn't remember the guy's name or his phone number. \n\nFast forward to February, my dad gets a red light citation from end of January in the mail and it's my dad's old truck with his license plate still on. My dad can't prove with a bill of sale that it's not his car anymore. He did take it off his insurance, but they say they can't accept just that unless my dad has the other guy's name and address. He wrote to the DPS telling them to remove his name from the license right after this, but since the red light happened before he did this, he has to pay. He didn't think he had to do that since the guy apparently told him he was just going to use the car for parts. (Apparently not.)\n\nOn top of all of this, I was not here for any of this (the trading/sale of the cars, this whole mess), and I am only learning of this through my mom. She said another red light notice came 4 days later for a different violation, and since it's also before the day the DPS removed his name form the license they say he'd have to pay for that too. It doesn't help that my dad is really fobby and doesn't understand America/english very well. I have no idea what other evidence he might possibly provide to show that the car was not in his possession at the time of these violations.", "summary": "My dad is really stupid and I am sorry. Is there any way for me to help him not have to pay for these red light violations??"}
{"id": "t3_1621l7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "New makeover, new perspective, need help getting started (20M)", "post": "Story is I'm a 20M, never had a girlfriend. I used to not care much about myself, but that changed very recently. I just turned 20, so for a late birthday / new year's celebration, my best friend took me out to get a makeover (new clothes, nice shoes, new glasses, nice haircut, dyed the hair). For the first time in my life, I finally realized \"Wow, I'm a good looking guy!\" Quite eye-opening for me.\n\nI now feel motivated to become more social and start dating. I think my issue now is that most people assume a good-looking well-dressed person is very popular and social and has lots of friends, but I'm still the same, socially awkward guy, the exact opposite. I'm worried about being \"that guy\" who drops significantly on the attractiveness scale the second they open their mouth.\n\nAlso the fact that I am 20 and have no dating experience seems problematic to me. I'd assume it would be a red flag to most people, as they would expect someone my age to already know and experience certain things within relationships. I assume they think there is something wrong with me. I'm also not old enough to go to bars or clubs yet, which seem like good places to socialize. Anyway, this is all so new to me but it seems like there's so much to see, learn and do in the dating world. I don't know where to start.", "summary": "20M Recently got a makeover, got new perspective, motivated to date. I have no dating experience at all and don't know where to start."}
{"id": "t3_54iak0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] blocked my mom [50's] from my life about a year ago and I don't know where to go from here", "post": "My mom has been an alcoholic my whole life.  Only saw her a few weekends a month most of my life til I had to live he with her in high school.  Her and her boyfriends made life not the greatest.  They were all partiers, I was not.  She owes me tons of money, she's put me through lots of not great situations, and had said some things that I cannot forget.  \n\nA few years back I blocked her out of my life for about 6 months after she said I was dead to her for not giving her a place to stay when I barely had a place to stay myself.  Gradually I let her back in after she sobered up but she got back to her old ways.  \n\nLast year before Thanksgiving she was harassing me for something while I was working, I don't even remember what anymore, so I wasn't answering her calls.  She left voice-mail calling me names and saying I should be glad she didn't give me up for adoption or had an abortion and how I made her life hell.  I blocked all contact once again because the things she said really hurt.\n\nA month ago I guess she got a new number.  I answered a call from a random number and it was her.  She acted like nothing ever happened and just kept rambling on about her life.  I was so in shock I didn't hang up right away.  I actually just started crying and thinking about those things she said.  Eventually I hung up and blocked the number.  \n\nFor some reason voice-mail keep getting through and at this point I don't know what to do.  Do I remind her what happened and why I'm not talking to her? She clearly forgot. \n\nI'm trying to see this from her perspective of her child ignoring all her calls for weeks for what she thinks is no reason.  I know she is still drinking and I do not want her in my life, even thinking about that makes me freak out a bit. Where do I go from here?  She's unpredictable and no options sound good.  Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "mom's an alcoholic and I don't want her in my life but don't know how to deal with her."}
{"id": "t3_1eect5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Please help me with my car insurance situation.", "post": "I'm 22 years old, I live in Ontario, Canada, and I need some help with my auto insurance. I can't help but feel like I've been screwed over. Please read what I have to say and let me know what you think I should do.\n\nAbout a year and a half ago, my car insurance got cancelled due to non-payment. They had called me several times and told me that I had to pay by a certain date. On that exact date, I had gotten the money to pay for the insurance for that month, however, when I called I was told that my insurance had already been cancelled at midnight, and the payment needed to be received BEFORE that date. Awesome.\n\nSo while I'm on the phone with my now previous insurer, I figure I might as well get put back on a policy. So we go through the application process and get a quote, however my premium went up an additional $1200+ for the year! An extra $100 per month. I could barely afford my insurance before, now how am I expected to afford it? So I said screw that I'll figure something else out.\n\nSo here we are, a year and a half later, and I still have no insurance. Worst of all I've been driving my car because I need it to get to work. So I've been driving without insurance for over a year now but I figure my luck will be running out soon considering the sticker on my license plate is expired. All it will take is getting pulled over for that once and I'm screwed for good. I can't take the bus to work because the bus doesn't go out there, and there is no one around to car pool with.\n\nI'm wondering if maybe there's a way to haggle with insurance brokers/agents to maybe get my premium down. The reason I couldn't afford it the first time was because it was too expensive, what makes them think that raising the price will make it better? Why does my premium have to go up by so much because I couldn't come up with the money for a month? What should I do about my current situation?\n\nPlease reddit, give me some advice.", "summary": "Car insurance got cancelled because of non-payment and my premium skyrocketed. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hzyrn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by meeting a girl on Tinder", "post": "This actually happened last night. \nI will start with just a little background, I recently went through a breakup from a long term relationship so unfortunately (but admittedly) I have been very bored and lonely. My friends convinced me to go on Tinder which seemed like a decent idea to me so I said \"fuck it\" and decided to join. Now to begin the story.\n\nYesterday I made a connection with one of the few women that aren't bots. This girl was cute (solid 7.5/8 out of 10), so I was pretty excited. We're messaging and tells me she wants to get together the same night (first warning sign). I thought this was a little weird because she was so forward about it. She gave me her Facebook, Instagram and phone number (second warning sign). Everything looked legit and there were no doubts in my mind that she was who she said she was. \n\nFast forward a couple hours. She tells me she doesn't have a ride so she needs me to pick her up (3rd warning sign). She wanted to meet at a clothing store that wasn't too far from my house so I was all for it. I show up, walk in the store and don't immediately see her. There is a girl that looks a bit like her so I walk up and she introduces herself. \n\nI have been catfished. This girl is 3 out of 10 on a good day. At least 20 pounds heavier than any of her pictures and looks like she hasn't washed her hair in days. I got a super weird stalker vibe from her. No way in hell I'm letting her ride in my car. \n\nNeedless to say, after a couple of minutes of waiting for her to sell her clothes I told her that \"I need to go make a phone call\" and I noped out of there laughing all the way home. I think I dodged a bullet.", "summary": "Got catfished. Noped out of there."}
{"id": "t3_2z8kxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] decided to move in with my boyfriend [24 M] who lives with his family", "post": "I don't have a healthy environment at home; my father and I are not speaking despite living in the same place and I have been constantly afraid of him kicking me out for about a year now. I have no job (but seriously looking for one) so I'm always alone which has led to me basically isolating myself even when my family is home. I've realized more and more that I've become disconnected from them. I love my brothers and mother but most of the time I feel like I have nothing in common with them.\n\nI spend a lot of time away from home with my boyfriend anyway so it makes sense that I would move in with him. This is one of the many reasons why my father has threatened to kick me out. However, he lives with his brother, father and his father's friend. I've spent so much time at their house that I'm comfortable there but always as a guest never as a resident.\n\nWhat I would like to know is how do I learn to live with not just my boyfriend but with three other men too?", "summary": "moving out of family home for the first time and have no clue on how to live with a significant other and their family"}
{"id": "t3_14fu6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[m27] fucked up and lost the one I love, is there anything I can do to get her[f21] back?", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nSo I[m27] had been in a LTR with a girl[f21] for almost a year. I let her move in with me very early on in the relationship. I realise this was a mistake and usually insist on taking things slow but she had nowhere else to go (her parents wouldn't let her move in with them).\n\nShe's amazing, and we had a great time. But for some reason I pushed her away. I think a part of me needed some time for myself and we were spending too much time together. She was quite happy spending so much time together, but complained that she didn't see her friends enough because we lived away from them and she doesn't have a driving license yet. I felt like she relied on me for everything.\n\nNow it's all gone because told her I wanted to be alone. I was positive I was doing the right thing for the both of us, but 2 months later I'm regretting it terribly. By forcing her to move out and ending it, I let her down, broke her heart, and ruined everything we had together. It's only just sunk in how much love her, and how much I hurt her and I want to make things right, but she's not interested as I hurt her too much and says there will be no second chance.\n\nI've learnt a hell of a lot since we broke up, and I know I could be a much much better partner. The way I feel, I would do anything for her. Is there any chance she could change her mind and forgive me? Any advice to get her back? She's everything to me :(. I'm trying to move on but I just feel empty.", "summary": "Fucked up, pushed girlfriend away, would do anything to get her back, saudade."}
{"id": "t3_4kz51l", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "[23/m]I've been to a psychiatrist, now I feel worse than ever", "post": "So I've been to a psychiatrist, because I wanted a leave of absence on my university because of my insomnia and I wanted a diagnosis. The psychiatrist told me that she can't give me a diagnosis right now and she won't prescribe me the meds; what I need is therapy. Specifically, therapy for the adult children of alcoholics.\n\nNow, as the psychiatrist noted, insomnia is just the tip of the iceberg. I was raised by alcoholics and I have what looks suspiciously like ADD. I'm constantly exhausted and very easily distracted and forgetful and because of that, I'm afraid that I will screw up any kind of job I will take up. And that's a pity, because my family's finances are in the pits. \n\nWhen I told my mom that I'm considering therapy, she basically said something along the lines of \"why are you wasting your time? Do you think a stranger can help you?\". I got mad at her and told her exactly what kind of therapy this is... She asked me whether I think that they're alcoholics and the way I turned out is their fault and I've said something along the lines of \"Yes, you are alcoholics. You have screwed me up, but it's my responsibility to try to fix myself\". She hung up (do I have to mention I've felt the alcohol in her voice?). The worst part? I'll soon be leaving the university city where I've registered for the therapy and returning to my hometown and I'll need the MONEY to go back to the uni city for the therapy! What if I get too exhausted to actually try to earn it? My parents try to take any money I earn for myself, anyway.\n\nI want to stop taking money from my parents, I really do. The problem is that I need HELP first, and I'm dependent on people who do not support me in getting it. So as irrational as it was, I was annoyed at the psychiatrist for not giving me the quick fix and making me realize in what deep shit I'm in right now, because I've picked the worst time ever to have a mental breakdown and I need out NOW.", "summary": "insomnia and ADD; my alcoholic, nearly-broke parents do not support me in getting therapy"}
{"id": "t3_5331uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25f) boyfriend (31m) and I do not communicate well. I'm at a loss what to do.", "post": "I'm having a really hard time with my boyfriend Tom. I love him dearly but lately we've been fighting a lot and I'm starting to rethink the future.\n\nI have much more fulfilling conversations with my friends, roommate, etc. When I try to talk to Tom about my day it just feels empty. He never really has anything to say back and I find myself struggling to edit down what I'm saying. Man this is hard to describe. He sort of just jumps to the end of the conversation and says things like \"oh well I'm sure you'll figure it out\" or \"just try to deal with it\" or \"well you're home now so...\" just sort of stuff that kills any progress of conversation. I don't get much back and forth.\n\nHowever, he gets to talk about whatever and I listen and participate. It makes me really sad. I have been dealing with feeling lonely like this for a long time in one way or another. I have attempted to talk to him on many levels about it and it never seems to improve, it's really confusing. When I try to talk to him about it he just... basically says he disagrees with me. \n\nI am tired of fighting and feeling overlooked and taken for granted. He shows he cares about me in other ways but I'm starting to think he's confusing comfort with love and that he's just become accustomed to being around me. Idk. Not sure what to do?", "summary": "I am disappointed frequently when I try to have actual conversations with my boyfriend. Always shallow, never deep talks, feels one sided."}
{"id": "t3_2p5r51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend[19M] of 8 months, I have recently signed up and am eligible for clinical drug trials, he seems really uncomfortable with it", "post": "We are both university students and met at university. My degree happens to be right down the drug trial lane and people who work on the drug trials have done the same degree as I have. I am really interested in how these trials are created and the process behind them. \n\nThe drug is already allowed in the US and they just have to do some studies here (Australia) to make sure they're ok. \n\nI am getting paid for this trial but the more you get paid, the higher the risk of getting the side effects are. I am in a study with a relatively low risk level. \n\nI am really interested in the process but the money would be really nice especially in uni holidays and with Christmas coming up. \n\nI spoke to my uncle and grandpa about this (they are both doctors) and they said I should be fine, especially because there's a chance of me getting a placebo. \n\nThe real issue is that my boyfriend doesn't seem to like the idea at all. I don't know what to do. I'm worried that if I do drop out of the study he'll be all like 'you didn't have to do that for me, you're an adult who can make you're own decisions' because I know he's uncomfortable with this and one of the only reasons I would drop out of the study.", "summary": "boyfriend is very uncomfortable with my desire to take part in a clinical drug trial, not sure if I should drop out or not"}
{"id": "t3_4yl7jc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] with my crush [32/F]. She wants to bring a friend with her.", "post": "I have been working in the same company as her for over a year now and recently I have developed strong feelings for this woman. \n\nWe have a lot in common and we get along so well. We don't actually work together day to day but we see each other at breaks/lunch and at nights out.\n\nAnyways, so I wanted to ask her to a dinner date but I got too nervous so I instead asked her to the movies. \n\nI had planned on casually asking her to get something to eat after the film and then if everything had gone well, I would ask her on an actual date.\n\nShe has now told me that she has asked one of her best friends to come along because she really wants to see the film too. \n\nI post this to ask if this means anything at all? Obviously it wasn't a date but I was still hoping it would just be the two of us. \n\nI haven't ever met this friend. Do I still ask her for a bite after the film and then ask her on a date? What exactly is the plan for me here?\n\nI am really nervous now about the fact that i'll be with my crush, who I planned to ask on a date, and her friend, whom I've never met.\n\nHelp me please reddit!", "summary": "Asked crush out, she wants to bring someone along."}
{"id": "t3_17bl6g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend went out with old HS mates and I was left at home?", "post": "26/m 22/f 6 Months\n\nSo friday night my BF went out to a bar as a meetup for people from his old school.  Going with him was his good friend, also my friend.  It didn't bother me at first, and I get it that it might be weird for me to come since I would only know him and his friend.\n\nSo I stayed back at his flat while he went out. He wasn't gone very long, and it was nice when he came back.  But it sudden'y bothered me a bit.  Why wouldn't he want to bring his girlfriend along to meet everyone?  He told me how he was talking about me, and what I did to everyone, so I guess if he's proud of me, why did he leave me behind?\n\nAlso, I think he meant for it to be a \"guy's\" night and I think I'm just being ridiculous... but I can't help but feel a little hurt.  Can someone knock some sense into me?", "summary": "BF went out with some old school friends, left me at home, wasn't bothered but suddenly feeling a bit sad about it?"}
{"id": "t3_18jown", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29/M needs help with 30/f ( also posted in relationship advice)", "post": "So the situation is that I upset her with they way i was talking with some of my female friends. She see's it as flirting and i did not intend for it to seem that way. I have never read to much into my conversations that I have had with my female friends so never saw it as harmful until she brought it up to me. She is now upset at me and i don't know how to fix it. I told her that I wouldn't talk to my female friend anymore, that upset her more because she said then it would make her look like the bad person. So suggested to not talk to her until she talks to me and when she does say something like are conversations have been inappropriate in the past and cannot contiune to do it, but it has to be not so \"mean\", or sound like i use to have feelings for her. So i need help on fixing the situation with making her feel like the bad guy. we have been together for almost 2 years.", "summary": "gf mad at female friends and i need to make it better"}
{"id": "t3_127p6d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Keep trying or Move on?", "post": "I [17/m] went to homecoming this senior year with my friend and about 5 female friends. We got there and during the last hour i finally gained the courage to ask this one girl [17/f] I've been crushing on to dance. The next morning she messaged me on Facebook and we talked for a good hour. The next day at school her friend [f], who is also my friend, asked me if i like her and i was like, yea. She then proceeds to go and tell my crush i like her, and from then on she wanted me to walk with her and her crush in the mornings. I've only talked to my crush for about 2-3 weeks now and it was all casual stuff, i was nervous and it was kinda awkward for me because she knew that i liked her but i never told her. I've wanted to ask her to hang out but her friend was also trying to help us get together, and the other day her friend texted me like, i have to tell you something that she told me, she said that she only wants to be friends with you. At this point i was kinda hurt. I have no idea whether her friend was just telling me what she told her, or whether my crush asked her friend to tell me that. I have no idea if i should keep trying or just move on. I really like her but i don't want to make anything any more awkward.", "summary": "My crush knew i liked her through a mutual friend. I talked to them but was weird because she knew i liked her but i never said it to her face. She told her friend she only wanted to be friends with me, idk if she told her friend to tell me that or her friend just told me what she told her. Move on or Worth a shot?"}
{"id": "t3_1p03oo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19M] having difficulty with a girl [19F]", "post": "So I got with this girl at a student event in the city,\nI've been to her flat a few times and things have gone quite well,\nWe've been talking frequently and we both know that we like each other (will elaborate shortly)\nRecently, we've just been talking less and less to the point where I end up waiting hours for a reply from her OR I end up abandoning my previous message and sending a new one entirely.\nThis is made worse by the fact that my mind has a tendency to make a mountain out of a molehill and think of worse case scenarios that just make me get upset and all that other bullshit.\nI told her yesterday straight forward that I like her, to which she told me the same & that she wanted to see how things go, yet nothing has changed (still waiting on a reply to a text I sent 4 hours ago + a text i sent 20 minutes ago)\nThe fuck have i done wrong/should i do.", "summary": "Got with a girl at a student event, kept in touch & done the deed more, got feels involved and i have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_xz2qc", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[21M] break up with a long distance [20F]", "post": "My girlfriend [20F] of a year and nine months (who I thought was everything to me) broke up with me [21M] a couple months ago. The break up seemed to be random and was done after she took a trip to with one of her friends (another [20F]) in Europe, where she is currently living. We met while she lived in the states and she later moved to Europe. However, they met up with a male while on that trip. After the trip is when things went down hill and is the trip is when she decided she no longer wanted to be with me. I assumed back then it was not a problem with cheating, or anything of the sort. This is because we continued talking and she claimed it was just her. She needed to live her life and figure things out. But when I look now, it seems she flew to the states (which she kept from me) and met up with him while she was here. I'm not over the relationship, and I wish there was some way to work it out. I guess my question is what should I do and do you think they are involved and the other male has something to do with it? This is the first relationship I have been in that has shooken me up this badly. I've tried to do what I can by cutting of contact, but nothing is really working for me. My last hope is to turn to reddit for some advice.", "summary": "My long distance relationship ended rough and I think another male might be the reason to blame. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jct6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M]with my LDR Girlfriend [17F] of 7 months, struggling with managing a LDR at such a young age.", "post": "I have been with a girl for over 7 months now and we started talking over a year ago on social networking sites, she was fun and cool to talk to and generally just the best person in my life for the first 5 months, However I am now looking to meet new people and have fun while I am young but feel bad for considering ending it.\n\nWe have only ever had 1 break for 2 weeks in which during I hooked up with an old friend and after missed the conversations we had, however now I am struggling with the lack of sexual activity and the lack of any intimacy aside from messages and skype calls.\n\nI really think I should end it but I worry if i end it she will react badly due to going through family issues at the moment and also having told me she was depressed without me and I am the only thing keeping her happy, If she goes off the deep end I won't be there to save or help her so I still worry.\n\nIn the end what I need to know is how should I end something like this without causing irreparable damage and any advice from other people who have been in this situation.", "summary": "How to end a long distance relationship with someone you still care about as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_uy89t", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Is it normal for me to still be thinking about him? What's best, to stop thinking about him, or to dwell on it?", "post": "I'm a 21F, he was a 22M. We had been friend's with benefits for a little more than a year, and for most of that time I had feelings for him, while he claims to have felt feelings towards me the last few months. We also took each others virginity, but I'm not sure if that really affects how I feel. The thing is, it's been maybe a month since we saw each other, 2 months since we officially broke up. Is it normal that I still think about him a lot?\n\nNot only do I think about him, but I go through those cycles of missing him/hating him/just not caring. He does wants to stay friends with me later on, when I'm over it, but I'm not trying to think about that right now, and not even sure if that'll be possible to be honest. I hate that I'm still thinking so much about my relationship, though. How long does it usually take to get over a year long relationship? Especially when that person didn't reciprocate those feelings back? How long does it usually take you to get over something like this?\n\nI also think it doesn't help that two weeks ago I did feel like I was getting over him-until I moved to a new place, felt homesick, even had a pregnancy scare, and all those old thoughts and feelings came rushing back up. It really frustrates me, I feel like I regressed...\n\nI also have a question-Is it best to try to smother those thoughts of your ex when they arise? Or is it better to let them come out, and not to repress them? I ask this because I have a sister that has also broken up with somebody recently (lasted for 8 months). She says she just doesn't think about him, and that's what's helping her. I don't doubt it does, but is this the usual best coarse of action? I've also met someone that's told me it's better not to smother those thoughts, or all those repressed feelings will come up when you least expect it. So I'm not sure which way is best...", "summary": "Broke up with my fwb of a year...been a month now, and I still think about him a lot. What can I do to get over him? Is this normal? Plus, is it healthy to repress your thoughts of your ex?"}
{"id": "t3_4r3ocw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I just asked out the girl I've been to afraid to ask out for months, and she said yes! But I still feel so empty inside.", "post": "I've been okay friends with this girl for a few months. We spent a lot of time together last week and got to know each other well. I asked her out and she said she's felt the same way for a while! But I still feel empty inside. She's more or less everything I thought I wanted. But I don't feel that much even thinking about her.  \n\nI am not what most people would describe as mentally healthy. I've got depression pretty bad, and I might be Borderline on top of that. (Jury is still out) I'm not being treated, because I guess I'm just stubborn, and I'm not at a point where I'm a threat to myself or anyone else. She doesn't know any of this. She knows the mask I put on in public, not the depressed, Borderline me that mentally fights myself about almost anything.  \n\nI haven't told her about this. I don't know if I should just come out of nowhere and say \"hey, we haven't been going out that long, and you're all I've ever wanted, but I'm depressed, possibly Borderline, and I feel almost nothing towards you.\" That doesn't seem like so great of an idea.  \n\nI also feel insanely guilty about feeling nothing. I feel guilty that I've managed to go so far out of my comfort zone, only to get what I want, but realize that it's not what I expected. I feel guilty that I've found the person who I thought I'd never find, but I'm not feeling much from it. I feel guilty that I'm not telling her, like I have an obligation to 'us' now.", "summary": "Finally got my first girlfriend, but I'm having trouble feeling anything but indifference to our relationship now. I think telling her would be too much of an emotional roller coaster for her. (\"Hey, let's go out, oh wait I feel nothing, sorry\") But not telling her would make me feel like our relationship is a sham. I don't want to call it quits. It's way too early for that, and I really do fear that I'll regret letting someone like her go."}
{"id": "t3_51c29h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 F] gf of one year broke up with me [34 M], she doesn't have a lot of friends in the area and wants to hang out at friends.", "post": "I was dating an amazing woman for the last year, but I was going through some health stuff and wasn't there all together mentally or physically. I think she liked being with me becasue I was really nice, and introduced her to a lot of places and things since she is not from here. When she wanted to end it she said that it wasn't going forward and she wants to be friends, but maybe someday something more will come of it. Anyways she still wants to hang out, come over and cook me dinner, go to shows, but she also wants to develop different social circles. She doesn't have a lot of friends in the area. I would love to spend time with her, but I am terrified that I will become one of the many guy friends that she has had historically, who are just waiting for the day attraction build and it never happens.\nI really have feelings for this girl. The online blogs I read tell me I need her to start missing me for her to start to build attraction, so that means give it some space. So maybe moving into a platonic friendship is not the best way to win her heart back. Your thoughts?", "summary": "Should I become platonic friends with my ex-love, or give it some space to win her heart back."}
{"id": "t3_3hntqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24[f]don't trust my BF[24] after he went behind my back", "post": "My boyfriend of two years made a snapchat behind my back to add a lot of attractive random girls that he doesn't know and his ex whom is now married with kids. \n\nHe also deletes texts of a girl he used to like that he still keeps in contact with. I never feel like I'll ever be attractive enough for him. I try to dress nice for him, we have sex at least 4 times a week, but it just never seems like enough. Iam aware that guys will look at attractive girls.. but to go out of your way to add them behind your s/o back just to ogle them online seems like a bit much. These are \"real girls\" btw not celebrities.. these are girls that post half naked pics btw that he just finds and adds. \n\nI don't know if I'm being unreasonable as i have brought this up but he just tosses it up to it being social media and it shouldn't be a big deal to me.", "summary": "boyfriend adds random attractive girls online to ogle them"}
{"id": "t3_369glg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16|M] get the feeling that my girlfriend [15|F] likes me less after we had sex", "post": "I started dating this girl and after we decided that she was going to sleep at my place she texted me that I shouldn't make any move to sleep with her because she wasn't ready yet (we had only been together for less then 1 week). \n\nI told her I understood her and wouldn't do it but when she did eventually sleep at my place we had sex anyways. \nNow she was pretty happy and was kind of joking that I broke my deal but she was definitely into it and told me it was good so everything was alright. \n\nNow when she went I asked her when we would see each other and she just said she doesn't yet know.\n\nNow we used to text a lot and she was always really nice but the last couple of days her messages seemed kind of cold and short so I asked her if anything was wrong but she told me that everything was good but she just has a lot of stuff to do and she doesn't really now what to respond when I text her that I miss her.\n\nI just wanted to ask for your opinion on the situation because I am not really sure what to think of our relationship now.", "summary": "had sex with girlfriend eventhough I told her I wouldn't do it and now she rarely texts me and seems colder"}
{"id": "t3_4hx3to", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my [24 F] dated for 1 month, but can't figure out why I am not completely into her,", "post": "I could use any help or advice.  \n  \nI am dating a girl, who is cute, a little overweight but we get along well and have good chemistry, and she is into me (which doesn't happen often). I usually am drawn into athletic women, and one of the things I worry about is that I am not attracted to her because of her weight. I don't want to break up with someone who is right because of something like that.  \n  \n  \nI enjoy being around her, but I am just not excited to see her when I set up dates or even the afternoon leading up to the date. I am just not completely into her, when I think about introducing her to my friends, I hesitate in my own head.  \n  \n  \nIts been three dates, nothing serious has happened yet, but I can't figure out if I just need to be patient and let the strong feelings come later, or if I should end it if I am not feeling it after 4-5 dates. I haven't had a long relationship in over 5 years, so I think that might have something to do with it.", "summary": "Good chemistry, enjoy being with her, but not always excited to see her, worried i might not like her because she is overweight!"}
{"id": "t3_2xrjpf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 M] girlfriend [26 F] of 10 months thinks she might be asexual.", "post": "our relationship is really great and healthy in every other way but as we get to know each other better I have come to understand that she has no real sex drive. She thinks she may be asexual. I think maybe she has a hormonal imbalance or her birth control is doing something but she says it has been this way pretty much her whole adult life.\n\nShe almost never denies me sex when I initiate and she has orgasms that she insists are real and she even says that sex feels good with me but that it is mostly because it brings her closer to me. She says that she has never dated anyone for sex and is 100% interested in personality and sexual desire doesn't factor into her interest in me or anyone else. \n\nThis is making it very hard for me to be comfortable initiating sex (she has never once initiated) because I want her to desire me. I want to be loved but I also want to be wanted on a carnal level. Who wouldn't?\n\nI feel like this is either something that can be fixed in her (or does it even need to be fixed?) or it is something that I have to learn to deal with if I want to be with her. I don't want to break up because in every other way she is the most amazing woman I've ever met and I still think I am impossibly lucky. But I just don't know how to be ok with this or what to do about it. \n\nShe keeps telling me not to think about it and that as long as she isn't too tired she will pretty much always have sex with me whenever I want it but she doesnt understand what sexual attraction really means and why it is so important that I be sexually desired by the person I'm having sex with. \n\nDoes anyone out there know anything about asexuality? Are there any no -asexual who have been with or are currently with an asexual person? Any advise or information would be very helpful.", "summary": "my girlfriend thinks she may be asexual. She says sex feels good but she doesn't have a drive for it. I need advise."}
{"id": "t3_3ed6ig", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat keeps pooping on my bathroom floor?", "post": "I have two cats and they're on the older side (one is 14 years old, the other is about 8 years old). We've had both of them since they were kittens and have raised them with tons of love and attention.\n\nRecently (over the past year), one of them (or both, who knows) have been consistently pooping on my bathroom floor. Nothing new was in the bathroom, no new cleaning supplies, etc. At first they were pooping in the shower, but now they're doing it on the floor. I've tried changing out the bath mats, and even removing the mats completely, but the cat continues to poop on the floor.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. They are both litter trained and don't poop/pee anywhere else in the house. I don't understand why they're doing it, and I have no idea how to get them to stop.\n\nExtra info: my two cats get along. They're not best friends, but I would consider them \"friends\" (as much as cats can be at least). They've gotten along the entire time we've had them. There's usually people home all the time to love them and give them attention. Their litter boxes are upkept and cleaned frequently. The only thing I can POSSIBLY think of is that sometimes the house is empty for about a week but that only happens when we go on vacation which is normally only 1 or 2 weeks a year....", "summary": "My well-cared for and loved cats that have never had this issue before have been pooping on my bathroom floor and nothing I do seems to get them to stop."}
{"id": "t3_331z3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] made moves on my [20 F] female friend and ultimately got rejected. Dynamic of relationship moving forward.", "post": "I hung out with a female friend, holding hands, playfully petting each other, and hugged from behind for a good bit. We got to my place and went under the covers, playfully tickling each other, then got rejected when I went in for the kiss. \n\nWe've known each other for 3 months now, and have become good friends. I'm going to move forward, but still enjoy her company enough to hang out with her. I rolled off the rejection and continued as normal. \n\nWould she be weirded out by this? How was I able to touch and feel so much and be led to rejection?", "summary": "female friend rejected kiss after long day of affection. Can we still be friends without feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_4z6yae", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[IN] Apartment charging for pet damages when I didn't have a pet!?", "post": "[Indiana, USA]\nSo my wife and I were stuck renting a place short term while we waited for our house build to be completed. We signed a 4 month lease that just ended on Aug. 8th.  We hardly unpacked anything and basically lived out of boxes.  The carpet was in the exact same condition as it was when we first moved in.  However, we recieved a nice surpise in the mail yesterday, it was an invoice for $600 for replacing the carpet due to pet damage.  We didn't pay any pet deposit or pet rent because we didn't have any pet.  We did notice after we moved in that one of the doors had dog chew marks on it and we figured that the previous tenant was a pet owner.  Now here is my f*ck-up...we didn't take any pictures.  We were naive in our thinking that the place looked just like when we moved in.  I called this morning and asked for pictures of the carpet that they say is \"damaged\" and I also asked when the carpet was last replaced.  I 100% think that they are screwing us into paying for them to replace carpet that we did not damage.  They said that they have a \"3rd party\" carpet guy come out and determine if the carpet needs cleaned or a full replacement. Now obviously this person would have a clear motivation to say the carpet needs replace every chance he got.  They also said that they take pictures of the bottom of the carpet, but how would they know that there is damage underneath it if they didn't already rip it out? I know for an absolute certainty there were no surface stains at all. It all seems really sketchy to me and I want to fight it as far as I can.  I'm afraid that without pictures I have any recourse. Also is there any way that I could get them to let us know if the previous tenant was a pet owner?", "summary": "Apartment is claiming our carpet had \"pet damage\" after our 4 month lease. They are charging us $600 and we didn't even have a pet. I've got no pictures...am I screwed?"}
{"id": "t3_xui3t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had to put down our cat while my wife is out of town for two weeks. How can I break the news to her and try to comfort her without her freaking out?", "post": "So our pet cat, Kevin, was attacked by a raccoon or something and had to be put down last night. I found him injured and assumed it was something minor so I brought him to the emergency vet. I thought it would just be a routine wound cleaning with some medication. His breathing was very awkward though and the doctor wanted to get some x-rays so I agreed. About fifteen minutes later the doctor comes in and tells me he has massive internal injuries (to the point where he was certain he was going to die in a couple of hours anyway). He said he may have been thrown around by a dog or raccoon, or even hit by a car. So I made the tough decision to have him put down. \n\nI didn't think I was going to get upset, but I broke down crying and that is extremely rare for me (It's just an animal right?). I think I'm mostly just sad that I have to tell my wife who is going to be hysterical. She is also out of town for two more weeks and I feel like I won't be able to comfort her.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "I had to put our cat down due to traumatic injuries and I have to tell my wife tonight. Unsure how to break the news to her and comfort her after."}
{"id": "t3_41v3xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am not sure if I [26/f] should marry my immigrant boyfriend [24/m] so he can become legal.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and we have been living together for the past 3 months.\n\nMy boyfriend is originally form Venezuela and he came to the USA for political asylum. If you don't know Venezuela is currently under a \"socialist dictatorship\" and isn't a very safe country to live. His step-brother came here [USA] for the same reason and has received his political asylum.  \n\nMy boyfriend is in the process but today we found out he was denied a work permit because he mailed the application 5 days too soon. We are devastated. He now has to re-apply and now has to pay $450 and wait another 90 days.. \n\nI've been thinking about it and I really love my boyfriend and I am so sick of watching him be fucked over by the government of a country founded by immigrants trying to find a safe place to live. \n\nI've been thinking of just marring him, but I'm kind of on the fence.. I love him and want to be with him.. but it's only been a year.. I've been in 5 year relationships which have fallen apart before and I'm just really nervous about it. I never thought I would even get married, let alone to be kinda.. rushed into it.. just so I don't lose the man I love.. but again, I don't know what the future holds..\n\nOver all we have a very good relationship.. We both work (him under the table) and have cars and an apartment together. We do have fights but are good at communicating and we always get through it. He is the most supportive man I've ever been with.. He helps me clean, cook make appointments if my anxiety gets too much.. He's the best and I do love him. \n\nI really need some guidance on this.. Maybe have things I haven't thought of brought up.. If anyone has gone through this, I would really love to hear your story.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Not sure if I should rush into marriage just so my boyfriend becomes legal."}
{"id": "t3_26qlkj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/25] My grandmother has been keeping a semi-secret friendship going with my ex-wife..", "post": "My head is sort of swimming right now, so I'll try to keep this coherent.\n\nDated my highschool sweetheart for 6 years and we ended up marrying. After 3 years my then-wife leaves me out of the blue. There had been signs, and fights, but I had been trying my damnedest to fix things. Turns out she had been planning to drop me for my best friend for awhile and had been cheating on me.\n\nAnyways I'll skip over all the parts where I was a mess and tried to win her back and go right to what really is bothering me: My grandmother still talks to her, and loves her, a lot. I found out when my dad left his facebook open on her page. It turns out my ex and my grandmother are still facebook friends (with my ex having blocked me, thus me never seeing their posts to each other). I scroll down the page and see my grandmother commenting lovingly on all of my ex's posts, even the ones where she is with her new man (my former best friend), and she's talking to them more than she ever talks to me in public or on facebook. My ex still calls her grandma and so many other weird things..  \n\nI feel sick. Things did not end on a good note for me and this girl and I never thought they were that close when we were dating. It hurts to see my grandmother take such a proactive part in my ex's new life but be completely disinterested in mine or the girl that I've been dating for the past year...\nThis is so out of the blue that I am kinda reeling. I know my grandmother can have her own life and her own friends and I won't hold it against her.. It's just. I donno how to feel.  \n\nShould I do anything? Say anything? I have been really busy for a long time and haven't had the time to see my grandmother that often (she lives half a state away and I have a new career). I guess it doesn't matter. The only person that is hurt in this whole situation is me. Should I just leave it be?", "summary": "Ex wife cheats and leaves me for best friend, grandmother keeps private friendship going with the woman.  "}
{"id": "t3_449unc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my crush [18 F] a few days- Kissing Problem", "post": "So recently I met this girl that I thought was cute so I asked for her number and started to talk to her. I have been in a serious relationship of a few years while she has never been in a serious relationship.\n\nWe decided to hangout and study for a bit together. We talk lots, have similar interests and both have mutual feelings for each other. \n\nAs I was about to go I decided to try and get in a kiss. So I went and we started to kiss.\n\nProblem is she wasn't that great of a kisser. I knew she wanted to kiss because she had purposely moved herself into a position to kiss me as I am taller than 6 feet and she is a bit shorter around 5 in a half feet.\n\nShe opened her mouth pretty wide, didn't use any tongue (which I know some people aren't into but her mouth was open pretty wide when we kissed so I thought it would be expected). Also her head was in strange spot so it was hard to position my lips against hers. If I had to describe it I would probably say it was like a fish that would open and close its mouth.\n\nI think that I might be her first kiss and it feels awkward to bring up the topic to her seeing as I am more experienced and she is likely knew to everything. I also feel bad as I can't say I am her first kiss and don't really know how to deal with it. How do I bring up a conversation like this or make it easier for the both of us. On top of that how can I improve her kissing habits.", "summary": "Crush isn't the best kisser and I think I might be her first. How do I bring up the topic and fix the issue?"}
{"id": "t3_3hcmqw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Joining the G.A.P. Army", "post": "First of all this didn't happen today. It was many years ago. Boo goo.\n\nWhen I was 8, I had a camouflage G.A.P. visor that I was oh so proud of. It made me feel like an \"army man.\" My sister and her friend, 4th graders at the time, told me what all 4th graders would tell you G.A.P. Stood for:\n\nGay American People.\n\nTiny lil me had no earthly idea as to what \"gay\" meant. I thought it was a cool acronym and went around saying it at school and getting confused as to why people were laughing.\n\nThen came the day of reckoning. I was on a trip to Florida with my dad. We were at a busy town center. Outside of a restaurant in said town center was a lion statue. The genius and proud soldier I was decided to stand up on the base and shout,\n\n\"I AM IN THE ARMY OF THE GAY AMERICAN PEOPLE!\" \n\nNot once, not twice, probably more than thrice -the memory's a little fuzzy- did I shout my deployment fighting for the G.A.P. I was proud, too. To me being a soldier was to coolest thing you could be.", "summary": "Hit my dog, dog hit back, now we are both hurt"}
{"id": "t3_1br2dl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] wanted to take my fiance [25M] to the doctor, his mom stepped in, and now I feel...?", "post": "So my [24f] fiance [25m] has been having some medical issues recently. Last week, he had several doctor's appointments and took the day off.  His mom drove from about 30 minutes away to go with him since he was having an MRI, EEG, and eye appointment in the same day. \n\nOne of the doctor's told him he'd have to get a lumbar puncture, which he is very nervous and upset over, especially considering they wanted him to get it the same week.  I am worried sick, but am keeping it nonchalant and light so it won't make him feel worse.  When he was talking to the doctor about when/what time to make the appointment, I told him to tell me what it was so I could go with him/hold his hand/drive him to and from the appointment (he's not allowed to drive himself).  \n\nWell, he made the appointment this afternoon, and right afterwards he called his mother and let her know what was going on. She told him she will be driving him around and go with him to the appointment. He agreed, and told me he wasn't sure if I'd be able to take the time off so he just said she could.\n\nI don't know what I'm feeling right now. I can't tell if I'm upset that I won't be the one there to comfort him or if I'm upset that he didn't let me know first. I know it's his mother, but I sort of feel like a failure, like it's my job to be doing all of this and taking care of him. I can't even put words to it. Any insight? Am I being ridiculous?", "summary": "SO going through some medical issues, wanted to be the one there for him and mom will be instead. Feeling knocked down a peg. "}
{"id": "t3_18cifj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "TL;DR My girlfriend told me she doesn't like having sex.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for almost two years now( i am 19 she is 18) , at the beginning of the relationship we were both virgins so we decided to take it pretty slow, we didn't really have sex until about 10 months into the relationship and that was only on occasion (2-3 times a month) due to not being together all the time and not being alone together. for the past few months we started having more alone time than usual, so for the first few we were having sex more often, but it started to \"die out\" i guess you could say. I had a conversation with her about it today and it eventually led to her telling me that she doesn't like having sex with me. She later told me that she didn't mean sex with ME in particular; but at this point i have no fucking clue what to think, and i have no one to talk to about this. And i love the girl, with all my heart and i would do anything for her but i don't know what this means, is it something i should be worried about? am i over reacting?", "summary": "Dated a girl for 2 years, now she tells me she doesn't like having sex, confusion commences."}
{"id": "t3_2vzwzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] found out my boyfriend [22M] of 2y 11m keeps naked photos of girls on his phone", "post": "Hey guys.. so, I've been with my boyfriend for two years and 11 months.. we always had a great relationship and felt like we were made for eachother.. \n\nTwo days ago, we were chatting and he pulls out his phone and says ''hey, doesnt this look like *name of mutual friend*?'' and it was a photo of a naked girl, with her massive boobs out..\n\nI've always been insecure about my boobs because they're like super tiny (and I'm planning to get surgery for ME not him) but this just made me feel like shit. \n\nAll the photos were of really busty girls, which kinda proves my point more that he probably isn't sexually attracted to me. \n\nThe only contradiction is that he always says he loves my boobs because they fit my body and they're small and perky, I told him you're probably only saying that to make me feel better and he said, why would I say that to make you feel better, I say what I mean..\n\nIn his defense, he always says he's attracted to me and my boobs but some stuff he says really contradicts this, like saying '' you can't go wrong with a pair of big t*ts''\n\nand all the porn he watches has women with massive chests, so I don't know.. I'm offended cause I send him sh*t tons of nudes and he doesnt even have them on his phone, but instead he has photos of other girls!\n\nAm I overreacting? part of me says I'm being stupid and just cause he gets his jollies by looking at big chested women doesn't mean he is not attracted to me..\n\nBut the other part says, if he only feels big boobed women are sexy then what the fuck does he see in me?!..\n\nP.s We had this convo tons of times in the past and he always says that he loves my body and I'm crazy to even think that he doesn't.. but what if he's just lying to me for god knows what reason and I'm just wasting my time??", "summary": "Found naked photos of big boobed chicks on my boyfriend's phone and now I feel ugly and unattractive even though he says that he is attracted to me, but I feel like I can't believe him no matter what I do.. please help."}
{"id": "t3_3r8wqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's been 8 months....how come I [26f]can't forget him[24m]?", "post": "This is something I can't bring myself to admit out loud...everyone assumes I'm fine. I put a good front. I seem happy for the most part...but I still miss him...\nI got dumped in march by my boyfriend of 3 years via text. This month marks 8 months. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him or wonder what he is doing. He was a huge part of my life.\n Since the break up I forced myself to get back out there. To seem normal and hopefully get over him quicker. I've dated over 12 men in a course of 8 months, gone out with friends, got myself into the gym. I feel happy for the most part but I still can't bring myself to take anyone seriously.  I have stopped dating as of a week ago because I am not over my ex and it isn't fair to someone if I am not honest.  I wish I knew why things ended. Was it me? What didn't I do? Maybe I just wasn't enough? What could have been done differently...I feel tempted to reach out to him to see if I can get some clarity but I don't think he cares. He hasn't reached out once. He wanted to remain friends but I couldn't do it.... I mean what else can I do to move on?", "summary": "8months. ..and not over him. What else can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2paz93", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Are these signs that thesr two girls are flirting with me?", "post": "So, there are two girls in my highschool who I think they are kind of atractive and I get along quite well with both. While I'm not in love with any of them, I feel like they are interesting and worth giving them a shot, but I'm kinda shy and suffer from anxiety, so I'm afraid to fuck up and I only want to make a move if they are kind of interested in me.\n\nOne of the girls is my class mate, she sits by my side. We used to be in the same class in elementary, and 6 or 7 years later we end up together again.\n\n- She sometimes jokes about how \"we are made to each other because we always end up together\" and laughs about it;\n\n- She laughs at almost anything I say in class (anything slightly funny at least);\n\n- She sometimes asks me to touch her leg to \"feel her muscle\"(?) or complaining that her legs are fat.\n\n- There is a lot of leg contact in class, but she doesn't seem to mind.\n\nI met the other girl because we use the same bus stop, and we have some common friends. We don't talk too much, we just chat a bit when we meet in school or we just share a seat on a bus.\n\n- She high-fives me a lot, and squeezes my hand when we do;\n\n- She asks me to \"feel her muscles\" on her leg and her abdominals;\n\n- She punches me jokingly a lot or just pats my head or arm.\n\nAre any of the signs I listed a way of any of them flirting with me or so? I may be overthinking, but I am really aware of my surroundings, so I notice these things a lot. But I'm also socially oblivious and have no idea of what they mean. Please help me, guys.", "summary": "These girls seem to be flirting with me, but I'm unsure about the signs and I'm afraid to make a move."}
{"id": "t3_3lheig", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling the teacher who I like.", "post": "So this story happened back in 6th grade. One day in class we were doing an activity where we get an M&M and we have to say something depending on what my color of my M&M corresponds to. Welp with my luck I got a red M&M which says who I like. Being the savage 6th grader I am I told who I like instead of saying something stupid. The class really didn't care that much tbh. Fast forward to lunch, I sit at the lunch table next to my crush's table. I was walking to throw away my trash when suddenly my teacher up and said to my crush LITTLETOT WANTS TO GO OUT WITH YOU FOR THE DANCE(it was the day before the dance) suddenly every one in the cafeteria started getting up and screaming. My crush was shaking her head, and basically said no.The whole cafeteria saw me get rejected. That was embarrassing me for the whole school year. To make it worse she rides my bus everyday and lives in the same neighborhood. Lesson learned is that never tell the teacher who you like.", "summary": "told my  teacher who I like,  my teacher asked her out for me in front of the whole cafeteria, and got "}
{"id": "t3_20345n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] cheated on my GF [25 F] for 3 months and she broke up with me, We were together for ~2 yrs. I want her back.", "post": "I was dating this amazing girl for two years, but around March 2013 the relationship became really rocky. We weren't having fun anymore and always snapping at one another. \n\nEventually, we started going to therapy and everything was getting better. But the true issue wasn't addressed, I guess. \n\nFast forward to November, I meet another girl (girl #2) through a friend. The first time I met her, there was no real attraction to this girl. But one night, we went out (my gf wasn't there) and I end up hooking up with girl #2. And I continued to see girl #2 while still with my GF. \n\nThree months later (February 2014), my GF looks through my phone and discovers that I was cheating on her for 3 months and broke up with me. \n\nAt first, I was devastated. But I started looking deep inside myself to discover why I cheated and try to evaluate my emotions. Now, I think I'm on the path to make my life better, but I still have feelings for my GF and want to get her back. Is this possible, even if I give it time?\n\n*We still chat on occasion, but she says she doesn't want to be with the cheating version of myself.", "summary": "Cheated on GF for 3 months! Now I want to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_3fokef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] roommate [24F] wants to move her boyfriend [24M] and their cat into our three bedroom apartment.", "post": "So, in June I moved into a new place, taking over my friend Aaron's room. Aaron is dating Julia, who is still a current roommate. However, Aaron recently decided he was moving back, and would stay in our 3 bed 1 bath apartment in Julia's room. They didn't even ask me or the other roommate if this was okay. Also, originally they said Aaron would only pay half of Julia's rent, but later said they would pay equal parts if I would let them stay. However, he has a cat, which is against the lease. The landlord originally said he did not want four people living there. They planned on moving him in anyway, but finally convinced the landlord to allow a fourth.\n\nI've made it very clear that I do not want to violate the lease. They just keep saying they don't have any other choice, and I don't either. My dad cosigned the lease, and is considering sending our record of text messages to the landlord. I don't want it to reach this point, but not sure what else to do. I don't feel like I'm overreacting, but I'm getting tons of guilt trips/light blackmail from them.", "summary": "Roommate wants to break our lease agreement, I do not. She claims we either go in this together, or we all have to leave. How do I handle this from here?"}
{"id": "t3_1vr7kb", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Thinking about getting a second cat, have some questions", "post": "I've searched, so I know the basics of bringing a new cat home, but my situation leaves me with some questions.\n\nKatie is a 10-month-old barn cat. She's been with me and strictly indoor since she was 12 weeks old, but she is sassy and spastic as hell. We've had playdates with other people's cats, and she has always terrorized them, even though she's tiny. My best friend's 13 pound Mane Coon hides whenever they've been together. \n\nIs she too much of a terrorist to adapt to another cat?\n\nAlso, my apartment only has one inside door, in the bathroom, and my bathroom is tiny. To keep them separate for a bit, would keeping the newbie in the bathroom be ok?\n\nKatie lived with two rabbits for a couple months, and got along great with them, but I'm definitely not getting a rabbit (I lost so many cords in my 2.5 months of living with rabbits).\n\nShe is seriously tiny. She's maybe 7 pounds, was the runt of her litter, and hasn't gotten any bigger for a few months.", "summary": "I think my cat could use a friend, but she's always terrorizing any other cat she's met. My apartment is small. Could I get another cat and keep him in my bathroom?"}
{"id": "t3_xhmpu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) need your help r/relationships", "post": "Me and my GF, also 20, have been going out for five years now and I think that its time to break up. I have lost interest in her, and I would never cheat while sober but I am about to turn 21 in September and I have done some, lets say non-monogamous things while intoxicated.  This puts a huge burden on me because only the other girls and I know about these events that happened years ago.\n\nThis is where it gets complicated. We have a lot of the same friends and it would be very awkward to break up and still hang out. On top of that, our friends always say how we are going to get married. She also brings up the subject every once and a while and still thinks that I still want to marry her. I once thought this too, but I have been questioning things lately. \n\nShe moved in with me last year, and I already cannot stand living with her. I know we are young but I thought it was a good idea. Stupid me.\n\nWhat should I do? \n* Break up with her now\n* Wait until we go separate ways after college", "summary": "5 year relationship, lost interest, many mutual friends, live in GF, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_190sdb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roommate's (27f) old hook-up (25m) has feelings for me (26f), and I'm unsure how to handle the situation.", "post": "About 2 years ago, my roommate (25f at the time ) and I (24f at the time) met a guy (23m at the time). I had a bf and she did not. They had a casual sexual relationship that never grew into anything more. Their relationship ended. He remained a part of our lives, becoming a very good friend to both of us. She got a serious bf about a year ago.\n\nRecently, I broke up with my bf of 2 years. Male friend told my roommate first and then me that he had had a crush on me since he first met me, but didn't say/act on it since I had a bf. He told me that their relationship never would have happened if I had been available. We drunkenly had sex, and now I feel very awkward about the situation because of my roommate's and his past. I really do love him and think we have the potential to be really great together. Roommate says she doesn't care, but I don't know if I believe her. I would also feel awkward talking to her about anything intimate between me and guy.\n\nWhat advice does reddit have? I do not want to lose the friendship of either friend.", "summary": "Roommate's (27f) old hook-up(25m) has feelings for me (26f). I have feeling for him and would like to pursue a relationship, but feel weird about it because of his history with roommate."}
{"id": "t3_4extvh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my new flirt [22F] of a month, She wants a lot of sex, I do too, but not this much", "post": "Okay so... I haven't been in a real relationship before (nothing more than 8-9 months) and the sex has always faded down to once or twice a week. I met this AWESOME and AMAZING girl by coincidence, and I am really starting to fall for her. We took things slow, and didn't start sexual intercourse untill 3 weeks or so passed.\n\nNow, She wants it all the time. Which is awesome. Except she wants it too much, and I am not comfortable declining. Today we had sex 7 times, in which I 'finished' in the first 5, which meant I could barely breathe the 6th and 7th time. I asked her how much she usually has, and told her I was used to once or twice a week, but could do more. She literally gasped at this, and told me she wanted atleast once everytime we saw eachother - atleast when its appropriate. \n\nI don't mind this, but I've never really turned down sex before, and I need to know how to do it without hurting her feelings or make her feel inadequate. I know it's probably every guys dream, and I must admit I am quite thrilled she wants more than me - I just don't know if I can keep up.", "summary": "new girlfriend wants a lot of sex, nice, but maybe a bit too much. Any ideas on how to reject properly should I need to?"}
{"id": "t3_1zvhee", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Expiration Date from the start, but growing more attached every day. [24/m] and [22/f]", "post": "Somehow, the Tinder gods decided to get together and band two awkward, driven people into a relationship instead of a quick fling.\n\nThe issue is that we're going to be launching into new places in our lives starting in May. For me, I am in law school and obtained an amazing Summer Associate gig across the country, and she is shipping off to Medical School about 1500 miles away in the fall.\n\nWe agreed when we decided to become official that this was going to be a temporary relationship but we'd just have fun and enjoy the ride.\n\nThe issue is that I really think we're beginning to really fall hard for each other. We generally see each other every couple of days, but earlier this week, she straight up told me she begins to miss me every day when we don't see each other, and I told her the other day that it sucks when we only converse via SMS.\n\nWe've been presenting ourselves as a couple and have gone on many double dates with each of our friends, and the tension keeps building as the date draws closer and closer.\n\nWe both understand that we can't renege on our commitments, as we will ultimately come to resent each other if one of us takes the plunge and finds an alternative route for the summer or fall. We also agreed that a LTR is going to pretty much fail from the get-go.\n\nShould I try to break this off now, or should I just keep enjoying the ride until the beginning of summer when the expiration date hits?", "summary": "Should I throw out the milk I know I'm not going to finish drinking now, or should I wait until it spoils?"}
{"id": "t3_dnqsy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighborhood parking question", "post": "Reddit,\nI live in a city but not down town. My neighborhood is all single family houses and some people over time have added parking pads or drive ways on their property. The street is a two way street but there is only parking on one side. Parking didn't used to be an issue however a couple of house that were for sale sold. \n\nHere is my problem/question. My neighbor (not a new one, has lived there for a while) has a drive way that is more than big enough for both of their cars. They would have to park one behind the other so that wanting to remove the first car would require backing the second car out of the drive way. Is it wrong for me to be pissed off because they park one car in the street and one car in the drive way? Does it make it more of an issue that they will park one car on the street and not move it for days? As of now their one car has been in front of my house for two weeks and their drive way has been empty every day when I get home from work.", "summary": "Neighbors park their car in the street on a two way street that only allows parking on one side. Am I crotchety old man for it bugging me every day that they don't park both their cars in their drive way?"}
{"id": "t3_hjrp1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "This rollercoaster weight loss is driving me nuts!", "post": "Male, 32, 6'1\", 228.8 lbs (as of this morning)\n\nI've been going to the gym for about 8 or 9 months now, so putting on muscle weight is not new. I just recently started limiting my carbs to about 100g. Aside from that, I don't really have a diet *plan*. Instead of snacking, or when I feel moderately hungry but can't eat a meal, I have a protein shake (125 cal, 4g carbs, 24g protein). When I do eat meals, I try to make it high in protein and low in carbs. I'm also taking 200mg caffeine, twice a day. I'm also taking psyllium husk capsules (usually 4-8 a day) to help control regularity, but it's not working very well; the powder worked much better, but that stuff is hard to get down.\n\nI started watching carbs and taking caffeine around the same time. When I did that, my weight dropped from about 230 to about 225 in a week. Since then, over the last week it's been creeping back up; I weighed in at 228.8 this morning.\n\nPart of this difficulty in losing weight is likely caused by the heavy weights and compound exercises (squats, deadlifts, bench presses, etc) I started doing at the beginning of May. And while I have noticed my body has an overall better shape, I still have a belly. This is what discourages me the most. It makes me feel fat and sluggish, which in turn depresses me and makes me want to just say F*ck It, and eat a bunch of crap. That's where I am today.", "summary": "My weight goes down a bit, then drifts back up, making it very hard to stay motivated.*"}
{"id": "t3_31mf06", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blaming my fart on my nephew and causing an anti-christ scare.", "post": "So I decided to visit my parents for Easter weekend. Saturday night, I went out with my friends from highschool and drank way too much. Sunday, I had to wake up and go to Easter church service with my family. My sister brought her 6 month old son, so when I felt the beer farts a-brewin', knew who I was going to blame.\n\nI was surrounded by people, so I had unleash the fury with ease. I slowing leaned to one side and let out the longest fart of my life. But it was completely silent so I was in the clear. The woman beside me almost immediately perked up as if she had gotten a wiff of the devil himself. I told my sister that I thought the little guy had shat himself, so she grabbed his bag and started making her way down the pew. She was about half way down the pew and the little guy projectile vomited baby formula all over this old lady's lap and her bible. She let out a \"WWOOOOOOPPPP\" and dropped her bible on the floor, slamming it shut with the baby barf inside. This old hag then started screaming (while still in the middle of service) about how my nephew is the anti christ. Her husband was trying to calm her down because he clearly didn't believe that shit, he was just there insure his ticket to heaven once he kicked the bucket, but the old lady wasn't buying it and he had to take his wife out of the sanctuary to calm her down. \n\nIt looks like my parents are going to have to find a new church.", "summary": "My beer farts caused the anti-christ to appear."}
{"id": "t3_2lysit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my friend[21F] complicated not sure what to do.", "post": "Okay maybe its not that complicated, i'm not sure. I well say its very confusing. Too keep this story short and not bored you. \n\nI finally manage to talk to this girl i biggest crush with. We talked alot, we got close, nothing serious happens. (And i genuinely did like her, alot)  She broke us up cause she wasnt okay with it, We stopped talking. A year later we started to talk again, and the same thing happen. But only difference she gave me the cold shoulder and ignore me for a whole week before saying it wasnt going to happen. At this point i got a bit upset with her giving me mix signals.\n\nI spoke about this to my friend, he told me i should just forget about her. Few months later they ended up dating so. Feeling betray i stop talking to both of them all together. \n\nSo its been a few months now i moved passed it. Start to see other ppl. There was an Convention that all my friends want to go, turns out she was joinning as well. We talked (again.) this time keeping my distance, but she was throwing signals asking 'when should we make plans\". after that day she disappear No ones where she went off to.\n\nI saw her again today, due to a friend visiting our country for the first time. She told us how she hooked up with someone, i got a bit jealous for some reason. I became a bit of an ass to her. \n\nI thought i was over her but i guess i wasn't. \nBut now it seems the more times i see her, talk to her or hang out. I end up disliking her more and more. WHen ever my friends would ask me about her, i would get upset by hearing her name. I dont know why. Not sure what to do. \nAn old friend of my told me i should basically ctrl+alt+Del and end everything with her. \nMust be i'm still young and stupid, Don't know how to properly move on without erasing her from my life. i get disgust when ever i talk to her, or even see her name.", "summary": "Had a crush, she gives of mix signal. Leads to not talking, we moved on. When ever we start to talk again, it tends to go downhill in the long run (ruin friendship). I end up feeling disgust when ever i see her name. She is stilla friend to me, but everyone i know tells me to forget about her. (sorry for this not being short, i have shitty writing skills) "}
{"id": "t3_dec0n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, my wife left me for another man (men) and left me with a pile of debt and 2 kids... What can I do?", "post": "A little back story...\nWe have been married for 9 years and have 2 (wonderful) kids together.  Over the last 2 years, life became more difficult between us after throwing 2 kids into the mix.  I long suspected that she was cheating on me after our son was born 2 years ago, but one day we were on the way back from a trip to her parents place when she told me that she was leaving me and that she wanted a divorce.  Being shocked at this sudden revelation, I tried everything to get back together with her for my sanity and the kids' sake, but to not avail.  She moved in right away with another guy, so I know it must have been brewing for a while, but she left me to deal with a mortgage, tons of credit card debt accrued during her many stints without employment and shopaholic rage spending, 2 kids and all their needs thrown in and now lawyer fees.  I just got a notice that they are going to garnish my wages for a hospital bill that she got and never paid since I am the only person with a job right now. It also turns out that she was fired recently for \"lewd activity\" with one of her boyfriends while she was on the job.  Is there anything I can do?  My life is turned upside-down and as I am trying to get back on my feet for my kids, I get blindsided by her craziness and lack of responsibility.  Have any of you gone through this sort of mess?  Any tips you can give me would be greatly appreciated.  I know how amazing the reddit community is with giving advice to those in need, so, please...  How can I get my life back in order.", "summary": "My soon to be ex left me for multiple other men and left me with 2 kids, a pile of debt and collectors knocking down my door.  How do i survive?"}
{"id": "t3_gnqk9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Friend-Zoned?", "post": "I am a 16 year old high school sophomore who has liked a girl my age since I met her two years ago, but due to her being in a relationship, I haven't asked her out. She became single several months ago, and came over to my house to watch some movies and chill.\n\nI was wondering if I had been friend zoned and if I should ask her out. I noticed she sat close to me, ruffled my hair playfully and asked me for a ride home. Any suggestions?\n\nAnd there's a parade coming up this weekend, so I was thinking I'd ask her to that, and she if she wanted to get coffee before hand at a new cafe that she told me she'd like to try.", "summary": "Liked girl for awhile, she became single several months ago. She came over recently, and displayed what looked like signs of affection.What should be my next move?"}
{"id": "t3_28wkx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20F) deal with my boyfriend (20M) not talking to me while he's in Rome for the summer?", "post": "Back story, we're both extremely independent, and while we usually talk a little bit every day it's never been a necessity or a requirement since we're both such busy people. He's the one who wanted to do an LDR while he studied in Rome; I had told him that he's an exceptionally attractive man and that I was cool with him sleeping around & experiencing everything fully. He strongly opposed and was hurt by the idea that I'd ever want him to do that. \nSo onward- we agreed to try an exclusive and long distance relationship throughout the summer. However, he left for Rome about two weeks ago & I haven't heard from him since. \n\nI'd be okay with him not talking to me while traveling, but he had made it sound like we'd still be talking/Skyping, and he even made me download an app so we could text, so I had expected to be talking to him more than I am. I do I want him to do his own thing, and I understand if that requires less/ no communication, but I know it takes two seconds to send a text & I just can't help but to be a little sad about it overall because he had made it sound like it was going to be different than what it's been like, and I'm just somewhat confused. I understand it's still very early in the trip, and maybe he's adjusting, so I really am trying to not be too bothered by it, but he's been on facebook and email & hasn't bothered to communicate in any small way.\n\nCan anyone offer insights or advice on how to deal with it? Thank you!", "summary": "Boyfriend made it sound like we'd be talking more while he studied abroad-haven't heard from him since."}
{"id": "t3_3f131x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [25] I'm [24M] seeing is into really hard drugs and partying and sees me as boring because I'm not.", "post": "So this girl I've been meeting with for the past month or so is great, really into her. However she is a seriously hard partier, hard drug fuelled raves and what not 3 or 4 nights of the week and whilst this doesn't bother me so much, she says I'm really boring for turning down her offers to these events. Her saying this recently has really started to bother me. I want to be exciting and be involved with this part of her life but truth be told I don't really have the balls to try taking the heavy stuff she does and I think me going to these events tagging along with her group sipping a beer isn't really going to help the 'boring' image of me in her head.\n\nAdvice on how to approach handling this situation reddit? Her words of describing me as very normal and a bit boring have hurt me a little worst as it's had time to distil in my mind. Am I boring because I don't like snort cocaine nightly?", "summary": "Advice on my situation please; girl I'm seeing thinks I'm boring because I don't like hard drugs and partying like she does"}
{"id": "t3_j9azg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there ways to steal cars without hot wiring them or stealing the key?", "post": "So, I'm kind of an idiot.  A couple days ago, as I arrived at work, I parked my car in an area I don't usually go.  I then proceeded to have a particularly stressful day, and when I tried to leave for lunch, I completely forgot that I had parked somewhere out of the ordinary.  When I didn't see it in the usual places, I got nervous and came to the conclusion that my car had been stolen.  I told a couple of people, and soon the news spread around the office.  By the end of the day, pretty much everyone new, and a bunch of people offered me condolences.  Well, it wasn't until this morning that I realized how stupid I had been.  I got to work before everyone else, found my car, and drove home.  \n\nNow that I have it, I really don't want to admit to everyone that my car had just been sitting in the parking lot all along.  It would just be really fucking embarrassing.  If possible, I'd like to tell people that the cops found my car abandoned somewhere, relatively undamaged.  The thing is though, I'm worried about my coworkers poking holes in my story.  There are a couple of people I'm close to, who I'm sure would want to take a look.  I'm wondering if the car should look as though it's been hotwired.  I'd really rather not screw around with the wiring, but I'm worried it won't be believable if I don't.  Is there any other way that someone could have stolen it?  If it was stolen, would the wiring be relatively easy to fix?  Could I say that after I picked it up, I quickly got it taken care of by a mechanic?  If so, how much should I say it cost?  Is there anything else I'm missing?", "summary": "I'm pretending that my car was stolen to avoid embarrassment, and need advice about wiring."}
{"id": "t3_31yt9v", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "It's so hard to get a rescue.", "post": "I have spent nearly 4 weeks scouring petfinder and adoptapet website for a great dog that I like and would suit house and home life. \n\nThey have either already \n\n* been adopted, \n* not suitable because I'm not an experienced handler (they didn't actually say he was abused till I inquired about him) or \n* told I can't have it because I live in an apartment (850sq ft) or \n* I work 8 hrs/day and can't care for a dog appropriately.\n\nI have filled out 14 different applications because my summarized bullet form explaining my intentions and ability to provide is not their application only to be told that the dogs I inquire after are not suitable for me. I've met two dogs with the serious intention to foster to adopt only to have families that have yards meet them after and get them instead.\n\nI understand that the rescues have the dogs best intentions at heart. I don't want to import an rescue when there are dogs needing rescue here... I get that a yard is always going to be better than without one but does that mean I can't get a dog till \n\n* I'm rich enough to buy a house (I live in friggen Vancouver, I need $700K to get a doozy of a house) and then \n* retire so I have time but no energy to walk the dog every hour? \n\nI have absolutely no plans of quitting my job any time soon. How does anybody else do it?!!?!?!", "summary": "I spent a lot of time and effort filling out many forms for many rescue dogs and not getting anywhere despite they say I'm a decent candidate. I'm pissed off and really really frustrated.***"}
{"id": "t3_1cxpzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29/f want to end the relationship and move out, but feel bad because of a very expensive lease", "post": "I've tried absolutely everything to fix my nearly 4 year relationship. I put myself into it entirely, but almost a year ago I realized it wasn't salvageable (at the core, we want different things). It completely broke my heart.\n\nNow...I told my SO about a month ago that I'm not happy and haven't been for a long time. I didn't make any ultimatums, but I explained what was wrong and possible solutions. Nothing changed. As usual ambivalence prevailed. We aren't intimate in any way anymore and essentially live as roommates (but my SO still sees us as bf/gf and I haven't said anything \"officially\"). \n\nWhere it becomes troubling: I was happy to ride this out until the (very) expensive lease on our apartment, then  break the bad news (about 6 months away.) Then, I meet a person I'm very interested in. I explained the situation, and they understood. But, now what? I refuse to date someone behind my SOs back just because they're apathetic and unresponsive in the relationship. Also, I can't just say \"hey have fun making rent.\"\n\nSo now, I'm in a relationship I haven't been emotionally involved in for months. Met someone, but would feel too bad to just leave with all the bills.\n\nI have no idea what to do.", "summary": "have been ready to leave a relationship for months, but wanted to wait it out for the sake of keeping financials easier. Met someone else, not sure what now."}
{"id": "t3_zmqlf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] inexperienced dating with (18/f) - I think the relationship is disintegrating.", "post": "I apologize for the sloppy writing and rambling story, I'm a terrible writer when talking about myself but I really need some better advice than my friend are giving me (\"dump her and pick some chick up at a party\").\nSo I met this girl three weeks ago and we were hanging out for probably at least six hours a day for about a week and I asked her on a date and we have been on several dates since then. I think we get along very well and our interests and personalities align very closely. I haven't seen her for three days and have no definite plans to see her until next Sunday. Whenever I ask if she wants to meet for a bit or do something that we usually do together (gym, study, etc.) she has been telling me she is busy. I'm not sure if she is legitimately busy and if I'm just overreacting, or she's trying to distance herself from me. A few days ago I told her I was getting mixed signals and asked her if she wanted to date or not, and she told me she did. When I text her it usually takes a really long time for her to respond (5 or 6 hours), but she told me she was going to be really busy and probably unable to do stuff with me for a while. I feel like she might be trying to distance herself from me, but since she is unable to meet I can't get a read on her feelings. Should I ask if the plans for next weekend are still on, or how can I be more subtle about trying to figure out if she's still interested? I have very limited dating experience and this is the most serious relationship (even though it's only been like 4 dates) I've ever been in.", "summary": "I'm wrote a really shitty recap of my relationship that is probably incomprehensible to anyone but me. If somehow anyone can make sense of it please give me some advice."}
{"id": "t3_2ss8at", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Can I get sued?", "post": "This is not for me, but a friend of mine.  This person is in a situation where he signed a lease to pay a certain amount of money every month along with 4 other people.  In a sort of meltdown situation, 2 of the people have moved out, and my friend is not coming back this semester.  He has found a person to pay his monthly rent, however the other 2 people who have moved out have not.  The other 2 people are forcing him to pay a share of the rent they owe, even though he has found someone to fill the spot.  Further on, speaking with the landlord, it was made clear that if he did not receive his money, that he would sue everybody.  If my friend has filled his room, can he be sued?  Right now his used to be friends are hard handing him into paying a share he cant afford and doesn't technically owe.", "summary": "if my friend has found a tenant to replace him in his lease, can the landlord sue my friend?"}
{"id": "t3_48sgkj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Felt emasculated by my GF [25 F] in front of her ex. Am I [25 M] overanalyzing?", "post": "Some background: My girlfriend of a year has been friends with one my male friends for a long time. They have had sex at least once, so I my mind he's her \"ex\". He has a girlfriend now and the four of us are all friends with eachother.\n\nWe were going on a day trip in my car and my gf was driving. She was unsure whether whe were on the right road and asked me repeatedly if we were. I said yes each time (which we were). This is a highway mind you, not some small country road.\n\nEventually she asks if I could check the GPS on my phone to make absolutely sure, which I did. Sure enough, we're on the right road which I tell her. She's somehow still not convinced and apparantely doubting me even after I checked the GPS.\n\nBy now the other couple in the backseat start to wonder what's going on. My GF then announces to the entire car \"well, *HumfI* here says he knows where we're going but I'm not sure. Is this the right road?\". As soon as her ex agrees with me she calms down.\n\nI'm like what the fuck? Not only won't my girlfriend take my word that we're on track *even after I checked the GPS*, but she tells her ex that she doesn't think I know what I'm talking about. I seriously felt like getting out of the car right then and there, but I didn't say anything.\n\nI know male pride is fickle and all that, and you could say I should just suck it up or whatever. But I just can't get over how absurd it was.", "summary": "Am I overanalyzing this? How would you have reacted?"}
{"id": "t3_49755o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] and my friends are having a really hard time meeting girls in Boston", "post": "As someone who went to school in a different state and works in the Boston tech industry, I'm having an unusually hard time meeting girls. I'm not the only one, several of my friends are interesting, nice, people with good jobs but haven't been able to meet someone. It seems like these are people that women would want to date. \n\nIt's hard to meet women in my social circle since I work with 97% males. When I talk to girls at the bar, they never call back to meet up for coffee. Nevermind that the ratio of guys to girls at a bar tends to be heavily skewed towards guys. If I go to a cafe, it feels like most women aren't there to meet guys and I don't want to be creepy/rude. I've tried doing a sports league for singles. Tinder has an in person first date percentage way below one; even though you can get quite a few matches. \n\nThe only girl I've met since being single was a reintroduction to a friend from highschool. We dated for like a month but it wasn't a great fit. That's okay. I'm asking reddit because I've been single before but it's never been this hard to meet new women. It makes me wonder if Boston has brought in people from out of state who are predominately men. It's to the point that I'm wondering if the reason I'm having trouble meeting women is just straight up demographics in Boston. The situation just strikes me as odd. How can I go about meeting good girls in Boston?", "summary": "As someone who went to school out of state, I'm having a remarkably hard time meeting a good girl in Boston. It makes me wonder if the employment demographics are heavily skewed towards men. Why do you think it's been hard to meet someone and how would you suggest doing it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ynhub", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "my reputation at my job is based off others work and i can't f*cking take it anymore!! ahhh!!!!", "post": "to keep this short.\n\ni work in the news and i am the middle man between the union technicians and the producers.  so i kind of manage the union workers, but i do have other things to do so i can;t babysit them, plus they are adults, most of them are in their 50's  i should be able to trust them to do their job, right?  right?  guess not.  most, not all, are SO FUCKING LAZY and are so good at telling my why they can't do their job.  \n\nso anytime they mess up, it is my fault, anytime they are slow, it is my fault, anytime anything bad happens, it is my fault and i am just so mad that i am judged based of their work.  if i could do the work myself i would, but i am not allowed to touch anything.  \n\ni just get so mad that my career here will partly be based on others work, and others work i can't do anything about.  i can't even try and help.    \n\nthe other day one of them messed up and i was confronted.  i was blamed by someone outside of our department. which was upsetting because it was in no way my fault; it was a union guys fault. just to get out of confrontation, my boss, knowing full well that is was NOT my fault, emails this senior producer saying it WAS my fault and that she would look into it.  she then told me not to worry because she knows it was not my fault she just said that because that is what the producer would want to hear.\n\nseriously?!?!? fuck you!!!! this is MY career you are toying with.  to what? make your life easier? thanks, much appreciated.  \n\nphew. thank you for reading.", "summary": "fuck lazy ass union workers. my reputation at work is based off your lack of work ethic."}
{"id": "t3_34r4ne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be out of line for me[33F] to mention Mothers Day to my friends[38F] husband[42M]?", "post": "A married couple I've been friends with for more than a decade had a baby last year, two months before Mothers Day. The wife, Erin, was really upset that her husband didn't do anything to celebrate it. It wasn't a huge deal, but it mattered enough that she vented to me about it a few times.\n\nThe thing is, her husband Mark is generally awful with holidays and special occasions. He doesn't really see the point in most of them and participates as little as possible. He's not a very materialistic person and I think he kind of morally objects to how commercialized it all gets.\n\nBut it would mean so much to Erin if they just went to the park for a couple hours as a family for Mothers Day. Or something else simple... She's not materialistic either, I know she'd be ecstatic to spend time together doing something free. And I'd like to mention that to her husband.\n\nI generally try to avoid interfering in friends relationships at all. The way they interact is up to them, I'm just the friend who listens if they need to vent about something. This is going to be an ongoing issue, though. She had the baby, she's stuck being a mother for the rest of her life. I guess I don't want to be stuck listening to her bitch about mothers day for the rest of mine.", "summary": "Friends husband doesn't do well with holidays. Should I mention how much it would mean to his wife if he made a small effort?"}
{"id": "t3_4zh5mb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] want to try and talk to a close friend of mine [18F] and create a romantic relationship. BUT, she's busy with school things and every time we hang out, there ends up being extra people.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships! There's not a lot to the situation other than the title. I've been really good friends with this girl for years, and she's been there with me for a lot of tough struggles. I really like her a lot, and although she's kind of out of my league, she obviously likes me enough to be her friend. She's recently single, and I want to try and see how things would go in a romantic relationship. I don't know if I'm really ready for that, but I'm pretty sure it's what I want.\n\nThe biggest issue I have is time. She got onto the drumline for our university this year, and while I'm so happy for her, it's also a bummer, because she has a crazy schedule, and I haven't had nearly as much communication with her as I'm used too. Every time I want to hang out, she wants to bring someone from band. It's come up in casual conversation (with others there) that she's still single and doesn't want to date guys on the line, but I'm just worried that someone better than me is going to come along before I get a chance to talk to her. I don't really think I want to try and have this sort of conversation drunk.\n\nI don't know what to do or what to say. I've never really been good with girls, and I have pitiful relationship experience. I just want this to work so badly.", "summary": "I have a huge crush on my friend and want to ask her out, but she's a busy music major; I feel like I'm going to miss my chance or something, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ufuv6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by disregarding my father.", "post": "Today I realized I fucked up by disregarding my father.\n\n**backstory** : \n\n   First, I was born in South Korea and during my childhood ( birth - 2nd grade), my father constantly flied back and forth to U.S.A and Korea. I don't have any memories of any bonding time with him due to that reason. \n\n   We later decided to move into USA for better living conditions. My father would mostly be at work and I would only see him for about 10-15 minutes a day. Because I wasn't fluent in english,  I didn't make as many friends in school and at home, I usually played game on the computer. It went to the point that I became completely reliant on the computer for entertainment and became addicted to games. Due to those factors, I became a stereotypical asian who spends his whole day on a computer.\n\n   Fast foward to 2/1/2015, my father recently lost his job but found a job in a different state( 1-2 hours from where i currently live). He cannot commute frequently so he will live in that state. Realizing that this meant I would see him 1-2 times a month (if I'm lucky), I felt remorseful about the times I didn't spend with him that I spent on games. \n\n  I learned what it meant when other people say you should value your friends/family more until you realize they are gone. I know he is not completely gone from me in any sort of way but, it is heartbreaking to face the fact that 16 years and 9 months of my life have been unresponsively spent when I could have hung out with my dad more often.", "summary": "Played too much video games, didn't spend time with my dad. Dad is off to another state to work. I am remorseful about not spending time with him"}
{"id": "t3_14v6xk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/F] My boyfriend (23) is not allowed to sleepover at my house.", "post": "My boyfriend still lives with his parents and intends to move out only in two years. I am totally fine with this and in fact encourage it because it gives him the chance to save money and get on his feet after graduation. My issue is this: his parents will not let him sleep at my house under any circumstance. There is no explanation given besides the fact that he must abide by their rules while under their roof. He is extremely responsible and is always helping them around the house so you would think they'd let him take the night off every so often. At this age I feel that this is an uncommon rule to have for your 23 year old son. Anyways, without rambling on I was just hoping to gain some insight and/or perspective. My parents are not like this at all and I just don't understand.", "summary": "My boyfriend's parents will not let him sleep over without explanation."}
{"id": "t3_40akse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) gave my current roommate (22F) 2 months to move out and she hasn't even started looking for a new place", "post": "About a week ago, I told my roommate that she had to find a new place. I've been wanting to kick her out for over 5 months but I didn't have the support of my other roommates, so she refused to move. Now i have all of their support. We talked to her over group text because we were all out of town. She claimed that she never does anything wrong. We listed everything she did and she denied everything. She has a cat and never cleans it. I share a room with her and all i can smell in there is cat shit. The other roommates claim they can smell it in the hallway as well. She doesn't want my boyfriend in our room because she doesn't feel comfortable around him, yet she'll bring different guys in there even though I feel uncomfortable. She didn't tell the other roommates she was having a party and she was going to let her dad spend the night while we were gone for Christmas so he could care for her cat. She also laughs and yells at the top of her lungs in the middle of the night while every one is sleeping. I asked for a clean, consideration, and quiet roommate and she isn't any of that. She is so oblivious. She really believes she is perfect. During the group text she blamed me for all the mess and claimed that we were all attacking her for no reason. We never signed her on to the lease.  I want her out in a month but she keeps trying to buy more time. I can't handle the smell of cat shit anymore. It gives me a headache and I'm not comfortable in my own room anymore. I stopped being nice but she doesn't take me seriously. I don't know how to handle her anymore.", "summary": "I told my roommate that she needed to find a new place to live by mid February but she doesn't take me seriously."}
{"id": "t3_vf8v9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I'd like to study abroad this fall but I haven't received a physical green card yet, is there any way I can still leave the country?", "post": "Last year, I took the risk of applying for a study abroad program knowing that my green card applications hadn't even been processed yet. If it didn't get processed in time, I would be in an awkward housing situation, I wouldn't get the most sought-for classes, and my financial aid situation would be ambiguous, but I wanted to study abroad so badly that I went ahead anyways.\n\nMy study abroad application was accepted and in April, my green card application was approved. I received my work authorization and did the fingerprinting but I haven't yet received my physical card. I was so confident that I'd receive it by August and that I'd be able to study abroad; I told my friends that I'd be abroad for sure.\n\nHowever, my parents' attorney just informed us that the quota for green cards might have been met and that I might not receive the card until October, well past the beginning of fall semester. It pains me to think I might not go. This trip meant a lot to me and since I'm pretty poor, I probably won't have another opportunity like this ever again. Is there any way for me to appeal the quota or to have a special exception to leave the country (and come back)?\n\nI've considered writing the president and my representative/senator, but I'm not too hopeful about either, the earlier because I know he receives a shitload of mail and the latter because I'm not a citizen.", "summary": "My green card has been approved but I haven't received the physical card. I might not receive it in time because of the quota, is there another way for me to study abroad (I.e. leave the country and come back)?"}
{"id": "t3_mup9d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can using \"Ipod locational service\" be valid proof of catching someone who stole your ipod?", "post": "So my gf just recently got her Ipod touch stolen from her bag at school. She wasn't happy about it obviously, but she took it maturely and she went on the itunes thing with the locational services thing. She changed the passcode lock  and she found out the location of the person when they used the wifi, and noticed they changed the name of the ipod. My question is, can this information be used as evidence, that the person who lives there possibly stole it? I mean i'm pretty sure you can't just track random ipods...... that would be a bit creepy haha", "summary": "girlfriend got her ipod stolen used locational services to find where her ipod is and currently has the address of the person. Wondering if this information is considered \"valid\" evidence."}
{"id": "t3_2ofjbd", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Explain hair sticks to me. More importantly give me advice if I need to re-create my anniversary gift, last minute style.", "post": "So, about 4 months into dating my S/O we were going out for some semi-fancy event. For this event my S/O wore this awesome 'Chinese' dress and put her hair up with hair sticks; on her first attempt to put up her hair, the stick snapped (it was a nicer looking chopstick). To date she has always worn her hair up when she dresses up.\n\nQueue me buying her, among several other things, a total of 7 new hand crafted ebony hair sticks for our anniversary. I assumed the hair stick snapped because it was a chop-stick, and thus a poor hair-stick. However today as we're wandering through a store when we see hair sticks and she states \"Oh I need more of these! But I usually need the longer ones. My hair is so thick it snaps them\". I tried to keep a neutral face but my mind started racing!\n\nI wouldn't call her hair thick, but there is a lot of it with a natural loose curl, and she keeps it at mid-upperarm length. Natural redhead. [Here is a picture of her hair](\n\nSo... Do I need to go out an try and find some longer hair sticks in the last minute, or will the superior quality(I hope it is superior) of the custom made hair sticks get the job done? Is it really more dependent on the way she styles her bun? Other advice?", "summary": "Bought S/O Hair sticks as a anniversary/Xmas gift. Today casually mentions she usually needs longer ones then the ones I bought. Do I need to scramble and go get new ones?"}
{"id": "t3_487k29", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating foreign chocolate", "post": "This several years ago when I was in high school, but the topic came up today so I figured I'd post it.\n\nI really like German chocolate. A grocery story near my house used to have a really nice selection of German chocolates and I used to enjoy picking some up whenever we went shopping.\n\nOne particular time I decided to try something new. I was attracted to the bar due to it's large size. It read \"Marzipan\" along the packaging. Having no clue what it was I figured I'd give it a shot. I poured a glass of milk, opened up the chocolate and took as large of a bite as I could. My mouth was over-run with sweet, so much so that it tasted very bitter. I ran for the trash can to spit it out, and felt a little sick after. The next day it was explained to me by my German teacher that you're only supposed to eat very small bites of marzipan at a time, not half of the bar. I took a short break from German chocolate after that, but when I went to buy some again the store had stopped carrying foreign chocolates.", "summary": "I bought some chocolate with marzipan in it not knowing what it was. I ate more than you're supposed to so it was very bitter and I almost got sick. Store stopped selling German chocolate shortly after."}
{"id": "t3_4z8p6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 F] boyfriend [27 M] of 3 years said he's not attracted to me anymore and I need to lose some weight", "post": "I moved in with my boyfriend the beginning of the month. Being in the same apartment together, I thought our sex life would sky rocket and it would be a daily thing, but he never initiated and whenever I did, he would put me off. I asked him about it, and he told me he was not as sexually attracted to me anymore because I've put on some weight. \n\nI'll admit, I argued a lot after that, and he ended up leaving the apartment to sleep at his friend's. Last night was horrible because it was honestly the first fight we have ever had. Truth be told, I have gained a little bit of weight after college, and he has maintained his shape since I've met him. Maybe he thinks he's too good for me now? \n\nHow should I approach this? It's not like I'm at an unhealthy weight... I'm 5'8\", and when we started dating I was 135lbs, and now I am close to 162lbs. I'm still in the normal BMI range even though I've lost some muscle and put on some fat. Could it be he's comparing me to some of the leaner women at his work...?", "summary": "Boyfriend isn't having sex with me because he says he is not sexually attracted to me anymore. He insinuated it is because I have gained weight... not sure if I should suck it up and lose the weight or tell him I am the way I am and if he isn't happy, he can leave."}
{"id": "t3_vjmkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "deciding when it's time to marry...(throwaway here)", "post": "So my partner of over two years (M/25) and I(F/22) have been discussing marriage lately after he brought it up two different times. No official proposal yet, just talking about how we both feel about the concept of marriage, what we would expect and desire out of it, and when we'd like it to happen. We've really been talking about these things for a long time now, including our thoughts on children, work, and general life trajectory. We've been living together for most of our relationship, too (moved in together after a couple months of dating). We also have made two major cross-country moves together because of school, share bills, a car, etc. In many ways we are already living a \"married\" life now.\n\nI am very confident he is the right person for me and I know he feels the same. My question is, are there things we should discuss before agreeing to marry? I know this is a huge life decision and I don't want to rush into this without thinking clearly first. But I'm not going to lie, I am so giddy with excitement just thinking about him and getting to spend the rest of my life with him! (obligitory yay me!)", "summary": "Partner and I are discussing marriage and I'd love advice on thinking about the decision and things the two of us should discuss."}
{"id": "t3_3ybf6z", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Dealing with a Drama queen. What do I do?", "post": "I would just like to understand what to do from a womens perspective.Men can be drama kings too but its just my current problem at hand. I deal with this girl in and out and she is a bit crazy sometimes. Its kinda like things people who have HPD would do or almost every symptom. I am not a doctor, but its very much like her and hpd symptoms. I also understand all or a good amount of people struggle with things everyday (I do too) so I get to not be so hard or judge. \nOverall, she is nice for who she is and brightens my day, but the drama queen, hpd type behavior gets to me alot. i feel like its my fault when tons of times she has been manipulative and shown feelings that were not true in order to get me to feel bad.", "summary": "How would you suggest to deal with a drama queen?"}
{"id": "t3_3962bz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 9 months, we love each other but there's an ocean in the middle (literally)", "post": "I met this girl, she's American and we've been dating for 9 months while she was studying abroad in my country (Italy). \n\nIt started as a fling, we called each other \"friends with movies\" (since we always wanted to see movies and ended up not doing that) and everything was fine. \n\nIt started getting more serious month by month and I started developing feelings for her that were more than simple physical attraction. I didn't do anything about it though because I was afraid (I've been betrayed and I have trust issues now). \n\nAt the beginning of June she went back to the States and since I've never been there I decided to follow her for a vacation. \n\nOne night we ended up talking and she said she loves me. I decided to grow some balls and I said that I love her back. We're super happy but in a week I'll be back in Italy and she will be a ocean across. \n\nI never tried a long distance relationship and I'm kind of scared by it, but I want to try it nevertheless. \n\nI'm also planning to get a master's degree in Canada next year, so we'll be less distant than now (but I don't know if I'll be able to afford it). \n\nWhat I'm sure about is that I don't want to live in Italy (there's nothing holding me back on this side) and moving to the States would actually be amazing. \n\nSo what I wanna know is: have anyone here had a really long distance relationship? How did it work out?", "summary": "can long distance work? Am I being too optimistic?"}
{"id": "t3_3ehtlt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "A little advice for when cashing U.S Savings bonds", "post": "Hello /r/personalfinance!\n\nI just wanted to write a short post to help out some people who might be in a similar situation. This subreddit has helped me a ton, and I wanted to return the favor in a small way. \n\nToday I just went to the bank to cash in some bonds that my grandparents had given to me many years prior. Previous to cashing them, I was able to look up the value of the bonds by using the U.S Treasury Direct website ( When I got my final total from the teller at the bank, it was significantly lower then the value the previously mentioned website had quoted me. \n\nAfter looking over my summary of bonds cashed in, I realized that she had not notice the two $100 face value bonds in the sea of 24 $50 face value bonds. I was able to go back to the teller, and she adjusted the amount she gave me. This ended up being an addition $124! \n\nNow I know this isnt a huge tip, and $124 is a ton in the grand scheme of things, but I am very happy I prepared by using the link above, and I hope someone else can benefit from the bond calculator as well.", "summary": "Prepared for cashing bonds by visiting US Treasury direct website, saved $124"}
{"id": "t3_15aiy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Facebook interactions between me [20m] and [19f]", "post": "I have been really close friends with this girl for about 4 months and we have sort of a pseudo-relationship going now and at this point I subtly try to flirt with her and she usually enjoys it however the other day I posted something on her wall that i'm assuming she didnt want to be seen by everybody and so she deleted it and I feel really bad so I want to apologize but I feel like it would be weird to bring it up to her because it would reveal that I had been on her page like three days in a row and that might sound a little creeperly... How should I go about bringing it up with her without making it seem like I facebook stalk her daily... oh and another thing we're now long distance from each other", "summary": "Posted somthing dumb on an potential SOs fb wall and she deleted it and dont know how to bring it up with her to apologize"}
{"id": "t3_305ky2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [24 M] of a year, we decided to take time off. Has anyone in an LDR done this before?", "post": "Hello, I was in a relationship with my BF for a year before he had to move out of the country (same time zone). We've been in an LDR for about two months now, and it was at first strained, then vicious and finally almost toxic. \n\nSo I think taking a two-week break is a good thing for us. I need time to be myself again, let the negative feelings/memories fade away a bit, and take another shot at making the relationship work.\n\nBut I'm afraid. I still care for him and I believe he cares for me, and we decided to have this break so we don't destroy what we have with each other. But it being an LDR, I feel it's so much easier to just drift away from each other. \n\nI'm know if it's meant to be it'll work out and if it isn't it won't. However, any advice from those who been there would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "BF and I are in a LDR and we decided to have two weeks off (no-contact for two weeks) because we were fighting too much, too often. Did we doom ourselves to a breakup? Any advice from those who've been here?"}
{"id": "t3_1kbrak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am about to enter my first relationship with a [16F] who cuts herself. Advice needed", "post": "**Conclusion", "summary": "Known cutter girl and I start talking this spring, she breaks up with boyfriend of two years so I can step up. Today I saw fresh cuts, I am spooked"}
{"id": "t3_3k4kfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my girlfriend [25 F] of a year, not sure how to handle situation regarding her old crush?", "post": "We have been together for about a year. She has always been in touch with an old crush of a few years of hers, whom she no longer has romantic feelings for, and whom was diagnosed with depression from a previous relationship gone wrong. When we got together, said old crush/friend was not informed. It was acceptable to me since the reason given by my girlfriend was that it was presumptous to bring up her relationship status out of the blue (a few of her closest friends do know about me). \n\nNow I've always suspected her old crush has feelings for her. They do meet up 1 on 1 about once every 2 months, mostly till late night. They text about thrice a week, and this girl gives presents and also sends \"cutesy\" pictures of herself to my girlfriend. This has caused some strain on our relationship but nothing severe, and my girlfriend has always assured me she no longer has feelings for this girl. However, she has said she will try to tell her old crush about our relationship, but nothing has materialised as of yet. \n\nNow a couple of days ago this girl confessed her feelings to my girlfriend after a meetup. She was rejected, but that night still sent a picture of herself to my girlfriend, and continued texting until 2-3 am. I have urged my girlfriend to break the news to this girl that she is attached, but my girlfriend says that this is going to severely upset the girl, especially given her depression. They are still texting, and may possibly meet up in the future. I have tried not to let all this affect me, but the discomfort and insecurity is slowly eating me from within. Girlfriend is absolutely great otherwise; I may be turning into a paranoid bitch. I'm not requesting they terminate their friendship, but it makes me feel awful especially to see the other girl's (borderline flirtatious?) texts, who doesn't even have a clue about me.", "summary": "girlfriend's old crush confessed her feelings, has no idea she's already attached and may not know for long. Should I just suck it up and go with it?"}
{"id": "t3_4njg5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [38 M] 62&56 yr old in-laws have moved in against my wishes.", "post": "My always broke in-laws have moved into my wife's and my house 2 months ago due to my MIL recovering from a recent sever illness.  Previously they lived with their other daughter and son-in-law but couldn't go back because of my MIL has issues with using the stairs.\nNow it seems as though their long term plan is to just exist here.\n\nWe have 3 kids, 7-5&2 a decent sized house and we make excellent money but this is getting ridiculous.  Our monthly expenses have increased nearly $900. My FIL works (doesn't make much) all his money goes to car payments and CC payments and other debts, comes home from work eats, goes to bed, gets up to eat again, back to bed, gets up to eat more.... This goes on all night.  Doing laundry is their hobby, at least one load a day, I'm not sure how they manage to dirty so many clothes.  \n\nWhile my wife and I are at work during the day we have a full time sitter come over to watch the kids.  Her job isn't to clean up after adults but my MIL seems to always have family coming over to visit.  Each visitor for some reason needs to be eat, I'm lucky if there's any clean dishes by the time I get home. According to the sitter she's up and active when I'm not around but when I am I rarely see her out of bed.   \n\nMy wife was raised to respect elders and to care for them as they get older, I'm fine with that but this is over the top.  My home live sucks, I'd rather be at work or anywhere other than home, I'm beginning to detest my in-laws and I've had a pretty shitty attitude towards them the past few weeks.\n\nThey have no plan on leaving even though it's obvious I'd rather them not be here.  My wife knows how I feel but to her it would be a sin worse than murder to ask them to leave.\n\nI'm sure I can't be the only person that has had to deal with this, what words of wisdom do you have?", "summary": "In-laws moved in, how do I get rid of them?"}
{"id": "t3_2c943s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] My friend/crush [17F] of about a year invited me to hang out today and I have no idea what I'm doing. Help?", "post": "My friend, let's call her Jessie, is really cool. She's funny, creative, super cute, (I mean like, damn. Most beautiful girl I've ever met) and we are super comfortable around each other. \n\nI've known Jessie about a year, since we sat next to each other in art class first semester of this past school year. We never really hung out outside of school, (Not from lack of trying. Plans always fall through) and today we ate doing that for the first time.\n\nIt was about three months ago when I started getting nervous around her, freaking out making sure I looked good and smelled better than usual. I think I realized I'm totally crushing on her. Jessie has told me she likes another guy, and I don't want to get in the way of that, so I've tried to relax those feelings and get over them. I'm scared though. I don't think anything is going to happen, as much as I'd like it to, but I still want some advice on how I should act. Should I be super casual and laid back? Should I make a move? I've never even been in a relationship before I have no idea what I'm doing.", "summary": "My crush and I are hanging out. How should I act?"}
{"id": "t3_4kyhr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33M] think my girlfriend [33M] of 2 months may be a bit controlling/codependent.", "post": "Hello,  \n\nI've been dating this girl whom I've really enjoyed spending time with. We were supposed to hang out on Sunday and I wasn't feeling good so took a nap. When I was napping, she left a message and I called her right when I woke up and said sorry for missing her call and asked if she would still like to hang out (there was still plenty of time).  \n\nShe told me she didn't want to hang out and that she was mad. She said she feels like I just get to her whenever I want. I assured her that wasn't the case, and again, offered to make it up to her.  \n\nI didn't engage in an argument because that isn't my style, and I just listened. I told her that if she changes her mind and wants to spend time together to let me know. Well, I haven't heard from her or seen her in 3 days.  \n\nAnd this is one example. She recently wanted me to change what her name said on my phone. I find that I'm apologizing a lot for things which are just part of being me. She seems to want to \"correct\" a lot of my behavior. I buy her flowers, give her cupcakes and take her out to dinner. I listen to her when she's having a bad day and try to make her day brighter. I speak kindly to her, make her laugh, give her orgasms, etc. etc. I feel like I'm doing the best I can.  \n\nSo right now I'm having a hard time calling her because I feel like she is just doing this to get my attention, which isn't really fair, or mature. I have responsibilities in my life to tend to and I don't think I should have to play cat and mouse.  \n\nAny thoughts? What would you do?", "summary": "Haven't seen/heard from girlfriend in 3 days. Sometimes I feel like she wants to change me/call the shots.  "}
{"id": "t3_1dsnv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I tell my mother that me[19] and my wife[21] are now married?", "post": "Me and my wife got married recently but I'm not sure how to let my mother or even the rest of my family know. They all hate her and wish she would get out of my life. Honestly she's a really great girl they just feel she isn't good enough for me. But I want them to actually put some effort into getting to really know her and really spend time with her and accept her into the family. What should I do?\n\nI should also go on to say I don't live at home, I'm a Marine. I have more than stable income, an apartment and two cars that are totally paid off. I'm responsible and level headed. Not some foolish 19 year old dumbass. While some may think it was stupid t get married so young. I don't feel that way, I love this woman she's amazing and really the greatest part of my life.", "summary": "How do I tell my family I'm married?"}
{"id": "t3_35ndul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my husband [31M], 8 years together. Just found out he texted a friend for sex on his stag do.", "post": "Recently my husband and I are having a rough patch. He's confessed to having feelings for a girl at work, he insists nothing has happened but is very secretive about his phone. He's been down and withdrawn for ~6months. So we've been trying to work on the relationship.\n\nTonight I told a very close friend of mine about what has been going on, she's usually a good sounding board for me. She confessed that the night before his stag do (3 yrs ago), he texted her sister basically asking for sex. Now I suspected he liked my friends sister but Husband always denied it. Sister said No and don't be so stupid. My friend agonised over whether to tell me, but didn't as it could be put down to a stupid drunk mistake, and no harm done.\n\nNow I'm left wondering what is on his phone that he's so secretive about. Suddenly finding this out I'm very hurt, but given that it could be a drunken mistake I wonder if I'm making more of this than I should. I've gone from \"we can patch this up\" to \"why the hell did I marry him\" which is extreme for a drunken text. We chatted on the phone tonight (he's away with work), but I felt very little for him any more.  Somehow a huge chunk of trust has gone.\n\nWhat would anyone suggest? Give him chance to fess up? Challenge him that I now know? I don't want to throw my marriage away over a text but I can feel it slipping through my fingers...", "summary": "Drunken text asking for sex. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_366ck8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] am suspicious of my girlfriends [F21] snapchat.", "post": "So I recently downloaded snapchat, I never really have used it before but wanted to give it a try. I know my girlfriend used to use it a year or so ago but claimed to delete it, because she said it was useless.\n\nOnce I created an account I went to the add contacts feature and saw that my girlfriend did in fact have one, so I added her. We sent a few snaps and that was it.\n\nThe next day she deletes her account and her reason is she never really uses it. For some reason this made me feel sort of suspicious. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Gf said she doesn't have snapchat, I create an account and see that she does, add her, she deletes her account."}
{"id": "t3_22axmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (25f) being unreasonable with my bf (36m)?", "post": "So, my boyfriend has quite the porn collection, which I don't have a problem with. Guys look at porn, whatever. What I do have a problem with is, he frequently saves pictures of random girls he finds on the internet, usually very busty blondes. I'm pretty small in the boob department, and brunette. We had a discussion on why it hurts my feelings that he finds and keeps these pictures, and we (I thought) agreed that this isn't porn, and therefor not ok. \n\nWell, recently he's been having a hard time... Having a hard time, ya know what I mean. But we've been working on it, and things have been getting better. So, today he was showing me some picture on his phone and I noticed that once again, there are pictures of girls that are what we agreed upon wasn't porn. He tells me that these fall into the fantasy category, so it's ok. I feel like this is some loophole BS. I'm mad because I feel like he agreed to something and isn't going through with it, and he thinks it's ok because of his loophole.....\n\nAm I being unreasonable about this?", "summary": "we agreed on what is and isn't porn, he finds a loophole"}
{"id": "t3_3y6nrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29M] relatives leave my wife [27F] out of their Christmas giving, but her relatives are so generous to me.", "post": "So my wife and I are having a great holiday - we're a little more strapped for cash than usual this year, but we (mostly she, I have to give it to her) have found ways to still make everything work. She is an absolute rockstar at making things special on a budget.\n\nOur issue, or rather, my issue I guess, has to do with in-laws. Her family has welcomed me with open arms. They're loving to her and to me by extension, and I have always been included in holiday gifts. And her family is *very* generous with presents. My family, on the other hand, sends me a couple gifts every year. The only indication that they even remember my wife exists is when they send a Christmas card. For example, my grandmother will buy a card that says, \"Merry Christmas to my grandson\" and scribble in \"and wife\" as an afterthought. Sometimes it's smudged and can't even be read.\n\nFor a few years, I've tries to casually mention that I think it might be a little more appropriate for them to buy us a joint gift or something so that it is a gift for my wife too. I've mentioned how it feels really nice for me to be included *equally* by my wife's family. I don't think it has had any effect.\n\nWhat's worse is that they give me home goods type stuff that very well *could* be addressed to both myself and my wife, because we have the same home for cryin' out loud. It's just starting to feel that they're trying to alienate her on purpose. They have made a lot of comments about how it is a \"cultural thing\" because my wife and her family are Asian and are probably more rich so they are more extravagant.", "summary": "My family leaves my wife out of their Christmas gifts, even though my in-laws are very generous with *me*. Starting to feel intentional. Should I say something about this to my relatives after Christmas?"}
{"id": "t3_11ri2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've decided to take a problem focused approach to my extensive issues with making friends, but I need some advice on where to start?", "post": "My whole life I have spent it waiting to not be fat anymore. I've essentially grown to the ideology that I can not: get a boyfriend, make adequate friends, travel past New York City, volunteer, work out at a gym, etc. etc. until I have lost all the weight.\n\nI've lost 110 lbs. but I still need to lose maybe 40-50 lbs. However, I want this to be the last year I spend putting my life on hold. I'm 25, I went to college late because of this, I quit high school because of this. I've had so few experiences in my life because of this. Jan. 1 2013, even if I don't manage to lose one more pound I'm going to go out and be social, but I don't know where to start? Does anyone have any ideas of events, places, things I can do to force myself out of my comfort zone and to maybe make friends? I'm not even sure how relationships develop normally at this age.\n\nI haven't been friends with anyone in maybe a year and a half. I haven't made a new friend since literally middle school. I talk well with people, I make them laugh, I listen. I'm not sure how to take things to actual \"hanging out\" levels when I have happened to meet people my age. On top of that, none of my interests are very social. I'm pretty into cultures, really want to travel, I love art and museums, I'm a writer, music is great...? Help getting started somewhere so that I can plan this *huge event* out? :)", "summary": "I'm 25 yrs old, put my life on hold since mid teens because of weight issues and insecurity until I ended up with nothing but depression, want to put a stop to this and start having a social life, but I'm unsure where to start or go with my minimal interests."}
{"id": "t3_2mqcea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [20/M] am pretty sure my girlfriend [18/F] is abusing study drugs. weve been together for a year. help", "post": "firstly: i do not care if she actually does snort studys aids i just want her not to lie. \n\n a little bit of background info. we have done drugs together in the past and really i dont care if she is doing anything i just want her to stop lying about it. shes used Ritalin before for a study aid and i think its a possibility doing a stim like adderall or cocaine.\nshes at uni and doing a pretty hard course load, and when she comes over iv noticed she'll take frequent bathroom breaks, while being really quiet in the bathroom. she comes out usually chugs a glass or 2 of water and also puts a bit of toothpaste in her mouth. possibly for drips? after that she will sit down to do homework and be really jittery and stuff. i know this could all be a coincidence but when you put it all together it seems pretty sus. i have used drugs before and she does know that, im honest with her and tell her when i do them but when i ask her she gets really defensive and wont want me to touch her or anything. i really need some help. maybe somehow i can tell if she really is using some sort of stim or if its really just a coincidence", "summary": "my gf has alot of signs of abusing study aids such a adderall. when i ask her about it she denies and gets angry. i honestly dont care if she does i just dont want her lying to me about it. id like to know if theres a sure way i can tell shes using them."}
{"id": "t3_1ekcyl", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My little brother's grades are bad. He says he wants to make hasn't been completing homework on a regular basis.", "post": "So my little brother is a freshman in highschool and his grades are pretty bad (all C's and D's). I'm the first in my family to go to a university and ever since I started at my school he decided he wanted to go to college as well, but this entire year he has not been completing homework or studying for quizzes and tests. My mother wants to do whatever she can to help but doesn't really know where to start. His freshman year is over but what things can she do in the future to help him make sure he is completing his work? Are there resources available for me to show her related to this? We don't have much money so tutoring is not really a possibility.", "summary": "Brother won't do homework, what resources are available to help my mother help him."}
{"id": "t3_3943hy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Minor issue) I [18 M] feel my girlfriend [16 F] is kind of unfair sometimes.", "post": "Like I said in the title, it's a small thing. Basically, we both have foods we cannot stand the smell of. I really hate mint especially, the smell is very off-putting, and there are a few other things. She will still regularly eat these things around me, which would be fine. I can deal with a bad smell however gross I find it.\n\nWould be. But the things she doesn't like (mostly cheese) are expressly forbidden from being eaten around her. She gets annoyed if I even suggest it and 'reminds' me that she hates it.\n\nSo is this really inconsiderate or is it just me?\n\nAnd yes, I know how petty this is.", "summary": "my girlfriend eats food I hate around me but won't have me do the same around her. Am I right to be annoyed by this?"}
{"id": "t3_zaxcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20F with a friends-with-benefits relationship. How can I make it something more without being crazy?", "post": "I'm 20 and in college, so is derrick. We are in a close, small circle of friends. I was crushing on derrick when I first met him 2 months ago (He was out of the state for a year and is best friends with one of the other guys in our group) \n\nWe flirted like crazy for a while, but nothing really happened and I was talking to another guy. So the guy I was talking to randomly met someone else and dropped me. I was really, really upset and Derrick came over to cheer me up. We spent all day just talking and doing random stupid stuff (walking around in the woods, watching dumb movies, eating ice cream). I was a complete wreck at the time...Usually I will not let anyone see me unless I'm wearing makeup, hair done, nice outfit. At this point I hadn't showered in a couple days,  I was a MESS. \n\nLater that evening Derrick suddenly said to me, \"We have a lot of sexual tension....have you ever had a close friend that you hooked up with?\" I was shocked at how blunt he was, but in all honesty I have, so I told him I had. He asked me if I wanted to do that, I didn't really awnser, but I kissed him. Soooooo I guess that was a yes.\n\nSo then we made out a bit, but nothing more than that. And last night he came over and we had sex. It was pretty awesome.. \n\nBut I'm in this incredibly awkward situation that I've put myself in. I still really like this guy and I want to date him. But if that's not an option I'd be happy to just do the whole fuck-buddy thing. I don't want anyone else in our group of friends to know about the sex. But now I'm working myself in so many circles that I can't think straight. \n\nSo Reddit, I'll take any sound advice I can get. Is there anyway to convince this guy to date me without sounding like the crazy bitch I am?", "summary": "Close friend turned fuck buddy...Do I have a chance to date him?"}
{"id": "t3_1hx73c", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Last minute mini-wedding/kinda eloping. Need help!", "post": "My boyfriend and I decided we want to get married a few weeks ago, and we are going to do it NEXT MONTH!! We live in Hawaii with NO family and just about 10 friends we made here on island. We figured people spend thousands for this kind of destination wedding so it makes sense for us to have a small one here and when we move back mainland in a few years have another bigger ceremony for friends and family. \n\nDoes anyone have recommendations for sites to help organize this chaos?  Would it be rude to not have a reception and just ask the island friends to join us at Dave & Busters for drinks and games?\n\nMy brother is getting married on Friday back in my home state so we will be telling all my family AFTER their reception. (Not about to steal someone else's special day.)\n\nAll help appreciated fellow brides!! :)", "summary": "Crash wedding in August with no set date needs to be planned quickly and relatively low key. What do I need to know and where can I go for help?"}
{"id": "t3_30830g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27) girlfriend (25) of 5 years told me a year back she kissed a friend when she was drunk", "post": "So a little background first... we met in college, I graduated first, she did about a year after me, but still had schooling so moved back home to finish her master's degree.  That meant we were 2 hours apart and speak on on the phone every night and see each other every weekend.We've been long distance about two years and now looking at places to move in, but then she drops a bomb on me.  \n\nShe tells me she kissed a guy friend (that we both know) on a trip with her girlfriends.   BTW this is the second time she told me she has kissed someone when she was drunk.  She goes on.. but I was drunk, it was nothing, I just felt so bad , I just had to tell you, I love you so much so I had to tell you.  \n\nAt this point I don't know what to do.  Basically no emotion except confusion. Thinking to myself what the fuck should I do?  I teller I'm upset, but that's it.  I have not raised my voice once since this happened and am now just going  through the motions day to day.  \n\nShe is heartbroken and wishes she never told me, so we can move in and get on with life.  If I bring up anything about needing some time, she is in shambles and I can't help but console her.   I know if breakup with her she would never get over it, but I don't know if or how I could ever trust word her again..  \n\nDo I end it?  Or do I wait to see if things get better?  PLEASE HELP", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years tells me she kissed a guy drunkenly a year ago.  This is the second time this situation has occurred.  Should I stay? Should I go? Either way, how do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3zojwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my best friend of 7 years [21F] and my Ex [23F]", "post": "I am best friends with Liz since our high school days. For seven years, I've had a crush on her until today. We met up for lunch and she told me that these past four years, she has been crushing on me everytime we met up (which is around once a year). We kissed a little but she has little experience and is still a virgin. I mostly like girls who know how to get it on in the bedroom. \n\nWhich leads me to my ex-girlfriend, Jennifer. We dated for close to two years. She was just the best to me. She'd cook for me, gave me massages, and was up for anything in the bedroom. We broke up because I got accept to a different University cross country, but we still chat a lot on Skype. Almost as if we were having a long distance relationship, but in face we are only friends now. And I don't know if we will have another go at a relationship with each other. \n\nPlease help me figure out what to do.", "summary": "long time friend I've been crushing on wants to start a relationship but I am still not over my ex."}
{"id": "t3_1dgsmb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with anger? (story inside)", "post": "My Father is a nice guy and all, however i get so mad when he acts like he is a badass and does stuff just to ''prove'' it. \nFor instance, i have a glass in my room, he shuts off the router and tells me to take it to the kitchen. \nInstead of just saying, Take that glass to the kitchen.\nSmall example but you get the point, how do you deal with anger inside? He often yells at everyone in the house when something is wrong and when it's me he gets mad at he punches me in on the shoulder. I myself think it's because im almost 18 now and im taller and bigger then him, so he wants to show off that he is the man.\nOr something like that, even do i could easyly knock him out, i mean, he is my Father after all. So i resort to just do what he tells me to do.\nAlso, he had a rough childhood (He's Dad kicked his ass alot and did the same with my Grandmother, so maybe he feels the need to do the same in smaller doses)", "summary": "I get mad easy and my Dad can be a prick alot of times, how do you deal with all your boiled up anger."}
{"id": "t3_3zctyz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I just discovered Tiller: a PF tool that aggregates all of your transactions/balances from all accounts and puts them in your own customizable Google Sheet", "post": "Hey all,\n\nI see a lot of posts here about alternatives to Mint, PC, SigFig, YNAB, Excel, among others. I have been trying for years to find a good alternative to what fit for me. I use Mint and PC, but they are missing something. I tried YNAB, and that just wasn't for me. I found something new over the weekend that I think may be my personal solution, and it may help you out too.\n\nLast year, I made my own Excel file to use the downloaded CSV file from Mint and pulls the info into my own income statement with trend analysis. It is not perfect, but I thought I found my answer. Then I found Tiller, which does that exact thing, but updates automatically. You enter in the credentials just like the other sites and it creates a Google Sheet for you and they walk you through the customization of it.\n\nIt has the YNAB feel to it because you have to categorize each transaction into a category, which I think we can all agree helps to be more cognizant of our spending. Some (half of me) is disappointed since Mint really was getting good at learning me and what I categorize as what.\n\nMy favorite part is that now I have my information in essentially an Excel file that I can manipulate how I want without having to worry about importing my own data (1st world problems, I know).\n\n**I am putting this in bold as to not mislead people who are interested. It is free the first month, but $5/month afterwards**\n\nAnybody use this??? I thought I had read about this on Reddit, but searching led me to nothing. Would love to hear reviews/tips/tricks/thoughts.", "summary": "Tiller aggregates your data into a Google Sheet and gives you functionality to track your expenses and income. It's another PF solution that you may find helpful. $5/month after the first month free. (www.tillerhq.com)*"}
{"id": "t3_23416u", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Car Parked on Private Property Towed", "post": "I live in the state of Kentucky. My car was parked in the parking lot in my apartment complex (private property.) The tags were in fact expired but the property owners did not request the removal of the vehicle from private property.\n\nIn most states it is only legal to remove a vehicle from private property if the property owners requested the removal.\n\nAfter asking the office of my apartments and learning that they did not request the removal, they also informed me that this is an ongoing issue and said that it's unlikely I will find resolution (the tow company has lawyers etc.)", "summary": "Is it legal for them to have removed my vehicle from private property even with the expired tags. And if not, what is my next course of action."}
{"id": "t3_1gbpa7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I [21 F] get closer to my father [52 M] when I live an hour away?", "post": "Backstory: I am a college student and this is my first summer staying at school and working instead of being home with my family. I regret it because my father is having a lot of medical issues. It causes him to be in a lot of pain and causes him to miss out on a lot time spent with the family. I try to make it home whenever I can.\n\nMy father and I have never had a great relationship, but also not a terrible one. We are a lot alike, but we have pretty different interests and we communicate differently, so we don't have that great of conversations. I have always tried to spend time with him when I can, but I now especially want to use the time we have.\n\nSo I am looking for ways that we could talk or get closer other than just calling and sitting in silence trying to think of things to say. I had the idea of reading through a book together. We both enjoy reading and I figure we can call and discuss things happening in the book. I am looking for things that could work with our \"long distance relationship\". I am there almost every weekend, but that time cannot always be used because he has painful attacks that send him to bed.", "summary": "Looking for a way to talk more with my father/improve our relationship when I am an hour away at school."}
{"id": "t3_1zog0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18 M) would appreciate some help dealing with a girl (19 F) that I work with!", "post": "Well, we both work in the same store, and have gotten to know each other really well for about 4-5 months, but we work in different departments, so we don't see each other much. We text frequently, but every so often she will just stop replying and not text me for like two days. That doesn't really bother me, even though I'd prefer to talk to her for sure. Her house is far from my house, so we don't see each other outside of work often, in fact, we only have twice in about 3 months. \n\nThe main time we get to see each other is on our hour lunch breaks. But this is the part that bothers me, because there's another guy, he is 30 with a wife and kids, but she always has lunch with him. Like every single time he's there, she has lunch with him and not me. \n\nI don't want to sound selfish or anything, but if she likes me (in fact, she says [through text] that she thinks she loves me) I should be her favorite person to spend time with. But that's not the situation. And when she's around him, it's like I'm invisible. So I just don't know what to do. She says all these great things to me, but her actions sort of contradict her words. I feel like a second option to please her when he's not there. I haven't talked to her about this much, because I don't want to come off as clingy, so I'm coming here for advice first.", "summary": "Girl from work says she loves me, but seems to prefer hanging out with other guys, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_uxmmu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you convince your parent that they have a serious problem and need help?", "post": "Last year my mom lost at least $22,000 gambling, this is just what we know for sure she might have lost even more than that. Mind you she did this playing the nickle or quarter slot machines. There were days when she would leave the house at noon or 1 pm and then come back at 4 or 5 am the next morning. And this would happen often. I would try to tell her that she had a serious problem but she literally told me that it was none of my business and when I went to my aunt (who also likes to gamble but not as much) she told me that I just resented that my mother likes to have fun. \n\n  Now my mom says she has absolutely no college fund saved for me, when she could have paid for two years of college (possibly more depending on where I would go) with the money she spent gambling. She doesn't know that I know how much money she's lost, she told my dad and my dad told me. Me and my dad are trying to get her to stop, and she has slowed down, but she still does it. She still goes there and loses money on those fucking slot machines.\n\n  Mind you she never gambled until 3 or 4 years ago when a co-worker made her go gambling with her when they were on a business trip to Vegas. I know it's not that co-worker's fault but i just feel really angry at her for it.", "summary": "Mom has a gambling problem, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3y837v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] I'm in a situation where a friend [17/F] doesn't let me see other girls", "post": "Alright, so this whole situation is quite complicated. I'll start with some background story: I was born in Romania and am now living in the UK for about 2 years. Before I moved, I had many really close friends that were really great! There also was a girl which I fancied a lot and a month before I left for England, she told me she likes me a lot. But she said she doesn't want a relationship as I am leaving soon. I understood her and I know that long distance relationships are really hard to maintain.\n\nFast forward 6 months, I am loving England, it is such a great place with friendly people and nice traditions. Me and my family decide to go to Romania for the Christmas Holiday. I was really happy as I am going to see all my old friends. So I arrive, all good, lots of friends, beer and what not. Ive met this girl again, and I asked her if she wants to give it a shot, a short relationship, she denies me with a straight \"no\". I respected her decision and moved on. I started to talk to other girls, and many of them wanted a relationship with me, but all my thoughts were for that special girl.\n\nFast forward to this summer. So I go for the holiday in Romania again. I was going to stay for 3 months this time. Same girl, same question, same answer. I got quite annoyed as she told me while I was in England that she wants us to be together when I come to visit. I get past her decision and move to another girl I really liked for quite some time. We start dating, and as soon as \"that\" girl finds out, she freaks out and tells me what is all this about ? I explained it to her and she is saying that it isn't acceptable and that im an asshole. So she isn't really letting me date anyone else, and I really care about her, more than other girls. What should I do ? I really want to date her but she doesnt want to. What do I tell her so I can date at least someone without her messing the relationship I am having ?", "summary": "A girl I liked a lot denies a relationship between us, but gets annoyed if I date anyone else. Wat do"}
{"id": "t3_3q0iv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21F] and I [22M] broke up a year ago, and she is very persuasive.", "post": "I feel like this is a stupid topic, but I'm hoping someone else has experienced this with a happy ending. I'll try to keep it short.\n\nWe dated for 3 years. Moved in together 2 years in. I started to really think about if I could marry her or not. I was kinda shocked when I couldn't see a future with her. A month or two passes. Break up. Slowly move out. Let her keep the apartment. Helped out with rent\n\nAnyways, this is the important part I'm struggling with.\nShe cant go more than a month without talking to me, and I was pretty clear about the process being easier for both of us if we had our space. Even though I broke up with her, I still loved her, and it sucked to watch her try to spark the relationship again. \n\nShe starts by saying we can just hang out, we hang out, we both talk about how the break up sucks, that turns into relationship talk, she tries to convince me to get back together.\n\nTime passes, and it happens over and over again. When we would hang out as friends it was a blast. But it seems like we just keep going back to the way we were. And to top it off two of my best friends say I should get back together with her. And I don't know what to think. Keep on the road I'm on now and maybe it gets better? Or cut ties completely? I honestly don't know if I'm miserable or just conflicted.", "summary": "Hook up, break up cycle. Does it ever work out?"}
{"id": "t3_yyc82", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How are men going to be portrayed by the media in 10-30 years? [Explanation inside]", "post": "First thing, I'm not sure if media is the correct word for what I mean, but I'm going to use it for lack of a better term.\n\nTo start off, I am an 18yo male who lives in the U.S. \n\nMy main question is a little different than what is stated in the title, however they go hand in hand. As of right now, being an adult man has quite a bit of burden. Going to parks alone? Nope. Cases of male rape? Hah, as if. Woman abusive in a relationship? Rarely. Man touches a woman inappropriately in public? Jail time and community hatred. \n\nNow switch the gender roles on all of those and they become a LOT less serious of offenses. \n\nMy point is, men are starting to become monsters in the eyes of the common persons perspective. Are things going to get worse? Is it about time that men start to feel the painful sting of sexism? Are women justified in their view of men? \n\nBack to my original question, what does the future look like for young to middle aged males?", "summary": "Male sexism, is it getting worse, or better?"}
{"id": "t3_qulsb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have this thing on my tongue that won't go away", "post": "I tried to take a picture of it but my camera is a piece of crap that can't do any close up shots, it's barely noticeable visually, anyways.\n\nSo anyways, I have what I assumed was some sort of canker sore on the tip of my tongue, it is extremely noticeable to me on my tongue, but as I mentioned before, you can't really see it visually unless you look really close. It looks like the little nodules on my tongue, in that area, are really white, maybe 1, or 2 of them. It hurts a little when I put pressure on it and feels swollen, and for awhile that's all it was - an annoyance. I have had this before and it usually goes away within 2-5 days, this one hasn't. I woke up today and there was a brown \"nodule\" along side the white ones on my tongue, and it hurt a lot more putting pressure on it than it had previously. I got tweezers and picked it off, which hurt a bit, then it bled for awhile, and feels a little better. Now when I look at it it looks like there is a fissure in that area, I assume from picking the brown bit off. I should also mention I can't taste or really feel anything besides pain in that area of my tongue, just a small area though. I don't know what this is, and am getting concerned since it's been there for almost 3 weeks now. Anyone have any idea what this is, or how I can remedy it?", "summary": "Tongue has white \"nodules\" on it, can't taste or feel anything but pain in that area, has been here for 3 weeks now, doesn't appear to be getting better"}
{"id": "t3_e4evh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Returning Merchandise Morals?", "post": "Hello redditors!  I could use your help to solve a debate my friends and I are arguing about.\n\nTonight we were looking for a heated floor mat for my apartment to sit on.  We found one at the Korean grocery store and I was curious how big it was since the units were in metric system and I am not good at visualizing that kind of size.  My friend just pulled it out of the packaged bag it was in (it was in a zipped up bag), we evaluated the size, I decided it was big enough and bought it.\n\nLater when I got home I pulled it out and threw it on the floor.  I noticed the cord was missing and thought it was in the bag.  Nope, not in the bag.  I figured it was missing and got annoyed.  I complain to my friends who both say 'No, no it's attached in the middle, we saw it when we pulled it out.'  Silence.  We come to the conclusion it must have fallen out when we packed the mat back in the bag at the store.\n\nSo my friends are on the 'return it side' but having worked so many years in retail I'm torn.  Technically the lost electric cord is our fault since we unpacked it and it fell out.  On the other hands, my friends argue that technically the store has the plug somewhere in their building so if I exchange it, it's not a big deal.  I dislike returning stuff on an account of something I did wrong so reddit help us decide!", "summary": "We lost the wall plug in for a floor mattress at the store when we took it out.  Is it right to return the mattress and say it wasn't there?"}
{"id": "t3_22tavx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] needs some help. Re-posting this here from r/dating_advice as it's more active. I'm way out of my league.", "post": "I go to college and i'm in my final year so i've been in the library non-stop. There's this one girl that I always keep seeing and tonight I think she finally noticed me. I smiled to her as she was leaving and she smiled back. That was unbelievable enough, but then as i'm watching her leave, she turns round, looks at me and smiles again. Honestly, my stomach was doing backflips! Never has that happened to me.\n\nI'm 21 and i've only ever asked one girl out (shameful I know) and that was two years ago by text. The date didn't go too well so that never proceeded to anything. But, i've told myself that i'm going to say something to this girl next time I see her.\n\nWhat would you suggest I say? What do you say to someone that will be sitting studying by herself in a library with earphones in? What do I say to someone that i've never spoke to before? So many questions going through my mind.\n\nAny help or advice would be wonderful.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Never went up to anyone and spoke to them out of the blue, let alone ask someone for their number or ask them out, but I want to. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1085tp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Trying to get over an abusive Ex-SO and move on with my life, what are some tips?", "post": "Here's some backup information:\n\nWe're both relatively young (16&17), and we dated for around 3-4 months. \nNot that long. \nWe both have a history of mental illness, though I'm a lot more accepting of mine than he is with his, as he'd often tell me. \nAnyway, he was very emotionally abusive while we were dating. I had told him that I wasn't comfortable with sexual things just yet, but he'd often pressure me and make really crude jokes that he knew made me feel uncomfortable purely to watch me squirm. \n\nI ended it, and needless to say he wasn't too happy about it. \nHe got other parties involved, tried to shit-talk me to my friends, threatened me etc. and all the while I'm trying really hard to just get the credits I needed at school and try to focus on getting into a more stable place in my life. \n\nFast forward about 5 months, he's gone through two other girlfriends while I'm stuck feeling extremely uncomfortable being around men. \nI'm having reoccurring nightmares and I just can't seem to move past this, though try as I might :/ \nAny tips?", "summary": "My emotionally abusive ex-SO won't leave my mind, and I want to try and get on with my life."}
{"id": "t3_4rcvsu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(UK) 22 and have no credit.", "post": "A few days ago I tried to get myself a phone contract, I'm one of those people who have been happy doing their pay as you go services and after going to the S7 decided perhaps it was time to get a contract. I tried to get a contract with three online and was declined, I phone up and was told this was likely due to having no credit. My question is as someone who is 22, ignoring the fact that i'm surprised as hell that I don't have any credit, how exactly should I go around building credit without spending a lot of money.", "summary": "As someone with no credit, how do I build credit cheaply?"}
{"id": "t3_3tsndc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am constantly feeling like I want to leave my (25/m) girlfriend (21/f) or 1.5 years even though we're happy together", "post": "So, my girlfriend (we'll call her Stacy) and I have been together for a year and a half now, this is by far my longest relationship. I love her like crazy and she, very obviously loves me more. \n\nThe problem I've had for a while now is that every two months or so I've been getting the urge to break-up with her. Every time these feelings come up I try to examine why I'm feeling that way, sometimes I feel trapped in the relationship, sometimes I just want to know that I could be doing something else, sometimes I just want to be alone for extended periods of time, and sometimes (and most consistently) I'm very unsatisfied with our sex life.\n\nI came very close to ending the relationship in the summer but didn't because I felt the need to end it sort of slip away. And I hadn't thought about it again until recently.\n\nI should point out, that on nearly every level her and I are completely compatible. We enjoy the same hobbies, we both have the same desires for the future, we have very similar values. There's nothing particularly wrong with her or the relationship other than the fact that sometimes I just don't want to be in it.\n\nThese feelings have been sort of pent up in me for a while and I'm trying to understand them now so that I don't make the mistake of ignoring them or being rash and regretting my decision. Are these feelings normal for a long term relationship? Do they go away after a time? Is it something I should bring up with her?", "summary": "Great first long-term relationship with a very compatible girl. Frequent desire to break-up on my end. Confused about the wanting to break-up."}
{"id": "t3_33y1gk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing when the doctor was giving me a checkup. [NSFW]", "post": "This happened slightly over a year ago.\n\nI was 17 at the time and was going in for a check up with my doctor. I am on really good terms with her. She tends to be really fun to talk to, not super attractive but nothing to be ashamed over either. So we are doing the typical checkup: check my pulse, how's my flexibility, etc etc. Then she goes to check my balls. I've done this twice before already so I was like, yeah go for it.\n\nShe slips on the rubber gloves, reaches up under and starts checking. The problem was her hands were fucking FREEZING, I mean super cold. I have no idea why, but I just started giggling like  a mad man. I sounded like some 5 year old who got exactly what he wanted for Christmas. She looks at me and goes \"I said cough not laugh\". So I'm trying to contain myself which is very hard to do and she switches over to the next side. The moment she does that I completely lost it and a nurse walks inside. The nurse walks in on my doctor with a amused look on her face and me giggling like an idiot while touching my balls.\n\nThe nurse (a guy) just looks at us and goes \"Glad you two are having fun\" and walks out. I still can't look people in the eye when I go there.", "summary": "Doctor had cold hands."}
{"id": "t3_sfjb4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most surprising, or compassionate thing an animal has done that you didn't expect?", "post": "So here's what happened to me..\n\nI had surgery to remove a cyst this past Friday, 4/13, in which they left an open wound bigger than a golf ball to heal from the inside out. Needless to say I'm in excruciating pain, and the last two days have been especially hard. \n\nSomething that has really surprised me lately is how protective my cat has suddenly become. I've never seen him act like this before. He won't leave my side and when I have to lock him out for the home nurse to change my bandages he never stops trying to get back into the room. I also kind of feel bad for the nurses as he won't leave them alone the whole time they are here.\n\nOne especially awesome thing he did though was when I went to the bathroom earlier today. I was so dizzy from the pain medicine I'm taking that I thought I might fall over, or just pass out all together. He must have noticed, because he waited outside the bathroom for me and then made sure his body was touching my leg the whole time I was walking back to my bedroom. He then watched me intently until I was safely back in bed and jumped up to lay next to me once again. \n\nThe only time he'll leave me is for about 1-6 minutes after I eat. Maybe he feels I am doing my best right after eating or something.", "summary": "My cat became insanely protective after I had surgery, which was surprising since he has never shown a protective side before."}
{"id": "t3_4o4ftt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Friend___ [22F] 3 years,how to understand and proceed?", "post": "This is kinda a weird situation but ill do my very best. \nIve been friends with a girl on and off (yes, ill get to that) for about 3 years. We met through family and instantly liked getting to know each other. Eventually we were comfortable and I was coming from a crappy social life and she had struggles of her own, we supported each other on things. Depression and anxiety wreck your life pretty fast so by her helping, it was nice. \n\nHeres the on and off part. \nWe had busy schedules and liked hearing from and seeing each other and I did become slightly pushy and she got mad. At first I thought it might be all me and then realized its not, its some of her too. she is very stubborn or pushy and can get to be emotional. \n\nI learned of her family issues recently that happened a while ago and it was a divorce with a bad parent and a whole bunch of other things that made her seem similar to the issues that happened. One of the parents was bad and she seemed to have adopted the bad behavior being much older. She was diagnosed with some things and what not but had kinda managed them up until now but my issue is really how much are they managed?", "summary": "How do I manage a person I personally like but has issues of their own?"}
{"id": "t3_3enqit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (f/22) treat my step niece (f/14) exactly the same as my biological niece?", "post": "My 24 year brother started dating a lady a couple of years ago.She's 32, and already has a 14 year old daughter from a previous relationship, who I'll call Bee just to make things simple. My brother has now announced that she's pregnant and they're going to be moving in together- so Bee is going to be a important part of our lives. My problem is, I keep on getting conflicting perspective on how I should act with her - some people are telling me I've to treat her equally to my new niece - ie. spend same amount on christmas presents, if I want to spend the day with my baby niece, I'll also need to spend the night with her. And there are others are saying I should include her (which, of course, goes without saying) in everything, but I'm not obliged to treat her EXACTLY like a niece. \n\nThis is a horrible thing to say but Bee, but she is a difficult kid to like. I would never ever make it known to anyone else except my husband that I don't like her, but there's a sort of hush hush in the family that everyone thinks she's very brattish. For example, last week was her birthday and Iasked her what she'd like. Bee replied that she'd like a designer watch, which cost $250. I told her that he couldn't afford this, to which Bee replied that I was building a baby basket for the future baby and it wasn't fair that baby was getting all that spent on them and she couldn't get a watch, which cost less.\n\nHer mother gave her into trouble, but did ask in future that during gift giving events, such as christmas, if I give the baby something worth $X, I'll need to give Bee something of equal value. My brother agreed, but I think he secretly thinks she's a lot to handle also.\n\nBee visits her dad's family on a regal basis and that's very much an active part of her life - she has made it clear, despite us bending over backwards and trying everything to please her, that we're her STEP family, not her real family.", "summary": "How should I treat my step niece? What should I do reddit? Am I obliged to treat Bee EXACTLY the same as my new baby niece even though her dads family are an active part of her life and she doesn't like us?"}
{"id": "t3_yg4hp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What kind of career should my math-genius brother go for?", "post": "I have a brother in grade 11. He is at the stage of his life where he has to start thinking career choices. He is interested in math, and has slightly below average social skills. As for the genius part: he has won every single math olimpiad he has ever written save one. This means he is first place in Canada in pretty much every age group, contest, category, etc for the last 10 years. One time he wrote two olimpiads in one hour, causing the university administering them to accuse him of cheating. He recently represented Canada in the international mathematics olimpiad, where he took bronze. I am no mathematician, but I do know some complex physics, and I simply can not follow his trains of thought at all. I am considered by all my friends to be a math wiz, but this guy is a freaking ninja. As in I can't even read the answers to the questions he solves without losing track. In short, he could go to any school out there assuming he applied himself. \n\nI have no doubt that if he went into pure math he would have his PhD within a few short years. Whenever I ask him what he wants to do, he says \"math\", but I feel like he has no idea what that means. \n\nMy issue is that I don't want him to be one of those people who spends their lives wasting their genius working for peanuts in a dark corner of some university. I tried suggesting math related fields to him, and he seems interested, but I don't know much about them. I mentioned that he could do work in communication theory or in some sort of analysis, but to be honest I don't know much about those.\n\nSo reddit: you hivemind are the smartest thing I know. Help me out. Suggest some jobs that are heavy on the math, require a bit of genius, and pay well. If you do those jobs, tell me more about them (what you like, what the job is like, what the pay is like, what the training is like). If you dont do the jobs but know about them, I'll take what you can get. Please mention the kind of schooling required for those.", "summary": "Brother is a math machine, looking to go to university. Suggest some high paying fields he can apply his talent in."}
{"id": "t3_sz0w4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My brother-in-law cheated on my pregnant sister", "post": "when she was 31 weeks pregnant and confessed when she was 35 weeks pregnant because he contracted chlamydia. We don't know if he would have even told her otherwise. She gave birth on Wednesday and told me today because my parents didn't want what happened to her to sour my views on marriage. She's not sure what she should do, and I'm SO ANGRY I want to kill him. \n\nHe created an alternate email address and went on Adultfriendfinder to set up a \"date\" with a young woman to let him give her a facial, since my sister wouldn't. The day he met up with this prostitute (she asked for $300 because she was broke..... clearly a prostitute), he told my sister he was going out to get a gift for her because she was working so hard as a mother and wife. :| Then he drove an hour away, rented a hotel room and got his rocks off. It was all so premeditated.\n\nHe's apologizing profusely and they're in marriage counseling now and he has his own personal counselor as well. Apparently he had abandonment issues from his own very fucked up childhood and was worried my sister was leaving him too after the birth of their first child (born in 2010). He basically abandoned his own family after the birth of the first child and hired a full-time nanny to help my sister (who also had a full time job). This nanny sucked and neglected my niece and now she STILL can't speak because of this neglect. All because my brother-in-law was a selfish fucking asshole. \n\nI just wanted to know, has anyone else been cheated on like this (or worse) and managed to make the relationship work? Do you know of other couples that have overcome this? Or should my sister just start planning her exit strategy? She's not sure what she should do.", "summary": "My brother-in-law cheated, fucked up his family all to get his dick sucked by a whore. Can my sister recover from this?"}
{"id": "t3_42mobt", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Subconscious petty revenge", "post": "Some backstory: My mum has been asking for months for me to move in and help out with my nan and keep her company, so my lease was coming up and I moved in.\n\nYesterday she helped me out a lot with moving and cleaning, it was really great of her to do but I am sick, temporarily room-less as she's rented my bedroom out and she was an ass all day so that took away my gratitude a little, still I thanked her.\n\nSo today I am living in her home and bought some chocolate for myself. As soon as she came home she asked me to make her a cup of tea and she picked up a bar and ate it in front of me without asking. Note she has been talking for ages about going on a diet.\n\nNow i've been living alone for a while so I am so not used to this shit so I say \"what are you doing? I didn't buy that for you to eat, you didn't ask and I thought you were on a diet!\" \n\nShe goes OFF on me with the whole \"you should be happy to share with me I helped you so much yesterday!!\" \n\nHere's where the revenge happens: I make her tea and since living alone I just don't make tea without sugar, it's subconscious. My mother hates sugar, she despises it, she can even taste it if you've stirred her tea with the same spoon as you've stirred a sugary tea with.\n\nI don't think about it when I open the sugar pot and only realise when I am suspending the spoon with the sugar above her tea. A few granules fall in, I give her the tea anyway.", "summary": "You like sweet things? Have another."}
{"id": "t3_2v72xq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Us [47m, 48f]. Son [17m] concerned about being bisexual, how to help him.", "post": "This morning, around 11:45, our son told us he had something he wanted to talk to us about. He said that it wasn't going to be easy to explain, but asked us to listen anyway.\n\nHe then explained to us that he worried about being gay or bisexual, he said for the past 2 years he's had emotional attractions to various men, said he could see himself dating and being in a relationship with them, but not the sexual side. of the relationship.\nHe also said he does like women, but is attracted to them both emotionally and sexually.\n\nHe said he needs help to figure out where he stands, said that it'd be a no-win situation to him - if he dated a woman and told her he'd had a relationship with a man she probably may not be open-minded about it, and said if he dated a man and told her that he'd dated women before, he'd get the same reaction.\nHe said that, in general, he's physically and emotionally attracted to women, but for men, it's mainly emotional.\n\nThen he went on to say he feels like he has a lack of confidence around dating, said he enjoys everything else in his life, but wants to be able to date; he fears his overly bookish personality and beard may put people off (he likes having a beard).\n\nHe then went on to say that for women, it's easier to be bisexual, but if a man does it he gets treated with the male equivalent of slut-shaming, he'd get bullied, harassed etc.\n\nWe told him we would accept his partner whatever the gender - we truly would - but he fears others may not be so accepting.\n\nHere in the UK, where we're from, some places don't accept gay people well; in some rural areas of the Thames Valley, homosexuality (or bisexuality) isn't accepted at all.\n\nOur son has said to us, he wants help with this, doesn't know what to do, and, tbh, we don't know how to help.", "summary": "Our son worries about his sexuality."}
{"id": "t3_sswxn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Impulsive decision or foolishness? Name a time you took a risk and it did/didn't pay off...", "post": "I currently live in NYC. I've lived in the upper east side my entire life. Growing up, I've always had a love for Los Angeles... I visit about once every 1-2 years to see family, and I feel much more natural in the laid back environment.\n\nI love NYC as well, but can't stand the winters and the fast paced lifestyle people have. I graduated a couple of years ago and have a couple of good job prospects lined up. I have a real opportunity to make it big (relatively) in NYC. I know a lot of people, have established good connections and have a great group of friends I've known since I was a teen. I have a real opportunity to have a \"comfortable\" life here.\n\nA part of me can't get the idea of just packing my stuff and moving to LA though. On paper, it wouldn't make any sense. I don't know ANYONE, have no connections, friends, or any job opportunities. I would have to start at the bottom and it would be a huge grind with no certainties. Yet I am still drawn there. A part of me would be depressed if I wake up in 10 years still in NYC and never having taken the risk.\n\nMy friends think I'm being too impulsive. I'm giving up good opportunities in NYC for  a huge gamble in going to LA. What do you guys think?\n\nHave you ever taken a chance in life (I realize this may not seem THAT big of a risk in comparison to some of your stories), how did it turn out?", "summary": "I want to move to LA but I'm throwing away great opportunities where I am now."}
{"id": "t3_ygf12", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, my wife is very upset about me planning a hiking trip that she doesn't want to go on, but my ex from 12 years ago is going on", "post": "Typing on my phone, apologies for spelling. My friend Greg and I planned a 3 day hike for next month. After planning, Greg told me that his sister-in-law, Anna, who I dated for 3 years in high school, also wanted to go. Greg and Anna are both in my circle of friends, and Anna has also been married for 5 years. My wife was OK with the trip till she heard Anna wants to go. Now she says that if I go on any overnight trip without Anna's husband, she will be extremely pissed (even threatened divorce). She doesn't want to go and still distrusts Anna from high school. Do I go on the trip? Not go and make up an excuse? Tell Greg and Anna why? She says she trusts me, but not Anna - but nothing would happen. What's my next move??", "summary": "hiking with friend and my Ex, wife disapproves, but I want to go hiking"}
{"id": "t3_n772c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My sister is autistic and was recently mistreated by her \"friend\". How can I handle this situation?", "post": "Background details: My sister is the most naive, kind child you'll ever meet. She's a junior in high school but she's very innocent, partly due to her autism, and partly due to the fact that she doesn't have a single mean bone in her body. She has done literally nothing wrong to anyone. \n\nToday, I found out that, simply because she works hard and is ranked #2 in the class, my sister was slapped by her friend. While it sounds rather trivial when I write it like this, if you can imagine the sweetest, most naive person you know getting \"assaulted\" by her \"friend\" for no reason, it's devastating. \n\nI have also found out that this girl once brought a knife to school and tried to frame my sister. She's always stealing my sister's backpack and hiding it; one time she locked it in her locker and wouldn't give it back. The fact that the school hasn't done anything about it after the knife incident just shows how complacent they are about the situation - they don't really seem to care. Since it is a private school, I'm not sure what the legal repercussions entail. I am, however, going to bring all this up when I speak with the principal. \n\nMy sister has always had issues establishing relationships due to her autism, so such an event was hurtful on both a physical and mental level. It makes me both sad, but more, extremely angry. It has taken me a lot of willpower to not physically retaliate, since that is both illegal and can backfire quite badly on me.\n\nI am here to ask, how should I handle this situation? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated it. Please help me bring some sort of justice to this situation. Thank you.", "summary": "My autistic sister was slapped by her \"friend\" (who has also bullied her on many occasions) simply for doing well in school. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_e0ttk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What happened to all of the good local bands?", "post": "And when I say local, I don't mean \"Holy shit, I grew up in Denver so 3OH!3 is my favorite local band.\" \n\n**FUCK THAT**\n\nI mean bands that have to do things themselves. Bands that book their own shows, record their own music, make their own merch, and get lucky is they sell 40 tickets for a show. They all disappear before the world can hear their glorious music. I miss them.\n\nAnd yes, I understand that all bands start off that way. But it seems like the only one's that get picked up are the ones that appeal to the public norm. They don't have to be very musically talented or anything. They just have to be repetitive and know how to use an auto-tuner. I'm not saying that all \"well-known\" bands are shit. But the majority of bands that spark the public interest all sound kind of similar.\n\nWho is your favorite local artist/band? We need to help these poor souls out.", "summary": "I miss local bands. Do you? Which one is your favorite?"}
{"id": "t3_3u6vtt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ADVICE! Do I write to my ex boyfriend 9 months after we broke up for 'closure'?", "post": "My ex, who we'll call Sam, and I dated for a year and a half. He was 20 and I was 16 (fucked up I know, don't mention it). We always told each other that if we break up it would be peaceful and understanding and it was the absolute opposite of that. \n\nWe were a very happy couple and \"fell in love\" 3 months into dating. However, everything changed when I found out that he was moving away and ever since then I started looking at \"other options\". I admit that during this period of time, I did cheat on him. I couldn't bear the weight of guilt any longer and told him. And it absolutely ruined him.\n\nI tried breaking it off and he started getting emotional abusive saying I can't leave him, calling me a slut for cheating, then crying back to me saying how awful I am but insisted that we don't break up. I don't remember how we \"officially\" broke up exactly because I tried so many times, but when we finally did he lost his shit. Threatening to hurt me, this guy I had a small thing with, my friends, my family. He threatened to post nudes of me to Facebook and all over social media...\n\n9 months later and I'm in a new, very happy, exclusive relationship for about 3 months now. I occasionally still think of Sam because he was my first real boyfriend, love, took my virginity, etc. What bothers me is when I'm with my current boyfriend, I sometimes think about my ex because I feel the need to close the wounds. I am no longer emotionally attached to Sam, but its in the back of my mind, especially being in a new relationship, its sort of hitting a refresh button like I'm going through the whole dating simulation once again. Sam blocked me on every social media but I was hoping to contact him through email. Is this a good idea? Or should I leave it alone completely?", "summary": "in a new relationship but I feel the need to officially \"close the old wounds\" from my last one. Do I write him a long, well-thought out email or leave him alone completely? "}
{"id": "t3_3fhu99", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Scottish terrier seems to be walking very very slowly! What gives?", "post": "Howdy there!  So, a friend of mine has a 1.75-2ish year old Scottish terrier that recently had 7 puppies.  Now, my friend has I my had the Dog a little over a month and had the puppies about three weeks ago.  In the entire time I've seen this dog, it has not run once and it's walk is the most pathetically slow thing I've ever seen.  The dog eats, drinks water, takes care of the puppies all normally, but in the most lethargic and slow manner I've ever seen.  Has no noticeable signs of pain.  Like, at times I want to just shove the dog to help get it to its destination faster haha.\n\nCould something be going on that she isn't showing?  I know they're prone to the Scottie cramp but I dint think that's the case.  And my friend unfortunately cannot afford to take the dog to the vet to find out (please don't berate me, I offered them the money to take her to the vet).  Any help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Dog appears otherwise health but does everything incredibly slow.  Pls halp."}
{"id": "t3_jasz4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm in the Military and I accidentally invited two girls from my hometown to visit me on the same weekend...", "post": "A few months ago I made plans with Girl#1 to go skydiving. I thought I had told her the weekend of the 26th and 27th.\n\nGirl#2 was supposed to come see in July, but she had something to do last minute so we rescheduled for the 13th and 14th.\n\nEverything seemed like it was going to work out, but last weekend when I was texting Girl#1 to verify plans it came out that she was planning on the 13th and 14th just like Girl#2. I tried to correct her, but when I checked my Facebook chat logs(shit goes back forever now) I realized what I did...\n\nNow i'm stressed out because i'm sitting here with less than a week to figure out what to tell these girls...\n\nHaving one switch weekends isn't really an option since they both start classes/have jobs the following weekend. Any opinion/advice is appreciated.\n\nRight now I am leaning towards telling Girl#2 what happened while just continuing as planned with Girl#1 and hoping in some sick twisted way Girl#2 respects me for it.", "summary": "My life is a shitty sitcom."}
{"id": "t3_3bqiyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] am abusive to my boyfriend [16M] Please help me stop.", "post": "We've been together for over a year now. I understand we are young and likely not to last long; however, he is still important to me. I love him profusely and I hate to watch myself treat him the way I do.\n\nOverall, our relationship is fairly one-sided in some instances. I am a lot more emotional than him. He tends to be calm, but will stand up for himself when I overstep. We are both argumentative people where we both enjoy lengthy, heated debates over our conflicting views (ex: parenting, motivation, etc.) So, often times we do get into big arguments. Most of the time we are very close and rely on one another.\n\nLately, I feel there's a really 'nasty' side of me. A part of me that when I have been wronged, I want to yell and scream hurtful words. I know this is wrong and I hold back a lot. But sometimes I can't and I let slip some rather hurtful insults. When I get really worked up I have hit him. I'm not strong enough to hurt him but I know its the action that is most hurtful and disrespectful. I feel like such a horrible human being and I always apologize. I am trying to hold back on my anger. When we fight I try to take a breather and calm down so I can speak rationally, but again not always successful.\n\nI am scared that my abusive behaviour will one day be too much and my boyfriend will have had enough. I know he deserves better, so I am trying to become a better partner. Any tips on controlling anger? Any outside perspective in general?\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I am verbally and physically abusive to my boyfriend. Trying to control my anger and stop. Please help?"}
{"id": "t3_2yv6e1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend of 1.5 years [20F]; recently she said she needed more space to focus on herself and school work and focus less on me, just wanted to clarify my thought process.", "post": "So every relationship goes through stages, right? My girlfriend and I spent a lot of time together. Almost every day for long periods of time. So when she told me out of the blue that she needed space to focus on herself I was shocked, sick to my stomach, and really hurt.\n\nBasically because when we first started dating I was suffering from depression so I always figured one day she would get tired of me and dump me, so I was fearing that it was becoming a reality.\n\nBut it's completely normal right? We've just left the infatuation stage of our relationship which is a good thing because we are beginning to grow as a couple. Lately I've still come across as needy and such but I just realized that the whole point of this stage is to prove that we aren't just our pet name (you know when people take both names in the relationship and mash them together) and that we can be our independent selves while still being in the relationship. \n\nAm I right in this? It's my first real relationship so I was curious.", "summary": "Gf and I just hit the power struggle stage of the relationship. At least I think so. Tips, thoughts, suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1oghgi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [25M], owes me large amount of money but refuses to pay up. What do?", "post": "Not using a throwaway even though he browses Reddit because fuck it.\n\nI broke up with my ex around 2 months ago (relationship lasted 1.5 years). He took it pretty badly, accused me of cheating, thinking I only left him because I must have found someone else. Pretty much ignored all my reasons for breaking up with him because that meant he was guilt-free. \n\nHe owes me around \u00a3350. Has done for the last 2 years. He always said he'd pay me back, but every time I'd raise the issue he said something along the lines of 'well, I guess you'll just have to stick with me until I can pay you back.' Looking back on it now, I think maybe he had absolutely no intention of paying me back in lump sum, and was maybe using it as an unhealthy excuse to get me to stay with him.\n\nI messaged him to let him know what he owed me, wrote down all the calculations. Tone was clean and logical. His response was something childish. So I messaged his parents, explaining the situation and to urge them to do the right thing. That was a week ago. Neither of them have responded, and I highly doubt they've spoken to their son about it.\n\nThe money I loaned to him was to pay for his accommodation rent. I can't believe he's being so selfish about it. \n\nIs there anything more I can do? Some of my friend suggested I ask the Citizens Advice Bureau, but I'm so skeptical about this situation, I don't think I have rights or that he has any legal obligation to pay me back.", "summary": "Ex owes me significant amount of money. Neither he nor his parents responded to my messages. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3gpd7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M24) really like a girl (F21) but she has a boyfriend (M22?/23?).", "post": "This girl has been on my eye for a long time. She was in a relationship for a while and then when she got out of it, I didn't even know until it was too late and she was already wit someone else. Now this guys a marine and leavin soon to deploy so I hear. I really like her and wonderin' how I could get her to see me and fall for me. \n\nI know it seems wrong but I saw on their Fb that they broke up. She deleted her Fb but now she has it back and it still says in a relationship but doesn't have the dudes name anymore. So I don't actually know if they're together or not anymore. Either way I think she deserves better and I know I'll treat her best. \n\nI'm in love wit this girl. Anyone else been here?", "summary": "girl I love got out of relationship, but might have gotten back in but he's leaving soon to a new country and I want to win her over."}
{"id": "t3_35967j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me: with my crush and my friend, My friend who knows who I like is flirting with my crush", "post": "We all are seventh graders at a relatively small school, and we all are 13.  My friend, lets call him \"John\" (Male; been friends for about half a year).  Knows who I like, lets call my crush \"Isabella\" (Female; I have been liking her for about two weeks).  John doesn't likes someone, and knows who I like.  He was flirting with Isabella a couple of times.\n\nI am really nervous and I don't know what to do.  I talked to my crush a lot, and we are kind of in the friend zone.  I think Isabella likes John.  I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My friend is flirting with my crush (and know who she is).  I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1tmask", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) can't cope with all the things that are going on right now..", "post": "I really can't cope with all the issues I'm having right now. The first one being just broken up with my girlfriend, the second being very lonely and the third is that my family are not able to see eye to eye on things.\n\nMy girlfriend of one year broke up with me a few weeks ago. I thought letting go was gonna be easy at first but I was wrong. Being my first girlfriend, I loved her very much, and she did feel the same way as I was also her first. The cause of the broke up is a long story but all that matters is that we broke up. I don't know if she stop loving me or what, but I haven't stop loving her that's why it's hard to let go. \n\nSecondly, I have been very lonely ever since the break up. I never made our friends choose sides, I told them that it's okay that they be with her since they're always closer with my ex-gf. My best friend stopped talking to me cause she was also in love with my ex, and when we dated, he just stopped talking. I also just moved to my home country and I have lost contact with pretty much all my friends in my home country. I do still have one friend that still text me almost everyday. I find it kinda sad that I just keep waiting on her text everyday. \n\nLastly, my parents are always mad at each other. There'll be moments where they're just normal parents, but most of the time, they just keep arguing with each other. My siblings are not any better too. I am the oldest but they constantly pick on me and I can't do anything since my parents expect me to be the wisest one, and if I hit them, they'll have our parents on their side.\n\nI'm just really tired emotionally and I dunno how I'm supposed to cope with all these things. This is my very first post, I just want people to tell me what am I supposed to do in times like this.", "summary": "still in love with ex, lost almost all my friends and family are always arguing. emotionally tired"}
{"id": "t3_3jv60z", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Question about wedding day photography and timing", "post": "For all you brides and grooms who've tied the knot, I have a question about the photography timeline. My FH and I are not doing a first look. We will be walking with our bridal party and family about 5 minutes to get pictures in the park while everybody else heads up for the cocktail party. Like most couples we REALLY want to get to that cocktail party!! We want pictures with the bridal party and family and of course of us BUT we don't want 50 different angles of him kissing my ear and me smiling at the camera. I am trying to put together my day of timeline including specifics about picture taking, who is in which picture and how long should each take. But I have no idea. I want to make sure I can put together a realistic timeline for the picture so I don't get my hopes up too high about being at most of the cocktail hour and so I can figure out how to do which pictures so we can realistically make the last 10 minutes. The internet is full of timelines for people who want first looks and 2 hour long couples photos and elaborate bridal party pictures which just isn't our style. How long did your pictures take? How many pictures was that? How did you run through family pictures with grandparents, parents, and siblings (like what kinds of family groups). How did you deal with live-in-long-term-relationship-but-not-engaged SOs of your siblings in pictures? I'm set to talk with my photographer soon about day of but I'd like to have some idea of what other people have been able to accomplish. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I'm trying to put together the photography timeline, how long did your pictures take and how many groups did that cover?"}
{"id": "t3_pwvxq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the funniest/ stupidest/ most surprising things that your pets have ever done?", "post": "I'll begin.\n\nMy dog is a Pitbull Terrier, he had been ill for a couple of days, and was sleeping in his bed, in the room with me and my brother. What followed however, should be put down in dog history.\n\nWe are both sitting at our computers, and I hear the loudest, meanest, dirtiest, most abominable release of gas that has ever come into contact with my ears, resembling a deflating balloon... except.. louder.. and meaner.. and more abominable. I turn to look at my brother from whom I was certain the flatulence originated, however he was turning to me, thinking exactly the same thing. Bewildered we turn to the only culprit left in the room, the poor dog, who was awoken from his sleep - dazed, confused, scared, head down and tail between his legs and giving the famous \"puppy dog eyes\", knowing he had done wrong, stood and stumbled sheepishly around the room.\n\nWhat followed was hysterical laughter from both parties, and a short petting and comforting of the pooch, who quickly began wagging his tail and returned to his slumber.", "summary": "Dog did loud, supersonic fart, waking him up and scaring him."}
{"id": "t3_33sbd5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf [27m] kept teasing me about my shirt [27F] of 1 year", "post": "Yesterday my bf and I went on a break but we happened to have run into each other in the park near where I live.\n\nIt was pretty friendly and we had a nice chat. He asked me where I was going and I said \"I'm going to a potluck at my friends place. I wish you could come! This break is silly.\"\n\nIn a teasing way, he said\n\"Oh, I see you're wearing a revealing shirt ;) who are you trying to impress? \"\n\n**Me:** No one. It's just a crop top. It only shows 1/4 inch of skin. Don't worry. \n\n**Him:** still teasing....uh huh,  I see someone wants male attention ;)\n\n**me**: no,  don't worry.  I just want to look cute and it's a cute foral top. I'm wearing a high waisted jeans so you don't need to worry about seeing a lot of skin. Plus there's no cleavage so you don't need to worry.\n\n**him**: oh I'm not worried but I'm just noticing that you want male attention\n\n**me:** do you want me to change my top? \n\n**him:** no I'm just saying ;)\n\n**me:** fine I'll go change my top. \n\nI left the park and quickly changed into a tank top. When I came back he said \"oh you didn't need to change! I completely forget about your top. Anyway I think this tank top looks better on you anyway. \n\nSomething about this interaction bothers me. It was like he was being passive agressive about a stupid top. Why couldn't he have been honest and said it bothered him? \n\nI felt like he was almost projecting? He'll obsess about the way he looks and tries to make sure he always looks his best. He had a roommate and she constantly walked around half naked and never made a comment about her appearence.", "summary": "boyfriend made comment that my shirt was too cropped even though it showed .25 inches of skin and I changed to help his feelings. His comment felt passive agressive.  Was it?"}
{"id": "t3_4f63f0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17F] in love with my best friend [18F] but we're going to be roommates in college and I don't want to ruin everything", "post": "I'm Russian but grew up in America; when I was 13 my mom lost her green card and we moved back to Russia, where I started high school and met my best friend (we'll call her Katya). We connected instantly, being the only non-white students in our class (I'm half-black, she's from the Caucasus) and it turned out we have almost everything in common--we listen to the same music, watch all the same shows, and complement each other socially. We've been inseparable practically since the first day of school and I spend most of my free time at her apartment. \n\nRight now we're in our senior year. I have dual citizenship and intend to go to college in Chicago, my home city. Yesterday Katya told me she's applied for a scholarship to the same college I'm going to (she studies English), she's applying for a student visa, etc. She says she wants to be roommates and that she couldn't stand being away from me for four years, especially separated by an ocean and most of a continent, that she'd miss me too much. Then she tucked my hair behind my ear and leaned in like she was going to kiss me but at the last second pulled away and changed the subject very abruptly.\n\nKatya is gorgeous and extroverted and puts effort into her appearance; she has no shortage of admirers. While she flirts with them and sometimes goes on dates, she's never had a serious relationship and has never gone further than kissing with a boy. I suspect that she might have feelings for me too, but we can't act on them while we're still in provincial Russia. But if we end up being roommates and she doesn't reciprocate, and I tell her, we'll have to live together in that awkward situation all year, and I don't want to ruin our friendship.", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friend but we live in provincial Russia. We're going to college together in America next year as roommates. Should I tell her how I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_44j4di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best-friend [18F], whom I [20M] have feelings for, wants to get back with her Ex [21M] who cheated on her.", "post": "So, go back to October, her ex (then BF) told her he wanted a break to which she was obviously upset. After they argued things out that day, they never agreed to break up and kept the situation in a sort of limbo.\n\nBut the day after he got drunk and slept with another girl. She found out and they broke up. My feelings aside, I was glad she broke it off but I was still obviously sad for her. \n\nShe knows of my feelings for her and we've been trying to work on it. By which I mean, if I feel like my feelings get in the way with certain things, we try to talk it out. \n\nShe told me today that she plans to go out with her ex for Valentines.... so yea I'm obviously upset (mostly disappointed), I don't know what the hell I should do when I know my feelings are biased.", "summary": "How do I tell her I think it is not right but remain supportive of her decisions?"}
{"id": "t3_ndquy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need ideas on how to punish a late employee.", "post": "We work in a really relaxed work environment, gotta come in at 0800, if you're going to be late, no more than 0815.  If you are going to be in past 0815, you have to call by 0745.  This was set in to place about 3 days ago.  Also, we're not allowed to tell people we're going to take the day off on the day of anymore, has to be 24 hours in advance.\n\n\u00a0\n\nToday, one of our guys calls at 0820 and says he's taking the day off.  Well, our NCOIC flipped on him and he's on his way in.  What are some creative ways we can punish him?  He's already doing pushups for every minute he's late.", "summary": "Need creative ways to punish a late employee."}
{"id": "t3_3rspg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(39F) Wife thinks I'm (41M) wrong for going to pick up take-out lunch with a female coworker. Am I in the wrong?", "post": "My wife and I (15 years) are currently in an argument about this and I could use Reddit's help.  She's expressed an issue with my having lunch with female friends / co-workers and asked that if it happens in the future to let her know ahead of time.  (I work in HR Consulting and most of my coworkers are female)\n\nI sent her a text today to let her know that a co-worker was riding with me today and she is very upset. She thinks I \"need to spend time with other females\" which is not the case.  This wasn't lunch together, this was going to pick up lunch from a take out place, bringing it back to the office and sitting at our respective desks to eat.", "summary": "Wife upset that a F co-worker rode to drive-through for lunch in my car. Need perspective."}
{"id": "t3_3aq5mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20f) husband (25m) only looks at amateur our user-submitted porn.", "post": "Mostly on reddit. It's things like /r/gonewild and /r/realgirls. I told him that it really bothers me; I already hate regular production - style porn because in my opinion it's just disrespectful in a relationship, but I'd even rather him look at that than this, because these are very much real women, looking for attention online. \n\nWhen I brought it up he said \"They're just pictures\". So I told him that I don't like sharing him with these girls, and he said \"You're not sharing me with them. If anything, you're sharing me with pictures of their boobs\". \n\nSo I told him that I was going to post my boobs on Gonewild. He immediately got upset and said that I couldn't, and when asked why, he said \"Because I don't want other guys looking at you.\" So I obviously replied with \"Well I don't want you looking at other girls.\"\n\nThe conversation ended there, but I do know that he's looked at the same things several times since then. \n\nTo me, it's the same as him receiving nudes from someone through texts. I feel like, because he pretty much exclusively looks at real girl porn, he gets off on the fact that it's taboo; it really makes me not trust him, and gives me an immense fear of him cheating on me one day. \n\nI just don't understand how he can keep doing it when he knows how much it hurts the person that he loves. I'm not telling him not to watch porn, at this point all I want is for him to stop looking at uder-submitted shit.", "summary": "My husband almost exclusively looks at porn that is user-submitted, like nude selfies. I told him that it really bothers me because they're not acting, they're attention seeking real life women, and he's giving them that attention. He hasn't stopped and doesn't care to aparently."}
{"id": "t3_uepff", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I just narrowly avoided a potentially life scarring incident. Have any similar stories? (details inside)", "post": "This is what happened. I work as a landscaper for the summer and I was mowing a lawn. I saw a weird pile of debris in the middle of the grass. I thought 'Ill just go over it with the mower and that should pick it all up' \n\nAs soon as I pass over it I look down and realize I have just ran over a rabbits nest (?) with 3 tiny bunnies inside. They start freaking out and running all over the place. Thankfully I was able to catch them all and they were perfectly fine. \n\nIt took me a while to stop thinking about how horrific it would have been if they has jumped up a split second earlier, or if the mower was on a lower setting.", "summary": "I ran over a bunch of bunnies with a lawn mower, but they were ok"}
{"id": "t3_3rtr5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [22/f] made a mistake with ex bf [24/m] \"trying\" to get back together lead to REGRET.... how would you handle it?", "post": "How would you handle this?\n Dated for about 3 years. Things went south, stopped acting like a bf, lead to breakup. A little less than a year passed till he says he wants to try again and fight for me. I agreed. Within the span of 4 months he showed little to no effort of actually wanting to be together. Seen each other once a month and barely communicate through text or talked. Seems as if he just said that to \"claim\" me, yet with no commitment or any sort of progression that we were together or trying. I ended up hooking up with someone else within the span of the 4 months, seeing as he wasnt trying and not taking it seriously, i should start moving on and doing my own thing. I did regret the hook up. At the back of my mind I always had a little hope of him actually trying again and consider this a mistake. Now he found out and says he cant look at me the same way ever again. Should I be feeling guilty? We were not together, he was not trying. I do love him more than anything, and regret it. and he says that if i really loved him I would have never done this in the first place. However, his lack of commitment and ignoring me and playing mind games with me drove me to do it out of anger and spite. Is there any sort of recovery from this?", "summary": "Who is really in the wrong? and can this still be recovered? *."}
{"id": "t3_2tmt6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] cheated on my SO [23 M] with my teacher [29 M] and now I feel guilty & regret it", "post": "Before all of you judge me (which is understandable) please read me first. \n\nI'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years. He lives in another state like 8 hours away. We are both in college. Last semester I had this hot/young new teacher that all my friends were talking about but I didn't like him at first. But then, randomly, he started messaging me and we started talking a lot more about non-related school issues. Long story short, we ended up having sex, several times. I even kinda developped feelings for him for a short while. He's the second guy I've ever been with since my boyfriend was the first one. \n\nI broke things up with my boyfriend for a minute but he never knew the reason and he insisted he wanted to be with me so I gave our relationship another shot after a few weeks. He really really loves me. I wished I haven't cheated on him, I now realize it was a mistake but I was blinded by this other guy (who now I find childish & ugly). It was definitely not worth it and I don't know what was I thinking. \n\nThat was like a year ago, my teacher since then has been trying to contact me again and have me come over his place but I've been ignoring his calls & texts. I do not want to be with him again or anyone else by all means. I'm still with my boyfriend and things are pretty good but sometimes it hurts me knowing how hurt would he be if he finds out what I did. Sometimes at night I can't stop thinking how much of a shitty person I am. Is this feeling ever gonna go away? Should I break things off with my boyfriend? I really don't want to because I love him and I wouldn't cheat on him again in a millions years with anyone but if I tell him the truth, he's never gonna believe that. \n\nLittle", "summary": "I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years and now I'm deeply sorry about doing that and the guilt trip is endless. He has no clue about it."}
{"id": "t3_4nm99b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Moving back in with boyfriend's parent's vs moving in with girlfriends parents", "post": "Here's some information about our relationship, I (20F) and my boyfriend (18m) have been together for over 2 and a half years. In the beginning of our relationship we stayed together quite often, he'd stay with me at my moms or I'd stay with him at his mom's. But then my mom's apartment became infested with bed bugs so she started staying with her boyfriend more so I kind of moved in with my boyfriend and his mom and her boyfriend. I lived with him and his mom/mom's boyfriend for about a year but then issues started because his mom's boyfriend is very mentally unstable. \nAround that time my mom and her boyfriend bought a house together so we were able to make a deal and rent his old house for what we could afford ($500 a month, we both are in college and can't afford much especially with car payments and whatnot) but he's planning on selling his old house this year. We can't afford our own place, even studio apartments in our area are over $600 a month and we already struggle with paying the 500.\nSo it's looking like our only option is to move back in with our parents for the time being until we become more financially stable. My mom has offered for us to move in with them, and his mom the same. I feel living with my mom would be the best but my boyfriend feels him moving into their house isn't right. Which I've noticed the social norm seems to be girlfriends moving in with boyfriends family not vice versa. He's even considered living in his car. So I'm just wondering if anyone's had any experience with boyfriends moving in with the girlfriends family?", "summary": "can't afford our own place but would like to continue living together, my boyfriend feels moving in with my family wouldnt be as socially acceptable as me moving in with his although his family situation is a bit unhealthy. Is it true that boyfriends moving in with girlfriends family as weird as he makes it seem?"}
{"id": "t3_1y6a7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I M[20] have zero clue about how any of this works.", "post": "This is my first post here, so I hope all goes well! =]\n\nOver the past year or so I've been trying to change myself by dressing nice, eating healthy, lifting, running, and trying to come out of my shell more (I get pretty anxious at the thought of or act of talking to people).\n\nAnyways, in my 2nd year of college (currently in my 1st year at a new college I transferred to for computer engineering).  In one of my classes (not engineering class of course, there are zero\nwomen in there *not joking*) there is this girl that sits in the same row as me that I think is really cute.  She's sat next to me a few times but I get so nervous that my mind goes completely blank and I just get really quiet.  I've noticed that whenever the seat next to me is empty 9/10 she sits there but that hasn't happened in \na while.  I'd really love to ask her out so we could get to know each other better.  But I've never even said a word to her before.\n\nToday, after lecture was over, I saw some guy talking to her, and now I'm having thoughts of just giving up.\n\nIf any of you have words of encouragement, or advice and are willing to help me, please do.  I'm scared as fuck right now.", "summary": "Want to ask this girl in lecture section out.  But, I have zero experience with women and I'm scared as fuck."}
{"id": "t3_15m4fe", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Reading too much into it?", "post": "I've been eating at this restaurant recently. I got the same waitress twice and I noticed that she's been flirting with me. I figured she just wanted a good tip but even when she wasn't my waitress, she comes out of her way to talk to me. The last time I went there, she jokingly said I was stalking her since I go there when she's working then she said I have to take her out to dinner. Later, I was talking to her about some promotion at the restaurant and when she was talking she kept getting closer and she kept bumping my leg slightly with her leg. \n\nAnyways, I had to leave early and I didn't say bye but the group I with said she told them to tell me she said bye. She seems pretty young and goes to college. I'm 20. So what do you guys think?", "summary": "Been going to a restaurant, confused whether or not waitress is interested or reading too much into it."}
{"id": "t3_23atbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Finally, he (22/m) kissed me (24/f), now I want to feel that spark.", "post": "This past weekend, a guy (22/m) I (24/f) have been friends with (and crushed on for months) finally kissed me (amongst other things), and we had that \"I've wanted to do that since September\" talk. So needless to say, I'm ecstatic.\n\nHowever, due to past relationship blues, it is impossible for me to feel that giddy little spark when I'm with him.\n\nAbout three years ago, my long-term boyfriend of four years broke up with me, and I didn't date for a long time cause I felt too numb. Since then though, I've had two other boyfriends whom I've felt just 'meh' about, so I guess feeling that spark didn't mean much to me. But now, I crave to feel that little tickle in my tummy when he holds my hand, and that flutter when he looks at me. I know it's possible, because I have wanted this for so long, and he makes me happy. I know he is getting those feelings, he kept smiling from ear to ear every now and then. When I asked him what was up, he would just tell me he's happy.\n\nI'm afraid I'm still numb, and I don't know how to get over it.\n\nWe didn't have sex, but we did fool around. And I get that \"mmmmm\" feeling when I think of what we did, but I want the romantic one.\n\nThis is also my first interracial, inter-cultural relationship. Maybe I'm scared? Nervous? Either way, I want to feel what I know I DO feel and CAN feel. \n\nAny suggestions on how to overcome this and start to fall in love again, in the proper way? With butterflies and shy looks and tingles? It's all I can think of. \n\nThank you.", "summary": "I want to feel that 'spark' with a new guy, but due to previous relationship heartache, I'm afraid I can't."}
{"id": "t3_hy52x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dad trying to win custody of his children. Help with resources?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I have a co-worker who wants to fight for the custody of his children. Back story:\n\nSo my co-worker, let's call him, D, has been divorced for 4 years and has 4 children with his ex wife. We work in a large retail chain here in California and currently his wages are garnished into oblivion due to child support.  If he were a dead beat dad I'd be all for this, this is not the case. His ex-wife is unemployed and living off of his child support and welfare. She doesn't care how well the children do in school, buys them frivolous items with child support money, and has pretty much brainwashed them against their father, D. The kids think that the money comes from the mother and that D has never contributed anything towards their well-being. Meanwhile D is struggling to survive with the $300 a month he has left after child support each month.\n\nWhen D told me about his predicament I offered to dig up some info on what he can do. Sadly I have hit a brick wall.  I once heard of a non-profit a while back which hires lawyers to fight for father's rights a while back but for the life of me I can not remember their name.  I need some help here Reddit, if you can.  His ultimate goal is to win custody of his children, but I think he'd temporarily settle for an adjustment to his child support.\n\nHe currently lives in a house with his girlfriend, has been for some time now, and has a steady job. A job, which as shitty as it is, he has been with for over 5 years. He doesn't do drugs but he believe the wife smokes weed for non-medicinal use (I personally could care less for this but it is, of course, illegal here.) He's overall a great guy, the kind of guy who would go out of his way for you. \n\nSo Reddit detectives, can you help?", "summary": "Dads deserve rights."}
{"id": "t3_4jltw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me M31 Her F28 went out with a girl now she barley replies", "post": "We had matched on tinder, started talking a lot like all night and day. Set up a date for Friday everything was going great, lots of laughing talking about deep stuff, family, our pasts etc. \n\nGet to the next place as we sit down her phone rings, it's her best friend who's drunk and fighting with her boyfriend. She asked the friend if she'll be ok for a little bit since we just sat down. Her friend says yes, so we order drinks. \n\nThis whole time I'm thinking this is some bullshit excuse to end the date, but I kept thinking why wouldn't she want to go right away? We continue laughing and talking, finish our drinks and we leave. We get out to the parking lot and I put my arm around her and she reaches up to hold my hand that's around her while we walk to my vehicle. During the drive she says multiple times that we'll do this again. \n\nWe get to her place I get out with her and we hug she says well do this again. Then we kissed, not like make out but like 3 short kisses. \n\nI text her 2 hours later saying that I had a lot of fun with her and I hope we can do it again soon. She replied the next morning saying she did too, and that she drank a bunch of wine with her friend and they cried it out. She also thanked me for being cool with her having to leave early to get her friend. We talked a little after that, now nothing... \n\nA little bit of back story on her, recently divorced mom of 2, exhusband was verbally and mildly physically abusive. She told me it would take her a bit to get use to the way I talk to her and treat her. \n\nWhat do I do? I've never met a girl like her, she scares the hell out of me, but in a good way.", "summary": "went out with a girl now she barley talks"}
{"id": "t3_1cmrfo", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Looking for advice on a new pair of running shoes.", "post": "Hello! I was hoping to get some input on a new pair of shoes to start running again. Its been about 2 years since I've done any serious running and I feel like there are a ton of different shoes out there and when I go to a store they are just trying to sell me whatever they have on the shelf.\n\nSo here is a little info about me. I am 27 and currently weigh about 235lbs. im a little over 6' tall and my shoe size is about 11-11 1/2 (US Size) Ive tried Freeruns but they did not feel good and I am hoping someone has some other suggestions.\n\nI do not have any restrictions as far as like abnormal width or anything wrong with my feet that would prevent any specific type of shoes. Just two normal feet that need to hit the pavement.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Need advice on a good pair of running shoes"}
{"id": "t3_g665p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did the Internet and modern communication prevent WW3?", "post": "At the beginning of the year war was looming between North and South Korea. China was allied with the North and America was allied with the South. Since then most of the news regarding the impending doom was over shadowed with the tragedies happening in Libya, Australia and Japan. Everything was in place for war, 2 nuclear super powers on supposed opposite sides about to defend their allies until death, so what happened? Was it because of America and China economic ties that have only been made possible through the advent of instantaneous communication through out the world? I need to know if my train of thought is correct.", "summary": "Did America and China prevent WW3 (starting with N and S Korea) by being so reliant on each other through trade only made possible through the Internet and phones."}
{"id": "t3_3rebuf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33F] have been with my boyfriend [31M] for 2 years. He cheated on me and we are going on a holiday at the end of the month. What should I do?", "post": "I have been with my bf for almost 2 years. Recently I discovered that he cheated on me for about 3 months after we had a huge row (The woman he cheated with told me. He doesn't know I know. He had lied to her and when she found out about me, she dumped him.) We have planned a weekend romantic trip to Prague to save our relationship (before I knew about his affair). \n\nI love him and I am ready to work on our relationship but I am afraid that he still has feelings for her and her breaking things off would cause him to resent me. He still sees her almost every weekend (they went to university together and he still spends every weekend with that group; including her). She's very beautiful, extremely intelligent and has a very respectable job (I looked her up on Facebook). They speak the same elite university language, shares similar interests... \n\nI am feeling very insecure even though he is still with me. I made sure that I see him every week but he has never said he loves me. I left my previous relationship for him and went through tough times for him. I love him very much and I am willing to overlook this for the sake of keeping him but I'm scared that he would grow to resent me after this paragon dumped him because of me even though I am here first and I am the one he is with now. I am also scared that he would break up with me to go after her again. This time without me holding him back.\n\nI'm a mess of insecurities and I can't or don't know how to confront him. Please help!", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me but was dumped by the other woman. I am afraid that he would resent me because of it. Will he?"}
{"id": "t3_3t2jb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] need to tell my choir director [30somethingM] that we're tired of him picking his favourite for solos.", "post": "I sing in a small choir of 14 people. I act as the representative for the individuals of the choir. Usually this is just to represent our group at the board meetings. It's also under my position's description to bring any comments or concerns to my director so we can keep the rehearsals as a positive environment.\n\nOur group has always had a focus on inclusivity and learning. We sing a wide range of music and have singers of many different backgrounds and skill levels. We're about a month away from a show and my director has been assigning the solos. We all give them a try and he picks who he thinks fits best. One of the girls who is very talented has almost half the solos. She's a brilliant singer, but some of the choristers are upset that we aren't diversifying and sharing the talents of the other members as well. \n\nI'm struggling with how to bring this up to him in a positive way. I've known him for many years and I know he can be incredibly sensitive. I wanted to discuss this in person before or after rehearsal, but he carpools with one of the choir members and I think it's inappropriate to have the discussion in front of them. I've settled on an email, but I can't figure out how to phrase it. Any help or advice will be welcomed.", "summary": "I act as a representative for my choir and need to tell my director people are annoyed with him picking favourites for solos in our inclusive group."}
{"id": "t3_40xa50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my friend/ex [20 F] says I've changed", "post": "So I've known Tabby(fake name) over a year now. We met at a Halloween party and we added each other on facebook. She had a boyfriend at the time but I was only interested in being friends so that was fine. So after meeting we hang out alot at my place, we smoke and have fun. Tabby, Her boyfriend and I most of the time. After a month or so I find out she likes me but still loves her boyfriend. After some weird weeks she breaks up with him, we hook up just as friends but it felt like more. She eventually goes back to him and then breaks up with him again on new years. And we hook up again, then finally after 2 weeks she goes back to him again and cuts off ties with me completely. So 8 months pass and I find out they broke up again, I'm interested in getting my friend back. We talk for 2 months or so before we finally start to date. It was perfect or so I thought, after a while she starts acting distant and after a month of officially dating she ends it. I really just want to be friends again, but she says I've changed. I think I've been acting the same as I always have. She's still in love with her ex, which I get but I don't understand why she seems to have this animosity towards me. \n\nI guess my question is, have I truly changed? I really can't tell. Is she just acting this way towards me because we've just recently broke up? I just want to preserve the friendship but it seems like she's completely done with me as a friend as well. I just want to add that she's bipolar and depression, and I've always been and always will be patient with her in those aspects.\n   \nAlso we still talk a lot as friends but it's definitely weird how she's acting\n\nSorry for any missing detail/grammatical errors, at work", "summary": "Dated friend, now I just want to be friends like normal but she says I've changed."}
{"id": "t3_38wai0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [25 M] had a personal crisis due to online dating.", "post": "I'm kind of a shy guy. It really takes me awhile to warm up to meeting new people, friends, potential SO's, etc. and generally they take awhile to warm up to me. This is fine, I'm not super gregarious and it just takes a little while longer for people to get to know me. In college, this didn't really cause any issues with dating, you're around so many people all the time - you get to spend a lot of time with everyone and they get to know you a lot easier. I could easily find common interests and date someone after growing an organic relationship.\n\nHowever, post-college the only places where I naturally meet people with common interests are my work place, my hobbies and immediate friend circle. None of these are places where I want to insert relationship drama and so I ended up turning to online dating to meet new people. \n\nSo here's the problem: I think my personality type doesn't really fit with the format of online dating at all and I don't really know what to do about it. First off, it's hard for me to have any interest in strangers on the internet. Occasionally I do really gel with people and have great messages back and forth, but when a date happens I just don't feel like I have the ability to relax and be personable in such a short window of time. I'm either kind of aloof/too quiet or if its a really promising date, I feel like I'm under the spot light to make an impression in a short period of time, but this isn't normal for me, so I end up acting out - constantly trying to be funny, I'm super nervous, and other generally undesirable behavior. I've heard feedback that I'm \"too challenging\", \"hard to read\", \"intimidating\", but I just feel like if I had more time I would eventually relax around this new person and they would be more interested.\n\nSo what should I do? I yam what I yam and don't want to change, but should I approach it differently?", "summary": "I feel like my personality type isn't really cut out for online dating and I'm not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2h9j61", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting Amazon with my credit card.", "post": "So about a month ago I was browsing Amazon for a new iPad case (since the ones from Apple are like $50 more than they need to be) and a thing popped up asking if I wanted to try Prime. I thought why not, it'll get here in like two days. \n\nSo yay, I get my case in a couple days. But going to check my bank balance today, I notice I'm $90 short, and it's been payed to Amazon. I immediately think my account's been hacked, since that's been going around lately, and it recently happened to my Dad. \n\nAfter 20 minutes of terror/furiousness, I go and tell a friend what's happened, and he says, \"Have you ever signed up for Prime?\" and I say just for the free month. But here's the catch... If you don't cancel your free trial membership, Amazon will ASSUME you want prime, and pay for it with the credit card on your account without your permission! LIKE WTF AMAZON!?!?\nFortunately, this must happen to a lot of people, because I spent no more than 30 sec on the phone and they said they'd send it right back. But I still have no more trust in them.", "summary": "didn't cancel a free trial for Prime, Amazon stole $90 from me assuming I still wanted it. (which I don't)"}
{"id": "t3_34ay02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Snooped on boyfriends facebook due to worries, found what I didn't want to. Not sure how to proceed?", "post": "Side note: It's taken me a lot to open up and trust since my previous relationship ended messy.\n\nSo I've been with this guy for a few months and everythings been fantastic, due to work I only get to spend weekends with him. This weekend has been amazing like every other weekend. Get back to reality, so to speak, and he's been messaging less as the days go by, which has triggered my panicky fight or flight mode. I know he's for some reason saved his log in details for facebook (it's a right bitch isn't it? Yes, I also know that I have broken his trust, but if I wasn't worried I wouldn't have.) so my worries get on top of me and I log in. He's been speaking with a mate saying that he's going to break up with me? but he hasn't yet as it's not the right time? From what I have read, he has only mentioned having more money to do things once he's single. Not sure if this is his only reason? Don't know whether to confront him or wait?\n\nAlso he doesn't seem to be answering messages or my one call today.\n\nAny advice is appreciated. Sorry for the messy post, a little all over the place at the moment", "summary": "Boyfriend being distant, snooped on facebook. Saw messages he wants to break up. Currently not talking to me. Unsure how to proceeed. Super upset."}
{"id": "t3_4n38xi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(25m) write her(23f) a letter?", "post": "6 months ago me, and my ex broke up. We had been dating on and off for 4.5 years, most of it being long distance. We had some problems early on that kinda set the stage for both of us having trust issues, and we never really got over those since I was gone all the time. This time we broke up for good. She blocked my number, and all social media except for email. Her reasoning for blocking me was because she wouldn't be able to get over me if we remained in contact.\n\nI messed up a few times and contacted her, and generally she would get pretty upset, but eventually we started contacting eachother more frequently. She would always come to me when she felt bad, and even visited me multiple times. However, when I do this its very wrong, and \"not respecting of her\". This last time she wouldn't even let me call her on the phone, when I was very bummed, and just wanted to hear her voice. This lead to a big argument, and I admit I got out of hand. She blocked me on email too, leaving me with no way to contact her.\n\nI know this is what she wants, and I'm trying to respect that, but I miss her so bad. I don't want our last conversation to have ended badly.\n\nI'm considering writing her a letter thanking her for all the good times, and everything she's done for me. I also wanted to apologize one last time, and say that hopefully I'd be able to see her again someday.\n\nIs this a bad idea? Do you think this will upset her? I in no way would have the intentions of trying to convince her that we should date again, I just didn't wanna end it on a bad note. I just don't know if this will come off as creepy, or anything. Let me know what you guys think. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "ex blocked me on all social media, and electronic communications, don't want to leave things off on a bad note, want to write an apology/thankful letter. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_2t8tw3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking too much when I'm nervous", "post": "Background on me: Dude. Introvert. I've had huge groups of friends before but only keep a few I can truly call my friends no matter what. I've experienced bullying before at school by students and also one teacher got in on it and I was deeply traumatized by it. I left that school.\n\nI'm starting a new job and again and struggling to maintain relationships. I'm training with a bunch of people at the same time. It's like school. All the trainees have gotten to know each other real well and already have formed cliques. There are a few that talk to me but I still don't belong to any group. It sucks to be alone. I wanted to belong so I don't stand out and be a target for bullying. Although, I'm an introvert but I know how to make friends and communicate in a professional setting. It's just that I give a bad first impression because I am always nervous (and lack confidence) about meeting new people in non professional work situations.\n\nI was so stressed about my situation that I decided I should talk to my boss about it. She asked me how everything is doing and I said that my trainees are doing well. At this point, I was so nervous to talk about my situation and be vulnerable. I kept repeating in my head how I would say what I want to say. \n\nThen I told her that I was feeling a bit of an outcast in class. No one really acknowledged me. She almost finished what I was going to say and meant she saw what was happening. I was glad but still nervous. She said to hang in there and things will change because they are still adjusting to me being there. Here is where I  FU. Due to my nerves, I told her that I kept hearing voices in my head when I meant that I was talking to myself in my head to keep myself calm about things. At that point, I knew it. I FU. That's not something I should say out loud. I'm not schizophrenic, NOOOOOOO!...    : (", "summary": "Afraid of getting bullied at work so I talked to boss but accidentally tell her that I hear voices in my head and now thinks I have schizophrenia. Worst part is, I think my boss told my colleagues about it and I'm more of an island now than ever."}
{"id": "t3_1fyrne", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can i stop being LOW MAINTENANCE around him?", "post": "Yeah you read that right. I guess i am one of those people who can just sit and kind of day dream away when i'm hanging out with my boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but i can still be really shy with him and afraid to speak my mind for fear of rejection or something, even though he would never and always actively encourages me to speak out. \n\nBut basically a lot of time i feel like a dud around him, like i'm not entertaining enough. He always wants me to play video games with him and i want to too to connect more with him, but i HATE losing and he is literally the best at every single video game, so you see how that works out. He'll ask me what i want to do, and all i can ever say is 'i dunno'. It sucks and i feel like he will grow to resent me for being boring, which is my biggest fear actually. And its not like we really have money to spend and we live in the hottest most humid and boring town.", "summary": "fear boyfriend will come to resent me for not ever knowing what to do and not always joining in his activities. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_n1zx3", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "It's been almost 2 months and I'm still hurting so badly. How can I stop caring?", "post": "We had some time without talking or seeing each other, but probably not enough. It was kind of hard because we're part of the same friend group. We hooked up a lot after the breakup, but I put a stop to that. We manage to hang out now without incident (most of the time), but I can't deny that I still don't have strong feelings for him. \n\nWe came to the conclusion a week or so ago that part of the reason our relationship didn't seem to work out in the first place was because we never really had the chance to be friends. We met, and started dating. There was never really an opportunity to get to know each other without any pressure or expectations. We figured we try and be friends for now and maybe maybe, if it works out, get back together later on. \n\nThe problem is, I'm having a really hard time seeing him as a friend... I really want to try this, but I can't seem to stop over-analyzing EVERYTHING. I feel jealous about every girl he talks to, even though I'm talking to plenty of guys. \n\nHow do I stop caring so much about everything he says (or doesn't say)? I just want to be okay on my own, and show him I'm strong, and don't need him.", "summary": "Been 2 months since breakup, we're trying to be friends with hopes for future, want to stop caring so much!!"}
{"id": "t3_14mufb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [28m] has sudden seeming lack of interest in intimacy with me, [26f].", "post": "Hi Reddit. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and are living together. Recently, intimacy issues have become a concern (especially within the past 2 weeks) and I'm not sure what to think or if this relationship should continue.\n\nI should start out with the simple facts: I have an average drive. His is, I believe, exceptionally low. He's on Prozac (his prescription says it needs to be taken twice a day, but I'm not sure of the dosage level) and has been since he was a teenager. Going in to the relationship, I knew he was sexually conservative; he made it clear to me he'd slept with few girls and had only done so with the girls he considered to be \"serious\" relationships with. Initially, he had a very high drive, as couples usually seem to in early relationships. It eventually tapered off to about once a week (sometimes more but almost never less; there have only been a couple times we went about 2 weeks without, both were when he had physical health issues that prevented anything from occurring). While intimacy once a week isn't ideal for me, it was absolutely a compromise I could make and something I could be happy enough with.\n\nMysteriously for the last 2 weeks, there's been no sex, and not intimacy at all for at least a week. I've talked to him about this, as I have several times before, and I get the same response of \"it isn't on the forefront of my mind\" and that he'd like me to initiate things more often, insisting that he'd never turn me down. I've told him a few times that I'm extremely scared of being rejected and since he already isn't particularly interested in sex, it's hard for me to be confident enough to try to get things started.\n\nIf this were anyone else, I'd say the sudden lack of intimacy was an indicator of a pending breakup. However, he's been just as affectionate as always (he's very affectionate when it comes to the non-sexual cuddling, the I-love-you's, kisses, etc) and has still kept up with talk that leads me to believe he thinks we have a future together.", "summary": "Boyfriend is having a sudden seeming lack of interest in intimacy and there have been issues regarding this before, although I thought we had come to a nonverbal agreement. What could be going on here?"}
{"id": "t3_3g2gkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my partner [29/M] 6 months, says he can't trust me because I asked his mom how old he was.", "post": "My partners mother is coming to visit us in three weeks and her and I haven't met in person yet, just on skype and over facebook. \n\nMy partner and I had a running joke that he was 36 but would never tell me his real age. I mentioned several times that I would ask his mom but when I finally did he got very angry and said it was a shady thing to do and that he could never trust me again. \n\nHe hadn't made it clear prior to now that asking his mom this question would hurt him and effect our relationship, otherwise I wouldn't have gone through with it. \n\nI became embarrassed by the fact that I didnt have an exact answer when people asked me his age, and often would guess. The reason he is so upset is because I couldve \"asked his friends or checked his file at work\". I feel the latter to be the shadiest option of all and don't understand what I have done wrong here.\n\nWhen he asked what his mom and I discussed I told him immediately (same day it happened).", "summary": "Partner feels betrayed because I asked his mom how old he is."}
{"id": "t3_lw4r0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I could really use some help trying to figure out how to sort out my student loans.", "post": "Long story short, my parents handled all of my student loans. In some ways it worked out great for me, in others it totally screwed me. \n\nI'm now trying to get things all straightened out for myself so that I can take care of it. Problem is, I don't have their documents and information regarding all of the loans taken out in my name -- and neither do they.\n\nWhen I finished college I remember being emailed a site that seemed to aggregate my loans, but the amount owed was about $20k more than this \"myfedloan.org\" site is showing. I am assuming this is because of the different types of loans taken out, and one site is not showing them all correctly?\n\nAlso, neither of these sites showed me what I had already paid in a fashion that actually made sense to me. It looked as if NOTHING was paid off, but I know that SOME has been.\n\nMyfedloan.org seems to be keen on sending me a bill in the next month, but I'm worried this isn't for the full amount I'm owing, since this other site (which I can't remember the name of) showed me owing so much more.\n\nI've been trying to figure out what this other site that the school emailed me was, but they recently overhauled their email service to work with Windows email and it deleted a TON of my saved emails. I'm an idiot for not backing it up but oh well that's done with, and I am an idiot for a lot of other things.", "summary": "How do I figure out what I owe? Is this Myfedloan.org site legit, and is it all inclusive of what I actually owe? Oh god what do I do? Is there a site that actually makes sense of all of my loans in very layman's terms?"}
{"id": "t3_irlo2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, is Freedom of Speech really a \"good thing\"?", "post": "I would like to get a lively debate going if possible on the merits of Freedom of Speech. I am a Canadian, and we have limited Freedom of Speech up here (Ex: If someone is preaching hate or spreading hate literature, they can be found culpable under the law of a hate crime). It seems to work fine, and I don't feel like my rights are being violated or i'm not allowed to express my views, while simultaneously I don't have to be afraid of my neighbor distributing Klan masks or the local Nazi sympathizer of passing out hate pamphlets to my kids. \n\nI've encountered Americans who go on and on about the merits of Freedom of Speech, but in personal experience I notice that the individuals who invoke FoS the most are people who have something stupid or something hateful to say (Westboro Baptist Church, the KKK etc.). Correct me if i'm wrong, but to me FoS in the US seems to me more like a shield to protect the wrongful, the hurtful and the moronic more than the \"rights\" or Americans. It seems almost akin to those who run around expressing their second amendment rights.\n\nTherefore, I ask you to please explain to me, a Canadian, why FoS is really a \"good thing\"?", "summary": "Explain to me why FoS is a good thing, when all it appears to be to me is a shield where the ignorant hide behind."}
{"id": "t3_4xy0ca", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By almost losing my entire tongue", "post": "This didn't happen today it was a lot of years back but it's still TIFU worthy for sure.\n\nI had just gotten out of my third grade class and it was a cold winter day (I live in Canada it was really cold.)\n\nMy friends were supposed to pick me up but they happened to be a few minutes late so I calmly waited and leaned my lower head onto a great big metal pole beside the stairs of our school.  \n\nI don't remember if I dozed off or if I just decided \"hey I wonder what this pole tastes like!\" but before I knew almost my entire tongue was stuck to the damn pole.  Panic mode engaged.  I tried to pull it off but my tongue must of been welded to that thing cause it wasn't budging.  I didn't know at that age that you should get someone to pour warm water on it to get it off so I thought that if I didn't get it off now it would be forever stuck and I would die stuck to that pole.\n\nI took one deep breath and pulled as hard as I could.  With a brief rush of unimaginable pain I opened my eyes looking at the pole to see the tip of my tongue still there.  \n\nI look for my friends and find them.  I made a \"help\" sound (because my tongue was practically numb).  My friend looked at me in the eyes and says \"what's wrong?\" I open my mouth and say \"my tongue is gone!\" (Well only the tip was but I wasn't very smart). My friend grabs his mom and drops me off at my parents.  I wanted to go to the hospital a lot but my parents didn't quite realize how much tongue I lost so they thought it was minor.\n\nIn the end my tongue is a little bit \"flatter\" than it was before and I can't taste anything at the tip of it.", "summary": "I leaned my head against pole, got my tongue stuck, ripped off the tip of my tongue, can't taste anything there."}
{"id": "t3_29sxmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(21f) went on birth control mainly for my ex(21) who broke up with me(after 8 months) the day I was supposed to start taking it.", "post": "I think it's making it harder to get over my breakup because it's kinda of changing my moods a lot. I've tried getting rid of everything else that reminds me of him. Every night when I take the pill I think of how I'm doing something that was supposed to be for him. I'm not sure how I feel about what it's doing to me(body/hormones and moods) now that I have no SO. I had heard it makes you nauseous and moody and he promised he would stay by my side when I felt sick or sad(when we were together) then he just left. (more back story of relationship in other posts).", "summary": "Started to take birth control for boyfriend who broke up with me the day I was supposed to start it!"}
{"id": "t3_tqnh7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Relationship Problems?", "post": "Ok, so i am a 20 year old guy, currently dating a 20 year old girl.  We both go to the same college, live in the same town, etc.  We started dating in February, and its been really nice.\n\nBut, that's kind of the problem right now.  There's no excitement, which I know is just the 'honeymoon period being over', or however you'd like to phrase that.  Don't worry, there's more.\n\nWe've never talked about anything serious (politics, religion, the future...), just because it's never really come up. It's been nice and relaxed, but I want more and I'm not sure if she does.  I know I need to talk to her about that, but how do I bring it up?\n\nThe impetus for all of these feelings is.... another girl.  Who I like and think about a lot.  She's 21, also goes to this college, and is the same major as I am. I probably started getting attracted to her because I helped her through breaking up with this guy who was kind of a tool.  And now I've determined this - Given the magical ability to alter reality, I'd rather be dating the second girl than the girl I currently am dating.  \n\nI don't know if she likes me, but I think so.  I'm just feeling weird about all this because, well... its a weird situation.", "summary": "Currently dating Girl #1, have a crush on Girl #2.  Girl #1 likes me, I think Girl #2 does too.  Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1wply0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) screwed up a friendship with a coworker (23f) by rushing. How do I repair this?", "post": "A few weeks ago, I met a beautiful woman whom I was instantly attracted to. After spending some time working together -- both of us new hires -- my liking only grew; I admired her for her professionalism on the job and her fiery disposition off it. In truth, I created of image of her that was more like whom I wanted her to be, than who she really is; frankly, I'm enamored of both, or either.\n\nWe were physical for a night of coworker's drinks at the bar, and afterward she told me was dealing with a recent break-up. I've been a rebound before, so this was hardly new territory for me.\n\nBut I continued to court her, and it came to the point where she told me, very gently, to back off. I have done so, allowing myself a couple of days of melancholy.\n\nBut I fear I stepped too far: she has been gloomy these past few days. Of course, there are many explanations for this; she is overworked, she had the break-up, and she is undergoing dramatic life changes.\n\nI know my best route is to keep my distance for the time, and probably forever after that unless she gives me signs (which I must take truthfully instead of hopefully).\n\nBut I cannot help but think I am partly the cause of her stress. Is there any way beyond general congeniality to help speed her recovery?\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "Created a false impression in my head, moved too fast."}
{"id": "t3_4k8ag0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19m] Never been on a date before due to religious reasons. Going on my first date tomorrow. Need some help with what I should do tomorrow.", "post": "Hey, guys, so I've never been on a date before because I used to be very strict about religion, but now I'm not as strict. So I'm not at all sure on how dating work, how to plan for a date or what to do on a date. If someone has a link I can read up on, that would be awesome! \n\nAnyways, that wasn't the point of this post. I wasn't 100% sure what to even do on this date, but here's what i came up with: pick her(she's 18) up and go laser tag, grab a bite to eat after and then head to the Adler Planetarium.\n\nI decided laser tag because she one mentioned how she always wanted to go laser tagging. And for eating, I don't know were to take her yet. Anyone here from Chicago that has a good place to take her, please do tell :). And finally the Adler Planetarium is just a location in Chicago where there's just an amazing night view of Chicago. I was thinking maybe just sitting or walking around there. Maybe just sit on the hood of my car and talk or something? This is where I'm lost at... what can I do here? I really want to show her the view, but don't know how to. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Never been on a date before, need some advice on if my date plan sounds good."}
{"id": "t3_1ekbi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just realized my (f18) current boyfriend (m21) is similar to my ex boyfriend...what do I do?", "post": "Okay reddit, I've seen a few similar traits of my current boyfriend of 2 months (whom I adore) that my ex boyfriend (whom I loathe) had. There are the general things, which at first I could overlook, such as wearing silver jewlery (necklaces and rings). Then I started to notice little noises he made with his mouth that were so similar to what my ex boyfriend used to make. It just instantly sends me back to my ex boyfriend when I notice these things now, and I don't know what to do. My ex was an abusive alcoholic, who raped me numerous times (including taking my virginity) and blamed me all the time throughout the relationship before I called it off. So I really hate having flashbacks with my current boyfriend. Can anyone relate, or help me?", "summary": "Current boyfriend similar to ex, who was abusive. Now get flashbacks and scares me when I notice these things."}
{"id": "t3_4jndyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] of 3 months stopped talking to me [20M] as often now that we're long distance.", "post": "We've been together for three months but I recently left our city to go back home and study abroad for a total of 2 months.  Until almost a week before I left we would talk and text often most days and it wouldn't take long for either of us to reply, but since then I would send her a message and it can take upwards of 6 hours for a reply and she often cancels our Skype \"dates.\" \n\nI understand that she can be a busy person and I don't want to be smothering, but at the same time I feel that our level of communication is not enough for me to be satisfied in a long term relationship.  How do I express my concerns without coming off as creepy/possessive?", "summary": "My gf and I don't talk as much as I'd like, but I don't know how to talk to her about it"}
{"id": "t3_2tgxr2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Anti-vax family member", "post": "I'm not sure what to do so I need some advice. My sister in law who I have become quite close with is a strong anti-vaxer. She is also vegan and gluten free and is very strong minded on how while it is a personal decision everyone else should be too. Anyway, she has a 2 year old daughter and I have a 2 year old son, they are best friends. I also have a 6 month old daughter. We go to the park and museums and do a lot of activities together, but considering that we live in Southern California where there is a pretty serious measles outbreak going on, I am nervous. They even went to Disneyland the week after the outbreak started. She is very closed minded and refuses to change her stance on vaccines. Her daughter hasn't been to a dr since she was an infant. I am worried about my daughter since she is too young to get the measles vaccine. \n\nDo I stop spending time with them? Do I only allow my son around her and not my daughter? I'd feel terrible cutting them off not only because I love them and she is my friend but because my son really loves spending time with his cousin. Am I just blowing smoke? My husband thinks I'm making a big deal over nothing and is a non issue.  It is also his baby sister and she can do no wrong. What are your thoughts?   I really don't want to risk my daughters health but how do I not ruin our relationship?", "summary": "Live in SoCal and my sister in law won't vaccinate her toddler and I have a toddler and a 6 month old. Should I cut ties until my little one is old enough to be vaccinated? How do I do this and maintain our friendship? Am I over reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2jh7m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my roommate [21 F] are just not getting along. Advice?", "post": "My roommate and I are in a dorm room, and before I go to a resident assistant or director about this, I wanted to ask for advice.\nI've only known her for 2 months, and at first things were fine. But she has a boyfriend who's living only two floors above us and he's always. here. Always. Now, I'm ok with it to a certain degree; once I need to go to sleep, he needs to leave. I was sexually assaulted last semester (she knows this) and he's not staying here.\n\nLast night it was past midnight and I asked him to leave. I went in the bathroom to brush my teeth and he said 'i'm not staying here anymore i'm sick of getting kicked out at night' and now she's angry at me. She's normally so chatty that I have to ask her to please quiet down a bit because I'm trying to get work done and can't talk or she's trying to have a conversation with me when I'm half asleep. Now she's pissed even though this was our agreement in the first place!!\n\nNot to mention that she texts me often asking for the room so they can have sex in it, and last week they didn't tell me because my mom was visiting and they thought I was out, so my mom and I go to my dorm to drop stuff off and ta da mom, meet my roommate and her boyfriend, pardon the nudity.\n\nIt's gotten incredibly frustrating, I've helped her edit her essays (english isnt her first language), I've bought her ice cream just because, I'm quiet when I'm here, but she's being incredibly selfish! Am I imagining this? Is it not that bad and I should suck it up?", "summary": "My roommate keeps letting her boyfriend stay late, she's interfering with my sleep/studies"}
{"id": "t3_47zm49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] texted another girl and I'm afraid of losing my GF [19/F]", "post": "So I live with my GF(19) for about 7 months now. 4 months ago I texted a girl(18) for a maximum of 1 week because I wanted to talk to someone else than my GF. \n\nJust casual texting, no sexting or something like that. \n\nMy GF is the really jealous type and I'm afraid the other girl will somehow send her some Screenshots of our chat to destroy my relationship(1,5 years) even though she has a BF and I never did anything bad to her.\n\nI have blocked her, her best friend and her BF just to be sure. Am I just being paranoid? Will she try to destroy my relationship?\n\nIf I tell this to my GF she will dump me forever and I love her infinitely.\n\nPlease help.", "summary": "Did a horrible thing and I'm afraid of losing my GF."}
{"id": "t3_4n42ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21 m) was dumped by my girlfriend who I had a kid with after 2 years.", "post": "It's been a month now and she's moved on but I still love her and it's hard for me to accept. I wish I could just move on myself but being the way I am, it's hard to meet new people and open up. Our son is 8 months old so things in the relationship moved rather quickly. I can help but feel worthless over this. I guess I'm not sure what to do, I've been trying and trying but every time I go to pick up my son it just gets harder and harder to see her. I'm afraid my son will think of her new boyfriend as his dad instead of me, even though I'm doing my best to see him overt day and take him over night. It just hurts so fucking much. I guess I don't know who to turn to to get these feelings out so I guess I'll just post it here and hope for the best. I'm here asking if you guys have any advice for moving on in my situation, considering my son and everything.", "summary": "girlfriend left me after two years, we have an 8 month old son together, she moved onto a new boyfriend, I'm struggling with my feelings for her. Need advice for moving on considering the situation."}
{"id": "t3_ogrnz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A full year after graduating from college, I finally have a job offer. However, in order to qualify, I have to spend ~$4500 on equipment. Is it a bad idea?", "post": "Through a connection I made in college, I have been set up with the opportunity to work as the Creative Director for a new film and video production company. However, the man offering the position does not want to pay for cameras, mics, or the computer we would need to edit the projects, as he thinks that anyone he hires to do the job will have all of that stuff on his own. However, for me this is not the case.\n\nI did the math last night, and I can get a good quality camera with a basic set of equipment (shotgun mic, tripod, bag, etc) and a quality editing computer for approximately $4500. I can finance the computer through apple, reducing that solid figure by half and spreading the rest out over 12 months. I can also manage to pull together around $1000 of my own personal money to dedicate to the investment, leaving the rest to be paid for by credit cards (which I would have to apply for). Is this crazy? In my line of work I will need all of this equipment anyway, but I haven't gotten any of it yet because I could not afford it outright.", "summary": "If I rack up about $4500 in debt I can get a well paying job in the profession for which I went to school. Is this a stupid idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1g1wen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What are some things I [f 27]should discuss with my SO[M 28] before we move in together?", "post": "Recently my boyfriend and I have started talking about moving in together. In our specific case, we're both in our late 20s and have been dating for about 6 months. We have both been married and cohabitated before. He owns a house and I rent an apartment. We both work fulltime, though I make less than he does. We both admit this is kind of soon, but also kind of want to go for it anyway. We're going  sit down and talk about it in earnest later this week.\n\nHere are some reasons why it sounds like a really good idea to us:\n\n-I have pretty much been living there every day for two months already.\n-We communicate effectively.\n-We have already dealt with some gross, embarrassing, and stressful situations together.\n-It would save us money that we could put toward some of the travelling we want to do together\n-It would be so much easier on our pets\n\nHere are some things I've already put on my list of stuff to talk about:\n\n-How to integrate/train our pets\n-How much each person can reasonably contribute financially to shared living expenses\n-How we want to divide up chores\n\nI am sure there are a bunch of other things we should add to this list though. I want to do this right!", "summary": "So, Reddit, what should you talk about and consider with your SO before you move in together? Tell me everything, specific to my situation or otherwise!"}
{"id": "t3_1gvf6u", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Going to the U.S. for my first time, any advice for activities? (NY, DT, TR, CHGO)", "post": "My father and I are going to travel to the U.S. this summer. He has been in the states a couple of times before, but I've never been there. We are going to arrive in New York the 19.07.13 and we will have our departure in Chicago the 29.07.13. We are going to rent a car to get us to each of the states, so we will be able to visit other locations  if so is suggested. [Here] is our itinerary, this is only a suggestion to how we could travel, and we have only booked hotels for NY and CHGO. So if someone suggest us to visit other locations, we could change our plans.", "summary": "Please give me and my father suggestions to which activities/facilities we could visit while we are in the states."}
{"id": "t3_14rvqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm wondering if our relationship (23M, 21F) is normal.", "post": "My boyfriend (23) and I (21) have been together for about a year and a half, and recently we have both agreed that it feels awkward to say \"I love you.\" However, we're totally comfortable with one another. I mean things like rating our burps, farts, and other bodily functions. In another contrast, we hate seeing PDA, so we rarely do more than hold hands in public but are all for making out if nobody is around. I don't know many other people who are in relationships, so I wanted to know if this is a normal thing that couples at our age do.", "summary": "We act casual like we're married or something."}
{"id": "t3_4u3lt6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me[21M] and girl i'm dating [22F] just had a nice long talk and she doesn't want a relationship, but also says she like us being together..", "post": "So it's really what the title says really. \nWe had a long talk as we have been arguing for a little while and she took some time to herself to \"figure things out\" not just to do with us, but her entire life.\n\nThe conversation went like this:\n\nME: So I need to know where you want this to go really..\n\nHER: You KNOW I like us, but I don't want a relationship, not just with you, but with anyone, It's just not what I want right now..\n\nME: So you want to be with me, but not want to be in a relationship, ever?\n\nHER: Yes, but no, never..\n\nSo of course i'm a little confused to the whole thing. I want to be with her and she wants to be with me in a sense but never in a relationship...\n\nHonestly, I beleave her when she says that it's nothing to do with me or how we are, and it's her and her personality right now, I know she wouldn't lie to me, that's just not who she is. \n\nWe are good together and we get along great most of the time, and I really could see myself with her for a long time, but this is a massive blow and I don't know how to react to it.\n\nIt can't be the sex, 'cause shes always raved on how good it is without being asked ect, we get along really great most of the time and we always do when we are together, so I honestly think it is literally just her and where she is in life right now \n\nNow I never say never, 'cause it's just not how it is in life, but I really don't know what to do with myself right now...", "summary": "Girl i've been dating for 5mths says she never wants to be in a relationship, not just with me, but with anyone. Don't know what to do as I don't want to leave her as we are so good together "}
{"id": "t3_2uu1m1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do I [18 F] and my SO [20 M] go from this tough stand point?", "post": "From the first time we locked eyes in December, I knew that he was different. I've never fallen so hard so fast for someone in my life. He sees right through me and parts of me know one has ever figured out. Everything about it is exactly what a relationship should be. So many things have happened since then and an \"unofficial\" relationship has formed. However, since we started realizing things were progressing in a more serious tone, we've had extensive talks about our feelings/intentions for one another. A lot of them always ended with him saying, \"I want to give you everything, but I just can't right now\".\n\nI get that everyone has emotional baggage so I always let it go. I never ever want to push him into telling me something he isn't ready to share. After all, he says it's to protect my heart and avoid hurting me. However, I recently found out that he just got out of a 5 year relationship within the past six months (the last year was long distance - two different continents). It's obviously very evident that it still hurts him and he has admitted it to me so. And yes finding this out did upset me. \n\nInitially I felt as though I might just be a rebound but I know it isn't this way. He could have any girl he wants in our work environment yet he only has eyes for me. We have done things physically but he has stopped it before it ever got too far. He's very careful about us and doesn't want to mess things up or rush anything.  \n\nI know I don't want to give up on us what so ever but I feel like I need to give him space. He's obviously not going to be able to get over his ex anytime soon. I realize there's nothing I can do but I just don't want to suffocate him. We haven't really communicated in two days and that's the longest it's been since the beginning of December (aside from when he left the country for almost two weeks for Christmas break). Should I continue this uncertainty (for me) and leave it alone or try to get the focus back to the health of our relationship at the point it's currently at?", "summary": "I found out my SO is heartbroken and I don't know if we should continue on or take a break"}
{"id": "t3_u0cbl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I got fired today....", "post": "The question is should I appeal this or not with higher-ups\n\nBackground story...\nAt my former workplace we have an electronic shift trade system. Me and another Co-worker trade shifts weekly. He takes my Sunday mornings I take his Thursday nights. Both of us have been doing it a while and there has been no problem for the past few months. Well about a week ago he forgot to accept my trade until last minute. And when he tried to accept it through the computer he was just a minute too late.\n\nNow admitting it was his fault he goes to the manpower supervisor asking what to do and how to correct it. The supervisor says he really cannot do anything about it now so sends him to our shift manager. The shift manager says it was my responsibility to make sure the shift was covered through our system and adds me as a \"no-call no-show\" and puts him on an OPEN shift. Even though in the system it shows me sending him the shift and him trying to accept it and he showed up.\n\nI found out the next day and went to the shift manager to discuss options of what I could do to correct it. He told me it was my responsibly to make sure it was covered. If I wanted to try and discuss it higher-up to my ramp manager I could. At that time there was a conference so he was out of town that week. Admin was also out, so I emailed them that week trying to set up an appointment with me and my trade partner next week. I did this to try and show initiative that I wanted to keep my job and try to solve this problem as soon as possible.\n\nFast Forward a week my manager is back. I go no responses from the emails. And after my shift today I got called into the office and fired for the reason, \"it was my responsibility and my fault my partner forgot to accept the trade.\" \n\nSo should I appeal this or just say whatever...this is the first time I have been fired...and It just seems a little ridiculous to me.", "summary": "A little more then a week ago a shift trade partner forgot to accept my shift electronically a minute late. He was there and tried to see what could be done to correct it. I got a \"no-call no-show\" he got an OPEN shift. I went to my manager to try and correct it and I got fired. Should I appeal this to Corporate(I did get a number to appeal)"}
{"id": "t3_41klo4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (18F) parents are going through a divorce and I have to choose wether I want to stay in Texas with my bf (19M) of 1 year or move out of state with my mom.", "post": "Okay, so just to clarify, I wouldn't be living with my bf, I would be living with my aunt but if I stayed here it would basically be for my bf. And I understand that I don't have to move with my mom if I don't want to, but we'd be moving back to where I was born and raised & a lot of nostalgia is coming up because of it. \nTo be specific, the location is Puerto Rico, which brings pros and cons to the equation. I want to pursue a PhD in Psychology, and school there would be a lot cheaper than in the US. Not only that, but my grandmother is a psychologist & has all the books & resources I would need. But, I have an okay job here, where there it would be a lot harder to find one. And, last but not least, I have my bf. I know that I'm young and I have my whole life ahead of me, but we've been doing really good & above all my other aspirations is my desire to be a mother. I know it wouldn't be any time soon, but he's definitely someone I see myself building with. I'm stuck, I have no idea what to choose.", "summary": "parents split, don't know wether to stay or leave"}
{"id": "t3_32mq1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my phone out during exam", "post": "Right now I feel so bad. Im freshman in college and its my first semester. My all classes are going awesome, but this one class Sociology is so hard! So i was trying my best to keep up my grade because passing grade is 75%. Til yesterday my percentage was 62, but today we had a exam, and my teacher was like that if i get good grades on this exam then i might make it. I was so prepared for this test, and i studied all spring break. So the test starts and i'm all hype because i know everything thats on test. I was taking my time because I didnt wanted wrong answers. I was doing all great and i was on last page where i was doing extra credit questions. and suddenly my phone vibrates, no one calls me in the morning, so i checked the number and it was my little brother's elementary school's numbers. I panicked because no one was at home, and everyone was working. So i tried listening to the voicemail with my head down, because i was alone in class, as everyone else was done with test. And as i looked up, there she was. My teacher, She was like \"you have something in your hand\" and she saw my phone. I couldnt explain her anything because there were thousand thoughts going thru my mind. without another word, she took my test, and said \"you're getting zero on that\" .. which means i wont be able to pass this class. I was standing there speechless.. Now i've already dropped my psychology class because it was too hard, and i was going to fail it.. i cant drop this class because it costs almost $350. and we are not rich. Now my parents have supported me with everything, but i'm not sure how would they react to this. I know you guys are awesome with words, and how to comfort someone.. Please help me. I mean, what can i do, and how do i tell my parents. and what would you do if you were at my place.\n\nSide Note: Voicemail was that, my little brother had a headache and wasnt feeling very well.\n\nTip: Never take your phone out during class, and always follow the rules.", "summary": "Little brother's elementary school called me during exam, and i tried listening to it, but got caught and teacher gave zero for the test. I'm going to fail this class now."}
{"id": "t3_1srk2w", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My adopted 3 y/o cattle dog mix doesn't do well meeting some dogs", "post": "Hello dog trainers and fellow dog lovers!\n\nI adopted an estimated 3 year old Australian Cattle Dog mix in September. She has been, hands-down, the best dog I've ever had. I'm not sure the circumstances that led her to end up at the humane society, where I found her.\n\nLet me sing her praises for a minute: she loves people. She is really easy to teach tricks. She comes to me immediately when I call her (I live in an apartment and she accidentally got out one day before I had a chance to figure that out on purpose). She's super duper mellow for being part cattle dog (which has been helpful for the \"heartworm hibernation\" she has had to endure for the last 8 weeks for the treatment). I find it odd that she rarely plays with toys, and if she does it isn't for longer than 5 or 10 minutes. However, she absolutely loves hiking and being outside.\n\nHere's my problem: she is not very good at meeting other dogs. Some dogs she seems okay with, while others she becomes slightly aggressive (stands still, starts growling, and has snapped once or twice). I haven't figured out exactly what it is about the dogs she doesn't like. She hasn't been fond of several small dogs, yet she wasn't aggressive toward the little Pomeranian that came running up to her mid-potty. She hasn't been fond of most dogs larger than her, but she really seemed to want to play with the two dogs her size and larger we hiked with one day.\n\nHow do I socialize her correctly so that she is friendly toward other dogs that we come across while walking/hiking? On instances that she shows aggression towards other dogs, I will walk her away, yet she turns and starts to wag her tail like she is happy and wants to play (or at least what I recognize as when she is happy). I am simply perplexed.\n\nThanks for your kind input in advance :)", "summary": "My dog is super friendly toward people, smart, and easy-going. But she doesn't like some dogs. How do I encourage her to be friendly with other dogs?"}
{"id": "t3_if2av", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To all the workaholics' significant others: how do you deal with it?", "post": "I'm currently dating someone who works all the time, leaving little to no time to hang out with me. I admire how much determination he has to better himself in the future, but it feels as though I'm always trying to convince to stop for a second and take a break. I can't help but feel sad and upset over this because we used to do so many things together. For me, I can understand why he wants to do the best he can in whatever he does, but in my opinion, what's the use if there isn't someone there to help him along the way? He keeps working hard and unpurposefully forgets that I'm there to help him through. I can't keep dating a workaholic because I'm starting to feel neglected - and we've talked about this. \n\nWe differ in how we communicate with others. I want people to be happy, even if it means sacrificing my own happiness. On the other hand, he is more selfish in trying to get what he wants, which backfires on him when he starts losing me. \n\nI can't help but think that breaking up with him might be the only thing I can do. At the same time I don't want to lose him just because I couldn't be strong enough to just wait for him to be done with working. I need help.", "summary": "My bf's a workaholic. I'm depressed. How do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_fxk6o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I justified at being angry at a long time friend for this?", "post": "Back in August or September I got a random phone call from a long time friend who was living in Chile. He had been there a few months to live indefinitely but ran into some medical and financial troubles so he had to move back to the states. He was staying with his mom for a few weeks before he got a job and could find a place of his own. Immediately, I offered him to live in my 1 BR apartment and I would move in with my girlfriend up the street. I left most all my belongings there for him to use seeing that I didn't need it and he did. Fast forward 7 months and I just got off the phone with him telling me he is moving out in a few days to take up a better job in another city. The apartment is trashed, sinks backed up, found at one point wadded up paper towels on the bathroom floor from ass wipping- real nasty stuff. \nHe already paid March's rent, but my girlfriend is moving out of her apartment in a few weeks. A mutual friend was planning to take her spot and finish out the least with me until May. The problem is, now suddenly I have another rent to pay and I don't feel I've been given a fair amount of time in advance to plan accordingly. I feel I've helped a good friend who in retrospect was taking advantage of an opportunity and is now shitting on me. Am I justified to feel angry about this? Am I over reacting feeling real sour about the situation? I have 3 months of school to finish before I get my BFA.", "summary": "I gave my apt. to my friend who needed a place and I moved in with my GF. Now he's moving out with only a couple days notice where I am now stuck paying 2 rents."}
{"id": "t3_2sx056", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF (17/F) brings up an issue that I (18/M) can not solve.", "post": "So my GF of 1 year texted me saying that \"my parents are only going to have $5 this entire week\" to which I respond, \"You'll be okay\". She then goes off on me saying that it won't be okay and that I never do anything to comfort her. I then respond \" well I can drop off food for you or you can come over if that helps\". She took this as an attempt to make fun of her for being poor when I truly want to help. What I don't understand is, how can she ask tell me a problem that I can't posdibly solve. And even if my GF isn't looking for a solution, every way I've tried to comfort her doesn't do anything. She refuses any and all help I offer because she doesn't wan't my \"sympathy\". Which is somewhat understandable but at this point it's out of my control and now I'm stuck in this loop.", "summary": "GF has problem that I (BF) can not solve nor comfort her."}
{"id": "t3_16v6zr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] feels that relationship with [19/F] is falling apart.", "post": "I have known my current girlfriend for almost two years (as coworkers), on a personal level (friends, dating) for 7 months and officially in a relationship for 2 weeks. She is an amazing girl and I truly care for her. However lately all I have been receiving is one word responses in texting, all plans being canceled, and talks about how another guy (whom she has only known for a few months) is always there for her whenever she needs somebody. She is going through some problems with her family and I have been trying to keep that in mind but honestly she is making me feel like shit. I have gone out of my way to make sure she knows that she has someone who cares about her and it seems like she is going out of her way to make sure I know that she doesn't care about me. I have tried to talk to her about it but all I get in response is her telling me I'm making this into too big of a deal and that I am being immature about all of this and that she doesn't want me adding on any extra stress. Tonight has been a low point where she told me that she is pushing me away and even went as far as remove any trace of our relationship from Facebook (stupid I know but the effort was still intentional). \nI have no idea what to do or how to talk to her about it because every time we do she always tries to pin blame on me and I have to even go as far as apologizing for bringing it up just to get her to stop arguing. \nPlease help reddit, I really care about this girl but it seems like she could care less about whether or not I am in her life at this point.", "summary": "Girlfriend treats me like shit and goes out of her way to make me feel insignificant all while calling me immature for trying to tell her to stop hurting me."}
{"id": "t3_16ypax", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M] Met a [18F] at a club the other night. Any hope?", "post": "So my friend randomly invited me to a club this last friday and after some time 5 women start dancing next to us, and eventually we go out for a chat. Nothing special, just introductions and small talk about where we live and study.\n\nDid some more dancing and had a little break with minimal conversation at the bar, back to the dance floor, then back out to cool down. Turns out my friend is this girl's friend's half-brother, but the only conversation that goes on is briefly about just that topic before one of the group pulls us all in to grab our coats and leave.\n\nWe all head out for the night buses, I try to have a chat with her with little success due to group interuptions and phone calls galore. \n\nWe all managed to somehow pick up some random bloke in a shopping cart because I guess the others were drunk or something, but nothing really exciting happens and we end up at the bus station where me and my friend hug all these girls goodbye and head off to the subway.\n\nWe're all friends on facebook now, but I don't know if it's pointless or not to try and get this girl out for a bite on the internet with just this experience... Wondering if I missed my last chance that night. Any thoughts?", "summary": "Met a girl in a group at a club. Never had any real conversation, but would still like to try and get a date with her."}
{"id": "t3_258pl5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22F] not sure if I am overreacting or not about my boyfriend [23M] constantly texting this girl. Should I just let it go?", "post": "So let me start off by saying we've been together almost a year and I am living with him. We also have been trying to find a cute girl to have some fun with, no emotions attached. \n\nA few weeks ago my boyfriend told me how this girl he works with was kinda cute and he had smiled at her a few times. He works in IT so one night when the place was empty he was working on her computer and found an email of her saying that this guy smiles at her and she just blushes and wishes she could talk to him. \n\nHe told me this and we were thinking maybe we could all hook up. Next thing I know he tells me he got her number, at first I was happy and asked if he thought she'd be into a 3sum. He said no and that she seemed to be a girl looking for something more. I started noticing he was always texting her and at first he would tell me what they were talking about, trying to ease my jealousy, but it was just so constant. A few weeks go by and he still texts her every day all day. From morning to night. I tell him it now makes me uncomfortable because I know she likes him. He says she's just a friend and she likes country music so there's no way he'd leave me for her. \n\nWe have gotten into a few fights over it, me crying and jealous and him just getting annoyed and saying he won't leave me and they are just friends.\nNow, I try and keep it to myself but he still texts her every single day all day. I have no idea what they are talking about. Hell she probably knows more about him than me. But he doesn't seem to care that it bothers me and tells me that it shouldn't and that I have male friends I talk to all the time. Which I do, but not nearly as much. \nSomeone please just tell me if I am going crazy here or if I should really be concerned. I don't know what to do. I trust him but I just. It makes me so uncomfortable and I wish he'd understand that.", "summary": "Boyfriend is texting another girl. He knows I know. He says they are just friends. Should I be worried or am I just paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_1w5bje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 F] I have never really dated and I am worried that I am starting behind the curve", "post": "I am a 21 year old female, I have been in one 2 month relationship but it didn't really go any where mainly because I was really uncomfortable. I am worried that now that I am starting to look at the dating scene that my inexperience will mean that I am setting my self up to fail as any one I have talked to has seemed to expect sex and I am not ready for that for a while as I will have to feel really comfortable to do that with someone. \n\nI also am wondering if there is something wrong with me as very few people have expressed interest in dating me, and if there is anything I can do to make it more obvious I am open to a relationship.", "summary": "I am a little insecure with my self and worry that not having any experience dating at 21 will make dating more difficult. Am I just making things harder for myself?"}
{"id": "t3_435we3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] partner [23 F] of 9 months wants to go on exchange (alone) for 6 months but we just moved in together. How do I ask her not to go?", "post": "My partner and I moved in together in Dec '15 in a one bedroom apartment in the city and everything's been going swell as we've just about filled up the apartment with furniture. We both work full-time but she's also finishing up a uni degree.\n\nRelated to that degree, she applied in Oct or Nov to go on exchange for 6 months, assuming she wouldn't get it. But now she's been approved for it and has the opportunity to travel across the world to a dazzling European nation to finish her degree. \n\nThe problem arises because I don't think I'm ready for her to go for so long so soon in our relationship? We moved in together pretty quickly but when we met, we were both thinking of moving out of our parents' place anyway and it just happened to work well.\n\nI'm going to worry about her everyday and whenever I think about her leaving I get a sense of dread (if she takes it up, she'll probably leave in June). If she leaves, I'll have an apartment full of furniture that I probably can't afford to live in. The rent is too high for one salary but I also can't move back home (mum rented out my room pretty quick). So my interest in her not going isn't just worry/jealousy, but also financial. \n\nWe also like where we live and don't like the idea of having to move. She's proposed paying her share of the rent for the 6 months but that's actually ridiculous and would be a waste of money.\n\nIs there any way that I can reasonably ask her to stay? It's a really cool opportunity and I know if I were in her position I'd probably really want to go. If she goes, she wants to do long distance and I'd probably do the same so questions of breaking up aren't really a thing yet.", "summary": "Partner wanting to go on exchange for 6 months will cause emotional and financial problems, but it's a great opportunity for her. How do I ask her not to go? Or should I just get out of the way and deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_unjx2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dual Monitor advice/opinions!", "post": "Sadly I couldn't post this in /r/programming (don't think you can post text in there)\n\nI have decided to upgrade my single monitor setup (24\" Apple cinema display (old LCD one)) to a dual monitor setup and was wondering if any fellow redditors had any advice on what is the best size/brand to buy? I have heard dual monitors can really boost productivity with programming/development.\nI feel like I wouldn't need anything bigger then 24\" and kind of like the idea of being able to rotate one (or both) of the monitors 90\u00ba and have a longer display (anyone have any experience with them?). I have a budget of around $1200AUD. I also game on occasion (sc2, diablo3, etc)\n\nMonitors I was considering:\nLG W2242P-BF 22\" (can rotate 90\u00ba + only $182 each)\nLenovo ThinkVision L2251x (on sale: $238 each)\nHP LE1901WM 19\"  ($256 each)\n\nI also read somewhere about having one primary monitor thats 24\" and a secondary thats more 4:3 thats 19\" or something? I like the idea of having one monitor more primary (for IDE or sc2) and the other just for chrome or something (although I would want them to look similar and have the same res in height (picky right? ^_^)).", "summary": "Looking for advice on dual monitor setup"}
{"id": "t3_2abtlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friends [20M, 20 M] from high school of 5 years, are my roommates and they have gone completely mental from using way too much drugs last night/being irresponsible with it. What should I do?", "post": "So my friends and I are living in my parents' apartment and they have just irresponsibility used drugs with led to them being crazy and mental. One of my friends was super super hyper and was running down the streets charging at other cars, hitting other people, running around banging on doors and trying to open them. My other friend intentionally overdosed on some medication and he told me super depressing/gruesome (probably made up) stories of his relatives or whatever. I am at my parents' house right now at 9AM in the morning (they dont know yet) and I am still shaking from this ordeal. I don't think I can think rationally so I leave it up to you guys. Please help, what can I do, what is the best plan?", "summary": "Friends irresponsibly used drugs last night and I'm not sure what to do about it or how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_45co2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I [ late 20s F] wrong not to meet my girlfriend [mid 20s F] at the train station?", "post": "I didn't meet my girlfriend at the train station tonight for the first time. She went home for two days because she is still on her mom's dental insurance and needed a filling. Her mom lives a 3 hour train ride away. \n\nI didn't go for a few reasons. One, every other time she was on the really late train and I didn't want her downtown late at night alone. Tonight she got in on the 8 o'clock instead of the 1130. She also didn't have any bags this time and it's only a single 20 min bus ride home. She makes this trip once or twice a month. Unlike the other times, she didnt ask me to meet her there. Lastly, she never meets me at the airport when I get home from traveling for work.\n\nShe hasn't said anything, but I know she's dissapointed. She actually just got off the train and is heading home now.", "summary": "didn't meet girlfriend at train station. Worried I made a mistake"}
{"id": "t3_rdri1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to ask her to change her word choice?", "post": "My SO and I have some problems with miscommunication already (which I know everybody does), but recently I've had trouble with things that she tends to say that, on the surface, are innocent, but that definitely have a harsh tone to them. For example... \"I guess you're busy. I'll leave you alone then.\" I don't want to say it's \"bitchy,\" but I guess I'll say her diction has a harsher feel. And, of course, if I try to bring this up, it's not like I can object to her saying that she has no idea what I'm getting so worked up about. The problem there is that I also don't even know if she does or doesn't intend to express that she's angry or not, because it's all veiled behind the intentions she brings to the forefront. Also, if it helps, we've had talks in the past about how she's afraid to tell me when she has a problem with something I'm doing, because she's afraid I'll think she's \"a bitch.\" How can I tell her that she's confusing me, and that she can just tell me when she's annoyed?", "summary": "I need help communicating that I don't like passive-aggressive diction"}
{"id": "t3_18hx0a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by inadvertently calling a Girl Scout fat", "post": "I was at the grocery store today and there were Girl Scouts selling cookies. One of the girls was eating a box of Thin Mints and there where open boxes of cookies all around her. She asked me if I would like to buy any cookies, to which I replied \" No thanks I'm trying to lay off cookies, and by the looks of it you should too.\" I was in no way trying to call her fat but I suppose to a 12 year old girls mind I was. She burst out crying and confessed that she was bulimic and hated herself. A crowd gathered around her crying with her. I quietly slipped out and ran back to my car.\nI really fucked up.", "summary": "I inadvertently called a Girl Scout fat, to which she confessed she had an eating disorder and caused a crying crowd to join her."}
{"id": "t3_1bqp4b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[32M] Having troubles at home Wife [32f] seems unhappy.", "post": "Throwaway because its personal.\n\nBackground: we've been married 4 years.\n\nMy work is very stressful and takes a lot out of me both physically and mentally. My wife and I had a new born recently, and I feel like I'm not spending as much time as I want with my child. I have to be at work to make a living but everyday I come home and want to take a nap my wife seems to be on fumes and order me around to help do her chores.\n\nShe is a fulltime mom who I appreciate but lately she just seems always on edge, we dont seem to be as connected as before. I think her motherly duties is getting to her, feeding our son during nights and still keeping up with the house work has definately stressed her out. But I have a highstress job, and when I get home I simply have nothing left to give her. I can hold my son and smile and say sweet nothings, i love that but I just can't help her with the dishes or the laundry and still prepare for my work.\n\nI feel like she is no longer attracted to me, the last time we had sex she didnt seem very into it, she even told me to stop a few times. I am not sure how to approach this anymore. We are both stressed out with our respective jobs, but it feels like she is pulling away from me and resents me.\n\nI am trying very hard at work to be able to save up some money and provide for my family in the future, I simply dont know how to deal with both my family and my work at the same time and not go crazy.", "summary": "Wife is becoming resentful because of our new baby and all the stresses accompanied with it."}
{"id": "t3_3ubvla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First post here. GF [20] of 4 years has been showing a loss of affection over the last several months. Plz halp", "post": "Title. My girlfriend of 4 years, she's 20 I'm 19 [M], has shown a loss of affection over the last several months. We've talked about it a bit and attributed it to a combination of stress, and bc.  She has switched BC twice since then, if I'm not mistaken, and has had quite a bit of stress relief through a combination of perseverance, and spa stuff. I am doing my best to be supportive of her because I know she is as worried about this as I am, however it is starting to affect my self esteem, and more recently, bringing on a recurring issue with depression. We've also discussed the possibility of her simply being bored, unattracted, or unhappy with me, all of which she denied up and down. I have run out of ideas. I just want her to be better, if not for our relationship, purely to make her happier. I need help.", "summary": "GF has showed a lack of affection over the last several months. We've tried a lot of stuff. It's starting to hurt me in various ways. "}
{"id": "t3_52bnnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 1.5 years, Criticism is taking its toll on our relationship", "post": "Hi everyone, \n\nI need some advice. I've been dating the same man for 1.5 years (living together for 6 months) and am seriously beginning to question our relationship. Every time he gets angry (for example, I told him I had to leave his company BBQ early to study for grad school tests) he lashes out by criticizing me. Specifically, he talks a lot about how I'm no fun, I need to let loose, my friends are \"nerds\" and I'm not sociable with his friends enough. I will admit it, I am rather shy kind of a \"nerdy\" girl while he was the total jock/popular kid in high school. I honestly do try to hang out with his friends but whenever there is any argument he brings up how I'm boring or am too shy. I've tried telling him that's just the way I am and I've made an effort to be more outgoing with his friends but we are just so far apart on this and I feel even more pressure to be \"cool\" when I hang out with his friends. \n\nWhat really bothers me is that he spews so many insults during arguments that are irrelevant when I make a point of not doing that because I know it is pointless and won't solve the argument. He has also expressed how he has to try \"so hard\" to keep our relationship intact by being someone he normally isn't. \n\nI'm wondering if since our personalities are so different that we just are not meant to be together eventually. What is taking a toll on me is not our differences, but the constant criticism of my personality, which honestly is never going to permanently change. I've told him this but every fight is the same thing. I just don't want to keep wasting my time if this guy isn't \"the one\", but I'm not sure if this i just a trivial thing that we will eventually get over, or a major red flag. \n\nThoughts? Advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend constantly criticizes me for not being like him, or how he wants me to be. Having second thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_2chf1f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by loving birds", "post": "OK, this one happened when I was a kid, around 11 or 12. It's nowhere near as earth-shattering as a lot of these are, but it was still pretty embarassing at the time.\n\nI'm walking down the street with my dad, having just come from a KB Toys store (anyone else miss KB Toys?) and playing some video games. Now, something you have to understand about me is that I am, was, and always will be a massive bird nerd (check my username). And at the time, one of my favorite documentary series was David Attenborough's \"The Life of Birds.\" (Still one of my favorite documentaries today.) One of these documentaries was about communication, and a segment was about bird song in the Amazon. One of the birds highlighted was the [Screaming Piha] the loudest bird in the rainforest.\n\nSo, I'm talking to my dad about this documentary I just watched. I should also note that I've always loved whistling, so I replicated this call. At this point, you REALLY should click that link I provided. Because, just as I demonstrated the whistle, two women were walking right past us. Looks were exchanged.", "summary": "[Some bird sounds] probably shouldn't be copied publicly."}
{"id": "t3_2oitxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my boyfriend [28 M] 9 months, should I tell him I'm pregnant and getting an abortion?", "post": "We've been together 9 months (ironic, I know) and are both quite adamantly child free. Even if we weren't, I haven't finished studying yet and having a baby just is not happening.\n\nI've been in charge of taking the pill but slipped up this month. I didn't think it was a big deal as I have a rather terrible case of PCOS and when I was 15 was told that getting knocked up without medical intervention would fall into the miracle category.\n\nGetting that diagnosis was honestly like winning the lottery, so I'm pretty pissed off right now that it seems to have changed.\n\nBoyfriend and I have always been in agreement as to what to do in the situation of bc failure, so I have no problem with going and getting an abortion.\n\nThe only issue is that right now I'm in a different state to him and I won't see him for a few months. Obviously, handling the problem can't wait that long, but it's not really a conversation I want to have over the phone.\n\nSo, do I tell him now over the phone, go ahead and do it and then tell him, or just not tell him at all given it would just upset him, he's already made his view clear on the matter and I don't really need the support?\n\nFor something that's meant to fall into the miracle category, this sure is not one. \n\n(P.S. Please don't try to change my mind on the abortion, this is strictly about telling the guy)", "summary": "Got knocked up when doctors said it would be impossible. We've always been in agreement to get an abortion (should the minute possibility arise), not in the same state for the next few months. Do I just handle it myself and never tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_3ex6rz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is it legal to set up video surveillance to protect myself against my landlord? [VA]", "post": "I posted yesterday explaining the full situation without much response so I'll keep this short.\n\nLandlord went a little crazy and I felt I needed to get my girlfriend and myself out. She agreed to let us out of our lease early (verbally) and she took the termination papers we made to \"look them over\" last night.\n\nDuring the conversation she kept halfway accusing us of stealing from her.\n\nDue to past circumstances, I decided to set up motion detection software on my laptop that activates the camera and sends me notifications when there's activity. \n\nI was not expecting to actually get anything but about an hour ago the landlord entered our room while nobody was home and brought in 3 people. From the conversation I heard I believe they were interested in renting the property. \n\nThis was never mentioned to us. \n\nThis, by itself, isn't a huge issue but on top of everything else it's bothersome. \n\nI do not plan on bringing this up unless it's necessary for legal reasons or for leverage if she tries to stop us from leaving. My question is, is it legal for me to recording in my rented property like this?", "summary": "Landlady is crazy, set up a camera and caught her in my room. Is it legal for me to be recording on her property?"}
{"id": "t3_1vy91v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 3 years, don't meet eye to eye when it comes to kindness", "post": "I love my boyfriend very much. He is the love of my life and we both want our relationship to be life-long. I want to start by saying that we both have made compromises and changed our views to meet each others needs. It is definitely *not* a one sided relationship.\n\nOne of the major problems I have been facing with him is one of compassion. He calls me a \"gentle soul\", and I suppose that about sums it up. I am an emotional person and I guess I was sheltered a bit when it comes to harsh words. My boyfriend was not raised this way. His family is much more blunt (eg telling their family members if a present received was \"dumb\" or not, if a relative has become fat, etc). \n\nI have expressed my dismay at this type of behavior. I find it distressing in the least and it makes me not want to participate fully with his family sometimes. He tells me that I need to just harden up. But I don't want to. I want to live a kinder life than that. I think it's destructive and pointless to be argumentative all the time. I also feel that it's selfish to demand exactly what *you* want all of the time, rather than accept what others want to give you. \n\nI know that this is a lot more to do with family rearing and the culture of each of our families. But this is one thing I don't want to compromise on. If I get married and have children with this man, I do not want a family dynamic like that. He has made a lot of strides to try and see my side (and has even changed his habits for me, which I truly appreciate). But there are times when it still comes up. For example, when he hurts my feelings by saying something unkind, it's hard to get him to see that it's unacceptable. Instead, he tells me to harden up again. I want to have an earnest conversation with him about this that won't turn emotional.", "summary": "What can I do to express my opinion better and emphasize how important compassion and kindness is to me?"}
{"id": "t3_n7tgp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit! Help me think of a an awesome gift for my nerdy 15-year-old brother who has everything.", "post": "My half brother is a great but spoiled kid. I want to finally be considered his cool older sister and get him something creative for Christmas that he doesn't already have- but since he spends most of his free time online he knows what's new in video games and computers already. He also gets anything he wants by asking his parents. (Yeah, I know, lame.) I'm hoping Reddit can help me come up with a great gift for under $100 that will appeal to his geeky sensibilities while maybe expanding his horizons a bit. \n\nSome details that might help:\n\nHas every current gaming system.\nBuilt his own computer last year.\nIs a SCUBA certified rescue diver.\nLoves Dr. Who.\nMilitant atheist. \nRedditor. \nLoves travel- goes to 2 or 3 countries every year with my Dad and step-mom. (I KNOW.)\nSarcastic and witty. \nVery mature for his age.\n\nI appreciate the help, Reddit! I'll make sure and credit you when I give him his present.", "summary": "Nerdy 15-year-old get's everything he wants from his parents. Help me think of a creative gift he doesn't know about already."}
{"id": "t3_1tbhif", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by peeing in the shower.", "post": "So there I am taking a shower and I feel the need to clear the snorkel. The shower I'm in is a bath tub and a shower so it has the little pop up drain stopper. Well the stopper is pulled up and I start peeing directly on it so the pee will go right down the drain. Unfortunately, the pee hitting the stopper caused it to go down. At this point I'm in the middle of the pee and can't really stop. The pee starts collecting around the stopper and when I'm done I have to reach down into my own pee and pull the stopper up.", "summary": "I was taking a shower today, "}
{"id": "t3_4govlo", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[HELP]Dogs fought...What to do?", "post": "I have 3 dogs: a 7 year old, 33 lb corgi-mix, a 5 year old, 44 lb border collie/pittie mix and a 1.5 year old, 21 lb labrador/dachshund thing. They have lived, eaten, slept and played together.  I've never seen one bit of actual aggression.  \n\nLast weekend, it was a lovely day and my husband and I decided to take our 3 dogs to lunch with us.  We latched each of their leashes to a different corner of the large picnic table we were sitting at.  It had been a while since we took the dogs out in public.  The corgi and doxie were barking a lot, but the border collie was laying in the dirt, just taking life in.  As lunch finished up and we were paying, the border collie lunged under the table and went after the other two.  The corgi ended up with two bite wounds on his nose and the doxie ended up with a couple of teeth marks on her ear.  The border collie grabbed her ear and absolutely would not let go.  Luckily, all wounds were cleansed and congealed with no visits to the emergency vet.  We took the dogs home and separated them into their kennels for a cool down period.  When we let the border collie mix out, she lunged for the doxie immediately again (no injuries this time).\n\nWe have been rotating the dogs away from each other for the last 3 days (kennel, living room, outside).  Both doxie and border collie are perfectly fine with the corgi, but as soon as the border collie sees the doxie, her hackles go up and she starts shaking.  Last night, we tried taking them both into the front yard with their head halters on and walked them up and down the street with them on opposite sides.  The border collie is utterly terrified of the doxie now!\n\nI want to get them back together, because they have been friends since day one.  Any suggestions?", "summary": "Dog bit other dog. Want to re-acclimate them."}
{"id": "t3_3evbkk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You Wanted Ray Bans, You're Getting Glitter Instead", "post": "Two weeks ago, I had the week from hell.\n\nFirst, I get a call telling me my estranged father is dead and the medical examiner where he lived left his dead body to rot in his apartment. They apparently wanted me to make arrangements for a funeral home to pick him up. I've never heard of such ass-backwards logic.\n\nThen we find out the shipping service we used for our cross-country move is going to be a week late delivering most of our belongings, so my boyfriend and I get to sleep on the floor for an extra week. \n\nThen I wind up in the ER with a kidney infection. So I'm grieving, sleeping on a floor, and in pain. I feel like all this back story is necessary because it gives you my frame of mind.\n\nThe shit-icing on the top of the diarrhea cake that was my week appeared when I checked my PayPal account. Some thieving douche canoe used my PayPal to pay for her pair of brand spankin' new Ray Bans. I was livid. \n\nOf course I went through the proper channels informing PayPal that there was fraudulent activity on my account. I also emailed the eBay seller so they knew not to mail them out and lose the inventory. \n\nThe wonderfully stupid thing that this thief didn't account for is that she had to put her shipping information in to get the sunglasses. I could see her address since she used my account to pay for her goods. \n\nIf you're still with me, here's where the petty revenge comes in. I went to the dollar store and bought some glitter. I folded a piece of paper up like a normal letter, but instead of friendly salutations or even a bill, she's going to find a fuckload of glitter inside. Hopefully she opens it and gets glitter all over herself and her belongings. Don't fuck with me, lady. I'll fight dirty. Glitter is the herpes of craft supplies as you likely know. (No offense to anyone with herpes. That shit is manageable with antivirals. Glitter is forever.)", "summary": "Thief picked the wrong week to use my PayPal account to buy herself some sunglasses. I canceled the order and mailed her a buttload of glitter instead."}
{"id": "t3_45vhmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] getting mixed responses from someone I've been flirting and hang out with. [19 F]", "post": "So, I'm the president of a roleplaying/board game club here at my university, and recently a new girl joined our club a month ago and I've started to grow pretty fond of her. We have a lot of the same interests and she has a very nice, albeit a sarcastic personality, but that's all the better for me because it rolls with my personality as well.\n\nAnyways, I started flirting with her and we've gone ice skating together once, but I'm not certain if she is entirely into it. I've asked her to go on a date with me on Valentine's Day to the movies to go see Deadpool, but she said that she had too much homework to do so (Which makes sense, our school gives a lot of work) and I did ask her only two days before Valentine's Day. I asked her if she'd be willing to \n\nI did get her a carnation delivered to her door on Valentine's Day (I usually get one for all my close friends so its not too out of the ordinary, although I have only known her for a month)\n\nSo right now, we still talk and I'm really unsure of where I should go from here. I can't tell her if she isn't interested in me romantically and just want to stay friends, but I'm getting mixed signals so I'm uncertain of what to do here. I don't know whether I should just backoff and just move on, or to proceed. I feel like I put the ball in her court to respond, but these mixed responses are making me confused on where to go from here.", "summary": "I've been getting mixed responses from the person but I can't tell if she's just really a busy person or if she likes me back."}
{"id": "t3_3hf9pn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[UK] I [27/m] have have separated from my girlfriend [24/f] but we have a house. How do I proceed?", "post": "I decided to end things with my girlfriend after our relationship broke down. However we have a house and a mortgage and a joint account. I want to know how to proceed. I'll give some details:  \n  \nWe bought the house in February from her parents. It cost us just shy of \u00a3130K and the mortgage is approx. \u00a3550 a month. There are no outstanding jobs that need doing to the maintenance of the house (just yet). The house has 3 bedrooms and a driveway. (Not sure if all of these details are necessary but you always get someone who seems to need to know!)  \n  \nWe currently pay all of the bills as well as our fuel costs from a joint account. We also have our own personal accounts, as well as another locked joint account that we have to sign together to withdraw from. All our accounts are with NatWest, except her personal account that is with HSBC.  \n  \nThe way I see it, we have both have a right to the house, and I am not bitter enough to make her leave. But I also refuse to leave. This is my house too and I have put in lots of work already. If it should come down to her wanting me to leave, what are my rights? And where can I find our about this kind of thing?\n  \nThanks for any advice you can give me.", "summary": "GF and I have split up. we have a house. I want to know the proper channels through which to sort this mess out."}
{"id": "t3_2fud1b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[17/F] How should I approach [16/M]?", "post": "I haven't really started dating at all quite yet, so I'm really nervous about the whole situation.\n\nI met this guy about a month ago, and talking to him somewhat frequently on social media (we live a half hour from each other and cannot get transportation to see each other) has sparked an interest in me. To be blunt, *I want to date this guy.*\n\nWe have plans for getting together either next Saturday at a local festival, or on the 27th for pizza. On the latter date, I mentioned something about a formal occasion, and he seemed interested in it. It was never stated that it was a date, either. I thought about asking him to my school's Homecoming that evening as well (if everything goes to plan), but I'm not too sure about how or when to approach him, considering we're both fairly busy individuals and live a bit of a distance away.\n\nShould I bring up the topic of possibly going out on a few dates the 27th or (if he says yes) on Homecoming (October 18th), or should I wait a bit longer? I know that he's definitely friendly to me and jokes around a bit, but he has mentioned that he's like that to his other friends, so I have no idea what is going on in his mind at the moment.\n\nThank you for reading this, I truly do appreciate some sort of advice from people more experienced than me.", "summary": "I've known someone for about a month and wish to ask him out on a few dates. Should I ask him out when I see him on the 27th, or invite him to Homecoming and (if he accepts), ask him then?"}
{"id": "t3_j8hah", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, should I study law at Toronto or Cambridge?", "post": "I have been admitted to study an LL.B at Cambridge, or a JD at Toronto University. I am having a tough time deciding where to go.\n\nA little background on me: I just finished an engineering degree in Ontario (where I live), and have always had aspirations for either law or finance. I heard that it is easy for lawyers to transfer into finance, but not so easy in the other direction, so to keep my options open I applied for law school rather than business school. I have become keen on areas of law that might be helped by my engineering background, like technology law and patent law. Corporate law also seems interesting.\n\nThe one thing that I do know is that I want to work in Canada at the end of the day. I have dual citizenship with Canada and the UK, so I can work for a few years in England if need be, but I really just want to be in Canada for the majority of my life.\n\nI've struggled with the law society of Canada, which makes it very difficult for a foreign lawyer to bring their degree into Canada. If I go to Cambridge for law, these rules will put me behind either 2 or 3 years depending on their whims.\n\nAn alternative solution is to acquire a master's of finance after my law degree. Both Cambridge and UT offer great master's of finance degrees, but it would probably be better to take this in Toronto in order to meet some people in the business.\n\nI have spoken with people in business and in law, both in Toronto and London, I have friends and family making very valid arguments for both choices, and frankly I'm just confused. Reddit, oh powerful beast, I come to you with hopes to harness your collective knowledge. What say ye?", "summary": "r/firstworldproblems"}
{"id": "t3_1ne4r4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Getting to know someone.", "post": "So I [21M] have been single for too damn long, my main problem being that I never meet any new people due to being in a comfortable group of friends. Recently however someone caught my eye, I was chilling with some friends in the Student's Union when my a friend of my housemates fianc\u00e9 comes over. I noticed her and though she was damned gorgeous, however we quickly moved on to a bar in town and she went to work.\n\nI asked my housemates fianc\u00e9 if this girl [21F] was single and apparently she is. Next lies my problem, having been out of the game for so long I have no idea how to socialise with a new woman at all. I'm just wondering what my next step should be; ask my housemates fianc\u00e9 about her? Ask her on a date out of the blue? (she doesn't even know me yet so probably bad idea)\n\nI'm kinda stuck here.", "summary": "Nice looking single girl is a friend of someone I know, how do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_3ddhma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27M] Dealing with sexual jealousy against gfs past experience[26F]", "post": "I met this girl last year and we've been dating almost 5 months now. We hooked up a week after our first date but we've known each other before that. I never had a serious relationship before this. I lost my virginity to her and she talked about her past sexual experiences with other men. At the time I didn't really mind. \n\nShe loves me very much but I don't really love her on that same level. I've never told her that directly. There are some differences between us which I'm too timid to talk about with her.\n\nShe tells me that someone she once hooked up with contacted her yesterday.  She saw that he was an old highschool associate of mine and decided to not keep lies and tell me. She said it was three years ago and she really regrets having slept with him and what a great guy I am.\n\nFor some reason this really rubbed me the wrong way. I know she told me before she's had other partners but it didn't bother me then. All of sudden, I'm getting these wild emotions of anger at me, gf and the guy. I know its all in the past but I just can't deal with it. \n\nI'm trying to look forward but I feel like I have to know all of what happened. I feel small and insecure for having the lack of experience. I feel my gf is slut for putting out with the sleazeball. \n\nI just want it to all go away. I've thought about breaking up but the matter is so trivial. I'm at the end of my wits here. Please some one help me navigate this territory.", "summary": "gf tells me about ex who I knew in highschool and I'm raging."}
{"id": "t3_2o6b7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 F] with my bf [25 M] of 5 months - I need patience while I work on my anger management", "post": "My boyfriend and I got into our first argument this morning. It was over something really stupid. I got angry while driving and aggressively went around another car in an intersection. It wasn't crazy or anything but my boyfriend said that there was no reason for me to get that upset about other drivers. I said that I recognized that I am an angry driver and I am trying to work on it; I have been working on it for about a year now. I grew up in a very angry household and so I have some issues with that. I bottle things up and then explode. I have come a LONG way with this and am now able to communicate how I am feeling with my partner in a mature way. BUT try as I might I still get so angry at other drivers. It is not something that I like about myself, in fact it sends me into a depression when my boyfriend points it out because I feel helpless and unable to control it. I feel like I have become such a negative person and I want to change that.\n\nAny thoughts or suggestions welcomed. I am so afraid that I am going to drive my partner away and I love him so much. I don't want him to see me grumpy all the time. How can I practice mindfulness and gratefulness? What has worked for you? If you meditate, how do you do it?\n\nThank you in advance!", "summary": "I need help with my anger management!"}
{"id": "t3_3bioab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] never had a girlfriend or asked anyone out ... I just don't feel like I'm good enough.", "post": "So yeah I'm 27, I've never even asked a girl out. I've been living with chronic pain since 15 (headaches from day to night for 12 years). It has really taken a toll in my self esteem. I feel less capable than healthy people. Why would anyone date someone so debilitated?\n\nI've become obsessed with being perfect. I don't wanna meet anyone (even friends) until I get perfect white teeth, skin, body, job and health. As you can see.... it's never happened. At this fuckin rate I might turn into the 50 year old virgin. I can't believe I'm 27 already, I had this same mindset when I was 17.\n\nI don't know what to do to change my mindset. Aren't there sick people out there who are enjoying their lives? Why can't I? I'm so fuckin obsessed with being perfect! why? I can't change my mindset I need help!!\n\nAside from relationships, I have barely done anything for fun in the past 10 years.... for the same reason. I think I went to the movies no more than 3 times... and that's because someone dragged me to go.", "summary": "Feels like I'm not good enough. I want to be perfect before I meet anyone."}
{"id": "t3_3j3dp6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by alt tabbing on instinct", "post": "This happened about three hours ago and I still don't feel safe looking up from my desk. \n\nI recently started watching \"It's always sunny in Philadelphia\". To escape from the monotony of work today I decided to relive some of the funnier moments I've seen this weekend by reading entries about it on Wikipedia. \n\nAfter growing increasingly irritated by my constant giggling, one of my colleagues came over to my desk to see what I was looking at. As they approached I instinctively alt tabbed so they wouldn't catch me goofing off. Of course, my email account was the next window which was opened on the funeral arrangements for the mother of one of our secretaries. \n\nThey left without saying anything.", "summary": "Alt tabbed and now my colleagues think I find family tragedies funny."}
{"id": "t3_2jvs9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26m] female friend [24] wants to go on a weekend camping/paintball trip with the group", "post": "Every year, a few of my friends and I all go on this weekend paintball/camping trip for a scenario game. It's a ton of fun and a blast to camp out in early November when it's nice and cool and when fires are necessary. \n\nOver the past 3 or so years a friend of mine named Kristen has expressed interest in going on the trip but never knew about it beforehand. She actually remembered this year. However, I'm not sure that she would be welcomed onto the trip with open arms. Firstly, the majority of those going are in relationships and their spouses are pretty jealous. Not sure how they would feel with a single lady sharing a tent with their boyfriends/husbands, especially when there are notorious sleep fuckers lurking in tents these days\u2026 \n\nSecondly, there is friction between her and some of the other guys that go. Kristen has a very abrasive personality, but it's one of the reasons I get a kick out of her. I'm used to it and I don't take anything she says personally, but others tend to. Thirdly, this has primarily been a guy's weekend kind of deal. In the past one of our friends brought his girlfriend and everything was fine, but she hasn't been back since the first year I went 5 or so years ago. \n\nHow do I politely and gracefully brace her with the fact that she might not be welcomed to go along on the trip? It is scheduled for the second weekend of November.", "summary": "Female friend wants to go on a paintball/camping trip, not sure if she is welcomed to go. How do I tactfully approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_ro8zz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I need advice. My little brother is 14 years old and is fucking up his life big time. What can I do", "post": "I need advice suggestions, anything that could help me help him out. For the story's sake we shall call my brother Taylor. Here is the backstory.\n\nFirstly we in no way have a hard home life however Taylor was simply unable to deal with the rules that my mum laid down so he left.\n\nTaylor is screwing up his life badly he has not lived at home since NYE and this does not look like changing anytime soon. He currently lives with his friend and between them they have managed to stir up alot of trouble with the cops. For obvious reasons I will not go into depth of what they have been up to however from what I know it includes, Drug possession, use and distribution, Theft, breaking and entering and fighting. There may be more but I am unsure. On top of this he is involved in a gang whose 'leader' is supposedly going to jail soon. Taylor believes he can take over this gang while their 'leader' is in jail.\n\nHe has also been caught stealing food from his school last monday and was suspended. When my mum went in for an interview with the school (3rd one he has been enrolled at) the cops came and discussed/told my mum the majority of this. I literally could not think of a worse way to find out this information. It is their belief that he is going down soon and he is going to crash and burn.\n\nOn top of all this my dad past away on 31/3 last year and my brother did not even attempt to contact us or come to a family barbecue we were having for the 1 year anniversary of this (event?)\n\nSo tell me reddit what can I do to help my brother, with my family, to keep him out of trouble with the cops, and to just generally get his life back on track.\n\nPlease feel free to ask any questions about anything that you are unsure of as there is a multitude of other information I can offer but cannot be bothered to think of and write off the top off my head.", "summary": "My brother hasn't lived at home in 4 months and is about to be in a shit ton of trouble with the cops. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_1wf9ya", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you have someone's address, how can you use it for some non-violent, non-aggressive revenge techniques?", "post": "So, this guy asked me to write up an extensive Resume, Cover Letter and Selection Criteria Statment for him via an ad I posted online for CV writing services. I did the work and sent him the document at an agreed amount of $100. I should've been more careful, but ive never had problems before and trusted he would pay me. Anyway, he turned around after receiving the document saying he didn't like it and had had the work done by someone else, which is impossible as this was literally an hour after I emailed it too him. ANYWAY, I have his home address from his CV. What revenge techniques could I take. I want more annoying than aggressive. Can I sign him up to mailing lists etc. without getting myself in trouble?", "summary": "Guy scammed me out of $100 for hours of writing work. I have his address. Give me some non-violent revenge tips."}
{"id": "t3_2r6ba8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Been in a best guy friend/unofficial boyfriend phase and I want to get further than that with one of my best woman friends but she is afraid to go further due to possibly breaking up.", "post": "So i'm a male in my early 20's and I go to a local community college in which almost a year ago I met a woman (early 20's also) who has rapidly become one of my best friends from January 2014 to now.\n\nWe have been really close as friends but we are also somewhat intimate with each other. We act like a couple except without the title and the rest that follows with it.\n\nWe talked recently about being together as a couple because we act like one and she told me that she doesn't want to risk losing me as a friend as I am one of the few people she actually trusts.\n\nSo basically I am just wondering if there is any advice going forward on this or to try something new or just stay friends and not try anything further.", "summary": "Woman friend and I act like a couple but not actually one. I want to be a couple but she is afraid of losing me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_45gvyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my gf [16 F] for year and three months, I feel like I'm losing it...help", "post": "Im 17 and im male, I have gf who goes to the same class as me and we've been together for a year and couple months. At first everything was great we had that hooneymoon phase at beggining and all that stuff. She's beautiful,kind, good person overall. And she loves me dearly and would never cheat on me.. and thats what i respect the most about her.\n\nBut for last month or two I just feel like im losing my passion and affection for her. I dont know. For past couple of months I've started to notice other girls and thats what I havent done a single time in past year, but lately Ive been noticing. And thats weird. To be honest, I still love this girl and would never cheat on her.. but I just dont know. I met her family, she met mine, he have a lot of friends in common.. and also we see each other every day at school amd after school we talk over facebook whole the time whole this time in relationship. Is it possible that I just got fed up of this relationship? I mean I dont want to be a dickhead and just dump her so I would like to get some advices from neutral ppl like you guys and girls at reddit.\n\nWhats ur opinon on this? I dont want to hurt this girl but I think she deserves someone better than me who is willing to love her to the fullest. But if I imagine myself without her i just feel weird and sad.. we've been going through a lot of wonderful moments and when I remember them i get so nostalgic that I wont be able ever again to experince them if we break up. So please gimme honest advices. Should I just stay with her and hope for the better or end it? On the one hand I would really miss her since shes great girl but on the other.. i just dont know..I feel like I wont be able to find any other girl as good as her. I already posted this post couple times but i got comment or two so im posting again for some more opinions.\n\nThank you .. :(", "summary": "I feel like I've been losing my love towards my gf and I just dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_4kge6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] wondering if I should get back together with [31M] ex-boyfriend", "post": "Five months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months because I was concerned about his lack of ambition. He was unemployed and not seeking future employment. He was 100% financially supported by his parents, living in an apartment on his own. \n\nThat being said, we got along wonderfully. He was thoughtful, kind, and funny, and made me incredibly happy. He was my first boyfriend but also my closest friend. We continue to be close friends today and I trust him completely.\n\nI broke up with him in large part because I was embarrassed. I'm incredibly ambitious- I work part-time and am working on my master's degree. In some ways, it didn't feel self-respecting to be with him. When we broke up, I told him I was feeling overwhelmed by all my commitments and needed to take some time to myself.\n\nI figured I would feel less ambivalent about breaking up with him as time went on, but I only miss our relationship more and more. Maybe I'm just inexperienced. On the other hand, I know he has depression and I don't know if things would ever get better once he got it under better control.", "summary": "Inexperienced 25F can't decide if she should get back together with her no-life-prospects but otherwise delightful 31M ex-boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_hk6ab", "subreddit": "self", "title": "From a bipolar girl's standpoint...The phrase \"don't stick your dick in crazy\"", "post": "*was originally meant for r/relationship_advice but got blocked and was told to post here. \n\nEvery time I see the phrase \"don't stick your dick in crazy\" I feel ashamed that I love reddit. I hate that it's such a common thread of advice.\n\nThere are women out there that have a mental illness that make great girlfriends and great wives. When these women are younger, they are probably undiagnosed or just suffering and don't have the support to solve this. That's when their relationships suffer. That's when men dump them...\n\nMentally ill or emotionally unstable women are often some of the most brilliant people out there. If a man is truly in love with one of these women, dumping her will just lead to repeating the same mistakes in every relationship. It's tough because we have such a stigma against mental illness. Going to therapy is looked down upon. Many people say to themselves \"oh but not me...I don't need therapy...\"\n\nI always wonder...if I had known I was bipolar when I was 19, would I have actually gone through with the wedding? Would I have gotten married after all? All because I would have been on medication and wouldn't have had the mood swings which led to me blaming my sadness on my fiance?\n\nIt's so easy for women to think their unhappiness is because the man is doing something wrong and doesn't love them enough or doesn't think they're beautiful. Many times, women are just emotional and need to get it out. They need to talk (which is why group therapy is amazing) and they need emotional support. Emotional support that most guys can't handle. They don't know what to do about it. Which makes sense... So many men end up with a girl that goes through depression for several months. Does that mean he should dump her?\nSame with the reverse...Just because a guy is going through a depressive period, doesn't mean she should dump him.", "summary": "I hate the \"don't stick your dick in crazy\" because its offensive to me (a girl that is bipolar). People often break up when they really need therapy. Using this phrase is often too simplistic. Even when it makes sense to use it, I would (personally) use different words."}
{"id": "t3_1eh9lk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has anyone ever NOT regretted cheating? M-late30s F-late40s", "post": "I'm in a LTR of over 10 years that is pleasant but can be a bit dull. My GF is around 10 years older than me which was great when we were late 20s & late 30s and in our sexual primes together, but now in our late 30s & late 40s she's losing her libido and I'm losing interest. There's some emotional distance too, I don't really find her stimulating as a person anymore (Not necessarily her fault, I mean who has new ideas after 10+ years?) and she's just a little too constantly there. I work in a major city and want space when I'm home, she very rarely leaves the house and I'm her only companionship most days. We've tried to work through all this and more but it's not easy to get excited to be with her most of the time.\n\nMeanwhile I have a younger woman showing some real interest - blatantly trying to take me home in fact, and I'm somewhat tempted to let her. I've never really had a lot of hookups, only multi-year relationships, and she seems really cool, a real fire and spark to her that I'm missing at home. I'm sure it's a terrible idea and something that I'd probably regret, but part of me wants to experience this before I get too old.\n\nI'm not sure I believe that monogamy is natural for humans.  But that's no excuse.  I just believe we'd all be better off without the outdated rules that bind us, they shouldn't apply now that we have good birth control and live for 70-80 years.", "summary": "I've been faithful for over 10 years but am facing a challenge.  Probably wont go through with cheating but the temptation is huge."}
{"id": "t3_2s7vlz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my mom if she replaced my toothbrush", "post": "So I went to go brush my teeth as usual, but notice that my green toothbrush has been replaced with a different one. This has happened before, mom works as a dental assistant so we have a lot of toothbrushes all the time and she'll replace them every so often. I just thought it was odd that it was just that one that was replaced and not the other one. So just before I even do anything I ask \"hey did you replace my toothbrush?\", with the response...........\"No, I replaced my toothbrush.......\" It was then we both realized that we've been sharing the same toothbrush for about a month and a half now :|", "summary": "shared a toothbrush with my mother for a month and a half"}
{"id": "t3_1s3j80", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my \"Friend\"[20 M] not sure where we stand, friends for 2 years.", "post": "This boy and I have been friends for over 2 years. We met the first year of community college and have been somewhat close, he eventually admitted to having feelings for me (as I do for him) and we've kind of gone out on a few dates/hung out. We even kissed. However it doesn't seem like he's really \"into\" me much. He flirts here and there but I guess it feels more like a friendship then a potential dating situation. I think part of it is his reluctance to enter a relationship at all. As hard as I'm trying not to get hurt it isn't working. I'm not good at reading people and I don't want to ruin these fledgling feelings by saying something stupid.\n\nAny help or advice would be appreciated. I'm just confused..", "summary": "Unsure of my \"friends\" intentions on us possibly dating or if he's just being nice."}
{"id": "t3_3fo0te", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/22] think figured out why I have a fear of commitment last night, and I want to know if its a reasonable diagnosis!", "post": "So I have a fear of commitment when I enter into relationships. This is the main reason none of them have worked out. Last night I was laying in bed thinking and I think I know where it stems from.\n\nI feel that my fear of commitment is more deeply rooted by my fear of failure. I fear giving 100% of myself to something, only to have the possibility of failure (rejection). If I don't commit 100% to the relationship, it is much easier for me to move on if there is a break up (there always is). \n\nI feel I can relate this to many parts of my life. I don't ever give 100%, because I am scared that if I fail, it really just means 'my best isn't good enough'.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Is this fear of failure a common occurrence? Does it lead to fear of commitment? Personal stories are welcome! How did you get over it? etc...", "summary": "I think my 'fear of commitment' stems from my deeper rooted fear of not being good enough (fear of failure) when giving my 100%. "}
{"id": "t3_10d3om", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was recently diagnosed with having a couple small kidney stones, and I've been patiently waiting to pass them. Reddit, what's the most painful thing you've ever experienced?", "post": "About a week ago, I was noticing some minor pain in my lower back and difficulty urinating. After it didn't really go away, I went to a walk-in clinic and had them check me out. They said it wasn't a UTI, probably just a minor kidney infection. They gave me some antibiotics and I was on my way.\n\nI e-mailed my physician two days ago and told him this story. He said a kidney infection usually has coincidental symptoms that I wasn't experiencing, so I went to the ER just in case it was something worse. After urinalysis and a CT scan, they said there was some blood in my pee but the CT scan failed to detect anything large. The doc said it was probably a small (or several small) kidney stone(s).\n\nSince then, I've been chugging water with lemon juice, cranberry juice, and been taking pain medication. I have continued soreness around my flanks and lower back, and every so often I have a sharp, stabbing pain in the area. The sharp stabbing pain SEEMS to have moved, first to my lower back, and now to my sides. I'm hoping this means the stone or stones are moving slowly. \n\nI have heard that passing a kidney stone is equivalent to childbirth in terms of pain, and I'm not really looking forward to passing it. So while I bide my time, what's the most painful thing you've ever experienced, reddit?", "summary": "probably have a couple small kidney stones that I need to pass. Supposed to hurt like shit. What's the most painful thing you've ever experienced?"}
{"id": "t3_43i7gc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gamer [27 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of a month is jealous and overly competitive.", "post": "We've been dating for a month, we're gamers and friends of 6 years. She's gotten a new living situation and a job recently that has not allowed her to play the same games as much as I can. She's becoming jealous and upset now that I have the time to do so and it is tearing us apart. \n\nToday we had an argument saying that she doesn't want to limit my time, but will be upset if I put more time into my hobby than she gets to. My response was that I could just play another game or do something else with my life. This is fine to me, but it does feel quite restricting knowing that I cannot do what is fun because of her insecurities she is not entirely upfront with.\n\nI suggested we try to find another enjoyable hobby together, and she does not want to do that. She says again that I can do whatever I'd like to do, but she will be upset anyways. She's jealous of my group of friends as some are girls, and if I play the games with them she will be doubly upset.  I feel like there is no give and take here, as I am not one to be jealous or competitive with her and it is a very large turn-off for me.\n\nI apologize for my English, not my native tongue!", "summary": "Girlfriend is competitive and not supportive; does not want to restrict my actions but I know she will be upset at just about anything I do better than her."}
{"id": "t3_1m3qso", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Please help me help my mum?", "post": "My mum has renal failure and has revently had difficulties with her fistula which have required hospitalisation and numerous operations. This has meant she cannot make a trip she had planned to see her ailing father, my grandpa. She's worried he may not have much time left and shes really depressed.\n\nI call as much as I can but I live 4 hours away and cant afford to go see her. My brother lives closer but can't be with her all the time. \n\nWhat I am really asking is please help me think of something I can do to cheer her up. She's the most beautiful caring woman in the world and it makes me so sad to see her like this.", "summary": "please help me think of something I can do from a distance to cheer up my mum."}
{"id": "t3_1d4ct4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else feel this video is targeting the wrong people?", "post": "So I had someone post this video on my Facebook recently, which can be found [here] \nIf I had one thing to say about it, it's that it saddens me. I'll be honest in saying that I am just a high schooler, and that I can complain about learning certain things in school. But that's just a topic that's supposed to be laughed about with friends. Everyday I see some picture on 9gag of a \"Swagfag\" saying they don't need school or an idiot that can't speak proper English saying some nonsense, such as [this] \nWe on the internet try to get these (many times conceded) people to understand that they're under-educated and should know some of this simple information. I don't mean that in a cruel way, but we've all seen people \"wriit liek dis\". I respect the the creator's beliefs, and I'll admit that I've shared the same feeling about schools many times. And I also respect that there are people in the world that take a little longer to learn new information. But releasing this kind of clip to the internet, the place filled with all these ignorant people, people who are already so caught up already in thinking \"Fck Skul\", is basically letting them misinterpret this as saying, \"You're right to think learning is total bullshit.\"", "summary": "My complaint isn't about the [video] it's about community the video is accidentally reaching out too."}
{"id": "t3_3ni9bi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 11 months, I'm growing concerned with the \"openness\" of our relationship.", "post": "I've never felt so comfortable and happy with someone before, especially someone I'm dating. Recently, we've been testing the limits of the openness of our relationship, with my suggestion and initiation. We've engaged in a multiple moresomes and they have been enjoyable, with no ill effects. We both find the thought and reality of seeing each other with others hot. Both within these settings and outside of them, we don't get jealous much. \n\nThe other day, she suggested we should get Tinder just for fun and I was down for this. After a few days, we looked at each other's matches and read the conversations had with these matches. She was having fun flirting with others and checking out my matches. I had been less flirty than her on the app, however, and she already had people asking her out and she was asking me if we would be okay with meeting people from the app. I kind of gave her a non-answer and she dropped the topic. It kind of hit me then that I didn't know, for her, if Tinder was really just for fun or not. \n\nI think I'm a romantically monogamous person at heart and I don't exactly want my girlfriend to be with some other guy/girl on a date. I just have so many questions right now. Was Tinder just an excuse? Does she want to see other people? How can I tell her that I'm not okay with this without feeling like I'm stifling her freedom? What if she wants to be FWBs? Is this actually my fault for even opening things up in the first place? \n\nIf anyone has experience with being on either side of this kind of situation, it would be great to get some input and advice.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have been sexually adventurous and open together. After using Tinder, I'm worried about where we stand now and have more questions than ever."}
{"id": "t3_saf7k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have not found a definitive answer to this: if both partners have had herpes (HSV-1) orally, what's the situation?", "post": "Frankly, I haven't been able to find any definitive answer on this and so I was hoping maybe reddit would be able to help and perhaps help out others with the same question.\n\nMy girlfriend and I both had cold sores when we were children, so we both have the HSV-1 strain of herpes. So far, we've used condoms and dental dams during oral sex due to the risk of transmitting HSV-1 to each others' genitals, but I'm wondering if this precaution is necessary. Since we both have had exposure to the HSV-1 strain and therefore both should have antibodies for it, would it even be possible to cause problems on the genital area if we were to engage in oral sex unprotected?\n\nAnswers I've been able to find have ranged from \"it's a non-issue if you both have the same strain of herpes\" to \"always use protection since you can cause problems\". So, what's the real answer?", "summary": "my girlfriend and I both have herpes (HSV-1) due to cold sores - can we engage in unprotected oral sex without causing problems?"}
{"id": "t3_2tn6gl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with myex boyfriend [23 M] 2 -3 years, broke up over ocd progression", "post": "I have Aspergers, and is learning to be with people, getting things done and is gradually going places. His paranoia thoughts from OCD has been crippling his school life and functioning to the point that he's moaning about wanting a normal life. \n\nThe break up was really sudden. He has excessive worry thoughts about my well-being that, even if one problem is solved the same problem arises as if the conclusion was never given. \n\nIn any case I couldn't take the amount of negativity with the way he's treating himself. \n\nHe insists that he loves me and we agreed that the break up has to occur so he can manage himself. He wanted light contact because he values me as a friend and that if he was stronger he would stay in the relationship. He also kept pushing that anything in the future and it's ok if we each found someone else and said that he might enjoy the single life in the next few months. Or he might want to get back together. Nobody knows. He says one half of him wants to go back into the relationship and one half wants to stay single. \n\nHe insists that I'm wonderful, that it's his fault and the relationship worked...but for me the relationship broke because of wrong timing.\n\nI'm confounded because...the break up was not necessarily based on feelings for the other person but whether one is mentally stable...it's irrational for me to wait for him to get better and yet I want to be there for him. I'm not coping with the loss well and demanded No-Contact until I'm well enough to talk. \n\nI don't know if his feelings for me were genuine, or if I wished it's a lie so I can move on. If someone is at this state how does one go about light contact in the future...?", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend had to drop out of relationship to treat his OCD, problems, depression. I don't know if it's worth trying to get him back in my life, nor if his feelings for me were genuine and unsure of how to go about light contact."}
{"id": "t3_2s7g6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my SO [21 M] 3 years, Am worried I am/we are too chilled out.", "post": "*", "summary": "Me and my SO have been together for 3 years. Never felt like it's been a long time, now it does. Feel like I'm now committing because we got together after breaking up so seems more serious. I don't want serious, I want chilled like before. Feel uncomfortable about it."}
{"id": "t3_3hruuq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "32/m, 29/f, 8 months, I don't want to open up entirely.", "post": "*Preface: Today I've been trying to develop the perfect martini for my palette, which means I'm a bit tipsy. Bear with.*\n\nI am a serial monogamist. Which is my way of saying historically I meet a girl, have a sex with her a few times, ditch her, and meet a new girl. Rinse and repeat for more years than I care to admit. Relationships aren't really my thing.\n\nThat said, I've met a woman I care about. Someone who wants to have my babies. Shit is serious.\nI have... a checkered past. There are parts of my life I simply don't want to share. End of story. Push comes to shove, I'll live the rest of my life alone. There just isn't any wiggle room. Is that unforgivable?\nI treat my girlfriend with respect. I love her. I'm there for her. All I ask is that she not dig too far into my past. By asking that I feel like I've created a big red button, the kind a person just can't help but push. She won't back off.\nI've told her this is non-negotiable. If she wants to be with me, she has to accept that I love her, I'm here for her, but my history isn't laid bare for her.\n\nIs that an insane request? I have a fucked up history full of child abuse and drug abuse. I just don't want to bring it up. We've only been together 8 months or so. Maybe, years down the road, we'll talk.\nThing is, she keeps pestering, and the more I resist, the more she tries. There are aspects of my life which I'm not proud of and I don't want to discuss. I won't discuss. I hate ultimatums, but I can't help it. I told her she needs to drop the inquisition or move on. I'm not budging.\nWho's being unreasonable here?", "summary": "I'm not comfortable sharing my entire past, girlfriend keeps pushing.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2uypp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my ex BF [28 M]. He is soon to be kicked out of the country and wants me to help him create his own company so he can sponsor himself to stay. How do I deal?", "post": "I was with my boyfriend for 3 months, we broke up and I moved away to be away from him. He has now conveniently moved where I am and called me up to help him set up his own business to sponsor himself to stay in the country. He has asked if i will sign a couple of documents to be the 'director' of his subcontracting company as he needs someone he can trust and he doesn't really have anyone else to ask. I feel obliged to do it, as that if I don't, he has to leave the country. Even although he upset me (through minor infidelity -  which is why we broke up) I still want whats the best for him and for him to say in the country. He is manipulating me by telling me he will pay me a wage if i do this 'favour' for him.\n\nThe reason why i haven't blocked him out of my life is I do think he is a good guy, I am all he has in terms of a good friend and he still owes me some money which he has been paying me back. \nI do want to help him but I don't want to get myself into any legal trouble.", "summary": "Ex bf wants me to help him so he doesn't get kicked out of the country, but I don't want to put myself at risk."}
{"id": "t3_2l9hdw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my _girlfriend__ [20 F] 6 month , hiding relationship", "post": "So I've lately hit off on a very good relationship with this girl... She was a model nn highschool and always very popular. While I was the exact opposite of popular back in highschool.  That hasn't ever seem to be an issue in the past and we've been in the closest relationship either of us has ever had (basically living together).  However yesterday I noticed that she hid her FB relationship status.  I confronted her and asked about it and she said she hid it because people kept messaging her giving her crap about it saying \"I was a loser and she should break up  with me\"  \n\nHowever I still don't feel very OK with this and not sure if this is an obvious red flag that something is wrong or not....\n\nAny advice would be appreciated", "summary": "girlfriend hid fb relationship status - stating people were bugging her about it"}
{"id": "t3_309wm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22/f) depressed s/o (25/m) doesn't want help and doesn't know if he wants relationship", "post": "cross posted this to /r/depression\n\nMy s/o of 2.5 years has been depressed the whole time we've been together. I went through major depression my teen years and have recently just felt better about life I guess in the past year. He's always super negative and pessimistic and it gets taken out on me sometimes.\n\nHe's been acting really weird lately and it all came to a head last night. I decided to talk to him about it, and he said he needs some time off. He said he doesn't feel as satisfied by our relationship anymore, and he's been unhappy for a long time in general. i already knew the second part. He's been suggesting in the past few months we move in together this fall when both our leases are up, and a few weeks ago we had a big talk where he told me I'm all he's ever wanted and he wants to build a life with me.\n\nHe was crying a lot and saying he didn't think he was cut out for a relationship but he cared about me and wanted me around. I told him he couldn't have both of those things, and he said he didn't want to lose me but he didn't know if he wanted a relationship. I've suggested therapy, exercise, changing his diet, doing something multiple times...he said he feels so alone and has always been this way and doesn't know how to be any other way. I'm giving him a few days of space but i don't know what's going to happen. I can't be with somebody who refuses to help themselves. I feel like I keep putting in all this effort and it's all for nothing. I don't want it to be over but I feel like his depression is too great and we've hit a wall. Has anyone else ever dealt with something like this? I feel like I understand what he's saying but I also feel so confused and alone. I feel like he's just giving up on us.", "summary": "s/o is depressed and feels like he is unfit for relationship. doesn't want to lose me but feels unsatisfied."}
{"id": "t3_1xzah0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M/F] found out my girlfriend [24F] cheated on me a week before valentines day. I feel like shit.", "post": "I feel so bad inside but I pretended like I didn't care and left. I know all the little details. The things she said to him and texted him made me feel shitty. All I can imagine is them fucking. He had a better body than me, much better. We had sex the day after she cheated and I feel so dirty about myself now. \n\nShe wouldn't admit she cheated for 3 hours during our talk then she finally broke down and told me, and when she did she gaslighted me, trickle truthed me, and denied it. Then after some more talking I finally found out the full truth.\n\nI just want someone to give me a hug and talk to me. I want to go up to a stranger and tell them about my whole life. I'm on the verge of breaking into tears right now. I'm trying not to cry while being all alone in my bed. The only people I can come to talk to about this are anonymous strangers; pathetic. I wish someone would be here and just give me a hug.\n\nShe was my first girlfriend. She was the first person I slept with. I was the first guy she cheated on. I feel like I can't trust people. I'm so hurt.", "summary": "I am worthless. My girlfriend cheated on me."}
{"id": "t3_3dv1dn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my line in a play.", "post": "Like most of you, this TIFU didn't happen today, but in first grade. \n\nThe setup:\n\nIn the school play that year, the concept was where a poor town is visited by a wealthy King and the king secretly helps out the town, and then shows the love of Jesus to the town. Typical private school play.\n\nMy parents were excited for me and so they taught me improv. I couldn't get enough of it! I was doing improv with nearly every line, even though I knew the actual ones. This leads up to my TIFU.\n\nThe TIFU: \n\nIn the play, I had to say a line about how rich the king was. Due to all of the improv I had done, I forgot the actual line. That's when it hit me! I had remembered hearing the term \"Golden Shower\" somewhere and thought it meant being showered in gold, meaning that you're rich. \nI then said the line \"You're so rich. I bet you get a lot of golden showers!\" This was followed by shock from the \u00fcber-conservative crowd and an unexpected halftime.", "summary": "In first grade said that a character in the play must've gotten lots of golden showers during a performance to an extremely conservative crowd."}
{"id": "t3_3kkc5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) girlfriend and I (22m) broke up after almost five years. How does being single work?", "post": "Well, ex and I met in high school. She was a grade below me. We dated until a few days ago and the end of October was going to be out 5th anniversary. Her and I are polar opposites and when we were younger I guess we thought it was kind of cute and silly that it was so. After a while, once we started growing up, we started to want different things and our life choices were so far off that it was mostly just to better ourselves. I'm going to school and working full time with plans on going into the airforce when I get my BA. She stopped going to school after highschool and is just working part time. Not that those details really matter all that much, but the point I'm trying to make is that her and I are totally different people. If I said something was black, she'd argue that it was white. It finally hit us that her and I just aren't all that compatible anymore and it was doing us more harm than good staying together. Our biggest fear was to break up with chip on our shoulders and never speaking to each other again. Thankfully, that wasn't the case. Her and I decided to stay friends, especially since her family and I are close (and when they need tech support when their computers break.)\n\nI guess my question is; how does on live the single life? I feel so weird not texting her like I normally would. I feel weird not seeing her every day. I'm not depressed or anything because I had time to mentally prepare for this, but would someone have insight on this? I feel like I should just focus on something, but something is missing. Hm.", "summary": "gf and I broke up after 5 years and I'm not sure how to proceed with being single."}
{"id": "t3_zb7lg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, where can I get an affordable and decent cell phone jammer?", "post": "So I work on a golf course, right now I'm pretty low on the ladder with about 6 other people. We shovel sand in bunkers and weed eat fence lines and other low totem pole jobs. The boss can't keep an eye on all of us and when he sends us out 2 people are always on their cell phones, making personal calls and texts. I find it very annoying how they are getting paid the same amount as me to take personal calls. I would like to have a small cell phone jammer as means of stopping this.  I've tried asking them to stop but, they still do it.", "summary": "I need it to stop people from stealing company time"}
{"id": "t3_3pkvms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] don\u00b4t know what move should i do next with her [18F].", "post": "so i have this friend which i met a couple of months ago. She goes to my school and she is a year older, so she is not on my class and i rarely see her on the school. We met on an exchange trip, i have never seen her before till then.During the trip we made friends.\nOnce the trip ended we kept talking pretty much every day, i asked her if she would like to go to a cafe with me and she said yes, 2 weeks later i invited her to the cinema and she also said yes. But particulary in this second \"date\" there were a lot of silents moments since we are kind of shy and talking is definitely not my best strenght so i thought i fucked it pretty hard. However, we keep talking everyday.\n\nI tend to overthink things and when it comes to love even more, im not the sexyiest man on earth and i dont really understand why she even accepted to date with me. I dont think anyone would accept 2 dates with one person if he is not interested in the other one but on the other side, im the one that always starts the conversations and she never does. When i talk to her she answers me just fine and she keeps the conversation pretty well but she never searches me, not even once. Moreover, my friends tell me that she is definitely interested on me and that i should kiss her right away. However im not fully convinced of that but as i said tend to overthink things.\n\nIm really afraid of getting into a friendzone and my friends are constantly pressuring saying that i should have already kissed her so since i dont really know about dates i dont really want to fucked it up. What should i do, its been like 3 weeks since we dont go out together. Should i follow the advice of my friends or keep talking with her every day and wait? In case i choose to date again it will be in like a month because she is going to refuse me cause she has a lot of tests since she wants to finish high school.", "summary": "i have this friend which i have been talking with for about 3 months and we had 2 dates but i dont really know if she wants to make the next step. Should i try or wait? I feel like if i keep waiting i may fall to a friendzone and im afraid of failing if i try."}
{"id": "t3_16yh84", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [19 F] do not know how to break up with him [20m] - LDR", "post": "Him and I have been together for about 3 months now and the entirety of our relationship has been long distance. I have extremely strong feelings for him and I know that I love him. He is genuinely a good guy and someone who I only want the best for. The problem is that the distance is far too much for me to handle. He makes me happy but the fact that he is so far away (800 miles specifically) tears me apart. I already bought plane tickets to see him in about a month. Knowing I will get to see him for a while is great, but leaving is not so great. \n\nWe've talked about me moving there and it was possible that I would be moving there to attend school in the summer. I financially have the means to do so. I'm not scared of new places. Transferring credits would be no problem. So what is the problem then? He plans to study abroad next winter. I would be there for approximately 5 months before he would leave for another country for 4 months. Thinking about moving there, finally being with him, and then having him taken away from me again kills me. It's not something I can handle. It's also nothing I hold against him. It's just a very unfortunate situation. \n\nTherefore I am stuck with a lot of feelings for someone but knowing that I have to break up with them. If I don't I will be in the same situation in less than a year. I feel depressed when he is not here, and I simply cannot handle it.", "summary": "Love long distance boyfriend to pieces but god dammit, I cannot emotionally handle the distance."}
{"id": "t3_2j4erb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal that I [21/M] feel guilty for sleeping with a girl, when I'm single and still talking to my ex[20/F] ?", "post": "So my ex and I have been broken up for about 3 months now, because I moved away to a different city. Throughout these passed few months we've still been talking and haven't let go of one another. I brought up a serious conversation about doing an LDR and she declined. Just wanted to keep things the way they were. Talking to one another, but not dating. She said it's too much work, and I think she just likes the attention she gets from other guys now as well. \n\nI came back to visit for a visit to my old city and hooked up with a girl. Now I feel extremely guilty. Is this normal? Should I feel like this? Or should I not really be feeling bad?", "summary": "Still talk to ex gf, we haven't let go. I asked for ldr she said no, I hooked up with a girl and feel guilty."}
{"id": "t3_3lknlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex girlfriend [17 F] of 3 months, broke up yesterday. She then began to cut again.", "post": "My girlfriend of 3 months and I broke up yesterday. It was an okay relationship but had its downs and that's why it ended. Some backstory, we started dating this summer just for the heck of it. She gave me her secrets and I gave her mine like most couples do. One of them was very dark and something that haunts me even. She was molested at a very young age and still has nightmares about it. Her way of getting over it was to cut. You would never ever guess she was the kind of person who does that. \n\nSo she hasn't been cutting for a solid two years. That was good and I was supportive of her in the whole thing. This week however, things got rocky. I wanted different things and I'm not really feeling up to dating anymore and was starting to show a lack of interest. I told her that I want to end this and she didn't take it well at all.\n\nShe was very distraught over it and kept saying how she wanted to stay together. I however told her that I just can't in my own self interest. She understood, I told her I was here for her to talk and that if she needed someone, that she can come to me. I left it at that and had a nice night with some friends. \n\nSo fast forward to this morning. I wake up, take my daily run, and get a haircut. Then I get a message. Turns out that my ex started cutting herself last night. This leaves me at a very tough spot. She says it's not because of me but I don't believe that for a second. I promised to her that I wouldn't tell anyone but also made her promise she would get help. I'm really not sure what to think or do right now and any advice would be great. Thanks.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of 3 months, she started cutting again after two years of not doing it. Now I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2zjmvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my online date [25 F] I made a premature move, i don't know what to do next", "post": "2014 I quit a job that was place me under extreme stress, I got engaged, then she ended it, i moved back in with my parents in a extremely small town, I have blown through most of my savings, there are no people my age, but that not what has me down. I thought I was off to new beginnings this year, as I met a girl online and we hit it off. We have been texting since december, and within the last month we have been talking on the phone and face timing. She has been in Florida working. We constantly joked about how I should come visit, or she should swing on home for our initial date. She has been the one thing that was bringing me joy into my rather bleak life.\n\nI had spring break, the cash, and a car. So I figured I would take the trip down the coast to florida. We were stoked. I thought we had a great time we went, beach, bowling, food trucks, horse show, lunch, and she showed me what she did during the winter. I was able to sleep in a spare room at her apt.\nI thought everything seemed to be clicking. On my return, response times grew in between messages. I began to have increasing anxiety. I let her know about my anxiety and she dropped the how crazy busy her life is, and how her personal life is all over the place, \" I think your a nice guy\", maybe we can revisit this when I am home. and lastly she wished we would have waited before doing something like this(visiting her in florida).\nI see the writing on the wall, she clicked for me but I didn't click for her. I now feel like I am having an existential crisis. \n\nhow should i move forward? is it back to the online search", "summary": "met a girl online, drove 1000mi, got \"your a nice guy\"comment!"}
{"id": "t3_2uzw9e", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A major SV for me this morning! Wanted to share.", "post": "Hey r/loseit! \n\nYou guys have been awesome helping me with my journey, not quite there yet but I would probably have quit without the support and encouragement here.\n\nI have been still working to lose weight and get healthier but the scale was stressing me out so I stopped checking for a while. Three weeks ago to be exact, and this is a lot for me, someone who used to check every single day.\n\nToday I decided to step on the scale, I am officially 40 pounds lighter than I was when I started, just under 8 months ago. I know this isn't some incredible number compared to what is on here normally, and congratulations to all of those people. I know I could have lost faster, but when I started I had 54 pounds to lose, so now I am 14 pounds away from reaching my target.\n\nThere is also a NSV for me that is actually very important to me. When I started this I was pre-diabetic, out of shape, overweight and sitting in the obese category of the BMI chart. I am now much healthier in all of these aspects but the big one for me is my relationship with food. \n\nI have had an eating disorder most of my life and finally through help, support, the right medications, and yes weight loss, I feel like I'm actually in better control of it. I don't feel guilty for eating anymore, I don't endlessly stress and count every single calorie. I am doing a lot better. So thanks everyone.", "summary": "SV: down 40 pounds, now 14 pounds away from my target."}
{"id": "t3_2yrvw2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cooking shepherd's pie", "post": "I live alone. It was midnight (so literally 40 minutes ago as I type this on my phone). I decided to make shepherd's pie, because yum.\n\nI prep all my ingredients before I start cooking. Pans out and ready, pie plate (I prefer glass) waiting for the delicious meat and carrot and onion mixture I was getting ready to cook. Onion chopped, garlic minced, carrot chopped. Potatoes chopped and started cooking, because I can multitask! I had everything measured out, and I made everything from scratch. Including the stock. This was going to be the best shepherd's pie ever!\n\nI start browning the meat, and then there was this hugely loud BANG! I shriek and jump, and my bare feet (cooking alone at midnight, who wouldn't have bare feet) come down on super hot shards of broken glass. Because I'd put the pie plate (glass, remember?) on the stove. And turned on that element, instead of the one under the potato pot. And the pie plate exploded.\n\nSo I'm stuck, standing in the middle of a field of burning glass that used to be my kitchen and feeling kinda shocked.\n\nAnd then pain.\n\nDid I mention I was naked? That's a fun one to explain to the nurse at the ER. Because it's relevant--I have blistery burns on my tits, where I got pelted with hot glass. And I have blistery burns and cuts on the soles of my feet. \n\nAnd a mess of glass to clean when I get home. My kitchen is full of glass. My potatoes are full of glass. The meat is full of glass. It exploded across my dining room, and just... Everywhere. Also, there's a small puddle of blood - from my foot - on the floor in the middle of the glass. I'll get a picture when I get home.", "summary": "I made an explosion instead of dinner."}
{"id": "t3_1rqp3n", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M19] Friends with Benefits [F20]", "post": "I am very sexually frustrated. A friend of mine is also very sexually frustrated. We go to different schools but we hang out (in a group) a lot when we are both home. However when we hangout we often make a ton of sexual jokes to each other. Sometimes we even watch porn together. Usually it's funny porn but last time we watched some that got us both pretty horny.\n\nNow I want to explore the possibility of us being friends with benefits. I've never had a situation like this before so I don't really know how to approach it. I don't want to ruin our friendship either. Does anyone have any advice for this sort of thing?\n\nAlso I've known her for a long time and I'm not really interested in pursuing a relationship with her, and I don't think she would with me.", "summary": "How do I ask my friend to be my FWB?"}
{"id": "t3_1hivik", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "While celebrating a friend's birthday at a strip club, i befriended a stripper and got her number, what do i do now?", "post": "I walked in the strip club, sat down next to one of the stages and a gorgeous dancer begins to perform. Soon after, i asked her for her name, and we chatted a bit about casual things. She finishes her performance, and i move somewhere else for an hour. Eventually i ask her for a lap-dance. The lap-dance was great and we really started to talk and connect about more personal things such as hobbies, school, goals, nightlife, lifestyles etc. I found out she's from Canada, and moved to NYC a year ago to pursue a new life, so she didn't know a lot of people around. She thought i was a very nice person, and told me not to be shy with getting touchy, but i kept it professional. Since we were talking about the beach, she suggested we go together sometime and hangout, or go for a hike, anything really. She never suggested for me to visit her at the club again in the future. She then said it would be cool if we stayed in touch. \n\nAfter the lap dance, we chat at the lounge for 30 minutes until closing, exchange numbers, hug and say our good byes. After i depart, we have a very short text conversation ending with our respectful good nights. \n\nI've never had this sort of experience before and i'm not sure if this is all part of the classic \"hustle\", after all it is her job, which makes me skeptical. Although i'm biased, i will say that she seemed to have good intentions. What should i do, or say? I should also mention that i'm roughly 5-8 years younger (99% sure) than she is, but she never asked for my age. Did i really meet a stripper with good intentions? Let me know what you think, advice is much appreciated.", "summary": "Acquired a stripper's number after a long chat, not sure what to do or say."}
{"id": "t3_1oqwww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [22F] of 4 years broke up yesterday. I'm not handling it well and need some coping methods.", "post": "My girlfriend and I had been best friends all through high school. I finally asked her out senior year and have been going steady since. Yesterday she put us on a break of sorts because she had been thinking since she started college again. She said she had all sorts of \"what-if's\" in her head like what if there's someone else for her.\n\nI had a long relationship with a girl in high school, but she never had a boyfriend until me. She said I had something to compare our relationship to while she didn't. I had made up my mind that she is the one a bit ago and it was only a matter of time before I proposed. She didn't have anything to compare our relationship to so she didn't know about a future together. \n\nShe put us on a break to sort out her thoughts and maybe see other people until she has some epiphany to know what to do. We've decided to try and remain friends because we don't want to lose such a long friendship. She has plans every night this weekend with people I don't know and won't tell me what they're doing which makes me scared. I knew she was going to see other people and stuff and I'm okay with it. I sound so controlling and obsessive but I can't handle not knowing. Just as her friend I need to know she's safe and not doing anything that may hurt herself. I know she doesn't have to tell me everything anymore but when she doesn't my mind goes to worst case scenarios.\n\nI just need some ways of coping and not having anxiety attacks so I can sleep at night.", "summary": "Girlfriend has plans that I don't know about and as her friend it scares me of she's doing."}
{"id": "t3_3bipgy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By singing at a party.", "post": "Recently, both I, and many other friends have turned 18, and in this new age of drinking and sex, there are of course, also, parties. \n\nNow at this particular party, on Saturday evening (so it was *nearly* today) there was a rather beautiful girl named Stacy - and in my semi-drunken state of arousal I tried to pick her up, and yet somehow my brain decided that the best way to do this would be to ask: \"[Has your Mom got it going on?]  \n\nHere's where I fucked up.\n\nShe burst into tears and ran from the room, just as the music went quiet. Everyone stared at me.\n\nI knew that my singing was *bad*, but even by my standards, this wasn't a normal reaction!\n\nAsking around later, it turns out that she'd run away from home only three weeks ago after her stepfather physically and sexually abused both her and her mother.\n\nAnd no sexy times were had.", "summary": "Decided to sing to a hot girl, hoping to pick her up, she burst into tears, but it wasn't due to my singing."}
{"id": "t3_3amari", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make space in an elevator.", "post": "First of all, this definitely did not happen today. It happened many years ago when I was young and adorable. \n\nFlashback to age 5, my parents and I are on a cruise ship, getting into the elevator. There were tons of people getting in, and the elevator became very crowded. I felt a bit uncomfortable, as I was a kid and I needed space. So to escape the sweaty mesh of bodies in the elevator, I decided to stand on this small platform/ledge thing on the wall of the elevator. I jumped on and started to lean on it.\n\nTurns out, the platform thing I was standing on was the leg rest of a wheelchair that an old lady was currently sitting in. I had been leaning on that poor lady's foot for about a minute. She immediately got off the elevator, and I'm pretty sure she was going off about me being 'the spawn of satan'.", "summary": "stood on an old lady's foot in an elevator, was called the 'spawn of satan' soon after."}
{"id": "t3_2qsmbo", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Am I the asshole?", "post": "So I have lived in Vancouver, BC for just under a year now. Took a sales job, hired someone, trained them to sell. They improved far better than me, and ended up opening their own office at 19. Impressive, right?\n\nHe offered me a job, to poach me from my other office. I didn't take it because I wasn't sure he would succeed. Or that he might get sued for a non compete. \n\nI stayed at the old office for a few months more, found that the boss was cheating me out of money. Left, didn't want to do that type of sales again. \n\nFew months go by, money is getting tight. My former student offers me a job. I take it, ask if he would do me a favour of helping me move. About 2-3 hours at most, because I don't have much.\n\nHe says sure, I give him the day (today) and he agrees two weeks in advance. Because he is making a whole lot more than me, I asked if I could borrow a bit of money. He knocks it down to 725. Reasonable, seeing as he is already helping me move. Didn't want to push it.\n\nWe agree to move today, I suggest 1 pm. At 230 he tells me he is going for dinner, but should be good for 8. He is helping me move and giving me money I desperately need. So I agree. \n\nAt 10 I call. Phone isn't picking up, ok. Date went better than expected, I guess. Maybe they went back to his place. And I would never want to block a friend.\n\n1100 rolls around. No answer, so I call his best friend. Maybe it was those two having dinner and got carried away. Annoying, but manageable. \n\nHe answers, I find out the guy who was going to help me move was hanging out. And went home to sleep. I call the guy who was going to help me, still no answer.\n\nAm I right to be furious? Or am I taking his favours (I am in desperate need of money and don't drive) for granted?", "summary": "buddy who I doubted opened office. Offered me help, didn't do it, or so much as tell me he cancelled. Karma?"}
{"id": "t3_y22qi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "26 [M] Should I or shouldn't I?", "post": "So, an ex-GF screwed me out of about $3500, which comes to $6100 with interest. She needed the money, because she stole it from her former place of work (a jewelery store). It's been a year now and all she says is \"I have no money, no job. Leave me alone.\".\n\nSo, I'm currently broke, no job and living with my parents. And I have MASSIVE debt. So, I'm planning on going over to her house and covering it with posters with her name and picture on it, asking for my money.\n\nIf shit goes down, I got people. Serious people.", "summary": "Ex GF screwed me out of $$$. Gonna go put \"WANTED FOR PAYMENT posters in front of her house. Not sure what or if to do it."}
{"id": "t3_2luiyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (19/f) talk to future roommates (19/m) and (23/m) that I don't want to pay full rent if I share a room with my partner (19/m)", "post": "So next year myself, my boyfriend (we will call him M), out bestfriend (we will call him J) and another friend (we will call him C) want to move out of our respective parents homes and into a flat together.\n\nI am really comfortable around these guys so there won't be a problem living with three guys and being the only girl.\n\nThe thing is though, if we move out we would be getting a three bedroom place and I would have to share a room with my partner. I feel like my partner and I should not have to pay the same rent as the others because we won't get the same 'value for money' kind of thing. If I pay the same rent I would want my own room to use for my own purposes even if I was sleeping in the same room as my partner. \n\nI don't mind splitg other cost like water and lights equally because that's something we all are using. It's just I don't know how to bring it up or how we would split it. \n\nAlso the reason I don't want to pay full rent is I will be the only one still studying while everyone else is working full time. J has a tendincy of 'forgetting' that fact and signing me up for things I can't really afford and my boyfriend then has to pay for me. It's never a huge deal but I'm afraid it will continue when we live together and I just won't be able to cope financially and I really don't want to put extra pressure on my boyfriend.", "summary": "I'm planning to move out with friends and I don't want to pay the same rent as other without getting the same use of the flat. How do I bring this up with the group?"}
{"id": "t3_2vy2yh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a red Valentines. Nsfw", "post": "I got my period on Wednesday, and bae and I were both gutted that we couldn't do it on Valentines, at least not conveniently since it hasn't stopped us before. not an hour ago I got horny and decided that since my flow had weakened a bit, we should try. Since we'd done it before, we got everything ready with paper towels and even this special cushion we always put under my ass to avoid staining the sheets. Cue steamy hot foreplay, and since I'd been aching for him to take me doggy style for the whole day, we did that first. It was amazing but a minute into it, I realized a second too late: doggy style makes me queef. Bad. I queefed blood all over his bed sheets, which was the least sexy thing I've possibly ever done. After that, he was too concerned about the stain to keep going, which was understandable. I probably grossed him out too - also understandable.", "summary": "sprayed le bf's bed sheets with period blood."}
{"id": "t3_2ghsvk", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Meeting a fellow runner ruined my plan but turned out great", "post": "Just wanted to share my experience from yesterday. \n\nI'm training for a HM in about 6 weeks and my schedule had a 2 hour long run for me on Sunday. I started nice and easy for the first hour, enjoying the run, the weather and the beautifull forest. After about an hour I came across a fellow runner on an intersection. We introduced ourselves to eachother and decided to run together in a second. Somehow it was just the natural and fun way to go. Hey, who are you? Shall we run together?.... Just as easy.  The next 45 minutes we ran together and I loved it. Just chatting an relaxing and sharing stories. Running way faster than my plan though, he was a lot more experienced than I was, therefore I left my run a bit short. \n\nI never run with other people, I like running alone without any distractions (no music etc). Just me, my breathing and my cadence. This experience was very good to step out of my comfort zone and relax a bit more about my plan. During the run together I never thought of my pace, my heartrate, my cadence... I just ran. Somehow I feel more relaxed now about my plan.", "summary": "joining a fellow runner on my long run messed up my plan but was a great experience. Feel more relaxed about my plan and proofs again that you can meet great people while running."}
{"id": "t3_15nwsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (21) no longer wants to have sex with me (f/19), how do I fix this?", "post": "Seeing as how my boyfriend is subscribed to this subreddit, I'm sure he might read this, and that's okay.\n\nHe and I have been on and off for the last four years now, the duration of our current relationship is 7 months. From the second we started dating we were an extremely physical couple, and even after breakups we were fooling around/having sex often. We couldn't keep our hands off each other. \n\nFor the last three years our relationship has been long distance because he goes to school four hours away from our home town, but we still managed to have sex anytime we had the chance.\n\nHe's always been paranoid about the risk of pregnancy and always has made me take pregnancy tests almost every month that we're sexually active. But now, despite being on the pill, and despite the use of condoms, he says that he no longer wants to have sex because although he enjoys the physical aspect of it, he immediately regrets it afterwards and worries that I am somehow pregnant.\n\nThis makes me feel like I'm not an adequate lover, and that my body is a nightmare for him. I'm an extremely sexual being, and I can't have our relationship without any sexual element in it. I want to try to find a middle ground for him, or try to find a way that he can enjoy sex with me, but now it's hard for me to feel comfortable with him seeing my body when I feel like it's the embodiment of his worst nightmares. I know I need to get past that if I want to get our relationship back on a physical path.", "summary": "My boyfriend and sexual partner (21) of the last 4 years no longer wants to have sex with me (f/19) because he's afraid of getting me pregnant despite the use of a condom and the pill, a long with frequent pregnancy tests. How do I remedy this or try to find a middle ground? "}
{"id": "t3_50a5f7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my LDR boyfriend [21 M] of 1 month, having trouble trusting partner/ not being paranoid", "post": "Basically title, I don't really have much depth to go into. Haven't done many relationships and I've always been this way and I really really really don't want it to let it ruin this one. \n\nI tend to assume the worst always, and when thinking about situations I will always just think about bad things coming from it. Him cheating on me, he's losing liking for me, he wants to break up, etc. When we're interacting I don't get these things at all, it's when I am left to my own thoughts. I know he's not the type of person to do those things but I just get lost and worried. I have trouble trusting everyone I ever date, and I realize it's not a specific person I deal with.", "summary": "I have relationship paranoia."}
{"id": "t3_lm9jw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with games at the beginning of a relationship?", "post": "Hello everybody,\n\nI (f, 27) have met a very attractive guy (35) on an online dating-site and started to see him every now and then since the beginning of September. \n\nWe are I believe what you would call a \"casual relationship\" that is making me insane. Somehow he behaves more rudely than anybody I ever met before (he drops me at the railway-station without even asking whether he should wait with me for the train, when we walk through a crowd he sometimes walks 10m in front of me without taking my hand, because at some point I said I prefer reducing PDAs, he purposefully ignores me). \n\nThe options are: 1. he's not that interested in me. and\n2. he's playing games\n\nI do not believe that he's not interested, because he would have the possiblity of FWB with me and we have rather trouble filling our time with things we mutually enjoy (I like artsy movies and sports, he likes to smoke and drink). Sex is really good and I generally get good feedback from him. So it must be him playing games.\n\nHe would do things like not meeing me for two weeks, when definitely having the options (he has a car and would have to drive 45 minutes)\nto do so, and during the period calling (for three days every day for an hour and then for four days nothing, and not responding to my calls and calling back much later). \n\nSince I questioned him about his mental sanity (twice) and he assured me that he believes to be sane, I assume he's playing games. What should I do? I like him and sex with him, I don't believe us to have a lot of potential for a serious long-term relationship, because he destroys his body with poinson. However, his games make me think about him constantly and make me want him. Am I the crazy one?", "summary": "casual guy plays games and makes me go crazy for him. This interferes with my other interests (life, work). What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_z5nok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend thinks I'm a better friend than I am, he's also asked me for money", "post": "I'm going to try to keep this short, but we'll call my friend Mike (25/M) -- I am also 25, and a male. Mike and I went to school together and he didn't have too many friends. So I was nice to him, I talked to him, and we got a long. But we never hung out outside of school. Now, almost 8 years later -- I haven't seen him since. But he'll occasionally message me online (always the initiator).   I stay in touch to be nice.\n\nHe's had a hard time. Both parents have died recently, and he's come into some really unfortunate legal troubles. Recently, he's asked me for financial help. If I was a rich person, I'd be happy to help -- because he's been falsely accused of a crime, he's *very* talented at what he does, and I can rapidly see that talent going to waste in the face of financial hardship and stress. \n\nBut I *don't* really have the money, and I can't afford to help. Sure, I have money saved up....but I have my own burdens and financial stresses. If this was one of my best friends I would give all I could in a heartbeat, but how do I let Mike down without sounding like a jerk or feeling bad?", "summary": "Highschool friend thinks I'm his best friend because I was nice to him over the years. Is now asking for money to help with legal troubles. How do I say no without seeming like a dick / Crushing his spirit?"}
{"id": "t3_sgg1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help on new relationships.", "post": "Hello. everyone. I don't know if this is the right sub-reddit to post this in but please tell me if I should move it elsewhere.\n\n**Backstory:** I've broken up with my girlfriend of over a year and it was heartbreaking. At first, it was just \"a brake\" for her. I couldn't see this as just a brake (after waiting for about 5 days) and came out straight forward about how all of this is bull shit and that she needs to grow up, how she hurts me and etc. It all went downhill, we still remain friends (she was my best friend for half a year before the relationship). She said that if I waited for a bit longer then everything would've worked out. The **bad part** is - we're completely broken up. I still love her and would like to get together with her again. The **even worse part** is that she constantly reminds me that she has feelings for me, still, but doesn't want to date me. It really hurts me. When I think that I can finally move on and get up on my feet, maybe find a girlfriend, she just throws this out in the field and I curl up in to a ball again. I know this is unhealthy, but I want to maintain a healthy friendship, sooner or later. Even though the friendship will be REALLY awkward.", "summary": "GF broke up with me, doesn't want to get back together with me but constantly reminds me that she misses me and still has feelings for me. I still love her."}
{"id": "t3_4tn3gu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] know I'm young but I have some long term concerns with my gf [19F] of 5 months", "post": "Hey everybody. This is my first relationship and I for one do care for her a lot but I feel she loves me more than I do and sees me as the one. I can tell my love has been growing for her but I question whether I'll ever reach the same level. Has anyone gone through this before? Also while I'm at it, we're both in college and I'm afraid both our careers may not line up. I guess what I'm most concerned with is if it does come to the worst end of it I'd feel bad trying to break it off.", "summary": "Afraid of a more one sided love and the long term thought of relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1bdr1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[16] Just started dating F[17]and I'm stupidly worried, but I need a bit of backup here!", "post": "Right, don't want to waste a lot of peoples time, so I'll be brief.\n\nI found out the girl I've been hopelessly flirting with for the past few weeks is into me, so I asked her to go out to the city on Saturday, we went, it was awkward but I thought it went well, we went on Saturday because she had a driving lesson on Sunday during the day. She said it was smack dab in the middle of the day and would kill her entire day. After our day out she tells me she's going to bed early so she's awake for her lesson... at 10AM. I was a little suspicious but never brought up anything to her, I texted her asking her how she got on a few hours ago, but she hasn't replied. Why wouldn't she say she's doing anything? Is she trying to hide something? I know I'm being paranoid, give me a break, but I'm new to this and I want to know if I should just let it slide. This is the first day we haven't talked in about 3 weeks. Can someone give me a bit of clearance?", "summary": "Girl I'm seeing hasn't replied all day after our first day out together. Is it ok to be a bit paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_4aka6n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27m) am advancing in life. Fiance (27f) isn't keeping up. Don't know what to do.", "post": "I (27/m) have recently graduated college and got a great job in a new city. For the first time in my life I'm actually successful... I make good money, rent out a great place in a good neighborhood and saving for a house now, I stay in shape by working out, everything is going great. However my fiance (27/f) isn't keeping up. She only has her associates degree and since we started dating (3.5 years ago) has only taken one college class. She doesn't have any goals either personally or professionally. I've tried communicating to her the importance of having goals but she won't listen. She sleeps 9 hours a day and just wants to watch Netflix and drink after work, which was cool in college, but not so much now. Now that we live in a more expensive place she can barely pay her half of the rent, I'm stuck with getting food and anything else we need. I've tried telling her that this is a problem but nothing ever changes. I don't know what to do. I really love her but I don't want to live the rest of my life with a partner that acts like this. She's the only gf I've ever had as well, I don't even know how to break up. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I'm going after it and building my life, fiance is awesome but not keeping up/ helping herself. PlzHalp"}
{"id": "t3_3qqny0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] forgot my girlfriend [20F] of 11month's birthday. How do I fix this?", "post": "Hi, this is a throwaway account. I really screwed myself over here and I need advice on how to fix the situation. \n\nI have been dating my girlfriend, fake name Jane, for just about a year now. I truly love her and she's there for me every day when I need it and beyond. Back in February during my birthday, she got me a few vintage game systems because I mentioned that my dream is to own all of the systems. It was an awesome birthday. Honestly one of the best I can remember.\n\nThis year has been one of the best yet for me. I know a lot of it is because of her. She's very understanding of my hectic work schedule and still finds time in her crazy life to care for me. So I feel crazy guilty right now about forgetting her birthday yesterday. \n\nI asked when her birthday was to verify the date a month or so back. I wanted to get her a very nice gift that she'd mentioned in passing wanting a while ago. She's never had a birthday celebration before because her step mother never allowed for it. I wanted to make this year special. \n\nHowever, I forgot about it. Seriously forgot. I work a lot and eventually it slipped my mind. Yesterday I worked the morning, she came over, cooked me dinner, I went to hang out with my friends, and went to bed. She said nothing. This morning I went to her place and her brother asked how yesterday went. I told him about my day. He asked what I got Jane. I asked what he meant, and he also got confused. He asked what I got for her birthday, and I asked when it's happening. \n\nIt was yesterday. Now she's at work and so am I. I feel like shit. She hasn't said one thing. She hasn't acted angry or upset or anything. I don't know what to say to her. I feel really bad. She's done so much for me and I didn't even remember her birthday.\n\nHow do I bring this up and apologize? Should I do anything to celebrate now without it being awkward? I just have no idea what to even say to her.", "summary": "I forgot my girlfriends birthday and she hasn't mentioned it at all. I feel like shit. How do I bring this up and make things better?"}
{"id": "t3_44e190", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with a sophomore guy (15M) fix his relationship with his freshman sister(14F).", "post": "Okay. So, during my sophomore homeroom, we had this activity about thanking someone who isn't in our usual friend group. There's a girl in my homeroom, who is kinda close friends with my freshman sister. Y'all know that person, that one who's in your grade but hangs with the freshies. There's also this one girl who thinks they're friends, but who everyone hates. For the sake of privacy, let's call my sister Nancy, her friend Kate, and the girl which everyone hates Brianna.\n\n Last night, Brianna and my sister had a \"talk\" about being friends again, even though Brianna is being a huge bitch about it. My sister and Kate are talking about this subject, and Nancy is telling me everything cause I'm the only one who she's close to in the family. \n\nFast forward to homeroom, being the incredibly dense person I am, I give Kate the thank you note, which says, \" thank you Kate, for talking shit with my sister about Brianna.\" During lunch, Kate goes on to tell everyone in their friend group about the note, so now everyone knows about it. Shit starts going down, Brianna confronts my sister, trust between Nancy and Kate is lost. Fast forward a bit to when school has ended, and my sister is crying in her room.\n\n It's Friday where I live right now, and I have homeroom again on Monday. Is there anything I could do to fix my somewhat close relationship with my sister, and the trust between her and Kate? Thanks in advance, hope someone who actually has experience in this can help. Also, apologies for any grammar mistakes, I'm on my phone.", "summary": "I ruined my sister's social circle, and she hates me for it, enough to ruin her trust with a close friend of hers. How can I regain her trust and our relationship back?"}
{"id": "t3_4uh57a", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "About to start my second year teaching", "post": "I am about to start my second year of teaching English I and II at a \"B\" rated school. My administration is wonderful, but teaching multiple preps and co-sponsoring color guard, creative writing club, and being on a positive behavior committee means my hours are closer to 80 hours a week than the 35 I spend actually teaching. Not to mention, a vast majority of the kids I teach do not want to be at school (and are unwilling to learn, no matter how \"interesting\" I make my lessons) and will probably drop out in the next couple of years.\n\nI spent four years in college knowing this is what I wanted to do with my life. I had a great experience student teaching, but going into my second year, I cry almost daily when I think of having to go back to school. \nMy husband has been very supportive and says that he thinks I should consider quitting, but I feel like since I've signed a contract for this year, I am committed to teaching for at least another year.\n\nI am not sure if this is not good for my mental health, but I don't feel like I can abandon my administration, who has done nothing but support me. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "teaching is not what I expected it to be, I am dreading starting my second year, and I am considering quitting."}
{"id": "t3_3pq8xt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] have questions on how to boost my girlfriend's [21f] confidence", "post": "So I recently started dating someone that I have liked for a while. We started dating today, but we had a thing off and on again last year around this time. She likes me as well and it is all going pretty well, but she has quite a few issues with her self confidence. I want simple things I can do to help boost her self confidence. I understand that it really comes down to her wanting to be more conifent and believing in herself but I am sure that I can help at least a little bit.\n\nMost of her issues stem from poor body image. She is actually quite attractive with a nice body. But there are a few things off about her that she focuses on.", "summary": "My new partner struggles with her body image, and I would like to help boost her confidence as much as possible."}
{"id": "t3_3v1nn7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hitting on a girl at the gym", "post": "This actually happened the other day. I am a regular at the big box gym here in town and have been for years. I also almost invariably go there early in the morning on the same days as I've made friends with a lot of the other guys that are there at the same time. \n\nSo over the past few months I've noticed a new girl that seems to be on the same schedule as me. She's very fit and athletic looking. She is often wearing shirts for one of the private universities in the state, so I'm figuring she must be a former college athlete coming in before work. She doesn't really talk to anyone, but I've noticed her looking at me a few times. \n\nThe other day, I was finishing up my workout and getting ready to go, when I saw that she was set up behind a booth for one of the health/vitamin stores giving out free samples and what not. So, I stopped by the table before I left and chatted her up a bit. In the end, I said we should hang out sometime and then got her number. Score! Or so I thought. \n\nNow, I should mention that I just turned 30. I do, however, look much younger than that as I'm in really good shape and well, genetics. \n\nAnyways, I was about to text her yesterday to set up a time to hang out, but first out of curiosity I decided to look her up on social media...and here's the fuck up. It turns out she is an athlete. A high school athlete. Needless to say, but I did not text her, and I probably need to find a new gym.", "summary": "Hit on a cute chick from the gym and got her number. Turns out she's still in high school and now I just feel like a creeper."}
{"id": "t3_40uym9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my Wife [28 F] of 4 years wants to attend a concert instead of my birthday.", "post": "My wife is a big fan of Metal band, called Ghost. She attended 6 events here around our hometown in southern California last year. She's the moderator of a large fan page dedicated to them on Facebook and collects a lot of their merchandise. \n\nThey just announced the second leg of their tour and they're coming back to the United states, but this time they're not coming here to southern California. However, on the 23rd of April they're going to be having a show in Arizona, over 6 hours away. My birthday is on the 25th (a Monday in which we both work) and she asked me to push back my birthday to following weekend so she can drive across the state to go see them play in Arizona. \n\nI've tried going with her, and getting into the band before, but she likes to be in line 16+ hours early so she can sit up front. She talks about them for 18 hours a day, and is constantly updating her pages. I just can't stand to hear about them anymore. \n\nAm I being unreasonable by refusing to move my birthday celebration? Is she inconsiderate for asking me to do so? Even finances are a constant issue for us but she's willing to spend 250$ more for a chance to get their autograph back stage AGAIN.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_36bbjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/ F] with my boyfriend [28/ M] 2.5 years, ex communication", "post": "This is going to be really short, I'm sorry if my formatting is terrible.\n\nMy boyfriend has talked to his ex during our relationship, in the beginning I didn't care because it's understandable, but I believe that he has secretly been talking to her since I brought her up a few months ago. He said he has cut all contact, but he hasn't. He knows that I have access to his email, and he has access to mine as well. His ex is from the other side of the country, so I don't know her, and she doesn't even know that he has a girlfriend. She does know that \"his landlord is snoopy\". I'm just asking for advice on how to ask him to tell her about me. He gets very defensive (passive aggressive) when I speak of her, which is rarely if ever. I may just go with \"will you please tell x about me?\" Seems to be the best way to do things.", "summary": "how to ask my boyfriend to tell his ex about me"}
{"id": "t3_4x4o1i", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Puppysitting a 4m/o pitbull for my friend! Haven't been around puppies for many years. Any advice or questions I should remember to ask her owner?", "post": "Hello! Due to unfortunate circumstances for my friend, she feels it would be best for her dog not to be with her in her place right now as she's getting ready to move out and there's a bunch of drama with her roommates (who do not like her little Nova at all). So she's staying with me for 15-20 days.\n\nNova is a four month old female pitbull, who is just a little darling. Very polite for a puppy. She took her to the vet yesterday and they said she has puppy vagitius, but reccomended not putting her on antibiotics until after she gets spayed. Besides that, she's healthy and has all her shots up to date. \n\nI've remembered to ask her about how she sleeps (which is in a crate), how she is with other dogs (which is playful and curious), and how much she's eating (a scoop in the morning and one in the evening). Oh, I also asked her about potty training (she's good a will whine at a door to go, she has an accident occasionally but she's good at giving you a sign she wants to go). \n\nAre there any other questions I should be asking her? Do I have all my bases covered? I figured since she's a puppy I could do a nice long walk and playtime before bed in the evening.", "summary": "puppysitting 4m/o female pitbull, haven't been around puppies in forever. Any tips? Anything I should make sure to ask the owners?"}
{"id": "t3_4dt2y9", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Socialization issue or is this normal?", "post": "I have a corgi that 2 years old, she has never been as fond of men as she has been with woman. She loves kids baby-9ish, teenage girls she loves, boys not so much. She has never been aggressive but like scared and unsure (some ppl just reach for her and don't even ask....) So she will bark at them but eventually warms up. She not much for petting or being touched (she is a corgi lol) Never ever has she tried to bite anyone. Anyways we go for walks and sometime when someone is doing something out of the norm she will like bark but not full on bark. Just like eh what are you doing. When we pass by ppl most of the time she ignores them or try to smell them as we walk passed. Once in a while and it seem more teenagers, who have hoodies like today we walked passed this kid and he just turns around reach his hand out and said I love dogs. She instantly went from hey I want to say hi to barking in place and jumping up and down, ears back she never moved from her spot never lunged forward, but was not calming down so I apologized and said she can be a bit of a scared cat sometimes, she doesn't mean any harm. As he walked away and he said sorry for scaring her. She went to go sniff him and I held her leash tight. I didn't want her to sniff him. In case the boy was scared and unsure if she will bite or not. We turn back around and see more kids coming, and we passed them and she was fine. We passed a old creepy guy fine, etc...So I was wondering does that seem out of the normal for a herder? Since they tend to be more defensive when scared and unsure....and how is a good way to fix it. She doesn't like when men try to reach out for her or talk to her and get in her face either...but I wouldn't either lol. She loved the TWC guy, she Loved the house inspector guy, she loved the fed ex guy, one of the pizza guys. So she does like guys but Idk what makes the difference...maybe not forcing it?", "summary": "issues with scared barking, at unsure males."}
{"id": "t3_11m3z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21F] pushed me [21M] around a few times last night. What do I make of it?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 3 months now. Last night we had a minor difference in opinion over how much say she gets in my life at this point. \n\nLong story short, she became rather upset because I ignored the argument and tried to sleep it off. Because of that, she pushed me a few times, both to wake me up, shone her phone light in my eyes, pushed me forehead into the pillow and ultimately out of bed. She then told me to sleep on the couch. \n\nI woke up and tried to leave her apartment, to which she persuaded me to stay on the couch. I did because I was tired, but now I'm confused because she has apologized but I don't think she really understands what just happened. When shes upset, she tends to become difficult like this but never has she laid hands on me in anger. \n\nI have a good mind to tell her it's over and that's that. But was it merely heat of the moment or should I be worried about future incidents like this?", "summary": "my girlfriend and I had an argument, she got a little physical. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4szmz3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[M19] I'm suffering from a very real caffeine addiction with painful withdrawal symptoms that make lowering my dependence seem impossible. How do I handle this?", "post": "It all started a year ago when I started college. I wasn't a big coffee drinker but I bought a coffee maker just in case college did require me to use it daily. Before I knew it, I was drinking up to 7 cups of coffee in one day. I never knew I was addicted though because I had a constant flow of coffee. Then this summer I was bedridden from a surgery and coffee was the last thing on my mind when I started to experience INTENSE symptoms of drug like withdrawal. Pounding headaches that not even RX pain pills could tackle, hearing and feeling my own heartbeat constantly, and anxiety to name a few. I thought I was having surgical complications, but then realized I had gone 24 hours without caffeine for the first time in a year. I quickly brewed myself a cup and instantly the symptoms disappeared and I felt normal. I've had more instances like this in the past weeks that are very uncomfortable, and I don't want to be in a situation where I need caffeine and can't have it. Ive cut my intake to 2-3 cups a day in hopes of reducing my dependence, but I still experience intense withdrawal symptoms if I go more than 25 or so hours without caffeine.", "summary": "I'm literally addicted to a drug (caffeine) and I don't know how to quit."}
{"id": "t3_1np6x6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I broke 23 minutes for a 5k on my HS XC team!", "post": "I'm a sophomore and this is my first year running cross country so I'm pretty out of shape. In fact, there's freshman runners on my team who are faster/better, but that doesn't matter I suppose. My first 5k time was 23:30 and I felt like I wasn't getting better at all considering I got worse on a meet called Garret Mountain in NJ (My time was 23:57) :(\n\nI told my friend that I was going to go under 23 minutes this race and I did it. About 200 meters before the finish line someone who obviously seemed to want to pass me ran up to me and passed me slowly. I thought to myself that I would let it happen considering how tired I was. My teammates cheered me on and it's probably thanks to them that I ran as fast as I could and past him, getting a time of 22:59.", "summary": "been stuck on 23 for too long but then i gave a kid the kick kick giddyup and had 1 second to spare"}
{"id": "t3_100gqm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do?", "post": "(24) My best friend (Phil) of 12 years and I know this gorgeous girl (Bailey) who we have both been interested in for the past couple of years on and off. Recently it just so happened that we both are interested at the same time. He is the kind of person that will push you out of the way just so that he can stand/sit next to her. She has been throwing me signals and stuff but she also seems to do it to him also. He has always had girls chasing after him and I don't really get girls lusting towards me all the time like he does. So I am tempted to pursue a committed relationship with Bailey but I am afraid that Phil would be irrational and just stop the friendship right then and there. So reddit what do you recommend I should do?", "summary": "Me and a best friend are interested in the same girl and I don't want to ruin the relationship by asking her out."}
{"id": "t3_16acl0", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Not good at titles, rude cashier", "post": "My wife (23) and me (24) are grocery shopping for healthy food before school. We get everything and go to check out. The cashier was not friendly, even though my wife went to go help her by bagging the grocery. She was sliding the foods to her pretty hard. She didn't slow down with my peaches. I told my wife to make sure that the peaches don't get bruised because the gas released by a bruised fruit goes bad in hours. I said it loud enough to make it obvious enough for her to know I was talking to the cashier. When she got to my apples she threw them down and they hit counter pretty hard, that was enough. I told her that I don't want those apples because they was now bruised. She couldn't figure out how to take them off our transaction and had to call a manager to help her. Everyone in the long line behind us were getting pissed as the overweight manager waddled over to fix what she couldn't do. Not the most evil of revenge but it caused a disruption and she was visibly frustrated.", "summary": "If someone is helping you with your job, don't ignore me when I ask you to not throw my food."}
{"id": "t3_3d2jbl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Grade 12, last year of high school anxiety", "post": "I currently attend high school at Ontario, Canada and I just finished my grade 11 year. There were a whole lot of things I could've improved on, especially procrastination that led me to lower marks which I totally blame myself for. \n\nBut I'm entering grade 12 now and I feel like I bit off more than I could chew. I'm planning to go to a science related course, so the courses I'm taking are the two maths (advanced functions & calculus) and the three sciences (physics, chemistry, biology). As for English, I'm currently taking it in summer school.\n\nSo I'm asking what I should do to make sure I get my marks up. I know that the marks I got in grade 11 are definitely not high enough to get into a good university, and I'm not sure if I could even make it to college (my average was around 75). But for now, I know that I need to stop procrastinating, understand concepts instead of just memorizing and make sure I get a good teacher. Is there anything else that I should look out for or change my habits, etc ?", "summary": "I'm getting into grade 12, last year before university and I did terrible in grade 11. I really need to know how to bring up my marks, other than stop procrastinating or understanding concepts instead of memorizing."}
{"id": "t3_4f9sxs", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I (15M) have a piano festival coming up and I'm panicking.", "post": "So, I have a piano festival on Thursday and I'm panicking. I've been practicing but I just *can't* get the middle of the song right. I've mastered like 75% of the song, but the other 25% I can't do for the life of me.\n\nI have anxiety, ADHD, and a bunch of other fear-inducing conditions. I talked to the teacher and he said I didn't have to play for the judge. But, about 2 weeks from the festival, I learned that we still have to play in front of the class, and the judge. I thought we just go in a room with just the judge and play for them, done. We did a \"trial run\" last Thursday and I started shaking and crying, I was so scared. He did half the class on Thursday, and half the class on Friday, and I didn't come to school on Friday because I was so distraught.\n\nBasically, I have no idea what to do, and I'm panicking. What do I do?", "summary": "Festival is on Thursday and I am too scared to play. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_23s2g7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a short NSFW video in my landlord's kitchen.", "post": "School is almost over . . . So very close to freedom. I should be studying, that would be the responsible thing to do seeing as I have an exam tomorrow morning at 8:30, but . . . \n\nNaturally, I decide to make a short \"sexy video\" for my boyfriend who I won't be seeing for a week (only a week, I know). My landlord is out of the country for 2 weeks, my roommates have class until 3:30 and the only one who will know my shame is the poor dog, who is now currently laying on the couch with her big brown eyes looking at me, saying \"you dun fucked up.\"\n\nSo I decide to do a few takes of this recording where I pull my yoga pants down and then pull them back up slowly, thus accentuating my ass.\n\nI'm on take 3, playing around with how low I should pull my pants, when suddenly my landlord's granddaughter (age 5) comes running through the front door (the house is open-concept, so you can see the kitchen if you take even two steps into the house). I fumble while pulling up my pants, but I'm too slow. The young girl is scarred for life.\n\nShe yells \"look Mommy, a bum!!\" but by then I have my pants pulled up. I think quickly, and say to the Mom when she comes in: \"Oh, sorry, I was watching a music video and couldn't close YouTube in time! It has an explicit scene or two.\"\n\nThankfully she laughed it off, but I fear her daughter will be traumatized.", "summary": "assumed I'd be home alone all day, made a video which included my bare ass exposed, landlord's granddaughter ran in the house and caught me."}
{"id": "t3_pxhfv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some interesting stories you're heard from the elderly?", "post": "My grandfather told me a story last week, I thought I'd share it\n\nSmall foreword: My grandfather worked in merchandising.\n  \nWhen he was younger (mid 20s), he and some friends took a trip to the Caribbean. There was this local drink mix that everyone had been mixing with rum, that tasted delicious, but it was very expensive. So the next day, my grandfather had an elaborate, and fantastic idea. They took a cab ride into the city, and found a store where they sold this drink mix. My grandfather started chatting with the cashier, and found out that he owned the store. He told him the type of work he did back home, and said that he was very interested in buying a large quantity of this drink mix. They started working out numbers, and he settled on ordering an entire cargo containers worth, never actually finalizing the deal, but only exchanging contact info so he could complete the deal when he got home. While the store owner was still very excited about making such a large sale, my grandfather asked him if he could get some samples. The owner happily obliged, and started loading up a box with the product. My grandfather and his friends left the store, got in a cab back to the hotel, and had enough mix for the rest of the trip. He had zero intention of finalizing the deal when he got home, and the owner never did contact him.", "summary": "My grandfather tricked some Caribbean store owner into giving him copious amounts of drink mix for free."}
{"id": "t3_4oacsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my 10 mo. SO [25/M] - a small lie in the bigger picture.", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nMy SO and I have been in a relationship for 10 months now, 7 of which were long distance. Aside from a few bumps, it's been healthy and happy.\n\nWe are both insecure people, and we are open with each other about it. I openly admit I am an anxious partner that does not easily trust.\n\nFor the majority of the relationship, he is (for lack of better phrasing) the more \"involved\" partner. He is more expressive about his commitment to \"us\" and is usually the first to call or text. This is our rhythm, and it works well for both of us.\n\nFor two weeks, he's been in France. I was invited on the trip, but couldn't since I started a new job. Since I'm not there, he's used this trip as a personal development trip - studying the architecture, a field he's very, very passionate and involved in.\n\n--THE SMALL LIE?--\nThis whole time he's been gone, I've been insecure. I told him about it once and have not brought it up again. He took it well.\nLast night, we talked on the phone, and he told me he'd call me today.\nThis morning, he messaged me, saying he could no longer call me since he \"doesn't have wifi in his airbnb anymore\" and that he'd call me at the airport the next day.\n\nOK! That's all fine. It made sense -- he was going to talk to the landlord about the wifi, because it seemed hacked. I was not phased.\n\nHowever - when I logged onto my Facebook after work (5PM; the time he would have called - which is very late at night in EUR's timezone), he was online!!\n\nLying is one thing I really, truly can't stand in a partner. Even those little white lies. I believe small lies lead to bigger and bigger lies. \nI wish he'd have just told me he was exhausted and needed to pack, and would call at the airport. Why lie!\n\nIs this worth feeling weird about? IS it worth bringing up?", "summary": "boyfriend told a small white lie - might be overreacting, or is this the key to the pandora's box? thank you."}
{"id": "t3_1p35ri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"YOU BELONG TO ME\", said in a letter from her stalker to my girlfriend. Reddit, what are some of your experiences dealing with stalkers?", "post": "I see no reason in dragging this out so. I have a new girlfriend, we're both 21 and in college. When we started dating she warned me that she has one of those \"crazy exes\" and indeed she does. Without ever responding to him, he leaves her 'romantic' notes on her car (creepy as all hell), 100$ in gifts on her doorstep and to top it all off he, about weekly, leaves her horrid 8-minute voicemails telling her to kill herself. I'm wondering if anybody has any experience in this field, and what my best option was to get rid of him.\nI figure he's too tame to go to the police, then again, he does sit outside her apartment and wait to tamper with her property.\nHe's also in a fraternity, and in a school sponsored band. I figured speaking to his superiors in those groups and getting them to talk to him might be a good idea. But I'm really not too sure. The dude's in the drumline and more than capable of tossing me around like a ragdoll. The last thing I need to do is feed into his delusion that he has to fight to win her over.", "summary": "Girlfriend has stalker, share your stories for insight."}
{"id": "t3_hl5kp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Losing the woman I love and don't know what to do.... :(", "post": "So.... I dated this girl for over a year. We were great together. Happy. Everything we did together was awesome. We worked well together and got along great. We, however, went to different schools and were 4 hours apart. We ended up breaking up twice over 2 years because of the distance. She always told me how she couldn't live without me and how she always saw it as \"our\" future together and never just hers. I always felt the same way. We've tried being friends since the last break up but she recently met and visited this guy she met online from England. She didn't know him that long yet was willing to go visit him and is apparently in love with him. How it happened so soon I don't know..... I'm still really in love with her and don't understand how she can love this guy(who's 7 years older than her) while he's so far away and yet couldn't do a distance relationship with me. She still tells me she wants to be friends and actually still has feelings for me and is attracted to me, but she doesn't want to show them cause they will be \"confusing and make things harder.\" I've tried everything to get over her and move on.... dating other girls, just hooking up, trying not to talk to her. Everything makes me think of her and makes me miss her and the good times I know we can have together. Please..... help? :( I'm also not a bad guy. I'm really nice and I definitely look better than this other guy she suddenly fell in love with.", "summary": "Love of my life who wanted to be with me, left me cause of distance and is now in love with a guy halfway across the world. Still says she has feelings for me but doesn't want to show me."}
{"id": "t3_406ili", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/M] have some massive jealousy issues and it might be killing my otherwise perfect relationship with [20/F]", "post": "Hey people,\n\nI need some serious advice here. So I got into a relationship with a girl I've known for years. We both always had a crush on each other but only get together 6 months ago. The relationship is amazing, much better then my previous ones. I am really happy with her and can imagine a long future!\n\nThe only thing that really kills is my irrational jealousy. And it's really getting out of hand... She is not doing anything wrong at all but every time she talks about some other guy she likes, or some collegues from work it really kills me inside. I can't stop thinking stuff like 'what if she meets someone that fits her better then me' or 'what if she drinks to much and kisses another guy on a party'. \nI totally know for myself that these thoughts are not justified at all. Especially since she is a very honest person and I know that she would instantly tell me if something happens. But this doesn't help me from not thinking about this stuff. The worst thing about it is, that it often times really kills my mood and I can't enjoy the time with her because of it.\n\nI have not talked to her about it and I prefer not to do so in the future. I know that this is a personal issue and I want to fix it by myself. I don't think there is anything she could do to better it.\n\nMaybe some have gone through similar and can give me some advice? I've talked about it with some friends and they all told me, that it gets better with the time. But I don't see any improvements in the last months...\n\nThanks a lot! Cheers", "summary": "I have some irrational jealousy issues and it might be killing my relationship. Everytime she tells me about some other guys It really hurts inside, even though I know how ridiculous it is."}
{"id": "t3_1vzzkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After 2 months I[22F] think I found someone[22M]. Now I just need some tips to not screw it up.", "post": "I met someone I have a really good connection with, starting to feel some things bubbling under the surface that I haven't felt in a while. To put it shortly, I really want this to work out.\n\nMy problem is.. He doesn't want a relationship right now. Wants to take it slow for a couple months(4 or so). I don't have an issue with that, fine by me. But what does bother me is the possibility that he may find someone else in that time, y'know? Also want to add, its not the thought of him having sex with someone else.. Its just him in a relationship with someone else..\n\nA couple months back I had a pretty shitty experience with 'friends with benefits' and I just don't want that to happen again. I don't want to put myself completely out there and then get friendzoned. Its a shitty feeling.\n\nBut I also don't want to distance myself so far from this guy that any possibility of a relationship just ends. So, I'm just looking for some advice on how I can handle this little situation?-- I always have a nasty habit of taking things to seriously so any pointers would be much appreciate.", "summary": "Met someone. Not together, want to wait until summer to see how things go. Worried he might find someone else in that time. Want to ride it out, see how it goes. Looking for pointers on how to manage this and stay balanced."}
{"id": "t3_soqym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's The Best Way To Troll Back?", "post": "A little background info\n\nSo this past Saturday my ex started texting me, it started civil and we started making small talk about a guy that I had met that night that had done military training in the same session as my ex over the summer. Now the training facility is quite large and my ex said that he didn't know him and we started talking about other things.\n\nRight after I left my friend's house a random number started texting me saying it was this guy that I met. He was talking about how sex the other night was sooo great and said I was drunkenly talking about my military ex and that we should hook up again tonight.It got pretty creepy fast.  I mention that I had  boyfriend, and he drops it. Right after this my ex started fighting with me for no apparent reason.\n\nFast forward to today, I mention to my friend how creepy this guy is. He says that it sounds very out of character for this guy,and asks for the number that I got to see if it was actually him. It wasn't. My friend calls the number and on his voice mail it's one of my ex's friends. \n\nWhat's the best way to troll him back without him knowing I know?", "summary": "My ex trolled me using a friend's phone after I asked him if he knew a friend through the military. What's the best way to troll him back?"}
{"id": "t3_3cwh9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [20 M] still miss with my ex [20 F], 2 months after breaking up with her, knowing that I didn\u00b4t love her?", "post": "I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, as we were constantly fighting, for feeling I wasn\u00b4t good enough for her, for starting to feel I didn\u00b4t want her anymore. Even our sex life was affected in the final moments of our relationship, due to the lack of attraction I, by that time, had for her.\n\nTwo months have passed, and I\u00b4m doing good things for me, I\u00b4ve created good memories, I\u00b4ve been working on loving myself, on not being dependent on anyone else but me, my self confidence is better than ever and still improving. I feel like I can change any aspect I consider to be negative about me, through motivation and work.\n\nI have great memories with her though. I guess that is the difficult thing about having break up with her, because every time I remember what It used to be when we were together, only beautiful memories pop up in my mind:\n\n- Her house, under the sun;\n- Her beautiful family;\n- Her funny little brother;\n- Our laughs and crazy stuff we did together..\n\nHow can I miss so much someone I didn\u00b4t love for sure?\nI don\u00b4t want to be friends with her though, It would surely hurt me a lot.", "summary": "I broke up with my ex knowing I didn\u00b4t love her, but after 2 months without talking to her, I miss her and still get bothered when I know she\u00b4s probably having fun with other guys and stuff like that."}
{"id": "t3_4zhb1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] friend [18M] used my phone to tell a good friend [22F] I like her (I don't). She says it's okay but seems upset at me", "post": "I was at a party and Bob had my phone and decided to text the first girl on my texting list (Amy, who I'm good friends with). This is how the convo went (Bob using my phone):\n\nBob: hey you there?\nAmy: ya what's up?\n\nBob: You wanna go to a restaurant tomorrow? Just me and you, an intimate thing :)\nAmy: what? do you think this is tinder or something? Lol\n\nBob: Noo this is serious. Tbh I really like you, just didn't know how to say it until my mom mentioned marriage and I don't have a gf\nAmy: Lmaoo what stop messing around\n\nBob: not messing around Amy. You're rlly cool and nice looking\nAmy: and have nice hair (an inside joke cuz that's what a stranger once said to her)\n\nBob: and your eyes, the green color turns me on\nAmy: Lmaoo k this is getting creepy\n\nBob: relax I'm not trying to be creepy, just wanted you to know.\nAmy: I still think you're messing with me.\n\nBob: did I ever mess with you like that?\nAmy: I'm so confused\n\nThis is when I took over and said hey sorry that was my friend. She said haha it's okay. I asked how her day was and she said good, mentioned what she did briefly and asked what about me. \n\nEver since then her replies were short and kinda convo ending. She never followed it up and started her own convo either (she normally does this). The last message was me saying \"ohh alright\" to her telling me the movie she watched was boring. She normally always replies to my message or at least says she's going to sleep but she didn't this time and I think she went to sleep. \n\nI don't want to be too pushy and message her if she doesn't want to talk right now, nor do I want to talk about it if she doesn't want to. Any idea what I should do?", "summary": "My friend used my phone to mess around with a good friend of mine, saying how \"I\" like her. Convo went decent, I took the phone back and told her sorry that was my friend. She said it was okay and I tried continuing the conversation like how we normally talk (how was your day? What's up what are you doing? Etc.) but her replies seemed short and convo ending (normally not like this). She also went to sleep without telling me (she generally would if we had a convo just before). "}
{"id": "t3_kf49i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a 22 year old male taking 3 different psych meds for different things. can someone give me some wisdom and strength? I feel I could use some help.", "post": "MY STORY- I have been battling with psychological problems for 4 years now and, though the problems have been getting less and less problematic, i am still burdened with the prescriptions that i take. I take DEPAKOTE RISPERDAL and was recently prescribed CELEXA. Reasoning behind it was the psychotic episode I had during my stressful senior year. (With SATs and an unplanned pregnancy scare and college applications) making my first prescription Risperdal. 3 years with minimal psychotic behavior, on and off risperdal, gaining and losing weight... I didn't feel 100% psychologically stable like ever... Then I had a trip to an inpatient facility because i smoked weed, which i think was the reason i had to go. That was when they prescribed me Depakote. I went a good 8 months with Risperdal and Depakote while they were trying to reduce it before I smoked weed again and went back to the nut house. i was very violent and impulsively breaking things. (this time i checked myself in). Someone just happened to think to prescribe me Celexa and it is like a miracle, I feel like a normal person agian. It's been about a month and a half now and i'm just trying to get off of Risperdal and Depakote. I did just get a job and with Celexa kicking in I have been very productive all around.", "summary": "Was prescribed Celexa, Risperdal and Depakote over a 4 year period because of stress and a little marijuana use."}
{"id": "t3_kjhm3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have never heard anybody be so insultingly stupid in my entire life, and be proud of it. Why do people think this is in the slightest bit okay?", "post": "Lately I've taken to bringing my Kindle with me to college, because the bus journeys are almost 2 hours long combined. I was waiting for a class, and reading it in the corner where I hear this prat say, well in earshot, making sure I could hear him: \"I DON'T GET WHY PEOPLE WOULD FUCKING READ. MY SISTERS ROOM LOOKS LIKE A FUCKING LIBRARY, FUCKIN' BITCH. I GOT MY MOM TO GET HER A FUCKIN'", "summary": "What's the opposite of a luddite?"}
{"id": "t3_3d0dhm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] kissed a girl [18F ]while on vacation in Europe, turns out she has a boyfriend", "post": "I'm currently on vacation at the beach in Europe with my parents. Now, the beach is fun and all, but being here with just my parents is not the most fun time. So I did some cold approaches to try to find a girl that speaks English and i found one that speaks the language decently.\n\nI asked her out that night and we walked around, talked a lot, and I made sure to physically escalate throughout the night. We laughed and had a really good time, and I even got a kiss at the end of the night. Asked her out again and got another kiss at the end of that night.\n\nOne problem, though; she has a boyfriend. The second night I asked her for a kiss and she seemed iffy about it at first but leaned in for the kiss anyways. I make sure to hold hands with her when we walk and she doesn't reject my physical advances, but she also doesn't reciprocate when I put my arm around her, etc. It seems like she is interested but doesn't want to do anything because of her boyfriend. Yet she keeps in contact with me all day and wants to go out every night. I don't want to force her to anything she doesn't want to do, but I just can't figure out exactly what she wants (she's very shy, especially when speaking another language, but she's starting to open up more)\n\nI'm not looking for sex (also not against it), just maybe making out and having some fun when we go out at night. Is there anything I can do to make her feel more comfortable? Should I straight up ask her if she wants to make out? I just can't seem to figure out exactly what she wants.\n\nAlso, neither of us are from the country. And her boyfriend is currently back in her home country. I'll be here for five more days and we'll probably go out for most of those nights.", "summary": "Met a girl while on vacation and we went out a couple nights. Kissed both nights, but I don't know if she wants more. How do I figure out if she is genuinely interested?"}
{"id": "t3_2cbab4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [31/F] hoping that my [30/M] boyfriend can show me more affection.", "post": "Hey, hoping for some help here. I have a wonderful boyfriend with whom I live. We've been together over a year. He is handsome and makes me laugh. I want to be with him, most of the time, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He isn't very affectionate. He says \"I love you,\" but most of the time, he doesn't express his feelings in a very mature way. He teases me, he makes fun of my clothes and the way I look and doesn't compliment me. He doesn't initiate sex much, but I don't think it's lack of interest, I think he's scared of getting rejected or is maybe more interested in doing it himself. I wish we had sex more, or even talked about it more, but he always finds a way not to talk about it. \n\nI don't think that the lack of intimacy is something that occurs to him to be a big deal. I'm not sure how to talk about it because he seems to feel so threatened every time I want to talk. \n\nHe talks about marriage, but, to be honest, I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker. \n\nHow can I a) foster and encourage intimacy and b) talk to him without making him feel threatened? C) how do I know if it's a deal breaker? Thanks guys!", "summary": "how can I encourage my boyfriend to be more affectionate and intimate?"}
{"id": "t3_258561", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21/M) want to be something more with my best friend (20/F)", "post": "She and I have been best friends for a while. We are really comfortable with each other, we are very close, and we trust each other a lot. The other night, she and I shared our first kiss. It wasn't weird or anything, in fact, it felt really good. We talked about it yesterday and we discussed what we wanted to do about it. I am leaving at the end of the summer to transfer to a different university. In our talk we said that it's already going to be hard for me to leave and it would make things harder if we added this other level of intimacy. So we talked about just remaining best friends.\n\nI felt good about this, despite the fact that I think I have feelings for her. But last night, after thinking more about it, I am worried that I will end up regretting it once I leave. I don't want to get to that point where I have to think, \"What if?\" I think she and I could make things work if we tried....and I think if it didn't work and it started getting weird or whatever, we trust each other enough that we could be open and talk about it.\n\nOne of our favorite songs is \"Say\" by John Mayer and I just can't help but think that I need to tell her that, although I agree with what we had previously talked about (about just remaining friends), I just keep worrying about that \"what if\" part.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I tell her or just keep it in? How should I go about approaching this topic with her?", "summary": "My best friend and I kissed, decided to remain friends, but I kind of want something more. Should I tell her or not?"}
{"id": "t3_iip9l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Immigrants of Reddit: Do you feel closer to your original country or your destination country?", "post": "So, I have been recently having some serious identity issues. I was born in Pakistan but moved when I was one and lived about 1/2 my life in America and 1/2 my life in Canada (where I currently live). \nI love Canada to death - to me, it a great nation, great people and undoubtedly, this nation is my home. I feel incredibly safe here. \nBut, a lot of the time, I feel like an outsider looking in. When I talk to other Canadians, usually the first question they ask is where are you from. I answer with Canada. And there is usually some followup like where are your parents from or where were you born. I answer honestly and tell them Pakistan but I don't understand their need to ask and their need to know. I mean, just have a conversation with me and you will know within the first five minutes where I was born. I feel like white people are seen as 'real Canadians' and everyone else (including Aboriginals) are seen as 'immigrant Canadians'. I have no problem being an immigrant - my parents wanted a better life for their kids and I am extremely grateful they decided to move. \nBut something else is that all these other Pakistani immigrants I am around make me feel bad and ashamed for not caring about Pakistan. I know the language and the culture but I mean, I don't give a crap about the human rights issues there, the political issues, etc. For me, Canadian issues - like senate reform and how to reconcile properly with the Aboriginal population - are much more important to me. But someone younger than me said, 'I hope my children don't grow up to be like you and forget their roots.' \nThat stung. But I am Canadian. Fuck being Pakistani-Canadian. Why can't I just be Canadian?", "summary": "Live in Canada but don't feel Canadian. Is this normal? Am I over reacting? Am I thinking too much?"}
{"id": "t3_3g0iun", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting someone's name", "post": "This wasn't today,  but last night.  I went to the bar with my cousin and we get pretty drunk.  As the night goes on, my cousin introduces me to a girl (Jessie) and her sister (Ashley) .   I start talking to Jessie and we hit it off pretty well.  We talked for awhile and I could tell that she was into me.   \n\nSo I go grab drinks,  and I start thinking about things and realized that I forgot the sisters name, which I think matters seeing that they were sticking pretty close together,  and that they're related and everything.   So I ask my cousin \"hey I totally forgot the sisters name,  can you please help me out?\"  He then said that he's not going to tell me because I need to learn to remember names. \n\nSo I get desperate and ask some dude at the bar to help me out.   He tells me the sisters name is Lindsay and I thank him.  I then go back to the girls and bring back the drinks. \n\n  I give one to the sister and say \"Here you go Lindsay.\"   She says \"Wow,  that's not my name.\"  Then Jessie said \"Okay,  you forgot my sisters name.  Bye.\"  They stop talking to me and the next thing I know Jessie is making out with some other guy that swooped in right after I failed.", "summary": "The drought continues"}
{"id": "t3_4bjnd3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping a fish tank ornament", "post": "This happened a few years back. I just got myself a fish tank to accomodate my new pet (an axolotl salamander). My little nephew who was around 11 at the time really liked the fish tank and would come over quite often to have a look at the salamander and feed it. He thought of me like I was his big-brother-who-knows-everything, though I didn't see him very often as he lives in another town, not too far away though. \n\nAfter a few weeks I was at my aunt and uncle's place to help my nephew building his new scale model kit. He really liked the days I spent with him and he wanted to thank me by giving me a present he bought from his own money. It was one of those ceramic fake log ornaments for your fish tank you can buy at every pet store. It didn't quite match my tank setup but hey, when a kid gives you a present, you'd better be happy with it and use it. \n\nWhen I was about to leave my uncle gave me some science magazines I could have as I like to read them. I was holding the pile of magazines in one hand, with the fish tank ornament on top of it. My fingers made the magazines fold in a way they could hold up some weight, but... bad idea. The magazines suddenly *flopped* and the ornament dropped into numerous pieces on the tile floor, right in front of my little nephew's eyes. \n\nWe both stared at the debris in silence for a few very awkward seconds. To this day, I'm still thankful he was the first one to burst out in laughter, but I still cringe everytime I think of it.", "summary": "little nephew gets me a present, I drop it to pieces right in front of him."}
{"id": "t3_31aket", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] broke up with my fianc\u00e9 [23 F] 3.5 years, not sure if it's amicable or not.", "post": "Yesterday I ended my relationship. I'd been thinking about it for a while, but it came to the point where I had to choose between what was *easy* and what was *right*. My heart was pounding in my chest when I was going to do it, and I cried when I left, but I feel like we both handled it very well.\n\nShe texted me this morning to say that she thinks its the best thing to do on reflection. I know that doesn't make it OK, but I'd rather break up on these decent terms than the relationship have gotten to a point where we hated each other.\n\nThat's the hardest thing. I do love her, I just had to end the relationship because I didn't want the future we were heading towards, and you only live once (sorry for the clich\u00e9).\n\nMy issue is that I feel like she's upset, but she's OK with it, but then again I think she is trying to stay strong because she thinks it's right. I just didn't expect this. \n\nI want this to be an amicable breakup. and there was no outside influence, I'm not seeing somebody else or anything, I just wanted it to end. I feel awful. Sorry, had to get this off my chest. Is it normal to feel like things are OK, or is even this breakup doomed to mean that we have a really sour relationship afterwards?\n\nWe're meeting up in the next few days to talk about sorting out the house (we rented together for 20 months).\n\nI'm feeling confident, and I'm a roller coaster ride of emotions right now. Relief, panic (about what I'm gonna do), and sadness being the main ones. I'm usually very calculated and prepared, but this went out of the window yesterday. Any advice would be great.", "summary": "She was shocked, then seemed to accept it. Was very adult when I was expecting a really messy situation. Worried that we're gonna hate each other despite it seeming amicable. Have a joint life to dismantle."}
{"id": "t3_1bd53d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I found out my roommate's girlfriend(25) is cheating on him(25) and I'm conflicted on what to do", "post": "I discovered last night that my roommate's girlfriend has been seeing/spending the night with another guy (her co-worker), all under the guise of being broken up with my roommate. The other guy didn't know she was with someone else and has since ended it.\n\nMy roommate and his girlfriend have been together for a year and have been having issues for the past few months. She also lives with us, but officially lives at home with her parents.  It turns out, the nights she \"stays at her parents\" are when she's been seeing the other guy.\n\nThe way I see it is I have three options:\n\n1) Tell him: I don't want to get involved but I feel that I have to let him know.  This also minimizes my involvement in the inevitable fight and possible breakup.\n\n2) Tell her:  Pull her aside and tell her, then say either you tell him or or I will.  This gives them a better chance to work it out if she admits it.  But she could also deny it and this drags me into and increases my involvement.\n\n3) Do nothing\n\nNumber 1 is the way I'm leaning, but number 2 has pros and cons as well.  Number 3 is an option, but I don't think it's right.\n\nRegardless, I'm concerned about the potential backlash that could be directed toward me and that either may lash out and drag me further into it.  My biggest fear is that either one may attempt to contact my girlfriend and attempt to harm my own relationship.\n\nSo I ask you, men and women of /r/relationships what would you do in this situation?  \n\nAlso advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My roommate's girlfriend has been playing him and another guy and I'm not quite sure how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_1jwxya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My engaged Ex[18F] decided to email me the other day and I[19M] don't know how to respond.", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\n     So my ex and I broke up(mutually) after about 5 months of dating. \nWe decided to break up because she was going away for the summer to her country and she had told me of a possibility of her getting married/engaged. \nI being an 19 year old male felt I wouldn't be a emotionally mature for something like that and she agreed. It was awkward at first because I still liked her.\n     Anyways after she left, we kept up contact for a little while but because I still liked her on a whim I chose to initiate the no-contact rule which the internet says is the only way to get your ex back (and begin self-improvement during no-contact)\n So I sent her an email about two months ago saying that, I no longer could talk to her, I told her I still had strong feelings for her and the only way I could begin moving on is if we no longer spoke. (I'm paraphrasing) \nShe responded to the email saying that she was gonna wait to tell me but that she was getting engaged in two weeks (that was about a month and a half ago) her being so young I asked if it was something she wanted, she responded that she did, and that was the end of it. \n     Until yesterday, She emailed me saying that if I wanted to I could talk to her she just couldn't add me on Facebook because of her family. \nShe's Arabian if that puts things in perspective, sorry I didn't mention that earlier.\nI do want to talk to her and I do still like her but it's very strange to email me out of the blue just to tell me I could talk to her also if she is engaged (I put an \"if\" here because there is a huge possibility she is engaged but also a chance she is not, I'll elaborate more if needed) I would feel wrong talking to her because I know I wouldn't want my girl talking to some guy that still had feelings for her. Yeah, I'm that type of guy, sorry.", "summary": "My Arabian possibly engaged ex girlfriend decided to randomly email me saying I could talk to her if I wanted to. I do still have feelings for her but if she is engaged I wouldn't want to upset her fiance by talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_l1atb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We, the Internet, have a voice.  Let it be organized, so it can then be heard.", "post": "There has been lots of chatter here, and on the net, about Occupy Wall Street (OWS for short), which is **fantastic**.  But, a common thread that I'm noticing lately, especially in the Media, is that there doesn't seem to be a coherent message coming from OWS... and that really concerns me.  This kind of thing (mass movement) hasn't happened in the USA since the Viet Nam days, and as a country, we really need OWS to truly make a difference.  But to do so, it needs a coherent set of messages.  And it needs to do so **NOW**, before it just turns to noise.  This is too important an opportunity to let pass into obscurity.\n \n\nSince OWS represents a real democracy trying to take action, I have a thought/question.  Since the web is abuzz with OWS, and since the web is searchable and *quantifiable*, there should be a way to analyze the common themes/threads/ideas that surround what people are saying about OWS, and, of course, what they themselves have been saying.  What should happen as a result of this analysis, then, is a top-level set of themes and ideas from which OWS, and it's bretheren, can rally behind.  **We, the Internet, have a voice.  Let it be organized, so it can then be heard.**\n \n\nDo any Redditors have the I.T. savvy to mash together some sort of aggregation and analysis engine and present it in a coherent way?  How can we leverage things like Google Analytics, Google Blog search, WebTrends, et. al?  Once this is done, we can spread the word about it as only Redditors can.  We all want to do something... this is one way that we can really make a difference.  *By focused, and inherently democratic, communication of our intent.", "summary": "Occupy Wall Street needs some Internet/I.T. savvy to aggregate the public sentiment into a coherent list of Top Priorities and Goals before it all becomes noise."}
{"id": "t3_2j5k2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] have been seeing a new guy [19 M] for a few weeks. How can I overcome feelings of inferiority due to a lack of experience in the dating/sex scene?", "post": "I have never had a boyfriend, and I have never had sex. I have gone on many dates with guys at my university. First dates only, though. I never really felt enough of a spark to pursue the relationship any further and cut it off early on before dating.\n\nBut now I just met this guy, and I really like him. I can definitely see myself dating him. But because I have never dated anyone before and know that he has had a few serious girlfriends, I feel embarrassed by my lack of experience with dating and am afraid he notices, like if I am nervous around him or if I am a bad kisser. He wasn't my first kiss, I've causally kissed/made out with 5 or 6 guys at parties in the past. But I still worry because I can tell that he's a great kisser so I wonder if he can tell that I am not super talented/adventurous in that regard because I just follow what he does.\n\nWhen/if the time comes for us to have sex, I am afraid he will be turned off by my lack of experience. It makes me feel inferior (and I know it shouldn't), but I just see him as the more experienced, cool/confident one in the relationship where I am less sure of myself and lack skill.\n\nHow can I get rid of these thoughts and stop feeling down on myself for this lack of experience?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Not experienced with sex/dating, want to feel less intimated by the experienced guy I am seeing"}
{"id": "t3_21pbpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We, [22 F] and [23 M/F] having know each other for one week, want to know how fast is TOO fast? Especially for an online (reddit) relationship.", "post": "*", "summary": "We met on reddit and have only known each other for a week. We want to make sure we're not doing anything crazy here, so..."}
{"id": "t3_20wriq", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "on taking 'work sample' and 'skills' tests", "post": "Hey guys. I'm currently working as an OPS Records clerk for a state office while finishing my degree part time (graduating in april...yaay)\n\nFor the last couple months I've been applying to other state agencies for a decent career service job (administrative asst. or clerk) with regular hours. (right now i work a split schedule. 4hr mornings/4 hr nights)\n\nNow, here's my issue. I've been lucky enough to get a few call backs from potential employers, but they all want me to take a 'work sample' or 'skills test' before they even consider an interview. Personally, I've never gotten a call back from the employers after I've gone in and taken a skills test. So I kinda feel like I wasted the hours on taking this test when there's possibly several others who got one more question right than me.\n\nWhat I wanted to ask is if any of you guys had to go through the same sort of gauntlet for obtaining a job in entry level office administration and if there's a way I can get around the test, or should I just pass on the offer to take the test, and wait for a serious offer.", "summary": "trouble with skills tests and work sample tests. what do? "}
{"id": "t3_3l56gm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 F] boyfriend [36 M] of 1.5 years has herpes. He knew, and didn't tell me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years. We've talked about kids, marriage, everything and it seemed like we were totally in sync about every aspect. I thought he was the one. We moved in together and have been living together for a year, and just renewed the lease for another. Great? Great!\n\nUntil.. SURPRISE! I found out he has herpes, and has had herpes for years. He left a piece of paper from his doctor laying around and I happened to come across it. He says he didn't tell me because he never had an outbreak after the first one. Another excuse was \"How do you tell somebody that? It's not something you just blurt out.\"\n\nAwesome. Thanks. \n\nI tried to get tested, but the clinic said they try to discourage the blood test if I'm asymptomatic, which I am. He apologized. Said he should have told me. And he said he would have brought it up if/when he had an outbreak. Blindsided. Totally blindsided. We had lots of unprotected sex. He didn't like using condoms. And he did not take Valtrex. \n\nHe didn't respect me enough to tell me. He took away my choice. \n\nI haven't broken up with him, but I feel like I need to. I love him. And I need an outside opinion. I can't go to friends/family with this. I'm a total mess. \n\nHelp me, reddit.", "summary": "Boyfriend had herpes, I found out after 1.5 years of *mostly* unprotected sex. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_33gcv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [25 F] and my fiance [25 M] approach family members for help with our wedding in a polite/non tacky way?", "post": "I am thrilled to be engaged to my bf of many years. We are in the early stages of planning our wedding, which will be a budget wedding, to say the least ;) We have no grand plans of a fancy wedding. We are pretty... poor, I guess you could say, both being artists. My boyfriend makes decent money but not enough to pay for what the minimum would be for a catered wedding, which is like $10,000 from what I've priced out. \n\nNeither of our families will be paying for the wedding; I am estranged from my family (long story) and his family is not rich, and it sort of is assumed they won't be paying for it. \n\nThat being said, they are lovely people, as are many of my extended family who want to be involved in the wedding. \n\nWe have a dream of having a wedding where we rent a nice venue (we've seen a couple for about $1800 maximum, including tables and all that) and asking our families to help us cook for the wedding. My bf's father has the beginnings of his own catering company and a food truck, so we want to ask him to help out with the catering, but also to ask some other members of the family if they would contribute desserts or their favorite dishes. \n\nWe would pay for the food, supplies, etc of course. The thing is, his family is definitely a family where food equals love. They are absolutely amazing cooks and chefs; his father, as mentioned, has funneled his amazing skills into a catering business. Every holiday is a ridiculous amount of amazing, delicious, restaurant-level food.\n\nHowever, we are wondering if this will take them aback or make them feel as though we are using them. The wedding will be small and we don't want to inconvenience anyone. However, it would be our dream to have a family affair, as it were. \n\nIs this crazy tacky or is this really inappropriate to ask, and if not, how can we approach this without making people uncomfortable?", "summary": "Really want to throw a family potluck style thing for our wedding... how to approach?"}
{"id": "t3_2zuwts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my friend/crush [17 F] 7 months, She wants FWB", "post": "I have been crazy about this girl for the past 7 months, I was unable to bring myself to telling her how I felt. We became like best friends and spend a ton of time together. Like 3 months into knowing her she decided to go out with some guy but never talked about their relationship much. \n\nCome to find out it actually went horribly and they ended up breaking up. Sorry to leave this a bit out of order, I did end up telling her how I felt but she had a boyfriend so it didn't matter, or so I thought. After she breaks up with him she starts texting me saying how she wants to hook up. I like her a lot still and still want a relationship, I texted her telling her all this and she said she doesn't know if she wants a relationship.\n\n To me she is absolutely beautiful but there's so much more than appearance as to why I find her appealing. And as I side note I was home schooled all through most of high school, my social skills were and still are quite bad. As a result I never had any relationships, and am still a virgin so the whole thing is quite nerve-racking to me. I also used to be quite heavy and lost 115 pounds, with more to go I haven't gotten surgery for excess skin, so I'm also horrified what she will think if she saw me shirtless. I'm really not sure how to approach the situation any further, I just told her I want to talk to her in person come Monday.", "summary": "Girl I really like and want a relationship with wants FWB but nothing more."}
{"id": "t3_3hibk8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Kindergarten Week 2 is not going well", "post": "This is week 2 of my 5 yr old being in Kindergarten (He turned 5 on 8/1).  We realize it may be slightly early, but he was bored in preschool, so we felt it was time for the next step.\nHe is a smart kid.  I'm not just saying that because I'm a dad, he really is smart.  He keeps asking \"When are they going to teach me to read\"\n\nOn to my problem:  Last week went well at school, this week has started out as a disaster.  He has gone 2 steps down both yesterday and today on their discipline system.  When it came time for his assessment yesterday he didn't pay attention to the teacher explaining the rules at all, and now he's running around and lashing out at my wife and I.  Bedtime is a temper tantrum fight.  We are worn out and need help.\n\nThree more disclaimers. One, My wife is 8 months pregnant, so it may be lashing out.  Two, when I was in elementary school I was diagnosed with ADHD.  I believe he may have a little, but I hated the feeling when I was on drugs to control it and I don't want him to experience that. Three, the Kindergarten is on the same campus (different building) where he spent his entire time in pre-school.", "summary": "My 5 yr old is having major issues with adjusting to kindergarten."}
{"id": "t3_3vi6wo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mixing up the words mistletoe and cameltoe", "post": "I work at a Dollar Store here in Canada. Christmas season so my job is to merchandise one isle for Christmas stuff, mostly decorations.\n\nI slept very late last night because I was studying for exams and I had to come in early for work today. I was tired, very tired. \n\nI'm doing my usual thing, hanging stuff. Customers come by and ask me questions, I answer. Basic stuff. \n\nOne lady comes in and asks me if we have any mistletoes. I tell her we don't have it on display but I would be willing to go inside and get one from the delivery boxes we had.\n\nOn my way into the stock room I see a co-worker and shout at him to bring the box of \"cameltoe\". It didn't end with just one freudian slip. \n\nHe kept asking me what (we were on the opposite sides of the isle), and I kept yelling cameltoe. \n\n10+ people start laughing and the lady isn't pleased. \n\nMy co-worker gets mad, he's been in Canada for 2 years so he doesn't know the slag terms very well. He's thinking I'm making fun of him. He walks away to the stock room. \n\nI tell the lady, \"he's getting your cameltoe\". \n\nShe asks me angrily if she could speak to my manager. \n\nI was confused as to why but I said sure and went to get my manager and told her to follow me. Just as I go to get him he comes out of the stock room looking angry.\n\nAsks me what I did to my co-worker. Lady interupts and tells him the story.\n\nThat's when it hit me, I mixed up  mistletoe and cameltoe.", "summary": "mixed up the words mistletoe and cameltoe, made a co-worker feel bad and a customer very angry"}
{"id": "t3_4i3h50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have developed a crush on my [39F] coworker, unsure of what to do", "post": "I work as a supervisor for a residential division of a cleaning company. One of the other supervisors, we'll call her Ellie, is the woman in question. While I have always had a vague attraction to her, in the past few weeks I have really felt it intensifying. Right now I'm finding myself at a loss on what to do.\n\nThe biggest barrier first off would be that Ellie is currently in a relationship. Though they have had some problems and recently split, they have gotten back together and are trying to work things out. The age difference is also kind of problematic, as I am slightly uncomfortable with it, and I think it would be really bothersome for her. She also has two older kids (youngest is 12).\n\nEllie was at one time involved with another person in the company that has given her some grief. Though they split up I've heard that he has tried to get back together with her. While it has never caused trouble professionally, it has given her some personal grief trying to deal with it. I feel like this would make her wary of getting involved with someone at work again. There is also the matter that she is our department head, so while we're all pretty informal and fairly equal, she is technically my boss.\n\nTo top it all off I can't say I'm a believer that she would reciprocate my feelings even if a lot of these other issues weren't present. Any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated. I've had a few people tell me I should just wait and see. Another told me I should just talk to her about it to get it off my chest and to be able to move on, though this worries me because I would hate to ruin the good relationship we have now.", "summary": "I've gotten a crush on my coworker Ellie. There are several potential problems (such as age, work, etc.) that might prevent a relationship from being possible."}
{"id": "t3_1mc883", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/F] with my ___ [26/M] SO for three years, living together. His mom is too clingy!", "post": "My SO and I live together. His mom lives nearby, and has recently stopped working. She is now extremely bored all the time and has started showing up during the day and offering to clean our house. Personally, I find it kind of annoying when I come home after a long day at work planning to lounge around with no pants and unwind, only to find that I cannot do that. I also am particular about who touches my stuff. i thought she was going to stop at the dishes, but then she started offering to do laundry. I had to put my foot down. Nobody touches my dirty panties but me. My SO is a complete mama's boy, so despite the fact that he doesn't want her to clean, he won't say so. This shit is weird to me, and took a weirder turn today when she offered to do laundry and clean our bedroom (lube and sex toys in plain sight!) luckily my SO would not agree to that part, but I think the kibosh should be put on the whole cleaning thing period! It's weird. I think she needs to find something else to do with her free time. My mom lives nearby too, and I would tell her no way if she wanted to come over and clean.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Or am I just being mean?", "summary": "SO's mother needs to find hobbies other than cleaning our house."}
{"id": "t3_1inulb", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Anyone have any experience with corneal ulcers in dogs?", "post": "One of our Boston Terrier's has one on his eye.  He's had four trips to the vet over three and a half weeks, he's had three different eye drops, and an anti-inflammatory.  This morning he had his eye scraped.  The good news is that she says it's not a particularly deep one - which is clearly apparent when she puts the stain in his eye.  I've got high hopes that the scraping will help, but so far it isn't healing.  He had one a year or two ago and it cleared right up with one $20 prescription, but we're $400 into this one with another visit coming up on Monday and a potential recommendation to see a specialist who wants to do $275 worth of tests before they'll talk to us further.  He's only 9, so I'd like to save his eye but if we have to move to a specialist we'll be at about $700 plus whatever course of treatment they recommend.\n\nIs that normal?  I've done some digging around Google and am I'm hoping the scraping will be the thing that finally leads to some actual healing - the vet said a sort of corneal flap came off when she swabbed it and that might have been inhibiting the healing process, but I was wondering if anyone here had any experience?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "dog has a stubborn corneal ulcer... do I need to get a second opinion, is it normal for them to have a hard time healing."}
{"id": "t3_4qtb1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife[34M/F], hit her too hard and broke her floating rib, what can I do to make up for it", "post": "Background: I met my wife when we were 6 years old at her family's kwoon. Our grandparents thought it would be good for us to train together as our styles were complementary. We started dating Summer 1997, when we were 14/15, married in 2007. We have 2 kids together. Every morning we train together and 3 times a week we have a regular spar.\n\nIncident: My wife pressured me into a corner, with sun in my eyes and the door on my back. I thought that I can use a half-step punch to get away. It was something she could have dodged easily-I was expecting that she would dodge and get a hit in but it was better than my previous position which the lunging part would save me from-. Unfortunately our son called for her at the moment of strike and she was distracted, moved to the door and got hit. I tried mitigating it but you don't simply mitigate that. As a result she got a glancing blow near her left abdomen and crumbled.\n\nAftermath: Took her to hospital, got her treated. She says that these things happen and that she's just embarrassed about getting hit by a telegraph punch but I feel horrible about it. More so because it feels like a cheap blow. I can also feel that her self-esteem got a huge blow as she's prone to think that she's \"immune\" to certain level of strikes-quite rightly so-. She says she's okay but I can tell she's actually sad and disappointed with herself.\n\nQuestion: What can I do to make her feel better?", "summary": "Hit my wife accidently too hard, broke her floating rib, she says it's okay but I want to do something for her and cheer her up."}
{"id": "t3_2jl8g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20F] break up with my BF [20M] of 2 years in person?", "post": "Hey guys. I'll try to keep this short. Sorry about any formatting issues, I'm on my phone.\n\nSo I have to break up with my SO soon. I love him dearly and probably always will, \nbut we're in a LDR of around 400 miles and I can't handle a relationship right now on top of my insanely busy schedule (there are a few other reasons related to this but I don't want to get into it too much). \n\nI've basically made up my mind but now I'm wondering about the best way to do it. Should I travel all the way up there (on an overnight bus) break up, and then hang around awkwardly until my bus back? I feel like this is a pretty crap way of doing it especially since I can't go for another week so I'd have to pretend everything was fine.\n\nOr do I do I rip off the bandaid and do it over Skype? That seems like a pretty cold hearted way of leaving someone I care about so deeply.\n\nAnyone else go through a similar kind of thing? How would you like to be broken up with in this situation? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "have to break up with my LDR BF, what's the best way to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2d6t97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So this dude (27m) is ignoring me (?) (30f) and I'm starting to freak out!", "post": "So I'm new to dating, belive it or not, and this is driving me crazy. I met this guy a few weeks ago. Instant sparks. We see each other 3 times, the next weekend the same all the while texting an calling during the week. He even came by one time to bring me coffee even though I was unavailable to hang out :D. Things are going great!\n\nSo then I texted him earlier this week seeing about this weekend. He said he had plans with his family out of town yesterday and today, but he asks if I want to meet up that night and go to a bar with him and his friends. So I say sure. \n\nWe go to the bar, I have a good time, make with the friendly wih his friends. The only thing is I got a liiiittle more tipsy than I planned but I don't think I did anything foolish. He spent the night, everything was fine the next day. \n\nSo then Saturday I know he's leaving but I send him a text anyways, it's early and I'm rarely the one to initiate. No response. Ok, he's busy, no biggie. 24 hours later...surely he's seen it maybe he forgot? I'm just gonna text him and say I hope he's having a great time. Ok, no response again. ANXIETY BOMB HAS BEEN DETONATED. \n\nI feel pretty childish about this but I have anxious attachment style and there's really no helping that. I've been trying to remain positive but, I can't help but feel this is a bad omen. Is this a bad omen? If so, how do I get over it and what do I do if he does end up calling? To be honest, I'm a little miffed. Is this legit or the rantings of an insane women attempting to date a younger man?", "summary": "I've been talking to a guy for 3 weeks, now 2 days of radio silence. Wassup wit dat?"}
{"id": "t3_36f6ti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16 M] gf [17 F] has admirers and she refuses to let them go and it bothers me - how do I confront her about this?", "post": "Basically, she has had people who were very intimate with her emotionally but not quite physically in the past (approx 6 or 7 months). However, to this day her \"admirer\" (for lack of a better term) still maintains close ties to her, and while she denies it it's pretty clear to everyone that he still likes her even though she's with me. While I'm confident she isn't *physically* cheating on me, it still bugs me that she remains emotionally attached to previous flames, and it irks me even more considering these guys actively try to undermine me to her face and my peers by spreading lies about me, trashing my name and telling my GF that she shouldn't be with me because I am \"a bad guy.\" There have even been cases where my girlfriend has been sad and doubtful of the relationship that we have together because some of what he says sticks in her mind!\n\nMy question is - how can I confront her about this issue (while preferably having the outcome of her cutting ties with him) without seeming like the controlling boyfriend who dictates who she can talk to?", "summary": "My gf, in my eyes, is not being emotionally faithful and I don't know how to confront her"}
{"id": "t3_33w69d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making someone faint by singing.", "post": "So I'm nearing the end of a night that consists of a bit of a party. The guitar comes out and it comes to me to play something. I accepted this mighty challenge and chose to play So Real by Jeff Buckley. Also note that we're a couple drinks in and also a few shneaky shmokes (ermahgurd)... I begin to perform the song and the woman beside me was saying it sounded very eerie. Kinda sounded like she was panicked. I still went on though because jaysus, I love a bitta Jeff. Anyways.. as the song went on she continued to say how crazy it sounded and about half way through she just kinda hushed down. Next of all there's a thump and sure enough its herself after fainting and falling into a chair with a fair wack. Obviously I stopped and ran over to help. She was ok though no serious damage was done. Just a few small scratches is all. She is sleeping on couch now which I just realised is fairly ironic.", "summary": "Musical chairs gone wrong."}
{"id": "t3_4zcgt9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to wait for my close friend (25F) of over a year, to want to date me openly, but I don't think I (24F) can wait three months", "post": "We're both in our mid-twenties. I love her and have told her as much. She loves me and has told me as much. I want to be together as a couple (open or closed relationship), and have dated woman in the past. \n\nShe previously thought she was very straight. She says she needs time to figure everything out, so we decided on a couple months. I think I could do those couple months, giving her and myself some space. But of course that's not how it's been. We spend so much time together, enjoy each others presence, love physical contact of any kind (constantly hold hands).\n\nI wouldn't have an issue with any of this if she hadn't gotten back together with her ex boyfriend after we slept together again. Mind blowing sex...and the next day she is exclusive with him again. \n\nSo we do all sorts of date-ish shit. We've had quite a bit of sex in the past (though that's off the table while she's in a monogamous relationship). My hearts sings and leaps for her. \n\nWe're supposed to 'reevaluate' in a few months. I think she's deciding whether to come out or not. \n\nI guess writing this has shown me that I'm probably being a doormat. It's such a complex situation and I want to be supportive and patient, but it's taking such a toll on me. I feel like she's rejecting me, and the possibility of us every time she's texting him. \n\nI told her it was healthiest for me to move on and not consider our relationship romantic, earlier this week. Her response was to start crying and talk about how much she loves me/may be falling for me. So that conversation did not go the way I expected, and has left me in the same place as before because she's still with her long distance boyfriend.\n\nAm I an idiot?", "summary": "I want to date my friend, who previously thought she was straight. She wants time to figure herself out, but wants to keep dating her boyfriend exclusively while she does that. She then wants to talk about us potentially dating in a few months. I think this is stupid and is breaking my heart."}
{"id": "t3_4xbisc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [19M] am clingy and need help to stop", "post": "Basically I just ruined a relationship with the girl of my dreams, and it was all because I was super clingy. Some back story on me: I was abused by my father (mostly emotionally, not sexually) from the time I was born until 12 when I finally got visitation cut and I got to live full time with my step dad Ave my mom. They both have narcissistic personality disorder and constantly try to manipulate me and make me feel like crap. Despite all this, I am intelligent, hard working, kind, and even like kinda decent. I have always been able to keep my cool, and I've been blessed with empathy and compassion. I know how to love people even though I haven't had a lot of people love me. I'm pretty normal except I have anxiety and depression. I try to be nice to everyone, especially the girls I care about. I've always been kind of clingy and even possessive which usually results in me being controlling. It's different than my parents because mine stems from a few things 1) I'm anxious I'll lose them 2) I crave validation and affirmation because it gives me a little hope in life 3) I want them to feel for me what I feel for them which they sometimes don't and it usually make me depressed and then I act worse. \n\nNormally I was able to manage things well enough that it was only a nuisance for my girlfriends, but then last year life got even worse. I won't go into detail, but basically I've been on the verge of death for a year and I'm finally climbing out. And it has taken its toll on me emotionally. I took things too far with this girl and it wrecked us. I just need some help.\n\nI see a counselor but he kind of sucks. And I'm not going to get any help changing.\n\nI finally got medication a month ago, so it hasn't kicked in yet.\n\nI love you people. You are all my last support because I literally have nowhere else to go.", "summary": "I need some advice on how to combat my needy clingy tendencies."}
{"id": "t3_4uexdh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(UK) Student looking to save/invest for the future?", "post": "Hi guys, so I'll give you a run down of my life and then finish off with a question.\n\nSo as of right now I am in an incredibly fortunate position and I almost feel bad posting this as I see a lot of other people in really bad situations but I'm sure someone will be in the same position as me.\n\nI am 18 years old, I live with my parents, I work a part time job (full time in summer) and I have next to no expenses. I don't pay rent, I don't pay for my food. \nLiterally all my expenses are:\n1. Petrol for my car (Shared with other siblings).\n2. Nights out with friends.\n3. Small purchases (Snacks or drinks)\n\nI live in Scotland so all of my education is completely covered.\n\nI work as a waiter at a fast paced restaurant so I make a hell of a lot just from tips as well as my wage. I'm earning as of right now anywhere from \u00a3150-300 a week. I have \u00a31500 in my bank account right now.\n\nSo I am in a very fortunate position right now and I am saving 90% of my wage. The question I have for all you guys is what can I actively do to ensure I am making the most of the position I am in? I love the idea of investing however I am not prepared to throw my money at one company and hope for the best.\n\nHopefully there is somebody out there who has had a similar situation as the one I am in and could give me some ideas.", "summary": "18 Years old, \u00a3150-300 a week, little to no expenses. How do I make the most of my money?"}
{"id": "t3_1np1uk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Sometimes you can't find the words for a title... I'm only asking for a reason.", "post": "I am a 20 year old male college student and I broke up with my Gf of 6 months three days ago. This event has brought me to realize that I do not know who I am or how to be happy on my own. Historically I am happiest when I am instrumental in the happiness of another, this has caused me to constantly look for someone. \n\nUp until now this has never been a problem but I have realized that I do not know how to be happy on my own. I have hobbies that I enjoy and friends that will back me up in any situation. However I feel like if I am ever going to find myself in a successful relationship in the future then first I am going to have to find myself but I have no idea where to start. I've never faced these thoughts before and I am becoming extremely confused.\n\nI broke up with her, she isn't the reason I am posting this... That event led me to this revelation. \n\nPlease reddit if you have any advice you are willing to share I appreciate it to the utmost degree.", "summary": "I don't know who I am and I don't know how to find myself."}
{"id": "t3_3v82h5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend(23M)'s father does not have long to live. How can I help?(22F)", "post": "Okay. Hi. Throwaway account because my boyfriend is on reddit.\n\nSo, my boyfriend(lets call him Billy) and I have been together for three years, and we have a very very close relationship. \nBilly is not close with his father. His dad has never been there for him, emotionally or otherwise, so they are not close and Billy has a lot of resentment, and my boyfriend has never come to terms with not having a present father. (But his dad is around a lot and we see each other fairly often)\n\nAnyways, Billy's dad was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness, and will not be with us for much longer. Billy has not expressed any sadness, nor does he like to talk about it much. I am afraid that he isn't dealing with his emotions and will not be ready when his dad finally passes. I tried to ask Billy if he thought about how he would feel when his dad died, he said he hasn't.\n\n What can I do to help him? Or what could I expect in the future? I'm worried that his lack of dealing with this now is going to explode later and be very painful. I also do not want him to pull away from me.\n\nWe have had a hard year, and can't seem to catch a break. What are some useful things I could do to help him cope not only with his father's passing, but also the pain that comes with never having a \"real dad\" (which already causes him a lot of pain)?", "summary": "BF's (somewhat estranged) dad has a terminal illness and will die soon, how can I help him to open up about his feelings/cope?"}
{"id": "t3_28dho8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Dilemma about 2 [17 F]", "post": "I have a personal problem and I would like to have some advice for this situation because I am struggling with it for some time. (English not native langauge, sorry)\n\nI'm crazy about a girl from my work. I will continue to refer to her as A. Ever since she came to work with me, I'm attracted to her. Only I'm not sure how they think about me. I always get a little mixed signals from her. But this is not the problem in itself. There is also another. I will refer to her as L. I also think she's a very nice girl to continue to go.\n But here's the real problem. A and L are good friends of each other. If I do one of the two step, I automatically close the other final out. But here comes the dilemma. I can not stop thinking about A, but let me really doubt that mixed signals about my chances with her. I feel so attracted me to L (but not to the extent as to A), and from her I get the impression that she sees me.\n\nWhat is the best thing I can do? What would you advise me?", "summary": "2 pretty girls .. Choose one ...."}
{"id": "t3_o5hr3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Other Lovely Ladies of Reddit, what should I do?", "post": "Hello folks, I need some advice here. I'm a mid 20's Female who recently moved in with my early 30's Boyfriend and it hasn't been going all that well. What I'm trying to figure out is weather to stick it out or leave. \n\nHere's a little backstory... We've been dating for a few years in a semi-long distance relationship (seeing each other once a week). Our relationship started out of the end of his last long term relationship. He wanted to end things with his crazy ex and we ended up sleeping together too soon. We played it off like we weren't in a relationship for a long time but finally got together. \n\nSince then it's had a lot of ups and downs. This fall we moved in together somewhat against our better judgement. The best of all options would have been to move closer and I'm pretty sure that would have been great. It would have made our semi-LDR not a LDR. Since we have moved in we have been fighting a lot. The fights always escalate to him wanting to move out and me agreeing but it seems to always calm down and he reaffirms his commitment to me. \n\nThe good in this situations is: I learn a lot from him, he is super sweet to me when things are ok. He is committed to me. \n\nThe bad is: He gets really angry. He wants to have sex more than I do by a lot. He is old, as in he comes home and wants to chill. Our communication sucks.\n\nSo now I've got an opportunity to move away with my best friends but I can see promise in this relationship and I'm not sure if I'm just blowing things out of proportion. I've got no other real friends in the area and it would be amazing to live w/ my girls. Complicating matters, I'm working on my masters and if I left I wouldn't be finishing it.  So should I just buckle down and finish school and see where the relationship goes or should I bail?", "summary": "I've got no local friends, working on my masters and in a rocky relationship with a needy boy that wants to fuck more than I do, got an opportunity to move away with my best friends, should I call it quits and move?"}
{"id": "t3_3lwm6d", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "What kind of doctor do you see when all other doctors can't come up with a diagnosis?", "post": "I'm in a unique situation, but I'll try to keep it brief.  Male, mid 20's, and I've been sick and unable to work for two years now. I had a great career/life/family/friends beforehand, took care of my body, was generally healthy.\n\nThen I got sick. I've seen countless doctors, had dozens and dozens of blood and urine tests, MRI's, cat scans, but NO ONE can give me a clear diagnosis, and I'm coming to the end of my rope unfortunately. I've tried antibiotics, psych meds, antivirals, bullshit herbs, you name it. I don't know how much more I can take. \n\n***So far in the past 2+ years I've seen:***\n\n**2 neurologists** (1 claimed I had psych issues, other said I was healthy)\n\n**3 psychiatrists** (all three gave up on me after I said no more meds. I had tried over 30 different psych meds and nothing helped long term, only symptom relief with benzos - not a good long term strategy, so I said enough is enough)\n\n**3 therapists** (1 tried EMDR - made me more depressed, said CBT wouldn't be my thing. Other 2 couldn't help after 10 sessions. No emotionally scarring events in my childhood or anything)\n\n**2 internal med docs** (couldn't find anything)\n\n**1 Infectious Disease doc** (couldn't find anything)\n\n**1 Lyme Disease doctor** (only one to give a firm diagnosis of 'chronic lyme'. 8 months of treatment only made me terribly worse, so I'm convinced it's not Lyme)\n\n...and probably a few more that I can't remember now. The MOST I'll get is \"maybe its [very hard to diagnosis illness], or something like  [even harder to diagnosis illness], but there's no way to tell, nothing we can do\"\n\nWHAT DO I DO, I'M GOING CRAZY!", "summary": "sick over 2 years, who do I see when all other doctors have failed to cure (or even diagnose) me?"}
{"id": "t3_3ksre3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am a sometime \"mouthbreather\"", "post": "I have a deviated septum as a result of getting knocked in the nose by a terrible baseball pitch when I was ten years old. Usually it's a simple fix for the doctor to re-break the nose back into place, but the clinic fucked up and didn't schedule my appointment urgently enough. \n\nAs a result of all this, it is sometimes difficult to breathe through my nose if I need to get more air than it is giving me at that moment. It's like breathing through a straw sometimes and over the years I've just gotten used to breathing through both my mouth and nose most of the time. \n\nFrom time to time I see people on reddit calling other people a \"mouthbreather\" (along the same lines as \"neckbeard\") and it hurts me. The connotation is that people who go around with their mouths open are dimwitted and/or antisocial. But some of us sometimes have to breathe through both our mouths and noses at the same time through no fault of our own. So please give people the benefit of the doubt and stop using this slur.  \n\n(P.S. I know that corrective surgery can fix a deviated septum but that is not an option for me at this point.)", "summary": "be nice to one another."}
{"id": "t3_3c9so3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it time for me [24M] to have \"the talk\" with her [26F]?", "post": "I met this girl in a singles small group at my church and started the relationship there.  After a few meetings at group, I asked her out to lunch after church and she said yes.  We both had a good time and after a few more meetings in the small group, I asked her out for a legit date.  She told me that she was not in a place to date right now and that she wanted to be friends, but assured me that this is how she began relationships.  \n\nAfter a few weeks of no contact (the small group stopped meeting), we started texting and went out for a relaxed dinner as friends.  A week later, she texted me asking if I wanted to go out for ice cream.  She then went to Europe for two weeks on vacation.  When I asked if I could email her while she was gone, she assured me that she had an international texting plan and I could text her, which I did.  After getting back from Europe, she was home for a week and would be heading to Mexico for a month long missions trip.  I wanted to hang out with her before she left so I asked her to dinner.  She had plans to serve dinner at a homeless shelter that night but said we could go before that and invited me to serve with her, which I gladly accepted.  We had a great night, laughing and joking with each other.  Once again, she told me that her texting plan was still active and that I could text her while she was in Mexico.\n\nBetween the lunches and dinners, we would text each other regularly.  We get along great and have a good time together but I am paranoid about moving forward.  My last relationship ended two years ago, lasted for 3 years and I haven't done much dating since then.  I also try to be extremely careful not to seem too pushy in relationships, hence my question.  I really like this girl but the failed relationship and the \"just want to be friends\" statement are constantly on my mind.  She won't be back until the beginning of August so I have until then to decide/build up courage.  What does the subreddit think?", "summary": "Girl gave me the \"just friends\" line with a twist, have hung out three times since then (once on her request) and had great times.  We have texted while she's been home, on vacation in Europe, and on a missions trip in Mexico.  Is it time to revisit the dating talk?"}
{"id": "t3_19kiju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M19] [F19] I'm starting to think the only way I can get her to stop smoking is if I start smoking.", "post": "I know it sounds ridiculous at first, just hear me out.\n\nWe've been dating almost a year now. In every other way this girl is my perfect match. Everything about her from the way she smiles to the way she rubs my back at night makes her amazing. I don't have a problem with other people smoking, you guys smoke? That's fine, but I will NOT have the woman I marry, the woman I have children with, the woman I spend my life with be an addict to that crap.\n\nSo far, I've asked her three times to stop. Each time I try to bring it up with her she just shrugs it off like, \"do you really want to have this argument right now?\". It's become too much for me though. I don't even know anymore whether its the smelling/tasting like smoke and harmfulness of cigarettes, or if it just really pisses me off that she won't listen to my pleas, but either way I want it to stop.\n\nI also have an extremely hard time understanding it. As I said, I don't have a problem with tobacco. I've smoked cigarettes, cigars, hookah, but its always been a once in a while kinda thing. I've never had the trouble of becoming addicted. Maybe it's just my personality but its just really hard for me to understand how someone could get addicted to that stuff.\n\nI know this all seems childish, but at this point what are my other options? Maybe, if I start smoking, once she realizes how much it sucks to kiss/sleep with/just be around someone who constantly smells like smoke, she'll see how it makes me feel. \n\nWe've had plenty of problems before, but this is by far the only long-standing, unresolved issue in our relationship. I hope someone has some advice. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "SO won't quit smoking, it's the only big problem in our relationship, I'm starting to think that my only option is to start smoking and make her see how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_1bak5l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you have/did you consider/have you had braces? Was it worth it if you did?", "post": "I'm a second year in college with a crooked set of teeth. Last time I saw a dentist, they told me I probably needed at least 4 teeth pulled before I even considered braces, but therein lies the problem. While I do have crooked teeth and an overcrowded mouth of teeth, I can't really afford getting braces right now without more income or insurance that actually covers braces, which, coincidentally, requires more income. I've read from some articles that people with braces don't have significantly better self-esteem than people who never wound up getting that, and I certainly haven't worried over them, but it always nags at me.", "summary": "Should I get braces? I have crooked teeth, but I'm also a broke college student."}
{"id": "t3_4xmc4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [22f] being unfair when my boyfriend [24m] is unsure if he wants me to move to school with him next year?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months. I am graduating this upcoming December with my Bachelors degree, and he is already graduated with a degree and now has a full time job. \n\nHe has plans to attend graduate school next fall for 2.5 years to get his dream job that he has worked really hard thus far for. During his undergraduate he had a few minor relationships (5 months or less) and otherwise non-committal flings because he wanted to remain focused on school and his full time job. \n\nI realize school is very important, but so is a long term relationship. So, at about our 4 month mark together, I asked him if I was going to be apart of his plan on going to grad school or if our relationship was just something he was planning on phasing out by the time grad school came around. I figured 4 months is the time that things start to get serious or we could each go our separate ways without too much damage.  \n\nFast forward to now: He is applying to grad schools all over the country, everywhere from Michigan (where we are from) to Florida and North Dakota. It is starting to seem very real to me even though he hasn't even been accepted yet. I asked him again today if he wanted me to move with him to school...He said \"I'm just not sure where we are going to be a year from now, so I am not sure.\" Now I understand that is a fair way to phrase that, but it just kindof hurt that he wasn't immediately like \"Of course I want you with me!\" Am I being unfair for wanting that sort of a response instead of a \"Mmmm maybe?\" When he does go to school, we will be dating for about a year and a half at that point. \n\nWe are in love, and very easy going people, we never really fight. I just don't want to waste time if he's just going to ditch me for his career some day.", "summary": "My boyfriend of 9 months is moving away to school in about a year and isn't sure if he wants me to go. Am I unfair for wanting a more committal response than that?"}
{"id": "t3_1mqjjo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(m21) lost and unsure of how to go forward with staying in touch with ex (22f)", "post": "We split in April on mutual terms because we are at different points in life, I finished my undergrad and she has a year left so I want to start job hunting plus tried distance last year and it was not fun. We have kept in touch and visited eachother a few times since then. I've moved a good 2500 kms away for work at the beginning of august and find myself thinking about her daily. We've admitted to both missing each other and she has talked of visiting me, money is an issue. I want to see her and visit other friends, maybe move back after my current contract is over at end of October. \n\nWe had a few fights during the 14 mos we were dating but the last few months were great and aside from a few minor issues to work out I would get back together with her in an instant. I'm trying to let go a bit but am not sure if i really want to, nor am I sure if she still wants to be with me.  So really what i';m hoping to get perspective on is a) how have others gotten over serious relationships in the past and b) can taking time apart and then getting back together work magic for relationships?", "summary": "Unsure how to get over ex while still being friends and admitting to missing eachother/ have people taken a few months and gotten back together with SO and noticed an imporvement in relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2p0wus", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27m] gf [26f] is a giant pushover, and it drives me insane because she whines about it all the time.", "post": "Hi everyone.  \n\nWe've been together for almost 3 years, and overall, we're doing pretty well.  One issue I have with her is...she's a HUGE pushover.\n\n1. She has a meeting at work that goes until 6pm, and then class from 7pm - 9pm, and she has to study for her final exam next week and write a paper.  Her mom will \"guilt\" her into going to church services in the evening, so she'll go...2 - 3 times a week at night, just to please her mom.\n\nAgain, I get it, it's her mom.\n\n2. Her colleague who she's talked to maybe 3 - 4 times so far in the past year, texts her this morning and says, \"I'm in the hospital, I'm sick, I'm in room ###, will you come visit?\" She asks me about it, and I tell her, \"What, that sounds weird. You guys barely know each other. Why would she even tell you where to go immediately?\"  All day...I hear about her groaning and whining about how she doesn't want to go, but because it's a \"good thing\" to do, she is going.  Even on the drive there, she calls me to whine about the parking, the driving, the fact that she barely knows her, so I ask, \"So why in the world are you going?\" \"Because it's the right thing to do...\" \n\nI just told her to have some balls and to stop letting people dictate her life, and it's \"not a good thing to do\" if she's going to whine about it the entire time. \n\n3. Every homeless person we walk by, she has to give money to ($5), she's signed up for a 2 year gym membership that she goes to almost never simply because of the sales tactics, and she bought a car due to the sales tactic.\n\nI'm not sure how to approach her about this further.  The three examples above are just an example of the past two days.  There were at least 3 - 4 more from this week alone.", "summary": "gf is a pushover."}
{"id": "t3_23amzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] got lead on by my [28 M] ex. How do I get over it?", "post": "I broke up with my ex a year ago for a long list of issues that don't matter in this point in time. We were living together and as soon as we broke up and he moved out, I felt it was best to completely sever all communication so it was easier for us both to move on.\n\nHe came by 2 weeks ago to pick up some of his things he left at my place and we took the time to talk about how we have been doing. We are both single and we were able to crack jokes, laugh, and smile on old times. A few hours went by of talking and eventually we went to say goodbye, both of us crying, and he hugged me tight, kissed my cheek and made a remark about wishing we could run away together. I was curious of the idea of resparking things and took his actions seriously. I figured he wanted the same thing.\n\nWhen he got home, he didn't contact me for a day. I figured I would check up on him and he talked to me like nothing even happened between us. I kept making remarks that we need to talk things through, but he told me just to forget it. I was the only one that cared and that felt we could try to be friends again. However apparently he got home, spoke to a female friend about it, and that female friend told him to not bother with me.\n\nI feel completely played and totally devastated. We had a fight about it, but it ended with him being very apologetic for leading me on. I told him since then to leave me alone (may not have been the right thing, but I'm so hurt) and I've severed all communication again. How do I get over this? I feel so hurt and I can't stop getting the itch to try to talk to him again.", "summary": "Ex came over to pick up things after a year and he lead me on to believe we could be something again. How the heck can I get over being so hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_1tm9gz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My gf [18/F] and I [18/M] broke up... Does it get better?", "post": "I honestly find it hard to believe that people will understand my situation.\nSo my gf and I have been together since we're 16. Now, after 2 years we broke up because she was a liar. Not a cheater or a terrible liar but it was enough for me to break up with her. After 3 days, we got back together, thinking this would be a good idea. I wanted this, I wanted her, and I wanted to believe she wants me back. But now, 6 days later and we're through for good this time... She loved me very much. I loved her too, genuine love! I woke up and thought about her. She gave me a reason to smile, to be happy.\nShe tolerated all my problems.\n\nNow I'll be joining the army (Why? Well, I live in Israel and its a mandatory once you reach 18). 3 Years in the army. I would still meet girls here and there but thats not the problem.\nThe problem is that these are the best years of my life. And I won't be able to enjoy them as much as people that live in other countries can. No harm, I'll deal with it.\n\nThe thing is, I'm a long term relationship kind of guy. I don't know how to pickup girls, or even start talking to them at random places. I won't be able to go to a bar and hit on a pretty woman.\nI will be home almost every other weekend, and there are a lot of girls in the army (only the rules are strict and I won't be able to find anyone there).\n\nI feel like she was the only one that I can be with. I don't know how to live without her and Im afraid to try.\nI don't have any confidence, she knew me, we had the same hobbies, we just clicked. Im afraid she's one in a million...", "summary": "my gf and I were together for 2 years and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Im joining the army and I don't have a lot of time or confidence to hit on girls mainly because Im a long term relationship kind of guy."}
{"id": "t3_1jd1xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25f] Literally packing my bag today and walking away from a six year relationship with [27/m].", "post": "I am scared and happy and sad and overwhelmed. Saying goodbye to my best friend and partner of the past six years. The last year has been long distance and it just isn't working anymore. Tomorrow morning I am going back home several thousand miles away. It's all very amicable and grown up but I am still so incredibly overwhelmed.\nHad a stupid sexual encounter with a \"friend\" that turned from bad to worse last week to make things even more ridiculous. (To clarify, we were broken up by then. I am visiting my \"ex\" in my old hometown where we spent most of our relationship together. Went camping with friends and this guy from new hometown was there...things got sloppy.)\nI could use some advice, support, anything really. I am just so, so overwhelmed right now.", "summary": "Leaving my relationship of six years today. Yikes."}
{"id": "t3_1n7n6m", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat always wants to play ALL the time... (need advice)", "post": "I adopted a 2 year old cat from the shelter, but I'm afraid I'm not able to give her enough attention.\n\nFrom the moment I wake up and go to work... then from the moment I get home until bedtime my cat is meowing and wanting to play. \n\nI'm a single guy who works 9 hours a day away from home. I live in an apartment with a small balcony which I leave open. I've also bought MANY toys designed to keep her entertained when I'm away. However the only thing that she seems to enjoy doing is chasing a furball I lead on a string and make jump around. I've tried doing little odd ball automations of this, but she quickly gets board no matter how random I make it. \n\nI'd like to think she's still better off with me than the shelter, but I honestly feel guilty a lot and that's not what I wanted when I signed up for this.  I try to play with her a good 10 minutes before going to work and another 15 minutes when I get home. I also try to rotate the toys or show other things while I'm doing tasks around the house. \n\nBut I'm at a lost. Now laying in bed as I write this she is laying next to me, pawing, clearly wanting to play.\n\nI'm open to any and all suggestions on how to help her entertain herself just a bit so she's not so dependent on me.", "summary": "My cat is only willing to be entertained by me and I need help finding ways to get her to entertain herself."}
{"id": "t3_26fkmx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] My co-worker (21/f - in an academic research group) and I share feelings for each other, not sure what to do. Help!", "post": "The set up:\nI'm 28, working as a staff researcher in academia and it has become increasingly clear that my co-worker (who is 21 and an undergraduate in our group) has strong feelings for me. I also have feelings for her, but have yet to say anything. \n\nThe pickle: \nI've searched through our university staff employee handbook and found nothing prohibiting this kind of relationship, but she also has a high school bf of 4 years. It's become apparent to her that she cannot see a future with this person and has told me this on a few occasions. \n\nShe'll be starting a graduate program at the same university next year, and I will most likely be moving on to attend graduate school at a different university around the same time. I haven't disclosed my feelings for her as of yet, and I'm unsure if I should say anything and somehow manage to work closely with her over the course of the year and remain professional\u2026or if I should just lay it on the line. Obviously I'm worried about my career if I make my intentions known, and it will definitely need to stay hush-hush with our PI/Supervisor if anything were to happen. If anyone has any similar experiences (hopefully within academia)..any advice is helpful. It has been eating at me.", "summary": "co-worker and I have feelings for each other. Not sure if I should tell her how I feel, or remain professional. Any advice is helpful."}
{"id": "t3_39lrrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my coworker [33F], do I turn her in?", "post": "I have seniority over my older female coworker, but the same job title and responsibilities (i.e. I do not have hiring/firing power). I have an excellent relationship with our boss. \n\nShe recently posted a detailed rant on a social media site about the pros and cons of stealing from our workplace. I'm not talking about pens, either, but a material that is essential to our day to day tasks. She ended the rant by deciding that it isn't currently feasible for her to steal this material, but the implication was that with slight changes to protocol she could and would. \n\nFor some context, I don't like her. I have never liked her. I believe that she is incompetent. I often feel that I have to work much harder to make up for this fact on days that we are scheduled together. On top of this, she constantly seeks me out as a confidant (I'm the only coworker who can see her profile on this social media site, which is part of my conundrum: if she DOES steal and get caught, I will have known about it). I have tried to gently deflect her attention and friendship advances and to give her chances to improve, but haven't seen meaningful progress. This is definitely affecting my decision-making on the following question: do I talk to our boss about this, or do I mind my own damn business? \n\nSetting aside the colossal stupidity of actually MAKING the post on social media, has she actually done anything wrong or am I overreacting?", "summary": "I may be overreacting to something a coworker did..."}
{"id": "t3_1x77c3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my co-worker [32 F] 1 month. I dont want to lead her on, but how do I find out if she has a BF or Husband.", "post": "Cute girl started working here 2 months ago.  She is friendly, smart, mature, and chatty and has one or two kids.  During the past month (January) we would email and chat more and more [not explicitly; maybe a dick joke here and there].  Once we even went to lunch a few blocks away.  No big deal right.  Well now it seems like we are flirting with each other.  \n\nI am happily engaged and am getting sex from my partner.  I am interested in a friendly-co-worker thing only, but i'm not sure what her intentions are.  It would appear that she wants the D.  But I would be more comfortable to know if she has a boyfriend or husband so I know I'm not leading her on. \n\nSome of my FB is public (including the fact i'm engaged) but so far there has not been much talk about our personal lives.", "summary": "Co-Worker is flirtatious and fun / How to find out if she is single?"}
{"id": "t3_1hqnpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F 20] tricked my bf [m 23] and now feel guilty.", "post": "My boyfriend of 10 months has some pretty highly rated gone wild posts, and continues to get messages from girls. In the past he has exchanged pictures and videos with these girls, as well as skyped them. Perhaps I'm overreacting, but it makes me uncomfortable. I told him and he promised he wouldn't do it again. \n\nFast forward to tonight, he left his reddit account on when he left my house today and I wanted to see if he was still messaging girls. He was messaging one girl, but eventually blew her off. Being crazy and stupid I made a fake account and messaged him. I wanted to see if he would blow me off too. It progressed to sending pictures (which I found of someone else) and sending very provocative messages to one another. \n\nI'm angry, hurt and I feel betrayed. But I also feel stupid and pretty dumb because I set him up. What do I do? Let it go? Tell him it was me? Break up with him?", "summary": "made a fake account and sexted my boyfriend. How do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_siv13", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, should i contact my biological siblings?", "post": "I'm 24 years old and I've never met my father. He left my mother when she was pregnant and went to be with another woman, and started a family with that woman leaving me and my mother alone. He was by no means a good guy, and i have absolutely no interest in having him in my life, but he has 3 children with his wife (the woman he left my mother for). His children are just a couple years younger than me, I'm not sure exactly but mid to late teens. As far as I know they don't even know I exist. Should I try to contact them? I feel like even if they don't want a relationship they should at least know who I am. Plus i have a little boy, which means they have a nephew. I have no other blood siblings, so this would be my sons only way of having aunts/uncle on my side.", "summary": "My father was a jerk, left my mom, should I try to contact his children for a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4aoza5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I know if I [27 M] should break up with my girlfriend [29 F] of 5 months? How does anyone know if a relationship is going well?", "post": "Hi, I am a 27 year old male. I have been dating my current girlfriend for approximately 5 months.       \n\nMy problem is I don't know if this is a relationship I want to take further. I know that is already a bad sign.        \n\nTo complicate things, I am struggling with some psychiatric problems, that include depression. She is a Lawyer from a rather conservative South East Asian country and often finds it hard to empathises. That is not to say that she does not try.       \n\nI think we have a fine relationship and are understanding and supportive towards each other. But I am getting to an age where I don't want to drive relationships into the ground. My parents both divorced several people, and I worry that this relationship is not \"special\" enough. This is a very vague feeling I can't fully put into words. I worry that it may have something to do with my stress and mood disorders as well.       \n\nFinally we come from quite different worlds. I am a Science PhD student, and she is a lawyer. I don't doubt our appreciation and \"love\" for each other. But I have trouble figuring out why I have all this doubt.", "summary": "How do I figure out if the doubts about my relationship are reasonable, or if I am afraid of commitment?"}
{"id": "t3_yryqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20] think I messed up something really great with [M20], and hope it can be fixed?", "post": "I get introduced to this guy through my best male friend and we're both instantly attracted. We have a very intense 3-week summer love affair. \nHe leaves for 6 weeks in the middle of summer where things are left off ambiguous. The day after he leaves I drunkenly sleep with introducer and male best friend with whom I've had long-term weird feelings for. I did not initiate the encounter, it is an isolated event and confirms that I am not into male best friend sexually, at all. I don't say anything not thinking it's necessary-- it meant nothing and I felt that saying something would only serve to hurt him.\nUnexpectedly me and this guy grow very close in his absence, texting constantly, 4 hour phone conversations, etc. When he gets back we talk about being a couple. Then one night he asks questions and finds out about one-time tryst with male best friend. He is very VERY upset and now refuses to see me. \n\nIf anything this has made me realize how deeply I care about this person, and fuck being scared, I want to take the leap and be with him even if it means being hurt again. I like talking to him and sharing ideas with him and waking up next to him and touching him and hearing him laugh. It makes me happy when he is happy. And I guess I don't really know what else can make a thing with a person \"real\". I want and need to tell him these things, but he's still too upset to see me or talk to me.\n\nSo I guess my question is, has anyone been in a situation like this before-- on either end. If so, what happened, how did it work out? Was there anything either partner could say to rebuild confidence? I don't feel that I cheated, per se, and yet I understand why he would feel that trust had been broken. If not, any helpful advice is still very much appreciated.\n\nI really really like and care about this guy and think we could be good for one another in a lot of ways. What can I, if anything, do?", "summary": "Unexpectedly fell for a one night stand who'd been introduced to me by my best friend (also male). However, I drunkenly slept with male best friend a few weeks after meeting this guy and before we were more than casual hookups. I didn't say anything-- even after out relationship had gone on for several months. When he found out he was very upset and now refuses to see me. Is there anything I can do or say to help repair confidence?"}
{"id": "t3_3wuxib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] don't feel the same with my girlfriend [17F] of two years anymore, the spark is gone. Another girl?", "post": "My girlfriend is Alex and my best friend is Caitlin\n\nMe and Alex have been together since freshman year of high school, and for the first year or so I loved being around her, now the days seem to drag on and on, and I don't feel a spark anymore, almost no attraction. I care about her in a way i can't explain and I feel like I can't give her up. She's too dependent and fragile.\n\nThroughout our entire relationship, I've been best friends with Caitlin, (this has caused no tension, as my girlfriend is extremely understanding) But I feel trapped by this relationship now, and I think I might be developing feelings for Caitlin, I could never bring myself to break up with Alex.\n\nI can't help it but when I look at Caitlin l I just think about what we'd be like together, it makes my heart jump a beat almost, we have so much in common, and we know eachother so well, I was not friends with Alex prior to us starting our relationship.", "summary": "In long relationship, don't wanna break up, have feelings for best friend."}
{"id": "t3_2iwhi8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M/] with my wife [25 F] had a small reconciliation today, think i may have accidentally raped her... (update)", "post": "Previous post\n\nI really do appretiate everyone who commented in my last post. It really did help me see the things I was trying not to see. \n\nHowever, today I am left even more confused and emotionally drained.\nShe came over, we played with the kids. I asked her to go on a date with me to try to get everything out in the open, and start repairing our relationship, she agreed. We talked about why she felt she needed this seperation, and I had to agree with some of the things she was saying\n\nWhen she came over, she told me that we could hug, but kissing was out of the question, as she was doing her best to seperate emotion and feelings from logic, to help her decide what she wanted to do. \n\nShe only stayed a short time, but before she left, she kissed me, saying that \"she needed it\" she said she would think about coming home tomorrow, and that she needed more time to find herself. \n\nThis is all well and good, but she reactivated her fetlife profile, and changed her name to match the other guys. When I confronted her about it, she at first hung up on me, then had our mutual friend (who i referenced in the last post) yell at me that why the fuck did I care what she was doing over there. She then had a conversation with me saying she was \"testing me\" and when I asked her point blank if it was over, she said probably not but I keep doing things to drive her away. \n\nMy biggest problem is she keeps dragging this out, and giving me hope where there is obviously none. \n\nI think i'm through, it hurts. My heart is heavy and I'm going to have to do a whole lot to support my two kids without her around, but I have to try at least.\n\nAgain, thank you for listening", "summary": "She keeps giving me hope, but I don't think I can hold onto that anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1ktozm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31M] want to propose to my girlfriend [27F] of 7 months. Is it too soon?", "post": "I met this woman at the beginning of the year and fell for her hard. She is kind, selfless and passionate and everything that I want in a partner. She is a supermom to a 5 year old son from a previous LTR and I love this little guy like my own kid. We're moving in together in November and currently spend 4/5 nights a week together at her place. \n\nI know I want to be with this woman forever. Even my family adores her and has welcomed her and the little guy with open arms.  I guess I just want an outside opinion on if it's too soon to ask her to be my wife?", "summary": "Together with gf for 7 months, too soon to propose?"}
{"id": "t3_1g2ham", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I [19f] give him [21m] a birthday gift?", "post": "So J and I have been seeing each other for a few months now (around 4). We are not in an official relationship but we have been seeing each other. His birthday is this Saturday and I'm weary about getting him something. Every time I date someone their birthday comes up and I always end up spending a lot of time and effort on a gift and usually we end up breaking up before my birthday ever comes around. I'm a very giving person but I'm just tired of wasting money and ideas on gifts for guys. \n\nSo I'm thinking about just taking him out to dinner, do something fun during the day and not getting him a gift. Thoughts?", "summary": "Seeing a guy for awhile, don't want to get him a gift."}
{"id": "t3_4pkken", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend [20M] doesn't take well to friendly suggestions sometimes", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three years and everything has been going great, but he sometimes doesn't take suggestions very well. I'll suggest a different way of doing laundry, for example, and he'll say that it was his idea and he was \"already doing that anyway.\" Sometimes, if he's feeling particularly stubborn that day, he'll just outright refuse and say nothing else.\n\nBecause of this, I often don't get a lot of insight on what he's thinking or why he wants to do things the way he's doing them, so I'm left to make educated guesses. If I guess wrong, he'll definitely be sure to tell me that I'm way off base but still won't actually tell me what he's thinking or feeling about the topic.\n\nGetting a new apartment, job searching, and finding a car have been a bit rocky because it seems almost like it's his way or the highway. This only happens if I suggest things first. If he brings an idea up and asks for my input, he's totally willing to listen and we can function well as a team. It's almost like he's embarassed that I beat him to the chase (argh, there I go making pesky inferences again).\n\nEverything else in our relationship is going wonderfully, it's just this that really ever sparks any animosity between us. What are some ways to suggest new ideas to someone who has a bit of a stubborn streak like this? Thanks for any suggestions!", "summary": "My boyfriend is stubborn and won't listen to suggestions I have unless he asks for them. How do I make friendly suggestions to a stubborn person?"}
{"id": "t3_4vwwri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Family: Me [27F] with my dad [63 M], he has a weird sense of humor and I have to keep deleting his comments on my Facebook. --- **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "My dad has a weird sense of humor. He gets on these kicks of long stretches of running with a joke or theme that was never funny to begin with. \n\nFor example, for an entire weekend he called me every fat joke imaginable because I have gained a few pounds. Keep in mind, even after gaining \"a lot\" of weight, I still only weigh 130 lbs. 5' 4\" tall so that's still on the pretty thin side of your average person. I just laughed it off and kept saying haha, very funny. Look at yourself, lol. \n\nRecently, he's gotten into this kick that my pets look like they are dead and stuffed and keeps leaving comments on my Facebook photos to that effect. Who does your taxidermy? Yep, they look pretty dead to me. Stuff like that. Now, I have three fur babies, so I post a lot of pictures of them. I keep deleting his comments because they are wierd and inappropriate. \n\nMy dad and I haven't always gotten along. We only see each other maybe once a month. Facebook is a main way of communicating for us. I don't want to block him from commenting or unfriend him because I want him to be able to use Facebook to communicate. How should I tell him that he can only comment on my Facebook if it's not offensive or inappropriate? How do I explain why his comments are not funny?  He can be kind of immature (age is just a number) so I can see him saying something like, fine if you don't want me to talk to you I won't...", "summary": "my dad keeps commenting that my pets look dead and stuffed on my Facebook photos. How do I tell him that is not funny/weird/to stop? Without cutting him off or offending him?"}
{"id": "t3_3r3wfu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting it was halloween.", "post": "This happened this Halloween night at 11:30 pm. I was sitting at home watching tv when I heard knocking on my door. I went to look through the peephole to see who it was out there. I looked and saw two teenagers cloaked in all black. I said \"oh hell naw\". I quickly ran to my room and grabbed my .38 special and went through the balcony to go around them and hold them up. Next thing I know, I hear someone yelling from a vehicle. I look back and it's was their parents. I look at the kids and see them holding baskets absolutely terrified. Next thing I know I am convincing the parents not to call the cops because I thought I was going to be broken into. They were pretty cool and I gave them some protein bars since I did not have candy.", "summary": "Pulled my gun out on trick or treaters thinking they were trying to rob my house because I forgot it was Halloween."}
{"id": "t3_17hsmp", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Treadmill and foot pain?", "post": "I was running pretty consistently on an outdoor track/trail until the holidays and cold weather hit. Decided to take on the treadmill a couple weeks ago to train for a half marathon in May. \n\nThursday night, I was about a mile and a half into my run when the arch of my left foot started hurting REALLY BADLY. I had to stop and the pain lingered the next couple of days, even while just walking around. I researched it and talked to some friends and all findings led to plantar fascitis :(\n\nIs it possible that this spurred from the treadmill? I hadn't had this problem ever before while running outside, and I just purchased new shoes (Asics GT-2000s) in November. I'm just freaking out because I really, really need to train for this race!", "summary": "Switched from running outside to running on treadmill and pretty sure I now have plantar fascitis. Correlation?"}
{"id": "t3_2ec895", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ignoring gas and solubility laws in the name of a soda", "post": "Throwaway because a friend saw this happen, and she reads this sub.\n\nThis particular grievous error began yesterday when I went with a friend to go watch a movie we'd been hyping for several weeks. We brought four sodas with us (I don't often drink soda), and by the time we got to the theater one of my two cans was still left over. Being the good person I am, I decided to not smuggle the can into the theater. Instead, I decided to save it for lunch today.\n\nToday, like any normal summer day in Georgia, the temperature mercilessly rose to 90 degrees. I, an absolute fool, left the can of soda in the cup holder in my car. In the sun. I didn't even drink it for lunch. I just drank water instead like the idiot I am. \n\nSo after nine hours in the sun, the soda was ready for havoc, and I got into my car. When the soda can first caught my eye, I was hesitant at first to open it. Logically, I knew that the high temperature would cause the gas to become less soluble and make it expand, meaning soda would probably fizz up a lot if I opened it. Logically, I knew that if I waited another ten minutes, I could pop that soda in the refrigerator at home and cool it down to an enjoyable temperature. But logic couldn't take one thing into account.\n\n**I really fucking wanted that soda all of a sudden, and I wanted it right then.**\n\nI opened that soda, recklessly underestimating the power of pissed off CO2, and with a tremendous bang all the compressed gas escaped at once. It was forty times more powerful of a pop that I anticipated. Soda flew everywhere. The little flap in the soda can that usually opens inwards instead blew outwards and flew off the can, cutting my hand. Were it not for my hand, the piece of metal would have hit my face.\n\nSo, in the shock that I almost had a serious injury, I downed that entire can in one glorious swig to assert my dominance.\n\nIn the end I got a badass cut on my hand and a soda. But my car is covered in soda, so I probably have ants.", "summary": "I didn't ice my soda, so it tried to ice me."}
{"id": "t3_1dk6rj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Trial Separation - Moving out; Me(30m), wife 35f", "post": "So my wife and I have recently had some issues, and we both decided that some time apart would probably be helpful (let the tension die down, give each other space to think, etc). To do this, I'm going to be moving out for a little while. I would guess that I'd need an apartment for about 6 months, which I know can be difficult to find. There are some rooms for rent close to where I live, but as a 30m professional I'm not sure how I would feel about living in someone else's home. Family is out of the question. Does anyone here have some advice, or been through something similar? I'm not even sure this is the right subreddit for this question, but any guidance or advice would be appreciated.\nThanks", "summary": "Need some advice on how to deal with a trial separation, both emotionally and logistically"}
{"id": "t3_1a7xke", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is sexism and racism really as rampant in the world today as the media likes to make it out to be?", "post": "I do not mean this to be racist OR sexist, I am truly curious as to what other people think. It seems to me that while women and blacks WERE heavily discriminated against, I feel it is not what people make it out to be anymore.  Realistically, wouldn't it just be bad business not to hire the best person for the job, or not to pay them justly to get the best work out of them?\n\nPeople also often overlook that men, the \"evil perpetrators of this discrimination\", are discriminated against in ways too. People think that just because some of the worlds most rich, powerful are white men, surely all are men must be the top of the food chain, but this is not the case. \n>Of the 25 professions that the Jobs Rated Almanac rates as the worse professions, 24 have in common the fact that they constitute 85% or more males. \n\nWomen are more often than not, favored in child custody hearings. Men suffer at the hands of false rape claims because the system operates on a guilty-until-proven-innocent ideal. Men being raped is not taken seriously, nor is domestic abuse against men, both of which happen and is not a rare occurrence. These are just a couple examples to make my point.\n\nThis is not to say that men are really worse off. I am merely trying to make the point that everyone is discriminated against in some way and we cannot overlook what is happening in the present because of what happened in the past.\n\nPlease don't downvote just because you disagree, I would really like to hear other perspectives and peoples thoughts and arguments.", "summary": "How do you see the current state of sexism and racism? What about in the US specifically?"}
{"id": "t3_1al3xd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Oh fuck, I found my brother's porn collection", "post": "Oh yeah, and boy was it good. He was sleeping and let me watch some of the movies on his laptop. A while before he went to take his afternoon nap, I suggested we watch *Inglourious Basterds* and he deleted the film to mess with me. After he went to sleep after watching half of *Zero Dark Thirty*, he gave me the laptop to watch some other film. I decided I'd see *Inglourious Basterds* and went to the Recycle Bin to retrieve it.\n\nBut it wasn't there. He deleted the film permanently. It was on his external HDD (which is why he bravely deleted the film; he planned on watching it later). When I was looking for the film, I found a folder with some random alphabets in its name. It had pics of naked girls in the file thumbnail. I was shocked. I had no time, so I rushed and took my USB drive to make a copy by restoring the folder temporarily and then deleting it again. \n\nOnce that was done, I found *another* folder, this one containing *video* porn. I hit the jackpot. Since the laptop was running out of charge (and I live in Tamil Nadu, powercuts were prevalent almost half of the day) and my brother's sleeping patterns were unpredictable, I only took the fancy stuff, but it was enough to keep me going for a couple more months. When the stuff was transferred, I kept the laptop back in my brother's table.", "summary": "I found porn on my brother's laptop... and copied some of it."}
{"id": "t3_29xwzc", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I need help on how to motivate my girlfriend.", "post": "Primarily what the title says but I will give a little bit more information. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while and lately she has been talking to me about her weight and how she desperately wants to get down to a healthier weight and hates how she looks right now. Whenever I try to be there for her and help her stay on track I seem to always, frankly, make things worse than they were before. There are so many things that I don't know and I would love any advice at all from people out there, especially girls, who have gone through something similar about how I can be there to make my girlfriend feel encouraged and determined but also loved at the same time. I will be here till this post is two hours old but after that I'm going to bed and won't be able to respond till tomorrow morning.", "summary": "I want to know the best way to motivate my girlfriend as she works on losing weight."}
{"id": "t3_4hwt32", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Shoplifted sushi from my school today. Got caught and embarrassed in front of my old crush.", "post": "I'll admit this was pretty idiotic of me. \nI still cannot, for the life of me, understand why I did it. I was in the school store and two of my friends were with me there. My first friend walks in grabs a pack of sushi and slyly leaves. My second and best friend takes one, puts it under his shirt and leaves. Now I'm not a thief, I ain't about that life... But I saw my friends walk outta there with expensive sushi for free and I was like \"...shit man I want some free sushi too\". But here's where I made a boneheaded mistake. \n\nI grabbed the sushi and just walked out without thinking. What i didn't realize was that the lady at the counter was just glaring at me on the way out. As a matter of fact, THE ENTIRE LINE OF STUDENTS WERE JUST STARING AT ME. Now normally, I just wouldn't care about any of those strangers who didn't know me, but then I realized the girl I used to have a crush on, and was actually pretty interested me, was standing right in front of me and looking back, I realized she must have just been staring too. **cringe**\nOf course I get my ass busted and embarrassed. I went back and no one forced me to, but I paid for the sushi. The lady was generous enough to not get me in any serious trouble, since she knows how embarrassing this was.  My friends saw me get in trouble, and were laughing their ass off. Apparently I stole that sushi in the most obvious way and attracted way too much attention. \n\nSomeone threw out my sushi before I could even eat it too.", "summary": "Stole some sushi from my school, got caught and embarrassed in front of my friends and my old crush. Crime doesn't pay."}
{"id": "t3_1gbbut", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Quitting a job when you are kind of scared of your boss...?", "post": "I'm working at some shitty country restaurant as the only employee. I've had some difficulties with the boss, things like how she said she was going to raise my wage two months ago and then I suddenly didn't have work for a month and she forgot to raise my wage, and there's simply the fact that she's the only person I have to work with and I hate her.\n\nBasically, I've been wanting to quit for a while but was waiting to get another job. Now I have a treeplanting opportunity. (I know how awful the job is, I've already done it. But there are many reasons I want to do it still.) So I am going to quit soon. But I am actually terrified of her getting mad at me. I am almost certain she will berate me or something. Also, is the two weeks notice thing simply some courtesy? I didn't sign a contract or anything, and I only work weekends. I feel bad for leaving, because it will highly inconvenience her. It's hard to hire people for a job in the country.\n\n**(", "summary": "Never mind my special snowflake details.) How do you quit when you are scared of your boss berating you for it?"}
{"id": "t3_1fyasb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24m) tell her (24f) that I need my alone time?", "post": "I have been seeing this girl for 2 months now. She is the first girl I've seriously dated in over 4 years and she's absolutely great. She works in the same building as I do (different company), so I see her directly after work and she spends the night about 4-5 nights out of the week. It was great for a while, but I kind of need some personal time.\n\nI'm not trying to be a jerk, its just that when she spends so much time with me, I don't have time to go work out, clean my apartment, or do random things with friends. I'm not used to another person sleeping in the same bed as me so I don't sleep well when she's there. How do I tell her that I need my personal time?", "summary": "I'm so used to being single, how do I tell her that I need my personal time?"}
{"id": "t3_4jjib2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] want my GF [26 F] of 8 months to get in better shape.", "post": "Throwaway, but I am dating a girl whom I truly love. However, I lead a reasonably active lifestyle and make sacrifices with my diet to stay in shape.\n\nMy girlfriend does not. And I am noticing that I am becoming less enamored with her physical appearance - although, in her defense, she looked this way when we first met, and she never gave me the inclination she was into working out or healthy eating. \n\nThe last thing I want to do is hurt her, and I would never expect her to take up a completely different lifestyle than she is used to, but I would like to nudge her in that direction. First, am I an asshole to feel this way. Second, what, if anything, can I do to help?", "summary": "I fear my girlfriend's physical appearance and lack of exercise will continue to drive a wedge in our relationship. Am I an asshole for wanting her to look better? If not, how can I be a good boyfriend and resolve the issue?"}
{"id": "t3_42df5e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hurting my mom's feelings.", "post": "This all happened accidentally, about 10 minutes ago after we finished dinner. My dad had asked how long I was up for last night. I said about 2:30am because my mom and I were downstairs. Myself on my pc and her watching tv. He made the joke \"a little mother-son bonding time, huh?\"\n\nNow here is where the FU happens. I don't like the idea, even jokingly, of having bonding time with them. It has and will never be a thing in our family. My dad just believes in \"tough love.\" Well, apparently, my feelings of disgust and awkwardness at the implication could be seen on my face. They looked at me angrily, asking why I looked that way. My mom got pissed, walked away and shook her head.\n\nIn my defense, my dad makes a lot of dirty jokes, including *that.* So it wasn't clear if this was an extremely dirty joke or not. Second, my mom has always screamed and yelled at me all my childhood, telling me I was a worthless retard, etc. She still does from time to time. (I'm around her less now) She flies off the handle **REALLY** easily, too. Who wants to be around someone like that?!", "summary": "Visually showed my disgust at the idea of having bonding time with my mother. Even given our negative relationship, still not sure if I should feel like an asshole or not."}
{"id": "t3_1dhdau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I'm forcing this 2 month old relationship. Is it too late?", "post": "I am a 25 year old man who has been seeing a 24 year old woman exclusively for almost 2 months.\n\nNow that I'm 2 months in, I guess I feel like I should be having stronger feelings toward her; feelings of beginning to fall in love, feelings of wanting to see a future with her in it. I don't feel these things, yet I don't want to break up.\n\nFor what it's worth, I feel like we moved way too fast. Living only a block away, it wasn't long before we were sleeping in eachothers' beds every night and calling the other \"boyfriend\", \"girlfriend\", respectively. It was a huge adjustment for me as a person who is used to being single. I was having fun and not thinking too hard about it, but for the last day there has been a pit in my stomach, mostly because I feel like she might be thinking about this long-term (although, she hasn't explicitly said anything about it), whereas I am not ready to think about such things and don't see our relationship in that context. I might be freaking myself out with my own narratives in my head about what she is thinking.\n\nI don't want to end it, but I want to redefine it as \"casual\", as I feel like any relationship should be after only two months. However, I'm worried that backtracking will just lead to the demise of the relationship. To me, casual, I mean 3 nights/week hanging out and that's all; enough for our own lives and interests. Committed to eachother, but investment (time/feelings) would lower. As it is, I'm having a hard time matching my feelings to the amount of time we spend, and I feel like I'm forcing it. I wish we took it much slower in the beginning.\n\nSo, how do I even begin to bring this up, that I am not thinking of long-term with her? How do I say it? Last bit: she's leaving for Europe for one month on Sunday. I'm not sure when to have this talk.", "summary": "Feeling a pit in my stomach and feeling like I'm forcing things after two months.  Don't want to end it, but don't want to break up.  Would like to slow down and see if that helps; wondering what to say and when, as she leaves for Europe on Sunday."}
{"id": "t3_4pz5qi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40F] with my BF [33M] 8 YRS, Dont know what to do part ways or not", "post": "first off I think he has been talking to some chick for over 3 months. There is a call history between the 2 of them in my online phone account for 3 months back that I am able to see. Both of them keep lying and changing stories about why they've been calling each other.... \nthey both say nothing has happened. I don't know if I believe that\n\nI love my bf with every ounce of my heart and soul and I want to die by his side. \n\nBut I dont know that he loves me anymore. I get up for work ( i work from home) I come out of the bedroom and make coffee. When I sit down in the livingroom to work he goes in the 2nd bedroom in our apt where all his computer stuff is, he sits there for the day and me in the living room. We barely talk. He stays up late or all night most nights working on computers. I sleep alone. \n\nI know this should be a no brainer, but sometimes when I think that it's just at the end of the road and we are just dead.. \nhe will do something little to let me know that he still cares. Or say something small that reminds me of how things used to be. \n\nI don't know if I should just cut him lose and call it a loss \nor if I should find a way to bring the love back. \nand how I can trust him after finding this call log\n\nI should also mention that i dont have any friends where I live and the thought of sitting in this apt all day and all night day after day alone after being with him 8 years is terrifyiing\nI dont know what to do", "summary": "I dont know if i should let my bf leave or keep him around"}
{"id": "t3_36wnf1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Banking Advice", "post": "Hey there, PF!  \n\nBacground:  \nI'm a 20 year old college student who has been banking with Bank of America for the last 5 years with an eBanking checking account (little to no fees as long as everything is done online) and a regular Savings account. I also have their BankAmericard Cash Rewards Platinum Plus Visa credit card.  \n\nRecently, they've been getting rid of their eBanking checking accounts and converting them to Core checking accounts (many fees if you don't maintain a balance of ~$2,500). I am leaning towards closing my checking account with them and possibly moving to a credit union or Charles Schwab? I've heard good things on this sub for both options.\n\nMain Questions:  \n1. Can I keep my savings account and credit card with BoA and just close my checking?  \n2. What are the pros/cons of credit unions and Charles Schwab?", "summary": "I want to close my BoA checking account, but keep my savings and credit card with them. Is this possible? And, which is better: a credit union or Charles Schwab?"}
{"id": "t3_4dyu11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] not sure if I should pursue a [24F]", "post": "So I'm 24 and I'm talking to a woman who seems cool, we get on and share a lot in common. \nHowever she talks about how she gets bored in relationships easily and having her head turned also quite easily. \nNot cheating per se but lusts after other people I'm assuming. \nSo she seems cool, but these traits aren't exactly attractive and I feel like it's going to just lead to a world of pain if I try to go forward with this woman. \n\nI have two questions, one is to people who do/did get bored of relationships easily, how did you overcome that if you even managed to?\n\nThe other question is to people who have dealt with someone with these issues before. How did you deal with them, did you manage to overcome them and have a succesful relationship? or should I not even bother? \n\nThanks.", "summary": "Talking to a woman I like, she seems cool but admits to getting bored in relationships quickly and having her head turned. "}
{"id": "t3_36wm7m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Caste keeping Boyfriend(21M) and I (20F) apart...what should I do?", "post": "Hey guys...I posted this in R/India but didn't get much feedback...I need some advice from anyone who understand the tradition of the caste system and understand how important it is to traditional Indian parents. My boyfriend and I are punjabi, and my parents are strong believers of the caste system. His parents are a little more lenient. We have been together for 5 years and I don't see myself spending my life with anyone else. \nThe only problem is, and this is a HUGE issue, his family is one of the lowest caste in India (Chamaar/untouchables) while my caste is one of the higher castes. For my parents, marrying a Chamaar is out of the question.....even being friends with them. So I need to find an alternative way to make this work. And as many of you know, marriages don't happen without your parents. I am also not willing to elope with him because this will destroy my parents and family. The only crazy idea I could come up with is telling my parents he is an orphan and has no family; leaving his family out of the equation....but there are many holes to this idea because how long could we possibly hide this. I dont know if I am wasting our time and if I should break it off with him....I would hate to do that. But I need help....Any crazy suggestions can help!!", "summary": "My boyfriend and I want to get married but are from completely different caste systems. How can I deceive my parents into this? Should I break up with him? My boyfriend and parents are equally important to me."}
{"id": "t3_yaymm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me recover $2000 of my stolen property! My mannequin with a tuxedo and a gold watch was taken from my apartment around a year ago. Today a friend told me he went to a party and a guy admitted to him that he stole it but won't fess up now. Is there anything I can do? details inside", "post": "I have seen reddit help other people with stolen goods, I am looking for advice on what I can and can't do.\n\nI hosted a party last year and one of the kids (and his friend) drunkenly walked out with my mannequin that had a tuxedo, a watch, and a georgio armani tie on, in total he stole $2000 worth of goods. I am assuming they trashed it and kept the stolen items on it and I KNOW who did it. At the time I tried getting my university involved however the guys would not confess they did it. They also told me at the time \"If you call the cops we will tell them you were serving alcohol to minors\".\n\nToday the guy drunkenly told a friend of mine at another party that he stole the mannequin. I never filed a police report. My question is, can I still file a police report (happened last september)? Can the cops do anything if the guys won't admit it to them? Is there anything I can do to try and get my money back, can I sue them? Is it worth it?", "summary": "$2000 stolen from me last year, never filed a police report, culprits fessed up to another friend of mine, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2922fe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friends after dating?", "post": "I dated this girl with whom I had a very strong connection or about a month. During this time we hung out, exchanged witty banter, and had an all around good time. As things progressed though I realized that she wasn't the kind of person I wanted to be in an intimate relationship with. So I told her how I felt and we split up.\n\n I gave her space and waited a few weeks to exchange a few brief messages with her. Nothing really groundbreaking though\n\n I realize that it's painful separating from somebody you have a strong connection with and I want to give her space, indefinitely if thats how she want it. But I also really don't want to lose my connection with this person.", "summary": "Broke up with her but still want to be her friend"}
{"id": "t3_24zqqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you keep your marriage together when the other half of it wants to give up? Me [27F] with my husband [28M]", "post": "I've always been told that a marriage can withstand things you can't even imagine, as long as you both don't give up at the same time.  I'm trying so incredibly hard to not give up, but I don't know what else to do.  My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for almost 6.  We have two beautiful children together, and he really is my best friend.  We are so compatible with each other, and are completely content just being around each other.  We've had our ups and downs, like all marriages, but I recently found out that the downs in his eyes are starting to outweigh the ups.  I suffer from depression, and have our entire relationship.  I think he feels partly responsible because his love for me isn't able to bring me out of it.  He has been around depression his whole life, and doesn't want to enter the second half of his life feeling miserable.  I honestly can't blame him.  I know that it's hard to share your life with someone who hates herself as much as I do.  He said that we've tried everything to make things better... and that maybe separating will be the key to saving our marriage.  When I'm thinking rationally, I'm able to process the idea of a trial separation, knowing that we'll always end up back together.  The love is there... I think that's what makes this so hard.  I come from a family that believes in staying together no matter what, and he comes from a family that believes the total opposite.\n\nI'm just lost.  I don't know if I should keep fighting it, and try to show him that this is a bad idea, or if I should give up and let him go.  I'm trying to find the strength, but I'm going through an especially bad period right now emotionally so it's been tough.  I feel kind of embarrassed posting this here... I'm just hoping to find some motivation and strength from someone who has been in a similar situation.", "summary": "Husband wants to do a \"trial\" separation after 6 years of marriage... don't know if I should give in or keep fighting."}
{"id": "t3_1h2pzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/25] think I just missed a chance with her [F/19]", "post": "I'll keep it short. We just went to see Man of Steel together (good movie). Night before, we were hanging out at a beach until late at night. We text each other quite a bit. I think she's into me, and I'm totally into her.\n\nAfter the movie (4p - 7p ish), my guy feeling was to ask her to dinner. Like not serious, you know. We just happen to be eating at the same table at the same time. No pressure. But then I thought too much about it, and left her (hanging, I think) to go \"have some falafel.\" I didn't have falafel. What the fuck am I doing? I'm sitting at home, fretting over this.\n\nShould I tell her how I think I screwed up? Or should I play it off gently? I know that she's not willing to jump into something right away, but I feel like it's a mutual thing that has a lot of potential. How do I fix it so she knows I'm definitely interested without giving her an ultimatum or anything like that?", "summary": "We really get along (at least, it seems that way). Just watched a movie together, and I totally flubbed it and *didn't even try* to ask her out for dinner. My gut said try, brain flipped out and made a lame exit. How do I fix the lame exit and leave her with the right impression?"}
{"id": "t3_h9oge", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the darnedest thing you said as a kid?", "post": "I remember when the whole Lewinsky Clinton thing was going down and I heard the term oral sex get mentioned in the news. I thought oral sex must have been a newsy way of saying kissing so I went to verify this with my mum. \n\nI went up my mum and innocently began to ask \" Mum, is oral sex just kissing?\" I suppose her being so startled, she cut me off before I could get the ' kissing ' out and so I went away feeling that yes, oral sex was just a newsy way of saying kissing and she must have went away feeling a little rattled by the conversation.\n\nA little later that day when dad came home form work and he greeted mum with the usual kiss I approached both of them with my make believe voice recorder and asked in my best attempt at a journalist voice \" Mrs Whipnil, Do you admit to having oral sex with Mr Whipnil?\" to which they both just spluttered and tried to act angry at me while looking extremely embarrassed. By the look on their faces I suddenly realised what it actually referred to and then splutteringly tried to explain what I'd actually meant to ask.", "summary": "asked mum if she'd given dad a blow job"}
{"id": "t3_2eglh4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being drunk in a small town", "post": "Okey.. So.. This is my first tifu-post (please be gentle..) English is not my first language, so once again, be gentle. This tifu happened about 5 years ago. I had been working as a maniac on some tough shifts (I am a registered nurse) and all of a sudden I got a text about a birthday party. Sure! I needed to blow off some steam, so I went home, ran through the shower and brought my beloved whisky with me. This is where the tifu starts. I had not been eating all day at work. Aaaand kind of forgot to eat when I was at home too. \nSo I go to the party, enjoy my time. And after 1 glass, everything was black. \"Great time! Don't remember shit!\"\nI wake up, in my grandmother's house, in my coat, not remembering anything. I go downstairs, and I see my shoes in the hallway. Covered in puke. Yum yum\u2026 I call my friend who had been at that party, I was by that time raging because I couldn't figure who the hell had puked in my shoes. After hysterical laughs, she starts to talk. Apparently I was sitting in the backyard, sitting in a plastic boat, singing \"In the navy!\" waving with a cigar and my trusted (by then half-empty bottle) of whisky. I managed to deflate the damn boat by stabbing it with my cigar and then fun was over. So I staggered to the fence, over to one of the neighbours and screamed for the moose, God and Satan. Yes, I was puking my guts out, in the neighbours' backyard. I realized later that THAT neighbour is my grandmothers' friend. A 95 year old lady. Who had called my grandmother, telling her I had been fertilizing her flowers. Because OFCOURSE she woke up, when someone was puking outside her house.\nI still hide when I see that old lady in the streets. Yes, the god damn woman is nearly 100 years old now, and STILL remembers the one who puked her guts out in the old lady's backyard.", "summary": "Drunk. Do not remember shit,I apparently puked in an old lady's backyard. Hurray for living in a small town where everyone knows my grandmother\u2026."}
{"id": "t3_2t4m8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18 F] and I [18 M] have been dating for 5 months. An inevitable breakup is coming at the start of summer. Best way to handle this?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm sure this question has been asked before but it's tough to find such specific things so I'd figure I'd put up my own question.\n\nSo my girlfriend and I are seniors in highschool, we've been dating since the start of the year. We've both fallen completely for each other and are making the most of our last year in high school. \n\nSo like any senior year relationship, it's bound to end. Although a little earlier than most. She just got asked back to a summer camp that she'll be working at 6 days a week 24 hours a day. So there's no way our relationship can continue once summer comes. We've both subtly acknowledged that we're going to have to breakup. \n\nI'm wondering how do I handle this. Like do I do it slowly so it's not a crushing blow going into summer, like ease into it? Or do we just make the most of it while we can. \n\nI know I'm 18 so I wasn't looking for a relationship that would last forever in the first place. But still, as I'm sure most of you know, when you're 18 it's hard to take a breath and view your situation in its proper context. Any advice?", "summary": "Have to breakup with girlfriend at the start of summer, what's the best way to go about it?"}
{"id": "t3_53gkzg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17F] of 6 months, not sure if I'm overreacting about her posting suggestive photos", "post": "My girlfriend made it clear to me in the beginning of our relationship that she's very comfortable with her body, whereas I'm very insecure about my own.  She does amateur modeling on the side and often shows me the photographers which more often than not photograph their models in very suggestive positions and clothing. She's been posting suggestive photos of herself on social media recently, and I usually get over the jealousy of these quite quickly. \n\nWhat drove me to make this post is that she posted a snapchat story of her showing her ass off in the mirror, and when I saw it I got upset and I quite literally felt my head and ears get hot. I know she has some guy friends I've been previously wary about on snapchat so that adds to it. She regularly posts selfies and stuff or maybe something about her stomach in the mirror about how she looks slimmer today, but I felt like this photo was completely extra.\n\nI think about what goes through a horny guys head and how easy it is to save a photo like that and use it for later. I'm already insecure about how she does all this modeling on the side, but she wont even let me take an phone photo of her. In addition to that, the snapchat makes me feel like I'm not enough and that she needs validation from other people.  I'm definitely going to talk to her now that this is becoming a bigger issue, but I'm at a loss of how I should really feel about everything and what course of action I should take.", "summary": "I feel like my girlfriend just does things without regard for how I feel and I'm not too happy about it."}
{"id": "t3_2y43ig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] got a girls [19 F] number last night, but it's the first time I've done this and am unsure how to proceed", "post": "I have no idea how to text a girl I'm interested in.\n\nThis is the first time I've asked a girl for her number. Thankfully she said yes and gave it to me! The thing is, I don't really know how I should text her. All my past relationships had started off as friendships, and we sort of \"fell together\" so I didn't really have to try too hard to woo the girl or whatever.\n\nBasically, me and a couple friends were in town hitting up bars/clubs, we went down a quieter street after a couple hours to just have a chat away from the music since I hadn't hung out with them in about 4 months, so we just wanted to catch up a bit before going back to the bars. We saw a girl on her own sitting down, and left her be, but after about 15 minutes when she was still alone down this quiet street that is kinda dimly lit (malfunctioning street light).\n\nConcerned for her safety, because she was dressed up for a night out, and she's all alone, we go over and talk to her and ask if she's okay. My friend, his gf, and I invite her to join us for the rest of the night, and she does. Some drinks, cigarettes, and dancing later, I ask my friend under the safety of loud club music if he thinks I have a shot at getting her number. I mean this girl did see me throw up... twice... but my friend encourages me to go for it, and passes the message to his gf who also says go for it. So after we go outside where it's quieter, I asked the girl for her number, and she gave it to me. I'm unsure how to proceed. She got me to send her a message so she knows she didn't drunkenly put in a wrong digit, and I saw it go through to her phone, so I'm not the slightest bit worried about being given a fake number. But yeah, I need some advice on how to proceed", "summary": "Got a girls number, don't really know how to text her."}
{"id": "t3_11qxx6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! Live-in BF (M33) \"kind of\" broke up with me (F25) but we still live together. I'm finally getting my depression in order and I need another chance.", "post": "We've been together for 2 years-living together for the last 1. \nI've known for awhile that I have my share of emotional issues. I get so mad for no reason and cry uncontrollably. I've totally destroyed our relationship. Sometimes it's wonderful, other times we fight like crazy--all stemming from my uncontrollable emotions. \nAnyway, last weekend he said he was done. He can't take the fights anymore. Although he didn't move out, we haven't been doing anything together or talking much. \nSo I am devastated. This man is the love of my life and I know I can fix things once I get my mental issues in order. I was prescribed Zoloft about 3 months ago, but I never took it. I know am starting to take it regularly and today is my first appt with a therapist. \nReddit, I love my bf with my whole heart, and I only wish him happiness, but I am 100% convinced I can be the happy confident girl he original fell in love with. How can I convince him to let me do what I have to do to fix myself? Give him time? It's just so hard not knowing what is going to happen and all these mixed signals.", "summary": "live in bf of 2 years broke up with me, but now I'm finally getting treatment for my depression. Short of giving him time, what is the best way to convince him I'm getting better (through meds and therapy)?"}
{"id": "t3_qr7sg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you don't jerk off with us and prove you can cum, you aren't a man. What is the most hurtful thing your friends have done to you?", "post": "I was in the 7th grade at the time and on new years eve I was invited to a friends party. So I went over to their house to chill with a group of people. Eventually near the end people left and it was just two of my friends and myself left.\n\nWe were in my friends computer room when one of them suggested that we jerk off together from watching porn on his computer. They basically came to a concession to jerk off together and needless to say I was not cool with it, it was extremely awkward. \n\nThey were trying to get me to jerk off with them and my refusal was seen as me not proving my manhood to them. I straight up told them that it was fucked up and I refused to do that while they were around. They then gave me an alternative and told me to jerk it in the bathroom onto tissue and show it to them. I said I wouldn't do that either.\n\nNeedless to say they started doing the 'deed' while I was sitting in front of them. I was disgusted and when one of my friends finished, he threw his jizz rag at me. I got up and just left in disgust.\n\nThe next day at school, they told some people that I refused to jerk off with them or at least jerk off in private to prove my manhood. I felt a great deal of shame (I was a late bloomer) and was hurt by my friends. \n\nSo Reddit, I ask you.. What is the most hurtful thing your friends have done to you?", "summary": "Friends wanted me to circlejerk with them, I refused and they gave me shit for it and told other people at school that I wouldn't prove my manhood."}
{"id": "t3_1sulkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am an I [M24] in the right to be feeling neglected from my ex[F22]?", "post": "First off, I know, she's an ex but a little background.. We were together for almost 8 years. She broke up with me about 9 months ago because I guess she just saw that I wasn't what she wanted but we never really stopped talking and our conversations/mood hasn't changed (still say 'i love you' etc.). As of a week ago we decide that we're going to try to get back to where we were. We're not considered bf and gf but are trying to reach that and I'm trying to give her as much space as I can. She hated how clingy I am/was. But because of this, I constantly feel like I'm walking on egg shells with her..\n\n---\n\nSo onto the topic, she's at a friends house right and is apparently going to be there til midnight or later which i'm not too fond off but she said she'd text me and she let me know she was there, then there's been no contact since, even after i texted her a couple more times. I can tell I'm definitely not a priority of hers and she doesn't see me as I see her, but am I right to be feeling like this (ignored) or do you think I'm in the wrong?\n\n---\n\nI love this girl to death, she'd always come #1 in my life with anything, so even if I'm at work or doing anything to keep busy, she'll always be on my mind. Sometimes I check my phone just to make sure I didn't miss a text from her when I *know* she hasn't said anything. So im looking for someones opinion on this..", "summary": "8 yr relationship ended, always stayed in contact and want to work on getting back to being together but feel neglected by her"}
{"id": "t3_43rgk1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[24M] Been seeing this girl [24F], not sure what to do next", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for almost two months now. We see each other 3-4 times a week, we've slept over at each other's houses (we have had sex), we've met each other's parents, she's met some of my close friends and she's told her friends about me (though I haven't met them yet). When we're together she's very affectionate; she'll randomly hug and kiss me, kiss my hand when we're holding hands in the car, etc. \n\nAbout three weeks ago, or a month after our first date, I asked her if she'd like to make things official (because I've read that typically this happens after 7-9 dates, or a month). Her words were something along the lines of \"Not that I don't want to, but I think we should give it more time.\" That was totally fine in my opinion, because we're both recently out of long-term relationships; 3 years for me, 5 years for her. \n\nRecently, the topic came up again and she mentioned that she still wants to meet new people, and she hasn't excluded the option of dating other people; although she isn't at the moment. I personally have no interest in seeing anyone else, and I'm not comfortable with the idea of her dating other people. I don't want to devote more of myself to somebody if I'm not going to get that back. What should I do? I don't want to be in this kind of limbo state, but I also don't want to be the guy who forces the issue and present her with an ultimatum.", "summary": "Girl still wants to meet and perhaps date other people. I'm worried I'm just a placeholder."}
{"id": "t3_4zgtjw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Slightly passive aggressive follow-up from recruiter.", "post": "This isn't of much importance as I have multiple interviews lined up at other companies, but would this email rub anyone else the wrong way?\n\nI've applied to hundreds of places and very few even have the common courtesy to return an email. I sent an application a few weeks ago and got a response to complete a pre-employment survey prior to getting an interview from this company. With the slew of other applications and interviews I've been having, I didn't respond and kind of forgot about it.\n\nNow about a week later I got a follow up email (riddled with spelling mistakes, mind you.) asking me to \"respond to the information that has been requested of you\" or send them an email if I want to withdraw. Just kind of rubbed me the wrong way and I'd be willing to bet this company doesn't even send emails to rejected interviewees. I don't think I'll be responding on principle.", "summary": "It's amusing how companies blow off people searching for jobs so easily and then get offended when you are busy or do it to them."}
{"id": "t3_3yubsl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my foreign colleages [20 - 35 M/F] 6 months, They (tech lead included) only speak Hindi at lunch (software dev office in U.S.) and I'm finding it hard to keep a pleasant demeanor and find it incredibly rude. I'm the only American ;", "post": "I've been on this dev team for 6 months, and everyone is pleasant in general except for one thing. We all sit together at lunch (around 11 Indian people M-F) and myself. This is a company located in the U.S. After the first few weeks, I notice they will only speak Hindi at lunch , but ask where I am, or what is wrong if I excuse myself. (Most of us are contractors) I know that another contractor had left (been fired? unsure) due to (\"cultural differences\") so I'm not sure if speaking up would help or hurt. I find my lunch (only time away from the computer ) to be very unpleasant and find it common courtesy to speak the host countries language or the language everyone speaks. It's just not fun and I end up messing around on my phone, and today nearly stormed out. (Later covered it with an excuse to keep professional appearances).  I have tried asking questions in English and even telling one that I am closer to about the issue, and he agrees. However, they all end up reverting  back after a few minutes of explaining to me in English what they are saying. \n\nI'm not sure how to handle this, and am considering moving my schedule back an hour and eating at my desk. Anyone experience this and what is the best way to deal?", "summary": "I am getting tired of maintaining a happy face at lunch when my colleages all speak a language I am not fluent in.  "}
{"id": "t3_4ohma4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My Teacher Guilt Tripped Me", "post": "On Tuesday I was called into the Principal's office to talk to her about some issues I had in school. I decided that because I am graduating I would file a complaint about an awful teacher who refused to teach our class this year. The entire year this teacher would sit at his desk and make us do Chapter Work that he wouldn't grade and would make us do a portfolio which he glanced at once and gave you a grade based on how much he liked you (as hard as it to believe, trust me on this I am not lying).\n\nI told her everything he did (how he didn't teach, how I felt unprepared for college because his class didn't help me learn, and how my friend was upset because her parents paid $180 to attend the class because she was from a private school and had to pay for transportation to a class where she didn't learn anything). The only reason I told the Principal was because I didn't want students next year to be stuck in the same boat as me and my friend.\n\nDespite telling the principal not to use names, I assume the teacher figured out it was me because he knew I was in her office to talk about school. During graduation practice we were handed a card from a teacher to simulate a diploma. When I opened the card, I saw that it was written from the teacher who I complained about. Inside the card was a $100 bill. I feel awful now and when I saw him at graduation he acted superficial and tried to ignore me. I managed to approach him and I said \"Mr. Teacher the 100 dollars...\" He looked at me and said \"it's for your family and make sure to tell everyone in college how you like it in [TOWN NAME] and be sure to visit.\" Then I said, \"But the money...\" and he replied with \"It's for your family.\"\n\nI haven't felt this awful before in my life. I'm up right now typing this because I can't sleep. What he wrote and what he really means is driving me crazy. My family told me to spend the money but I don't know if I can. The money feels dirty...", "summary": "I filed a complaint about a bad teacher to make sure students will gain an education from him next year but he found out and wrote me a goodbye card with $100 in it."}
{"id": "t3_4t196b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34/F] with my BF [36/M] 2 years, hesitant about \"officially\" moving in", "post": "My BF's mother passed away this past spring and was found to be sick over the previous holiday season. During this time I came to stay at my boyfriend's home more and more until it became everyday. For the past 6 months I have spent perhaps two/three nights at my apartment. It has become the expected behavior for me to be there every night and only go to my place to check the mail and drop my dog off during the day. So basically I live at his place but am continuing to pay rent every month for a place to keep my dog during the day. \n\nHe has stated that he wants the decision for me to move in \"officially\" to be a choice that feels right and not one motivated by financial reasons. However, the financial reasons are real and they are not going away. \n\nHow can I tell if he is simply doesn't want to make that transition for legit reasons or if he just doesn't want to take that step with me?", "summary": "BF of two years doesn't want me to move in till it \"feels right\" but I basically live already"}
{"id": "t3_1j1kif", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] What should I expect at a recruitment evening?", "post": "Hey reddit, I've been 'personally invited' to a recruitment evening for a company after I applied for a job there a few weeks back. I've never been to a recruitment evening before, and to be honest, hadn't really heard of one. \n\nI'm currently in a dead-end job, and the company I've applied for can really be a game changer for me in terms of career direction and progression so I'm really looking to make the best impression I can. As such I was wondering if anyone can give me some insight into what I should expect and possibly any tips that may have helped you in the past, or even if you host these, what you look for when recruiting. I would really appreciate your help.", "summary": "Never been to a recruitment evening - Hit me with your insight and tips to make the whole thing go that little bit better! "}
{"id": "t3_49gdpb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my wife [28F] of four years, she is mad at me because I told her I thought our baby daughter looks goofy.", "post": "I'm looking for some advice on how I can get her to realize that I love our daughter and didn't mean anything by my comment. \n\nMy mom came over after we brought our daughter home from the hospital a few weeks ago and was taking pictures of me holding my daughter. She made some remark about how pretty she was, and I made an innocent joke about her looking goofy (like a walrus). My wife was in the room at the time, and she came over to me and asked me what I meant. I told her that it's not that I think she is ugly or anything like that. I just think she, like most babies, looks weird. She got really upset and took our daughter from me and left the room. \n\nIt's now been two weeks since the incident, and my wife still is angry with me. She has made quite a few passive-aggressive remarks about what I said. There have also been quite a few tears shed. She says that she feels like I blame her for the way our daughter looks, which is absolutely crazy. She has also suggested that I don't love our daughter, which is also ridiculous. I have tried apologizing every way I know how. I just don't get why she's upset. I know her hormones are out of balance right now and she's a little crazy, but she acts like I said I hate our daughter. I very much love her, and I have told her that over and over again. My actions also should tell her I love our daughter. \n\nI'm not sure what she wants me to do or if there is anything else I can do, but I want her to see that I love our daughter, even if I do think she looks goofy.", "summary": "Told my wife that our newborn daughter looks goofy. She thinks I don't love our daughter and blame her for the way our daughter looks. How can I get her to understand that I didn't mean anything by my comment?"}
{"id": "t3_2us6w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am not sure if I'm in love [22M] or just immature?", "post": "So I'm a 21 y/o girl with zero experience. None. Ever.\n\nI have a best friend who had a relationship that ended a few days ago. I noticed I felt jealous towards his gf. I kept thinking about what it'd be like if that girl was me and had daydeams about us being together. I mostly didn't like his girlfriend even though she seemed nice. I figured I had discovered I had feelings for him.\n\nI told a (girl)friend who just said it's logical for me to be like that, because I feel like someone was \"taking my best friend away from me\" and it doesn't mean anything other than that.\n\nAfter that I got really confused because now I'm not sure anymore.\n\nI have never been in 'love' or had feelings for someone so I don't know what it feels like. Do I have feelings for him or is my friend right and is this just me being immature because someone is \"stealing\" away my friend???", "summary": "Jealous of his gf - Does that mean I have feelings for him?"}
{"id": "t3_2uihvc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping someone in need", "post": "Well technically two days ago.  I was at the supermarket doing my shopping, when a very distressed guy came up to me and asked for help.  The ATM has just swallowed his bank card, his phone's battery is dead and he needs to drive back to his dad's farm, which is pretty much on the other side of the country.  I'm super skeptical and try to get rid of him by giving him some cash.  He responds by saying that it won't help and will obviously need much more, but asking a hundred people who are all skeptical will be too much.  \n\nSo he writes down a bunch of details and promises to pay me back electronically on Monday (today) and asks if I can just please for once take a leap of faith and believe him.  He is not trying to beg, but simply needs the help of another person.   I can phone him later when his phone works again to sort out the payback details.  \n\nI have a morbid fear of this happening to me, so I decide to withdraw the amount he asked for (which is not small), but I have nothing left of my salary since it has all been used up on payments.  I therefore use my credit card (which is already in dismay) to help this guy.  He thanks me for trusting him and for the help, even though I don't have the money, and that he will not let my good will down.  Afterwards I realize all the small details of the incident and that it was probably a scam, but decide to give him the benefit of the doubt.  I mean, lets hope for once, only fucking once, that for a change someone could be fucking honest.\n\nSo I phone him today repeatedly, no answer. I look up his Identification Number on the web, same name, completely different person.  The farm does not exist.", "summary": "Today I fucked up by letting a conman take advantage of my goodwill and fucked myself even further in the process."}
{"id": "t3_2uryyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need a guy's perspective on mixed signals that I(21F) got from a guy(22M) that I went out with on Saturday.", "post": "There's this guy(22) that I(21) work with that I've had a crush on for about 3 months. On Thursday he finally asked for my number and asked if I wanted to get drinks with him Saturday night. He picked me up and we went out and I had a lot of fun and I think he did too. There was no awkward pauses and we both are funny and I just had a great time. \n\nWhen he dropped me off, he asked me if I wanted to smoke some weed with him that he had. I said ok and invited him up to my apartment. We were smoking in my bed and after a while I started rubbing his leg and trying to cuddle. He didn't respond at all and not long after he said he wanted to leave because he felt uncomfortable because he \"hasn't smoked in my room before.\" I was kind of pissed and hurt. The original thread about that is [here.](\n\nI texted him a little after he left saying that I thought it was a date when it clearly wasn't and I didn't mean to make him uncomfortable. He responded \"Sorry I messed up. I want to hang out with you again.\" And I was kind of drunk/high and I was like \"I mean I was lying in bed with you and you didn't try to kiss me or anything. But I had fun before that and I'd want to hang out with you again too.\" and he responded \"Yeah, I'm a dumbass lol. I'll see ya tomorrow. :)\" What the fuck?\n\nWhen a guy asks for my number, asks me to get drinks alone, pays the tab and invites himself over to my apartment, I assume that he's attracted to me. I feel like I did something really wrong. We were watching a movie when he flipped out. I wasn't trying to fuck him or anything, I just wanted to cuddle and kiss. \n\nI saw him at work yesterday and we talked a little but he hasn't texted me. I don't know where to go from here. Or to do anything at all? I have no idea if he's interested.", "summary": "I went on what I thought was a date with a guy and he flipped out after we smoked in my bed."}
{"id": "t3_1azqx6", "subreddit": "college", "title": "How to keep the house clean with many roommates?", "post": "Hi, I'm looking for advice on a good system to keep my college house clean. \n\nI live in a party house with 4 other roommates that I adore 99% of the time. We all have SOs and and a variety of friends that are always circulating the house. It's a fun time, and I love everyone, but the mess is unbearable. \n\nWith so many people living here and pseudo-living here, it's difficult to see who made what mess, and hard to keep anyone accountable. Most guests that come over to make a meal or have a beer rarely clean up after themselves.\n\nI have one roommates that is very lazy with his dishes, two that are okay but don't clean up after other people and sometimes leave their dishes out, and myself and another that frequently will do all of the dishes or clean all of the mess. \n\nIt's hard finding time to clean with the busy-ness of college and work. The house is disgusting when there are midterms and finals. \n\nNo one seems to care a lot about the cleanliness because sometimes it just seems so bad that it can't ever be fixed. It's slowly driving me nuts and making me want to move out. I'm not absurdly clean, but trash and dirty dishes everywhere are just bad.", "summary": "Party house, love the roommates, hate the mess, need a system for making cleaning more regular or just existing in general."}
{"id": "t3_2z96zv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to \"break up\" with LD lover because I met someone local? Lover has flights booked to visit in a few weeks!", "post": "Me F, 33, Him M, 33 - in a LD 'non-relationship' for 8 months.\n\nI met a great guy who lives a 1.5hr flight away from me, and in another country.  We've seen each other only twice for long weekends, and used to text each other constantly since August 2014.  He booked flights to come see me in a few weeks, but since then I met someone local.  \n\nMe and LD lover are NOT in a relationship, although I wanted to be, he told me it was too much commitment for him.  \n\nI'm head over heels for the new guy in my life, although of course I still care for my lover, I know I need to end it.  How do I break this news out of left field to him that he's not coming to visit, and will likely be out of pocket for the flights??\n\nI can't help thinking how upset I'd be if it was the other way around..... help!", "summary": "How to \"break up\" with LD lover because I met someone local? Lover has flights booked to visit in a few weeks!"}
{"id": "t3_21wc4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Needing to know if I [22F] am in the wrong for being suspicious of my b/f [26M] of 2 years?", "post": "I don't really have anyone to talk to about this, so here it goes. I am having issues with my bf (we live together) of two years talking to his ex (they dated for 4 years). From what I gather, he is talking to her about her relationship issues with her SO, and he is talking to her about his relationship with me. \n\nI just find it difficult to see that as normal. They talk constantly, and while my bf says that they are now like brother and sister, it still puts me off. She lives in another state, so I dont have to worry too much, but the fact that he doesn't talk to me about our issues but talks to her kills me. And not to mention, that he deletes all conversations with her.\n\nI was using his phone the other day to look something up on the internet (wasn't snooping, my phone was in the other room) as soon as he saw i had his phone, he snatched it out of my hands. I hadn't looked at his texts, but he acted as though there was something I shouldn't see. I am hurt to say the least, but it just doesn't seem right to me. I have tried to talk to him about the way it makes me feel but he just pushes it off and states \"have I ever given you a reason not to trust me\". \n\nWhat do I do in this situation? Am I making this out to be more than it is? Or do I have something to worry about? If so, how do I approach the subject without accusations?", "summary": "Bf of 2 years talking to his ex daily, and then deleting texts from just her afterwards. Do I have something to worry about?"}
{"id": "t3_19iato", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Computer Compadres of Reddit, I need your help.", "post": "I first noticed there was an issue after installing the RES on Firefox (probably a coinscidence). I was browsing Youtube and noticed those strange ads/banners. Since I'm not retarded, I knew they didn't belong there. At first, I tought it was some kind of virus/malware and ran a superficial Kasper baby scan... He didn't seem to give a flying fuck so I downloaded that Malwarebytes thing. I ran a full scan and he found some intruders and kicked them (lots of porn viewing on my part).\n\nMy computer then restarts, but those ads are STILL there. At that point, I tought it had something to do with the RES I just got so I decided to delete the whole Firefox in order to get a fresh version. Problem solved, Firefox seems fine and I stop thinking about it for a while.\n\nThen, Chrome came (Slow ass pretentious motherfucka).\n\nI rarelly use Chrome because it seems slower than Fifefox. Fuck me, right? The thing is... Those fucking ads are now on Chrome. I used Malwarebytes & Kaspersky to their full extent, but the problem is still there.\n\nI don't know what to do and it pisses me off. Knowing that someone is/are making money out of me is humiliating.\n\nSome visuals of how it looks like:\n[Imgur link... Completely safe for work.](", "summary": "Didn't care, too busy."}
{"id": "t3_331a7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my gf [16F] has been ignoring me [16M] and idk what to do now", "post": "things are going great between us. we've had a thing for almost a year but we've been officially dating for only 3 weeks. we've dated before but she wanted a break, that didn't go well for her because she said how she almost cried when she saw me and she missed me so much. after that we started talking again, and I fell in love. I know that I love this woman. I've never been so sure of it in my life. one day after school she didn't say goodbye to me (she usually gives me a goodbye kiss) and she just went straight home. I tried texting her but for a couple of days she wasn't answering. she read my messages but didn't say anything. I got really worried. \n\nwhen she finally answered me, she said she needed time to think about things (our relationship) but she said I shouldn't worry. I tried asking what it was but all she told me she didn't want to talk about it, she doesn't want to be reminded. apparently it doesn't matter, and I don't need to worry. I'm still worrying and I'm trying to get ahold of her to see her today. but I don't know what I should do", "summary": "gf ignored me and when she finally answered she told me to not worry about it"}
{"id": "t3_1p2y7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a tough place...", "post": "Background: My childhood was filled with verbal abuse and a mother who is bipolar along with a father who blackmailed me to keep quite just so she wouldn't ruin his business (aka bankrupt him)\n\nFast forward to college: I still live under these pretenses that if my mother doesn't get her way she will bankrupt him. I'm nearly 20 years old, moved back in with my parents bc of college expenses, and they are paying for tuition. Recently my mother has started to lose her mind and she is starting to revert to how she was when I was little. My dad wants me to stay at the college I'm at because my siblings went there and it is a prestigious school. \nMy problem is that I am constantly under fire-meaning bullying. I have the blackmail from both parents and then the mocking/calling at college then it starts all over again the next day. I am honestly sick of being treated like crap and I have no clue about how I should go about this..", "summary": "Living with abusive parents. They want me to keep living at home/go to the college of their dreams all i want to do is leave. How should I go about this?"}
{"id": "t3_52y7c3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "how would u budget as a college student?", "post": "(my first post) Im looking for some good budgeting tips while trying to be almost financially independent. \n\nThis past summer I got an on campus job that pays $10.25/hr. I've ended up putting aside $800 total from this summer that i've decided is untouchable (unless necessary). My goal is to make about $200-400/mo during the school year (get paid every other week). I don't spend too wildly ($100 groceries for every 2-3 weeks, cook most meals, eat out maybe 2-3 times/wk with friends, occasional entertainment expenses, shop online maybe $20-30/mo). \n\ncurrently: bank is empty ($7.25 lol), getting paid $100 on the first day of school, have a credit card shared with mom where she pays these bills but i try to keep it under $50-100/mo, no car, furnished housing, expected $150 club winter retreat, potential cruise with SO in December (either $150 or $700 depending on whatever i can afford), want to study abroad sometime during college\n\nTook $3500 subsidized loan last year to dorm. Fortunately, i'm not expecting any additional student debt (cuz finaid, family is not well off), but I have to pay off my student loan myself so i was thinking about putting the 800 toward my loan and maybe paying it off before i even graduate or if it would be smarter to save it (+ $1000/yr) as emergency funds for when i graduate (and worry about my relatively small loan then). What would you do, and how would u budget throughout the school year?", "summary": "how would u budget $400/mo as a college student? (food, entertainment, necessities and fun)"}
{"id": "t3_15f82e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [24f] acting spoiled about my [25m] boyfriend's Christmas present?", "post": "We've lived together for a few months (dated for about 8), this is our first Christmas together.\n\nHe saw all the packages I had ordered for him over the past month. I told him that I thought it was special and sweet to give presents to your loved ones on Christmas, and he knew all of the packages were gifts for him (I say this because he asked and I told him).\n\nHe told me he wasn't \"big on holidays\", but I didn't think much of it, especially since I watched him buy tons of thoughtful, expensive presents for his friends and family (he has much more money than me).\n\nI didn't buy him anything overly expensive, but I did buy him 7 or 8 thoughtful presents, that I started giving to him yesterday on Christmas Eve. A few presents in, I was in the other room and he hopped online and bought me a cheap online game. \n\nI'm not sure what to think. I've been watching him be showered in gifts all month from his friends and family, and spent Christmas Eve watching him exchange presents with his family, feeling like the odd one out. For me, there was just him this Christmas. I don't have any family, and I've had to move around the country a lot, so there's no one else that I'm close to. \n\nI feel really guilty for feeling upset about this. I guess I'm just wondering if I should talk to him about this, or more importantly what to say. Somehow I feel like it's my own fault, but I'm not sure what I did wrong.", "summary": "Received an almost-nothing gift from live-in boyfriend who was aware of a pile of gifts I got for him, not sure what to say."}
{"id": "t3_340equ", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Fiance [24 F] of 8.5 years 4 of them engaged, feel bad for thinking the way I do.", "post": "I have been thinking lately that I am fat (5'7\" at 190 pounds) and that I would like to get back in shape (around 150-160 pounds).\n\nHowever, I would also like my fiance to lose weight as well, seeing as she is 5'4\" and 220 pounds. I feel bad for thinking she needs to lose weight, but I don't want to be the one \"that can do better\" I feel that she should be the one \"that can do better\".\n\nWhile she is upset with her weight, she has no motivation at all to actually do anything about it, and has flat out said she won't. Now, I have never thought about breaking up with her before, but I am starting to not find her body appealing anymore. I know I shouldn't even think that, but its the truth.\n\nI guess I don't really know what to ask for advice on, but I thought I should turn here for advice. So, I guess I am willing to accept any and all advice given. Thanks in advance for any and all advice.", "summary": "I want to lose weight and think my fiance should too, because I'm starting to lose attraction. I feel bad for thinking this way and don't know where to turn to for advice."}
{"id": "t3_37akrv", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "GF becomes ticklish after orgasming, and unable to continue sex because so.", "post": "This is a kind of strange problem for me to have. Me [21m] and my girlfriend [20f] have been dating for about 3 or 4 moths now. We've been having lots of sex, of course, but there's a slight problem; I can almost always make her orgasm before I do. With many people, this wouldn't be a problem, because most girls can keep going after they orgasm once. However, my girlfriend becomes wayyyy too ticklish down there after finishing once, and can't go one (lest she go into a mad laughing fit).\n\nI'm trying to think of ways to combat this. I'd really like to be able to get her to orgasm a bunch of times, or at least be able to keep going until I *also* finish. But it can't happen. And most of the time sex will just end up with her laughing, and then having to give me a bj (which don't feel as great to me as most guys claim they are, but that's another story).\n\nDoes anybody have experience with this sort of thing? Is there anyway to get her to stop being so ticklish afterwards? I stumped trying to think of a solution.", "summary": "GF always too ticklish to continue after orgasming once, and so I am unable to finish"}
{"id": "t3_16g10p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I tell an \"ex-friend\" that I'm coming to town or just let him deal with the awkwardness of running into each other?", "post": "About a little less than a year ago, I had a falling out with a friend. He used to be under the misconception that I had done some terrible things... But then he discovered it was not me but another friend. He said in October he needed time to heal from that before beginning a friendship with me again... Since then, I've texted him to wish him happy holidays. Never got a response. I'm assuming the ignored texts just means he still needs more time. But... At the end of February, I'm visiting my small undergraduate college which he still attends. I'm wondering if I should let him know I will be in town for a week... I'm not really expecting him to want to hang out (but if he did I would maybe be up to talking through things). I more feel like I should warn him I'm coming so that I don't awkwardly surprise him by running into each other on campus and make him uncomfortable.", "summary": "A year ago, a friend mistakenly thought I did something wrong, but later discovered it was someone else. Said he needed time before repairing the friendship. Do I let him know I'm visiting our small college or just awkwardly run into him?"}
{"id": "t3_1us2yy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] dating for 2 months. Her parents just read her texts between us and want her to break up with me.", "post": "She messed me on Facebook and informed me that her parents had took her phone and had seen all of our texts.  We had talked about drinking, and she talked about how she used adderal which I do not. we also talked about how I had snuck over to her house on New Year's Eve and some sexual things.  \nHer parents have her phone and her Facebook account and I can't get ahold of her. I just want to if there is anything I can do to get her parents to let us keep going out. I'm horrible at Writing and Im typing this on my phone so I'm sorry if it looks like a third grader wrote it.", "summary": "girlfriends parents read her texts and are making her break up with me, I need advice"}
{"id": "t3_113k28", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When my neighbor blasts their music until 4am, I stay up and wait til they all fall asleep and then blast them with off beat basslines. Reddit, what kind of things do you do to get even or solve problems?", "post": "So yeah, my neighbor blasts their music at club volumes (no joke on my db meter it was reading 105 on my side of the wall) until 3 or 4 in the morning and does so on weekdays sometimes (though not nearly as often, anymore. Used to be almost every night). So basically, instead of calling building security (which leads to them getting fined if playing music after a certain time during \"quiet hours\"), I stay up and wait until I hear them all leave and then whoever is left falls asleep.. essentially I wait for silence (we have pretty thin walls). I then find the heaviest, least rythmic, punchy sounding kicks and basslines I can find.. speaker finds it's way near the wall and about 2-3 hours after they go to sleep, to be sure they are near the deepest most relaxed part of their sleep cycles, then I start blaring the music. And directly into their bedroom (my friend used to live there so I know the layout). Occasionally pausing it and skipping around to make it even less rythmic. This apparently sent the message I was going for, because this used to be a nearly every night thing. Now it's maybe once every two weeks, not nearly as loud and usually winds down around 2 at the latest now, and sometimes as early as 12. (on weekdays)\n\nSo, Reddit, what things have you done to get even or solve problems instead of taking the proper \"formal actions\"?", "summary": "Neighbor blares music til 4am.. I stay up and wait til they are deep in slumber and blare even more annoying music back."}
{"id": "t3_ue9b0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you help find a witness to help the Innocence Project free a man?  We have until July.", "post": "Can you help find Rhonda Fleming (now Rhonda Williams) who lives in Florida? I emailed the writer for more information. Maybe some of you internet sleuths have some ideas/tricks up your sleeves.\n\n[article](\n\n*Willie T. Donald* was imprisoned for a 1978 murder. One of the witnesses against him has recanted her statement. If the prosecutors can meet with her before July, the man's case would get a big boost. \n\nThe trouble is that she moved to Florida and no one can find her.  I thought Reddit might be able to find her.\n\nRelevant part of the article: \"The prosecutors are actually 'willing to listen, and they'd be willing to listen to Rhonda...They want to talk to the woman themselves.' The problem is that Williams moved to Florida and now can't be located. It's on [the defense attorney], not the prosecutors, to find her.\"", "summary": "A prisoner who might be innocent is getting screwed by office politics at the Medill Innocence Project. His defense team needs to find a witness who moved to Florida who can help his case.  Her name is Rhonda Fleming (formerly Rhonda Williams). Can you help find her? "}
{"id": "t3_1d9pbc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to stop myself [24/m] from over thinking things with new relationship [23/f] and coping with vulnerability.", "post": "I've had one long term relationship that lasted 3 years with a girl and then nothing serious for the last 3 years. Few hook ups here and there but nobody came along who wowed me...\n\nUntil late last year this girl came along who really is amazing and I fell for her pretty hard quite quickly. We took it slow and didn't even call ourselves exclusive until a couple months ago after a fair bit of time seeing each other. Partly because I wasn't looking for a relationship as I'm moving away to go do a PhD come September and I didn't want to be tied down. She said that she didn't want to get hurt but we agreed to just take it as it comes... All was going pretty great and still is (I hope). \n\nBut I can't help over analyse things, like if I don't get a reply from her I'll start to think 'oh this is how it begins to go wrong'... An a few comments here an there have just tweaked with me thinking 'huh maybe  she's not quite falling as hard for me as I am for her'.\n\nI think part of the problem is that I'm so into her, I'm letting her get so under my skin that I can't cope with the possibility that it might end, I guess I'm feeling vulnerable. But I know that me being like this probably makes things worse?\n\n I've got a viva next week for finishing my masters degree and I can't help think that she's holding off to get rid of me until after that... an doesn't want to upset me when I've got important things to worry about. I don't know exactly what's making me feel that just the feeling I've got. \n\nThe only thing that is reassuring me is that we are still having pretty awesome sex and surely that would be the first thing to decline if something was wrong? \n\nSo how do I help myself cope with the insecurity/vulnerability? \n\nEdit", "summary": "New relationship, struggling with feeling vulnerable and insecure after girlfriend seeming a bit distant."}
{"id": "t3_1v9f73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) am having trouble emotionally supporting my SO (21M) of four years, and its killing him.", "post": "He's always had trouble finding his way, his family has never really been supportive, he's moved and uprooted himself multiple times, and has had shitty jobs where he hasn't been respected. Right now, he has a job with a particularly disrespectful and verbally abusive boss. This boss doesn't make schedules ahead of time (he calls for you to come in THAT DAY), and basically has made my SO his bitch. \n\nIts sucking the soul out of him, and he feels stuck and like this is all he'll ever do with his life, but he needs the money. \n\nHe also has a messiah complex, and is far too nice for his own good sometimes, and is often let down by people.\nMost exclusively, me.\nA huge problem in our relationship has been that he's had to essentially babysit me (both with my depression, and my neurological/seizure problems)\n\nI'm grateful for all he's done, but its obvious that he's been the one supporting me more than I have with him.\nI try to be empathetic, try to keep him busy, compliment him, encourage him with his projects and his cooking, keep him company, keep him sexually satisfied, make him laugh- but a lot of the time, I'm just so stunned and at a loss for what to do, I end up staring off into space, thinkingthinkingthinking, and don't speak for an hour while he's just silently suffering within himself, and ends up feeling even more alone.\n\nI've haven't really had a job, so I'm put in the position that its not really my place to offer advice about work...\nI can tell him loads about financial services, and about finding ways to schedule around work with school so he won't be stuck forever, and talk to him about therapy and medication- but he won't listen.\n\nWhich, being depressed myself- I completely understand, but I know he needs something beyond self medicating with medicinal marijuana. \n\nI'm just...at a complete loss, and every time he tells me how much I've let him down...", "summary": "SO is depressed, having troubles with job, I have no idea how to console him."}
{"id": "t3_2b423a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] love my SO [22 F] of two years, but I have a persistent need to meet other girls and am terrified of expressing this to her.", "post": "My SO and I have known each for seven years, dated for over two years. We have quickly become inseparable, and though we have encountered numerous relationship problems, we have both worked on them and never get to the point of namecalling or other unhealthy behaviors.\n\nMy SO is funny, compassionate, attractive and endlessly in love with me. I love her intensely back (maybe not quite as intensely as her) but she consistently works on our relationship, gives me comfort at my most fractured moments, and does endless amounts of nice things for us.\n\nNow, here's the rub. She is fiercely monogamous, largely because her parents have been together since high school. I've never been anything but monogamous, but I've made the mistake of not giving myself free time between relationships and I don't think I've gone longer than three months since the age of 17 without being with someone. She's the fourth girlfriend I've had and the longest relationship.\n\nAs much as she satisfies me sexually, emotionally, and spiritually, my mind always wanders to meeting other girls. Discovering what their music tastes are, learning about their childhoods, discovering their favorite places to explore, learning about them sexually, all of this circles through my head a good deal about a number of different girls.\n\nAs much as I try to repress this feeling, it continues to bubble up. There's no way she would go for anything but monogamy, and I love her so I respect that. But I haven't told her about any of the desires I have out of fear it would crush her self-esteem and ruin our relationship.\n\nI'm scared to end our relationship, the combined efforts of our two years together, because of my cycling desires but at the same time I can't seem to switch them off either. \n\nCan anyone relate to a similar situation? How did you handle it? Was it worth it in the end?", "summary": "My SO and I have a loving relationship, but she's strictly monogamous and I can't seem to stop fantasizing about getting to know other girls. I'm afraid to express this to her for fear it would end our relationship. I don't want to ruin what we've created, but at the same time my desires never quiet down. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3u1p8z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lighting a cigarette", "post": "Redditors. \n\nI am 24 years old, female.\nthis just happened a couple of minutes ago.\n\nI couldn't find my lighter, so I tried looking for my matches. No luck. So I decided that I would put my cigarette over the stove to light it.  I've done this before, so no biggie. However this time when I leaned over, I leaned over to little too far, and heard a sizzle sound. I gave the  cigarette to my brother and ran towards the mirror. I now own one full eyebrow; each half above each eye. I don't own any make up that will fill the patches so I'm going to have to run to a make up store before work tomorrow morning to disguise my total fuck up.", "summary": "Tried to light my cigarette over the stove, burned half my eyebrows off."}
{"id": "t3_rciwf", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What have you been dreaming about Reddit?", "post": "I just had a wickedly bizzare dream that Reddit was involved in a global war. The main cause of the war was a virus. It just so happened that this virus would spring up in areas that were trending about Whitney Houston. In my dream, I found out this out because I was trying to take a train out of Philadelphia to NYC, but I was rerouted to the south and given food ration cards. But anyways, the virus apparently made people go pretty damn crazy and start fighting. Then at the same time, I think someone over in 4chan started targeting user profiles in reddit and started destroying them. No idea how, but it was happening. This made everyone on reddit super pissed and they started targeting people on 4chan and fighting back. millions of usernames/users died in these fights. Eventually, the virus was spreading and small pockets of reddit users were left to deal with the crazy infected mobs that were trying to kill everyone. The last thing I remember in my dream was that I was in Guatamala on the phone with another Reddit user talking strategy.", "summary": "Reddit got in a war with 4chan while also actively fighting virus-infected people all over the world."}
{"id": "t3_2p827c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can my wife's employer find out?", "post": "My wife works for a big bank in their back office/operations team. She is extremely far from any proprietary trade information. I'm a professional trader at a proprietary trading firm where I trade the owner's capital and keep a share of the profits. My wife's employer requires us to disclose all of our brokerage accounts and we must get approval for any trade we wish to place and are subject to a 30-day holding period. This rule prohibits me from going off on my own or trading my own capital on the side. My employer doesn't care and in fact encourages it. I have a quantitative finance background and there are some automated mid-frequency trading strategies I would like to trade on my own on the side. I feel I'm doing a great injustice to myself if I don't use my knowledge to make money for my family and earn better than the 0.5% I get at a bank. My question is, if I say f*** it and open an Interactive Brokers account, would my wife's employer come to know? Does the compliance team at a bank sweep popular brokerages with a list of SSNs to see if there are new accounts opened under that? I tried explaining to her compliance team that the fact that I work as a professional trader is itself a violation of their policy but they seem to be okay with that. They just don't want me to open an account of my own and trade at my discretion.", "summary": "wife's employer prohibits me from trading at my discretion. Can they find out if I open a brokerage account?"}
{"id": "t3_15454t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When my girlfriend gets drunk she likes to kiss other girls and I don't like it. M[22] dating F[21] for 10 months", "post": "When my girlfriend [21] goes out to drink with her lady friends, she likes to make out with them saying it is just fun and there are no feelings. I believe her in that there is no feelings but I still don't like that she does it. I have brought it up a few times and she just says she likes to but it is nothing and I shouldn't worry. I does only happen once every couple months and I know she loves me and I love her but I don't like when she does it. Am I in the wrong letting it get to me or should I just let it happen?", "summary": "Girlfriend likes to make out with her lady friends when drunk and I don't like it even when she says there aren't and feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1vqbti", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Recent engineering grad: I love my job right now but I'm underpaid. Should I take this new opportunity?", "post": "Throwaway. I'm a transportation engineer with a bachelor's and EIT. Interned at consulting firm, applied for public sector job, got promoted at consulting firm before hearing from public sector. Last week I was suddenly asked to interview for the public sector, had 2nd interview last week. What are your thoughts on my potential upcoming decision?\n\nCURRENT, PRIVATE SECTOR:\n\n* Small but respected planning firm in a big city\n* Really flexible schedule\n* Traveling opportunities, awesome national/international projects\n* Learning tremendously and great colleagues/managers\n* Intern for 9 months, full-time for 3 months\n* $48k + ok benefits, no chance of earning PE (one of my eventual goals)\n\nPOTENTIAL, PUBLIC SECTOR:\n\n* Small, tourist city with total staff of 3 engineers including me (can still live in big city)\n* 9-5 schedule\n* Local projects only, which seem interesting\n* Don't know the current staff well but office is disorganized/overloaded\n* $69k + great benefits, can earn PE within 2 yrs\n\nI seriously love my job but I know I am getting underpaid. I've already turned down one public sector job at $60k without bringing it up to my current employer (the new position wasn't great). This new opportunity is better, but ideally I'd love to stay where I am but with a higher wage.", "summary": "Engineer with total ~2 yrs of exp (mostly internships). Should I stay at a job I love despite being underpaid, or go to a potential new job with much higher pay but great deal of uncertainty? Any experience or advice in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_q20sc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, can I turn in a person for dumping illegally, if I didn't actually see them do it?", "post": "Was driving into town tonight and saw a truck in front of me, they pulled over and let me pass, right before the road goes down a big hill.  In passing, I noticed that the bed of his truck contained plastic sheets and other trash.  When I got to the bottom of the hill, I realized that I had forgotten my wallet at hom, so I had to turn around.  Going back up the hill, I saw the same guy, he was creeping along, I was able to see that whatever was in the bed was gone.  Went back to the same hill a little later and saw the plastic sheeting, it had been thrown down over the hill.  Since I didn't catch them red-handed, am I still able to turn them in?  Will note that I did not get a license plate, because it was dark.\n\nThrowaway account & this happened in Ohio.  Thanks in Advance!", "summary": "Think guy dumped trash illegally, didn't actually see him do it."}
{"id": "t3_2qhfw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it to early for me [19F] to tell her [18F] that I love her? Does she love me and is waiting to say it (girly clues inside...)", "post": "so we met in the middle of October, and it was sorta \"love at first sight\" type of deal. We have been sleeping together, texting, calling ever since. Started dating 2 or 3 weeks after. So, I'm developing crazy feelings for her. When I hold her in my arms and look her in the eyes, I am in love . I've never felt that way about someone, and every second with her I feel in love. Then Christmas break comes, and we're calling, skyping, and texting(we live 1,000 miles away outside of college), and I know I'm in love. But I can't tell her over the phone... So I have to wait till January. \n\nAnyways, I don't know if I want to say it first, because she has already been in love (3 years on and off in high school) and she's my first.\n\nNow,to her hints at loving me:\nshe always says how much she:\n- loves our relationship \n- loves us\n- loves how sweet I am to her\n- loves how perfect I am for her\n- misses me like crazy\n- she always wears my shirts and sends me pictures wearing them back home\n\nSo what do you think? Does she love me? Should I tell her when I get back?", "summary": "she always says she \"loves\" things about me or us, and I love her. She has had a love before me though, so I'm weary. Should I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_hpkms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some good ideas for stress relief?", "post": "A few weeks ago, I went to a psychiatrist and she suggested I take the rest of the school year off due to stress. Unfortunately, I didn't heed her advice at all, and have gotten dramatically worse. This is affecting my life in a dramatic way and I really need to start getting things under control.\n\nI think a lot of it comes down to stress (my eyes have been more dilated, I can't ever concentrate, and now get around 3 hours of sleep every night), and my whole thought process. Besides being mentally depressed, I always hate on myself (in thought, as well as out loud), regardless how much \"positive thinking\" I do.\n\nMy entire body feels tense from the amount of pressure I'm under, and I don't think I can stand it for one day longer. I've been talking less and less everyday (barely mumbling things at school in discussion) and started having tremors a few months ago (which are now constant).\n\nI apologize in advance in case this sounds more jumbled than I hope, but I am really at my wit's end here. I lay in bed every night just laying there, no phone or anything within reach, but still cannot sleep. If it's not one thing on my mind, it's five others.", "summary": "I need some stress relieving techniques so I can sleep tonight. 9 hours until I have to get up starts now."}
{"id": "t3_2wepxr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of 3 years, caught planning an arranged marriage / cheating?", "post": "I'm extremely emotional and distressed right now because I don't know how to react / what to do.\n\nMy boyfriend is Muslim and I am not. We've been together for 3 years and the topic of religion was never an issue between us until last year (October 2014).\n\nHis parents want him to marry a Muslim girl and we've talked about me becoming Muslim very seriously. I told him that I would try to educate myself more on the religion and decide if that's something I can find myself following. He's told me that if it's not me that he marries, then it's someone his parents will arrange him with. And he wants no one else but me.\n\nHe's been feeding me these lies and thoughts of us actually being able to be together & how my lack of beliefs shouldn't be the reason why we don't have a future together.\n\nToday on Skype I got a random add from someone and they sent me screen shots of a conversation between my boyfriend and some other girl. I don't know who the person who sent it to me is, i'm just so confused.\n\nI'll link the screen shots in a comment.\n\nI don't know what to do and i'm just extremely upset and lost and hurt by this and I feel like I can't talk to any of my friends openly about this because none of them actually know what's going on in our relationship.", "summary": "boyfriend of 3 years is basically talking to another girl his parents arranged a marriage with, but is still with me. He never told me about it & someone randomly added me on skype and sent me screen shots of this convo between him and this girl."}
{"id": "t3_4o0g8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22) gf (23) of almost two years feels unattractive because of my social media activity.", "post": "My girlfriend has been feeling self-conscious for pretty much our entire relationship because she doesn't think she's attractive. She has this preconceived idea of what type of girls I am into because when we weren't dating yet she used to stalk my Instagram to see the photos of girls whose pictures I liked, and she always compares herself to them (I follow a lot of models and celebrities) and saying that she wishes she looked more like them for me. She also wishes that I would post pictures of us together more often, because she feels like I'm hiding her or am embarrassed to show her off because of her looks. She is also bothered whenever we hang out with my single guy friends and they talk to me about other women because it makes her feel more self conscious. \n\nI've constantly reassured her that just because I find other girls attractive, it doesn't mean that I want to be with anyone else other than her and I make sure to remind her every day that I love her and she is beautiful. I've also unfollowed all the models, stopped talking about other girls with my friends in front of her, and promised to try to post more pictures of us together even though I personally don't like sharing things like that on social media. \n\nI don't think it's unreasonable for me to think other girls are attractive. I am human after all. But I do want to do everything in my power to make sure she stops feeling this way. I don't know what else I can do and it's frustrating that she feels this way constantly. I love her and I want to make sure she's happy. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't feel attractive no matter what I say or do."}
{"id": "t3_2da28r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/23] Really like a female friend, but it's quite messy...", "post": "Just now we are friends with benefits, she is quite shy and just goes with the flow. Let me give you a background on how this came about.  \nI split up with my girlfriend of a year, the friend was there for me, and I explained I didn't want a GF etc. Recently we've been talking a lot and started having casual sex, she told me she doesn't want to lead me on etc. But I have a sinking feeling she is saying that purely because she thinks I'm really not into the idea of a GF and doesn't want to scare me off. I have since started to quite like her, but she is going on a date with another guy on Saturday, I'm seeing her on the friday for a \"friend date\" and, well you know... the problem I have is that I really want to tell her that I do like her like that. She knows I like her, but she is under the impression I don't want a GF. I'm quite worried that if I tell her I'm kind of jealous about the fact she is going on a date with this guy, it will end everything we have just now... but at the same time I also think she would possibly be keen on it, I just don't want to put it out there and ruin everything.... I hope i explained that well.", "summary": "friend became friend with benefits, both of us said we weren't looking for anything serious, i now like her, she is going on date with dude. I am jealous. Do i tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_1tuxbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [22M] 1 yr, he's gained a lot of weight and I'm concerned.", "post": "My boyfriend and I just celebrated our anniversary and we're ridiculously happy. I looked back through our pictures and noticed how much weight he's gained.\n  \nI'm a person who cares about my health and I know that he doesn't care as much, that's fine, to each their own. But, when he was getting dressed I noticed he's put on a lot of weight on his stomach, which isn't healthy and is very hard to get rid of.\n  \nI'm not concerned about his looks, I'll love him no matter what he looks like. I'm concerned about his health because diabetes runs on both sides of his family. He doesn't drink a lot, so it's not beer weight it's just weight gain. \n\nI'm very athletic and health-concious, so I don't want to damage his self-esteem or anything. How do I express my concern for his health and about his weight gain without hurting his feelings?", "summary": "My boyfriend has gained a lot of weight, I'm concerned he's going to get diabetes because it runs in his family and I don't know how to address it without hurting his feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2jppka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Im (22F) not sure if he (22M) is being jealous or an over protective friend", "post": "[Previous Post](\n\nWe were out at a bar and I was dancing with a guy. My guy friend kept staring at us. The guy I was dancing with kept telling me he kept looking and asked twice if he was my boyfriend. After we left the dancing guy caught up and started talking to me. I was walking with a gal pal. My guy friend who was half a block behind sped up to stand right next to me. I confronted him about it twice. First he said he was just drunk. Second time he said he was making sure I wouldn't go home with him(because at the start I jokingly said don't let me go home with a random). He's very touchy with me and teases me a hell of a lot more than his other female friends. He also doesn't do this \"cockblocking\" thing. Just wondering what you guys think and what I should do. I do have some feelings for him...", "summary": "guy friend seems overprotective of me around guys"}
{"id": "t3_1v5esu", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Parents, teach me (17F) some Jedi mind tricks to control my crazy class!", "post": "I'm a voice and piano teacher. I started working in October, and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE my job and the kids I get to teach. I have a pretty diverse group of students between the ages of 5-15 who are in the same class. Now, they're all fantastic kids, but I have trouble handling some of them, especially the younger ones. They get distracted VERY easily and ignore my threats of calling their parents. I love them and I want then to do well and learn about music, but these kids just do not respect me, maybe because I'm younger than most of the other teachers working at the school. I've tried raising my voice and being the \"loving, yet stern\" teacher, but that doesn't work. I don't want to be an angry, frustrated teacher. I don't want them to not like me-- then they won't enjoy the class and not learn! I want my students to like and respect me.", "summary": "[Parents! How do I reach these kids??]"}
{"id": "t3_v6bxb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "whats your \"the universe is trying to destroy me!\" story?", "post": "I am a young and attractive cabby in a small college town. I like to flirt with the ladies a little to get the tips flowing. MY GF ABSOLUTELY HATES THIS! Some nights it can get a little out of hand. Last night was no exception. A bunch of very intoxicated girls got in, got me to take off my shirt and they were removing clothes too, they were having a good time! Well at some point a pair of panties came flying across the van and landed really close to my face! Well I think nothing of it. The girls get out they tip me and I do a quick scan to make sure nothing was left behind. End of the night comes I do a double check for said panties, and turn up nothing. I ride my bike home and pass out like every other day. I wake up to what seems to be my GF turning into mountain lion holding said panties. \"who the Fuck are these!!\" she proclaims, \"holy shit how did you find those?\" I said in my foggy state of sleepless mind. She found them in my backpack that I carry to work. So Im guessing they must have landed perfectly in there for me to not have noticed them. Obviously she doesn't believe me, can  you blame her? I blame the universe, can you blame me?", "summary": "girlfriend found dirty panties, universe gets a good jab in"}
{"id": "t3_2l0xi1", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Daughter 16, wants to see me (her Dad) for first time in 5 years. What to say to her to give myself best possible chance of making a relationship work between us.", "post": "I split up with my ex before I even knew she was pregnant. My daughter (and only child) has grown with her Mum & stepdad all her life. I was slow to make an effort after my daughter was born (it was complicated by the fact that I was living in a different country, but that's not an excuse).\n\nSince my daughter was about a year old, I've done everything in my power to form a relationship with her, and things were working fine for a few years. However when I asked for a little more access, my ex turned my daughter against me, and daughter no longer wanted to see me. I haven't seen her in about 5 years now, but write to her regularly (she never replies, except in the negative (which I described here 3 years ago \n\nA couple of months ago their solicitor wrote to me saying daughter wants to be adopted. I replied saying that I'll think about it. The only benefit to her being adopted from what I can see is that if stepdad adopted her, then she would some day have reduced inheritance tax to pay in the event of his passing. Anyway I've told them I'll think about.\n\nToday I got a text from stepdad saying daughter wants to meet me tomorrow. It's possibly so she can ask personally for me to allow her to be adopted? On the other hand, maybe she's finally going to allow me to part of her life.\n\nThis may be the only chance I ever get to speak to my daughter again. What can I do / say to her, to give myself the best possible chance that she will want to finally have a relationship with me?", "summary": "Daughter finally wants to see me, after about 5 years of no contact; what to say to her to make best impression?"}
{"id": "t3_15bulo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me accept my girlfriend's past.", "post": "I'm a M23 in a relationship with a 23F since just 2 months.\nThis is my first ever relationship, I was a heavy guy all my life until last year, when I managed to get in shape.\nI was a shy, low on confidence, typical SAP guy. But losing the weight helped me a lot and now am in my first ever relationship with this amazing girl, whom I knew from school.\n\nI'm still a Virgin, but she is not.\nShe has been in many relationships and she let me know that she's not a Virgin. We're from a conservative society and sex before marriage is still considered a taboo by most people.\nI love her very much, but the fact that she is not a Virgin is somehow bugging me too much. I just cannot let it go and I'm making a big deal out of it. I've never told her anything about this, but it does bug me. I can't help but think about the fact that she's been so close to another guy, that she's had a guy inside her. x(\n\nAnd before we got into a relationship, she had mentioned that she's not gonna go All the way again, until marriage. This is also bugging me a lil.\nAnd the fact that she has had sex and I might not lose my virginity until marriage makes me feel inferior to her. I feel that she has done things that I haven't, and when I do it, it'll be only after the marriage. I feel, there won't be the \"thrill\" after marriage cos I'll be doing it cos I have no other options. \n\nSo reddit, please tell me that this is not a big deal, that her past doesn't matter. Please help me accept the fact and any other advice.", "summary": "M23 in first relationship with an f23 since 2 months. I'm a Virgin, she's not and has been in several relationships. The fact that she is not a Virgin is bugging me, please help me understand that it's not a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_2z6rq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are my bf [19 M] and I [18 F] going too fast?", "post": "So, this is my first relationship ever and before this, I've never even made out with a guy before.\n\nAnd we've known each other for a while and have been talking for a couple months before we started dating, so I'd say we were somewhat close by the time the relationship started. \n\nIt's only been about 2 weeks and after a few dates and makeouts and stuff, he wanted me to go down on him. I told him I didn't exactly want to yet, but he was persistent and I eventually agreed to. It wasn't terrible, but also not that great either. \n\nSince he was all for it, and I didn't really care too much since it's staying between us, I don't think the relationship will get messed up. \n\nBut I also am not ready for actual sex yet, since this is the very beginning of my very first relationship, and I just want to see how things go with what's happening right now. \n\nBut was this the smart thing to do? Was this way too soon for my first time giving oral, in relation to my total experience which was nonexistent prior to 2 weeks ago? Am I putting too much thought into this? Am I taking this way too lightly and am actually desenstizied to the entire thing?", "summary": "Gave bf head after only about 2 weeks of dating and I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ammq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] with my [16F] for 6 months, should I end it? Desperately need advise on what to do", "post": "I'm thinking of ending it with my (first) girlfriend. I love her (or at least thought I did), but lately especially she has been very off with me. She doesn't seem to care about me or even want to spend time with me. I'm the only one who seems bothered anymore.\n\nI don't want us to be single really as I know she'll be fine, and will probably start dating easily soon afterwards. She also may decide to get with my/her friend, whom she is very close to (a few weeks ago when our gang went out to Liverpool they were together most of the time, which pissed me off a lot. Also, I can't even tell her how I feel without her biting my head off, so I don't think I have much of a choice but to end it.\n\nI can't really break up with her until the 26th as that is when our prom is, and I wouldn't like to break up this close to it as we'd both have to go alone. I get on very well with her (alone more so) in person, thankfully. Almost all our problems arise when texting. \n\nMy dream scenario would be for her to see that she's lucky to have me as she definitely takes me for granted at the moment. Hopefully if I tell her I want to break up she will say no, and try to be nicer/kinder/more affectionate towards me again so (like at the start of the relationship), in an attempt to change my mind. \n\nBut I feel like I need advise, what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't loving anymore, I may break up with her (but only after prom on 26th). Would prefer to stay together, though."}
{"id": "t3_wqpum", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "18/M my gf 18/F Worried about our summer relationship", "post": "So I've been with this girl for almost 2 years now but the relationship has been weird throughout. We were off and on with gaps of up to 4 months and lots of other hookups in between all the way up until this summer where things started getting really serious. The thing is the reason we got serious is because i \"cheated\" i guess you could say that, and had sex with a different girl. She then recoiled and hooked up with another guy and it tore us both apart. It was at that point i guess we both realized that we shouldn't be fucking around with other people and how much we meant to eachother. \n\nWe are both off to college next year and we know that we can't keep the relationship going any longer than the summer, it sucks, but we've accepted that. We text all the time and hangout whenever we can because we're both trying to make the best of it. I'm not worried about that, im worried about before that. I feel like im gonna fuck up hard and cheat on her or just do something with another girl that completely ruins us. I drink alot with my friends and she works alot so she can't always come to the parties i go to and there are always girls that i have to stop myself from getting flirty with. I know its just a feeling but i feel like im going to hurt this girl and i don't want to, but i know its going to happen. It's just a feeling i know, but this is my first post to reddit and i need some reassuring help. I don't always think things through, i'm not an airhead, I just push away consequences sometimes because i don't like to face them. please and thank you. (also no bullshit \"dont drink and stay away from girls\" posts no one does that shit during their senior summer.)", "summary": "Ive had an off and on relationship with a girl for two years, its finally getting serious but we only have till the end of the summer and i feel like im going to mess it up somehow because i don't always think through the consequences of my actions, i need some reassuring help."}
{"id": "t3_2v165f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/M] am literally too nice to her [20/F], it is just 'too easy' for her", "post": "Ok, this is kind of an unusual problem, but I am literally too nice and too 'available' for her.\n\nShe knows that I am available for her 24/7, whatever she needs whenever she needs, and that makes it 'less of a challenge' and it makes it more, kind of boring. She was crazily in love with me for the first 3 months (we're 6 months in a relationship), but her 'love for me' is decreasing every day, because I'm literally not a challenge for her.\nShe takes me for granted way too much. She doesn't abuse it or something, she just feels less attracted because it isn't 'as challengy'. \n\nShe literally told me to not be as nice to her.\nAnd I don't know how to fix it, I am trying some methods as not replying in the same moment when i get her text and stuff like that, but I need a lot more, I need to make her jealous, how do I do that? \nI love her the most in the whole world, really, and I want her to keep loving me, but it is fading sort of. \nProblem is she used to be in love with me very much, and she got scared because i fell in love a bit more than her, and I need to start showing her a bit less. \n\nShe says hates herself because she \"finally found a guy that attracts her both phisically and mentally, a guy that has everything she wants, and then she starts to feel like she is starting to lose emotions\".\nNeed to start taking measures ASAP", "summary": "I'm literally too nice and too available, and i need to be less nice, because it is starting to feel a bit boring for her. How do I do that?"}
{"id": "t3_3g524z", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Frustrated at my gym progress, frustrated with life", "post": "When I started lifting five months ago I promised myself that I would do it for myself and not for girls.\n\nNow I've thrown all of that away. As unhealthy as it is, I started validating myself based on how much attention I get from attractive women. I started cold approaching them in the streets, and I would never forgive myself if I fail to approach, say, the hot cashier. I would incur a ton of guilt if I walked past the girl in the library without approaching. And if I did approach, I'd take any sign of disinterest to heart, getting bitter with thoughts like \"I bet she's dropping her panties for a much taller guy\" (I'm 5'8).\n\nThe thing is I've gotten decent at concealing these things, and I did put a lot of effort into self-improving and \"confidence\". The result is a lot more female attention. I even get praise and a bit of envy from my male friends for it. However, it never feels like enough. There's always a tall athletic jock out there who could get laid with as many women in a day as I can in a week. This creates a lot of cognitive dissonance. The result is a terrible mental mess. I really want to see a psychologist. I will start college as a freshman in a few weeks, and on the first day I'm going to make a visit to my university health center.\n\nOh, right, the gym. I get intimidated every time I have to go to the gym, because I feel like my physical status, social status, etc. is dependent on my ability to accomplish everything in the gym that day. My life is dependent on this! Oh no, what if I fail my last set of squats! I'm already at a dismal weight! etc etc. It is intimidating to even hold the bar on my shoulders and I have to suppress those feelings and force myself to just bend down and stop worrying. It started out as fun, now it's more like a chore, and an intimidating, nagging one at that. I want it to be fun again.", "summary": "I recognize that all this thinking is wrong, but I am not willing to unplug from competition and accept mediocrity because I don't think that will make me happy either. I want to have one foot in the competition, and one foot in happiness and enjoyment."}
{"id": "t3_19bhig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) am ready to date again, though I'm still in love with my ex (27m)", "post": "I (26f) was with my ex (27m) for 10 months. We broke up 4-5 months ago and stayed friends. I was acquainted with him through our childhood (since I was 5). I love him very much and he tells me that he loves me very much too. I was confused for a while because he told me his feelings, sent me Valentine's day flowers and recently flew down to visit me for my birthday, he told me that it's purely a friendship thing an that I shouldn't make anything out of it. He told me that he is not ready to date for a while and he is not interested in having a relationship with me. I love him but I respect that. \nThough just because he doesn't want me, doesn't mean I need to shut myself out from other people. I crave affection and interaction. Though, I don't make a spectacle of myself to get it. I've never had a one night stand, had people \"on the side\" and I make the effort to be a good girl. I want to settle and I want to find someone who wants to settle with and love me. \nI'm considering going on a dating site to find people. I'm so nervous though. I've never done anything like that before. \nNeed some encouragement!", "summary": "still in love with ex, though I am not going to shut myself away & be a spinster! Never had a one night stand or been on a dating site. Building up the courage to do it (dating site)."}
{"id": "t3_uoqmn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ever since I started working at a movie theater I have grown to hate popcorn. What has your job made you hate that you used to enjoy?", "post": "When I was little, going to the movies included one beloved, buttery thing: POPCORN. It was the best thing ever invented. However a little over a year ago I started working as a concessioneer at a movie theater, and I can eat popcorn for free whenever I want to. My theater is really small and privately owned, so it's always slow, so while at work I just browse reddit and munch on some good ole p-corn. Well, all this accessability of my puffed up friend has made me dislike popcorn. I no longer enjoy eating it, and barely ever ingest even a single kernel. The worst part is, I can no longer smell popcorn; it just smells like nothing. This ordeal is very depressing to me; like loosing  a best friend", "summary": "movie theater job made popcorn my enemy"}
{"id": "t3_38vgkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] with my girlfriend [21F] of a few months, thinks I have an STD after learning of my past sexual history", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months, and we know each other's past history pretty well. I, a few years back, dated a very promiscuous girl, and my girlfriend knows this.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have only had sex a few times, and one of those times was without a condom. She was a virgin and is very inexperienced and does not understand a lot about sex. The other day it somehow came up in conversation that I slept with my ex one year ago, and my girlfriend accused me of having an STD, and I really do not like how she brings up my past history like that.\n\nShe says she is going to get an STD test because she thinks that my ex picked one up and gave it to me based on her promiscuity. I am going to get an STD test too just to prove to her I do not have one, but I was pretty offended she accused me of having one after I told her that I had slept with my ex a year ago. She is very upset and offended that I am offended at her.\n\nAm I wrong to be offended by that?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have had sex, she finds out I had sex with someone a year ago and now thinks I have an STD"}
{"id": "t3_1t4hax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I just got dumped and I could use a little bit of motivation to help get through the Christmas Holidays...", "post": "Hey reddit, I've always been a lurker, but today is an exceptionally tough day and I thought I might come here for a bit of support while my buddies are all at work.\nI (F21) just got dumped by the first guy (25) I've really fallen for since a psychologically abusive relationship several years ago.  And although I saw it coming, it still hurts.  We've been off/on for a year, so I knew we never had much of a foundation, but the heart still wants what it wants right?  Any words of advice or anyone else going through a Christmas breakup?  Please be kind, it's my first post :) Also feel free to edit any grammar, I have a bad habit of \"LOL I DUNNO HOW TO GRAMMAR, SO, COMMA?\"", "summary": "Got dumped. Sad Christmas. Can't Grammar."}
{"id": "t3_30itwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Coworker is exploiting schedule flexibility to his advantage.", "post": "I [26/m] work in a small department along with another guy [28/m]. We work in an industry where we must have someone in the office 7 days a week. Of course, weekend shifts are not popular. And we usually have 2 people work each day of the weekend: one early shift until midday, and then someone relieves them for the late shift.\n\nOccasionally we will help each other out by trading around shifts. For example, one person might work ALL of Saturday, and then the next personal ALL of Sunday so that we each get one full weekend day, rather than working part of both.\n\nThis arrangement works well, and we're happy to help each other out if someone requests to trade. But lately, one of my coworkers seems to be exploiting this for his own gain. He's been there the longest, and likes to joke about \"seniority\". \n\nBasically, a couple weeks ago, we were scheduled to work a weekend together. He \"graciously\" offered to work the entire Saturday, giving me the full day off. When I told him I already had plans Sunday evening (and thus couldn't trade a day for a day), he said that was ok and that I would just \"owe\" him a day.\n\nThis weekend is very similar. And now I offered to even things up by working a full day for him. I hate having this hang over me, especially if he tries to cash it in when it's inconvenient for me. So I offered that to him this morning.\n\nHis response? \"That's ok. I can work this weekend. I think I'll save it for another time.\"\n\nThat annoys me. He was the one who offered to work for me, when it was convenient for *him*, even though I didn't require it. And now he's trying to use that favor to his advantage, only cashing it in when it benefits him the most. Now I know to avoid these situations with him in the future, but for now, what's a polite way to tell him that he doesn't get to choose my schedule for me?", "summary": "Traded shifts with a coworker, now they don't want to \"redeem\" their extra off day until it benefits them the most."}
{"id": "t3_1it9nh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am beginning a long distance relationship with a 19F. Everything is there but that \"spark\".", "post": "I met this girl online a couple months ago and I just saw her for the first time almost two weeks ago. She is beautiful, kind, sweet, almost all of her qualities are things that I look for in someone I could spend the rest of my life with, we either agree on almost everything or we accept the other for their differences, she is loyal and unerstanding, both of us are willing to be long distance to make it work, it sounds like I should be head over heals for this girl. For some reason though I don't feel that special spark with her, that deep in your heart feeling that you know you love this person. But at the same time I know that if we broke up I would be devastated and would want her back immediately. I get a sinking feeling in my heart when I imagine the possibility of us breaking up but whenever I talk to her I just don't feel that spark. Our conversations feel mostly forced, nothing really seems to come naturally. Our first kiss was the only thing that felt right and it was pretty amazing. She is the first girl who has had any interest in me in seven years and will be my first girlfriend in the same amount of time. I wonder if I've just been single and distant from women for so long that I forgot what love really means. Does this just take time? Or maybe I just want this to work so bad and I'm scared no one will show me interest that I don't want to let go. \n\nAlso, I am going to see her again in a couple weeks and I will talk to her about this then. But for the time being I need some outside perspective.", "summary": "Everything seems to be in place for this relationship but for some reason I don't feel the spark of love."}
{"id": "t3_1c6vmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should it worry me [31m] that my girlfriend [30f] of 4 months is traveling 1000 miles to meet up with a guy she worked with for 6 weeks?", "post": "So, on 2 weeks notice, she has been invited to meet up with this dude in another city 1000 miles from home. Trip will last 4 days. He is road tripping there, and they will road trip to another city together to see a mutual female friend. I don't know sleeping arrangements or anything like that, but I know it will include a significant amount of alone time with a guy I've never met, who lives in another country. She met him a couple of years ago on a work trip, they worked together for about 6 weeks, and they don't talk often because he lives in another country but she calls him a close friend. I like to think that I trust my girlfriend (been together 4 months), but this just rubs me the wrong way. Should I be worried? Or should I shrug it off and tell her to go and have fun?", "summary": "girlfriend is flying 1000 miles to meet up with a guy she worked with for 6 weeks about 2 years ago, and they are road tripping to visit a mutual female friend. I'm not sure how to feel, but it rubs me the wrong way. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_1v6vbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] wanting to message her [20 F], but unsure how to go about it, or if i should even attempt.", "post": "So i lived on college campus last year and hit off with a girl towards the end of it (after 7 months or so living on the same floor of about 40 people), we both liked each other but we kept it secret to avoid everyone talking about it. We have similar friendship groups and will probably bump into one another at many events due to the friendship groups. A whole lot less pressure without your whole floor/friendship group knowing i guess. Im not sure if that makes sense, but we both agreed that people liked to gossip and shit, which would be annoying. I definitely know i do not like that sort of attention.\n\nWe both agreed that it probably wouldnt last over break and we would just remain friends. This was due to living too far away from each other, doing it long distance seemed very pointless from both perspectives. But during the second last week of exams, she kind of started to make excuses to not hang out. Which left me quite hurt. Anyway we had a talk towards the end of the semester and she gave a very bleak and \"sorry for leading you on\" sort of conversation. \n\nAfter a few weeks of being on break i decided to ask her over facebook what happened. Her reply of \"You didnt screw anything up at all. I really enjoyed hanging out with you but I didn't have strong feelings for you to continue anything. I never had any intentions of making it long term anyway I guess. But from what I remember you didnt either\".\n\nWe havn't talked since. I still have feeling for her though. I'm wondering whether or not its worth sending her a text message saying i miss her, or if i should just drop it. We didnt have a fight at the end, but it was one sided. \n\nIf i were to go about messaging her, what do you think would be a good way to approach it?", "summary": "Was very keen on a girl towards end of University, we had a little thing, that ended when the semester ended. Should i message her? how would one go about this without losing all dignity?"}
{"id": "t3_2jup7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 4 months, need some ideas for a special date night", "post": "I'm a senior in high school and me and my girlfriend hang out a lot but we never really have anything to do. Usually we end up spending time at her house just watching tv or a movie or something but lately we've both been kinda getting sick of that.\n\nSo this weekend I told her I would take her out to dinner and then we would do something fun. I asked her what she wanted to do but she told me it was my choice, we can do anything I want to. The problem is that we live in a fairly small town and neither of us really ever has any ideas for things to do when we want to spend time with just each other. \n\nMy question is what should I do with her this weekend? I honestly would really like to just park somewhere and make out possibly leading to something more but i can't just suggest that. So what is something that we could do together that would give me the opportunity to initiate something more?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Need some suggestions for what to do with my girlfriend after we have dinner on Friday, hopefully leading to some making out and even more that that ;)"}
{"id": "t3_vpnq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Attracted to someone else, I have a gf. Is it wrong?", "post": "I'm 19 male and my girlfriend is also 19 female. We've been dating for almost 9 months now. We love each other very much. I'm so lucky and happy to have such an amazing girlfriend. It's a LDR though, about 1.5 hours away from each other, not too bad. Sometimes she gets upset easily at small things and gets quiet with me for a little bit and when that happens I get irritated but I always keep my cool cause there's no sense in making a big issue out of a small one. But here's my problem I'm having.\n\nI've been interning for the last couple months for summer and I have about 2 weeks left (thank god). Everyone at work is great and we all get along well. There's this one female (21) that I find interesting. I'm only PHYSICALLY attracted to her. It's odd because she's not my type at all. Different race, tattoos, she has a kid and only 21. We have small chit-chats and she's been flirty with me lately. I admit, I have a little too. I try to minimize my contact with her whenever possible but some times I still see her, like in the break room or something. I know I'm not going to let this stupid thing ruin a wonderful relationship but I feel horrible that I have this physical attraction to some other girl. I love my girlfriend so much and I just feel guilty about this. I want to be open and tell her about this but I don't think that's a good idea considering this internship ends in 2 weeks and a few weeks ago she thought I wasn't physically attracted to her, which is not the case at all. My girlfriend has a banging body. But this has also never happened to me before. \n\nIs it normal to be physically attracted to someone? What to do?\n\nSorry if it's confusing, please ask questions if have any. This felt good to write out because I've never told anyone about this and just kept it to myself.", "summary": "I have an amazing loving relationship with my gf but I am also physically attracted to another female co-worker. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_32dp5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [21 F] with a boyfriend of 1 year [23 M]. He has been isolating himself from me and I don't know what to do?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. We're both college students. It started out like a wonderful relationship. We would go on a number of wild adventures, everyday was something new and it was exactly what I needed in my life. In the past few months, he seems to be distancing himself from me more and more. He's not choosing other people over me, but this one video game. \n\nHe ignores me to go to a club and play it 3 times a week. I've been very good about it because I know it's important to him and makes him happy. However, when we do spend time together, he seems generally uninterested and wants to play said video game with me. We hardly ever go out at all anymore. \n\nHe can also be highly critical of me, yelling at me if I drop something, complaining if I don't cook dinner perfectly. He also has a history of being isolated and doesn't hang out with too many people who aren't me. He does still tell me loves me everyday though. And there are days when he acts like he used to. It seems to be about half the time that he treats me poorly.\n\nHe also recently weened himself off anti-depressants without telling his doctor, his parents, or anyone else besides me. Sometimes when I ask if he wants to hang out, he texts me \"Please leave me alone for a few days.\" This is tearing me apart because I have no doubt that I still love him. I only want him to be happy. I know it can be difficult to look at a relationship from the outside when you're in it. So I was hoping to get outsider opinions.", "summary": "Should I be more tolerant of my boyfriend's disinterest in me (especially when it comes to his video game) and extended alone time. Or Am I being too clingy? Also, do you believe him choosing to take himself off antidepressants is contributing to it?"}
{"id": "t3_1vo8df", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People who have had a brain injury and lost years of their memory, what is it like speaking to people who know you but you don't know them? Or those on the receiving end of that happening to their loved ones?", "post": "The reason I ask is about 2 years ago I arrived back to Australia from overseas and I was at a party on the weekend and my friend's sister was there, she has seen me on average once every 4 or so months since I've been back and we've spoke briefly on those occasions.\n\nAnyway, she reacted when I saw her like she hasn't seen me 6 or so times since I've been back and was like \"I remember you! from where I used to work etc...\" which was weird cause I was like \"Yeah, of course I've seen ya many times since then\".\n\nShe then apologised and explained that she had an accident the end of last year and had lost basically the whole last 2 years of her life. I didn't put much thought into it and my friend kinda nudged me to change the subject so I guess I couldn't really ask much at the time or even now.\n\nBut.... she had a boyfriend for a year and a half and I was informed later on that she was single. I later asked my friend about it as to what happened there as I figured he fitted in the less than 2 year category and sure enough, he confirmed that yeah she didn't remember him and it weirded her out that he lived with her. So they broke up.\n\nI was wondering if this is common as I kinda thought dementia would be similar or Alzheimer's, but yeah it's different I guess cause its like a whole clean section of 2 years as she remembered me and other she has known longer just fine.\n\nInstead of upsetting my mate or his sister I thought I'd throw it out to reddit for anyone with a similar situation or story!", "summary": "my friend's sister had a head injury resulting in her losing her memory of the last 2 years. Only knew her boyfriend for a year and a half and so forgot who he was... weirded out by him living in their house and they broke up."}
{"id": "t3_41861k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not reading my essay brief.", "post": "In reality this FU started about 3 months ago but I only just realised it 10 minutes ago. \n\nFor a bit of background, I'm a student in my first year of University. As part of my course, we do 2 module a semester which are compulsory/optional, and 1 which is 'discovery'. This discovery module can be pretty much anything, from Witchcraft to Physics, but the uni prefers it if it's not related to your chosen course of study. \n\nI did a module which was kind of a hybrid between sociology, education, media study and literature, which focused on childhood development in relation to exterior texts. This module isn't graded by exam, just a 3000 word essay which we got set in October. \n\nI'm a last minute wonder, and so decided to start my essay on Wednesday evening to be due in on Friday. What could go wrong, the module was really easy! I'd chosen texts that I'd already written essays on - Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone and Alice's Adventures in Wonderland. By Friday morning, I realised that despite having pulled 2 all nighters, I was not going to be able to write about 1500 before the submission deadline so I made the decision to submit a day late and have the penalty of 5 marks taken off my final grade. \n\nSo I work late into the night, catch 4 hours sleep before getting up and working flat out for another 4 hours this morning before finally submitting the essay. It definitely wasn't perfect, but it would do.\n\nI log into the online submission place, where to my horror I discover that the deadline was infact 2 days ago rather than yesterday. This means that 15 marks will be automatically removed from my essay's final grade. My essay's a low pass at best, so I know I'm almost definitely going to fail this module. Basically, there's a good chance I will get kicked out of university for this as I'm at a Russell Group which does kick people out who don't get the grades.\nFuck.", "summary": "Didn't pay attention when being set an essay, probably going to be removed from university."}
{"id": "t3_2bsme0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [20F] best friend [20M] is thinking about getting back together with his ex...what can I do?", "post": "My best friend of two years dated a girl freshman year of college. They had a lot of arguments and disagreements (mostly over the fact that she liked to go out and get drunk and he despises things like that) but also some happy times. At the end of the year she decided to transfer to a school across the country, and they ended their relationship.\n\nNow, he told me that they've been texting and talking and that they think they both still have feelings for each other. They're considering getting back together and willingly entering into a long distance relationship after a year of being apart. They would probably only be able to see each other about once or twice a year.\n\nHe's been very confused and conflicted and has been having a hard time making a decision as to wether or not this is something he wants to try. I want him to be happy, but I don't like her at all and I'm having a hard time being supportive, as I feel like this would be a terrible decision for him.\n\nWe found out yesterday she's coming down here to visit for a week. She disguised it as her \"taking a trip to visit some of her friends\" but because it's summer there's basically no one down here and I find that hard to believe. I'm freaking out, because I'm worried he's going to sleep with her or something and that them actually spending time together will drive him to make an impulsive decision. I'm so worried about all of this it's been making me physically sick. (I also suffer from an anxiety disorder, and this issue has been giving me hell).\n\nSo, reddit, what should I do? How can I support him even though I think this is wrong? Or should I not support him? What do you think he should do? What should I say to him? If you want more details or have questions I'll answer them.", "summary": "Friend wants to get back together with ex I extremely dislike in a long distance relationship likely doomed to fail. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3garsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[34m] My wife [34f] of 12 year told me she no longer loves me.", "post": "Last Saturday evening she just came out and said she no longer loves me, we haven't been arguing or having any problems. She has been under a lot of stress at work and we have been in a bit of a run, just work, come home, eat dinner, and watch TV then take a nap, get up feed the pets and back to bed. I have been doing everything I can think of for the past week to make her feel special and know how much I love her. Today I recreated our first date or tried to anyway.  I took her to the zoo that we went to but she wanted to go somewhere else for lunch and while we we're eating she said it just doesn't feel the same, I asked what doesn't and she said everything. I'm sorry for the long post I'm just lost,  I don't know what to do, she is the only woman I have ever been with and I can't imagine life without her. Do you think there is any hope?", "summary": "wife doesn't love me can It be fixed?"}
{"id": "t3_38nujd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my 4 [16-17 M] friends, beginning to resent them. Would like to establish a course of action.", "post": "Hello, I'm a 16-year old male living in Switzerland. I have a number of friends that I have known for approximately 3 years, and have engaged in many activities with (such as backpacking in Paris). Recently I have begun to resent them for numerous reasons...\n\nOur approaches to life have become increasingly different. One friend, let's call him N, is genuinely nice yet extremely lazy and a little overweight. He plays World of Warcraft most of the day, smokes the rest of the time and parties every weeknight,. I once witnessed him stay in bed for 36 hours straight. \n\nThe second one, A, started devoting his life to acquiring weed and smoking it whenever he can. His room is filled with garbage and dirty clothes. \n\nThe last one, L, is much more reasonable and fun, but as another friend put it, is somewhat \"the greatest snob he's ever seen\" (not my words).\n\nMoreover, our conversations just aren't interesting to me anymore. I don't skype A anymore because we have nothing to say. We used to play games together, but that has all dried up and shrivelled away. L refuses to play any multiplayer games with me because he's \"a competitive gamer\". \n\nWhen we go out to \"town\", which I rarely do since it is not fascinating in the slightest, we are \"those guys\". \"Those guys\" who get blackout drunk 3 times a week and hurl all over the street, then have to be carried home. We sit on a bench and drink until some poor bastard unleashes his dinner on the statue of John Calvin.\nI've stopped drinking and become thoroughly spooked of alcohol due to their behavior. One particular guy called J took weed on antidepressants and contracted schizophrenic symptoms for 3 nights. \n\nI know I may seem like an asshole for talking about my friends like this, but I'm tired of being part of the \"loser gang\". I'd like to make some more ambitious friends who want something out of life, but I am not exactly Mr. Popular and don't want to end up with nothing at all.", "summary": "Current friends have no ambitions, get drunk 3 nights a week and do nothing else. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_st442", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm happily married, but recently I've started yearning hardcore for a mutual friend...", "post": "So here's the scoop. I'm a 27/m married to a 26/f for almost four years. Our relationship is awesome. We are alike in so many ways. We have tons of fun together, whether we are alone or with friends. We're not EXACTLY alike, but very compatible and very happy. There's a lot of laughter and love in our relationship and I wouldn't trade it for anything.\n\nBut within the last year we've gained a friend who I've begun to have a hardcore longing for. She's not as compatible to me as my wife is, but she's still very much someone that I would date if I were single. We're all very comfortable when we're together; we (as in all our friends) mingle throughout our group, chat, feel comfortable being touchy (like playing with each others' hair, backrubs, etc.).\n\nBut every time I'm with her, I want to be with her. I wonder if part of this is that I know she's lonely. She's been single for a long time, and she's expressed her loneliness many times. She's very attractive, though, physically and mentally. Throughout my life I've known that I'm the type of person who wants to make people feel better, and I think this may be part of it; I want to ease her loneliness and show her how amazing she is in a way that I cannot now.\n\nIn the end, I believe this is just some passing fancy. I won't leave my wife or do anything like that, because what we have is amazing. But every time we're together with this person, those feelings of desire come back.\n\nSo.... what do? I assume this happens to most married people, right? You just... ignore it, be friends with the person, and carry on?\n\nObviously the answer is yes, and this is perhaps part a relationships post and part confession, but I wanted to get this off of my chest... anyone have a similar experience?", "summary": "Very happy with my marriage, but I could see myself with a mutual friend of ours. Yikes!"}
{"id": "t3_b7pri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Online friend has been forced into oral sex... need advice.", "post": "Ok lets start with a bit of background info... We met a few months ago by chance (omegle would you believe it!), we live across the pond from each other. We have become pretty close friends. She has a \"bf\" although she has really stopped liking him over the past few months, but she is too scared to break up with him ( they are both 18 by the way). She is really very timid and shy, and hates confrontation. A few hours ago she ended up round at her bfs and ended up being forced to perform oral sex on him, she refused but he made her do it. She just got back and confessed it to me in a flood of tears, she feels like she cant tell anyone else, and just feel like giving up and letting him do whatever he wants. The bf is not a nice guy, into drugs, fighting, carries a knife around etc. She has never had any form of sexual relations with anyone before. She is way too scared to break up with him and too scared to tell anyone else what has just happened. I can see where this is going to lead for her... I'm in waaaay too deep need some advice on what I should do.", "summary": "Online friend get forced into oral sex, confesses to me, wft do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_4qyx8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] can't seem to stand up for my feelings and tell my boyfriend when I'm unhappy", "post": "I feel terrified any time I mention that I'm unhappy or have a problem with my relationship to my boyfriend. My heart beats crazy and I can't think and my hand shakes. I feel really hot and scared. And it's never anything big.\n\nIt could be, \"I would like to spend more time together since its summer\" or \"I'm just upset because I am severely ill and you don't seem to put much effort in.\" Any time I have to stand up for my feelings I feel like vomiting. I don't know what's wrong with me.\n\nMy first relationship was emotionally abusive. It was two years ago and I don't know if it's related to how I act, but honestly I don't know how to calmly get my point across without having an anxiety attack about being broken up with.\n\nDoes anyone have advice on staying calm, or sticking up for your feelings, or anything. Most of the time I stay quiet until resentment builds up. I need help. I need to learn how to communicate when I'm unhappy.", "summary": "I am too afraid to tell my boyfriend if any aspect of our relationship makes me unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_53b2c0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M)8 year long relationship ended(22F), but she still wants to be good friends once the feelings fade.", "post": "So not to have a huge mountain of text but i just ended an 8 year long relationship but she still wants us to be friends which i am totally for. We were mostly long distance (cali to florida)but we faught so hard but last year shit really hit the fan regarding my family and my financial situation. I fell behind really hard regarding my career. I put it on the back burner and picked uo two more jobs to help my family who wasnt doing too well. Shebended up going back to florida to finish her last year of college. She fell out of love shortly after and just was over come with work and school she really didnt feel like we meshed anymore and i agree, though i wish we would have tried harder. She wanted me to focus more on myself. Now for the oast 8 years i was so sure i was going to marry her i didnt really care what i did as long as i had her. But she saw it as i wasnt motivated to finnish school. So we kinda just called it quits, But it ended so civily and kind with enough love where i cant seem to hate her and get over it but my best friend keeps trying to prod me into thinking so negatively of her. I dont know how get over her. Id love to keep her as a great friend but i cant imagine her with anyone else. Thanks for the help. Just really down and lost at the moment.", "summary": "8 year gf leaves relationship, how do i get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_3g5s2h", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Misrepresented salary, now job offer is on the line pending proof of salary", "post": "I was contacted by a recruiter for a job that is nearly identical to the one I presently hold - same function and same niche industry. I had never talked to a recruiter before, so when asked my current salary, I said the market rate in my area instead of what I am currently making (which is about 20% lower). During the initial call, I also revealed that my company doesn't have bonuses and our equity plan is still being finalized. We did not discuss anything about 401k or vacation, etc. He followed up my discloser with a salary range aligned with/ above market rate. \n\nI then moved on to over half a dozen interviews. During the course of the interview process, I received a title change/increase but with no accompanying salary increase. I told the recruiter that I received a promotion and the compensation increase was still in negotiation.\n\nIn a written email, I noted that if I was offered the new position, I would accept the top of the range (~80% increase over my current salary). This is the only number that was ever recorded in writing. I never reported my current/claimed salary in writing.\n\nThere is now an offer on the table AFTER background check has been passed - no numbers have been discussed. For the background check, they are requiring the last two W2s and the last two paystubs. They are also requiring that I fill out an online form that lists starting/final salary for all of my previous jobs. \n\nIs there a way I can provide the salary background information they need without discrediting my earlier statements? At this point, I am less concerned with getting the top of the range and more concerned with getting the job (I actually really like the company!).", "summary": "Verbally inflated salary to meet current market rate. Requested in writing a salary that is about 80% more than my current rate). HR is requesting paystubs, W2s, and a form that details all previous salaries"}
{"id": "t3_gf7ny", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, what to you do when your life feels like it's fucked?", "post": "Okay, so I have a college degree, but haven't worked in over a year and even then it was at a shitty grocery store.\n\nI used to (since I graduated from UC San Diego in 2007) work as a freelancer in video production, but I never really broke into the field. Then marketing departments shutdown during the big market crash, so I go no work.\n\nI went to a tier 1 public university, but my GPA sucked (2.75 not terrible, but it's been hard trying to get into grad school).\n\nI spent the last 2 years taking prereqs. to get into nursing school, master's entry, ABSN, community college. In the last 37 units I got a 3.82 GPA, but that doesn't seems to matter to admissions committies, since my cumulative isn't >3.0 (even though it's like 2.979 at this point).\n\nNo one, not even starbucks, will hire me since I've got rather little \"work experience\".\n\nMy parents have been quite kind in taking me back in, but I feel like I'm in fucking purgatory. My life is a fucking non-starter.\n\nThe only plus side is that I have no debt, as my parent (who are civil servants) were gracious enough to pay for my B.A.", "summary": "I'm a flunky 27 year old living with my parents who just got rejected for every grad school I applied to. What the fuck do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ox8pv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best intro book?", "post": "I'm going back to school in a few weeks planning on living off of loans at a low priced university (~$6k semester for ALL basic expenses) so I can get my degree and t into the workforce as quickly as possible.\n\nMy parents have made some poor choices with their finances over e year and I'd like to make sure I know what I'm doing at least at a basic level.  So, are there any \"best\" books I can read through?  People around me have spoken very very highly of Dave Ramsey but I'd like your opinions as well.\n\nI saw there were a few listed in the wiki kinda vaguely.. Was hoping to maybe get some more direction than that.", "summary": "seeing it into the big bad world.. Want to make sound financial choices.. What book will get me there?"}
{"id": "t3_1dvsr8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[20yo College stud.] A gifttrust matured; how can I keep it ready for when I graduate?", "post": "A 20-year gift trust recently matured to me for almost $5,000.  It is currently in an account in American Century. I have no experience managing my own accounts outside of rent checks and general purchases, but I have been reading PF for a year or so.\n\nI am midway through college in a STEM field, planning on having around $19k in student loans when I graduate.  \n\nI have the option of staying with American Century, and adjusting my asset mix.  The fund is currently 100% stock funds; I can also add in bonds and money market.  I can also pull it out of AC altogether and put it somewhere else.\n\nAdditionally, I will be making money this summer in an internship.  Should I add that money I save to this fund, or put it in savings?  What is optimal for the 2 years until I start paying loans back?  \n\nWhat would you suggest I do?  I don't currently have a need for an emergency fund.  I'm guessing my best bet is to save it for student loans, but what assets should I invest it in?", "summary": "$5000 trust matured; it's all in stock funds.  Graduate in 2 years with 19k loans.  What's the best move?"}
{"id": "t3_204x13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We [30/M] and [25/F] have an incredibly strong connection after just a few dates. If you were [m]e, would you hold anything back and take it slow, or just completely drop your guard open your heart, risking a painful crash and burn?", "post": "We've only known each other for a few weeks and we've both expressed a lot of interest in each other. She is incredibly open with me and receptive to everything I've shared with her.\n\nUsually when I date someone, the power balance becomes almost immediately clear -- one person likes the other more. Women tend to fall for me hard, and I'm left thinking \"Ahh! Too much, too soon!\". And once in a while I'll become totally infatuated with someone and she's just not that interested. Story of my life.\n\nIn this case, it feels like the level of attraction is still pretty balanced. It seems too good to be true. Do I keep opening up to her and talking to her every day, or do I take things slower?\n\nObviously the fear here is opening up too much and being rejected. It's pretty rare for me to meet someone whom I really click with.\n\nWhat do y'all think?", "summary": "New girl. I like her; she likes me -- should I take it slow or go full steam ahead?"}
{"id": "t3_1cpgko", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friends sister and me", "post": "So last October I was at my best friends house with his hot sister (she's a year younger than him and me, we're both 15) and her reasonably attractive friend. They're parents had gone to bed and it was about 12:30, so my friend brings out some beer and some mixture of shit (Vodka, Coke, WKD.. it was disgusting) anyway I didn't have any of the beer but I had a little bit of the concoction. After about 45 minutes or so my friend and the two girls were reasonably drunk, but I was stone cold sober (I don't get drunk that easily). I was flirting with my friends sister while he was talking to her friend. Out of nowhere they start making out. So I said to my friends sister why don't we do the same. So after 3 hours of sexual making out, my friend started puking and we decided to call it a night. \n\nThe next day back at school (all this went down on a Saturday) my friend wouldn't speak to me, like he was properly pissed off. He finally starts speaking to me again after about a month or so, things were edgy but there relatively back to normal now.\n\nSo here's the plot twist: I still really like her. I've only gotten with a few girls since then because the only person I want to be with is her. I can't stop thinking about her and this is getting me really down and my other friends are starting to ask why I've been so down lately. I need help people.", "summary": "Got with my friends hot sister last October at his house, he was mad, still have serious feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_bp7nc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Declaration of Coin War!", "post": "Background: My roommate and I have been playing small pranks involving coins for the past week. I have found hand fulls of pennies in my shoes or in the pockets of clothes in my closet. I have filled his bed with coins and hidden them around the house but now I am looking to step it up.\n\nWe have agreed to an all out prank war involving coins only and no property damage [so I cannot super glue pennies all over his car]. I am looking for some funny and creative pranks with coins. I thought about putting coins on top of a ceiling fan but he does not have one in his room.", "summary": "Roommate and I are in a prank war with coins; need some awesome ideas."}
{"id": "t3_3ff5gi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [24F] duration 6 months has 5 male confidants that she discloses personal info with at work.", "post": "I have a GF whom I have been dating for 6 months. Not too long, but I am definitely interested in her. Through our conversations, it comes up she is very open with her crew of men at work. I have to give respect that she deserves, she is very open about her relationship with them to me. She has openly admitted she has talked sex talk about her ex's to these men at work. She also sees them as family. \n\nSo I feel as if these men act as a Board of Trustees, for lack of better words, for her personal issues. I am fairly certain these men take personal pleasure in knowing the secrets, and could care less about how the man in her relationship would feel. Her being so open about these men makes me feel as if its a take it or leave it scenario. Her last ex, according to her, wanted her to act more lady like and not talk \"like a man\" to these other guys. I feel like  I have been thoroughly warned.\n\nThe question are as follows: Am I overreacting on these feelings of lack of intimacy? \n\nAm I controlling for wanting her to stop with sexual stories and personal details with our present/future problems?\n \nIs this even normal behavior?", "summary": "GF very openly admits she is open with male co-workers about her sex life and problems. They guide her on her relationship issues, and they include her on their dirty male talk. It was a major factor on her break up before."}
{"id": "t3_1lqph7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am terrified that my depression and paranoia issues are destroying my relationship with my boyfriend [19M] of a few months", "post": "First things first: My boyfriend and I dated about two years ago and it ended roughly. I had made a big mistake that I still regret to this day, but we have moved past that. It should also be noted that we are currently in a long distance relationship (As we were before), but the distance will be over in a year when I move for post-secondary.\n\nI have suffered from clinical depression and anxiety/paranoia issues since I was a child due to some traumatic experiences. Because of this, I've always been very prone to stress and, in turn, chronic grumpiness and anxiety. This bleeds into my relationship with my boyfriend since we talk on a daily basis, and I have various concerns. \n\n1. First of all, I'm always paranoid that he'll find someone better than me since we are apart. My self esteem definitely isn't the greatest, and I'm not proud of that fact. He is a very handsome man and I'm convinced he would have no problems finding another girl. I really, really want to trust him with everything I have, but I feel as though my self esteem gets in the way of that. I am grateful for him, but I feel as though he could do better. I express these concerns to him, and he is very kind and caring about it almost every single time, which will help temporarily, but the paranoia always returns.\n\n1. Because I'm so paranoid and easy to piss off I'm definitely afraid that I'll only push him away. It's a vicious cycle I'm not sure how to break. I really care about him and I've never felt so strongly about someone before, and losing him because I couldn't deal with myself would be pretty depressing. He reassures me that he \"isn't going anywhere\" anytime it's brought up, but it's almost like it isn't enough.\n\nI guess I'm just not sure how to deal, reddit.", "summary": "I'm the paranoid girlfriend who isn't sure how to deal with self esteem issues and thinks my boyfriend deserves better than me."}
{"id": "t3_2mcefx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/m] can't seem to find contentment in my relationship with my girlfriend [26/f]", "post": "My girlfriend is wonderful. She's driven and smart and attractive. She's a genuinely good person and all my family and friends think she's wonderful. The sex isn't particularly good though. We've been together for 4.5 years and have been living together for a 1.5 years.\n\nThe issue is that I find myself frequently having crushes on other women. She seems so confident that I'm the person she wants to be with indefinitely, but I'm not sure at all. Sometimes I feel like she's perfect and I want to marry her, but more frequently, especially lately, I feel wholly indifferent towards her. She obviously deserves better than that.\n\nShe's such a wonderful person and there's no way I could imagine myself doing any better. My annoyances with her seem petty. I feel like there's something wrong with me for not being able to find contentment with her. Am I being immature (constantly crushing on other women and focusing on the negative) or is this something I'll never really get over? Is the break-up inevitable? I'm absolutely terrified by the prospect of breaking up with her and never finding anyone nearly as good as her, which seems very likely.", "summary": "My girlfriend, on paper, is absolutely fantastic, but I can't seem to find happiness in being with her. Is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_xedri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit Justice League, any help or advice would be nice on my stolen phone situation...", "post": "First off, I'm a dude so hate all you want, but I thought I would ask what you all would do in my situation.  I had my phone swiped off a bar table this weekend and its an iPhone 4.  Not thinking of it (probably because of the booze) I decided to suspend my search until the morning since I knew I could search for it via the Find my Phone utility.\n\nWell I tracked it to the northside of Chicago and sent it many messages saying, \"Hey here is a number you can reach me at, I just want my phone back!\"  I sent about 4 or 5 messages.  It was on all saturday and stayed put where the tracker originally said it was.  I then was becoming impatient so I called my phone.  It rang twice then went to voicemail, but because I've been a iPhone user for quite sometimes I know that since it was on (because the tracker told me) I knew the jerk that stole it was putting it to voicemail.  \n\nI got fed up after calling it a few times so I sent another message saying, \"Dude, I can track the phone, I know you are at <insert cross streets> just give me my phone back and I won't say anything.\"\n\nAfter that message the tracker showed it got turned off.  And so I sent a wipe.  Now I'm out a phone, insurance thru Apple doesn't cover it and my renters deductable would be stupid to submit.  Any advice or help?  I can't afford a new one, i had to save up for that one to begin with!  Poor = me.", "summary": "phone got stolen, i know the dude saw all the messages, i know the cross streets where they live.  need advice on how i should go about getting my phone back and/or acquiring a new one for not much $$$."}
{"id": "t3_oegcl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf won't put our relationship on facebook", "post": "We're in our early 20s. I've been dating her for 4 months, and I recently asked her if we could make it official on facebook. She said she didn't want to because she: thinks it's an invasion of privacy, that tons of people will comment on it and ask lots of questions, and that she never has her relationships on fb.\n\nRight now on fb she has it say that she's engaged to one of her female friends, jokingly. Now there's still friends of mine and hers that don't know we're in a relationship. I get hit on a lot by girls who think I'm single, she'll interact with friends she hasn't spoken to in a while and they don't know I exist.\n\nI know she's not trying to anything from anyone. If you looked at her profile for more than a minute you'd see tons of pictures of us together at her house, on vacation together, and bf/gf-y comments all over our feed. I've also known her for years before we started dating, and know she's not the type of person who would do anything immoral.\n\nBut for me I just don't understand why she won't openly state that she's my girlfriend on her facebook, and I'm a little offended at that.  I don't understand how this is an \"invasion of privacy\" when she already has literally over 3000 pictures of her and all her personal information already up.\n\nWhen we talked about this, it was quite brief and the discussion ended shortly because we were on our way to meet some friends for dinner. But I want to bring this up again.", "summary": "My gf won't put our relationship on facebook"}
{"id": "t3_4lvvld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] and his friends [20s M] ate all the hot dogs the night before house-warming BBQ", "post": "Throwaway because bf knows my account name.\n\nI feel silly even typing this so I will keep it short. I have been dating \"Tim\" for 3 years and we have had a good relationship. We are emotionally compatible, we have the same exercise and dietary habits, and have a good sex life. We just signed a lease last month on a condimunium and have not had a house-warming yet because we had still been moving in. I decided I would host a Memorial Day BBQ! Our plan was to have some close friends stay over Sunday night and on Monday we would have more friends and our families over. I have a large extended family so it was a big deal to me.\n\nSaturday we went to the store and picked up all the regular simple BBQ foods- burgers, hot dogs, chips, and I was going to make macaroni salad and other sides. The Sunday night crowd all got pretty drunk because we had a keg and everyone was staying over. The girls all went to bed before the boys, who stayed up late. I slept through it. \n\nFamily and friends started showing up the next morning (to the boys' credit, not much cleaning was needed the next morning) but when I started getting food out, all the hot dogs were gone! It turns out Tim suggested having a hot dog contest the night before and ate 50 hot dogs!! Aside from how horrifyingly disgusting that is, Tim tried to explain that it wasn't a big deal because he won the contest. I don't get how he could appreciate such a gluttonous reward, let alone try to explain why eating all the hot dogs before a BBQ that he knew was important to me was okay!\n\nI was upset and a few family members asked if I was okay and I just said I was. Tim and I got into a bigger fight about it while cleaning up after the BBQ. He just kept saying it was not a big deal and that I shouldn't be so mad about it because they were just having a good time.\n\nReddit! Am I over reacting? It seems so weird to get into such a big fight over hot dogs but his reaction to me being upset is a red flag to me.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I were having a Memorial Day house-warming BBQ for friends and family. He and his friends ate all the hot dogs in a \"hot dog eating contest\" the night before. He doesn't get why I'm mad."}
{"id": "t3_2k6q78", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Thinking about a loved one's traumatic experiences is worsening depression/causing lack of sleep", "post": "I apologize in advance if this text runs a little long, but I'll try to be as detailed as possible with my situation so I receive potentially helpful replies.\n\nThis past summer after graduating from college, I parted ways with my girlfriend of two years. Our relationship had always been rocky; I suffer from depression, and she has been dealing with depression/PTSD from a sexual assault she experienced at a very young age. Figuring out how to manage our conditions and stay happy together proved to be a pretty difficult endeavor, so we split up and took \"breaks\" over the course of our relationship. \n\nDuring one of those breaks, she was seeking comfort from a male friend that she trusted greatly. Since we weren't together, there wasn't much I could say about the matter, but I always had a feeling I knew what his true intentions were. One night while she was hanging out with him, he started feeding her shots of 151, got her completely drunk (she's a small girl, it probably didn't take more than two or three shots) and forced himself on her. She hid this from me until months after when we were back together, thinking I would think less of her for what happened. Nothing could be further from the truth.\n\nSo, the woman I love more than anyone in the world has been raped for the second time in her life, and by someone she trusted as a close friend. Thinking about either of the instances of assault makes me feel physically ill and more angry than I can begin to express. When I'm lying in bed trying to sleep, my mind wanders from thoughts of revenge, to feeling guilty for not being able to protect her. My hands shake, and I get that horrible \"lump in the throat\" feeling.\n\nI guess I'm looking for advice on how to handle my feelings. Do I confront them head-on with the realization that there's nothing I can do but be supportive for her if she needs it? That it's in the past and there's nothing I can do to rectify it now? Any help will be greatly appreciated. These thoughts are unwanted, horrible, and cutting into my sleep like nothing else ever has before.", "summary": "An ex-girlfriend whom I still love greatly was sexually assaulted twice in her lifetime, and thinking about it is making me feel like shit/preventing me from sleeping."}
{"id": "t3_1nfa5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23F) depressed mom's (58F) health is failing and she doesn't want to get help.", "post": "Just to give a little background - I'm an only child and my mom is a single parent. She left my dad because he was abusive and moved back in with my grandmother when I was only 3. She worked as a cashier at Home Depot for 11 years before she was fired for being late. Since then she collected unemployment (about a year) and it ran out a few months ago.\n\nShe has cirrhosis and hepatitis c but doesn't qualify for disability. About 8 months ago she started drinking again. She's great at hiding it, and it's hard for me to watch her all the time after just moving back from college and working. I've looked up AA meetings near me but she refuses to go to them (even if I went with her.) She won't let me speak to her doctors/psychiatrists or go to her appointments with her.\n\nShe lacks motivation to do anything or seek any help. She doesn't have a college degree, or great work experience and feels as though she's a failure. She's lost 20 pounds (she's about 5'6 and weighs 115 now) and falls constantly from drinking.\n\nI just don't know where to begin to help her....and I'm not sure how to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I want her to have something similar to a part time office job but all the applications I've seen want some type of professional experience. I think that if she had something she did a few hours of the week she'd feel like her life was more meaningful. I tell her I love her constantly, and want her to come walk around outside or go out to eat with me but she's never up for it. \n\nI just don't know what to do anymore and she's the only family I have and I feel helpless.", "summary": "Not sure how to make my mom happy again."}
{"id": "t3_11h90s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So apparently making sure a stranger is alright takes \"major balls.\" Is it seriously that rare to care for others?", "post": "I was at the mall with some friends, and we passed this girl who was standing by herself looking upset. I was being an immature cunt and passed by her while laughing my ass off at a joke my friend told me. \n\nAlmost inside the Barnes and Noble, I decided I wasn't going to be an ass and asked if she was alright, and waiting for a ride. \n\nShe was okay, but she looked really lonely, asshole me went into Barnes and Noble and bought Michael Jackson's autobiography instead of staying with her (It was cold and rainy, and I could have offered my jacket, it was also very dark and the neighborhood was kind of shady). She was gone when we left.\n\nI'm not asking for praise, because I should have done more, but I was told that took \"major balls.\" \n\nWhy does that take any amount of manliness to do? If someone looks upset, you should be willing to help them, right, is it seriously that much of an issue?", "summary": "Made sure lonely girl was alright, apparently that requires \"major balls.\" Michael Jackson's autobiography was really good, read it in a few hours."}
{"id": "t3_17l20z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 21F, don't know how to handle this stalemate with 28M, PLEASE advise", "post": "I'm 21F and have been seeing this guy, 28, for the past few months. In a nutshell I'm extremely confused where to go from where we are. He's had one other real relationship, where he was with his girlfriend for 3 years and then engaged for 2. This ended when he was 26 and until now he has had absolutely NO interest in dating. He had essentially sworn off women for 2 years, even hook ups, and decided to focus on other things going on in his life. Because he's pushing 30 he's now at the point in his life where he's searching for the person he's going to spend the rest of his life with so he began dating again.\n\nBecause I'm kind of uncomfortable with the \"we aren't together but we're seeing each other\" thing I brought up the topic of where we stand. The problem is that I'm applying for grad school and there's a SLIGHT possibility I won't be staying in this area in a few months. He's not okay diving into something serious right now since I may be ripped away from him this spring but I'm not okay with being in this awkward position he put me in where I have to pretty much see him but restrain myself from developing serious feelings for him. His stance is that he's \"open but not looking\" for other women, which still makes me uncomfortable. So we're both kind of stuck and I'm not sure what to do. \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation and can offer some insight? Thank you!!", "summary": "21F stuck in awkward position with 28M where he doesn't want to seriously move forward with the relationship because my future plans are unknown but I don't feel comfortable with continuing seeing him if he's unwilling to commit fully. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1myyou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my husband [30/M] of 6 years, wants me to get a large tattoo of his name, should I?", "post": "So My husband wants me to get a large tattoo of his name, written in the Arabic alphabet (We are Muslim), down my rib cage, or down my upper leg area. He has mentioned it for a few years, but lately he is all about it. He says that I would be a bad wife if I did not do it.\n I don't want to be a bad wife of course. \n\nI dress very conservatively in public so no one would ever see. I don't know what to do.  I don't want a tattoo. They scare me...it is just so forever and on your body. I know a husband is forever too, it just feels different for some reason. The name thing makes me feel like he owns me a bit, like I am property. I mentioned this to him, and he told me I am his property, but in a joking way. So everyone what do you think?", "summary": "Husband wants me to get a large tattoo of his name, says I would be a bad wife if I did not, I don't really want to, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_20ldb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Ex [22 F] of 1.5~2years, 2 months after relationship... Letting go of resentment?", "post": "Okay... So, here goes. After having 2 really crappy past relationships (one of 1.5 years and one of 8 months) I dated this girl and thought she was better. She wasn't. We broke up and she was really kind of sketchy about it. I had just opened up to her about some mental health issues I had been going through, they had been escalating. The next day, she asked for some space, and a week later she called me to break up with me.\n\nOkay, fine, that's all good. Kind of suspect there's someone else... Sure enough, there is. I ask her about it in a round about way, then directly, and she still doesn't really admit it.\n\nI resent her. I asked her above all things to not lie to me. She lied. I told her I didn't see us being friendly at all in the next couple of months (she was adamant that we remain friends after dating, we were each others' \"rock\"). \n\nSo now I go between 1. considering what to do to get her back, 2. being so incredibly infuriated at what has happened 3. calling her up to be friendly, to keep tabs on things and work my way back in if that's what's gonna happen, 4. Feeling so desperately alone and upset about myself and my life, just a downward spiraling feeling, with her to blame.\n\nNone of these are ok, and I have been seeking counseling but I'm in the process of finding another therapist... the first one I went to was not constructive for me.\n\nI have been lifting, I'm a college athlete, I went on a vacation, I have gone out with friends and thrown myself into my work, I have a 3.5 GPA in a science major so I stay pretty busy. Yet here we are, 2 months later, I'm still in more or less the same place I was in the first week or two after we broke up.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Ex lied, So angry, mad, infuriated, sad, basically all over the place. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_43u6n1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [22/m] is in a bad relationship with his girlfriend [22/f]", "post": "So im just trying to help a friend out here. \n\nHe met a girl through some mutual friends. And they hit it off pretty good. About a month or two after they started dating she moved an hour away with her mom. They still stayed together. An hour aint nothing to drive. Well at least for me and him.\n\nSo fast forward theyve been together 10 months. They usually take turn driving back and fourth. Well its been two months since he has seen her. She wont drive up here or if he offers to go there, she always has some family thing going on. So he was talking to me last night. I told him just give it some time. But like he said \"who wants to be in a relationship with a cell phone.\" I dont know how to help.\n\nHes talked to her about how he feels. But she always says its going to cause a fight talking about it. And avoids the problem.", "summary": "friend girlfriend wont spend time with him."}
{"id": "t3_3gc9xq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu drinking alcohol", "post": "First post, sorry for mistakes\n\nSo I'm from Germany,  so I've been drinking since i was 14.\nI never really enjoyed it tho. I mean i like drinking beer but I don't really like spirits that much.\nSo yesterday a friend of my girlfriend held a party at her place\nand before me and 3 buddys went there we drank at my friends place.\ni had vodka energy with about 200ml of vodka on 1,5 litre.\nwe then went to the girls party everything went fine. I finished my drink at one point played some beerpong, had one or two shots.\nafter that, blackout. \nI left the party with my girlfriend, puking on my sweater throwing it to the ground stomping on it, running away from her, empty a glass of water in her sisters face, knocking off a side mirror (?) of a car laying on the ground saying i want to kill myself, just beeing super annoying to my girlfriend to the point she was afraid i would punch her. \n\nso you might say whats the deal nothing \"really\" bad happened.\nwell I don't do shit like that. I would call myself a very calm person.\ni don't demolish cars.\nand in the 6 years of drinking alcohol,  this was the first time i lost complete control over my actions, and i felt like i didn't drink that much.  I am so ashamed of myself.\nmy gf said she never saw me like that.\n\nAny advise on how to deal with that?", "summary": "drinking alcohol"}
{"id": "t3_3stl3q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[Education] I need help choosing my transfer university for my Bachelors in Accounting.", "post": "This is a fairly straight forward problem I am having, but I am having difficulty deciding the correct course of action. I started going to community college two and a half years ago to get my basics complete to transfer to a 4-year-school. I knew from the beginning that accounting was going to be my major. It provides job stability, decent pay, and I won't have to move to find a job.\n\nHowever, about a year ago I fell in love with the idea of becoming a forensic/fraud accountant. I kind of liked the idea of working for government in the FBI or IRS and helping them fight white collar crime. Why is this a problem? The only school that is in my geographic area that gives a degree in fraud accounting is a private school.\n\nThe school costs ~$24,000/year in tuition and fees. Because of the extra classes I have to take for this degree it will tack on at least an extra semester, bringing the total costs to $60k. I have transfer scholarships that will cover $21k of that bringing the cost down to $49k. That isn't even counting books, not to mention the $900 CPA exam and $3000 CPA study guide I will most likely need to purchase.\n\nOn the other hand, I can enroll in a state school that will cost $9k a year and give me a transfer scholarship of $4k. I can easily make up the difference in other scholarships and only have to take out very small student loans to cover the remaining balance. They don't offer fraud accounting, but it is a decent school, and I would be okay with going there.\n\nIs this just a no-brainer? Am I crazy for even considering getting myself into so much debt for a degree like this? What do you all think? I really need some perspective.", "summary": "Private uni offers fraud accounting degree I would love to do, but costs $49k after scholarships for 2.5 semesters. State school offers regular accounting degree for $8k."}
{"id": "t3_232fr3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26 M] starting to get serious with a [24 F] who has never been in a serious relationship or in love before. Unsure if I should pursue this relationship .", "post": "I've been seeing this woman pretty steadily for just over two months and I can tell that I'm starting to fall for her. Simply put: she is amazing + I know she is infatuated with me as well. My concern however is that she's never been in love before and her longest relationship has been 7 months. \n\nAlmost a year ago I got out of the most serious relationship I've been in. I was with a woman that I wanted to spend my life with (had the ring) but the relationship abruptly ended. \n\nI've asked the girl I'm seeing now about her relationships and she told me she just hasn't found the right guy yet. \n\nI've always been a relationship guy and have been in a few long term ones. My fear is going through the pain of a breakup again. The fact that she hasn't gone through heartbreak, experienced love, or a long term relationship worries me. I don't want to be that guy she leaves after a few years. I'm looking for a best friend to spend my life with. Should I avoid getting more serious with her or am I being foolish for thinking that way? \n\nWhat are your opinions on this situation and your personal accounts of being in a relationship with someone who has never been serious or in love before?", "summary": "Feeling apprehensive and wondering if I should pursue a relationship with someone who hasn't been in love or in a serious relationship before."}
{"id": "t3_2pwdzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f24) am terrified that my boyfriend (m24) and I won't work because we are at two different places in our lives.", "post": "Hi everyone! \nMy boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years. We are best friends and the personal aspect of our relationship is wonderful.  We communicate well and truly care about each other. \nHowever,  the professional aspect of our relationship is not where it needs to be. I am working on my masters degree and working in a field I love. He has not finished his bachelor's degree and is struggling to determine what his path looks like. \nI love this man with all of my heart but I'm terrified that the places we are at in life are too different to make our relationship work. Has anyone had similar differences in work or life and still been able to make your relationship work?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are at very different places in our professional lives can we still make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_19i8q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know what I (m,24) should do about my feelings for my friend (f, 22).", "post": "So I've been friends with a girl for a little bit over three years now. We meet due to a common friend and got to know each other for about three months until I grew a pair and asked her out. We went out for about another three months until we decided to break it off (we were both working and in school so we didn't see each other a lot, didn't also help that her ex wouldn't leave her alone while we were dating.) and didn't talk for about nine months until we started talking again. We've been pretty good friends since, texting each other every day and hanging out once or twice a month when we have the time to. I recently found out her boyfriend of two years left to go overseas for some type of internship or something back in December and will be there for two years. She's never mentioned her boyfriend to me in the two years we've been friends. I've always had feelings for her and want to ask her out again but I'm not sure: part of me wants to go for it and be left wondering what if and kicking myself if she goes out with someone else but the other part doesn't want to ruin our friendship or make a fool of myself if she's trying a LDR with him. I guess my question is what should be my next move and the best way to approach this?\n\nSorry for such a long story, don't realize how much I write till I've finished.", "summary": "I (m,24) have feelings for my close friend (f,22) who's boyfriend went overseas for at least 2 years. Don't know if I should ask her out at the risk of ruining our friendship or just let it go. Also, feelings suck."}
{"id": "t3_37ftvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex logs into Skype when I'm online", "post": "My ex (39m) and I (25f) dated on and off for 4 years. We broke up a few months ago and it was kinda messy. I said some nasty things to him because I was angry, and he wasn't happy about it. We live a few states away and had a long distance relationship, but he was seeing another chick, and I wasn't happy about that. \n\nThey are now recently engaged, and she just moved into his place this weekend. I don't know how long they have been seeing each other, but I assume it been at least 2 years of them \"hanging out\" without my knowledge. Not really important, though I suspect he is kinda \"settling\" for her as a rebound.\n\nAnyway, him and I haven't spoken since around Christmas of last year. I assumed he was over it and moved on. But he has a habit of breaking things off for a few months, and then talking to me again.\n\nI've noticed lately that when I log into Skype, he will suddenly do the same, but never says anything to me. It's weird. Because he only has 2 contacts on his Skype. And I know he doesn't use it to talk to anyone else.\n\nDo you think he's hoping that I'll message him, or is he working up the courage to talk to me? Or am I just being crazy? Please help!", "summary": "My ex and I broke up a few months ago.  He logs into Skype at the same time as me, but says nothing. I want to know what that means."}
{"id": "t3_14lnn8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not sure what to do (18M) I might be over thinking", "post": "Okay this is my first post so please be nice, I am currently living in china (English ExPat) I had a weekend off so I went to stay with some of my friends in a nearby city (Xinning I live in Lanzhou) we went out to 'KTV' (Crazy Karaoke place (Best thing ever)) it's a pretty big thing in china and we met up with about 6 other Expats. Of course lots of drinking was involved but, as the evening was winding down I found myself awfully close to this girl, I am sure she is older than me although not by much, we where practically on each others lap belting out cheesy love songs (China's western music selection is strange) after a bit on silence I put my arm around her (Big move eh) and we got closer but, of course it was time to leave... So as we got taxi's to go her friend (that she lives with) invited me and the friends I was staying with to hers but, my friends didn't want to go (early start in the morning) and becasue of not knowing the area I didn't really have a choice (I'm still a little annoyed for not going). So I asked for her number, she didn't know it so I gave her mine but, I don't think I got it right. So basically I got her number of my friend and am debating what to do. So whats the best thing to do, without going full creep with a text......\n>", "summary": "Karaoke night, didn't move fast enough, failed to give a girl my number, don't want to creep her out with sudden texts."}
{"id": "t3_14whle", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Female Redditors, how important to you is it that a guy tells how he really feels about you face to face, as opposed to over text, IM, etc?", "post": "Let me start by saying I am a really shy guy.\nSo long story short, I was at a party, got pretty drunk, and I ended up telling this girl that I like basically how much I am attracted to her. so the next day I apologized and told her that I wasn't in my right mind, I was drunk, etc.\n\nBecause I don't see her very often (I'm a first year and she's a second year, completely different faculties), a week later she sets me up gloriously to tell her again and I blow chunks out the ass; kinda laughing it off (some might say I'm a shy guy).\n\nI now want to tell her for serious that I was embarrassed about my actions at the party, but what I said was true and that is how I feel about her. How important is it that I tell her this in person?", "summary": "Got drunk, spilled the beans, sobered up, blew chunks out of my ass, thought about things, and now I wanna tell her how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_10lqq0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (23/f) get my boyfriend (24/m) to be less needy/more independent?", "post": "Hellooo.   \nWe've been dating for a little over a year. We both are working and im in school, but we live with each other so we see each other plenty.  \n\nFor the past few months he's been very needy and seemingly codependent. I consider myself pretty independent, I have my own beliefs and I LOVE my own time/space. This doesn't mean I don't like to be affectionate. But if I've seen you for 3 days straight, give me 5 hours to be by myself and read a book or something. Which I think is fair.   \n\nOn the other hand, he will have his own time to play video games or something (he's into WoW), but its like he needs me to tell him what to do or he needs me around, or he needs to hug me 40 times in one hour, to function properly, or else he's in a shitty/emotional mood, and then i have to try and make him feel better.  \n\n I've talked to him about this, and I've told him to do something he wants to do without asking my permission or seeking my approval or permission first. In one way, I can see he's just trying to be respectful, but in another way, i'm not your mom, im not worried about your ability to make a decision, do what you want unless you think it's something detrimental to our relationship. Does this make sense? A man who can be out on his own and have a good time and be truly independent is really attractive to me, and at this point in time I feel a bit smothered and a little turned off by his neediness. I've wanted to talk to him about it again but I don't know how to word it without hurting his feelings... since whenever i do say something i'm not happy with he gets really upset. \n\nSoooo.. advice?", "summary": "i feel like my boyfriend is too dependent of me and i'm feeling a bit smothered. how do i fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_xxjfy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "girlfriend[18] is going to east coast ivy for college, while I[18] stay on the west coast", "post": "UCLA to be exact. Our relationship is 7 months old, we've known each other for a while though. We spend a lot of time together, and it's pretty casual but still sort of committed. We genuinely enjoy each other's company, most of the time we just do basically nothing, and without trying to fluff my ego, say that we are pretty mature for our age, so please don't belittle me based on our age. (Okay, you can if you want.)\n\nAnyways, she wants to try to stay together but I think it will be hard as college freshmen to stay in touch so frequently and she also doesn't completely approve (though has drank) of when I drink and smoke illicit substances (nothing ever more than weed), which I may do pretty often (but recently quit for her as it wasn't that important to me). I also want to make a lot of friends, which I think I still can, I feel like that sort of thing is more affected if you're a girl.\n\nWe have talked about staying together for 4 years and getting married but it is a loooooooooooooooooooooooong shot but I can imagine it happening even though realistically it is obviously ridiculous. Throughout the school year, she will be visiting home at least 7 times, including winter/spring breaks etc., and where we are from it is close enough to my school that it doesn't really matter.\n\nThe thing is, I feel like not seeing her often will hurt our relationship. Like I enjoy her physical company more than almost anything.\n\nSo, is it worth it?", "summary": "7 months, going to college on opposite sides of the U.S. gf wants to stay together, i am hesitant. The rest of the post is not well written."}
{"id": "t3_3eztci", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Worth pursuing or wasting my time?", "post": "Hello, \n\nSo I (32m) met a woman (32f) through work at a semi isolated place. Talked a bit, some drinks, etc and spent some \"time\" together. After several days of heavy flirting, kissing, and cuddling (yes cuddlng!!) we stopped due to her having concerns about starting anything here, and also due to an ex. I told her that the past doesn't bother me, I am interested and would like to try several dates, but would respect her wishes and wait until the timing was better. \n\nWe still talk frequently, and text, with her asking me several times where I am at, if I am busy, etc. I have been being attentive but still giving her space as well, respecting boundaries. We still have drinks together, coffee several times, always talking and learning more about eachother ( even though it is very hard for me to open up due to my past).\n\nI still flirt with her, light touches, jokes etc, and have even done several massages. Have not made a move other than physical contact. Again, respecting her boundaries and wishes ( damn hard though!!). At times, she still stands close, and I get the \"look in the eyes and little smile\" look that to me tells me she wants to be kissed. Want to in the worst way, just a bit nervous that it may scare her from what little we have built so far.\n\nWe will both be back in the real world soon, and I am planning on asking her out for dinner/drinks once we are both settled in with work, homes, etc.\n\nAdvice? I like her, think she is an amazing woman, beautiful and graceful. Appreciate any perspective you may have\n\nFYI I am out of a dead bedroom (10 year relationship) that died 3 years ago, she has a child and an idiot of an ex who makes life difficult", "summary": "Met a woman, both have difficult pasts, worth pursuing?"}
{"id": "t3_1npjba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] want to finally ask the girl [17 F] I've been dating for the past month to be my girlfriend. I wasn't nervous until her friends said that I NEED to do something crazy romantic. I'm nervous and don't know what to do.", "post": "She knows I'm going to ask, because I told her I would ask very soon. But basically her friends are putting a ton of pressure on me to do something crazy and romantic.\n\nShe is absolutely amazing and I want to make it special, but I need some help. Her friends just keep telling stories about how their friends were asked out so they can't help. \n\nShe likes cheesy and romantic but I don't want to do cliche because I feel like she's better than just a cliche :)", "summary": "Need help asking the girl i'm dating to be my girlfriend, can't think of an idea that I think is perfect for her."}
{"id": "t3_149cxk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (f20) bridge the topic of making us 'public' with the boyfriend (m21)?", "post": "So, we've been dating for 3/4 months now, and things are great, except that we're still sneaking around like fifteen year olds. His friends know I exist, I've met a couple of them, and he's met a few of my friends as well, but apart from that, it's relatively on the down-low. He comes over only when I have the house to myself, likewise I can only go to his place when he's alone. We only hang out during the day when he doesn't have to explain where he's going to anyone. We usually go to the shops/cinemas/somewhere to eat and leave before anyone in his family gets home so it doesn't look like he went anywhere. He claims that his mum and his sister are very nosey and that was fair enough at the start, when I wasn't ready to meet anyone either, but coming up to christmas, and I want him to meet my family. For multiple reasons: I'm very close with my parents and I'm struggling to lie about where I am all the time, I also want to go out to dinner/have him stay over at mine and this is impossible when he refuses to meet my family. He occasionally drops lines mid-conversation about 'when you meet mum' but they're fleeting and I find them awkward to capitalise on. It's also his birthday tomorrow, and I won't be able to celebrate with him because he'll be with his family, and I don't exist according to them. \n\nSo r/relationships, how do I go about asking him to move things along in our relationship without seeming like I'm a crazy person. Nearly 4 months is long enough to make things 'public', surely?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 3/4 months won't make things 'public' and it's starting to bother me."}
{"id": "t3_53zzsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] got dumped a week ago by [18F] gf of 4 months, but now she texted me ?", "post": "She dumped me, it was her idea. She blamed it on some random bullshit but I know from experience its because she is in college and wants to be free and not be committed. I blocked her on snapchat/insta, let her have the last word which was a text saying  \"whatever, bye\" and never responded to her.\n\nI got a random text from her 4 days of no contact saying \" why did you add me back on snapchat\".  Now this is weird because I never added her back. However, when I went to unblock this old fuck buddy of mine, I decided to just unblock everyone. Figured they dont need to be blocked because theyre already off my friends list and im already off theirs.\n\n**Now I tested this with two of my friends phones, and I've learned when someone gets unblocked, the other person doesnt get a notification or ANYTHING.** \n\nI have NO idea how she figured out I unblocked her, I dont know why she said \"added back\" instead of \"unblock\" anyway.\n\nI think its strange that even if I *did* add her back, she shoulda just denied it and not texted me at all. especially since I insulted her a lot last time I was on the phone with her. is she fishing for some attention? like why would she initiate any contact with me at all after we were over? is it because i completely cut contact and she didnt think I would? \n\nMy plan is to completely ignore her, and if im still single possibly hit her up in 4 months over the winter break for casual sex. What do you guys think?\n\nWill not responding to her and disappearing from her life be the right move? I mean she did dump me to be with other guys after all.", "summary": "GF dumps me. I block/unblock her on snapchat/insta so we are no longer friends on either side. 4 days after no contact she says \"why did you add me back on sc\". still havent responded. is she fishing for my attention?"}
{"id": "t3_oey7u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I \"get into\" music?", "post": "Something that I felt has always set apart from my peers is that I generally don't listen to any music. I've never bought a CD, owned a CD player, stereo, or MP3 player. I've never been to concert or played an instrument. \n\nI'm not sheltered from any sort of music, but nothing ever seemed to jump out and hook me with any emotional or creative connection. I'm studying film and I have felt those sorts of feelings in regard to film and television. \n\nI'm prompted to ask this now because of a conversation I had with a newer friend of mine.  I had never really thought that much about it until my friend asked me: \"Who's your favorite band?\" and I responded \"No one really.\" He followed up with \"I don't really listen to music.\" He responded to that incredulity and then went on a disappointed sounding rant about how shocked he was at that fact and how music is one of the most important things in his life and how I'm missing out because music provides inspiration to millions of people every day. Apparently, I'm a lost cause in his eyes because I asked him to recommend music to me and he has yet to do so.  \n\nSo, I'm sure the simplest solution is: \"listen to music\", but I'm literally starting blind here, so I'd appreciate more detail. I am not exaggerating when I say I'm going in blind, I know very little about music besides the basic things people would learn by being in the real world.", "summary": "How did you get into music? How would you recommend I find my best fit for what kind of music I might like? I know nothing."}
{"id": "t3_gth4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend hides her body from me. We have sex with lights down or candles. It all makes me feel bad.", "post": "Hello Reddit, hope you are well on this fine day.\n\nI am male, 24, and my girlfriend is 23, going out for almost 3 years. She hides her body from me so I can only see her from the back and can't look at her naked. If we have a shower we have to have one candle so it's dark. And with sex I'm not really allowed to look at down below her breasts because she starts feeling self-conscious. \n\nShe says she feels fat, isn't happy with her body, etc and I'm as understanding as possible but it makes me feel really bad, like she's not sharing part of herself with me and that she doesn't trust me or something. It hurts a lot when I'll walk into the room and she'll turn away from me and hide her front.\n\nShe is going to the gym to lose weight (her choice, I am supporting her) and she is making progress but as with all weight loss it is gradual. I am worried it's in her head so even if she loses weight she will still 'feel' fat. She is not fat at all.", "summary": "Girlfriend feels fat and won't show herself to me, can't see her naked and have to have lights down during sex."}
{"id": "t3_3zqtuk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my boyfriends reactions hurts me!", "post": "I want your opinion on this, I have asked people around me and that really don't think I am wrong. Just want to get it from people who don't know me aswell.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been staying in my apartment(small room) for around three months now since we got together. He has his house where he stayed before he met me with his parents.  This Christmas I had visitors, my friend and my sister. I arranged it so we could borrow another room from a friend so they could stay there a few days.  For the rest of the five days my sister needed to stay with me. I therefor asked my bf to stay at his place these nights, but he thought I was crazy. We had so many discussions and I hate that I felt so bad about having my own sister here. She came only to visit me, and ofcrse she would stay with me.  \n\nThe days we had different rooms and my bf still stayed with me, there were also argues from my boyfriends side. My friend woke up and wanted us to go out around 11 in the mornings, my boyfriend found this crazy as this would be mine and his time..have breakfast together etc. I explained to him that my friend is here for me..alone and I would like to have breakfast with her the three nights shes here. Not accepted and a lot of argues..\n\nI find this a little crazy..he refused to meet me and my sis during my sisters stay, as it would be too weird for him to go home after a cosy time..and sleep alone. I find this childish too, I mean I understand its cosier to sleep together, but when you have a guest you want to be a good host..and literally not possible for all three of us to sleep in the same small room.  So this resulted in that he didn't see me for those nights and always makes me feel bad about it. \nI kicked him out\u2026\u2026.\n\nThis hurts me so much..I love him but hate that he don't get it.", "summary": "Hurts me that my boyfriend don't support me when I have guests staying over"}
{"id": "t3_36gzj5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Showing My History Class Epic Rap Battles of History", "post": "So I'm doing year 11 history and I won a bet with my teacher that if our document analysis (an essay thingy) impressed him first time, we get to watch season 1-3 of ERB of History, Vader vs Hitler ofc, cause we're studying the Nazis...\nWell, I impressed, mainly cause I'm repeating the unit (by choice, I did it a year early and wanted more practice before doing year 12 history) and remembered how to write these really well.\nWhen I told everyone I'd make the bet, they all got really excited and encouraged me, then, when he watched...\nThe class was in utter silence, no laughs, heck, only the teacher, myself, and my mate next to me were smiling.\nClass thinks im some dork whos obsessed with nerdy youtube now, teacher said hes never making a bet with me again \nAND\nEvery bloody person just shakes their head at me \"dude, why would you even suggest those vids\"\n\nThe fuck up was real, and really embarrassing.", "summary": "Made a bet with teacher to watch Vader vs Hitler ERB. Won. Class was really awkward during watching and felt embarrased."}
{"id": "t3_2i5cb6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(26/F) I got a kitten (12 wk/male/not neutered) a month ago; the kitty (male tabby) has aggravated my boyfriend (26/M) now he hates the cat and it is stressing me out.", "post": "When we moved in together I had lost my older cat due to my ex roommate, so my boyfriend suggested that I get a new cat. I was hesitant at first because we are still a relatively new couple. I know that pets can put extra strain on relationship, and was not sure he was ready for that type of stress.  Also, he has never had any pets before in the past, where as I've always lived with animals.\n\nSo flash-forward a few weeks ago, I got a kitten from one of his friends. Things were at first, the kitten was pretty calm, played with his toys and was pretty normal. As the kitty became more comfortable he started attacking our feet, pouncing on our faces as we slept, get in the way of meals. The worst is that the kitten either by accident or in play would claw up my boyfriend. At first he took it well, but as time went on he was less amused. Now my boyfriend admits that he hates my cat, this upsets me because I am an animal lover.\n\nI try to tell him that the kitty is just a baby and has no concept that what he is doing hurts. Also, that this is just a phase that all kittens go through. I've even tried explaining that conventional ways of \"punishing\" a cat will not be understood by the kitty, and could lead to actual aggressive behavior. However, my boyfriend will have none of it and thinks that I am disregarding his personal feelings and not legitimizing his own upset over being maimed by the kitten.   \n\nI really don't know what to do to help the situation. Neither the bf nor the kitten is going to alter their behaviors anytime soon. So how can I bring peace into this home?", "summary": "Got a new kitten, keeps scratching and annoying bf. Bf now hates the kitten and is getting very upset. Bf has never own a pet before. I don't know what to do because he can't understand that it is a cat thing; and thinks I am not taking his feelings into account."}
{"id": "t3_1v913z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18,F] have trouble relating to people.", "post": "Hello all.\n\nI've always had a very mature sense of humor, and just more mature than my peers in general, and it's very difficult for me, as I have trouble relating to them and making friends.\n\nI've always been very intelligent and reasonable, and I just don't find the silly things that most people my age think are funny to be amusing. Often times when with a group of peers for awhile, I just get annoyed with the conversation, or space out entirely.\n\nI just don't know what I should do. I don't want to pretend to have fun when I'm not. I don't want to be around people that just annoy me. But I do want friends, and try as I might, I can't find ones that feel the way I do.\n\nI'm not just an extremely serious, never laughs sort of person. I just don't like immature things.\n\nAdvice greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My lack of patience makes for difficulty in making friends. I'm really lonely."}
{"id": "t3_2lfmuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I obtain commitment in a relationship?", "post": "Hi everyone. Hopefully someone can help me understand something about relationships, specifically obtaining commitment. \n\nA little background about me first I suppose\u2026I'm a young 26 year old guy. Was in the Marine Corps for 5 years, college grad, have a lot of close friends and family, even used to volunteer at a cat shelter. Many people would say I have a crap ton of self-confidence \u2013 although to be honest, I don't always feel like that. Overall, laid-back and easy to get along with. \n\nConsequently, women I care about in life do one of two things with me. Either hook up or be friends with me (to be totally transparent, both at the same time has occurred many times in my life). I must also make a note that I am still on excellent terms with most of them (go out on friend dates, have deep conversations about feelings, etcetera). \n\nSo, I don't necessarily need help talking to women or getting them to like me. What I want to understand is how to obtain a committed relationship. Is it that my age group is just career driven and I should wait? Is it that modern society is increasingly embracing individuality? Should I just sleep with a bunch of people and wait until something sticks? Commitment is what I want, but it has been so difficult, almost impossible.  How do I do it? Anyone have [productive] advice?", "summary": "As a 26 y/o male with a good head on my shoulders, how do I get women to stop hooking up or being friends with me - instead be part of a committed relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_43peyj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should my traveling boyfriend and I adopt this dog?", "post": "My boyfriend and I (been together 2 years) are on a 6 week road trip. A week into our trip, we met a stray who was running across the highway in Arkansas. As far as we can tell, he didn't belong to anyone (no collar, not neutered, no microchip). We would have immediately left him at the Humane Society in Arkansas, but pretty much all of them were closed on the weekend. In a sudden decision, we decided to bring him with us, since it seemed like our only other option was putting him back on the road. \n\nWe had him for about 2 days and really enjoyed him. He was sweet, loving, had clearly been starving, and enjoyed being in the tent with us. Didn't seem leash-trained or potty-trained, but he didn't go in the car or the tent, so probably a young adult. He clearly became attached to us.\n\nWe decided to drop him off at an animal shelter in Denver yesterday, mostly because of the 5 weeks left on the road trip. Once we get back home, we know that we have many options for a loving family (ourselves, family, friends, etc.), but we just didn't know if we could handle a dog for 5 weeks of national parks, cities, etc, so we made the decision to drop him off.\n\nNow, the next day, we are both very sad and regretful. I'm scared of him being euthanized even though I think he's very adoptable, and while it was a pain to have a dog, he was also a blast. So-- should we pick him back up at the shelter before we leave Denver?\n\nPicture:", "summary": "We picked up a stray a week into a 6 week USA roadtrip and dropped him off a shelter. We're now considering going back and adopting him, but it could be a huge pain for the final 5 weeks of travel."}
{"id": "t3_2a2jfq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] My girlfriends [18/f] sudden interest in only having guy-friends is making me very uncomfortable", "post": "Well as the title says, my girlfriend has all of a sudden just started hanging out with mainly guys, like with a group of guys.\n\n Not all of them are single but it's still weird and I've caught her lying about little things recently (like where she's been/what she has done that day) and I am frankly surprised, as she basically never used to lie to me. She used to be very jeleous when I hung out with some girls but now when I tell her that I am concerned she basically just tells me to deal with it and gets mad that I even bring it up.\n\n It really wouldn't be such a big deal but she spends so much time chatting to them and these small white lies really hurt me.. Am I in the wrong for being concerned/a bit sad?", "summary": "title"}
{"id": "t3_15258a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get rid of the annoying co-worker?", "post": "I have a younger co-worker, 28-29 I think (I am 42), that is a HUGE FUCKING ANOYANCE. He reminds me of the swarmy sales guy in every used car lot. I am an assistant GM of a $15 million dollar apartment community. Unfortunately I did not hire this guy. I was brought over when they fired to other assistant GM, but that's another story. Anyway this guy was and still is upset that he was not given the opportunity to be the assistant gm. He only has approx 1 year with our company and I have over 10 + years. Well ever since I arrived at this community, this person has made it his personal mission to try any and every way possible to try and either get me fired or make my job that much more difficult. When our senior manager is out of the office for a period of days, it's as if it's his time to act like a spoiled kid, now that mom is out. He has claimed that when I ask him to do something that I be-littled him. When the boss is out of the office he is constantly texting or emailing her what I say and do, and that I do not respect him or his opinion on matters that do not concern him. To make matters worse, he is currently the top phone rep in our company. So he constantly is throwing this around. But our boss refuses to actually call him out because if you dig deeper you will see that even though his phone calls are tops his actual sales are non-exisitant. Needless to say this guy is a total douche cry baby and I want him gone, but I need serious way to get rid of him. Yes I would love to just knock his ass out and throw him in the canal behind our office, but that just ain't gonna cut it. SO any help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Have a total douche cry baby co-worker and I want to get rid of him with due cause."}
{"id": "t3_31vwo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The Classic: I(22F) am in love with my boyfriend's(23M) bestfriend(22M)", "post": "Preface: I have a beautiful boyfriend of 3 years and I cannot imagine leaving him.\n\nPostface: I have a massive crush on our mutual best friend. My boyfriend and I have an open relationship so obviously the friend and I have done the deed. Over and over again. It's mind blowing, it's earth erupting. It's much better sex than my boyfriend can ever imagine. But that all ended a year ago, after our feelings for eachother got too deep.\nBut the feelings never went away. I really like this bloke. \n\nMy question: I have considered asking my boyfriend if we could live in seperate apartments for a while so I can get my priorities straight. The outcome would either be regret(as I would hurt my boyfriend and lifepartner when I'm already way too privileged to have him in my life) or we break up and I start my life over again. Which is worse?", "summary": "which is better: solid relationship, awesome sex or playing the waiting game (separation)"}
{"id": "t3_bkh2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm a douche but I want to change.", "post": "Like everybody else in the world, I've got my issues. Basically, I've come to the conclusion that I'm sometimes snobby and rude, and can get carried away with jokes and whatnot. I think that's just who I've developed into because of my upbringing (or lack thereof). I often think about this stuff at night while trying to fall asleep. Only at these times do I really reflect back on my day with a clear mind and realize my mistakes and feel guilt for being such a bad person.\n\nEvery night, I promise myself that I will be a better person the next morning. Sometimes I wake up the next morning and actually remember my promise to myself, but with the busy life we have, it eventually slips my mind, usually before lunch. Those are what I call my good days. On other days, I simply fall asleep and forget all about it until the next night.\n\nThey say that the first step is to admit you have a problem. So, Reddit, I declare that I am a douchebag. I admit that I act like an ass, and am probably one of those people that make your life harder at work or school. I've probably ruined your day. I've probably played a cruel joke on you. I've probably not given you the respect that you deserve. For that I apologize.\n\nSo here I am to ask for help. Reddit, how can I stop being an asshole? I'm going to leave this post here and check back in the morning. Hopefully there are some good suggestions from the reddit community that I know I can count on (this is a throwaway account).", "summary": "I'm a douche. I'm sorry. How do I stop?"}
{"id": "t3_umwra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am far kinkier than my girlfriend knows, I want to tell her, but I am terrified to. Help.", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo, here's the story.\n\nI (29m) have been with my girlfriend (29) for about four years now, and prior to that we dated in college for three with a one year hiatus in between. Our sex life in college was very vanilla, but deep down, I have always been very keen on more taboo kinds of roleplaying. I am huge into language, so anything taboo, forbidden, and unique is right up my alley. \n\nIn college, this wasn't much of an issue, but since we've gotten back together, its taken its toll on me. I am constantly sexually frustrated and for the past year I've been actively avoiding sex with her, and not enjoying it when we have had it. I really want to explore my kinkier side with her, but in the past when I've brought up very tame kinks, its either resulted in laughter from her while trying it or outright dislike at just the mention. I don't expect her to like all of my kinks, but I desperately want to be able to have a long life where I can be personally and sexually happy. \n\nSo, after all that, my big question is, how to a broach this subject with her? I am terrified she'll either tell everyone about my kinks, throw me out, or (possibly worse) listen, and then ignore them. Like I said, they are more along the taboo set of things and with my upbringing, I've always had this deep sense of shame instilled on me from anything sexual, let alone these kinks.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome. Thanks for reading this all. I'll do my best to answer any questions that may help with the advice giving.", "summary": "I am kinky, my girlfriend doesn't know, I want to tell her, but am terrified to."}
{"id": "t3_4dbbp2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18f with my brother 27m, he insulted me on what degree I am getting", "post": "My brother was visiting our parents this weekend, so I cam home too. We went to go out for Batman v Superman. Even before we went, my brother was acting a little cold to me. On the way hone I started talking about Wonder Woman and her role in the movie. When we came home I asked him what was wrong, and he just lost it. He told me that he had been sending money to our parents because they needed some financial help. He said that Mom and Dad were spending hundreds of thousands of dollars to send me to college just so I could waste it on a gender studies degree and partying all the time, and how I can be a certified movie misogyny analyst. It really hurt, and I started crying, and he just looked at me with disgust and left. My parents have still been supportive of me. I asked why they never told me why they were having money troubles, and they responded that they didn't want to burden me. I've been thinking about what my brother said. He was way smarter than me, and he got a full ride to college because of his grades, and he makes alot of money in his programming job. I'm really hurt and confused. I look up to my brother and it now I know that he thinks I'm a waste of space. I'm just devastated.", "summary": "My brother yelled at me over what degree I am studying for, and now I'm really hurt and confused"}
{"id": "t3_2vkiaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (31 f) Having trouble getting rid of toxic people (35m) who keep hurting me.", "post": "I've been hanging out with this guy for almost a year. When we first started talking he said he didnt date, ever.and i was okay with us just being friends, as i had just ended a relationship.   And now hes starting \"seeing someone\" and its really bothering me. \n\nWe talked months ago about how i wouldnt be opposed to a relationship with him. But he maintained the \" i dont date\" line. Hes my best friend,  our relationship is so open and honest, but i cant help but feel like hes been untruthful about the situation.  After i found out he was seeing someone he still maintained that he doesnt date. But he took her to meet his dad, whom he hates, to meet his friends,  etc. \n\nI tried walking away,  but every time i try, he pulls me back in with a \" our relationship is different,  you and i are closer. Our relationship is more friendly then hers and mine.\"  Then he'll put some form of effort into trying to make our friendship closer. \n\nI would never give him an ultimatum,  but im not sure i can deal with it, if i feel like he keeps lying to me. But im also finding it hard to let him go, hes become such a part of my life.", "summary": "friend got a girlfriend, think i have feelings for him. Try to walk away because its hurting but i cant."}
{"id": "t3_2jwquu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] broke up with ex fiance [32M] of 7years. Is it normal not to feel attracted to other men after a breakup? If so, how long before you regain attraction?", "post": "Is it normal not to feel attracted to other men after a breakup? If so how long before you regain attraction? \n\nI'm slightly concerned that I am not attracted to anyone of the opposite sex\u2014at all. Sounds weird, especially for my age, but I just experienced my first breakup and I was truly love with who I thought my ex was. Now the sight of another man\u2014even a good looking one\u2014doesn't do anything to me. If anything, I just compare them to ex and then start crying on the inside AGAIN.\n\nIt just doesn't make sense\u2026. my ex fianc\u00e9 wasn't a good guy, at least not at the end of our relationship. He used me, stole from, lied to me, manipulated me, cheated on me, completely broke me, ran away without explanation, and left me to do the dirty cleanup work. He led me on, wasted my time, and toyed with my emotions. \n\nPlease tell me these feeling are temporary! I want to move on with my life. I really do wish I could just cut those years out of my life.", "summary": "Broke up with ex. Is it normal not to feel attracted to other men after a breakup? I'm slightly concerned that I am not attracted to anyone of the opposite sex\u2014at all."}
{"id": "t3_10h8ei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Do you think this is puppy fraud or the real deal?", "post": "My friend has been looking for a new puppy for a while and has finally found one she likes. She found the offer for this puppy on a website and contacted the seller. The transaction seemed okay and my friend became more and more excited. \nEver since we thought of the idea of this being a scam we could not shake the idea. I have posted the emails so they can be read from top to bottom: Yellow is my friend and Red is the potential seller. If you could read over them and give me advice on whether you think this is a scam or an honest seller that would be amazing. If you have had any good or bad experiences with this kind of process feel free to share them.", "summary": "Friend is about to get a puppy. Can't shake feeling of scam. Provided emails for your opinion."}
{"id": "t3_3ncqm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] love a girl [17F] who lives on the other side of the world..what do I do?", "post": "Hey reddit, I'm writing this partly to ask for advice and partly to vent somewhere but some background info for this story....I'm from Australia and she is from the US and I have known here since November of 2013 and we talk just about every day. Btw this is my first post and on my phone so sorry for format issues.\n\nSo to make a long story short, said girl, let's call her Jenny for argument's sake. So Jenny and I started out as friends which I thought nothing more of. However as we kept talking I realised we had so many similarities and we loved talking to each other for hours on end. We also flirt occasionally and I'm sure she's definitely into me but every time I contemplate telling her or feeding any feelings I start to have for her, I always think about the fact that we are still in a position where having an intimate relationship where we can see each other at least a few times a year is not easily achievable. I don't know what to do because I'm starting to feed these feelings as time goes on but I always have the thought of the distance between us lingering in the back of my mind. I'm not sure what to do in regards to telling her because I would honestly rather stay friends with her as much as it would hurt than to make things awkward between us and lose her as a friend too.", "summary": "Like a girl on the other side of the world....what do I do"}
{"id": "t3_21we5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] don't want my [20F] ex out of my life for good", "post": "Our relationship lasted 6 months, and it was going great until two weeks ago. \n\nShe decided that she wanted to be single and free, and make selfish decisions \n\nwithout regards to peoples feelings because shes going to europe at the start of \n\nmay. (her words). It broke my heart, and I broke down infront of her pleading not \n\nto leave me (I know, terrible mistake). \n\nI tried not to contact her, but she texted \n\nme a picture that we used to enjoy, and I ignored it. about a week later I got \n\ndrunk, and texted her about 5 times in a row saying my feelings, and how badly \n\nI miss her. We talked the next day about it, and she said I have been being a \n\ncomplete asshole to her, and she wants me out of her life, but I got some \n\nclosure and we ended civily. She said she didnt hate me, but the way I acted \n\npushed her to want me out of her life, I appologized and said I wouldnt contact \n\nher, but I do want to still stay in contanct. \n\nShe agreed. I thought that was that \n\nbut today(2 days later) she unfriended me off facebook randomly. That hurt alot, \n\nand she already broke my heart since I feel the breakup was my fault. I don't \n\nknow what to do I have thought about her everyday for two weeks, and I really \n\ndid want to stay friends during the summer, and maybe rekindle it in the fall, but \n\nnow I'm having a hard time accepting that she wants me gone forever. Thanks I \n\njust needed to get this out, im not sure what advice anybody can give.", "summary": "My ex broke up with me for no reason, I apparently was an ass, she deleted me out of her life."}
{"id": "t3_2xjq5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BORED IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP! HELP!", "post": "Me(18F):\n(Sorry for my spelling mistakes,  english is not my 1st language) The thing is i had a few relationships and i always break up with the guy because it's great in the begging but after a few months i want to be single again. i want to be on my own. \n\nNow i have a boyfriend(21) who is great, loves me to death and i kind of love him too, but sometimes i wish i would be single and the only reason i'm not breaking up with him is because i'm afraid i'll be lonely and i won't find someone better than him plus his friends really like me and accepted me and all.\n So the question is, how do i kill that feeling that makes me wanna break-up with EVERY guy i'm with?\n\nPlus: his friends are awesome! They became my best friends and breaking up is just too complicated...", "summary": "i get bored easily, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4qgyfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my boyfriend?[30 M] of 6 months, met online, but haven't met in person yet. He's coming to visit and I'm nervous.", "post": "Hello everyone, I will keep this pretty short. \n\nI met this guy online through a game that I play on my phone. It started out platonic through a chat group for our alliance but progressed from there. We really hit it off and clicked. We live in different countries, about 3000 miles apart. \n\nHe's a pretty incredible guy, very smart, motivated and driven. He makes me feel loved, special and wanted which is something I didn't have in my last long term relationship. I absolutely love this man. \n\nThat being said, we haven't met in person yet. We talk all day every day via text. Usually call each other once or twice a day, and facetime when we can. I am not worried about him being someone other than he says.\n\nHe is currently on contract with his job, but that ends the second week of July. He is coming to visit me for two weeks once his contract is over. \n\nWe connect extremely well on an emotional and intellectual level. We want the same things, have very good communication (since it's all we have right now) and speak very openly about the future. \n\nThat being said, I'm nervous for when he comes to visit. I am so worried that we won't connect the same way on a physical level and that would be devastating to me. What if he doesn't like me as much in person? What if he isn't as attracted to me once he sees me every day for awhile? I would say that I'm a fairly attractive girl, not a bombshell or anything, but I do struggle with my self image and confidence so I get worried about these types of things. \n\nHas anyone else experienced this? How was the transition going from only talking to being able to spend time together?", "summary": "Long distance boyfriend? (I don't know if that's the right word) is coming to visit for the first time and I am worried I won't live up to his expectations and he won't like me as much in person."}
{"id": "t3_2621cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40/F] with my husband [42 M] married 7 years. When I brought up to him that I would like him to spend some time in bed cuddling after sex, he scoffed.", "post": "My husband is a decent guy, good dad, good husband. We've had ups and downs but recently when talking about re-kindling our sex life, I brought up that he often leaves soon after sex to go watch TV or eat or whatever. (He works the grave shift)\n\nI asked if he'd stay with me a bit longer to \"bask\" for lack of a better term and he basically scoffed and said that I wouldn't like what he has to say but he thinks that women just like that so they don't feel like a \"whore\" and that the whole thing is just a societal norm. It really took me off guard. He's usually at least amenable to my requests. \n\nIs this a thing that guys prefer leaving right after sex whether they're married or living together?", "summary": "Husband wants to jump out of bed and do something else right after we have sex. What am I missing?"}
{"id": "t3_x1rx5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Chances of getting back together with my ex-girlfriend? (Long)", "post": "My girlfriend and I were together for 10 months. Our relationship had it's ups and downs, but we loved each other endlessly. While out at a party together on the 4th of July, I found out my girlfriend was receiving some inappropriate texts from a family friend of hers. Being drunk and angry, I broke up with her. The next day she begged and begged for my forgiveness for hours. Still being angry, I refused to accept her apology and decided to move on from the relationship. \n\nWe didn't talk for a few days until I texted her about what was going on. She told me she couldn't handle the pressure from being in a relationship and wanted to be friends. This is totally understandable because I was a pretty tough guy to deal with sometimes and she had a ton of stress from school and work.\n\nA few more days go by and she texted me asking if we would still go see her favorite band on her birthday. I seemed kind of against the idea of going together, in which she replied \"you're still a big part of my life and i still care about you, but I can't be in a relationship.\" She also asked me if I had planned on taking another girl.\n\nShe hasn't texted me since then (a little over a week), as she's on vacation with her family in Canada. Since the break up I've realized my flaws in the relationship and truly want to fix it. She also claims she isn't even thinking about other guys. I've forgiven her for what had happened, as I know she's truly sorry and did not mean to hurt me. She has been on Facebook and posted a status containing the lyrics \"Fell down all on my own, I'd rather be an angel with you than alone\". Which made me believe she misses me/wants me back.\n\nI'm not really sure what I should do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "My ex and I broke up after a drunken fight. She wants me in her life, but can't handle a relationship. She may have changed her mind, however I wouldn't know for sure since we haven't contacted each other. I want her back and I'm not sure how to accomplish this."}
{"id": "t3_2i60fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [23 M] nearly 3 years, I want to get engaged, he hasn't even thought about it.. **tl;dr**: Boyfriend isn't ready to propose, I am. Help!", "post": "I know we are young, but all of our friends are either engaged, married or already have kids. We've known each other since high school and have been together for nearly 3 years. I've known that I want to spend the rest of my life with him for over a year now. When I \"casually\" brought up the topic of taking the next step he said he wants to be with me for a long time? (what does that even mean) but doesn't know when anything in our relationship would change. \n\nI'm getting frustrated and get sad every time another one of my friends gets engaged/married. I don't want to be \"that girl\" with the ultimatums or the nagging. I've tried talking to him about it a second time but all I got was a within 5 years response before the conversation was shut down. I'm too scared to bring it up again because I don't want to push him away or pressure him. But, I can't wait 5 years - I'll go insane. \n\nAny advice would be amazing! About broaching the topic - if to do this again at all....or even how to get him to realise that I'm wife material.", "summary": "My boyfriend won't talk about getting engaged and I'm too scared to bring it up and I'm losing patience."}
{"id": "t3_2hegqu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I (23 M) go ahead and ask the \"other girl\" (25 F) out after my breakup?", "post": "I recently got out of a two year relationship with my ex.  Our relationship wasn't so great.  I had somewhat of an emotional affair with a woman at my office, and while we never became physically intimate, I talked with her about everything, in ways I probably shouldn't when I was in a relationship.\n\nAnyways, my girlfriend and I broke up with her 5 days ago, but we've been separated for like a month.  She wanted to take a month break, I assumed she was hooking up with another guy (and she did) so I told her the break was permanent.\n\nWould it be in poor form to try and start officially dating this other girl?  I feel like I have to make my move fast, I know another one of our co-workers has a crush on her, and I don't want to give her any reason to agree to go on a date with him (I don't want him asking her out to lunch or anything).  We're pretty much together every day since I broke up the ex, and we hooked up 2 days ago for the first time.", "summary": "Just ended a relationship a week ago (although technically we were on break for a month).  Is it okay for me to make it official (telling everyone)?"}
{"id": "t3_2l5cg5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bestfriend is obssessing over an ex and I don't know what to tell her", "post": "My bestfriend (let's call her Sally) and co-worker broke up with her boyfriend (another one of my bestfriends) to date one of their mutual friends \"Kevin\" because she thought that she would be happier that way. She wasn't at all. \n\nNeedless to say her now-ex was furious. And, shortly after the break-up if you even mentioned his name she would go crazy and want to know what you were talking about.\n\nIt has been almost a year and she has made multiple attempts to contact him, and he blew them off. Her password for work is his initals still. Which we are required to change every 60 days.\n\nRecently,  \"Becky\" another mutual friend  of all of us (very small town) broke up with her boyfriend of many years, and \"Sally\" is upset and thinking her ex and \"Becky\" will hook-up.\n\nI've tried to tell her to calm down and stop obssessing over him so much, but I am very blunt about it and \"Sally\" has been very cross with me lately. I don't know what to tell her...\n\nThanks for reading. Fake names to protect friends' real names.", "summary": "friend is obssessing over ex and thinks friend will hook-up with ex."}
{"id": "t3_27uvcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me 22/F I have issues asking someone if they're interested in me.", "post": "Original story: \n\nI was hoping to have a different update than this but here it goes. Backstory of this point in time: I sometimes see my dating interest but since this is the last week of classes, next week being finals week, I have this amount of time to see him and tell how I feel. Well, I haven't been able to run into him yet this week. I hope to run into him, if not then well, I have to wait for him to text me first. Ironic timing, my cell service is dead until I can get more service, which might not be for a while. Awesome. \nNow here comes the plot twist...\nToday, there was a guy who is one of my roommate's friends that asked me on a date. For the record...holy mother of god, that was totally not expected. This guy I've only hung out with him 3 times and he's closer to my age (he's 21). He's cool but I'm not sure if he's dating material for me. It's not that he's not attractive, he's attractive in his own way, I don't feel as connected with him as much as the interest. But I wouldn't mind going on date with him for the sake of being single. However, I have to go out of town this weekend so I can't make the date anyway, and now I have no way of telling him that I can't make it. Double awesome. So now what? I'm kind of stuck. This has never happened before.\n\nOne last thing: The last time I saw my crush\nwas last week before I posted. I was waiting for the bus talking with roommate's friend. The second he says hey how's it going, Que the crush. He kind of butts in on the conversation but not in a rude way. Then Friend leaves after that. My crush asks: who's the guy? I told him that he is a friend. He looked at him with a weird face as friend left then kind of stayed quiet till parting ways.", "summary": "Plot twist-guy who I dunno asks me out on date that I cannot attend to even though I was planning to tell the dating interesting that I liked him. Help."}
{"id": "t3_dd0tv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is a fucking slob. Advice please?", "post": "I'm a college student in a small double room. I've been living with my roommate for almost a month, and she is still not unpacked. There are constantly dirty dishes, especially in the \"shared space.\" She has no respect for my space as her dishes, toothbrush, cleaning brush, hairdryer, i.e. you name it, end up on my side of the counter and room. There's dirty laundry everywhere, and last time I came back after going home for the weekend, the A/C was turned completely off and the room smelled like ass. I have asked her nicely and repeatedly to clean, but she keeps giving me excuses, like she's tired, sick, doesn't want to, will get to it, etc. What pisses me off the most is that she insisted on taking the bottom bunk and uses that as an excuse to trash the area around it, including the ladder I have to use to get into bed. \n\nAlso, I'm finding it difficult to live with her in general. I have a ton of schoolwork and, and she skips 60% of her classes for any reason she can find and sleeps in until 3 or 4 in the afternoon. Consequently, when I get back from class and want to work on things, I can't because the lights are off and I can't make too much noise. \n\nReddit, I need your help please. I'm considering talking to my RA, but I'd rather get it resolved without having to go behind her back. I'd almost rather just switch rooms altogether to get this shit handled. I can't stand it anymore and am worried I will get sick from the room being disgusting. I'll post pictures if you guys want em.", "summary": "my roommate is a lazy slob. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2v1uq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my [21 M] few months, She Broke it off don't know if interested of playing games", "post": "Ok I met this i liked girl and I asked her if she wanted to go out and asked her number. she said she doesn't hang out but still gave me her number and was kind of rude not outright open rude.\nNext Day she comes to me and apologizes for being rude and whatnot and the fact that she could've handled it better. I said it was ok. Few Weeks later with some flirting I set up a date and she agrees and we go out and it was a good date.\nNext week I ask her out again and she said she was out of town, which i truly believe(looked on her facebook :-)). Then about few weeks I asked her out and she said she was busy and we were texting quite a bit too. Then I ran into her and she kinda ignored me so later I texted her straight up saying if she ever wanted to go out again and she said no. I took it as a straight up answer and never contacted her again.\nFew weeks later I run into her and she kinda flirts and after I start to flirt back she kinda backs off then she flirts again.\nIs she interested or just playing games?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_30uffv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm getting scammed but I'm not sure in what way", "post": "Found a posting on craigslist about a family moving from France to my city and are looking for a highly qualified baby sitter.\n\nHave been emailing back and forth and they said they will arrive on so and so date.\n\nThey requested pictures of me to see what I look like after I got the 'job.'\n\nThey sent a picture of their family. It looked super sketchy. \n\nThey sent a check via USPS for $3,500 and $400 of that was my first check. The rest was to purchase supplies such as a crib, stroller, basically everything the kid needed that they couldn't bring with them. \n\nThe dad said he was moving to my city to help study combustion engines for the EPA? Really odd.\n\nThe dad did all the emailing, never would talk on phone or Skype although I never requested.  \n\nThe check/package  was being tracked online and was sent two-day and said it arrived but never did. Called USPS and said they must have lost it.\n\n10+ days later it shows up. It looks fake. \n\nCall the bank it's issued from and they said it's fraudulent.\n\nWhat are these scammers trying to get?\n\nBy the way this all happened to my girlfriend and not me. She says she doesn't believe she gave them any more info beside name, address and photos. I hope she didn't give her SS Number.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Got sent a fake check for $3,500 to buy supplies for a fake job. What are they scamming me on?"}
{"id": "t3_4ujcxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35 F] husband [36 M] of 5 years, together for 10 years says he is thinking about leaving me", "post": "My husband and I have been together since college. We fell in love quickly, move in together after graduation, and then got married 5 years ago. \n\nI thought we lived a really comfortable life, and I'm not going to lie, after getting married I stopped going to the gym as much and grew a little complacent. Our sex life decreased quite a bit and I gained about 40 pounds, but I thought that was common with all married couples. My husband on the other time, maintained his physique from college, and he always had a high sex drive, so it was tough to keep up with that. \n\nMy husband talked to me yesterday and told me he is moving out the end of the month. He wants a separation and then going on to have a divorce. He says that we have grown apart, I have gained weight, and he wants to see someone who will make him happy. \n\nCan anyone give me advice as to what I can do? He said he wouldn't pursue the divorce till the end of the year, but wanted to live separately starting the end of the month. Anyone ever been in a situation like this and then save their marriage?", "summary": "Husband wants to go for a separation and then pursue a divorce by the end of the year. How can I save my marriage?"}
{"id": "t3_oq89h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My bro is being bullied for no reason, and we are not sure how to handle this. Reddit, I need your advice.", "post": "So this all started earlier last month when my bro came home in quite the sour mood. This past week, he was furious. This is his first year in public high school, and we thought he was really liking it, but over time it has become apparent that kids there are making it hard for him to fit in. By kids, I mean specifically those on the wrestling team. He joined because he wanted to be a part of the sport and try something new. According to my mom, the kids have been excluding him from practicing in their groups, and making fun of him for practicing with a disabled kid on the team (since there is no one else to practice with because he is being excluded). \n\nThen this week comes. Some group of kids started asking him his nationality. He gave the right answer and said American, but they persisted. Finally he said Israeli (because our ancestors are from that region). Just so happens one of the kids is Muslim, and started arguing with him about his belief on who has claim to the land. Honestly, there is no reason to go into the Israel-Palistinian conflict, so please leave that part out of the responses. I know a majority of Reddit is pro Palestinian, but I am sorry to inform you our belief is not that. My bro is not looking to start a fight with any of these guys, but when he came home this past week he said he was ready to knock one of them pretty hard. \n\nReddit, what are your suggestions/advice? I am really trying to find out what to do before thing escalate to something horrible. At this moment, my mom is going to talk to the coach to see what he can do, but if I know coaches, they usually don't do shit except yell at the bullies once. That, in turn, gives the kids another reason to pick on the kid being bullied.", "summary": "My bro is being picked on for no reason by the wrestling team he is on, and I want to know how to handle it before things get out of hand."}
{"id": "t3_1k41b6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] I sometimes get upset when my girlfriend [22/f] isn't in the mood. How can I control it?", "post": "The other day, my girlfriend and I were making out and grinding near the pool. She came, but lost interest after and said that maybe we would try again later. When she wasn't in the mood later, I got upset and felt personally rejected. I said some things implying that I expected us to have sex after what we started in the pool. It was a guilt trip, and I feel terrible about it\n\nThis started a big argument about how I made her feel pressured to have sex and I crossed her personal boundaries. I've never touched her inappropriately, but she said the things I was saying reminded her of her ex-boyfriend who tried to rape her.\n\nWe live together, but today she said she feels uncomfortable around me and wanted me to leave for the weekend. \n\nI'm sitting in a motel room writing this because she doesn't deserve to feel that way. I'd never want to make her feel uncomfortable. I love her and I want to be with her the rest of my life.\n\nHow can I make it up to her and keep this from happening in the future?", "summary": "My girlfriend feels pressured by me when I get upset that she's not in the mood. What can I do to make her feel comfortable and prevent this from happening in the future."}
{"id": "t3_305bic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19m] dont have motivation to improve myself.", "post": "Today i got to conclusion that i live for others, as in i am happy when i do something for others and help others. \n\nI should love myself and try to improve myself, but i just dont see why should i try or do anything. As in i don`t see reason to live.\n\n I was thinking that living for parents and later for my kids is right, but after talking to friend i came to conclusion that i should live for myself not for anyone esle. It might be my past belief that i should live for someone else, that now tortures me, but still i am very confused why should i do anything? Whats the point of anything? Am i on path of redemtion?\n\nI hope someone understod.", "summary": "I do not see reason to love or improve myself. Any books there for broken one?"}
{"id": "t3_3onmp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Gf [18F] broke-up with me [19M] She went away for college and felt the communication was lacking.", "post": "Okay, she's heading to college. She goes to college, its about 8-9 hours away by car.  We talk a few and miss each other. Everything is going good. 10 months in all is good, my first relationship too.\n\nOne day, we're skyping and she's telling how she thinks that some guy like her, I joke around and she says its serious and that I should do something about it. I tell her to avoid him. few minutes pass, she sees the guy, he comes up and kisses her on the cheek. I go berserk, mad that she didn't bother to move or avoid it. I was infuriated, I said things I shouldnt have said. Saying she didnt see it. And from that, I started talking to her less and avoiding her calls/skype. She kept wanting to see me but I was a afraid that it might happen again. Doubts began to fill my head, is she cheating? is she being reckless? etc etc. It was eating me alive. It came to the point where convos became dry. I started coming to my senses and wanted to surprise her for our first kiss anniversary. But before I could she called, i picked up and she said she couldnt do it. The distance from me and lack of communication was giving her a breakdown. I was learning how to program and use photoshop to make something nice for her, but now I don't know what to do.\n\nevery time we a have a argument, we talk it through and come to our senses. But this one, I acted too slow and now I want her back. She tells me that I should of tried when she tried. She wants time away from me but wants to maintain our friendship. I can't keep up with that.", "summary": "We skyped, some dude that likes her kisses her check, i go berserk and ignore her for a few and she breaks up with me."}
{"id": "t3_qrn7d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "BofA \"upgraded\" my credit card and changed the account number without my consent. Anyone else have this experience and really annoyed by it?", "post": "I received an email from BofA stating that my credit card account number was changed and to call customer service to find out why. My initial though was fraud so I logged into my online account and noticed that my credit card service  had changed, so I called customer service. The customer service rep told me that a few months ago I was sent a package regarding my credit card being \"upgraded\" and in order to deny the upgrade I had to mail back the package saying that I didn't want the upgrade. So basically, my absence of consent to the upgrade was actually a consent to upgrade the card. At this point, even if I change my card back to the old service, my account number is forever changed. I will need to log into any websites that automatically charge my BofA credit card and update it with new information.  Anyone else have this done to them? Is this really legal and if so, is this really common amongst banks to do this? \n\nTo clarify, I'm waiting to get the card and ToS to see if the bank is really trying to screw me or if this really is a beneficial \"upgrade\" to my services.", "summary": "I didn't deny a credit card upgrade via mail and therefore was upgraded to a new credit card and account number. My absence of consent equated to consent."}
{"id": "t3_3d3tup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] rekindled a friendship with my Ex-gf [20F] of 1 year after 6mos NC. Now I want to go NC again, amicably. Is this possible?", "post": "We fell hard and tried to make a relationship work through difficult odds. Age, LDR, etc. After about a year, we were fighting and stressed and it wasn't a healthy situation. I still cared for her deeply when I broke up with her. \n\nWe remained friends at first, but that was strained so we went NC. No discussion really, mutual understanding after some deep talks. \n\nAfter about 6 months of NC she reached out to confront me after hearing I may have cheated on her. I told her I didn't, (true) and she knows I'm telling the truth. We strike up a conversation and actually warm to each other. We've been friendly for the last 3 months now. Ironically enough she lives less than a mile from me now.\n\nHere's my problem: this friendship is striking up feelings for her that I don't want to follow up on. It's like having a crush, but I do not want to, or have any intention of attempting another relationship at this point. We are friends, and I care for her deeply, but it's starting to affect me poorly.\n\nShould I tell her how I feel and why I want to disconnect? Or should I just let the relationship fade naturally? Any experience/advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Went NC with ex-GF, became friends again, now I want to go NC as amicably as possible. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3mo7s3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] feel like cheating on my current BF [22 ] of 2 years and I'm feeling conflicted.", "post": "before everyone starts judging me and hating on me please help me. I don't want to hurt his feelings, I love him very much and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. \n\nThere is only one problem, he is the only man I've ever been with. I was a virgin when I met him and he is the only person who has ever fuked me (he is pretty good). I just can't help and wonder sometimes what other men are like? Did I fully experience my own sexuality ? Is there more to pleasure and all those mind blowing orgasms? In fact, I orgasm in my sleep thinking of other women and men...\n\nI sort of hinted a threesome with a girl and a guy but he does not want any threesomes whatsoever! Also, he is not into sex as much I am, sometimes it seems to me that he'd rather masturbate than have me. What do I do ? I feel like I'm slowly losing my sexual attraction towards him...all these feelings combined make me want to secretly get a sexual partner to satisfy my need but of course continue dating him. I know this sounds terrible, I just love him so much and I don't know how to approach this issue since I don't want to hurt his feelings and I need my sexual desires satisfied. He makes me  feel unwanted and unattractive (im pretty decent looking tho ;) ) . In addition to that, I want to see what other men are like in bed, I'm very curious... And no porn doesn't cut it, I wants real life actions", "summary": "Curious about other men's dicks tha I'd like to fuk but I have a bf whom I love and I can't risk losing him. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_4tkp34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reconnected with an Ex-GF of mine after 5 years.", "post": "So, when I was 22 years old I met a foreign exchange student who was from Ukraine. She came to the States to work for the summer and get some job experience overseas, something her college encouraged doing I suppose.\n\n Regardless, I liked her, she liked me and we hit it off. She eventually left to go back to Ukraine 3 months later, and we continued to talk but at some point she never replied back to me. I got the hint and did my best to let her go, as tough as it was. \n\nI'm not naive, I understand it was a summer fling and that it wasn't meant to last. However a few days ago, I was extremely melancholy  and I had a bit too much to drink as well. I signed into the email I used when she and I would write back and forth to each other and I read all the letters we wrote. \n\nThis is the part I wanted to share, I sent her an email, now I didn't expect to get a reply of course. I was just melancholy about our relationship, and alcohol tends to make a man reminisce. \n\n She replied. And basically said things along the lines that she was young and regrets hurting me. She realizes what she did and that I was her first love, her true love. That she wanted to continue to write to each other if that was OK with me, I haven't spoken to her in 5 years and I didn't expect to get a response from her.\n\n Now I'm opening up old wounds and I don't know how to handle this situation, I realize I brought this upon myself but what can I do? I certainly didn't expect this sort of response from her, if any at all. How should I handle this? I definitely still have feelings for her, but I am not a fool to assume anything could come of it.", "summary": "Summer love with Exchange student from ukraine, got drunk and emailed her after not talking for a while, she replied, don't know what to think."}
{"id": "t3_1enp7x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My mom [50/F] hates my sister-in-law [24/F]...", "post": "It all started when my brother and sister-in-law began dating over six years ago. Initially, she didn't know what she wanted and really led him on. They dated and broke up several times. She dated his best friend, dated other guys, and didn't talk to him for long spans of times during which they were broken up. \n\nEventually, they both got over this, figured out what they wanted, and dated for another few years. During this time, they both moved across the country from both families and pursued challenging careers that pushed them to strengthen their relationships. About a year and a half ago, they got married. Obviously, my brother has gotten over all of the issues they had. My mom didn't.\n\nMy mom is so negative towards my sister in law, and any time her name is brought up, she always speaks in an accusatory tone. We'll call my brother Kevin and my sister in law Janette. My mother will say things like, \"Kevin moved because of her. He would have stayed closer, but she made him more\" or \"Janette must hate children, and she is forcing him not to have any\" or even things as petty as \"She likes her parents better than us and that's why they won't stay at our house during the holidays.\" \n\nI like my sister-in-law. I respect her, and I feel like my mother needs to accept the fact that they are married and act with each other first in the other person's mind. Every time I defend her, my mother responds with another negative comment. If I defend her more, my mother will either a) get more upset or b) give me the silent treatment.\n\nI hate hearing someone I respect being verbally antagonized without even being given the chance to defend herself (considering she lives far away). Despite telling my mother that I don't like hearing such comments, she continues. \n\nShould I continue to step in and defend her or should I pursue another course of action? I don't know how to deal with this situation. Help?", "summary": "My mother constantly belittles my sister-in-law who cannot defend herself. She becomes more upset when I defend her or present a different opinion. How should I handle this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_314gyn", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Letting my car take one for the team", "post": "This morning, I went to go park in my usual spot at work (2nd to last spot in the row) when I find that the person who parked in the very last spot has managed to park not within the lines, not even within the double line, but partially in my spot. If it had been a large car in a compact spot, this would have been annoying but ok. But it was a compact car in a fairly large spot...with nothing on the other side but a single line denoting that yes, this is a parking spot.\n\nSo, I roll my eyes at their inability to understand lines and park my  little (new) car in my spot. And then I throw it in reverse and re-park as close as possible to their driver's side that I give them enough room to crack the door open (and possibly bang into my passenger side, but whatever, it's worth it), but not enough room to actually get in the car. \n\nHave fun crawling in from your passenger side after a 9+ hour workday, dickweed.", "summary": "People can't park so I take my early morning grumps out on them."}
{"id": "t3_qeh9d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Adderall users of reddit: How the hell do you people fall asleep?!", "post": "I've been using Adderall relatively infrequently to help with my studies for the past 2 years, and while it makes a world of difference, I can never fall asleep at night regardless of what time I took it.  Perfect example: yesterday I took 1 30mg XR at 1:00 PM, waited for it to kick in, and studied until about 1 or 2 AM when I finally felt confident that I was prepared for my exam.  Now, it's 9:25, I still haven't fallen asleep yet, and my exam is in 40 minutes.  Is there some kind of secret as to how to avoid this that doesn't involve not doing it?", "summary": "Adderall helps me a lot with schoolwork, but it makes me an insomniac.  Is there a secret that could help me sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_1wtypg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25/F] best friend [27/F] is in an abusive relationship, how do I be the most supportive friend?", "post": "They live together, it's a relationship that moved too quickly (mostly his doing). They've been separated by the police once and are moving through court stuff. Until the court stuff is finalized the social worker/councillor can't see them together for his anger issues. As far as I know the abuse has been 98% not physical. The one time it was she called the police. \n\nwhen she called the police she said it's over, I stayed with for a couple days and then her sister took over. When she said she's going to try again with him I said I'm out. I can't ever be around him, he can't exist in my life. \n\nThe other night after a few drinks she spilled, it's not any different then before. In fact it sounds worse. She expressed some feelings that sounds similar to depression. She isn't perfect, I could see how they bring out the very worst in each other but for now what i worry about most is her getting out of this relationship. \n\nI'm struggling to find my balance of being in a place where I'm not being her therapist (a role I struggle not to take on in general), being there for her but not around him. I don't want to be caught in a cycle where I help her break up with him multiple times, but I don't want her to be alone. Maybe I'm being selfish.. I want to make identifying that she should leave him and the action of leaving him easier, but I don't want to make being with him easier.", "summary": "Best friend is with a mostly emotional/psychologically abusive guy, I want to be for her the best I can be without making staying with him easier"}
{"id": "t3_35fhx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24,F] boyfriend [26] of almost a year very rarely kisses me... should I be concerned?", "post": "Yes, we have talked about it.  He will give me quick pecks no problem, but we have never, ever \"made out\".  Kissing is super intimate for me and I can never get him to do it longer than 3 or 4 seconds before he is trying to get away.  \n\nHe claims (and I believe him) that he has a deviated septum and it makes it hard for him to breathe when kissing me, and that he finds kissing to be a bit unnatural and weird anyways.\n\nDoes this seem legitimate or like something I should push?  He is very introverted and not very intimate anyways, so it just sucks that I can't even really make out with him.  Maybe I'm being childish... but that's why I'm asking y'all.  Thanks!", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't kiss me often or for very long because he doesn't like it, but I do.  Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_2hmhgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[19 F] 4 years, tough breakup/thoughts of suicide.", "post": "Let me explain before poppin the pills. I met this girl once, while visiting a town 2 hours away from mine. I instally fell in love and so did she. We were happy. In fact, it's the best thing I ever had. She's beautiful, smart, anything I can ask for basically. I'm ~21 years old now, 4 years later, having gone through college, I still need to go to the army. I am very very poor, and until recently I could only visit her once in a while.\nLately I got myself some money through unethical ways and decided to see her. I travelled to her town and went to her house.\nShe tells me that we need to break up. Because she can't stand not seeing me everyday anymore, and she's stopped wanting me because of that.\nI told her that i'll do anything i'll sell everything I own to rent a place close to her. But she said it's too late. While the door is still open, she didn't wanna give me false hopes.\nWe spent the night and had a few kisses, me crying mostly, and at some point we had sex. I saw that she wanted me but she said it was only for the brief moment and she regretted it because it gave me hopes.\nLater I left. I came home. I've been crying ever since. I dont want to eat I don't want to sleep. The only reason i'm writting this before I kill myself is because I have a small sister (10) and I love my mother.\nI know people will say that she's probably found someone else but while I thought so too, deep down I know it's not so. She told me so and I believe her.\nGive me your best before I jump on the pills.", "summary": "I lost the love of my life because of financial issues and i'm going to kill myself."}
{"id": "t3_3vmzaw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I have a crush on someone but not ready for relationship", "post": "I have a really big crush on this person. I just can't get them out of my mind. I only see them in extracurriculars a few times a week and always get excited when I do see them. I look at their pictures on social media all the time and get all giddy just thinking about them, but I'm just not ready for a relationship. I've never been in a relationship before and I feel like it would take a lot of my time and energy that I would like to put into other things. Also I'm in highschool and she's a grade younger then me so I know that the relationship, if we had one, wouldn't matter past highschool. I also don't know that much about her other than some surface level things and feel that my idealization of her in my mind will just lead me to disappointment.", "summary": "My heart says to ask her out, but my brain says to keep in a secret"}
{"id": "t3_xfcqj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want  to be a sex slave normal?", "post": "I'm a southern black female, and I've always wanted to be a sex slave. Not the simple \"Do what I say, slave, or I'll smack that ass\" but \"Do what your master says, or I'll have to whip you[etc.]\"(not a leather whip, there are gentle ones you can buy). I know the \"Sex slave fetish\" isn't out of the norm, but I'm black, and I've only ever dated white males, I only know one guy comfortable with actually doing it. I'm totally comfortable in my skin, I have nothing against my own race. I just really like history, and the fact that white men had hot erotic affairs with their slaves turns me on. I want to go all out, attire acting(but the sex will be real <3).Is it normal that I regularly fantasize about this?", "summary": "I'm a black female in the south, comfortable with my race and sexuality and I want to be a sex slave to a white partner. Is this normal/okay?"}
{"id": "t3_er1r1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do you love Julian Assange?", "post": "I know that freedom of speech and press is important. As I member of the United States military, I am completely aware of the freedoms that this great country allows us to have, and how important it is to defend those rights. However, I don't understand why people, especially the people of Reddit it seems, love this guy so much. He wanted information to be free to everyone, which is indeed a noble cause. But not all information ought to be free, I can promise you that. What he did, if I am not mistaken, was simply release a large amount of information, some of which was considered confidential or classified. Bottom line is that he released information that the United States information did not want released. Through one method or another, he stole from the United States government. I'm not saying that some of the information was not important to the people, because I do belief that the government has imperfections. Some of that information ought to be released by the government. But it wasn't. I know some of you think that all information ought to be free, but I'm telling you that just isn't possible. Releasing information like that was extremely naive, as it could potentially harm the relationships between countries. Some information just isn't meant for the public. We elect leaders for a reason. We elect them to lead the people and make important decisions. By electing them, we are handing over some of our power to them. In this case, the government. A world in which all information is free for anyone is a Utopia that just doesn't exist. Not everyone in this world is good. Information can be used for evil, not good. Because this is the case, governments have to classify some information, for the good of the people. Are they always right about which information they classify? No. But stealing from the government and releasing mass amounts of informations is just foolish and dangerous.", "summary": "Complete freedom of speech is not possible nor practical, what Assange did does not make him a saint, it makes him naive and a criminal of sorts."}
{"id": "t3_2g235i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at the worst time", "post": "This actually goes back to the first day of classes at my high school. Basically, one of the teachers died over the summer, and as a tribute they made a slideshow-esque video to commemorate her. With the video, they played one of her favorite songs, Over the Rainbow/What a Wonderful World by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole. The first class we went to was Modern History. Anyway, I was talking with my friends, K & C. We're at the back of the class, so I basically could get away with talking with them all I want. One of them mentions a horrible american idol audition (Keith doing Like a Virgin) video, which I've never seen. So K flips out his phone and shows me the video (through earbuds). Here comes the fuckup. I ended up laughing really fucking hard from that video, like out loud in class. I turn around, and of course the teacher's standing right there. Apparently, whilst distracted, she was talking about said hawaiian singer. So there I am with this huge grin on my face, staring right into her eyes. What made this worst is that she happened to be mentioning that the guy died of obesity as I was laughing my dick off. From her view, I was laughing with this fucking stupid smile on my face as she informed us of a hawaiian singer who died of obesity. This was in 9th grade, so she expected us to be as immature as fuck. Wanna know who the teacher was? The fucking dean of students. Needless to say, that was the last time I ever got sent home for fucking around.", "summary": "laughed my ass off as the dean of students told us about Israel Kamakawiwo'ole's death from obesity, nearly suspended."}
{"id": "t3_1moshk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do you break the awkwardness with someone?", "post": "There's this guy in my class who I've taken interest in over time but it seems like things are just getting more and more awkward. He sits across from me in class but we don't talk. During our lecture, I can see that he stares a lot. Im assuming at me since theres only guys around where i sit so i dont think hes staring at them. I get nervous when I'm being stared at so I pretend I don't notice. \n\nAt first, when he would walk by me in lab, he would look me right in the eyes. Now, he passes by really close but he looks down. At first, my instinctive reaction was to ignore him and act indifferent because I'm so shy so he would stare more and act more confident. I started to show more interest because I think I made a previous crush hate me because I would act indifferent towards him.  So I dont stare during the lecture but I glance at him more often during our lab. When he looks at me, I quickly look down. Also, he's around where I am a lot of the time. He passes by through where I am, even if the other way is simpler. And he puts his things like his binder ( in which he wrote his schedule on) closer to my side of the table. \n\n He's not a shy guy. I hear him talk to his lab partner and he talks alot. He's quite interesting. I'd like to talk to him but I don't know what to say. I have no excuse to talk to him. In the class, everyone pretty much talks to each other but I just can't talk to this guy.  So it seems like I have entered that vicious cycle once again, where no one talks, we just glance at each other and sulk in our awkwardness and nothing happens. How do I break out of that when it feels so awkward?", "summary": "I am interested in a guy and I'm so shy so I don't talk to him. We just glance at eachother and things get more and more awkward by the day."}
{"id": "t3_54hvd3", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Gifts for attendants", "post": "It's getting close and I'm taking the time now to freak out a little over minor details. We are having a super casual wedding with 83 expected guests (we're spending less than 3000 including venue/food/rings) and we both have attendants. I got my bridesmaids either a diamond candle or piece of jewelry and some Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin bath & body works lotion, lip gloss, and Lovespell perfume from VS. The groomsmen/women are getting really nice knives. Flower girls/junior bridesmaid are each getting a toy. They're all taken care of.\n\nThe person I am at a loss for a gift is my aunt. She is coming to the wedding as a guest and is taking photos at our request (the reason being that we can't afford to shell out the cash for a professional photographer because I am unemployed and we are moving to another state the weekend after the wedding) and my aunt enjoys taking pictures as a hobby. She has a really nice DSLR, and the photos that she took at my sister's wedding are better than the ones that the professional took.", "summary": "my aunt is acting as photographer and will not let us pay her. I'm inviting her and her family to the rehearsal dinner, and I'm thinking a nice bottle of wine. What else would you suggest?"}
{"id": "t3_4hfa46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend [22M] is getting close with one of my friends [21F], and it's making me uncomfortable.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months but I've known him for longer than that. When he met my friend Jessica (that's not her real name), he really hit it off with her. Ryan (fake name) is kind of a closet nerd like Jessica, so when they met, they started talking like 2 old friends. This wouldn't bother me except for the fact that they've gotten a bit too friendly with each other. If we go out with a group of friends, he ends up talking to Jessica a lot more than me. I knew he liked her when I mentioned us going out with friends, and he asked if Jessica was going to be there.\n\nI've already talked to him about it, asking him if he likes Jessica, but he told me that she's just a good friend that shares the same interests as him. I would believe him 100%, since he doesn't text, talk to her, or hang out with Jessica without me being there. The thing is that on top of having the same interests, Jessica is his \"type\", both mentally and physically. I asked if he was physically attracted to her, and he answered yes. I wasn't thrilled about that and he's honestly the first boyfriend to treat me right so it really hurt. But he reassured me that he's not a cheater and he likes me. I know he's telling the truth because he even showed me his texts with Jessica, and it was nothing more than typical \"where are you?\" texts you get at bars when someone gets lost. I would never ask to go through his phone, so he showed me voluntarily.\n\nI don't want to be that crazy clingy girlfriend who's paranoid about her boyfriend cheating, but I can't help but feel that something isn't right either. What do I do?", "summary": "BF is getting closer and is attracted to my friend, but is not cheating. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2lkjbs", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "21 Year old Male Being financially crippled from past mistakes and choices. What are my options?(UK)", "post": "Hi financial people of reddit!\nI am am 21 year old male living with parents in the UK. I work full time, and I also work on sundays in a pub. Sounds great right? \u00a312000 is roughly the amount of debt I am currently in. I earn \u00a314000 a year. however my outgoings are around \u00a31200 a month, that more than I earn after tax. My loans are too much, I have 3 credit cards. And I have had to resort to 4 payday loans, and i have a personal bank loan of \u00a34500 (I have paid 1000 off over the past year). \n\nSo heres what I have done so far; I have cut all my cards up about 2 months ago. I have really tried bnot to gamble (one of my problems before) I dont get any food at home form parents, but I have tried not to buy anything to eat. My paretns are well off by the way, but they simply don't care, I just live under the roof, we dont get on great and I owe them money too, (total debt is probably about 17000 if you include them).\n\nI am a strong minded guy, I dont go out and drink, and I dont know how the F*** im in this situation. I wish they taught stuff like this at school How NOT to fuck it up at an early age. I am breaking down, really dont know what to do in this endless spiral. I cant even afford to fill my car up to get to work now.\n\nWhat can I do guys? Get one of those companies to write off my loan? what will that mean? Will I be able to buy a house in the future? what are my other options? I have already applied for night work, but no luck there, Just stuck with my 8-18:30 job then behind a bar on sundays.", "summary": "IN 12k debt, need help to get out as im struggling day to day, my job isnt enough what do I do? (and to top it off I hate my job!)"}
{"id": "t3_uhh48", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "What now? (120lbs down, and out)", "post": "I believe that it's proper reddiquette to announce I'm on a throwaway account. This of course is due to the large amount of redditor friends that I have. Anyway, I'm down 120lbs (310 to 190) since this time last year, and I'm starting to get to the point where I felt more comfortable as a fat guy. I've been fat my whole life, ever since I was a kid, and right now I weigh less than I did when I was 12 (I'm 28 now). My point is, I'm used to being fat, and getting looks for it, but now people are looking at me for a different reason. \n\nHere's my problem, I can't see bringing anybody home to this. I look better, loads better in fact, but really only when I am clothed. As soon as I strip you would see my deflated tits, love handles, and a tummy that looks like I tried to break the octomoms record. I have been lifting weights for the last few months, and I am definitively seeing improvements in my muscle mass, and strength. I'm doing pull ups for the first time in my life (remember, I was a fat kid too), and very legit push ups too. \n\nIt sucks improving so much, and still feeling like a fat piece of shit. I know that I don't have very much more to lose, but I feel like my body is beyond repairable. I'll be able to get it better than it was, obviously, but I feel like I'll never look normal. \n\nSo here is my question reddit; What can I do about the lose skin on the back of my legs, the spare tire that could fit a semi truck, the remainder of my man boobs, the gobble that formed out of my chins, what I can only assume is a 90 year old mans ass? Is there any hope, or should I just learn to deal with this just as I did being fat?", "summary": "I've lost 120lbs, and I feel even worse about my appearance than I did before. Also, I need help with the aftermath of losing so much weight so fast."}
{"id": "t3_4fy130", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Bridesmaids who don't like dresses", "post": "Hello fellow wedditers! I have a question for those of you who are not big dress people or who have/are bridesmaids who chose to forgo dresses.\n\nI have 4 bridesmaids, one of which hates dresses and would not be comfortable in one. Although it has been suggested by my mum and friends to just ask her to wear a dress, the thought of asking her to be uncomfortable/unhappy at my wedding is as unappealing to me as much as it is her. She is a very good friend of mine and means a lot to me and I wouldn't ask her to do something she is uncomfortable with unless it was absolutely necessary and in this case it is not. If a crazed murderer needed her to be in a dress or I get axed then we might go there, but that isn't happening so a dress for her is a no-go. I did speak to her about the plan for the others (getting married in a warm country in August, they are all very pro-dress) and she said that she appreciates not being forced to wear a dress and is happy to wear a suit or whatever the groomsmen are wearing. I'm happy, she's happy, everyone else can go do one (except my SO, who couldn't care less what anyone wears).\n\nSo, my question is, is there any way I can offer/create a way that her suit will be a bridal party suit/outfit or is it best just to let her blend with the groomsmen? She is happy either way as long as she isn't in a dress, but neither of us can come up with any creative solutions besides her just being in the same thing as the groomsmen. I thought maybe a blouse in the wedding party colour (silver/grey) and no jacket, but I'm not sure how that would work or if it would look weird. Any suggestions? Any dress alternatives? We discussed wedding armor and lederhosen (why I love this fine woman!), but are open to all and any suggestions. Feminine is also not an issue, just the skirt/dress bit.", "summary": "Suggestions for dress alternatives that aren't a suit?"}
{"id": "t3_3cvpm3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend(?) [20 F] and her Squad", "post": "So I'm a college sophomore in Cali and have a complicated situation. Recently I befriended a group of girls, and took the girl I was initially friends with (Marta) to a few themed date parties on campus. We both had fun, and I avoided hooking up because I viewed our relationship as more of friends than anything romantic, and didn't want to lead her on.\n\nAt one of these parties my friend, Jim, brought Marta's best friend, Tina. Tina and I talked for a while and one day, after agreeing to discuss it the night before, she texted me about my relationship with Marta. I was honest with Tina, who insinuated that Marta was into me. I discussed the situation with Marta, who was very understanding about me just wanting to be friends. \n\nFast forward a couple months, Tina and I have become semi-close, and one nights we were walking back from a bar. She proceeded to be very flirty, and told me I should try to hook up (make out) with girls more often (missed opportunity right there). Later in the conversation the friend-zone came up, and she said \"you aren't there, but you may end up there\" in direct reference to our relationship. Later on I dropped some subtle hints that I was interested, and got neutral replies back (poor timing with summer approaching). \n\nAt this point, now that she has an idea I'm interested, I'm not sure if I should continue pursuing Tina, or move on. The issue is:\n\n1. Marta is still into me \n\n2. Marta and Tina are really tight \n\n3. Tina tends to be very flirty with guys when she drinks \n\n4. Tina is objectively very attractive, and has many guys (including Jim and another one of my friends who was on and off with her 6 moths ago) obsessed with her\n\n5. I don't want to make a war between Tina and Marta, because I still want to be friends with both of them\n\n6. The rest of Tina/Marta's squad is relatively pretty/cool/single, so I don't want to get a bad rep. in their group based upon how I handle this", "summary": "Marta is into me, I friendzoned her. I am semi-into Marta's best friend (Tina). Don't want to piss off Marta/Tina/their friends  as many of them are also relationship material, or upset my friends who are already into Tina"}
{"id": "t3_1y12h5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Girlfriend [27 F] of 5 years, I feel like our relationship is crumbling", "post": "I've been in a relationship for 5 years, we just celebrated our anniversary last month. I love her or I know I did love her. We've been living together for 4 years now. \n\nI feel like everything is put on me, always. Rent, gas, electric, cable, and any other bill. She doesn't have her license and has never even had her permit we are both almost 30 years old and I have to drive her everywhere. \n\nI think I blame her for everything just as a way to cope with my crushing feeling of never being able to escape from my situation.", "summary": "I feel like I blame my gf for everything since I'm the carry the financial burden of the relationship, What can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_em4ic", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat Has lost a lot of weight/Just peed on our bed today. Help, Please!", "post": "Well, I am not sure how to say this other than what is in my title. My )roughly) 16 month old cat has lost a lot of weight over the past month. We noticed it when we came back home from Thanksgiving and at first thought he was just depressed. He seems to continue to lose more and more weight. Today, he just peed on our bed, something he has NEVER done in the past 16 months that we have had him.\n\nI know the first answer is going to be take him to the vet, but as stupid as it sounds, me and my girlfriend are college students and just cannot afford this at this time. He has his shots updated and he is fixed, but blood tests are just completely unrealistic at this time since I got screwed out of about $1000 in student loans (Long story, for another day).  I am just wondering if anyone has had any similar problems and can recommend some advice for me on what to do. I really do not want to just let him deteriorate and find him dead one morning, and at the same time, I feel so powerless to do anything about it. We love this cat so much, easily the best cat we have ever owned and it is just sad to see this. \n\nAnd to all those who are going to criticize me for owning a pet and not being able to afford vet bills:\nI live in a town where strays are abundant. I have lived in 2 different parts of town and have found easily two (at the least) litters of cats born outside my window/door. I do not let them sit there and die in the cold/rain. I bring them inside and raise them, find them homes then if I get the mother inside as well I get her fixed. We have kept a couple of them, and keep them updated on their shots, but as college students working crappy jobs on odd hours, we just do not have a lot of reserves set aside for a time like this. All of our cats were strays/going to be stray, and we feel we did the right thing to help them. It is just unfortunate that a situation like this had to happen.", "summary": "Read Title!"}
{"id": "t3_1yudmr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] and I [M22] just broke up and I need some advice.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I just broke up recently and I am pretty broken up about it. We had been together for almost 2 years and we moved into a house for university together. We still live in the same house but this is not the problem. We mutually agreed on staying very close friends and this I am incredibly happy for. We had some really truly good times together but it just didn't seem to work out.\n\nMy question is if anyone has any advice for moving on from this situation. I know he will never be mine because he said I am too much of a \"square\" (his words) and he is more spontaneous. I totally agree with him here. I think the reason why I liked him so much was because he was so outgoing and he started to rub off on me. But we need to move on from this. I have trouble opening up to people and right now I am convinced that I will not be able to do it again. This is my first breakup and I was hoping someone here might be able to give me some coping techniques.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I broke up and I am having some trouble coping. Does anyone know anything that they find helpful when going through a breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_2m3qlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] not sure if/how to tell my SO [21F] of almost 3 years that I have been smoking cigarettes behind her back for over 1 year.", "post": "Names changed for obvious reasons. I have been dating Julie for three years. We met in high school, and pretty much kicked it off right away. Went to prom together, family vacations together, etc. I love her like I've never loved any of my past girlfriends and I'm certain we'll get married. \n\nWe have been in a long distance relationship while we both study at university. It's been great, but has had minor issues regarding time conflictions, but nothing that really worries either of us.\n\nI started smoking cigarettes during the summer of last year without Julie's knowing. I figured it would be a short thing and didn't expect it to go on this long. Maybe I was stressed, maybe I just wanted to try it.\n\nBut ever since I have started, I've wanted them out of my life. Julie comes from a traditional Christian family. Her father abuses alcohol and she is mostly against alcohol and other drugs. Especially cigarettes, because who actually likes those things? Aside from smokers like myself...\n\nI am not sure whether to tell her about my addiction. I never smoke around her, or even when I am home for the summer, vacations, or when we are visiting each other. I feel like if I told her, it would make it much easier to quit. But I have no idea what sort of impact that would have on our relationship. She has asked me about it, and I have explicitly lied that I do not smoke. She knows my friends all do.\n\nI have subscribed to r/stopsmoking, and even tried the patch and electric cigarettes. I know I can do it if I put my brain to it, I just don't know whether or not to tell Julie about it.", "summary": "I want to quit smoking, but not sure whether to tell my girlfriend I have been lying to her for a large part of our relationship in the process."}
{"id": "t3_1kamqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf[22] and I[24] keep fighting over small things", "post": "we started dating in January, i actually cheated on my girlfriend with her, now we are together. \n\nwe have known each other for 5 years but she was in a long time relationship that she broke off to be with me 2 months before we cheated.\n\nnow for the recent happenings,\n\nFirst of all she doesnt trust me to hang out with my friends alone because said ex hang outs with them too, we were all friends before any dating happened, so everytime i do hang out with them she questions me about it, she doesnt trust me because she knows i cheated before and says i might do it again even though it was with her.\nShes a bit OCD and were both passive aggressive, so we try to talk about whats bothering us but sometimes we just keep it in and blow up at eachother.\n\nHeres the thing when were not fighting, we have a great, i mean a great time together.\nWere taking a break as of last night, i dont want to end it with her because i do love her, shes just really mean sometimes.\n\nwe have different views on a few things but not anything serious other than abortion, im pro-choice.\n\nif im on m phone for one second, her whole night is ruined and she ignored me (passive aggressive) later shell tell me i was on my phone the entire time we hung out, which isnt true.\n\nshes bothered by the smallest things and throws fits like no other\n\nsome friends have taken notice and asked me why i put up with it.\n\nHelp? Advice? Anything?", "summary": "my girlfriend is really mean and doesnt trust me"}
{"id": "t3_zwz90", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need Advice About Live-In Girlfriends", "post": "I have two room mates, and they both have girlfriends who they are very committed to. They're in the type of relationship I refer to as \"might as well be married\". I've lived in our 3 bedroom house for about two years. One of my room mates moved in a couple months ago, and her girlfriend is over EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. I think since my other room mate noticed this she's decided it's ok for her girlfriend to also be over every. single. night. AND DAY. I pretty much have four room mates now. We all get along extraordinarily well, however they are always acting so god damn couple-y all the time to the point where I feel like the 5th wheel on a double date whenever I'm home.  Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? How should I handle it? It's starting to get extremely annoying feeling like I live with two married couples but I don't know what to say, if anything, without sounding like a bitch. I don't want something like this to affect our friendships but it's really getting to the point where I just can't stand it anymore. One of the couples has talked about moving in together somewhere else, but they haven't made much of an effort at all. I don't want to move because I love this house and it's amazingly affordable for what it is. Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "both of my room mates' girlfriends basically moved in and now I feel like a 5th wheel every single day. What can I do/say without being too confrontational?"}
{"id": "t3_1081zp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(m24) think my newish gf(24) only wants me for sex", "post": "My gf(24) if she can be called that anymore have been together bf(24) for 4 months. I have been friends with her for atleast 14 years and only hooked up with her when we both confessed we have had crushes on each other. Dont get me wrong I love sex she is by far the best I've ever had but all she wants to do is have sex and when Im not around she doesnt seem to want to talk to me or return my texts/calls. Before we did it the first time, she was amazing she was always there for me always a shoulder to lean on. Now she rushes me off the phone or doesnt return my texts unless she knows I'm around long enough to take care of her. Now Ive told her that I dont mind being friends with benefits, but she needs to stop leading me on with saying that she loves me and doesnt want anyone else. Also she flips when I hang out with other girls but again never changes her ways. I really do love her and have always figured she would be the one for me even when we were just close friends, and goddam I enjoy the sex (shes fucking amazing and way out of my league in looks and ability). Basically I just need to know what should I do.", "summary": "New gf(24)/old friend only wants to have sex but doesnt want me(24) to see other people or be with her unless we are fucking. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ozud8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Mother In Law's stealthy insults are getting old.", "post": "While talking to my M-I-L on the phone last night the conversation turns to career days at my Daughter's school.  One of my Daughter's classmates Mother is a pilot for a commercial airline, and when she came in to talk to the kid's she brought packets for each child that included some put together cardboard airplanes.  My M-I-L asked to talk to her Son, and I told her that he was putting together a airplane and explained about career days going on, and that there are some really incredible Moms in our town with examples of a few of the Women that had come in this week.  Well, she responds with \"why don't you go in\" and starts laughing(I'm a stay at home Mom and do some Web Design on the side).  I have learned over the last couple   years to try and divert an insult from her with a question, so I asked \"what would I talk about\" and she said \" you could tell them about your Husbands Job\"  In a couple weeks we are leaving to go to their House for X-mas, and just like every year we stay for 8 days.  I am desperately asking for some techniques to use while we are there.  The asking  a question back has worked pretty well, but she makes me so flustered that I usually either freeze up or jump on the insult bandwagon like I don't care and make fun of myself too.  NOT THIS YEAR!!!!  it's going to be different this year, I am not going to go submissive once again (I'm still pissed off about her telling me last year that I should include pineapple in my diet because it will help with my belly fat)  I remember in Oprah's magazine a couple years ago, there was an article about verbally handling people like this, but I must have accidentally thrown it out.", "summary": "Good comebacks or Technics on handling my Mother In Laws Insults  Thank you!!"}
{"id": "t3_3g08tt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help. I (20F) just saw my recent ex (20M) on tinder and my heart is breaking all over again.", "post": "Okay, I know what you'll probably say about tinder, but I'm honestly just on there because I want to meet people who I may get along with. Anyway, I was swiping through and saw my ex's pic come up. We've been broken up for a month, and I certainly don't want to date him again, but my heart is freaking out right now. He was never on tinder while we were dating as far as I know, and I feel almost personally attacked by this (dumb, I know).  Basically my head is running in circles right now. Please help me get back to a good place, I feel like I might try to do something stupid right now. How do I get my fire back so I can focus on the day?", "summary": "Saw my ex on tinder, and now my heart is aching like it did a month ago when we broke up. My head is reeling and I need your help to calm down. "}
{"id": "t3_rs216", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So...I trapped a centipede?", "post": "There was a common house centipede out in front of my bedroom's door. My sister threw a bucket at me. Slowly, and carefully, I approached it with bucket in hand, and, with caution, slammed the bucket over the insect. Right now, there's a bucket in my indoor hallway with a centipede inside it. For support, I took a gallon bottle of water(thick cylindrical ones) and placed it atop the bucket. Now what? Do I wait for it to suffocate? Or something else? I thought  of taping the bottom of the bucket to the floor with duct tape, then slowly raise the bucket to let the centipede run into the tape. My sister doesn't want to try it. Is there anything else I can do? Advice on a SubReddit to cross-post to for more accurate tips?\n\nImportant info: It's just me and my sister at home. I'm 17 and she's 18. We're both deathly afraid of those insects.", "summary": "Caught a centipede inside a bukkit. I can haz ways to kill it? "}
{"id": "t3_4xmmfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have been dating this guy [23M] for about 4 months. Things are fine, except he's REALLY annoying.", "post": "I can list tons of positive traits about him, but predictably, I feel that the honeymoon period is at an end and there's some things that I'm not as happy to overlook anymore. Insights would be greatly appreciated. \n\nBasically, he's annoying. Like a child might be annoying. We'll be siting on the couch watching the olympics and he decides it's funny to put his cold beer can against my leg until he gets a rise out of me...then he keeps doing it. I ask tell him to stop, and he laughs and keeps doing it. \n\nHe sometimes decides it's funny to tickle me. Not just once in a while, not because he knows I like it, but rather because he knows it annoys me and because he thinks it's funny when I tell him I don't appreciate it. \n\nI haven't really run into this problem before. I have talked to him about it, and it seems like he just doesn't understand how much I don't appreciate this behavior. I'm not sure how to be much clearer. Have any of you experienced this before, either as giver or receiver of annoying, childish behavior from someone who's objectively not a child? What am I missing? Is this a matter of incompatible senses of humor? I'm all ears/eyes for insights.", "summary": "my boyfriend of 4 months had the same sense of annoying humor as my 7 year old cousin and it's becoming a deal breaker. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_11tax0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "would you move back to a state with really high unemployment rate for a mediocre job offer to be able to afford housing, or take a huge risk and live paycheck to paycheck in a state with an average unemployment rate?", "post": "i've been offered a job with my current employer in a state with a pretty bad unemployment rate (10.8%). the job im offered pays decently enough for that state (slightly more than i'm making now) and i do have a few friends/contacts there. the hours will be shitty after a few months, and it's not in a line of business that i want to pursue for good. i'd take it because its safe and guarantees enough to pay rent and bills for a year.\n\nmy other alternative is to take a chance on an interview i have next week for another position with the same company. unknown salary range. it is located in the state i'm in now, which has an ok unemployment rate (8.9%). also not in a line of business that i want to pursue for good, but has a decent schedule. i know very few people in this state, and if i elect to pursue this interview, i must forfeit the previous offer due to conflictions in start dates. however, the second position could offer me a stepping stone for advancement in the future.", "summary": "should i go with whats safe or take a risk and hope i get a slightly more fulfilling job, though its really a decision between a turd sandwich and a giant douche?"}
{"id": "t3_2nl21z", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I (25f) initiate hand holding and kissing with a new guy (23m)?", "post": "I've been friends with this guy (I'll call him Matt) for a little less than a year. We started flirting pretty heavily a few months ago and began hanging out more. I asked him out to dinner and a movie for a first date, and he said yes. We just went on our second date a couple nights ago, and he agreed to be my date to an upcoming formal. Things seem to be going really well so far. \n\nHere's the thing that perplexes me: he hasn't initiated hand holding or tried to kiss me yet. I've only dated two guys before Matt, and both tried to initiate everything very quickly. I'm not certain if it's a sign of disinterest or simply because he is shy. \n\nAnother factor that may be playing a role: he knows I was in an abusive relationship years ago and was raped. It was shared during some bonding time with a few close friends and he was present. I'm not sure if that is making Matt want to take things slow, or he is waiting for me to initiate. \n\nI have no problem talking openly about things, but I know being as blunt as I am tends to make most people uncomfortable. Is it inappropriate to ask why we haven't held hands or kissed yet? Or is it better to simply go for it if he hasn't made a move by the third date? If I should initiate, how do I do it without scaring him off or coming off as desperate?", "summary": "He hasn't made a move and the 3rd date is coming up. Should I talk to him about it, or make the move myself? If I make the move, how do I do it  without coming off as too forward or desperate?"}
{"id": "t3_374y19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] need advice on dating this girl [17F] when its really close to exams", "post": "Hey reddit, I'd like some advice on trying to get a girl. \n\nBasically there is a really cute girl that goes to my school, we've known each other as a general acquaintance for a while. But the last two years (year 12 and 13) we haven't really spoken cause we were in different classes etc. \n\nBut a couple of days ago we both went to the same party and I ended up looking after her when she had drunk a little too much. \n\nBut talking to her for a bit made me start thinking about her. So the next morning I checked she was alright and started talking to her by Facebook messenger. I managed to ask her out for a drink after exams and got her number. \n\nI'd just like some advice on what to do next, it's been one day since I last spoke to her and I don't want to come across as needy but I really want to talk to her. What do you guys think is the best way to approach the situation as a possible relationship. So advice on texting before the date, the actual date, and after I guess. And remember our exams start in about a week. Thank you reddit!", "summary": "could you guys give me some advice on getting close to a girl after a party, and dating, talking etc."}
{"id": "t3_pq03v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What film pisses you off when you watch it? From being inaccurate or for any other reason.", "post": "Mine is Braveheart. I am from Scotland and let me tell you that Braveheart is the biggest pile of Pish I have ever seen  in my fucking puff. \n\nFirst off in the film it has belted plaid. No cunt had this dress back then. They certainly never wore kilts either. \n\nSecond. what seems to be one of the most famous scenes in the film when the Scots charge the English at the battle of bannockburn is utter bullshit too. The English charged the scots. \n\nEven the name of the film is fucking inaccurate. Braveheart refers to something different in Scottish history.\n\nPeople may argue \"oh but come on, it's pretty cool film\". No. It's not. It totally gets everything historically wrong.  My main reason for the hate is so many people I meet say \"cool. You're from Scotland.  I love Braveheart.  I love what I learned about Scottish history from it\"  No I don't love it, it's all wrong. You can take Mel Gibson and stick him up your arse.  Watch Trainspotting if you want a accurate depiction of Scotland. \n\nI could keep rattling off all the bullshittery in this film but I'll not. I'm sure you get my distaste for the film. \n\nRant over.  What films get on your nerves, Reddit?", "summary": "Mel Gibson is a dick."}
{"id": "t3_139raf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I did quite a disservice to a friend and their dogs, how can I make up for it?", "post": "I have a friend in production who was actually working Al Gore's Climate Reality 24 Hour program, and he asked me a few days ago if I could walk his dogs because the nature of the show required him to work from 4:30AM to 3:30PM.  He said he was exploring his options, but on Tuesday I texted saying I'd be available for Thursday.  I never heard back and assumed he didn't need me, and Wednesday night I got booked for freelance work the next day in the morning.  An hour later he calls me to talk to me about walking his dogs the next day.  Long story short, I cancelled on him when he was banking on me and literally he was about to go to bed at 9PM for a 4:30AM calltime.  He got very upset, and I felt very bad for the dogs because I don't think he found an alternative that late and they might have stayed in their cage for a whole dozen-plus hours.\n\nWhat's done is done, but what can I do to make it up to him?  My non-dog-owner mind would say a lot of dog food, perhaps toys, but if you have any better insight I'd be obliged.", "summary": "I pissed off a dog-owner friend and definitely made his dogs very uncomfortable for a day.  How can I make it up to him?"}
{"id": "t3_3zzdtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it strange that I (28m) have only one good friend that I rarely see and a few acquaintances I occasionally hang out with? Could this be some sort of social disorder?", "post": "I don't know what to think, I see a lot of people hanging out together outside, I hear of co workers who hang out with their friends often, it's all over TV people having groups of friends.  Yet I can't seem to make friends.  \n\nI'm starting to realize this is probably not healthy but I'm not sure if I'm being insecure or if I have some sort of a disorder/ social issue. \n\nI hope this doesn't sound like I'm being an egotistical jerk but I'm just filling you in on myself a little bit to paint a better picture for you guys because I'm honestly stumped. \n\n I have a really good job, I'm decent looking and friendly, I've had a few long lasting healthy relationships but I've found that I was never single for very long between each relationship. I think that's defined as a serial dater  \n\nBut I don't know why I can get a girlfriend but I can't make friends.", "summary": "Grown man can't make friends. I think I have some sort of social disorder, possibly just being insecure.  Is that strange?"}
{"id": "t3_1u33xw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my BF [28 M] of four years - maintained a \"platonic\" friendship and everything is upside down.", "post": "A few years ago, I developed a friendship with a guy at my work over common interests. We got on great, until he told me he was in love with me and wanted to leave his gf for me. \n\nI freaked out and didn't talk to him for several months. Over time, he apologized and said he wouldn't say things like that again. So, we became friends again, but not nearly on the same level. We don't hang out inside or outside of work, but we do chat sometimes about random stuff.\n\nLast night my bf and I were on my computer, ad a chat message popped up from the work friend. When I told my bf who he was, naturally and understandably, he flipped out. He says I can be friends with whoever I want, but doesn't trust me anymore because I wasn't open about the situation. He knew about when the guy told me he was \"in love\" with me, but I never told him that he apologized and we continued the friendship. I didn't tell him because I knew he wouldn't be ok with it, and I didn't want to hurt his feelings - which, of course, means I probably shouldn't have maintained the friendship.\n\nThe bottom line is I'm worried about the damage I've caused. I love my bf, and I can't believe how badly I've messed up. I get the feeling he doesn't want to be with me anymore, and I don't know what to do, or how to gain his trust back, if that's even possible.  \n\nI know that if the situation was reversed, I'd feel really upset, too.", "summary": "maintained inappropriate secret friendship and bf found out on accident and is angry with me."}
{"id": "t3_4eh64z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(US, CA) S.S. Disability Benefits Cut Off. What Can We Do?", "post": "Hi all, \nHoping to receive some insight here. My dad receives supplementary social security once a month and yesterday, he did not receive his normal income. Unfortunately, both my parents live pay check to paycheck in terms of living, so this was very, very upsetting to my mom.\n\nWe filed an appeal in 2011 with payments to be continued during this process and yesterday, the reconsideration appeal was denied, thus losing our monthly income. According to the local S.S. office, they say we cannot appeal this decision. However, on the S.S. website, there are 4 stages for appeals, and we had only tried the first one, reconsideration. \n\nThey ruled him ineligible because he is \"no longer\" disabled, based off a two-minute doctor's visit via Social Security, not our primary physician. My dad is an amputee has various health problems, causing him to not be able to work for long periods of time.\n\nWhat can we do to go about fighting this? Is this normal?", "summary": "Dad was cut off from disability social security yesterday after ruled ineligible from an appeal from 2011. Want to fight it but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_vo8a0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the craziest/worst/best thing to happen to you WHILE you're browsing Reddit?", "post": "My roommate's drunk girl of the night came into my room to bullshit. I had 10 tabs of Reddit open, and was browsing as I shot back unenthusiastic conversation.\n\nMy fridge was out of my beer, and the only thing liquid in sight was a bottle with maybe 2 or 3 shots of Black Velvet left. She insisted on downing it AFAP and before all the evil brown liquor had left the bottle, *it happened*. In one swift motion she launched up off my bed and spewed jalapeno and goo in a trail towards my door. \n\nShe runs to the bathroom to finish the deed and comes back with a one word vocabulary; SORRY. This bitch won't **shut up**. I told her to brush her teeth and don't worry about it. As my roommate and I are cleaning up I can hear her with a toothbrush in her mouth saying \"I thought I was a badass, I thought I could handle black velvet.\" I would normally be pissed but this was funny enough to make light of the situation.\n\nI used 2 bottles of Resolve on my carpet, ruined like, 10 rags, and had to change my bed sheet that caught a speck of vomit :(\nI go upstairs with my sheets and throw them in the laundry, and as I'm about to pass the stairs to the kitchen, my roommate opens the door ajar and says, \"Hey, here you go.\" Drunk girl is standing butt ass naked on my stairs with an innocent 'I'm sorry' look on her face, as she plays with her tits a little.\n\nFast-Forward\n\nI'm back in my room comfortably Redditing my life away again when I hear 3 taps on my door, and drunk-girl peeks her head into my room. Her head is down, eyebrows raised, and bottom lip puffed out a little, as she says \"Can I come back when [roommate] falls asleep?\"\n\nI said yes to be nice, but nn sloppiest of seconds.", "summary": "On Reddit, girl pukes in room, cries, it's hilarious. Boobs. Back on Reddit, wants sexy time"}
{"id": "t3_42j0o6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by insulting my friend", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nThis happened just a few minutes ago. Basically, on Facebook, there was some small argument going on between a bunch of friends, nothing really too serious, and everything was A-OK. One of my friends chimes in, and, because this is a thing we do, I immediately start joking. It's just some really joke-y arguments, and everything is still A-OK. This is where the fuck-up happens. He literally typed \"LOL\" in, so I said, \"why do you need to comment that? Did you not get loved enough by your parents?\" He responds completely normally and jokes that that's the case.\n\nThen, he does it again as a joke. In my infinite wisdom I say, \"Jeez, get a father figure if you want attention, because you clearly never had one.\" He then proceeds to message me telling me that his father died of cancer when my friend was 9. Now I feel like the biggest dick in the entire universe, and most certainly am.", "summary": "Told a friend that he didn't have a father figure as a joke, his father turned out to be dead."}
{"id": "t3_3wqjjo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a good Samaritan.", "post": "So I was on my way home this afternoon (Yes, today) and I see a car pulled over with hazard lights on and a lady struggling to lift a spare tire out of the trunk of her car. So I pull over and as I'm getting out of the van I tell the person I'm on the phone with I have to go help this lady and end the call. \n\nThe car had a weird jack, but I got it figured out and tire changed no problem. The person she called for help showed up when I was tightening the last lug nut. So here's the TIFU #1, while I'm wishing her a good day I'm reaching in my pocket for my keys... the van is still running and I know I have a habit of locking the door from the inside as I close it, rather than with the FOB. Locked myself out. \n\nI'm using my mother's vehicle since mine blew up a few months ago, spare key is almost 200 miles away. So I call my Mom to find out what sort of roadside assistance we have, and she tells me she opened the side window the other day but didn't lock the latch. This is a pop out window above the side door of a conversion van. \n\nSince she didn't lock the latch I should be able to pop the window open and unlock from the inside. So I get my fingers under the corner of the window and TIFU #2, I pull. I often \"don't know my own strength\" and this was one of those times because the the whole window exploded in my face. \n\nTrue to form I was calm and smiling throughout all of this, which I mention so nobody assumes it happened because I was frustrated, when the window exploded I was still on the phone and didn't even interrupt my sentence. I am always cool as a cucumber, this was just an honest happy little accident. \n\n[Pics or it didn't happen]", "summary": "Stopped to help a woman change her tire, got a face full of broken glass."}
{"id": "t3_36s21d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a manager where I worked for weed.", "post": "Mandatory this happened a year or so ago.  My \"guy\"'s name was...let's say Frank Power.  Manager's name is Frank Poter.  (names were very close)  I texted something like \"You good on that green man?\"  And immediately after sending the text I saw who I had just texted.  I quickly followed up with, \"my bad man, buddy is supposed to be importing some absinthe...\"   \n\nSeveral hours later I received the response \"no worries man, used to drink that stuff all the time...\" something like that anyway.  \n\nFast forward 5-6 months or so and i'm at his house helping him with his truck (the manager) and out of nowhere he says \"so...you wanna go inside and smoke some really good weed?\"", "summary": "Sent manager text asking for weed, played it off, find out later he smokes weed."}
{"id": "t3_1gwwp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20F] with my Boyfriend,Tyler [21/M] 20 Months, I want to break up, but we live together.", "post": "Tyler and I have been together for over 20 months. We have been living together for four months. \n\nBack ground about me: I suffer from chronic depression and I've tried to kill myself twice. Tyler was the only reason I never killed myself. I would always think about how much it would hurt him. He is the only person I've had sex with. Thats right, he took my virginity. \n\nWhy I want to break up:\nI want to break up because I feel like he isn't treating me right. He has been getting pissed at me because I ask him to do some of the women duties of the house. I've done all the cleaning and all the cooking and if I can't make dinner I order food to make sure he eats. Lately, he gets pissed off and makes me feel horrible when I can't do everything. The other night I asked him make dinner because I had to write a paper that was due in a couple hours. He made me feel horrible. This morning, I asked him to dump the litter box because it was too heavy for me. He walked out of the room and he was pissed. \n\nI don't know if im just looking for reasons to break up. Another reason is because he is the only person that I have had sex with.  I don't want to only have sex with one person my whole life. \n\nWhy I hesitate to break up with him:\nI can't pay my rent. He pays most of it and I can't afford it by myself. I cant be the one who moves out because the only place I have to move into is my moms house. Which is the place my depression started because of my abusive step-dad. I do have a job, but is minimum wage and nobody ever gets a raise. And there is zero options for over time.", "summary": "I want to break up with my boyfriend, but I can't pay rent without him. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_41f49b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Valentines Day First Date", "post": "So on new years eve I went to a bar with my aunt, my uncle, and their friends. I was expecting a boring night with family, the bar was pretty empty. Well long story short I ended up dancing with and making out with this girl all night. I'd grab her ass. She'd over the pants pet my dick.. I knew she wanted it.. She had her own hotel room too. Eventually her siblings decided they had to leave. Before she got on the hotel shuttle I got her number. As soon as I got back to my vehicle I drove over to the hotel. She ended up passing out by the time I got there-several calls, no answer. We talked the next day about her losing her purse then nothing...until I texted her yesterday. I ended up asking her if she wanted to do something on valentines day and she said yes.\n\nNow here is where I need the advice. First \"date\" with this girl on valentines day. I'm certain she wanted me last time, but we were both super drunk. The only things I know about her are her name and that she's 25, (I'm 22 in a week). Now... My goal is to get laid. She might be an amazing girl who turns out to be the love of my life, but all I'm focused on is inserting my tab a into her slot b. Valentines day is usually a romantic day so I'm unsure how much to play it up. If she were my girlfriend or someone I wanted to date, I'd buy flowers and take her out somewhere amazing. As it is, I think dinner and a movie are alright and then I can get a hotel room. I want her, she's expressed interest before, how can I make sure she stays interested? How traditionally romantic should I be? Any general tips?", "summary": "Met a girl and missed an easy chance to have sex. Going to have a first date on valentines day and want to make sure I get it this time. Need tips and advice towards romanticism level and possibly date ideas."}
{"id": "t3_qt0oy", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Which breed is right for my family?", "post": "Hi r/dogs. I am in an odd situation so I was hoping if someone could give me some advice about which dog breed would work best for my family's current situation. Because of certain circumstances, I work during the week but am home for a three day weekend all day. My parents are around all week to look after a dog, but they work full days and are probably not going to be home for at least 6 hours a day at a time. I am willing to devote a lot of time on the weekend for training, but again I will only be there for a couple of days on the weekend. We are looking for a well behaved and affectionate dog that is athletic. We have had labs in the past, but we were also looking into Golden Retrievers, but I am concerned about it not getting enough attention. Thanks for the help.", "summary": "Need breed advice. Parents are around during the week, but work all day, I am around full time on the weekends. Seeking friendly, affectionate, athletic medium/large dog."}
{"id": "t3_1dnz3k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a dumbass and speeding", "post": "This may not top some of the other ones here, but this is a pretty big fuck up for me.  Today my friend and I went on a mini-road trip to a town just over an hour north of here. On the way back, the speed limit is 75 for most of the way, so traffic usually flows at 80-85. So I'm sitting there doing around 85 and I decide I want to hit 100 just for shits and giggles. I waited for a relatively straight stretch with not many cars around, dropped a gear, and went for it. Just before I did it, I told myself that I probably shouldn't and that there's probably going to be a cop somewhere with my luck. Right as I hit 100, I come over a crest. Cop. I didn't even wait for him to finish pulling onto the road to pull over. I knew I was fucked. I pulled over, turned the car off, rolled the windows down and just waited. When he got to the car, I respected him and didn't give him any trouble whatsoever. In return, he was nice enough to not arrest me and bump the ticket down to 99. That still leaves me with a criminal speeding ticket. Now I have to go to court, and hire an attorney if I want any hope of having the charges reduced and not having a misdemeanor on my record- maybe even losing my license. I would die inside if that happened; driving is my pride and joy. On top of all of that, my insurance is going to skyrocket.... All because I did a stupid ass thing that even I told myself not to do.", "summary": "Decided to speed and now I have to pay the price."}
{"id": "t3_150b2p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most important lesson you've learned in the last five years?", "post": "Mine would have to be that there's no such thing as the friend zone. If you think you're in the friend zone, you're stringing yourself along. You're not entitled to someone paying romantic or sexual attention to you because you don't treat them like shit. Either they want to get together, or they don't. And if they don't, you can either be friends--real friends--or not. They have a choice, and you have choice. If you try to get around that by arguing or wasting your time trying to convince through insincere gestures, it'll go badly for you.\n\nThere are billions of people on this planet. Some won't be attracted to you. Instead of wasting your time on those that aren't, go out there and find those that are. And if it seems like no one is, figure out what you're doing wrong. Maybe your clothes convey the wrong message. Maybe your haircut doesn't suit your face. Maybe the way you approach people is wrong. Maybe you don't think about how women feel, and think of them as concepts or accessories or sources of sex/attention/validation instead of people. Think deep about what you're doing wrong and then fix it. It might be a hard road, but the world isn't going to stop and throw you a bone for being pathetic.\n\nAnd if it's still not working out, find a hobby. If all you think about is getting laid, even if it happens a lot, you're never gonna feel better.", "summary": "There's no friend zone, the problem was me."}
{"id": "t3_48e787", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure how I [28 F] should deal with my sick and possibly depressed BF [34 M] of 1 year", "post": "Background:  Been dating BF just shy of a year. 2.5 months ago BF had surgery to remove malignant tumor from the left side of his face (no chemo or radiation required). However due to complications from the surgery he has developed a very large cyst on his left cheek which affects his ability to eat and is now restricted to liquids and very soft foods. He is at his wits end trying to rid himself of the mass and been slowly testing treatment options. \n\nAs a result of this situation he has become very frustrated and angry which is completely understandable. He is terribly concerned by the opinions of strangers regarding his appearance and refuses to leave his home \u2013 as a result weeks go by without us seeing each other.  \n\nHe works in IT and can thankfully work remotely from the comforts of his home. \n\nWe are increasing fighting on account of his pent up frustration (about entirely unrelated events). As much as im trying to be supportive this is taking a toll on me. He has become a shell of his former self \u2013 sitting at home every day wallowing in self pity. I have stopping expressing my desire to see him as every initiation is shot down. \n\nShould I stay or should I go? Advice please!", "summary": "BF developed large cyst after surgery - increasingly angry and refuses to leave house causing us to never see each other."}
{"id": "t3_26hg33", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat with broken metatarsal, healing", "post": "My cat broke his leg 1.5 weeks ago and we went to the vet and got him sedated for x-rays (closed, single fracture of the metatarsal in his right leg) and put a splint on him. He was there overnight and got sent home with 3 days of pain meds. \n\nFirst day we tried to keep him confined in a room as the vet told us to restrict his movement. However, he still managed to jump on his favorite chair. We put him in a large dog crate at night but all he did was meow and try to escape. The second day we confined him to my room only during the night but he would still jump on my bed. The fourth/fifth day he was roaming free around the house as he always wanted to get out of my room. Right now, it seems like he is normal except he is limping with the cast on as its slightly longer than his leg and bulky, but he is putting weight on it. \n\nWe were told to come back to the vet 7 days after the incident but my parents decided not to as it seems like he was doing well. Additionally the first vet visit has cost over $700 already and it's planned for another x-ray in 5 weeks which will be another $350 at least and we don't have a lot of money.\n\nSo basically, I have 2 questions:\n1. How important is it to restrict my cat's movement? He is constantly trying to escape when we lock him up in a crate or a room.\n2. How important is it to go back to the vet for a check up? If it's important, how do I convince my parents to take my cat back to the vet?", "summary": "cat fractured bone in leg, seems fine now but just bulky splint, he's putting weight on it, parents don't want to spend money to go back to the vet for checkups, how important is it to restrict his movement/activity and to go back to the vet for a checkup?"}
{"id": "t3_2gliae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "he didn't want to date me but behaved like I broke his heart", "post": "Timeline.\n2011: we start working together, he [M, 30] keeps leading me [F, 24] on, nothing happens;\n2012: we meet on my demand and he says he is not interested and I made this all up (although I never did tell him that I thought there was anything going on already);\n2013: he keeps leading me on but gets a girlfriend, I cut off contact, he is offended and keeps taking every opportunity to lead me on;\n2014: hardly any contact, he keeps stalking me on social media.\n\nAnd all this time his overall demeanor was as if *I* was pushing him away and *I* broke his heart and you should've seen how HAPPY he became when he saw my mortified face at the news he had a girlfriend. What the hell was this?\n\nP.S. He broke my heart, of course, and I'm still not quite over him.", "summary": "He didn't want to date me but behaved like I broke his heart, why?"}
{"id": "t3_2jrdpo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend cheated on my other best friend, knowing this is stressing me out. What is the best course of action?", "post": "I just found out through a mutual friend that my best friend lets call him Steve just cheated on his girlfriend of 2 years lets call her Kate. I see these individuals on a near daily basis, we are all 23, and I consider them some of my best friends. I have double dated and often 3rd wheel it when hanging out with them and we have even gone out of state multiple times to music festivals or for a vacation trip. I am quite dumbfounded about Steve's actions and I dont know how I could look at Kate the same way knowing this information. I am also disgusted with my best friend for doing this to such a nice girl, nobody deserves that. I am not going to tell Kate (I dont think), and Steve is now aware that I know. I obviously just wish i wasn't put in this situation with this information(ignorance is bliss). So now im just sitting here feeling betrayal and anger for one friend, sadness and guilt for the other, this is just a shitshow of emotions. Im a simple man who enjoys his trees and netflix I'm not equipped to handle this. Any advice would be welcomed.", "summary": "Title ^"}
{"id": "t3_175n2d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, in difficult times, what do you say/do when there is nothing left to say?", "post": "Hi Reddit;\n\nKinda a newbie here (only joined a few weeks ago) but decided I would ask a favor from the users of Reddit and their wealth of experiences and knowledge.\n\nMy best friend's (known him since pre-school) father, who has been having a slowly losing battle with cancer over the years, was just moved to a hospice earlier tonight. Things aren't good, and they don't know how much time he has left, though it's not much. It really hit me hard because fortunately, I haven't had much experience with family tragedies like the situation my friend is in right now. Neither has he, because we are both high school students.\n\nNot that I'm scared to see him or anything, but since I lack experience with these types of things, I'm not really sure how to approach him or what to say to him after his father passes.", "summary": "What do you say to someone extremely close to you who has just gone through a family death?"}
{"id": "t3_1l3j02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] have been seeing my current GF [19] for a little while, but there's just one problem... She's best friends with my recent ex [18/F].", "post": "I just recently started seeing someone new (let's call her L) about a month after being in about a 1.5 year long relationship that was really more like a friendship (for me) towards the last half year. I'm still really good friends with my ex (let's call her K) and she's also a really good friend to L.\n\nI felt like the relationship was mostly over several months before K and I broke it off, but I can understand that she didn't.\n\nThis is all fine and dandy, until I try to think about what K feels like. The relationship was definitely more of an emotional involvement for her than it was for me at the end (we've discussed it). Since we are all good friends, I wouldn't want to hurt her and neither would L.\n\nSo, L and I have been trying to keep things between us on the down-low for the last month that we've been with each other. However, this is putting quite a damper on the relationship since K is nearly always with L and this doesn't give us a whole lot of alone time AND we can't really act like we're in a relationship when K is around.\n\nIs there any solution to this problem? Am I being an ass for dating K's best friend when I'm pretty sure it would hurt her? Am I being an ass for keeping it secret?", "summary": "I have two good friends, one is an ex and I'm dating the other. Problems."}
{"id": "t3_1v58ej", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [21/m] boyfriend and I [21/f] took the same class and he failed and blames me...", "post": "Me and my boyfriend are in the same program at university and took the same elective last term. He wasn't originally enrolled in it and then me and another friend convinced him to take it as well. \n\nDuring the course he relied on me for almost all of the assignments and test prep because it was more my area of knowledge. This was fine with me since we've been together for two years now and are very comfortable working together. The work load got really intense over the semester and I definitely dropped the ball on the last few assignments so his grades were low too. Luckily the assignments weren't worth all that much, however, he ended up failing the final and the course.\n\nHe went to go talk to the professor and found that one of his assignment marks was a flat zero so he asked me to go to the professor and find out if I had a mark or not since we handed them in together, it turns out I did have a mark. After this we were normal for a day and then today he gave me the cold shoulder and blatantly ignored me all day. When we finally got to talking he said he expected me to go to the prof and tell him that we handed the assignment in at the same time, in order to achieve something from him. He then went on to get extremely upset at me for getting us low marks for some of the assignments and convincing him to take the course, called me a coward and then left. I am at a loss, and have no idea what to from here... \n\nAny advice would be a big help!", "summary": "Boyfriend and I took the same course, he blames me for the failure and we might break up over it."}
{"id": "t3_2e6vc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] don't know how to explain to my boyfriend [20M] of 7 months about my past mental issues.", "post": "My boyfriend and I had opposite lives growing up. It's a long story, but I've encountered a lot of crazy things in my life. Sexual abuse, money problems, bad family situations, and some serious loss/grief combined with witnessing a traumatic death.\n\nSomehow, I survived. I am in college now, and very successful. My boyfriend and friends know me as a Type-A who is motivated and has everything going for her. I have good grades, a good life (besides grief), but the trauma still remains.\n\nIn middle and high school, I suffered with severe anorexia with bulimic tendencies and had a cutting problem. Both of these are very shameful to me, and I do not like to talk about them. I was forced into rehab 3 separate times and hospitalized twice. The physical signs are obvious. My teeth are messed up badly from throwing up, self harm scars all over my legs. \n\nMy boyfriend knows about everything except the anorexia and cutting, but it's hard for him to understand. He admits he was raised in a close knit family that was very wealthy and provided everything he needed financially and emotionally. Of course he has his problems, but he has never had a mental illness or an unsupportive family. This is one reason why I am ashamed to tell him. \n\nHe has noticed the self harm scars, but I can't tell if he's naive or just waiting on me to be comfortable talking about it. He asked once what they were, and I told him I'd tell him later...\n\nI trust him. I am just ashamed of myself and don't want him to know the bad parts of my life, even though he would be totally supportive. He just wouldn't understand. How do I bring it up, and tell him the truth? \n\nThanks.", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't know about my history or anorexia and self harm... Too ashamed to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_42c6qs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Kind of dating my[30/F] friend[35/M]? Not sure. Help.", "post": "I have a really good platonic guy pal who's been my friend for more than a decade. About a few months ago, I started to develop feelings for him. Fast forward to a few months, things got flirty, then it moved on to a sort of FWB. Weird thing is, we still hang out like we normally do even two days in a row and never run out of things to talk about even after doing it, he buys me coffee or visits me at home, we go on movie \"dates\", we hang out with other people like nothing even happened, he handed me some souvenirs from his previous trips, he got me a Christmas present (which, coincidentally or not, was a scene from a movie where he first held my hand - maybe out of being a super geek fanboy.) Anyway! I'm not sure where we are right now, even if some people (particularly my folks) think we are dating\n\nI really really like my friend (which came before us being FWB) and I'm afraid and mentally preparing myself for the heartache when he stops seeing me because he found someone else. What should I do? Should I tell him how I feel and get burned right now than later and risk losing one of my bestest friends in the world?", "summary": "Friend of more than a decade turns into a flirty thing then turns into an FWB. Looks like we're dating. Should I tell him how I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_kgwbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I got in trouble and I need your help.", "post": "So today I was out skating with some friends, two of them im not supposed to be around. So my mom pulls up and sees one of them smoking, and he tells his mom who told my mom I smoke. So now my mom knows I do. When we get home my mom comes up to my room and starts talking to me. At this point im so mad. She's saying stuff like \"I know you hate me now.\" and \"if your going to act like this I shouldn't act like your parent. So I yell \"shut up\" at her and punch a hole in my wall. Shes in disbelief that I did that and says I have to fix it. So now my mom thinks I hate her, and she won't do anything else for me. Im grounded and I don't know what to do. I want my mom to stop acting like this, she is taking it personally for some reason and i want her to stop. And not think I hate her anymore, can someone help please?", "summary": "I got in trouble for smoking and other things, got yelled at by my mom. Punched a hole in my wall. And now she thinks I hate her"}
{"id": "t3_1aq711", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you had an infinite amount of time on your hands, what hobbies might you pick up?", "post": "I am interested in a lot of things and can do many other things so I guess you can say I'm a 'Jack of all trades yet a master of none.' If money and time weren't an issue I would love to keep up with photography, crafting, and baking. I would keep up with music (I can play and sing) and I would learn how to play new instruments. I'd like to also keep up my love for helping people and exploring wildlife. If possible, I'd learn new things too such as how to snowboard, rock climbing (not on a wall in the gym), and even how to drive a race car (big fan of top gear and racing would be fun). To sum it up, I'd try to learn everything I possibly could.", "summary": "snowboarding, rock climbing, race car driving, basically anything I've always wanted to learn but never had the chance to or I would improve what I do know to be better at it."}
{"id": "t3_4lo76l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [20 F] have problems with her friends", "post": "There is this group of friends that my GF hangs out with that I dont really like mainly because I feel as tho they are fake AF. They have also talked shit about me in the past so I have come to dislike them. Whenever my GF invites me to hang out with them, I want to say no because I hate acting all fake around them but my GF insist that I hang out with them. \n\nAt the same time, there are some of my friends that my GF does not like either mainly because they have talked badly of her in a way without getting to know her. Now from time to time, she would shit on them without regards to how I feel. \n\nNow although I dislike her friends, I don't say anything mean or shit on them every chance I get. She on the other hands loves to talk poorly about my friends every chance she gets. \n\nI guess what I'm mainly looking for is advice on how I should handle these conflicts. I've already told her how I feel about her talking poorly about my friends but she still does it, but in a indirect way now. This has now become a very touchy subject and we both get in a pretty bad mood when we try and talk about this. I just don't this is healthy for the relationship where we both dislike each others friends.\n\nIs this type of thing  normal, that I don't like her friends and she doesn't like mine? Is this healthy for a relationship ? Should I try and make more of an effort to get to know her friends better even though I dislike them for the sake of my GF? \n\nAny advice / suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you reddit!", "summary": "GF doesn't like my friends, and I don't like hers. Just got a couple of questions at the bottom."}
{"id": "t3_4r4xop", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Do I take the cash or ask for more equity?", "post": "Here's the story:\n\n22 years old living in a large city in Canada. Graduated university last June and started working at a start up this January.\n\nSalary: $35,000\nBonus: $10,000 paid out quarterly (assuming I hit targets)\nEquity: was granted 1000 shares upon hiring\n\nI'm coming up for my bonus review this week. I hit my targets for Q1 of this year. I just doubled my quota for Q2 (partly because of hard work but mostly because the startup is taking off).\n\nThe question: do I ask for more equity in the company or take the cash payout?\n\nI still live at home and have minimal expenses. I have $13,000 in my savings account. \n\nAny ideas how I should approach the situation? I don't have much experience with this kind of thing. I also don't know how to ask for equity. What are fair terms?", "summary": "Bonus review is coming up. I could ask for more equity instead. Wondering if this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2cxwar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] kinda complex officially 2 weeks unofficially about a month and a half, Little white lie I told getting to know her", "post": "So my delimma, probably stupid but here goes. \n\nHer dad is a huge surfer (like goes on week vacations and hikes to surf spots surfs all day and is 58 and people wonder how the hell he's doing it) and she really likes surfing too but she hasn't gone in awhile. \n\nWhen we were getting to know eachother I told her I surfed a bit (accidental kinda just started talking and it slipped out because I wanted to be super cool or something I don't know.) and I've never really surfed. I want to though extremely badly and It's like I would tomorrow if I could.\n\nI'm going to tell her most likely because I don't think its that big a deal because I extremely doubt that she's with me because I surfed a little bit a long time ago and the lie is kind of eating away at me. I'm also waiting to see her in person because I think that would be a better way to say this because I'm not a coward.", "summary": "little lie about surfing a bit, going to tell her. I just want to know what you guys think. Am I overreacting? How might she react?"}
{"id": "t3_rgiia", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat stressed out by moving to a smaller apartment", "post": "Well I'm at a loss. I've had cats all my life and they've always been perfect and not obnoxious in the slightest. Unfortunately that's not really the case anymore, and I don't know what to do about it.\n\nI got a kitten when I was in college, about 6 years ago (making her about 6 years old). She's been spayed etc, and has always behaved in an apartment setting. She's moved three times with me to progressively bigger apartments (600 sqft to 800 to 1100, every time with roommates) and has been great! However, 5 months ago I moved in with my girlfriend to an 800 sqft apartment, and the poor kitty is completely inconsolable. The only time she doesn't cry (and loudly) is when she's tired. We play with her, we cuddle with her, let her get fresh air on the balcony, and she's never acted aggressively towards anyone,  but she just cries and cries and cries. I think it might be stress from the smaller apartment and the large chunks of day when no one is at home, but I don't know. Any ideas on how to fix this behavior? I'm worried about neighbors complaining.", "summary": "Cat meows loudly and often despite being played with/paid attention to/taken care of. Unsure if it's the new smaller Apt, living with girlfriend, or something else."}
{"id": "t3_ywu8l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Grandad has Alzheimers in it's advanced stage. Does anyone have any tips for things that could help or ideas for activities I could do with him to help him enjoy his final days?", "post": "I've run a Google search on things to help with Alzheimer's, I'm not talking about curing it as I know there's nothing that can do that yet, but ways that I can help him to enjoy himself. I didn't find many fantastic or relevant ideas.\n\nJust to give you a bit of background information.\n\nThe Alzheimer's is it's more advanced stage\n\nHe can't walk very quickly at all\n\nHe has the occasional problem with bladder control and doesn't have a fantastic appetite.\n\nHe probably won't remember the activity within about 30 minutes after it.\n\nWe've tried quite a lot of things, from golf to shopping but we're ever increasingly finding he appears to be enjoying himself less and less each time. Are there any tricks that could lighten his mood and help him enjoy the activities more?\n\nWhile personal experience would be great I'm open to suggestions from anyone.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Anyone have ideas of how to lighten the mood of someone with advanced Alzheimer's?/Does anyone know of any specific kinds of activities that would be suitable for someone with this condition?"}
{"id": "t3_1xi7fx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) girlfriend(20F) have been a little on the rocks and it's becoming incredibly stressful.", "post": "I have PTSD and a form of bipolar II that is basically cyclic depression, and my lady has some rather severe social anxiety. We have been together for two years and have been living together for about six months.\n\nThe honeymoon phase has been fizzling out and we're at the point of maintaining the relationship, and I think it's really scaring her. With my episodes of depression, she has been feeling pretty neglected and like I don't love her the same as I did. I don't know how to show her that is far from false. It's so hard when I'm so depressed and we're constantly fighting.\n\nI am so in love with this woman, she means the world to me. But this is the first time I've ever been this close to somebody and had to deal with the \"mature\" dynamics of maintaining a relationship. I want her to stop being so sad and scared. We both know we'll be okay because we love eachother so much. But I just want help figuring out how to make this easier on her, and how to make her more comfortable. She's so sad, and upset and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been fighting a lot because we've been exiting the honeymoon stage."}
{"id": "t3_2gxa2l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling in sick the other week", "post": "Context: I'm a 20 year old Aussie guy, working in a bottle shop part-time while I study.\n\nA fortnight ago, we started a new roster at work, which has me closing up every second Saturday night at 9:30, starting at 4. This is a pain in the ass. I'd already planned to go to the first day of the Spring Races with all my mates before going straight to a house party at one of the girls' place the Saturday I was meant to work late.\n\nSo I did what I haven't done in two year's of work, and called in sick. My boss was not thrilled. Explained I had really bad diarrhoea and hadn't left the bathroom all morning, felt really shit, etc. She definitely didn't believe me, but what could she do? I had heaps of sick-leave saved up.\n\nEnded up having an awesome time at the races- wearing my new suit- and then had way too much to drink at the house party and passed out mid-grope on my girlfriend. Amusing for all my friends, less amusing to my mother whom I have on fb who saw photos the next morning..\n\nBut I digress. Fast-forward a fortnight to today, when it's time for my next Saturday closing shift. Previous night was a friend's 21st; pretty average party to be honest, but she had a good time, and no one was a dick about the party not being so crazy. Good times overall.\n\nUntil this morning.\n\nMy bowels felt like they were hosting the Mardi Gras this year. Spent the next few hours running between curled up on the couch hating life, and melting the porcelain at my gf's house whilst hating life. So now I'm typing this, with only a couple of hours left before I have to show up to work. I can't call in sick two weeks in a row for the shift everyone knows that I hate, with the exact same illness.", "summary": "Called in sick with diarrhoea 2 weeks ago so I could go out and party with my mates instead, fast-forward to today; actually have diarrhoea, and I'll have to go to work. Sorry for yet another poo-related TIFU."}
{"id": "t3_1bzol6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Competing work schedules. How to make them work?", "post": "My girlfriend and I are planning to move into our first place together this summer. I am a part time grad student and will work full time, she is a full time PhD student who works an internship 3 days and classes 2 days. We are both used to dealing with more or less a 9-5 schedule.\n\nI was just offered an IT position for a swing shift (between 2-11), M-F. I am afraid this will be tough, especially with our new living arrangement. \n\nWhat are some ways we can make this work? How can I talk to her and reassure her that, while it most likely won't always be easy, we will be able to get through it. It also will not be forever.\n\nAny advice is appreciated. We usually have a seamless relationship, but I'm concerned with this coming up just as we are about to start living together.", "summary": "Moving in with gf, will be working evenings (2-11). How can we make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_2ndn5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [f/19] and I's [m/19] relationship of almost 2 years ossicilates from really good to really bad.", "post": "As the title says, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, and like most relationships it used to be great. The problem is over the last 4-6 months or so, it's started getting strange. Literally on a daily basis, my feeling about the relationship will vary from really good to really bad. One day, I'll be sure she's the love of my life, but the next day I'll dread hanging out with her and even be really unattracted to her. This causes me to occasionally be kind of an asshole to her, which I hate.\n\nSo what should I do? I keep telling her I'll be able to fix it but every time it goes back to the way it was in just a week or two. I really do care for her and don't want to keep hurting her like this. Can I fix this or should I end the relationship before more damage is done?", "summary": "my relationship varies from really good to really bad and that needs to stop somehow"}
{"id": "t3_1vpkwh", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Booked my flight, chose my seats, now those seats are invalid?", "post": "I booked a flight last month for this Weds the 22. I'm flying with Alaska Airlines, SEA to ATL. I chose my seats when I booked, the very last row, 33E&F as I'm flying with a 2 year old and I was trying to be out of as many people's hair as possible. I've been checking weekly via \"my confirmed reservation\" through the AK Airlines site to see if the row remains empty, just out of curiousity. Yesterday it was still empty. However, I went on today to look and it is now showing that my seats are invalid, that there is no row 33. Seatguru says that they operate 3 versions of the 737-900, and that one of them has 32 rows where the other 2 have 33. I can't seem to find any information on which version we are flying Wednesday. Usually I would have just said oh well, re-picked seats and been done with it, but the website says there aren't anymore available. \n\nSoooo.. what now?? Does that mean they've overbooked and now we're going to end up bumped off? I'm planning on checking in online, as soon as the 24 hour check in window opens, but if there are no seats, what will happen? I'm really stressing about this.", "summary": "I booked 2 seats in the last row for a flight for this Wed, and now the airlines website is showing that the plane is one row shorter, and when I try to pick 2 new seats, there are none available.  What will happen now??"}
{"id": "t3_1ejwv6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ignoring a car full of black boys hollering at me", "post": "I'm a fairly nice looking, skinny, blonde girl.  I get yelled at/honked at by men in cars all the time (I got to college, so I must walk everywhere) and it **drives me crazy**.  I always ignore it because I have a boyfriend, you hollering at me from a car does not interest me, **nor is it classy or attractive**.  \n\nSo I'm late for an appointment, hurrying to get to my friend's car.  I cross a rode behind my house, where a black kid sticks his head out of the car and says something like \"Hey sugar.\"  I ignore it and keep walking.\n\nBefore I know it, they have rolled down all the windows of the car and all of them are yelling, \"Blondie! Blondie! Hey girl! Blondie!\" etc. But not yelling anything specific.  I was already in a bad mood from running late, so I keep ignoring them and start walking faster.  \n\nThen I realize I dropped my sweatshirt (it was draped across my purse).  I turn around and don't see it, but see some people across the street pointing and saying, \"They grabbed it for you!\"  So I scurry back to the end of the block, and the car is nowhere to be seen.  Not only today did I realize I'm racist and a bitch, but then they stole my nice sweatshirt.", "summary": "Ignored a car of guys yelling to me because I dropped my sweatshirt; when I went back for it, they took it and drove off."}
{"id": "t3_2vz4r1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am in a great relationship [21F]. Miss being single. Grass is greener?", "post": "I'm a 21 year old dude that's been dating the same girl for just under a year now. Things between us are great and I have literally nothing bad to say about the relationship. Sex is great (and often), my family and friends love her, she's intelligent and very fun. That being said, before I met her my life was focused around my friends. Every weekend we would all get together (about 12-15 of us), pre-drink and go to the bar. In the summer they basically lived at my house. They're still going out often, but between school and my girlfriend, I only go out with them once every month or so now. I do see them at least once a week, however. One of my best buddies moved across the country for work a few months ago, and I just found out this weekend another one of my best buddies is going to be moving three hours away for school until next year. The last one left is my childhood friend that I'm admittedly growing apart from. I don't know if I'm bummed because everyone is growing up, or if I miss the single lifestyle.", "summary": "Grass is greener. Has anyone else had a similar experience?"}
{"id": "t3_2giexh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "High School Politics Bullshit!", "post": "My name is Joe and I'm in my senior year of high school. As a part of the leadership class at my school, I was chosen among others to help run Grade 9 day. Grade 9 day is pretty self explanatory; an initiation day where ninth graders compete in relay games.   \n\nThere were 2 jobs given. You were chosen to be a team captain - Lead a class through their relay game journey, make a cheer, essentially dope shit. Or you were chosen to run a game - do the same thing over and over and have no fun. \n\nI was chosen to be a team captain. That's sick! I was hyped. I go to the team captain meeting today and I was really unprofessionally told in front of everyone that I'm no longer a team captain and instead a game leader. Now look, I would've totally been cool with being a game leader if I was told that initially. I would've just taken that like it is and would've been cool. But I'm pissed that they gave me that dope job then took it away from me. Then giving me a job just so I didn't feel  left out.\n\nHere's where the politics come in. I went to the supervising teacher after school to ask what was up. He showed me who I was replaced by and I couldn't help but laugh. I asked him, \"Sir you know that's weak right?\" He asked me why. I told him, \"I was switched out by the girl's boyfriend who I was supposed to be paired with.\" The teacher basically told me there ain't shit I can do about it. The guy and girl that took my job are all friends with the head of the committee therefore I had no fucking chance. \n\nAt this point I refuse to be involved in organizing the event with people that abuse their power for petty reasons. Either I'm going to be a team leader or nothing. Fucking popular people and their politics bullshit.", "summary": "High school is bullshit"}
{"id": "t3_2yp2mz", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "United bulk ticket apparently not eligible for PQD", "post": "Thanks to a change in my job, I'm going to be traveling a lot more this year, including four or five trips to Asia from the US. I'm currently on such a trip to HK and Japan. To keep things interesting, I had set myself the target of achieving United Gold or even Platinum this year.\n\nI've now seen the miles for my outward trip to HKG credited to my account, but it is showing as ineligible for PQD. I emailed them via their website to ask why, and I got a reply the next day (pleasantly surprised at the promptness) that quoted word for word the exclusions listed on their website,  but with the added two points:\n\n- Certain specialty tickets (including but not limited to consolidator, group and tour tickets)\n- Bulk tickets\n\nI booked my ticket through my corporate travel agent, about $5,500 (the same cost that I had found researching directly on the United website). The response from United tells me that I did not earn PQD as I had bought a bulk ticket. TBH, I have never heard of bulk tickets, no idea what that means. \n\nIf my future bookings through the corporate agent are similarly ineligible for PQD then I guess I'm never going to achieve even Silver status, so maybe it's time to choose another airline. Any recommendations for good US to Asia airlines?", "summary": "I apparently purchased a bulk ticket which therefore does not qualify for PQD (even though this is not mentioned on their website)."}
{"id": "t3_1hxgjr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I just buy or wait?", "post": "So I have some money that I was saving for around five years. A week ago, I went to watch some game videos on youtube which led to a 3DS video which had me thinking that I would want to get one. The problem is I have just about enough money to get a regular one but I'm not really into the black color that the regular ones have and I prefer the white ones available only to limited edition ones. (I know there is a white regular one but it's an Asian version, right? I would like to opt for a US version so I can benefit from Club Nintendo) \n\nThree days ago, I saw someone selling a Pikachu 3DS XL on the internet but it costs twice as much as a regular one. I am currently looking for a job to get money to afford it.", "summary": "I'm thinking of buying a 3DS XL but I can't decide whether to get the Pikachu Limited Edition or the regular one. As the limited edition one is twice the price of the regular."}
{"id": "t3_1xmkvv", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Committed to lifestyle changes and feeling good!!", "post": "So, a little backstory and possibly motivation for some:\n\nA few years ago i weighed somewhere in the neighborhood of 280-290 and was able to shed myself down to 220-230 and maintain that weight. I had been very active and was playing basketball on an almost nightly basis in order to stay active and fit. Unfortunately, I injured my knee playing basketball and required surgeries which left me with chronic knee aches and unable to walk, let alone run comfortably anymore.\n\nFFW to 3yrs later, I got fat and am at my heaviest. Not only was I living a sedentary lifestyle working from home, but I have/had knee pain stemming from the surgery. Injured my back 2months ago and have now been dealing w/ sciatica pain to top it all off. As of a few weeks ago, I decided to grab life by balls and commit myself to a change. Given my current back and knee issues, the simplest thing I could do was change the crap I've been putting into my mouth. \n\nI've now been tracking my caloric intake w/ MFP thanks to this subreddit and am comfortably sticking to a 1600cal restriction to shed some lbs. I have a bench and some weights at home and have been doing all the exercises I can do without aggravating my injuries. Have been tapering myself off of carbs and am going to start strictly sticking to keto for the 6 week challenge. Only a couple of weeks into these small changes and I wonder how the hell I didn't start this earlier. There really are no excuses except the ones we give ourselves. Just because I couldn't play basketball was no excuse to eat like a pig and pack on the pounds. Eating cleaner and feeling better beats a food coma any day of the week. YOU decide when you will take control of your life and make the changes you need to make. Nobody else can do that for you. Sorry if this is a wall of text, but thanks to this subreddit, I have a feeling I'll get back to where I used to be!", "summary": "Was fit. Got fat. Started dieting and exercising and feel much better!"}
{"id": "t3_ze9uv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl I met online is sending mixed messages and I don\u00b4t know what to do next. Need advice.", "post": "Ok, so here\u00b4s the situation. A girl added me on a website and we started talking in private, then text-msg, then over the phone.\nMy attitude was always a bit cocky, flirty and friendly - nothing special. She seemed really interested and invited me home to her (we live like 5 hours from eachother.)\n\nNow here\u00b4s the problem. She met some other guy about a month before we even started talking at a concert. And he lives about 10 minutes from me! Strange.... anyhow, they have only met a few time, and according to her he is: boring to talk to when not IRL, seems to be a whimp when it comes to physical contact AND he is most likely seeing someone else.\nShe keeps changing her mind about him. One time, its \"i dont think we will ever meet again\", the next it is \"oh I will visit him next week\", \"he is probably seeing someone else, what a doucebag! Didnt think that of him....\" and the next \"I just know that it doesnt feel wrong about him, im just not sure if it feels right... maybe Ill fall for him someday\". \n\nEverytime we talk on the phone, she mentions how tight she is, how big her breasts are, sex stuff in general. She even asked if she could stay with me if things got messed up with the other guy when she was here (Yeah, like I want to be a back-up..)\n\nShe seems to be a cool person, and Id love to hang out with her. But I dont know what she wants! I\u00b4ve told her that she is boring when she keeps bringing her \"want, dont want\" relationship up everytime we speak and she replied \"Sorrryy wont do it again :( :(\", \"sorry\", \"please dont say im boring\". We are both 20, btw.\n\nI have no intentions of just being her friend, and I dont want to be her backup. So, what should I do next? Keep being friendly, avoid? Should I try to push for a meeting IRL?", "summary": "met girl online, but never IRL. She wants to meet, seems to be reaaally interested, but is seeing someone else and not sure how she feels towards him."}
{"id": "t3_169s5o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making 10 girls avoid me like I'm a creep in one go.", "post": "Was browsing on FB, and there was friend request from one girl, this girl (Let's label this A) I've never met her even though we have 10+ friends in common.\n\nSo I declined her. Few days later I go and meet my friend. He introduces this same girl to me. Things got awkward, and I've decided make it even more awkwarder by asking why she friended me. Few minutes of arguing because she insists she never did. We decided to talk something else. Later I leave.\n\n2 months later, I meet another girl (B) who was also friend with girl (A). We barely talked except introduction.\n\nFew days later, she (B) added me on FB. I accepted and wasn't really interested in her. We didn't even talk on FB.\n\n3 months later, I made a status about uni and she comments it. I never replied her despite replying other comments because I was too lazy.\n\n1 month later, friend asks me to go and meet him. I go and I see a group of about 10 girls (Including girl A and B) and 5 boys. All girls started avoiding me. I overhear them talking about me.\n\nI realised this was my fault for showing my arrogance when arguing with girl A and ignoring girl B. It's not even something I normally do.\n\n***Worst part is that they're all hot girls except girl A and B.***\n\nFML.", "summary": "10 girls hate me now because of my laziness and arrogance."}
{"id": "t3_12svcx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to get rid of my dog, how do I do it?", "post": "I moved from my grandmother's house to an apartment. I don't have the time to walk her anymore due to working from morning to night. \n\nShe has now started peeing/shitting on the floor, even when we are home. She is trained to tell us when she has to go out, and she does. Me or my girlfriend take her out, let her do his business, and come back inside. she will still pee/shit on the floor. Half the time she doesn't eat or drink anything since we started feeding her twice a day, but she still manages to do it regardless of the circumstances. \n\nMe and my girlfriend are now having a child and it's becoming too much for my girlfriend to handle. We want to get rid of her, but not have her euthanized. \n\nHow can I go about doing this and where do I go? Google has been unhelpful.", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are having a child and our problematic dog needs to go."}
{"id": "t3_n6hhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't like sex. And it's causing relationship problems.", "post": "I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 22. We have dated for 3 years almost. I love her and I don't want to lose her, but this problem has been really hard.\n\nI just don't like sex. I think it's gross and doesn't feel good. I like the intimacy, but physically.... I just don't like sex. I don't even like masturbating, it's just easier than having wet dreams.\n\nWe were having sex about twice a week for a while, but I didn't even want that much, I just did it because I like pleasuring her. And the intimacy. \n\nA while back she started wanting a lot more. 5-7 times a week and giving me random blow/handjobs a few times a week. I just wasn't able to keep up and cut way back shortly after. Now things have gotten a lot more rough and we seem distant and I think it's because of the sex (lack thereof).\n\nWhat should I do? Should I just go through with it? I feel like if I don't do it often enough things won't work out. We love each other but being sexually incompatible might bring us apart.", "summary": "Don't like sex, girlfriend wants more. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_wbike", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing you've done in a restaurant as a worker or a guest?", "post": "About a year ago I was serving a party of 4 or so in a commonly known chain restaurant. There were four adults and four younger kids at this table who were, for a lack of a better word, white trash. Their kids were throwing shit everywhere, grabbing onto me, knocking over the salt and pepper shakers, dismantling the caddies, etc. All the while the \"parents\" (who by the way were SPLITTING a coke) acted like it was normal.\n\nOne of the women proceeds to order a burger and then sent it back because the burger wasn't cooked the right temperature (which is was, she was just looking for a free meal). My QA has a new one cooked and puts it on a plate, when he turns around to hand it to me the burger patty slips off the plate and onto the floor of the kitchen. To those who haven't worked in a restaurant, know that the kitchen floor is disgusting. I gave my QA the run down and proceeded to serve her the floor burger.", "summary": "Lady got a floor burger. Don't fuck with people who handle your food."}
{"id": "t3_3smwsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23m] just man up and ask my friend [18f] out?", "post": "So I met this girl last summer at a christian camp. I was one of the \"cool\" counselors and the kids loved me. After that week of camp I immediately get a Facebook friend request from this girl. I accept because she was adorable and a genuine nice person.\n\nWe've since continued to text and snap each other. We are both fairly honest with each other and have enough common interests. We've talked off and on, being busy with school and life created some voids of communication. This 1.3 years talking to her is the longest \"relation\" if ever had with a girl. Because of all of this I really feel like I like like her. \n\nThe problem is our age difference. With her just turning 18 and myself about to turn 24 I fear that would make her hesitant. Her younger sister has repeatedly told her it's weird to be talking to me and she should stop. She hasn't, but I think it's in her head now that our age difference is weird. I also worry she continues to talk to me out of pure boredom. She's adorable but not good with communicating with others. This has left her on her own and single for awhile. I fear she's just being nice and continues to talk to me because I like her and am happy to talk to her anytime. A lot of the time I get one worded answers from her that make a part of me feel she's just replying for the heck of it. \n\nUltimately should I ask her out? I don't she her in person because I'm at college (finishing up this semester). My gut tells me she isn't interested in being more than friends. But she has said how I treat girls is essentially what she dreams of. I don't want to lose really the only female friend I have but I want more.", "summary": "want to ask girl that I've become pretty good friends with to start a relationship. She is boarderline too young and I might come off as creepy and ruin friendship. Classic question of is a good friendship worth risking for a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3kme72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [30F] make new friends?", "post": "Husband and I have been together for 7 years; living in New England for 5. He is from here, so we are close to his family (for better or for worse) and he has some childhood friends here.\n\nI, however, feel at a loss. I've never had a difficult time making friends before, but am finding it hard for me here. I'm not sure if it's an attitude thing, as where I'm from people seem to be more welcoming and less abrasive (personal opinion, I don't mean to offend). I've always had a plethora of friends, but feel shit out of luck and frankly clueless about making them at this point of my life. \n\nAdmittedly, I love being with my husband and probably spend too much time with him. Occasionally he has to leave for work and this leaves me feeling depressed and alone at home.\n\nI frequently find that I meet people I enjoy, but they end up living at least 45 minutes away from me on the other side of the city. This is okay for once in a while, but complicates things when trying to develop a close friendship. Women in my suburban town are either way older than me or their lives revolve around their kids (I don't have any). Other people are constantly busy with work or their own relationships and such and don't seem have time for anything beyond that. \n\nThe other issue I find is that it's difficult to break into friend groups. I'll be friendly with one person, but don't know how to break into their already established group and find that people don't really think about including 'outsiders' in whatever they are doing with other friends. \n\nThis is starting to drive me crazy. I'm a social person and I love having friends and girlfriends, especially outside of my husband's family and friends. I need my own thing. It's gotten to the point that I'm losing interest in trying, which freaks me out. Help!", "summary": "Having a difficult time creating new friendships at this point in my life where I live and would love advice about how other people do this."}
{"id": "t3_4lc9x2", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Pulled back rehab time?", "post": "42yo, male, 5'8, 250lbs\n\nWas shoveling debris into a wheel barrow when the shovel caught something.  I moved to lift it, it did not move, something in lower back twanged and I couldn't straighten up.  Rested for about a week before I was remotely functional.  But I had some work commitments so I suffered through the next two weeks getting slightly better as time went on.  Its now been another two weeks and it still twinges frequently if I bend over or sit wrong.  My lower back pops more than it did before too and FEELS like it needs to pop almost all the time.\n\nHow much longer does this sort of thing take to heal?  Anything I should be doing or not doing? (other than just trying not to work it too much?)", "summary": "fat guy threw out back, how long to stop hurting?"}
{"id": "t3_32g4ts", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "My friend went to Spain for a semester and is now questioning her entire life. Looking for advice to give her.", "post": "Here's her current situation as described by her (I've changed some of her exact words for privacy issues, but the message is the same). \n\n\"I am so lost right now. The reality that I'll be leaving this amazing country soon finally hit me. For the first time in my life, I'm at a crossroads. Living here for a semester has opened my mind to new paths in life. Before coming here, I thought of finishing college, becoming an (language-related major), working, having a family, maybe travelling if I still could, and then retiring with grandkids. You know, the usual life. And now (again) I am unsure about my major and my direction in life. Do I really want to dedicate myself to only one thing for the rest of my life? Is language really for me? Do I really want that calm life with a family and retire in the states? All of a sudden, all I want is more travel, more adventure, more study abroad. Maybe I could be a translator? Or maybe I could teach English in a foreign country? I feel like I want to live a few years in this gorgeous city! And yet there are so many other amazing cities out there like this place. I want to discover them all. Am I being too na\u00efve? Should I forget this burning desire for freedom and adventure and go for the safe option? \" She then goes on to say she's not even sure how she would fund herself, or if it would be even be worth it. She also wants to visit a bunch other places as well but feels like she has to settle down in at least one of them one day.\n\nCould the way she's feeling now possibly lead to post-travel depression? (I've heard about it happening to others and really don't want it to happen to her) And is there any sites/books/etc I can give or recommend to her to help her out?", "summary": "my friend went to a country in Europe for a semster, got The Bug and now wants to change her course in life completely. She's confused, looking for advice and may end up being depressed upon leaving. Help me give her some advice?\""}
{"id": "t3_283jn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help awkward me [22F] flirt with my [23 M] coworker in the most subtle way possible!", "post": "This probably sounds pretty sad haha. I have had a huge crush on a guy I work with for a long time now. I've finally decided to stop waiting around for it to go away and see if I can get my foot in the door. Here's the thing though...\n\nI was trying to find a post I saw a while ago where the girl was in my same position but it didn't have many replies.\n\nI am REALLY bad at flirting. I am used to guys coming to me and it's made me hopeless. Also, though relationships arent frowned upon at my job there are a few reasons I want to make it super subtle... 1) I am higher up in my company, and my reputation is important to my longevity there.  2) If he is not interested it could make work very awkward for.... well, forever.\n\nI get completely tongue tied, forget what I was going to say, mummer my way through conversations... I seriously need someone to hold my hand and tell me \"look, if you say [this] and he is interested he will pick it up, if he is not you can play it off casual\"\n\nIdeally I would be able to say these things around other people and have him pick up the hint over time, if that makes sense...", "summary": "I can't flirt subtly, please, dear god please, someone help me!"}
{"id": "t3_qm3zq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tired of feeling impotent...", "post": "So the wife has been having some ladypart issues recently. We head to the OBGYN, she discloses, they do a trasnvaginal ultrasound. Turns out, she has a partially or totally blocked fallopian tube. Potentially life-threatening if she were to get pregnant. Also causes crazy hormone imbalances. The only way to check it out, says the doc, is a minimally invasive, laproscopic surgery. He'll go in, check out the tube, if it's partially blocked, he'll try to clean it out, if it's completely blocked, he'll remove it. No biggie. \n\nWe're worried, but optimistic. The doc seems confident, recommends some online reading, we check it out, him out; everything's on the up and up.\n\nThen comes the insurance fucks. We get a call from the doc's office telling my wife that the insurance will not pre-approve the surgery, she's only been a policy holder since the beginning of 2012. This is bullshit. She's had the policy since February 2011, when we first moved into our new home. \n\nWife calls the insurance company. They fix the mistake about her policy, claim that it's just a trigger mechanism whenever a surgery of this nature hits their radar. But, then they tell her \"irregular periods are a pre-existing condition.\" Well, yes, a pre-existing condition caused by this partially blocked fallopian tube, apparently. Except, the irregular periods weren't the things that necessitated the surgery, the ultrasound was. Doesn't matter, says insurassholes, pre-existing condition, lalala, we can't hear you, lalala. Not only will they not offer pre-approval for surgery, now they're saying they won't approve any surgery at all. \n\nSo basically, the insurance company says, \"we recognize that you've got a medical issue, and we also recognize you've been paying us $209 every month for over a year, but we won't cover this surgery. Eat a bag of dicks, you fucking scumbags.\"\n\nI'm sick and tired of feeling totally powerless. Correction, I'm sick and tired of BEING totally powerless. Fuck this, man. \n\nWhat do we do?", "summary": "Insurance company denies coverage because of \"pre-existing condition\" and wife needs surgery. WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_4qa4ay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F/27] think my boyfriend [28/F] has an obsession with his female friend that he's never met irl", "post": "Before i met my boyfriend, he was friends with an online girl, i'll name her Sarah, my bf and her have never met irl and my bf had feelings for her when he was around 21/22, she rejected him. When i found out he had feelings for her in the past i asked him to stop talking to her because it made me uncomfortable, he refused, he kept fighting me and he just wasn't going to let her go so eventually i told him, it's either me or her, you can't have both. He chose me. Fast forward a few months, we move in together, i borrow his phone and see a txt message where Sarah tells my bf, \"i have sexual feelings for you\" My bf and her both say it's a joke. The message was sent before they stopped talking but while we were together. Fast forward 6 months, my boyfriend has a dream about Sarah. Tells me about it in the morning and says this \"If you don't let me be friends with her, i'll resent you forever\" so we start arguing and i ask him, would you rather be without me and being friends with Sarah? he says YES. So i gave up and told him fine add her back. He talks to her, get excited, tells Sarah why he wasn't talking to her for so long and tells her \"i had to have 4 huge fights with my gf to be able to talk to you again\" to which she responds, \"that sucks, dude\" \nLater that day, he tells me that he was disappointed, that talking to her wasn't as special as he remembered it and that he thought she would be more jolly, (those were his exact words) \n\nother details worth mentioning are that this girl cheated on her bf with a friend and even my bf told me that \"she was a slut that makes bad decisions\"", "summary": "Boyfriend has weird obsession with online female friend"}
{"id": "t3_380vfd", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Kittens in an unsanitary place, can't reach them", "post": "So my gf has a cat she hasn't neutered yet, we just moved in together in an old 1977 camper trailer. I tried to get her to take care of it earlier this year but oh well. The cat had kittens and had them under the fridge, which is in a cubby hole like thing. Moving the fridge to reach them isn't an option, since its in a cubby hole so it wouldn't serve any purpose. It's filthy in the little space under there and there's a hole where it connects to power so not really too protected from the elements. I can't even see the kittens let alone reach them, how do I get the mama cat to move her brood?", "summary": "need to know how to make mama cat move babies."}
{"id": "t3_4dwmyn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it always this awkward? (Getting asked out by a girl)", "post": "Me: M(21); F(19)\n\nI'll keep this short. In my class a while back I got this really pretty girl's phone number. We were on good terms, talked sometimes, and then she randomly texts me that she wants a ride on my motorcycle (she overheard me talking to a friend). Obviously I say yes and added on getting dinner to our meet up. \n\nI am no stranger to picking up girls, and I like to think that my game is pretty good. My question is \"is it normal to feel this awkward?\"  Maybe it's because I've never been picked up by a girl, tried to date a classmate, or because she's being shy. I'm not outwardly awkward, I just feel it. We still have class together and it wasn't weird, but I don't know how to proceed.", "summary": "Has anyone been picked up by a shy girl and gotten mixed signals?"}
{"id": "t3_1k7l6u", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate my job even though it's easy and pays well", "post": "I hate my job. I work from home, it pays the bills, but I hate it. I hardly have contact with anyone except via phone. It's not what I like to do. My team spread over different countries, so communications can be tricky, and I have to work late at night, though I start work later too. \n\nI really don't know what to do, the job is causing me anxiety because I don't like it, but it more than pays the bills for my family. I'd like another job, but this one is far too convenient, the benefits are huge,  only I'm unhappy. \n\nI know unhappiness is a situation a lot of people find themselves in at work, and a lot of people put up with it, but I just can't get rid of the niggling thought that this isn't what I want to do, and I'm too scared to make the jump to doing what I want to do.", "summary": "I have a very convenient, well paid job that I hate."}
{"id": "t3_1209cg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People that live in a foreign country (for school, work, relationship reasons), what is the one situation you now frequently face that prevents you from successfully assimilating to your new culture?", "post": "I chose to move to Germany both to gain my Master's degree, and to marry a German man.  As I live here, I'm working to learn the language, and to get used to everyday life here.  But even after having lived here for almost two years, I still have so much trouble functioning in a grocery store.  \n\nIn the US, tellers/cashiers stand all day, and if they need more small change, they simply request more to be brought from the cash office.  Also, often they will bag your purchases, or at least wait until you clear out of the way before checking the next person out.  In Germany, the cashiers usually sit, and will just shove the next person's purchases right the middle of your purchases if you don't clear out of the way fast enough, resulting in a jumbled mess, and often forcing you to guess which things were yours or not.  And heaven forbid if you use a larger bill (meaning, a 20 euro bill), because they can't ask for more small change to be brought out, so they will verbally abuse you if you try to pay for a small purchase (less than 5 euro) with a large bill.  \n\nPerhaps this reads as mostly a \"whine,\" but I just feel a mental barrier to dealing with this everyday issue I know will face for the rest of my life.  But surely other immigrants have some sort of similiar issue they face that bothers them every time they encounter it.", "summary": "As an immigrant, what is the one situation you have great difficulty handling each time you encounter it?  How did you overcome your frustration with this situation in order to assimiliate to your new culture you found yourself living in?"}
{"id": "t3_22qa7e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (19F) not ready to be friends with my ex (19m). Does this mean I'm weak?", "post": "We broke up a while ago but it's been on/off, finally officially off. \n\nHe stayed home, I went away to college. I'm not over him bc to me, he is memories of home and I just  miss everything. He's had more time to get over me in the home environment. I think that is huge. \n\nI am not in love with him anymore but I'm not ready to be friends. He says he wants to be friends still. Still loves me as a friend, blah blah. \n\nDoes the fact that Im not ready but he is mean that I am the weaker one? Or that I  \"lost\" the break up game? \n\nHave any of you experienced similar issues, I guess dealing with the blow to the ego that is being dumped?", "summary": "Am I the weaker one because I am not yet ready to be friends with my ex, but he is?"}
{"id": "t3_3vn14d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21F] of 1 year broke up with with me [22M] because \"I love her more\"", "post": "Starting last week my girlfriend was acting a little strange. She just came back from a week long vacation from seeing her sister that lives several states away. I didn't think much of it, she has finals and dealing with work I marked it up to just stress. I tried to talk to her about it but she said she was fine. So it Thursday night and my girlfriend was supposed to come over to hangout nothing out of the ordinary. She texted me \"when I get there can we go for a drive.\" I asked her what for and she's said \"to talk about stuff\" so my heart immediately sunk I knew something was going down.\n\nShe picked me up and we parked a few blocks over and started to talked. She asked if I ever thought of taking a break. Immediately I responded \"no never, I love you very much\" She just looked at me and said \"ohh\". She said that she wanted to break up because that my feelings for her were much stronger then she had for me. She said it didn't feel right in her heart and her feelings didn't develop like she thought they would. I still feel so blind sided by it all. I thought our relationship was perfect. I knew her all through high school and we decided to start dating when we started hanging out in college. \n\nWe had our disagreements here and there but it was nothing major at all. We never had big fights. We shared the same feelings on so much. I asked her if there was anything I could change that would make her stay. Then she started sayig no and that I'm perfect the way I am I treated her amazing. She said she felt bad and she didn't want to drag the relationship on any longer if her heart wasn't fully in it. \n\nIt just doesn't make and sense to me and feels completely out of the blue. I felt like she called it off so quickly with barely any emotion. I feel like she just gave up on me so quickly. I did everything I could for girl. I absolutely adored and loved her so much. I'd do anything for her to take me back.", "summary": "Girlfriend of one year broke up with me because her romantic feelings didn't develop like she thought they would. I feel so stupid, useless and have no idea how to cope and move on.  "}
{"id": "t3_33t6zn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F with my non-labeled thing? [28F] of 1.5 months, am being told she was in love,now she isn't but things are unclear", "post": "Okay so. I've been dating this girl for about 1.5 month's. First month we really hit it off and we saw each other quite a few times outside of date days. we spend the night together and things were good,maybe a little fast.\n\nNow, nearly two weeks ago she tells me she's in love. After doing so a week later she tells me she's having doubts about being in love but that she really likes me.\n\nThree days later she tells me she's not in love with me anymore and she's not quite sure why. We've had a conversation at that point and the conclusion was she really doesnt know why but she feels like that \"in love\" feeling is gone. She said it might be related to work stress and such but it could be not.\n\nFast forward 2 days she's flirting over whatsapp again ( we didn't lose contact) and she asks me if she can come over. I tell her she can and she tells me that she doesn't want to talk a lot about what's going on.\n\nShe comes over, we talk about stuff like we usually do, she flirts with me,i can tell she likes being around me (playing with her hair, the way she looks at me,etc) but me being weary of the sittuation i decide not to make a move. She however does decide to kiss me. we cuddle and kiss the entire night.\n\nNow, we had a short conversation about last night and what it meant and basically she's unsure. She doesn't know if she just liked the intimacy or that she's into me.\n\nWhat do / what to think?\nNote i'm really into this girl and i wouldn't mind going through some rough times if it turns out she has some issues with relationships. ( i should note, she got out of a 8 year relationship 8 months ago and been hooking up with a couple of people since because she didnt feel ready to date again, until she met me.)", "summary": "Girl tells me she's in love, a couple of days later tells me she's not but she's not sure why, comes over to my place and start flirting / kissing / cuddling with me again. What to think."}
{"id": "t3_187ziz", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "An inspiring anecdote for shy guys out there", "post": "My boyfriend and I went to an indoor climbing gym today. It was my first time and I had to go through an intro course about how not to kill the person you're climbing with. Since my BF has experience, I went through it with a bunch of strangers.\n\nWithin this group was a couple. They clearly hadn't known each other long. The guy was pretty\u2026 Reddity for lack of a better term. He had really long hair in a ponytail, was overweight, and wasn't handsome in the face either. The chick he was with was fucking hot. I mean, they were both young, but she was quite pretty for her age. \n\nI'm not really sure what their deal was, but they seemed to be on a first date. This guy was super friendly and nice to everyone and really encouraging to her, she was pretty nervous. After our little intro class was over, he spent the whole time hanging out with her, helping her out, and generally being a boss. I mean, he was so calm and content with the situation, I can't imagine he would have been flustered or upset if this date was all that their relationship came to. They were both just having a good time.\n\nI guess my point is, if any of you guys out there think that your looks are a dealbreaker, they **are not**. Chicks dig dudes who are awesome to hang out with, don't take every interpersonal interaction really seriously, and want to go do fun shit. \n\nYou like a biddy? Invite her to go do some fun shit. Who cares if she is physically out of your league. Go take her to do something fun where you can help her and teach her shit. Cultivate some fucking skills. Live your fucking life.", "summary": "I got inspired by this awesome dude, and I just thought I had to share it with some people who might be motivated by it. Go seize your fucking weekend."}
{"id": "t3_1fbd33", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't beep at me when I'm trying to help you.", "post": "I used to work near an intersection of a one-way major road and a two-way street.  I was waiting by the corner one day, and a guy in an Audi A4 drives up with his indicator on, trying to turn into the one-way street the wrong way.  I tried to flag him down initially, when he didn't respond I crossed my arms in an X and shook my head at him, he looked at me and made a snarky face.  Sensing an impending head-on collision I jumped out onto the road in front of him (he was going quite slowly for the corner) and put my hands out, yelling STOP!  He beeped his horn and flipped me off.\n\nSo, instead, I took a step back and politely waved him on, up the one-way major road he was intent on driving around.  30 seconds later he screeches to a stop when he realises he is facing four lanes of oncoming traffic, quickly does a U-turn, and ends up back at the lights, exactly where I was standing.  He looked up, and I smiled at him.  He put his head down in shame and sped off.\n\nMost satisfying smug grin ever.", "summary": "asshole audi driver flips me off trying to stop him from doing something dangerous, resulting in awkward eye contact after he nearly crashes head-on into oncoming traffic."}
{"id": "t3_148cnc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my(f17) LDR with my boyfriend(18) over?", "post": "Lately it seems like all the couples that tried to stay together during college are falling apart. My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of problems mostly due to communication issues and a slight time difference and it's getting really hard for me to keep doing this. I think the only reason we're still \"dating\" (how can you date somebody from hundreds of miles away?) is because we've already been together over a year and neither of us can let the other one go. We had a big fight last night and decided not to talk to each other at all until he comes home for winter break in about two weeks. \n\nIs there a chance that we can come back from this and be happy? Or should we just end things before we waste more of each others' time and cause more heartache?", "summary": "Having LDR problems with my boyfriend and can't decide if it's worth it to continue the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_uev03", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Alright reddit! Lets here your best movie pitch!", "post": "Heres mine:\n\nIt has been proven that ants, and other animals, are significantly more intelligent when in large masses; they become super-organisms, operating collectively with the summation of each individual's brain power.  \n\nThe plot of my movie would apply this exact concept to humans.  In my movie, a woman would be given the appropriate drugs and medicine to produce an offspring of triplets.  These babies would not be separated for their entire lives.  They would eat as one, learn as one, move as one, and communicate as one.  They would be kept isolated from the world, in a round, white, room.  They would be taught a number system based around 3, rather than 1, thus creating thought processes built around unity in three.  Now, they would of course have to have at least limited exposure to singular humans, but this exposure could be limited to just their father, who is the mastermind behind the experiment.  They would know their father as God, and follow his word with exactitude.  \n\nThe destiny for these unified children? To rule the world.  From a young age, they would be taught to think of singular organisms as inferior and weak, easily manipulated (they would practice manipulation of animals at an early age, manipulating increasingly intelligent creatures).  They would be learned thoroughly in the dictators and governments of world history.  They would have as comprehensive a political knowledge as any man has ever had.  From this high and focused education, and their combined, almost super-organism like intelligence, they would be a master of manipulation, and thus a perfect political figure.  \n\nI have much more detail on this idea, but this sums up the concept fairly well.", "summary": "An experimental father creates a super-organism of triplets destined to rule the world"}
{"id": "t3_1uivce", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Mobile devices on travel", "post": "Hi!\n\nI'm going on a rather long vacation, visiting several places all across the globe (where is to be determined while on the road) and I want to sort out my mobile device situation so I don't bring unnecessary equipment (and value).\n\nI'm not looking to bring facebook with me everywhere, but I want to be able to make calls, internet access/google maps (wifi or pre-paid data) and capable of taking acceptable pictures. \n\nRight now I have a laptop and an iPhone 5. But bringing a 12-hour battery phone and a 8-hour laptop does not seem to bright as I fear power outlets is not around every corner.\n\nI was thinking about bringing a dumbphone, with loads of battery that can be turned on for emergencies. And for every thing else, a Nexus 7 or equivalent. \n\nBeing pretty set on this setup, I just want to have some feedback from people who have been traveling abroad much more than me.", "summary": "taking pictures and google maps + phone?"}
{"id": "t3_4iftes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21F] wondering how many of my issues with my boyfriend [20M] of 1.5 years stem from my own insecurity vs actual problems in the relationship.", "post": "Thought I'd get this out of the way first - aside from these little issues, my boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship and I'm very thankful for the ways he has improved my life. I think it's probably because of this that I feel so crappy now.\n\nAnyway, I believe that the saying is that I may be \"seeing green\" - I think I have a jealousy problem. My boyfriend has a lot of female friends, and I try not let that get to me because I know it's natural. However, what I do take issue with is that he is always very vague about who he is spending time with - he refers to all of his female friends, even his ex, as \"my friend\" with no gendered pronouns, but doesn't seem to have a problem referring to his male friends by name. I only ever find out that they were girls after the fact.\n\nMost recently, my issue is with a girl that he is interested in potentially playing music with (he is a drummer). He kept telling me that he was going to go meet and listen to music with \"them\" since \"that person\" couldn't actually jam because their instruments were out of town. So he basically ended up at a strange girl's place at 1:30 in the morning last week and I only found out it was a girl recently.\n\nI think there's a good chance that he literally doesn't care about the gender of the people he is hanging out/playing music with and that's why he doesn't specify. It just seems like he goes out of his way to be vague, and he has mentioned that he wouldn't mind having sex with other people before, so I'm a little wary.\n\nSo my question is, is this something I should be uncomfortable with, or am I just jealous and paranoid? If I am, please don't hold back, if I'm the problem here I'd love to fix it!", "summary": "Am I paranoid and jealous or do I need to have a talk with my boyfriend? If so, what do I say to him? Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_12d9lw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have You Been Stuck With A Username You Hate?", "post": "A few years ago when I was signing up for Xbox Live I had entered a Username that was already taken. One of the alternatives was \"Kid Mafia Kid\", stupid me accidentally chose and accepted it. Well since I was about to pay 10 dollars to get a name change I kept it, after a while of using this name it eventually stuck, not because I liked it but because that's how everyone knew me as not to mention most sites won't allow you to change your username and I feel that setting up a new account for that would be an annoyance due to losing all of my past works and having to create a new e-mail and transfer everything linked to my current E-mail to the new one. The reason I don't care for this name so much is because it seems like I'm a lot younger than what I really am and I feel as though a lot of people don't take me as seriously. Does anybody else have any similar stories about a current username they have but don't really like?", "summary": "I chose a username I hate by accident but it's attached to everything I use."}
{"id": "t3_iypb0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "This college student needs direction.", "post": "I'm kind of desperate, so any advice is welcome. I am a college student and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I started out as a Psychology major (with the intent of working with children), changed it to Elementary Education (still with the goal of working in counseling eventually), and now I'm kind of out of ideas. I love children and animals and helping people. Psychology classes are the only classes that I've ever been interested in/enjoyed taking. I don't know what I would do with a Psychology degree though, and I don't want to waste a degree. I've also considered running my own business (a coffee shop or a no kill animal shelter), but I don't know how I would handle the stress as I have a pretty high stress level as it is. The only other thing I've considered is going into Advertising, but I'm not sure if I have the right personality. I haven't really gotten a lot of advice from my friends/family, so anything would be pretty awesome.", "summary": "I'm a college student that is terrified of messing up her future."}
{"id": "t3_nsqg0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ummm...I'm new in town (redditor for less than 12 hours), but it seems like a lot of these posts are complete lies/bullshit. Please tell me I'm wrong, reddit!", "post": "OK, so I just signed up a few hours ago and have read *many, many, many* posts already. You guys sure have *a lot* of \"I came out to my family as an atheist but we are a family of X's so now I'm homeless and I don't know what to do.\" WTF. Are these all true? Don't get me wrong (I'm an agnostic) but it seems to be a tad odd to have so many of the same story happening all within a short period of time. Also, I have seen quite a few \"ZOMG THIS JUST HAPPENED TO ME!\" but I have seen the attached photos or have heard that story (almost exactly the same) sometime before. Is reddit full of story-tellers or am I just living on a different planet than everyone? The site is cool but I don't know what in the hell is going on.", "summary": "REDDIT LOOKS LIKE IT'S FILLED WITH A BUNCH OF FAKE BOOSHIT. MAKES ME SAD."}
{"id": "t3_e9xqu", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Planning a RTW trip", "post": "Reddit, can you please help me plan and budget my RTW trip.  I have been looking for information but everything varies so much.  I am currently working full time and saving for the trip.  I plan to travel for 12-24 months.  I haven't decide where all I want to go yet, any suggestions on how to do this?  Also, how do you plan for how long you are going to stay in a certain area?  I have been to Germany, Italy, Austria, and Guatemala and plan on visiting these location again.  I was planning on back packing and staying in hostels a majority of the time.  At this point in time I will be traveling alone.  Any links or suggestions would be appreciated.", "summary": "Help me budget and choose locations for a 12-24 mo RTW trip."}
{"id": "t3_lt0v6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I becoming a naggy girlfriend? What's the fix for it?", "post": "Tomorrow is my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend. He's a great guy and best thing that's ever happen to me, but recently we had a mini fight.\n\nIt's over the fact that he doesn't want to meet my family UNLESS there's other people around-- like cousins or other relatives. I don't have cousins. The only fairly close relative outside of my immediate family is my Uncle and I don't see him that often. \n\nI've met his family a few times before. So I was hoping he'd do the same and meet my parents.\n\nThing is, I've had some minor drama before with my parents which sent me pretty much crying to my boyfriend. \nDon't get me wrong, I still love my parents. They're my family. And I definitely don't come from a fucked up situation -- it's just minor 1st world problems kind of BS. Just simple shit that somehow made me cry a lot. I'm a pretty emotional kind of girl, so I'll pretty much cry over anything (i.e., my fish dying, me rage quitting over videogames, etc).\nAll this family drama happened maybe like 6-8months ago. I'm completely over it. He's still kind of bitter.\n\nBut all this crying left a bad taste in his mouth and he doesn't want to really meet my parents. So he's somewhat bitter at my parents for making me upset over shit that happened awhile ago. Which is his reason for not wanting to meet them or do any dinner stuff with them. He says he'll meet them when he's ready. \n\nBut I'm kind of starting to get anxious because my parents have invited him multiple times to go out to dinner for celebrations (birthdays, dad's retirement, etc.) and he's declined each time. \n\nSo I've been asking him about it and it just kind of ends up in an argument.\n\nWhat's your advice, Reddit?\nAm I being that horrible naggy significant other?", "summary": "BF doesn't want to meet my parents because he's mad at them over shit that happened months ago. "}
{"id": "t3_14r2wh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[29] GF[30] doesn't want to bring me around her friends.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl a month (new, I know so I can cut and run but I'm into her) but she doesn't want me around her friends which seems odd to me.  She says she doesn't want to deal with any embarrassment or what her friends might say to her afterwards. I'm taking her out on a double date with one of my friends and when I asked about her friends I got told pretty bluntly that it wasn't going to happen. She won't even Facebook friend me because she doesn't want to see how I interact with my friends.  This concerns me.  \n\nSo far I've only met her and her friends once out in public by accident (basketball game) and she says it went terribly because I didn't kiss her immediately, hung out with my friends for the game, and seemed \"off\" even though I spent the entire half talking to her as well as a quarter of the game sitting next to her.  We were also supposed to go to the same party afterwards but she took her friends out to the bars because she didn't want to crowd me.  She texted me at the party and asked how it was going but I didn't read it right away so she took it as I wanted space and didn't show up.  I got a call later to come to her place after and when I got there she was trashed and very upset about the meeting and how her friends were asking why her BF wasn't texting back immediately and how this is what she hated about relationships ... the emotional/caring part.\n\nTo be fair she's been burned pretty bad before in previous relationships (it was messed up) and is very independent and doesn't normally date \"nice guys\". She's super smart and beautiful and has no trouble going out with guys or girls. She's not mean and is sometimes over considerate. And in all honesty the relationship is brand spanking new.\n\nSo internet, is the relationship just new and we need to work out some kinks or does she seem to care a bit too much about what her friends think?\n\nThanks", "summary": "GF won't bring me around friends or Facebook friend me for fear of what they might think."}
{"id": "t3_1rt0sn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm the jealous type. How do I cope?", "post": "I've [18F] been in a relationship with my boyfriend [20M] for a year in January. We have a great relationship; he is absolutely wonderful to me, we spend a lot of time together, and I have no reason to not trust him. He is very loyal and doesn't even look at other girls. However, I am a bit insecure and a **huge** jealous type. I believe that I am attractive. The weird part, though, is I can't get the idea of him with another, prettier girl out of my head. I have dreams of catching him in the act constantly and it's all starting to get to me. How do I cope with being this way?", "summary": "I'm the jealous type, unreasonably so. How do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_vvwlf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most precarious situation you've ever gotten off in? [NSFW]", "post": "I dated a girl in high school for a couple years.  This girl was a year younger than me and let me tell you, the horniest thing I've ever dealt with.  It was like, when she wanted to fool around, were going to fool around and that was that (not that I really ever complained).  So this one night, we were watching a movie in her basement, and like usual, we didn't even get past the menu screen of the DVD before we were messing around.  Suddenly, we hear the stairs leading down to the basement creaking and my brain goes into \"oh shit\" mode but before we can really do any sort of clothing ourselves (luckily, shirts were still on at this point) her mother is standing before us.  Now, normally this would cause just a big boner kill from the fright of having my girlfriend's parent standing before me, but \"I\" was still clenched in my girlfriend's hand (under a blanket, of course).  So her mom starts talking about God knows what, I'm really not paying attention at this point, just trying to gauge whether or not we'll escape this unscathed.  Next thing I know, her hand starts moving up and down.  There was not a damn thing I could do about it.  She just kept talking to her mom while wackin' me off under the blanket.  Let me tell you, I was a fucking monk in this situation- stoic and devoid of any expression on my face.  So, this goes on for awhile, and sure enough, she finished me off, right in front of her mom.  How messed up is that?  This leads me to wonder if anyone else has had situations like this happen or if my life in high school was just more fucked up than I realized.", "summary": "My high school girlfriend wacked me off under a blanket in front of her mom."}
{"id": "t3_1a4865", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [17m virgin] is upset that I [16f] had meaningless sex with his friend before there was anything between us [been a week]", "post": "So we talked for a week (during which I told him that I slept with his best friend and he said it didn't change anything between us) and then he took me on a date this past Friday. \n\nThe date went well with only a few awkward moments. When he parked to drop me off we started making out and I ended up giving him a bj. \n\nWe really didn't talk except for half an hour on Saturday, but he was still calling me babe so I figured it was fine. \n\nSunday we were flirty for a couple hours and then he started asking me about what happened with his friend and talking about how he wants to keep his virginity. \n\nWe got into a big discussion about it, where he said he doesn't really want a relationship right now because of me having screwed his friend. \n\nI thought we got it cleared up that we were just gonna keep talking and wait a little for a relationship but now he hasn't talked to me all day", "summary": "I slept with this guy two weeks ago, but it was meaningless and I was actually attracted to his best friend. Now, I went on a date with the best friend who knew I slept with the guy before we went on the date. Ever since the date he's been hung up on me fucking his friend"}
{"id": "t3_178haf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F15) relationship with my dad (40) is falling apart due to his girlfriend (19)", "post": "Okay, my parents got divorced about two years ago. They were both cheating on each other. They got new partners relatively quickly (about 2 months after everything was final. ) What gets weird is my dads girlfriend (now fianc\u00e9. ) is only 19. She went to school with my sister (20) and she's been like a family friend since they were in 7th grade. She is now beyond rude to us (my sister and I, and our brother who is 8) She hasn't finished highschool, and has no job. She had a 3 year old who's father is not in the picture. Sometimes she comes home smelling strongly of marijuana and sometimes of alcohol. While I think if she wants to smoke, that's fine, but I think it's really inappropriate for her to come home to her child while buzzed. I've talked to my dad countless times about how it makes me uncomfortable, but he sees no problem with it. I've talked to him about how she says rude things about my sister (calling her names, complaining about how she lives with our dad still, etc. ) but he still does nothing. My dad is starting to act like her and it worries me. He could have a wonderful woman, but he's choosing her, and his relationship with his kids is at stake. I'm too embarrassed about it to talk to anybody else about it, so is there anything I can do to try and make him see where his kids are coming from? Or should I just leave him be and hope that he sees that she's not the best thing he could have? Please help.", "summary": "My dads girlfriend is beyond rude to my siblings and I, and I can't handle it. My dads acting like her, and he won't listen to reason. "}
{"id": "t3_13e8fy", "subreddit": "college", "title": "A wee bit of frustration. What do? Three TLDRs.", "post": "This semester has been a shitstorm for me in my lit class. First, the prof tells us that we have homework to do at our convenience that is due at the end of the semester. Later find out that the homework is due each Thursday at six, submitted online. No problem, the syllabus says we have three weeks to submit late work. I start doing the work I missed along with the work I need to do, so I catch up. Mid terms come around and I see that my prof has not posted a grade for me yet. Just yesterday, I find out that grades are up and we had two weeks to do late work instead of the three, thus making me miss the due dates on each assignment, I now have a D. I am a little upset that the syllabus was wrong, and it makes me feel like she was lying to us at the start of the semester. I also took the class before, but my current university won't accept the credit due to the class being one level higher, but it is the EXACT same material.", "summary": "Wrong syllabus dates on when things are due, no midterms, causing me to be dangerously close to failing a class that I have already taken."}
{"id": "t3_3aa98b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23[m] with a 25[f]. How do i salvage my relationship?", "post": "This is a LDR so already it has been hard on both of us. I have always had trust issues for as long as i can remember which isn't good for us. She isn't a very open person when it comes to her feelings unless she gets mad then she will let you know. Recently she has said shes been depressed because things her life aren't exactly working out for the best. She said something about an ex boyfriend and i immediately was concerned. Now i trust her i always have trusted her and she trusts me. But for some reason this just didn't sit well with me and acted really stupid. I got really clingy to her and i over apologized to the point where she got really upset with me about apologizing so much. She even threatened to block me from contacting her. \nSo now i am a paranoid mess not for the ex boyfriend talk but for how i handled the whole thing. I still try to talk to her like nothing happened but i don't think its working. I would just like some help here on how i can hold onto this because i really do love this girl.\n\n She is the best thing i have ever had but i am really afraid my neediness and jealously is going to hurt her. I already lost her once to some dumb argument and i will be damned if i mess this up again.\nShould i give her some space to kind of cool off or should i try to talk with her? She isn't the best at opening up and when i would like her to she kind of hates it.\n I have read tons of articles on how to  get past those emotions but it's really hard for me and now i am just an emotional mess. Any help would be greatly appreciated thank you for reading.", "summary": "depressed girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2lzgjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23 M) think I said something stupid/creepy to (21 F)?", "post": "Ok, so I'll start off by saying I don't really have dating experience. \n\nI started talking to this girl I met on OKC a couple months ago and we've exchanged texts every day so I think she might be into me. Anyways, sometimes we also talk on the phone usually when she's driving back home from school for the night. Whatever, we have fun talking and laugh at each other's jokes.\n\nWe've only been able meet a couple times and I was talking to her last night and I brought up when the next time would be good to meet. I've told her that I've been studying for a certification exam (which I'm actually taking the next part on the 20th). She said either next weekend or sometime after my exam and I said in a joking manner something like \"Yeah I guess after my exam, I'll be able to devote more time to you...\" She kind of chuckled and repeated it but looking back now, I think it may have been a dumb thing to say and I'm worried she felt creeped out by that statement.\n\nI tend to overthink things and I certainly hope this is the case again, but with my limited experience I'm glad that I even have a girl to talk to and don't want to lose that. What do you guys think? Was that a dumb/creep statement?", "summary": "Been talking to this girl, said I'd be able to devote more time to her after an exam. I feel stupid saying that"}
{"id": "t3_490xww", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I am a 22 year old man who, due to behavioural patterns from the age of 15, needs cannabis or alcohol to get to sleep. What techniques or advice could you give me for ridding myself of this?", "post": "Hi there,\n\nWhen I turned 15 I fell in love with weed. Started smoking all the time, thought it was the best thing in the world. Gets to a point where I need to end the day by smoking some weed (obviously it has never been some undeniable physical addiction but it was still something I would ensure I did every day, no matter the inconvenience).\n\nMove to London at 18, and at 20 move in with a girl. This is the first time since 15 I'm not smoking weed all the time. I do however start drinking more regularly, and quite soon my sleeping issue returns, only now alcohol is now a second option.\n\n2 years on, I am struggling with other substance abuse issues, and although small quantities of alcohol and cannabis are not huge issues comparatively, I want more than anything to remove all dependencies from my life.\n\nWhat advice could any of you give me for reintroducing a healthy sleep pattern to myself?\n\nI should clarify, it isn't that I would be completely unable to sleep without alcohol or cannabis. It's simply that the two are so readily available to me (alcohol especially, being that I live across the road from a 24/7 shop that is open LITERALLY every day of the week). As long as they are available to me, I will find it very hard to simply just detach myself.\n\nSo yeah, has anyone overcome a similar issue? Does anyone know of sleep inducing techniques (i.e. breathing patterns) that they have found effective?\n\nAlso I'm aware this seems like such a petty and insignificant problem, but overcoming it is not only something I am finding incredibly hard, but something that would change my life for the better - enormously.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "I use alcohol and cannabis before sleeping every night and have for years. Can you help me overcome this?"}
{"id": "t3_3xoeae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's (27) sister (20) is narcissistic, annoying, and I can't make her go away for good. I'm going to lose my mind soon!", "post": "I'm not going to go into major detail about everything, but basically over the years she has been causing me nothing but strife. \n\nShe's loud, obnoxious, and attention seeking. She posts novels on Facebook about how she's so proud of herself for this and that. Like getting over anorexia. She never was anorexic. I saw her eat no problem whenever someone brought her food. The only problem was, she's too lazy to make her own food. That does t sound like anorexia to me. And she's still 100 lbs soaking wet. \n\nShe also posted about how she is done with drinking and she needs to not do it as much, and not even 4 days later she posts a bunch of pictures, booze in hand. \n\nThese are just a couple examples of how annoying as hell she is. Also, my boyfriend and I have gotten in fights with her, and she has called me fat (sorry I don't still wear children's sizes as an adult) and tried and failed to physically assault me. I'm the most non confrontational person ever. She's just crazy. \n\nSo I've tried to just block her on everything and ignore her so she goes away. But then she lays guilt trips on her brother and I end up getting dragged back into it for the sake of peace. As the saying goes \"the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb\". But apparently she takes it as the usual way it's said. \n\nI don't want to associate with her, but I feel weird telling my bf I don't want him talking to her either. The problem is she is extremely manipulative. Do you think she actually has a mental disorder? She's unhygienic, never cleans her house, let's her dogs shit and piss all over the house and doesn't clean it. She does random drugs and drinks every 4 days. And she's constantly acting like some hardass on facebook.", "summary": "my boyfriends sister is annoying af for pretty much every reason anyone can be, but I don't know if I should/ can stop him from repeatedly going back to her. I would be happy if I never saw her again."}
{"id": "t3_kmyhw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I need your help/opinions on religion.", "post": "I am 15 years old, in my sophomore year in highschool and im kinda questioning my religion(Roman Catholic) a little bit. I've always been Roman Catholic and i am because my parents are, im sure that if i was born into a family that followed a different religion or no religion at all, I would be raised to believe that that religion was correct instead of other religions or not to be religious at all. Anyway i've prayed and all for many many things such as for help with depression and bad grades in school and i put as much effort forth as i could yet things just kept getting worse and i've yet to see religion make my life any better. Also if i ever questioned my religion to my parents they would make me say the rosary and go to confessions. They have made me go to Church every single sunday since i was born, haven't gone a week without going to church. Do you guys think this is right or should i confront my parents and take the punishment?", "summary": "Questioning my religion(Roman Catholic) and have very religious parents that would pretty much disown me if i told them i didn't want to be religious. Please help me!"}
{"id": "t3_4jm12e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (29F)'s engagement ring is not a diamond, I (29M) haven't told her, how can I?", "post": "Not sure this is the right place to ask but here I am. Obvious throwaway.  \n\n  \nProposed last year to my GF, she said yes! We are going to get married this October.  \n  \nAt the time I bought her a ring that is the style she liked, but within my budget, got her 3 stone Moissanite ring. She loves it. She never really asked where I got it, or how much i paid, but now we need to get wedding bands. I should have bought the matching band at the time, but wasn't thinking.   \n  \nNow, she's looking at a bunch of wedding bands but none look as good as the Moissanite band that matches her ring and most are much more expensive.  \n  \nHow can I tell he what hers is at this point and get her the one that matches?  \n  \nBefore you just say \"Just tell her, she won't care\", yes I agree, but I need a better way to bring it up. Again, she probably just assumes what it is and that it is pretty and from me.  \n  \nI could just buy her the one that matches, but she will ask where I got it, so I guess I will have to tell her at some point. I didn't get her a diamond because I'm cheap, i got her one because I think Diamonds are overpriced.  \n  \nHow can I tell her or bring it up without making her feel I \"Lied\" to her, when I didn't?", "summary": "Engagement ring isn't Diamond, Need to know how to bring it up and tell her"}
{"id": "t3_2z6587", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by grabbing ass.", "post": "Alright so heres the deal, so this didn't happen today cause tell me which TIFU's are posted on the day. I'm going to keep this brief but i think you guys can get the gist.Mind you this was all a bit of fun but we did get in decent shit after.\n\nMy school's social was last week Thursday. Me and my 2 best friends are so pumped. We walk straight through those 2 doors and the first thing one of my best friends says is \"Oi mate, Let's play a game of Grab-Ass\" and me and my other best friend, looking forward to a good night, without hesitation say \"yeah mate\" we all lock gazes and pick our targets. I walk up to the first girl, amazing ass just ready to get grabbed. I say \"hey, you look amazing, can i get a hug\" in a more eloquent way of course and of course she says yes. We hold each other close, my hand on her waist and in the brief span of about 20 seconds i lower my hand to her ass and i squeeze to my hearts desire. My bliss turned into utter fear. I recognize a face in the crowd. My girlfriend. She gives me a steely gaze and i quickly let go of the girl in my arms and try and fade away. I can feel the utter disdain that my girlfriend had for me.", "summary": "Went to social,grabbed random's asses saw girlfriend., got in shit"}
{"id": "t3_3tynnc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M22] broke up with me [F22] after 4 years together. Feeling incredibly alone and I don't know how to move forward with my life. Please help.", "post": "To give a little bit of background, my boyfriend was the love of my life. We spent every single day together and I truly thought he was the man I was going to marry. I planned my whole future around when he was going to finish his degree so that we could begin our life together and move in together. Well, he ended things because he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. We are still friends but don't really talk much or see each other. \n\nThis has left me feeling completely directionless. I don't know how to move on. He was my first love and the only man I've been with. I can barely get out of bed and I have to force myself to do my school work. I don't have many friends because all my time and energy went into school and my relationship. \n\nBasically, I'm depressed as fuck and feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I just need some advice on how to deal with getting over your first love and how I can move forward with my life. It has been a month but I feel like I don't feel any better about it. \n\nAny advice would really help.", "summary": "Ex broke my heart, feeling hopeless."}
{"id": "t3_vda1q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to keep busy at a boring job?", "post": "I am a machine operator in a factory, I work 10hrs a day 4 days a week. The job is very repetitious and can be boring, but it pays well and it's nice having a three day weekend. Unlike my last job I am not allowed to listen to an iPod and I'm not able to talk to fellow employees due to the fact that our machines are far apart and our machines need constant attention, so if you were or have been in my situation, what did you do to help pass the time and keep from going crazy?", "summary": "Bored machine operator: how should I pass the time with no iPod or fellow employees to talk to?"}
{"id": "t3_2239ih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] have issues connecting with girls I date", "post": "It's not emotional or anything, it's just that I'm a little inexperienced in life.\n\nI grew up really really poor.  When I say poor, I mean literally welfare.  So there are a lot of childhood experiences I never had. I went to school and then went to work.\n\nCollege was kind of the first time I actually had some time for friends.\n\nAnyway, my lack of a lot of experiences makes me feel extremely awkward when I'm dating a girl.  For example, I've never owned a car, I have my license but I rarely ever drive.  When a girl I dated wanted to take a weekend trip, I was so extremely nervous about driving and asked her to take over driving for a bit of the time.\n\nAnd recently, I just started dating a girl who grew up pretty well off.  We'd go to really fancy schmancy restaurants (not all the time, but occasionally) and I just feel really out of place, as in, I never had to dress up to go friggin' eat, and I did not know the etiquette at all, so I was a little embarrassing.  She grew up going to places like this all her life.\n\nAnd as a 20-something, people have traveled the world and always had all kinds of experiences to share.  I never got that opportunity, so there isn't much I could reciprocate on that end during conversation.\n\nThere are all kinds of these things that are coming up that I'm so uncomfortable about because I feel like I'm going to make a complete fool out of myself.  One of her best friends are getting married and I'm going to be her +1.  It's one of those really big fancy weddings and I am extremely apprehensive.\n\nI feel my background and lack of life experience is always putting me into these somewhat awkward situations and I don't know what to do.  I feel like it eventually creates distance between me and other people.", "summary": "i'm a weirdo. what to do"}
{"id": "t3_208vq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (22F) has trust issues, what do i (22M) do?", "post": "My gf (22f) and i (22m) have been together for almost 2 years now. She comes from a family where her dad left them for another woman as a young child, and its really affected her relationship with men and trust ever since. \n\nFor a few weeks now, shes been very cold with me, to the point where she doesn't even talk to me. She seems upset when shes with me but is ok with others. And the few times we've spoken, she would snap at me for no reason. I asked her a couple times, but she insisted it was nothing. Eventually, she relented because we would get into tons of fights. She found out that her older sister (23f) had been cheated on her bf (25m) for a while now, and its made her very sad because this was someone she looked up to and trusted.\n\nSo right now, she has admitted to being sad all the time and that she finds it hard to trust me. She claims that if it is possible for two people (her dad and her sis) she trusted so much to have let her down like that, anything could happen to us. I told her that i wouldn't go anywhere because i love her and I'd take whatever cold crap she would dish out. Especially if it helps.\n\nIts been a week now, and its tough. But i think im making it work. Just wondering if there was anything else i could do.", "summary": "Gf is having trust issues after finding out her sister is cheating. Starts being cold to me and i tell her to do what she needs to. Anything else i can do?"}
{"id": "t3_2f6u3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] want to get back with my ex [17F] for the second time, one year after breaking up", "post": "So we had started dating 2 years ago and broken up for the first time after 6 months. Not long after that I realized that I was stupid so I apologised her and we came back to each other.\n\nAfter that I was afraid of losing her again so I became kinda overly attached to her. That's when I fucked up everything. Few months after that she grew tired of it but I did not see that, as I thought that it would be better if I cared too much about her. But she never complained about anything. And that day finally came. She said she wanted us to be \"only friends\" but never said the reason why. I figured it out myself after a while.\n\nit's been a year now. We still remain friends, but not that close anymore. she is still single since then. I still have really strong feelings for her but I fear that she will not accept me again, even though I have changed. And a lot of guys are after her too. Any tips or advice, Reddit?", "summary": "trying to get back with my ex gf for the second time after one year of breaking up"}
{"id": "t3_1lh3yi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) have a new bf (27m) but I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like.", "post": "I've had a boyfriend for about a week, although we've been pretty much together for almost two months.The problem is, I have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like, and I actually care about him a lot so I would like to not ruin this relationship immediately.\nAll of my close friends are in relationships that they really rushed into, although they are all happy for now, I can see that causing problems for them down the road. My last relationship was poor- I hooked up with a friend of a friend (who was separated from his wife) and we immediately hit it off and started really seriously dating and got very involved for about a year before he dumped me. Before that, I dated someone who was just in town for the summer, but still I got attached quickly. I don't really want to be like this.\nIt seems to me that I have a common tendency to get pretty involved pretty fast in relationships. My current boyfriend and I definitely have chemistry, but I can see myself getting overly involved very fast. What's different this time, though, is that he is keeping things pretty slow. If I step back and look at the bigger picture, I think this is good. I care a lot about him and our relationship, and I want it to be healthy for both of us. If it was up to me, I would have pretty much moved in with him at this point, however he likes to have his time. I always want to hang out, but a lot of times he doesn't, and it gives me anxieties. My logic is like, \"OK he doesn't want to hang out with me but if he liked me as much as I like him, he would want to hang out with me all the time.\" My friends hang out with their boyfriends pretty much all of the time, and have since the beginning of their relationships. I don't think that's necessarily very healthy, but I don't know.", "summary": "I have no model to base a healthy relationship on. What should a two month relationship look like? Should we still be spending a lot of time apart? I want us to both have our space but my friends are in relationships where they are always together."}
{"id": "t3_50z046", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m]My girlfriend(18/f) is making me jealous.", "post": "Let me start by saying this is a long distance relationship. I've been with my girlfriend for a year now. Once we started school she got kind of depressed but she's been hanging out with so many people in her school. She lives far away and she tells me that I'm just too jealous. She regularly hangs with some football guys she just met and I was concerned and we had an argument but we both realized that I'm being too jealous. I try and suppress these bad emotions but she doesn't seem have intention of trying to change her behavior even for me. Tonight she is having a sleepover and there are like four guys and one girl who dates one of the guys and her dad will be gone. She never lies to so I trust her but it still worries me. should I be worried at all or am I over reacting? I feel she's really pushing me to my limit. Im trying to manage my jealousy but am i wrong for being jealous? If I really love her and trust her should I work on my jealousy?", "summary": "My girlfriend gets mad at me for my jealousy issues but it seems to me she's really pushing her limits."}
{"id": "t3_10em8n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best way to kick a habit? (an atypical situation)", "post": "I'm sure this question has been asked a billion times, but I thought I'd ask about mine in particular. If you have general advice and don't feel like reading my story, that's okay too, but nothing anyone in my life has suggested so far has helped me. \n\nMy habit is that I pick my nails, similar to biting but I use my hands. It might not seem like a big deal to many, but it's gotten really serious. The problem is, I pick them way way way down, almost to the cuticle. Pictures for those curious (though it's pretty gross): [Left hand] and [right hand] My nails have looked like this for over two years.\n\nOkay, so what makes this a different situation is that I do not do this when I am stressed, anxious, or sad. I do it *always*. Every single day, for more than two years. A lot of times, I don't even realize I'm doing it until after I start, and once I start on a nail I always have to finish. What does finish mean? Well basically until I'm in agonizing pain (though I think I may have damaged some nerves because it very rarely hurts to do anymore).\n\nAnyway, not only is it really gross, but it hurts to get them wet, which makes showering and washing my hands incredibly painful. I have no idea how to stop. I've tried wearing gloves around the house but it never works. Any advice is helpful, especially anything besides \"do something else with your hands\" because I have tried and failed to do that for many years.", "summary": "I can't stop picking my nails and stereotypical advice does not seem to help."}
{"id": "t3_3ygknb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So. I'm going to make a move on my guy friend.", "post": "Hey reddit, I don't really have anyone to tell this to right now, so I hope you don't mind if I share here.\n\nHe and I (f) have been friends for a while now (just about 10 years. We're both in our 20's) and lately we've been spending a lot more time with each other.  He's a pretty awesome person and I've really been enjoying it. \n\nWe engage in flirtatious behavior every now and then, but sometimes it seems like we hold back because we don't want to mess up our friendship.  I mean, I could completely be misreading the signs and he's not into me at all, but sometimes you have to take that risk, right?\n\n*The Plan:* Neither of us have seen all of the Star Wars movies, so we decided to watch episodes 1-6 and then see episode 7 in theaters together.  We're watching the movies at his place.\n\nWe've only had one \"session\" so far and we'll have at least two more before we can see episode 7.  The next one is tomorrow night.  We usually watch it on the couch with the lights off, which is perfect.  My particular goal is not to rush things; I kind of want to ease into it, so I'm planning on initiating cuddling with him.  I want to see how he responds to that before full-on asking him out or the like.\n\nWish me luck! :)\n\nIf any of you know any sweet moves to try, I'm totally open to suggestions!", "summary": "See title.  I'm doing it tomorrow night.  Wish me luck!"}
{"id": "t3_3cg4zr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [24/M] of 6 months, don't know how to handle my jealousy of his female best friend and housemate", "post": "My boyfriend is very close with one of his housemates. She can be really flirty when she's drunk, with everyone. Very much with him. I know he loves me and I know he's not attracted to her, they are just close and one of his many best friends. Sometimes I get really jealous and I know this is not okay because he is loyal to me and always has been. They play basketball every week day and I'm not invited of course because it's not a three person game but it also makes me jealous. Well this past weekend I was busy with some girlfriends from out of town so I couldn't hang out with him, and he was at a party his housemate happened to be at because they have all the same friends. He got extremely drunk and unable to really function anymore so he asked her to walk him home, so she did. Well she was just saying (in front of me) how lovey he was being and how she didn't mind all the compliments at all. And how he was holding her hand. Now I didn't get mad because I have already mentioned my jealousy before and he got really mad at me because she is in no way a threat. They are just really good friends and he hated that I was jealous. So I know I need to choose my battles wisely. But I just want to ask him if they have ever held hands before or if it was just because he was out of control drunk and needed help.", "summary": "My boyfriend's best friend is his female housemate and I just found out they held hands when he was unable to take care of himself out of being too drunk. How do I handle my jealousy? Silently or no?"}
{"id": "t3_q7s29", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Soon I have to decide where I want to be and what I want to do next year, can anyone help me with my situation?", "post": "If this is the wrong place for this then someone let me know and I'll move it, really didn't know where to put it, sorry. \n\nThis might be a long story but I need some help and have nowhere else to turn to at the moment, I need to have an outsiders view on the situation basically. I'm in my second year of university and I'm not having much fun here, I don't particularly enjoy my course and I have few friends where I am at the moment but I don't want to drop out and ruin any future prospects I could have. I have had pretty dark patches in the last few months but I really feel like I'm at a dead end in life, however I'm only 20 and want to do something with my life I think.\n\n The other problem is if I do stay here I have to find a house and live with new people, at the moment my friend wants me to move into a house with just us two in it, however she spends 4/5 days a week staying at her boyfriends which would leave me even more isolated next year than I am this. The other major problem being my 2 other good friends where I am are her boyfriend and his roomate, so if I wanted to spend time with other people my only other choices are those two and if she is over at there place it generally makes for an awkward sitaution. Am I wrong to want to find other people to live with? I don't want to offend her but I also don't want to spend my last year at uni forever alone in a 2 bedroom house. The whole situation is a mindfuck and is hard to explain fully, I'm just looking for some words of advice, do I live with her next year for the sake of our friendship or do I just find a room in a shared house and hope the people I live with are people I can be friends with.\nIf anyone at all reads this that would be great and any help would be amazing, sorry if its shoddily written and badly explained, its late and I just needed to vent. Thank you", "summary": "Need to sort my life out and I have no fucking clue how."}
{"id": "t3_46v1wc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using too much toilet paper", "post": "(I'm using a throwaway account FYI)\nOkay so first off, the obligatory \"this didn't happen today\" but it did happen a few weeks ago.\nA couple of mates and I decided to catch the train into the city (we live in the suburbs) and as a result we obviously had to catch a train back. Now the train station in the city is pretty big (by my countries standards) and is constantly full of people.\n\nWe arrived at the train station and up until then I had been holding in a rather larger shit, which by then was practically turtle necking. So I quickly mentioned to my friends where I was off to and powerwalked my way into the little boys room to take care of business. This particular poop was a little messy and left quite a bit of residue on the inside of my cheeks, so it took a lot of wiping and by the time I had finished the used TP in the bowl was rubbing against my cheeks, it didn't help that the toilet was shallow either.\n I finished my business and made my outside and stroll over to where my mates were waiting for me. They took one look at me and started laughing. I stared confused until one of them quietly said to me \"dude, you uh got some toilet paper hanging out of the back of your pants.\"\nThere had been so much paper in the bowl a small trail of it had stuck to my butt when i got up and put my pants back on. I quickly reached behind me and plucked it from the inside of my underwear, at this point my friends were in hysterics, there was even shit on the toilet paper. I hastily balled it up and discarded it on the floor away from me. Keep in mind that there was a lot of people around as they made their way to and from work and as a result a lot of people probably saw. \nI was red, my friends were laughing and the group of guys sitting near were quietly pointing and laughing at me. We couldn't have gotten out of there sooner.", "summary": "took a shit and ended up with a TP tail as I walked through a busy train station."}
{"id": "t3_1rfr9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have a huge crush on a girl [19 F] that I just met. How does one go about getting someone off their mind?", "post": "I met her at an open mic and she has an incredible voice, so I decided to ask her if she wanted to help me write a track for an album I'm working on. \n\nWe've hung out for 3.5 hours total and I just stepped out of a relationship, so I'm not trying ANYTHING yet (I really want to get to know her before stuff like that happens), but we've been having awesome conversation and I find her ridiculously attractive. \n\nI don't want to drive myself crazy with over thinking, and I also don't want to creep her out with a weird text that I will undoubtedly feel the need to spontaneously send. And, at the end of the day, I'd much rather have a new friend than a burnt out chance of \"catching some tail\". \n\nMy question is- does anyone have any advice on getting someone off your mind? Do you guys have any rational that I could use to keep the romantic thoughts in the dark?", "summary": "Girl is bangin' and super chill, don't want to think about her that way just yet."}
{"id": "t3_2q417r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my 19 year old sister screwed the cap onto the mayo jar correctly.", "post": "My sister has no mental handicap (Even though she DID get pregnant as soon as she graduated High School, which is pretty dumb of her since she always tells me to wear a condom.)\n\nAnyways, that's all the backstory you need, this isn't a huge fuck up but still a fuck up.\n\nOne thing I hate about my sister is the fact that she always yells at me to do something simple like close the kitchen cabinets, and when I do listen to her she doesn't say \"thank you\", but my sister forgets to do simple stuff like leaving doors open, screwing the top of the mayo jar back on, which is what this TIFU is based on.\n\nA little while ago, my sister forgot to screw the cap back onto the Mayo, and I like to pick stuff up from it's top.\nSo I was gonna make my dad his lunch for tomorrow, being the great son I am, I pick the mayo out of the fridge door.... SPLAT! There's a shit ton of mayo on the floor now, the plastic jar chipped a little bit, but the force of the fall still made most of the mayo fall out, the lid literally shattered into a million pieces, and be being the scared lil fuck I am, I scream a bit and fall over, knocking my head on the counter and getting a massive headache.\n\nI clean it up and yell at my sister a bit, then immediately go clean it up because she said it's all my fault for being a clumsy lil' fuck.", "summary": "Dropped Mayo and hit my head."}
{"id": "t3_4gnewa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my boss of 2 years. Should I tell him about my boyfriend's alcoholism?", "post": "Hello everyone.  I'm sitting here at 3:15 AM, and I just got home from bonding my boyfriend out of jail.\n\nI fully intend to be late for work in the morning, and my first instinct was to email my boss to let him know that, and to bluntly tell him why...that I was bonding someone out of jail.  I'm also tempted to tell my boss that it was my boyfriend that I was bonding out, and that he's an alcoholic.\n\nTo give you some background, my boss and I have a fantastic relationship.  We're both very professional and productive, but he creates a very casual and open work environment.  He jokes around about all sorts of things, even 420 friendly topics, and he's offered me raises and training because he looks out for his team on a personal level.  I'm always very frank with him when it comes to work matters, but I've personally just always kept work and private life very separate.  However, there are some people in our office that know their subordinates' personal lives and even call themselves friends, so it's not unheard of to meld personal and work at our office.\n\nI feel like, at this point in our work relationship, I should just be frank about what I'm dealing with because it definitely affects my work schedule from time-to-time, as exemplified by tonight's happenings.\n\nKnowing the type of boss that he is, do you think this is still a good idea; to be frank about my boyfriend's alcoholism?", "summary": "My work schedule is sometimes affected by my drunk BF.  Should I be honest with my boss?"}
{"id": "t3_3x0lby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Non-Romantic) Me [30M,] brother (31M) and mom (58) - I think my frustration with mom over Christmas plans is misplaced...maybe just need to vent.", "post": "Short backstory- I live in South Carolina and the crawlspace/basement of my house flooded during the widespread flooding back in October.  AC/Heat duct work destroyed. Still don't have heat/AC because FEMA didn't give me enough money, went through a friend of a friend and am getting screwed over by this schmuck. \n\nSo, my mom, visiting from out of town, stayed here for Thanksgiving.  After leaving she said she was having sinus problems and felt like it was related to the hot/cold in my house and possible mildew under the house (in the damaged ducting).  \n\nShe called tonight and said if I don't have it fixed by the time she comes back down for Christmas she's just going to stay in a hotel.  Enter me becoming slightly frustrated with her, because it came off like she was frustrated with me that I don't have it fixed yet.  Seriously doing everything I can to pursue legal action against this guy, but I simply don't have the money to get it fixed right now.  I feel like my frustration is misplaced and that I should be more frustrated with my brother.\n\nEnter my brother - 31. Owns a home as well with his girlfriend.  My mom said he made it pretty clear to her that he didn't want her staying there (though he has 2 extra bedrooms) because all he and his girlfriend do all day when they aren't working is play computer games and IRC chat stuff...I assume because he doesn't want to give up doing that in his spare time to hang out with my mom?  \n\nI'm super frustrated with him.  I think it's terribly shitty and I imagine I should confront him about that?  Thoughts on that part?\n\nLike I said in title, mostly venting, but any reasonable input is appreciated.  I don't get super hyped about the holidays or anything, but I want to be able to spend time with my Mom and not have her staying in a damn hotel.", "summary": "My house got damaged during the flooding in SC.  Still don't have HVAC because I got screwed over by a supposed friend of a friend. Mom visited, said she got sick because of it and now doesn't want to stay here for Christmas because I haven't fixed the house (can't afford it yet), got frustrated with me.  Brother being an ass and doesn't want my mom staying  with him because it would interrupt his computer time and roleplaying chatrooms..."}
{"id": "t3_2mjhbo", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Torn between rebuilding credit and getting out of debt.", "post": "I got myself into serious credit trouble about 7 years ago after job less left me unable to pay off credit card bills. The accounts charged off and my current score is below 600. Woof. \n\nBut I'm intent on rebuilding. I've had a personal finance rebirth and have been light years better with my money. YNAB and a newly adopted frugal mindset have got me in really decent shape in terms of my current situation. I have a cushion of money for emergencies, I'm living off of a previous month's income (very important when your job has variable income as mine does) and overall things are really moving nicely.\n\nSo my credit rebuild is the next step. Part of that is that my charge offs will be falling off of my report next spring. Very excited for that. Another part is that I've got a new credit card that I use only for gas, Netflix and my cell phone bill each month, paying the balance in full to avoid the insane interest (since I had to get a bad credit credit card if I wanted one at all). \n\nI also had to get a new car recently after my last car got smashed into while parked in front of my house. I was debating simply buying a beater and avoiding the payment, but I thought that as part of rebuilding my credit it would be good to have another loan/line of credit that I'm proving I can repay. The only problem I have now is that it's a bad interest rate (15.99%) and I'd love to have that monkey off my back.", "summary": "version would be: Am I better off making payments on the car loan for a year or so to build better credit, or should I eliminate that debt as quickly as possible and rely on my credit card payments to bring my score back up? What about liquidating some of my emergency fund to pay off the car even faster?"}
{"id": "t3_zy05h", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My landlord called me about my dog getting into fights...", "post": "I'm afraid to take my dog, a 75 lb pit/chocolate lab mix, out to dog parks anymore. I know he needs the socialization and that he loves playing with other dogs, but I don't know any other way to prevent these fights.\n\nThe place I rent is really pet friendly and there's a little grassy courtyard out front. However, Pittsburgh law dictates that it's illegal to have your dog off leash in public areas. I've been known to break the law by playing fetch with my dog out there. Dino has a good recall and doesn't bark at people.\n\nI just got a call from my landlord saying he's heard three cases in which my dog \"attacked\" another dog. I was able to deduce which pet owners in the complex have called in the complaints.\n\n1) The first guy is a nut case. It was not my fault or Dino's and his dog, a 16 year old spaniel with terminal cancer, wasn't even remotely harmed in this incident. We both had our dogs off leash and within 5 ft of our back doors. It was really emotionally traumatizing for me, because the guy continued to bully and threaten me because of that interaction.\n\n2) This incident was completely my fault. Dino has played with Odin, a Shepard mix, a few times before the incident. they got along pretty well. Then, during a game of keep-away on the lawn, Dino suddenly attacked Odin. I immediately yanked Dino off and offered to foot any vet bills. Ended up paying $52 in antibiotics for Odin's puncture wounds.\n\n3) This one happened at the dog park I frequent. Dino and Draco, a long haired mix about Dino's size, have had some interaction. I know they don't get along, but this time they played really well... for about 5 min. They suddenly attacked each other in mid-rump. Dino got a pretty nasty puncture wound in his mouth. We examined Draco but found no bleeding.\n\nI don't know what the moral of the story is. I don't know how to prevent these fights. I don't know why these people are reporting me to the landlord. Dino is not an agressive dog, but he seems to be getting into trouble all the time. Any advice? thanks for reading", "summary": "How can I socialize my dog without the risk of him getting into fights?"}
{"id": "t3_3l5mv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I keep my [19/M] mother from being upset about me going to University?", "post": "*or 'College', in the US.*\n\nHello,\n\nI know this is something that *I can't really help with*, but I'm getting the impression that she really doesn't want me to go.\n\nI just don't want her to be upset when I'm dropped off this weekend. \n\nShe knows that I must go, and so turning down the opportunity is an obvious no-go; but I've known for some time now that I am most certainly the favourite child (not to be arrogant or anything. My sibling is a spoilt s*** I must say).\n\nI know I shouldn't, but I just feel guilty that this is making her sad.\n   \n\nThanks for any reply.", "summary": "Off to Uni, my mum showing hints of being upset. How can I sort this?!"}
{"id": "t3_1q6gfy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [m29] ex[f28] and I have been (quasi) back together, but I'm so closed off scared of being hurt again (dated 5 months)", "post": "About a month ago, my ex who I dated for 6 months broke up with me and wound up rebounding with her ex (almost immediately). This obviously hurt a lot, and made me very distrustful and cautious.  A few weeks go by, and we wind up seeing each other, one thing led to another and we hook up. \n\nShe stops seeing her ex, and we wind up hooking up some more, and agree to exclusively hook up (but not put the title on it, because she has a lot of personal issues she needs to work through, and I think the title freaks her out.)  At the same time she's using the word love still, etc.\n\nNow, she's becoming a bit more distant, not just from me, but everyone...just staying home all the time, not texting as much, general depression.  Meanwhile, I'm so terrified I'm going to get hurt again, I've been having a hard time just being myself around her. I have been over analyzing everything, and anytime she becomes distant, I get terrified she's trying to end it again.\n\nMy friends said I should end it with her to protect myself, but it seems dumb to breakup in fear of breaking up...  what do I do? How do I open myself up, or at least be more myself and not have every interaction dictated by my fears. When she's being distant what should I do?", "summary": "ex and I started hooking up again after a month of being broken up. I am riddled with insecurities, and she isn't helping the cause. How do I not let fear rule my interaction, and how do I stay secure when she's becoming distant?"}
{"id": "t3_4i4b7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] the girl i've been seeing [20 F] for about 3 months, just seems distant since a certain incident", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Everything has been really amazing so far but I need to provide some background.\n\nWe have hooked up/seen each other twice before this but I ended it most recently in the middle of last year because I felt she still had feelings for her ex of about 2 and a half years.\nas it turned out I was somewhat right and they had a brief moment late last year but it soon ended. She has told me she hates him and doesn't want anything to do with him.\nHer ex and her also share the majority of friends so they do bump into each other regularly.\n\nAnyway, we began seeing each other again and it's been really great no issues at all.\nAnyway she went out about a week ago and her ex was there and she said they spoke and she has decided to be nice to him in an attempt to make things easier because she does have to see him a bit. She didn't tell me this and the only reason I found out is because I asked why she was tagging him in things on FB.\nI've since found out he has spoken to her since and it's just bugging me, and again she didn't tell me that he had.\n\nWe've spoken it about it and how it's the only issue between us because she has gone back to him before why wouldn't it happen again? And it slightly worries me.\nShe has assured me it won't and she only has eyes for me, but I just get such a nagging feeling about it.\nThis has been compounded by her being quite distant all week for other reasons which has sent me in over drive.\n\nI really just would like some guidance here as I'm not sure what else I need to do to stop my mind going into overdrive.", "summary": "Feel the girl I'm seeing may still have feelings for her ex, but won't communicate with me properly. Not sure if I'm over thinking."}
{"id": "t3_1ipyoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [18/M] wants me [19/F] to move in with him", "post": "So my SO and I are currently enrolled in two different universities, which happen to be about 3 hours away from each other. Our first year in college we saw each other every weekend, but it is too expensive to keep doing that. \n\nFor the past couple of months he has talked about me transferring schools and finding an apartment near his campus. I, personally, wouldn't feel comfortable moving in with him unless we were engaged. We both talked about it and he said we could get engaged before we moved in together next year. I though about it for awhile now and at first was really excited. Now, however, I am not so sure it is a good idea.\n\nFirst off I feel as if we are too young (though my boyfriend would say our age shouldn't matter) to be moving in together. I know my parents would not approve of this decision and would prefer if we were older or married. Second, I know it will be very expensive trying to live together and make ends meet. Not only do we have to worry about our rent, but we have phone bill, car insurance, books, tuition, and gas/food money. My boyfriend mentioned getting two jobs, but I don't want to work two jobs then take 18 credit hours on top of that. \n\nSo my question to you is what should I do? I love him so much and really would love to live with him, but I'm worried. I just don't know if a year from now we should move in together. Do you think maybe we should wait another year? What should I tell him. I really don't want to hurt his feelings if I say no I don't want to move in now.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to move in together. I feel as if we are too young, and I'm not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3tgvx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my boyfriend [19/M] of 10 months, not sure whether to break up or not", "post": "First of all, this is kind of a vent, as I'm not really sure on where to start. Secondly English is not my first language, so sorry for any confusion. \n\nI met my boyfriend about a year ago and things went really fast from there. Eventually we were seeing each other every day and everything was great. I've always known we were quite different humorwise, and with different interests etc, but it wasn't really a problem as we got along perfectly fine. He truly is an amazing guy, and I really couldn't ask for more, with him always being by my side, buying me gifts and taking me out for dinner. \n\nI tried telling him that I needed some space, as we're seeing each other every day. I've got a lot going on right now, and it's just really stressful, having to take care of my homework, friends, gym, etc. After I told him, we agreed that we weren't going to see each other every day, but he still wants to hang out constantly, and seems to get mad, whenever I don't have time. \n\nI don't know why I've been having these doubts recently. I feel like an awful human being, as I often find myself attracted to other guys. Or is that normal in a relationship? Maybe it's cause I'm only 18 and the thought of being with somebody for the rest of my life terrifies me. Or maybe it's him not going to college that worries me. I've always loved traveling, and was an exchange student in America in 2013/14. I know I wanna go somewhere abroad to get an higher education, and I just don't know if or how it's going to work.\n\nThe reason i've been thinking about breaking up with him is, that he deserves someone better than me. He is wholeheartedly committed in this relationship and loves me with all his heart, and again, I feel like an awful human being, not even sure if I want to be in a relationship right now. I mean I really love this guy, and he's an awesome person, but I just don't know.......", "summary": "Don't know whether to break up or not. At 18, the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life terrifies me."}
{"id": "t3_2lxw6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to feel..", "post": "So I(28/m) dated this girl(27/f) for about 2.5 years. The last few months were pretty rocky and she ended up moving out into a friends house. It took about a month or 2, but we started meeting again. Nothing crazy, but we found we just couldn't say goodbye. We continued to have our meet ups and would text all the time for about a year.  We never made anything official again, but we always felt this pull towards one another. I went through some medical issues and therapies and she was by my side through so much of it. She and my mother still have a close relationship.  \n\nMy issue is, when she moved out..I always thought she and her roommate hooked up(yes, he's a dude). I accused her of it several times and she denied it each time. She would even make me feel guilty about thinking such a thing. Well, last night she decided it was a good time to tell me her and her roommate did hook up. A few times. She said it was about 10 months ago and happened for about a month. Keep in mind, she and I weren't on great terms at that time. She also mentioned about 6 months ago, it happened again on a drunken night.  I'm honestly pretty confused on how to feel. On one hand, this girl and I talked about marriage. I love her a ton. I would like for us to finish getting things in our personal lives 100% resolved and try again. I know she'd like that too.  She no longer lives there. On the other hand, the guy was a friend of mine. Not a close one, but none the less. She lied to me about it happening, but said she couldn't have brought it up before because I would have reacted horribly. She's right about that. She knows she's messed up, but I can't help but feel a little betrayed.   I wouldn't mind talking to my friends about it, but because I'm wanting her to come back into the picture..I don't know if my friends would ever forgive her. I'm just really confused and am hoping someone out there has some solid advice.", "summary": "A girl I was with for ~2.5 years moved out after a messy split.  A couple months after said split, we started texting each other a lot and seeing each other every so often. This has gone on for about a year. During the time we weren't really talking, she hooked up with someone.  Not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_37ww5h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] just met an amazing woman [20F] at work, but am considering marrying my [23 F] girlfriend of 3 years. Should I just keep away?", "post": "I just started a new job, and I've really hit it off with this gorgeous coworker. She's clearly interested in me too and has been dropping hints that I should ask her out sometime. I have no way of knowing if things could even work out between us (for one thing, I'm pretty religious and I don't even know if she is, which would be a dealbreaker for me) but something in me really wants to try it.\n\nThe problem is that I've put off mentioning to this girl that I'm in a pretty serious long-distance relationship with my girlfriend of three years. In fact, I'm considering marrying her. We've been dating since the summer before my freshman year of college, and I really do love her, but our relationship can be rocky sometimes. My friends have said that they think I'm good for her but they're not convinced that she's good for me.\n\nThe fact that we're long-distance makes things harder, because I only get to see her once or twice a year. I've only dated one girl before this so I don't know if I'm missing out on a really fulfilling, amazing relationship.\n\nI don't want to lead this new girl on so I need to make a decision either way. If I decide to pursue something with this coworker, it's going to break my heart to end things with my current girlfriend. We've talked about marriage and she's expecting it at this point, so I'm scared of destroying her emotionally if I leave. Is it worth that pain for me to continue getting to know this new woman and possibly even end things with my current SO?", "summary": "Met a new girl, not sure if I should marry my SO, am scared to give up a good thing for the potential for something better."}
{"id": "t3_15hqxl", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "An ex (26m) told me (24f) he was still not over me after a year.", "post": "I (24f) broke up with him (26m) over a year ago. I have had a relationship that lasted a year during this time. He tried to move on from me but no relationship lasted for him. We were together for 3.5 years.  That 3.5 years was ok there was times where he would cheat, but every time I'd forgive since it was a LDR. When it was good it was great but when it was bad it was horrid. \n\nI happen to be from the same town he lives. I visit once a month and always end up running into him. I try to talk to him and be civil. The other night while visiting my friends I ran into him, he was introducing me to new people whom I have never met. One of them referred to me as \"that ex.\"  Since me and this guy talk I thought I'd ask him what exactly that meant through email. He replied with \"I am not emotionally over you and probably will never be.\" This lead into a conversation about if I could ever see myself getting back with him. \n\nI am not sure what to think anymore. When I see him all the hurt he caused me along with old emotions come back. Of course I care about him I always will; we practically grew up together. I know that we will never be able to go back to how we were before , part of me wishes it could. \n\nI am not sure what I am asking or why I am writing this. I do know that I just needed to get all this off my chest.", "summary": "An ex from ago is still not over me. I am not fully over him though I am trying to move on. I just don't know how to handle him anymore."}
{"id": "t3_13qes2", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[M 21]Handling friendship after breakup?", "post": "We've been dating for about 7 years, but we broke up recently because she will be moving away for school soon and is having feelings of being tied-down since we started this relationship so young. We've also had a few problems in our relationship, and I wanted to take this last 10 months to fix them and hopefully stay together. We had a long talk and she decided that she needed to be single for a while and that she wanted to stay friends. I suggested we be friends with benefits, not really expecting her to say yes, but she did. I still have some feelings towards her, so i'm feeling that being fwb is kind of letting her have the positives of a relationships while being single, without dealing with all the emotional baggage. should I steer clear for a while to kind of cleanse myself and get fully over the relationship?", "summary": "Forming a fwb right after relationship. bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1gyjr7", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Health Question!?!?!?!", "post": "Hey guys, My Cat Charlie has just had most of his top teeth out from the vets, He had this procedure on Friday, In this time he has not once attempted to go #2. He has been eating and drinking, playing etc.\nAlot of people have been saying 'yeh if he is straining, then go to the vet' Thats the problem he hasn't even attempted, I know because he has pretty much been asleep nearly all this time. So the real question is..... Is there any cause for alarm or concern?? I mean he seems really happy and everything now that his teeth aren't hurting and I imagine the excessive sleeping is due to medication and recovery.", "summary": "My Cat hasn't taken a Dump for 3 days after surgery"}
{"id": "t3_xiqi9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your best stories involving the violation of the sacred rule \"bros before hoes?\"", "post": "My best friend and neighbor for twelve years started dating a girl he works with back around October. Over winter holiday (I'm in college) I moved back to my home town to hang out with him and my other friends and family. I could tell that he was really into this girl, but I figured they were just enjoying the new relationship jitters and in a bliss period that would eventually dull down. Despite him basically ignoring another friend and I all break I let it slide. I head back to school, and spring break comes in what felt like an instant. I once again return to my hometown because it is near a beach. This is when things began getting weird. I was happy to include her, but every time she would tag along, before the end of the night she would get \"sick\" and have to go (dragging my friend with her). Towards the end of the break I spoke with my friend about the matter, and he assures me he has noticed. He also promises to take care of the issue. Fast forward several months down the road. I'm working an internship in a big city further away from my home town than my college. I work ten hours a day to get Friday off so I can drive five hours and celebrate my twenty first with my friend and little brother. When I get there we all go out to dinner and he of course brings his girlfriend. Sure enough, she gets \"sick\" shortly after dinner and requests that they leave. He stays with her until Saturday afternoon, and finally comes over with out her. We all hang out, play video games, and of course indulge in various beverages. Next thing I know I wake up Sunday morning to find my friend had already left to head back to his girlfriends without even saying good bye to me.", "summary": "My friend is bailing on a twelve year friendship to be with a girl that he works with, goes to the same school with, lives with, and has only known for less than a year."}
{"id": "t3_2hu37p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] What is a song that you hate, for a very specific reason?", "post": "I've listened to rock my whole life. My dad brought me up on it. I remember as a kid, sifting through all his thousands of vinyl albums, checking out all the cool covers.\n\nWhenever we'd drive around in the car, we would listen to our favorite rock stations. I thought it was cool that my dad loved to crank up the radio, roll the windows down, and just blast tunes. I do that to this day (respectively of course). This always something that was very positive.\n\nBUT, whenever the Rolling Stones \"Sympathy for the Devil\" would come on, he would IMMEDIATELY change the station. Thanks to a love of \"Interview with a Vampire\", I happen to really love this song. I would always be like, \"Dad, that song is awesome. Why did you change it?\"\n\nHe would just say \"don't ask me about it, but I refuse to listen to it.\"\n\nWe are not very religious, and are a pretty liberal family. But I remember at least 4-5 times in my childhood, my dad flipping out over this song and never telling me why... still won't to this day.\n\nThe only thing I can think of, is an incident where my uncle's best friend was killed a party when everyone was wasted. Apparently there was a handgun, and it was being played around with, and the of course, the worst thing possible happened.\n\nMaybe this song was on when it happened? I have no idea.", "summary": "My dad HATES \"Sympathy for the Devil\" by the Rolling Stones for some mysterious, extremely serious reason. It makes him visibly upset."}
{"id": "t3_1szo1n", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Extremely Obese Teen in Need of some Advice/Help.", "post": "Well, I'll start with my \"stats\".\nAge: 16.\nHeight: 5'8.\nWeight: 360 pounds.\nHealth Status: Fine, no diabetes, no high bp and etc. Completely fine and have a mediumish(not low) metabolism.(Except I'm dangerously overweight.)\nInfo: I was previously a football player and I can run I'm not chair bound by any means.\n\nWell, I'm 16 and pretty much sick of how I look. Today I had a epiphany and I'm sick of being overweight I get seriously depressed thinking of living like this for one more day. I'm now choosing instead of being a little prick that I want to lose weight and I know nothing comes fast but I'm willing to put 100% into this. I'm wanting to do something immediately to get this going, tomorrow is the first day I plan to start my lifestyle of change. I just know in 6 months I still don't want to be at this huge depression and etc.\n\nAnyways, I'm not going to bore you of my story anymore. I have gone to nutritionists before I'm very knowledgeable in Health and exercises. I've lost weight and I usually lose it crazy fast but then I just give up, but not this time Reddit. I'm done and I'm going to put my 120% effort into this I want everyday to a meaningful day from now on. I'm sick of being this overweight me.(I have a lot of friends and stuff at school never get made fun of just I hate the way It is.\n\nNow the important part where I was hoping you guys could come in, I really need some ideas or if anyone maybe has a certain diet that could help? Also I need some exercises that you can do in a apartment. I just need anything that you guys would think that could help, support and ideas.", "summary": "I'm big(dissatisfied) and I want to make a change with my life, any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_13sxj5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18 m&f) Started seeing this girl, but I don't think she's over her ex.", "post": "We were friends, she kissed me. We made out. She went home for thanksgiving and had her friend text me telling me she likes me. She told me she was seeing her ex and I shouldn't worry. I said I trusted her.\n\nShe comes back today and is a bit distant. We eat and she comes over to watch 500 days of summer. We have an intense make-out half way through. At the end of the movie she's crying and I ask her what's wrong or if she wants to talk or if there's anything I can do. She says just be there and that's it.\n\nI have a feeling she's still in love with her ex, but likes me. Her ex is far away and not at our college. I know I need to give her some space so she can sort whatever she's going through out. I was planning on asking her on a date Wednesday (there's a show at our school). Should I just wait for her to talk to me? Ask her out? Keep playing it cool and give her space? What should I do? By the way, I told her I liked her too.", "summary": "We like each other, but...there's something else going on."}
{"id": "t3_ewgkl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of you been to one of those free business conferences?", "post": "I just received something in the mail about two tickets to one of those free marketing idea conferences, where you hear someone speak for 90 minutes and they give you shit (apparently). This one states that the first 50 people to reserve seats will get a free netbook and everyone who attends will receive a voucher for a free coby mp3 player, and dinner afterward. It's being held at a high end hotel nearby, so I'm assuming it's legit. I've read the fine print and all the rules etc. Have any of you been to one of these? Are they legit? What was it like?", "summary": "tell me about a free business conference you went to and what freebies you received, was it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_13nc9j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is there an Excel template that will work for monthly bookkeeping?", "post": "I am helping my dad (He works in the construction business, self employed etc\u2026) move to digital accounting/tracking/etc\u2026 instead of writing everything down in his Monthly Bookkeeping book thing at the end of the year.  So I have searched high and low to find a 2008 Excel template that is extremely similar to this style of accounting. \nThats the book he currently uses, and I would like to see if there are any Excel templates similar.  It is made by Adams Financial Records and the website it gives to buy them are tops-products.com  They didnt have any online templates to use either.\nThanks, any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "I want to find an Excel template similar to the one in the link."}
{"id": "t3_2o1gbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] told my wife [24 F] that I like men too.", "post": "I had an arranged marriage and its been 1.5 years of understanding our difference and making this marriage work. I'd give it a 8/10. So the other day my wife and I had a huge fight over me not understanding her needs. *Typical husband/wife fight.*  ...and I was so frustrated with her antics that I told her that I am bi. I want her to know the real me and understand that my past is my past and I do want to be with her.\n\nShe comes from a conservative cultural. She was born and raised in a Muslim country. And she said to me *she is very confused now and that this is not normal for her*. While, I was born in the USA, raised in a muslim household and live a normal *american dream* life.\n\nSo, What should I do? **What has been your experience with your boyfriend/husband or ex-husband who came out to you?** **Or Men, how did your wife/girlfriend take it?** \n\nIs there anything that I can give her to read to gain a better understanding about men like me.", "summary": "Had a fight with the Mrs and came out to her. Now I am trying to help her understand it."}
{"id": "t3_3xnqgn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Couple questions on calorie counting and exercise", "post": "I've been just watching what I eat since the summer after some advice from my cousin who basically said count calories, track them and it should fall off. And it has so far, I am very pleased with the results but I had some questions regarding calories and exercise.\n\nI'm a 40 year old male, around 5'6\" and at 178 pounds right now. I've been using myfitnesspal to track my calories and am currently set on 1500 calories and get little to no exercise. Both MFP and [this calculator] have me in that calorie range. \n\nMy question pertains to exercise. I don't generally do much of anything other than hockey once a week. I was going to start doing more but wasn't sure how exercise affects my calories. Lets say for example, I am taking in 1500 calories a day. If I do some sort of exercise that burns 200 calories, should I be eating another 200 calories in food to compensate? When I've played hockey I haven't bothered adjusting anything but now that I want to start adding more exercise I want to make sure I am doing things properly since it's been going so well.", "summary": "Do I need to eat more food to make up calories if I have been exercising since my calorie limits have me as little/no exercise."}
{"id": "t3_3skxyu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "$4,000 for College? OR School Trip? Please Help!", "post": "Hello Reddit users! Today I was approached by my Spanish teacher, she told me that there is a spot opening for a class trip to Europe, I'm not all familiar with what will be happening on the trip, I believe it is to study European culture. I do know that the trip is about 15 days, and I think we will be traveling to different countries when in Europe. But the first problem is that it costs about $4,000 for the trip. I contacted my sister, telling her I needed a way to raise money, since she recently graduated college and is pretty level headed. She told me I should save use the $4,000 to look at colleges, and just wait to study abroad in college. However, I am looking to major in engineering, and I'm not so sure about the study abroad programs for engineering majors. I am only in the 10th grade btw, I know that saving for college now is very important, but I just feel like this opportunity is huge! I'm not sure how easy it is to study abroad in college in the first place. So my question is, what should I do?! Go on this trip now? OR Study abroad in college and use the money for college? Please help! Thank you", "summary": "school will get me to Europe for $4,000, should I study abroad and put money towards college?"}
{"id": "t3_4jf1q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 2 years, are feelings of disconnectedness normal in a long-term relationship?", "post": "I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else had felt disconnected from their SO at some point in a long term relationship? If anyone has any tips on how to overcome this feeling it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nBack story:\n\nMy boyfriend of two years told me yesterday that he's been feeling disconnected from me for about 4 months. We are both 22, study full time and work part time with crazy schedules. We don't live together but we do spend most nights at either his place or mine. I guess I've known something was up for a while but I didn't realise the extent to which he's not 'feeling' the relationship until yesterday. He's my best friend and we decided we want to try everything to work through this. But neither of us have been in long-term relationships before so I guess we don't know whether these feelings are normal or not.", "summary": "are feelings of disconnectedness normal in LT relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ecr3f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to impress my dad (when i was young)", "post": "This happened when I was in Kindergarten. Whenever a kid in my class would ask something that 'wasn't appropriate' (or something they didn't need to know), our kindergarten teacher would smile and say \"None of your business\". After hearing him say this a few times, my immature brain thought that it would be a good idea to use this phrase in a sentence and impress my dad. Note: I had no idea what it meant.\nSo one day after school, my dad asks \"How was your day?\", and with a smile on my face, I gave my dad an assertive \"None of your business\". Needless to say, my dad wasn't exactly pleased with what I had just said to him.\n\nYesterday, I asked my dad if he remembered this at all, and he didn't. This did, however, become a 'classic' moment for both of us.", "summary": "Tried to impress my dad while in Kindergarten, and came off like a disrespectful idiot."}
{"id": "t3_53m71y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bestfriend [19F] confessed to me [19F] that she likes my recent [19M] boyfriend.", "post": "My bestfriend recently told me that she likes my boyfriend, who I've been with for a couple of weeks, without her knowing that we were in a relationship and just assumed I liked him. \n\nShe blames herself for this mistake saying that was she said was dumb and that she should've done something about my boyfriend sooner. Now when we see each other it's awkward. We don't talk as often and not in the same way.\n\nI don't know what to do? I don't want to lose my best friend, but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend either.", "summary": "bestfriend confessed feelings about my boyfriend, feels like I'm losing her. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2indd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] have a girlfriend [20/F] but I kind of fell in love with a new girl [17/F]", "post": "Hey! Here is my story: I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend 4,5 years now. Last week I've met a girl (that also has a boyfriend), she talked to me at a party. I have not met here since then, but I will meet her tomorrow at another party. It is the final party of her exchange programm. Yep, she is an exchange student and will leave in 2 days...\n\nBut I kind of fell in love. I always think about her. Sometimes we are talking on facebook and she even said that I'm cute. (Don't know if that's much...)\n\nSince I have a girlfriend for such a long time, I'm not really into these flirty things anymore tbh. What should I do, /r/relationships? **Tell her that I fell in love?** **Or is it better to not say anything?** I'm confused because I never thought I would meet someone that attracts me more than my girlfriend.", "summary": "Met a girl (exchange student that will leave in 2 days), fell in love even though we both have a gf/bf. Shall i tell her about my feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_180kx6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Just a little lost right now, F(24) and M(23)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating about 3 months. When things are just the two of us, it's all fine. I couldn't be happier. I know it's all fairly new, but we care about each other.\n\nHowever, he still has a thing for his F(22) roommate/ best friend. I understand the feeling and crap like that. Truth be told, one of my best friends M(23) is technically an ex. I understand that one can have feelings for more than one person and that's not my issue. She has a boyfriend who is moving out here this week. They've been dating for like 3 years. They tend to fight quite a bit and my boyfriend and I think her boyfriend may decide to get upset and just leave. Move home and all that jazz. \n\nIf they stay together, I have nothing to worry about. If they don't well, there are too many variables. I don't think she'd try anything. Previously, they almost dated, but he had a girlfriend and she wasn't going there. \n\nIt hurts me that my boyfriend has that glimmer of hope and I'm realizing how much it hurts. I'm too damn fragile. Do I keep going down this path? Do I confront the issue? And how? Or do I do something else?", "summary": "my bf has a thing for his roommate, which kinda hurts"}
{"id": "t3_33mxre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife's feelings have changed after 6 years, do I try and make it work for the sake of our kids?", "post": "I'm a 28 year old male and I've been with my wife (38 y/o) for almost 6 years- we have a 3 year old girl together and two older kids (7 and 9) from her first marriage that I've raised since they were toddlers. My wife has collectively took every bad thing about me like a sword and stuck it right through me...I've only looked at her thru loving eyes even when she did things that hurt me I always looked at all of her positive qualities, every day, all the time. So much so that I had NO idea that she felt the way she did! Should I try to work it out for the sake of the kids, especially my baby daughter who is the star of my life or just finally let go? I came from a broken home but I was born and didn't meet my father until I was about 7...I harbored a lot of resentment towards him and I don't want the kids having that same resentment towards me because I'm not choosing to leave, but how can I stay in a home where I'm not wanted?", "summary": "Stay with wife for sake of kids? Will they resent me even though I'm being forced out? Her feelings have changed after 6 years and she only looks at the negatives, can I even change her back?"}
{"id": "t3_fhmur", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "23 - Am I on the right financial track?", "post": "Hey Personal Finance,\n\nI'm 23 years old and just want to check and see if there is anything else I should be doing or doing differently. I'm trying to learn everything I can about personal finance because I know the importance of making wise decisions early on.\n\nI have a full time job making 30k a year. It's not great, but I'm looking at a pretty good raise in 6 months and I have full benefits. I put 6% of my pay check into a 401k; employer matches 3% (max) for a total of 9%. I'm also getting in with the employee stock purchase plan; I selected the max amount at 10% of my paycheck. This is the extent of me saving. The rest of my paycheck goes to paying off my bills, sometime I might have a few extra bucks left over, but I usually just keep that in my account for next month's bills. \n\nI've got a pretty good deal on rent and utilities and can always pay my share. I also have no debt on my credit card and no student loans. Basically my only payments each month are rent, TV, internet and power. I have always been able to pay my cc bills on time and in full. I have no idea what my credit score is, but I've had a credit card and debit card in my name since I was 16. I also have an AMEX Corporate card in my name. \n\nMy grandparents gave me $5k last Christmas since their health is poor and they wanted to see us enjoy the money before they pass. I put most of it into the market. I have some shares in BP, Halliburton and recently BAC. All of them are doing fairly well. I have about 2k left in cash and don't really know what to do with it. I want to put it to work for me; it's not doing anything setting in my account.\n\nMy tax return is going to fix my car- I spun out and nailed a curb and almost all of my rear suspension needs to be replaced.", "summary": "\u2013 In baseball, a 400-foot home run 'BLAST' hit to 'DEEP' center field is a 133-yard shot in golf, a distance that most weekend duffers make using either a wedge, 9 or 8 iron, but I do with a PW."}
{"id": "t3_1lqsve", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "I got my wedding mojo back!", "post": "A little back story here: I've been with my FH for just about 6 years. We first knew we wanted to get married after dating for 3 months, but held off on actually getting engaged until Jan 2012. So we've been engaged for over a year and a half at this point, with 10 months left to go. It's been a long, long wait, and I am just so ready to finally be married.\n\nThe long engagement has some positives. I have felt literally zero pressure to make decisions. I've had enough time to research and figure out what I like, so now that we've set a date and booked the venue, everything has been pretty easy. Except that for the last few months I've just been feeling....over it. Like the anticipation had been building up for so long that I just couldn't get excited about it anymore. I didn't even want to think about weddings.\n\nLife went on, I spent my time on other projects, like adopting a dog from overseas. \n\nThen, I had a vacation from work. I thought that it might be a good idea to get some wedding things done since I have all this free time, and suddenly the excitement is back X1000. I think the cake tasting may have had something to do with it... This week alone we: ordered the cake, collected most of the addresses for STDs, booked the officiant, made our registry, bought my shoes and headpiece, found a hotel for the room block, and got FH measured for his tux and picked everything out for the groomsmen. \n\nI'm feeling awesome.\n\nBrides, if you lose your wedding mojo my advice is to just leave it alone for a while. Don't think about planning. Stay away from pinterest. Adopt a puppy if you need something to keep you busy. Once you come back and look at everything with fresh eyes, it will be so much easier and more enjoyable. Wedding planning should be an adventure, not a chore, IMO.", "summary": "It's easy to get burnt out with planning, especially if you have a long engagement. Do other things for a while, then jump back into the planning by doing something fun (like eating cake). Never fear, the wedding mojo WILL return!"}
{"id": "t3_38josl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and a friend/crush [20 F] who has a boyfriend. She always tells me that we are just friends. What should I do?", "post": "I have a crush on her before we become friends. It all started when I post in our campus' facebook page, where I confess my feelings for her. Then after that we started chatting and facebook. And when we come across the campus, she always greet me. I'm aware she has a boyfriend. Her friends told me that she was with this guy for 3 years. It's weird cuz even they know she's in a relationship. They keep on teasing us. I graduated last April and she's an upcoming senior. So it's obvious we can't see each other whenever we want to. But we always chat on facebook talking about life, experiences and sharing embarassing stories and painful memories. Even though I know she's in a relationship, I still keep on flirting with her and guess what! she flirts back!\n\nNow I'm pretty confused. Because she constantly reminding me that we are just friend and never misunderstood what we have. In the first place, I never even wanted to steal her and she knows it. \n\nWhat should I do or tell her?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_fpvno", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lose It: Long time, no see. Help!", "post": "Hi Lose It!\n\nSo I'm male, low 20's., and 5 foot 10. Used to way 260ish -- now 185ish. I have been \"stable\" (+/-) a few pounds for 1.5 years. \n\nI only do cardio. Always scared of the weights, don't know how to do them, don't/can't get a gym membership. I now will try weights, and this is where you come in.\n\nI have a dumbbell set, and some open space, and that's basically it. Can anyone suggest some exercises/routines of what I should be doing with my very very limited supply of weights? Again no room for a bench press and shit like that. \n\nWhat I'm looking for is links to videos on YouTube etc...where I can throw them up on my computer and do the exercise while they are doing the exercise in my room....that way I can't \"learn\" and do things properly in the comfort of my own house.\n\nI also plan to continue 45-60 minute cardio 5-6 times/week (post-dumbbells). Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "Starting back up, this time on dumbbells. Post some links of online video routines of trainers working out with dumbbells so I can learn."}
{"id": "t3_bvzjf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Broken families and 'fairness/equality' with the children: Is it right for one child to have 'more' than another?", "post": "I split up with my ex when my son was about 2 years old.  She had a daughter a couple years later with another guy (let's call him Tom) and they split a year or so back.  my son is now almost 11 while his sister is 6.\n\nWhen I grew up, my parents were all about 'fairness'.  My brothers and I all went to summer camp, we all had equally shitty bikes and had equal chores etc...\n\nIn my situation with my son... it is different.  I do not take his sister with me on every other weekend (why would I?)... and we tend to do a lot of things that his Mom and his sister can't afford to do.  On the weekends I don't have my son, Tom takes my son and his daughter.  My ex is chronically unemployed and in a lot of ways I wonder if she's given up looking.  Anyways, she gets enough child support from Tom and I so that she doesn't qualify for social services.  \n\nChristmas is always kinda weird.  My son gets a pile of presents from my family while he still gets those from Tom's family as they more or less took him on as one of theirs when they were together.  So my son more or less gets 2 for her 1.  On my side, only my mother and i get something for his sister.\n\nbut it's bigger than the christmas \"who did better?\",,, it's a bi-weekly thing where I don't want to screw up my son or his sister... i feel guilty regularly.\n\nwhat to think of my situation?  advice, thoughts, experience... please share.", "summary": "kid 1 gets x*2.  kid 2 gets x.  parent of kid 1 feels guilty."}
{"id": "t3_2qy3z6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Recommended credit card?", "post": "Hello guys I'm terrible with finances like a typical 23 year old is I hope? I tried to get a car last year and I kept getting denied because I had absolutely 0 credit score.  I never purchased anything on credit or got a credit card. I purchased a ring at Kay Jewelry just so I can build credit been paying it off for like 4-5 months now. I check Credit Karma frequently now since I want to build perfect credit. According to CK I have a credit score of 688 with 100% on time payments but I have 11 hard inquiries because of the times I tried getting loans at different places and kept getting denied. I feel I should get a credit card now to further my credit since I'm almost done with the ring.\n\nAny personal suggestions on which credit card to get with which company? Main goal is to be able to get approved for my car that I've been wanting for like a year now.", "summary": "Need to improve credit score to get car loan. Which credit card should I get?"}
{"id": "t3_2bk6y2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] have fallen for a married woman [26 F], we've only known eachother for a month, but the chemistry is unreal.", "post": "I need some advice; I've fallen in love with a married woman who I've only known for a month.\n\nI was attending a wedding reception for some very good friends, at the time I'd only known the married couple and no one else attending. The bride was very hospitable, introducing me to long-time friends and family.  After an hour or so, I'm several drinks in, and the bride brings me over to another set of her childhood friends, one being a rather good looking latina, so I sit next to her.  I do the small talk around the table, introductions and whatnot, if they were watching the World Cup.  This girl perks up, she's a HUGE fan, so we hit it off, talking about sports and fitness in general (I'm a trainer, she works out).  Her husband had apparently left right as I had arrived, one of her friends joked I could be her stand in husband for the night. I, being a dipshit, am gung ho about it.\n\nSeveral of her friends tell me to go for it, her and her husband have an open relationship. This is waaaay out of my comfort zone, but I'm drunk and I talk to her about it, and she drags me to a bathroom.\n\nSo we fool around a bit, a little ass grabbing and nipple tweaking, no out-of-the-park shot throughout the night though. Since that night, however, we have talked, texted, messaged, and snapped back and forth, all day, everyday, with only a few exceptions.  She keeps saying, \"if she were single\", which has recently switched to \"maybe when I'm single\"...\nAs much as I like her, I don't want to ruin a marriage.  Between her personality, conversational abilities, and her fitness, she is a very solid girl, but I cut off communication this morning, because I am not comfortable with where things may be heading. \nSo reddit, did I do the right thing?", "summary": "Met a girl at a reception, we had chemistry/sparks/whatever. She's married with a \"open relationship\". We've been talking all day, everyday since.  She's mentioned \"if/maybe when she were single...\". I completely cut off communication. Was it the proper step?"}
{"id": "t3_3orei1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [27 M] and I [27 F] moved out of state for work. He now dislikes his job and I feel responsible.", "post": "Throwaway. A little over a month ago, my husband and I moved out of state as he got a job offer for a position that was more stable than his last. The job itself is fine, but he's incredibly bored. He finds himself unchallenged, his work meaningless (his words, which I don't agree with personally), and comes home, spending the rest of the night restless and frustrated. \n\nI tell him that it takes time for him to adjust, and that maybe he'll get to work on something more challenging once his employees get a feel for him..but I feel terrible, even though I know I shouldn't. Despite the instability, he liked his previous job. It just wasn't sustainable - the hours were long, and he was underpaid. \n\nWhat more can I do to support and help him? His happiness is SO important to me. He and I are doing fantastic, but I WANT him to be happy with work. :(", "summary": "Husband and I moved out of state for a more stable job, husband now unhappy with work; I feel responsible and don't know how else I can help."}
{"id": "t3_4ep2qo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (17M) and my girlfriend (17F) have been drifting apart and im wondering if its time to end it", "post": "So it started just before winter break when we stopped talking as much, i noticed that i hadnt seen her or talked to her as often. We slowly and slowly stopped talking. I began to wonder what had happened. All the tension or lack there of came up like 2 weeks ago when i asked her what was wrong after she seemed squirmish after class one day. I asked her what was wrong and she said we werent doing to well and when i asked if she still wanted to hang out Saturday she said something along the lines of idk. I had a panic attack for the next 4 hours until after school. I was honestly scared she was gonna break up with me and i was saying things along the line of whatever makes you happy. She saw right through me that i was honestly willing to let her go and a little part of me wanted to move on. I was almost advocating for her to break up with me. \n\nIts not like im a bad boyfriend. I take her out to dinner often im always supportive(shes in theater and i always show up with flowers). We made up since then but somethings different now. Our conversations are relatively the same but to me we dont seem to interact like we did last year or the year before. Idk if im fully invested in the relationship. Or what that looks like anymore. It almost feel like were just friends who happen have sex every once in a while.\n\n Is this just what long term relationships are like? Am i being unfair to her for not feeling like i used to? Is it my fault were we are now?", "summary": "my girlfriend and i have been drifting apart and ive been conflicted on if we should have broken up or not."}
{"id": "t3_1mqu0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[19f] boyfriend[20m] of 1 and a half years just broke up with me. Need help handling it.", "post": "Hello lovely people of reddit!\n\nMy first boyfriend and love broke up with me today. We were together over 1 and a half years. I know I'm only young, and I have a lot going for me, but I can't stop crying and I don't want to feel like this anymore.\n\nAbout 1-2 months ago, I started becoming depressed again. Nothing like my past episodes (which were before we were dating), but there was a notable change in my personality. I was quick to get angry at my boyfriend. Then my boyfriend starting checking out of the relationship, which only made matters worse.\n\nI can't help but feel so angry and upset with myself. If I had got a handle on my sadness, we'd still be together. If I was the old me he'd still want me, because we were very much in love at that time.\n\nHe only broke up with me today, but since I have already been so down lately, and have never experienced a break up before, I'm finding it hard to cope.\n\nIf you kind people could give me some advice I would really appreciate it. I know I'm young and I'll move on, but unfortunately that's not tackling my sadness right this second. What can I do to feel happy again?", "summary": "My boyfriend broke up with me. I was already feeling depressed but with this on top I'm not sure how to cope and feel better. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_okgsn", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "A relationship that \"is\" reverting back to one that  \"isn't\".", "post": "So not long ago I (26M with 24F) [sought advice on a relationship changing from a good friendship to a relationship](\n\nSo when we got together after the Christmas break, things were sort of stilted and awkward. I figured something was up, so I didn't make any sort of advances and when she left after last weekend, things got even more distant. By weeks end, I asked her to talk about it and she admitted that she perhaps wasn't as ready for a relationship as she had professed.\n\nThat's fine, it is what it is... but now I'm having a bit of a rollercoaster trying to figure out how to rebottle the genie after having a conduit for the feelings I had for her. That said, she's one of the best friends I've had or could ever hope to have and to her, the friendship is ironclad... so if anyone has any thoughts on how I can quash the neuroses and get back into that stride, I'd appreciate it.", "summary": "Is there a non-self-destructive way to recover a friendship mindset from a failed brief attempt at a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_twlni", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you help me find somewhere for my friend to do his PhD?", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nI have a friend who is about to finish his undergraduate degree this year in Electrical Engineering and Maths (Our system is weird, its one degree, but has done the subjects from both, not really important). He is an incredibly smart and diligent guy. All the time I knew him he had this dream of studying pure maths at a decent university in some place other than the shithole that we live in. There are no pure maths researchers at our uni. He has worked so hard, for so long for this dream.\n\nFrom the start of this year however, it seems he has lost hope. Its a big step for him, financially and mentally, to go somewhere else. He seems to be shoe-horning himself into things that will force him to stay here. \n\nLike how in Good Will Hunting, Chuckie doesn't want to see Will come out for work the next day, I don't want to see my mate study here next year. \n\nReddit, I want to collect some information on places where my friend could go. I don't know enough about pure math to distinguish good research from bad, so I wanted to ask the biggest collection of geeks and nerds out there to help me. If you know of any researchers at your university that is working in pure math, or you research it yourself, could you please share the love. Just enough to point me in the right direction, a name, a university, a paper.", "summary": "I want my friend to piss off next year, help me collect details of pure math researchers you might know."}
{"id": "t3_2g9idq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having sex with my girlfriend - (NSFW)", "post": "After a long week at school I was stoked it was Friday. Not only was it a long week but my girl was on her period but was clear for the D today since she is a \"Saturday morning starter\". All day I think about all the dirty things were going to do since we've been deprived of it for this whole week. Right when I get home she's wanting it, but at this point we both hadn't eaten anything all day so we began to make some food. As we wait for the oven to heat up, we start to heat up! She begs me to just slide it in a couple times. I try to play hard to get but I know I'm about to bring down the hammer. I throw her back and slide it in. Now two or three thrust in is when it all went south, and sadly I don't mean her butthole. Because It's been so long I decide I'm about to show her a thing or two. I go to go balls deep as I feel a huge pull on my foreskin. I pull out only to realize that I instantly begin to bleed from my dick, I lay down so I don't bleed to death out of my dick since I had such a ranging boner. Her being tight from the sexless week literally made me tear my dick....", "summary": "I fucked my girlfriend's tight vagina after she finished her period to only start my own by tearing my dick."}
{"id": "t3_1kd04t", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "cant tell if creepy or sweet?", "post": "I[21f] met a guy[22m] at work[golf place] the other day. He gave me his number and I ended up texting him because he seemed like an attractive and interesting dude. \n\nThe day he came in it was raining and its our policy to give rainchecks  so I offered a raincheck for him and his friends and things were cool. They hung around for a lot longer than people normally do after playing, but I figured maybe they were just drying off because it'd rained them out pretty hard.\n\nHe came in the next day, without telling me he was going to and I was like wow how cool. played a round of golf and then proceeded to loiter around a bit. \n\nWe had a date the next day and went out before I had to work, it went well we talked a lot I'm thinking... things are going well?\n\nThen he came into my work again. A third day in a row with a new friend. They play a round and Im like uh, holy smokes this dude is persistent.\n\nFinally I get a day off and he asks if I want to hang out and Im like why not we end up going to the beach and have a good time talking. We kissed but I needed to go home because it was extremely late. \n\nNext day Im at work and he talks about dropping me off some food, I said no thank you because I already had food and I dont get a lunch break so hed be sitting around again on camera yet again. An hour before we close I see him walking up. He brought me ice cream and I kinda shockingly accepted it. He played a round by himself and then proceeded to sit in the lobby again. After I told him I didnt want him to hang around at my work. \n\nThis sucks cause if he didn't keep showing up at my work he'd be a really cool guy. I just feel like Im being smothered and my job is going to be at stake.", "summary": "can't tell if this guy is being normal and sweet, or a legit creeper."}
{"id": "t3_1qhw70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25 F] get my boyfriend [27 M] to get a job?", "post": "Here's the situation:\n\nI've been dating him for over a year now and recently he has decided to go back to college. However, due to poor financial decisions in the past, he has no money, no job, and doesn't really actively seek a job.\n\nInstead, I'm paying for almost everything for him and it's frustrating because I just got a full time, salaried position, and I can't even enjoy the money I'm making because I have to save money to pay for things like his car payments and gas money. He doesn't have his own place and just crashes at his friend's. The problem is that I'm too nice to cut him off and every time I push him to get a job by reminding him of all the things I'm paying for, he turns it on me and accuses me of \"keeping track\", which I am not.\n\nHave any of you ever been in a similar situation, what is the best way to approach this?", "summary": "I'm working full time and supporting my boyfriend who is still in school, but isn't putting the effort in to get a job."}
{"id": "t3_4gmtel", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] What is wrong with some people?", "post": "I'm annoyed and need to vent. My building is doing construction on the entrance so it's all torn up and you can't use the front door. So all tenants have to use the side door, which is fine, but it exits onto a ramp, which is pretty narrow. Tonight, I go out the door with my little dog and there's a guy with a larger dog coming up to go in. The dog was probably a medium sized lab, not huge but big compared to my chih mix. \n\nThis guy's blocking the way because the ramp isn't that wide and his dog isn't letting us go by. So I wait for him to go inside so I can pass, it's the only way I can move forward. And he stands there with his dog, who jumps forward, pushing my dog back. (My dog doesn't love larger dogs; she's been attacked by one and is skittish around bigger ones.) We're already in a corner, behind us is construction and nowhere to go. Finally, I ask him to move and he just laughs. So yes, I called him a dickwad. (I have no idea where that came from but it felt good.) I'm just annoyed at how clueless and stupid this guy is. Why would you stand there, essentially cornering a woman and her dog at night to the point that neither of them can move? What is wrong with people??", "summary": "my neighbors are assholes."}
{"id": "t3_2bvffv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 17 M with my 18 F best friend, I like her, do I tell her?", "post": "I've tried to get rid of these feelings for her, by trying to like other girls but I just can't do it. She got out of a relationship about a month ago,  she's over it now. \n\nThere's this other guy she met up with, according to her they went to his house, nothing happened and I don't think she really has feelings for him, but I haven't asked about him for a while. And she's definitely officially single\n\nDo I tell her how much I like her, she's been my best friend for like 2 years, and I really really like her. What do I do?", "summary": "I like my best friend do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_e7sv2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it strange to occasionally just spend a few minutes enjoying and getting amazed by the current state of our technology?", "post": "I just tried to share this feeling with a friend and somehow I get the feeling he didn't really felt the same[.] Just thinking about some various things and I will feel very happy thinking about all the different things we have[.] Some examples:\n\n* We have a few people up in space at a height of about 400 km going around the earth at a speed of 7[.] km/s[.] Just 53 years we had no satellites at all[.]    \n* About 100 years ago the first affordable car went into production, that's within a lifespan if you're lucky[.]    \n* There is apparently coming a phone with 2 CPUs[.] Isn't it just amazing that such thing will just in your pocket? Doing something 1 milliard times a second[.] I have no idea what, but that's not the point here[.]    \n* Similar to the phone[.] Just the idea that a computer works and it's reacting to what I'm doing and it won't get confused with all the different processes going on at the same time is just wonderful[.](\n\nAnd then I don't even mention the \"normal\" stuff, like what is going in anything which lives[.] Just thinking about the fact that I'm able to think is just amazing[.] And another example: Every moment I'm exerting a gravitational force on basically everything else[.] (Sure it's small, but it's always there[.](\n\nAnyway, I asked a few people and they don't seem to often just do nothing and having their minds blown[.] Or is it just because it's personal and it doesn't really work that well is somebody else talks about it?", "summary": "Holy shit, I'm living in the future[.]("}
{"id": "t3_45ezew", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best domestic credit card for airline points?", "post": "I have 4 to 6 flights coming up in the next year and a half from the mid-atlantic region to the western USA and Alaska. I'm looking for a good credit card that I can use as an alternative to my debit card (paying off the balance in full every month) to earn airline points to make all this travel a little bit more affordable, but I'm totally overwhelmed and confused by the amount of information my research has turned up. \n\nAdditional information: \n\nI'll have $600-1,000 of normal expenses each month (depending on the month) that I'm planning on using the card for. This does not take into account flights or travel expenses, which will also go on this card. \n\nIn addition to flights, I'll have rental cards and a considerable amount of gas to pay for (I'm driving from the east coast to Idaho at least once). \n\nLooking at my travel history over the past year, I don't tend to use a single airline. I usually mix and match flights to find whatever is cheapest. I have used Delta, United, and American airlines in the past year. \n\nDue to living in and flying to remote and low-population areas, preliminary research shows my flights will cost $700-900 each.", "summary": "What card should I use to earn points while I fly back and forth across the US 4-6 times in a year?"}
{"id": "t3_2sslfp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I know my way around town", "post": "This happened about two years ago on Halloween night. I was at band practice , and nobody came to pick me up. Instead of asking for a phone like a sensible person I decided to walk home in the dark. I took a left instead of a right at one turn, and ended up getting lost. For 3 hours. I ended up in the shadier parts of town, which freaked me out. I ended up walking halfway around my town, and somehow ended up near a church that's literally a block from my house. I ran home, and my stepmom was on the porch waiting from me. It being Halloween night, she thought that I was out partying. I tried telling her the truth, but she partied as a teen and she thought I was lying. This obviously made me mad, mainly because I'm not the party type. This ended up in me being grounded for what felt like forever.", "summary": "Tried to walk home from band practice, got lost. Stepmom thought I was at a party, got grounded."}
{"id": "t3_obx0j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need some advice...", "post": "I'm (m20) and I recently met a really cute girl at a party. We had mutual friends and had known each other's names, but nothing more. I met her at a party (her party, actually) because I was picking up my drunk friends. We get to talking and things are going really well actually and she even asked me for my phone number. I knew that she was just out of a long relationship (same as me) but I also found out that she is sort of talking to a guy already. About a week goes by and I finally work up the courage to text her and we have a great conversation and she asks me when I'm coming home next (we go to different schools). I told her that I would, surprisingly enough, be in town this coming weekend. We set up plans and it was great! Though one thing that was odd was she asked if our mutual friend was coming home. I told her no and asked why and she said \"It'd be nice for you, me, (my friend), and (her friend) to all hang out!\" Does this mean that she's not fully into me or am I just over thinking this? Secondly, I now don't know when to text her next. I will obviously text her this Saturday when I'm in town, but should I try to spark a conversation sooner?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Met a cute girl, got her number, she wants to hang out (with a group), don't know when to text again."}
{"id": "t3_4iip77", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Coughing....", "post": "For the past week I have been sick with some sort of bug. You know the usual cough semi-scratchy throat. The cough had become pretty annoying to the point I would just keep coughing to where I felt like my head was going to explode. \nSo after a long day of work I returned home to have some chill time. I work nights 3pm-11pm. Came home checked on the wife in bed and went to the dinner table where my computer was. I was watching some videos on reddit as usual with a beer and here it came again. The cough of death. This time however I wake up next to my Kitchen island in a pool of my blood. Now we are talking straight up murder scene. \nI was in complete shock like holy crap did I get completely wasted and fall to my untimely death on a kitchen counter? Nope, barely through half a beer when I came completely to. I ran got some stuff to apply pressure with; ah good ole paper towels. \nI woke the Wife up and she could not believe the blood and mess. I had a pretty good cut above my upper right eyebrow. I had hit my head directly on the corner of the kitchen island. We woke our kids up and straight to the ER I go. Apparently, I'm fine after EKG and Chest X Ray. It's common thing that can happen after a coughing spell the Doctor says. So now I live my life in fear. wondering will this be my last cough? I was prescribed some things to help calm down my cough, usual stuff for colds, and 4 stitches.  \nAfter a day of the Wife taking care of me and being worried I said \"Happy Mother's Day\" :-)", "summary": "Coughed to the point of black out. Arose in a large pool of blood. Found out coughing can make you pass out.  4 stitches."}
{"id": "t3_2scb0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25m) SO(22) wants to end our 4 year relationship when she graduates in the spring but wants to stay together until then. It's breaking my heart.", "post": "My SO and I have been together for 4 years, and now she wants to break it off when she graduates in the spring. We both love each other and she wants to stay together until then, but I can't help but feel betrayed and angry whenever I think about it, and I can feel depression creeping in more and more every day.\n\nI've told her I would happily go with her wherever she feels she needs to go, but she says she wants to \"find out who she is when she is single and on her own.\" After that she says she might come back. She says she can see herself marrying me in the future, but she has to go be single for a while. \n\nThis girl is the most amazing woman I've ever met and I'd gladly spend my life with her, but this is the most selfish thing I can imagine her doing, and I can't decide if I want to try to salvage the relationship or say goodbye. Please help.", "summary": "my girlfriend of 4 years wants to break up when she graduates, but hints at coming back after she's \"found herself\". Can't decide to break it off or try to salvage the happiest relationship I've ever had."}
{"id": "t3_2hra7h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making an abortion joke to my girlfriends parent, whom I'd just met.", "post": "Okay so first of all, my girlfriends parents are both conservative Christians. I knew this, but I'm an ass and didn't think about it. I was invited to eat supper with them tonight; although, I was nervous but everything was going great. They were super friendly and I started feeling more comfortable. We were all at the dinner table and my girlfriends aunt (her moms sister) came up in conversation because she just found out she was pregnant with twins. Twins apparently run in that family and one relative even had triplets. My girlfriends father started to talk about how she was going to handle twins and said \"Imagine if she had quadruplets or something. What would she do then\". I had been quiet for most of the night and was eager to say something and wanted to join into the conversation. Without thinking I uttered \"Quadruple abortion I guess\". I know it was crude and stupid, but I was nervous and wanted to say something. Her parents immediately gave me a death stare that made my question my very existence. I noticed immediately and gave off a slight chuckle to try and ease the mood. It didn't. I nervously excused myself to the bathroom and waiting there to let sink in what had just happened. After I came out the rest of the night was kind of awkward. I've been home for two hours now and the only text I've received from my girlfriends read \"I don't really think your joke went over too well with my parents\".", "summary": "Today I met my girlfriends conservative christian parents and made a crude abortion joke."}
{"id": "t3_3k15vg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31m) wife of 12 years had an affair and now we're divorced, I need some tips on moving on from people who've been in similar situations, I've been stuck lately", "post": "She carried on an affair and got found out and we finalized the divorce a week ago, 2 months after everything came into the open.\n\nI just need some tips on moving forward or moving on or whatever. I was with this woman for so long and to know she threw all that time and all the things we did together, all the things I did for her away for a chance to fuck some guy a few times. It kills me.\n\nI wanted to reconcile but I can't do that to myself, I had opportunities to cheat over the years, never did. Turned down a couple exceptionally good looking women because I loved her.\n\nI'm feeling so lost and stuck these days, I don't know what to do.\n\nCould use some help from people who've been in similar situations.", "summary": "marriage of 12 years ended, totally confused and don't know how to move on"}
{"id": "t3_1gul9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How/Why did you \"break up\" with a shitty friend?", "post": "I [F20] have a close friend [F18] who's basically trying to be me. She's an emotional leetch, calls me a billion times a day and openly expresses wanting my first love's body While she knows we're currently fwb when he's on leave for the military. She was in our social group while we dated and was obviously in love with him, but in my mourning process she never shut the fuck up about him so it took forever to get to a healthy stand-point. What the hell kind of friend does that?\n\nI can't handle the fact that she has her own vendetta in using me for my ex-flame's attention... It's got me crying again at night with Feelings! This ruined hott, steamy, monkey sex because now I wish I was his only. Fuck. I'm going crazy! No idea how to break it to her though. She's just a sexually frustrated virgin (who happened to fall for my ex), extremely introverted with anxiety issues and doesn't have many friends. Oh did I mention that all of a sudden she's into my hobbies, following me, and now pursuing the same career? \n\nDo I work this out with her? Or possibly tell me your story so I can better grip where that line is.", "summary": "I'm just going crazy over here. Please tell me where your bitch line was drawn and how you executed \"break up\". Or if you read it, drop this beezy? Yay or nay?"}
{"id": "t3_2lauzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19F) best friend (19F) and her boyfriend (23M) \"joke\" about having a threesome with me... How do I possibly make this a reality?", "post": "Known my best friend since we were 12, we're super duper open about stuff, we've kissed and we talk about sex and we're cool with that.\n\nShe's got into a relationship 7 months ago with an old friend of both mine and hers and they both very often, lightheartedly, bring up having a threesome. They both seem to think it would happen if we got really drunk together one night. But I know that I'd prefer to talk about it beforehand if it were to go ahead. My friend and her boyfriend are very sexually open too. They both have ridiculously high sex drives.\n\nI've just got out of a stifling relationship where I hated sex and dreaded it, but the idea of a threesome is actually really exciting and I feel like it might bring back my sex drive a little! \n\nHow do I go about bringing this up as something I'd actually be willing to do? I think when they bring it up they're being semi serious so it's worth a shot. Should I just say \"hey [friend] about that threesome. I'm totally up for it if you guys are.\" or what? I've only had sex with one other person in my life!", "summary": "how to seriously bring up threesome with good friends who jokingly bring it up a lot"}
{"id": "t3_49gs8g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/m] am concerned about my girlfriend [20/f] moving.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and things are great. We met in college and are both still attending that college. She has recently informed me that her dad is up for a promotion and that she might possibly be moving to a different state a ways away. Now she assures me that it isn't a real thing yet, and probably won't happen because this kind of thing happens all the time (other companies inquiring about her dad). I am concerned about this because she has a brother and a sister who have both been left behind in other states while they were in college because this has happened several times before (granted not in a while). My concern is that I am going to be going forward with this relationship and out of nowhere she is going to leave. My other concern is that she doesn't seem to care if it happens either way (she says this is kind of a defense mechanism because it has happened a few times before). I'm curious about what I should do about this? She has a good relationship with her parents, but they would give her the option to stay (I'm assuming that they mean they would still pay for her school); should I ask her to stay? Should I tell her that I don't want to stay in the relationship unless she tells me that she will stay? I'm just not sure what to do, and bother by the fact that she doesn't seem to care.", "summary": "my girlfriend might be moving far away because her dad is possibly getting a promotion and I'm worried."}
{"id": "t3_g2vwd", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "How can I get my two cats to become friends/get along? (Cross post from r/askreddit)", "post": "I have a 7 month old kitten which I got about 2 months ago who is the greatest cat I've ever owned (I had a few cats when I lived with the parents, but they always only had one at time). She's never shown any agression or tried to bite me, etc.\n\nWell today, my girlfriend and I decided to add another kitten to the family so that our cat can have a friend. Well, I got the kitten, which is a 7 week old male, and brought him home.\n\nI brought him right to the litter box (same one Godzilla uses, I'm assuming this was an issue?) and Godzilla freaked the fuck out. Luckily she didn't try to attack him, but was hissing and making weird growling noises. I tried to comfort her and pet her but it honestly felt like she was going to bite me if I petted her the wrong way.\n\nI tried playing with Godzilla and her toys while holding the kitten in my other arm, and she would play with me, but she was only 25% as happy to play as she normally is.\n\nAfter reading up online, I saw that we need to keep them separated for now, so I have him set up in a room with his own litter box, food, and water.\n\nReddit, what do I do? I'm freaking out and wondering if I'm going to have to give the kitten away. :( Any help or a story is appreciated.", "summary": "My 7 month old female kitten wants NOTHING to do with a 7 week old male kitten I brought home. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_252s5w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering $100.000 worth of spare parts", "post": "I'm 19, I work at a dairy/milk processing plant, and somehow I'm responsible for ordering and organizing spare parts for the various machines we have here.\n\nSome months ago I was going through our spare parts lists and noticed we had a lot of missing spares for a specific machine. I asked one of the technicians what I should do about missing spares and he told me to order stuff if we were missing anything, and I did just that. Copy pasted the entire excel file to the spare parts supplier and said I wanted to order what was missing. Had no idea what I was ordering but thought I did the right thing. (Don't know jack shit about the machines)\n\nWeeks passed, never heard from them. Assumed they'd forgotten about my order and eventually I forgot about it too. Apparently the list was outdated anyway and we didn't need those spare parts.\n\nToday we got a huge fucking box (couple hundred kgs) of spares and a $100,000 bill delivered to our door. With spares we dont need. Fuck.", "summary": "Research before ordering shit."}
{"id": "t3_1ldmpi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend[19] feels slutty after an incident. m[19]", "post": "So, in short, my girlfriend and I both attend the same college, and we've been dating for 2 years now, but we have little time to see each other, so when we go see each other, we often do some sexual activities in the car. She and I are both quite excited for each time, and this happens usually three times a week to two. Most of the time, we park in a community, and put up shaders so we aren't seen being inappropriate, but yesterday, someone happened to walk by, and saw us. He made no comment, but ran away laughing. At the time, i didn't think this was too big of a deal, I mentioned it to her as we were putting on clothes, and she freaked out. She left immediately, and today, told me that \"Her whole life she's thought that people who had sex in cars were sluts/whores/bad, but now she's just the same as them all.\"\n\n I'm quite at a loss of what to do, I've tried comforting her, telling her she definitely isn't a slut, and that its normal ,we're in a monogamous relationship, but she refuses to listen. I'm sure part of it is because she's feeling emotional, but if/when she calms down, what should i say? Should we stop? she's never had a problem with this before, until now. Also i am her first partner in sexual activities.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I reguarly have sex in car due to time/options. Yesterday, was seen by someone, nothing happened because of it, but girlfriend now feels \"bad\" and \"slutty\" due to this incident. What should i say/do?  "}
{"id": "t3_28o6bs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by packing for my trip early", "post": "This morning I had an early morning flight so I tried to be proactive and have my luggage packed and ready to go last night. When I went to sleep last night, I placed my suitcase (which is the same height as the bed) next to the foot of my bed and I attach my phone to the charger and plugged it into an outlet which is also at the foot of my bed. \n\nPhone alarm goes off at 5:30am and I jump up quickly to turn it off. In my sleepy stupor, I placed my left hand and all my weight on what I thought was the bed and reached for my phone with my right hand. Quickly as I toppled face forward, I realized I had placed my hand on my suitcase instead of the bed; all the blankets and sheets swiftly being yanked completely off the bed after me. The suitcase was partially unzipped still and so clothes went flying as well. All of my limbs were tangled up and I landed smack on my nose. Two black eyes are going to be a real attractive look for my vacation.", "summary": "tried to pack early; ended up packing 2 black eyes instead"}
{"id": "t3_3oi00m", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "746 to 613 score in two months? Will it help if husband removes me from credit card account?", "post": "Hi all! I have, what I hope, isn't a silly question.  I looked through the wiki and have done a google search and haven't come up with answer to this specific question.\n\nMy credit score, as the title says, was a 746 just two months ago.  In that time, I had a dental emergency and had to open a care credit account and my husband added me to a card that he had in his name only.  The care credit is paid off, husband's card doesn't have a high balance, and the only other thing that I can think that has changed is that I opened my own visa account about four months ago (low balance, credit rebuilder type deal).\n\nIf my husband removes me from that account, will my score go back up? The credit helper message says that I have too many bankcard accounts (four or more)  and too many accounts opened in the past two years.  Everything seemed fine until he added me to the account, although maybe that's just weird coincidence? I should add, also, that nothing negative has been added to my account in this time (old stuff is there, yes, but nothing recent).", "summary": "husband added me to credit account, had already opened up my own two accounts, credit score plummeted.  If he removes me, will it go back up or make things even worse?"}
{"id": "t3_3it5fk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex_GF [20F] 1.5yrs, I'm not coping with the break up", "post": "My exgf and I broke up about 2 months ago. I'm no longer in love with her, and I am interested in other girls, but I'm still really sad with the break up. We broke up on mutual terms, and after some thinking, decided that we would never have worked out in the end anyways, because we didn't have enough in common to be dating. We had enough to be close friends, but not enough to date.\n\nAnyways, it's been a couple of months, and I'm still really struggling to cope. I don't think about it all the time, but when it comes to mind, it hurts. I've been trying to push the feelings away, but it's exhausting doing that all the time.\n\nThe hardest thing is that she's already moved on and has a new boyfriend. They got together within a couple weeks after we broke up. I feel like I've been replaced, or like I didn't matter enough. She didn't cheat or anything though, and I know that for sure. \n\nI really don't know how I can move on. I already thought that I was over it, but I really aren't.\n\nHow can I move on, and be happy, and meet someone new?", "summary": "Struggling to get over my ex, struggling to cope, need advice on how to move on"}
{"id": "t3_3btw1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] almost 2 years. I cant help but to feel so incredibly unimportant and it is eating me alive", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend now for almost two years. She is the absolute love of my life, the most incredible, smart, beautiful, funny girl i've ever met. We have the most amazing times together. About 8 months ago i started bringing up the fact that she never makes plans with me. Any time we hang out, it is me who asks to hang out, it is me who makes the plans, it is me who does everything. I would also take the leap not knowing if she was available or not which I felt is unfair because i am always available for her. Its been almost two years and she has never surprised me and asked to come see me, she doesnt make plans with me. I have been so vocal about this and how it kills me and her answer is always \"I dont like to make plans\" yet a lot of the time she has plans with her friends. She is the most incredible person in the entire world but this is eating me alive. I dont feel wanted, she knows this, yet she cant just make a single plan with me because she doesnt like plans. I am almost out of self esteem and i dont know what to do. She means the world to me and it feels like i mean nothing to her. Its an absolutely terrible feeling :(", "summary": "My gf is incredible and i love her so much but i always make the plans. ive told her for 8 months how it hurts that she never asks me to hang out and nothing has changed. im miserable."}
{"id": "t3_2brlhv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Sharting Naked In The Kitchen.", "post": "It's Saturday now in Colorado, so let's do this.   It was my day off yesterday and so when I woke up I thought \"Damn, I could really go for a PBR in the shower today.\"  So I started running water for my shower, and it takes a solid minute to actually get hot, so I walked to the fridge down the hall in the kitchen.   I open up the fridge, grab the beer,  take a couple sips and stand there for a minute, just sort of zoning out.   I was just about to go back to the shower and needed to fart so I stopped for a second and let 'er rip.   Bam.  Poop on the floor.  I was like \"OH FUCK\" and I ran to the shower and cleaned the shit out of my asscrack and got out as quickly as I could.   \n\nAs I was stepping out of the shower,  I could hear my girlfriend unlocking our front door and I was like \"no no no no, god no\"  I stopped drying off and just ran out to the kitchen to try to hide it with a paper towel or something and try to play it off like I spilled a frozen burrito or something. Before I make it to the kitchen, I just hear a loud \"What the fuck Dude!\"  \n\nI just stood there like a deer in the headlights. She looked at me. Looked at it.  Looked at me.    I said \"Uhhhh, Domino did it.\"  (that's our dog).   She gave me a look that is best described as Not Amused.  I proceeded to clean up my own shit off the floor, naked. In front of my girlfriend that did not at all enjoy coming home to that.", "summary": "shat on the kitchen floor, girlfriend saw it before I cleaned it up, and then I tried to blame the dog."}
{"id": "t3_35pdm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my SO [26 M] of 5 years are breaking up. Not sure what to do with the pets.", "post": "My long term live in boyfriend and I are breaking up. We currently live with my brother so he will be the one moving out. We have two dogs and we're arguing a lot about what to do with them. This breakup is already hard enough as it is. This is causing so much extra tension. We got both dogs while we were together. We both love them more than anything. I am so strongly attached to these animals I don't know what I would do if I couldn't see them every day. Especially going through hard times. They are like children to me. And my SO feels the same. \n\nAs it stands, my SO has no money and no place to live.. So me keeping them both seems like the most logical option. But that's only temporary and my SO is refusing to \"give up custody\" fully. Which I totally understand. \n\nSo we need a good solution, for both of us and for the dogs. Unlike a lot of dogs, these guys don't transport well. They hate the car and it's likely my SO will be living out of the city. This makes sharing custody very difficult.. It puts stress on the dogs as well as making it impossible for my SO and I to go NC like he wants. \n\nAs for us each taking one, we really don't want to separate them. They enjoy each others company, play together and comfort each other when my SO and I aren't home. I fear they'll get very lonely and depressed if they're taken apart from each other. \n\nAnyone else ever had to make a compromise on something like this? It's an unfortunate area where we're both just not willing to budge much. But want to make this transition as smooth and painless as possible. I feel like I've thought of all the options.. But I'm hoping someone has some better insight/ideas..", "summary": "ex SO and I having trouble deciding who gets to keep the pets.."}
{"id": "t3_4jlowo", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "19M, CW:315lbs, GW:185lbs. I need some encouragement & progress inspiration for my journey!", "post": "Every day I wake up and say \"Okay, today I'll start eating right,\" and then every day I fail at it. I'm 19yo, which is young to be as large as I am. I do have a large frame however, and I'm 6'3\". I just need some encouragement and inspiration to finally kick-off my journey to looking & feeling better.\n\nA bit about me:\nI hike every day. Not extreme, painful hikes, but I hike along a river or through the forest for 3-4 miles every day. I absolutely love it, and am thankful that I don't get winded too quickly. As long as I keep a good walking pace, I could go on for hours (which is strange, because I am also a smoker).\nA few years ago, I did HCG (right when it was getting big) and dropped 85lbs in 4 months. The next year I spent gaining it all back by switching from 500 calories a day to, I'm sure, well over 2,000. \nI was a chubby kid growing up, from the time I was 3-on. Always bigger than the other kids, never really paid much mind to it though.\nI just don't know what it feels like to be skinny. I want to be more confident in myself and my body, and need the inspiration to hop on the right track. Everything helps!", "summary": "I'm a large man and need your inspiration to get un-large."}
{"id": "t3_2exqjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 5-ish months, are going through a rough time", "post": "It started on the high school robotics team. Her and I would awkwardly stare at each other throughout the course of the build season. I held her hand at a competition, then we talked all throughout spring break. She snuck over that Saturday when I got back in town from skiing. We had sex. (At this point we were decently good friends). We grew our friendship more until school ending, still having sex regularly. I learned that she had a boyfriend during all of this a few weeks ago. She met my parents, extended family, family friends posing as my \"friend\" when she had a boyfriend she was keeping a secret. Trust issue #1\n\nWe are both attending the same university. My depression has gotten worse. She spent an hour talking to her \"ex\" (I'm still not sure if they are even broken up) on the phone while I played ping pong in the dorm lobby making friends. Trust issue #2. This was a massive trigger on my part. Everything has gone downhill since. \n\nThere is another aspect to this problem. I have a lung disease, Cystic Fibrosis. I lost 3 friends to it. I am a mess psychologically. She helps me stay healthy the best she can. She makes me do my meds. She is caring in that regard. Having CF, and what it does to people upon death, I do not understand why anyone would willing put themselves through this. Trust issue number #3.\n\nShe missed her pill one day, and is now a week late on her period, so she says. She has been \"spotty.\"\n\nThank you for reading this. Give advice as you see fit. Just typing this made me feel better.", "summary": "Girlfriend started seeing me while having a boyfriend I didn't know about. We got sexual, she still had the boyfriend. She still actively talks to him. And she might be pregnant. I have trust issues. Help me."}
{"id": "t3_3u89nq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[22F] crazy? Should I stop seeing my ex[20M] who lives abroad?", "post": "Hi. My ex lives in Europe and I live in America. We broke up because of the distance, even we are still talking about how much we care about each other. \n\nWe broke up this January but met him again this August in real. We made a plan to go to Asia together but I had to go to Europe this summer for my job, we met his country in Europe. And I met his whole family and some friends. We stayed together at his house with his family and traveled couple of weeks. It was really romentic time like before.\n\nNow I'm in America again. This distance is really tough btw. We were making a plan for this winter in Asia again.\n\nBut suddenly he told me he doesn't know if he can go last night. I'm so sad because I expected a lot and already found some flights. Anyway he told me he's gonna let me know if he can go or not by tomorrow. But I don't think he can.. Just my feelings.\n\nI didn't get his text about the answer yet, so I don't know the reason why he may not see me this winter. Maybe something important than me.. I'm sad about this..\n\nI don't care that I go to his country again because I like to go abroad on my vacation. If the vacation includes him, would be perfect.\n\nBut meanwhile I'm worried about if he thinks that I'm a needy who always chase him over a world. \n\nAnd the biggest thing is about me. I know I can't always flight to meet him. But I'm in love with him so I can't control my mind. It costs a lot and could be time consuming( for me, never).. Is it crazy for my life? Do I have to move on?", "summary": "Is it crazy that I go abroad to see someone I like twice?"}
{"id": "t3_1nyb3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I [20/M] do to make my date [22/M] know that I'm romantically interested?", "post": "Recently had a first date with a guy, and I had a really good time. It was a lot of fun, however for me at time it sort of felt like a job interview. A little friendly but distant and really sterile platonic topics. I'm interested in asking for a 2nd date some time in the future.\n\nIn the event that happens, or for any future scenario, what can I do to let my date eventually know I'm interested in them in a safe appropriate way? \n\nI've never been a touchy physical person, all of my friendships and family relationships are pretty hands-off in terms of physical contact. So no matter what I'm feeling, hand holding or playful touching is something that I find hard to initiate. Not to mention gauging the comfort level of the other person. \n\nAnother wrinkle is that I'm gay and I don't always feel safe being physical with my dates in public since I don't always know if the environment will be 100% friendly towards me in that sense.", "summary": "Any tips for a gay guy to show that he's interested in his date, physically, verbally or otherwise in a safe and appropriate way around the time of the second date?"}
{"id": "t3_1nt8my", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my friend[18F] went on 2 dates, and then this happened...", "post": "So I asked this girl out who is in a few classes of mine. We went to lunch for the first date, and that went well. We are both introverted and this is my first time pursuing a relationship so I have no idea what I am doing and she is difficult to read (I am too, I'm sure).\n\nSecond date (friday night), we had a light dinner and then went to see a theatre production. This one was a little more awkward, particularly at the end because the play was just fucking weird (a look into the mind of a serial killer). Before we parted, I asked her to go to an event this Sunday night, to which she said she would have to check her schedule, and I gave her a hug but it was awkward and didn't seem well received.\n\nAt this point I thought moving any further wasn't going to happen...\n\nWe met again today (Saturday) because we are working on a group project with 4 other people for one of our classes. After our meeting, she left and came back shortly after (I was still wrapping things up as I am the group leader). She asked if she could talk to me...\n\nBasically what she said is that she isn't ready for a relationship, but wants to be friends for now... She said that that doesn't mean a relationship will never happen... And she said she is still interested in going to the previously mentioned event tomorrow (Sunday). \n\nWhat is going on? Have I been permanently banished to the friend zone, or does she just want to move slowly (which is understandable, given her rather reserved nature)?", "summary": "Went on 2 dates with a girl, so she must see something in me... Said she isn't ready for a relationship, but still wants to go to another event with me.... Will anything ever happen between us?"}
{"id": "t3_ufj8e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay reddit, youre known for helping people who really need it so here I am...", "post": "My girlfriend is 19 years old and totally financially independent, she has two crazies for parents who would sooner take the money she has left than help her survive, and she recently lost her job and now has 0 income to cover almost $1300 a month. \n\nAnyone in the Lebanon, Ohio area able to help us find her a job, preferably full time and at least $9 an hour (her old job was at $8 an hour and she would work about 42 hours a week, that was barely enough to get by, although she was managing.) \n\nShe only has a high school diploma as far as qualifications go, although she down know sign language fairly well. Anything at all you guys could do to help would be so much appreciated, thank you!", "summary": "19 year old girl with high school diploma needs full time job near the Lebanon, Ohio area desperately."}
{"id": "t3_16jybu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "From shitty relationship to another..", "post": "First of all I have to warn you that my english is far from perfect because it's not my native language..\n\nAll my relationships seem to follow certain formula. First when I start a relationship my girlfriend seems to be almost overly attached to me and I'm little bit reserved. As time goes by her interest to me fades away and I end up hearing words like \"I just don't love you enough\" and ultimate cliche \"It's not you, it's me\". Funniest part in this is that I'm kind of person who builds up strong feelings at slow pace and end up totally heart broken in the end. Last time this happened was couple of weeks ago and I'm still totally miserable and depressed about it. Not just about this case but the pattern my relationships seems to follow. I'm not too young anymore (I'm 33 year old male) and I'm really thinking of if I can take this kind of shit anymore. I'm afraid to be lonely and I need somebody to love. I'm just not sure if I'm willing to take this same ride any more times. \n\nDo you have any experiences of situations like this? Any couraging words are needed. Thanks for reading!", "summary": "From shitty relationship to another.."}
{"id": "t3_1gs8wp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Non-EU international student in Netherlands, how to create an income?", "post": "I am an Australian student studying in the Netherlands, and I am after some ideas on how to get some income. As I am not from the EU, my visa only allows me to work 10 hours per week. But, that restriction coupled with the fact that my Dutch is pretty awful (I can read at about a 6yr old level, and speak/write/listen much worse), means I am not very competitive in the labour market.\n\nI have thought about teaching English, however there are three problems with that: 1) my (English) girlfriend teaches English, so if I got into the market I would be poaching her clientpool; 2) I have seen the amount of work she does in preparation for her lessons, and with my studies I don't know if I would have the time; and, 3) I have no English teaching qualifications (well, I did tutor high school students English, maths and science while at university, but that is not any type of accreditation).\n\nAny ideas appreciated (but let me acknowledge in advance the inevitable wave of prostitution ideas/jokes haha)\n\nThanks.", "summary": "How can a non-EU, non-Dutch speaking student create an income in the Netherlands?"}
{"id": "t3_md33k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am moving in with my GF's  Christian family. How do I deal live with them and their anti-gay & illogical hate speech.", "post": "1st Note: I made this account so my significant other wont realise this is about her family, she reads reddit but only looks at pics. So I should be all clear.\n\nI have been with my GF for about 10 years and things have mostly been great, we have lived together now since leaving high school for 2 years. But due to financial reasons we are forced to move in with her family (honestly there is no other option - we both recently lost our jobs and have been unable to find any more work). While on the face of it I like her family and enjoy the company of her younger siblings. There is a glaring problem of an overbearing Christian faith going on in the house. I have no firm religious belief so I guess I could be considered an atheist, but I in no way get in the way of anyone else's beliefs.\n\nI am pretty sure my GF's parents like me, I have known them a long time and they are very comfortable with me around. However a lot of the time when we are visiting there is anti-gay, anti-anyotherreligion, anti-drinking and anti-anything unchristian being spoken. They are even anti-Obama in terms of claiming he is the anti-christ (not jokingly btw, filmy believing it and stating it often).\n\nWe are moving in within a month, and I am willing to take the challenge for our relationship, I truly want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I would really like some advice on what I could do about the anti-gay and xenophobia that comes out of their mouths some times. I find it really uncomfortable.", "summary": "Moving in with GF's family, their house has constant biblical quoting and gay hate speech. I am an atheist who thinks anyone should believe what they want if it makes them happy. However I find their comments incredibly offensive, unethical and sometimes illogical."}
{"id": "t3_38z04w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [45 M] with my ex girlfriend [42 M/F] of six months can't seem to move on but won't get back together", "post": "I [45M] broke up with my girlfriend [42F] of six months because of major lifestyle differences.  We still see each other and behave like a couple when we're together, but she insists we'll never be a couple again.  I think we can get past the differences, but she is adamant it's over forever.  The problem is, she keeps calling me and we end up spending time with each other.  Then she tells me we're not a couple and never will be.  \n\nPart of me wants to prove her wrong, but it feels like she's getting all the benefits of a boyfriend but can do anything she wants outside of that by insisting we're not together.  How do I save me from myself?  I feel so weak in this.", "summary": "My ex keeps calling me and I'm in an endless spiral of hope/despair.  How do I free myself?"}
{"id": "t3_jlxkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would this cause an international incident?", "post": "I was discussing illegal immigration with my roommate who is schizophrenic. He declared that if we had a modified merchant ship for transporting passengers. We could load it with illegal immigrants and deported them to Africa. Also without permission from the country we dump them on. For this plan to be successful it has to be done more then once and not create an international incident.\n\nI told him he's being crazy and that I was pretty sure Reddit would agree. He believed that Reddit might see things his way and told me I would have to ask Reddit to find out.", "summary": "would dumping illegal immigrants in Africa cause an international incident?"}
{"id": "t3_195ocv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and tried to scare my girlfriend into coming to my house.", "post": "I'll start from the top. My (now-ex) girlfriend is practicing for tryouts to get into a college music program. In addition, she has been stalked by a guy for several years now, which will come into play soon. Her practice schedule requires no external contact from anyone for a week. For some odd reason, I was not in the right mind, and decided to do something I'll be resenting for the next infinity. I screencapped a picture of her stalkers Facebook, and made a fake Facebook post around coming to see her performance day next week, in an attempt to come to me to help her. After I did that, I sent her the .psd file with all the layers not flattened, and the truth came out that I tried to manipulate her. I woke up in the morning to my phone vibrating non-stop from texts. Immediately after I woke up, it occurred to me what I did was idiotic. I'm sitting down crying right now because I seriously fucked up with likely no chance of getting back together. I just wish I could undo the events. Even though you guys won't be sympathetic towards me, I fucked up. Bad. Also, I neglected to mention that the stalker knows where she lives.", "summary": "read the story. I typed it out on my phone."}
{"id": "t3_336j9u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I could finish a book report in a day", "post": "So we have to do this book report thing for my AP US History class. One in the first semester, another in the second. First one went well. I read the entire thing on Sparknotes the week of the due date and got the essay done over a couple days (has to be at least 6 pages, single spaced). Ended up doing really well. Of course, that led me to believe I'd be able to pull it off again.\n\nWell, as the due date crept closer and closer, I figured I should CHOOSE the book I was going to read this time around. My teacher gave us a list of ideal books to use, but since I was already so late on picking, I was basically scraping the bottom of the barrel. I would basically look for ones with <300 pages and then search to see if there was a Sparknotes thing for them. No luck for basically any of them, until I came across one with a site called \"Bookrags\", that seemed to be essentially the same thing. There was a brief summary of the first chapter on the page, so I figured \"Hey, this'll do. I'll check this out later when I'm going to write the paper. Piece of cake, right?\" Not right. Wrong, even.\n\nFast forward to this week. Due date is coming up, and I haven't even started yet. No matter, I have cheap summaries on my side! Well...'Cheap' my ass. I go back to the page I visited, read the part of the summary posted, and click \"read more\". It brings me to a page about subscribing to see the rest of the summary, and at $19.99 a month. I should've seen it coming, honestly.", "summary": "I'm going to read the book now"}
{"id": "t3_4yvx0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my _fiance__ [30 M] 5 yr. relationship, issues with alcohol", "post": "I've been with my SO for 5 years now. When we first started dating he asked if I'd be willing to give up alcohol for him because his mom was killed by a drunk driver when he was young. I could tell how much it bothered him and was really into him so I agreed to do it.\n\nFast forward 5 years and we're engaged. I've realized in the past year that I can't really picture myself never drinking alcohol again. I grew up around healthy, social drinkers and have enjoyed it with friends. \n\nMy SO is willing to work on this so that I can drink but ultimately wants some sort of compromise. I appreciate that he's willing to work on it but I don't want to compromise because I don't feel like I should have to. \n\nI respect that he has chosen not to drink, but I think his fear is irrational and is preventing me from partaking in an activity I enjoy. I don't drink to get drunk. Just want to have a glass of wine at home or go out with friends occasionally.\n\nAdvice please! Am I being selfish or not caring about his feelings?", "summary": "Different opinions about alcohol."}
{"id": "t3_3jamub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28m] have a serious lack of confidence in decision and I'm losing my family.", "post": "Lola and I have been together 3 years. She is 2 and a half years older than me has a young daughter who I have become a second father to and we've all lived together for about two and a half years. \n\nNearly ever since we have been together I have been incapable of making decisions. We had a rough beginning as I was a pothead and trying to figure my life out while getting out of debt.  She had a steady job and was supporting her child. We balanced each other out at that time.\n\nNow I have a steady job, I take care of a lot of housework, nothing special, though. But my inability to follow through and make decisions is putting a serious road block in our way. I consistently offer to take care of things to help out since she has a lot going on but I keep botching things. \n\nRidiculous things like not confining an appointment at the vet without consulting her, running to the store and calling home to make sure I didn't forget things. We recently got engaged and i wasn't really taking part in the planning of the wedding that we wanted to make happen quickly. She is getting tired of my inability to carry on a conversation when the shit hits the fan and I'm just left with my mouth shape and not a single word in my head but \"I'm sorry\" and \"I'll try harder\"\n\nIts no wonder she is frustrated and can't see me growing up and taking responsibility and I'm at a serious loss for how to fix this, to fix myself and show her that, after all this time I keep screwing up, that I can really step up. And I don't even know how to do that. How can I possibly salvage this?", "summary": "lack of confidence and follow through are tearing my 3yr relationship apart and she can't tust me to take responsibility, how do I show her and convince her I can step up after all this time?"}
{"id": "t3_33bzb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [18F] I'm [19M] seeing had sex with her ex", "post": "I don't really have a right to be upset I think. We aren't together, every time I ask this beautiful girl she says: \"I don't know..\" and wants to take it slowly. We made out and met twice. However she stopped herself before it could go any further. \n\nNow, she told me, that last night she met her ex to \"talk\" and they ended up having sex.\nShe has a dancing group where the mother of her ex is her dancing teacher. So she *will* meet her ex occasionally.\n\nI suggested she could stop dancing. Or she could change her dancing course. To another group or something. But she refused and never suggested doing anything to solve the problem herself.\n\nNow I don't know what to do. She tells me she really likes me but I feel like I am the only one trying, even though I didn't even cause the problem in the first place.\n\nHelp me quick reddit. I really need advice.", "summary": "Girl I'm dating slept with her ex. But I feel like she isn't even trying to solve this."}
{"id": "t3_3elbwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my sister [15F], worried guy she is with [22M] is bad news.", "post": "First post here and I am looking for some unbiased advice about my [15F] sister.\n\nMy sister has always been mature for her age. A year or so ago I discovered she was in a relationship with a [18-19/M]. My parents (separated for 9 years) were upset but once they met the guy accepted him into our lives. I don't think they realised sister and [18-19/M] were in physical relationship.\n\nA few months ago sister drops him and he gets very angry, horrible messages ensue but as far as I know they have now stopped. She replaces him with [22/M], we will call him Max. She confided in me a few weeks ago that they are having a sexual relationship. She also told me she wishes to tell our Dad they are together but wants to wait until she turns 16 in October. She already spends a lot of time at his house and when our Dad is out she has Max over to the house often. I was worried if she waited until October our Dad would feel betrayed that she hadn't told him earlier, so I convinced her to tell our Dad that she had feelings for Max. \n\nShe told him she has a \"crush\" on Max, my Dad replied by saying they should stay friends until she turns 16 and then talk about contraception. \n\nHowever I am worried that they are still having sex and may not be careful. I do not know whether to share this with our Dad, and break my sister's trust, or whether to keep quiet. I have tried suggesting to my Dad that Max also has feelings back towards sister but he doesn't seem to think Max is a very 'physical guy.' My Mum has also met Max and doesn't seem worried that he is 7 years older than my sister. Am I just overreacting? \n\nI sent my sister a text outlining my worries and advising contraception but she never replied. What do I do now? I am very worried.", "summary": "My 15 year old sister is having a physical relationship with a 22M. No one else seems worried- am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_17zjt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (22f) approach my roommate (25m) about a roommates-with-benefits arrangement?", "post": "My roommate and I have lived together for about 5 months, and the lease is up in about 4 months.  I plan to move out-of-country at that time.  We share the apartment with another female in her 20's.  I have never had casual sex before, so I would appreciate some insight from people who have.\n\nThere has been sexual tension between us for a very long time--almost since we moved in.  We get along famously: we (usually the three of us roommates) travel together, party together, and hang out all the time.  We share the same circle of friends, although we were not friends before moving in (I moved here from another country).   A lot of times, it is just me and him who hang out--movies in the living room, cooking together, studying together--and those experiences are generally lovely.  I believe that he likes me and finds me attractive, but I do not think he would want a serious relationship with me.  At least, he has never indicated that.\n\nI truthfully don't want a relationship with him (or anyone right now).  I recently got out of a long-term, committed relationship because I realized that I did not want to be tied down to a man until I get my career in place. \n\nThat being said, I would be sad to lose my roommate as a friend.  But I wouldn't be heartbroken, either, if that makes sense.  I mean, I only have 5 months of history with him as his friend.  It's not like we've been \"bff's 4evr.\" \nWhat I would love to see for us is this: absolutely no change in our relationship other than having sex occasionally.  \n\nIs that utterly stupid?  Do you think it could work?  What rules should be set to ensure nobody's heart is broken?  How do I even begin the conversation?", "summary": "Should I risk a positive friendship with my roommate in order to pursue a friends-with-benefits relationship with him?"}
{"id": "t3_1fdd1t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] really like a girl [17f], but she's fallen for a friend of mine [17m]. Not the first time it's happened.", "post": "I'm sure my teenage-troubles seem fairly minor compared to failing marriages and serious relationships, but I wanted somewhere to rant.\n\nTo give the situation some background I'm averagely popular, really like my friends, and I'm generally happy. However I'm unnatractive and I'm very shy around girls so I've never really got anywhere with anyone. I understand many people are in the same boat and I honestly don't care that much about this, oh well I can move on.\n\nHowever like all teenagers I develop crushes, and from time-to-time have fairly serious feelings for girls I've managed to bring myself to talk to. So onto what's bothering me; I have a few very sexually-successful close friends who seem to have girls falling at their knees to be with them, and over the past few years every time I've started to like a girl they've fallen for one of my friends (twice it's happened soon after rejecting me). I've socialising with a really nice girl in my Chemistry class for 2 months or so. She's friendly, funny and attractive. Just a few days ago I heard she had a thing for one of my closest friends, and his approach has been to shrug her off as a potential girl he can get-off with at a party. It's happening again.\n\nI don't know who to be mad at except my own uselessness. It's not her (or \"their\" including past cases) fault as there's no way she should be expected to magically develop feelings for some plain kid who keeps awkwardly starting conversations with her. It's not my friend's fault (again plural including past cases) as he's just acting himself and girls seem to like him. They're all genuinely nice people and I'd like to think I am too, I'm just a failure in this department. I'm currently avoiding thinking romantically about anyone as I know it won't end in anything other than that familiar empty feeling of not being good enough.\n\nI really appreciate you reading this, and any advice about how I can proceed in this situation or how to avoid similar ones in the future would be gladly received.", "summary": "For about the 4th time in the last few years a girl I have feelings for seems to be falling for a friend of mine. Please read the whole thing for the full picture."}
{"id": "t3_32cuoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] would like to date my friend [21 F]. Stuck on my bestfriend [23 M] who doesn't want her, and is actually trying to help me get her.", "post": "I've been friend with Julie for about a year. I met her on a common party organized by my friends, and we always have had good times since. \n\nI can say I liked her since the first time but I had different plans at this time and I couldn't really say anything about what I felt for her. This is probably because I also knew she was on my friend, Julien. \n\nIn short, Julien doesn't like her as much as she does. He is on somebody else, and Julie is just a good friend to Julien. I've talked with him and he clearly want her to date somebody else, and he's happy I feel that for her. He often gives me tips, and talks good about myself to Julie.\n\nI know she has doubts about me. I didn't tell her what I feel yet, But few nights ago she asked questions about me to another friend. And she told him she wasn't ready to anything but Julien. She was not interested.\n\nI'm kind of like a shy guy, her opinion on me isn't what I really am. I don't feel confident talking about that during a party, I don't see myself to ask her out for a night. She would find that weird. \n\nWhat I'd like is to show her that she deserves better than waiting for nothing. I want to tell her that I can make her happy. It has to be her choice. I don't want to rush anything, and I'm rather patient. \n\nSorry for my typos if there's any. Being french doesn't help me but I'm trying hard.", "summary": "I'm a french guy that need advices on how to get her off my friend. What could I tell her? Is there anything I can do? I know there's always a room for improving."}
{"id": "t3_22k03q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17F] is very secretive and private toward me [18]", "post": "My girlfriend has always tended to be private and keep secrets from me ever since we got together about one year ago.  However, she has barely opened up at all to me. She is like this to everyone so its not just me, but I expected to gain a little trust from her.\n\nI've introduced her to my parents like what I believed to be the norm. She insisted that we not tell her parents. She is not on good terms with her parents so I tried to sympathize with her and wait. Almost a year later, her parents still don't know. I think her mom is catching on, but there has been no official introduction. I haven't even seen or know what her dad looks like.\n\nI love her very much (it might be childish to say, but hey, firsts real long term gf) and she says she does back. We barely fight and are generally seen as a very good and cute couple. I brought this up because today I found out she went to a party (alcohol/drugs) and didn't tell me. I found out by people who went (I would never go to one myself) and wanted to ask about it. She didn't want to talk about it, nor did she tell me about it when I asked her about her weekend earlier.\n\nI'm confused on whether this can be fixed or if I should end it. I've never been in a serious relationship and I still love her so its painful to think about especially with prom coming up.  Thanks reddit for your time, made my first account for this.", "summary": "my girlfriend [17F] of about a year is very secretive and private. I [18M] thought she would open up to me, but is still the same. She hasn't told her parents we are going out and recently didn't tell me of involvement with drugs/alcohol at a party (I don't think she does anything, just hangs out). Prom is coming up. Should I end it even though I still love her?"}
{"id": "t3_3xgv2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] embarrassed by my [49F] mother's new [27M] husband at their wedding", "post": "So after being divorced for 20+ years and despite being 49, my mom decided to get hitched with some young stud who she's been \"friends\" with for at most a year. During that time I've had very limited interaction with the guy, save for the awkward family meals we occasionally had. \n\nSo yesterday was their wedding and the reception. During the reception, my step dad called me up to make a speech. I didn't have much to say about their wedding so I didn't make one. I just crossed my arms. So he says \"yeah I didn't expect much from a giant baby\" and EVERYONE starts laughing at me. So I started hitting up the free bar and getting rum and cokes every 10 minutes or so. \n\nI got myself nice and numb and my step dad motioned for me to come out to dance with his cousin. She was attractive so I decided to do some classy bump and grind and my new dad comes up puts his hands on my shoulders and throws me to the ground. Everyone gasps and I left in shame.\n\nI don't like the guy because he makes me feel bad, but my mom hasn't been married for a long and probably won't listen to me so I don't know what to do.", "summary": "New step dad embarrassed me at wedding, don't know how to tell mom."}
{"id": "t3_2vybpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31/M] had a close married work friend [27/F] cry after I was fired.", "post": "So I worked at this company for 6 months, not so great Job. Made tons of friends, including a totally hawt married woman. I talked with her everyday, I even came outside for her smoking breaks in the below freezing temperatures. We share a lot in common, could probably talk for hours. \n\nOther coworkers got the impression she was kinda cold, quiet, snooty even. She's very popular amongst the other dudes. But I'd have to say she spent the most time with me. She sat across from me at the lunch tables, took the same lunch breaks.\n\nWe also text a fair amount, I'd say we text about every other day. So when we hung out the first time after, me and several other coworkers were let go she admitted to crying \"I had to drive for 3 hours\". She said \"I was really worried about you.\"\n\nI keep running those words through my head. I'm not new to dating, or relationships. It doesn't sound like she's entirely happy with her marriage (and who is?), barely gets to see her husband. I know people have like pseudo work spouses. I keep telling myself she was probably more worried about her own hide than, (points to self) this guys future.\n\nShe's very interested in hanging out with me, even suggested I drive over (in better weather) to my old work for smoke breaks.\n\nSo should I ask her if she has feelings for me? I don't want to ruin our awesome friendship. I feel I could take the 'let's be friends' route I just want things to be clear. She sends some awfully mixed signals. \n\nWould I like to be in a relationship with a married woman? Maybe, depends. With her? hmmm depends.", "summary": "Hawt work close friend was really upset I was fired. Unsure if I should ask if she has feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_4rxopf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27 F) BF (26 M) keeps literally forgetting about my presence. We are on holiday and don't want to fight...", "post": "We've been dating for 1.5 year. He's really sweet and attentive when we are alone but whenever his friends are around he literally forgets I'm there, to the point where I wonder why he invited me to hang out with them anyways. \n\nNow it's not that he doesn't like public displays of affection of anything because he talks about how it bothers him to see other couples being cold to each other. Plus it's not that he acts cold... He literally forgets about me.\n\nFor example, we are on holiday with a few couples (all his friends from his hometown and my first time meeting them). Once we were riding in a car and I was sitting behind him and he closed the door and started walking till his friend pointed out I was there. \n\nOther times (in the same trip) he just sits and plays games with his friends - a game I love playing- and doesn't even bother to invite me to join the game.\n\nOr his friends asked if everybody had a drink and he quickly said we are all good, then his friend pointed that my cup was empty and he was like: \"Oh, yeah sorry, forgot about you!\" \n\nOn lots of other occasions similar things happen, like he will walk much faster with his friends and leave me behind, or everyone orders their food and he forgets that I also need to order, etc.\n\nNow I do make a lot of effort to be friendly, I'm actually quite of an extrovert and bubbly but meeting a group of people that all know each other for the first time is hard and the fact that he keeps forgetting me- literally is making me feel really sad. \n\nAm I overreacting?? How should I go about talking to him without ruining the trip? Yes, we are still on holiday and have a few more days left :(", "summary": "BF keeps forgetting my presence around his friends and I don't know how to go about this"}
{"id": "t3_114jmv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23/m and the girl im in love with 23/f i am truly and deeply in love with this wonderful women but......", "post": "But the crappy part is she already has a boyfriend and a 2 yr old kid. And from what I heard today at work, she's already pregnet with this guys baby. It just sucks man 'cause I mean, she's wonderful wo be around. \nWe really get along with each other and have the best chemistry together. I've worked with her at my uncles restaurant a few times already and everytime we work together, shes just amazing. We'd talk so much and for so long that we forgot to work. I don't know I am just crazy in love with her. I can't stop thinking about her and when i do I find myself scribbling her name or something. \nIt is a horrible feeling, knowing you can't have what you most crave.\nAnd yea she already has a kid and another on the way but im just miserable thinking about it.\nI don't wanna steal her or take her away from her current bf or ruin her relationship no i won't go that low. But I just wish I had met her sooner. \nAt work, she's not a very good worker lol but she works hard and trys and I'm always ok with picking up her slacks because this shit is easy for me. My uncle and auntie will sometime talk a little smack about her to me behind her back and I can see that this is kinda depressing her. I put on my best Denzel Washington smile and tell her that everythings fine, dont worry shit happens. \nI'll try my best to make her smile and we'll just laugh it off, no biggie.\nBut I just really miss her. I haven't felt like this since when I was still dating my ex of 4 yrs. \nAll bullshit aside, I wanna be with this woman and take care of her. I know she has a kid already and thats fine with me. But she already has a bf and I don't wanna get in between that.\nI just don't know what should I do??", "summary": "I'm in love with an angel whos already had a 2 yr old kid and in a relationship. And I don't wanna get in between them and ruin what they already have. And yet I am jealous of her bf, It is her lips that he get to kiss and it is her eyes that he get to see everynight before they go to sleep and everymorning when they wake up. I am jealous that it is him that she love. What should I do guys??"}
{"id": "t3_2eeisa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Have no idea how to handle this situation but do not think i should ignore it.", "post": "Ok so i am 18, male walking back with my up to now just friend(18 y/o girl) which i used to have a crush on but decided not to act on it.I will also be leaving the country in the next few days inorder to study(helpful context).So anyway she had a problem with her sandal so she was hobling and i was holding her hand and i believe she was a bit tipsy so anyway when we whee close to her house she offered to sit at some stairs and she snuggled up to me and what not .. we end up making out etc.During this time she also mentioned something about not being sure if we should have done this/how will our relationship be but continued happily nonetheless.After that night its literally like it never happend(we kept it to ourselves) but we have not talked about it at all and its kinda like it never happened and it bugs me big time.How do i go about talking about this / should i ?", "summary": "Should i try talk about  this to her or just leave it alone?"}
{"id": "t3_3ut8sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my ex [27 F] of 8 years broke up with me, I'm not sure how to go about making friends", "post": "Hello all I am a 33 year old male who was dumped by his gf of 8 years, she left, we tried being friends for a week until she absolutely lost her shit on me and no longer wanted to be friends or talk to each other, she deleted our connection on facebook as well as friendship. She was my best friend and in a lot of ways my only closest friend I've had for a long time.  We moved from the small town we grew up in to a larger city, so my old friends are a bit of a trip away and most of them are happy couples living a happy home life.  \n\nI'm in a city in which I know no one at this point and am just really missing that connection of just wanting to hang out and have fun with friends.  That lack of social interaction has made me feel very lonely and I want to work on meeting people.  I'm not sure how I should go about meeting new people as the bar scene is not for me anymore. I have tried tinder to try to meet new people as well but so far it's been a slow crawl getting these 'matches' to engage with me to see if we have some things in common. \n I am a bit shy and an introvert so I get nervous even putting myself out there just to meet friends and also never really had to do it before since I was young. I am not sure how to make new friends as an adult.\n\nWhat tips/advice would you have for someone trying to make friends in a city they recently moved to?", "summary": "My now ex was my best friend and in a lot of ways my only friend when we moved to a different city.  Looking to make new friends and socialize with like minded people but have absolutely no idea how to do it.  Please help me to become a more social person."}
{"id": "t3_12ktgd", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My Dad has been an alcoholic all my life, which has led to me discriminating against drinking. This is starting to affect my outlook on people, help?", "post": "I could write a novel on how my Dad's alcoholism has affected me as a person, but i want to focus on one aspect now. Over the years my Dad has been a drinker and as a result has gotten progressively worse, resulting in us at one point losing all our money and consequently our house. Compared to most he's actually quite a tame drunk, besides coming home a complete cunt most nights, but it's affected the whole family steadily over the years and it's got to the point where both me and my sister have definitely been scarred by the whole thing. My mother's tried to keep the family together and hasn't divorced, which has only served to make the situation worse and we're barely much of a family anymore at all.\n\nAnyway, this is all done now and there's nothing that can be done to take it all back. Being 17 and at sixth-form, everyone i know parties with alcohol which is a pretty difficult thing to deal with as a person who's built up a pretty strong hatred of the stuff based on what it's done, so i now have the problem of instantly discriminating against people based on the fact they drink. I never go to parties or get involved in alcohol which while is probably more good than bad, it's pretty much the only thing anyone i know does to socialize, which means i'm rarely involved in anything because of my aversion to indulging in all that. Last year i steadily grew apart from one of my best friends because she started to meet new people through parties that she couldn't get with me, which upset me a lot, and i also lost an opportunity to get into a new friendship group because i wasn't partaking in any of the games they played.\nNow don't get me wrong, i'm not complaining about not getting invited to anything as to be honest, i don't really enjoy gatherings that much anyway. \n\n**But how can i get myself over distancing myself from people because of my aversion to alcohol?** I don't want to make anyone i meet in future feel put off, they give me enough weird looks already, but this is a problem i'm worried will cause issues for me in the future.", "summary": "I want to live as a teetotaler because of what I've seen alcohol do, but don't know how to do this without distancing myself socially."}
{"id": "t3_2zsk3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19F] My Boyfriend [19M] of 4 Years is trying to Break up for No Reason", "post": "My boyfriend, who I've been together with since we were only fifteen; is trying to break up with me. We got in an argument and he just said it's over, and I was like \"what?\" and he wasn't letting me talk it out with him or anything. He pretty much thinks he's allowed to just get up and leave me out of nowhere for no reason. It wasn't even a major argument it was over the dumbest thing and I can't believe he wants to throw away a 4+ year relationship over it.\n\nHow can I convince him to stay? I told him he wasn't breaking up with me and that we can talk about things tomorrow and he tried saying no to that even. I don't understand what I did wrong and I really want to stay together. He means the world to me and I need for him to atleast talk to me about it before he just breaks up with me. What would you do? Thanks", "summary": "My boyfriend of 4 years tried breaking up with me over a tiny argument, I want to stay together"}
{"id": "t3_44fuwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [23 F] 1 year, I took her virginity and really fucked up!!", "post": "Hi, I really fucked up!! I need some help in fixing my relationship. \n\nFirst of I am sorry for grammar and spelling. \n\nMy Girlfriend and I have been together for quite a while she is a virgin, well was she probably wishes she still was now. \n\nOne night we were sleeping and I started fooling around with her and we ended up having sex! It was amazing on my part after it having had been so long it was just so amazing! It was the after part that I fucked up. I didnt say I love you, what I did say was \"well that happend\". Why? Don't ask me, I have no idea why I said that. I fucked up I get it! \n\nWe talked about it, she said that she still loves me and that she does not regret it at all, but I hurt her feelings. She told me that I hurt her feelings and need to repair our relationship. That is where I am stuck. I don't know how to fix it besides time and doing my best to be there for her and to be the best boyfriend I can be. \n\nI am not expecting to have this fixed in one night, I am in it for the long haul. I Love Her so fricken much and I just feel like a fuck face for hurting her feelings.", "summary": "Please if you have any advice besides get a time machine it would really help!"}
{"id": "t3_2ygf86", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my ex [26 F] 2 years, visiting country where she lives.", "post": "So we broke up just under a year ago when I had to leave the country for work. We knew, being adults, that things would happen but would chose not to tell it each other. \n\nShe starting seeing someone else and is still going out with him now. Massively heartbreaking, i got depressed, it affected performance at work, got fired, found a new job doing what I wanted (bonus) and am on a work trip back to my home country. Have signalled to her that Ill be back for a while but have had limited response. \n\nAlso, pretty sure she's the one. How do i NOT f*&k this up?", "summary": "Broke up when I had to leave the country for work, back on a work trip now. How do I NOT f*&k this up?"}
{"id": "t3_107zuk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit? Do you have anything you need to get off your chest?", "post": "Reddit, I've been inspired by 4chan (oh yes, that's kind of nuts, but yes) to do this, but do you have anything that you need to talk about? Need to discuss, or ask input about? Is anything eating you up, bringing you down? Please, make a throwaway (or don't) and come join the circle.\n\nI'll start:\n\nI can't date anyone. I fall in love, have great fun with my friends, and a few of us mutually like each other, but I can't date. I hate it. I have no strength to do that.\n\nIt all started about a year ago, wait, no, EXACTLY a year ago when I hooked up with this beautiful chick in my math class, she was tall, cute, smoked pot (I had just started) and I could bring her out of her depression. We essentially kissed and necked every moment we were around each other for about four days. Then she just decided I was a piece of shit and we have said no words to each other after that. It fucked me up, rejection TERRIFIES me now, and I've got about four friends. I would love nothing more than to just be with a girl, just to have that little bit of an anchor, a light at the end of the tunnel, but nope. Either we realize we're not compatible, or she doesn't like me. \n\nThe final nail in the coffin was when my best friend of all time left my school to go to another one. We never had any attraction toward each other (she's lesbian, I happen to be a heterosexual male), but she was like a sister to me. She was the only one I could tell everything too, and she was the best person anyone could ever rely on. If you ever felt like shit, she knew, and still does know, what to say to make you feel better. She decided to leave over the summer, but now regrets it. Everyone I know misses her so much, and she was so beloved in our community, it was like someone had died for a bit. She was (and still is) fucking excellent.", "summary": "Having issues with girls after a hookup went sour, and my best friend skipped town."}
{"id": "t3_4qj8qz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating m&m's.", "post": "Years back i was chilling back on the couch, watching some Simpsons or Family Guy. And i decide \"Actually, im thirsty\" so i get off the couch, now keep in mind i was very short back then, and waddled to the fridge, and while walking to the fridge, i saw a bowl of m&m's, the little chocolate pod things. So by my little short instinct, I grabbed the tip of the bowl and tried to reach into the bowl of goodness. Unfortunately i was too excited, and the bowl fell onto the floor, scattering glass eveywhere, including my feet, right before my big toe was a big gash, so i go to the hospital, get the glass out, get 3 stitches and a scar to show Reddit.", "summary": "grab bowl of m&m's, bowl shatters, scar on my foot."}
{"id": "t3_2kna01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Co-Worker's [M30's] baby died. Office needs ideas how to help.", "post": "Link to [Original](\n\nHey everyone. Just wanted to give an update. Firstly thank you to everyone who took time out of their day to help me out in the original thread. I really considered everyone's advice to come up with a list of things to present to my co-workers.\n\nWe ended up doing the Star Registry. I did some research on it and while some of you pointed out that the International Star Registry, while having an official sounding name, isn't actually regulated by any agency, I think the idea behind it is really nice and my co-workers agreed that it was a great idea.\n\nWe also got some toys and stuffed animals for the two boys. It's obvious that they don't really understand what's going on; They're only 2 and 4. We figured that some toys might be helpful to give them something to play with and let the parent's have time to grieve.\n\nEverything went over really well. The gift was well-received and I actually found out that our area has an observatory close by with decently powerful telescopes. They'll be able to go there and give the coordinates and be able to view the star fairly easily. I think that's so cool and I hope it helps to serve as a memory for the baby.\n\nThanks everyone. You really came through for me and you helped out a family in need.", "summary": "The Star Registry was a good idea and the family thought it was a really nice gesture."}
{"id": "t3_td5ze", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your biggest \"Oh shit, I'm SO gonna get fired\" moment?", "post": "I started about 3 months ago as a purchasing agent for a recycling company. Basically, I would deal with old suppliers and find new ones. Anyways, my very first purchase for the company involved plastic scrap from a defunct DVD & CD manufacturer. Since the company went under, they decided to get rid of them as scrap to get the whole thing over. So I went ahead and ordered the scrap.\n\nWhen the drivers finally brought the container from the warehouse, they opened it and immediately the entire warehouse was laughing and taking out their cellphones to take pictures. When I went to check to see what was up. It turns out that out of the 40,000 lbs of scrap I order, 10,000 of them were porn.\n\nMy uber conservative boss never found since I immediately had the guys smash & melt the evidence.", "summary": "I brought 10,000 of porn."}
{"id": "t3_4i9js2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25F] have an office crush on [32M] - not sure if I should always make the first moves!", "post": "I made an account hoping I can get some advice. I started working in my current position a little less than a year ago. One day when I got off work, I noticed a cute guy getting off at the same time and he was being a gentleman letting me on/off the elevator first. Turns out he is in another department and his desk isn't too far from mine. For the next 5 months, we never spoke but I always noticed him and purposely went to microwave my lunch/ get water when I saw him do the same. Then our company had a huge Christmas party (over 3000 ppl) and I ran into him when I was getting my coat and he actually said hi! That was it. He also brought a girl but to me, didn't look like they were dating. \n\nThe next day we go back to work, we started to talk a bit over the next 5 months. Never long convos. I would notice he microwaves his lunch after me and he always goes \"oh no you beat me to the microwave!\" He made a few jokes about me being short and also sometimes when he walks behind me at my desk, he tapped on my shoulder and walked away. He has visited my desk 3-4 times but I've always been too shy to go to his desk.\n\nSuddenly a few days ago he had to move to another floor, he came by my desk to say bye. I really want to get to know him better and I'm devastated that I'm at a disadvantage now. I messaged him via our company internal system chat once and said he should lunch with me + my project manager (they're both Taiwanese and my PM is also my wingman lol.) He hasn't followed up, should I message him again / am I annoying to keep talking to him? What's the best way to advance? I don't even know if he's actually single!", "summary": "Have an office crush on a guy on my floor, now he moved to another floor. How do I advance our relationship, our only means of talking is company online messenger."}
{"id": "t3_11llr3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I applied to Google for job today. Do you think they would look in to my search history during their recruitment process?", "post": "So I applied for a position with Google.  I have not received any feedback from them yet (I just applied today) but it got me to think: they have my entire internet search history at their disposal.  And I've looked up some incredibly embarrassing (and probably borderline illegal) stuff (we all have).  Do you think they'd ever use that information in their recruitment process?  \n\nI can just picture the interviewer saying: \n\n\"Well, you're qualified but based on your search history, we're not sure if we can ever look you in the eye again...sorry.\"", "summary": "Does Google use a person's private information in their job recruitment process?"}
{"id": "t3_3fo7ir", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Changing jobs just after starting (xpost /r/advice)", "post": "I just graduated with my Canadian bachelor's a few months ago and started at a company (Company A) 2 weeks ago. While I was interviewing with Company A, I was also interviewing with Company B, but because they have a longer interview process, I only got a job offer after being at Company A for a week and the job start date is September 1st. I have now accepted the position at Company B.\n\nI took the job at Company A because I really, really needed the money and knew I wouldn't last until September. I am realizing that Company A is not one that I want to work for long-term and am now trying to decide on an exit strategy.\nI have realized that I don't like the working conditions or management and the job is menial at best. (I have caught up in 2 weeks to staff that have been there for 6-8 weeks, and they have education levels of 2-year diplomas AT BEST.)\nI suspect that I will get let go the moment I give notice and so I am tempted to give only 1 week of notice instead of 2.\n\nNote: I have yet to officially accept Company A's letter of proposal and it was only provided to me after I had already started there. In contrast, Company B already sent me an official offer and will be sending me the employment contract this week for advance reading.", "summary": "Should I inform my boss at my 2 week old job in 2 weeks(1 week notice) or next week(2 week notice) if I strongly suspect I will get let go immediately."}
{"id": "t3_w68gd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got into an accident, I personally took blame and signed a paper I wrote myself saying I was at fault. Insurance claim guy says it doesn't matter, is he right?", "post": "So today I was driving to a families house and I was going down a pretty wide street that can fit at least 2 cars easily and still leave room, the street is a two way but both sides are pretty big and there is no street lines other then the divider. I was behind a lady driving a jeep, as I was driving(the speed limit mind you) I decided to pass her to make my right hand turn onto the next street. Now as I was behind her she showed no indications of getting ready to also make a right hand turn into a shopping center entrance that was farther back from the intersection right hand turn.\n\nWhat made me think she was going to keep driving into the intersection and not turn was the fact she was right in the middle of this huge street and most people would start moving over to turn into a entrance, she however did not do this. So I got the impression she was going to keep going, but as i was starting to pass her she decided to stop at the last min and turn on her blinker to turn and ended up side swiping my back driver side door/wheel well area.\n\nI didn't want to deal with arguing with this lady about whos fault it was. I took the blame did a police report and got her info and took off since I had family matters to attend to and also signed a paper that said it was my fault that i wrote out myself and signed. I called the insurance claim department and i told them the whole situation, they said it didn't matter because the insurance is who decides whos fault it was regardless if i took the blame or signed a paper stating i was at fault. oh btw there was no damage to her car at all, hers was a jeep and mine a mazda3 she hit me with her tire and had no damage on any part of her car.\n\nMy question is, Will this just end up being my fault since I signed a paper saying so and I also admitted it?", "summary": "lady hit me/side swiped me due to me thinking she wasnt going to turn and I tried to pass her to get to my intersection right hand turn. I admitted fault/signed a paper stating my fault, insurance claim guy says it don't matter because insurance company decides whos fault it is. Is this right or am I at fault now for admitting it? Yes i know it's stupid to admit fault but it was an emergency for me to leave so I just wanted to get things over with and not argue about fault"}
{"id": "t3_4i6cag", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Help and advice needed for a supporting S.O.", "post": "Not sure if this it the right place to post, but I figured you all may have some advice for me.  \n\nMy girlfriend has been looking for a new job since the beginning of the year.  She's stuck at her dead end job, working with clients she hates and nowhere to move up since the company is only 4 people.  She's been applying non-stop and getting plenty of interviews! She must have had at least 25 interviews since the beginning of the year.  Some of these interviews end up calling her back for second or even third interviews, which are very promising, but hurt the most when she gets the rejection... I'm always very supportive, asking her who she's interviewing with, what the focus of the company is, and trying to keep all of that straight to cheer her on when she goes to the company to interview or skype if its long distance.  It's gotten to the point where she's incredible discouraged in herself thinking that she's unlikable or not knowledgeable or that her portfolio of work is bad.. Things where I try to turn it around to put a positive spin on things.  She's a trooper for enduring this punishment for so long. Do any of you have any experience or advice to offer me as a supporting partner? \nThanks for reading.", "summary": "S.O. hates her job, has tons of interviews, gets rejected constantly, is now starting to doubt her abilities and likability. What more can I offer as a supporting S.O.?"}
{"id": "t3_1xnaol", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm at the dentist and I wish I was dead", "post": "I hate coming here so much that I put it off for years at a time. The last time I was here was two years ago, and before that it was five years. The smell in this office is so disgusting. I'm 25, but for whatever reason, the older I get, the more I despise coming here.", "summary": "take care of your mouth and don't put off seeing a dentist"}
{"id": "t3_xj9si", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone else read the Fruit Loops Story?", "post": "I read this story on Reddit last September I believe, about a guy who gave oral to a girl he met. Nothing was too out of the ordinary about the situation until he put Fruit Loops inside of her to make things more interesting. Now from there, things get gross, when he was fishing the cereal out of her, some sort of membrane came out of her which freaked the guy out. I haven't been able to find this story since then, but I want to know if Reddit can help. I've used the Reddit search engine as well as Google, but no dice.", "summary": "guy gave oral to a girl using Fruit Loops, something other than Fruit Loops came out. Need help finding the post."}
{"id": "t3_3xzorw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at my girlfriend", "post": "This actually happened today this morning.\n\nToday my girlfriend started a new job and had to be there at 8:00 am. She doesn't have a car so I had to wake up early to take her there. I guess I was snoring really loud last night and she couldn't get to sleep so she woke up really grumpy. While she was getting ready she kept complaining about how she couldn't get any sleep because of my snoring. She proceeds to put on a pair of pants that her sister gave her that were a size too small. She is in no means fat at all, she's a tiny woman, it's just her sister is smaller. As she's shimmying into these pants, and bitching, a loud *RIIIIP* occurs and she gasps. I lost it. Memories of watching the ripped your pants episode of spongebob start racing through my brain and I can't stop laughing. She gets even more pissed because she thinks I'm laughing at her for being \"fat.\" As I'm taking her to work I don't hear the end of it and I still can't stop laughing. When we get there she's even more upset that I never said sorry and I kept laughing. She hasn't texted me since and I have to pick her up at 2. I hope she can laugh about it later!", "summary": "My gf was the fool who went and ripped her pants."}
{"id": "t3_3ef6c5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am going to a college halfway across the US from my [18F] girlfriend. I know the conventional advice, what are my alternatives?", "post": "I want to preface this by saying that I have read enough \"We are going to different colleges should I break up\" posts to know what the majority of Reddit's wisdom is on the subject. Just break up, you will both be better off. \n\nAnyway. Me and my girlfriend met senior year of high school and hit it off well. We became really good friends, and officially started \"going out\" and all around 4 months ago. We are going to different colleges that are halfway across the US from each other. We both will be flying back home for most breaks, like fall break, Christmas, spring break and all so it's not like we are stuck at the colleges for the entire school year. I have struggled a lot with what to do, and have completly avoided the subject of \"us\" post summer. She has too incidentally. Again I know what the \"worldly\" advice is, and that is breakup now and avoid a Christmas break fiasco type deal. I guess I am just grasping onto what I can to do stay together, and I wanted Reddit's advice on this problem overall. What would it be like in a LDR? If we broke up Christmas break this year or the next would it really be bad? I guess in the end it really depends on the couple, and we will have to have the conversation eventually. This is all assuming she would be willing to do a LDR with me (I'm thinking she will). I just wanted some more ideas in my head going into that talk other than my own and my mom's haha.", "summary": "Gf and I going to far away colleges. Break up or struggle with LDR. I already know what most will say, so any other Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_12g945", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is an acceptable way to deal with my sister's penchant for loud sex?", "post": "I share a house with my older sister (she's 24, I'm 21 and also female). One night a good few months ago, I was just minding my own business, left my room to make a cup of tea, and suddenly was engulfed with porno noises coming from her room (clap your hands to the alphabet and mix that with loud moaning). I confronted her a couple of days later and she was mortified, and said it wouldn't happen again. \n\nThen it happened again. This time I made it absolutely clear that I was uncomfortable with it, and if it happened again either she or I was leaving (unfortunately, not actually an option because neither of us can afford to move out). \n\nWell, months later and she now has a new boyfriend. Yesterday I was forced to spend my afternoon listening to really loud music to drown out the noise of the two of them going at it. Not cool. \n\nOn one hand I worry that I'm being a prude and overreacting, but fuck it, I pay half the rent and I refuse to be subjected to hearing my sister getting shagged. I've lived with 5 different people before her, and I never had this problem with any of them.\n\nBasically reddit, I would like to hear what you would do in this situation, or what do you think is an acceptable thing to do? I don't have a whole lot of options at the moment. Can't drive, am poor, and I'm not going to just drop whatever I've planned to do at home just because she decides to HAVE REALLY LOUD SEX. I want to just bang on the wall and tell her to shut the fuck up, but maybe that's going a bit too far?", "summary": "Sister has loud sex when I'm around, what's an okay way to react?"}
{"id": "t3_3b5yzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Suspect wife (40F) of cheating tonight...help me (42M) stay sane.", "post": "UPDATED: \n\nMy wife has been traveling more for work the last 2 years, and frankly, our relationship has been up and down.  She's working on the east coast this week, and we live on the west coast.\n\nWe share an Apple family account, and as a result, she shares her location.  She is supposed to come home tomorrow, but had to do dinner with her work colleague this evening.  I was texting her at midnight ET/9 PT about kids/pets issues, and I checked her location.  She frequently complains about being tired, so I am little surprised to see she is not in her hotel.  I figure the dinner ran late.  About an hour later (1:30 am ET/10:30 PT), I again check her location and she's in a residential neighborhood.  I check on Google maps, and there's not a hotel around...just houses.\n\nI called her several times (figuring maybe the Do Not Disturb function was enabled) trying to reach her, and she does not pick up.\n\nSo, here I am, seeing her location at some house in the city that she often travels to.  She was texting me not long ago.  I am not sure what to do now...\n\nDo I wake up early and see where the phone is?  Just ask when she gets home why her phone was in a strange place?  \n\nI don't want to jump to conclusions, but I am obviously uneasy about all this.\n\nWhat's my plan of action?", "summary": "Wife traveling for work across country.  Checked her location via Apple. She's in a residential neighborhood no where near a hotel.  It's 2 am where she is.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_50unng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First time post: Gf (22) and I (23) have been talking about our boundaries.", "post": "Okay so I'm going to say this as best as possible without sounding like a prude or being selfish or controlling. So my girlfriend and I have been together for the better part of 6 years now and we recently started talking about how she never went out and did \"fun\" (partying, drinking, etc.) things when she was younger (when we initially started dating). Recently she has been going out with her girlfriends to bars and to shows (edm) more often (which I definitely encourage because I want her to get out and be young) and she feels like I'm holding her back from having \"fun\" (to an extent) by being upset if she dances with someone or kisses someone (which she hasn't) Now I would just like to say that I am very monogamous and couldn't fathom the idea of being with another woman. She says she wouldn't kiss anyone but she doesn't like knowing the fact that if she did kiss someone or be intimate with someone else that she would have to worry about me being upset. I have talked with her about what my boundaries are and what is okay and what isn't in my opinion. I told her that I would in fact be upset if she ever did act on those urges as she would be cheating on me (dancing is a different story, I told her I don't mind if she jumps around and acts goofy, but once there is a level of physicality or intimacy that I wouldn't necessarily consider it cheating but I would feel very disrespected) any opinions of help on the matter would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "gf of 6 years has been going out and feels she shouldn't have to worry about me getting upset if she does things with another guy, but also doesn't want to hurt me."}
{"id": "t3_10lhmh", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My good deed for the day", "post": "While doing one of our easier XC workouts today (300's at our 5k paces) i noticed some pain in the back of my knee similar to that of a pulled muscle, so I set off to visit the athletics trainer. It turned out that she had already left the school, so I dealt with it and returned to sit out the rest of practice. Getting to the point, while the slower group was going by on the track, I noticed that the last kid was falling behind a bit. As he was passing I decided to cheer him on a bit, and when I did he seemed to take note and kick things up a notch. Seeing his will to persevere and the fact that my words had motivated him, it made me feel accomplished despite my injury.", "summary": "I cheered on a slow kid at practice today and it gave him the motivation to push through the last bit of his 300m."}
{"id": "t3_3agr50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my GF [25 F] of one year, I feel like she doesn't take much interest in what I do.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year. \n\nA few months ago I started to notice that when we talked, the conversation would usually revolve around her. When I try to talk about myself and my own experiences, the conversation inevitably comes back to her. For example I joined a chess club which plays on Wednesday nights, but when I bring it up she doesn't ask me about it but instead talks about what she did on that night. \n\nThis is a fairly superficial example and I'm okay with not going into detail about my routine, but when it's something that I'm getting upset about I feel like she doesn't give me a chance to talk about it and I then start to feel alone.\n\nI've been hoping I could try to (subtly) force more information about me into a conversation and she'd pick up on it and ask more questions, but she hasn't. \n\nThis is a deal breaker for me in a relationship. I want to talk to her about it but I don't know how to say that she needs to listen more or I'm out.\n\nAny advice? Thoughts?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't ask me about my life, makes me want to end the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2pe5b7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/M] needs advice on how to break up with [22/F] in an LDR", "post": "Hi r/relationships (maybe this would be better for r/LDR?)\n\nI'm 25, and moved across the world 3 months ago for a very intensive 1-year program. I'm currently in the middle of exams, and my workload is only going to increase next term. I'm starting a job in another country after I graduate, so I won't be going back home either.\n\nI was dating this awesome 22/F girl for 3 months before I left, and we decided we would give the LDR a try, as neither of us had done it before. In hindsight, that was maybe a bad idea, as we liked spending time together, but had not quite got to the stage that we were comfortable as friends.\n\nI'm slowly going insane with work, and she's doing her best to relate, but we're slowly having less and less to talk about. I want to break it off now, before it gets too rough, but she's very invested in it. Can anyone offer advice on how to let her down gently? Is it even possible to do such a thing over Skype? I would like to remain friends with her if possible, but I know that's not really up to me.", "summary": "LDR, losing my mind with work, want to break up, how to do it gently over Skype?"}
{"id": "t3_53cmdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some perspective and someone to verbally slap me straight. I [30 F] am in love with a cheater [31 M]", "post": "I was 21. We dated. We were young. I think the biggest problem is we never really knew what we wanted to do with our lives and never realized our dreams before things got serious. Whatever the reason (or excuses), he cheated. A lot. With a lot of different people. We broke up. I forgave him. We are still no contact. What bothers me most is not the cheating, but that it was so deliberate at the time...and he didn't tell me himself. It was heartbreaking to go through that at such a young age. I was messed up about it for a long time. \n\nFast forward. Nearly a decade. I've dated since there. Been through a couple long-term relationships that eventually faded. I still think of him. Every day. And then I beat myself up about it. Because why? He treated me like shit, move on. But I literally have never found anyone that holds a candle to him. We were great together. Until the end, all of my memories are golden. The laughs, the amazing sex, the everything. \n\nI don't know if it would be shooting myself in the foot to reach out to him now. We have a complicated past, to be sure. Is it worth reaching out to him to catch up? I'm not planning on diving full force into a relationship, but I'm definitely curious about where he is now and if he still thinks of me. Hell, maybe he's even married by now and that would put a stopper in it all together. \n\nHas anyone else ever held on to someone for this long? Is something wrong with me? Advice, thoughts, perspective? \n\nOnce a cheater always a cheater?", "summary": "I think I'm still in love with a love who cheated on me when we were young. Ignore or pursue?"}
{"id": "t3_2f02kh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I take my emotions out on my BF constantly, and he is way too nice to me. Help please??", "post": "Me and my boyfriend (we're both 18) have been dating for around 10 months and I love him to bits. I have a tendency to get kinda emotional sometimes, and it's usually pretty irrational. Most of the time it's fine but the past week or so I've been really mood swingy and I've been feeling pretty depressed, especially as I'm nearly finished school and studying for exams at a really pressurised school is making me pretty stressed (at least that's why I think I might be feeling down, all though I'm not completely sure as it happens so spontaneously). \n\nWhen I used to get sad (I went through a rough patch of a few years) I used to take the anger that came with it out on myself (through s/h), because I would feel horrible and guilty if I took it out on anyone else. Now, though, I spend so much time with my BF (practically all my time) and so whenever I feel shitty he's there. I'll sometimes say hurtful things and get frustrated that he's not \"'helping me at all\" even when he's trying his hardest. When it's happening I realise I am being mean and yet I feel like I can't stop because I'm so emotional. And because he is so lovely and nice to me, he doesn't ever retaliate. I think the lack of consequences for my actions may be the reason I find it acceptable to continue possibly? I always apologise after I do him wrong though because I feel so bad and guilty, but it still doesn't get rid of hurtful things I've said. \n\nI feel like, at the beginning of our relationship, I would never have said a word against him but now as we're in more of a long-term relationship we've kinda settled and I've been on less good behaviour. We both still love each other heaps and I realise that although he can put up with this now, it's not fair of him to put up with it forever. \n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated, ty and please don't give me too much slack, I am aware of how shitty I'm being.", "summary": "When I feel stressed or sad I take my anger out on my boyfriend instead of myself because he's always there. I really love him and I don't wanna ruin this relationship because I'm such a dumb ass. Please help, thank you."}
{"id": "t3_4zadav", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "First time dater [22M] dating [20F] needs advice", "post": "I've never dated anyone before so naturally I have a lot of insecurities so call me out if I'm saying nonsense.\n\nI've been dating a girl for the past 2 months which in my mind has surprisingly gone well, but I have yet to breach the question of what we actually are and what she thinks of me. I feel like I need to ask soon before I let myself actually fall to hard for this girl.\n\nSome of my concerns are that she broke up with her EX in January and I'm kind of nervous to see if she's still attached and don't know how to comfortably breach the question. \n\nAdditionally I've had to make all of the plans and always initiate texting, which sometimes takes her hours to respond to, and coming from an awkward guy this always gets me second guessing. Although this is true she does consistently agree to go out, but as insecure as I am I feel like she feels bad for me or something.", "summary": "I don't know what I'm doing and feel insecure all the time, how do I non awkwardly as possible ask this girl what she thinks of us?"}
{"id": "t3_3fsyw3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25/f) have been made aware of some disappointing things about my bf (27/m) of over a year", "post": "Hi, r/relationships. \n\nHere's the scenario, of which I'm not totally innocent in, either:\n\nSome time last week I was at my boyfriend's house. While he was in the shower, I was working on something and needed a piece of scrap paper. I went over to his desk, where I know he keeps it, and flipped through his scrap notebook until I found an empty page. I was NOT looking for anything, but I should have stopped when I found something. It was a note to his friend, written recently, describing some previous flings with other girls. I KNOW I should not have read it, as it was personal, and while I am ashamed, the damage is done, and now I can't keep my head straight. \n\nThe tone of the letter was something like lamenting, like \"if only things had worked out differently\" type of thing. It also goes on to describe how one of their friends had rested her leg against his, and he didn't move it because he said it felt good. \n\nIt then describes a time when he saw his previous, very serious \"I'd do anything to have you\" type of crush (that he had around the time we started dating) out at a bar. While they didn't talked, they smiled at each other, and then it has that same lamenting tone. It said something along the lines of \"I don't know how long me and [ME] will last, but what if I never get to feel someone new again? \n\nWe are extremely open when talking with one another, or so I thought. I thought everything was great, but I don't know how to bring this up to him. Should I even bring it up? Communication is key, I know, but perhaps some things are better left swept under the rug, after all, I betrayed his trust as well. I'm just out of sorts and would love some advice. Thank you!", "summary": "I shamefully looked at my boyfriend's letter and found information about his feelings I would have rather not seen."}
{"id": "t3_25ywdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Love of my life might leave after three years, need advice", "post": "My girlfriend (20/F) and I (19/M) have been in a relationship for almost three years (two of them long distance). She goes to college in Maryland and I'm in New York. \nAlthough we are really fortunate in that we can see each other as often as once every three weeks. We've gotten into fights and have hurt each other a lot. But every time we are about to break up, one of us continues fighting and we make up (until the next fight happens). Recently we haven't been fighting and have really worked on our communication. We skype every single day and text each other throughout the day, but it seems we still don't get the emotional intimacy as if we were in person. She says shes miserable though because her constant missing me is driving her insane. She knows shes needy and I care so much about this relationship that I'm willing to do anything she needs. We both just don't know what to make it good so the only thing she can think of is breaking up. \n \n1) Any advice about what we can do to be more emotionally connected\n2) Do you guys have any advice to help her cope with neediness or missing", "summary": "Girlfriend says she misses me to much to stay in long distance. Need advice on how to be more emotionally connected"}
{"id": "t3_3psghd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18/M] in first semester of college, trying to figure out if crush [18/F] was ever in to me", "post": "Gonna try and keep this brief, comment if you want more details.\n\nBasically there's a girl that I met not long ago on the beach; we talked for a while, seemed to connect, and then exchanged numbers. Fast foward a week later and she accepts when I offer to take her dancing at a dance club at my college. After the dancing is over she says she had fun and asks me to walk her to her dorm since it's now dark out and I oblige. \n\nThe topic of a feminist club pops into the conversation and she mentions that \"as a straight guy I'd probably be really popular there\". When we get to her dorm she gives me a hug and we part ways. Fast forward a while later and I ask her if she'd like to get lunch sometime but she never responds. \n\nDoes this mean she's definitely not interested? I thought I sensed some reciprocal interest at first, but maybe it was just my imagination.", "summary": "Does her implication that I could be popular with other girls as well as her apparent ignoral of my last message to her mean that she isn't interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_jcdp9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is getting an MBA from my alma mater a good or bad thing? I can't get a straight answer from anyone.", "post": "So, I recently graduated business school from a school in Georgia, Kennesaw State University, and I am planning on taking the GMAT very soon and hopefully applying for grad school either next spring or summer. I am 24, earned my undergrad while working fulltime all throughout college, but the experience is in call center customer service, which isn't in my field of study (marketing, though I did complete a cooperative study with my company, and did sales for a while). Kennesaw's grad school is ok from what I have read, if I apply for a local job, and don't expect to be CEO of an MNC. Plus the price is right for me. But there are other schools in the area that offer comparable or better programs. I know a lot of the faculty at KSU well, and the location is great for me, however I keep hearing from some people that companies don't hire candidates who get an MBA from the same school as their BBS. What are y'all's thoughts on this topic? And can you justify your stance?\n\nBonus question: Is anyone from GA with an MBA with recommendations for either KSU or other local schools' MBA programs? I've been looking and Ga State and Southern but can't decide.", "summary": "I need to know whether or not having an MBA from my alma mater will hurt me, and why or why not. Also, does anyone have recommendations for grad schools in GA?"}
{"id": "t3_1uqioa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] am your stereotypical nice guy and I made some bad calls, now two ladies [21F][22F] are falling for me.", "post": "This might seem like a dream come truebut it's a nightmare for me. I'm your average guy who is approachable and is moderately liked by most people because, well, I'm nice - I would like to think.\n\nI've been single for an entire year now and four months after being single I started to pursue women I like, but nothing worked and I ended up being friends eith most of them. I thought to myself that I might be pursuing women the right way (in my book that means one woman at a time) so I decided to try going after two at the same time.\n\nCue November of 2013 and everything is doing well with the two ladies. I was so sure that I'll just have two more friends soon, but by December both have expressed interest to further the relationships we have. \n\nThe problem? I like them both equally. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't want to hurt anyone, my fault entirely.\n\nHow do I deal with this?  Help.", "summary": "pursued two women at once, didn't expect them to like me more than they should have. Now torn between two lovers."}
{"id": "t3_4bv6ci", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bad accountant advice ruined my credit score (tax lien) any advice?", "post": "A few years ago a previous employer never sent me a tax form.  I was doing my own taxes at the time.  After getting a letter from both the state (CA) and federal IRS saying that I owed money (and no idea how to get the right amounts) I hired an accountant to dig into things and help clear everything up.  She redid the previous year's taxes at the same time she did the currently due taxes.  She advised me to pay the original amount I owed and that she would write a letter contesting the penalties and interest from non-payment.  It was about a year later and both CA & Fed just deducted money from my current refunds.  I thought nothing of it since they both still sent me some money back.  My accountant never wrote the letter, giving her the benefit of the doubt, because both deducted money and still gave me some.  I didn't know she never wrote the letter at the time.  \n\nEvidently they didn't take the whole amount because a few months later CA put a lien on my bank account and withdrew (almost but not all) the rest of the money.  I since looked into things myself and made sure but CA and Fed have all their money.  I would have just paid the penalties and interest at the time if that was the advice of my accountant since I had the money to cover it.\n\nTaxes are fine now but the lien (even though it is paid) is killing my credit score.  I used to have over 700 and now am in the low 600s.  I was told by someone that a lien on my credit report is equivalent to a bankruptcy in terms of damage and it will take 7 years for it to come off my report.  Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Paid off tax lien on my credit report because of bad advice any way to remove it?"}
{"id": "t3_l23xw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE get really annoyed by un-solicited political text messages?", "post": "Specific example: I have donated to Equality California in the past because, despite identifying as a heterosexual male, I support equal rights for those with other sexual orientations. \n\nToday, while at work, my phone gets blown up with multi-page texts from the idiots at www.stopSB84.com to try and get me to join their cause of stopping the protection and assurance that those of differing sexual orientations will be recognized for their contributions in CA schools. (Idiots because they have now made me willing to donate to their opponents with more than just money.)\n\nGeneral Complaint: Whatever your view, do not send political texts to people, especially with poorly worded, hateful, or sensationalist contents - and certainly not all three.", "summary": "I do not like people that have sex with underage goats, like those at www.stopSB48.com."}
{"id": "t3_vco25", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is your self-esteem the way that it is?", "post": "I personally believe self-esteem sometimes has nothing to do with the way we look. I grew up without a mother (she died at age 6) and a father who never felt I was good enough (despite a whole list of accomplishments). Since I never felt good enough for my parents I felt that I can never be good enough for anyone. Also, while I am an attractive female with media and everything else, I can never quite compete. I guess I've never felt good enough.\n\nSo Reddit, my question is why is your self-esteem the way that it is? Also, if it's high, how do you think people with low self-esteem can raise it?", "summary": "I have low self-esteem because I wasn't able to satisfy my parents. What's your self-esteem and why do you think it's that way?"}
{"id": "t3_3oykpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(28M) gay roommate(24M) won't stop sharing my info to the guys he talks with on grindr.", "post": "To  give you a bit of some background of this situation. I'm gay and I also use grindr and sometimes I do hook up. I've known my gay roommate, Kev, for a while. He became our roommate after he left the military about 5 months ago. He also has a low opinion of me since moving in because I'm a pothead, currently quitting, and I don't take life to seriously. \n\nThe issue is that a couple of months ago, we had a conversation about our escapades. He then told me that he was talking to people about me. Now the people who he talked to about me are those who smoke pot. I was mad when he told me this and I asked him to stop. Kev just laughed it up but I told him I was serious and that he shouldn't be sharing my information to random guys and I thought he stopped. \n\nI honestly thought he stopped starring my info till yesterday. We were talking and he told me that he meet a guy and got high with him.But before they meet, Kev talked to him about me and shared my pics and info to see if we knew each other. I asked why he did that and he said \" since your a pothead and he's also. I just wanted to see if you too hooked up \". We did hook up and I told Kev that were now Eskimos brothers and he got upset. I told Kev to stop sharing my info and pics to his potential hook ups. I don't know how else to address this, since apparently he doesn't think it's a problem for him to do it. So r/relationship how do I go with dealing with this?", "summary": "my gay roommate keeps sharing my info to random guys and I told him to stop. But he still keeps doing it, and I don't know how else to adress this."}
{"id": "t3_2i88nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend's sister [21F] keeps eating/finishing the food I buy", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and have a good relationship with his family. I visit him often at his place, so I usually pay for my own snacks and bring them to his place so I don't have to impose on his family. This means bringing stuff like cookies, cereal, chips, and occasionally some refrigerated items.\n\nRecently, in the past 2 months, I've noticed that my food is going missing or the box has ended up in the recycling bin. I store all my food in my boyfriend's room, so I asked him if he was eating it and he said no. He found out that his sister was coming into his room, taking the food out and eating it in her own time. Normally, I would have no problem with this, but just within the last week, she's finished 2 boxes of cookies and 1 box of cereal that I purchased for myself. ):\n\nI pay for everything with the money that I earned from my summer job and I often go out of my way to buy my boyfriend dinner when I'm going to his place. Sometimes I stay over at night, and the food that I bring over is what I eat to prevent myself from going hungry as his family doesn't purchase groceries often. (Single dad goes out to eat and sister goes out to eat as well).\n\nAm I being unreasonable by getting upset about this? How do I bring this up .. I don't want to confront her about it because I have a really good relationship with her and she's in the same industry that I am currently studying to go into. I don't want to come off as rude, but it's just really bothering me. I have brought it up to my boyfriend and he tries to laugh it off and says he'll buy me more snacks, but I feel like in the end, I'm just using my own money to pay for them in the end. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Boyfriend's sister eats snacks that I leave in my boyfriend's room by taking them out and finishes them. Bothers me because she's finished 3 boxes of my food within the past week. No idea how to confront her."}
{"id": "t3_3dw8nx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my fiance [26 M] of 5 years. How to get him to open up?", "post": "Hey redditors, I'll try to keep it short and hope you guys can help :/\n\nI guess I'll start with background. I've been dating \"Tim\" for 5 years and he proposed last year which made me ecstatic :D. Mostly everything else in the relationship is fantastic and he makes me smile like no other can.\n\nWhen we began dating he wasn't used to having his opinion matter which caused some problems early on but after I let him know that I wish he would let me know if anything bothered him and that I wish he cared about choices that should take both of our feelings into consideration. He said he'd try. About 2 years into the relationship we had an actual conversation solely about feelings and what bothers us about each other and how we can fix/compromise some things. It was a sad day finding out that somethings I thought he loved ended up just annoying him but he felt bad so he pretended to like them. I thought he was finally ready to open up to me but that one conversation about feelings was all I got in these 5 years. He doesn't initiate and leaves choices to me and if I try to start up a conversation about some issues I think we're having he gets sad and I just stop talking because I can see the sadness in his face. I don't know how to get him to have this conversation that I feel is very necessary if we're getting married. I have tried giving him all the space he needs but it hurts when you never know if the other person misses you or if they want to enjoy your body. \n\nI guess the overall question is how to get him to talk about feelings. Not sure if more space is what he needs but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Fiance of 5 years doesn't voice his opinion on stuff regarding the both of us. Gets sad if I try to start convo about feelings. Overall question is how to get him to talk about feelings. Not sure if more space is what he needs but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3fu8jd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19M] stop being needy/paranoid in a relationship?", "post": "I'll try and keep this simple, I'm a terribly needy boyfriend and I can't stand it. I've been with my girlfriend for six months, and she is my first serious relationship. I've always been an over worried person but for the most part it was okay, and I could deal with it. \n\nBut this last month or so it's gotten a lot worse, my girlfriend recently started a new job which leaves us with not a lot of time together or to talk throughout the week and when do its usually not for that long. I'm finding myself becoming really needy when she isn't around or when we can't talk. I always seem to be thinking about her and checking my phone for messages constantly and I hate it.\n\nFor example is lately instead of going home at work night when we usually would talk on Skype for a few hours, she's going to a friend's house because her family situation can be rough sometimes, which I totally understand why she would go out with a friend but for some idiotic and selfish reason I find myself becoming insanely jealous of her friends and even mad that they get some much time with her and I don't. I know it's wrong of me.\n\nI feel like I always need to be perfect or do everything right to make her happy when I know that's not true at all.\n\nI trust her completely, I know she wouldn't hurt me or if she wasn't wanting to continue our relationship she would tell me, but I'm paranoid when she goes out with people since most of the time I can't go with, and worry about the whole other guys situation. I just feel like my being needy and I guess sometimes controlling side is finally starting to make itself known to her and me, I want to fix it.\n\nI really really care and love this girl, I just don't want to lose her over my own stupidity.", "summary": "How do I get over myself and grow up so I don't ruin a perfectly good relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_wxcw6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I just inadvertently sold my underwear to a mentally handicapped man at our garage sale. What accidental circumstances made you feel like an insensitive jerk?", "post": "So my family is moving to Georgia from Oregon next week. Big move. Anyway, I take all my unwanted clothes and put them out for sale on the lawn. A man with special needs lives across the street from us, and he comes and takes a look. He gets an armful of clothes, and goes and gets his money back home. \n\nI look through his pile and realize that he is buying a pair of my old boxer briefs. I immediately start to flip, but what do I do? I can't take something out of his pile that he wanted to buy. So he comes back, buys the clothes (including the underwear), and saunters back to his house across the way. I now feel like I took advantage of, and humiliated, a mentally challenged man by selling him underwear.", "summary": "Sold undies to a retarded man. On accident."}
{"id": "t3_1hhhhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/M] recently found old love letters from my high school ex [24/F] and feel compelled to reconnect", "post": "We had a relationship that, in retrospect, was very emotionally mature for high schools and something I've always looked back on in interest/happiness/some embarrassment (naturally). \n\nI'm not trying to respark that flame (honestly!) but I would be genuinely interested in reconnecting with her. Is saying \"hey, I found these old love letters, they reminded me of a lot\" a legitimate starter there?\n\nI'm just afraid it may come off as creepy, or me actually trying to start something again. We haven't talked in years (5+), all I know is it was an emotionally transformative and educational relationship for both of us.", "summary": "Is it creepy/weird to reach out to an amicable ex without romantic intention with old love letters?"}
{"id": "t3_33ekfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm in love with an asexual and need advice.", "post": "I (22 F) am in love with my best friend (21 M). We have known each other for four years. I have been open with my feelings for him. For a while he said that he had feelings for me other than friendship but now says he is most likely asexual but wants to \"take things one day at a time\".\n\n When I asked him if he would ever want a relationship with me he said \"maybe\". We talk on the phone and text everyday. We cuddle on the couch and hold hands. We have kissed a couple of times. When I asked him about it he said he saw those things as \"friendly\" not in a relationship way. \n\nTo me it seems like he does have feelings for me and might be afraid to start anything (we recently graduated college and have jobs in different states). Am I just fooling myself? Has anyone ever been in a relationship with an asexual? Is this normal for an asexual to do \"relationship\" things without believing them to be anything more than friendly? Any advice is much appreciated.", "summary": "I'm in love with my asexual best friend, he says he doesn't return my feelings, but wants to take things \"one day at a time\". I need advice. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with an asexual?"}
{"id": "t3_1zkknv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [25F] of 1 year. Expensive gifts.", "post": "About her: 25 years, female, have a child.\n\nAbout me: 25 years, male, good salary, I'm fine with child and we have more than friendly relationships with him.\n\nAbout us: 1 year together, not engaged or living together as of now, but things getting pretty serious out here and I know she feels the same way.\n\nFor the entire year everytime I suggest to help her with financial problems she refused it. She always tell me not buy anything expensive to her, and I didnt, because I'm really afraid that she might think that I'm trying to \"buy\" her or she will feel obligated to me in some way.\n\nI hear from her A LOT that she really want to go to a trip to Turkey with her kid (Doc's also told her that it'll be good for her son because of recent allergy). She were saving money for about half a year. We purchased the tickets (she payed her first 20% of the price), but some problems poped up and she had to spend rest of this money. She was really devastated and want to drop the idea.\n\nSo, I've decided, what the hell, It's 8th of March this weekends. I really want to go with her and her kid and I can pay for damn tickets. And this leads me to couple of questions.\n\n1. Trip cost 1k EUR for her and her kid. It's more than okay for me and she knows it. But will she accept this kind of gift from me?\n\n2. Since she still have all the documents I can't really buy like new tickets. This leaves me with only option and it's to gift cash money for her. But I'm having troubles imagining how can I wrap it up so it wouldn't look like a piece of envelope?\n\nThank you.", "summary": "GF refusing any kind of financial help. Dreaming about trip to Turkey that will also helps her kid. Want to buy tickets for her, afraid that she'll refuses."}
{"id": "t3_2l7ubi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] fucked up and I want to make it right.", "post": "I've been friends with a girl [21/F] on and off for a few years now. To be brief, it went like this: met, hung out, kissed, I became infatuated, she had a boyfriend, I backed off, asked her out later, turned down for reasons, I flip and block her, felt bad, didn't talk for about 8 months, now we're friends again.\n\nThis is where the story picks up. I had negative feelings about past issues, and I went on Reddit to vent. I vented about her and about wanting to get into shape, and she found it. She read every single negative thing I have ever said about her. I felt humiliated and my reaction wasn't very good either. I was mad and I said some stupid shit I shouldn't have. Looking back, I was a real asshole.\n\nI tried to apologize a couple days later and needless to say, she ripped me a new one. I can't really blame her though, I said some stupid stuff. And even after I said all of that, she offered to help me work out. I have no idea why the flying fuck she would want to help me after I treated her so badly. But this is where my problem comes in.\n\nHow do I fix it? I really want things to go back to the way they were. My feelings for her never really died out. I want to be able to communicate my feelings to her, but all I end up doing is widening the gap between us. I feel like there is no good way to try and talk to her and it all just sucks. Any advice?", "summary": "I acted like a real dick to a girl I like and I want to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_33n82e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking away", "post": "So my usual [manual transmission] car for the past six months has one of those handy [auto-hold electronic brakes]  If you press the brake when or until the car stops moving, it holds you there until you accelerate away again.\n\nThis week the car's been in the bodyshop after someone hit it while parked at my flat, and I've got a Fiesta to use instead.  Great, I used to have one, it feels familiar.\n\nThis evening I came back, at the end of a long day, to find a nice big parking space outside the flat, it could probably just fit two cars.  I quickly reverse into it, happy to be able to park nearby, and decide to park at the slightly closer end which is at the top of a slight incline.  I listen to the end of the U2 track on the radio, turn off the engine and hop out.\n\nI get one foot out, stand up, and put one hand on the door to close it.  It feels lighter than usual.\n\nI turn around to see the car accelerating away, down towards a little black Clio.  I've never moved so fast as I did then - dropped my things, jumped back into the car, and yanked the handbrake up as hard as I could just before it ended up in the back of the next parked car.\n\nI don't think I could have faced explaining how I crashed into my neighbour's car, while my own car was being repaired for parking damage!  Looking forward to the return of my 21st century technologies.", "summary": "not all cars automatically brake for you"}
{"id": "t3_ue595", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Internet for a month in Venice, Italy? Or recommendations on housing?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nFriend of mine is doing a month long summer study abroad in Venice this summer and I'm trying to help her out with the planning. She had everything planned and arranged for a study abroad program in Kenya until the Pentagon requested the school cancel that a few weeks so its been a mad scramble trying to get everything set for Venice.\n\nThe big, and really only, issue now is finding housing. Its getting down to the last minute here as the program starts around June 13 (and runs until around July 15).\n\nFinding quite a few nice places, close to where she needs to catch the vaparetto out to San Servolo but what's putting a damper on things is the lack of internet at a lot of places. I read about the city-wide wifi but that seems very iffy at best. Is there an option for prepaid cellular internet or something of that nature?\n\nDon't necessarily need unlimited or anything, she just wants to have a reliable connection for email, facebook, etc. She'd like to have the ability to skype periodically but not the end of the world if not.\n\nWordy post I know, but its getting to be panic time and she still doesn't have a place. If anyone has suggestions she's looking for a place for either just her, or her and another girl or two, 15min or so walk to St Marks (for the vaparetto stop), budget of around $2700 per person for the month.\n\nWe've been searching airbnb, VBRO, and luxrestvenice but are welcome to more suggestions.", "summary": "how to get prepaid internet for a 30-35 day period in venice, italy?"}
{"id": "t3_gz78v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Conversation with Co-Worker on Kiva (non-profit that loans money to entrepreneurs in developing countries with 98% repayment rate) vs. local charities led to simple realization.", "post": "Eventually this conversation led to, \"There are 10,000 kids in this city who are starving. Why would you help someone in another country versus someone who is right here and starving?\"\nI was kind of caught off guard and didn't know what to say, why would I do that after all? After thinking about it I kind of realized something and why I give to Kiva, quite simple reason actually. I know I'm helping someone meet a goal. I'm helping to empower someone to change their situation for the better and create a better life for that person and those around them.\nI know this to be the case because my investment has been repaid four times since I first contributed. It's quite small it would be more if I had more money but $25 is all I have in. That money has circulated around and always come back to me only to go out again. When I am repaid to me that means the recipient of the loan has a plan for tomorrow. Whereas giving money to feed someone who is hungry in my city means that tomorrow someone else will have to give money for them to be fed. I know everyones situation is different but helping someone meet a simple goal to empower themselves seems like a contribution to the greater good and not a short term solution.", "summary": "I feel just feeding people alone doesn't make things better. Helping people acquire the tools to feed themselves makes thing better. Give to Kiva. $25 is all you need. C'mon that's practically a Steam sale price amirite?"}
{"id": "t3_lbaaw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Condescending blood bank keeps calling me to go to blood drives all over the area. Will they take me off their call list if I lie and tell them I'm gay?", "post": "I'm a busy person, and don't have time to drive 30 miles to a certain blood drive on a certain day with an appointment at a certain quarter-hour in an area I'm not familiar with.  I'm capable of showing up and donating blood at my own, and I've told them like 10 times over the past two years to leave me alone.  They get a condescending guilt trip attitude, like, \"You don't want to help people in need?\".\n\nHow did they get my info in the first place?  Because I donated on my own at a benefit drive, and a few times since then, on my own.  Now, every single phone call starts with a 20 second script thanking me for helping in the past.  Then they start going over my record.\n\nI thought about telling a lie, saying that I'm gay, and maybe then they'll take me off their list.  But then, I might be banned from donating ever again since they might add that to my record, or even share it with other agencies.  While I don't like being goaded into donating, I do enjoy donating when I can.", "summary": "Pushy blood bank or call center employees hired by the blood bank won't leave me alone, and they act like dicks."}
{"id": "t3_4z5y7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18) wants me (21) to move in with her and I dont want to", "post": "Well basically, my girlfriend is starting her first year of university in a year, so shes already got a few places in mind, saving all kinds of money and shit to pay for it. We have been together for about 2 years so I guess she thinks it time to take the next step? Earlier today, she asked me \"why arent you saving for the future like me, youre so irresponsible with your money\" I pay half the rent and utilities and whatnot since my mom left and I explained this to her but she wont have any of it. She wants me to move in, get married and have kids by the time she graduates 5 years later, and I really dont want to.  She thinks its \"time you grow up a little bit and stop living for just today\". I  think its stupid and immature and that its a terrible idea, but shes very easily upset and offended so thats why I'm telling strangers on the internet. What should I do guys!!", "summary": "girlfriend is getting too close and comfortable and wants to get married and have me move in"}
{"id": "t3_3i9v2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my Girlfriend [18 F] Of 7 months, just left to go to different college than me", "post": "Hi guys and gals, this is my first time on this subreddit so I apologize in advanced if my question isn't unique or whatever!\n\nAs I stated in the title I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. We began dating in our senior year of high school and it is now time for college and we are both attending a different university this year. We both agreed that we wanted to stay together by the way. Anyway, it hasn't even been a week and I am already finding myself bursting into tears over even the smallest things involving her. Also I am not really one of those people who cry all that often so this is all new to me!\n\nMy main question is kind of two parts, the first part being; how do I deal with being away from her! I will dive into that soon though. The second question is about her personality sort of... My girlfriend is how you say, not into the whole expressing feelings thing. Even after 7 months of a really healthy and happy relationship, she really just doesn't express feelings really ever. Yes she will tell me that she loves me but mostly only in response to me telling her that I love her. I guess you could say that I like to know that I am loved and that she appreciates me and yadda yadda.. Yes I'm sensitive. My question is, how do I cope with not being told the same things I tell her every single day, she is very big into party's and likes to get wild but she swears she would never hurt me and I trust her, it still concerns me nonetheless.\n\nSorry for all of the writing... I just want some advice I guess on how to cope with missing her so much when it doesn't really feel like she misses me even though she claims she does. Lastly I want to know how to handle someone who is like her, like someone who doesn't like to say feelings and whatnot. I don't want to scare her off by smothering! Hopefully someone took time out of their day to read this, I appreciate it wether you respond or not!\n\nThanks a lot Reddit! Hope to hear from you all!\n\n-Danny", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are in a LDR and I want to know how not to miss her so much and I want to know how to handle dating someone who is not as emotional or open to sharing feelings as I am."}
{"id": "t3_4gy8jj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 f] boyfriend [26 m] told me that he saw his ex from afar and noticed she was still wearing the necklace he got her three years ago.", "post": "I am a really insecure person and sometimes I cannot let go of things that my boyfriend has said or done.\n\nAbout a year ago, I forget the context of the conversation, he had told me that he ran into his ex (from afar at a grocery store), they didn't talk, but he recalled that she was wearing the necklace he got her when they were together more than three years ago. \n\nI don't remember why he would tell me this and he has made it very to clear to me that he is over her, he's not one to dwell on the past, etc. \n\nHe told me this a long time ago and tonight is one of those nights when this has crossed my mind and it still bothers me. \n\nWhat do you guys think? I try so hard to let these things go but sometimes my insecurities won't shut up and my mind keeps telling me, \"He's not over her!\" Or some shit like that.\n\nSigh I just don't know what to do or how to let it go. It still bothers me. It's little things like that that make me feel SOO insecure that he wasn't/isn't over her. Even though he told me this about a year ago.\n\nThe time that he had seen her was about three months before we started dating, but he has said that they hadn't been together or spoken in over 2-3 years.\n\nIdk I just don't know how to get over this.\n\nPlease help.", "summary": "About a year ago my ex mentioned that he saw his ex a few months ago (before we met) and she was still wearing the necklace he got her from years ago. It's been over a year since he made this comment, but I still can't let little things like this go because of my insecurities. How do I get over this? Is it even a big deal? Please help"}
{"id": "t3_1ymmlr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "First time filling taxes as a student, where to start?", "post": "Typically in the past my parents file my taxes with their accountant, but he takes for ever and I typically don't see that glorious check until late May. This year as I'm graduating my undergraduate I wanted to file my taxes on my own to save my parents some money (No point in being charged several hundred dollars when I receive a little less than $1000 back) and see that check a lot earlier. the 1040EZ form seems simple enough (I've done 2 paper versions over the last two week to ensure I'm filling it out right before I go to an electronic version for submission), but it seems that I would have to claim myself as independent if I'm understanding correctly, which would mess with my parents taxes as they want to claim me as a dependent until I've moved out. \n\nAm I correct with this understanding, and if so how do I progress such that I can file separately (time wise) from my parents, ensure I receive my maximum amount back as a student (I will be returning for post-Grad study in the fall), without messing up my parents taxes.", "summary": "Want to file my taxes without going through parents account since he's slow (and usually late); they file me as a dependent."}
{"id": "t3_2txlz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23f] think we should move out of this nearly 50 year old trailer.", "post": "We live in a clean house so I'm not sure how the roaches are here. right now, me, my so, and our son who is 16 months live with my mom in the house we have lived in since I was child. My mom makes 600 dollars a month due to her disability check. My SO makes 370 a week, and really want to move out to find an apartment, but first we  have to get a car, he uses mom's car to get back and forth to work until we get one. We did have a car, but it broke down and discovered when it broke down that the work it needed done would have cost A LOT, so we just got rid of it at the scrap yard for cash. \n\nShe doesn't really have family who care for her, they all treat her like crap, but of course she still goes around them and they act like they love her, so I doubt they would let her live with any of them.\n\nFrom our guess the roaches live in the wall. Me and my SO live out on the porch that was turned into a bedroom years before I met my SO. It never had this problem before, but my heater and tv keeps turning off in our room suggesting its because of the roaches. Also, in my brother's room (who is 8) if he cuts the heater on high it cuts off and causes the breaker to flip. Again, a problem that we never had before. We have tried everything, and don't know where else to turn at all. \n\non a different note, Me and my SO were going to move out last year until shit hit the fan, due to bad luck on our side and we just got back on our feet. I swear once we are on our way to moving out, something happens that makes us have to stay. Its like life is working against us, and I feel like we are going to live here FOREVER. I swear I think I'm going to rot here, and never have a true life. SUCKS BIG TIME!", "summary": "I am beginning to think living in this house is becoming a problem. advice needed."}
{"id": "t3_2afan4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "*FINAL UPDATE* When my gf [23/F] is mad at me [25/M] she talks to other dudes, im getting to the end of my rope.", "post": "This is the final update to my previous two posts which can both be located here: \n\nYesterday I was talking to her off and on and was just keeping her talking enough to get over to my house later. When I got off of work I picked her up and when we got to my house I told her \"I dont think we should see each other anymore\" and like the past when I brought up an issue I was expecting an argument. \n\nIt went quite well in my opinion and all she said was \"Ok\" and when she asked me why I told her it just wasnt working anymore and she went on the say \"Is it because your a liar?\" Again I said it just wasnt working anymore, and she said again \"Is it because you constantly lie?\" and this time I ignored her and just let her pick her things up. \n\nAfter we smoked a cig in silence and I dropped her off back at her house, said goodbye and havent spoken to her since. And the funniest thing about it all is right after I dumped her she already began talking to yet another ex so I know I did the right thing. \n\nI feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I thank all of you for you support and advice, some were mean, but I feel those were the ones that really pushed this forward and Im going to try to stop being a doormat for everyone to walk on. Im sick of it and it makes me unhappy so Im going to do something about it.\n\nAgain thank you all. Im going to be having a party this weekend with my bro's who I have hardly spoken to or hung out with since I began dating her because she didnt like any of them. And it feels fucking fantastic.", "summary": "Got my tumor removed, time to heal the wound with new things and new people."}
{"id": "t3_2i23mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] need help planning my 3rd date with [23M]!", "post": "Backstory: \n\nSo there's this guy. I'm completely enchanted by him. Our chemistry is perfect! (Booooo, vulnerability!) He's the first guy i've dated for a while that i'm really into. I've seen him at parties quite a lot over the last year and everytime we saw each other, we really hit it off. Like 3hrs of talking, per party. He finally asked for my number at the last party and we've seen each twice since then. \n\nfirst \"date\" (neither of us have used that word so what even is it?): we grabbed lunch and then were planning on walking around outside but it was disgustingly hot outside. We ended up walking around a mall and talking/goofing around. Not very romantic but company is what I care more about. \n\n\"date\" 2: We met up for dinner and got sushi. We ended up spending 3 hours there and he suggested walking around town and hanging out some more but the area was sketchy and we parted ways. Still no kino or moves made!\n\nI asked him out for our 3rd meetup for this weekend. I suggested going to a contemporary art museum because I think it could be really fun and he's never been. The weird thing is, the museum closes at 6. If we get to the museum around 3 and leave at 6, what do we do after? We could grab food... He doesn't drink coffee/tea so that would be a one-sided activity. I'm not 21 yet so we can't go for drinks. I'm just worried that we might run out of things to say and dinner might ruin everything. Nothing like that has happened yet but I worry myself way too much. I don't know. I'm dying for him to make a move and I can't do shit about it! I mean, I could but I don't want to ruin this.", "summary": "What do I do after a 2/3hr museum date?"}
{"id": "t3_3th75d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By failing to count to 16", "post": "So im part of my school's student club, which basically just means we go to the theatre to see plays every few months. There are 16 of us, and my teacher charged me with making sure we were all on the bus (she doesn't take the bus with us because she's preggers and the bus driver is a faculty member so it counts as supervision). When i counted, though, i only got 15. Somebody was missing but nobody could figure out who it was, and it seemed like everyone was accounted for. A friend of mine suggested i maybe forgot to count myself, so i tried again, this time getting to 16. I think, \"sweet, i was just stupid, let's go\". And the bus leaves. \n\nAbout 20 minutes later, queue an angry phone call from my teacher. Turns out, I'm a complete dumbass, and we actually left the shy quiet girl behind because nobody talks to her. It may be important to add that the city we come from is about an hour away from the city where the theatre is. Whhhhoops.", "summary": "Could count, thought I couldn't, RIP shy girl"}
{"id": "t3_1l9vos", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I found out my girlfriend slept with someone I know right before we became exclusive and now I don't even want to look at her. Advice on how to deal with this would be nice.", "post": "I (25M) and her (21F) haven't been together for too long but we have a very beautiful relationship thus far. We're living together and things have been great, so far. Before we became \"exclusive\" we were sleeping together and I was taking her out on dates. We went out to a gay club and got a little crazy with some people I knew, my friend Yasmin and her model (looking) friend Billy. Billy was a nice enough of a guy and I found out he swung both ways, cool but I was under the impression that he was mostly gay. At the club, he and I were both dancing with my girlfriend (who I was not dating at the time). The dancing was very provocative but I just wrote it off being drunk and thrown in the moment of things, whatever. Fast forward a few months and my girlfriend and I are officially exclusive. An innocent conversation this morning led to her revealing that she had slept with Billy. I feel betrayed. Maybe because I consider Billy a threat physically to me because he is such a good looking guy, or maybe because she slept with him while we were sleeping together and I was taking her out on dates, I don't know; what i do know is that I'm sorely upset and don't know how to handle this. Some advice would be nice.", "summary": "Girlfriend slept with a guy I know weeks before we became exclusive and it makes me nauseous thinking about it."}
{"id": "t3_333fs5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "NSFW TIFU by my absolute lack of grace being a total bonerkiller", "post": "So this morning the mister and I are going at it and when we go to change positions, I dramatically throw myself over, which I had hoped would come out looking cute and sexy but obviously is much more like a fish flopping around out of water. My elbow goes flying around, bounces off the mattress, and my well-manicured and rather sharp-nailed finger flies up like a nose-seeking missile and buries itself inside my nostril. \n\nWow, slightly embarrassing, that stings, but we're sort of preoccupied and this is by far not the most distracting thing to happen during sex. Nor is it the first time I did something stupid and clumsy. Anyway, we get back to it. \n\nI have allergies and it's not that unusual for my nose to run a little so I don't realize the first drip as the harbinger of doom that it was. Then suddenly it's unleashed and blood is pouring out of my nose like a fountain. \n\nI don't want it to get all over the sheets so I shove him off and run to the bathroom to contain the damage. Nope, horror-movie scene going on, all down my chest and over my hands, and he's watching me rather concerned while I do that awkward hang-your-face-over-the-sink thing. \n\nFinally it stops and I get a chance to clean up. When I come out of the bathroom it becomes apparent that the sight of my prodigious nosebleed is a huge bonerkiller for the mister.", "summary": "Hit myself in the face while sexing, got horribly epic nosebleed, did not get to finish. D-, will not be trying any such athletic manuevers again."}
{"id": "t3_2mgry6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hugging a 12 year old whilst dressed as the honey monster", "post": "So a little back-story to begin; I go to a school in the UK which for two weeks during November participates in raising funds for various national children charities as part of the BBC's Children in Need. One of the events we usually organize is called the \"Hug-O-Gram\" which involves the younger students paying for a friend to be harassed and embarrassed by a costumed character during one of their lessons. This is run purely by volunteers from the 6th form (the equivalent to high schoolers in the U.S) and is a lot of fun for everyone involved. \n\nNow this is where I come in. Leading up to this event I'd been off school for a couple of days due to bad stomach aches and mild nausea. Not being one to miss out on all the fun I drag myself in on the Friday so I can get involved. Most of the day passes fluidly (probably due to the copious amounts of painkillers I'd used to numb the pain in my gut) until the last two periods. I'm approached by two of the 6th formers responsible for organizing the \"hug-o-gram\" who say they're struggling to find someone to dress up (as the honey monster). So I decide I might as well seen as I've missed all of the other fun events throughout the week. \n\nI get kitted up and start working my way through the list of \"victims\". Things are going smoothly and to my delight I'm dubbed \"the best honey monster so far\". I'm approaching the end of my shift with only a handful of kids left to go and traumatize when I start breaking out in a sweat and the pain in my stomach returns. I push on hoping that I can get this done before things get worse. \nThe next classroom I go into the nominated kid gives me a particularly forceful embrace and then it happens. Something just snaps and I projectile vomit inside of this rented costume and all over thie poor little bastard. Suddenly the sounds of laughter in the room turns to screams of horror and I drag myself out the room with sick still oozing out the mesh of the costume's visor. I've never been so mortified in my life. Anyway on the plus side our school raised over 2000 pounds for children in need.", "summary": "Gave a kid a hug dressed as the honey monster, threw up all over him and the insides of the costume."}
{"id": "t3_1n1nni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (25m) unexpectedly broke up with me (20f) and I don't know what to do.", "post": "We were doing great. We never had a big fight or disagreement. The biggest problem was the distance but we still got to see each other at least every other weekend. I know he has struggled with depression but I thought he was happy. He said he was happy and for the most part he acted happy. I was happy, I mean really happy for the first time I can remember. It was the most amazing relationship I could have asked for. \n\nThen a few days ago he just called me and ended it. He said he needed space and time to focus on him, that he wasn't happy with himself and that he never felt like he was right. He says I didn't do anything wrong and swears there is nobody else that he just needs time for him to fix himself. I do believe him he, was very upset and crying the whole time. He sounds like he hates himself which I don't understand because he is the most amazing person I have ever known. He really is, he is sweet, hard working, brilliant, giving, loving, great personality, and he is great to talk to about anything...just all around amazing. I want to help him but he just pushes me away. \n\nI am devastated. I had no idea that he wasn't happy. I can't understand it,  a week ago I would have never thought this would happen. I don't know why I can't make him happy when he makes me so happy. I haven't been able to go more than a few minutes with out crying and I haven't slept since the break up. I just don't know what to do he was my best friend and I feel empty and lost without him. \n\nWe are still texting some he says he misses me but he just isn't happy. He says he wants us to have a chance later but he doesn't know if we will.  I don't know what to do or what he wants me to do.", "summary": "My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me. He says he wants time to focus on himself. I am upset and don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_2tporl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21M] First serious relationship, [22F] GF angry/jealous how to handle?", "post": "Hey guys!\n\nSo.... we went to my boss marriage and a coworker of mine [20ish F] was present, and said Hi to everyone but me. So the thing is: I felt bothered by it, and kept looking at her as in: ffs you really won't say hi to me?! It bothered me, after all it is a coworker.\n\nAnyways, she happens to be good looking, but my GF let it pass.\n\nSo, next day i went to GF house, and as I was leaving the subject came up and I was like: \"hahaha, you mean xxxx?\". She blew over.\n\nNow she is angry and hurt, and even though she is answering my text she is like: \"I don't want to talk to you, don't want to be mean at you\".\n\nI tried to reassure her, explain to her that I don't only want her and all that. I do agree that me \"ogling\" the other girl was wrong of me, and I'm trying to stop looking at other girls or not being so obvious.\n\nI realize i'm wrong, but I do think she overreacted. How do I \"fix\" it? Wait till she calms down, or what? I would never cheat her, I don't even think like that when I look at other girls, when i do i'm like: \"Pretty\" and that is that.", "summary": "Girlfriend got jealous/angry, my fault, how do I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_r5vn7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the dumbest thing you've gotten in trouble for at school?", "post": "For me, it was one day in 7th grade Spanish class. The teacher was really strict about titling notes and such, so we always had to write our names at the top of the paper. I didn't have a pencil to write anything down, so when I saw pencil on someones desk, I snatched it quickly to write my name down. The student whom I had taken the pencil from, reported me to the counseling office for bullying. Thinking the principal would take this matter easily, i wasn't worried. Turns out he gave me a weeks detention, and if i ever \"bullied\" someone again, I would be suspended.", "summary": "Took someones pencil, got detention for a week."}
{"id": "t3_4777gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (30M) sick of socially freezing up at work.", "post": "To summarize a much longer story, I'm working a fairly well paying job that isn't necessarily in my native area.  I've had a career setback recently that was largely outside of my control, and I'm working back up to where I want to be.  \n\nIn the meantime, I handle marketing and online aspects for a company in an industry I'm not necessarily socially aligned with.  I do my job well, but finding any socially common ground with much of my co-workers or their colleagues in other companies has been something that's always been a struggle for me.\n\nI'm typically a very confident and well spoken person, but I've found that I've largely frozen up here.  I've found it extremely difficult to really converse with anyone here without feeling like an outcast or feeling somewhat ostracized.  I've noticed that I've adapted by changing my personality a bit where I'm far more inward and withdrawn than I've ever been.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?  I feel like it's becoming a huge problem for me the more it goes on, but I really have no idea how to tackle it as I share literally nothing in common with the people that I work with and I feel almost at times as if I'm from an entirely different country or any planet.", "summary": "I've become very socially withdrawn after dealing with an entirely different culture in an industry I'm not native to, I'd love advice on how I could stop myself from becoming a hermit."}
{"id": "t3_163vo5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if Facebook suddenly altered their algorithms secretly so that people received only a small fraction of the likes and comments on their wall?  Would people become severely depressed?", "post": "This is more of a thought experiment more than anything. It all stemmed out of a noticeable decrease in activity in my newsfeed in the few years since leaving college. Now it's understandable, since I was fairly active in many clubs on campus, that those familiar red boxes were fairly ubiquitous whenever I signed onto Facebook.  However, I still can't help to feel a little down when I come back from a 3-day vacation and the only notification I have is from my mom messaging to ask me if I was going to visit her soon.\n\nAnd then I remembered those moments of euphoria when I would post something or comment somewhere, and everyone would be liking or commenting back. I have to admit it felt pretty good. (Don't deny it, we've all reveled in our mini moments of \"fame\").\n\nExtrapolating from this, I could only imagine how a persons self esteem could be inextricably tied to their Facebook account (and consequently Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, etc. but probably to a lesser degree).  Of course it varies from person to person, but I'd bet that the vast majority of account holders would have medium/strong emotional ties to how active their Facebook is.\n\nSo what would happen if people only saw half the activity on their Facebook?  Or even no activity at all for a few days?  Would people just be kinda down?  Or will our nation plunge into a massive prepubescent depression?", "summary": "Tis possible that FB activity = our emotional dependency. Given a FB conspiracy to suddenly decrease the numer of red boxes we all see on our profiles, will people lose their shit?"}
{"id": "t3_mya7j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm not even sure this exists, but;", "post": "Okay well I'll start this off with I'm not 100% sure I'm posting this in the right subreddit, or even if what I'm about to ask about even exists.. but here goes.\n\nI just recently got a job and decided that I should finally get around to cutting my hair, now I don't have extremely long hair, but for a guy it's pretty long, about down to my shoulders. \n\nI've always been told I've nice hair, thick, dark and well-kept and I was wondering if there was a place similar to \"Locks of Love\" that I could donate my hair to? \n\nNow I would donate it to Locks of Love, but my predicament is that I'd like to get it cut at a barber so it at least looks groomed instead of just chopped off, and what I'm asking is if there is a place that I can bag my hair and send it to via mail or even just dropping it off in the central Texas area that will accept it with open arms?", "summary": "Need to get hair cut, want to donate hair by sending it somewhere rather than getting it chopped off at LoL."}
{"id": "t3_sz8k0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How you ever been in love with the wrong person? What did you do to stop?", "post": "I have been in this \"relationship\" for over two years now and each day is hell.  I know exactly what is wrong with him and I am a very sensible independent girl otherwise. But every time I try to get out of it, he begs, pleads and cries. If I see him cry, I feel like somebody just stabbed me. He knows this fact and he enjoys the power that he has. I decided to leave the country for 8 months to get away from him (in the middle of my PhD) and he postponed his graduation by 6 months and got an apartment in the same building so that he'll be around when I'm back. All my friends tell me to just call the cops but I can never get myself to do anything to hurt him. The funny thing is that he doesn't even love me. Whenever I leave he pleads his love and then when I'm back he doesn't give a shit. I've had some truly amazing guys ask me out but he goes insane if I ever try to date other guys and never lets me move on. I just don't know how to get out of this hellish situation. So were you ever with such a person? How did you finally get them to leave you alone?", "summary": "boyfriend is a douche but can't get myself to (and he doesn't let me) leave."}
{"id": "t3_1bhthi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I hate school. How can I cope with it?", "post": "I know that it's important for me to be successful in my future, but seriously. It's just a place cock-full of idiots (and some good people), but I just don't want to cope with lonesome, depression and lack-of-challenge. I may/may not have accepted the fact that I am deaf, therefore, further hating the system for the lack of communication. So, how did you cope with school?\nI am currently in my junior year, with very few 'friends' and I play a lot of video games. I am about to get a license, so that's a positive thing, but come on. School. It's always on my mind. I hate everything about it. I apologize if this isn't clear, and I can try and reply to your comments as soon as possible (to clear anything up).", "summary": "Go back and read the whole thing, you lazyfuck."}
{"id": "t3_25tu93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I (m16) do about my (f17) ex gf", "post": "My ex and I have been broken up for a year. Our relationship that lasted two years ended with her admitting she had been cheating on me for two months. To make matters worse they had 3 classes with each other and he was the captain of the schools baseball team that I was in so there was no avoiding this guy. On top of that all my \"friends\" knew this was going on and didn't tell me. \n\nIt was devastating to see them together and I thought finally my misery would end when they broke up 3 months later and summer break came around. I have never been so wrong, she ended up hooking up with a friend of mine cause she was feeling lonely and he managed to have sex with her after 2 weeks of being in a relationship. He then dumped her and embarrassed her by telling everyone.\n\n She came back to me without telling me she ever hooked up with him, I was ecstatic and thought we could pick up where we left off. But after a week of just having sex and hanging out her house she dumped me at a family party she invited me to. Why? Well to get back with the first guy again, they've been dating since the beginning of the school year but she still talks to me and try to maintain our friendship. Although every now and again she regains feelings for me and ends up cheating on this guy for me, I always tell him in hopes he would leave her and I could have a chance of getting back together with her again but with no luck even though she confirms that I'm telling the truth. I don't know what to do or how to feel i know it seems stupid to want her back after all this crap but is there anything to do here any advice anyone can give me?", "summary": "My ex gf treated me like shit but I still want her back what should I do."}
{"id": "t3_3l74v4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my gf[26 F] of 2 months, she said she's changing her number so some guy won't contact her.", "post": "I met my SO about 2 years ago and we've hooked up a few times since meeting each other. Back in June, we began to see each other exclusively and just recently she said that she's going to change her number so her \"ex\" can't contact her anymore. I'm left wondering why she needs to change her number or bring this up if we're supposed to be exclusive, and why is it being brought up now. It makes me think that she's been talking to him the whole time we've been together, or quite possibly hooking up with him when we're not around each other. The whole \"I'm changing my number\" thing really threw off a lot of trust. I asked her why and she said \"I'm doing it for you, because I want to show you how faithful I am\". So reddit, what's a guy to do? I'm not going to sit here and waste my time competing with some other guy.", "summary": "GF is changing her phone number after 3 months of dating to show how \"faithful\" she is to me"}
{"id": "t3_3xxdw2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flashing new BIOS on my laptop.", "post": "So, I was having cracked copy of windows 8. Being a fan of new tech, I decided to install Windows 10. But couldn't install Windows 10 on cracked copy of win 8. Suddenly I remembered that I had licensed copy of windows 7, and I could upgrade to Windows 10 once I install Windows 7.\n\nNow, I didn't have OEM version of Windows 7 that I had license of. I wasted my day downloading win 7 OEM version, then installing it. Later as anticipated, I got free upgrade to Windows 10.\nWasted another day downloading and installing Windows 10 on my laptop.\n\nNow the real FU starts, I begin downloading drivers for my laptop, the drivers contain BIOS drivers as well. I begin installing the drivers and the laptop hangs. \n\nNow I can't do anything and the laptop is nothing more than a brick.", "summary": "wasted two days upgrading Windows 8 to Windows 10 and later while installing BIOS, bricked the laptop."}
{"id": "t3_1fbri6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m] Broke up with my [16/f] long-distance girlfriend.", "post": "OK, so here's the deal. About a month ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, we were doing the whole long-distance thing. In the moment I was completely taken by emotions,(hormones too.) and I told her how much I cared for her, even told her I loved her.(First time I've ever said that to a girl.) In response, she told me she didn't feel the same anymore, and she just wanted to be friends.\n\nShe had started to become distant weeks before, and I knew it wasn't working... Anyway, several days ago, she sent me a email, asking to talk on Skype. So I accepted, and the next day we talk. All she wanted to do was have small talk. I was fairly offended, and cut her off, and logged off. At this point, I'm not really sure what I should do next. And I was hoping Reddit could give me some ideas, or whatever.", "summary": "Broke up with my long-distance girlfriend, started talking to her a month later, all she had to say was smalltalk. No idea what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_1frqx8", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Help with biting dog!", "post": "My husband and I own a two year old Lab/Blue Heeler mix named Cain.  Because he his half Blue Heeler he has the tendency to be territorial.  Typically he is very friendly.  Both my husband and I have brought him on college campuses, parks, other people's houses, etc. without issue.  He has never had a problem with people coming to our house either.  However, he has had two instances of biting another person.  \n\nThe first was about a year ago.  I was with him at my parents house when someone came over.  I let him inside, we walked up to the gentleman (who was sitting), and without any warning bit him in the arm.  He barked a little after that but backed away rather quickly. \n\nThe second instance was 5 days ago.  Cain was outside with my husband when a woman walked down our street.  Admittedly, he wasn't on a leash and that is completely our fault.  Cain ran up to the woman and growled a little bit.  The woman stuck her hand out to him and he bit it.  He immediately ran away back into our yard and looked like he knew he did something wrong.  The woman reported it to the city.  They were surprisingly nice about it.  \n\nI am concerned because this is his second bite (though only first reported).  Our city has a 3 bite policy before a dog gets put down.  My husband and I aren't completely sure what to do at this point.  We think his behavior may stem from fear.  He doesn't like being alone for long periods of time.  He is also afraid of the dark and will not go into our yard at night without barking a decent amount first.  We have looked into training classes for him which can be pricey.  We can't start him in anything for at least another month and a half since we are moving soon.  Our new place does have a completely fenced in back yard which I hope will help in this situation.  We are still worried and were hoping you all would have some advice.", "summary": "Our typically friendly 2 year old Lab/Blue Heeler mix has bitten 2 people.  We aren't sure what to do at this point."}
{"id": "t3_3qwrs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27F) need advice on how to tell my boyfriend (34M) he should see a dentist?", "post": "Or brush his teeth more regularly? I've only been with him for about six months and I do love him a lot but his bad breath and dirty mouth are a turn off. I don't want to break up with him but I would like him to take better care of his mouth but I don't know how to say it without him getting offended. I'm worried about him and his oral health (mine too). \n\nTMI: the first time he went down on me I waited until I got home to clean up and I was omitting such a terrible smell down there and I NEVER smell. So every time we do anything I have to wash right away, no matter where we are. \n\nHe doesn't have dental insurance and I know how expensive it is to see an actual dentist but I've already mentioned that there is a place in town that does cheaper teeth cleaning (students) and he should go soon because I'm worried about his oral health. He said okay, but he hasn't made any appointments. I also encourage him to brush or make a point of saying (not constantly) \"oh I better brush before bed\" or \"oh we're going out, I better brush my teeth...\" \n\nI don't want to bring it up again anytime soon, but next time I do I would like to have some advice to back me up and also to know I'm not a horrible person for requesting this of him. \n\n#", "summary": "my lovers slow tooth decay won't keep me away, but help me stop it!"}
{"id": "t3_2rqqxj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying \"What's Up?\" at the gym.", "post": "I go to the gym every morning at about 5am and normally I am the only one there. (It's a small local gym) Anyways a guy walks in... Skinny little fella, but you can tell he had the motivation to make all kinds of gains. Anyways I go to grab a dumbbell and he's in front of me and I say \"What's up\" as a casual hi... Well he thought I said \"Watch out\". He said sorry and I was thinking why did he say sorry the whole time I was working out... About 5 minutes in he gets frustrated and walks out of the gym... at the door he yells \"All you Gym rats are the fucking same\". I felt horrible because he seemed like a very nice person... :(", "summary": "He thought I said watch out, and I ended up getting cussed at."}
{"id": "t3_14ng80", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "The people i hang out with keep calling me a \"Buzz Kill\" What do?", "post": "What would happen is somebody would crack a joke and i would ask a question or try to make another joke so its a flow of laughter (Nothings wrong with my humor because they laugh at everything as long as its not  after someone else.)I end up being called a \"Buzz Kill\" and the main dick makes a family guy joke and then everyone laughs and im left feeling quite frustrated because of their reactions.Im really sick of it now because this same person re-uses the same jokes everyday and thinks it funny but really you can tell he's craving attention.I know that it just means im interfering with their ideas but why would you react like that in the first place if you know what im doing,Or is it you just don't want the spotlight on me for 5 seconds and you get all the glory?Now everyone is calling me a buzz kill.", "summary": "These \"Friends\" of mine make shitty jokes,everyone laughs,I carry the joke on,Get called a \"Buzz kill\",Family guy joke,Everyone laughs,Im frustrated,What do?"}
{"id": "t3_26kqod", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Is going to David's Bridal *JUST* to look a terrible idea?", "post": "So, my wonderful /r/weddingplanning people (my new family, now that I'm engaged...ahhhh!), I need some advice. \n\nAs I stated, I am newly engaged, as of yesterday. We aren't planning on getting married until 2016, so I have plenty of time to plan. However, we've been discussing our plans for our wedding for quite awhile, so I already know basically what I want on most levels, and just need to find the realistic options. \n\nThis includes my dress. I know the exact style I want, the fabric, and the color, the choice will just come down to how much detail is on the dress itself. \n\nI don't plan on going dress shopping seriously for about a year, but I am going down to visit my mom in a few weeks, and she wants to go dress \"looking\" with me while I'm there. \n\nI already told her if we go I don't want to go for very long, because my fiance will be at home with me, and I don't want to leave him alone with no one to hang out with for forever. \n\nSO! My idea is to go to David's Bridal with my mom for an hour or two. I don't plan on buying from them, because of all the horror stories I've heard, and I figure they have enough of a selection that I can show her the basic style I'm looking for. \n\nIs this idea idiotic? Am I going to randomly fall in love with a dress from a store I never want to give money too just because I'm emotional and with my mom and then freak out because I didn't want to buy it yet?", "summary": "Is it stupid to go dress shopping at David's Bridal when I have no intention or ability to buy a dress just yet?*"}
{"id": "t3_2up8ye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20/F] of 6 months is upset about seeing one of my [22/M] female friends on my phone", "post": "I've been dating this girl for a little over 6 months and I'm pretty crazy about her. She's legitimately the most interesting and fun girl I've ever dated. However, she tends to be a bit insecure, which is what I think it causing the majority of the issue.\n\nBasically, I was laying in bed with her and sent a Snapchat picture to one of her friends (she asked me to). In the send screen, she saw the name of one of my female friends that she's seen me talking to before. Now, to give a little backstory, my friends would tease me about being the phone-girl's boyfriend before I was dating my current girlfriend while my current girlfriend was around (we were friends before we dated). This was obviously never the case but you can see why it'd bother my SO.\n\nShe got really upset about seeing her name and shyly/not very assertively asked me to remove her. I love this girl so obviously I did it. However, I *AM* friends with the phone-girl, so I feel bad for removing her from my snapchat (and basically my life if I want my girlfriend to be happy). \n\nWhat do I do? Is there any way I can convince my girlfriend to not be insecure about the situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend is insecure about one of my female friends and wants me to cut her out of my life. I don't know how to do this without hurting anybody."}
{"id": "t3_4mi4k1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] having trouble staying erect during intimicy with my LDR GF [18 F] of one year", "post": "Hey, /r/Relationships\n\nMy LDR girlfriend and I have been dating for around a year. We have been planning to lose our virginities together during prom night in a month.\n\nI'm not really too experienced with women (she being many of my firsts) and definitely get nervous being naked around her.\nWhen she came to visit me this weekend, I had no trouble remaining hard while we made out, however, when she took off my pants and attempted to give me a handjob, I went soft. The same thing happened again later in the day.\n\nShe was really understanding and got that I was nervous, but was noticeably disappointed. We've been talking about losing our virginities together for a really long time and I really don't want to ruin it by losing my erection again, especially given we don't see each other that often due to the LDR. \n\nIt isn't that I don't find her attractive, I had no trouble remaining hard while cuddling and making out.\n\nI've been told being nervous is a great way to lose an erection and at the time, I was terrified of going soft again and couldn't really concentrate (which likely led to the loss of my erection) but I am not sure how to get over it.\n\nAs a side note, some of my friends I've talked to have recommended OTC Viagra (Sildenafil) or No-fapping prior to the night. Are either of these good ideas?", "summary": "How do I get over my nervousness and stay erect during intimacy?"}
{"id": "t3_nlvrj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do about a mean kid who gets bullied?", "post": "I am a senior in high school, and this kid is a freshman on my bus. He is short and chubby with glasses, typical \"nerdy\" look. This is not why he is bullied; our school is accepting of pretty much everyone and almost everyone can find friends. Throughout the hour-long bus ride, all he does is watch videos on his ipod. He never talks to anyone. When he does, it is extremely rude. He cuts the line to get on the bus, pushes in front of everyone to get off the bus, never holds the door, and never apologizes about hitting people with his backpack or pushing them out of the way. He has no manners at all. I have tried to talk to him, just basic things like asking how his day went and what he is watching on his ipod. He never looks up, just gives short, angry answers, and continues glaring at his ipod. He is completely unpleasant to everyone. So of course, kids talk about how nasty he is and how maybe he would have friends if he was nicer. On facebook, I just saw a girl in his grade completely insult him, call him a loser, and say he has no friends. I have seen him cry multiple times, and he often talks to himself angrily. My guess is there are problems at home. I want to help him. I have tried to talk to him and be his friend, but he is totally unresponsive. I am not going to report anyone to to administration for bullying; this kid was mean to the \"bullies\" first. I think talking to the counselors is futile, as their main job is helping kids apply to college, not working out emotional problems. I may do that if it seems like the only option. Please help. Also, please don't vote this too high, he may be a Redditor.", "summary": "Freshman who is mean to everyone is getting bullied. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ejxpx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Today went from stressful to awkward in five minutes", "post": "I was looking at my final grade for a class I was retaking for a third time (long story for another time) and needed to pass to continue going to my college this afternoon and I saw that the grade posted was a 59%.\n\nI wrote a gigantic letter to the teacher expressing the gravity of the situation, as well as calculating in a paper he hadn't included with the claim that it wouldn't change my grade, and discovered that including the paper would give me a D (still passing, but not high enough to count towards my major), which was preferable to an F. It took me all afternoon and I had to stop to walk around to keep myself together quite a few times.\n\nFast forward to half an hour ago. I was chatting with a close friend on Facebook about meeting a hockey player last week, and go to the big messenger to send him a photo I took of him. I attach the photo and send it...\n\nBut instead of going to him, it goes to my ex girlfriend, who I have not spoken to since March and am not exactly on speaking terms with. Their names are not similar at all, and I don't know how or why this happened, but I go \"OH SHIT SORRY\" and try and send it to my friend instead.\n\nNot even five minutes after this my professor emails me saying the grades on Blackboard were inaccurate and that I actually had a D either way... which meant my huge emotional breakdowny letter to him was totally not necessary at all.\n\nJust gonna go crawl into a hole somewhere...", "summary": "made myself look like an idiot to the head of my department and my ex in a super short span of time"}
{"id": "t3_4czj3f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21M] fell for her[21F] again.", "post": "hey this will be quite a long story but please read it out as I couldn't believe this happened again. I will be as brief as possible.\n\nOkay it all started when i was in year 8 (7 years ago), when i started to have this small crush on this girl (her). It slowly grew as time passed by. A year later, i confessed and unfortunately was rejected. Due to me being really soft and sensitive, i was pretty devastated. It was the first heartbreak i have ever experienced.\n\nTime passed (1-2years) and there was i still having feelings for her. Things immediately changed when I was told by my family that i was moving to Australia (was studying high school in Malaysia). After being a year in Australia, i realised i was starting to move on. We sometimes occasionally chat as good friends during the time we were far away.\n\nFast forward to present day, out of all possibilities, she has also moved to Australia and currently studying in the same city as i am in. Unfortunately, because now that we occasionally see each other now, I realised i have fallen for her again, and a lot deeper this time. Take note that so far in my life, i have only had 2 crushes, her and a small one few years back.\n\nI could not actually believe i would fall for her again. I told one of my best friends and he is pretty concerned too since he said there is no chance we are gonna date. Reason being too close as friends, rejected before etc etc. Now that i have also fallen deeper, i can't seem to move on. I now hate the fact that out of all the places and chances she actually ended up here with me. Such a curse.\n\nShe still doesn't know that i started having feelings for her again. What should i do?", "summary": "Had a school crush 7 years ago in another country. Rejected me, devastated and heartbroken. Moved to Australia and moved on. Now she moved to the same place as me. Fell for her again. In deep trouble."}
{"id": "t3_4gqq4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Nonromantic. How long before you give up on a friendship?", "post": "I (22f) have/had a friend (21f) whose ex used to cheat on her and ignore her most of the time. She got a new boyfriend who does her right and gives her proper attention. However, since she started dating him she doesn't have time to hang out with me. In fact, she will blow me off last minute or just stand me up in favor of hanging out with him. Its been months since we've hung out and frankly I'm tired of it. I even tried to talk to her about it and she said it was my fault and I obviously just didn't like her boyfriend. But she's my best friend. She the first friend I've ever had that I've loved like family and it's breaking my heart to realize that this is probably it.", "summary": "How many time do you get stood up before you call it quits with a \"friend\"?"}
{"id": "t3_ukyh3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when was the last time you just couldn't control your rage? What was the outcome?", "post": "I would like to point out that normally I am a very mellow level headed individual. I can count the amount of times that i have gone \"nuclear\" on one hand.  I should also point out that I am 19, 6'2 and I probably look like a big pissed off skinhead. \n\nToday, I was riding home on the bus and already a bit aggravated by  classmates (I am in culinary school). So about half way home these 3 kids get on, twins about 6 years old and what I assume was there older brother, maybe 15 years old. The oldest sits behind them and the two twins begin to talk quitely amongst themselves. Out of nowhere the oldest hauls off and slaps one of them in the face and tells him to shut up. At this point I was so shocked that I wasn't sure what to do and none of the other passengers seem to care. Couple minutes later the twins begin talking again, without warning thus kid gets up grabs one if his younger brothers pushes him into a different seat and begins to strangle the other one, while attempting to slam his head against the glass. Without realizing it, I was standing and two feet from where they were roaring something to the effect of \"HEY! What the Fuck do you think you're doing!\". Punk looks up, realizes the wrath of Satan is about to fall on him, face goes beet red and he moves to the front of the bus to call his mom. At this point I'm able to compose myself enough to ask the kids if the are okay. I'm not really capable of describing how i feel now, maybe a mix of regret and relief. Regret that I didn't handle the situation differently and relief that I didn't physically harm him.", "summary": "publicly humiliated a punk on the bus/pissed on his dignity with my voice."}
{"id": "t3_1q2c1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28M] boyfriend wakes me [24F up at night]", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been living together for the past 4 months. He is still in school (getting his phD) while I have recently started a new job that requires me to get up at 6 in the morning. Since his schedule is more relaxed, he usually goes to bed late and wakes up later in the day than me. This is usually not a problem for either of us. However, once a week, he hangs out with a buddy of his and doesn't come back home till 1 or 2 in the morning. Every time he comes home this late, I wake up. Even though he tries his best to be quiet, our apartment is pretty small and waking me up in kind of inevitable. The problem is that when he wakes me up, I am wide awake and unable to fall back asleep for hours, leaving me with very, very little sleep for the night. So my question is, what should we do? It doesn't seem fair to give him a curfew or tell him he can't go out during the week just because I have an early job, but at the same time, I can't keep missing a whole night of sleep once a week. Help!", "summary": "Boyfriend comes home late, wakes me up, leads to me being up all night"}
{"id": "t3_2j07f8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feeling shameful and lonely", "post": "Alright, I'll open with saying I'm [21/M] and had a breakup the beginning of March of last year. I sometimes think about them, but for the most part I'm fine. To help get over them, I tried to hook-up, but I didn't feel comfortable engaging in sex, so I didn't. After a few failed attempts, I look back on it now and think it's using someone when you have sex with them. I can't seem to enjoy having sex without that emotional connection attached, so there's that as well. I've just been feeling really sex-negative for these two years that I've even tried to abstain from masturbation; feeling like I was doing something wrong even though I know it's healthy.\n\nIn terms of relationships, I'm torn. I feel like seeking someone out due to a consistent feeling of loneliness, yet at the same time I think I'd feel neglected if schedules couldn't find compromise; remembering feelings of neglect near the end of my relationship. Being surrounded by people in happy relationships or marriages and seeing them so happy makes me sad, especially if I see public displays of affection. I really want to get over this, but I'm unsure how to proceed about it; any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I want to feel loved, and I want to find pleasure in sex with no shame attached."}
{"id": "t3_1x5e0v", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Last minute trip to Las Vegas! HELP!!!", "post": "So me and my girlfriend (both 23y/o) had a surf trip planned to Costa Rica scheduled for this morning. Unfortunately due to weather the flight was cancelled and there were no other options within the next few days, and since we go back to work on feb 14th, we were kinda screwed. So instead we booked a trip to Las vegas, as the last minute deals were cheap and we thought it would be a fun trip as well! We have decided to rent a car (and because were under 25 they left no holes unpenetrated).\n\nHeres our hastily made itinerary:\nfeb 6-arrive in vegas at 10am, cruise the strip, gamble a small amount of money, maybe see a show. \n7-Drive to flagstaff, see the wupatki monument, and maybe explore flagstaff (not exactly sure what the plan is for the rest of the day)\n8 -Grand canyon, hiking, adventure/explore the canyon\n9-rent a bike(not motorized) and try to find some mountain biking spots\n10- Head back west->see boulder city/hoover dam\n11-zion national park\n12- valley of fire\n13, plane home leaves at 930am\n\nWere pretty fit, love camping hiking and the outdoors. I am a much bigger fan of natural beauty than architecture.\n\nIf", "summary": "Were an outdoorsy couple of 23 year olds looking for ideas and recommendations on what to do near vegas, as we only had half a day to plan."}
{"id": "t3_2c34bx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] was dumped/breakup with [18F] after 2 years, cheated on and destroyed [breakup]", "post": "Its been three days after my girlfriend of 2 years left me for another person.\n\nI have attempted to live but i cant seem to function. I keep seeing her in my mind and saying was i really that bad of a boyfriend to be cheated on. I keep asking what I did wrong and I cant stop thinking that i made more mistakes then ever.  When I go on facebook i go to see her page but i know I cant, when i get home after I went to work I went to text her that I was home. \n  \n\nShe meant everything to me. Everything I did was with when I was off of work I was with her but now I cant do anything. I cant go places without imaging her, or going to text her and then realizing that she doesn't want me anymore. When I go to sleep I sit there just starring at the ceiling wishing her head was on me I keep wishing that I could fix whatever I did to make her want somebody else. I take a shower everytime a start to feel the chills coming on and sometimes it relaxes me and other times i have a complete breakdown.\n\nI went through the hardest part of my life with her and I helped her when she was in a bad place after an eating disorder and I want to know what I did.  She last told me that she knows we will never work out and this other person is for her.\n\nSorry For the ramble. I appreciate any help or advice.\n\nP.S. I am at my parents house for a few days and I will be leaving the area im in to stay with other family across the country to attempt to get my mind off it. But im scared for when i go back to college (we go to different schools) im scared of the triggers of seeing her every time I do something or when I go places with friends and I'll see her there.", "summary": "GF left me for another guy after knowing him for two weeks."}
{"id": "t3_13id40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend \"cyber sexed\" another girl...told me almost immediately, wants to make it work. Advice?", "post": "Throwaway, because...yeah.\n\nSituation:\n\nMe(F/23) and SO (M/25) have been seriously dating for around 11 months now. It's a long, convoluted road that got us here...we began as FWB but eventually realized we liked each other, then finally *loved* each other...and, in the past three weeks, everything's been about as good as it can get. But after I got out of work yesterday, he dropped the bomb.\n\nTwo nights ago, after we'd spent the weekend together, he drank a fifth of bourbon out of pure depression. Girl that he used to be on-again-off-again with began sending him sexts, he returned them, finally suggesting they should do it \"so he can see it\"(", "summary": "Boyfriend cyber-sexed another girl, told me almost immediately, but waited until he did so to kick the other girl out of his life. "}
{"id": "t3_2rg46a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being friendly to dogs and ending up half naked on the street", "post": "So im 16 and my mom is untrustworthy of me i guess because we live in a \"bad\" good neighborhood so its more of a safety thing. So she let me walk 2 blocks to a food store to buy some food.\n\nBackstory to the dogs: I know these dogs (2 pitbulls and their 2 puppies) and watched them grow up. Their owner is a neighbor whose family goes in and out of jails, and their kid my age is in jail for either assault, robbery or murder i dont know but he also has like those tear drop tattoos. They have had all kinds of dogs, which mysteriously disappear after a few months. So being so kind, and having a dog of my own, i wanted these dogs to last a long time. \n\nThey find me one block from my house and they looked starved. I really liked them and felt bad for the 2 puppies and grown dogs. I took out a piece of bread, tore it to pieces and fed them. They were so grateful and kept following me. These dogs, i tell you, jump super high. And my negligent neighbors never cut their nails. I was wearing some gym shorts- the kind with the little holes all around them. Their little and big claws go into the shorts holes and get stuck. But these dogs are like sheer power and they tear off my shorts. I drop the food i bought to pick up the shorts. The two bigger dogs keep jumping on me while im on the ground and sort of tear my shirt. So I end up all clawed and scratched with some blood around my body and the two puppies and dogs chewed through the plastic bags and got some food.\n\nthe shorts were torn and were unwearable. I got home and my mom asked what happened. She thinks someone raped me and whatever and doesnt let me go out. So yeah i guess walking on the street semi naked with scratch marks is a good fuck up.", "summary": "was nice to dogs, they were happy and i ended up semi clothesless on the street when  they jumped and tore off my clothes. They then ate the stuff i bought."}
{"id": "t3_4zjt69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) get very quickly and intensely infatuated with a girl (22f) who has a boyfriend", "post": "Edit: Title should be got, not get\n\nOkay so I want to start off saying that I have no intention of pursuing her at all, we get along really well and I don't want to screw that up. I recently broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks ago and have been in a really fragile place emotionally, it's been really easy for me to become infatuated with people, which I hate. So four days ago I started a new job with a group of amazing people, but one girl really stood out. She was stunning, we have loads in common and we have great chemistry (just that we get on well, not romantically). So unsurprisingly I developed feelings really quickly and intensely, I wasn't going to do anything because I figured i'm still just in a strange emotional place. However, today she told me she has a boyfriend, and when she said that I honestly have never felt my gut drop so hard and fast. It was the complete opposite of my original feelings, and it still kind of hurts. \n\nSo, does anyone have any advice of how I can move past my feelings without being hurt continuously? I can really see us being great friends in the future, and I don't want to lose that.", "summary": "Became quickly infatuated with a girl who has a boyfriend, still want to be friends with her but don't want to continue feeling like this."}
{"id": "t3_150hgn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [31/M] leave my [34/f] woman?", "post": "So we've been living together for almost 3 years, when we first started seeing each other I would do anything for her, always take her out to restaurants, cinema etc , put her first before my family / friends (which I regret and have paid for), apologize for things I did which I wouldn't class as my wrong doing, for example, one time, when we first starting dating my then landlord and his gf cooked a meal for me, I was expecting my gf to turn up and right in the middle of this meal she turns up, I said wait upstairs I'll be up after food, I finished the meal thanked my friends and went upstairs, she went nuts, saying she shouldn't have to wait for me, she should be #1 no matter what, she left there and then and had me apologizing via texts for the next few days...\n\nWe move in and she hasn't treated me great since the start and I guess I got a little fed up because after 2 years and 5 months I decided to leave her which wasn't easy, she was really upset too, I spent the next few weeks at my parents and missed her really badly, text her and called her a lot, we started dating again and had a good few weeks of that honeymoon period, if you catch my drift.\n\nSo I'm back living with her 2 weeks in and all weekend we just argued about dumb stuff, which we are still not talking to each other, tomorrow we sign a rental agreement on a house for 6 months, I don't know what to do, I love her, we have a really good sex life and sometimes she is the nicest person to be around, no one has loved me like this before so I'm kinda worried I won't meet anyone who will love me like she does...", "summary": "lady treats me kinda crappy, should I stay or should I go."}
{"id": "t3_4z4skh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] found amateur pornographic photos of someone who looks almost identical to my girlfriend [19 F]", "post": "I'm not sure if I should approach my girlfriend about the photos and how I could even bring them up into a discussion especially if they don't end up being her. If the pictures aren't of her she'll obviously judge me for bringing up such an absurd topic or even feel as if I don't trust her. I know her last relationship wasn't the best one and the guy she was with did take pictures of her and now they hate each other so I'm wondering if it has anything to do with him, I'm just not sure how I could ever talk to her about something like this.", "summary": "I found dirty photos online that look like my gf, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1sup1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] broke my girlfriends [18F] trust, where do I go from here?", "post": "Hi reddit, not going to beat around the bush, I really messed up. I knew my girlfriend was fragile due to the fact that she had been cheated on in the past, and was also very conscious about how she looked. I've spent the entirety of our relationship (1 year 1 month) building her up and she had gotten to the point where she would tell me all the time that she was so much more confident and loved that she finally had a boyfriend she trusted and that loved her for her.\n\nWell that changed a week ago. We are in a LDR as I am at college and she is back in our hometown. She got on her computer and noticed I was still logged onto Facebook. For whatever reason she went through my search history and discovered that I had been looking up other girls from our school, and (her comes the part I feel terrible about), rightfully assumed I had been masturbating to their pictures. It had been happening for quite sometime and although I had felt bad about it for quite some time I never thought she would find out and that it would hurt this much.\n\nNeedless to say she is crushed, her confidence is gone and now she has to go to school and look at these girls (we are from a small town, there's no avoiding it), everyday. She has chosen to stay with me because regardless of what our age might say, we are very serious and, despite my obvious shortcoming in this situation, we are both mature about it. I love her and want to do whatever it takes to earn her trust back, and I realize this will take time. What can I do to start the process, and what are some things I can avoid along the way? \n\nAny help is appreciated and I thank you all greatly ahead of time.", "summary": "masturbated to pictures of my gf's friends on Facebook, she is heartbroken, need to know where to start fixing this.."}
{"id": "t3_feyku", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For anyone that likes jiffy pop, have you noticed a horrendous decline in the quality lately? Or am I unlucky?", "post": "I usually buy jiffy pop alot, eat it once a week with a movie with my love. A few months ago I got 2 pack, opened it and started making it. It EXPLODED hot butter all over the stove and the side of it came out, like the aluminum wasn't put in right. I was like ok, it happens. Second one did the same thing. I called them and told them hey, some kid is gonna get hurt. Watch your quality. Send me some coupons for free popcorn. Awesome. Last week I got another batch, after months of not having it, waiting maybe for stick to clear. Different batch number and all. This time the wire holding it popped out and butter spewed everywhere. Second one started up and a hole ripped in it and stuff came out. Damn, is it my luck or are they making it shitty now?", "summary": "Jiffy Pop I buy for the past few months all explode and have holes and shoddy quality. Am I unlucky or is it happening to you guys too?"}
{"id": "t3_2d9kgc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating Black Bean Soup", "post": "Naturally, this happened in the spring or so. I had caught what I thought was a 24 hour stomach bug, and wasn't feeling well. I had fever, my stomach hurt, and I couldn't leave a 30 foot radius of the toilet. I didn't eat anything all day, and at dinner time, I was hungry. My mom suggested I have chicken broth. Naturally, I didn't have any as a college student, but I did have stuff to make black bean soup. Same thing, right? I'll make that instead. It's got black beans, tomatoes, green chilis, corn, chicken, garlic, cumin, etc. Once it's done boiling, you take some soup, blend it, add it back to the soup, and it thickens up. Great soup for the fall. I make some. I blend more than normal because why not, I don't feel great. This soup was incredible. Fast forward 3 hours. My stomach kind of starts to hurt, and I make my way to the bathroom. I didn't leave the bathroom for 3 hours. The only time I left the toilet was to frantically search for my Anti-Diarrheal medicine, which I couldn't find. The worst part was that I had blended the soup more than normal, so the black bean skin was like sand. I went to the bathroom 30 times in that 3 hours. Each time it was like I was pooping acid. It was THE worst pain I've been in in my life. All during I wondered why I made bean soup when I was sick, and why I blended so much of it.", "summary": "I had a stomach bug and made bean soup instead of broth and I had liquid diarrhea for 3 hours."}
{"id": "t3_2yp4k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last night I (M/20) told my GF (18) of a year and a half that I'm worried her getting more tattoos might make her less attractive to me, now she's not talking to me. How badly did I fuck up?", "post": "I love my girlfriend, more than anything, we're even planning on moving in togther this summer. She's been wanting to get all these big colorful tattoos ever since her 18th birthday, she's on her 3rd now. I don't like them, I'd much rather look at her beautiful skin than a bunch of drawings. I've never tried to stop her, I would never do that. I haven't been exactly supportive either though, I usually try to change the subject when she starts talking about any new pieces she wants to get. This happened last night until she called me out on it and hounded me to tell her why I'm not supportive of her getting them done. That's when it slipped out. All I got from her was a \"Wow\" before she got up and left. I didn't really think about how selfish and shallow that was of me to say until this morning. I really don't want us to break up over stupid tattoos, but I think I crossed the line last night. What can I do to fix this? Was it good I brought it up or should I have just kept my mouth shut?", "summary": "I admitted to my girlfriend that her getting more tattoos could make her less attractive to me. Did I cross the line?"}
{"id": "t3_2bads0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 months are apart for the summer, and she hasn't been communicating with me.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I go to uni together but go back home to different countries for our holidays. For the previous holidays she has kept very close contact with me but it's different now.\n\nShe's working so I understand that she doesn't have as much time but I hear from her only once every 3 or 4 days and that's only if I text her first. She said she has no time for Skype either. On the days she has off, she says she is too busy with other people so Skype isn't an option.\n\nI see on Whatsapp that she is active several times a day but she doesn't message me. When I message first, she often reads it and then only replies hours later.\n\nAm I overthinking things, or is a problem like this only going to escalate if it's already bothering me 3 months in?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I doing long distance for summer, and I don't hear much from her."}
{"id": "t3_1idere", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26/f/Christian) recently met a guy (30/m/Orthodox Jew) I'm not familiar with his faith, any advice?", "post": "Basically as the title reads...\n\nI met a great guy, we went out to dinner and he could basically only eat one thing on the menu do to his faith.  (no pork, shellfish...)  Found out he's an Orthodox Jew, I was raised Christian but i'm not very religious, I've tried to read up on his faith but I'm really just getting scripture.  I'm just wondering if there is anything I should or should not do as to not offend him or his faith while I'm getting to know him.  Sorry if I sound really ignorant but this guy is amazing so I want to know what I can to make this work.  Thank you!", "summary": "Met a Jewish guy, I don't know anything about the faith.  Do's and Don'ts?"}
{"id": "t3_1s2e27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] and BF [19M] have been together for ~2.5 years. Reddit, how young is too young to marriage?", "post": "We talk constantly about marriage and dream of the day we are old enough/financially able to get married. But sometimes we think 'What's stopping us from going down to the registry office and getting married there?' I love him and he loves me, and we can't imagine life with anyone else. But still, we feel we'd be judged for feeling this way.\n\n My grandmother told me she was engaged at 19 (This however was 1945) and married with a kid by 22. Now we by no means want THAT, but I'm interested to know people's views on young people getting married. Would you think it wrong for people our age to get married?", "summary": "Are we [18F] and [19M], in your opinion, too young for marriage?"}
{"id": "t3_3j4jxg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unknowingly flashing gang signs for years.", "post": "Some background; I'm a poc who grew up in a nice town, and I recently moved to a big city with mild gang problems for college. \n\nAnyways, for the longest time when I crossed the street I would thank the driver letting me cross by using a hang gesture. Originally I would put up all 5 fingers, but I thought that would look like I was telling them to stop or something. \n\nI started using the Vulcan Salute instead, and I realized how stupid I must have looked so I started using the peace sign. This was all good and well for years, but was slowly warping because I didn't think too much about it. It kinda warped into an open 3 finger gesture with my thumb bent inward and there's where my trouble began.\n\nAs of yesterday I had been making that same gesture (with maybe small variants) for years. I was crossing the street and this old sedan full of fellow young ethnic guys let me jaywalk across the street. \n\nI threw up my hand and almost immediately they started yelling. They stepped on the gas and tried turning onto the street I was walking on, however my destination was a Pavillions that was right on the corner \n\nLucky for me, they didn't pursue on foot probably because I apparently live near Xside territory.", "summary": "Unknowingly flashed Xside to Yside gang members. They yelled at me."}
{"id": "t3_379hx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "27F with my coworker, dear friend, long-time crush 29M. He does some drugs, I don't do any.", "post": "Wonderful guy 29M who I've worked with forever and who has had my back through thick and thin for many years. I've been harboring strong feelings for him for a long time. We'd discussed dating once years ago but basically he and I have never been single at the same time til now.\n\nHe and his friends smoke weed and do coke on the weekends. From our coworker/friendly interactions, that's never been an issue for us. He/his friends have obviously never pressured me to do anything, and he's always sober and fine when it's time for work.\n\nLast weekend he kissed me. I've been over the moon about this, but also nervous that our different stances on drugs will now become a problem. I know I don't want any substances in my house or car. I haven't figured out where else it will come up, but I'd like to anticipate how else this might be a hurdle. \n\nCan anyone share experience/tips/insight with this situation?", "summary": "27F kissed friend/long-time crush 29M. I'm clean, he does some drugs. Any chance this can work?"}
{"id": "t3_209ak4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(F23) don't know if I'm being overly sensitive or if my MIL(F45) was insensitive.", "post": "My uncle was in a terrible accident yesterday. He was basically being kept alive by machines. My son (M/3) ended up having a terrible fever so I had to take him to the ER.   It was late and I'm staying with my in laws. My MIL decided she wanted to come with me, which was fine.  On the drive there she said, \"Wouldn't your parents just shit if we took him to the hospital where you uncle is?\" Then she started laughing and continued to say, \"Then they'd have their grandson in the er and your uncle upstairs.\" To me that was just kind of insensitive. She knew how badly my uncle was injured and he ended up dying an hour later.  I just don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive or if I have a right to be upset. Should I bring it up to her or just keep my mouth shut?", "summary": "I had to take my son to the er and my mother in law made a comment about taking him to the same hospital as my dying uncle to stress out my parents. I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive or if it was inappropriate to say."}
{"id": "t3_4yjktx", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I almost got hit by a car today [drawing included].", "post": "I feel so fucking stupid.   \n\nI was walking from my house to a bus stop across a busy street. Normally I'd take a crosswalk that not too far away but I saw my bus coming and knew I'd miss it if I used the crosswalk. I noticed there was a lag in cars so I decided to bolt across the street - I didn't even see that red mustang. I saw her hesitate so I ran past her and was inches from being hit. She didn't honk or anything.  \n\nI got on the bus (thankfully the driver let me in) and he says \"It ain't worth it man. I've seen it happen\". I muttered \"I know\" and sat quietly - mortified.   \n\nHe was right - it absolutely wasn't worth it. What if I actually got hit? It would be death or weeks of recovery. Jesus. All to save like 15 minutes.  \n\nI will use that fucking crosswalk from now on I swear. I don't give a shit if the bus is coming or not. If I miss it I'll just catch the next one.  \n\nTo remind myself of this blunder I set an IFTT (If this than that) notification so that when I approach that street it sends me a push notification saying:\n\n>Remember that time you almost got hit by that mustang? Use the crosswalk!\n\nPicture of intersection: \n\nAnyhow, I'm beating myself up about this because to anyone who saw they probably thought \"Wow, what a fucking idiot\" and nobody wants to be that guy. I guess now I can empathize with that guy. I'm a relatively smart man that did something incredibly stupid and sometimes that happens.", "summary": "Tried to catch a bus to save minutes on my commute and almost got hit by a car. Lesson learned."}
{"id": "t3_2d5cuv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me (24/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have almost opposite sleep schedules and it's putting a strain on our relationship.", "post": "I'm someone who suffers from excessive daytime sleepiness but I've been managing it by keeping to a more-or-less consistent schedule of waking up around 8 AM and going to sleep around midnight.\n\nMy boyfriend has trouble falling asleep unless he's exhausted, which means he's often up playing games until 6 in the morning and sleeping until 3 to 5 PM. (His job hours are relatively flexible so long as he gets in 40 hours a week, so he tends to wake up and show up to work around 2 PM on work days.)\n\nI typically get home from work at 8:30 PM which means we have a late dinner together then I start to unwind while he's barely ramping up (so we often spend the time after dinner doing separate activities.)\n\nHe claims that he can't do anything about his sleep schedule (it takes him forever to fall asleep if he's not tired. My argument being that he's not tired because he does things that keeps his brain active all night + light of the computer screen, etc. and when he does try to fall asleep when not tired, he doesn't aid himself in anyway by say... reading a boring book.)\n\nI'm dissatisfied with this arrangement, but he seems pretty dead-set in his \"going to sleep only when I'm exhausted and sleeping until I'm no longer tired\" regardless of the hours.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience with this sort of sleeping arrangement? Or advice on how we can make it work/or alternatively try to fix it?", "summary": "Almost literal opposite sleep schedule than my boyfriend's leaves us with maybe 3 hours of time together in the day, which is usually spent doing things on our own as I relax and get ready for bed and he wakes up to start doing things."}
{"id": "t3_3waftv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long distance girlfriend [17/f] is hanging out with her ex boyfriend. I [17/m] am extremely jealous and uneasy. What do I do?", "post": "Hello.\nA little background information. Our relationship has been a strong one but also one thats suffered issues in the past. For example, recently we've been fighting over myself being too controlling over the relationship. An I do admit that is very true, I feel like at times i have prevented her from hanging out with some friends, and I've also had access to her Skype information, which I also agree is too much.\nHowever, after that fight I've been loosening up. I'm trying not to be controlling. However, she recently started hanging out with an ex that she was going out with before me. Now this makes me incredibly uneasy.\nI want to say something about it, but I feel like asking her to NOT hang out with her ex will result in her thinking I'm being controlling again. She claims this ex is a long time friend and there's nothing wrong with being friends. I have no clue who is right and/or what to do. Please give me some advice, reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend is hanging out with ex, want her to stop, but dont want to be too \"controlling\""}
{"id": "t3_3ukt7h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking again", "post": "This happened yesterday but I just found out literally 5 minutes ago.\n\nA somewhat basic fuck up, me and my friends (lets call them Jam and Butter) made a \"pact\" that we would all stop drinking for a month as we were getting drunk pretty regularly and it was getting a bit too much for us to do it so often.\n\nFast forward 2 and a half weeks we get invited to this \"chill\" event and we go half expecting to be bored within an hour and leave. Turns out this was not a chill event what so ever and everyone was smashed by 9 including myself. So it gets to about 11 and my close friend, who is not in my group, is getting ready to leave. Now I'm usually really awkward around parents, but her parents are literally the nicest people I have ever met and are just so chill and nice. They are coming to pick her up and I am just outside chilling with a cig, and her parents pull up. Now it was pretty dark so I didn't really notice it was her parents, **whatsoever**. They start shouting things which at the time I thought was abuse (which I learn now was actually them referring to how bad I was in a game of monopoly that we played) so I shout back \"I don't know who the fuck you are get the fuck away\". So after verbally abusing them, I decide it would be a grand idea to take my pants down and start mooning (showing my ass too) them (because I am a genius and that was just a flawless plan). So then my friend who thought I was just having a lovely chat with her parents comes out, realizes what I was doing and helps me back inside. I fucked up.", "summary": "Broke a pact, gave my best friends parents a moonlight view."}
{"id": "t3_4d10l1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] have semiregular nightmares about my SO [21 M] of 10 months cheating on me. Should I tell him?", "post": "This will be pretty short and self explanatory, I think. We are creeping up on a year together. He's my first everything, my first real boyfriend... yeah. I have a vivid nightmare about him cheating on me at least once a month. When I say vivid, I mean I have to check my text messages/snapchat/everything to make sure that the dream didn't actually happen. They're those dreams that distress you to the point where you wake up and can't go to sleep. I then have an overwhelming urge to snoop, but I never do because I know better than that and that its all in my head. \n\nObviously this is a huge 'me' problem. Should I tell him about them? Would you want to know if this happened to your girlfriend? Or, since they are just dreams and basically all in my head, should I just keep it to myself and keep dealing with it? Have any women been in my position? Did talking to your SO about it help the nightmares go away or did it somehow hurt your relationship?", "summary": "Recurring nightmares about my SO cheating on me. Do I tell him or keep it to myself?"}
{"id": "t3_brhkj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have screwed up some friendships. I need some advice!", "post": "So a little over a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years :( and moved across town for a fresh start. Being single has its ups and downs, mostly downs ( I guess I got used to always having someone to talk to ). Still single but trying to become more apathetic, because I don't see an end to that any time soon. Anyways, I met some friends relatively quickly, two of which I came to consider my best friends.\n\nThey are a young couple in the same boat as me and my ex girlfriend. They were both kind of over the married life but haven't broke up because they are comfortable with each other. One thing led to another and I began fooling around with his girlfriend. I really regret doing this. After hanging out with both of them, it was obvious to me that boyfriend is a much better friend, and someone who I would really enjoy hanging out with. We took surf trips together and spent a lot of time together, and I stopped seeing his girlfriend in a romantic way. Boyfriend and I just got back from a surf trip to Costa Rica (which was the most fun I have ever had in my life).\n\nBoyfriend finds out about Girlfriend and I's 'relationship' due to her leaving her email logged in. Now I feel like I have lost two friends, all my fault. \n\nHas anyone out there ever overcome this situation? Should I confront him and tell him how I feel, or let it cool down for a while? I understand I may never get to hang out with Girlfriend, but my issue is I really want to salvage my friendship with Boyfriend, if at all possible. Guide me, Reddit!", "summary": "I fucked up."}
{"id": "t3_ezmlq", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Ask Travel: How much do visas limit my travelling?", "post": "Novice question here. How much do visas limit my travelling?\n\nFor example, when my time comes to travel I will probably focus a lot on the middle east as I've read a lot about Arabia...but Saudi Arabia does not have a \"tourist visa\". Does that hinder me if I'm not travelling by air? What if I come down through Europe and try to enter on land via a bordering country - do I still need a visa then? Can I enter countries without visas? If I carry a passport and don't spend more than a month in one country, can I just travel between countries? Or am I really limited by these visas even if I don't set foot in an airport?", "summary": "do I need prior permission to enter most countries?"}
{"id": "t3_2cu4kr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [25 m] and I [22 f] are starting a new chapter in our relationship and I would like some advice!", "post": "I have heard it over and over again: we are too young to be married. Thank you in advance! It feels fine for us.\n\nAnyway, we are recently married and have been together for ~1 year. I have always worked full time while trying to juggle full time night school. He had a more conventional college education with full parental support in 4 years.\n\nHe now wants me to quit my job and focus on finishing undergrad and graduate school within the next two years. I am on board because I want what is best for our family of 2+ dog. \n\nHowever, I am anxious about not contributing to the household financially. I do most of the cleaning and all of the cooking already. Also, I feel like I will be more enjoyable to be around when I am not feeling pulled in so many directions.\n\nAnyone have any tips on how to navigate the transition period?", "summary": "Transitioning into not working while I finish school and nervous about impact on relationship. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4d3q6u", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My dad just asked me and my sister to co-sign on a 60k loan for his legal fees", "post": "My sister and I both have good credit and we both have just been asked by our dad (not so good credit) to co-sign a loan so that he can pay his lawyers and hopefully clear his name. He's never been in trouble with the law before and has already spent 30K to his lawyers so far, he's trying to do everything right, unfortunately he doesn't have a lot saved up. I'm a little emotionally overwhelmed and am doing my best to research about co-signing and am finding that the general census is that it's not a smart thing to do. As much as I would like to see my dad fight and win, I'm at a point in my life where I can see myself getting married and buying a house in the near future. (Fwiw - I'm 31, my student loans and car are paid off, I've been saving up for a 20% downpayment, and I'm in a LTR that I wanna stay in. )\n\nMy sister has already turned him down and would rather just give him money from her emergency fund, I could do the same. Between the two of us we could probably give him 15k, but that feels like drop in the bucket...\n\nI heard my sister talking to him about peer-to-peer lending but that it only goes up to 40k. How possible is it to get that amount with bad credit? What is P2P lending exactly and how does it work? Is that a better idea? Maybe then he could take a loan out by himself from his bank for the remainder? idk....\n\nSuper stressed about this situation, He asked me two days ago and  it sounds like he's looking to get the loan signed this weekend and I know I have to shoot him down, I'm hoping I could at least have a \"No, dad, I can't co-sign on a 60k loan but you could do ____\" conversation.", "summary": "Dad wants me co-sign on a 60k loan, I want to help him but I don't want to mess up my good credit when I might need it for near future Life Events."}
{"id": "t3_16ucau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend(18) and I(M19) are having issues about college locations.", "post": "MY girlfriend and I have been going strong together for 3 years now and I love it. I know that Im still pretty young but as far as Im concerned I don't want any other girls. Our only problem is it that we have no idea what colleges we want to go to. I wat to go to one close by and she wants to go to one 2 hours from where I would be. I know that realistically 2 hours isn't that far, but it just wouldn't be feasible for us to see each other very often* especially with my job/financial issues. Every time I bring up the subject she avoids the question. I just don't know what I should do.", "summary": "I Love this girl and it seems like she just wants to slowly grow apart"}
{"id": "t3_2tnibb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by admitting my feelings for my best friend", "post": "So I've liked him for quite awhile, but he's always had a girlfriend. They recently broke up. I didn't immediately tell him or try to make a move because obviously he was still getting over his three-year-long relationship. Now it's been a couple of months and I've felt like he may have feelings for me too. We text all day, every day, and hang out almost every day. One of our mutual friends even told me of this guys interest in me. I still didn't want to be too aggressive, but then last night I got drunk. Really drunk. I was all over him at this party we were at. He was completely sober because he's taking a break from all substances for awhile. Eventually my roommate took me home\u2014I wasn't doing too hot. When I woke up I had a text from him saying \"we need to talk\". I knew that wasn't good and I had totally embarrassed myself. \n\nSo I was feeling like shit all morning, then my roommate and I went for a walk. I knew she had been talking to him about it, so I asked what her opinion on the situation was. She basically told me straight up that he has no interest and doesn't want something stupid like this to ruin our friendship. \nHe went away for the day with some of our other friends, so we still haven't talked; however, I think I know what the conversation will be like. I just feel really stupid. We've been friends for so long and I was drunk so I don't think it will necessarily ruin our friendship, but it'll definitely be weird for awhile. I can't really imagine our friendship staying the same though. I mean, I don't think I can hang out with him everyday and continue to text constantly and keep myself from developing feelings for him.", "summary": "I got drunk, tried to hook up with my best friend, he totally rejected me, and now I'm worried for our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_2qszsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [22 F] of 11 months, Just caught Facebook messages", "post": "My girlfriend [22 F] and I [24 M] have been together for 11 months and everything has been amazing, we are planning to move in together next month and I couldn't be happier about it.\n\n\u00a0\n\nHowever, tonight she has gone away with a group of our friends for New Years.  I'm going down tomorrow night to meet up with them, I couldn't go down with her due to work.  So I'm sitting at home alone, watching some tv when I decide to use her iPad to watch some YouTube videos.  We are very open about each others phones etc.\nI turn on the ipad and a Facebook chat message appears from a guy who is attending New Years with our group of friends.  I haven't met him before.\n\n\u00a0\n\nIt says:\n\n\"[girlfriends name] ur a shit fk lefts havsex lol joke but seriously if you want lel. :)\"\n\nFollowed by her replying: \n\n\"Ur shit [his name].... I have a boyfri3nd! Otherwise maybe\" \n\n\u00a0\n\nWhen I see this, I'm angry and upset to say the least.  I know she is already drunk too.  I call her twice to which I receive no answer and after that I send a text message asking her to call me asap.\n\n\u00a0\n\nWhen she calls me and I tell her I turned on the ipad she instantly knows what I'm about to say.  \nShort story, she tells me it's a joke that they had going on and I don't understand because I'm not there.  Our phone conversation goes on for a while and during this time another message comes through from him, saying:\n\n\"Oh you would too I didnt bring a sleeping bag did u???\"\n\nWe talk a little longer and she insists that it's a joke and she didn't mean it the way it sounds.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI simply can't understand how this is a joke in any context, especially when you have a boyfriend.\n\n\u00a0\n\nAm I over reacting to this?  What should I take from finding these messages?  Any advise here would be amazing!", "summary": "Girlfriend messaging random guy she is with tonight, basically said she would have sex with him if she wasn't with me"}
{"id": "t3_32uwj6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF [23/F] never offers or refuses to drive [23/M]", "post": "(Throwaway, as my username is not a secret amongst friends).\n\nIn the two years we've been together - my girlfriend never offered, or mostly refuses to drive if i ask her. Hence 95% of driving is done by me. She tells me she'd rather take the bus then drive. But oddly enough, in the rare occasions when she sat behind the steering wheel - she was driving really well (no issues regarding her driving skills)!\nWe are living 30 mins apart in a bigger city. Bus/Metro is an option (and we sometimes use it), but not always - as transit for activities and meeting friends is so much faster/easier (and also cheaper) when using my own car.\n\nWe've talked about it multiple times with no result. I told her that for me driving is a means to an end and i don't quite enjoy being the only driver. Hence i'd be really glad if we could split the chore 50/50. Nothing really changed. We are bitching at each other of the issue arises, and i mostly give in and take us where we need to go.\n\nThe relationship is awesome in every other way. But the driving issue keeps nagging me, and it's now at a point where I'm starting to be really annoyed.\n\nAm i being unreasonable to expect her to drive more?\nHow do you guys handle the process of getting to places in your relationships?\n\nThanks in advance for every comment!", "summary": "gf mostly refuses to drive. i am fed up with it."}
{"id": "t3_2kzopn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get my learner's permit", "post": "In case you don't know, you need a lot of paperwork to get your learner's permit for driving in the US.  Before I left to go to the DMV (Department of Motor Vehicles), I made sure I had my passport, social security card, parental approval form, doctor's form, etc etc.\n\nI was a little nervous for the test, but I ended up getting only one question wrong.\n\nWaiting to get my paperwork looked over, I was pretty pleased with myself.  I thought I was to get my permit and everything would be great.  And then the guy checked my medical form.\n\n*Oh shit.*\n\nYou're supposed to have your doctor check off disorders or diseases that you have that would inhibit your ability to drive.  I had none of those, so I thought I was fine.\n\nMy doctor misread the form and checked them all off.  According to her, I have:\n\n* a neurological disorder\n\n* a neuropsychiatric disorder\n\n* a circulatory disorder\n\n* cardiac problems\n\n* hypertension\n\n* **two** cases of uncontrolled epilepsy\n\n* cognitive impairment\n\n* an addiction to drugs and alcohol\n\nThanks, doc.  Way to read instructions.\n\nBelieve it or not, I didn't receive my permit.\n\n[The form in question.](", "summary": "I tried to get my learner's permit, my doctor accidentally said I'm an insane epileptic druggie.  Did not get permit."}
{"id": "t3_4pss13", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Owe about $2,000 from subsidized loan for school. Have not made one payment. Will it affect my credit?", "post": "I started going back to school at a community college when I was 25 because the job I had was really chill and it worked perfectly with going to class. Than half way through the semester I got a big promotion, where I am making the most I ever have ($39,000 annually).The only thing is the job is on call 24-7, and I had to start missing classes because it was 8am-5pm, as opposed to 2p-10pm which I worked when I was in school. Class was at 12. And I had to jump at the opportunity or it would have passed to someone else. So I owe around $2,000 for classes I had never finished. I've been kind of bitter about it, which is why I haven't paid it. Plus the lack of money from apartment, see below.\n\nI don't have any credit, and I'm 27 now. I found out I need good credit to move in anywhere in this city (Denver). At least where I want to, which is near downtown and my job. I'm living at a really shitty studio downtown now, and I mean shitty. I had to pay 1600 for a deposit plus first months rent, which wiped out my savings. I really need credit before my lease is up in April. I just got a Capitol one credit card, with a $300 limit, after trying to get a credit card forever. Well, in seven days I will get the card thanks to this subreddit. \n\nSo my question is, does not paying a subsidized loan affect my credit?  Because I checked credit karma and it doesn't show up anywhere, and I still don't have a score. And what is a way I can get enough credit (650) by April of 2017?", "summary": "Went to school. Had to drop out because of promotion. Got loans that I haven't paid. Need credit to move in to a halfway decent apartment."}
{"id": "t3_zzqkj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22] am seemingly being pushed into something with \"Amy\"[22]. What do I do?", "post": "I[22] and \"Amy\"[22] started a friendship about 9 months ago. Ever since then, we slowly created a physical relationship. I told her before we ever did anything that I wouldn't be willing to do anything relationship wise, because after the things I've been through, I just want to deal with me (I was deployed and injured, and had been cheated on by my G/F of 4+ years recently). She promised me to not go there, and things went on. Well, we had sex a few times, and then she wanted to start pressuring me into a relationship. So I backed off and told her we could hang out but no more sex or anything. Well, that was fine for a while, and then about 2 weeks ago I got drunk(I know, my fault) and she ended up over at my house(Again, my fault, could have told her no). As you would probably assume, we ended up shaggin'. Well, a week went by with no problems, we didn't even have problems when we hung out in that time. Now, all of a sudden, she texted me today asking for sex. I explained to her that I didn't even remember most of the last time, and that since she knew I was drunk, she was just as guilty as I was for that night. Now, she's trying to turn everything around on me, including a night that I barely remember, and I don't know what to do about it. Does anyone have any kind of advice to make her stop, without totally killing our friendship? Or do I just need to tell her to go, and not talk to her again?\n\n[", "summary": "] friend got close, had sex, pressuring me into relationship. wtf do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_snfwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I pulled this off the wrongest way possible. I feel bad now.", "post": "Hello!\n\nMe (M18) and her (F18) have been dating for nearly 11 months. This has been the first relationship for both of us.\n\nRecently I have felt like I have just been kind of \"playing along\" in our relationship. I have responded to her I love you's and all other things to keep her from worrying. Our relationship has been stable but I haven't felt completely satisfied and felt like there was something missing. She wanted us to move together after next autumn, which had made me feel anxious. I had kept my feelings hidden until last Friday when I dropped the bomb. I thought she deserved my honest opinion about how I felt about the future of our relationship so I bluntly told her I wasn't sure about my feelings towards her anymore and suggested we took a break. She was devastated to say the least. There were no signs of this beforehand. What I told her was like a lightning out of a blue sky.\n\nLater that evening she called and told me I had wrecked her self-esteem and insulted her by telling her how I felt. We even had sex the day before (which I now think was a huge mistake) and she felt like I took an advantage of her body. She said she can't forgive what I told her but she also wants to give this relationship another shot. I don't believe a second shot would improve things much... I'm also really worried about her because she has had serious depression in the past and our relationship has played a major role in helping her out of it.\n\nI'm planning on meeting her tomorrow to plan how we'll go on from here. The way she reacted earlier made me feel we can't go back together anymore even if we had a break.", "summary": "I had been faking happiness for the past few months and shattered my girlfriend's feelings by telling her about my true feelings."}
{"id": "t3_11g4qr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f18] need an unbiased opinion on what to do about this [m26]", "post": "So a few weeks ago, I was studying for an exam in a public study lounge when I notice this guy sneaking glances at me. He strikes up a conversation with me, turns out we are in the same class so we start sitting together, etc. \nA week later he invites me out to the movies with him and then treats me to two shows and we embark on a random car ride, just having fun, flirting, etc. It wasn't until we turned around, facing an hour long ride back to campus that he decides to tell me he's 26 and he has a long distance girlfriend of at least 4 months.\n Now I've got no problem with an age difference, and I would have no problem just being friends with him. But for the past few weeks he keeps going out of his way to call me pretty or compliment me and as if that weren't aggravating enough, he called me while drunk one night and went off on this hour long rant about how he needs a woman close to him, he's having issues with the distance between him and his girlfriend, he thinks I'm attractive, he keeps thinking about making a move on me, how he's thought about cheating on his girlfriend with me, inviting me to spend the night at his place....\n I just don't know what to do about it. I kinda like the guy even though I know I shouldn't. My friends think he's a condescending ass that doesn't respect me which should make it easier to just tell him to fuck off. What do I do guys? And please be more specific than \"Just tell him to shove it\" because my bad taste in guys makes this a reoccurring issue for me and one that I find hard to deal with.", "summary": "What do I do about a guy in a relationship that keeps acting like he wants to be more than friends?"}
{"id": "t3_129atj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am going to get back together with my ex-fiance.", "post": "Normally I would not even consider this, it is not a typical thing for me to even consider being with someone I was with once if it didn't work out the first time. However the reason we didn't work out the first time is we were far too young to attempt such a commitment, and still very immature. I was 18, he was 19 and when I realized what kind of commitment I was attempting to make it freaked me out and I took the cowards way out by finding someone else to be with. It was childish and irresponsible and I have always felt like a terrible person for it.\n\nSince then, he has always been a small part of my life. He was still in touch with a lot of my family and would check up on me occasionally to see how I was doing, and vice versa. It has been about 3 years since we ended things and in that time we have had the chance to experience things and mature a tad bit more. I am more confident in my life, and I am doing the best I have since high school. My deployment when I was 19 changed a lot of things for me as well, and I am finally back on my own two feet again. it's better than that though, I am excelling. My lowest grade is a 97 in my classes, I am involved with clubs, and I am getting out and meeting people on my own; even attending parties and socializing. In high school my grades were crap, I hated people and was too afraid to talk to them; and then after my deployment I was too scared to leave my house (I have never talked about that, and it is a totally different subject but I am better now) and it was too the point that I never even got my mail key because that involved talking to someone i didn't know and going to a place I had never been. I live in a student apartment now (think dorms but it's an efficiency so no roommate), and I am getting around by myself; no longer afraid of my own shadow. I feel fantastic, and having him involved makes it even better.", "summary": "My fiance and I broke up because we were too young to make a commitment like that one we were trying to, now after a couple years have gone by, we will be getting back together. "}
{"id": "t3_363nn6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Flicking A Lighter At My Grilfriend", "post": "So this fuckup actually happened yesterday at my girlfriend's (we'll use K to represent her) high school graduation. Well, like most high school graduations it was very long and drawn out but I stayed there for her. As all the graduates are moving to leave after the ceremony is over, I'm standing there waiting for her. She approaches and hugs me and it's all good in the hood. Well, here's where the fuckup begins. K and I are regular smokers and as a result we always have lighters on us. Occasionally we'll flick the lighters and hold the flame close to the other for a second. Not enough to set them on fire or even touch their skin, just enough to make them jump. Well, I decide to flick my lighter at her at this moment. Little did I know that during her preparation and getting all gussied up for graduation, she sprayed A LOT of hair spray on her hair. So as I flick my lighter in the general vicinity of her face, there's this flash and flame leaps up from her hair. I have an, \"Oh shit,\" moment and quickly put the fire out with my hand and she just stares at me in disbelief. I can tell she's questioning her life decisions that have led her to be in a relationship with me. As K's mother approaches she remarks, \"Do either of you smell something burnig?\"", "summary": "I flicked a lighter at my girlfriend to make her jump, didn't realize she had used hairspray earlier, caught her hair on fire."}
{"id": "t3_3aw029", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just made it out of the friend zone. Now she might be having second thoughts? (17M)", "post": "My friend, we'll call her Arwen (16F), liked\nA guy before me. A good friend of mine. I\nHelped them get into a relationship but just when they started, they ended it because he was too involved in his studies. \nI liked her but she saw me as a really good friend. This is where things got good.\n\nAfter their relationship ended, Arwen and I talked on the banister overlooking my school's track and field. I told her that another girl was starting to grow on me.\nAfter we were talking about how our relationships wouldn't work out, she told me that she actually had a crush on me. \n\nThe day after, she and I talked about starting to do stuff together over the summer and now it's summer and she either shoots me down (Happened 4 times) or sporadically texts back.\n She definitely has her phone but she isn't answering. \n\nWhat do I do now? Is she having second thoughs?", "summary": "Came out of friend zone. She and I want to date and hang out over summer. She doesn't text back and might be having second thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_4xbtfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Worried about a girl with lots of exes?", "post": "So I'm (18m) going off to college, and I've been talking to this girl (18f) who's going to be in a few of my classes. We've been texting, snapping, and skyping quite a lot, and I think it's going very well. We have a date scheduled for almost immediately after we both arrive on campus, and I'm very excited about it.\nHowever, whenever she starts a story or tangent, she almost always begins with something along the lines of \"this guy I used to date\". She says she used to be \"guy crazy\" but now she has settled down some, yet even this last week she was talking about another guy she had been \"talking\" to just a few months ago.\nI on the other hand have never been in a relationship. I'm very excited for this date, yet all this talk of her exes makes me wonder at times.\nIs there something I should be concerned about?", "summary": "Girl I'm going on a date with has lots of exes, should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_3phq9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[updated] 37m married to 38f. After my post last week, I told her I'm completely done this time.", "post": "So I posted this last week and received tons of great feedback.  Thank you for that.\n\nIt's a week later.  Even though I've told her in the past that I'm done (and didn't mean it, obviously), this time I am serious.  Apparently she realizes I'm serious, because she scheduled an appointment with a counselor to get help for her suspected depression and other issues.  Her first visit was yesterday, I didn't ask for details because it's none of my business; but she did say the counselor referred her to a psychiatrist.\n\nI've written out all the bills on a spreadsheet and gave her the list and showed her mine.  I took the bulk of them as my salary is higher and I don't want her to struggle.  I'm also starting to look at houses within my kids' school district because that's non-negotiable from either side.\n\nI guess I'm posting because I feel a little guilty.  If she's indeed depressed, and I'm sure she is \u2013 I feel like a bad guy for leaving while she's going through this.  HOWEVER \u2013 this is something I've begged her to do for over a decade to no avail.  I can't throw a good heart after a bad situation any longer.  Also, it's hard to explain but at times I feel elated when I'm planning my departure.  Free.  Alive.  And then I feel a bit guilty about that, too.  I'll still be completely involved with my kids, 50% of the time they'll stay with me and I'll still pick at least 1 of them up for school in the mornings, pick them up every evening like I always do.  Every other weekend is my plan for them to stay with me as well as during the week.  Love my kids and I can't abandon them.  Like someone told me last week \"you can be a great dad without being an unhappy husband.\"", "summary": "If you see my previous post, you'll know why I'm trying to leave.  Over 16 years in a dead marriage for the kids, even though I was cheated on 12 years ago.  I finally hit my limit and I'm planning my departure."}
{"id": "t3_27zd4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Ex [18 F] 6 months, how do I conquer doubt so I can be with her", "post": "I met this girl online and I know it's unconventional but we liked each other a lot and had great chemistry and good times together. We met playing a video game but I just love hearing this girl talk about her day.\n\nI love her voice her gentle nature i love so much about her. We were in a relationship for about 4 months before I broke things off. Doubt clouded my judgment and I started thinking about our age gap and the fact she's still in highschool while I'm in college and that I don't know the way she walks or how she smells.\n\nI thought I loved her and she's convinced even now that she loves me but I'm so scared to tell her that again and hurt her more. I wonder if she is attractive enough. It's horrible but I worry about what my family will think about us about me choosing a girl online over someone in real life.\n\nI want this to work but I don't know how. I'm on the verge of showing my mom her picture today and telling her everything and seeing what I should do.", "summary": "broke up with a girl online. She still loves me and I think my life will be better with her in it but I'm filled with doubt that it can work. How do i move forward before I take too long and she forgets me"}
{"id": "t3_2sbb67", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I went through a rough patch which has left me with bad results. I now want to improve but I'm don't know what to do for college which has left me afraid that my dad will get angry at me.", "post": "Three years ago, a girl I had loved, left me for someone else. This left me very upset so I attempted to kill myself on November, 2013. During summer last year, I was still upset because of the girl so I couldn't focus on my exams. I would look at her online instead of revising, think of our past instead of revising, focus on her instead of revising. Because I never revised, I did embarrassingly bad on my exams--D in Maths, F in Business Studies, F in Music, D in Additional Science, D in English and an M in ICT (which is a B, I think).--so I stopped talking to my dad in fear that he would deliver the same attitude to me, that he does towards my brother (he's lost hope in him and is angry about it). A couple of months ago, I decided to improve, to become a better person so I started to read books, eat healthier and visit my dad. I told him that I want to go to college so last week he got me a course guide for a local college. Upon looking into it, I was interested in psychology but unfortunatly I haven't got the minimum requirements to enter their level one (lowest) course. I now don't know what to do and I'm going to see him Saturday which has left me worrying that he's going to be angry at me as I don't know what to do for college.\n\n**I've provided a \"", "summary": "in the title but I would prefer if you read the paragraph above; thank you to everyone who has."}
{"id": "t3_1f9a6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) have fallen for my female best friend/coworker (21F) and need help.", "post": "Hey, i (21M) am pulling my hair out and need help. I have fallen for my coworker/best friend (21F). We have worked together for about 9 months but the feelings didn't start to form until after new years. We always are flirty with each other but that is the atmosphere where we work. I'm having a hard time trying to figure out where the line between work flirt and crush flirt is. On top of everything she is currently with a total douche and she admits it but stays cause she was tired of being single.. So she likes him but doesn't want him to meet her family, who love me. \n\nShe is having an annual family bonfire this Saturday, which is my birthday, and I'm invited as well as about 15 other people. I'll probably be staying the night there and feel like i should make a move. At the same time I'm afraid to risk our friendship. Of all of my friends she is my third closest friend and she has said that I'm one of her closest friends. \n\nA couple of my co-workers have said to me that they know that I have a crush on her and I want to do something before any of them say something to her. I've almost told her twice now that 'I love her and i know that she probably doesn't feel the same, which is okay but felt that i had to tell her if i was going to keep being honest with her.' I just would like some advice. My 2 friends that i have told both say I should go for it but i don't know how.", "summary": "Fell in love with my best friend and am afraid to make a move to preserve our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_jxcts", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I love my fiancee", "post": "This past week, I've been going through an emotional crisis, considered cheating on my fiancee, wondering about paying college girls for sex, looked to prostitution, even thought of flying somewhere just to have sex on the side. I learned from other redditors that cheating hurts, heard about the other side, it will tear her apart, and that I should either stay or leave, but not cheat. At least I owe her that much.\n\nI asked myself, \"who will this hurt\", and it seems like it will hurt no one at first. She doesn't have to know, maybe I'll just do it this one time to \"get it over with\". But I know that I will have to live with this for the rest of my life, and she with hers. There's no way I can sleep with her at night, knowing that I lied to her. I always tell her to be faithful, it's easier to tell someone else to do that as always.\n\nI need to man up, I need to realize that the world doesn't owe me shit. I don't deserve all the sex in the world, all the 18-year old college tails. One man, one woman. That's more than I can ask for, and more than what many people have. I'm lucky to have her. I'm sorry to all the foreveraloners out there, for underestimating what I have, for having my head stuck in my ass, for not seeing, that I'm lucky to have what I have with her.\n\nAs redditor turingheuristic said \"the perfect is the enemy of the good.\"  I've seen prettier girls, hotter ones, bigger breasts, younger ones, they all seem more perfect than my fiancee. But in the end, I am but a man, one person in this whole world, there will always be better options out there, that's life. Can't explain that. Younger girls will always be around. Life is not choosing about the best out there, it's about having good life and actually being thankful for it.\n\nI'm thankful for you, my baby, and I'm not stupid enough to let you go. I love you.", "summary": "I'll never be happy if I keep chasing better things. Happiness comes from within, from being thankful with what we have."}
{"id": "t3_3pxlrp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Running Cross Country", "post": "Okay, a bit of backstory to start us off: I am EXTREMELY allergic to poison ivy. It's like God decided to smush all the individual allergies I could have had together into a REALLY, REALLY bad one. I have multiple scars from poison ivy and have had quite a few cases so intense that when I wake up in the morning, the fluid in my blisters that popped while I was sleeping has stuck my face to my pillow. It's like the fucking plague.\n\nAnyways, onto the story!\n\nI run high school cross country, and I was at my conference meet  preparing to get changed into my uniform and run my little heart out. I grabbed my uniform, changed into it, and headed out to where my team was.  Once I reached them, I casually tossed my bag and clothes from school (which were not in said bag) onto the ground. Now, keep in mind that I live in rural North Carolina, right next to the Great Smoky Mountains National Park, so where do I happen to toss my clothes? Fucking Poison Ivy.\n\nBut wait, it gets worse! My briefs seem to be the specific article of clothing that landed directly on the damn plant. Unfortunately, I was nervous about the race, so I didn't notice. I finished the race and rechanged into my clothes.\n\nFast forward two days: I'm sitting here, typing this out with blotches of poison ivy all around my body... and my dick and subsequent sack look like a motherfucking corn on the cob from all the poison ivy.", "summary": "Tossed my underwear in poison ivy before I ran cross country and put it back on, which led to my twigs and berries being *COVERED* in poison ivy. Life isn't fun when your penis looks like a plague victim."}
{"id": "t3_2v0qap", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(22/f) My Boyfriend's (23/m) Mom HATES me", "post": "So my boyfriend was brought up pretty conservatively with a very protective overbearing mother. We've been dating for a few years now and things went pretty well for the first 3 or so but then we had a hiccup and broke up. \n\nAfter we broke up, there was a span of about 5 days where I told him I would be his girlfriend again but eventually realized I had made a mistake and couldn't make the distance work for the time being. So we broke up again and now, about 8 months later, we're back together again. His family was very angry at me for playing with his heart like that and now I'm not in a great place with them. They don't tell me they dislike me, but I can feel them judging me and it sucks. \n\nNow I'm supposed to host Easter dinner with them and my boyfriend and I don't know how to act. Please give me advice on how to remedy the situation.", "summary": "boyfriend's family doesn't trust me not to hurt him again, and I'm hosting easter dinner with them"}
{"id": "t3_3hqz1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing a glitchy video game.", "post": "So, about a month ago, at reddit's suggestion, I bought the game *Ori and the Blind Forest*. I immediately fell in love with the art and music, which are both very enchanting. The only thing that I wasn't liking was how sloooowly the characters walked, and occasionally the music seemed like it was out of sync. Other than that, I really liked it, and got through it pretty quickly.\n\nYesterday, I was about 75% done with the game, and I was trying to free up some space on my computer, so I deleted all my Steam games and only re-downloaded the ones that I play. I got on Ori and the Blind Forest, and suddenly Ori is moving with super-speed. I tried to keep playing, but as you can imagine, playing with a twice-as-fast character is a little tricky. \n\nSo I ask my friend google what the problem could be, and there's no record of anyone else havin the same glitch, BUT it seems that people have had problems with the game running slowly. That's when it hit me, that the game hadn't just started having problems, it had been lagging, and finally fixed itself.\n\nSuddenly, this game seems a lot more difficult.", "summary": "Nearly finished a game without realizing I was playing at half-speed."}
{"id": "t3_40vln1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31/F] struggling to not contact emotionally abusive ex [31 M]. How do you stay strong?", "post": "Detailed back story on earlier post: \n\nStruggling with loving and missing a person who was actively mean to me for the last six months of our relationship. Loss is traumatic for me so I held on. Its been two months. I haven't had sex, I am tired, I am lonely, I want our relationship back despite the bad. That is my crazy. He is not reaching out to me. I want more than anything to have him come over, hug me, give me an amazing organism, and hold me. That is my embarrassing truth. My friends are sick of hearing about it so I turn to you reddit to help me stay strong tonight.", "summary": "Seeking love and sex from cruel ex."}
{"id": "t3_43w8n9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Question about Fitbit, TDEE and not eating enough?", "post": "F/24/5'1/SW265/CW222/GW130\n\nSo I've been working on myself since September and recently I've ran into a problem. This might be a little long and make no sense but I will try, sorry.\n\nI log my food into MFP then sync to Fitbit and I've been eating at a 1000 calorie deficit according to Fitbit since Novemberish. So I end up eating anywhere from 1500-1700 calories a day. At the beginning of this year my Charge HR's screen decided to stop working so I asked for and received a replacement band. I feel like this new band doesn't read my read my heart rate and in turn my calories burnt as well as the old one? For the last two weeks I've been eating about 1400-1600 calories since that's what my deficit is now. I'm currently doing Fitness Blender's new 8 week program (So working out for about an hour 5 days a week, HITT, regular cardio and strength training) and I used to be able to easily hit their minimum calories burnt but now I can barely hit it and I feel like I'm still working just as hard. MFP has just recently bumped my goal down to 1390+exercize calories as my weight as gone down. I still stay within my calories on MFP and Fitbit, but I just don't know if I'm eating enough, I'm sometimes still hungry but not like starving hungry. I'm losing between 2-2.5 lbs a week currently.\n\nRecently I filled out the [Revised TDEE Spreadsheet] on /r/fitness and it says my TDEE is 2935, so I should be eating 1900 calories a day to still lose 2 pounds a week. That's obviously more than I've been eating and I don't want to/am afraid to slow down my weight loss. I've also started having headaches recently and I don't know if it's because I'm not eating enough, I've been kind of stressed lately and I know I grind my teeth a little bit, or something else.\n\nSo basically/", "summary": "I don't know if I'm eating enough, but I'm also kind of afraid to eat more. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_427ur1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] have huge chemistry with a coworker [30sM] - and I don't want to!", "post": "So: I have been at work for a couple of years, part time but just started full time this week. I had some friction with a coworker after being very very temporarily sexually involved, we didn't speak for a while and he went elsewhere for three months.  \n\nComing back now, I am largely over the friction and would rather have a professional, convivial working relationship with him. He's returned to the office full-time, too. We'll see each other around and it makes the office easier for me as it's a small team. \n\nI sent a text inviting him for a drink/coffee to discuss what happened before so we can lay it to bed, as I do want to be on good terms with him. He agreed and the plan is to meet at some point next week. \n\nI have good reason to believe that he also wants to be on good terms, and not romantically involved. \n\nSo, it's mutual. \n\nAnnnnnnd at home I'm fantasising about him and I really, really don't want that. \n\nAny and all help appreciated! \n\n(Throwaway, obviously.)", "summary": "I have huge chemistry with a coworker, and I don't want to. All advice welcome!"}
{"id": "t3_2f5boq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/m] went out with [28/f] who has a boyfriend, but she tells me she is settling for him and gives off some hints..", "post": "I asked this cute girl from work out. I didn't really make it clear that it was a date. We had a great afternoon / evening, we laugh a lot and I'm really liking her big time. At some point I try to kiss her, but she laughs and tells me she has just gotten back with her ex-boyfriend who she asked to move over to our city in some months from now.\n\nI feel stupid because I hadn't been clear this was a date, and didn't know she had a boyfriend. In any case, we still go for drinks, she drinks almost nothing as she's afraid she'll say \"stupid things\", but she says that she wishes she met me a week ago (before she asked her ex to move over). She says this twice in the conversation. Also, she tells me she was looking for other guys in the city for some time but didn't find any and then decided to settle for her ex boyfriend. I tell her she's too young to settle, but she says she's getting older and wants to have kids etc. etc.\n\nI really like this girl a lot and find her quite special. I don't know her well enough but could see myself being very happy with her for a very long time. What should I do?", "summary": "Go on date with girl, who turns out just asked her ex to move in with her in some months, but tells me she is settling for him and wishes she met me one week earlier. I really like her, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3fm6wf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My first time with a girl (20F) I've been dating wasn't very good... What should I (20M) do?", "post": "So I've been on a couple of REALLY good dates with a girl I asked out last week (think romantic walks in the park and just talking the night away) and last night, on our second date, things escalated very quickly and we ended up having sex.\n\nWhile foreplay was very passionate, the sex wasn't very good. She didn't let me go down on her because she was tight, and by the time we finally did have sex, I'd been erect for a long time, and I ended up finishing fairly quickly. It's also important to note that this was my first time having sex in a few months (which obviously didn't help). \n\nAfterwards, while we were just cudding in bed, I asked her if she would change anything about the night if she could and she said \"no\", which I took as a good sign.\n\nSo here we are the next day, and I'm not sure what to do. I'm having second thoughts about her, but I'm not sure why... I have enjoyed the time we've spent together, but things feel a little different now. I've also considered talking to her and basically saying \"Hey, I know last night wasn't perfect, but I do like you and we'll work on it, and it'll get better.\"\n\nWhat are your thoughts on this? Should I talk to her about it or just pretend like it was fine? I also can't put together why I'm feeling a little weird now - I do realize that first times aren't always good, so it's not that, but something just feels off now.", "summary": "finished early during sex with \"tight\" girl on second date, not sure what to do now"}
{"id": "t3_1cvnmz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Do you ever feel like this?", "post": "The mind is a funny thing. Everything dealing with my breakup with my ex a year ago points towards her being a completely soul-less person to me yet I still feel responsible for what happened. I mean everything, her parents love me, her friends love me, she literally last week came begging for forgiveness and yet I still feel this way.  \n\nMaybe this breakup has taught me that I have never felt like I was good enough for anyone even though it's quite obvious that many people consider me to be more than good enough, even my ex who at least tells me that I was the best and most caring boyfriend she's ever had(a nice dagger to the heart eh?).  Coming to terms with things that are out of my control has shaped me into a much more well rounded individual and I see it everyday.  Yet this feeling still lingers...\n\nI dont think the breakup is my issue and hasnt been for awhile now, but it has opened my eyes to how I really feel about myself and what I need to work on.  Sorry if I was off topic and kind of scrambled, I just needed to rant.", "summary": "shit's deep."}
{"id": "t3_1kdcvk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend fainted after sex, what happened?", "post": "Okay so a few minutes ago my girlfriend and I were having sex, same ol' same ol'. Anyways, she and I orgasmed and then she started coughing. Coughing and coughing. Then she was breathing really hard.\n\nNext thing I know her legs go limp. I'm trying to wake her up and she was nonresponsive, then her breathing stopped. I put my head to her chest and her heart was beating fast. I panicked and tried to give her CPR, and when I went to press on her chest, she snapped awake and started breathing.\n\nShe didn't even remember us having sex, all she remembered was a movie we watched right before. As I was typing this she informed me that she could now remember when we started, but still just the start.", "summary": "for fucks sake read it."}
{"id": "t3_4qpipf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F ] with my roommate [20 F] she uses an insane amount of dishes. Would it be fair to ask her to cut back?", "post": "Alright, I know this is a super basic and small matter, but I don't have a lot of experience living with a roommate, and she has gotten pretty snippy with me in the past the few times I have talked to her about things like this.\n\nWe take turns emptying our dishwasher, but lately when I'm emptying the dishes, 80-90% of them are always hers. We run our dishwasher every single day for two people living in a house. However, her boyfriend sleeps is over 5-6 days a week, and eats dinner here (but cooks his own separate dinner) so he is making a fair amount of dishes as well but doesn't contribute to any chores or utilities. A few days ago I had just emptied the dishwasher at noon and it we had to run it again by 7pm. We're talking half of the sink full of dishes for every meal it seems like.\n\nI'm getting a little tired of only getting a few dishes in each cycle but still having to empty out everything of hers. Also, it's a major waste of water. Is this something to chalk up to having a roommate, or am I within rights to ask her to maybe cut back the usage or try hand washing certain things that aren't really that dirty? If so, how can I word it as sensitively and as reasonably as possible?", "summary": "roommate (and boyfriend?) uses a ton of dishes and we're running our dishwasher every day. I'm always emptying all of her stuff out when I've barely used any dishes. Is this something that's worth mentioning or something I need to suck up?"}
{"id": "t3_g3f24", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do we have any REAL reason to believe the world will end in 2012?  If not, why do I feel so nervous?", "post": "Let me start by saying, this is a sincere question.  As a somewhat simple yet logical individual I am almost embarrassed to be making this post, but lately I have felt this nagging sense of dread that has grabbed on and won't let go.  Obviously every one knows the 'myths' or 'legends' of the 2012 apocalypse, but I am willing to admit I am pretty uneducated on the subject. \n\nWith the weeks past events in Japan, the seemingly repetitive reports of mass animal deaths, and various other small occurrences, I have spent the past few months mulling over this question internally and I finally just have to ask.  Today I was having lunch with a good friend, one who is not prone to 'conspiracy theories' or even speaking on any sort of serious level, when she made a small yet serious comment about having always felt that she would be around for the end of the world.  Normally I would just brush this off, but it just felt like such a large coincidence seeing as if I am brutally honest with myself... I have always felt that as well. \n\nThanks to any one who takes this seriously, and responds with either reassurance or even information that would make me feel worse.   The more days that pass, the more this feeling seems to be gripping my mind, and it is starting to affect my daily life.  I would consider speaking with friends or even a professional, but the only thing worse than feeling an impending sense of dread, is saying it out loud, because that some how might make it real.", "summary": "Seriously. 2012. Is it all going to end?"}
{"id": "t3_2a6h86", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with guy i've been dating [22 M] for a month has pictures of his ex up on his walls", "post": "I have been dating this great guy for about a month now. We have started seeing each other every weekend now. Last weekend he invited me back to his place. Before i went in he stopped me and said something like: \nLook i moved in here with my ex and some of her stuff is still here, i know it's weird. I would feel very awkward in your place.\n\nI was quite baffled and we went in.\nThe stuff that was left was a coat in the hallway, a few bits and bots in the bathroom and two frame collages of pictures of her and him and who i guess are her friends and family on the wall. As well as some girly candles and bedsheets. There were no signs of her in the bedroom so i am pretty positive she does not still live there. \n\nRight now i am kicking myself for not asking why they were still there where she clearly left everything and why hadn't he moved them? Returned them? Cleared them away? It makes me worry he is still hung up over his ex. I really want my questions answered but I felt at the time it was too rude to ask. \n\nI am seeing him again this weekend and I want to ask him about it. I was wondering if anyone had any advise about what i should say and how to bring up the subject. I do not want to seem like I'm worried or attacking him! I have no idea how to bring up the subject other than being blunt or waiting for him to explain.. \n\nI know this might be considered a red flag, but he is such a nice guy i want to give him the benefit of the doubt and let him explain before i read into it too much.\n\nThank you for reading", "summary": "Guy i am dating still has his exs stuff around his house, how do I go about asking why they are still there."}
{"id": "t3_xu19l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Police Officers of Reddit: what are your rights in terms of detaining the offending party during a hit and run?", "post": "My car was recently hit by an incompetent motorcyclist who proceeded to ride off when I approached him. Had I chased after him on foot I probably could've tackled him off his bike as he was going slow (Weaving through stopped traffic). I had witnesses to corroborate my story.\n\nAs long as injury is not intentional, is a citizen's arrest legal/okay?  If for instance, I pulled him off his bike and his bike fell on his leg would that make me liable despite him fleeing?\n\nThis is the 2nd hit and run to occur on me this year so being $1500 down due to deductibles isn't really very fun. If someone does this again, I want to know what my rights are in terms of holding the other party responsible.\n\nIf jurisdiction matters, I'm in Santa Clara, CA.", "summary": "What are my rights in performing a citizen's arrest during a hit and run?"}
{"id": "t3_1rxtbs", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My co-worker is a bully", "post": "I've been working a non-profit for about 6 months now.  I love my job, it fulfills me in so many ways.  However, there is a woman who I work with who is a bully.  She constantly complains about the other people who work there, she assigns people extra stuff to do even though she has no authority at all.  One day last week she didn't let me know she needed buttons made until 15 minutes before she had to leave, she proceeded to pour out 3 big bags of buttons onto my desk and yell at me about why her bag of buttons was not ready.  \nShe's one of those people that makes sure the environment around her is full of tension if she is upset or stressed about something.  I have a lot of trouble with her, I find her to be a bully.  I think the worst part about it all is she is a straight person working in a LGBT agency.  She likes to tell everyone else how to do their jobs, insists they do it her way, but yet regularly expresses that she has no intention of staying there long term and that basically everything we talk about does not affect her in any way.  \nI don't enjoy working with her, but I love my job.  I want to be at this agency long term so I have to put up and shut up.  I have tried to stand up to her, I've had mixed results.  It is what it is.", "summary": "I don't like my co-worker, she is a bully.  I am making the best of it until she finally quits."}
{"id": "t3_3bw25e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my best friend from high school [20F], her wedding is in a week, but she didn't tell me about it until a week ago", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nSo I'll give a brief background about my friend. She was my best friend for 3 years of high school, after we graduated she moved to another city (without telling me until 3 days AFTER she left) and we drifted but stayed acquaintances.\n\nSo we talk occasionally, and I had always tried to initiate hanging out but she could never commit and we never found the time. I still consider her a friend, but not as close as we used to be.\n\nSo her and her fianc\u00e9 got engaged in November, and she called to tell me to make sure I knew before she put it on Facebook. I thought that was considerate, and that meant she was going to try to put more effort into our friendship, but that was the last I heard from her until last Friday.\n\nWhen she called in November, she said they were probably going to wait 2 years before they actually get married, just so they have money and all that. So when I saw her last week, I asked if she had been doing any wedding planning, and she says \"Oh yeah, it's in TWO WEEKS.\"\n\nI was just shocked. How could she be getting married in 2 weeks and not give me any heads up?! Not only do I have 2 jobs, I have other friends' parties that day that I already committed to. \n\nSo my question is: should I drop everything I'm doing to try and make it to my friend's wedding when she can barely make time for me, or should I just say \"sorry, you didn't give me enough notice and I have previous obligations.\"?\n\nShe was my very best friend, and I want to make it there but I feel like it's very inconsiderate to always expect me to drop what I'm doing for her.", "summary": "Ex best friend getting married in 2 weeks, gave me no notice, don't know if I should drop everything or just not go"}
{"id": "t3_3ee2c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with guy [21M], first date in 4 years, I'm freaking out", "post": "Hi all. So, I know 4 years doesn't sound like that long, especially at my age. But I was sexually harassed for the first time at 14, and then again at 15, and then had more severe issues at 16 with a guy taking advantage of me. I have received counseling, but I struggled- and still struggle- with trusting men. I would say that by societal standards, I'd be considered objectively attractive, so I get asked out and approached a lot, but I've never really been comfortable saying yes until this particular guy. On top of all that, I have OCD. \n\nSo I have my first date in four years, and I'm scared. I can't shake this irrational fear that something bad will happen to me, even though I like this guy quite a bit. Any advice or words of comfort or even helpful statistics? I'm a very logical person and statistics resonate with me, so if anyone has any that are relevant, that could help too.", "summary": "Due to past traumas and an anxiety disorder, I'm freaking out over going on a date tomorrow night for the first time in 4 years. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2rwchx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by attempting to burn my house down", "post": "This literally just happened about 10 minutes ago.  So here I am, just got out of the shower, feeling pretty hungry, when I remember, \"Oh! I have leftovers from work!\" (I work fast food)  So I grab the cardboard box that my food is in out of the fridge, and just toss the thing in the toaster oven at 350 degrees for a few minutes and return to watching Netflix downstairs.  A few minutes go by, and then the smell hits me, it smells like a sauna, and I'm think, \"well that's weird,\" and then I realize what I've just done.  I sprint upstairs to see my box of food crumbling and trying to set itself alight; so I quickly turn that shit off, grab the half roasted box of food and toss it in the sink while simultaneously running around opening windows and turning fans on.  Luckily my fire alarms didn't go off so I didn't have to deal with that, but RIP my delicious pub burger.", "summary": "Attempted to quickly heat up food in a cardboard box via toaster oven, roasted my buns and almost burned my house down."}
{"id": "t3_4z8hmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18/M] met her[17/F] at school because of Tinder, but she invited her friends.", "post": "So I matched this girl on Tinder about 1 week ago, and since we were going to the same university, we decided to meet up on the lunch hour. \n\nI was pretty sure she was interested in a relationship: she's the one who asked to meet up, she told me in a subtile way that I was cute, we get along very well, etc.\n\nBig problem: she was with her female friend when we met, and later, 3 more female friends joind the group.\n\nThat was so awkward, I was not shy, but in my head I was just \"wtf wtf wtf wtf\" . I thought we would be alone. I was so not conformtable in this situation , I didn't understood half of the conversations they were talking about.\n\nAnd , when she presented me to her friends, she said : \"here's [my name], my new friend :) \" . \n\nThe good news is I think she thought I was fun and cool, she was laughing at my bad jokes. I asked her \"so we'll see each other again?\" And she responded \" Yea :) \" .\n\nSo, she only sees me as a friend for now? Or she just wanted to \"challenge\" me and asked her friends what they think about me? I have no idea.", "summary": "Met a girl on Tinder at school; she invited a couple of friends on our first meet up. Friendzoned?"}
{"id": "t3_pfpo3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am often asked to buy alcohol / tobacco products for underage friends / friends of friends. How can 'troll' them into regretting it?", "post": "The title may be a tad confusing, and I do apologize. Allow me to go into a bit more detail. I am often the 'go to guy' when a friend or a friend of a friend wants to purchase alcohol and / or tobacco products. ( why they choose me to do this escapes me as I do not drink, nor smoke.) and I almost always decline, at which point they are bummed and, I guess, disappointed. This upsets me because they look up to me as the fun guy. I have thought long and hard to devise a plan where I could accept their request, and pull a bit of a prank on them, so that they could get a kick out of it, and maybe avoid being disappointed. Alas, I could not come up with such a plan. this is where I turn to you, The creative minds of Reddit.", "summary": "How can I pull pranks on underage friends asking for alcohol / tobacco?"}
{"id": "t3_27ydie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25M) fiance (25F) got pregnant even though she has an IUD, and now we don't know what to do.", "post": "Like the title says, she's pregnant now even though she was on birth control. We've been together for 2 years and have an incredible relationship. Our families have met, and everyone gets along really well. That said, we both recognize that we aren't ready for children, and we are scheduled to get the A word tomorrow, but my fiance is having doubts. The one thing she's always wanted was a family, and she's scared that this isn't the right decision. On some level I'm scared in the same way. I'm afraid that if we go through with it she won't be the same person anymore. Compounding this is the fact that she has the Paragard IUD, and we always planned on eventually having a family a few years after we got married, but at the moment we aren't ready to have kids maturity wise and monetarily. Does anyone have any advice on our situation?", "summary": "fiance is pregnant despite being on an IUD, and we are scheduled for the A word tomorrow but we are having second thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_47zh8q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25yo /F] don't think it's right that me and my fianc\u00e9e [23yo/M] are REQUIRED to spend every weekend with his parents and he feels that there's nothing wrong with it", "post": "So him and I have been together for 8years and this year we are going to get married. Everything has been great in our relationship (yes, everyone fights but no deal breakers) until we moved to be closer to his dad and step mom. We didn't know she had a mental disorder until after we were living with them and she threw a cat box (with litter and contents ) on me when she was having an explosive episode. They (my fianc\u00e9e, his dad) all blamed me for that so that they could get her to calm down (instead of telling her the truth, that she was insane). I wasn't allowed at my soon to be in laws house for the next month or so (he spent thanksgiving with them to \"keep the peace\") until she decided she was going to apologize at which time I was made to forgive her or I wasn't being \"family oriented\". Fast forward a month and I don't want to spend every Sunday with them (fianc\u00e9e says it's family sunday) and don't feel it should be required. My fianc\u00e9e says that if we don't get time together on my other days off then we can skip a Sunday \"here and there\" but otherwise we need to be over there on Sunday. I feel that this is too much and a little crazy and I just want your advice on whether or not I'm over reacting and should just let it go?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9e thinks we have to spend every weekend with his parents and I disagree. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2y7ttf", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "First time using pigs feet - did I mess up my broth?", "post": "I decided to make ramen for the second time from scratch. A couple recipes I found used pigs feet for the broth, promising amazing results. I ended up referencing a recipe without pigs feet and missed a key step. Apparently the feet need to be boiled briefly to remove any dirt or scum off of them, then that water is dumped. I did thoroughly rinse the feet and made sure there wasn't hair on them, but I didn't do an initial boil. The feet were vacuum packed and looked clean - no dirt that I could see. The problem is that I noticed the feet smelled weird and figured they're feet, they're supposed to smell off, but now the whole broth smells like sour pigs feet. I don't know if that's how they're supposed to be or if this because I didn't do a pre-boil. I'd say the smell is like a sour, almost urine-like smell... not very appealing. The more it simmers, the more the smell is covered by other scents so there's some hope for my broth. It also has pork neck with bones, salted pork belly, various vegetables, and bonito shavings. I would hate to throw out the whole batch, but maybe this is why pigs feet are considered an acquired taste? It's definitely not a rotting smell and I didn't accidentally get pickled pigs feet.", "summary": "Ramen broth smells \"sour\" and unappealing because of pork feet I didn't pre-boil. I don't know if I messed up or if that's how they're supposed to smell."}
{"id": "t3_4xeef0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my new girlfriend (???) [20 F] of about two months, future is doomed but can't stop", "post": "Let's call her Yuri. I met Yuri about two months ago and we hit it off right away. I travelled to Japan shortly after meeting her and we were texting all the time I was there.\n\nI'm back from my trip now and we are completely infatuated with each other. It's the most intense feeling I've ever had with anyone, it's a huge rush of adrenaline\u2014it's what I imagine heroin feels like...\n\nThing is, she's only here on a working holiday and is going back to her native Osaka at the end of November.\n\nBefore this we would completely ignore the subject and bury our heads in the sand when it came to things that concerned the future, but yesterday it came up, like this; she said she wanted to have sex. I said I want it too (in the best japanese I could muster), but I'm afraid it would be a sort of point of no return. It would bring us closer, and separating afterwards would be all the more painful. She said she thinks that way too. We both cried and then decided to stop talking about it because it was just too damn sad.\n\nI woke up today with the most dreadful feeling. I love this girl but the future seems grim. The way I see it, it's either a torturous long-distance relationship that fizzles out and kills me inside, or one of us disrupting our life to go live in another country; making ourselves completely dependent on the other person and shattering the dynamic that makes us good together in the first place.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Should I sleep with this girl? What if I get hit by a truck tomorrow and die? Won't I regret not loving Yuri 100% while I still could?\n\nOr should I try to protect myself from the pain that is to come inevitably by keeping some kind of distance? Is it not too late for that anyway, sex or no sex?\n\nFact is even if y'all tell me to back out now I don't think I would. This is too intense, I'm addicted...", "summary": "Fell fast and hard for Yuri. She's leaving in November. No realistic future for our relationship. But can't stop cuz I'm an idiot who likes to suffer I guess? What do?"}
{"id": "t3_w15e7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How long does it take to train for a marathon? (x-post from r/running)", "post": "Hey Reddit, my dad's passion is Ironman races. He has done 4 and is gearing up for his 5th next year. He has just recieved horrible news today that the tendons in his knee have given out. The doctor told him that if he chooses to race next March, there is a large risk that in later life, his ability to walk will be severely hindered. He has decided not to race next year's [Melbourne Ironman] and not to run again for fear of losing the ability to have a functioning knee. Although there is an operation to fix it, the doctor's advice is that he still not run due to the risks.\n\nI don't want my dad to have to forfeit his dream due to this. It is possible to race Ironman in teams. I am thinking about doing the marathon leg of the race, and leaving him the swim and ride. \n\nI need advice on how long it takes to gear up and train (properly) for the 42.2km run. Are 37 weeks adequate time to train from a point of nil fitness to a good, race standard?", "summary": "Dad's knee is screwed and can't race Ironman next year, is 37 weeks long enough for me to train to do the run leg for him?"}
{"id": "t3_2rbigo", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I didn't go to Taco Bell", "post": "So long story short, last night one of my closest friends said some very hurtful things, to cut me down after I made a joke about him and a friend (bunch of comedians/improvisors, this is common). His response wasn't funny, but just straight mean. This isn't the first time he's gone \"below the belt\" making cracks about my face, or my \"man voice\" (lady here) you know, things you can't change.\n\nSo I just left, walked away, and went home. On my way I passed a Taco Bell and considered drowning my sorrows in burritos, but I remembered my goals, how far I've come in just 50 days, and went home instead.\n\nThanks for reading, just needed to vent.", "summary": "Friend bullied me, wanted to binge on tacos, didn't. Hurray!"}
{"id": "t3_4n5qno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've (23 M) become very skeptical of exclusivity in others and find it difficult to hold myself to the same standard.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nHoping you all can talk some sense into what I've been feeling. This one won't have too much backstory, but I used to be much more shy and passive. Over the years I've grown more expressive and comfortable with myself and my sexuality, and my dating life has become much more active. However, I feel like my older relationships went much more smoothly despite my previous insecurities.\n\nIt feels like nowadays everyone is always talking to... Well, everyone. I'm guilty of doing the same thing, even though it's not what I want. I really want connection rather than sex or validation, but I find it so difficult to invest in people and let people in to a place where I'm vulnerable to be hurt when in the back of my mind I'm sure they're seeing other people (or have evidence they're seeing other people, perhaps just casually), as was the case in the last few girls I invested in. I feel like I've gone from overinvesting in girls too quickly, to being very hesitant to invest in girls at all. Any recommendations for getting past this? I fully understand it's unreasonable for me to expect certain behavior when I'm not doing it myself, and I don't judge girls for doing the same. If anybody had some perspective on dealing with this reality of the dating scene now, I would be very appreciative. Thank you.", "summary": "I'm dating around, girls are dating around, everyone is dating around. How do we find exclusivity? And how do we find trust in it?"}
{"id": "t3_25wek4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to start a relationship? Where is magical point?", "post": "There's this girl [21] that I [22] have classes with. We really like each other and enjoy time spent together. I've asked her out two times and we had a great time, we spent one full day in her apartment talking and laughing, I know what she likes and what makes her smile and I do it and she appreciates it. Sounds like start of a freindzone but there's some tension between us. I can feel it that I have to do something but I have no idea what. She is kinda reserved girl and rather avoid physical contact with other people but sometimes she touches me \"accidentally\" during classes or something and keep it and checking my reaction. And I am rather strange person, I mean, when I don't care I know how to get a girl but when I do... It's like this. People told me to ask her out and just kiss but I don't feel like it would be good idea. \nAny ideas? Suggestions? Maybe you can tell me difference between a date and friendly day out?", "summary": "how to get a girl when I've asked her out, we are meeting and now what?"}
{"id": "t3_2lyy1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F], I can't get over the fact that she used to do anal.", "post": "I have been with my GF for about a year and a half, and it's been absolutely amazing. She is very kind, smart, gorgeous, and also a very \"good girl\". Meaning she never really got in trouble growing up, only had a couple serious partners before me, ect. This is one reason that I am so attracted to her.\n\nAnyways, recently we've been getting into butt-play and about 2 weeks ago we finally tried anal and it was pretty cool. When we were just starting to go at it that night, she mentioned that \"is was never too pleasant for her\", and I was like \"OH! lol so you HAVE tried it?\" (not that she never said she hadn't). And she got a little shy about it and said something like \"Well.. yes, but I never enjoyed it too much\". That was that and we kept going, I made sure to use lots of lube and go east at it. At the end, seemed she enjoyed it.\n\nThe fact that she tried anal before has been messing with my head >_< I know it shouldn't be a big deal at all, but I just can't help thinking that she's done this with her ex(s?) and my brain is stupid! I just don't like this fact. Maybe because it was MY first time doing it, and now that I know she had already, it's not that special.\n\nI sort of decided to post this in hopes of people saying things that will maybe put me at ease a bit. Maybe some suggestions would be good. I shouldn't talk to her about this huh? I mean, the past is the past, and plus, she is a great gf and really there's nothing I would want to change about her.", "summary": "Had anal for the (what I though) was the first time with my GF. The fact that she had done it before is messing with my head."}
{"id": "t3_3e03tl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is my therapist just flirting and leading me on so I keep coming back?", "post": "A little background, I've been to a few therapists before and none have really helped. I decided I go to another and just try it again. My dad just picked one out and she happened to be a really hot, young woman. And I am only 17, but I have a full grown beard, I workout and I'm big, and everyone I know says I don't look my age.\n\nAnyway I've been seeing her once a week for the last 4-5 weeks now, one time twice a week. Every time I'm there she'll mention something sexual, ask me how old I am with a cute smile (even though I've told her several times), and shit like that. I don't really look her in the eye much, but when I do she's either checking me out (usually staring at my arms, chest, or my dick), or she'll put on a cute smile if I look at here eyes. I saw her today and she did the same thing. But today she got up several times to hand me things, and every time she'd bend over in front of me. She also told me to try out this breathing exercise and she grabbed her chest and said, \"breathe in and out like this\" and smiled at me.\n\nBefore I left she did say, \"don't just come here to see me! I want you to get better. I want you to trust me and talk to me so you feel like you're getting the best out of this! Ok?\" and smiled like she usually does again. Which is funny she mentioned that because I haven't been feeling like she's been helping, but I don't have really anyone else to talk to and it's nice going there.\n\nAs I was leaving, she has one of those big ass tube tv's in the lobby, and I noticed her looking at my ass and she motioned to her coworker to look over.\n\nHonestly I don't know if she's just toying and leading me on so I keep coming back, or she's just naturally flirty like that and she really means what she says.", "summary": "Therapist acts sexual and flirty with me, which I don't mind she's hot and nice to me, but is she just leading me on so I keep coming back?"}
{"id": "t3_26hsz4", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "11 month old german shepherd won't stop biting us and we can't agree on anything.", "post": "We got him around October and thanks to the fact that we are unorganized idiots we have basically gotten to the point where he is so aggressive that there is almost no way he stops biting. It's really beginning to be a big problem, and every time i try to suggest doing something else i am shot down with \"Oh so i'm wrong again\". How do i deal with the dog and this defensive behavior from my family members.\n\nWe have been trying to pin him every time he goes for us, and recently it's become way worse and more and more aggressive, i don't know where to begin, i am going to try replacing with toys, and stuff like that, but i really need a way to get him to stop doing this as he is getting bigger and more powerful everyday, and the thought of him needing to be re-homed or eventually him ending up hurting someone and being put down scares me.", "summary": "i need some ideas on stopping this, it happens a lot during dinner when we are all three in the same room, he is getting worse not better, people in my house think that advice from a friend is somehow better or more researched than that of many many people on the internet and it's really pissing me off."}
{"id": "t3_14qr7k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to impress a girl be looking up her address", "post": "So I was in class and I was telling my friend how I was going to be in her area for a basketball game over Christmas break. So I said I would I would beep as I drove by. She said I would not be able to find her house. I said I could always look it up and she said \"I bet you can't\". I took this as a challenge and in 5 minutes on my phone in class I had google street view looking at her house. She was a little freaked out cause I have never been to her house and we are 10 hours away from it right now. She said I was really creepy and that her house was not supposed to be registered. I said I was sorry and things but I felt really creepy too. I just googled her last name(not a very common) plus her city and it popped up. The hard part was spelling her last name. She was really shaken up and I felt really bad like I should go for jail for doing shit like that. And it most likely means I lost my only female friend. I wasn't trying to be creepy and I would never go to her house uninvited. I was just took it as a challenge.", "summary": "I looked up an girls address to prove a point and I feel really creepy and freaked her out."}
{"id": "t3_z1xum", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Officially married two months and still haven't gotten our pictures. Reddit, what are your post marriage war stories with vendors?", "post": "We were married in June and had an awesome photographer. He seemed like a great guy and an even better photographer. He even gave us a pretty great price, which is important when you're two 22 year olds. Leading up to our wedding him and our caterers were the best people to deal with. Had no reason to think ill of him.\n\nWell, our contract said we'd have our pictures no later than the sixth Friday after the wedding. We had talked to him three times before then and he told us he was \"working on the pictures.\" Well, I finally find out after he was past contract this was not the case.\n\nHis hard drive died and he lost half our pictures. He didn't let us know because he didn't want to \"worry us,\" which is exactly what was happening with him not talking to us. Luckily he found a recovery company and we should have our pictures in a week or two.\n\nNot once has he made any mention of a refund, though he made sure my wife and I knew he was paying the $1,200 for the recovery process out of pocket. Needless to say, we're both very unhappy/disappointed.\n\nSo, Reddit please tell us we're not the only ones who have had to go through post wedding hell!", "summary": "Photographer lied to us three times about losing pictures, will maybe have them to us by his third or fourth week past contract."}
{"id": "t3_1nt9f8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/23] need help with breaking off a short relationship [F/23]", "post": "I reconnected with a GF of mine from High School that we never got intimate before. After talking on the phone for a couple of days I gave in and paid for a round trip ticket for her to see me for a whole week.\n\nWell that week came and the first day or two were great, except she started opening up to me about things that she hadn't mentioned on the phone. Apparently she was a criminal (holding people up at gunpoint, then trying to justifying it by saying that she was hungry) for a few years and was a meth addict and she was almost killed when her last BF was killed for drugs. Oh, and I found out she has his name tattoo'd on her back when we first had sex doggy style, which I find it to be a HUGE turn off. \n\nWhen we had sex the first couple of times, she complained that I was being too rough with her (apparently it brought back memories of an abusive BF) and that I should tone it down. I did and I decided to wait and see when she would initiate with me and after 1.5 days of nothing, I got on top of her and she just pushed me off and said that she had cramps and we didn't have sex for the last 3 days she was there..... Throughout the whole week I would reach out to kiss her or something along those lines and she wouldn't kiss back or reciprocate. It got to the point where I stopped kissing her. The endless rejection from her just totally put me off, since I'm a very affectionate person. The night before she was going to leave, I was pretty meh about being with her so my body language changed and I'm sure she noticed because while I was holding her hand trying to goto sleep she just threw my hand out of hers and rolled over without saying a word. I just wanted to goto another room and sleep. I knew at that moment that it wasn't going to work out. I can't think of a more awkward moment in my life. \n\nI could go on about other things that she did that were pretty ridiculous and off-putting, I'll do that by request to keep this short.", "summary": "Reconnected with a fling, told her that I'm open for something more serious but had to check her out in person, didn't end up liking her after hanging out for 5 days. I want to break it off with her but she said things that'll make me feel guilty for breaking it off with her so soon. "}
{"id": "t3_2fauoi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am having problems with my [30 F]'s roommate/guardian's political opinions", "post": "I'll make it quick, because it sounds more complicated than it is. I started dating a very nice girl, only about a month now. She's very sweet and super nice, but has some family history she has to get through to some extent. Without getting into details, she's bouncing back into life with her quasi-guardian who helps her out while she goes back to school.\n\nHe's very strange though. We made dinner together, and I figured out that he leaves Fox News on all the time, and the whole time through dinner, I got bombarded with questions about Obama/ISIS/Isreal-Pakistran, things I don't REALLY know anything about. I mean, I could have an opinion, but it was super clear to me that whatever I thought, I was either wrong, or I agreed with him. It was super uncomfortable for me, and I felt like whatever I said was gonna make me look like a cock, so I kept quiet. But that seemed to make him more mad :/\n\nAnyways, I don't wanna do ANY of that stuff. I feel like I have no choice but to have a bad relationship with this guy, and that'll make it really difficult to be with her (at least around her house).", "summary": "Politics! OMG how do I avoid this?"}
{"id": "t3_eh5vc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ok Reddit, here goes nothing...", "post": "I am a 22 year old male, living in the United States. I have been living with chronic pain in the left side of my neck for over four years. I believe it started as a freshman in college, when I went to a concert and was headbanging too hard. I felt some sort of pull or snap in my neck that night, and was kind of nervous about it but didn't think too much of it, till I started having tightness and pain in that region. As I went through college, the pain went from more persistent to always present, which sucks, but wouldn't be much a cause for concern if it wasn't accompanied with more problems. I now have difficulty swallowing (dysphagia), with the tightness entirely based on the left side of my neck. Junior year of college I started to notice lower back pain, also exclusively on the left side of my body, and also left shoulder/arm pain. Both have developed from occasional soreness or flare ups of pain to chronic problems. My dad is a family practice (general) doctor, and has tried giving me various injections, to no avail. I am fairly convinced this is an ongoing problem, whereas he seems to think that I just hurt some muscles and stretches will in time fix the problem. I am basically watching my body deteriorate, and I don't know why. I know this is really vague, but if anyone here has had the same thing happen to them or can tell me what my problem is I'd be really grateful...I feel like I'm sitting here doing nothing while my 4 year problem keeps getting worse and worse...on top of that, being in a constant state of pain keeps me from being able to concentrate on anything, including friendships/relationships. I think this constant pain is changing my personality, and not for the better. Help? \n\nSummary of problems:\n\n-Left side back of neck pain/tightness (just to the left and up of the spine)\n-left shoulder pain/tightness, along with socket pain\n-dysphagia (left side of neck as well)\n-throat pain, focused on the 'tight' area\n-lower back pain, entirely on the left side", "summary": "I need a doctor that isn't my dad to tell me what's wrong with me. I am actually in the process of saving up enough money to go see a doctor (no health insurance), but until then I really just need the peace of mind that knowing or suspecting what's wrong with me will bring, if only for a little bit."}
{"id": "t3_2jxywd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my ex gf [16F] 1 year, Started talking again and..", "post": "So long story short i was the asshole that made me and my now ex gf break up about 6 months ago.\n\nI cheated on her when i get way to messed up at a party, and i made the worst mistake of my life i feel like, i have been unable to forgive myself for doing that to her, and had been depressed and unable to even get out and do much since then\n\nI cared quiet a bit about her and still checked up on her to make sure she was okay, but recently we lost contact for about 2 months and i was contacted by one of her friends because she was worried about the current relationship that my ex was in, apparently the guy told her he didn't want a label on there relationship because that was old fashioned, i found out from multiple lady friends of mine that he had been hooking up with there friends, telling them he was single.\n\nlong story short i texted her and basically spent a whole night talking to her on the phone trying to convince her of what he was doing, she finally talked to him about it and he finally admitted it, and she told him they needed to break up which they did.\n\nNow i didn't expect anything to come to this but we have been talking a lot again, and we hungout today and we kissed and hugged for a long time, the thing is i don't know what to do reddit, i still hate myself for what i did and i wanted her back even though i knew i didn't deserve her, and now i still want her back but i'm in a dilemma, because i want to make sure i never do that to her again. And i also wanna make sure that she isn't just doing this cause shes lonely too.\n\nExcuse my grammar i know it's bad", "summary": "ex gf broke up with me then got into a bad relationship which i helped end, and we are talking again."}
{"id": "t3_2s7rmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23 M] wait to break up with my girlfriend [22 F] of five months until after her big exam?", "post": "As per my previous [post] I think this isn't the right relationship and that we need to break up.\n\nHowever, she is in a very stressful period and has a big exam/thing (long story) she's been studying for for a while, coming up in a few weeks.\n\nSince we live in different cities we would normally only see each other once or twice in that time period, and will mostly converse by phone.\n\nThe breakup would kind of come out of the blue for her and I'm pretty sure it would negatively effect her ability to perform in this test. I do care about her and don't want to cause here unnecessary pain.\n\nShould it even be a consideration to possibly wait till after the test to do the deed or is keeping this to myself and \"leading her on\", pretending everything is normal with me worse? I know they say there is never a good time to be broken up with but this seems like a particularly bad time for her (and after the test she will have much more free time and less external worries)...", "summary": "What is worse, lying to try to benefit her in the now or honesty which could have dire results?"}
{"id": "t3_13a549", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Undergraduate Student with 0 credit, trying to find a simple way to build it.", "post": "I've tried applying for a few student cards, and a department store card and got denied on all four. I talked with my bank, and they can't directly offer me a CC, not even with a cosigner. I'd be an \"authorized user\" but that does not affect my credit one bit.\n\nI don't want to apply for any more cards, so as to not actually get a bad score, as currently I have no score. I was told by my banker that if I applied to too many and was denied too many times, I would eventually \"gain\" a bad score.\n\nI'm not really in the position to be able to get an apartment on my own due to where I live, it would be far too expensive to do. However I do realize that might be a last-resort sort of deal, if need be.\n\n##", "summary": "I'm 21 with a 0 credit score and need help. Student / Department Stores deny me, and renting isn't currently a favorable option. Help!***"}
{"id": "t3_q1r55", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Vacation rental company problem/question", "post": "I booked a cabin for this weekend. A lot of my friends couldn't make it. I switched to a smaller cabin a week ago. More of my friends couldn't make it. I tried to move the booking to a month later. They told me they would help me out and move it but charge a cancellation fee. Fair.\n\nBUT the reservation guy does some research and finds a few notes on the system. Basically, they are messy slobs and don't ever rent to him... basically blacklisted So he emails me and says he'll have to check with the manager.\n\nLater calls me, says he can move it, but will charge me TWO cancellation fees of $75 because I made 2 changes - one to the smaller and the date. ADDITIONALLY, they'll require a $250 cleaning deposit.\n\nFYI - i've been to this place at least once a year for 14-15 years\n\nIsn't this changing the terms of sale? Could I file a dispute with PayPal?", "summary": "I was a messy slob once and was blacklisted at a vacation property. They took my reservation and my money but now want to change terms of sale and back charge me a $75 fee they technically should have charged and require a $250 deposit they don't normally charge to anyone."}
{"id": "t3_l88pt", "subreddit": "college", "title": "No degree @ 28", "post": "Hopefully I'll be able to keep this relatively short. I also hope that this is the proper sub/r to submit this.\n\nMy 28th birthday just passed and I was rewarded with a warning of a layoff. I work at an IT help desk. I have no formal degree. I am a high school graduate.\n\nI have attended college. I went just after high school, like most. I only completed two semesters, however, before leaving. I went to school in NYC and, well, I spent too much time partying and doing drugs and I had to remove myself from the atmosphere. I came home and began working full time. Menial jobs. Maybe 10 bucks an hour if I was lucky. Flash forward 10 years and I make about 35k net.\n\nI am sick of not having staying power. I'm not being over critical of myself when I say that there is no reason for a company to invest in me long term. My best track record, and most relevant, is my current position, which I have held, without blemish, for 19 months.\n\nWe all hear advertisements for various non-traditional post-high school forms of higher learning. I refuse to waste my money at one of these fly-by-night institutions. I do not want an associates degree, I want a legitimate baccalaureate degree at the minimum.\n\nI would like to go into database design. You know, 'grow up' and be a DBA. Like any other college student, I'm not 100% certain that is where I want to go, but I have a very strong leaning in that direction.\n\nAll that being said, what kind of path should I be examining? I'm currently living in the Philadelphia, Pennsylvania area and I don't know where to begin. I'm wondering if a community college is my best bet, starting there in hopes of transferring as an adult student to a traditional four year institution like Temple or what-have-you. Is this my most promising course of action? Alternatively, are there legitimate online schools that serve this kind of purpose to \"adult\" (I do have to use the term loosely)", "summary": "I'm 28 with no degree. I don't want to waste my money. Community College? Online schools? I want a bachelor's degree, no associates. I am not unintelligent and I have (finally) developed a work ethic. "}
{"id": "t3_38jkv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21/F] break it off with my new BF [23/M] - I'm getting mixed signals and am confused with our current relationship", "post": "I've been friends with him for almost a year now, but recently in the last 3 months, we have been talking to each other non-stop. Our relationship blossomed when we started to hang out with one another every chance we got (whenever we were free from work and school). We got the chance to get to know each other better, had fun going to places, and just connected in a very deep, personal and emotional level.\n\nJust recently 2 weeks ago, he asked me to be his girlfriend because he wanted a serious relationship with me. I agreed to this, but then he started to act really weird. He didn't seem to want to spend time with me or make plans to hang out, he barely talked to me, and when he did, he acted aloof and indifferent to things I say.\n\nI confronted him about this twice. I'm not one to play games, so I told him if he wanted to break this off or no longer wanted to talk, please let me know. I also asked if anything was wrong between us. He went against me saying I was just paranoid and assuming things, and for me to stop over-thinking too much. \n\nI questioned if I was really just paranoid (it's possible!). So, I let it go...and still, he continued to act very distant and didn't really want to communicate.\n\nI am torn between not wanting to lose him because he's someone very close to me, but I don't want to pretend everything is okay to just find out later down the road he doesn't want to be with me anymore. \nI am just not sure if it's a problem on my end or there is something wrong going on, so, I need a perspective that is not my own. Please feel free to tell me what your opinion is!", "summary": "Friend and I got really close and he wanted us to be in an exclusive relationship. Since then, he's been acting different and doesn't seem to want to talk to me. Should I just break it off with him before things get worse?"}
{"id": "t3_4wo48a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26/m) have a crush on a girl. Only met her once. Takes too long to reply, and tells me she feels embarrassed as excuse. She seems shy about me, how could I proceed?", "post": "She is very cute, I met her traveling in another city with her mom, and because we live in the same city and we were going to return on the same flight, we spent a lot of time together. We got along well, I thought that she was into me... I never directly hit on her, but kind of teased her and had a good time, even her mom suggested her to do some activity together with me.\n\nMy phone is damaged and couldn't retrieve the number she gave me, so I added her on Facebook. She took like a week to add me as a friend, then like another week to reply to my message saluting. The other interactions have been like one reply a week on her part, sometimes the takes 2 weeks to answer. I ended up thinking that she doesn't care about me at all, which was weird because I got along with her very well.\n\nI liked her so much that I thought that I should try something before not contacting her anymore, so I asked her if she would like to go out with me because I like her. She replied \"Oh, you like me!, you can talk to me that way :)\" and \"what do you like about me?\" with some surprise smiley faces. I told her exactly how I felt about her, how beautiful she is to me and what aspects of her personality I enjoy... then, no reply at all!!\n\nJust communicating to her has been stressing somehow, because I really like her!, before giving up again... I sent a simple \"hi, how have you been\", thinking to myself that that was pathetic, pursuing a girl who is ignoring me, and she replied, \"I get too shy!!, how embarrassing\". I replied to her that we can talk about another topic, so I wrote about something else... but no reply again...\n\nDon't know what to do! Any advice? Why so much shyness? Is she playing with me? Does she likes me? Should I ignore her?", "summary": "Met girl who seemed interested, ignores me in instant messaging, she shows some interest and then she hides. As I have a huge crush on her would like to know how can I make something happen..."}
{"id": "t3_1v2mpu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my bf [24M] of 2 years, said something to upset him. Hasn't spoken or seen me for almost 2 weeks now.", "post": "On Dec. 29 was a terrible day for the both of us. We found out that his dog had escaped and got hit by a car. She did not make it and it just completely wrecked us. We have been together crying and being depressed out of our minds almost everyday after that. On January 1st I asked him if he wanted to go to the animal shelter, big mistake. I know how stupid it was and I regret even asking. The last text message he sent was this \"-_-\" and when I called on that same day to say I was at his place he only picked up and yelled \"What!?\" into the phone then hung up. Waited 30 minutes and he never came to the door so I left and thats the last of me having any contact with him.\n\nI try to text him and he won't reply, same with calling he won't answer. He lets his phone ring all the way through and only once or twice he would stop the call after two rings. He never said anything about breaking up with me, so I'm just really confused. We have a phone plan together and I got a message from our provider that he paid the bill in the same amount as it always is, but he hasn't asked for my half of the bill. He didn't remove me from his Steam friends list or DeviantArt friends list either. I also see him on those every so often. I have some of my stuff at his place and he has things at my place as well. So is there a chance hes just cooling off still or is he thinking about ending it with me? If so, why wait so long? Should I keep waiting it out or should I go over to his house to find him? I was thinking if he doesn't contact me by Friday I'd go over.\n\nI know he has a Reddit account, but I don't think hes the kind of guy to snoop through my stuff. If he does, I honestly don't care.", "summary": "Said the wrong thing, bf won't talk or see me."}
{"id": "t3_yqhpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29[f] engaged to 30[m], cohabitating. I want out.", "post": "Fiance and I have been together for 7 years, engaged for 7 months. I have come to the realization that I am not in love with him and do not want to continue the relationship any further. We still have 10 months left on our lease, and he is extremely sensitive. How do I get out of this with minimal damage? I know I'm going to break his heart, I just don't want it to be any worse than it has to. I am no longer attracted to him and feel nothing for him, even though I do like him as a person and care deeply for him. Sorry I'm rambling a bit here, feel free to ask if I left anything out.", "summary": "want to break off an engagement with minimal damage"}
{"id": "t3_2hlia1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18m] I'm obsessing over something (someone) that can never happen.", "post": "I'm sort-of a weird situation. \n\nFirst off, I'm gay. Nobody in my life as of yet knows, and I just began my senior year of high school. I don't have problems with my sexuality, I'm not lonely, I've got good friends, etc... but over the past month or so I've developed a crush on one of them. I've known him since ninth grade and never have I, until now, thought of him as more than just someone I talk to at school. \n\nI don't know what to do. \n\nI can't just give him the cold shoulder because I don't want to hurt his feelings or lose our friendship or come off as a complete asshole. It's not like I could, either; I have classes with him and sit with him at lunch. It's become such a problem that I don't think there has been a single day in these past weeks that I haven't thought about him; and when I do, I get this overwhelming sinking feeling of anxiety that interrupts everything I'm doing and consumes my mind", "summary": "I need some advice from anyone who has ever gotten over an insatiable crush, an ex, etc."}
{"id": "t3_1y25cl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New Member/Day 1 Thread", "post": "So I just stumbled on to this subreddit and it is just what I was looking for.  I saw the new member/day 1 thread on the sidebar but when I went into it, it was archived, so I figured a new thread couldn't hurt.\n\nHere's my story.  I am currently 211 pounds and semi-muscular. I am 5'6\" so am definitely above a healthy weight for myself.  I have been overweight since I was 18 years old (28 now).  I used to play multiple sports including co-ed competitive cheerleading which kept me in great shape.  In my junior year of high school I dislocated my shoulder while doing a backhand spring and exercise and eating right was never able to get back on track.\n\nI have tried on dozens of occasions to drop back to my goal weight of 175 and a fat % of between 10 and 15%.  The closest I've ever come to meeting that goal was 2 years ago when I did a weight loss challenge with a money prize.  I weighed in at 215 for that competition and in 4 months dropped from 215 and over 20% body fat to 188 and about 16% body fat.  Clothes from high school were fitting again.  I was healthy and happy and was doing great.  \n\nThen like I always did fell on hard times and started drinking more beer, smoking more weed, eating horribly, and stopped exercising completely.  I barely drink now.  I quit smoking.  I just need to get back to eating better foods and regular exercise.\n\nMy girlfriend is very much about me being happy and doesn't care about my weight but she wouldn't be upset if I ate better, exercised and got more fit.  I think what i've been missing is support to push me when I don't feel like doing what I should be.", "summary": "Want to drop weight from 210 to 175.  Need to eat better and exercise.  Need a little push."}
{"id": "t3_1w5x30", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents [64M+54F] are seriously straining the relationship between my sister [24F] and I [21F]", "post": "My parents are very proud of me.  That is good.  They brag about me a lot.  This is not good.\n\nI am so incredibly embarrassed.  They brag about me when I'm not there, but my Dad will even do it right in front of me.  He will brag about me to other people *when I am standing right there*.  I'll be with him at a hockey game and he'll say \n>'flyzombie, tell my buddy here all about your new job, and about your grades last term!' (I'm exaggerating but you get the point) \n\nI have asked him to stop and he'll stop for the rest of the night, but the next day he'll be talking about me again.\n\nThis has strained the relationship between my sister and I.  We were terrible to each other as kids, but once she moved out we became best friends.  She now works with my parents at our 'mom and pop' shop, while I'm away at school most of the time.\n\nShe has told me about several encounters where customers at the shop *did not know my parents had 2 children*.  She will say she is my parents' daughter, customers will ask how school is, and she will awkwardly say, 'Wrong kid', or 'That's my sister'.  My parents don't say anything about my sister, but go on and on about me.\n\nI have spoken with both of my parents about this.  The problem is, they talk about me to customers, then when the customers come back, they go and ask about me to be polite, and my parents talk more.  It's a vicious and embarrassing cycle, especially because my parents talk about me in front of my sister, and have nothing to say about her.\n\nMy parents just don't get the hint.  I've asked them outright to stop it, but that's changed nothing.  My sister says she's okay with it, she just gets embarrassed too, but I can tell she's somewhat bitter about it, god I would be too.  We're all embarrassed.  Except my parents.", "summary": "My parents brag about me and not about my sister, how can I get them to stop this! My sister says she's fine with it but I can tell she isn't"}
{"id": "t3_44cls7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F,22] create more intimacy with my boyfriend [M,25]?", "post": "We have been together over a year. Recently we told each other we loved each other and I truly meant it. \n\nHowever there is one thing that is keeping me from feeling like this is a perfect match: we don't have great, long, soul searching conversations. It feels like a lot of our conversations are small talk. \n\nIt almost feels like we skipped the lovey dovey perfection and got straight to being an elderly couple, comfortable and happy with each other.\n\nHave you been in similar situations? Have you any words of advice to help me spark more intimacy and passion? \n\nThank you for your help.", "summary": "too much small talk not enough soul bearing. What do? How fix?"}
{"id": "t3_3dwqp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (21F) wants to smoke, I (21M) get naseous at the smell of smoke. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months, and I love her. I truely do. And I am pretty sure the feelings reciprocated. \n\nBut recently we have hit a bump in our relationsship. Before we started dating, she used to smoke, but she stopped a bit before we got serious, partly because I can't stand it, but also for herself I believe. \n\nHowever the past two days she has started smoking again. Two days ago she snuck a smoke in the bathroom before walking her dogs, hoping I wouldn't notice. But I did. Then yesterday she wasn't feeling well, so after having an argument, in which I really tried to explain to her how I feel about this, she went and smoked a cigarette before going to bed to relax. \n\nNow my problem with smoking is the fact that I can always smell it. And I can't stand it. I feel sick whenever I smell it and I can't stand being around her for at least 12 hours whenever she smokes. \n\nShe recently moved in with her mom who smokes, which she claims is the reason why she has suddenly felt the need to smoke again. \n\nI just don't know if it's me being unreasonable or not when I tell her that I don't want her to smoke. I don't want to end things, but I also can't stand having to push her away when we sleep, when I am used to falling asleep with her in my arms.", "summary": "girlfriend wants to smoke again, I can't stand it. Tried telling her my feelings, she still wants to. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3fggja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] Boyfriend [21M] Wants To Go to a Casino, I Don't Approve", "post": "We've been together for almost 5 years. My boyfriend just turned 21 a couple weeks ago and he's talking about going to the casino with some friends tonight, I'm totally against this as I think it's a waste of money and the odds are against you. And it can become a dangerous habbit, even though he thinks if he just does it in \"moderation\" it's fine. When I expressed my concern about it he said something about me thinking I'm his mother, even though I told him I'd let him go if I was with him and that I just think his friends might encourage him to be irresponsible. I hate when he makes comments like that about me being controlling and I think there's a difference between controlling and caring, what should I do? Who's in the right?", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to go to the casino, I told him I don't want him to, he's saying I'm controlling."}
{"id": "t3_ado8f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit: Who suffers from Migraine?  Any luck with treatments?", "post": "I started getting \"classic migraines\" (with aura) back in high school, 3-5 a month, sometimes more.  They tend to last 12-72 hours on average.  The bad ones (at least half) leave me unable to move.  This has been going on for the past 16 years.  Some months are better than others, some are worse.  \n\nI've tried a variety of pharmaceutical treatments; pain relief, abortive, and prophylactic.  All have their pro's and cons, mostly cons.  None of them work 100% of the time, the ones that do tend to help have unpleasant side-effects.  I have also tried a few illicit drugs with somewhat limited success.  Marijuana changes the way the pain feels, but does this is such a way that I notice it more.  I tried sub-hallucinogenic amounts of LSD in the past with surprisingly good results (or maybe not surprisingly, since ergotamine--which is a treatment for migraine--is a precursor of LSD), unfortunately it's quite hard to come by or I would use it more often.  I've not tried shrooms, but have been curious.  \n\nI kept a migraine journal for almost a year in order to try to identify triggers.  I found no rhyme or reason.  \n\nMigraines have led to relationship problems for me due to having to skip plans, among other things.  I have also lost 3 jobs due to not being able to work when I have debilitating migraines, combined with sub-par performance when I force myself to get to work with less severe ones.  \n\nI know from experience that most people that don't get migraine do not understand that it's a bit different than just \"a headache\", and I've not once been able to take a tylenol, excedrin, or other over-the-counter stuff I've been offered and have it even remotely touch the pain.  I have heard the pain described as having a root canal with no anasthetic.  I've never had a root canal so I cannot comment on that.  \n\nInterested in hearing how other migraineurs here on Reddit cope.", "summary": "I've had migraines for over half of my life that have affected my personal and professional life.  Who gets migraines?  What treatments have you tried?"}
{"id": "t3_1p8lcf", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Abused resource guarding dog rubbing off on younger dog, I need help to stop this.", "post": "We have a husky that we found on the street a few years ago, we believe he's between 3 and 5. It is extremely evident that he's been beaten and neglected, but we've been working with him. He's no longer shy and fearful (most of the time) but food, treats and toys are a NO ZONE. We've gotten him to stop snapping at people, but he still growls, barks and attacks other dogs around \"his\" items. I'm not sure we can progress much further with that aspect of his training. \n\nAbout a year ago, we got a Shiba Inu, he's now about a year and 2-3 months old. He's been extremely good with toys, food and treats around all people, but I'm noticing that he's getting more and more aggressive. Our husky has nipped him and even attacked him a few times, and now the Shiba is exhibiting the same behavior. Tonight, the Shiba started growling and snapping at our husky, and to be honest, it scared me so bad that I reacted pretty negatively. I'm trying to use positive reinforcement at all times, it works so well, but I yelled and popped him. I hate it. I never want to do that. I don't know where it came from. \n\nI removed the husky from the situation before it escalated any further, but I've been noticing my Shiba getting more and more dog aggressive. I have no idea what to do. \n\nOne last thing: last month my Shiba met my brothers 2-3 year old Pitbull. He IMMEDIATELY went 0 to 60, screaming, bristled and lunging. So lucky he was leashed and my brothers pit is well trained. I have no idea what to do with that either. Shibas are notoriously hard to train, I've had a hell of a time. He's very distractable and reactionary. I don't know how to cut that out.", "summary": "Please just read it. You need to know the situation to be able to help."}
{"id": "t3_2a9dh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/M] just got out of a 2.5 year relationship with [20/F]. Ended on mutual terms, still feel awful. Need some advice.", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nMy ex [20/F] and I broke up around 2 weeks ago. It was a mutual break up, I am leaving in the fall to a different city to go pursue athletic dreams of mine, and she didn't want to come with me. Both of us didn't want to be in a LDR.  On top of that, both of us noticed there we were drifting apart, the relationship wasn't the greatest. We sat down, had a long talk, and we decided that maybe we should end this. There was no fight, it was very amicable. \n\nI was okay for the first 2 days, maybe it was denial? Then I just crashed. I'm sad and lonely. I tried to maintain no contact, but I broke it a couple times (I know, my bad). I still think I'm in denial, because I can't wrap my head around that we aren't together anymore. I am still afraid of building relationships (friendships) with women, because there's a voice in the back of my head saying \"but what if you two get back together?\" I'm afraid of doing most things: Hit up the club with friends, go out to the pub, stuff like that. Because of what my ex would think.\n\nThis was my first serious relationship, and I don't know how to handle it being over. Any advice from people who have been in my shoes, or just know the ropes?", "summary": "Break up after 2.5 years. Very amicable. Can't wrap my head around that we aren't together anymore. Letting it hold me back from doing things. Need some advice."}
{"id": "t3_194emd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This is the closest I've been to being cheated on - and it feels awful.", "post": "This is the closest I've been to being cheated - and it feels awful. It's been 24 hours and I still am going through a range of emotions ranging from anger and sadness  to uncertainty and denial. There is also guilt but that is from my own doing.\n\n I am a very private person and I value it dearly but last night, I came across her computer with skype on and I couldn't help but glance at a conversation she had with her ex yesterday afternoon. It turns out the two of them have i guess made up to a certain extent and it just hurt so bad to read things like \"I love you baby. I miss you too, etc etc\" - \n\nMy relatioonship with this girl started with a one night stand that progressed very quickly to a regular friends with benefits that then steadily onto what I now realize as a very one sided \"relationship\" - one where I now realise that i have foolishly have fallen for her.  The really funny thing is , this girl treats me like a king. Literally, every time I'm over (very often) she'll make wonderful meals for us, will go out of her way to make sure i'm comfortable and just gave me the vibe that she really cared for me. How is a guy NOT supposed to fall for that. I've always tried to deny any sort of feelings for her but after seeing her conversation on skype it made me realise how much I actually like her. \n\nAlthough we were never in a real relationship, i feel so sad and used. But I dont' know if reaction is because my ego has been hurt or I truly like her. I also of course want to confront her about how she kept the fact that she was with her bf again from me. If I know a girl is with someone I would NEVER even think of being the guy she cheats with. I dont' even know where to begin. \n\nShould I talk to her about it or just let is slide and suck it up and just move away from her? After all we were never in a relatioship? Fuck, fucking ego and pride. \n\n(", "summary": "snooped into girl i'm sleeping with's skype convo with her ex. In the process, I realise they're back together but she hasn't told me; I also now THINK I've actually fallen to her and hence, feel devastated. Should I confront her or let it slide since we weren't really dating in the first place?)"}
{"id": "t3_2q7ii6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my roommates the first episode of Twin Peaks", "post": "The following contains very mild spoilers for Twin Peaks\n\nSo I'm a huge fan of Twin Peaks and had been wanting to show my roommates it for a while and, with the announcement of new episodes in 2016, now seemed like the perfect time. About halfway through the first episode, when Laura Palmer's death is unceremoniously announced over the school's PA system, I looked around to gage the reactions of my roommates only to see that one of them, let's call him Kevin, is slumped over and has his head in his hands. At first I thought he was sleeping, I had seen him sleep like this before, but then we noticed that he was actually sobbing quite heavily. As it turns out, unbeknownst to me, one of his best friends in high school had died in a car crash junior year and the way he found out was an announcement over the speaker and this scene caused all that pain to flood back. I felt so bad even though I had no prior knowledge of this event. \n\nEpilogue: Kevin came back and finish the episode and he like it, we are continuing it right after we get back from winter break.", "summary": "Dead character, bad memories, and some damn fine coffee"}
{"id": "t3_1vezs0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my dating [18 F] Unsure what really is going on.(About 4 months)", "post": "Hello everyone, well Im kind of confused as if where I am in a relationship with this girl. Problem is, we hangout and go on these random \"dates\" which we don't really call dates its basically us just going out for dinner or coffee or movie etc. just do all types of stuff the two of us. Now I've like this girl for a while now but I've never actually brought it up I've just ind of tried to show it in my actions and things we do. What do you all think? Im simply confused as where to go from here.", "summary": "Do a bunch of things with a girl I really like such as go out to dinners and movies and such but not sure what stage our relationship is at."}
{"id": "t3_3onvu3", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Trying to mix-and-match bridesmaid dresses and I'm looking for help/opinions", "post": "I need some fresh eyes on my mix-and-match bridesmaid attempt for a Kate Spade styled wedding. I'll make this quick: \n\n* My wedding is March in Key West (yay!). The weather should be mild (70s-80s). Weather permitting, the event will take place outside in the gardens of a historic home. I'm want the affair to feel like Kate Spade Garden Dinner Party - classic, but fun. Main color is navy with accents of green, pink, and metallics. \n\n* My first instinct was to put the girls in long dresses but the choices are less fun. Since this is a garden wedding in a tropical place, I don't want them to look overdone (or want the girls to be uncomfortable!). I found some shorter dresses that I LOVE but I'm unsure if my mixing and matching works or not. \n\n* Here are the four combinations I'm considering: [", "summary": "Kate Spade inspired garden wedding in Key West. Want to do mix-and-match bridesmaid dresses but I'm fashionably challenged and looking for feedback on these combos. "}
{"id": "t3_4qm4ve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 M] being made the family scapegoat.", "post": "A few weeks ago I made a post asking advice for being treated badly by my family because of a leg injury,but now it has seriously gotten worse .Basically everything that's on this has happened to me,\nMy (younger brother) treats me badly.\nMy fathers mother calling me mentally disturbed and crazy.\n\nMy dad hitting me at every little thing.My mothers grandparents trying to ruin my japanese learning books.\nMy mother (Who works in the school I go to) spreading false stories about me.\nAlmost everyone blaming me when something goes wrong and making fun of me.\n\nI tried talking with them but it didn't work. Anything else I can do to fix this mess ?", "summary": "bullied by my whole family."}
{"id": "t3_2o04y0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my nephew a Christmas present", "post": "Happened yesterday but the pain is still fresh.\n\nMy nephew is two years old and as such is really into the Melissa and Doug type toys (wooden toys/puzzles/games, etc).  In an effort to help him with facial recognition for family he doesn't see as often, such as grandparents, I decided to make him a little puzzle with his grandparent's faces to match up.  No big deal, I'm just getting started into woodworking so this should be easy.\n\nStep one is to cut some wood down to the size of the puzzle.  Easy peasy, two cuts on the table saw.  Cut one, done.  Cut two, done...almost.  I pulled the left piece off the saw and thought the right piece was well clear of the blade.  NOPE.  The blade grabs the leftover piece of wood and hurls straight at me.  You know what part of the body is the same height as a table saw?  The left testicle.  I guess the silver lining is that I didn't go face first into the saw when I doubled over.  Nothing permanently damaged (I think) and a good lesson learned.", "summary": "Tried making a puzzle for my nephew and the saw flung part of it into my favorite testicle."}
{"id": "t3_1lbk35", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cutting my scrotum with childs scissors.", "post": "I have lurked this subrreddit for a while snd thought I would never join the ranks but today my day has come. So I have been dating this girl for a few months and I thought it was time to trim the bush,  so to speak. I also recently moved out of home, but when I was living there I did the trimming with scissors (sense an issue yet?) and a razor to polish it off. \n\nI needed a pair of scissors and the only options at the supermarket were $9 super dooper ones or childs ones for $3. Kids it is. Got home and started to remove hair as normal,  but started to rush as I have to go somewhere tonight. Then suddenly a shock of pain shot through me, and I look down to find I have cut my ballsack along that ridge bit between the two halves. It's stopped bleeding now so I finished the rest as best I could. Hopefully sex tonight isnt too painful :/", "summary": "Should upgrade my pube cutting tools."}
{"id": "t3_cjmf2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wife has clinical depression.  Advice?", "post": "So my wife has suffered from clinical depression for a long time.  Previously she was medicated but we recently had a baby and she's had to go off her meds since she found out she was pregnant.  As a consequence life at home is becoming impossible and I don't know how much more I can take.  My son (from a previous relationship) is visiting, and she has been verbally abusive towards him.  I defend him and give him as much love as possible, as well as my newborn son, which seems to further drive my wife into her depression.  She has angry outbursts, slamming doors, cranking up the stereo, leaving the house, crying, screaming, cursing, all around my kids and I'm to the point where I don't want them in this environment.  It recently got out of control enough that the cops had to be called to the house.  \n\nShe's currently seeing a therapist once a week and we've discussed her going back on her meds but she's so committed to breastfeeding and I don't want the medication to effect my son.  I've suggested that we switch to formula so that she can get the medication she needs, but anyone who's ever dealt with an unmedicated depressive will know how that went over.  \n\nBasically I feel like I'm at the end of my rope.  I can't take anymore of her anger directed at my kids or at me, and if she's not willing to do what she needs to do to get help then I don't feel like there's any options left.  On the other hand I don't want to leave my newborn son in a situation with a crazy depressive woman to raise him and damage his psyche in the way that hers is damaged.  REDDIT what do I do!!!", "summary": "My depressed wife doesn't want meds, I want to leave but can't imagine leaving my son."}
{"id": "t3_x5efz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The girl I'd been seeing for about half a year decided to end it but took 2 weeks of silence to (kind of) tell me. And now I can't get a response for an apology, help?", "post": "Here's the story: I know this girl from going to school and college with her for quite a while. At the start of the year I fell for her and vice versa. Much wonderful sex and dates were had, she tells me she loves me pretty much all the time for 4 or 5 months. Then one date she seems distant and cold, claims to be fine, we arrange another date. Then I send a casual text asking if she's still up for it; nothing. All forms of communication; nothing. A week later she says she's having a funny point at the moment an needs to sort things out with herself. She also says how she still loves me and I say I'll do what I can to help. Super duper right? \n\nFast forward a week of casual chatting then nothing for 2 weeks. I want to know what's up so send a few messages her way with no reply. I see her in person and ask if she wants to talk, she says yes but then disappears before we do. I had to find out from someone else that she was with some other guy suddenly and when I asked her about it, she just said 'well now you know' and that was it. Enter sadness.\n\nMy problem is that I want her to know that I'm sorry for being a jerk and not realising what was going on. I want her to know that I'm just pleased she's happy even if it isn't with me and that she made me the happiest I have ever been. So I said this and I got no response. I'm losing sleep over this and can't think of anything else, all I want is for what I'm saying to be acknowledged for, y'know, closure reasons. Did I fuck up?", "summary": "Girlfriend left me for some other guy, I found out from someone else after everyone else knew, how do I get a response from her so I can get some sleep."}
{"id": "t3_ls26r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think about people that hate on reddit, yet stay and complain?", "post": "I have come across a lot of people that claim reddit is not full of enough intelligent people or that it's too childish, boring, unoriginal and stupid, yet instead of finding a particular forum or website to have meaningful conversations on, they stay and just complain. There are some serious subreddits, but they still lurk on the ones they claim are full of idiots. What do you think about these types of people? Reddit is filled with a lot of silly, crazy, weird, funny and immature subreddits, but that's what makes it Reddit! No sense in being on here if you can't laugh or ignore/downvote something you don't like and move along.", "summary": "What do you think about people that complain about reddit, yet stick around and complain more instead of going elsewhere?"}
{"id": "t3_17lqf7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "SV! Down Seven Pounds!!! But working out too much?", "post": "I'm 5'8 f started at 183.5 and weighed in at 176.5 this morning! From last January to last may I gained 20 lbs!! I had been slowly gaining since high school (when I was 149), but last winter I came back from a semester in Europe didn't realize how my body would react to American portions again. I've been eating healthily, am eating much less meat and way more fresh veggies, and more \"good\" fats. However, I am concerned that I'm working out too much and that I might not be able to keep these workouts up. I've been doing an hour of cardio every other day (30 mins on the other days) on top of an hour and a half ballet class. According to MFP, I usually burn anywhere from 400-750 calories a workout. Is this too much?", "summary": "is 2-2.5 hours a day of cardio/cardio ish exercise too much?"}
{"id": "t3_1wnpty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) can't decide if I'm mad at my bf (55M).", "post": "We have been dating for over a year and everything is great. He went on a business trip with some of his best friends and they went to the strip club. He didn't tell me at first, he just said that they \"went to a few bars\". And the. I made a joke about lap dances and he said something along the lines of \"they didn't get a cent out of me because I have the best gf ever\". So at least he didn't lie about it, but he did try to hide it.\n\nAnyways, I'm pretty sure even though he didn't buy lap dances himself that his friends probably bought them for him. \n\nShould I just forget about this? Should I question him further? Is this normal? \n\nHe treats me really well and I know he would never cheat on me.", "summary": "boyfriend went to strip club with his buddies, should I just ignore it or be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_b6ouc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Explain the war in Afghanistan to me", "post": "I'm shipping out to Afghanistan in a few weeks. I had been active duty Navy for 6 years in submarines before getting out and into the Navy Reserve. What I'll be doing isn't particularly interesting, but I will probably be in the field a lot.\n\nI'm fortunate enough to be around some very smart people in the military. There is never a straight or consistent answer as to why the US and Coalition forces are in Afghanistan - from both officer and enlisted. To help me figure out the whats and whys, I've read a lot of very good books and been involved in work to support the guys/girls over there.\n\nEvery opportunity to talk with guys getting back from deployment has gotten some odd answers. The usual is to track down alQaeda and Taliban. I like that answer, it's very simple and direct. The problem is, when you get into some really far out stuff (like the geographical strategic importance of Afghanistan in maintaining air superiority in the Gulf) it really makes you wonder why.\n\nI usually give an answer about hunting terrorists and the like for people when they ask me. If they want to know more, I explain that terrorists refuse to engage in diplomacy before combat like everyone else. There is a lot of validity to that from the work I've done and the returning soldiers I've talked to.\n\nAnyway, the picture on reddit this evening about the poor man that had half of his head removed (an explosion?) with his mother hugging him made me ask this. What happens is, as a soldier/sailor, parents ask you why their child died or why they have to be over there. There probably isn't any perfect explanation to a parent (especially those who don't know how/why America does what it does in the world) to why, but I can try and get close to it.\n\nLook, here's the", "summary": "I'm heading out soon to be part of something that I believe is necessary and right. I say that from first and second-hand experience. The internet and news doesn't do the US and Coalition forces any justice. So, when I am asked by civilians and parents of deployed/deceased soldiers, I need a better response than \"hunting terrorists\". However valid that may be. Please provide links."}
{"id": "t3_3eadp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my girlfriend [27 M/F] of 3 years, she talks about her work way too much, and I cannot get myself to listen to what she says.", "post": "We've been having a long distance relationship since we've both graduated from the same college in 2012. I can't really complain about anything, except that she talks too much about her work. Every day she calls me and talks about boring uneventful happenings of her day. It seems to be important to her to talk about her happenings everyday, but it's boring the hell out of me.\n\nShould I be listening harder? How can I do this? Should I be blunt and tell her to stop talking about her work so much? I've told her secveral times to summarize her stories more to the point, but she can't seem to do that. It's starting to become dreadful when I see that she's calling because I know that all I'll be saying is \"uhuhm\" for the next 20 minutes. And then she'll be like \"are you even listening\"? \n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "GF talks about her work too much. Should I listen harder, or tell her to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_14208z", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Revenge on a douche customer.", "post": "I work at a McDonald's which has a two-lane drive thru, and I am usually in the hole (The first window, where the money is collected for both lanes.) \n\nI love being back there, it is the simplest job and I am not bothered by any of the other employees, so I do the best I can to ensure the managers always put me back there, which means reading every order back to every customer and asking if that is what they ordered.\n\nOn this particular day however, there were two orders on my screen. One was for a cup of Coffee ($1.09 after tax) and the other was for a bunch of items which totaled to about $12.\n\nWhen the first customer pulled up, I asked him how his day was going, then asked him if he ordered the coffee. He didn't respond to me, but instead threw his card at me while obnoxiously blowing cigarette smoke through the window at me.\n\nSo, I paid off both orders on his card and when the next car came through, I told them that the previous car paid for their order.", "summary": "Douche bag customer paid $13 for a cup of coffee."}
{"id": "t3_3674s1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Current job allows for flexibility during work hours and subsidizes travel - looking for a side hustle. Whatcha got, PF?", "post": "So I recently started a job that has me largely working from home and driving around my metro area. It's a sales job, so I'm paid mileage(when on appointments) and a stipend for my vehicle. I'm going to need to upgrade my car before too terribly long, and I want to put down a significant amount. I'd like to put together the cash for this payment from funds earned through a side gig. Not so much because I couldn't manage to save the cash myself, more as a project and a way to keep myself productive.\n\nGiven my unique job situation, I'm able to carve out time here and there during business days and also have some of the costs of travel subsidized so it seems wise to take advantage of that. At the moment I don't have any productive hobbies, unfortunately. My first thought was Uber, but I think that would make it way easier to get caught \"double dipping\". My first venture is going to be thrifting and reselling 100% wool jackets/suits on CL and offering delivery for a small additional fee. I live near an affluent suburb, so I think I could keep a pretty decent inventory on hand and I don't think the time investment will get to be too daunting once I have a couple of templates for listing completed. Any other ideas or pitfalls/opportunities I'm not considering right now? What do you do for additional income?", "summary": "Looking for a side hustle, travel costs covered by main gig, first attempt will be thrifting suits/jackets and reselling with delivery. Any other ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_31eu5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F18) dad (50) keeps nagging me to add him on FB", "post": "long story short, our relationship is as shitty as they get, I can't stand the sight of him due to tons of crap he has done but that he likes to pretend never happened.\n\nI added him by mistake a week ago and deleted him quickly, but he noticed and sent me a long ass message (he LOVES to dramatize everything like he's in a soap opera or something) asking why I deleted him and have him blocked.\n\nHe's a nasty person all around and loves to continuosly check on everything (he had a keylogger on the only computer we had until I bought my own) and I really don't wanna make things easier for him.\n\nWhat can I say or do to justify not adding him? Direct answers such as \"you're horrible, you snoop too much, I don't want you on my FB\" will result in shitstorms so lets try to avoid that.", "summary": "dad sucks, don't wanna add him on fb."}
{"id": "t3_un7vc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today has by far been one of my worst in recent months... I want to hear your work horror stories.", "post": "I'm in the USAF and in the fire department. I was asked to do a wing FOD walk which is about 1/4 mile of walking half the flight line in one direction, when myself and the other guy with me finished I called out dispatcher and told him to send someone out to pick us up, since we obviously didn't want to make that walk yet again in the growing Texas heat. He said he would and 30 minutes later we find ourselves walking back being passed by our brothers in other trucks NOT picking us up. By the time we get right out in front of the station we see the truck meant to pick us up coming toward us and stopping asking why we didn't call?! The fuck? \n\nSo I go about my day of being shuffled around to other rigs and I do my thing, on the way to the training pit to do an operations check on my rig alone I get there to find my fuel tank cap was cross threaded and came off spewing fuels down the side. AWESOME. After I finish my duties I go to leave and only realize when I wasn't moving that I had left my vehicle chalks in place under the wheels. \n\nHalf way through the day I'm put on the worst rig that gets called out for useless standbys in a shanty trailer in BFE with water I wouldn't piss in much less drink or wash my hands with until about 2 am!! So here I am writing this!!\n\nSo tell me your war stories and the battle scars you were left with after a horrible day at work friends!!", "summary": "shitty day at work first thing in the morning and got worse progressively through out the day."}
{"id": "t3_2nia0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [27 F] 3.5 years, Finished myself off in the shower while we got ready for work.", "post": "Was getting ready for work at the same time as my gf. I popped in the shower while she was doing makeup and hair.\nWe havent been intimate in nearly a month and I have had any gratification for nearly ywo weeks. I needed some stress relief and had no time to wait.\n\nShe saw and texted me later that it was kinda wierd. I told her its been awhile and I needed to and that I didnt think it was that wierd and pretty normal really.\n\nShe continued to say that if anyone heard I did that they would also think it was wierd and that it really grossed her out.\n\nKinda feel like shit about it but I didnt think It was that strange. Am I the odd one here is this not acceptable?", "summary": "jerked it while girlfriend in same washroom as me/is this pretty gross of me?"}
{"id": "t3_yz0z0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy I'm seeing still has a thing for his old crush. [21F, 23M]", "post": "I started dating this guy, we'll call him Tom, a couple of weeks ago. We sort of knew each other for a while (less than a year) since we hang out in the same circles. I'm very attracted to him and was considering the possibility of something more serious until his best friend revealed some not so flattering details about him a few nights ago. We were all hanging out together when his best friend mentioned how relieved he was that Tom stopped going after girls named Julia. I was confused at first, but Tom brushed the joke aside and changed the subject rather quickly. \n\nI'm not the type of person to let things go that easily. I pulled his best friend aside later on that night and asked him flat out what he meant by his little quip. He told me that Tom had a crush on a girl named Julia in high school, but it didn't go anywhere because she lived in a different part of the country. Since then Tom got into a series of relationships with other girls named Julia, the most recent of which ended sometime last year. After telling me all of this, his friend then tried to reassure me that it wasn't a big deal anymore and that it was all just a phase. But how could a phase last that long?\n\nI've been doing a little digging of my own (they're facebook friends!) and I found out that this girl has had a huge influence on his life, particularly in terms of his tastes and interests. Now I'm feeling a little insecure and creeped out. It looks like she was \"the one that got away\" and he's since been searching for someone like her or otherwise settling. I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him or if I should confront him or what. A confrontation seems premature considering we only started dating two weeks ago. I really like this guy, though...but which parts of him are real and which parts of him are still attached to his old crush?", "summary": "I just found out the guy I'm dating still has a thing for an old high school crush and I'm wondering if I should continue dating him."}
{"id": "t3_3ds9do", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "cat won't use litter box", "post": "I found this cat at a shelter today that I absolutely love.  He was declawed and then someone let him go instead of turning him into a shelter.  So he lived on the street for a while without claws -- which they think led him to scavenging more than a cat normally would; i.e., a cat would normally hunt but since he was limited in his hunting he had to eat trash and stuff.  Anyway, he has the best personality I've ever come across and is adorable.  They said that he is not consistent about using a litter box and they think it's because maybe he has GI issues from living on the street.  They have him on a special diet and use a towel instead of litter because before when they had a blanket he would use that rather than the litter box.\n\nI may try having him for a week for an experiment to see how he does in my home and want to see if I can do anything to make him better about using the litter box. Any suggestions? I read somewhere cats that grew up outside often prefer dirt to litter since that's what they used.  I can try that. Anybody else have any suggestions?", "summary": "Cat from the streets won't use standard litter box. Alternative approaches?"}
{"id": "t3_4ra7iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help. I (19/F) am in love with my best friend/ex (19/M)", "post": "So here's the deal. I am in love with my best friend who happens to be my ex. He loves me too, but we can't be together because we have had too many issues that we cannot resolve. At least not right away. But we don't want to lose each other. So we decided to stay best friends. Who love each other. It's working for now, but I'm worried about bringing up something from the past unintentionally and making stuff harder.\n\nWe're together because someday we hope to work through our differences, when we're more mature because these issues can be resolved with a little maturity. I'm worried I could lose him to someone even though deep down I know I won't. Is staying best friends with your ex a good idea? Even if he won't leave me for someone else?", "summary": "Me and my ex, decided to stay best friends because we're in love and despite our differences, cannot lose each other. We sort of do everything people in relationships do, except saying ilys or having sex. But we cuddle, tickle each other, kiss a lot and eat together in bed. We're kind of exclusive too. We don't want to see other people. Is this the right thing to do if we hope to be together someday?"}
{"id": "t3_3vwi15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23F one sided crush on a fwb 27M who isn't looking for anything serious", "post": "Coming down with a hard case of cuffing season guys :( \n\nI've been using tinder for casual dating/hookups for over half a year now and after a good number of dates, have not come across anyone I really connect with. Well there was one guy that I wanted to become exclusive with but he wasn't ready. Anyway the connection factor wasn't actually super important anyway since if I wasn't interested I'd just move on to the next.  \n\nA month ago I went on a tinder date with this guy who I had a great time with. We've hung out and hooked up a few times now. It's VERY casual since we established that we both aren't looking for anything serious. We only text to arrange times to see each other. If I'm being completely honest with myself there actually isn't that great of chemistry between us either. We're just both pretty laid back and easy going people so hanging out is always a fun time. I do get the feeling that I'm more of an option to him vs him being a preference for me though..  \n\nI don't know what to do. I realize it's unhealthy for me to start fantasizing about him and putting him on a pedestal because now my other tinder dates aren't measuring up to my experience with him. \n\nI'm aware of how fwbs work. I knoww this is just a hopeful and pointless daydream on my end. It definitely mostly sucks for me since I like him so much right now.  \n\nOh and not sure if this matters or helps but we also both live in a big urban city so.. yes plenty of other options..", "summary": "How can I get over a one sided crush on someone who isn't looking for anything serious? I've already been on more dates (have more arranged) to keep my options open but the heart wants what the heart wants."}
{"id": "t3_50jppz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by topping up my oil", "post": "Yesterday, I performed the monthly sacrifice of oil demanded by the gods of 20-year-old Toyotas. I drove to work and back, with no inkling of the hell I was making for myself. \n\nToday, I get to work and park right next to the smoking area. I'm having my \"not this fucking place again\" smoke and I glance at my car. There's oil slowly dripping down the grill. Thinking my car had finally bitten the dust, I popped the bonnet to see what had gone. There's oil everywhere. \n\nEverywhere. \n\nI'd forgotten to put the cap back on after filling it. I can't find the fucking thing anywhere and I get to clean my engine as penance for my stupidity.", "summary": "changed my oil, engine is soiled."}
{"id": "t3_21p9ze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with undefined [21M] for ~a year, just told him I liked him, is this a major red flag? :(", "post": "Sorry for the ramble, this just happened. So I've been sleeping with/chatting to (fairly long distance) this guy for a little under a year - it's been pretty casual but recently I started developing feelings and I felt like he liked me too, maybe, so today I decided to ask him once and for all.\n\nHe said he likes what he's seen so far and we agreed we should see how it goes with a view to maybe going out one day (we've only met in person 5 times but the chemistry is great) and I was really happy, I didn't want to jump into a relationship but it was good to know he has been thinking about maybe stepping it up one day too.\n\nBut then he starts talking about this girl who broke his heart back in September. He talks about her for 25 minutes without me getting a word in edgeways. She was apparently a massive bitch who slept with him for about a year and he kept asking, why can't we have more? But she could never say why not and dragged it out. And now he hates her for it. He sees her around and she is rude to him apparently. And he said that if she changed her mind he would still have feelings for her but that will never happen.\n\nI have been in a relationship before where the guy was obsessed with a past flame who turned him down. I don't know if I'm being paranoid. But in the very conversation where we were maybe talking about having a future together - he brings this girl up? In a 25 minute monologue?\n\nDo I just cut all contact now before I get hurt? Or does he deserve a chance? I really really like him and he likes me too, but he would be with the other girl if she'd have him, and the fact he brought up 'converting' their sexual relationship into a romantic one - and never brought that up with me - seems weird too. He says he is totally over her but that she makes him angry because of how she mistreated him.\n\nReddit, what should I do? :(", "summary": "told FWB who I am falling for that I liked him so I could cut my losses if necessary - woo, he likes me too and wants to see where it goes. But he is hung up/angry about a girl from his past who didn't want more. I'm not sure whether to be happy - or cut all contact"}
{"id": "t3_20rusl", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Getting a weird burning headache if I breathe too heavily through my nose. Thoughts?", "post": "Hey everyone, first off sorry if this has been answered before somewhere - I searched every combination of words I could think of both in this sub and on Google and haven't found anything relevant. \n\nI've been running somewhat inconsistently for about a year now. In January I ran a 10k with a friend, and did really poorly. I was really disappointed in myself, and felt like I let her down a lot because she refused to leave me behind. In the end, though, she wanted to keep doing races with me, and in an effort to not let her or myself down this time, I've been training pretty hard. One of the things that I realized was that my breathing was really holding me back, and so I started to force myself to breathe in through my nose, out through my mouth. And it's helped. A ton. I'm finding that I'm able to keep a much better pace and go for longer when I run this way.... until a certain point. Then I just hit a wall where my lungs are perfectly fine and could keep up the pace, but the inside of my nostrils are burning. It got so bad last night that I had to stop because it was giving me a headache. \n\nLike I said, I've done a good deal of searching around using various combinations of \"running breathing through nose burning\" and none of them are getting me close to what I'm looking for. If there's even a name for this that someone wants to throw out and I can do the research myself, I'd take even that. At this point I'm pretty much just going to push through it and hope it's another one of those \"run more\" things someone else posted about today, but if there's a quick solution to this, I'd love to know about it. Thanks!", "summary": "when I run for a certain period of time the inside of my nostrils starts burning badly enough to give me a headache. Not sure what causes this, and would like to make it go away if possible."}
{"id": "t3_1oeelz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, has a stranger ever done something remarkably kind for you?", "post": "This post was inspired by one of my friends stories. She had lost her phone while riding her bike home in the rain. The next night it rained again. Two days later a man showed up at her house late at night and walked up to her door. She answered and he asked for her name and when she replied he said \"Did you lose your phone recently?\" she said she had and he gave her the phone and told her the story. He had found it laying in a puddle, took it home, placed it in a bowl of rice, found her mothers contact and called her, got her home address, and delivered it to her via bicycle. He had actually rode roughly 30 blocks to get to her house. Chivalry is not dead.", "summary": "Friend lost her phone, stranger found it, tracked her down, brought it to her on bicycle."}
{"id": "t3_32y7q1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking into my living room", "post": "My friend, Marie and her boyfriend, Arthur stayed the night and was crashing on my couch. We both woke up long before Arthur did and went to mcdonalds for a snack. Arthur likes sleeping, and had just missed his classes that morning to sleep in. We joked at mcdonalds that she should intitiate sex and that'll get him up. We laughed about it and I put it out of my mind, neither of us bringing it up again. \n\nOnce we got back to my apartment, she went to the bathroom and I went to my room to tidy up my closet and organize. I was listening to music and eventually my sister calls so I chatted with her for a bit before stumbling on a gold mine of candle coupons. I quickly got off the phone and snatched up the coupons to show Marie and give them to her. I clutched them happily as I made my way back out to the living room and I spotted them on the couch. It appeared as though they were cuddling and in my head I was like 'Awwwwwh.' they had the blankets I loaned them covering up so while I stood there for what seemed like forever, (I assumed they fell back asleep) I noticed Arthurs hips moving and my prepubescent mind was like 'what're they doing???'\u00a0 well, Arthur slowly looked up at me and we made eye contact when it all registered in my head so I slowly backed up while aggressively whispered that I was sorry.", "summary": "tried to give my friend some coupons and they were expired."}
{"id": "t3_pu5yc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who else feels bad for the families who have parents getting brain washed by Amway?", "post": "Sorry for venting, but I was tricked into going to a seminar the other night. The guy I met said to meet me at a Subway and after I arrived he told me to get back in my car and follow him to a hotel lobby across the street... yes, I knew something sketchy was up. I didn't know it was about Amway until I wasted 1.5 hours of my time. I have a business background and could have picked apart their business model but wasn't given an opportunity because after the presentation the guy didn't have any Q&A opportunity. The thing that worries me most is that there were 30+ people there that actually believe this stuff and invest so much time and money into this flawed model that I almost feel obligated to do something about it!", "summary": "Triked into Amway meeting and feel bad for people that loose all time and money getting caught up in the system."}
{"id": "t3_3lkhbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] My friends with benefits [19F] just changed suddenly and I'm afraid its all over.", "post": "Okay so in short, we started making out with each other on parties, it got more serious, became friends, made out a lot and often, said we were friends with benefits and she sucked me. \n\nThen suddenly she changes and is not like she used to be. Instead of writing me and being interested in me, she is just not answering my questions when we are chatting and is generally like she has no time for me anymore. \n\nSo I'm kinda heart broken because I just started to be able to trust women again and thought that she would be at least \"friendly\" or interested in me for longer, but without much reason she just changed like this.. Actually I'd like to just move on and don't care about her, but she will be on a Party where I plan to go. Also I really liked her and am sad that it's just so \"Boring\" now without any reason..", "summary": "fing friend\" suddenly changes, doesnt want to see me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3ii2id", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F went out with 23M last night. Is this a red flag?", "post": "I have another reddit account but I made this one to track the more real... code embarrassing or awkward or immature/insecure aspects of my dating life. I'm back on the market after a long term relationship and I feel like I need a sounding board to see if things are normal or not. I'm out of touch.\n\nHere we go: I went out with a guy from tinder last night. It was my first tinder date and it wasn't as scary or horrible as I'd been lead to believe. His profile said he was 25, but it turns out he was 23. It was a pretty good date, we had good conversational flow and he seemed interesting and nice. I usually don't date younger guys because I'd rather not roll the dice with emotional maturity and it seems like a safer bet to just stay older, but he seemed mature until this: he said he'd seriously date anyone legal and up (to about 28). \n\nThis seems strange to me. He's graduated from college, he has two jobs, but he'd have a serious relationship with someone who  can't legally drink and hasn't been through college yet. When I said \"really? I mean they haven't gone to college yet\" he said that he's known some very mature 16 year olds and that it could happen. This seemed off to me. Personally, I think it's a bit weird to date high school girls or college freshman when you're more or less an adult. I know it's only a 5 year age gap for him, but the older you get, the more shared experience you have. \n\nApart from this i'd be interested in seeing him again, but I'm worried he just revealed the immaturity I was worried about when dating younger guys. Is it just me or is this a red flag?", "summary": "My 23 year old date said he would absolutely date a girl as long as she was legal (aka age range 18- around 28) and that he's known some very mature 16 and 18 year olds. Is his point of view on this a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_3e0zr3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] is being treated awful by my [16F] girlfriend.", "post": "So basically my girlfriend of 5 months has been slowly becoming more of an asshole to me and claims she is just kidding non stop. She constantly gets mad at me for ever trying to have fun without her. Just recently I went to a party without her and a girl tried to makeout with me while I was a bit drunk. As soon as her lips touched mine I pushed her off of me and some girl blew it up and made it sound a lot worse then it was. Now I didn't want to tell my girlfriend have a shitty vacation, so I was going to tell her afterwards. But this girl told my girlfriend. \nSo basically all my friends and the few my girlfriend has told her she was treating me like shit and she deserves it and I don't want to break her heart because I was her first time. So basically I'm asking what should I do? I know the easy answer is to breakup, but could someone help me out.", "summary": "Girlfriend treats me like shit and doesn't let me have fun."}
{"id": "t3_509efm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] school staff [20sF] has been staring and smiling at me whenever I sometimes go to the canteen and I am getting crept out.", "post": "I can't believe I have to ask for advice.....\n\nRegarding my school, it is a very small school compared to my big one. 5 to 10 students with only 4 classrooms. I began my school year on July 2016 (Last month) and I'm now on my (hopefully) final year.\n\nRegarding the school staff, there has been this one new female staff in her early 20s who works in the Canteen/Activity Room alone and always has the maids/yayas (Filipino term for maids).\n\nSo, over the past days and weeks, whenever I go to the room for a drink, to eat, or to interact with friends, she will always stare and smile at me for absolutely no fucking reason. Even if I'm being very quiet or something, she would sometimes do that for no fucking reason, and I've been getting crept out up to this day and just recently, she wants to add me as a friend on Facebook.\n\nI don't want to tell my teachers, my friends, and my family about this since I don't want to get in huge trouble, but I feel worried about myself at the same time.\n\nI've always questioned myself regarding her since my possible theories are:\n\n1 - I'm just being very paranoid and misunderstood\n\n2 - She might literally have a romantic interest in me\n\n3 - She just likes to smile, but at me for no reason\n\nor 4 - She could be part of a gang with me as her 'next' target\n\nIs there any help that can help me possibly overcome it?", "summary": "On my last school year, new female school staff have been getting stared and smiled at by her a month and getting crept out, don't want to tell anybody due to trouble, and have been making theories in my mind about her"}
{"id": "t3_2c1gn9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waking up in the middle of the night", "post": "In the middle of the night, I am half awake with a cool breeze flowing over me. I'm not sure if everyone has experience this, but I couldn't force myself to go downstairs to piss. I was half asleep and had to wake up at 5:30 AM. A few minutes later, I catch myself standing beside my bed, pissing onto a spare blanket and the carpet in my bedroom. \n\nA few years back, my father and I decided to go to the SEC tournament with a buddy \"Todd\" (not his real name) of his and his kid. The SEC tournament was being held in New Orleans, and bourbon street was FILLED with Kentucky fans. I'm under 21, so my dad and his friend went to Bourbon street all night while we were in the hotel. We get a call from my dad around 3 in the morning, telling us that Todd would be pulling up with a cab and we needed to help him get to the hotel room. Keep in mind that Todd is over 300 pounds, and when the taxi opened his door, Todd was in the back seat passed out telling us to \"fuck off.\" We used every ounce of our strength to get him to the elevator where we were greeted with 20 judgmental eyes. We ended up getting him up to his bed and we all fell asleep. In the middle of the night, we all wake up to a noise in the hotel room. It turns out that Todd took off his khaki shorts, and instead of going to the bathroom 10 feet over, he threw his khakis on the carpet and started to piss on them. We asked what the hell he was doing and he replied with \"I pissing on my shorts so I don't stain the carpet. When we got back to our home town, Todd's son let his dads secret \"slip\" to his mom.", "summary": "Me, my dad, his friend and his son went to the SEC tournament in New Orleans, my dad's friend got hammered and ended up throwing his khaki shorts on the ground, pissed on them, and told us it was because he didn't want to stain the carpet."}
{"id": "t3_1dw2as", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Please help me help her - girlfriend loses everything, accepted at Columbia, can't afford it. Help?", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nMy first time on this subreddit, but honestly I'm not sure where else to go. Here's why I'm here:\n\nMy girlfriend, now 23, was a child prodigy in singing, dancing, and acting (she was the lead in Cirque du Soleil's \"Quidam\" - here is a clip of her singing:  She acted in a variety of shows in New York City, including Madison Sq Garden.  She grew up, moved to NYC, pursued opera, theatre, and music. I met her dancing Tango in Central Park. We started dating. Then on May 5th of last year, she had her performance career stripped from her by a digestive disease called ulcerative colitis. \n\nShe lost a lot more after that. She couldn't pay rent, so she had to move out into an empty home her parents own in NJ. She spent most of the last year alone in that house (it's where we are both living now). \n\nAfter encouragement, she applied and was accepted to Columbia University. I can't tell you how happy this made me, until we found out that it's financially impossible because:\n\n1. After financial aid, she needs to take out a $60,000 parent plus loan. \n2. She can't get one because her father is categorically against higher education (I won't explain in depth here). \n3. She can't file taxes as an independent (and get more scholarship) because she needs to stay on her dad's insurance so that she can maintain any semblance of help. \n4. Her finance officer told her to find $60,000 somewhere - impossible considering she can't have a job right now. \n\nIt is heartbreaking to see her get accepted to Columbia, then see her get basically NO help from the finance office or her parents. We are running out of options. \n\nPlease help us. Do any of you have any ideas on alternative ways we could finance her education, or get more in financial aid? Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "girlfriend is a child prodigy, lost everything, got into Columbia, circumstances screwed her on financing. We need help."}
{"id": "t3_srxis", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm seriously contemplating quitting graduate school. Assuming there are redditors that have done so in the past, how did things turn out?", "post": "So, I graduated with a BS in biology in fall 2010, and have been working on a MS at the same school since fall 2011. Between the BS and MS, I worked at the same university in the herbarium and insect collections. I'm currently miserable. I'm not inspired by my thesis project, the course work is a joke, and more than anything I feel like I'm wasting my time and life on something that meant everything to me 6 years ago, but means almost nothing to me now (all the while sinking further into debt). For the first time in my life (although maybe not entirely caused by these particular circumstances) I'm on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds. I don't want to continue with it, but I don't know what my options are if I quit with regards to employment and/or possible future graduate work.\n\nI concede that I might just be looking for someone to tell me that it will be okay if I drop out. But I feel like I've been so indoctrinated by the higher education system that I feel like by quitting I will be giving up any chance I may have had for a successful future career.\n\nSo what I'm asking is, how many of you have had similar experiences, did you quit or power through, and if you quit, what happened afterwards?", "summary": "Hating graduate school, wondering what has happened to anyone that has dropped out."}
{"id": "t3_nhnzm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Quick Please- I have to be at work in 30 minutes, but yesterday I made too many mistakes and was told to go home with 45 minutes left on my shift. Was I fired? Should I go in today?", "post": "There was a rush, and the shake machine broke thus things got laggy and I screwed up. I was trying to fix it, but I just made a mess using a broken shake machine and I couldn't explain quick enough why this food was in this bag and how so-and-so thought it was order X but it was order B and B has been waiting for so long b/c of the machine being broken and that's why it's messed up etc. Yeah... so She told me to just go home, and I left.\n\nAm I fired? I don't wanna be... but I know they hate me there b/c I'm not fast enough. I feel like such a fuck up. I gotta be at work in 30, so it'd be nice to know what to expect.", "summary": "Co-Boss told me to go home with 45 minutes left on the clock because I kept on screwing up. Am I fired? Should I go in today?"}
{"id": "t3_2ut3rp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/m] want to ask someone [21/f] to hang out this weekend, but not sure if she's up for it", "post": "We met a few weekends ago in a local night club. Got her number and then we hung out a few days later. She stayed over and we fooled around but nothing much else. \n\nI tried inviting her to come into town for the Super Bowl but she doesn't like driving in heavy weather (It was a blizzard that night). I asked if she was sure and she came back with asking what my Thursday was like and I said I'm free but not sure about work. When I got my schedule I told her I was free all day Thursday and Friday. Haven't heard from her since.\n\nLast night, I found her under suggested friends on Facebook and added her. She responded almost immediately. Now I'm not sure how I want to try again. Either I can ask:\n\nWould you want to hang out with me again? or\nStill up for hanging out Thursday night?", "summary": "I want to hang out with this girl, but not sure how to approach it"}
{"id": "t3_npb7r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ignored at gf's high school reunion. I'm right, she's wrong and knows it. I'm still hurt what do I do?", "post": "Posted a question last night About what to do at my gf's high school reunion last night, got some good suggestions. I was there from 6pm cst to 1am. Had to get there early because she was on the \"decoration committee\". Anyways it was going fine, I pumped myself up in my head trying to be extra friendly and confident because I knew nobody. I graduated in a diff state. \n\nUntil I realized I was basically being ignored, I was fine with it for most the night but I wasn't drinking at all. I've been having issues with alcohol lately so staying sober just added to the stress and awkwardness. But that's another story.  I felt ignored because I was introduced formally to only a handfull of people. I've been with this girl for 5 years we have a kid together. I just felt hurt by this still, I want insecure about it, I was just saddened. \n\nIt wasn't until about midnight I was fed up. It was after the party was wrapped up in the room they rented that we traveled to a bar that was connected to the building and open later, I sat down pulled out my phone and popped up reddit waiting for my gf to sit next to me. After a short while a notice he isn't there and she is sitting at another table with her \"Gil friends\" who I had no idea who they were as I was not Introduced. I would have said hi and done it myself but at this point I was just pissed, and sober while everyone else seemed wasted and fucking annoying. So I just got up called a cab and waited outside till I went back to her parent place where we were staying or the weekend. Only to have her sleep until noon today while I beg her to get up and break the again awkward situation on me hanging out with her morbidly obese mother and bi polar father. he apologized and we will be leaving tomorrow early to go see my side of the family on Xmas, I still feel hurt an I wrong, am I being overly dramatic? I usually don't get to be \"right\" very often should I milk this?", "summary": "Gf ignored me at her high school reunion, I'm right she knows it. It's a rare occasion do I milk it? I still feel hurt by what happened am I being overly dramatic?"}
{"id": "t3_3pol82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my lifelong friend [16F] I've started developing feelings towards her and not sure what I should do?", "post": "I've known this girl, we'll call her Julia. Julia and I have been friends for as long as I can remember, and although we started off not liking each other, we eventually grew quite fond of one another. Her mom and my mom became best friends and are pretty much inseparable, and we've been on several vacations together. I've never seen her as anything other than my friend, if that makes any sense? As in, she was a friend who happened to be a girl.\n\n Well, a few years go by, out parents drift apart, and I see Julia maybe a few dozen times a year. Our parents recently reconnected, but she has a weird relationship with her mother, and she doesn't really come over when her mom does, so I don't get to see her other than during holidays or my birthday.\n\n I feel guilty for feeling this way towards somebody I felt was a friend. I feel like I'm turning into a nice guy, because I keep thinking of ways to ask her out, or ways to get her alone during a party and stuff. I even think about sappy romantic stuff like going on dates to ice skating rinks and stuff haha. I know it's corny, but I honestly can't help it, I've become pretty much infatuated with her.\n\n If I asked Julia out, or showed any signs of wanting her, I'm pretty sure that it would cause some drama with her mother and mine if it got ugly for some reason I can't fathom at this moment. Should I go for it? How should I do it? Wait for me to see her again during a party and risk it not even happening? Or message her? Should I just give up altogether? I honestly never felt this way towards a friend before and it's a lot more complicated(In my mind at least) than a regular crush.", "summary": "Developed crush on a friend I've known for pretty much my whole life, not sure if I should go for it."}
{"id": "t3_4u8fpm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [19/m] wrote me [19/f] a love letter, and I don't know what to think, what would you think?", "post": "This is an update from my other posts. \n\nMy boyfriend and I got in an an argument, we have been together a year. If you've read my other posts you know it's because he had sex with a guy the day he asked me to be his girlfriend. \n\nI found this note in my emails when I got signed in to my emails this morning. \n\nHey, I want to let you know that I love you and my relationship with you. You are so beautiful. I'm so afraid of losing you so that's why there have been times I didn't tell the truth I apoligize, but I'll always be truthful about everything all the time. I say we are irritated with each other we should have makeup sex! \n\nI like when you say my name, it makes me feel special because I love you more than anything. Don't forget , I care about you in my heart and will always be the first person I made love to. \n\nI don't know what to think. What would you think?", "summary": "boyfriend, love letter"}
{"id": "t3_2tvdcy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke in class", "post": "Many of you probably know that today is the 70th Holocaust anniversary and since I live in germany this is a big thing here. That's why our school organized, like many other schools in germany, a minute of silence at 12pm (noon). Our math teacher informed us about that at 8am in the morning class. \nThat's when things went wrong.\nOur teacher is a bit gassy so she started to talk a bit about the Holocaust, how this minute of silence is a good thing, all that stuff. Then she asked if we ever made a excursion to a concentration camp. Some said yes. She continued to talk about the Holocaust and after a few historical information she asked if someone of us has been in [Ausschwitz] since it's the most interesting one for a excursion in her opinion. \nHere comes the interesting part:\n\n''Yes, 70 years ago. Wasn't that nice though.'' I say.\n\nA few giggle, some laugh. I didn't really regret it until this point since I often make some risky jokes and I know that 90% of the people are okay with that. And that joke wasn't that bad to be honest.\nBut then... I look at my teachers face. I can't say more than that I've never seen a more aghast and angrier face in my entire life. In this moment I realized what I said... or better, to whom I said that. \nI don't want to write her name now but it's clearly a jewish surname. Like Goldberg or something like this. I also asked a few students later, she's jewish.\nTo make it short, got send out to talk with her, never felt so awful during a talk with a teacher and got an appointment at the principals office next week. Also, our principle is very, very, VERY strict. That will be fun.", "summary": "made a joke about the holocaust on the memorial day infront of my jewish math teacher, got send out and now have to talk with my principal"}
{"id": "t3_3ml3t3", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is this girl im seeing sending me the signal?", "post": "So a girl I have been seeing is acting very strange lately. When we first met and started chatting she would respond under 15 minutes to all my texts. This past week shes started to take hours to respond. I texted her 24 hours ago and she hasnt replied/read-receipted it, but shes been active on twitter (I dont stalk her, we both have it and one of her tweets came on my feed).\n\nNormally I would take this as a sign that shes not interested and leave it at that. However, whenever we are together in person she is all over me. Touching me constantly, laughing at everything I say, and even just the way she looks at me makes me think shes really into me. But this thing with the texting is really started to get on my nerves. Im not saying she needs to reply immediately, because I know people are busy, but under 2 hours seems like a realistic expectation.\n\nMy question for you ladies is this, do you ever go this long without replying to someone unintentionally, or should I take this as a sign that she doesn't want to see each other anymore? Also, would it be weird if I asked her about it even if weve only been together for like 3 weeks? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girl treats me like a greek god in person, but wont reply to my texts."}
{"id": "t3_34tt21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Understanding that he took me for granted is the first step to moving on. (23F/25M)", "post": "I went through a painful break-up this past week with someone who I genuinely came to fall deeply for. We'd only been seeing each other for 8 months and there was a lot of frustrating semantics about what we were doing. At the end of the day he had even admitted to me that he'd taken me for granted, but I chose to focus on the good and romanticized our affair a bit too much. \n\nAfter some reflection I realize that he DID take me for granted. I'm a pretty darn good catch. Sure I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I'm smart, interesting, attractive, and wicked cool. I'm brave and have done lots of out-there things without batting a lash. But I'm also exceedingly kind and at the end of the day a pretty stable person to date. I don't look particularly wild or edgy. We shared deep intimacy and comfort that was genuinely rare and special, but I don't think I projected enough of an ~aura~ such that he could romanticize me, put me up on a pedestal, make him feel excited about a life he otherwise hates. As much of a cliche as this is, I think he took all of my important qualities for granted as being \"safe\" and felt like he couldn't fall for me because I wasn't enough of a bad girl. \n\nI realized this last night and literally burst out laughing. Once I felt a lot of insecurity towards his ex-girlfriends. I wondered what it was about them that made him want to commit and what I lacked. Now I realize that's all horseshit. I am awesome and if he were a smarter, better person he would recognize that. The fact that he doesn't understand how special and rare I am, for all of the quiet reasons that form real foundations rather than the spellbinding reasons that cause infatuation from afar, means that I'm better off without him and can share my love with someone who will appreciate it.", "summary": "Realizing that his devaluing me is HIS loss. Getting over it."}
{"id": "t3_3glxvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] get nervous around a girl [18f]. So much so that it'll take me 10 min to reply to a text.", "post": "First off, we met at a week long get together, whatever, it's not that important. We just saw each other for the last 2 days of it. Also,  I am what I consider to be confident and outgoing. I have never had issues talking to pretty girls, just was never a problem.\n\n It started with us just talking. She is really shy, to the point where she would text me to have me come by and hang out with her and her friends and not talk to me but give me quick glances. I know she liked me because when everyone went to sleep, she and I texted each other for about 3 hours. I'm not really nervous yet in the story, so it's going pretty well.\n\nAfter the get together is over and we all leave, she starts to text me on the way home (neither of us are driving). I begin to get a little nervous. I'm saying bland and boring things, not being my normal, outgoing, confident self. She begins to give me short one word responses, almost like she doesn't want to talk.\n\nThe next day I give her a good morning text. It's the same deal. Short one word responses. I am taking way too long to respond, just unusually boring things coming from me. Later on, she just flat out stops texting me back. It's been a whole day and no response. I haven't texted her again, and was just kind of waiting. I don't know what to do. I just get really nervous, butterfly's in my stomach, and tongue tied when talk to her. I think I really like her but I've never felt so nervous talking to another person, so I'm not sure how I feel. Help?", "summary": "I get really nervous and tongue tied when I talk to this girl, and she stopped texting me back. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_3z4ens", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Co-worker/Friend[16 F] been working together for more than 5 months", "post": "So, I won't make this long as hell.\nI'm not sure how many months we were working together.\nAnyway, we talk often to know each other. We would share our experiences (no, nothing sexual or some sort).\nAn experience she shared was about her school. Where she didn't like school (a part is about her not wanting to do projects which has long dues. She prefers instead of 1 week project as 1 day. Hence, she would finish it by then and not having to take home). I found it funny, since I thought the same. I guess, it's part of being lazy. We both not like in crowds which makes us introverted. In Short we both share the same traits and the same personality. What clicked me the most was that we're both shy to the point that we would rather stay home than go outside. I guess it comes being introverted and would prefer introverted partner than an extroverted. I find it admiring which most call it \"Crush\". I suppose I do have a crush on her, however I am well aware about our age. I knew that it's not right if we were to go out due to the huge gap of our age. She did seem comfortable around and talking to me as well since I observed her actions and gestures (no, not being a stalker I just like to observe people not just her particularly). Also, I noticed that she would glanced at me at times (Ofc, I proved it when I was alone in the station I was at then she'd glanced at me then proceed to do her work).\nSo, my question was that should I distance myself from her? or should I limit our conversations more? I knew that age difference is a huge thing and could make a huge issue in everyone. I don't mind being friends with her at all as well.", "summary": "Admiring a co-worker/friend"}
{"id": "t3_503xjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/F) had a sex dream about my step-brother (19/M)", "post": "I know dreams aren't meant to be taken too seriously, and that more often than not the true messages are conveyed in the undertones and minute details, BUT WTF I JUST HAD A CRAZY SEX DREAM ABOUT MY 19 YR OLD STEP BROTHER WHO IS A BRAT AND A GREAT NUISANCE AND NOW I CAN'T LOOK HIM IN THE EYES. \n\nIt happened after the beachside ceremony. Our parents had a destination wedding, and we're still on vacation. The scenery here is beautiful and we've all had such an amazing time thus far. I really don't want to ruin my stay due to a sex dream ... but like ... the fact that it happened an hour or two after I saw him leaving the bathroom in a towel, is kind of worrying, no? \n\nI've always viewed him as a kid and I still do, which makes this all the more bizarre and terrifying. I know I'm probably thinking too much and I should let it go, but fuck. It should never have happened in the first place. \n\nThe fact that he flirts with me all the time adds to how annoying this is.", "summary": "I had a sex dream about my annoying ass step-brother. Am I losing my mind?"}
{"id": "t3_u1bfs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Roommate is protesting bills and won't pay. Any interesting roommate situations, and how were they resolved?", "post": "So, I'm living in a house with five people (supposed to be four but we have a random boyfriend living with one of us.) Here are the people. Me (Gwyen), My fiancee (Alex), Friend 1 (Laurel), Friend 2 (Ryanna), and Friend 2's Man (Jordan). Laurel was given a pass from paying her part of the internet b/c apparently her Mac won't pick up on our router's signal (a whole different story). Ryanna and her Man are refusing to pay their portion of the internet because they paid (of their own volition, with out allowing the money to be split) Fifty dollars to get internet on the TV. Now, the Fiancee and I are pretty much shelling out the entire internet bill. (about $40, which is a big deal when you're in college) Ryanna seems to have forgotten that the fiancee and I just shelled out 700+ to pay for my tuition for the summer, and still have to buy books. She thinks that because she made the $50 dollar sacrifice that no one else uses, she shouldn't have to pay. Our house meeting is tonight and my fiancee wants to confront her, we'll see how that goes....", "summary": "Roommate thinks she can skimp out on the internet bill. "}
{"id": "t3_l8sak", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a minor and sold a computer across the country for $6300 and it came broken, now he wants a refund. HELP REDDIT!", "post": "Okay Reddit i'm in need of some **serious** help.  Let me explain the situation..\n\nI sold 4 processing computers totaling $6300 to someone (found on the internet) across the country (from PA to CA).  I built this computer with one other person, and we are both 17.  He sent us a check in the mail with the money, we built the computer with that money and took our 5% markup (Was originally 15% but he changed the order midway, screwing us over and having to pay a FORTUNE in shipping costs).  \n\nAnyway, we shipped the computers via FedEx and insured them to the full amount.  We packaged the computers using the Styrofoam-fitted blocks that came around the computer cases (sturdy, 3 inch foam around the computer).  When they arrived to the customers house, they were completely trashed. Holes everywhere, missing wireless adapters, screws torqued out of the power supply, handles to the boxes were torn down 5 inches.  The computers were completely trashed. 3 didn't even start up, and 1 turned on with its fans blaring but no POST or startup.  \n\n**An inspector came out and inspected the computers and these images are the result:**\n\nWe made a claim to FedEx (since we purchased insurance of course) and they denied the claim, even with the evidence.  Their reason was \"inadequate packaging\" yet even the inspection report says there is packaging (and it was definitely adequate).\n\nNow I have an angry customer asking me for a $6300 refund and i'm broke.  This was supposed to be a service for building him a few computers and now he has a bunch of broken ones.", "summary": "= I'm 17, wen't into contract with someone across the country selling a computer, it came broken, and FedEx is denying the insurance claim. He wants a refund. WTFDOIDO"}
{"id": "t3_4fk9ce", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/M] Infatuated with a woman who isn't my wife.", "post": "Alright, so I need some serious advice. So, I'm 29 and married. Have been married, happily--I'll add, for the entirety of our relationship. For the sake of anonymity I'll keep some specifics vague. We've been married for more than 5 years, but less than 8. Recently (6 months or so), I have been going to a new gym and working out. And that's where I met \"her.\" We never actually spoken more than a few words, and to be honest, my wife is more attractive. But something about her draws me to her. We have coy spurts of eye contact. Sometimes I'll catch her looking at me and vice versa. There is a feeling of attraction that I can't shake. It's a natural connection, without conversation. Poweful and mind boggling. And I have no idea what would happen if we ever actually talked. I avoid the encounter and I think she does too (knowing that I'm married). But, what do I do? Leave the gym? The proximity and quality of the gym, along with the price make it the perfect place. And when I'm not there, I don't think of \"her.\" But when we are there together she's 90% of my thoughts. Kind of shitting on my workouts, actually. Anyway, I encounter plenty of women in a daily basis, and some more frequent than others, but nothing like this attraction occurs. I'm truly at a loss. Any advice?!", "summary": "I'm in love with the girl from my gym. I'm married. And the girl from the gym and I never have actually had a conversation."}
{"id": "t3_wzqec", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] My SO [17/m] has some intimacy issues and I don't know what to say/do/act/feel", "post": "So we're not dating, we're just hooking up, but the reason things aren't going farther is because of these issues he has. Basically he's just terrified of having any sort of emotional obligation or responsibility. He has tons of issues with his parents and family in general, and I know he lost his virginity to a prostitute. Basically, the longest relationship he's ever been in is with his best friend who he's known for two years.\n\nWe're best friends, and he's talked to me (before we got together) about how whenever he has sex with a girl he wont be interested in her anymore. About the sex. It's never happened. We've been \"together\" for two weeks and he knows I'm totally down, but we tried once and he lost his erection.... I don't really know what that means but I'm guessing it has something to do with anxiety surrounding his fear of taking things farther.\n\nA couple of days after that he told me that we should stop hooking up. I asked why, and he said no reason. I found out later from mutual friends it's because he thinks I am more into the, I don't know relationship, than he is. I confronted him about this two days later and told him that he should've talked to me because what he thought isn't true at all! I don't want a relationship. It's a lot of work and responsibility and I'm 17. I don't want to feel that obligation that we have to act a certain way towards each other. When I told him this he basically said that was EXACTLY what he wanted.\n\nNow we're hooking up again (meaning all week), but the problem is I want things to go farther (mainly sex). We're best friends, I'm confident that sex wont ruin our relationship, but I guess he doesn't think so. But, tbh, I had sex for the first time only a month ago (not with him, another person I'm not really that close with) and although that went perfectly fine emotionally, I'm inexperienced and I realize that. Maybe he has the right idea, taking things slow....", "summary": "Basically I think he's afraid of things going farther because of previous bad relationships, but I want him to trust us. We're best friends... how do I help him try? What do I say (or don't say)? I want to do this right and not scare him off, he means a lot to me."}
{"id": "t3_2qc755", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the difference between sabotaging a relationship and not wanting to be in one?", "post": "I've been known to find flaws in just about everything in my life. I've (28F) have been in a relationship with (26M) for 2 years.\n\nI'm not sure if I am causing problems or the problems have always been there and it's not something I can change. Let's face it, I'm scared to call it quits. I do love my bf. He is funny and cares about me. At the same time he can be a bit dull and we are in a routine. But I am comfortable. I know there is a spark missing. I do enjoy being around him. I wish we were that couple that has a lot do say or do with  each other.\n\nI have had trouble staying faithful in relationships that lacked in the past and now I am worried. I don't know if I am pulling away because I am unhappy or believe I am not happy and don't deserve to be happy.", "summary": "Am I sabotaging something that could be good or are there real problems?"}
{"id": "t3_1oujlm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If a person does certain things with one hand and certain things with the other, but cannot do these things with the opposite hand, what are they considered? More detailed and coherent question inside.", "post": "First off I'll say the obvious. The reason I am asking this is because it describes me.\n\nI write with my left hand. I brush my teeth with my left hand. If I'm using a utensil to eat, I use my left hand. But if I just grab food, I use my right. I play sports with my right. If I were asked to raise my hand, I would raise my right. I play double bass (string bass) and guitar and play both right-handed.\n\nI guess I might as well add that I'm right-footed. Unfortunately I can't write with my left foot.\n\nI've started taking an intro to psychology class and am learning more about the right and left sides of the brain. I don't understand why, instead of favoring one side of the brain for everything, my body favors a different side depending on the activity. I was just curious if anyone has any knowledge about this sort of thing. I find the brain extremely interesting and wanna know what the heck is going on with mine.", "summary": "I'm not right-handed. I'm not left-handed. And I'm not ambidextrous. What does that make me?"}
{"id": "t3_1anonw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20f] I don't know how to feel about his [22m] new job offer, it's better but the old one is here [x-post from /r/relationship_advice/", "post": "We've been together for 5 months. I am a college sophomore, he is graduating in May. So far things have been amazing, whirlwind even. We're in love, it's the healthiest and most positive relationship either of us has had, we've decided we want to live together, there are late night whispers about kids and growing old together, even marriage. But he's graduating, so he's starting his career, enter issues.\n\nJob 1: Good pay, great benefits, local, but he isn't a huge fan of the work (he interned with this company throughout college) and would only want it to be temporary.\n\nJob 2:(the offer hasn't been finalized but is very likely)  Preferable work, nice location, good company atmosphere, basically he really likes them, but its across the country from our college. \n\nHe knew Job 2 was a possibility pretty early in our relationship and would say that if he got it he was taking it, no questions asked, which seemed fair 6 weeks in. But as serious as we are... how are supposed to \"build a life together\" from so far apart? He also knows that m program will last another 3 years. I don't necessarily want him to turn it down if he gets it, but is it wrong to want to feel like we can have a discussion where I get considered? We're even looking at apartments for if he stays. I just don't think I could do 3 yr LDR... Is there a way to compromise? How weird is delaying acceptance of a job offer by 10-18 months? Should I even bring this up? If so, how soon?", "summary": "He has 2 job offers and wants to take the one that will separate in spite of him saying he's in this for the long haul. We haven't even discussed other possibilities. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2cuzeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused about mixed signals from a girl [24F] I [26M] am in an unofficial relationship with", "post": "We've been friends for ages, like 5 years or so, but it's only recently that we started looking at each other differently. We flirt a lot, give each other pet names etc and she even changed her last name on her Facebook profile to mine when I jokingly asked if she would marry me. Neither of us has asked each other out but everyone around us can see that we're together, so I suppose we're in some sort of unofficial relationship?\n\nI really like her but the thing that frustrates me is that she doesn't seem to care about me when I don't take the initiative to talk to her. She never texts me to ask about my day, or tells me that she misses me when I don't text her like I usually do. She has said a couple of times that she likes me but I'm just not feeling it when I'm the one doing all the chasing. Does she just like the chase? I'm honestly confused about her passivity.\n\nHaving been friends for a long time, we have lots of mutual friends and I don't want things to get awkward if I asked her directly about it. I guess I'm afraid of rejection because I really like her but at the same time, I'm hoping it's just... not in her character to express her interest overtly, outside of flirting? It's driving me crazy that I'm feeling so insecure about this.", "summary": "In an unofficial relationship with a girl who sends mixed signals about her interest, not sure about next step to take."}
{"id": "t3_4sdygr", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Text] Eating healthy motivation", "post": "It's hard to explain the feeling, but I will try to describe it as best I can, even if I only help a few people.\n\nI love the taste of taco bell or pizza or many other unhealthy foods of that sort. I workout and I don't eat large quantities, yet I am overweight, so I know that this is mostly due to my unhealthy eating habits. I am trying to start eating healthier and one positive way of thinking that has helped me so far is as follows:\n\nIf you are caught between cooking something healthy at home, such as rice and chicken, or picking up something unhealthy, like fast food, it is easy to say that the fast food will be easier and taste better, but the point is, you are consuming the same amount of food. While you are eating, the food may taste a little bit better if you choose the unhealthy option, but that joy is outweighed by the joy of feeling good about eating healthy afterwards. You will be full after your meal either way, and you will either feel guilty about eating unhealthy or feel good about choosing the healthier option. Also, it can help save money and teach you how to cook better!\n\nAs I stated above, it's very hard for me to describe the feeling, but this way of thinking has helped me choose the healthier option many times, and if you can phrase it in a way that speaks to you, I promise it helps!!", "summary": "When choosing what to eat, remember that you will be full after the meal regardless of what you eat, so choose the option that will make you feel better about being healthy!"}
{"id": "t3_26k2bp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend [20 F] of 8 months may be attracted to her guy friend. What to do? [21 M]", "post": "I've been in this relationship for 8 months now and I have to admit I'm insecure. The problem is that recently she has been getting close with her guy friend. Months ago she told me that this guy friend liked her and she only thought of him as a friend. I'm afraid that's no longer the case. Recently, they have been getting close, to the point where they would have deep talks about relationships and other topics. The following are just things I've observed. She would always chat with him online. Whenever I'm with her and she receives a text from this guy, she would smile and concentrate only on texting him back. However, when she gets text from other people(me included) she would take forever to respond. It frustrates me because I catch her on several occasions sneakily hiding her phone when shes texting. Keep in mind that I've never questioned her about the content of their convos. My girlfriend and I went to the club a few days ago and her guy friend was there also. Throughout the night I see her taking glances at him to see if he was having fun with another girl. When this one drunk girl sat on his lap, my girlfriend helped him by pulling her off. Its been 8 months and I feel like I'm being taken for granted already. I just want to know from your perspectives if these observations are deemed as red flags. If they are, what should I do?", "summary": "Gf has been talking to her guy friend a lot recently. Her guy friend liked her but she told me that he is friend zoned. I think otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_l5h62", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need unbiased opinion of my relationship?", "post": "I'm 21, and my boyfriend is 20 (I am also a guy, derp). I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years.  We have a great time together when we don't piss each other off, which is quite often in recent months.  I've had to leave my job due to an injury, and money is getting tighter, and I may have to be back to my parent's place if things don't look up.\n\nMy parents are asking me to go ahead and pack up and move home, but that would mean giving up on my relationship (we live quite far from my parents).  I'm not sure I want to do that, because I think we could fix our problems and continue to be happy.  On the other hand, I would have a FAR less stressful life and be able to save money and go to school full time.  I'm really stressed out over this (which is shitty because I was already quite stressed over looking for employment, our relationship, etc).", "summary": "Have an iffy relationship I don't want to give up on, running out of money, no job, parents offer place to stay a couple hours away."}
{"id": "t3_4hjouv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21F] being ridiculous to feel disrespected that my boyfriend [25M] 'jokingly' flirts with his guy friends constantly?", "post": "I haven't had too many relationships before, and I've never noticed this with other guy friend groups, but is it normal for guys to jokingly flirt, hit on, and talk about having sex with each other?\n\nEven if it is, I feel like it's excessive on my boyfriend's part. I tune out when he does it, but it's hard to socialize in a group setting when I literally have to ignore almost every other line of dialogue. He also does it in situations where I feel he's already ignoring me. There's also touching involved (groping of the chest, 'loving' touches on the arm, humping, etc). He initiates it at least 75% of the time.\n\nHe claims he's not attracted to his guys friends, and he does do it to nearly all of them, but I feel so disrespected and unwanted when he does it right in front of me and for everyone to see. When we're alone he is sweet, very sweet, but I'm starting to question his attraction or at least appreciation of me.", "summary": "boyfriend almost constantly but jokingly hits on other guys when I'm around and I'm getting sick of it, though he insists there's nothing to it. What should I do? I'm not going to pretend to be comfortable with it but I don't want to make something out of nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2xy0rq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [39M] husband of 18 years has fallen victim to a manipulative person", "post": "My (38F) husband (39M) is being manipulated by his 'friend' and I don't know what to do. He says she is a good person who 'is lost' and 'troubled'. He says he realizes people have addictions, and will not end the friendship. I've tried explaining what she is doing to him but it doesn't matter.\n\nRecently her boyfriend found heroin on his bedroom floor (he lives with us temporarily) and confronted her. My husband has tried to help her with drugs in the past, (with prescription drugs, from what she has told us, as far as we know). By being supportive, things like that. The heroin was found Sunday. Husband was very angry and told her not to come by anymore, but that lasted a day. Husband invited her back over to our house last night. I told him I didn't want her around anymore. Who knows what kind of shit she has been bringing into our house. (It's not the kind of addiction where she can't operate on a daily basis, she has a job and drives around a lot.)\n\nShe has been playing the victim role, the seduction role, and using diversion/evasion tactics as well. Husband doesn't care, he wants to continue being her friend. He is the kind of person with a big heart and believes he is helping just by being in her life. He is being manipulated and I don't know what to do.\n\nWe've known the couple almost a year now.", "summary": "Husband is victim to manipulator. He is willing to forgive that she is still doing drugs and thinks he is doing good by being her friend."}
{"id": "t3_4530t5", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(28/f) Trying to figure out my husband's (27/m) behavior regarding TTC", "post": "Hey ladies-- \n\nMy husband and I have been together for over 3 years and we very much want a family. We both want to adopt and have biological children. \n\nWell, we decided to pursue adoption first and, after a very long, painful battle, we had an international adoption fail in October. I was honestly crushed. My husband was also upset, but since he had never met the child (I had), I think it was a bit easier for him to deal with. The adoption agency wanted us to start over, but I just couldn't and we agreed to wait a while and pursue biological children while I'm still of an appropriate age, and pursue another adoption in a couple of years. \n\nWe started officially trying in December, and we've both been excited. My husband is always talking about baby names, researching new products, and even looking at schools. We're using an app (per my doctor's recommendation) to track fertile days so we'll be accurate about conception dates. We have a very healthy sex life so I really didn't foresee any problems. \n\nEven though he usually initiates, I tried to initiate sex last night. He said he wasn't feeling it. I asked if he thought I was being too pushy/  trying to schedule sex-- he said that wasn't the problem. \n\nHe said he's worried if I'm too focused on getting pregnant, and we're not successful, I'll take it too hard. \n\nI know he is thinking about my reaction to the failed adoption, and I appreciate his concern, but how does preventing pregnancy now protect me from being upset about not being pregnant? He wants me to take it easy and not put pressure on myself, but I feel like his behavior is sabotaging our efforts. \n\nI know he wants a baby, he talks about it all the time-- even just to his friends. He has, from our first date, wanted to be a father, so I just don't understand his hesitation now. \n\nHow should I handle this?", "summary": "Husband wants a baby but doesn't want to try to conceive because he's afraid failure would be too hard on me."}
{"id": "t3_2cpz3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife[25 F] of 1.5 years, tired of comparisions all the time", "post": "Hi all,\nWe were in a long distance relationship of 2 years before we got married last year . Almost immediately after we got married we tended to fight a lot , and i noticed the fights were almost everytime me defending myself against a comparision she made about something her friends husband/bf did !\n\nI thought it was a one of thing but this has become almost a weekly thing! Last month she got so irritated by seeing her friends honeymoon pics that she deleted her facebook account! Its not that we dont on trips , might not be too many but ~once a month on an average . I am in a new higher paying job but more taxing job and after marriage she left her job for a lesser paying more relaxed job (which i readily agreed for her to join after i realized doing nothing at home caused her to get even more irritable!)\n\nI am an introvert and not really good at things like dancing , singing which she wants me too and our fights have just increased in frequency. Her anger becomes too much at times with things like i want to leave , want to quit and next 2 weeks everything will be splending when again she will say something like this.\n\nOur personalities are very different , mine subdued and easy going and hers extrovert . I really do love her a lot and cant even think about her leaving and so does she behind all her fights i know she loves me but are these comparisions normal? Does every girl do it and this much ? I have stopped visiting my friends with her in case she sees someone doing something i have not done for her.\n\nThe worst thing is everyfight she brings up all these things that continously pileup and whatever i will plan i know it wont be enough . What the hell do i do?  I really feel inferior and have considered whether ending my life will top everyone.", "summary": "Tired with my wife comparing me with every other couple we come across. Nothing i do will be enough , but i love her too much to giveup . Is there anything i can do to end this?"}
{"id": "t3_u6pr9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Do I just need to be patient and wait for him to contact me?", "post": "I went out on a first date with a guy earlier this week (me 28F, him 25M), and I think it went extremely well.  We met for drinks and ended up staying at the bar talking for over 3 hours, and there was definitely no awkward pauses and easy conversation.\n\nAfter we left, he did seem nervous and said he had a good time and that I should let him know if I want to get together again.  This is definitely reversed from what I'm used to with the guy telling me to call, but I told him I definitely would like to see him again and that I had a really good time.  I did end up texting him the next day again stating that I had fun and asking if he'd like to get together again.  \n\nHe responded the same day and said that he definitely would and that maybe we could get together this weekend if he got far enough in a paper he was writing.  I told him that sounds good and left it at that.  Now, this was 3 days ago, and I haven't heard anything since.\n\nI'll admit, I am impatient sometimes and impulsive, so I'm wondering if I should just wait out the weekend before trying to contact him again?  He's finishing up his semester, so I know he probably is legit busy with his paper, and I don't want to come off too needy after only one date.  But, I really would like to see him again, and I've had a horrible string of dating bad luck it's refreshing to have a good first date for once.  So, do I wait it out the weekend or even longer, or try contacting him before then if I don't hear anything?", "summary": "Went on first date with guy that told me to contact him if I'm interested; I did and said I'd like to go out again if he wants to; he responded positively but set no plans because of a paper he's working on, this was 3 days ago.  Wondering if I should just wait it out."}
{"id": "t3_3fy8q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17/M] currently at the stage of my life evaluating my current friendships", "post": "Like it says in the title, I'm in that phase for, I'm turning into a high school senior by the time school starts.\n\nBecause when high school ends, everyone goes their separate ways. So I'm just thinking through and who I truly consider are my \"friends\" [around 17 for all] and want to keep in touch with as a I get older and do whatever I'm doing.\n\nBut there are three (about/still thinking) people I've currently questioning my current relationship with them. To put some long explanations short. They've changed and or I just don't see how I became friends with them in the first place. \n\nSo I'm really just wondering if it's ever justified to break off a friendship with someone?", "summary": "Currently evaluating my current friendships. Thinking about cutting off a few and wondering if that's okay or not."}
{"id": "t3_34pej6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with a [19F] in my uni class", "post": "Thought this would be a good sub reddit to ask at so here it goes. Hi so theres this girl in one of my uni classes and she probably has no idea i exist which is fine, I first noticed her in one of the earlier lectures and once i saw she was in my tutorial/study class I was straight away smitten by her, I thought this would eventually go away but i just cant seem to stop thinking about her. Shes only in one of my classes and I havent spoken to her (partly cause im too scared/nervous and cause she sits with her friends and I sit with mine). I have one mutual friend on facebook, but if I were to add her on fb without her knowing who I am i think may come off as stalkerish. I have noticed she looked at my way a few times and smiled at me on a few occasions but this might just be her being polite. So i need some advice on how to approach her/start talking to her before I make some sort of move to ask her out. Any help would mean the world", "summary": "Not sure how to approach this girl in my class at uni who i cant stop thinking about"}
{"id": "t3_1ykxmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] Have been talking to this girl [19F] for about Three weeks and I've got some questions.", "post": "So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks, and things have been going great between us. We met at a bonfire at a buddy's house, and we were set up through a mutual friend who was also there. She's a great girl and is just generally awesome. There have been some questions raised on my behalf. The first was that when the idea of a relationship was brought up, she stated that she was in fact interested in a relationship with me. I told her one day I'd like to make her my girlfriend and she said \" That'd be really nice :)\" which made me super happy, but she also said she wants to \"see where things go between us\" as she's busy with pledging a sorority and school/work... But one thing that raised a red flag in my book is that she mentioned that she's \"Not very good with commitment\". Now I was cheated on by my last girlfriend and this set off some alarms for me, but I'm not trying to let my past affect my future but I cant help but feel some anxiousness here. We've gone out on one date last week and things went great, and we haven't even kissed yet, but its obvious that we're both interested in each other. So I'm just coming to y'all for an outside opinion. What is this girl waiting for? and what does her fear of commitments mean?", "summary": "Girl says she is interested, wants to see where things go and she is afraid of commitment. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_tygdu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sometimes I feel we should just vent. Reddit, what something particularly bad that's happened recently that you need to vent about?", "post": "I'll go first:\n  \nI'm making this cause I was broken up with this morning. She was awesome. For a long time, she liked spending time with me, it seemed, but these last few weeks, it's been apparent something was up. It isn't a horrible thing, it's just truly one of those moments where I really truly loved someone and when she said she didn't want to be with me anymore, I said ok. I don't know who else knows this, but if you really do love someone, you'll let them go, and the sadness after isn't so bad, because you'll know you did the right thing. So use that sadness.\n  \nBecause at least you'll know he/she is happy. She really was a great girl, and we've been together for almost a year and 1/2. The longest I've ever been with somebody. It feels stupid typing this out, simply because I feel bad, but it's therapeutic. My beagle was also killed around 2 months ago, so I'm in a pretty low place. Can anyone else share an experience so I know I'm not the only one having a bad day?\n  \nThanks guys. She showed me Reddit, as well. Yup, a lot of good came from out relationship.", "summary": "Was broken up with today and was wondering about anyone else's bad day. Maybe we can cheer each other up. Funny shit is welcome."}
{"id": "t3_43b1s9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I, (19/M) fell in love with a (16/F) who doesn't believe in love or relationships.", "post": "So, I feel in love with this girl whom I find, incredible. She is someone who can, somehow, calm me down and make me feel relaxed, which is weird because no one has ever been able to do that. And she just great. Not much needed to be said about that. One day she asked me if I believed in love, where I said yes and she told me how she saw love as a sort of bad thing, that it only causes pain, confusion, sadness and grief.\nI told her about the benefits, about being happy, feeling understood, feeling that void in ones heart being filled, having someone there for you at all times, and obviously and \"freuddly\", the sex.\nShe acknowledged those facts and said that, even if they are great, \"You don't need to be in a relationship to be happy, understood, have someone or anything like that, and the good things don't make all the bad things worth it\".\nTo me this was a bigger shot to the heart then Bon Jovi could ever sing about.\nFunnily enough, I told her I liked her and she got weird... She didn't say no, or yes, she simply said that I didn't know her well enough to like her, that she didn't believe in relationships, and that she liked talking to me and my company. This confused me......\n\nThe 2 of us still talk a lot and spend time with each other. Actually even more after I told her. \n\nI love this girl. She is one of the most incredible people I've meet in a long time. I want her to be mine and for me to be hers. But, I don't know what to do. I've only known her for 3 weeks, but it feel like 3 years.\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on how to get this girl I love to want to be with me or to at least help me find a way to get closer to her?\nAny and all help is very welcome.", "summary": "Me like girl. Girl probably likes me. Girl no like relationships/love. I want relationship/love with her. Me confused and don't know what to do. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1i90ek", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(30/m)My girlfriend (26/f) drunkenly kissed another guy... In front of me! I'm heartbroken and confused.", "post": "We've been together almost a year and I was blissfully happy with her. I always joked that she is my dream woman and I knew she was the one for me from a couple of months into our relationship.\nWe went to a club with some friends last night. We had quite a lot to drink and all had taken some MDMA. We rarely take drugs but have both had experience of them before. I lost her in the crowd for a few minutes only to walk past her drunkenly kissing a random guy on the dance floor. I was in shock, reeling that she could do something like that, so I left. \n\nOne of my friends went over to her to ask her what the hell she was doing. She ran after me as I was leaving and begged me to talk to her. She maintained that she had no idea what she was doing and that it was a mistake. I wasn't able to speak to her as I was still in shock at what I witnessed so left in a cab.\n\nI haven't spoken to her since but she has texted me wanting to talk it over. I feel like my heart has been broken. I don't understand how she could have done this. I love her deeply, but can no longer trust her. And something tells me that if she can do this while I am with her, then God only knows what she gets up to while I am not around! I'm also hugely embarrassed that my friends saw her kissing another man and don't know if I can ever forgive her. I know that being under the influence can make people do stupid things, but I have never and could never conceive of doing anything like what she did. Anyone with some advice or perspective on this would be much appreciated.", "summary": "my gf drunkenly kissed a guy in a club while I saw them. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4v8hnw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20F] of 6 months kissed another guy so should I [20M] trust her again?", "post": "I fully trusted my girlfriend and I give her total freedom to meet and spend time with whomever she pleases. We have a mature relationship and mutual understanding that we are exclusive. I know that she has a lot of guy friends but we both know that most of them want to be more than friends since she is good looking. We have talked about it before and she has admitted that they try and flirt with her but she just ignores it and continues trying to be friends. \n\nI trust my girlfriend but not other guys. I have always had apprehensions that something would happen but in the last few months I started to really trust her and believed that she would draw the line and make sure nothing happened. A few months after I had completely started to trust her, she told me that a guy at work kissed her. She told me that he pulled her in and that she didn't want it to happen but they were both sober and they are intelligent people which really made me question her ability to say \"no\". The guy doesn't know we are together since she has never told anyone at work about us. She said she pushed away which made it sound like assault but when I asked her if I could help and maybe take action she didn't want the guy to get in trouble. She still works there and will inevitably see him around the workplace.\n\nShe was very apologetic for the incident so I forgave her for what she did but her attitude to how she speaks to guys and how she allows them to flirt hasn't changed. I do believe that we have a great relationship but if she gives guys (who she knows want to be more than friends) the opportunity to flirt and be alone, then she has to have the will power to say no. Because of this incident, I don't know how to trust her again without becoming a tyrannic boyfriend who controls all her interactions (which I don't think I can do). She just seems too fragile at will to ensure that this won't happen again. I just don't understand how this can be prevented in the future and how to trust her when she doesn't know how to draw the line.", "summary": "I trusted my girlfriend but she kissed another guy and I don't think I can trust her since she still allows other guys to continue flirting with her. I think she has good intentions but in the heat of the situation she doesn't know how to draw the line, stand her ground, and say no. How can I trust her again?"}
{"id": "t3_ehzc5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your advice.", "post": "I have been a resident assistant at my college for a full year now. I have enjoyed it, but this semester things have changed. Housing has a bunch of new people and they are all trying to change things. They have also begun piling a lot of work on us and it's starting to effect my school work. In short, my heart's just not in it and I needed out. On top of that, I can't afford to be an RA anymore because I need a job that makes money. The 200 a semester they pay me just isn't cutting it. I decided to step down and told my boss a couple weeks ago. Living on campus is very expensive, and there is an apartment complex a mile from campus that is cheaper. I, along with 3 other RA's that quit as well all decided to move in together. We've done all the paperwork, and I'm set to move in this Friday. I wrote an e-mail to our assistant director of housing right after I quit informing him that due to financial hardship, I need to get out of my housing contract. As an RA, we are forced to sign housing contracts because they allow us to live on campus for free. i finally received an e-mail back from him today saying that because he saw that I receive X amount of financial aid, plus I'm eligible for a loan, he has no choice but to deny me the cancellation of my contract. He said the best he can do is change my status to off campus but obligated. This means I will have to pay 1920 to have a room on campus, even though I don't physically live there. I don't know what to do. I had to quit being an RA because I couldn't afford it, and now they want me to pay them 2000 dollars. Does anyone have advice for what I could do to get out of paying it? Or at least any alternative suggestions?", "summary": "Quit RA job because I'm broke, need out of housing contract on campus, only way is to pay 2000 dollars. Can they do that?"}
{"id": "t3_3th2eu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F27] have a coworker [M40] who will not stop whistling, and it is driving me insane.", "post": "Just like the title states, I [F27] have a coworker [M40], we can call him Ethan, who will not stop whistling. We work in a very small office with 3 other people (F35, F45, M40). The room is probably only 10'X30,' and I sit closest to the Ethan. Though he is in his own office that is an off-shoot to the main room, the door to his office is directly behind me. He keeps his door open, and all day long he whistles songs at high frequencies. Ethan is not my boss, but he is considered second in command within my department. My boss (M40) sits in an office on the other side of our department, and sometimes he even whistles, so I doubt the noise bothers him. \n\nI get extremely irked by loud and repetitive noises, so the whistling drives me crazy. Unfortunately we also have a policy within my work that you can only wear one earbud of headphones while working, so you can still be talked to. This means I can't throw headphone on and ignore it (though sometimes I do this when I really can't take it). Ethan is a pretty mean person and would not take well to me complaining about his whistling. He throws temper tantrums and has even broken his hand by punching his desk when things didn't go his way. Though the other two women (F35, F45) have made it clear that they are also annoyed by his whistling, there is no real solution that we have found to getting it to stop. Also neither of them are quite as close to the action as I am. Again, Ethan is a really stubborn guy. My boss is also extremely passive aggressive and lifelong friends with Ethan, so I doubt he would help if I complain. Any ideas on how to get him to stop whistling or even to help me learn to live with the whistles?", "summary": "My coworker whistles constantly, and I want him to stop."}
{"id": "t3_2zpsvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [25F] get a share of the compensation money for a holiday which my Father [60M] and sister[31] paid for?", "post": "I'm currently unemployed and have been for a while now. I'm educated to the hilt but I've found it difficult to find jobs in our neighbourhood. After moving back from working abroad I paid off my debts and then had very little money left. \n\nBecause of some bad times, my sister decided that we should go on a holiday. I couldn't pay so they paid for me. While we were there our plane was delayed and we received a far amount of money in compensation from the travel agent for three people in one large check. My father states that since I didn't pay for the holiday, I  should not be entitled to any of the compensation. I don't have any problem with this but a little bit of money would be handy at the moment.", "summary": "flight was delayed while on holiday should I get any of it if I didn't pay for the holiday itself?"}
{"id": "t3_10gfa6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Help ! Legal professionals of reddit what do you think I should do (details inside)", "post": "am an unlicensed Paralegal Graduate located in Toronto,ON.\n\nI was recently contacted by someone who wants me to look over a civil case they are a part of.\n\n\"Duty is to respond back to civil suit that was filed through the superior court of justice. To examine case, and to respond back with all necessary paperwork.\"\n\nThats what it said on the ad.\n\nHe wants me to look over the case pull up forms he needs to fill out and I guess file them for him.\n\nNow my question is am I breaking any rules or regulations by helping him fill out forms? I know as an unlicensed paralegal I can't give him any legal advice and I made that clear to him but is there anything else I should be aware of?", "summary": "Dude wants help with paperwork, not sure if good oppurtunity or fucking myself over with Law Society of Upper Canada. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_3t4ane", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Question about insurance money after a car accident", "post": "I was in an accident last year around October when someone rear ended my car at a stoplight. I was under 18 and was covered under my parent's insurance. My mom handled everything with the insurance company and even arranged for me to go to a chiropractor. When I turned 18 that same year's December, the insurance company said that I had to fill out and sign my own forms from then on. We recently received a check from our insurance company written out to my name. When I asked her out of curiosity if that money was legally supposed to be mine, she said no it's hers because she was the one who dealt with the insurance companies.\n\nThe reason I asked was because I looked at my checking account today and saw that the check was deposited into my account. Me, being the curious person I am, wanted to know why it was in my account. My mom's response was that the check was written under my name so it had to be in my account first before she could take it out.\n\nI just want to point out that I am not ungrateful to my mother or my parents at all. I love my parents and my family is fairly well off. I have a job and go to school. Without them, I could not be where I am today. I am just curious if my mother is in the right, because she would not provide me with a straight response. Like I mentioned previously, I was (and still am) under my parent's insurance and drive a car they purchased to replace the totaled one.\n\nTo sum it up (", "summary": "):"}
{"id": "t3_4r7zdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] feel trapped, like I can't get in a relationship without losing my bestfriend.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nIt's been a long 7 years of me being in love with my bestfriend, 19F, we have had the occasional fling between us and she has always said that their is potential between us in the future, I feel like i'm holding on to hope. \n\nI love her to pieces and can't move on, in the back of my head I am hoping for there to be something between us one day.. when that day will ever come, idk. She leads me on and we have sex occasionally which probably makes it worse for me..\n\nBasically, I have tried to tell her that if I was to find somebody else, that she would most likely have to be gone out of my life, like realistically what sort of girl would allow their boyfriend to continue speaking/seeing a girl that they have previously loved for 7 years? Not going to happen. I've spoke to her about this and she's like what so if you got with someone you're going to ruin our friendship? We are best friends blabla you can't just do that, and I couldn't, I feel like I really couldn't ditch her as a bestfriend as she means so much to me. \n\nI'm terrible with writing and their is probably much more to it than what I have put up there but yeah, I feel like i'm trapped of not being able to get with anyone without losing her as a bestfriend, + I don't think i'd actually be able to see anyone else with her as my bestfriend anyway because of the feelings I have for her.", "summary": "Love my bestfriend, feel like I can't move on without ditching her off, couldn't do that to her. TRAPPED"}
{"id": "t3_4p8h8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50 M] with my Wife[49 F] of 23 years, was angry when I left the house for half an hour before our Son's [8M] bedtime.", "post": "I am home pretty much every evening, and I practically always cook the family dinner (5:30 PM). Then I clean up the kitchen and chill while my wife runs our son's bath and we are around the house as a family.\n\nThen at bedtime for our boy, (6:45 - 7:00) I read to him in bed for about half an hour. We enjoy this time together, and we have read many great things, including The Hobbit, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter as well as educational stuff like The Kon-Tiki Expedition and A Hellen Keller biography as well as novels geared to his age. Our son is very interested and engaged in everything we read, even if it is above his age level.\n\nTonight wife was angry because I told her I was going out after dinner to give advice to a neighbour and good friend regarding a reno project. I cleaned up the kitchen and left at 6, leaving her and son to do the bath routine. I was home by 6:30 for the bedtime and reading routine.\n\nThis is what my wife said about my leaving; \"Why did you decide to do this now instead of waiting until son was in bed?\" \"You are putting your friend ahead of your son's needs.\" \"You are wrong to do this and you know it.\" \nShe also tried to denigrate the value of my reading to my son, by implying that I read to him largely for selfish reasons, evidenced by the fact that I read things I like to him.", "summary": "Wife thinks I was totally unreasonable for me to duck out for half an hour to help a friend between dinner and kid's bedtime. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2ktsp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [25F] live with my boyfriend [26 M/F] of 4 years before we get married? I want to save something for marriage.....", "post": "I\"ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we've been through many ups and downs and both know we want to get married in the next 2 years (we both want to be settled into careers and have saved a good amount before).    \n\nWe met in college and after 4 years I REALLY want to take that step and live together.  We openly talk about how it sucks that we're both living at home to save money but know its a good choice for us in the long run.\n\nI know my boyfriend is under the impression that we will buy a house together a bit before or when we are engaged.  Part of me is excited for that, but another part wants to save SOMETHING for marriage.  We have sex, we're already practically part of the other's family, we definitely show the good the bad and the ugly parts of ourselves with each other....\n\nAt different times before we moved home to save money, we both had our own apartments, and during those times we'd spend 3 or 4 nights a week together.  I definitely saw he is anal about certain things and know we can butt heads about finances.  I know its true you don't REALLY know someone until you live with them, share bills, ect. but I just feel like if we buy a house together, share finances, are having sex...almost like, what is the point of getting married?  It feels like we're already married sometimes.\n\n I know it sounds stupid but I want us being married to have some sort of privileges of marriage.   Should I tell him I want to wait to live together until we're married?  We're open and I would of course tell him why, I'm just not sure if that's the right decision for me to make.", "summary": "boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years, we've talked about getting married in the next 2 years.  It feels like we're already married.  We both moved back home to save up.  It makes sense for us to buy a house together when we're engaged, but I keep feeling like I want to save something for marriage. "}
{"id": "t3_3dcm67", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing the guy I like", "post": "Tifu by potentially ruining a great relationship. I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. I like him. A lot. But he's really quiet and doesn't express his feelings very much. I, on the other hand, probably express my feelings too much.\n\nOne thing to know about this guy is that he hasn't had a real relationship in 10 years. I knew this so I didn't want to push him and scare him off. We hung out on Saturday and he said something along the lines of, if I get any offers to hang out with other guys that I should do it.\n\nNow this has been driving me crazy so I asked him about it today and basically forced him to confront his feelings and he kind of freaked out. He told me that he doesn't know what to think or say and that he needs time to think about everything. I don't know if he's scared because he does want to be with me or if he doesn't want to be with me and he just doesn't know how to say it. \n\nSo now I have to just sit and wait for him to talk to me again. It's killing me. I hate not knowing. But I can't push him anymore than I already have. I guess I learned my lesson.", "summary": "I pushed a quiet guy to open up about his feelings and now I don't know if I'll ever see him again."}
{"id": "t3_m43mx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have -no- idea what I should do.", "post": "I have a girlfriend. I'm 14, she's 15. She's a real nice girl, never done a mean thing to anyone. I've been with her for about a month and a half, and I'm thinking about breaking up with her. She's just hard to actually hold a conversation with, which is a pretty big dealbreaker for me. Thing is, I really don't want to hurt her. Like I said, she's really nice and all, and I have to see her on a daily basis for the next 3 years. Another thing is, I've got quite a few people who'll want to kick my ass if I do anything to hurt her. Some of them could really fuck my shit up.", "summary": "Wanna break up with girl, dont want to hurt girl, dont want ass kicked."}
{"id": "t3_iwr2g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got flown out for a job interview on short notice, with still no response. What are my chances?", "post": "So here's the deal:\n\nTwo weeks ago on Tuesday, I received a one line email from this company's HR rep, asking if I could fly out for an interview (the email address checked out, and the company was legitimate, so I bit) [*sidenote, at first I had no clue who these guys were so I felt a bit odd at first, but then about a week later I realized I applied for the position on Monster about 3 months ago*]. Long story short (and some more really short emails later), I agree, two other people contact me, and on Wednesday morning I receive a call, and my flight, 4 star lodging, and rental car are booked, with my departure being just after noon that day (direct flight, with window seats like I asked).\n\nThey ask me to make a presentation about my self and all this other stuff, so I do it all, and prepare myself for the interview. To spare you the grueling details of the 4-5 hour ordeal, the interview went well, and I believe I responded well to all the interviewer's questions, both as a group and individually.\n\nSo now, two weeks later, I'm expecting to have heard a response from HR, but still nothing. how long should I wait before it's a bust, considering the lengths they went through to get me there and interview? The position is great, and it'd move my career just as I'd like.", "summary": "Company flies me out and puts me up on short notice two weeks ago. Interview went well, still no response. Time to give up?"}
{"id": "t3_j8i45", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your weirdist, or coolest dream you have had?", "post": "My weirdest dream I have had was when I was four. I had a dream that I was in my room, the I heard one of those vacuum things from teletubbies, and it came into my room. So I jumped out my window, but it followed me. So once I was outside I flew (yes, I could fly) to the nearest mc donalds and ordered some weird thing, I forgot, but the vacuum was still following me, and it sucked me up. So I was inside the thing and there was a control panel and I could control the thing and I could shoot plungers with it. So I shot the plungers at some girls boobs and I went to a dairy farm and the girl got hooked up to a milking machine fully naked and then I woke up. 0.0 most fucked up dream ever. Post your dreams pl0x?", "summary": "I was a fucked up child"}
{"id": "t3_2sscgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17f] with my partner [22m] of eight months, starting to get suspicious", "post": "HI guys. I know I'm young, but situations with my mother lead to me having to live with him. I love it here, his mother is fantastic, the environment is beautiful and it's amazing here.\n\nAnyway. Last night he had a friend around, (We'll call him L and my partner D) and something really heartbreaking happened to one of my friends so I was basically in an emotional coma. I went to bed early, while L was on the computer and D was doing his own thing.\n\nD told me before that he'd been texting his ex girlfriend, C. The general hi, it's been ages, how are you kind of thing. He was with her before me. I heard from his mother that C would abuse him and his mother would notice bruises on him. She would also steal money from the mother and verbally abused her too.\n\nBack to today. I woke up and played about half an hour or a video game I really enjoy. After that I decided to use his mobile to post a picture of us - I'd take a few photos of us here and there - onto Facebook. I went to do so and noticed he has a passcode on his phone. He's never had a passcode before. We're always open about everything.\n\nNow we get to what I just found. I went onto his Facebook, suspicion growing inside me. I've never had a reason to be suspicious of him. He's always so open about everything with me.\n\nI found messages of him talking to his ex's sister about their relationship. He didn't just message her, he messaged one of his close friends, saying 'he misses someone and just can't let it go'. C had also sent him three pictures of herself.\n\nReddit, what do I do? He's still sleeping and will most likely be awake in the afternoon, at around 2pm. I'm so confused and lost. I plan on confronting him when he's awake enough to respond with a clear mind and not a sleepy one.", "summary": "Suspicious of my partner of eight months and his ex girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1n5u3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my bf [22 M] of a year and a half don't seem the same for me.", "post": "My bf, 22/M, and I, 23/F, have been dating for a year and a half and things seem to be going downhill for me while everything is going uphill for my him. In the beginning of the relationship, I was more into it posting pictures on social networks, introducing him to my friends, etc. He seemed like he didn't really want our relationship to be known. He's a marine and his friends are back home in the states. I've met his friends here, but I've never met his actual friends. His lack of expressing our relationship made me feel like he was ashamed of me and didn't want anybody to know. \n\nWe've had arguments and he started hiding things on his facebook, especially posts from his other females friends, so I automatically lost my trust for him there. I even brought up breaking up after that. He didn't want to break up and we're still trying it out, but honestly, the relationship seemed to have died down for me since then.\n\nNow, he is the one who's really into the relationship. Always saying lovey dovey stuff, him wanting to take me home with him to meet his family and close friends back home, wanting to match outfits, taking pictures, and all that stuff. He's even been bringing up marriage a lot lately. \n\nI just feel overwhelmed and feel as if he's all of the sudden become over attached.", "summary": "boyfriend who showed no interest in our relationship has become overly attacked in the last couple of months. I'm not too sure how to feel about this."}
{"id": "t3_t0iv5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've secretly liked a girl for 5 years, and I've done nothing about it.", "post": "I've liked this girl in my school since 5th grade (now entering junior year). We spoke a good deal in 5th grade, on the phone, etc. However, starting in 6th grade, we didn't speak much because we had no classes together or no means of 'forced' (classes) communication.\n\nThe only time I've shared a class with her was 7th grade, and I probably made a fool of myself by trying to charm her with my jokes. I'm not funny, let's just throw that out there. I'm only funny if I don't try.\n\nWell, now it's the end of sophomore year, and at the end of mid-terms, she was sitting next to me and I asked her how her exam went (whilst blushing so much that I felt like my face was on fire), she smiled, I said I probably failed (that must've impressed her /sarcasm), etc. She's so pretty to me, and she's always happy.\n\nWe hang out in two very different circles now, and when we pass by in the hallway, we don't say anything though I'm sure she notices me just as I notice her. I want to say something, but the words won't come out. Now I feel it has been so long that if I randomly say \"Hi\", she will be a bit weirded out by the spontaneousness. She probably wouldn't even notice and I'd feel worse.", "summary": "+ Continuation of Above I'm the typical geek. I stopped playing instruments and started focusing on coding. I'm fair skinned, wear glasses, and not very strong. I feel like I should buff up over the summer, but my skin is so fair I'd probably get a sun burn instead of tan. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2o6wok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23 F) keep catching my boyfriend (23 M) in lies.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year, our relationship has its ups and downs, but we make up and that's that. About a week ago, I moved in with him and his parents to help us save up money for an apartment in the very near future. However, recently, I have caught him in multiple lies concerning financial issues. Am I wrong for being absolutely furious that he is spending tons of money that we don't really have right now? And how do I keep my suspicions that he is lying about other stuff at bay?", "summary": "Caught boyfriend in lies, am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_34kcaa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] feel more comfortable when my girlfriend [21F] goes out drinking/partying?", "post": "I can't help but worry when I'm not there with her and I don't know why. I don't treat her like a child and bark orders at her, just ask what her plans are and tell her to be careful and thats it. She doesn't go out very often but the past month or so she's been out every Friday and one I went with her. She usually goes out with her girl roommates and have guy friends that are apart of the group, they're all pretty cool people.She never really gives me reason to get worried, she wears her promise ring like its a wedding ring and never takes it off, always texts me through the night and sends snap chats and lets me know when she's home by text or if I'm home she'll call.\n\nI guess my worries stem from the typical, I don't trust what guys will do and if she gets really drunk she won't even know what she's doing and it gets me nervous. I've had trust issues with passed relationships and I've basically overcome them when we started dating over a year ago, but some things linger and its not fair to link her to them because she's never given me reason to doubt. I feel that I have nothing to worry about and I should because thats the way its always been in relationships I've had. \n\nShe's a good girl and I love that, she goes out and basically drinks wine and is usually coherent enough to not screw up words in her texts. She's usually home and in bed sometimes before I even get home. She's awesome but I have no idea why I feel anxiety every time she goes out because while I'm with her and I go to talk to her friends its not like I come back to her with a circle of guys around her trying to get with her or her dancing with guys, nothing like that. I know all her friends and they seem to love me and she says they love me and love us as a relationship, they're even jealous of us having a good relationship. I just don't know, I've been battling this in my head for a while and don't know how to really stop being unreasonable.", "summary": "My girlfriend occasionally goes out drinking with the girls and her guy friends in her group. I never had any reasons to be nervous of things as I've been there with her and she always texts me through the night, but I can't seem to shake the anxiety."}
{"id": "t3_28jlk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ex girlfriend [22 F] of 3 years, We broke up last year and it still bothers me a lot", "post": "So, We were together for 2 years, and I had to move out of city for a job.  It lasted 10 months into the job where the relationship got rough, and we broke up.  IT was actually pretty rough, and she started dating a guy right away. It hurt me a lot. I thought like \"What a bitch\".  either way, it has caused me a big depression.  I was posting on here like crazy at first but someone told me I needed to calm down, so I haven't been on in 4 months.\n\nSince then, I graduated college, and I'm going to a new university (my ex goes to this university) and I would like to meet someone new...but I keep meeting girls, and It's either I'm not interested and they like me, or I like them but they're not interested.  \n\nI would really like to meet someone when school starts, but all these girls I'm meeting I just don't feel it for, and it's causing me to be depressed again.  I don't even know how to meet people anymore.\n\nMy ex girlfriend hurt me a lot.  Like a whole lot, after the break up, she said a lot of really hurtful things, and just hasn't talked to me since. I look okay, and I'm pretty smart, and I like to stay fit, and have a job.  Although, I'm still probably a 7/10, My personality is very factual though.\n\nHow do I get over her? and meet someone new that I feel is worthy of dating?", "summary": "1.How do I get over a depression of a break up?  2. How do I meet a girl who I think would be perfect for me?"}
{"id": "t3_ok5n3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend depressed, breaks plans", "post": "Me, 24(f), him, 25(m). My boyfriend of three years is suffering with depression. He constantly complains that he's a failure because he \"can't\" get a good job, and he has been having issues getting through college. Literally every other time we have plans to do something, he ends up texting me to say he's too sad to hang out, that he just wants to go home, drink, and go to bed. He won't really talk to me for a few days afterward, either. He does this to friends as well, and as a result he doesn't have any friends in the area anymore. \nI want to be understanding, because I know he just doesn't feel like being around anyone, but to me canceling plans so often is disrespectful. Whenever he hangs out with somebody anyway, he always ends up having a great time, so I also can't help but feel this is all very self destructive. I've tried to politely talk to him about it a few times, but he just deflects and I always come alway feeling like a jerk. \n\nWhat do you think reddit? Am I out of line to feel upset? If not, what would you do to help the situation?", "summary": "Boyfriend always cancels plans because he's depressed. Not sure what to do, or if I'm justified in feeling annoyed."}
{"id": "t3_ewuk2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I convince my parents to let me live off-campus next year?", "post": "Backstory: I'm a sophomore right now living in the dorms (my choice to live in there for the second year in a row) but I want to get an apartment off-campus with a couple buddies down my hall.\n\nMy parents however, have decided to throw a wrench in those plans by informing me they think I would be able to focus better if I was living on campus again. Either in the dorms or an on-campus apartment.\n\nI know it doesn't matter where I live, studying is studying. But for some reason they won't get this through their heads. Any advice?", "summary": "Sophomore in college wants to live off-campus next year. Parents think there will be focus-related issues living off-campus. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2c5yyb", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Update] Help with offering an out to a bridesmaid", "post": "Original post found here:  \n\nI've spent the past 3 months trying to contact this bridesmaid, talk to her, reach out to her, everything. She never responds or acknowledges my attempts. Three weeks ago I decided I would offer her an out of the wedding party. I've been trying to get her to come over and talk since then and either she ignores me or makes a plan to come over and flakes. Last night I reached the end of my rope and sent her a long text message basically saying I hope I come across as gentle as I'm trying to be, I understand if it's all too much for her with the new job and having to relocate and everything else that's going on and wouldn't have any hard feelings at all if she decided it would be easier for her to step back and attend the wedding as an honoured guest instead. I feel like a piece of shit for doing it this way but with only 3 weeks to go before I have to finalize guest count and everything, and really ultimately wanting her out, I couldn't handle waiting for her any longer. She replied a few hours later saying that she understood, and then she scolded me for doing it via text and not with a phone call or in person. Like I said, I've tried and she either ignores me or bails. I didn't know what else to do. I am still trying to schedule a coffee date to meet with her and talk, but I think I am going to hold firm on her being out of the wedding party. Our friendship has been falling apart since December but if it is permanently damaged because of this, I understand and am prepared for that outcome.", "summary": "I got sick of trying, and after a particularly emotional and difficult week in my personal life I texted my bridesmaid to offer her the out. She took it (I think) but we still need to sit down and talk. I'm not really in any better position than I was before and not only do I not feel better about the situation, I now feel pretty shitty about myself too. I just want this to be over with."}
{"id": "t3_2sduag", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help! My boyfriend's dog has attacked my dog three times now.", "post": "My boyfriend and I live together. He has a female pit bull and I have a male bernese mountain dog mix. My boyfriend moved into my place and we started by taking them on walks together which went great! We brought them inside together and Bear, my dog, was too up in her face. He looked to be showing dominance of some sort in a non aggressive way and she went after him. She latched onto him and wouldn't let go. We tried again and the same thing happened. The last time was yesterday, she was in our room and he was in the hallway, we had the door open for only a moment and she ran out and grabbed him, completely unprovoked. We could not get her off of him, her jaw was completely locked on him. I'm terrified and frankly I'm starting to resent her. Someone please help me!", "summary": "My boyfriend's dog scares the shit out of me and I'm afraid she's going to do serious harm to my dog."}
{"id": "t3_3ioq5r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] she is a single mom and having issues with her mother.", "post": "Ok so this is mostly on her behalf, but I want to get the best advice to help her. So background first.\n\nShe is a single mom to a 1 year old boy with zero help or contact from the father. She lives with her parents. Her mom watches the baby while she is at work.\n\nHere is the thing, her mother controls her. Since she has had the child she hasn't spent one night away from home. She must be back by 2 am, and can only leave if her mom allows or will watch the child. Her mom also will not let her hire a babysitter or let anyone else watch him.\n\nHer mother is very controlling and toxic in my opinion. They have been fighting lately. Her mom insists that she finds a husband and a \"stable family\" for her child. Which is not really how that works.\n\nHer father basically has his nuts locked by her. When they argue he says nothing, and she runs/controls everything. So she is pretty much alone in fighting this battle. \n\nI told her I think she is just going to have to get her own place and take her son. Legally her mom can't do anything, but it's going to hurt her a lot financially. She'll have to pay for a babysitter, and rent on her own.\n\nWhat is the best advice I can give her or help her out? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "GFs mom is manipulative and controlling. Need help, helping her become independent."}
{"id": "t3_wqfr0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is the guy I'm dating a lothario??", "post": "Having a weak moment here - could use some advice.  A little background: have been acquaintances with this guy for over a year.  We are in our 20s.  Started going out a few months ago, not long after I split with my long-term BF (whom I am very much over).  This guy I'm dating is very cute, suave, and kind of a smooth-talker, which makes me a little leery, especially since he hasn't had a girlfriend for a few years.  \n\nIn the beginning we moved a little too fast.  We both admitted having long-time crushes on each other, emotions took over, and we had sex within the first week of dating.  Since then we've slowed down.  And by slowed down I mean wayyy down, to the point where we see each other every 1.5 weeks or so.  We don't always have sex when we hang out.  I've been to some of his family get-togethers and it's his idea to hold off on sex; he's told me he wants to get to know me more before we get serious.  At the same time, his actions don't always match his words.  For instance, he takes a very long time to get back to me and doesn't seem all that interested in getting together.  But then there will be rare occasions where he calls (because he feels guilty for not responding to my texts?) suggesting fun adventures we can have, and pretty much telling me everything that I want to hear; I think he only contacts me when his radar detects that he's losing me.  I just feel like it's rude and inconsiderate to consistently take almost a day to respond to a text message.  I'm frustrated to the point where I don't want to see him any longer.", "summary": "Moved too fast with guy I've been dating for a few months, and we've slowed down to almost a standstill.  He doesn't seem motivated to see me, which is hurtful, because I really like the guy.  I know he likes me too, but his lack of motivation to see me/contact me makes me think otherwise sometimes.  Should I just move on??"}
{"id": "t3_17quiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/20) have romantic feelings for my best friend (F/20). Help/advice appreciated!", "post": "I apologize in advance for this is going to be a semi-long post. Entering college, I did not have any female friends (I attended a male-only high school). The girl who lived across from me my freshman year, I'll call her Jill for anonymity's sake , was very friendly. We had a few classes together and she often came to me for help with assignments. From our interactions, Jill and I quickly became friendly. Over time, we grew close and she began telling me about her family and her past.\n\nFlash forwards to my junior year. She considers me one of her closest friends. I have romantic feelings for her, a fact which she (drunkenly) tells me she has known since we met. Jill tells me (also drunkenly) that although she loves me, she does not see me as a potential romantic partner. Now, I'm trying my damnedest to just be her friend, but my feelings for something more are getting in the way. I love her but whenever I see her with another guy I cannot help but feel jealousy. Every part of me knows that I should let it go and do my best to be a good friend, yet I cannot overcome my feelings for her. I do not mean to be whiny and say \"she belongs with me\" or anything to that effect for I understand her feelings are her own. If she doesn't share my feelings, it is what it is. Yet lately, seeing her flirt with and hook up with other guys has left me feeling jealous. I know I feel for her differently than how she feels for me, yet I cannot seem to shake how I feel. I want to just be her close friend but I feel that our intersecting circles of friends prevents me from detaching myself and filling in the role of a close male friend. I am asking for your opinion on my situation, specifically along the lines of how I can transition myself from having romantic feelings for a girl into platonic friendship (for this is most likely my only option to keep in contact with her without losing her forever).", "summary": "I'm in love with a close friend of 2 years who doesn't feel the same way."}
{"id": "t3_39w3v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] caused my gf [25F] of 5 months, to cry on her birthday", "post": "Twas my girlfriend's bday the other day and it ended in the worse possible way I could have ever imagined! I had made her favorite cake and a homemade card which I thought she'd like a lot. And the plan for the day was to go out to dinner someplace we've never been before. It took me a lot of time to make the cake and the card. \n\nWell I show up to her place and bring in the card and cake and she seemed rather unimpressed. The entire car ride there she hardly talked, hardly talked at the restaurant until she mentioned to me her disappointment in what I had given her.\n\n I was really hurt and stopped trying to talk. I felt really shitty, 1 the effort I put in wasn't appreciated and 2 I ruined her birthday. A handful of words were spoken on the way home, this was a long drive mind you, over an hour each way. \n\nWhen we got home she started to cry. This broke my heart obviously and I apologized for it but she ended up crying herself to sleep and slept on the couch.\n\n I don't know what to do from here, I'd really appreciate some advice. \n\nSide note. We did just get back from a trip that was very expensive for the both of us.", "summary": "birthday didn't live up to gf's expectations and caused her to cry herself to sleep."}
{"id": "t3_23omw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18M] give up on my crush? [17F]", "post": "I used to like a girl in my class since the beginning of school but I feel like giving up on her. I'm a bit shy and it's pretty hard for me to even look at her cause I'm in love with her. When I'm around she doesn't even seem to notice me, she most likely ignores me. The same in class, when I try to look at her, she doesn't even pay attention to me (even to see why I changed my sight towards her). She just ignores me, which really makes me feel sad, she talks with others guys and stuff but with me it's like I'm invisible or something.\n\nAt first I thought she really liked me because she gave some signs, like giggling, smiling a lot, asking me for questions, sitting next to me without even telling her something, staring at me... I even caught her one time laughing when I made a facial expression to another girl (tryin' to be funny).\n\nBut now, I feel like giving up, maybe she doesn't like me or finds me annoying just because I'm shy and bcus I don't say anything to her. Or maybe someone told her something about me and now she thinks I'm weird.\n\nTo me, the fact that she doesn't even look at me when I look at her just makes me think that she doesn't like me and probably hates me or something like that.\n\nShould I give up?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1ili68", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally breaking a condom filled with water on the couch and having letting people believe that it was dog piss.", "post": "At around 8 a.m. this morning, I had a *great* idea. I was to fill a condom with water, as much as I could, and then transport it outside to chill in the driveway. In my sleepy and feeble mind, it sounded like a good way to kill some time rather than doing anything constructive on this miserably hot day. \n\n**How could this possibly go wrong?**\n\nAs I giddily filled the contraceptive with water, I was amazed at how much it stretched and could hold. Condoms are pretty amazing, it held at least a gallon (huehuehue). As it neared completion, it began to resemble an elephant's amniotic sac. \n\nI was satisfied by this size and thought it would look marvelous as the new focal point of the driveway. I then began to carry it as best I could to the front door. It was wibbly wobbling all over the place, which I found sort of entertaining until...**SPLOOSH**, right on the couch. Fuck me. \n\nLater on that evening, I was taken aback when someone was cleaning the couch. Oh shit. I had dried it pretty damn well, but nothing goes unnoticed. It's not like I could say anything without getting the strangest look, and they'd gone through all the trouble of getting the steam cleaner out. **I FELT SO BAD**\n\n Poor dog was blamed for pissing on the couch. I took her for an extra long, leashless walk and had a game of fetch. Feels bad.", "summary": "Condoms are to make love, not war.*"}
{"id": "t3_2cc43t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am (19) female who is worried about her (M19) boyfriend moving away to university", "post": "We have known each other for the past 8 years and he has wanted us to be together for that period of time and now together mentions how I'm the only girl he wants- \n\nWe have only now been going out for 2 months and I will be attending second year at university in September and he will be attending first year however his university is 4 hours away\n\nI am now starting to worry about long distance, we are starting to get closer and I can have the opportunity to transfer to his university but I don't know what to do", "summary": "should I transfer to his university? I still have not spoken to him about how I feel with us going to be apart"}
{"id": "t3_i3w0b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever intentionally screwed up someone's life? If so, how?", "post": "Sometimes, we do things that inadvertently have a negative impact on someone's life. Hell, on the other hand, sometimes people do something that will greatly benefit someone.\n\nWe've had a lot of threads about those kinds of things happening. What I'm curious about is if any of you have deliberately done something to screw someone over.\n\nSeveral years ago, I screwed over an ex. We'd recently broken up, mostly because I found out she was screwing her friend's husband.\n\nI didn't key her car, harm her pets, or do anything else destructive to her property.\n\nInstead, when I learned that she had spent a few days with one a friend messing around with various drugs, I decided to give the place where she did her internship a call and suggest they perform a \"random\" drug test on her, because she had recently taken part in extensive drug use.\n\nShe was doing an internship for her masters, working with troubled kids at one of those facilities that they send children to when they have drug, gang, and other such problems. They had a very strict drug policy for the staff, and I knew that she'd taken a drug test at the start of the internship. She and I weren't drug users; I'm still not. I don't have any issue with them, but the facility's policy allowed me to do this.\n\nWell, they tested her. She ended up learning her internship, which had been a key step in acquiring her license/Master's degree. The way she lost her internship put her in a bad spot with her college, and she spent the next couple of years trying to get things sorted out, with no success.\n\nThe best part is, I also informed her part-time job (where she worked with children and was responsible for coordinating schedules) and she was suspended for drug use from there as well.\n\nShe ended up having to work shitty part-time jobs for three years, before finally getting herself halfway back on track.", "summary": "Ex fucked her friend's husband, did drugs, I tipped people off and set her career back several years."}
{"id": "t3_1r498i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I[23M]being too hard on my SO[23F]", "post": "We already have a 5yr old and now have a 4 month old. She keeps using the baby as an excuse or \"get out of jail free\" card everytime. The house is never clean anymore and I'm a very clean person. She gets mad when she sees me going around cleaning stuff up, doing dishes, and laundry asking what's wrong and I tell her \"nothing\" because If I tell her she's dirty and doesn't have her shit together she'll accuse me of being the dirty one, the one that doesn't do anything. Or \"what would I know, you don't spend all the day with the baby\". I'm just saying it isn't that hard to put the baby down and do some dishes and go back to tending. Put the baby down and do a load of laundry. Rinse & repeat.\n\nSo am I being too hard? is 4-5 months to soon to be expecting her to get out of her \"I can be lazy I'm postpartum and don't have to do shit\" phase?", "summary": "The simplest of house chores don't get done because of baby excuses."}
{"id": "t3_102o86", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel normal and not so paranoid of random \"kinks\" in my personality when on amphetamines. Is that normal?", "post": "I recently went a couple of weeks off the medication to see if I could do well in class and be productive without any sort of stimulant. I started to feel paranoid about a bunch of things from what i say, how i act, what i look like, what i do, and even hyper-analyze any form of interaction I make for some reason. The only thing i managed to accomplish was beating TLoZ Skyward Sword in a weekend of the last 2 weeks. I started becoming an extrovert and joined gymnastics to keep myself motivated and it kind of helped I still did not focus on school and the materials i needed to study. I also started to get a little depressed because i became self-conscience around a few girls that I am very attracted to in my class even though I tried to be outgoing, energetic, confident, etc... I just got back on to learn magnetism for my physics class and its going well and I feel \"up\" as if i were depressed before. I feel normal, productive, and just happy with my life choices that I otherwise find difficult to feel even if i try to find motivation in goals in my field of study. Is this normal?", "summary": "Amphetamines make me feel \"normal\" and help me get over my depression. Is that normal"}
{"id": "t3_3vv92g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [30M] in no man's land with Ex [23F]. Do I just focus on myself?", "post": "My ex broke up with me a little over a month ago. I went NC for a few weeks to focus on me and in that time my ex kept trying to give me birthday gifts she had gotten me. I finally broke NC to let her know that I was moving on and her trying to give me these gifts was just confusing me and making things more difficult. She told me they were meaningless and she was just trying to do \"the right thing\" which only confused me more. After about a month I've finally gotten to a place where I don't mind running into her but I admit there's still some residual feelings. Anyway, I recently started working out at a new gym with my friend so we can keep each other motivated. It just so happens that my ex is at this gym and we ran into each other. She called me after my workout and proceeded to tell me that it's so disrespectful and inappropriate for me to go there; that I'm invading her space. I'm at a loss as to what to do. On one hand I'm doing what I want to do and have no responsibility to her and on the other hand I don't want us to have bad blood or animosity. Am I right to continue to go to that gym with my friend and have her figure out what's best for her?", "summary": "My ex is demanding I leave the gym that she considers \"her's\""}
{"id": "t3_34wjgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and best friend [21F] - Everyone knew about the engagement but me. Am I wrong in feeling a little upset??", "post": "Basically, my best friend and I have been friends for several years. She has been dating her boyfriend for 3 years. Apparently everyone knew about his plans to propose since way before this happened - which was this weekend. \n\nEveryone (including his friends) was invited up north to attend this special event. Meanwhile, I had zero idea. I feel kind of left out. I don't know. I feel like I'm being an entitled, stupid brat. Don't get me wrong - I am incredibly happy for them and I think they're a perfect match. I am just so over the moon for my best friend right now. \n\nBut a tiny little part of me hurts that I was left out - especially since we are so close (well, at least I thought we were).\n\nI'm not sure if it was just entirely unintended or there's something else. For some background, she totally hates the guy I'm dating right now. Reason for that is because I made the mistake of complaining whenever we got into a fight (my boyfriend and I) to her. Now she thinks he's terrible. That's my bad. I take full responsibility. I've tried to do damage control, but to no avail. But this is another post in an of itself. \n\nAnyway, I just feel a little... ostracized, I guess. I know this is NOT about me. Someone kick me in the teeth and bring me back down to Earth please.", "summary": "My best friend of several years got engaged and everyone knew about it but me. Feeling a little ostracized. Don't know if I'm being a spoiled brat or it's okay to feel a little hurt by that."}
{"id": "t3_gq77v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need to avoid argument about sharing sex life online. advice needed.", "post": "This is a throw away account, my boyfriend is a redditor as well and knows my actual account. I am 23, F. He is 23 as well and we have been dating for 2 years.\n\nLast week, while browsing reddit I discovered a comment he had made about me/our sex life that caught me off guard as I didn't know he posted such things online. I browse reddit for the fun of it and up until today have not made much use of posting about personal issues.\n\nI need someone to play devils advocate here, because having details of my sex life being posted about online and not actually communicated to me really upsets me and he doesn't seem to understand why. I know this technically makes me a hypocrite but I left out really personal details for that reason.\nPlease help me, I want to see his point of view and I want to be able to express mine without arguments.\nThank you in advance!", "summary": "Boyfriend posted information about our sex life online. I'm upset."}
{"id": "t3_1qtlkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27F] get [30M] to ask me out again without coming on too strong?", "post": "Went on a really good first date with this guy I met through an online dating app. I had no expectations and had never met anyone off it before but had no idea I would like the guy so much!\n\nI thought it was a good date, winded up having a few drinks and talking for almost 5 hours and had a lot in common. He even walked me home in the rain. When it came time to say goodbye we had a really nice kiss, he even kissed me again before walking away to go home. It was really sweet.\n\nI texted him the next day and said I had a nice time. We texted a few times over the weekend and then mid week I asked him how he was doing (he broke his finger that weekend). We texted back and forth and he finally asked what I was doing on the weekend. I said I might have dinner on Friday and a lunch thing Saturday if it wasn't raining. I asked what he was doing and he said he wasn't sure bec it was an unexpected free weekend finally (couldn't work because his finger is broken).\n\nBut he didn't ask me out? So now I'm confused.\n\nDid he want me to ask HIM out? I thought by getting in touch he would have at least said something along the lines of we should hang out if you're not too busy or something to that extent... But instead just said he wasn't sure yet? Such a bizarre response.\n\nIs all hope lost or what should I do? He would ask me out again if he was interested? Just confused on what to do from here since I really liked him, and it's rare when you find someone that you really get along with straight away! It's only been a little over a week since our first date but it would be good to keep the momentum going but don't want to come on too strong...", "summary": "How do I get him to ask me out again without coming on too strong? I've already initiated contact twice, but no second date yet. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1s5n6a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I have said something?", "post": "So I dated my boyfriend for almost 3 years, and we broke up last January because we tried long distance in college for a semester and it didn't work. He broke up with me because he couldn't handle the 1000+ miles between us. But, then summer came around, and I saw him and we ended up having sex and \"being together-ish\" for about a week before he had to leave. The day before he left we broke up again and it felt like it was for good, but then 3 weeks later he called me and told me he still loves and misses me. Its been about 4 months since then and we haven't spoken, but it was his birthday on Monday and I was really conflicted about saying anything. I still have this weird tiny feeling of hope that we'll be something again just because there are no hard feelings, but I know that I need to accept that he isn't a part of my life anymore. I knew that if I said anything it was going to be because I was hoping for a conversation or to let him know I still care, not because I just wanted to altruistically wish him a happy birthday. So, I decided not to say anything because I didn't want to put him or myself in that situation of weird confusion about where we stand again. (not to mention I would read into anything he said and would be heartbroken if he didn't answer). He's also had so much control over my happiness in the past year, and I finally feel like I'm getting that back, and wouldn't saying something and caring about his response bring me right back to letting him be in control of my emotions? But now it's 3 days later and I haven't slept all night because I feel so guilty and selfish. It's the worst feeling in the world to be neglected by someone who used to be a huge part of your life, and I feel like I made him feel like I was completely over him and don't care anymore. I just don't know if I made the right decision. Help?", "summary": "broke up with my boyfriend of three years in January. He called me 4 months ago telling me he loves and misses me. I haven't spoken to him since then and it was his birthday on Monday and I didn't say anything. I'm feeling guilty and don't know if I made the right decision. help?"}
{"id": "t3_2tcwe1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You Stuffed Me Up.. But I Think I'm Winning. Finally.", "post": "You were the girl that made me something I never wanted to be...\n\nYou used me to pay, drive you, take you out & make you feel special but kept me at arms length, our mutual friends knew exactly what you were doing but never told me. 3 months until you said you need to focus on your studies and from there weeks until you had a Boyfriend..\n\n4 months until it was all over and we met again at a party, not had spoken a word to each other.. I was still f@cked up with what happened as you were the girl that I actually fell in love with.\n\nI let my heart give you another chance but it is still the biggest mistake of my life.\n\nFast forward 8 months of the same of keeping me at arm's length which I stupidly don't even know as I'm so blinded by my feelings for you.\n\nYou do it again you say you need to focus on yourself its not working... \n\nYou left me AGAIN for someone else. 1 week. It killed me.\n\nDepression hit me hard I didn't know if it was me or you.. \n\nI'm finally out of this 3 and half year runt.. I've kept girls at an arm's length and used them as you used me.. played with their emotions not giving two shits about them.. I've apologized as it's the right thing to do because I know I was wrong and given them the closure you never gave me.\n\nIts now that its all over I know I've grown and become 100 times better person.. You made me something I never wanted to be but now its over.. your hold is on me is over... \n\nI've now happy, I don't need that closure. Because If it wasn't for my temporary insanity I wouldn't be working where I am and about to have a trip of a lifetime with some of my best friends!", "summary": "she played me for so long, was blinded by Love.. feels good to not need closure. 2014-2015 is going to be great!!"}
{"id": "t3_112xm3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Alright Reddit, time to fess up, how many of you have throwaway accounts and what do you use them for?", "post": "A few friends found out my username and have been reddit-creeping me lately (I know you're probably reading this T, Roo and Burnzy). Although I have no issue with anyone of the aforementioned calling me out about any comment/post I've ever made, I like the anonymity and spontaneity that reddit provides in that it could be almost anyone in the world talking to you as opposed to a set list of friends. \n\nIt's sorta ironic that I started out on the internet wanting to talk to the \"great unknown\" on AOL, IRC, Yahoo chat (calm down, I'm only in my mid-20s, newsgroup-hipsters) then moved into a \"set friends\" setup with MSN, MySpace and Facebook and now I'm back to longing for the 'stranger connection'...not the chatroulette-you-always-win-a-cock...part of the internet that made it so special when Windows 95 came out.", "summary": "How many of you use a throwaway and if you do, what's your reasoning behind it?"}
{"id": "t3_3rk3ag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my fianc\u00e9 [31 M] two years, am having hard time getting any quiet time to work at home. Help!", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 & I started a business together & it's been going well, except for one thing... he just won't be quiet while I'm trying to work, & no amount of 'Honey, I would love to talk, but right now I'm in the middle of something, ok?' or 'Can we agree to make eye contact & check to see if the other person is busy before we start a conversation?' seems to stop him.\n\nOur apartment is way too small to get away from him, & if I put on headphones, he sees it as an opportunity to start playing music loudly (lately it's been Hotline Bling on loop, which is almost worse than the talking). \n\nI've been leaving to work in coffee shops, but I'm wearing out my welcome at the spots near our apartment, & it's dumb that I spend all day buying lattes when we have a great home office. \n\nI don't think he means ill, but (clearly) I'm frustrated, & I'd really appreciate any tips for talking to him about this in a grown-up way, because right now I just want to be like 'GODDAMMIT, MAN; I CANNOT DO MY EXCEL FUNCTIONS WITH YOUR INFERNAL BLATHERING'.\n\nA little bit more context:\nHis side of the business is very different from mine \u2014 he works in fits & starts coding throughout the day, while I need long periods of quiet & concentration to do data analysis. \n\nHe's also not great at reading social cues, so me staring down at laptop typing feverishly while wearing headphones apparently reads to him as 'a good time to explain my latest theory about why Third Eye Blind's first album is so timeless to u/PM_ME_A_PLESIOSAURUS!'", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 is a sweet man, but talks at me constantly while I'm trying to work from home & is making my job very difficult."}
{"id": "t3_17kqvk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] am in a weird \"relationship\" with my [23/f] friend.", "post": "Im probably going to sound like a jerk but anyway, about a month ago things started to get a bit more flirty than usual with my friend from highschool. Lets call her Julie. We were out with our friends and as the evening was coming to an end, I (being the designated driver) took the friends home. Julie\u00b4s place was last so we were alone. I parked infront of her house and we talked for a while about relationships and so on. She always knew I found her sexy. We were kinda half-jokingy talking about us two having sex, but nothing really happened in the car.\n\nNow in January, she has been away from home, but she is coming back in a couple of days. Throught this months she started chatting with me online in a very flirtatious manner. I didn\u00b4t mind and responded the same way, thinking this could lead to some sexy time later on. \n\nThe thing is, she is starting to sound really clingy on the chat. I think she is thinking about this as a true relationship. Even though I prefer a real loving relationship over friends with benefits, I have a problem. I know I couldn\u00b4t stand her for too long. She is really not the kind of girl i would want to date. Not having too many opportunities like this, I would love to just be friends with benefits. A real relationship with Julie would not last long and would probably not end well.\n\nSo I\u00b4m kinda in a pickle right now. I would really want to have sex with Julie, but I don\u00b4t want to be a dick and pretend that I love her, because I don\u00b4t. I probably sound like a real douche, but I would greatly appreciate your advice.", "summary": "I have been flirting with a friend online thinking we both just want some sexy time. She probably wants more, but I know we are not a good fit for a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_wfwuu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "There's something wrong with me. Pretty sure.", "post": "So, I went and joined this website basically for hooking up. I think that's ba enough as it is really. \n\nBut then, after a couple of drinks, I decided to pay as small amount of money for a couple of days trial of the full service. Contact members, the whole deal. Idiot.\n\nBut wait, that's not all! With this deal that already includes stupidity, ignorance and an immature teenage mind, I'll also throw in a girlfriend of over a year!\n\nWhy I did this, I do not know. I love my girl. I've got this weird thing... I just call it a personality flaw. I have a fear of... Missing out on something I guess. I've had it with all sorts of things from sport to school to... this now. She's the only girl I've been with, that's the only thing I can think of that drove my stupid brain to do such a dumb thing. I want to erase everything that's happened the last 48 hours! God damn. Sorry for blurting at the end there.", "summary": "? Please read some at least. I need some help here. I'm in a bad way, feel terrible. Sort of hate myself."}
{"id": "t3_3c3f8q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a girl I really liked about my recent ex", "post": "This happened last Saturday. I had recently broken up with my GF of 3 years, and we still talk and she's been trying to push me onto the dating scene to 'move on'.\nSo, I oblige in the hopes it might help with the break up and stuff, and I recall a girl I was speaking to a few weeks before the break up (nothing bad, just in class at college). She seemed really nice, so I thought \"Why not talk to her?\". So I did the only thing I could now that college had finished, I found her on FB and messaged her. Things were going well, we hit it off and had even set up a date. A couple of days after she was at a party and stayed on the phone to me drunk for most of the night, so she was obviously into me.\n\nThen the fuck up happened. \n\nIt isn't dramatic, just stupid. I felt pretty bad for trying to date so soon, and I told her this, explained that I'd just broken up with my GF, and that I still had feelings for her etc, but that I thought she was a really lovely girl and that I'd really like to get to know you more. She didn't see it that way and saw herself as a rebound. So I lost out on getting to know a really nice person who I clicked really well with because I tried being honest.", "summary": "Broke up with GF of three years, tried dating, fucked up by telling new girl I still had feelings for ex."}
{"id": "t3_1e7od6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend [20f] and I [21m] suddenly started ignoring each other.", "post": "A friend of mine [20f] and I [21m] are ignoring each other. We've been really good friends for about 6 months. We had a couple of disagreements and fights prior to this happening. Small things like me having a crush on one of her friends, her behaviour at parties (nothing major she just drinks until she's sick and needs taking care of). Now she just looks right through me when were in a group, we never talk alone and she ignored my last txt when I tried to make things better after the last time we had a fight. We're both too stubborn to confront each other directly and it's been about 10 days since we last spoke. Any advice?", "summary": "we're ignoring each other and I want to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_266l8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28M) wife (26F) has no interest in satisfying me anymore.", "post": "Been together for 5 years now and its gotten to the point where i have to beg just for her to get naked and lay there doing nothing.  It started out great but this past year or so has been just terrible.  \nWe have talked about it and she just says she knows she should do more but just doesnt want to.  The thought of spending the rest of my life with her like this is just depressing.  Things just got complicated since we found out she is pregnant a couple months ago.  \n\nI feel trapped now but Im not going to be miserable for the rest of my life either.  Everything else is great but this one thing.  She has made it clear that its not going to improve.  Thoughts Reddit?", "summary": "Wife doesnt care about trying to please me sexually."}
{"id": "t3_30x4fx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by posting a picture of myself with my sister", "post": "A little bit of background, Im 18 [girl] and my sister is 19. We haven't really gotten around to being close because of some personal reasons I won't go into\u2013 but we basically do not have any idea of what is happening with each other's lives since we never talk.\n\nAnyways, my friends and I decided to go to this huge sport event last Friday. Earlier that day I overheard my sister telling my mum that she is also going, with, of course, her friends. Since both of us were going, I suggested that we should just split a cab to the venue so we can both save $15. On our way to the stadium, she asked me to take a picture of us- I did and because we both thought we look nice in the picture, I decided to post it on Facebook.\n\nOn my way home that night, I got a message from this guy we would call Jack.\n\n* Jack: Hey cutie. Whats good?\n\nJack is one good-looking lad who used to be in my school and my sister's ex-boyfriend. Jack and I never talked and never in a million years did I expect he will talk to me since she dated my sister who may or may not talked shit about me. Tipsy and weirded out, I didn't respond. Not getting the hint, he messaged me again at noon the next day. Still finding the situation weird, I again didn't respond. Jack perhaps saw that I just kept opening his messages, he sent me another...\n\n* Jack: Damn girl don't drop double seens on a brother!\n\nThis time I decided to answer for the reason that it seemed like he will just keep bugging me until he gets a message back.\n\n* Me: Hey sorry, was hungover and out of it today.\n* Jack: Haha alright sounds like you had an enjoyable time. Do me a favour and hit me up when you feel chill!\n* Me: To be fair it was [mentions the sport event]. Ok? Whats up though?\n\nHe later then threw out the \"are you single?\" bomb which officially signals that he is trying to flirt with me... his ex-girlfriend's sister.", "summary": "Posted a picture of me and my sister on Facebook. Sister's ex-boyfriend saw it, keeps messaging me and now trying to flirt with me."}
{"id": "t3_1dlb1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (16/f) and I (16/m) are currently taking a break", "post": "I posted this yesterday over on a different subreddit but didn't get a lot of advice there, so I'm posting here because of the larger community and I would really appreciate all the feedback I get.\n\nSo here's some background information. Me and my girlfriend have been dating since December 18, 2011, so a little over a year now. We're both sophomores in highschool and recently have hit a rough patch in our relationship. She was diagnosed with depression and anxiety last summer and then was admitted into a psychiatric hospital in our city. After she got out, she was always depressed and the medication she was taking didn't appear to help, but I always managed to cheer her up. Her depression faded away for a while around October-November up until about a month go when it started affecting her more often. Since then we've had more arguments come up because of it messing with our relationship. \n\nShe went to her psychiatrist last week and she recommended that we take a break, which we didn't end up doing. Then yesterday morning during class she sent me a message saying that she, \"can't take it anymore!\" and some other stuff saying how she wants to take a break because things weren't working out. \n\nRight before lunch she sent me a message saying, \"You know I still love you right? I always will\". I told her to leave me alone because I wanted some time to think about what to do. After school I messaged her asking if she wanted to take a break or break up completely. She couldn't make up her mind so I told her tell me in a couple days. \n\nI texted her again after school today and asked if she had made up her mind. She hadn't. I don't know if I should move on or wait for her. Like as in if she only wants a break, should I wait it out, or move on? Or if she wants to break up, should I move on, or try to win her back (again)? We've been through so much together and I absolutely love this girl with all of my heart to the point where we've discussed getting married many times, but now I don't know what to do. Any advice helps and ask me questions if you need more details.", "summary": "My girlfriend of over a year and I are taking a break. Should I move on? Should I stay? General advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2gm225", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have been with my boyfriend [23M] a year, but I no longer feel sexually attracted to him.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. When we started dating, things were amazing. I couldn't believe how similar we were, how much fun we had, how well we communicated, and how enjoyable our sex was.\n\nThis summer, I had to stop taking birth control after being on it for around 6 years because of some unwanted side effects. It really threw off our sex life, partially because of genitalia being uncooperative with condoms. I began to develop a crush on our mutual friend who I know was at least at one point interested in me.\n\nEventually I got an IUD, and I was really hoping that things would improve... but they haven't. I don't know if it's because of a shift in hormones, or because the \"shine is off the apple,\" or if I'm just psyching myself out, but I no longer feel attracted to my boyfriend sexually. When we do have sex, I feel awkward, then try to force myself to be/seem into it, which makes me feel incredibly guilty. I often fantasize about my friend, who we both see regularly.\n\nI don't know what to do. We're still very similar, compatible people. He's incredibly kind, caring, smart, you name it. We had so many plans together, and I don't want to throw all of that away, but I feel like I'm lying to myself and to him. Or maybe I'm just freaking myself out, but I don't know how to stop. I've been feeling this way for about two months. What should I do?", "summary": "After a year of dating, I no longer feel attracted to my boyfriend. Should we break up?"}
{"id": "t3_3ejuld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am interested in a guy [20M] in one of my classes, but I have no dating experience whatsoever while he has quite a bit and I feel clueless about this whole situation. Help?", "post": "I met this guy a few weeks ago in one of my classes. We go to the same college and live really close to each other. We sit with each other in class and sometimes go get food together after class but we aren't close and haven't hung out outside of school at all. \n\nI think he's really funny and cute and I want us to get closer! But I have no experience with this at all - dating/romantic relationships. Farthest I've ever gone is cuddling which is making me feel really inadequate. Like he's out of my league experience-wise, you know? \n\nMy girlfriends make it seem so simple! They tell me to laugh at his jokes and touch his arm and then... yeah I don't know what that's supposed to do? I have a lot of friends who are guys but I was never interested in them romantically and vice versa so I never worried about flirting. \n\nI got the digits (success!) but now I don't know what to do with them because at this point we are still just friends (but not close) and I don't know how to make a transition from friend to romantic interest. I could just ask him out but I don't want to without knowing he's at least interested. We'll also still see each other in class so if he says no it will be awkward eye contact aversion time wooooo not fun.\n\nAlso if he did say yes I still wouldn't know what to do. \n\nOh another option is to go the middle school route and ask his friends what he thinks of me but is that too juvenile? Ugh sorry I'm just throwing that option out there.", "summary": "I need advice on flirting without being weird and how college relationships work because I have no experience."}
{"id": "t3_fm35n", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Planning a December China/Thailand Trip, all suggestions/advice/deals/ideas welcome!", "post": "I'm 25 year old male, looking to fly solo to Asia next December (I will use my companies 1.5 week holiday to supplement my 4 weeks of saved vacation). Here is my very loose game plan - Shanghai 2-3 days, Hong Kong 2-3 days, Bangkok 3-4 days, then Phuket for 3-4 weeks. Then back to the states. I'd love to hear your suggestions on where to stay, what to eat, what to visit, what to expect, tips how to avoid kissing a hot girl who turns out to be a man, etc. I've heard when I'm in Bangkok I should get a tailored suit fitted and shipped home as the price will be 1/10th of the cost in the states. Any other things I should plan/budget for? How much should I budget per day if I plan to spend modestly but splurge occasionally on food/room? I also plan to get scuba certified here in the states before I go. Thanks!!", "summary": "What should I do in China and Thailand??? Besides the ping pong show."}
{"id": "t3_2y32lk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you are gay and a Christian, how do you reconcile the apparent fact that the Bible clearly states that homosexuality is a sin?", "post": "The Bible, as far as I can tell, is very clear that homosexuality is a sin (see Lev 18:22; Lev 20:13; Rom 1:27; 1 Cor 6:9 for examples). If you are gay/lesbian and are also proclaiming to be a Bible-believing Christian, then how do you resolve this seemingly contradictory lifestyle?\n\nImportant note, please read: When I use the word \"contradictory\", I do not mean that gays/lesbians are hypocrites. You must believe me when I say that I am asking this with a sincere motive to learn the truth and become educated. Because a discussion about topics like this can stir people's emotions, I want it to be clear that I am not here to judge anyone.\n\nI would also like to ask that if you reply, please do not answer with \"this is why the Bible is wrong\" or \"religion is stupid\". The purpose for my question is to have an answer for Christians for whom rejection of the Bible is not an option. In my opinion, the only way to open Christians' minds about homosexuality is to come from their perspective. That is, present an interpretation or reinterpretation of key Bible passages that might shed light on how God might perceive homosexual lifestyle.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Using the Bible, can you provide evidence that homosexuality is not a sin?"}
{"id": "t3_ectbg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Quitting Smoking.... Any help available?", "post": "So I've been a smoker for three years. I started when I was 15 because someone gave me one to help with a panic attack (I am undiagnosed but with the frequency of the attacks I definitely have some sort of panic disorder). and it did calm me. I smoked between 1 and 5 a day until I turned 16, had a terrible birthday, and said \"Fuck it!\" and bought a pack. Now, I'm 18 and in college and smoking a pack a day. I used to think I knew what addicted meant, until the addiction went from being a stupid 16 year old to being 18 and needing one when I wake up and lashing out at people and having mood swings and panic attacks when I don't have one. I quit smoking once and it was the best feeling in the world! But I stupidly thought that I could just have one here, one there.... and I was full swing addicted worse than ever before.\n\nI love cigarettes. I love smoking. I love smoking with people. I love smoking alone. I love smoking different kinds of cigarettes. I hate how much they cost. I hate how I need one when I wake up. I hate how they make me cough up phlegm. I hate that they make me winded easily. I hate that they're killing me like this, and I hate that I'm doing this to myself. \n\nI would love to go back to the times when I could just smoke for fun- not for a feeling of need. I want to kick myself for starting. I have such a terribly addictive personality and I did this to myself.\n\nSo, now that you know I'm just a stupid kid, how can I quit these things? I want them, I love them, and worst of all, I really seem to need them, or have at least convinced myself that I do. How can I quit these cancer sticks?\n\nPlease, tell me: What made you quit? Do you have anything I can read to convince myself? I don't want patches, I don't want gum, I don't want to do the electronic cigarette again (although when this semester is over I may use it as a crutch....) I just want to stop, cold turkey. Can anyone just give me some tips to force myself to do this?", "summary": "How did you quit smoking? Can you help me quit?!"}
{"id": "t3_2e7m3b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to save ducklings", "post": "I work for a university and today is move in day for students living on campus. I offered to help with parking because I know how hectic it can be when there are hundreds of families moving their students into their buildings. During one of the busiest hours, I look out of the corner of my eye and see a mother duck jump down from a curb along with 5 ducklings to cross one of the busiest streets in my area. Without thinking, I bolted over to the ducks to try to get them to turn around and go the same way they came from (so they wouldn't be hit by traffic). The mother duck and three of the ducklings made it back up the curb but two of the ducklings were struggling to get up the curb. Me, being such a thoughtful and helpful person, thought it would be a great idea to help the ducklings up the curb. As I reach down to give the little guys a boost I hear mother duck coming towards me. She flies up and starts whacking me with her wings, claws my shirt with her feet and shits on my pants. Luckily she didn't get skin when she clawed at me. Everyone around me thought it was hilarious. Me? Not so much. Now I'm back in my office and I smell like duck shit.", "summary": "Went to save baby ducks from traffic, got shit on by momma duck."}
{"id": "t3_2vdhpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] like this girl [17F] What should I do?", "post": "This girl that I like throws around a lot of mixed signals. She always invites me to things such as going out to eat, going to the movies, yoga, etc. But she always brings her friend along with her. Her friend isn't at all interested in me but it's just sort of awkward sometimes.  My friends have made it very clear in the past that I like her but she chooses just to ignore that fact and not make things awkward.  A while ago she said that she asked this guy out that was 18 and had some of the same qualities that I have. Then five minutes later she said she was joking. I didn't get that.  I feel as if she was talking about me but just wanted to see my reaction.  Just this past Friday one of my friends texted her and told her that I liked her and asked her if she liked me back.  I have no clue what else was said but she said that she wouldn't tell them either way.  Since then she snap chatted me once and that's it.  No text or talking at all.  What's awkward is last week I signed up for Yoga (which she incited me to) and it's almost every day.  I'm not going today because I don't have time but I have to go tomorrow\u2026 What should I do? Does she like me?", "summary": "What can I do to figure out if this girl likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_4hzmj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] gave my boyfriend [22M] an ultimatum, was I wrong to?", "post": "So Joe and I have been dating for a few months after meeting online. It's been going pretty well so far, considering we live about 2 hours apart and are both busy with school. Because of this, we are in an open relationship. Both of us are free to sleep with other people if we use protection and tell the other person about it. This has been working, no problems so far. \n\nI've returned home for the summer, which means that the distance between us is now even further, 5 hours, so we can't see each other as frequently as we used to. We had a talk about what we were going to do over the summer. Both of us agreed that we'd continue the open relationship we had now, but there was an argument over condom use. \n\nI told him that if he at any point didn't use a condom we would break up and I didn't want to see him anymore, which I thought was fairly reasonable. However he didn't know if he could keep that promise, arguing that if he got super drunk or something he might forget but he'd always get tested before sleeping with me again. \n\nI got really upset that he couldn't even promise me to have safe sex and told him there were three options: promise to use a condom, he always does and everyone is happy; promise to use a condom and break the promise, which means break up and no contact; or don't make the promise, we break up but stay friends. \n\nWas I wrong in making these absolutes? Joe got really upset and indecisive like he always does when it comes to choices, saying how he doesn't want to lose me but doesn't trust himself either. I feel bad making him choose an option he doesn't like, but I also feel like I'm not asking for too much.", "summary": "told BF that he had to use a condom when sleeping with other people or else we would break up, but BF doesn't trust himself. should I have been less harsh?"}
{"id": "t3_2qype4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23m) keeps pushing back when we're (24f) moving and it's killing me.", "post": "On a mobile so sorry for any mistakes. Me and my long term boyfriend (9 years) have been trying to move for 4 years or so it feels like. We live with his aunt and mom and they are nice people but really getting sick of this. I realize we couldn't move due to the fact that I had a poorly paying job, but now I make 15 a hour and he just recently got fired and has a new job that pays more (he is a web developer). A few months ago we talked about movie for the 15th time we agreed that Jan or Feb of 2015 would be a great time to move . We looked around at apartments today and get home and do some math. Our 1st month everything included would be around 2,156. That's rent the fees, water , internet, electric and are cell Bill. I played this all on the table. Now he says we don't have enough we have to move in March, now I know this seems like a short time just one month. But we have been doing this every time we are getting ready to \" move\". I don't know how much he wants us to move with or how much he thinks people move with but it's killing me. I feel like I am wasting my time. It makes me feel stupid. Always getting excited and he tells me a month later that day comes and goes and we set and new goal and boom gone. Like it kills me. I don't understand why he does this. I don't want to live with his family anymore. I hate it here I stuck it out and waited and now he pushed it back again.  What should I say or do everything I said I have said to him he just doesn't get it.", "summary": "boyfriend keeps putting off when we move and it's making me mad."}
{"id": "t3_1tpkft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21 M] and Gf [20F]2 years 9m,Broke up with me because of \"friend\",she needs 1 month time", "post": "True love.We were perfect couple almost 3 years.Plans about future,good times,perfect love.We didnt know why other people dont have relationship like that and talked about that,how our is perfect with 100% love.We make fun of people who tried to hit on us in pub or concerts.\n\n7 days before New Year she wants time,space...And she talked so much how we gona have fun on 31.dec\n\nShe chated with friend(they were friends 5 years ago)and now she needs space to think is this right thing..She didnt cheated...I cant beleve its totally oposite of what we always spoked.\n\nWhat to do,what advice u have its my first break up,im confused and hurt.", "summary": "almost 3 years perfect relationship,she needs space and 1 month to be alone.."}
{"id": "t3_3yudc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26/M] have been betraying my best friend[26/M] by seeing his sister[25/F]", "post": "Dave and I have been best friends since the 7th grade. Done everything together, went to the same University in town, best man at his wedding, etc. He is my brother and I would do anything for him, which I why I feel guilty about being with his sister.\n\nSandy often hung out with us at kids and she and I got close. We first had sex when I was 17 and she 16. Since then, we have been essentially FWBs, except during period one of us was dating someone. She went to the same University, so we hooked up a lot through that, and it continued after we all graduated.\n\nShe is honestly the best sex I've had, and all of our experimentation has come from each other. She actually talked me into letting her peg me because I had taken her virginity and she wanted one of mine. I've enjoy it with her more than anyone, honestly, and I hope she feels the same for me. Hell, come to find out we have even had the same number of sexual partners, oddly enough.\n\nBeyond the sex, we are extremely close and our interests are almost all the same. I generally enjoyed just spending time with her.\n\nDave got married in February, and at the wedding I guess it just kind of clicked that I wanted what he and his fiance/now wife had. Sandy came to me that night and we danced together, and after we had sex, she told me she wanted to have a real relationship, which I agreed.\n\nSince then I have only grown closer, I love Sandy so much. We are planning to move in together in March.\n\nThe problem comes from what do I say to Dave? I know that you are not supposed to get with your friend's family, but it just kind of happened between Sandy and I. I don't want to lose Sandy, and I don't want to lose Dave. How can I make this work?", "summary": "Want to tell best friend I am with his sister, unsure how."}
{"id": "t3_3lr1x2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [25 M] ~1 year, texts to other girls and other dilemmas.", "post": "hi there reddit relationships,\n\ni've been with my boyfriend for around 9 months or so. Everything is great. I was using his phone this weekend and i found some texts between him and a girl he was involved with before me. \n\nhe and i are long distance and have always been this way.\n\nanyway, these texts.. they were always late at night when i know he was drunk. he was asking for pics of her tits. she would say you have a girlfriend and then he would stop texting her. it only happened two or three times in may and june and not since then. \n\ni don't know what to do. i confronted him about this weekend and he apologized and said he's willing to do whatever i need to move forward. \n\non one hand, i can see myself moving past this because it was infrequent he deleted her number. on the other, cheating is so reprehensible to me. \n\nthis just happened today so, please help reddit.", "summary": "boyfriend sexted other girl 2/3 times. i found out and confronted. need advice."}
{"id": "t3_22sfxk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my fwb? [20 M], 2 months, i want something more", "post": "I'm a freshman at a medium sized university. I met \"N' in feburary in class. We got assigned in a group together and he asked for my number which i obliged. That night we hung out and he told me I was cute and we kissed. The next night I came over after a party and we had unprotected sex (except birth control). We have been having unprotected sex since then, and I realized my feelings for him were deeper than i thought. Ive only been with one other person who was my bf for a year and a half. he told me that when he is talking to me he wont talk to other girls so i dont have anything to worry about.\n\n I used to try to talk to him (text) about random things, like how you would talk to a friend, but the conversations lacked on his part and hes made it clear that he only wants a fwb relationship in which he only texts me when he wants to fuck, not talk. \n\nBy my school there are lots of sex shops. He said he wanted to go with me so we could pick something out together. we had planned to do it yesterday during the day but he never responded to my texts. Last night though i get a text asking what i was doing. No explanation. Nothing. I said i was hanging out with friends and that i was busy and couldnt hang out and he gets mad at me saying \"don't do that\" \"is everything ok\" in which i replied yes. he never texted me back. what i want is for him to not just text me when he wants to fuck. I actually like him and like being around him and i want to do more things with him than just fuck and leave.", "summary": "i really like my fwb and im tired of him just using me for sex"}
{"id": "t3_2gzifj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New housemate 'happy time' - What to do?", "post": "We have a new housemate. New guy has the room next to mine. \n\nI was smoking a cigarette out of my window as I do every night, just admiring the view, when, what's that moving in the corner of my eye. I move my head to focus. I can see into his room.. Argh no! I recoil in horror, a look of disgust on my face, You all know he was doing - quite angrily by the looks of things as well.\n\nSo, How do I go about telling Mr new guy to shut the blind when he's 'sorting himself out' without letting him know I saw him as I've only just met him and he ~~seems~~ seemed like a quite reserved/shy person and I don't want to embarrass then hell out of him?", "summary": "Some things cannot be unseen."}
{"id": "t3_h41pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some advice on breaking up", "post": "So I think it's time for my GF and I to call it quits. A little back story first.\n\nI'm 26, she's 23. We've been together for about 9 months but we've been friends for about 2 years prior to dating. We've had our problems from the outset of dating, most of which we worked out. I've recently been thinking that she probably isn't \"the one\" and I actually tried to break it off last Friday. Instead of breaking up, we ended up talking about everything for a few hours and I thought I had made a mistake.\n\nI should have gone with my gut and stuck to my guns.\n\nNow I don't know what to do, I realize that no matter what I do, I'll be a bigger asshole in the end and I'm willing to accept this, but I just don't know how to break it to her again? I'm worried that if I do it face to face again, the same thing might happen, but not doing it in person seems very impersonal and cold. \n\nDoes anyone have some suggestions?", "summary": "Tried to breakup with the GF last week, after a long talk we decided to keep trying, this was a mistake and I still want to break up"}
{"id": "t3_4yc8hg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my girlfriend [25F] for 1 year. Homeless BIL problem", "post": "Never thought i'd be posting in here but we have an issue going  on!  \n\u00a0\nI have been with my gf with 1 year and she now lives with me in my house. I've been wanting to help her since it's a bit of a disfunctionnal family.  \n\u00a0  \nLately, her brother is having issues with drugs a lot and got kicked out of his appartment. He is now homeless without a job. Of course, my girlfriend want us to help him.   \n\u00a0  \nWe live in Canada so we have access to wonderful healthcare and i suggested we could help him and bring him to detox so he could get free help and a rooftop for a month. Although, he doesn't really want to go there.\n\u00a0  \nSo of course she asks if he could live with us. There are many things this would imply. We only have one bathroom and it is a pretty small house. I don't really feel like I want to come back home and see that guy hanging around on the sofa on drugs. Can i just lie on my sofa after work...  \nI mean, I really want to help, but I think this will hurt our couple and It will get on my nerves. I think he should get professional help", "summary": "How can I react to this situation? Am I being selfish here?  "}
{"id": "t3_27dzeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my (ex)Crush [19 F], rejected me even though the signs were clear?", "post": "I knew her for a few months and she's a great, funny, and kind person. Anyhow, I wanted to move on to the next level, so a mutual friend forced me to go shopping with them (plus I needed to buy something). \n\nAt a certain store, I saw a VERY attractive girl and I wanted to talk to her but couldn't because my crush and my friends were there. So I didn't do much. \n\nFast Forward 1 day\n\nI was talking to my group of friends and I explained to them that I saw a SUPER attractive girl the other day and we were talking about her (and laughing). My crush walks in the room and says that she wants to laugh too, so my friends tell her what happened to me the other day, what I saw, and what I wanted to do. I was watching her reaction and she just said \"oh\". \n\nSo she decided to leave shortly after that and she starts to sniff a LOT. I thought she had a cold or something but took no real notice but now I know her, she was crying. \n\nI used this info, confessed to her the week after that, and she brotherzoned me.\n\nSo what happened?", "summary": "Liked this girl, i decided to pull a experiment, she cries, i confess i like her, she brotherzones me."}
{"id": "t3_2jj0w7", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I need help to stop procrastinating.", "post": "Last night I procrastinated until 10:30 without doing any homework, but told my parents I was done an hour prior. Since I had a test the next day, they made sure I went to bed at 10:30. Here I would usually play on my phone until they went to bed or set an alarm for 4:00, but they had taken my phone because I was frequently doing these. Dang, my parents are good. So I knew I couldn't fall asleep, and went downstairs to pee giving me an excuse to not be in my bed if my parents check. They also usually put my phone downstairs so I could have grabbed that. But this night, my dad had put it on top of his stomach. No way I could get it. As I was going upstairs though, he gave me a flashlught so I wouldn't trip.\n\nAnd so it begins. I took the flashlight and went upstairs, and into my bed, and then flashed it around the room entertaining myself so I wouldn't fall asleep... for 1.5 hours. During this time my dad checked on me twice, but didn't do anything. At midnight, I made sure he was sleeping, and finished my homework.", "summary": "I'll always find a way to procrastinate."}
{"id": "t3_3ig0wd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22m] ex-girlfriend broke up with me [22m] because she hates my firearms hobby- Dated 2 years", "post": "Please keep politics out of this, I don't care about your views as much you care about mine.\n\nMy ex girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me the day before Thanksgiving 2014. Three months prior to this happening, she moved 90 miles away for a job. I was still in school till graduation in May, but we saw each other on the weekends. We had a pretty good relationship, but she came from a very liberal family and I came from the opposite.  \n\nShe didn't dislike that I had guns nor did she not trust me with them. I'm a certified pistol and rifle instructor and she knew that I had the proper credentials and training from the start. Hell, I even brought her with me to the range on multiple occasions. However, when she moved away she started hanging out with a crowd that thought themselves to be pretty elite and apparently called me a hillbilly, redneck, etc. She started picking fights with me over little things and it went to hell fast.\n\nWhen I picked her up to drive her to the airport to fly home, she broke up with me out of the blue. I asked why and she said she hated all my firearms and my activity with them. I was pretty shocked, it was never a problem until then. She said she was embarassed to have a boyfriend who's hobby was so primitive. \n\nWhen she said that, I pretty much erased her from my life. Almost a year later, I am fairly certain that her reason was bullshit. We haven't spoken since that day even when I reached out to her to gain some real closure. Totally shut out. \n\nMy question to you is whether that reason is a valid reason to end a relationship? I think not, but I gotta get a second opinion. I do not want this girl back FYI.", "summary": "My ex girlfriend broke up with me on the grounds that she hated my firearms and that I love to shoot. Dufaq?"}
{"id": "t3_1bbbie", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Waiting for my bf [23/m] to get his life together", "post": "I [23/f] have been dating my bf [23/m] for about 3 years, and just recently it has dawned on me how different our current situations and goals in life are. I have had a \"big girl\" job since graduating college, live in my own place, have a car, and I am good with saving money and paying off bills. My boyfriend has also graduated but still lives at home, gets paid minimum wage and does not currently have a car. I thought he was getting all his stuff together and close to getting himself a car but recently his mom has brought to my attention that he can't afford a car yet because he still has to pay off college bills that he's been ignoring and hasn't paid for his chunk of the family cell plan for awhile. I know it takes awhile to save, and he likes his current job, but I'm getting tired of always paying for us to do stuff. He doesn't mooch, but a girl can only take so many couch dates. I think if all his stuff was together and he was more self sufficient I'd want to take things further with him and move in together, and we've talked about some day living together. I don't know how to talk to him about all of this. I don't need him to be crazy successful and take care of me, but I do want us to at least be equals. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "I am at a different place in life than my boyfriend who still lives at home. I don't know how to talk to him about getting his life together so it's easier for us to be together."}
{"id": "t3_4c6oan", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with a girl i've never met yet [37]. i'm an ex-addict and work in a web-radio talking about addiction and harm reduction. Should i talk about it?", "post": "She knows i work in a web-radio, and i've told her i wouldn't tell her the url because the character i am in this radio is in no way attractive to girls(i manage the funniest part of the radio, but i am very harsh and have no censorship, but that is not who i am).\nSo i know she will ask me more about this radio, and it's a radio by addicts(or ex-addicts) for addicts and people interested in the subject. On a first date, i don't want to talk about my past addiction(heroin), but how can i not disclose this if i tell her what this radio is about. Should i tell her to wait more before i tell her more about it, or should i say that i ended up in this radio because of my past mistakes? Or else?\n\nThanks for any piece of advice, i've never met her, but we have so much in common that i doubt i will meet someone as interesting as her in the near future, and i REALLY don't want to mess things up. Thanks fellow Redditors :)", "summary": "should i talk about my past addiction on a first date, knowing that i will have questions about it due to the radio i work at if i tell her the name of the radio?"}
{"id": "t3_4sl3i8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) need some advice about therapy...", "post": "Sorry, I'm not a native English speaker.\n\nI've been thinking about getting therapy for at least 3 or 4 years, but I've never gone through with it because I was/am pretty sure my parents would make fun of me for even suggesting it (therapy isn't exactly something common here). Since I had no money to pay for it myself, I had to give up on it. \n\nThe thing is... There's nothing wrong in my life. My parents are nice, I've never been abused by anyone, I had a few friends growing up just like everyone else... But I feel like it's been a long time since I've actually been happy with myself, if that makes sense. I've lost interest on the only things that I ever liked to do (drawing and playing games), I've never liked to go out and so, until I was forced to get a job a few weeks ago, all I did was attend classes and sleep all day long.\n\nAs I said, there's nothing physically wrong with me. Many people have it a lot worse, and they don't need therapy to go through with their lives. Am I exaggerating? Would therapy even help? Or is it normal to feel like crap once you start growing up? I have never ever talked to a psychologist/therapist before and I have no idea if it would be worth the money...\n\nAlso, no one but my best friend knows I scheduled a meeting (?) with a therapist on Friday. I'm not planning on telling any family members (as I said before, I don't want them to make fun of me...) but my friend said I should at least tell my parents. Do I really need to tell anyone? Or can I keep it a secret? The first meeting (is that how it's called? I have no idea) is for free... So I'm gonna go see what it's like... But what if it doesn't help anything?\n\nAfter writing all of it, it really sounds like a dumb problem... But I seriously need some advice. I can't really ask anyone else about this.", "summary": "I want to get therapy, but I'm not sure it's gonna help with anything. Should I do it? Also, should I tell my parents about it or can I keep it a secret?"}
{"id": "t3_2rrex2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M]. Are these thoughts mature or stupid?", "post": "I've been dating a woman 10 years my junior. She's sweet and fun and she likes me. But I'm not *crazy* about her, in that I don't daydream about her, want to tear off her clothes, etc. Let's call her \"Daisy\". \n\nYesterday I met someone who instantly grabbed my attention. I'm drawn to her, curious about her, and feel unsafe, unsure, and unsettled. We texted briefly, I'm awaiting a response, and I've spent the past 12 hours anxious that I've already been too eager. Let's call her \"Violet\".\n\nI felt the same way about an on-again, off-again, ex-girlfriend. She was SO hot, so interesting, but was never completely available. She would periodically disappear and hurt me in the process. Let's call her \"Lisa\".\n\n(N.B. the two even look the same; if I have a physical *type*, they're it.)\n\nTo the question...\n\nI'm getting older and want to get married someday. I presume that infatuations with women like Violet and Lisa - ones who immediately grab my attention but with whom I feel no sense of safety - could only stand in my way of a long-term, mutually supportive, adult relationship.\n\nSo married Redditors, or Redditors with LTR's, please share your wisdom:\n\nWhether or not Daisy is the right choice, should I give the benefit of the doubt to the women who seem less \"exciting\" but who also seem more available? Have any of you regretted making a similar choice: discounting the ones who excite you the most, while building relationships with the more available people who don't? Did you ever feel - and regret - as if you might have \"settled\"?", "summary": "Pursue the hottest chicks I can *maybe* date or put my energy into ones I *like* but who don't set my socks on fire?"}
{"id": "t3_1uyp8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my husband [00 M/F] 2 years, lies to me", "post": "Hello World ! \nNeed some interesting advise here!\n\nMy husband and I have been together for 2 years. We have been married for almost a year. The marriage thing was mainly to get it out of the way for a custody battle for my kids. Guess it looks better if you are married.  Like, we were planning on it anways just longer down the road.  Any who - I find him constantly lieing to me. And it's not just simple stupid things it's also in the bedroom. If he's not lieing to me he's going around the truth and than I eventually find out he didn't tell me the right story or he left things out. I know he loves me and my kids but I seriously don't know how much of this I can stand!", "summary": "Why do men lie?"}
{"id": "t3_2lzvoe", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Early Mid-life crisis?", "post": "So I'm a 37 year old man. Married, children, good steady job, living in a great little town with good schools. And I'm depressed. Not the clinical depression (though I have dealt with that in the past) but more of \"is this it?\" kind of depression. In a sense, I'm depressed that I only have this one life to live when there is so much to experience in this world. \n\nA large part of this feeling (though not all) is sexual in nature. My wife, who has some medical issues, has very little interest in sex. We make love maybe 2-3 a year. She's not really into trying new things or adventurous in the sack. She used to be when we first started dating, but that's like another lifetime ago now. My libido seems to be sky-high all the time. To make matters worse, my wife was my first. I've not had sex with another woman. So I'm extremely curious about what sex with another woman would be like - especially a woman who's into it. What would she kiss like? What would it feel like to make love? What would she smell like? Etc... \n\nI'm not looking for an excuse to cheat. I mean - if a woman threw herself at me, I'd find it hard to turn her down, but that's not going to happen. But I'm not going to actively search for a woman to have an affair. And I'm not going to get a divorce over this. That seems like a silly reason to break up a family, and probably would be selfish on my part. I really want to be there for my kids - that is the main goal in my life. My own parents did a pretty crappy job, both me and my sibling are still trying to deal with that emotionally and I want to be the best dad I can be. \n\nNon-sexually: I have dozens of interests and no time or money to pursue them. I couldn't afford the college and settled on a two-year degree and now I'm kinda stuck job-wise. If I won the lottery, I'd be going to college full-time probably. But that's not going to happen either.", "summary": "Family man making a living but feel stuck. I want to experience more women, more careers, more *life* but I'm getting older and fear this may be it. "}
{"id": "t3_lzup3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you cope with a parents diagnosis of cancer?", "post": "I don't know why I am using reddit for this, I guess its just cause I have no one else to talk to.\n\nSo about 2 hours ago I got a phone call from my mother saying my father has been diagnosed with rectal cancer and the doctors do not know how far it is along. I'm 18 and I attend college 10 hours from home so I haven't seen my father in nearly 2 months at this point, we aren't particularly close to each other but we got along better than most people do with their parents. Anyway what is impacting me most is that I am the only person who has not been there with him and I probably wont be able to see him until Christmas break, if my employer gives me a week off that is. \n\nI guess that's the thing, I feel so guilty about not being there to help him, and the rest of my family. I also feel guilty because one of the first things I thought of was about how this will impact my own life which is stressful enough since I am pursing an engineering degree will working nearly full time to cover the costs of my loans. I just.. I just don't know. I'm angry, sad, and afraid but I have no one to talk to about this. \n\nSorry for the incoherent rambling.", "summary": "I'm a student who lives 10 hours from home who just found out his father has cancer and I am seeking advice on how to cope with it."}
{"id": "t3_1110f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't figure out how to deal with girlfriend's parents. [Both 22, (us not the parents)]", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating since January, and she's currently doing a study abroad overseas. That in itself has been hard, but there's more too it. She'll be there for Christmas, so I'd come up with the idea that I'd save up some money and fly out to be with her. The problem is, her parents don't want me too. They've always been worried about us messing around (despite us being in our 20s).  She's She's the youngest of 3 and they treat her like she's much younger.  The family is Catholic and Latino, so some cultural aspect plays into it.\n\nThere are several issues going on here that I don't know how to deal with.\n\nFirst off, we are sleeping together, so her parent's fears are completely  true, though they don't know this. We use protection, but I think they're scared she'd get pregnant.\n\nSecond, they've paid for this trip, and it's not cheap, so I feel I need to respect the fact that they kind of have control in this situation.\n\nThird, I do respect them, even if it can be hard to accept the way they're reacting. Her mother is a very, very nice lady, but can be quite controlling and treats my girlfriend like she's very young. Her father is a very kind and hard working man, and while he isn't quite as controlling as her mother, he often leaves decisions up to her and sides with her concerns.\n\nSo, /r/relationships I'm not sure what to do here. Part of me wants to just completely ignore her parents wishes and fly out. Maybe tell them I'm going to, or just try to not tell them. However, I don't like trying to bring deceit into the relationship. My girlfriend and I have had to lie to them in the past about things, and it never feels good. Another part of me wants to just go the full truth route. Tell them we're sleeping together and that we plan to continue doing so. Tell them we're using protection. I'm just not sure how they'd react to it. I'm fairly sure they'd be incredibly upset. \n\nAny advice would be so helpful. Thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriends parents don't want me to visit her on her study abroad, because they think we're going to have sex, which we will."}
{"id": "t3_srzfe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there any way to prepare my toilet for my epic bowel?", "post": "I have epic bowel movements. As in, when they go in the toilet, I try to flush before putting ANYTHING else in the bowl and still it clogs and requires multiple flushes and the plunger for several minutes. It will go into the drain and extend until it is nearly touching the rim of the toilet on particularly epic instances. It is usually thicker than my wrist, sometimes barely fits into the drain and is usually at least 10 - 12 inches long.\n\nI don't like how every time I try to empty the ol' internals it requires multiple flushes and a plunger generally. I am fairly regular and have a normal diet so I am unsure as to why I happen to have such large stool. At a friends house once, I managed to clog the toilet so no water could get down, it didn't flush and managed to flood their entire bathroom, which was awkward. I don't understand how the average population is supposed to use these toilets. Is there anything I can do so that the average toilet will suffice?", "summary": "How I do to prepare unsuspecting waste disposal units for a fecal barrage of the likes it has never seen?"}
{"id": "t3_1i980e", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Attention all black people", "post": "Just because we are black does not give us the right to protest and riot because something did not go are way I mean really I disagree with the Trayvon Martin verdict to but every time something doesn't go our way we can't blame it on us being black and America trying to oppress us we are not the only race people have screwed over ok and if you do believe America is trying to oppress us why are you so surprised maybe George Zimmerman was found not guilty because his lawyer did a good job or maybe the jury thought that it was justified or maybe it was because of race but for all of you screaming injustice who of you actually followed the trail or did you wait till the end", "summary": "black people lets not make everything about race"}
{"id": "t3_19j4qb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] I am m32 in the UK trying to save my marriage.", "post": "[Original post] ( So here's the update. After one short counseling session, therapist was late, and multiple conversations There may be hope for my marriage.\n\nThe big thing is She says she still loves me as a friend, but not as a husband right now. This is due to unkept promises about relocating to the UK. Of which I reminded her the only thing that kept me from resigning from my job in the US was her request. I realize most of you advise me against doing this. \n\nShe likes to refer to a lot of things as I'm not to let you, meaning me, \"Destroy this\". To which I've had to also come back and say that this was a 2 Way St., I'm not feeling one who screwed up so I need help fixing it from you. \n\nToday she told me that she bought a house, got the down payment from my in-laws, as long as I was kept off the title of the house. Which I said that's completely bullshit. If anything they should be encouraging us to stay united not encouraging us to be divided. Which got me back to the point of I had a good thing going there before I was called away to do my United States work to which she didn't want me to resign from.  That she was criminalizing me (for lack of a better term) For doing what she asked me to do. \n\nWhen I got here I found out that she spoke to divorce lawyer, and I managed to through open communication back her from that ledge. And she is giving me three months to get my \"shit together\".  I.e. find a job and settle in the UK, which I'm very much actively pursuing.\n\n But my real question is from a group of strangers who know nothing more than the ramblings of this hopeless person what are the chances that I'm able to save my marriage?", "summary": "Right now cohabitating with my wife managed to convince her not to divorce me just yet is giving me three months to get my \"shit together\" Hoping for some Reddit insight"}
{"id": "t3_yf28l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] am having a hard time time discussing things with my GF[16f]", "post": "I have been in this relationship for a year and eleven months. I recently broke up with her (last week of July) because of this issue and got back with her. Whenever i need to tell her something about the relationship like \"please stop being so clingy. i don't have to make out with you every time we separate.\" she rolls her eyes and brushes it off. When she has an issue i get hell if I don't listen. also while we were apart, a friend and i hit it off and I don't know how to tell her im back with my Girlfriend.", "summary": "girlfriend wont discuss issues of relationship with me"}
{"id": "t3_3p0cyx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being excited to see my ex girlfriend after 1.5 years.", "post": "So my ex called me out of the blue about a month ago saying she would be in town for a night this month. We broke up a two years ago but the feelings for her were very reluctant in going away. In preparation of her arrival I cleaned every inch of my house, bought a gift, planned dinner, and a myriad of other things. Here we are two days before her arrival and I text her to confirm when she's getting in. \"Oh it got  canceled\", she said. Fuck, what am I doing? Now I am realizing how big of a tool I am for doing what I did and now realize I need to move the fuck on. I have even been putting off dates with other women just in case something happened with the ex. Why am I such a dumbass?", "summary": "I got over excited to see my ex and now realize how dumb it was to not just move the fuck on in the first place. Here is me whining about it."}
{"id": "t3_12tq09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F,20] my boyfriend [31] wants to go to Thailand to visit an old fuck buddy. What should I do?", "post": "my boyfriend [31] and I [20] have been dating for 3 months, and been getting serious. A week in he dropped the bomb on me that he was going to Thailand in January and told me he \"wanted to have fun\". I was not cool at all with that, but since we were new I just went along with it. A month later I brought it up, and told him I did not feel comfortable with him staying with his old fuck buddy and traveling all over Thailand with her. He assured me he would never cheat on me, but he was going no matter what. I didn't bring it up again until a couple weeks later. This time I told him I would really like to go with him. He told me he would love for me to go but I had to pay for my own ticket. I'm way too broke, so I knew there was no way I would be able to go. I didn't really mention how much the trip bugged me, because when I did I would get upset and he would say, \"It's months away, don't stress out. We'll talk about it when it gets closer to January.\"\nSo this morning I casually brought up the situation to some friends at work, and they flipped. They told me I had to talk to him ASAP about it. It's been upsetting me all day. We've been getting more and more serious and I honestly think it will be a deal breaker for me if he decides to go. I have no idea how to bring it up since we haven't talked about it in a month. The last thing he said was he wasn't sure he wanted to go because of the 19 hour flight. I'm afraid if I make an ultimatum that its either me or Thailand it will make me seem like a bitch. What should I do?", "summary": "boyfriend has been planning to visit old fuck buddy in Thailand. I don't approve."}
{"id": "t3_ek2hq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, what did you do when you were a young whippersnapper or hooligan?", "post": "I was walking with my friends and snapped a windshield wiper on someone's car. *Oooooh*, I know big time trouble. The person saw me do it. We ran back to my house. About half an hour later, my other friend's Mom (who had been at the library) came over & said \"The cops are looking for you.) No kidding, the cops were looking for me (I am now a wanted criminal). Anyways, the car owner decided to take my parents to small claims court. We won because my Father said the wiper was already broken (it was some fancy wiper that was supposed to retract or something, and if it were functioning properly, it would not have been out in the open tempting me to snap it in the first place). \n\nI'm sure reddit has some far more interesting stories, so let's share!", "summary": "I failed at being both a whippersnapper & a hooligan. I snapped a windshield wiper & got away with it because my Dad found a loophole."}
{"id": "t3_2h02ri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Life [N/a] started working a while back and had to abandon a lot of friends..", "post": "So About a year Ago I started working at a good job.. \"Good\" meaning I work for a school doing the thing I love. and I LOVE this job It is perfect. The issue is: Me being right out of High School I had to lose contact with a lot of my friends..mostly because they where still in school and or druggies and I could not risk that. \n\nSo problem number one is I have very few friends How can I fix this, my issue is I am young enough that I can't Go to Bars, Old enough to where I can't hang with kids still in HS and I don't Go to college(ish online classes are the only classes I can take Due to work).\n\nMy second Problem is based of the first one.. I don't have a GF and I have not had one in years.. Im one of the nicest people you could meet all the girls I know Put me in the \"like a brother\" category and im Ok with that I love helping them out i've just had one spend the night cause her BF dumped her and she needed someone to talk to ended up falling asleep on me.. im just lost on what to do.\n\nPlease Reddit help me find a path Thank you.", "summary": "Problem #1 I have no friends because I am in a awkward age/Situation. problem #2 based off of #1 but I don't have a GF and the girls that I do know say I am like a brother."}
{"id": "t3_kxgd0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I met a girl on way to dc to Chicago. We had fun (held hands, ran in the rain) in chicago. Problems: she lives in N Carolina, I in texas. She has a boy friend. I like her a lot and don't know how to proceed", "post": "Fellow redditors,\n\nI met this girl in dc when we were both waiting for train to chicago. We instantaneously hit out well and got adjacent seats on the train. We chatted a lot, had food on the train together. Showed each other pictures on our phone. Even saw part of a movie together before going to sleep. Next day we got down in chicago at 8 in the morning. My train to texas was at 2 and her to Kansas was at 3. We went and had an absolute blast in the 6 odd hours that we had together. We talked a lot, took pictures together holding each other really close, we ran in the rain, had fun on the escalator, we even fed a squirrel together, basically the little things... We held hands pretty much the whole time in Chicago. she was very comfortable with it and not at all reluctant. \nThen we had a quick lunch for which of course I paid. Then in the station she waited with me in the line and gave me a really right and long hug , which felt just great. I kissed her on the cheek. It was all great and she said the same thing at least 3-4 times and I felt sad as I was walking away. Now the problem- she has a boy friend. Of course she lives in N Carolina and I live in Texas that's another problem. But I like her a lot and I do not know what to do because she already has a boy friend. I just don't know if I should give up or I should keep in touch with her and hope that there might be a chance in the future. I would appreciate any comments/suggestions/tips. \nThanks!", "summary": "I met a girl on way to dc to Chicago. We had fun (held hands, ran in the rain) in chicago. Problems she lives in N Carolina, I in texas. She has a boy friend. I like her a lot and don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1wispn", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for work, not having much luck, and I need to start thinking about my backup plan...", "post": "Background: I have a bachelor's in criminal justice with 3.9 gpa, dean's list every year and four different honor societies. I've held a job with the same company for over six years, in a supervisory position for three. I was also a tour manager part time for two years, and did freelance production work on the side. In my mind I should be a pretty powerful candidate for a wide range of positions, at least related to either my education or my actual work experience. \n\nI moved two months ago, spent a couple weeks looking lightly but taking it easy, and I've been looking very hard for work since Christmas. City job listings, craigslist, indeed and other job listing sites, newspapers, local employment resources, looking for local businesses that want help, etc... Applied to a lot of things that I had, I thought, outstanding qualifications for, and no real results so far. I think I probably have made enough connections to get some freelance work once spring comes around but I really need a solid full time job. I used to make a minimum of $25/hour, I don't think I have a prayer of making anywhere near that any time soon in my new location. \n\nI'm going back to work with my prior employer for a couple weeks as they have some big events coming up they need my help with. When I come back to my new home at the end of February I need to start working here, and at this rate it will probably be something temporary to hold me over till I get a real job somewhere. \n\nSo, the question is:", "summary": "What are some of the preferred employers for shitty jobs that are less shitty than others? I'm thinking retail type stuff. Grocery stores, department stores, clothing stores. Target? Home Depot? Best Buy? I'll stock shelves, be a cashier, customer service, whatever until I find something in my field again. Just wondering what employers in this realm are considered more desirable in terms of potential wages, benefits, flexibility, work environment and culture, opportunities for advancement, etc. Honestly if any of these places actually acknowledged and respected my management experience and would give me opportunities to take on more responsibility and get paid a fair wage for it, I wouldn't mind making a career out of it. Point is that I want to be recognized for hard work and intelligence, not left to wallow in dead end territory. And if the wages are going to be outrageously low I'm honestly better off working one week on-one week off at my old job and travelling..."}
{"id": "t3_34bzx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] Boyfriend [19M] Has a Stalker", "post": "Sorry for the incoming wall of text. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. There's this girl who went to HS with my boyfriend and she had a crush on him in HS and had asked him out multiple times and he said no. He hadn't heard from her since HS until a few months ago, she went to the Starbucks he works at and then since she knows where he works, she's started coming in there like every other day. She took a fucking picture of him while he was working and put something about cute guy at starbucks, And she followed him on Instagram and likes all his pictures, He blocked her, and she literally stole pictures of some other girl and made another account pretending to be her and followed my boyfriend with it and tried talking to him. I know it's her because she followed him like the day after he blocked her, and she uses all the same hashtags and stuff as her own account. \n\nI'm pretty sure she has some sort of mental issues, she's not special needs or something but she seems like a psycho. I'm worried about my boyfriend because of this, so today I decided to hang out at his work around the time she usually comes in, and sure enough she did. After she got her drink and such, I confronted her and asked why she made a fake account to follow my boyfriend and why she keeps coming to his work. She tried saying she came here often before he even worked here and that she didn't make an account, etc etc and I said okay then, well I'm his girlfriend and I'm not going to let you harass him, and just walked away. I don't know how to deal with this, and she makes me so unbelievably angry and it's not like he can refuse to serve her so I don't know what to do. She is seriously a creep and I could list countless weird things she's done.", "summary": "My boyfriend has a stalker and I want to get her to stop."}
{"id": "t3_461409", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] I don't know how to initiate dates", "post": "I was in a relationship for a year about three years ago. Ended bitterly and I didn't try for years. Now for about a year I have been trying and realizing...I have no sense of what is normal in terms of asking someone out, but I know I can be charming and am not unattractive. Any advice? \n\n(An example that struck me last weekend. Me and a friend went to a party a month ago and stuck around until 5 in the morning, shooting the shit with a group of friends. Then last weekend I met a different friend for dinner at a restaurant. A girl who I talked to a bit at the party (who I thought was incredible but also in a relationship) was our waitress. After we shot the shit and caught up I explained to my friend where we met he was wondering why I didn't just find her on facebook and start messaging her, saying she definitely wasn't in a relationship...something like that just wouldn't occur to me. Although I know I would go along with that if it happened to me I can't imagine not feeling creepy doing something like that.)", "summary": "Do I not have a sense of normal? Is there a way to shirk that?"}
{"id": "t3_1bi33w", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Can My Boss Do This?", "post": "Background:\n I work for a corporate coffee shop in California as a supervisor. (i.e. Starbucks, Pete's, and Coffee Bean) My boss is not the best at scheduling people. He tends to schedule people on days they have submitting to him in writing that they can't work. Forced people to come in and work even though they have a 102 fever, and a few other things I can't come up with.\n\nProblem:\n I have planed a trip where I am leaving Wednesday to go out     of the state. I have requested off time for the trip a month ago, at the time my boss told me there would be no problem. Last Wednesday my boss distributed the schedule for this week and had me not scheduled for my tip, But just today (Monday around 5 pm) he told me that I need to find someone to cover one of the shifts that I would normally work. I am worried he is going to tell me if I don't find someone to cover it then I would have to work it. I was wondering if there is a law that prevents this, because I spent a lot of money on the trip that I would lose if I don't go.", "summary": "I asked for time off at work for a trip. My boss told me I could have it.  Now he might make me work anyway."}
{"id": "t3_27lg34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just broke up with my [20F] boyfriend [21M] of three and a half years, I'm lonely and heartbroken. Help?", "post": "We were together for three and a half years. Our personalities are both very head-strong and it was the first very serious relationship that each of us had so we lacked communication and argued to the point where it was unhealthy. \n\nDespite all of that, we were each other's best friends. We had so much in common and traveled and made so much memories together. We grew up together and were by each other's sides through the trials and tribulations. We didn't have friends in common because we hung out with different groups of people therefore we spent a ton of time together. I would even say we were codependent on each other. We both drifted apart from our friends until the point where it would just be us two. Maybe we lasted longer than we did because we were both scared of being lonely.\n\nWe both agreed that while our love was something very special, it was also extremely unhealthy. I have no ill will towards him and his love was something that was inspiring yet humbling. Wherever life takes me in the future, I will forever blessed to have experienced a love like this. Our relationship just got to the point where it became just a very toxic environment to be apart of.\n\nNow that we're no longer together, it is very lonely. I have so much free time now and so much emptiness that I don't know how to fulfill it with. There are times where I'll hear a song or run across something that we used to do together and I'll feel a pit in my stomach. It's been a month and it hasn't gotten easier. \n\nI don't have many friends. However, I'm moving out of state in six months (another big reason why we broke up) so that is something to look forward to. I'm not in college but will be attending a trade school of sorts. It's just the time between now and then that is so crippling for me to think of. What can I do to get rid of this pain?", "summary": "had my first serious relationship, it became toxic so we ended it on good terms but now i'm dealing with missing him and lack of friends so a lot of loneliness. how do i deal?"}
{"id": "t3_1efrvh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would I connect Rumble Fish and Brave New World together through a common theme?", "post": "I need to write a paper for English and I'm not sure what exactly to write about. I could write about Identity and the dangers that come from when you don't find yours. (John's death, and Rusty-James lack of belonging somewhere) or Perspective/Perception about seeing or in Rusty-James' case not seeing what is right in front of you. I could write about not becoming what you fear, but I don't see where I could get a lot of evidence form that to support the idea. I could also write about not allowing other people to control your perspective as they do in Brave New World, but I don't know how I would connect that with Rumble Fish.", "summary": "I have a few ideas but I don't know how to properly go about using them, and if any of you have any ideas it would be nice to hear about them. "}
{"id": "t3_1k0vvn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU (actually last night about 3 in the morning) by not looking in the mirror.", "post": "So I'm in college right now but I'm off for the summer. I'd say my average bed time in college was around 1 or 2 but I've been going to bed around 11 most nights when I'm home. I love sleeping! And I'm not so much as a really late night person. \n\nWell one of my best friends in the marines got one day off today to spend with his family so he's going to a family reunion today (He enlisted a little over a year ago and is now stationed off the coast of nc and has a chance of being deployed over seas in about six months or so). \n\nSo he got back around 2 last night. No problem I wouldn't miss it so two other friends and I had decided to meet at IHOP to catch up since he was leaving early this morning at 530. I'm super tired and get there first and notice its closed. So I tell them and we decide to just go to Mcdonalds. At this point I'm getting a little fed up with just driving around past 2 in the morning. \n\nI've been driving for almost four years and haven't gotten in an accident or gotten a ticket before. I start backing up out of the parking spot to take off and all of a sudden smash something behind me. I never even thought to look in the rear view and ended up backing straight into one of those huge cement cylinders that hold light posts in place in parking lots. My bumper is now fucked and I've been pissed since last night bc of it. I barely have the money to pay for it right now, but my mom is making me since she doesn't want anybody driving around in my car when it looks broken. \n\nI know it was completely my fault and a careless mistake, but its still frustrating.", "summary": "I was too tired to drive and ended up paying for it by fucking up my car."}
{"id": "t3_hdcum", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A porn/virus/computer question", "post": "Fidgetstic's wife here (I don't have my own reddit account, tragically). I'm trying to remove a virus from my husband's dad's computer. Does anyone have any experience removing AntiVirus AntiSpyware 2011?  It's one of those fake antivirus protection ones. I need to find a way to remove it myself without buying one of the registry cleaning tools if at all possible.  Yes, he has real antivirus protection, I guess he just doesn't use it? Also does anyone know where this virus comes from? (We figure porn, but don't know for sure). I'd like to be able to tell him what to stay away from, not that he'll listen.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "How can I remove AntiVirus AntiSpyware 2011 without buying anything?"}
{"id": "t3_smyjm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally knocking over a bottle of wine at WalMart", "post": "It was a glass bottle of course, so it made a huge mess. After I knocked it over, I ran into a bunch of people I knew who saw what happened. That was embarrassing. \n\nThen, I almost got into a wreck on the drive home because I didn't get over into the right lane fast enough and I had to cut off the car behind me, and my boyfriend was in the car so he got mad at me. Then, after I got home and started putting my groceries away in the fridge I accidentally knocked out my roommate's food and it spilled all over the kitchen floor.", "summary": "I'm ridiculously clumsy today, and my boyfriend blamed it on my vagina/being a woman."}
{"id": "t3_3ngmgq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So I decided to let myself fall a little off the wagon for my birthday party last night...", "post": "I've lost 20 lbs so far and I've been really committed to this for just over a month now.  However, it's my birthday on Tuesday and for my party last night I decided I'd cut myself some slack.  I wouldn't go crazy, oh no, but I'd try to stay at maintenance and have a little bit of everything that I've been so good about saying no to.\n\nSo my friends and I go out for Chinese.  Absolutely delicious.  Sushi, lo mein, empress chicken, the whole shebang.  I split plates with my boyfriend and by the end of the meal I feel so full.  I didn't binge or anything, I just had a pretty good meal (that I'd prepared all day to eat by barely having a thing!).  I hadn't like that in forever!  It's just been a month but I can't believe it was that easy for me to put that all away before!  My portion sizes are so small now!\n\nBUT.  We get home and as the party goes on I start feeling sick.  Really sick.  Food poisoning sick!  I end up having to cut out my own party and go **ahem** *expel* what I'd had for dinner.\n\nI think to myself, \"Oh no!  The food at the restaurant was tainted!  At the very least my boyfriend is going to get sick!  What an awful party!\"  Only... he doesn't.  No one does.  Just me.  And I realize that my body has already made the switch.  It isn't used to, and doesn't like to, handle that much fried food anymore.  It doesn't want it.\n\nSo I've changed.  Mentally and physically.  That's really reassuring to me.  Motivating.  Honestly, it feels amazing.\n\nI ended up (after a little bit of unasked for purging and a shower) going back to my party and managed to enjoy a tiny piece of birthday cake my best friend had slaved over an oven for.  I felt good.  What a good way to begin this new year of my life.", "summary": "I tried to have a cheat day and paid for it.  And I feel great about it."}
{"id": "t3_2khd8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] \"right girl, wrong time\" [20F] Should I just ask and get it over with?", "post": "We matched on tinder and wow the conversations we had and how much we had in common and how much we talked I couldn't believe it... Except I was taking over 15 credits in summer session with deadlines, tests, homework, etc every single day it broke me and I began having anxiety attacks and all that garbage...\n\nSo we never metup because of me and I know it meant a lot to both of us (her social media posts n stuff)\n\nNow its 2 months later and I am thinking about her a lot. The only form of communication is through worthless snapchats (weirdly enough last month they used to be very personal snaps). Its actually funny the one or two times I've texted her since how robotic her responses are.\n\nAnyways I'm pretty sure we'll both be semi near each other in a month and I was contemplating just asking if shes still interested and fucking get all this over with.\n\nWhat's everyones thoughts on this? I really want to move on one way or another, and maybe it doenst make sense to mention it now when we still have a full month? But thats again a full month of \"not knowing\"", "summary": "Met a girl at the worst possible time in my life (honestly was) and need to know if its possible again."}
{"id": "t3_2k2s8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] don't know how to behave with women.Need help opening up.", "post": "I've been living in a relatively strict family where I've been told throughout my childhood not to have a girlfriend and I should get one after I get a job etc..\n\nThis is the way I've grown up and I since I learned to think like that,I have no idea how to behave with women (not like with friends)\n\nI tend to be slightly more closed and not very talky but I can get going pretty easy.\n\nBut I have no idea how to behave with women in a more flirty-ish way since I feel really awkward getting more close than friends, always felt like hugging or kissing a girl is awkward-ish.Most of my friends don't have girlfriends and they tend to do little jokes about mates when they see them flirting with someone else.\n\nSo how can I be more open with women and not feel awkward around them?", "summary": "Raised strictly and now I don't know how to behave with a woman,need help opening up."}
{"id": "t3_3tvxlr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my ex [24/M] of 4 years, re-establishing contact after 4 months?", "post": "My first (and most recent) relationship of 4 years ended 4 months ago with no contact. He wanted to remain involved in each other's lives and I told him no, at least not for a while. He sent me a text two weeks after we broke up, and I just restated that we would not be in contact. \n\nIt was a mutual break up but we sort of ended on bad terms, with a lot of resentment on my part for a lot of his behaviours during the relationship. \n\nNow that I've had some time and space, I'm interested in re-opening lines of communication as I've been able to move past the hurt feelings that I was holding onto. He was such an important part of my life for so long that it feels weird becoming complete strangers. I'd like to reach out not to get back together, or even to try to be friends, but to bring us back to friendly terms where at least we could check in on each other every now again. \n\nI have no interest in restarting a relationship, as I feel like it had already gone on way past it's expiration date. However, I do know that if I saw him dating somebody new it would still hurt at this point so I'm not sure if starting to talk again would only cause more pain.  \n\nWould it be a mistake to start talking to him again? Have you ever gotten back in contact with an ex, and if you have, how did it go?", "summary": "Have you ever reached out to an ex after going no contact? If so, how did it go? Not looking to get back together, but just to be on better terms."}
{"id": "t3_y08cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/f, 21/m] the more weight my boyfriend loses, the less I'm attracted to him", "post": "So I read the guy's story about wanting her GF to lose weight. I have a similar story, yet opposite, see if I can get any help. My boyfriend [20/m] has been losing a bit a weight the past 8 months or so. We've been dating for about a year and a half now. I [19/f] feel that it's good for him, but for some reason, I don't like how he's doing it, and him looking more attractve is affecting our relationship. \n\nHe's lost I'd say about 25 lbs since November. He's showing more muscle and better posture. It's pretty awesome. However, he's been mostly using weights and only some cardio. I told him it's bad for your heart and weights will make him fat down the line. I'm trying to get him to do cardio so he can lose weight the right way. Also trying to get him into yoga. His diet also worries me. He says he's cut most sugars and breads out of his diet. The sugar I can see, but he needs grains for a healthy diet. He mostly eats meats, veggies, some dairy and fruit. I dunno how he's losing weight by lifting weights and eating meat. I don't want him to get too muscly. I like a chub on my guy. \n\nAlso, whenever we're out in public together, I've noticed girls have been noticing him more, looking at him. He doesn't know this, though, and I'm trying to tell him it's bad for us. The people he talks to are a little more flirty with him. I'm trying to figure out a way to politely tell him to stop flirting with others. He calims that this isn't going on, but I think he's playing humble and stupid. Kinda worries me he might cheat on me.\n\nSo how do I approach fixing all this?", "summary": "Boyfriend losing weight, trying to get him to do real exercises, fix his diet, weight loss affecting our relationship, too many people checking him out."}
{"id": "t3_32vb2g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Emailing a Coworker", "post": "I work in a rather large establishment, and these establishments are located nationwide. There are a lot of people in the building where I work, so if I see them once outside of my routine, there's little chance I will see them again. I became quite smitten by someone I saw the other day, and managed (through no small effort) to find out her name.\n\nI'm also getting an advanced degree in my field, which is also the field I currently work in. Not too long ago, I had an assignment where I needed to interview a specialist and used someone from the building who ended up being a terrible pick (the boss of my boss's boss). Sometime shortly after, I found out the girl I had a thing for would have been great, even though the assignment had already been turned in.\n\nSo I devised a cunning and elaborate ruse to schedule a faux interview with her and then smoothly ask her to lunch at the end. If it went exactly as it had gone in my head, it would be smooth sailing. That was a big \"if\". The email did not go as planned. She emailed back to tell me that she didn't think she was a going to be able to help me out nearly as much as her coworkers, who she forwarded the email to. Then they sent it to some other coworkers in my sister department who all ended up being equally perplexed at the lack of a specialist in this field, and eventually the email made it the head of the department, who made a statewide Listserv announcement to those in my field who might be eager to help me\u2014on an assignment I had already done and was just using to get a poorly thought out date!", "summary": "Emailed my coworker so I could secretly set up a date, and her whole department got involved to find someone more suitable instead"}
{"id": "t3_3m9vq4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lying on the internet, and getting caught.", "post": "I know it's super rare for people to lie, or exaggerate stories when anonymously posting online, but I sometimes do this. Today, I was on facebook (had it been Reddit, it would have been anonymous, and this wouldn't have been a problem. Stupid ilikecrackersnsnacks, what were you thinking?) and commented on a friend's post, telling a story about me and my childhood friend, I'll call her Jennifer. I made Jennifer out to be a much bigger asshole in the story than she really was, but thought my story was sure to get a laugh out of the friend who posted, figured Jennifer would never see it, and moved on with my day. \n\nAn hour later I get a text from Jennifer regarding my post, and she's pretty upset. This friend has been my good friend for 20 years, and I totally threw her under the bus to make a random friend laugh. I explained that I exaggerated my story, and those weren't my true feelings, and I apologised, but no word back.", "summary": "I was an asshole behind my friends back, she found out, and now I feel like an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_jevuq", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Can anyone identify this Thai recipe for coconut milk Yellow Curry (?) It doesn't need to be exact, just of similar nature. I have no clue about Thai food.. :(", "post": "I'm trying to expand my palette of tastes and have generally been relatively uncouth when it comes to cooking. For a background, I am not a huge fan of cooked vegetables, refuse to eat non-puree'd green & red peppers, and can't eat large pieces of non-red meat (it makes me gag for some odd reason.. - I have a textural thing where certain food/tastes just repulse me). However, if all of those are puree'd I am perfectly fine eating them. I wish I could enjoy a larger menu of foods, but unfortunately have next to no cooking ability and am relatively happy with the few foods I eat. \n\nHowever, on a recent family vacation we stopped at, [what I considered to be] an excellent Thai restaurant in Oceanside, CA. I ordered a 'safe food' I was familiar with, but tried a few dishes other people in our party ordered and discovered I fucking love the tits out of \"yellow curry.\" It was rich, smooth, and didn't have any of the tastes/slimy textures I dislike.\n\nI really only would want the soupy part (to put over rice and maybe finish off as a soup) - I don't think I'd prepare the ~~steamed~~ cooked vegetables (unless the recipe required it in the cooking of the soupy stuff) or eat any of the chicken if the recipe calls for it [would it be possible to just not prepare the chicken all together? A lot seem to make the curry first THEN add the chicken - so it doesn't seem too important for the flavour of the curry itself]. Thus I would like to focus on making an excellent tasting sauce, opposed to the greens/meat that go with it! It can be relatively spicy, but I don't need/want the SPICIEST CURRY EVERRRR. Store bought [yellow] curry paste will be used [any recommended brands - if i have a choice?] \n\nIt looked something like this: \n\nIf anyone can recommend a similar recipe, I'd TOTALLY appreciate it.", "summary": "I am picky as fuck and would really appreciate it if someone could recommend a similar curry recipe as in the picture. Other recommendations (similar tastes) would be appreciated too :)"}
{"id": "t3_50lg0w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by posting an envelope", "post": "Happened yesterday, possible repercussions didn't become apparent until this morning. \n\nI'm a student, working part-time as a store hand in a large warehouse as a laborer/forklift operator and am generally trustworthy while on-the-clock, so I end up running errands or doing odd jobs often.\n\nBoss rings me early morning (our shifts start at 5am, but he doesn't actually get in until 8) and asks if I can deliver work vehicle to a mechanic for warranty work, sure thing, also put envelope under keys in bank deposit box on your way past, easy, says he will pick me up on his way to work, gotcha. \n\nBank is shut cause it's still early af. My bank has a system for deposits with envelopes at atm's, I do the same thing here with this other bank, ez bugatti, day follows through as expected. \n\nQueue the next day, wasn't shifted on but I get a call. Accounts dep. confirming I deposited the envelope as it hadn't come through, told them how it all went down, their reply;\n\"Our bank doesn't have a system like that, you've thrown the envelope in the trash.\" \n\nWell, alright, thinking damage control. The boss gave it to me on a whim and it was pretty thin, $1000 max. If we can't find it a few paychecks and I'll be in the clear. \nOffice tells me they'll send someone down to the bank to try and track down the envelope, I apologize. \n\nGet a call back 20 minutes later, office tells me the bank staff managed to recover $100,000 in cheques from the atm trash box. \n\nA 'few' paychecks that would've been..", "summary": "Made assumptions about banking, threw $100,000 in the trash."}
{"id": "t3_jf2yv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do with a creep's Flickr account?", "post": "So I have a former friend who I've cut off because he's a miserable person who has hurt everyone around him (myself included) perhaps due to anti-social personality disorder (never diagnosed, just my own educated guess.) I realized recently that I have access to his Flickr account via a password he divulged to me and foolishly he uses for EVERYTHING. \n\nSounds like a good bit of mischief, right? Well, there's a wrinkle. While looking through his pics I noticed one of a girl captioned something to the effect of \"It took meeting a 16 year old girl to know my ideal of love\" and another captioned \"my 16 year old dream.\" I know that a few years ago he \"dated\" a girl that age and he slept with her (he told me some time after the fact, knowing I would react appropriately.) He was about 25 at the time. \n\nNONE of the pictures of said girl are pornographic. There are two however of the two of them in bed, seemingly naked (though completely covered by sheets) and kissing. Other pics are of previous exes in very adult situations.\n\nThe question is, what would you guys do? I do feel some guilt for not reporting the \"relationship\" he had with the girl when it was occurring. So, do I just screw with the account, delete the pics, or something more malicious? Do I anonymously send word to authorities (he may have more elicit material offline since it is his MO)? Do I just forget the whole thing and mind my own business? I'm not a person who puts loyalty ahead of my principles and morals, hence the conundrum.", "summary": "I have access to a Flickr account of a creep, what do I do with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ul9na", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do I know I'm not doing something wrong?", "post": "Hey, /r/loseit!\n\nI hope this isn't an irritating question - I'm sure you have a lot of people asking plateau questions very often. Mine isn't so much plateau as much as it is plateau-related.\n\nI've been trying to get my eating habits on track for a while now with on-and-off success, but so far this is the longest streak I've gone without binging since last summer, 3 weeks. Doesn't sound like a lot, but I have a feeling a lot of you will realize that it's easier said than done. \n\nMy issue is that I've actually *gained* weight since I started eating like this. Dipped a bit the first week, gained the second. I weigh myself about every third day or so.\n\nAnd I get it, I get it. Plateaus, plateaus. They're not a big deal -- you stagnate, and then you drop it all at once. Or, you're not losing weight, but you're losing fat. I've read all about them and I know that if that's what's going on, it's totally fine.\n\nMy question is -- how do I know I'm plateauing? How do I know that I'm not doing anything wrong, and that if I keep it up, the weight will eventually drop? I'm afraid that I'll think everything's fine, not change anything up, and then in five months I'll be the same weight I am now.", "summary": "If my weight isn't changing/is going up despite counting calories, how do I know whether I'm plateauing or whether I'm making some mistake that will keep the weight on long term? How long should I keep waiting for weight loss before I try to dismantle my diet?"}
{"id": "t3_3rq1ft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] Mom [42F] and Older Sister [21F] Are Always Yelling at My Little Sister [1F] and It Makes Me Upset", "post": "So my mum had a baby late in her life after an unexpected pregnancy. It started out fine, with her yelling at me less and being seemingly less angry. \n\nThis changed quickly however. After a couple months she would yell at her for everything. Obviously when she was younger it just crying, but now it's crying, not sleeping, playing to loudly, whatever you can think of. \n\nShe also spanks her really hard. Usually if she doesn't listen, but she's 1 so she rarely listens. \n\nMy older sister also moved in a few months after my little sister was born, after she got pregnant. She also yells at my little sister and I, even worse than my mom. She even yells at her 6 month old daughter for crying.\n\nNow I can understand getting upset every once in a while, I do it too. But I rarely ever spank her, unless she does something multiple times after being told not to. I can get mad and raise my voice a bit when I'm tired and she won't sleep. But I never scream at her. \n\nI'm just scared that this will hurt her later in life. Is it normal for a parent to yell at and spank a 1 year old? Is there anything I can do to lessen", "summary": "My mom and older sister yell at and spank my 1 year old sister and I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_4et035", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with: myself, duration: eternity? Am I normal to be this independently happy?", "post": "Hi Reddit, currently on the pot as I contemplate my future...\n\nI'm a 30 year old dude who's never brought a lady to meet my parents or do anything else as serious in nature relationship-wise. \n\nThe thing is....I'm not a nerd...or that ugly. I have sex constantly and I've currently bagged a little over 80 chicks. I honestly really enjoy my life. It's fantastic. I have great friends, a great relationship with my family. \n\nOnce in a blue moon though, I get these thoughts that make me think I should try to \"be like everyone else\" though. You know, settle...start paying for someone else's shit...have a kid, get fat, etc. \n\nAt my age, most of my friends are in relationships obviously, and I don't envy any of them. All of their chicks do shit that would drive me up the wall. Most of the things revolve around being a financial burden or having a general lack of passion for anything. \n\nI'm an airline pilot. I travel for free. I play guitar, drums, bass, ukulele, sing in a band. I love to try new recipes. Love to surf. I'm constantly trying to be better at something....and I think this is the problem. \n\nThey say guys have hobbies, women have boyfriends. I just can't stand the lack of passion/interests/hobbies that I see in most women. Such a turn off to me. And unfortunately, there seems to be some kind of inverse ratio between hotness and zest for life. (I understand the reasons why) But still, I don't think this is a matter of just not having found \"the one\". Anyone else relate?\n\nSo, anyway, I just wanted to get these ideas off my chest anonymously and see how weird I am according to a bunch of strangers on the Internet. Mahalo!\n\nNothing like some Mexican food to set a man straight.....", "summary": "I enjoy my life but every now and then I get the feeling that I am supposed to follow suit and get married and have a kid and die."}
{"id": "t3_126m48", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dry-hands is affecting my work performance. What's a serious pair of gloves for the job?", "post": "Here's the deal:\n\nI've had dry hands all my life. Really bad when I was little. My hands get better and worse with no particular pattern. \n\nAt their best, It's like there's nothing wrong with them.\n\nAt their worst, I can barely close my hands, get them wet without pain, or do anything that requires dexterity, or heavy-lifting.\n\nI have been to doctors for this, with no conclusions other than moisturize, and be nice to them.\n\nMy regiment at the moment is to apply [this stuff] liberally, and wear nitrile gloves for a few hours; During the day, and at night. Nitrile gloves tend to tear-apart after a few hours. I might as well be wearing oven-mitts when I wear light-weight cotton gloves. I can't grip anything.\n\nIt's problematic enough with every-day tasks, but now that I'm working, it's affecting my work. I'm work in a warehouse, so I have problems doing heavy lifting, or working with chemicals. \n\nLong story short, I need the ultimate pair of gloves. Here's my ideal requirements.\n\n1. Slim-fitting and dexterous enough to work with small hardware.\n2. Liquid-proof, or resistant.\n3. Not that cheap nylon crap that gets all fuzzy.\n4. I can wear nitrile gloves under them with moisturizer if necessary. \n5. Touch-screen compatible. (At least with one removable finger-tip.)\n6. Extra-protection on finger tips, without too much bulk.\n7. Extreme friction coating. If I can lift something with pure palm-to-object friction, and not by articulating my fingers, that's a plus.\n\nIf these requirements can be met with two separate pairs of gloves, that's fine by me.", "summary": "Need a bad-ass pair of gloves that can protect my weak-sauce dry hands at home, and at work."}
{"id": "t3_3fbssm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my brother to kill a spider in my room (NSFL)", "post": "My older brother has always been fascinated by all types of animals. When we were younger he used to spend all day in the backyard studying and handling various insects. Currently, he volunteers at an animal shelter and is part of this program where he foster parents two kittens from his shelter before they are ready for adoption. Bottom line; he cherishes all life, big or small. \n\nWell last night I saw this massive spider on my wall and began to have a heavy panic attack. I freak out at anything that crawls, this being no exception. I'm shrieking and jump on my bed calling for my dad to come kill it, but instead my brother shows up. I urgently ask him to kill the piece of shit on my wall to which he stares at me as if I were insane and ignores my request. In one swift motion, he lightly picks up the spider and holds it in his hand. Calmly, he takes it to his room where he lets the spider go, IN HIS FUCKING ROOM. Apparently the spider will catch mosquitoes for him, and he's stoked on life. I need to fucking move out.", "summary": "Ask brother to kill spider; he keeps it as a pet in his room"}
{"id": "t3_1zqeqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my fiance [34 M] and his family is difficult, caused a lot of problems for his bro/bro's wife, and starting with us", "post": "The women in my fiance's family (mom, step-mom, sister, and sister in law) all have ongoing issues stemming from years of digs, fights, and other passive aggressive and some aggressive behavior. I was well informed of the issues, but didn't see them much at first. I love my fiance, but sometimes struggle to understand how i can sit by as they act crazy, treat him poorly, and treat each other horribly. Its not something i want to fight about with him, and its something his brother and sister in law have fought about for 7 years. \n\nQuick specifics, his sister causes a lot of issues, she is divorced and quite unhappy so lashes out randomly. At his brother's wedding she decided everything happy in his brother's life was a personal dig against her and wrote nasty horrible emails to her brother telling him so and saying things i can't imagine saying to a family member. The mom has the same issue if she ever perceives the step mom (whom no one likes either) is getting along well with the family. Most recently the sister went off on us that we're horrible selfish people (after we make a point to visit-she's like 1.5 hrs away, buy her kids lots of gifts, and i made a point to try to get her/her kids clothes because she hasn't worked/won't work and said she and her kids needed some). i think we're going to repeat the same year as when his brother got married, just now she'll be upset at us for nothing. she told us that she doesn't appreciate anything we do because that's just expected, and that i could come/not come to the most recent family event because what does she/or her children care. This is minor, but feels like the beginning of what his brother and sister in law went through.", "summary": "Any advice on how to fit into a difficult family situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1xnkhw", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I'm a junior in high school looking for some input on scheduling for something that stands out to colleges.", "post": "**for those leaving downvotes, please at least leave an opinion; it is a serious question that I think is worth discussing**\n\nSo background, I'm a junior in high school, scheduling for next year. I've played violin for nine something years and for three years I've been in the better orchestra at our school as well as the chamber orchestra which is best strings group at my school. I have recently lost passion and interest in playing the violin, usually I am very bored in the class ^and ^I ^often ^find ^that ^I ^am ^almost ^able ^to ^fall ^asleep ^in ^class.\n\nIn terms of academics, I'm in the top 5% of students at my school with some 4.25 GPA. I am currently taking five AP classes. Orchestra currently takes a lot of my time, from after school rehearsals to performances to the newly implemented \"music service hours\", in which I have to volunteer solely for something related to the music program. This is rather inconvenient as I already have other service hours I have to fulfill to graduate.\n\nThe main point is, I was wondering whether or not it was better to drop orchestra to take another AP class next year (which would total eight AP classes, two of which are semester long classes) or if it was better to stick with orchestra to demonstrate \"commitment\", which I hear a lot of colleges look for nowadays. While none of you know exactly the academic rigor of my school's AP program, I was wondering in the general context which would be better for me. I want to apply to Stanford, Berkeley, Columbia and similar colleges.\n\nIf I have not provided enough info (as in other extra-curriculars I'm currently participating in), please let me know...\n\nI just don't feel special enough to apply to any school. Am I just another boring academic robot that applies to only top schools? Is there something I can do to make me stand out or be special?", "summary": "is it better to drop orchestra and take more AP classes or is it better to show commitment with the orchestra (which I don't enjoy) by sticking with it for all four years of my high school career?"}
{"id": "t3_1gwf2t", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Im [20, M] having a conundrum, I over-googled my date [26, M]", "post": "Hey guys, Im hoping you guys can help me with an, admittedly, small dilemma. I was asked out by a really cute guy and at the time all I knew was his first name and occupation (teacher). Like (I think?) any reasonable adult I did some internet poking around to make sure I wasn't going on a date with a serial killer but I found out that hes absolutely INCREDIBLE. Remember ratemyteachers.com? he's completely maxed out by dozens of kids (I awkwardly agree with the pubescent girls) and know about his whole family, accolades, important tidbits of personal life etc. The problem is as follows:\n\n1) Ive never been on a date with a guy I liked THIS much before, and Im not used to these nerved; usually I go in completely calm\n\n2) What the hell are we supposed to talk about? I know like everything about him! Im worried about sounding suprised to learn he teaches my favorite subject at the highschool next to mine... Any advice guys on not coming off as a total creeper/stalker?", "summary": "googled my date, know way too much (good) info, am worried about coming off super creepy."}
{"id": "t3_sszl6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is anyone else sick of seeing people blatantly disregard or abuse public aid?", "post": "I am really sick of seeing people brag about getting welfare, EBT, etc. and continue to buy luxuries. For example, I know two people who have food stamps. They love to brag about buying sushi and steak with them. Those 2 foods are big time luxuries to me. I never get them anymore. I met two more who lie about being homeless to get food stamps. They live in a tourist destination beach city, and both come families with some decent cash. Right after the food stamp bragging, one went on to talk about river trips, a boat, etc and etc. Or someone talking to me about spending college financial aid on a DOG. Just to buy a pretty puppy they wanted. I tried to talk her out of it.\n   When I was even more broke and needed public assistance medical care, I couldn't help but notice the people sitting in the office wearing nice clothes and jewelry, chatting on smart phones or passing the time with their laptops. This was not emergency holy-shit-expensive care. This was the type of care where you had to pay 10-100 bucks, which they could obviously afford?\n\nWhat the FUCK is wrong with these people? Or is there something wrong with me? I cannot fathom spending food stamps or other taxpayer money on luxuries. That money is to get by.\n\nIs this really my generation, Reddit?", "summary": "Seeing people brag about spending taxpayer money on luxuries. It drives me crazy. I looked into reporting them but I just got dead ends. This type of outlook on welfare bums me out, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one..."}
{"id": "t3_3b593r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you communicate over disagreements", "post": "For background, \nI'm 20M and my SO is 23F we've been dating 2 years. \n\nTo be honest I'm very frustrated. I'm an open minded person though as I like to think. I'm currently in this seemingly ridiculous relationship with someone who we've had past issues but had decided to resolve them. She started making effort and I'd now reverting to the way she was in a lot of things. \n\nMy main question has to do with discussing what's bothering you or arguments etc. She likes to say \"Your telling me what I feel is wrong.\" But I only specifically say that to things like \"you don't love me\".\n\nSo today, I tried conversing with her about what's going on. She specifically stated,  you have to only help come up with solutions, not respond to what I say. When she says everything I need to fix, I can tell her what she needs to fix. \n\nExample:\nHer: I don't feel like you love me. \nMe: that's not true,  etc. (I can't say this)\nI'm basically supposed to apologize and ask how to fix this. \n\nI firmly believe that communicating issues should be discussing both of our feelings on a subject and then working together to resolve the issue. \n\nAm I crazy?", "summary": "I believe one of us at the very least is bat shit crazy. Discussing feelings on a topic and a solution. Or one person's feelings and then finding a solution. "}
{"id": "t3_2ix2ae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] going out with my coworker [25 F] in roughly a week. I've never gone out with someone that has 7 years experience on me, any tips?", "post": "I wasn't sure where to go with this question as nobody I know has been in a similar situation so I figured to head over here for some tips.\n\nWithout giving too many details, her and I have been working together for a few months now and over time I've come to find out we have very similar interests and she is the only girl I've ever been able to have in-depth conversations.  She's a bit busier than I and isn't a much of a texter so essentially all of our conversations have been face to face.  After a bit of talking we decided to head to a thrill park (large and \"scary\" with multiple haunted houses) about an hour away.\n\nI'm honestly not worried about conversation topics or any awkwardness; it's just that I'm sure she has different expectations than what most girls my age do.  I want an honest relationship with her but am not sure if I should \"take the lead\" during the date or if I should just relax a little and allow her to show me what she's looking for.  Overall I'm confident that it'll go in a positive direction but it can't hurt to ask for some tips right?  Thanks in advance y'all.", "summary": "There's a large age difference between me and a girl I'm crushing on and am looking for pointers on dating someone much older than you.  Any and all advice is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_19e9o0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for someone with strong anxiety from public speaking, pressured situations (Also job interview)", "post": "I get serious anxiety any time attention is focused on me, especially when in a public speaking situation. I know everyone says they get this also, but for me I lose all ability to articulate myself intelligently unless I've learned what I'm going to say pretty much off by heart, and even then speaking at a slow even pace is hard, as I race through to finish as quickly as possible.\n\nThis is a problem I can usually ignore, but I'm currently out of work and  am applying for jobs. Interviews are exactly the kind of situations that cause me these kinds of problems, especially group interviews of which I know I will be having a few. Without trying to be over-dramatic, just the thoughts of them is making it hard for me to think through my post that I'm writing now.\n\nDoes Reddit have any good advice for dealing with this? Public speaking courses cost money, and to be honest, I don't know how well they would work, since in public speaking courses a lot of the pressure is off you, as making a mistake is no big deal. I'm wondering about things like Valium, I've never taken anything like that before and wondering if it would help my situation, or if it's going overboard. I've drank alcohol before doing a presentation in my old job once, but it didn't really help much, and obviously it's not something I'd like to make a habit of.\n\nAny advice would be really appreciated.", "summary": "Help me not lose my shit when doing job interviews please."}
{"id": "t3_2qh38b", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice: I am letting me friend live with me and my girlfriend for free.", "post": "Okay..... So me and my girlfriend moved into our own place finally (yay) and about a month or so afterwards i get a call from my friend..\n\nAbout 3 months ago a friend got evicted from his apartment and so he called me up and asked if he could live with us for awhile until he gets back up on his feet. OK that's fine. I know those feels...\n\nHe also said he would get foodstamps while he is looking for jobs.\n\nThe first month he would SOMETIMES bring up foodstamps saying that he just applied for them or make some excuse for why he couldnt go down to the foodstamps place. (he also once told me they are being mailed to the house....still havent got them)\n\nI also swear he hasnt been job hunting like he should be.. In 3 months he's only gotten 1 interview for a job... one my girlfriend set up for him to. (she is a manager)\n\nHe's been living here for a little over 3 months now and he's only done the dishes twice, rarely picks up after himself etc... All he does is stay home and play league of legends or world of warcraft and EAT. He will also sometimes bring his girlfriend over for a couple days at a time.. She is just as bad as he is. \n\nAgain, in 3 months time he has yet to get a job or foodstamps and pretty much doesnt contribute to the household at all.", "summary": "I FEEL LIKE I AM MY FRIENDS DAD, HE DOES NOTHING. IT IS ANNOYING TO COME HOME FROM WORK AND THERE HE IS JUST PLAYING VIDEO GAMES AND EATING ALL DAY IN MY FUCKKING HOUSE."}
{"id": "t3_eltye", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I made this cool app, will you check it out and help me win money to start a business?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI'm a developer and my dream has always been to start my own business. I recently spent several months creating an application for smart TV. I've entered a contest to try and get money to create a business out of this app and part of the prize money is awarded based on popular choice.\n\nThe app is a next-generation TV guide. Instead of listing shows by channel, I give them a popularity factor. This makes for a much more interesting list of shows to watch (ok, it's the same list, but a much more interesting front-page.)\n\n[Here's a video explaining the app](\n\nSo far I've individually contacted pretty much all my friends, coworkers and family, I've even spent several days approaching random people in the park. This has worked to some extent- but I've realized that I can't win this without some serious help. \n\n[Here's my voting page, I'm the girl in the video](\n\nIn the interest of fairness, here's the link to the [contest page] so you can check out the other apps as well. (hopefully you'll like mine the best!)", "summary": "An entrepreneur and developer asking you to check out what she made and vote for her app if you like it!"}
{"id": "t3_3cgdfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my \"friend with benefits\" [17F] I'm scared something is going to happen", "post": "This is a throwaway. Also I talk about a sexual act, i'm not sure if it's against the rules or not. \n\nHer and I talked for awhile then I asked her to hangout and we ended up having sex.\n\nFast forward a few months later and were still ocasionally having sex and hanging out but nothing serious.\n\nWell recently she came over and I had some klonopin and some vodka and she asked for a pill (.5mg) and took it down with a sip of a mixed drink i had already been drinking so it was watered down.\n\nAnyways things start heating up and we start having really aggressive sex and I choked her because I thought she would like it (she has before) and she ended up freaking out. So she got into the shower and went home.\n\nSo next day I wake up and shes called me 20 times saying if I knew what was good for me I would leave my house. She said I punched her and threw her phone and was yelling at her. (none of which happened) So now shes saying shes filed a police report and gotten a drug test. The drug test said she tested positive for Xanax, but Xanax and klonopin are both Benzodiazepines so they will show up as the same thing. Anyways it's been 4 days since that night and nothing has happened yet. Should I be worried about anything happening? Because I couldn't handle having to deal with a rape charge or an assault charge. I heard if somthing does not happen within 48 hours it wont be able to be held up?\n\nI also have a roommate and he would attest that she was never here and I had never left the house.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2rkbgs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sister in love with 62-year old trainwreck who owes IRS, house being sold in foreclosure, recent student loan debt", "post": "I've spent a lot of time lurking, but I need your perspective in this unique situation.\n\nMy sister is in her late 50's. She is a self-employed professional, but not very good with her money. Sister taps equity in her home (which would have been paid off years ago) to travel internationally. She runs up credit card debt. She's never come to me for money, but I fear she hasn't made much provision for retirement outside Social Security.\n\nNow to the perspective: Sister has a long back track record with men.\n\nHere's the current situation: Sister met \"Jake\" a year ago. Jake was 61 (now 62) and living on student loans. Last month he graduated with a BA in English from the state university. Cost of attendance at the university is $24K/year.\n\nSister takes Jake to Paris after he graduates to celebrate. While they are gone the Writ of Execution for foreclosure is published in the local paper---Jake house is being sold at the end of the month. He hasn't paid on the mortgage in almost five years. WTF? Now I fear Jake will move in with sister to \"write his novel.\" I think he's a shyster playing at being a jazz musician who hasn't worked in years and has been living on bad debt.\n\nMy sister and I are close, or used to be, but she loses her brains when smitten by romance. (...or cock-smitten...)\n\nPF: What are the possible outcomes here? What liability might Sister have if Jake moves in with her? I can't make this stuff up and I can hardly stand to look at the guy. It's nearly impossible to refrain from judgments of character based on his fiscal freewheeling. Do I just keep my mouth shut?", "summary": "Sister in love with freeloading in-debt 62-year old being kicked out of his house due to foreclosure, recent racked up student loan debt, and back taxes due to IRS.  UGH - just avoid them?"}
{"id": "t3_2hverp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex GF (22f) texting me (24m) after no contact", "post": "Had a pretty crappy breakup, she dumped me. Handled it badly, went semi- no contact except for maybe a very minor message or something every 6 weeks or so. Hadn't spoken for like 2 months before her birthday two days ago, where I had planned to call just for like 30 seconds. She didn't answer, gave a one word reply to my \"hey just wanted to call and say happy birthday\" etc message. Messaged me each day since, haven't replied to any. I don't want to reply, the only conversation I want to have with her is the reconciliation one but I don't think that's going to happen nor do I think it's what she's doing now. She's doing the how've you been etc.\n\nI'm doubting myself a bit here, I want to just ignore it like I have been, right move?\n\nThanks guys.", "summary": "second-guessing myself about texting an ex back that I still have feelings for but don't want to talk to."}
{"id": "t3_4t7my4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying for an apartment while in college", "post": "I'm currently 21 years old, live with my parents and little brother in a small apartment. Never had my own room and living with them has become stressful in the recent years. I go to a university but will be attending an off campus site for the next two years thats 30 minutes away from it. I don't have my own car, I use the car my dad pays for so I dont consider it mine and if I left I definitely would not take it with me.\n\nThere is a bus that goes directly from the main campus to the off campus site so I was considering finding a cheap apartment near the main campus. I have about $1000 that is usable for this. I know its not a lot, barely affords rent for a month, but I'm really considering this. People go to college and somehow are able to afford going to school and live on their own, how can I do this without any help from my family?\n\nI do work part time but I might have to give up that job if I move since its about a 30 minute ride there from campus. This job gives me different hours each week so its hard to really depend on a stable income and with going to school full time in the fall, I'm not sure if getting a second or new job is a good idea. Any advice would be great, thanks.", "summary": "Want to move out, have a part time job with unstable hours, go to school full time in the Fall and Spring, no car, and not sure how to do it, any advice would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2y3zm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-romantic] I [M/15] feel like im annoying a friend [F/16]", "post": "Today is her birthday, and I decided that I would be extra nice and wait until midnight to say happy birthday, and message her something cute. Shes my ex, and I have no problem with that and I still fully respect her for the person she is, and as a person I care about. \n\nFast forward to about 8ish in the afternoon and she seems super upset that I make the decision for taking a nap since I was tired from only having around 6ish hours of, sleep which Im not use to, and shes giving me these one word, abbreviated, lowercase responses that make me feel like something is wrong. \n\nShe went out for dinner for two hours I assume, which is pretty long even for a birthday dinner so I figure something happened and I tried getting her to talk about it, I told her that Im always going to be there for her if she needs to talk, and I asked her a couple of times if she was okay. She replied she was okay and then she started taking about 30 minutes to give me one word responses back which really makes it feel like she doesn't want to talk to me. \n\nI dont know what I should do, Im scared to bring it up and even asking about being annoying is annoying so I feel like Im pushed into a corner here. I admire her a ton, and she is super dear to me. I see her ad my closest friend, but I dont think she feels the same way about me.", "summary": "Friend's birthday, seems upset I took a nap from being tired cause I stayed up until midnight to say happy birthday, one word responses every 30 minutes, I feel like Im annoying her."}
{"id": "t3_3hez80", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while at the bar with my Boss", "post": "So, where I work we \"upper management\" guys meet up once a month at the same bar near Alsip. After our meeting started breaking up, my boss and a couple of us stayed and bellied up to the bar, checking out the beers on tap. We wanted something light, not to hoppy. The bartender pointed one out and poured me a glass. I took a sip, it was quite tasty, so boss orders one for himself. \n\nI ask the bartender what the best was called and he laughed and said he couldn't say it right. I said just try. OK, its called Chingadumadre. My boss looks at me and said whats that mean. Then I said it to him.\n\nFuck your mother\n\nHe looked at me and said that's not nice..... I say no, that's the name of the beer.", "summary": "Told boss to fuck his mother."}
{"id": "t3_2qf6n7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Friends [23F] 2 months rebound(being me), stopped talking 4 months ago. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. Should I message her?", "post": "Met this girl in June, had a 2 month relationship without being her boyfriend. I really like her. \nWe stopped talking because our last date I got drunk, ignored her during the whole night and acted like a drunken fool. \nI guess she saw me as as a different person that night. \nShe had recently broken up with her 2 year boyfriend and was meeting new people. We had a connection and I guess she started to see me as a possible new boyfriend.\nI messed it all up the night I got drunk. \nTwo weeks after we stopped talking she got back with her boyfriend so thats when I realized I was just a rebound.\nShe broke up with her bf again recently and I\u00b4ve been tempted to send her a message about how we could try things again. \nShould I? \nI still have not gotten over her. She is perfect.\nWhat should I message her about? How can I approach her again?\nThanks for the help.", "summary": "Met a girl which I really like;was used as a rebound;she is single again;Should I message her?"}
{"id": "t3_gq5fz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any pro photographers on Reddit with advice on pricing?", "post": "So I was working as a freelance photographer (among other things) when a friend asked me to do a rush photo job on a solar array that was about to have a dedication ceremony.  Because it was a friend, and because I'm a dumbass, I didn't negotiate the terms and helped the power company get the photo on time.  \n\nWhen it was over, I tried engaging the marketing people at the power company about payment and they went silent. That was a few months ago.\n\nToday, my friend tells me that the builder of the array also wants to use the photo, and they want to pay me for the rights because they want to do things legally, unlike the power co.\n\nI'm not sure what to charge the builder for rights (printed marketing materials and website) because I mostly did product and portrait work; this kind of licensing is new to me.\n\nI also need to demand a price from the power company.  This should be more than the builder because they created and distributed jigsaw puzzles made from my image. What's more, I'm pissed off that they've stonewalled me and I have a pretty airtight case should I decide to take them to court.\n\nBTW, my friend owns the land the array was built on and merely acted as a go-between to get the photo in the first place. She feels bad that it's gotten to this point.\n\nWhat do I charge? Should I sue the power company?", "summary": "not sure what to charge for image rights, and not sure if I should be suing for copyright violation."}
{"id": "t3_4bf9m9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21/F] tell my acquaintance [21/F] I don't want to live with her over summer because she is literally perfect and it would crush my self-esteem?", "post": "Pretty sure this makes me pathetic, but here goes. Me and my acquaintance / soon-to-be-friend will both be interning at a company this summer, and we are going to do corporate housing. She asked if I wanted to live in the same suite as her over summer (we wouldn't share a room, just a suite). \n\nI would love to because she's totally awesome EXCEPT my self-esteem would be negative if I housed with her. I know this from first-hand. I've hung out with her a couple of times before and when we did, I felt inferior and self-conscious. This says something about me, not her, but trying to get over it doesn't help. \n\nHow do I tell her i don't want to / can't room with her over summer?", "summary": "I have an inferiority complex and my acquaintance / friend wants to room together over summer since we're interning at the same place except i can't because my self-esteem would tank but I don't know how to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_332amd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M20] tell her [F26] that she got Chlamydia from me?", "post": "So yesterday my SO called me and said she needed to talk about some serious stuff and I should see her in person. Relationship is 4 1/2 months old.\n\nWhen I came to her flat, she said that we shoul first eat, because afterwards if she told me, I might not be hungry anymore...\nOk, i thought to myself, thinking she would wanna break up with me because of age difference..(she's 26 and 6 years older)\n\nThan I asked if she would wanna share a J with me after dinner. She said that I would probably need it after the news...\nNow I was kind of nervous that it would be something serious...\n\nThen she told me that she accompanied a friend to the urologist a month before and that she did a test as well.\nThe results came in and she had Chlamydia.\nShe was kind of surprised that I didn't make a big deal out of it, and that I showed a very mature response ;)\nShe wanted me to take a test as well asap..\n\nShe told herself that she must be at fault because she was messing around in the summer on xtc with some guy. Idk\nThis happened 4 months before we started dating.\n\nI didn't tell her that before we started dating and in the beginning phase of the relationship, I had some burning when urinating and there was yellowish-light greeny stuff every end of the day in my underpants. But now it's gone since 2 months.\n\nI never had unprotected sex until this relationship, but that one time 1 1/2 month before starting dating, i had a ONS with protection, but in the morning after in the shower with her, I didn't use protection.\nI might suspect that it is then when I caught it.\nShould I tell my SO that she isn't at fault and that I had a ONS without protection before dating?\nIt's not that chlamydia is for life...\nShould I let her wallow in her self-pity or should I take the blame?\n\nI mean, if I don't say anything, she will always think that she gave me that.", "summary": "My SO has been tested on Chlamydia and I'm afraid I have it too. She thinks she gave it to me whereas I surely know I gave it to her."}
{"id": "t3_3ihxcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my[24/M] Girlfriend [24/F]not consider how I feel about things?", "post": "So Im new to this. Im sorry if I do the post wrong.\nI have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 7 months now. But the longer the relationship goes on the more she seemed not to care as much. We aren't really long distance but its 45 min between us. (Met her because my parent knew hers.) So Im in a local band here in Pennsylvania. Were not huge we just play at local bars around the county's. Well I have one coming up in a couple weeks and she was all excited and has told me for almost a month that she is coming. So I bought her ticket to come and made sure she would be up front. But now all of a sudden she forgot she had other plans with her friends. So now she cancelled. I was pissed and asked her if she could cancel since I only play 2 or 3 times a year and this was the last one this year. But she said she already told them she would go out and check out this new mall they built after it opened. Plans have been canceled between us on her part ALOT. I do get to see her every weekend (If something doesn't come up.) and any day I want during the week to go do a little date. But This ment a lot that she wanted to hear me and the band play.. (I sing and lead guitar) but now Im disappointed and pissed because thats all im going to think about that day now. Wishing she was there. I had big plans. To propose to her and make it a very special day. I told her I was mad and told her that I feel like she doesn't consider my feelings and what affects me. She said I was being mean and not talking to her nicely. The worst thing I said was \"Im Fucking pissed.\" I know I shouldn't cuss at her. It was just heat of the moment. I apologized and just said it was fine. Then she got mad I agreed with her going with her friends. It confusing sometimes", "summary": "Having issues with girlfriend considering my feelings"}
{"id": "t3_18ul3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21M and 22F I feel awful when my S.O talks or have any means of communication with her ex-boyfriends. Am I in the wrong for wanting her to stop speaking with her exes?", "post": "Hi, I'm the 21M and my girlfriend 22F are together for 1 year and 8 months. Once in a while, her ex-boyfriends talk to her about random stuff or she would tell them something like an update and talk with them. I generally tolerated this for several months of our dating, but as it went on, I began to feel worse about it. I kept pushing it back in my mind because I tried to believe it is innocent - and it is. But I know that this is a person that she has told \"I love you\" to before, I can imagine the days she has shared with this person, him kissing her, holding hands with her, having sex with her etc. I feel awful and not special. Awful in the feeling that your mother has yelled at you as a child for ruining her dresser or that you got a barely passing grade on your test. She tells me I'm feeling jealous - which I have trouble understanding because there were so few times I've been jealous in my life like when my father bought my younger brother a gameboy and not me. Or when after my sister and I traveled to Canada to visit my godfather and he spoke to her and not me as much because I am \"grown up\"\n\nSome info about her ex boyfriends: They were friends during school for a year or so. They began to date and their relationships lasted over a year each. She is uses the length of their relationship before and after they were a couple to justify that it is okay that they talk because they are \"just friends now\"", "summary": "I feel that speaking wither her exes is not something she shouldn't do in a relationship. I feel terrible when she speaks with her ex boyfriends and say that they are \"just friends\" now so it should be OK. Am I wrong for wanting her to stop communication with her ex boyfriends?"}
{"id": "t3_2hxvao", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Popping My Testicle Pimple", "post": "Happened a few minutes ago... Still in ball pain...\n\nSo I was doing some french homework, and I was basically procrastinating from my science project that is due Thursday (not even started yet, assigned a week ago). My language arts essay and vocab essay due Friday (both assigned a week ago). I guess I got bored because I pulled my cock n balls out. Almost immediately I noticed this huge ass pimple (seriously, fucking Mt Everest grew on my testicles...) Instinctively I go to pop it, and it was really hard to. And it hurt. I kept pinching and then it started spraying this white skin-ball puss in a streamline. It got all over my homework and now there's a bleach-like ball sweat smelling stream-line shaped stain on my textbook pages. Now there is also a huge ass red Mt. Olympus Mons on my testicles, it hurts like hell.", "summary": "Discovered testi-pimple, sprayed my load from said pimple, Martians took over test-pimple and named it Mt. Olympus Mons."}
{"id": "t3_2avdr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [16m] text my online friend [16f] who appears to ignore me? (x-post /r/advice)", "post": "This person was the one who contacted me (met through reddit) and we chatted constantly for 5 months and I thought we were really good friends because we would always talk about our lives and we would vent to the other person. A month ago this person just never answered my last question (just a normal how are you) i messaged this person through Steam a few weeks after not getting contact because I thought maybe their WhatsApp account got closed. But the person just said that she totally forgot about me and we started chatting a little. A day after that she initiated contact again and then when I asked how her day went I again never got a answer.\n\nNow 2, nearly 3 weeks are gone and I never got an answer to this stupid question and now she is again online. She was offline for 2 weeks but now she is online every few days and I am sure she saw my message but well I never got an answer back.", "summary": "Online friend didn't respond in 2 weeks for the second time and I thought we were good friends. Now I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_f1xlt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hello there Reddit! Help out a new guy?", "post": "Well after being around this site for many months I finally decided to take the plunge and make an account (it really only took a couple of seconds!). I was here through Christmas and saw the kindness that took place and the wonderful things that happen here everyday. I figured I'll make an account and become part of that. I made it and found myself lost. I had no idea where to start. So far I had only gone to the main page and seen the top stories but it feels that if I comment on those I'm way behind on the issues. Any tips/tricks that would help me out and get me into some good discussions and/or karma? Thank you Guys!!!", "summary": "Any tips or pointers for a new guy looking to become a full fledged redditor??"}
{"id": "t3_12q7ha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should people get extra time for university examinations because of disabilities like ADD?", "post": "Do you think that schools should accommodate people with disabilities like ADD when they are writing examinations with things like extra time or open book exams?  Should there be any safeguards put in place?  How much privacy is the student requesting the accommodation entitled to?\n\nI am asking this because there is a general debate going on in my school regarding rumours of accommodation that some other students are receiving.  The rumour is that one student receives additional time and gets to write an open book exam.  Our school is also anonymous with exams, so these exams go back into the global pile and the professor has no idea who has or has not received accommodation.  It could be possible for this person to write thousands of additional words.  The rumour is also that this person receives outstanding grades.  It is also important to note that we are marked on a curve for the class of 160, and the job market is very competitive, so that is where there is this debate.\n\nOne faction of the debate argues that for the type of degree we are obtaining, you really cannot be unable to work under time and pressure constraints.  There is unlikely to be this type of accommodation in the workplace, so is the school setting these students up for failure by allowing them to get degrees in a field that they won't be able to work in?\n\nOne faction of the debate argues that there are serious barriers in education systems for people with disabilities.  Furthermore, examinations often have little correlation to actual abilities anyways, so the entire degree is arbitrary and there is no point even debating the issue.\n\nI'm not asking specifically about whatever policies your university or jurisdiction has regarding accommodation (but the discussion could go there).  What is your reaction regarding the fairness and equity for accommodation, considering the perspectives of those who claim disabilities and also the class at large.", "summary": "What is your reaction to people being accommodated in university?  Is this fair to the other students?  Should there be more accommodation?"}
{"id": "t3_llyjr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you do to help remedy Restless Leg Syndrome?", "post": "For the record, RLS is not when you tap your foot a lot/shake your legs a lot/fidget... it's when you're lying down, most often trying to sleep, and you get overwhelming \"creeping\" sensations shooting up and down your  legs.  They're very uncomfortable and, for me at least, only go away when you violently shake your legs.  The best thing I can compare it to is when you get a tingle down your spine and automatically shudder a bit, though it's not exactly the same.\n\nI mean, it's not the worst syndrome a person can have, but it really makes sleeping difficult sometimes.  So, reddit, what do you do to help with RLS?  All of the \"cures\" I've heard of so far are just to shake or move suddenly, or get up and walk around (which helps for the time being but never STOPS the problem, it just returns when I lay down).  I've heard of medications to help RLS but it seems dumb to take medicine that could have other side effects JUST to help this.", "summary": "What do you do to help combat the symptoms of RLS?"}
{"id": "t3_t4vwe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, my freinds having his birthday in about 2 weeks, and I need your help. What are some awesome birthday surprises I can organise for him?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I really want your help. I have a friend who made me a few memes for my birthday (I'll upload them later if I can find them), along with a few other smart ass jokes and so on. I thought they were a great idea, so I want to take it a step further for him, and do something even better for his birthday.\n\nThis is where I'm stumped. I'm no good at creating memes, and I don't know what I could do to out-do him. I really want your help Reddit, and any tips are appreciated!\n\nJoe.", "summary": "I need some help coming up with a few awesome birthday surprises please :)"}
{"id": "t3_27gstq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [19M] feels like it's okay to make racist comments toward me because he's been discriminated", "post": "My boyfriend is Mexican, I'm American.  We've been together for roughly 3 years and we love each other very much and want to be married in the future.\n\nHe's been in the USA for over 10 years but doesn't really seem to like it here that much. He's had a lot of bad experiences with racism throughout his time here, and I was so sad and disgusted when he told me that his \"friends\" back in high school called him  a \"beaner\" and a \"wet back\", as well as telling him that the only thing he'll ever amount to is mowing lawns for a living. \nObviously, I do not think that these comments are acceptable at all. Luckily, this was last year and since graduating, he has not experienced anything even close to that level of racism. However, whenever we discuss race for any reason, he ends up saying things like \"you white people are so privileged but you still feel the need to be racist\" and \"you white people are so blinded by the media that you can't see that what you're doing is wrong\". \n\nWhile I understand that he is frustrated because I will never be discriminated on the same level, he thinks that makes it okay for him to fill that gap. When I tell him how much it hurts for him to make comments like that, he tells me that since he's been discriminated in the past, that makes it okay for him to do to me, even though I have never said anything racist toward him or anybody else. \n\nLast night, he said that if I \"suck up\" the racist comments and I will therefore \"share his pain\" and he tried framing that phrase romantically. \n\nWhile I know deep down he doesn't really feel that way, I just don't know how to talk to him about it. I feel ashamed for being white when he talks like this, and he said that's the point. \n\nDoes my boyfriend have the right idea in speaking to me this way? Am I justified in asking him to stop?", "summary": "boyfriend makes racist comments toward me in order to feel better about his own discrimination"}
{"id": "t3_175812", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Will i be able to get a secret security clearance (US)?", "post": "Here is the only reasons i can imagine why i wouldn't, one major and one minor:\n\n* I had an \"approval?\" for a secret security clearance while i was joining the Marine Corps, my mos was supposed to be data systems. My recruiter convinced me that i lost my \"approval\" before i left (for an out of state driving under suspension fiasco that could of been resolved), i was so depressed that i let him throw me into whatever he wanted (for anyone who knows anything you know i ended up 0311), turned out i never lost my \"approval\" and upon finding this out i went UA during MOS training, eventually coming back and processing out. (go ahead and berate me but i assure you i took care of that myself a long time ago). I don't remember my exact exit code (i think that's what its called) but i know it prohibits me from ever re-enlisting.\n\n* Second reason is related to first. The driving under suspension fiasco went unresolved when my recruiter convinced me to leave for training despite a pending court date. The non-appearance seems to only of gave me a default judgement of 4 years suspension (done and over now).\n\nSo basically, i want to get a job in the IT field, my hope is at a data center, i've been running my own business for a while (computer repair, small business IT, web hosting) and i'm tired of it and am looking to go to school. It seems many of the data centers near me want you to have secret security clearance and that has me concerned.", "summary": "went UA from USMC and was discharged with an OTH, looking to go to school for an IT job that might require a secret security clearance, can i have?"}
{"id": "t3_2ffb2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with a guy [30 M] at work, I want into his pants, don't know how to make it happen.", "post": "Okay, this is kind of embarrassing, and I should really be better at this by now. So, there's this guy who just started at my work, and he's, you know, kind of interesting and I want to get to know him better. However, dipping your pen in the company ink is a big risk. The good news is I've got another job to go to! The bad news is, I've only got two weeks left in this job and I'm not sure that's enough time to ~~trick this guy into liking me~~ progress this thing from strangers to maybe sort of dating.\n\nI guess I need advice on how I move forward and get to know him in two weeks, and how to ask him out. I'm not the most confident person out there, where my looks are concerned, and I don't have time to win him over with witty social commentary and baked goods.\n\nSo far, all I know about him is that he likes Game of Thrones, and he smokes. My strategy so far is to take smoke breaks when I see him go out. Is that going to come across as desperate and stalkerish, or is that okay?\nIs there any other way I could accelerate the \"getting to know you\" phase, so it won't be creepy when I ask him to go out for a beer in a week?\n\nThis is ridiculous, I know. But I need advice on how to get to know him at work, without appearing like a desperate harpy.", "summary": "Need advice on how to get a guy into my bed"}
{"id": "t3_2jy4mk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having a hard time being friends with possibly psychopathic friend.", "post": "This isn't exactly a romantic situation, but I have a friend who I'm around all the time, and he's not really getting on my nerves, but I just can't interact with him. \n\nHe's probably not a clinical psychopath, and I've never seen him violent, but he always does stuff to control whatever situation he is in. \n\nHe complains about everything, especially the inefficiency of this or that. he always tries to control the situation, and a joke rarely funny to him until he gets to say his hardly amusing remarks.\n\nAlso, I use the word Psychopath because he seems so isolated in whatever he does. \n\nI feel bad pointing out all these things, but they are more or less true. We could just have conflicting values that don't go well together, but I'm posting here because I do want to be friends with him. \n\nOn a side not, I've heard his parents are going through a nasty divorce, and if I've taken anything away from Pygmalion, it is that when love fades, the will to control seeps in. And if his family problems are causing him pain, I want to know even more what I can do to be better friends with him. \n\nPlease forgive if I'm being judgmental.", "summary": "Want to be better friends with isolated/controlling, and possibly psychopathic buddy. "}
{"id": "t3_3crxxm", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My [20/M] friend [20/F] might love me and I don't know what to do about it", "post": "A friend I have known for 2 years has been giving me mixed signals for the past year. I've confronted her about this and she says it is nothing but she keeps making both romantic and sexual comments towards me (which she doesn't do to other people). I later found out that she told mutual friends that she thinks that she is in love with me. I also tried talking to her about this but she said that they must have somehow misunderstood what she said and that she wasn't. Talking to our friends again showed that this couldn't have been the case. \n\nI like her and want to go out with her. We are good friends and I asked her out when we first met (and didn't know each other) but she turned me down. It feels like she wants me to ask again now but she is not willing to talk to me about what she wants from our relationship first or ask me out herself. \n\nI don't want to ruin this friendship by pressing the matter when she doesn't seem to want to talk to me about it. I also don't want to ask her out and potentially change things or get into a relationship where I can't communicate effectively with my partner. I don't understand what she is thinking here so any insights would be greatly appreciated! This is making our friendship difficult for me as I don't know what the boundaries are or what she wants from me.", "summary": "Friend tells other friends that she loves me but tells me she doesn't. I want to go out with or stay friends with her but I don't know how to proceed or talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_2w3vn9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by moaning at the gym (true story)", "post": "this TIFU is true, I swear. but it didnt happen today.\n\nI go to gym twice a week. I do a warm up and then circle training. \n\nLast week I had put a new playlist on my ipod. Which was good because the gym radio was playing some rather slow songs. I turned up the volume and pedaled away on my stationary bike, listening to Rihanna or something. \n\nAs I switched over to the circle I heard a group of women talking rather loud about another woman who wasnt there. Since I didnt want to hear that stupid gossip I turned my ipod up even more, listening to Queen or whatever.\n\nOne of my favorite songs came up as I reached the 3rd machine. I felt great and pushed myself to go harder, do more repeats and quickly switched to the next machine. \n\nI noticed an older wonan who looked at me with a smirk. Didnt think much of it, kept going at it and hit the repeat button. \n\nWhile working out on the next machine I saw a guy checking me out through the mirrors. Still didnt get it, guys gotta be guys, right?\n\nI had put some more weight on the last machine in the circle. So I had to strain to get my set done. The song ended and right as I saw two more guys staring at me I heard myself go \"mhmmmmm\". \n\nNot the grunting that some men do while working out, no. I had obviously made these little noises the whole time.\n\nI turned bright red and fled the scene.", "summary": "music too loud, "}
{"id": "t3_3qd1gy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Truly Sorry", "post": "So 3 years ago, this( was a thing I got to participate in 'unknowingly'.  I just saw what it was and not what it meant so silly me wanted to 'help'.  Eventually I got asked what it was by a co-worker, and I easily got the 'idiot card' out of the deal.  Best part of it all was when someone else explains it to them and your sitting right there, yet still have no ideal what they are explaining(or at least thats what it felt like when remembering it the way it went).  Eventually the phenomenon started to creep me out seeing so many friends on the same train and still no ideal why?  Finally after all the stress I was going through in real life I decided to unfriend everyone and delete account as best choice.  I lost/gave up so many friends over one picture.  Here's hoping joining the party late is better than never.", "summary": "changed my profile pic and watched me self implode my account in paranoia and wanted to say sorry for doing so."}
{"id": "t3_hztd4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Purchased some e-readers, iPods from CL, one of which comes up \"blacklisted: stolen\". Advice on how to glean info about the owner?", "post": "Found some electronics at a very good price (i.e. not \"too good to be true\", but cheaper than average) on my local Craigslist. The transaction was fairly innocuous: met in daylight at a shopping plaza, and all items were turned on to show that they weren't broken. \n\nHowever, when we tried to connect the Kindle, it refused to register. A quick call to Amazon determined that the serial # in question was blacklisted as lost/stolen. The seller had stated that the device was de-registered and wiped, so it was *possible* that it had been accidentally blacklisted as part of that transaction.\n\nI called the seller back, but all I was able to say was \"hello, I purchased some electronics from you yesterday evening--\" before the call was ended by the other party. Subsequent calls rang, but were never picked up.\n\nSo at this point, I can't *prove* the Kindle was stolen, but there's a fair bit of suspicious action from the seller's part. I sent a quick \"please explain the blacklisting\" text, but I expect the next major step will be giving the local police a heads up. I still have the Craigslist posting ID and a print out of the ad, so if they cared to, they could subpoena the blahblahblahblah, but that's not my decision.\n\nIn the meantime, I've googled the mobile number and it's not coming up with much info--it's a common local area code, and I'm pretty sure I know which carrier it is, but unless I want to impersonate the account holder, I don't know how to get more info.\n\nI'm also running some freeware file recovery software on the devices as best I can. I'm not sure what forensic analysis I can do on wiped devices, but perhaps Reddit has some ideas?", "summary": "purchased a Kindle + some other electronics that *may* have been stolen. Looking to recover info about the owner from the Kindle, ipods, or the mobile number."}
{"id": "t3_4qnaxe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] accidentally saw some nude pictures of my gf [21 F] on her phone that she did not send to me", "post": "Some background: we've been dating for three years, we live together. I love her, I believe she loves me, but our sex life is gone.\n\nLately she has been very private about her phone, texting to some guys I don't know. If I ask about, it's just some old friend and I leave it there as I don't want to seem jealous and crazy. One time I happened to glance over my girlfriends shoulder when she was on her phone. She had the gallery open and I saw some pictures with her naked in provocative poses. This happened while she was texting with some guy I don't know (and old friend she tells me) who I saw send her an almost-nude-dickpick (underwear on but shape still very visible). \n\nI confronted her about it and she started crying. She said that was not meant for her, the guy was drunk and she already (supposedly) had to told him to not to that anymore. But the nude selfies I saw on her phone were not meant for me. She's never in our three years together sent me a nude pic. She told me that the pictures were for herself, she has low self-esteem and likes to take pictures of her body when she feels good about herself. I really want to believe her, but just can't.\n\nTo add to all this, our sex life is non-existent. We've talked about it on a few occasions and she claims she doesn't want anyone else, and it kills her that she doesn't want me either. I want to believe that she is not cheating on me, just sexting at worst.\n\nI tried talking about it when I saw those things, she kept very defensive, apologized and told me she hasn't sent any pics of herself to anyone. I asked if I could check her phone but she wouldn't let me. Is it completely wrong for me to try and look through her conversations or picture albums on the phone? I feel really bad about doing it because I don't want to be that crazy jealous guy. What kind of an approach should I take?", "summary": "gf has nude pics on her phone. I suspect she's sexting with other guys but I can't prove it."}
{"id": "t3_3gq2ol", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Threatened guy who was harassing my gf. What are my options?", "post": "Canada btw\n\nBasically, 2 years ago (before I was with gf), this guy impersonated someone my gf was seeing at the time using a texting app and got her to send a nude photo of her. He knew both of them so he's not a complete stranger (identity still unknown though). A couple days ago a number messages my gf's friends phone asking for nudes, my gfs #, and my gfs nudes. I text it and manage to convince him it's my gf and he says he has a nude of me. I manage to convince him to send it to prove it was him, and sure enough it was. So now he's trying to get another picture out of my gf. Normally, I'd probably go to the police right now (after calming down a bit), but in my fit of anger, I told the guy to watch his back etc so im wondering /r/legaladvice, will I go down with him if I threatened him, even though he was (sexually?) harassing  my gf and her friend?", "summary": "gf send nudes to stranger impersonating someone 2 years ago. Strangers back for more, I threaten his ass, now I want to narc on his dumb ass."}
{"id": "t3_25nmh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my FWB [24 F] 2 months, I like here but I don't know if I should just I end it?", "post": "So I met this girl at a bar a while back and she is fantastic. In all reality the only reason we met was because we were both looking for a hookup... she was out with a friend both were looking for a hookup. I ended up going with both of them to there hotel. We promptly engaged in the best drunk 3some I've ever had, the next morning I only got one of their numbers and I am glad I did. For the past couple weekends I just go out with this girl to breakfast and dinner, shows, movies and often spend the night at her place. We have even just spent the day watching movies together. We have the exact same interests, same taste in music, same hobbies and can just talk for hours together and we text all day. There are some issues not with our relationship but with her, I don't feel like it would be good to get serious as I want a family someday and that wouldn't work. When I'm with her I never want to leave but when I'm away from her I don't feel like going back. She is a great friend and if I was older, and wasn't moving I think I would actually date her but I know it wouldn't work. Should I end it so I can get over it before I move or just enjoy our time together even though our relationship will drastically change when I move?", "summary": "Keep her around and be sad when I move or get it out of the way?"}
{"id": "t3_27tdd9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Conclusion: Im [21 M] with my SO [19 F] of a few months, trying to cope in a long distance relationship", "post": "I posted yesterday, I was losing my mind trying to figure out if I should express my feelings for her or not as I didnt want to burden her (she said she loved me but wasnt sure how she felt about us in a relationship anymore). Anyways.. I told her how I truly loved her and I dont want to love or even go out with any girl but her and that seeing her with other people in a romantic way would crush me. I hoped that would at least merit some response, maybe she would acknowledge that she cares for me and is still jealous for me.\n\nInstead, she ignored my words and simply stated that she cant be tied to anything and be happy, at this point. She said maybe that will change for her and she hopes it does. I was told it isn't fair to either of us to be in a relationship where one of us is unhappy. And that makes sense to me, I just failed to realize she was unhappy with me.\n\nUsually this would drive me up the wall. My normal response would be to start crying, feel hurt and disregarded, and then start yelling at everything while punching my punching bag. I mean, my love was rejected.. worse, it wasn't acknowledged. But now, as I type this, I just am. I dont feel good or bad. I've said all I can to her and she knows exactly how I feel. \n\nThere is not point in caring anymore; it either will or it wont work out for us. I realize that pleading and hoping is futile. She doesn't know what she wants and it is now apparent she won't trouble herself with my cares. I feel like this should hurt but I dont feel anything about it right now. I just feel a little bit sleepy. I feel like my body is numb. \n\nIs this the normal response from what should be heartbreak?", "summary": "I told the girl I've been in a relationship with that I can love no one but her and I was told she couldn't be happy if she was with me or anyone. How should I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_m5dsr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need your help reddit, what car suggestions do you have?", "post": "Last week, I was involved in a car accident which cause significant damage, resulting in a total loss. :( I need your help and suggestions. I have only driven Honda's, so I am unfamiliar what the true other possibilities are. I do live in the US.\n\nI have to start looking for a new car soon because my rental will probably be taken away from me in a week or so. I live in an apartment, so electric cars are out of the question. I need a car that is fuel efficient because I drive 30 miles to and from work everyday. I prefer a 4-Door compared to a coupe because I normally put things in my back seat. I also do not need the navigation, touch screen, fancy things. Please help me with suggestions.", "summary": "Car accident, total loss...need car suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_36b3ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my ? [33 M] 1 yr, I don't know what we are, but I want out", "post": "Co-worker goes through finding out about his long-term girlfriend (and mother of 2 children) and confides in me. Not long after we began a sexual relationship.\n\nFast forward a few months and he leaves for a new job. We continue seeing one another, but timing is difficult. I saw him offering butt massages to another girl on facebook, but never addressed it with him. \n\nOver the next few months we continue to see one another when we can until he quits his new job. He wound up coming back to his old job, where we met, and things were more or less the same.\n\nThroughout our time together, I haven't ever been \"satisfied.\" He doesn't know this and if he did it would crush his ego. There have been more than a few times where he has offhanded-ly said things that hurt me and the age difference makes me feel like he looks at me as a child.\n\nHe has said more than once he wishes I could be his gf and has even said he loved me. I don't know that I feel as strongly as he does (see previous) and I don't think I want to keep whatever this is going. I'm looking for an exit that won't make working together uncomfortable.", "summary": "not happy, not in a relationship, want out bad"}
{"id": "t3_2jlhhx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "When are cold sores truly no longer contagious?", "post": "Hey Reddit! For the past two weeks, I have had a delightful cold sore on my bottom lip! I went on a hike recently while nearing the end of a cold, and together with the fact that I was also on my period and it appeared. Ugh.\n\nI did everything in my power to get rid of it, but it spread twice in those two weeks so I went to the doctors and got a prescription for them! It worked like magic! I got both pills and the ointment and together they prevented more from possibly surfacing and the new one scabbed over immediately!\n\nNow. I stopped using the medication once the symptoms completely disappeared. They are all scabbed over, nothing cracks or leaks fluid or even hurts! No signs of blisters or fluid at all! I feel the scab will heal in a couple of days. I still take precautions, wash my hands before and after I go to the bathroom...etc..\n\nBuuuuuut I did sort of jump the gun and kiss my boyfriend more than a few times on the lips...Yeah...I was kind of drunk and wasn't thinking. I truly feel like nothing will spread, however I realize how stupid that is...and I am worried about giving it to him. In my experience, people say that cold sores are no longer contagious once they're no longer visible. Is that actually true? Or do they fear people (like me) will also jump the gun and pass on the virus before it's truly non-contagious. What do you think?", "summary": "Kissed my boyfriend when I'm at the very, very end of a healing cold sore. What are the risks of giving it to him when there was no blister or fluid exposed. It's maybe a day or two away from healing over completely (save the lecture, I know I'm stupid.)"}
{"id": "t3_43rxf3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing like a psychopath while getting blood work done", "post": "Obligatory: This didn't happen today, rather last year.\n\nA little backstory: It was second semester of senior year, so I was extremely unmotivated to do my schoolwork and I stayed up late at night and played video games. Instead of sleeping at night, I would sleep in some of my classes during the day. My Mom happened to work at my high school and when the teachers noticed me sleeping a lot, they of course told my mother. So when my mother asked me why I was tired, I of course didn't tell her the real reason. I simply said, \"I'm not sure.\" She then took it upon herself to take me to go see a doctor (she thought I had mono). The doctor couldn't see anything wrong with me (because there wasn't anything wrong with me), so he simply suggested I get blood work done just to be safe.\n\nNow, the fun part. I had never had blood work done before, so I didn't know what to expect. I have a nervous habit of laughing when I'm in uncomfortable/unknown situations. We arrive at the hospital and sit in the waiting room for a bit, my anxiety slowly building. They finally call me in, and I sit down. Another weird thing that I do (that I can't really explain) is laugh when I experience physical pain. Unless it is excruciatingly painful, I will usually laugh at whatever the pain is. This time being no different, I start laughing when the Nurse puts the needle in my arm. The combination of nervous laughter and my pain laughter made the nurse give me a quick look of confusion/what the fuck is wrong with this kid. Realizing that I probably look like a psychopath to this nurse made me laugh even harder, to the point where I am almost losing my breath from laughing so hard.\n\nNeedless to say it was pretty awkward once I finished having my blood taken.", "summary": "Mom thought I was sick, took me to get blood work done. When they took my blood I started laughing hysterically and the Nurse probably thought I was a psychopath."}
{"id": "t3_42sttp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] and my now ex [30M] dated for 7 months. When we had the break up chat...he left things kind of open ended.", "post": "When we broke up, it was a pretty much mutual agreement that it wouldn't work with his current mindset. He took a lot of things for granted in the relationship which he admits. Sadly that realization can't be applied right now to help fix anything since the negativity can't be erased just like that. As we were talking it seemed as if we were going for just a straight break up but as he was talking more he said things like you never know what could happen in the future etc. At one point he even stated these lessons would hopefully help him be better for next time. I responded by saying too bad next time wasn't me as in too bad he didn't learn these things before dating me.  He responded again saying you never know but that we shouldn't go forward with the mindset that we will definitely get back together because that's not healthy. We plan to get back in touch once some time passes. He requires more time so it's on him to re-establish the connection. \n\nI'm just a bit confused on things here. At the time I was just happy we didn't decide to completely cut one another out. However, looking back on the conversation, it makes me question if this is a break or a break up. It seems like it was left in some weird sort of state between the two. I don't like not knowing the true intent.  It's either a break and we evaluate things after w/e time or we broke up and he's just saying who knows what the future holds, maybe we'll reconnect or not which isn't a good way to leave things either. I know I left it up to him to reach out next but I question if this is a healthy state to leave things. We never actually said the words break up during this conversation.", "summary": "Ex left question if this was a break or break up. Any advice or comments appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_38nmi0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is my girl[18/f] cheating on me[18/m]?", "post": "We are always texting from morning to night, the only breaks are when we are showering, at school og have other special plans. But she then one night said that she will take a cold bath, because se was horney, we didn't had sex for a while. \n\nI was texting her what she was doing, but she didn't answer. 2 hours later she texted back and said sorry for letting me wait. i asked her why it took so long and she replied she had to shave and that she was dancing around. But she was also home alone and its here i where i became suspicious.\n\nNormally it only takes 30 minutes for her to take a hot bath. She normally texts me back right after she's done and while she is take cloths on and doing other stuff.\n\nJust to mention it, the year before we got together, she had more than 8 different sex partners, i don't know about the other years, and some of them still call her, even when i'm at her home, but she normally replies pretty cold, but anyways, she is still trying to keep the contact. So do you think se was cheating that evening? I really don't know what to think.", "summary": "My girl had many sex partners before, some still contact her. We didn't had sex for a while. She was horney and home alone, therefore she took a \"2 hour long cold shower\", Normally she is texting right after she is done, but i didn't heard a word from her. Is she cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_u8981", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I 24m distance myself from a friend 24f?", "post": "I am a 24 year old male who has a close female friend also 24. We are great friends and have been since freshmen year of college about 6 years ago. \n\nMy problem is this, when we first met we dated for about a month. Nothing got very serious we never had sex and we both realized that we were better friends than a couple. We have remained good friends for years with the occasional ups and downs that seem to happen in all of my friendships. However one thing has always been true during this. No matter how or where I met any girlfriend of mine during that time period at some point they got jealous of our friendship and how close we are. Until recently I always thought that it was a normal friendship and that my girlfriends were being overly jealous. \n\nI have recently come to realize that they are right and that this friendship is a constant source of discontent with anyone I try to get close to. It is currently keeping a girl I have been in love with for over a year from dating me because she feels like she will always be jealous of my friend. On the other side of things both myself and my friend are getting tired of people assuming we are in a relationship. I am really tired of being alone and this relationship is one of the biggest hurdles I have to overcome anytime I try to fix that. \n\nMy question is how do I distance myself from her without being a complete asshole. Also how do I make it obvious to the girl that I am currently trying to date that she has nothing to worry about? Thanks for any help you guys can give.", "summary": "As a guy I have a close female friend who makes all other female friends jealous and ruins my relationships including one I am currently trying to develop. How do I fix that without being a dick?"}
{"id": "t3_ijetv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found out I'm a bad person through an instance of instant karma. Any other 'I'm not a good person' stories?", "post": "I'm out running errands for my boss. I go to a courthouse and start walking toward the entrance that is on a bit of an incline. In the parking lot I notice this older feeble looking woman with one foot using a [self-push walker] So she is slowly pushing herself backwards up this inclined sidewalk to the courthouse all while smoking a cigarette.\nEasily top 5 saddest act I've seen; lets review\n\n* older woman\n* feeble looking\n* one foot\n* pushing herself backward with foot\n* while lighting a smoke\n\nI should have offered to help push her up the walkway. Almost immediately as I decide she's probably fine one of her walker wheels goes off the sidewalk and she topples to the ground. Another person and I rush to assist her back into her walker and I just feel her elbow/arm cracking as I help.\n\nDidn't even need to happen had I done something kind unprovoked instead of just reacting after something bad had happened.", "summary": "Watched a woman in a wheel chair fall after opting not to help her."}
{"id": "t3_2uqoub", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by googling carpal tunnel for my patient.", "post": "This happened just thirty minutes ago. I'm in my morning clinic at my surgery seeing patients (i'm a general practioner in the UK), and this lady comes in with hand numbness and after checking her hand out I conclude it's carpal tunnel syndrome.\n\nSo to better explain the anatomy and how to manage it I Google image 'carpal tunnel' and click on an image, turn the monitor around for her to see and because the image is a bit too small i click on it again and go to the website...\n\nThis my friends is where I made the mistake as this is the first thing she saw as i scrolled down to the image.(NSFW most likely....certainly not mine)\n\nWe looked at each other and I figured the best course of action was to hit the back button and keep talking like it never ever happened.", "summary": "Tried to show my patient what the carpal tunnel is, instead showed her hentai."}
{"id": "t3_30fezb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girl[20] of 2 years thinks its unfair that we both have Relationship rules[21m]", "post": "Basically im a pretty chill guy. I dont mind a lot of things and i think jealousy and envy is petty. So i never have a problem with other guys. \n\nBUT my gf, has a problem with girls.\n\nExamples of what she is allowed to do. But i cant do vice versa.\n\nShe can get kissed by a model guy on the cheek for a photoshoot.\n\nShe talks about cute guys with her friends in front of me.\n\nShe can bring a guy i never met, alone to her house.\n\nShe can have 'cute' male friends\n\nMost of the other stuff is much like this.\n\nI dont mind it her doing it..but it seems like im not getting the same respect for the rules when it comes to her.\n\nI proposed a plan to her.\n\nLets both follow rules, or just be free.\n\nShe says either way she loses..", "summary": "She wants me to be restricted with rules but free herself."}
{"id": "t3_1a5kdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23m] have feelings for my best friends sister [28f]", "post": "I have been friends with my best friend for 20 years and I am really close with the whole family. For about 3 or 4 years his older sister and I have gotten really close. She is one of my closest friends. It all started when she broke up with her boyfriend and came to me for comfort and I was there for support. Ever since the first talk we had when she asked me \"why cant all guys be like you?\" and looked up at me with her gorgeous eyes I knew i had feelings for her. I was still dating someone at the time and i had almost felt like i had cheated on my GF i had at the time. Now i have been single for a year and I can only think about this girl. I don't know how to approach this with my best friend. I'm almost positive the whole family would be excited about this news but honestly I am so afraid of ruining any of the relationships I have with all of them. I have even talked to her best friend about my feelings and her friend basically told me that she feels the same way about me. I don't even know what I'm asking at this point i just need some other opinions.Please help", "summary": "I'm in love with my best friends sister"}
{"id": "t3_u3uk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is love, really? I'm on a quest to find out. I need your help.", "post": "I'm on a mission to find what love really is. What being in love, and the relationship between love and our lives is. We've got limited amount of time (maybe 80 years) and energy (only a tolerable amount of bad experiences) to pursue love, so what is a person to do with it? How do you know if you can commit? What signs can a person read to recognize if a person is right *enough* for you or not?\n\n**Personal Context**: I'm a 23yr old male, currently single but with a few previous long relationships. These past months I've been thinking about this, especially because a friend of mine is enduring this quest without realizing it. She broke up with her boyfriend and got back together with him, but she know that she doesn't *really* love him. She's fine with him, he's a nice kid, she's optimistic about him - but I think she's not in control. She's letting the other guy take the wheel and drive (the other guy knows how to get philosophical and smart, giving new perspectives), and I think that ain't right.\n\nOr is it? How much love does there need to be to justify intimacy and trust? How do you know if it is enough? Is it just there, from the beginning, without even noticing? Can it grow from where it isn't before? Is it something you recognize, or something you *feel*?\n\nHow deep really is love hidden? Is it something you find in the relationship, or is it something that the relationship finds in you? In how you have become? In how you feel, who you are, and all of that?\n\n**But beware**: I'm on a quest on figuring this stuff out. *Anything* you can tell me helps. From advise to my friend, to further context, to psychological input, videos, cultural references -- *anything*. Thank you so much for your help, reddit!", "summary": "Help me figure out the best general practice on how the whole topic of love should be handled by each and every one of us for our lives."}
{"id": "t3_3nbqv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20M] unsure of how to start a \"real\" relationship with someone [20F] I'm very interested in", "post": "The last relationship I was in ended badly. It lasted about 1.5 years, we talked *a lot* about proposing, living together, etc. we had a pregnancy scare and stuck through it, all that good fun. It's been another good 1.5 years since then, as it sort of broke me romantically and emotionally. I had to end it after she literally screamed at me for being too nice (for offering to forgo lunch to do what she wanted to do) obviously after a few other things that made me painfully unhappy. \n\nNow, I've met someone who I can't get out of my head. She's somehow my legitimate dream girl, and I actually can't get her out of my head... But I haven't even thought of asking anyone out since I was in high school. \n\nI'm like 85% sure she would say yes if I were to ask her out. We've been hanging out a lot lately, texting daily, I've met her daughter (not a problem for me), she's driven like an hour just to come hang out (living in the mountains, she lives near the city), and she \"gets\" me. Like she recognized by how I sigh when I get off the phone whether it was a good or bad conversation, things like that.\n\nI sent her flowers for her birthday, and she didn't realize they were from me at first. When she figured it out she said there wasn't anyone else that would do that for her, said she couldn't stop smiling, thanked me like 14 times, etc.\n\nAgain, so I'm pretty sure. But how does one \"date\" someone? We've hung out, gone out for dinner, stargazed, but I didn't push for or pull anything, we just had a good time.\n\nI was planning on saying \"do you want to go on a date sometime maybe?\" in sign to her (she's studying to be an interpreter, and has been teaching me a bit) but is that, like the right thing to do? Should I just wait and see what happens? \n\nAm confused...", "summary": "known for a few months, very interested, pretty sure she would be receptive, but I have no idea how to start a relationship due to be \"emotionally broken\" in the past, and not even trying to ~2 years."}
{"id": "t3_408830", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By congratulating my friend's cousin for marrying a doctor, and then making her cry.", "post": "This happened 15 minutes ago. I went through my Instagram and saw a friend of mine posted a pic of her cousins wedding. My friends cousin was sitting in a couch with her new husband and he looked like a very successful guy. He had great build and good features along with. I usually write random comments on this friend's posts so I quickly wrote \"OMG congrats, I'm so happy to see she married a doctor\". My friend replies \"Your annoyance has gone to a whole new level\". I messaged her later apologizing for the joke but she got super pissed. Turns out, the groom was super poor and my friends cousin fought her family to let her marry him. My friends cousin also read my comment and started crying immediately, according to my friend, who now wants to break our friendship. I just started to ignore the messages and will wait a couple weeks.", "summary": "friends cousin married a simple chap who was nowhere near being a doctor and this made her cry."}
{"id": "t3_1ih1vn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need some insurance advice in Alberta, Canada.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'm currently in a little bit of a war with an insurance company concerning a car accident I was in in the beginning of March. \n\nWhat happened is I was driving down a straight road, their insured pulled out of an alley in front of me causing me to hit the side of his vehicle. Very clearly his fault. \n\nNow the problems arise. We went to the hospital immediately following the accident, was prescribed some light duties and checked out. Was told whiplash likely won't show for a couple days. Which was accurate. During this time I was constantly on the phone with both insurance companies trying to work out a rental(my vehicle was a write off) and figure out medical for me and my girlfriend. \n\nWell, their insurance company refused to accept liability for their insured for about 3 weeks. During this time my insurance company was telling me that they would not cover medical until liability has been determined. At this time I was in no place to be footing any medical bills out of pocket which meant I couldn't do anything until somebody for their shit together. \n\nFinally, 3 weeks later I get some sort of good news. His insurance would push the claim through as a \"non prejudice\" claim but they wouldn't cover the cost of my rental as that was my choice to rent a vehicle, wtf? That bill was now at $780. I now go to the bank, get a loan and buy a vehicle, pay the car rental off out of pocket. Then tore a strip off a number of people there, used some common sense bombs on them and was able to get my rental payment reimbursed. \n\nNow, finally, they have decided to settle the medical side of things. They offered EXTREMELY low. $750 and $1100 for over a month of pain. Their reasoning? Our treatment plans were short and in my case non existent. The reasoning for that though is that nobody was willing to cover my bills until this ridiculous company took liability.", "summary": "insurance company took a really long time to cover my medical. By that time I was already feeling mostly better so medical treatment was minimal. Now they're trying to screw me on the settlement. "}
{"id": "t3_uqn8j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How much do you value the looks of your partner, and has it lead to a breakup even though you were having a great thing?", "post": "I've been in multiple relationships in the past that I eventually terminated because I felt unsatisfied with the 'looks' of the women, even though I am not the kind of guy that goes for sex/making out and such, and appreciates gaming nights, movies and lunches. I don't know what is the thing about it, and I wanted to know if any of you went through same situations. Most of the girls were actually pretty good looking, and it was always the littlest of things that started to become a problem.\n\nI never really admitted that it had to do anything with the breakups, but the fact it became a problem made it easier to find things I dislike, or we both disliked, leading to a separation, and I still regret those.\nI just want to find a way to make myself let go and be happy with it. What are your thoughts, reddit?", "summary": "I end good relationships because I find a physical thing about my partners that I dislike"}
{"id": "t3_1bvwyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [24] and I [23] of 5 months are having problems and idk what to do...I feel like I'm losing a girl I've completely fallen in love with.", "post": "Been together for 5 months and after about 3 months I basically moved in with her. Not officially but slept over pretty much every night for the past 2 months and only going home once a week. She loved me a lot and would kiss me too much but it was fine. I could handle it. But the past two weeks she's been acting different.  Seemed to me like she wasn't really acknowledging my presence. Had to ask for a hug and kiss and she would sigh like it was inconvenient. I've asked what's wrong and she would say she doesn't know.  She just needs time and space.  So for a week I pondered on that and gave her space. Now two days ago she goes out after work with friends and doesn't tell me. She didn't get home til 6am. So I was really upset but I let it go til we woke up and she said she doesn't know what's going on. She still loves me but needs space. So I told her I'd move the few things I had there (tv clothes food) back home. She said whatever at first but then I explained idk what to do and She seemd okay with it. It was sad and we were both upset..I didn't wanna move home but I feel it was needed. Idk how this is gunna work out.  I may be over reacting? But I feel like I'm gunna lose her over this. We've been texting a little bit but haven't talked much. Stopped by to drop something off and didn't get a hug or a kiss or anything.  Just a hi thanks and bye. Idk What to do reddit.. :(", "summary": "shes been acting different lately so imoved home after staying at my gfs for 2 months. Feel like I'm losing her."}
{"id": "t3_4m8ie5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26m) need some advice to understand and overcome financial barrier between me and my gf (f23) who makes more money than I do.", "post": "So we have been dating for over a year now and everything has been great so far.  We get along very well and always enjoy doing things together.  I would definitely like to make this relationship long term and hopefully something even more. Also, we do not currently live together,  but do plan on it in the very near future. \n\nI am currently a college graduate with student debt and struggling to pay bills as I am currently employed social worker. She is in nursing school and bar tends and makes way more money than I do. She is also expected to make more money as a nurse than my current income. \n\nThe only problem that I foresee with our relationship is the current gap between our incomes.  She likes to spend money and frequently buys things that I would personally consider frivolous.   I completely understand that we are only just currently dating and she is more than welcome to spend her money as she wishes. \n\nIt's just that it is a little frustrating to me when I can barely afford rent and bills and I see that she is able to buy jewelry and name brand clothes and accessories often. \n\nI don't want to be resentful at all. And I don't want to be a financial burden either. I really do try to not let it bother me. \nAm I wrong to feel this way? Any advice for how I can adjust to this?", "summary": "Gf is able to spend money freely while I struggle with income.  Help me to not let it be an issue,  please.   Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_1tcvjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21f] BF's [24m] rich parents [60s] invited me on vacation with them in the spring. Who should pay?", "post": "So his parents are extremely wealthy, and their vacations tend to be extravagant. This is a graduation gift for my boyfriend from his parents, but they want to pay for me too. Not sure how I feel about it. \n\nI make enough money that I technically COULD afford to pay for myself, and I want to, but I'm not sure if it's the best idea. I am not 100% comfortable with them paying for me to come along though, because their vacations tend to be extravagant and extremely expensive. They can afford to take me, but I kind of feel bad about it, since they paid for me to go on vacation with them last year too, while I was in school. BF's parents refuse to allow BF to pay for me as this trip is his gift from them. So, I'm really at a loss.", "summary": "My boyfriends parents want me to come on a vacation they will pay for. Having trouble being okay with not paying anything."}
{"id": "t3_19aom3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28M Wants to Break up with 18F because of distrust", "post": "My Girlfriend and me have dated for about three months. We seem to be in love but lately i just haven't felt like i love her anymore. But i definitely haven't flirted with any other girls, Today she cried (She Never Cries) about how she didn't know if she could trust me wish other girls around and how i don't talk to her when other girls are around who are just my friends and nothing more. she has just been very clingy and i don't know what to do if this is a good reason to break up with a girl or not.", "summary": "Girlfriend not trusting and clingy should i dump her I am 24 not 28 By the way"}
{"id": "t3_15i24b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How much in the wrong am I? (22m, 19f)", "post": "I've (22m) been friends with \"M\" (19f) since June and we have been \"dating\" since September. She told me when we started to be more romantic she **did not want a relationship**. We've always been careful with regards to protection and things are good. She was my first and I was effectively her first. I really love the relationship we are in and while its not maybe as committed as most, its good and its helped me increase my self-confidence and I've learned a lot. We have never said we were exclusive and I've actually assumed she was messing around on me, probably not fucking others but probably being unfaithful. Which at first was kind of tough for me, but I've made my peace. \n\nSeeing as we weren't in a committed relationship, I did fool around a bit. I went on a few dates in November with a coworker (23f) and we messed around, but never had sex. There was also a on/off thing with a family friend (16f) that has been going on all throughout but again no sex. Also a one night stand with someone in our mutual friend group. This was last week and it got to \"M\" and she is PISSED at me. \n\nI realize I've probably made some poor decisions, but I don't think I've actually done anything that even borders on cheating. She was the one who said she didn't want a relationship. She is the one who is uncomfortable when I'm overly romantic. So I don't get it. Basically, she has been acting as if I cheated on her.... and she doesn't know about the other two situations. I'm totally confused as to what to do. \n\nI've apologized for the ONS and it didn't mean anything. I haven't turned it on her and asked what she has done, and I strongly suspect she hasn't been little miss faithful herself. Do I just break it all off? Do I give her total honesty about everything?", "summary": "Messed around on my friend who I've been seeing for a few months (but not exclusively). She found out I slept with someone else and is mad and I don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_dx0xe", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So, Glenn Beck is having a book signing at my local mall this Friday and...", "post": "I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas. My sister and I were thinking of going just to have some fun, see who was stupid enough to buy the book & get it signed. I'm not very proud to be living in an area targeted by Beck promotions, and am quite surprised to learn of this as I thought I lived in a fairly blue state (I live in NJ).\nI don't want to be confrontational or anything (so probably asking Beck if he raped and killed a girl in 1990, while it would be awesome, would be a bit more than I would be willing to do in public). BUT since Halloween is coming up too, and I don't have a costume yet, maybe I could show up in a banana suit or a gorilla costume or something. Thoughts?", "summary": "How do I troll the Glenn Beck book signing this Friday at my local mall with my sis?"}
{"id": "t3_1m074b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: by standing too close to a bull.", "post": "So today was the last day of the county fair and me and a few friends decided to give it a go. After walking around for awhile checking out what there is to do we walk through the barn and see the animals. We stopped in front of the bullpen. The head of the bull was over the fence and you could easily touch him. I was leaning against the fence a few feet from the massive head talking to my friend when I got knocked the fuck out. When I came too i couldn't remember what had happened but I could assume what had happened. I got myself checked out and luckily it's just a minor concussion.", "summary": "got knocked the fuck out by a bull at the fair."}
{"id": "t3_yha96", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So last night, I think I heard a voice in my head. What things have happened to you lately that scared the crap out of you?", "post": "Well, last night I attempted to try Lucid dreaming. I laid motionless in my bed as I tried to drift off into what I hoped to be a pleasant experience. As I lay, I was obviously thinking about stuff. My mind slowly hopped from one subject to another, til at one point I was thinking about a sit com, I think. It was in a school, and a teacher was calling the name \"Markus\" over and over again. No idea why he was calling Markus, as that is not my name. Any who, this went on as I slowly drifted into sleep, until I heard an extremely loud utterance of \"Markus!\" from both inside my head and outside.\n\nIt literally sounded like someone in the room yelled it. It scared the crap out of me, but I left my eyes closed. To my understanding, opening your eyes while trying to lucid dream could lead to sleep paralysis, and apparently you can see terrifying things. Instead, I just flipped over so my face was against my pillow, and tried to calm down. Scary.", "summary": "Was trying to dream, heard an audible voice in my room and head, freaked the fuck out. Maybe I'm schizophrenic. "}
{"id": "t3_2odle6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend's [21 F] contractor (40-50M)is flirting heavily with her and seems to be visiting her unwarrentedly.", "post": "I am very used to guys making inappropriate comment and the like about my girlfriend, as she is quite the looker. This situation is making me tad uncomfortable though.\n\nThe heat in her appartment is not functioning. As a part of her contract, she has to use a specific contractor. \n\nOn his first visit, he seemed overly nice. He asked if she wanted to go with him and his daughter to a local tourist attraction, and also inquired for her personal phone number \"just in case\". My girlfriend declined both requests and informed him that she has a boyfriend. \n\nSince then he's been there 3 times. My girlfriend has been uncomfortable every time. She has invited a friend over time, because she didn't want to be alone with him.\n\nYou'd think that 4 times would be sufficient, but nope. Now her apartment is a damn oven. He just informed her that he will be coming over every day for the next 3 days. \n\nShe is bound by the contract, and I have no clue if 8 visits are actually needed to fix the heating system? Should she insist on another contractor?", "summary": "Old man flirts with gf and forces her to keep meeting him."}
{"id": "t3_52pgbs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I be able to 'get mad'?", "post": "I'll keep this super short but feel free to ask any questions. I've never been able to emote well. I feel tremendous emotion inside but it doesn't get translated well, possibly due to introverted tendancies but honestly don't know the psychology behind it. the main emotion that is never shown is anger. I've almost never gotten so worked up about something that I yell or get visibly distraught. \n\nAnyway it's been an issue with numerous girlfriends during our worse moments when I just lock up or grow tired of a conversation, don't adequately communicate but most of all i hear \"I just wish you could get mad.\" Most recent being a girlfriend of 3 years admitted to 'flirting' with someone, not being proud of it, and wanting to tell me about it. She's always been adamant that she loves me, would never cheat on me, could never cheat on anyone but that's off-topic, just felt worth mentioning.\n\nSo is there something I should be doing more of, should I learn to embrace passion and the dark side? I can see how it would be frustrating facing a stone wall of a person but I work on expressing myself honostly. Being mad is just something that's not in me though. Wondering if this is the right place to be asking this but is not being able to get angry a deep-seeded problem, is it a problem in many relationships. Is there something I should look into?\n\nThanks to anyone for advice.", "summary": "can't get mad, frustrates girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_53psrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my gf [26 F] of 4 years, just found out she is cheating", "post": "So I apologize if I'm a little incoherent, this literally happened in the last hour.  I'm sitting in a local coffee shop, and this is an attempt to just write it down and get it all out.\n\nSo I've been living with my gf for the last two years. Dated a few years before that.\n\nNormally, I'm at work from 8-5, and as far as I knew, she had the same.  At this point, I'm thinking I don't want to assume anything.\n\nI had some stuff for work at home that I had to run back to get earlier this afternoon, went up to our apartment.  Once inside, I heard something odd. At this point, I think some part of me knew what I was hearing, but I still just walked closer.  It was the sound of my girlfriend fucking, and the sound of some masculine voice fucking her, near as I could tell. I was basically in a fog at this point, and just walked out.  My boss at work is a really laid back guy, so I told him that something came up, and I was just going to drop off the paperwork.\n\nAnd now I'm here.  Probably looking like psycho, staring at some coffee cup that I'm not going to drink, tapping this out.  I'm not even sure what I'm going to do... I think I should be angry, but I feel like my entire brain has been dropped in ice water. I want to be angry, or sad, or something, but I can't seem to feel anything at all right now.\n\nWhat should I do?  I'm not even sure how I'd confront her at this point.", "summary": "Home from work on an errand, walk in to hear my longterm GF banging some guy.  No other details, currently emotionally dead."}
{"id": "t3_4ozxeg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "F(20) is getting wicked mixed signals from M(20)", "post": "I have liked this guy for 6 months and we have hung out almost every weekend in those 6 months. It is usually in a group(of 5 people) but we hang out when everyone leaves and we also have hung out by ourselves numerous times.\n\nAnyways, he always tells me how glad he is that we are friends and stuff like that.\n\nHowever, when it is just him and I hanging out we are like magnets. He always sits very close to me(closer than what is considered normal) and he always seems to be touching me in some way. Like he will put his arm against mine, lay his head on my lap, just small things like that. \n\nWell on Saturday night we were hanging out and he suggested that I spend the night since it was late and told me he was going to pull out the bed . (Ive spent the night there multiple times and he has never pulled the bed out). Well it ended up with us sleeping in the bed together , but nothing happened . We didn't cuddle or anything but throughout the night we were always touching , whether it was our legs or our arms, or something. \n\nI've brought up my feelings once before , and when I did he didn't really respond and just kind of moved on with the conversation. \n\nNormally I have a pretty good idea if a guy is into me or not , but with him I am constantly confused. \n\nIs there anything I can do or say ? Has anyone been in this situation before? I'm just not sure how to read into this or go about it.", "summary": "like this guy, getting wicked mixed signals from him"}
{"id": "t3_y7tua", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How does a 23 year old single guy save on taxes?", "post": "Some Background:  I graduated from college two years ago and since then have been working in IT Product Management.  I started working at a large public company and recently transitioned to a small start  up in the LA area.  \n\nI making 80k as a salary but I take home around 50K after taxes.    I only have 20K saved (I recently bought a car at an auction for 23k) and am planning to contribute my first 5k in a Vanguard IRA today.  The startup doesn't offer any 401k.  I have absolutely zero debt at this point.\n\nMy Question:\nHow do I save in taxes?  Is a CPA really the only way to go?\n\nFrom what I read on reddit, the \"1%\" that is able to pay 15% in taxes generally does so via capital gains, which I have not been able to make (I lost ~1000 dollars on speculation which turned me off Mr. Market)\n\nMy parents have been really hammering the idea that I should purchase a house and rent out rooms to pay the mortgage.   I just can't see the logic of going into hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of debt and being a slave to my job.", "summary": "23 year old.  80K salary.  How to save on taxes without buying a house/getting married/making babies?"}
{"id": "t3_15audj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a menstrual-fluid-covered toothbrush.", "post": "Being both poor and environmentally conscious, I use a Mooncup instead of sanitary towels or tampons.  \n[This is a Mooncup, lads.]  \nMenstrual blood. Lovely coppery menstrual blood. It needs to be cleaned off the Mooncup. So what have I been using to clean it?  \n  \nA spare toothbrush.  \n  \nYup.  \n   \nNormally it's not a problem. However, I'm staying at my parents' house for a few days and have all my toiletries (toothbrush, mooncup, makeup, brush-with-slightly-red-bristles) in one little bag. I was sleepy, things got mixed up. The toothpaste masked the taste. Seriously, I was brushing for a couple of minutes until I looked in the mirror and realised which toothbrush it was.  \nUgh.\nUgh.\nI chucked the thing right in the bin. I do not want that mix up to happen again. Ever.", "summary": "I need to find something else to clean a mooncup with"}
{"id": "t3_4o2iy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like my (F24) boyfriend (M24) has suddenly changed.", "post": "I (F24) have been with my boyfriend (M24) for three years now. We live together and our relationship was going great up until a few months ago. Out of nowhere he started bringing up old fights and mistakes that I have made and started acting very resentful towards me at times and sweet at other times. He questioned whether or not he wanted to be with me and decided that he did but our relationship has taken a huge step backwards. He used to be extremely committed and would talk about marriage. Now, when I mention the change he says that he is just not sure about me anymore. I am I being strung along? Can someone help me make sense out of this behavior?", "summary": "within the past couple of months my boyfriend has changed his behavior towards me drastically to become more distant."}
{"id": "t3_t2vrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me - I need to hear from people who have tried to fix a marriage after an affair", "post": "I have just found out that my wife has been having an affair.\n\nEven worse, this is not just some physical fling - she is in love with the guy, and \"loves me but is not in love with me\".\n\nHowever she says she is ending it with this guy, and wants to go to counseling with me to try to repair our marriage - to try to fall back in love with me.  We've been together, between dating and marriage, for almost 25 years.  We are both in our mid-40s.  We have small children.   We are best friends.\n\nI'm shocked to find myself seriously considering trying counseling and trying to repair this marriage.  I wish for my wife to fall in love with me again, but how realistic is that?  Am I just engaging in wishful thinking, and will this just painfully drag out our situation?\n\nI need to hear from anyone who has tried to repair a marriage after an affair.  If you managed to stay married, what worked for you?  If not, what are your thoughts?", "summary": "Wife cheated, loves but is not in love with me, is in love with other guy - but wants to end affair / repair marriage.  Need to hear from anyone who tried to heal their marriage after an affair"}
{"id": "t3_4ddi8r", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "debating dropping out of school to work and pay off loans and seriously overdue dental work", "post": "So here's my life story in a nutshell for context. I'm from a poor immigrant family so we were never well off, and my parents really didn't know how to navigate their new country so that led to certain shortcomings for me and my siblings. lack of education and lack of insurance led to my teeth being in bad shape at the tender age of 20. Cavities, crookedness, yellowing, decay from a botched root canal, yeah not the nicest smile. I'm also a second year at UC Santa Barbara and while financial aid covers a good amount of my tuition, I still rely on loans for living off campus and food and stuff, even with a job. I also don't like the school, don't think my major is a smart investment (theater arts, I know, but I was a young naive kid in denial when I came in) and am very self conscious about my teeth especially since so many people out here have perfect pearly whites. I honestly believe being here is doing more harm than good for me in the long run. My anxiety and depression always get worse whenever I'm back here. So right now I'm debating withdrawing, going back home to Riverside county, working to pay off what loans I have and also get the dental care I need. I'm pretty sure my mom can get me a job at a nursery where she works and I've been scoping out fast food places and grocery stores in the area as well. I'm thinking that once I withdraw and work for a bit I can go to a trade school or get an apprenticeship with an electrician or a plumber or something, (jobs in high demand pretty much, programs that are more technical and career focused as opposed to a university setting.)", "summary": "I'm a young broke guy with ugly teeth and loans, from a poor family, school is too expensive and my self esteem has bottomed out. Am I making a smart choice in dropping out from an expensive public university for a cheaper more career based program while also working to pay back the loans and pay for some pretty desperately needed dental work?"}
{"id": "t3_2c7xhq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "(M)So sexually frustrated but don't want to be", "post": "So I'm a 21 year old guy. (pretty stereotypical start considering title)\nI'm pretty sure I'm decent looking, I have good friends, I feel pretty comfortable in most social situations but I have nothing going on for me physically at ALL. \nThis is partly by choice as I'm in a weird stage. I don't want a real relationship nor do I think I'm ready to sustain one, but I've had bad experiences with situations like friends with benefits. I don't want to go to bars and objectify girls and do one night stands, morally that doesn't really feel right to me. Nor is it that satisfying, I guess. (seems more appealing every day). \nI'm not a huge fan of pornography, and it seems to be a crutch for me lately. Like a weird ineffective and addicting antidote to loneliness. \nSo I'm stuck in this stupid frustrating area of no sex and very little physical contact, but craving it SO MUCH, ALL THE TIME. \nI don't know what to do.", "summary": "Wanting some sort of physical/sexual relationship but frightened of ideas like FWB"}
{"id": "t3_1i5000", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] him [19m] I thought i was ok but now its catching up to me, HELP!", "post": "we were together for over a year and a half and honestly we had the most perfect relationship. It was getting a little weird towards the end, he started smoking weed a lot which in the beginning i was ok with but it was getting to a point where he wouldnt come out with me. I know I should of been more understanding. We had alot of little issues that somehow ended up becoming one huge argument. To be honest it felt like he left me for weed.  He never use to do it but it ultimately it caused issues in our relationship. He had changed as a person. Anyway we broke up around a month ago and i handled it pretty well. But now im beginning to hurt and i dont want it to. I feel like I need him to miss me? if that makes sense..  Every time someone mentions his name or anything regarding him i feel sick. And for some reason i just cant seem to shake the feeling that it wasn't our time to end. I felt like we were meant for each other and i'm not sure if i'll find another person who shares the same interests and values as me. I miss his cats. It makes it harder because hes friends with all my guy friends that i hang out with at school.", "summary": "Is is normal to hurt later? Is it normal to feel sick anything regarding him and memories? and is it also normal to still think you belonged with the person? How can i tell if hes hurting? "}
{"id": "t3_498xhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my girlfriend [24F] of six months, found out she's been cutting. What do I do?", "post": "She has had serious problems with cutting previously and this is clearly a relapse which she's been hiding from me. I can't tell exactly how old the cuts are from the quick glance I took but probably 1 week. On her right hip. She has not engaged in self harm since we started seeing each other 6 months ago. The cuts are just surface, not severe. However, I am extremely concerned and I need to address this with her today, ASAP. \n\nShe clearly doesn't want to admit or talk about what happened. When I asked initially she said, \"I don't know, must have bumped into something.\" I know she's lying. How do I approach her constructively here?", "summary": "girlfriend is cutting, need advice on how to talk to her about it since she doesn't want to and seems closed off."}
{"id": "t3_24ni21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M], my mom [50something] and my dad [50something]. Graduation ceremony trouble!", "post": "To start off my mom and dad divorced when I was very young. I grew up without my dad, but visited him regularly at first, nowadays not so much because he lives very far away. \n\nSo, I'm graduating very soon and my dad asked if I would like for him to go, and I said sure why not? He went to my HS graduation and that wasn't really a problem. \n\nMy Mom basically told me that she doesn't think he deserves to be there because he hardly contributed to my education, unlike my mother and my grandparents (on her side), which is true. \n\nSince I started college my communication with my dad has dwindled, I havent actually seen him in a few years and I talk to him very infrequently, maybe once every 3 or 4 months. Now, hes not a bad person per se, just not as involved as I would like him to be. \n\nMy mom basically told me that if I allow him to go, that she'll be very upset and feel as though I value him over her and my family. I reassured her I dont and that I consider my moms side of the family as my actual family.  I informed her that she doesn't have to see him or talk to him, and that he would not go to any family events afterwards. She reluctantly agreed to that but still heavily implied that she would just rather him not be there at all. \n\nHe would only fly in for the day to see the ceremony, and leave the following morning. I told my mom that I would just say hi, he would congratulate me and that would be it. \n\nI talked to my dad about it and he said that he would talk to my mom to figure something out, I also informed him that he didnt need to come because this ceremony is really not that huge of a deal for me. The only thing I'm worried about is that they dont really \"communicate\" well, as you could imagine. And I'm afraid that the backlash will hit me hard.\n\nI just want to make everyone happy, but this situation has got me in between two people that really don't like each other. Any advice would help. Thanks.", "summary": "Mom doesnt want my Dad at graduation, I feel like I'm caught in the middle, What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_rgqc2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The work distribution in my family is lopsided, how do I fix this?", "post": "I posted this in /r/relationships, but that subreddit isn't large (it is a good size though), so I thought I'd post this here too just to get as much input as possible :/.\n\nI'm 24 and my hubby is 25. We've been married for 4 years, together for 7. We have a 22 month old, 10 month old, and kids number 3 and 4 on the way. He and I have always wanted a big family and we're in an okay position financially, so it seems like everything should be perfect.\n\nBut it's not. He is contributing a lot more of his time and efforts, and sacrificing more than me. I feel really bad about it. He's working 50-60 hours a week and still pulling his own around the house. He's given up pretty much all of his hobbies due to time constraints, too. All while I sit around all day and do nothing.\n\nIs there anything I can do? I tried to do more around the house, but he wouldn't let me. I'd be cleaning or something and he'd make me go lay down and do it himself :|.", "summary": "I'm taking advantage of my husband. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_513w8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] fucked up big time. I forgot to feed my nephew [3M] he tried to get food himself and he hurt himself. His mother/my sister [25F] is furious", "post": "My sister is a single mother and she is a model/fashion designer. She is really successful. She had a work emergency and she had no one to look after he son, so I said I would do it. \n\nI was playing video games and he told me he was hungry. I was online and you can't pause. He walked off and about an hour later I heard him crying. He fell off the chair he was on while trying to and reach the fruit. He hurt his ankle and he has a bruise on it now\n\nMy sister yelled at me, called me every name in the book. She told me to fucking watch a three year old at all times and I am lucky she does not shove the controller up my ass. \n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "sister is angry"}
{"id": "t3_4cee9f", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "University of Canberra - plagiarism policy", "post": "Hey Fellow Human,\nI'm in need of assistance, you see my university is claiming that I copied my roommates essay because one of our tables used where similar, we argued that the data inputted was that given to us by our professor as mandatory materials, because my roommate had the where with all to add an axtrix explaining this in his assessment comments section he was found innocent of plagiarism while the uni found me guilty of copying him. I have 3 days to write a letter of appeal what should i say?", "summary": "Uni trying to fail me for plagiarism I didn't commit "}
{"id": "t3_1rcnu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] in love with my best friend [19F] feelings reciprocated, where do i go?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nNot really sure how i express feelings in a wall of text, but here goes. I have had really strong feelings for my best friend for about 3 months, of which she was in a relationship for the first month. We shall call her 'Lucy' \n\nSo Lucy and i have been best friends since we started high school, 11 years old. She has BPD, so her mental health isn't perfect, although this has never bothered me, i love her for who she is. Anyway about two weeks ago we were drunk and we kissed for the first time. I've never felt that type of connection with anyone, and according to her she hadn't either. A few days ago we had a talk about us, it was brought about because we had been increasingly inter-met i guess, and I openly said to her that I have strong feelings for you. Lucy then said she felt the same, only she wasn't ready for a relationship right now. I accidentally laughed, and she begged me to tell her why, and I said because usually it means i don't want a relationship with you. But she said that was not the case, its just at the moment she wants to sort herself out, and that if she was to get into a relationship she wanted it to be with me.\n\nAnyway, Lucy is going to University in approximately 9 months, and she feels as though it puts a timer on our relationship if we were to have one, as she believes distance doesn't work. And if something bad was to happen she didn't want to lose me. Bearing in mind we've been through hell and back multiple times! \n\nWhat can I actually do? I'm crazy about this girl, only it kills me to know i can't be with her.", "summary": "Have feelings for best friend, feelings reciprocated, only she feels there is a timer on our possible relationship."}
{"id": "t3_vvskj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your craziest party story?", "post": "Ill start. So some friends and I were walking to a party in an apartment complex. We saw someone we knew who was leaving, and he told us where the party was. We followed his directions, but we couldnt find the party. Instead, I decided to open the door of a random apartment from which i heard party-like noises. Inside was a party consisting entirely of Asian people. And as soon as the door opened, they all started yelling happily and telling us to come inside. So we walk in (there was like 10 of us) and they give us all free beer. As we get a little bit drunker, they offer us bowls of Chinese soup and inform us that it is a Chinese New Year party. The soup was delicious and everyone was really really friendly. My friends and I were really happy to have found an awesome party, and the entire time we were trying to figure how this had all happened. \nSo we ended up drinking free beer, eating free soup, and talking to a bunch of really friendly Chinese people, just because I opened the door.", "summary": "We walked into a random party and a bunch of Chinese people gave us free alcohol and soup."}
{"id": "t3_15b2ox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) like a guy (26m) but I'm not attracted to him physically, am I a bad person?", "post": "I'll keep this short and sweet. Ever since I was about 12, the things that mattered to me most about guy's appearance are that I want them to be thin, have shaggy hair, no body hair (!), be kind of modest/shy, and expressive (musician/poet etc).\nI've been seeing this guy for about four months. He's perfect for me personality wise, but he doesn't do anything downstairs. Frankly, he's too big (he's 170lbs but muscular which I hate), he has a lot of body hair, and he always gets his hair cut short. It's driving me crazy! His brain is fine I just can't find myself attracted to his body.\n\nI haven't told him this directly but I think he's kind of figured it out since I tell him about famous people I find attractive and point out guys that have the same build as him and mention that I hate that. Since he met me, he's stopped going to the gym and I think he's trying to lose weight (the only thing I told him outright is that I think he'd look better if he was around 120-130lbs). I think because of my hints and the fact that I won't let him do anything more than kiss me is why he's trying to change his appearance for me. He said he's also going to get waxed in summer but I'm not sure if it's because I said I hated body hair or not.\n\nThen I realized that I'm changing him to my image and that might be a bad thing. He seems to be really down lately but I'm not sure if it's me or something else. Am I doing this wrong?", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't look the way I want so I'm not attracted to him. Over time, I dropped some hints in order for him to change his appearance and he's following them but I don't feel like it's the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_187w8i", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "1 year old dog is still extremely hyperactive and has separation anxiety - what else can I do?", "post": "I have a 1 year old cocker spaniel cross. He's not growing out of the puppy behaviour anytime soon it seems. He is crate trained and I do a lot of obedience work with him but he still tries to get into everything and I feel like I can't take my eyes of him for fear of him chewing something he shouldn't or trying to get up on the counter. He also has huge separation anxiety with me. I can't even go to the bathroom without him crying and scratching at the door. It is only when I leave the house that he has a freakout. My roommate is with him just as much as me, and we lived together before I got him. I'm starting to get very frustrated because I feel like I have tried everything my vet, trainer and breeder have suggested. Does anyone else have any ideas on ways to break this habit?", "summary": "Dog is still destructive and has extreme separation anxiety. What else can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_113koy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbor has mental issues and needs major help, not sure where to turn.", "post": "Hi Reddit, I have a neighbor who I've been told is paranoid schizophrenic.  He also has a drinking problem.  He lives alone and doesn't seem to be taking his medication (or doesn't have any to take, or it's ineffective). He's outside all hours of the day and night talking to himself, or yelling at people who aren't there, often very loudly. And with the way our condos are laid out, that means he's right outside my living room window most of the time.  Usually he's angry or upset, sometimes he's happy when he's drunk.  Over the past week he's been getting louder, and is outside more frequently.\n\nI don't know if he has any family ... I've never seen anyone visit him.  He doesn't have a job, so I have no idea where he gets money for cigs and alcohol.\n\nI realize I could probably call the cops, but other people have called in the past and they usually just warn him to quiet down.  Complaints to the condo board are useless, because all they can do is fine him.  Both of these change his behavior in the short term (i.e. a day or two), which I guess is nice for me but ultimately it doesn't help him.\n\nI called 211, but they basically told me I can't do anything because I'm not a relative.  So I'm out of ideas.  Any thoughts?", "summary": "Neighbor has major mental health issues, his behavior is a problem, not sure how to get him the help he needs."}
{"id": "t3_hbe26", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit. We need to talk.", "post": "We've been together for 11 months and it's been really great. I've never been the kind of guy that gives fucks so I enjoy strolling your pages and having the joyful moment when something humors me (I click the upvote button. <3). Something has been bothering me, despite the enjoyment I receive from visiting your website it's hard to say.. Please don't take this personally but Reddit, we're going through some tough times.. It's not you, it could never be you. You have so much content to live for and all of your subreddits.. I've seen the side of you that no one that has never been to Reddit has never seen.. But like all wonderful nights.. it eventually has to end.. I thought I should tell you Reddit.. I'm seeing someone else. It's not you. It could never be you but it's your users.. Reposting all the time. I can say I occasionally repost something that I think it's funny but not from Reddit.. I've seen the source. Any ways that isn't the post- I mean point.\n\nReddit.. I'm seeing Digg, there I said it. Its just.. You know.. Digg is mainly news related you hardly see people talking about themselves and while it is cool making post about things Redditors had there girlfriends make for them and pictures that they took of police guards not giving a fuck, it gets kind of old.. I'm not saying that to be mean Reddit.. but I think after a while of just reading articles I'll be fine.\n\nAnd please, Reddit? Don't make a scene.. You weren't the first. Slashdot will always forever be in my heart.", "summary": "I'm going on Digg website."}
{"id": "t3_2xj6bn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M]How to bounce back?", "post": "Back story: It's been awhile since I was out and about (school and work always tied me up). I haven't found a girl I connected with and I had been feeling a bit lonely, but didn't really mind. I finally got my schedule under control and met a girl through some school events . She seemed nice and overall we connected well. \n\nWe were friends first, I went over to play video games and such (her college is only an hour away from where I'm at) and so forth. Eventually I developed feelings for her and after further conversation she developed some for me. I took her out to a nice dinner and we really enjoyed it. This past week I haven't really been able to talk to her because I've been studying hard for some exams, although I manage to have small chats every now and again. \n\nWe've been talking about a second date and things are overall going great. \n\nI called her about an hour ago and her phone vibrates (it's deafening at times) and I ask who just killed my ears to which she calmly replies \"oh, just my boyfriend.\" \n\n*whoa whoa whoa, I thought she was into me?! *\n\nNope. Turns out she just got back together with her ex the day before I'm going to take her out to a great second date, now I have some nice flowers and a table for two for myself. Self-esteem kind of went down and\n\n I don't know if I should address it or what.", "summary": "night before second date with a girl after connecting for a while, she drops bombshell she just got back together with ex."}
{"id": "t3_1p686x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with inconsiderate litterers?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nI live on the bottom level of an apartment complex.  There are two floors above me, each containing a balcony.  Though I am a college student, the ones above me seemed to have been raised differently in that they discard their empty alcohol cans by tossing them off their balcony.  My bottom level enclosure is a bit below the ground, so every piece of litter is nicely contained until I pick it up.  My plan is to throw these cans back up to them when they are not watching.  I know this will just escalate things and I will lose, being on the lowground.  Help! What can I do?!  Civilly knocking on their door and confronting them is not out of the question (I used to be an RA), but I do not believe it will fix the problem.\n\nYour's Truly,\nAnnoyed College Studeny -_", "summary": "Kids are throwing beer cans in my small outside space from above balconies. Best revenge plot?"}
{"id": "t3_4jd2qw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Surprise unpaid training for job that was never actually available", "post": "So, I got a part time \"under the table\" job at a nearby convenience store. My first day, I was told I would be training and just to follow around someone and help out when I can. The second day was the same and I was informed I would only be paid about $7.50/h. By the end of the fourth day I had logged about 25 hours (I made sure to write it down on my phone just in case). \n\nWhen closing the owner pulls me aside and tells that he and his wife decided that since she's graduating soon she's taking my position and that since it was training I shouldn't really get paid but next week to come in and he'll \"help me out\". It took 2 weeks and the \"help\" was $30.\n\nI recorded the entire conversation we had. It includes him saying how many days I was there and everything. Should I take this to small claims court? Would I even win? I live in NJ.\n\nSide note they sell cigarettes for $10 with EBT and at least twice a day people came in and had $10-$20 charged to their card and got half in return.", "summary": "Store \"hired\" me for $7.50/h. 4 days later they tell me there's no job for me and they pay me $30. Pulling other not-moral stuff too. Is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_3qdtjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25M with my 24F well it's all over nothing..", "post": "*or\n\nBack story- we dated since nov 2014 two break ups.\n\nMy ex and I decided to not to see eachother anymore mid May, talked throughout summer and finally got into an argument in early August and stopped talking completely until mid September.\n\n Then to this point it's been few convos and snapping a few times a week.Finally mustered the courage to call her on Tuesday? and we spoke for about hour. This past month has been absolutely awful with college and life, so I called and told her what has been happening and stuff.\n\nWell I was feeling okay throughout the week just chatting. But then she sends me a video at a hockey game with another couple. And I text her, \"how's the game?\" nothing back at all and then another video of her at the bar. Well anyways we chatted Saturday briefly that night while she was at the bar with friend.\n\nTonight Texted her just to talk for a bit, and i asked casually who all went to the game. \nH whyyy do you want to know \nMi was just wondering. You wouldn't be snapping me with any ***** (< name for the other gender ) with you would you? \nH****** or no ***** I do what I want when I want now.\nQuickly changed the convo. I know she's involved somehow now. It's shitty that she would actually send me a video at game and telling me that she was wasted.\nWell last nightwhen watching the walking dead I told her the typical I need you and a hug shit.\n I told her to think about and consider it. She is currently doing so. Where do I stand? I know this is the last time she will take me back, I do see a future with her. *rolling the dice", "summary": "! Trying to get back together with my ex after a god awful month. I told her how I felt and she will consider it. Her words, I don't want to give you false hope."}
{"id": "t3_n19pm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would the Reddit community be interested in supporting the wounded warrior project?", "post": "Reddit, A good friend of mine is attempting to raise money and awareness for the wounded warrior project.\n\nHe is doing this by attempting to be the first Active Duty Service member to Climb to the top of each of the 7 summits. He has already completed Denali and Aconcagua. His next objective is Mt Kilimanjaro and this time he is brining along SGT Jacob Birkholz who was nearly fatally wounded during a tour in Afghanistan.\n\nAs you may know, traveling across the world and climbing mountains is expensive. So he is looking for some dontations.\n\nYou can read more about him and his cause at his [website.](", "summary": "Guy climbs mountains to help wounded warriors, needs money."}
{"id": "t3_35h6vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my SO [27/M], I'm not included in his social life and I'm hurt.", "post": "We've been married 4 years and we have a 10 month old son. Our relationship has done really well except for this. I feel like after 4 years of marriage I should've met a friend of his beyond saying \"hi\". I'm hurt because he texts his friends all the time and even sees them maybe once or twice a month at get togethers and they have lunches all the time. I've asked him to invite them for dinner, to meet us at a theme park and even set up daycare once so that I could tag along but no luck. \n\nIt's my first mother's day and instead of spending it together he went to a bachelor party and spent the night at his married friends house and from there he goes into work and I found out that the married friends wife went and another one of the SO's and yet I wasn't invited. I'm hurt. We've spent years together and we're a family but I feel like I'm not as good as the other spouses because I was the only one that wasn't invited.\n\nI know I should make my own friends and I've tried, all my friends live about an hour away and since he takes the car I'm stuck home.", "summary": "SO keeps his friends and family separate, am I being too sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_3txz12", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my nose pierced", "post": "Im a 24f and I've been wanting a small, diamond nose stud for quite some time now. My job was the only thing holding me back. I work with customers face to face everyday in customer service for a pretty large company. \n\nYesterday I decided to go for it. Thanksgiving is coming up and my boss is off the whole week. I only see him every few weeks and figured by the next time I saw him I will have switched the stud for a clear stud and just wear that to work.. \n\nBoy was I wrong. My boss called me at 7am and asked me to help him pick up breakfast for a meeting. I tried my hardest to stand on the side of him without my piercing but it didn't work. After about 15 mins I decided it wasn't worth trying to hide, what's the worst that could happen. It's just a nose stud after all and I would take it out for any important meetings. I was relieved he didn't bring it up. \n\nWell next thing I know my boss is greeting our division president who just walked in the room. I've only met him a handful of times as the company is quite large. I didn't want to turn around, my heart was racing so I awkwardly stood with my back to him until I hear 'what are you just going to stand there with your back to me'. He was right behind me. My boss could see my face and we both knew I'd fucked up.. \n\nI turned around, shook his hand and my boss says.. You can leave now. \n\nThis all happened before 8am. I need more coffee..", "summary": "I got my nose pierced and ran into the division president the next day before 8amty"}
{"id": "t3_vl0ym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I work in a marketing department and my boss just asked me to help define my role. What does an \"art director\" role look like?", "post": "I'm a professional designer/videographer/web dev and I joined my company 2 years ago as a production person, but the department has changed quite a bit and now I find myself managing 4 creative people. This role has never been clearly defined, and I rarely find myself the opportunity to be creative, which is my passion.\n\nThe department has dedicated project managers that do nothing but interface with internal clients and the production team. Too often, I'm left out of the loop on the creative direction, and my team feels that the suggestions I offer to help improve the final product are coming from someone who doesn't have the technical ability to offer such advice \u2013\u00a0they've never seen what I can do from a production standpoint.\n\nWhat are options for structure, roles, project management that I could fit into? If you are an Art Director, what does your day-to-day consist of, and how to you manage your team and your boss?", "summary": "How does an \"art director\" who manages production people fit into a marketing organization that has dedicated project managers and find creative fulfillment?"}
{"id": "t3_3303g5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22/f) boyfriend (31/m) of one year won't talk to me about ex wife (20s/f).", "post": "My boyfriend and I met while he was still married and had a tension filled friendship. He expressed the desire to want to sleep with me, but I felt as though it was morally wrong. Our friendship mostly consisted of him telling me he was no longer in love with his wife and was only staying because he has a ten year plan. One day he told me he was in love with me and the next thing I knew he was separated from his wife and she had moved out of the state. \n\nWe had a very rocky start to the relationship as I believe he was torn about how he felt and regretted the hurt he had caused his wife. We ended the relationship for a short while and then got back together exclusively and started living together. His ex has been extremely crazy throughout the whole situation, including calling me multiple times and telling a whole bunch of lies. \nFast forward a year down the line and the divorce has now been finalized. She continues to text/harass him and is constantly sending pictures of herself. My boyfriend and I have now gotten to a point where he won't talk to me about her or anything to do with the divorce and tells me it's \"none of my business.\" I have had some issues dealing with all of this in the past and it has caused many arguments between us, but now I have expressed that I just want to know how he's feeling about it/her. I am afraid that I am in a relationship and trying to start a future with someone who is still in love with someone else. \n\nIs it healthy to not discuss these things in a relationship? Am I being to pushy? I just need an opinion from someone outside of the relationship.", "summary": "boyfriend won't talk to me about ex wife, says it's none of my business."}
{"id": "t3_33qr37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (M23) bring up to my girlfriend (F22) that she is a complete financial burden?", "post": "Alright so here's the story. I met my girlfriend while in college (State school out in Cali). I graduated from college and got a job that only pays 13 an hour. Its alright for now, basically just using as experience for better things in the future. My girlfriend is still in college and lives 200 miles away from me. The distance isn't the issue, but more of my girlfriend doesn't realize she is a complete liability. \n\nShe lives off campus in a shitty house with some other girls. She works at the school as a library assistant making just above minimum wage. Her loans has allowed her a 30 dollar allowance for a grocery bill, which isn't much but I easily lived off that when I was at school. \n\nThe problem is that she doesn't fucking buy any food or anything of substance with her money. She routinely just eats ramen for meals, which is cool once in a while but she's been doing this for months. She gets almost no nutrients in her body, which is starting to damage our sex lives (no nutrients = inability to get wet) so I have to buy her a lot of food when I visit her. I spend on average about a 100 dollars a week on her. This includes food for her week, meals while I'm there, and fun (usually bars with friends or movies). \n\nI know she is making money but I have no idea what she uses it for. She doesn't support herself with it and its a huge financial responsibility for me to have to take care of her like this. She keeps saying how she definitely is moving to Florida after college (Next May) but there is no way in the world that's happening if we can't save up because she doesn't know how to run her finances. Anytime I bring up her grabbing an extra shift or saying how she shouldn't call out of work because she has a cold she just flips out and says she knows how to handle herself. She doesn't. \n\nNow what?", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't feeding herself with her own money, banking on me buying it every week."}
{"id": "t3_3i9u9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He won't say that he loves me. Has he a good reason or am I being deceived by him?", "post": "After almost 2 years dating, I (25F) and my boyfriend (25M) are very happy. He is very kind and loving. The point is that he never said those three words \u2013 I love you. Neither did I.\n\nA few months ago, I asked him about it and said that it's hurts a little bit. Hurts because he just does not have de courage to tell me. And I have to say, he is not a shy type of person.\n\nWhen I asked him, he was very very lovely, hugged me and said: \"I never say because I don't want to create an incident after which I could say to much or little. I think that I must be able to show you in so many ways how much important you are to me. If you did not feel this, I would be terribly failing on my duties.\". I asked: \"so you just don't say at all?\". It's seems that's it o.o.\n\nI just want to know if I have been deceived by him or it is a good reason. I must say that there is no other reason to distrust him.", "summary": "Is it a good reason to not say \"I love you\" or  am I being deceived by him?"}
{"id": "t3_15qjs4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex m(40) blindsided my son(6) with a girlfriend over the holidays and doesn't understand why I f(38) am mad.", "post": "How the hell do I explain this one to him?\n\nSolved: with inadvertent thanks to TheNextMovement.\n\nI called the ex. Explained that the problem was that there is a difference between a SURPRISE and a SECRET. A surprise is meant to be revealed. Will, inevitably be revealed. A secret is never supposed to be revealed. With our son thinking the girlfriend was to be kept secret, it meant he had a huge amount of stress figuring out how to maintain the secret. Clearly, my ex could only realistically expected it to be a surprise, but being only 6yo, our son didn't realize this. Hence the stress, hence the difference. It wasn't just a bit of stress, trying not to spill the beans NOW, he was trying to figure out how he'd keep her a secret for ALL TIME. \n\nEx spoke to son on phone, told him he was sorry, he didn't mean he had to never talk about her forever, just that it was his (daddy's) job to tell me he had a new girlfriend (not really, but who cares!) He even apologized to me for blowing me off.", "summary": "How do you tell someone you can't tell a kid to lie to his parents when he has no framework for even acknowledging it's a bad thing? YOU EXPLAIN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SURPRISES AND SECRETS."}
{"id": "t3_f9tqh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girls of Reddit, I need your help! Good anniversary gift?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now, and I'm trying to think of something she would really love. For our one-year, I bought her a fairly expensive promise ring, and gave it to her in a cool way; I was pretty confident that it went well over all. I know I probably won't be able to top that, but what else would be a fitting anniversary gift? She is almost 17, and she has a pretty redditor-like humor. It's way too early for anything like an engagement ring, and we are waiting to have sex. Any good ideas??\n\nI'm fairly decent at planning big things, but besides that, I'm pretty relationship-challenged at times when it comes to gifts.", "summary": "I need a good, meaningful 2 year anniversary gift for my 17 year old girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_491y9j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Eatig Extra-Spicy Ramen [NSFW]", "post": "This actually happened today, and I'm typing this on the toilet. Also, I say \"shit\" a lot in this.\n\nSo, my friends invited me to go and eat some ramen earlier, which I couldn't turn down. As we got there, I saw that there was a new type of ramen there: an \"extra spicy, try it at your own risk\" type of ramen, and since I absolutely love spicy food, I ordered it thinking \"well, how bad could it be?\"\n\nOn the first bite, I exclaimed \"this is pussy shit\" and proceeded to eat about half of the bowl, stopping every now and then to get some water as the spiciness slowly started to increase. Out of nowhere, I felt this huge pain in my stomach, then it crept up to my mouth: this was the spiciest fucking bowl of noodles I've ever had. I took my friends' suggestions and put some of my water into the broth, which made it a little better, but it was still a little too much for me to handle (the broth, while spicy, was actually really good). We left the noodle place and hung our for a couple hours, and I was fine until the drive home, where I was squirming in the car seat as a sharp, hot pain crept through my stomach again. \n\nFinally arriving at home, I ran to the bathroom (where we are now) and I dropped my pants faster than Usain Bolt's running time; what followed was 45 minutes of the most painful, most agonizing burning shit I've ever had, complete with red logs, half a roll of toilet paper gone, and a bucketful of sweat - this shit could seriously warm a small family if they had thrown it into a campfire. My asshole felt as hot as the thruster of a Saturn V rocket, and while no tears were shed, this shit reestablished my fear of God.\n\nNow, I'm sitting on the toilet seat with my head against the wall, recovering from the most painful shitting experience of my life. That broth was pretty fucking good, though.", "summary": "underestimated my spicy-tolerance and now my asshole is charred."}
{"id": "t3_2tchav", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a dead baby joke", "post": "So, me and my two friends (A and B) are huge wrestling fans. We were sitting in our maths class talking about wrestling like always, when one of them (A) asks \"Is Kharma dead?\". A doesn't really know much about wrestling outside the WWE so he assumes she died because of \"steroids or some shit\". \n\nNow, for those of you that don't know Kharma used to wrestle for the WWE but she left in May 2011 to have a baby, which died shortly after it was born in December 2011. [Link](\n\nSo yeah, me, being the idiot I am decided to say \"No, but her baby is.\" Well, it turns out that somebody on the table in front of me was impregnated by a 17 year old when she was 13 (that's a story for another day). She hear's the joke and turns around and explodes shouting all kinds of stuff. Thankfully this is a regular occurrence at this school so I've learned to ignore this stuff. I dunno what's gonna happen tomorrow.", "summary": "Made a dead baby joke, 13yo abortion heard it. I'm a cunt."}
{"id": "t3_26erhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (17M) just broke-up with my GF(17F) of 6months. Feeling confused and lost.", "post": "Met this girl at school 6 months ago. I asked her out after leading a strong friendship with her. \n\nBackground info: She regularly went to parties and clubs where she would get drunk. I have never been to a party or gotten drunk. We lead different lifestyles. However, we were really close.\n\nThe break-up: About two weeks ago she began acting odd in my company, not going in for hugs and not wanting to go out as much. We haven't had any form of sexual contact (I'm still a virgin) but we were planning on having intercourse in the near future. 2 days ago she texted me out of the blue saying that we had to chat. She says that she doesn't feel like she is ready for a relationship and that she is sorry. I asked why and she went on a rant about how her ex hurt her and she is scared it will happen again. I said that i understood and agreed that we wont be seeing each other anymore.\n\nWhy am I writing this?: i don't know what to do. I used to speak to her daily, I'm feeling a little lonely and hurt by it all. She is going out clubbing on Monday night with her friends and i feel that maybe there is a reason underlying the break up other than what was said. I want to move on but there is a little voice saying i gave in too easy and just let her go when I shouldn't have. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "broke up with girlfriend of six months. I'm suspicious as to why she broke up with me as I feel her reason is a cover up. Now I feel hurt, lonely and lost. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_wykig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it weird that I'm reclusive?  Mebbe people wanna drop some insight/knowledge.", "post": "I'm 24 years old, 100% independent, decent looking, and get along with people just fine. However, I find myself being a total recluse. I feel like a dick because I don't really hang out with friends anymore and I feel kinna like I'm wasting my life, but I can't really break out of it. When it comes down to it, unless someone is really adamant about hanging out, I'll just stay in. The only exception is my gf who has been away for 2 years but she's moving back soon :]. I kinna wanna figure this out before she moves back if possible though.", "summary": "I'm a 24 year old male who lives by himself and gets along well with people but for some reason doesn't hang out with friends much anymore."}
{"id": "t3_10ov43", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I talk to her if we just met?", "post": "Okay so here's the story.. Yesterday around 11pm I went to the movies with a good friend. While walking to the theater where 'Looper' was playing I saw my friend from highschool working behind the counter of a concession stand. She was standing talking to this really cute girl. I introduced myself to her and the conversation went on for a few minutes about how we were doing.\n\nThe conversation ended and I continued walking to the theater thinking about how I wished I could've gotten spoken to that cute girl more. I told my friend about it while sitting in our seats. He gave me his debit card and told me I had a reason to go back now because he wanted a slurpee. I walked back slowly really not knowing what to say if I did ask her..\n\nI approached the stand asking my friend from highschool for the slurpees. Her friend stood there staring at me, after buying them.. I approached her and asked, \"Would you mind if I got your number?\"\n\nShe looked shocked, she smiled though.. & she replied by saying, \"Yeah\" & we smiled to eachother.\n\n*Reddit, I have never asked a girl for her number before and haven't dated someone in about a year or so. So after hearing this, I honestly didn't know how to react.\n\n**Well, today I texted her with this response, \"Hey 'Cute Girl' it's 'Drunkkwizard'. Sorry for being so upfront and asking for your number yesterday but I thought you were really cute and yea.. hah\"\n\nShe said, \"Hey 'Drunkkwizard'! Sorry for the late reply, I was at work. Haha and don't be sorry!\"\n\nFrom there, I have no idea where to go.. I need your help reddit!", "summary": "I asked a girl for her number and got it! How do I talk to her??"}
{"id": "t3_3gqrwv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lying down", "post": "This didn't happen today. More like 5 years ago. My bad y'all. \n\nIt was my freshmen year of college. I was fortunate enough to have a few of my good friends from High School move into the same dorm and like every other freshmen, we had a habit of putting our livers through the gauntlet on most weekends. \n\nSo Friday rolls around and I'm chilling in my room waiting on my buds to get back from seeing a movie so we can start drinking. I get a text from one of them saying they'd be back in about 15 minutes so I figure I might as well get a head-start on my bottle of Jack. Well apparently 15 minutes actually meant an hour, and when they finally stroll on in, they're greeted to me, sprawled out on my mattress, half a bottle of Jack deep, and my roommate painting models... My roommate was awkward. \n\nNow I'd like to say I remember exactly what happened between now and later in the night, but I don't. All I know is they somehow got me up, we met up with some girls, we went to a few frat houses, and I took pulls of vodka. That's all. I do however recall later that night. Some chick actually wanted to sleep with this drunken hurricane and I wound up in her room. \n\nWhelp... I laid down, and the nausea just swept over me. I thought I could control it but nah. \n\nThis poor girl's room got painted. I mean absolutely annihilated. Had I not been flipping shit at what I was projecting, I would have probably been kind of impressed my body could hold this much fluid. I immediately left to the bathroom to finish emptying the tank. I went back, not expecting to get any at this point, just wanting to help clean up and really just apologize... and then maybe ask if she wanted spend the night in my room.... Door was locked. \n\nWhat made it worse, was in the morning I was eating breakfast with my friends. They all pointed to the girl whose room I had plastered. We made awkward eye contact. She was really fucking hot. I'd see her on campus everywhere for the next 2 years... Never said a word to each other. Just the same awkward eye contact.", "summary": "Drank, scored, laid down, didn't score.  "}
{"id": "t3_2d0otq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24 M) usually getting myself into relationships with coworkers. Should I do it again?", "post": "I've been working at my current workplace for almost a year and recently a younger girl (22) started working. We've gone on our lunch breaks together a couple times already but usually with a group. Never just one on one. But I wanted to hear others thoughts about the whole coworker relationship thing. I've always heard it was a bad idea and I understand the negative side effects, but I guess I'm just a huge optimist. Even if we were to go on a couple of dates and if it didn't work out I don't think it would be weird. Mainly because we don't work near each other so I barely see her throughout the day anyway. \n\nAnd I've dated coworkers before at my previous jobs, some went really well. I lost my virginity to a coworker. And we dated for a few months. Although that job was less important and I was younger (19-20). I'm working in my career field now so I guess I just want to be careful since its a more professional setting. But its in Venice, California so it's generally pretty laid back.", "summary": "Should I ask my coworker out on a date?"}
{"id": "t3_2r25i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] and nobody... for past 3+ years. What are my first steps?", "post": "So ive had this issue all my life where I never say a word to anyone and have very few friends. The older I get,  the less endearing my social problems are. Recently I checked out a book called The Confident Child, because my 9 yr old was freaking out too much over simple homework and tasks, and the book described behaviors of kids with low self confidence, and described ME with crushing accuracy. So now I know, it was low self esteem all along, and maybe now that I can see the problem,  I can try again to have, idk, friends?  Meaningful relationships? \n\nMy last 'relationship' lasted 2 weeks. We had a crush on each other,  but I think he just talks too much,  is why I had to break it off. It's easy to drown me out. And I don't know if a relationship is supposed to go lightning fast, or if there's a way to just be friends with someone for a LONG time before venturing into romantic territory.  Because what I have is a string of broken hearts in my wake (mine included) and still very few friends,  all of whom live far away. What's the best way to approach a new relationship?  I think in my case, I really might be better off alone.", "summary": "31/f not good at relationships, but would like to change that. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_edh50", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I made up an elegantly simple solution to a moderately important problem, and I'm really pleased with myself for it. What small successes do you really appreciate?", "post": "Here is my ultimately inconsequential success: My hardware lab got new, electronic-locking storage cabinets. The locking mechanism runs off of 4xAA batteries mounted to the back of the door.\n\nAt some point, someone closed the door without the batteries in it and it latched shut. Great. The \"key\" to unlock it with is another 4xAA battery pack that you can plug into the lock from the outside. Simple enough, except that there are no batteries around anywhere.\n\nThe cabinet stayed locked for about 4 days. Then I realized that we're in a lab filled with DC power sources. So I pushed the cabinet over to a workbench, plugged some wires from the source to the exterior battery box, and set it to 6 V (4 1.5 V AA batteries in series), and BAM! The lock fires up.\n\nThen it was just plugging in the default password and the door swung ajar!\n\nIf I hadn't fixed it, someone else would've later using a more conventional approach, but I'm pleased with myself regardless.", "summary": "jury-rigging works."}
{"id": "t3_3lra1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have never been in a relationship. Thinking of asking a girl out.", "post": "Due to anxieties and insecurities, I've had trouble forming meaningful relationships with anyone, let alone anything romantic. I plan on mentioning this to my doctor when I visit him this week to see what can be done about it, but I don't want to use that as an excuse not to ask this girl out. I think I'm decent at being friendly and holding conversations; it's getting close to people that's difficult. And I'm not completely unattractive. My brother who looks extremely similar has never had this kind of problem. \n\nFor a couple months now I've been volunteering once a week at an animal shelter and I rather like one of the staff there. Due to the workload being hectic most of the time, there isn't always time to talk and it's not really the place to flirt, but we had a pretty good rapport going on the other day. I've added her on FB, although we haven't talked outside of the shelter. I'm pretty terrible at starting conversations when I'm not face-to-face with people. My family and roommate consist of 95% of the people I text even though I have a few others I'm friends with.\n\nAfter typing this out I realize my worries are at a high-school level, but like I said I have no experience with this kind of thing. Is asking her out to coffee a good starting point? Or since I know her a bit already should I go ahead and ask to take her out somewhere?", "summary": "At 23, I've never been in a relationship and I'm thinking of asking a girl out. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_10jvet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cat came into the bathroom while I showered. What's the cutest thing your animal has done instinctively?", "post": "I go into the bathroom to take a shower, I get in get the temperature just to how I want it and I start\nshowering. I hear the door creak and shut, I thought nothing of it until I heard my cat meow. After a couple seconds of her figuring out her owner isn't going to pet her she starts meowing like crazy to be let out. I can't get out of the shower because I'm only half-way done cleaning myself and I don't want water to get all over the floor. So I'm nearly forced to see my cat wandering aimlessly around the bathroom wailing. It was by far the cutest things she's done. When I finished showering and shut off the water she nearly came into the bathtub with me.", "summary": "I was showering, my cat came in, and she cried to be let out for 30 minutes."}
{"id": "t3_4dek5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of a year. I can't stop imagining him having sex with other people while we have sex with each other(repost from r/sex)", "post": "I had been close friends with my boyfriend before our relationship became romantic / sexual. We spoke about sex and relationships and I entered the relationship knowing all of the people he has been with and many intimate details about his past. A few of the people he's been with are friends of mine who I see regularly, some I see very periodically. \n\nI have had jealous tendencies I am working on but the worst is that I keep imagining him having sex with people his has slept with in the past. I do this most often while we are having sex which has dampened my libido and caused me distress.\n\nHe is very respectful of stopping if I need to and we have spoken about this some but at this point I feel it is something I need to personally overcome whether by changing my frame of mind or training myself to turn my brain off or something.", "summary": "My biggest jealousy problem is imagining him having sex with his exes (our friends) and it's upsetting / ruins my libido"}
{"id": "t3_piow6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this irony? And what should I do?", "post": "So backstory, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 15 months now and we're in a long distance relationship (about 2 hours apart). Now I get to see her a few days out of the month and it started getting hard. So I decided to transfer, even if I didn't really want to. She kept telling me to do what I wanted and that I probably wasn't doing the right thing. She always wanted me to transfer but I guess she didn't want to feel guilty about me leaving just for her. And she kind of guilts me into coming home, saying that I like partying more than her. But I am deciding to come home anyway. So anyway she got an email from her guidance counselor tonight about applying for a full year study abroad at Oxford university (another country). And now the only thing holding her back is me. I want to be supportive and tell her that she should follow her own advice. But I really don't want to lose her. I can't help feeling selfish for wanting her to stay.", "summary": "Only thing holding me back from staying at school is my girlfriend. Only thing holding her back from studying abroad is me."}
{"id": "t3_459lzm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I live with my parents but I make I think ok money.", "post": "Hi Personal Finance. I come from an Asian family where my father recently passed away. He left me a sum of money which I immediately used to pay off my student loans and my car loans. My sister and mother also pooled their share with me to pay off the house we live in so my mother can have a restful end of days with her grandson. Now, I have a 401k set up with my employer that matches up to 6% with me putting 15% total on it. I am 28 years old and have about 41k in savings with roughly 20k-ish in 401k. I am planning on getting married, but due to our cultural upbrining, its either getting married expensively or saving up to buy a house. Not two at the same time. My gf works retail at around minimum wage and is planning on finishing her school which then removes any form of income for her. I make about 78k. My check per month comes out at about 3100 per month. I split the cost of living, such as utilities with my sister and her husband. Would I be able to buy a house soon? I understand its about 20% of down payment but I am unsure. I am not good with money, I usually just throw it in savings so I come to PF to hear any advice. Thank you so much for helping me out. My gf and I are stressed out what to do with her schooling and myself \"Trying\" to plan our life out.", "summary": "Make about 3100 a month. Pay utilities around 400 - 500~ Would this type of money be enough to afford a home in Central Valley, California? Thank you PF."}
{"id": "t3_1x87x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] My friend [17M] that I am pushing away, again. What is wrong with me?", "post": "I have always been a loner my whole life, never had that one real best friend that I told everything, was always part of a group, a follower I suppose. I was alone for about five years, parents worried on why my siblings had friends over every weekend and I never did. I am a very like-able person, but here is the problem that has suddenly appeared.\n\n---\n\nEvery time I meet someone who likes me and wants to hang out or play together online with me, I love to death for about a few weeks. Than suddenly I get start pushing them away and making excuses on not to hang out with them. I dont know why I do this. Recently another person like appeared. I just told him my headset broke so we didn't voice chat. What is wrong with me? Do I just have trust problems or is it something else. \n\n--- \n\nI feel like not even my parents really know anything about me, but dont get me wrong they have given me all the love and opportunities in the world to excel. Anyways, I am doing what I always do again, and I want some type of closure, whether I just stop talking to him and go back to being alone which I both hate/love. Or force myself into more social interaction.", "summary": "Every person who starts being my friend I push away after a few weeks, I need closure on why I do this and what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1xgujn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] have been together for 2 years, we took a break recently and now she doesn't want to get back together", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 years. We recently took a break and during that break I realized how much I actually loved her. She says that she still loves me as well and that she has no interest in anyone else but me but wants to remain single because she enjoys the independence. I want to keep my self respect but I really want to try everything I can before I decide I should leave her and move on. I just wanted to gain a neutral perspective on the situation as I am not really happy with the current state of it. Please help me as this is one of the lowest points in my life so far.", "summary": "Girlfriend claims to love me but doesn't want to be in a committed relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3oecq5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I've ostracized myself.... And have come to this unfortunate realization", "post": "I'm 18 years old and I've realized that my generation may be **the worst yet**\n\n*BACKSTORY*\nI go to a Waldorf high school. Waldorf, for those of you that don't know, is a small private school system that has insanely small class sizes for the benefit of individual attention from teachers. \n\nMy graduating class is 18....\n18 fucking people. Throughout my high school career, I have tried being friends with each one of my class mates, and have come to the grim realization that not a single person at my school is like me. Moreover, on a larger scale, no kids that I've met (except for a few scarce exceptions) remotely hold a fuck on their shoulders of the shit that our world is going through.\n\nIn a tiny ass class of 18, once you burn through your 18 possibilities of friends (which doesn't take long to do) you are out of options. Not ONE FUCKING PERSON is a good social match for me. It's not because they don't like me, it's because I don't like them. I have a slim sample size of my generation to look at, and to be frank: My generation sucks a bag of dicks. Im 18 years old and feel like I'm the only kid on the planet that feels this way. As a generation, we are a sad, overly desperate, ratchet, try-hard, technologically dependent group of fucks that can't go a day without checking their facebook walls to make sure they haven't missed out on the news of what's going on in their lives outside of what matters. \n\nAnd so here I am. A senior in high school in a class of weirdos that I cannot identify with at all. I had friends in my past years at the local public school, but they were all grades above me and now they're off in college having the time of their lives while I'm stuck at home on my own observing my generation being concerned about being able to pass their Chem exam so that their mum will allow them to go to the EDM concert this weekend and get so high that they forgot they even fucking went.", "summary": "I'm an 18 year old realizing that I'm surrounded by idiots."}
{"id": "t3_33tabi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep at the wheel.", "post": "This literally just happened. Still feeling like trash so I thought I'd break my reddit cherry to maybe make myself feel better. Probably not gonna work. \n\nI'm a high school senior with many college options. This weekend I, along with my two parents and two little brothers, we're driving to Baltimore (a 14 hour drive) to visit a potential college. Being the arrogant stupid teen I am, I took a 3 hour nap and thought I could drive the trip. I just got my license a few months ago so I am still in that \"love driving\" stage. \n\n8 hours into the drive and I'm feeling good. It's bright and early in the morning, my music is blasting, I say a few cocky words to my dad who is dozing off... And I blink. Next thing I know I doze off in seconds, my car drifts off the lane and hits the guard rail, and everyone wakes up and starts screaming. I brake, the car swerves and spins, and somehow ends up parked on the side of the highway, out of harms way. \n\nThis is bad enough, but even worse because I literally just got this car back (someone rear-ended me last month going to school) and my mom was pestering me the entire time asking if I was tired - and of course I declined. Well... Shit.", "summary": "Fell asleep in seconds and fucked up my car during a long trip. Riding the bus for the rest of the school year fa sho."}
{"id": "t3_3r2z95", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] My dog can't keep his mouth shut and keeps biting me.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI adopted a now 4 month-old (Newfoundland mix) huge puppy about 4 weeks ago. At first he was behaving he only had trouble understanding the concept of walking on a leash. But recently he seems to be out of control. Digging and stealing stuff I can deal with because all my dogs did this when they were young. My main concern is his biting.\n\nI know he's a puppy and all puppies go through the mouthing phase but he seems more..aggressive in a way. As soon as he notices me he just jumps on me and bites my legs/arms and recently he goes for the face. Now I've never tolerated him even touching his teeth against human skin. I taught my old Pumi the same way and he still takes treats from my hand with surgical precision. But the puppy just doesn't learn. Even when he is behaving and sits still and I pet him as a reward he sometimes just jumps up and bites my chest usually going for the face or the neck. \n\nAny advice on how to teach him more effectively? All the advice I get from people around me is to just slap his nose when he bites but isn't that just encouraging the fighting/more aggressive playing? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "4 months old big puppy keeps jumping on people and biting them. Legs, arms, torso, even goes for the head sometimes.*"}
{"id": "t3_2zst8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I hate it when my partner leaves to visit her best friend.", "post": "My Girlfriend  (f23)  of 3 1/2 years goes away to her friends house every now and then. She has gone away and done some stupid stuff in the past so I'm always a little nervous. When she does go away she hardly messages me and when I call and she actually answers she gets frustrated and hardly talks to me.\n\nI don't trust her best friend and it this only ever happens when she goes to her house. I hate it so much. Her friend is a really bad influence and doesn't care about me (m23) or our relationship and if she had it her way, she would get my gf to leave me and live with her forever. \n\nI don't know how to deal with this.\n\nAny thoughts?", "summary": "My gf goes to her best friends house and ignores me every time and I can't handle it."}
{"id": "t3_lgaie", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend (who I live with) has gone fucking crazy \u2013 what should I do?", "post": "Hi reddit, \n\nHere's some background for you: I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years, and lived with her for 3 of those 5 years. We both split rent and utilites, and both have many belongings in our house. We also have two cats together.\n\nOver the past couple of years she has became more and more unstable. I think she has some deep emotional problems from abuse she received as a child. The past couple of years has just becomes more and more irate anytime we have a fight. She has got to the point where she is using violence in fights via hitting, punching, scratching, pulling my hair etc. She continues to do this because she knows I will not hit her back. Her knuckles are bruised from punching me from a fight we had a couple of days ago.\n\nSo, I come to you asking what I should do? The obvious is break up with her, but our lives are so intertwined from living together that it would be a last resort for the time being. Is there anything easier?", "summary": "my girlfriend has gone insane, assaulted me many times, and we live together. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1z23rs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(17m) In need of a little bit of advice", "post": "I guess this goes here.  So I started working with this girl (20yo) a while back, sure I thought she was cute but I never really thought upon acting on it. (A little bit of a backstory on the girl, she just got out of a 2 year relationship, they are still an on again off again thing.)  We became pretty good friends inside work, never really talked outside of work.  But one night she texted me, and we've just been talking for a week or so now.  She started out acting really really flirty, like \"I wish I could cuddle with you right now.\" or \"You're really cute.\"  And I flirted back.  Things were going great.  But this is where things started getting sketchy.  She told me that she wanted to be with me, but she also still wants to be with her ex.  I'm thinking; \"that's understandable, they just got out of a serious relationship.  She'll get over him and I might one day get a chance to be with her.\"  But for the past two days she's been acting distant.  Every time I flirt with her, she kind of just shrugs it off.  She's taking 15-20 to reply to any message I send.  I'm not a dumb guy, I can take a hint.  But she still acts like she wants to be with me.  I've fallen for her really hard, and I'm afraid that she's going to get back with her ex and forget about me.  I just don't know what to do.\n\nSorry if my grammar is screwed up, I'm running on like 2 hours of sleep.", "summary": "Started flirting with a girl who just got out of a serious relationship.  A few days later she starts acting weird, she seems really distant.  Don't know what to do because I'm afraid she'll go back to her ex."}
{"id": "t3_2rb843", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 F] Been living with my sister [23F] for almost a year. I want to live by myself, she wants to continue living with me.", "post": "My sister wants to share an apartment with me because there are no good single person apartments to find where we live. The prices are sky high, and the only option is to find a student dorm or find roomates. She prefers living with me to avoid dorms and roomates and still get a nice apartment.\n\nBut personally, I want to live alone at some point. I don't mind dorms, and there are plenty of them here. The problem is that if I move out she'll end up in a situation she's not happy with. We have furniture, she has stuff from before. If we were to move separately, we don't have any where to put all that stuff. But I have never lived on my own, and it's something I wanted to do. I went from living with my family to living with family again, I don't feel like an independent person.\n\nAm I being selfish? I could really use some thoughts around this.", "summary": "Sister wants to live with me, I want to live alone. Moving separately would cause complications. Not satisfied."}
{"id": "t3_oss7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help, Reddit. I was mugged and I'm having a really hard time coping with what happened.", "post": "Last weekend a friend of mine and I were walking down a deserted street in a large city after a night at the bars. Two strangers approached us and before I knew what was happening I was on the ground getting kicked and beaten. I came to covered in blood. My iPod, camera, watch and cash were all missing from my pockets. My friend came back (he was able to run away from the muggers) and we both made it home safely later that night.\n\nSince then, I've been replaying the incident constantly in my mind. I can't seem to think about anything else. What bothers me isn't the fact that I lost my possessions, what bothers me is that I lost my sense of safety and security. I feel very depressed. I want to just lay in bed and not do anything. In fact, that's what I'm doing right now.\n\nWhat I want more than anything, though, is someone to talk to. I'm in a new city and I don't really have any friends here. Can anyone give me any advice on how to deal with this?", "summary": "I was physically assaulted and robbed and I need help dealing with what happened."}
{"id": "t3_4ibr01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my roommate [21 F] of 2 years, we are supposed to hang out on Mother's day and her mom passed away. What is something nice I could do for her that isn't too over the top or that wouldn't backfire and make her more sad?", "post": "Hi Reddit! My roommate \"Jackie\" and I are supposed to hang out tomorrow on Mother's Day because I don't talk to my mother and her mother passed away when she was younger.\n\nJackie is away for the night and I really want to do something nice for her so that she has a good day tomorrow and either commemorates or keeps her mind off of not having a mom to celebrate with. \n\nI have never lost a family member and so I am not sure what would be inappropriate or over the top but I do want to do something so any suggestions would be super helpful!\n\n I don't have a lot of money right now but I would really love suggestions of things that are inexpensive or that you would like if you were missing a parent on Mother's/Father's day.", "summary": "Roommate's mother passed away when she was younger and she and I are spending time together tomorrow on Mother's day and I want to know how to help make the day feel special and memorable for her."}
{"id": "t3_yg8ay", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how have you unintentionally ruined someone's life?", "post": "In my first year of college I started hooking up with this girl for about a year off and on. She never wanted a relationship though and it turned out she had a boyfriend at the time. Well he found out and apparently this destroyed him. He dropped out of college started doing drugs etc. Fast forward a couple years and I am starting to manage properties and recently acquired a new property who's previous owner was charging very low rents. So I raised them to a more competitive rate and one tenant refused. He begged me to let him stay but after his lease ended I told him to either pay the higher rent or leave. I ended up having to evict him. It was the same guy.", "summary": "I slept with a guys gf and then evicted him from his apartment unintentionally."}
{"id": "t3_4qljcs", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Engagement announcements! What makes sense?", "post": "First off, let me just say it is GREAT to be able to join you all finally instead of just lurking and wishing! FH surprised me with a proposal on our vacation and I could not be happier- we've been together for quite some time so I knew it was coming theoretically, I just didn't know when!\n\nNow that it's happened, we've been considering engagement announcements. We're interested in doing this for two reasons:\n\n1) I have a great deal of family that I can't let know due to my lack of social media. \n\n2) We are considering an engagement party. Well..my mother is. She wants us to have one, thrown by her. It's a very sweet thing, but a complete other story. \n\n3) FH and I have agreed that the actual wedding is waaaaaaaaay off in the future, by at least 3 years. He's finishing up his PhD, were trying to pay off my student loans as quickly as possible, I've just really started my career and he's waiting to truly begin his. We've knocked around the idea of getting civilly married soon (for financial reasons) and having the wedding later, but that's still up in the air. **If anyone has experience doing this, I'd also be happy to know about it :)**\n\nMy question to you all is what makes sense? In this amalgam of mad thought, what's your seasoned advice on how we should proceed? What should I be taking into consideration?\n\nI'm sorry for the super lengthy post, I'm really starting from the ground up here! If you've gotten this far, thank you for even taking the time to read!!", "summary": "views on engagement announcements when wedding is far off? Views on civil marriage years before actual wedding? Anything anyone wants to offer up is grossly appreciated!***"}
{"id": "t3_4sdkjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25f] what's the best way to ask a date [25m] about their thoughts on marriage", "post": "im in a phase of life where I'm ready for long term commitment and marriage. I don't want to waste time dating someone for a few months, and getting invested, then finding out they're not intrrested in marriage in the near future.\n\nWhat's the best way to mention marriage? Ideally I'd like to know within the first 2-3 dates. Obviously, I'm concerned because I don't want the person I'm dating to think I want to get married to THEM specifically. I just want to find a way to see if they're in a stage in life where this is something they're specifically looking for. \n\nOnce I know, and only then, I'd be interested in dating them to see if we might be a good fit. Tact is not something I'm very good at, so I'd love advice on how to tactfully bring this up. Advice please?", "summary": "Whats the best way to mention marriage early on in the dating phase?"}
{"id": "t3_2ef1p4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dislocating the wifey's shoulder via doggy-style", "post": "This happened last night.  Doing this on my phone because too afraid to ask the wife for the computer. Please excuse spelling, punctuation, format, etc. you bastards.\n\nAfter a night out drinking that was full of aggressive come ons, we get back to the house and start the quick strip. I, like the alpha male I am(pretended, but this is the interweb, I'm huge and muscular), threw her onto the bed and let out some primal grunts, alluding to the fact that shit was about to go down, hard. We start everything off, but when I try to dominate even harder, that's when I heard her shriek. I put her arms behind her back a la handcuff style, and at first smirk because yay I hurt her with my dong! Only then do I get donkey-kicked and she turns around to display a fucked up shoulder. I'm not a doctor, but even a dwarf could see that the gap between her shoulder and arm was just not meant to be. I realize this, and I guess as the adrenaline starts to kick in, and I get the spins. Toilet, too, far... and while she gets in front of me to head to the bathroom, a glorious projectile of beer and stomach innards lands all over her back and hair. Oh the names I was called... \n\nAfter I do my time on toilet, I google how to reset her shoulder, pop it back in, and then try to jump in the shower with her. Nope. Off to the couch I went!", "summary": "try to place her hands together hand-cuff style, dislocate her shoulder, freak out and puke on her. Fun times."}
{"id": "t3_2kxbhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) like a girl (19f), don't know if she likes me back, confusing signals", "post": "Hey guys, I met a girl a few months back at a bar ( in a friendly way, not a pick up a girl way ) I helped her pay for her drink because she was low on money. I walked into her again at a different place ( we have a mutual friend that I don't know so well ). I added her on Facebook afterwards and we talk quite a bit, on and off, however if we talk we talk for like 3 hours, most of the time I start the conversation but she has in the past too, and she always seems enthusiastic about talking. Both of our personalities really gel well together, she makes me laugh and I make her laugh even though we don't know each other very well, I told her I liked her a month or so ago and said I hope that wasn't weird, she said it wasn't but hasn't reciprocated my feelings, but doesn't seem any less eager to talk. What should I do? Should I just bite the bullet and ask her out? I have only met her in person those 2 times so it might be strange? Thanks in advance people :)", "summary": "met a girl, said I liked her, she could be either way, we talk quite a lot, does she like me? Should I just ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_28xk9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(20) don't know how to tell F(20) I have cancer.", "post": "Dear r/relationships,\n\nJust a little bit of information, I've M(20) been dating my girlfriend F(20) for a little over a year now. We moved in together after six months, and the relationship is fantastic. We've discussed a long-term future and both of us agree that the relationship is headed in that direction.\n\nAfter finally admitting that I may have a serious problem, I went to the doctor after 2 months of blood in my stool and rectal bleeding that progressively got worse. I went in, did some tests, etc.\nA week later, I got a call from my doctor telling me to come in for some more tests as my blood work and some of the tests had shown some abnormalities. It turns out I have stage 4 colon cancer.\n\nMy girlfriend is spending the summer with her family 4,000 miles away. I know I have to tell her, but I'm unsure how to go about it as at the beginning of the summer she made it very clear that this time she would be spending with them was very important as she doesn't get to see them very much, so if our contact wasn't as much as usual, I shouldn't be alarmed. She is also working quite a bit to be able to pay for her bills in the fall. It is because of both of those reasons that I'm unsure how to fill her in on my situation.\n\nThrowaway for obvious reasons, she's a redditor too.", "summary": "I've got cancer, need to tell my girl but don't want to ruin her an important time for her."}
{"id": "t3_44i69x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom refuses to talk to me because I compared Jesus Christ to Santa.", "post": "I have no kids, but I sometimes pick up my 15-year-old niece from soccer practice. Erin and I are very close, in age and emotionally. We have hung out together a lot. She is only 4 years younger than me. \n\nI am 19, going on 20. I am also female if that helps. Not sure if it does. \n\nMy family is all religious, to the point where it seems almost like a mental illness. Jesus is everywhere. Erin and I are agnostic and do not agree. \n\nWhile I was in the car, my Mom (56f) called Erin, then texted her a shopping list. I told Erin a joke my boyfriend told me about Jesus being like Santa. It was pretty much: \n\n*How is Jesus like Santa?* \n\n*They both watch you when you sleep and have an obsession with Children.* \n\nIt was super stupid. Erin sent the joke to her friend Arlyn (18f). Arlyn and Auntie are right next to one another and she accidentally sent it to my mom. When my mom called in a fit, I said I told Erin the joke. \n\nThat was three weeks ago and my Mom has not spoken to me or Erin. She says we are going to hell, we might as well be f*ggots. I don't live with my mom, I don't take money from her. My dad pays for some stuff, but he doesn't talk to my mom at all. They are not divorced, but they are also not living like a married couple. He said this is the reason he left and works out of state. \n\nI am just not sure what to do. I love my Mom very much, but my sister (39) and her husband (42) have said I am a bad person. They have not forbidden Erin from seeing me, but she says she got a few talks about not being like me. She laughed about it when they were gone and says she could care less. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Told my cousin a stupid joke and she accidentally sent it to my mom. Now my mom won't talk to me and my family is mad. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1u9z1g", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Thoughts on my weight loss?", "post": "Hi Guys, Here is my back story -\n\nI've [female, 18] had a long journey with weight loss (most of it isn't great) I left high school (2011) at 11 stone and just before I started college I got down to 10 stone. During college I ended up around the 12 stone mark (up and downing between 12 and 11) \n\nI'm now at Univeristy and about a month ago I was at my highest ever weight, 13 stone 12lbs. During Christmas break I've noticed I've gone down to 12 stone 11 lbs which is a bit scary because I'm not sure it's normal to lose that much weight in a month.\n\nI have started dieting but not much seeing as it was Christmas. I've been eating a lot of pork and vegetables and trying to cut down on sugars such as fizzy pop and chocolate which is easy when I'm at home but I'm afraid when I go back to University I'm going to eat too many takeaways and things. \n\nI've always found that diet and controlling my calories works better than exercise for me, when I first lost weight I was on the slim-fast diet which despite being highly criticized worked really well for me however when I got down to the weight I wanted I just ate it all back on again, but to be fair I didn't really try to keep the weight off.", "summary": "I've had a rocky road with weight loss but found diet and controlling my calories is the best way to lose weight (for me!) Lost 1 stone in 1 month eating healthily and exercising."}
{"id": "t3_2qlah4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 m] need help", "post": "I don't know what to do. I feel like while I'm good looking I can never find any one who cares enough to get to know me for me. I have 5 best friends that are girls, I had a thing with one, but she always said she doesn't know what to feel so I stopped talking to her. I guess my biggest issue is when I talk to girls I get to know them and they get to know me and we do   stuff.\n\nI'm just tired of this high school bull shit, I just want someone to love. Someone to cuddle without having sex, without thinking that sex makes are relationship serious, I mean I just want a girl who doesn't think that all guys want is sex. I need help finding the kind of girl whose beauty lies within and not only on the outside, a girl i can give flowers to randomly and she'll realize how special she is, a girl I can lay on my roof with and look up at the stars and fall asleep on each other. I guess I really just wanna know how to find great girls who want those amazing relationships and I need help find myself a bit.t", "summary": "I really need help in being able to better my relationship and finding myself so I can truly give all of myself to my eventual significant other"}
{"id": "t3_2z9q1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/F] don't know if I should completely cut ties with my [25/F] friend", "post": "Me and my friend Kels have been friends for a couple of years now due to working together. She is very easy to get on with at first and I was putting this down to her just being one of those people however I've come to realise she's one of the most immature people I have ever come across despite having a four-year-old son. \n\nShe has a drama with every single boy she dates and has the tendency to lie quite a lot, e.g. her and her (now ex) boyfriend were fighting the other day so she checked herself in at the airport to get attention. A couple of weeks ago she was asking to go out for drinks on a Saturday night because \"she was going away for four weeks\", I knew this was a lie and said I couldn't make it then asked where she was going and didn't get a reply to the question. \n\nI've personally found myself in the middle of a drama with a different ex-boyfriend as well as being dragged into arguments she has with other people, she spends all her mum's money (she doesn't have a job), and her child is a spoilt brat. I know that's a horrible thing to say about a four-year-old but I'm talking screaming and swearing at people in public, hitting other children because he doesn't interact with any and overall having a horrible attitude. Of course, although I've been present through all of these I feel it's not my place to bring it up.\n\nThe friendship we have exhausts me and has gotten to the point where it bores me because I've heard it all before. I don't like blatant liars and I've just seen too much of it, but a part of me does feel really bad for her and I'm conflicted to whether to stay a friend or just leave it.", "summary": "Friend acts immature and lies all of the time but still feel bad for her, don't know if I should just cut her off or keep being her friend despite being bored of it all."}
{"id": "t3_2psrci", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to a girl by the end of the semester and being accused of stalking her...", "post": "Ok she didn't really said I stalk her, more like made her uncomfortable, anyway this happen yesterday but it made sense to put it here. \n\nSo a little about me, I have bad memory, so if I see someone I tend to stare to think if it's them(I know red flag but I'm working on it!!)\nAlright it all started on my last day of class(college) it was the beginning of class and I see this girl, who I talk to at the start of the semester and haven't talk to her since until the end of it, we talk about the exam, study and star wars. At time I talk to her she doesn't listen so I have to repeat it, then I was at the mall and saw her, I didn't know if it was her so I was wondering if it was, I guess I was staring for a little too long, I said hi but she didn't here me, for some reason I try again and she said hi but jump a little, that should have been a warning for me but I'm a guy so I don't get things about girls. Now it's the last day and we are about to take the last exam, I see her, said hi, then got ready to take the test but she wanted to talk to me outside. I listen to her saying I made her uncomfortable, stare at her and she wants me to stop talking to her... Which doesn't bother me but who says that when we are about to take a test which includes: not talking and after we are done we leave... Oh and I was tired and a lot of bs things happen, so this push me in the edge. After I was done I talk to the teacher, ask the things she told me to him, and the last thing I said was \"I been told I stare at people\" very loudly then I left...after sleeping and getting my sanity back I realized what I done, I only hope I don't have class with her next year.", "summary": "try to be nice, came off creepy and now I might get accused of stalking next year...."}
{"id": "t3_2r66ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] found very strange texts on my stepmother's phone from some number [38 F]", "post": "I'm really not sure if this is the right place to post this, and I apologize to the mods if it is not.\n\nMy step mother and father have been living together for around seventeen years now and they are a happy couple. I'll just jump right into it.\n\nMy step mother has been very secretive with phone calls recently. Once, I answered her cell phone to tell the person (Was just a phone number, no ID or contact info) that she would be right there. She ran out from where ever she was and snatched the phone out of my hands and hung up as fast as she could. I didn't really question it. But she is always on our deck alone when my father is taking a shower or watching TV etc. while she does whatever she does on her phone.\n\nToday, I lost my phone in my room somewhere so I borrowed her phone to call it. I accidentally clicked her messages instead of the call button at first, and there was a message from again, just a phone number. I don't remember it exactly, but it had something along the lines of \"hey baby ur so sexy i love u to death\"\n\nI don't really know what to say about it to be honest. I want to approach her about this but I have no idea how to. I've also copied down the phone number to call this mystery person on my own time, but I have no idea how to get them to tell me who they are on the phone. I obviously cannot come out and say that I am her stepson.\n\nAgain, I'm truly sorry if this is the wrong place to put this, but I'm very distraught about this, and any help at all would be extremely welcoming. Thank you so much.", "summary": "Dunno if my stepmom is cheating, strange texts, want to find a way to bring it up to her and find out who this random guy is."}
{"id": "t3_zrgwc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Weight loss champions of reddit, What are your secrets for being so successful?", "post": "Over the past few months I have seen before and after photos of redditors that have lost so much weight in such a short amount of time. Like 100 lbs in a year. Im asking for your secrets or tips because  I am trying to lose  15 lbs and seem to be having the hardest time. Im on a high protein/low carb diet. Taking daily vitamins and supplements, protein shakes, doing p90x and doing cardio daily. I had done the first 30 days of p90x before hurting my leg and having to take about 3 weeks off. Over that period I lost about 5 lbs but it instantly came back while I was recovering.\nSo im starting over and im wondering if you have any secrets or tips to lose this last bit of weight. im currently 5'8 168lbs id like to be about 150. \nI also ask because I feel there may be other redditors who would like to see the same results!", "summary": "trying to lose weight looking for things to try that worked for others and new recipes"}
{"id": "t3_2u10ki", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU eating sour keys", "post": "Little backstory: my pops knows I smoke pot, and has been cool with it for roughly 5 years now.\n\nLast night I was preparing for my midterm this morning, studying and smoking bowls and eating sour keys. I pulled an all higher and managed to answer every question on the test. So all is well on my commute home, until I get to my house and put my key in the door.\n\nMy dad was sitting at the table with a bag of weed and what appeared to be a bag of cocaine, had printed rehab documents in front of him, and a bunch of used tissues and all he said he was disappointed in me.\n\nI explained to him the bag of what he thinks is cocaine was actually the remaining sugar from the sour keys, and I am currently awaiting a drug test.", "summary": "Studied high while munching sour keys, dad thought sugar was cocaine, awaiting drug test."}
{"id": "t3_rdepi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Plan of action for becoming friends with an ex", "post": "We broke up about 9 months ago, and it wasn't pretty. She was sleeping around on me, and I drunkenly spilled all the beans on her exploits to our shared group of friends. Since then she, hasn't spoken any words to me outside of when we talk to our friends e.g Shared Facebook page and a Tinychat room. I tried to patch things up about 2 months ago by ask if she wanted to hang out some time. She said that while she fine with being civil in our group of friends, she didn't want to go back to us hanging out. \n\nSome background. We dated for just shy of 18 months. She cheated on me a few times, I tried to move past not trusting her in that regard, but couldn't, and it affected how I treated her. I wasn't abusive or anything, but I did stop being romantic and trying as hard. \nIt took me a while to get over her, as she was my first girlfriend, but I finally managed to move past it and start seeing someone new. I decided that I missed my ex as a friend.\n\nWhy I'm deciding to act now. This past weekend, I saw yet another two of my friends get married. The ex was at the wedding, as were a few of our shared mutual friends, who were staying with my ex while they were in town for the wedding. I never got to hang with any of them while they were here outside of the wedding, and I feel like I've missed out, since I don't get to see them often anyway. I would like to be able to visit with my friends when they come into town, and be around my ex without it being awkward. \n\nAt the wedding, I was really quiet around my ex for the first hour or so, then gradually opened up over the next few. We even had some laughs between us, and I felt like there might be the possibility of patching things up. Should I go for trying to ask her for forgiveness, and attempt to be friends again?\nFor info, she is 23, I'm 21", "summary": "Wedding of friends makes me want to try and reconnect with my ex, seeing as how when our mutual friends come to visit, they always stay with her, and I'm not really wanted over there by her. I also miss her company, as evidence when we had a good time at the wedding together."}
{"id": "t3_226te8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend's [26F] girlfriend [21F] tried to get me [24M] to have sex with her. I told my best friend. I no longer have a best friend.", "post": "Best friend is a lesbian. Her girlfriend is bisexual. \n\nHer girlfriend texted me the other day, and started what appeared to be a casual conversation. It turned real ugly after that. She started going into really explicit detail about \"what she would do to a guy who looked like you,\" verbatim. \n\nI flat out didn't respond to that. Then it got a little creepy. She started telling me that she was touching herself thinking about me, and ended up sending me a, er, picture of it. \n\nI told her that she needs to stop, and that this was really fucking inappropriate, and that I'm her girlfriend's best friend. She said, \"so?\" so I went off and started calling her disgusting, and a piece of shit and things like that. \n\n**ANYWAY**, the conversation ended off with me telling her not to contact me, and that I would be showing my friend the conversation. \n\nI guess I didn't get there fast enough, because my best friend called me crying and screaming. Apparently, her girlfriend sent her a fake conversation between her and I. I get to my friend's house, and try to show her the conversation, but she's not having it. She took a two second look at my phone, said they were fake, and kicked me out.\n\nShe's now blocked me on everything.\n\nI apologize for how quick this story was written in its tone, but that's how quickly it happened. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend.", "summary": "My friend's girlfriend nuked my friendship. This entire thing is going to end up splitting us all up. Everything is out of control, and now the fucking police is involved."}
{"id": "t3_1m6wrw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Cramped and stressing a few days ahead of a half!", "post": "Hi there, I've been training hard for my second half marathon, thanks to some great tips I've got from here. On Saturday I shaved over a minute off my 5k PB and had a decent longish (9.5 miles) run on the Sunday. All felt good after these. I went to karate training on Monday, and worked hard, and felt a bit of cramp or possibly strain in either my Achilles or calf (not totally sure which), so I eased off. Today (Wednesday) I went out for an easy run, thinking 4 miles, to keep everything moving ahead of Sunday, and after about 1/2 a mile I was in a lot of pain from the same area. It seemed to spread across the front of my shin and all the way through my lower leg. I managed a very slow 3 miles, and it did ease a little, but I'm still feeling it.\n\nSome other factors that might come into it; I didn't manage to eat at all well today, with a hectic day at work, and I know that can affect cramping. \n\nSorry for the wall of text, basically, I hope I can get some advice on how to treat this, to get myself healthy for Sunday. I'm going to hop in a nice hot bath and soak it, then ice it later.", "summary": "Calf/achilles hurting a lot 1/2 a mile in. 1/2 marathon on Sunday. HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_2yhxuu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) need advice about not living with my boyfriend (27M) anymore. Help?", "post": "Hi! This is my first post in reddit and I need some advice. My bf and I have been together for 6 months. We rushed into living together because for 2 months we were spending every night together anyway so we decided to take the plunge. Obviously, it wasn't the best decision. We both made a mutual decision to not live together anymore and he moved last weekend into his own apartment and out of my house. He is a great guy and we both love each other . We are still seeing each other every day and it's been okay except I am really struggling with the change. I keep feeling like we are back tracking and it's strange not having him there every night even though we still stay the night about every other night. Has anyone else been through this ? Is it possible to make it work If we've already lived together ?", "summary": "me and my boyfriend decided to live seperately after living together for 4 months. Can we make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_gtkeg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got injured at a shop, what happens?", "post": "So the other day I was walking around DickSmith (Australian electronics store) when there was a very sharp piece of metal protruding from one of their shelves. As I walked past it it clipped my arm and left a great big gash across my arm. \n\nI told the manager and he went to get the first aid kit but he didn't have the right stuff so I had to go to my own work to get first aid for myself. I see the manager again and he just writes down my details and what happened. Not once was I apologised to and I have not heard back from the company like he promised I would.\n\nI photographed my injury just in case I needed it. It is a very large gash but did not require stitches. What is the correct course of action for me to take and was I treated as per policy?", "summary": "= Cut my arm at a shop, manager was incompetent and unapologetic, what should I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_132suw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20F] wasting time and money in college studying premed and I [22M] hate seeing her going down a track towards failure", "post": "GF: 20F\nMe: 22M\nLength of relationship: 8 months\n\nMy girlfriend is currently studying biology and hoping to pursue a career medicine. I've been through the entire process so I know various paths to get there and what it really takes. I know what schools want, which is good grades, good mcat, clinical experience, etc. The problem is she doesn't seem motivated at all, her grades are not where they need to be, and she would, to put it simply, not get in to ANY medical school. I feel like she is wasting lots of money and four years of her life studying something that she won't ever use and pursuing a career that won't ever happen. (She can do if she really wanted to. I'm NOT saying she isn't capable because she is very smart) She also doesn't have a backup plan. I've done everything I can to help her out (I met her because I was her chemistry tutor). I've bought her a book about the admission process and given her so much support academically, emotionally, etc.. for the entire time I've known her and dated her.\n\nI love and care about her, but she doesn't seem to be receptive whenever I tell her in the nicest way possible that this track won't happen if she continues on the same path. I finally got enough courage the other day to tell her this.\n\nI've already tried talking to about it. I've told her many many times what she needs to do, but talking about it, at least in that way, doesn't seem to work.\n\nQUESTION:\n\nDo I watch the person I love fail and waste time and money, or do I somehow convince her to step it up or change goals?", "summary": "Girlfriend not going to get into med school unless she changes. Have tried to help because I don't want her to fail. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_17xlwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22M] moving in July and she [23F] doesn't seem like she wants to keep dating.", "post": "I'm in the military, so I don't really have a say in the move. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months, although we've known each other almost a year. For most of our relationship it's been really good, all rainbows and butterflies. But over the past month, especially the past week, it's gotten a lot more confusing. As we've gotten more serious this move has become a much bigger deal. I see three options, none of which is perfect.\n\n1. She moves with me. It's to Oklahoma though, so not exactly the kind of place she wants to go. Furthermore, getting a job would be really hard for her and she's afraid she would lose her friends and be unable to make new ones. As much as I like this idea I can't be so selfish to demand it, especially when we've only been dating such a short time. \n\n2. We try long distance. I would be about 8 hours away so it wouldn't be impossible to see each other, but still too long for every weekend. She has expressed the opinion that long distance relationships don't work, but that she'd try. I would be ok with this except for how pessimistic she seems about them.\n\n3. We break up in July and go our separate ways. I don't know why I list this as an option. This would suck, especially if we decided it now.\n\nThis past weekend it seems like she's just given up hope on the relationship. Looking for jobs there hasn't gone well and she's expressed a lot of doubts both with going and staying behind. I haven't exactly been a pillar of strength though because there is so much beyond my control and the prospect of losing her is terrifying to me. As of last night she won't say she loves me and seems increasingly distant. It's my guess that she's scared of opening up too much and then getting hurt, so she's closing herself off in preparation for what she thinks is inevitable. \n\nFuck...this sucks. I love her and I want to make it work, I just don't know how anymore...", "summary": "Moving away in about 6 months, girlfriend seems to think it's hopeless and is backing away. I want to make it work."}
{"id": "t3_45bp2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) am having a hard time with insecurity and doubting my boyfriend (29M) of 6 months when he says I'm the one.", "post": "Basically I feel like I'm always waiting for him to change his mind. I'm insecure when he says I'm the one because I just think of him saying this to other girls in the past (I don't know if he has).\n\nI struggle with the idea that relationships can end so easily. Putting so much into this and then him getting bored terrifies me. I find myself cycling between letting myself love him completely and being vulnerable vs bottling up and putting emotional distance between us. He knows I struggle with this but I haven't explained it quite like this to him. I'm afraid that it's something I shouldn't say. \n\nDoes anyone else have experience with this?", "summary": "I get scared and put up walls because I fear my relationship ending. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2fv5hv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [26/M] who just called it quits with a coworker I was dating [30/F]. How do I make the situation less awkward at work for her?", "post": "So we've been co workers for months and regularly see each other once a week. We dated for a month or so and constantly saw and spoke to each other. I realized, two weeks ago, that her priorities were just different from mine and that she was confused as to if she was even wanting a serious relationship. She was sending mixed signals to me, and although I wanted to pursue it, she ended up crying after a small argument, and said we'd be very good BFF's, just not romantically. She drove off immediately afterwards, taking with her any feelings I had left for her. The next day, she texts me saying she thinks we're better off friends, and I was right in thinking that she may not be ready nor focused on a relationship. She said she wants to date me. I agreed at that point to be friends, especially after the night before. She sends me a text a week later, drunk, saying that she misses me. I told her that we're better off being friends only.\n\nSo, back to work now, and we see each other. I'm okay talking to her and being casual (workplace relationships are very shunned upon) at work. She's been very skiddish and awkward at work since. And it makes sense and its obviously not easy.", "summary": "How can I make the breakup less awkward for her when we're at work? Should I just continue doing what I would normally do? Hi/Bye's? Or should I just leave her alone completely, and borderline ignore her (even though I don't want to come off rude/insensitive)? "}
{"id": "t3_11cg1v", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I have a pictureless, cat question to ask. 9 Lives cat food (one type) says it is for urniary health? As good as Purina urinary health?", "post": "So my vet suggested I buy my male cats Hill's Science diet or Diamond cat food to avoid kidney stones from happening again and I said I couldn't afford those so he suggested Purina One Urinary Tract Health instead which I have been buying at about $12 a bag. This bag usually lasts around a week or a little more. I *can* afford this but only barely and I recently found that 9 Lives makes a cat food that says it does the same thing. I was wondering if anyone knew if it was any good or not. This food will cost about $10 for a bag that would last through the month.\n\nAlso, I will be happy to post pictures of my cats if anyone wants to see them! :)\n\nNote: I got my cats when I had more money and have had them for years. I don't want to get rid of them just because of money troubles right now. I don't know if posting this makes a difference or not but rehoming them is a laaaaaaaaast resort for me and not what I wanted to talk about today.\n\nIf no one on here had any good suggestions or links I was gonna call the vet but they are always very busy and it would probably take a couple days to not get a busy signal from them. They are about a 30 minute drive from my house and I don't want to put the gas in to drive out there if it's not needed. I thought I would start here and see if anyone knew anything about it or had good suggestions! Thank you!", "summary": "Purina One urinary Tract cat food is spendy and 9 Lives has a cat food that says it does the same thing for less than half the price. Does it? Should I switch?"}
{"id": "t3_1xydh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [19/M] and I was wondering if this is considered inappropriate while flirting", "post": "I don't know anything about dating. At all. But I have some questions.\n\nLike today at the book store, I noticed a girl looking at books in the art section. I love art. I could have easily said, \"Hey, so you're into art? What kind of art do you do? I love art.\" That kind of deal. But I don't know about that. Is that rude? Is it rude to randomly question this stranger about what they like? It's a book store, people are there to read books, not talk. I don't know. What is wrong and what is right? Is it creepy to ask questions? Then once you ask, how do you go from there? \n\nAlso another chance hit me today. A woman in a different book store asked me if I needed help. I said no. But, I could have said \"Hey, I'm really into acrylic painting, do you have any art books?\" And she would show me where they are, and...I would say thank you? I guess I would be stuck. \n\nI was just basically wondering how flirting and dating work. Is it normal/okay to question people randomly? Like hey you're in my class, what do you think of the teacher? Or hey what do you think of this store, nice huh?\n\nI always thought people don't want to talk. Women don't want to talk to some random stranger. She is going about her own business, why should people be bugging her? Leave her alone, she doesn't want to talk. She is minding her own business and so should I. Those are my thoughts.\n\nJust need some clarity.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Is it okay to question strangers about something you might have in common?"}
{"id": "t3_ivih6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My dress strap snapped today...141 trying to change", "post": "Hey Loseit, I need some motivation for losing fat.\n\n I'm about 141 now, 5'4 and female. I see a lot of people on here, especially women, who get down to around 140 and look AMAZING. But they must be taller than me or something, because I went from 121 to 141 in a few months from overeating and stress, and I look and feel TERRIBLE. My body makes me feel depressed about buying clothes because my arms are so thick, and my stomach is so bloated it hurts to sit certain ways. I have went up from measurements 38 27 28 respectively to 41 31 32. I never was skinny and always hated my arms, but my stomach at least used to be flat. My chest has always made me feel like unless my clothes hugged my body, I'd look chubbier than I was from it pushing fabric out. Now I don't dare wear tight clothes because of the pads of fat om my stomach.\n\n My 12 year old sister called me fat the other day, and a friend from school told me i should embrace being \"thick\". My boyfriend and family have noticed the weight change, but they are very anti-diet and tell me I should \"accept\" myself, and push food on me whenever possible. My mother is the worst, though I do not live with her, when I visit a few times a week she will make fun of me for drinking water instead of milk, or make me feel guilty for eating the food she makes \"because didn't you say you weren't going to eat bad? pasta has carbs!\".\n\n I was feeling alright today in a new dress, when my chest and stomach area made the (albeit cheap plastic) strap ring break. I would like to start posting here about losing this fat, any advice for a newcomer? BTW I have an extreme weakness for dessert foods and alcohol...but I want to start biking tomorrow for exercise.", "summary": "na, you should probably either read it or just not, it's just me bitching. "}
{"id": "t3_2m7l9e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[M21] text her asking if she is free this weekend?", "post": "Ive been talking to this girl who lives about an hour away, we meet when she was with a friend at an event I was at in town. Anyway, we have been  on one \"date\" so far. It went REALLY well, she was very clearly into me, messaged me after the date saying she had a good time, has been snap chatting with me pretty regularly (she initiates it most of the time) \n\nEarlier this week I ask if she was free and she said she had to work, so I ask about the weekend. She said she had plans on Friday but didn't know if she was scheduled to work on Saturday. I told to let me know whenever she finds out. Since then we have snap chatted quite a bit with a little texting. However she hasn't mentioned anything about Saturday. Its Thursday, I know she said she had plans tomorrow, but since she seems to be giving me good signals, and showing interest should I text her and just kinda be like \"hey did you ever find out about Saturday\"", "summary": "Should I text her, or wait and see if she responds on her own?"}
{"id": "t3_y7hf5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom just sent me $3300. I can't in good conscience accept it when she's retired and has limited income and I make a pretty decent salary. Reddit, what can I do for her with this money that she would remember forever?", "post": "So about 4-5 years ago my mom helped out my sister and her husband purchase their first home. Not too long after, I decided it was time to buy my first home. My mom, at the time, didn't have enough money to help me out due to the economy and her investments tanking. I made it work and ended up buying a house anyway (that I'm still in). \n\nWe live about 3000 miles apart. I'm in the PNW and they (sister, mother) are in Eastern Canada. Fast forward to present day. I just received a letter (yeah, even she said it was unusual writing an ACTUAL letter these days) which included a $3300 check (USD). In the letter she also outlined how she's been having a hard time lately (property damage, friends passing away) but that after selling her house she finally had some money to help me out (something she said has been on her mind for the last 4-5 years). My dad also passed away several years ago and she hasn't dated anyone since. She's very lonely.\n\nReddit, I just can't in good conscience accept this money when I really don't NEED it. I make a decent living (though I hate my job) and have a steady stream of income. She has minimal funds, some investments and is retired. Soooo, I'd like to take this money and do something amazing for her. I was thinking of sending her to Hawaii, because she's never been but she also hasn't seen me in a few years. Perhaps I could fly out and visit her with the money and take her out to dinner every night? I know you guys can come up with something more spectacular than this. What great ideas do you have?", "summary": "What is something amazing I could do with $3300 that my mom would remember forever?"}
{"id": "t3_53rqur", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Ok, let's do this again...", "post": "I've always had weight issues as long as I can remember but some times it's down and others up. Tried Weight Watchers and other things but nothing stuck. May 2012 I went for a mountain bike ride and felt absolutely awful. 122kg. My wife had just started a new diet so I joined in.\n\nIt was the Dukan diet, low carb, low fat, it took a good deal of adjustment but by the end of 2012 I was down to 89kg. 4 years later and the weight has been creeping back on, I think mainly in the past year. I saw some photos of myself racing in my lycra a couple of weeks ago and was pretty disappointed and when I weighed myself again I was horrified that I was up to 108kg again, about double what I would have guessed I'd put on. Time to kill the carbs.\n\nI'm a week in, 1kg down even allowing for a friends exhibition opening party on the weekend and heading in the right direction.", "summary": "Lost 33kg, put 19 back on again, time to lose it again."}
{"id": "t3_2vnkeh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my girlfriend fat", "post": "So this happened last year in in my spanish class:\n\nI was sitting next to my girlfriend, it was towards the end of the day and I was quite bored when we started to discuss adjectives (this is spanish one), we have a quick lecture on them and then have to do a few questions and sentences using these adjectives, a few minutes in my girlfriend, we'll call her Sarah, ask me what the word heavy is in Spanish, I tell her it's Sarah. She immediately yells at me and doesn't talk to me for a week. \n\nA week or two later we break up.", "summary": "don't ever call out girlfriend fat"}
{"id": "t3_26dxa4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20M) Need advice on approaching a breakup with my (19F) after 1.5 years.", "post": "Okay, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years now, but I'm slowly been growing disconnected from the relationship over the past few months. We had a serious talk about 6 weeks ago about the growing distance and lack of communication between, which ended up with us breaking up for a day, but then getting back together after vowing to communicate more and put the relationship first, but that's not working out any longer. After the spring semester of classes ended, I stayed at school to take some classes and work, and she went home (4 hours away). I feel guilty for keeping quiet for so long, and have come to realize that perhaps the biggest reason we're together still is that I've been afraid of hurting her. Ultimately, that is going to come soon though, and I think I'll be attempting to do it with in the next week. I'm not sure whether or not I should do it this week via Skype/Facetime or wait 4 weeks until I go home (where we live 25 minutes apart) and do it in person though.\n\nWhat helped me decide what I really wanted to do, was writing a faux break-up letter, describing the reasons why I wanted to break up. I seriously don't think we are compatible enough to keep being in a long-term relationship with both of us happy, and our philosophies towards life differ too much to where it's  hard to relate with her on seemingly arbitrary things. Maybe one of this biggest reasons though, is that I just want to focus on myself for a while. I've recently been getting more disciplined and motivated after finding my passion for life, and have gotten tired of having to keep up with two different lives. I also feel like we've been distracted from each other most of the relationship, making up for the lack of a social and emotional connection, with things like going out to eat, Netflix, and a physical relationship.\n\nAny advice , insight or anecdotes on how to approach this break-up would be much appreciated. I know she has fallen for me a lot more than I did for her, because I was her first boyfriend and sexual partner, and while I know this will be an emotional break-up on both sides, I still feel like I'm being held back for caring for", "summary": "Have decided to end a 1.5 year relationship, not sure how to communicate the reasons for doing it, and whether or not to do it within the next couple of days over Skype/Facetime, or wait a month and do it in person."}
{"id": "t3_4wtujw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Wondering what my prospects are", "post": "I'm a recent college grad who thinks his life will turn to shit. All four years I had placed my effort into graduate school for occupational therapy. Hours, prerequisites, that sorta thing. Well in my stupidity I didn't do enough on the possibility of not getting in, and I think I have no future since I didn't get in.\n\nI have graduated with a social and behavioral sciences degree and psychology minor. Applied for multiple jobs on indeed and monster and just kept getting rejection after rejection, to downright silence. I worry I'll just be stuck in retail as a grocer for the rest of my life and feel I wasted four years for nothing and there is no prospects to go forward to.\n\nPart of me just wants to give up on everything and just stay numb in what I got stuck with and another part wants me to keep moving. Any tips on how to improve job searches. I'm being a fucking loser for graduating with a shit degree and limited experience relying entirely on a job option for a school that rejected me.", "summary": "fucked up my life and future. What to do about jobs to attempt to alleviate how much I've fucked up"}
{"id": "t3_2vdk2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M/F], am having problems finding people to talk to... can i get some advice", "post": "so i recently broke up with my ex who cheated on me with two friends i used to have and i have been trying to talk to people and i am currently interested in two. problem is im not sure if one is trying to not talk to me and the other is just awful at replying to text i have known her for 4 years and its always been this way. but other wise i have trouble meeting girls worthy of talking to. i have tried a lot. i get on social site, i talk to girls i didnt before at my school, and i try to get out and do a lot more and have joined more things in order to get more social and active. what am i doing wrong?", "summary": "trying to get talking to more girls tried a lot, nothings working"}
{"id": "t3_31o00g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (29M) call it quits with my ex (29F)", "post": "My ex was very flirtatious, whenever we went out. She'd have endless conversations with guys she'd just met to the exclusion of me. Moreover being a snoop, I looked through her phone. Nothing that screamed cheater, but text messages between her and guys that didn't add up. Particularly, it appeared portions of messages were missing. In one message, she mentioned my name. The guy she'd been texting responded with \"who???\" She also texted various male friends. Talked to my (now former) friend, whom I introduced to behind my back.\n\nI'm a person that admires people's mental attributes. I was head over hills in the beginning, but each misunderstanding would chip away at any feelings that I felt for her.\n\nI never caught her cheating \"red handed\". There have just been numerous red flags. Always being one to air on the side of caution, I try to verify my hunches with reality. It was finally verified. A really reliable person confirmed she cheated on me. I broke up with her thereafter. I've tried having conversations with her before about how I felt, but she usually just talked in circles, until I said stop, never getting to the root of the problem.\n\nMy ex is overly friendly. But she benefits me. I tried to be friends, she wasn't having it. So I beseech Reddit, how can I return to my ex,  with my manhood intact. I don't want to be known for going out w/ overly friendly girls, but apart of me likes her. I see no middle ground. I have too much self respect, to let her walk all over me, but also understand the benefits of having her around.\n\nBackground: I'm better looking than my ex. My ex has an average face. Decent Posterior. I think she has self esteem issues, that compel her to seek attention from random (sometimes ugly) guys. I have a better looking girl I'm talking to now.", "summary": "Reddit is there anyway I can be with my ex, while maintaining my  self respect."}
{"id": "t3_fajbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one event or action you thought was insignificant, but later realized it changed your life?", "post": "For me, drivers' ed not too long ago. There were only 3 other kids in my class, and 1 never showed up, so that leaves 2 other students just wanting to get a permit and get out. I can't remember the first girl's name, but the second girl - Sarah. I remember her name because I see her everyday. It started with having to go with her on driving practice (because the teacher was male and apparently there had to be another person in the vehicle to prevent rape or something), then eating lunch with her at actual school, and since she sat with all her friends, I was introduced to a new group of people I had only heard the names of, but never met. They are the most funny, smart, and nicest people to be around. I'm so glad that I took drivers' ed when I did. The ironic part is that after drivers' ed one day, I went to a friend's house. After getting to know Sarah and her friends (who became my friends as well), I no longer hang out with that one friend anymore. (I moved on basically, nothing like \"we're no longer friends\" ever happened, we just stopped hanging out.) I told her that if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't have the friends I have now, and that I'm thankful for her. I don't know if she truly understood the significance.", "summary": "I met a girl in drivers' ed, and from there I met her friends, some of whom became my best friends in the world. (Some of them are redditors!)"}
{"id": "t3_22o45p", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Gamestop has gone too far...", "post": "So I recently bought the entire Mass Effect trilogy from GameStop for a friends birthday. The day of such event it turns out he had already played all of them, so the most obvious thing to do would be to return the game set to GameStop. When I tried to make my refund, the store cashiers told me that because the new item was opened, it couldn't be returned for full price. I'd be okay with this, however I bought the game 'unopened'. And because of this could not get my $40 refund but instead a $10 used trade in. Also this would have been okay, if these rules were presented at the time of purchase, however they were not, leaving me oblivious. GameStop has genuinely scammed me of my earned money and has left me beyond angry! Is there anything I can do? Or is anyone out there willing to buy the Mass Effect trilogy for $30??", "summary": "GameStop scammed me out of $40 and I need a way to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_4s9sih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F/21) friend (M/33) says he is in love with me, the friendship has turned toxic.", "post": "Hi guys. \n\nTo expand on the title, I've known my friend for around a year. We first met when he began working at the same place I did. Initially, he asked me on a date, but I was going through a rough break-up and declined him. He was fine with it, and after that I saw no more indication that he was romantically interested. \n\nFast forward to March this year, he told me one night on a work's night out that he was in love with me. I thought he was drunk, but the next day he confirmed that he really was in love with me. \n\nNow I think he's an awesome guy, but I'm not romantically interested in him. I told him so, and he was upset but asked if we could stay friends. He said he wouldn't let it get between our friendship. I was skeptical but I knew we had to work together, so I said we could stay friends. \n\nHowever things have gone downhill since that day. He gets jealous if I go on a night out, thinking I'll meet guys and get their number. If I don't reply to him for a day or two, he kicks up a fuss, whenever I say I'm going out he asks who with, and often he gets drunk and starts sending me abusive texts. It's made life very awkward for me at work too, because we work together. \n\nLast night was the last straw. He booked a hotel for us without asking my permission, and said he's taking me away for the weekend. I said I didn't think that was a good idea and he should have asked first, he kicked off, got drunk and sent awful messages to me. \n\nI'm wondering, how do I stop this \"friendship\" when I work with him? He's starting to affect my life with his drama. I'm trying to keep it friendly because of work but after last night, I really feel fed up. \nAny suggestions of what to do?", "summary": "Friend at work told me he is in love with me. I didn't feel the same, he has turned abusive and jealous towards me. How do I put a stop to this?"}
{"id": "t3_34mnvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24M] with my SO[23F] broke my trust over something I think I had a right to be upset about.", "post": "Background :\n\nLet me start off by saying that we have been together 6 months and it's long distance so I don't get to see her to often(1 week in a month if im lucky). We officially met several months ago and decided to go ahead with a relationship as we liked each other a lot.\n\nProblem : \n\nWe have our issues like any couple and long distance just makes it harder as I cannot go round to see her. But recently I feel like she broke my trust in a severe way, I felt something was wrong and started noticing some symptoms and got checked. We had unprotected sex but she was on the pill and assured me she was clean and had gotten tested recently so I was fine with it. Well it turns out that is not the case and I got something from her. I have not had unprotected sex in a long time so had to have came from her and when I confronted her about I thought I had a right to be upset and annoyed. But she ends up shifting blame how its unfair to put this all on her and that she couldn't handle the negative criticism right now and suggested we go on a break.\n\nWhat to do:\n\nI mean this isn't normal right, I had a right to be upset I talked with her for 5 minutes about it calmly and asked where she could have gotten it and such and told her she promised me she was clean. Is it normal for people to do this? I mean I'm sitting here upset as she never got tested from last time she had unprotected sex and told me she did or worse cheated. So why am I in the wrong? Any help from anyone who has dealt with partners giving them something and how you handled it would be great.", "summary": "Girlfriend gave me an STI and was upset with me over it"}
{"id": "t3_3u0glm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] FWB with close friend [23F]...", "post": "I'm 23M she's 23F we've been friend and flirting for ever, we've known each other since we were both 12yo.  \n\nWe're close to each other, we have a circle of friends, we go out, play fight, we're very honest between each other, take care of each other, when drunk we're a little closer, etc.  \n\nI've been in a longterm relationship for a few years and broke up 6 months ago. She's never really had a boyfriend or done anything sexual, she's still a virgin.  \n\nWe talked for a bit and we learned that we're both sexually attracted to each other but want nothig serious.  \n\nSo here we are, she's really horny and wants to fuck. I'm more experienced, horny and want to fuck.  \n\nThe problem is that we've known each other for a long while and she's still virgin. I don't know how I feel about taking her virginity in a FWB relationship. \nShe must trust me if she feels like she's ready to lose it with me. I also don't want to lose her as a friend if the FWB doesn't work out.", "summary": "FWB with a close friend with no experience. Should I do it? Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_elfuz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I accidentally killed my roommates guinea pig with candy. Advice?", "post": "so one night i'm playing some magic cards and my buddy pulls out some mike and ikes. guinea pig starts squealing like he just pulled out a head of lettuce so, being curious, I offered a mike and ike to the guinea pig. the pig took one look at the mike and ike and ran away, I dropped the single ike into the cage with the intention of seeing if it goes after it. i leave the room\n\nroommate comes home and yells at me for putting the candy in the cage.\n\nnext day the guinea pig crawls under its food tray, lays down, and dies. my roommates tells me \"he nibbled on it\". \n\nI feel 100% responsible for its death, and my roommate hates me for it. This was a good friendship, I was planning on living with her for another year, but now I can't even look her in the eye. \n\nhow can i resolve this reddit? should i buy her a new guinea pig? of course i've apologized profusely... I don't know what else to do.\n\nalso if anyone has any veterinary experience, can a mike and ike really kill a guinea pig?", "summary": "i may have killed a guinea pig with a mike and ike. would really like to salvage my relationship with its owner."}
{"id": "t3_45ma0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] friend [24M] may have had drunk sex with my ex... I don't know what to do.", "post": "* Couldn't use certain words due to being flagged.\n\nMy ex girlfriend, Rachael and I broke up about three months ago. We still talk occasionally and support each other. We are still good friends just not in a place to be in a relationship. \n\nWell last weekend she went out with a few of my friends. I had no idea and later a friend of mine, Sam, came home saying he slept with Rachael. I texted her pretty pissed off saying some horrible things. She responds in the morning telling me she has no idea what I'm talking about and that she's pretty sure she went home alone.\n\nTwo nights ago, Sam mentions sleeping with Rachael in front of our entire friend group and I instantly am bothered by it. I send her a quick text mentioning the incident and she sends back nothing but a screenshot from Sam saying he had to carry her into the cab and that she was playing hard to get. Also, Sam told me that Rachael kept calling him my name during sex. \n\nAll of my friends are saying it was just drunk sex but after seeing the texts, I'm convinced it's not. I have no idea what to do. Whether or not to confront Sam. How to support Rachael, she's sent up a counseling appointment already. Sam and I share a mutual friend group and it's going to cause a huge stir but I will not be friends with Sam after this incident anyways.", "summary": "A \"friend\" of mine had sex with my incoherent ex and I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_134y72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend[F48] i no longer comfortable with hosting me[F32] and my BF[M28] when we are in town because my BF will be in the apartment without me.", "post": "Ok I have known my friend for 10 years and we are very close.I bring my BF(of 4 years) and child(M2) to town and we plan to spend the weekend. She offers we can spend the night. Great. We are both supposed to go to a party friday with a mutual friend. My BF wants to hang out with his own friends and not go to the party. Next day he will probably be hang over and needs to rest. \n\nShe then asks, \"let me get this straight? Is he gonna be in the apartment without you?\" She feels weird about this. So I told her we find somewhere else to sleep, and I will see her at the party instead. She often sleeps here. I even hold her head while she was sick and she stayed here.\n\nBonus info: she have a BF and he recently moved into her apartment. He is supposedly ok with us staying. Everybody gets along fine other than this hiccup. \n\nAm I so pissed of how she treats me. Am I overreacting?", "summary": "my friend offers we can sleep in her apartment while we are in town. My BF is not allowed alone in the apartment while we stay there"}
{"id": "t3_4om0zz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 29F with my boyfriend 32M of one year, I want an open relationship. I don't know how to ask, and worried about a break up if I do.", "post": "Sorry if this comes off as rambling, I can't get my thoughts straight. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have known each other for over 10 years, we worked at the same company at first then he moved, then I moved. We both were in relationships, an we kinda lost contact. Then for the last two years we've been talking, and officially started dating. Next month is our official one year mark. \n\nI moved to his state to be with him, but his new job has him on the road at all times. He'll be home for a day or less every week. This schedule is hard enough as it is. Not to mention I love him, but his sex drive is very low. He's not home very often but even during his time home the chances of sex is 25%. I'm sure we went a month or two with no sex at all. He's just not providing the closeness that I need.\n\nI don't want a bunch of one night stands, this is honestly all hypothetical. I mean if I could find a guy that I could be FWB with no strings attached that would be great. We'd hang out, go see a movie, have sex, then go our separate ways. I'm just scared that asking him if he'd be open to an open relationship would be the end of us. I've seen it happen before on this sub. How do I even go about asking. If I did ask and he said no, I would completely respect that.", "summary": "I'm interested in an open relationship. I don't know how to start a conversation about it, an I'm worried even the conversation could lead to a break up."}
{"id": "t3_1hnojh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[30M] Almost 30 and no real relationship", "post": "Never really done this before \n\nSecond language and drunk so bear with me..\n\nI feel like a failure that i never have had a real relationship. My luck has been with foreign student at my univerisity, but find out they are gong home in like weeks. \n\nStudying to be a teacher but i feel lost in meeting girls, or my \"friends are hooking up with them before I even get a chance. that have happened several times. Thats why I'm writing now. Told a freind I was insterested in a girl but he is pretty much together with her now. Worst thing is I have to work with him the whole summer and live with her.\n\nI have a lot of friends but all of them has girlfriends/fiancee and i feel like shit that i havent been able to find someone.\nI've got social skills but I dont know how to get girls with them when I go out with them. It is hard to talk to girl when I am the only one single in the group.\n\nI've been working at a camping site for a long time during the summers but twice I've missed the oppurtunity by my best freinds baby brother. Maybe the main reason why I'm writing this now (I'm living with the girl and working with the brother)\n\nI have no idea how to meet girls when all of my friends are in a relationship-\n\nMy mom and my sister even thought i was gay till I told the I was not.", "summary": "Almost 30 and no luck with girls"}
{"id": "t3_1oxgc1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Big losses, and big gains", "post": "Sorry for using a throwaway, this is a little personal for my main account IMO.  So here's the deal. I am in my mid twenties, stand 6'3\" and weigh about 300 lbs.  I have used calorie counting, and have been very successful in the past.  In fact, I was down to about 270 lbs in June after dieting for 3 months, but lost motivation and put it all back on.\n\nYou might be wondering \"did this guy really lose 30 pounds in 3 months and then put it back on in 5 months? A 60 pound swing in 8 months? Is that possible?\"  Why yes, yes it is.  I fluctuate like no one I have ever seen before.  It seems like my body/metabolism/activity/diet naturally equalizes at 300.  I would like to be closer to 200 but my realistic goal is 240 (weight I was at 18).", "summary": "I know how to take it off, need help keeping it off."}
{"id": "t3_2vfrxs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my Bunsen burner on the blue flame.", "post": "So we had chemistry today, we were doing some crude oil cracking stuff. The teacher got me to hold the bunsen burner under the crude oil as he explained it all to the class and then he told me that was fine and it was heated enough.\n\nSo I put the bunsen burner down and left it on the blue flame (this is the one with the oxygen cap thingy open) instead of putting it to the safety flame, which is...safe.\n\nI then reached over to get some more crude oil, putting my arm straight through the flame which I had forgotten was there but instead of moving my hand away straight away due to the pain, I kept it in the flame for a good 5 seconds wondering wtf this pain was.\n\nAfter the class realised what I had done and all the girls screaming, boys laughing and teacher just wondering how the fuck I was so stupid I took my hand away and now first  degree burns on my inside fore arm...", "summary": "i put my hand in fire and watched myself burn"}
{"id": "t3_12bjj6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, over the past few years I have been trying to remember a song that from the early 2000's and couldn't figure it out. My friend just helped me find it and I was beyond disappointed. When have you built up something you had forgotten and been let down when you rediscovered it?", "post": "So all I knew was that it was a Caribbean style song that was a little popular in the US back in the early 2000's. I remembered seeing it as part of a late night commercial for some sort of \"Island Music\" compilation CD when I was a freshman in high school. I could picture the music video but couldn't remember the words or the beat. I had it built up in my mind as the best song of all time. Every few months I'd remember the song, search all over google for lists of compilations it might be on (I looked through like 30 of the \"Now\" CDs) all to no avail. Earlier today I thought of it again and even made a post on reddit asking for help but nobody saw it/could help. I started talking with a friend of mine tonight who loves Caribbean music and from my description that the video was \"a black guy in a white shirt dancing on the beach\" she was able to figure out it was \"No Letting Go\" by Wayne Wonder. I thought I was about to rediscover the greatest song ever recorded and was sorely disappointed.", "summary": "I spent years trying to remember a shitty song."}
{"id": "t3_4v1nxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help flirting - URGENT", "post": "I'm 20 y/o male. I'm across a bar and saw a beautiful girl enter there. I was staring (not too obvious, I hope) for a while until we made eye contact. She is sitting with three girlfriends. I kept watching, waiting, to make eye contact and we did, again! I was too afraid and I left. A few minutes ago I was outside the shop and she came out and stood close by but didn't say anything. \n\nThis is all my interpretation of what happened, I may be wrong. Regardless, my question is simple, how to flirt with this girl?\n\nI kind of scared, maybe terrified but I want to try. Cheers.", "summary": "saw a beautiful girl, want to flirt with her but not sure how and am afraid/shy."}
{"id": "t3_2p0hay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (23F) move things forward from casual sex to something more stable with him? (23M)", "post": "I (23F) have been seeing a guy(23M) for about 7 weeks, we have a lot in common, make each other laugh, see each other twice or so a week. We met online, and chatted for about a month before meeting. I have met his friends, and he has met mine, and we talk every day either by text or phone calls. We are both only sleeping with each other, and have recently decided (after both being tested) to stop with condoms as I am on the implant and its more spontaneous etc without. \n\nMy question is, how do I casually bring up that I would like a relationship, not just casual sex? My reading of the situation is that we both want more, but I dont know how to say it? I dont want to sound needy. Is 7 weeks to soon? Is there a good way to phrase it, without coming out and saying 'I want a boyfriend not a hook up'? My friends are just clouding the issue for me, as they say we are already a couple, we dont need to talk etc.", "summary": "How to I say I want to move on from casual sex, to a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1c8z9e", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I have a great job and no idea what I'm doing", "post": "Alright so I get thrown into this job by pure luck. I'm a pretty charming guy with good charisma which make me great with people so the owner of this company meets me and gives me a job as a sales leader. Except I've never done anything like this before. He says he wants to train me (obviously) before I go out and do my own thing but some crazy and unfortunate events happen within the company and my training gets put on hold. Fast forward a few months. Training is forgotten about and I'm just expected to succeed. I'm doing enough to get by and act like I know what's going on but I really don't. I have access to all of these great companies and people are pretty much throwing money at me but I don't know what to do with it. If anyone can give me some info on what to do in sales or marketing I would really appreciate it. Explain like I'm five. I want to be great at what I do. I want to be the guy in a small yet well known company that still responds to every customers complaints or praises. Help.", "summary": "Given a job as sales director, don't know how to direct sales"}
{"id": "t3_4jnq65", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MA]Car Insurance company threatening to take me to court", "post": "Back in February I had a few glasses of wine and managed to get into bad enough shape that driving home I flipped and totaled my car.  I wasn't charged with an OUI but I went to the hospital (hospital was in RI, no MA) and the medical records show I was over the legal limit.  My health insurance had already paid my medical bills and my car insurance already paid for the car.  I had opened a medical claim with my car insurance company but since health insurance took care of it I'm trying to cancel that claim.  This brings me to today.\n\nMy car insurance company is threatening to take me to court and give me an examination under oath if I don't give them my medical records. I don't think I need to give them my medical records and incriminate myself, do I?  They also can't really prove anything else.  I'd assume this is a case of them trying to scare or intimidate me into giving up my records after which they could jack up my rates, but I also don't want to take a chance.  I also can't really afford a lawyer to talk to about this or to go to court with so any advice is very much appreciated.  Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Got in an accident while intoxicated.  Medical record prove I was drunk and now my car insurance company is willing to take me to court if I don't give them my medical records."}
{"id": "t3_54gmec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) Ex-Coworker (26F) sent a cruel message- how to not let it stop me", "post": "Hi everyone! Usual disclaimer- long time lurker, first time poster. \n\nI work at a private medical practice, and have been there for a year. My coworker of 6 months recently put in her two weeks notice, and decided to stay for only one week instead (totally fine, her new opportunity started earlier than expected, it happens). We were also friends outside of work- we would occasionally grab drinks, text, etc. She chose to leave the practice because she found a better opportunity with more hours and a better location, and additionally because she and the physicians had different approaches that didn't work well together. I'm not sure if it matters, but I congratulated her and asked about her job and how great it will be for her to get the hours she wanted. \n\nThis sounds very stupid, but the other day we were discussing Vitamin C and its absorption in the body. I learned a cool fact about it in my nutrition class, and messaged her to tell her. I received a very nasty response, telling me that I always have to be right, and essentially that I'm immature, have little work experience, and will fail in my future career as a nurse because I don't relate well with people. \n\nMy issue is that, objectively, this isn't true, and I know that. I work with numerous  nurses who have given me glowing recommendations, I form positive relationships with patients, and I work incredibly hard to provide the best care possible and ensure that our patients are informed and up to date in their care. I obviously make mistakes, but I do my best to be kind to everyone and cover for my coworkers when needed (if they need to call out sick, answer questions, whatever). My question is- how do I not let this bother me? I'm obviously insecure about my experience due to my age, so her message really hit home. How do I continue to move forward in a positive, productive way, instead of letting my insecurities get the best of me?", "summary": "coworker sent me a vindictive message to hurt me, it worked. How do I pick myself up and trust my abilities?"}
{"id": "t3_eof0e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My younger brother tried to cause me physical harm, called me names, and broke several of my things because I got fed up with him making fun of me. I'm afraid he might be using.", "post": "For about a month or so, my brother has been acting ridiculously aloof and rude. He does all the normal rebellious teenager bullcrap, except he's already 16 and we've never had a problem with it before. Anyway, all of our Legacy and Classic consoles are kept in his room, so I've been in there playing Kingdom Hearts since I got back for break. Every time I was in there, he was at his computer playing world of warcraft, making cracks about how terrible my game (THAT HE'S NEVER EVEN PLAYED) is. Finally, last night, I started making fun of him back (Oh, so sorry that I play a game targeted at 10 year olds. A game played almost exlusively by 10 to 13 year olds, now that's what I should be playing) and I barely got the words out before he was in a freakin rage trying to punch my face (I'm female, 5 inches shorter than him, and was wearing glasses).    \nThis latest outburst, from which I have a torn tendon (not directly his fault, I just went into the fetal position too quickly) resulted in several broken game discs, the door to my armoire being ripped from one of its hinges, and I have yet to assess if any damage has come to my in-progress portable n64. He also called me several unsavory names as I was relaying what had just happened to my parents who were right there in the room. I'm afraid that this might have been caused by drug use. We thought it was finals stress but he's been done with them for a couple days and all his grades came back good. How can I know?", "summary": "My little brother went fucking apeshit on me last night, he'd been acting a little strange lately anyway, how do i find out if he's on drugs? Parents got mad at me when I suggested it might be drugs.***"}
{"id": "t3_1mj2wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[22] Numb.", "post": "What am I doing? Who do I want to be with? Do I want to be that guy that fucks random girls at the bars? Why can't I find the want for another woman?\n\nThese are the few questions that are running through my mind all day. I feel like my brain is going to explode but my heart has numbed me over. \n\nMy SO of 5 years left me in June stating that this what she wanted and what is best for us. I asked if it was someone else and was answered with no, but in the back of my mind I knew it was. Tears and rage filled my body to the point of not being able to eat and feeling sick to my stomach for weeks. \n\nFast forward three months until now. I hate her, I love her, I miss her, I despise her, I lust her, and I never want to see her again. The amount of growing I have done as an individual is honestly overwhelming and many of old friends and family members can see it. My time is consumed with being a volunteer, partying, studying, making new friends, surfing, working out, but there is something missing. Dating and talking to other girls feels like i'm cheating on someone or something is going wrong. All the while, she is dating the guy I knew she was talking with the past 4 months while we were together.\n\nMy body has a lack of love and sexual desire for anyone and it scares me. My independence is present at times but it also disperses rather quickly. \n\nWhat is wrong with me? Am I still in the grieving process or am I just not letting go?", "summary": "I have no sexual desire to meet new women after a 5 year relationship ended 3 months ago."}
{"id": "t3_12mzgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do for a killer mini-mancation with the chance to catch up", "post": "2 of my closest friends made a commitment when we were all going through significant transitions at the same time (one getting divorced, the other getting married, and me having a kid) to always make sure we were there for each other. In the past year we haven't seen each other as much but all remain close in spirit if nothing else. Last night at a party the three of us agreed we need to catch up without too much booze, mo women, and just check in (all are going through something. I'm having a second child, my other friend is officially divorced and freaked, and my other friend has had a few bumps in his still young marriage)\n\nWhere can we go, what can we do to just chill and catch up. We all surf and snow board, but we're thinking something a little different this time so we do plenty of each throughout the year.", "summary": "where can 3 guys go to bro out?"}
{"id": "t3_4n3lnc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm frustrated with my boyfriend.", "post": "I work long hours. Yesterday I worked 11,today I worked 12. Yay salary life. \n\nWhen I get home, nothing is ever done by him. We usually eat at 6, I got home at 7 and there was no effort on his part to make food. Not even a sandwich. The dog wasn't even fed yet. \n\nToday I had to stay 12 hours so I got out at 8. Our dog is under a bland diet right now so we have to only feed her chicken and rice. I get home and get told that she needs more rice. How hard is it to make plain white rice? I know for a fact he is capable of cooking rice. The dog also needs to take medicine and he couldn't even give her that. He gets home at 5 everyday, I really don't see what the excuse is. \n\nHe rarely does chores. The one chore he really \ndoes is take out the trash but sometimes the bags pile for two weeks. I refuse to do it, sometimes my sister does it even though I tell her not to because it's the only thing he does. \n\nIt's getting very frustrating. We have been together for 6 years and lived together 6 months. His mom is really religious so she calls me his wife even though we aren't married. This frustrates me, he knows that but hasn't told her anything. \n\nHe hasn't made any effort to get engaged. He said he'd get me a car instead, I said sure and he got himself a car I can't even drive (manual transmission). Which is fine, it's his money. But it just doesn't feel right for that being his closest effort at getting engaged and yet his mom can introduce me to others as his wife. I am NOT his wife. \n\nOh and apparently I'm the bad person for not wanting to have sex all the damn time.", "summary": "I do all the cooking and chores, bf is a mommy's boy. I'm very frustrated."}
{"id": "t3_29f0bh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my husband [31 M] do i love my husband or is it just friendship", "post": "I have been involved with my husband since i was 15 years old and our sex life has been struggling for about 10 yeas. We have gotten into many fights about how i never start sex he has too and how it takes so long for me to get wet. I know i can get really wet when turned on so it not that I'm dried up. Now for a long time there we just figured there was something wrong with me and just did not get sexually aroused. Now do to some resent events it has been proven that i can be sexually aroused and get sopping wet by another man. I never want us to fail, never thought i would be turned on by another man and have feeling for another man. \n\nTo keep a long store short while talking with my husband and only couple of people i am being told that i do not love my husband and that is why i am not sexually aroused be him and why sex is more like a chore. For a while now i knew i was not in love with my husband cause i no longer had that tunnel vision or butterfly feeling but i always thought i loved him on some level, more then just a friend.\n\nWhen i see my husband i see a strong, smart man, some one i trust my life with in any situation and the kind of man i want our son to become. i want him in my life and i can see us being together until, well, one of us dies LOL. now i am being told that what i feel is not love it is friend ship........PLEASE HELP ME FIGURE THIS OUT.", "summary": "how do i know if i love my husband or just see him as a friend"}
{"id": "t3_4m77i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15/F] came out as bisexual to my mother[37/F] and she asked me to agree not to date boys?", "post": "I'm just looking for some opinions on whether this seems normal or reasonable, I've never heard of it happening.\n\nSo basically my mom and I had a conversation the other day where she asked me if I was sexually active and if I needed her to take me to the doctor to get on birth control. \n\nI'm not sexually active yet, just a couple of makeouts, which I told her and I also admitted that it had happened with a guy at my school and also with a girl that I know.\n\nMy mom didn't have a problem with me telling her I was bi, but she said (paraphrasing slightly), \"If you like girls as much as boys, will you do me a favor and just stick to girls at least until you get out of high school? I know it's not fair to try to stop you from being sexually active, but I'd worry so much less if I knew there was no chance of you getting pregnant.\" \n\nI told her I'd think about it, but I want to know is that a weird request from her? At this point I'm not interested in anyone specific and I don't know who I'm going to meet and want to date, so I'm afraid to make any promises, but I also see her point and I'm not really against what she's asking. I'm just not sure if it's a weird thing to be thinking about at all.", "summary": "Came out as bisexual to my mother, she asked me to only date girls so she won't have to worry about me getting pregnant. Is that even okay for her to ask?"}
{"id": "t3_3buhwa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by feeding an Indian pork by accident", "post": "TIFU by feeding one of my former coworkers, who happens to be Indian, pork. This was a while ago but I thought you guys might get a kick out of it.\n\nSo this was at my previous job, and we were taking a break from work and chatting in the break room. One of my coworkers brought a bag of dried pork rinds (you know the stuff) and proceeded to share it with the rest of us. \n\nWe were talking and eating (about 4 of us) when one of my other coworkers (the Indian who is also a strict vegetarian) walks into the room. At that moment I've lost control of my intelligent brain and OFFER HIM THE BAG.\n\nHe takes out a few and munches on them, and we continue talking. Suddenly he goes, \"These are pretty good, what are they?\" \n\nAt this point I realize what I've done and whisper really quickly, \"they're made of pork\"\n\nHe goes absolutely white. Literally his face just freezes, and he is obviously super embarrassed. He leaves soon enough and the other coworkers just stare at me in silence.\n\nNot my best day.", "summary": "offered my vegetarian Indian coworker pork rinds and he ate them"}
{"id": "t3_4d7sa3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] of 3 months, she doesn't want to \"lie\" to my religious parents", "post": "Hey so I've been dating someone for a few months. To sum it up, she's a very honest person, and so am I. But to my parents I haven't been completely honest about girls and relationships. They are catholic and go to church nearly every weekend. They do not think someone should be sleeping in the same bed together before marriage and DEFINITELY no sex. \n\nMy parents have never asked me directly if ive had sex or done drugs. And they know I don't go to church. But I do go with them on christmas/easter.\n\nHowever, sometimes I go to visit my parents and bring my girlfriend along. There have been some times where we show up early in the morning and we have to make up a story about how she drove over to my place and then came to my parents' house. We only really have to talk about it if my parents bring it up somehow. Like 'oh son, did you guys eat? did she eat before she came to your place? did you make her breakfast?'. Or late at night 'are you sure you're going to be ok driving her back to her place and then back to yours?' \n\nI'm perfectly okay with fabricating white lies about not sleeping over with my girlfriend and working around it. I think it's private and I don't feel the need to be completely myself around my parents. I've never had a problem and my past girlfriends have always been fine with just telling whatever makes them happy. But my current girlfriend feels really bad about lying and doesn't like that I'm not being honest about my private life with my parents.\n\nShe agreed to 'lie' about it but she didn't really like it and I worry she'll continue to complain about it later. Not really sure what to do. My family's relationship is important to me, and my younger brothers as far as I know are also still religious, and so are a lot of my aunts/uncles and both sides of grandparents. I don't see them all too often, but yeah..", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't want to play along with made up stories to cover my sexual life and intimacy in relationships to my religious parents. She says it's not honest and doesn't like lying."}
{"id": "t3_2hse94", "subreddit": "running", "title": "5K and 10K complete! Help me with my next steps!", "post": "I am a 31 year old male.  A little over a year ago, I was completely sedentary, weighed 275 pounds, and was a smoker.  In the past year, I have dropped 60 lbs, quit smoking, started working out, ran a 5K in April, and completed my first 10K yesterday.  I finished my 5K in April with an 11:37 pace, and my 10K yesterday with an 11:32 pace.  The races have gone fine, but I still struggle with breathing occasionally, and needing to walk for short (30 second) intervals to catch my breath.  \n\nThings are definitely improving, as I was able to run the first 5K of the race yesterday without walking, and that was not the case in April.  My goal now, is to keep adding distance, but I also want to work on getting my pace lower and raising my endurance so I don't need to walk to recover.  So that's where my question to you all comes in. What should I do now? Sign up for a longer race, and just keep increasing my distance, or is there something else I can do to increase my endurance and speed?  Thanks!", "summary": "Finished a 5K and 10K, pace was 11:30ish for both, looking to increase speed, distance, and endurance (breathing)"}
{"id": "t3_v7qkz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, go ahead and rant. Let all that hatred towards any particular thing go for a few minutes. No holds barred.", "post": "I'll start. I'm a Canadian (proud one at that), and lived 3 years in the United States on a military posting with my family and absolutely loved it. I hate nearly nothing about America, or its people and culture. But WHAT THE FUCK AMERICA. Why the FUCK don't you have socialized medicine? It baffles me how if someone doesn't have enough money to afford medical insurance, they are scared shitless to get sick because they won't be able to afford the hospital bills! I can't even imagine living with that frame of mind! Also, FUCK THE INSURANCE COMPANIES. Fraudulent bastards who screw millions of people every year for bullshit excuses because they won't pay up or cover you if you're seriously injured. Yes, I really do understand the apprehension towards changing the current system for socialized medicine because it would screw the economy (and various other major things). Trust me I know. But when some of my best friends have to worry about going to the hospital because they may not be able to afford the medical bills, that's just fucked up! I mean my grandfather spent nearly a year and a half in a Canadian hospital after he had a massive heart attack, and we didn't pay a cent other than for the tv and the occasional special meal (and maybe the meds once he returned home, but I'm not entirely sure on that one)! I just...I can't even imagine living without the security blanket that is socialized medicine.\n\n**Side Note**:  I know neither system is perfect, that's why it's a rant. Not necessarily completely fool proof logic, just general anger towards a particular subject. Also, sorry if I offended anybody during my rant.", "summary": "As a Canadian with American friends, I fucking hate the fact that America has no socialized medical system."}
{"id": "t3_2exyte", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [18/f] being slow-faded by [23/m]?", "post": "Met him once before going on two dates. One week beween each time we met. We texted a lot and he initiated both dates. The second lasted about 8 hours and went really well, obviously we were both very interested, and I had every reason to believe I'd see him again.\n\nThe day right after our second date, the communication started getting spotty. I wrote it off because he had an out-of-state trip planned for that weekend. He texted me once, to say that he would reply to me when he got back. I told him that's fine and to have a good trip.\n\nA full day after he'd gotten back, I still hadn't gotten a reply despite having seen that he'd been active on social media. So I asked how his trip was. From there we exchanged one or two texts, and then radio silence again. Again, I saw that he'd been active on social media but hadn't replied to me. At this point it's pretty clear to me that this is a classic slow fade(especially considering we've known each other for less than a month), so I just let it go.\n\nHowever, two days later I get a text essentially saying that he's sorry for the late reply, he's been busy preparing for plans this weekend(not out of town this time). No attempt to continue the conversation/reply to what I'd said earlier. How should I respond?\n\nIf he's really slow-fading me, why wouldn't he just leave it alone instead of saying again that he's been busy? Am I overreacting to the lack of communication?", "summary": "Met once, then two dates. Known each other for less than a month. Communication started getting spotty, he was posting on social media without replying to my texts, so I took it as a clear slow fade. Now he's texted me apologizing a second time for being busy, but hasn't tried to continue the conversation. Is this slow fade? What do I do at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_3ce0w9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By having My teacher catch me and my girlfriend half naked.", "post": "So a while ago I posted another TIFU \n\n-\n\nAnd in it I talked about how I got caught with my girlfriend at school, doing something that is probably not acceptable at school. So here is the story.\n\n\u00a0\n\nMy former Girlfriend and I frequently got together after our after school activities, me: fencing and her: Track.\n\n\u00a0\n\nNow both events usually ended around 4:00 pm to 4:30 pm, but my father and her parents usually couldn't pick us up from school until around 5:00.\n\n\u00a0\n\nSo obviously we had some time to kill at school after practice and there is this perfect place to hook up. It is right behind one of the stairwells at our school. There is this small pocket area that nobody ever goes through. There is an exit door at the very end of the stairwell, but nobody ever uses it, or so we thought.\n\n\u00a0\n\nWell one day we were behind the stairwell and us being really stupid decided to take our tops off. So at this point I dont have a shirt on and her bra and shirt are just on the ground. \n\n\u00a0\n\nThen the door to the stairwell opens... both of us paused hoping it would just be someone going up the stairs, but as the steps grew closer and closer to us, we began to realize exactly how fucked we were.\n\n\u00a0\n\nWe scrambled to put our clothes on but it was already too late, not only were we caught, we were caught by a teacher...\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe teacher, absolutely flustered with the situation ran out the exit exclaiming loudly \" You two might not want to think about doing that at school\" To this day I still don't know who that teacher is, though based off some of my senior friends, I might be having someone who fits her description next year. \n\n\u00a0\n\nWe sat there for a moment in disbelieve. not understanding if we actually got away with what we just did. We finished putting our clothes on. looked at each other with embarrassed faces. Then started to laugh before we exchanged our goodbyes and went home for the day. We never talked about it since.", "summary": "MY TEACHER CAUGHT ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND GOING AT IT AND WE DIDN'T GET IN TROUBLE"}
{"id": "t3_256c49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] want to move out, but I think my mother [52F] depends on me to keep her house.", "post": "I'm going to try to make this short. If you need more details, I'll be happy to provide them.\n\nFor the past 2 years, I have had a poor relationship with my mother. She has absolutely no respect for me. She only ever talks to me when she needs something or wants to insult me. Naturally, I want move out now that I have finally graduated and saved up some money. We need some space and time apart. However, I think that I may be stuck at home. We live in Community Housing. As such, we are allotted rooms based on the number of dependents. I am worried that if I leave, my mother will be forced to leave as well. This would completely destroy the relationship that we have. She is happy living here. Our neighbors are her best friends and she's close by to her community. I don't want to fuck that up for her, but I don't want to live in housing anymore.\n\n I don't feel right living here. Even as a preteen I was well aware that my family depended on CH, but I had dreamed and believed we would leave when I reached adulthood. My mother would love to have a house of her own. However, she doesn't believe that she herself will work for it. She strongly believes that her children will do that for her. I want to do that for her, but I simply can't do that yet.", "summary": "Scared that my moving out will be cause for Community Housing to relocate my family. I don't know if this scenario is true. This would completely destroy an already damaged relationship with my mother. I can't ask housing or social worker in fear of tipping them off. Feeling super guilty about that/emotionally blackmailing myself."}
{"id": "t3_ufhlh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad is being conned out of money by his supposed family overseas but he doesn't see it, how do I help him?", "post": "So basically my family overseas knows that we here are fairly well-off so they see this as opportunity to con my dad out of money. He doesn't think twice about because he argues that they're family (brothers, mother and in-laws) and that you should always help them no matter what. I agree with this notion but the amounts that they ask for and eventually receive is just downright ridiculous, and so are their methods of receiving. \n\n1. my \"grandmother\" pretended to be sick to the point of hospitalization and needed money for steroid treatment. So my dad sends some and she's miraculously okay within a week? - I saw her over a skype convo, she looked fine with no signs of such an extreme illness.\n\n2. my \"uncle\" supposedly had a back injury which debilitated him to the point that he couldn't walk so he needs money for therapy, that's sent and he's okay within a week?\n\n- the reason I don't believe these in the least is because I'm a pre-med student/just graduated and I know how long steroids require to take effect, a week isn't enough. And an injury to the back is like no other injury of the body, it changes the biomechanical aspects of the tissue and back injuries require several months to years to heal/repair.\n\nAnd to boot, this \"uncle\" is actually here visiting (plane ticket also covered by my father), more like shopping for anything and everything he can get and he hasn't spent a dime because of course it's covered by you know who....", "summary": "dad is being conned out of money by family but is blind to it because they're his \"family\", how do I make him see? Also, he's very stubborn"}
{"id": "t3_koc7f", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "How to know what to work on next (realization I just had)", "post": "...Work on whatever area of your life is upsetting you right now.\n\nWriting about what is upsetting you, angering you, pissing you off right now is a great way to get hints on what to work on next.\n\nFor example, today I found myself stewing about a whole bunch of stuff I was upset about in my life. Usually, when this happens I would be emotionally overwhelmed and just frozen in inaction. But for some reason, today I had the idea to identify and write about what was upsetting me. Soon afterwards, I had the realization that this can be a good way to know how to prioritize your activities.\n\nOne of the things I was upset about was \"not having my own successful business yet.\" \n\n\"Cool, OK, what's the desired vision then?\" I asked.\n\n\"Have my own successful business.\"\n\n\"Great, so what's the next step to get there?\" Then I went ahead and did that. Repeat with everything you're upset about, at any time. *Instantly* you feel better -- not because you watched some motivational video or popped some pill, but because you're **DOING** better. You're taking constructive action.", "summary": "Stay aware of your pain points and work on them."}
{"id": "t3_nudw2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did I make a mistake in breaking up with my girlfriend?", "post": "I just broke up with my girlfriend of about a year and a half a few days ago. I'm 22, she's 23. She moved in to my apartment about a month ago. Today she moved out.\n\nDuring the christmas break I came to realize that I felt like I needed to be alone for a while. I've felt like this before but it really came out after my mom suggested I think about where my life is going and if I really want to spend my early twenties with a girlfriend who I may or may not end up staying with forever.\n\nSo I decided to break up with her. I figured we're both young and I want to focus on my career and she hasn't been as creative as she used to be when we were both in school. I want her to be as creative as possible. We tried writing together but it just didn't work out. The drive to write/do stuff died down (at least for me) when I have the ability to snuggle or have sex with a girl I love.\n\nSo it's sort of which is better... focus on a career and creative endeavors, or stay together with the girl I love. I tried both at the same time, and it didn't work.\n\nI'm embarrassed because if my mom hadn't spoken to me about it, I wouldn't have broken up with her. If I didn't go home for christmas I wouldn't have broken up with her. If she came home with me to Christmas, I wouldn't have broken up with her. I'm afraid this annoying sequence of events made me want to break up with her. Maybe it would have happened sooner or later though anyways.\n\nShe honestly was my \"favorite\" gf I've had (3 total), and I am afraid I will never meet another like her.\n\nSo my question, do you think this was a mistake to break up with her? I feel as if you're all going to say it wasn't a mistake but I needed to tell someone/the internet, so thanks for reading.\n\nBy the way, this is my first time as the breaker-upper so that may have something to do with it.", "summary": "I'm 22, thought it might be a good idea to break up to pursue my career, now I'm sort of regretting it, was it a mistake to break up?"}
{"id": "t3_selq7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Help/Advice on full and final settlement offer from a car accident (US)", "post": "I apologize in advanced this post is long but I figured the extra information might be helpful....I was in a car accident in November (was rear ended attempting to merge from a highway to freeway).  The result was rear body damage to my car as well me going to see a chiropractor and an LMT.  The other insurance company is offering me $450 for a full and final settlement offer which absolves them of any responsibility.  They got to that number by medical bills sent to them by my insurance company as well as damages to my car.  Also, they paid for medical and car damages directly to my insurance company already.\n\nI am on the fence about seeking an attorney for more as I went through the following:\n\n* I was heading to a job interview when the accident occurred (thankfully I was able to call the interviewing company and come in late)\n* After two months of them sending me letters and not returning most phone calls, I went through my own insurance company for repairs and paid the deductible (which I did receive back about a month later)\n* Time lost from work due to seeking medical treatment\n\nI live in Oregon which is where the accident occurred.", "summary": "Car accident rear ended, $450 settlement offer, would like more is it worth time/effort or even possible? Very confused on the legal jargon in settle offer"}
{"id": "t3_2ea4fw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my ex-coworker and friend [50/M] of a few years: How can I stop feeling awkward about hanging out?", "post": "I used to work with a really nice guy who left our company at the beginning of 2014. We promised to try and see each other once a month, because we both felt we had a genuine friendship. I ended up inviting him and his wife to my wedding. He and I have also met for weekday lunch and a happy hour. \n\nHe kept mentioning he wanted to invite me and my husband over to his house on a weekend this summer, but it never really materialized. I wasn't really offended by it, but got tired of him throwing in \"we need to have you guys over soon!\" \n\nSo I recently brought it up via e-mail, and he said \"how about this weekend?\" I responded that my husband already had a conflict, but I could drop by for an hour or two. I mentioned I could bring some tomatoes from my garden, as he's mentioned he and his wife like tomatoes. He didn't respond with \"yes\" or \"no\" - but more of an ambiguous \"Much appreciated, nothing like home grown tomatoes in a salad.\"\n\nI did not respond and feel awkward as fuck now. It's entirely possible that he didn't really want us to come hang out, that he was just saying it to be polite. I think I also feel awkward coming to this guy's house that I have never been to - even though we have a great time when we see each other in a more casual setting (e.g., restaurant).", "summary": "I feel awkward that a friend who's significantly older invited me to his house and I've never been."}
{"id": "t3_2f6d4b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accruing over 40k in credit card debt.", "post": "Well obviously it didn't just happen overnight. More like a span of 3 years with my SO. He has a budding company which I helped support parts financially through use of my credit and there are some that are just from 'wanting' misc items. All those 0%APRs that coaxed me in finally expired so I've got debt with 18-20% steadily building up. Needless to say we were living beyond our means and now I'm fucked.  (Not including my ridiculous amount owed for college).  I have never been late on payments and I've had some pretty good credit up til now. Considering refinancing through my bank and hopefully paying these off and getting my beacon score back to normal. I would like to buy a house one day but with how all of this is going it's beginning to look like that may never happen.", "summary": "in debt up to my head, credit is fucked and tbh I regret taking out all those loans for my SO."}
{"id": "t3_29evfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wondering if my (24/m) bf (27/m) is bisexual, or gayer than he let on", "post": "Messed up the title, I am a girl! Sorry about that\n\nI've been dating T for over a year now, we met on okc. On the first date, he let me know he was bi. I could tell it was a huge deal for him to confess (his profile showed no indication). I was a little taken aback but ultimately decided to pursue a relationship.\n\nAnd things have been great. Except...I'm starting to think he's gayer than he let on. When I first asked about his attraction to men, he said it was split 70/30. But recently we can't go ANYWHERE without him pointing out sexy guys. He says he feels happy that I accept him for who he is, but at every place we go- restaurant, club, movies, on TV, in the park, he'll constantly point out hot guys. I don't even know how I feel about it. On one hand, yeah these guys are hot, but it also kinda makes me wonder if I'll ever be enough for him. \n\nAlso we were discussing gay celebrities one day and he jokingly mentioned how he was offered a beard in college. That upset me a lot as the last thing a gf wants to hear is how her bf was offered a beard. He said it was only a joke, and he didn't mean to make me uncomfortable. \n\nI love this guy but I don't want to end up with him if it turns out this was all a sham. And I understand that being bi is not just a bridge for eventually coming out, but this whole experience has me feeling weird.", "summary": "BF of over a year told me he was bi, but now believe he's gayer than he first let on."}
{"id": "t3_39qf66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my wife [24F] 7yrs, she just told me 2 years ago she tried to hookup with my brother. Nsfw", "post": "Alright so a couple nights ago my wife's friend came over and we had kinda been flirting with the idea of a threesome.  We were drinking and we ended up all going to sleep together.  Sometime during the night her friend woke up and started touching me and moved my hand to touch her.  I didn't finger her or anything and I felt bad about it and stopped it.  \n\nWell I told my wife about everything that happened and she said she had a confession of her own she had been keeping.  She told me that she tried to sleep with my brother about 2 years ago.  She admitted that this was the time that she had offered me a hall pass after watching that movie.  \n\nI toyed with the idea for a day but I declined it because I Didn't like the idea of her being with someone else.  Well, apparently she decided she would try and use it anyways.  \n\nSo the story I have been told is that  She said she they had been texting dirty for about to weeks after she had been having sex dreams about him.  Then She said she was over at my parents house where my brother lived at the time.  I was supposedly coming over after work, but she somehow ended up in his bed getting a massage and he grabbed her ass and she said he stopped it there and said he couldn't do that to me and that she should never tell me about this.\n\nThe issue is that we concieved our first child that month, and now have another little one.  I don't want to lose them.  And yes I do believe they are mine. I just can't stop thinking about this.  I feel like I would have gotten over it  if she had just had sex with some random. I just keep imagining the scenarios on how they got up to his bed, what they were saying to each other....  What would have happened if HE hadn't of stopped it?  I feel like less of a man right now, if I am not occupied with something it's all I think about.", "summary": "Wife tried to sleep with brother, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2n5185", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Take my peesock, asshole!", "post": "*Posting on behalf of my sister, a non-redditor\n\n> Backstory: We went camping, and we ran out of toilet paper. My only choice then (I guess it was a bit of an odd one, but whatever) was to use one of my socks to wipe after my daily duty (pee). So I had used this sock a few times, and I decided that it was time to retire the sock, I threw it in the woods, and went back to my car.\n\n>My boyfriends mom came back to our campsite with the dog, waving a sock in the air saying \"the dog found your sock!!\". I said nothing, took the sock, and put it in our car to pack up and leave the campsite.\n\nWe went out to lunch at Red Robin. After we got done, we came back to see that some asshole had parked so close to our truck, that my boyfriend had to get in the other side. We decided that there was no other choice, and we took my peesock and left it under their windshield wiper.\n\nTake my pe(e)tty revenge, asshole.", "summary": "wiped with a sock, dog found the sock, left it on an assholes window."}
{"id": "t3_1z2577", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my friend [17F] of 2 years, I moved far away but cant stop thinking about her", "post": "Story starts 2 summers ago working at a summer camp with a tonne of great people. One of these people I had a slight crush on, but didnt act o it because I knew I was leaving at the end of the summer. Fast forward to now, I still am great friends with a few of the people that I worked with there, but all of the people that still chat to me are my guy friends, wexcept this one girl. We talk every few weeks, but Ive developed a really strong crush on her. I really dont want to act on it because right now I live about 15 hours of driving away from her (Winnipeg to Calgary if anyones curious) so I cant go see her anytime soon. In the fall Im moving closer to her by transferring universities; about 6 hours away- but still a long distance relationship which is bad. I know I cant be with her, so how do I stop thinking about her?", "summary": "Girl I met 2 years ago Im still friends with but lives too far away for a relationship and I cant stop thinking about her."}
{"id": "t3_2mqw57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does she [22/F] like me? [22/F]", "post": "**MADE A MISTAKE IN THE TITLE, I AM A DUDE**\n\nBasically this is a girl I met at community college. Talked and got along well. She looks great, right when I am about to ask her out she mentions a boyfriend. Luckily for me I backed off without having to go through the embarrassment of asking her out and getting rejected.\n\nLater (3 months?) after not speaking to her, I find she has a class with me. She seems pleasantly surprised. For the next 3 months we sit next to e/o and help e/o w/ hw. About 2-3 months pass, I compliment her on her looks (in a non-pig way) and it seems it resonated the wrong way with her. So she avoided speaking to me for a good few weeks. Later I brought up random school talk and she talked back again. I jokingly tell her about an alternate reality where we are together. She literally says, \"Sorry, but you don't have the masucline traits that I look for in men\". Okay. I stop talking to her gradually. She's still with her bf. \n\n[I have medical issues]\n\nShe randomly messages me saying she thought of me 3 months later. We have chit chat, etc. I stop responding.\n\nAgain, she just now randomly messages me saying she thought of me again. She said:\n\n\"This is random but I thought of you ... hope you're feeling better with your health issues :/\"\n\nSo at this point I haven't replied. What's the point of her talking to me? We don't have class anymore. I've not respond for a few months. Is she being friendly or does she secretly like me but she doesn't know for sure? How should I respond? Treat her as a friend? What do?", "summary": "Girl talks to me. We forget about each other. We have the same class. I flirt, get shot down. I stop responding. She messages me asking how I am. We talk, I stop responding. She messages me again citing she \"thought\" of me. What are her intentions?"}
{"id": "t3_54rmpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my BF [27 M] of 1yr, how to be kind", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and he's the perfect man. Smart, loving, ambitious, thinks I'm one of a kind, successful, handsome, from a good family, wants a family, loyal. \n\nI love how he loves me and I love who he is, but I don't think I'm really in love with him like I want to be. I've felt more passion with another guy before him and miss that. \n\nWe became long distance 3 months ago and will be long distance for 4 more months, when he wants to move to the city where I live to live with me. I'm visiting him in his city this weekend, but I don't want to go. I think I need to end it, but I don't want to break his heart because he's an amazing guy and he also has had depression, before I met him, and I don't want to bring that back.\n\nHe's the perfect guy and supports me and loves me so much and I don't think I'll find that again. He wants to marry me and be with me forever. Is that passion that I miss not worth giving all that up for? Am I being stupid? And if I should break up with him, how can I make it as painless and kind as possible?", "summary": "I'm dating the perfect man, who wants to move in with me and marry me some day, but I don't feel the same passion I have before. Is that worth ending it over? What's the kindest way to end it if I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1iw56u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "EXpost:bedbugs. Can bedbugs magically appear on sheets/blankets stored in the closet? Can bed bugs live on the carpet and not bother my bed?", "post": "Right now it's 4 am monday night and I just woke up scratching. Saturday night I switched out my current bed sheets for a set stored in my closet. The Sheets were folded but I'm thinking they were unwashed and have been unused since last August. When I had been using those old sheets I did not have a problem with bed bugs.\n\nSunday night I woke up at 5am with 7 fucking bug bites. \n-- two on the tops of my feet--left and right respectfully. \n--one next to a mosquito bite I got earlier on my ankle.\n --Two near my left wrist -two on the underside of my thighs\n--left and right respectfully.\n\nTonight I woke up with:\n --two more near my left ankle\n --one under my left upper arm\n\nSaturday Night I slept on the floor with an old blanket. I had no problems then but my boyfriend got a couple bites.\n\nSunday Night I move over to my bed with the sheets I got from my closet and hell ensues.\nI'm fucking pissed and tired and good god please help me.", "summary": "changed sheets with old sheets stored in closet. Slept on carpeted floor of room with old blankets from said closet. Moved to the bed the next night and got bug bites on the \"outside boundary of my body\" Never had a night bug problem. Have not changed my routine or traveled recently."}
{"id": "t3_2ey1gk", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is my friend liable for things he did after being \"roofied\"?", "post": "EDIT: This is in Connecticut USA\n\nThis all happened to my friend a couple of days ago, he is seeing a lawyer tomorrow but I am too curious to wait to hear what the lawyer says. My friend woke up beat to hell, bruised, and bloodied in a police cell, with no recollection of anything after being at a party. All this was told to him by the police and friends since he doesn't remember any of it, and then he told me.\n\nA few nights ago my friend went to a college party. According to his friends he had 2-3 drinks before announcing he was gonna go home. This is where it gets bad. Apparently he walked in the opposite direction of his house, and ended up walking through a junk yard where he was spotted by the security guard working. The security guard called the police and didn't confront him himself. Right around the time the police showed up, he fell into a fairly rapid river on the other side of the junk yard where he had to be rescued by police. According to police he was flinging mud at them during the rescue, and being difficult in general. The cops ended up beating the shit out of him (you should see his face) and tasing him. My friend is a TINY guy, like 5'5\" 130, so why the cops couldn't just force him into the back of the car is beyond me, but I guess cops are capable of getting pissed off just like the rest of us and decided to exert their will. \n\nSo basically he wakes up in the cell with no memory of anything, (last thing he remembers is being at the party), and a huge list of charges (trespassing, assault on an officer, resisting arrest). They claimed the mud had pebbles and what not in it and thats why the assault was on there. I put roofied in quotation marks, because I thought roofies normally made you pass out, so I am guessing this may have been some different type of drug. Is he totally fucked? Are there laws protecting people from what they do after being drugged by someone?", "summary": "Friend was drugged and acted like a fool, leading to his arrest. Is he responsible for his behavior after being drugged against his will/knowledge?"}
{"id": "t3_4u2si9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend[20 F] of only 3 months, wants to live together with me, but I don't want to. How can I tell her without losing her?", "post": "So my girlfriend went through some rough issues in Sydney, her ex assaulted her brother and all her best friends back stabbed her so she moved to Melbourne university to escape it all. I supported her the whole way through, but obviously I didn't want her to move. \n\nNow she is saying she wants to move back, wants to defer university and come live with me. I said she can't because my parents wouldn't let her live with us, but then she said we can get our own place. \n\nI don't want to move out, I don't see the point of putting myself under unnecessary financial burden. I would want to live with her, but not right now. \n\nHow can I tell her this without breaking her heart?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to move back to Sydney and live with me, pretty much giving me an ultimatum saying that we don't want the same things, and I want to be with her but not ready to move out yet. How can i tell her without breaking her heart?"}
{"id": "t3_vvsfb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Felt comfortable where I was, and started slipping backwards.", "post": "I started out at 217 in mid February this year, my original goal was 175. Once I started losing weight my goal changed to 160, 3 pounds less than the cross over from \"overweight\" to \"normal\" in BMI. (5'8\"). When I hit low 180s I was so happy with my body, my clothes fit better and everything. I was okay with where I was. I still continue to work out to build muscle and increase my stamina and endurance. \n\nI guess when I changed to a maintenance diet I lost all control. I live in Texas and have had some major heat and humidity combination so I have been eating a lot of ice cream. Along with all sorts of other bad foods for me. \n\nI have only gained back 3 pounds, but as far as I am concerned that is 3 too many pounds in the wrong direction. I have this mental block that I want to be able to eat anything I want as long as its in the right portions. I have researched keto and paleo but I don't want to restrict myself from eating certain foods. I think part of my problem is I don't eat enough protein. I went out last night and bought some pre cooked chicken, greek yogurt, cottage cheese etc so that I can easily add some protein to keep me full. I am also a big fruit eater so I bought some cherries, oranges, cantaloupe, apples to have around as easy snacks. \n\nI am going to stick to it one day at a time, today I am just trying to snack healthy.", "summary": "I started losing weight found a place i was happy with, started to gain again. Now starting over and going to get back on track."}
{"id": "t3_4jnpaq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(WA) Guy I know tried to run me off the road and punched my car window three times telling me to get out.", "post": "So, a bit of a story here. I went out to get a drink with my friend on Saturday night and about 5min after I dropped her off at the place she was staying she called me crying to come pick her up. \n\nI picked her up on the side of the street and she told me to drive. As she said that I heard something hit my car (I assume a rock) and I could see a guy coming towards my car looking pissed. I drove away and about a block later I noticed that a large truck was riding my ass (this is the middle of downtown Seattle). As I stopped behind a car at a red light the guy came out and punched my window 3 times while telling me to get out (At this point I was already calling the cops). After the car in front of me moved and gave me enough space to go i drove ahead but he continued to follow. After about a block he almost ran me off the road and consequently passed me. Since he passed me I took a turn and was able to lose him while I was describing the situation to the dispatcher.\n\nI did not have a cop come out to meet us since there was no visible damage to my car and honestly I have never had to deal with a situation like this so I just decided to go home.\n\nI do not want to press charges but I do want any advice I can get as to how I should proceed. I do want to file a police report though in case anything like this happens again with this guy. I know who he is through my friend but that is about all I know of him. From what she told me he assaulted her and he was wasted when she got to the apartment which is actually his.", "summary": "I felt threatened by someone I know and want to file a police report in case it ever happens again."}
{"id": "t3_4ktt81", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sexual Struggles", "post": "My boyfriend [18M]  and I [18F] have been together for some time now, nearly a year, and we're very serious about each other. Both he and I are attracted to each other, and we are both virgins. \n\nUpon moving from our home towns and starting university, I seemed to have lost my libido. Before I moved, the doctor changed my pill prescription, but I don't know if that's the exact cause. Stress, perhaps? \n\nBoth my boyfriend and I enjoy giving the other oral sex, but I find it hard to get aroused. It is, in this case, that we find it difficult to progress. My boyfriend wants to have sex, but is highly against pressuring me into anything. He is, however, concerned as to why I feel the way I do, and is worried that it's his fault, although I do my best to assure him that it's not. \n\nI just don't know what to do. I want to be intimate with him, but my body has just become unresponsive to the point where I don't feel an arousing sensation when my boyfriend touches me, and the thought of sex just doesn't appeal to me...", "summary": "I can't seem to find my libido. "}
{"id": "t3_2spd7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] am truly, deeply in love with someone [26/M], and have been for years, whom I can NEVER NEVER EVER be with under any circumstance, and NEED TO GET OVER IT - PLEASE, PLEASE HELP.", "post": "This is the most painful thing I have ever had to go through, and I've been through some crazy shit. How do I stop feeling this unending misery. Please. I cannot stop thinking about them. Every waking minute.  And often sleeping minutes too. \n\nI've known him very well for 6 years. Always lying to myself saying it's just a crush i'll get over. Not the fucking case. I cannot cut him from my life. I have distanced myself as much as possible; to the point where I see him a few times a year for a couple days, and don't interact with him otherwise. Any more distance than this is not possible if I want to maintain any semblance of the otherwise good life I currently lead. However, in spite of this good life that I've managed to build for myself after years of hell, I torture myself with thoughts of him.", "summary": "How do I stop. I MUST get over this. HOW?! "}
{"id": "t3_3oqye8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] ex boyfriend [30 M] just asked me to order a piece of jewelry for his new wife's sister.", "post": "We dated about 6 years ago, but it was devastating breakup for me to endure. He lives in Ireland and wanted this charm (that is very easy to find from any other different provider) from a company that ships only within the United States (where I currently live) to give to his new wife's sister, so he reached out via facebook. \n\nWe chatted a bit about things, and while I have made tremendous strides in getting through this period in my life, doing this hurts (re-hurts?) on a very deep level, and that his asking this of me almost is trashy or mean. \n\nI have spiraled this interaction a million different ways in my head, and have brought it up to my current live in boyfriend [36 M]  who I don't want to keep anything from. There will always be a hope that he and I get back together* (no judgement, please) but I know that is never going to happen. My question to you, reddit, is this.\n\nAm I wrong for thinking this was wrong for him to do? Is it unfair to bring up something so painful to an ex? \n\n**not an active hope, more of a wistful thing*\n\n[", "summary": "ex boyfriend asked me to order a piece of jewelry for his new wife's sister. is this wrong?]"}
{"id": "t3_1ai0l9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents (50+) never initiate communication with me (28F).", "post": "I live in almost the midwest USA, my mother is on the west coast, my father and (former) stepmother are on the east coast, so all communication is dependent on someone picking up the phone and calling. I became pregnant mid January and want to keep it a surprise until I make it through the 1st trimester and then go out and see them. This will happen late May. In order to keep from slipping up and saying something I have stopped calling them (I usually call them once every two weeks). I will pick up when they call me. Stupid- I know- but anything to keep from spilling the beans and still make them not feel neglected.\n\nThis has made me realize they never call me. Ever. My father butt dialed me two weeks ago and that is it. I spoke with him for a little while because we closed on a house. I called my mother once in January. My stepmother never calls me ever btw, but she does comment on facebook occasionally.\n\nIt has been two months and nothing from them. I knew it was a little one sided but what the hell? Do they genuinely not want to talk to me,  or do they just not think about me? Father/stepmother have a son (23) that they bitch about never picking up when they call.\n\nI'm thinking when I finally reveal I am pregnant I may have to tell them I wasn't calling because I didn't want to slip up on the phone, but tell them in person. Then I may have to confront the issue that they never call me.\n\nFor the record, east coast family has never made an attempt to physically come and see me. Even when I lived 1.5 hours away. I am now 11 hours away.\n\nShould I be offended by this (I am)? Why don't they want to call me (do they not care)? Should I confront them (how to do this without being a bitch)? Anyone else have this issue?", "summary": "To keep a wonderful secret for a few months I stopped calling my parents, only to realize they never call me. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_4h4474", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] having fallen for a long time friend [17 F] after coming out of a long and unhappy relationship", "post": "So I came out of a long and unhappy relationship several months ago. Throughout my recovery period I had an amazing female friend by my side. I've known here for years and she's done wonders to restore my emotional state after some things that happened in my previous relationship.\n\nAs a result of this, I've come to realise that the person I really loved was sitting on the side line while I spent two years of my life in a horrible mess of a relationship.\n\nNow I desperately want to start a relationship with this girl, but I don't know whether it's a realistic possibility. She shows interest in me, we flirt a bit and perhaps more importantly we're totally comfortable with each other's presence, touch etc. \n\nHowever, I can't tell whether this is just because we're ridiculously close friends who've been through a lot together or because she, like me, actually feels something more. We've been there for each other for years now and I'm torn up about what to do.\n\nThanks for anyone who offers advice. I am more than happy to provide as much additional info as may be required.", "summary": "I have fallen for my best friend after coming out of a horrible relationship, don't know whether to risk it or try push my feelings away."}
{"id": "t3_xaza8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25f] lost the love of her life [29m]", "post": "Alright Reddit, I fucked up.\n\nI met this man a year ago on Okcupid, and fell absolutely, madly in love with him. From the day we first spoke there hasn't been a second he hasn't been on my mind. He lived in a far off city, so we kept it to a long distance interest.\n\nWell, he moved up here a few months later, and put me though a million tests, told me about the girls he was sleeping with, and how he wasn't ready for a relationship and all that jazz.\n\nFinally, about two months ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. Said he wanted to give it a shot, as he was scared of relationships, and hadn't had one for nearly 5 years.\n\nWe had a semi-open relationship. He could make out with girls If I was there, and gave him the ok, and I could do the same with girls only, if he gave me the okay. (I'm bi, he's straight)\n\nWell, the other night, while feeling jealous and lonely after an ignored \"i miss you\" text and some FB stalking which just intensified this- I made out with a co-worker while really dunk, and said some shit like \"I want to be with you and marry you,\" obviously projecting my feelings for him on anyone who was receptive.\n\nThe next day my head was in circles of whom I wanted to be with, but I sorted though my feelings and got back to reality- which is this is the man I want to spend every morning waking up to.\n\nI told the bf. He dumped me. Says not to contact him, he cant trust me, and will let me know when we can talk again. He says he doesn't know if we will ever date again. I call, I text, and email every so often, he basically ignores and says give him space. He's my best friend though :/", "summary": "Cheated on the man I want to marry, now he won't talk to me. Depressed and hopeless."}
{"id": "t3_13il96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my SO (20M) is making a mistake with his future and I (22F) don't know how to be supportive", "post": "I have been in a relationship for about a year or so. It is currently LD but I am concerned with my parters choice. His current major in university is psychology which is a field that he is genuinely interested. However he has been feeling pressure to find a field that is more... flashy and money grabbing than research in psychology. This pressure mainly comes from his father who has already called his major and future degree a waste of money.\n\nSo my SO's idea was... law school. A field that he has no real genuine interest in. When I have asked him why he wishes to pursue law school, he says it's primary due to the prestige and money that comes with law school. I have quite a different vision of law school, I imagine large amounts of debt, stressful years of law school, and then miserable 60 hour week at some law firm.\n\nNow, if he was truly interested in law and justice, then I would be all for pursing his dreams! But whenever we talk about it, he says he just wants it to be an decision that sounds like a possible future. It worries me because I want him to be happy but I think that his decision wont make him happy. He complains about all of his current classes all the time and complains about law school. When I expressed my concerns that being a lawyer is not just daisies and millionaires, he shut down and said that it's not what he wants to hear. (To be fair, I did it a bit harsh. I said that I want him to be happy and I don't want him to be complaining all his life about how unhappy he is with his job/school/yaddayadda). \n\nDid I overstep my boundaries with expressing that I don't think law school will make him happy? How can I be supportive of him?", "summary": "SO doesn't have a concrete plan for his life (father is overbearing and overcontrolling) so he picked law school to get prestige and money. I worry that it will make him unhappy since he doesn't like it."}
{"id": "t3_3ea6dc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] just started seeing [33/M] two weeks ago. He's a well known lawyer and I'm a selfish ahole...", "post": "I think he's incredible (rare). I'm so excited about this relationship. But I'm also a horrible person. In general, I'm pretty great: I'm a good daughter, good student, great friend, healthy romantic relationship history. \n\nHowever...I may or may not be a camgirl (I totally am). Basically I currently strip online and masturbate while wearing a wig for a living because I'm in college full time. It's so easy and it pays soooooooooooooooooooo well. Hence, why I don't want to quit my job unless he insists on supporting me (which would be super awkward and weird) until I'm finished with school because there is no way in hell I'd ever find a job that pays nearly as much as this at my age. \n\nI think you can see where this is going. I like him too much and I want this relationship to work so I don't want to tell him about my real job...I'd rather keep my fingers crossed and hope that we never work out than tell him. Or just wait until I'm done with school and once I have a legit job I'll mention my past.\n\nWhat would you do if you loved your financial independence but loved a stranger almost as much?", "summary": "Crazy camgirl meets (well respected) man of her dreams and plans on lying to him about her job in porn until they break up or he becomes an atm."}
{"id": "t3_sb7ks", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Europe bound.  Any suggestions?", "post": "Hello all!  I will be moving to Austria (Graz) for about 6 months for work.  My job is pretty laid back and my boss is encouraging me to go travel and see Europe.  What are some must see places and things to do that you would recommend? \n\nSome info:\n\n* As of now, I won't have a car.  I'm assuming my main method of transportation will be by train.\n\n* I grew up in Europe, but I haven't been back in ages.  I think I'd still be pretty comfortable in the majority of Europe.  I also don't mind revisiting things, so please don't hold back any recommendations! (This is my first time to Graz as well, so anything specific in that city would be wonderful)\n\n* I prefer things like museums and culturally important things. \n\n* I definitely plan to go see some operas.  If there are any specific opera houses or performances that are worth checking out, PLEASE let me know!\n\n* I'm really eager to hear everything you have to offer, so like I said don't hold back on anything!  \n\n* Any tips pertaining to life in Graz/Austria/Europe in general is especially helpful and welcome.  I'd especially love information on the cultural norms of Austria.", "summary": "Please recommend places in Europe worth visiting."}
{"id": "t3_2yyjma", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a girl to prom over the school's mic system?", "post": "So I've liked this girl for a while and senior prom is coming up here pretty soon, so I thought what better to do than ask her to prom in what I thought was an awesome way. So today after morning announcements were done, I popped the question. When I went to meet her she was pretty apprehensive and seemed a bit upset. I chalked that up to her being happy somehow and pushed it out of mind. Nice of me right? Well the day went on and I didn't see her for the rest of it, but was told by her best friends that I should take a hint, that they are pissed that I did that, and/or that I had really embarrassed her. Now I'm just sitting here thinking that I done fucked up, and really hurt my crush's feelings. I'm most likely going to apologize and tell her we don't have to go together now. I get to look like an ass and have her hate me for a while.", "summary": "I asked a girl to prom over the school mic, and made her and her friends hate my guts for it, and I probably won't have a date to prom now."}
{"id": "t3_1k1mqq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my cousin's fiance acting normally?", "post": "Here's a little background info: I am the best man at my cousin's wedding, which means planning the bachelor party is one of my duties. I have never been in a wedding before, so this whole thing is completely new to me. I just found out that his fiance, (whom I've never met because I live out of state) is basically putting a stop to the whole thing because she is: A) Uncomfortable with strippers, (which haven't been part of the plan at all from the get-go) and B) Doesn't want anyone to be hungover for the rehearsal. She is basically insisting that her and her bridesmaids be invited to the party, and that no heavy drinking or bar-hopping is allowed. Now don't get me wrong; I would LOVE to party with the bridesmaids, so I'm not complaining about that. I'm concerned about my cousin's well-being.\n\nI kind of thought a bachelor party was supposed to be a guys-night-out thing, and the groom should be able to invite whoever he wants and do whatever he wants. Am I wrong about this? I realize that times have changed and bachelor parties are usually not as wild as they used to be, but I've never heard of a bachelor party with the bride attending. I am also deeply concerned that she doesn't entirely trust my cousin, (which is completely ridiculous because he doesn't cheat, flirt, etc.) AND that she is being overly controlling. Is this normal/okay for a bride to do or is she a complete bridezilla? Should I be concerned? I need some insight here...", "summary": "Bride wants to attend bachelor party, no heavy drinking allowed."}
{"id": "t3_1213ja", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "29M, I think my parents messed me up, what do I do", "post": "29M, I live on my own and I have no relationship with my parents or brother. My parents are a little crazy, very disconnected from their emotions and have messed me up quite hardly. They finally divorced recently but they keep writing me e-mails about how hard they need and miss me and I feel like shit for not wanting to know anything about them. I don't have or never had friends or girlfriend and I have no job because I have relationship and motivation problems. Sometimes I feel like improving my life and do things, but other times I realize how hard they messed me up and I enjoy fantasizing about killing them. I have tried living in different cities and some therapy (I was diagnosed Schizoid PD) but it didn't help much.", "summary": "My parents messed me up and I often have a hard time finding life enjoyable, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_mqo4g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Im still debating if this was very nice of me or stupid of me(work related)", "post": "I work as an easytech at staples and when I got into work today i notices a 60 dollar pair of speakers on sale for 19.99. We only had a limited quantity left so me and 2 other associates put 3 to the side so we could purchase them later. I was closing that night so the other 2 associates had already purchased their speakers and we only had 1 left, as expected a customer came in 10 min before closing time and was asking about the speakers I had put aside for myself. Instead of telling them no we dont have any I gave the family the speakers I set aside for myself 7 hours before they came into the store. I'm not upset about the situation just wondering if I had gone the other route and told them no that it would of been  wrong?", "summary": "I sold a customer an item I had set aside for mysef 10 min before close"}
{"id": "t3_2teg63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M ] with my girlfriend[18F] of 1 year, broke up .Was it a good decision?", "post": "Hello r/relationships. As mentioned in tittle me and my now ex-girlfriend broke up after 1 year of relationship.The problem is here, i love her and i know she loves me but we cant make it work. We are constantly arguing and breaking up or taking breaks. \n    She gets frustrated really easy. When we are together everything is fine but when we arent around eachother it is not. The communication is pretty much one sided . I talk she jut confirs says ok,aha,yes etc and other stuff. We had before much better conversation and she was interesting to me but she just isnt anymore.And also we go to class together so what do you suggest?how to deal with that? and is it good to break up for real this time?", "summary": "Broke up with my classmate that I\"ve been dating for one year. How to deal with it in class and how to get over her?"}
{"id": "t3_4l632j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20F] being too keen with this girl [21F] I've been on one date with...?", "post": "This is such a dumb question - I can't ask many people in real life because I know they'd just laugh at me! But I can't figure it out if I'm being too keen, I've been out of the dating game for so long and I'm unexperienced!\n\nOk so I went on a date with this girl a couple of weeks ago. It went well I think, we had lots to talk about, and she kissed me on the cheek when we said goodbye. I texted her a couple days later saying I'd had fun, and she replied saying she did too and that she'd 'love' to see me again, but she was on a family holiday for the next week and then on holiday the week afterwards, so it would have to be after that (so... this week). I text her back like that's cool, general chitchat - and get nothing. ??\n\nSo since it's the week she said she'd be around now - would it be too forward to text her? I sent a couple of texts the last time we spoke which she didn't reply to.... And I was the one who texted her first after the first date... Is this even a thing to think twice about?\n\nI knoooow I'm analysing this way too much. But as I've said I've not got much experience dating girls and I need some mentor to guide me haha. All my female straight friends have said to wait for her to make the first move because it kinda seems like she's not into me that much. But then she coulda just ghosted me after the first date or been like 'no spark, sorry buddy'.\n\nI was thinking my options are: a) wait; b) send a short text like hey let me know if you still wanna meet :) Any words of wisdom?", "summary": "Recently uncloseted overanalysing neurotic crybaby needs advice on how not to be a creep."}
{"id": "t3_zhpnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (24) of 1 year is very talkative and I (21f) think it might put my friends and family off. Should I say something to him?", "post": "We have been together for about a year but I'm starting to notice that he is sort of a chatterbox. I love him and find his conversations to be interesting, so it does not bother me in the least. When he talks to my dad and my stepmom...they seem impatient. The last time he came over it seemed like they were avoiding us. I also sense impatience from my/our friends. He tends to ramble on about work or his family a lot and I think it makes people a little annoyed. Should I say something next time it happens? What would I say?", "summary": "My bf talks too much and people seem impatient with him, so what do?"}
{"id": "t3_ghwaj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I quit a job that wasn't paying what I deserved, can I get unemployment benefits?", "post": "I am a resident of California and I was wondering if anyone was knowledgeable about the laws regarding unemployment benefits here. I voluntarily quit my job recently because I felt I was being egregiously underpaid for the work I was doing there (I was getting paid more at my part-time catering job than at the other company for doing graphic / web design, marketing, and web analytics). Since I was privy to the profits of the company due to my deep involvement in the analytics I could see the great difference in the money being made from my efforts, and the amount I was being compensated for them. They told me they wanted to increase my workload on a new project that would have been the most profitable venture yet and I told them they needed to pay me more or I could not continue with the company. They refused, and I was wondering, since I voluntarily ended my employment, am I entitled to any compensation? Could I have handled this situation in a different way?", "summary": "Don't ever accept a job that does not pay you what you deserve in the hopes of getting a raise later. You will only get screwed over."}
{"id": "t3_4l2j6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] doesn't know how to deal with my father[65 M].", "post": "Hi All,\n\nI really don't know where to begin, so I'm sorry if I'm just rambling on. My father and mother migrated to the US from India in 1988. He always had drinks, but usually after work. But ever since he lost his job in 2002 he started to drink a lot (whisky). He even got fired from work once because he came to work drunk. Around 2007, he got a brain seizure because he tried to quit cold turkey. \nAfter he retired (2014), all he does is stay home and drink (beer) but lately for the last few weeks he's back to drinking liquor. His doctor has advised him to stop drinking and smoking as his liver and lungs are in bad shape.\n\nI really think he has some sort of depression issue and I don't know how to address it or deal with it. No one can talk to him about his drinking problem. He thinks everyone is against him and he doesn't want to hear anyone's advise, because he thinks everyone is trying to ruin his life. He also has a habit of being abusive to my mother both physically and verbally. He blames everything on either my mother or my sister and I. He keeps telling us that we didn't live up to his expectations and we let him down.\n\nEveryone in my family has asked him to get some help, but he refuses. He's planning on going to India in July for three months and I don't think he's coming back alive. In India there is no one to control him and anyone to watch over him. Last year when he was in India, he was admitted to the hospital for about 20 days because he was drunk all day everyday and once he starts drinking he refuses to eat any sort of food. I'm planning on visiting him in July before he goes to India and I feel like this might be the last time I see him alive.", "summary": "My father has drinking problem and I think he also has depression. Don't know how to deal with him. Might not be alive much longer."}
{"id": "t3_4qu94i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't convince my girlfriend that not eating isn't the right thing to do to lose weight. I need help, I'm desperate.", "post": "I'm am 18 year old Male and my 18 year old girlfriend of 1 year and 3 months is overweight and wants to stop eating to lose weight, and she can't take it off her mind and that that is the right thing to do because nothing she ever tried before worked. \n\nIn reality, what she has tried before works, the problem is that she can't keep up with it. She says she just wants to be \"normal\" and enjoy a \"normal life\" like other people, eating what she wants and not be fat, and that that is unfair for her. Then, she falls into a hole of self pitty and guilt and demotivation, and stops making progress like she has done before and always ignore. She used to go to appointments at a nutricionist, and that doctor kept track of her weight month after month, after giving my girlfriend a list of what is most recommend for her to eat during breakfast, lunch and dinner (basicly, things that give her enough energy to go through the day and make her lose weight. It's about calory intake). \n\nShe keeps saying things to me like \"I'm such a piece of s***, I should just die to end my suffering. Maybe if I stopped eating I wouldn't be such a whale, nobody wants to look at me\" and it breaks my heart so much to listen to such things, I just want to grab her and shake her to make her head stop telling her those things, but I know that will only make it worse, and I don't know what else I can do. Please help me.", "summary": "Basicly what the title says. Gf wants to stop eating to lose weight, can't convince her that is wrong and for her to keep her diet plan that was actually working."}
{"id": "t3_2s1z56", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Neighbour boy (teenage) in love with me (33f)", "post": "I Apologize, poor English. \n\nI (33f) recent move to America 1 year ago into apartment building. Family living next door very nice people. We get to know each other and times I bring them cooking goods; breads, cakes, candies. I bring them cooking to demonstrate appreciation for helpfulness and friendship.\n\n3 months ago teenage son of neighbour knocks on my door for visit. It is ok for first. Problem is he come again and again. He nice boy, but he in love with me. I sad towards him, my boyfriend make jokes of him. I try to explain to boys father. Father also make jokes of him. \n\nBoy is small and weak with no girlfriend. Everybody make jokes of him.", "summary": "teenager neighbour boy in love with me (33f). Make stop visiting me."}
{"id": "t3_3aivwh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 2 years, never wants to spend money on activities we can do together, but is totally willing to spend money on activities with friends.", "post": "I know this may seem petty and small (which it may be) but it bothers me and is affecting our relationship, and I don't know how to handle it since we've already talked about it.\n\nWe go to college together but live in different cities. We are currently living at college together. Whenever I come up with something fun to do, if it costs money or is a far drive he has zero interest in participating in it, ultimately taking away a lot of date options for us. Recently I've been saying we should go back to they city im from and explore downtown since there's a lot of things I know would be fun that he would love (baseball games, science museum, fantastic restaurants etc) but since it's a 2 hour drive for the weekend and most of that costs money he doesn't want to. So we end up sitting down at college doing nothing (there's not much of anything to do in our town)\n\nAlso I feel like I should mention, since we're in college and on a college kid budget, very very rarely, id say maaaaybe 1 out of 10 times we do anything does he pay for both of us. I don't feel it's fair for the guy to have to pay everytime, especially in college on a budget so we always pay separate and im 100% okay with that, I actually like it more. \n\nHowever, my problem is that when his friends ask him to do something like that he's all excited and down for it. For example, he's going to a baseball game today and casino and a beer and wine tasting, IN MY HOMETOWN. knowing I can't go today. \n\nI've voiced my concerns before and told him it's very frustrating to me, and why it's frustrating but that apparently hasn't done any good. I'm not sure what else I can do.", "summary": "boyfriend never wants to do things I plan when they cost money or involve driving very far, but when friends plan it he always tags along."}
{"id": "t3_4nasnw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[infidelity] me [26] them [25] military and fraud", "post": "Me [26] recently found out someone in the military cheated on their wife with another married service member in 2014. His wife left him shortly after. Their divorce was finalized last week may 2016. I've learned he had still received the dependent pay and the basic housing allowance for having a dependent and he did not report their physical separation to his command. I feel he has committed a lot of wrongs and some illegal wrongs. That's fraud. There is proof in their divorce decree when they legally separated 7/20/2014. Can I report this fraud? Whom do I contact to report it to? \n\nI find it distasteful a service member behaved in this manner but committing money fraud? And he's even said to me he could get into trouble for still receiving these benefits. What should I do?", "summary": "service member committed adultery and didn't report separation properly and has received dependent benefits. Who do I report this to? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_dua83", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I seem to be paranoid of every company I can start a career with.  I think this is preventing me from performing an adequate job search.  How can I confidently move forward in my decision making?", "post": "Hello Reddit, I seem to be at a crossroads in my life, and I feel overwhelmed with the innumerable number of career/life decisions in front of me.  I'm approaching 25, with a completed masters degree in CS/Economics earlier this year.  I have remained stagnant in my hometown over the past several months, with a part time research job of ambiguous sustainability. \n\nI've lived here all my life.  I attended k-12, undergrad, and grad here.  All of my family and friends live here.  I have a flexible schedule, and plenty of time for leisure.  I am comfortable, but I feel my current situation is stunting my growth as an individual.\n\nThe most common next step for me is the business world, though I feel repulsed by the majority of what I have heard about it.  I read of corruption, of cut-throat tactics, of ambiguous ethics, and poor working conditions.  I hear older relatives bemoan their jobs ritualistically.  I'm often told to \"enjoy my free time now, because it won't last.\"     \n\nI feel stuck, and I feel paranoid.  I don't want generate profit for a company that may end up using that money to lobby more of my rights away (go USA).  I want to work with a company that ultimately is providing some positive contribution to humanity, and with individuals who love their job.  I want a job that won't consume all of my free time (I often hear of inexperienced salaried employees being coaxed into working 60+ hour weeks).  Such opportunities look few and far between, and every company I look at feels like a step in the wrong direction.  \n\nOn top of all of this, my job may take me away from all that I have grown up with, my social life included.  How am I supposed to be able to commit to such a substantial change in my life,  all the while feeling like I am willingly stepping into danger?", "summary": "I don't trust the business world, but I need to continue onward with my life and work.  How do I confidently move forward?"}
{"id": "t3_mtz0x", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Interview at a Rendering Plant Tomorrow- Very Odorous Working Environment", "post": "Tomorrow I have an interview at a Rendering Plant (where animal parts are boiled for broth) which smells HORRIBLY bad.  I've been forewarned and I think I got the interview bc I have experience visiting these factories,  but never more than an hour or so.  The position is as a mechanical engineer and it's with a large and strong company.  My only concern is that it's very far from where I live (4 hrs by plane) and the potential of SMELLING PERMANENTLY, even if I left the position.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience in this type of work environment?  I was put on the spot about my salary expectations and said, \"between 50-60K\".  I feel I should ask for more given that it's an odd shift (thurs-mon) with potential \"off day work\" and not to mention the smell.  The running average for starting engineers is around 50k throughout most of Canada but this position is listed in Alberta- where the average is usually around 60K.  The Alberta average, however, is more a reflection of Oil Patch than the food sector.", "summary": "Any strong opinions on working in a highly odorous environment?"}
{"id": "t3_2lp3ac", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating where I jizz", "post": "I eat my breakfasts (generally waffles) off of a paper plate each day. I'm very clean about it so I tend to use the same plate for a few days. Today I ate my breakfast and left it on the coffee table like I usually do and turned on the tv. Not much was on and it had been a few days since my last wank so I thought, \"Why not?\" I get going an finally climax to be surprised by one of the largest loads I've had in years. No tissues around I decided to drop a majority of it on my breakfast plate so I don't drop it on my way to the bath to clean up. I got cleaned up and when about my day. A bit after lunch time I hadn't eaten and figured I should make a bagel since it was too early for dinner. Pop down the bagels and blindly grab the plate I used for breakfast. It is a white plate and my apartment isn't well lit so I didn't see anything out of the norm. Take the bagels out, butter them, and put them on the plate to carry back to the couch. First half was fine and delicious, second bagel I had noticed was a bit wet. Oh well, it must have been some ice from being in the fridge I thought. On my last bite and I think to myself, \"Even if it was ice it wouldn't be this slimy.\" That's when it hit me. I hadn't thrown out the plate from this morning I used to dump my jizz on.", "summary": "Ate bagels soaked in my own cum..."}
{"id": "t3_jk7b1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay, Reddit. Very Serious Question regarding bees. I've got a small nest near my living room window, and bee stings = likely death. Wat do?", "post": "I have a SEVERE bee allergy, and despite my near constant vigilance, I have a small nest outside of my living room window.\n\nI have a can of Raid and a can of Black Flag, but since I don't have health insurance right now, poor aim, and lack of an Epi-Pen due to said lack of insurance, I'd rather not take on the Bee Menace without ensuring that I'm not going to end up in the ER or die.\n\nI don't know what kind of bees they are and frankly, I don't care. I just want them GONE since bees can kill me. I'd like to NOT hire an exterminator, but if I have to, I will.", "summary": "I have a potentially fatal allergy to bees and even with vigilance they've made a nest outside my window, wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wc6un", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not taking advantage of a girl (slightly joking)", "post": "So i(20m)as talking to this girl named.. \"victoria\" (18f) and have hung out with her on a few occasion thru mutual friends now everything was going pretty swell, she invited me to a party one night but bc I was seeing friends home from school I ended up there at midnight. By the time I got there she was pretty chocolaty wasted. She brings me to the back and attacks my face. Now I'm all for this but being sober as a clam I gently pushed her off me and declined her advances. We spent the rest of the night at a friends house we walked too. I pretty much joked around with her, made sure she didn't topple over and walked her home and gave her a goodnight kiss. Now things aren't as they were and she doesn't seem into it when we text and I have pretty much force a conversation. Now I'm not gonna  chase a girl if she's not into me, It happens. You win some you lose some.. but did I do anything wrong ? Sorry if this is in the wrong sub but girls suck and so does dating *sigh* rant over", "summary": "bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks"}
{"id": "t3_uyarf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today at work I had a Grenade Scare...What is your more shocking/scary work moment?", "post": "As I was getting ready to leave work (at the Sheriffs Office) I started hearing from people that we are going into lock down (Meaning no one is allowed into the building and all doors are shut and locked). \n\nApparently some \"nut\" in a brown van, has a live Grenade and has made a threat to let it off in our motor pool (Mechanics Shop).\n\nI asked my manager if I could leave. He said that \"There is a crazed man with a grenade...do you really want to go out there?\" I responded with, \"I would rather take my chances leaving the targeted area, the remaining inside.\".\n\nBTW...I lived...", "summary": "Crazy guy threaten to toss a grenade into the motor pool at the sheriffs department."}
{"id": "t3_1kbwjq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Intelligence gathering", "post": "If you told a kid to draw on a piece of paper using any color crayon he wanted, but told him that he could only draw on a certain part of the paper, use only the color red, and only draw a bomb, would it be accurate for you to assume that the kid is violent and dangerous when you see the results? \n\nIt doesn't work that way. Stop making conclusions when you've already decided on the results.  And stop analyzing the results if you don't even understand the data. Stop collecting data if you don't even know how.\n\nAnd I refuse to talk to my family until this is all over. You are the reason.\n\nYou've been playing ball in my court, ignoring my rules, shitting on everything, and then insulting me in the process. Get off your damn high horse you arrogant pricks.\n\nAnd your reason for not talking to me directly is so fucking bullshit. You are using that as an excuse for all the shit you've pulled. \n\nThe thing that makes me mad about this whole situation is that you guys have no problem being such an ass yet expect full cooperation and royal treatment. Fuck you, you will get no more cooperation from me. I am done with this bullshit.", "summary": "Garbage in, garbage out."}
{"id": "t3_xsx71", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the weirdest/best/most hilarious stories you have from class? For Example...", "post": "I was in a Comm. class and we were discussing a theory about how the way society views you, and how you will internalize those said things and it can become a part of how you see yourself. My professor asked around the class for examples from our lives, where we have seen this happen. This big black guy in the back (and yes this is valid in part of explaining the story) raised his hand and began to explain how he was leaving a house party at three in the morning. Mind you my campus is surrounded by some pretty sketchy area's. He noticed these two \"white emo skinny looking dudes\" in front of him that he didn't know, and noticed they looked back and started to walk a little faster. He thought to himself, \"oh shit, there is someone sketchy as fuck behind us\" so he began to walk faster. He then noticed the white guys starting to sprint, \"Now this scared me, so I didn't even wanna see the thugs that were behind me so I started to sprint... and I mean I'm a big dude so eventually I started to slow down, and was like shit I better see what I'm gonna be up against... As I turn my head and sweat is dripping down my face I look back...there was no one there. I was the thug, and I was running away from myself.\"", "summary": "big black guy left house party at 3 a.m thought two white guys infront of him were running from a scary dude behind all of them... He ran away from his self."}
{"id": "t3_1lhnk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22M Break up side effect", "post": "I am recovering from a fresh break up. Almost 2 weeks now. I'm blaming myself for the break up a little too much. I haven't been very good at No Contact mainly because I know I can't logically avoid her seeing as we hang out in the same places.\n\nAnyway, an odd side effect of the break up is surfacing. I seem to be having feelings for people I really shouldn't (a person) and I know in my heart that what I'm feeling is just some weird side effect. I mean the girl I'm crushing on has a semi serious guy and I totally respect what they have. In fact, in the past I've actually found this girl actively unattractive.\n\nCan someone explain what is going on, And more importantly, how to deal with it?", "summary": "Having feelings for people I shouldn't"}
{"id": "t3_20bmi0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I help my (28/f) friend finally start dating?!", "post": "I have a wonderful, cute, intelligent, funny friend who has simply never put herself out there...she's chosen to surround herself with gay men and has resigned herself to her fate as a cat lady. Tonight she finally decided she wanted to take some risks and put herself out there. I told her I would come up with 1 simple thing (baby step) she could do this week to get on the right path.\nSuggestions??? Ask a guy for directions? Compliment? Eventually, I'd like to work up to having her create an OKCupid profile just so that she can see that she is desirable, even if she's still not ready to actually meet any men yet.\nAny help would be great.", "summary": "What can I suggest?!"}
{"id": "t3_3fuwgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 5 months, am not physically attracted.", "post": "I have been dating someone for the last 5 months. He is sweet and gentle and kind and is the most respectful person I have ever been with. I could easily see how I could marry a man like this \u2013 the option isn't something I am truly considering yet, just a descriptor \u2013 and would love to spend the rest of my life with a person like him. \n\nHowever, I've begun to notice that while I am no less happy emotionally, I don't think I'm really all that physically attracted to him. It would be a different story if it were his body that I did not respond to (have previous experience with this), but it's his face that I, in all honesty, am not happy with. If I could change it without hurting his feelings, I probably would.  \n\nIt isn't something that I would ever leave him for, and I am happy emotionally with the relationship and have never felt this comfortable with someone before. However, I feel like it is starting to strain our sexual relationship as well and what should I do about it?", "summary": "Dating a lovely and kind man who I would love to share many more days with, but am not really physically attracted to him. What do I do and am I a scumbag?"}
{"id": "t3_2bwp9k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17m] have reason to believe I have mild anxiety attacks when I haven't seen my girlfriend [17f] for a while, need help to correct this.", "post": "So the background is, I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 2 months and needless to say I'm extremely happy with her and we have our problems, but we work through them.\n\nSpecifically regarding my problem, her parents don't know about me and they have been restricting her ability to go out as they believe she has been lying about where she's going (accurate to say the least) and I see her twice a month if I'm lucky. Now after 2 weeks go by my chest tightens up, I feel stressed out and I start shaking. I always think the relationship is falling apart even when she tells me shes the luckiest girl in the world for finding me. So looking into it it seems like I'm having mild anxiety attacks except they stick, the tightness in my chest doesn't go away except for when i video call her.\n\nI would really appreciate some advice on how to get over/stop this, because it also messes with my sleep, eating and mood. It's just no way to be and I know I'm not pleasant to be around when I'm like this\n\nI guess I should say that as I write this I have that same tightness in my chest and all i can think about is the next time i get to see her.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I been together two months. Parents don't know about me so i barely see her. I feel like I get mild anxiety attacks after 2 weeks of not seeing her (has happened twice) and its affecting my whole life, so I would appreciate advice on how to fix myself."}
{"id": "t3_18qww6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Let the one I love go, or keep fighting?", "post": "My girlfriend of 8 months (last 3 months where 1.5 hrs long distance) is wanting to go to Australia to work for 1-2 years and we are having issues sorting out how we will be going forward. It is something she has wanted to do for 5 years and is really fed up with her current job. The issue is we are both at the age where we want to settle down and this is of greater concern to her as her biological clock is ticking. She has set a goal of leaving in May and I told her that I can't join her until I finish my Master's degree in September but that I will make it happen if we decide that we are in this for the long haul. The issue is that she doesn't want to commit if she doesn't see a long-term future. Our last conversation ended with her in tears of her being terrified of losing me and she kept expressing how no one has ever been so nice to her. She expressed how she couldn't see a future beyond 1 year yet and that it didn't feel perfect to her. I tried to explain to her that no one is perfect and that the timing will never be right. In the end, I told her it was up to her since she needs to see a future before we can move on. At the moment, it feels like she isn't being rational. I don't know why we can't try. Especially when we are happy and so deeply love with one another. However, I have been toying with the idea of letting her go and that if it is truly meant to be, she will come back. The other side of me doesn't think I should stop fighting this early in the game but I am at a loss for what I could possibly do. Has anyone else been in a similar situation before?", "summary": "Have to decided whether to let the one I love go, or to keep fighting."}
{"id": "t3_17fibb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "A girl wants to date me but I want to date her friend. What's the best way to move forward?", "post": "I(22m) have recently been hanging out with this girl(23f) and her friends. We'll refer to her as girl A. It is extremely obvious and out in the open that she wants to date me. \nThe problem is that I don't feel the same way. And to make matters worse, she recently introduced me to her friend(21f) , girl B, that I am quite taken with. I know that girl B knows that girl A wants to date me because she has been nudging me in that direction. \nHow, if at all possible, do I move forward through this minefield of a situation? I would love to date girl B.", "summary": "A girl wants to date me but I want to date her friend."}
{"id": "t3_142l7z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the worst way you've been cock-blocked?  NSFW", "post": "Alright, no one really knows this because I'm so ashamed to tell the story of it; but here goes.  \n\n  When I was 14, I had a 16 year old girl come over to hang out with me.  We were actually really good friends and I didn't intend on anything to happen.  Going on, we were in my basement talking about random stuff that's been going on, but then we decided to go into my room to watch a movie (I have a flat screen at the end of my bed).  \n\nAt this time, my 14 year old tendencies are kicking up and my hormones are starting to cause me to think with my other head.  We get into watching the movie and we're laying down on our stomachs facing the screen.  We start getting into the movie and she starts complaining how she's cold, so I put my arm around her and got close.  The proceeds to me rubbing her back, hand in shirt, hand in pants etc. etc.  I'm having a grand old time because this was the first time I'd done anything like this.\n\nSo it progresses and I move my hand in her shirt and around to the opposite side and grab her boob.  She glances over at me and makes a little smirk and kisses me on the lips.  NOW, be aware that I had never kissed a girl until this point.  I was stunned.  I just looked back at her with a stunned face; she leans in and takes a couple more smooches like she wanted to start making out... I didn't move, or kiss back.  I just sat there not knowing what to do.  \n\nShe kind of got the idea after the second time that I had no idea what I'm doing and she stopped trying.  However, I still tried.  She wasn't too fond of me feeling her up after I straight-faced her.  She pulled my hand out, switched positions and laid down on her back under the covers, and I just sat there.  We finished watching the movie, her parents came and picked her up and she went home.\n\nI haven't talked to her since.\n\n*So close..", "summary": "I cock blocked the shit out of my 14-year-old self by straight facing a girl who tried to make out with me."}
{"id": "t3_fyp4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Finding the girl I'm dating and I have different tastes in... everything. And it makes her feel inferior sometimes...", "post": "I, 22 y/o male, she, 21 y/o female. Been going out for 5 weeks now, my first 'real' relationship. Disclaimer, I will over-react to any and everything, probably doing so right now, but I want to sound it out with y'all anyways.\n\nI'm sure this has happened to everybody at some point in time, but I'm realizing that this girl that I'm dating likes different music (she: Five Finger Death Punch, Hinder, Jason Aldean, Nickelback, he: Death Cab for Cutie, Jenny Lewis, Counting Crows, Miles Davis) fashion (she: Christian Audigier/Ed Hardy, he: usually business casual, polo and khakis, etc) movies (she: most goofy Adam Sandler movies, he: classic comedies, Airplane!, Young Frankenstein)...\n\nWe do have some common interests, and I treasure it when we discover something we both like (True Blood, Bullet For My Valentine, fine writing utensils) but I sometimes wonder if it's too few and far-between.\n\nI'm quite willing to be flexible and open to new things, as is she. We've played movies and music for each other.\n\nHer view on things is that I'm \"too smart\" for her, sometimes. I do my best to convince her that I'm not, that our differences are good. She's uncomfortable with some vocabulary that I use, \"big words\", and that I'm in a 4 year college, while she's in community college, etc.\n\nAm I on the right track?", "summary": "I'm geeky/hipster-ish, she's kind of a country girl. She feels inferior sometimes, and I'm trying my best to convince her that she's my dream girl."}
{"id": "t3_4ifgxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17/f] said some hurtful things about me [18/m] during and argument about prom.", "post": "In advance, I'd like to apologize for the poor grammar and spelling in this post. Its early and im typing this up on mobile.\n\nI'm having an incident right now in which my girlfriend went back on her word for prom. After saying she would go with my friends group, she made plans with her friends on the night of prom which doesnt include actually going to the dance but rather hanging out downtown. This being my senior year prom i was upset and she, being only a junior, i felt like was being a bit selfish.\n\nOn friday she said to me late at night after hours of not texting her, something along the line of \"of yeah im hoping youre having fun with your friends right now while im having a panic attack\". I had no idea she was having one and she seemed angry at me for it. Then when i asked her about prom plans that i needed to finalize that night she said aggresively that she is going to go with her friends because they care about her, like when she was having the heart attack.\n\nThen when i expressed how upset i was due to her making me cancel plans that i already paid for with my friends (and could not get returned), she lashed out at me. She said i was acting like a 5 year old. She said that my ex (who was abusive, and she knows about) left me because i was just being a bad boyfriend who didnt care. She said some hurtful things that really surprised me.\n\nThe next day she blamed being stressed for lashing out on me. But i still feel hurt.\nIm thinking about not going to prom and breaking up with her.\n\nWhat should i do,Reddit?", "summary": "girlfriend got mad at me for being upset and lashed out at me hurtfully."}
{"id": "t3_kunm1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I tell my mom?", "post": "So I talked to my mom today and with my extraordinary social skills I deduced that was upset. When I asked her about it, she said that I seemed to be withdrawing from her for the last couple of months.\n\nA couple months ago, after years of struggling, I finally came to the conclusion that there was no god. This was after constantly trying to find reasons to continue believing and finding more and more reasons not to. I have to say that the movie \"Letting Go of God\" was the largest influence in that decision, since I was able to relate with almost all of it. Afterwards, I wanted to tell my parents because my mom has always been about honesty. She is also extremely religious. She has told me she would never question god for any reason and believes everything can be solved by prayer.\n\nSo, feeling conflicted about telling her I asked other family, all my friends, and complete strangers and I did not get a single person who told me it was a good idea to tell my mom about my change in faith. Most of them felt (especially family) that it would hurt her way too much. I feel like this change in my beliefs has been causing me to withdraw from her, but I'm not sure I can do anything about it. In her life, everything is about god. Is it possible for me to be a part of her life when mine has nothing to do with god? Should I tell her, especially after she has said she wants to clear the air and be honest about anything that might be causing me to withdraw from her so we can get past it, but knowing it would hurt her tremendously? Is it possible to get past this?\n\nI would post this to r/atheism, but I want religious views as well.", "summary": "If your kid was withdrawing from you, would you want to know they were going to hell so you two might get closer again?"}
{"id": "t3_309rrz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/M] with my GF [23] been together 2 months, she has Borderline Personality disorder, and i need advice.", "post": "Ok reddit, i need help. Im not sure who else to turn to, I have have asked my Friends for advice but they don't fully understand my situation.\n\nA little backstory from me, didn't loose my virginity until i was 23, always been a little awkward around girls. I have had 2 girlfriends so far, my first last year, went about 3 months, then i ended it because i didn't see it going anywhere. Then i met my current girlfriend on OKCUpid about 3 months ago, been officially a couple for about 2 of those.\n\nAbout a month ago, she told me she has Borderline personality disorder, and told me to do research on and figure out if this is something i can get involved in. I told her i wanted to be with her, despite everything. We get along really well, have same interests, have similar goals in life. But there was always one thing lacking in her eyes, and that was sex, now don't get me wrong, the sex we have is great, i get her off a lot. shes just into a lot of stuff i'm not, like having sex with multiple people. and she said she doesn't think she can be with me anymore if we don't start looking into a poly relationship. \n\nShe says she loves me all the time and wants a long term relationship with me, but i'm not sure Morally if i can do that. The thought of her sleeping with someone else is heartbreaking, but also the idea of loosing her is even worse. I feel like no matter what option i choose im fucked. We talked a few hours last night about the possibility of being open like that, and i'm trying my best to adapt but it is hard. Im trying to understand her thought process in all this but its hard to grasp this whole situation. I told her last night i need a day or 2 to think things over and i'm gonna let her know my decision Tomorrow night.\n\nAny advice you guys can give me? There is a lot more i can write up about this situation but i didn't feel like writing a novel, so any any questions let me know. Thanks.", "summary": "new girlfriend of 2 months has borderline personality disorder and wants to have poly relationship and idk if i can be open to that but i dont want to loose her. please read whole post though, its complicated."}
{"id": "t3_qbzbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having trust issues with my girlfriend....", "post": "We are teens been going out for just under a year. So yeah we are 'young and dumb' but I have recently started discovering the dark past of my girlfriend. She acted innocent and loving to me. But wasn't really that atal. So I discoverd the foundations of what we have are essentialy a lie.\n\nWe were single and taking things slow and I would only want after her, she said the same thing and I 100% belived it! Though I recently discoverd that she was some what... Well... Completely diffrent. Asking for shags and genrally flirting with every one including my best mate. The exact words were 'lets get drunk and horny' \n\nWhen I discoverd this I asked her about these convosations and metings, she bluntly denied them insisting she was the girl I fell inlove with but has since, over time admited-denied-admitted-denied these stores whilst changing vital parts every time.", "summary": "basically discoverd the girl I love was, not so long ago a completely diffrent person and has lied about everything in her past. I love her, and see a future. But this has made trust an issue for me."}
{"id": "t3_1h1bv7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [20M] bring up the FWB question with [20F]?", "post": "Ok so I've been really good friends with this girl since like high. We have always gotten along well and all that jazz. Reason I never asked out was because she had a boyfriend throughout the whole time I've known her. I could always feel some attraction between us but never acted on it out of respect for her and her relationship. Cut to now she's been out of that long term relationship for a couple of months now and we've reconnected since she's back in our home state. I still feel the connection but I know neither of us is interested in long term relationships. So how can I bring up the FWB topic?", "summary": "How to bring up topic of FWB to a long time friend who isn't looking for a long term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2mgx93", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke about disabled people.", "post": "Okay, let's get this over with.. This actually happened last week. Sorry.\nSo, for my Physical Education class we have a essay due, about our favourite sport, what their diet should be, our role models, simple stuff, right?\nI was powering through it, armed with Lucozade and sleep deprivation- when I saw what swimmers should eat for lunch.\n''Lunch- Fish and Vegetables.\"\nBeing a smart-ass like I am, I googled a wheelchair, googled a fish, and with about five minutes of photoshop, I had a fish in a wheelchair. Ha-ha, I finished up and sent the paper off to my PE teacher.\nToday I woke up with twelve emails, my PE teacher sent it to my head of year, who sent it to my headmistress, and so on. Three of those emails are from the school therapist.\n\nI done fucked up.", "summary": "Put a wheelchair and a fish in a essay. Mistakes were made."}
{"id": "t3_uasrt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most MacGyver-like trick that's gotten you out of a tight situation?", "post": "So over this week, my parents wanted me to stay at their house to watch their dogs while they're out of town. During my stay, I went into the bathroom to take a shower, but once I finished, I approached the door and tried to open it, only to find the handle wasn't getting the latch to retract. Now matter how much I jostled or jerked the handle, it wouldn't open. I peeked along the side of the door, only to find the latch was facing outward of the bathroom, meaning I couldn't use a thin object to force the latch to retract. Furthermore, there wasn't any sort of lock to the door knob; it was a cheap and lockless, something my stepmother had installed a while back just to last until she sold the house.\n\nSo now I was left with a conundrum. I could either attempt to shove my weight against the door to break it (which is kind of difficult, considering it's a pretty thick door), wait six hours for my siblings to get home, which would have made me miss an exam, or try everything to break out of the room. After tearing up the bathroom, I ended up with a pair of scissors and two nail clippers as tools. I used the sharp tip of the nail file on the clippers to unscrew both of the knob's screws, then wedged off the doorknob, leaving (what I assume is) the latch assembly and the latch itself, which were firmly locked in place. I used the scissors as a lever to pry off the outer layer of metal on the latch assembly, then used the tips of the scissors to manually tug the metal strip attached to the latch to pull open. All in all, it took me about an hour, and I made my test on time.\n\nIt got me curious about what sorts of tricks people have used to get out of tight spots. Anyone have any good examples they'd like to share?", "summary": "I broke past a jammed bathroom door with scissors and a pair of nail clippers, now I want to know what other MacGyver-like tricks people have used."}
{"id": "t3_mzi7v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to find a beard token (\u041f\u043e\u0440\u0435\u0437 \u043d\u0430 \u0431\u0440\u0430\u0434\u0443)", "post": "before i start i'm not even sure if this belongs in this subreddit so if not please let me know\n\nMy cousin has been looking for one of these coins for years (she is a dance student) and she isn't good at finding things online at all. anyways She has been my best friend for as long as i can remember and has always been there for me so i really want to help her out with this.  if anyone on here has one of these tokens or knows where i can buy one that would be incredible. [Here] is a link to a picture of the coin if you don't know but are just curious.", "summary": "i need help finding one of [these] for my cousin"}
{"id": "t3_3nwoga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my friend [25 F], just told me she likes me - need a bit of perspective.", "post": "I've known this girl for quite a long time and always thought she'd be a good match. Only recently has she matured enough for me to think that she'd be a really good match.  \nShe's stunning, plays games, watches anime, great conversation and yesterday she told me she likes me.  \n  \nThe thing is, I have a gf [32 F] at the moment. It's not going to last forever with my current gf, her visa will expire early next year. She's treated me well and she's a very nice girl but I can't see it going anywhere long term. But I can't just drop her like that...  \nThe other girl is a bit of a mix of loyal, gets invested in relationships, a bit wild, and has gone through a lot in both life experiences and relationships in the past 5 years (even more than I have) which I think has added to her rapid maturing and she's just a really interesting person to be around - but needs her space too, which I can give her.\nShe's pretty much the closest match to the girl of my dreams I can think of - IF her liking me isn't just a passing emotion.\n\nWhat would most people do in this situation? I can't stop thinking about it but I'm completely stuck. I'd feel like the worst person in the world if I just dropped my current gf, she doesn't deserve that and I'd rather let her have the nice memories between us until she leaves to go back to her home country.", "summary": "Safe and comfortable, or take a risk?"}
{"id": "t3_1p6twl", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Alright. I think I screwed myself.", "post": "I'm going to make this short. I'm looking for options here. \n\nWent to an engineering school. HATED it. Loved the area. ETC. Got ok to shitty grades first year and a half. Too immature. The school has a notorious reputation for getting depressed at. \n\nGrades improved a lot >3.0 ever since. Transferred to a school in the south (Which was a bad idea...Not really my kind of place...). And I'm pretty sure I was screwed to begin with (Can't get into my program; The major something I was pushed into by my parents and I'm starting to realize I hate it)... A lot of shit was happening so I basically said fuck it and went. Not my kind of place. \n\nI'm out of classes I need at this point to raise my GPA. I'm 21. \n\nI have another option which I am highly considering. Would be nice to graduate college though. \n\nA lot of other bullshit happened also... (parents got divorced, lost jobs, etc) which affected my progress...\n\nThat's not the point however.\n\nAdvice would be great", "summary": "Got shitty grades a few years ago and fucked myself over."}
{"id": "t3_3pe95w", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is this even legal for a 'Freemium' Android Game?", "post": "I have a question regarding the Android game War of Nations. The developers, Gree International, programmed an event into the game that gives a certain amount of time to finish missions. In this case the missions are 48 hours long.\n\nIn order to complete the mission you have to get the most points in 20 minute battles and win a certain amount of battles in which the way to get more points is literally to spend more money.\n\nAnyways, having a perfect record in this event which is extremely expensive (Tens of thousands of dollars for my 50 man alliance over a 48 hour period), does not give anywhere enough to finish the event.", "summary": "Game gives incentive to spend huge money on rewards that are literally impossible due to event being too short."}
{"id": "t3_jg4ef", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "have you ever Trolled Compleat strangers?", "post": "So this is not my own story but was told to me by some one so if it's true who knows, but there is a Religious group here in the States called the jehovah witness who come door to door and try to talk to you about god ( i know most people have heard of them but some haven't) so they come to this guys door and he lets them in and sits on the couch and all that and his buddy comes by and they were going to leave to go Fishing, SO HE LEAVES THEM IN HIS HOUSE!.. when he came back all his dishes were done. Do you have any stories?", "summary": "Jehovah witnesses come to a guys house he leave them there and they do dishes."}
{"id": "t3_4n318w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] gf [24F] is visiting an ex [24M] that she considers just a friend", "post": "I met this amazing girl a 2 months back and things have never been better. She also has this friend, I'll call Matt, who she used to date a couple years ago in college. She was going through some tough times and became super close with his family, and her and Matt ended up breaking up but still staying close.\n\nRecently she went out of state to visit him for a few days, then see his family for the rest of the trip. The whole trip was set up before we met, and she's mentioned many times about him just being like a brother now. I have no issue with her being friends with him, or even visiting. Matt has roommates and she's sleeping in his room on the floor on an air mattress. She sends me snaps of her helping him with physical therapy and he's shirtless. I just don't want to see that. Again, I 100% trust her, and believe her when she says it's platonic, but it still makes me uncomfortable. How do I talk to her about this and express my feelings without coming off as a jealous boyfriend-type?", "summary": "gf is spending time with an ex that she assures me is just like a brother. I want to be okay with it, how can I?"}
{"id": "t3_3q0a2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can i stop lying about my nervousness? ,,22M", "post": "I am a 22 yo man who always feel i have to hide my nervousness because I have dealt very badly with it and I have let myself hate people and things as in \"the world is unfair and you all suck\" when i was just letting myself go . I am realising that and cleaning up after my mess.\n\nNow I have random hate, prejudices, nervous anticipations and fears that pop-up whenever they feel like it, i tainted my soul so many times that it hants me.\n\nI deal with these issues:\n\nI cant look people in the eyes sometimes because i fear they can see what i m thinking and i wouldnt want anybody to be scared of me by discovering all the hate i ve created in the past\n\nI am very private when it comes to my nervousness so i hide that i think so hard, that i m super sensible to noises, that i overanalyse over nothing(i try dismissing it everytime)\n\nAm i actually a better person(meaning that i do right things now) or just a bad person trying to be a good guy but who s really just an asshole? -> if that was clear to me that i was doing the right thing, i guess i wouldnt doubt myself so much.\n\nHow can i stop feeling like a liar? I m tired of always lying to people about who i am, it takes a lot of energy and i give off the impression that i am hiding something so i ve heard a few times\n\nAnd at the same time, should I really let people know that i have a very black person inside of me that nervously and unfairly bash talk anc critisize everything and everyone, and that i spent a lot of times trying to control and reasonate?\n\nEven though my thinking is not that terrible and i value respect and see lots of potential in people, i have judged and overreacted to things so many times in my young life that i cant help but feel hopeless sometimes.\n\nIt's also all very personal obviously i never shared that with close friends but i dont like putting my poker face on everytime i start being nervous.\n\nAll i know is that it feels great to go forward \n\nSo having your feedback could help me make sens out of this", "summary": "I nervously judge things in a random manner but it doesnt feel like me. Am i nevrotic or just plain bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2zgy0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [19 F] of 1.5-2 years. I don't think I love her anymore, or ever even did.", "post": "We started this relationship by cheating. I was in a FWB relationship and she was in an abusive/controlling one. We messed around for months before I managed to get her safely away from him. \n\nI have never felt such a strong initial attraction to someone. I thought it must be love. Fast foward 1.5 years. We're living together with a kid. She's passive aggressive and doesn't communicate well. I work full time to support us and then get passively bitched at when I want to come home and relax.\n\nI've been feeling like this for a couple months now. Realizing that our roaring flame is now little more than a spark. Honestly, I would've left already if I could. \n\nProblems are:\n\n1. She's very attached and doesn't take loss well.\n\n2. Her mother is controlling and I would probably lose the right to see my son.\n\n3. I don't want to leave her to support him on her own. \n\nLast night a series of events took place. I went to my friend Trouble's place for some whiskey. Well after about an hour we start making out. 10 mins in she comments that this is a bad idea but she doesn't care. Niether of us are drunk enough to not be aware of the situation. We don't end up sleeping together. Lots of kissing and talking.\n\nWe talk about how I don't love my gf anymore and how we would've ended up together if we wouldn't have messed up our shot a few years earlier.  Eventually I go home and we agreed that once we left the to things went on as if last night never happened. \n\nWhat the hell should I do? And how would you recommend ending it with my gf?", "summary": "Fell out of love with my GF/Mother of my child. Realizing I care about her but don't wish to be with her. What the hell should I do? And how would you recommend ending it with my gf?"}
{"id": "t3_3pv9vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31m] lied to girlfriend [31f] about sexual past, what to do?", "post": "Alright, so a little context, we had been seeing each other not quite a month at this point.\n\nDuring a drunken game of \"never have i ever\" the question of how many sexual partners have you had; somehow came up. I was the first to go and was nervous to say my real number (which is around 20), so I said 5 not to sound like I slept around a lot. Then she said 3. Hoping this would blow over or not really count since it was in a drunken game I just left it. \n\nBut now she still remembers that I said 5 and keeps coming back to it, and says she wants to know more about my exes and what my past is like. I think she knows that it isn't the truth because she says I am real difficult about my sexual past, and feels that I should open up about it more for our relationship to move forward. I feel guilty about it and feel like I should come clean.\n\nHowever, something that makes me feel otherwise...she let me know that there is a guy that she feels strongly about. She doesn't know him personally, but from a distance (in a stalker sort of way). Anyway, she said if given the opportunity she would sleep with him, and never tell me about it. I kind of objected and said that being it happened during our relationship or would possibly happen during that she is obligated to tell me about it, she assured me she would take it to the grave if she ever slept with him.\n\nNow, I know two wrongs don't make a right, but to some extent I feel that I'm not obligated to tell her about my past if she's not going to tell me if she sleeps with this guy.\n\nMy question is, should I tell her about my past and go from there or should we possibly just move on? Seems to me that we both have trust issues with each other, maybe this is something we could work through?", "summary": "I lied to her, she says she would lie to me in the future. Trust issues. Should we move on or work on them?"}
{"id": "t3_14rulu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20] am suspecting and worried that my little sister [5] has been molested. Am I over reacting?", "post": "UPDATE: just talked to my dad and step mom about the situation.  He said her grandpa mentioned her saying and acting \"shy\" recently. So we are going to talk to her family, and babysitter to see if she has been acting strange and see who she has been around lately. So it's all under low key investigation. Thank you for all the advice and stories!", "summary": "My five year old sister is extremely outgoing and today she had a complete mental breakdown and panic attack from what she called shyness from being around my boyfriend. She is left alone with strangers frequently and I would not be shocked if something happened, is this behavior relevant to my theory?"}
{"id": "t3_qjaml", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Group Gift ideas for an 18 year old male?", "post": "Okay, so short background story and some information. My friend turned 18 last week. We live in the GTA (Ontario, Canada) and we're going to playdium (massive arcade in Mississauga) with a bunch of friends, ~10-15. Now here's the thing, we want to give him a \"group\" gift, however we don't really know ideas. I would say our budget is probably about 100-150. If there`s some sort of gifts you guys can think of just go right ahead and post it here, even if its slightly higher than the budget. Bring all the ideas you can!\n\nSome things about him:\nHe is 18 years old, he has an interest in video games, owns a Wii and a gaming laptop. He plays League of Legends/DotA and he owns a car that he uses daily.\n\nAny other information you guys think I should add in just feel free to say so.", "summary": "Group gift ideas for my friend who just turned 18"}
{"id": "t3_1t2t8t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "So poor financial planning and unexpected medical costs have me contemplating options.", "post": "Had typed out a much more detailed budget and description that I lost due to a slip of the touch screen... Had been hoping to save for a computer but seems I will be on the phone a while longer. Essentially overspending for Christmas and costs associated with appealing a zoning board decision related to a piece of land I stand to acquire possession of the deed on 3 months from now it will be paid off has left my checking account essentially at zero. I currently have a monthly surplus of 560-860 if I only count bare essentials. I got hit for 3,500 in medical expenses and expect to have my monthly excess fall to 10-310 a month due to purchasing new health insurance as the ACA had my employer supplied eliminated. \n\nThis should ease somewhat after 3 months of course. However I am wondering how to best make up this shortfall. I could attempt to liquidate some relatively easy to move solid assets likely at a 10-15% loss to reaccquire at a later date. \n\nOr I was considering a cash advance from one of two credit cards. Card one has a 3% fee and immediate 24% rate. Card two has a 4% fee and 0% until September followed by a 14% rate. Neither card currently has a balance. \n\nAm I  wrong taking the 0% advance as I expect to be able to pay it off? Or should I beg and plead and cry poor and risk collections (shudder think of the credit rating) I believe that I may be able to work out a payment plan on some of the bill but likely only 1,600 of it so am planning to try for that. \n\nAny thoughts or suggestions appreciated. Forgot to mention that I could let 400$ on the higher interest cash advance (lower interest on purchases what those charges are) credit card and have 400 instead of zero in my checking account.", "summary": "I'm scrambling for 3,500 that I didn't expect to pay while overstretched @ Christmas"}
{"id": "t3_1xpach", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [24M] am terrified of getting naked in front of this new girl [23F] that I am seeing", "post": "Original thread: \n\nBasically I told her I was a virgin and she seemed okay with it and said we could take it slow or whatever. I don't really want to take it slow, I just want to have a normal adult relationship.\n\nThen I actually got the courage to be naked around her, but my dick didn't work. We tried for like 5 days but nope, nothing. We would still mess and I genuinely tried to just ignore what was happening with me and focus on her but after a couple of days I could tell it was starting to get to her.\n\nAnd she's been pulling the fade now and I've got the feeling it's already over so I've just stopped making contact. I just hope she doesn't tell anyone I know that I'm a virgin, or have a small dick that doesn't even work, or that I'm a complete failure at adult relationships in general. She probably deserved way better anyways though.\n\nI don't really know where to go from here. She came onto me so it isn't like I'm just gonna meet someone new, I've been trying for fuck knows how long with zero success. I'm really tired of being alone and it makes me sad. At least I'm no longer a 23 year old virgin, I'm now a 24 year old virgin.", "summary": "Told her I was a virgin, my dick didn't work, she pulled the fade, I don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_34n4os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) am unsure if she (20F) is interested.", "post": "I've known this beautiful girl for all of my life, we went to school together, however never really became good friends or even talked much. \n\nFast forward to last month, we started chatting through FB, everything clicked. We started texting eachother, I made it clear that I thought she was beautiful inside and out. I also asked her if she'd like to date when she comes back from Uni, and she said she would like that! We started texting almost daily, however, we didn't get too deep into our conversations. \n\nI would very much like to get to know this girl as a person and a friend. I think she is amazing. She's gorgeous, has an absolutely beautiful personality. The whole package. \n\nI just can't tell if she has any romantic interest in me! Due to our conversations not getting too deep, and most of the time she is busy with school or work. (Doesn't text back sometimes for days at a time ect)\n\nAs of right now, I am focusing on my school work, my work, and myself. I don't want to think about the whole thing too much at least until we get a chance to hang out in person. \n\nIf anyone has any advice for me, please let me know! I really fancy this girl.", "summary": "Really like this girl & want it to work out between us. Unsure if she is romantically interested in me."}
{"id": "t3_2maps9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "22/m and drinking with my 21/f SO", "post": "OK so we've been dating for about 2 years but ever since about 6 months in I've noticed any time she drinks she gets unreasonably mad at me. She tells me to leave get away from her and has even insulted me.  And I don't do anything to trigger it. For example her birthday party. We had a bunch of her friends over and we're all on the couch drinking and hanging out when she gets up goes to the hall and starts crying. I go to ask what's wrong and she tells me to get away from her. No explanation has been given for that. There have been about 4 other instances but the latest happened at a party we threw about a month ago. I was outside with my friends and she was inside with her friends when I heard that someone was throwing up and needed help. I immediately left my friends to go find the person and found my SO helping her best friend. I saw they were trying to move her to the bathroom so I tried to pick her up and my SO said just go to which I responded I'm trying to help. She said like you have been all night just fuck off. So I left. I  don't want to be treated like shit when I'm trying to help. She always apologizes but I'm frustrated and don't know if there is an underlying issue.", "summary": "SO gets drunk and mad at me often. She always apologizes but it's beginning to worry me that there is an underlying issue she has with me she's not talking about."}
{"id": "t3_t6d8j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I was 'strongly encouraged' to attend a service for National Prayer Day at work. I am an atheist. What's the worst principle breaking thing you have done just to fit in (at work or anywhere else) ?", "post": "I just started a new job at a very christian company, they are privately owned and so they can do things like bible study lunches and no one can say anything because they aren't forcing anyone to participate. I grew up in a Jewish/Catholic household, so I ended up not very religious, so praying and churches make me very uncomfortable and I tend to mock everyone participating, in my head of course. \n\nBeing that I just started this job, I feel that I need to participate and meet everyone, even if it means being in a situation that make me want to die, so I went. The Jesus songs were awful and the crowd singing was even worse, but I survived just to maintain a good rapport with my boss and team.", "summary": "Atheist forced to go to prayer service at work because I just started last week."}
{"id": "t3_302fni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] not sure how to make male friends.", "post": "Recently I moved schools, from a girls school to a co-ed school. I was at my previous school for 5 years and basically haven't hung out with or had any male friends in those five years. \n\nMaking friends hasn't been too hard, the kids here are really really nice and I'm part of a decently sized friendship group. There are two boys in my friendship group we'll call them Leo and John. They are both really nice and I'd like to be better friends with them (I'm closer to the girls in our group than them) but I don't really know how?\nWe don't seem to share many of the same interests (but I could be wrong) but we have really similar personalities and study some of the same subjects.\n\nI'm also stuck on the whole \"boys are polar opposites to girls and they need to be treated differently\" mentality as this is what's been fed to me for like 5 years and I feel like that's also hindering any friendshipness?", "summary": "Made some new male acquaintances, I want to be better friends but I have no idea what I am doing?"}
{"id": "t3_2sqy15", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have a question about direct deposit", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place to post it, please let me know where i can post this if this is the wrong place.\n\nSo I just got a new job and set up my direct deposit.\n\nMy account number and routing number are correct...but I sent it to my saving account instead of my checkings account. \n\nThe account number I gave is for the checkings.\n\nI was supposed to get paid 2 days ago. The money was taken from my employers account and gone......who knows where.\n\nHas anybody gone through this? I called the bank and they couldn't give me an answer. So I don't know if it's going to still go through (even though the money was already distributed), or it's going to reject. \n\nI'm okay with not being paid right now because I did check the wrong box....but.....where the heck is the money lol.", "summary": "Entered correct account and routing number for my checkings account for direct deposit. Sent it to savings account on accident. Money is out of employers bank and now in my account and idk where the money is."}
{"id": "t3_2ozzzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my SO [24F] of 4 years, she said she \"isn't sure\" if I've cheated or not.", "post": "Quick back story. My girlfriend made a friend [21F] last year that I quickly became friends with as well. I started to become better friends with her than she was. After a few months, GF becomes concerned/paranoid/insecure that there is something between us since we became close friends and talk a lot. I assure her that we're only friends, but it doesn't help and many arguments manifest. She wants me to cut contact with her which puts me in an awkward situation. Eventually she silently cuts contact with said friend, which makes my relationship with her awkward since she doesn't understand what is going on with my GF. Over time we become more distant and our relationship becomes chatting once or twice a month. It's been that way for a few months now, and things have been normal with my GF.\n\nRecently I was staying the night with my girlfriend. We were just talking in bed when we came to the topic of cheating. I don't remember the exact details of the conversation, but it wasn't anything serious, just lighthearted talk and not specifically about us. At one point she said something that made me ask her, \"Do you think I've cheated on you?\" She replied with only, \"Well, I can't really say no for sure.\" This made me upset, and although she tried assuring me that she \"trusted me\", she didn't seem to understand why it upset me.\n\nSure, no one knows 100% whether or not their partner has cheated on them. But, if you don't have a strong reason to believe that they have, I think the answer should be no. Her not being totally confident that I have not cheated really upsets me. I don't feel trusted. It's obviously due to the events from my back story. I never gave her a reason to think I cheated other than the fact that I simply had a friend that was female. It makes me kind of angry that she would say this after things have seemed good and normal for a while now. Is it reasonable for me to feel this way? How should I proceed from here?", "summary": "My girlfriend told me she isn't sure that I haven't cheated on her. It's because of concerns she had about a friendship I had with a girl in the recent past. I'm upset and don't feel trusted by her."}
{"id": "t3_4y2ims", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25m) having difficulty dating being the last bachelor in my friend group.", "post": "Re-posting because I think I messed up the last one.\n\nHey guys, I'll keep it brief. Ironic, I love giving advice in the relationship section, but have trouble in my own personal life. I've had trouble getting over my last girlfriend; super lovely girl who moved across the country to pursue her career. I've gone on multiple dates, but have had trouble finding a real connection. The majority of these these dates have come to fruition through various means of online dating (imo, not the way to go.) From what I've concluded from my interactions is that that the majority of people in my vicinity are women I know, have dated previously, or have a LOT of emotional baggage that I'm not ready to take on. The last guy in my close friend group has just gotten engaged. I understand that they're moving on in their lives, but I live in a small suburb where there is not much going on in the bar scene and with no one to go out to town with (let alone the city), I feel like I have no options. I'm a decently outgoing guy, but am reluctant to do the club/bar scene solo. Any advice on how I'll be able to find more dating options when all of my friends are in married mode now? Thanks so much. Peace and love.\nbold", "summary": "Only bachelor left in friend group, having trouble meeting new people for dating."}
{"id": "t3_1n475g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 34F with my husband 34M 10yrs, his emotional affairs", "post": "I found out a couple years ago that my husband was in a serious emotional affair, and was thinking of leaving me for the other woman. I also found out that he has had emotional affairs throughout our marriage and relationship. He promised to stop, and he did, though he is still outrageously flirty with other women. \n\nIn every other respect, he is an incredible husband, and I love our life together. He is fun, devastatingly good looking, kind, funny, and unflaggingly supportive. Our sex life is better than anyone else I know We are really good for each other, and really good to each other.\n\nI just don't know if I can deal with his flirtatiousness, and no matter how sexy I feel, always feeling like I\"m in competition with his imagination of what every other woman on the planet would be like.", "summary": "amazing marriage, but husband flirts. feels bad."}
{"id": "t3_2xiwqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16f] My Friend [16f] is Flirty with my Boyfriend [15m]", "post": "I'm absolutely pissed so sorry if I come across as bitchy or anything. I have been friends with this girl for 4 years, and I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months. She always tries flirting with him, he doesn't do it back, but it still pisses me off. She acts completely different around him than when it's just us two, when we just hang out together she doesn't wear makeup, maybe just foundation. Whenever she knows that he's going to be here she wears makeup and it seems as if she tries to impress him, and that makes me angry too.\n\nShe was talking to one of her friends from another school on the phone and she said she was at my house and I could hear her friend from her phone say oh the one with the hot boyfriend? And she said yea, she doesn't know I could hear her. So she obviously has like talked to her about my boyfriend and like showed her pics of him, and that makes me really upset. I get so jealous when she tried talking to him and stuff, even when we're sitting together if he's ever next to her I'll ask him to switch places with me so he's on the other side of her. And she hugs him and it makes me really pissed off. I have told my boyfriend that I get jealous when she tries flirting with him and stuff but I have't really told him how much it bothers me. What should I do? & Should I talk to her about it? Am I being unreasonable or is she kinda crossing the line?", "summary": "My friend is flirty with my boyfriend and it makes me angry."}
{"id": "t3_17pyg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] BF [26] just received the most painful, disappointing news thus far in his hopeful career, just a day after I received some of the most exciting news about mine. How can I be there to support him?", "post": "My bf of 7 months and I currently live together. I just received news on Tuesday of this week that I got into my #1 pick for grad school. He received news yesterday that he DID NOT get into any schools. He has, obviously and understandably, become very beside himself, quiet, and solemn. I want so badly to take it all away and do anything and everything I possibly could to take away the disappointment and lack of confidence he now has. But at the same time I don't want to suffocate him with \"I'm so sorry, baby\". Has anyone been in a situation where your SO failed at something so important? How did you help them out? What are some things you recommend I do to encourage him to try again and be confident?", "summary": "BF didn't get into any programs. I did. He's depressed and I'm excited. How do we level this out? How can I help him? Similar stories, suggestions or advice are appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_12xesl", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Eating fists", "post": "This'll be a quickie while I wait for lecture. There's a lot more between me and the victim of this petty post, but this is one good moment.\n\nSo there was this lumbering ogre of a fella who bullied me in middle school. I was pudgy and quiet, while he was a forebrainless gorilla of a man. He would always fake-out punch me in my face, stopping short an inch or so. This happened at least twice a day. I was having a shitty morning, and he decided to fake me out again. Only this time, without planning it, I leaned into his meat mallet with my clenched jaw, pulling my lower lip over my braces. \n\nWhen his ham hock met my bottom lip, my braces punched right into my lip, not quite piercing my lip but they were embedded real well. His knuckle also manages to redden my nose and draw some blood. This all takes place in milliseconds, of course.\n\nWithout delay, I almost instinctively fall backwards, stumbling, into a desk or two. In retrospect the dramatics probably weren't needed, because...\n\nAs if the stars has aligned and Zeus jizzed a map of Hawaii over them, our homeroom teacher walks in. There the ogre man stands there, arm slightly extended, and I on the floor, crumpled, with a mouth that looks like I just blew a blood golem. I acted dazed and tried my best to seem concussed (now I was thinking of how to capitalize on the situation)\n\nNeedless to say, the kid got ISS, phone call home, etc etc. He had to apologize to me later, parent conference, all the things you don't want in middle school. What did I get? Day out of school, the nickname Lip, a bloody shit eating grin (not a bloody-shit eating grin), and one of the girls who helped me up ended up talking to me and became my first girlfriend (first kiss came after lip healed).", "summary": "Eat a fist, get a free girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1tgi0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] and my boyfriend [25M] of 4 years, broke up a few weeks ago. How do I tell everyone we know?", "post": "We broke up 3 weeks ago. I don't want to go into too much detail, but it involves his anger issues, mental health issues, and making me doubt my own decisons/sanity.\n\nI'm not telling anyone this except the few that already know (he has confided in), and will go down the 'mutual differences' 'we want each other to be happy' route.\n\nMy question is, how do I tell everyone I know without individually explaining that fuzzy-warm-bullshit every time? I'm sick of rehashing it with people. By the end of the relationship I was started recognising signs of depression in myself, which I'm not dealing with wholly yet. I'm feeling a LOT better since having completely cut him out, but I don't want it being brought up everywhere I go for the next few months.\n\nIs there any way to do this? Is a generic *'Hi Facebook, Tom and I broke up, but we wish each other the best, and look forward to seeing our friends soon'.* Is that tacky and too personal? Can I even post that without speaking to him first? \n\nI just want this chapter to be firmly shut. The breakdown happened over 9 months, so I've already mourned enough over the last year. I just want to move on and forget it now. But how?!\n\nAny suggestions welcome, I would be willing to talk with him once more to set up a 'plan'. He isn't a selfish person, so I think he'd still help me one more time to end this.", "summary": "How do I stop everyone asking about us, and move on without individually speaking to like 150 people. "}
{"id": "t3_3vgq2d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speaking with a fake accent at the worst possible time.", "post": "Yes, literally today. I was going in for an interview for basically my dream job. I was extremely nervous... Like voice a little shaky nervous.\n\nNow a little background, when I hang out with my girlfriend I commonly use stupid, silly, fake accents when I talk to her because it makes her laugh. I do it so much that sometimes I'll have an entire conversation in my southern (USA) accent or Indian accent. It almost became a habit for talking with her like that... \n\nSo the HR girl, Marie, comes out as I'm waiting and says \"Hey there _____! So glad you could come in today! etc etc\" and reaches out for a handshake. I go \"yeah I'm real excited to be here too, thanks for bringin' me in\" or something like that.....\n\nIn a real heavy, molasses sounding southern accent.\n\nThen I just fucking panicked. What do I do? My brain shut down. I followed Marie into the interview room making small talk. At this point there was no going back. I gave the entire interview in that goddamn accent without exception. And, it actually went pretty well.\n\nSo if I get the call..........\n\nNot really sure what to do.", "summary": "used a southern accent out of pure nervousness to answer my interviewers first question, couldn't make a joke out of it and therefore used it for the entire interview."}
{"id": "t3_x6zkv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20/m) think that my girlfriend (22/f) is at times overly dramatic and childish.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and I wanted to get some feedback on a fight we had recently. \n\nMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship so last night I called her to catch up on life, in which I told her that my family might be going on vacation later this summer. She then starts to get very upset over the length of the conversation, and then I figured that something was wrong. I ask her and she's resistant at first at talking about it, but it eventually results in her hanging up the phone, and saying \"why don't you just go prounce around the world then.\"\n\nA little background before I go further: my father's job enables my family to go travel fairly often because he spends the majority of the time traveling for business. For a long time, she believes that any talk about vacations, getting new things, or any talk of \"rich kid stuff,\" pisses her off to no end because she comes from a poorer background. She always tells me not to talk about these things because \"you know how it pisses me off.\"\n\nGoing forward, I refused to call her back because I saw her hanging up on me as a continuing theme of her being overly dramatic, and I don't want beg her just to talk to me about this right after she hung up on me. \n\nAfter dating me this long, I think that she should understand that my family has means, and I never try to make her feel jealous or inferior because I have means. I've even took her on vacation last year using my dad's frequent flyer miles.  \n\nMy girlfriend thinks that I don't care about our relationship because I never call her back after she hangs up on me, I think that it is many ways going along with this childish move of hers. Furthermore, during arguments she always has quips like, \"oh you never care,\" \"this relationship isn't going to last long if this keeps going on,\" \"are you really in love with me?\"", "summary": "Is my girlfriend really that dramatic? Or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_14ao19", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So, I lost a little bit of weight recently. M/21", "post": "I'll make this as short and concise as possible-\n\nLong time lurker, have been browsing /r/loseit lately, thought I'd post my own journey so far. I'm a college Sophomore, 5'5, currently 179 pounds, down from 291. I decided to lose weight because I was tired of being overweight and wanted to try for something better with my life.\n\nI lost the weight by disallowing myself red meats, potatoes (excluding sweet/yams), rice (excluding brown), breads, cakes/cupcakes/sugars/sodas/desserts/everything delicious. Also, I do not drink cow milk (replaced it with almond milk). I do, however, eat regular dairy cheese and cottage cheese.\n\nAs far as exercise goes, it's been off-and-on for the last year, with me only really stepping up my weight lifting game in the past two months or so. Ran a half-marathon July of this year, planning on at least another half this coming July of 2013. \n\nIf you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. I'm not a pro or anything, but I could try to throw out tips/motivation and what not. My gut has been (obviously) the hardest thing to lose. I am scheduled for skin removal surgery on January 7th for the entirety of my torso, however the weight loss itself has been all me.", "summary": "Lost 110 pounds in 16 months"}
{"id": "t3_2ajyua", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Need some advice on a possible adoption.. (x-post /r/dogs)", "post": "Hey there! In about a month my parents and I might be taking in one of our neighbors dogs (A German Shepherd). As long as I've known them they've kept him confined to a cage (inside) 24/7, besides taking him for walks. They say they do this because he's very territorial and marks everything. I don't know if they're telling the truth, but what's the best way to end this habit if he continues it in his new home? Also, we have 4 cats. My mom and I love them dearly, and my mom is worried that they'll run away if we bring the dog in. Any help would be appreciated, thanks in advance!", "summary": "Possibly taking in a dog that is territorial and marks everything in the house, is there a way to prevent this? Also, my mom is worried that our cats will run away."}
{"id": "t3_3xowxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My crush ignores only me!", "post": "So me and my friends met a girl that is in our friend group but we had never met before a few weeks ago. It was the first time meeting her for all of us and I instantly grew a crush on her. I told my friends that I liked her and that we should get to know her better. So we all sent her a follow request on instagram and she accepted the other two guys within an hour but not mine, it took her over a week to accept mine which I thought was kinda weird because she would have seen all 3 and purposely not accepted mine. Then also she likes all the things they post but not mine.\n\nThen the second case was last Friday night we went to the beach with a bunch of people and I talked to her and her friends for a while and she seemed to be enjoying it. Then the next day I sent them all a group text saying it was nice hanging out with them and that we should hang out again some other time. Both of her friends replied almost instantly saying that it was fun and that they would like to hang out again. But she never replied which I also thought was weird.\n\nI feel like she is ignoring me or she doesn't like me and I have no idea why, because I have given her no reason to not like me. I feel like she is doing it on purpose because if I got a text from someone I knew, I know I would reply even if I didn't like the person. And if I got friend requests from people I just met I would either accept all of them or none.\n\nI have no idea what to make of this, I want to think that she likes me and is shy but I doubt it. Does anyone know what it could be?", "summary": "a girl i met a few weeks ago seems to be ignoring only me for no reason and I need help figuring out why."}
{"id": "t3_2ns9pg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can i [ 19 M] fix my relationship with my relationship with my brother [ 27M] ?", "post": "My brother is really my stepbrother that ive met really young , but when our parents divorced i moved away for 10 years which ruined our relationship due to not speaking much  but now i live close to him but we never see each other . The sad thing is i have plenty a little brother who im not that close to either , im confused about how a brother/brother relationship should be.\n\nSo my question is how can i build my relationship with him when we really dont have much in common ? And how can i build the relationship without it feeling wierd ? . I am a very outgoing person but it would feel wierd trying to rebuild a relationship with someone you should be close to .", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_heguu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Out of work engineer seeking career advice", "post": "One year has passed since being laid off due to the recession (reduction in force). It's an odd feeling that until these past couple of days I have kept a positive attitude and continually applied to positions and other opportunities. Though I have had a few interviews and hundreds of applications nothing had worked out.\n\nA little background: BS Mechanical Engineer with a minor in management. Two years consulting for big oil (remediation/clean-up) and three years working with a regulatory agency doing air quality compliance. No family or spouse, not attached geographically, financially stable.\n\nFor the past year I have not been idle. I have done volunteer work tutoring math at a grade school and wildlife field surveys for the university (hobby of mine). Additionally I have done quite a bit of traveling.\n\nOne of the most prominent problems being a mechanical engineer is that the majority of jobs available are defense based, but my passion and career experience so far have been environmental based. I have turned down defense work due to personal beliefs. I have applied to other types of work for mechanical engineers, but because my experience so far is environmental it is not applicable or the wrong specialty.\n\nSo what would you do? Back to school and go back into debt? Peace Corps? Keep smashing my head against a a wall that isn't there and apply to more jobs? Bail on my passion of protecting the environment and build some missiles?", "summary": "Out of work engineer questions passion versus paycheck"}
{"id": "t3_hohc9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Planning on moving out of the US permanently, have ~$40k in student loan debt, but...", "post": "I'm planning on leaving the US sooner than later and I'm not planning on coming back anytime soon. Specifically, I'm going to go join my partner in the UK, and it's impossible for him to live in the US for several reasons (mostly healthcare related, as he's chronically ill), so I'm not planning on ever coming back, pretty much. I have about $40k in student loan debt, and another $6k or so in credit card debt, and I have enough cash saved up to make the payments on these debts for several months while I get the paperwork through to legally get a job etc etc, but then I started wondering...what if I just skip out on them entirely? Sure, it's a really dick move, but legally speaking, what's the worst that could happen? Seems to me that any damage done to my credit score can't follow me out of the country, and that there aren't really any consequences to just not paying any of it back. Thoughts? Advice?", "summary": "Considering skipping out on my debt when I leave the US permanently. Is that super dumb?"}
{"id": "t3_399gs1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being racist", "post": "In recent Canadian news, store chain Black's Photography is closing their doors. Not enough business or something.\n\nI was discussing this on the subway train with my girlfriend, and just as I say \"I've always hated Black's\" the biggest, blackest guy I've ever seen gets on the train. This guy was biiiig...like 6'4\", 240lb of glorious muscle. Dude looked like he could throw me a full city block. He also looked at me with the angriest look on his face ever.\n\nI quickly followed my (seemingly racist without context) statement with \"Henry's and Downtown Camera do a better job of selling camera gear anyway\". His face went from pissed to slightly less angry and more confused.", "summary": "OP dropped the soap"}
{"id": "t3_49a7yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23M] respond when my friend [22F] tells me that she dumped her abusive scumbag boyfriend?", "post": "We had feelings for each other in the past but she moved away for a while and that ended.  Then she moved back with her boyfriend who she has been dating for almost 3 years.  He's a dbag druggie who doesn't make her a priority in his life. He always left her out of his plans and even left her out places but she never found the idea of breaking up with him compelling until now even with the pressure of her friends.  I even think he might have been cheating on her. \n\nAnyway we see each other weekly and have a mutual best friend who told me that she wanted to take a break.  Our friend supposedly talked her in to straight up dumping him (finally) and I am 99.9% going to get the news from her when I see her this week.  What do I say?\n\n\"On one hand I'm sorry to hear, but you definitely deserve to be treated better\"\n\n\"Good, he was a scumbag. you deserve better anyway\"\n\netc.\n\nI have no clue", "summary": "Heard through the grapevine that my friend dumped her scumbag boyfriend and don't know what to say when she finally tells me the news"}
{"id": "t3_1n8iw1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My ex just told me why he dumped me and I'm furious", "post": "We were together for about a year and a half and it was pretty amazing, I thought. We're both 25 and we were so close. We had our own language, our own jokes, we knew each other inside out, shared the same values, passions and interests. The sex was amazing. \n\nHe has depression and I'd make making him feel ok/supported my priority. I would go out of my way to give him a hug on days he felt down and I was too busy to see him properly. I took days off work when he was sick. I would cancel seeing friends if he wanted to see me. I would spend ages talking to him when he felt sad. I'd endure dates where he was too down to be pleasant with a smile. \n\nRecently I'd been facing issues of my own. My brother had become violently angry, endangering mine and my family's lives more than once. I confided in him, but when I could sense it was dragging him down, I offered to stop talking to him about it but he said it was no problem and he wanted me to talk to him about it. \n\nUp until the day he dumped me, he said he couldn't imagine life without me. He had asked for my ring size. We talked about marriage. I'm from a Muslim family but am not Muslim. However I love my family and don't want to cause disappointment, so I can't live with someone before marriage. He knew this and said I was worth it. He wanted to. I told my parents about him which is something that was hard for me to do. Throughout it all he said he was ok with it. I kept giving him opportunities to back out. He refused to take them. \n\nHe told me his depression was getting worse. He said it wasn't because of my issues. We said we'd work through his depression together. He dumped me 3 weeks ago and only yesterday did he say actually it was because of all my issues. He didn't want to be there for me anymore. It was too much.", "summary": "if you're someone's emotional support in a relationship don't you dare ever go through a bad patch of your own. Otherwise you're useless."}
{"id": "t3_1rwcpi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22F) with my boyfriend (22M) - broke up, getting back together, need advice", "post": "Boyfriend and I dated for about 7 years and he broke up with me two months ago. He said he needed to find himself outside of our relationship and see what's out there for him.\n\nThe last two months have been awful for me and I finally decided that I need to move on whether I want to or not, then he asked to meet/talk and said he wants to try being in a relationship with me again.\n\nI want to be with him, but I'm afraid that getting back together will be awkward or weird. We spent the past two months with very limited contact, so I'm not sure how we can be normal again? How do I work this out? How do I go back into the relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me for 2 months, wants to get back together; I'm afraid getting back together will be awkward/weird."}
{"id": "t3_4mm4is", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Puppy Acting Very strange recently", "post": "So we have a 8 month old puppy. She is a Yorkie/ Maltese mix and she has always been a very energetic puppy that loves to hang around us at all times and being a puppy, she would also scarf her food down in no time (Though I bought a bowl so she can take her time). But oddly enough, as of like 2 weeks ago I'd say she has become very distant, not eating very much if at all during the day, and is acting skittish. She will come inside from going outside and go straight to our bedroom and lay in our bed for hours upon end without a peep. Her whole demeanor is off and she acts like she is scared of something whenever she moves. She moves around in very quick low movements and tries to bury her head in the blankets etc.  I'm not sure what's going on but it is very unusual and I read about possible depression in dogs but I'm in sure so I thought I would see what Reddit had to say. I'd hate to take her to the vet just for them to say something like its normal, because it's clearly not. If all else fails and this behavior doesn't go away soon I guess that's my only option. Thank you for your advice!", "summary": "My puppy has not been acting like herself lately and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_27g980", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22/f] confused about previous fight w/ husband [24/m] of 1 year.", "post": "I need to wrap my head around what happened because I honestly don't know what to make of this.\n\nWe argued over something trivial, I mean really trivial. Before this fight, we wanted to have sex. Anyway, he decided to sleep on the bed while I on the floor. He comes down which got me thinking he wants to have makeup sex, all was good now, I was happy. Throughout the time he was inside of me, he wouldn't look me in the eye or say \"I love you\" back, or kiss me. After he finished, I told him I was confused & asked if he was still upset. He said he was still angry at me which prompted me to ask why we just made love. He said \"I just needed a quick fuck.\"\n\nI began to cry as he got back up on the bed. He told me to quiet down. I was sobbing quietly but still too loud for him. He grabbed the cup of water on the stand & said \"here, let me wash your tears away\" and poured the water on my face.", "summary": "I don't know how to feel right now. Somebody please help make sense of what just happened."}
{"id": "t3_26rx2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO[17F] said she lost her romantic feelings for me [17M]", "post": "Since summer has been approaching, we have had a difficult time seeing each other. Her schedule is filled to the brim with studying, repairing family problems and being with friends, while I have lots of free time, so she could been pestered about me trying to be with her. She's usually too tired, don't wanna make reservations because she feels like she wont fulfill them and so on. \n\nThe last month got really bad. the intimate contact between us were dwindling to the point of not even kissing, which was yesterday. I met with her yesterday and talked things out, our frustrations and hers. the problems we've been facing, the stress. The fact that she lost her romantic feelings for me, while I still retain them to some degree.\n\nI claim that its because of all the stress lately, we haven't been on our best side when we meet each other then and it can cause problems. She felt like it would be pointless trying, because it would feel like torture for the both of us trying to restore those feelings.\n\nHowever, we did meet a compromise. I said we should have a friendship phase where we meet eachother as friends instead of trying to restore the relationship at a top notch quality honeymoon phrase. Basically build it up instead, and see if she feels anything. She was skeptical at first, but then said it was a good idea. Right now I'm really just scared of what is going to happen.", "summary": "SO lost romantic touch with me, we compromised with meeting up like friends and doing stuff together, to see if she feels anything. I am however, unsure what will happen."}
{"id": "t3_mk2g0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question implied inside (if I asked here it wouldn't be taken serously)", "post": "I'd like an answer for personal reasons.\n\nWhy do I have to fight with myself all the goddamn day just to do the iota of work necessary to keep my job? No boss ever complained but I know they would like to see me do more. Eventually, when the workload increases (it always does) I leave my job because in all honesty I know someone else would be able to do more stuff than I do.\n\nIt is definitely not lack of motivation or courage, because I've tried and failed so many times in my life. \n\nAt this point in time I'm not looking for a solution anymore... all I want to know is why can't I do the same *amount* of work others manage to do so easily?", "summary": "Why are lazy people lazy (even if they tried for years not to be)?"}
{"id": "t3_qrefq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you feel whenever you get that one lonesome downvote?", "post": "If i post something Christian-ish in r/atheism, i can expect downvotes. If i say \"drug test all the welfares\" i can expect downvotes. if i say \"I FREAKIN' LOVE BUD LIGHT LIME,\" I can expect a downvote or two. I know i'm being inflammatory. but whenever you make a comment that's a statment that's about as neutral as you can get and it gets a single downvote (i'm talking your standard comment stands at 1, now it's at 0), does the piss anyone else off? I could say \"Bacon is made from pig\" and someone hits the down arrow. why?", "summary": "Who the hell downvoted me? "}
{"id": "t3_2rwkjo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Told my roommate my feelings for her, not sure what to think", "post": "My roommate and I are super close. Lots of physical contact. We do a lot together. Text and snapchat eachother when we're away etc. she literally will not leave my side most times. \n\nShe is very introvert and very inexperienced. No kiss/dates/boyfriends/sex. She's got this almost barrier I find and its hard to break. Very catholic so no sex til marriage deal. \n\nLast night we were watching tv and I turned to her and said lets get some dinner this weekend and I totally caught her off guard and said she was busy or something with school work. I left it but over the rest of the night I was getting fed up with the way things are between us and not knowing where I stand with her. So as we were heading upstairs I stopped her and said\" I need to know what we're doing here, where do we stand. This roommate situation is making things tough. Things would be different if we weren't roommates.\" She just smiled the whole time and said yes they probably would be. I then asked her if she's just gonna leave me hanging and not tell me how she feels and she just says I don't like confrontation while just smiling. \n\nThis morning things were right back to the way they were. No awkwardness. No anything. The fact I let my feelings be known kind of felt good but not knowing what her side of he feelings are its getting to me lol. My other female roommate who is a friend of mine told me she should've just talked to me about it and not just hide away and thinks one time when she's texting me I should bring it up and try and talk over text where she would be more comfortable. \n\nWhat do you redditors think?", "summary": "told my roommate how I feel about her, didn't quite understand her, no awkwardness after all this"}
{"id": "t3_2iuxxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "WWYD: not wanting to overreact, but he's MIA", "post": "WWYD?\n\nBackstory: We've been dating for about six months, things are great, we STN with each other 3-5 nights a week. We (the boy (35/m) and I(28f)) typically spend Thursdays apart from each other .We don't talk all day like we usually do, and just sort of do our own thing.\n\nThat being said, I haven't heard from him in twenty four hours, and have tried to call him twice with the phone ringing to voicemail (4p yesterday, 8a this morning). I sent him a \"hey are you alive?\" email about an hour ago, but I'm honestly starting to worry.\n\nI don't want to be irritating or annoying or clingy, so I'm trying not to freak out and call until he picks up, but I'm just...ugh. I'm worried. WWYD?", "summary": "boyfriend of six months is more or less MIA for 24 hours without checking in, which is very unusual. WWYD?"}
{"id": "t3_4pco9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17/M] am really worried about my SO's[16/F] well being at home and I don't know what to do.", "post": "My girlfriend isn't from the best of backgrounds, there's nothing wrong with her; she doesn't seem bad or anything like that, you'd think she's from the nicest part of town.\n\nShe gets abused at home by her mum, a lot, mentally and physically. We both believe that she's a pretty terrible mum...\nShe just sits at home all day doing nothing, while my girlfriend does all the chores and looks after her several younger siblings.\n\nShe she just gets kicked out for standing up against her and beat, she won't tell anyone and she doesn't want me to tell anyone otherwise her little youngest sisters would be put into care etc.\n\nI just need advice on how to cope myself as I am worried to the bone and it makes me sick, and how I could maybe help herself cope", "summary": "Girlfriend gets abused at home. She won't let me tell anyone. I don't know what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1rfp12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my ex [29 M] of 9 months, confusing snapchats", "post": "We broke up 2 weeks ago after he told me he didn't think we were compatible in the long term. I was shocked at first, since we were still very affectionate, having lots of sex, and not fighting but once the initial shock wore off, I realized I was a lot happier without having to constantly take care of him. I had been having thoughts about ending things eventually as well. We decided to be friends eventually, but wait a month or so before hanging out in person. We've talked briefly on gchat or by text to say hi since the break up, which has confirmed I don't have any more romantic feelings for him--the contact is a good way to remind me WHY we broke up, instead of allowing me to be nostalgic. \n\nThe issue: lately we've been sending snapchats to each other (of silly things, like our dinners or surroundings and maybe a picture of our faces) at night and yesterday, when he knew I had been drinking, he sent me a shirtless snapchat of himself, followed by a snapchat of him flexing his legs. Everything just short of R-rated. Then, he implied that he was masturbating as he sent the next image. I find this confusing and immature, especially since he was the one who insisted that we couldn't continue to have sex or work on the relationship. I know I should ignore them, but I would want to sleep together again (I know this is frowned upon here, but I think it would be fine since it would only be for a few months till I leave town). I have no desire to be with him again, I just wish I understood why he's sending me these pictures.", "summary": "Ex said he doesn't want to hook up again, sends me moderately dirty snapchats. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3302pl", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "\"Tattoo\" themed wedding?", "post": "Hi all! I'm new to this sub, so I hope I'm doing everything right! \nWe are having our wedding at a state park in Texas next March. I grew up visiting this park and it has a lot of sentimental value (doesn't hurt that the price is only $100 a day!). Both of us are heavily tattooed and want to incorporate that into our wedding. \nI've purchased a few items so far that go along with what I would like for our theme: \n[banner](\n[signs] (These say \"bride\" and \"groom\"),\n[garter](\n\nWe are going to hang [flash sheets] from our favorite artists around the pavilion, which I thought would be fun. \nI definitely want to get custom temporary tattoos (or is that \"played out\"?). I also would like to decorate with lots of hearts and sparrows. I don't like a lot of the \"tattoo\" stuff I've come across, such as Ed Hardy (hate it). \n\nSo, I'm struggling to think of other ways to incorporate this \"alternative\" wedding theme into our space. I've checked out Offbeat Bride, as well as a few other popular sites. I found a few STD and invitation options, but I'm not too happy with them. Side question: should STDs and invites match?\nI would love some advice!", "summary": "Having our wedding at a state park and want to incorporate our tattoos into the wedding theme :)"}
{"id": "t3_3tntrb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a nude video with my face in it.", "post": "I was on omegle and, me being the horny little shit I am I was looking for girls... One girl wanted to skype, so we did. She asked for my instagram, which I gave her. She asked me to go nude first and to show my face in the video. I did... She recorded me and showed me the recording. She started to blackmail me that if I didn't do what she wanted, she would send the video to all of the people I had anything in common off on instagram. Im only 15, and in all honesty I don't know what to do.... My heart is going 1999494 beats per minute. PLEASE give tips. She is from another country, definitely. I really don't know what to do... I really feel like my life is over.", "summary": "A girl got a nude recording off me with my face on it, and is now blackmailing me."}
{"id": "t3_2w7hsk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Frustrated college student seeking advice", "post": "I am a junior in a big state university. For the past three years I have been pursuing a major in communication, because I took a few classes and enjoyed it and after doing research I saw that it is a major that can be used for a lot of things.\n\nNow, however, I worry about how the major I chose will fair in job searching. I keep looking through listings and the jobs that are offered most are developing and programming jobs. Problem is, I have never been a math or science guy and my school forces you to go up to calculus II in order to major in CS. I then also hear about how programming is a kind of job that can easily be outsourced and perhaps no longer such a viable option.\n\nI have recently thought about perhaps switching my major to IT (which offers some programming classes, at least in my school). I figured this kind of major would do better based on the current job market and it's not as math intensive as a CS degree.\n\nUnfortunately, I have no \"passion\" towards a certain field, and it sometimes feel like I'm just throwing shit at a wall and seeing what sticks. Should I stick with comm? Switch to IT? Any other advice?", "summary": "Frustrated college student not sure what major to choose between communication, or IT. Any other advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1vzql6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/F] Moved in too soon with boyfriend [24/M] questioning the relationship now...", "post": "Basically my boyfriend and I rushed into living together and now all our relationship issues are magnified by the fact that we see each other everyday for a good chunk of the day. I feel like I live with a teenage boy, he's a slob, never cleans or offers to help with any housework. I do everything unless I make him do something which he always complains about and wants to be rewarded for. In his free time, which is a lot because he barely works right now, he mainly plays video games or looks at porn. We had serious talk recently about how I don't feel emotionally close with him, he's very distant with his feelings and this distance has become overwhelming now that we're rushing through the motions of our relationship. \n\nPheewww that's a mouthful, anyways I'm wondering if anyone has gone through a similar situation and been able to work through issues like these. Really it's the emotional distance and lack of initiative on his part that bothers me. None of these issues alone is a deal breaker, I know I'm not perfect either but I just don't think we should be getting so serious if we don't both feel 100% about the relationship. He really wants to stay together, I'm planning on moving out when the lease is up and don't know whether I will want to stay together at that point. Any advice is appreciated, this is a throwaway so I may not be be on it frequently.", "summary": "Rushed into living with BF, he's a terrible roomate and it's making me feel like he's a bad boyfriend. Should we try to work it out?"}
{"id": "t3_11vjb3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friendship with [21/f] draining me [22/m] emotionally. What would you do in this situation and what would be best?", "post": "We've been friends since high school back in 2008, took her to the prom and spent lots of time together, leading up to us developing feelings for one another. There were ups and downs, eventually she said she couldn't feel the same way anymore, due to me not being the gentleman I am today. Needless to say, I remained friends with her. That was back in late 2009.\n\nFast forward to today, we still are friends and we havent dated anyone. Me and her usually hang out a few times a week. She knows that I love her and she constantly says that she loves me as a friend. She feels that me telling her that I love her is pressure, that she's tired of hearing about how I feel, and recently that she's too young to be in a relationship. She also stated that she's physically uncomfortable with me and that is the only thing keeping her from dating me...\n\nWe've done a lot together, I feel like she's just making excuses. I love her and would like for her to be in my life, to view me the same as I do. But frankly I'm growing tired of all of this. I feel like I should've moved on a long time ago, or should just walk away for awhile. Not really sure what to do at this point. What would you do in this situation and what advice could you share with me?", "summary": "In love with friend and she knows it. Doesn't feel the same for me. I'm not happy with the friendship, I feel sad and not sure whether to finally move on, to go away for awhile, or to keep loving her and see what happens."}
{"id": "t3_31try8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "[Serious][Advice] 2 kids VS 3 kids", "post": "My wife (20F) and I (24M) are happily married and have been for a year now we have two wonderful kids (4 year old boy from a previous relationship on my part and a 2 1/2 year old girl who was unplanned). The problem is that every three months or so she goes through an EXTREME baby fever phase because she sees all her friends getting pregnant and or having babies and begs me to have another. I personally am completely against it because we already have our two and things are perfect or as perfect as a young couple with two kids can be her only argument is that \"we just need another one\" and \"I want to be able to enjoy a planned pregnancy with my husband\" to which I just say no its not gonna happen I have told her over and over no and WHY it's not a good idea yet she insist and gets depressed when I do so so what I'm asking is what are the pros and cons of having 2 kids VS having three kids for her sake and my sake.... thank you", "summary": "wife wants 3 kids I dont we already have 2"}
{"id": "t3_3zfcs2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [15M] don't know how to tell her. [16F]", "post": "Ok, so maybe this is better on r/teenagers. But I'll post it here anyways to air my grievances.\n\nSo, 5 months ago I met this girl and her sister. We hit it off great, our families went out to dinner, such and such. They intentionally wanted to meet us because I happened to be going on the same vacation with them and another friend. This girl, let's call her Bri. Bri and I get along super well. She's funny, kinda cute, and a bit of a smart-ass. Awesome, right? During the whole vacation we exchanged cute messages and messed around with each other. It really felt like a beautiful thing. Take note: Our religion does not permit us to date until we're adults.\n\nNaturally enough, we developed feelings for each other. My friend was teasing me about these feelings **right behind her parents** when we were sitting in the car. I knew that if her dad caught wind he'd rip my head off and I probably wouldn't get to see her anymore. I asked my parents for advice, so they said to talk to her dad to clear it up. So I did, and he understood. I lied and told him that I don't see her that way. He went off and **told** her the whole thing. I knew she was fending off her own feelings, and so was I. I figured that by saying that, it would help her stay focused on her religious goals. So, yes....I was trying to help her.\n\nFast forward two months. We're all at a bonfire. I can see her oogling all over this other guy who's there. He's taller, better looking, and he's known her for longer. Her mannerisms really showed how strongly she felt about him. I went home and cried that night because there's nothing I could do. I felt like I failed our potential relationship by trying to help her. The worst part is, she'll *never* know. Should I tell her what I really did for her? That I lied so I could help her stay focused on the life goals she so badly wanted to accomplish?", "summary": "I tried to help a friend/crush stay focused on her religious goals by lying to her dad about my feelings, since he would be angry. He tells her all of this, she loses interest in me and I'm out on one of the best potential relationships I could've ever had. Trying to be a good guy and got bit in the arse for it."}
{"id": "t3_1ou45o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] with my GF [22/F] of 8 months, are having communication issues.", "post": "So here's some back-story. We have known each other for about 2 years before we started dating and have been together for a decent amount of time I wouldn't call it very long, but, i do really love this girl. We were not \"officially\" dating for quite some time i would say we have been \"seeing each other\" for 9 or 10 months. I'm not going to lie we have had a rocky start I was distant due to our history, I've been distant and she has been nothing but loving. She has had a few white lies here and there but nothing to really make me end it. I just got pretty upset and she did what she could and we were fine. \n\nAlright, as of now I have been deployed for 5 months with the military and for the first 4 months i was an ass. I was stressed with work, throwing it at her pushing her away when i should have noticed how much she actually tried. She finally hit her breaking point recently (3 weeks ago) with the stress of things at home and with her and I just adding to it. Honestly it was a 180 kick in the face for me. Since that day i have done nothing but try to talk to her as much as possible, but, it always seemed like i was a chore or she didn't want to deal with it. I blame myself for all of that, she did nothing. \n\nNow though we have begun to patch things up but it seems I'm still that chore. Almost as if we have swapped places (She is the one pushing and I'm the one holding on) i know much time has not passed but it seems it has turned into a \"pissing game\". I just want to move the relationship forward but i need her for that as well. I'm just not getting any reciprocity. Maybe she doesn't want to move forward or she is too stressed idk. She is still here she still talks im just not getting through to improve it.", "summary": "Had a rough start, on deployment pushed her away, now i cant get through to her to improve the relationship its a stalemate in a way, with me throwing dud grenades."}
{"id": "t3_3maqbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [18M] stop worrying about people, especially lovers? (Including my curent one of a fwe weeks, [18F]", "post": "I worry. A lot. Maybe it's because I seem to attract people who are not totally healthy in their lives, maybe... I don't know. I know that it was the main unhealthy thing in my previous relationship, which was 3.5 years long, but I don't seem to be able to get out of the mindset. His parents were drinkers, and abusers, and so I would worry on nights he wasn't online. I would worry he wasn't on because his parents were throwing plates at each other again, or because his mother was screaming at him for some reason or another. And now, with a girl who is so insecure because she's had horribly boyfriends in the past, I still worry. But now I worry about my friends too. I hate seeing people sad, and I seem to worry just constantly that they'll be in a bad place and I can't help them, or that I'll have failed to because I was thinking about something else. It's taking over my life", "summary": "I worry. It's ruining my relationships and now my life"}
{"id": "t3_26sio5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] recently ended a friendship with my old friend [24F] of 6 years. Do I tell her something that happened years ago?", "post": "So a few years ago my friend was dating this guy. He seemed great and perfect for her. But after he and I met he started calling me regularly. \n\nSome time after that he asked for me to have a threesome with them (Without her knowing) I said no. \n\nFrom then on he would call and text me non-stop. I would get woken up by him a 3am. He'd beg to see me and told me he couldn't stop thinking about me and so on. \n\nI never did anything with him, but I also never told her. She was in a very bad place and I knew at the time that this information would have pushed her over the edge.\n\nNow that the friendship is over should I tell her, or just leave it alone?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_41vsh4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with a new guy [28 M] i've started dating - 4 dates, slept together and now he's gone.", "post": "We matched on Tinder 3 weeks ago, and then since last week we've been on four awesome dates. We've shared a quick kiss on the lips hello/goodbye and talk all the time - but not so much it's ridiculous. He's just been nice, charming, reliable etc. Tonight he came over to watched Making a Murderer (he's spent the last week watching episodes by himself to catch up to where i'm at) and one thing led to another and we slept together. It was amazing, he's great, I couldn't stop smiling. \n\nWe were hanging out in bed watching another episode and we said we'd go to sleep. I went to get my phone charger and when I walked back into my room, he was getting dressed. He's running a marathon in two days and he said he just wants a proper nights sleep and to wake up in his own bed, have a proper breakfast etc. I get that...but I also feel like a complete fricking idiot. I feel so mugged off. I can't see anyway that him leaving is a good thing - surely if you really like someone, you'd just stay. It was really awkward when he said he was leaving, he asked if it was ok but what was I supposed to say? \n\nI just said that it was awkward that he was leaving but I couldn't make him stay and certainly don't want him to if he doesn't want to. He seems like a genuine guy but i've been messed around so much lately that I can't even tell anymore. \n\nI guess i'm asking if it's ok for me to feel so stupid/mugged off and like i've completely ruined it? I shouldn't have slept with him and if he was genuinely interested, no guy in his right mind would leave, right? Or am I delusional?", "summary": "Dating a guy, finally sleep with him and then he doesn't stay the night - is that ever ok?"}
{"id": "t3_2g6kac", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story]Played an Open Mic Tonight", "post": "So I used to be in a tiny bit of a band after highschool and I was the lead vocals for the band, we played out a couple times but I digress. Three years ago after the band and I went our seperateways I decided early on I'd teach myself guitar. I practiced nearly everyday, learned a couple songs and set out to perform them(on acoustic,mind you.) Today was the day; after those years of work and practice to see if I could do it on my own. I waited at the bar where the event was being held and waited for my turn. I got up, plugged in, tuned up and started to bomb. I was mortified but I remembered to keep persisting. I performed a song that I didnt murder and didnt have that bad of a night.", "summary": "I played an open mic, sucked but pushed and pressed on until I was able to finger-pick and play something I had down pat. I might not have succeeded to the extent that I wanted to but I'll be more prepared and do worlds better next time!"}
{"id": "t3_2ar1x0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 18F, have been seeing 35M for about 2 months now, and it's been great, but I don't know where to go from here.", "post": "We met the week before I left for 5 weeks, and spent hours together pretty much every day before I left. We've talked constantly since I've been away, and I get home on Sunday. \n\nWe started out wanting something casual, but after the first time we were together, it became pretty clear that wasn't an option. The feelings are there, the sex is great, he's really good to me, but it feels like there can't be a future. \n\nWe've established that we both really care about one another, and we want to spend as much time together as possible, but I don't know where this is going. I'm going to college across the country in the fall, and I won't be home until Thanksgiving. \n\nThe age difference is an obvious issue, but I'm mature for my age and very independent. He still acts like he's in his twenties, so that hasn't been a problem. I've never been attracted to guys my own age, and I have been so happy since we started seeing each other. \n\nI definitely don't want to stop seeing him, but it feels strange carrying on knowing that I'm leaving in a month. He said that he can come visit, but \nI don't think I want to keep up a long distance thing while I'm starting out somewhere new. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "I, 18F, am seeing a wonderful 35M, but I'm leaving for college across the country in the fall, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1dbuwu", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Fourth semester, still failing.", "post": "So I am in my fourth semester of college. And every semester I have failed at least one class. I have taken calculus four times as of now, and I'm failing it again, along with two other courses...\nI said I was going to get my shit together and do better this semester but it seems I'm doing the worst...and I can't admit that to any of my family.\n\nI'm working part time at school, making incredible friends, and enjoying my time so much, but I just can't seem to sit down and study. I feel like I've been going through so much change, just emotionally, and making new friends, maturing, working my first job...that I've lost focus on school entirely. Sad part is, is that I'd be perfectly content just working at this job full-time for the foreseeable future...\n\nJust needed to rant. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "I've taken calculus four times and am failing it again, along with other courses, I've tried to improve, but am doing worse, but I am happy with myself and life."}
{"id": "t3_2tn8vm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17m] ran away from home, could use advice", "post": "I [17m] recently ran away from my parents.  We had a huge fight last Wednesday night, and it ended up getting physical.\nMy dad tried to take my phone from me but I just went into the fetal position and didn't let him take it.  My dad left bruises and cuts on me and during the fight my mom came down and pulled off my pants and underwear, leaving me to fight with my dad naked from the waist down (no idea why). I packed as much of my stuff up as I could and walked across town to my friend's house. \n\nI've been keeping contact with them and I'm calling them today to try to figure things out. \n\nI have no money, job, car or licence, but my dad owes me $2,500. I'm currently staying at my friend's house and I can stay here for a little while longer (probably a week).I'm turning 18 in 5 days.\nThis is the second time I've left. The first time I was kicked out for a week because I threw a party at my house when they were gone (which I now regret).\nMy relationship with them has always been bad, especially so with my mom, who often calls me \"useless fucking prick\"\n\nI'm really torn up about what to do and I'm hoping someone could tell me what I could do, or what I should do. Thanks.", "summary": "Got in physical fight with parents, left home and need advice on what to do"}
{"id": "t3_mkjcg", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I don't know what I believe.... I think.", "post": "I'm about to turn 23, and I guess that is is *that* part of life, where you're supposed to figure all this shit out. But It just sorta hit me the other day; that I have no clue what I believe. I mean, I know the kind of person I am, and I'm pretty confident in my morals, my likes, and my dislikes. But I realized that when it comes to anything religion or politics based, I've just been a sheep my entire life. Falling into whatever trends are around me. I'm ready to do some digging and find out what I believe in. Any advice on where to start?\n\nBought [this] hopefully it's a start there.", "summary": "I want to form my own opinions on religion and politics. Please help. Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_j625c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I quit my job, now they won't pay up", "post": "I was working for a CRM startup here in Salt Lake City, UT. Things were going great, until they decided to cut my salary in half and then offer me commission on billable hours that I submitted. I didn't like this because clients of this company often didn't pay for several months, meaning that I wouldn't be paid for work that I did until several months after the fact. The lull in pay that this would cause will make me unable to put food on the table for my family for months at a time.\n\nSo, I decided to find better employment. It took me only a mater of days to find a new job, but I gave my two weeks notice and busted my ass to finish up projects that I was working on.\n\nFor the last 3 weeks that I worked there (one week to find a job, two weeks notice) I was paid the new base salary based on this commissions-for-billable-hours scheme. Ok, fine.\n\nFast forward a month - I still haven't been paid for the billable hours I put in (damn near 80, at $20 an hour = $1600 bucks I'm missing out on). I email them to see what's up and suggest they just pay me what they owe me.\n\nThey reply back and say \"since you quit before the billable hours where paid by the client you are not eligible to receive pay for those hours\". I was pretty pissed at this point.\n\nThe kicker in my mind is this: They never gave me a new employment contract detailing the new commission-for-billable-hours scheme. Since I never got a new contract I was never able to sign / agree to it. If I had seen a new contract with that nonsense in it, I would have quit flat out without giving any notice at all. I don't want to risk not getting paid for work that I do.\n\nMy question is this, what's my next move?", "summary": "I got screwed out of 3 weeks of pay from my former job. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_24tguv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] have been chastised by my Father [65/M] for not flying down to Panama to See him. He's leaving in a few weeks for a trip to Europe.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships\n\nSo, backstory to explain the situation more.\n\nI'm currently enlisted in the Military and have a top secret security clearance. My father retired down in Panama (The Country, not the city in Florida). This makes it VERY difficult to leave the country due to entering paperwork, going through training and explaining my reasoning to my superior officers.\n\nMy father constantly tells me that I should be putting more effort into seeing him, despite the difficulty for me.\n\nHe's made several trips to the US to visit friends and familiy NOT in my area, as well as for work, but has made only 1 attempt to come see me in Virginia and I had warned him that there was a chance I would be out to sea during that time frame. Turns out, I would be out to sea during that time frame.\n\nWell, he just recently announced to me that he is now taking a trip to Europe. He said he had been saving for it for a while now (I've never even heard of this being mentioned before).\n\nI'm completely at a loss on how to react to all of this, but I'm rather upset that he couldn't bother saving that money to see me now that I am in a situation where I will not be out to sea for quite some time due to my ship being drydocked.", "summary": "Father critisizes me for not seeing him in a foreign country when its hard for me to visit, but goes off to a trip in Europe."}
{"id": "t3_2pwrrm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "my fiancee is stingy and controlling.", "post": "He yells at me if I buy anything for myself. He refuses to discuss his finances with me, but constantly wants to know how I'm handling mine. (Neither of us make a lot, I make about $400-$500 a week, and obviously I don't know his salary). He refuses to pack the bowl, saying that he only wants to smoke if we smoke my stash. If I spend more than $50 a week on weed, I get a lecture. Now he wants to start having me give him my paychecks and put me on an allowance. I don't think I'mm that irresponsible with money, I mean I don't drink or do drugs or go out very often. I spend my free time with my friends (usually watching tv or going to the river or something else inexpensive) or with him if he's not working. I have started to feel very wary about marrying this man.... I don't really know if I want to spend my life living under someone else's rules. I know that a huge part of marriage is compromise and I don't want to leave the only man that I've ever loved enough to want to have children with just because of my own pride. He is a good man and treats me with respect, and he truly does love me. He's Christian and was raised with traditional values (husband is head of house etc.) And before you suggest that I talk to him about it, I tried that a few times. The first time he got so offended that \"I don't trust his financial judgement\" that he didn't speak to me for two days. After that, he would be extremely determined to change the subject. It sounds ridiculous, but I think I actually really hurt his feelings. I am struggling, a LOT, with this situation, and I don't want to discuss it with anyone that we know because I don't want it to get back to him.", "summary": "My fiancee wants to control my money. Suggestions and advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1ov9dm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Mom[42] always thought I[16M] was innocent until reading texts between me and my friend[16M]", "post": "Ever since I lost my phone, I've been using my iPod to talk with my friends. Me and my friend were talking about usual stuff guys talk about (sex, gfs, school) on iMessages one day and I see my moms iPad ring as though she got a notification from iMessages.\n\nI dont think much of it until an hour later when i realize my mom doesn't even use iMessages. Then I also remember that my mom's iPad is synced with my account. Which also means she probably saw all the messages me and my friend were sending each other for the past couple hours. UH OH!\n\nSo I make up an excuse to use her iPad (It was a legit excuse so she wasn't suspicious), turns out she put a passcode on it. I act as though I don know why she locked it, and take the iPad away. Then I delete all the messages we sent each other (I was hoping the messages wouldn't be there, but I'm never lucky).\n\nIm pretty sure she read the messages, because she is acting really weird towards me. she's also barely talking to me, and has this morbid expression on her face. Looks kind of distant.\nI really don't know what to do. Please help Reddit!", "summary": "mom saw messages between friend and me about sex, girlfriends. Always thought I was innocent. turns out I'm not and she is acting distant now."}
{"id": "t3_4gac5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-girlfriend(17/F) Wants Me(18/M) Back After Having Sex with Another Man(18/M).", "post": "So my girlfriend and I broke up after being in a relationship after a year and a month because we never saw eye-to-eye on anything.\n\n It was more one-sided with me breaking up with her because I became increasingly unhappy.\n\nAfter a week we got back together but it only lasted for two weeks afterwards because there was no change.\n\n But I eventually grew obsessed with trying to get her back because I only broke up with her the second time because she stood me up twice on two dates.\n\nFlash forward four months later she suddenly wants me back.\n\n After sitting down and talking we ended up making out and having sex. She eventually tells me the bad news:\n\nShe has had meaningless sex twice with one of her co-workers.\n\n She said it mean't nothing to her but it happened twice.\n\nI didn't have sex with anyone except her and we lost our virginitys to each other so when she had sex with someone else it came to a massive shock.\n\nI don't know if I want to take her back, I'm so conflicted because I still love her but knowing that she had sex with someone else twice really makes me rethink what I want.\n\nI feel as if I have meaningless sex with someone else I might forgive her, but that's just immature to do.", "summary": "My year long girlfriend slept with someone after two months twice and I haven't had sex with anyone else but her, we lost our virginity to each other."}
{"id": "t3_hnvs7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fatigue and dieting/exercising too hard - how can you tell?", "post": "I'm a 19-year old male, 5'10\". A few years ago, I lost 30-40 lbs by myself by diet and exercise. I got down to 170 and was extremely proud of myself. I lightened up on my diet and I successfully maintained that weight, within a 5 pound fluctuation. However, I would like to lose a few more pounds. I'm mainly interested in losing weight in my face and belly.\n\nI tried starting losing weight a few weeks ago. I've been running 4 times a week. I run 2 miles and walk the rest for a total of 30 minutes. Then I do a few core exercises. I also started trimming down on carbohydrates and stopped drinking diet soda. From what I've learned, my diet was healthy and balanced - I was eating protein for breakfast, vegetables and chicken for lunch and dinner.\n\nI stopped dieting because I was getting so tired. I was having to take a nap every day after working out and I didn't have enough energy to work. I can't tell if I was doing the right thing, or if what I was doing was unhealthy, so I stopped dieting so much.", "summary": "I can't figure out how to lose weight without being tired all the time. I'm worried I'm dieting unhealthily. What's the acceptable amount of tiredness to make sure I'm not dieting/exercising too hard?"}
{"id": "t3_i1oq0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just looking for suggestions on what drugs to use and which to avoid", "post": "First, a little insight into my life. I've always been a good kid, never received a B in a class, I take advanced classes in high school, I'm a great people person, and for too long I've focused on just sports and school. I've been in the process of cutting loose recently and enjoying life so I've been asking friends and friends of friends what they would suggest in terms of drugs to use (not habitually) just to have a good time. In the midst of all of these posts about meth usage I came to thinking, \"why not ask reddit what drugs i should use!\" I know, drugs are bad and you shouldn't do them but I'm going to anyway so here is my question to you. What drugs or hallucinogens have you used that make for an amazing experience. I've heard acid can be a life changing experience so something along those lines would be awesome.", "summary": "I want a relatively safe drug that will give me and a couple friends a strong high or hallucinogenic effect, mainly for creative/intellectual reasons."}
{"id": "t3_sfkmj", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Child exposed to family friends drug use; how do I handle the situation?", "post": "Wall of text sorry.\n\nOur main social circle revolves around my husbands mates, they spent their 20's together stoned. Then they all grew up; there is never pot around the group anymore except when one friend who now lives in a remote town comes to visit (about 4 times a year), let's call him Bob. \n\nOn Friday Bob was in town with his wife and kids (3&6). The boys went to the pub for lunch and carried in to a mutual friends place afterwards. 'The girls' spent the afternoon together with the kids at another friends place. Come about 6pm kids are worn out so we go over to collect husbands then go home. When I get there I go in with baby and say hello to everyone; Bob's kids sit near by coloring (within view of the group, but not paging us any attention). I'm holding baby talking to the group and right there he pulls out a baggie and starts rolling a joint. I shoot him evils but don't say anything, I'm expecting him to just roll it then head outside, our baby is too young to know what's going on and I just don't know what to say. But then he pulls out a lighter and goes to light up, I quickly start to walk away the host scolds him and sends him out in the yard before he lights it. We leave shortly after.\n\nKnowing Bob we're likely to have similar situations arise again throughout our babies childhood. There is no way I'll ever let her be exposed to smoke, that's a given. My main issue is that I don't even want her to see the 'smoking paraphanalia' or see him rolling; my concern is that she will grow up thinking that drug use is normal and something that some adults just do. Bob obviously doesn't think it's a problem as his own kids were right there when it happened.  I really wanted to say something to Bob about it, but husband is very non-confrontational and thinks we should just quietly remove baby from the situation if/when it ever happens again.\n\nJust for the record, I have never been a pot smoker but I don't have an issue with friends doing it; just not around my kids.", "summary": "family friend thinks it's ok to roll a joint where kids can see. I don't want my child exposed to this behavior but don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3ns2wp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of a year, I moved her in to her apartment and she didn't help at all", "post": "My girlfriend reddits, so obvious throwaway...\n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for over a year, and she's honestly the coolest, funniest girl I've ever met. She's a little bit of a princess (ex. I always have to drive us places because she doesn't like driving, I'm the one that cooks, etc.) I usually don't mind that much.\nMy g/f just moved into a new city and asked me to move her in to her new apartment. I accepted and drove 20 minutes so I could help her move in. As soon as I got there, she talked about things she bought that needed assembling (tables, dressers, etc.) and proceeded to work on her computer, and asked if I could help her assemble the furniture. I asked her if she was going to help me and she was like \"well, if you need help, but I don't know how to do those things..\" so I said \"fine...\" and then she went back to her computer. She basically just watched me put all her furniture together and didn't even offer to help me once. This kind of irritated me to no end. She did say thank you and everything though, and offered to buy me dinner..\n\nBut the fact that she didn't even offer to help me irritated me, and even when I asked her-she didn't seem interested. I'm assembling her furniture, after all. Do I have a right to be annoyed?\n\nI know she loves me to no end, she tells me all the time, always calls me before I sleep, she's my best friend. These kinds of actions bother me, however.", "summary": "G/f didn't even offer to help me assemble her furniture"}
{"id": "t3_2eatby", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit! How did you survive college??", "post": "Share your ways to avoid/get over social anxiety, keep focused, get a job, get a scholarship, and basically anything you think could help the new freshman out there, like myself.\n\nI have just started college and I am nervous beyond belief. I have had a hard time meeting new people and I can not seem to get myself out of my \"bubble\". Add the fact that I need to find a way to keep up my grades and find a job to pay for all this. I have realized I am way out of my experience here and need some advice.", "summary": "Share your life hacks for college and become my mentor."}
{"id": "t3_nfmru", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone explain Pirate Bay to me?", "post": "I'm not trolling for emotional reactions here...I'm sure that I simply don't see something that's obvious to everyone else, but no one I've asked so far has been able to explain it to me.\n\nI don't understand Pirate Bay. I mean, I get torrenting and downloading movies and music and why people do it. What I don't understand is the extreme animosity people have, like using bittorrent is a middle finger against \"the man\" and downloading a movie makes you some sort of liberal freedom fighter...the idea that Pirate Bay is some sort of mecca for intellectual freedom. I mean, you downloaded a movie, you didn't cure cancer.\n\nI can't understand it as anything other than a sense of entitlement. I mean, we aren't talking about life saving medication here. Or clean water. Or the right to vote. Or anything else that really should be a basic human right that you get just because you were born. We're talking about movies and music. Entertainment. Why do we get to be entitled to on demand movies without payment? Why is that a basic human right?\n\nI'm referring specifically to the Pirate Bay legal files - letters sent to them by companies like Dreamworks, requesting their copyrighted works be removed from the site. I completely understand not removing them. Pirate Bay is based in Sweden, US copyright law doesn't apply. What I don't understand is the vengeful, hatefilled rhetoric, such as \"It is the opinion of us and our lawyers that you are ....... morons, and\nthat you should please go sodomize yourself with retractable batons. Go fuck yourself.\" and \"Instead of simply recommending that you sodomize yourself with a retractable baton, let me recommend a specific model - the ASP 21\". The previous lawyers tried to use a cheaper brand, but it broke during the\naction.\" The person who wrote these letters was hailed as a liberal hero.\n\nWhy?", "summary": "Why is The Pirate Bay revered, applauded, and defended with the same kind of deference that was once reserved for civil rights leaders?"}
{"id": "t3_4i8pvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] partner [33M] gets black out drunk a quarter of the time he drinks and likes to play fight", "post": "My [26F] partner [33M] gets black out drunk sometimes, and he likes to play fight. He is unable to respond to reason in this state, and has bit my hand leaving teeth marks, slapped me (not bruisingly hard, but not tapping) and ignores me when I say stop. \n\nI have told him that I no longer feel completely safe around him when he's drinking. He defends his behavior (though he can't remember it), and says I encourage it. So I've stopped all play fighting, even when sober, and he is upset about that, and feels like I've placed too many rules on our relationship.\n\nHe is very calm and controlled in every other aspect of his life (quite the perfectionist), very intellectual and reserved.\n\nWhen is the breaking point? I don't worry that he'll really hurt me, but feeling unsafe or at very least, unease, isn't much fun. Should I just get over it and take little hits? He thinks I am making much too big of a deal about this.\n\nTo be clear, I don't want to leave! I moved across the world for this awesome man.\n\nHe hasn't offered any compromise or interest in not drinking. He is Czech, living in Prague, if that matters, since drinking is so engrained in the culture.", "summary": "My bf drinks (blacks-out) and play hits a small amount of the time, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_oqnzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Letting down a friend", "post": "Me: 19. Her: 18. Both of us are college freshman and we've known each other since the beginning of last semester. We hang out most days in a group of five (4 girls including her and myself).\n\nOver the past few months I've been picking up on a few things that lead me to believe that she likes me, and I fear it may be reaching a critical point at which it will need to be confronted. The most recent signs have been things that mutual friends have said (most telling is \"You know she loves you\").\n\nThing is, I see her as a friend only, with no romantic attractions at all. So what I'm looking for is a way to let her down softly when the time comes without having to jeopardize our friendship.", "summary": "Friends with girl whom I friendzoned but it seems she likes me. Need advice on how to let her down when the time comes."}
{"id": "t3_2b5ief", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21F) losing sense of self in relationship with my (20F) bipolar gf", "post": "She is my best friend but I've lost all friends outside of her and our friend group has melded to a few people. She wants me to do everything with her from grocery shopping to every minute of my free time. She is also very suspicious and jealous. Example: Our male friend flirts with both of us and after we hang out wiyh him she'll be upset for hours thathe flirted with me.I love her but can't confront her or tell her how I really feel most of the time because she loves confrontation and I am deeply effected by it--I have depression/dysthymia and mild aspergers and am incredibly sensitive. \n\nWe just signed a lease to live in the same apartment for a year (this time with separate rooms) and I'm concerned. She needs constant noise and stimulation and as the more introverted one, I need silence. My center of focus in the environment is politeness towards others and not imposing on them, hers is making herself comfortable and disregarding the feelings of others. This manifests as her forcing me into PDA at inappropriate times, me cleaning up after her, apologizing for her, and generally catering to her needs while she disregards mine (loud music, bright lights, constant motion). \n\nAlso, this is my first relationship.\nI love her but need advice.", "summary": "My girlfriend is bipolar, dominating, way more extroverted, and generally gives less fucks than me (depressed, overly polite). How can I be happy in this relationship? "}
{"id": "t3_41pq70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] always end up with cheaters... what can I do?", "post": "I always end up with guys that cheat on me. I honestly don't know what to do anymore and have definitely developed trust issues.\n\nI had a 2 year relationship, 3+ years ago that ended because he cheated on me, I took him back (big mistake) and I couldn't get passed it. I asked him what I had done that led him to cheat and he said that I did nothing wrong and the opportunity just presented itself. I asked if there was something he wasn't getting out of our relationship and/or something he was scared to ask for and his response stayed the same - I did nothing wrong and I was providing what he needed, the other girl was just there. (I saw him like 4 days a week regularly so my schedule wasn't an issue.)\n\nThen a month or so ago I started talking to a guy I've known for a couple years. HE asked to be in an exclusive relationship and pursued me. Turns out he was using me and dating other chicks. So that is obviously over.", "summary": "Are there any actually decent guys left? / Do honesty and faithfulness not exist anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_4u7cta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) don't know if I should ask out this girl I met(17M)", "post": "I know what your thinking \"oh fuck this guy sounds like a pussy just from the title \" but hear me out, I met this hella cool and attractive girl at my work, got her number, and I could tell she likes me(sound amazing right?) buuuuuut I'm going to college in less than a month. I think she's hella chill and I would love a relationship wit her but I don't would not want a long distance relationship plus I wanna experience college single and have fun without any restrictions. I have the balls to ask her out but I think I have the brains not to do it so I'm stuck in the middle. Anything helps", "summary": "Met super cool girl, she liked me/I like her, but I'm going to University in less than a month and she's not going wit me, Should I ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_13crsy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (f22) spending more time with excoworker than me (m25)", "post": "I (m25) have been with my girlfriend (f22) for 2 years. Lately, I've just been noticing for the past 2 months that she's been going out with a male excoworker. He's been picking her up from work when she told me not to pick her up. I've kind of taken the back seat. We've been having a few arguments lately so I've kind of stayed away from being confrontional. He's been calling and texting her while we are together to \"hangout\". But tonight I've learned that he is taking her to a mutal friends party rather than taking me. Her excuse was \"She invited me and not you\". I'm just really starting to get an uneasy feeling about all this.", "summary": "girlfriend (f22) spending a lot of more time with excoworker than me, her boyfriend (m25)"}
{"id": "t3_11thqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boss won't pay me. What should I do?", "post": "This last summer I worked at a hot dog restaurant owned by a sorry excuse for a business man.  I was paid 7 dollars an hour, under the table, and didn't get any kind of tax deductions.  The way the payment system was set up is that you write your hours down on a time card and come payment time you sign off on these time cards (which we called checks) and are given cash.  These checks are withheld for a month before you start receiving payment and you get paid weekly.  I gave a two weeks notice three weeks before leaving to go to college in hopes that I would receive all my payment; however by the time I left there were still two checks left unpaid.  I took a picture of these two checks/time-cards before I left and I was promised that I would be payed whenever I came back from college.  This weekend I came back and asked for my money but my boss's coke-head nephew, who is also in charge of paying employees, had allegedly \"misplaced\" my checks.  Of course I couldn't speak with his nephew because he was in the hospital getting reconstructive facial surgery after, what I assume was, some kind of vehicular accident caused by the impairment of whatever particular drug he had been on at that point (I assume this because it had already happened twice before).  So I'm convinced that my boss is trying to fuck me over and not pay me the $134.00 that he owes me especially considering that when I went to see all my paid checks (that are kept stored away in the back for all former employees) mine happened to be the only one's missing.  What should I do?", "summary": "My former boss is playing dumb and telling me that he had lost the time cards for my last two weeks of pay.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hvz7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I saw my [26 M] ex [25 F] at the bar with my new GF [24 F]", "post": "EDIT: Saw my Ex, while I was with my new gf. Clarification\n\nWe broke up in June. It wasn't easy for me. I didn't feel like I got enough closure and she just dropped off the face of the earth. \n\nWell I've been dating this new girl called T for a month or so and shes great, tall, blonde, sweet, gorgeous, looks like Blake Lively sp?. I know that in most situations this would be great, my ex saw me with a gorgeous girl and I looked happy.\n\nBut I dont feel good about it, I dont feel like I won something. I feel bad because I still care a lot about her (the ex) and I wish we were still friends. Should I just continue the no contact, or should I reach out and see if she wants coffee sometime? I already broke the no contact, I sent her a small email that just said \"You look good\". No reply.", "summary": "Saw my ex-gf at the bar, while I was with my new gf. Brought up some feelings."}
{"id": "t3_34o873", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of three years, loves getting attention from other guys", "post": "Within the last two years or so, my girlfriend has been receiving more attention from guys than normal. (We both lived in small communities before moving to the same city to go to university.)\n\nSince arriving at university, she's grabbed the attention of numerous guys. I am her first boyfriend, she's my second girlfriend. We've had a bit of a rocky relationship but not between the two of us but rather external factors making it extremely difficult but that's another story.\n\nShe makes it clear to these guys that she is taken and never shows any sort of interest in any of them. I have noticed that she doesn't ever flat out reject them unless the situation absolutely calls for it. It isn't exactly leading them on because she does make it clear she doesn't see them in an intimate light whatsoever but she never dismisses them outright until it starts to get creepy. I've read text messages and conversations (which was encouraged by her) to prove her innocence.\n\nThere is the undeniable fact that she tells me frequently that she loves the attention. She told me she loves me dearly and would never cheat on me in a million years. I believe her but it still bothers me deep down that she seemingly craves this attention when I feel like this relationship is more than enough for me.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend loves getting attention from guys. She isn't interested and she makes it clear she's taken. I know she's loyal but deep down it bugs me. Should I just drop it or what?"}
{"id": "t3_f7f7t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, teach me fiscal responsibility", "post": "I've got this bad habit of spacing out my spending so that the day my account hits 0 is the day my check comes in. I'm still  living at home, so I don't have any financial obligations atm, but as soon as school is done I'm looking to move out into my own apartment (probably in the 6 month time range.)\n\nDo any redditors have handy tips? I pay for my own food, $30 a month in prescriptions, and a $30 copay every week for my therapist. No gas/car insurance, I bike everywhere. I've got a checkings, empty savings, and a $500 max credit card I use for food. I make on average about $550 every two weeks.\n\nLooking to use tax returns as a confidence boost in the saving venture.", "summary": "Fiscally irresponsible at 18. Moving out in 6 months and need to get a grip financially."}
{"id": "t3_1y2y9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] got my [F/19] something for valentines day and she doesn't appreciate it?", "post": "Okay, so my girlfriend of 2 years want some of the naked makeup which cost a pretty penny, considering I don't have a job (waiting to ship for the Air Force) anyways. She's been wanting it for awhile and I got it for her for valentines day along with a ton of other stuff. She lives with her sister (total bitch). So when she opened it I told her I want her to have it, I don't want her sister stealing it and using it, so keep it hidden or something, she said 'of course'.\n\nNext day We're sitting on her bed talking, and the makeup is out. Her sister walks in grabs the makeup and says she's going I use it and needs the brush. I give my girlfriend that look like \"you need to do something\"\n\nShe doesnt, sister takes makeup and uses it. I'm pissed, don't really know if I should be, but it cost me a lot and I feel like he didn't even care.\n\nShould I be mad, yes I talked to her about it and she just said next time she'll say something (won't happen, I know)... I really feel like maybe I'm jut wasting time/money on her but I really do love her and care for her.", "summary": "girlfriend said she wanted the expensive makeup more than anything, she let's her sister use it. Should I be mad?"}
{"id": "t3_rmjq1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, Reddit - let's say, a man of my upstanding morale calibre was approached, and offered both money and shares to make a Porn site. What kind of features would make you migrate to said seedy establishment of sorts?", "post": "As the title says, let's say that hypothetically, I've been asked to make a porn site. This is based on previous projects I've done which had considerable \"tech leaps\" in them; HD Video around Stage6 times, near unmetered filesharing, etc.\n\nThe only problem is - what can actually be done to make Porn better than it already is? Let's be honest for a moment here; there's very little missing right now in the world of porn.\n\nSure, I can make it fast, and I'd sure as hell blacklist any intrusive/popup/audio ads - but does Reddit have any ideas on what kind of functionality would actually make a porn site worth visiting, especially in it's startup phase when it's got a low amount of user generated content?", "summary": "Don't judge me."}
{"id": "t3_3sxwj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update2] Me [26 M] and my parents [50s], with my sister [17F], family is breaking apart I need help", "post": "Previous post: \n\nSo. I just called the police to file a runaway report. It might be too late though.\n\nI learned this from my mother last night. My sister withdrew from the semester. Apparently she hasn't been going to school for the last two weeks. There is zero improvement on the communication front, and it seems that she can't seen to be able to take care of her self. I'm pretty sure she's still bouncing around friends, which is ridiculous. Her friends are not her friends, and I'm so angry.\n\nShe turns 18 very soon. I felt I needed to do something, so I called the cops to report a runaway. Maybe it's too late, I'm pretty sure as soon as she turns 18 it's basically a missing persons case, and that she can come and go as she pleases.\n\nIt's all just so disappointing. I'm not sure what I'm feeling. At this point I just hope she's not pregnant or doing drugs or something. What is she doing with all her time if she's not going to school? What kind of people let kids who run away from their home for weeks on end?", "summary": "Sister withdrew from education. I'm calling the cops, but I'm not sure what that will do."}
{"id": "t3_1ceqph", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m] The girl I have feelings for [16/f] suffers from depression and anxiety, please help!", "post": "So as you can clearly see, this is some young love. Of course, nothing serious, not planning to grow up and get married and have kids or anything, but I do have feelings for this girl and definitely want some kind of relationship with her. However, this is pretty hard to do right now.\n\nHere's a little back-story: I met her last year and we started to flirt a little, and got into that pre-dating phase for a little while (about 2 weeks) and then she became much too clingy (eg. any time I wasn't with her I was avoiding her) and I ended up making some excuse and taking off. We ended up talking again a few months later, with things not working out a second time (I forget the reason behind this) which ultimately ended with me giving up again. Now recently, she came back and we started to talk again, which leads us to the present...\n\nSo lets call her L. L has depression problems (cuts to relieve pain, on thighs and upper arms, so no serious damage though I still worry intensely about it) and has low self-esteem with anxiety issues added on top of that. Now, I want to help her with this, and I want to be there for her, but it seems to me like there is just too much going on in her life right now to hold down a relationship on top of it. (I told her this sentence pretty much exactly as typed)\n\nI have told her that when *we* get some of her problems sorted out and dealt with, that I'd be glad to have a relationship, but she seems to be hell-bent on all or nothing. At the moment, since I've said this to her, it's the nothing option, but when I see her we always stare, and I'd give anything to know what she's thinking...\n\n**Basically (", "summary": "): Girl has anxiety/self-esteem/depression issues and I'm worried that it's too much for either of us, stay or go?"}
{"id": "t3_48uhwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M] friend [18F] just told me her feelings", "post": "One of my good friends just told me her feelings and kind told me all of her pent up feelings.  When she told me, I was caught off guard and didn't know how to respond and kind of just told her that we should talk about it face to face.  At that point she started to shy away at the prospect of talking about it.  Right now, we are acting like nothing has happened, but I can't stop thinking about it.  Should I confront her?\n\nThe real reason that this is an issue is that I'm not sure how I feel about her.  I really like her as a friend, but I've never considered her as anything more.  I'm torn between saying yes and no because I don't want to hurt her feelings by saying no, but I feel like it would be disingenuous to date her without actually feeling a significant amount of attraction.  But at the same time, I feel like I should at least try dating her and seeing where it goes.", "summary": "Girl told me how she feels; don't know what to say."}
{"id": "t3_b7ycx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how old is too old?", "post": "I a seventeen year old girl who is a senior in high school. I live in a very close knit town where I go to parties with kids in 10th grade and kids who are seniors in college. We've all known each other forever; it's not weird. Anyway..\n\nA month or so ago I went to a party with a few friends at one of their older brother's houses. We were all hanging out having a good time when a guy who I knew casually walked up to me. We started talking, and before we knew it, we had been chatting it up for nearly an hour and a half. We exchanged numbers and continued to talk. Now, we text each other constantly, and I can't get him out of my head. It amazes me how much we have in common, and it's so easy for him to put a smile on my face. Last weekend, I gave him a ride home from a get together, and while we were sitting in front of his house, he looked at me and said \"This is bad..\" I questioned his statement, and he told me he's falling for me. He told me that he wants to start spending more time with me, and that he doesn't want me to think he's trying anything scummy. (I'm assuming this was to reassure me because he's a notorious lady's man, and is known to get over on girls pretty easily) But, we've been talking for about a month and a half, and we haven't hooked up at all. He seems like an honest and genuine person, and it's hard for me to imagine where all the rumors about him have come from. Here's the most difficult part... he's twenty-two. From what I can tell, he's more mature and more down to earth than most of the guys my age, and the only downfall is the five year gap.. If he was really just trying to get in my pants, why would he have waited this long? He's incredibly attractive and could easily have any girl he wanted, but instead he's been sticking around. \n\nSo Reddit, am I being stupid by even thinking about pursuing this? \nIs this guy just taking advantage of a naive 17 year old with his looks and charm, or do you think he's really into me?", "summary": "I'm 17, lately I've been talking to a 22 y/o. Bad Idea?"}
{"id": "t3_13zhnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21m] I'm being physically threatened by an ex [24m]", "post": "We never actually dated, but I recently decided to stop talking to a friend I had met about a year ago. We had always been flirty and almost intimate with each other, but I ultimately rejected his advances. Attempting to still be friends after this was difficult and he'd prove to be more and more unpleasant and rude to me until I decided the friendship wasn't worth it. He sent me a few final thoughts calling me a bitch, slut, \"the worst person I have ever met\", and an ominous \"your downfall will be spectacular\". We haven't spoken since.\n\nRecently I've been getting aggressive anonymous messages on my blog such as \"you will get what you have coming to you\", and \"have you ever been in a fight?\"\n\nI really feel like I'm going to be attacked at some point.\n\nI've never been in a fight. I have no idea how I'd react in that situation. Is the answer just to fight him when this occurs? I don't think violence is acceptable, not to mention I don't know how serious he is in trying to harm me. He's told me he would prefer me dead before. I don't really know who to talk to.", "summary": "Ex wants to kill me. Or at least beat me up."}
{"id": "t3_44tbc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] M(20) and F(19) been together for 4 years and I love her a lot and don't how to go from here..", "post": "I have know my so since sophomore year and we been together for 4 years. The first two years I always showed my affection for her and she did to, but I want always the best boyfriend but I tired too be one and to me she really the one I want in my life. These two 2 years have been rough for us, she tells me I don't show my affection or show her that I love her(I say, I love her) but that doesn't show it. I always been a serious guy and I've been trying to change it and it's getting there but my issue is showing her affection. I don't how to show it, I love hugging her, kissing her and expecially holding her hand. But lately when she gets into a semi bi-polar mood she tell me that I'm like a friend and she wants me to be a boyfriend instead. How do I fix this issue?", "summary": "girlfriend tells me I'm like a friend instead of a boyfriend cause I don't show my love."}
{"id": "t3_49f8ye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my 19 [F] Best Friends Sister. Really Like. Pls Halp", "post": "Here we go reddit. \n\nSo I've had this best friend for a few years. Extremely close spend tons of time together etc etc. \n\nRecently, about the past 5 months I just can't get enough of being around his younger sister. Every time I'm near her it just excites me. I love talking to her and just being around her in general. Like any opportunity I have to be near her I happily take no matter what. I also went from not seeing her as that attractive to just being smitten by her. Like even when I see her in sweats and no makeup just chilling on like a Sunday afternoon I think shes so beautiful. \n\nNever felt like this about a girl before, not to sound cliche\n\nThe issue is that this just isn't something I can pursue. I know my friend wouldn't be ok with it, and what would happen with that friendship if I dated his sister? But the problem is that I just can't get her out of my head and I feel like a shitty person because I find myself going to chill with him just to see his sister. I've spent the past 4 months going after other girls and trying to get over this but it just isn't working.\n\nI think shes also kind of into me, but theres just no way to talk about this without it turning into a hugely uncomfortable situation for everyone because Im also friends with his parents etc\n\nWhat happens if i confess this and she rejects it? Now im just chilling at her house when she knows i like her and she sees me as her brothers friend? I don't wanna put her in that position.\n\nAnyone have similar experiences? What happened? What helped?", "summary": "like my friends sister, feel like i cant make a move, what do"}
{"id": "t3_21s184", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (m/24) gets mad when I (f/24) get protective over him when a regular of ours aggressivley hits on him.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about three months, although weve known each other for 10 years. We both work in the same bar, everyone knows were together, unless theyre new customers. We dont make it obvious by any means to help with tips and we try to keep personal and business separate, obviously. We do have a very healthy, out of the table about everything,  non jealous relationship. However, two of our regluars met at the bar and started dating. Were friends with them,  we play pool with them, but the girl has made it very obvious she has eyes for my boyfriend. She gets super excited to see him, screams about how much she \"loves\" him and always wants him to play pool. its been kind of a standing joke between us, I give him shit about her having a crush on him and he tells me how much better at pool she is than me. Well, this week her boyfriend dumped her and like clockwork shes back in the bar to play pool and hit on my boyfriend, only this time, she extremely aggressive about it. She might as well rip off her clothes and ask him to fuck her on the pool table, cause its obvius thats what shes thinking. \n\nIts gotten to the point where it's really upsetting me. She hosts over him, hands around by him and stands directly behind him staring him down while they play pool, or he plays pool with other people. And because of my position, I cant say a damn thing and I just have to sit by and watch it all go down. Mind you, my boyfriend does everything in his power to avoid the situation. But he gets mad at me when I get upset about her and bitch about it. I dont know what to do!", "summary": "one of my regulars hits on my boyfriend, because of my positing I can't say anything and don't know how to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_28syny", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by talking to a customer at work", "post": "So I work in a meat department at a grocery store. I was filling one of the bunkers with some chicken that was on sale,  and this guy was looking over my shoulder at something. I wasn't sure if he was looking at the chicken I was putting out or the pork that was next to it. In the interest of being friendly I said \"It's a good sale on chicken.\" He just looked at me like had said something horrendous, picked up some of the pork and walked away shaking his head. I couldn't figure out what I had done wrong until about 2 minutes later, when it struck me that the guy I had talked to was black. I totally didn't mean anything by it, just wanted to be friendly... oops.", "summary": "Told a black guy there was a sale on chicken, didn't realize I sounded racist."}
{"id": "t3_2kcssd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16/M] have fallen for a girl [17/F] that told me she likes me a week ago, but is hesitant now.", "post": "So i've been in love with this girl for almost a year, and we hang out often. Like daily. She has known i've liked her for a long time, and at one point this spring i was told she liked me, but she stopped liking me because i became too clingy, which i don't necessarily dispute. I tried texting her but she was never interested. But last friday she told me to my face that she liked me, despite complications with the fact that another one of our mutual friends [F/16] liked me (but i did not like her). This was at a school retreat and in a great setting for us to get to know each other, but after she told me and I confirmed I liked her, things got a little bit awkward, we didn't really talk the day after, but we slowly started talking again all week, and i thought things were going great, until today.\n\n Today \"mutual friend\" told me that \"girl\" didn't like me any more, and despite conflict of interest, i believe her, I doubt she would lie to me. I asked another friend what was happening, and she told me that \"girl\" still liked me, just was hesitant because she's never been in a relationship ( I haven't either). Im going to see \"girl\" tomorrow for a fair bit of time, and i don't know what to do. I am embarrassed and mad and rather wouldn't talk to her because i feel betrayed, and most of all i really just wish things were like they were last week. Do you think i can win her back? I am stubbornly refusing to give up because i have liked her for so long, thinking maybe i should try to talk to her tomorrow just to see whats up, whats true and not.", "summary": "liked a girl, told me she liked me, now(1 week later) has (debatably) decided she doesn't like me, but i don't want to give up."}
{"id": "t3_1yz1z8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] need help dealing with feelings for friend [20 F].", "post": "Using a throwaway because some mutual friends know my reddit account and am using my phone so sorry for any mistakes. I have developed feelings for a girl that I have been friends with for a while. We are close and both of us get along really well and often are mistaken for couple in public. She has an amazing personality and is beautiful and constantly getting attention from guys no matter where she goes. She enjoys my company a lot and I enjoy hers and we both trust each other enough to about our problems and we've both helped each other through depression and hardships. \n\n I don't fit her type and she is constantly swooning over guys at work. I don't really expect anything to happen but usually I am fairly self confident about myself but recently I've been feeling as though I'm not good enough and that bothers me because that's never happened before. It also makes me resent the guys she dates which I shouldn't because they are all nice guys and don't deserve any of the resentment I feel, ( I don't outwardly show any toward of resentment towards them). \n\nSo basically I don't know if I should tell her how I feel and risk ruining my relationship with one of my closest friends or just continue like I am and continue to get hurt. Again sorry about any mistakes and I'm a terrible writer so I probably did not get any important details in but I'll answer any questions in the comments.", "summary": "Developed feelings for close friend don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_jfdlq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would there be serious physical health effects resulting from constantly/regularly induced panic attacks?", "post": "I'm female, in my early-to-mid 20s. Within the past year or two I discovered that these episodes I've had for most of my life are probably panic attacks: when I think about being close to or emotionally dependent/attached to someone, it happens. I get tense, my chest feels very tight and it becomes difficult to breathe, I hyperventilate, I tremble, I feel like I absolutely *have* to get out of my current location but can't move. Sometimes my vision becomes unfocused; if it doesn't, my eyes usually dart around looking for an exit.\n\nWithin the past few months, I've met a few guys who seemed interested in potentially pursuing a relationship with me. I am not ready for a relationship. I cannot handle a relationship. I am not relationship material. I have trust issues, commitment issues, am emotionally unavailable, all of those classic buzz-terms. So I have been using a technique of self-inducing panic attacks by regularly thinking the triggering thoughts when I go to sleep. It works. It reminds me of how awful life would feel if I managed to get myself in a relationship. And then when I see those guys, I shut down and clock out - I'm distant, cold, brief. They lose any interest they might have had.\n\nThe problem is that my knowledge of panic attacks is admittedly very limited... From what I've read it sounds like they are a \"feels like you're dying but actually relatively harmless\" experience, but I also imagine most people don't actively seek to do this and maybe don't have them so often. Am I screwing around with my vital organs (e.g. my heart) somehow or will I be (physically) fine? Mainly the only thing I've noticed is that I'm losing sleep, but I never really get quality sleep anyway. Also, since I'm controlling my attacks, I don't seem to have unexpected ones anymore.\n\nI know this might sound a bit crazy, but I'd appreciate responses, thanks!", "summary": "I know what triggers my panic attacks and I do it. Potentially serious health effects?"}
{"id": "t3_gjkz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is shopping with reusable bags such a pain in the ass?", "post": "1) If you have a reusable bag at a department store, the salesperson will look for the tag to scan it even though you've already told them it's for them to bag your purchases.\n\n2) When you're at an automated checkout lane at the grocery store, forget it. You may as well have an anthrax-flavored cherry bomb with spikes and a turban with squiggly writing on it than use a reusable bag. The scanning machine will even roll its eyes at you. And, if you need to add a bag in the middle of the scanning... I think they _want_ you to go to jail for using it in that line.\n\n3) The _very fucking_ second you whip out a reusable bag, you have announced to the sales clerk, \"no, you go ahead and take it easy for the rest of my transaction, I'll be fine bagging my own shit just because I brought my own bags. Thanks! Would you like me to also scan the stuff for you or is it alright if you, you know, do your job.\"", "summary": "If it weren't for my do-gooding wife, reusable bags can blow me."}
{"id": "t3_11lew1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I seem to be the only person who see's a family member for the total scum bag he is.", "post": "Over a year ago now I made the worst decision of my life. I slept with my cousin's husband. I hate myself for it.\n\nI was 20 and had just gotten out of my first real relationship and was very broken up, almost constantly depressed. I took comfort with a family member I trusted and confided in him. He was twice my age and I figured he'd have some wisdom for me. He was very supportive and we spoke often late into the night. The conversation started straying into more sexual topics and before I knew it, he was hinting at a sexual interest in me.\n\nI have never had the best self confidence and when a man I had known most of my life (since I was about 9) and admittedly had a bit of a crush on when I was younger started coming on to me, I didn't know how to handle it. I went with it. After all, this was someone I had known and trusted all my life so he wouldn't do anything bad right? Wrong. Before I knew it we were making plans to meet up secretively. I don't know why I did it and I regret it more than anything. It ended only a few months after it started because I drunkenly admitted everything to a good friend of mine and he made me put an end to it.\n\nThe worst part is that my whole family loves him. He's very charismatic and good at getting people to like him. He's a salesman and has no problems spinning stories to show him in the best light. I can hardly stand to be around him anymore because I know what a cheating liar he is. To everyone else he seems to be the perfect husband and father... but I know the truth and it kills me. I can't tell anyone because it would tear my family apart knowing what we did. He said if I ever told anyone he would \"bury me.\"", "summary": "I slept with my cousin's husband and I feel like a horrible person."}
{"id": "t3_1mlz8n", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I wish my best friend knew I fell in love with her.", "post": "This is your average story of the two best friends who have something great that they share for a long time. Everything is going great! Lots of laughs and lots of fun!\n\nBut wait...What's this. \n\nFeelings start to creep up on the boy. The calm-cool collected boy who is too edgy for love starts to fall into it...and hard. \n\nPLOT TWIST!!!\n\nTwo months ago the girl finds this other guy and starts to date him, leaving our fellow hero in the dust of anger and with the guilt of not having the necessary courage to tell her his true feelings! Our hero so desperately tries to find the right words to express his love for her, tries so hard to make a moment perfect for this, the one small moment he needs to win her heart...\n\nBut alas...He never found it. \n\nFast forward eight months from the start of me falling for her and here I am watching her date some guy for about 2 months. \nI have been living with this feeling of deep love and respect for my best friend, we'll call her Jane, for some time now. Eight months feels like an eternity to be quite honest and the last two months since the start of her relationship have been especially long. I honestly felt truly weak when I realized I had all that time to tell her. To do something. ANYTHING just to make her acknowledge me. Not a day goes by where I don't think about her and what we have...what we might've had. I had 6 months...and I wasted it.\n\nI just wish I could tell her how much she means to me, how much I care for her, how much I just want to take her out on a date and just kiss her with passion. \n\nThe only thing stopping me is my respect of her relationship. I dont want to tarnish her happiness by telling her my feelings at the expense of my own desire of wanting to be her boyfriend/SO. \n\nSo here I am Reddit!", "summary": "I am in love with my best friend but failed to ever tell her. Stricken with guilt and angry with the fact that my moral compass denies me permission to tell her, which could interfere with her own relationship with another guy, I chose to tell you, Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2ols7p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to trim my hair.", "post": "I was at a friends house today, when I casually said \"Man, I need to trim my bangs soon.\" I noted this because they began to hang in my eyes and I knew that I needed to take at least half an inch now, which I've normally been able to do with no issue.\n To this she replied, \"Oh, you could do it here. I got scissors.\" as she pointed to them. I figured ah, what the hell, right?\n So, I took off a good amount and it looked pretty good at first. This was until I tried to \"fix\" it since there were a couple small pieces longer than the entirety of my bangs. This lead to them becoming very short, like above my eyebrow, and FREAKISHLY uneven. Though, I partially blame my friend because she tried to \"Help\" me.  \n\n*deep sigh* \n\nWell, I guess I should be grateful that;\nA) I have a good supply of bobby pins to conceal my horrible fuck-up with. \nB) My bangs grow hella fast.", "summary": "I was at a friends house and mentioned that I should trim my long-ass bangs soon. She told me to do it here, and when I tried to fix it when I should have left it the hell alone, she ~tried~ to help me and we ended up royally fucking my hair up. But no worry, I have bobby pins. I still feel like an idiot though."}
{"id": "t3_1i0p4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [20F] snooped. I know I shouldn't have...but I really need some outside perspective on what I found", "post": "Been together 8 months, he is 24m, and we are long distance most of the time (a couple hours away). So last weekend I was drunk and while we were at a party, I took his phone, telling him I needed to call someone because mine was dead. In reality, I read his texts with his ex-gf who he claims is now his best (platonic?) friend. It was a string of texts from her (with no response). Some I remember: how she can't do this anymore, about how she must actually be a problem because I deleted her on facebook, and how she feels like he has been waiting for her to say something. Now, this didn't make me too upset since he didn't respond, but it didn't seem entirely platonic.\n\nFast forward to now...I still haven't had a chance to talk to him about it and have had some bad feelings. Turns out I know his facebook password (I guessed right), and since I am a suspicious asshole, I read some messages. I found him talking to his other, different, most recent ex who, if you ask me, he is very obviously still in love with (judging by the messages and what he has told me). I also found him flirting with a past fwb girl telling her how he missed fucking her and talking about how horny he is and how she should send him pics of her hot cousin or something.\n\nNow. I am just so confused and upset. I know that nothing good comes from snooping...but I wasn't expecting to find anything at all, I trusted him. I think I will confess to snooping, but I want perspective--are these things I found really that upsetting or are they normal? I don't know what to think and really need outside opinion. Thank you", "summary": "I'm an idiot snooper, but I found bad messages with all 3 of the past girls he's been with. What the hell does this mean for me"}
{"id": "t3_2wd62u", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Keeping a house dog hair free", "post": "I'm in a relationship with a girl who has 2 dogs. I like dogs, but haven't had or lived with one since I was living with my parents because I HATE dog hair. For career reasons, our relationship is approaching the point where I need to shit or get off the pot over letting her move in with me.\n\nThe problem is she has a golden retriever mix and Brittany spaniel mix and her apartment is COVERED in dog hair. She can spend half a day cleaning it and it seems like it's covered again in a day. I can deal with spending time at her apartment fine, but I don't know if I can get used to the idea of my entire house constantly being like that and having no escape from the dog hair. Is it possible to have a relatively hair-free household with 2 dogs that shed a lot? If so, how? Would frequent professional groomings do the trick? I want to make this relationship work but I'm having a hard time getting past this.", "summary": "I don't like dog hair, but my gf has 2 dogs that shed a lot. Is it possible to let her move in without my house getting covered in dog hair and how?"}
{"id": "t3_yoplj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When in life have you felt the most alone/depressed?", "post": "Here's Mine...\n\nI am an American, currently living way outside of Telford, UK, if you have a clue where that is. Things aren't really working out as planned at the moment... I moved here because I've had a wonderful, up to this point, relationship with a woman I met at an airport almost 1 year ago. We thought my coming here after 11 months of long distance dating was the right step in seeing where our relationship could go. \n     \nShe is trying to include me in her life, but it all seems a bit too forced... she's divorced, having been a teacher, seeing the fall out from it, I don't agree with how her children have no boundaries at her home. We argued about that today, after her 13 year old decided she didn't want to come back to his house from her aunt's for the last 5 days of her school holiday, the only \"long\" stretch of time she has them during the year.\n     \nHow do you not get upset when someone you love is being hurt be someone that is supposed to love them? And then have all that frustration taken out on you? After we argued, I walked out of the house and down the lane to the foot path, the combines have been busy cutting the wheat today... I turned around, and I saw my shadow across the cut wheat... and that made me realize exactly how alone I feel here. Nothing that I can connect to for as far as I can see. Now, nearly 6 hours later, I'm down here at the computer while she's fast asleep in bed...", "summary": "I moved to the UK with my girlfriend and now I am the most alone/depressed that I have ever been."}
{"id": "t3_4fdf7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend's best friend [22F] finds me [24M] very attractive but my girlfriend [24F] of 4 years doesn't seem to mind and actually finds it quite amusing.", "post": "So, I've been dating Melissa for about 4 years now and things are great, we both have similar goals in life, similar values and things are just going really smooth for us.\n\nShe has known her best friend Holly since elementary school and she has openly expressed how attractive she finds me. I've brought up my concern with Melissa and she thinks it's kind of cute or harmless.\n\nI pressed it a bit more and she said that she wasn't worried about it but would handle it. \n\nWell, we're going on a business trip/vacation to Vegas at the end of the month. And originally it was just going to be Melissa and I but some how or another she \"forgot\" to mention to me Holly as well as Melissa's co-worker Megan would be coming along with us.\n\nI think she knew I wouldn't even have agreed to go if I knew it wasn't just going to be the two of us.\n\nEverything is already paid for and the 4 of us will be staying in some hotel suite together. But, basically it sounds like Melissa & Megan will be at some conference for 8 hours a day for the first 3 days with myself and Holly spending time alone in hotel together.\n\nObviously I trust myself but I don't trust Holly and this looks like trouble waiting to happen. I talked to my older sister about it and told her that I considered just not going on the trip at all and just letting the three of them enjoy themselves.\n\nBut, she is under the impression that Melissa might be testing me, (which sounds really immature in my opinion) or Melissa just wants her friend to have someone to be with while they are out working.", "summary": "Girlfriend's best friend has a crush on me and my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind even after expressing my concerns. We're all going on a business trip/vacation to Vegas and my girlfriend has put me in a troublesome predicament sharing rooms with her best friend and co-worker and basically asking me to spend time with her best friend while she is away at her conference."}
{"id": "t3_3fhsx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27F with my bf 32M 1,5 years. Would it be reasonable to discuss engagement?", "post": "Yes, I know it's early. Let me explain.\n\nWe are both from different countries and live together in another country. He moved here 4 years ago, I moved here 2 years ago. He was asked to transfer here for work, I came here because why not.\n\nVery recently, the topic of relocating for his work came up again. He is eager - he is a self-professed workaholic - because there is not much in his industry here apart from the company he works for, limiting his career growth. This would be yet another country where neither of us is native, I have never been to the place and I don't even speak the local language. Neither does he but then again he will obviously have a job already when we arrive.\n\nWe discussed it and said a tentative yes. To be honest, I am not entirely sure what would happen to the relationship if I said no. Things progressed now to the point where we are 90% sure it will happen, within 6 months or even within 2. \n\nWould it be reasonable to discuss getting engaged? Not in a tit for tat way, like I move somewhere for you so give me a ring, but more as an assurance to me he's in this with me and not only for his career. The stakes are so much higher for me, I will quit a good job, be unemployed and a bit disadvantaged in finding new work since I do not speak the local language, though I have been told the place is cosmopolitan enough that it might not matter.\n\nIs this fair? Or totally not? How do I bring it up?", "summary": "moving to a new country for SO's work. Could I bring up engagement to feel a bit more secure with leaving everything behind to go with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3dm7j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [23 F] of 2 months, got in a fight over something stupid.", "post": "So I been seeing this girl for a while and I like her so much and don't want to leave her. But last weekend we visited one of her friends and stayed the night at her place. My girlfriend was sweating in bed it was so hot so she dropped the AC down like 10 degrees.\n\nThe next day, Monday, my GF tells me that her friend is freaking out that the AC is not working anymore and my GF tells me not to tell her friend about it. I assume she was playing a prank on her.\n\nOn Wednesday the friend tells me her AC may be broke and that she is going to call someone to have a look at it. And I told her \"have to tried changing the temp? My GF changed it when we stayed over on Saturday.\"\n\nNow the friend is furious at my GF for lying to her face about the AC. and My GF is angry at me for ratting on her. She even called me an asshole.\n\nI apologized the next day and also tried to explain to the friend that my GF was probably just playing a prank and that they should make up. Neither of them are talking to each other, and my GF has ignored me for 2 days now. She won't even look at me.\n\nHow do I fix this? How long until things cool down?\n\nThis seems like a very childish thing to get angry about so I hope it blows over.", "summary": "Girlfriend played a prank on her friend, the friend was going to spend a lot of money fixing it so I told her about the prank. Now GF is furious at me and wont talk."}
{"id": "t3_374nap", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "New York (Not NYC) - Tenant is underage drinking, smoking on non-smoking property, refuses to talk to me about a compromise. Can I terminate the lease and get them to move out?", "post": "I'm a landlord in a non-NYC NY state. I have a 1 year lease agreement with a tenant  who I recently found out is violating the clauses in the lease by underage drinking, having underage friends over to drink, smoking heavily on a property described as non-smoking, and having noise until unreasonable times in the morning (talking till 5 am with friends). They also have friends over regularly, often staying overnight or for days without my permission.\n\nI can't handle cigarette smoke at all and I moved in ~1 week ago and its really bad.\n\nThey have paid on time so far, but it's only been a month. \n\nI have tried to contact my tenant about a compromise, such as a mutual agreement to end the lease early and help them find another place to live or giving the security deposit back. The tenant has been avoiding me, refusing to answer my texts, refusing to answer the door when I knock, and in general refuses to work with me.\n\nDo I have any standing to terminate the lease and tell them to get out? If I contact a lawyer, is there a chance the lawyer can help me through this process of removing them from my property?", "summary": "Tenant with 1 year lease smoking on non-smoking property (its in their lease) and underage drinking. Can I terminate the lease and start an eviction process?"}
{"id": "t3_3cdrm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] feel like I'm not good enough for my GF [25F]", "post": "I know.  I'm too old to feel this way.  And I know, \"you need to get some self confidence\".\n\nI've been trying, but no matter what, I can't seem to shake this feeling that I'm not good enough for her.  Whenever I'm out with her, I don't know... I just feel like I'm not good enough for her.  She's incredibly beautiful, tall, smart, and for someone who looks the way she does, she's incredibly grounded and funny.  Guys are ALWAYS staring at her and/or trying to hit on her.\n\nI'm not ashamed of myself or anything.  I'm in good shape, have a good job, somewhat intelligent, have friends, all the normal stuff, but I'm not like.. superduperawesome.\n\nI just can't help but think about how she can do better.  There are some seriously good looking dudes that come up to her and I'm just like... well, shit.  Nothing happens, and I'm not worried about her cheating or anything, it's more of a personal issue where I just keep thinking she can so easily find someone smarter, better looking, etc.", "summary": "girlfriend's too awesome for me."}
{"id": "t3_3z7h37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Friend [18 F] (have known since late August), she asked me if i wanted to hang out, and we set a date (which is tonight), but we didnt set an activity and now she isn't responding to texts", "post": "So this girl and I have gotten to know each other a bit through the CC team at my school this year. I didn't think it would go anywhere towards dating, but before winter break started she asked if I wanted to 'hang out soon'. I said yes, but that I would be out of town till the 28.\n\nOn the 29, after coming home the night before I texted her asking when she wanted to get together. We decided on Saturday night, which is tonight. But we had figured as to whether we were going to go to the local ski place, or to a movie, or whatever.\n\nThis morning (almost noon) I woke up late and sent her a text that read:\"So did you want to go to a theater tonight or go to someone's house for a movie?:)\"\n\nI've gotten nothing. Nada. No response. The text is marked 'delivered', but not 'read'. She, for sure has her phone set to \"notify when read\", so she hasn't opened imessage to read it, but she still might have(probably) seen it. \n\nShe does have a job, and I want to respect that, but an hour after me texting it to her she posted on Snapchat. Yes,  I have been stalking her social media. This is my first experience with trying to date and I'm stressed as fuck right now and have been for the past three days.\n\nShould I follow up with another text, what should I do.", "summary": "Trying to go on a first date, but the girl wont respond to my texts and its almost 6:30 and we decided on tonight!"}
{"id": "t3_1f9cym", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Do you think I am pretentious?", "post": "I am always concerned with educating myself and expanding my intellectual horizons. I read a lot of philsophy and classic literature. I get a sense of satisfaction out of reading them. I frequently watch documentaries, TED talks, read psychology informative and thought-provoking articles and read the news. I read poetry and, I must say, I find watching a tv show or playing the xbox more enjoyable. I just feel that I should be spending my free time doing something \"more meaningful\". I still joke around with my friends. I never talk about anything \"high-brow\" unless they ask me or they have a genuine interest for it. So I don't show off, but I feel guilty if I find myself watching tv or playing the xbox. I want to be more intelligent and aware of the world. Does this make me smug (I don't know if that is the right word, but I think you know what I am getting at)", "summary": "I immerse myself in art to become more cultured, not necessarily enjoying it. Am I pretentious for doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_3qpzpr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21 M] said hurtful things to me [20 F] and was different about it. I feels like I lost a friend.", "post": "UPDATE: Thanks for the people who responded to this. I was going through a tough time especially with midterms. To update, I did end up talking to him about the incident and how I was really upset about his attitude. He did end up apologizing for it. Even though he apologized, he apologized because I confronted him about it rather than he realizing it himself (and at the beginning, he didn't know what he was apologizing about). It made me more like a social obligation than a true friend especially because he rarely talks to me or initiates meetups on his own. So I think I'm going to try and cut him out of my life for the better and hopefully I will be fine. Thanks again for those who responded to this. I really appreciate it. :) \n\nI have known my friend for 2 and a half years. He is a great guy though a bit shy at times. He says that he views me as one of his best friends and cares for me. Recently he has been frustrated at his own problems in life so I called at times to make sure he was ok and whether or not he wanted to talk about it. \n\nI was really glad when he wanted to have lunch with me. However, he seemed frustrated when I would comment on some things (like how he was wearing a new shirt) and said that I was annoying. Being the emotional person that I am, i started tearing up and he chuckled when he saw that. I was crying at that point because he said he was indifferent to how I was feeling. So I left because I felt that I had nothing more to say. I'm saddened by the fact that I felt like I lost a friend. \n\nMy friends told me that I shouldn't have to put up with that and that I shouldn't talk to him. I haven't talk to him for 3 days and he didn't message me either for the last 3 days. I have been contemplating whether or not I actually lost a friend or his attitude was justified by how stressed he was with his own problems in his life that week. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Friend, who is frustrated with his own problems, said things that hurt me and was indifferent when I was feeling hurt by what he said. Did I lose a friend or was he just stressed?"}
{"id": "t3_4v4afx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One of my [20F] good friends [25F] won't speak to me anymore because I told her the truth about her bf", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nFirst of all: Have I done the right thing?\n\nBasically, a good friend of mine started dating this guy this time last year, he's about two years older than her so 27 or so. Well he seemed nice enough, but there was something about him me and others didn't like. It became clear he started cheating on her a month into their relationship all the way until January with an 18 year old girl, and it only ended because this girl told her about it, he was going to keep this going for as long as he could. She completely accepted it and forgave him, but him and this other girl still kept in contact and I dunno what happened after that.\n\nFrom that point on I seriously disliked him. I got his game - I could tell he was a deceitful liar, problem is she believes everything he says. Is this a case of serious delusion?\n\nSo all is well and good until I was on tinder and found him on there as well, last week. So I sent the the screenshot of his profile to her and asked her if she knew about this. Her response was not one I expected; I got a ton of shit from her telling me how I don't know her and is just jealous of me. It was then revealed he had been using tinder for a good while and admitted to hooking up with girls on it behind her back. I think he had been using it for a long time because he was being added and friended by these fake accounts that are obviously dating bots or whatever. Well he's deleted and blocked me as well so I can't check. lol\nI'm not sure of the situation between her and him now but I think they're still together.\n\nBut now I've lost a good friend, she has deleted and blocked me and probably hates me... because I saw how she was being treated. I almost hate him because he has ruined my friendship. I thought I did the right thing, I guess I didn't. I don't understand.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Good friend is totally taken in by a guy who has cheated on her many times, she thinks I'm the problem and has blocked and deleted me."}
{"id": "t3_53795n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my sister [16 F] keeps having crying fits about her hair and is seriously stressing my parents out.", "post": "So about a month or two ago my sister decided to dye her hair another color when it was already dyed once. She then didn't like the color of her new dyed hair a proceeded to dye it again and again at the hairdressers, as well as cutting it short. This has resulted in her hair becoming very dry as well as some of it falling out. \n\nShe now currently hates her hair and deeply regrets that she changed it at all. I also think she partially blames my mother for this as she used to be a hairdresser and didn't stop her from doing this. As a result of this she seems to hate herself and the way she looks and says it will be years before her hair looks ok again. \n\nPretty much every day without fail she has some sort of crying fit as well as being very angry and arguing and shouting with my parents. My parents have done as much as they can including having a expensive hair dresser come to our house to try fix it, paying or some confidence boosting person to try help by talking with her and buying a boxing bag for her to vent her frustrations. \n\nI just normally avoid her when she is having one of her crying fits, but my parents are the ones who have to deal with it and they're really not sure what to do. Its not showing any signs of slowing down in fact i'm listening to her scream and cry as I write this. She just started school again and hates the way she looks and hates that everyone else has good hair where as she can't even wear it down. This makes her think about her hair constantly. \n\nI personally don't think her hair looks that bad and definitely isn't like noticeably oh look at her hair bad. But this doesn't matter as how she sees herself is different and she now hates looking in the mirror. My parents are at their wits end and are really stressed and worried about her. My mum especially as I think she partially blames herself. Any advice about what to do would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Sister ruined her hair, now has crying fits and parents don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_2inhj9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] My girlfriend [18/F] isn't allowed to kiss, and got in trouble for it. I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?", "post": "She and I have been going out for about half a year now, and began kissing fairly early on. She always felt quite conscious doing it after I drop her off at home, but I thought that it was just awkward for her to be seen kissing in general. Fair enough, I felt the same.\n\nBut about a month ago, her parents came back early and possibly saw us. She seemed really scared, and blurted that her parents actually didn't allow her to be kissing. But nothing came of it - I asked her and she said nobody said anything, and she continued to act as per normal.\n\nSo things went well since then, but recently, she told me that she was told off by her parents for kissing. We both had no idea where this came from, as we were being extra cautious since the previous near-incident. It got a little bit more awkward between us, and hearing about this, I feel like I've done wrong by her parents, which is compounded by the fact that I haven't actually met them yet.\n\nSo I guess my question is, should we continue doing this behind her parents' back (for lack of a better expression), or should I stop out of respect for their wishes? Could someone maybe shed some light on why her parents might restrict her like this?\n\nBonus question: When would you say is an appropriate time to meet parents?\n\nAppreciate any advice, thanks in advance!", "summary": "GF got in trouble with her parents for kissing, should I continue or stop out of respect for her parents?"}
{"id": "t3_4gbfso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] need advice with my crush [19F] 1 month, need advice about how to start texting her and hanging out", "post": "We knew each other when growing up, but we never talked until senior year of high school, which wasn't that much either. As we texted more, we were becoming better friends. One of my friends, who was good friends with her, said that she thought I was cute. I remember she even hugged me once when she saw me at some occasion in high school; she's also not the type to hug guys, even if they're good friends with her. So, she definitely was kinda interested in me. \n\nThe summer after we graduated high school, she asked me to hangout (not being too specific. she also didn't say it just as a formality and really wanted to hangout with me), but I messed up because I thought she said she was gonna make the plans and I spent all summer waiting for her to make the plans. We slowly stopped texting. I read our text messages at the end of the summer and realized I was supposed to tell her when I was available to hangout. \n\nWe hung out a couple of times in college (this is our first year) and she was getting a little more flirty with me over texts. Unfortunately, I decided that I didn't want to talk to her because I thought she was interested in another guy. Looking back at it, I don't think she was interested in anyone. I still think she's cute and want to get back texting/talking/hanging out with her. I need advice on how to start texting her, how to start hanging out with her, and what I should do to make a move.", "summary": "Had a crush who thought I was cute also. Stopped talking to her, but want to start talking her again. Need advice on how to start texting/hanging out/making a move."}
{"id": "t3_wor4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there something to worry about?  Or am I just overreacting?", "post": "Hi, so I've been dating my current girlfriend for close to two months now.  I'm 23 and she is 24.  I've always known she has lots of guy friends, however, there is one guy in particular who is starting to really annoy me.  He is constantly texting her and constantly asking her to hangout with him.  Two weeks ago he tried to pull a move on my girlfriend, which she rejected and later told me about.  Since then I've met this guy and he seems to be intimidated by me (will never look me in the eye, won't come near my gf when I'm around, stopped posting publicly on her facebook wall (which he constantly used to do)).  However, his actions behind my back have not changed.  He still texts her almost every hour and tried to take advantage of my gf last weekend (invited her over to his place and gave her super strong alcohol).\n\nFor the record (and I'm not trying to gloat or be mean), I'm very muscular and good looking.  This guy is short, fat, and balding.  I've talked briefly with my gf about him and she said she made it clear to him that she is not attracted to him and doesn't want to do anything sexual with him.  However, he is not taking \"no\" for an answer and is constantly trying to have his way with her behind my back.\n\nI've controlled myself every time I've seen him but I'm starting to lose patience.  Should I confront him?  Should I tell my girlfriend I don't want her to go to his place anymore?  Or should I sit back and trust she will continue to reject his advances?\n\nThanks everyone", "summary": "One of my gf's friends keeps making moves on her behind my back and I'm starting to lose patience.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1herjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26/F] gf broke it off with me [32/M] after two years together. Dating guidelines?", "post": "So my girlfriend of two years broke it off with me last weekend.\n\nWe hadn't been fighting, but over the last couple of months she'd been getting more and more distant. She's been dealing with depression, and it's gotten worse over the last year. Her family aren't doing her any favours, either. She told me that she just doesn't love me anymore. Between the various things pulling at her personal life compounding with her depression have pretty much left her in a spot where she has too much going on to really love me, or focus any attention on our relationship.\n\nThis really sucks, but I get it. She didn't say anything that wasn't true, and she's gotta get herself better. If that means that it's not with me, then I guess all I can do is move on.\n\nSo with all that being said, I've never dealt with breakups well. They have always, without fail resulted in at least a few months of moping around being miserable, and drinking too much too often. I'm not doing that to myself anymore. I've thrown away so many months of my life being miserable when I could have just moved on and used that time to be happy or at least productive. \n\nA couple of days ago, I set up my online dating profile again and started looking for cool people to talk to. I have no intention of jumping into a relationship for quite awhile, but I'm at least going to see what's out there so to speak. Today I got a message from somebody, we started talking, and agreed to a date. She knows that my relationship situation, so this isn't some big romantic thing. But it's a date.\n\nThis is just a few days after my involuntary breakup with a girl who I've spent two amazing years with, and still completely love and want to be with. The relationship is over, and I know I have to move on. It just feels weird to be moving on so fast. Does this make me an asshole?", "summary": "GF of two years broke up with me last weekend. One week later, I was asked out by somebody and I accepted. Knowing that I have to move on at some point, am I obligated to mope around for a certain timeframe before I'm OK to start seeing other people?"}
{"id": "t3_3e57ua", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU leaving my skype on with anime... and laughing like a dolphin.", "post": "It started out as my average day, woke up at 4 in the evening, got a cup of coffee, and logged on to Steam for some gaming. It's a good round of tf2 for about an hour and a half, I have a couple tabs open, including an anime I had open on hulu. All the while, I've been skyping my friends. We break for a bit, and I make myself a steak burrito. As I'm slicing the steak I hear something faint in the background. I walk back into my room about 15 minutes later, and having forgot to mute my mic on skype, subjected my friends to my anime and made their ears bleed. Now, I have an alright in public, but when I'm by myself laughing at something, my laugh is that of a squeaky dolphin. \n\nWhich is what they heard.\n\nAnd since one of my friend's has specialized audio equipment, recorded perfectly at that exact moment.\n\nLooking forward to a lot of blackmail and shame.", "summary": "Left my skype open, and killed my friend's ears by anime. Laughed like a dolphin at them, and they recorded it. They're blackmailing me as I type."}
{"id": "t3_3e4h3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 F] with my sister [34 F] divorce is looming and her self esteem is non-existent. How can an enmeshed but loving family support her effectively?", "post": "Hey forum I never thought I'd have to write to! I have to keep this somewhat vague as one of the parties involved is a redditor. In a nutshell my sister and her husband are separating. He's actively cheating and is being unbelievably cruel and insensitive to my sister and their child on a level NONE of us knew he was capable of. \n\nThough we'd suspected things were bad for awhile now we've really only just learned the extent over the last few days so this is all still very raw. They're still living in the same house etc. \n\nTo add some fuel to the fire we have an \"enmeshed family.\" In other words this is not my sister's divorce this is everyone in the families divorce.\n\nI've come her for some advice on the most effective way to offer her support in these first few days. None of us have ever had to actually deal with this and while I understand in theory what someone going through something like needs/wants its a totally different story actually offering the help myself.\n\nI'm also looking for effective but gentle ways to manage my families attempts at getting in the middle of everything. I can't stress enough that my parents are loving, kind people who just don't know how to let their children be adults. They want to help but often that help manifests as doing everything and taking control to the point that we end up feeling like we aren't capable of doing the simplest things for ourselves.\n\nMy sister's self esteem has been so low for so long and I'm only just seeing it now. I want to help her recover, find her feet again and re-realize that she is a wonderful, beautiful person who deserves someone who loves and appreciates her.\n\nSo /r/relationships how did you survive your divorce? What's the best thing your family/support network did for you? What should we avoid at all costs?", "summary": "Sister separating/divorcing cheating husband. How do we (her loving but enmeshed family) help her?"}
{"id": "t3_3e9zw5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Can't tell if she likes me?!?", "post": "It's a long story, hold on\nMonths ago, I was getting close with a new school friend of mine (f). We talked and texted alot, and wow generally a kinda of bland person to talk to in public, she got very personal when talking to me in private. She would hug me alot, generally start the conversation with me. One day she even walked with me to the engineering department, holding my hand the entire time. My friends had never supported me in girls I liked until now. So finally I asked her out. Not interested in me at all, damaged our friendship severely. \nAnyways her best friend(let's call her L)texted me saying how adorable it qas, and she was upset I didn't talk to her about it. She's and honest 10/10, I'm a 6/10, fat, but a nice face, and a 20/10 personality, leader, confident, top of our class, valedictorian in High School. Every single one of my friends was interested in her, except me. Anyways me and L became very close friends the months after. I even set her up with a friend of mine she liked, but they just didn't fit. Anyways lately she's been hugging all over me, and is very sexual and open in our conversations. One day while I was sitting, she came up and leaned down and hugged me for like five minutes straight, breasts all in my face. Lately she has been just putting them all over me. My best friend keeps telling me he ships it and that she likes me, but I can't see it. I'm to scared too ruin another friendship by asking her out, and I just can't accept \"the signs\" after the bullshit I've dealt with all my life in false signs. Does she like me? I'm not attractive, and most people would kill to be with her, and the type of guys she's generally likes are generally very fit, nice jawline, vapes of smokes, sports cars (i drive a 2002 altima).", "summary": "I have dealt with false signs all my life. Now an amazing woman is giving some off, but I'm scared of ruining a friendship. Does she like me? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1y5a53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my partner [19 F] of 8 months, current relationship is great but I cant get over my previous relationship, I constantly check her status updates.", "post": "I am currently with my partner of 8 months, I have great fun with her and she is lovely and in my opinion; better in most every way from my last partner.\n\nThat being said, I cant help but be constantly checking on my previous partner's (F/19) updates and profile on fetlife. I cant fathom her being with anyone else and feel ill when I see she is moving on or showing off her new marks. I believe the reason I do this is because she was conservative about her sexuality in our relationship except when she was unbelievably horny, in which case she became excessively slutty. This transition was incredibly hot to me. With my current partner; sex is always on the table, she has a bigger sex drive than I do, is constantly slutty and constantly flirting with me even 8 months in.\n\nBut I seem to be yearning to make contact with my ex. Our relationship ended when she invited me over to her sharehouse, May 2013 to tell me one night, but never explained why and I'm still not sure... I have not received closure and being the curious sort; this is annoying to me.\n\nI also get turned on by the thought of her being with others somewhat, it used to be more active in my imagination but not so much now. I don't consider this to be a cuckolding fetish but more hotwifing, I could be wrong though.\n\nI guess it's not really affecting me to a large degree in life, but I am constantly desiring to find closure or restore my previous relationship alongside my current one (shouldn't be too much of a problem as both my current partner and ex was bi.) \n\nI have not discussed this with my current partner because I do not want to make her feel devalued if I'm thinking back to my ex or have not fully gotten over her despite it being about 8-9 months", "summary": "I'm in a great relationship now and enjoy life with my current partner, she is IMO much better in most every way over my ex."}
{"id": "t3_47riwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my friend [17 F] friends for 2 years, claims she will be 'forever alone' but wants the perfect guy.", "post": "My friend has won several trophies and awards for her stellar performance in golf. She was raised in an extremely wealthy family and goes to a private school.\n\nFrom what it seems, she basically tries to be the best at everything she does in life: which is very admirable. However, she always complains about not having a boyfriend.\n\nI believe she does this because this is the one thing she has trouble obtaining.\n\nShe sent me a message that said: \"I don't get it, I am prettier than all the other girls in school so how come I can't get a boyfriend?\" This caught me off guard because I thought it was really rude, but I think she is just confused.\n\nShe met this guy after her bowling session and he wanted to get to know her better but she stated that he was too \"creepy\" and had a lisp and was awkward, so therefore, she didn't want him.  \n\nI understand people have preferences, but she barely even gave him a chance. Setting standards too high will make it nearly impossible to find a partner.\n\nI want to tell her that she will find a guy eventually but it may take a long time to find her 'dream' guy. I mean she is only 17! There are much more important things to focus on.\n\nShe is very sensitive to the criticism, but I want to help her and don't know what to say without being rude.  \n\nI care for her a lot and want her to be happy, but be able to accept reality too.\n\nSidenote, she always talks about herself. I never get the chance to talk about my problems and if I do, she brushes them off to the side. It gets very irritating.", "summary": "Basically, my friend refuses to realize that not everybody will fancy her. What is a polite way I could tell her this without threatening our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_s4a7g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the absolute worst thing you've smelled that came from you? I'll start", "post": "So I went with a group on a 15 day camping trip to Colorado to camp on a relative of a friends property (very remote mountainous area) and did not shower the whole time we were gone, including the two days it took to get there and back (so basically we all had 17 days worth of stink on us). When we got back I had an itch behind my ear and, of course, scratched it. But for some reason still unknown I felt compelled to smell my finger and it was just absolutely awful. It didn't even have to get close to my nose before I started gagging and eventually threw up. I mean, I've smelled hobos and other nasty people before but somehow the fact that it came from me just made it that much worse. Needless to say, I scrubbed until my skin was red and peeling.\n\nStill a fun camping trip, though.", "summary": "Didn't shower for two weeks, B.O. behind my ear made me throw up."}
{"id": "t3_304mvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) just had a quickie with my ex (18M)", "post": "We broke up 3 weeks ago and met up twice to get our closure talks done. As I tried hard to get over him I tried my best to be platonically friendly and see him as a friend and unrequited love than someone I could possibly win back. He struggled too as he had bad memories from our relationship due to third parties hurting him emotionally (like my mum's distaste of him).\n\nSo we had arranged to meet up today for me to visit our pet bunny at his house. I missed my little girl a lot. Plans failed due to his school stuff and we met for dinner instead, likely in an attempt to placate me. He had been trying to avoid meeting me as much as possible. Following dinner we headed to a playground and talked through some stuff, turns out he did like some other girl (I honestly knew that was coming and expected/suspected it since the last couple of months together). I had an inkling of who it could be but he never told me. Despite that suddenly the air became rather tender (or charged) around us, and we deep kissed thrice. He pulled away and said he got to go.\n\nNow I followed him and sent him off in order to prolong our time together. Suddenly he grabbed me into the lift of his apartment and we headed to a secluded spot on the top floor. And there we handfucked each other which resulted in him cumming. However as he was done, he stopped me from licking my finger. His attraction to me went from 10 to 0 in a moment. And then he confessed to feeling guilty towards his crush for betraying her trust, although by no accounts they are together. And then we parted ways.\n\nReddit please give me advice on how to handle him. He seems bent on avoiding me now until he can get over his guilt. I've let go of my desire to have a relationship with him until if, one day, he loves me again and will love maturely. All I want right now is to continue to be best friends, or friends with benefits.", "summary": "had sex with ex and now he's guilty and avoiding me. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2oto67", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not going to my final exam.", "post": "As everyone knows its finals time for many University students so there's that. I'm relaxing at home all day in preparation for tomorrow planning to do a massive study session later on in the day. Now something comes over me and I decide to check the notices for my exam this week. Pretty sure my exam will be on Wednesday I don't even consider myself being wrong. I click. I click again. Then my heart drops. It says clearly in bold and underlining Exam will be tuesday 3-5. So I send my professor and email explaining the situation and how it's completely my fault. He still hasn't responded yet...\n\nThen to put the fuck on the fuck up the final exam is worth double points     so it will make or break a lot of peopl. Myself included. But hey at least I can finally submit a f**k up :D", "summary": "Check and recheck your exam schedules so you don't fail classes you paid for."}
{"id": "t3_4wje4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Choosing between two guys? (first post)", "post": "So, I [21F] met my ex [21M] in the begining of high school and we both went through some pretty traumatic changes in our lives separately. And we were there for each other the whole time. This, of course brought us closer. To the point where we fell in love with each other. Fast forward and he joins the army and I leave him because my life was unstable and having him that far away was painful and I needed to focus on myself. We started contact again after a short break from each other to let us get over things. While doing so, I met my current boyfriend [21M]. We get together and he helps me get my stuff together. 2 years later with my current, I am confronted by my ex on why we broke up, and I didn't have a good reason. Because honestly, I never stopped loving him and im terrified that I'm in a relationship where I'm always thinking of my ex while with my current. And I feel so bad cause my current doesn't deserve a girl that's not going to be able to give him her whole heart. But, I spent the weekend with my ex and it felt so natural to be with him again, I was incredibly happy. Happier than I've been in a long time. And now I'm stuck cause I don't know what to do. I know everyone would want me to choose my current but I gave so much of my heart to my ex. Help please.", "summary": "I'm still in love with my ex but I've been in a relationship with someone else for 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_1irwy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My very socially awkward boyfriend [21] makes me [20] embarrassed in social settings", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We do great together when we're alone, but problems arise when other people enter the mix. He's very socially inept, and the process of trying to interact with him and friends or family at the same time is really grating on me. I cringe at the way he acts and get embarrassed because I feel like it reflects on me, and then I often wind up getting frustrated with him for not being able to act \"normally,\" even though I know it's not that easy. \n\nSome of the big problems he has involve talking. He stumbles over his words a lot, uses really convoluted phrases that he loses track of, makes awkward hand gestures and body movements, and takes pauses in his stories like he's an old man trying to remember how it goes. He also doesn't seem to pick up on when something he's saying is inappropriate or when people have lost interest. Other times, he'll just be quiet and retreat into his own personal space. He also gets startled easily by things like sudden movements and loud noises, and responds by shouting or jumping. \n\nAll of these things just make me extremely uncomfortable, and I'm embarrassed to bring him around other people because I'm worried what they'll think of him. Friends have told me they don't dislike him, but he's just very awkward and not much fun. He's currently going to a therapist and taking medication for anxiety, but it doesn't seem to be changing much. Is there any hope that he can become more socially competent? Is it worth staying with a person who may never be able to interact socially like I want to?", "summary": "boyfriend is very socially awkward, and the embarrassment it causes is making me doubt the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3ulgz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46/m] with my gf [40/F] 3.5 years, cheated on me,here got messy, need some strength here", "post": "So, I thought I had the perfect relationship.  Fifteen year friend becomes 3.5 year partner.   We live together, share everything, and have never even had a disagreement beyond what time brunch should end.\n\nI've spent 18 months trying to launch a business, and it's not getting traction.  She makes a ton of money, and was never hesitant to share it.\n\nWhile I was in London a few weeks ago, she fucked someone else.  She's also decided that she likes hm, and wants to give him a chance. \n\n So I get to move out, but she still wants to date me, too.  I want nothing more than her, I'd never been happier.\n\nI know that's wrong.  Who has good tips on how to make the right decision and stick to it?  Also, anyone just feel like chatting?  The emptiness and lonlieness is deafening around here.", "summary": "great relationship. Gf cheats, kicks me out, but still wants to date.  Help me say no?"}
{"id": "t3_tonm3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I suffer from IBS and today during a flare up I had a thought, where is the coolest place you have had to \"take the Browns to the Super Bowl\".. I have a few..", "post": "My favorite had to be the capitol building in Austin, TX.. I had just got finished looking at portraits of all the Texas governors, when I had the urge to go.. The bathrooms were pristine.\n\nMy second notable place was the New Orleans Superdome during halftime where they played the Giants.. Not my best moment for  a IBS to flare up because there was at least 100 guys waiting in line trying to go to the bathroom as well.. In fact it was miserable but memorable.. \n\nThird had to be during Nine Inch Nails in 2005 at Voo Doo festival in New Orleans.. It's was a special show for Katrina survivors and volunteers.. Me and the girl I was dating at the time went she was a massive NIN fan and we waited on the barrier all day for the show and front row seats..\n\n3 songs in I had to go bad.. So I kissed her and said I will be back.. We weren't really on \"hey I have to take a shit terms\" yet. So I said I had to piss and she told me to just piss on the barrier. I said nope and made my way through 20000 NIN fans.. I got groped and dick grabbed on the way.. I made it to the urinal and had the biggest bowel movement of my life.. \n\nWhen done I made it through the 20000 fans again and she was amazed  I found my way back into her sweaty Trent Reznor loving arms", "summary": "Austin Super Dome NIN"}
{"id": "t3_1o9zvh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19/F] boyfriend [20/M] of 2 years is being a jerk to me. On the fence about breaking up. Really confused. Please help..", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We're LDR. For the majority of our relationship it was absolutely great. Lately it's been far from that. About a week or two.\n\nRight now I'm full-time in junior college and I will be transferring out to a uni soon. I have a lot on my plate right now with school, family issues, a part-time job, and I'm having difficulty juggling it all. To top it all off my boyfriend has been being a jerk to me which is making everything so much better. I should add that my boyfriend is doing nothing right now. He is not in school, no job, nothing.\n\nI always do what I can to make him feel great when he's feeling down, but even when I do he's been a complete ass to me. Our last phone call I told him that I love him and his reply was \"see ya,\" then he hung up. I ask him what's he doing, his reply \"Nothing.\" I'm doing what I can to be there for him. I ask him how his day was, how he is feeling, what's he doing and every reply I've been getting from him feels like zero effort (e.g. nothing, k, lol, etc) was put into it. I feel like he is being forced to talk to me because I'm his girlfriend. \n\nThe other day I told him that I was stressed out with everything I have going on and he had nothing to say. I didn't expect him to be completely sympathetic to me, but I really could have appreciated some words of encouragement or something. I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore and is being disrespectful to me...\n\n I don't know what to do. I'm confused and I'm hurt. Part of me wants to end this relationship, but the other part doesn't. I have invested a lot into this relationship and sometimes people get through certain obstacles and become a stronger couple. I'm starting to feel like this problem isn't something we can't get through. I don't know what to do\u2026 Am I not doing enough?", "summary": "Every time I try to cheer my boyfriend up or talk to him his responses seem like zero effort are being put into them. Should I break up with him?"}
{"id": "t3_17qime", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] My girlfriend [22/f] is pregnant with someone else child. I don't know what to do", "post": "So my girlfriend and I haven't been together very long but almost a month after we start dating she tells me she is pregnant. She tells me that a few weeks before we got together she went to a party, got drunk and made some poor choices and now she is pregnant. She doesn't want to abort or adopt and raising the child is the only option she is entertaining.  She also refuses to tell the father about the situation and won't be filing for child support for that reason. I love my girlfriend a lot, and I really want to be with her forever. The issue is I know I am not ready to be a father. Raising one would financially brake me, she also wants me to sign the birth certificate as the father. Everything that my common sense tells me says that this is wrong but I really don't want to lose my girl. I just need some support or advice or something.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to keep the child and have me as the father."}
{"id": "t3_1s7pe7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my [18 F] we been seeing each other for a year, not sure what to do, feeling the worst ive ever felt in my life.", "post": "im a student who has just moved school away from my girlfriend. im still in the same area as her, just not the same school.\n\nwe been in a relationship but not on are own, we both have seen other people. which we are fine with and we have Spock about it. no problem there.\n \nwe have had a strong relationship over the last year, where we have been getting closer. \nthe last break we had from school was a week and we spent most of are time tougher over that week. things where good.\n\nbut recently she has been general off with me. she has not been replying to my text or being blunt. sine this has been happening she has been round only once, when normally she would come round 4-6 time in the same period.\n\nthe one time she did come round she seemed happy, but still being a little bunt and not very interactive. didn't really want to be there for long or get close to me in any way at all, which is not the normal at all. she also said while at mine i was her favourite person and that she loved me.", "summary": "simply its not the same at all. i am felling sad about it more than i feel good. not sure what to do with mixed messages?"}
{"id": "t3_1igmu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28/F] GF is \"overwhelmed\". I'm a [24/M]. Please help me figure this out.", "post": "Ok, here goes. Went on a backpacking trip with my GF and her family, been looking forward to it, took time off work to do it. I just got back from a 3 week work trip and a couple days later we go on this backpacking trip. Things go pretty shitty, it rains on us/hailstorms, her friend's dog shits in our tent, just overall no buenos. We get back, silent car ride home, her family stays and I go to my aunt/uncles so they have more room. \n\nShe tells me that night that we need to talk. I go over today and she tells me that she's unhappy, feels overwhelmed, she says she doesn't know how to tell me whats on her mind and that she might not have been ready for a relationship. \n\nThis is almost a year into the relationship, she's never brought any issues up to me (which was a big red flag I guess), and now all the sudden out of the blue things aren't working out, but she can't explain it to me clearly. What should I do? She seems like she has given up but still is open to talking.", "summary": "GF of almost a year tells me after a backpacking trip with her family that she feels overwhelmed, she's \"broken\", and can't think of how to tell me what's wrong."}
{"id": "t3_epwxc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boobs are getting worse and I'm afraid my husband will think I'm not attractive.", "post": "I have big breasts and while I'm still in my early 20s, these things are starting to head south. I know that it's usually the nature of large breasts but I feel like mine are starting to look exceptionally bad for my age. There are stretch marks all over them and they seem to get more numerous and deeper with each passing day. I know that a lot of people will say, \"Well, if your husband really loves you he won't care,\" but it's really taking a toll on my self confidence and as a lot of men know, the less sexier your women feels the less she wants to be intimate. I tried bench presses + incline bench, low reps with high weight but it has a minimal effect on the skin and really only makes them look a little fuller (which is fine if I was an A cup, also makes opening pickle jars easier). I don't really have money for plastic surgery right now and I intend to breast feed so it won't be an option until after I have sufficient funds and after my uterus has fulfilled it's duties. I heard about a derma roller but its quite a bit of money to put toward something that might not work, still more affordable than a breast augmentation though. I'm not sure what else I can do to look good naked. My husband is a big boob fan and I know that he loves me and my sagging knockers but I don't want to be the wife that gives up on trying to look good. I know I should be grateful for these things that will someday nourish my children but I need them to look good so that I can actually get to that point.", "summary": "My boobs are getting saggy, what can I do to fix them that is cheaper than plastic surgery and isn't something I already tried (weight training, lotions)."}
{"id": "t3_badoj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is it every single time cops raid a house for a little weed, they shoot all the dogs?", "post": "After seeing [this thread] it really bothered me.  It seems this same story keeps happening over and over:  The cops get a no-knock warrant, bust into a family's home, then they start killing everything with more than two legs.  I know there are a few police that lurk reddit, and I'm juts wondering on the mentality.  I mean, do you sit in the pre-raid meeting and go over the \"Proper Dog-killing Procedures?\"  Is it policy to always shoot all the dogs?  Don't tell me the dogs must pose some sort of threat, because in the most recent incident, the cops killed a fucking 3 pound *corgi*.  The last one I read about showed that both dogs had been shot in the back and rear as they attempted to flee.", "summary": "Average citizen just wondering if it's policy to always kill people's dog's or if you cops just do it to get off?   "}
{"id": "t3_2gkbbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my [19 F] of 3 years broke up a few months ago, but it's just now feeling like an actual breakup and hitting me harder than a train", "post": "So my girlfriend of 3 years from highschool into a full year of college broke up with me back in may 2014, and I was pretty distraught about it then, but she made it seem like we had high chances of getting back together, so throughout the summer we still hung out once in a while and occasionally were intimate.  We both still loved eachother.  I just didn't realize the decisions she wanted to make.\n\nCommunication was always an issue.  About 3 weeks back she remembered why we broke up.  Because she wasn't happy and getting what she wanted to out of the relationship.  We had issues with arguing and miscommunicating and not seeing eye to eye.  \nTypical reasons for breaking up.  \n\nHowever, I seriously love this girl.  I can't handle not being with her.  I would rather go through any pain of being put down in an emotional rollercoaster than live without her...\n\nNow it's only getting worse.\nshe called me last night and told me she's dating a guy from her college.\nI couldn't say a word. She kept telling me all summer \"I need to be single for a while longer\", then goes and dates a guy?\nI am the jealous type, and deeply in love. My thoughts are like poison, and I can't go a night without crying about this...\n\nIf anyone had ANY sort of response that would be lovely.  I just need to talk about this for the first time in my life.", "summary": "GF of 3 yrs breaks up with me, 5 months later is dating another guy, I can't handle it."}
{"id": "t3_2wcchq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(21f) and my ex(22m) are still friends but he's randomly jealous", "post": "Let me start off by saying we dated over 2 years we broke up (his choice)  and we're having sex until about a week ago. He's been talking to this other girl for a few weeks and is about to date her so he went out and bought condoms with me there which kinda hurt my feelings but I let it go. \n\nA few days ago he got super upset bc I didn't tell him I went on a date... It didn't go too great do I never said anything. Then recently he got mad bc I said I missed having sex. \n\nI don't get how it's ok for him to buy condoms and leave things from his sex life everywhere but when I say one thing he's jealous/mad. \n\nAlso I feel like if he really liked her he shouldn't care about what I'm doing am I right? I just don't get what he means by all this?", "summary": "my ex is seeing someone else but gets upset when I go on dates or talk about sex with other people. I don't get how he can like someone else and be mad at me for trying to move on."}
{"id": "t3_2c6qji", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making an old couple fly...", "post": "This wasn't today but everytime I come across this sub on the front page I remember (and shudder) at a particular fuck up of mine.\n\nWell it was your average day at work. Boss gave us a job to do so we gather the equipment and materials and load it up on the bed of the pick up truck.\n\nFast forward 10 minutes and we're in a bit of traffic on a duel carriageway. Suddenly a car stops beside me and pulls my attention towards the truck bed. I had left the bed door open. As I was the passenger, and traffic was at a standstill, I waited for the car to move in-order to get out and close it. Car moves, I open my door, the handlebar of a passing motorcycle catches the frame of the door and a 60+ year old couple go flying 20-30 feet...\n\nThe bike, man and women were all laying on the road. It was all so fast that I don't recall how it happened exactly. I must have been shitting my pants as I saw them on the floor but luckily for everyone (and I still exhale when thinking of it), they picked themselves up with just scrapes and bruises. The old lady took a while to get up and was in shock. Where I live everyone stops to help and as you can now imagine, there was a lot of people out of their cars and on the side of the road as I stood in guilt and shock. I didn't know how to react and all I could tell them once they were ok was that I was very sorry and that I'll pay for any damages. They didn't even want an ambulance.\n\nThey took my details and those of a witness but that was the last I heard of the story. Needless to say that I have a (self induced) rational fear of car doors when riding my bicycle or motorcycle. Be it stationary vehicles or slow moving traffic.", "summary": "made an old couple get off ^^^their ^^^bike"}
{"id": "t3_1yyech", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F.18) am infatuated, maybe even something more, with my friend (M.18) he shares my feelings--but my parents won't allow it.", "post": "I've never really liked getting to know people, and this sort of happened by accident. One of the two girl friends that I have decided to make me open up with other people. (M.18) is a mutual friend of one of my girlfriends, because he's her boyfriends best friend, and thought we would both be perfect together because we're both virgins. We would text and hang out often because we actually had tons in common, and I think I really adore this guy. I've had past relationships, and I ended them from fear of letting them in and me being stuck in a committed relationship and I never felt like I longed for their attention... but, I hate it when I know I won't get to see (M.18) for a certain amount of time. He shares feelings for me as well and we are extremely flirty and content the times we are together. The problem is that he's of a different race than I am, and my parents will not allow that at all. I don't really understand this because my grandfather married his second woman outside his race, and figured my mom and dad would be more understanding of it and that race does not decide how a person is. (M.18) treats me very kindly and I feel so happy with him. I've tried talking to my parents but they won't listen to me. If I want to see (M.18) it is usually without my parent's knowledge or a group hangout. Should I just do as my parents say? Or listen to my gut?\n\n(Idk if this matters, but we're both finishing up our last semester of high school. So I can't neglect my parents wishes fully because I abide by the rules of their house).", "summary": "Girl likes Boy, Boy likes Girl. We're like two peas in a pod, but parents won't allow it because of race difference. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2x5lvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Gf [28 F] 2 years, I suck at giving words of affirmation", "post": "I need help with words of affirmation. We have been together for 2 years. I have all the intentions of marrying her but am taking the time to get everything just right. Typical guy thing I know. She wants to get married immediately. Recently we have been having problems with her feeling as though its never going to happen. Basically she says I need to tell her what I am planning for the future. Also we generally have an argument about me giving her any confirmation of my love for her. I just suck at giving compliments and words of affirmation. How do I become better at this? How do I reassure her of my commitment without telling her the exact day and time I am planning on asking her. She says if I wanted to marry her then I would have done it already.", "summary": "gf is insecure and wants to get married immediately. I want to make everything good. Need words of affirmation to reassure her of my love."}
{"id": "t3_39ro82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [22F] of 10 months refuses to forgive me for anything, no matter how small", "post": "Throwaway because I'm extremely sheepish.\n\nLet me start by saying my girlfriend is an amazing human being. I love the crap out of her and we have a lot of fun together, but as soon as she gets mad/upset about something involving me, she shuts down and becomes stubborn, abrasive, and just plain rude. She'll send rude, short texts or just be completely unresponsive\n\nThe other day after breakfast, we were talking about oral hygeine (who knows why this was the topic) and I made a comment essentially saying that it's ok to have yellow teeth and not a perfect white smile. This was just a general statement, but unbeknownst to me, she took it to mean i was telling her she had bad teeth. Cut to a week later, she doesn't respond to my texts all day, and then starts telling me how I hurt her and was insensitive to her feelings.\n\nNow here's my issue. Even though I believe I said nothing wrong, I apologized and explained that it wasn't directed at her and that I was sorry she took it that way. Her response? Nothing. She continues to text me short snappy texts, not even acknowledging my apology. She refuses to forgive me.\n\nThis is not the first time this has happened either. This is the 3rd occasion where something like this has happened. She never truly forgives me about these little things, and they all rise to the surface at a later date, I've tried asking her to open up if she's upset with me but it's never worked.\n\nI need advice. I have no friends or family to go to with this kind of thing. It's so incredibly difficult and it really hurts that she won't accept my apologies or forgive me.", "summary": "Girlfriend gets very upset over small things, won't forgive me when I apologize no matter what I do. How do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_2h8vdw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lying to my teacher", "post": "This just happened today a few hours ago. I went to school like any other day, and by the second hour was bombarded with a 30-35 minute lecture (by lecture I mean furious non-stop shouting) about how I was supposed to hand in my coursework today. The coursework was for media and was set on Thursday. Unfortunately for me I was sick on Thursday and Friday and had no means of contact to ask my friends as I am not a very sociable person.\n The teacher then told me to come back after school along with others to finish it. Cue the fuck up. I was supposed to go to Science catch up is well and chose not to because 'Pirate Life' and didn't go to media catch up either. My Science teacher then called my parents and told me I'm going to get detention everyday for the rest of the week but I tried explaining that I couldn't go, as I had media catch up. She insisted that she will ask my media teacher If I went. After hanging up , a few minutes later she called back infuriated by the thought of me lying and says my punishment will be far worse.", "summary": "Didn't do 2 courseworks, lied to one teacher by saying I went to the other coursework detention, ended up being caught and now teacher doesn't trust me and made the situation far worse."}
{"id": "t3_3psmrv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Borrowing a significant chunk to go back to school. Crazy/not crazy?", "post": "Hey everyone, I love reading this sub and was curious for a bit of advice on my current plans.\n\nI'm a 29 y/o Registered Nurse working in the PNW.  I currently make ~ 80,000 a year working 36 hrs a week and with a few extra shifts here and there that bumps to 90 (I've managed as much as 100 but that was not a good year...).\n\nCurrently my only debts are the remainder of my mortgage (148K @ 3.125%) and my old student loans (~27k @ 4-6%)\n\nI'm planning on going back to school for CRNA (Nurse Anesthetist) in the next year or two.  However the program is very expensive (90,000 tuition alone), its also more than full time for 27-36 months and many programs will not allow you to work or allow very little work on the side.\n\nSo my current plan to finance this trip back to school is to use a home equity line of credit and additional student loans.  With the equity available on my house and the federal student loans available I can more than cover this trip; but I'm a bit hesitant about taking on all this extra debt.  All told I estimate I'll be borrowing ~150k by the time I'm done.\n\nMy salary should initially jump to 110-120k/year and then grow with experience to about 180-200k here in the northwest.  I think this salary increase, especially the growth with experience, warrants going back sooner vs later even if it means taking on debt... but I'm curious to hear your thoughts?", "summary": "Taking out loans to increase earning potential in healthcare work, good idea, bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_4f4er6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] ex-girlfriend [20/F] started dating my best friend of 7 years [22 M]", "post": "[[ASKING ON BEHALF OF A FRIEND//USING FAKE NAMES]]\n\nSo I was just with a close friend [Tom], we've been friends for over 10 years now, and i open a snapchat of his now ex-girlfriend [Beth] on a date with his best friend [Liam]. Now, a bit of context here, they had been dating over a year, she'd actually left the mormon church for him, however Tom and Beth broke up just under a month ago... as far as i'm aware it was a simple break up, no fighting etc.\n\nHe only just found out today that Beth and Liam were dating, no idea of for how long, he's just lost for words and needs real advice as i'm pretty hot headed right now. He's literally lost for words and is the nicest lad i know, anyone got some sound advice?", "summary": "Friends ex dating/sleeping with his best friend after breaking up 3 weeks ago. What should he do?"}
{"id": "t3_31p7wc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with [34 F] girlfriend of 2 months, wants me to choose between here and going out with my friends.", "post": "My new girlfriend feels that since I usually don't spend a whole weekend with here, because I like to go out Friday or Saturday nights and catch up with my friends, that I am wasting my life on beers and not acting my age.\n\nI know that I have to settle down at some point, and I must confess that I don't feel like I can argue that having drinks with the boys doesn't really accomplice anything. But she feels like because I like to go out every weekend I am wasting my life instead of staying at home with here, or at least make plans to do something with here. \n\nIs there maybe some way that I can balance this, I like my friends, and I like her, but I am just a little bit confused since I do hang out with here every weekend, just not the whole weekend.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to spend more time with here during weekends and not go out and have a brew with friends."}
{"id": "t3_2lh9b7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about Credit Scores", "post": "I read through the FAQ, but I don't think it fully answered my question, so I'll ask it here in hopes someone can clarify it for me.\n\nEarlier this week I went ahead and paid off my car.  A couple years ago I was able to pay off my student loans.  I currently pay my 2 credit cards off (one is a personal card I use for business, one I use for personal items) and almost always maintain a 0 balance at the end of the month.  I live in an apartment I rent, so I do not have a mortgage or any other loans out at this time.  I am 100% debt free as of today.\n\nNow I thought this should be exciting.  I can now save more money and use that to invest in other things I've wanted to do but always put off to get to 0 debt.  When I told my parents about it my Dad kind of scared me that I needed to maintain some form of debt that it didn't impact my credit score down the line.\n\nAfter reading the FAQ, I learned there are obviously a lot of misconceptions about what does and does not impact your credit score.  Clearly, failing to pay or paying late has a negative impact, and clearly having a high utilization rate also has a negative impact.  But now that I have paid off my 2 big loans (student/car) will that eventually have a negative impact on my score?  I'll continue using my two credit cards, but I have no plans to buy a house or another car anytime soon so I do not forsee myself taking out another loan for quite some time.  Can someone shed some more light on this or offer some advice?", "summary": "As of today I'm 100% debt free, will not having any significant loans such as a house/car/student loans for the next few years have a negative impact on my credit score?"}
{"id": "t3_3994n3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26M) just found out that my parents (55M&F) plan on buying me \"Star Wars: The Music\" symphony tickets for my birthday. The problem: I don't want to go with them.", "post": "My birthday will be coming up in a week and my sister (23F) told me that my parents are going to buy me \"Star Wars: The Music\" symphony tickets for a show coming up in October. I'm not sure how many tickets they plan on buying, but I would assume they would buy enough so that they and my sister can go, instead of two so I can bring who I want. \n\nI would absolutely love to go to such an event, but the experience would be *awful* with them. \n\nDad hates musicals, and especially hates Star Wars (weird, right?). If he went it would feel like sitting next to a person who you just introduced your favorite movie to but you can tell they hate it.\n\nMom talks during everything. Doesn't matter how inappropriate. Even during the last play we took her to.\n\nSister and her SO would actually be pretty fun to go with, but it's not their thing and I don't want to force it on them.\n\nAnother issue is that even if they did buy me only two tickets, I wouldn't have anyone to go with. None of my friends are into that scene and I have no romantic interests I could ask. I know it seems far enough away to find a date but I've never been on a date in my life. It's incredibly unlikely for me to find one by then. \n\nSo, Reddit, what should I do? Tell my parents that I am not interested in such an event? Or just grin, say thank you, and fake a smile throughout the event?", "summary": "My parents, who're bad concert goers, are buying me tickets to a symphony. I don't want them since they'll probably buy tickets for themselves."}
{"id": "t3_2ctrx1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21, F] boyfriend [26 M] (of 1 yr) won't come with me to mum's wedding as '2nd best'.", "post": "So I used to go out with a girl, let's call her Anna. Anna and I broke up a long time ago and have been friends ever since. Boyfriend has always been funny with her, has never fully trusted me not to cheat.\nOur relationship is rocky, we've always had the occasional argument and he doesn't seem very interested in meeting my family, he's met them but acted like it was a chore (his family too).\nSo I invited Anna to go to my mum's wedding (I don't have many close friends, she knows my family so thought it would be nice to have her come with me - AS A FRIEND. NO FUNNY BUSINESS HERE).\nShe's bailed at the last minute due to work, so I asked boyfriend if he'd come with me instead (no-one hates going to a wedding alone, especially as everyone'll be asking 'where's your boyfriend?'). But he says no, he doesn't want to go and certainly doesn't want to be 'second best' and now I'm going alone and I've gotta make up some crap excuse for him. I've explained why I didn't invite him in the first place.\nIs it wrong to be mad at him for being selfish??", "summary": "Friend bailed on me, boyfriend won't come as he wasn't chosen first."}
{"id": "t3_1ilxt4", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "So I got one of these 3 day / 2 night vacation vouchers from a car dealer ...", "post": "I get these every so often. I gave one away once, never heard from the guy how it went.\n\nHas anyone done one of these?  For those unaware I got an advert from a car dealer to come scratch off a loser ticket but get a fabulous vacation package just for being such a great customer.\n\nIt's only about half a page worth of fine print.  Can't travel on holidays, can't travel on weekends, $50 refundable deposit, location must be requested within 30 days, allow 60 days for processing etc etc.\n\nI have to pay the taxes on the room, and I also have to pay a $25 \"Agency fee\"\n\nSo what do they do stick you up in a nasty Motel 6 (My apologies to any fine Motel 6 employees) in the ghetto? It doesn't say anything in the pamphlet about timeshares or anything but I've heard stories of people having to sit through 2 hours of failed used car salesmen trying to con you into buying a timeshare before you can get your vacation package or cruise or whatever.  \n\nIs it worth the roll of the dice if you're already planning on visiting one of the exciting destinations on the list? \n\nWhat's the worse that could happen?", "summary": "Vacation of a Lifetime!!!\" from a shady car dealer.  Go or No go?"}
{"id": "t3_1ngx2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (18) wants to smoke weed again after being free for months from a mental addiction to it, and I (F19) am inconsolably upset about it.", "post": "We've been together for about a year, and when we met he was addicted to smoking weed and doing other drugs constantly. He stopped doing it when we started dating and he's able to actually do well in school now and be a healthier person. \n\nBut now he can't hang out with his drug-doing friends anymore - which wasn't a big problem for him before I left for college. Now he's sad during the week while I'm gone (I come home every weekend), and suddenly he's brought up wanting to hang out with his friends and smoke. (I accused him of really just wanting to smoke, no matter his friends, and he didn't deny it).\n\nI got *very* upset when he told me he wanted to smoke. I started crying and could not give him a good answer for why it would be so horrible for him to smoke occasionally with his friends. He's said for a long time if he smoked it might lead to doing it everyday eventually like before, but now he's saying he wants to try and he thinks it won't come to that. \n\nAm I being ridiculous in freaking out about him smoking every once in awhile, if he promised it was only sometimes?\n\nI've trusted him the whole time since he quit. He even quit smoking cigarettes cold turkey, and hasn't talked about any of it much since then.", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to smoke weed despite having been \"addicted\" to it before, and I am extremely upset about it. Am I being ridiculous in not letting him smoke, and therefore not see his friends who smoke?"}
{"id": "t3_15t7l0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My dad asked me if I thought I'd become a cat lady.", "post": "He wasn't trying to be mean or anything, and honestly he just said out loud something I pretty much wonder every day.\n\nI'm in my mid-20s, never been kissed, never been liked (or at least never even been close to told). My brother and sister are married and never had trouble meeting people/getting boyfriends/girlfriends. My siblings as well as my friends are all either married or in long-term relationships and they're still the only ones that get attention when we go out. \n\nI have a job but I don't make enough to live that comfortably. Every day is a struggle financially, and on top of that I'm met with crippling loneliness at every minute.\n\nMy parents constantly guilt me for not being able to help them out financially. They're struggling, too, but they also exaggerate their situation and burden me with terrible guilt that I don't think I deserve. \n\nMy support system is weak to non-existent. My siblings are in their own world, as are my parents, and my friends are wrapped up in their relationships. My best friend is single but she only talks about herself, and that's not really an exaggeration. Whenever I gather up the courage to say something that's actually on my mind or bothering me, I'm met with a torturous silence. I don't know if she ignores me or just doesn't have anything to say, or thinks that anything she has to say is worthwhile, but the silence is the absolute worst. It's made me give up on telling anyone anything of substance, because, if you can't tell your best friend and get a response, who can you tell?\n\nThanks for reading, I know it's more boring than a lot of other posts, but I'm really struggling and it always feels worse when you spend a holiday alone.", "summary": "Bitter loneliness and a weak support system."}
{"id": "t3_2t22mb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband (27/m) said something that is making me (27/f) question our marriage (2 years). We have a baby.", "post": "My husband and I have been married 2 years, together for 6. We have a two month old son. Lately, we've been having financial issues that we fight over. My husband runs his own business and I work from home in sales. I don't make very much at all. I have a large student loan and a chunk of my income goes to that. My parents are cosigners and I'm very adamant about paying it so they aren't affected. My husband does make decent money so he pays for diapers and a lot of baby stuff. We have separate finances and split food/rent.\n\nWe had gotten into an argument over doing the dishes. It was really stupid. I asked that he finished up the dishes because our son was not feeling well due to his shots so I wanted to take him into the nursery to nurse him. My husband started complaining, saying that they are my responsibility and I should get it done. To be fair, I do normally do the dishes but our son was inconsolable. He needed to nurse. Anyway, he followed me upstairs berating me. He said things like \"you would never be able to afford anything for him\" \"I'm the one who supports him\" \"You wouldn't be able to do anything for him\". At this point, I'm in tears, asking him to go away.\n\nThat night in bed, I asked him what we should do about our marriage. He said that if we don't work it out, he would move back to his parent's (they live in Maine, we live in Washington state). I was shocked at this. I asked him what he meant and he said that he wouldn't want to \"rot away in Washington\" and would visit our son twice a year.\n\nI cannot believe he said any of that. I don't know where to turn or what to do. We definitely cannot afford counseling, but I'm questioning everything.\n\nHow should I discuss this with him? Any advice?", "summary": "Argument with my husband is giving me doubts."}
{"id": "t3_s3vfx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Im beginning to hate Australia.  Whats good about your country that would entice me to move there.", "post": "I have lost faith in my country, im a hard working IT bloke, who has worked for government and big business, but as a citizen of Australia i cant help feel that every year im losing my freedom, my faith in my government, and i face nanny laws being introduced everyday.\n\nWe have government that smokescreens us on boatpeople and arent open about their real policies.\n\nWe have a shit standard of living, i constantly feel like im giving away to much of my money and when i spend money i dont get value for money.  Housing is a rip, food is a rip, commerce is a rip.\n\nEverything is the same and were being overun by fucking BOGANS.  There is no diversity in Australia, every city is boring and urban sprawl just makes that more boring.\n\nAnd finally ive dealt with divorce, ive lost a job over lies, ive been sexually harassed at work, ive been bullied at work, ive been spat on at work, and the legal system has done NOTHING to support me.", "summary": "Im sick of Australia, whats about your country is enticing to enough to be a reason to immigrate."}
{"id": "t3_1sz0rt", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "i could really use some advice from someone who either currently works for or has worked for Safeway..", "post": "WARNING! WALL OF TEXT!\ni am 23 years old. i have worked at safeway for about 1 1/2 years now. i was a courtesy clerk for 3 months, and then i worked in the floral department, then a little bit in the bakery. i had to get a second job because i was being paid minimum wage and my hours were being cut. the new job i got was extremely stressful, but it had more secure hours and the pay was more. i was going to give my two weeks notice to my safeway job when the manager offered me a position in File Maintenance. they said that i would be making 8.90/hr with over night (night shift) rates on top of that after i finished a weeks training. he said that once i was in file maintenance, i would earn raises more quickly, get more hours, and that i could be management within a year. he also said that i would have to quit my second job because they would need me to work weekends. i thought about it for a day, and decided to quit my higher paying job and take the position in file maintenance.  i have worked in the new position for almost six months now, and i had to go to the union for him to change my job title and to get the numbers to clock over to the department (i had never clocked over to floral or even bakery before). even after that my title was only changed to GM clerk and my rate of pay is 8.40. i get scheduled about 22 hrs a week on average. i just feel like such an idiot. i hate the new job, i make the same amount of money i did before (except technically less since i quit my other job for this position) and i feel like i'm going insane working the night shift. is this a common thing to do in safeway? i feel like this can't possibly be personal, right? i work really hard, and i don't really understand why the manager would lie to me about a better position when i was going to leave the company. i didn't really find the union helpful when i went the first time. what should i do?", "summary": "quit second job to accept supposedly higher paying position at current company with opportunity for more hours/raises. turns out that the new position only offered sleep deprivation. feeling fucked."}
{"id": "t3_276ypr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating someone with a child from a previous relationship. Me[22M], her [22F].", "post": "I [22M] just recently went on a date with someone [22F] that i really clicked with. We had a wonderful time and from what i have seen so far she is everything i ever wanted, but sometime during the date she told me she has a 2 year old child from a previous relationship.\n\nNow, i haven't really thought about having children, because i figured i am way too young to take on that kind of responsibility. I am not against children in any way, I just think i am not quite ready yet.\n\nThe thing is, I really like this girl and she likes me, so maybe some of you who have been in a similar situation can shed some light on what you did and how it turned out. Thoughts from single mothers who have been on the other side of this also welcome.", "summary": "Met a girl i like, she has a child. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1xhvra", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any advice for a guy who wants a new direction in life?", "post": "So I'm a guy in my mid-20s. As a kid I grew up being pretty handy with computers. Now as I entered my college years, all my friends, family, and people around me keep saying I should \"do something in computers, like comp sci or something buddy\" because they think that it was the only great skill I had.\n\nWell... in some really dumb or weird form of rebellion I decided to go against their ideal hope for me and I got a degree in anthropology.\n\nNow I'm in my 20s, I have no idea how to apply this anthropology degree into a career, and I have a low-paying job as a pharmacy assistant in which any high school graduate who took a simple 40 hour course can get.\n\nI now realize, well maybe my friends and family actually did kind of know what my real interests were. I should have done something in a computer related field. \n\nI know everyone will tell me, \"you're still young, you have lots of time to get another degree\". Problem is, I don't want to go back to school and pay for more tuition, I'm already burdened enough.\n\nSo I want to ask my fellow redditors, What kind of decent jobs are there in the IT, computer, etc. field that I can enter or get training for?", "summary": "Like computers since I was young. Decided to get anthropology degree instead. Unhappy with my unrelated low paying job. Now I want to go into a computer related, IT, etc. field."}
{"id": "t3_2r9wj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend's girlfriend [20 F], called her a psycho", "post": "My friend James has this girlfriend, Valerie. They've been together for over a year now. At the moment it's in a long distance relationship.\n\nJames kissed another girl, causing Valerie all kinds of heartbreak. She still remained with him, but imposed all kinds of restrictions upon him. One of those restrictions involved him surrendering his Facebook password.\n\nWhen James told me about the restrictions, I told him she had to be a little crazy to impose all these restrictions **INSTEAD** of just breaking it off. Either that or he was a crazy smooth talker. I took issue with the Facebook password one especially since that was our primary line of communication (we're in different cities as well). We had never talked about her much if at all, so he said there was nothing to hide. I still didn't like the whole idea.\n\nFew days later, he tells me she had read that particular portion of the chat where I called her crazy. She now hates me with a passion. Fast forward a few months, they're still together. Apparently she has eased off on him now.\n\nOn one hand, her reading the chat vindicated my fears. On the other hand I do feel bad for calling someone I barely know a psycho. How would you go about patching things up?\n\n**E** : I try not to paint a bad picture of her because what they do is not for me to judge and now everyone just calls me out for calling her crazy. Good job. You want a list? Here's a list.\n\n* Facebook password\n\n* Poses as James to flirt with other girls\n\n* Calls him on Skype every night just to not talk to him while he begs.\n\n* Took a 3 hour bus ride to sit in his room and give him the cold shoulder for a weekend\n\n* Kept him up at night the day before a midterm, saying he needed to prove her importance to him. IE above his studies.\n\n* She bombards him with photos she takes with other guys. Whether anything actually happens is unknown.\n\nI still don't fully blame her. Not if he's going along with everything.", "summary": "Called friend's girlfriend a psycho, how to fix?"}
{"id": "t3_ct31j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: How Can I get Rid of My Drug Dealing Neighbors?", "post": "My next door neighbors moved into our quiet suburb about 2 years ago.  They are both in their early 30's.  The wife is \"disabled\" with a bad back and is open about taking prescription drugs to combat the pain.  The husband doesn't work either but there wasn't any reason given as to why.  They claim his parents purchased the house for them and that is how they are able to not work.\n\nI've always suspected them of dealing some kind of drugs but hadn't seen any concrete evidence to make me 100% sure.  Until a couple weeks ago when I noticed a garbage bag next to their house (where they keep the garbage before taking it to the curb for trash pickup) full of pill bottles.  We're talking a 20 gallon garbage bag entirely full of empty prescription pill bottles - there must have been 1000 of them.  \n\nThis morning my wife overheard the husband and his friend talking about the next shipment.  The friend said he had enough of the last shipment and the husband said he should be getting some new shit in this week.  The friend said he would come by and pick some up.\n\nNormally I mind my own business.  I wouldn't want someone causing trouble for me.  However, I have a wife, two year old daughter and a son on the way.  I don't want to chance someone coming to rob him and having a shootout that leaves one of us accidentally dead.  He's already told me there are multiple guns in his house.\n\nWe've already submitted multiple complaints to the anonymous crime tip line locally but don't know what to do past that.  We don't want them to know we're selling them out for fear of reprisal.  What else can we do?", "summary": "Next door neighbors deal drugs, I'm worried for my family's safety.  What can I do to get them gone or busted and stay anonymous?"}
{"id": "t3_30jzgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M] with my gf [28 F] - to warn the new guy?", "post": "I'll try to make a long story short: I was out of the country 4 months, came back to find my girl found a new guy on Tinder.  I know for a fact that she told him she was single and free, but I have 4 months worth of chats of her telling me how much she loves and misses me right up until I come back.  \n\nI don't know the new guy at all, but I know he was lied to, was played just like me.  Should I tell him the truth about the circumstances under which their relationship started?  I feel like I would want to know if it was me, but I'm not sure if I'm just being petty to get back at her.", "summary": "Should I warn the new guy that my ex is lying to him from the start?"}
{"id": "t3_1t4e1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can two very different people have a lasting healthy relationship?", "post": "My GF (27F) of 3 years and I (26M) are very different. We've been together for three years now and we're at the point where marriage is a serious possibility in the near future.  We rarely fight and when we do its simple to resolve.  Neither of us is emotionally manipulative to my knowledge and we're both very honest.  We have a great sex life and have similar bedroom tastes. We like our relationship, but we're concerned because our likes and interests don't seem to overlap much.\n \nA bit of background about us : We both have full time career jobs and I own my home while she lives at home and has never lived on her own. We don't live together as she's wants to be married before cohabitation.  She's a Catholic and I'm a weak atheist [I'm very respectful of other's religious views and have no desire to take away what makes someone feel good, and this has never been a point of contention for us]. She's very extroverted while I'm an introvert. She's into arts and pop culture, while I'm into science/technology and politics.\n\nI like video games, working out, motorcycles, and trying new foods--especially ethnic food. I'd say I'm more adventurous while she seems to want to stick with things she knows she likes (the same type of food, same restaurants, same dish), she's naturally skinny so she won't workout, hates video games and motorcycles.", "summary": "I guess what I'm asking is if it's possible for two people to have a strong relationship if they don't enjoy doing much together besides sex? We like the act of spending time together but don't want to spend it the same way."}
{"id": "t3_3p7i6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my Girlfriend [19 M/F] of 7 Months, Struggling with a long distance relationship after 6 months of being close all the time.", "post": "So I met her 7 months ago and we got together very quickly, we soon realized that we were perfect for each other and we both love each other very much.\n\nThe first 6 months we have been together were the best 6 months of both of our lives we have been away 3 times together, we have supported each other, and we basically ended up living together for a month of the time. \n\nHowever for the last month she has gone away to university and so have I, however I am in the final year and I am going to be with her next year when I do my next course near her Uni. we have both agreed this is a brilliant idea as we cannot stand being without each other.\n\nHowever within the last week it has become hard as we both have been very busy and we have only Skyped once for about 2 hours which we both agreed was a really nice time. I woke up this weekend and she seemed very distant and now I have received a very long the message along the lines of \"we need to contact each other less, you are ruining my Uni experience by taking my time and energy\". However she made it very clear she still loves me and does not want to break up. \n\nAnother point she made in her message is that I need to get out more and do things so I do not rely on her company which I agree with, however I have to commute hours to Uni and all of my friends recently moved over 2 hours away so I have become isolated. I think this may be a big part of the problem.\n\nI understand what she means and I am happy to oblige with contacting her less even though it hurts. However I feel that we do not contact each other that much already as we only ever text a few times a day and maybe a 5 minute phone call between lectures occasionally. \n\nI just would like to know if anyone has been in a similar position with any advice because I know how she feels about me and I do not want to drive her away because she is the love of my life. \n\nThank you for any comments.", "summary": "Long distance relationship problems after being in close proximity for 6 months beforehand."}
{"id": "t3_3bpqqj", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Cards that tell guests where and when the shuttle leaves??", "post": "I'm not planning on doing hotel welcome bags. This wedding is out of state for me and honestly I feel like adults should've had their advil and water bottle situation figured out. They're nice gestures, I'm just so burned out of doing that kind of thing. My bathroom baskets were like 2 hours and $70 on amazon. \n\nI thought it was a super good idea to make welcome cards for the guests hotel rooms that tell them where and when the shuttle is picking them up. I didn't think putting it on my wedding website would be effective. Even though I have a simple custom url, everyone forgets my wedding website url. I don't blame them either they are all like ObamaMichelleWedding.com MichelleandObamaWedding.com etc.\n\nI'm having the hardest time of my life finding cards like this. On Etsy they have like these huge itineraries \"Thursday: square dancing! Friday: Rehearsal dinner! Saturday: Wedding! Sunday: tacos at Grandpa's house!!\" and that is just insane. I have a small rehearsal dinner and a wedding. Not some huge week long string of events. I just want to tell them where and when the shuttle is. They also have similar cards but they are like \"Enjoy your goodie bag!\" and I don't feel like doing one of those.\n\nBesides just hardcore putting my photoshop hat on, I can't find a simple card to just convey my message of \"Welcome! Shuttle is coming (place) & Time\"", "summary": "I have a room block at a hotel and am arranging a shuttle to go to and from the venue. I'd like to make welcome cards that tell them when and where the shuttle is but those aren't a thing. Does anyone know where to find these?"}
{"id": "t3_3ek0na", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (17/M) need help with a tricky breakup (she's 18/F)", "post": "We were dating about a year and it was our first serious relationship for us both. What made the breakup hard was that 1. she did it on text (pathetic am I right?) and 2. it was completely out of the blue. The reason was that we were never going to see each other because of her gymnastics, she said that things were getting more intense and she didn't want for me to be annoyed/sad for never seeing her. She said we should become friends straight away (I said no to this as I need time to get over her), and said she couldn't bring herself to do it in person. She also said she still likes me, and if it was up to her then we'd still be together. It hurt cause I thought the relationship was more than a 'breakup over text thing' and I still love her. I've cut all contact with her (temporarily, I want to become friends eventually), got rid of everything I have from her, and am trying hard to forget. Should I become friends with her straight away? Because its hard not talking to her... Or should I wait a few weeks before I do this? We ended it on good terms. I've realised that it was never going to work and that she wasn't the right girl for me, but I'm still finding it difficult.\n\nThanks to anyone who can be bothered to read", "summary": "Should I instantly become friends with my ex? We ended it on good terms..."}
{"id": "t3_4d2q6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20sF] with Coworker [Late 30sF], freaked out after unintentional scare", "post": "Using throwaway because other knows of my usual account.\n\nMy Coworker Leila[late 30s F] and I[25 F] have always been close. I met her when I started my first job and was very inexperienced. She treats me like a little sister, and I treat her like an older sister. She's always been there for advice and guidance and practically everyone in the company knows we are close.\n\nA few days ago while at work, Leila was in a different room gathering supplies. I walked in to the room as I also needed to get some stuff while singing to myself, and this somehow scared her. She yelled out, which in turn scared me so I also yelled out. Her face became bright red and she looked like she was on the verge of tears. I didn't mean to freak her out like that, so I kept apologizing for scaring her, however, she just kept repeating over and over again that I shouldn't scare her like that. She couldn't be scared. She can't be scared. In a moment of nervousness, I laughed and said I am sorry but I didn't think she would get scared by me. Afterwards, she walked away looking really upset. \n\nIt was later on that she told me (while in tears) she was in the very early stages of pregnancy. Leila and her husband have been trying to conceive for a while now, even going through a miscarriage a few months ago. Due to the circumstances, she naturally freaked out as it's still too early and not stable. When she told me, I also cried. I cried because I was ecstatic for them to finally be able to conceive, but I also cried because now, due to my actions, there may be a chance that things will not go as smoothly. Since it was still too early, she hasn't told anyone yet.\n\nNaturally, I am now worried about her, and future baby. I feel extremely embarrassed by my actions. Other than apologizing, I don't know what else I can do. I feel so guilty, even though it was not my intention to scare or frighten her at all. Should anything happen I don't know what I will do. At this point, what more can I do?", "summary": "Unintentionally scared co-worker, might interfere with unannounced pregnancy."}
{"id": "t3_m6coc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst experience you have ever had with customer service", "post": "Mine is currently happening. I bought a brand new laptop for college this summer from Asus. A couple weeks ago while watching netflix with some friends my computer started screeching (not from a physical component of the computer) and then turned off and simply refused to turn on. After waiting on the phone for 45 minutes Asus finally picked up. After some trouble shooting they told me that I should send it to them but that they would not reimburse me for the shipping. I thought that that was weird but sent it in anyway for 30 dollars. When I called to ask if they had received my computer the man on the phone told me that they had and that repairs had begun. He told me it would be 10-14 business days until I got my computer. I called the next week to check on my computer and I was told that they were waiting for parts. The customer service rep couldn't tell me what parts they were waiting for but he assured me that the 10-14 day turnaround time still stood. I called the next week (on the 11th business day they had it) and they assured me it would be at my dorm by the following monday (last monday) and when tuesday came around and I did not have my computer (15th business day) I called again. The customer service rep told me that they were waiting for parts, that repairs had never started and that they could end up keeping my computer for another week or that it could be more than 2 months and that he had no idea. My family has had to send in HP and Toshiba computers before and while the service wasn't amazing I have never dealt with something so unprofessional.", "summary": "I sent my computer to ASUS and was promised my computer back in 10-14 business days. Now I am being told it could be up to 2 months until I see my laptop again"}
{"id": "t3_37uzf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend[20F] almost a year, I need to get over my jealousy.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been great together, but lately I've been destroying our relationship with my jealousy. She just started a new job and making a lot of new friends there, but one guy she has started talking to is bothering me. She hasn't told me that she has become friends with him(probobly because she doesn't want me to get jealous), but as we share a computer I was doing some snooping (I know I really shouldn't). She has viewed his page a lot and I kinda feel inadquite compaired to him and could see why she would want to leave me for someone like him. I just keep having these thoughts of her cheating on me (really for a long time now), but I don't have any evidence and I over read everything little detail to oblivion. I got all worked up a few days ago when I saw that she made it so that only I can see we're in a relationship and everyone else has it shown as private and she did that right around the time she had added him (I can't believe I've come to worry about stuff on damn facebook). She said that she was just playing around with this settings and honestly I believe and I didn't give it anytime to stay there before freaking out about it. Right now she's asked for a little space because she feels her family and I are smothering her to much which I can completely see.  I need help fixing my trust issues before I completely screw up this relationship.", "summary": "I have bad trust issues and I need some advice on how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_17mwkg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (f/24) found out my bf (m/31) posted an old sex video of him and his ex-gf on reddit.", "post": "I was using my boyfriend's computer one day and the open page was his email, now I don't normally snoop or anything because I trust him (we've been together one year) but I noticed some emails between him and his ex-girlfriend and my curiosity got the best of me.\n\nI read it and he said that he had posted an old sex video of the both of them on reddit. Needless to say I was really shocked. And this is only a couple of weeks after he had met up with her for dinner but didn't tell me until I had asked him \"when's the last time you talked to your ex?\" I know nothing happened because I was with him that night, even though I didn't know he met with her earlier. \n\nHe says he's never lied to me but I guess for him he doesn't include omission in his definition of lying as I do. We have a really wonderful relationship otherwise, we are both extremely supportive of each other and have a great sex life. I just don't understand why he has done this.... any advice on this? Am I being crazy here or is he playing with me? \nHe doesn't know that I know about the reddit sex video, I really wish I could find it.\nI would really love to hear some other opinions.", "summary": "my boyfriend of 1 year posted an old sex video of him and his ex on reddit. wtf??"}
{"id": "t3_3adaao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my friend [15 F] of 5 months, may be interested in me.", "post": "So, there's this girl I met on Instagram and have on and off alked to her for a few months. I am going to soon meet her in person and want to scope her out for some signs that she may like me. Note, we haven't met in person-EVER. But she knows a little about me and what I look like. But a friend was saying she might be nervous about talking to me because she may like me, or just cuz I'm a boy. She is the shy type, after all. Personally I'm banking on the latter. :/\n\nSo, this reaches out to teen (or once teen) girls. What are the REAL signs that you are interested in a boy? Or is this just all about the girl herself? I always hear things about her looking at you and looking away when the guy sees them. Ya know, typical things.", "summary": "I need to know the true signs of a girl's interest in a guy, or if it varies from girl to girl."}
{"id": "t3_1kkv6b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [17F] I just watched perks of being a wallflower and I need advice.", "post": "Using a throwaway.\n\nHey guys, I just got done with watching perks of being a wall flower and I really made me emotional. I was in hysterics for quite some time and I'm still not sure why. It just made me reflect on my life I guess. But the real problem is my relationship. The girl I'm dating is really sweet and intelligent and attractive but she's just I don't know, not the one? \n\nShe's been away most summer so we've grown apart but we've never really been 'close'. Before we started dating she stopped talking to me for about a week because she said she didn't want to be in a relationship with me so over that week I got myself over it and moved on, but then her friend convinced me to talk to her. She said she was sorry and all the other bullshit but I was over it. One thing led to the next and she asked me out after an awesome blowjob. I said yes.\n\nGetting to the point of things. The movie really hit home in a lot of ways, and I'm really considering ending things with her but I just don't want to regret e anything or end up getting back with her, and I've already fallen for another girl. What should I do? What would you do? What more information should I provide?", "summary": "Perks of being a wall flower is making me consider breaking up with my girlfriend and moving on."}
{"id": "t3_1rsmma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(F21) Falling for my coworker (M22)", "post": "I met him about 2 months ago when he started working with us, lets call him El. Didn't think much of him only that he was a bit weird. \n\nIt all started when I began having problems with my ex boyfriend. I was getting manipulated into thinking I was a shitty girlfriend and that absolutely everything I did was wrong. Everytime we would get in a bad fight I always looked for El for comfort. We got so close that we started convincing people at work that we are engaged. We even call each other husband and wife. \n\nI recently started noticing that what I felt was more than just a friendship. Me and my ex split up and I was ready to find happiness. El and me started hanging out a lot more. Things started to get a bit more intimate between us. With him I feel this warmth and comfort I never felt with anybody else. What helps is that he is exactly like me. There was even a time after work where we were both listening to music on our headphones sitting across from each other bobbing our heads while our other coworkers tried to grab our attention. \n\nProblem is I don't think I am his type for a relationship.  His other relationships have been with girls that are his complete opposite. He even told me that hes never dated a girl that listened to Metal and he is a big metal head (PS. At this point I was waving my arms  screaming in my head \"I'M A METAL HEAD TOO!\") I feel like a try to damn hard for him to notice me as more than just a friend or at this point a FWB. I might just be scared but I have been pretty ballsy thanks to my feelings for him.\n\nIm kind of losing hope but my gut tells me not to. It tells me to continue trying that im so close. So how can I show him that I want more than just a friendship?", "summary": "Falling for a coworker, don't know how to express my true feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1odlsb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23/m) my crush (23/f), i know she likes me but is playing games. What should i do?", "post": "I've liked this girl for a while now. My issue is i don't ever like anyone. I always sleep with girls and never want to talk to them again. I think this is maybe the second person in my life who i have actually thought i would give it a try with. She was so nice and kind when we were hanging out for the first 2 months and i had to leave to go on a holiday for 2 months. So we didn't see each other still kept in reasonable contact i get back into town. Text her to see if she wants to hang out. No responses until i was like fuck it i'm done with this. I'm not gonna embarrass myself by being to forward. Ill just see her at the bars. After about three weeks i finally see her. We hang out and a few of her friends see me. We chat and they immediately recognize me as the guy this girl has had a crush on all summer and tell me about how much she likes me. I'm now thinking ill give it another try. I ask her if she wants to grab some food. Says yes and then i reconfirm again few days later and she just doesn't respond. I hadn't seen her in weeks then the other day i saw her again. Had a chat to her in the bar for around 20 minutes, she was flirting with me touching me and stuff, i got the feeling as though she was still into me.  Now i cant get her out of my head. Normally i would fuck this all off, but its so rare for me to have any sort of feelings for people. I wanna give it a try, but i feel like she is playing a lot of bullshit games with which i don't want anything to do with.", "summary": "find a girl who likes me is essentially playing games and being immature. I like her and rarely have any feelings for woman. Wondering if i should leave it or give a go."}
{"id": "t3_45genj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my girlfriend [20F] are having trouble, should we split?", "post": "So just before Christmas I started seeing a girl and this time last week I spent four/five days with her.\n\nShe hasn't been the easiest person to get along with, we've argued a bit (not when we're together, that's great, usually over phone calls) and she talks about her ex fianc\u00e9 a lot, I don't think she still wants him but I think she wants that immediately with her next relationship.\n\nCurrently I'm trying to help her because she feels trapped at home and misses the days when it was her and her mum but because she feels like this anything I say is thrown back at me.\n\nI feel a lot for her but it's getting really hard and stressful, especially when she goes off at me and then I have to apologise. I really want to be with her but I keep feeling like she doesn't want me and it might be best if we split.\n\nAny help?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are arguing a lot, need help on if we should break up."}
{"id": "t3_3awug5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] broke off with guy [24 M] was dating a short time, did I handle it ok? He's retaliating.", "post": "I dated a guy for a week, but we went on 4 or so pretty intense long dates. For me it takes a while to find out if I really like someone, but I wanted to give him a chance although I thought he was a little too intense for me.\n\nWe had sex the last night and it was horrible in my book, I felt like it can't even be saved and it made me realize that I didn't even want to try and save it. I realized in that moment that I just don't like him.\n\nSo I called him and broke it off, explaining that it wasn't him, there just was something missing on my part. \n\nHe basically begged me to give him another chance, blamed the sex, kept asking what I did wrong. And I'm still getting texts from him even though I asked him to leave me alone. \n\nFinally I deleted him from social media and he sent me some text messages flipping out at me and telling me that I didn't give him a chance and was a liar. \n\nI don't know what to do from here. I thought I did the right thing by not wasting any more of his time. I guess I just stop replying now and let it fizzle out? Been about 3 weeks now since I dumped him.    \n\nI guess my question is... what do I do now? How do I stop this from happening in future relationships? What is the right way to dump someone you're barely dating?", "summary": "Dumped guy because of bad sex/just don't like him after a week, didn't want to waste his time. Guy is pissed, calling me a bad person."}
{"id": "t3_4avhhv", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Lost feeling of my fingerprint area.", "post": "I was carrying 4 heavy bags of groceries last night, because who wants to make more than one trip, really. I had one of the handles digging into my [proximal interphalangeal joint] cutting off circulation to the top half of my finger. I was [bearing] until about halfway when it starts to get hot and what i can only describe as \"sharp\", but not like being stabbed with a nice. It's tough. The pain was getting worse rapidly. I made it 85% of the way and then had to basically drop the bags and get my Dad to help me carry them to the car. I sat down and my finger was red and I couldn't feel any of the top half, because I had of course cut off circulation. An hour later and I could feel it again.\n\nExcept for the fingerprint area (whatever that's called), i can feel it, but only slightly, like when you dont prepare [a stranger \\(NSFW\\)] long enough.\nBut it's definitely weird to touch. I've tried massaging it, sucking it with my mouth, just having it sit in my mouth to achieve body temp, exposed to cold, exposed it to heat. Tried. Everything. Oh and btw it's been over 12 hours.", "summary": "cut off circulation to finger, all feeling has returned apart from fingerprint."}
{"id": "t3_31d9wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have been lying about my previous partners to my girlfriend [17 F] over a one year period, wants to come clean.", "post": "I am, as you all can see quite young and have all of life ahead of me. And i know you shouldn't get all worked up on one girl, life goes on right? \n\nBut i really, really love this girl and i can really see a future with her. We have been together for a bit more than a year and i have for all this time been trying to be as honest och good as possible to her. I would do anything to keep this girl and it makes me shake just to think about how i will present this to her. \n\nIn the beginning of our relationship i lied about my previous partners. Said that i wasn't a virgin and that i had been through a rough relationship over half a year and som other bullshit. The thing is this wouldn't be so bad if i didn't use this to make her more insecure. I often mentioned my previous relations and such under the start of our relation in a very manipulative way. Just to make her more insecure and me not feeling so inadequate. Under the course of our relation she's been constantly asking about details of this relation and i have of course said different dates and so on. I'm a really bad lair and she's noticed this, often questioning if this really was true. I have always stood up for it, always asking questions like \"don't you trust me?\". \n\nWell i guess i have grown up and finally understands that this mountain of lies won't work in a relation, especially one that i want to last for a life time. \n\nNow how the hell do present this to my partner? How will earn back her trust after this?", "summary": "lied about my past and partners over the course of a year and finally understands what a dick i am. "}
{"id": "t3_j6089", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend thinks I might be gay. What the hell!?", "post": "I've been her boyfriend for **5 months**. **She's 27** and **I'm 26**. \n\nI've recently revealed a few of my darkest secrets in order to feel confident with her and to let her commit a little bit more into our relationship. One of those things was that, when I was like 7 or 8 years old, a neighbor took advantage of my innocence and used me as a sexual toy.\n\nThat was a month ago. All this month she started to show less confidence by the day. I started to think that she was afraid of me cheating on her with the first lady that came to my path, which obviously never crossed my mind. She insisted that I was to be sincere and to tell her all the truth which I did to the point of telling her about every single women I dated before starting to go out with her for a long term relationship.\n\nThat and other stuff made her think that I was a homosexual dude, since I have a few things like enjoying salsa dance, like romance and know how to use a spanish fan (one of my aunts had a flamenco school), the idea crossed her mind and she let me know that yesterday.\n\nWe have not had sex to date, and I'm starting to think that it may be time for me to prove her wrong. \n\nWhat would you do? has anyone experienced this before? I've obviously responded at the minute that the single idea of liking people of my same sex was delusional, but she seems to be reluctant to believe me.", "summary": "My girlfriend asked me if I'm homosexual and I'm upset/sad/indignated"}
{"id": "t3_4tod2i", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Please help first time flyer! UK Questions", "post": "Okay yes I understand the obnoxious title but my hair is falling out. I have a long distance girlfriend in Retford, Nottinghamshire, UK and I myself am from Arkansas. I bought my ticket in the middle of May as a one way there, then discovered how scathing customs can be towards one ways from anywhere really if I don't have the fudiciary backing and appropriate documentation of such. I'm looking to find out what kind of hell I'm in for because the flight is...tomorrow. I bought a separate one way back from London for exactly 59 days from the landing date, we were told by someone in the ministry of defense (not any travel portion, naturally) but that they wouldn't bat an eye or start scrounging me for my bank information (which I can't afford to have checked, plenty of money but it's in installments and not something I'd like our governments to have their noses in) that so long as it was within 60 days they wouldn't bat an eye. Can anyone confirm or deny that ? Guys I can't afford to be flagged at Customs and turned around, it's our first time meeting and we've been working and saving up since New Years putting absolutely everything into meeting one another...I just wish I knew what to expect, any information is beyond appreciated, especially from anyone from the states who's been on an elongated trip there, or anyone over the pond ! I'll be staying at her place but not for long enough to necessitate a visa... What do you guys think ? Thank you in advance!", "summary": "I'm not broke but not wealthy enough to stand through customs if they shake me down. Need to know if I'm good with the time frame and what to expect, please"}
{"id": "t3_3bh6w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (32/M) am having issues with my SO's (36/F) child (11/M). Not sure what to do.", "post": "Her and I have an amazing relationship. She loves my kids and treats me very well. The problem is her son is quite spoiled and she's aware of it. Being her supportive SO, she often vents to me and oftentimes it's about her son. So much so that my dislike for him has increased exponentially everytime she tells me how he is pissing her off. He is a \"gifted\" child who is socially awkward and completely condescending. I don't like that he speaks to my 4 yo son and 3 yo daughter in a condescending tone when they don't use the appropriate words... They're babies.\n\nSo I understand he's only a child himself but I don't know how to deal with this. He's not my kid so I can't correct him. He frustrates me and then his mom tops it off by continually telling me how he's throwing a tantrum because she's coming to see me. Then she says how much he's a brat, spoiled, etc. What she doesn't know is that her words are making me dislike her son waaay more than I already do. Do I just tell her? She gets very stressed as it is so I don't want to add to it but I don't believe I'm the best person for her to vent to about her son. Thoughts?", "summary": "Girlfriend has a spoiled child who's mean to my kids and she constantly vents to me about how much of an ass he is at home which is causing me to dislike him a lot."}
{"id": "t3_okdx0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Coincidences that really freaked you out.", "post": "This could have some crossover with that post about glitches in the Matrix from a week or 2 ago.\n\nI'm not really talking about that time you rented (or downloaded) a movie and it showed on tv the next week. (That could've just been you seeing a promo and forgetting.) \n\nI'm talking about stranger stuff.\n\nHere's mine:\nAbout a month ago, I commented in [this post] about strange sensations, specifically about when your arm or leg falls asleep.\n\nNew Years day, the pinky and ring finger on my left hand started tingling slightly, and to varying degrees, has been doing it since. I played doctor and discovered this is usually due to some minor trauma to the elbow (like hitting your funny bone) or sometimes a vitamin deficiency. \n\nI'm fairly sure mine comes from my posture when working/playing at my computer, resting my chin on my left hand, those two fingers curled, my elbow on my armrest. It had been bothering me a little in the weeks before so I'd been trying to stop, but apparently too late.", "summary": "I said I liked when my limbs fall asleep; 2 weeks later, spontaneous but lasting tingling in two fingers."}
{"id": "t3_24latf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] suffer from depression and think it's negatively affecting my relationship with my boyfriend [22 M].", "post": "I have been suffering from depression for well over four years now, with times being much more intense than others. \n\nBefore I met my boyfriend, I was in a very low point in my life. I was completely emotionless and contemplating my life's worth. I was in bed all day, skipping every class, would go days to weeks without showering, or speaking to anyone. \nIt took a lot out of me to pull myself out of the downward spiral I was in. I began to try to put the pieces of my life back together, and started feeling better about myself. Around this time seven months ago, I met my boyfriend. \n\nFrom the day I met him, it was clear that he was someone special and I found myself in a much better mindset. We spent nearly every day together, and would go adventuring almost daily. \nThough he has been more than helpful with getting me to a healthy lifestyle, I still have very low thoughts and periods where I feel nearly nothing. I work hard everyday to try to be positive, but my mood is very unpredictable and it is hard to hide when I get upset. \nI am still very insecure, though I am working through it. It has caused a few problems in our relationship, even though they are petty and irrational issues that I created in my head as a result of my insecurities. He has been very understanding about my past, though I can tell it does upset him. \n\nMany of my personal issues stem from stress caused by the problems that were a result of my low points. I do not intentionally take the stress out on him, but it is hard to control my emotions when it seems like everything is pushing me back down. \nJust yesterday, he was thinking if my depression has had an effect on his mood. This sparked a huge concern that my depression has kept him back from what makes him happy. I have made a very conscious effort to be supportive in everything that he does, but I don't know if it is enough for him. \n\nI would appreciate advice on how to maintain a healthy relationship through depression. Also, how can I ensure that my depression is not causing my boyfriend to be less happy?", "summary": "Recovering from depression and need advice on how to continue a happy relationship without holding my SO back!"}
{"id": "t3_268mzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 18F feel like I am being used by my ex 18M of 1 year for sex.", "post": "I dated this guy for about a year. We had a great relationship. Every day \nwe were together hanging out and just doing whatever. It didn't matter as\nlong as we were together. Sex wasn't a huge part of our relationship but when we did have sex it was amazing. He would even tell me that he\ncould see us lasting and he felt like he was as happy as he could be and I was all he ever needed. \nThen when I started applying for colleges, he freaked out and said he \ndidn't want me to leave for college and that I should stay close. The \ncollege I really wanted to go to was only about 45 minutes away and I got \naccepted. I talked to him about it and he said we could make it work but \ngot very distant and it was like pulling teeth to get him to hang out \nanymore. \nI finally confronted him about it and he ended up breaking up with me because he didn't want the stress of me being in a different town all the time with other guys. I was fine with that because I don't like jealousy anyways even though it was still sad. \nAfter we broke up I got accepted into a better college in my town and decided to go there instead. Now all of a sudden he wants me to come over all the time but he never talks about getting back together but he talks about all the stuff he wants to do with me in the future like get a place together and get matching tattoos. \nI feel like both of these are horrible ideas considering how shaky things are and I just want to know what's going through his head but he refuses to talk about it with me. I feel like all he wants is sex but every time i try to end it for good he says he is just stressed but he loves me.", "summary": "Ex boyfriend says he still loves me but only asks to hang out when he wants sex."}
{"id": "t3_3e5lrb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting out of the friend zone", "post": "Back Story: I'm in a friend zone level 999999 with this one girl. I've come to the conclusion I'm never breaking free, but I sure as hell don't want to make any matters worse for myself. Recently I feel like I've been inching out of the friend zone, so I've been trying to flirt and impress her a bit more.\n\nShe was flying today, and I personally love airplanes and all things with flying (hoping to start my private pilots license as soon as I can find the extra $10K). I instinctively looked up her flight on flightaware.com, and looked at the flight plan. She was flying into Reagan National which is especially interesting to me considering all the restricted airspace around it. I decided to impress her with my findings. I told her at how many feet should would be flying, cruising, what waypoints they would hit, what she could see out her window, and what gate she would be pulling up to. Instead of being interested and thinking it was cool like I played in my head, I completely creeped her out. She told me that was boarder line stalkerish, it was weird I knew all that, and frightening that I took the time to look it up. Welp, that about shuts that door forever.", "summary": "In the friend zone but slowly escaping. Looked up the girls flight specifics. She told me I was a stalker, and was creepy. Now I'm out the friend zone and in the creepy guy zone."}
{"id": "t3_4lz4v9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Quickbooks for personal financial tracking?", "post": "I started to throw together a pretty substantial excel spreadsheet to track all of my finances but I feel like I'm reinventing the wheel manually inputting journal entries (from journal to ledger) and coding accounts.   \n  \nI think something like an older (or newer if I can find one cheap I guess,) version of Quickbooks might be able to do exactly what I'm looking for in terms of detail and management of personal spending / payments/saving/expenses/whatever. I have a degree in accounting and have a pretty solid foundation with book keeping.   \n  \nI normally just keep a general running balance of expenses and payments in my head but I have a couple extra items that I want to have a better picture of and pinpoint my spending habits at certain times (and over time,) without having to link anything (credit cards/bank accounts/etc.) to an account. I have no problem manually entering information because I really dislike the idea of automatic trackers in regards to my money. If my excel sheet didn't turn into a completely convoluted and borderline unmanageable massive general ledger I would be happily plugging away in that.", "summary": "Are there better/more suitable programs than Quickbooks for financial tracking, given the user has experience with bookkeeping and Quickbooks? Will something less expensive (i.e. Quicken,) have local storage and be able to give me the type of detail regarding financials that Quickbooks would? What is your general experience with Quicken?"}
{"id": "t3_33lifc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a crack pipe from a foreign country while with a bunch of church people.", "post": "So, as is often the case, this didn't happen today, but I just remembered this. \n\nBack in 2010, I was in Honduras on a mission trip with about 20 other people who are very religious. We were all walking through this open air market type place. I mean, in my defense, I was 16 years old and had never even seen a drug. I spot this table with some cool \"handmade\" wares. Necklaces, plates, pipes, etc. I figure that I'll buy a cool pipe for my friend who likes pipes. Well... It's a crack pipe. I didn't know it at the time, but it was. It had some cool designs and enamels on it. But the dead giveaway was the bottom of the bowl which was just glass, no designs. Perfect for heating up the crack :). \n\nA few of the people with me on the trip were very confused as to why I was buying a crack pipe. I didn't understand what it was, I figured it was just a regular tobacco pipe. A few of the others told me I should put it back, that it would get confiscated at the airport. I said that I'd be careful with it and hide it in with the rest of my things. So I hid it in my boot when I packed my stuff. \n\nIn the end, I never gave it to my friend. I couldn't, the fragile crack pipe broke in my boot on the plane ride back.", "summary": "I bought a crack pipe in full view of a church group, despite their suggestions not to. I hid it in a boot and smuggled it to the United States where it then broke in the boot I smuggled it in."}
{"id": "t3_2rmek8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shooting a hot girl in the parking lot", "post": "Today, was not a finer moment for me.  I was just coming back from taking some pictures for a client and happened to leave my camera on the passenger seat in my car.  I had wrapped it in my hoodie since I wasn't wearing it anymore.  My plan was to go to the store.  So, I am driving through the parking lot and I stop to turn into a space as I see someone else pulling down the isle of spaces.  Problem is, when I did that my camera falls off my seat and onto the floor.  I immediately pick it up and pull into the space probably cutting off the other car and pull it out of the hoodie.  It seems fine, but I needed to take a picture of someone or something moving to test the continuous-servo portion.  The only person around is an attractive lady putting her stuff in the car.  I try to fire off a few photos and realize, my camera is fucked.  Apparently, it can still take auto photos, but anything more involved than that will not work.  So, I start to pull off upset for my broken camera needing to be fixed and the $150+ it will cost to fix.  As I do, I notice the couple, that I must of cut off before pulling into a spot, get out of their car.  They start running up to the lady and pointing to where I had been and I can only imagine they saw me with the camera.  I know their intentions were good.  Now, I have a fucked up camera and can't ever go back to that store.  Sorry for any distress I might have caused you lady and couple.", "summary": "Broke camera, asshole parked my car, tested on attractive lady, probably branded as a pervert."}
{"id": "t3_32lq9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my Wife's[28 F] married 5 years, Depression during menstrual cycle, part to do with my vasectomy.", "post": "This has happened about three times in the past and just last cycle. So I'm guessing it will happen again.\n\nOur youngest will be 3 in June(two total, oldest is 4), so our baby is no longer a baby. And the 2 kids don't require SAHM's attention every moment anymore. \n\nSomething to do with the hormones and then tying back to the vasectomy and the fact that no more babies are coming, sends her into a depression. She says that when she is not menstruating that she is fine and understands why we stopped at two. \n\nI'm just looking for advice on how to better support her. I usually just listen to how she's feeling and hold her while she cries on and off. But in all honesty I simply can't empathize properly and have told her this apologetically.  I just feel so lost and helpless when she is like this. \n\nReversal and more kids is not financially feasible.", "summary": "Wife gets depressed when she has her cycle, part has to do with my vasectomy and that there will be no more babies."}
{"id": "t3_3ffzob", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The girl [21/F] that I [22/M] work and hang out with has been acting very weird with me lately", "post": "So there is this girl at my job who started working last year and I wanted to ask her out, but I found out she had a boyfriend already. I was going to be away at school so I was like, \"Whatever.\" Fast forward some months to the beginning of July when I'm done with school, I find out she had broken up with said boyfriend who she was in a LDR with. Her and I end up going to dinner and things are going great until she brings up the fact that she got back with her boyfriend, despite the fact that he had cheated on her.\n\nWhen I had dropped her off that night, I was expecting to just stop and go, but she told me she wanted me to come in and meet her mom. When I left a few hours later, she asked when we could hang out again. I told her, \"If you want to.\" Over the next couple weeks, I would pick her up once or twice a week and we'd hang out until late at night until I took her home. We were talking more at work, she was even clearly flirting with me and she would surprise me with stuff when she came in on days I worked too. Then things got weird...\n\nIt wasn't until earlier this week that she started acting strange with me. Out of nowhere, late the other night, she texted me, \"dyrick?\" and then avoided the question when I asked \"What's up?\" the next morning. I shrugged it off. Yesterday we were supposed to hang out and do something she had planned a week in advance for us and she made an excuse saying that she was just going to go home and sleep so she didn't have to hang out with me. \n\nI'm afraid that she developed feelings for me and now she feels bad.", "summary": "Asked a girl from work out and found out that she was still in a LDR with her boyfriend who recently cheated on her. She wanted to hang out with me frequently and now she is making up excuses to get out of seeing me. I feel that she developed feelings for me after spending so much time with me and feels bad now."}
{"id": "t3_23llpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[29/M] need advice on transitioning a serious relationship with [27/F] to casual until life circumstances change.", "post": "I had a short, 2 month relationship with a soulmate. She fell deep in love with me and I with her, but we moved too fast. I have ex baggage that is resolved now but wasn't when we started dating. Due to that, she wanted to back off and be more casual, seeing other people but keeping our connection open, so I agreed.\n\nI've reached out with the occasional text and she sometimes responds but never initiates contact, so I assume she no longer has those deep feelings for me, but mine are still there. I'm having a hard time letting her go. I've removed her from social media and our old text messages, but can't go completely no contact because our sons are friends. I also don't want to lose the chance of things working out in the future. I've been with many women but these feels are a first.\n\nI'd love to transition the relationship to casual but can't shut off the deep feelings for her. Its affecting my life. Help!", "summary": "We moved too quick in a relationship. She wants to slow it down but I'm having trouble making the transition."}
{"id": "t3_1g0vrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with [19F]. Dating 4 months. Cheating emotionally or physically? Over thinking?", "post": "My girlfriend (19f) and I (21m) have been dating for four months. I'm honestly a jealous guy. She went to a party with her friends from college and came back with a new guy \"friend\". They snap chat and text. Idk what they talk about but she says just \"hey what's up\". I caught her in a lie before about talking to her ex boyfriend bc she doesn't wanna give up her friends.  I know the ex still wants her and the new guy likes her. She says it doesn't matter as long as she knows that their just friends. I'm tired of stressing over it. Can't stop thinking about what she's really talking about with this new guy since they send pictures through snap chat.", "summary": "(19f)  goes to party with friends. Leaves with a guys number and labels him as friend and texts and snap chats him."}
{"id": "t3_kl9n5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I make a move, or sit tight?", "post": "I just got out of a 5 year relationship (going on 5 months after the breakup.) and I think I've found a girl I really like! Whoo! Only problem is she has a boyfriend (Boo!) of 2 years. Having my girlfriend cheat on me and ultimately break up with me has made me weary about asking this new girl out, because I know what it's like to be the boyfriend in that situation.\n\nI'm 19 and I wash dishes for a living. The girl is a server at the place I work. We're pretty good friends, and she's EXTREMELY flirty with me. I really like this girl. We have the same college major, like the same kind of music, blah blah, everything seems perfect, except she has a boyfriend.\n\nI've wrestled with the idea of telling her now for weeks. It's been something that's gone through my head every time I talk to her. I don't want to miss an opportunity, but I also don't want to jump the gun and ruin the whole thing before it even has a chance to get started.", "summary": "? I like this girl with a boyfriend (of 2 years, mind you), but I don't know if I should make a move or not. So my question is this: Should I just wait, or should I make a move and tell her what's going through my head?"}
{"id": "t3_2ro7hr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my [26M] boyfriend, I feel our relationship is suffering because of my insecurities and anxiety.", "post": "My SO and I have been in a wonderful relationship for about 6 months now. He's an amazing person and I'm so fortunate I found him. No one has ever been as caring, understanding, and open with me than he is. \n\nHe came into my life at a very stressful and confusing time. He has seen me at my worst and has never pushed me away in my time of need.\n\nHowever, my depression and anxiety has hit a boiling point and I can barely stand myself. I can't enjoy my time with my SO because I'm constantly worried he's going to get sick of me and leave. My insecurities range from body issues to the way I think. All my life I've been bullied by other people and it's given me some bad social anxiety. I generally hate leaving my house and find it difficult to talk to people. I have no friends and rely soley on him for company and companionship. \n\nI know he loves me unconditionally, but I feel like I can't give him what he wants or needs right now. How can I expect to love someone when I hate myself? Is it fair of me to stay with him while I get help? I don't want to be a chore and I don't want my relationship to be a task.\nI want to do what's best for the both of us.", "summary": "My anxiety/depression has been getting in the way of my relationship. Am I being selfish if I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_4tjfwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my [15/F] sister who was recently adopted, how can I make her feel better?", "post": "Hey guys!My sister is going through some tough times. She's lived with us for about half a yearish + now but we're all still getting to know eachother and forming strong relationships. As a side note its always been just me,my brothers and my dad. we lsot our mom when we were young so we never really had a female presence around. I'm the oldest and i'm trying to come up with things to do/have fun/bond. She's doing a thing for school (like a club thing) so its her first time meeeting people at the new school. she's super hesitant and is having a bunch of anxiety. Now she's talking about how she doesnt want anyone to know we are related so she has less eyes/attention on her at school (my 3 brothers attend the same school and its not a super big school but they're a bit popular with one of them being captain of a sports team).What can we do to comfort her/ease her tension?", "summary": "Little sister facing anxiety with going to school and dealing with a lot of stuff so how can we help her feel better?"}
{"id": "t3_10doeg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "High School Problems! I figured Reddit was a great source of help!", "post": "Hey r/loseit,\nI am a 17 year old male in high school, and I've run into some problems.\nI used to be pretty fit and slim back as a freshman (150ish, 5'10''), but as i have stopped sports to pursue music, lacked a healthy diet, and has put some weight back on (170-180, 5'11''). All of the fat goes to my lower stomach, and you can start to tell on my face.\n\nI am a super busy person with music, student government, and other extra curricular activities, so eating healthy is a huge problem for me, and I am a HUGE snack person. I have never been able to lift a whole lot either. I was a cross country person for a while, and I can still run fairly well, it's just having the motivational to do it.\n\nWhat should I do, and where should I start?", "summary": "I am a high school boy who would really like to cut pounds and become fit again, but need some help knowing how."}
{"id": "t3_2ii11z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] Me [19M] feeling confused about relationship with girl [19F]", "post": "College started a while ago and my closest friend now is a really cute girl in my dorm. I am confused about our relationship right now. I can't stop thinking about her; I think about her all the time, and I worry about her when she takes a long time to return my texts sometimes. I don't talk a lot, and I'm still getting used to the college environment, but I feel perfectly at ease when I'm talking with her.\n\nShe has invited me to her room several times, which is somewhat of a privilege. We didn't do anything apart from studying together. She said that she just wanted company. She even invited me to play video games in her room while she studied, which I find weird. We didn't flirt. It's a bit weird, since I've noticed that several people in our dorm are attracted to her and they would play around with her with physical contact, but between us we maintain our distance. We shared secrets (not too intimate though), and I've told her things I've never told anyone before. Also, she keeps finding me funny for some reason.\n\nAnd then there are these rumors in the dorm that we're dating. I decided to play dumb and ask her what she knows about them. She told me not to feel awkward, and then asked, 'We're friends, right?' I don't know what she meant by that. She did seem to be a bit nervous in that conversation.\n\nI don't want to ask her too much about what's going on between us, since she's my best friend right now and I can't bear to ruin what we have now. I just want to know what you think is going on between us. Give me honest answers please!", "summary": "Am I just friends with my female friend?"}
{"id": "t3_31ittx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading an ex's message", "post": "So this just happened yesterday, and this is definitely a bit more of a tamer fuck up than most but still.\n\nBacktrack to yesterday, just about to wake up and of course I'm horny as fuck for absolutely no reason. So just as I was about to go for the good ol' 30 second rub and tug, I get a message on Facebook from an ex. \"Fucking great it's like 7 am\". Pop open my phone and saw a pretty long preview message. So what do I do instead of finishing myself off? I stop and read it like a fucking idiot.\n\nPretty much her mother passed away and she needed someone to talk to. Before responding to her message, I took a second reminiscing of how great she was. And you probably already know how this one ends, I start stalking her pictures and end up beating the meat.\n\nFelt like shit after the end of the 10 second golden age and I still have yet to talk to her.", "summary": "jerking off, got a message from ex saying her mom died, then jerked off to her(not her mom)"}
{"id": "t3_2fyuda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27/F] getting mixed signals from this guy [30/M] I have been talking to/dating for about a month and a half.", "post": "So I met this guy on a dating site about a month and a half ago. He is really sweet, has his life together, he also has a daughter that lives with him full time. At first he really pursued me. I was talking to multiple guys and dating at the time, but he consistently texted me and it was kinda nice to be chased. He mentioned he wanted to meet up and I agreed so after about a month of texting we went out. \n\nThe date was ok. I am really shy so there were so awkward moments. After the date he texted me and said he hoped I had fun and that he had fun to. We didn't text as much after the date but I still really liked him. I felt a connection I guess. Anyways, I asked him if he wanted to hangout again and he said he would try and figure out a time to hang out and then set up to have me come over. \n\nI went to his house and we hit it off, ended up making out, messing around, but didn't have sex. The next day he texted me good morning right at 4am when I wake up for work (prior to our first date he always texted me good morning, then after the date he didn't as much), and texted me throughout the days following. It was like he was super interested again. When we text he asks about my day, tells me about his. Whenever I try to get a little dirty and playful, he says something sweet like he misses me instead of playing into the sexual stuff. It is kinda refreshing. He is always really silly and playful with me. \n\nHe says he likes me and wants to get to know me more. But if this is the case, and with the way he is acting when he texts me, why does it seems like he doesn't want to see me. It's like pulling teeth to get him to ask me out. He says he is busy, which is genuinely believe, but still. If he didn't like me, wouldn't he just let this die and move on to the next girl??", "summary": "He texts me all the time, super playful and sweet, says he likes me, but it's like pulling teeth to get him to hang out. Is he really busy?"}
{"id": "t3_3kux83", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by casually reminding a girl about her dead boyfriend", "post": "So today I was hanging out with a girl I know from school and am romantically inclined towards. We had been doing other things that had been going well, especially for a man as incredibly awkward as me.\n\n At around noon we ended up at a restaurant that her parents own and operate with one of her friends and that friend's sister there as well. I was in a good mood due to the success of the \"date\" I was on and the added bonus of a free lunch.\n\nWhile we waited for our food, my friend's friend's sister (who I'll refer to as K for the rest of the story) was making small talk about high school with us. After a few conversation twists that I don't remember, K said something like \"You don't really know your class until somebody in it dies or something.\" \n\nNow, me being desperate to make a contribution to the conversation, casually chip in \"A freshman guy killed himself last year. Everyone was sad for a week or so and now nobody talks about it.\"\n\nEveryone at the table got quiet for a moment, glanced at each other and then changed the topic. \n\nThe girl I was there with picked up her phone and began typing, and a moment later I received a text.\n\n\"That kid that killed himself was my boyfriend. Of a year\"\n\nI turned my phone off and dropped it on the table and looked up at the girl. She looked back at me and then broke eye contact. \n\nLunch was a little awkward after that.\n\nHowever she's still texting me so maybe everything isn't lost.", "summary": "Try to avoid mentioning dead boyfriends if you want a girl to like you"}
{"id": "t3_1invo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and my brother.", "post": "So I'm a 20-year-old soon to be college senior who is living at home with his parents for the summer. Likely the last summer with them as well, seeing as I'll have graduated by next summer. Besides me and my parents, there's my youngest brother, who is 17, and the other brother, we'll call George (not his real name) who is 19.\n\nGeorge is the middle child and started acting up when he was around 15 or 16. He's always been rebellious, but when my dad was hospitalized my senior year of high school he really went off the deep end--dropping out of high school, getting busted for weed, etc. etc. When my dad was in the hospital (for around 9 months) he gave my mother **hell** for those 9 months. He stole my parents' car numerous times, stole from the family, etc. etc.\n\nAnyways, he's a problem child, and it's been time for him to have been gone for quite a while. He's stolen over $1,000 in tools and supplies from my dad, and stolen from me (just from memory)\n\n-xbox 360\n-3 xbox 360 hard drives (which he pawned for $2 a piece)\n-3 xbox 360 controllers\n-around 10 or so xbox games\n-well over 300 dollars in cash (as well as numerous debit transactions)\n-cell phones\n-my car (which he's brought back reeking of cigarettes and pot)\n\nmy parents want to kick him out, because he's completely disrespectful and blames my parents for not raising him right essentially.  barely got a job as it is (he works 8 hours a week at chick-fil-a), doesn't help around the house, and is a complete jerk to my parents. oh, and he got my 17 year old brother into cocaine. \n\nessentially though, they're scared that if they kick him out, he'll end up in jail with a marijuana charge or something of the sort and never get a job (it's already a cycle for him at 19. imagine him on his own at 25.) what should they do?", "summary": "my brother's a jerk but he's still my parents' son and doesn't want to see him end up in jail or prison. They haven't given up on him. should they?"}
{"id": "t3_2bj7zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] thinking of visiting my ex-girlfriend [24F], just as a friend", "post": "We were really good friends before we went out, then we went out for about a year. She broke up with me 6 months ago, and I haven't seen her since, although we still chat from time to time on Facebook.\n\nAnyway, she lives in a different city to me, which I'm going to next week, and I reckon I'm going to stop by and say hello to her and her family. She's definitely over me, so there's no danger on that front. It took me a month or two of no contact and spending time with other people, but now we have fun chatting like we used to, and I don't think of her that way anymore either.\n\nSince I have less experience of breakups and relationships than some of the people on here, just wondered if this is a bad idea. I should add that she responded positively when I mentioned the idea to her.", "summary": "Thinking of visiting ex-girlfriend, fairly sure that neither of us has motives other than friendship. Dangerous? Can exes be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_g82lh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, where do you shop for (semi-nice) casual clothes?", "post": "I am starting grad school soon in le big city and I don't want everyone to *immediately* know that I am a poor country bumpkin. I have formal clothes (nice suit/dress shirts/slacks), but I am at a loss when it comes to casual wear. I typically sport old band tshirts, dickies type shorts and canvas shoes; basically I've had little need to update my attire since ~2002. Everything has holes in it :/ and this has never bothered me till now (I am a little perturbed that it should bother me at all).\n\nDoes anyone live in nyc, have any idea where to shop (pref. online) for early 20's semi-professional kind of look? Is this even how grad students dress?", "summary": "In a few months I will be walking into grad classes at Columbia, and I'd like to do my best not to look foolish."}
{"id": "t3_302a0w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having amazing confidence in the worst move ever.", "post": "So This happened Saturday. My friend and I are at the local Renaissance Fair, and we're pooped, it's a hot day here in Florida and we're leaving. As we're leaving, there's a girl at the exit who's in period dress and saying bye to everyone, and when we get near she looks to me and says \"Nice hat!\" (it happened so fast maybe it wasn't as enthusiastic as I'm making it sound) I was wearing my Gravity Falls Dipper hat so obviously I'm cool as hell. I reach into my bag of sliiiiiiiiick moves, and I point my left thumb at myself and as she nods I make a finger-gun at her with the same hand, wink super hard and make that tongue clicking noise you make when you finger-gun someone, and she kinda smiles a little bit and looks away, and I swear she makes a frown or something. In that moment I realize how fuckin' awkward I just was and everyone leaving is super quiet and everyone around me could hear this. When we get out of the gate my friend just starts describing to me how horrible of a moment that was and that I couldn't have handled a compliment any worse while exhibiting such confidence. The more I think about it the more cringe it gets so I'm just gonna try not to anymore.", "summary": "I got a compliment from a cute girl leaving the Renn Fair about my hat and I dropped my spaghetti."}
{"id": "t3_29l0e0", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I don't know what I'm doing with my life at this point as far as higher education goes. Trade school or 4 year college?", "post": "One of my greatest fears is doing something I hate for the rest of my life. I know I need higher education, I just don't know exactly what. \n\nI've been trying to figure out how I get into the automotive field, since I've always been a complete gear-head. I've looked at trade schools as well as 4 year universities. One of my best friend's family is extremely into racing, and his dad has helped me look at different schools. \nThey've all been different types of trade schools.... I'm not totally against going to a trade school, but it just doesn't seem very appealing to me. Honestly, I want to experience that \"college life.\" I want to go to a big university with a bunch of people. I want to establish a group of friends and sit in the huge grass courtyard. I want to meet tons of girls. I want to live life as well as I can, as far as I realistically can at 20. I want to be able to look back in 40 years and not regret a thing, or feeling like I missed out on a big part of young adultery. I feel like going to trade school is going to make me \"miss out\" on a lot of things at my age.\nI know college isn't all fun and games, though. I do understand that there are many responsibilities and obligations that come along with attending college. I graduated high school in 2013 and received 2 semesters for free at our local Baptist college. I went there for the fall and spring semesters, and managed to wrack up 30 credits. I went as undeclared. I COULD go back, but I don't want to wrack up debt only to figure out a different path should be taken.\n\nI come to you, r/college, to ask for advice on my situation. Please help me.", "summary": "I really want to go to college but I don't know what to do if I go."}
{"id": "t3_3pj3tz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18M) having no experience, starting with crush (17F).", "post": "Hi /r/relationships,\n\nI need some place to start, and I hope I found the right subreddit. For the last couple of weeks, I've been meeting up with this girl I have a crush on. Most of the time, we have been gaming (both on the couch) or watching television. Appearantly, we fell in love in the time we spent together. I know this, because a close friend of hers has sent me a message, telling me to make a move because we feel the same way about each other and she won't make the first move.\n\nMy problem at the current time: I have no idea where to start. I have been in one relationship before, but it ended because of the one reason I am so afraid of: I never took initiative. This girl was very passive, so we were just stuck there. We said to love each other, but after 2 months of no progress we broke up.\n\nI literally have no idea what to do when, how to start. How do I prevent this from happening? I have already read a lot of threads, but there is a lot of general advice. Being myself and communicating are not my problems. Tomorrow (Central European Time), we meet up again. How do I start?", "summary": "I have **no** experience in having a relationship, how do I show initiative and make first steps?"}
{"id": "t3_4vue22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with virtually no friends, is it me? Is it too late for me to make good friendships?", "post": "I'm 29 and don't really have any friends. The few that I do have are so preoccupied with their lives that our communication is incredibly sparse. I find I'm fundamentally different than most people I meet, I care deeply about politics, not at all for sports, I love reading, especially math/music/computer science books, etc. I find I am a pretty deep thinker, perhaps more than is normal and it's hard for me to connect with someone who doesn't wonder about anything. \n\nThere are a few friendships I could have made along the way but I felt those individuals were not really sincere, but now I'm beginning to think maybe I just have to high of expectations from people? Maybe I should expect that most people don't TRULY deeply care about you unless you're their romantic interest. There was a guy who was similar too me but ultimately, our relationship didn't grow into as amazing as a friendship as I thought we could have had, namely because our communication was mainly one-way--me reaching out to him, and never quite the other way.\n\nMy most recent gf left me, we were arguing too much. She was pretty immature and I am impatient, but maybe I'm just too impatient and it leads to a short temper. Idk. I don't know if it's me, the reason I'm essentially....alone. I just want to make good relationships, I don't want to be alone. I don't want to grow old and die alone because I never made good friendships. Is it too late for me? If I haven't made good friendships by now, am I doomed?", "summary": "Recently dumped over a failed relationship, no really close friends. I'm pretty much completely alone, generally am, despite not wanting to be. Is it too late for me to make great, close, friendships? Relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_yv9an", "subreddit": "running", "title": "From \"might never run again\" to \"10k finisher\"", "post": "I just wanted to thank /r/running for the positive encouragement (and do a little brag).\n\nIn 2010 I was hit by a car while cycling, and lost some flexibility in my left knee. Even after surgery and a year of PT, I wasn't sure if I'd ever be able to do a proper running stride again. \n\nAt the beginning of this year I figured I'd sign up for a 10k to force me back into running. That was also about the same time I discovered this subreddit.\n\nThe race was yesterday and I finished in under 60 minutes, which was my goal.\n\nThank you for all the great running tips, encouragement, humor, and community. You made it a pleasure to get back into running.", "summary": "Hit by car, ran 10k."}
{"id": "t3_vksud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend lives with a girl he used to be in a relationship with, it's making me paranoid and I don't want it to ruin the relationship.", "post": "I've dated him for a month now, and I managed to misplace his trust just recently because of this girl that he lives with. They dated whilst living out of home and I know very little of there past history mainly because I try to avoid information like that due to my emotions/ irrational paranoia. It's scaring me because I tell myself to not panic and to be rational, but due to the break up I took, prior, with my ex which left me depressed for a long time, I didn't want to find myself in that situation again. I don't want to lose his trust but I don't want to sacrifice my time and effort for something seemingly not worth it. \n\nIf he turns his attention away from me and to her, and then finds that he doesn't need to talk to me that often, what should I think? How should I deal with it? They say that they're just friends but she gets angry when he doesn't tell her certain things about what he's doing, and he feels guilty for not telling her. Is that normal?\n\nWhy am I here? Why does he want me? She seems like a nice and polite person, but no way is she honest with me. I mean, it's like I'm just getting in the way of there friendship. When they're friendship is so much closer than our relationship, then what is the point? It leaves me so paranoid and I can't go through that feeling again. What should I do?", "summary": "I feel like I'm the other girl in a relationship with a guy who is still in a close 'friendship' with his female house mate ex-gf. We are all in our Mid 20's."}
{"id": "t3_2t6v98", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "The girl like messaged me.", "post": "So about a year ago i met this girl called...well lets call her gemma. I met gemma at this acting class I go to on a Wednesday and she was well, she was beautiful. so we started speaking a little more at it was evident that there was some potential here(well i thought there was). however me being me im a nervous wreck and never had the courage to ask her out because shes like way out my league and i have never done anything like that before. So as the year comes to an end and the class ends with the long summer break. over this time gemma have moved to a different group and we haven't spoken for like 6 months.\n\n So anyway, ages pass and I just woke from a nap(today) to see that i a friend request from gemma But in her name there was only one M.witch i thought was a bit weird but didn't think too much of it. So this gema starts speaking in boxing to be about how she hates being single. so me being the moron i an said something dumb and i asked her out and she said \"yes\" all was going great i felt great that the girl i had wanted for ages was going on a date with me. she was also being very flirty with me saying shit like \"ive always wanted to kiss your lips\". everything was nice until she asked for my login info, my heart sank in to my chest with the realization it was a fake. so i quickly look on my Facebook news feed to see the real gemma made at post sitting there right on the top, saying something along the lines of \"there is a fake account called \"gema\" and asking people all sorts of stuff\". If i was on my PC i probs would of seen it but i was on my tablet and only had the conversation open the whole time and it coved up the whole seen. looking back on this I should of seen something like this coming because im not that good looking for someone as good looking as gemma to be wanting to go out with me. I feel so much like an idiot.   \n\nIm not that dumb tho, I didnt give my password out. thank fuck.", "summary": "A fake acount of the girl i have a crush on spoke to me i asked her out she said yes, then asked me for my login info and i feel really dumb."}
{"id": "t3_gunb6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I took my car into the Dealership yesterday because my check engine light was on and they are telling me it's because of bad gas. What can I do", "post": "I bought Gas at my Local Giant Eagle GetGo and and used my fuel perks card last Thursday around lunch time. Later that evening on my way home from work I noticed my check engine light was on. \n\nThis week I took my car into the dealership and they've had it overnight because I had two cylinders misfiring I just got a call from them and they are saying they think it's cause by bad gasoline and they are going to put some dry gas in there, I haven't heard back but the mechanic I spoke to sounded pretty confident that it was bad gasoline.\n\nMy question is what can I do? I'm sure this is going to cost me a pretty penny and I don't think I should have to pay for it? Does anybody else have a similar experience? what was your out come?", "summary": "bought bad gasoline and I don't want to pay for the mechanic."}
{"id": "t3_21is4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my boyfriend [19/M] of 7 months, went through his phone and found him exchanging emails with an older woman.", "post": "Let me start off by saying I don't usually snoop. However I've been having a suspicious feeling lately with my boyfriend, mostly because I've been worried he's been in contact with his ex, who has caused serious problems in our relationship before. Anyways, I went through his phone and there were no messages from his ex, however, I know that he uses his email frequently so I checked his accounts. After a bit of scrolling, I saw some emails between him and an older woman (45) named Sara. These messages were dated around February 8th, in the middle of our relationship. He sent a total of around 15 messages. She said things like she was lonely, her husband worked too much, she had grown kids, blah blah blah. She sent him a picture (which I didn't see) and he commented back on how nice her tits were and stuff like that. They exchanged numbers and he said \"text me anytime\". That's pretty much where the messages ended, I didn't bother to see if there were any more recent emails because at that point I was furious.\n\nWhat do I do, Reddit? I thought I could trust my boyfriend but now I'm feeling disgusted and betrayed. I also found out he was part of an online orgy group about a month before we met. How do I confront him about this? Any advice is helpful and appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "went through boyfriend's phone, found him exchanging emails with a MILF."}
{"id": "t3_3bo4wy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by planning a trip to Las Vegas with a friend.", "post": "This fuck up started on Thursday but I just found out today.\n\nA little background, my friend, we'll call her M, has to go to Las Vegas for a work conference. She told me and a mutual friend/coworker that for some reason they booked her a hotel room with two beds and that it would be cool if someone could go with her. I had to decline at the time because of other plans. Last week those plans got cancelled so I was freed up to go on the Vegas trip. Here's where the fuck up starts.\n\nI asked her if she still wanted someone to come with her. She said that would be fun and that the rooms is paid for so all I would have to pay for is the ticket and food. I got her flight info so I could book the same flights. \n\nThen I say \"I'm about to buy a ticket, you're sure you want me to come?\" She said yes. I buy my ticket and tell her I have booked a ticket for the same flight she's on.  Then we had a brief conversation about how excited we are and that I've never been to Las Vegas.\n\nToday, our mutual friend is sick so I told her not to get me sick since I'm going to Las Vegas in less than two weeks with M. She thought I was joking because M hadn't said anything to her about it. I text M and ask if we're keeping it a secret. M said she didn't mention it because she thought I was joking about going. Also she said I can't sleep in the second bed in her hotel room.\n\nSo now I have a non-refundable flight to Las Vegas and nowhere to stay.", "summary": "Planned a trip to Las Vegas with someone who thought I was joking. I'm going to Vegas but have no where to sleep."}
{"id": "t3_dyyc6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found a guinea pig - need advice!", "post": "So. It's 10:00 PM on a Saturday and my boyfriend and I are watching an episode of Dexter. We hear a rustling coming from the kitchen and assume the cat has gotten into some trouble. My boyfriend goes to check out the situation and it turns out that the cat is in hot pursuit of a GUINEA PIG. We have absolutely NO idea where it came from and why it is in our apartment. We have caught it and put it in a large cooler, which is currently residing in our bathtub, safe from the cat. We went knocking on 5 other doors in our complex and only 1 person was home; he really got a kick out of our story, but couldn't help.\n\nTHUS, YOUR ASSISTANCE IS REQUIRED!\n1) How small of a hole can a guinea pig squeeze itself into? We are dumbfounded. How did this creature find its way into our apartment? My boyfriend only left once today to pick up some sushi (I didn't leave at all), and though I think we would have noticed if it crawled into our apartment as he came/went (around 9:00 PM), it seems the only plausible option.\n\n2) Obviously our neighbors are out partying (or something) and will not return until tomorrow at least. The guinea pig is ours for the night, and therefore needs sustenance. The biggest problem right now is water. Is there any way to make a makeshift water bottle? I tried a small plastic container and the guinea pig just kept falling over into it and making a huge mess. Food: I gave it some lettuce. How much is too much/too little?\n\n3) Is there anything else we should know?", "summary": "I know NOTHING about caring for rodents and now have a guinea pig on my hands."}
{"id": "t3_3393k0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too much to ask that my[30F] MIL[52F] purchase current age appropriate gifts for my daughter[3F]?", "post": "My daughter just celebrated her 3rd birthday, a birthday theme & suggested gift list was provided to the grandparents a couple months prior to the birthday party. I have taken to doing this so that we don't end up with a bunch of unwanted presents I'm stuck returning.\n\nThe specific gift in question, this year, is a Little People Race Car Carrier Play Set (discontinued by mfg; release date: 9/30/10), that has no doubt been sitting in her house for almost 5 years b/c she forgot she purchased it for her grandson[8M].  It is no longer sold in stores and it's clearly a \"boy\" toy, I would have no issues if my daughter was interested in cars, but she is not. She likes many things, dolls, play dough, animals, certain furry red monsters & friends, creepy large headed button eyed rag dolls, playing in the dirt, yelling & screaming, but has no specific interest in planes, trains or automobiles.\n\nMIL context - she is about 3 years away from going full blown Hoarders: Buried Alive. Since my bridal shower (2008) I have received large boxes of \"found\" \"saved\" \"got a great deal on\" \"it's sort of like what you registered for\" gifts from this woman. She means well, but does not appreciate quality over quantity. My husband [31M] has had conversation with her regarding this before, which seemed to help with our gifts, but has not helped with our daughters gifts.", "summary": "Tired of receiving unusable non-returnable gifts from \"hoarder\" MIL. How to best confront her about this, and what do I do with the non-returnable gifts, donate, re-gift?"}
{"id": "t3_fg5hb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "a silly plea for support or insight", "post": "Alo there fellow redditors. I feel like talking to somebody so I can get this weight off my chest, and so I've chosen you. Who better, right?\n\nWhat has been occupying my thoughts lately is a simple matter but ultimately will impact my life hugely. I'm currently studying a subject that I'm really fascinated by and interested in at a college that I absolutely adore but the first couple of years of study were tainted by my distractions and resulted in an unsatisfactory performance that didn't reflect my true potential. Now after a long road of drama and wasted time, I realize that perhaps one of the only things I really would like in life (that is to say, one of the few things that would be really really nice to have) is a degree in this discipline of study. \n\nNow because of actions in my recent past, I must fight to remain within my current area of study. I've finally started working hard and taking my studies seriously, furthermore I've begun to really /enjoy/ my work. The problem is that I run the risk of having to drop out of this discipline if I don't perform extremely well in the next year.\n\nIt's going to be the closest shave of my life and I don't know what to do or what I plan to do because I generally suck at close shaves.\n\nBleh my thoughts are a mess right now, what are yours?", "summary": "I'm just blowing off some steam and trying to clear my thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_494nf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is she [18F] just using me [18M] to boost her self esteem or am I a rebound ?", "post": "There's a girl in my school that I usually see but never talked to her. About a week ago she comes up to me with her friend saying if I have facebook, I give her my Facebook and she starts messaging me. Since day one she says she likes me and wants to kiss me. Also I asked her how come she likes me instead of other guys and she said it's because other guys that look good are assholes. So you are just settling for me until you find a handsome dude who will treat you good ?And if she assumes I treat her good, what gave it away ?We never spoke. \n\nWe go out, we kiss, but she said some weird thing: she said \"I want you to love me to accept everything I do\" which I thought \"you mean like if you cheat on me I should forgive you?\"\n\nIt just seems so weird. Like out of the blue she asks for my facebook, and the same day she says she likes me and wants to kiss me and then a couple of days later says she wants me to love her. Is she just using me as a rebound or thinks that I'm a nice guy and I would boost her self esteem by telling her she's beautiful and giving her flowers and shit ?", "summary": "I feel she's using me as a rebound/to boost her self esteem."}
{"id": "t3_qjh9x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I just can't tell if he really cares for me...", "post": "Hi!\n\nI am a 21 yo female and the guy I am seeing is a 33 yo male. We currently work together, however, I feel it's important to note that we work for a very large company, it is not an office atmosphere, the company does not have any kind of dating policy, and it is in fact quite common that people in this company have met, dated, and even married as it is a very male dominated industry. \n\nThat being said... I am starting to really care for this person. We get along quite well despite the age difference and our sex life is amazing. We have been \"dating\" for about a month and a half.\n\nThe reason I am starting to get concerned is because we live two hours apart from each other and don't see each other often And never see each other at work. When we talk via texting it is often all about sex. When I asked him where we stood as far as being together he said he likes me and just wants to take things slow. We have talked about our histories and I know a year ago he was in a very serious relationship that ended very badly ( he proposed and she said no) that hurt him terribly.\n\nWhen we are together he is very sweet and seems to genuinely care about me but part of me just feels like his is stringing me along and being sweet because I have already slept with him and we both clearly enjoy sleeping with eachother. \n\nBasically I am worried about becoming just a fuck buddy or an FWB because I have feelings for him and would be hurt of that's all we ever amounted to. How can I approach him with this without appearing like a needy young college girl?", "summary": "I am seeing someone much older then me and I fear he might see me as just a fuck buddy. "}
{"id": "t3_1luw4q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [23M] keep this going or do I end it now, tactfully, with girl [22F] I'm seeing?", "post": "Hi Reddit. I am a 23 yo male who got out of a 1.5 year relationship about 3 months ago. Two weeks ago I met this girl [22F] through okcupid and ever since we have been hanging out all the time. Sleeping over seeing each other at least every other day. She helped me move. She came to see a hockey game I played in.\n\nShe said to me yesterday that its like we've known each other for months..\n\nNow we haven't had sex but we've we have fooled around sexually including orgasm. She wants to be more committed before we have actual sex. Which I'm fine with.\n\nHere's my problem. I want to focus on work, exercise, hockey,and my friends who I neglected during my last relationship. I really like this girl but we've seen so much of each other I'm starting to feel pressured and like I'm in a relationship. I know that once I start feeling this way it will progress unless I have significant distance.\n\nI must mention that she works in the building down the block from me, so I can and have seen her a lot.\n\nHow do I end this tactfully? I've only known her for two weeks but I'm not really interested anymore. Do I send a polite message or phone call? \nProbably see her in person..\n\nI don't need this drama in my life.\n\nWe are supposed to go out tonight but I want to cancel and just have a day to myself with out feeling this way.", "summary": "seen a lot of this girl I've been dating the past few weeks. Now turned off and want to know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_11ubjd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I being judged too harshly or am I really being promiscuous?", "post": "I am 27 and female. Here is the back-story. I have been with 3 guys since the past 4 months. Almost all 3 were pretty consecutively one after the other. I was with the first two guys for about a month each (and it was a legit relationship where I introduced each as my boyfriend at the time) and right now I am involved with the third in the dating stage. \n\nHere is the sucky part. Apparently I am the joke of the group for being overly promiscuous. I don't get it. I had sex with all 3 guys but I didn't think that was a big deal cos I liked them and we were in a monogamous equation. All 3 guys were friends before we started dating. Even my best friend who is an American guy said I was \"out-of-control\". \n\nSo my question is, what is the definition of promiscuous? Does dating many guys one after the other make me promiscuous? These aren't just random people talking, these are my friends who's opinion I care about and I talked it out with them. They insist that sleeping with consecutive guys within a month makes me \"easy\" and I need to change. I want to get Reddit's general opinion on the matter. Thank you!", "summary": "Slept with 3 guys in 4 months. Am I a slut?"}
{"id": "t3_1t2v0q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friend [26/f] didn't tell me she stopped talking to her ex. He's (kind of) a sugar daddy [47/m] and wants my advice on a \"meaningful\" present. I don't know the full story!", "post": "My friend is very very private. She dated a man over 20 years older than her for about 4 years and they broke up around 3 years ago. From what I thought I knew, they still talk all the time but are in no way exclusive after their breakup. I've hung out with them a few times (never when they were together, only in this post-breakup friend/\"Mr. Sometimes\" phase). I knew her before she dated him and got back in contact after they broke up.\n\nI know the age difference is nutty, but it's not my business. I think both of them are cool.\n\nWe don't really talk about him, I just know when he's in town, he'll hang out with us and he's nice. All I know about their relationship is that he hurt her emotionally really really bad (hence the breakup) and she thinks he is a huge douche, yet she still brings him around so I can't think he's too awful. Tonight the ex-bf FB messages me and says that he hasn't talked to her in 3 months, that he's sent her gifts on 4 separate occasions and hasn't heard anything from her. Every gift hasn't been \"meaningful\" (his words) and said that the last one was a gift card for a substantial amount but he didn't say how much. He wants to do something meaningful for the holiday and wants my advice.\n\n1) I feel sneaky, and if my friend hasn't told me that they haven't been talking, I don't feel comfortable talking to him. 2) I don't want to be a dick because he's being nice and I KNOW that he really does want to do something great for her. 3) I don't know what the fuck to tell him! If she's this angry, what gift would even be worth it?\n\nMy reddit amigos, should I try to help this guy, and if so, what is a meaningful gift I can suggest he give her??", "summary": "My friend stopped talking to her ex without telling me and now he wants a meaningful gift suggestion. FML."}
{"id": "t3_3dsxyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] trying to start something new after almost a year", "post": "My ex-girlfriend of nearly 3 years left me last August. The first couple of months were incredibly hard, and I still think of her quite often. She's with someone else and wants nothing to do with me because she was incredibly unhappy for a large portion of the relationship. There were a lot of complicated issues that resulted in this, but suffice it to say that I really wasn't as good a boyfriend as I could have been. She in many respects was my training wheels, and despite being my true first love, I had no idea how to express and show her this. It resulted in a lot of apathy on my part.. the whole not realizing what you had until it was gone kinda deal.\n\nI've struggled with chronic and minor depression for a while as a result of this, and am only now trying to find something new with someone else. \n\nI'm fearful that I'll fall back into being that asshole again. I'm nervous and scared I wont be able to be as good as I know I can be. When I think of her it still hurts, but I know that I need to get out there and keep meeting new people. I'm trying, but its hard feeling like shit after every first date that stings as a reminder of how rare she felt to me.", "summary": "Trying to get back into dating, find someone new, its hard."}
{"id": "t3_l0wmt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do colleges care about most?", "post": "I'm in my junior year of high school and I think I'm cracking from stress. I really care about college and getting scholarships, so I've been mostly focusing on academics. I think I'm in **at least** top 25 of my class. I took an AP class and got a 4 my sophomore year and have gotten at least a 90 in all of my honors classes. I was in only one club for both sophomore and freshman years, and I did winter and spring track both years.I'm in a math honors society.    \n    \nThis year, I'm taking 4 college courses (3 are APs) and they're a LOT more difficult than my courses last year. I can handle my club once a week and taking these courses (just barely), but I keep getting told by adults that I NEED more extra-curriculars. I don't think I could handle it on top of doing track, too. Starting November, I won't be getting home until at least 5, and then I would like to take an hour for showering/eating. I don't think I'd have the dedication to complete all of my work to my full potential.    \n    \nMy goal is NOT to go to one of the \"top\" schools. I want to go to a good school, but my priority isn't getting into an Ivy League school for college. Maybe transfer after a year or two, maybe, but they're pricey and I've heard they don't offer many scholarships.", "summary": "I want to focus on my grades only (+2 ECs) after doing 2 years of \"year-round\" track.    "}
{"id": "t3_2by7nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) mother (50sF) despises me for not letting her have access to my bank account information.", "post": "I'll try to make this brief.\n\nIn order to build up my credit my mother and I made a deal: I would open up a credit card from my bank in my name and she would pay the bill after seeing the transactions. It is set up to where you log on to one account and you can see all my accounts besides the credit card (my two savings and personal checking). The savings and checking accounts are all funds I have earned or saved from gifts. \n\nI have never denied my mother from seeing the transactions on my credit card. Whenever she asks I happily take screen shots and send them to her (I used to just show her in person but now I have moved.) She is upset that I do this and won't give her access to all my accounts. She claims she wants to balance her books correctly but my personal money has nothing to do with her books. It's my money and I don't want anyone to have access to it. \n\nShe accuses me of being \"so secretive\" with my accounts when I simply don't want anyone to have access to my money. I see it as it is non of her business but she sees it as you're my daughter, show me your money. \n\nAm I wrong for no giving her access to my accounts? What should I do? I don't have a job, after continuously looking and applying I still haven't gotten any calls, and I'm afraid she will get angry and stick with me the bill and drain my savings.", "summary": "Mother (50s) wants access to all my banking accounts but I (20F) don't want her to. She gets extremely angry and yells whenever I tell her no."}
{"id": "t3_25itgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17/F) can't seem to get over my ex (18/M). It's been five months since it ended", "post": "He was my first boyfriend and pretty much my first everything. I was also his first girlfriend and whatnot. We got together during the summer before my senior year, his junior year. \n\nWhat I didn't know was that he's a total pot-head. I didn't mind, except for the times when he'd go blaze instead of meeting me for a date ... yknow. All that. \n\nHe also got kicked out of school because a teacher found ganj in his bag, so into the first month of the school year, we were going to different schools. These schools aren't even that far from each other, probably like a 10 minute bus ride.\n\nI was pretty close with his family; his mother and father both have my number and I have theirs. His younger siblings really liked me (probably more me than him sometimes).\n\nOn New Year's Eve, he broke up with me via text without any real explanation and cut off all contact with me. He blocked me on IG and deleted his FB and, even worse, he did the same thing to my friends.\n\nI feel like I never really got over him. I went through a horrible rebound stage. I saw him once at a school fair and almost cried. Now that school's ending, I'm struggling with feelings of inadequacy. I wasn't able to keep a boyfriend for more than six months and I'm graduating and I haven't really ever had a stable relationship. \n\nI feel like I'm missing out so much and that I'm missing him more than usual. I don't want to miss him! I don't want to forget either, I just don't want to be sad. It's easy for people to say \"just learn to be happy\" but that is easier said than done.", "summary": "With graduation approaching, I keep thinking fondly about my ex (also first bf). Is this normal? How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2ygpho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/F] with my [35/M] bf of 5 months struggling with \"alone\" time.", "post": "I'll try to keep it short. I'm divorced with two small toddlers (twins). I reconnected with someone I dated and was friends with in the past and we have been seeing each other for five months. The relationship is wonderful so far. \n\nNow, as a mother of toddler twins, you can imagine that my time is devoted to them when I'm not working. Their father does not take them overnight and so the majority of their care falls on me (with the exception of a few hours on Saturday and Sunday in the afternoon). \n\nThe bf has an active social life and goes out with his friends one night every week. The friends are a mix of what I would describe as a younger crowd of guys and girls. They typically go to bars (a few are bartenders). Now, I'm a fan of girls and guys nights out, but I admit I'm a little bit bothered by this in part due to the frequency and length, in part because of where they go, in part because the girls don't seem to have any concept of boundaries and are on the \"wilder\" side, and in part because I don't get to go. I know I should probably put my big girls pants on but I can't seem to shake these feelings. \n\nI don't want to become bitter and I don't want to take him away from his friends. But I admit I'm a little bit sad. Have any other divorced parents with kids been in this situation? Does it get easier with time?", "summary": "Trapped with two small kids, dating someone who has an active social life. Trying to reconcile various elements now that I am seeing someone."}
{"id": "t3_1zi65m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my SO [23 F] 7 months, I feel smothered", "post": "I have been with my gf for about 7 months now. I have always been a pretty independent person (in relationships and out of them) and enjoy my alone time. My GF seems to always want to be around and thinks that I am mad when I do not want to spend time with her.  I guess my question is, at this point in our relationship, is it fair to have a couple nights a week of personal time that I don't want to spend the night with her?  \n\nI have told her I need space but she doesn't seem to understand since she is so extroverted and wants to be around people all the time.  For reference, we see each other probably 6 out of 7 days.  We work in the same company although in unrelated departments.  We often have lunch together.  I will invite her over to stay the night from time to time and she always stays 3-4 nights in a row when I only had the intention of having her stay one night.  I constantly feel pressure from her to move our relationship forward.  She is wedding crazy and I feel like she is trying to push me towards that way to fast.  I would say on average we spend 4-5 nites a week together. \n\nThe most recent 'fight' occurred when I stayed at her place Friday night and spent all day Saturday with her...left Saturday night, told her I wanted to be alone Sunday.  I agreed that we could hang out tonite (Monday) but she had to work late so I told her another night. She got home at 9pm and got mad that I didn't want to come over.  She then began to ask me why I never want to hang out with her..  I have never had a relationship that has required this much of my time and energy this early.  I guess I am trying to determine if she is being weird or I am being weird.  Any advice would be helpful.   Thanks.", "summary": "My GF wants to spend more time together but I feel we already spend plenty of time together. Which of us is being weird?"}
{"id": "t3_kyzm5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am a teenager in need of assistance. Help to  avenge your socially awkward teenage self.", "post": "So a little bit about myself. I am a 15 year old sophomore who attends a small private school (<50 kids in high school) and I really need a girlfriend. There was a girl but she has a boyfriend out of state+she has a bit of a crush on one of the seniors, who I truly cannot compete with. But my real problem is that I have no real friends at this school and no girl ever seems to have any interest in me at all. I would like to know why.\nBasically I don't consider myself ugly. I am 6'6\" and 155lbs so I guess I am a bit skinny, but actually am fairly muscular. I have a slight acne problem, but really at this age who doesn't. For the most part I am quite confident and often called the funniest guy in school. And not even in a class clown type way. I am on the State Champion Basketball team and have a 4.0 GPA.\nSorry for the awful OP, I have had a really bad week and am just rambling/making this up as I go along.\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I would like advice on how to be more liked and get all of the ladies, as well as where the hell to get all of them ladies."}
{"id": "t3_344sto", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Eating A Ghost Pepper", "post": "Ok  This one happened awhile ago. I've decided to share it with you guys.\n\nso here's my story. In high school I wasn't a very popular kid. Shocking? No obviously not. Anyways... I decided to try and be a tough guy. My lunch table would always have a contest to see who could bring the hottest hot sauce. Well I decided I'd bring in a Ghost Pepper. (One of the hottest peppers in the world)\n\nSo the bell rings and we're headed to lunch.\nI whip out my ghost pepper and spread it around. Obviously taking half the pepper for myself. After eating the pepper I was fine, until that red demon from hell hit my stomach.\n\nI calmly walked to the bathroom, only I didn't make it there. I was half way up the lobby stairs and it hit. I collapsed and threw up everywhere. Then simultaneously I slipped on my own puke and went face first into it . Luckily no one was in the halls. So I decided it would be better to sneak out of school and avoid embarrassment. \n\nAfter I went to the hospital, which involved a overnight stay. I found out that half of my football team was sent home from school with stomach issues. They never knew what hit em hehe.", "summary": "I ate a pepper, puked everywhere and took out half the football team."}
{"id": "t3_1bbvs9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (27) and I (f28) have some very practical reasons to get married. Not quite sure what to do with parents (m&f mid 50s)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 years, living together for 3. We are both very happy with our relationship and very sure this is an excellent match. \n\nWe both discussed getting married and have both agreed that a big huge wedding is something we both do not want and we would like to spend our hard earned money on something else (like a down payment for a house perhaps?).  We are both in agreement that a courthouse wedding would be best.\n\nNow here comes the nitty gritty. Because we are not married, health insurance is costing us more than it would if we were married. Therefore we would like to get married sooner rather than later. The problem is my parents, we do not have the best relationship. They are insistent that they must be there for my wedding. This presents a problem as his parents live very far away. We both think it would be rude to invite only my parents and not his, and that the only way to handle this gracefully is to invite nobody. His parents are super awesome and he says they would understand.\n\nI know my parents would be angry with me, but at the same time I know this is also how you end up pressured into inviting 250 people including cousin suzy who you've met once. Also my mother is a tad overbearing and would certainly push for a traditional, expensive, blowout.", "summary": "Parents insistent they attend my wedding, bfs parents far away, losing money each month we are not married. Also do not have the best relationship with parents.I just don't know what to do and any thoughts on this matter would be appreciated. Should I go ahead and do what I want and deal with the fallout? Should we just get married at the courthouse and have a ceremony later when it is convenient for everybody to get there?"}
{"id": "t3_2s6pse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [26 M] of 2 yrs - what's going on in our relationship?", "post": "I'll try to keep it as short as possible. We both love and respect each other. He is a fun, smart guy and definitely smarter than me. I know that he loves me and sometimes he shows it. He respects me, makes me laugh and we usually have good times together. But for whatever reason he argues with me and proves me wrong all the time. And it's usually over trivial issues. Some times he says things that are not true and argues till i give up. He's good at words and some how makes me feel that I'm wrong. If i don't agree with him, he says i have some major ego issues and i need to work on it. If i don't agree with me again, he says i'm just proving his point. Because of this i have become anxious about what i say and do in front of him. Sometimes i feel guilty and avoid sharing my thoughts with him. Honestly this is eating me inside and have lost my peace of mind. What is going on in our relationship? what is wrong with me or my behavior? What is the solution for this (except breakup)?", "summary": "frequent fights for trivial issues. Not sure what's the real issue here?"}
{"id": "t3_24imsl", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Unsure of how to find a part time job for the summer. No luck so far", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm a 21 year old female and I can't seem to find a decent summer job.\n\nFor the past two summers, I worked at my community college where we had a learning assistance center where I tutored math through calculus. We were always swamped with people who needed help with their summer classes.\n\n However, when I transferred to a university in January, I lost my job. I tutor for my university currently, but it's individually based instead of hourly like my old job. I finished my semester last week and will start my spring classes that run three days a week from 9-11am.\n\nI fell into my first job because I was good at math and my school recruited me. I'm not sure how to go about looking for a part time summer job. I've applied for a bunch of part time nannying jobs on care.com with no luck. I know I will have to quit for fall semester because I have such a heavy course load.\n\nAny advice for looking for summer time work? I hold an Associate's degree in science. My current university doesnt have much to offer.", "summary": "I need a job for the summer but will have to quit for fall. Not sure where to look for that short time for work."}
{"id": "t3_1ep3jn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having sex with the front door open.", "post": "Left the bar and stopped at my GF's house. Her little sister was asleep, parents at work, little brother out. She was supposed to pick him at at 11, and it was only 10:20pm. So out of no where she starts fooling around with me, turns to a BJ, but I'm buzzed so I tell her I cant finish and she tells me just to fuck her. I do, right there on the couch. But since her sister was in the house too (and me being a drunk genius) decide to leave our clothe on to be safe. I pull her shorts and panties halfway down her legs, my cock was already out, but pants still on. We bang it out, her legs over my shoulders and I finished after about 5 minutes (intended quicky). I go to the bathroom and she heads to her bedroom. I come out, see her on her bed, and bone her again. But being drunk and just cumming less than 2 minutes before, I lost my hard on after about 5 minutes. We pack up and head back to living room, and she has a text from her brother \"You are dirty ;)\". yes a winky face! turns out he walked home early, saw us through the front door, dont know what happened next, but he waited until we went into her room to sneak downstairs to his room. She went down to talk to him and she asked him what he saw he said \"you on the couch\". I wouldnt be surprised if he stood there watching.", "summary": "Drunkenly boned girlfriend on her couch and her brother saw us, sent her a creepy text"}
{"id": "t3_1am8ee", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HALP! I want to get into comics but need suggestions.", "post": "So here's the deal Reddit, I LOVED the recently ended (my heart still aches) Young Justice series. Because of this I feel like I would really enjoy superhero comics if I was lead in the right direction. I really liked reading about each characters powers and their origin stories but that was all on Wikipedia. I want the real thing. Where should I start though? I tried reading an old Teen Titans comic a while back but got bored and distracted pretty easily. I know I would respond better to something more modern, sorry if that makes me a heretic :/. So anywho, any suggestions on a good place to start for a new comic book reader would be very appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "I'm new to comics but Young Justice is one of my all time favorite shows. What are some good comics for someone like me?"}
{"id": "t3_o7a9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your experiences in People Watching?", "post": "People watching as in observing people in public, but not being directly involved; in case I wasn't being clear.\n\nMine was at a Wal-Mart parking lot. I was keeping my eye on a security guard sitting in front of the store, because my friend left me in front of the store instead of parking while he went to do something quick. There was this guy about to smoke a cigarette and the security guard told him he would have to confiscate them. I didn't hear what the guy said, but he gave him the pack and went inside. The kicker is that as soon as the guy went inside ,the scumbag guard starts smoking the cigs he stole.", "summary": "Security guard steals cigarettes instead of asking to bum one"}
{"id": "t3_2r9pme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] just cannot seem to go NC with my [20M] ex. Weird situation", "post": "My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2-3 weeks ago, and I've been a mess ever since. Our relationship was never perfect; we both had a history of cheating on each other, and I knew part of the reason for our breakup was that he's been talking to another girl online recently.\n\nSince our breakup, he has agreed to hang out with me and we've had sex several times, but it hurts me each time we do. I go into things having the hope of us getting back together, but now it just seems like we're FWB. It's really been getting to me that he's broken up with me but continues to reply to my texts asking to hangout. I texted him earlier today asking what we are now to him, and if he ever wants to stop this weird post-relationship thing we have going on. All he said was \"I don't know. It's complicated.\". \n\nI know I would feel 100 times better if I just deleted his number and blocked him on Facebook, but when I have the opportunity to hang out with him and continue what we had, I feel like I'll just give in and contact him again. Any suggestions would be great, thanks.", "summary": "My ex hasn't really been acting like much of an ex. Still acts like we're in a relationship, but talks to another girl and won't get back together with me. I feel like I can't just block him out of my life forever."}
{"id": "t3_15uulc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "me(26f) OS (27m) New at reddit. Hard for me. Help, pls.", "post": "Here I am spinning with you, just out of a 3yr highly co-dependent, obsessive, draining, dramatic relationship.. in order for me to leave him I had to move states and break the news to him 1 week before  I made the arrangements. Event date Nov 21, 2012. \n\nThan, this happened 2 months later... Grandma sets me up on a blind date for New Years Eve 2012 with a man (Mr.NYE) she has been trying to set me up with for years.. So now I'm temporally staying with grandparents until I find a roommate and all the potential girls at the time were drunk whores... than Mr.NYE's roommate is moving out and we all decide that it would be better to live with him in a 2 bedroom house with my own room. So now we've been together ever since and it's a healthy, drama free (unless close to my period.. super emotional) relationship. He is wonderful and has heaps of hobbies, never lonely or needy! I can see a positive future with him!\n\nMy issue is: I'M THAT GIRL! Who has ALWAYS had a boyfriend and never been able to take time alone for myself+ the ridiculous childhood of a narcissistic dramatic mother, father MIA...BTW, Im in therapy, learning to allow myself truthful emotions...  I don't have a big enough backbone to stand up for myself. for fear of breaking another heart. \n\n I'm over here like... \"how the f**k did I get here, again!!!!\" \n\nI couldn't stay living with my gp bc of the driving distance to work and they live a very different lifestyle.  \n\nIs there anyone else out there like this??", "summary": "AM I cursed to always be in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ioxwk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Has a new location encouraged you to change your habits?", "post": "I've lived in the same city in LA for nearly 21 years (my whole life), and I'm seriously ready to gtfo. I have Colorado in mind; I've never been (I'm planning to soon), but I just feel like my heart will feel at home there. I've always been drawn to nature, serenity, and outdoor activities.\n\nThe problem is, I'm a shy home-body, almost a hermit. It's how I've grown up to be, and I want to change that. I've been living practically in the same spot my entire life, so I don't feel excited to try new things, get out and explore, or meet new people (it's incredibly hard where I live..everyone is out for themselves here). I don't feel encouraged by the city's energy and go-go-go mentality. I just feel trapped, and I hate the vibes here! I want to feel free and get away from the pollution, both physical and mental. I feel that if I move (and I might be idealizing this) I'll be forced outside of my comfort zone and thrown into a new place where I have every opportunity to explore and try new things. I know that change is internal and I have to make changes now and not rely/wait on moving to a new location.", "summary": "Has moving to a new location has helped you create better habits for yourself due to the new stimulating and inspirational energy of where you moved to?"}
{"id": "t3_knswx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a way to control your dreams?", "post": "Last night I was dreaming I was standing in line at a cafeteria. The guy in front of me is served 2 burger buns, and in between there's nothing but some kinda minced meat sauce. Like a lot of meat. Meat heaven.\nWhen it was my turn, I was told they didn't have any more meat..\n\nMy dream changes, and suddenly I'm playing soccer. Everyone is faster, bigger and better than me. My best friend starts yelling at me because I suck.\n\nIs there a way to control my dreams, or at least make my mind not hate me. I mean, it's my dream after all..", "summary": "My dreams sucks, can I improve them?"}
{"id": "t3_30a6vq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my girlfriend an embarrassing secret", "post": "So this was around midnight last night. I was extremely high, so was my girl. We start talking about something about childhoods baths and what not. Then I start telling her how one time I prepared myself a bath for the first time. I was really into bubbles so I added a lot of bubble soap and pretty much used half the bottle. So I left the bathroom for a second and came back seeing the tub was filled. I turn the water off and get in to realize that the water was maybe a few inches in the tub and the bubbles had filled to the top. My girlfriend is dying laughing and calls me an imbecile. She then texted to herself and me so she wouldn't forget today. I haven't herd the end of it yet.", "summary": "Not enough water. Too many bubble. Imbecile."}
{"id": "t3_38vgjf", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "New home = New aggression problems", "post": "Hello!\n\nI come to this sub in the hopes that i could get some help with my 1 year old Pitbull mix. Otis is a very friendly and loving dog. He gets along just fine with people and random people on the street during walks. At my old house he had a 7 year old chihuahua as a friend and for the most part they got along just fine. We would have the occasional problem with Otis being too big to play with the little chihuahua.\n\nWe moved to a new home this month so Otis had a lot of new things to get used to. One main thing is that now he has neighbor dogs to deal with. The people to the left of me have dachshund\\wiener dogs while the neighbors behind me have a pitbull and german shepard. \n\nI usually let Otis out every couple hours to get some fresh air and to run around. Recently he's been very aggressive towards the dachshunds and to be honest its kind of scary. He will bark and even bite at the fence as if hes pissed off. He WONT listen to any commands and when i put his leash on the fights me and tugs just so he can get back to the fence. As soon as he is back in the house he goes back to being the mellow friendly giant that he is. \n\nI don't want to have a bad impression with my new neighbors. Lately he will come out back and try to say hello and be causal with otis. He's a nice guy so i would have to have problems later on down the road. \n\nWhere should I go from here? should I speak to a vet about neutering him? Should i seek professional help? I'm not one to give up on a dog so i just want to see if there are options. I'd appreciate any help or advice!", "summary": "New home and my pitbull gets very aggressive with dogs on other side of the fence. He WONT obey to any commands and tugs and pulls when tried to move away. looking for advice"}
{"id": "t3_43alar", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mixing alcohol and poor facial recognition", "post": "This actually happened my freshman year of college, but my friend (let's call him \"Chris\") brought it up today. I had been pledging a fraternity with Chris around this time, but he had quit to focus on schoolwork shortly prior to this particular evening. One night, Chris and I stepped outside of a house party to each smoke a cigarette. A guy a bit older than me asked for a light of his smoke and proceeded to ask me how I was doing. I was attending a large university and since the odds of running into the same person more than once were relatively low, I'd made a habit of making up outrageous lies whenever I went out drinking. In response to the guy, I replied, \"Not good.. I just found out my girlfriend was pregnant.\" This was something I'd made up on the spot, and was much more serious than the yarns I'd normally spin. He expressed his sympathy and walked back inside. Regretful, even in my inebriated state, Chris then asked me, \"Why did you do that? That guy is in your frat.\" My face turned pale and I ran to the door to try and explain myself, but the party had been closing down and no more people were allowed inside. I immediately realized that this party was at *his* house, and he asked me how I was doing because he recognized me as a pledge. After getting home that night, I tried to find him on Facebook and sent a message explaining my actions. The morning after, I received a response saying, \"I think you've got the wrong guy.\" Turns out, I'd messaged this entire story to a different guy in the frat who looked like him. I had waning interest in pledging ever since Chris dropped out (plus the first dues were coming up shortly), and decided to quit pledging after this event. I wondered for the rest of the year if this guy thought I'd quit to spend more time with my baby.", "summary": "Got drunk, made up a lie that I knocked up my girlfriend to someone (unknowingly) in the frat I was pledging. Apologized to the wrong person (someone else in the frat) and quit pledging thereafter."}
{"id": "t3_2neodk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost dying from a marijuana overdose.", "post": "As with most, not today. My mother is a medical marijuana patient for her seizures. One of her friends makes cannabutter on a regular basis (which can destroy even the most seasoned user). He gave my mom a 1 lb tub of it, which she never used (she prefers dabs). Since I don't like sweets and I'm lazy, I would just take a spoonful of the stuff whenever I felt like it.\n\nAnyways, I just got home from a particularly annoying day of work and decided to take a dollop of the stuff. But not just any dollop. I take a spoonful approximately ~4 tablespoons. I shove it in my mouth and swallow...uh oh....shit... I didn't realize how large of a spoonful I took and the butter is frozen. I start to choke. The bite I took was by far bigger than my esophagus and painfully stuck. All I could think of was how I was home alone. Fuck. I'm going to be the first one to die from a marijuana overdose. I tried to calm myself but I had exhaled just before I tried swallowing. Luckily I was able to hold myself together and gasped as the butter finally melted enough to force it down.\n\nI lived, but I was a little paranoid the next day when I realized I was still high as fuck at work.", "summary": "Choked on frozen pot butter while home alone. "}
{"id": "t3_4imhvh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my [27 M] coworker, he's helped me a lot, I don't know how to thank him without it seeming weird", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm not sure if this is even the right subreddit to post, but if it's not, feel free to message me where to go and I can post it there instead.\n\nAnyways, I recently graduated college about 10 months ago and got a job in New York City. However, due to telepresence and video capabilities, I work with other co-workers who are located in Texas. \n\nOne of my coworkers, we'll call him Derrik has been instrumental in helping me learn everything I need to learn at my job, even though it's not particularly his responsibility in teaching me everything. He always hosts online sessions with me and I can always call and ask for help at any given time.  He is always readily available for me, even at times when he's busy doing his own thing. He is super patient and super helpful. I've been incredibly slow in learning everything so I really appreciate him really taking the time to explain all the things I want to know. \n\nMy company is flying me out to Texas to meet the team now. And I want to say thanks to my co-worker after I meet him in person for all he's helped me with.\n\nI was just thinking of giving him a thank you card, but don't want to be creepy or anything or make it seem like I'm hitting on him? ... I'm not sure if that is weird or not. Any other gift thoughts? He's helped me a lot, so I'm not sure if a simple thank you would be enough.. but maybe it would? Maybe chocolate?", "summary": "how to not appear weird but still be thankful"}
{"id": "t3_32rlhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] I can't feel comfortable around women unless I don't care", "post": "Alright, so to put it simply I get very nervous around women, especially the attractive ones that I want to have a shot with. I tend to be way too shy and I have little to no confidence around them. This is in part due to the fact that I have had only 1 girlfriend my entire life (3 month relationship 3 years ago, got nowhere past just kissing) and that I have really not had much female attention in my life. \n\nThe best way to explain my issue is that when I am around someone I know I have no shot at or someone I have no interest in, I am my 100% authentic self and I can really open up and express myself, and they love it. On a few occasions, some girls who I really expressed no interest in pursuing relationships with turned out to like me (which is frustrating, because I wish I had that charm around the ones I want to get with). The problem is, I can only be confident/comfortable around women who I don't want to get with or who I think are too far out of my league. What can I do to help muster up a little confidence (or even \"lack of caring\", if you want to call it that) when I'm around the attractive ladies who I am interested in? Thank you.", "summary": "I lack all confidence around women who I find attractive/want to be with, and I have all the confidence around the ones who I do not want to get with. How can I change this so that I'm being my true self around the ones I want to impress?"}
{"id": "t3_2gbdxe", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Separation anxiety - possibly scarred for life", "post": "I signed my 2 year 11 month old daughter up for dance. The studio has a no parents in the room policy. Anyway, lessons started for the first time this morning and the other 7 girls (probably more 4-5) had no problems listening to the teacher and being away from their parents. I held my kids hand as we walked into the studio and tried to reassure her, very calmly, that I would be right outside. So once they got underway I left, closed the door, and sat outside in the waiting area. She. Was. Screaming. Like desperation crying - very, very stressed. I figured maybe the teachers would calmly take their time to coax her into joining them, but I'm not sure that happened (no clue). She cried for a good 5-8 minutes before I went in and decided to take her out. \n\nA.) did I traumatize her forever?\nB.) should I have left her in the classroom?\nC.) separation anxiety is normal at ~3 right? (I honestly thought she would be fine - she's a very friendly child).\n\nAlso,", "summary": "if you leave a kid in a scary situation without rescuing them, does t scar them for life?"}
{"id": "t3_1u6tog", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of reddit, what is the best advice you can give a girl who just got out of a long term relationship.", "post": "To clarify, a friend of mine recently found out her man didn't want to be with her anymore when she caught him facebooking other girls and saying so. They have been together for over 6 years. She kicked him to the curb and as much as I want to help, I know my advice doesn't work for everyone. Plus I've been out of the game for five years now. \n\nMy advice was to date like a bro. Don't wait by the phone, when you make plans follow through with them even when they don't respond soon enough to go to your plans. Do things by yourself and don't cancel your me time just for a man. \n\nMy friend doesn't have a reddit account so I to her I'd post for advice. Reddit, hear my plea and help my friend!", "summary": "OP doesn't know how to help her friend with dating again after a 6+ year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1k86pg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] (low libido/not a fan of sex) keep losing relationships.", "post": "As the title says, my libido is very low. I also just don't like sex, masturbating feels much better for me, not to mention that it is much less time consuming. \n\nEvery girl I've dated has broken up with me because they wanted sex more than once every week or two. \n\nWhat I want to know is how can I get a feel for the sex drive of a girl I go on a date with before we start getting more serious? Is it acceptable for me to flat out ask how often she likes to have sex? \n\nWhat I currently do is I ask kind of related questions like how often she goes to parties and if she drinks a lot or smokes. I find that there is usually a strong correlation between a person's sex drive and how often they do those aforementioned activities. \n\nHowever, this doesn't usually work because it seems like the girls I go on a date with want me to like them and they can sense that I'm more of a \"good boy\" so they lie and tell me they barely do those things.", "summary": "How can I find out from a first date the libido of the girl I'm on the date with? I hate losing relationships due to mismatched libidos. I hate finding out a month or two into the relationship that we are not sexually compatible."}
{"id": "t3_escrt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fellow \"Forever Alone\" ladies? Are you out there?", "post": "Most of the \"forever alone\" posts seem to be from guys, some to the effect of BAWW BAWW BAWWW WOMEN ARE CRAZY BITCHES WHY DON'T THEY LOVE ME. But what about us girls who feel similarly? I'm intelligent, funny, smart, reasonably attractive, but have never had a boyfriend. I've been on one date. I asked him out, thought things went reasonably well, and when it was all over I was going in for a nice goodnight and he said, \"Oh. My parents are here. See ya Monday. Bye.\" I walked to my car. By myself. In the snow. I felt embarrassed for weeks after that.\n\nI'm closing in on 19. Yeah, there are guys I like, but they seem oblivious to my appeals. What's the deal?", "summary": "all the single ladies, putcha hands up, and commiserate."}
{"id": "t3_1bej9h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My(f 27) best friend (f 26) had sex with my ex (m 28) and now is mad at me for not being supportive of her while she goes through a divorce.", "post": "My best friend had sex with my ex-boyfriend of over a year. We broke up over a year ago and I am extremely happy with my current boyfriend. I'm over the shock and I've moved on from the ex but what I can't get past is that she is angry at me for 'not being supportive' while she goes through a divorce.  Her logic is that she only did it because she is vulnerable and lonely right now so I should be happy she is moving on. She doesn't even see why I would be annoyed at her because what she did is her business and she didn't even have to tell me.\n \nAbout 8 years ago when we were teenagers  she had cybersex with my first love which is what broke us up. It is fair to say we had some baseline trust issues but I thought she definitely learned her lesson. Now that she slept with my ex and is infuriated at me for not liking it - I feel like she doesn't deserve my friendship. Or at least not in the same capacity as before. People make mistakes and I can forgive that she did it but she doesn't even think she owes me an apology. She's even calling me a shitty friend for being annoyed and grossed out by the whole thing. Am I so wrong to think she owes me an apology if we are to continue to be friends?", "summary": "best friend of 20 years slept with my exbf of a year. I am over the betrayal and am ready to move on but she doesn't think she did anything wrong. Not only that but she is infuriated that I am not accepting of what she did. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_48ze1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've lost the love of my life.", "post": "Truth is, that I'm not coping at all. He ended it, just short of being together a year, completely out of the blue for me, and it has crushed me ever since. I haven't eaten for 4 days, and I just don't care for my life anymore. In a matter of days I have gone from a bubbly girl [19], doing everything she could to succeed at uni, to a wreck, who can't even bring herself to look in the mirror.\n\n Without him [19], I feel like nothing. After my restless nights, I always wake up to the dread and realisation that it is all over. I want him back but I don't know how, and I just don't understand why this all happened. 2 weeks ago we would have just finished having our most passionate sex for a long time.", "summary": "I just feel used now. The night before he ended it, he told me he loved me, less than 24 hours later, he expected me to just be okay with it. "}
{"id": "t3_4awngz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M17) need advice on asking out a girl with severe social anxiety (F17)", "post": "A little backstory, I am a high school senior that had to switch from public school to a home school program because of family reasons, and I generally don't get to meet new people so I asked a (female) friend of mine who is a bit of a social butterfly if she could point me in the direction of some fun people to talk to. One of the people she recommended (based off of my interests) was a girl who doesn't have many friends and suffers from social anxiety (doesn't like going out or generally feel comfortable around people)\n\nAnyways, i messaged this girl, lets call her kate, and we've been talking for about a week. We have very similar tastes, mostly in books, fairly obscure \"underground\" music, and the sciences. We're (in my view) hitting it off quite well, she messages me after school if i don't get to her first, is generally very quick to respond, funny, kind, thoughtful. i got her phone number. \n\nMoving to the main point, I am interested in possibly forming a relationship with her, but I don't quite know exactly how to go about it. I asked our mutual friend, and she said she'd only had one boyfriend in her freshman year who got bored with her and left her for a different girl, she also said that she had no idea how she would react if i asked her out, and was kinda protective of her.\n(For backstories sake I also have not dated since my freshman year).\n\nAnyways (again) I want to ask her out, but i don't know what to say to her at all. I'm not super obsessed or anything, i just think she's sweet and it's very rare for me to find anyone who shares even a few of my tastes, and would love to get to know her better, but I don't want to wait too long to the point where she just sees me as a friend and I make her think I was being dishonest with my intentions the entire time.", "summary": "I want to ask out a girl I've been texting for a week that has social anxiety but I don't know how to go about it*"}
{"id": "t3_4n03y7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23M] tends to point out my [25M] flaws", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nThis is my first post here - I actually made this account because I wanted to hear people's thoughts on this. \n\nI've been dating my boyfriend for only about 2.5 months, and he seems like a great guy with a good head on his shoulders. He likes to have deep conversations about who we are and what we value, which I appreciate because I'm pretty self-reflective too. \n\nOne thing I've noticed is that he tends to point out things I do that I consider to be flaws. This has happened a few times. He says things like \"I notice that you sometimes need approval from me before doing something\" or \"you seem like a people pleaser\". Now, I know these things about myself, but I also don't like them and I want to work on them. Last night he brought up another one (the people pleaser one) and I talked to him about it, but he didn't seem to mind bringing these things up. He says he doesn't judge me for it, but then why did he bring it up?\n\nI know a lot of this has to do with my own discomfort about my flaws and someone seeing them. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience? I'm feeling pretty awful about it, and I feel like it would be helpful even to just know that I'm not alone in experiencing this.", "summary": "My boyfriend seems to point out my flaws a fair bit, and even though he says he doesn't judge me, it's making me feel awful. Anyone else experienced this?"}
{"id": "t3_1nv2ca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to forget about something my (19F) mom (52) did.", "post": "A few days back I got sick and threw up in a parking lot. As if that weren't embarrassing enough, my mom starts acting exasperated with me. \"Mom, I'm going to throw up.\" \"Oh come on!\" and \"Oh my god, really?!\" I could understand if she was upset because it was in her car or something, but it wasn't. Out of all the times she has been exasperated with me in my 19 years of life, this is most definitely the least appropriate. It was really embarrassing and hurtful that she didn't seem the least bit concerned. How do I talk to her about this?", "summary": "Mom was exasperated with me because I got sick."}
{"id": "t3_yyasq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need some advice", "post": "A little background  ever since I was little I was always the fat kid who could probably run faster than you.  I've always been into sports  but stayed chubby.  I guess I was never motivated to do anything about losing the fat until I decided to join a soccer team.  After a year I had changed so much I felt good even with the little gut I had. It didn't last long though :( It all went downhill again when I hurt my knee.  I wasn't able to run without a pulsating pain going through my knee.  I tried to work through the pain but  had given up and fell into depression.  I went to physical therapy and it helped out but now I can't seem to find the motivation to do something.  I'll always waste my time and when it's too late say ughhh I'll do it tomorrow in the morning, hit the snooze button in the morning and say i'll do it in the evening and well you know .", "summary": "Have always been bigger, lost some weight, messed up knee, got bigger again,knee got better but I have no motivation anymore HELP ME."}
{"id": "t3_1z1fl0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I feel horrible, any advice?", "post": "I have no friends. My closest relationships are to my dad, who lives far away, and my boyfriend. I don't feel comfortable around other females so I rarely talk to them, even my own mother or sister (with whom I live).These are all the people I have, and my boyfriend listens to everything I have to say. I have panic attacks when I don't know where he is. I get bitchy when he has other plans. I don't want to be this way. But deep down, I feel like no one cares. Sometimes I just want to die. I feel like some fucked up pathetic blip in existence that wasn't meant to be, and life would be better if no one had to see me anymore.\nNow that you all know how I feel, has anyone else been here? How can I feel happier about myself and life? I want to feel like in here for a reason, and that people don't hate me.", "summary": "I feel horrible about myself, how can I get better?"}
{"id": "t3_1buu7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(19M) like my friend (22F) who is thinking of breaking up with her boyfriend.", "post": "Btw, Sorry for using a throw away, the girl in question knows my main account.\n\nHi, I (19M) am quite attracted to my best friend (22F), but before now there hasn't ever been any time that i could really do anything about it and not be an asshole (because she has had a boyfriend).\nBackstory: 2 years ago, she was my boss when we used to work together. We didnt really become out of work friends until after i quit that job.\nThen last spring, we really hit it off and became extremely close. We would hangout, go to clubs, ect (at this time she had a fairly new boyfriend)\nOne night after we went to a club, on her way home at 3:30 AM she got into a bad car accident and was rushed to the hospital. I was the only person she called from the ambulance. So i run to the hospital and stay the next 2 days with her until she was discharged. During this time, her boyfriend came for about 2 hours, and her grandmother for about 4 hours. After she was discharged, she moved in with her boyfriend of ~2 weeks because she had no car to go to / from work.\nAbout 2 months pass and she tells me she plans on breaking up with her boyfriend when he leaves for college out of state (3 hour drive away) because she is looking for a long term relationship, and she cant do that with someone she cant hold a conversation with. But alas, she remains with him.\nI get a job with her again, he moves back here, she moves out. Then about a week ago she was telling me how she really wants to break up with him, but one of the things holding her back is that he wouldn't take it well... but she has a LOT of things that she hates about him.\nOverall, my end goal is to end up dating her and i'm looking for advice on how to move forward.", "summary": "I(19M) like my best friend(22F), but i have made no advances due to her having a boyfriend. but its looking like she wont be dating him for much longer. How should i move forward?"}
{"id": "t3_iev5b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the worst you've ever screwed up when trying to impress someone?", "post": "I'll start. I went to meet this girl, beautiful, smart, funny, ect. we agreed on a time and place, and even both showed up early, but sat at separate table for a good 30 minutes, I even saw her friend walk in after a while, which kinda clued me in that something was up. Anywho, a few minutes later, I see her and her friend heading out of the restaurant, so I flag them down. Awkward moment #1 my stomach does a back-flip.  I feel like an idiot so I start to clam up a little bit, I but stay calm enough to continue the conversation. Eventually it comes up that she is doing some essays for the peace corps. I've known this gorl for a while, I consider it big news, she makes a joke and keeps talking. At this point my brain is racing, but on a completely lateral line of thought, the conversation has a lull, and I'm asked to speak up a little. Kinda went deer in headlights, after a few minutes of awkwardness her friend leaves. My stomach decides to get a little crazy and goes for the triple somersault. I hold it for a second, but barely say anything. minutes later, I throw up in my mouth. Thinking on my feet, I swallow it. She notices (duh) and excuses me from the table, I stand, walk to the door, and puke all over the ground. Feeling like the worlds largest idiot, I make my way to the bathroom, I actually coughed a few chunks up while walking past another table. Clean up, make my way back out, feeling like shit, I'm in an even less talkative mood, pretty much saying little more then sorry about the puking, and mention a bug I might have gotten, which may or may not be true. she says, oh looks it's 2, gotta jet. maybe things will go better next time", "summary": "showed up for lunch with an old flame, sat in opposite sides of the restaurant 'till she left (and had called a friend for company) then blew chunks all over the place"}
{"id": "t3_49f8es", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [29 F] 5 years, doesn't like my girlfriend and thinks she's trying to steal me away from her.", "post": "Me and my wife have a successful open relationship lots of communication. If we have a problem we talk until we can resolve it nothing gets left in the air at all.\n\nOur open relationship has the following rules.\n\n\u2022no family members or close friends\n\n\u2022we can only have one other partner not multiple ones we tried that and almost forgot about each other.\n\n\u2022if we don't like the other partner for a physical feature E.g big breasts bigger dick better ass. To talk about it and not hold on to that jealousy.\n\n\u2022to always be open with one another.\n\nIt's pretty good and we are both happy she has a boyfriend of 5 months and I have a girlfriend of 2 years. My girlfriend (Natasha) physically has a better body(I love my wife's body too) she has a firm butt and bigger breasts and nice body.\n\nShe is very sweet and always kind to my wife when she sees her and I love it. I love both of them equally and would never make my girlfriend a priority over my Wife.\n\nMy wife came to me the other day and was blunt and asked me to stop seeing Natasha. I was shocked and asked why? Her reason.\n\nI was getting to use to Natasha and her physical appearance and if we broke up sex wouldn't be the same with her(wife). She also said that she has noticed that recently Natasha's attitude around me and become more possessive.\n\nShe said that if this can't happen than we may need a divorce over it. I have no idea what to do she doesn't even want to talk about it what should I do", "summary": "my wife wants me to leave my girlfriend because of her physical appearance."}
{"id": "t3_4thx3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21 M) am not sure where I stand with this girl (27F)I've been smoking weed and sleeping (like literally just sleeping) with.", "post": "I asked her out awhile ago and she said yes, I kinda got the vibe she didn't take me seriously because of the age difference, but the first time we hung out we smoked and drank, and slept in the same bed. The only mixed feelings I got from that was she slept and walked around half naked in front of me. But again because of the age difference, I didn't think much of it. We had plans to hang out a couple more times but she kept flaking and seemed a little distant so I decided to give up, take a hint and quit talking to her. \n\nAfter about a week of not talking I saw her Friday and she was flirty and touchy with me. She asked me to hang out and we did the same thing has the first time. When we were going to sleep she kept getting closer to me but I didn't make a move, well in the morning she initiated cuddling with me and kept shoving her ass into my boner. I had to leave and she asked what we were gonna do on our days off, and I said I'll let you know later. How should I proceed? I still don't know if she likes me because of the age difference and how she acted after we first hung out until I quit showing interest and then she started doing these things. Am I overthinking this all?", "summary": "I can't tell if an older girl likes me, went from being distant to cuddling half naked with her ass against my dick after I quit showing interest."}
{"id": "t3_29w9br", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend of 2 years [17 F] absolutely crushed, need advice on how to control feelings and cope with the hurt.", "post": "So last week I met up with my now ex-girlfriend for what would've been a usual visit, we talk a lot and she ends up breaking up with me for reasons in which I still do not understand. We had been dating in what I thought was the perfect relationship for two years and I honestly thought we were going to be together forever and right now, I do not know what to do with myself, she was my everything and still is. \n\nI don't really know what to with myself now as no one I know has been in this situation and I would love for you all to be able to give me some advice to help cope with the pain.", "summary": "2 year relationship, heartbroken, need advice on how to cope with pain."}
{"id": "t3_2syr9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Insecurity/anxiety caused by non-exlusive dating?", "post": "I'm a 30-year-old man. When I meet a new woman and we start hanging out/dating, I'm always overwhelmed with insecurity and anxiety knowing that she's seeing other guys too. The current example is with a 23/F that I met on Match.com. We've had three great dates, text, Snapchat, etc. pretty often, and still get along well, but I know she's going on dates with other guys and this bothers me (although I know it shouldn't). I, too, am going on other dates, but seeing as this girl is incredibly beautiful and the online dating game is skewed in favor of women, I feel like it's inevitable that she'll meet someone better than me and lose interest in me. Has anyone else experienced this? If so, what's the best way to deal with these emotions so I don't ruin what could potentially be a good thing?", "summary": "Non-exclusive dating causes me insecurity and anxiety, and I'm looking for ways in which to reduce these negative emotions."}
{"id": "t3_4qjq81", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Fucked up my first year of college, how can I fix it?", "post": "After I graduated highschool, I made it very clear to my family that I wanted to take a year off since I moved from North Carolina to Maryland during the summer. Unfortunately, they all argued and said that it wasn't the right choice. I wasn't able to visit my school until the end of July, so I didn't realize that there was more paperwork to be done through the school. (The deadline is pretty much past this point. So whenever they awarded me would've been after the semester started.) As I'm finishing the final papers for my school to receive how much I was awarded, I fucked up because of my parents marital status. I never knew they were \"officially\" separated until now. (Parents lived together for my whole life so I just assumed they filed their taxes as married and I just so happened to be only under my mom, while my siblings were under my dad. So I had my dad sign one of the papers when really, I needed my mom's.) Anyway, because of my timid personality and with no motivation of going to school, I just flat-out refused to go to the Financial Aid office to fix the situation asap at my school because they were pretty mean and miserable. (Still not a good excuse.) \n\nFast forward, I had fun during the time I took the semester off. I've matured a lot since then, and I'm in the mindset where I'm ready to tackle my studies. I was able to fix 2015-2016 FAFSA before the year ended. On top of that, I was able to finish my 2016-2017 as well. So I'll be receiving both aids probably after Fall semester.", "summary": "Here comes the tricky part, for Fall 2015, I owe about 6k to my school. Because of that, I used it as an excuse not to take any classes for Spring 2016 due to the fact that I couldn't register until I paid most of it off. But I prolonged fixing my 2015-2016's financial aid that I won't be able to start Fall 2016 until I pay off for Fall 2015. I don't think my school will give me a federal loan since it's past the fall semester. My only hope now is to take out a private loan. "}
{"id": "t3_339dch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have trouble communicating with my [23F] SO", "post": "We've been together almost 5 years, and both close to graduating undergrad (both plan on pursuing higher ed). \n\nWe've had more highs than I can count, but a good amount of lows too. Most of those are due to the fact that a lot of time when we have serious discussions (like issues with the relationship or sometimes if she is just trying to correct me on something) I usually freeze up, stonewall, or I get extremely nervous and stop being productive in the conversation. She can always tell when I'm getting upset and when she'll ask me if she said something that upset me or if something else was bothering me. I'll always say no, or I'm just anxious but not that bad, and then when we talk about it later she was right. I bury my feelings a lot and am scared of confrontation with almost anyone. \n\nI'm also really bad at introspection to begin with, like really bad. I think in my upbringing my family never *dealt* with issues and I didn't see my parents too much. I spent most of my free time with the same equally awful friends. Growing up I didn't learn how to sit with my emotions and have productive conversations with people. I'd just remove myself and sit in silence until they were finished talking so everything would go back to normal. \n\nWe've had this issues more times than I can count and I desperately want to stop this immature behavior. I know it's wrong, yet every time I start to get anxious I end up repeating the same behavior. It usually takes us all night, if not a day or two, to finish talking about issues. Even so, that behavior usually reverts back after a few days.  \n\nI know I'm in the wrong here. I finally believe I'm starting to get a grip on myself, and I know I probably need therapy, but I just want to be able to communicate with my partner. I'm trying to find a way to show my SO because we've tried talking this matter to death.", "summary": "I'm trying to find a way to show my SO I care about our issues and I'm making an attempt to communicate with her and stop withdrawing all the time."}
{"id": "t3_hg77i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to stop drinking while in college?", "post": "Hey AskReddit!\n\nSo I need some help:  I go to a rather major \"party\" school (not the reason I'm at the school, at all) and would like to find alternative outlets besides drinking.  It's easy enough to say \"don't drink\", but then when I go to parties or clubs, they're incredibly boring and at all fun.  \n\nHowever, when I stop attending parties and going to clubs, I'm left with nothing to do on weekend nights and fewer ways to interact with friends.  I realize a lifestyle change must be a major part, but am not sure of how else to interact with friends.\n\nAny advice on how actually stop drinking?\n\nNote:  I do plenty of extracurriculars (weightlifting, bjj, kickboxing, engineering clubs, etc.) but those typically are during daylight hours and I don't hang out with most of the people from those clubs outside of the activity itself.  Also, though I've considered smoking instead, I don't smoke weed and really don't plan on starting. :)\n\nThanks all! :)", "summary": "How to stop drinking in college while still having fun with friends and staying social?"}
{"id": "t3_4mzack", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Eff my feelings for anything forever.", "post": "Yesterday I admitted my feelings, my real feelings for my best friend (M). They've been there for awhile, hidden under a veil of 'we're BFF' or 'we're bros'.\n\nI was shot down via the 'I don't want to ruin the friendship' line. Went to the store, bought cheap Canadian whiskey in attempts to forget about it. He decided to check back up on me later in the day via text/computer. It escalated into an argument that then spilled onto my social media. Did not end well at all. Do I regret it? I mean, I was telling the truth....\n\nDecided to deactivate my Facebook, posted awkward \"bbl maybe maybe not\" posts on the other places. Took my Lexapro today, but, I know there's not much else stopping me from a line of self destruction of who knows how much, aside from mentally I feel like crap and I have a crap of a raging hangover lingering. \n\nNot that I have much else to focus on, I mean, I work at home as a freelancer (can't find a \"real\" job that works with my social anxiety/depression), I'm still reeling from getting rejected from graduate schools a few weeks ago, and I'm otherwise a person as cold as ice and totally socially inept.", "summary": "16 years of a friendship went kerblam in an evening over feelings, it's all my fault. Digging that hole deeper and probably gonna bury myself in it. Meh."}
{"id": "t3_4ttdrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my [31M] Boyfriend of 3 years. I found out he was messaging girls on facebook that I have never heard of. Am I overreacting or should I worry?", "post": "Long story short, he left his facebook open when he went to shower and I had a weird feeling so I looked at his recent messages. \n\nHe was messaging a lady I had never heard the name of. They didnt say anything explicit, but were being pretty flirty with each other, and it is worrying me. I am worried because never did he mention me to the other women, and I have never heard of this girl.\n\nWeve been having a rough patch, and thats when he seemed to message them the most. I confronted him and he blew me off saying that there was nothing to worry about. Since were in a rough patch, its making me worry even more than it usually would. \n\nI feel guilty that I went through his messages without asking, but I also feel like my bad feeling was validated by seeing this. They even swapped numbers and talked about how they should hang out soon.", "summary": "looked through my bfs fb messages. he was flirty with other girls and denys wrong-doing but im worried still and don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_49eklh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my crush [23 M] does he like me. [UPDATE]", "post": "original post.\n\nOne person asked me to update even though my last post didn't get attention.\n\nI asked him out and he said yes so we went on a date and he took me to a nice spot on the beach. I put on the barrette and a nice dress and did my hair I thanked him for remaking it for me.\n\nWe talked more and I thanked him for being a good friend to me and always being there for me. And then we kissed it was great it felt like all the butterfly's in my stomach exploded with excitement.\n\nWe are going out tomorrow and I can't wait it's like this day will never end. I'm really happy but I don't want to take things fast or scare him off so I'm going to go slow.\n\nBut that's the update don't know if anyone will read this but if you do hi.", "summary": "we went out and it was amazing."}
{"id": "t3_34hn0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[34M] Just confirmed girlfriend [24F] cheated on me, but owes me a lot of money. Already broken up, should I confront?", "post": "3 year relationship. She was unemployed for almost a year. Within that year her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I supported her financially and emotionally for so long. We were splitting a lease in which I paid her half to the tune of 12k. She gave me her word she would pay me back (over a few years). After being on break for 6 months and and broken up for 2 months, I discovered she ordered some s&m products on a shared Amazon account. I ignored it and shut myself out of the account bc we were broken up it was't my business . Today I got confirmation from a mutual friend that she was getting into kink with a married guy, whom I assumed was just a friend. I had been on the path to moving on until I got this news. I desperately want to know if she was faithful before the break. During the break is a gray area, but still sh!tty if it started then (we still lived together, but she was always on the road as a flight attendant). I gave her the benefit of the doubt before because her mom is sick, I was going to be cordial through her grief. Now after hearing this, it's just about recouping the money.\n\nDo I confront her? Do I tell the guy's wife? Do I punch the dude's lights out? If I don't confront, I could anguish with  trust issues for years. On the other hand, if I blow this up, I could wave good bye to the 12k bc I have no legal recourse to the money. \n\nOh, and we have dog. Since the break up, we've had no contact except to coordinate her visiting the dog. Now I'm considering cutting off visitation bc I'm disgusted, but I have to be civil if I want this money back.", "summary": "Stuck between a rock and a hard place here."}
{"id": "t3_18o3sl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The doctor found a lump in my breast and ever since then my boyfriend's been an emotional wreck.", "post": "A few days ago, I went to the doctor for my yearly physical and various exams.  It turns out, I have a lump in my breast.  Chances are, it's nothing but the doctor's doing everything she can to make absolutely sure.   \n\nI didn't want to tell my boyfriend (M27) of two years because I (F27) didn't want to worry him since it could be nothing.  But I told him anyway because I knew it was the right thing to do.  \n\nSo I sat him down and told him what was going on and his eyes starting welling up with tears and then he just hugged me and wouldn't let go.  It's the first time I've ever seen him cry... It really affected me.  \n\nHe's always been my rock and has always been the person people run to when they need help.  But he's not taking this well at all.  He's pretending to be okay but I can tell he's freaking out on the inside.\n\nIt's like his OCD has kicked into overdrive.  He's constantly cleaning.  He has barely eaten anything the last couple of days, he's been really clingy, and he has probably told me that he loves me at least 10 times today.\n\nHow do I calm him down?  It's not the end of the world.  It's more likely than not that the lump is just a cyst.  \n\nHe lost a family member to breast cancer awhile back ago and I'm sure this is what's fueling the fire.  \n\nAny suggestions on how to talk to him?  He's pretending to be fine but I know him better than anybody and I can tell that he's struggling.", "summary": "Pretty much the same thing as was written in the title."}
{"id": "t3_2sz79o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My new girlfriend [27F] seems to have two sides. One is the person I love and the other one is hurting me constantly. What should I [27m] do?", "post": "To start things off. We both met using an online dating platform a couple of weeks ago and had a great time so far. She's student and I have recently graduated/working now. \n\nWhat is starting to bother me a lot is that she has strange days where she only thinks about problems in her life and acts totally different. Moreover it is impossible for me to make her feel better when feels down although I'm really trying to. \n\nLet's take the last week as an example. We've met nearly every day, cooked together, had great nights and a wonderful time. At Friday she began working on a 10min presentation for university. I've been very helpful and used my whole Saturday to read texts with her and discuss things/prepare the presentation (since I expected something already) . I had prepared awesome pizza, bought ice cream so she could relax at night and make her feel good.\n\nNonetheless she was a total wreck on Sunday and kept talking all day long about that she will fail the presentation and everything is bad and her life is messy and she had a shit week (what made me feel hurt the most). She left my apartment and didn't answer me for the day. This happened a couple of times with different issues already. \n\nI like her a lot, she's lovely, smart and what I'm looking for. I just can't understand her two sides. Tonight she told me that she after she graduates (in a couple of months) she wants to leave this city immediately because everyone and everything is bad here. Before she told me that I'm great and she's in love with me and wants to be with me. I'm not sure if she is the same person when she's saying these things, or if she still knows that I'm existing. \n\nWhen I'm telling her that I feel hurt she usually says she is really sorry and acts normal / shows me her good side again.", "summary": "New girlfriend seems to have two sides, one of which is lovely and nice, and the other one has a really negative attitude towards life and me. I want to understand and help her / continue being together with her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4zc6bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can my(M) (21) girlfriend (20) be forgived after lying to me?", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months. Things have been great, and we are getting pretty serious with each other. However, she has has told me the longest relationship shes been in has been one month. She claims to not have the best luck in dating guys. She also mentioned that she never told any guy she loves him and that she never send naked pictures of herself to anyone. Yesterday, I was playing on her ipad when I saw the messenger app filled with some new messages. Turns out they were messages from years ago. Not sure how Ipad works when it comes to linking phones, she probably never updated it. But the first thing I see is a naked picture of herself sent to a guy named Luis two years ago. Then, it was followed by a bunch of \"I love you's\". Reading through the messages, I learned they were together for six months. So, why would she lie about all of that? When I confronted her, she cried and apologized for about an hour because she knows I have trust issues from previous relationships and my trust in her is seriously rocky. I know every dark secret in her family and everything shes ever been through. She claims that she went through an accident that year she was with this guy, and suffered from amnesia and a concussion. She claims she barely remembered that year and she didn't mean to intentionally lie to me. I don't know at this point if this story is true or not. When I asked her about the messages, first she got defensive and played the guilt card about me snooping, which I admit is wrong. Then, after crying and apologizing, she told me about the accident,that she did not know she was lying, and that she simply did not remember that year until I \"triggered\" it. Can someone really forget that much of their life? Is she trying to make up for the fact that she was lying? Can I trust her?Did she know she was lying or did she really forget that time of her life?", "summary": "Girlfriend caught lying to me about previous relationship, claims an incident caused her amnesia and that she forgot."}
{"id": "t3_3mvwtw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Need advice to tell shy girl how i feel.", "post": "Hi. This is a throwaway because she is using reddit. So just a precaution.\nI am having the trouble. I have gotten crazy with a girl i have known for about a month, and i need help to deal with my feelings.\n\nBoth mid twenties, me a few years older.\n\nThe thing is. She has a Boyfriend, who lives in another country, and only sees him 1-2 times pr year. They have been together for a few years, and i doubt its THAT serious, since she already told me that she wasn't certain she would be with him if she got feelings for another guy.\n\nWell. I already have been to her place, and she has been at mine. We have just talked and hanged out, but already talked really deep, shared secrets and stuff, and have a really good connection. So i guess thats why my feelings already is so strong for her.\n\nThe thing is. She is very shy, and has a bit(not that much) of anxiety, so i am kinda afraid of telling her my feelings already in case it would make her uncomfortable, but i have had bad experience with keeping it away(they usually bottle up and come out in a bad way).\n\nSo i wanna know. Whats the best way to tell THIS kinda girl, how i feel about her? I have been thinking about writing a letter, but i really wanna look at her when i tell her, that i like her.\n\nI have no idea how she feels about me. As i said she is shy, and not giving me any tells. I guess she sense the chemistry, since she opened up to me very fast, about very personal stuff, but thats all i got.\nthank you in advance.", "summary": "Need help to tell shy girl with anxiety that i like her."}
{"id": "t3_2ack2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/m] with my SO [23/f] doesnt believe I'm not sleeping with other female friend.", "post": "Im in a long distance relationship, or was at least. My SO has decided that I am now sleeping with one of the few female friends that I have. The problem is that I am not sleeping with her or anything of that nature. I occasionally hang out with her but nothing supicious.\n\nI tried to explain to her that shes just being insecure and that she has no reason to believe that. To add to the problem I invited said friend to the beach. Being my SO never seems to want to go and it gets old going by myself. I just wanted some company. I told her about it and she just continued her rampage about how I am playing her.\n\nThis is a long distance relationship but only by a couple hours, so seeing my SO is just a quick trip. So I dont think the distance is the major issue. Things these past couple days have just been a non stop argument. I dont even know what to say anymore, i have apologized, I have told the truth 100% and she just wont accept the fact that I am not sleeping with her.\n\nIs thier anything I can do at this point? She isnt speaking to me \nAnd says she is over it but I havent done anything wrong....", "summary": "in LDR, S.O. thinks I am sleeping with female friend. Doesnt believe that I am not. She went on a two day rampage about and now isnt speaking to me. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_50ei7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] friend [21F] assumed I liked her (even after I said I didn't) and started distancing herself from me. Made me upset, decided to forget about her. Am I being too hard on her?", "post": "*", "summary": "Friend thought she's leading me on, started distancing herself from me. I told her she's not. She tells me to not catch feelings (apparently she has a history of people doing this). I told her I definitely won't, don't worry. She continues distancing. Her behavior pisses me off, I remove her from social media, started giving unenthusiastic replies, not starting conversations. Now she has an issue with me behaving like this."}
{"id": "t3_16fax6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: I know most people wish they had tried harder in school, but has not doing the best you could really been that bad?", "post": "Right now, I'm in the thick of high school with all sorts of pressures to preform so I can go to a good school and have lots of opportunities.  My GPA is around a 3.4, is that really so bad.  My mom tells me I won't go to a good school like this, I thought 3.4 was good!  So please reassure me, or encourage me to try harder, because I really need one of those right now.  Just say what GPA you had (or don't if you don't want to), and how much it really affected where you are and how happy you are.  Thanks!", "summary": "what was your high school gpa, and how happy are you with where you are in life?"}
{"id": "t3_3muudk", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "someone stole my Jeep Wrangler, and someone wrecked into my parked car", "post": "Some scumbag stole my Jeep Wrangler on Friday. It was recovered, stripped and destroyed, in the ghetto of the local major city before I even knew it went missing. After filing some reports and making a few calls I determined that I couldn't go get it any time soon, so I went camping for the weekend - as previously planned. \n\nWhen I came back home Sunday, I parked my car in it's usual spot at my apartment and went inside to clean up, drop off gear and get ready to leave - I needed to find the parts to fix what I could, on my Jeep; hopefully I could make it drivable. Instead, about twenty minutes into my routine, my neighbor knocked on my door to notify me that some ass hat wrecked into my parked car while I was inside.\n\nI had to take a day off of work yesterday to sort through this mess. I found the Jeep at the impound lot and discovered that the wheels and tires were stolen, the brand-new catalytic converter was cut off, they ripped out the door lock (instead of unzipping or cutting through the soft top), they sheared through the security console, broke the steering column and ripped out the ignition - after cramming a screwdriver into all of the external locks, permanently fucking them all up. Everything inside was stolen, except for my tent rainfly, which wasn't a whole lot but it still adds to the indignation. I had to buy a complete set of wheels and tires just to drive it out of impound, and wasted several hundred more dollars paying for the tow and impound fees. Also, I'd recently removed full coverage since the Jeep was just sitting around as a leisure vehicle and I hadn't driven it much in the last year or so. So, I get to eat the several thousand dollar cost for the theft. Also, most of the cops I had to deal with were really condescending.", "summary": "Scumbag stole my Jeep Wrangler on Friday, and some goomba wrecked into my parked car on Sunday; most of the cops were very condescending."}
{"id": "t3_36l99r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 1.5 months, treats me like a friend.", "post": "Throwaway because he knows my other account. \n\nI have recently started dating a guy from my friendship group that I have known close to ten years now. I've had a crush on him for the last couple of months and he said that he felt the same and asked me out. The first couple of days I was really happy because finally it happened.\n\nHe's sweet and nice and adorable and geeky and handsome, but the problem is that he keeps treating me like he did before. We've been dating for 1.5 months and he hasn't held my hand or tried to kiss me. I don't even get hugs. \n\nWhen we hang out, the whole friendship group is usually with us (~9 people) and while we do sit next to each other we don't touch. And I'm pretty sure that he hasn't told anyone we're dating. \n\nWhen I try to hold his hand, it's like he thinks I knocked my hand into his on accident and he apologies to me for some reason. I just feel stupid every time I'm around him because I don't know how to bring it up or if I even have a reason to be concerned. \n\nAlso, if I don't start a conversation with him, we never talk. I'm ALWAYS the one to text first and ask a question about how his day has been. I thought that was actually weird and wanted to see if he would contact me first, so I didn't message him on Saturday. So far, he hasn't written anything, hasn't called me, and hasn't tried to contact me in any way. \n\nThat is 5 days without talking to him so far. Do I even still have a boyfriend? I feel like he doesn't really care.\n\nI was talking to my best friend about this the other day, and she suggested that he might not be into me as much as he said. What do you think, Reddit? How can I bring this up when I talk to him? Should I even bring it up?", "summary": "My boyfriend of 1.5 months doesn't hug me, kiss me, or hold my hand. Is that normal or am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_oglmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Concerned about commitment and seeming \"beta.\"", "post": "This is going to be a long one... So I (M21) have been seeing this girl (F21) for about 2 months now. I would like to say we are past just dating as we have gone all the way and sleep together fairly frequently now, as well as how often we see each other and act towards each other. Though all the afformentioned things are going on we have not actually spoken too much on the subject of commitment nor has either one of us said the L word. The closest we have gotten as far talking commitment is one night she asked me \"is there is anything you dislike with what we have going on?\" and I told her no, we said a few more words then she said she really likes me, I said the same thing, and it seemed as if she was waiting for me to say \"I love you\" but I didn't. \n\nThe reason I hesitate to say love is because in the past when I was less knowledgeable on the subject I had said \"I love you\" way too soon to a girl I liked and she lost all interest in me after that. I've also just had clingy tendencies in general in the past so I'm afraid of myself and don't want to scare her away. Since then I've read a lot on reddit and feel I have made some mental changes which have definitely worked to my advantage. I feel more confident, I'm not falling into the same tropes I used to and I've gotten as far as losing it to this girl. It feels as though everything is just going right and it's primed for a LTR which is what I want. \n\nSomehow I'm still afraid of my old ways coming back as I get comfortable with this girl and fear loosing her because of that. I want to ask her what the deal is and where we stand as far as the relationship goes but I feel as if that might be a sign of weakness or something, acting beta as they would say in seddit.", "summary": "I feel as though we are heading towards a lasting relationship and want to find out but fear seeming clingly or needy."}
{"id": "t3_2p4rl7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering pizza high", "post": "Technically this wasn't today, my apologies.\n\nLast weekend, I ordered pizza while SUPER baked. I waited like two hours (probably like 25-30 minutes) before the delivery man is at the door. After receiving the pizzas (two for myself, of course) and putting them on the counter next to me, I handed him some cash and, inexplicably, my credit card - it was all sort of stacked together in my wallet.\n\n\"Thanks\" I incoherently mumble as I close the door, unaware of the guy's weird look. So of course he's still standing there holding my credit card and starts knocking at the door again after a while. I get super paranoid - *He knows I'm high and is trying to confront me about it! Maybe he's calling the cops!* So I take the pizzas and flee to the back room of the house while this pizza delivery man is just knocking at the door and ringing the doorbell.\n\nI hide, scared out of my wits, for about half an hour (probably like 10 minutes) before the knocking stops. Finally I go back out and discover he's gone. My credit card is on the front planter with a note written on a napkin saying something like \"hey you forgot this.\" The rest of the high was horrible as I just felt really embarrassed and guilty. Nice pizza guy, but I haven't ordered take-out from that place since.", "summary": "Ordered pizza while stoned, gave delivery man my credit card, hid like a coward."}
{"id": "t3_1ohwxl", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Help for my mug-obsessed Coonie", "post": "I have two Maine Coons (brothers) and one (the more social one, Budh) has decided that knocking over my mug is a fun game. He knows it upsets me because he is becoming more and more crafty in his attacks.\n\nI have no idea what sort of discipline will work on a cat. I have never been an animal person until these two guys came into my life. Now I love them like crazy, but I need to get a handle on this because while I hate it happening to me (at least once a week he figures out how get past my exhausted defenses) I would hate it more if he decided to ruin a party by dumping over glass after unattended glass.\n\nHelp!", "summary": "How do I stop my cat from knocking over my mug when it seems to be his favorite obsession?"}
{"id": "t3_2b7y2l", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[21M] Through Tinder, I'm entering a situation of dating multiple girls...help! What do I do?", "post": "Never been in this kind of situation before, I need advice.\n\nI chatted with one girl on Tinder awhile ago, we hit it off, I got her number and we met up for coffee. We chatted for hours and kissed at the end and decided to meet up again. I definitely get along with her really well and am very attracted to her.\n\nHowever, there's another girl, pretty much a dream girl for me, that I've been chatting with on Tinder for awhile now. We chatted on Tinder for hours and hours last night, I think from about 11 PM to 4 AM. We have an absolutely ridiculous amount of stuff in common and she seems to really like me even just over text. We got to know each other on a very personal level too with a game of 20 Questions. She wants to meet up to watch a movie and cuddle later, and I really want to be with her.\n\nSo...what do I do here? I like the first girl, but I really, really want to be with the second girl. However, I don't want to ruin my chances with the first girl...man, I wish I could just be with both! They're both so great!", "summary": "Met with a girl from Tinder, liked her a lot, my Tinder dream girl wants to meet with me now and I want to meet with her, but I don't know what to do about the first girl who I still like"}
{"id": "t3_m9lz4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "i don't give a rat's ass about your \"rage\" life story", "post": "I want to tell you something that pretty much everyone over the age of 35 knows (or at least should know): We all suffer, we all go through shit we shouldn't have to. Whatever you're going through, plenty of us have gone through it as well. We survived without spilling our guts into the interwebs with crappy copy/pasted comics. Man the fuck up and deal with your shit! I swear if I read one more \"i told my mom i was and atheist, it went ok\" rage comic, i'll fucking shit on your house until it collapses in a poo tsunami and then I'll have to look at 30 pages of \"heroic derpaderpaland survivor\" pics on imgur.", "summary": "EVERYONE HAS TO DEAL WITH ADVERSITY! STRENGTH = DEALING WITH IT WITHOUT BEGGING FOR APPLAUSE."}
{"id": "t3_m9vv3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tough situation, parents splitting up. Advice?", "post": "**Some background:**\n\nMy mom and step-dad have been together for nearly a decade, but aren't married, and are now splitting up. I live at home with them. I am a recent college graduate that could only find work part-time at a grocery store. I have no savings and make only $600 a month.\n\nMy step-dad owns the mortgage on the house and has evicted my mom. He has said that I am free to remain living in the house. However, in the last few weeks when their relationship was falling apart he started to get very abusive toward my mother (verbally, emotionally). Because of some recent issues, prior to the end of their relationship, I had already lost a lot of respect for him, so I'm not really keen on staying in the house.\n\n**The problem:**\n\nMy mom doesn't make a lot of money and so is currently staying in a long-term stay hotel situation. I want to move out but I can't really afford to get my own place, or pay much to roommate up with anyone.\n\nI do, however, have some options:\n\n- My grandmother lives about 90 minutes away from me and would probably let me move in, however the commute to and from work would break my budget (gas prices). She also lives in a semi-rural area in which it would be very difficult to find a new job.\n\n- My girlfriend's parents, live about 40 minutes from work, have offered to let me stay in their house if I need to and charge me a small rent.\n\n- I could keep living at home, with my mom's ex, where all of my stuff is. (I probably do have an unreasonable amount of stuff, admittedly)\n\nSo my question is, what do you guys think I should do? I'm struggling with what my options are and what to do. I don't really want to impose on my girlfriend's family, I don't want to move to rural land, and I can't afford to be far away from my job so I'll probably have to find a new one.", "summary": "Step-dad evicted mom, told me I could stay, I don't want to and am not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1ig32e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/M] Met a girl at a bar and going on first date since breakup of serious relationship, but I won't be in the same city as her for very long", "post": "So, I broke up with a girl, who I was in a serious relationship with for about 3 years, 2 months ago. This past weekend I was at a bar with some friends and started chatting/dancing with a girl [26/F] and her group of friends. She seemed nice, my type (looks and personality) and I got her number. Exchanged a few texts and set up a date for next week. \n\nI'm leaving the country before the end of the year (work reasons) yet I still want to go on dates in the mean time to get back out in the dating scene. My question is really threefold: A) If she texted me the next day asking how the night was, is this a good sign? B) If this is a good sign and she likes me, should I disclose on this first date that I'll be leaving the country, to be up front with her and manage expectations? and C) If I don't disclose that I'll be leaving soon on the first date, is this dishonest?", "summary": "I met a girl at the bar and I'm going on a date with her, but I'm also leaving the country soon and don't know if I should tell her that on the first date."}
{"id": "t3_liin3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best fabric for stuffed animal?", "post": "So my brother will be having his first kid come this May, well, his wife will have it...You know what I mean. I really want to get the kid a stuffed Hobbes. Calvin and Hobbes was monumental in my upbringing and I want to share that with his kid. \n\nSince Bill Watterson never allowed anyone to really market Calvin and Hobbes merchandise I will have to make this stuffed animal...or have someone who has real skills make it for me on etsy.\n\nSo what it comes down to is...Will crochet hold up as well as traditional stuffed animal fabrics? Will it wash okay?\n(I still have my Garfield stuffed animal from when I was a baby 26 years ago, and I would like the same for this kid)", "summary": "Need a custom stuffed animal, what will hold up best? Crochet or traditional fabrics?"}
{"id": "t3_1nzp9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just another breakup. [18 M] 1 month after breakup with [18 F].", "post": "After arriving at college my girlfriend and I broke up after dating for about 16 months.  We had always treated the relationship as a long-term endeavor however it became clear partway through that it would be difficult for things to last over the long-term.  We found ourselvIes no longer \"in love\", despite still loving her as an individual.  However, until the beginning of September I never developed the heart to convince myself to consider ending things.  When we finally did I initiated but it was worked out mutually.  However, it felt like it killed her that we did so.  It hurt me just as much but I felt stuck in the role of comforting her and thus felt both heartbroken and terrible.  She was awfully upset for weeks as we tried to maintain a friendship and told me all these things about how she could never handle if I went after someone else, and wrote me heartfelt letters that damn near killed me.  I felt just as bad, and I wanted more than anything to stay in love and keep her happy but I couldn't control that I no longer was in a sustainable way.  A month later she has quickly gotten better, we have failed at being friends, and she flaunts her unofficial new man around.  I on the other hand have tried to avoid eating with women so that she won't see and be upset, tried repeatedly to maintain a good relationship, and stay out of her way at times (btw she lives in the same small dorm on my floor...) as she often tells me its too hard for her to see me.  I have felt like I have spent the last month accommodating my grieving ex-girlfriend, while I just shrivel up missing her, fell terrible and have no support.  Last night we had a huge fight like I never thought possible, and she still had no idea that I has been so hard for me to try and comfort her, and completely blames me for our inability to be friends.", "summary": "Stuck accommodating girlfriend after break-up, need a little sympathy"}
{"id": "t3_axuuu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My daughter has issues, can the BAX 3000 help or is it a scam?", "post": "Background:\n\nMy daughter has severe allergies that cause major health issues.  She has severe excema and has spent time in the hospital in the past just due to the pollen in the air where we lived.  When we were finally able to get a conclusive test that showed allergies to be the cause of her problems, we moved from Louisville, KY to San Diego, CA just to get her where the air was better for her.  Here is a picture of her about a year ago, she isn't this bad now, but only because we give her steriods to help:\n\nShe was like that over most of her body before we got better control over it.  Now she just itches ALL the time and, if left unattended for more than a few minutes, will scratch her face/body until she bleeds.  She is 26 months old and has been more miserable in her short life than most of you will in your entire life.\n\nQuestion:\n\nAn acquaintance of my wife claims her husband used this BAX 3000 treatment and has been cured of his shellfish allergy for the past 6 months.  We don't really have any way to verify any of this, and there is conflicting data online about the treatment.  Will this help our daughter?\n\nLink: \n\nMy thoughts: the business sector that makes money from people having allergies (medication/shots/doctors) could be trying to keep this secret so they can keep making money ... OR, it could be total bullshit.  I am leaning towards bullshit, but on the off chance that someone on reddit has any firsthand experience, or a way for me to find out more from a reputable source, I wanted to ask.", "summary": "go away, this is serious, if you don't take the time to read the details then you don't need to comment."}
{"id": "t3_1bdb4n", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Was she (18F) into me (20M)? Did I screw myself with my actions?", "post": "After an afterparty chilling session, her and I went back to her room. She was giving off the vibe that she was into me (or so I think). She didn't mind me sitting on her bed and being extremely close to her. She doesn't pull away when I go closer or when I touched her ear under the guise of examining her earrings. She constantly plays with her hair and playing with a small teddy bear. She didn't even mind me touching her leg.\n\nBut she always had this nervous vibe about her. She very rarely looked me in the eye. And she was cold to me trying to seal the deal with a kiss. Granted, when it came to actually kissing and more, I wasn't as aggressive because I strongly believe \"No means no\". I put the ball in her court and gave her the option whether or not to heat things up. At one point she brings up that she's shy, and that she's not the type of girl to just hook up. When I was making romantic passes to her, she would always say \"I really don't know what to think right now; I'm confused about myself\". As I tried to leave I think made the mistake of pulling myself to her and saying \"If you want me to go or if you want me to stay, just tell me\". She told me she didn't want to mislead me that we were gonna get physical. I ended up staying for an hour more.\n\nWhen I finally left, I apologized for my actions and that I was still kind of drunk when I did all that stuff. She said it was alright and that everyone was being crazy. What I didn't tell her is that I REALLY like her and that I wasn't the type of guy who sleeps around (I'm a virgin). But do you guys think she's into me? Should I pursue something with her (even if it's the end of term)? Did I screw things up?", "summary": "Girl seems ok with physical contact but wouldn't kiss me. She showed signs of interests but at the same time displayed nervousness. Was she into me and did I screw myself over by trying to get intimate with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1xdnhn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I get over feeling so insecure and aggressive?", "post": "Hey everyone,\nI'm dealing with some pretty strong emotions lately; I'm going to see my doctor on Wednesday but I need some advice from people who've felt similarly. I blow up at the smallest incident, and I feel like my friends are wary of me for it lately.\n\nI'm in a stressful school program, where I feel pressure to be perfect constantly. I quit journalism to get into illustration, and now that I'm here, I feel like I've sacrificed my chance at being \"successful\" for doing something I love. People tried to talk me out of my career change, and still expect me to go into law because I'm an aggressive debater and an idealist.\n\nReally, I just want to express myself. My highest goal is the security of \"fame\" or \"success\" and to me it's dependent on how much people like my work. I never want children or a monogamous relationship because I don't want to risk my chance at being \"great\". (Also, I'm poly so more people is awesome.)\n\nI'm incredibly insecure, and was brought up with loving but \"I'll give you something to cry about\" kind of parents. I had a great childhood, but often felt neglected and threatened. I've tried therapy but never felt like I could let my guard down with any of my three therapists. I have a history of \"melodramatics\", and self-harm. \n\nI would rather make myself uncomfortable and be known as a \"good person\" than be happy and have others hate me for being selfish. I don't take chances because there's the risk that I'll ruin my chance at being liked/cool/successful, and people will stop talking to me.\n\nAnyone have any advice?", "summary": "I'm super insecure and have been exploding emotionally at people. My friends and family are concerned with me acting out, and I want to be happy without needing others' approval. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2sh3kk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my bf [25 M] getting pressure from family to get married already!", "post": "We've been together a little over a year and love each other very much. \n\nWe are NOT ready to get married. I'm going back to school for art, he's trying to start a small welding business--so basically we're both trying to figure out careers and what we want to do.\n\nI grew up in a traditional, tight-knit community where the prevalent idea about marriage is that, when you've found the right one, you just get married regardless of finances, job, career, whatever. The concept is that you figure all that out along the way, together as a married couple.\n\nBut I know that I'm not ready for marriage. Plus, I'm only 24! Still, the persistent pressure and talks from my family and community is very draining. It's making me a little crazy and I don't want it to ruin what I have with my bf. \n\nHas anyone else experienced similar pressures? How did you keep a level head through it all?", "summary": "Getting pressure to marry my bf of one year, advice for not letting it get to me?"}
{"id": "t3_3p0ed8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] just broke-up because she said \"she can't right now\"", "post": "About a month ago, my girlfriend (hard to give time but 5-6 month as a couple) just broke-up because she feels that she can't make me happy because actually she's not. We're looking for job just after graduation and it's a very tough situation because of the money and that we don't know where we will be or doing in few month. We are still in touch, talking everyday but we're not a couple anymore. I don't know what to do. Do i have to stop talking to her and move on or should i be here to help her and eventually be with her again in the future. She keeps telling me that it's not my fault but her and it's strange. It's a mess in my head.", "summary": "My GF broke up with me because of things outside our couple. What can i do ?"}
{"id": "t3_3vghm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f/24) bf (m/24) of 2 year never buys me anything and that upsets me.", "post": "Throwaway, he is on reddit. \n\nSo my bf and I have been together for 2 years and things are going well. One of my issue in the relationship is that my bf has never bought me anything. I don't expect gifts every day obvi, but card or flowers would be nice for my birthday, or Christmas, or Valentine's day. I got him gifts numerous times over the course of the past two years - randomly, as well as for his birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day and our anniversary. \n\nHe has a pretty good job, paying about 90k per year, as do I, so money is not an issue. In addition, I do not expect anything expensive, a card would literally cost him 5 bucks. Also when I bring up the issue with him, he dismisses it, saying that gifts in a relationship are not necessary and that people's focus on materialism is annoying. \n\nI'm not sure what else to do. Reddit, I need some advice. I don't think expecting a card from your boyfriend once or twice a year is too much or materialistic.", "summary": "Bf never gets me gifts, says it is materialistic to want them."}
{"id": "t3_3f02a4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I got complimented 10 times today...", "post": "By the same girl. Little back story I was 245lbs last November and decided it was time to get back into shape. 320 miles and many months later I now weigh 200lbs. \n\nI went swiming today and swam next to this girl who turned to me and said \"oh my god you look really good you lost so much weight!\" I was stunned as I didn't know the girl I told her thanks and apologized in advance as I didn't know her. \n\nAs it turns out I had done a seminar in her class about a year back and she remembered me. For the next half hour or so she kept complimenting me on my weight loss and kept repeating that I looked great. \n\nI really don't mean to brag but I am completely stunned by the whole interaction the last few years of my life I battled depression and obesity and getting complemented like this really threw me off.\n\nI apologize if this isn't the right sub reddit to post in.", "summary": "lost 45lbs, was complimented 10 times."}
{"id": "t3_2bazzb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Easily Overwhelmed", "post": "I have a history of being easily overwhelmed when I feel like I should be able to do something.  I get defeated and once I'm in that mode I lose any ability I had to stay positive and sponge anything I can up (learn). I am working for my father in his company and suck at my job.  I feel bad that his people have to put up with me, a 23y/o who has no training in the field and studied an unrelated major. \n\nI really want to do something useful but I am constantly lost or confused on the simplest things. One plus is I am improving my ability to accept that I'll probably be wrong. \n\nI want to get a job I am good at or at least understand, this is way beyond pay grade and it's useless to \"keep the money in house\" if I am costing him more money in my many hours of consultng other employees (internally billed) for work that they could do in a fraction of the time and right the first time.  Ultimately saving the whole operation a bunch of money. \n\nIDK if anyone reads these but any advice on perception change would be nice.", "summary": "I am a waste of money and am not improving.  Commonly a burden and need to save my dad the trouble and just leave for a 'better' (any other) job that'll get me off his list of things to worry about."}
{"id": "t3_2d8fks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dunno who I am more attracted to", "post": "Hi all (crosspost from /r/advice)\n\nI am a 21 year old university student, and I travel with two girls (sisters). The older one is 23 and the younger one is 20. I am attracted to both of them, in different ways. The first one (older than me) I find more physically attractive, but personality wise, we are very different. I'm not saying she has a bad personality, I actually like her personality, but it's very different from mine.\n\nThe second one (younger than me) I find less attractive, but she is much closer to me personality wise, and I just get the feeling that she \"gets\" me more than her sister does. I also be like I can be myself more around her.\nMy brain tells me that the younger sister is the one I should go for, but feelings are not that simple.\nPlease don't tell me to \"go for both\" or something, since I come from a culture that takes relationships very seriously.\nAlso if you think I should go for neither due to this undecidedness, tell me straight please.", "summary": "Attracted to two girls, don't know who to go for"}
{"id": "t3_2riz2d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Things between me [18/m] and my friend/crush [18/f] are weird", "post": "I've been friends with her for almost a year now and have had a crush on her for most of that time, we're going to uni together and got drunk and hooked up a couple months ago, just making out and light touching, but that was still a big deal because she had hardly kissed anyone before that and I had only made out with one girl before that. We're both pretty awkward so we didn't talk for about a week after that happened but then we decided we should talk about it so we did and I told her how I felt and that I wanted to date her and she said she liked me (may just have been sparing my feelings, not sure) but wasn't sure what she wanted to do because she was afraid of ruining our friendship, we made out and cuddle a few times after that but then finals came along and we were both studying like crazy and didn't talk for like three weeks then after they were done she texted me and said she just wanted to go back to how things were and be friends, and I just said okay because I knew if I didn't she'd be really stressed and scared and stuff and it was just before Christmas and I didn't wanna do that to her at Christmas, and then she went out of the country for holidays and we didn't talk, we both just started back at uni today and I still have talked to her since that time before Christmas. I don't know if she wants to be friends just because she's afraid of relationships (which she is) or if she's stopped liking me (assuming she ever did) or if she doesn't want anything to do with me. I can't decide if I should just go my separate way, or try to just be friends (which could be difficult because I still like her) or try to talk to her to figure out whats going on and go from there. Any suggestions?", "summary": "I drunkenly hooked up with a friend a few months ago, haven't talked very much since, and she texted me a couple weeks ago that she just wants to be friends then left the country for vacation and just got back and I don't know what to do because I still like her."}
{"id": "t3_s5gxf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to pick a kids spirits up while his parents are going through a separation and need ideas (NYC).", "post": "Reddit, \n\nI'm a young adult who shares an apartment with a middle aged couple in New York City. On Monday a friend of this couple separation from her spouse and is now temporarily staying in our apartment with her 12 year old boy. He's caught in the middle of his parents drama and is having a hard time coping with it (who can blame him). He's cries at times and wanders around the apartment aimlessly at others (an presumably monotonous task considering how small the apartment is). \n\nHis mother asked me today if I would please take him out to have some fun, which I would be more than happy to, but I need suggestions/ideas for a fun day activity in New York.", "summary": "Trying to pick a kids spirits up while his parents are separating and need ideas (NYC)."}
{"id": "t3_1tj47t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my [28 F] 2 yrs, ask her friend if she cheated on me?", "post": "Why is letting go the hardest thing? Yes, I probably need to let go. But, I think more disturbing is the lack of communication, the lack of clarity to her behavior.\n\nShe had done three things that I should have just cut it off 4 months ago when they started:\n\n1. She sent nude photos to a friend without talking to me about it.\n2. I found out she had sex 3 months into our relationship when we had a \"fight\".\n3. After much back and forth, we made up one weekend. Only problem was I was paranoid about her constantly texting guys. So I snooped after a romantic weekend with her. I found out that a guy I showed my apartment to had picked her up monday morning and she did a strip tease for him, video and all.\n\nWhatever, some guys just want a hot fuck, but I let myself go too far. I wanted more and she wanted to fool around.\n\nNow, it came to a point where she was traveling without me, and she had to stop in Germany, and I found one guy who popped out of nowhere and started liking her photos. This guy is...attractive. She is attractive. And to top it off, her communication with me has been null. I know she's skiing right now, but she still has time to post some pictures on Facebook. I know I need to end it, it's too much torture for me. But, I definitely want gratification by asking that German dude straight out if they fooled around. We are technically in a relationship on Facebook.\n\nSo, question 1) Should I do it? People have told me not to, but I really don't care at this point. I just don't see any reason not to.\n2) Why would a guy lie to another guy to protect a cheating relationship?", "summary": "I hate the feeling of suspecting she's cheating because of a rough history. Can I ask a guy on Facebook if they fooled around? Just to get some gratification? Why would a guy protect infidelity and not tell the boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_hogjz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why can't I get a boyfriend? I'm alright.", "post": "*stops lurking*\nHi Reddit.\nI'm smart (masters in a computer field), talented (band is sorta indie-popular) and I am frequently told I'm \"a fox\" or similar. Cannot find or keep a boyfriend. I had one for 7 years, who I lost it to at 16, but in the years since that guy I have slept with 15 people and dated nobody regularly. That's not what I want. I meet people all the time, there are tons of people I flirt with, that's not the problem. I am not sure what is. I am starting to really want a steady mate. I have not been with anybody in 6 months and I'm fucking frustrated as hell. I enjoy my life: my wonderful friends, reading and learning, my awesome career, my band...but \"I am human and I need to be loved just like everybody else does\".\nSometimes I think I like someone and that he likes me but nothing happens. Usually I figure he has a hotter or more awesome girl somewhere else and forget about it. Even stupid and horrible people seem to not be interested in me. I sometimes go for less-intellectual dudes because they are, well... easier. Cannot crack the smart guy code I guess. Any ideas?", "summary": "I'm smart and cute, why can't I find a smart & cute boy to hold hands with? Someone who would not say \"omg I'm soooo random\" unless he was using it facetiously to start a conversation about stochastic processes?"}
{"id": "t3_2d74mu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of just over a year - I feel like he doesn't care anymore", "post": "I have been with my BF for just over a year. The first 10 months were amazing, he was very sweet & romantic. However, I have noticed a change in the last couple of months. I do all the organising when we see each other, I call him, I text him first, etc. Even when we're together, it seems like I initiate most of the \"I love you's\" & the cuddles. \n\nHe works shift work & spends most of his days off with me. He views that as his contribution \u2013 spending his time off with me. But I need more to know that he cares. I have anxiety issues & I want to feel loved by him, but I feel like I can't communicate my feelings with him.\n\nWhen I talk out my feelings he stays silent or just defends himself. When we're apart, I give him space. We can go a week without talking \u2013 he doesn't call me. He texts me maybe after 5 days to say: \"so what's the plan this weekend?\" He knows I pretty much know his roster so he just assumes I will organise, as I have been doing this every week for some time now. \n\nRecently we went 11 days without seeing each other, & we only talked on the phone once. He was upset about work so I just let him be. I thought that since I had given him space he would be all over me but that wasn't the case. I feel like I'm not his priority. \n\nI have said to him: \"I really appreciate it when you call me, would you call me this week?\" & he answers \"Maybe.\" I have asked him: \"all I need from you is to say you love me, you care about me & a big cuddle.\" But it's like he resists more & more because he doesn't see anything wrong with his approach. \n\nHe says I'm depressed & that I need to just get over it & be happy. I'm really upset about this & cry about it all the time.", "summary": "What do I do to get him to be romantic and caring again like he used to be?"}
{"id": "t3_23rlxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] and my [21M] boyfriend of 3 years feel our relationship is getting boring. What do we do?", "post": "We recently got in a huge argument that lasted many days which sparked this conversation. He asked me if I feel the relationship is getting boring and I agreed. We both feel we need to spice things up. We've been living together for 2 years and don't want to move back to our parents place, so we even talked about living together but taking a break to see other people. I am glad we're on the same page because even though we would have the \"rush\" seeing other people, we don't want to risk the possibility of losing each other because we're also best friends. \n\nOur life currently consists of going to school full time and studying. We don't go out as much as we'd like because of school. I'm in nursing and he's in psychology. \n\nOne thing we feel could be the reason is because we see each other all the time. Last summer I went away to my parents for a few days and when I met up with him after we both felt a spark! I actually felt a rush and butterflies seeing him! I'm going away to my parents again soon so we hope time apart sparks a rush when we see each other again. Also, when we do go on dates it's planned because of limited time with school and it's the same thing over and over again; we always go to the movies, mostly because it's the cheapest. We also feel bored and stressed going to school since we're not sure if this is what we want to do. As well, getting in a huge argument makes us wonder if we're meant to be together. There is also an issue where he feels I am \n\"me-centered\", I'm not as affectionate to him, and don't do as much around the house; all of which I am working on. \n\nPlease don't say break-up because that is our last resort. I love him and he is a great partner and in the future a great father. I don't want to break-up because I feel bored and get into another relationship for 3 years and feel the same way.", "summary": "Relationship of 3 years is getting boring. Could be due to stress of argument, school, constant studying. Went to see my parents last summer for a break and felt a huge spark when returning to him. Going to spend time away from him soon."}
{"id": "t3_4mpcxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] dad [52M] is always with his girlfriend [47F] and her children and is letting our once strong relationship fall apart.", "post": "I am the daughter of a single father (my mother died when I was young) and the two of us have always been really close. We have very similar personalities and I have always enjoyed spending time with him. \n\nMy dad has been dating this woman for a little over a year now. She has three kids from her previous marriage who are all grade-school aged. I get along great with both the girlfriend and her kids, so that's not an issue. \n\nThe problem is that my dad consistently spends more time with them than he does with me. In the past week, we have spent less than five hours together, meanwhile he has spent at least four hours every day with his girlfriend and her kids. I recently returned home from a semester abroad during which they fell into a new routine of him always being around. Now that I'm back, however, I very much feel like I come second to them. (Sometimes they invite me to hangout with them, but it always feels like I'm intruding or out of place._\n\nWhat gets me the most upset is that whenever I try to let my dad know how I'm feeling he makes me seem like the bad guy, saying that \"I resent him because he's finally happy and in a relationship\" which simply isn't true. I'm not mad because he is in a relationship, I'm mad because he has terrible time management skills and is making me feel like I'm an inconvenience. He makes me feel like I'm being a burden to him and the relationship for simply wanting to spend time with him. \n\nThis weekend stayed at her house and avoided coming home because he did feel he would be \"appreciated\" at home. I've spent the past two days crying and feeling shitty about myself for making my dad feel unappreciated, when in reality he is the one who should feel bad, right? At this point I think I'm just looking for validation that I'm not being unreasonable for being upset or for wanting him to spend a little bit of time with me. Any advice on how to proceed would also be welcomed.", "summary": "I haven't seen my dad for more than 4 hours this past week because he's always with his girlfriend and her kids. I've let him know I'm upset about how he's dividing his time and he makes it seem like I'm in the wrong, which makes me more upset."}
{"id": "t3_3fo6n8", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "What should be my next career move after my PhD in order to get my dream job?", "post": "Hi folks, I am about year away from graduation. Seeing how it has taken many postdocs and graduate students I know months, if not almost a year to find a job, I'm planning on looking for jobs soon.\nI will have a PhD in biomedical sciences with a focus on biochemistry and molecular biology. My project and side projects were related to understanding basic molecular mechanisms that go askew in cancer. I've gotten a hang of working on Linux, and know just basic python programming. I also have a quite a bit of experience with Next-Gen sequencing.\nMy ideal job would be somewhere on the lines of a clinical geneticist...where you take patient samples (ALL, AML, other cancers etc.) and analyze their genetic makeup in order to figure out what drugs would work best, be of good efficacy, etc. I use that term loosely since from some readings, I have come to realize that most clinical geneticists are MDs. I have lost hope in the Academic world and don't want to go into the cycle of one post-doc after another. As much as I love working in lab, I miss human connection, and at the end of the day want to see my hard work either help a patient or create a tangible object that will help patients. I'm very interested in the field of personalized medicine. If anyone has a similar story or does similar kind of work, please chime in on what might be the next best step towards achieving my dream job.\nThanks!", "summary": "About a year away from graduating with a PhD in Biochemistry and molecular biology. Looking to leave academia and work in personalized medicine or a similar field. Any suggestion on where to start looking or what would be a good next step towards obtaining this career path is appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_2r58dq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my GF [29F] of 1 year: Having second thoughts with her in light of recent discoveries.", "post": "We've been dating about a year and a half. She talks about wanting to get married and have kids, but honestly based on recent discoveries about her, I'm not sure it's a great idea, and I'm thinking of breaking up with her because I don't think I want to have kids with her.\n\nShe got a message from a strange number on her phone, asking her for a payment. I thought it was weird, and asked her about it. She told me it was her cousin, who had loaned her money during college.\n\nLater, during another conversation, she said something about it that rung untrue (contradictory). I pressed, and found that it wasn't her cousin, but her ex. She owed him $1800. Further pressing, I discovered she owed another ex roughly $1800 as well.\n\nThis really made me angry, as she was spending money like she didn't have two ex's she was beholden to. Also, she would randomly ask me for money, saying she needed it to buy groceries or somesuch (She's unemployed, looking for a job. May have one starting the fifth)\n\nNext, we were watching Netflix on Chromecast yesterday using her phone. I grabbed it to switch shows and saw a message from her brother telling her to come home to get her mail, as she has an arrest warrant now for unpaid parking tickets. I gawked, but didn't say anything to her, because I expect she should share that information with me sooner rather than later. Right?\n\nShe's entitled to her privacy, but I think if she wants to enter into a relationship involving marriage/children she needs to be more up front than this. I'm not sure if her brother is joking with her or what. She hadn't responded to it, so I'm not sure. I can easily see her doing something like this. Is the arrest warrant a big deal? Is my house going to get searched or property siezed? (She stays here often). I'm not sure what to do.\n\nThanks in advance for the advice/comments.", "summary": "Found out she has debt to two ex's, and now may have a warrant out for her arrest based on unpaid traffic tickets."}
{"id": "t3_2baieu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It was all for nothing (24m) with (24f) and 3 year old son. 7 years down the drain.", "post": "So my and my girlfriend have been together since highschool. We have had our rough patches here and there but it's been okay. \n\nShe has been acting strangle lately and we haven't had sex in almost 4 months now and I like my sex. She bargains for it and I give her what she wants and I get nothing in return.  She knows that is what I want and still holds it from me.\n\nI come to find out today that the reasoning for it is she is only staying with me for the house and our son.  She thinks I'm controlling when all I do is give her what she wants and work my ass off for her and my son. I do nothing, I don't go out, and I don't spend money.  She gets to do all of that and more.  She is also texting an old boyfriend of hers that she broke up with for me when we went on a 4 month break in 2010, and says she didn't ever want to do it but I talked her into it when it was in fact her sister. This guy was psycho and her sister and everyone else hated him. She got pregnant with our kid after she broke up with him and got with me again.  But she never wanted that.\n\nShe has came home now twice at 4 in the morning and 1 time at 6.  She isn't cheating she says but idk anymore. \n\nIdk what to do I'm posting here because I'm at Witts end.  I love this girl but she never talks to me and is always mad and has an attitude about somwthing when it comes to me. I just don't know what to do.  Help", "summary": "GIRLFRIEND ONLY STAYING FOR HOUSE AND KID, NO SEX, DIDN'T WANT TO BREAK UP WITH LAST BF, 7 YEARS WASTED, MAYBE CHEATING"}
{"id": "t3_1o840t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] gave my number to a guy [23/F] last night...not sure what to do!", "post": "I met a guy yesterday...and he didn't seem really interested in me at first and was a jerk around my group of friends/in general. \n\nThere was one point where we were talking and he seemed into me, but he mentioned that he was looking for friends since he's new in town. \n\nHe asked for my number to see if I wanted to meet up later to go out. I gave him my number thinking \"yea, sure! why not\" \n\nEnded up not meeting up, but I got a text this morning asking to get together before I leave town. Now in retrospect, I realize how giving my number to him may have sent the wrong message...and in all honesty, I have no idea how to respond, especially since how he wasn't very nice at first.\n\nI'm always down to getting to know new people, but my friends already were talking about how much of a dick he is. And I agree -but there are a lot of sides to one person, so maybe it was a wrong first impression. But I don't want to meet up and be berated with insults for an hour.\n\nAlthough he was a dick, I understand the vulnerability and courage it takes to put yourself out there...so I don't want to be rude. I was rejected fairly recently, so I understand how it can suck...", "summary": "gave my number to a guy who seemed like a dick and not into me, but asked to meet up the next morning...kind of curious to see what would happen, but don't want to send the wrong message! "}
{"id": "t3_jso92", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "A Guy that finally wants to make a move", "post": "Hey Reddit, I think I'm ready. Here are some details. I am 18 she is 16. Basically known her since I was 8ish I think. We're family friends so we see each other a lot in family gatherings and that sort of thing. So after some current events I've decided that I am going to make it clear that I would like a relationship with her. This weekend is a firework show. I plan on watching the fireworks with her. Work my game. (Hopefully, hold her hand and maybe even a kiss. Hopefully. Maybe. I wish.) LOL\n\nWas literally writing a novel about everything; our interactions, what motivated me to finally act on my feelings and pretty much every single detail about this situation until I took a quick glance to the right and saw the pointer about", "summary": "content. If anyone is interested in getting to know any more information specifically just ask and I'll be happy to reply."}
{"id": "t3_4o94qx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] 8 months - Is it strange if she's always asking me for Uni help", "post": "I'm in the year above my GF at college and I've noticed she talks a lot about the uni stuff and she's asking if I have notes or generally talking about the subjects and what I think about them etc\n\nI try to shift topics a lot of the time and she always brings it back to college stuff and it can get a little annoying sometimes. Is it wrong for me to think this is strange or is this relatively normal?\n\nThis is the first time I've dated a girl who's in my college and doing the same course as me so I don't know how to approach the situation.\n\nSome opinions on this would really help me out. Thanks guys", "summary": "girl i'm dating who's in the year below me always asks me about college work and help"}
{"id": "t3_211tmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) am wondering what a reasonable amount of time is to spend with my partner (31M) of 2years?", "post": "To clarify, how much time is too much to ask/how much is so little that it's worth bringing up? \n\nWe don't have breakfast, lunch, or dinner together during the work week (I get it, we're all busy), and he always has a bunch of social engagements planned for weekends (and I'm quite introverted so on top of the work week socializing so much is exhausting to me) most of which I prefer not to attend. And at this point I'm just wondering what the point is in being together when we're hardly ever actually together.\n\nI don't want to be clingy but I'm unsure about whether I'm being unreasonable. A lot of my friends in relationships spend so much time together, so I feel like they're not an accurate gauge.\n\nWe moved in together pretty early on in the relationship, so I adopted as much of a chill, laid back, do whatever you want kind of attitude as I could muster. But now I feel like it's coming back to bite me because usually moving in together signals that you're serious about the relationship and you want to further your commitment, but it wasn't really like that for us so I feel like he's in endless: super social, do whatever I want like I'm single and in my 20s mode, while I'm just in: is he even serious about this relationship mode.", "summary": "I don't spend much time with my boyfriend and am therefore worried about how serious he is about our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_n36d8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My teacher was drunk at school, what should I do?", "post": "Heres what happened:\nI have him first period, and he was fine then, we just watched a movie and that was that, as its a film course.  But around 5th period (noon) he had AP English, another class I have with him, and he was not speaking coherently, he was squinting a lot and he was all in all in bad shape, so I, trying to keep this under control, decided to put on a movie for the class.  I decided to check up on him 6th period, and he was passed out in the corner, and another kid was running the class.  \n\nAt this point, news was spreading through word of mouth around the school that he was drunk, or delirious or something, so some other kids and I decided to stay after for 4 hours to make sure he got home safely.  Even though I insisted multiple times on driving him home (despite the fact that he lives an hour away), he drove off anyways still not in a right state of mind.\n\nWe know he was drunk because he was drinking out of a cup filled with Gatorade, and we smelled said cup and it clearly had a ton of vodka in it.\n\nThis is my favorite teacher, and I would hate for him to be reported.  What should I do?  Should I confront him about it?", "summary": "My teacher was wasted at school, we did all we could but he still drove home."}
{"id": "t3_3ios6f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to sell textbooks", "post": "So college just started and everyone's asking everyone else about buying/selling textbooks. I had a bunch left over from my first year so I decided to try and sell them. There is a store partnered with my college that sells textbooks, so I looked at their used book prices, undercut them somewhat, post a listing on the college facebook and waited.\n\nWithin a few minutes I get...a bunch of people laughing.\n\nTurns out that one of the textbooks I had listed for $95 has a going rate of more like $30. Now everyone thinks I'm a dirty scammer trying to gouge the pockets of my peers and I've pretty much dropped all chances of making any new friends this semester.\n\nNot to mention, I have no idea if any of the other books are overpriced in this manner, so I'll probably wake up tomorrow for more people laughing to another hilariously over priced textbook.\n\nJust...screw the textbook industry.", "summary": "tried to sell textbooks, massively overpriced a textbook through ignorance, am now ostracized."}
{"id": "t3_37kww3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I keep having horrid nightmares and it's hard to tell they aren't real.", "post": "EDIT: welp. Sounds like everyone is echoing what I thought it might have been but was reeeeally hoping it wasn't. I've read about sleep paralysis before unfortunately and thinking about the one I had a few hours ago, I woke up when I kept trying to get up but couldn't. :/ so I guess I instinctively remembered what to do. Thanks for listening though, writing it out helped me calm down enough to sleep again.\n\nI've had bad nightmares my whole life, but the past couple weeks I've been having these incredibly realistic dreams and when I wake up I'm afraid to even close my eyes again.   \n\nYesterday I had one where I woke up (in the dream) but didn't open my eyes. Everything was black and I felt something brush across my face. It felt like a cloth or someone's hand. Then I heard a voice breathe in sharply, exhale, and I opened my eyes terrified. My room is pitch black as well, I could still feel the \"touch\" on my cheek and was incredibly freaked. \n\nJust now I had another with the same premise. I woke up (once again, still dreaming), eyes closed, and I could feel my futon shaking, like someone was pushing up against it. Then I heard the sound that pants make when they rub together as you walk, moving closer to me. Then I felt like something was standing over me, like when you can feel that persons body heat because they're so close to you. I felt their breath hit my face, then heard the sound move away towards where my closet would be... and I woke up.\n\nMy door is locked, nobody can get in, it's just me, but I feel like someone is there and these nightmares are eating away at me.", "summary": "spooky skeletons shake my bed at night and vanish"}
{"id": "t3_2emgyp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27/f) read my SO's (27/m) texts and I'm not sure if I'm being overly sensitive", "post": "To start, we've been together 5 years and are pregnant. I'm due soon!\n\nWe have an \"open phone\" policy. We know each others passwords and such. I don't normally check his phone but that day it was right on the screen. He was texting an old friend of his when he handed me his phone to go to the bathroom to hold (we were out) and the most recent text on the lock screen prompted me to open it. \n\nIt was his friend talking about some girl from high school saying he had a dream about her and some celebrity three-some. He was going on and on about how great it was and how he didn't want to be woken up. My SO said he was jealous and he wishes he had more dreams like that with sexy women (like the ones his friend mentioned) so he has something to enjoy when he gets up. Something to \"look forward to\" as he put it.\n\nIt hurt my feelings. Mostly because even if he does feel that way, I'm offended he said it. I'm 5'7 and weighed 110 lbs when I got pregnant. Now I'm 125 lbs and feel like a lard. I've also haven't been looking that great. I'm exhausted and my hair/skin is doing weird things from hormones. Our sex life is really not there because it's really painful right now. \n\nI'm not sure if I should just say \"Yeah, I saw your text messages and they hurt my self esteem because I feel like an ugly, waddling cow\" or if I should just remember that he's allowed to have his fantasies and leave it alone. I guess it's not the fantasies as much as him openly saying it to someone. I don't know.", "summary": "SO said something to his friend that hurt my feelings. Not sure if I should just leave it go. Don't want an argument. Do want to be honest but not sure at what expense."}
{"id": "t3_2gn25n", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I feel like I did something really wrong.", "post": "So the other day, I was walking home after eating dinner. On my way, I hear a kitten meowing. I look around and see this little kitten. He was dirty, and a little thin. I looked around for other kittens, or his mom, and didn't see or hear anything. It was in a little alley way that had no shelter, so they couldn't be right around there. So, and here is where I think I messed up, I took him home. I called my friend who is a vet tech, and asked her what I needed to do. He was just at the age where he was coming off milk, so I got him the food he needed, and all that. \n\nAnyway, the next day, I go and ask the people that live at the house where I found him if they had a kitten, or had a cat that recently had kittens. They said no, so I kept looking around the area. I came across a cat who had recently given birth, and it was obvious that she was still producing milk. However, she was a stray cat. No collar, and you could tell she didn't have the best life. I'm almost positive that was the mother of the kitten I picked up. I'm pretty sure she was moving the kittens, dropped one and planned on picking him up once she had moved the rest of the litter. Did I \"kittennap\" a kitten, or did I just take a stray in, and give him a better life?", "summary": "Kidnapped a stray kitten that was probably four or five weeks old. Was that wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3bst1m", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Convincing my parents that credit cards aren't all bad?", "post": "Hi. I'm 17F and I'll be heading off to college in the fall. \n\nI would really like to get a credit card so that I can begin building good credit and also earn points towards things like travel benefits and hotels. \n\nI figured moving out would be the perfect time to get one, because I can put all of the expenses of buying housewares and paying the deposit on my apartment on the card and fulfill the \"$xxxx spent in first 3 months = 30,000 bonus points\" (or whatever deal the card offers). My parents have already agreed to help me with the expenses so there wouldn't be a balance to carry over. \n\nMonth to month, I plan on putting my utilities and rent on my card, that's it. \n\nIs it a good idea to put fixed expenses on a credit card in order to get rewards?\n\nMy parents are against credit cards for any reason (with a few exceptions) and feel that I will abuse it. My parents only use cash and debit for their expenses, including cars. They both view credit cards as an unnecessary evil. \n\nMy dad ran into financial trouble when the real estate market crashed and has been trying to rebuild his credit ever since. As of right now, I'm having a hard time getting an apartment because my parents are unable to consign due to bad credit. \n\nMy mother is the type that is not very financially savvy. It's hard for her to save money and shopping is one of her few hobbies which equates to spending money unnecessarily. \n\nI, on the other hand, don't get a dopamine rush from spending money. Quite the opposite actually. The only thing I splurge on is groceries and eating out from time to time. If I were to get one, I would view it like cash and only use it for fixed expenses.", "summary": "how can I justify to my parents the importance of building good credit safely by putting fixed expenses on a credit card?"}
{"id": "t3_4dg1u6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How I've made cardio not seem so dreadful", "post": "I'm 6'3\" and 272lbs. I have a good amount of fat so cardio is not my favorite gym activity but is a must for me. While I personally hate cardio i put my all into it to go as long, as fast, and at as high of a resistance as possible. I used to just hop on and say \"okay im gunna run for 30 minutes\". While this was effective in that i knew exactly when id stop, the entire time i just spent counting down every second until i was done which just made it feel like it was way longer than 30 minutes. Instead i have started to essentially trick myself with micro-goals. Ill start off with maybe attempting to do my first mile within a certain amount of time. Then after that shoot for the next minute mark that is a multiple of 5 for my time. After than i set a new distance goal but keeping them relatively close to the previous goal so as it does not fee like an eternity until i reach it. Eventually you get into a pattern of \"well i cant stop halfway through a mile!\" Then it become \"but i also cant stop until i reach the nearest multiple of 5\". After the first few initial goals you get a bigger desire to just go that little bit farther to hit that next little step... And then the next one..... And then the one after that. Today i hit 5.5 miles in 50 min (new personal best btw). I would have never gone so far had i just initially got on and said \"okay im gunna run for 50 minutes\". There is absolutely no way i would have had the motivation to stay on. So if youre like me and don't enjoy doing cardio so much, create some micro-goals for yourself and see if it helps.", "summary": "If you want cardio to seem a little more tolerable just create little goals within the exercise and then just keep pushing them a little farther and a littler farther after that until you feel you have obtained the desired workout."}
{"id": "t3_x06o0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[22/M] Online dating, got a few messages, she already wants to call / meet up", "post": "Very recently, I received a message from a friendly girl wanting to talk to me a bit. We introduced ourselves and brought up some token subjects like favorite foods, careers, etc.\n\nLess than five exchanges later, she's bringing up that she'd really like to meet me. She did say it must sound silly, but she said it just the same.\n\nShe's well mannered, very well spoken, seems to have an interest me, and for that matter I think she's interesting. It's also worth noting that she's still two or three months off from being 18, so there's that.\n\nI'm trying to justify it as being the awkward nature of online dating, but what do you think, Reddit? Should I be raising a red flag? She's also implied that she'd like to talk over the phone, which still seems extremely rushed to me, but I'd be much more comfortable with it than the alternative.", "summary": "She said hello, I told her fish is a nice food, she wants to meet up."}
{"id": "t3_2b2872", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] trying to figure out what red flags I raise.", "post": "How do you find out what makes you undateable? I've been single for four years. Over that time I've dated quite a bit. I've dated serious professional guys and dreamers, band members and bar members, and in all the time I can't find someone to date more than a few weeks. My longest relationship during this time was three months and he turned out to be a manipulative person. \n\nI'm a hard working professional writer with my own car, home and life. I have a lot of fun and many friends who adore me (and vice versa) but just when I start to like someone I'm dating they tend to dump me. Hard. Like 'if I ignore her she'll go away' style. This use to blind-side me, but it's become so common after four years that I can't be surprised anymore when it happens.\n\nRecently, I dated a man for three weeks. We had about two dates a week, all of them really amazing. We shared all the same hobbies (sailing, banjo, local politics, history) we had the same vision for what we wanted out of life and same music taste. We really seemed to click, and he'd tell me how beautiful and smart and charming he found me. \n\nHe hasn't spoke to me in days and has ignored my four messages and one phone call. \n\nI'm attractive, and have no problem getting dates, but once I start to like someone they disappear after a few weeks. The only constant in this situation is me. How do you figure out what you're doing that is repelling people? I can't figure out what red flag I'm waving. I'm not an avid texter, I'm not picky or jealous. I find a wide range of guys attractive and have no serious \"requirements\" in terms of job or anything. I'm a pretty laid back lady who takes good care of herself and would rather listen to someone talk for hours then do the talking (journalist habit) Of course you can only take my word for it, but I feel like I'm a catch that keeps getting thrown back.", "summary": "How do you determine what red flags you raise in other people?"}
{"id": "t3_19w6kk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "If she's shy and not engaging, should I keep trying?", "post": "So I (20/m) met a girl (20/f) a few weeks ago at a school event and we exchanged some small talk. I thought she was cute and she seemed interested enough in me so I offered her my number. First time I've ever given a girl my number and she took it AND she texted me the next day! So we talked a little more, mainly about school stuff for a day then I asked if she'd like to get coffee. She agreed and so we had our first \"date\" planned. \n\nLast Tuesday, we met at the Starbucks in the student center and even though we'd talked before, our table felt eerily silent. To try to move things along, I tried asking her some simple questions about her but only received very short answers. It eventually got to the point where it felt like I was interviewing her. She asked if I didn't like silence, which was half true, I didn't like her silence. \n\nI guess I've always been of the opinion that if someone doesn't meet me halfway, they don't really want to be with me. The fact that she doesn't mind just sitting across from in silence makes me think that she's disinterested. Also, I don't really like being a conversation dominator. She has started some conversations over text but the next time we got coffee it was the same deal. If I'm uncomfortable with her silence, should I keep pursuing her?", "summary": "Girl I met and have had some coffee dates with is quiet and I don't know what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_2r9k9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife [24 F] of 2 years, has no sex drive since baby was born.", "post": "I am blessed to have an amazing wife that I love to death. Our relationship was insanely passionate through the dating phase (3 years) and all throughout our marriage (2 years), until the birth of our daughter (9 months ago). \n\nWe have no relationship issues other than sex. I feel like I have to beg for any form of intimacy past holding hands or a little kiss. While I understand that her hormones are still out of whack with breastfeeding, how long is this thing going to last? \n\nI really want the passion we had before the baby, the days where we couldn't wait to get alone. It seems that no matter what I do, it just does not seem to spark any passion. I have tried getting a sitter and just going out for a nice dinner and some wine, but to no avail. It not only the lack of sex, there is NO intimacy at all being reciprocated. I don't have eyes for other women, but i also can't live a celibate life at 26...", "summary": "Feeling hopeless with no intimacy from wife."}
{"id": "t3_441uzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my \"friend\" [17M], I don't like him, but he is considering doing the same study as I will next year. How do I tell him I don't want to be friends with him?", "post": "Firstly, sorry for the title, I couldn't really think of a short way to say this, so I hope this will do.\n\nNow for my problem: this guy, Matt, is someone who I really don't want to be friends with. He is annoying, he isn't social, he smells like death and he just isn't a guy I want to hang out with, so I don't. He doesn't really have any other friends either.\n\nBut here's the problem: Matt thinks we are friends, which I don't want to be. At first I didn't think of it as a problem, because school will only last a few more months and I can put up with him for that time, but now he told me he wants to de the same study as I am going to do. Now, in my country, there are two major universities and I already picked the one I want to go to, while Matt hasn't yet. I am very afraid he will go to the same university as I will.\n\nThis may sound asshole-ish, but I really don't want to talk to him anymore after this school year, even if he does choose the same uni (which I can't stop in any way and don't want to either, I'm not that much of an asshole). I am very afraid he will be a burden if we are going to the same university, because he is very clingy and I don't really want to be associated with him.\n\nSo, how do I tell him this without sounding like a giant asshole?", "summary": "a guy I don't like, but thinks he is my friend, may go to the same university as I will go to. How do I tell him I don't want to be his friend?"}
{"id": "t3_t6yk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl is leading me on and I know it.", "post": "So I have liked this girl for awhile she had a boyfriend at that time so tried I to move on but then they break up and at this time we were good friends; later she tells me that she likes me so we try and hang out.\n\nLater prom's coming up she tells me she would like to go with a friend who will dance because I don't dance, I was a bit upset but I got over it. I find out the friend is her ex, which really pisses me off I confront her about it and she says, \"We're just going as friends\" I get over it once again.\n\nThen, I heard a rumor that they hang out all the time and pretty much are inseparable, again, I ask if she is still dating him she says no and that she likes me better, then she asks me to do some stuff on her facebook account because she doesn't have internet. I looked at her messages and pretty much have all the proof I need.\n\nSo how should I confront this.", "summary": "I like a girl who says she likes me but she lies and leads me on."}
{"id": "t3_298twp", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Did I (26M) ruin my friendship (21F)?", "post": "So currently I'm traveling around Europe solo and the last few nights I've been getting really pissed on pub crawls. Last night just after a pub crawl I was messaging my friend who's back in Australia. We were mainly talking about how I met someone the night before and that we came close to doing something but then at the end all we did was snuggle, I was saying I was a bit bummed out that nothing happened but it was still nice to be close to someone.\n\nWell anyway during the conversation my mood went a bit weird and I basically said that I was getting lonely over here and she should of came so we could of \"had some fun together ;)\". The thing is though that I don't have feelings like that for her so I don't know where it came from, but now I worried that it's always going to be there and she'll think that I might have these feelings. So far she has said that she'll be fine but I just feel like shit now because of what I said.\nOh and my friend is in a elation ship which makes it worse.", "summary": "I sent a message my friend saying that we should fuck when I was drunk."}
{"id": "t3_ibpps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I handle a FWB", "post": "* First of all, we are both 22.\n* Ok, so my situation is pretty messed up. When I graduated high school I had a major crush on this girl and fucked up by telling her I loved her (I was 17, rookie mistake), and she ended up going out with my best friend for a year and a half, which completely WRECKED me. I met her at a party 2 weeks ago and we exchanged number, started texting. Consequently, I fucked her last Tuesday and then on Wednesday. She doesn't want me to tell her ex, or any of my friends for that matter (I did), but whatever I don't think he'd care since he's the one who dumped her, this is not my issue here.\n* My issue is that I can't get this girl out of my head now. We text every day still, but I get nervous when she doesn't text me for a couple hours and so on... The thing is is there is no way I could actually have a relationship with this girl. It couldn't go go beyond sex, and I wouldn't mind because the sex is amazing, but I REALLY don't want to develop feelings for this girl. We are really different... However, it is going pretty shitty so far since I get a bit jealous and feel like a dick.\n*  Has anyone had a similar fuck friend relation and knows how to handle it? I'm very confused right now. I don't know whether I want her to develop feelings for me as well (which she could be, she is the one who instigated the sex), or if I want to have no strings attached sex with this girl.", "summary": "I know there's a common saying that friendship and sex don't mix, but could this work out for me or should I walk away from the situation before getting hurt again."}
{"id": "t3_2ymq7i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by whispering a cannibal's name in my crush's ear", "post": "Having recently watched the Actual Cannibal Shia LaBeouf music video again ([animated version] or [extended but not animated version] for those who haven't seen it), I've had Shia LaBeouf on my mind all day. I also planned on asking out a girl I like. Today I finally decided to ask her out. I did, and she said yes, but I was stupid and said I had a secret to tell her. I leaned in close, but had nothing to say. A brief pause, knowing I must say something.\n\n\"Shia LaBeouf.\"\n\nTake a moment and just try that. In a seducing whisper, say Shia LaBeouf. She doesn't know me enough to comfortably laugh about this sort of thing (nor does she know why I said it or what I was referencing). She had a look of confusion on her face, and I was pretty shocked as well, having just said the creepiest and weirdest thing to a new girlfriend. The bell rang and I ran away without a word. School ended before I had to see her again and now I have no idea what to do tomorrow.", "summary": "Seductively whispered \"Shia LaBeouf\" in my (ex?) girlfriend's ear"}
{"id": "t3_2zkcb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family [20sF,50sF+M,80sF] with my neighbour [50s?M] of 5 years is harassing us over varied things. Family been here 30 years.", "post": "Throwaway because reasons.\n\nWe live in Australia, wont be specific but figured it might just helpful in regards to laws/advice.\n\nMy parents and grandparent have lived in this street in town for 30 years. \nA guy and his wife moved in about 5 years ago (approx).\nWe have two dogs. One was around when he moved in, she is 6+. She is a small terrier and barks when people come to the door (as they do). Other dog is 1.5 years old and obviously came after he was there. She is a medium size dog.\n\nThis guy across the road is in a townhouse, we are in two houses on two blocks next to each other.\n\nHarassment started approx 2 years ago where he yelled at my grandmother to \"shut her f...ing dog up\" as he stood and teased it. \n\nNext incident was a ute of my fathers parked on the road and a note was left telling us to \"park on our own side of the f...ing road\" (we normally would but no space at the time). Keep in mind this is a PUBLIC road. Its anyones space.\n\nSeveral more incidents where he stood on his balcony and screamed obscenities at my father who called the police as he began having heart issues. Police did nothing but tell us the man had just apparently gotten out of hospital and was tired etc etc.\n\nHe has also put complaints in to our local council about the dogs barking (where you can get fines). There is another dog next to him and one a few doors away that both bark constantly.\n\nLatest incident was a council ranger coming around to tell us they got another anonymous complaint (not anon to them but for us as they wont tell you who did it but we know its him) saying the dogs were barking all night. Our dogs have never barked so I have no idea what he is hearing. Presumably the one next door.\n\nI need advice on what to do or who to speak to as Im at a loss. Talking to the guy isnt an option. He is aggressive and probably would attack me.", "summary": "neighbour keeps putting in complaints to local council about our dogs barking when they arent and told us we cant park our cars on 'his' side of the road (public road). What do?"}
{"id": "t3_36ewes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] met a guy [24 M] and we exchanged numbers--is laying it on thick a red flag?", "post": "I read somewhere that a guy who calls you by pet names right off is a bit of a player. I'm not sure about that, but this guy I met two days ago has been texting me and saying, \"You're so beautiful, what are you up to, beautiful, Ms. Universe, I like you and you seem fun and your eyes sparkle, etc. etc.\"\n\nObviously I'm flattered even at the cornier lines, but I'm wondering if these are big warning signs? I don't want to miss them if so. Maybe he's just into me and thinks I'm hot (I hope!) \n\nHe's not originally from the US, but he's been here for 7 years, so I'm not even sure if I can apply the same generalizations or not.", "summary": "How much complimenting is too much complimenting?"}
{"id": "t3_l8cq7", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Neutered Male 2 1/2 -3 yr old Pointer Lab Mix marks owners bed pillow three different times in four months - dog completely housetrained and no other accidents.  How do I curb this behavior?", "post": "We've had him for about 2 years.  He's completely housebroken and he's not had any other accidents in the house.  The first time it happened we had returned home from an overnight trip (we did have someone check on him multiple times a day so leaving him alone wasn't an issue).  Came home he had marked both bed pillows and we attributed it to us not being around.  We were around normally the other times.  After the 2nd time, we closed off our bedroom to him when we weren't around.  After 2 months, we reopened the door to him, since his crate was in there; and didn't have a problem for a month or so.  Until last night.  He only marked a small spot on my pillow, not enough that would make it a regular bathroom trip, especially since he had been out twice in the hours before.  \n\nHe's well behaved otherwise and does not do anything else destructive.  But there's nothing worse than climbing into bed to discover that you have to change your entire bed out because the dog decides to show his affection and respect by peeing on my pillow!", "summary": "Dog has marked owner's pillow more times that I would like.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1q34hc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 2 years have just broken up. Need help transitioning & moving on.", "post": "Hello all. \n\nMy girlfriend and I had been together for almost 2 years, but as of recently we fell out of love and broke up about a week ago; it was for the most part mutual. \n\nOur problem is that we still live together, and are students in college, so as you imagine stress levels are pretty high for both of us. The apartment is relatively small, and I sleep on the futon for the time being. \n\nWe both feel that moving on and finding ourselves is for the best; as much as it hurts us to move on and realize we fell out of love with each other, we want to move on. We are also ready to go out there and meet new people and date, not right away really, just when the time comes. \n\nWe're staying close friends, best friends in fact, and want to be there for each other. More than anything we don't want to lose each other. \n\nWhat can we do to help the situation? We both want each other to be happy, but also ease the hurt from the break-up. Any tips or advice to help?", "summary": "relationship of 2 years, broken up, live together, want to move on, don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_2vt425", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/F]... My coworkers (professional setting) always yell at me?", "post": "I mean, is this normal? I work in a very professional office, but it seems like my position is looked at as the lowest and people take out their frustrations on me. I was warned during my interview that there are people who will do this, but I took it with a grain of salt because wtf?\n\nI get blamed for things that can't possibly be my fault, and ganged up on. Is this like... What always happens to receptionists/clerks? Today I was doing the work of 3 different people (one of which has refused to show up for the last 2 days), and even knowing this I was chewed out all day for not finishing things fast enough. Again... Is this just what all offices are like? I don't have an HR person.", "summary": "coworkers take their frustrations out and yell at me*"}
{"id": "t3_50sn6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] have a crush with a girl [16 F]. Who i've been talking for about two weeks through text, since she lives in another city but comes to here regularly. Yesterday i told her i had a crush on her and she stopped answering.", "post": "I met this girl in my city just before she left back to her city, we exchanged numbers and we've been talking almost all day (even up to 5 am on weekends) for two weeks and i really like her.\n \nSo yesterday stupid me gets the idea to tell her about having a crush on her, Since she told me she would date me before the guy she had a crush last year. After that she just stopped answering.\n\nUntil i ask her on other social media what was happening, she told me that i went too fast and that we have just talked for two weeks.\n\nShe didn't block me or anything she just stopped answering tough i haven't try sending her a message today\n\nDid i fucked up? is there any chance i get at least to be just friends with her? what should i do?", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl and after i told her she just stopped answering but hasn't block me or anything."}
{"id": "t3_2tdmj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] I'm not certain what to do about my crush [f 19], who I [17 m] believe likes me back but might be scared.", "post": "So I've been friends with this one girl for about two months now and I developed a crush pretty quick after meeting her, and our lives pretty much revolve around the exact same friend group. Pretty much all of my friends have called me out on liking her and their basic questions are like so when are you going to ask her out, etc.\n\nThe thing is, I think she's scared to be in a relationship because early on when I first met her she said every guy in her life ever had just hurt her. As well as I know that I'm scared that if we were to date and things end badly it would mess up the friends group, which from what my friends have said it's a concern of hers too.\n\nPlus, I'm actually the youngest in my friend group because I graduated high school a year early so despite both being college freshmen I'm somewhat younger. And my friends have a penchant for teasing me about being jailbait. And on that note I know she also mentioned that she didn't think I would make a move until I turn 18, but she's one of those girls that lots of guys like and I don't want to squander an opportunity that I have with her.\n\nBut I'm also pretty sure she likes me because the past couple times we've hung out and watched movies we've ended up cuddling, and not just out of the blue but like she basically told everyone else with us that no matter what she's sitting next to me. And also I guess the kiss emoji's she's sent me a few times also serve as a bit of an indication. (Yes I know how my generation this sounds, but hey what can I say so much of communication goes on this way now)\n\nSo I guess I'm just looking how to move forward because while we haven't talked about looking eachother I think it's become pretty obvious that we're both perhaps entertaining the idea.", "summary": "My crush seems to have reciprocated interest, but I know of reasons why she'd hesitate, but I also don't know how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_mqcwn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I go about shopping for a reasonably priced bed that is also comfortable?", "post": "So, this seems like one of those questions that I should already know the answer to, but I have found almost every company's website to be remarkably unhelpful...  Almost none of them list pricing, for some reason.  I am looking to buy a bed.  I have none of the components needed to start with.  I am not really happy about the idea of getting a second hand mattress from somewhere like craigslist or kijiji, and I live in Canada.  I am likely looking for a Queen sized bed, but one of the websites I have found (almost the only one with pricing information at all) seems to be selling their King sized beds for cheaper than Queen, so if that is the case, I will go with that...  I am also confused, though, because they have separate listings for \"low profile\" and \"foundation\".  Help?", "summary": "How do I go about looking for a decent mattress/frame and how much should I be expecting to pay?"}
{"id": "t3_3zbvad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [38 M] for 3 years, is more loving towards his cat than he is to me", "post": "A little background: we've been together for 3 years, there was infidelity on his part, found out early 2015 and it's been a rough road for me/us. We seem to finally be getting back to normal after a brief break from each other in September/October 2015. We got back together in November, during the break he got a cat. \n\nNow, I've always been the more affectionate one in the relationship, and accepted the lack of it from his end chalking it up to that's just his personality. We've talked about it extensively but I came to terms with it.\n\nSo, we get back together in November of 2015 after about a 2 month break from each other. He has this cat and is absolutely crazy about him. Calls him all the unique pet names he used to call me, kisses him all the time, tells me how much he loves him constantly! Mind you, my boyfriend RARELY expresses how he feels about me, tells me he loves me maybe a few times a year. We just don't say it. But I'm embarrassed to admit I'm actually jealous of the way he is with the cat. And it's causing me to have all these negative feelings towards the cat even though I really love him! \n\nAnd it's bringing back a lot of the feelings I had when I found out about the cheating. I don't want to bring it up if I'm being completely ridiculous about it and I don't want him to feel bad. He got the cat after MONTHS of going through some sort of depression so sometimes I think that's why he's so loving towards him. \n\nAnyone else been in a similar situation? Am I being silly?", "summary": "boyfriend is so affectionate towards cat and not at all towards me. Am I being silly?"}
{"id": "t3_4xje2c", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] dog won't pee without owner", "post": "My father has a 2-3 year old female black lab that I am taking care of while he is away. She's been trained not to pee or poo in the house. This morning when I took her out she didn't pee and took forever to poo. After playing with her/waiting for about 30-45 minutes I took her back inside and assumed she didn't need to pee. I went to go get some breakfast and now that I'm back she keeps whining like she needs to go out, but when I take her she doesn't do anything. I could really use some help because I have some errands I have to run but I don't want to leave her until she goes.", "summary": "Can't get dad's dog to pee when he's not here."}
{"id": "t3_2hm4cq", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "(Need advice) first month doing first job.", "post": "I had started working this month at pretty well known architect. but here's the thing, for the level of project he has (hotel, 8 storey building, performance building) he employed only two assistant architect. As fresh graduate who just graduated this july, i am pretty much 'fake it till you make it', there's a lot of thing i need to learn. To be honest this place is a good place to learn for aspiring architect but the work is demanding because there s only 2 employee with that level of work. And the work is  hour is also not good. I usually go home at 9 pm because of he usually start to review the work at 7 pm. \n\nThen yesterday my friend (who is also fresh graduate architect) told me about a job opportunity at her place. My office has bigger project, but their office has more employee. so the work supposed to be less demanding with more people and smaller project. And she said they always go home by 6 pm. And the office is closer to my home. \n\nBut i has only work for a month and already take a day off a few days ago for one day because of graduation day stuff thing. So it really not good to take another day off to do interview at my friends office. \n\nSo", "summary": "Plus"}
{"id": "t3_4hk35s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my childhood friend [25F]. She uses me exclusively as someone to vent to and I'm tired of it.", "post": "I should start off by saying Penny [25F] and I [26F] have been friends for more than 10 years. Over the years, and especially recently, she's become very passionate about social activism. \n\nMore and more our weekly dinner outings have essentially turned into her venting about how the world is bringing her down whether via racism, sexism or body shaming (to start). She also believes her outspoken attitude intimidates many of the people she's had issues with in the past.\n\nNow, I'm all for venting. Sometimes you just need lay it all out there, but I'm also really pragmatic and I often focus on finding solutions or exploring explanations for problems. We had a huge fight about this recently where she expressed that I wasn't being a good friend and I needed to just listen and keep my thoughts to myself. \n\nThis fight also somehow spiraled into her saying that she was a lover and I'm a hyper-defensive fighter. I didn't entirely agree with her, but I get that not everyone wants a fix for a problem. I apologized and worked on just keeping my mouth shut. This seemed to smooth things over, but now our conversations just consist of her venting about her life while I sit quietly and ask open ended questions about the stuff she talks about so she doesn't call me out for being a bad support system. \n\nAt this point, I'm exhausted. I work a lot and I want to focus on my career more. I feel like I just don't have the energy or time to keep this relationship going as it is, but she still clearly wants to and thinks we're really, really close. During the recent fight it became clear to me that she doesn't really respect me at all. So, how do I end this without upsetting her?", "summary": "Long-time friend uses me exclusively as a venting object to talk about how the world is out to get her. She doesn't like solutions, only wants me to listen to her vent. We had a fight where she said I wasn't supportive and insensitive. I now keep my opinions and thoughts to myself, which keeps her happy but I feel like I'm not being myself anymore. How do I get space from this friendship without antagonizing her?"}
{"id": "t3_iklzy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friend-zoned....but with mixed messages?", "post": "friends for awhile, and always had flirty fun interactions. she wanted to see me and felt like we really connected after hanging out then we ever have before. Was really bold with physical touch, flirting/comments and after we were done hanging out just asked her straight up on a casual date (didn't spill my guts out or anything). She said she liked the way our friendship was, so I told her she knew I was willing to take a chance and told her I didn't want anything to be weird with us. (history of friends asking her out and then hovering around her). We made some inside jokes and smiled it off. But then she starts interacting with me and being a little flirty and even getting into conversations on sex which never happened before. Is she just flattered and like the attention? did she just say no as a gut reaction and is toying with the idea of a date? or is she just trying to over compensate to make sure the friendship isn't lost? Im willing to walk away, I just don't know if it would be wise to bring it up again and ask her about it.", "summary": "friend-zoned but get flirty/sexy messages; is she now interested? or do I walk?"}
{"id": "t3_4adulx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my gf [23F] Doesn't want to go on dates with me because she doesn't like that I spend money on her", "post": "So We've been dating for a couple months, and I've been incredibly enamored so we moved forward to being exclusive. She's still a student and works part-time, and I work full-time. She really hates her work, so I try to take her out so she can take her mind off things. Recently though when I try to plan dates, she turns me down because she doesn't want me to pay. \n\nHowever, she's always talking about how she doesn't have much money. I enjoy spending money on experiences and memories, which I've explained to her. She lives a decent distance from me so I don't like having her have to uber to my place all the time since it's expensive, so I go to her. However, she lives with a lot of roommates so we can't even have personal dinners without people passing through all the time.\n\nHow can I explain to her that the money is not the issue? Saying \"Money isn't an issue\" doesn't work. I'm feeling kind of insulted getting turned down all the time.", "summary": "GF Doesn't want to go on dates because she doesn't want me to pay but can't pay for them herself. It's starting to make me feel insulted."}
{"id": "t3_xn57b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[META] \"Requests for Relationship Advice and Updates to Previous Posts Only\"", "post": "**So, I have a couple of administrative matters to put forth.**\n-\n***\n\n\u00a0^\u00a0\n\nI've had to close three *good* polls today. It broke my heart because this is the type of content we hate to discourage. However, /r/relationship_advice is *not for polling!* In order to keep this subreddit representative of what it truly is, the rules require that the posts be **either requests for relationship advice or updates to previous posts only.** Otherwise, we'll be spammed with all sorts of random only-distantly-relationship-related junk that we won't be able to control.\n\nPlease post polls either to /r/AskReddit or to other subreddits which may allow it.\n\n\u00a0^\u00a0\n\nAdditionally, We've noticed that a lot of people are sending relationship advice posts via modmail. There's a debate amongst mods right now as to why it is that we're getting so many requests via modmail, but I have a theory: people don't realize that \"Ask Relationship Advice\" is a self-post submit link.\n\nWell, **here's an image which summarizes [what to press and what not to press] to submit a request for relationship advice.** It is highly recommended that you **use a throwaway** for relationship advice requests. Message a moderator when reporting issues, such as inquiring about posts that may have been spam-binned, complaining about trolls, or reporting harassment. As always, **please read the rules before posting,** as they've probably been updated since the last time you read them.\n\n\u00a0^", "summary": "read the bold text."}
{"id": "t3_tr21w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to hand my National Honor Society chapter leaders their asses?", "post": "So I was recently dismissed from the National Honor Society at my school for turning in a service form late (which had over 60 hours of service on it). Several of my fellow classmates were dismissed for similarly ridiculous reasons. We were given the option to appeal our dismissal, where we go and explain ourselves to the appeal board, a group of five or so orney and bitter teachers who hate their lives. They told several people that they were incapable and shouldn't be allowed to wear the NHS collar at graduation or have an actual career. Also, at every meeting, the officers told us how inadequate we were and that we were terrible people. As members of NHS, we should be treated oppositely. Now everyone is peeved and sick of dealing with how awful the officers are. How can we get back at them in a peaceful, honorable, respectful way? We have graduation on Sunday where the members who weren't dismissed are given collars to wear. My suggestion was to just not wear the collar, but some people are disagreeing. I want to show them what being in the organization is SUPPOSED to mean, instead of the meaning they have given it. Nothing crazy or violent please.", "summary": "Our NHS officers are awful people and we need to peacefully show them wrong."}
{"id": "t3_npu6m", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Tired of being a robot", "post": "So I've been reading this subreddit and have been making some changes (albeit small ones) to my life. I've been going outside more. I've been practicing an assortment of instruments more. I've started writing again. Hell, I've cut down on the amount of time I've spent on Reddit. \n\nThe thing is, while I've changed my habits, I haven't changed. The only reason I do these things is because they're part of a routine. They don't make me happy, and I often dislike what I'm doing. And I keep doing it because I don't have anything better to do. I idly practice scales on my guitar, or I'll write a few paragraphs of tired prose about the same characters I've been using since I was in high school, and I usually wind up staring at the ground for long periods of time. To be honest, I often find this to be a bigger waste of time than Reddit; at least Reddit gave me a few jokes that I could parrot and use to make people laugh. When I try something new, I feel excited for about thirty minutes and then go back to being the same meat-robot that I've been since I was sixteen. \n\nWhat the hell do I do to change this? I know that I can change my behavior, but what do I do to change my thoughts? I'd rather not have to talk to a psychiatrist or take pills.", "summary": "I do things that seem to require motivation but lack the motivation itself. I'd like to change this."}
{"id": "t3_uypb2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is neglecting her kitten, what can I do to help while retaining a non-hostile housing situation?", "post": "So, my roommate got a kitten a few weeks ago from her co-worker.  First off, the kitten was way too young to be taken from its mother (about 6 weeks old) and had never been taken to the vet.  The cat still has yet to see a vet.  At first, my roommate took good care of her kitten and spent a lot of time with it.  Now she leaves it locked up in her tiny room all day with no food while she goes hiking and partying.  \n\nIn the past week, she was gone from our house for two separate nights without telling anyone so we did not know to feed/pay attention to the kitten.  I've taken to spending time with the kitten for at least an hour a day and letting it out of the room, but I've recently found out from two separate roommates that she does not like this because she doesn't want the kitten to be attached to me.  I've generally decided that she can dislike this all she wants, and I will continue what I'm doing until she at least talks to me about it, since I'd rather have the kitten not neglected than my roommate be happy.\n\nMy roommate is incredibly defensive and will get very angry if I tell her she is taking poor care of the kitten.  One of our roommates is good at talking to her, so he will attempt to negotiate with her to spend more time with the cat.  Other than him talking to her, how can I make sure the kitten is not neglected while remaining in good terms with my roommate?  Is there a way I can bring it up so that it does not come off as accusing her?  All of the roommates have said that she is taking horrible care of the kitten, so I know I am not over-reacting.", "summary": "Roommate does not pay attention to her 9-week old kitten and leaves it locked up with no food all day long.  What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3byef5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [16 F] She surrounds herself with guys that \"love\" her", "post": "Alright so I've never posted or anything before but my girlfriend of a year and a half all of her time she has known me has surrounded herself with guys that like her. It seems like every guy that she ever comes in contact with falls in love with her.\n\nShe lets them flirt with her and make their moves and she sees absolutely no problem with it. A couple days ago she went over to a friends house and a guy even started rubbing her thigh and when she told me and I told her how I felt she said that she didn't see any problems with it.\n\nAm I overreacting? I really don't know what to do. I get jealous so easily. She has like no friends that are girls and just surrounds herself with men. I just want to know if I'm overreacting and how I should handle it.", "summary": "She surrounds herself with guys that flirt with her and \"love\" her"}
{"id": "t3_4lbbmv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [32f] husband [34m] wants me to hang out with his best friend [34m] I drunkenly kissed.", "post": "About a month ago, I drunkenly kissed my husband's best friend. My husband and I are working through it, I've admitted my blame in the matter. I have 0 attraction to the friend, and no interest in him. I was honestly just drunk and I guess it seemed funny at the time. My husband was there. I don't even remember doing it. \n\nAnyway, now the best friend (BF from here on out) is asking my husband and I to go hang out with his wife. I'll also mention to husband \"hey we should go to X place\" and he'll say ok let's invite BF.\n\nI don't want to be around BF. I'm embarrassed and ashamed. I'm mad at BF for letting me do something stupid (I know it's my fault but he certainly didn't try to stop me). I'm frustrated that I'm putting in all this work to keep my marriage afloat and BF gets a free pass (they've not talked about it once).\n\nWhat do I do? Do I give in and hang out with BF? Or do I stand my ground?", "summary": "kissed my husband's friend and now my husband wants us all to hang out like nothing happened because he says I'm punishing him by keeping him from his friend*"}
{"id": "t3_1ehjg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (24/f) and I (24/m) are going to Planned Parenthood tomorrow to get an abortion. No idea on how to behave around my girlfriend.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo we were planning to go to Planned Parenthood tomorrow to get an abortion. We have been dating for almost 2 years and did not plan on having a baby anytime soon. It was sort of a no-brainer to make this decision. \n\nSo couple days ago we took a HPT and discovered she was pregnant. Obviously, we freaked out and make an appointment with PP ASAP. \n\nBefore this, we were just your average college couple. We both go to school full time and we both work alot as well.\n\nAnyways, my question is how I'm supposed to behave around her? The past couple days the only thing I reiterated over and over again was that I love her so much and that I aint going anywhere. But it seems like thats the only thing I can really say. I'm choosing to be careful with my words because this is both new territory for us. She has been pretty distant with me however. We used to be a very cheerful and happy couple, but obviously she has so much on her mind, the last thing I wanna do is push her over the edge. I keep telling her that I aint going to bail because I think that was one of her worries but she still seems distant.\n\nSo are there any couples out there who went through a similar situation like us? \n\nHow did you overcome it? Or why were you not able to overcome it?\n\nWhat's life like after the abortion?\n\nIs there anything that I need to know or anything that I should tell my girlfriend?\n\nOh, and I understand that this is a touchy topic, and I completely respect everyones personal opinion for this situation, but please don't make this into a political issue. Thank you Reddit.", "summary": "GF and I getting abortion tomorrow, don't really know jack shit about it."}
{"id": "t3_22av13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] have been dating for nearly a year, need help with the future", "post": "My girlfriend will be graduating this year entering a university 20-25 minutes away from where I live. Before we met, she had issues of \"two-timing\" or being attracted to two different people at once because it was easier, but then she transitioned to an all-girl schools. Now she'll be going to a big university and will be meeting and making new friends. \n\nI trust in her and want to believe that she won't fall for other guys or cheat in me. I talked to her yesterday about this and we realized that it would be hard for both of us but she wants us to still be together and says that she still loves me dearly and does not want to disappoint (cheat on) me. She told me that easily succumbs to peer pressure and is scared of making a mistake that she would regret because she says that she knows it would never be worth it. \n\nMy question to all of you is how do I prevent this from happening? How do I make sure that she doesn't forget it in the heat of the moment? I really do love her and want this to work out. \n\nThank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend moving onto college 20-25 minutes away, I trust her but how do I make sure everything is going to be ok?"}
{"id": "t3_1hs9m1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] got upset with my [26M] boyfriend of four years for hiding our relationship on FB. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "I've been dating him four years. Zero reason to ever suspect him of infidelity. Things have been great. Today, I went on his facebook profile, and he had not only our relationship hidden, but whether he was interested in men or women. I found this really, really weird. Not just the relationship thing, but also because most straight men I know like to point out the fact that, at the least, they are interested in \"women\". When I asked him why it was missing (since we had been \"in a relationship\" on facebook for years) he said he could see it but had it blocked from other people who could see his profile. He wouldn't explain why and kept saying it was a facebook mistake. Yet, about five minutes later, I see he changed it so that it IS visible. And is visible to me now. \n\nI am being a bit crazy but I find the whole thing-- (having it on facebook for years, then randomly hiding it--) really suspect. Why would he proudly display it for years and then randomly hide it from everyone??\n\n[", "summary": "My boyfriend of many years took his relationship status down off facebook, claims it is not a big deal.]"}
{"id": "t3_1nky5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] am embarrassed going out in public with my [27/M] boyfriend.", "post": "My boyfriend and I started our relationship as long distance about a year and a half ago. We visited each other several times until he finally moved in with me and a friend into the city, from across the country. Everything felt so right about him, until I started to see how he acts around other people. \n\nHe would be fine around his friends, family, and strangers, but the moment my friends were around he would start acting really really weird and immature. He sometimes leaves the room and goes and does his own thing in the middle of a conversation. Sometimes he gets mean and just makes rude comments that he just randomly throws into conversations, either against me or one of my male friends. And if he has been drinking or smoking at all, he becomes really childish and weird, and it just isn't what I signed up for. \n\nI love him, I truly do, and I don't want to change who he is. I'm just a very social person and it's weird to bring him along to places when he seriously can't handle himself. He's like a different person, and it's not attractive. I'm not sure how to bring this up to him, and I don't want him to change if he's happy with who he is. I just don't want to stay quiet about it anymore.", "summary": "Long distance boyfriend acts very immaturely in front of friends."}
{"id": "t3_kk1qv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do about my housemate's loud sex?", "post": "I moved into a house with 5 other guys this year to cut costs. So far it is working beautifully. All of us get along well, we share interests and costs are evenly distributed. The only problem thus far has been one of the guy's girlfriend. She's a loud moaner/screamer and it is getting old. Just about every afternoon the whole house gets a soundtrack to a bad porno. Here's the kicker: last night was her 21st birthday (American btw) so she went out and got smashed. When my housemate brought her home they got down and dirty and apparently she could not control herself at all, as she woke me and another member of the household up at 3am. Full on, balls to the wall, head separated from shoulders screaming. How do I handle this? should I confront them, together, individually? Any input would be nice.", "summary": "Housemate has a screamer GF, how do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_32ziu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17/F] with my Mom. I need help making a decision", "post": "To keep it short, a few months ago I was employed and needed a new car. I chose a lease under my stepfathers name. A few months after that, I was let go from my job due to an injury. I am receiving benefits, but those will run out soon. Possibly next week. As of now, I have enough money to pay for the car and insurance for 2 months, but I am having no luck at all finding another job. \n\nI also have less than 6 months to graduate high school. It will be very stressful for me to work 30 hours a week and try to finish 6 college classes. My mom doesn't see me being able to find a job in time to pay for the car when I need to in two months. \n\nHere are my options. \n1. keep attempting to find a job and stress myself out more\n2. My mom takes back her car lease(taking up the back out fees) and just uses mine because the payments are cheaper.\n\nIf I choose 1, I will be able to keep my car. I am planning a cross country move next year and it would be helpful to have the car in some aspects, but on the other hand I could just take some clothes and electronics and fly.\n\nIf I choose 2, I will feel guilty for her having to pay so much for my screw up, and I won't be able to get a job outside of the plaza we live near. (there are about 20-40 places I could apply for in that area that are less than half a mile away.) I will also have to take a bus to my college campus.(I'm graduating through dual enrollment.)", "summary": "What option do I choose? Stressing myself out further, or allowing my mother to pay cancellation fees on another car payment so she can take up my cheaper car payment while I focus on school?"}
{"id": "t3_zxbae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How dismissive should someone be of 9/11 conspiracy theories?", "post": "I don't fall for these stuff. On this issue (explosives in the towers and such) I have not read into what is being speculated. But there is a thing that kind of makes me think again about the official story.\n\nI remember watching an engineering documentary about the towers and how they were built to withstand a crash of a plane, because of the accident at ESB. I saw that before 9/11. And it happened.\n\nI'm a skeptic, so I don't rush into assumptions, but I'd like to have a picture as clear as we have about what happened.\nPersonal opinion, the engineers oversold, and you can't plant explosives that would do a job a plane wouldn't, unnoticed.", "summary": "any factual \"busting\" of 9/11 theories available?"}
{"id": "t3_2zxzaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] have been together for three years, keeps messaging girls online this time i tried to leave him", "post": "Original: \n\nEveryone agreed that i should break up with him, and I kind of expected that. I know that i should so i tried again this morning. \n\nHe has been giving me attitude since yesterday after i told him i want to wait till I'm comfortable to have sex, he was being rude to me so i finally snapped and told him this morning he was a cheater and never cares about my feelings and i wanted him to move out. \n\nHe and i argued for hours on this, he says if i give him no choice in breaking up he'll give me no choice in staying together. I was putting my foot down telling him i deserve better and i won't be able to just move past this again. He then told me he will kill himself if i leave him, that its all going to be on me. I told him i would tell his family and warn them and he said he just won't go home. \n\nI have no clue what to do, i said i'd stay with him but just to know that i won't be happy and he doesn't seem to care. I honestly think he'd do it, and no matter what anyone tells me i will always blame myself, which will ultimately lead to me killing myself. I don't want to stay with him, i don't trust him. Please i need help on what to do.", "summary": "my bf who has hurt me physically and emotionally in the past won't let me leave him, and tells me he will kill himself if i do."}
{"id": "t3_2ruhmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[15/M] My Girlfriend Won't Let me Break up With Her", "post": "Me and her have been dating for almost 5 months. I've wanted to break up with her for over a month now and I brought it up right after Christmas, and she tried saying I don't have that option and stuff. She is really controlling and almost abusive kind of, she's 18 and she drinks and that kind of stuff and I don't, my dad was a really bad alcoholic so i've always been against that kind of stuff. But she pressured me into doing it. And at first I said I wasn't ready to do sexual stuff and she said if I didn't she'd tell my friends that I was scared to do it and stuff and she pretty much forced me into doing that too. She makes me give her passwords to all my stuff and let her look through it but I don't have any passwords to hers. And when she gets angry (which is often) she hits me sometimes and stuff like that kind of. \n\nWe aren't really broken up right now but I want to and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I've been wanting to break up with my girlfriend for a while now but when I tried to she said that I can't and she's basically forcing me to stay together with her and I don't know what to do :/"}
{"id": "t3_1nw52n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (20F) getting major red flags from a guy I just met (20-something M) or am I just paranoid?", "post": "I work at a cafe and recognized a regular on the street. I'd had a few very brief interactions with him before, but I immediately recognized him because I'm fairly good with faces. I decided to say hi and make small talk, and I end up with his number. I had no intention of flirting, but I think he interpreted my approach the wrong way so he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime. I said sure why not, what's the harm in hanging out. I like getting to know people and he seems nice. \n\nI text him saying, \"Hey it's blahblah, let me know if you want to hang out\". He responds saying that he thinks I'm sexy and smart, and that he would love to hang out and potentially even cuddle. He says that he's so happy to have met me and that he could never forget our first encounter. \n\nI've never been on a date, never had a boyfriend, never flirted with someone so I had no clue how to respond. I was flattered but slightly put off to be honest. \n\nThen texts me that he has to tell me that I'm a huge turn-on for him.\n\nWooahh....does not compute...brain.not.functioning....I don't know where any of this came from. I've only known him by name for a week and we've only actually talked for a total of ~ 10 minutes. \n\nIs this just called being \"confident\" or is this guy just being creepy? Is it pathetic that I kind of enjoy this strange attention? People are telling me I should run for the hills, but I'm not quite sure what to do.", "summary": "Run into a regular from my work, he texts me after a ten minute conversation on the street that I'm sexy and a huge turn-on, wants to cuddle. Creepy/weird or acceptable?"}
{"id": "t3_3r70db", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "TURNING 21 TOMORROW: Advice and things you wish you would have known at this age (if you're older)?", "post": "Hi, so I'm turning 21 in a couple of hours. I'm not too sure how to feel about this. I was just wondering if there were any tips or life hacks you would offer someone like me stepping into legal adulthood? I guess I want to use tomorrow as a new chapter in my life where I look to stop bad habits and stupid things I've done in the past and try to work on forming good ones. As I sit here reflecting on life, there so much I still want to achieve in this life. I feel as if my motivation is just lacking at times and that my head is not in the right place. I want to put the energy we have from our youth to good use, and in several decades from now have no regrets of not going for/attempting things I wish I had.", "summary": "Reflecting on life, would like some advice as I turn 21"}
{"id": "t3_h6jai", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need advice on how to support my friend after rehab, any suggestions on what to do/say?", "post": "In a couple of days my friend gets out of rehab (mostly coke but he uses other drugs as well). I really want to offer him support but I don't know how. Does anyone have experience with this? I want to help keep him motivated to stay sober. What should I say or do? I know it's not my responsibility that he stays sober, I just want to offer love and support and I don't know what to say to someone leaving rehab (Possibly pertinent info: I'm a woman, we've known each other since we were 7, we're mid 20's now, he'll be living in an isolated town where drug and alcohol abuse are fairly prevalent but I'll be living pretty far away).", "summary": "What should I say or do for my friend getting out of rehab? What are the best ways to support friends in difficult times?"}
{"id": "t3_4gt5sd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my 25 F] Broke up due to sexual problems", "post": "Things had been going great. 2 Years together!\n\nIn last few months sexually I've gone off tee. We still do it occasionally but it's not the same and she gets worked up as I lose interested. I've tried everything to drive my libido back to where it was but it's nothing is working.\n\nI ended it because she wasn't happy and I felt terrible about not only myself but continually letting her down. She wants to try again and it's not important but I know it is to her, she has said multiple times how important constant sex is to her.\n\nHave I done the right thing? I love her so much but I cannot bare to see her unhappy like this.", "summary": "I ended our relationship because my libido has completely gone."}
{"id": "t3_4ndkub", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What reasons do you usually have for blocking somebody on Facebook or other social networking sites? Should the person on the receiving end of a block assume that they have done something wrong?", "post": "I've had no less than eight different women block me on Facebook. I really don't think this is normal. Every time it happens, I always automatically assume that it's my fault, and that the woman in question was taking action to reinforce her personal boundaries, which she felt to have been violated. I imagine them on the other side of the screen having a moment of \"Nope. Sorry. You are an extremely creepy person. I want you out of my life. Don't ever contact me again.\" It tends to happen after we have some sort of interaction, usually one that seemed to end on a positive note (in other words, they didn't seem at all angry or uncomfortable, but I'm assuming they were).\n\nIs that usually how it is for you? Are there other reasons for why you would block somebody - for example, you're just not interested in maintaining contact with that person (not because you find them \"creepy\" or anything), but you don't want to explicitly tell them off? Have you had to block very many people?\n\nI always take blocking extremely personally, like it's a poor reflection on my ability to read social cues and respect boundaries.", "summary": "I've been blocked by several people and immediately assume it's my fault. Are there other reasons for blocking someone that aren't necessarily a reflection on my character?"}
{"id": "t3_4l1dmk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) want to surprise my boyfriend (22M) with a new, exciting anniversary date. I have zero ideas.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together nearly three years.  Our third anniversary is at the end of August.  I know, it's a long ways away, but since it's summer I actually have the time to think about this.  We're currently long distance and won't see each other until a few days before our anniversary.  \n\nI want to plan a fun-filled day for my boyfriend.  The issue is we live in a pretty remote college town and neither of us have cars or bikes or anything.  There is public transportation though, which we can use, and taxis if need be.  Neither of us has a lot of money, but I'm willing to spend for this.  Our usual dates are cheap or free, and I really want to treat him to something new and exciting.  \n\nI'm looking for ideas to make the day fun from start to finish.  The weather will likely be nice so outdoor activities are possible, though neither of us are in shape.  Can someone suggest a sort of schedule of events I could look at and adapt, or maybe ideas that you yourselves have planned for your SO to surprise them?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Want to plan a 3rd anniversary 'fun day' for my boyfriend, don't really know where to start."}
{"id": "t3_3196h4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, My (21F) boyfriend (21M) of 2.5 years, makes a big deal out of everything little thing i do. Every small thing down to the words I use pisses him off. Is he trying to get me to break up with him?", "post": "Basically what the title says. Over the past few months he has been getting irrationally angry at me for seemingly small things such as tagging him in funny photos on Facebook (saying it clogs his feed, even though I've probably done it twice) or the most recent example: He got very annoyed at me for saying it was 'haha random!' that he went out with a person he hasn't seen in years. Saying thats the worst word to use and I 'brought the mood down'..\n\nI feel like he is finding any excuse to make me feel shitty and I am so confused. It never used to be like this!", "summary": "boyfriend gets annoyed at me for EVERYTHING, only for the past few months."}
{"id": "t3_elvy5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College Redditors: Help regarding a grade", "post": "I had a final group project consisting of a presentation and a 20 page paper. I did the primary research which where surveys. The remaining group members where to work on the paper because I had to go through 130 written surveys. Long story short one of the group members copied and pasted and didn't cite her source. Giving us a zero on the paper that is 60% of our grade. \n\nWhat the fuck do I do? I tried to contact my professor and she keeps ignoring me. I realize since my name is on the paper I am part responsible for not seeing it. The class is full next semester so I can't re-take it till next fall. Should I ask her if she can put me in class? Any advice would be awesome. Thanks", "summary": "fucking group member plagiarized giving our entire group an \"F\""}
{"id": "t3_1wwska", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "New rescue won't go to the bathroom outside", "post": "Everyone on here is always giving good advice so I was hoping to poll you guys as well. Here's my issue:\n\nI recently adopted a pretty abused Yorkie, he's two years old and is very timid around everyone. When I first got him, about a week ago, I was taking him out every 2-3 hours but could rarely get him to goto the bathroom. Instead, he just comes inside walks around my apartment for 10 minutes and then goes. I've tried every hour on the hour as well. It's been a week now and he's consistently doing this no matter how long we take him out for. We went on a nice long walk yesterday (thanks to warm weather) and he barely sniffed the ground. But, as soon as we came in, he went to the bathroom within 15 minutes. His foster mother said he knew to go outside but in the 8 days we've had him, he's only went outside about 7 or 8 times. What am I doing wrong? Any tips are appreciated!", "summary": "2yr old yorkie won't pee outside no matter how long we're out there. Goes inside within 20 minutes of coming back in."}
{"id": "t3_1l5vg0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[GA] Got two tickets this evening one for no tag and the other for no insurance. Questions/details inside.", "post": "Alright, I'll admit I was being lazy about getting my car tagged and registered. I knew what was coming to be thats fine, doesn't matter.\n\nAnyways, Tonight I was pulled over by a cop and the usual license registration/proof of insurance talk. I told him I had my insurance but was currently working on my registration as the private seller hasn't gotten there paperwork together. He takes my ID and Insurance info away to his cruiser which I am left sitting for like 35 minutes roughly. \n\nHe came back with \"Your insurance looks to be expired, I have no way of getting proof that this car is insured currently.\" I told him yes I indeed gave him an incorrect card, told him I know for sure its active (later in this story we will get to the bottom if it). He then said since he cant find proof of insurance for my car he would have to impound it (which is legal I believe with no proof). \n\nNow, this sucks the words I dont want to hear. I know for a fact my insurance is valid and I still call him out on his bull shit. He stands his ground saying no one would answer at the office of my insurance and that he has no way of knowing if its insured. I actually had a rough time finding out for sure, I had to call like 6 different numbers which is kind of a big deal. He was telling the truth about the office being closed.\n\nOk so I get a ticket for not having the car registered and No insurance. I was wondering what kind of fee's I'm looking at. Also, I know I have active insurance so going to court with said proof during the impounding and ticketing I had insurance would that drop the charge? \n\nAlso, whats the charge/fee for not having a car registered? Is it something thats expensive as fuck or should I try fighting it?\n\nfor those", "summary": "1. How much is the fees in GA for no insurance and no registration?"}
{"id": "t3_4ilalr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M], how do you stop caring about a girl who holds a grudge on you for disrespecting her?", "post": "Was dating with this girl but in the end I disrespected her.\n\nShe holds a grudge onto me. It's quite clear. Her friends feel sorry for me though.\n\nI can't stop thinking about her. She tried to go with my best friend, who blocked her off because he was seeing another girl and he wasn't interested in her.\n\nNow she is also seeing this guy at my gym who I know is a real player. He cheated on his ex girlfriend without her knowing many times.\n\nI just can't stop caring about her. I feel so lonely and cast out. I tried to apologize but she already gave me a second chance so she doesn't believe me anymore.\n\nI feel like such shit when I see her, she goes to all my activities for some reason.\n\nI just wish I could avoid her, but that would mean I have to stop seeing my friends and stop going to my gym (she also comes there)\n\nI just can't let it go. Every fucking day I end up hoping for her to forgive me, every fucking day I think of sending texts to her, but in the end I don't do it.\n\nIt's making me sick on the inside. It's tearing me up and I want to get rid of the feeling.", "summary": "can't stop caring about this girl who doesn't care about me, need help on how to get rid of this"}
{"id": "t3_3c9cm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After some changes at the office, a coworker from a different department ~ [28M] is now one of my [26F] direct reports. Problem is, we have not gotten along in the past and I don't think respects (or likes) me enough to take me seriously as a leader.", "post": "So sorry for the length! This is still a relatively new situation, so I'd appreciate some advice before approaching him to set expectations.", "summary": "My new direct deport and I have not gotten along in the past (because he's demanding, arrogant and uncooperative, in my admittedly subjective opinion). How do I confront him without causing more damage to our work relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_22op4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my new [21/F] gf, not sure how to react or want this.", "post": "So I'm absolutely crazy about this girl, or was.\n\nWe met a few months back and as of a month ago we made it official.\n\nA couple things that are bothering me and I'm not sure if I'm being needy here, or a little bitch but I could sure do with your opinion.\n\n- She is on her phone every 5 minutes. I'm fine with that, but it stomps me how that's the case and it takes 4 hours to drop me a text back.\n\n- I've been arranging when we see eachother, and if i'm being honest if I didn't it seems like she would just never attempt to arrange to see me.\n\n- She seems emotionally and physically shut off, Yes, both in a sexual and non-sexual way.  It wasn't like this at all before, but as soon as it became labled as bf/gf it's became a total 'one way street' and it's killing me.\n\nI don't want to be in a relationship where it's not a relationship, especially after my last (3 year) relationship was such a disaster.\n\nI'm crazy about this girl, but i'm not willing to try for something where she doesn't get involved. I'm not sure if it's that time of the month? Or whether it's some big shit test or something...\n\nAm I being needy? Selfish? What can I do?", "summary": "Not Sure If I'm being a little bitch or my gf just isn't interested."}
{"id": "t3_2vx9qv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by masterbating with my Mum", "post": "I didn't think I d ever have anything worthy to post that actually did happen while browsing.\n\nThe story goes my GF and I were having a nice Vday right. We cooked breakfast together exchanged some paintings we did for each other. So she works nights and had to go for a double today and she left at 6 pm, after such a great time, I think huh I feel my hormones raging but she already left so I think my mother left two hours ago, I remember her specifically telling us goodbye and that she would go see that new dumb movie 50 shades with her friends... Here goes, I look up some video from reddits own sub nsfw_gifs. you can even check the times i commented on a vid or two\n\nAs I sit there looking for my perfect video I think, oh let me blast the video since I am home alone with my speakers I usually watch at midnight while she is asleep on silent. I'm down to spank the monkey, i smack that dude hard and jizz on my computer chair.\n\nI always tell my friends you don't want to sit on the master chair and take one from the kitchen but never listens, hey, they never listen.\n\nTwo mins later... I get a text:\n\nDid you close the door? \n\nDid you eat the cookies?\n\nI reply, yes and no, I am full...\n\nI hear some sort of ring tone after I sent the message, and I am like wait is she fucking home, OMG in my 22 years of life I've never been caught. FUCK! My hearts racing even 15 mins later and I have no idea what to do I just started watching Conan and Pandora so maybe she thinks i was listening to some funny youtube shit.", "summary": "Mum heard me grapple the propeller."}
{"id": "t3_3b1noz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35 M] wife [33 F] tells me that I can have sex with other women but she can't know about it", "post": "So, we're 8 years together and we have a son of 4 years. We have pretty great relationship together but there are two sticking points about our sex life.\n\nShe has always been somewhat lower drive than me but after our son the difference deepened. I'm always a bit hungry for more.\n\nSecond issue is much, much harder. She has some shame issues that she can't explain and that is the reason why she can't have orgasms while I'm present. She can do it alone in less than 5 minutes apparently.\n\nGiving orgasms is huge for me and at my age of 35 I can safely say I have never given someone as orgasm. Hell, I haven't even seen an orgasm. This really caused me a lot of pain. It's soul crushing. I do feel like a less of a man, a failure. \n\nSo, when I'm feeling low I try to talk about it. I'm not really sure why, perhaps seeking some hope that this could change or just to unburden my feelings of low self esteem. She doesn't want to talk about it and lately she just says I can find some women and have sex with her.\n\nI asked why. Because she wants me to be happy. Fair enough. But, she finds the thought of me being with someone else wildly offensive. So, I asked why again. And it's guilt. Massive amounts of guilt.\n\nI don't know. It makes me angry. She proposes a solution that is not really a solution and if I try to talk about out issues she shuts me up with this. Like this is a solution that solves everything but she can barely even say that aloud without getting overly emotional.\n\nEven if I'm inclined to do this it's impossible to keep it a secret. She knows me, she knows how I spend my time. I'm fully transparent to her and we have no trust issues. The idea that she wants me to lie to her and deceive her upsets me. I don't want to be a cheater and this is exactly what she proposes.\n   \nI'm confused. I feel I can't even talk about our issues (my issues) with her anymore.", "summary": "She feels a lot of guilt over our sex life so gave me permission to sleep with someone else but asks to keep it a secret which is impossible. I'm upset because she proposes a solution which is not a solution at all."}
{"id": "t3_18h0qy", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What are the Dating Rules?", "post": "I'm a 19 year old male college drop out. I'm interested in a probably 21 year old college student. I don't know too much about her so I'm thinking I should ask her if she wants to go get coffee as a sort of almost first date type thing. Am I right in thinking that would be a good first step?\n\nWhat are dating rules like?\n\nIf she says no, should I ask, \"Do you mean you're busy, don't like coffee, or just don't like me?\" If she isn't into me, do I give up? I don't want to be some clueless guy who walks away too soon, but I also don't want to annoy her or creep her out.\n\nIf she says yes, how do things progress? Say coffee goes really well and she's really into me, do I move forward to a more official type of date? How does that progress into a relationship? Say we go on 2-3 dates, can I call her my girlfriend? Do we need to establish that?", "summary": "What are the rules of before, during, and after the dating stage?"}
{"id": "t3_eiqke", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone have personal experience with the new MS treatment?", "post": "My mom was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis many years ago, and while it is progressing slowly, it is still affecting her life greatly even forcing her to go back to school in order to switch professions.  She recently went and got a test which came back positive for having a vein in her neck partially blocked. They are starting new treatments in different countries which can fix this but it is all very new, and still pretty risky.  Does anyone have any info or personal experience in this matter?  I want to help her anyway I can and she is looking for the best place to go and get the treatment done.  Any help is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Mom has MS, looking for help/info on where to get the new surgery done."}
{"id": "t3_12vosc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not understanding my calculator and almost failing my algebra/trigonometry class.", "post": "I was required to buy a graphing calculator for my college class and I've been slowly learning how to use it for a few months now. \n\nSoon after getting it, my mom accidentally threw away the instruction booklet, as well as the package because she thought it was just trash. This is the first time I've ever had a graphing calculator so I'm learning something new every day.\n\nWe only have a month left in the semester and I have a D- in the course. I thought that it didn't have a radian/degree mode and you were supposed to just manually type in the degree or pi symbols, then it would automatically assume the type of mode you're using.\n\nWell, it turns out there is a degree/radian mode, its just hidden. I've been getting wrong answers all semester because of this stupid mistake.\n\nI'm in shock right now. I spent 9 hours last night using this calculator, wolframalpha, and physics formulas just to figure out 4 problems (they were wrong by the way). When I saw that it was time for class, I broke down crying because I'm going to fail. If I can't make it in college, its over for me.\n\nNow I just feel so drained that I can't even type coherent sentences.", "summary": "Was in radian mode all semester and almost failed because of it."}
{"id": "t3_2ydnd5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] cheated on my girlfriend [17 F] with my best friend [17 F] and feel like shit about it. GF forgave but friend avoids me.", "post": "Hey guys, throwaway account here.\n\nSo I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend, call her Mary, for about 2 and a half years. I've been very good friends with somebody else, call her Lisa, for about 3 and a half years.\n\nLast fall I went camping with Lisa. I'm not sure why I thought this would ever be okay but I felt her up in my tent (i.e. second base), during which she was very timidly affectionate (i.e. stroking my arm, light foreplay). At some point we stopped and went to bed. The next day the same thing happened, except that after a while she told me to stop, after which I immediately stopped and left the tent. \n\nShe seemed friendly for the rest of the day, even if things were a bit weird. I told her that I felt bad and wanted to confess to my girlfriend, which she told me not to do. (FYI she has a boyfriend.) The next day I got a text saying she told her boyfriend, so I then told my girlfriend the next morning. She was hurt but we made up and since then we've been closer, if anything. I apologized profusely but she insisted it was okay and that she's rather just move on.\n\nAnyway, Lisa seemed fairly friendly to me throughout this whole ordeal- we even met up once or twice in the next few weeks, during which she seemed lightly affectionate. (This weirded me out a bit and I tried to be as platonic as possible while still being friendly.)\n\nSince then she has basically said she wants space and has been a bit cold, but not completely silent towards me. \n\nI really feel terrible about the whole thing- I betrayed the trust of my SO, destroyed two important friendships (Lisa's and her BF's), and I may have physically violated a close friend of mine. If possible, I want to rekindle the friendships, but I'd also like some perspective on the whole situation.", "summary": "I felt up my best friend, cheating on my girlfriend. GF forgave me but my friend (and her boyfriend) avoid me. Feel like shit about the whole ordeal."}
{"id": "t3_2zyl2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [21F] is considering dropping out of college. Looking for some opinions", "post": "Our relationship is great. We've been dating for a year and I couldn't be happier. This is the third program she's tried out. She said that she enjoys the content of her current program, however it is new to her college, is very unorganized, and she hates it. She just found out she now has to do a summer semester, meaning she doesn't get to move home and is considering dropping out. She's ~15,000 in debt currently. I told her that whatever she decides I will support 100% and that she needs to be happy, however reminded her she hasn't even had her first placement yet and it might be worthwhile to try it out first. I also explained that if she were to go back to waitressing, she would have a dramatically less luxurious lifestyle than she is used to once she moves out.  I want her to be happy and will support her with whatever she chooses. That said, I think she wants to drop out because the distance between us is hard on her, and she's very lonely where she's currently living for school. Again, I want to emphasize to her that I will support whatever she decides. She asked me to call her tonight so she can have my opinion on everything and I'm at a loss for what to say. Those more experienced in life, how would you handle this?", "summary": "Girlfriend is debating dropping out of her third program and hasn't even had her first placement. I think the biggest reason is that she misses me and feels lonely where she's currently living. We're talking tonight and she wants my opinion - I want to support her decision and want her to be happy. What do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_4ywd8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] just broke things off with my SO [26 M] of one year. I think I did the right thing but why do I feel so terrible?", "post": "My boyfriend and I were together for just about a year. He is a perfect, caring boyfriend and has such a big heart. We get along great and always have a really fun time together. That being said, from the very beginning I felt as if there was something intangible that was missing.\n\nOver the past few months, I started to think more about marriage and children and for some reason just couldn't picture a future with him. The frustrating part is that he never did anything wrong, it was just a feeling I had that I couldn't explain.\n\nThe past few days, I woke up with a very anxious feeling in my stomach and chest. This morning, I knew I had to talk to him about it. I basically told him that he's perfect and I love him but I just don't see us getting married. He was shocked and super upset. Watching him cry made me feel so terrible because he is such a good person and someone I never wanted to hurt.\n\nHe is kind of a control freak and refused to believe that he didn't do something wrong, although I kept assuring him that he didn't. I feel awful that he thinks it's his fault, and I wish things were different and that I didn't feel this way. If I did the right thing, why do I feel so bad?", "summary": "Broke things off with my perfect boyfriend because something intangible is missing & I don't see us getting married. Not sure why I feel so shitty about it if i did the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_b4l83", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the most random thing you've ever done?", "post": "Last year (my final year of college) my friend and I were sitting around having a beer after spending countless hours in the engineering building. We realized mardi gras was currently going on and figured a). we had nothing to do this weekend and b). when would be ever be able to pick up and go again.\n\nWe mapquested \"New Orleans, LA\" and made the 19 hour drive (departing from Michigan State University) and arrived about 7pm on Friday. Met a very nice couple who ironically had graduated from MSU (saw our shirts) and they gave us a mini-rundown. Friday night ended up staying out at the bar until 8am because we had no place to sleep. Ended up taking a couple hour power nap in the car, woke up, and did it all again. When 2am rolled around we once again slept in the car and set alarms for 7am. Woke up, made the drive back, and still made it to my 8am on Monday.\n\nWas honestly the most fun I've ever had in a weekend.", "summary": "Spur of the moment trip to Mardi Gras with no place to sleep/no reason to go other than nothing else to do"}
{"id": "t3_4wzfyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] fiance [20 F] refuses to get a job after telling her my job can't support both of us [Relationship]", "post": "We've been dating for a year and a half and engaged for 6 months. She recently moved in with me and my parents and we planned to stay here for no more than a year or two. My parents offered as they leave for half the year to winter in the south and we could use the cheap rent and free car to use to save money for down the road. \n\nWe've been here 9 months and I've had a steady job for 8 of them. I don't make much but when almost all of it is spending/saving money instead of bills it feels like a lot. She also worked for 5 or so months but quit her job as, \"it was too hard on her body.\" Unfortunately she still wants to spend money and go out as though we are both working. Even with all the bills we don't have to pay, making less than $300 a week won't go far between two people. \n\nI've talked to her about it and she wants to try staying at home earning money off art commissions and streaming her art/gaming. She has plenty of savings thanks to some stocks from her parents, but it isn't smart to use that as a fallback if you don't have to. I've seen people be wildly successful on YouTube/Twitch, but I can't help but feel luck has something to do with it.\n\nI said I suppose it's technically her money, and she could try for a while, but now I'm really regretting it. I'm afraid she won't be able to tell if she is succeeding or failing and will just run herself into the ground. I haven't even hinted at it, but I don't know I want to be with her if she continues much longer. \n\nMaybe I'm wrong but trying something online thousands of people are already doing seems foolish. The internet is more clutter than actual talent and I doubt she'll be recognized for her art/gaming personality just because of how many others are trying. \n\nSo, that's it, thanks for your help and sorry in advance for any fuck ups in my post.", "summary": "Fiance wants to be a YouTuber/artist instead of having a job in a workplace and I feel my job alone can't support both of us and am considering leaving."}
{"id": "t3_16wkau", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I'm looking for a good pair of start-up running shoes for me. (6'6\" 210lbs.)", "post": "I've never been a runner but I've decided that its a good way to get back into shape. I found a store near me called Future Track Running Center that offers a small selection of running shoes on their site. I read that they even have the ability to watch my strides on a treadmill to better assist me in finding a shoe. However, their prices are kind of high for something I'm not sure about. Don't get me wrong.. I'll pay the $130 for a good pair of shoes that will work for ME. Thank you in advance for your help!!!\n\nAnyways,", "summary": "I'm a big guy looking for a good shoe. I might be an over/under pronator but my biggest concern is finding a brand that is suited for my size. If your able to see a brand on the site (or if you know of one off hand) that is good then PLEASE let me know."}
{"id": "t3_1xq4hf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20F] in a long distance relationship with boyfriend [24M]. Falling in love with my best friend [24M], very confused/guilty, don't know what to do.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend since fall 2011. He works overseas for a few months out of the year, anywhere between three to nine months. \n\nIt's never been a big problem before. Obviously we missed each other terribly, but we've always talked online every day while he's gone. We've never had any problems with infidelity or anything.\n\nI've been working with a really cool guy since last summer. Over time we became best friends and are very close. I didn't think it would be a problem, I grew up a tomboy and was always friends with guys. But for the past few months I've found myself having feelings for him.\n\nToday I was at his house after work, we were watching TV. His house is freezing, so he asked if I wanted to \"cuddle\" to keep warm. He's asked this before and I always said no because I would feel guilty curling up with a guy who's not my boyfriend. But I was freezing, and as I've already admitted I have feelings for him. \n\nSo we cuddled for a couple of hours and it was nice. I am very lonely without my boyfriend, and really miss the touch of another person. Then he started stroking my abdomen and breasts. I didn't say no or try to stop him. A few minutes later we talked briefly about what's happening between us. We both know it can't continue, but I don't know what will happen now.\n\nI feel extremely confused and guilty. How could I let it get this far when I have a boyfriend? What do I do next? Should I look for a new job and stop talking to my best friend? Or should I break up with my boyfriend and be with my friend? I think I might love my friend more than my boyfriend.", "summary": "In a relationship but have feelings for best friend, what should I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_3j9e8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] talked to a girl [20F] on a dating site. We get along, but as I lose interest, she is gaining it.", "post": "I started talking to a girl on a dating website. She's cute; I'm not head over heels for her, but I enjoy the \"company,\" I guess. One problem we addressed was that we live far away. She's 2 hours away and unable to drive. \n\nWe've been talking for about a week, and I've been just not feeling it for various reasons. I'd date her if she was close by, but I just don't feel overwhelmingly attracted to her like I feel I should. On the other hand, she thinks I'm the best thing that ever happened to her. I feel sad, because she generally cares about me as well. I care about her too, but just not in a way that makes me want to girlfriend her or anything. She is pressing for the date, but I really don't want to drive 2 hours for someone that I most likely won't want to continue things with.", "summary": "I don't really feel attracted to her as much as I thought I would be. She is pushing for a date, but she lives 2 hours away. I don't really want to get her hopes up or waste her time."}
{"id": "t3_45if9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my mother [60s F] Mom is 'too sick' constantly", "post": "I'm having a hard time separating out the emotion from what's best.  I have 2 young kids (0.5 and 3.5 yrs).  My mother moved down to 'help' with the kids.  Or to see them.  Our relationship has always been 1) exclude my wife as much as possible b/c my mother hates pretty much everyone.  2)  Whatever's convenient for my mother, which always consists of 'when you come over you are going to do X Y Z while the kids are here, 3) very flakey, never really all that reliable.  Particularly in the winter. February is pretty much hell due to unpredictable school closings, very busy at work for both of us (we both work 50/60 hours a week).  \n\nSo long story short, she 'got sick', and I haven't seen her in a month.  Before, that I asked to be taken off her mortgage (I co-signed with the understanding that in a year or two when she could get a better rate, i would be taken off the mortgage).  So she got really pissed about that and has now shut me out of her will and all assets.   So, there's that.  (even though she's getting a better rate now!)\n\nSo she's been sick a month, she says.  She finally decides she is well enough and \"has to see the kids\".  Okay fine.  We work out a time.  I ask if she is better, could she babysit for us.  No, she's apparently not well enough to do that.  Only well enough to take the eldest a few hours.  Which is great, but still.\n\nI guess I'm pissed and disappointed, tired of her doing this shit.  She did it last winter and the year before, basically just abandoning us to our own devices.  Now, she is an adult and she can do what she wants, and she doesn't owe us.  But it sucks to not have any sort of help when we most need us.", "summary": "Mom's difficult sometimes, wish she could help more."}
{"id": "t3_3ktvwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feels like I [26F] am always the one to initiate plans with my boyfriend [32M/] lately", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. In the past 2-3 months he's been particularly busy with work and we went from seeing each other from maybe twice a week to about once a week. We talk/text basically every day and we take turns initiating conversation. When it comes to making plans though, I feel like I'm always the one reaching out anymore. The last time he did initiate something, it fell through because he misread my response and thought I was indicating that I was busy that night, when in fact I was not.\n\nWhen I initiate plans, he always says yes and seems excited about it, and we always have a great time together, but I wish he'd suggest plans sometimes, too. I know things are always different at the very beginning of a relationship, but when we first started dating, it was the opposite - he always asked me out and because of that, I rarely initiated things. But at this point I feel like it should be 50/50. And I find myself getting nervous that maybe he doesn't really want to see me since he's not reaching out. But, as I mentioned, he does always say yes enthusiastically to whatever I suggest, and if it interferes with his work, he'll usually suggest an alternative. So, should I just keep on taking charge here? Maybe he feels like I prefer to be the maker of plans, so he's just allowed me to take over in that regard since he's been busy.. ? Or should I ask him to pick up the ball a little bit more?", "summary": "I'm always the one to initiate plans, and my boyfriend never says no to what I suggest, but it's just getting annoying that I always have to be the one to make plans if I want to see him."}
{"id": "t3_359ilo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [F/24] have been seeing this guy [M/33] for about 3 weeks now but things have been moving way too fast to the point where I'm freaking out a bit?", "post": "So I've known him as a friend for almost 2 years now, but about 3 weeks ago we were hanging out at a park and out of nowhere he kissed me. Since then he's been extremely attached to me. \n\nHe's already talking about marriage and children. He's introduced me to his sister and he's already been talking to his parents about me. Yes we have hooked up twice only but wow I'm so scared because I didn't think he was gonna be this attached. This is going way too fast for me I'm at a point where I feel yes I wanna date but I don't wanna commit and get married just yet. \n\nDon't get me wrong, he's one of the most loving and caring people I've ever met, but it's the pace of this relationship that's scaring me off a little. If I break up with him I know he's gonna flip and talk about how he's already told his parents about me and such. He literally depends on me for happiness he's only happy if I'm keeping in touch with him throughout the whole day.\n\nThis is going way too fast to the point that I don't have a good feeling about it. I wanna break up but don't know the right words to say because I know for a fact he's gonna go ape shit on me. What are the right words I can say in a situation like this? I didn't mean to let things go this far, he's gonna feel like I led him on but this is all just way too fast for me. :(", "summary": "how to I break it gently to this man I've been seeing that I can't be with him because the pace of this relationship is moving waaaay too fast?"}
{"id": "t3_2jpfc4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] met this girl [19 F] about a week ago who avoided telling me she wasn't single. I need some advice.", "post": "Hey guys, first time posting here, so please bear with me.\n\nSo I met this girl about a week ago through one of my university classes. We exchanged numbers after chatting and having a good time for a couple of hours. I felt like there was a nice connection, so I figured I'd invite her to hang out and see how things went from there. I'm also single, so this seemed like a nice way to get to know her a bit more and see if I was interested there.\n\nLong story short, we were having a good time, chatting and whatnot. She told me she had to go earlier than expected because a friend was in town by surprise but wanted me to walk her back to her dorm, which I gladly did.\n\nI'd like to clarify that while I like this girl, I am fine just being friends with her. As we were walking back she started talking about how she'd have to go out on the town tonight and she didn't want to. This was pretty confusing so I asked her to explain. After several, \"are you sure you want to know?\" she finally let out that her friend coming to visit was actually her boyfriend. The fact that she has purposefully left out that she had a boyfriend seemed really strange to me.\n\nI know it's generally not a good idea to look into individual actions like this but I'm curious as to what you guys think. Why would someone hide the fact that they have a boyfriend?", "summary": "Why would someone hide they have a SO when hanging out with a person of the opposite gender?"}
{"id": "t3_wyh9x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As awesome as my mom is for what she was able to accomplish, she did some pretty fucked up things as a parent. Reddit, what are some of your fucked up parenting stories?", "post": "Now, I will admit, I wasn't the best child by any means, but here's a few glimpses into my childhood (or at least parts that I remember, I had severe emotional issues and blocked alot of shit out of my life hindering my ability to recall situations).  I am 25 and have been on my own for nine years.  My dad bounced back in 95 and I never heard from or saw him again, I don't even know if he is still alive.  This situation left my mother, not a US born citizen, to raise three boys on her own. I am the middle child with one brother being 2 years older the other 3 years younger.  My mom went on to own her own business cuz she's a rockstar, but we haven't spoken since she kicked me out at the age of 16. Some of the things I got in trouble over were pretty stupid, and my mom would beat me with a leather riding crop (no she wasn't a bdsm whore, we lived close to Kentucky and the horse track) and not just whoopings, she would use it on my face. Needless to say I learned my lessons quick, but still.", "summary": "my mom could be a real bitch and her forms of corporal punishment pushed the envelope, I just wanted to know your experiences."}
{"id": "t3_1kn4oe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26F] have been in a friends with benefit relationship with someone[26M] since the begining of the summer and he's sending me mixed messages...", "post": "So I've been sleeping with this guy since July and after a couple of weeks he told me he liked our relationship the way it was...or basicall that he didnt want nothing serious. I decided I was ok with it so we kept on hooking up. Since the last 2-3 weeks, he comes to my house at least 3-4 times a week and stay overnight. He is really affectionnate and takes care of me like he is my boyfriend. With time I think I developed feelings for him and I brought it up to him last Thursday and he said that he is emotionally not available and that he wouldn't be able to give me what I really want. I did told him about the way he acts with me and the way he takes care of me and he said that's just how he is. My friends think that his feeling for me can change since he actions and words are totally different. I dont want to get hurt...should I have hope that he will change ??", "summary": "Should I have hope his feeling for me are going to grow since he acts like he is more than my fuckfriend or should I take his words when he says he wants nothign serious ??"}
{"id": "t3_1fszgc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Happy, successful people of Reddit, How did you get to where you are now?", "post": "I'm 23 years old and I have no idea of what i'm going to do with my life. I went to school for Architecture and i'm not even sure if I made the right choice. I'm working at a small architecture firm near my house, I still live with my parents, and I feel unhappy. My boyfriend is going off to grad school and my friends are either doing the same or having these awesome adventures.\n\nMeanwhile I feel stuck. The happiest I've been is when I studied abroad in Italy for three months. My boyfriend asked me to join him in California, but I know I shouldn't go just for him. \n\nI'm not asking for relationship advice, I'm asking for life advice. I would like to go to grad school but I'm afraid of the costs that would come with that. I want to go to Cali but i'm afraid of making the wrong choices. I feel like I wasted my college years and I feel like I haven't learned enough (not because I partied or anything, I really feel if I didn't have to commute two hours carrying my model and supplies and have a part time job on the weekends and evenings at the same time, I could have made better work)", "summary": "23 years old, depressed, wondering if I wasted my time in college by studying the wrong field, not feeling satisfied with life"}
{"id": "t3_9t1d8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm traveling to the UK for the first time.  I have 8 full days to experience as much as I can.  What should I do/see/eat/drink?", "post": "I was born and raised in the US, and currently live in Los Angeles where I'm attending grad school.  I've only ever been to Mexico and Canada, and haven't seen much of either country.  \n\nI will soon be out of grad school and crushed under a huge mountain of debt.  I'll have little free time (gotta hit the ground running upon graduation) and little spending cash, so I won't be able to travel much.\n\nI had a 'dark night of the soul' a few months ago, when I freaked out about how little of the world I've actually seen, and how few 'free' years I have left.  (Free of the responsibilities that come along with having a mortgage, a family, a full-time career, children, etc.)  I have a friend who grew up in England, and currently lives in London.  So I bought a plane ticket, and I'm crashing at her place.  Yes, it's the middle of the semester.  But fuck it.  Life is short and the hand of Death tightens its grip on my shoulder a little bit more each day.\n\nI have 8 full days (days that do not involve sitting in a chair in the sky).  I want to experience as much as I possibly can.  I am open to any and all suggestions.  I certainly want to do a few 'touristy' things, but more importantly I want to see The Real Shit.  I want to experience the UK that people who live there experience.  \n\nSo what's your favorite pub/restaurant/store/cafe/park/museum/etc.?  I'm going to catalogue everything you suggest, and do as much as I possibly can.  I will gladly ride a train at 7 am hungover as all hell if it means I was up until 3 am the night before at an unbelievable bar.", "summary": "I am traveling to the UK for the very first time and will have 8 days to experience as much as I can.  All suggestions welcome.  I will travel anywhere within the UK, so don't let distance limit your responses."}
{"id": "t3_51blr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [36 F] GF just broke up with me [36 M] over me not being upset with her?", "post": "My GF and I have been dating for several months. Things have been going great. We're both divorced and have kids. \n\nThis weekend she was supposed to come to my mom's with me for my daughter's birthday party. She told me last night that she couldn't come. She wasn't sure she was ready to meet my mom and she needed money from teaching on Sunday that she couldn't be back for if she went. \n\nI took it super in stride. I was really cool about it. I didn't get upset in the least. I was disappointed, sure, but didn't do or say anything to let it on. This morning I got up and left. She was trying to get me to talk about it and say that something was wrong. Nothing was wrong from my point of view! I was still going to have a great weekend and nothing was going to ruin that. It seemed silly to be upset.\n\nAnyway, fast-forward a few hours, some texts, and she's breaking up with me. I guess she was just looking for a reason. It doesn't make any sense.\n\nI was really trying to be positive and look at the good things happening in my life, ignoring the bad. Was trying to be mature in the relationship and accept disappointment gracefully. This apparently triggered her? I don't know.\n\nAlso I've bought her an appliance after one of hers failed and bought her groceries a dozen times at least. I've spent a lot of money on her and have been generous because I know she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm doing fine financially. Now she's worried I'm going to keep the keyboard she loaned my daughter. She's texting me about it non-stop about how she needs to get that back ASAP. It's really offensive.\n\nWanted to tell the story. Feels bad man.", "summary": "GF Broke up with me because I'm not upset with her for disappointing me. Accuses me of wanting to steal from her after I've given her a ton of money. Feels bad man."}
{"id": "t3_3etnac", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scaring a kid, twice", "post": "This fuck up didn't happen today but I thought I would post this anyway. I'm writing this from my phone so please excuse any mistakes.\n\nIt all started when I woke up in a hotel since was on vacation with my family. This far everything went smoothly until me and my brother decided to head down for breakfast.\n\nAnd here comes the first fuck up. I thought it would be fun to scare my brother (why not?), so I slank to the first and best door niche (is that what it's called?) down the corridor and I was pretty well hid there. As expected I hear footstepps coming closer and prepare to attack the prey. Seconds later I leap towards him as I scream with all my might (Yes I'm stupid).To my horror (and his too) THAT WASN'T MY BROTHER! It was a kid aged 8-12 years. By the expression on his face he was really scared. I quickly apologize as I walk away back my hiding place. He seemed to go back to his room and came back later. Then I realize I just should give up and head to breakfast. \n\nNow this is when my genius brother thought of the idea to scare me. As it turns out he was waiting for me to come later down the corridor. I should mention I was walking a couple of meters behind the kid (which probably made it even creepier for him). As the kid pass another door niche it happened. My brother jumped out and scared the kid. I didn't hear or see very well what happened as I was behind him. Then the kid tried to run back and saw me. As expected the kid once again got really scared by just the sight of me. I quickly skipped over and apologized as my brother and I  explained we were trying to scare eachother. The kid looked somewhat less scared and told us he was okay. \n\nAs he walked down the rest of the corridor he looked at left and right all the way. What made things worse was in the breakfast when the kid was at another table staring at as with his parents. \nI quickly ate my breakfast and walked away feeling guilty.\n\nWriting this still makes me cringe. And that's it.", "summary": "Scared a kid, brother had same idea."}
{"id": "t3_4kqej5", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I like a girl but she doesnt feel the same way, but at the same time constantly wants to hang out with me. what do i do?", "post": "Ive been hanging out with this girl a bit and it was cool but now im starting to think about it.\nWe talked about it and she said she didnt think anything was wrong with me but i just wasnt her type. i told her i was fine with that and i thought that was that. But she has been hitting me up just about every weekend to hang out. Literally. At first i though maybe i was a last resort but it seems as though she has a few guys who wanna \"hang out\" with her but im the go to guy. One day we were walking to the club and she started telling me about how i was the only person she liked and that i was the only real person she met. She also said she loved being around me cause she knows im always looking out for her and she feels safe. But she also tells me of the guys she hooks up with which is very awkward for me.\nAnyway we had gone on a trip together for 2 days and it was really fun and we both had a good time. But i couldn't even look her in the face cause when i did i just remembered how beautiful she was and it made my heart sink.\nShe's a cool person and its not really her fault but im not sure what to do about it. She is really the only person i have to hang out with and i actually enjoy being with her but theres always that spot in the back of my mind where i feel so inadequate. I pretty much feel like im the boyfriend without the sex. Like it might be wrong but im catch myself wondering if im looking like a huge loser because im settling to be friends with a girl i like while she goes out hooks up with guys who dont actually like her and then she just comes back to me.", "summary": "I like her and she's fun to be with but i feel like a loser settling for friends with this girl while she hooks up with other people. But if i stop being friends with her i wont have anyone who will be as willing to go out and do stuff."}
{"id": "t3_1mdyym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with a compulsive liar?", "post": "So here's the story. One of my closest friends (I'll leave his identity as anonymous out of respect) has been borrowing a lot of money from people I have introduced to him, mainly for weed and alcohol, and I'm under the impression he has no intention of giving it back.\n\nIt's been coming back to me a lot; I've been getting calls off the people who he owes money to saying that because I introduced them, I should be paying the debt, which I think is rather unfair considering I'm not really a part of the situation. But then again, without me, this situation wouldn't have occurred, so I'm as much to blame as anybody.\n\nHe's in the music business, and he's been using Twitter to contact musicians that are willing to pay him money for a verse on a song. He was (and still is) quite established for the music he has done. When he receives payment, he's completely disregarded the person who sent it, and cuts all contact with them. I would've had no idea about this, but I've saw posts on forums and on social media calling him a \"scammer\" and a \"fraud\" etc etc. \n\nI messaged my friend asking if he had paid my weed guy back and he said yes, but when I confronted the guy himself he told me that it was a complete lie and that he was still waiting for his money back. This really upset me, especially to be lied to by a close friend.\n\nI don't want him to get in trouble, beat up or threatened for any of this, but I'm starting to think it's the only way to get through to him.\n\n[[IMPORTANT BACKGROUND INFORMATION]] he was in a car accident about four years ago that nearly killed him, and left him with severe brain damage. This has resulted in a complete personality change, so I know that all of this stuff ISN'T LIKE HIM, but I'm unsure that other people can understand this, especially when they're being ripped off by him.\n\nSo... What do I do? Any feedback would be appreciated.", "summary": "My friend who has severe brain damage and is severly damaged from a car accident a few years back is borrowing money off people I know to fuel his weed habit, and scamming people on the internet for money through the medium of his music career, and lying about it to me. How do I combat this?"}
{"id": "t3_rii04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend pregnant, getting abortion (UPDATE, NOT PREGNANT!!!)", "post": "Original topic here: \n\nLike the topic title says, she's not pregnant! She took several tests Saturday, all positive. Today she went in to see her doctor and the blood test came back negative. They tested some more and she isn't pregnant. Literally the greatest feeling of relief in my entire life.\n\nI went from listening to Goodbye My Lover and bawling uncontrollably each time to watching the end of It's a Wonderful Life...and also bawling uncontrollably, tears of joy today thankfully. The doctor said it could have been a number of things but it is certainly very uncommon. \n\nThanks all for the advice and support, I don't think I'll ever be so stupid again. The range of emotions has just been surreal, best day ever.", "summary": "Her egg dodged my sperm bullets"}
{"id": "t3_1q9fjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [M27] didn't invite me [F26] to his sister's wedding. I'm kinda sad?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for 10 months. \n\nWe live in California and his family lives in Connecticut. I've only met them twice but each time, we got along extremely well. I really like his family, especially his sister. \n\nHis sister is getting married next weekend and throwing a huge wedding. I haven't been invited. I've only met her twice but considering my boyfriend and I are in a serious 10 month relationship, I was hoping he'd take me. \n\nIt would be so much fun. All of their old friends, acquaintances, and extended family are going to be there and I thought it would be a great opportunity to be introduced everyone. But my boyfriend hasn't said anything. In fact, he's barely mentioned anything about the wedding. Last night, he started packing some of his stuff and we talked a little about his flight but that was pretty much it.\n\nI don't think money is the issue because his family is well off. So I'm beginning to wonder if it's because he's not that serious about me?\n\nIs this something I should talk to him about or should I just let it go?", "summary": "Boyfriend didn't invite me to his sister's wedding. I'm worried he's not serious about me."}
{"id": "t3_4k13pg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(19F) and I (21M) have nice days that lead to confrontation", "post": "Some background:\n\nMy girlfriend lives in the city, and I in a suburb not too far. I come down to see her on my days off work and we just relax in her dorm or go out. Most of the time, it always starts out great but as the days go on, we end up in a cold spot. Both of us deal with mental health issues. I, for one, deal with major depression and anxiety (among other diagnoses). She's current seeing a therapist for her problems.\n\nUsually the problem arises when one of us becomes anxious and ask each other if we're okay. This tends to go on for a while until we end up back at the dorm discussing how we're feeling. Usually ending up in a anxious mess and crying. We work things out and decide to try and further work it out (I not be so anxious, and her share her feelings more\u2014which she has trouble due to childhood)\n\nI just need other's perspectives on this and what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I seem to have communication problems\u2014seem to patch up but happens again. Need perspectives."}
{"id": "t3_2y8ywg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He (22 Y/M) and I (21Y/F) have been doing a casual relationship for 1 month and a half, but he doesn't want to have sex yet?", "post": "So basically, this guy broke up with a longterm girlfriend only a couple months ago. We met and started to have a thing for each other, and I've been sleeping over since then. I told him I don't want a relationship, and he is on the same page (he is leaving the state the end of this semester).\n\nWe've been fooling around and not having sex (he forgets to get condoms, he's in a weird state of mind, etc) and finally he tells me that he's been afraid to tell me the real reason, because he's afraid that I would stop coming over. The reason being that he has only recently broken up with his girlfriend and he needs some time. He has feelings of guilt. He said he actually did buy condoms recently too, but just needs time to not feel guilty. I didn't think much of it, because I know how it was to get out of a longterm relationship.\n\nThen one of my best guy friends said that it sounded like I was a distraction, and that the guy still had hope to get back with his girlfriend, which was why he didn't want to have sex. So I call him and ask him if this was the reason why, and he says that I have it all wrong. That the reason why him and his girlfriend broke up was that he lost feelings for her. And he feels guilty not about her, but about the situation- meaning that he felt bad if he moved on so quickly and she didn't. He said she's also leaving the state in a couple months and that he has no feelings for her. After I told another mutual friend, she said that this makes sense and since he met me, he has been attracted to things that I do and certain traits about me, and not just how I was physically.", "summary": "So I apologize for rambling, but I wanted opinions on the fact that he doesn't want to have sex for that reason? Has anybody not wanted to have sex for the reason of feeling bad of moving on too quickly while your ex didn't, even if you don't have any feelings for your ex? I want to understand it through other's perspectives. My guy friend still thinks I'm a distraction, or a sidechick, but it doesn't line up with things that he does; being affectionate with me in public/with his friends, making roadtrip plans, and the fact that even if we're not having sex, he still wants me over."}
{"id": "t3_30r5a6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - by wiping my ass with a alcohol wipe.", "post": "Setting -  Locomotive,  the toilets in a engine are similar to a airplane but worse.  But anyways.  \n\nAlso usually a train runs with two engines on the head end (front),  you never use the shitter in the front engine for a dump, neither yourself or the conductor want to smell that shit (literally).\n\nStory -  So normally ones avoids having to take a shit in the locomotives cause the washrooms are gross, and you gotta do the good ole standing squat shit.  But today for lunch I had eaten some ham &  bean soup.  Delicious...  But a poor choice for a 12 shift on a train. So the time comes,  and I grab a crew pak and walk to the second engine. A crew pak is a little sealed bag that has some napkins,  small roll of TP and importantly later on 2 kinds of wipes. 4 wipes are merely soapy or whatever.  2 of them are 90% alcohol antiseptic wipes. \n\nAs I'm sure you've figured. I did my business,  wipe my ass with the cheapo 1-ply from crew pak. But I decide to use one of the soap wipes just for extra measure.  let's be honest this was a full on bean induced massacre,  and I had used a fair amount of TP and my butthole was kinda raw already from wiping with such Crappy Rough toilet paper. \n\nSo it's dark out and cramped but I grabbed the first wipe packet tear it open and proceed to ensure my asshole is sneaky clean. \n\n Let me tell you 90% antiseptic wipes are not a pleasant feeling on your raw balloon knot.  In fact it only increased that burning pain tenfold.", "summary": "took a bean induced shit on a train and mistook the antiseptic alcohol wipe for the soap wipe when ensuring a clean butt after. "}
{"id": "t3_3tz5x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23m] girlfriend [23f] doesn't put anything into our relarionship", "post": "Me and my gf have been dating for 5 months now. It is a long distance relationship, I live in a major city about 2 hours away from her in another major city.  So far our relationship has been great, we fight every now and then but it's always over petty things and they get resolved quickly because we always talk it out.\n\nThe problem is, I feel that she doesn't do anything to make our relationship work. I'm doing everything, driving to see her, pay for everything, send her good morning and good night texts, send her flowers, buy her chocolate, give her motivation for school. Just trying to be a good bf to her. But I never see anything in return. She is currently in grad school and I just began working so she always says she is busy and I understand that, but I'm busy too and I do make time to go out of my way and make her feel loved and I feel like she can do some little things to make me feel appreciated a little more. \n\nI have brought it up to her before and we kinda had a fight about it cause I let It build up and did get pretty pissed that I even had to say anything. I even gave her a couple of examples of little things she could do that don't even require a lot of money or time. She said that she didn't feel anything was wrong but that she would def try to work on it and was pretty afraid that I was gonna leave her. 2 months later and I feel that she completely forgot about it and I don't want this anger to build up again to the point were I get pissed at her again. And I will say that I have 0 intentions of leaving her.", "summary": "putting all the work into our relationship and want to see something back from my gf without asking her too"}
{"id": "t3_53g2ay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] and my girlfriend [20F] need to get the hell out of this living situation.", "post": "A friend suggested I ask for help here. \n\nMy girlfriend and I were both raised in incredibly abusive households. Of course with that being the case we both have respective mental illnesses. I got out - I left home once last year, came back thinking my parents would change, then decided to live with relatives. I got out. She, on the other hand, is still in. \n\nShe has schizoid personality disorder. She medicated with weed which seemed to be the only thing that helped her cope. It wasn't a perfect solution, but it gave her a distraction. Yesterday, her father found her stash and took her keys, money, and turned off her phone. They won't even let her out to attend college classes. She was messaging me through Tumblr but her charger had been broken and it is perhaps dead now. She could be as well, and I would have no way of knowing. I'm hoping that isn't the case. \n\nObviously, I need to get her out of there. Calling the cops isn't an option. Her brother has called the cops on them before a few years ago and they did nothing, much like when I called the cops on my own parents. Calling them again would solve nothing and only make things worse. \n\nI run a business and I'm working to help make money for that business. I know a few places we could stay for at least two weeks before moving on to the next. What do you suggest we do?", "summary": "need to escape an abusive household. how to go about doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_3xn54p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Today I fucked up by asking my 12 year old son if he wanted to Netflix and chill.", "post": "Ok so I am the mother of a 12 boy.  Today we were just hanging out and I thought we could catch up on some holiday movies on Netflix.  So I say \"there isn't anything on TV you want to just Netflix and chill? \" I had heard the saying on TV and social media a lot. His face turned bright red and he replied \"what the hell is wrong with you?\" I get mad at his response and ask him why not. Basically we have a 20 min conversation about in my mind why I'm not good enough for him to hang out with, and in his mind why I'm not good enough to have sex with! I said things like \"don't you love me and want to spend quality time with me?\" Finally he embarrassingly explained what it meant.... I said \"DO NOT tell your father.\"", "summary": "today I unknowingly asked then begged my son to have sex with me."}
{"id": "t3_vz8wd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "About to light up the managers of best buy, am I right to do so?", "post": "Last nite I took my wife to get her a new tablet from a best buy on the way home. After looking through them for awhile and asking the rep my tech questions to make sure she gets the right one, he walks us to the Asus tabs and sees that the price has been reduced by about sixty bucks. Thrilled I won't be spending as much as I had thought I tell the guy to ring us up. He goes to the back to grab it while we play with the display models. He returns and rings us up having difficulty with the price as it showed up normal instead of the advertised price, he then sees that the price he showed us was for the sixteen gig, where as we wanted the thirty two. He says he will honor the price but needs an over ride. Manager comes over, over rides, walks away, we finish paying and turn around to walk out, when the manager returns saying she must void the reciept. Me, furious as all hell tell her we were offered, accepted, and paid this price, and have our receipt with product in hand. She tells us we cannot leave the store or it would be considered stealing. Eventually I have to pay the remaining balance and leave for other matters I must attend to having already spent much longer than if hoped in best buy. Should I go back and rip into the manager or higher or is it worthless at this point? I'm not looking for free stuff (though I wouldn't turn it down) but I feel seriously wronged by the management and want them to feel as shitty as they made me feel.", "summary": "Quoted one price, required manager override, manager voided (after overriding) payment after checking out and said we had to pay full price, I'm pissed"}
{"id": "t3_2x5a2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [23 F] I have trust issues.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nLong time lurker and obvisilouly throwaway, Here is my situation I have been dating this beautiful girl for almost a year now. I love her and she loves me like crazy. But there is something about my past she doesn't know. I cheated on my ex, numerous times. I'm douche bag, I know. My current gf isn't aware of my past and she thinks i'm the most perfect guy out there. Although I have never cheated emotionally or physically on my current gf, I fear myself. I'm worried if I would fuck up. My concern is that my EX never knew I cheated on her. I'm very good at talking my way out of things and she never caught me, nothing to be proud off but FYI. My current gf goes to school and I work 40hrs. She stays back and does projects with her group which sometimes include guys. I know nothing is going on as I'm close with all the girls and most importantly I trust her. Yet yet I worry, I worry if she is doing something wrong. My gf felt that i was a bit worried few days that she even send me pictures of what they are doing and stuff. I worry if she is cheating on me just like I cheated on my ex. I can't get this thoughts out of my head and its slowly impacting our relationship. I'm getting easily frustrated and worried. I don't know what to do. I can't tell my gf about my past but this thoughts is wrecking my confidence and my relationship.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Cheated on my ex numerous times without getting caught, worries if my current gf is doing the same even though i have no proof that she is cheating."}
{"id": "t3_31n750", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Young(ish) Urban Professional with family needs help controlling debt and investments", "post": "**About Us**\n\nI am 32 years old, and have been an attorney for four years.  My wife has a post-graduate degree in social work and has been working as a consultant with unstable income, because of having two kids in the last few years.  We did not manage our income and debt terribly well during either of the post-birth income dips, and have accumulated a lot of debt.  We also have lots of student debt.\n\n**The State of Our Finances**\n\nI put together a snapshot of our finances [here](\n\n**Goals**\n\n* Pay down our unsecured debt\n* Build up an emergency fund\n* Make space to invest in retirement and college savings\n* Eliminate unnecessary expenditures and investments\n\n**A couple of miscellaneous points**:\n\nFirst, about $300/mo. of our insurance payments go to whole life policies.  I cannot tell from the literature whether that makes any sense, but my gut is telling me to get rid of those policies.\n\nSecond, childcare is a huge line item in our monthly budget, but that will be steadily decreasing as our children grow older and childcare costs either decrease or are replaced by lower private school tuition (I live in a city where nobody sends their children to public schools if they can afford private schools).\n\nMy stated income does not account for yearly bonuses, which have averaged about $10,000, but I started at a new firm recently so I am not certain what bonuses will be going forward.  I expect my income to increase every year until I retire.\n\nMy new firm will not match any 401(k) contributions until I have one year on the job (approximately 9 months from now).  I am not currently contributing to my 401(k).", "summary": "Yuppie with wife and 2 kids making good money but with lots of debt and expenses trying to create plan for moving forward."}
{"id": "t3_2j3irs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Married/ divorced people of reddit: me [26/f] and my boyfriend [25/m] want to get married soon what questions do you wish you asked your SO before you got married?", "post": "A little background: My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 4 years, dated off and on for 5 years before that. Spent the college years having sex with and dating other people, living in different cities and hooking up with each other from time to time. We got back together, had a 6 month LDR, lived together for a year then relocated to a new city together 3 years ago. He is absolutely my soulmate and we decided a while ago we wanted to spend our lives together, no issue there. A few months ago we started talking about getting engaged in the next year and now I feel like everything I read is about unhappy marriages and painful divorces. We sat down and talked about the basics; where we want to live, when we want to have kids, money, things we want to experience sexually, what we need out of out sex lives. I am a big verbal communicator and over thinker, he is pretty quiet and mellow, as much as I want to cover my bases I also want to give him the opportunity of total transparency from me (he is going into this without wanting to ask me a single thing.) I'd like to know what people who have experienced marriage wish they had knew about their partner before the fact.", "summary": "Want to marry my boyfriend soon and would like advice on what we should hammer down before we do it. Tell me your horror stories, what do you wish you asked your partner or ex before you committed? Specifics not just money, children, sex but things that wouldn't cross your mind until you've actually been married. "}
{"id": "t3_4pqexa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Using an HSA while unemployed - do I still need a high-deductible plan?", "post": "I'm navigating being primarily a contract worker, and my current contract is up on June 30, meaning I get to crawl back to Covered California for my health insurance for now. I'm expecting to actually use it (therapy and prescriptions and such), meaning I can't just do a Bronze or High Deductible, and I don't expect to be unemployed very long. I have an HSA account, and I've read that I can use HSA funds to pay my premium for Bronze or Silver level, but it's unclear if that works for Gold (no deductible). HSAs say that it needs to be a High-Deductible Plan, but also that if I'm unemployed I can use HSA funds to pay my premiums, and then I can get those taxes back (at least federally).", "summary": "Can I use HSA funds to pay my premiums for a Gold no-deductible health plan if I'm unemployed?"}
{"id": "t3_2phzc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my [35 M] 2 year relationship;. --- **tl;dr**: Having problems getting over past emotional infiedelity on his part; debating future of relationship", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. About 9 months into our relationship, we were having a rough patch, and my boyfriend admitted that he had an emotional affair with one of his coworkers. At the time, I had suspected something might be going on but I did not say anything because I trusted him and he had a lot of female friends. I was needless to say very angry.  We broke up for a few days and eventually talked out some of our other issues and got back together. \n\nWe are a strong couple but I feel that I did not give myself enough time to build trust back into the relationship. I also feel emotionally scarred still from this indiscretion. I feel betrayed, and it hurts that he would trust someone outside of our relationship and even admit to that person he had feelings for her.  After he told me he ended his friendship with that person and she has never been in the picture since. I got over it quickly, but it was more so because I couldn't deal with my feelings at the time and wanted things to go back to the perfect relationship we had when we started to date.\n\nI actually went to a few therapy sessions without telling my boyfriend about it because I was having some real personal turmoil with my decision, and I eventually told him. He was supportive.\n\nNo matter how much we progress, the idea of the betrayal of trust still haunts me. For awhile I convinced myself forgiveness is important, which I think it is, but I also now feel as if our relationship is scarred. It makes me so sad because I think we are a strong couple, and when I don't consider this indiscretion I am happy, but whenever someone brings up \"emotional cheating\" I am instantly brought back to this place and I feel betrayed. I don't know what to do. I am feeling very torn because I love this man, but I don't know how to get over this and I really am forcing myself to suffer in silence at this point because it happened such a long time ago and we are \"over it\" in our relationship so to speak.", "summary": "! Boyfriend had emotional infidelity year and half ago; forgave him but now having haunting me the forgiver"}
{"id": "t3_2otlia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 2 months, she becomes unattracted to me and attracted to other guys during period week", "post": "So I have been dating this girl, let's call her \"Christina\", for two months now. We really hit it off and we have very good chemistry plus we talk a lot and hang out. The problem with our relationship is that Christina becomes unattracted to me maybe once a month (usually around the week she has her period) and attracted to other guys. \n\nWe have had sex and she says that she loves me. I know I am 17 and have known her for two months, but this is the closest thing to love I have felt.\n\nAny advice? Going through one of these phases right now, don't know if we'll make it out together or not :/", "summary": "Dating this girl, we really hit it off well, she becomes attracted to only other guys during period week."}
{"id": "t3_2b6ic4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M]ex[19F] a better update?", "post": "Hey there, I suppose this is a small update on what has been a depressing past while.  Ever since our no contact, I've been busy making a gift for my ex.  A memory gift, something that was combined from her gift, and something I made to collaborate the two together.  \n\nI was told not to venture off to the ex's house, or not to go anywhere near, and that it was all over.  Well after a couple weeks, and a good amount of time spent making a frame made from logs of wood, for a picture frame, that can be hung up on a wall.  I decided to drive an hour to her house.  I was nervous, it could have gone one way or the other.\n\nShe seemed happy to see me, despite being sick.  She was even wearing the Pandora bracelet with the charms still on it that I got for Valentines day.  I gave her the gift, and decided to part my way.  Then I started driving off, and kind of..  Just thought, why didn't I say it?  So I came back, knocked on the door(I felt like an idiot, but I had to do it).  She came out, and I said I loved her.  She replied;  \"I know..\" then reached out with her arms, and gave me a hug, then started crying.  We hugged for a decent while, to which I then parted my way for good and went back home.\n\nShe is still preferring that we keep our distances, I don't know for how long, and I didn't do all of that to win her back immediately, but I wanted to do it because it made me feel better, and I wanted to make something that I can give to her as a memory of us.", "summary": "Made ex-gf a collaborated memory gift, drove to her house, gave it to her."}
{"id": "t3_4bl6v7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and husband [27M] with our roommate [22M], how to be delicate about hygiene?", "post": "Hubby and I just moved to Texas from IL and to make the move easier, we are living with a longtime friend of ours so we can split bills when we find new jobs.\n\nIt's been since March 16th and he has taken exactly one shower. And I snooped and he has zero deodorant in the bathroom and it smells as though he wears none. It's bad. Like, open the windows and Febreeze the carpet and vacuum when he leaves for work bad.\n\nHusband told him yesterday he needs a shower when I wasn't in the room to try and let him know without embarrassing him. He told me that the roommate said \"ok\", but as of right now, he has not taken the shower.\n\nShort of spraying him with Febreeze as soon as he walks in, how do we bring this up again without being rude, but with enough force that he understands he really needs to shower at least every day if he doesn't wear deodorant or he needs to get some and shower every other day? Since he's being really accommodating with us moving in, is it rude to request this of him?", "summary": "Roomie won't shower, despite being told straight up he needs to shower. How do we be nice, but firm?"}
{"id": "t3_52cwdc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Ex)Girlfriend (22F) and I (22M) broke off our relationship of 3 years and knowing each other of 8 years.", "post": "The title says it all. Me (22M) and my now ex girlfriend (22F) split up yesterday because she has feelings for someone else and wants to explore those feelings because she thinks if she stays with me, in the future, in the back of her head she'll always wonder \"what if I did explore those feelings, where would I be now?\" I really don't see myself without her and I honestly can't imagine my life without her either. We've known each other for 8 years and have been dating for 3. I'm not sure if she's just confused or anything but I've just been having some really bad and nasty thoughts about how I won't be able to be without her. I want to be with her but I'm not sure what to do anymore.\n\nCan anyone just give me advice on what they think I should do?\n\nI'm not sure if this belongs on this thread or if this is something more necessary for the something more serious but I decided to post here.", "summary": "girlfriend and I broke up because she decided she wants to explore feelings for other guy in case she regrets not exploring them. I'm having nasty, awful thoughts of not existing anywhere."}
{"id": "t3_r2o0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend eats all of my food.", "post": "I'm 21m and she is 20f. We've been together since we were both 16....\n\nRight now I'm a student. I'm in my 4th year in a very difficult major at a good university, so I have to spend a lot of time studying. I'm also an intern at one of the largest corporations, and I have a job lined up after graduation. So, while future prospects look good, I'm poor as fuck right now. My parents are just as poor as me, so I can't ask for money. I'm living in a super small studio apartment and live very frugally, so I get by. \n\nMy girlfriend is currently in school too, but she lives with her family. They're really abusive and she wants to move out, but her internship is unpaid, so she's poorer than me and can't afford to. Her family often kicks her out then forget about their argument after a week and let her move back in. During those few days, she usually crashes with me. It gets soooo cramped, but she's got nowhere else to go, so I'm fine with it.\n\nThe problem is that she eats all my food. I live off of beans, rice, eggs, and ramen noodles. I can't afford to feed us both, even if it's just one week a month. I'm perfectly ok with her staying with me, but I really need her to throw in a few bucks for food or buy her own.\n\nHow do I ask this? I don't want her to think I don't care about her or make her feel unwelcome, and she probably doesn't have a few bucks anyway.", "summary": "I'm poor. My girlfriend is poor. Sometimes she stays with me. She eats all my food. I want her to pay for it. How do I ask her?"}
{"id": "t3_43dp4o", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running my first race (10k) next Saturday, any tips?", "post": "Only race I've ever done was a 5k I rollerbladed back in '06 or '07. I'm not really sure if there's anything I need to know beforehand? Etiquette?\n\nI also have a half marathon coming up soon (Hollywood Half-Marathon) and I'm wondering if I should up my training level for that?\n\nRight now I'm pretty wimpy when it comes to running. I'm running more for increasing my overall fitness than speed.... I can only do a ten minute mile :O\n\nOne last thing- I broke my left ankle back in 2012 and it's still pretty weak. Is it better to train without a brace and do long runs/races with one? Or always use one? And my right ankle is pretty weak as well (gymnastics seriously kills your joints, my knees suck as well), so should I use a brace on that ankle as well for preventative measures?\n\nAlso also (so sorry for all the questions)- are there certain exercises/stretches you use to strengthen your ankles and knees?", "summary": "My ankles and knees suck, I'm running a 10k and half-marathon soon, what should I know?"}
{"id": "t3_12itsp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Students of Reddit, what is your worst, yet still legitimate, excuse for not going to class?", "post": "Today before class, I really had to use the bathroom. However, my next class was accounting which takes attendance which influences our participation grade. So I thought to myself, \"Hey, let's hold it in and after he takes attendance I can go to the bathroom and waste time I would otherwise have spent in class\". This seems all fine and dandy, but on my way to class I start feelings rumblings in my stomach and before I knew it, the Kraken had been released. I just finished cleaning up and class is just about over, so no point in heading over now.", "summary": "shit myself and couldn't go to class"}
{"id": "t3_v5xr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help out a jaded internet dweller?", "post": "I just came back from a fireworks display and it was one of the crowded affairs where all manner of people come to watch. Young old and in between all together under the stars while watching fireworks. \n\nMe being a lonely type, the only people I could go with was my mother and sister and so that's who I went with. Sooner or later, I found myself annoyed by younger kids hanging out with their friends and smoking a joint. And seeing couples hug under the artificial lights really got at me. \n\nSo I realize that I'm not really annoyed as much as I'm jealous and I feel that being such a part of internet culture has made me a bit jaded to things like this. I do have friends and I do hang out with them often. I may not have a perfect life, but it's still pretty great.\n\nAnd yet, I'm not happy(relatively). I hated all the music they were playing and I hated the smell of weed. I don't know if it's that I'm getting older or if I spend to much time on the internet. Either way, I think I'll start decreasing my reddit consumption. Is this a good way? What can I do with  the free time?", "summary": "I get annoyed at people for no good reason and I want to learn to love everyone and everything again."}
{"id": "t3_ffj4j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I contact an MP's commanding officer for threatening to arrest me?", "post": "So basically today I was driving down the interstate dealing with the regular left lane campers. I always travel in the middle and switch the left when passing, but that gets hard when somebody has been riding in the left the whole way. Anyway, there was this truck that I had been trying to get around, and when I finally did he threw something at my car. So, I followed him to the next exit. He tried to not pass me, so I couldn't see his license plate, but eventually I let him slip by on the exit and made it obvious I was getting his plates. I called the cops and continued to follow him. He noticed and pulled into a parking lot where him and his girlfriend got out and started yelling at me. I remained in my car with my doors locked and windows cracked. I finally got on the line with a state trooper and talked to him about the situation. He told me that as long as there was no damage we should go our separate ways. Now that's all fine and dandy until this guy repeatedly threatened to pull me out my car and arrest me (he claimed to be an MP. Not sure if it was true but definitely in the Army). He also told me to get out of the car and \"discuss\" things like a man. \n\nOkay, so maybe I was frustrated and overly aggressive on the interstate. Maybe I shouldn't have followed him. But throwing something at my car on the interstate is fucked up. And then threatening to abuse his power of arrest in the same breath as trying to fight me is just too much. I live in the New Orleans area and was hoping somebody could direct me to how I could get in touch with some sort of Army official to lodge a complaint.\n\n**edit", "summary": "MP threw something at my car on the interstate then threatened to arrest me when I called the cops."}
{"id": "t3_19pivr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[20] long distance girlfriend[19] of 3 years has had almost zero interest in the physical side of our relationship for a few months now. What can I do?", "post": "We used to be a very physical couple with lots of making out and fooling around whenever we'd get to see each other but over the past few months we've stopped doing much of anything besides kiss a bit every once in a while. Part of the problem started when my family moved resulting in a loss of privacy that the old house provided whenever I would come home to see her. Her house also is not that private. Ideally she would come down to visit me at college to see me on the weekends, but she is never able to get her Friday or Sunday shifts off at work and can't. The problem though is that even when we do get some privacy she still is never that interested in anything other than cuddling. What can I do? I really care about her and love spending time with her, I'd just like to explore the physical side of our relationship more.", "summary": "Long distance gf has no interest in physical side of relationship when i visit. How can i rekindle the flames of passion?"}
{"id": "t3_30hee0", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Personal advice for a 25K?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'm looking for your own advice for my next 25K next May 10th in Berlin.\n\nI'm a 35 yo runner, quite slow, asthmatic, with some other physical problems (hormone related). I started MAF method on january and it has been quite successful, I feel better and my pains are gone. The MAF keeps getting better one every other week.\n\nLast july I ran a half marathon over trail in 1h 45' but after summer holidays I could not finish the half below 2h 5'.\n\nI did a test run 2 weeks ago and I ran a half marathon in 1h 50'. I ended up very fresh, I think I could have done better. Next day I ran 15 more kms with more than 800m positive level. Both of these runs where done without the Mafetone method, running at 165bpm instead of 140bpm. \nI started to feel hip, foot and knee pain after that so I haven't run anymore until today, at 140bpm and superslow pace.\n\nNow that it's a month left until the course, what would you recommend? Stick to MAF method or doing other kind of training?\n\nThanks for you insights.", "summary": "would you switch from MAF to another training method one month before a course to increase performance?"}
{"id": "t3_2kcvb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I misread this situation?", "post": "I've(23f) been \"seeing\" this guy for a while, and I have feelings that I thought were mutual to a degree, but have recently been told that that was not the case.\n\nThe reasons I thought he was into me was: 1- He always wanted me around\n\n2 - He would always want to know (in detail) who all my guy friends were and how I knew them\n\n3 - He would ask me to spend the night with him even when we weren't having sex. He's literally stopped me at the door when I was on my way out and asked me to stay.\n\n4 - Have sex with me sober. (This is a guy who previously to me , would get liquored up before having sex)\n\n5- He would say things like \"I haven't seen you in so long\" when he just saw me less than a week before. \n\nAnd various other things that I don't feel like typing out. \n\nSo my question is, was I wrong to think that these were signs that he had feelings? Not necessarily substantial feelings, but some feelings nonetheless?", "summary": "I seemed like there were signs he was into me. We're they signs or did I read the situation wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_wtlru", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just listened to a gray catbird slowly correct its pitch and rhythm until it perfectly matched the bell in 16 Shells From a 30 Ought Six by Tom Waits. What moments have you thought, \"Man, the world is just amazing?\"", "post": "I was listening to [16 Shells From a Thirty Ought Six] by Tom Waits and I noticed there was a bird calling outside my window. Later, with some help from Sibley, I found it was a [Gray Catbird] Anyway, over the course of the song, I noticed it started adjusting its pitch and rhythm, slowly, until it perfectly matched the bell in the song. After I heard this, I started singing some arpeggios out the window, and the bird imitated me, too. Before it flew away, I got it to sing a passable rendition of Saria's Song. So, yeah, I got a bird to sing a duet with me.", "summary": "I am the bird whisperer."}
{"id": "t3_djjgw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a 300lb guy trying to lose weight. I need some help / advice.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nSorry for the throwaway account, my normal username is linked to too much personal information about me =/\n\nAnyhow, I'm a big guy (300lbs), who is trying to lose weight. I set a goal for myself, I'd like to get to 175lbs. I've been fat most of my life (I'm 22), and just can't live like this anymore. I feel out of shape, tired, unhappy, and want to be able to enjoy life like everyone else.\n\nI was reading various stories and even saw some TV shows that show the transformation from people who were way over 300lbs (500lbs+) losing a ton of weight with diet and exercise. My weight-loss plan is to incorporate a daily run into my schedule, every single day, and eat healthier. I was hoping to lose around 2lbs a week, which would bring me close to 175lbs in a little over a year.\n\n**The problem I'm having is that when I run, my knees hurt very bad.** I started running this past Sunday (it was my first day of the new diet and exercise plan), and did fine, but by Monday my knees were hurting, and it made it hard to even walk around. I somehow pushed myself to run everyday until yesterday, even though I felt like my knees were about to break off.\n\nI'm almost positive that my knees are hurting because I'm so big. What can I do to lose the weight? Should I keep running with hurt knees and hope they'll get used to it? Should I transition to another form of exercise until I've lost a certain amount of weight?\n\nI don't have the money to spend to talk to a nutritionist or a personal trainer, or I definitely would.\n\nThanks, reddit!", "summary": "I'm fat. When I run, my knees hurt bad. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ckb2l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking if our teacher could be accused of pedophilia for filming us", "post": "This happened a few years ago, in the last year of high school.\n\nWe had to practice debating skills for our literature class. Our class was divided into groups and given a camera to record the debate. The teacher said he'd edit the footage to teach us the do's and don'ts of debating.\n\nAfter the debate, I walk up to the camera to turn it off. While I'm searching for the button, I blurt out the following marvellous sentence: \n\n> \"Could we accuse Mr. [..] of pedophilia because he filmed kids?\"\n\n*Then* I hit the off-button.\n\nMy friends tell me I'm totally fucked and he will certainly hear that. I argue that he probably won't, because the debate had already ended. Right? Wrong.\n\nThe next day our teacher shows us the film and talks us through. He doesn't appear to have noticed anything, but I'm very nervous. The video he made was informative and humorous (some people really fucked up the debate). At the end of the video, I sigh, relieved. He either didn't notice or didn't care.\n\nThen, after a few seconds, a black screen shows the follwing text:\n\n> \"Someone has already failed debating skills.\"\n\nAfter that, it was my line, repeated three times. I have never heard a class laugh so hard. The teacher just stood there, grinning.\n\nNext week, I got graded a 4/10 (roughly equal to a ~~D~~ F) for the real test (seperate from the practice debate we filmed) for different reasons, so in a way, he was right!\n\nLuckily, he was very cool about the whole thing. I fucked up, and turned it into a good joke. It could've gone horribly wrong. Accusations of pedophilia are a big deal in education, especially for male teachers. To clarify: he did not make me fail because of this; I was graded by two teachers individually, and they both agreed that I sucked at that particular debate. And I agree, my grade was totally deserved.", "summary": "Filmed a debate, accused teacher of pedophilia for filming us, he noticed and showed the whole class."}
{"id": "t3_2sebk8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding to go all in on Bitcoin", "post": "A while ago I decided that on January 13, 2015, I was going to take my entire salary in Bitcoin for a year. I wanted to write a blog about my experience, and see how the technology was evolving.\n\nWell, I bought yesterday, and the price dropped immediately, and continued to do so for the next 5 hours... I woke up this morning to find that I lost well over 300 dollars of my hard earned cash. The price has rebounded slightly, but many are predicting that the Bitcoin will continue to crash. Im pretty much screwed on my two week paycheck, and I'm currently considering not eating for the next few days as a real option to save money... So yea, today I fucked up.", "summary": "I bought Bitcoins only to watch my money die."}
{"id": "t3_429ulq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] hate the fact that my GF [21F] for 2 years is religious.", "post": "I'm an atheist and she is a Christian. We have agreed that we believe in different things and try to respect each other. \n\nThe problem is, that I think religion is silly. I don't blame her, because she has been raised that way and it's not easy to dismiss what you were made to believe since childhood. I just hate it when I see her propagating it. I hate seeing all the preaching on her Facebook wall. I hate it when I hear her dismiss science. For example when she explained how dinosaurs were created together with humans. They lived together, but the dinosaurs were called dragons. \n\nI also fear that if we have kids, she will try to raise them religious, we've talked before.", "summary": "I hate my religious GFs beliefs and I'm afraid for our future children."}
{"id": "t3_4i2h55", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Caught my friend stealing my assignments", "post": "For background, I live with a friend, we mostly do the same courses at college.\n\nFor a while I have suspected my friend of copying my assignments. I've noticed my friend quickly closing windows on their computer when I get close, and I'm fairly sure it looked like my work. I have also received a login code for a backup service literally minutes after leaving the apartment to go to the store, which leads me to suspect they've tried to use my password to access my backed up files (but failed because it requires my phone to login).\n\nI've not had any solid evidence of the theft until the other week, where I set up some screen recording software and left for the store. I now have video proof that my \"friend\" has been going through my computer while I've been out, and sending themselves my work using Facebook (before deleting the messages sent from my account, followed by clearing history).\n\nI'm not sure how to approach this. It's something that hurts quite a lot because I genuinely thought I could trust that person. My current plan is to wait for the finals to be over in a few weeks and then confront them about this.", "summary": "Have evidence my friend has been stealing my college work just before deadlines, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_411vvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28f] Afraid to live together with [42M] as it might decrease our sex life.", "post": "I've never lived together with a partner. I really like the guy I've been seeing and he really likes me too. I am considering moving in with him, as he owns his place, it would help with my finances, he'll get my fabulous cooking, and it'll take our relationship to the next level. \n\nDue to his work, he is only in town 1 week per month, so moving in will allow us to spend more quality time together, when he is actually in town. Plus with time away, it wont be all clingy, and I will still have my space (which is important to me). \n\nBut I am really genuinely afraid that we'll have less sex if we live together, and it'll be less fun, and less interesting (cause we'll constantly see one another... or be in one anothers' space). I *love* our intimate time, and don't want to lose that, and for that reason alone, I wouldn't mind being in a hard financial situation and keep my apartment, in order to preserve that special time. Money will come. Money will go.... awesome intimate time.... thats a rarity and it can't go!! haha...\n\nI am also afraid that if we live together, I'll (or he'll) find random things to be nit-picky about... and I don't want to do that... I want to be happy and I want him to be happy, I especially don't want to find odd things to be upset about. Even though I've never done that in my life.... you just see it in movies/TV... so maybe its an irrational fear? IDK.", "summary": "Advice from people that have moved in together? Do ya'll have less sex now that live together? Is it less fun/passionate/kinky/enjoyable?"}
{"id": "t3_2q7j0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F/19) boyfriend (M/19) of 3 years cheated on me, I am so lost", "post": "So for some background I (F/19) have been with my boyfriend (M/19) for 3 years now and we have had an amazing relationship, we are very supportive of each other and work well as a team.\n\nI won't go too into detail but basically he has a kind of messed up family and it has resulted in my parents helping out a lot and even provided living accommodations, taken us on trips, etc.\n\nHe just told me today that about two weeks ago he was hanging out with co-workers and they were drinking a lot, he ended up having sex with another girl.\nEven worse, he said it started to burn a little when he peed so he went and got tested yesterday and it is likely that he has chlamydia.\n\nI have slept with him in the past two weeks so I might also have it, I'm going to the doctor today.\n\nI feel very hurt obviously, and he is a very good guy, I would have never expected this.\nHe was very upset and genuinely very sorry that he hurt me and that it even happened in the first place.\n\nI just feel in shock, but I don't really want to leave him, especially because he's not really in contact with his family.\nSo reddit, I don't really know what to do. I feel very confused, I'm not ready to tell my parents because they have done so much for him over the years and they really love him. I'm just really lost.\n\nI do think that he still would have told me if the chlamydia wasn't a factor", "summary": "boyfriend of three years cheated, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2rhhm8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/F) have a chronic illness. My Boyfriend (21/M) fails to mention any type of future together - Just connected the possible dots...", "post": "I've posted here before because my boyfriend of almost three years doesn't mention any type of future together and the one time I insinuated something, it was made very awkward.\n\nMy issue is that when I'm well - I'm well and I don't remember that I have an illness. So, usually when I have issues like this I don't attribute it to maybe involving my MS.\n\nToday as I was under observation at the clinic taking my new medication, it dawned on me that he might not include me in his future because he doesn't see one with me. I always thought that maybe he doesn't because as he says, it's his personality to not plan ahead in order to avoid disappointment.\n\nLately I've become more aware of my other friends and even his brother and his gf casually talking about when they get married and have kids etc. and this is something we never talk about - not that I want that right now but sometimes it's nice to daydream about it lol. Maybe about a year ago he told me that he'd probably leave me when he gets into medical school eventually and that he hopes we could still be best friends (I definitely could not do this) .\n\nSo, should I just confront him? I don't want to be so invested in someone if they don't see a future with me. It would devastate me if he left me once we finished school.", "summary": "Afraid bf might be subconsciously uninterested because of my chronic illness and sees no future with me"}
{"id": "t3_1x4mbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26m) getting jealous of other people talking to my friend (26f)", "post": "For the last several months, I've been dealing with all sorts of personal issues, mostly a breakup I had in August. I got back on my feet, and made a pact to find myself some best friends.\n\nBeginning of January, I had someone move into my building. She and I clicked immediately. We connect on a completely different level than I ever have with a friend before. We are both great supports for the other, and we are finding that this relationship is transforming the way we interact with others in our lives. It is literally changing us.\n\nSo with this new relationship comes something I've never run into... Jealousy. This relationship is super-important to me, and it's one of the first times I've felt that I receive back the love and energy I put into the relationship. Every time she starts talking to someone else, though, I get really jealous. I understand it's part of me trying to protect the relationship. I've never experienced this with friends before, though, so I'm at a loss.\n\nThe problem it's causing is that when we make plans to hang out, I typically will want to just stay in and hang out. That's fine some times, but we are both quite extroverted and need to get out there and spend time with others. However, even the thought of doing that scares me, and being out and about is quite draining since I am trying to fight off feelings of jealousy. If I ignore all my feelings altogether, I'm sure you can imagine I eventually become off-balance and it becomes hard to spend time together. So I'm playing this really confusing game when making plans that just isn't fun...\n\nI talked to her about these feelings and she said she has the same feelings when I meet others.\n\nSo I'm looking for some help. I'm not sure if it's about digging in deeper into the feelings, learning to manage them, or something else. Can anyone provide some help on this?", "summary": "I'm jealous of friend around other people, looking for manageability"}
{"id": "t3_1qyi4v", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't piss off the guy who handles your groceries...", "post": "I work at a grocery store, it's one of the medium class places that have people who bag/load your groceries. I am unfortunate enough to have the job of bagging the groceries for ungrateful, holier-than-thou dickbags all day. I have several ways I get petty revenge, ranging from the usual to the creative.\n\nThe most common way I try to enact revenge is overloading the bags. You can load them just right, so that if you're gentle the bag is perfectly fine. But, if you like to fling the bag around, like many of these asshats do when putting the bags in their car, the bottom will bust out.\n\nI also do what I like to call the 'fruit slam'. When handling easily bruised fruit, I'll slam it down in their basket. It doesn't visibly damage the fruit, but it leaves them nice and bruised by the time the customer gets home.\n\nThe last method is often paired with this one, the 'egg drop'. Here, the eggs may 'accidentally' get banged around a bit while being placed in the cart. Not enough they start to leak out of the carton, but enough that some of the eggs are rendered unusable.\n\nNow, the revenge methods above are usually enough to satisfy my need for petty revenge. But, as anyone who works in retail knows, some people just deserve more than the standard treatment, and my last resort is this;\n\nWe all know those [Klondike bar packs] and as we also know Klondike bars are the shit. Sometimes, when loading these, I'll press my thumbs into where I'm holding it. This effectively breaks the Klondike bar, making it a crumbly mess. I've only had to resort to this method a handful of times, but the joy I get from it every time is great.", "summary": "If you're mean to me, I'll bruise your fruit, break your eggs and ruin your Klondike bars."}
{"id": "t3_ul0l3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this fixable?", "post": "M18 dating F18, been together for 20 months now. We're both going to college next year, but the same one. The past month or two we've kinda been less intimate, but we didn't really have any problems. She told me we've been drifting apart and she doesn't know if our relationship is healthy anymore. I take it to heart, so I start paying more attention and working to better our relationship. Now she claims I'm being clingy, and one night I do get a little clingy and she gets mad  for not giving her any freedom, things escalate a little. \n\nSo we talk a little bit, I say our relationship is worth giving another shot and I think we can work it out because we've had rough spots in the past. She says ok, but has been pretty short with me since she first claimed we were drifting apart. I try to have good conversations and make plans to go out to dinner and stuff, but she's busy preparing for her graduation party. She doesn't make an effort to set a date when she's free or anything. She says she's still in love with me. I'm terribly in love with this girl, what can I do?", "summary": "SO says we're drifting apart, I pay more attention to her, she claims I'm being clingy. She say's she'll try to work things out but isn't sure if we can, and doesn't seem to want to."}
{"id": "t3_36f3ul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] might be a rebound for my friend [18 F].", "post": "My friends know my account so throwaway.\n\nSo there's a girl I've been friends with for years, we even dated shortly (which ended really smoothly), but things have really picked up in the last few weeks.\n\nIt started when she told me about her breakup with her boyfriend (because it turned into a long term relationship) so I just tried to comfort her. Pretty soon she became a lot more attached to me.\nIt started with just texting and now we're always hanging out and talking on the phone for over an hour at a time. She's even talked about how she's always had a crush on me, even when she was with her ex.\n\nLong story short: the other night, we watched some movies and things escalated to oral (I still don't know how that happened).\nAnd now it turns out her ex is coming back for the summer and she still doesn't know how she feels about it.\n\nMy intentions were just to be a friend but it escalated and now I don't know what to do. I don't want to be a mistake she had when her and her boyfriend went through a rough patch, but I also would like to be more than a friend.\n\nAm I just a rebound until summer? What's going on!?", "summary": "Long time friend is attached and sucked my dick."}
{"id": "t3_45xwgg", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "(HELP) My dog can climb our fence. He got out while under the neglectful watch of my roommate and though I found him, I feel like I took my anger towards my roommate out on him.", "post": "So as the title states, while I was in the shower my roommate left my dog (9 m/o lab mix) and hers (3 y/o small pit mix) in the yard while she was in the kitchen (our kitchen overlooks the backyard and is attached to the back door). She claimed to be keeping an eye on him but I guess not, and waited until I was out of the shower to tell me he had escaped, which led to me hastily throwing on clothes and running outside and searching the block for him. We circled it from opposite sides and I was the one to find him. He came up to me and walked by my side home (he's familiar with \"heel\" and will walk with me without a leash). Unfortunately, he smelled terrible. So I had to hose him off, then bring him in to bathe him. Then I was covered in mud and had to shower AGAIN. So I put him in his crate (which I NEVER use as time-out, but I didn't know what else to do since I needed to jump in the shower and I knew my roommate wasn't going to do shit. So now I'm fuming in my room and typing this out wondering what I should have done correctly- because I feel that my dog is being traumatically punished incorrectly for something he's not very clear on what he did wrong. My roommate and her dog training is an entire other problem that I'm going to leave out for now. Anyway, what could I have done better? What do I do now??", "summary": "My dog got out, now he's sad because I bathed him and he was then put in a time-out type of situation, which is new to both of us. What would have been the best response to this situation using a positive reinforcement perspective?"}
{"id": "t3_51pxo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] girlfriend [16F] told her friends about an embarassing situation, now it's been spread round school", "post": "Hi I've never done this before so hopefully I can explain it as best as I can! I doubt anyone I know will use this site but I'm doing a throwaway just in case.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been together for a few months. I am still new to sex and anything surrounding it tbh, I was a virgin beforehand, she wasn't. She likes to be dominating, and we've started to experiment with it.\n\nSo a couple of weeks ago when we were messing around she told me if I didn't suck her toes, she would punish me. So I did it, and tbh I sort of enjoyed it, and she did too.\n\nSo she told one of her friends about it, I don't know exactly what was said but her friend spread it around school. I was getting some jokes from my friends, my girlfriend was annoyed that it got out and has said she's sorry and will never tell anyone again, but then it escalated.\n\nThe \"jokes\" have turned into pretty much outright bullying now, with me being called a \"perv\", \"freak\" etc at school ever since it started back up, even had a guy throw a shoe at me in the changing rooms asking if I wanted to lick it clean (eurgh). My girlfriend has said that I don't have a foot fetish and it was just a dare she did, but people still won't leave me alone about it.\n\nI'm embarrassed to go to anyone over this, and don't what to do. Help?", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend have been experimenting with sex. She decided she likes to be dominant and made me suck her toes. She told her friend who spread it around. My girlfriend has told them it was a dare by her but I keep getting bullied about it. I don't know who to ask for help."}
{"id": "t3_387sjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22 M with my Fiance 22 F (Long), She had an affair and need help!!", "post": "Me and my Fiance have been together for 5 years engaged for\n\n almost 5 months now. we have 2 kids one adpoted and one \n\n biological. about 2 days ago she left her facebook logged in on the\n\n computer and seen a message from one of her friends (her maidof\n\n honor) that her friends little brother left a hickie on her neck and \n\n she was pissed about it. so instantly i asked her about and she got\n\n mad. then she told me they had sex and had been talking for a\n\n month now. I wanted to work it out i love her so much and i \n\n thought we were going to. I asked her if she could stop talking to\n\n him completely and she said she doesnt know if she can, and then\n\n she finally said she would. but the next day while we were getting\n\n ready for work i asked if she had feelings for him and she said \n\n yes......... and that she cares for him as much as she cares for me\n\n but that she doest love him IDK what to do.. they only had sex \n\n once and have only been somewhat talking for a month how could\n\n she have feelings for him as strong as the ones for me, He is a 18\n \n year old senior in highschool? Im turning 23 this year and she is \n\n 22 i know we are young but I really want to spend the rest of my\n\n life with her. She told me that she is hurt because she has to\n\n choose between us. how could this be a hard decision for her? he\n \n has nothing to offer her when i can give her everthing. im so lost \n\n and dont know what to do.... please help", "summary": "I dont know what to do and need help from someone i have no family around"}
{"id": "t3_2dgswt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/f] am having a hard time moving from \"sleep over fun\" to \"we can do our own things together\" with my boyfriend [26/m]- Any tips on being less sensitive about it?", "post": "We're in the process of moving in together; he's fully moved in to our apt, I won't be 100% moved in for a few more months, but I'm spending 5-6 nights a week there.\n\nIn our year+ relationship, we never established the \"doing our own thing apart while in the same space\" thing. Last night we had a bit of a dumb fight (seriously dumb, it was about our opposing views on Miley Cyrus, who really neither of us care about at all), which led to hurt feelings and time spent in different rooms. We never fight this dumb. It just triggered my anxiety, made me sad that we were wasting a night, that all our evening was going to be was that dumb, dumb fight and then sleep....\n\nWe talked/reconvened at the end of the night, agreed it was dumb and that clearly we were being overly argumentative about something neither of us cared about. But whereas I saw it as a \"waste of an evening\" he saw it as \"we have so many more evenings together.\" I want to see it like him, but I'm harping on how dumb it all was, and mourning the loss of time. I wish I wasn't, but I am and I'd like to just be more comfortable in times like this if we could just do our own thing and not feel so sensitive that we're not spending quality time together.", "summary": "How to move seamlessly from every night being quality time together --> some nights being together but apart? I'm clearly being oversensitive and would like some tips, if you have any!"}
{"id": "t3_tp4h0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some of the things someone should do to prepare to get their school in a conservative community to let them start a gay-straight alliance?", "post": "A friend from the high school I graduated from is hoping to start a gay-straight alliance there. We're from the middle of the bible belt, and he's anticipating some potential backlash/the administration possibly trying to block the formation or change his mind. We're hoping our administration will be open to the idea, but given the community we're from, there's a chance that they could put up resistance. Of course if they put up too much of a fight, he's prepared to go to the ACLU, but he's hoping it doesn't come to that. \nWhat kinds of things does he need to be prepared for in terms of the arguments they might try to make, and what kinds of arguments does he need to have prepared from the outset? Do you have any other suggestions for the types of things he needs to do to prepare before he goes to the administration? \nWe're hoping to be as ready as possible before he presents the idea to the administration in the fall so that we have the best possible chance of getting a GSA created without having the situation stir up a bunch of drama or other problems. Thanks!", "summary": "\u2013 What arguments should we be prepared for before we present the idea of a GSA to the administration at our school in the middle of the bible belt?"}
{"id": "t3_43v63m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (23f) need to break up with my boyfriend (24m) after he cheated on me. Together one year and he's rhe first guy to ever love me. How is it even possible to leave him? My head is spinning and I'm nauseated at the thought of not having him.", "post": "Friday night I caught him red handed cheating on me. Saturday he apologized but spun the cheating on me saying we had never agreed to be exclusive (we certainly had and it was clear in my mind), Monday I had a make or break exam which I tried to clear my head and study for but couldn't so I failed it getting like a 40% when I needed an 85% to pass so my life in general is in shambles.\n\nHe's not the first guy I've been with, he's not the first guy I've been in love with but he's the first guy who's ever loved me an said so. My entire world and future was build around our life together. I'm sick to my stomach at the thought of leaving him and I can't imagine that we won't have our usual Thursday date if I break up with him. I won't be able to call his mom to chat, I won't get to smell his shirts after he goes to the gym (I love this btw--I know it's weird)...none of that will happen ever again if i break up with him.\n\nI'm a bigger girl so I know full well how hard it is to find love and this seemed like the ONE for me. He wants to stay with me but I assume with the condition he gets to sleep around--I want no one but him. I know this won't work but part of my brain is rationalizing that if I just keep quiet than I can habe everything we've had. Would love ANY advice.", "summary": "need to break up with boyfriend but I just can't seem to. I can't imagine my life without him. Would love any tips."}
{"id": "t3_2rxbju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] want to get back together with my ex [22 F] after 3 years, but don't wan to ruin a friendship", "post": "3 years ago I broke up with my gf because of what I believed to be long distance. But before our long distance, we had almost 6 months of an incredible relationship. And it seemed destined that we would be together. After all this time, I don't think I've gotten over her and I believe that she is the one for me.\n\nWe've been friends over the time, talking every now and then, going in and out of other relationships. But now we're both single and I'm about to finish school and she's going away for a few months. I want to try dating with her again when she gets back, unless life intervenes, but I don't want to make her uncomfortable or ruin a valued friendship.", "summary": "I want to get back together with my ex but don't want to make things weird and ruin a friendship."}
{"id": "t3_bmwem", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Set the story straight Reddit, I need Marijuana statistics...", "post": "Hello friends of Reddit, I got called out today in a group of friends when I was making a case for quitting smoking cigarettes and exercising more, (I do not smoke, and I exercise a lot, just trying to spread the health.) but a dear friend who is a pack a day smoker told me to shut up because I smoke weed. I have asthma, so technically, I vape or ingest weed as an admitted form of weekend escapism and to help me sleep. Then I had a ton of \"statistics\" tossed at me about one joint being as bad as 100 cigs, and every time you get high you lose 500 million braincells. I consider quite a few of those floating \"facts\" to be bullshit, made up to keep people afraid of the good ol Ganja, but I figured I'd ask Reddit. What are some bullshit and not bullshit facts about weed that you could set the story straight with?", "summary": "Friends toss out bullshit facts, I want real ones."}
{"id": "t3_13lfqq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what type of crazy requests have your dating prospects or hookups asked you?", "post": "**Backstory:**\nGirl I met at a bar and I start texting. Over the course of a few weeks she comes over to cuddle and watch movies just a few times. She's cool with me playing with her over her shirt, but really nothing else, which I thought was weird, but I think \"Hey, it's whatever.\" \n\nShe says she doesn't want to talk about any relationships, in one instance breaking things off after I even brought up anything about a relationship... but she is crazy affectionate in weird ways. (coming up behind me for a hug, smelling me?, playing with my hair, telling me I'm sexy and she misses and likes to play with my hair.) \n\nAnyway, she comes over the other night for drinks and a movie and drops liners like \"I think it's sexy when a guy gets drunk\", \"I like the smell of alcohol on the breath\" and doesn't want to get drunk herself, because she reportedly gets really sad and cries when she's had much alcohol at all. Which leads me to think this girl is just going to try to take advantage of me, cool with me I guess. \n\nShe drinks a beer, I down several mixed drinks. We watch a show (her choice as usual is a skanky comedy with lots of sex and nudity). I start trying to encourage sexual contact due to perceived signals but then she backs off. After this calms down, she turns to me and says \"I just wanna watch you sleep, is that cool?\", which creeps me the hell out.", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to for a while (no sex) gives lots of signals, shuts me down, then asks if she can watch me sleep, creeping me out. "}
{"id": "t3_290uma", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just lied about having a job...", "post": "In May, I graduated from University after 7 years, 4 universities, and 3 road trips across the US. It feels fucking good man. It was a wild ride and I enjoyed it all. There was shit and there was happiness (a lot of both actually). I met some great people that have become family. After graduating, I decided to work one more summer for maintenance at the university. I have grown to hate my job and everything about it, so I decided last week that I was going to move home - something I had planned on doing in august. Today I told my friends that I got a job and that is the reason why I am leaving. Truth is, I don't have a job. I have three interviews in my home city. I'm excited about moving back because I love my city and my family and my friends. But I feel like shit that I lied to these people I consider family. I just didn't want to deal with them questioning me why I was leaving without a job. The problem with the lie - other than I love these people - is that I am a superstitious guy. I hope I didn't just fuck myself in the karma department and lost all three opportunities. Things will turn out alright, I just needed to tell someone.\n\nThanks for reading this wall of text.", "summary": "I lied about having a job to my friends from university. I feel bad about it, and I think I jinxed myself for getting a job. Oh well."}
{"id": "t3_q0aon", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Let's hear about your first crush", "post": "The earliest crush I can remember was on this boy in Kindergarten. I don't remember what exactly I liked about him, I think it was just that he was a boy and was nice to me. \n\nI remember that for our Halloween party he was a fireman and I was a dalmation (we were clearly meant to be in my Kindergartner mind). We were sitting in a reading circle when I scooted over to him and worked up all my 5-year-old courage to tell him that I \"liked\" him. I was completely denied.\n\nWhat makes this story worse is that he ended up being the smelly kid in third grade. Like clockwork, everyday after lunch he smelled like he shit his pants.", "summary": "Denied by my Kindergarten crush, who ended up being the smelly kid three years later."}
{"id": "t3_1ypz46", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How long do you think it would take to go from nothing to an iron dagger with only stuff you have made yourself?", "post": "Minecraft style where you have to do everything on your own from finding the ore to making the tools.\n\nA couple of rules to make it more authentic\n\n* When trying to get leather no road kill or anything that was killed by or because of a human other than yourself.\n\n* You can look stuff up if you can't figure out how to do something.\n\n* You can't use anything that you did not make yourself this includes any metals, tools or chemicals you may need.\n\n* If you find something you can't use it unless it would naturally occur there.\n\n* This is just about making a dagger so you don't have to find food or anything like that.\n\n* The finished dagger must be something passable that would actually be usable.", "summary": "only naturally occurring stuff or stuff that you make can be used. Also give some reasoning."}
{"id": "t3_2tcx5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with a girl I'm seeing [20F] talking for 3 months, I can't figure her out.", "post": "So I met this girl who goes to a school in my hometown on OKCupid. She studies down at my hometown, and when I go away for school, I study in her hometown. \n\nWe talked on OKCupid for a little bit, played league of legends with each other, and then she gave me her number. We've been texting non-stop and call each other every day. I finally grew the balls to ask her out when she came back to school and she accepted. What was supposed to be one date turned into 4 over the course of a week. Everything went well and have grown closer because of it.\n\nI previously had made it known that I liked her a lot and want to continue with what we had long distance and that I would visit monthly. On our last date, we talked about our feelings for each other, and she said, 'I was talking with my friend about this, and I don't want to like you. We're not going to be able to see each other as much.'. So I asked her if she did like me, to which she responded, 'I don't like my own answer.' So I pushed her and asked her for her answer and she cutely said, 'I don't like you.' \n\nI asked her if she saw a future between us, and she said, 'Maybe.' Spurred on by her answer, we established boundaries that neither of us would cross such as: dating another person, kissing another person, stuff that a normal long distance couple would follow by. We're not together and we've both questioned why we even set up these boundaries if we're not together. She marked me with hickies to let people know that I'm taken, but I'm not taken. \n\nI'm confused, does she like me? What are we? What's going on?", "summary": "I like girl, girl says she doesn't like her answer when I asked her if she liked me and that she doesn't want to like me. We set up boundaries that a normal couple would have. She marked me as her property. I don't know what's going on, nor do I know what we are. Can you guys help me out?"}
{"id": "t3_4a15lc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tripping someone over", "post": "This was about a year ago. So, I was lining up for our end of year assembly. It takes place in the Sports Hall, and it is always a pain in the ass to get out of after. So, I was with my friend, let's call him Dave, trying to get out of this bloody sports hall. Whilst waiting, he decided to randomly punch me in the arm fairly hard. I responded with 'You prick!' and smiled. Smiling being the indicator for my revenge. I tripped him up, and what followed was possibly one of the funniest things but worst things I've ever done. \n\nDue to the large crowd exiting the hall, it kind of had a domino effect. Dave fell over, into another girl's ass (already unbelievably funny) and everyone just fell into each other. This went on for about 25 people, smacking straight down on to the concrete floor. In the end, my act of idiocy knocked about 25 people over, 3 being knocked unconscious and my former best friend now hating me, as he got the blame, even though I confessed for tripping him over. So, he got a full week of one hour after-school detentions.", "summary": "Me and my friend were messing about, I tripped him over, had a domino effect, 25 people fell over, 3 unconscious for a minute or two and he got the blame, so now he hates me for the fact of getting a full week of after-school detentions that followed."}
{"id": "t3_3e72rd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do people meet and start dating?", "post": "The title is a bit overly simplistic, but I realized I have no idea how this works. I'm not even sure if this is the right place to put this, but if there's a better subreddit I'll move this post.\n\nI'm a 21 year old male, 22 in November, I'm a double major in English and Japanese starting my 4th year at University in a few weeks in a fairly rural college town.\n\n I've never been in a serious relationship (in high school I \"dated\" a few people, but it was never serious). I honestly have no idea how to start dating someone. I have a lot of ideas about what a relationship should be like (ex. companionship, mutual respect, communication, trust) and most people I've talked to think I have a solid grasp on relationships and dating, mostly because I've helped a lot of people with their issues as an outside observer. I'm sure it's more difficult when you're in a relationship instead of an observer, but my lack of experience means I don't have a lot more to go on.\n\n I know plenty of people who are in relationships, and it seems like all of them just met and started dating over a couple of weeks despite  a lot of them not having much in common.\n\nMy friends in relationships tell me I shouldn't look so hard, that the right person will eventually just appear. I don't really get how this is supposed to work. There have been a few people I really cared about, I tried getting to know them over a month or two and gauged their interest in me, then told them how I felt, but I've always been rejected, so I'm still kind of in the dark about actually, \"starting/being in a relationship\". I've never had trouble making friends, male or female, but I've also never really gotten much attention beyond friendship.\n\nThe other advice I've gotten is to work on myself, I won't go into my life story here, but I work hard and self improvement is a key part of my life.\n\nI guess my question is a bit difficult to pin down, but essentially how does someone start dating someone else? If anyone needs any further clarification, I'd be happy to reply/edit this post.", "summary": "Don't really understand advice from friends, not sure how to date/start dating."}
{"id": "t3_3291e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friends was a huge douche for a while. Realize this now, and want to make amends.", "post": "Ok. So I started at a new school earlier this year and started off great. I made a bunch of friends and things were going great. Then, around late February, I started doing some weird things. I made comments and acted like a huge douche. I thought I was smarter and better than everyone around me, and showed that. Basically, I was like the people over at /r/iamverysmart. I didn't do this type of behavior for too long, only for a week or two. But I think my friends got kind of sick of me and things seem rocky. What can I do to help repair my relations? We are still on speaking terms, but none of them seem to want to hold a conversation for longer than two or three \nminutes because they think I'll go back into douche mode. What can I do?", "summary": "I was a douchebag for a couple of weeks, and my friends seem to be annoyed at me. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ipjp9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Down nearly 50 pounds!", "post": "So I have always been bigger, but by the end of 2009/beginning of 2010, I peaked at nearly 300 pounds, which was my breaking point. I have PCOS, insulin resistance, and I am gluten intolerant. All of these issues make weight loss difficult, and if anything, essential. \n\nI managed to lose 5-10 pounds here and there, but starting in August of 2010, I started to work out and eat better, and really kicked things into gear this May. Now I'm down a bit more than 48 pounds. \n\n[Before and After](\n\nI was having a hard time seeing the results until I put this together, but now I can see them. It's not much, and I have a long way to go. I'd LOVE to get down to 140 pounds eventually, but around the 170 range would be great, just to get out of the obese range, and the start working on building even more muscle. Right now, I'm just eating around 1200-1500 calories a day, low carb, high protein, and doing light cardio. I don't have access to a gym until my student status is reinstated (between undergrad and grad school right now). So once that happens in late August, I should be good to go!\n\nThank you for your inspiration, r/loseit!", "summary": "Still fat, but better!"}
{"id": "t3_qxapa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your unusual tales of being taken advantage of for trying to help someone?", "post": "Earlier tonight a stranger knocked on my door. When I answered he explained that he needed a lighter or some matches but couldn't afford to buy them. I told him I had a lighter he could borrow but I only had one so he needed to bring it back. He agreed, said he lived around the corner and would go home, light a candle so he had a flame, and bring the lighter back. So I handed it over.\n\nSo obviously I'm immediately wondering if he's casing my place to rob it, or running some other game. But I try to help people out when I can so I assumed the best. Now it's been a couple of hours and he hasn't come back, so I guess he just wanted to steal my lighter. I'm not pissed, it's just a damn lighter and I already went to the store and bought another one, it just seems like such a random theft.", "summary": "Stranger just knocked on my door and hustled me for a lighter."}
{"id": "t3_20t1ui", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is It Bullshit?: Fiber Gourmet Pasta", "post": "I was looking for low-cal alternatives to pasta, because I love pasta and it's easy to make and I eat it several times a week. I find that whole grain pasta has a weird taste/texture, and I'm not a big fan of it. \n\nI was doing some research into spaghetti squash (which is on my grocery list for next time), but I also heard someone rave about some high-fiber pasta brand so I looked into it.\n\nWhat sorcery is this? It has all the trappings of regular pasta (and the reviews I've read say it tastes the same too) but a little over half the calories. My mind boggles over how much extra pasta I could eat! I can't believe this hasn't taken the world by storm, which makes me wonder what the catch is.", "summary": "Has anyone on here tried these high-fiber low-calorie types of pastas? What's the deal? What's the downside?"}
{"id": "t3_1p8o2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was she [18/F] interested in me [18/M] and should I make a move?", "post": "Around 2a m after a night of drinking I was going to fill up a water bottle on my dorm floor. \n\nA cute girl I passed smiled at me when she saw me and then said \n\n\"Hey, I don't mean to be aggressive or anything but do you live on this floor?\" \nand then introduced herself when I answered yes. \n\nWe then had a small conversation and it might be my foggy memory from being drunk but she did seem to lean in closer and laughed at the things I said.\n\n I feel like a fool for not making a move. \n\nWas she interested? \n\nShould I make a move next time I see her or is the chance gone?", "summary": "Don't know if she was interested or not. She approached me."}
{"id": "t3_2c6gxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23 F] of four years broke up with me [23 F] because of long distance relationship", "post": "My boyfriend and I were together for four years. Great three years except for the fourth year where him and I went on a long distance relationship together. He promised he'd work with me through it. Long story short, he couldn't commit to it because of work, friends, family, etc. But during those months when he decided to leave, he became extremely distant and was happy staying there. \n\nI tried to make the long distance relationship work by going there, trying to make the frequent Skype calls (even if he would only say once a week or every other day), sent him care packages, but he was always busy and couldn't make time for me. It made me sad, obviously because he's just not making an effort even if he says he does (the only thing I was asking is to be present and happy on a Skype call) . He always complains being sad and lonely and bored and I've been trying my best to make him happy while I'm here but he was just really distant. \n\nJust weeks after our anniversary, he breaks it off with me. Now I'm extremely confused as he was telling me how he loves our relationship and stuff and for three weeks he decides to break it off? I've tried begging him if he could at least give us a chance. He comes back telling me: 1) He never loved me at all (really? after 4 years?) and 2) He never missed me one bit when he left. 3) He doesn't regret his decision because of \"practical reasons\" and \"he doesn't want to hurt me anymore\". Then after the breakup he wants to be my \"closest friend\" and \"he doesn't want to completely close the door on us\" and that \"one day when we find ourselves, we can try again\". He gives me all these weird signals of hugging me and kissing me \"for the last time\".\n\nI was completely devastated, not only did he break up with me when I needed him the most, he made me confused with all these feelings.", "summary": "He's an idiot, and I know I should just really move on but my heart/mind really can't yet at the moment. Why do you think this idiot still wants to be my friend? Why does he still want to invest on me when practically he hasn't? Oh and since I'm new here, and I have no clue as to editing the title my boyfriend is male. Sorry about that."}
{"id": "t3_e6mwd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the hardest decision you've ever had to make?", "post": "Hey Reddit! I just found out that I get to make the choice between my dream job (a research position at MIT) and the woman of my dreams. We split up (but are still committed to each other) after college and began doing the LDR thing, expecting to be re-united after she found a job / was admitted to a graduate program near Boston. It's been half a year or so and she's been completely unable to find a job (not an engineer) and was just rejected from the program she was applying to. What I'm worried about is this:  . So, rather than asking your advice directly, I went the lame route and am asking for commiseration: **What is the hardest decision you've ever made, and how did you decide?", "summary": "I like cats. Read the damn paragraph you lazy bastard."}
{"id": "t3_130frg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it viable to stay in a long-term relationship when you no longer find your SO attractive?", "post": "Background: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and I love him to pieces. However, he has always been struggling with his gender identity. After suppressing this for most of his life, he's finally starting to accept himself. He likes to wear skirts or dresses a lot. At the beginning of the relationship he seemed rather insecure about it and kept asking me what I think about it, and I did the noble thing (I'd like to think), which is to encourage him as much as I could, often told him how pretty he looked (sincere comments, I'd like to add). So in the last couple of months, he's been wearing women's clothing and make-up more often than not. He also has the most gorgeous long hair. Again, I've been encouraging him to express himself and I'm happy that he feels comfortable in doing so. But the problem is... I don't feel attracted to him when he looks so feminine. I'm actually surprised at myself for it, as I'm bisexual. But yeah, we haven't had sex in the last 6 months or so quite simply because I haven't felt any kind of sexual attraction towards him. Am I being an insensitive jerk?", "summary": "bf likes to wear women's clothing. I love him very much, but I don't find myself sexually attracted to him when he does. Can we stay in a long-term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1pw448", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with a low sex drive my GF [24 F] with a high sex drive are having issues", "post": "I've been dating my GF for a little over a year now, we have been living together for about a year.  Everything has been a crazy whirlwind of a relationship and everything just clicked!  We fell in love instantly, we are best friends and we are madly in love with each other.  We spend almost every moment together (except for work) and we are just happier than anything... except in the bedroom...\n\nI (27 M) have a relatively low sex drive.  I've always known I was a victim of it.  She, on the other hand, has a very high sex drive.  If it were up to her, we would be intimate at least once a day.  In the early stages of our relationship we would be intimate several times a day, and at least once everyday.  Now that we've been together for a while it has dropped to maybe a few times a week and it's all because of me.  \n\nMy GF is smoking hot, in great shape and really tries hard to get me in the mood (dressing up, kissing, touching, etc...).  However, more times than not I'm not interested or unable to preform.  This is really driving a wedge in our relationship.  We have fought on multiple occasions over this and it seems silly because we get along so well with everything else.  Is there an easy solution to this problem?  Have other people experienced this?  Do relationships work if the partner's sex drive differs greatly?  Do relationships end on the premise of sex alone??", "summary": "Smoking hot [24 F] GF has a high sex drive and I, [27 M] has a really low sex drive.  It's driving a wedge in our relationship.  What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_2e1xxc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Weird situation, best way to approach this?", "post": "Ok so I never use online dating, but I recently checked out a website that caters to my ethnic group, which is pretty tiny where I live.  I found a profile of this girl who seems awesome, and I really think we'd hit it off.  After a little bit of sleuthing I found out her family owns a local restaurant, and our parents actually know each other.\n\nSo basically, my problem is this, should I try to go about this in a way where I arrange a situation where we meet IRL, say by dropping into the restaurant where I know she spends a lot of time, or should I just go for it through the website?\n\nAs I see it, the pros for the IRL route are that it's just a hell of a lot smoother and more spontaneous/romantic/whatever.  I feel pretty confident that I could sweet talk her into a casual date in person, but I have no idea how I might come across on the internet.  \n\nThe cons of this situation are that our parents might figure out what's up,  start getting nosey and being a pain in the ass/fuck up my game. Also, I'm worried I could just strike out by going into the restaurant repeatedly and somehow failing to encounter the girl, at which point asking her out online would come across as way too creepy and would be off the table since her family would eventually tip her off to the fact I've been coming around.\n\nThe online route seems straightforward, basically guaranteed that I reach her, but there's the risk of just being ignored or her not really being interested, which I'm confident is less likely in person.  Also, the IRL route is off the table if I get ignored/denied online, as that too would come across as extremely creepy.\n\nFWIW we're both 28, comfortably employed professionals, and I'm looking for something serious/long-term (partly why I'm so reluctant to go the internet route, really seems to fuck with the narrative)", "summary": "Saw a profile of a girl online and figured out she's the daughter of some family friends.  Do I ask her out online or attempt to arrange an encounter in person to ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_1arqps", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New to this subreddit", "post": "I just wanted to stop in and say Hello. I'm a 27 year old male, that weighed 295 pounds. I did not want to see the scale hit 300 so I decided to start doing something about it. \n\nOn Feb 11th I dropped my calorie intake to 2100 calories per day. On March 13th I started using a stationary rowing machine at the gym. I go for sure on Monday and Wednesday mornings, but I find myself wanting to go more often, and have gone each Friday and Saturday so far, too. \n\nI've also stared walking home, about 1.3 km, from a farther buss stop on the days I take the bus to school, and have been going for the occasional 2km walk with my girlfriend and our dogs.\n\nAs of yesterday morning I'm down to 274 lbs. My goal is to hit my target weight, of 160 lbs by March of next year. \n\nI hope to be on here with more updates and any cool recipes that I find.", "summary": "I'm down over 20lbs in about 40 days, did this by restricting calories and moving more."}
{"id": "t3_1f4nuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice about my (m 30) gf's (f 32) relationship with guy friend (m 40).", "post": "My (m 30) gf (f 32) and i have been together for nearly a year. Our relationship is very good when we both are sober. Both parties are extremely respectful, caring and loving. She has a guyfriend (m 40) who is recently divorced and is an alcoholic. She was friends with him before we started dating. \n\nAnytime she meets up with him for dinner or drinks after work or on weekends, she ends up blackout drunk and turns angry. Ive expressed how this makes me feel and my general concern for her safety. When i bring up how this makes me feel I'm usually accused of \"making a big deal out of nothing\" and it causes a major fight.  To top it off, when im around, she pays more attention to him and treats him more like her boyfriend. She sits in his lap, holds his hand, is more concerned with where he is and what he's doing than with me.  And more recently, when I've expressed concern over this and how it makes me uncomfortable to spend any time in the situation, she most always leaves me behind to spend time with him because \"I'm being unreasonable\". (I should mention, 99% of the time he pays for everything when i'm not around). \n\nShe continually assures me nothing is going on, they are just really good friends and she's concerned he'll die soon cause of his drinking habits, so that's why she caters to his needs over mine. At first I thought that was the case and she was being a good friend, but recently I've stopped drinking when I'm around them, to make sure I'm not letting alcohol influence my outlook, and I'm noticing more things that make me uncomfortable with their relationship. I really care for her and am considering popping the question, but im starting to feel like our relationship is doomed because of this situation and how's she's handling everything. \n\nI'm sure this has a little to do with him being a guy, but am I being unreasonable and too needy? Has anyone been in this situation and if so, what steps did you take and how was the outcome?", "summary": "whenever my (m 30) Gf (f 32) and I are with her alcoholic guy friend (m 40) and their mutual friends, I feel I'm left out and not the boyfriend in the situation. She ends up blackout drunk, and more concerned with him and his feelings. I've expressed concern with her over how this makes me feel and it always causes a fight, which ends in me being the one who apologizes. I'm in need of advice on how to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_vk3z4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey Reddit, I feel heartbroken. Should I be?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nAbout 3 years ago I met a girl from the US on omegle (oh god). We started to talk and at the end of the conversation she gave me her msn address. First 6 months it was just IM'ing and later we began to Skype. \n\nWe shared everything with each other, I literally know almost everything about her and she about me. \n\nLittle by little we got to know more about each other and about 1 1/2 year ago we admitted we had feelings for each other. Bear in mind, we hadn't met each other in real life yet. \n\nSince then we talked almost every day on Skype. We did a lot with each other. Things like playing videogames together and watching movies and series. We talked about our lifes, what was bothering us or which problems we encountered and helped each other deal with obstacles.\n\nOfcourse there were some other problems too. I have been getting angry at her quite often, often for no actual reason, which naturally hurted her. I just found out I have adhd and learnt that causes a lot of behavioural problems.\n\nLately she has gotten very busy with her work and family and we haven't talked to each other that much. \n\n2 days ago I found out  that she made a facebook account with 3 friends. One of the persons I saw was new to me. it was a boy, let's call him Evan.\n\nSo yesterday we talked since a week. After some talking I told her that I saw that she made a fb account. She told me she did. I then asked who Evan was and she told him she met him via one of her friends.  I asked her straight to the point if she fancied him because I suspected there were things going on. \n\nShe admitted that she did, and that they have been texting a lot but didn't really hang out yet.\n\nI feel heartbroken, betrayed, and immense sad. Should I be?", "summary": "had a online relationship with a girl, she met a boy last week and has feelings from him. I feel heartbroken."}
{"id": "t3_27c2pw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by peeing in the storage closet and getting caught", "post": "So this story actually happened halloween 2013.  i got really hammered with my friends, on gin of course, the best drunk ever!!! so we went to the bar and about twenty minutes in i get kicked out.  my friends tell me i got kicked out because i kept following and harassing the female bouncer that always kicks out my friends and i.  so yea, pretty legit reason to get kicked out.  anyways, i am pissed so i call my boyfriend to come get me.  as i am waiting i sit on the curb crying.  by the time i get home i am a mascara faced hot mess and i am so mad that i finish the rest of my 40 of gin.  i am a tank.  my boyfriend and i go to bed and later in the night he wakes up because i was wandering around the bedroom trying to find the bathroom.  i was so hammered i didnt even remember where it was or how to get there.  he says oh hey the bathroom is up the stairs at the end of the hall.  i say whatever and go back to bed.  he wakes up again after to the storage room (it is in our bedroom) light on and the sound of trickling.  he goes into the storage room and sees my squatting and pissing on the floor.  he gets so angry and throws a towel at me and says clean that shit up.  apparently i was standing in it.  when we wake up the next morning he very seriously says \"we need to talk\".  i was so hammered i didnt even remember! he was fine after we talked and we laugh about it to this day.  i knew our relationship could survive this because when we first started dating i got hammered and peed his bed.  this was a month in.  it has now been two years.", "summary": "i got hammered off gin and pissed in the storage closet and my boyfriend caught me mid stream."}
{"id": "t3_3yxhkn", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I take out a student loan for a new computer?", "post": "I am a 21 year old college student, I'm in my junior year of an engineering degree. I intend to get my masters as well, so I am looking at a good 3.5 years of school still to go.\nMy current computer is 4 years old and starting to fall apart (cd player cover has fallen off, hinge is getting unstable, ect.), but still runs ok for now. There is no way that it will last all the way through my education, so I will definitely need a new computer at some point.\n\nI have been able to stay out of debt thus far. I have scholarships that have covered my tuition and I live at home in order to avoid paying for housing/rent. I have always had a job while in school, but usually with very few overall hours. After my normal expenses (gas, food, phone bill, ect.) I usually have very little money left over, so I have pretty much no money in savings. I would have to cut a lot of expenses for a long period of time to save enough money for a new computer.\n\nSo my question: Is it worth taking out my first (and hopefully only) student loan in order to get a new computer? In engineering I use my computer a lot and I need something relatively powerful to run some of the software I use. I would ideally like to get something like the Surface Book ($1700) or maybe even the Surface Pro 4 ($1300).", "summary": "I am an engineering student, I need a new computer, I have no debt but also no savings. Is it worth taking out $1500ish in student loans to invest in a good computer?"}
{"id": "t3_2rqapv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] just had sex for first time with my girlfriend [18F] of 7 months, I think I may be gay.", "post": "Alright strap yourself in because this is a clusterfuck. Ive always been somewhat been attracted to guys but I just regarded my feelings as either me just being curious or even bisexual. However this all changed when I had sex with my girlfriend a week ago. Obviously I completely hated it otherwise I wouldn't be here.\n\n   She's one of those girls who has strict parents (not alowing her to go out past 10) so whenever she gets the chance to be alone with me she will get down to business really fast when i just want to hang out with her b/c she's an awesome girl. Ive been sort of avoiding spending time with her for this reason.\n\n   Now heres where it gets tricky. Im not 100% sold on the idea that i am gay. due to this reason I'm really afraid of coming out too early and realizing I'm strait. Ive got 6 months left of high school and once I'm out of this bitch I'm defiantly gonna see men for a wile but until then i feel like I'm trapped in this relationship because \n1. i feel like i owe it to her to stick around because i took her v card\n2. she found out i cut myself and what she can do with that information terrifies me.\n3. all her friends are my friends (shit mistake). if i leave i will loose everyone.\n\n   Im seriously so stressed i haven't slept in so long i think I'm loosing my mind. I've started cutting myself more because of lack of sleep and its like a land slide of pure shit. I lost all my gay friends because they went to an art school so now i have no one i can really talk to because I'm not the kind of person to talk about feelings. i made this throw away account in the hopes i could get advice from any gay redditors who can give me advice. if ur strait asexual or anything please give me advice too. at this point i really don't care if this gets buried it just kinda feels good to write", "summary": "might be gay not sure if i should break up or wait out the six months left of high school."}
{"id": "t3_2i04ry", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My neighbor (townhouse) got the sweetest puppy. They keep it locked up on their deck. Feces is everywhere.", "post": "I live in a townhouse, and my neighbor has a unloved puppy they just keep on their deck 24/7, never cleaning up the poop, and never getting walked, and I've never seen anything resembling care that a puppy should receive other than providing it with a bowl of food/water. \nIt smells really really bad. I can smell the poop from my upper bedroom if my window is open. Being outside on my deck is unbearable with all the flies feasting on the poop and it smells like a petting zoo. \nI don't think they are fit to own this puppy, and my heart breaks for this dog, who looks incredibly sad and lonely and just lays around in detached loneliness.\nI'm not a dog person. I've never owned a dog. I don't know if they are breaking any dog laws in the state of VA.\nAny help suggestions?", "summary": "2 big problems: 1) tons of dog poop piling up mere feet away from my deck/windows 2) even bigger of a concern, neglected puppy, really wish this puppy could find a loving home."}
{"id": "t3_replh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unstable, irresponsible 'friend' left his kitten with us for a few days, then never came back. Months later he shows up wanting her back, but we already found her a happy home. How do we break it to him?", "post": "Here is the story:\n \nOver a year ago my cat gave birth to seven kittens, one of which I gave to an old and [then]trusted friend (Ill call him \"Joe\"). \n\nAt the time Joe seemed to have a good head on his shoulders, having a decent apartment, job, and regularly going to school. I figured the kitten would be in good hands. I had left Joe with plenty of information on where he could get the kitten fixed, given the proper shots, micro-chipped, etc. **The kitten seemed to be taken care of, and everything was normal every time I would visit them.**\n\nThrough the following few months, we lost contact with Joe.\nUntil one day Joe called us and asked us to take the kitten in for a few days while he left town to visit family, we obliged.. \n\n**... And its been four months since he basically abandoned her with us.**\n\nIn the meanwhile, here's what we found out:\n\n* He had become a heroin addict, tried to go to rehab but never made it through. Had become homeless..\n\n* We took the kitten to our vet and turns out she had never been given the proper shots, or spayed, only microchipped (by Animal Control who seized her a couple months prior).\n\nSo we got her registered, fixed, she got her shots, etc.\nAnd best of all we got her a new (very happy) home. This time, for real.\n\nNow Joe claims he has a new apartment, and wants to take the kitten.", "summary": "Drug addict abandoned cat with us, now wants it back, but we are not willing to return her."}
{"id": "t3_ygbet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when did you think it was all over?", "post": "Two weeks before I joined the Navy I was working in the gaming room of the Pub I had worked at for just on two years, it was 0217 in the morning (I remember exactly and I dont know why) Three men of Lebanese origins burst into the Pub with a Shotgun, Pistol and a 12 Inch Machette, the one with the shotgun pointed it directly at me, while the guy with the pistol jumped the counter and demanded that I open the cash draws, the guy with the machette then proceded to hold it to my throat, they demanded all the cash and that I was to get on the ground, after about a minute they got me back up again to open the Strong Room door, where all the weeks takings are, This is when I thought it was all over, the guy with the machette was getting more and more agressive with me and started to swing back to hit me with it, I thought i was fucked, pretty sure that I was not going to get out of this alive, All of a sudden the bloke with the shotgun yelled they had to go and gave up, they threw me back on to the floor and left. That was the most terrifying 3 min 20 seconds in my life, and it felt like hours.", "summary": "Pub gets robbed, thought I was going to die"}
{"id": "t3_1mxzzl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (M/22) just recently moved to a new city and it's putting strain on my relationship with my girlfriend (22)", "post": "Okay so here's the story. My girlfriend and I went to college together. We've known each other for about a year and a half and we were very good friends before we started dating. So much so that we'd planned on living together with a friend.\n\n After graduating, we spend an amazing summer together in our college town and everything seemed great. However, our relationship, which started in June, made our third roommate uncomfortable, and it just seemed like the best decision to not live together while starting a new relationship, no matter how well we knew each other. \n\nSo in the end, she got a studio apartment and I lived with some friends also moving to the same area (she didn't know anyone moving to the area) and things seemed to be working fairly well but then problems started arising. She works two jobs and I work as well as have other obligations. We've only been able to see each other between one and three times a week. She's feeling very alone here and I unfortunately don't have the time she'd like me to have to dedicate to her. I grew up nearby so I'm close to family and old friends, she's very far from home and she feels isolated and it's making it very hard for her to adjust.\n\nSome background: I'm a comedian. I do stand up at colleges as well as open mics. I've wanted to do this since I was 18 years old and I've become quite good at it. I spend most nights between Sunday and Wednesday at open mics. Open mics are a long and boring process, not the sort of thing she'd really want to go to and frankly a lot of it is about interacting with other performers. \n\nSo here's the problem: She needs more support than I can give even with reducing my schedules and it's making her miserable. I love her and want to help her in any way that I can but I honestly don't think that I be everything she needs me to be. She wants to make more friends but she's just having such a hard time, I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend and my schedules aren't meshing well in a new city and she's feeling isolated and lonely. I don't know what to do to make time without sacrificing time spent furthering myself in a dream that I've had for a very long time."}
{"id": "t3_1ukjes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of a year+ [21F] and I [18M] just broke up. How do I move on?", "post": "We've always been long distance. It started when I was in high school, and she a sophomore in college. Since then I went to attend another university many hours apart, and the distance finally got to her. It's mostly because we have no way of not being close to each other in any near foreseeable future. She's lined up to work on Wall St., I'm lined up to attend grad school in Boston. Both of those things are our dreams, and it's not fair for either of us to give those up.\n\nI still love her, and she still loves me, and *that* is what kills me. The distance simply didn't make it possible. I can't imagine her with another man, having a life with someone else. I feel *so* lost. How do I move on?", "summary": "girlfriend and I went our separate ways because of distance, but still love each other - how to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2n89vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (m20) and I (f20) decided to go on a 'break' today, but honestly I feel like this break is a break up. I still love him but should I delete everything of him? Is it wrong not to?", "post": "My SO told me he didnt feel the same about me. At first we tried to get the spark back but it was more like ignoring the issue. Now we are on a 'break'... He said that he doesn't want to put an ending date to our break he will just message me when he knows what he wants. I was too weak to go tell him to fuck himself. \n\nI don't want this relationship to be over, I honestly didn't see anything was wrong (probably part of the problem). Now I'm here on reddit, I don't even know what I'm asking you guys! Should I delete everything about him, including viber (i won't know if he ever messages me if I do). \n\nI know everything gets better, but we also have a trip to Thailand booked in 2 months... I feel like it's such a waste of money if we don't go and I don't want to take anybody else, and i won't want him to take anyone else. It's stupid to even care about this. \n\nI still want to be with him, he's somebody that has challenged me and changed me for the better, he said he wants the relationship to work for me but not for himself so I told him I'm not going to be his excuse.", "summary": "SO of 2 years wants a 'break' and said he will contact me when he knows what he wants. I don't know how to be or what to do, should I delete everything of him?"}
{"id": "t3_nj8h1", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "three weeks into the break up with my ex-gf (long)...", "post": "New to reddit here, so hello. A friend of mine told me this was the place to go to when you're dealing with unwanted emotions. \nAlright, straight to the issue. I'm stuck in introspective mode. I (age 21) broke up with my gf (age 23) a few weeks ago and i'm going through the motions; guilt, longing, acceptance, \" fuck it, i'm free!\"-mode, etc. We were together for around two years and it was a long distance relationship. Our relationship was never easy. Three months after my previous (1 yr) relationship i initiated the relationship. I was looking for something casual because my previous relationship didn't end on the best of terms and she was looking for something more serious. I told her from the beginning that I wasn't ready for anything serious but I felt like if i didn't tell her what she wanted to hear I'd lose her. She's one of those brilliant shy types. Here's where it gets complicated. Right after we start this relationship I have to move. I couldn't afford my place, wasn't getting enough hours, wasn't in school, not really going anywhere in life,etc; so I moved back in with my family. We both had bad experiences with LDR, the answer seemed pretty obvious. We remained friends, I went back to school & figured out my major, our relationship became one of those on and off relationships. We would break up, then see each other and get back together. We kept breaking up because of the problems that come with a LDR. Everyone-including the participants,was getting sick of it.\nAs i said before, i ended up breaking it off a few weeks ago. She kept telling me that we could make it work but nothing was changing. I felt, and feel, like our relationship was preventing the other person from enjoying our youth. It was exhausting. The unnecessary jealousy, the constant dream of eventually being physically together, etc. \nWhen we had problems i would reassure her, and myself, by saying \" In __ years we'll be able to be together. Other couples have done it!! That could be us!\". \nFuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. I probably sound like a douche.", "summary": "3 weeks into a LT/LDR break up with an amazing chick. Feeling emo/venting/trying to buck up."}
{"id": "t3_3wi3gn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have a long distance girlfriend [23 F] who this week has gone completely numb and I don't know what to do", "post": "I've had to make a throwaway as my girlfriend is aware of my main reddit account. Rather she didn't discover this.\n\nI live in the UK and she lives in USA (8hr time difference) she's in grad school and I'm full time working. Dating since August. Few visits to each other which all went super well.\n\nShe was diagnosed with depression before we were dating and providing she stays busy it's not really been an issue. We would talk all the time about random things when we could, Skype,  all the normal long distance stuff.\n\nJust this past week she has told me ALL of her emotions have become numb. She tells me she only tolerates our conversations and feels like she belittles me when talking to me about stuff. With her being an American I've always been curious about American culture so she's taught me lots of things about it, so naturally I ask questions.\n\nShe wants to have more stimulating conversations with me but whenever I try to she is either busy with grad school or is just not interested. I'm almost always the person who has to start the conversation with her and her contributions are always minimal. When bringing this up with her she had no reply to it.\n\nLast night I ended up losing my cool with her after she insulted me and called me an idiot. which I know is a huge mistake, even more so because she is diagnosed depressed,  I apologised and went to sleep thinking I couldn't do anymore damage if I didn't reply.\n\nShe's asleep right now and I don't know what to do... I love her dearly and I don't want to give up on it, I keep telling myself it's just the depression but part of me is thinking it's more than that.", "summary": "together since august, long distance, she has depression, arguing and being numb emotionally since just last week. Lost my cool and argued back, feel horrible for it, dunno what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_1nhobw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm terrible at beginning relationships.", "post": "I literally have no idea how to do it. Every relationship I've been (all 3) were essentially set up by friends. None of them lasted longer than a few weeks, either... all high school relationships though, to be fair.\n\nI'm now at college 2000 miles away from home (school in Ohio, I'm from Washington), and I don't have friends to do everything for me any more. I generally don't mind being an introverted person. I have fairly limited hobbies, I mostly just drum a lot, so I don't have much in common with most people who aren't also musicians. That said, however, I really want to start dating more this year, and maybe even (gasp) get farther than making out with a girl for once. \n\nI don't even know where to start. I overanalyze everything, and whenever I even consider asking a girl out I get that weird sinking feeling in my stomach. It's like performing in front of 2500 people, except that doesn't even make me nervous anymore. Asking someone out to dinner? Helll no, probably because I've never done it. What's she gonna way? What will we do? Where will we go? Does she have a boyfriend I don't know about? What will we do after dinner? What do I wear? On, and on, and on, all this meaningless bullshit running through my head.\n\nTalking to girls is fine, as long as they're someone I'm interested in and have things to talk about with. The girl I'm interested in right now, for example - we're in the same language class, she's also a percussionist, etc. She's awesome, funny, all that. Conversation while we're studying for physics? Sure. Asking her to dinner on Friday? All the words get stuck in my head.\n\nSo... What's the difference? How do I break from having my friends set up relationships - i.e. tell me the girl likes me, tell the girl I like her, until there's no doubt she'll say yes - to actually growing a pair and doing shit on my own? I'm determined not to spend the next 4 years single and a virgin, but it looks depressingly likely.", "summary": "My friends set up all my (very short) past relationships. I don't know how to ask women out. I overanalyze everything and spend too much time thinking, not enough time doing. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_e87lz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hospital Bill, how do I get it paid.", "post": "I will try and make this as concise as possible.  So we had a child about 2 months ago at a hospital in the Chicagoland area. My son was born 25 min after we entered the hospital, total labor time was less than 2hrs. Nurses had to deliver the baby no doctors present. The nurses had cleaned up the after birth before the doctor arrived. Fast Forward to two weeks ago, we are now in Colorado my wife has to go to the ER for late postpartum bleeding from a retained placenta, has surgery 2 hours after getting to the hospital lost 800 cc of blood. Now we have received the bill from the CO hospital for approx $900 after the 7000 the insurance paid out. How do I go about getting the Chicago hospital to pay for this bill. It seems to me that they are responsible for not having made sure a doctor looked over the placenta in the beginning. Who do I need to talk to at the hospital. A lawyer is not really an option due to how small the amount is and the fact i am not looking to make money off of this.  I do not just want to call with out having some idea on how to attack this.", "summary": "I have a medical bill that I want a hospital to pay."}
{"id": "t3_2r0z6q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel my circumstances in school prevent me from making friends/socializing.", "post": "I'm in high school, and I'm in all advanced classes. AP, honors, etc. Now while I can't complain about being on a better path to college than most of my peers, I feel like being in these classes, in a way, set back my social life. While I like most of the kids in my classes, not many of them are as social as I am, or like the same things I do. The same kids are in most of my classes (and have been for years and years) so I'm not meeting new people often. While I can't blame all of my problems on what classes I'm in, I feel like being in these advanced classes prevents me from socializing with the majority of people in my grade. I just feel a little lost because while I do have friends and I am \"in the loop,\" I feel like I miss out on school activities, parties, and making friends because I am partially segregated from the majority of my peers. I feel a little alienated because while I am more or less in the \"in-crowd\"(as cheesy as it sounds) at school, a lot of times people write me off as being just a \"smart girl.\" Joining clubs really doesn't help, and I'm really not athletic so joining sports isn't an option. It also doesn't help that while I'm not the shyest person ever, I'm definitely not super outgoing. Again, I can't attribute all of my problem to just being in these classes, but I feel like it's a big part of it and I feel stuck. I just feel like I'm missing out on part of the high school experience and making friends, and there isn't much of a way to solve this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "summary": "I feel like being in advanced classes prevents me from seeing/socializing with the majority of my grade/peers"}
{"id": "t3_2trxfy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to retrieve an engagement ring", "post": "I work as the accommodation manager at an English language school for foreigners. I'm the one who usually finds the host families for these students to live with. Some time ago one of my best host families came to the office in tears because the students who were living at her house had stolen her daughter's engagement ring.\n\nThe problem with this situation is that the students had already gone back to their country, and that these were two 14 year old girls. The host mother also had no evidence aside from having heard the girls rummaging through their stuff. My boss told the host mother that we would contact the travel agent at once to ask her to keep an eye out and alert us should the ring be found.\n\nI wrote the politest email I could asking the agent to let us know should the girls come clean about stealing it. My boss didn't let me send it because she wanted to review it before we sent it, so as not to offend the agent with these accusations of theft. I sent it just to my boss and left it up to her.\n\nFast forward about a month, and the host family asks me if there was any news about the ring. I panic, because I suddenly remembered that I had never sent the email. I fish it out of my sent mail and send it to the agent (forgetting that my boss was supposed to give me the go-ahead). Later on in the day, I brought up the issue in front of my boss and she yells \"OMG! I HOPE YOU DIDN'T SEND IT! I HAD REVIEWED IT AND DECIDED NOT TO SEND IT BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO LOSE BUSINESS JUST BECAUSE A HOST FAMILY WAS CARELESS!!!!\"\n\nI lied and told her I didn't send it....\nLord help me if the agent replies now...\n\nOops :/", "summary": "I sent a forbidden email to a travel agent accusing her students of theft"}
{"id": "t3_3es2j4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with feelings of anxiety after a breakup? [22M] [22F] 2 years duration", "post": "There's an anxiety subreddit but it's for disorders, so I didn't really feel comfortable posting there. \n\nI broke up with my girlfriend 2 weeks ago because it just wasn't working out-- and hasn't been for a long time. She didn't know how to reciprocate the effort and care that I put into the relationship. I don't regret my decision and I understand that it's for the best. \n\nWhen I talk about my feelings with a friend, it reminds me of my ex-gf's bad qualities, things she did wrong, ways she hurt me. This gives me the \"good riddance\" mentality, and I feel okay.\n\nWhen I'm by myself, it's hard to maintain that mentality. When I'm not mad at her, while I don't feel regret, I just feel sadness. I feel a sense of dread and anxiety. I haven't cried much, but it feels like I'm on the verge of a breakdown 24/7. \n\nI (by accident, not through cyber-stalking or anything) found out that she slept with someone else. Now I feel sick to my stomach, can't eat, and the anxiety has amplified x10. \n\nI don't know why I feel like this. I don't miss her. I don't regret my decision. I wouldn't date her again. We're going full no contact. I guess I do miss cuddles.. How do I make this anxiety go away?", "summary": "Not ~sad~ about a breakup, just feel very anxious. How do I become okay?"}
{"id": "t3_2enmy0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I (F/22) need some help motivating my (M/27) boyfriend to drop some weight.", "post": "We have been together over a year. He's probably 50lbs or so overweight, and it's all belly. I run 5ks, I'm training for my first Triathlon next month so I am always doing something to help us try and motivate each other. For the past 6 months we have eaten quite healthy- low carbs, whole grains, quinoa or brown rice, lots of vegetables, mostly lean ground chicken or turkey and lots of salad, beans, ect. \n\nWe never order takeout, eat fast food, can't tell you the last time we had pizza, fried food, no pasta dishes or heavy sauces on anything. It's hard to notice if all these things we are doing have had any effect on him, he hasn't said much about his clothes fitting better, ect. \n\nHe has two full time jobs A) Full Time Firefighter working 48 hours then off 96 B) He owns and maintains a landscaping business that has 50 accounts, working 10-12 hour days to get it all done on his 4 days off. \n\nNeedless to say, I understand when he gets home he's tapped out exhausted and sometimes going for a walk/bike ride is the last thing he wants but where is this extra weight come from? Maybe he's binge eating at the firehouse? Or eating crappy food on his lawn breaks? I carefully told him that only he can make a change, I will support him and help as he wants me to but at the end of the day if he doesn't have the drive; I cannot force it and do it for him.\n\n It also concerns me, as we are quite a serious relationship that if we ever had kids they would think it is OK to be over weight, if that makes sense. Any advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend is sort of trying to lose it, however he is so exhausted from working it gets put down on his priorities."}
{"id": "t3_2ucdxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] am about to choose between two guys [23&28] and I don't know if I am making the right choice. Help?", "post": "New to Reddit - seeking advice.\n\nSo, for about the last 6 months or so I have been seeing these two guys. Neither of them exclusively, so I haven't cheated on anyone, just to be clear in case that is something responders might get upset about. But it has gotten to the point with both of them where the relationship needs to move to the next level. I don't know how I got myself into this situation... I had gotten out of a LTR, fairly messily, and I wasn't looking for anyone. I had been alone for a while when I met them, through different friend sets, and just started hanging out with them both. And this is where I ended up - loving two guys.\n\nYes, I'm love them both; that is the problem. Also, both love me... And I don't want to hurt anyone. But I am going to have to.\n\nI am pretty sure I know who I want to be with, but need some input before I tell the other guy we can't have any sort of relationship anymore.\n\nI am choosing between essentially the following:\nAn older guy with a good job and work ethic, who makes me want to be my best and who is great to have an intellectual conversation with; but who isn't too good at sex or overt emotional expression (I'm a pretty emotional person).\nAND\nA younger guy who accepts me at my worst, connects with me really well sexually and emotionally and is quite sweet; but is immature and sometimes hard to communicate with.\n\nI am pretty sure it is time to bite the bullet and chose the older guy, I want to really have the chance to see what kind of relationship and life we could build. But I don't know how to break it to the younger guy, or if that is even definitely the right choice.\n\nHelp??", "summary": "Choosing maturity and intellect, over great sex and emotional support. Right choice?"}
{"id": "t3_wscge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you what someone's true self is?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are in our 20's and have been together for 2.5 years for a rollarcostery relationship. We were friends for 4 years before we started dating. \n\nI am very shy and insecure and I let a lot of things slide that I shouldn't have. I ignored a lot of red flags and I changed myself for him. The \"line\" that should never be crossed has been crossed for awhile now.\n\nI am having trouble now because I don't know who my boyfriend is anymore. There is the friend he was; the person I think he is; the person he is when he is angry; the person he is when he is loving, etc. When we fight and make up - he is a different person, he makes promises and I think everything will be better, but it never is. He expects me to forget all the mean and hurtful things he says when he is angry, all the controlling things he does, etc.\n\nIs it really acceptable for him to say, \"I'm sorry, I was angry.\"? Can that really nullify everything that happened?", "summary": "My boyfriend says very mean things when we fight and attempts to take it back by saying he was \"angry\". I don't know if he is being genuine or walking all over me."}
{"id": "t3_3s34gn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [19 f] always seem to attract the weird ones?", "post": "I never really noticed how unusual this was until a conversation I was having with a few new friends today, on the topic of creepy, overbearing, or stalkerish type guys.\n\nOne of my friends told a story of hers and then I joined in, with an anecdote of my own. And as the conversation went on, it turned out that the rest of the group had one or 2 \"weird creep\" stories and I had 7! Everyone was joking around about how I seemed to be a magnet for crazies...\n\nFor a little context, there's this guy in my classes who seems to be following me around at the moment, and while I haven't gone to any authorities about it (School or police) yet, I have told our classmates and my friends in the various clubs I do what was going on, and to keep an eye out...\n\nIn high school, there was this guy who was obsessed with me, no matter how many times I tried to explain I wasn't interested.\n\nMy other anecdotes were more short term things, like \"This one time when I was watching a play and some dude my dad's age tried to impress me with his supposed acting job.\"\n\nAnyway, that conversation with the friends I mentioned earlier made me notice how weird it was that I had so many experiences with creeps...\n\nI don't know what it is about me... I look younger than I am, and I'm not that old, plus I'm kind of softspoken.\n\nI don't open up too quickly about myself, which I have found leads some people to project what they want to see onto me.\n\nI'm not sure if that's why, those are just some guesses.\n\nAnyone else experienced something similar, or have any advice?", "summary": "I realized, when talking to a bunch of new friends, that I had an unusually large amount of \"creep/stalkerish dude\" stories compared to them. They joked about me being the \"creep magnet\" and I want to know if there's anything I can do to change that!"}
{"id": "t3_1yggis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my date[20 F] of 1.5 months, she has feelings for me and her ex", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for a month (casually) and it's been great. We are both friends with our exes, both of us broke up with them not the other way around. Anyways yesterday I started talking to her about her ex and her reluctance to go exclusive right away (she doesn't want to be insensitive to him). Long story short, during the conversation I got this text from her:\n\nHer:\n\n\"I'm so sorry if you feel like you are the side line guy or something. I hate that you felt that way. You should never feel that way and I feel terrible sorry. I'm going to be honest and say that I like both you guys, but you're not my backup in anyway. I really like you, that is why I've been so confused about thus. If I hadnt met you I prob would have gone back to my ex by now, but I seriously think your awesome and you make me not want to\".\n\nSo it was kind of a punch to the stomach, but I like this girl and we have been spending alot of time together. How can I handle this? I do want to be with her but I feel this is a very touchy subject.", "summary": "Girl i've been dating still has feelings about the ex she broke up with, but is dating me now and isn't sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3834es", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32 M] wife [32 M/F] of 8 years has no job, no friends and no hobbies.", "post": "I have a very demanding job and work around 10 hours per day and sometimes even Saturdays and Sundays. This leaves me exhausted and with basically zero interest in doing anything else besides recover for the next day. I play videogames a lot.  I have also started drinking a little more. \n\nShe hasn't had a stable job for the last two years. She claims her bosses are always too stupid or too whatever and her contract is never renewed or she is left doing such stupid stuff that she ends up quitting. \n\nWe invested some money and she started a business in November. She closed two weeks in December because her parents came to visit. She did the same thing in April when her sister came to visit. We went bankrupt last month. \n\nI have no idea what to do. She spends the weekends telling me that we never do stuff together and that I'm only drinking and playing videogames. Truth be told, she has nothing to talk about all she does is stay at home and take care of the dogs (not even organize the damn house it's a fucking mess). I am very bored. We almost never have sex. \n\nThe story of our life choices goes a while back and she has postponed her career in some stages of our lives for the sake of mine. I am not angry because she doesn't have a job or because I work a lot. I am simply tired that she is so dependent on me for everything.", "summary": "I feel that my wife, who has no job, hobbies or friends, is too dependent on me. I have almost no energy left in me after I go to work and also find her conversations very boring and her attitude of superiority very tiring. How do I get unstuck?"}
{"id": "t3_467mw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my [52 F] been with for 13 years. Need help starting a breakup conversation.", "post": "Been with her since high school. Yes let's get the obligatory cougar relationship out of the way, we are 21 years apart. Fell in love instantly and never felt any other way for her. Yes, she has her quirks, and I do mine - but love held the whole thing together.\n\nHowever, last year (around this time) I started to fall out of love. And the arguments increased... so during one such argument I told her that I wanted to end it. But instead she talked me into staying and has since been so so nice to me. No fights since.. But I don't feel the same way back... Now since then, I have been finding it so difficult to get a conversation started to break up with her. That's what I need some help with. If any redditors out there can shine some light, I will be so appreciate! :) Oh btw, never broken up with anyone before, this woman is my first and only.\n\nThrowaway account as my partner is redditor too.", "summary": "Stuck for a breakup convo starter after a 13 year relationship. Never been with another girl b4."}
{"id": "t3_t2dar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help, landlord threw out property after lease", "post": "I currently live in Canada and I left a chest freezer in the apartment that I rented out.  The lease expired (May 1st) and I had moved out on April 29th.  I had let the incoming tenants know that I had a freezer there.  The freezer was sold and I have been arranging for it to be picked up while I'm in another city.  When my roommate came in to move out his stuff (may 1st), it was gone.  His stuff was found in the basement and not in his room.  The incoming tenants had not moved in yet and my roommate who had moved out on April 30th, said it was still there.  The only people who were in the apartment were the cleaners.  How do I go about retrieving my lost property?  If the cleaners took it, what can I do?  I know a freezer isn't a big deal, but money is really tight and I absolutely need the freezer back.", "summary": "Left freezer after lease expired, it is now gone, how do I get it back?"}
{"id": "t3_v3qpf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most surprisingly pleasant experience with customer service that you've ever had?", "post": "So I ordered a hat from zazzle.com. For those who aren't familiar, zazzle will print custom designs onto hats, shirts, etc. Anyways, I ordered the hat in the white style. But, the hat that arrived at my house was red. I followed zazzle's instructions for requesting an exchange. To be honest, I didn't even think I would be able to get an exchange because the receipt said I ordered a red one... yeah I might have accidentally ordered a red one. But I requested the exchange for the white hat, and zazzle customer service responded the next day. They were extremely apologetic and said that no exchange was necessary. They said I was free to do with the red hat as I wished. Keep it, sell it, discard it, whatever. And they would send me the white hat I wanted at no extra cost. This, friends, gave me faith in humanity.", "summary": "received wrong product, zazzle sent me the one I wanted and let me keep the one I didn't want."}
{"id": "t3_1mm8p9", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My cat is likely pregnant. What's the best way for me to deal with the kittens?", "post": "Hey all,\nI've got a small cat, around a year and a half (I was saving up to get her fixed, then was too busy with work, and was planing on doing it next month...)\n\nAnyway, she tore a hole through a screen window a couple weeks back, and was out all night.\nand now, either she's gaining weight out of nowhere, or she's pregnant. She's been laying around on clothes piles lately, and I feel like she's nesting.\n\nIf she is pregnant, what is the best way to get rid of them? I don't just want to drop them off at the humane society - should I just post on craigslist? Also, how long should I wait before separating them? I can take care of them for a bit, but already have two cats, and can't really take care of more than that.", "summary": "cat may be pregnant, need advice on the best way to get rid of extra kittens, just in case."}
{"id": "t3_2ds40d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (F19) dump my boyfriend (M23) for a stranger that comes in to my work place?", "post": "I work at subway and I go to school.  I have been with my boyfriend for two years.  This gut comes in often in his work uniform.  He's a truck driver but i've talked to him and he does that while he goes to school. Not that there is anything wrong with driving a truck.  I think he's a local.  After he orders he always tells us to not put his sandwich in a plastic bag.  One time I asked him why and he said that he hates tossing plastic in the trash.  \n\nI don't know why I thought that was so cool.  I try to talk to him every time he comes in.  He's really nice.   So I told my boyfriend about him and how he hates having his sub in a plastic bag.  My boyfriend said he's going to ask for a double bag every time he goes to subway to make up for that guy not wanting a bag.  I told him that was annoying and he said he hates when people act all \"i want to protect the earth.\"\n\nI don't know why but this is a big deal to me.  I now ask all my customers if they need a bag.  Thanks to this guy I always ask because I know that plastic bag will end up in the trash.  I want this stranger to ask me out but he won't.  So I'm thinking of asking him out.  I have no other problems with my boyfriend other than this.  I do feel guilty breaking up with him but I can't date somebody so insensitive.", "summary": "I want to dump my boyfriend for another guy because he doesn't care about the environment."}
{"id": "t3_369t7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18M) having problems with (63) alcoholic father. What do?", "post": "To keep it short, he spends all day drinking and miserable about small things. I'm a heavy sleeper and he's been angry about me not opening the door for him for the past three days, got really angry at my mum for going out (idk why, I wasn't at home for this) but it seems like all he does is get angry because all he does is drink.\n\nLast night he went into the shed, got blackout drunk and now refuses to sleep in the same room as my mother. Why my family hasn't got him any help is beyond me, he obviously has a problem if he finishes around 3 bottles of whiskey per week and you can always smell it on him.  No one bats an eye at the problem because we all think that since he hit retirement he can do what he wants, but living in a house with an alcoholic has got to be bad for my nephews who come here on weekdays, having been a person who began drinking because I thought I could hide my problems I think he does the same.\n\nAny tips reddit? Sorry if this seems long I did it on my phone. I'm having to move out in September and I'm scared of what my mum will have to deal with.", "summary": "dad is drunk all the time, gets angry for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_rmwp4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your first time like?", "post": "Just a little background information: I'm 19 and currently at college in the states. I had a very sheltered childhood and was one of 15 in my graduating senior class in highschool. My entire life, my mom has been my best friend and we've been on adventures throughout the world. \n\nSo, what's the problem you may ask? Well, I've never had a girlfriend or even been intimate with a woman. Over the last few weeks I've been becoming very stressed because I can't see myself taking that first step, let alone trusting someone on that level. I'm even starting to question my sexuality. I'm in a position where I can confidantly say I would not feel comfortable having sex with anyone, and I can't see myself taking the first steps to form a trusting relationship with someone. I mean I'm great at becoming friends with girls but I could never straight up ask a girl out, sadly. Maybe I need some words of advice or encouragement, maybe I just need to hear your stories. What I do know is that I am not living the life I want to and I see this holding me back. Im sure there are many people like me that would love as much as I will to hear how you took that leap of faith. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "too beta to loose it. "}
{"id": "t3_2nu730", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sister [20f] with mental health problems that centre around me [19f]", "post": "My sister started to develop anxiety about four years back and as far back as I remember it has seemed to centre around me. Since I was about 13 she has been paranoid about my whereabouts and would constantly need me to text and keep her up to date with my whereabouts and plans. It was and still is a strict no go for me to go out alone. She gets massive panic attacks when she doesn't know where I am or when she knows I'm out alone.\n\nThe result of this is that I can't really do a lot of things. I can't go for walks alone, can't take our dog out, can't go for bike rides etc. I have to be escorted if I want to do any of these things and it drives me up the wall because I'm a person who values my alone time and freedom. \n\nHowever I'm aware my sister has a mental issue and that I need to do my best to alleviate it by respecting her wishes but sometimes the interrogations of my plans and the controlled conditions I live under get too much. If she hears my door open she comes out her room to see what I'm doing and if I open the front door to get something she follows me out. I feel trapped in my own home. \n\n I feel like such a selfish asshole sometimes for feeling this way but I really cant help it. Sometimes I lash out at her about it all and I don't want to do that cause its definately not helping the situation.", "summary": "sister with anxiety can't deal with me doing stuff alone outside the house and it makes me feel trapped."}
{"id": "t3_2rsq0c", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Where can I find comfort if not in food anymore?", "post": "Hello all! I'm 5ft, originally 150, went down to 125 and after a year of staying at that weight, I went back up to 140 :(\nWhile my family and fiance are great and supportive of my weight loss, I still feel extremely anxious and sad knowing I can't/shouldn't be turning to food to comfort or calm myself. I'm really trying to stop, but it's like giving up something very dear to my heart, as weird as that sounds, like a big part of my life.  I have read some articles online that say to distract yourself and such, but I haven't been able to! Any ideas on how to cope? I hope this is a normal problem, and I figured if anyone could help, it would be you lovely people!", "summary": "I'm feeling anxious and sad without food as a coping mechanism. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_lfriz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got busted on campus, anyone know much about California law?", "post": "So it goes like this: I go to a private university in California, and the other night I was on a balcony outside our dorm smoking with a friend. I was using a water bottle with a removable bowl piece. Our RAs come up the stairs and walk out and ask what we're doing, claiming they can smell weed. I gave them the bottle and hid the bowl piece under my leg and gave them my napkin which had a bit of weed in it still. I told them I was smoking a bunch earlier out of the water bottle off campus, they called campus police, so I tossed my bowl piece off the balcony before they got there but the RA heard it hit the ground and asked what that was and I said I didn't know. \n\nSo campus police show up, ask me to empty pockets, nothing in there besides a lighter, he walks down outside and finds the bowl piece, then they start searching my room. I had a locked drawer which they cut with a bolt cutter after I told them there was alcohol in the room I knew about so my roommate wouldn't get in trouble. They also found some already vaped bud but no regular weed. They also took my scale which I had in a separate, unlocked drawer.\n\nMy questions are: \n\n1. Did they do anything illegal to get evidence so some of it has to be thrown out?\n\n2. What constitutes intent to sell? I had a scale which did have some residue on it I believe, but they found no bud besides already vaped stuff, which you can't sell.\n\n3. Is there anyway they can prove I was smoking on the balcony, or even that the bowl piece is mine and I had just thrown it off?", "summary": "got busted on campus, admitted to having alcohol, not to smoking, not really sure what they can and can't prove; check out the 3 questions at the end."}
{"id": "t3_3mn4js", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my fiance [32 F] of 4 years, we broke up recently, how do I cope?", "post": "Due to multiple reasons that I feel should remain private, her and I are no longer together.\n\nI've gotten really close to her family, and she has with mine, but we both saw the end of our relationship coming mostly due to a difference in family value and our personality in how we treat things.\n\nI feel its still the right decision to break up but I'm having trouble moving on. I still love her, I know I'll care for her for the rest of my life. But our break up wasn't as amiable as I'd hoped to be. Who am I kidding, what break ups are. We were always together, doing most things together. Created many happy memories together as well as sad ones. We've spent countless hours together. But now I'm all alone.", "summary": "Broke up with fiance, not sure how to cope with life. Help please."}
{"id": "t3_2oblad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there any hope of me [24m] reconciling with my [23f] Girlfriend of 7 years?", "post": "My girlfriend left me in march, just after my birthday. There were issues we needed to work on in ourselves, we'd had seven years of long-distance, and she was under much stress due to her home situation and going into her final year of university. At the same time, due to stress on my end, we had been suffering some mutual inattention and she had come to believe that I did not love her anymore and viewed her just as a sunk cost.\n\nAt the time it was left open that we might get back together in the future, once we had both had time to \"grow as people\" as she said, and she has sporadically initiated contact with me and re-iterated that on several occasions. It's been very open-ended, and this is hard to deal with.\n\nOn my part, for eight months I've been writing her letters and emails to let her know that I'm still her and thinking of her, that I love her too much to possibly give up hope. I thought that if I gave her time and space to find herself, but showed her how much I cared, that things would fix themselves in time.\n\nAt the end of September I was beginning to become afraid for that ever happening, and I asked her if my absence from her life was directly making her happier, to which she responded that not having me there was emphatically not making her happier, but that she \"couldn't rely on me as a crutch\" and was \"unsure of how much positive contact we could have without sliding back\". Since then she's held me at arms length and only responded once to an email.\n\nAm I being a fool, trying to pursue this? I love this girl more than anything in the world, I had intended to propose to her this month and marry her next year when she was done with university. I've asked her to just delete me off her accounts such as facebook if she doesn't want me around, as it pains me to see her online but never responding to me, but she hasn't done so. The way she's continued to phrase things when she does contact me leaves it very ambiguous as to where we stand.", "summary": "Girlfriend left me, won't talk to me but won't cut off contact and has left it ambiguous if we can reconcile. Love her far too much to give up, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1ssy2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is a long kept hidden \"truth\" not worth bringing up with your spouse?", "post": "(33 M, 32f, married 5 years)\nI'll Keep this short.\n\nYears (YEARS) ago, in college, I was suspended for one semester, because of cheating. I was young, stupid, and STUPID. Happened once, and I reformed my ways.\n\nOK now fast forward. Been married for about 5 years. We both respect each other immensely. I've never lied about my past to my wife, but I've never bothered telling her about my past transgression.\n\nAnyway, lately, for some unknown reason, I've been thinking more and more to those years ago. I feel like I need to get this past history of mine OFF my chest to my wife. But I also know that it might be putting her through stress with no real reason (after all, whats the point of telling her? so I can feel better, at her expense?)", "summary": "should I bother telling my wife about a huge character flaw, many years ago (and subsequently rectified), when it has almost no relevance to our current lives?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5ctf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] think I screwed it up with him [26M]. Looking for second opinions.", "post": "Hi,\n\nNot sure I need to give you too much background. Been on a few dates with this guy who is just wonderful. He puts every other male I've ever met to shame. However, I've suffered very bad, long-term abuse, and while I am receiving therapy, and have been for some time, I still have many anxieties about relationships.\n\nLong story short, I was curious as to whether or not he was interested. We are very open with one another, so I asked kindly, just so I know I wouldn't be pushing something that wasn't going to happen or maybe annoying him. He stated that he was very interested, and was confused as to why I thought he wasn't. I explained why, and apologised, ensuring that he knew that he was not at all at fault. We have only spoken briefly since. I'll be heading overseas for Christmas now, and I kind of don't want this worrying me while I'm away.\n\nNow I'm concerned I've screwed things up by asking the question. Or making him feel bad?", "summary": "Asked a question, scared I screwed things up now."}
{"id": "t3_1unlm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my Wife [27F] of 4 years, accidentally stumbled upon her Reddit account and issues about her sexual history have come up....", "post": "We've been married for 4 years and together for 7. We have a 3 year old.\n\nOur sex life is pretty bad. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week and I get maybe 3 or 4 bjs a week. I'd like to double the first number and triple the second, but it wasn't like I was going to be mad at her for not wanting more. Equally important, our sex life is pretty bland. Maybe occasionally roleplaying or anal if she's drunk, but it's really vanilla. I've brought up doing bdsm and stuff and she's refused - I left it at that because I didn't want to push her into doing something she's uncomfortable with.\n\nBut then I found her Reddit account, and she's posted about  how she's done those exact same things she refuses to do with me with random fucking guys before we were together, and how she would blow one of her exes as often as possible....\n\nNot going to lie, I'm really really angry. Apparently it's not about her not being comfortable with doing something, it's about her not wanting to do it with me. I was kind of a late bloomer and this is my only relationship ever, but she's had previous relationships. It's really hurtful she's taking these experiences away from me just because she got hers.\n\nWhat can I do about it?", "summary": "I found my wife's reddit account, which lead to some information about her sexual history I didn't know. It's really hurtful. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2dkrrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] have moments where I am a complete dick and otherwise terrible person to my GF [22F]. I need advice.", "post": "I'll keep this as condensed as I can.\n\nI've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half. For the most part, things are great. We're supportive of each other, healthy sex life, she's one of my best friends and I share everything with her.\n\nI graduated in May and have been unable to get out of my current job. I've been working retail the past 8 years to put myself through school. Anyway, this job and not moving on in life gets to me. There are times where I treat my girlfriend like complete trash, say nasty and hurtful things that push her away.  Then wake up the next morning sick to my stomach with regret and am completely ashamed of what I said out of anger. I tend to be laid back and patient but lately I've been lashing out.\n\nThis has happened about 3 times now including last night. I don't know exactly what the cause is other than overwhelming feelings of frustration at times. And the one person I love most gets the brunt of it. \n\nShe perhaps isn't as supportive as I might want, not for lack of empathy but she's busy with school and work. That's all understandable (now, in my level-headedness). But that adds to my frustration. The hardest part is the vast majority of our relationship is spent texting (can't live together because of family).\n\nFor the record, I've never touched her in these moments, in fact this stuff only happens through texting (we live about 40 minutes apart). In person, \n\nI love her dearly, but this NEEDS to stop. She doesn't deserve these outbursts and in all honesty I'm surprised she hasn't left yet. I need help, advice, anything you guys have. Maybe past experiences to draw from. Maybe other subreddits that I can check out. If I forgot anything or you need more details, I'll check it out when I get to work.", "summary": "Been lashing out at my girlfriend, how can I control frustration and not take it out on the one I am supposed to love and cherish?"}
{"id": "t3_206vu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "No idea how to deal with this", "post": "My boyfriend(17) and I(F15)went to his friends house with some of my friends and we all drank. He was sober and I was a little more than tipsy and while his friends went out for a smoke me, being stupid gave him a handjob(lasted 30 seconds max) Turns out his friends saw and were a little angry about it. \n\n  On monday my boyfriend texts me and goes off on me for not having any respect for his friends and that he was saying no the whole time and was trying to get away(which i know was not true) Since that whole thing he's refused to talk to me and says he doesn't know if he can ever talk to me again, anybody have any advice or anybody know how i could even start on saying sorry?", "summary": "gave boyfriend a handie at his friends now boyfriend doesnt want to speak to me ever."}
{"id": "t3_3fjszy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35m]Husband has been cheating on me[25F] habitually in furry chatrooms", "post": "We have been together for four years, married 3. He works from home and has always been fairly secretive with his work pc. I have been  understanding, as I think privacy is important, and want him to feel comfortable in our relationship. \n\nRecently, when my pc crashed, I had to use his periodically. Not for anything important, just to have access to a pc. He set up an alt account, and has been very careful about signing out when he isn't on. \n\nHe had a slip up recently, and didn't sign out. I didn't even realize initially, just started to type into the top bar, and was surprised after the first few letters when a chat site popped up. To be honest, I didn't think people still used those. I clicked the link, and found myself in a furry wonderland. Links to chats, costumes, cam girls. Looking through his history, I saw lots of visits to sites that cater to furry interests. He had never broached this interest with me, aside from buying me animal hats for winter wear. After a little more snooping, I found a folder full of girls in furry costumes.\n\nI confronted him about it that night, and he confessed to carrying on sexually with girls online, but that since it was all roleplay, that he hadn't actually been unfaithful. He said he does feel that it isn't right, and has tried to stop, but feels unfulfilled otherwise. \n\nI have no interest in delving into furry culture. I don't really find the idea of mimicking pretend animals to be anything remotely nearing a turn on.  Also, now I feel like I can't be comfortable in my animal hats which I love.", "summary": "husband having online furry affairs. Is this really cheating? I'm really confused by this."}
{"id": "t3_1p7kg2", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Which recovery is worse? Recovery from ACL surgery or from Meniscus tear surgery?", "post": "Saw quite a few threads on here about each type of surgery, but didn't see one that directly compared the two, and I'm curious to hear from anyone whose had both. \n\nI had hamstring graft ACL reconstructive surgery in 2009 when I was 17. I was in decent shape at the time - 4'11\" at 105lbs, was working as a skiing instructor and running. I had high hopes for the recovery, but I ended up being out for much longer than expected - couldn't walk for 2 weeks, couldn't start running again until about 6 months out, couldn't ski until a year later. For the first two weeks of recovery, I needed help doing practically everything - couldn't drive, couldn't dress myself, couldn't get out of bed by myself, etc.  I do not consider myself to be a depressed person, but during those two weeks I was unable to walk after my ACL surgery, I felt consistently hopeless and depressed - and that was all while being surrounded by my family and friends.\n\nLast week, I found out I have a meniscus tear on the same knee that will require surgery. I just moved to LA, and at the moment, I don't feel that I have any close friends I could ask to help me day-to-day. I also started working at a job that I love, and I don't want to risk taking a lot of time off this early-on because I don't want to give a bad first impression. \n\nAs of right now, I'm 22 years old, 4'11.5\" (grew a whole half inch!), and still about 105lbs. In terms of fitness, I run about 15-20miles, strength train at the gym 4-5 days a week, and rock climb about twice a week. Being physically active is extremely important to me, for my emotional and mental well-being, and I often can't fall asleep unless I've done something active during the day. \n\nSo, to anyone who has had meniscus tear surgery or both types of surgery - what was your recovery like for the meniscus? If you've had both, how do the two surgeries compare? Which one is worse? How long until you were able to run again?", "summary": "I had ACL surgery and the recovery period sucked. Now I have to get meniscus tear surgery, but I can't afford to be out for more than a week. If you have any input on how the recovery from meniscus tear surgery compares to ACL reconstruction recovery, please share! Health-wise I'm a 22 year-old female, physically active, 4' 11.5\", 105lbs"}
{"id": "t3_fi00d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Creepy or Romantic?", "post": "I feel like a little bit of back story is required to properly gauge this on the creepy-romantic scale. I met this girl at work and we started talking and went on a (confirmed) date. Fast forward a week, she tells me she is not ready to get into a relationship yet because she still isn't over her last boyfriend. After some talking she says that she would definitely date me when/if she gets over him. Also through the course of us talking I have found out that she has NEVER received anything for Valentine's day. A few other possible factors are that she sent me a link to [this] and said they were the prettiest flowers she has ever seen, and also her mom asked her if I was getting her anything for Valentine's day to which she replied, \"I don't know.\" Finally to the main question: would it be creepy or romantic of me to get her address without her knowledge in order to send her the flowers for Valentine's day? Am I wrong for holding out hope that she will get over this other guy? If you think it would be a good idea to send the flowers should I spring for the premium? [Don't let me end up like this guy!](", "summary": "Girl (possibly) likes me is it weird to get her address unbeknownst to her and send her flowers on Valentine's day?"}
{"id": "t3_3sfps0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my hand stuck in a container at work", "post": "This fuck up happened a few days ago, I'm just getting around to posting it now. \n\nLike any other night that I close the store up, I had just finished mopping and cleaning the counters. The only thing left for me to do was the dishes. So I'm scrubbing away and about halfway through them when I have to scrub out a container like [this] except it's just barely big enough to fit my hand through. I was tempted to just rinse it but I decided fuck it, I'm a good employee, so I scrunch up my hand and jam it in the container. I scrub the inside until it was free of food and then I go to take my hand out - and it is stuck. I try to free it by brute force but all that was doing was digging it into my skin and probably making my hand inflamed. So I look around for something that might be helpful for getting it out, and then decide on the vegetable oil spray. I sprayed for about 2 seconds all around my hand and tried pulling it out again but that did nothing. Mind you, this whole time I'm a) alone b) limited to only using my left hand. Eventually, I try getting the pliers from the drawer and manage to break a hole in the side and cut the whole damn thing in half so that my hand can breathe. Then I cut up the side and finally get it off. My hand looked pretty raw for about an hour afterward and I still had to clean up the mess I made. Also I had to explain the cut up container to my boss who laughed at my dumbassery.", "summary": "Got my hand stuck, had to resort to destruction."}
{"id": "t3_20u8iz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/25] am feeling really insecure and inferior to my girlfriend [F/25]. (career, money, prestige)", "post": "So some background on us:\n\nHer:\nShe is about to start CRNA school. She made it into one of the top programs at a really young age (hard to understate how difficult this is) and will be making around $160,000 when she gets out. More as she gets experience.\n\nMe:\nI Have a bachelors degree in CS with a crap GPA. I screwed around in college because I was honestly just lazy. I have changed, but I feel like a loser every time someone asks about my grades in college. I only make around $55k a year out of college as a software developer but I am working to change that. If I stick with my current career I can realistically expect to cap out at $110-$120k 10-15 years from now. Less than half of what she will be making in that time.\n\nI will realistically never make as much as her. Unless I somehow get into law school or grad school I will never have the titles/prestige that she will have. I feel like she will get frustrated at the fact that I don't live up to her status and will leave me. She makes be a better person and I love her with all my heart. And it kills me to say, but I don't think I am good enough for her.\n\nI guess I am looking for advice from anyone who has experience dating/marrying a woman who is smarter and makes more money than them. Am I being stupid or is this a valid concern?", "summary": "Girlfriend is smarter and will make more money than me and I am worried."}
{"id": "t3_2fz3xr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 18] have been seeing a girl [F 20] who I really like, but gave in and had sex with another girl [F 19]. Feel awful now.", "post": "I have been getting really close with a girl (we will call her Jenny here) since I started college, we click and get along famously. Great sex, I have met her friends and get along with them very well too. She isn't the prettiest girl but I still think the is beautiful. We have been seeing each other for just under 2 weeks and it is getting serious, feels like we have known each other for months. I have already stopped talking to my \"Fuck-Buddy\" from back home. We never had an awkward moment, we clicked better than with any other girl, we can just talk for hours.\n\nThen this girl who I suspected liked me sent me a friend request (we will call her Stacy). I found her very attractive and hard to resist. On our second encounter today I had sex with her. This was after having sex in my dorm in the middle of the day with Jenny; and it was Stacy's first time... So twice in one day with two girls (even though 2 months ago I hadn't even had my first kiss yet). It was a heat of the moment thing (no alcohol was involved). I think Stacy really likes me, and I am not that into her. I felt so bad afterwards, but I don't want to just stop talking to her, even though I regret it. I have never had a real girlfriend, but I want her to be my first one,\n\nI don't know what to do! I have to keep seeing Stacy because we share a class. I really care for Jenny and am scared to lose her, I also want to tell her what happened and be honest. So right now I feel like a complete jerk and want to do right by both these girls, but feel I may have screwed up my chances with both.", "summary": "Getting really close with a girl and had sex with another girl in my english class. Feel like a total asshole."}
{"id": "t3_3ktsw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Ex [19] hates me over something I [20] didn't do", "post": "My Ex (call her Ally) and I hook up on occasion. We are friends who joke around & ask each other for advice but we also sometimes also hook up. We work together at a restaurant that has a small chain in the city. \n\nI have a friend (call him Sal) who works at a nearby restaurant that is the same chain, so we see each other whenever one of our restaurants need something. \n\nThere is a cook (call him Jose) who works at both of the restaurants, in the day with Sal, and nights with Ally. \n\nOne thing about Jose, he is an compulsive liar. He lies about everything. He lies about his family, other people, his position in life, everything & anything. \n\nSo Ally texted me yesterday night, saying that we shouldn't hook up anymore, I agree and say it's cool. Then she takes it a step further & asks to delete our phone numbers & not to talk to each other anymore. \n\nI'm confused. I consider her a good friend so I ask what's wrong. \n\n\"Just keep my name out of your mouth & tell Sal & Jose the same\" \n\nI'm confused. I never talk about my relationships with anybody & I certainly never talked to Sal about it. So it must have been Jose who said something (I never even talk to him). \n\nI ask for the story & she tells me to fuck off, that when we work together don't say shit to her & to never call or text her again. She said that I probably told Sal everything about our relationship, how we hook up & everything(I never did), and how Sal & Jose talk to each other about everything. \nI apologized , saying that whatever Jose said is bullshit & that I wanted to talk about it. She said no. \n\nAt this point I'm scared. I've never ever tried to hurt her & now she hates me. She is honestly one of the nicest and smartest people I've met & she wants nothing to do with me. \n\nWhere do I go from here? How am I supposed to make her talk to me when she doesn't want to? I'm scared of losing a good friend who's a good person.", "summary": "Ex thinks I blabbed about our hooking up to everyone, I didn't. Now she won't speak to me & I want to save our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_34yqqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17/f] I caught my brother [16/m] in my room wearing my clothes, he confesses to me that he has always been gay and wants to be a girl, how can I support him further?", "post": "About 2 weeks ago, I came home one day from school earlier than usual because my teacher let us go early, and when I got home, I heard moaning noises in my bedroom.\nRight there and then I thought things aren't gonna be good, I found my brother masturbating while wearing my panties, clothes and heels. Immediately shit turns awkward and at first I was creeped out like no tomorrow. But we sat down and he begged me to hear him out. He basically came out saying he is gay or bi but he doesn't know? His exact words were \"I want to become a pretty girl like you sis\". I kind of understood that my brother has been hiding all this and him finally coming out made me a bit happy and I want to support him 100%. Obviously he didn't tell anyone else, and our parents are honestly the biggest obstacle because they are the strict Asian types (we are 2nd generation Viet). So my brother has never told anyone until now. I want to help him and support him, so I promised him that I'll lend him some of my clothes and undies and even help him buy feminine stuff for him. I don't really know what else I could do for him considering our parents will likely kick him out of the house if they found out about his sexual orientation. I want to be the best big sister and be there for him, ever since he came out (about 2 weeks ago) we started hanging out more and connecting on a more personal level. At night when our parents are asleep he would just sneak over and we would have \"girl talk\" and play dress up, I know it might sound weird but it makes him happy and I am happy for him too, knowing that the only time he can be himself is with me. How can I help him further, I know its hard for him to hide it and he just seems to enjoy life so much more whenever hes in my room being himself?", "summary": "Caught brother wearing my clothes, turns out he is gay and has always wanted to be a girl. I support him 100% but our parents are super strict Asian parents. What else can I do for him?"}
{"id": "t3_1y3x3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] feel as though there is no place for me.", "post": "I just want to preface what is going to be a long post with some background information about myself.\n\nI am a 17 year old male, and I have a serious wealth of mental problems.\n\nI suffer from Asperger's Syndrome, ADHD, and Compulsive behaviors; we are already off to a great start!\n\nAside from being unbelievably retarded in social situations, you could say that my physical attractiveness is average at best. I am like 5'10\" and I weigh about 230 lbs. So I am not really the most beautiful person out there.\n\nI think my only strong point as a person is that I am a very caring person and an excellent listener. Although this may also be a negative because I appear unbelievably clingy (I think) to others.\n\nMy compulsive behavior is repulsive; I constantly try to pluck hairs from my neck and pick my nose and eat my own god damned snot. I am like a little fucking kid and I am almost legally considered an adult.\n\nSo now that you can kinda get an idea of who I am, I will move on to what I am asking for advice about.\n\nI seriously feel like I will never, ever be in a meaningful relationship, and I truly feel like I don't deserve to be in such a relationship. All of my past experiences with women have been terrible to the point where I pretty much have given up on pursuing a relationship.\n\nI've asked dozens of girls on dates before, only to be rejected, provided the standard excuses which don't register as a definitive no in my autistic head.\n\nI tend to only have feelings for my friends, because I know them and they actually talk to me, but friends are just that: friends.\n\nI automatically assume that I will be rejected now, so I really don't bother trying because I like to preserve the friendships I have, considering how hard I have worked to establish them.\n\nI am overall just a loser and have come to the conclusion that nobody wants me, nobody will ever want me, and I should stop trying.", "summary": "fat, below average looking social retard who picks nose and plucks neck hair hates himself and knows that an actual relationship is out of the question."}
{"id": "t3_wzq0v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do to repair my relationship with my mom?", "post": "I hate my mom right now. It seems that her goal in communicating with me to always make me feel bad about myself, and she often engages in emotional blackmail to this end. She also enjoys using false and exaggerated accusations and nonsense if we're arguing so that I end up very upset; when this happens, I tend to give up. The rest of my family is always on her side too.\n\nAfter realizing the above, I resolved to distancing my relationship with her, since I felt that my feelings were being abused. Unsurprisingly, when she found out today, she tried to make me feel bad. The other result of that resolution was that I started to lock myself up in my room often to do stuff by myself (mostly gaming). \nActually, I had always done this, but I was now doing it to get away from people in addition to having fun.\n\nThis whole situation has been tiring and stupid, but it's also been a huge disappointment. I used to have a very close and loving relationship with her, but now it's turned to shit.\n\nFYI: I'm a 14 (will be 15 very soon) year old boy who lives with his mom, his mom's fianc\u00e9 (they will be married pretty soon as well), and his 12 year old sister. I also have had depression for just over a year. I go to a therapy session about once a week, and my therapist is the only real life person I can trust with this kind of stuff.\n\nThanks to anyone that helps.", "summary": "My mom and I used to be close, but now she is a bully who abuses my emotions."}
{"id": "t3_2hlooy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am best friends with a couple [23 M--24 F]. They split up, and now me and his ex have strong feelings for one another.", "post": "Practically 5 years ago my best friend (of 13 years) got together with this girl. \n\nIn 5 years of relationship me and her have gotten quite close and definitely can open up to each other more than to any other person. Now they split up as he had been cheating on her. Me and her were attracted to each other and for about 4 days fooled about a bit a week after the break-up. \nI have never been with someone I can act this natural around in an intimate setting and she agrees. We could speak about anything and were completely open about our feelings.\n\n  I tried to speak to my friend about the situation and he says he still has feeling for her and I must choose between him and her. I chose him and now she says she won't be able to be part of the same circle of friends anymore as she can't bring herself to be chummy with her ex of 5 years whom she left as he had been cheating on her and cant be in constant contact with the guy she loves . Apparently she had been dreaming about me for 5 months before the breakup.\n\nNow, my dilemma is, do I side with my male friend (who tends to be quite a selfish person) or try to start a relationship with the girl as I wouldn't be able to stand having her out of my life?", "summary": "My best friends were a couple. They split up and now me and her have strong feelings for one another. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2th30f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by swearing at a customer over the phone.", "post": "Background information: I work in a call centre. A debt recovery company. The department I work in is television licensing. Yes. Our country, UK, has to pay \u00a3145.50 annually to watch TV. People who have missed their payments gets their account passed over to us and we hunt them down for what they owe. \n\nSo I received an inbound call (Call coming in just in case) and our system doesn't tell is who's exactly ringing is so we open the call like this: \"Hello you're through to 'insert name' at 'insert company.' Can I please take your file reference number please?' The file reference is found on s letter we sent them. But not this one. \nThis call had some guy go ape shit crazy. As soon as I had finished talking he shouted \"I WANT YOUR COMPANY TO STOP FUCKING CALLING ME. I DON'T WANT TO PAY FOR MY LICENSE. NOW PISS OFF\"\nObviously it's within my company policy to not give shit to the customer so I politely said \"Sorry to hear about that. Could I just take your number down so I could bring your account on my screen?\" And then for two minutes he kept saying to remove his number from our company, he doesn't want to pay, were harassing him etc. and every time I'm advising him that I can't bring up his account unless he tells me his number. Then he shouts at me \"JUST REMOVE MY FUCKING NUMBER FROM YOUR COMPANY YOU FUCKING PAKISTANI C**T.\"\nThis is where I lost my shit and shouted at him down the phone \"I can't remove your number from our system unless you give me your fucking number for fuck sakes. How many times do I have to fucking tell you!?\"\nThis was within ear shot of 5 people which included my team manager who all looked at me in shock and my manager ended up pulling me aside after I hung up and I had a verbal warning. The only reason why I didn't get fired was because I'm fairly new so it's my first experience.", "summary": "Customer went ape shit at me. I went into ape shit at him. Got in shit with my manager and company."}
{"id": "t3_2g5ki5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saving pictures of my girlfriend on my computer.", "post": "Today, I fucked up. I am in a long term relationship with my girlfriend and over that time, she's sent me numerous \"sexy\" pictures and videos. Me being a dumb guy, saved them all. She knows. She's fine with it, doesn't care.\n\nSo fast forward to today. My best friend was dog sitting and I was gone. When I came back, I went on my computer and for whatever reason, probably out of curiosity, looked at the \"Today\" folder that shows everything that's been opened today. My heart sank. Everything. He looked through everything. Every photo, every video. Went through my Dropbox that had my vacation trip pictures to see if there were any there? Don't know. The thing is, these pictures are very well hidden so he had to go through everything to find them - but he knew exactly where they were. I guess he's done it before? I don't know what to do now. I fucked up by saving them and trusting the guy. I don't even want to know what he did after seeing them. I'm considering ending my friendship over this.", "summary": "had saved naughty pictures, my friend saw everything"}
{"id": "t3_4cp0s7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my GF [28F] of five years, wants me to buy her a condo", "post": "Hi everyone, There is more to the title. My girlfriend (28) and I (33) have been together for five years now with some ups and down. This coming fall my girlfriend will be going to medical school in a different state (Nevada) from where we live. I just graduated from school and got a job that pays $50K a year and I practically have nothing in my bank account. My girlfriend wants me to buy her a condo so that she can live in it and rent out the other rooms to cover the mortgage. The house is a 2br and 1 bath and it costs $120K. I dont know what to do.  Should I buy it for her or what?  I feel like a tool if I do it.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to buy her a condo, but not sure if it is right since I do not have any savings."}
{"id": "t3_38waxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Messy situation. Likely cheating SO(long, sorry)", "post": "SO(29M) has a big birthday this month. I(31F) knew he had been looking at a new laptop on his tablet. I look at his browser history to see which one exactly so I can surprise him and end up finding articles about how to tell if a coworker is flirting, and multiple different social media sites for a lady he works with. I hold off on the purchase and feel guilty about my inadvertent find.\n\nA couple weeks later I find a portion of a condom wrapper in our bathroom after he's been out for the night.  I bring up the wrapper, but not the coworker info I saw. He says he has no idea how it got there, must have been some trash on his shoes. Which we don't wear in the house. It could happen since he was at a bar and I drop it.\n\nA couple weeks later he is talking about this girl in his sleep and touching himself. I, wrongfully, grab his phone in the morning and snoop. He's bought her a birthday gift that is small, but highly personal. He catches me snooping, I lie and then fess up a couple seconds after the lie, apologize and he goes back to sleep.\n\nI bring up the gift later on, and who I think it's for. He gets defensive and tells me it's for someone else, but I googled coworker and knew it was her birthday that week and that the gift was a trinket about a sport that she participates in.\n\nHe decides to move some stuff out to get some space, but wants to still be in a monogamous relationship together. After some no contact time. We haven't interacted in 2 weeks.\n\nLast night he pops up on social media site that says he is right near where coworker's big sporting event is being held and I'm sure he went to watch her.\n\nI want a resolution to this and the truth, but I don't want to break the no contact. He still has stuff here that needs to be moved as well.", "summary": "innocent snooping turned into real snooping, got caught, now he seems to be with her even though he said we were still a couple. Don't want to break no contact to clear it up. I'm being played."}
{"id": "t3_1ujfsh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We have a big bad leak in our kitchen, and have run out of ideas. Are there any experienced home owners or contractors who can help us out?", "post": "Here's a photo, although I'm not sure how well you can see. \n\nWe bought this house this past summer, and one of the big selling points was the gorgeous kitchen with skylights. We made sure an inspector walked through, to let us know of any possible damage or previous leaks. He mentioned nothing. \n\nWe've had a really weird winter so far, and with the ice and snow build up on the skylights, we've come into some  big problems. Whenever the snow and ice starts melting on the skylights it pours through our kitchen. We can't catch it in a bucket, because it's streaming down the wall. \n\nI'd say we're getting a litre a minute right now. With newly refinished hardwood floors, I'm scared we are ruining them by the second. \n\nIf there's a subreddit for this type of thing, I would love to hear! I looked around, but couldn't see anything. \n\nHiring a contractor is out of the question. I'm on maternity leave making enough to survive and my Fianc\u00e9 is unemployed. Not to mention, there doesn't seem to be anything we could do if we wanted with this weather.We tried putting tarp up outside, and we also knocked down as much ice as we could. \n\nAnyone? We're desperate.", "summary": "just moved into a house and winter weather has caused major leakage (that we can't catch in a bucket). Out of ideas. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_2q20b9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If a girl who is in a relationship has lunch break with a male coworker does that make her a player?", "post": "I [F/23]work in an office where more men than women work there. I have a good friend at work who just happens to be male. He knows I have a bf and is very respectful of it. We usually have the same shift so we take lunch together. Well anyway there's this other guy [M/32] who works there too. \n\nThis guy told me that I'm a player and a cheater. How? Idk I guess lunch is cheating then? He tells me he's gonna expose my player ways to everyone. He said that if he ever sees my bf waiting outside my job for me He will make sure he walks up to him to tell him how I really am. My bf knows about this friend of mine and is cool. So why does this guy feel he has to interfere in my relationship and my friendships? Does having lunch with a male co worker really make me a player?", "summary": "does having lunch with a male coworker make me a player or a slut?"}
{"id": "t3_1bn4il", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Need help in importing Nike+ data into Garmin Connect...", "post": "Hi guys, is there a runnitor who can possibly help with this? I'm sure a lot of subscribers in this sub-reddit might be interested here.\n\nBackground: I've been running for more than 8 months now and have managed to turn my former couch-potato-self into a half marathoner in that time. For all those runs I've done(more than 140 of them) I always use my iPod touch with the Nike+ Running app, that coupled with measuring distances with Google Earth has been very useful. But as a birthday treat for myself (and reward for running a half) I've decided to purchase a Garmin Forerunner 10 which I chose mostly because of it's ease of use, pace training, and of course its the cheapest Garmin available.\n\nSo as you may have guessed, I googled for some ways to transfer almost a years worth of run into my new Garmin Connect account. Just to compare my progress over time. It gave me two possible ways. The first is about a service called [eagerfeet] which I've read about [here] which sounded easy to use. But the site is under maintenance despite it's promise to be back up early this year, and it's blog's last update dates back to 3 months ago.\n\nAnd the second possible way to import is through a program(?) called [fatigue] made by Mr [Zach Holman] I've tried this one(believe me), but(i don't know) I can't get it to work (very limited computer skills, haha). Maybe it's just too technical for me. So if any runnitor out there(with the know-how) that can help guide me(us) step-by-step to use Mr' Holman's program then I'd be grateful. Thanks.", "summary": "Can a runnitor with good computer skills help me use this [program]("}
{"id": "t3_qfrzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mother's paranoia is making it hard for me to be social", "post": "I'm (F,20) still living with my mom because the school I go to is only a small drive away. She was always pretty strict on me when I was in middle school, lightened up a bit in high school, and now it's gotten much worse. I leave to go out with friends for the night and she starts blowing up my phone by 10:30pm. She always says things like \"women like you shouldn't be out at night because you can get raped very easily\", \"you are always a victim even if you're in a group\", and other incredibly negative gems. When I come home late (\"late\" as in maybe 12:30 or 1), she'll give me the silent treatment until morning when she starts shouting about how I could have been raped and that it's my fault she's been doing badly at work because she can't sleep while I'm out. \n\nI understand that she worries because she is my mother, but I stay in groups, I'm usually only at the theater or a friend's house, and I've taken some self defense classes. My brother is 2 years younger than I am and she does not treat him this way. He's allowed to stay out until 3, sometimes until sunrise, without her saying a peep. No matter how many times I try to get her to see how I'm feeling about the way she talks to me, she always gives me that i'm-the-mother-so-i-know-what-i'm-talking-about spiel. I'm so sick of this. How can I let her know that this is really making me feel uncomfortable and trapped?", "summary": "Mom thinks I'm a victim just because I'm a woman and it hurts"}
{"id": "t3_3kj50e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33/f] with my [36/m] together 2 years. Question about finances.", "post": "I have a great boyfriend in a lot of ways. However, currently I earn six figures and own my own house and he is living with me. At times he's offered to pay for the electricity bill which is really nothing.  Maybe not relevant, I also have children that I provide for and am their sole parent. Anyway, he doesn't earn much so it's never bugged me and I've never asked him to contribute. I should mention he does by household goods and groceries frequently.\n\nWell, the other night he mentioned he wanted to buy something that costs approx $1,000 to replace a broken iPad. My thought is if he can afford to but something fun for that amount he should be contributing financially. Thoughts on this?", "summary": "bf lives free in my house but now wants to spend $1k on something fun. Should this be rubbing me the wrong way?"}
{"id": "t3_1mcl6d", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Neighbor Video recorded, with audio, husband and I on our property in Indiana without our knowledge. Is this illegal?", "post": "We requested a restraining order against psycho neighbor who tried to hit me because she was upset about our music choices. \n\nDuring the hearing, she wanted to show the judge video taken of my husband & I in our yard, without our knowledge, talking about putting livestock on the area that is directly across from their house. \n\nI was surprised that they had video with audio since they were not visible. I understand the video itself may not be illegal but what about the audio of a conversation to which they were not a party? \n\nThe worst thing that was said was that we were considering naming a sow after our neighbor. We waited 30 min for the idiot neighbor to show the video but in the end, he wasn't capable of operating  his laptop to show it. \n\nI was too surprised to object at the time but am now incensed that they are recording our conversations. \n\nIs this illegal since we weren't informed of the recording, neither of us consented to the recording and they were not a party to the conversation? \n\nNot a lawyer but doesn't this apply as something related to wiretapping?", "summary": "neighbor video recorded with audio a conversation between husband and I while we were in our yard."}
{"id": "t3_2jkkxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] don't want my GF [18 F] of 1 year to hang out with her best friends anymore", "post": "Hey reddit.\n\nSo my girlfrirend, we'll call her F, has theese two friends whom she sees regurarly, we'll call theese E. They've been friends for about ~7-8 years now. Here's why I don't want her to see them anymore:\n\nEver since I and F got together, E has always igonored me everytim we socialize. Whenever they would call they would always start by saying \"Hey is F there?\", like no \"how you doing\" or \"hey what's up\", they always just ignored me and put me aside. Whenever we would hang out; they would always look at F when they greeted us and, not once, turn to me. Even when we celebrated christmas (we had celebrated it early so it could just be our social group of friends) they showed up 4 hours late because they realized they forgot to get me a present. Everytime they would talk the topic would be something that I, in no way, could participate in and if I could, they would stop talking as soon as I opened my mouth. This went on for about 8 months until one night when we we're out (there was a local festival in town) and I just had enough. F talked to them and explained the situation and told them I was upset. It took them 4 hours to actually apologize to me and when they did, you could clearly see that they didn't mean a single word coming out of their mouth. A couple of days later F talked to them again and told them that I didn't accept their apology and this time it took them 2 weeks o write me a message on faebook which was two sentences long and went something like this: \"Hey meginger I just wanted to apologize for everything. Hope you can forgive us\". I haven't had any contact with them for 4-5 months now but my girlfriends sees them all the time. She knows how I feel about them. I don't know what to do. Should I tell her how I feel? I mean, they have been friends for a really long time so I cn definetly see why she wouldn't want to just stop seeing them.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "Gf has childhood friends which I strongly dislike. Not sure how/if I should tell her that I don't want her to see them anymore."}
{"id": "t3_32gwwu", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Profit dispute over merchandise - what's the fairest way to handle it?", "post": "Myself and two others have a monthly event that I want to make t-shirts for.\n\nIt's $215 for 24 t-shirts, and we agreed to sell them for $20, which would make us $90 each in profit after we've made our money back.\n\nThis meant putting down ~$70 per person initially. But now, the other two backed out of putting down the money because they each had something come up. So I'm going to pay the entire $215.\n\nIs it fair to keep a majority of the profit, because I put down the entire payment and took on the risk factor for this merchandise endeavor? For what it's worth, I also designed the t-shirts and picked the color theme, etc. Part of me feels like they will be making their $90 profit without actually doing anything/risking anything.", "summary": "Looking for the fairest way to split profit after event partners backed out of financing our merchandise."}
{"id": "t3_1t6x3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [28 F] 9 years living together. She wants kids & marriage and I'm not there yet.", "post": "We have been living together for about 8 years and have had a lot of issues between us. We went to couples counseling and individual therapy and things have seemed to have gotten better. Although I've never cheated on her, she has issues with trusting me and other women...even on TV. \n\nAlso I've has some traumatic experiences when I was young and it suffices to say that I don't feel my age. Because of that experience I will barely be finishing my undergrad next year and am looking to grad school after that. A week ago she started talking about kids and I told her the truth about how I feel. How I felt really young and that I am not at that stage in my life. \n\nAfter talking with my therapist, we both agreed that it wouldn't be fair to either of us if we remained in the relationship. One of us would end up feeling resentment. So I brought up the idea of breaking up, and I feel really shitty and scared. \n\nI want to clarify that I really love this girl. I understand what makes her act the way she does (the issues) and I don't want to abandon her. But the next 4-5 years of my life I have major goals I want to accomplish. At the same time I am really scared about the consequences of breaking up, and feel pretty crappy. \n\nI've made an appointment to see a couples counselor about the breakup and what we should do given that we're very dependent on each other emotionally and financially. Any advice you guys have are greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Gf of 9 years wants marriage and kids in the next three years and I don't so we're heading towards a breakup, and that scares me."}
{"id": "t3_297vag", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being lazy", "post": "Context: \n\nI work for an English-language magazine in China. It's a pretty laid-back job which gives me plenty of time to show up late, browse reddit, take two hours for lunch, and still get all my work done. In my office there's just me and my (immediate) boss, everyone else works in other rooms. \n\nLast Friday said boss informs me that she's going to take next(this week) off.\n\nSweet. No boss in the office means I can show up even later, take longer lunch breaks, read more reddit and leave a bit early. A lovely relaxing week, provided I don't abuse it(which I certainly won't.)\n\nOn Monday I got a full night's sleep, knowing I wouldn't have to show up quite on the dot. I had time to make some cereal, showed up half an hour late feeling full and refreshed. \n\nOn Tuesday I slept even later, had a pot of coffee and some fruit with my cereal, showed up an hour late, no one was the wiser.\n\nOn Wednesday and Thursday I went all out:had a full English breakfast(eggs, coffee, bacon, toast, beans, juice), arrived two hours late, did a little work, redditted, jerked off in the office, and went home an hour early. \n\nNow, when my boss said \"take a week off\" I'd been assuming she mean the *whole* week. So on Friday, when I arrived at 1145, I was not expecting her to be there waiting for me.\n\nOops.", "summary": "I wish I could work from home."}
{"id": "t3_4a5679", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex[15 F] of 8 months, how do I get over her", "post": "It was some time ago I found out she's been sexting another guy, sending him nudes, making out with him. As soon as I found out I told her to fuck off, and of course ended our relationship there. We met 3 days later, I told her it's over forever. She cried and begged me to take her back. I told her it's not happening. She looked devastated, but so was I when I found out. I really loved her, she didn't love me as much obviously. It's been 2 weeks since we're apart. I heard from her friend (who happens to be my friend too) that she's telling everyone she wants to hook up with random guys, she wants to go to parties and make out, she's texting her ex again.. I know I did the right thing, but I really loved her. I can't just forget about our time together and act like we never knew eachother. How do I forget about her, and the things she might be doing? I went to a party with 2 friends and had a great time. Any other suggestions? Don't really know what to do.", "summary": "How to get over my cheating ex, knowing she'll hook up with every possible guy?"}
{"id": "t3_114rep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M] needs advice on [20F]", "post": "I've been working with this wonderful woman for a little while now, and have from the moment I saw her developed feelings for her. We talk at work, smile and laugh. And outside we talk on Skype. Nothing ever serious just a hey or what's up here and there. \n\nOnce in a while she will talk about this guy she like(s/d). And according to my friend she has said she found me \"great\". It has only been about a month or two. \n\nI was wondering if I should ask her out sometime and jump on a chance to be in a relationship or if I should wait and see how this guy pans out.", "summary": "Like a [F] at work for about two months, should I make a move before she falls for another guy"}
{"id": "t3_378sht", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] Don't know how to rid of cheating GF [21/f]", "post": "Hello everyone, I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been friends with her since 7th grade. We started dating each other since we were both 16, Juniors in High School. Everything was good, our families got a long well as did we. We went to the same college and it was an adjustment but still good. The middle of last year, though, we both got very busy. She was working 40+ hours a week and going to school full time, so we had almost no time to see each other. I had felt like I had to keep everyday open and not commit to anything else just in case she had an opening. \n\nAround last summer I started to get severe clinical depression and am still suffering. We saw each other less and less but talked daily. When we did see each other she was constantly on her phone and enjoying that more than my presence. Eventually last November I found out that she had been seeing another coworker, and spending all her free time with him (which I thought she didn't have). \n\nSince then, It has constantly been back and forth. I tried giving her the benefit of the doubt but I truly don't want anything to do with her. We still are keeping in contact and I tried to keep it as just friends but she constantly wants more and is blaming me for everything wrong. Now I know what you will say, just get rid of her. And thats what I've been trying to do because I can't have a relationship with someone who does that. She constantly is trying to stay with me by saying she is the only one I have to talk to so who else would I go to. What is the best way to get rid of her although our families are still close?\n\nTHANK YOU!", "summary": "GF cheated, how do I safely get rid of her (considering she knows the outs and ins of me and my family)"}
{"id": "t3_1bllb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [27] doesn't do romantic things, and when I asked him about our upcoming 1 year anniversary he told me [23] to basically not expect much because he didn't know what to do.", "post": "So we both decided to pick out a place to eat for our anniversary, while one of our friends babysits our 5 month old.\n\nWhen I casually mentioned that I hoped he planned something romantic, he pretty much said he didn't have any other plans then just taking us out for dinner.\n\nI told him that I was planning on getting him a nice gift, and he told me not to get him one. I was kind of confused, because in my mind a one year marriage anniversary only happens once. I want it to be special.\n\nHe then asked me if that meant I wanted him to get me a gift, to which I said no, you don't have to unless you want to. Of course I think it would be nice to get, and give a gift on an anniversary. Is this wrong of me?\n\nTo make things a bit clearer, we didn't have a fancy wedding. In fact it was done by a judge in an outdoor location with two witnesses. I didn't get to have a fancy dress, or friends around.. and I was okay with that, but it still bothers me a little bit.\n\nI'm also very hurt still that I never got a proper proposal. No \"will you marry me?\" no engagement ring.. But yet, he did all of that for his ex fiancee. \n\nI know I'm still bitter about those things, but I wish he would try and make some effort into making our future important dates a bit more important.\n\nHe lacks any sense of romanticism, and it sort of hurts me. For example, on this past valentine's day, he didn't do anything for me at all. I would've been happy with a silly poem, a card, anything to show he remembered. I hand painted him a nerdy zelda themed pop-up card, which he loved.\n\nI just wish I was getting some of that back in return.\n\nSorry for ranting. :/", "summary": "My husband doesn't do very many romantic things. I didn't get an actual proposal, or an engagement ring. I didn't get a real wedding. And for our one year marriage anniversary coming up, he basically thought it was okay to just go out to eat for dinner on our anniversary, and that it alone would be special enough."}
{"id": "t3_4jxfyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) snooped and found my ex (22F) has been flirting with an old flame. We've been working on reconciling, but this has me reconsidering", "post": "Recently my ex and I have been trying to patch things up and rebuild trust. We had a rocky breakup last year and have been on and off since. Functionally, we have been dating exclusively without the label for the past couple months.\n\nI have been doing a lot of reflection, and decided that I was probably ready to commit to her again and give her my trust.\n\nSkip to last night, when I come by her place after a long trip. She's asleep, and I see that she has a pending text from me and her ex. I let my selfishness get the best of me, and I snooped. I saw she was being very flirty and implying he needed her body. It was brief, and the dude brushed it off, but I can't seem to forget it. \n\nI haven't spoken to her about it yet, but this scares the shit outta me. I'm disappointed that I breached our trust, and I'm unsure if I should tell her. At the same time, I'm worried if this affects my decision to ask her to be serious again and start committing to one another. She was the one who insisted we be exclusive while working things out, yet she seems to want to breach it. I didn't even know this guy was her ex until a few months ago.\n\nClearly the trust is lost between her and I, but goddamn we could make this work. Our dynamic is amazing when we're together, but is this an indicator that we shouldn't be together? I really thought we were making strides.", "summary": "Found out my ex has been chatting with her ex sexually while I'm away, rethinking getting back together."}
{"id": "t3_1alf6v", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Violate traffic etiquette?  NOPE.  Here, I'll help you take that exit you're trying to avoid.", "post": "As background, I live in Houston where traffic has its special rules.  Leave early or leave late to avoid traffic, drive aggressively but not like a total dick, try to avoid trading paint every day, and let traffic gracefully merge to avoid causing disruptions that inevitably turn into traffic jams.\n\nThe exit to my work is from a major highway (US59).  The exit has an exit-only lane, so the highway temporarily goes from five lanes to six, with the sixth being an exit-only lane (at the Chimney Rock exit, if anyone wants to know).  That sixth lane, however, is fed from a tollway (and not a surface street) so it's generally pretty full.  Generally speaking, the cars from the fifth lane and sixth lane want to switch places, as people from the highway want to take the exit and people from the tollway want to get on the highway.  Thus, people make room to let the cars in the two lanes switch places, thus staggering themselves to make this process go faster.\n\nNot today.\n\nWhen I approached my exit the front of my car in the fifth lane was about halfway along a blue car in the sixth lane.  I was signaling to get to the sixth lane and the blue car was signaling to get in the fifth lane.  No problem!  I slowed to allow the blue car to get over in front of me and I was about to move over into the sixth lane until Driver Douchebag, who had been behind the blue car in the sixth lane, sped up to get in front of me and ALSO move over to the fifth lane.\n\nNOOOOOPE and FUCK YOU!\n\nI pushed the four little cylinders of the Mirth Mobile as fast as they could move, positioned my car so that there was no chance that Driver Douchebag could get over, and smiled as the weak bleats from his horn washed pure satisfaction over me.  \n\nYes, I missed my exit.  But it was worth it to watch Driver Douchebag have to take the exit that he'd been wanting to avoid.  I went a bit up the highway and still ended up being on-time.", "summary": "Wouldn't let an overzealous driver violate traffic etiquette, forced him to take an exit he was trying to avoid."}
{"id": "t3_1ifj8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24M] with my girlfriend [21F] break up because she couldn't handle her time to stay with me.", "post": "So we had been dating for nearly 3 years. We had a healthy relationship, we were each other first. The problem started in the last year when she was overwhelmed by her studies and couldn't share much time with me. We managed to handle those issues, but we shared less and less time.\n\nIn the last months she started working and also is currently in her last semester of University and things got worse. So yesterday we had a chat. We both decided we should end the relationship before things went worse. The next 6 months would be even harder for the pression on her time. I told her I could help her in that process but she insisted it wasn't fair for me to remain patient waiting for her while she couldn't dedicate all the time we needed.\n\nSo it is over. It was sad obviously, and some thoughts are on my mind:\n\n1. Since it wasn't a \"bad breakup\". We aren't mad at each other. Should I keep with my things and after 6 months look for her?\n2. It is time to forget each other and never come back?", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend because she had no time for us in the next following months. Should I wait for her, or live my life?"}
{"id": "t3_4t30iz", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Girl shows many signs of interest however when i asked her out she said no. Why? Please help. Is this a test?", "post": "Where do I even begin. I'm 21M. This girl just started working at the same place I do. Shes 2 years younger than me. She's my dream girl. She has been flirting with me since her second day. First week we were getting lunch with the other staff members. 2nd week she asks for us to get lunch but just the two of us. She asks me if i have a girlfriend to which i respond no. then she asks if I want to be datinng and i say yes. then she asks what my type is and i start listing some qualities some of which she has and she says \"so basically me\".  She keeps saying during this how she hates her ex. I eventually ask why. and she says she just likes saying that phrase and that she and her ex are friends now. She gets in my personal space and is a little touchy. One time she ate food off my plate. She kept mentioning how she told all her close friends and her sister about me. For some reason she wanted to show me all her instagram pictures. \n\nOn her last day we went for a long walk to get lunch. She would ask me what my weekend plans are to which i told her and asked her plans. she told me that she didnt have plans on X day so i asked her on a date and got rejected. There were a lot of other clear signs too. \n\nI'm not sure why I was rejected could someone explain? She claims there's a guy she has kinda a thing with. but that doesn't add up to me. Is this some sort of test girls do? Was I just played? She seemed really sweet and innocent and he perfect girl. Not sure what went wrong.", "summary": "Girl shows many signs of interest, but when I asked her out, she said no. And im not sure why?"}
{"id": "t3_3zdcwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] snooped through some files on my girlfriend's [24 F] external hard drive. Is there any way she could find out?", "post": "Hey Relationships. Sorry for the throwaway, but my girlfriend is a redditor. The title is a pretty accurate summary of my situation. I made a mistake which I instantly regretted and betrayed my girlfriend's privacy. The reasoning behind it is complicated, but it boils down to me believing that I may have been being cheated on. I accessed the drive without her permission and ended up regretting it after going through a few innocuous files.\n  \nBasically, I know I made a huge mistake, but I was wondering if, the next time she plugs the drive in, she will know that I went through a few files on the drive. I believe the drive is a Matsunichi 1TB portable hard drive. Is there any possible way that she could find out that I went through a few files? Will anything pop up alerting her to the fact that her drive was plugged into my computer? When she plugs it in, will the files I opened appear in her \"Recent\" files for the drive? I'm not tech saavy enough to know. I just dont want my girlfriend to find out I betrayed her trust like this. Please help!", "summary": "Went through some files like an idiot. Wondering if gf will know."}
{"id": "t3_wwuqz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently got really bad advice from 2 hospitals that I went to and by the time I got to a specialist they said it was too late to do anything. Reddit what is the worst mistake that a hospital/doctor has made in your life?", "post": "About a month ago I broke my collar bone and was taken to hospital. The hospital just did x-rays on me and said it was fine and it would heal up in its own with time. I know that this is the case with majority of bones so I did not think anything of it. After a few days when the swelling had gone down the bone seemed quite out of place. I had a referral for 2 weeks after but I decided to go to a doctor before that. They sent me for more X-rays and when those came back they were shocked. It had broken in 2 places and a part of the bone had fallen away into my shoulder. They sent me to a bone specialist within a few days but by the time I got there he said it was too late to do anything about it and my collar bone will stick out for the rest of my life (about 20mm above skin level). He said if they had have sent me there sooner they could have operated and fixed it perfectly fine.", "summary": "Broke my collar bone and doctor said it was fine. Got more X-rays a week later and it was broken badly. Went to a specialist but he said it was too late to do anything. The bone will now stick out for the rest of my life."}
{"id": "t3_2xmntl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my SO [34M] 2yrs - why is he so emotionally cold and unloving?", "post": "Having been with my guy for two years you would think I would be used to it by now but it doesn't make it any easier. He treats me well and is always honest and I know he loves me because he tells me all the time but I can't understand why he is so shut off emotionally. We have a good sex life but no romance and he seems to me to be unable to be romantic at all.\n\nAre some men just like this or is there some other reason for him being like this? I am at a loss.", "summary": "Why is he so emotionally cold and unloving."}
{"id": "t3_bz7lv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend was robbed last night. They caught the thief, however he needs some advice since some of his property was damaged.", "post": "My friend lives one floor above me in the same building and last night when he was over at someone else's place him and his three roommates were robbed. Apparently his roommates had left the door unlocked and the thief came in during the middle of the night and stole their personal belongings including wallets and laptops. His roommates had filed a report with our campus police and they found the culprit red handed with their and a few other people's belongings. However, much of the stolen goods were damaged when the thief had went out into the rain with them. So my friend is out about $2,000 from the damage to his laptop and the thief claims that he \"found\" the belongings. Apparently the case was handed over to the municipal police department, and the officer said that with out a witness to the crime that he would not be compensated or repaid for the damage to his belongings and is in need of advice. \n\nI asked him if he wanted me to post his situation on reddit and he wrote up this short blurb:\n\n*\"Around 4am, my roommate woke up to drink some water. He found the room in total disarray, and preceded into waking up the other roommate. After much discussion, and seeing the contents of his wallet on the ground and personal belongings (computers, wallets, etc) missing, a complaint was filed with the Residence Life and Campus Safety. Approximately 20-30 minutes later, there was a similar report from campus safety regarding a student who couldn't get into his dorm. In his possession were 5 laptops, various wallets, personal belongings. The kid was taken in and arrested, and interrogated but would not confess of any theft or burglary. The owners of the various merchandises that were stolen received their belongings back through campus safety. Much of the stolen goods were permanently damaged and broken because of the rain. After speaking with CPD and campus safety, not much could be done and a trial date for a misdemeanor in larceny have been fixed. According to the CPD officer, there would be no compensation for any of the broken belongings. The student is much likely to be expelled.\"", "summary": "My friend was robbed, his laptop was broken in the process and he will not be compensated for the damage unless there is a confession or witness to the crime. As a result he in in need of advice for this situation. "}
{"id": "t3_tcros", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Well. I found out she's cheating on me. I'm numb and need help.", "post": "We've been married 25 years with 4 kids. Our oldest daughter just got married, and we have a 12 year old and 16 year old at home. It was moving towards separation anyhow, but we were not to humiliate each other.\n\nI just found out there has been 5000 texts back and forth with a semi-friend who is a guy. There have been other clues as well.\n\nWe have a significant amount saved and I own a home business. We are in a no-fault state in the US.\n\nI no longer like her and have not for quite a while and do not want to spend my life with her. \n\nShe's still in the house, but about to move out.\n\nHow do I handle the humiliation with our friends and community? Like they always say, \"The husband is the last to know\". I think a lot of people may know and it is extraordinarily embarrassing to think what they are talking about.\n\nPlease let me know your thoughts.", "summary": "Wife of 25 years cheating emotionally, at minimum. I want out anyhow (after her actions), but kids come first."}
{"id": "t3_1egb34", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] What does this guy [20/m] actually want from me?", "post": "So there's this guy on my course at university, and we had never really spoken before until January when he commented on one of my posts on Facebook. After that we really hit it off and became really good friends, speaking every single day etc. and hanging out with each other between lectures/seminars. \n\nThen after about a month of constant talking we started to take it to a further level, so like just the conversation started getting a bit more personal and we swapped photos. Nothing that could be classed at porn but photos I wouldn't want my mumma seeing. \n\nWe went on Easter break and somehow over the course of a month we went from being really good friends to... nothing? Which kind of upset me because by this point not only were we really good friends, but I was starting to like the guy. \n\nTHEN about two weeks ago (??) he randomly starts chatting to me again throughout the day and invites me round his that evening. I go round, take some beers, play xbox and watch a horror film (completely innocent at this point), until he's all like \"kiss me\" and I dunno, maybe I was tipsy but I did. \n\nWe then somehow from kissing gently on his sofa to me giving him head in the bedroom, and he tried to take it further but something clicked in my mind and I said no. So we just fell asleep in a cuddle, but the morning after I had an appointment at 10am so I sort of dashed outta his at around 9am... \n\nAfter that we didn't really speak for a while, until the other day where it's just like we're friends again, but sometimes he's really rude to me and basically said he likes me but nothing can happen because I'm not his type...\n\nEURGH, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT THE BOY WANTS FROM ME.", "summary": "Made friends with boy, things got heated with boy, boy backed away, spent the night with boy, started to like boy, boy apparently can't like me..."}
{"id": "t3_2z3dl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my old friend[20 M] way back 4 years, burying the hatchet?", "post": "I had this friend who has been my roommate for four years. It's a long story but, there is a point in our friendship that I ignored him up to now. \n\nI got mad at him because when we live together he never pays the bills and never cleans the room. Now I know it is kind of immature for me to ignore him for this but, I was kind of young back then and very childish (I know \"I am young back then\" is cliche), and I also have this personality that I don't really say what I am feeling but rather keep it to myself.\n\nFast forward, friends of mine say \"hey, it's been four years why not you and him apologize with each other\". So I had this thought that maybe it is the time to stop this silly situation that I started.\n\nNow, I do not want to get selfish that I am doing this because I want to free myself from the past. Because recently, I have been trying to escape from my comfort zone because I want to improve myself as a person.\n\nWhat I wanted to tell him is that, I would like to say sorry/apologize for whatever I did to him back then, I know that he might not accept this but I just wanted to let this thing go between us. I just have this personality where I get a bit childish at some point and it cause us to break our friendship.", "summary": "Ignored my friend for four years, later has some thoughts of ending this childish nonsense. Should I or just move on from my life?"}
{"id": "t3_10rdp7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Radio adds", "post": "Ok so I have been listening to late night radio because I can't sleep. Which sucks because I have a 9 hour work day to start in 4 hours. Any way back to the rant THEY LITERALLY HAVE TWENTY ADDS TO ONE SONG TEN OF WHICH ARE ABOUT DIFFERENT DIET FADS FIVE ARE ABOUT STUPID TV SHOWS AND THE REST ARE JUST STUPID SHIT! I CAN'T STAND IT THIS HAPPENS THEN THEY PLAY RANDOM NOISES AND TALK ABOUT HORSE SHIT FOR HALF AN HOUR. THIS IS THE SAME WITH EVERY FUCKING RADIO STATION IN MELBOURNE! I mean what the fuck I don't want to here adds about how I can lose 10kg in a week I do this thing called being healthy (given I have gotten a little squishy thanks to a couple of good games coming out) but I eat we'll he plenty of exercise, it can drive a man to insanity the amount of bull shit on the radio and its always there it's like they are drilling into your head saying to get fat, lose weight, get fat and lose weight again. \n\nDoes this happen in other country's?", "summary": "radio stations have turned to shit"}
{"id": "t3_54p880", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) boyfriend (33) of 1 year never compliments me.... ever.", "post": "I've been seeing my SO for about a year now and I'm absolutely over the moon for him. I don't know how I got so lucky. The only problem is, he never compliments me on anything, ever. Whether I'm dressed to the nines or completely naked, he never says anything one way or the other about my appearance. In the last 12 months I can scrounge up 3 distinct compliments (\"you're pretty cute\", \"you don't complain when we hike\", and \"you're cute\") and the first one was basically coerced out of him.\n\nI know that the usual answer to relationship problems is \"talk to them about it\", but in this situation I feel that that would be tantamount to *telling* him to compliment me, which defeats the whole point. I know he loves me, we spend a lot of time just cuddling up together, but this really makes me feel that somehow he's not actually physically attracted to me, and that really hurts. How can I bring this up without seeming like I'm fishing for compliments? I mean, I guess I am, but doesn't everyone want to feel attractive sometimes?", "summary": "my boyfriend gas never said so much as \"you look nice today\" and I don't know what do do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3qxwh3", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Friends say we're getting married too soon", "post": "FH and I got engaged in July after dating through all of college (I graduate in 2 months) and my MOH just let slip that the reason none of my other friends have seemed like they cared about wedding stuff is that they think I'm getting married too young and that it is a mistake (nobody told me this). FH and I will be 23 by the time we get married and, while we understand that that seems young to some, we did not enter into this lightly - we understand that it is a lifelong commitment, plan to do premarital counseling, made sure all of the people in our lives supported us (or so we thought - at least family and all of his friends support us). \n\nThe thing is that we are in a bit of a different life stage than they are at the moment (they still go out partying every weekend and have a fairly typical college experience, where we are more settled down, enjoy board games, and are saving for a house) and I think that may explain part of it, but it just really bums me out. We've all been friends since elementary school and I am the first one in my friend group to get married. It just really hurts that they think this.  FH and I already decided not to invite any of them to the wedding before any of this surfaced (it will be 20 people total - just family and 3 friends). We don't want anyone there who does not support our marriage, but my MOH still wants to throw me a bachelorette party and I know they would all be invited and this has just soured the whole idea to me. If they don't support me getting married, then using my wedding as an excuse to throw a party for themselves seems incredibly selfish.\n\nAm I being ridiculous? I had always imagined being engaged to be a time when my friends were excited for me and I feel like I'm missing out on something special.", "summary": "FH and I are getting married at 23. Friends didn't tell me this, but they think we're too young and making a mistake. Thinking about canceling bachelorette party because they don't support our marriage and I wouldn't want them to use my marriage that they think is a bad idea to throw a party for themselves."}
{"id": "t3_48ownp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20M] in a position to tell my [22F] crush's boyfriend she's cheating?", "post": "I can put more detail in if needed, but this girl and I have really hit it off well and she's definitely been spending more time with me than her boyfriend for the past 3 months. I want nothing more than to be in a relationship with her and not just be this person who is there for her emotional support as a side bitch.\n\nOne night we were laying in bed and she told me she wanted to have sex with me and I said I didn't want to until she make her decision to break up with her boyfriend. She told me she was 95% sure she was breaking up with him. She of course hasn't broken up with him and since then we have still been cheating. \n\nShe tells me that she knows she should break up with him but is scared of how he will react and says she doesn't really know how to do it. \n\nSo am I in a position to tell her boyfriend that she has been cheating? Even if it will ruin my chances with being in a relationship with her...", "summary": "I'm a side bitch used for emotional support and want to be in a relationship with this cheater. Do I tell her boyfriend even though it will never end up with her dating me."}
{"id": "t3_54z1td", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my old high school crush [33M]; he sent me a message confessing his love, but he's married.", "post": "I had the biggest crush on Matt all throughout high school. He was the popular guy and I never really felt like I had a chance with him. We knew of each other, but never really mingled. I just felt like I wasn't popular enough for him. I eventually graduated and moved out of state for college, in which I have been gone ever since. I'm currently dating around, but not committed. \n\n So, fast forward to now\u2026 He recently wrote me on Facebook randomly confessing that he had a big crush on me and that his crush on me has never stopped. He said that he always felt like he wasn't good enough for me (ha!) and so he never pursued it. He said he felt it was finally time to let me know. I found out that he had become a family friend, and those family members love him to death. I brought it up to them, and they told me that he has asked about me over the years and that it was obvious that he has been in love with me since high school. He is a great guy with a good reputation too.\n\nSo, here's the kicker...he's married. They've been together for over 10 years. She apparently cheated on him last year and moved out, but they got back together soon after. She also is about 8 years older than he is. He told me that they have grown apart and that he doesn't think it will last much longer. He feels that the cheating changed his heart. \n\nSo, we talked for a while. We fell for each other. I'm confused. I broke off communication recently after feeling guilty that I was falling for a married man. I can't help it though...normally I'd dismiss a married man flirting with me as a dog, but this feels different because of our history. I've done the right thing, right? I'd really like some advice on this, as I feel we would be perfect for one another, but i don't want to be the other woman.", "summary": "Old crush contacted me. He's married. Wants to leave his marriage and pursue things with me. I broke it off because he belongs to another woman, but my feelings from high school resurfaced and I've fallen for him."}
{"id": "t3_32tv6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my bf [24M] of 2 months, he is not willing to compromise on his drug use - am I being unreasonable?", "post": "Hi - I want to start off by saying that I did not know about his drug use before we both committed to an exclusive relationship. If I had known, I would not have continued to date him. \n\nBackground: He likes to attend those summer music festivals where drugs are in abundance. The only way I found out about his drug use was by prodding him for information. He does MDMA and acid at those things. He was only open to me about things when I asked him outright - do you do that kind of stuff? \n\nNow, I don't judge. It's his life and he can certainly do what he wants, but I have preferences and it's a huge turn off to me. I also have had horrible past experiences with significant others and their drug use so it's something I try to avoid. I told him I would never want to control him, but if he continued to do it, I wouldn't be able to see our relationship as something long term. \n\nI told him how I felt and he took about 8 hours to digest and think about things. We spoke about it with a mature conversation but he told me since the relationship is so new, he is not willing to compromise. To me, that is a huge red flag. Regardless of the length of a relationship, relationships require compromise on both ends. It's not just \"I'm going to do what I want and not take you into account.\" His reaction makes me feel like he is not mature enough or ready for a relationship. It also made me feel like he isn't right for me because he would rather pick doing those types of drugs 3 times a year than be with me. He also equates those types of drugs to drinking alcohol...which I do not agree with.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? Do you think he is not ready for a relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend is choosing to do MDMA and acid over having a long term relationship with me. Is his inability to compromise a red flag? Am I being ridiculous?"}
{"id": "t3_2fjhyc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sticking a Marker into my urethra", "post": "I've lurked here occasionally, but after a pretty bad fuck up today, I think I've got a good enough story to post. Probably should put a warning for the squeamish, I'm not exactly going to spare any details, so be prepared for that or whatever.\n\nI suppose the only way to start this is to say that I'm into urethral insertion, and recently I had been using [A Sharpie Marker] (instead of a proper sound, because I don't own any). Now there was nothing wrong with that, very smooth surface and all, but today for some reason I used it without the lid on. If you look at [This Picture] you can see there's a sudden dip inwards at the end of the body on the left. When that entered the urethra, there was an extremely noticeable suction that pulled it inwards, it had really popped into place. The whole thing didn't get sucked in, most of the end of the pen was sticking out, but the problem was that I couldn't actually pull it out now. The pen had clicked into place, and it REALLY didn't want to come out. So now I had a dick pen.\n\nThankfully I had remembered from a bit ago that heating something up allowed it to expand a bit*, so I went and had a hot shower. In only a few minutes I had managed to get the marker out without much pain. There was a bit of blood coming from a small split in the lip, but other than that I ended up fine. Very glad that it all ended up fine, because it really could have went a lot worse. Will certainly be thinking twice before using improv items for this stuff.", "summary": "Don't stick things into your penis, kids, you'll end up with a dick pen."}
{"id": "t3_3hy5m2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [20F] of a year, not sure if I should be mad about her giving a guy her number", "post": "Been dating my girlfriend for just over a year now, up until this point things have been excellent. She's been basically living with me this summer even though she has an apartment on campus and its been going well. \n\nShe works at a mid-high end restaurant around 15 min from where I live. Tonight she came home from work and after a little while said that something funny/weird happened:\n\nA table she was serving happened to have a guy she knew back in first year university semi well. He recognized her, asked what her name was, flirted with her, and said that they should hang out of she was single. She replied \"ya... Sure\" (apparently very sarcastically) and left. Later when she came back he had his phone out and she gave him her number. She never mentioned me. \n\nWhen she got home and told me I was kinda stunned. He had texted her already just like \"hey how's it going\" or something. I told her I was upset and she said she was friends with him before but that she wasn't going to text him back anyway. I asked her to text him saying \"I've got a boyfriend, sorry if I misled you\", and she did.  15 min later I asked to see the text and what it said was basically \"hey, so (not sure if you were asking me out or not) I'm seeing someone right now, sorry\". \n\nShe's been the same since, I believe her when she says she won't text him, but I can't help but feeling like she's basically put him on the sidelines in case we break up. The way she explained who he was made it sound like she was probably into him back in 1st year, not just a friend. The \"im seeing someone right now\" thing in particular makes me feel like she's referring to our relationship as temporary. \n\nAm I crazy or do I have that right to still be mad about this? It's really bugging me.", "summary": "girlfriend let a guy hit on her and gave him her number, should I still be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_4mi9h1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my partner [23 F] of 6 months, I keep seeing weird things on her device screen", "post": "I've been having a lot of jealousy issues with my partner lately. I'm not entirely sure where it came from, though we've talked about things extensively and have done a lot of growth and healing together. I 99% trust her and basically don't have anxiety about it anymore... except that she's still kind of secretive on her touch screen devices. I can almost get past that last 1% on faith (as I know I need to), but one time a few days ago I saw what was unmistakably a pink location pin in her task bar (android) and just yesterday saw that she has location services on.\n\nI know this shouldn't concern me and that I shouldn't be paying attention to her screen. I've actually tried to not do it, though my curiosity has been getting the better of me when she's been on her devices. (I have NOT snooped.) I'm posting here after hours of scouring the internet, trying to google what android apps the icon I saw might belong to that would also require location services. Thank you for reading!", "summary": "What android apps might require location services that place a pink location pin icon in the task bar?"}
{"id": "t3_10by0e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Who here has self taught themselves another language? Any tips and/or advice for this guy who wants to learn the most he can :)?", "post": "Hello there! So, I'm in love with languages. My first language is Spanish, since that's what we spoke at home growing up. Sadly, that disappeared when I entered school. It came back though. It's just choppy and I get confused on how to conjugate certain tenses, but it's getting better. I'm taking notes on all that fun stuff when I can. My third language (since English is my second) was French. I'm currently in my fourth year of French at school and loving it. It's, strangely, better than my Spanish... My fourth is German. I just started taking my first year of it, but I have some slight background experience with it. My buddy would teach it to me during our Chemistry class last year, haha!\n\nNow, I'm trying to self teach myself Italian, since I have a friend who just came back from Italy after spending a little over half a year in Italy. I think it's way more easier for me to retain a language when I have someone who I can speak and practice it with (English is with everyone, Spanish is spoken at home, I speak French with my brother and a friend, I have multiple buddies who speak German and they are so nice to correct (*read: scold*) me when I make an error, and my Italian friend). \n\nNow, I recently started to take notes on Russian and I couldn't be happier. It's such a different language, seeing as how Italian, French, and Spanish are extremely similar (yay for Romance languages)! It actually kind of feels more similar to German, but that maybe because I'm not that far into either or. \n\n(", "summary": ") So this is what I wanted to ask--I love languages. My system is I have a notebook for each one and I take notes on things and just write out made up sentences (then I use Google Translate to check if I did it right) when I can or have spare time, and seeing as I never leave the house, that's pretty much all the time, but I'd love if any of you self-taught, super smart folks could maybe pass on a tip or two?"}
{"id": "t3_2l7i1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) feel like I don't love my gf (22F) of a year anymore and I don't know why. Help?", "post": "A few months ago I guess I fell out of love with my wonderful girlfriend of a yearish. I don't know what happened but one day I just felt that although I loved her more than anything it wasn't romantic-it was more of a friend love.\n\nI didn't tell her any of this and just dealt with it on my own until I felt terrible and tried to break up with her. I wasn't upfront about what was happening at all. She sent me an email a couple days later detailing that she loved me and that she wanted to work through things with me and it broke my heart. I didn't think she could help because I don't even know what happened to make me stop loving her like that.\n\nWe get along really well, she's beautiful, she's smart, she's funny...she's everything I could want but my head just doesn't want to be with her.\n\nWe talked on the phone and I said I was willing to try anything to get the spark back. Whatever she wanted to do I was willing to try. She said she believes it's because when I was between jobs/houses I was at her place every day for about three weeks. We didn't really do much but lay around and neither of us spent much time outside of each other (she had work though). Since we didn't spend any meaningful time together she thinks we burned each other out, considering we haven't been together that long it was a lot of time together. Maybe there's something to that? \n\nReddit I really want to get the feelings of romantic love back. We're spending a weekend together soon that she's planning hoping that doing actual things together and being open will help.\n\nHas anyone gone through this before? This girl is the first I've ever loved and she's my best friend...how do I get those feelings back?", "summary": "I stopped loving my girlfriend and I don't know why. Really want those feelings to come back. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4bf7v9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my husband [27 M] 4 years, he thinks our daughter doesn't need him.", "post": "So my husband is amazing and I couldn't ask for better. we've had our ups and downs but worked through them.\n\nI gave birth 4 months ago to our daughter Elizabeth and she's the light of my world. My husband loves her very much but he doesn't really show it all too much.\n\nHe only holds her when he has to(which isn't all the time) he'll occasionally get her when she cries. He does take care of her if I have to go somewhere it's only when I'm around when he doesn't really get involved.\n\nI noticed this and asked him about it and he said \"she doesn't need me that much she's got you your her mother kids don't love their fathers like they do their mothers.\".\n\nI told him that's not true but he was persistent about it and said she doesn't even know who he is. He said if he left right now it probably wouldn't phase her and she's be just fine.\n\nI've never heard him talk like this and his comment about leaving has me worried. Any advice on how to handle this?", "summary": "my husband said our daughter doesn't need him."}
{"id": "t3_3i4r23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] fell in love with my friend [21F] 1 week ago", "post": "I am not sure what to expect, I just hope to get some advice whatever it'll be.\n\nAround 1 week ago I fell in love for the first time in my life, I have never experienced this feeling before. The girl I fell in love with is a good friend of mine who's taking the same classes, so I end up seeing her the whole day.\nWe used to hang out a lot, just playing videogames, talking or watching movies together.\n\nNow I have 2 problems:\n\n1. She has a boyfriend and from a conversation 2 months ago I know there is no way she'd feel the same for me.\nSo I already know nothing could ever happen and this leaves me with fear. I fear our friendship will never be the way it was, I fear losing her as a friend. I feel I have to talk to her about my feelings, but this would probably cause my fears come true.\n\nI don't know what to do. \nShould I just move on as if nothing happened?\nShould I tell her about my feelings?\nEvery option seems just wrong to me.\n\nSpending time with her alone feels also wrong now, like if I'm lying to her just playing a friend. It's difficult to explain, I am just so confused about everything now and write down the things coming to my mind.\n\n2. I have no idea how to handle those new feelings. the past days I cried like 30 hours or so and all rational thinking doesn't help. From one moment to another I can switch from \"everything is alright it's not a big deal\" to an emotional hole of sadness and crying until I fall asleep.\n\nI read through articles online about how to behave, many suggested to keep some distance, but that's not possible for me since I see her like 8-10 hours every day. We also share the same friends.\nI appreciate every piece of advice.\n\nMight add that I'm usually not a very emotional guy and this really is a whole new world to me.", "summary": "Fell in love for the first time with a friend who is in a relationship. I don't know what to do, think or feel anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2mcfp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] am good friends with a [30 M] married man [less than a year], is this friendship doomed?", "post": "So I am pretty good friends with this guy and he is great! there is nothing romantic between us, but he is married. \n\nIn the past couple of weeks, I feel that we have gotten closer. In theory, this should be fine, but I know that probably isn't the truth. We see each other a lot because of school and things and we have lunch on the occasion and talk on Facebook some. \n\nI haven't met his wife yet, even though I want to, but for some reason it just hasn't happened. Is this unfair to her? Should I end our friendship for her sake?\n\nI hadn't thought twice about it before until my girl best friend said that I shouldn't be playing with fire and that I should just flat out end our friendship. Advice??", "summary": "Is different gender friendships possible when one is married?"}
{"id": "t3_31rk97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27M] wife [25F] keeps coming with me on my business trips but won't do anything with me that involves my coworkers.", "post": "My company allows us to bring our spouse as long as we pay for their food and transportation. She has come with me on 5 of my trips over the past 2 years (I travel a lot). She only attends if I am going somewhere that she is interested in exploring. Well it has becoming frustrating because we only work normal hours until 5pm and after that my coworkers and bosses all get together to do something every night. \n\nThey always tell me to invite her but she always declines. Not once has she accepted an invitation and she has never formally met any of them because of it. I still go with them by myself and she doesn't care and just goes off and entertains herself somewhere. But I'm just starting to feel embarrassed. It feels like I have this mystery wife that comes with me on trips and hides the whole time or something. She doesn't purposely hide from anyone, she just kinda does her own thing and hasn't ended up in a situation where she has had to meet a coworker somehow. \n\nI've talked to her about this and she says that she just loves traveling and she only comes so she can have her own solo vacation with the bonus of having me still close by. She said that the idea of having dinner or going bowling with 50+ of my coworkers makes her feel out of place so she would rather not have to because it will make her very uncomfortable. \n\nHer not attending makes me uncomfortable. No one has said anything besides \"Where's the wife?\" but it just makes me feel like it is giving them the wrong impression. She said that next time she will go and do something with everyone if she has to but made it very clear that she is uncomfortable with it. \n\nI don't know what to do. If I don't make her go then I will be uncomfortable but making her go will make her uncomfortable. Also, not many people do bring their spouses. 3 out of the 5 times she was the only spouse that attended. \n\nShould I just let this one go? Is this just me over thinking it? Like I said, no one has actually said anything to me about it I just feel like they are thinking it is really strange.", "summary": "wife only wants to go solo on business trips and won't join my coworkers because it makes her uncomfortable. Her not joining makes me uncomfortable so what should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_smyhc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl hasn't responded to texts in two days. What to do?", "post": "I (22m) had a great date with this girl (21f) on wednesday and we've been texting all week before the date and since the date. Well on Friday night, we were texting as normal and all of a sudden she stops responding. I didn't say anything offense or weird at all. I figured she just got busy at work, even though that hadn't been a problem all week. So I let it go and I texted her the next day and she didnt respond to that either. I don't want to seem extra needy or desperate, but everything was going really well and now this happens. Should I try texting her again today? Should I just wait for her to text me?", "summary": "girl randomly stopped responding to me mid conversation and hasnt responded to anything since."}
{"id": "t3_senzp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not quite sure what I should do... I need advice Reddit!", "post": "Okay so I'll try to keep this short and sweet.\n\nThere's this girl that I work with, we both go to the same university (U of O, GO DUCKS!), have the same interests and flirt all the time in person and over Facebook. Her and I had a brief fling in the past (no sex or anything, just hanging out spending time and making out a lot) but that ultimately fizzled out when she decided to get back together with her ex. Her and I remained friends and stuff not only for the sake of keeping things normal at work but also because we both genuinely like each other as people.\n\nSo as of late, like the past few months, her and I have been texting a lot and hanging out on campus all the while flirting back and forth. We both drop hints about hanging out with each other in more of a romantic setting like seeing a movie or getting dinner, stuff like that.\n\nMy problem is that I don't know if I should try to talk to her about possibly taking our friendship further and trying to rekindle our past fling or if I should just play it off and wait for her to make the move or bring it up. The only hold up I have about this is that she is the type of girl that may or may not make the move and I don't want to risk not finding out if there could be more than what we have going on right now. I don't want to ruin our friendship but at the same time I don't want to have the regret of never knowing if there could've been something more.\n\nOh and some vital facts about us... I'm 23 and she's 22, we both are about to be done with school but we are from the same hometown so distance/moving away wouldn't be an issue. She has also hung out with my friends and I, gone out drinking and after the bars came back to my place to hang out one on one. No sex or anything that night but she did seem really interested in me at the time, I just don't know if it was because of the alcohol or if it's really how she feels.", "summary": "Girl I had a brief fling with a few years ago has been single for about a year. We flirt and talk all the time but I don't want to risk asking her out on an actual date and jeopardize our friendship if she says no."}
{"id": "t3_4afxhj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 6 months, just broke up, need advice", "post": "Things started out great, she saying she loves me, im her everything, can see a future with us blah blah all the good stuff. She has been acting differently the past 2 weeks and been distant towards me. She tells me that the relationship has hit a plateau and she doesn't see any growth. I tell her that it's because shes been acting different towards me and never calling me back like she says she would, she doesn't pick up the phone/text back and always acts bitchy towards me but really friendly towards everyone else, shes also rarely supportive of me, conversations are always about her..\n\n She doesn't even attempt to make things better and tells me that I never try to fix things even though I always have been, I have taken fault and fixed whatever it is she didn't feel comfortable with. I have been faithful and loyal since the start while she still contacts her Ex boyfriend.....She never listens to anything and will do whatever she wants regardless of how i feel, she tries to turn everything against me so I can feel bad/look like the bad guy and says that I'm attacking her but the problems of the relationship are with her.\n\nI have been there for her all the time when she needed me and I got treated like garbage, her behavior made me realize that I cared more about the relationship than her. Can I have some advice on how to get over relationships? It's my first one and honestly im not depressed im just really upset that I let myself get treated like this and thought I loved her.", "summary": "I am a fool, got treated like crap. Help me please."}
{"id": "t3_pdf8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My coworker is making a small annoying sound, what should I do?", "post": "In my office there's a coworker (call him John if you'd like) who sits near me and makes a small sucking sound with his lips somehow (I've been unable to properly replicate it). He does this every 2-5 seconds for long periods of time, and sometimes not at all for a few minutes (he's constantly inconsistent but keeps doing it) and can make the noise over 50 times an hour. I know this because it's so distracting to me that I counted, and lost track after 20 minutes nonstop. It seems like a it's a tic or something.\n\nI have never talked to this person as I thought he was initially sitting at the desk of a person who has not been at the desk since I've joined the company, since all the time people will sometimes borrow laptop stations for a quick charge, or people's chairs for nearby meeting rooms if they're empty. He kept sitting there and by the third day he had his own nameplate at the cube, so by then I had heard the noise and realized he was here to stay.\n\nIn order to combat the noise I have brought in earbuds to pop in and listen to music and such while he's around, but sometimes he gets loud enough that I can still hear him, or I have to turn my music up too high for my comfort. I don't know what the other coworkers in my area think of him but he has become my nemesis; he even told a friend he moved to this desk to \"escape the noise\" of his last area \u0ca0_\u0ca0\n\nSo, Reddit, I ask you this; what could I do to solve this dilemma, as I feel it is too trivial to tell HR about yet too annoying to live with. Yes this is very firstworldproblem.jpg but to help me feel better, any **serious or non-serious responses** are welcome. Don't even tell me if you're being serious if you'd like, make it fun that way.", "summary": "Coworker is making a noise that's affecting my sanity and productivity, help me feel better with helpful/goofy/mean proposals for a solution."}
{"id": "t3_4f2kmh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Discovered my trigger food!", "post": "And it wasn't sugar, it wasn't booze, and it wasn't chocolate! Surprisingly enough I can exert moderation while eating these things. Using MFP has been opening my eyes to my different food habits, but after 87 days of logging I thought I knew them all. Apparently I didn't. \n\nYesterday I had my first cheat day in over a week. My boyfriend likes to have people over for poker on Fridays and his roommate always makes cheese dip that tastes fantastic. I went over by 600 calories just from the cheese dip and tostitos.\n\nThen a week ago, I didn't have a cheat day but I my lunch essentially consisted of the craft services table. They had these great organic blue corn chips and hummus, which I ate up quickly before realizing I had just consumed my allotted lunch calories. Later that night I didn't want to eat a pizza, and the novelty of that moment overshadowed the previous one, so I forgot about it. I even wrote a post about it here. \n\nThen two weeks ago on easter sunday I went to my vegan friend's house and she brought out some nut cheese. I've been following a bunch of raw vegan instagrammers lately to marvel at the way they present their foods (spoiler: it's mostly fruit trays with the saturation up but it looks so cool and encourages me to eat more fruit) So I was excited about trying nut cheese for the first time. It tasted so fantastic, and I basically ate the whole jar with pita chips. That was my last big cheat day before yesterday.\n\nSo yeah my big trigger food? Chips! All kinds of chips! I'm completely surprised. I think they enable \"snacking mode\" in me and I start powering through without thinking. Another trigger food might also be cheese, but I already knew about my weakness for it. I had no idea about this chip thing. Who would have thought?\n\nI suppose the way to avoid this will be to actually *plan* my cheat days. Also does anyone have an alternative to chips? Come to think of it, perhaps I should also be wary of dips...", "summary": "It's chips because it enables me to snack."}
{"id": "t3_dc4nu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are you supposed to feel a connection on the first date?", "post": "I'm a 24 year old guy and very new to the whole dating scene (I was very shy growing up). I've gone on my first couple of dates in the last few weeks.\n\nThe first one was with a childhood friend of mine whom I hadn't seen in about 10 years. She was really cute and seemed moderately intelligent but the conversation still dragged with occasional awkward silence. We made plans to go out again but she ended up ignoring my calls.\n\nThe second date was about a week ago . This was a girl I met online. Physically, the girl wasn't really my type. Not that she was completely unattractive, she just seemed to be in a different kind of \"scene\". We met up for the cliche cup of coffee and actually had a fairly pleasant conversation. The thing is, I didn't really feel much of a connection. I always thought that on a first date, you were supposed to feel some sort of chemistry or does that usually come on later dates? Is it enough to moderately enjoy each other's company or should there be more to it on a first date?", "summary": "I went on my first couple of dates and didn't feel much of a connection with either of them but still had a decent conversation. Is this enough for a second date or is there supposed to be some sort of chemistry?"}
{"id": "t3_42z4ms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/26) am embarrassed my husband (m/27) is a P.I.", "post": "Its so hard for me to admit it to myself but I'm embarrassed that my husband (m/27) is a professional financial private investigator.\n\nWe live in Washington, DC and everyone here is very career and status conscious and everyone is an up and comming polito or lawyer or doctor or congressional aide. Among this pool of people, I feel embarrased that my husband is just a private investigator. Its a seedy, shady job that has no prestige.\n\nWhen we got together, he was fresh out of a great graduate program so I thought he'd join a much better profession.\n\nI feel bad about feeling embarrassed since he loves his job but here it is.", "summary": "embarrassed that my husband is a private investigator."}
{"id": "t3_4qjaj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [39 M] have been married to my wife [39 F] 18 years, had an affair, prone to crushes", "post": "I love my wife, we have two kids who I love dearly.  But its very hard for us to communicate well, we have very different ways of thinking about most things.  However, we do agree on most basic values and how to raise our kids, which is great.\n\nBut due to our communication differences, we dont talk deeply.  Now I am a guy who just reaaally wants a connection in that sense.  I also tend to bond easily with women.  And I get fairly serious crushes every 6 months or so.  They do not (usually) end up as affairs, but I end up putting a looot of my thoughts and attention on the woman who is my crush at the time.  \n\nBut last year, this happened with a woman who worked near me who happened to be breaking up with her husband.  It turned into a real affair, and I almost left/lost my marriage.  (But I called it off, admitted everything to my wife, made amends with my wife, and completely stopped seeing the woman, who remains angry at me for leaving her).\n\nI no longer see that woman, but the crushes continue, though in my current situation I do not give myself the opportunity to be alone with them.  I am not proud of the affair at all, I have changed my life around since then (quit drinking, work at home, etc)  but the feelings continue.   I crush like a teenager though Im about 40 :/  \n\nAnd lately I have started thinking about the woman from last year, and really wanting to message her, see her, etc. I know it is not a good idea, but I am amazed at how strong these feelings are.  \n\nIs something wrong with me?  Is this normal?  Am I hopelessly unsuited for marriage?  Why would I crush so much?  Do other married people experience this?", "summary": "My crushes (and past affair) are taking a lot of energy and hurting my marriage, Im not sure what to do with myself."}
{"id": "t3_3jok26", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You weren't there when I needed you", "post": "A month or so back my closest friend left for a long trip. He will be away for about 1 year. He was the only person I felt somewhat comfortable talking about some of my mental issues.\n\nI have gotten some \"real\" help from psychiatrists, psychologists, doctors, therapists and pretty much anyone who you talk about non-physical issues. So I have been talking about my issues to about 12 people in the past 8 or so months.\n\nI'm really tired of seeing a new person and explaining the same things again and again to them. There was no one I could really build trust with since they changed so quick.\n\nanyways...\n\nI knew last month was going to be difficult with my closest friend leaving, school starting and having to talk to someone new. Again.\n\nLuckily I have seen a nurse semi frequently for the last 6 months. I felt very comfortable with her. Until she told me she would be away for 2 weeks. Her vacation went right over my mentally stressful week. \n\nThat felt so wrong. I really want blame her for all the suffering that I went through that week. I had no one. Absolutely No one to talk to. I was alone.\n\nNow I saw her again. After not going to two previously planned appointments after her vacation. I just shut down. I couldn't do anything. Recharging my phone felt impossible so I missed bunch of calls from different people (mental health workers).\n\nI feel so angry towards her. I understand it's absolutely unreasonable for me to blame her for anything. I 100% understand it. But I just can't get rid of the feeling.\n\nOr maybe it's a little bit reasonable for me to be angry/upset towards her. However it would take too long to explain why that could be, if it is.", "summary": "Blaming my nurse for my absolutely horrible week."}
{"id": "t3_34lr1y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[NSFW] TIFU by taking a drink.", "post": "Like all good TIFUs, this happened about 10 years ago!  \n\nI was 16 and alone with my girlfriend... so of course, we were sexing. I had her bent over the computer desk she was about to be Niagara Falls... and all that was running through my mind was  \n\n*\"Shit! Not on the carpet!*  \n\nSo, I grab the first thing I see... a large soda cup from Wendys. By the time were done, the cup is full. We finish up and leave.   \n\nSome time later, I am playing a game on my computer and I'm feeling  a little parched... I reach for the first thing I see... A Wendys cup. Not paying attention *I take a drink* and immediately regret my decision. I swallow what I have in my mouth and put down the cup with a shudder.", "summary": "Made the girlfriend cum enough to fill up a Wendys up. Drank the cum later."}
{"id": "t3_2ksea4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33M] with my girl [33 F] 3 and half years together, had an argument about having a baby and now I'm lost.", "post": "two weeks ago we had an argument about having a baby where I tried to explain the discomfort for having one now although she had been asking for months. I think we are not good at communicating and we end up in fight every time we try to have a deep conversation.\n\nI tried to explain her that I was not comfortable with the way she was treating me and that it raised concerns about what would be our life with a kid. Told her she can be harsh and not very patient and I wanted to talk about it. \n\nShe took it on herself that I was calling her the worst mom of the earth and now I can't talk about it because it makes her feel more angry. She has a really strong nature and I can't seem to find a way for her to talk about it. It really has taken its roll on me because I feel guilty all the time of not doing her justice.\n\nShe told me I was not involved in our relationship and I was doing things for her only when we were having an argument. I can't seem to find the confidence to reassure her about this relationship.", "summary": "How can I show my girlfriend that feel betrayed that I want things to work between us?"}
{"id": "t3_1b29im", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Former Athlete Trying To Get Back In Shape.", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nI am not sure if I am in the proper subreddit as they have r/loseit and r/fitness; however, I am hoping you will be willing/able to help.\n\nI spent my whole life playing sports and have played at the highest level possible since I was 5-6 years old. I played ice hockey throughout high school and college, thus the gym became more of a work place/social scene, and it has always kept me in shape. \n\nI am a few years out of college now and have packed on extra weight that I am trying to lose. I still go to the gym (not nearly as hard as I used to) and play in the local adult hockey leagues; however, I am looking for a diet/workout routine that has proven itself effective for you personally. I am hoping to drop roughly 20-30 lbs as right now I am about 6'2\" and 225 lbs. Ideally, I would like to be around 200 lbs.\n\nAny assistance would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "former college athlete (male) trying to drop 20-30 lbs."}
{"id": "t3_1uhbco", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I cannot stand my girlfriend looking to reconciliate her friendship with his ex (which was her best friend for many years)", "post": "Me and my girlfriend has been together for almost 2 months now, and I cannot stand how she desperately tries to re gain her previous \"bff\" status with her ex (they were together as friends for years and only last more-less a year as a couple because she was focusing on graduating from HS and get in a nice University), I deeply think she still feels something for him and I've told her many times that if this is true then she should go back with him, nevertheless she keeps telling me that, as for now, I'm the best thing for her. I desperately don't want to look jealous or insecure, but I can't stand it, I love her soo much and I don't want to break up with her, I feel really good by her side and I seriously want to keep it like that, but I just don't want to lose her b/c she can't let go the previous friendship she had with her ex-boyfriend, I've told her this many times, that if he doesn't want to be friends again, then she should let it go, but she keeps telling me that it's too difficult for her, that she knows it's not right neither for her or for me, but she keeps doing it b/c she really want to be friends again with this guy.\n\nAll this being said, I seriously don't know what to do and taking the easy road (a.k.a breaking up) isn't one of the things I can't do or deal with in this moment, I seriously need help on this.", "summary": "GF tries to regain friendship of year old BF, he says no, she keeps insisting, I feel jealous and 'am paranoid about she going back with him even though she tells me she loves me and I'm the best for her, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_ljiq7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I help her and her uncertainty about a relationship?", "post": "Update from this post [post](\n\nSo I was going to ask her on a date, but when I asked if she had any plans later tonight, she said she promised this guy she would hang out with him. This guy is someone she is 'really very unsure' how she feels about him. So we talk about it more, and it turns out she isn't sure how she feels about anyone romantically. \n\nBasically she feels she's too busy for a relationship, she isn't sure about the guys she thinks she likes, and a lot of guys who want her are close enough to her that she doesn't want to hurt their feelings. \nI tell her that I've been going through a bit of the same thing; I'm really starting to care about her, and I don't want to see her go through this emotional shitstorm. \n\nI ask if I'm one of the guys she might have feelings for, and she responds with \"Yes kinda, you are one of the guys I think I might care for.\" I tell her I feel the same about her, and she that makes her feel better.\n\nI'm not sure what to do at this point - her date with the other guy is tomorrow, but she says that they will most likely stay friends. I definitely don't want to push my feelings or a relationship on her, but I still want to do something to help her. Suggestions?", "summary": "How can I help her and her uncertainty about a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_53m5zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [20F] I've [20M] been seeing just got out of another relationship, is this too soon?", "post": "Last year I took a class with Sam. We had a mutual friend in the class so we were acquainted and sat near each other, and while I thought she was cute, my friend told me she had a boyfriend so that was that.\n\nI hadn't dated in a while after a pretty arduous breakup last year, so I decided to get back into it this summer through Tinder. I matched with Sam, and we started chatting. When we met up for a date, she told me she was still with her boyfriend but he was away for work for 8 months and they had been doing an open relationship since he had left 4 months before. After that we didn't meet up for a few weeks, and then I saw her at school when classes started again (we're in the same program). We ended up getting lunch one day and studying another, and then this weekend I asked her to come to my house to make dinner and watch a movie. It was the most comfortable date I've had since my ex girlfriend. \n\nShe ended up telling me that she and her boyfriend had been growing apart for a couple months prior due to distance and lack of communication, and that she ended it with him a week ago. She told me she's felt like the breakup needed to happen for at least 6 weeks, but she only mustered up the courage more recently.\n\nShe didn't say anything about what she's looking for or expecting from our relationship, but I really feel something with her. She's genuine, and obviously attractive, and I get a feeling that it's not one sided and that she's interested in a relationship with me but I'm scared it hasn't been enough time or that I'm just a rebound.\n\nI want a real relationship with her, but should I assume this is casual? I don't want to rush her and start pressing her for details about our situation, especially since we've only been talking for about a month.", "summary": "New girl I've been seeing broke up with her long distance ex boyfriend a week ago. I want a relationship but I don't want to assume that she's ready or even looking for that, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nef21", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/M] and I have been developing feelings for [27/F] over a couple months, what should I do?", "post": "I've made a thread before about this same woman a while ago. She has children and I REALLY want something more than friendship between her and I. She's absolutely incredible in every aspect of the word. The other night I went over to her house to help her with homework (seriously, that's what we did) and after a while we just started chatting and I eventually positioned myself behind her (we were sitting on the floor) and gave her a lengthy massage. After a while she laid down, we continued to talk some more and I eventually continued the massage onto the rest of her back. \n\nShe eventually fell asleep for a few minutes, awoke and decided to go to bed so we said our goodbyes, hugged, and I went home. A day and a half went by of normal conversation upto yesterday when I told her I hoped she didn't think I was coming on to her too strong the other night. She replied saying she didn't think I was coming on to her at all. I texted her saying oh okay and soon after told her I didn't want to do anything to ruin my chance of getting to know her more. She didn't reply to that specific message but rather after an unrelated text I sent later on. \n\nLater that night I asked if she was going to church today and she said yes. I then asked if I could join and the response was \"No Problem =)\". So after some normal chatting this morning rolled around and I woke up, showered, shaved and got ready. Said good morning to her and she responded a few minutes later saying she probably wasn't going to church as she hadn't slept well. that was the last text she sent me (11 hours ago) after I had sent random messages about various topics. I'm nervous I have screwed this up... I keep telling myself to be patient but how hard is it to reply to a text message on a Sunday? I would hate myself even more if I fucked this up and am just looking for advice/motivation/anything to help me out.", "summary": "Can I make this relationship work with an older woman with children?"}
{"id": "t3_perqh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm engaged and unhappy with my sex life... I need help!", "post": "My fiancee and I have been together for 6 years, and for the most part I've been pretty satisfied.  We've lived together for a while and have no children.  We're both in our mid 20's.\n\nAs per the usual relationship (or so I'm told), our sex graph is on the decline. We're down to having sex 1-2 nights a week.  I've tried everything - massages, foreplay, vibrators/toys/wedges, romance; most nights she claims the headache or tired excuse.  Our relationship otherwise is solid - and I'm as positive as I can be that she does enjoy sex with me.  I've verified that through her close friends as well as the large puddle she leaves on the bed when we're done (sorry to be graphic, but hell that is the equivalent of a children's bedtime story compared to some of the things I've seen on here... ::shudder::)\n\nIn her defense, she's recently started a new job which is taking a lot out of her.  I do everything I can to help - I cook 5-6 nights a week and do more than my share around the house.  Problem is, I'm bored and unhappy with our sex life.  I prefer to be a bit more adventurous, which she used to be, but anymore it seems the sex has to be quick and convenient.  So it's always in bed, right before we go to sleep, and one of a few positions.  I recognize she's tired through the week but even if I try Sunday (she's off weekends) for a little afternoon delight I'm still getting shot down.\n\nI've tried talking to her about it and I've tried just not making a big deal about it.  Neither helps.\n\nBottom line - I'm becoming tempted to cheat (which is not like me), and I'm beginning to have my doubts about marrying her.  I love her and I am ready to spend the rest of my life with her, except for this one issue.  I'm worried that if we do get married it will crash and burn because of my frustration turning to spite, or that I will become unfaithful.\n\nAny insight, tips, and jokes on my behalf are welcome.", "summary": "Me likey sex, she no likey sex, hands are becoming calloused."}
{"id": "t3_1nu9fa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What happened to art?", "post": "Remember when snorting colors and then crying them onto a canvas was considered stupid and insane? Today I learned that we now call that \"art\". What was wrong with using a brush to create a beautiful portrait or landscape? Since when did ingesting large amounts of chemicals into our bodies and regurgitating colored dyes onto a medium become our way of expressing ourselves?\n\nWhy is painting a large 10'x10' canvas all black with a single colored line going straight down near the edge worthy of hanging in an \"art\" gallery?\n\nWhy do we have to make up false meanings or emotions behind pieces for them to be considered art?\n\nWe've gone from large, colorful and detailed works to shoving 10 oars through an old refrigerator and slapping a priceless sticker on it.", "summary": "People are dumb. (don't take this too seriously kiddies, you might hurt yourselves)"}
{"id": "t3_4kglp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my _boyfriend__ [20 M] 2 years, my dependency on him", "post": "I have an issue that I'm afraid to tell anyone about and admit to them but I have no idea how to help myself. I'm really big on trying to deal with it myself before looking elsewhere.\n\nI have been with my boyfriend for two years and we have lived together for the majority of the relationship (knew each other before hand for years). Our problem was financials and he wasn't working and I couldn't support him any longer so he was forced to go back to his previous living situation. At the same time I'm also going through a falling out with 3 of my close friends because of a stupid argument. (Their choice not mine). \n\nThe issue I have is that I am too dependent on my boyfriend. When he is not here I feel lost, anxious and depressed. When I see him and he leaves I cry every time and it feels like someone is ripping my heart out. \n\nHe doesn't have a job, so he pretty much just plays video games all day so when he doesn't answer my texts for 3 hours and doesn't get up until 1 in the afternoon I find myself super irritated and its usually just because he's not there for me. \n\nIt's not like I don't have a life. I work 3 jobs and I rarely have a day off. When I'm not working I'm usually doing some kind of errand or cleaning that needs to get done. Or school work. \n\nIf I don't see him once a week at least I get anxious and depressed and utterly lonely and I jump to conclusions about him not loving me anymore because of our entire situation. I know he's really trying to help me and make this thing work between us but I can't stop these feelings and they are getting in the way of my life. I'm afraid I'm going to lose him because of it. I love him but I just can't deal with it. I basically rely on him and no amount of activity that I do changes that.\n\nAnyone have any advice? It would be really great to hear from someone.", "summary": "I'm too dependent on my boyfriend despite being super busy and involved in life and I need advice on how to get past this."}
{"id": "t3_1q2xmu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling the cops at work", "post": "I work at this Deli Shop and its my second week working.  So, There I was, slicing all kinds of meat using the slicer.  I was already doing some minor fuck ups through out the day but the major one was when I was slicing.  The security alarm control is right next to the slicer up against the wall and on there is a button to call the cops.  Well, to clean the slicer, I have to move it and its right next to the alarm.  I must have bumped the button while I was cleaning it or working the slicer because 2 cops showed up all pissed off that it was a false alarm and now the store could be fined.  OutFuckingStanding.", "summary": "I fucked up by accidentally pressing the silent alarm to call the cops while working the slicer and now the store could be fined for a false alarm."}
{"id": "t3_17gdzi", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I just got this horrifying e-mail from my boyfriend. A baby is now dead. How to explain to his kids?", "post": ">thepokeduck,\n\n>Maybe you have some idea how to do this. I just called my former wife\nto find out how she's doing and she told me that something very\nupsetting had happened just a couple of days ago. She is wondering how\nto explain it to the girls. A friend of hers was having a fight with\nher husband late at night. It was very very cold in [redacted] that\nnight. Her friend decided to go to her mother's house for the night\nand she left her 8 month old baby at home with her husband. When she\ncame back the next day, the baby was dead and her husband was\narrested. He had smothered the baby with a pillow. (To top it off, now\nsome other friends were making comments like \"that's a decision she's\ngoing to regret for the rest of her life\", as if the poor woman could\nguess that her husband might do a crazy thing like that.)\n\n>So, aside from my being totally horrified at child-killers out there,\nwe have a problem. Our girls knew the family and knew the baby. How\nshould my former wife proceed to tell them that they won't be seeing\nthe baby around anymore???\n\n>XX\n\n>[thepokeduck's boyfriend]\n\nBackground information: My boyfriend's former wife lives on the east coast, and he and I live on the west coast. His former wife wants advice on how to talk to their children (5, and 10 y/o) about what happened. I'm usually pretty good about giving emotional support, but in this case I have no idea how to advise him.", "summary": "Advice for parents on talking about murdered babies to their children?"}
{"id": "t3_1qpky3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(MO) My ex-roommate owes me over 2 months in back rent. I'm getting worried he won't pay up.", "post": "I rented a room in my house to a friend through an oral agreement back in August. He ended up meeting a girl and living with her in that room without notifying me. Now we are almost at the end of the year and all his empty promises to pay me my money have been an echo of what I think will happen with these last two months he owes me. He moved out on Wednesday on his own accord. I did say I was going to evict him for the 2 months of rent he owed me a couple of weeks before which sped up the process of the move out. We agreed to have a promissory drawn and signed by a notary for the money he owes me. I didn't have the Promissory Note ready when he moved out but I do have some text messages where he agrees to meet me today, Friday, to sign the note. Now he states he won't be able to meet me until Monday. I've tried time and time again to get this note sign and have evidence of non-compliance. If he refuses to sign my note what steps can be taken so that I can come close to getting my money or at least making sure he doesn't do this to someone else.", "summary": "Roommate started renting in July 2013, broke oral agreement to pay rent each month. Owes me two months rent, having trouble getting a promissory note signed. "}
{"id": "t3_32qdnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] met a nice girl [20 F] ..how do I find out what she really wants?", "post": "So I [21 M] met this girl [20 F] on tinder (yes get the laughs out) but this one is actually has some character and I actually care about screwing this one up. \n\nI've never connected with someone so well on this app so its a little weird, usually when just flirting like I do more with other girls it's easier to tell but I can't with her. \n\nAnyway I was just going to ask her.. what shes searching for, friendship, hookups, something more?  Is that too blunt? \n\nI want to ask her that because I'd like to meet her in person, but wouldn't want to have the wrong idea in mind if we do meet ya know?", "summary": "is asking a girl what shes looking for when you haven't known each other for long invasive?"}
{"id": "t3_43zymf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[DE] Question regarding wage/labor law and the limitations of tipped employees", "post": "Good morning, folks, quick question, I hope.  I've tried, but I can't find the answer myself.  I was always under the impression hat tipped employees, specifically those whose base income in sub-minimum wage, were restricted from certain duties due to the low pay, as those activities are not related to the job and thus the employee would not receive tips based on those duties.  One of those duties was hazmat cleanup.\n\nI was under the impression that wait staff could not, or were not permitted to, clean human hazmat like bodily fluids (blood, effluvium, vomit, fecal matter, etc).  I had a friend send me some of the OSHA guidelines, but they mostly detail precautions and procedures for proper cleanup, training, etc. and say nothing in the way of the legal requirements.  Can anyone weigh in on this, and any other limitations of tipped employees?", "summary": "Can tipped employees be made to clean vomit, human waste, blood, etc while earning below minimum wage?"}
{"id": "t3_1ujql6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I (M,27) broke up with my GF (32) this morning. Was I right in doing so?", "post": "I have been seeing \"A\" since August of this year. She is great but things moved super fast, which in the beginning was great because I travel for work and it felt secure. About two months ago she started getting VERY jealous, despite me never even talking with other girls. She even wouldn't speak to me for a day because I said yes to a FB friend request from a platonic acquaintance who lived out of state. Then \"A\" asked if I was still friends with my exes (years in the past) on Facebook, which I am... Huge fight (evidently I'm supposed to hate them.) She got mad at me for wanting to go to one of my ex gf's wedding this summer, as she is marrying a good friend of mine and it's ancient history.\n\nThis came to a head this weekend when I didn't hang out with her yesterday because I was brewing beer at my house, which I invited her over for but she refused. I had also spent Friday night hanging out with my friends before I went to her house for the night, I invited her for that also and she refused. She wouldn't speak to me yesterday when I came over after brewing except to say she had taken 3 lorazepam to take her anxiety away. \n\nThis morning, after contemplating all night and a bitter morning from her, I told her I had to break it off. I packed my stuff from her house and went home. \n\nDid I act irrationally or was I correct to get out of what I view as a controlling relationship? I'm a litte tender still so if you have a typical reddit witty remark, please refrain from posting.", "summary": "Am I escaping a bad relationship, or running from a good one."}
{"id": "t3_f8b6y", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I travel to Par\u00eds, what can I do there?", "post": "In two weeks I'll be in Paris and I'll stay there from friday to monday, I'll be staying near the subway station of port du versailles. This is the third time I go there to compete in the Open International de Paris of Inline Figure Skating.\n\nBut this is the first time I go as an adult.\n\nI have to practice saturday morning and compete sunday morning too, and maybe I'll stay there to see all the competition, so I probably finish at 5pm.\n\nWhat do you suggest me to do in my free time? Friday's night, saturday's evening and night and sunday night.\n\nProbably I'll go out some day with a german girl who go there also for the competition.\n\nI look for something to do, but my idea is to see places (no just museums or things like that), without spending too much money.\n\nIf there are any parisian redditor, or anybody who can tell me something, I'll be grateful.\n\nI'm a guy who love sports, magic and probably I'll have no car.\n\nAlso talk me about the weather so I chose clothes appropriately.\n\nLast times I went I walked for old streets at nigth and I like it, I went to Monmatre and I wachted the Champs-\u00c9lys\u00e9es and the Eiffel Tower ( I have no problem with repeat this things but I was looking for something new).", "summary": "I'll be in Paris for 3 days, what can I do without spending a lot of money?"}
{"id": "t3_2swv68", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kicking sand.", "post": "Today at the beach, my friend and I decided to make a sand castle that had four towers surrounding a giant tower in the middle. To retain the shape and height of the main tower in the middle, we packed in the sand extremely hard. 2 hours later when we were leaving, I wanted to destroy everything so nobody would be able to touch our tower and somehow with a lack of common sense.. decided that punting the sand was the best idea. I backed up a few feet and with a running start, I punted that thing as hard as I could. For those who have not attempted to kick a mound of packed sand because you have common sense, it was like kicking a fucking brick wall. I thought my ankle broke as the pain was so immense and I couldn't walk for the next few hours but I think I just bruised it. There's no dark purple spot and I seem to be walking fine by now but bending my foot forward still feels really stiff and painful.", "summary": "Kicked a mound of packed sand and destroyed ankle."}
{"id": "t3_3atgm9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my partner [19F] for 10 months. She get's irritated and has mood swings regularly. How can I handle this better?", "post": "About 10 months ago I met my girlfriend, something I would describe as the best thing to happen to me in my adult life. We instantly clicked and were pretty much inseparable from the first day. After a month of dating we both decided we wanted to enter a relationship, everything went smooth. Sure, we had some minor arguments but nothing serious, we solved whatever was bothering us the same day and went asleep together.\n\nFast forward 6 months. I started to notice my girlfriend tends to get irritated with me and has a lot of mood swings. Sometimes I know why, sometimes I don't. When she get's upset she will often not answer when I ask her something, won't let me hug or even touch her, and regularly sleeps on the couch when she gets irritated. \n\nI often feel like she treats me unjust. Sometimes she get angered at me cause she thinks some other girl is one my mind. When this happens she'll often accuse me of thinking this girl is so pretty, how much her and I will talk when my GF is not around et.c et.c. I do think part of the problem is me, I will let go of my feelings of being hurt just so we can end whatever it is as soon as possible cause when it's not fights, our relationship is wonderful and she's very sweet and caring.\n\nThis is my first ever Reddit post and English is not my native language so sorry for grammar errors. Feel free to ask any questions", "summary": "My girlfriends mood swings leaves me feeling unjustly treated and I need help to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_48vdrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 7 months. Nervous to meet family", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI need some advice, please! My boyfriend and I met at college, and we are very happy together. We are both on the same page of wanting a long term relationship, and we really are best friends. It's my first serious relationship and I'm extremely content with how things are going.\n\nThis week is our spring break, and I am going to go see him in a different state in about a week or so. I am nervous because this is the first time I will have to meet his family in such intensity. Sleeping in his house, and the possibility of having to go to a birthday party for his uncle is nerve-wracking to me. I have already met his mother, and she seems to have taken a liking to me, and has told him that she does like me. However, his grandmother is very against relationships. He concluded that this is because we are away at school and they cannot \"moderate\" the relationship as they may have if this was a relationship in high school.\n\nI am quite different than my boyfriends' previous partners- this may be what is worrying me so much. I have short hair, I am probably different than what they are used to in general. However I don't believe this will be as problematic as I am imagining it in my head and I am probably just overthinking.\n\nMy question is how to calm my nerves about meeting his family, particularly his grandmother? I've never been in this position before- where the feeling she takes to me can last years possibly, and eventually cause tension. I like to think that I am a likeable person, who has interesting aspects of their personality and is not someone who is an \"acquired taste,\" although I may be different in appearance from his past partners, and am more outspoken in my personality. (I am a bit of an extrovert when I'm meeting new people, but am mostly introverted.)\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Meeting boyfriends' family, mostly nervous about the opinion of the grandmother. Need advice about how to overcome my fear."}
{"id": "t3_4fhllt", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Update: [GA] Hit by a driver who ran a red light. They are claiming they had the green. No witnesses. Am I screwed?", "post": "Original post:   \n\nI know legaladvice loves updates so I wanted to provide one, though it's not very exciting. I appreciate everyone who took the time to comment on the original post to let me know what to expect from insurance and from court. Given the lack of evidence, the insurance companies decided that liability is split 50%/50%, meaning I'm out my deductible, but it won't affect my rates, as I'm not 51%+ at fault.  \n\nI went to court yesterday concerning the citation I was issued after the collision. (As a reminder, both me and the other driver were cited, as we gave conflicting stories about who had the green with no witnesses.) I spoke to several lawyers before, and was advised that typically in this kind of case, the prosecutor will ask if we both want to exercise our 5th amendment rights, and if we both agree, they dismiss the ticket. That is exactly what happened and I was able to save money by not retaining a lawyer.   \n\nI have also purchased a dash cam for my new car, so that I will be in a better place if this happens to me again. On the plus side, I really like my new car!", "summary": "Only screwed in that I had to spend my deductible. No impact to insurance rates - citation dismissed. Buy a dash cam!"}
{"id": "t3_1gws65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) boyfriend (23m) of 5.5 years never came home last night. Do I have a right to be mad?", "post": "My boyfriend (who i've lived with for 4 years) went out Friday night partying and crashed at a friends house, no problem I knew what his plan were no need to worry. When I saw him the next morning he said I would see him that night and we would hang out. \n\nHowever once we both got home from work that night (Saturday) he decided he was going over to his buddies house again for \"a couple of hours\" he left at 6:30pm and didn't come home until 5:30am, because he decided to get wasted again.\n\nNo call, no text, nothing. I knew he was probably ok but that doesn't keep me from thinking bad things could happen, when he gave me a timeframe that he totally did not meet. I am over-reacting by being pissed that he didn't have the decency to let me know plans had changed and not to wait up?", "summary": "my boyfriend told me he would be home in a couple of hours and then didn't come home until the next morning, with zero communication that plans had changed I got worried and couldn't sleep well. An I wrong in being upset with him?"}
{"id": "t3_1mqdgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) broke up with live-in bf (20M) of over two years a few weeks ago.. I think I want to get back together", "post": "Okay so a few weeks ago I (20F) broke up with my live-in boyfriend (20M) because I felt like I was putting in too much & not getting enough out..\n\nI got my own place, just renting a room from someone, & we started chatting again a few days ago and went for lunch & hung out together today - I'm 99% sure I want to get back together. He's made a lot of changes, the majority of them involving problems I'd had that I brought up. So, obviously the best idea isn't to move back in with him right away, so how would I go about suggesting this & taking it slow? I love that I still feel really comfortable around him & I feel like I can be myself, & that the time apart was really all I needed.\n\nAny suggestions or advice? :)", "summary": "I (20F) broke up with live-in boyfriend (20M) of over two years. Now that we've had time apart and I've had time to myself, I think I've decided I want to get back together with him, but am unsure how to go about doing so. Thanks in advance :)"}
{"id": "t3_4vl1y3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 F] don't know how to explain to my boyfriend [29 M] that oral sex is kinda critical to me in a relationship [NSFW!]", "post": "-Edit- I keep myself neat, tidy and I'm a small size 6 (sometimes 4). I'm fit and I put effort into how I look as well as my hygiene. Attracting guys isn't an issue for me so I don't think that's an issue... -End edit-\n\nBeen dating for a few weeks, recently started sleeping together. Told him off the bat that oral is pretty much a deal breaker (I am female after all) however he has still not taken initiative the past few times we've slept together to go down south. I have told him I'm not in the mood to sleep with him, because honestly - who is when their partner doesn't want to engage in oral sex with you and you also have to ask for it each time... Even after explaining that for you it's something that you've never had to ask for and going forward it's something you really enjoy and want to make a part of your routine... Honestly!\n\nWhat do I do? Do I give up on him and find someone else? He has many other great qualities so I'm a bit undecided, but my sexual attraction to him is going on holidays indefinitely.", "summary": "My bf doesn't understand how important oral sex (foreplay) is to me and I don't know whether I should stick around/how to explain it to him in 'man speak'."}
{"id": "t3_11lnek", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your top \"revenge is best served cold\" story you know?", "post": "My ex left me for another guy, we'll call the guy Dave. We've been dating for 2.5 years and all of a sudden she ups and leaves.\n\nCouple of my friends knew this guy was cheating; they had some wild pictures of Dave at a recent... rave with some other girl.\n\nMy friends initially wanted to spread it around campus but I told them to leave it and not to mention a soul.\n\nA few months later, other rumors float around campus about Dave cheating on her and my ex hears about this. Someone also told her that I knew for a while he was cheating on her.\n\nShe approaches me and says how she's so sorry about hurting me and she asks me \"why didn't you tell me about Dave?\"\n\nI responded \"But I didn't care\"\n\nAnd I walked away. \n\nThe look on her face when those words escaped my mouth, was priceless. I will never forget it!", "summary": "Ex was a whore, surprise surprise"}
{"id": "t3_fp3ot", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Advice: How do I start a charity?", "post": "A little back story for you:  My friends and I had an argument about various events to raise money for charity.  Ones that I took issue with were the ones that make a big spectacle about it, costs thousands to organize and run and raises money through pledges and donations.  The one in particular that sparked the debate was an all night dance marathon that had all kinds of activities and games set up for the participants.  My argument was that why do we have a need for such an event that costs money to have, why can't participants just raise money and be done with it?  The point of view of my friends was that some people don't have money to donate, and in turn invest there time to show their support, like the all night dance marathon.  I didn't agree with that, pointing out these people should spend the time they want to commit to the charity by working to raise money or help people, rather than going to a party and playing games with friends.  I donate money to the causes that I am committed to, but do not spend much time working for these charities or my community, and was given criticism because these marathon dancers were investing their time.  So I want to start something in my area where people who don't have money to donate can instead invest there time in better ways than marathon dances.", "summary": "on that part: argument with friends gave me the idea to find better ways people can invest time to a charity rather than marathon dance sessions."}
{"id": "t3_4su56y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (26/f) boyfriend (26/m) is not supportive of me or am I being unreasonable?", "post": "I'm half way through a teaching program which I started in Georgia. My boyfriend and I were long distance for a year before I decided to take a year off and work full time at a preschool in New York to be with him while he finished his degree. I've known my boyfriend since middle school and he has lived in the same city his whole life (in the same house with his parents until we moved in together).\n\nWe always planned to go back to Atlanta. Now that it is time to make the move my boyfriend does not want to go. He is encouraging me to go to school in New York where I would not have in state tuition  and would have to essentially start all over (it's not even guaranteed that I would get in and would have to wait until May to start the program). He is telling me I'm not a partner by wanting to go back and make him move. The way I see it, I was supportive of him and thought he would do the same for me. I thought I was being a good partner by dropping my life (stupid, I know) and I've been working a minimum wage job at the preschool and still split every cost with him 50/50 even though he makes considerably more than me. I feel like it's unfair he expects me to jump through all these hoops (transferring schools, commuting an hour each way to get the the school, paying more, not guaranteed admission when school in Georgia is guaranteed and already partially completed).\n\nEvery time I try to bring up the move he gets defensive and doesn't want to commit. I'm leaving in a few weeks with or without him but I want to still try to encourage him to broaden his horizons and also support me. Is this salvageable? Am I asking too much? I know he doesn't like change but it seems like he is only \"partner\" when it is convenient for him and I want to try to communicate this to him without getting upset myself. He tells me I'm selfish and immature but I'm starting to think it may be the other way around.", "summary": "moved up to New York to support my boyfriend and not be long distance. Always agreed that we would move back to Georgia so I could finish school. Boyfriend wants me to jump through unnecessary hoops to get into school up there so he would not have to move. Will not give me a concrete answer and school starts in August. How do I communicate to him (in a nice way) that he needs to give me an answer? Should I even bother?"}
{"id": "t3_3fuch8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing flip flops to walmart.", "post": "It never occurred to me that I shouldn't wear flip flops in walmart, and now just in public. I just finished my meal and was ready to bust after driving for 5 hours straight. \n\nThe parking lot was packed and I had to park way back by all the rvs, just another day at walmart I guess. I made my way past the human fences and into the bustling bathroom. I found myself a spot at the urinal, started to wiz, and felt my piss splash back on my toes, and I didn't just feel my piss.... I felt both my neighbors as well.", "summary": "for the sake of your health, don't wear open toe shoes in a public bathroom."}
{"id": "t3_sbiyu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Want to win a past flame back, does the \"epic declaration of love\" speech work in real life?", "post": "Set up: I'm sick in love with a girl I dated a few years ago. We never really broke up, I graduated and moved, she began traveling for a few months. It just sort of stopped, with no hard feelings. Now we're in the same city, both unattached, and see each other often, in social settings.\n\nThe problem is, I can never seem to get her alone anymore, and don't really feel any interest from her at all. She's always been hard to read, and we never really spoke about how we ended, so my thought is I just need to lay my feelings bare in an \"epic declaration of love speech\" in one of the few times I can talk one-on-one. But, you know, fear of rejection, fear of ruining one of the few moments we have together, etc. Any stories of these working in real life?\n\nI basically want to say exactly what [Louis CK says to Pamela](", "summary": "> in love with ex and think I could have a shot. Is the big \"I love you\" speech corny or convincing?"}
{"id": "t3_3zu2iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am insecure and cannot take compliments, would like some advice on how to regain confidence and self-esteem.", "post": "I have been hanging out with someone for a year. We are the same age, and we both think it is too early in our life to be in a committed relationship, we never know what opportunities might come up and don't want relationship to be a constraint, so we agreed to remain our single status (i.e. appear like we are just acquaintances among friends). He introduced me to his family soon after we started hanging out. He has been the only one that I've been seeing and as far as I know I am the only one he is seeing too. \n\nHowever, as the \"relationship\" progress, I see some insecurities in myself. Although I believe that I should never prevent him from seeing someone better, I fear that he would no longer like me and go for someone else. It might sound like a contradiction, but that's how I feel. I don't know of any evidence to support my fear, it's just always there, in the back of my mind.\n\nHe compliments me quite often, but I am not sure if he really mean it or just saying nice things to make me feel good. I would feel offended if the latter is the case, I don't need fake compliments to feel better; I would rather hear honest opinions.\n\nSometimes I get nervous, jealous and angry (I don't even know why!) when I see him walking/talking with other girls, I am afraid that this is gonna drive him away eventually, but I don't know how to stop. \n\nBeside this relationship, I just don't feel good about myself. I have shitty GPA, and I don't look pretty. I sometimes imagine how people would talk behind my back about why they hate me. My lack of confidence has caused me to say \"no\" to a lot of opportunities before even trying, and seeing my peers thrive with those opportunities only reinforced the idea that I suck. Maybe I really suck, and shouldn't be so ambitious.\n\nI went to my school's counselor, but my counselor only told me how to control myself when I feel extremely insecure, while I would like find the root of my problem. I really wish to know how to stop these insecure thoughts and become more confident.", "summary": "I am very insecure. Lack of confidence makes me suffer in a romantic relationship as well as in school. I am unhappy about myself. Would like to break the cycle but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_1nwc6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my SO [21 F] 2 years- Just had a fight over a hypothetical question, might be single...", "post": "Me and my SO have been together for a few years now, and we've known each other longer then that. about a year or so back after watching a movie, she brought up the topic of being in a threesome, stating if she was okay with it would I be okay with it.\n\nfoolishly, i said yes. Honestly I could care less one way or the other but she made it seem like it was something that would turn her on, etc. Anyways, we have a fight about it, come to a conclusion, then its over. Fastforward to earlier this year, and after another movie she brings up this conversation and once again we get into the same fight.\n\nNow she has brought it up a third time after having a dream where I cheat on her. She continuously asks why I think it's okay to touch another girl, I respond that in this hypothetical situation she would be turned on by it so why would it be a problem, to which she replies that I am dodging the question. I've continously responded and tied to talk about it with her but every response is marked as invalid for one reason or another.\n\nSo she threatens me that I better answer or else its over, I answer and she says its over.... Idk what to do, I understand it upset her, Im trying to make it right but at the same time we've had this conversation before and to top it off it's 3am and I've been working on an assingment thats due tomorrow while she's now probably comfortably asleep....", "summary": "SO and I fought over a hypothetical situation that has come up before, she didnt accept any of my answers and apparently left me because of it, or is at least not returning any calls."}
{"id": "t3_2pj692", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Gave a girl I crush on a blunt today", "post": "There's this girl who works next door to me.\n\nShe's always super nice to me and used to draw hearts on my coffee and gives me a free drink sometimes when she can and I give her free yogurt whenever. Then I had only been friendly to her as I had a girlfriend whom I'm apart from today. \nOne night when I had come in to grab a bar of chocolate a co worker of hers asked what it was for (since i work in frozen yogurt) to which I honestly replied.\n\nFrom then on all was same and friendly apart from the hearts on my coffee which I miss.\n\nToday I had gone in for a drink when she asked me if she could get some yogurt later and told me she was having the worst week of her life.\n\nLater on she came in friendly as usual and I asked about her week.\n\nShe told me how her uncle had passed away and that she might be thrown out out of her house soon nearly in tears.\n\nI did my best to empathize with her and offered my friendship to which she thanked me leaving her feelings to my offer unsaid.\n\nBefore she left I asked her if she smoked weed and she said \"absolutely\"\n\nRight out of my pocket I grabbed my personal swisher box and handed it to her.\n\nShe looked at the box confused and tried to hand it back to which I explained to her of my blunt in there and that she could have it since she seemed to need it more than me.\n\nShe thanked me and told me I was nice then went on her way.\n\nAnyway, that's a story of mine on my mind. I direly hope I didn't creep her out or anything.", "summary": "I gave a girl I have a crush on a blunt and hope I didn't creep her out."}
{"id": "t3_1mu8u7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Who does this and why?", "post": "I [28m] meet this woman [24f] Tuesday. We make plans for Thursday, but talk all of Tuesday and decide to have dinner that night. We hit it off, have dinner, talk all night.\n\nWe text all of Wednesday, text all night, flirting, laughing, you know. Thursday we're still supposed to go out, but before I get off work she says she has to cancel for what seemed like a legitimate reason. We still text all night Thursday, again flirting and she says she has plans Friday and Saturday, but we could get together Sunday. I agree, but by the end of the night she says she'll also come over Friday after her plans are done. Great!\n\nFriday...silence.\n\nText her at noon. Nothing.\n\nText her at 4. Nothing.\n\nText her at 11. Nothing.\n\nWhat the fuck? I'm taking it as a hint she doesn't want to see me again, but who does that? Everything goes from flirting, having fun, making all these plans to cutting me off in the span of 12 hours? I don't understand. Thursday night texting ended great, we were both really excited to see each other again.\n\nTo make it even worse, this was my first date after my long term ex broke up with me about 3 months ago. So...great.", "summary": "from great first date to silence in less than a day."}
{"id": "t3_27px5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] girlfriend [22 F] -- Why is it that when we fight she just wants to be left alone when I want to talk?", "post": "If she's pissed off at something I've done or haven't done then she goes silent and ignores me, she'll do that for about 24 hours after which I'll eventually plead her to stop and apologise even if it's something I **know** I was right about. Why is it that I'm always the opposite?\n\nWhy is it that when either of us are pissed off I want to talk it out and discuss the problems in order to find a solution? Is this not the logical thing to do? When you're angry there's no fucking point in bottling it up and ignoring the other person, what the fuck is that going to solve?! Can someone explain this to me? Is it a maturity issue and if so is this common for girls her age? I'm trying to look for a rational reason why she'd want to do this!", "summary": "Girlfriend goes silent and ignores me when she's annoyed whereas I want to talk it out. Why does she do this? What does it solve?"}
{"id": "t3_3q3mg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] seem to get easily upset with my BF [30M] over little things when we're out in public and want to stop.", "post": "As the title says, I easily get upset with my boyfriend of 3 years over little things that he does in public that I see as immature (i.e. making weird comments, saying things for shock value to strangers). We just moved in together about 3 months ago and that's really when I started to get easily annoyed with things that he did or said in public that I called him out on. It's gotten to the point where he says that my calling him out on little things makes him feel incompetent and like I'm treating him like a child. I don't ever want to make him feel like he's not smart enough or good enough but for some reason I snap at him for little things. I want to stop doing this but I don't know how. I love him with all my heart and don't want to ever hurt his feelings. I'm worried though that my nagging him about little things in public could end our relationship. It might also help to know that I'm very much an introvert and shy/awkward and he's an extrovert and easy to talk to.", "summary": "I easily get upset with my BF over little things in public and want to stop and am worried it could end our relationship if I don't stop."}
{"id": "t3_1t1zro", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] Thinking of breaking up with her [18/f].", "post": "So I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 months. At this point in my life I am pretty bored with this relationship and it keeps taking up more and more of my time and money. The only thing that is keeping me from being single is that I would feel guilty if I broke up with her. Her parents are pretty rich (which I just recently found out), and she used her allowance money to buy me around $500 worth of Christmas gifts. I'm not sure if that's the exact amount because she wouldn't tell me. If I broke up with her I would feel guilty because it she did something really nice and then I go and break up with her. Also  she has PTSD from past boyfriend experiences and she really needs someone to be there for her when she has flashbacks that scare the shit out of her. \n\nWith all that being said, I just don't want to be in a relationship with her. I'm starting to see her more and more as a friend and would like the relationship to go that way if at all possible. \n\nA caveat: When I go to class, gym, wherever I'm more attracted to girls there and would rather pursue them than hang out with my girlfriend. I would never cheat but I can't help feeling that I want to be with someone else than her.", "summary": "I'm dating a girl who is really falling hard for me (her words). I'm starting to see her more and more as a friend. I would like us to be friends instead of SO's. How would I go about that?"}
{"id": "t3_2g28ga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] How to stay faithful? more importantly should i stick around... [7months]", "post": "Forgive me for my shitty grammar reddit-sama.\n\n           My girlfriend[21F] was going through a rough period recently and she wouldnt tell me what was up. So i was worried and anxious for two days wondering what was up. Finally she wanted to talk about it after blaming it on numerous other things and turns out its her father (nothing new but its not a big deal). I just felt.. empty, out of juice. I couldnt even console her. Im normally very understanding and non-jugdemental but something in my mind said \"im tired of this shit\" and i wanted to break up with her since.\n\nBut that's not the biggest issue, i feel like ive been emotionally cheating on her for the past month. Ive been hitting on girls, getting their numbers, and then deleting them essentially. All harmless fun? I feel like my heart is in the wrong place. \n\n                 This is the only relationship where i haven't cheated and yes im a bastard but im trying here. I constantly check out other girls, and even think about other girls when we are having sex. Is this normal? I feel like im too young to be in a relationship and i dont want to hurt her. I am all she has for support stateside (emotionally not financially) and if i leave her she has basically no-one so i feel as if im abandoning her. I still love this woman and i know in my heart she will be the one that got away. \n\n                   I just dont know what the right move is because ive never had a good model for a relationship in the first place. Every relationship ive been in resolves the same way but i am admant against cheating on anyone ever again. Is my wandering eye a normal human male thing or am i kidding myself and should i end this? I dont think im built for relationships period but if i were to stay how can i keep my reptilic mind in check and stay focused on the one i love?\n\nIm sorry for being a bastard C.", "summary": "Manwhore regrets getting in relationship, needs help to check wandering eye. Or needs a kick in the butt and stays single forever"}
{"id": "t3_1jh2w3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24M] need to break up with my girlfriend [22F] of three years, but I can't bring myself to do it.", "post": "So the story.  Our relationship hasn't been working on a number of levels for a while now.  We are both unhappy being with each other. We were doing ok up until a few months ago when it turned into a distance relationship.  Even before then we had had reoccurring fights that weren't resolving anything.  Issues that are getting worse while being apart.  It is very clear at this point if we stay together we are going to be unhappy\n\nSo here is my dilemma, I can't work up the nerve to end it.  There are a few reasons.  On some level I still love her despite her faults.  I feel like my choices are either be lonely broken up or unhappy in a relationship. I worry that I'm giving up on something that could end up working in the long run.  It breaks my heart to think that she could end up with someone else.\n\nI guess I am looking for support?  Looking for people to share who have had past experiences in similar situations.  I've never been in a relationship for this long.", "summary": "I can't bring myself to break up with a girlfriend of three years despite the relationship making us both miserable."}
{"id": "t3_1c3qlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21/M] Should I get over my girlfriend [21/F] in a long-distance relationship?", "post": "First time poster, long time listener on Reddit.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for just over 18 months now. We lived about 5 minutes walk from each other for all of my second uni year. She moved to France (year abroad for university) a bit before our year anniversary, and things were great between us during her first semester until, at the very beginning of her second semester (only two days after seeing me) she cheated on me.\n\nNow I freaked out but did the default, 'Its okay baby, I still love you, blah blah blah'. She replied with the whole 'I'm so sorry, I promise I'll never see him again, I'll cancel the holiday I had with everyone (which he was involved in)', and I decided to give it another shot.\n\nSince then everythings seemed to have changed. Not only does she seem more distant with me (no more soppy conversations, she doesn't miss me as much as she used to, etc.), but she also continues to hang out with everyone (including him) and she went on holiday with everyone.\n\nAll my friends are being great and telling me that I don't have anything to worry about - which is why I came on Reddit. I need people to be as honest as they can about this - should I keep the relationship going, or is it dead in the water? I'm still 100% in love with this girl, and have (what I imagine are) typical feelings that, if I lose her, my life is over.\nSo yeah, has anyone been in this kind of situation before? In the sense that they've fallen in love with a girl, she's moved to another country, and things have started to get 'weird'?\n\n[N.B. She only has another month and a half left of this year abroad, but will be going back to her final year at University (where the guy will obviously be as well) whilst I go back home (I finish this year).]", "summary": "Girlfriend of 18 months that I'm in love with is drifting away from me after cheating once; what to I do"}
{"id": "t3_11g4av", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M(21) met this girl (23 or 24) and we're doing dinner with her friends as our first time heading out to hang out... Good or bad?", "post": "So I, m 21, met this girl(23,24) the other day while out shopping, and got her number, we started texting a lot, and decided to hang out...\n\nWe said that we would try and do coffee, but due to her schedule, she could not last weekend as she was planning on going home, and is not going to be back late into Sunday night.\n\nWe got into talking about what we might do, and I offered dinner, but she always gets dinner with her girlfriends.\n\nShe then invited me, and I'm uncertain as to what this means... Is it a good sign, or bad? \n\nI said yes, because if nothing else it shows confidence, and I'm not afraid to meet new people.\n\nI just don't know what to read into this... Anyone have any advice?", "summary": "Met a girl, we've been texting, going to dinner with her friends as the first time we'll hang out, does it mean anything bad/good?"}
{"id": "t3_2je5e3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Maybe soon to be girlfriend [18F] duration how long is too long before asking her out", "post": "Me and this girl have known each other for about 6 months and we have become closer over the last month.\n\nThe issue i am facing is we are both in the middle of exams (HSC) and four weeks after that we are going to schoolies (spring break for recently graduated high school students) in different locations. My location is notorious for alcohol, drugs and promiscuous sex and hers less so\n\nDo i ask her out once exams are over and risk one of us messing it up or somehow explain after our break we should then get together or finally ask her out and put it on hold", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2htmhi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "17/m have zero luck with girls. Need to know what to do with this one 17/f.", "post": "Okay, I'm 17 never had an official girlfriend and only kissed two girls. It's not that I'm ugly, it's that I'm super shy and don't talk much so I never have the confidence to ask someone out. This girl was the second girl I've ever kissed and it was last Wednesday. It was going good, we got together Friday again and went extremely well. Both times we just hung out at her house because we couldn't think of anything to do. Come the weekend, we work together so we were both at work literally all weekend. I asked her last night if she was free at all this week, and she said no. I explained that I was going to ask her on a real date and she said, \"Ohhh..\" I asked her if she wanted to and actually couldn't or if she just didn't want to, and she said she actually couldn't. I suggested next week and she responded with just a \"Maybe\" and that was it. She is a major flirt and I know this, but I have a terrible time letting someone go if I like them. She knows she is a flirt to. She asked me if I liked her and when I said yes, she said that o was her unachievable goal and to stop from leading guys on she wouldn't get a guy unless it was me. I feel like I'm getting the cold shoulder, but it might just be how she is... With her saying she wanted to, but following with maybe kept my hopes up. I want to tell her that if she doesn't want something with me just tel me so I won't end up hating her like another guy that went after her, because I liked having her as a friend before this, because she is fun to be around. I don't want it to be awkward between us since we work together and I really want to be her friend if it doesn't work out.", "summary": "How do I ask a girl to tell me if she doesn't like me so it doesn't become awkward and we can still remain friends?"}
{"id": "t3_294y81", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f]recently broke up with [21/f], not sure how to move on", "post": "This is my first post on reddit, so I'm a bit nervous as to how this works. Please feel free to correct me if I've made any mistakes, thanks! \n\nThe thing is, I know why we broke up. It was a very rational breakup, with great reasons behind it (she graduated from university and will be moving back home, we both don't believe in long distance, coming out isn't possible for the both of us, etc). However, I just can't seem to give up on her and our relationship. But I know she'll never take me back. \n\nWe had the perfect relationship. It sounds ridiculous when I say that to anyone at all, but it's true. We almost never fought, talked out our problems, supported each other, laughed at each other's lame jokes and never lost that spark even fifteen months in. It was my first relationship and it was the most amazing thing to ever happen to me. \n\nI've read all about no contact and such, but doesn't that only work in the case that it was a bad breakup and you never want to talk to that person again? We want to be friends and are still desperately in love with each other...I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Need help moving on from a mutual breakup"}
{"id": "t3_4vp5f2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When I asked my (26F) boyfriend (26M) of 1 year if he loves me he said he's \"just not there yet\".", "post": "What does it mean when someone says this? \n\nI knew I loved him a few months in, but have waited all this time. We had our 1 year anniversary at the beginning of July, but still no signs of him saying he loves me. Finally I couldn't take it anymore and decided this last weekend I was going to tell him how I felt. At the end of the weekend I just asked him outright when he was dropping me off at home if he loves me, and initially he said \"I don't know. I've never said that to anyone\". Today though in a txt, he said he was nervous and that he had thought about it for me (what does that even mean?) but that he's just not there yet.\n\nWe've had a good relationship so far, and I would love to continue it, but after a few bad relationships in my past, I don't want to stay too long and be emotionally overwhelmed if it turns out he's not going to love me. How much longer should i give it? And does it really matter as long as its at least heading that way? I'm already 26, so I'd like to have enough time to recover and find someone who will love me if this doesn't work out, although I don't want to find someone else.\n\nWe have had our arguments stemming from personality differences and poor communication but we've both realized this and are going to talk about that and work on it for our relationship.\n\nPlease advise me!", "summary": "Asked boyfriend if he loves me. Responded with he's just not there yet. Advise?"}
{"id": "t3_4fvf6a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by igniting my hand to read a text.", "post": "Mandatory this did actually happen today like 3 hours ago. \nI was polishing my parade boots for an inspection tomorrow. This involves copious amounts of kiwi black parade gloss boot Polish. Now for the unaware this stuff will burn Really well and really really hot(also the fumes can apparently get you high or so I've head). \n\nOne minute I'm sat there with a hand covered in finely spread shoe polish and a lighter in the other.  I hear my phone next to me ring. So I turn around. In the process I put the lighter that was on at the time right under my hand Covered in flammable shoe polish. My hand was soon blazing on fire whilst I looked on in horror. \n\nDidn't Hurt that much as it went out fairly quickly and didn't leave any marks somehow (my hands were wet so that may explain it) .", "summary": "tried to read a text whilst boot Polishing and set my right hand on fire and cauterised a cut with it."}
{"id": "t3_4fzhv9", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My two adult cats have started fighting out of nowhere and I can't get them to stop. Please help!", "post": "So I have two young adult cats, Baxter and Oliver, who are brothers. They are strictly inside cats and are never allowed out. Well as you can imagine, one day they get outside. I get Oliver in without much trouble but it takes me another fifteen minutes or so to get Baxter in. But when I do get Baxter inside, Oliver absolutely loses it. Starts flaring up and growling and hissing at Baxter like he had never seen him before. They have been living with us for a couple years now and has never happened. We separated them for a day or two and they seemed to be back to normal. Now today they started fighting again and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My indoor cats got outside and now they won't stop fighting."}
{"id": "t3_slz3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm starting to think my bf doesn't value my opinion. Am I reading too much into this?", "post": "My bf of 1 year has been going through a tough time of late and has been having to make some pretty big decisions. He's been talking to me about them constantly, and while I've found it to be pretty emotionally/mentally draining, I'm more than happy to be there for him and offer him advice because I know he needs it. \n\nWhen I spoke to him yesterday morning, he was still really confused/worried about what he was going to do, and as usual I spent a while trying to talk him through it, help him think it out for himself and offer my opinion/advice. I've never once tried to push my opinion on him, just tried to help him figure it out for himself.\n\nLast night, though, I spoke to him and he said he had made up his mind about what he was going to do. I thought that was fantastic and asked what had changed his mind. He said he had spoken to a few friends of his, and what they had to say on the situation decided it for him. I was pretty cut about this, because I've been talking him through this for a few weeks now, and after speaking to a few friends for no longer than an hour each, he has found it easy to make a decision. \n\nSo now I feel like maybe he doesn't value my opinion. I am a few years younger than him too, so I don't know if maybe he doesn't trust the opinion of someone younger than him. I don't know if maybe I'm just reading into this too much.", "summary": "my bf has had to make a really hard decision, and after talking to me exclusively for a few weeks, he still had no idea what to do. After speaking to a few friends in the space of a few hours, he made up his mind. Does he not value my opinion or am I reading into it too much?"}
{"id": "t3_3n0ff0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my hand", "post": "The mandatory, this happened several years ago when I was a teenager. \n\nDuring my teen years, I'd help my father with his business(carpentry/construction).\nSo at this one job, I'm nailing together a door frame with a nail gun. This isn't my first rodeo, I know what I'm doing. \nGot the sides of the frame cut right, nailed in, check.\nTops cut right, time to get on ladder and nail it down into the sides. One side of the top nailed, ok good.\nSwivel on ladder to other side, and cue fuck up.\nI'm holding the piece with my palm on the side, and shoot the nailgun in the top. Well, the wood had a nasty warp on it and the nail ended up splitting the wood and going out sideways, shooting exactly into my palm. \n\nI didn't realize what happened until I pulled my hand out and looked at it to see the nail sticking out of my hand, buried about a half inch deep.\n\nOh. well that didn't hurt as bad as I thought.. \n*yanks nail out*\nHand starts spurting blood, and now my whole arm is red with my blood dripping down off my elbow on to the floor.\n\nImmediately go to the only hose at job site and start hosing the murder scene off. It stopped flowing about 5 minutes later after applying pressure and hosing blood away.\nMy hand was completely numb for about 12 hours, eventually regaining feeling over the next day.\n\nAnd that kids, is why nail guns are dangerous.", "summary": "= Shot my self with a nailgun, hand&arm looked like I went on murder spree, hand went numb for 12 hours."}
{"id": "t3_39bo3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I crazy? I [28m] Suspicious that my gay boyfriend [23m] is sleeping with his female friend.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have not been dating very long (2 months), but I feel that He may be cheating on me with his female friend He insists on seeing every day to \"smoking weed\" to the point of neglecting me. A little background. I found a Facebook post of his months ago saying He was BIsexual. I confronted him and never got a straight explanation. my dad recent died and I ended a two year long relationship so Maybe I am just paranoid due to emotional reasons, but he treats her like his lover sometimes and I'm an afterthought. I stupidly confronted him about the situation and it just made him get defensive and called me insecure. An hour later he called me telling me he loves me. I'm guessing in a desperate attempt to save the relationship. Advice please. I feel like something is just off.", "summary": "gay boyfriend may be cheating"}
{"id": "t3_4yk5ta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my Wife [40 F] 8 year marriage, now she's asking for a postnuptial agreement.", "post": "So my wife of 8 years, sent me an email this morning saying that she wanted to go to marriage counseling (which I've been suggesting for a couple of years now) and that she wants a postnuptial agreement from me so that she doesn't have to divorce me in a year.  \nObviously, I am a little freaked out. Our marriage hasn't been sunshine and rainbows for the last 8 years, several rough patches. Several stints of unemployment (me) and her supporting the family with her career while I watch kids and maintain house and look for a job.  \nHave any of you had or have a prenuptial agreement? What are your thoughts on this? Should I be worried that she's trying to screw me over to protect herself? I have reached out to a lawyer on my own to get more clarification on this but I haven't heard back yet.", "summary": "Wife is suggesting a postnuptial agreement and I'm not sure about it."}
{"id": "t3_4bvblb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my long-distance non-binary partner (20) wants an open relationship and I (19F) don't", "post": "So me and my partner have been together for about a year and a half (i think? but only 6 month of this was in person, the rest long-distance). I'm the first partner they've ever had, first kiss, first sexual partner etc. Since we're so far apart from each other we obviously both struggle with missing physical affection but they seem to struggle with it a LOT more than me, especially sex which im not particularly interested in a lot of the time. \n\nThey brought up that they wanted to try an open relationship which i initially agreed to try but I soon realised i HATE the idea of my partner with someone else, and im thoroughly more comfortable with monogamy. \n\nProblem now is that they're saying they're starved for physical affection, they feel unwanted, not to mention depressed (although this has always been an issue for them). It even seems to me that they're not interested in me sexually and would rather sleep with some stranger, but they insist that they love me and want to be with me long-term and won't cheat on me blah blah.\n\nI dont even know what im asking here just some general advice and good wishes i guess? Is it fair of me to demand monogamy when we're on opposite sides of the world for months at a time, especially when it seems to be making my partner unhappy?\n\nthey're not as shitty as i'm making them sound and they dont want to hurt me in any way, we love each other very much but this is causing a real issue at the moment.", "summary": "Partner wants to sleep with other people while we're long distance but I don't want them to and don't know if thats fair."}
{"id": "t3_3052pd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my \"online\" friend [18+ M] of 7 months, I feel like I am addicted to him", "post": "Hi. Sorry for any mistakes in advance since English is not my native language.\n\nI think I should start with info about myself:\n\nI am a 21 year old female, hard into games and am dealing with depression for about 6 years now. I have a boyfriend that I cant imagine my future without.\n\n I used to have a feeling of never ending anxiety until I met this guy in a game and started playing with him. \n\nWe played for a lot of hours a day together and as long as I knew that he is there and I can talk or at least write with him and he wont go away my anxiety was gone.\n\nI dont really know a lot about him and his life, I dont know how he looks. I only know his habits, what he likes and so on and his voice. \n\nWhen we first started playing I didnt notice anything special because we were just having fun and it was so easy for me to laugh and dont feel the usual pain, but as the time passed on I noticed how I simply need him in order not to feel miserable. \n\nWe usually never had fights or anything of this sort, but for about 3 months (or so) I noticed that he often gets mad over something I dont even understand. \n\nHe never shouts or anything, he just leaves the voice com and doesnt talk to me which drives me insane.\n\nI then ask him whats wrong and it turns out to be something that isnt even understandable for me because I consider it normal. We talk about it, he gets calm. Then everything seems to be ok again until something similiar happens.\n\nEvery time he gets mad at me I get this feeling of anxiety again and try to figure things out and now again he just left in the middle of the game and left everything where he could be contacted on (like Steam, Skype and so on).\n\nI really dont know what to do about it, why he is getting mad over nothing and how I can stop this anxiety from coming back every time I have no contact to him.", "summary": "Met a guy online, played and spent a lot of time with him (only online) and started feeling addicted to him because every time he leaves I get huge anxiety attacks. Last months he gets often mad over nothing, I get anxiety because of it and dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_24lt2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my __bestfriend_ [21 F] so can I really win this girl, my best friend is my dream", "post": "So my best friend is bisexual and she just got out of a relationship and it feels weird cuz she talk to me and will text me in the middle of the night saying I miss you and she always uses emogies. When ever she around I get butter flys along with I talk like I don't shut up and I talk to make it worse lol. And I think she sees it and she crackes up also she always leaves her friends to come talk to me. We always go out to eat and movies and other dates and this summer she wants to hang out and I want to tell her how I feel. Quick question anyone got a good date idea something that's a date but something better then movies and dinner. And one last thing she's the hottest girl on my campus and I feel like no chance even though I'm her best friend and everyone be jelly lol so anyone got any advice with me. Also she always tell me how she feels safe with me because one night months and months ago I took her out to dinner after a party and she was so drunk and I took her to dinner and then to her room and put her to bed and left so she trusts me. Also think she knows how I feel ? Ps my names James", "summary": "In love with bestfriend but can't find way to pin point it /will I be able to tell her how I feel or bad idea"}
{"id": "t3_4sot7t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by failing miserably at showing off", "post": "This one happened so long ago I think it should be harder to remember than it is. Way back when I was in year 3, I was bored and friendless and wanted something to do. We'd had two playground areas at the school, one of them was for the younger half of the school, and one for the older half. I was annoyed because in year 4, I'd get to use the larger playground and wouldn't have to stay with the younger kids, but I was only a year away from that. Thinking about it, it's kind of strange they had age-segregated playgrounds, but anyways, there was this whole curved ladder thing on the playground ([it looks like this] I was allowed onto, and I had decided that if I wasn't going to be cool with people my age, I could at least be cool to people who were younger than me. So I saw this kid climbing up the ladder by crawling on the top of it, and I though, hey, here's my chance. I took the kid aside and said, \"You're climbing up here the lame way, the cool way to do it is like this.\"\n\nSo, I hadn't planned this through at all. I didn't have a cool way of climbing up a ladder, there's no cool way to climb up a playground ladder because you'll always look dumb. Nonetheless, I decided I could probably get up there quicker if I grabbed the sides holding up the rungs of the ladder and pulled myself up. I figured that hey, I've got a lot of upper-body strength, I can probably do this.\n\nMy head became a pinball.\n\nBasically, I fell, halfway through the climb up, and my head bounced off the rung in front of it and the rung behind it about four or five times each. I fell to the floor, and embarrassed, I stood up and made my way off the oval. I thought I was fine, until someone pointed out that the back of my head was bleeding. I remember absolutely nothing else from that day. Actually, thinking about it, I don't remember much of what happened that year.", "summary": "My head became a pinball and I've had trouble remembering things ever since."}
{"id": "t3_1vfh93", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Need a kick in the butt to get out of this winter rut.", "post": "Longer post, lots of background. Bear with me. Also, if you've got a better place for me to post this, let me know!\n\nI graduated college May 2012, and I've been dicking around in the service industry because it's the only thing that can pay my student loan bills. I recently moved (from Milwaukee, WI to Door County, WI) and worked a job this past summer that was semi-relevant to what I went to school for, but it didn't work it out. It bummed me out awhile that I couldn't even hold a basic office job, but I knew it wasn't a good fit at all.\n\nI dig serving/bartending because I like interacting with people, among a slew of other reasons but it's our slow season. Where I live, there aren't a lot of young people this time of year. It's a super seasonal, touristy region that kills it in summer, but winters (especially my first winter away from a city) are rough socially, mentally and financially.\n\nIn any case, I'm bored. With myself, with my life. I feel all my interests that thrive just dying out. Partially because of Wisconsin weather and my inconvenient geographic location for social interaction, but mostly because I feel my passion for learning and bettering myself slipping away by the minute. I live with my boyfriend who's able to entertain himself quite well, but I find myself getting into the Netflix/Reddit/books rut. I can't quite afford going back to school for certificate classes that'd force focus on something I'm interested in. I just feel useless. A bored little lump on the couch.\n\nI read enough, but I can't get myself to act upon anything. I go to he gym. I play around on apps like Duolingo and Codeacademy, but the whole lure of those are how you can do small amounts at a time. Nothing can keep my attention long enough to get me truly excited. I just feel like I'm going through the motions.", "summary": "Looking for ways to combat boredom and become excited about learning and being alive again. Books. Websites. Games. Apps. Workouts. Documentaries. You name it. Please name it."}
{"id": "t3_13jabi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate my degree and have no clue what to do with my life.", "post": "I seriously cannot stand my degree. It's my fourth and final year, so there's no point in changing my field of study, but I feel the closer I get to the end, the more frustrated I get.\n\nI wouldn't exactly say I was \"forced\" into going to university, rather coerced by my dad. I had NO clue what I wanted to do when I graduated high school (I still don't), but he told me that as long as I get a degree, then things will go up from there. I can't see it happening. I chose a degree that is not applicable in daily life, simply because I figured university wouldn't be so bad if I chose something I was slightly interested in.\n\nWell, I'm not interested in it at all. My classes have killed the subject for me, and almost everyone I meet is pretentious and obnoxious, not to mention I feel like the stupidest one in all my classes. I cannot keep up with discussion, and studying and writing essays frustrates me. It all feels so horribly pointless.\n\nI don't even have any real passions or talents, so I'm not exactly passing up on something else I love to complete this degree. It just feels like I don't even want to do anything. I find it really difficult to tell my friends/family this, because they don't seem to understand that I'm just apathetic towards everything.\n\nIt blows. Thanks for reading, to those of you who do.", "summary": "Hate my degree. Have no passions or talent, and I don't know what to do in life. I don't really want to do anything specific, yet I'm sitting here trying to write a 15 page paper about shit I do not care about for a grade that means nothing to me."}
{"id": "t3_oa8af", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Will this stop me from getting into a good college?", "post": "Here's the story:\nI'm a freshman in high school.  My friend and I worked together to brainstorm for an essay outside of class for English.  I wrote 1 paragraph and he ended up copying it (I let him look at it thinking he would just take some ideas).  A month later my teacher accuses both of us for Plagiarism and/or cheating because one paragraph of each of our essays are identical.  She called home, talked with guidance counselors, and gave us 0's.  Will this first offense go on my permanent record, and if so, will colleges look at it?  I was setting my sights high and hoping for Dartmouth, but will this destroy my chances of getting into a school such as this?", "summary": "Will a small plagiarism offense stop me from getting into a good college?"}
{"id": "t3_2tvsv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] met and chatted with for a while a guy [23 M] that I really like - but he's not showing significant interest. Should I back out or attempt to see him anyways?", "post": "Last week in a store, I met a guy and spoke to him for a couple minutes. He was really attractive and intelligent, so I remembered his name and added him on Facebook. He accepted the request and started conversation with me - we chatted for about 3 hours. I suggested we go for drinks sometime when he's free and to my disappointment, he didn't agree on a date but just said \"Cool, I'll let you know\". He did however recommend a good place for lunch right by where he lives, and said that if I ever go there I should let him know.\nNow, it's been a week since that conversation and this guy is really on my mind. I've been waiting for him to restart conversation but he hasn't. Part of me wants to go to the lunch place tomorrow and text him asking if he wants to come. But, several things are holding me backI tend to easily get attached to guys that aren't completely interested in me and it always tends to really break me - i don't fall for guys easily and when I do, I fall hard. I'm also in a busy exam period and don't want to make time for a guy that isn't interested in me - not even for a quick lunch. I'm also afraid that the 4 year age difference (me 19, him 23) may prevent him from taking anything romantic seriously. \nI know asking all this is a little bit premature - we've spoken once. But I guess I'm just bad at interpreting behaviour and want to know - we speak once, he doesn't immediately act on me suggesting we go out for drinks, and he doesn't restart conversation after the first time. Should I just take this as a lack of real interest in me and stop being hopeful over anything?", "summary": "Met a guy and chatted with him - now want to meet up with him again as I like him a lot and am hopeful for more. He's not showing significant interest - being busy and vulnerable, should I back off?"}
{"id": "t3_vfukd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I received a number of text messages the other night from a girl who I drunkenly hooked up with. What are some of your stories where you probably shouldn't have stuck your dick in crazy, Reddit?", "post": "Name redacted:\nFriday, 6/15/12 12:24 am flyingfisch, I'm sorry if I like you and you don't feel the same\n\n12:29 am flyingfisch, I'm sorry if I like you and you don't feel the same\n\n12:30 am I can't help it\n\n12:53 am Thanks for responding. (it's this new age thing called sleep! I had to work in the morning. I had just dropped her off at her house around 12:15 to be clear. all was fine in my opinion)\n\nSaturday 8:58 pm It's really stupid that you won't give me the time of day.\n\n9:01 And rude\n\n10:08 I didn't think you would do this\n\nThis is missing out on the history of missed calls, but know they are just as numerous and sporadic.\n\nOK!!! Is it just me or have I handled this situation pretty well considering I think she is way to clingy for the situation. We've talked to each other for over a year, and one thing led to another. Fast forward one week and we haven't talked. I am fairly intent on not speaking to her again. She takes it as \"I got what I wanted\". Actually, we were just drunk and hooked up. I now take it as \"she isn't capable of having a trusting relationship with me\"", "summary": "I don't want to continue talking to her because I don't see it working out."}
{"id": "t3_192ezk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Never been on this subreddit so I'm not sure how it works. But I would like advice. [18F] [18M]", "post": "Me and this girl have been in a relationship for a month now, we're both very young so neither of us has any experience with relationships. It's not very serious yet. Everything is going fine, we communicate well, we get along, we haven't had any large disagreements yet. We haven't had sex yet.\nThe only problem so far is that she is very, very... weird when it comes to any sort of contact and I can't figure out if it's something to do with me or if its just her personality. Whenever she kisses me she looks away right after so I can't really have an intimate moment with her and that's very frustrating. Also, we were deciding on what movie to go to tomorrow and she didn't want to go to a certain movie because it had a sex scene in it and, \"It would be awkward\" if me and her watched it together. I don't know if I should bring this up to her or if I should just let it go and wait a little bit longer to try to become more intimate. Any advice?", "summary": "Early in relationship, she seems allergic to contact. Should I bring it up or ignore it"}
{"id": "t3_1jpu83", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Elim5-Why Black Africans Strongly dislike African Americans.(more inside)", "post": "So basically I was helping in a computer lab with an Person \"fresh\" from Africa. I asked him so how do you like America he said he loved it so much new but wonderfull things and the Opportunity at the American dream his father has talked so much about. Anyway my next question was what do you really dislike in America. He said the way Africans act here in the USA. We got to talking about it and he has had several bad experinces One that I will not forget he told me about is On his way to the Ben Franklin Museum in Philadelphia he was confronted by some Gangstas that flat out asked \"what the fuck you lookin at nigga\". We have had long conversations about this topic and I have Treated my new friend Esi to Classic American movies and some of my favorite.", "summary": "New friend from Africa loves America but hates the way Thugish Black Americans act."}
{"id": "t3_1p4auq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M]with my Girlfriend [27F]3 months, she yells all of the time", "post": "My girlfriend is very passionate which is great, but sometimes she just goes over the top. \n\nShe uses to me to vent, should be absolutely fine, but more often than not she ends up yelling, shouting and getting angry about issues which I have no emotional investment in. \n\nThis is an issue for me which I have talked to her about before because I'm not good at dealing with situations at such a high level of stress, especially if there is nothing that we can do to remedy it.\n\nIt gets me stressed out, it gives me a headache and I get impatient with her. An example that happened today: She is in the middle of trying to sort out a visa where she has to travel out of the country and the agent she is using has not been very communicative and she also found out she has to pay more for transport than she originally thought. \n\nI can totally understand why anyone would get stressed out, but she went on a tirade for half an hour or 40 minutes where she was yelling and swearing and making comments which I just couldn't agree with. I got pretty stressed out having to hear her vent like this for so long, yet again. I asked her why she had to yell and she just ignored me. \n\nAt the end she asked why I was being quiet and said to her I could think of a few other better ways to spend my evening then being yelled at and she got pretty pissed and walked out. I regret saying what I did and have apologised for it, but what can I say for her to understand that I just can't deal with that level of stress? Or am I the one that is being unfair in the situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend yells all the time, I can't deal with it, get impatient and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1y72jm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you sell people on reddit??", "post": "I have been a proud addict since roughly august '13.   I tell ALL of my friends how rad it is, and how only the most interesting posts are controlled by down/upvotes... BUT, none of them seem to have adopted it the same way I have.   I have even showed them the wonderful joys of subreddits and how there are microcommunities within the whole.   Am I just an \"early adopter\" or am I missing something?  (It frustrates the hell out of me when someone shows me a funny post from FB, and im like... \"oh yeah, I saw that on reddit a month ago\", and those people still fail to adopt reddit.   WTF!!!!!!!)", "summary": "Reddit is awesome, but I dont have a good salespitch for my friends to get them hooked."}
{"id": "t3_pgvan", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF doesn't want to \"change\" me but doesn't like that I am shy?", "post": "Background: I am 23 and very \"inexperienced.\" I was very sheltered in Catholic schools going up, and never really experimented or dated. That being said, I can count all of my encounters with men besides my current bf on one hand. \n\nFast forward to problem: I have been with my current bf for awhile, and honestly we are complete opposites, which is one thing that I love about him. I am reserved and shy while he is outgoing and knows everyone. Our personalities don't really mesh in the bedroom. I don't really initiate anything. I give it up every time he wants some, anywhere he wants some any way he wants some, but he asked me the other day why I don't initiate anything. It's just not my personality. Now he has gotten into asking if I would do things to him in advance of me hanging out with him which I think is wrong. Should I tell him to just stop whining?", "summary": "I give up sexytimes, but BF doesn't like that I don't initiate. Should he just be happy that I give it up whenever he wants (which is all the freaking time) and stop whining?"}
{"id": "t3_1i9zyy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do about my employer being negligent about an ergonomics issue I have?", "post": "I work in a environment where I have to prepare food for a company which is pretty dedicated to ergonomics (hope this is the right word). I also have to wear gloves while doing so. I have huge hands. Pinky tip to thumb tip is probably close to 13-14 inches and I have fat fingers. Anyways, they only supply medium and large gloves, neither of which fit and both of which results in uncomfortable cramping. Which has been getting worse even when I'm not wearing gloves. I've made management aware of this, and I know they can get larger gloves that fit me, but to save money, they won't. I don't want to sound like a whining little bitch, but is there anything I can do about this?", "summary": "I have big hands, company won't supply fitting gloves, hand muscles are cramping a lot. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_zcrjo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So today was the first day of school and I fainted. What are some of your embarrassing school or first day of school stories?", "post": "So here is my story. Today was the first day of school. I was kind of excited and a bit anxious but I calm myself down. I go to my home room and it is BOILING and HUMID; two things I hate with a passion. As well, uniforms add to my struggle. Once over heating, I just faint and smashed my head on a chair and a desk. The teacher who was new to my school was freaking out and most of the kids thought I had a seizure. After finally gaining consciousness, I woke up to myself on the ground lying in my own sweat, and a bit of urine. As a precautionary measure, I had to be transported to the local hospital. *Note this was my second time in an ambulance and the first time was fainting at the same school in the same subject. (Lucky ain't I?) So there I am, at the hospital with a bruised face and a fat lip, with my pissy pants waiting to get out. And that is how I spent my first day of school", "summary": "Fainted the first day of school and spent the first day in the Hospital..."}
{"id": "t3_xfyln", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "A few weekends away = bad single dad?", "post": "So I'm separated from my wife, pending divorce. I see my kids Friday evening to Sunday evening (3 dinners) and also on Wednesdays (overnight for the summer, dinner out all together the rest of the time). I'm new to this lifestyle, and trying to find my feet in various ways. Between now and Xmas, I'm doing the following:\n\nAugust 6-10th - holiday with the kids and my parents\nAugust 10th-12th (w/e) - Away at a music festival, parents looking after the kids\nAugust 17th-19th (w/e)- Stag do\nSeptember 30th-2nd (w/e) - Trip abroad with friends\nNovember 30th-1st (w.e) - Possible music festival\n\nGiven that every weekend I'm spending *all* my spare time with my children, and working hard to find fun new things to do every day I'm with them (planning a few weekends camping soon etc.) my wife is outright accusing me of being a bad parent for having the audacity to not have them EVERY weekend without fail. She said that maybe 1 weekend a year was acceptable, very possibly 2 if there was an unavoidable event (like this stag do is). She maintains that me not seeing them once every two months for the rest of the year with devastate them, and they will begin to resent me as I continue to disappoint them, and show to them the person I really am. That really is the kind of language she uses. Unsurprisingly I don't really agree with this. She refuses to do anything on a weekday evening when she has them (despite the fact that she is very welcome to and I would be more than happy to babysit at her house as and when this happens) and as such believes that I should turn down all offers from my dearest friends to do anything on the weekend.", "summary": "Am I destroying my relationship with my kids for trying to build my own life occasionally?"}
{"id": "t3_tqmlz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Unemployment office told me I was unemployable... now what?", "post": "I was laid off in December and have been on unemployment ever since as such I am required to attend 're-employment seminars' at my local unemployment office.  At the last one we sat down with consultants and they went through our resume, job history etc and they go through the database and suggest jobs for you to apply to.  The conclusion of my consultant was that I am unemployable...\n\nMy problem is I have a solid work history doing project management in the construction industry before making the jump in manufacturing and product development.  At my last position I had a 5 person engineering in our Shanghai plant reporting to me and on an org chart was on the same level as the Plant General Manager reporting to the CEO and President.  I won national level awards for my product designs and closed multimillion dollar contracts with Fortune 500 companies.\n\n**The issue is I don't have a degree.**\n\nI was told I should start applying for entry level jobs and remove a lot of my achievements and dumb down my responsibilities and such.  Normally I would think this is insane but after applying for hundreds (literally hundreds I keep a log) of jobs and still not getting anywhere I am willing to give it a shot even if it means taking a job I'm not happy with.\n\nI am consistently told 1.) I was overqualified 2.) Even though the job I apply for is exactly what I was doing before I'm not eligible because I don't have a degree or 3.) No response.\n\nThe easy answer here is 'go back to school' and as much as I would love to do that I can't.  I currently live out of my car since my apartment lease came up for renewal and I couldn't provide proof of income (unemployment doesn't qualify), can't get financial aid because my father makes to much money and is a believer in the 'you pay for your own way' line of thinking which I tend to agree with but screws me in this situation.  Student loans aren't really an option because Stafford loans won't cover tuition and I don't have enough credit history to be approved for a traditional loan.\n\nI'm kind of at a loss now and becoming really discouraged so any advice would be great.", "summary": "I am unemployable because I have been working at a high level of business without a degree and can't land an interview to prove myself"}
{"id": "t3_13694x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is the most awkward think that you and your partner have experienced during sex?", "post": "I kind of don't want to get into mine but it is a throwaway account so...here goes.\n\nWell, one hot summer night my wife and I(lets call her tykwesha) were having some fun in bed and I was eating her out with her sitting on my face. I enjoyed it for the first 5 seconds or so until she let out the nastiest shart I have ever heard/smelled. I was horrible I even felt drips all over my face and till this day that night will never fail to haunt me.She is no longer my wife because of the resulting mental issues I had to deal with. I couldn't even be in the same room as her after that night because of the sheer disgust I felt the second it happened returned so.. we eventually got divorced. And a few years of therapy later I am now dating again and am proud that I can now talk about this.", "summary": "ex wife Shat in my face while I was eating her out.I was so disgusted after that, that we got divorced and I had to go to therapy for a few years just to be able to date again."}
{"id": "t3_g2yrg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you ever realize that there is a real person behind the handles on here?", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nAfter browsing the comments on a question in r/sex, I found myself quite taken aback. After one user commented on the fact that she was curvy, quite a few redditors started harassing her. They told her she was delusional for calling herself curvy and she was, in fact, obese. They blamed her for the cost of health care in the United States and basically made it seem like she is a useless member of society. A few people commented in her defense, saying that she wasn't asking for medical advice. She was just offering a relevant comment to the discussion. \n\nThis is just one example. I've seen many examples of pure bullying in almost every subreddit. I thought that this was a community designed for spreading thoughts and ideas across the world? Why can't we ever just say, \"I don't agree with what you're saying. Here are my reasons. But I still respect your opinions?\" I know that it's easy to get overly passionate about something, but harassing a fellow redditor for their personal views is both wrong and a stain on reddit's reputation. I know that there will be trolls, but can't we ever just stop and realize that in the end we're all people?", "summary": "Everyone's a someone here and we all need to hug it out."}
{"id": "t3_4x5irc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance relationship transit to living together going sour.", "post": "Okay, so going to make this as short as possible.\n\nBasically, long distance gf has moved in, I'm military overseas which makes it hard enough because my hours are insane to say the least.\n\nI am a 24 year old male, a hard worker and have a large amount of responsibility at work. My girl is 20, unemployed, and not going to school, so essentially has no responsibilities. \n\nWe aren't really connecting which is the first issue, Intimacy is not an issue at all, we are intimate at least 3-5 times a week sometimes more time permitting. But conversation is pretty none existent.\n\nShe complains she is bored most of the time with nothing to do, but she doesn't really help around the house and doesn't  even make dinner ever other than heating up leftovers I've cooked. But she doesn't go out and do anything while I'm away. \n\nI feel like this is quickly fading and I'm not sure what to do to remedy our issues. How do I get her to be more involved in taking care of our home and willing to have a personal life? How do I reconnect on a personal level?", "summary": "long distance gf moved in, having trouble adjusting, she seems lazy and our connection is fading quick. Advice and criticism welcome."}
{"id": "t3_1e1grr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lack of emotional connection and support is really distancing me (F, 23) from my BF (M, 23). What can I do?", "post": "We are both 23 years old, together for 3 years.\n\nI find that often when I seek emotional support from my BF, and my upset does not concern him, he is very supportive and helps as much as he can to help me feel better, but when I am upset about our relationship, he tends to get defensive and often hurts me more, even if I try to bring up the issue cautiously.  \n\nMe bringing up with concerns with our relationship that bothers me, turns into him minimizing, or blaming me, both of which do not make me feel better about the situation, and then we argue.  The situation may then escalate to the point where there are multiple miscommunications, misunderstandings, I am in extreme distress, literally asking him to help me feel better.  He will then refuse, say because I am crying too loudly.  This might go on for awhile.  When this turmoil subsides, he might then finally try to comfort me but at this point I'm in a way worse place than I was before.\n\nThis type of thing has happened too many times for me and now I don't feel comfortable with our relationship and being intimate.  He knows this and says he's trying, but I guess I won't know until next time.  Is there any way I can get over this more quickly?  Is there some way I can understand why he would act this way in order to get over it?  It concerns me a lot that basic emotional support is not there.", "summary": "BF makes me feel worse when I'm already sad.  By the time he snaps out of it and plays the good bf role, I am shattered.  He knows this and is trying but I can't get over it and am scared the relationship is in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_hwsb9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, my girlfriend's cat is missing for 3 days, she seems very sad, any advice?", "post": "[Sorry for bad English, as this is not my primary language, I'll do my best]\n\nWe have been dating for a couple of weeks, this relation is really perfect, we have so many things in common, that's just crazy.\n\nTwo days ago, her cat was missing, and then she starts acting different. She talks less, no smile...\n\nTonight, I told her that I was missing our great conversations, she just answer me that she's sad and doesn't want to talk since her cat is gone.\n\nSo... what? I just want her to be happy, but I really don't know what to do. \nShould I just let her alone and wait for her comeback? Should I give her my support? How? Or should I talk about something else which will maybe make her smile?\n\nIn general, how do you deal with that?\n\nI feel like, if I do nothing, she'll say \"OMG, you don't even try to support me\", and if I talk to her \"OMG, I say I didn't want to talk, just GTFO\". meh.\n\nfyi:\n\n* she has 19, me 22\n* we don't live together\n* her cat is very important to her", "summary": "How do you react when someone you love is sad and doesn't want to have a conversation?"}
{"id": "t3_1cjlg8", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Going to this Uni's counselor, I need some help...", "post": "I have been studying for the SATs for several months now because I plan on taking the test on May 4th. The University that I am planning on going to is Kean University and I am going to see the counselor; although, I have some idea as what to ask I would like to know what you (College veteran, people who has gone through this whole college process already) think I should make an imperative to ask. I want to major in Economics so if any of you who is or has studied Economics would like to give me advice as to what I should ask concerning this major so that I fully knowledgeable on the matter.\nI will be eternally grateful.", "summary": "What should I ask the student counselor to this University I want to go too regarding college itself, Economics, and SAT scores."}
{"id": "t3_3szj9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend of 5 years has a weird tumblr [22M]", "post": "Hey, everyone. This is a throwaway because my boyfriend reddits.\n\nMy boyfriend and I just recently moved in together. I was using his phone to do something and I clicked the little button on the phone where all your open apps are up to close the app and I noticed that my boyfriend had a tumblr open.\n\nYes, so I snooped. I was definitely curious to see what kind of things he would be blogging about. I figured maybe some Doctor Who, maybe some Fallout things, and I got something that was way, way different.\n\nHe's never posted anything, but all the blogs he follows are fringe fetish blogs. Like, chicks pooping in the woods, naked grannies, that sort of stuff.\n\nAnd then I clicked to see the posts that he's liked and they're all scat, elderly-women related and I would think that maybe this was just kind of a prank set up by some hilarious friend but in the few posts I scrolled past I also saw an Arrested Development gif so it's obvious that he's liking these things himself.\n\nOur sex life is completely vanilla. Like, the craziest thing we do is light choking. All of this stuff has completely taken me off guard.\n\nMy question is, what do I do? Should I just never open this box of worms ever again and just forget it? Should I ask him about it?", "summary": "My boyfriend has a tumblr for scat and granny porn. Don't know what to do with that information."}
{"id": "t3_26b4r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Ex [21F] 5 years, deleted all of our pictures what does that mean.", "post": "After 3 months since we have broken up and kept strict no contact. My ex finally deleted all of our pictures on Facebook and Instagram. \n\nShe broke up with me, but we didn't have a bad break up or anything and had great closure. 3 months ago she kept telling me how it wasn't over yet and that she was afraid I wouldn't wait for her. She demanded space to find herself so I gave her it. During the 3 months i respected her wishes with strict no contact and given her space. During that 3 months she still had a lot of our pictures. Just until now she deleted all our pictures right before summer starts which upset me because those were great memories of us. \n\nI know its just pictures and that we're not together but it def means something if she took her time to delete our pictures. Im just confused why would she say it wasn't over yet between us when we broke up but end up deleting all of our pictures 3 months later. I thought that having our pictures up were a strong indicator that we would get back together and that it was the only thing getting us back together now that she deleted them all. What does that mean? is she completely over me? Did she end up changing her mind? Do i not have a chance anymore?", "summary": "Ex deleted all of our pictures after 3 months of breaking up what does it mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1rr6p2", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You Could Have Just Asked Me", "post": "*My Mom tricked me into cashing a savings bond from my deceased Grandmother then stole half the money literally snatching it from my hands. She told it was Christmas money, said it was a present from her and refused to answer any of my questions. I needed the money being a college student with living expenses so I foolishly went along with it thinking that my own mother wouldn't screw me over. We always had a rocky relationship but over the last two years I was beginning to think she really cared. Apparently she cared enough to trick me into cashing 700 in bonds then steal 350 from me betraying my trust in her. She had lost her job (her own fault for being late), something she wasn't even going to tell me if I hadn't guessed but she didn't need it more than me. I thought I could trust her, all she had to do was explain everything and ask me for it and I would have given it to her. All she had to do was ask.", "summary": "Mom lied and stole $350 from me when all she had to do was ask for it instead of breaking my heart."}
{"id": "t3_1dxurm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [28/M] ex-fiancee [23/f] left me for soul searching and partying..", "post": "We dated for a little over 4 years and she initially said she needed a break from me because I didn't understand how important school was to her and that she wanted to do well this past semester. I agreed.  She started acting really distant and cold towards me and eventually after almost a week of NC called me up and told me how horrible of a boyfriend I had been and that I just don't understand her and never will.  I listened to all her complaints and told her I would do everything I could to give her space and work on myself at the same time.  She told me that she needed another month to decide whether she wanted to be with me.  About 2 weeks in (some days we wouldn't talk at all, other days she would send me \"i love you so much\" texts) I told her that I've waited 2 months to figure out what exactly is going on between us and It's taking an emotional toll on me.  She called me up about 4 hours later crying hysterically telling me that as much as she loves me, she feels like she needs time to decide whether I'm the one she wants to marry.  She told me that there was no other guy and this wasn't about sex or me personally, just that she never really got to experience being single and wants to get the most out of her last year of college.  She got upset when I told her I was going to pawn the engagement ring and that I was thinking of moving back to New York since I don't really have any friends here.  Since that conversation (about 2 weeks ago) I have initiated zero contact and she has texted me a few times just to say that she is sorry and that she feels like she failed me.  I'm so confused with what to do here.. I love this girl more than anything and would kill to get back with her..", "summary": "ex fiancee left to find herself and enjoy her last year of college, made tons of excuses and gave many reasons.  Looking to see if there is a chance we are going to get back.."}
{"id": "t3_uj47h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] Going on a break with my gf[23]", "post": "So, things just haven't felt the same between us. I am a year older than she is, and since we met in college, I graduated before her. School is about 3 hours away from me, and over the past year, I would visit regularly. Unfortunately, I'm still jobless after a year of being out there, and I think I ended up stressing her out when I was there more than anything. (She has always been very active, studious, etc., so when I was there, she would always have stuff to do, and felt like she'd have to find things for me to do while she was busy.)\n\nNow that she's graduated, we are six hours from each other. I'm still working on landing a job, and she is going to get an additional degree in the fall. However, things have just become so routine. Almost like Im always there, and it's like she's stopped missing me, even though we're so far from each other.\n\nMy question is whether or not going on breaks work. I see myself with her for the rest of our lives, but I don't want her to resent being in this relationship. Is there anything else I should try before we do this?", "summary": "GF and I have grown apart - I feel like she doesn't miss me anymore, even though we live 6+ hours away. Do relationship breaks work?"}
{"id": "t3_4j2eg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [20F] give LDR boyfriend of 1 yr [23M] a second chance or just end it?", "post": "Hi,\n\nFound out he had been flirting with a girl [22F] from his hometown 1000s of miles away for the first four months of our relationship. He ended up kissing her when he went back home over summer 10 months ago and stayed in contact but stopped flirting back when he left (didnt tell her he had a gf until I found out awhile ago and made him tell her). Said he didnt tell me because he didnt want to hurt me/scared of how I would react. Initially tried to deflect it that it wasnt cheating but eventually gave in. He sent her a cold message and blocked her on social media after I found out. But I'm heartbroken.\n\nOur relationship has been pretty great except for this. I always knew he was kind of a flirt but I thought he changed. I really love him and have sacrificed a lot for him, so Im hesitant to break up. He has sacrificed a lot too and has been there to help me at even the early hours of our relationship. Ive never been cheated on before and have never broken up with someone I still have feelings for. I forgive the physical kiss but not the prolonged communication (emotional cheating I guess).\n\nAs of now I'm giving him a chance to try and make things better but I'm unsure how he's going to do it since he can only visit me 2 days a week. I asked for a few days of space. My question I guess, is that is possible to rebuild the relationship after this incident? I love him and trust him a lot but I do respect myself first so I've been fighting it. He claims he's been nothing but loyal since summer. I'm lost.", "summary": "LDR boyfriend flirted with a girl the first 4 months of relationship before kissing her in summer. Kept contact with her after but stopped flirting. He has now blocked her, but I'm heartbroken and not sure how to proceed (breaking up/giving him a chance)."}
{"id": "t3_4tkowb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] and my friends [21F/22F] were thinking about going on vacation but they finally went with another friend of ours [22F] without telling me. I don't know if I'm being childish or not.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI'll try to make is short.\n\nI have three very good friends, called Cali, Mary and Sally. In the beginning of july, Cali had the idea to go on holiday in the south of the country with Mary and I. I was  happy but I have very very strict parents, I warned them that I won't have the answer now but I was very interested to go. We would go in august.\n\nSo last week (tuesday), I phoned Cali just to casually talk to her and see how she's doing and she informs me that she, Mary and Sally were going to Italy.....just the day after (so wednesday).\n\nI was a bit shocked and didn't tell anything. I wished them a happy vacation. Moreover, the conversation ended as her niece just threw up. She promised to call later but did not.\n\nSo now, I'm just wondering if they really consider me their friends or not. They couldn't have planned at the very last minute as they were all three on vacation with their own family.\n\nPlease, just tell me if I'm overthinking this or if my concerns are real.\n\nThat's the first time I considered girls being my \"real friends\", so maybe I'm just not used to have friends ?\n\nThe three girls were almost roomates during their study so they might be closer to each other than I am with them. (However, Cali and Sally didn't talk to each other the entire previous year).\n\nWriting that, i must admit that I feel like i'm in primary school. However, I still think it was not loyal that they avoided me like that and I don't really wanna talk to them. But in the same, i don't wanna appear like a crybaby or something. And it hurts to think that they avoided me like that.\n\nWhat should I do ?", "summary": "Three friends that are close to me went on vacation in Italy without telling me, while we made plans to go together in the south of the country. It hurts to think they avoided me."}
{"id": "t3_y49lc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit, what advice do you have for a sixteen-year old who just decided to get his shit together and actually try at school/life?", "post": "Background: I mentor a young man who has made some pretty lazy life decisions in the past.  He dropped out of three courses during his sophomore year, and held an incredible 1.5 GPA.  He's a smart kid, but kept telling me that he was \"lazy\" (as if it was a badge of honor).  \n\nHe comes from a low-income household, and so one day I just straight-up asked him: \"How are you going to provide for your future family?  How are you going to take care of your mom when she becomes too old to take care of herself?\"  After all, working at fucking McDonalds does not pay the bills, right?\n\nThat conversation sort of woke him up, and he's really been making an effort to turn his life around and apply himself.  He's registered for an online high school (rather than face a third new high school -- his family moves a lot), and wants to get into college.  Class doesn't start for a few weeks, so I'm trying to teach him time management, planning ahead, making goals, etc.  \n\nThe problem is, he's been such a slack-ass for so incredibly goddamn long that he doesn't even know how to motivate himself.  He has aspirations, but he doesn't know how to carry them through without falling back on his old ways.  For instance: he wanted to learn how to type, and started to train himself via a website.  I left him for ten minutes, and he was already looking at lolcats or some shit.  \n\nI really think he wants to do better, but he's currently defeating himself.  \n\nAnyway, I was hoping some of you might have some perspective to offer.  What should his next steps be?  What would you do?  Are there any college admissions people out there that might have some suggestions for him?", "summary": "Slacker student is trying to turn life around, too stuck in lazy habits to make the change easy.  Need advice on how to change, how to get into college, etc."}
{"id": "t3_2936vp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with a [23F] wondering how to deal with conflicting feelings", "post": "I've recently been dating a girl I met off a dating website (been a few dates) and we're getting along pretty well, but have also just started talking to another girl who I'm also into. I'm not sure how to talk to the girl I've been dating as I feel like we match fairly well, but I'm not actually \"attracted\" to her (she's fairly overweight and doesn't seem to have any interest in doing anything about it).\n\nThe other girl also matches quite well with me (though probably not as well) and is also quite good looking, and I just want to give her a shot too before I commit to a relationship. What do I say to not look like a dick to girl #1? =/\n\nSorry if this seems like a really obvious/is a very common problem, I've not really had this issue before so am a bit confused as to what to do.", "summary": "Have dated girl #1 a few times, not officially bf/gf, have been talking to girl #2, want to try dating girl #2 before making relationship with girl #1 official, unsure what to say to girl #1."}
{"id": "t3_p2nxk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend never initiates sex or kissing with me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together in a relationship for about 5 months. We are both in our early 20s. Initially, there was a lot of passion between us and the physical aspect of our relationship was great. I've noticed the last few weeks that I am always the one to initiate sex. While we are having sex, its great, don't get me wrong. But I am ALWAYS the one to initiate it. I've even noticed that I am the one to always initiate kissing, too. Like when we are sitting on the couch watching a movie or something, he will never lean over and kiss me like I will do to him. And sometimes when I kiss him he just pecks me and goes back to watching tv. \n\nI know there's no one else or anything like that. And I think he still wants to be in this relationship, it's just as if he has no sexual interest in me whatsoever. He does initiate us hanging out and going out on dates and whatnot, but its mostly the physical stuff. I just don't know what to do. Honestly, it makes me feel like crap. Should I bring it up to him? Truthfully speaking, I think it will make me look really insecure. And I'm generally not an insecure person. This is just something I have noticed the past few weeks. Also, I feel like I should have to bring this up - he should WANT to want me - and me bringing it up will sound like I am trying to tell him how he should feel or something. What do you think would be the best way to approach this situation? Help Reddit!", "summary": "My boyfriend never initiates sex or kissing with me, it makes me feel like crap, how should I bring it up to him without sounding like a clingy insecure girlfriend? "}
{"id": "t3_1ebk3g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been fascinated with someone? If so, explain the fascination.", "post": "There's this girl in one of my classes that has a face I cannot forget. Anytime I think of that class, I think of her face. She has these light blue almost pale jade eyes. All of her features are very soft but almost all are noble. She looks as if she were a princess. She has a tiny nose with soft curves, the tip of the nose is slightly raised upward. Her eyes are wide and caring. She has an innocent yet mischevious smile. She has a light curiousity about her. She chews gum often, mouth open, the only person I've seen chew gum with an open mouth in a beautiful fashion, the chewing really highlights the softness in her cheeks. Her upper lip is softly padded in peach fuzz. Her eyebrows curve slightly downwards and are slim and honest. Her forehead is smooth and tells of nothing but perfection. When she speaks her mouth moves in exaggerated directions in the most beautiful way. Her eyelashes are long and young. They seem as healthy as her soul and tell of the depth of her feelings. Her skin is a pale white with the golden color of vitality under it. She has several freckles dispersed haphazardly across her beautiful face. Her hair is usually tied back in a bun, its a golden amber. Full of radiance and beauty. Her hair color seems to outline deep, cloudy images of lives past. If I had any sort of artistic ability, I would happily spend my life sketching, painting, and sculpting the perfection that is this girl.", "summary": "This girl is gorgeous, and I always think about her perfect face."}
{"id": "t3_2r7csm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting a door stopper", "post": "Ugh, I hate my cat. ^(^Not ^really, ^I ^love ^her)\n\nI'm currently in the process of moving into a new appartement, at the point where I just have a mattress lying on the floor.\n\nThen there is my cat, a 9 year old divine princess, craving pets and occupying comfy places. While she is a nice cat, it's important to know that her kidneys aren't working too good anymore which requires to give her pills and special kidney diet food. (Chronic kidney disease, she's still living a decent cat life) \n\nAt day time she normally lays on that mattress and just does the usual cat business. When I go to sleep, she usually switches over to lie on my desk chair.\n\nToday I wanted to move some more stuff to my new place, which kinda led me into a bit of a hurry. (Had an appointment to buy used furniture)\n\nThis is, where the whole fuckup started. Normally, I have some door stoppers laid down, which keeps the doors from shutting down on their own. For some reason, I somehow put one away, giving the door full power to close. Which the door did. Was there some wind? A ghost? I don't know. What I know is, that my cat was still in my room, doing their things. Well... cats that have this disease tend to pee a lot more. On her quest to the cat toilet she encountered the closed door, with no way for her to open it.\n\nNow... we all know, cat logic is really weird. Out of desparation she just sat down on that fluffy comfy mattress and let go. Guess I'll have to sleep on an air bed for the next 1-2 days. (I'm kinda glad she didn't make an effort to pee onto the blankets.)\n\nWhile I was writing this text, she came into the room again, looking confused, why there is no mattress there anymore. Cats.", "summary": "Was in a hurry, forgot that there was no door stopper between the door, door shut down on it's own, locking my cat in my room, cat needed to pee, relieved herself on my mattress"}
{"id": "t3_rjwv0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats the grossest thing you have ever done on accident?", "post": "mine is pretty awful.\n\ni had just gotten done with a national advertising competition my senior year of college and had stayed up for over 48 hours with my group. i came home for the first time in 2 days and immediately strip off the smelly clothes i had been wearing that whole time and make myself a veggie burger on the george foreman. afterwards, i go to the bathroom and let out the most monstrous dump i've ever had. while wiping, i look in the mirror and realize i have ketchup on the corner of my mouth and, without even REMOTELY thinking, wipe my mouth with my heavily soiled toilet paper. as if i didnt feel sick enough from no sleep, i instantly puked up my meal.", "summary": "i wiped shit on my mouth while trying to wipe off ketchup."}
{"id": "t3_2c8dln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(20) GF(18) of 1.5 years told me she needs space. I do to know how to handle it.", "post": "My GF and I have been together for a year and a half now. We had an amazing 6 months then I left for the military. \n\nShe was perfect when I was in basic training but then things got rocky through 8 months of tech school. \n\nI came home in February and I wasn't the same guy I used to me. Not as much emotion and I definitely wasn't showing her the love I should have been. \n\nWe had a rough couple of months, some good some bad. And last week she told me that she needs some space to figure things out. She said she still loves me and wants us but that she's not ready. \n\nI have 100% woken up and I know how I need to treat her now. But I don't know how to handle this. I tried to see if we could talk but she said she's not ready. I just keep crying.", "summary": "GF of 1.5 years said she needs space. I've changed for the better and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_27k7ev", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Last picture of Halston. Best cat I've ever had.", "post": "Had to put him to sleep yesterday. Lung cancer. Tumors caused bleeding inside and outside of his lungs. I know he is no longer suffering, but that doesn't dull the pain.\n\nI had him almost 8 years. Got him from a shelter. He had FIV but I didn't care; I knew he was the cat for me. He was always sweet-tempered. Got along with everyone. Would greet me in the morning. Sit on the toilet and watch me shower. \n\nWhen my ex-fianc\u00e9 and I split up he was the only thing I demanded. Nothing else mattered. Then again, my ex couldn't take care of a pet rock. No way in hell was I leaving my baby behind. \n\nI haven't been home yet. The thought of not having him greet me at the door, curl up next to me in bed, beg for treats...\n\nI'm donating most of his items to SPCA and the shelter where I got him.", "summary": "Put my cat to sleep. Devastated."}
{"id": "t3_2ntfbo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by having a wet dream on a bus...in uniform", "post": "not actually today but during my time at basic training.\n\npart of basic training is going to the military museum in Ottawa right around week 5-6. now i'm pretty excited, woke up at 5am, packed box lunches and filed onto the bus where i took a seat next to my girlfriend at the time (we met at basic and are now married) ready for the 3 hour bus ride.\n\n first hour we talk and not much else then we get bored and i doze off. I love my wife and think she is unreal attractive so it makes sense that after 5 weeks of not being able to touch because of barrack life and a sergeant that insisted on making it well known if he saw us so much as sit together i'd get charged, im constantly thinking about her sexually. this time it just happened to be while sleeping... on a bus... with 59 other privates and my staff.... in uniform... on the way to a military museum. \n\nall of the sudden her and i are in space and brooms are floating by and we come across beach chairs at this point im like 50% sure im dreaming but im not waking up so i roll with it, we are naked and we start doing the sex and it feels fucking awesome (most people sneak away to jack off in barracks but i didn't, not fucking once) im ready to go and suddenly i start feeling like im peeing, a lot. i wake up and my legs are really warm and im seriously concerned i just pissed myself in my sleep. i throw a hand down trou and try to feel it out. turns out i just jizzed 5 months worth of not jacking off in one go and now my combat pants are filled with muh jizz. \n\nbest part i then spent the next 6 hours walking around looking at pictures of hitler and talking to other people that had also come to the meseum AND having a really sweet old guy on a golf cart drive up to me and thank me for what im choosing to do as a career and shake my hand etc. all the while my girlfriend is shitting herself laughing then entire time knowing what's up.", "summary": "i jizzed my combat uniform before going to a military museum and getting lectures on military honour/ pride and shaking hands with people"}
{"id": "t3_umv46", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Financially drowning and it's my own fault. Now how do I start the climb out of this?", "post": "I am about to finish grad school and have more student loan bills coming up. Right now I have 2 credit cards I haven't been able to pay in forever, tickets and such that I can't afford and have turned into warrants, a car that is on its last legs and nothing but trouble, and I owe 2 friends money. I just got a second job that should at least give me the ability to start paying somethings off. \n\nShould I consider consolidating my debt? I figure I should pay the tickets off first so I don't go to jail. I really just need tips on how to start this process so it doesn't feel so hopeless. It has me really depressed right now which only leads to problem avoidance and denial. I need to change this situation starting now!", "summary": "shit load of private and legal debt. should I consolidate my debt? Any tips to get started so that this doesn't seem impossible?"}
{"id": "t3_2bx4ih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] found my best friend's girlfriend [26 F] on Tinder, she denies ever using it, not sure if to confront her", "post": "I live with my roommate/landlord/best friend John and his partner Maddy. Maddy and John are awesome together and I can't believe they finally found people so much like themselves and I've known John since before he met her, he's a great person and friend. So today I was on Tinder and there she was, and her profile didn't mention being in a relationship or John nor was he in any of the photos. Tonight all three of us went fishing together and I was talking about the girls I was chatting with and John asked Maddy if before they had met, had she used Tinder. She flat out denied ever being on it. I don't want to assume the worst, but I'm not sure of another explanation.", "summary": "found my best friend's girl on tinder, she denies ever being on it, not sure if I should confront her."}
{"id": "t3_uyr4p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The sex in my 5 year long relationship has gotten boring and I want kinkier sex. It feels like my boyfriend just doesn't seem interested in that anymore. What should I do?", "post": "We have been having difficulties with sex for the last few months. If I start to make the moves (I am female BTW) he just ignores me or dissmisses me until possibly hours later if at all when he gets in the mood. It not only hurts my self esteem but by the time he wants it I am pissed off and very not in the mood. I feel like I never get to have sex on my terms any more, or when I am actually horny. On top of that our sex is pretty vanilla lately. The most different it gets is a finger in my booty hole, and that is a rare treat I enjoy. He had said previously in an argument about finances that he wanted me to wear more lingerie during sex, but the whole fight and context made me feel like it would just be payback to him for the money he spends on dinner, and it was a turn off really. If I think about getting dressed all sexy I just end up feeling disgusted by remembering the fight or just feeling insecure because he could turn me down again anyway (which happened in the past). I just want gnarly kinky sex like we used to have. Toys, biting, passion, sexting (which he has never done, but I liked it from other relations so I wish that he would do it, I send him sexy photos that he never replies to), maybe some adventurous outdoors sex, you know get out side the boring bed sometimes! Every time I talk to him about he says he will try, or he has been trying, but in reality I never get sex when *I* am horny and he never wants to do anything adventurous anymore. It is making me depressed, self concious, and lonely. It makes me think about how it would be with someone else, but I love him and want him to be the one to satisfy me sexually. How do I get him to step up to the plate?", "summary": "Boyfriend always turns me down when I am horny, only wants sex when he is the mood. We have boring vanilla sex, he comes too quick, I am sad/bored/lonely."}
{"id": "t3_2e7nle", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "23f - maybe pregnant and I. am. So. Afraid", "post": "Hey Ladies!\n\nI read a lot at /r/AskWomen and I hope I will get some help here or at least some advice to deal with this.\n\nSo, my SO and I went to a spa over the weekend. We had way too much wine on Fridaynight which led to good sex but it could have consequences - like that whole baby thing. The condom broke and I am not on the pill (my body doesn't like the hormons). I took Plan B on Saturday - not even 12 hours after the act. \n\nOn Monday I read about the Plan B on the internet I did take and it is most likely that it didn't work for me - simply because I'm overweight and the worst thing about it all\u2026 On Tuesday I had some blood in my panties - no big deal you think. Did you know that women can bleed when the egg nest itself into the uterus? This occurs about 4 to 6 days after the fertilization. Saturday to Tuesday equals 4 days.\n\nAlso my body tricks me. I have all those typical soon-to-be-bleeding (like getting my period) symptoms that are also soon-to-mom symptoms\u2026 And the worst thing of all: My period was never the thing that you can predict. Mostly because of the stress in college and I took some antibiotics that fucked up my cycle over the last year. So, it could be that I had my ovulation on Friday.\n\nDon't get me wrong. I want kids but now it is just the wrong time. I will start my first big girl job in September, just dropped out of college and it is just not the right time. My SO is totally behind me. He even bought me the Plan B (you can get it in every pharmacy without a prescription here in my country).\n\nI am driving crazy. I feel pregnant. I freak out and can't concentrate on anything other than that\u2026 Please tell me everything going to be okay. I have a gyno appointment in two weeks but I am afraid until then I will drive crazy because I don't know what's going on.", "summary": "afraid to pregnant. Had unprotected sex on Friday, took Plan B - could be that it didn't work. Blood in panties on Tuesday."}
{"id": "t3_j05h1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your fondest memory from grade school? I'll start.", "post": "Mine is from 3rd grade.  I wasn't very popular in grade school, so I was constantly picked on and felt very excluded socially.  So one day in class, our teacher is going over multiplication tables.  To help us with the memorization, she setup a competition.  She had one line of all the boys, and one line of all the girls.  One student from each line would step forward, and she would hold up a multiplication problem (such as 9x6 = ?) on a flash card.  Whoever answered correctly first won the bout and went to the back of the line.  The other was eliminated.  Whichever line was completely eliminated first was the loser.  \n\nIt was close at first, but the girls went on a run and eliminated everyone in the boys line...except me.  There were about 9 or 10 girls left in the line.  It was all up to me: if I missed one answer, we were done.  Being that I wasn't very socially accepted as it was, I could only imagine the ripping I'd get if I screwed that up.  My head was spinning and my heart was pounding.\n\nI don't remember answering the equations.  I went into this sort of zone; I just focused completely on the card and nothing else.  With each correct answer by me, the boys would get more and more excited.  I was sweating, it was intense...\n\nThe last girl steps up.  Here it was, all on the line.  If I get this question right, I go down in 3rd grade history as a hero (well, at least for the rest of the day).  The teacher flips the card.  I can still see it: \"12x9 = ?\".  I see the answer in my head, it comes right to me.  \"108!!\", I scream.  The teacher nods...the boys go nuts.  They all come running up to me from the floor where they were sitting, eliminated.  They jump up and down patting my back, much like a baseball team does when a player hits a game winning homerun.  I felt like a king, it was pure bliss.", "summary": "Answered 3rd grade multiplication equations like a boss in a game competition in class, thus bringing my team back from a sure loss to a thrilling victory."}
{"id": "t3_dy3wo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Eurotrip with friends this summer. Help?", "post": "Would post in /r/travel but it rarely gets any views.\n\nAnyway, this summer me and a couple of my friends are planning to do a trip trekking across Europe. I know the reddit community has done ALOT of these trips and was wondering what advice you have. This could be places to see, things to do, cheapest traveling etc. Links to websites and other stuff would be extremely helpful. The trip would consist of 3 - 5 18yo during the summer. It would be for 2 - 4 weeks. We are already thinking of hitting France, Holland, Poland, Spain and Ukraine. But everything is extremely flexible. Traveling would consist by train but we aren't sure of the cheapest travel so any advice there would be greatly appreciated. Also we would be flying from New York, United States. We don't know much about trekking in Europe so any advice would be great.", "summary": "Trekking across Europe, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3ettvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [30 F] is too sensitive, and it's getting worse. I need some advice.", "post": "My girlfriend of 5 years has always been very sensitive and has some anxiety issues, which seem to be getting more severe. I want to discuss this with her but don't know how to approach it or what to suggest. I'll give a few examples:\n\nShe is *very* bothered by noise. If someone nearby is listening to their phone with no headphones, humming, tapping or even breathing heavily she can't relax or enjoy herself. We live in a city so this is a big problem. She has always been bothered by noises but now she is obsessive about them.\n\nShe sometimes misinterprets things people say to be a personal insult which will put her in a bad mood, sometimes for several days. An example: a mutual friend said fat people gain weight because they are lazy. She's sensitive about her weight so this ruined the evening for her and she insisted we go home early.\n\nShe also gets extremely anxious and nervous during everyday things, such as riding in a car in traffic, walking past a scary-looking homeless person, having to arrive on time for a bus/plane, or being forced to endure a noise she doesn't like. During these things she clenches her jaw so hard she'll have lingering pain for hours.\n\nShe recognizes her sensitivity but seems unable to improve in any way. I want to convince her how bad it's gotten and push her to start some research or something to improve the situation. I'm an optimistic and generally worry-free person and can't identify with what she feels. Any input or advice on how to approach the subject would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend has increasingly bad anxiety and sensitivity issues. I need advice on how to help."}
{"id": "t3_1kvqy6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/F] have no sex drive with my boyfriend of 2 years [24/M]..Is this normal? Help!", "post": "We've been together for 2 year, and in the beginning we would have sex alllll the time-- like 2 to 3 times a day, every day. It was great. Nowadays, we have sex maybe once every 1-2 weeks. I just don't have the drive to have sex. I've tried to spice things up with toys and games, and they work sometimes but I just seem to have lost all drive. I still find him attractive, but I'm always tired and never in the mood (I'd rather watch TV or sleep, etc.). Anyone who has been in a long relationship before, did you experience this? Did it pass? Is it something that I am going to have to work at all the time? \n\nMy theories as to why are either:\n- It's typical with relationships this long, and it will pass.\n- It's my birth control, and it's ruining my sex drive.", "summary": "I have no sex drive in my 2 yr relationship. I wold like input from others who have been in this situation! Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_bqp5o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am giving away a small portion of land for the expansion of an old graveyard (building a buffer). Any thoughts on what I need to watch out for.", "post": "On the North side of my property there is an old graveyard. I was approached by a neighbor who let me know that a group has formed to care for and protect that graveyard. He wanted to know what I would charge for a 40 foot by 100 foot section of my land. I felt that the graveyard was historical and that these guys are just working to protect it and offered the strip of land for free. He was rather appreciative but then he said something about wanting to be buried in the graveyard himself and how much it would cost (the last grave in that yard is dated as 1986), or rather how much the group would charge for such a burial. I began to wonder if this might be a for profit thing in the future and that my donation might be to help someone else line their pockets. The group will be out at the graveyard April 16 and I have no idea what to ask them.", "summary": "Offering land for graveyard expansion, don't want to get taken advantage of. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_453bo3", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Dog eats crate pads but is miserable with bare plastic", "post": "My husband and I have a beagle  who's something around 7 years old. He's a pretty well behaved dog, a little food obsessive but generally chill. We leave him in the crate when he's home alone, and because of our schedules this is never more than 7 hours at a time, and many days he's not crated at all. He's been getting restless recently so we're getting a dog walker to take him to the dog park a couple days a week.\n\nOver the 3 years we've had him he's destroyed every crate pad he's had. It'll usually last a few months, but inevitably he'll tear a hole in it and eat the stuffing. This even happened with a heavy duty Kong pad. The stuffing makes him throw up for about a day and a half, and I imagine he doesn't get many calories when this happens because food usually can't stay down until all the cotton comes up. We've tried putting a towel in but he just pees on it.\n\nThe last couple weeks we've left his crate bare, but he is not happy with this. He doesn't have much fur on his belly and hates lying down on cold or hard surfaces. He used to go into his crate on his own when he could tell we were about to leave, but now he has to be pushed in and whines piteously when we leave. Is there anything we can do about this? Do we just need to be cold hearted and let him get used to the cold plastic?", "summary": "my dog eats crate pads but hates not having one. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_lfh1d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm trying to get a US passport and they're asking for way more information than I feel is fair", "post": "I applied for a passport at the post office several weeks ago with my original birth certificate and my Driver's License.  This was all that was required.  I get a letter in the mail today from the state department asking for WAY more information.\n\nI have forms to fill out that ask:\n-Every school I've ever attended\n-Every place I've ever lived (since birth)\n-Every place I've ever worked\n-When/Where I was baptized\n\nIn addition to that, they also require that I send AT LEAST 5 forms of identification that are AT LEAST **5 years or older**.  This is posing a problem.  The acceptable documents list includes old driver's licenses, yearbook photos, medical records, school transcripts, and so on.\n\nThis seems completely ridiculous and I was wondering if anyone else has ever been asked to do this.  They told me I'm having to supply all of this secondary identification because my driver's license is less than a year old.", "summary": "I am a 25 year old US Citizen who is being asked for far more information than expected to get a US passport"}
{"id": "t3_zqo9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Had the best 20th birthday I could've ever hoped for yesterday. Reddit, what are some of your favorite birthday memories?", "post": "So out of pure fortune, my favorite band, August Burns Red, just happened to be playing a show in my hometown of Pittsburgh, PA on my birthday last night. After having a pretty bland day of college classes and work, I headed out to the local venue to have a great time.\n\nI worked my way through the crowd during the three opening acts, and by the time the last one was done playing, I found myself front and center. I'd seen ABR once before, but it was at a big festival, so seeing them at in a more intimate venue, where I was literally inches from them, was really cool. When the lead singer asked the crowd how they were doing, I yelled, \"It's my birthday!\" He looked at me and asked my name and how old I was. After I told him, he lead the crowd in singing me happy birthday. Later on in the show, he passed me the mic to deliver a line for him, and kept looking at me throughout the show, seemingly enjoying my enthusiasm. Then after the show when they were throwing out drumsticks and picks, the lead guitarist handed me a setlist that had been taped to the stage. A few minutes later, the vocalist came down to meet everyone, and I got to talk to him for a minute, get a picture, and get my setlist signed.\n\nAt 20 years old now and living in a family that doesn't have a whole lot of money, I'm well past the age where birthdays are very special anymore. But with all that happened last night, my 20th was certainly one to remember. So this brings the question: Reddit, what are some of your favorite birthday experiences?", "summary": "saw my favorite band play in my city on my birthday, made it to front row, had happy birthday sung to me by the band and everyone there, and got a signed setlist."}
{"id": "t3_3xzmxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my [20F] 2 months, things are moving so fast.", "post": "I recently got out of a 11 year relationship with my ex [31F]. \nI was a mess after our breakup and quickly moved on to dating a coworker [20F] of mine who I had been texting/flirting innocently with for the past few months. Within a week of my breakup I moved into a 1 bedroom apartment and she moved in with me. It has all been a blur. We have been together for 2 months and within the 1st month she told me she was in love with me. I am not completely present emotionally and I feel like my life with this girl is moving at an unhealthy pace. We work side by side at a coffee shop and go home together every night. We spend 24/7 together and I feel as though I am just letting the \"relationship\" happen with no effort on my part yet she is ecstatic, always enthusiastic and head over heels in love. I feel awful.", "summary": "Started dating my coworker 1 week after my breakup, things are moving too fast."}
{"id": "t3_2dtmvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31M] dating a girl [21f] that is moving away", "post": "For the last month and a bit I've been dating a European girl who is in Canada for an athletic scholarship.  We really have hit it off and like each other.  The issue is she is moving to another Canadian city for school right away. Mi knew about this when we first started dating but figured heck she's cute and I like her so lets see where this is going.\n\nI have fallen for this girl, don't know if it's a cultural thing but she is different than any other girl Ive known.  There is an obvious age gap her 21 me 31, I'd be open to dating her long distance but that convo has yet to happen.  \n\nShe is currently In europe And heading straight to school from there.  im not afraid to let her know how i feel im just not quite sure on how to breach the subject \n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "how to discuss a potential long term relationship with a girl you've just started dating."}
{"id": "t3_trsr0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have the same nightmare every night. What do you think it means, Reddit?", "post": "In my dream I'm rushing into the back door of my old high school (I'm 25/F), its nighttime and the weather is snowy. I walk down the hallway and see my old music teacher. She looks at her watch and says \"You're on in ten, hurry up.\" The realization hits me that I'm expected to be on stage in front of an audience in ten minutes. I hustle to my music locker and grab my flute and music folder (I played flute all through school, and still do). I'm thinking the entire time: \"what pieces are we playing?\" I look through the folder and there are at least 40 pieces of random paper falling out. Books, pamphlets, and graded tests are shoved in there; seemingly everything but music.\n\nNow, anxiety hits me that I can't find the music, and I don't even know what pieces they are. The other two girls I'm to perform with walk out onto the stage in front of the crowd (indiscriminate people), and set up. They're waiting for me\u2026. I don't know what to do. I sit in my chair on the stage, knowing that everyone in the crowd is waiting for us to start\u2026.but I can't perform. I don't have any idea why I'm there or what I'm supposed to be doing. Everyone stares at me as I panic.\n\nThen I wake up.\n\nI've had this dream several times a week ever since high school. Sometimes it will involve playing my flute; sometimes it will be singing a song for chorus/my band or presenting a paper in class, or even give a speech in front of random strangers. I freeze with the realization that I have no idea how I've gotten there or what I should be doing. It haunts me really, and I really have no clue what it would mean.", "summary": "I constantly have nightmares about performing in front of strangers. Every dream is similar in that I have no idea why I'm there or what I should be doing."}
{"id": "t3_4lwv67", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think i kinda goofed. Could use a bit of advice.", "post": "So, i (19,M) met a girl (18) at a local party. We talked, we danced, we drank and all that noise. Situation was: her \"friends\" left her there without telling her and just drove home without her so i invited her to my place because its like 1 kilometer from there. At first she didnt want to, she wanted to walk home but that meant like a 3 hours walk so i convinced her to stay. So we go back to my place and well go to bed and cuddle for a bit, no sexual interaction whatsoever because i didnt want to. When we woke up, we layed there for hours and just talked about stuff in general, really nice conversation. Next day, i drove her home and stayed there also, eating pizza and watching movies. At the evening, we met 2 friends of hers to go out, but decided to stay at her place and just chill and drink there for a bit. Same thing as other night, we slept and talked in the morning about random stuff. At late noon i drove home. We texted for a bit, and went on with our normal live until i texted her again for a bit, but she was really different in texting. Not rude, but she just seem to be very uninterested and the conversation, while not completely one sided, felt more like an interview with me as the interviewer. \n\nSo now the part where i think i did stoopid. I am honest, i am a bit afraid of texting with girls because some really do screenshot every bit you say and share it with their friends. So i went on with life, and to this day, we havent spoken in 11-12 days and i feel so bad about it because i really do like her, shes awesome. \nNow im just unsure what to start up a conversation with.... like should i just act like i normally do? What if she asks why i havent messaged for such a long time? \n\nThis is probably really stupid and not even a real problem and im way too overthinking it. But maybe someone can help. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "didnt text a girl i met for 11 days and i feel stupid, halp."}
{"id": "t3_1nw2al", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Florist Nightmare", "post": "So my florist was selected by my wedding planner who is also a close family member. She chose him because he does great work and has always provided great service. She was able to work some deal out with him to get my flowers within budget, we never flat out asked she just worked magic. She tries to get all her brides to go through him and uses him for other events. Well he showed up to our first meeting back in July and he seemed great. We live five hours away from where our wedding is taking place/florist so all the wedding stuff is a huge weekend event we plan in advance to prevent waste in gas. The first time I go back to my follow up meeting he had a family emergency, but didn't bother to call me. I waited with my MOH for an hour before leaving and trying his phone for the fifth time. He finally answered and had a legitimate excuse so I brushed it off and rescheduled for the next weekend. Next weekend comes around and we show up to our appointment. Thirty minutes past our appointment time and two voicemail's later(one from each me & FH) we left. He never bothered calling us back at all. I talked to my wedding planner that night and she was livid with him. She took care of everything and said he was to be calling and emailing me soon so we can move forward with a new arrangement. I asked about other florists, but they were all out of our budget. It's been two weeks and constant emailing with her about how he should be contacting me soon. I don't know what to do at this point. He has now given us a even bigger discount, but I have yet to even speak with him or receive any email. I don't know if I need to just suck it up and deal or go ahead and fire him and push my budget with another florist. I have 75 days and still nothing to show for in the floral department.", "summary": "Florist won't get in touch with me about my flowers but is giving us a great deal."}
{"id": "t3_fbqmv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help with my windows7 that has become aware of the fact that it's illegitimate.", "post": "so, long story short, my windows became a little self conscious about it being an illegitimate child and now it's bitching and it keeps showing me this:\n\n[I am an abomination, kill me and get a normal child, made in God's own image](\n\nbut even though this is a bastard windows, i still love it like my own child. i raised it, i thought it everything it knows, drivers, programs, i thought it how to write with Office (a bastard office), i introduced it to retro games, protected it from all the evil in the world (4chan) using protection software and i even gave it it's first porn movie. I'm invested in this windows, and i love it, despite it's shortcomings. It's MY windows, goddammit!\n\nBut i wanna shut it up and get rid of this inferiority complex it has of not being pure-breed (or bread?) cause even love has it's limits and if it won't shut up... well, domestic violence is a sad thing.\n\ncan anyone help my windows get over it's insecurities and learn to love itself, like i do? (love it, not myself)", "summary": "windows keeps telling me it's not genuine. i know it's not, how can i get it to stop telling me?"}
{"id": "t3_2jub02", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Medical bills/workman's comp question.", "post": "Five years ago, I was injured at work. I broke my leg during a fall on the ice. Fractured fibula along with a lot of damage to my ankle. It had to go to litigation for me to receive workman's compensation. I didn't have health insurance at the time. I paid what I could out of pocket and with the help of my mother. I received charity care from the hospital I went to. I paid what I could to the orthopedic surgeon. I know that I still had a few outstanding bills. The bills went to collections (even after I told these places that my case was in litigation.) When the collections agencies called, I told them the the case was being litigated and the calls stopped.\n\nA few months ago, after a long LONG time, I was awarded a settlement. In the time since my injury, I achieved gainful employment, moved out of my mother's house, and got married. I've made trips to my mother's to try and find the old bills that she was 'filing' for me at the time. No luck in finding them. I got my credit report from creditkarma.com and there's nothing in the 'collections' section. My wife says that after a period of time, medical bills will just 'go away.' So now I have a bank account with just over $10K that I'm terrified to touch. What is your advice reddit?", "summary": "Got hurt at work, didn't get immediate worker's comp. Litigation kept collections off my back. Litigation is finally over and no one has their hand out for payment. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3g5kq2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "SV: Lost 30 lbs and no longer obese!", "post": "Hi, I've been lurking around this subreddit for the past few months but I finally decided to make a post after checking the scale this morning. I initially started trying to loose weight in January as a new years resolution but didn't have any knowledge on how to do it properly and when April hit I realize what I was doing wasn't working as a reached a peak of 238. After that and a brief period of sadness I stumbled on to this subreddit and started reading the FAQ. I used MFP and counting my calories and been keeping track of my calories burned at the gym. I began seeing results after 2 weeks and it kept me going. The hardest part I had was for the past month where I a maintained a weight plateau because of all the family and friend gatherings and the shin splint I have on my leg from constant running/jump roping. However, I'm happy I finally broke it!\n\nEarlier this year I could not even jog for 5 minutes without losing my breath but now I can run a mile at a steady pace. I'm also noticing I am getting stronger too and I get amazed at change that has happened in the past few months. Still I realize I am only half way in my goals. I'm hoping to lose 25-30 more and I can join the military once I am fit enough. Lastly, I would like to thank this subreddit in general as it prevented me from giving up when I kept seeing other people's progress!", "summary": "5'10 SW: 238  CW: 208"}
{"id": "t3_3elbc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [24M] of 2 years were talking about our (possible) future children (not pregnant!) and ear piercings.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I were talking about kids and the topic of ear piercings came up. To give some background, I am from India, now living in the U.S., and my boyfriend is American. \n\nI'm not very traditional (eat beef, not religious), but in my culture, young girls have their ears pierced before they turn two years old (some girls have their ears pierced when they're only a few months old). There are two major reasons for this: (1) Indians believe that the ear lobe is still very soft when children are that young so it will hurt significantly less and (2) it is traditional for mothers to give daughters earrings as family heirlooms. Girls wear these while they're growing up. I think that waiting to pierce her ears is unnecessary and painful, when she won't remember anything at all as a baby. \n\nMy boyfriend thinks that this is way too early and that you should wait for the girl to make her own choice later (he says somewhere around 6-10 years old at the earliest). He believes that you are taking the choice away from the girl about whether she wants her ears pierced at all.\n\nI feel that this is a gift to give my daughter so that I can pass on my heirloom jewellery to her. Does my boyfriend have a point (is it too early), or is there a way to compromise?", "summary": "My boyfriend thinks that piercing our (possible) future daughter's ears before 6 years old is too early. I think that it is cruel to wait until she is older and would therefore be in significantly more pain."}
{"id": "t3_w5vie", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So what is the worst \"quick and easy tip/trick\" you know.", "post": "I have heard from many people that peelings potato after it\nHas been boiled is an easier way to go about the process. I have tried this and must say it SUCKS. You have to wait for the potatoes to cool down for so long before you can touch them to do this that you immediately loose any time gained by the peel coming off easier and forget about mash potatoes cause by this point they are too cold and then it isn't even good for cold applications (salad) cause during peeling is when you are able to get all of the \"eyes\" and rotten bits out. Not gonna work with potatoes that are cooked. The whole thin falls apart.", "summary": "got a bad tip about potatoe peeling, what \"easy/quick\" tips have you gotten that suck ( not necessarily food related)"}
{"id": "t3_igc6c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I suffer from night terrors?", "post": "Since I was a kid I have, on occasion, had abstract dreams without any real content that would leave me paralyzed with fear. The dreams would not make any sense, basically it would just be a sequence that loops over and over until I am so afraid that I wake up, delusional and still in a state of fear. It wears of after a while and never returns the same night. They where most frequent between ages 7-12 or something like that. I never really gave it that much thought but today it happened again and I figured I would ask you guys if any of you have experienced anything similar and what it might mean?", "summary": "As a child I would have wierd dreams that left me paralyzed with fear."}
{"id": "t3_tujd6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We all have a crazy family member, who is your's and why are they crazy? I'll start (crazy uncle)", "post": "I have a middle aged uncle who has OCD and he is a straight up asshole. He lives with us and every time my dad tells him to get a job or to gtfo he chimes in with a \"fact\" that he used to support my dad. He hadn't worked in over 20 years up until 2 years ago when he worked for half a year before quitting and he still does't work. He always tries to start fights with me and my dad and when we stand up for ourselves h says that he's crazy and that he's going to kill us one of these days. I seriously want to punch him in the face but since he's a mama's boy (she also lives with us) she stands up for him and protects him even though he is clearly in the wrong. His OCD habits drive me insane and I laugh at him but it still gets in my nerves. He is also a wannabe hardass but a bad one at that. Two days ago he started talking shit about me and I started stalking back smack and he thinks he's this buff motherfucker but in reality he's a short mexican midget who hasn't worked out in years. So I stand up when he started talking shit and he realized that, since I'm taller and won't take any of his shit, I wasn't playing around so he quickly turned around and started mumbling shit. My grandma stood up for him when he walked away and I ignored her. Every time my dad tells him to get a job he also counters with the fact that me and my brother don't work, even though both of our ages added together still equals less than his age. He drives me insane.", "summary": "Crazy uncle threatens to kill me and dad, picks fights with us and is a lazy good for nothing asshole."}
{"id": "t3_gymax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell a girl to go away?", "post": "Hi, I'm a long-time lurker (5 years) and onetime heavy poster whose reddit addiction has been in remission for a while. I do realise that this is an unusual request, seeing as how most of the reddit pack are looking for ways to initiate contact with the fairer sex and not break it off, so bear with me.\n\nI'd been chasing this girl for the last three months. She's beautiful and incredibly nice. Turns out though, she has a boyfriend. Now I knew this for a while, but I was all like [\"challenge accepted\"] and decided to go on with it anyway. Particularly because her boyfriend, while a nice guy, is shy and rather boring (they hardly ever do anything together). We went on a few dates, drank coffee, had dinner, etc. As of the last few weeks, however, I've been making [no progress past this stage] I can't really see much romance coming from her. It's all very friend-zony at this juncture, so I want to end it. The problem is, that she still keeps calling and texting me and wanting to meet up. I don't want to be friends with her, so I need some advice on how to get rid of her, short of telling her to [\"fuck off\"] Preferrably, I'd like to part on fairly amicable terms, because we study the same course and will invariably see eachother there. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Advances aren't going anywhere and I don't want to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_q5l2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR and the future", "post": "I'm in a bit of dilemma and need some objective advice. To start, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year; I'm 21 and he's 22. We're both finishing up our degrees this year - he has already been hired for 2 years with a great company, in a city 3 hours away. I unfortunately, am floundering with my future; I have the option to do a masters, take a different 2 to 4 year degree or start looking for jobs with my bachelors.\n\nOn the whole, we're happy and I care about him a lot, but my lack of a solid 'plan' for the next two years is starting to make me doubt whether the relationship can work long term (and long distance, although my family lives in the same city as he is working). I've talked to him about my hesitations and he sort of shuts down. I know he wants to try long distance but when I ask him what will happen if after 2 years, we're still together, he says he hasn't even thought about it.\n\nI am having trouble determining what I should be considering and what I should leave to 'fate' '(so to speak), when deciding if I want to make the effort to stay together. How do I not obsess about the details? What are the important questions I need to ask myself and I how do I approach him without threatening him with 'too much, too soon'?", "summary": "Boyfriend and me are graduating. He has a job a city away. I don't know what to do with my life. Do we try to make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_iucdf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit, i need your aid!", "post": "hey guys, my brother is having some problems, and i was wondering if anyone with legal experience could help us out. i know, i know, its not official, but its better than nothing.\n\nanyway, my brother was approached at work by one of his co-workers selling a motorcycle. the bike is a honda cbr-600 f4i, perfect condition, 4.8k miles, but its just a few years old. The lady who approached my brother said that she wanted it out of her garage because it was taking up space and she had no use for it, and neither did her husband.\n\nmy brother goes to look at the bike, along with my dad who is a bike nut, and talks with the lady's husband. He says its been sitting in the garage for a few years and that it probably needs the oil changed and the gas removed from the tank. The guy says he will sell the bike for 2.5k, a steal considering the bike is worth at least 5k. The low price is mainly because he just wanted it gone.\n\nthis was about a month ago.\n\nFast forward to today. My brother has gotten his motorcycle permit, changed the oil, changed the battery, removed and drained the gas tank, and changed the oil filter. He is proud because he is going to take it to get registered. Goes to the DMV and what do we find? that in 2008 the owners tried to have it registered in CA and found that, to their dismay, it needed at least 7.6k miles and since it did not it could never be registered in CA.\n\nso, reddit, i come to you in a time of need. what is our plan of action?\n\nif my brother sues, is there a case? \n\nif he wins, does he have to give them back the bike?", "summary": "brother bought motorcycle, did a great deal of work to it, found it cannot be registered in CA and the owners knew this when selling it to him. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_nos8y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit, what is your most awkward sexual experience? (NSFW)", "post": "I would have to say that mine was during sophomore year of college. I had been at a party and ending up going back to my room with a guy that I vaguely knew (you know what I mean, one of those guys you're \"friends\" with but don't actually know that well). One thing led to another and I found myself going down on him. After maybe 15 seconds I suddenly felt a warm spurting in my mouth. Now, I wasn't an innocent virgin, I knew what to expect from the end of good head, but I had been doing my thing for such a short amount of time that I couldn't quite fathom what had happened (keep in mind I was also not ENTIRELY sober). Well I sat up and said in a rather shocked voice, \"dude, did you just pee?\" He gave me the most horrified look and responded \"um...no...I...well...it's just that it's been a while\" and couldn't really get past that. I of course was mortified, but the poor guy must have felt worse. He stared at me for a minute then reached down, squeezed my boob, got up, got dressed and walked out.", "summary": "a guy finished so quickly that I thought he'd peed in my mouth"}
{"id": "t3_2ird1o", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "[need advice] Job hunt not going well, should I try to get a post-grad internship?", "post": "Technically I am making a \"career switch\". I'd like to be doing digital marketing (and my degree had something to do with digital marketing, although the degree was a general \"business\" degree). I graduated two years ago, and I have been working as an administrative assistant for the last seven years. In my free time I run one social media account for a nonprofit and it's doing really well.\n\nI have been getting a few interviews, but I think my lack of direct experience is putting me behind the rest of the candidates. My job situation right now is sort of flexible - if I need to I can go part-time at my current job and part-time somewhere else.\n\nI have seen a few articles suggesting I try to get a post-graduate internship from a company that isn't necessarily \"hiring\", but that may be able to give me more direct experience. I am a little wary of this because I feel like companies don't really want unsolicited resumes coming in. I also am not sure how I would go about asking for a position like that, nor what the laws are as far as if they would have to pay me (I'm in Florida, if laws differ by state). I wouldn't mind taking a part-time internship where I don't get paid, but I'm not sure that would be legal since I'm not in school and I wouldn't want to get anyone in trouble. \n\nI could try to volunteer somewhere else that needs someone to run their social media, but I'd prefer to work somewhere that does Digital Marketing only so I can get training in all aspects of digital marketing - from SEO to Ads and Social media.\n\nso", "summary": "My Questions are:"}
{"id": "t3_31l75g", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Need tips / some motivation", "post": "I've started writing my first book, which so far has been a rather pleasant experience. Getting to put all my characters, settings, and ideas in general on paper is a very rewarding experience for me. I spent a month or so hammering out a small outline then jumped right into my first manuscript, mostly because I enjoy a hybrid of outline and freewriting. Also just to note, I'm no self proclaimed amazing writer and I'm often rewriting my grammatical blasphemies. I'm about 20 pages or so into it and I just can't seem to get back on the keyboard. I get excited at work thinking I get to go home and spend a few hours hammering out a couple of pages, but then I get home, sit down, and just stare at the screen. And then I feel slightly self defeated and just go \"Meh tomorrow I'll get back to it.\" Then I spend my time either playing LoL, watching netflix, or call up a few friends for a night at the bar. If anyone has any tips or tricks on how to get back in the saddle or some motivation I'd appreciate it greatly. I'm just looking forward to finishing this project and enjoy the journey as well, just seems like I blew a tire at the moment.", "summary": "Blew a tire, hand me a jack..."}
{"id": "t3_iz2o0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is wrong with me? (or am i just lazy?)", "post": "This is a throw away account as I have friends that Reddit and well, I'm sure you all know the drill. Anyways!\n\nSo I have been studding engineering at a pretty decent University for the past couple of years. Recently however my parents have decided to pull me out of school because I am basically failing out of engineering. I am not angry about this as I agree with their decision. Engineering is the only subject I have any real passion for. However I refuse to put in the time and get through the calculus series.\n\nI is not like i did not see this coming. My parents had warned me several times that they would pull me from school if things continued as they did. But despite this and despite how much i like being at school, despite how much I knew I would hate going back home I did nothing about it. \n\nI've always lacked motivation, its like muted grey dullness I feel about most things in my life, as if most of the time I am only going though the motions. As terrible as it sounds the only time I ever really feel something is when I'm on something. Most of the time its been pretty bearable and I could handle myself well enough (though obviously not well enough to stay in engineering) I suppose not we but ever since moving back home it had just been worse. I sleep all the time, I eat way less, I don't want to answer when friends call/txt, I don't pursue any of my hobbies anymore. I just sit, reddit and watch movies. \n\nBeing around my parents all the time also just make me irritated and short tempered toward them even though I know they are only trying to help me. I want to get my life back on track, but I am not sure how to get out of this rut/habitual cycle of not doing what is needed to succeed. Does anyone have any advice?", "summary": "Pulled out of college because got kicked out of engineering. Do I just need to stop bitching and not be lazy or is there something else I should try to do?"}
{"id": "t3_mkqaz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the strangest/meanest way you've been told you were one of the best?", "post": "Three weeks ago I quit my job waiting tables to take a job opening a brand new restaurant in a very nice neighborhood.  The restaurant is known nation wide and the new store is 10,000+ square feet, so they hired around 70 servers to help open. Tonight was a dry run for friends and family and before the shift he called out names, including mine, said that he needed to talk to us all outside before the shift.  With a frown on his face, the corporate trainer told us, \"There's no easy way to do this.  We are making some changes, and we've decided to let you all go... HOME FOR THE NIGHT!\"  He then explains that we are all the top servers there and he wants us to be the ones who wait on the bloggers/critics.  I almost threw up all over the place.  What's the strangest/meanest way you've been told you were the best?", "summary": "I was made to believe that I was being fired, and then told I was in the top 15 of the company."}
{"id": "t3_rtbuf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most recent SAP moment? I'll share mine.", "post": "I woke up to 3-4 inches of snow on the ground, and wind. My golf class at my University begins at 11:30 a.m. and the attendance policy is strict. Miss a class or two and fail. I checked my email every ten minutes to make sure that I would be able to see if my instructor sent out a class cancellation message. It never came. So I bundled up, got into my car and paid for parking, instead of walking 30 minutes in crap weather. I then walked to the little shack on the driving course and lo and behold- no body there. Everyone got the message that class was canceled except for a 22 year-old senior undergrad. That is definitely a point in my life I will remember feeling like a total loser.", "summary": "I thought people played golf in the snow. They don't."}
{"id": "t3_h57rr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear hive mind, can we talk about Glee?", "post": "It's obvious that the larger (or at least more vocal) part of the reddit community is againt the TV show Glee. Usually there's a reason why the hive mind is against something, for example Twilight was just bad, Republicans hate poor people, Scandinavia is paradise, etc... \n\nBut why Glee? I like Glee, and I find it annoying that I can't talk about Glee on reddit without getting downvoted or getting a OLOLOLOL GLEE reply. \n\nIt's not like Glee hates the poor, it's not like Glee is a terrible show. Hell, the songs aren't that bad either. \n\nBut most importantly, in Glee they frequently talk about current issues in a way that I think Reddit would approve. Instead of showing a gay guy as some cross-dresser who talks with a high voice they portray them as normal people, as they are. \n\nThey also talk about alcohol, bullying, self-esteem issues, etc. \n\nSure, the director or whatever acted like an asshole because he was denied a few songs, but does that mean that automatically one must hate the show? Besides he apologized.\n\nAlso, I can point out specific episodes where they focus on a particular issue if you need a 'citation' or so. \n\nFeel free to correct my grammar btw, it was painful writing this knowing I messed up in places, yet had no idea how to make the sentences better.", "summary": "Reddit say Glee sucks, but why?"}
{"id": "t3_2htzhw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to I compliment my plus size girlfriend on her weight loss without it being awkward?", "post": "My girlfriend (28f) and I (29m) have been together for about four years. She is amazingly beautiful, both inside and out, and I plan on asking her to be my wife within the next few months.\n\nMy girlfriend has always been a big girl. I would estimate she was about 250lbs the entire time we have been dating. (I would be in love with her at any weight, size, shape, etc...) Over the past few months, she has been making a concentrated effort to lose weight. She has been going to the gym and has met with a nutritionist. You can see her progress, most notably in her midsection and rear end. I know she is looking to me for approval, but I am having trouble starting the conversation. \n\nHer weight has never been discussed at length. It is a non issue for me. I want to tell her how good she looks and how proud I am of her, but I don't want her to think that I found her unattractive before. I love my girlfriend so much. I want to tell her how proud of her I am. How do I start the conversation?", "summary": "My plus size girlfriend is losing weight. I don't want to make her feel like she was unattractive before. How do I start the conversation?"}
{"id": "t3_1tdqb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my 4 month [25 F] GF. Would you be okay with your partner spending alone time with someone that liked them.", "post": "This 30 year old male lives down the street form my gf. He clearly has his intentions on her. He recently became an extremely active member in a club she is in, and she finds him to be just great.\n\nAnyway, I'm not sure if she can see he likes her. It's quite obvious to me. (I could be wrong, but I've seen this in my past, and I doubt I am wrong.)\n\nShe drove home, 6 hours away and asked if he wanted a ride to split gas, since they are from the same city. This kind of bothered me. He said no, because his dog kennel wouldn't fit in the car and he wanted to leave on a later date.\n\nShe has done nothing to indicate she would cheat. I know the dudes brother, and he cheated on a friend of mine. So I almost feel bad blood.\n\nI don't want to be controlling, saying you can't hang out with X, but I feel uncomfortable. What's more is he is a professor at our school, and she signed up for his class next semester.\n\nI feel the guy is a snake in the grass, I don't trust him. I've been cheated on in the past in a very similar situation. (She worked with the guy, he was fantastic had a girlfriend so obviously wasn't into her, I told her he was into her. A picture popped up while they were at some company thing of them making out.)\n\nI feel my only choices are to not say anything and trust her, or say something because I do not trust her.\n\nI probably won't say anything, and will expect to be cheated on.", "summary": "Would you trust your SO spending alone time with someone who clearly wanted them, where do you draw the line?"}
{"id": "t3_1jteiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend with eczema [22/F] told me [27/M] that I can sleep with another girl because she lost her sex drive (4 month no sex)", "post": "So yeah my girlfriend repeated me that I can sleep with another woman because she feels bad that she lost her sexual drive since her eczema has been really bad (4 months of perpetual rashes now)... \n\nObviously, I don't want to because I love her...\n\nHowever, she made me unsecure, I'm not sure of the reason why she lost her sexual drive, is it the eczema? Is it because she cheated on me? Is it because her job is stressing her out?\n\nI don't want to start an huge fight and have to justify the reasons of all of my questions to her..\n\nSo! What do you guys think this could mean?", "summary": "Girlfriend with severe eczema suddenly lost her sex drive and told me that I can sleep with another girl, why ?"}
{"id": "t3_1q0rwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] Dad, in a long term relationship being pursued by [20/F] and I feel wanted again", "post": "I [30/M] have been in a relationship with my SO [31/F] for almost 10 years.  We have a two-year old, but even before her conception the spice and mutual interest was missing and that has been a downward road to sitting in silence at the dinner table and constant tiredness from working and dealing with the child.  We have few common iterests left and I feel neglected and bullied at times at home.  Her temper is becoming a constant annoyance to me.\n\n---\nNow a month ago I have noticed some interest from a younger aquaintance [20/F]and although I did not specifically act on them, I did on a couple of occasions put myself in a position to be near her.  I at no point flirted and kept our relationship professional. She gets hit on enough at our office and did not want to add to her misery.  I just thought it would be nice to have the warm glow of admiration on me fr once again.\n\nWork drinks and she hits on me.  Hard.  I don't reciprocate, but I also don't run away.  Evening ends with a little bit of sexy talk and some light making out.\n\n---\nFast forward to now. We've chatted online, but no more than that.  Now she wants to move it to the next level and have a sexual affair.\nI haven't felt this invigorated in years. My libido suddenly returned where I had hardly noticed it had even reduced. She says she'd leave her BF for me and could see herself having a proper relationship with me, but will (for now) be happy with a physical relationship.\n\n---\nI like feeling good, wanted and sexy again, but I don't want to be ''that guy'' who blew up his long-term relationship for a fling, putting my relationship with my daughter at risk.  My SO would for sure make my life a living hell if this came out. \nI dream about ''running away with her'' and corny things like that, but am I just being silly and letting my hormones rule my common sense?", "summary": "Me, dad in long-term relationship am being seduced by a younger woman and I don't know whether to act on it or not."}
{"id": "t3_2bjyop", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By leaving the water on.", "post": "Backstory.  I live in the basement of our house.  Been known to leak water from time to time, but nothing too worrisome.  In my room on one table in the center of the room I have my Xbox One, Xbox 360, and laptop computer.  Also a bunch of games, and a nice video camera. \n\nAnyway, today I wake up to go to work and as I am upstairs washing my hands, my ride to work  honks the horn.  Without thinking I open the front door and tell him to give me a minute.  I dry my hands off and off I go to work.  Fast foward to about 5:00 pm and I get home from a long day of work.  Go downstairs to my room and I notice that one piece of drywall is laying on my table.  I'm not worried at the moment because I was thinking someone was doing some renovation and didn't clean up.  No big deal.  I move the drywall over and my table is completely wet.  Fearing the worst I check the Xbox 360 sitting on the Xbox One, worst fears confirmed.\n\nI unplug everything as quick as I can and pick up the 360, slight water damage, might be fixable, nothing to worry about.  Then I pick up the Xbox One and turn it to it's side.  Water falls out, about 12 ounces by my estimation.  Pick my laptop up, no water comes out, but it has been sitting in a pool of water.  $1300 worth of equipment gone and no way of replacing any of it anytime soon (that job I went to, barely pays unless it's a specific contract I pick up).\n\nRight now I have the three major items drying outside.  Any tips to salvage any of these three major items would be of great help.", "summary": "Went to work leaving the kitchen faucet on and came home to $1300 worth of garbage (more than likely)."}
{"id": "t3_ppwd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my GF only interested in what I can do for her?", "post": "I am 26 years old.  She is 23 years old.  We have been \"dating\" for about 6 months.\n\nHello reddit, your opinions are greatly appreciated.  In the beginning of our relationship, I have taken my girlfriend (23yrs old) to everything I can think of.  Going out to dinners/concerts/trips.  She never pays a dime, nor have I asked her to.  She is a broke college kid, and I have a pretty decent paying job.. At first she made it pretty clear we were just kind of friends, then friends with benefits, now we are dating... (weird i know).  .\n\nBut anyways, recently I moved out to NY to work for a financial institution.  She tells me she misses me a lot and wishes I was there to be with her, (especially today being V-day).  Our plans are for her to come out and see me on the 24th-28th... When she thought I flew back into town to visit/surprise her for vday, she told me that she would be pissed if she saw me today because that means she didnt think she would come see me in NY.. wtf?  We also have plans for her spring break.. and again I would be paying for it all... \n\nBasically am I dating someone that is using me for my money?  I may be sounding one sided as I write this, so the obvious answer is yes... but how do I really know?  I even confronted her about this before I left for NY, and she didnt think she was... She even offered to pay for her ticket to come see me in NY... idk.. what do you guys/gals think?", "summary": "I am suspecting my relationship is based on what I can do..and not for who I am..  is she just using me for what I can do based on the things I do?  How do I truly find out?"}
{"id": "t3_3pqw54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I'm [M/22] in an emotionally abusive relationship with my SO [F/26].", "post": "I've posted here a few times before and it always feels so good to have the input of others. So I'd like to thank the community in advance.\n\nWhen we are good, we're good. We can have fun and we enjoy each other's company. However, there have been many occasions where I've thought to myself \"that's not right\" when gets upset at me or expects certain things.\n\nI google'd signs of an emotionally abusive relationship and I was going through the list and found myself agreeing to more than half of the signs:\n\n- I feel like I need permission to do certain things.\n- If she's upset, I need to come 'fix' things.\n- Whenever we fight she says I'm too sensitive and need to get over certain things faster.\n- She scolds me or tells me she doesn't like my behavior.\n- Sarcasm / harsh words during arguments.\n- Whenever we are trying to figure out a conflict she says \"You're always right and I'm always wrong.\"\n- She gets pissed if she feels disrespected in anyway and by anyone.\n- If I tell her something bothers me or that she did something wrong to me, she finds a way to be upset at me. \"I don't like the way you approached me.\" \"Why are you making this a big deal?\"\n- She gets upset at me if I do a certain thing. If she does the same thing, it's fine. She thinks it's not right for me to say \"you got upset at me for that, I don't think you should do it either.\"\n\nHow the heck do I approach this...I find myself apologizing more than I think I should be. I am not the type of person to get angry or let my emotions dictate my arguments. The thing is when we're good we're good but sometimes I don't know how to approach her with my concerns. When she gets sad or hurt, I feel so bad.\nHow do I approach this issue? Is there a way to inform her of this behavior and help her fix this?", "summary": "I think I may be in an emotionally abusive relationship. I don't know how to approach the issue."}
{"id": "t3_1r30se", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Seeking advice: My office is dissolving and I'm about to be unemployed; I have a small amount of money in the company's \"profit sharing\" plan. I'm being told to roll it over into an IRA...what should I know/do?", "post": "I don't know what information is pertinent so I'm just going to throw data out there:  I'm 29 but for my entire life my finances (and my older brothers' finances) have mostly been in the hands of my mother and before he died, my father.  So...I'm a little clueless.  \n\nI worked at this place just over 5 years and have accrued just under $5k in profit-sharing.  I get that if I took the money *now* (to supplement rent/food etc while job hunting or blow on a", "summary": "Being laid off as company dissolves; just under $5k in profit-sharing...being told to roll into IRA.  No understanding of finances or savings at all...need advice/guidance of any kind."}
{"id": "t3_29xrvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my boyfriend [23/M] for six months, totally unapologetic after incident on metro.", "post": "I was on the train with my boyfriend of six months yesterday. We were standing in a really cramped subway car and he was essentially pressed up against me. At first, I thought it was some creep because he was like groping me, but then I realized it was my bf and thought nothing of it. \n\nAnyway, the train pulls into the next station HARD. For some reason, the idiots that built the station built the direction of the platform at a forty-five degree angle to the direction of the trains, so we hit a huge curve and \n\nBAM!\n\nmy boyfriend's foot comes smashing down onto my toes. I'm wincing in pain as I hold on for dear life as this train makes this break-neck curve and almost crying as it comes to a stop in the station. I ask my boyfriend if he realizes that he unleashed the pain of seven hells on my foot and he just says \"so what? Shit happens.\" \n\nBut wait, there's more! \n\nThe train now accelerates out of the station and it goes again around another curve faster than a speeding bullet. I look at my feet again to make sure I'm not missing any toes from the last encounter with a giant male-sized shoe, but instead I see my boyfriend accidentally tumble into this cute Chinese girl standing in the door. Immediately he's apologizing profusely; \"I'm so sorry did I hurt you????\"\n\nShe looked at him kinda angry but then said everything was okay. Then the two of them chatted all the way to our stop while I sat there almost tearing up from the burning sensation in my foot. \n\nWhat should I do, reddit? Am I over-reacting here?", "summary": "Boyfriend stepped on my foot hard and didn't say sorry, then stepped on another girl's foot and apologized profusely and proceeded to chat with her for the next fifteen minutes. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ho1wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure about date ! (26 f/28 m / 2 months)", "post": "I have been seeing this guy for nearly 2 months. He is the most sweet and empathic person I have ever met. We share the same values and have same goals in life and I like how he is introvert like me and down to earth. \n\nHowever since I met him I have this big doubt in my heart that I can't put into words. I'm not sure if it's because I just got out of a 6 year old relationship 7 months ago and dating is all new to me. But I am not in love with him. I can't decide if he is the one for me and it tears me up because the more time I need to figure it out the more I will hurt him! \n\nI just don't feel any spark or any ping pong in our conversations. Honestly I think he is kinda boring (he is 28 but I think his behavior is more like a 40 year old) (I'm 26 btw) and i dont think he is fun in any way - humor means a lot to me. We are sexualy attracted to each other and I could see how we could get a long in a relationship, say, if we lived together because we match quite well. \nBut something in me is just not feeling it and I feel horrible for it. Other times the doubt is gone and I tell my self 'he is the one' but it's rare :(  please no mean comments I just really need to hear people's opinion on this. \n\nI'm really afraid of losing something I might regret - because he is such a good guy and they are rare to find. Which is why I'm not sure why I have this doubt in me - because he is what I have always dreamt for except the lack of humor.", "summary": "new relationship is boring, but we would get a long really well and share same values and beliefs but I'm doubting and have been all the time ! If he is the right one"}
{"id": "t3_2moss3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not realizing a Tinder girl was my coworker.", "post": "I work in a cool chain retail place of about 100 in my city.  My job here is to work for people who call in sick, meaning if Joe calls in sick during my 2-10 shift, I leave my base store and drive to Joe's to work.\n\nWell I matched with this Tinder girl, and her profile picture had a picture of her in our company uniform, and she was a QT 3.14159 so naturally I started a convo, and we texted for a few days and I asked another coworker about her, whom said that she was basically the type of person who is a 9/10 in pictures, and a 4/10 in person.\n\nCue Today, I was sent to a store working with one of my favorite assistant managers, and the topic of Tinder came up.  I said that 1/2 of the girls on there are hot, and of that, 1/2 of them are actually hot in person, usually they just take fake pictures to make themselves look way more attractive than they are.  I then told him about the girl from our company I matched with.  This is where the FU happens.  He says \"You mean Anon over there?\" and she looks up.  Turns out I was 5 hours into an 8 hour shift with this chick but she digitally selected her Tinder pictures so perfectly, I had no idea who she really was.  So she luckily didn't hear and the rest of the shift was me being teased for using Tinder, and my bro assistant manager dropping hints to her about how we should get together.", "summary": "Matched with an 9/10 girl on Tinder, told assistant manager how all Tinder girls are really ugly but manipulate their profile, turns out I was halfway into a shift with said Tinder girl."}
{"id": "t3_2883us", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Ex(kinda?) [16 F] problems from leaving for college/handling long(again kinda) distance relationships.", "post": "I started dating my gf about a year ago, and man I think I'm in love. Trust me I hesitate to say that, but in the past year there \n\nhasn't been a second I've regretted spending with her, she's kind and we get along so well it's like she was made for me. However I \n\njust graduated from out high school this past May, and she'll be a junior this year. I will be attending college not to far from our \n\ntown actually (It's about 45 minutes by car without traffic hour and a half with) but she fears with it being an apparently tough \n\nschool that we won't be able to maintain our relationship. That being the case she decided the best thing to do would be to end our \n\nties now and make it less painful on us in the long run. It's been two weeks since then and I still just can't stop thinking about her, \n\nand I'm sure that's normal, it's just that I could really see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl. I made sure that she \n\ndidn't have any ulterior motives to breaking up with me (like if maybe she actually didn't like me anymore and is trying not to hurt \n\nmy feelings) but that doesn't seem to be the case, she swears up and down that she still loves but that this is the best for the both \n\nof us. All this to say, I really want to get back together and try and make this work, but is that really the right thing to do? Even \n\nif it's what I want would it be fair to her? Am I just being a cliche teenager in love? I really don't want this to be over at least \n\ndefinitely not like this. What should I do/Any advice?", "summary": "Going to college and debating whether or not I should cut it off with my gf completely. I still love her, she (apparently) still loves me and I would like to continue the relationship if possible (semi-long distance) Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1f4wkh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "LGBT redditors, I'm coming out to my very religious Family. How did your family take it?", "post": "A few weeks ago my girlfriend of 4 years, been living together for 3 ended everything while out of town with a 30 second phone call. Due to this I have been forced to give up my  place and move back with my very religious family until I can get back on my feet. Now I've been for the most part openly bi with my friends but my parents and just about my entire family has no idea. The reason I'm coming out is because the amount of stress this is causing me and it's just building up inside of me. This has been putting my mindset in a really bad place. I spent the weekend visiting my uncle and his partner talking to them about it. They think that I should come out to the family because they can see what it is doing to be. I've wanted to do this for a few years now but didn't see the point due to being in a relationship with a women. Now that I'm not I want to just be open and not have to hide it.", "summary": "The stress of my family not knowing I'm bi is making me go insane."}
{"id": "t3_4gmy7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F], him [27M], what gives?", "post": "I'll make this extremely simple. \n\nEverything is perfect, except for this one little thing. We have an amazing sex life. I know his parents, he knows mine. My parents love him and vice versa. Our friend groups have been heavily incorporated as well. Neither of us have any intention of going anywhere any time soon. \n\nFor all intents and purposes, we are boyfriend and girlfriend. But he is just extremely avoidant of it. He \"doesn't want a girlfriend right now,\" but I'm his \"lady,\" \"lover,\" \"girl,\" any other pet name. It's just semantics at this point.\n\nCan anyone give me some insight into this? On one hand I don't know why it bothers me so much but on the other hand I don't know why it bothers HIM so much! We're both pretty liberal and open whatever that means.\n\nI just want to tell him to shut up and get over it, I'm your girlfriend whether you like it or not. But I also want him to ask, or something. I just want to feel special. But I also DO feel special, he makes me extremely happy etc. I feel like I'm being crazy, help Reddit.", "summary": "Am I crazy for wanting/needing that title?"}
{"id": "t3_134c13", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "29/m found text on 28/f's phone to her ex", "post": "Been dating a girl for about 5 months now. Things have been good, but she has been a little distant these past few weeks. Hanging out a few nights ago and see that she gets a text from an ex who she has talked down about a lot. The text is a little fishy, so i open up the thread and see that she has told him that she dreams about them hooking up. This has really been bothering me, but I am not sure if I am overreacting. I understand that you can't control your dreams, but admitting it to an ex who wants you back?? I am hesitant to talk to her about it because of the whole 'I went through your texts' conversation, and also I am not sure if this is as big of a deal as I am making it out to be in my head.\n\nSo, am i blowing this out of proportion? Should I talk to her about it? Any and all advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "girlfriend texted ex, who wants her back, saying she dreams about him in a sexual way, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3a2aau", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "[help] Dog peeing when left alone and struggling with socialization", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI have a 1-2 year old rescue shepherd mix (I've heard husky mix or Schipperke as well) that has struggled with separation anxiety and leash reactivity since I adopted her 4 months ago. She's made huge strides in crate training, but recently she has started to pee when left alone outside of the crate even for 5 minutes. If I run upstairs for more than 5 minutes, I am almost guaranteed to come back down to a HUGE puddle of pee in the living room or in front of the patio door. She struggled a lot with housetraining at first to the point I thought she had a UTI. Since then I have limited her water intake (16oz of water 2-3 times a day) and take her out frequently to relieve herself. Obviously this is not a solution to the anxiety induced urination, but it has helped the frequency of accidents. The only time she's actively peed in front of me in the house is when she's sniffing at the door of the room the cats are in.\n\nAny advice on how to address this other than patience? When I crate her before I leave for work, she reluctantly goes into the crate but rarely does she have an accident in the crate or cry/bark anymore. She is not a destructive dog and I'd eventually like to leave her out of the crate when I run an errand rather than crate her for an hour or two. \n\nShe's a super sweet dog and we had our first successful(ish) interaction with some dogs last night after months of reactivity. She used to bark and jump like a lunatic when she'd see a dog \u2013 the trainer I used said it was a result of frustration and didn't seem aggressive. But last night on our walk we met a dog and she calmly went up but then proceeded to put her front paws on the dogs neck and just stand there as if holding her in place. She did the same to the next two dogs all the while wagging her tail. I assume she just needs time to figure out how to properly socialize but I want to keep her from setting off a dog with what seems to be like dominant behavior.", "summary": "Rescue dog pees (A LOT quantity wise) when left alone, even for a short period and is maybe not properly introducing/socializing with other dogs."}
{"id": "t3_2dqwuz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need advice for strengthening my financial situation. Already have a 401k and no debt.", "post": "I'll be honest, I am quite new when it comes to managing my finances. I didn't even know what a 401k was, until I started my job last year. I've come here in search of advice for how I could further strengthen my financial situation.\n\nI'm a 24 years old (25 next month), with a salary job that provides a decent 401k program. Right now I'm contributing 8% to get the company match. I finished school in 2013 with a bit of student loans. My first priority was paying off my students. This was completed in Dec 2013. As of now I live at home, with no loans. My monthly expense consists mostly of groceries, gas, internet fees, membership fees, and $300 each paycheck to help with my parent's house payment. I plan to move out eventually, most likely after personal family issues subside. Maybe purchase a house?\n\nI have quite a bit of extra money in my savings account. I feel like I can dedicate a portion of it to my emergency fund. Even after I do that, I'd still have a bit of money left over. I feel like I should be investing the remaining funds into stocks or separate Roth IRA? Or maybe I should look into purchase property? I feel my money would depreciate over time and if I don't do anything. It feels like I am losing precious investment time. Any advice or recommendations would be appreciated. Thanks", "summary": "25 year old with no student loans. work salary job, already have 401k with company match, have extra money, don't know what to do with it."}
{"id": "t3_332sti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Marriage Advice! First post please go easy on me.", "post": "My wife and I (F21) (M19) been together for 2 years, just got married back in January, we love each other very much but like with any relationship we have our ups and downs. She has depression and anxiety and she was raped at a young age. I have been there for her at all times, doing my best to keep her happy. I recently just got out of the Army and I'm having a hard time finding a job at the moment that will support a family. It's putting stress on the both of us. We've also had a problem with miscarriages we've had 3 and it's made both of us emotional wrecks. We have this problem that she needs her own space once in a while but the problem is we are both night owls, we stay up until 5 in the morning. \n\nThe reason this is a problem is because I know literally no one out here because of being in the military, after I got out I married her and moved to her hometown. When we stay up I'm usually on my phone filling out applications and such and she's usually playing sims on her laptop. We had this big blow up argument last night that started because she told me that I don't give her enough space that I'm stuck up her ass 24/7. I love the woman with all my heart what can I do to compromise with her?", "summary": "need to compromise about space with out either of us feeling left out. I just want to be around her because she is literally my whole world. Everything I do is for her and before I make any decisions I think what would she think about it?"}
{"id": "t3_otoz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got a sexdate via Facebook. What now?!", "post": "So, I talked to this girl on Facebook that I had sex with a couple of times with a few years ago. \n\nAfter a while of catching up and all the usual she tells me she's single. Suddenly, this demon in me starting to be really charming and implying that we have had great sex in the past, why not again?! And to my great astonishment she agreed and said that it had crossed her mind too. In what I can only describe as a blurry euphoria we decided that I should come over to her place this week and spend the night.\n\nNow, I've been single almost two years and haven't had sexytimes in quite a while and this girl is purrty darn hawt so I feel like I can't let this opportunity slip away.\n\nIn writing I can be very charming and eloquent but in person I'm sort of a SAP. I have also never had a one night stand so this is whole new concept for me.\n\nWhat the hell do I do when I get there?\n\nWhat should I absolutely NOT do when I get there?", "summary": "Charmed myself in to a sex date. What do and what not to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4lb42a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] Girlfriend broke off contact with me [21 M] after difficult breakup, do I wait or move on?", "post": "We'd been together in a pretty fast moving relationship for just under 1 year. We were both at university together which meant we saw each other everyday (which both of us saw as a very good thing). Unfortunately this much time together meant that we argued quite often as we are both pretty stubborn people. The last argument ended in us having to take a break.\n\nWhile this upset me a lot because we were still very much in love with each other, it comforted me as we were still talking and spending some time together. A week later however she had told me she had slept with 2 people (at the same time which kind of grossed me out but whatever) during the break. She then said she wanted to be with me and it was a huge mistake, after taking a few days of time to think, I decided I wanted to give her another chance.\n\nA few days later, she then broke it off again saying she didn't feel right. This then looped a few times over the next few weeks until I said enough and had to stop contact. Unfortunately I crumbled answered a phone call, she was sobbing saying that she had definitely decided she wanted to stay with me this time. I obviously jumped at this opportunity into her arms, until again a few days later she did the same thing again, resulting in her cutting all contact with me.\n\nI'm unsure what to make of this all as my feelings for her are ridiculously strong and she was constantly saying to me \"I love you, I will always love you\", \"I can't bare for you to be with anyone else\" and \"I'm just so confused at the moment\". It sounds like we're in a similar position but should I just try my hardest to block it all out and move on?", "summary": "After messy breakup, we both still love each other but have cut contact. Do I wait or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1w9swx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my significant other [22F] of 7 years, having doubts about wanting to stay in the relationship.", "post": "* I've been a long time user but mainly just lurked and never had an account and now I need some help with my relationship so I decided this would be a good place to get some good advice. \n\n* So my situation is I've been with my girlfriend for seven years. We started dating our freshman year of high school. We've stayed together the entire time and there was only one lapse during our senior year where we \"broke up\" for one day. Other than that we've never been seperate. \n\n* We are both each other's only significant other we've ever had. Each of us have both never dated anyone else or gone on a date with anyone else. \n\n* My problem starts with me wanting to experience being single and dating other people. I feel like I've missed out on experiences because I was tied down so early. \n\n* The next part is where I work I have a coworker that is really into me and I am also into her. I would like the opportunity to date her but I can't bring myself to just throw away seven years. \n\n* I do love this girl with all my heart but I fear it's not a romantic love anymore. She loves me more than anything in the world and dreams about the day we finally get married and have a family and life together. \n\n* What should I do in this situation? We do live with each other so breaking up would most likely mean she would have to go back home with her parents because right now she depends on me for expenses. I would feel bad having to crush any dreams she had just to make myself happy.", "summary": "Been in a relationship since high school, now not sure if romanticaly in love anymore and want to experience new people. Is it a phase or do I really want to get out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1rpo5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] left Thanksgiving to be alone.", "post": "My mom got remarried last year, and yesterday we were having thanksgiving dinner with my stepbros/stepsister while they were visiting. I have four siblings, they have five. \n\nI just felt so crowded and uncomfortable the whole time. I just wanted to leave. Added on top of that, my mom and stepdad had just turned the tiny guest room I stayed in when I visited home into a room for my 5 year old stepbrothers when they came over. My dresser was taken out, the things I had in there for storage were removed, and the bed I slept on was disassembled and replaced with a tiny bunk bed. \n\nI don't visit home that often, and my stepdad gets to have his kids over once a week, but I can't help but hate him for this. It feels like my mom is choosing this stranger over me. \n\nSo I decided to take a drive. But I grabbed my things that I had packed to stay over (I was supposed to share a room with my brother) and went back to my apartment an hour away and just stayed there the rest of the day feeling shitty.", "summary": "I'd just rather be alone than be forced into a house with a bunch of stepsiblings I don't know."}
{"id": "t3_42n1eq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M) feel like I don't fit in at my job of six months and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "I've been at my current place for a while, I got a job offer this past summer that was quite a bit more than what I was making before.  It meant moving to an industry that I'm not native to, but the work would be largely the same, and the much better pay didn't hurt.\n\nWhile the interview process went really well for both their side and mine, I'm finding as time goes on that I just don't really fit in here.  I've come to discover that the corporate culture here is really just two or three decades out of date, and that I really don't fit in culturally.  Most of the guys here are much older, and are kind of the \"roughneck\" type.  They seem to always try to \"out-tough\" each other, and play a bunch of old-man-politics, trying to outdo each other and such.\n\nI really don't fit in here and typically don't socialize that much with these guys outside of basic work stuff.  I basically keep to myself in my office and don't really talk to anyone aside from what's required for projects and such.  I'd previously found that being myself resulted in a lot of awkwardness and elicited a lot of workplace bullying, so I've somewhat just drawn into my shell.\n\nWhile I don't mind keeping to myself, I feel like this is a situation that probably won't really resolve itself.  I don't mind the actual work here too much, but I feel like being so anti-social is kind of changing my personality for the worse.  I am of course curious about other positions elsewhere where I might be a better fit, but that search has proved fruitless for the time being.\n\nAnyone have any suggestions on how to navigate this situation?", "summary": "I don't really fit in at all culturally at my somewhat new workplace.  While I am tentatively looking for a place that I might be a better fit in, I worry that being forced to be withdrawn is causing personality changes I'm not fond of.  What can I do to combat the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2m4d4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] get insanely uncomfortable when my girlfriend [24F] gets drunk around other dudes.", "post": "So I've been dating the most fantastic girl I could ever hope for. We never fight and seem to work out very well together. She swears up and down that she would never cheat on me and that I'm all she wants and blah blah blah. Having been cheated on by 3 different girls so far, I tend to be weary about this kind of  stuff.\n\n When she gets drunk, she's admitted to getting very \"frisky\", and becomes rather touchy feely with other dudes. There are also times when she gets super hammered where I feel she may start kissing other dudes. The other night, she got drunk, and we had sex. She asked that I save the last condom, and that I could go to sleep. She then leaves the room to drink more, but left in nothing more than a towel. I became a bit uneasy, being that there were other dudes in the house, and the whole drinking more beer and the condom remark. \n\nHow might I bring up my concerns with her?\n\nCan somebody tell me I'm being dumb and should figure out how to get over it?\n\nThanks for the help!", "summary": "Girlfriend seemingly becomes too friendly with other guys when drunk. I fear she may cheat on me. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_397nor", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'vem [17 M] gone on a two dates with my friend [17 F] so far. However, I feel that our relationship isn't really progressing romantically.", "post": "So I've been really interested in this girl for months. I'm not really good with expressing emotions in this kind of way, resulting in me tripping over words and being unnecessarily polite. (Although I tend to trip over my words and sound like an idiot 90% of the time anyway) I thought that she seemed interested so I asked her out over text message, resulting in us both going over to her house to see a movie. We ended up watching a movie in her bed room and then just talked for a couple hours after that. I then left, and that was that. We've gone on one other date like that, with a similar ending. Both times we barely even touched each other, except for the occasional bump or me showing her how to use a controller. We talk a lot, mostly over text but I always make the effort to start a conversation with her when we're in school too. Each time we talk I feel like she's offering me more and more personal information, but I just feel like I'm more of a friend and not really like a romantic partner. Along with that, It's always me that has to start the conversations, and for both dates it was me who had to actually ask her out. I'm really interested in this girl, and I'm not sure if I should just wait and let the relationship roll as it is now, or just straight up tell her that I want to become more romantically involved with her. \n\nIf it matters at all, I haven't really addressed our 'dates' as well, dates. I've more so said \"Do you want to go out with me?\" and she said yes. I've continually thought that maybe it was my terminology that just isn't being understood?", "summary": "Relationship I have with a girl isn't progressing forward romantically."}
{"id": "t3_1q2c20", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The DUI that ruined my life", "post": "To begin, I am a 19 year old who last year attended a fairly recognized university in the midwest. 2 months ago I was having one of the worst nights of my life (I suffer from severe depression and anxiety). I had just found out that my parents wouldn't continue supporting me through college, and I was having a fight on the phone with an ex-girlfriend who I am still head-over-heels with. This particular monday night I asked an older friend to buy me some beers, I picked him up and we went to the store and I made my way back home. As I am a few blocks from my house I am looking around the car for my phone, and I couldn't find it so I pulled into a gas station to get out and look around for it. After 5 minutes of frustrating searching, I gave up and got back in the car. The gas station was closed, as it was just past 11 pm, so the idiot in me decides to open a beer and drink it (in my parked car, car is off, keys are on the floor). No less than a few minutes later the paramedics and 3 squad cars pull into the gas station and surround my car. I'm arrested and taken to one of the U.S's largest city jail. There, I am put into isolation because I looked at an officer the wrong way. I end up spending two days in jail before I can make bail, and now I have $5,000 in lawyer fees, a suspended license for a year, and between 30 days to a year in jail (most of that is because I didn't take a breath test at the station, which unknown to me is a gross misdemeanor) and a DUI on my record which means I can't move to Canada which is where I have been planning on living. \n\nMy life pretty much feels ruined, and I know this is only short term, but I feel like a lot of this will affect my entire life in general, all over one silly mistake.", "summary": "drank a beer in a parked car, arrested, fucked for a good while"}
{"id": "t3_i23m7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "F*ck Cancer.", "post": "My dad died 6 years ago today of stomach cancer after a grueling 2-year battle. I've noticed that every time someone comes on AskReddit looking for advice on how to deal with a dying parent, there are always so many redditors who have lost a parent to cancer. \n\nSo let's share. I want to know: \n\n* which parent?\n\n* what type of cancer?\n\n* how old were they?\n\n* and when did cancer win? \n\n* Then share one thing about them that was truly amazing and makes you smile when you think of it. \n\nI'm sorry if this seems dark or morbid, but it is really cathartic for me to hear other stories.", "summary": "Fuck Cancer."}
{"id": "t3_2yp39n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tactfully talk to my[25m] roomie[23m] about his girlfriends[23f] lack of contribution?", "post": "FYI, being tactful is probably my weakest character attribute. \n\nSo the situation. I moved in with my current roomie just over 3 months ago. Shortly after I moved in, he started dating this girl. Things escalated quickly, she swiftly moved in and he swiftly knocked her up.\n\nSince she's moved in, i've pretty much been paying for half of her portion of the bills. At first this wasn't really an issue, as they were just getting together, and her moving in didn't really bother me until it started catching the attention of my wallet. On top of that, what has come to bother me recently is she also doesn't contribute to the house in any meaningful way as far as keeping it clean. She doesn't even clean up after herself.\n\nI know the obvious solution here is to talk to my roomie about him paying for her portion of the bills entirely. Which leads to my question, how should I go about bringing this up to them?\n\nI wouldn't mind so much paying for half of her portion of the bills if I didn't have to do chores around the house. I don't know why he thinks it's acceptable that she does absolutely nothing, and always has some excuse for why she can't. I feel like with her being pregnant, it will only get much harder to get her to do things, as she will start using the pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy.\n\nI'm worried about causing tension in the house hold. But I also feel like, if my roomie were to take on her portions of the bills entirely, that i'd still build resentment towards his girlfriend for her not contributing around the house.\n\nI'd also like to point out that I take care of her dog completely. Which I don't mind too much due to me having to take care of my dog anyways, but it just adds to the pile, ya know?", "summary": "How should i confront my roomie and his girlfriend about her not contributing to the household in a tactful manner?"}
{"id": "t3_3xxhgk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by storing my junk where I shouldn't have", "post": "This is a tifu that I think every gamer has had a similar experience at least once in their life. \n\nAfter a rough school year, my husband got me Fallout 4 as a \"congrats you didn't implode you deserve some fun\" present. I've been playing at for about 4 days now and I'm really enjoying it. (As a side note, I'm a mother and FU Bethesda with your tugging at my motherly heartstrings.)\n\nSo I've been exploring that wonderful wasteland and since the added a new builder mode, every piece of junk is valuable. See that beer bottle, pick it up. Find a pencil, it's made of wood pick it up. Duck tape, Score! And so after a while of picking up every insignificant thing my inventory would become full and I would need to find a workbench and break this stuff down to it's raw materials. And Bethesda was always their to help by putting workbenches right in the middle of explorable places. Half way through exploring a factory and overburdened, \"oh look a workbench\". Break stuff down and go pick up more stuff. I've been doing this for days now. Until today. \n\nI was watching my husband play (because it's his turn and I know how to share) when I noticed he was doing the same thing, but with an added step. He was then transferring the raw material from the workbench back into his inventory. And that's when it hit me. The workbench storage is not shared across all workbenches, it's just for each individual workbenches. *insert heartbreak and facepalm here* \n\nFour days. Four days of grinding and exploring. About a quarter of the map explored and I have to go do it all AGAIN. I have to find each workbench that I came across and transfer the resources and then walk it every so slowly back to my main base. And I just know it's going to take me twice as long to gather everything up. There's a lesson in all this...somewhere, but that could just be the whiskey talking.", "summary": "Don't store your junk prematurely. Get to home and then store it."}
{"id": "t3_2ttlki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] with my Girlfriend [24 F] of 3 years, very concerning problems.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, my girlfriend and I have been together awhile, but we dont live together. We both used to go to school but I needed to work full time, and she got kicked out from failing classes. We both stopped about a semester apart, now I've resumed college and shes been planning on taking more school off \"for work\"\n\nFirst problem: My girlfriend has very little job experience. When i try to talk to her about finding a job or what kinds of stuff she'd like to do for work she says she needs a break from the stress of school and that it hasn't been long enough. Her parents pay for her needs and shes living off of them.\n\nSecond problem: Being that shes been my first long term relationship, I've thought that our sex life was fairly normal, but I've noticed that i've been the only one initiating sex for the entire relationship. I recently asked her flat out, to try to engage herself more, and she agreed. It's been about one month since and I haven't seen a change in this pattern.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems sexually distant, in slump, wont look for a job."}
{"id": "t3_3pmpp1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Metabolism changes, gained weight while I was trying to lose some. HELP", "post": "Hey guys!\nBasically I've always had quite a fast metabolism, you know that type of person that eats healthy and goes to the gym one day and loses half a pound the other? Yeah, that was me. I was trying to lose weight, and got to losing about 20 pounds. I had about 6-7 pounds left to go, super motivated, and I then started taking a new contraceptive pill that totally changed my body functioning. I gained about 6 pounds, but my habits are still similar. I can no longer ''eat healthy and go to the gym'' on one day and immediately see results on the other. I feel like my metabolism has slowed down, and it's starting to get me anxious... It's been two months on this new pill, now I'm 12 pounds over goal, vegetarian and still determined to lose it.\n\nCan you guys help me, give me tips/advice on how to boost my metabolism speed or how to fin more efective ways to lose it  ''quickly'' please? Thanks :)", "summary": "was losing weight with a fast metabolism, started a new pill and now gained a lot and it slowed my metabolism. looking for effective tips"}
{"id": "t3_35aciq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] step-second-cousin (?) [33M] asked me out on a date...I don't know how to feel.", "post": "This person is my step dad (of 6 months)'s first cousin, so I guess that would make him my step half cousin? It's such a distant relationship that I don't think it matters that much, but I still feel weird about it, considering the fact that he has the same last name as my step dad. We have met a few times and gotten along great, but I didn't think of it as more than that until this happened. I think he's cool and everything and would probably consider opportunity if I didn't consider him *part of the family*.  BUT then again, we are nowhere near blood related, not even distantly, so ?", "summary": "Second step cousin asked me on a date. What level of weird is this? Am I just being awkward about the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_m783r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where do the \"average/below\" students end up?", "post": "This has been bugging me for a while, and until I discovered reddit, I couldn't really ask it to anyone. \n\nI'm a community college student with a 'below average' GPA (3.16) My major is aerospace/mechanical, and although it is difficult, I love it. \nAfter searching and reading post after post how all of these people who have great jobs were at the top of their class, makes me wonder, where does someone like me end up?\n\nI'll get my degree in 2 years. And although I messed up early on, I am trying my damn hardest to get my numbers up because that seems like all a university/employer cares about. How would I even compete with these numbers?\n\nThe interview? Sure. If I can get there in the first place. I know I can land an interview because I do care quite extensively about what I am studying. I have no doubt in my mind that I will excel at any university/job offer but how can I do so when they filter any applicant with a below x.xx GPA? \n\nIt's not like I was partying it up all of my college career. There are just some people who are much better at testing than others. I won't give any excuses, but as of now it's just getting to me. Hearing around me about all of these people getting accepted into these amazing institutions and already have job offers when so many others like me are just listening and smiling back, avoiding the humiliation.", "summary": "Frustrated student. Low GPA. Blah."}
{"id": "t3_3couur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 M] with my wife [30 F] of 6 years, together 11, tells me I am attacking her whenever I bring up topics she doesn't like", "post": "Ive been together with my wife 11 years and married 6, we have 2 small children 5 and 2. We almost never fight and we typically communicate very well, better than most couples I assume.\n\nDuring the majority of our relationship I held a lot of emotions in,especially negative feelings and didn't properly express them. I would bottle them up and push them aside and keep going with the flow. I would then \"blow up\" very angrily every few years and it would be done for a long while. I have since overcame this issue and have been freely expressing my negative emotions to my wife.\n\nHowever, now when I express my feelings which do not align with her point of view she says that I feel as if I am attacking her. I never express these feelings of anger in a negative way, I simply tell her how I am feeling and what is bothering me. I don't raise my voice or anything I am still very \"go with the flow\" type of chilled person even when angry.\n\nThe problem is that if I express any dissatisfaction with something my wife has done she immediately take is personally and somewhat turns it around on me for feeling the way that I do. \n\nFor example for fathers day a few weeks ago, she went out of her way to do something very special for her father, bought him a gift, had the kids make him cards etc..For me, however, nothing. Not even a card or a happy fathers day. This is in stark contrast to what I did for mothers day, going all out for her. At the end of day I was upset, kept it to myself (which I shouldn't do), she prodded a bit and got it out of me. I told her and then SHE GOT UPSET because I made her feel bad. She started crying (very manipulative), I called her out on it, and then I end up apologizing, its not a good situation. \n\nSo if anyone has any experience with this, or any way I can improve my communication I would appreciate it? I normally can figure these issues out on my own, but this time I am stumped.", "summary": "Wife gets upset if I express any dissatisfaction with something she has done, turns it around me. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_11rodu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I jogged for 10 minutes without stopping!", "post": "First (and most important) thing first: Thank you so much, loseit, for inspiring me to start this journey. It's been amazing so far.\n\nSo for the last three months I've been focusing pretty much exclusively on losing weight just by cutting down on calories, which as you can tell from my flair has been pretty effective!\n\nBut a few weeks ago I started up on a little more exercise. I started very slowly by just taking walks a few days a week, now I've moved to longer walks and a bit of jogging on the treadmill. Today I had probably my biggest exercise feat to date - I jogged for 10 minutes at 5mph without stopping! That might seem like pretty basic stuff for some of you, but it's a huge deal for me.\n\nAnyway, on to bigger and better things! My next goal on the horizon is to get my mile time under 10 minutes, and from there possibly train for a 5k!", "summary": "I jogged for 10 minutes at 5mph without stopping! Big victory for me."}
{"id": "t3_53qhbk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I need to share this absurd experience with someone", "post": "OK. Please. Somebody. Read this. \n\nTonight I was sitting on my couch with a drink. I set the full glass down next to me to pet my dog or something,  and it almost immediately fell over. The whole drink spilled out,  of course. I start swearing up a storm. I'm moving this week and I'm pissed that I'm gonna lose my security deposit over a giant stain on the carpet. I get up and prepare to move my couch so I can clean under it. Lo and behold,  there was an empty glass wedged between the couch cushion and the back of the couch.\n\nTHE WHOLE DRINK SPILLED INTO THE EMPTY GLASS!!!!!!!!!!  What are the fucking chances????!!!!!!  I feel like a news crew should come document this. Ridiculous. Even the ice was in there!", "summary": "there is a God. Here's a drawing if you're confused by the story"}
{"id": "t3_p8li6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help get my friend's family out of harms way in Central America - Advice on immigration needed!", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI got a text from a friend recently and he was informing of a problem. \n\nHe is a U.S. citizen but is originally from a country in Central America. His family is still in Central America and lived a quiet life until they were recently extorted for several thousand dollars. This country is much more corrupt than the U.S. so they don't want to talk to the police - it is likely the police are connected to the local mafia. \n\nAt this point he wants to get his sister (also a US citizen but living in central america), mother, and father out of the country.\n\nHe currently lives in the Chicago Area. Any help or advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Gunmen are threatening my friends family in central america and the family want to get the f*ck out! "}
{"id": "t3_23a2il", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I have been referred for a job for the first time. What do I do?", "post": "(posted in /r/business but this is probably a better sub, had to use both my throwaways because reddit won't let me post much using throwaways. grr)\n\nThe CEO from my last job contacted me, letting me know that he knows someone who is looking for a recruiter on the candidate interview side and asked if he could give his friend my information.\n\nI agreed, and now this friend has contacted me asking to get together to discuss the role and that I was highly recommended.\n\nI'm very flattered, but also in new territory. I am used to the standard model of either applying directly for roles, or going through a placement agency. I have had job offers before, but those have come through hiring departments, not the company owner directly.\n\nWhat is the ettiquette in this case? Should I provide my resume or wait until he asks for it? Should I request a job profile now, or wait until we have a chance to speak? Should we not exchange resume and profile, how should I approach our meeting next week?", "summary": "mentor referred me to another company, company owner wants to meet, what steps should I be taking at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_4k0a14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20f) don't know what to do about (21m) bf", "post": "So! I already tried to type this before and backed away on accident and deleted it all. Lol. So long story not so short but shorter me and my bf were going great at the start then I recently found out his passwords. i caught him messaging other girls (lied and said they sent me screenshots so he didn't know I knew his info and would change it... \n\nLol as a just in case. I want to trust him but he makes it so hard)anyway. After I said something originally it stopped. And every now and then we get into big fights (maybe once or twice a month ? But I only found his info out in april So I don't know anything before) ill sometimes see him message to girls again. (I have only been In one ,What I \"thought\" was serious relationship in high school and he was actually dating other girls and etc the whole time).\n\n I don't nesacirilly  (sp?????idk but you know what I'm trying to say thanks) want to break up with my current . I'd like advice on how to try to work though it . Which I would also appreciate advice on how to just move on with my life if need be. just in a bind and would like some helpful words! (Sidenote none of my friends love live closer than an hour and this isnt something I can discuss with my family. Just an fyi) \n\nAlso sorry for all the parenthesis! Lol I just wanted to be a little bit detailed.", "summary": "don't know what to do about long term bf messaging other girls"}
{"id": "t3_hy3z4", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "dog will not stop pulling", "post": "Dear Reddit, \nI have an 8 month old English Mastiff he weighs about 80lbs, he is the greatest dog in the world. Except we have an issue, when we walk he always pulls me. When he was younger I was able to stop every time he pulled and he would come back to me and then we would keep walking. He learned quickly that all he has to do is make a u-turn to get me to walk and then go back to pulling. I tried walking in the oppisite direction when he would pull too much also. As he is getting heavier sometimes he is too strong for me. So now I have been walking with him sniffing some treats and luring him to walk correctly. He eats the treats and when he's had enough he goes back to pulling. I always make sure to leave the house correctly (me first one out/ have him sit before he leaves etc). I cannot get my dog to stop pulling me and its becoming a bigger problem as he gets heavier. \n\nHelp!", "summary": "Help get my dog to stop pulling me on walks. "}
{"id": "t3_11vy75", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I'm seperating from the military soon, and will be attending college. What is it like?", "post": "I'm seperating after my 3 year mark so I will be getting all of my GI benefits. I'm 21 years old and going to planning to commute to community college to boost my GPA (was not the most studious in HS). \n\nMy plan is to attempt to complete my AA that I've built credits for through my military career on Chapter 30 benfits, and transfer to a 4 year and use up my Chapter 33 on a more expensive school.\n\nOne of my bigger conserns lies in what community college is like. The last time I went to college was for not-so educational purposes. \n\nWhat are classes like? Are the classes more or less difficult than of a high school level.\n\nWhat are things you wish you knew before attending community college?", "summary": "I have no idea what I'm doing"}
{"id": "t3_44z9ij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with a romantic interest [?? F] looking for advice on asking her out non-creepily", "post": "So I am a regular at a Chick Fil A near me (as in, I've gone there every Friday for the past 4 months, it's a favorite of mine), and I've noticed this pretty cute gal that works there. She doesn't work at the counter, so I haven't been able to talk to her much, but from a few brief interactions she seems like a really cool person. \n\nMy question is, how would I go about asking her out? Again, she doesn't work at the counter so it's difficult to get a conversation going. I've thought about asking for ranch or some item and then casually asking her then, but she's there and away again so quickly. \n\nRelevant background information: I'm a recent college grad who had little trouble talking to girls because of being in the same classes, similar schedules, etc. However post-college I'm finding it tough to ask someone out I don't know at all, but would like to get to know.", "summary": "How do I ask this Chick Fil A employee out casually without being creepy?"}
{"id": "t3_23mdgv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] got present from my ex's [20 F] dad, she wants it \"back\".", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend this christmas. We just couldn't make it work anymore, even though we had been together for a little more than 5 years. \n\nI do some home brewing and needed some more material to expand my hobby. \n\nI remembered my ex's dad talking about some old brewing stuff he kept in the attic. I rang him up, we talked a bit, and he agreed to give me his gear for free, no further questions. It hasn't been used for years, and it is very old, but it will get the job done. We arranged a time and date where I could come pick up the stuff.\n\nA day passes and my ex calls me up, saying that she wanted the gear because she wanted it to \"stay in the family\", and that she wanted it because it was decorative.\n\nI was being large and told her if they were so important to her, she could come pick them up after I'd tried using them for a couple of months, because they were special to her. Her answer; *\"You know how to drive, you can come drop them of at my place.\"*\n\nI literally exploded inside.\n\nShe acts like she owns them and says that she are willing enough to let me borrow them if she gets them back, but they aren't even hers to begin with? Why would she even care about something that never bothered her before?\n\nWe didn't have a bad breakup, and I'm still good friends with her parents. How can I tackle this without making her parents think I'm a total idiot for telling her, that her childish behavior is ridiculous?\n\nWhat would you do in my situation?", "summary": "I broke up with my gf, got some gear from her dad, that she wanted. She wants it back and acts like it's her own even though she never talked about it, and the fact that I made a deal with her dad and got it."}
{"id": "t3_207bvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] don't know how to ask out my crush [16 F] who can't take a hint.", "post": "I have been crushing on this girl who goes to my school for a while now and i have decided it's time to make a move, she is in my main group of friends from school and we see each other quite often, although it is hard to make time to see her privately between being with other friends.\n\nI have been flirting lightly with her for a little while but i don't think she has really noticed i like her, i am wondering how i can get her to notice and ultimate ask her out without her getting weirded out.", "summary": "Have crush on girl in group of friends, want to know how to ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_34n20x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [25 F], not sure if I'm being crazy or legitimately concerned", "post": "I just need some advice here because I have a history of blowing things out of proportion and believing infidelity when it isn't there so I think an outside perspective will help. My girlfriends a reclusive person, our sex life is fine, we volunteer together and talk about maybe getting married sometime soon. We've been together 6 years and just moved cities together so we could both go back to college. We had rough patches some years ago but it's been a fairytale for a few years. I noticed some logins on our computer to a site called zity.biz, and an account had a password saved, not a name either of us normally use, but the password was the same as the one we used for netflix, we usually use the same name for everything. And from what I can see it's a chat room site with some rooms for BDSM and medical fetishes. I haven't confronted her because like I said, I have a history of being needlessly suspicious but I really don't know what to think of this. I thought maybe it was a virus or something so I logged in and deleted the account and changed all our router passwords, but it was reactivated and the /displaydns shows some visits to it. I don't know what to think. Tell me I'm being crazy.", "summary": "Multiple visits in router log from zity.biz, which looks like a BDSM chatroom"}